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50570t

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Inherited a house I didn't know about and now dad wants me to sign it over to him so he can "set up a trust fund"...any advice appreciated (x-post from r/personal finance) A little background: I will be 30 years old next week, and I live in an apartment with my 31 year old brother. We both still have a lot of student loan debt and other expenses, but we manage to get by. Five years ago, our mother died of cancer. My dad, who I used to be very close with, suddenly became like a whole different person (as sometimes happens following a tragedy), and a year after mom dies he starts dating this other woman. They move very quickly, planning a trip to Europe within a couple weeks of meeting one another, and within six months he's basically moved in with her. At this point, my brother and I were still living at home trying to save some money while paying off some our college loans (I was 26 and bro was 27), and suddenly dad wants us to move out ASAP so he can sell the house. I found out much later that she was the one pulling the strings and urging him to kick us out, that we were just "freeloaders" (even though we were giving dad as much money as we could afford a month to help with expenses while still saving/paying down debt). Sidenote: she has been divorced 3 times now, dad will be her 4th marriage. Red flag. So that's what we do. I find a nice apartment within our price range and we move out. So now it's 3 years later, my dad is ready to marry this woman in 3 weeks, and I get a call out of the blue from him (we rarely speak even though both my brother and I are in the wedding). Turns out one of the houses (he has two) dad rents out in Louisiana (we live in MA) was actually in my mom's name and my brother and I's name, meaning that when she died 5 years ago, we inherited it. This is the first I've heard of it. So his reason for the call was to tell us that he wants to "save us the headache of dealing with a house" and instead set up a trust fund with the money from the house, but in order to do so, we have to sign the house over to him before the wedding, and he wants us to meet with him and a lawyer within the next week or so. I will admit I'm pretty ignorant to stuff of this nature since I've never had to deal with it before, so at first glance I didn't question this and told him okay, that's nice, because I really don't want to deal with a house either. I didn't really think more about it until this morning when I mentioned it to a couple of my coworkers and they were like "whooaa wait a minute, you guys are over 30, why would you need a trust fund when you should just get the money?" They also know the ongoing dramatic saga that has been my relationship with my father over the last 5 years, so they told me it sounded like him and his fiance want the money before the wedding. I don't know what to think. Is there something I'm missing? What questions should I be asking? I really don't want to destroy whatever is left of my relationship with my father if I can avoid it, but I also don't want to throw away the possibility of finally being able to pay down our debt and live a more comfortable life. I've been dreaming about not living paycheck to paycheck for years.

d71g8pg

d71kuzv

Please don't talk to your father anymore about this until you consult with an attorney. They can guide you in this. You have THREE properties that you and your brother should have AT LEAST majority control of. There is a lot of money on the line. To discuss it anymore with him or his attorney without talking with your own is a mistake. There is a great deal of risk and money on the line here. Also, your father sounds like a scum bag. You didn't and will not hurt your relationship. He did. Consider trying to transform these properties into a continual residual income. It could really transform your life allowing you to not be in a position of debt any more AND possibly having a survivable income for you and your brother.

Quality Bob Ross reference. If you have a reason to believe you inherited something that the executor did not inform you of, your next step is to contact your own lawyer before you respond to anyone else, even your father. There are a bunch of complicated elements in play - not least that your father may be lying about the house being yours - and, at this point, it falls on you to look out for your own interests. Hire a professional to represent you, and refer any further correspondence to your lawyer. The good news is, if you really _did_ inherit a house, you can now afford the lawyer you need to sort out your father's poor life choices. Once you're certain the house exists and that it belongs to you, you can likely use it to secure a line of credit to pay for legal representation. You may also be able to negotiate a payment plan with your lawyer. I can imagine no reason why you should place your property in trust to yourself, administered by someone else. How's your brother handling this? As you have a shared interest in the house, you may want to discuss (with your lawyer, and with him) whether you should work together to untangle this mess.

50570t

legaladvice_train

Inherited a house I didn't know about and now dad wants me to sign it over to him so he can "set up a trust fund"...any advice appreciated (x-post from r/personal finance) A little background: I will be 30 years old next week, and I live in an apartment with my 31 year old brother. We both still have a lot of student loan debt and other expenses, but we manage to get by. Five years ago, our mother died of cancer. My dad, who I used to be very close with, suddenly became like a whole different person (as sometimes happens following a tragedy), and a year after mom dies he starts dating this other woman. They move very quickly, planning a trip to Europe within a couple weeks of meeting one another, and within six months he's basically moved in with her. At this point, my brother and I were still living at home trying to save some money while paying off some our college loans (I was 26 and bro was 27), and suddenly dad wants us to move out ASAP so he can sell the house. I found out much later that she was the one pulling the strings and urging him to kick us out, that we were just "freeloaders" (even though we were giving dad as much money as we could afford a month to help with expenses while still saving/paying down debt). Sidenote: she has been divorced 3 times now, dad will be her 4th marriage. Red flag. So that's what we do. I find a nice apartment within our price range and we move out. So now it's 3 years later, my dad is ready to marry this woman in 3 weeks, and I get a call out of the blue from him (we rarely speak even though both my brother and I are in the wedding). Turns out one of the houses (he has two) dad rents out in Louisiana (we live in MA) was actually in my mom's name and my brother and I's name, meaning that when she died 5 years ago, we inherited it. This is the first I've heard of it. So his reason for the call was to tell us that he wants to "save us the headache of dealing with a house" and instead set up a trust fund with the money from the house, but in order to do so, we have to sign the house over to him before the wedding, and he wants us to meet with him and a lawyer within the next week or so. I will admit I'm pretty ignorant to stuff of this nature since I've never had to deal with it before, so at first glance I didn't question this and told him okay, that's nice, because I really don't want to deal with a house either. I didn't really think more about it until this morning when I mentioned it to a couple of my coworkers and they were like "whooaa wait a minute, you guys are over 30, why would you need a trust fund when you should just get the money?" They also know the ongoing dramatic saga that has been my relationship with my father over the last 5 years, so they told me it sounded like him and his fiance want the money before the wedding. I don't know what to think. Is there something I'm missing? What questions should I be asking? I really don't want to destroy whatever is left of my relationship with my father if I can avoid it, but I also don't want to throw away the possibility of finally being able to pay down our debt and live a more comfortable life. I've been dreaming about not living paycheck to paycheck for years.

d71kuzv

d71gh69

Quality Bob Ross reference. If you have a reason to believe you inherited something that the executor did not inform you of, your next step is to contact your own lawyer before you respond to anyone else, even your father. There are a bunch of complicated elements in play - not least that your father may be lying about the house being yours - and, at this point, it falls on you to look out for your own interests. Hire a professional to represent you, and refer any further correspondence to your lawyer. The good news is, if you really _did_ inherit a house, you can now afford the lawyer you need to sort out your father's poor life choices. Once you're certain the house exists and that it belongs to you, you can likely use it to secure a line of credit to pay for legal representation. You may also be able to negotiate a payment plan with your lawyer. I can imagine no reason why you should place your property in trust to yourself, administered by someone else. How's your brother handling this? As you have a shared interest in the house, you may want to discuss (with your lawyer, and with him) whether you should work together to untangle this mess.

I see you crossposted. You need a lawyer. You can't afford to not have one.

a0wrzk

legaladvice_train

My teenage daughter's friend is staying with us, CPS has been called on her parents. Her mom is a hoarder and the house is unlivable. What do I need to do legally? My daughter is 17, her friend will be 18 in 6 months. I'll call the friend Nancy. This weekend Nancy came to stay with us because her extended family was holding an "intervention". Nancy had called an aunt who lives in another city and told her there was mold, insects, and feces in the house, and now that it's getting cold Nancy can't sleep with the windows open to mitigate the smell. Dad is an alcoholic, but functional. He does nothing about the hoarding, but he does work and provide for the family financially. There was no professional involved in this intervention. The family told Nancy's mom that a company was going to come today and clean everything out of the house, and she had from then (Saturday) to today to put anything she wanted to keep in boxes and remove them. Yesterday Nancy's mom called the police and told them anyone that came today to take her stuff would be "escorted off her property." Her family then called CPS. I have a friendly relationship with Nancy's mom and she texted my husband and I this weekend to say thanks for letting Nancy stay with us. I texted her today to see if she will meet me for coffee so we can talk. Have not heard back. Do I need to contact CPS and let them know Nancy is staying with us? Is there anything I can do to help Nancy be able to keep staying with us? I don't want her to be forced to move back home if she doesn't want to, or be forced to move in with relatives out of town and have to change schools, on top of all the chaos she's been living in. She's a great kid and my daughter's best friend. Her mom is in complete denial and is currently decluttering, as though that's all that needs to be done. It sounds like the house needs to be gutted down to the studs and even the sub floors need to be torn out and replaced. I know a family lawyer and can hire them if I need to.

eanl8i5

ec1yple

I'd recommend looking online for temporary guardianship forms and having one with you if to do manage to meet with either of Nancy's parents. If they'll sign it willingly, it gives you a leg up in the process, and legally clears you to take Nancy to the doctor, sign school permission slips, etc. Note that this does not override their natural rights as parents, so it's still best if CPS formally places Nancy with you, but the form can be a helpful interim measure while the formal paperwork is getting worked out, and it documents their trust in you and willingness to have you watch over Nancy. I am not a lawyer but have used temporary guardianship forms regularly when my kids are traveling with other people or we're watching someone else's child.

Thanks for doing that for her. I moved in with my friend's family in high school and I still go see them every week and spend the holidays with them. I don't know how I would have even made it without the stability they provided for me.

a0wrzk

legaladvice_train

My teenage daughter's friend is staying with us, CPS has been called on her parents. Her mom is a hoarder and the house is unlivable. What do I need to do legally? My daughter is 17, her friend will be 18 in 6 months. I'll call the friend Nancy. This weekend Nancy came to stay with us because her extended family was holding an "intervention". Nancy had called an aunt who lives in another city and told her there was mold, insects, and feces in the house, and now that it's getting cold Nancy can't sleep with the windows open to mitigate the smell. Dad is an alcoholic, but functional. He does nothing about the hoarding, but he does work and provide for the family financially. There was no professional involved in this intervention. The family told Nancy's mom that a company was going to come today and clean everything out of the house, and she had from then (Saturday) to today to put anything she wanted to keep in boxes and remove them. Yesterday Nancy's mom called the police and told them anyone that came today to take her stuff would be "escorted off her property." Her family then called CPS. I have a friendly relationship with Nancy's mom and she texted my husband and I this weekend to say thanks for letting Nancy stay with us. I texted her today to see if she will meet me for coffee so we can talk. Have not heard back. Do I need to contact CPS and let them know Nancy is staying with us? Is there anything I can do to help Nancy be able to keep staying with us? I don't want her to be forced to move back home if she doesn't want to, or be forced to move in with relatives out of town and have to change schools, on top of all the chaos she's been living in. She's a great kid and my daughter's best friend. Her mom is in complete denial and is currently decluttering, as though that's all that needs to be done. It sounds like the house needs to be gutted down to the studs and even the sub floors need to be torn out and replaced. I know a family lawyer and can hire them if I need to.

eand85p

ec1yple

I'm gonna have to say inform CPS, it's important for them to have information relevant to the child's whereabouts while conducting any investigation. Considering the state of her Mom's home and that her Mom is seemingly supportive of it, and that she's 6 months away from being an adult, I highly doubt they'll have any problem with it. So contacting them will be in both hers and your best interests, you may want to see about a consultation with your family lawyer just to be on the safe side though. My biggest recommendation would honestly be to see what the plans are for her when she turns 18.

Thanks for doing that for her. I moved in with my friend's family in high school and I still go see them every week and spend the holidays with them. I don't know how I would have even made it without the stability they provided for me.

a0wrzk

legaladvice_train

My teenage daughter's friend is staying with us, CPS has been called on her parents. Her mom is a hoarder and the house is unlivable. What do I need to do legally? My daughter is 17, her friend will be 18 in 6 months. I'll call the friend Nancy. This weekend Nancy came to stay with us because her extended family was holding an "intervention". Nancy had called an aunt who lives in another city and told her there was mold, insects, and feces in the house, and now that it's getting cold Nancy can't sleep with the windows open to mitigate the smell. Dad is an alcoholic, but functional. He does nothing about the hoarding, but he does work and provide for the family financially. There was no professional involved in this intervention. The family told Nancy's mom that a company was going to come today and clean everything out of the house, and she had from then (Saturday) to today to put anything she wanted to keep in boxes and remove them. Yesterday Nancy's mom called the police and told them anyone that came today to take her stuff would be "escorted off her property." Her family then called CPS. I have a friendly relationship with Nancy's mom and she texted my husband and I this weekend to say thanks for letting Nancy stay with us. I texted her today to see if she will meet me for coffee so we can talk. Have not heard back. Do I need to contact CPS and let them know Nancy is staying with us? Is there anything I can do to help Nancy be able to keep staying with us? I don't want her to be forced to move back home if she doesn't want to, or be forced to move in with relatives out of town and have to change schools, on top of all the chaos she's been living in. She's a great kid and my daughter's best friend. Her mom is in complete denial and is currently decluttering, as though that's all that needs to be done. It sounds like the house needs to be gutted down to the studs and even the sub floors need to be torn out and replaced. I know a family lawyer and can hire them if I need to.

eanl8i5

eand85p

I'd recommend looking online for temporary guardianship forms and having one with you if to do manage to meet with either of Nancy's parents. If they'll sign it willingly, it gives you a leg up in the process, and legally clears you to take Nancy to the doctor, sign school permission slips, etc. Note that this does not override their natural rights as parents, so it's still best if CPS formally places Nancy with you, but the form can be a helpful interim measure while the formal paperwork is getting worked out, and it documents their trust in you and willingness to have you watch over Nancy. I am not a lawyer but have used temporary guardianship forms regularly when my kids are traveling with other people or we're watching someone else's child.

I'm gonna have to say inform CPS, it's important for them to have information relevant to the child's whereabouts while conducting any investigation. Considering the state of her Mom's home and that her Mom is seemingly supportive of it, and that she's 6 months away from being an adult, I highly doubt they'll have any problem with it. So contacting them will be in both hers and your best interests, you may want to see about a consultation with your family lawyer just to be on the safe side though. My biggest recommendation would honestly be to see what the plans are for her when she turns 18.

wlqw55

legaladvice_train

My friend who is staying with me has not returned her UHaul.. I have a friend I've known for a few months now who recently got in a situation with her apartment complex (it's a long story, I will not go into it here as it is not relevant to the post) and her and her roommate were evicted. They had 3 days to obtain all of their belongings and move. On the second day of packing, they had found a house, and rented a UHaul. It is currently parked in front of my house. Well, the house fell through. She has been looking every day since, however it is not easy. Houses here go quick, and sometimes the house you're looking at is gone before your application is even processed. I received a call this morning, because she put me down as I think a reference or contact for uhaul, and the trailer was supposed to be returned a few days ago. It's parked in front of my house. Uhaul called me and told me she needed to return it, or I could never rent from uhaul again. I'm not so worried about that, although it probably will be a pain on my ass somewhere in the future, I feel lile that is the least of my concerns. I was under the imoression she had talked to uhaul and was just paying out the ass every day to hold the trailer, and clearly thats not the case. Obviously not returning the uhaul is wrong, the next customer, all that. But is this a crime? Are they going to report it stolen? If so how long does she have? And could I be in trouble because of this? I'm obviously going to try to convince her to get a storage unit or find someone she can store her belongings with, however, I've learned you can't really make grown people do anything, so if she decided to play chicken with uhaul, what's going to happen?

ijv2o6s

ijuyit1

I worked for Uhaul for many years. This isn't legal advice so much at insight on what they'll do. After they consider it stolen (usually a week after the due date has passed or after they can no longer establish communication with your friend) they'll send someone to both the address she rented it with and the one she said she was moving too. This is assuming it was a local rental and not one-way. If they spot it, they'll come to get it. The marketing company I worked under would send one of us to recover it, usually with one of the leads. If it was a truck, we'd bring the spare key and take it. If it was a trailer and it was unhooked and sitting there, we'd come with another truck and take it. We'd usually have a police escort but there were several times I just came up and took it. If your friends stuff is in the truck/trailer, U-Haul will store it and charge her. She will have to pay to retrieve it and if she doesn't, after the allotted time by law they have to hold it passes, they'll auction it off. Both you and her will be banned from ever renting from U-Haul again. I never saw them once try and press charges against anyone who didn't return equipment though.

Your friend needs to go get a storage unit and put an their shit in there for the time being, then return it. They could report it stolen and your friend could get into legal trouble, and they are probably already going to get sued for the extra days of rent. You probably will not be in any criminal trouble unless there's something else we don't know. For example its not hitched to your vehicle is it? Pretty easy to claim you were the one stealing it in that case.

wlqw55

legaladvice_train

My friend who is staying with me has not returned her UHaul.. I have a friend I've known for a few months now who recently got in a situation with her apartment complex (it's a long story, I will not go into it here as it is not relevant to the post) and her and her roommate were evicted. They had 3 days to obtain all of their belongings and move. On the second day of packing, they had found a house, and rented a UHaul. It is currently parked in front of my house. Well, the house fell through. She has been looking every day since, however it is not easy. Houses here go quick, and sometimes the house you're looking at is gone before your application is even processed. I received a call this morning, because she put me down as I think a reference or contact for uhaul, and the trailer was supposed to be returned a few days ago. It's parked in front of my house. Uhaul called me and told me she needed to return it, or I could never rent from uhaul again. I'm not so worried about that, although it probably will be a pain on my ass somewhere in the future, I feel lile that is the least of my concerns. I was under the imoression she had talked to uhaul and was just paying out the ass every day to hold the trailer, and clearly thats not the case. Obviously not returning the uhaul is wrong, the next customer, all that. But is this a crime? Are they going to report it stolen? If so how long does she have? And could I be in trouble because of this? I'm obviously going to try to convince her to get a storage unit or find someone she can store her belongings with, however, I've learned you can't really make grown people do anything, so if she decided to play chicken with uhaul, what's going to happen?

ijv2o6s

ijuoz6g

I worked for Uhaul for many years. This isn't legal advice so much at insight on what they'll do. After they consider it stolen (usually a week after the due date has passed or after they can no longer establish communication with your friend) they'll send someone to both the address she rented it with and the one she said she was moving too. This is assuming it was a local rental and not one-way. If they spot it, they'll come to get it. The marketing company I worked under would send one of us to recover it, usually with one of the leads. If it was a truck, we'd bring the spare key and take it. If it was a trailer and it was unhooked and sitting there, we'd come with another truck and take it. We'd usually have a police escort but there were several times I just came up and took it. If your friends stuff is in the truck/trailer, U-Haul will store it and charge her. She will have to pay to retrieve it and if she doesn't, after the allotted time by law they have to hold it passes, they'll auction it off. Both you and her will be banned from ever renting from U-Haul again. I never saw them once try and press charges against anyone who didn't return equipment though.

