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4jgmv1

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(Fl)Some of my family wants to sue me for emotional damages after a DNA test. I recently did one of those DNA test that's tells you your ancestry. So did my mother so we're sure which parts are her family.Everything on my mom side came back as expected but on my dads side of the family a lot of East Asian came up. To anyone with eyes it wasn't surprising. A family with dark hair and eyes, short with small frames and almond shaped eyes. But they were convicted that they were 100% Irish and German. Some of them are low threatening to sue me for the emotional damage and trauma of finding out they're not. Can they do that? Does emotional damage have to involve something actually damaging, not just find out that great great great grandma was Asian?

d36makj

d36lto1

My great aunt had a hissy fit when my mom's results 7 or 8 years ago came back with a small percentage of sub saharan african. She apparently talked to a lawyer about making me mom pay for her to have a test to see if maybe it came from the other side of the family. Apparently the lawyer laughed her out of the office. Of course this is all second hand. My mom did do another test recently to confirm the other results. It came back 100% European (80% from the British isles or France), with some Iberian and Ionian peninsula thrown in for good measure.

Those home DNA tests are also not terribly accurate, they test for certain haplogroups, which give you a very broad geographical area with a certain level of statistical confidence. (I have no idea what the various companies use, but if they're using anything less than a 95% confidence interval I wouldn't trust it at all). Also, Native Americans will often also register as East Asian for certain haplogroup markers, so they may have some native in them going back a long ways. This isn't exactly legal advice, more sciencey advice, but I think it's relevant.

4jgmv1

legaladvice_train

(Fl)Some of my family wants to sue me for emotional damages after a DNA test. I recently did one of those DNA test that's tells you your ancestry. So did my mother so we're sure which parts are her family.Everything on my mom side came back as expected but on my dads side of the family a lot of East Asian came up. To anyone with eyes it wasn't surprising. A family with dark hair and eyes, short with small frames and almond shaped eyes. But they were convicted that they were 100% Irish and German. Some of them are low threatening to sue me for the emotional damage and trauma of finding out they're not. Can they do that? Does emotional damage have to involve something actually damaging, not just find out that great great great grandma was Asian?

d36makj

d36lolk

My great aunt had a hissy fit when my mom's results 7 or 8 years ago came back with a small percentage of sub saharan african. She apparently talked to a lawyer about making me mom pay for her to have a test to see if maybe it came from the other side of the family. Apparently the lawyer laughed her out of the office. Of course this is all second hand. My mom did do another test recently to confirm the other results. It came back 100% European (80% from the British isles or France), with some Iberian and Ionian peninsula thrown in for good measure.

They should be thankful that they all came back related. In 5-10% of large scale genomics studies of parents + child one of the parents is discovered to not actually be a parent of the child. Now some amount of this is people who know it is an adoption, but don't understand (confusing legal with genetic parents) or sample swaps or a few other non-bad reasons, but I suspect the majority of it is there was cheating going on.

4jgmv1

legaladvice_train

(Fl)Some of my family wants to sue me for emotional damages after a DNA test. I recently did one of those DNA test that's tells you your ancestry. So did my mother so we're sure which parts are her family.Everything on my mom side came back as expected but on my dads side of the family a lot of East Asian came up. To anyone with eyes it wasn't surprising. A family with dark hair and eyes, short with small frames and almond shaped eyes. But they were convicted that they were 100% Irish and German. Some of them are low threatening to sue me for the emotional damage and trauma of finding out they're not. Can they do that? Does emotional damage have to involve something actually damaging, not just find out that great great great grandma was Asian?

d36makj

d36la3g

My great aunt had a hissy fit when my mom's results 7 or 8 years ago came back with a small percentage of sub saharan african. She apparently talked to a lawyer about making me mom pay for her to have a test to see if maybe it came from the other side of the family. Apparently the lawyer laughed her out of the office. Of course this is all second hand. My mom did do another test recently to confirm the other results. It came back 100% European (80% from the British isles or France), with some Iberian and Ionian peninsula thrown in for good measure.

I wonder if you can countersue for emotional damages associated with being subjected to their racism?

4jgmv1

legaladvice_train

(Fl)Some of my family wants to sue me for emotional damages after a DNA test. I recently did one of those DNA test that's tells you your ancestry. So did my mother so we're sure which parts are her family.Everything on my mom side came back as expected but on my dads side of the family a lot of East Asian came up. To anyone with eyes it wasn't surprising. A family with dark hair and eyes, short with small frames and almond shaped eyes. But they were convicted that they were 100% Irish and German. Some of them are low threatening to sue me for the emotional damage and trauma of finding out they're not. Can they do that? Does emotional damage have to involve something actually damaging, not just find out that great great great grandma was Asian?

d36lolk

d36lto1

They should be thankful that they all came back related. In 5-10% of large scale genomics studies of parents + child one of the parents is discovered to not actually be a parent of the child. Now some amount of this is people who know it is an adoption, but don't understand (confusing legal with genetic parents) or sample swaps or a few other non-bad reasons, but I suspect the majority of it is there was cheating going on.

Those home DNA tests are also not terribly accurate, they test for certain haplogroups, which give you a very broad geographical area with a certain level of statistical confidence. (I have no idea what the various companies use, but if they're using anything less than a 95% confidence interval I wouldn't trust it at all). Also, Native Americans will often also register as East Asian for certain haplogroup markers, so they may have some native in them going back a long ways. This isn't exactly legal advice, more sciencey advice, but I think it's relevant.

4jgmv1

legaladvice_train

(Fl)Some of my family wants to sue me for emotional damages after a DNA test. I recently did one of those DNA test that's tells you your ancestry. So did my mother so we're sure which parts are her family.Everything on my mom side came back as expected but on my dads side of the family a lot of East Asian came up. To anyone with eyes it wasn't surprising. A family with dark hair and eyes, short with small frames and almond shaped eyes. But they were convicted that they were 100% Irish and German. Some of them are low threatening to sue me for the emotional damage and trauma of finding out they're not. Can they do that? Does emotional damage have to involve something actually damaging, not just find out that great great great grandma was Asian?

d36la3g

d36lto1

I wonder if you can countersue for emotional damages associated with being subjected to their racism?

Those home DNA tests are also not terribly accurate, they test for certain haplogroups, which give you a very broad geographical area with a certain level of statistical confidence. (I have no idea what the various companies use, but if they're using anything less than a 95% confidence interval I wouldn't trust it at all). Also, Native Americans will often also register as East Asian for certain haplogroup markers, so they may have some native in them going back a long ways. This isn't exactly legal advice, more sciencey advice, but I think it's relevant.

4jgmv1

legaladvice_train

(Fl)Some of my family wants to sue me for emotional damages after a DNA test. I recently did one of those DNA test that's tells you your ancestry. So did my mother so we're sure which parts are her family.Everything on my mom side came back as expected but on my dads side of the family a lot of East Asian came up. To anyone with eyes it wasn't surprising. A family with dark hair and eyes, short with small frames and almond shaped eyes. But they were convicted that they were 100% Irish and German. Some of them are low threatening to sue me for the emotional damage and trauma of finding out they're not. Can they do that? Does emotional damage have to involve something actually damaging, not just find out that great great great grandma was Asian?

d36lolk

d36la3g

They should be thankful that they all came back related. In 5-10% of large scale genomics studies of parents + child one of the parents is discovered to not actually be a parent of the child. Now some amount of this is people who know it is an adoption, but don't understand (confusing legal with genetic parents) or sample swaps or a few other non-bad reasons, but I suspect the majority of it is there was cheating going on.

I wonder if you can countersue for emotional damages associated with being subjected to their racism?

4jgmv1

legaladvice_train

(Fl)Some of my family wants to sue me for emotional damages after a DNA test. I recently did one of those DNA test that's tells you your ancestry. So did my mother so we're sure which parts are her family.Everything on my mom side came back as expected but on my dads side of the family a lot of East Asian came up. To anyone with eyes it wasn't surprising. A family with dark hair and eyes, short with small frames and almond shaped eyes. But they were convicted that they were 100% Irish and German. Some of them are low threatening to sue me for the emotional damage and trauma of finding out they're not. Can they do that? Does emotional damage have to involve something actually damaging, not just find out that great great great grandma was Asian?

d36n45q

d36la3g

Send them a link to Dave Chapelle's "Clayton Bigsby" sketch and tell them that is how they are behaving.

I wonder if you can countersue for emotional damages associated with being subjected to their racism?

3zki2w

legaladvice_train

(FL) I'm an author, a woman wants to sue me because my book gave her daughter nightmares. A woman wants to sue me for emotional distress because my book gave her daughter nightmares. It's a horror novel and is kept in the scary stories/horror section. I guess because it has vampires she was expecting a *Twilight* type story. The book is only popular locally so there aren't many online reviews for it. Apparently her teenage daughter has lost sleep and had trouble with school because of that and refuses to sleep in her own room without a light on because of my book. Can she sue me for her daughters emotional whatever because she bought her the book without reading the back cover?

cymtz28

cymswg7

By all means encourage the lawsuit. I cannot think of better publicity for a horror novel. Can can sue you for anything. Will she win? very very unlikely.

Anyone can sue anyone for anything. Will she win? Almost certainly not.

3zki2w

legaladvice_train

(FL) I'm an author, a woman wants to sue me because my book gave her daughter nightmares. A woman wants to sue me for emotional distress because my book gave her daughter nightmares. It's a horror novel and is kept in the scary stories/horror section. I guess because it has vampires she was expecting a *Twilight* type story. The book is only popular locally so there aren't many online reviews for it. Apparently her teenage daughter has lost sleep and had trouble with school because of that and refuses to sleep in her own room without a light on because of my book. Can she sue me for her daughters emotional whatever because she bought her the book without reading the back cover?

cymu6wh

cymswg7

Vampires are undead bloodsuckers, not sparkly boyfriends. She should sue Stephanie Meyer for lying to everyone.

Anyone can sue anyone for anything. Will she win? Almost certainly not.

3zki2w

legaladvice_train

(FL) I'm an author, a woman wants to sue me because my book gave her daughter nightmares. A woman wants to sue me for emotional distress because my book gave her daughter nightmares. It's a horror novel and is kept in the scary stories/horror section. I guess because it has vampires she was expecting a *Twilight* type story. The book is only popular locally so there aren't many online reviews for it. Apparently her teenage daughter has lost sleep and had trouble with school because of that and refuses to sleep in her own room without a light on because of my book. Can she sue me for her daughters emotional whatever because she bought her the book without reading the back cover?

cyn1iky

cymswg7

Florida lawyer here. Obviously I'm not your lawyer and this advice does not constitute the creation of an attorney/client relationship in anyway (please review the list of guidelines for /r/legaladvice if you have any questions). >Can she sue me for her daughters emotional whatever because she bought her the book without reading the back cover? The answer is, "yes". Unfortunately (or fortunately) anyone can sue anyone for anything. The issue is though, can the lawsuit survive a motion to dismiss? In Florida, there is no independent cause of action for emotional distress without requisite and accompanying physical injury. I.e., you accidentally shoot me with a hunting rifle; I can sue you for the injuries I sustained, I can also sue you for the emotional distress (hypothetically) I had afterwards. But, I cannot sue you if you accidentally shot in my direction, but I wasn't hit, even if I suffered emotional distress afterwards. That's strike one. Strike two... I cannot possibly imagine how an attorney (creative, crooked or otherwise) could possibly state a cause of action against you for emotional distress for a book. A. There are constitutional implications regarding freedom of speech. B. There are assumption of the risk issues by the reader, and 3. (heh) There can be no way that they could ever attribute any sort of negligence against you. Finally, lets say hypothetically (because its not going to happen) they somehow painted a color-able claim... the only defendant I could possibly conceive would be the publisher because they didn't put an age-appropriate warning on it, or that it was somehow marketed to children but substantially contained "adult themes" unsuitable for children, and the publisher knew or should have known that the cover art (or something, I don't know) would attract children even despite the content being lewd, lascivious, of a purient nature, or simply containing obscenity. Bottom-line (strike three), if some attorney was so inclined to file suit, Florida provides for fees and costs (to be split between attorney and client) for the pursuit of merit-less claims or defenses (Florida Statutes §57.105), and so... if you do get sued, contact a civil litigator, ask them about a motion to dismiss, and a 57.105 letter/motion for sanctions, costs and fees. Sincerely, ~You'll be fine. edits: errors

Anyone can sue anyone for anything. Will she win? Almost certainly not.

3zki2w

legaladvice_train

(FL) I'm an author, a woman wants to sue me because my book gave her daughter nightmares. A woman wants to sue me for emotional distress because my book gave her daughter nightmares. It's a horror novel and is kept in the scary stories/horror section. I guess because it has vampires she was expecting a *Twilight* type story. The book is only popular locally so there aren't many online reviews for it. Apparently her teenage daughter has lost sleep and had trouble with school because of that and refuses to sleep in her own room without a light on because of my book. Can she sue me for her daughters emotional whatever because she bought her the book without reading the back cover?

cymuw3a

cyn1iky

Any chance of getting the book title? I'm mighty curious to check it out.

