Patent Publication Number: US-2007122781-A1

Title: Visual psychoanalytic unification system and method for dating, mating sequence and relationship problem solving

Description:
CROSS-REFERENCE TO RELATED APPLICATIONS  
      The present utility patent application claims the benefit of provisional application No. 60/597,420, filed Nov. 29, 2005. 
    
    
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     BACKGROUND OF THE INVENTION  
      1. Field of the Invention  
      This invention relates to a system of psychoanalysis and more particularly, but not by way of limitation, to a visual psychoanalytic unification system using visual and geometric diagrams for devising an effective personal dating process, human mating sequence, and human mood, failure, and relationship analysis and personal and corporate problem solving. The visual psychoanalytic unification system is designed to teach, coach and deliver therapy for personal growth, character growth, relationship analysis and corrective advice and called “Mind OS” (“mind operating system”) and its specific use as a system of analysis of dating, mating sequence and relationship analysis is termed “Dating OS,” (“dating operating system”) called “the 3 brains problem-solving system.” The subject mind operating system has incorporated within it, an original system of personality identification and treatment called “KWML” (“King, Warrior, Magician, Lover”) devised by the present inventor.  
      2. Description of Related Art Including Information Disclosed Under 37 CFR 1.97 and 1.98  
      The subject mind operating system of the present invention is based on a new unification theory of modern methods of psychology, economics and psychotherapy. The subject mind operating system and dating operating system is a novel synthesis of these methods formally known as, but not limited to psychodynamic psychotherapy, transactional analysis, self-psychology, object relations, cognitive-behavioral therapy, dialectical behavioral therapy, evolutionary psychology, positive psychology, interpersonal therapy, group therapy, solution-focused therapy, neurolinguistic programming, Jungian therapy, and the Nash Equilibrium, from the tenets of the Game Theory of Economics.  
      Prior art systems fail to provide a comprehensive effective integration of all the theories and therapies.  
      In U.S. Pat. No. 5,696,981 to Shovers, a personality analyzer is described using a patient&#39;s responses to a predefined quiz, flashcards, monograph and monologue. In U.S. Pat. No. 6,425,764 to Lamson, a virtual reality immersion therapy is disclosed. The therapy is used for treating psychological, psychiatric, medical, educational and self-help problems. In U.S. Pat. No. 6,497,577 to Kanter, a system and method for improving emotional awareness and self-mastery is described. In U.S. Pat. No. 6,715,762 to Simmons, a system for enhancing and improving communication between two people is disclosed using a playing hand of a card game.  
      U.S. Patent Application #20040180312, published Sep. 16, 2004 by Covi, shows an instructive system for encouraging self actualization to aid students in finding greater satisfaction in life through greater understanding of how the student&#39;s experiences, perceptions, characteristics, fears and the development and implementation of the student&#39;s Will affect the student&#39;s attitudes and ability to succeed. Embodiments of the invention comprise the use of adventure, imagery, inquiry and explanation to engage the student in psychoanalytical methods of communication to allow the student to reflect upon the student&#39;s answers to introspective questions at a “safe” distance. Specific exemplary embodiments of the invention include embodying the invention as a book, an interactive action video game, an audio book, a seminar, a media presentation, an interactive storyboard, an interactive adventure park, a theme park, and an Internet link.  
      U.S. Pat. No. 5,696,981, issued Dec. 9, 1997 to Shovers, is for devices and methods for analyzing a subject&#39;s personality using an automated personality analyzer. A subject&#39;s responses to a predefined quiz, responses to flashcards, a monograph, or a monologue, is used to determine the subject&#39;s likely personality type. The subject&#39;s choice and usage of words, and in particular certain “key words”, are categorized, scored, and weighted in accordance with an aspect of the invention. The sums of these weighted scores are used to compare the subject to predefined pure personality type, so as to gain insight to the subject&#39;s psychological state and personality.  
      U.S. Pat. No. 6,425,764, issued Jul. 30, 2002 to Lamson, provides a virtual reality immersion therapy for treating psychological, psychiatric, medical, educational, and self-help problems. A method is provided of treating a psychological, psychiatric, or medical condition by choosing a psychological strategy for treating the condition, encoding electronic instructions for a virtual reality environment in such a way that the interactive virtual reality environment implements the psychological strategy, loading electronic instructions into a virtual reality technology unit equipped with a display for displaying the virtual reality environment and with a patient input device for receiving responses to the environment from the patient, and instructing the human patient how and when to use the virtual reality technology unit to interact with the environment. The interactive environment contains instructions for a scoring procedure for quantitatively analyzing the medical condition of the patient, and/or counseling instructions or self-help instructions. The environment can be used in conjunction with a physical parameter measuring device connected to the virtual reality technology unit. The process is comprehensive and takes place during immersion in fully interactive three-dimensional virtual reality environments utilizing computer generated graphics, images imported from photographs, and video for sensory stimulation. Immersion is achieved with goggles, a head-mounted-display, or other form of visual stimulation, such as surround projection screens or monitors or devices that permit the user to have a virtual experience. It includes the use of voice, music, and sound and other forms of physiological stimulation and feedback. Body sensors and devices such as a hand-held grip permit the user to interact with objects and navigate within the virtual environment.  
      U.S. Pat. No. 6,497,577, issued Dec. 24, 2002 to Kanter, shows various systems and methods for providing an individual with improved emotional awareness and self-mastery. The systems and methods allow an individual to recall a situation in which the he or she experienced negative emotions. Then, the individual is able to analyze the recalled situation to identify specific negative emotions (specifically “flight” or “fight” emotions) experienced during the particular situation. Once the individual has identified specific negative emotions that were experienced during the particular situation, the systems and methods of this invention correlate each identified emotion with an underlying spiritual need. When the appropriate spiritual need(s) have been identified, the systems and methods of this invention identify at least one antidote to the spiritual need(s). The antidote(s) are then relayed to the individual for personal application. In this manner, an individual can evaluate the negative emotion(s) experienced during a particular situation and receive guidance as to how he or she can cultivate virtuous behavior that will overcome the negative emotions.  
      U.S. Pat. No. 6,715,762, issued Apr. 6, 2004 to Simmons, claims a system for providing entertainment and enhancing human relationships. The system allows two or more people to improve communication, understanding and/or relationships. The persons engage in a game or other activity where there are triggering events, such as completing a hand of a game of cards, or expiration of a time period. When there is a triggering event, one person selects an item of information at random (e.g. by drawing a card from a stack of information cards). The person reads the information and expresses a thought relating to the same. The other participants are then also able to comment. If this discussion becomes objectionable in some way, one of the participants can activate a “defuser” to either divert the line of discussion or terminate the discussion, after which the activity phase (e.g. a card game, a counseling session, etc.) is continued.  
      U.S. Pat. No. 5,676,551, issued Oct. 14, 1997 to Knight, describes an interactive presentation and/or entertainment system, such as interactive personal computer software and/or interactive television, which allows a participant to modulate the emotions of a character or personality, thereby influencing the branches to an interpersonal relationship over time. As a result, a broad range of computerized dramatic situations or stories are presented that closely resemble human interpersonal relationships. Source image/sound data may include prerecorded video, prerecorded audio, computer-based audio, computer-based imagery, computer-generated dialogue, and/or computer-generated characters. The range of emotional choices made by a participant may include all emotions that human beings can experience and, in turn, represent by thought, word, or action. Emotions that indicate personality rather than mood are presented, such that the ebb and flow of a character&#39;s emotional states is exhibited over an extended period in the course of a many situations and activities, instead of as mere ephemeral reactions to isolated incidents.  
      Other prior art peripherally related to the present invention include:  
      Patent application #20050086187: computer-assisted decision making can be for dating.  
      Patent application #20050179246: Alzheimer&#39;s victim decision making kit, mentions dating.  
      Patent application #20040155452: Student planner to stay on task of attaining goals.  
      Patent application #5954581: another scenario selector.  
      Patent application #5813863: behavior modification.  
      None of the above mentioned prior art patents specifically disclose the unique feature of the subject visual psychoanalysis system and method as described herein.  
      None of the above mentioned prior art patents specifically disclose the unique combination of theories and therapies of the visual psychoanalytic unification system and method for dating, mating sequence, and relationship problem solving of the present invention as described herein.  
     BRIEF SUMMARY OF THE INVENTION  
      The present invention provides a system and method employing visual and geometric diagrams used therapeutically for devising an effective personal dating process, human mating sequence, and human mood, failure, and relationship analysis and problem solving. A combined mind operating system (Mind OS) including a personality identification and treatment (KWML—King, Warrior, Magician, Lover) are applied in a dating operating system (Dating OS) and method to teach, coach and deliver therapy for personal growth, character growth, relationship analysis and corrective advice and via organizing the visual and conceptual systems devised by the inventor for mental operations in three parts: instinctual, emotional, and “higher-brained” or “cortical,” teach, coach, and deliver corrective analysis and advice on corporate problems involving human interaction.  
      In analyzing or treating any problem of dating, mating sequence, or relationship problem, the Dating OS is composed of three Phases, of three Steps each—Attraction Phase, followed by Bonding in Friendship Phase, followed by a Commitment Phase to produce in another human, a relationship of Lovers, Friends, and Partners in one relationship, which is durable via sequentially appealing to the “reptilian brain,” “mammalian brain,” and “higher brain” relational needs of another (opposite gender) human, the “mammalian brain” and “higher brain” of which, in coordination through subject systems uses MindOS, and when incorporated with the “reptilian brain” uses subject Dating OS. As applied to corporate problems, the Dating OS system terms the here phases as Instinctual (or Attraction), Friendship, and Commitment.  
      In the subject dating operating system, the Attraction Phase for women addresses the three brainstem or “reptilian brain” needs of males: 1.) display of beauty, 2.) demonstration of potential elevation of Rank, Territory, or Power (called in Dating OS, “Alpha-male status”) also referred to by the inventor as “standing by your man” or “cheerleading the man” and 3.) creation of a contest or competition for said male to “win” bonding with the woman among other males, also referred to by the inventor as “playing hard to get” or “giving the man a hard time.” 