Only if she hides it. Just tell uhaul where it is so they can come and get it

wlqw55

legaladvice_train

My friend who is staying with me has not returned her UHaul.. I have a friend I've known for a few months now who recently got in a situation with her apartment complex (it's a long story, I will not go into it here as it is not relevant to the post) and her and her roommate were evicted. They had 3 days to obtain all of their belongings and move. On the second day of packing, they had found a house, and rented a UHaul. It is currently parked in front of my house. Well, the house fell through. She has been looking every day since, however it is not easy. Houses here go quick, and sometimes the house you're looking at is gone before your application is even processed. I received a call this morning, because she put me down as I think a reference or contact for uhaul, and the trailer was supposed to be returned a few days ago. It's parked in front of my house. Uhaul called me and told me she needed to return it, or I could never rent from uhaul again. I'm not so worried about that, although it probably will be a pain on my ass somewhere in the future, I feel lile that is the least of my concerns. I was under the imoression she had talked to uhaul and was just paying out the ass every day to hold the trailer, and clearly thats not the case. Obviously not returning the uhaul is wrong, the next customer, all that. But is this a crime? Are they going to report it stolen? If so how long does she have? And could I be in trouble because of this? I'm obviously going to try to convince her to get a storage unit or find someone she can store her belongings with, however, I've learned you can't really make grown people do anything, so if she decided to play chicken with uhaul, what's going to happen?

ijuz30e

ijv2o6s

I’ve had clients in the past charged with theft after keeping a rental vehicle beyond the designated return date and ghosting Hertz, Enterprise, etc. Your friend should be aware that she could get criminally charged. As far as your liability, don’t lie to U-Haul but make it clear that you did not rent the trailer. You may also want to let them know in writing that you didn’t agree to be a co-signer on the rental.

I worked for Uhaul for many years. This isn't legal advice so much at insight on what they'll do. After they consider it stolen (usually a week after the due date has passed or after they can no longer establish communication with your friend) they'll send someone to both the address she rented it with and the one she said she was moving too. This is assuming it was a local rental and not one-way. If they spot it, they'll come to get it. The marketing company I worked under would send one of us to recover it, usually with one of the leads. If it was a truck, we'd bring the spare key and take it. If it was a trailer and it was unhooked and sitting there, we'd come with another truck and take it. We'd usually have a police escort but there were several times I just came up and took it. If your friends stuff is in the truck/trailer, U-Haul will store it and charge her. She will have to pay to retrieve it and if she doesn't, after the allotted time by law they have to hold it passes, they'll auction it off. Both you and her will be banned from ever renting from U-Haul again. I never saw them once try and press charges against anyone who didn't return equipment though.

wlqw55

legaladvice_train

My friend who is staying with me has not returned her UHaul.. I have a friend I've known for a few months now who recently got in a situation with her apartment complex (it's a long story, I will not go into it here as it is not relevant to the post) and her and her roommate were evicted. They had 3 days to obtain all of their belongings and move. On the second day of packing, they had found a house, and rented a UHaul. It is currently parked in front of my house. Well, the house fell through. She has been looking every day since, however it is not easy. Houses here go quick, and sometimes the house you're looking at is gone before your application is even processed. I received a call this morning, because she put me down as I think a reference or contact for uhaul, and the trailer was supposed to be returned a few days ago. It's parked in front of my house. Uhaul called me and told me she needed to return it, or I could never rent from uhaul again. I'm not so worried about that, although it probably will be a pain on my ass somewhere in the future, I feel lile that is the least of my concerns. I was under the imoression she had talked to uhaul and was just paying out the ass every day to hold the trailer, and clearly thats not the case. Obviously not returning the uhaul is wrong, the next customer, all that. But is this a crime? Are they going to report it stolen? If so how long does she have? And could I be in trouble because of this? I'm obviously going to try to convince her to get a storage unit or find someone she can store her belongings with, however, I've learned you can't really make grown people do anything, so if she decided to play chicken with uhaul, what's going to happen?

ijupx0y

ijv2o6s

It’s a contracts issue. They rented for a period and she is in breach by not returning it. Eventually uhaul will come looking to repossess it. You can let them know where it is.

I worked for Uhaul for many years. This isn't legal advice so much at insight on what they'll do. After they consider it stolen (usually a week after the due date has passed or after they can no longer establish communication with your friend) they'll send someone to both the address she rented it with and the one she said she was moving too. This is assuming it was a local rental and not one-way. If they spot it, they'll come to get it. The marketing company I worked under would send one of us to recover it, usually with one of the leads. If it was a truck, we'd bring the spare key and take it. If it was a trailer and it was unhooked and sitting there, we'd come with another truck and take it. We'd usually have a police escort but there were several times I just came up and took it. If your friends stuff is in the truck/trailer, U-Haul will store it and charge her. She will have to pay to retrieve it and if she doesn't, after the allotted time by law they have to hold it passes, they'll auction it off. Both you and her will be banned from ever renting from U-Haul again. I never saw them once try and press charges against anyone who didn't return equipment though.

wlqw55

legaladvice_train

My friend who is staying with me has not returned her UHaul.. I have a friend I've known for a few months now who recently got in a situation with her apartment complex (it's a long story, I will not go into it here as it is not relevant to the post) and her and her roommate were evicted. They had 3 days to obtain all of their belongings and move. On the second day of packing, they had found a house, and rented a UHaul. It is currently parked in front of my house. Well, the house fell through. She has been looking every day since, however it is not easy. Houses here go quick, and sometimes the house you're looking at is gone before your application is even processed. I received a call this morning, because she put me down as I think a reference or contact for uhaul, and the trailer was supposed to be returned a few days ago. It's parked in front of my house. Uhaul called me and told me she needed to return it, or I could never rent from uhaul again. I'm not so worried about that, although it probably will be a pain on my ass somewhere in the future, I feel lile that is the least of my concerns. I was under the imoression she had talked to uhaul and was just paying out the ass every day to hold the trailer, and clearly thats not the case. Obviously not returning the uhaul is wrong, the next customer, all that. But is this a crime? Are they going to report it stolen? If so how long does she have? And could I be in trouble because of this? I'm obviously going to try to convince her to get a storage unit or find someone she can store her belongings with, however, I've learned you can't really make grown people do anything, so if she decided to play chicken with uhaul, what's going to happen?

ijv2o6s

ijuuwyh

I worked for Uhaul for many years. This isn't legal advice so much at insight on what they'll do. After they consider it stolen (usually a week after the due date has passed or after they can no longer establish communication with your friend) they'll send someone to both the address she rented it with and the one she said she was moving too. This is assuming it was a local rental and not one-way. If they spot it, they'll come to get it. The marketing company I worked under would send one of us to recover it, usually with one of the leads. If it was a truck, we'd bring the spare key and take it. If it was a trailer and it was unhooked and sitting there, we'd come with another truck and take it. We'd usually have a police escort but there were several times I just came up and took it. If your friends stuff is in the truck/trailer, U-Haul will store it and charge her. She will have to pay to retrieve it and if she doesn't, after the allotted time by law they have to hold it passes, they'll auction it off. Both you and her will be banned from ever renting from U-Haul again. I never saw them once try and press charges against anyone who didn't return equipment though.

You didn't sign anything or agree to anything? It's parked on the street, not on your property? If both of those things are true, they can choose to ban you from renting from them, but you are not otherwise liable. However, they can name you as a defendant or sic the cops on you, albeit without justification, and that would be inconvenient and possibly costly. So you want the truck not in front of your house. One solution is to tell them it's there and tell her you told them. Then she can either deal with them or move it somewhere else.

wlqw55

legaladvice_train

My friend who is staying with me has not returned her UHaul.. I have a friend I've known for a few months now who recently got in a situation with her apartment complex (it's a long story, I will not go into it here as it is not relevant to the post) and her and her roommate were evicted. They had 3 days to obtain all of their belongings and move. On the second day of packing, they had found a house, and rented a UHaul. It is currently parked in front of my house. Well, the house fell through. She has been looking every day since, however it is not easy. Houses here go quick, and sometimes the house you're looking at is gone before your application is even processed. I received a call this morning, because she put me down as I think a reference or contact for uhaul, and the trailer was supposed to be returned a few days ago. It's parked in front of my house. Uhaul called me and told me she needed to return it, or I could never rent from uhaul again. I'm not so worried about that, although it probably will be a pain on my ass somewhere in the future, I feel lile that is the least of my concerns. I was under the imoression she had talked to uhaul and was just paying out the ass every day to hold the trailer, and clearly thats not the case. Obviously not returning the uhaul is wrong, the next customer, all that. But is this a crime? Are they going to report it stolen? If so how long does she have? And could I be in trouble because of this? I'm obviously going to try to convince her to get a storage unit or find someone she can store her belongings with, however, I've learned you can't really make grown people do anything, so if she decided to play chicken with uhaul, what's going to happen?

ijv13mx

ijv2o6s

Not a lawyer, but a former UHaul employee. UHaul does ask for the name and number of someone you do not live with. This gives them someone they can reach who knows how to reach the renter when they do not return the truck or trailer on time. Not a bad thing considering in the past when mobile phones were not a thing getting in touch with someone who is moving could be very difficult. Even today, if someone is keeping the unit past it's due date, they are likely dodging UHaul's calls to return it. Talking to your friend and not some faceless wage slave is usually much more difficult to dodge. As for the liability, I have never heard that and know of no way you could be held liable. This could be a manager frustrated their bonus could evaporate when the charge for a stolen trailer gets charged against thier numbers or some wage slave making stuff up to get you lean on your friend. They may have just gotten yelled at by the person who had the trailer reserved and now does not have a trailer thanks to your friend. Ask me why I loathe people who do not return rentals when they agreed to with hate of a thousand suns. Uhaul will send someone to get it. How soon depends on their staffing levels and how many people they are looking at refunding if they cannot get it back. Getting this back just takes staff a lot of time and is much more likely to happen on a weekday. If she waits for this to happen she stands a high chance of losing her stuff.

I worked for Uhaul for many years. This isn't legal advice so much at insight on what they'll do. After they consider it stolen (usually a week after the due date has passed or after they can no longer establish communication with your friend) they'll send someone to both the address she rented it with and the one she said she was moving too. This is assuming it was a local rental and not one-way. If they spot it, they'll come to get it. The marketing company I worked under would send one of us to recover it, usually with one of the leads. If it was a truck, we'd bring the spare key and take it. If it was a trailer and it was unhooked and sitting there, we'd come with another truck and take it. We'd usually have a police escort but there were several times I just came up and took it. If your friends stuff is in the truck/trailer, U-Haul will store it and charge her. She will have to pay to retrieve it and if she doesn't, after the allotted time by law they have to hold it passes, they'll auction it off. Both you and her will be banned from ever renting from U-Haul again. I never saw them once try and press charges against anyone who didn't return equipment though.

wlqw55

legaladvice_train

My friend who is staying with me has not returned her UHaul.. I have a friend I've known for a few months now who recently got in a situation with her apartment complex (it's a long story, I will not go into it here as it is not relevant to the post) and her and her roommate were evicted. They had 3 days to obtain all of their belongings and move. On the second day of packing, they had found a house, and rented a UHaul. It is currently parked in front of my house. Well, the house fell through. She has been looking every day since, however it is not easy. Houses here go quick, and sometimes the house you're looking at is gone before your application is even processed. I received a call this morning, because she put me down as I think a reference or contact for uhaul, and the trailer was supposed to be returned a few days ago. It's parked in front of my house. Uhaul called me and told me she needed to return it, or I could never rent from uhaul again. I'm not so worried about that, although it probably will be a pain on my ass somewhere in the future, I feel lile that is the least of my concerns. I was under the imoression she had talked to uhaul and was just paying out the ass every day to hold the trailer, and clearly thats not the case. Obviously not returning the uhaul is wrong, the next customer, all that. But is this a crime? Are they going to report it stolen? If so how long does she have? And could I be in trouble because of this? I'm obviously going to try to convince her to get a storage unit or find someone she can store her belongings with, however, I've learned you can't really make grown people do anything, so if she decided to play chicken with uhaul, what's going to happen?

ijuoz6g

ijuyit1

Only if she hides it. Just tell uhaul where it is so they can come and get it

Your friend needs to go get a storage unit and put an their shit in there for the time being, then return it. They could report it stolen and your friend could get into legal trouble, and they are probably already going to get sued for the extra days of rent. You probably will not be in any criminal trouble unless there's something else we don't know. For example its not hitched to your vehicle is it? Pretty easy to claim you were the one stealing it in that case.

wlqw55

legaladvice_train

My friend who is staying with me has not returned her UHaul.. I have a friend I've known for a few months now who recently got in a situation with her apartment complex (it's a long story, I will not go into it here as it is not relevant to the post) and her and her roommate were evicted. They had 3 days to obtain all of their belongings and move. On the second day of packing, they had found a house, and rented a UHaul. It is currently parked in front of my house. Well, the house fell through. She has been looking every day since, however it is not easy. Houses here go quick, and sometimes the house you're looking at is gone before your application is even processed. I received a call this morning, because she put me down as I think a reference or contact for uhaul, and the trailer was supposed to be returned a few days ago. It's parked in front of my house. Uhaul called me and told me she needed to return it, or I could never rent from uhaul again. I'm not so worried about that, although it probably will be a pain on my ass somewhere in the future, I feel lile that is the least of my concerns. I was under the imoression she had talked to uhaul and was just paying out the ass every day to hold the trailer, and clearly thats not the case. Obviously not returning the uhaul is wrong, the next customer, all that. But is this a crime? Are they going to report it stolen? If so how long does she have? And could I be in trouble because of this? I'm obviously going to try to convince her to get a storage unit or find someone she can store her belongings with, however, I've learned you can't really make grown people do anything, so if she decided to play chicken with uhaul, what's going to happen?

ijuyit1

ijupx0y

Your friend needs to go get a storage unit and put an their shit in there for the time being, then return it. They could report it stolen and your friend could get into legal trouble, and they are probably already going to get sued for the extra days of rent. You probably will not be in any criminal trouble unless there's something else we don't know. For example its not hitched to your vehicle is it? Pretty easy to claim you were the one stealing it in that case.

It’s a contracts issue. They rented for a period and she is in breach by not returning it. Eventually uhaul will come looking to repossess it. You can let them know where it is.

wlqw55

legaladvice_train

My friend who is staying with me has not returned her UHaul.. I have a friend I've known for a few months now who recently got in a situation with her apartment complex (it's a long story, I will not go into it here as it is not relevant to the post) and her and her roommate were evicted. They had 3 days to obtain all of their belongings and move. On the second day of packing, they had found a house, and rented a UHaul. It is currently parked in front of my house. Well, the house fell through. She has been looking every day since, however it is not easy. Houses here go quick, and sometimes the house you're looking at is gone before your application is even processed. I received a call this morning, because she put me down as I think a reference or contact for uhaul, and the trailer was supposed to be returned a few days ago. It's parked in front of my house. Uhaul called me and told me she needed to return it, or I could never rent from uhaul again. I'm not so worried about that, although it probably will be a pain on my ass somewhere in the future, I feel lile that is the least of my concerns. I was under the imoression she had talked to uhaul and was just paying out the ass every day to hold the trailer, and clearly thats not the case. Obviously not returning the uhaul is wrong, the next customer, all that. But is this a crime? Are they going to report it stolen? If so how long does she have? And could I be in trouble because of this? I'm obviously going to try to convince her to get a storage unit or find someone she can store her belongings with, however, I've learned you can't really make grown people do anything, so if she decided to play chicken with uhaul, what's going to happen?

ijuyit1

ijuuwyh

Your friend needs to go get a storage unit and put an their shit in there for the time being, then return it. They could report it stolen and your friend could get into legal trouble, and they are probably already going to get sued for the extra days of rent. You probably will not be in any criminal trouble unless there's something else we don't know. For example its not hitched to your vehicle is it? Pretty easy to claim you were the one stealing it in that case.

You didn't sign anything or agree to anything? It's parked on the street, not on your property? If both of those things are true, they can choose to ban you from renting from them, but you are not otherwise liable. However, they can name you as a defendant or sic the cops on you, albeit without justification, and that would be inconvenient and possibly costly. So you want the truck not in front of your house. One solution is to tell them it's there and tell her you told them. Then she can either deal with them or move it somewhere else.

wlqw55

legaladvice_train

My friend who is staying with me has not returned her UHaul.. I have a friend I've known for a few months now who recently got in a situation with her apartment complex (it's a long story, I will not go into it here as it is not relevant to the post) and her and her roommate were evicted. They had 3 days to obtain all of their belongings and move. On the second day of packing, they had found a house, and rented a UHaul. It is currently parked in front of my house. Well, the house fell through. She has been looking every day since, however it is not easy. Houses here go quick, and sometimes the house you're looking at is gone before your application is even processed. I received a call this morning, because she put me down as I think a reference or contact for uhaul, and the trailer was supposed to be returned a few days ago. It's parked in front of my house. Uhaul called me and told me she needed to return it, or I could never rent from uhaul again. I'm not so worried about that, although it probably will be a pain on my ass somewhere in the future, I feel lile that is the least of my concerns. I was under the imoression she had talked to uhaul and was just paying out the ass every day to hold the trailer, and clearly thats not the case. Obviously not returning the uhaul is wrong, the next customer, all that. But is this a crime? Are they going to report it stolen? If so how long does she have? And could I be in trouble because of this? I'm obviously going to try to convince her to get a storage unit or find someone she can store her belongings with, however, I've learned you can't really make grown people do anything, so if she decided to play chicken with uhaul, what's going to happen?

ijuz30e

ijupx0y

I’ve had clients in the past charged with theft after keeping a rental vehicle beyond the designated return date and ghosting Hertz, Enterprise, etc. Your friend should be aware that she could get criminally charged. As far as your liability, don’t lie to U-Haul but make it clear that you did not rent the trailer. You may also want to let them know in writing that you didn’t agree to be a co-signer on the rental.