Florida lawyer here. Obviously I'm not your lawyer and this advice does not constitute the creation of an attorney/client relationship in anyway (please review the list of guidelines for /r/legaladvice if you have any questions). >Can she sue me for her daughters emotional whatever because she bought her the book without reading the back cover? The answer is, "yes". Unfortunately (or fortunately) anyone can sue anyone for anything. The issue is though, can the lawsuit survive a motion to dismiss? In Florida, there is no independent cause of action for emotional distress without requisite and accompanying physical injury. I.e., you accidentally shoot me with a hunting rifle; I can sue you for the injuries I sustained, I can also sue you for the emotional distress (hypothetically) I had afterwards. But, I cannot sue you if you accidentally shot in my direction, but I wasn't hit, even if I suffered emotional distress afterwards. That's strike one. Strike two... I cannot possibly imagine how an attorney (creative, crooked or otherwise) could possibly state a cause of action against you for emotional distress for a book. A. There are constitutional implications regarding freedom of speech. B. There are assumption of the risk issues by the reader, and 3. (heh) There can be no way that they could ever attribute any sort of negligence against you. Finally, lets say hypothetically (because its not going to happen) they somehow painted a color-able claim... the only defendant I could possibly conceive would be the publisher because they didn't put an age-appropriate warning on it, or that it was somehow marketed to children but substantially contained "adult themes" unsuitable for children, and the publisher knew or should have known that the cover art (or something, I don't know) would attract children even despite the content being lewd, lascivious, of a purient nature, or simply containing obscenity. Bottom-line (strike three), if some attorney was so inclined to file suit, Florida provides for fees and costs (to be split between attorney and client) for the pursuit of merit-less claims or defenses (Florida Statutes §57.105), and so... if you do get sued, contact a civil litigator, ask them about a motion to dismiss, and a 57.105 letter/motion for sanctions, costs and fees. Sincerely, ~You'll be fine. edits: errors

3zki2w

legaladvice_train

(FL) I'm an author, a woman wants to sue me because my book gave her daughter nightmares. A woman wants to sue me for emotional distress because my book gave her daughter nightmares. It's a horror novel and is kept in the scary stories/horror section. I guess because it has vampires she was expecting a *Twilight* type story. The book is only popular locally so there aren't many online reviews for it. Apparently her teenage daughter has lost sleep and had trouble with school because of that and refuses to sleep in her own room without a light on because of my book. Can she sue me for her daughters emotional whatever because she bought her the book without reading the back cover?

cymswg7

cymvh22

Anyone can sue anyone for anything. Will she win? Almost certainly not.

Has she *actually filed a lawsuit* or is she *just threatening to sue*? People threaten to sue all the time. There's nothing you can do until she actually sues. Do not respond to any of her emails, calls, texts, letters, whatever until you either get something from a lawyer or get sued. Once either of those two things happen, THEN it's time to talk to a lawyer. In the unlikely case that she DOES sue you, I doubt very much her case will go anywhere, but it would be an outstanding marketing boom for you!

3zki2w

legaladvice_train

(FL) I'm an author, a woman wants to sue me because my book gave her daughter nightmares. A woman wants to sue me for emotional distress because my book gave her daughter nightmares. It's a horror novel and is kept in the scary stories/horror section. I guess because it has vampires she was expecting a *Twilight* type story. The book is only popular locally so there aren't many online reviews for it. Apparently her teenage daughter has lost sleep and had trouble with school because of that and refuses to sleep in her own room without a light on because of my book. Can she sue me for her daughters emotional whatever because she bought her the book without reading the back cover?

cymuw3a

cymvh22

Any chance of getting the book title? I'm mighty curious to check it out.

Has she *actually filed a lawsuit* or is she *just threatening to sue*? People threaten to sue all the time. There's nothing you can do until she actually sues. Do not respond to any of her emails, calls, texts, letters, whatever until you either get something from a lawyer or get sued. Once either of those two things happen, THEN it's time to talk to a lawyer. In the unlikely case that she DOES sue you, I doubt very much her case will go anywhere, but it would be an outstanding marketing boom for you!

4b7ui0

legaladvice_train

[FL] My classmates parents want to sue me because of what happened in debate class. It's a public high school and we're in 11th grade. I'll refer to my classmate as John. At my school instead of having debate club they made it into an elective class. There's about 30 of us in class. Each class certain people are picked to debate each other on a topic. We're given the topic a week in advance to prepare. My topic this week was self driving cars and wether or not they would be beneficial. My position was against and Johns was for. At the end of class everyone voted and I won. That was Thursday. On Friday Johns mom came up to me and told me that they were going to sue me for emotional distress. Apparently since my argument focused mostly on poverty and the growing divide between the upper class and middle/working class it disturbed John. This is apparently what caused him to have some sort of crisis on Thursday night. He supposedly even had a panic attack. So can they sue me and what do I do?

d16rdcv

d16sggz

Oh for fucks sake.

Your debate was so good it emotionally devastated a high school junior? Damn son.

4b7ui0

legaladvice_train

[FL] My classmates parents want to sue me because of what happened in debate class. It's a public high school and we're in 11th grade. I'll refer to my classmate as John. At my school instead of having debate club they made it into an elective class. There's about 30 of us in class. Each class certain people are picked to debate each other on a topic. We're given the topic a week in advance to prepare. My topic this week was self driving cars and wether or not they would be beneficial. My position was against and Johns was for. At the end of class everyone voted and I won. That was Thursday. On Friday Johns mom came up to me and told me that they were going to sue me for emotional distress. Apparently since my argument focused mostly on poverty and the growing divide between the upper class and middle/working class it disturbed John. This is apparently what caused him to have some sort of crisis on Thursday night. He supposedly even had a panic attack. So can they sue me and what do I do?

d16sggz

d16s7m1

Your debate was so good it emotionally devastated a high school junior? Damn son.

Ignore the mom. *Don't* ignore court papers. If you have to, show up to court and watch everyone laugh. Also, take pride in the fact that your argument was so good it apparently literally damaged the opposing side.

4b7ui0

legaladvice_train

[FL] My classmates parents want to sue me because of what happened in debate class. It's a public high school and we're in 11th grade. I'll refer to my classmate as John. At my school instead of having debate club they made it into an elective class. There's about 30 of us in class. Each class certain people are picked to debate each other on a topic. We're given the topic a week in advance to prepare. My topic this week was self driving cars and wether or not they would be beneficial. My position was against and Johns was for. At the end of class everyone voted and I won. That was Thursday. On Friday Johns mom came up to me and told me that they were going to sue me for emotional distress. Apparently since my argument focused mostly on poverty and the growing divide between the upper class and middle/working class it disturbed John. This is apparently what caused him to have some sort of crisis on Thursday night. He supposedly even had a panic attack. So can they sue me and what do I do?

d16sggz

d16r800

Your debate was so good it emotionally devastated a high school junior? Damn son.

They won't sue you. Unless we are missing some facts, no lawyer is going to take this case because it is arguably sanctionable to bring it, and it has low chance of success as well as a very high cost (experts, etc.) Also, to have an actionable emotional distress claim you need an actual underlying injury, usually a physical one. It's not a standalone claim. Just ignore it.

4b7ui0

legaladvice_train

[FL] My classmates parents want to sue me because of what happened in debate class. It's a public high school and we're in 11th grade. I'll refer to my classmate as John. At my school instead of having debate club they made it into an elective class. There's about 30 of us in class. Each class certain people are picked to debate each other on a topic. We're given the topic a week in advance to prepare. My topic this week was self driving cars and wether or not they would be beneficial. My position was against and Johns was for. At the end of class everyone voted and I won. That was Thursday. On Friday Johns mom came up to me and told me that they were going to sue me for emotional distress. Apparently since my argument focused mostly on poverty and the growing divide between the upper class and middle/working class it disturbed John. This is apparently what caused him to have some sort of crisis on Thursday night. He supposedly even had a panic attack. So can they sue me and what do I do?

d16r29f

d16sggz

They can sue you. They have no chance of winning, imho. If they sue you make sure to respond. Edit: I don't think they can sue for emotional distress in small claims court. If they do sue it will probably be in big boy court. Only in Florida...

Your debate was so good it emotionally devastated a high school junior? Damn son.

4b7ui0

legaladvice_train

[FL] My classmates parents want to sue me because of what happened in debate class. It's a public high school and we're in 11th grade. I'll refer to my classmate as John. At my school instead of having debate club they made it into an elective class. There's about 30 of us in class. Each class certain people are picked to debate each other on a topic. We're given the topic a week in advance to prepare. My topic this week was self driving cars and wether or not they would be beneficial. My position was against and Johns was for. At the end of class everyone voted and I won. That was Thursday. On Friday Johns mom came up to me and told me that they were going to sue me for emotional distress. Apparently since my argument focused mostly on poverty and the growing divide between the upper class and middle/working class it disturbed John. This is apparently what caused him to have some sort of crisis on Thursday night. He supposedly even had a panic attack. So can they sue me and what do I do?

d16r800

d16rdcv

They won't sue you. Unless we are missing some facts, no lawyer is going to take this case because it is arguably sanctionable to bring it, and it has low chance of success as well as a very high cost (experts, etc.) Also, to have an actionable emotional distress claim you need an actual underlying injury, usually a physical one. It's not a standalone claim. Just ignore it.

Oh for fucks sake.

4b7ui0

legaladvice_train

[FL] My classmates parents want to sue me because of what happened in debate class. It's a public high school and we're in 11th grade. I'll refer to my classmate as John. At my school instead of having debate club they made it into an elective class. There's about 30 of us in class. Each class certain people are picked to debate each other on a topic. We're given the topic a week in advance to prepare. My topic this week was self driving cars and wether or not they would be beneficial. My position was against and Johns was for. At the end of class everyone voted and I won. That was Thursday. On Friday Johns mom came up to me and told me that they were going to sue me for emotional distress. Apparently since my argument focused mostly on poverty and the growing divide between the upper class and middle/working class it disturbed John. This is apparently what caused him to have some sort of crisis on Thursday night. He supposedly even had a panic attack. So can they sue me and what do I do?

d16r29f

d16rdcv

They can sue you. They have no chance of winning, imho. If they sue you make sure to respond. Edit: I don't think they can sue for emotional distress in small claims court. If they do sue it will probably be in big boy court. Only in Florida...

Oh for fucks sake.

4b7ui0

legaladvice_train

[FL] My classmates parents want to sue me because of what happened in debate class. It's a public high school and we're in 11th grade. I'll refer to my classmate as John. At my school instead of having debate club they made it into an elective class. There's about 30 of us in class. Each class certain people are picked to debate each other on a topic. We're given the topic a week in advance to prepare. My topic this week was self driving cars and wether or not they would be beneficial. My position was against and Johns was for. At the end of class everyone voted and I won. That was Thursday. On Friday Johns mom came up to me and told me that they were going to sue me for emotional distress. Apparently since my argument focused mostly on poverty and the growing divide between the upper class and middle/working class it disturbed John. This is apparently what caused him to have some sort of crisis on Thursday night. He supposedly even had a panic attack. So can they sue me and what do I do?

d16r800

d16s7m1

They won't sue you. Unless we are missing some facts, no lawyer is going to take this case because it is arguably sanctionable to bring it, and it has low chance of success as well as a very high cost (experts, etc.) Also, to have an actionable emotional distress claim you need an actual underlying injury, usually a physical one. It's not a standalone claim. Just ignore it.

Ignore the mom. *Don't* ignore court papers. If you have to, show up to court and watch everyone laugh. Also, take pride in the fact that your argument was so good it apparently literally damaged the opposing side.

4b7ui0

legaladvice_train

[FL] My classmates parents want to sue me because of what happened in debate class. It's a public high school and we're in 11th grade. I'll refer to my classmate as John. At my school instead of having debate club they made it into an elective class. There's about 30 of us in class. Each class certain people are picked to debate each other on a topic. We're given the topic a week in advance to prepare. My topic this week was self driving cars and wether or not they would be beneficial. My position was against and Johns was for. At the end of class everyone voted and I won. That was Thursday. On Friday Johns mom came up to me and told me that they were going to sue me for emotional distress. Apparently since my argument focused mostly on poverty and the growing divide between the upper class and middle/working class it disturbed John. This is apparently what caused him to have some sort of crisis on Thursday night. He supposedly even had a panic attack. So can they sue me and what do I do?

d16r29f

d16s7m1

They can sue you. They have no chance of winning, imho. If they sue you make sure to respond. Edit: I don't think they can sue for emotional distress in small claims court. If they do sue it will probably be in big boy court. Only in Florida...

Ignore the mom. *Don't* ignore court papers. If you have to, show up to court and watch everyone laugh. Also, take pride in the fact that your argument was so good it apparently literally damaged the opposing side.

4b7ui0

legaladvice_train

[FL] My classmates parents want to sue me because of what happened in debate class. It's a public high school and we're in 11th grade. I'll refer to my classmate as John. At my school instead of having debate club they made it into an elective class. There's about 30 of us in class. Each class certain people are picked to debate each other on a topic. We're given the topic a week in advance to prepare. My topic this week was self driving cars and wether or not they would be beneficial. My position was against and Johns was for. At the end of class everyone voted and I won. That was Thursday. On Friday Johns mom came up to me and told me that they were going to sue me for emotional distress. Apparently since my argument focused mostly on poverty and the growing divide between the upper class and middle/working class it disturbed John. This is apparently what caused him to have some sort of crisis on Thursday night. He supposedly even had a panic attack. So can they sue me and what do I do?

d16r29f

d16r800

They can sue you. They have no chance of winning, imho. If they sue you make sure to respond. Edit: I don't think they can sue for emotional distress in small claims court. If they do sue it will probably be in big boy court. Only in Florida...

They won't sue you. Unless we are missing some facts, no lawyer is going to take this case because it is arguably sanctionable to bring it, and it has low chance of success as well as a very high cost (experts, etc.) Also, to have an actionable emotional distress claim you need an actual underlying injury, usually a physical one. It's not a standalone claim. Just ignore it.

4b7ui0

legaladvice_train

[FL] My classmates parents want to sue me because of what happened in debate class. It's a public high school and we're in 11th grade. I'll refer to my classmate as John. At my school instead of having debate club they made it into an elective class. There's about 30 of us in class. Each class certain people are picked to debate each other on a topic. We're given the topic a week in advance to prepare. My topic this week was self driving cars and wether or not they would be beneficial. My position was against and Johns was for. At the end of class everyone voted and I won. That was Thursday. On Friday Johns mom came up to me and told me that they were going to sue me for emotional distress. Apparently since my argument focused mostly on poverty and the growing divide between the upper class and middle/working class it disturbed John. This is apparently what caused him to have some sort of crisis on Thursday night. He supposedly even had a panic attack. So can they sue me and what do I do?

d16shky

d16r29f

If any lawyer anywhere signed that complaint, it's because they aren't wild about having their law license.

They can sue you. They have no chance of winning, imho. If they sue you make sure to respond. Edit: I don't think they can sue for emotional distress in small claims court. If they do sue it will probably be in big boy court. Only in Florida...