      In the subject dating operating system, the Attraction Phase for men addresses the brainstem or “reptilian brain” needs of females: 1.) display of mystery, 2.) demonstration of “Alpha-male status” as detailed above, and 3.) passing the contests created by women (also referred to by the inventor as “slaying the dragons.”)  
      In the subject dating operating system, the second necessary Phase common to both males and females is the Bonding in Friendship Phase which includes demonstration of 1.) mastery of anger, via the included Anger Map, 2.) mastery of anxiety, via the included Anxiety Map, and 3.) teamwork, personality match and collaboration via the included cognitive-emotional spectrum map. The Bonding in Friendship Phase establishes for the first time that “friendship” among humans is simply defined as “shared positive emotion with another human on a consistent basis,” and so mastery of the steps of Bonding Phase (appealing to the two people&#39;s emotional or “mammalian brain” functions) in order demonstrate a growth of potential for durable friendship, which occurring after an Attraction Phase, creates a romantic friendship that includes sexual attraction and tension, binding the two people together in a growing relationship. This phase of the dating operating system makes use of the KWML portion of the subject mind operating system.  
      In the subject dating operating system, the final sequential phase common once again to both males and females is called Commitment Phase, which adds a Partnership function and durability, through steps of mastery of 1.) Personal Boundary use which demonstrates ability to respect rights, ideas, emotions and decisions of another human, as well as the ability to live by one&#39;s word and fulfill a contract to another person, 2.) joining of beliefs and values that are used for approaching mutual Life&#39;s Goals, and demonstration of facility in progressing toward such goals, and 3.) Constructive Decision-making, or win/win behavior that demonstrates an “abundance world-view” in deciding to commit to form a partnership, rather than a Destructive Decision-making, or win/lose behavior that demonstrates a “scarcity world-view” which precludes ability to form a durable partnership with another (opposite gender) human in a romantic relationship. This Phase of the subject dating operating system makes use of the personal boundary diagrams, and methods of analysis and repair, decision-making diagrams and methods, intellectual diagrams and methods, and emotional diagrams and methods of the subject mind operating system.  
      The Dating OS system also describes and systematizes that “beliefs” are composed of ideas paired with quanta of emotional energy (whether positive or negative), and these beliefs form the “bridge” between the “mammalian brain” function and “higher brain” function.  
      In total then, the Dating OS system incorporates human brainstem or “reptilian brain” function through sexual attraction, with the bonding in friendship and commitment ability of the “mammalian brain” (emotional brain) and “higher brain” (cerebral cortex) relational functions to promote lasting, durable romantic relationships, and a tool for analysis of such relationships that have become dysfunctional or are likely to be in the future. As such it is also predictive of relationship dysfunction in the future of a couple, prescribing corrective measures before they are needed. Since a corporation is legally defined as a “person,” and the subject Mind OS system, KWML, and Dating OS system apply to individuals, the inventor applies the same principles to the analysis and problem-solving of corporate function and problems with the same principles of said systems.  
      A first object of the subject dating operating system and mind operating system is to provide a person with a visual tool to observe one&#39;s self as an “observing ego”. The observing ego allows the person to step outside one&#39;s self and then look back into one&#39;s self and see how he or she functions. It is the only skill which can allow change or growth in the individual or in the maturity of an individual&#39;s psychology.  
      Another object of the dating operating system and its contained mind operating system is to render all of psychology in the form of diagrams with guiding explanations, both of which economize analysis and correction of personal psychology and sexual attraction function. The mind operating system provides a set of diagrams that will easily allow the person to master the opposite ends of the spectra of each of the three internal psychological resources in an individual, which are contained within the boundary. The three inner resources are emotional energy, intellectual data use, and maturity of decision-making.  
      One learns to use observing ego to analyze one&#39;s self, assisted by the visual representation of psychology. Then seeing the four building blocks of psychology in the form of the personal boundary, emotional energy, intellectual data use, and decision-making, one may learn that the three inner resources (emotional energy, intellectual data use, and decision-making) all exist on spectra of function. Mastery of each end of the spectrum of these three leads to mastery of all possible human resources and behavior, since on a given spectrum, everything possible is located between the two ends of that spectrum. A balance point is then taught to be the middle point of each spectrum. The striving for balance is what leads to each of the three rewards for mastery-happiness, success, and freedom, which along with durability that mastery of the personal boundary affords, compose durable fulfillment.  
      Mastery of the personal boundary and the three spectra of inner resources within it also lead to the solutions to any human problem, which may also be broken into components corresponding to each of the working parts of a psyche that solve it. Finally, psychological integration, or mature character which solves psychological problems, can be envisioned and guided by crossing the spectra of the inner resources so that balance on them can be strived for simultaneously and measured, corrected or adjusted according to changes in the problem or environment.  
      The observing ego represents a person viewing oneself. With a mastery of the personal boundary, emotional energy, intellectual data use and decision-making, the person is lead to the rewards of durability, happiness, success and freedom.  
      The mastery of these four character components and the ends of their spectra of function lead to solutions to any personal problem involving psychology, and to durable fulfillment, which is a summation of durability, happiness, success and freedom. Also the illustrations of emotional energy is shown as an emotional energy spectrum, including a negative emotional energy spectrum and a position emotional energy spectrum, the intellectual data use shown as an intellectual data use spectrum and decision-making shown as a decision-making spectrum.  
      The dating operating system which includes three “brains” as symbolic of functional strategies that must be undergone by a woman in the human mating sequence include an Attraction Phase, followed by a Bonding in Friendship Phase, followed by a Commitment Phase.  
      The Attraction Phase includes a communication and appeal by a woman to a man&#39;s brainstem/“reptilian brain” sexual attraction mechanism, via display of beauty, followed by demonstration of ability to elevate a man&#39;s Rank, Territory, or Power (“Alpha-male status”), followed by the creation of a contest for him to win her attention against other males, or over her testing that impedes sexual advance.  
      The Bonding in Friendship Phase includes a communication and appeal by a woman to a man&#39;s midbrain/“mammalian brain” emotional attraction mechanism, via demonstration of mastery of anger use, followed by mastery of anxiety use and followed by mastery of personality match in friendship proving effective teamwork collaboration.  
      The Commitment Phase includes a communication, decision, and effort by a woman to a man&#39;s cerebral cortex/“Higher brain” intellectual attraction mechanism, via demonstration of mastery of Personal Boundary use, mastery of joining belief systems toward mutual Life&#39;s Goals, and mastery of constructive decision-making to commit to a contract of exclusivity with a partner, completing a process of building a relationship with a sexually-attracted Lover in bonded Friendship, as a committed Partner, which in the context of a unique, shared Story, comprises what is defined in said dating operating system is called “Mr. Right.” 
      These and other objects of the present invention will become apparent to those familiar with various types of psychoanalytic or psychotherapy teachings and methods used with patients when reviewing the following detailed description, showing novel construction, combination, and elements as herein described, and more particularly defined by the claims, it being understood that changes in the various embodiments of invention are meant to be included as coming within the scope of the claims, except insofar as they may be precluded by the prior art.  