It’s a contracts issue. They rented for a period and she is in breach by not returning it. Eventually uhaul will come looking to repossess it. You can let them know where it is.

wlqw55

legaladvice_train

My friend who is staying with me has not returned her UHaul.. I have a friend I've known for a few months now who recently got in a situation with her apartment complex (it's a long story, I will not go into it here as it is not relevant to the post) and her and her roommate were evicted. They had 3 days to obtain all of their belongings and move. On the second day of packing, they had found a house, and rented a UHaul. It is currently parked in front of my house. Well, the house fell through. She has been looking every day since, however it is not easy. Houses here go quick, and sometimes the house you're looking at is gone before your application is even processed. I received a call this morning, because she put me down as I think a reference or contact for uhaul, and the trailer was supposed to be returned a few days ago. It's parked in front of my house. Uhaul called me and told me she needed to return it, or I could never rent from uhaul again. I'm not so worried about that, although it probably will be a pain on my ass somewhere in the future, I feel lile that is the least of my concerns. I was under the imoression she had talked to uhaul and was just paying out the ass every day to hold the trailer, and clearly thats not the case. Obviously not returning the uhaul is wrong, the next customer, all that. But is this a crime? Are they going to report it stolen? If so how long does she have? And could I be in trouble because of this? I'm obviously going to try to convince her to get a storage unit or find someone she can store her belongings with, however, I've learned you can't really make grown people do anything, so if she decided to play chicken with uhaul, what's going to happen?

ijuz30e

ijuuwyh

I’ve had clients in the past charged with theft after keeping a rental vehicle beyond the designated return date and ghosting Hertz, Enterprise, etc. Your friend should be aware that she could get criminally charged. As far as your liability, don’t lie to U-Haul but make it clear that you did not rent the trailer. You may also want to let them know in writing that you didn’t agree to be a co-signer on the rental.

You didn't sign anything or agree to anything? It's parked on the street, not on your property? If both of those things are true, they can choose to ban you from renting from them, but you are not otherwise liable. However, they can name you as a defendant or sic the cops on you, albeit without justification, and that would be inconvenient and possibly costly. So you want the truck not in front of your house. One solution is to tell them it's there and tell her you told them. Then she can either deal with them or move it somewhere else.

wlqw55

legaladvice_train

My friend who is staying with me has not returned her UHaul.. I have a friend I've known for a few months now who recently got in a situation with her apartment complex (it's a long story, I will not go into it here as it is not relevant to the post) and her and her roommate were evicted. They had 3 days to obtain all of their belongings and move. On the second day of packing, they had found a house, and rented a UHaul. It is currently parked in front of my house. Well, the house fell through. She has been looking every day since, however it is not easy. Houses here go quick, and sometimes the house you're looking at is gone before your application is even processed. I received a call this morning, because she put me down as I think a reference or contact for uhaul, and the trailer was supposed to be returned a few days ago. It's parked in front of my house. Uhaul called me and told me she needed to return it, or I could never rent from uhaul again. I'm not so worried about that, although it probably will be a pain on my ass somewhere in the future, I feel lile that is the least of my concerns. I was under the imoression she had talked to uhaul and was just paying out the ass every day to hold the trailer, and clearly thats not the case. Obviously not returning the uhaul is wrong, the next customer, all that. But is this a crime? Are they going to report it stolen? If so how long does she have? And could I be in trouble because of this? I'm obviously going to try to convince her to get a storage unit or find someone she can store her belongings with, however, I've learned you can't really make grown people do anything, so if she decided to play chicken with uhaul, what's going to happen?

ijvkhey

ijv13mx

Hi, I do work with uhaul. The location will put it down to be towed even if there is stuff inside. She will have to go to the location in order to get her stuff back if they tow it. It sometimes can only take 24 hours for the location to send someone to search for the rental equipment. However if your name is not on the contract whatsoever you can still rent from uhaul. It will be your friend that will get the issues. Yes she may have put you down as an alternative contact but because she’s the contract holder she’s responsible. If she does decide to play chicken with uhaul. She may never be able to rent from them again

Not a lawyer, but a former UHaul employee. UHaul does ask for the name and number of someone you do not live with. This gives them someone they can reach who knows how to reach the renter when they do not return the truck or trailer on time. Not a bad thing considering in the past when mobile phones were not a thing getting in touch with someone who is moving could be very difficult. Even today, if someone is keeping the unit past it's due date, they are likely dodging UHaul's calls to return it. Talking to your friend and not some faceless wage slave is usually much more difficult to dodge. As for the liability, I have never heard that and know of no way you could be held liable. This could be a manager frustrated their bonus could evaporate when the charge for a stolen trailer gets charged against thier numbers or some wage slave making stuff up to get you lean on your friend. They may have just gotten yelled at by the person who had the trailer reserved and now does not have a trailer thanks to your friend. Ask me why I loathe people who do not return rentals when they agreed to with hate of a thousand suns. Uhaul will send someone to get it. How soon depends on their staffing levels and how many people they are looking at refunding if they cannot get it back. Getting this back just takes staff a lot of time and is much more likely to happen on a weekday. If she waits for this to happen she stands a high chance of losing her stuff.

wlqw55

legaladvice_train

My friend who is staying with me has not returned her UHaul.. I have a friend I've known for a few months now who recently got in a situation with her apartment complex (it's a long story, I will not go into it here as it is not relevant to the post) and her and her roommate were evicted. They had 3 days to obtain all of their belongings and move. On the second day of packing, they had found a house, and rented a UHaul. It is currently parked in front of my house. Well, the house fell through. She has been looking every day since, however it is not easy. Houses here go quick, and sometimes the house you're looking at is gone before your application is even processed. I received a call this morning, because she put me down as I think a reference or contact for uhaul, and the trailer was supposed to be returned a few days ago. It's parked in front of my house. Uhaul called me and told me she needed to return it, or I could never rent from uhaul again. I'm not so worried about that, although it probably will be a pain on my ass somewhere in the future, I feel lile that is the least of my concerns. I was under the imoression she had talked to uhaul and was just paying out the ass every day to hold the trailer, and clearly thats not the case. Obviously not returning the uhaul is wrong, the next customer, all that. But is this a crime? Are they going to report it stolen? If so how long does she have? And could I be in trouble because of this? I'm obviously going to try to convince her to get a storage unit or find someone she can store her belongings with, however, I've learned you can't really make grown people do anything, so if she decided to play chicken with uhaul, what's going to happen?

ijvkhey

ijv4k5e

Hi, I do work with uhaul. The location will put it down to be towed even if there is stuff inside. She will have to go to the location in order to get her stuff back if they tow it. It sometimes can only take 24 hours for the location to send someone to search for the rental equipment. However if your name is not on the contract whatsoever you can still rent from uhaul. It will be your friend that will get the issues. Yes she may have put you down as an alternative contact but because she’s the contract holder she’s responsible. If she does decide to play chicken with uhaul. She may never be able to rent from them again

Uhaul typically takes a credit card when you rent a truck and they simply charge $40 a day for every day you keep it over your contract. I know there's a real Uhaul shortage problem right now in some areas of the country. I wonder if your friends credit card got maxed out on overage charges?

4kfz9l

legaladvice_train

Ohio-My daughter [15F] came to me [33F] and told me her friend [15M] is being abused at home. She has asked if he could stay over at our place for the night Hi, I just need an outside opinion and advice on this. I live in Ohio so if anyone knows the laws here or in America in general for this please let me know. Earlier today my daughter came into my bed room and asked if she could speak to me. She told me friend Ambrose is being abused at home and asked if he could spend the night. I allowed it and I met him. He is a good looking kid but he is very shy, and very quiet. He has a bruise on his back and he has a black eye. He said his cousin and her boyfriend gave it to him. I don't know his full status but apparently his cousin is his legal guardian. My daughter has sat with him the entire two hours he has been here. He told me his cousin is the only family he has. He has no one else otherwise he would not be staying there I am really concerned for this young man, he seems frightened of adults. I phoned his cousin did not say anything and said he is going to be spending the weekend at my place and the woman hung up on me. Did not say anything to me. I want to contact someone but my daughter is afraid of what will happen to him. She is scared they will take him away, I am going to contact someone in the morning. My daughter wants him to stay with us over the summer break. My daughter is a pretty girl she wants to be a model. At first I thought this was some master plan to get a boy to spend the night, but it's really not like that. She seems genuinely concerned for him and is taking good care of him. She as we speak is watching netflix with him on the couch. Who do I contact about this and if I were to want to take him in could I?

d3emblm

d3emn9b

Call CPS. The kid is being abused or being placed into dangerous situations. There's no guarantee of anything but you could certainly offer to be a temporary home for him if that's what you want to do.

Call CPS or your local police might have a child abuse hotline. This is an emergency. Taking someone else's kid without the guardian's consent (and it sounds like you don't even know who the guardian is) is a terrible idea, for a night or for the summer. This can get you in tons of legal trouble, like felony kidnapping charges trouble. It's up to CPS to place him in a safe place, usually with family first, though you could offer.

ufb7ia

legaladvice_train

US-NV Daughters friend is being abused and I want to help My daughter informed my wife and I yesterday that her best friend(Amy,16) is being abused by her mom. Apparently Amy’s mom has told her that she will no longer support her in any way and is now forcing her to sleep in a tent out back. Amy did tell us that this happens periodically when her mom stops taking her meds. My wife and I would like to help her but we don’t want her to go into the system. We were thinking that we could pick her up and bring her to our house since Amy wants to come stay with us. Are there any legal repercussions?

i6sjh0y

i6se6p4

You cannot do this legally without involving "the system," unless Amy's mother gives permission, which seems unlikely given your description of the situation.

You would need to call cps. You cannot take other people's children without permission. That's kidnapping

anhlhw

legaladvice_train

[IN] Mother's brother died in her other home she was letting him live in for free, his ex-wife and kids are demanding entry to retrieve his belongings which amounts to almost nothing. Virtually everything in the home is owned by my mother besides a tv, bed and computer. Is it legal to deny entry to these people to my mother's home? She is not refusing to let them have the few items, just not at this second as it has been less than 24 hours since his passing. Not to mention my mother is out of state currently and I have changed the locks at her request due to the ex-wife stating she was and will be entering the home today. This woman and her kids, who had very little to do with my uncle, live four hours away. My mother was the one who took him in when he was having kidney failure. Note: There was no will left behind

eftqvdc

eftr79h

Is it possible that what they are looking for are personal documents such as a will, banking information, life insurance policies and such? If so, you could offer to look through the house for such things and provide copies. If there is a will, it can be an "chicken and egg" problem if the heirs can't gain access to it. To answer your question, I think it is legal to refuse them entry. Arguably, your mother could be liable for allowing them access. What if a will turns up and none of them are named executor? It is the probate court's job to determine if the decedent was intestate and to appoint someone to act as executor or administrator. All that said it is possible to settle a small estate without probate. If the estate is worth less than $50,000, the family can use a small estate affidavit to claim property. However, they have to wait at least 45 days after death to use it. As others have stated, there is no way they have any court order or any other document that would grant them access within 24 hours of death. Good luck.

As the landlord it is your responsibility to secure the property which it sounds like you have already done. All of uncle Joe's property becomes the property of uncle Joe's estate. Uncle Joe's estate will get a court appointed executor. This executor will be named in a document signed by a judge, not uncle Joe's ex-wife's lawyer. You safely can surrender uncle Joe's estate's possessions to the executor. This sounds like a shady lot to me, I would not allow them in the house as a group. I would bet that one of them is going to keep you busy while the others steal stuff. If you wanted to be nice, arrange to meet ONLY one of them to hand over some of his stuff. Take photos, make a list of items, approx value and condition and make them sign for the stuff. That list should be provided to the executor once designated. You have no legal obligation to allow access to anyone not named on a written lease or the executor. ​

bj7b30

legaladvice_train

Ex-husband sent the cops to my house while my kid and I were out because "our child may be in danger". It's my weekend of custody and he was upset I wasn't returning his calls. Arizona here. I was out with my daughter last night and was contacted by my neighbor that the cops were at my doorstep. They left once they got word that a) my child was with me (safe and sound) and b) we have equal custody of our child with a set schedule. He was in the car watching everything the entire time knowing full well that she was with me and that his custody doesn't start until later this week. I left him after constant manipulation, mental, physical and financial abuse. He's put a tracker in my car (no proof) and constantly belittled and threatened me to take away my child over petty things I know have no grounds in court. Just last year we arranged a child custody agreement and finalized our divorce. After the tracker situation, I contacted a lawyer who advised me there was nothing we could do until a year has passed since the agreement. Family and friends have been advising me to file a restraining order because it has just been too much for me to handle at this time. Other info: child is a minor, ex-husband is beginning to scare me. ​ So r/legaladivce what do I do to get this man off my back and be able to be with my daughter peacefully?

em6otzd

em6yvyh

Holy controlling paranoid Batman. Record everything. I’d see if you can get a restraining order because that is not normal behavior.

I'm concerned about the *'Ex-husband is beginning to scare me.'* If he's making you angry, frustrated, exasperated or confused, I get that. But if your gut is telling you your ex-husband is getting dangerous, you need to talk to your lawyer now about the proper steps to take.

vx269f

legaladvice_train

Ex husband wants put our 8 year old Non- verbal autistic son in a group home.What do I need to do to get custody again?

iftfwp3

iftfwn4

It's impossible to say without factual context. At a minimum, you need a lawyer to file the appropriate motion in the appropriate court.

File for a custody change in family court. Generally whatever court made the last order

vx269f

legaladvice_train

Ex husband wants put our 8 year old Non- verbal autistic son in a group home.What do I need to do to get custody again?

ifuptpu

ifty522

There are too many variables to give a definitive answer. 1) what your current custody order actually states. 2) why you don’t have primary custody to begin with 3) what your Son’s various doctors and therapists have diagnosed and done for him from start to finish. Ie do his past and current medical professional providers concur. 4) what your lawyer says. I mean you need to talk to someone who knows the current laws and precedents say about situations like this.

Why did you not got the custody at first ?

vx269f

legaladvice_train

Ex husband wants put our 8 year old Non- verbal autistic son in a group home.What do I need to do to get custody again?

iftqnfs

ifuptpu

In my state, assuming USA, custody boils down to 3 domains, medical, religious and educational rights. If you have the educational rights this seems to fall in that domain. One parent usually has physical custody & the other shared custody with visitation rights. I have an autistic adult son. Why did you lose or give up custody to begin with if this matters to you? This seems to fall into family law territory.

There are too many variables to give a definitive answer. 1) what your current custody order actually states. 2) why you don’t have primary custody to begin with 3) what your Son’s various doctors and therapists have diagnosed and done for him from start to finish. Ie do his past and current medical professional providers concur. 4) what your lawyer says. I mean you need to talk to someone who knows the current laws and precedents say about situations like this.

vx269f

legaladvice_train

Ex husband wants put our 8 year old Non- verbal autistic son in a group home.What do I need to do to get custody again?

ifuptpu

iftfz2z

There are too many variables to give a definitive answer. 1) what your current custody order actually states. 2) why you don’t have primary custody to begin with 3) what your Son’s various doctors and therapists have diagnosed and done for him from start to finish. Ie do his past and current medical professional providers concur. 4) what your lawyer says. I mean you need to talk to someone who knows the current laws and precedents say about situations like this.

You can contact a family law lawyer and discuss your options.

vx269f

legaladvice_train

Ex husband wants put our 8 year old Non- verbal autistic son in a group home.What do I need to do to get custody again?

ifuptpu

ifu4ymr

There are too many variables to give a definitive answer. 1) what your current custody order actually states. 2) why you don’t have primary custody to begin with 3) what your Son’s various doctors and therapists have diagnosed and done for him from start to finish. Ie do his past and current medical professional providers concur. 4) what your lawyer says. I mean you need to talk to someone who knows the current laws and precedents say about situations like this.

Get a lawyer. The courts will hopefully prefer he live with a parent instead of a home. What are your parental rights currently?

vx269f

legaladvice_train

Ex husband wants put our 8 year old Non- verbal autistic son in a group home.What do I need to do to get custody again?

ifty522

iftqnfs

Why did you not got the custody at first ?

In my state, assuming USA, custody boils down to 3 domains, medical, religious and educational rights. If you have the educational rights this seems to fall in that domain. One parent usually has physical custody & the other shared custody with visitation rights. I have an autistic adult son. Why did you lose or give up custody to begin with if this matters to you? This seems to fall into family law territory.

vx269f

legaladvice_train

Ex husband wants put our 8 year old Non- verbal autistic son in a group home.What do I need to do to get custody again?

iftfz2z

ifty522

You can contact a family law lawyer and discuss your options.

Why did you not got the custody at first ?

vx269f

legaladvice_train

Ex husband wants put our 8 year old Non- verbal autistic son in a group home.What do I need to do to get custody again?

iftqnfs

iftfz2z

In my state, assuming USA, custody boils down to 3 domains, medical, religious and educational rights. If you have the educational rights this seems to fall in that domain. One parent usually has physical custody & the other shared custody with visitation rights. I have an autistic adult son. Why did you lose or give up custody to begin with if this matters to you? This seems to fall into family law territory.

You can contact a family law lawyer and discuss your options.

iud1v1

legaladvice_train

(TX) ex husband making my life into a living hell after losing his 50/50 custody of our son, distributing videos and photos of me without my consent Ex and I were married in 2015 and divorced in 2019. We had one kiddo together during our marriage, born in April of 2017. The divorce was originally on pretty good terms and we shared custody 50/50. In May of this year CPS got called on him by a neighbor. He was high and passed out on the lawn while our son played in his little pool. I got full custody of our son. He was lucky to avoid charges, but to get 50/50 again he would have to submit drug tests to the court twice per month and complete parenting classes. Easy enough, right? In addition to harassing me via texts and phone calls, causing a scene trying to pick our son up from daycare when he's not on the authorization list and generally causing problems, he distributed sexual images and videos that we made during our marriage. He put them up on porn websites without my permission and sent them to people I respect. He was also supposed to delete the files when we divorced, per the divorce agreement, but I don't know if that part is truly enforceable. My question is mainly about the websites. So far reporting it hasn't been very successful, and it's really been disheartening. I have two older kids from a previous relationship (a high school junior and a high school freshman) and honestly I'm terrified that someone they know is going to see it and tell them about it. Legally, what can I do? At this point it feels like it's not even about custody anymore and it's very disheartening.

g5k7uhu

g5k4imx

Not a lawyer, but in Texas Revenge porn (sharing explicit images of someone without consent) is illegal, take it to the police and file a report, unfortunately it is only misdemeanor, but if you loss wages or any sort of income you may be able to sue for damages

> per the divorce agreement, but I don't know if that part is truly enforceable It can't easily be checked, be he apparently demonstrated that he did not. Speak to your attorney about this, and about reporting this to the police as a violation of the law. If you took the photos/videos then you can issue a DMCA takedown on those websites.

bgkhyq

legaladvice_train

[Maine] My ex-husband is in a coma, and we hold 50/50 custody of our Son (8). What legal steps should I be taking to ensure my son's care and protect myself financially? Throwaway account as my main account a great deal of personally identifying information. ​ My ex-husband was put into a medically induced coma two weeks ago. Currently, there is no timeline for when he may be conscious again, let alone when he will be well enough to resume our normal custody agreement. Because of the abrupt nature of his condition, I am incurring major childcare costs which would normally be split 50/50. I do not qualify for any kind of public assistance due to my income. I think that it is very likely my ex-husband will be put on disability when he is conscious. What legal options, if any, do I have to protect myself financially? I cannot afford to incur all of this cost long term, nor do I believe I am legally obligated to do so. Is it appropriate or beneficial to ask for a change in our custody agreement, or are there other steps I should be taking?

ello0m5

ellnrmg

> What legal options, if any, do I have to protect myself financially? Protect yourself from the costs of raising your child? Essentially none. That said, assuming he comes out of the coma and ends up on disability as you suspect, it's possible you could file for SSDI benefits on behalf of the child. Further, his disability income MAY (depending on jurisdiction) be used in the calculation of child support. Given that you said you make too much to qualify for assistance, if the split stays 50/50 you could end up owing him support. Note that if he is currently paying you, arrears will continue to build up until one of you requests a modification of support. > I cannot afford to incur all of this cost long term What would you do if he fell off the face of the earth and you had the raise the child yourself?