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[FL] My classmates parents want to sue me because of what happened in debate class. It's a public high school and we're in 11th grade. I'll refer to my classmate as John. At my school instead of having debate club they made it into an elective class. There's about 30 of us in class. Each class certain people are picked to debate each other on a topic. We're given the topic a week in advance to prepare. My topic this week was self driving cars and wether or not they would be beneficial. My position was against and Johns was for. At the end of class everyone voted and I won. That was Thursday. On Friday Johns mom came up to me and told me that they were going to sue me for emotional distress. Apparently since my argument focused mostly on poverty and the growing divide between the upper class and middle/working class it disturbed John. This is apparently what caused him to have some sort of crisis on Thursday night. He supposedly even had a panic attack. So can they sue me and what do I do?

d16uibc

d16t936

Tell your parents and the teacher in charge of the class. Completely inappropriate of that parent to approach you with a threat. Otherwise don't sorry about it and let the adults handle it.

Please lay out your general argument I wanna hear how good it was that it made this kid lose his mind lol

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[FL] My classmates parents want to sue me because of what happened in debate class. It's a public high school and we're in 11th grade. I'll refer to my classmate as John. At my school instead of having debate club they made it into an elective class. There's about 30 of us in class. Each class certain people are picked to debate each other on a topic. We're given the topic a week in advance to prepare. My topic this week was self driving cars and wether or not they would be beneficial. My position was against and Johns was for. At the end of class everyone voted and I won. That was Thursday. On Friday Johns mom came up to me and told me that they were going to sue me for emotional distress. Apparently since my argument focused mostly on poverty and the growing divide between the upper class and middle/working class it disturbed John. This is apparently what caused him to have some sort of crisis on Thursday night. He supposedly even had a panic attack. So can they sue me and what do I do?

d16tk9h

d16uibc

This is America, anyone can sue anyone. The question is whether or not they have a case. And, as I'm sure you've read, they really don't. Also if you're under 18 they'll have to sue your parents/guardian. I'm also curious how the mom approached you. Did she go to school with John that day?

Tell your parents and the teacher in charge of the class. Completely inappropriate of that parent to approach you with a threat. Otherwise don't sorry about it and let the adults handle it.

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legaladvice_train

(FL) Someone wants to sue me after my movie scared the crap out of them. On Halloween our town had a amateur horror movie festival. I wrote and directed a film and it won the "scariest movie of the night" award. Yesterday I was contacted by a woman that claims she was at the festival and was so terrified by my movie that she hasn't slept and has started to see a physiatrist to deal with persistent nightmares and new phobias. She can't actually get anywhere with that can she? She knew what the festival was about a went anyway(supposedly). She wants me to pay for all of her medications and doctors visits as well as for psychological damage. I told her to have her lawyer call me if she wants to sue. It was a 21+ venue so I did really go all out with the gore and suspense but I mean come on it a vampire movie it can't be that scary.

d9s2l52

d9rtx5l

Any chance you could post this thing on youtube? I want to see the movie that scared the sue out of someone.

Hmmm... Traumatized by a scary movie at a scary movie festival. My gut reaction is that this is an assumption of the risk situation. But looking past that: There are two possible claims I can think of: Negligent infliction of emotional distress or intentional infliction of emotional distress. FL is typical in NIED cases: It has to arise from witnessing *real* violence -- an actual harm suffered by someone to whom the plaintiff has a close connection. Like watching a family member lose an arm kind of thing. The plaintiff must also suffer a "physical injury" from the trauma. Purely psychological harm is not recoverable in NIED. For IIED in FL, requires "shocking and outrageous conduct" to be the cause of the trauma. Showing a scary movie at a scary movie festival probably falls short of the mark. Plus IIED requires proof of actual intent or some form of extreme recklessness to cause psychological harm or distress. Like deliberately showing original 1990's pokemon cartoons to kids knowing that it can cause seizures. There is usually no "general" negligence cause of action for purely psychological harm. So the "was there a duty and did the defendant breach that duty..." analysis only matters if the claim can fit IIED or NIED.

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legaladvice_train

(FL) Someone wants to sue me after my movie scared the crap out of them. On Halloween our town had a amateur horror movie festival. I wrote and directed a film and it won the "scariest movie of the night" award. Yesterday I was contacted by a woman that claims she was at the festival and was so terrified by my movie that she hasn't slept and has started to see a physiatrist to deal with persistent nightmares and new phobias. She can't actually get anywhere with that can she? She knew what the festival was about a went anyway(supposedly). She wants me to pay for all of her medications and doctors visits as well as for psychological damage. I told her to have her lawyer call me if she wants to sue. It was a 21+ venue so I did really go all out with the gore and suspense but I mean come on it a vampire movie it can't be that scary.

d9sjddg

d9stu1x

You did the right thing. As soon as someone starts threatening suing, "This has become a legal discussion and I think we should continue this through our lawyers." I doubt anything will come of it, but if she does manage to successfully find someone to represent her or manage to file the paperwork and you get served, get a lawyer, don't ignore the paperwork and hope it will go away.

Goddamn this lady sounds like the reason Peanut Butter has a warning label on it letting you know it contains peanuts.

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Landlord Gave Me 3 Day Notice To Pay Yesterday I told my landlord that I am withholding rent due to him to repair any of the many issues I've been asking for months. He served me with a "3 day notice to pay or quit". Basically I just want to know if he still has to formally evict me or will I have to be out in 3 days? Further more is there anyway to fight this because of the state of the house? If it helps at all I'm a Florida resident and I've lived there for over 4 years. I signed a lease the first year but despite my best efforts he ignored me any time I requested him to renew the lease

ioobeuq

iooazsi

Florida ~~does not have provisions for withholding rent~~ provisions for withholding rent are quite limited and call for a specific 20 day notice. Did you provide that? If not, you need to pay or quit. Understand that if you quit, you still pay, *and* you have a record of being evicted. Don't do that.

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Landlord Gave Me 3 Day Notice To Pay Yesterday I told my landlord that I am withholding rent due to him to repair any of the many issues I've been asking for months. He served me with a "3 day notice to pay or quit". Basically I just want to know if he still has to formally evict me or will I have to be out in 3 days? Further more is there anyway to fight this because of the state of the house? If it helps at all I'm a Florida resident and I've lived there for over 4 years. I signed a lease the first year but despite my best efforts he ignored me any time I requested him to renew the lease

ioobuff

ioodo3e

Florida has limited grounds as to why tenant can't withhold rent. Are your repair issues covered?

1. Pay now. He’ll have to evict you if you don’t and can’t put you on the street. However you do not want that. It will make it incredibly difficult and expensive to rent again. 2. If you have issues with the property you can seek out local resources (tenant advocate boards are really helpful if available or a local attorney) to help you correctly and legally withhold rent, which is limited in Florida and requires certain steps. 3. If the repair items aren’t things that allow rent withholds, your only other option is to move (or cover the cost yourself if that’s cheaper than moving-but ensure you are allowed per previous lease to self improve those items).

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Landlord Gave Me 3 Day Notice To Pay Yesterday I told my landlord that I am withholding rent due to him to repair any of the many issues I've been asking for months. He served me with a "3 day notice to pay or quit". Basically I just want to know if he still has to formally evict me or will I have to be out in 3 days? Further more is there anyway to fight this because of the state of the house? If it helps at all I'm a Florida resident and I've lived there for over 4 years. I signed a lease the first year but despite my best efforts he ignored me any time I requested him to renew the lease

ioobuff

iooazsi

Florida has limited grounds as to why tenant can't withhold rent. Are your repair issues covered?

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Landlord Gave Me 3 Day Notice To Pay Yesterday I told my landlord that I am withholding rent due to him to repair any of the many issues I've been asking for months. He served me with a "3 day notice to pay or quit". Basically I just want to know if he still has to formally evict me or will I have to be out in 3 days? Further more is there anyway to fight this because of the state of the house? If it helps at all I'm a Florida resident and I've lived there for over 4 years. I signed a lease the first year but despite my best efforts he ignored me any time I requested him to renew the lease

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ioodo3e

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1. Pay now. He’ll have to evict you if you don’t and can’t put you on the street. However you do not want that. It will make it incredibly difficult and expensive to rent again. 2. If you have issues with the property you can seek out local resources (tenant advocate boards are really helpful if available or a local attorney) to help you correctly and legally withhold rent, which is limited in Florida and requires certain steps. 3. If the repair items aren’t things that allow rent withholds, your only other option is to move (or cover the cost yourself if that’s cheaper than moving-but ensure you are allowed per previous lease to self improve those items).

xftz8g

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Landlord Gave Me 3 Day Notice To Pay Yesterday I told my landlord that I am withholding rent due to him to repair any of the many issues I've been asking for months. He served me with a "3 day notice to pay or quit". Basically I just want to know if he still has to formally evict me or will I have to be out in 3 days? Further more is there anyway to fight this because of the state of the house? If it helps at all I'm a Florida resident and I've lived there for over 4 years. I signed a lease the first year but despite my best efforts he ignored me any time I requested him to renew the lease

iookcqw

iooazsi

People are giving you good advice, but I haven’t seen a direct answer to your question. “Pay or quit” means that you have three days to either fix the issue (ie pay the rent), quit (move out), or if you don’t do either you will be evicted. Evicted does **not** mean the landlord tosses your stuff to the curb on the 3rd day. Evicted means that they still have to go to the court and there is a formal proceeding and if the eviction is upheld, the sheriff would remove you from the property. You really do not want this process to happen as it will cost you a bunch of money and be affect your ability to rent in the future. Also be aware as you stated you are now not under a lease, you are considered “month-to-month” (assuming you are paying rent once a month) and it appears that the landlord can also terminate the lease with 15 days notice before the end of the lease term (being one month on whatever day the rent is due). So even if you pay, your lease may still be terminated with 15 days notice to vacate, or you can also be evicted. You can also move out with 15 days notice. https://www.flsenate.gov/Laws/Statutes/2011/Chapter83/All

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[NJ] My landlord is trying to charge me $8K for a month to month rate because the wife and I gave 50 days notice to vacate rather than the 60 on the lease. (more detail in comments) So basically the title. Our lease ends on 6/2 and are required to give 60 days notice but due to a number of factors such as my wife being pregnant and us trying to find larger housing so we're not moving on her due date, we missed the window by 10 days. We received a notice from the property manager saying we're automatically enrolled in their month to month rates which is $8K a month when our actual monthly rate is under $2300. We want to settle this amicably but the asst. property manager is insistent that we're on the hook for the full $8K. We can't afford that at the moment with a baby on the way and they're not being reasonable at all! HELP! EDIT: I also want to mention that the month to month rate was never disclosed until 4/11, after the 60 day window. Would any housing judge enforce this?!?

dg9j9mt

dg9l49o

Your lease will be the ultimate language on what they can charge for the month-to-month rate. Scour that for what the increase will be. Also, missing the window was all on you. Be prepared to pay the entire next month instead of just a 10 day period. The landlord does not have to prorate it for you due to your mistake.

If he gave you a notice on 4/11 it can't take effect sooner than 7/1 NJ doesn't prorate rental periods. If you give your 60 day notice by 4/30 it is also effective 7/1. If your lease lists a higher month to month rate you owe that rate, else it continues as is until terminated. tl;dr: you owe June but He's trying to bullshit you out of 6 grand extra. Given the dollar amounts involved I would consult with a lawyer and if sued, hire an attorney to fight it, if he fails to return your deposit sue him.

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legaladvice_train

[NJ] My landlord is trying to charge me $8K for a month to month rate because the wife and I gave 50 days notice to vacate rather than the 60 on the lease. (more detail in comments) So basically the title. Our lease ends on 6/2 and are required to give 60 days notice but due to a number of factors such as my wife being pregnant and us trying to find larger housing so we're not moving on her due date, we missed the window by 10 days. We received a notice from the property manager saying we're automatically enrolled in their month to month rates which is $8K a month when our actual monthly rate is under $2300. We want to settle this amicably but the asst. property manager is insistent that we're on the hook for the full $8K. We can't afford that at the moment with a baby on the way and they're not being reasonable at all! HELP! EDIT: I also want to mention that the month to month rate was never disclosed until 4/11, after the 60 day window. Would any housing judge enforce this?!?

dga8mi9

dg9yc0t

http://www.state.nj.us/dca/divisions/codes/publications/pdf_lti/rnt_incrse_bultin.pdf Unconscionable Rent Increase If the tenant refuses to pay the rent because the tenant believes the rent increase is unconscionable or unreasonable, the tenant may withhold a portion of the rent. The tenant may withhold the difference between the old rent rate and the new increased rate. However, the landlord may take the tenant to court based on non-payment of rent increase, if this happens, the tenant may argue to the judge that the increase is unconscionable. The landlord has the burden of proving to the court that the rent increase is fair and not unconscionable.

Monthly rate will still be $2300, unless it was in the lease. Bigger question is how many months you're liable for. When did you give the notice? What does it say about the renewal term if you miss it? (Ie - just renews? month? year?) If you give clarity, I can explain in more detail. I do NJ LLT law.

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Can my mom sue me to get the house back? So last year my mom sold me her house to me because she was about to lose it to foreclosure. She went through bankruptcy twice and already lost another house. I bought so we wont lose it for the amount left on the mortgage. Now she accused me of stealing from her 50,000 dollars threatened to go to a lawyer and wants to kick me out. What can i do to protect myself because she is very unstable and irresponsible with her finances

iemz8un

iemy2g8

Not a lawyer: If she has a foreclosure on her record in the past, bankruptcy and obviously bad spending habits, it doesn't matter what language she speaks, bad money sense is bad money sense in a judges eye. If you have your name on the house, she's SOL. She can sue, but given previous information she'll most likely be fighting an uphill battle. Tell her that it isn't smart to try and bring this to court, as she'll almost definitely lose, and you WILL use all of her failings against her, even if it is dirty to do. You're trying to help her be responsible, she may not see it this way, but it's better she has a place to stay than to lose it in a foolish way.