    
    
     BRIEF DESCRIPTION OF THE SEVERAL VIEWS OF THE DRAWINGS  
      These and other details of my invention will be described in connection with the accompanying drawings, which are furnished only by way of illustration and not in limitation of the invention, and in which drawings:  
       FIG. 1  is a diagrammatic view which illustrates the four psychological and individual character “building blocks” or components (personal boundary plus its inner resources) required to reach a goal of the desired durable fulfillment and is an overview of the mind operating system which comprises function of the emotional/“mammalian brain” and cortex/“higher brain” and are components of the dating operating system of the present invention, when the “reptilian brain” function of sexual attraction is placed as the initial phase;  
       FIG. 2  is a diagrammatic view which illustrates the observing ego when reviewing those psychological resources, which observing ego is the only teachable human skill which allows analysis, change and growth toward maturity of individual psychology, which skill must be acquired at an at least basic level before the details of the rest of the system can be mastered;  
       FIG. 3  is a diagrammatic view which illustrates the three “brains of Mr. Right” of the present invention which compose the three types of brain function that must be appealed to by a woman in her identifying and establishing a sexual, but durable romantic relationship with a man she considers her “Mr. Right;” 
       FIG. 4  is a diagrammatic view which illustrates the “three brains of Mr. Right” in which the brainstem or “reptilian brain” is responsible for instinct ( 7 ) and therefore sexual attraction, and the emotional or “mammalian brain” combined with the cerebral cortex or “higher brain” are responsible for the “civilizing force” of relationships called character ( 8 ) and which promote bonding in friendship as well as commitment as partners relationally;  
       FIG. 5  is a diagrammatic view which illustrates the resultant relationship status ( 9 ,  10 ,  11  respectively) achieved through communication and appeal to the “three brains of Mr. Right” ( 4 , 5 , 6  respectively), and culminating in a woman achieving a committed, emotionally bonded, sexually attracted Partnership with a Bonded Friend and Lover in the one personage of “Mr. Right” ( 12 ), through the process of taking actions in the Attraction, Bonding in Friendship, and Commitment Phases in a sequence ( 17 ), which simultaneously takes the form of a story ( 16 ) of the woman&#39;s romantic relationship to the subject man;  
       FIG. 6  is a diagrammatic view which illustrates the resultant outcome of generating sexual attraction ( 9 A) to the brainstem of Mr. Right ( 12 ), emotional attraction ( 10 A) to the midbrain of Mr. Right ( 12 ) and intellectual attraction( 11 A) to Mr. Right ( 12 ) resulting in overall coupling with a Mr. Right ( 12 ) as an attracted lover, friend, and partner in one;  
       FIG. 7  is a diagrammatic view which illustrates the Attraction, Bonding, and Commitment Phases of relationship in terms of timecourse, where Attraction Phase on average lasts for up to one month, at which the beginnings of Commitment Phase may begin on average, and overlapped with the Bonding Phase of Friendship typically beginning as early as on the first date and as late as one month into relating, and reaching completion typically at approximately the three month mark of relating;  
       FIG. 8  is a diagrammatic view which illustrates the subject dating operating system, termed “the Three Brains of Mr. Right” as a system with design like a gasoline engine, where the “reptilian brain” causes “ignition” of the energy of the “mammalian brain” as a spark plug ignites gasoline, and the resultant reaction is contained in the bounds of the “higher brain,” where the relationship produces work or a product of joint effort;  
       FIG. 9  is a diagrammatic view which illustrates the attraction phase ( 13 ) where sexual attraction ( 9 A) occurs to the man&#39;s brainstem ( 1 ) and describes its detail, showing that in each phase of the subject dating operating system that attention is simultaneously applied to the other two phases as well;  
       FIG. 10  is a diagrammatic view which illustrates the 3 Steps of the attraction phase ( 13 ), including display of beauty ( 18 ), demonstration of ability to raise “Alpha-male status,” ( 19 ) and creation of a contest ( 20 ) or set of tests for the male to pass or win;  
       FIG. 11  is a diagrammatic view which illustrates the 3 Steps of the Bonding Phase, including Mastery of Anger ( 21 ), via the Anger Map ( FIG. 13 ) later depicted, Mastery of Anxiety ( 22 ) via the Anxiety Map ( FIG. 14 ) later depicted, and mastery of matching personality type ( 23 ) and teamwork via the cognitive emotional spectrum map, wherein, since the subject dating operating system defines friendship between two persons as being mutually shared positive emotional energy on a consistent basis, the first two steps of the Bonding in Friendship Phase of the dating operating system necessitate the ability to master the two known uncomfortable emotions of anger, and anxiety, as in  FIGS. 13 and 14 , to produce positive emotional energy from all possible negative emotions, known to always be composed of a combination of anger and anxiety;  
       FIG. 12  is a diagrammatic view which illustrates the relationship between anger and sadness as an emotional extreme, with anxiety as an opposite emotional extreme, and as a spectrum, all possible negative emotions contained between as being composed of a geometric portion as anger, and the remaining amount as anxiety, concurrent with the transformation of such negative emotional energy to portions of positive emotional energy called self-esteem, and composed of well-being and confidence respectively, achieved through assertiveness and courage respectively;  
       FIG. 13  is a diagrammatic view which illustrates the detail of the anger and well-being end of the spectrum of emotional energy using an anger map, and how to transform the negative emotions of anger or depression into the component of self-esteem called well-being, a motherly, nurturing, positive energy;  
       FIG. 14  is a diagrammatic view which illustrates the detail of the anxiety and confidence end of the spectrum of emotional energy using an anxiety map, and how to transform the negative emotions of anxiety, or avoidance and impulsivity into the component of self-esteem called confidence, a “fatherly”, action-prone, positive energy, Psyche;  
       FIG. 15  is a diagrammatic view which illustrates the detail of the combined balance of the three internal psychological resources and their spectra in a way leading to “psychological integration”, the most efficient operation of the psyche or self, and the psychological state most likely and efficient at solving personal problems, producing durable fulfillment;  
       FIG. 16  is a diagrammatic view which illustrates the 3 steps of the Commitment Phase, including demonstration of Personal Boundary Function ( 24 ), joining beliefs toward common Life&#39;s Goals ( 25 ), and constructive decision-making in committing ( 26 ) to a durable relationship;  
       FIG. 17  is a diagrammatic view which illustrates the components of the personal boundary its diversity of function, repair and its contents;  
       FIG. 18  is a diagrammatic view which illustrates the components of two individuals engaged in “psychological commerce”;  
       FIG. 19  is a diagrammatic view which illustrates the detail of possible dynamics of a relationship between two individuals, in which the relative integration of the parts of the psyche can be beneficial, or detrimental to mutual growth, wherein the use of two joined personal boundaries in independence using boundary walls or codependence using boundary holes are considered immature, or destructive-win/lose ( 67 ), but interdependence is the only route to true durable commitment ( 105 ) via use of boundary doors ( 90 ), and considered mature, or constructive-win/win ( 66 );  
       FIG. 20  is a diagrammatic view which illustrates the detailed spectral components of the operation of the intellectual data use resource, and how impairment of either type—left-brained education, or right-brained experience—leads to failure to reach a goal;  
       FIG. 21  is a diagrammatic view which illustrates how simultaneous and balanced use of the left-brained education and right-brained experience contributes to the reward of success in reaching a goal, and correcting the failure component of any given individual problem;  
       FIG. 22  is a diagrammatic view which illustrates the detailed spectral components of a decision-making operation within the decision-making resource;  
       FIG. 23  is a diagrammatic view which illustrates the detailed anatomy of a belief, a linking part between the Bonding in Friendship Phase and Commitment Phase of the Dating OS, intellectual function  38  within the Mind OS  31 , and composed of the central idea within that belief (illustrated as a table top), supported by other ideas (illustrated as table legs), which are evidence that the idea of the belief is true, and attached to the representation of an individual&#39;s mind (illustrated as a floor) via quanta of emotional energy, wherein potential evidence both supporting and against the central idea of the belief are shown drifting past the top of the table, and wherein a numerous majority of an individual&#39;s beliefs are shown composing the summation of beliefs in an individual called an individual&#39;s “world view,” known as a “reality,” or “frame.” 
    
    
     DETAILED DESCRIPTION OF THE INVENTION  
      In  FIGS. 1-23 , a visual psychoanalysis system called the dating operating system, is used to help a user in forming, developing, and securing a relationship with another person and in solving problems involving human interaction.  
      The system comprises a series of visual illustrations, as shown in  FIGS. 1-23 , used to teach, coach and deliver therapy for personal growth, character growth, relationship analysis and corrective advice related to a relationship with another person including a male and a female, and in human groups and their behaviors including business settings.  
      The dynamic tool illustrations for relationship explorations and resolutions incorporate illustrations from the mind operating system.  
      In  FIG. 1 , the subject mind operating system is illustrated broadly using a general reference numeral  31 . The mind operating system  31  includes a person&#39;s self  30  surrounded by a personal boundary, shown as a circle  40 . Inside the person&#39;s self  30  are three psychological resources made up of emotional energy  37 , ideas/beliefs/values called intellectual data use  38  and decision-making  39 . By the mastery of emotional energy  37 , intellectual data use  38 , decision-making  39 , and the personal boundary  40 , one&#39;s self  30  is lead to the possession of happiness  32 , success  33 , freedom  34 , and durability or strength  35 . The acquisition of these latter four rewards adds up to durable fulfillment  36 . Durable fulfillment  36  is found to be an ultimate desire of a person, individually and in relationships, and a core purpose in life. Also, durable fulfillment  36  is an ultimate solution to be sought to any psychological problem, conflict, trade, deal, negotiation, or other human problem related to science, economics, politics, sociology, or other social science application.  
      This drawing of the mind operating system  31  represents both a person&#39;s current status as to psychological state as well as his or her potential highest rewards for skill-building in acquiring the above mentioned four character components leading to durable fulfillment  36 .  
      In  FIG. 2 , the mind operating system  31  is shown with an observing ego  42  viewing one&#39;s self  30  in order to solve any psychological problems and self-guide the building of romantic relationships and other relationships or human interactions. Also, the mind operating system  31  can be used to teach a person psychology.  
      The observing ego  42  is a human function and a teachable skill. This skill allows a person to change, grow psychologically and solve problems from a point of directing and controlling an outcome.  
      This drawing of the mind operating system  31  is an integrated way of naturally producing the observing ego  42 , because it represents “you” and “your function” and therefore you can reflect on how you look at yourself. For example,  FIG. 2  illustrates “you” looking at “you” as both an outside observer and also as a participant in your behavior at the same time. When one sees one&#39;s own psychological resources  43 , and has become more “sentient” or “self-aware”, one sees the four cardinal working parts of the human psychology. These building blocks of psychology are one&#39;s personal boundary  40 , which contains the three inner psychological resources  43 : emotional energy  37 , intellectual data use  38  and decision-making  39 . Also, one begins to distinguish between one&#39;s self  30  and an environment  41  outside one&#39;s self. The environment is shown having general reference numeral  41  and represents an area outside of one&#39;s own personal boundary and which is not under the person&#39;s psychological or physical control. This space may include all things physical AND psychological, not in control of the self  30 , which can also include the past and future events and conditions. To attempt to control the uncontrollable, e.g. the environment  41  is a state is called “suffering”  91 : trying or wishing to control the uncontrollable.  
      The foundation illustrations for using the visual psychoanalysis system called the dating operating system utilize the imagery of the three brains of Mr. Right or alternately Ms. Right.  
      In  FIG. 3 , the basis for the a diagram of the three functional units of brain function, the reptilian brain  4 , the mammalian brain  5 , also termed emotional brain  5 , and the higher brain  6  are depicted for an individual, and corresponding to the anatomical human brain divisions termed the brainstem  1 , the midbrain  2 , and the cortex  3  respectively. The overall function in subject mind operating system  31  of the three functional units,  4 ,  5 , and  6  are listed in boxes to the right, with functional operations in subject dating operating system sequence  17  labeled respectively as sexual attraction  1 A, emotional attraction  2 A, and intellectual attraction  3 A.  
      In  FIG. 4 , a diagram of the three functional units of brain function  4 ,  5 , and  6  corresponding respectively in brain anatomy areas  1 ,  2 , and  3 , are further depicted as arranged into a function termed instinct  7 , which is not alterable by individual  30  who owns it, but can be sexually attracted  1 A by actions of an other  106 , and a function termed character  8 , also termed personality  8 , which is alterable by an individual  30 , and also can be emotionally attracted  2 A and or intellectually attracted  3 A by actions of an other  106 . Character  8  or personality  8  is alterable by analysis and corrective action taken by an individual  30  via the subject mind operating system and its inherent KWML (King, Warrior, Magician, Lover) personality tool depicted in  FIG. 15 .  