Are you suggesting you shouldn’t be wholly responsible for taking care of your child financially, while your ex husband is having a medical crisis? This sounds like a personal finance question, not a legal question. Legally speaking if your son’s father’s circumstances change to the point he cannot work and is on disability (meaning unable to earn how he previously could), he can return to court to have figures adjusted. And yes, you are legally obligated to take care of your child, with or without support from his other parent.

bgkhyq

legaladvice_train

[Maine] My ex-husband is in a coma, and we hold 50/50 custody of our Son (8). What legal steps should I be taking to ensure my son's care and protect myself financially? Throwaway account as my main account a great deal of personally identifying information. ​ My ex-husband was put into a medically induced coma two weeks ago. Currently, there is no timeline for when he may be conscious again, let alone when he will be well enough to resume our normal custody agreement. Because of the abrupt nature of his condition, I am incurring major childcare costs which would normally be split 50/50. I do not qualify for any kind of public assistance due to my income. I think that it is very likely my ex-husband will be put on disability when he is conscious. What legal options, if any, do I have to protect myself financially? I cannot afford to incur all of this cost long term, nor do I believe I am legally obligated to do so. Is it appropriate or beneficial to ask for a change in our custody agreement, or are there other steps I should be taking?

ello0m5

ellk3xa

> What legal options, if any, do I have to protect myself financially? Protect yourself from the costs of raising your child? Essentially none. That said, assuming he comes out of the coma and ends up on disability as you suspect, it's possible you could file for SSDI benefits on behalf of the child. Further, his disability income MAY (depending on jurisdiction) be used in the calculation of child support. Given that you said you make too much to qualify for assistance, if the split stays 50/50 you could end up owing him support. Note that if he is currently paying you, arrears will continue to build up until one of you requests a modification of support. > I cannot afford to incur all of this cost long term What would you do if he fell off the face of the earth and you had the raise the child yourself?

If there is a change in your ex-husband's income it is possible you'll need to shoulder a higher percentage of the costs of rearing the child. If your husband isn't able to care for an 8 year old there may be an argument to change physical custody but that also means you'll be responsible for your son for more of the time (and incur more costs).

bgkhyq

legaladvice_train

[Maine] My ex-husband is in a coma, and we hold 50/50 custody of our Son (8). What legal steps should I be taking to ensure my son's care and protect myself financially? Throwaway account as my main account a great deal of personally identifying information. ​ My ex-husband was put into a medically induced coma two weeks ago. Currently, there is no timeline for when he may be conscious again, let alone when he will be well enough to resume our normal custody agreement. Because of the abrupt nature of his condition, I am incurring major childcare costs which would normally be split 50/50. I do not qualify for any kind of public assistance due to my income. I think that it is very likely my ex-husband will be put on disability when he is conscious. What legal options, if any, do I have to protect myself financially? I cannot afford to incur all of this cost long term, nor do I believe I am legally obligated to do so. Is it appropriate or beneficial to ask for a change in our custody agreement, or are there other steps I should be taking?

ellnrmg

ellk3xa

Are you suggesting you shouldn’t be wholly responsible for taking care of your child financially, while your ex husband is having a medical crisis? This sounds like a personal finance question, not a legal question. Legally speaking if your son’s father’s circumstances change to the point he cannot work and is on disability (meaning unable to earn how he previously could), he can return to court to have figures adjusted. And yes, you are legally obligated to take care of your child, with or without support from his other parent.

If there is a change in your ex-husband's income it is possible you'll need to shoulder a higher percentage of the costs of rearing the child. If your husband isn't able to care for an 8 year old there may be an argument to change physical custody but that also means you'll be responsible for your son for more of the time (and incur more costs).

cmx6j7

legaladvice_train

Home was broken into a month ago, cops just arrested burglar who was caught selling some of our stuff at a pawn shop. Can I press charges to compensate for the items we never got back? Burglar broke into our home while we were at work on 7/8. Two days later he sold our PS4 and Xbox at the local pawn shop. Police caught and arrested him about a week ago. Most of our other expensive items are still missing - flat screen TV, laptop, sound bar, custom gaming PC, and an antique Japanese coin. Can we get a lawyer to sue for damages/stolen goods? We are still missing about $5000 worth of electronics. This is all in the police report. In Oklahoma.

ew593yn

ew591v8

You don’t press charges — you file a police report, which you’ve already done. You can sue for the value of the items. If this guy has no money, he won’t be able to pay you if you win. Won’t your homeowners’ insurance cover some of the items’ value?

Can you sue civilly? Sure. People in jail don't have money and people stealing to pay for their drug habit don't have money. But you can sue, you just are highly unlikely to collect. First step is insurance. Second would be to see if there is a local victim assistance program that might help.

cmx6j7

legaladvice_train

Home was broken into a month ago, cops just arrested burglar who was caught selling some of our stuff at a pawn shop. Can I press charges to compensate for the items we never got back? Burglar broke into our home while we were at work on 7/8. Two days later he sold our PS4 and Xbox at the local pawn shop. Police caught and arrested him about a week ago. Most of our other expensive items are still missing - flat screen TV, laptop, sound bar, custom gaming PC, and an antique Japanese coin. Can we get a lawyer to sue for damages/stolen goods? We are still missing about $5000 worth of electronics. This is all in the police report. In Oklahoma.

ew5hraz

ew5djsq

You can contact the District Attorney. They can make restitution a part of sentencing or a plea deal. As others have said - a private suit is most likely a waste of time if this is the typical no-asset scumbag situation. But if the DA says "Hey, you can get time served and probation if you figure out how to pay this money, or you can spend a year or two in prison if not... that sometimes DOES get blood from the proverbial stone.

You can't press charges. That's the domain of the DA. You filed a police report. You can sue them civilly but how much money do you think a thief has?

cmx6j7

legaladvice_train

Home was broken into a month ago, cops just arrested burglar who was caught selling some of our stuff at a pawn shop. Can I press charges to compensate for the items we never got back? Burglar broke into our home while we were at work on 7/8. Two days later he sold our PS4 and Xbox at the local pawn shop. Police caught and arrested him about a week ago. Most of our other expensive items are still missing - flat screen TV, laptop, sound bar, custom gaming PC, and an antique Japanese coin. Can we get a lawyer to sue for damages/stolen goods? We are still missing about $5000 worth of electronics. This is all in the police report. In Oklahoma.

ew5hraz

ew5hoio

You can contact the District Attorney. They can make restitution a part of sentencing or a plea deal. As others have said - a private suit is most likely a waste of time if this is the typical no-asset scumbag situation. But if the DA says "Hey, you can get time served and probation if you figure out how to pay this money, or you can spend a year or two in prison if not... that sometimes DOES get blood from the proverbial stone.

Like others have said, you can sue him, but he probably doesn't have the money to give you. Maybe in a few years he'll clean up his act and get a regular job and have wages that could be garnished, but if you want to buy a new TV now your insurance would probably be a better bet.

cmx6j7

legaladvice_train

Home was broken into a month ago, cops just arrested burglar who was caught selling some of our stuff at a pawn shop. Can I press charges to compensate for the items we never got back? Burglar broke into our home while we were at work on 7/8. Two days later he sold our PS4 and Xbox at the local pawn shop. Police caught and arrested him about a week ago. Most of our other expensive items are still missing - flat screen TV, laptop, sound bar, custom gaming PC, and an antique Japanese coin. Can we get a lawyer to sue for damages/stolen goods? We are still missing about $5000 worth of electronics. This is all in the police report. In Oklahoma.

ew5jwjr

ew5djsq

most pawn shops are required to keep merchandise at the pawn shop for a certain time and register it with the police dept. your stuff may still be there and the pawn shop owners are in possession of stolen property. "In most states pawn shops are required to hold anything they buy for 30 days prior to placing it up for sale and they are also supposed to check any item with the police to make sure what they have is not stolen property"

You can't press charges. That's the domain of the DA. You filed a police report. You can sue them civilly but how much money do you think a thief has?

cmx6j7

legaladvice_train

Home was broken into a month ago, cops just arrested burglar who was caught selling some of our stuff at a pawn shop. Can I press charges to compensate for the items we never got back? Burglar broke into our home while we were at work on 7/8. Two days later he sold our PS4 and Xbox at the local pawn shop. Police caught and arrested him about a week ago. Most of our other expensive items are still missing - flat screen TV, laptop, sound bar, custom gaming PC, and an antique Japanese coin. Can we get a lawyer to sue for damages/stolen goods? We are still missing about $5000 worth of electronics. This is all in the police report. In Oklahoma.

ew5hoio

ew5jwjr

Like others have said, you can sue him, but he probably doesn't have the money to give you. Maybe in a few years he'll clean up his act and get a regular job and have wages that could be garnished, but if you want to buy a new TV now your insurance would probably be a better bet.

most pawn shops are required to keep merchandise at the pawn shop for a certain time and register it with the police dept. your stuff may still be there and the pawn shop owners are in possession of stolen property. "In most states pawn shops are required to hold anything they buy for 30 days prior to placing it up for sale and they are also supposed to check any item with the police to make sure what they have is not stolen property"

490ws0

legaladvice_train

Incident at my son's high school: Boy broke a classmate's wrist. School and police aren't doing anything because the boy has diplomatic immunity (New York) I didn't even know that family members of diplomats have diplomatic immunity as well. Would the girl whose wrist got broken and her parents have any kind of recourse here or is diplomatic immunity absolute? The boy did not get in trouble at school or arrested by the police and he's still attending classes like normal.

d0oboke

d0o71hn

I grew up in Washington DC with a fair number of diplomat kids at my school. There was a similar case at my HS (Kid was selling forged IDs so kids could drink, he claimed immunity. Unfortunately for him, the only thing the feds like worse than counterfeiters is foriegn national counterfeiters) and a couple of other similar cases. What you should do is contact the embassy of the country that the kid has immunity under. Embassies really really don't like bad press, and they will work with you to try and make sure you don't raise too much of a stink. They can and will retroactively deny immunity, especially with violent offenders (with stuff like traffic violations or non violent misdemeanors theyll defend people, but no country likes people who break bones in their country's name without permission). This also serves the purpose of finding out whether or not the kid actually has immunity. It might be something like the cops went to his house and the parent screamed "we have immunity you can't come on the property" and the cops left it at that, but thats not actually how it works. Cops might not know that though, diplomats and their kids are usually pretty well behaved so cops wouldnt have a lot of experience with that. The best thing about contacting the embassy is you don't even have to have anything to do with the girl who was injured to contact them. You can say "I'm afraid of this known violent person at this school and he'a comitting crimes in the name of your country" and the diplomatic people will work quickly. Might wanna contact the State Department. The lawyers there and the embassies lawyers usually work together to make sure that things flow smoothly and diplomatically with the police and the families involved.

Sounds ripe for a civil suit.

490ws0

legaladvice_train

Incident at my son's high school: Boy broke a classmate's wrist. School and police aren't doing anything because the boy has diplomatic immunity (New York) I didn't even know that family members of diplomats have diplomatic immunity as well. Would the girl whose wrist got broken and her parents have any kind of recourse here or is diplomatic immunity absolute? The boy did not get in trouble at school or arrested by the police and he's still attending classes like normal.

d0oboke

d0o97qh

I grew up in Washington DC with a fair number of diplomat kids at my school. There was a similar case at my HS (Kid was selling forged IDs so kids could drink, he claimed immunity. Unfortunately for him, the only thing the feds like worse than counterfeiters is foriegn national counterfeiters) and a couple of other similar cases. What you should do is contact the embassy of the country that the kid has immunity under. Embassies really really don't like bad press, and they will work with you to try and make sure you don't raise too much of a stink. They can and will retroactively deny immunity, especially with violent offenders (with stuff like traffic violations or non violent misdemeanors theyll defend people, but no country likes people who break bones in their country's name without permission). This also serves the purpose of finding out whether or not the kid actually has immunity. It might be something like the cops went to his house and the parent screamed "we have immunity you can't come on the property" and the cops left it at that, but thats not actually how it works. Cops might not know that though, diplomats and their kids are usually pretty well behaved so cops wouldnt have a lot of experience with that. The best thing about contacting the embassy is you don't even have to have anything to do with the girl who was injured to contact them. You can say "I'm afraid of this known violent person at this school and he'a comitting crimes in the name of your country" and the diplomatic people will work quickly. Might wanna contact the State Department. The lawyers there and the embassies lawyers usually work together to make sure that things flow smoothly and diplomatically with the police and the families involved.

Does diplomatic immunity actually apply to violent crimes?

490ws0

legaladvice_train

Incident at my son's high school: Boy broke a classmate's wrist. School and police aren't doing anything because the boy has diplomatic immunity (New York) I didn't even know that family members of diplomats have diplomatic immunity as well. Would the girl whose wrist got broken and her parents have any kind of recourse here or is diplomatic immunity absolute? The boy did not get in trouble at school or arrested by the police and he's still attending classes like normal.

d0ogl2j

d0obq7g

Diplomatic immunity applies to criminal and civil government actions. It should not prevent the school from suspending/expelling the kid.

How did he break her wrist?

490ws0

legaladvice_train

Incident at my son's high school: Boy broke a classmate's wrist. School and police aren't doing anything because the boy has diplomatic immunity (New York) I didn't even know that family members of diplomats have diplomatic immunity as well. Would the girl whose wrist got broken and her parents have any kind of recourse here or is diplomatic immunity absolute? The boy did not get in trouble at school or arrested by the police and he's still attending classes like normal.

d0o97qh

d0ogl2j

Does diplomatic immunity actually apply to violent crimes?

Diplomatic immunity applies to criminal and civil government actions. It should not prevent the school from suspending/expelling the kid.

490ws0

legaladvice_train

Incident at my son's high school: Boy broke a classmate's wrist. School and police aren't doing anything because the boy has diplomatic immunity (New York) I didn't even know that family members of diplomats have diplomatic immunity as well. Would the girl whose wrist got broken and her parents have any kind of recourse here or is diplomatic immunity absolute? The boy did not get in trouble at school or arrested by the police and he's still attending classes like normal.

d0obq7g

d0o97qh

How did he break her wrist?

Does diplomatic immunity actually apply to violent crimes?

490ws0

legaladvice_train

Incident at my son's high school: Boy broke a classmate's wrist. School and police aren't doing anything because the boy has diplomatic immunity (New York) I didn't even know that family members of diplomats have diplomatic immunity as well. Would the girl whose wrist got broken and her parents have any kind of recourse here or is diplomatic immunity absolute? The boy did not get in trouble at school or arrested by the police and he's still attending classes like normal.

d0ohr3c

d0o97qh

But the immunity does not extend to school rules. Yes, the kid could be expelled without any consequences for the school.

Does diplomatic immunity actually apply to violent crimes?

qwcgi7

legaladvice_train

[CO] Son's school says they will call the police on 8 year old with Autism My son is 8 years old, in 3rd grade. He has high functioning autism and ADHD. He has a 504 plan. When we first started going to this school, they indicated he didn't need a 504 plan because he was too high functioning. In Kindergarten he eloped from school and ran home. We are a 10 minute walk from school. I work from home and made him go back immediately. This got the school motivated on getting his 504 plan going. We worked with the school and his therapists and things improved. Until this year. This year has gone very poorly. He struggles to tell me why, but he absolutely hates school this year. He's left his classroom several times, and managed to make it all the way home twice. This year his school also has a new principal. We had a 504 review meeting with the school recently to see what accommodations we can make for him and agreed on a plan. (Getting an autism specialist involved, perhaps having an IEP, etc.). The principal is super concerned about him eloping from school, and rightly so. We made some incentive structures for him to stay in class. That improved things for a bit. However today, after he eloped for the 2nd time this year, she told him next time she would call the police. I understand her concern about safety, however he's 8 and has autism and ADHD. If he interacts with the police in a confrontational manner I'm terrified he might struggle with them, disobey, even hit them to escape. What can I do? Do I need a lawyer? If I do, where can I find a good one that does education or special needs or something like that? Should I try to de-escalate with the principal or stop communicating except through an attorney? Should I keep him home from school to prevent further escalations until I have help? Thanks

hl2dmmw

hl2wvzd

Let her call the police. A child with known disabilities keeps walking out unnoticed of the school she runs and she called the cops on him after his parents have been present in the issue. The question that the cops will be raised in how many of the kids also can walk and leave under her and her staff watch?

You can also register your child with local law enforcement. You make a profile with a picture, diagnosis, triggers, medications etc. It helps them learn more about the child and how to address them.

qwcgi7

legaladvice_train

[CO] Son's school says they will call the police on 8 year old with Autism My son is 8 years old, in 3rd grade. He has high functioning autism and ADHD. He has a 504 plan. When we first started going to this school, they indicated he didn't need a 504 plan because he was too high functioning. In Kindergarten he eloped from school and ran home. We are a 10 minute walk from school. I work from home and made him go back immediately. This got the school motivated on getting his 504 plan going. We worked with the school and his therapists and things improved. Until this year. This year has gone very poorly. He struggles to tell me why, but he absolutely hates school this year. He's left his classroom several times, and managed to make it all the way home twice. This year his school also has a new principal. We had a 504 review meeting with the school recently to see what accommodations we can make for him and agreed on a plan. (Getting an autism specialist involved, perhaps having an IEP, etc.). The principal is super concerned about him eloping from school, and rightly so. We made some incentive structures for him to stay in class. That improved things for a bit. However today, after he eloped for the 2nd time this year, she told him next time she would call the police. I understand her concern about safety, however he's 8 and has autism and ADHD. If he interacts with the police in a confrontational manner I'm terrified he might struggle with them, disobey, even hit them to escape. What can I do? Do I need a lawyer? If I do, where can I find a good one that does education or special needs or something like that? Should I try to de-escalate with the principal or stop communicating except through an attorney? Should I keep him home from school to prevent further escalations until I have help? Thanks

hl2wvzd

hl2uezm

You can also register your child with local law enforcement. You make a profile with a picture, diagnosis, triggers, medications etc. It helps them learn more about the child and how to address them.