Well don't think she would have any luck but the question is how was her mentality when she sold you the house. If they can prove she was a little loco and didn't do it if a sound mind they can void the sales and everything goes back the way it was. Now if you prove that even if she was on the way out that she made the deal so she wouldn't lose the house to the bank then that shows she still had a sound enough mind to problem solve. Chances are though unless she can prove that the sale was against her will then doubt she will get it back.

vq11m7

legaladvice_train

Can my mom sue me to get the house back? So last year my mom sold me her house to me because she was about to lose it to foreclosure. She went through bankruptcy twice and already lost another house. I bought so we wont lose it for the amount left on the mortgage. Now she accused me of stealing from her 50,000 dollars threatened to go to a lawyer and wants to kick me out. What can i do to protect myself because she is very unstable and irresponsible with her finances

iemz8un

iemv9qr

Not a lawyer: If she has a foreclosure on her record in the past, bankruptcy and obviously bad spending habits, it doesn't matter what language she speaks, bad money sense is bad money sense in a judges eye. If you have your name on the house, she's SOL. She can sue, but given previous information she'll most likely be fighting an uphill battle. Tell her that it isn't smart to try and bring this to court, as she'll almost definitely lose, and you WILL use all of her failings against her, even if it is dirty to do. You're trying to help her be responsible, she may not see it this way, but it's better she has a place to stay than to lose it in a foolish way.

What was the appraised value of the property at the time of the transaction?

vq11m7

legaladvice_train

Can my mom sue me to get the house back? So last year my mom sold me her house to me because she was about to lose it to foreclosure. She went through bankruptcy twice and already lost another house. I bought so we wont lose it for the amount left on the mortgage. Now she accused me of stealing from her 50,000 dollars threatened to go to a lawyer and wants to kick me out. What can i do to protect myself because she is very unstable and irresponsible with her finances

iemqazk

iemz8un

Where did she get that amount? How much did you pay her for the house? What was the value of the house? How much equity did she have?

Not a lawyer: If she has a foreclosure on her record in the past, bankruptcy and obviously bad spending habits, it doesn't matter what language she speaks, bad money sense is bad money sense in a judges eye. If you have your name on the house, she's SOL. She can sue, but given previous information she'll most likely be fighting an uphill battle. Tell her that it isn't smart to try and bring this to court, as she'll almost definitely lose, and you WILL use all of her failings against her, even if it is dirty to do. You're trying to help her be responsible, she may not see it this way, but it's better she has a place to stay than to lose it in a foolish way.

vq11m7

legaladvice_train

Can my mom sue me to get the house back? So last year my mom sold me her house to me because she was about to lose it to foreclosure. She went through bankruptcy twice and already lost another house. I bought so we wont lose it for the amount left on the mortgage. Now she accused me of stealing from her 50,000 dollars threatened to go to a lawyer and wants to kick me out. What can i do to protect myself because she is very unstable and irresponsible with her finances

iemy2g8

ien6pvx

Well don't think she would have any luck but the question is how was her mentality when she sold you the house. If they can prove she was a little loco and didn't do it if a sound mind they can void the sales and everything goes back the way it was. Now if you prove that even if she was on the way out that she made the deal so she wouldn't lose the house to the bank then that shows she still had a sound enough mind to problem solve. Chances are though unless she can prove that the sale was against her will then doubt she will get it back.

This seems like an empty threat. She is probably in another financial bind and she thinks threatening you will get you to give her some money. What money does she have to pay a lawyer to sue you? If she sues you without a lawyer, she’s going to have a really hard time figuring out what to do. You might actually be able to evict her.

vq11m7

legaladvice_train

Can my mom sue me to get the house back? So last year my mom sold me her house to me because she was about to lose it to foreclosure. She went through bankruptcy twice and already lost another house. I bought so we wont lose it for the amount left on the mortgage. Now she accused me of stealing from her 50,000 dollars threatened to go to a lawyer and wants to kick me out. What can i do to protect myself because she is very unstable and irresponsible with her finances

ien6pvx

iemv9qr

This seems like an empty threat. She is probably in another financial bind and she thinks threatening you will get you to give her some money. What money does she have to pay a lawyer to sue you? If she sues you without a lawyer, she’s going to have a really hard time figuring out what to do. You might actually be able to evict her.

What was the appraised value of the property at the time of the transaction?

vq11m7

legaladvice_train

Can my mom sue me to get the house back? So last year my mom sold me her house to me because she was about to lose it to foreclosure. She went through bankruptcy twice and already lost another house. I bought so we wont lose it for the amount left on the mortgage. Now she accused me of stealing from her 50,000 dollars threatened to go to a lawyer and wants to kick me out. What can i do to protect myself because she is very unstable and irresponsible with her finances

iemzfkt

ien6pvx

Several questions. Who's idea was it for your mother to sell the house to you and have you pay arrears? What was the appraised value of tye home at time of sale? At what price did you purchase the home and how much did you pay in arrears? Did you agree to allow your mother to continue living in her home after you purchased it or did she plan to vacate after the sale closed?

This seems like an empty threat. She is probably in another financial bind and she thinks threatening you will get you to give her some money. What money does she have to pay a lawyer to sue you? If she sues you without a lawyer, she’s going to have a really hard time figuring out what to do. You might actually be able to evict her.

vq11m7

legaladvice_train

Can my mom sue me to get the house back? So last year my mom sold me her house to me because she was about to lose it to foreclosure. She went through bankruptcy twice and already lost another house. I bought so we wont lose it for the amount left on the mortgage. Now she accused me of stealing from her 50,000 dollars threatened to go to a lawyer and wants to kick me out. What can i do to protect myself because she is very unstable and irresponsible with her finances

ien6pvx

iemqazk

This seems like an empty threat. She is probably in another financial bind and she thinks threatening you will get you to give her some money. What money does she have to pay a lawyer to sue you? If she sues you without a lawyer, she’s going to have a really hard time figuring out what to do. You might actually be able to evict her.

Where did she get that amount? How much did you pay her for the house? What was the value of the house? How much equity did she have?

vq11m7

legaladvice_train

Can my mom sue me to get the house back? So last year my mom sold me her house to me because she was about to lose it to foreclosure. She went through bankruptcy twice and already lost another house. I bought so we wont lose it for the amount left on the mortgage. Now she accused me of stealing from her 50,000 dollars threatened to go to a lawyer and wants to kick me out. What can i do to protect myself because she is very unstable and irresponsible with her finances

ien3qsa

ien6pvx

In general, yes. Pretty much anyone can sue anyone for anything. Whether or not someone will take the case is a more difficult question, and whether or not she'll be successful is basically zero chance. Still, document your affairs, correspondence, etc. Only communicate about it in writing.

This seems like an empty threat. She is probably in another financial bind and she thinks threatening you will get you to give her some money. What money does she have to pay a lawyer to sue you? If she sues you without a lawyer, she’s going to have a really hard time figuring out what to do. You might actually be able to evict her.

vq11m7

legaladvice_train

Can my mom sue me to get the house back? So last year my mom sold me her house to me because she was about to lose it to foreclosure. She went through bankruptcy twice and already lost another house. I bought so we wont lose it for the amount left on the mortgage. Now she accused me of stealing from her 50,000 dollars threatened to go to a lawyer and wants to kick me out. What can i do to protect myself because she is very unstable and irresponsible with her finances

ien1480

ien6pvx

Did you assume the mortgage? What type of financing? FHA, conventional, private?

This seems like an empty threat. She is probably in another financial bind and she thinks threatening you will get you to give her some money. What money does she have to pay a lawyer to sue you? If she sues you without a lawyer, she’s going to have a really hard time figuring out what to do. You might actually be able to evict her.

vq11m7

legaladvice_train

Can my mom sue me to get the house back? So last year my mom sold me her house to me because she was about to lose it to foreclosure. She went through bankruptcy twice and already lost another house. I bought so we wont lose it for the amount left on the mortgage. Now she accused me of stealing from her 50,000 dollars threatened to go to a lawyer and wants to kick me out. What can i do to protect myself because she is very unstable and irresponsible with her finances

iemy2g8

iemv9qr

Well don't think she would have any luck but the question is how was her mentality when she sold you the house. If they can prove she was a little loco and didn't do it if a sound mind they can void the sales and everything goes back the way it was. Now if you prove that even if she was on the way out that she made the deal so she wouldn't lose the house to the bank then that shows she still had a sound enough mind to problem solve. Chances are though unless she can prove that the sale was against her will then doubt she will get it back.

What was the appraised value of the property at the time of the transaction?

vq11m7

legaladvice_train

Can my mom sue me to get the house back? So last year my mom sold me her house to me because she was about to lose it to foreclosure. She went through bankruptcy twice and already lost another house. I bought so we wont lose it for the amount left on the mortgage. Now she accused me of stealing from her 50,000 dollars threatened to go to a lawyer and wants to kick me out. What can i do to protect myself because she is very unstable and irresponsible with her finances

iemy2g8

iemqazk

Well don't think she would have any luck but the question is how was her mentality when she sold you the house. If they can prove she was a little loco and didn't do it if a sound mind they can void the sales and everything goes back the way it was. Now if you prove that even if she was on the way out that she made the deal so she wouldn't lose the house to the bank then that shows she still had a sound enough mind to problem solve. Chances are though unless she can prove that the sale was against her will then doubt she will get it back.

Where did she get that amount? How much did you pay her for the house? What was the value of the house? How much equity did she have?

vq11m7

legaladvice_train

Can my mom sue me to get the house back? So last year my mom sold me her house to me because she was about to lose it to foreclosure. She went through bankruptcy twice and already lost another house. I bought so we wont lose it for the amount left on the mortgage. Now she accused me of stealing from her 50,000 dollars threatened to go to a lawyer and wants to kick me out. What can i do to protect myself because she is very unstable and irresponsible with her finances

iemqazk

iemv9qr

Where did she get that amount? How much did you pay her for the house? What was the value of the house? How much equity did she have?

What was the appraised value of the property at the time of the transaction?

vq11m7

legaladvice_train

Can my mom sue me to get the house back? So last year my mom sold me her house to me because she was about to lose it to foreclosure. She went through bankruptcy twice and already lost another house. I bought so we wont lose it for the amount left on the mortgage. Now she accused me of stealing from her 50,000 dollars threatened to go to a lawyer and wants to kick me out. What can i do to protect myself because she is very unstable and irresponsible with her finances

iemqazk

iemzfkt

Where did she get that amount? How much did you pay her for the house? What was the value of the house? How much equity did she have?

Several questions. Who's idea was it for your mother to sell the house to you and have you pay arrears? What was the appraised value of tye home at time of sale? At what price did you purchase the home and how much did you pay in arrears? Did you agree to allow your mother to continue living in her home after you purchased it or did she plan to vacate after the sale closed?

vq11m7

legaladvice_train

Can my mom sue me to get the house back? So last year my mom sold me her house to me because she was about to lose it to foreclosure. She went through bankruptcy twice and already lost another house. I bought so we wont lose it for the amount left on the mortgage. Now she accused me of stealing from her 50,000 dollars threatened to go to a lawyer and wants to kick me out. What can i do to protect myself because she is very unstable and irresponsible with her finances

ien77gv

iemqazk

Ok, so I assume there was around $50k in equity in the house that you gained through this transaction, is this correct? Eg house is valued at $200k, you paid out the $150k mortgage in consideration of getting the house. At this point I think it’s time you try and catch all of this up with paperwork, especially if you want to continue letting your Mum live there. You will need a lawyer to do this for you. If I was you I would work out what rent is worth for her. Then I would calculate how long her $50k would last her in the house, and put an agreement in writing that X amount of $ comes off the $50k ‘debt’ for every month she is in the house. Also interest on the $50k would need to be factored in as well. That way she is in effect getting her money, but in a controlled way, and I gather you were letting her live in the house rent free anyway, so you don’t lose anything really. I would not word it so that she has the right to be in the house until it’s paid off, but that would would owe her the balance of the $50k owing if she moves out. IAAL but probably not in your country and with no idea on the specific laws in your region.

Where did she get that amount? How much did you pay her for the house? What was the value of the house? How much equity did she have?

vq11m7

legaladvice_train

Can my mom sue me to get the house back? So last year my mom sold me her house to me because she was about to lose it to foreclosure. She went through bankruptcy twice and already lost another house. I bought so we wont lose it for the amount left on the mortgage. Now she accused me of stealing from her 50,000 dollars threatened to go to a lawyer and wants to kick me out. What can i do to protect myself because she is very unstable and irresponsible with her finances

ien3qsa

ien77gv

In general, yes. Pretty much anyone can sue anyone for anything. Whether or not someone will take the case is a more difficult question, and whether or not she'll be successful is basically zero chance. Still, document your affairs, correspondence, etc. Only communicate about it in writing.

Ok, so I assume there was around $50k in equity in the house that you gained through this transaction, is this correct? Eg house is valued at $200k, you paid out the $150k mortgage in consideration of getting the house. At this point I think it’s time you try and catch all of this up with paperwork, especially if you want to continue letting your Mum live there. You will need a lawyer to do this for you. If I was you I would work out what rent is worth for her. Then I would calculate how long her $50k would last her in the house, and put an agreement in writing that X amount of $ comes off the $50k ‘debt’ for every month she is in the house. Also interest on the $50k would need to be factored in as well. That way she is in effect getting her money, but in a controlled way, and I gather you were letting her live in the house rent free anyway, so you don’t lose anything really. I would not word it so that she has the right to be in the house until it’s paid off, but that would would owe her the balance of the $50k owing if she moves out. IAAL but probably not in your country and with no idea on the specific laws in your region.

vq11m7

legaladvice_train

Can my mom sue me to get the house back? So last year my mom sold me her house to me because she was about to lose it to foreclosure. She went through bankruptcy twice and already lost another house. I bought so we wont lose it for the amount left on the mortgage. Now she accused me of stealing from her 50,000 dollars threatened to go to a lawyer and wants to kick me out. What can i do to protect myself because she is very unstable and irresponsible with her finances

ien1480

ien77gv

Did you assume the mortgage? What type of financing? FHA, conventional, private?