      In  FIG. 5 , the system further comprises an illustration showing the three phases of a relationship corresponding to the three brains of Mr. Right or alternately of Ms. Right wherein the brainstem is responsible for instinct and therefore sexual attraction, and the midbrain combined with the cerebral cortex are responsible for the civilizing force of relationships called character to promote bonding in friendship as well as commitment as partners relationally. In  FIG. 5  is depicted the overall subject system termed the dating operating system, known as the 3 brains problem-solving system, and comprised of three sequential  17  phases in order that must be applied by an individual courting another individual in a goal of establishing a durable romantic relationship. Said phases in order are depicted as follows: an attraction phase  13 , in which sexual attraction  1 A is stimulated in the brainstem  1  anatomically and reptilian brain  4  functionally of an other  106  by the self  30  to produce a lover  9 , then in a bonding in friendship phase  14  in which emotional attraction  2 A is stimulated in the midbrain  2  anatomically and mammalian brain  5 , termed emotional brain  5  of an other  106  by the self  30  to produce a friend  10 , then a commitment phase  15 , in which intellectual attraction  3 A is stimulated in the cortex  3  anatomically and higher brain  6  functionally of an other  106  by the self  30  to produce a partner  11 . Friendship is termed in the subject dating operating system, “mutual and consistently positive emotional energy  51  shared by a self  30  and an other  106 , not requiring commitment  105 . It is recognized in subject dating operating system that surrounding and pervading the function of the sequence  17  of phases  13 ,  14 , and  15  in order, that a mutual story  16  develops, serving self  30  and other  106  as a protection encouraging commitment  105 , and guide to further action in correct timing within the sequence  17 .  
      In  FIG. 6 , the system further comprises an illustration showing a user&#39;s actions in the attraction, bonding in friendship, and commitment phases in a sequence which takes the form of a story of the user&#39;s romantic relationship with a subject man, Mr. Right or alternately Ms. Right, to produce a resultant relationship status achieved through communication and appeal to the three brains of Mr. Right or alternately Ms. Right and culminating in the user achieving a committed, emotionally bonded, sexually attracted partnership with a bonded friend and lover in the one personage of Mr. Right or alternately Ms. Right. In  FIG. 6 , a diagram of the result of sequence  17  of application of subject dating operating system through attraction phase  13  employing sexual attraction  1 A, bonding in friendship phase  14  employing emotional attraction  2 A, and commitment phase  15  employing intellectual attraction  3 A, resulting in specific functional status of the other  106  in the life of the individual  30  or self  30 , as lover  9 , friend  10  and partner  11  respectively, the collective functional status of which is termed in the subject dating operating system as Mr. Right  12  to a female individual  30  or self  30 .  
      In  FIG. 7 , the system further comprises a diagrammatic illustration showing the intensity of connection over time of the attraction phase, the bonding phase, and the commitment phase of the relationship leading to a marriage at a culmination of the three phases. In  FIG. 7 , a diagram of the respective phases  13 ,  14 , and  15  in sequence  17  is depicted in terms of timecourse of average onset and duration, and intensity of connection  13 A of individual self  30  with other  106 , and with attraction phase shown as onset at time zero of self  30  meeting other  106 , and average transition to bonding in friendship phase  14  at one month duration, and with bonding in friendship phase  14  shown as onset on average at arbitrary time surrounding “first date” and complete with consistent or additive contact at approximately 3 months of consistent contact since first meeting, and with onset of commitment phase  15  at or after 1 month and continuing until termination of relationship or indefinitely, and required before the partner  11  status termed in subject dating operating system as marriage  18 . In subject dating operating system, failure to complete a phase  13 ,  14 , and or  15  in sequence  17 , or in approximate time of average onset and or duration is considered to likely result in failure of the relationship to result in self  30  committing  105  to or finding Mr. Right  12 , or to develop connection to the other  106  as a combination of lover  9 , friend  10 , and partner  11  in one other  106 .  
      In  FIG. 8 , the system further comprises a diagrammatic illustration of the subject dating operating system, termed “the Three Brains of Mr. Right,” as a system with a design like a gasoline engine, where the “reptilian brain” causes “ignition” of the energy of the “mammalian brain” as a spark plug ignites gasoline, and the resultant reaction is contained in the bounds of the “higher brain,” where the relationship produces work or a product of joint effort. In  FIG. 8 , a diagram of a self  30  relating to an other  106  is depicted anatomically as  1 ,  2 , and  3  and functionally as  4 ,  5 , and  6  in relative similar function as that of a gasoline engine, with reptilian brain  4  operating as a spark plug, mammalian brain  5  known as emotional brain operating as a gasoline and oil tank, and higher brain  6  operating as the cavity of an engine. Functionally a relationship lacking the spark of sexual attraction  1 A fails romantically, as does a relationship lacking the emotional energy  37  action-producing gasoline or soothing oil both of emotional attraction  2 A fails romantically, as does a relationship lacking the containment and definition and harvesting of such action and ignition inherent in a personal boundary  40 , intellect  38 , and decision-making  39  within a higher brain  6  and via intellectual attraction  3 A fails romantically.  FIG. 8  then within subject dating operating system provides individual self  30  with a means of identifying weak points of individual&#39;s relationship likely to cause it to fail, directing individual to go to functions of subject dating operating system and mind operating system that produce corrective measures on the relationship system.  
      The series of visual illustrations of the present visual psychoanalysis system called the dating operating system comprises a series of relationship phase illustrations for the sequence and timing of three phases of a relationship, the series of relationship phase illustrations comprising: a first attraction phase  13 , a bonding in friendship phase  14 , and a commitment phase  15 , as shown in  FIG. 5 .  
      The first attraction phase of a relationship illustration  13 , as shown in  FIG. 5 , is associated with a brainstem  1  as a reptilian portion of a brain  4 . In The first attraction phase of a relationship illustration comprising three attraction steps including display of beauty  18 , demonstration of ability to assist another person  19 , and de facto production of status in the male of Alpha-male status which may include introduction of a contest for the desired other person to demonstrate skill at winning the user&#39;s affection  20 , as shown in  FIG. 10 .  
      The first attraction phase  13  comprises at least one de facto production of status taken from the list of de facto producers of status including elevated rank societally in a hierarchy, elevated rank socially in a hierarchy, acquisition of physical territory, acquisition of social territory, acquisition of psychological territory, introduction of a contest of a person among others for attention of a user, introduction of a challenge of a person among others for attention of a user, and introduction of competition of the person among others for attention of a user.  
      In  FIG. 9 , the system further comprises a diagrammatic illustration of a series of details of the attraction phase wherein sexual attraction occurs to a person&#39;s brainstem and showing that attention is simultaneously applied to the other two phases as well. In  FIG. 9 , a diagram depicts the sexual attraction  9 A operating within attraction phase  13  of subject dating operating system, with its three component steps in phase  1  of sequence  17  leading to other  106  entering functional status to the self  30  as lover  9 .  
      In  FIG. 10 , the system further comprises a diagrammatic illustration of the three attraction steps of the attraction phase associated with the brainstem. The diagram depicts use of sexual attraction  1 A in the attraction phase  13  of subject dating operating system for obtaining functional status in an other  106  by individual&#39;s self  30 , as comprised of three steps in order, sequenced as display of beauty  18  to other  106 , demonstration of assistance in obtaining or maintaining “alpha-male” status  19  for a male other  106 , as rank or higher hierarchy, territory acquisition whether physical property, social influence, psychological space, and power, and finally, placing the male other  106  to a series of contests  20  or tests, of which one or more may be “playing hard to get” by self  30 . The end of this i phase of sequence  17 , the individual self  30  may move on to the bonding in friendship phase  14 .  
      In  FIG. 11 , the system further comprises a diagrammatic illustration of the three bonding steps of the bonding phase associated with the midbrain. The second bonding in friendship phase of a relationship illustration  14  is associated with a midbrain  5  as a mammalian brain or emotional brain producing the emotions of Mr. Right  12  (or Ms. Right), as shown in  FIG. 11 . The bonding in friendship phase of a relationship illustration comprises three bonding steps including a demonstration of mature use of anger via assertiveness  21  to produce the positive emotion and self esteem termed well-being, a demonstration of mature use of anxiety via courage  22  to produce the positive emotion and self esteem termed confidence, and a demonstration of matching of temperament and personality  23  analyzed by and evidenced in productive joint teamwork on a project of mutual benefit to self and another, as shown in  FIG. 11 .  
      In  FIG. 19 , a diagram depicts the emotional attraction  2 A steps by the individual self  30  done to a male or female other  106  in the process of facilitating functional status as a friend  10  in the other  106 . The steps of the sequence, in order are “conveying maturity in use of anger through assertiveness”  21  defined in  FIG. 13 , “conveying maturity in use of anxiety through courage”  22  defined in  FIG. 14 , and demonstration of temperament and personality match through teamwork collaboration  23  on a joint project of effort. Step  3  ( 23 ) is illustrated in detail in  FIG. 15  as far as personality match and opposites emotionally attracting  2 A. Successful completion of the bonding in friendship phase  14  prepares the individual self  30  in developing a durable romantic relationship with other  106  via use of subject dating operating system to move on to the last phase of said system, termed the commitment phase  15 .  
      In  FIG. 1 , a diagram of one of a person&#39;s three inner resources  43  inside the personal boundary  40  called emotional energy spectrum  37  is illustrated as a set of two spectrums of that resource. In the subject mind operating system  31 , when a person is taught how to master the opposite ends of each spectrum, he or she can begin to master every permutation of the human emotional functions therebetween. When one masters the personal boundary  40 , one finds more durability and strength  35 , the first part of durable fulfillment  36 , in solving a problem in a relationship or in life in general.  
      In  FIG. 12 , the system further comprises a diagrammatic illustration of a relationship between anger and sadness as an emotional extreme with anxiety as an opposite emotional extreme, and as a spectrum with all possible negative emotions contained between as being composed of a geometric portion as anger, and the remaining amount as anxiety, concurrent with the transformation of such negative emotional energy to portions of positive emotional energy called self-esteem, and composed of well-being and confidence respectively, achieved through assertiveness and courage respectively.  