He needs a one-to-one aide if he’s prone to eloping. Or there are better schools for him that will keep him safe/contained. The staff at these campuses are better trained and equipped for high functioning students with autism. Go to the the meeting and see what they are offering. You have a right to agree or disagree with any of the options.

qwcgi7

legaladvice_train

[CO] Son's school says they will call the police on 8 year old with Autism My son is 8 years old, in 3rd grade. He has high functioning autism and ADHD. He has a 504 plan. When we first started going to this school, they indicated he didn't need a 504 plan because he was too high functioning. In Kindergarten he eloped from school and ran home. We are a 10 minute walk from school. I work from home and made him go back immediately. This got the school motivated on getting his 504 plan going. We worked with the school and his therapists and things improved. Until this year. This year has gone very poorly. He struggles to tell me why, but he absolutely hates school this year. He's left his classroom several times, and managed to make it all the way home twice. This year his school also has a new principal. We had a 504 review meeting with the school recently to see what accommodations we can make for him and agreed on a plan. (Getting an autism specialist involved, perhaps having an IEP, etc.). The principal is super concerned about him eloping from school, and rightly so. We made some incentive structures for him to stay in class. That improved things for a bit. However today, after he eloped for the 2nd time this year, she told him next time she would call the police. I understand her concern about safety, however he's 8 and has autism and ADHD. If he interacts with the police in a confrontational manner I'm terrified he might struggle with them, disobey, even hit them to escape. What can I do? Do I need a lawyer? If I do, where can I find a good one that does education or special needs or something like that? Should I try to de-escalate with the principal or stop communicating except through an attorney? Should I keep him home from school to prevent further escalations until I have help? Thanks

hl2ku3d

hl2wvzd

Please, please search for autism resources in your state. Find an advocate that will go with you to the ARC meeting. An attorney well-versed n educational law would be great, but an advocate can help a lot. Ask - Knowing that part of his disability is running for situations that provoke anxiety, what is your plan to ensure his safety?

You can also register your child with local law enforcement. You make a profile with a picture, diagnosis, triggers, medications etc. It helps them learn more about the child and how to address them.

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[CO] Son's school says they will call the police on 8 year old with Autism My son is 8 years old, in 3rd grade. He has high functioning autism and ADHD. He has a 504 plan. When we first started going to this school, they indicated he didn't need a 504 plan because he was too high functioning. In Kindergarten he eloped from school and ran home. We are a 10 minute walk from school. I work from home and made him go back immediately. This got the school motivated on getting his 504 plan going. We worked with the school and his therapists and things improved. Until this year. This year has gone very poorly. He struggles to tell me why, but he absolutely hates school this year. He's left his classroom several times, and managed to make it all the way home twice. This year his school also has a new principal. We had a 504 review meeting with the school recently to see what accommodations we can make for him and agreed on a plan. (Getting an autism specialist involved, perhaps having an IEP, etc.). The principal is super concerned about him eloping from school, and rightly so. We made some incentive structures for him to stay in class. That improved things for a bit. However today, after he eloped for the 2nd time this year, she told him next time she would call the police. I understand her concern about safety, however he's 8 and has autism and ADHD. If he interacts with the police in a confrontational manner I'm terrified he might struggle with them, disobey, even hit them to escape. What can I do? Do I need a lawyer? If I do, where can I find a good one that does education or special needs or something like that? Should I try to de-escalate with the principal or stop communicating except through an attorney? Should I keep him home from school to prevent further escalations until I have help? Thanks

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How do they see that going down? They're going to be calling the cops because they failed in their supervisory capacity? I've worked with eloping students and have followed them multiple blocks while on the phone with their parents. I would be seriously talking to the school about their security if kids are able to leave at will and without notice. I would absolutely ask for an IEP evaluation. Put it in writing. They are legally required go through the process within a relatively short time frame. Look for local autism support groups as they may have special education advocates that can attend IEP meetings with you to make sure that the school is providing reasonable accommodations.

You can also register your child with local law enforcement. You make a profile with a picture, diagnosis, triggers, medications etc. It helps them learn more about the child and how to address them.

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[CO] Son's school says they will call the police on 8 year old with Autism My son is 8 years old, in 3rd grade. He has high functioning autism and ADHD. He has a 504 plan. When we first started going to this school, they indicated he didn't need a 504 plan because he was too high functioning. In Kindergarten he eloped from school and ran home. We are a 10 minute walk from school. I work from home and made him go back immediately. This got the school motivated on getting his 504 plan going. We worked with the school and his therapists and things improved. Until this year. This year has gone very poorly. He struggles to tell me why, but he absolutely hates school this year. He's left his classroom several times, and managed to make it all the way home twice. This year his school also has a new principal. We had a 504 review meeting with the school recently to see what accommodations we can make for him and agreed on a plan. (Getting an autism specialist involved, perhaps having an IEP, etc.). The principal is super concerned about him eloping from school, and rightly so. We made some incentive structures for him to stay in class. That improved things for a bit. However today, after he eloped for the 2nd time this year, she told him next time she would call the police. I understand her concern about safety, however he's 8 and has autism and ADHD. If he interacts with the police in a confrontational manner I'm terrified he might struggle with them, disobey, even hit them to escape. What can I do? Do I need a lawyer? If I do, where can I find a good one that does education or special needs or something like that? Should I try to de-escalate with the principal or stop communicating except through an attorney? Should I keep him home from school to prevent further escalations until I have help? Thanks

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hl2uezm

You can talk with them about any further accommodations that could prevent him from running from the school, but as someone former in special education it’s standard procedure to involve the police once a student has left the school grounds. We’d do everything we could to prevent elopement and supervise for safety when it happened, but we were instructed that we could only monitor and try to bring them back while they were on school grounds. Once they left, it was out of our hands and we had to inform police for their safety and our liability.

He needs a one-to-one aide if he’s prone to eloping. Or there are better schools for him that will keep him safe/contained. The staff at these campuses are better trained and equipped for high functioning students with autism. Go to the the meeting and see what they are offering. You have a right to agree or disagree with any of the options.

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[CO] Son's school says they will call the police on 8 year old with Autism My son is 8 years old, in 3rd grade. He has high functioning autism and ADHD. He has a 504 plan. When we first started going to this school, they indicated he didn't need a 504 plan because he was too high functioning. In Kindergarten he eloped from school and ran home. We are a 10 minute walk from school. I work from home and made him go back immediately. This got the school motivated on getting his 504 plan going. We worked with the school and his therapists and things improved. Until this year. This year has gone very poorly. He struggles to tell me why, but he absolutely hates school this year. He's left his classroom several times, and managed to make it all the way home twice. This year his school also has a new principal. We had a 504 review meeting with the school recently to see what accommodations we can make for him and agreed on a plan. (Getting an autism specialist involved, perhaps having an IEP, etc.). The principal is super concerned about him eloping from school, and rightly so. We made some incentive structures for him to stay in class. That improved things for a bit. However today, after he eloped for the 2nd time this year, she told him next time she would call the police. I understand her concern about safety, however he's 8 and has autism and ADHD. If he interacts with the police in a confrontational manner I'm terrified he might struggle with them, disobey, even hit them to escape. What can I do? Do I need a lawyer? If I do, where can I find a good one that does education or special needs or something like that? Should I try to de-escalate with the principal or stop communicating except through an attorney? Should I keep him home from school to prevent further escalations until I have help? Thanks

hl31pur

hl2ku3d

You can talk with them about any further accommodations that could prevent him from running from the school, but as someone former in special education it’s standard procedure to involve the police once a student has left the school grounds. We’d do everything we could to prevent elopement and supervise for safety when it happened, but we were instructed that we could only monitor and try to bring them back while they were on school grounds. Once they left, it was out of our hands and we had to inform police for their safety and our liability.

Please, please search for autism resources in your state. Find an advocate that will go with you to the ARC meeting. An attorney well-versed n educational law would be great, but an advocate can help a lot. Ask - Knowing that part of his disability is running for situations that provoke anxiety, what is your plan to ensure his safety?

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[CO] Son's school says they will call the police on 8 year old with Autism My son is 8 years old, in 3rd grade. He has high functioning autism and ADHD. He has a 504 plan. When we first started going to this school, they indicated he didn't need a 504 plan because he was too high functioning. In Kindergarten he eloped from school and ran home. We are a 10 minute walk from school. I work from home and made him go back immediately. This got the school motivated on getting his 504 plan going. We worked with the school and his therapists and things improved. Until this year. This year has gone very poorly. He struggles to tell me why, but he absolutely hates school this year. He's left his classroom several times, and managed to make it all the way home twice. This year his school also has a new principal. We had a 504 review meeting with the school recently to see what accommodations we can make for him and agreed on a plan. (Getting an autism specialist involved, perhaps having an IEP, etc.). The principal is super concerned about him eloping from school, and rightly so. We made some incentive structures for him to stay in class. That improved things for a bit. However today, after he eloped for the 2nd time this year, she told him next time she would call the police. I understand her concern about safety, however he's 8 and has autism and ADHD. If he interacts with the police in a confrontational manner I'm terrified he might struggle with them, disobey, even hit them to escape. What can I do? Do I need a lawyer? If I do, where can I find a good one that does education or special needs or something like that? Should I try to de-escalate with the principal or stop communicating except through an attorney? Should I keep him home from school to prevent further escalations until I have help? Thanks

hl2pyq0

hl31pur

How do they see that going down? They're going to be calling the cops because they failed in their supervisory capacity? I've worked with eloping students and have followed them multiple blocks while on the phone with their parents. I would be seriously talking to the school about their security if kids are able to leave at will and without notice. I would absolutely ask for an IEP evaluation. Put it in writing. They are legally required go through the process within a relatively short time frame. Look for local autism support groups as they may have special education advocates that can attend IEP meetings with you to make sure that the school is providing reasonable accommodations.

You can talk with them about any further accommodations that could prevent him from running from the school, but as someone former in special education it’s standard procedure to involve the police once a student has left the school grounds. We’d do everything we could to prevent elopement and supervise for safety when it happened, but we were instructed that we could only monitor and try to bring them back while they were on school grounds. Once they left, it was out of our hands and we had to inform police for their safety and our liability.

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[CO] Son's school says they will call the police on 8 year old with Autism My son is 8 years old, in 3rd grade. He has high functioning autism and ADHD. He has a 504 plan. When we first started going to this school, they indicated he didn't need a 504 plan because he was too high functioning. In Kindergarten he eloped from school and ran home. We are a 10 minute walk from school. I work from home and made him go back immediately. This got the school motivated on getting his 504 plan going. We worked with the school and his therapists and things improved. Until this year. This year has gone very poorly. He struggles to tell me why, but he absolutely hates school this year. He's left his classroom several times, and managed to make it all the way home twice. This year his school also has a new principal. We had a 504 review meeting with the school recently to see what accommodations we can make for him and agreed on a plan. (Getting an autism specialist involved, perhaps having an IEP, etc.). The principal is super concerned about him eloping from school, and rightly so. We made some incentive structures for him to stay in class. That improved things for a bit. However today, after he eloped for the 2nd time this year, she told him next time she would call the police. I understand her concern about safety, however he's 8 and has autism and ADHD. If he interacts with the police in a confrontational manner I'm terrified he might struggle with them, disobey, even hit them to escape. What can I do? Do I need a lawyer? If I do, where can I find a good one that does education or special needs or something like that? Should I try to de-escalate with the principal or stop communicating except through an attorney? Should I keep him home from school to prevent further escalations until I have help? Thanks

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You can talk with them about any further accommodations that could prevent him from running from the school, but as someone former in special education it’s standard procedure to involve the police once a student has left the school grounds. We’d do everything we could to prevent elopement and supervise for safety when it happened, but we were instructed that we could only monitor and try to bring them back while they were on school grounds. Once they left, it was out of our hands and we had to inform police for their safety and our liability.

Not a lawyer and unsure of the policies in your state, but I do recommend consulting an attorney who specializes in these areas. We allowed an advocate who meant well to try to support us in the process of getting what our Autistic and ADHD son needed, and they put us in a spot where a lawyer was hesitant to support us. A consultation is worth it if you can afford it.

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[CO] Son's school says they will call the police on 8 year old with Autism My son is 8 years old, in 3rd grade. He has high functioning autism and ADHD. He has a 504 plan. When we first started going to this school, they indicated he didn't need a 504 plan because he was too high functioning. In Kindergarten he eloped from school and ran home. We are a 10 minute walk from school. I work from home and made him go back immediately. This got the school motivated on getting his 504 plan going. We worked with the school and his therapists and things improved. Until this year. This year has gone very poorly. He struggles to tell me why, but he absolutely hates school this year. He's left his classroom several times, and managed to make it all the way home twice. This year his school also has a new principal. We had a 504 review meeting with the school recently to see what accommodations we can make for him and agreed on a plan. (Getting an autism specialist involved, perhaps having an IEP, etc.). The principal is super concerned about him eloping from school, and rightly so. We made some incentive structures for him to stay in class. That improved things for a bit. However today, after he eloped for the 2nd time this year, she told him next time she would call the police. I understand her concern about safety, however he's 8 and has autism and ADHD. If he interacts with the police in a confrontational manner I'm terrified he might struggle with them, disobey, even hit them to escape. What can I do? Do I need a lawyer? If I do, where can I find a good one that does education or special needs or something like that? Should I try to de-escalate with the principal or stop communicating except through an attorney? Should I keep him home from school to prevent further escalations until I have help? Thanks

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Please, please search for autism resources in your state. Find an advocate that will go with you to the ARC meeting. An attorney well-versed n educational law would be great, but an advocate can help a lot. Ask - Knowing that part of his disability is running for situations that provoke anxiety, what is your plan to ensure his safety?

I’m not sure what state you’re in. If 504 does not fall under Special Education in your state, try your best to have your son qualified as SPED rather than 504. There are many more protections under the law for him. This is really despicable behavior from your sons school personnel. I hope you can find an advocate to help you. If you’re in Texas reach out to me, I may have some recommendations. Also, of note, I work in a juvenile justice detention center (juvie). in most states a child under the age of ten cannot be arrested. I understand she’s not necessarily threatening arrest, just trying to intimidate. Either way, this is a disgusting way for a principal to react.

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[CO] Son's school says they will call the police on 8 year old with Autism My son is 8 years old, in 3rd grade. He has high functioning autism and ADHD. He has a 504 plan. When we first started going to this school, they indicated he didn't need a 504 plan because he was too high functioning. In Kindergarten he eloped from school and ran home. We are a 10 minute walk from school. I work from home and made him go back immediately. This got the school motivated on getting his 504 plan going. We worked with the school and his therapists and things improved. Until this year. This year has gone very poorly. He struggles to tell me why, but he absolutely hates school this year. He's left his classroom several times, and managed to make it all the way home twice. This year his school also has a new principal. We had a 504 review meeting with the school recently to see what accommodations we can make for him and agreed on a plan. (Getting an autism specialist involved, perhaps having an IEP, etc.). The principal is super concerned about him eloping from school, and rightly so. We made some incentive structures for him to stay in class. That improved things for a bit. However today, after he eloped for the 2nd time this year, she told him next time she would call the police. I understand her concern about safety, however he's 8 and has autism and ADHD. If he interacts with the police in a confrontational manner I'm terrified he might struggle with them, disobey, even hit them to escape. What can I do? Do I need a lawyer? If I do, where can I find a good one that does education or special needs or something like that? Should I try to de-escalate with the principal or stop communicating except through an attorney? Should I keep him home from school to prevent further escalations until I have help? Thanks

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How do they see that going down? They're going to be calling the cops because they failed in their supervisory capacity? I've worked with eloping students and have followed them multiple blocks while on the phone with their parents. I would be seriously talking to the school about their security if kids are able to leave at will and without notice. I would absolutely ask for an IEP evaluation. Put it in writing. They are legally required go through the process within a relatively short time frame. Look for local autism support groups as they may have special education advocates that can attend IEP meetings with you to make sure that the school is providing reasonable accommodations.

I’m not sure what state you’re in. If 504 does not fall under Special Education in your state, try your best to have your son qualified as SPED rather than 504. There are many more protections under the law for him. This is really despicable behavior from your sons school personnel. I hope you can find an advocate to help you. If you’re in Texas reach out to me, I may have some recommendations. Also, of note, I work in a juvenile justice detention center (juvie). in most states a child under the age of ten cannot be arrested. I understand she’s not necessarily threatening arrest, just trying to intimidate. Either way, this is a disgusting way for a principal to react.

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[CO] Son's school says they will call the police on 8 year old with Autism My son is 8 years old, in 3rd grade. He has high functioning autism and ADHD. He has a 504 plan. When we first started going to this school, they indicated he didn't need a 504 plan because he was too high functioning. In Kindergarten he eloped from school and ran home. We are a 10 minute walk from school. I work from home and made him go back immediately. This got the school motivated on getting his 504 plan going. We worked with the school and his therapists and things improved. Until this year. This year has gone very poorly. He struggles to tell me why, but he absolutely hates school this year. He's left his classroom several times, and managed to make it all the way home twice. This year his school also has a new principal. We had a 504 review meeting with the school recently to see what accommodations we can make for him and agreed on a plan. (Getting an autism specialist involved, perhaps having an IEP, etc.). The principal is super concerned about him eloping from school, and rightly so. We made some incentive structures for him to stay in class. That improved things for a bit. However today, after he eloped for the 2nd time this year, she told him next time she would call the police. I understand her concern about safety, however he's 8 and has autism and ADHD. If he interacts with the police in a confrontational manner I'm terrified he might struggle with them, disobey, even hit them to escape. What can I do? Do I need a lawyer? If I do, where can I find a good one that does education or special needs or something like that? Should I try to de-escalate with the principal or stop communicating except through an attorney? Should I keep him home from school to prevent further escalations until I have help? Thanks

hl341hr

hl309u6

I’m not sure what state you’re in. If 504 does not fall under Special Education in your state, try your best to have your son qualified as SPED rather than 504. There are many more protections under the law for him. This is really despicable behavior from your sons school personnel. I hope you can find an advocate to help you. If you’re in Texas reach out to me, I may have some recommendations. Also, of note, I work in a juvenile justice detention center (juvie). in most states a child under the age of ten cannot be arrested. I understand she’s not necessarily threatening arrest, just trying to intimidate. Either way, this is a disgusting way for a principal to react.