Ok, so I assume there was around $50k in equity in the house that you gained through this transaction, is this correct? Eg house is valued at $200k, you paid out the $150k mortgage in consideration of getting the house. At this point I think it’s time you try and catch all of this up with paperwork, especially if you want to continue letting your Mum live there. You will need a lawyer to do this for you. If I was you I would work out what rent is worth for her. Then I would calculate how long her $50k would last her in the house, and put an agreement in writing that X amount of $ comes off the $50k ‘debt’ for every month she is in the house. Also interest on the $50k would need to be factored in as well. That way she is in effect getting her money, but in a controlled way, and I gather you were letting her live in the house rent free anyway, so you don’t lose anything really. I would not word it so that she has the right to be in the house until it’s paid off, but that would would owe her the balance of the $50k owing if she moves out. IAAL but probably not in your country and with no idea on the specific laws in your region.

vq11m7

legaladvice_train

Can my mom sue me to get the house back? So last year my mom sold me her house to me because she was about to lose it to foreclosure. She went through bankruptcy twice and already lost another house. I bought so we wont lose it for the amount left on the mortgage. Now she accused me of stealing from her 50,000 dollars threatened to go to a lawyer and wants to kick me out. What can i do to protect myself because she is very unstable and irresponsible with her finances

ien3qsa

iemqazk

In general, yes. Pretty much anyone can sue anyone for anything. Whether or not someone will take the case is a more difficult question, and whether or not she'll be successful is basically zero chance. Still, document your affairs, correspondence, etc. Only communicate about it in writing.

Where did she get that amount? How much did you pay her for the house? What was the value of the house? How much equity did she have?

vq11m7

legaladvice_train

Can my mom sue me to get the house back? So last year my mom sold me her house to me because she was about to lose it to foreclosure. She went through bankruptcy twice and already lost another house. I bought so we wont lose it for the amount left on the mortgage. Now she accused me of stealing from her 50,000 dollars threatened to go to a lawyer and wants to kick me out. What can i do to protect myself because she is very unstable and irresponsible with her finances

ien1480

ien3qsa

Did you assume the mortgage? What type of financing? FHA, conventional, private?

In general, yes. Pretty much anyone can sue anyone for anything. Whether or not someone will take the case is a more difficult question, and whether or not she'll be successful is basically zero chance. Still, document your affairs, correspondence, etc. Only communicate about it in writing.

86i0ts

legaladvice_train

Landlord wants to raise rent/ evict because of tampons, and is threatening to search my feminine products. Can he do this? This is probably one of the most degrading things I've ever been through with a landlord. I live in an apartment complex in Iowa with 3 buildings and several units in each building. Plumbing and water are shared between units. This morning we opened our door to find a note threatening to raise the rent of everyone in our building by $50 a month because of flushed tampons and wipes clogging the sewer drain. The letter goes on to say that they will be comparing any tampons they find in the pipes to the tampons kept by women in each apartment unit and if the type matches, they will charge $500 to the tenant and evict. We got flyers a couple times last year about not flushing tampons, and one of those flyers is posted to the window of the laundry room/ office, so this is not the first notice. It seems like a scare tactic to me, but I want to be sure I'm not going to be evicted over just owning tampons, or punished over what other renters and their guests might do. I also don't want any of the men who own or work for this building rifling through my sanitary products. Is there anything I need to be concerned about and what can I do to protect myself?

dw5gmce

dw5itur

Even if there was a way to easily identify the type of tampon, wouldn't this notice just urge the person responsibly to stock up on a different brand in order to not get caught? This doesn't make any sense. Probably a scare tactic indeed, since he knows he can't do much, but it's also understandable that this issue is frustrating and costly for him, after putting up warnings before.

Waiting for the eviction proceeding in which the landlord brings in a used tampon as evidence.

86i0ts

legaladvice_train

Landlord wants to raise rent/ evict because of tampons, and is threatening to search my feminine products. Can he do this? This is probably one of the most degrading things I've ever been through with a landlord. I live in an apartment complex in Iowa with 3 buildings and several units in each building. Plumbing and water are shared between units. This morning we opened our door to find a note threatening to raise the rent of everyone in our building by $50 a month because of flushed tampons and wipes clogging the sewer drain. The letter goes on to say that they will be comparing any tampons they find in the pipes to the tampons kept by women in each apartment unit and if the type matches, they will charge $500 to the tenant and evict. We got flyers a couple times last year about not flushing tampons, and one of those flyers is posted to the window of the laundry room/ office, so this is not the first notice. It seems like a scare tactic to me, but I want to be sure I'm not going to be evicted over just owning tampons, or punished over what other renters and their guests might do. I also don't want any of the men who own or work for this building rifling through my sanitary products. Is there anything I need to be concerned about and what can I do to protect myself?

dw5kvvc

dw5lk85

Decoy tampons! How many years have I been waiting for the question to which that was the best answer.

I can only imagine that someone that's never used tampons came up with this plan. I mean...a used tampon can look very different from a new one. I would like to see them try to match them. In the meantime, make sure you don't flush them. And maybe if they do come searching for tampons and the timing is right you can just have them search the trash can. (Sorry that's gross, I know.)

86i0ts

legaladvice_train

Landlord wants to raise rent/ evict because of tampons, and is threatening to search my feminine products. Can he do this? This is probably one of the most degrading things I've ever been through with a landlord. I live in an apartment complex in Iowa with 3 buildings and several units in each building. Plumbing and water are shared between units. This morning we opened our door to find a note threatening to raise the rent of everyone in our building by $50 a month because of flushed tampons and wipes clogging the sewer drain. The letter goes on to say that they will be comparing any tampons they find in the pipes to the tampons kept by women in each apartment unit and if the type matches, they will charge $500 to the tenant and evict. We got flyers a couple times last year about not flushing tampons, and one of those flyers is posted to the window of the laundry room/ office, so this is not the first notice. It seems like a scare tactic to me, but I want to be sure I'm not going to be evicted over just owning tampons, or punished over what other renters and their guests might do. I also don't want any of the men who own or work for this building rifling through my sanitary products. Is there anything I need to be concerned about and what can I do to protect myself?

dw5gmce

dw5lk85

Even if there was a way to easily identify the type of tampon, wouldn't this notice just urge the person responsibly to stock up on a different brand in order to not get caught? This doesn't make any sense. Probably a scare tactic indeed, since he knows he can't do much, but it's also understandable that this issue is frustrating and costly for him, after putting up warnings before.

I can only imagine that someone that's never used tampons came up with this plan. I mean...a used tampon can look very different from a new one. I would like to see them try to match them. In the meantime, make sure you don't flush them. And maybe if they do come searching for tampons and the timing is right you can just have them search the trash can. (Sorry that's gross, I know.)

86i0ts

legaladvice_train

Landlord wants to raise rent/ evict because of tampons, and is threatening to search my feminine products. Can he do this? This is probably one of the most degrading things I've ever been through with a landlord. I live in an apartment complex in Iowa with 3 buildings and several units in each building. Plumbing and water are shared between units. This morning we opened our door to find a note threatening to raise the rent of everyone in our building by $50 a month because of flushed tampons and wipes clogging the sewer drain. The letter goes on to say that they will be comparing any tampons they find in the pipes to the tampons kept by women in each apartment unit and if the type matches, they will charge $500 to the tenant and evict. We got flyers a couple times last year about not flushing tampons, and one of those flyers is posted to the window of the laundry room/ office, so this is not the first notice. It seems like a scare tactic to me, but I want to be sure I'm not going to be evicted over just owning tampons, or punished over what other renters and their guests might do. I also don't want any of the men who own or work for this building rifling through my sanitary products. Is there anything I need to be concerned about and what can I do to protect myself?

dw5kvvc

dw5gmce

Decoy tampons! How many years have I been waiting for the question to which that was the best answer.

Even if there was a way to easily identify the type of tampon, wouldn't this notice just urge the person responsibly to stock up on a different brand in order to not get caught? This doesn't make any sense. Probably a scare tactic indeed, since he knows he can't do much, but it's also understandable that this issue is frustrating and costly for him, after putting up warnings before.

86i0ts

legaladvice_train

Landlord wants to raise rent/ evict because of tampons, and is threatening to search my feminine products. Can he do this? This is probably one of the most degrading things I've ever been through with a landlord. I live in an apartment complex in Iowa with 3 buildings and several units in each building. Plumbing and water are shared between units. This morning we opened our door to find a note threatening to raise the rent of everyone in our building by $50 a month because of flushed tampons and wipes clogging the sewer drain. The letter goes on to say that they will be comparing any tampons they find in the pipes to the tampons kept by women in each apartment unit and if the type matches, they will charge $500 to the tenant and evict. We got flyers a couple times last year about not flushing tampons, and one of those flyers is posted to the window of the laundry room/ office, so this is not the first notice. It seems like a scare tactic to me, but I want to be sure I'm not going to be evicted over just owning tampons, or punished over what other renters and their guests might do. I also don't want any of the men who own or work for this building rifling through my sanitary products. Is there anything I need to be concerned about and what can I do to protect myself?

dw5ujlh

dw5pmfm

I am not a lawyer, but I work in property management. This is absolutely ridiculous. If I went to my local judge with a bag of bloody soiled tampons and demanded a writ she would laugh me out of court. To me there are multiple issues: 1. With communal plumbing they can't prove who is flushing tampons. This is causing them to accrue plumbing bills that they can't pin on anyone. This is their problem, not yours. 2. Matching the brand of the tampon is highly unlikely to hold up to any scrutiny, if they could even do it. Can you DNA test a water logged, sewer soaked tampon with any degree of accuracy? I highly doubt it. 3. I agree (after a quick google search about laws in your general area) with other comments that they cannot just barge in for an inspection, and rifling through your belongings is a HUGE no-no. This sounds like some crappy fear mongering by a rather unprofessional company. Now IF they snaked your particular toilet and IF they pulled a tampon out, then you might be billed for the snaking/whatever costs are incurred. I've billed people for flushing hairbrushes, towel rack brackets, confirms, etc but it was when we were able to recover the item from their toilet. I would recommend biding your time and looking for a new place if you can afford it. This is just a weird way to handle the issue. Asked my coworker who has been in the business 28 years- she says hell no too. Good luck!

Tampons may be the culprit here bit so called "flushable wipes" are a serious problem and may have contributed. I spent $500 last year having the drain in my husband's bathroom snaked because.of these devils. Neither he nor I use feminine products, but that's what plumbers immediately jump to when asked. It took the plumber 3.5-4 hours and what came out was a remnants of shredded wipes. Husband had used "flushable wipes" before discovering they were not in fact flushable. Packaging for any wipe or feminine hygiene product should clearly state not flushable! Friend had to redo their septic because of these.

3xq14g

legaladvice_train

Home for the holidays, little brother stole everything of value from my room. So about 18 months ago I moved from my parent's house in Virginia to the other side of the country. When I came for Christmas last year, only 1 thing was missing (my 3ds and things that went with it) so I kind of wrote it off but I'm back for Christmas again this year and more than $1,200 worth of my stuff has been taken from my bedroom and is gone. I found some of the smaller ticket items hidden in my 18 year old brother's room and confronted him but he swears he didn't touch anything. Everyone else in the family is missing things and money as well, he was even stealing my 12 year old brother's adhd medicine and selling it, our mother keeps it in a lock box now. I am at a loss of what to do, he hasn't faced any consequences from our parents and won't. Is there a legal course of action I can take, even if my stuff is long gone and was sold for drugs or am I just sol?

cy6zjnj

cy6t50h

Your parents really need to attempt to convince him to go to treatment. He will end up in prison if he keeps this up. You can report the theft but that might very well lead to prison too, especially if it comes out that he's been stealing controlled medication from a child. Continuing to house him while he has a drug problem makes sense, but it makes less sense once he is pawning other people's property to support it - soon enough he's going to steal from someone who will report him, or from a business or his workplace.

Call the police and report the theft. Let them deal with it.

sentzm

legaladvice_train

ATM stole my money and bank closed the claim On Jan 12, I went to a Regions branded atm and tried to withdraw $500. The machine went dark and debited my account but did not dispense the money. I just got notice that my claim was closed with no credit given. I was definitely ripped off and I’m wondering where do I go from here? What kind of lawyer would I need to talk to?

huksvys

hukycif

File another claim, ask them to check security cameras and atm data log.

Business lawyer here. The following is what I would do if I were you: I’d file complaints against the bank with the CFPB, FDIC, your state’s attorney general office, your state’s banking regulator, and any other government regulatory agency you can think of (even if they don’t have proper jurisdiction over the complaint). Also, for good measure, I’d file the complaint with the Better Business Bureau. I’d be sure to include specific identifying information such as my full name, the amount of money I tried to withdraw, the last four digits of the card I used, any identifying codes on my bank statement, and most importantly the exact date, time, atm number (if one is posted on the ATM), and atm location. Now, I wouldn’t spend time writing different complaints. I’d write one stellar complaint and send copies to all the agencies I listed above. What’s going to end up happening is that most of the agency complaints will be forwarded to the CFPB for processing due to jurisdiction issues and complaint processing agreements. However, the bank will get letters about the complaints, and the letters the other agencies send the bank that say “we’re forwarding the complaint to the CFBP” will grab the bank’s attention. If you do what I would do, you’d end up with someone serious from the bank whose goal is to resolve the problem you created for them by creating a regulatory complaint against them. This person has the power to and will review the ATM records, see the system crash at the same time as your transaction, and see that the ATM ended its day with a financial surplus of at least $500.