      In  FIG. 12 , emotional energy  37  comes in two forms: negative emotional energy  52  and positive emotional energy  51 , which is the same as self-esteem  50 . The opposite ends of the spectrum of emotional energy  37  are anxiety  44  and anger  47  for negative emotional energy  52 , and opposite ends are confidence  46  and well-being  49  for positive emotional energy  51 . When a person reaches a balance on the spectrum of emotional energy  37  and between anxiety  44  and anger  47 , he or she arrives at emotional neutrality  52 A. However, positive emotional energies  51  of well-being  49  and confidence  46  are arrived at through mastering assertiveness  48  on the anger map and through mastering courage  45  on the anxiety map described later, respectively. A combination of well-being  49  and confidence  46  is called self-esteem  50 , and an equal balance of well-being and confidence is termed happiness  32 , the second part of durable fulfillment  36 . Thus negative emotions are always some combination of anger and anxiety, which can be transformed to positive emotional  51  equivalents composing self-esteem  50 , and if whose positive composition are set in balance equal happiness  32 , a unique transformative process that ensures a durable friendship phase  14  of dating, mating sequence in humans, and guide to effective durable committed romantic or other partnership  11 , and with friendship  10  defined in subject dating operating system as “mutual consistently shared positive emotional energy  51 .” 
      In  FIG. 13 , the system further comprises a diagrammatic illustration of a detail of the anger and well-being end of the spectrum of emotional energy using an anger map, and a diagrammatic illustration of a transformation of the negative emotions of anger or depression into a component of self-esteem called well-being.  FIG. 13  illustrates the detail of the anger and well-being end of the spectrum of emotional energy with an “anger map”, and how to transform the negative emotions of anger  37  or depression  47 A into the component of self-esteem called well-being  49 , a motherly, nurturing, positive emotional energy  51 . The anger map of  FIG. 13  details all interrelations between anger  37 , depression  47 A, hurt  62 , the external manifestation of destructive anger, aggression  61 , as well as the constructive  66  positive transformation of anger into well-being  49 , via decision-making  39  to use anger in the form of assertiveness  48 .  
      In the mind operating system  31 , there are only two possible causes of anger  37 . If hurt  62  manages to break into the boundary  40 , via a boundary hole  92 , it takes the form of anger  37 . And inside the boundary, if one&#39;s needs  60  are not met, e.g. if there is a low level of the positive emotional energy  51  called well-being  49 , then anger also arises.  
      Once an individual is in an angry state, the mind operating system describes only three possible uses or routes for anger: 
          1. Depression  47 A, via passively letting anger store up inside, as if in a “tank”, which the personal boundary  40  does function as for an individual&#39;s internal psychological resources  43 .     2. Aggression  61 , via the impulsive, destructive  67  decision to impatiently let the anger out en masse in a win/lose way, attempting to hurt  62  another in a way that transfers the anger at them or into their boundary, therefore causing the original individual to “win” and the one receiving the anger to “lose”. This right circular arm of the anger map of  FIG. 13  is called the “cycle of violence”, which generates negative momentum  67  for mutual personal growth.     3. Assertiveness  48 , via the mature, constructive  66  decision to slowly, patiently use anger in a win/win way, in which one gets one&#39;s own needs  60  met independently of using or hurting others, and which may even benefit them as well. The left branch of this map shows that transformation of anger to well-being creates a cycle of positive momentum  64  for personal growth. The result of assertiveness  48  is a rise in one&#39;s well-being  49  level one hundred percent of the time, in a one-for-one proportion. This level may be measured in units and certain needs  60  may be listed on the part of an individual as being assigned a certain number of subjective units if they are met. In this way, the well-being which makes up half of self-esteem can be measured digitally. (Confidence  44  makes up the remainder of self-esteem in any given quantity of self-esteem).        

      Well-being  49 , is the antidote for depression  47 A, aggression  61  and criminality, and anger  37 . In mastering assertiveness  48 , an individual has mastered the anger end of the spectrum of negative emotional energy  52 , by transforming that energy into a positive form  51 , called well-being  49 , which is one-half of what makes up one&#39;s total self-esteem, a synonym for happiness  32 . It is therefore half of the final requirement for an individual to achieve durable fulfillment  36  in solving problems of relationships, establishing friendship based on positive emotion  51  and living life.  
      In  FIG. 14 , the system further comprises a diagrammatic illustration of a detail of the anxiety and confidence end of the spectrum of emotional energy using an anxiety map, and a diagrammatic illustration of transforming the negative emotions of anxiety, or avoidance and impulsivity into the component of self-esteem called confidence.  
       FIG. 14  illustrates the detail of the anxiety  44  and confidence  46  end of the spectrum of emotional energy  37 , and how to transform the negative emotions of anxiety  44 , avoidance and impulsivity  73  into the second and final component of self-esteem called confidence  46 , a “fatherly”, action-prone, positive emotional energy  51 .  
      The anxiety map of  FIG. 14  delineates all possible interrelations of anxiety  44 , impulsivity  73  and avoidance, victim-thinking, masochism  75  or martyr-like thinking, which includes forms of thinking the likes of includes but is not limited to “worry”, “complaining”, “helplessness”, “hopelessness”, “shame”, and other depressive or masochistic features of thinking. This cluster of terms and synonyms to them are the direct link between depression  47 A and anxiety  44 . Courage  45  is the transformer of the negative emotional energy  52  of anxiety  44  to the constructive form  66  in positive emotional energy  51  and its resultant reward, called confidence  46 , which is the antidote for anxiety, masochism  75 , impulsivity  73  and avoidance  73 .  
      In the mind operating system  31 , there are only two possible causes of anxiety  44 . Either loss  71 , a synonym for anxiety that is outside one&#39;s boundary and likened to a form of negative emotional energy  52  just as hurt  62  is, or else an internal lack of confidence  46  are the only causes of anxiety.  
      A lack of confidence  46  can be a general low amount of that second positive energy that composes self-esteem, or it can be specific lacks of confidence about specific fears  72  that can be listed by an individual in a journal, and therefore digitally measured as with one&#39;s needs  60  on the anger map. Hurt  62  and loss  71  are the two forms of negative emotional energy  52  which compose the general negative emotional energy  52  called stress  65  in the mind operating system  31 .  
      In the mind operating system  31  there are also only three possible uses or outcomes of anxiety once it arises in the boundary  40 : 
          1. Impulsivity  73  and avoidance are defined as “acting without thinking” produced when one is passive in one&#39;s use of anxiety, allowing it to take the instinctual course called the “fight or flight” reflex. This reflex uses one&#39;s anxiety in a healthy way when there is an immediate threat to life, but in an unhealthy way when there is not, in that event, promoting such behaviors, but not limited to them, as overeating, overspending, addictions, “workaholism”.     2. Masochistic  75 , or victim-thinking are destructive  67  decisions to think with one&#39;s anxiety in a negative or pessimistic way that interacts with others in a win/lose way, dumping one&#39;s anxiety into the boundary of another, or trying to, and causing that other to suffer loss  71  of confidence  46  and the rise of anxiety  44 . This cycle which occurs on the right of the map may be called the “cycle of self-victimization”, or “making a mountain out of a mole-hill”, which generates negative momentum  52  for one&#39;s life, as powered by the energy of anxiety  44 . Such a cycle is only capable of generating more loss  71 , anxiety  44 , and masochism  75  energy, which cycles around indefinitely unless interrupted by the observing ego  42  enough to make a new kind of decision: a constructive  66  one called courage  45 .     3. Courage  45 , is the constructive  66  decision to “do the right thing, regardless of uncomfortable feelings”, and “doing the right thing” was previously described as being guided by one&#39;s conscience  122  and intuition  123 . This means that since life is defined by a series of decisions, if one is alive, one can choose courage  45  as a decision at any time. One does not have to somehow find bravery or borrow some resource from others; courage  45  is only a decision, which any living being can elect to do. When courage  45  is done, the result is a rise in one&#39;s confidence  46  level one hundred percent of the time. This level can be measured in units assigned to the level of fear  72  of particular threats or problems originally listed before performing courage  45  on them, or on the perceived level of courage one estimates is required to overcome the fear  72 . The left side of the map shows a positive emotional energy  51  cycle that creates positive momentum  64  in an individual&#39;s or couple&#39;s growth  99  in the bonding in friendship phase.        

      Anxiety  44  in the mind operating system  31  is then defined as a general negative emotional energy  52  state, but “fear”  72  is an amount of anxiety  44  coupled with the data particulars of a particular threat (or problem) or perceived threat.  
      Confidence  46  is the antidote for impulsivity  73  and avoidance, and addiction, masochism  75  and “victim mentality”, and anxiety  44 . In mastering courage  45 , an individual has mastered the anxiety end of the spectrum of negative emotional energy  52 , by transforming that energy into a positive form, called confidence  46 , which is the remainder (along with well-being  49 ) of what makes up one&#39;s total self-esteem, such that when well-being  49  and confidence  46  are present in one&#39;s self-esteem in equal amounts, one has happiness  32 . It is therefore the other half of the final requirement for an individual to achieve durable fulfillment  36  in solving problems and living life.  
      When the individual has mastered the four components of the psyche that lead to the four parts of durable fulfillment  36  using the mind operating system,  FIG. 15  illustrates detail of the combined balance of the resources  43  and their spectra in a way leading to “psychological integration”, the most efficient operation of the psyche or self, and which is the psychological state most likely and efficient at solving personal problems and producing ongoing durable fulfillment.  
       FIG. 15  shows a diagram with a circle that is different from the former use representing a boundary. In this drawing, the use of a circle with internally measured Cartesian coordinates provides a symbolic connection between the “imperfect and terrestrial” (Cartesian) with the goal of perfection and “impossible-to-reach” (the historically considered, perfect form of a circle). And so the unique form of this diagram demonstrates the imperfection of the human psyche as always at least slightly out of balance in its components, with the goal of striving toward the perfection of the psyche and its components in “psychological integration”. Within this circle are crossed axes of the spectra of both the intellectual data use  38  function, or “cognitive spectrum”, with the emotional energy  37  spectrum. The interior of the circle is then the field of all possibility of human individual or group behavior, now divided into four zones by these two axes termed “temperaments”. An individual&#39;s self  30  function, or psyche&#39;s function operates within the graphical and digitally measurable points within the circle.  