Not a lawyer and unsure of the policies in your state, but I do recommend consulting an attorney who specializes in these areas. We allowed an advocate who meant well to try to support us in the process of getting what our Autistic and ADHD son needed, and they put us in a spot where a lawyer was hesitant to support us. A consultation is worth it if you can afford it.

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[CO] Son's school says they will call the police on 8 year old with Autism My son is 8 years old, in 3rd grade. He has high functioning autism and ADHD. He has a 504 plan. When we first started going to this school, they indicated he didn't need a 504 plan because he was too high functioning. In Kindergarten he eloped from school and ran home. We are a 10 minute walk from school. I work from home and made him go back immediately. This got the school motivated on getting his 504 plan going. We worked with the school and his therapists and things improved. Until this year. This year has gone very poorly. He struggles to tell me why, but he absolutely hates school this year. He's left his classroom several times, and managed to make it all the way home twice. This year his school also has a new principal. We had a 504 review meeting with the school recently to see what accommodations we can make for him and agreed on a plan. (Getting an autism specialist involved, perhaps having an IEP, etc.). The principal is super concerned about him eloping from school, and rightly so. We made some incentive structures for him to stay in class. That improved things for a bit. However today, after he eloped for the 2nd time this year, she told him next time she would call the police. I understand her concern about safety, however he's 8 and has autism and ADHD. If he interacts with the police in a confrontational manner I'm terrified he might struggle with them, disobey, even hit them to escape. What can I do? Do I need a lawyer? If I do, where can I find a good one that does education or special needs or something like that? Should I try to de-escalate with the principal or stop communicating except through an attorney? Should I keep him home from school to prevent further escalations until I have help? Thanks

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hl341hr

Would he qualify for an IEP rather than a 504? He might just with ADHD. I have an autistic/ADHD 5 yr old who also elopes but has an IEP. If you can I would see if you can get an advocate to assist and support you while setting up an IEP meeting.

I’m not sure what state you’re in. If 504 does not fall under Special Education in your state, try your best to have your son qualified as SPED rather than 504. There are many more protections under the law for him. This is really despicable behavior from your sons school personnel. I hope you can find an advocate to help you. If you’re in Texas reach out to me, I may have some recommendations. Also, of note, I work in a juvenile justice detention center (juvie). in most states a child under the age of ten cannot be arrested. I understand she’s not necessarily threatening arrest, just trying to intimidate. Either way, this is a disgusting way for a principal to react.

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[CO] Son's school says they will call the police on 8 year old with Autism My son is 8 years old, in 3rd grade. He has high functioning autism and ADHD. He has a 504 plan. When we first started going to this school, they indicated he didn't need a 504 plan because he was too high functioning. In Kindergarten he eloped from school and ran home. We are a 10 minute walk from school. I work from home and made him go back immediately. This got the school motivated on getting his 504 plan going. We worked with the school and his therapists and things improved. Until this year. This year has gone very poorly. He struggles to tell me why, but he absolutely hates school this year. He's left his classroom several times, and managed to make it all the way home twice. This year his school also has a new principal. We had a 504 review meeting with the school recently to see what accommodations we can make for him and agreed on a plan. (Getting an autism specialist involved, perhaps having an IEP, etc.). The principal is super concerned about him eloping from school, and rightly so. We made some incentive structures for him to stay in class. That improved things for a bit. However today, after he eloped for the 2nd time this year, she told him next time she would call the police. I understand her concern about safety, however he's 8 and has autism and ADHD. If he interacts with the police in a confrontational manner I'm terrified he might struggle with them, disobey, even hit them to escape. What can I do? Do I need a lawyer? If I do, where can I find a good one that does education or special needs or something like that? Should I try to de-escalate with the principal or stop communicating except through an attorney? Should I keep him home from school to prevent further escalations until I have help? Thanks

hl2uezm

hl2ku3d

He needs a one-to-one aide if he’s prone to eloping. Or there are better schools for him that will keep him safe/contained. The staff at these campuses are better trained and equipped for high functioning students with autism. Go to the the meeting and see what they are offering. You have a right to agree or disagree with any of the options.

Please, please search for autism resources in your state. Find an advocate that will go with you to the ARC meeting. An attorney well-versed n educational law would be great, but an advocate can help a lot. Ask - Knowing that part of his disability is running for situations that provoke anxiety, what is your plan to ensure his safety?

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[CO] Son's school says they will call the police on 8 year old with Autism My son is 8 years old, in 3rd grade. He has high functioning autism and ADHD. He has a 504 plan. When we first started going to this school, they indicated he didn't need a 504 plan because he was too high functioning. In Kindergarten he eloped from school and ran home. We are a 10 minute walk from school. I work from home and made him go back immediately. This got the school motivated on getting his 504 plan going. We worked with the school and his therapists and things improved. Until this year. This year has gone very poorly. He struggles to tell me why, but he absolutely hates school this year. He's left his classroom several times, and managed to make it all the way home twice. This year his school also has a new principal. We had a 504 review meeting with the school recently to see what accommodations we can make for him and agreed on a plan. (Getting an autism specialist involved, perhaps having an IEP, etc.). The principal is super concerned about him eloping from school, and rightly so. We made some incentive structures for him to stay in class. That improved things for a bit. However today, after he eloped for the 2nd time this year, she told him next time she would call the police. I understand her concern about safety, however he's 8 and has autism and ADHD. If he interacts with the police in a confrontational manner I'm terrified he might struggle with them, disobey, even hit them to escape. What can I do? Do I need a lawyer? If I do, where can I find a good one that does education or special needs or something like that? Should I try to de-escalate with the principal or stop communicating except through an attorney? Should I keep him home from school to prevent further escalations until I have help? Thanks

hl2pyq0

hl2uezm

How do they see that going down? They're going to be calling the cops because they failed in their supervisory capacity? I've worked with eloping students and have followed them multiple blocks while on the phone with their parents. I would be seriously talking to the school about their security if kids are able to leave at will and without notice. I would absolutely ask for an IEP evaluation. Put it in writing. They are legally required go through the process within a relatively short time frame. Look for local autism support groups as they may have special education advocates that can attend IEP meetings with you to make sure that the school is providing reasonable accommodations.

He needs a one-to-one aide if he’s prone to eloping. Or there are better schools for him that will keep him safe/contained. The staff at these campuses are better trained and equipped for high functioning students with autism. Go to the the meeting and see what they are offering. You have a right to agree or disagree with any of the options.

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Car accident while in another state, insurance wants to total vehicle ('79 Ford pickup) that I intend to keep/fix. If I accept, it may be illegal to drive home. – Tennessee, North Dakota] I have a '79 F-100 that I rebuilt and am quite fond of. It runs and drives beautifully, gets great highway milage, and I (and others) really enjoy it. I drove it from TN to ND in August, and subsequently all around the area for about a month before being crashed-into by an utter nincompoop who ran a stop sign (RIP Honda). [Truck Before and After His insurance took quite a while to come up with an offer ($6k, total loss), and I haven't accepted it yet (can't find anything to compare it to) and I'm somewhat doubting that I should. The damage is just cosmetic really, and I plan on fixing it myself here in North Dakota before going home. The patina is intentional and part of the "look" (which I'll probably never be able to replicate exactly and I may just end up restoring), but the truck overall is in excellent mechanical condition. From what I gather, a totaled vehicle can't be legally registered, driven or insured in Tennessee until it's "rebuilt", which if true would make it practically impossible to drive home legally (which I intended to do weeks ago were it not for the accident). The insurance agent said the only way to avoid a salvage title would be to drop the claim. Any guidance or insight is much appreciated.

heyp7bd

heymv6j

Here's the distinction... It's not that a 'totaled' vehicle cannot be driven... It's that a vehicle cannot be driven on a 'salvage' title until it is fixed and then converted to a 'rebuilt' title. Have you updated the title to a 'salvage' title yet with the DMV/BMV? If not, then it should still be covered by the title/registration/insurance that you had on it in August (assuming none of those have expired) . The bigger question for you is "is it SAFE to drive?" Is it mechanically safe? Are the lights and other legally required equipment in good working order and in compliance with applicable laws? If it is SAFE to drive then drive it home before you complete the process of getting the salvage title and payout. MANY people drive vehicles home from a crash that are ultimately considered totaled by the insurance company - as long as they are safe to drive - it's only once the title is actually branded as 'salvage' that you can no longer drive it until it's rebuilt. Of course, if it it not safe to drive then have it towed. Before you decide to keep and fix it, make sure you understand Tennesee's process for converting a salvage title to a rebuilt title. They may demand receipts for parts used in the repair, so have them ready.

It’s already registered. Just drive it home.

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Car accident while in another state, insurance wants to total vehicle ('79 Ford pickup) that I intend to keep/fix. If I accept, it may be illegal to drive home. – Tennessee, North Dakota] I have a '79 F-100 that I rebuilt and am quite fond of. It runs and drives beautifully, gets great highway milage, and I (and others) really enjoy it. I drove it from TN to ND in August, and subsequently all around the area for about a month before being crashed-into by an utter nincompoop who ran a stop sign (RIP Honda). [Truck Before and After His insurance took quite a while to come up with an offer ($6k, total loss), and I haven't accepted it yet (can't find anything to compare it to) and I'm somewhat doubting that I should. The damage is just cosmetic really, and I plan on fixing it myself here in North Dakota before going home. The patina is intentional and part of the "look" (which I'll probably never be able to replicate exactly and I may just end up restoring), but the truck overall is in excellent mechanical condition. From what I gather, a totaled vehicle can't be legally registered, driven or insured in Tennessee until it's "rebuilt", which if true would make it practically impossible to drive home legally (which I intended to do weeks ago were it not for the accident). The insurance agent said the only way to avoid a salvage title would be to drop the claim. Any guidance or insight is much appreciated.

heyp7bd

heycrgs

Here's the distinction... It's not that a 'totaled' vehicle cannot be driven... It's that a vehicle cannot be driven on a 'salvage' title until it is fixed and then converted to a 'rebuilt' title. Have you updated the title to a 'salvage' title yet with the DMV/BMV? If not, then it should still be covered by the title/registration/insurance that you had on it in August (assuming none of those have expired) . The bigger question for you is "is it SAFE to drive?" Is it mechanically safe? Are the lights and other legally required equipment in good working order and in compliance with applicable laws? If it is SAFE to drive then drive it home before you complete the process of getting the salvage title and payout. MANY people drive vehicles home from a crash that are ultimately considered totaled by the insurance company - as long as they are safe to drive - it's only once the title is actually branded as 'salvage' that you can no longer drive it until it's rebuilt. Of course, if it it not safe to drive then have it towed. Before you decide to keep and fix it, make sure you understand Tennesee's process for converting a salvage title to a rebuilt title. They may demand receipts for parts used in the repair, so have them ready.

Could ship it back.

pz2qlp

legaladvice_train

Car accident while in another state, insurance wants to total vehicle ('79 Ford pickup) that I intend to keep/fix. If I accept, it may be illegal to drive home. – Tennessee, North Dakota] I have a '79 F-100 that I rebuilt and am quite fond of. It runs and drives beautifully, gets great highway milage, and I (and others) really enjoy it. I drove it from TN to ND in August, and subsequently all around the area for about a month before being crashed-into by an utter nincompoop who ran a stop sign (RIP Honda). [Truck Before and After His insurance took quite a while to come up with an offer ($6k, total loss), and I haven't accepted it yet (can't find anything to compare it to) and I'm somewhat doubting that I should. The damage is just cosmetic really, and I plan on fixing it myself here in North Dakota before going home. The patina is intentional and part of the "look" (which I'll probably never be able to replicate exactly and I may just end up restoring), but the truck overall is in excellent mechanical condition. From what I gather, a totaled vehicle can't be legally registered, driven or insured in Tennessee until it's "rebuilt", which if true would make it practically impossible to drive home legally (which I intended to do weeks ago were it not for the accident). The insurance agent said the only way to avoid a salvage title would be to drop the claim. Any guidance or insight is much appreciated.

hezrzi4

heymv6j

That is an original unrestored antique vehicle. You can get a lot more than 6k for it.

It’s already registered. Just drive it home.

pz2qlp

legaladvice_train

Car accident while in another state, insurance wants to total vehicle ('79 Ford pickup) that I intend to keep/fix. If I accept, it may be illegal to drive home. – Tennessee, North Dakota] I have a '79 F-100 that I rebuilt and am quite fond of. It runs and drives beautifully, gets great highway milage, and I (and others) really enjoy it. I drove it from TN to ND in August, and subsequently all around the area for about a month before being crashed-into by an utter nincompoop who ran a stop sign (RIP Honda). [Truck Before and After His insurance took quite a while to come up with an offer ($6k, total loss), and I haven't accepted it yet (can't find anything to compare it to) and I'm somewhat doubting that I should. The damage is just cosmetic really, and I plan on fixing it myself here in North Dakota before going home. The patina is intentional and part of the "look" (which I'll probably never be able to replicate exactly and I may just end up restoring), but the truck overall is in excellent mechanical condition. From what I gather, a totaled vehicle can't be legally registered, driven or insured in Tennessee until it's "rebuilt", which if true would make it practically impossible to drive home legally (which I intended to do weeks ago were it not for the accident). The insurance agent said the only way to avoid a salvage title would be to drop the claim. Any guidance or insight is much appreciated.

hezrzi4

heycrgs

That is an original unrestored antique vehicle. You can get a lot more than 6k for it.

Could ship it back.

pz2qlp

legaladvice_train

Car accident while in another state, insurance wants to total vehicle ('79 Ford pickup) that I intend to keep/fix. If I accept, it may be illegal to drive home. – Tennessee, North Dakota] I have a '79 F-100 that I rebuilt and am quite fond of. It runs and drives beautifully, gets great highway milage, and I (and others) really enjoy it. I drove it from TN to ND in August, and subsequently all around the area for about a month before being crashed-into by an utter nincompoop who ran a stop sign (RIP Honda). [Truck Before and After His insurance took quite a while to come up with an offer ($6k, total loss), and I haven't accepted it yet (can't find anything to compare it to) and I'm somewhat doubting that I should. The damage is just cosmetic really, and I plan on fixing it myself here in North Dakota before going home. The patina is intentional and part of the "look" (which I'll probably never be able to replicate exactly and I may just end up restoring), but the truck overall is in excellent mechanical condition. From what I gather, a totaled vehicle can't be legally registered, driven or insured in Tennessee until it's "rebuilt", which if true would make it practically impossible to drive home legally (which I intended to do weeks ago were it not for the accident). The insurance agent said the only way to avoid a salvage title would be to drop the claim. Any guidance or insight is much appreciated.

hf05ctu

heymv6j

My condolences. I have the exact same truck but in root beer brown and would be devastated if that happened to me. As far as advice, when my trailblazer blew the engine about 1000 miles from home, I just rented a uhaul truck and trailer for a one way trip. It was pretty hairy driving an empty truck with that heavy ass trailer load, but I got home.

It’s already registered. Just drive it home.

pz2qlp

legaladvice_train

Car accident while in another state, insurance wants to total vehicle ('79 Ford pickup) that I intend to keep/fix. If I accept, it may be illegal to drive home. – Tennessee, North Dakota] I have a '79 F-100 that I rebuilt and am quite fond of. It runs and drives beautifully, gets great highway milage, and I (and others) really enjoy it. I drove it from TN to ND in August, and subsequently all around the area for about a month before being crashed-into by an utter nincompoop who ran a stop sign (RIP Honda). [Truck Before and After His insurance took quite a while to come up with an offer ($6k, total loss), and I haven't accepted it yet (can't find anything to compare it to) and I'm somewhat doubting that I should. The damage is just cosmetic really, and I plan on fixing it myself here in North Dakota before going home. The patina is intentional and part of the "look" (which I'll probably never be able to replicate exactly and I may just end up restoring), but the truck overall is in excellent mechanical condition. From what I gather, a totaled vehicle can't be legally registered, driven or insured in Tennessee until it's "rebuilt", which if true would make it practically impossible to drive home legally (which I intended to do weeks ago were it not for the accident). The insurance agent said the only way to avoid a salvage title would be to drop the claim. Any guidance or insight is much appreciated.

hf05ctu

heycrgs

My condolences. I have the exact same truck but in root beer brown and would be devastated if that happened to me. As far as advice, when my trailblazer blew the engine about 1000 miles from home, I just rented a uhaul truck and trailer for a one way trip. It was pretty hairy driving an empty truck with that heavy ass trailer load, but I got home.

Could ship it back.

pz2qlp

legaladvice_train

Car accident while in another state, insurance wants to total vehicle ('79 Ford pickup) that I intend to keep/fix. If I accept, it may be illegal to drive home. – Tennessee, North Dakota] I have a '79 F-100 that I rebuilt and am quite fond of. It runs and drives beautifully, gets great highway milage, and I (and others) really enjoy it. I drove it from TN to ND in August, and subsequently all around the area for about a month before being crashed-into by an utter nincompoop who ran a stop sign (RIP Honda). [Truck Before and After His insurance took quite a while to come up with an offer ($6k, total loss), and I haven't accepted it yet (can't find anything to compare it to) and I'm somewhat doubting that I should. The damage is just cosmetic really, and I plan on fixing it myself here in North Dakota before going home. The patina is intentional and part of the "look" (which I'll probably never be able to replicate exactly and I may just end up restoring), but the truck overall is in excellent mechanical condition. From what I gather, a totaled vehicle can't be legally registered, driven or insured in Tennessee until it's "rebuilt", which if true would make it practically impossible to drive home legally (which I intended to do weeks ago were it not for the accident). The insurance agent said the only way to avoid a salvage title would be to drop the claim. Any guidance or insight is much appreciated.

heymv6j

heycrgs

It’s already registered. Just drive it home.

Could ship it back.

4rxz7o

legaladvice_train

My girlfriend wants to lock her disabled son out of the house on his 18th birthday without finding him housing. However she plans to continue collecting his SSDI. He is illiterate and does not understand SSDI. If I am also living there, could I be liable for this if she is caught? FL

d550too

d55485z

She sounds like a real peach. How is he disabled? If he can't physically take care of himself, you can add neglect and abuse charges to the illegal eviction she's attempting and the fraud she's going to try to perpetrate against the Social Security Administration. I'm a lawyer and I couldn't live with a person like that. Leave her and report her to Social Security and your state's CPS.

