Court Opinion

ID: 9536218
Source: CourtListenerOpinion
Date Created: 2023-08-07 06:56:23.688482+00
Date Added: 2024-06-11T13:33:29.307917
License: Public Domain

McInturff, J.
—Ralph E. Little appeals a decree awarding custody of the parties' two younger children to his former wife.
Ralph and Mary Little were married in November 1961 and have four children: John, age 17; Leah, age 16; Christopher, age 6; and Michelle, age 4. In July 1978 Mrs. Little petitioned for a dissolution of marriage. A decree of dissolution was entered in March 1979. At that time the trial court did not enter a permanent custody decree even though it found that both parents were fit. This hesitancy, among other things, related! to Mrs. Little's leaving the Spokane area to study liturgical music in Washington, D.C., and the fact that she planned to marry Mr. Little's cousin, who resided in the Washington, D.C., area, as soon as he *816obtained a divorce from his wife.1 Instead, the court awarded Mr. Little the "temporary custody" of the children pending a future decision to be made in 6 months. Three-fourths of a year later, the court awarded Mr. Little custody of the two older children and Mrs. Little, who now has remarried and resides in the Washington, D.C., area, custody of the two younger children.
Mr. Little contends that such an award is an abuse of discretion because it destroys the existing relationships the younger children have with their older brother and sister, their father, and their extended family, contrary to the children's welfare as well as legislative and judicial philosophy directed toward preservation of the family unit.2
*817A child's welfare is the paramount consideration in child custody proceedings. In re Becker, 87 Wn.2d 470, 477-78, 553 P.2d 1339 (1976); Lundin v. Lundin, 42 Wn.2d 186, 187, 254 P.2d 460 (1953); Rickard v. Rickard, 7 Wn. App. 907, 910, 503 P.2d 763 (1972). To achieve this end, the trial court is vested with considerable flexibility and its decision is viewed by an appellate court with deference (In re Marriage of Nicholson, 17 Wn. App. 110, 111, 561 P.2d 1116 (1977); Rehak v. Rehak, 1 Wn. App. 963, 964-65, 465 P.2d 687 (1970)), provided the trial court has substantially applied the criteria enumerated in RCW 26.09.1903 and there is substantial evidence to support its findings. As the courts have wisely observed, when the mother and father are separated beyond the possibility of reconciliation, separation of the children is an added tragedy. Tuter v. Tuter, 120 S.W.2d 203 (Mo. App. 1938). For the welfare of the children, they should be allowed to grow up together in one household, sharing joys, and sorrows and benefiting from those ties of affection which they were intended by nature to enjoy. Fisher v. Fisher, 207 S.W. 261 (Mo. App. 1918).
The stability the Little children had known was destroyed by their parents' divorce. This situation was exacerbated by the court's failure to rule on the question of custody at the time it entered the decree of dissolution. The initial "temporary custody order" thus continued the unstabilizing effect of the parents' separation beyond that *818contemplated by the legislature.4 RCW 26.09.050.5 The statute imposes heavy responsibilities and often necessitates difficult decisions. Nevertheless, the court is under a clear and compelling duty to decide the question of custody between contending parents. The welfare of the children demands a prompt resolution with some measure of permanency.
While it may be appealing to temporize a difficult custody decision, the court must act to protect the child from contentious parents. To this end, the legislature has restricted the court's power to modify a prior custody decree. RCW 26.09.260 provides:
(1) The court shall not modify a prior custody decree unless it finds, upon the basis of facts that have arisen since the prior decree or that were unknown to the court at the time of the prior decree, that a change has occurred in the circumstances of the child or his custodian and that the modification is necessary to serve the best interests of the child. In applying these standards the court shall retain the custodian established by the prior decree unless:
(a) The custodian agrees to the modification;
(b) The child has been integrated into the family of the petitioner with the consent of the custodian; or
(c) The child's present environment is detrimental to his physical, mental, or emotional health and the harm likely to be caused by a change of environment is outweighed by the advantage of a change to the child.
*819Substance must prevail over form. Notwithstanding custody of the Little children being designated as temporary, they were integrated into their father's home and were invited to rely upon the stabilizing influences of their father and extended family.6 The court's actions were well intentioned, but contrary to the welfare of the children. To place the children in a state of limbo and then subsequently separate them to opposite ends of the country is contrary to the legislative mandate of RCW 26.09.260, unsupported by the record, and therefore an abuse of discretion.
The modification is vacated and the matter is remanded to the Superior Court for entry of a decree in accordance with this opinion.
Munson, J., concurs.

The court stated:
"When this matter was before me before, Mrs. Hurley was in a period of such transition that it was detrimental to the children to put those children with her. There was substantial question on the part of the Court as to whether or not her hoped-for marriage with Mr. Hurley would take place. Her status as to her true intentions, insofar as her pursuits, was in' doubt, and the Court felt that it was irresponsible to award custody to her at that time."

See, e.g., RCW 13.34.020, which provides:
"The legislature declares that the family unit is a fundamental resource of American life which should be nurtured. Toward the continuance of this principle, the legislature declares that the family unit should remain intact in the absence of compelling evidence to the contrary." See also In re Hansen, 24 Wn. App. 27, 599 P.2d 1304 (1979).
In Rickard v. Rickard, 7 Wn. App. 907, 503 P.2d 763 (1972), the court observed at page 911:
"Courts in nearly all the states have stated that divided custody should be avoided if possible and it will not be approved except under very exceptional circumstances because it is generally considered to be not in the best interests of the children." Annot., 98 A.L.R.2d 926 (1964); 24 Am. Jur. 2d Divorce and Dissolution § 799 (1966).
See also Tuter v. Tuter, 120 S.W.2d 203, 206 (Mo. App. 1938); Accord, Fisher v. Fisher, 207 S.W. 261, 262 (Mo. App. 1918), wherein the court stated:
for the welfare of these children they should grow up together as brother and sisters, in one household, and be permitted to share in common their childish joys and sorrows and to have the full benefit of those natural ties of affection and interest which, as the offspring of the same parents, they were intended by nature to enjoy, and which they would have enjoyed had it not been for the unfortunate circumstances which brought about the permanent separation of their father and mother.

RCW 26.09.190 states:
"Child custody—Relevant factors in awarding custody. The court shall determine custody in accordance with the best interests of the child. The court shall consider all relevant factors including:
"(1) The wishes of the child's parent or parents as to his custody and as to visitation privileges;
"(2) The wishes of the child as to his custodian and as to visitation privileges;
"(3) The interaction and interrelationship of the child with his parent or parents, his siblings, and any other person who may significantly affect the child's best interests;
"(4) The child's adjustment to his home, school, and community; and
"(5) The mental and physical health of all individuals involved.
"The court shall not consider conduct of a proposed guardian that does not affect the welfare of the child."

The court stated:
"I don't know another case I've handled that I have considered more, in terms of that initial order. It would have been a lot simpler to have made the decision then. But Mrs. Hurley didn't really give me a chance to make that kind of decision then. We, in effect, had to try custody twice.
"I'm not sure I'll do that again. It's rather difficult.”

RCW 26.09.050:
"In entering a decree of dissolution of marriage, legal separation, or declaration of invalidity, the court shall consider, approve, or make provision for child custody and visitation, the support of any child of the marriage entitled to support, the maintenance of either spouse, and the disposition of property and liabilities of the parties."

In the Spokane area the children have on the father's side two uncles, one aunt, and both grandparents, as well as cousins. The first court-ordered home study described the import of the extended family relationships on the children as follows: "all of the relatives are very supportive of this family and give a lot of contact to them."