      The four zones of function are called “temperaments”, and an individual&#39;s temperament is defined in the mind operating system as a quadrant of intellectual-emotional function in which one characteristically spends the most psychological functional time.  
      The king temperament  83  is then left-brain  106  dominant and well-being  49  dominant, characterized by passive, nurturing, or need-meeting emotional energy, and may be called “motherly”, emotionally. In an analogous system of energy and its distribution such as an automobile, well-being  49  is to humans what “oil” is to an automobile.  
      The lover  86  temperament is then right-brain  107  dominant and well-being  49  dominant. The warrior  84  temperament is left-brain  106  dominant and confidence  46  dominant, characterized by action-prone emotional energy, and may be called “fatherly”, emotionally. The magician  85  temperament is right-brain  107  dominant and confidence  46  dominant. In an analogous system of energy and its distribution such as an automobile, confidence  41  is to humans what “gasoline” is to an automobile.  
      The trajectory of personal growth  120  may be tracked from immaturity and imbalance at the periphery of the circle, moving toward maturity and efficient balance of resource  43  use at the center of the circle, over the lifetime. The center contains “psychological integration”  90 A, perfect function of the psyche, or self  30 , which is impossible to achieve and maintain, but a goal to be strived for. As such, one&#39;s coordinates can be tracked in terms of the third internal resource of decision-making  39  too, also represented in a two-dimensional plane, by plotting the coordinates of three kinds of “self”: true self  87 , false self  89 , and ideal self  88 A, which is the same as psychological integration, “perfect function of the psyche”.  
      The notion of these types of self,  87 ,  89 , and  88 A as points located on the Cartesian coordinate system diagram allows the three types of results of decision-making  39  to be represented along with the other two resources  43 , called emotional energy  37  and intellectual data use  38 , simultaneously. If the individual is passive, and allows regression  121  of growth, then true self  87  drifts to the periphery of the circle, into psychological imbalance and unhealthy. False self  89  is a state of self  30  associated with destructive  67  decisions, caused by lack or imbalance of either conscience  122  or intuition  123  and lack of observing ego  42 . Ideal self  88 A is a state of self  30  associated with constructive  66  decisions, characterized by adequate amounts and balance of conscience  122  and intuition  123 , and by adequate observing ego  42  to clearly see that constructive  66  decisions are advantageous to self  30  and others.  
      When one makes a habit of destructive  67  decisions that are immature, or win/lose in nature of their psychological commerce with others, it is termed “pathological narcissism”. Suffering  91  is also a characteristic of pathological narcissism, indicating that immature boundaries, or boundary holes  92  are present, as one imagines being what is actually a false self  89 , actually of the opposite temperament to one&#39;s true temperament. As such, the plotting of points to represent true self  87 , false self  89 , and ideal self  88 A also economize the representation of personal boundary  40  function in the two-dimensional Cartesian coordinate system. False self  89  characteristically manifests through presence of personal boundary holes  92  and personal boundary walls  88 , and true self  87  grows directly toward ideal self  88 A through employing personal boundary doors  90  throughout life. As such, being imperfect, self  30  is always a combination of true self  87 , false self  89 , and ideal self  88 A.  
      In the example depicted in  FIG. 15 , an individual of the king temperament  83 , is pretending to be of the magician temperament  85 . Pathological narcissism takes from the emotional energy  37  and time of others in order to “prop” oneself up with the illusion of psychological integration represented by the ideal self  88 A.  
      If one standing in true self  87  were to look out on the plane of the diagram, across the center, the vision of false self  89  would “appear” as if it were at the center, where total psychological health and optimal function of the psyche are represented. However, the role of observing ego  42  is such that one may “step out of the diagram” to look back on one&#39;s self from a literally higher perspective (and an added, third dimension) to see that the most healthy, constructive  66 , win/win approach toward one&#39;s ideal self  88 A is to autonomously do the work on self  30  from one&#39;s own starting temperament, working in a win/win constructive  66  way that leads to real growth  120  toward psychological integration that is represented in the ideal self  88 A.  
      Suffering  91  (as shown in  FIG. 17 ) manifests pathological narcissism in the form of aggression  61  (as shown in  FIG. 13 ) and masochism  75  (as shown in  FIG. 14 ) are necessary to steal the energies of well-being  49  ( FIG. 13 ) and confidence  46  ( FIG. 14 ) from others  106  (as shown in  FIG. 19 ) against their free will  39 , in order to maintain the illusory but high-energy state called false self  89  (as shown in  FIG. 15 ).  
      Since suffering  91  is a boundary  40  effect (as shown in  FIG. 17 ), and the decision-making  39  features of destructiveness  67  and constructiveness  66  are now also represented in the diagram of  FIG. 14 , all four components of the psyche can be represented on one two-dimensional diagram with simultaneous function represented by a single point in space at the true self  87 , shown in  FIG. 15 . And through observing ego  42  of  FIG. 2 , which takes one out of the current “plane” of self-awareness to a higher perspective, and literally higher dimension of understanding, an individual can clearly see both the current unhealthy projection of that point at false self  89 , and the recommended alternative future projection of that point in ideal self  88 A, as shown in  FIG. 15 .  
      Thus personal growth  120 , as shown in  FIG. 22 , and problem-solving can be enacted both by seeing what the individual is doing wrong, and what they could instead do right.  FIG. 15  then provides a graphical, digitally measurable way of representing not just individual function of components of the psyche, but all of them simultaneously.  
      When two individuals combine psychological resources  43 , the outcome can be promoting of both of their growth  120  and problem-solving, or else detrimental ending the prospect of a durable relationship at the bonding in friendship phase  14  of subject dating operating system, prior to attempting the commitment phase  15 .  
      The third commitment phase illustration  15  of  FIG. 16  is associated with a cerebral cortex representing a higher brain  6  for intellect, decisions, and boundaries used by Mr. Right  12  (or Ms. Right). The commitment phase illustration comprises three commitment steps: a demonstration of mature personal boundary use  24 , a mature intellectual function use toward joint life&#39;s goals between self and an other  25 , and a constructive and mature decision making ability in self and other resulting in a decision to commit to one another  26 , as shown in  FIG. 16 .  
      In  FIG. 19 , a diagram depicts the final phase of development of a durable romantic or other relationship between an individual self  30  and other  106  in subject dating operating system, termed the commitment phase  15  of  FIG. 16 .  
      In  FIG. 16 , the commitment phase  15  is a sequential set of three steps in which the individual demonstrates mature personal boundary function as a first commitment step  24  and which is inherent in the analysis and correction of function of a personal boundary  40  by the subject mind operating system  31 , a second commitment step  25  in which the individual demonstrates functional ability to move jointly with other  106  toward a set of mutual life&#39;s goals  25  effectively and with patience and use of intellectual data use spectrum  38 , and finally a third commitment step  26  that demonstrates constructive  66  use of decision function  39  and commitment  105 , as shown in  FIG. 19 .  
      In  FIG. 17 , the system comprises a diagrammatic illustration of the detail of possible dynamics of a relationship between two individuals, in which the relative integration of the parts of the psyche can be beneficial or detrimental to mutual growth, wherein the use of two joined personal boundaries in independence using boundary walls or codependence using boundary holes are considered immature, or destructive-win/lose, and interdependence is the only route to true durable commitment via use of boundary doors, and considered a mature, constructive-win/win relationship.  
      In  FIG. 17 , Step one of the commitment phase  15  in a relationship, the components of the personal boundary  40  are shown where holes  92  in the boundary are defined as areas of life, situations or entities to which the person has difficulty “saying no” to, or “hearing no” from. The holes  92  in the boundary allow an individual to undergo “suffering”. Suffering  91  is defined as “spending the currencies of time, freedom or energy, trying or wishing to control the uncontrollable”.  
      Holes  92  in the boundary are shown to be repaired by mastering facility at “saying no” and “hearing no”, tolerating rejection. Boundary walls  88  are places where the individual always says “no” to potential psychological commerce, allowing no new information, decisions or energy in, and seeking no new goals. Such a person becomes lonely or is starving for new energy or information eventually. Boundary doors  90  are linked to a decision-making process to open them, and are best opened to constructive, win/win commerce and closed to destructive, win/lose commerce.  
      In  FIG. 17 , in the place of holes  92  or walls  88  in the boundary  40  (areas of life where one only says no to new opportunity and is not open to compromise), both conditions of which are psychologically immature, an individual learns to master placing doors  90  in one&#39;s own boundary  40 .  
      The function of doors  90  in the boundary are a combination of the function of personal boundary  40  function and decision-making  39  function, in which the individual learns to open the boundary to constructive  66  commerce from the outside world, and close the boundary to destructive  67  commerce. Constructiveness  66  promotes more of the psychological currency called freedom  34 , the second requirement for an individual to achieve durable fulfillment  36 , and using doors  90  in the boundary, which eliminate suffering  91 , instead of holes  92  or walls  88  in the boundary  40 , leads to durability  35 , the first requirement for an individual to achieve durable fulfillment  36  in a committed relationship or individual.  
      In  FIG. 18 , the system further comprises a diagrammatic illustration of the components of the subject mind operating system of two individuals engaged in psychological commerce related to relationship forming.  FIG. 18  illustrates the components of two individuals engaged in “psychological commerce”, also supporting success  33  in demonstrating maturity of personal boundary  40  function, the first step  24  in the commitment phase  15  of subject dating operating system, in which the three internal resources  43  are “traded” with each other in the form of “psychological currency”, the currency for the positive emotional energy  51  resource, termed “love”  94 , for the negative emotional energy  52  in us, termed hate  99 , an intentional inflicting of stress  65  on others. Currency for the intellectual resource is termed “time”  95 , the currency for the decision-making resource termed “freedom”  96  for a couple, or  34  for an individual, and currency of lending one&#39;s boundary termed “strength”  97  for a couple, or  35  for an individual.  