The good news, of course, that it will take no time at all for a homeless deaf autistic young man to come to the attention of the authorities. And none to soon I think based on this poster and the attitudes displayed by him and his "girl friend". And of course what that means is that she won't be keeping his SSI. With any luck she'll be charged with fraud or abuse, but even if she isn't, she's not going to be getting the money. My only concern is the few days between her locking him out and him being picked up. You know what - thinking about it, I'm calling troll. I'm saying this because anyone who knows anything about autism knows that change is not only bad, it's not accepted. So if this was real, the GF would lock the young man out and then what? Would she really expect him to quietly move along? No he'd be outside the property most likely drawing attention to the situation.

4rxz7o

legaladvice_train

My girlfriend wants to lock her disabled son out of the house on his 18th birthday without finding him housing. However she plans to continue collecting his SSDI. He is illiterate and does not understand SSDI. If I am also living there, could I be liable for this if she is caught? FL

d55485z

d551ren

The good news, of course, that it will take no time at all for a homeless deaf autistic young man to come to the attention of the authorities. And none to soon I think based on this poster and the attitudes displayed by him and his "girl friend". And of course what that means is that she won't be keeping his SSI. With any luck she'll be charged with fraud or abuse, but even if she isn't, she's not going to be getting the money. My only concern is the few days between her locking him out and him being picked up. You know what - thinking about it, I'm calling troll. I'm saying this because anyone who knows anything about autism knows that change is not only bad, it's not accepted. So if this was real, the GF would lock the young man out and then what? Would she really expect him to quietly move along? No he'd be outside the property most likely drawing attention to the situation.

~~I've got good news for you: Your girlfriend's disabled son is going to be just fine. Know why? Because her boyfriend is **legally obligated** by Florida Statute 415.1034 to report her plan to the central abuse hotline at 1-800-962-2873 or he will go to jail.~~ e: Apparently 'any person' doesn't mean 'any person' in Florida. Who knew. Or maybe it does. I don't know what's real anymore. Someone hold me. (Seriously we're not sure about this part)

4rxz7o

legaladvice_train

My girlfriend wants to lock her disabled son out of the house on his 18th birthday without finding him housing. However she plans to continue collecting his SSDI. He is illiterate and does not understand SSDI. If I am also living there, could I be liable for this if she is caught? FL

d55485z

d551zfw

The good news, of course, that it will take no time at all for a homeless deaf autistic young man to come to the attention of the authorities. And none to soon I think based on this poster and the attitudes displayed by him and his "girl friend". And of course what that means is that she won't be keeping his SSI. With any luck she'll be charged with fraud or abuse, but even if she isn't, she's not going to be getting the money. My only concern is the few days between her locking him out and him being picked up. You know what - thinking about it, I'm calling troll. I'm saying this because anyone who knows anything about autism knows that change is not only bad, it's not accepted. So if this was real, the GF would lock the young man out and then what? Would she really expect him to quietly move along? No he'd be outside the property most likely drawing attention to the situation.

I know this isn't /r/RelationshipAdvice but your girlfriend sounds like a complete and utter scumbag, get out of there dude (after reporting her for the sake of the kid of course).

4rxz7o

legaladvice_train

My girlfriend wants to lock her disabled son out of the house on his 18th birthday without finding him housing. However she plans to continue collecting his SSDI. He is illiterate and does not understand SSDI. If I am also living there, could I be liable for this if she is caught? FL

d55485z

d554467

The good news, of course, that it will take no time at all for a homeless deaf autistic young man to come to the attention of the authorities. And none to soon I think based on this poster and the attitudes displayed by him and his "girl friend". And of course what that means is that she won't be keeping his SSI. With any luck she'll be charged with fraud or abuse, but even if she isn't, she's not going to be getting the money. My only concern is the few days between her locking him out and him being picked up. You know what - thinking about it, I'm calling troll. I'm saying this because anyone who knows anything about autism knows that change is not only bad, it's not accepted. So if this was real, the GF would lock the young man out and then what? Would she really expect him to quietly move along? No he'd be outside the property most likely drawing attention to the situation.

Basically, yes. >415.111 Criminal penalties.— (1) A person who knowingly and willfully fails to report a case of known or suspected abuse, neglect, or exploitation of a vulnerable adult, or who knowingly and willfully prevents another person from doing so, commits a misdemeanor of the second degree, punishable as provided in s. 775.082 or s. 775.083.

4rxz7o

legaladvice_train

My girlfriend wants to lock her disabled son out of the house on his 18th birthday without finding him housing. However she plans to continue collecting his SSDI. He is illiterate and does not understand SSDI. If I am also living there, could I be liable for this if she is caught? FL

d55485z

d552ql2

The good news, of course, that it will take no time at all for a homeless deaf autistic young man to come to the attention of the authorities. And none to soon I think based on this poster and the attitudes displayed by him and his "girl friend". And of course what that means is that she won't be keeping his SSI. With any luck she'll be charged with fraud or abuse, but even if she isn't, she's not going to be getting the money. My only concern is the few days between her locking him out and him being picked up. You know what - thinking about it, I'm calling troll. I'm saying this because anyone who knows anything about autism knows that change is not only bad, it's not accepted. So if this was real, the GF would lock the young man out and then what? Would she really expect him to quietly move along? No he'd be outside the property most likely drawing attention to the situation.

The better question is wtf are you doing with this monster in the first place? Don't bother answering. You two are made for each other.

4rxz7o

legaladvice_train

My girlfriend wants to lock her disabled son out of the house on his 18th birthday without finding him housing. However she plans to continue collecting his SSDI. He is illiterate and does not understand SSDI. If I am also living there, could I be liable for this if she is caught? FL

d5534l1

d55485z

Possibly for abetting financial abuse of a disabled person. Be a good guy and call the county's public guardian's office. They will coordinate with SSA to at least set up a representative payee for him and also to help with housing and placement in a group home. The boy is receiving SSI by the way. He wouldn't qualify for SSDI- you have to have 5 years or 20 quarters of wages paid into the Social Security system for SSDI. SSI pays less per month but comes with Medicaid. SSDI pays more but may get Medicare after a 30 month wait after date of disablement. I second the opinion expressed by a couple others. Your girlfriend is a POS

The good news, of course, that it will take no time at all for a homeless deaf autistic young man to come to the attention of the authorities. And none to soon I think based on this poster and the attitudes displayed by him and his "girl friend". And of course what that means is that she won't be keeping his SSI. With any luck she'll be charged with fraud or abuse, but even if she isn't, she's not going to be getting the money. My only concern is the few days between her locking him out and him being picked up. You know what - thinking about it, I'm calling troll. I'm saying this because anyone who knows anything about autism knows that change is not only bad, it's not accepted. So if this was real, the GF would lock the young man out and then what? Would she really expect him to quietly move along? No he'd be outside the property most likely drawing attention to the situation.

4rxz7o

legaladvice_train

My girlfriend wants to lock her disabled son out of the house on his 18th birthday without finding him housing. However she plans to continue collecting his SSDI. He is illiterate and does not understand SSDI. If I am also living there, could I be liable for this if she is caught? FL

d55485z

d553osa

The good news, of course, that it will take no time at all for a homeless deaf autistic young man to come to the attention of the authorities. And none to soon I think based on this poster and the attitudes displayed by him and his "girl friend". And of course what that means is that she won't be keeping his SSI. With any luck she'll be charged with fraud or abuse, but even if she isn't, she's not going to be getting the money. My only concern is the few days between her locking him out and him being picked up. You know what - thinking about it, I'm calling troll. I'm saying this because anyone who knows anything about autism knows that change is not only bad, it's not accepted. So if this was real, the GF would lock the young man out and then what? Would she really expect him to quietly move along? No he'd be outside the property most likely drawing attention to the situation.

Without his SSDI how is he supposed to house and feed himself? Or are you two okay with him being homeless?

4rxz7o

legaladvice_train

My girlfriend wants to lock her disabled son out of the house on his 18th birthday without finding him housing. However she plans to continue collecting his SSDI. He is illiterate and does not understand SSDI. If I am also living there, could I be liable for this if she is caught? FL

d553ab3

d55485z

Dude, you just listed bunch of major red flags. ABANDON THE SHIP

The good news, of course, that it will take no time at all for a homeless deaf autistic young man to come to the attention of the authorities. And none to soon I think based on this poster and the attitudes displayed by him and his "girl friend". And of course what that means is that she won't be keeping his SSI. With any luck she'll be charged with fraud or abuse, but even if she isn't, she's not going to be getting the money. My only concern is the few days between her locking him out and him being picked up. You know what - thinking about it, I'm calling troll. I'm saying this because anyone who knows anything about autism knows that change is not only bad, it's not accepted. So if this was real, the GF would lock the young man out and then what? Would she really expect him to quietly move along? No he'd be outside the property most likely drawing attention to the situation.

4rxz7o

legaladvice_train

My girlfriend wants to lock her disabled son out of the house on his 18th birthday without finding him housing. However she plans to continue collecting his SSDI. He is illiterate and does not understand SSDI. If I am also living there, could I be liable for this if she is caught? FL

d551ren

d554btq

~~I've got good news for you: Your girlfriend's disabled son is going to be just fine. Know why? Because her boyfriend is **legally obligated** by Florida Statute 415.1034 to report her plan to the central abuse hotline at 1-800-962-2873 or he will go to jail.~~ e: Apparently 'any person' doesn't mean 'any person' in Florida. Who knew. Or maybe it does. I don't know what's real anymore. Someone hold me. (Seriously we're not sure about this part)

I'm sorry, but I find this very hard to believe. If he is under 18, he has an IEP. The school is checking in on his academic well being, and probably beyond that if he is as severely disabled as you indicate. The IEP team will be holding some form of transition meeting where next steps will be indicated. Unless he's getting an actual diploma, which is unlikely since he is illiterate (do you mean nonverbal?), the school will continue to be responsible for him until he ages out at 22... then after that, all states have some form of state agency that is entrusted with the care of the developmentally disabled. Here in CA it is the Regional Center. If the child is already received SSDI, and has autism and is nonverbal and/or illiterate, unless he's been homeschooled in a specific way, he's on the radar of his school district... and also, quite probably Florida's version of the Regional Center, whatever that may be. Again I'm sorry, but I don't find this a credible post. There are people who would find out what is happening to him. And if I'm wrong and this is true, fuck you.

4rxz7o

legaladvice_train

My girlfriend wants to lock her disabled son out of the house on his 18th birthday without finding him housing. However she plans to continue collecting his SSDI. He is illiterate and does not understand SSDI. If I am also living there, could I be liable for this if she is caught? FL

d551zfw

d554btq

I know this isn't /r/RelationshipAdvice but your girlfriend sounds like a complete and utter scumbag, get out of there dude (after reporting her for the sake of the kid of course).

I'm sorry, but I find this very hard to believe. If he is under 18, he has an IEP. The school is checking in on his academic well being, and probably beyond that if he is as severely disabled as you indicate. The IEP team will be holding some form of transition meeting where next steps will be indicated. Unless he's getting an actual diploma, which is unlikely since he is illiterate (do you mean nonverbal?), the school will continue to be responsible for him until he ages out at 22... then after that, all states have some form of state agency that is entrusted with the care of the developmentally disabled. Here in CA it is the Regional Center. If the child is already received SSDI, and has autism and is nonverbal and/or illiterate, unless he's been homeschooled in a specific way, he's on the radar of his school district... and also, quite probably Florida's version of the Regional Center, whatever that may be. Again I'm sorry, but I don't find this a credible post. There are people who would find out what is happening to him. And if I'm wrong and this is true, fuck you.

4rxz7o

legaladvice_train

My girlfriend wants to lock her disabled son out of the house on his 18th birthday without finding him housing. However she plans to continue collecting his SSDI. He is illiterate and does not understand SSDI. If I am also living there, could I be liable for this if she is caught? FL

d554btq

d554467

I'm sorry, but I find this very hard to believe. If he is under 18, he has an IEP. The school is checking in on his academic well being, and probably beyond that if he is as severely disabled as you indicate. The IEP team will be holding some form of transition meeting where next steps will be indicated. Unless he's getting an actual diploma, which is unlikely since he is illiterate (do you mean nonverbal?), the school will continue to be responsible for him until he ages out at 22... then after that, all states have some form of state agency that is entrusted with the care of the developmentally disabled. Here in CA it is the Regional Center. If the child is already received SSDI, and has autism and is nonverbal and/or illiterate, unless he's been homeschooled in a specific way, he's on the radar of his school district... and also, quite probably Florida's version of the Regional Center, whatever that may be. Again I'm sorry, but I don't find this a credible post. There are people who would find out what is happening to him. And if I'm wrong and this is true, fuck you.

Basically, yes. >415.111 Criminal penalties.— (1) A person who knowingly and willfully fails to report a case of known or suspected abuse, neglect, or exploitation of a vulnerable adult, or who knowingly and willfully prevents another person from doing so, commits a misdemeanor of the second degree, punishable as provided in s. 775.082 or s. 775.083.

4rxz7o

legaladvice_train

My girlfriend wants to lock her disabled son out of the house on his 18th birthday without finding him housing. However she plans to continue collecting his SSDI. He is illiterate and does not understand SSDI. If I am also living there, could I be liable for this if she is caught? FL

d552ql2

d554btq

The better question is wtf are you doing with this monster in the first place? Don't bother answering. You two are made for each other.

I'm sorry, but I find this very hard to believe. If he is under 18, he has an IEP. The school is checking in on his academic well being, and probably beyond that if he is as severely disabled as you indicate. The IEP team will be holding some form of transition meeting where next steps will be indicated. Unless he's getting an actual diploma, which is unlikely since he is illiterate (do you mean nonverbal?), the school will continue to be responsible for him until he ages out at 22... then after that, all states have some form of state agency that is entrusted with the care of the developmentally disabled. Here in CA it is the Regional Center. If the child is already received SSDI, and has autism and is nonverbal and/or illiterate, unless he's been homeschooled in a specific way, he's on the radar of his school district... and also, quite probably Florida's version of the Regional Center, whatever that may be. Again I'm sorry, but I don't find this a credible post. There are people who would find out what is happening to him. And if I'm wrong and this is true, fuck you.

4rxz7o

legaladvice_train

My girlfriend wants to lock her disabled son out of the house on his 18th birthday without finding him housing. However she plans to continue collecting his SSDI. He is illiterate and does not understand SSDI. If I am also living there, could I be liable for this if she is caught? FL

d5534l1

d554btq

Possibly for abetting financial abuse of a disabled person. Be a good guy and call the county's public guardian's office. They will coordinate with SSA to at least set up a representative payee for him and also to help with housing and placement in a group home. The boy is receiving SSI by the way. He wouldn't qualify for SSDI- you have to have 5 years or 20 quarters of wages paid into the Social Security system for SSDI. SSI pays less per month but comes with Medicaid. SSDI pays more but may get Medicare after a 30 month wait after date of disablement. I second the opinion expressed by a couple others. Your girlfriend is a POS

I'm sorry, but I find this very hard to believe. If he is under 18, he has an IEP. The school is checking in on his academic well being, and probably beyond that if he is as severely disabled as you indicate. The IEP team will be holding some form of transition meeting where next steps will be indicated. Unless he's getting an actual diploma, which is unlikely since he is illiterate (do you mean nonverbal?), the school will continue to be responsible for him until he ages out at 22... then after that, all states have some form of state agency that is entrusted with the care of the developmentally disabled. Here in CA it is the Regional Center. If the child is already received SSDI, and has autism and is nonverbal and/or illiterate, unless he's been homeschooled in a specific way, he's on the radar of his school district... and also, quite probably Florida's version of the Regional Center, whatever that may be. Again I'm sorry, but I don't find this a credible post. There are people who would find out what is happening to him. And if I'm wrong and this is true, fuck you.

4rxz7o

legaladvice_train

My girlfriend wants to lock her disabled son out of the house on his 18th birthday without finding him housing. However she plans to continue collecting his SSDI. He is illiterate and does not understand SSDI. If I am also living there, could I be liable for this if she is caught? FL

d554btq

d554aes

I'm sorry, but I find this very hard to believe. If he is under 18, he has an IEP. The school is checking in on his academic well being, and probably beyond that if he is as severely disabled as you indicate. The IEP team will be holding some form of transition meeting where next steps will be indicated. Unless he's getting an actual diploma, which is unlikely since he is illiterate (do you mean nonverbal?), the school will continue to be responsible for him until he ages out at 22... then after that, all states have some form of state agency that is entrusted with the care of the developmentally disabled. Here in CA it is the Regional Center. If the child is already received SSDI, and has autism and is nonverbal and/or illiterate, unless he's been homeschooled in a specific way, he's on the radar of his school district... and also, quite probably Florida's version of the Regional Center, whatever that may be. Again I'm sorry, but I don't find this a credible post. There are people who would find out what is happening to him. And if I'm wrong and this is true, fuck you.

Given that this is clearly a dangerous situation for a minor, wouldn't it be prudent to report this to florida authorities and see if they can track this down via ip from reddit ? Whats the threshold for something like this ?

4rxz7o

legaladvice_train

My girlfriend wants to lock her disabled son out of the house on his 18th birthday without finding him housing. However she plans to continue collecting his SSDI. He is illiterate and does not understand SSDI. If I am also living there, could I be liable for this if she is caught? FL

d554btq

d553osa

I'm sorry, but I find this very hard to believe. If he is under 18, he has an IEP. The school is checking in on his academic well being, and probably beyond that if he is as severely disabled as you indicate. The IEP team will be holding some form of transition meeting where next steps will be indicated. Unless he's getting an actual diploma, which is unlikely since he is illiterate (do you mean nonverbal?), the school will continue to be responsible for him until he ages out at 22... then after that, all states have some form of state agency that is entrusted with the care of the developmentally disabled. Here in CA it is the Regional Center. If the child is already received SSDI, and has autism and is nonverbal and/or illiterate, unless he's been homeschooled in a specific way, he's on the radar of his school district... and also, quite probably Florida's version of the Regional Center, whatever that may be. Again I'm sorry, but I don't find this a credible post. There are people who would find out what is happening to him. And if I'm wrong and this is true, fuck you.

Without his SSDI how is he supposed to house and feed himself? Or are you two okay with him being homeless?