4n43ds

legaladvice_train

[PA]My boss discovered there is some items missing from the inventory and asked me what happened. I was the only one on the clock and he thinks I may have stole them, I'm trying to hide something, or I'm trying to cover up for a regular customer who was also there at the time. I'll try to get the story as correct and accurate as possible. The whole business is pretty laid back so I'm not exactly "recording" everything I see going on since there's usually nothing to worry about ever. I also have ADHD, and one thing that gets effected with that is my memory. I work in a hookah lounge and yesterday (Tuesday 6/7) I opened and was supposed to work the nights. I came in, did all my opening stuff and about an hour after I opened in one of our regulars showed up, we'll call him "T". T is a regular and a friend of the business. I'm talking to another customer (we will call him "G") and getting them set up when he came in, so I greet him and go back to the customer. T walks behind the bar and goes to the kitchen (right next to the bar). I've seen him do this plenty of times before when the other manager is working, he gets comfortable when he comes in. I'm still talking to G and T steps out of the kitchen for a sec with a bag and some tobacco in it and places it on the counter behind me and says something along the lines of "I just grabbed a bag to put this tobacco in. My girlfriend bought it from (a co-worker) already. We were keeping it here." I put G's order in and T in the back making his hookah and I help him finish then make the G's. T, G, and the customers friend (we will call this friend "P") eventually move outside to the front patio. So in total there are three people now not including me, and everyone knows each other. A new customer comes in to buy two rolls of coals and he buys them then I sit at the bar and talk with him for a little. T comes back in with a paper bag with some food in it. He walks behind the bar, puts the food down, and says he's grabbing a plastic knife for the food. He walks back out to behind the bar with the knife in hand, takes the food out of the bag and walks back outside. The customer I was talking to left. The manager comes in. He sits down and I ask him if it's okay to move my stuff outside and sit with everyone. He says okay and I do. I end up moving back inside and the manager asks me to make him a hookah. He asks about the bag on the fridge (the one T put there when he came in). I'm concentrating on the hookah I'm making so not really paying attention I say "I don't know, I think it was T's." The manager walks downstairs to (I presume) do inventory. Then I remember T said something abut the bag so I step outside to ask him and he tells me the same thing "My girlfriend bought that from (a co-worker) and I'm just keeping it behind the bar before I go." I text that to the manager while he's downstairs. T, G, and P come inside. T asks where the manager is and I say "I don't know" and he leans in to the back door (the leads to the back exit and office) to check. He was there for all of a few seconds. T goes to leave for the night, he says he's heading to his house now. T buys two rolls of coals before he leaves. P is going to join him at his house, but drive there on his own. P grabs T's bag and I said "Make sure that's T's bag before you go" He steps outside, bag in hand, to ask then steps back in, bag still in hand, and says "Yeah, it's his" and then he leaves. So now T and P have left, and it's just me, G, and the manager. G pays and leaves. The manager calls me to the back and tells me what's going on and asks me what happened. Now I'm being put under pressure, I don't do very well under pressure. And I also have ADHD (as I said above) and one part of that effects my memory. I can honestly say I've never been out under pressure like this before. Between the situation (which is something I've never had happen to me ever) and the interrogating my manager is doing to me. I'm trying to remember the best I can and I'm tripping over my words. I'm trying to balance telling him the information as fast as I can so he doesn't get even more mad, but also giving accurate information. In short it's a shit show on my end and he's saying I'm changing my stories up and thinks I'm hiding/covering stuff from him. Understandably this looks bad on me, but I'm not doing it on purpose. I kind of blacked out part of the way through the "interrogation" so I don't remember what we were talking about. He gets fed up, tells me to sit down and write down my story, my "conclusion" to what happened, my tabs I had for the night, and to sign and date everything at the end. My story is pretty much what I just typed out up there. My "conclusion", in summary, is that T filled up the bag and lied about it. Afterwards he talks to me about this saying how I should know that no one else is allowed in the back but me and managers (as I said, T gets comfortable and I've seen him go behind the bar plenty of times before when managers are there, I did not think anything of it). He says he'll give me the benefit of the doubt and think I had nothing to do with this. I said something to him trying to help make things right by offering to cover the loss because I feel bad that this happened and I was on the clock. And he said something along the lines to me of "...I could call the cops. This could be felony on you. This could ruin your life. And I'll beat you up, but we'll worry about that later." That last thing made me think "Uh, what the fuck?" Th just kept quite and he told me to clock out and leave. As I left he said "You're still scheduled for this weekend unless I say otherwise." So here I am now. I did not help steal anything or try to cover up anything to save T (or anyone). But I feel like my manager thinks otherwise (and probably does). Now I'm worried about the police getting involved or me loosing my job over something I didn't do. I have zero motivation to do this, I've helped this business and managers out so much over the last year and a half. I only started working in October 2015, but before that I did graphic design for their social media since September 2014. There is no reason I would do this, and I didn't. I will try to clarify details and answer questions as needed.

d40o42i

d40tq0w

First thing's first, write the details out clearly, try to get them clearer than they are here. Keep a copy on you which also has relevant details on your condition, and that you felt pressured into signing a bunch of papers your manager passed over (this copy is for the cops, incase they are called, to try and mitigate you getting flustered under pressure), and give another copy to your manager. Tell him you'll adhere to policy from now on, you thought it was alright because of what's happened before, but that was not something for you to decide. Stick to policy on everything. Once your manager cools off, give him some information (you can probably find it online) about how to deal with people who have ADHD effectively in workplace situations and such.

If whatever this is is what you explained to your boss, no wonder he is pissed.

oiwunh

legaladvice_train

My mom claimed me as dependant and is taking the stimulus check. I'm 21 and she has not been monetarily supporting me in any way and she didnt have permission. Is there anything I can do about it? My crackhead mother has been stealing money from me for years and I'm ready to strike her for it. Is that a thing I can do on this case? Edit: I live in the state of Ohio

h4ybk7r

h4yacxp

Paper file your taxes claiming yourself. They may send a letter to CHM asking her to prove that you are her dependent. She shouldn't be able to prove that, and you'll get your stimulus. This may take three or four years though, IRS is overwhelmed.

Have you been filing your taxes as independent?

oiwunh

legaladvice_train

My mom claimed me as dependant and is taking the stimulus check. I'm 21 and she has not been monetarily supporting me in any way and she didnt have permission. Is there anything I can do about it? My crackhead mother has been stealing money from me for years and I'm ready to strike her for it. Is that a thing I can do on this case? Edit: I live in the state of Ohio

h4y9j5p

h4ybk7r

It will be helpful to also post to r/personalfinance (follow the posting rules so your post stays up). There have been several similar questions there, and they will tell you what form to fill out for the IRS to correct your dependent status & seek stimulus payment. The IRS can and will require repayment for fraudulently collected stimulus checks, so you won’t necessarily have to pursue you mother legally for the stimulus money. You also want to make sure you freeze your credit with all the major agencies to prevent her from opening credit lines in your name. If you haven’t already, please pull your credit reports to makes sure you recognize everything there. If you see anything you believe your mother to have opened in your name, you can file a police report for identity theft. If you live in the same area or have any concerns she may steal your info via mail, you can sign up to see a scan of your mail before it’s delivered via Informed Delivery at USPS.com

Paper file your taxes claiming yourself. They may send a letter to CHM asking her to prove that you are her dependent. She shouldn't be able to prove that, and you'll get your stimulus. This may take three or four years though, IRS is overwhelmed.

oiwunh

legaladvice_train

My mom claimed me as dependant and is taking the stimulus check. I'm 21 and she has not been monetarily supporting me in any way and she didnt have permission. Is there anything I can do about it? My crackhead mother has been stealing money from me for years and I'm ready to strike her for it. Is that a thing I can do on this case? Edit: I live in the state of Ohio

h4yacxp

h4y9j5p

Have you been filing your taxes as independent?

It will be helpful to also post to r/personalfinance (follow the posting rules so your post stays up). There have been several similar questions there, and they will tell you what form to fill out for the IRS to correct your dependent status & seek stimulus payment. The IRS can and will require repayment for fraudulently collected stimulus checks, so you won’t necessarily have to pursue you mother legally for the stimulus money. You also want to make sure you freeze your credit with all the major agencies to prevent her from opening credit lines in your name. If you haven’t already, please pull your credit reports to makes sure you recognize everything there. If you see anything you believe your mother to have opened in your name, you can file a police report for identity theft. If you live in the same area or have any concerns she may steal your info via mail, you can sign up to see a scan of your mail before it’s delivered via Informed Delivery at USPS.com

oiwunh

legaladvice_train

My mom claimed me as dependant and is taking the stimulus check. I'm 21 and she has not been monetarily supporting me in any way and she didnt have permission. Is there anything I can do about it? My crackhead mother has been stealing money from me for years and I'm ready to strike her for it. Is that a thing I can do on this case? Edit: I live in the state of Ohio

h4ydu3l

h4y9j5p

https://www.thebalance.com/what-if-you-re-fraudulently-claimed-as-a-dependent-5084383

It will be helpful to also post to r/personalfinance (follow the posting rules so your post stays up). There have been several similar questions there, and they will tell you what form to fill out for the IRS to correct your dependent status & seek stimulus payment. The IRS can and will require repayment for fraudulently collected stimulus checks, so you won’t necessarily have to pursue you mother legally for the stimulus money. You also want to make sure you freeze your credit with all the major agencies to prevent her from opening credit lines in your name. If you haven’t already, please pull your credit reports to makes sure you recognize everything there. If you see anything you believe your mother to have opened in your name, you can file a police report for identity theft. If you live in the same area or have any concerns she may steal your info via mail, you can sign up to see a scan of your mail before it’s delivered via Informed Delivery at USPS.com

oiwunh

legaladvice_train

My mom claimed me as dependant and is taking the stimulus check. I'm 21 and she has not been monetarily supporting me in any way and she didnt have permission. Is there anything I can do about it? My crackhead mother has been stealing money from me for years and I'm ready to strike her for it. Is that a thing I can do on this case? Edit: I live in the state of Ohio

h4yc780

h4ydu3l

Here is a website where you can report Coronavirus-specific fraud to the Federal Government.

https://www.thebalance.com/what-if-you-re-fraudulently-claimed-as-a-dependent-5084383

oiwunh

legaladvice_train

My mom claimed me as dependant and is taking the stimulus check. I'm 21 and she has not been monetarily supporting me in any way and she didnt have permission. Is there anything I can do about it? My crackhead mother has been stealing money from me for years and I'm ready to strike her for it. Is that a thing I can do on this case? Edit: I live in the state of Ohio

h4yl6us

h4yc780

File your taxes (you'll need to do this via paper + mail them in), stating that you're independent. It may take a while, but it'll get corrected, like /u/Llamalampz said, eventually you'll get the money owed to you. It can take a while though. Sooner you start on it, the better. If CHM was already paid the stimulus, they'll just be in debt with the IRS and have to pay it back. (This, though, is not related to the time frame in which you'll see your money. The IRS will owe you once this clears up (as this stimulus stuff was actually a tax credit) and CHM will owe the IRS. CHM does not have to pay the IRS in order for you to get your money.)

Here is a website where you can report Coronavirus-specific fraud to the Federal Government.

oiwunh

legaladvice_train

My mom claimed me as dependant and is taking the stimulus check. I'm 21 and she has not been monetarily supporting me in any way and she didnt have permission. Is there anything I can do about it? My crackhead mother has been stealing money from me for years and I'm ready to strike her for it. Is that a thing I can do on this case? Edit: I live in the state of Ohio

h4yc780

h4ymc9p

Here is a website where you can report Coronavirus-specific fraud to the Federal Government.

The stimulus checks were based off of past years taxes…. I want to say 2019 (or 2018 if they hadn’t filed 2019 at the time they were distributed) for the first 1-2 at least. So if your mom was providing more than half of the cost to support you (rent, food, tuition, bills, insurance, etc) in 2019 (or 2018, as the case may be) then she was entitled to claim you as a dependent. That also said, for the first 2 checks, if your mom claimed you on her taxes in 2019(or 2018), she may not have even received anything for you anyway since you were older than 17. Adult dependents were only eligible for the 3rd one. Did you file your own tax return in 2020? Ultimately still, if she provides more than half your cost to survive, she can claim you and it’s her check. Do you live with her? Do you pay rent? Does she provide your food, utilities, health insurance, etc.. You just having a job isn’t enough.

oiwunh

legaladvice_train

My mom claimed me as dependant and is taking the stimulus check. I'm 21 and she has not been monetarily supporting me in any way and she didnt have permission. Is there anything I can do about it? My crackhead mother has been stealing money from me for years and I'm ready to strike her for it. Is that a thing I can do on this case? Edit: I live in the state of Ohio

h4yoews

h4yc780

At this point you need to go to the IRS site and look at whether she did that for Checks 1 & 2 as well--which you can only get now as a tax credit, not a direct stimulus check, because so much time has passed. The second question would be whether she's gaming the system to get the several thousand dollars more dependent credit. Which sounds like a yes. So go fill out the fraud report form on the IRS website as well.

Here is a website where you can report Coronavirus-specific fraud to the Federal Government.

oiwunh

legaladvice_train

My mom claimed me as dependant and is taking the stimulus check. I'm 21 and she has not been monetarily supporting me in any way and she didnt have permission. Is there anything I can do about it? My crackhead mother has been stealing money from me for years and I'm ready to strike her for it. Is that a thing I can do on this case? Edit: I live in the state of Ohio

h4yoews

h4ynhkb

At this point you need to go to the IRS site and look at whether she did that for Checks 1 & 2 as well--which you can only get now as a tax credit, not a direct stimulus check, because so much time has passed. The second question would be whether she's gaming the system to get the several thousand dollars more dependent credit. Which sounds like a yes. So go fill out the fraud report form on the IRS website as well.

Did you go to college at least halftime last year?

oiwunh

legaladvice_train

My mom claimed me as dependant and is taking the stimulus check. I'm 21 and she has not been monetarily supporting me in any way and she didnt have permission. Is there anything I can do about it? My crackhead mother has been stealing money from me for years and I'm ready to strike her for it. Is that a thing I can do on this case? Edit: I live in the state of Ohio

h4ynhkb

h4yzn2i

Did you go to college at least halftime last year?