      The brain stem, midbrain, and cerebral cortex together comprise the three brains of Mr. Right and alternately the three brains of Ms. Right, an ideal mate for a user of the system, the three brains corresponding to the three phases of the relationship.  
      In  FIGS. 12-15 ,  17 , and  19 - 22 , visual illustrations of recommended remedies for faults inherent in relationships are used.  
      In  FIG. 15 , the bonding in friendship illustration for demonstration of matching of temperament and personality evidenced in productive joint teamwork on a project of mutual benefit to self and an other comprises a four quadrant diagrammed illustration with a horizontal cognitive spectrum axis and an intersecting vertical emotional energy spectrum dividing a circle into four quadrants representing King, Warrior, Magician, and Lover (KWML) as a diagrammed illustration used as a tool of a subject mind operating system including an illustration of an observing ego outside of the circle looking into the circle. The horizontal cognitive spectrum axis and the intersecting vertical emotional energy spectrum divide a circle into four quadrants representing King, Warrior, Magician, and Lover as a diagrammed illustration defining all human behavior and further comprising a detail of the combined balance of the three internal psychological resources and their spectra in a way leading to psychological integration, the most efficient operation of the psyche or self, and the psychological state most likely and efficient at solving personal problems, producing durable fulfillment.  
      The subject mind operating system further comprises an illustration of four psychological and individual character building blocks comprising emotional energy leading to happiness; intellect including beliefs, values, and ideas leading to success; decision-making leading to freedom; and personal boundary leading to durability and strength, mastery of the four building blocks combining to produce a desired goal of durable fulfillment.  
      The system further comprises a diagrammatic illustration of the components of the personal boundary showing diversity of function, repair, and contents of the personal boundary in conjunction with the emotional energy, intellectual data use, and decision-making of the subject mind operating system and an associated concept of suffering.  
       FIG. 19  illustrates the detail of possible dynamics of a relationship between two individuals, further supporting success  33  in demonstrating mature personal boundary  40  function in step one  24  of the commitment phase  15  of subject dating operating system, in which the boundaries of the self  30  and other  106  can be in a state of independence  100  or time-limited intimacy  104 , which are both psychologically healthy when combined in interdependence  101 . However, when boundaries  40  combine interminably, the condition of the relationship is called codependence  102 . Around the entire dynamic system in a mature, healthy relationship is a “group boundary”, termed commitment  105 .  
      If one individual  30  happens to be generally of a king  83  temperament and the other person  106  one is relating to happens to also be of a king temperament  83 , then pathological narcissism, or relational destructiveness  67  is easy to rise between them, leading to codependence  102 . However, if the pair are opposite in temperament, e.g. a king-temperamented  83  person with a magician-temperamented  85  person, or a warrior temperamented  84  person with a lover-temperamented  86  person, the resultant stability of the system promotes mutual mature psychological growth  120  due to possession of all four desired temperamental functions  83 ,  84 ,  85 , and  86  respectively, between them, creating the possibility of joint, assisted mastery of all four core components of the psyche. Interdependence  101  in their relationship then becomes both the ongoing goal of their relational state, a new empowerment of personal growth  120  by virtue of two individuals&#39; joint efforts at growth  120 , and the higher likelihood of occurrence than codependence  102 .  
      In  FIG. 20 , the system further comprises a diagrammatic illustration of detailed spectral components of the operation of the intellectual data use resource of the subject mind operating system showing how impairment left-brained education used alone as illustrated by a left brain pilot of a plane leads to obsessiveness and creative failure illustrated by the plane flying into a lightning storm, and how right-brained experience used alone illustrated by a right-brain pilot leads to laziness, confusion, and industrious failure to reach a goal illustrated by flying in a wrong direction.  
       FIG. 20  illustrates the detailed spectral components of the operation of the intellectual data use  38  resource, divided into “left-brain”  106  function that is like a data “tank”, “filled” with education  108  on one end of the intellectual data use spectrum, and “right-brain”  107  function that is like a data “tank”, “filled” with experience  109  on the other end of the intellectual data use spectrum. Such use by individual self  30  and other  106  demonstrates success  33  of self  30  and other  106  in completing demonstration of success at moving toward mutual life&#39;s goals, with patience and efficient mutual intellectual function, which is step two  25  of the commitment phase  15  of subject dating operating system. The metaphor of flying an airplane is used graphically to represent this function, with the left-brain  106  function acting as pilot on one attempt at a goal  110 , and the right-brain  107  function acting as a pilot on another attempt at a goal  110 . Impairment in function of either end of the intellectual data use spectrum, in left-brained education  106 , producing confusion  113 , laziness, or industrious failure by default, or right-brained experience  109 , producing obsession  112  or creative failure by default, causes failure to reach a goal  10 .  
      When one&#39;s left-brained education is not balanced with enough right-brained, creative, artistic, flexibly-used experience, a creative failure (or obsessiveness  112 ) is the result, in which the individual tends to run up against obstacles  111  to a goal  110 , repeatedly failing to get around or overcome them. When one&#39;s right-brained experience is not balanced with enough left-brained, logical, orderly, detail-oriented education, an industrious failure (or confusion  113 ) is the result, in which the individual loses track of the original goal  110  and becomes “lost” on the way to that goal.  
      The opposite ends of the spectrum of intellectual data use  38  are the right-brained experience  109  and the left-brained education  108 . When the person adds to the mind&#39;s left-brain  106  with the logical, organized, historic data called education  108 , and adds to the mind&#39;s right-brain with the creative, flexible, artistic future-oriented data called experience  109 , he or she reaches a balance of intellectual data use in the mind operating system, which leads to success  33 , the third part of durable fulfillment, via balance of education  108 , also termed “book smarts”, and experience  109 , also termed “street smarts” in teaching and employing the mind operating system.  
      In  FIG. 21 , the system further comprises a diagrammatic illustration of detailed spectral components of the operation of the intellectual data use resource of the subject mind operating system showing how simultaneous and balanced use of left-brained education and right-brained experience, illustrated by a combined left-brain and right-brain pilot flying a plane, contributes to the reward of success in reaching a goal illustrated by flying to a desired location, and correcting the failure component of any given individual problem.  
       FIG. 21  supporting step two  25  of commitment phase  15  of subject dating operating system, illustrates how left-brained education  108  causes a couple to remain focused on a goal  110 , contributing to success  33 , and right-brained experience  109  causes the individual to be flexible for getting around obstacles  111  on the way to a goal  110 , also contributing to success  33 , which is the third requirement to have achieved durable fulfillment  36 . The airplane metaphor in this example serves to show both left-brain  106  function and right-brain  107  function working in synchrony, as “copilots”. The result is smooth approach around obstacles  111  to reach a goal  110 .  
      In  FIG. 22 , the system further comprises a diagrammatic illustration of detailed spectral components of a decision-making operation within the decision-making resource of the intellectual data use resource of the subject mind operating system, showing decision making leading to positive momentum with a constructive win/win abundance world view and alternately to negative momentum with a destructive win/lose world view, and alternately regression rather than momentum leading to mental illness and death.  
       FIG. 22  illustrates the detailed spectral components of a decision-making operation within the decision-making  39  resource, where conscience  122  and intuition  123  contribute before a decision is made, which when applied to commitment  105  of self  30  and other  106 , which is Mr. Right  12  at completion of this step, constitutes step three  26  of the commitment phase  15  of subject dating operating system. Conscience  122  is a sense that informs one that his internal motives for a decision are either constructive  66  or destructive  67 . Intuition  123  is a sense that informs one that the current environment  41  of choice is either constructive  66  or destructive  67  toward his health, safety, sought-after goals, ambitions or general welfare.  
      One possible end result of a potential decision is that it can be passive (no decision) which produces a quick decline in overall self  30  function, termed regression  121 , which if continued interminably can lead to illness and even death.  
      A second possible result of a decision is that it destructively  67  produces negative momentum  63  for one&#39;s growth  120  through being win/lose in behavior or thought, and seeing the environment as a place of scarcity. This indicates a childish or immature choice for decision-making  39 . Destructiveness  67  is produced by amorality (lack of conscience)  122 , or by naivete (lack of intuition)  123 , and is characterized by being weak in observing ego  42  skill. If destructiveness  67  approaches from the environment, one should “close” the personal boundary door  90  to it.  
      Third and finally, the last possible result of a decision is that it constructively  66  produces positive momentum  64  for one&#39;s growth  120  through being win/win  66  in behavior, seeing the environment as an abundant place. Constructiveness  66  and resultant positive momentum  64  for personal growth  120  are facilitated by high observing ego  42  skill at seeing the high-probability benefits of constructiveness  66 , which carries with it mature traits such as patience, delayed gratification, teamwork, and cooperative leadership. If constructiveness approaches from the environment, one should “open” the personal boundary door  90  to it.  
      Since biologists define “life” as an “entity with decision-making power”, making any decision makes an individual grow and feel “more alive and free”, and making no decision at all causes an individual cease to grow and feel “less alive”.  FIG. 22  represents all possible general outcomes of a decision to be made: regression  121  (passive, no decision), destructive  67  producing negative momentum  63 , or constructive  66  producing positive momentum  64 . If the outcome of a decision is not either at least a small portion constructive or destructive, then it wasn&#39;t a decision.  
      The opposite ends of the spectrum of the third resource or the making of decisions  39 , or a person&#39;s will, are intuition  123  and conscience  122 . When the person reaches a balance between intuition and conscience, then he or she can go forward with wisdom, an equal balance of intuition  123  and conscience  122  in the making of an informed decision, which leads to society granting the individual more freedom  34 , the fourth and final part of durable fulfillment  36  in an individual  30  or relationship.  