4rxz7o

legaladvice_train

My girlfriend wants to lock her disabled son out of the house on his 18th birthday without finding him housing. However she plans to continue collecting his SSDI. He is illiterate and does not understand SSDI. If I am also living there, could I be liable for this if she is caught? FL

d554btq

d553ab3

I'm sorry, but I find this very hard to believe. If he is under 18, he has an IEP. The school is checking in on his academic well being, and probably beyond that if he is as severely disabled as you indicate. The IEP team will be holding some form of transition meeting where next steps will be indicated. Unless he's getting an actual diploma, which is unlikely since he is illiterate (do you mean nonverbal?), the school will continue to be responsible for him until he ages out at 22... then after that, all states have some form of state agency that is entrusted with the care of the developmentally disabled. Here in CA it is the Regional Center. If the child is already received SSDI, and has autism and is nonverbal and/or illiterate, unless he's been homeschooled in a specific way, he's on the radar of his school district... and also, quite probably Florida's version of the Regional Center, whatever that may be. Again I'm sorry, but I don't find this a credible post. There are people who would find out what is happening to him. And if I'm wrong and this is true, fuck you.

Dude, you just listed bunch of major red flags. ABANDON THE SHIP

4rxz7o

legaladvice_train

My girlfriend wants to lock her disabled son out of the house on his 18th birthday without finding him housing. However she plans to continue collecting his SSDI. He is illiterate and does not understand SSDI. If I am also living there, could I be liable for this if she is caught? FL

d551zfw

d554467

I know this isn't /r/RelationshipAdvice but your girlfriend sounds like a complete and utter scumbag, get out of there dude (after reporting her for the sake of the kid of course).

Basically, yes. >415.111 Criminal penalties.— (1) A person who knowingly and willfully fails to report a case of known or suspected abuse, neglect, or exploitation of a vulnerable adult, or who knowingly and willfully prevents another person from doing so, commits a misdemeanor of the second degree, punishable as provided in s. 775.082 or s. 775.083.

4rxz7o

legaladvice_train

My girlfriend wants to lock her disabled son out of the house on his 18th birthday without finding him housing. However she plans to continue collecting his SSDI. He is illiterate and does not understand SSDI. If I am also living there, could I be liable for this if she is caught? FL

d552ql2

d554467

The better question is wtf are you doing with this monster in the first place? Don't bother answering. You two are made for each other.

Basically, yes. >415.111 Criminal penalties.— (1) A person who knowingly and willfully fails to report a case of known or suspected abuse, neglect, or exploitation of a vulnerable adult, or who knowingly and willfully prevents another person from doing so, commits a misdemeanor of the second degree, punishable as provided in s. 775.082 or s. 775.083.

4rxz7o

legaladvice_train

My girlfriend wants to lock her disabled son out of the house on his 18th birthday without finding him housing. However she plans to continue collecting his SSDI. He is illiterate and does not understand SSDI. If I am also living there, could I be liable for this if she is caught? FL

d5534l1

d554467

Possibly for abetting financial abuse of a disabled person. Be a good guy and call the county's public guardian's office. They will coordinate with SSA to at least set up a representative payee for him and also to help with housing and placement in a group home. The boy is receiving SSI by the way. He wouldn't qualify for SSDI- you have to have 5 years or 20 quarters of wages paid into the Social Security system for SSDI. SSI pays less per month but comes with Medicaid. SSDI pays more but may get Medicare after a 30 month wait after date of disablement. I second the opinion expressed by a couple others. Your girlfriend is a POS

Basically, yes. >415.111 Criminal penalties.— (1) A person who knowingly and willfully fails to report a case of known or suspected abuse, neglect, or exploitation of a vulnerable adult, or who knowingly and willfully prevents another person from doing so, commits a misdemeanor of the second degree, punishable as provided in s. 775.082 or s. 775.083.

4rxz7o

legaladvice_train

My girlfriend wants to lock her disabled son out of the house on his 18th birthday without finding him housing. However she plans to continue collecting his SSDI. He is illiterate and does not understand SSDI. If I am also living there, could I be liable for this if she is caught? FL

d553osa

d554467

Without his SSDI how is he supposed to house and feed himself? Or are you two okay with him being homeless?

Basically, yes. >415.111 Criminal penalties.— (1) A person who knowingly and willfully fails to report a case of known or suspected abuse, neglect, or exploitation of a vulnerable adult, or who knowingly and willfully prevents another person from doing so, commits a misdemeanor of the second degree, punishable as provided in s. 775.082 or s. 775.083.

4rxz7o

legaladvice_train

My girlfriend wants to lock her disabled son out of the house on his 18th birthday without finding him housing. However she plans to continue collecting his SSDI. He is illiterate and does not understand SSDI. If I am also living there, could I be liable for this if she is caught? FL

d553ab3

d554467

Dude, you just listed bunch of major red flags. ABANDON THE SHIP

Basically, yes. >415.111 Criminal penalties.— (1) A person who knowingly and willfully fails to report a case of known or suspected abuse, neglect, or exploitation of a vulnerable adult, or who knowingly and willfully prevents another person from doing so, commits a misdemeanor of the second degree, punishable as provided in s. 775.082 or s. 775.083.

4rxz7o

legaladvice_train

My girlfriend wants to lock her disabled son out of the house on his 18th birthday without finding him housing. However she plans to continue collecting his SSDI. He is illiterate and does not understand SSDI. If I am also living there, could I be liable for this if she is caught? FL

d554aes

d553osa

Given that this is clearly a dangerous situation for a minor, wouldn't it be prudent to report this to florida authorities and see if they can track this down via ip from reddit ? Whats the threshold for something like this ?

Without his SSDI how is he supposed to house and feed himself? Or are you two okay with him being homeless?

4rxz7o

legaladvice_train

My girlfriend wants to lock her disabled son out of the house on his 18th birthday without finding him housing. However she plans to continue collecting his SSDI. He is illiterate and does not understand SSDI. If I am also living there, could I be liable for this if she is caught? FL

d553ab3

d554aes

Dude, you just listed bunch of major red flags. ABANDON THE SHIP

Given that this is clearly a dangerous situation for a minor, wouldn't it be prudent to report this to florida authorities and see if they can track this down via ip from reddit ? Whats the threshold for something like this ?

4rxz7o

legaladvice_train

My girlfriend wants to lock her disabled son out of the house on his 18th birthday without finding him housing. However she plans to continue collecting his SSDI. He is illiterate and does not understand SSDI. If I am also living there, could I be liable for this if she is caught? FL

d553osa

d553ab3

Without his SSDI how is he supposed to house and feed himself? Or are you two okay with him being homeless?

Dude, you just listed bunch of major red flags. ABANDON THE SHIP

4rxz7o

legaladvice_train

My girlfriend wants to lock her disabled son out of the house on his 18th birthday without finding him housing. However she plans to continue collecting his SSDI. He is illiterate and does not understand SSDI. If I am also living there, could I be liable for this if she is caught? FL

d553ab3

d554g8n

Dude, you just listed bunch of major red flags. ABANDON THE SHIP

If you help her plan or help her in any way, you would have conspirator liability. It's not a matter of living there; it's whether you take any act in furtherance of the crime. In the event you have a criminal background, or are on parole or probation, don't expect to receive the benefit of the doubt when charges are filed.

528qx6

legaladvice_train

(FL) I'm a small scale chicken farmer, I sell at a local farmers market. Some guy wants to sue me because I wouldn't sell to him. I have all the relevant permits and licenses. The chickens are butchered at the farm, I don't sell live chickens. I was set up at my usual spot when a man approached me and asked to buy a chicken. I asked what weight, young or a hen. He asked for a younger bird any weight. I grab one out of the fridge and ask him if it's ok. He says that he wants a live chicken. I told him that I don't sell live chickens. He immediately became angry and demanded that I sell him a live one since he's "seen people coming out of the farmers market with live chickens before". I told him no again. He then tried to bribe me($100) saying he needs one badly and if I want I can drop one off at *near by beach* after the farms market closes. Again no. He said that he needs it due to his religion. The answer was still no. Then he started to accuse me of discriminating against him because of his religion. He threatened to sue me for it. I didn't sell it to him because it's against my rules, the rules of the farmers market and I'm pretty sure against the law. Could I be sued for this? Would a judge side with him?

d7icpvm

d7ibgcl

If you had the sale all ready to go through, then said "no" once you found out his religion, then maybe it could support a discrimination suit. If you never sell live chickens to anyone, the fact that this guy got dealt with according to policy isn't going to lead to a successful lawsuit.

The answer to "can I be sued?" is always yes. But, provided you don't do something stupid like miss the court date or ignore the suit, he can't win.

528qx6

legaladvice_train

(FL) I'm a small scale chicken farmer, I sell at a local farmers market. Some guy wants to sue me because I wouldn't sell to him. I have all the relevant permits and licenses. The chickens are butchered at the farm, I don't sell live chickens. I was set up at my usual spot when a man approached me and asked to buy a chicken. I asked what weight, young or a hen. He asked for a younger bird any weight. I grab one out of the fridge and ask him if it's ok. He says that he wants a live chicken. I told him that I don't sell live chickens. He immediately became angry and demanded that I sell him a live one since he's "seen people coming out of the farmers market with live chickens before". I told him no again. He then tried to bribe me($100) saying he needs one badly and if I want I can drop one off at *near by beach* after the farms market closes. Again no. He said that he needs it due to his religion. The answer was still no. Then he started to accuse me of discriminating against him because of his religion. He threatened to sue me for it. I didn't sell it to him because it's against my rules, the rules of the farmers market and I'm pretty sure against the law. Could I be sued for this? Would a judge side with him?

d7icpvm

d7i81gl

If you had the sale all ready to go through, then said "no" once you found out his religion, then maybe it could support a discrimination suit. If you never sell live chickens to anyone, the fact that this guy got dealt with according to policy isn't going to lead to a successful lawsuit.

You can be sued, sure. But there's no judgement to be made against you. You've done nothing wrong, he has no case.

528qx6

legaladvice_train

(FL) I'm a small scale chicken farmer, I sell at a local farmers market. Some guy wants to sue me because I wouldn't sell to him. I have all the relevant permits and licenses. The chickens are butchered at the farm, I don't sell live chickens. I was set up at my usual spot when a man approached me and asked to buy a chicken. I asked what weight, young or a hen. He asked for a younger bird any weight. I grab one out of the fridge and ask him if it's ok. He says that he wants a live chicken. I told him that I don't sell live chickens. He immediately became angry and demanded that I sell him a live one since he's "seen people coming out of the farmers market with live chickens before". I told him no again. He then tried to bribe me($100) saying he needs one badly and if I want I can drop one off at *near by beach* after the farms market closes. Again no. He said that he needs it due to his religion. The answer was still no. Then he started to accuse me of discriminating against him because of his religion. He threatened to sue me for it. I didn't sell it to him because it's against my rules, the rules of the farmers market and I'm pretty sure against the law. Could I be sued for this? Would a judge side with him?

d7ibt3c

d7icpvm

Ignore him until he sues. If and when he does, which is unlikely, you have to respond.

If you had the sale all ready to go through, then said "no" once you found out his religion, then maybe it could support a discrimination suit. If you never sell live chickens to anyone, the fact that this guy got dealt with according to policy isn't going to lead to a successful lawsuit.

528qx6

legaladvice_train

(FL) I'm a small scale chicken farmer, I sell at a local farmers market. Some guy wants to sue me because I wouldn't sell to him. I have all the relevant permits and licenses. The chickens are butchered at the farm, I don't sell live chickens. I was set up at my usual spot when a man approached me and asked to buy a chicken. I asked what weight, young or a hen. He asked for a younger bird any weight. I grab one out of the fridge and ask him if it's ok. He says that he wants a live chicken. I told him that I don't sell live chickens. He immediately became angry and demanded that I sell him a live one since he's "seen people coming out of the farmers market with live chickens before". I told him no again. He then tried to bribe me($100) saying he needs one badly and if I want I can drop one off at *near by beach* after the farms market closes. Again no. He said that he needs it due to his religion. The answer was still no. Then he started to accuse me of discriminating against him because of his religion. He threatened to sue me for it. I didn't sell it to him because it's against my rules, the rules of the farmers market and I'm pretty sure against the law. Could I be sued for this? Would a judge side with him?

d7i81gl

d7ibgcl

You can be sued, sure. But there's no judgement to be made against you. You've done nothing wrong, he has no case.

The answer to "can I be sued?" is always yes. But, provided you don't do something stupid like miss the court date or ignore the suit, he can't win.

528qx6

legaladvice_train

(FL) I'm a small scale chicken farmer, I sell at a local farmers market. Some guy wants to sue me because I wouldn't sell to him. I have all the relevant permits and licenses. The chickens are butchered at the farm, I don't sell live chickens. I was set up at my usual spot when a man approached me and asked to buy a chicken. I asked what weight, young or a hen. He asked for a younger bird any weight. I grab one out of the fridge and ask him if it's ok. He says that he wants a live chicken. I told him that I don't sell live chickens. He immediately became angry and demanded that I sell him a live one since he's "seen people coming out of the farmers market with live chickens before". I told him no again. He then tried to bribe me($100) saying he needs one badly and if I want I can drop one off at *near by beach* after the farms market closes. Again no. He said that he needs it due to his religion. The answer was still no. Then he started to accuse me of discriminating against him because of his religion. He threatened to sue me for it. I didn't sell it to him because it's against my rules, the rules of the farmers market and I'm pretty sure against the law. Could I be sued for this? Would a judge side with him?

d7iedbj

d7i81gl

Yes, you can be sued. No, you can't be required to provide a service that you do not provide. If you usually sell live chickens then declining to do so *might* be a case, but since you don't usually sell live chickens then it's very, very unlikely that a coherent case can be made.

You can be sued, sure. But there's no judgement to be made against you. You've done nothing wrong, he has no case.

528qx6

legaladvice_train

(FL) I'm a small scale chicken farmer, I sell at a local farmers market. Some guy wants to sue me because I wouldn't sell to him. I have all the relevant permits and licenses. The chickens are butchered at the farm, I don't sell live chickens. I was set up at my usual spot when a man approached me and asked to buy a chicken. I asked what weight, young or a hen. He asked for a younger bird any weight. I grab one out of the fridge and ask him if it's ok. He says that he wants a live chicken. I told him that I don't sell live chickens. He immediately became angry and demanded that I sell him a live one since he's "seen people coming out of the farmers market with live chickens before". I told him no again. He then tried to bribe me($100) saying he needs one badly and if I want I can drop one off at *near by beach* after the farms market closes. Again no. He said that he needs it due to his religion. The answer was still no. Then he started to accuse me of discriminating against him because of his religion. He threatened to sue me for it. I didn't sell it to him because it's against my rules, the rules of the farmers market and I'm pretty sure against the law. Could I be sued for this? Would a judge side with him?

d7ibt3c

d7iedbj

Ignore him until he sues. If and when he does, which is unlikely, you have to respond.

Yes, you can be sued. No, you can't be required to provide a service that you do not provide. If you usually sell live chickens then declining to do so *might* be a case, but since you don't usually sell live chickens then it's very, very unlikely that a coherent case can be made.

528qx6

legaladvice_train

(FL) I'm a small scale chicken farmer, I sell at a local farmers market. Some guy wants to sue me because I wouldn't sell to him. I have all the relevant permits and licenses. The chickens are butchered at the farm, I don't sell live chickens. I was set up at my usual spot when a man approached me and asked to buy a chicken. I asked what weight, young or a hen. He asked for a younger bird any weight. I grab one out of the fridge and ask him if it's ok. He says that he wants a live chicken. I told him that I don't sell live chickens. He immediately became angry and demanded that I sell him a live one since he's "seen people coming out of the farmers market with live chickens before". I told him no again. He then tried to bribe me($100) saying he needs one badly and if I want I can drop one off at *near by beach* after the farms market closes. Again no. He said that he needs it due to his religion. The answer was still no. Then he started to accuse me of discriminating against him because of his religion. He threatened to sue me for it. I didn't sell it to him because it's against my rules, the rules of the farmers market and I'm pretty sure against the law. Could I be sued for this? Would a judge side with him?

d7iw1ar

d7izdiy

Sounds like Santeria, but I ain't got no crystal ball.

>Florida Yeah, no, we knew. Thanks though. Anyway, the only way someone can claim religious discrimination is if you treat them differently based on religion. "I don't sell live chickens to anyone, period," is not religious discrimination. If you are sued, get a lawyer, but I can almost guarantee he will not sue you. It's all bluster.

528qx6

legaladvice_train

(FL) I'm a small scale chicken farmer, I sell at a local farmers market. Some guy wants to sue me because I wouldn't sell to him. I have all the relevant permits and licenses. The chickens are butchered at the farm, I don't sell live chickens. I was set up at my usual spot when a man approached me and asked to buy a chicken. I asked what weight, young or a hen. He asked for a younger bird any weight. I grab one out of the fridge and ask him if it's ok. He says that he wants a live chicken. I told him that I don't sell live chickens. He immediately became angry and demanded that I sell him a live one since he's "seen people coming out of the farmers market with live chickens before". I told him no again. He then tried to bribe me($100) saying he needs one badly and if I want I can drop one off at *near by beach* after the farms market closes. Again no. He said that he needs it due to his religion. The answer was still no. Then he started to accuse me of discriminating against him because of his religion. He threatened to sue me for it. I didn't sell it to him because it's against my rules, the rules of the farmers market and I'm pretty sure against the law. Could I be sued for this? Would a judge side with him?

d7ibt3c

d7iw1ar

Ignore him until he sues. If and when he does, which is unlikely, you have to respond.

Sounds like Santeria, but I ain't got no crystal ball.

528qx6

legaladvice_train

(FL) I'm a small scale chicken farmer, I sell at a local farmers market. Some guy wants to sue me because I wouldn't sell to him. I have all the relevant permits and licenses. The chickens are butchered at the farm, I don't sell live chickens. I was set up at my usual spot when a man approached me and asked to buy a chicken. I asked what weight, young or a hen. He asked for a younger bird any weight. I grab one out of the fridge and ask him if it's ok. He says that he wants a live chicken. I told him that I don't sell live chickens. He immediately became angry and demanded that I sell him a live one since he's "seen people coming out of the farmers market with live chickens before". I told him no again. He then tried to bribe me($100) saying he needs one badly and if I want I can drop one off at *near by beach* after the farms market closes. Again no. He said that he needs it due to his religion. The answer was still no. Then he started to accuse me of discriminating against him because of his religion. He threatened to sue me for it. I didn't sell it to him because it's against my rules, the rules of the farmers market and I'm pretty sure against the law. Could I be sued for this? Would a judge side with him?

d7izdiy

d7ibt3c

>Florida Yeah, no, we knew. Thanks though. Anyway, the only way someone can claim religious discrimination is if you treat them differently based on religion. "I don't sell live chickens to anyone, period," is not religious discrimination. If you are sued, get a lawyer, but I can almost guarantee he will not sue you. It's all bluster.

Ignore him until he sues. If and when he does, which is unlikely, you have to respond.