Couple of things: Did you work in 2020? Were you a student? Did you file your own tax return? To get the 3rd check you could have submitted a non-filers return. Here's an article. https://www.cnet.com/news/child-tax-credit-and-id-me-its-not-too-late-to-manage-your-irs-payments/ You can make an appointment to visit your local IRS Tax Assistance Center. They used to take walk-ins, but I'm not sure post-Covid. https://www.irs.gov/help/contact-my-local-office-in-ohio Next year make sure you file as soon as possible. I think there is a box that asks if there is someone who is eligible to claim you as a dependent. If your return is entered before hers she'll get a letter from the IRS stating she's ineligible to claim you. If you were a student who didn't work and didn't file, I think it may be difficult to *prove* she didn't provide support. Finally, if you aren't a student and she claimed you as a dependent you can report tax fraud on the IRS website. https://www.irs.gov/individuals/how-do-you-report-suspected-tax-fraud-activity

5pnnxl

legaladvice_train

I'm 16 and pregnant and about to give birth in 3 weeks. My mom says she controls who goes into the delivery room. I told her that it's my right to choose who I want in there. Is she right about being able to control who goes in there? (California) Sorry for formatting I'm on mobile. So I'm about to be due in 3 weeks and I want specific family members to be able to see me when I want and how long it should be because I know it's going to be really stressful. I tried to tell my mom but she said that I have no rights in who I say goes in or not and that since she's the parent that she decides who sees me and who doesn't. I'm just really worried about that because she will exclude almost all of my dad's side of the family (they've been separated and pretty much hate each other) even though they've helped out when my mom kicked me out of the house for a little over a month. I even told her that I don't want her there and I would rather be alone in the room if that makes everyone happy but she still says that I have no rights. I know it's really stupid but I don't want to stress out anymore than I already am and I just want to know ahead of time so that I can tell my doctor and the hospital before hand but I haven't been able to call them about this because I don't want to be told that "she's my mother do what she says" you know?

dcsnexc

dcshf8j

I am not a lawyer, but I am a pediatrician. In most states (and including California), pregnant minors are emancipated for medical care of the pregnancy. That means that **only you** and not your mother have the legal right to consent and control your medical care related to the pregnancy. See here

You can call the hospital maternity ward and ask them about their policy. You're absolutely not the first minor to give birth there, and drama about access to the delivery room is common. I guarantee they've got an answer for you. At 16 though it's very likely that they will not allow your mother to force her way in if you don't want her there. L&D nurses are very protective of their patients' rights to control access to the room.

5pnnxl

legaladvice_train

I'm 16 and pregnant and about to give birth in 3 weeks. My mom says she controls who goes into the delivery room. I told her that it's my right to choose who I want in there. Is she right about being able to control who goes in there? (California) Sorry for formatting I'm on mobile. So I'm about to be due in 3 weeks and I want specific family members to be able to see me when I want and how long it should be because I know it's going to be really stressful. I tried to tell my mom but she said that I have no rights in who I say goes in or not and that since she's the parent that she decides who sees me and who doesn't. I'm just really worried about that because she will exclude almost all of my dad's side of the family (they've been separated and pretty much hate each other) even though they've helped out when my mom kicked me out of the house for a little over a month. I even told her that I don't want her there and I would rather be alone in the room if that makes everyone happy but she still says that I have no rights. I know it's really stupid but I don't want to stress out anymore than I already am and I just want to know ahead of time so that I can tell my doctor and the hospital before hand but I haven't been able to call them about this because I don't want to be told that "she's my mother do what she says" you know?

dcslvs6

dcsnexc

Yet another vote to say talk to the nurses. Not only to give names of those who are allowed, but also to give detailed descriptions of those who are not. People may lie about their names. My understanding is that nurses will protect you, as the patient, and have seen it all before and know how disruptive an unwelcome guest can be. They will act in your interests so do talk to them as far in advance as possible, and reiterate it when you're admitted in labour. Edit: this applies to the time after birth too. You do not want your mother sweeping in to hold the baby while you're still recovering and exhausted and haven't even held baby yourself. The first few hours are for you and baby to do skin to skin bonding and to establish breastfeeding, in a calm environment. And to rest. If it was me I'd say no visitors (except the father or a trusted friend) for 2 hours after birth ,and if I'm napping don't disturb me, make it 4 hours. Minimum. Maybe ask the nurses to check with you every 2 hours (they can always say you're exhausted ) until you are ready for visitors. Do not feel guilty about this. The world will not end if your mother waits a few hours to see you and baby, no matter what she threatens. Do you have plans for after the birth? Be careful that she doesn't try to take over your child and to mother you both. Youre young but it is your child.

I am not a lawyer, but I am a pediatrician. In most states (and including California), pregnant minors are emancipated for medical care of the pregnancy. That means that **only you** and not your mother have the legal right to consent and control your medical care related to the pregnancy. See here

5pnnxl

legaladvice_train

I'm 16 and pregnant and about to give birth in 3 weeks. My mom says she controls who goes into the delivery room. I told her that it's my right to choose who I want in there. Is she right about being able to control who goes in there? (California) Sorry for formatting I'm on mobile. So I'm about to be due in 3 weeks and I want specific family members to be able to see me when I want and how long it should be because I know it's going to be really stressful. I tried to tell my mom but she said that I have no rights in who I say goes in or not and that since she's the parent that she decides who sees me and who doesn't. I'm just really worried about that because she will exclude almost all of my dad's side of the family (they've been separated and pretty much hate each other) even though they've helped out when my mom kicked me out of the house for a little over a month. I even told her that I don't want her there and I would rather be alone in the room if that makes everyone happy but she still says that I have no rights. I know it's really stupid but I don't want to stress out anymore than I already am and I just want to know ahead of time so that I can tell my doctor and the hospital before hand but I haven't been able to call them about this because I don't want to be told that "she's my mother do what she says" you know?

dcsnexc

dcsmsws

I am not a lawyer, but I am a pediatrician. In most states (and including California), pregnant minors are emancipated for medical care of the pregnancy. That means that **only you** and not your mother have the legal right to consent and control your medical care related to the pregnancy. See here

You may be 16, but a minor who has given birth is considered emancipated for most purposes. You are able to make your own decisions regarding this. Most states also have laws saying that minors are in charge of their own reproductive care (which also birthing a child). Many hospitals do have rules about how many people can be in the delivery room at one time - no crowds or entourages. However, you get to dictate who gets to be there and for how long. If your mother is attempting to intimidate you, calmly and clearly explain your situation to your doctor and let the hospital know ahead of time that you don't want her there. They have to abide by your wishes. You are by far not the first minor giving birth in the midst of family drama - the hospitals deals with this all the time. Just be very clear that she is not welcome under any circumstances and stick to it. It may be a tough pill for your mom to swallow, but she will no longer have veto power over your decisions once the baby arrives. Now, she may have leverage to ensure your compliance with her wishes- giving you a place to stay, paying for some of your expenses, etc. However, she cannot overrule your decisions once you become a parent - just something to think about.

5pnnxl

legaladvice_train

I'm 16 and pregnant and about to give birth in 3 weeks. My mom says she controls who goes into the delivery room. I told her that it's my right to choose who I want in there. Is she right about being able to control who goes in there? (California) Sorry for formatting I'm on mobile. So I'm about to be due in 3 weeks and I want specific family members to be able to see me when I want and how long it should be because I know it's going to be really stressful. I tried to tell my mom but she said that I have no rights in who I say goes in or not and that since she's the parent that she decides who sees me and who doesn't. I'm just really worried about that because she will exclude almost all of my dad's side of the family (they've been separated and pretty much hate each other) even though they've helped out when my mom kicked me out of the house for a little over a month. I even told her that I don't want her there and I would rather be alone in the room if that makes everyone happy but she still says that I have no rights. I know it's really stupid but I don't want to stress out anymore than I already am and I just want to know ahead of time so that I can tell my doctor and the hospital before hand but I haven't been able to call them about this because I don't want to be told that "she's my mother do what she says" you know?

dcshi8c

dcsnexc

Pull your doctor aside and explain to them. Also talk to your nurses. You have control here, your mom has nothing.

I am not a lawyer, but I am a pediatrician. In most states (and including California), pregnant minors are emancipated for medical care of the pregnancy. That means that **only you** and not your mother have the legal right to consent and control your medical care related to the pregnancy. See here

5pnnxl

legaladvice_train

I'm 16 and pregnant and about to give birth in 3 weeks. My mom says she controls who goes into the delivery room. I told her that it's my right to choose who I want in there. Is she right about being able to control who goes in there? (California) Sorry for formatting I'm on mobile. So I'm about to be due in 3 weeks and I want specific family members to be able to see me when I want and how long it should be because I know it's going to be really stressful. I tried to tell my mom but she said that I have no rights in who I say goes in or not and that since she's the parent that she decides who sees me and who doesn't. I'm just really worried about that because she will exclude almost all of my dad's side of the family (they've been separated and pretty much hate each other) even though they've helped out when my mom kicked me out of the house for a little over a month. I even told her that I don't want her there and I would rather be alone in the room if that makes everyone happy but she still says that I have no rights. I know it's really stupid but I don't want to stress out anymore than I already am and I just want to know ahead of time so that I can tell my doctor and the hospital before hand but I haven't been able to call them about this because I don't want to be told that "she's my mother do what she says" you know?

dcsnexc

dcsjgw6

I am not a lawyer, but I am a pediatrician. In most states (and including California), pregnant minors are emancipated for medical care of the pregnancy. That means that **only you** and not your mother have the legal right to consent and control your medical care related to the pregnancy. See here

As others have stated, talk to someone at the hospital. this actually comes up a lot and they are used to telling people no or taking control. also, if the hospital that you will be delivering at has a birthing class, see if you can sign up. sometimes they have 1-day ones. it will get you familiar with their policies and may allow you to ask the nurses teaching the class how you can arrange this.

5pnnxl

legaladvice_train

I'm 16 and pregnant and about to give birth in 3 weeks. My mom says she controls who goes into the delivery room. I told her that it's my right to choose who I want in there. Is she right about being able to control who goes in there? (California) Sorry for formatting I'm on mobile. So I'm about to be due in 3 weeks and I want specific family members to be able to see me when I want and how long it should be because I know it's going to be really stressful. I tried to tell my mom but she said that I have no rights in who I say goes in or not and that since she's the parent that she decides who sees me and who doesn't. I'm just really worried about that because she will exclude almost all of my dad's side of the family (they've been separated and pretty much hate each other) even though they've helped out when my mom kicked me out of the house for a little over a month. I even told her that I don't want her there and I would rather be alone in the room if that makes everyone happy but she still says that I have no rights. I know it's really stupid but I don't want to stress out anymore than I already am and I just want to know ahead of time so that I can tell my doctor and the hospital before hand but I haven't been able to call them about this because I don't want to be told that "she's my mother do what she says" you know?

dcsnexc

dcslv09

I am not a lawyer, but I am a pediatrician. In most states (and including California), pregnant minors are emancipated for medical care of the pregnancy. That means that **only you** and not your mother have the legal right to consent and control your medical care related to the pregnancy. See here

The parents control. Not the grandparents. You can even tell your own mother not to be there. If all else fails call the hospital to confirm.

5pnnxl

legaladvice_train

I'm 16 and pregnant and about to give birth in 3 weeks. My mom says she controls who goes into the delivery room. I told her that it's my right to choose who I want in there. Is she right about being able to control who goes in there? (California) Sorry for formatting I'm on mobile. So I'm about to be due in 3 weeks and I want specific family members to be able to see me when I want and how long it should be because I know it's going to be really stressful. I tried to tell my mom but she said that I have no rights in who I say goes in or not and that since she's the parent that she decides who sees me and who doesn't. I'm just really worried about that because she will exclude almost all of my dad's side of the family (they've been separated and pretty much hate each other) even though they've helped out when my mom kicked me out of the house for a little over a month. I even told her that I don't want her there and I would rather be alone in the room if that makes everyone happy but she still says that I have no rights. I know it's really stupid but I don't want to stress out anymore than I already am and I just want to know ahead of time so that I can tell my doctor and the hospital before hand but I haven't been able to call them about this because I don't want to be told that "she's my mother do what she says" you know?

dcsmxy4

dcsnexc

Are you receiving prenatal care? If so, talk to your provider now. Don't wait until you're in labor to deal with this. If this is your first, you'll be tripping balls on hormones, so you won't be in the right state of mind for rational shit. Have you decided where you intend to deliver? If so, you can go talk to the administration ahead of time to put a plan into place. Hell, do both. Also, have you written a birth plan? Part of that can include who you want in the room with you and who should be kept out. I have helped friends write their plans. One of my birth plans is on my midwife's website as being exceptionally thorough. (Lawyer, so typical!) When you arrive at the hospital/birthing center/wherever you intend to deliver, just hand over the plan. Talking while in labor is challenging. My mom was there for my first birth and I didn't like it. So, for the next, I just didn't tell my mom when I was in labor. I called her right after baby #2 was born. Giving birth under stressful conditions is the fucking worst. I was so stressed for my first. The room was filled with people I didn't like so it took 15 hours. My second, it was me, my husband, my midwife and her apprentice. Night and day experience. Labor was so much less painful that I didn't even believe I was in labor. Have you considered hiring a doula? Some are expensive, but some work on a sliding scale or will work for free if new and need experience. Your doula can advocate for you and kick people out of the room. I was an unofficial doula for a friend. I kicked out her mom and sisters because my friend asked me to. Her family still hates me, but I was happy to take the heat on that one. Do you have a friend who is willing to act as your bouncer?

I am not a lawyer, but I am a pediatrician. In most states (and including California), pregnant minors are emancipated for medical care of the pregnancy. That means that **only you** and not your mother have the legal right to consent and control your medical care related to the pregnancy. See here

5pnnxl

legaladvice_train

I'm 16 and pregnant and about to give birth in 3 weeks. My mom says she controls who goes into the delivery room. I told her that it's my right to choose who I want in there. Is she right about being able to control who goes in there? (California) Sorry for formatting I'm on mobile. So I'm about to be due in 3 weeks and I want specific family members to be able to see me when I want and how long it should be because I know it's going to be really stressful. I tried to tell my mom but she said that I have no rights in who I say goes in or not and that since she's the parent that she decides who sees me and who doesn't. I'm just really worried about that because she will exclude almost all of my dad's side of the family (they've been separated and pretty much hate each other) even though they've helped out when my mom kicked me out of the house for a little over a month. I even told her that I don't want her there and I would rather be alone in the room if that makes everyone happy but she still says that I have no rights. I know it's really stupid but I don't want to stress out anymore than I already am and I just want to know ahead of time so that I can tell my doctor and the hospital before hand but I haven't been able to call them about this because I don't want to be told that "she's my mother do what she says" you know?

dcsmwxa

dcsnexc

Do you currently live with your mother? Is she going to be bringing you to the hospital? If so, and you don't have a less-stressful option, don't announce your plan to bar her from the room and to invite whomever you want. If you want to discuss with the L&D people, make sure that as a minor, your privacy regarding conversations with a physician are not revealed to your mom.