      In  FIG. 23  the system further comprises a diagrammatic illustration of a detailed anatomy of a belief, a linking part between the bonding in friendship phase and the commitment phase of the dating operating system associated with intellectual function within the mind operating system, and composed of the central idea within the belief illustrated as a table top, supported by other ideas illustrated as table legs, which are evidence that the idea of the belief is true, and attached to the representation of an individual&#39;s mind illustrated as a floor via quanta of emotional energy, wherein potential evidence both supporting and against the central idea of the belief are shown drifting past the top of the table, and wherein a numerous majority of an individual&#39;s beliefs are shown composing the summation of beliefs in an individual called an individual&#39;s world view, known as a reality or frame.  
       FIG. 23  illustrates a diagram of a belief  135  within a belief system, termed worldview  134 , and termed frame, and reality, which forms a bridge between function of the mammalian brain  5  and higher brain  6  of an individual, and therefore mastery of which is also a bridge between phases of bonding in friendship  14  and commitment  15  of subject dating operating system. In subject dating operating system, the function of the mammalian brain  5  in anatomical form as midbrain  2  consists of storing emotional energy  37 , releasing emotional energy  37 , and attaching said energy to ideas  130  which reside functionally in the higher brain  6  and anatomically in the cortex  3 , linking the function of the mammalian brain  5  termed also emotional brain, with the function of the higher brain  6 , and establishing emotional value or valence be assigned to particular items of data, ideas  130 , regarding events, individuals, concepts, and other data, to support and produce beliefs with one central idea  135 . Beliefs  135  that amass in total in attachment to the functional “floor of the mind”  132  constitute worldview  134 , termed also reality, and frame of reference, or frame.  
      In the subject dating operating system is defined a function within friendship  10  that a self  30  and other  106  assign individual valuations to individual aspects of each other, and overall in total of each other, via the emotional amount, value or valence of emotional energy  37  whether positive emotional energy  51  or negative emotional energy  52 , and in which a majority of negative emotional energy  52  attached to the valuation of another individual in a relationship results in the functional condition of failure to be a friend  10 , due to the condition established in subject dating operating system that a friendship  10  consist of “mutual and consistently shared positive emotional energy  51 .” Within the higher brain  6 , and in the commitment phase  15  of the subject dating operating system, step two  25 , a required action toward a durable romantic or other relationship is that two individuals work with patience toward joint mutual life&#39;s goals. A majority negative emotional energy  52  valence to any individual&#39;s belief system depicted in  FIG. 23  results in a failure to progress in the commitment phase  15  of subject dating operating system.  
      The system visual illustrations may be presented via any medium including at least one presentation medium taken from the list of presentation mediums including a book, a booklet, a pamphlet, a loose-leaf binder, a paper based medium, a synthetic sheet based medium, a mailer, a poster, an electronic book, a computer file, a computer software program, a program presented on the world wide web, a web site, a television program, a digital recording medium, a magnetic storage medium, a photographic medium, an electronic mail medium, a projection medium, a slide, a film, a microfilm, an overhead projection medium.  
      In use, the observing ego represents a person viewing oneself enabling a person to utilize the present system. With a mastery of the personal boundary, emotional energy, intellectual data use and decision-making, the person is led to the rewards of durability, happiness, success and freedom. A user progresses through he present system of psychoanalysis using a visual psychoanalytic unification system using visual and geometric diagrams for devising an effective personal dating process, human mating sequence, and human mood, failure, and relationship analysis and problem solving.  
      The visual psychoanalysis method called the dating operating system, is used to help a user in forming, developing, and securing a relationship with another person and in solving problems involving human interaction. The method comprises:  
      using a series of visual illustrations to teach, coach and deliver therapy for personal growth, character growth, relationship analysis and corrective advice related to a relationship with another person including a male and a female, and in human groups and their behaviors, using the series of visual illustrations comprising;  
      using a series of relationship phase illustrations for the sequence and timing of three phases of a relationship, using the series of relationship phase illustrations comprising:  
      using a first attraction phase of a relationship illustration associated with a brainstem as a reptilian portion of a male brain, the first attraction phase of a relationship illustration comprising three attraction steps including display of beauty, demonstration of ability to assist a person, and de facto production of status in the male of Alpha-male status;  
      using a second bonding in friendship phase of a relationship illustration associated with a midbrain as a mammalian brain, the bonding in friendship phase of a relationship illustration comprising three bonding steps including a demonstration of mature use of anger via assertiveness to produce the positive emotion and self esteem termed well-being, a demonstration of mature use of anxiety via courage to produce the positive emotion and self esteem termed confidence, and a demonstration of matching of temperament and personality analyzed by and evidenced in productive joint teamwork on a project of mutual benefit to self and another; and  
      using a third commitment phase illustration associated with a cerebral cortex representing a higher brain, the commitment phase illustration comprising three commitment steps: a demonstration of mature personal boundary use, a mature intellectual function use toward joint life&#39;s goals between self and an other, and a constructive and mature decision making ability in self and other resulting in a decision to commit to one another;  
      using a combined illustration of the brain stem, midbrain, an cerebral cortex together comprising the three brains of Mr. Right and alternately the three brains of Ms. Right, an ideal mate for a user of the system; and  
      using at least one visual illustration of recommended remedies for faults inherent in relationships.  
      The visual psychoanalytic unification system is designed to teach, coach and deliver therapy for personal growth, character growth, relationship analysis and corrective advice and called “Mind OS”, “mind operating system,” and its specific use as a system of analysis of dating, mating sequence and relationship analysis is termed “Dating OS,” or “dating operating system,” called “the 3 brains problem-solving system.” The subject mind operating system has incorporated within it, an original system of personality identification and treatment called “KWML” (King, Warrior, Magician, Lover).  
      The user&#39;s mastering these four character components and the ends of their spectra of function leads the user to solutions to any personal problem involving psychology, and to durable fulfillment, which is a summation of durability, happiness, success and freedom. Also the illustrations of emotional energy is shown as an emotional energy spectrum, including a negative emotional energy spectrum and a position emotional energy spectrum, the intellectual data use shown as an intellectual data use spectrum and decision-making shown as a decision-making spectrum.  
      The dating operating system which includes three “brains” as symbolic of functional strategies that must be undergone by a user in the human mating sequence include an Attraction Phase, followed by a Bonding in Friendship Phase, followed by a Commitment Phase.  
      The Attraction Phase includes a communication and appeal by a user to a another person&#39;s brainstem/“reptilian brain” sexual attraction mechanism, via display of beauty, followed by demonstration of ability to elevate a man&#39;s Rank, Territory, or Power (“Alpha-male status”), followed by the creation of a contest for the person to win the user&#39;s attention against others, or over the user&#39;s testing that impedes sexual advance.  
      The Bonding in Friendship Phase includes a communication and appeal by a user to a another person&#39;s midbrain/“mammalian brain” emotional attraction mechanism, via demonstration of mastery of anger use, followed by mastery of anxiety use and followed by mastery of personality match in friendship proving effective teamwork collaboration.  
      The Commitment Phase includes a communication, decision, and effort by a user to another person&#39;s cerebral cortex/“Higher brain” intellectual attraction mechanism, via demonstration of mastery of Personal Boundary use, mastery of joining belief systems toward mutual Life&#39;s Goals, and mastery of constructive decision-making to commit to a contract of exclusivity with a partner, completing a process of building a relationship with a sexually-attracted Lover in bonded Friendship, as a committed Partner, which in the context of a unique, shared story, comprises what is defined in said dating operating system is called “Mr. Right” or alternately “Ms. Right”.  
      The present method of visual psychoanalysis, the visual method used to help a person view and master four parts of a human psyche, dating, a human mating sequence, and relationship analysis and corrective measure function, comprises:  
      drawing a circle for illustrating a personal boundary, said personal boundary representing a surrounding of a person&#39;s self;  
      illustrating a person&#39;s emotional energy and shown inside the circle;  
      illustrating a person&#39;s intellectual data use and shown inside the circle;  
      illustrating a person&#39;s decision-making and shown inside the circle; and  
      illustrating three sequential phases of courtship in an attraction phase, a bonding in friendship phase, and a commitment phase with three sequential steps each as detailed in said illustrations, and simultaneously comprising a shared story that sustains and engenders faith, belief, trust, respect, and communication in forming a mutual durable romantic relationship comprised of mutual functional lover, friend, and partner status in self for other and other for self;  
      whereby a mastery of sexual attraction, emotional attraction, intellectual attraction, the personal boundary, emotional energy, intellectual data use and decision-making is illustrated leading to corresponding rewards of lover status, friend status, partner status, durability, happiness, success and freedom, the mastery of the these four character components leading to individual and relationship durable fulfillment, which is the summation of durability, happiness, success and freedom for each individual, and lover, friend, and partner status, termed Mr. Right status and alternately Ms. Right, for individuals in a couple.  
      The visual method further comprises a step of illustrating observing ego, the observing ego representing a person viewing oneself, the observing ego shown outside the circle and an additional step of illustrating a person&#39;s environment, the environment shown outside the circle.  
      The visual method further comprises a step of illustrating emotional energy as an emotional energy spectrum, the emotional energy spectrum including a negative emotional energy spectrum and a positive emotional energy spectrum, wherein opposite ends of the negative emotional energy spectrum include anxiety at one end, anger at an opposite end and neutrality in a middle as a balance between the two ends, and wherein opposite ends of said positive emotional energy spectrum include confidence at one end, well-being at an opposite end and self-esteem in a middle as a balance between the two ends, self-esteem shown leading to happiness.  
      The visual method further comprises a step of illustrating intellectual data use as an intellectual data use spectrum, wherein the intellectual data use spectrum having opposite ends with right-brain experience at one end, left-brain education at an opposite end and genius in a middle as a balance between the two ends, striving for genius shown leading to success.  
      The visual method further comprises the step of illustrating decision-making as a decision-making spectrum, wherein the decision-making spectrum having opposite ends with conscience at one end, intuition at the opposite end and wisdom in a middle as a balance between the two ends, wisdom shown leading to freedom.  
      It is understood that the preceding description is given merely by way of illustration and not in limitation of the invention and that various modifications may be made thereto without departing from the spirit of the invention as claimed.