I am not a lawyer, but I am a pediatrician. In most states (and including California), pregnant minors are emancipated for medical care of the pregnancy. That means that **only you** and not your mother have the legal right to consent and control your medical care related to the pregnancy. See here

5pnnxl

legaladvice_train

I'm 16 and pregnant and about to give birth in 3 weeks. My mom says she controls who goes into the delivery room. I told her that it's my right to choose who I want in there. Is she right about being able to control who goes in there? (California) Sorry for formatting I'm on mobile. So I'm about to be due in 3 weeks and I want specific family members to be able to see me when I want and how long it should be because I know it's going to be really stressful. I tried to tell my mom but she said that I have no rights in who I say goes in or not and that since she's the parent that she decides who sees me and who doesn't. I'm just really worried about that because she will exclude almost all of my dad's side of the family (they've been separated and pretty much hate each other) even though they've helped out when my mom kicked me out of the house for a little over a month. I even told her that I don't want her there and I would rather be alone in the room if that makes everyone happy but she still says that I have no rights. I know it's really stupid but I don't want to stress out anymore than I already am and I just want to know ahead of time so that I can tell my doctor and the hospital before hand but I haven't been able to call them about this because I don't want to be told that "she's my mother do what she says" you know?

dcsnexc

dcsmhsv

I am not a lawyer, but I am a pediatrician. In most states (and including California), pregnant minors are emancipated for medical care of the pregnancy. That means that **only you** and not your mother have the legal right to consent and control your medical care related to the pregnancy. See here

She is wrong. The choice is yours, within the limits set by the hospital.

5pnnxl

legaladvice_train

I'm 16 and pregnant and about to give birth in 3 weeks. My mom says she controls who goes into the delivery room. I told her that it's my right to choose who I want in there. Is she right about being able to control who goes in there? (California) Sorry for formatting I'm on mobile. So I'm about to be due in 3 weeks and I want specific family members to be able to see me when I want and how long it should be because I know it's going to be really stressful. I tried to tell my mom but she said that I have no rights in who I say goes in or not and that since she's the parent that she decides who sees me and who doesn't. I'm just really worried about that because she will exclude almost all of my dad's side of the family (they've been separated and pretty much hate each other) even though they've helped out when my mom kicked me out of the house for a little over a month. I even told her that I don't want her there and I would rather be alone in the room if that makes everyone happy but she still says that I have no rights. I know it's really stupid but I don't want to stress out anymore than I already am and I just want to know ahead of time so that I can tell my doctor and the hospital before hand but I haven't been able to call them about this because I don't want to be told that "she's my mother do what she says" you know?

dcshi8c

dcslvs6

Pull your doctor aside and explain to them. Also talk to your nurses. You have control here, your mom has nothing.

Yet another vote to say talk to the nurses. Not only to give names of those who are allowed, but also to give detailed descriptions of those who are not. People may lie about their names. My understanding is that nurses will protect you, as the patient, and have seen it all before and know how disruptive an unwelcome guest can be. They will act in your interests so do talk to them as far in advance as possible, and reiterate it when you're admitted in labour. Edit: this applies to the time after birth too. You do not want your mother sweeping in to hold the baby while you're still recovering and exhausted and haven't even held baby yourself. The first few hours are for you and baby to do skin to skin bonding and to establish breastfeeding, in a calm environment. And to rest. If it was me I'd say no visitors (except the father or a trusted friend) for 2 hours after birth ,and if I'm napping don't disturb me, make it 4 hours. Minimum. Maybe ask the nurses to check with you every 2 hours (they can always say you're exhausted ) until you are ready for visitors. Do not feel guilty about this. The world will not end if your mother waits a few hours to see you and baby, no matter what she threatens. Do you have plans for after the birth? Be careful that she doesn't try to take over your child and to mother you both. Youre young but it is your child.

5pnnxl

legaladvice_train

I'm 16 and pregnant and about to give birth in 3 weeks. My mom says she controls who goes into the delivery room. I told her that it's my right to choose who I want in there. Is she right about being able to control who goes in there? (California) Sorry for formatting I'm on mobile. So I'm about to be due in 3 weeks and I want specific family members to be able to see me when I want and how long it should be because I know it's going to be really stressful. I tried to tell my mom but she said that I have no rights in who I say goes in or not and that since she's the parent that she decides who sees me and who doesn't. I'm just really worried about that because she will exclude almost all of my dad's side of the family (they've been separated and pretty much hate each other) even though they've helped out when my mom kicked me out of the house for a little over a month. I even told her that I don't want her there and I would rather be alone in the room if that makes everyone happy but she still says that I have no rights. I know it's really stupid but I don't want to stress out anymore than I already am and I just want to know ahead of time so that I can tell my doctor and the hospital before hand but I haven't been able to call them about this because I don't want to be told that "she's my mother do what she says" you know?

dcsjgw6

dcslvs6

As others have stated, talk to someone at the hospital. this actually comes up a lot and they are used to telling people no or taking control. also, if the hospital that you will be delivering at has a birthing class, see if you can sign up. sometimes they have 1-day ones. it will get you familiar with their policies and may allow you to ask the nurses teaching the class how you can arrange this.

Yet another vote to say talk to the nurses. Not only to give names of those who are allowed, but also to give detailed descriptions of those who are not. People may lie about their names. My understanding is that nurses will protect you, as the patient, and have seen it all before and know how disruptive an unwelcome guest can be. They will act in your interests so do talk to them as far in advance as possible, and reiterate it when you're admitted in labour. Edit: this applies to the time after birth too. You do not want your mother sweeping in to hold the baby while you're still recovering and exhausted and haven't even held baby yourself. The first few hours are for you and baby to do skin to skin bonding and to establish breastfeeding, in a calm environment. And to rest. If it was me I'd say no visitors (except the father or a trusted friend) for 2 hours after birth ,and if I'm napping don't disturb me, make it 4 hours. Minimum. Maybe ask the nurses to check with you every 2 hours (they can always say you're exhausted ) until you are ready for visitors. Do not feel guilty about this. The world will not end if your mother waits a few hours to see you and baby, no matter what she threatens. Do you have plans for after the birth? Be careful that she doesn't try to take over your child and to mother you both. Youre young but it is your child.

5pnnxl

legaladvice_train

I'm 16 and pregnant and about to give birth in 3 weeks. My mom says she controls who goes into the delivery room. I told her that it's my right to choose who I want in there. Is she right about being able to control who goes in there? (California) Sorry for formatting I'm on mobile. So I'm about to be due in 3 weeks and I want specific family members to be able to see me when I want and how long it should be because I know it's going to be really stressful. I tried to tell my mom but she said that I have no rights in who I say goes in or not and that since she's the parent that she decides who sees me and who doesn't. I'm just really worried about that because she will exclude almost all of my dad's side of the family (they've been separated and pretty much hate each other) even though they've helped out when my mom kicked me out of the house for a little over a month. I even told her that I don't want her there and I would rather be alone in the room if that makes everyone happy but she still says that I have no rights. I know it's really stupid but I don't want to stress out anymore than I already am and I just want to know ahead of time so that I can tell my doctor and the hospital before hand but I haven't been able to call them about this because I don't want to be told that "she's my mother do what she says" you know?

dcslvs6

dcslv09

Yet another vote to say talk to the nurses. Not only to give names of those who are allowed, but also to give detailed descriptions of those who are not. People may lie about their names. My understanding is that nurses will protect you, as the patient, and have seen it all before and know how disruptive an unwelcome guest can be. They will act in your interests so do talk to them as far in advance as possible, and reiterate it when you're admitted in labour. Edit: this applies to the time after birth too. You do not want your mother sweeping in to hold the baby while you're still recovering and exhausted and haven't even held baby yourself. The first few hours are for you and baby to do skin to skin bonding and to establish breastfeeding, in a calm environment. And to rest. If it was me I'd say no visitors (except the father or a trusted friend) for 2 hours after birth ,and if I'm napping don't disturb me, make it 4 hours. Minimum. Maybe ask the nurses to check with you every 2 hours (they can always say you're exhausted ) until you are ready for visitors. Do not feel guilty about this. The world will not end if your mother waits a few hours to see you and baby, no matter what she threatens. Do you have plans for after the birth? Be careful that she doesn't try to take over your child and to mother you both. Youre young but it is your child.

The parents control. Not the grandparents. You can even tell your own mother not to be there. If all else fails call the hospital to confirm.

5pnnxl

legaladvice_train

I'm 16 and pregnant and about to give birth in 3 weeks. My mom says she controls who goes into the delivery room. I told her that it's my right to choose who I want in there. Is she right about being able to control who goes in there? (California) Sorry for formatting I'm on mobile. So I'm about to be due in 3 weeks and I want specific family members to be able to see me when I want and how long it should be because I know it's going to be really stressful. I tried to tell my mom but she said that I have no rights in who I say goes in or not and that since she's the parent that she decides who sees me and who doesn't. I'm just really worried about that because she will exclude almost all of my dad's side of the family (they've been separated and pretty much hate each other) even though they've helped out when my mom kicked me out of the house for a little over a month. I even told her that I don't want her there and I would rather be alone in the room if that makes everyone happy but she still says that I have no rights. I know it's really stupid but I don't want to stress out anymore than I already am and I just want to know ahead of time so that I can tell my doctor and the hospital before hand but I haven't been able to call them about this because I don't want to be told that "she's my mother do what she says" you know?

dcshi8c

dcsmsws

Pull your doctor aside and explain to them. Also talk to your nurses. You have control here, your mom has nothing.

You may be 16, but a minor who has given birth is considered emancipated for most purposes. You are able to make your own decisions regarding this. Most states also have laws saying that minors are in charge of their own reproductive care (which also birthing a child). Many hospitals do have rules about how many people can be in the delivery room at one time - no crowds or entourages. However, you get to dictate who gets to be there and for how long. If your mother is attempting to intimidate you, calmly and clearly explain your situation to your doctor and let the hospital know ahead of time that you don't want her there. They have to abide by your wishes. You are by far not the first minor giving birth in the midst of family drama - the hospitals deals with this all the time. Just be very clear that she is not welcome under any circumstances and stick to it. It may be a tough pill for your mom to swallow, but she will no longer have veto power over your decisions once the baby arrives. Now, she may have leverage to ensure your compliance with her wishes- giving you a place to stay, paying for some of your expenses, etc. However, she cannot overrule your decisions once you become a parent - just something to think about.

5pnnxl

legaladvice_train

I'm 16 and pregnant and about to give birth in 3 weeks. My mom says she controls who goes into the delivery room. I told her that it's my right to choose who I want in there. Is she right about being able to control who goes in there? (California) Sorry for formatting I'm on mobile. So I'm about to be due in 3 weeks and I want specific family members to be able to see me when I want and how long it should be because I know it's going to be really stressful. I tried to tell my mom but she said that I have no rights in who I say goes in or not and that since she's the parent that she decides who sees me and who doesn't. I'm just really worried about that because she will exclude almost all of my dad's side of the family (they've been separated and pretty much hate each other) even though they've helped out when my mom kicked me out of the house for a little over a month. I even told her that I don't want her there and I would rather be alone in the room if that makes everyone happy but she still says that I have no rights. I know it's really stupid but I don't want to stress out anymore than I already am and I just want to know ahead of time so that I can tell my doctor and the hospital before hand but I haven't been able to call them about this because I don't want to be told that "she's my mother do what she says" you know?

dcsmsws

dcsjgw6

You may be 16, but a minor who has given birth is considered emancipated for most purposes. You are able to make your own decisions regarding this. Most states also have laws saying that minors are in charge of their own reproductive care (which also birthing a child). Many hospitals do have rules about how many people can be in the delivery room at one time - no crowds or entourages. However, you get to dictate who gets to be there and for how long. If your mother is attempting to intimidate you, calmly and clearly explain your situation to your doctor and let the hospital know ahead of time that you don't want her there. They have to abide by your wishes. You are by far not the first minor giving birth in the midst of family drama - the hospitals deals with this all the time. Just be very clear that she is not welcome under any circumstances and stick to it. It may be a tough pill for your mom to swallow, but she will no longer have veto power over your decisions once the baby arrives. Now, she may have leverage to ensure your compliance with her wishes- giving you a place to stay, paying for some of your expenses, etc. However, she cannot overrule your decisions once you become a parent - just something to think about.

As others have stated, talk to someone at the hospital. this actually comes up a lot and they are used to telling people no or taking control. also, if the hospital that you will be delivering at has a birthing class, see if you can sign up. sometimes they have 1-day ones. it will get you familiar with their policies and may allow you to ask the nurses teaching the class how you can arrange this.

5pnnxl

legaladvice_train

I'm 16 and pregnant and about to give birth in 3 weeks. My mom says she controls who goes into the delivery room. I told her that it's my right to choose who I want in there. Is she right about being able to control who goes in there? (California) Sorry for formatting I'm on mobile. So I'm about to be due in 3 weeks and I want specific family members to be able to see me when I want and how long it should be because I know it's going to be really stressful. I tried to tell my mom but she said that I have no rights in who I say goes in or not and that since she's the parent that she decides who sees me and who doesn't. I'm just really worried about that because she will exclude almost all of my dad's side of the family (they've been separated and pretty much hate each other) even though they've helped out when my mom kicked me out of the house for a little over a month. I even told her that I don't want her there and I would rather be alone in the room if that makes everyone happy but she still says that I have no rights. I know it's really stupid but I don't want to stress out anymore than I already am and I just want to know ahead of time so that I can tell my doctor and the hospital before hand but I haven't been able to call them about this because I don't want to be told that "she's my mother do what she says" you know?

dcslv09

dcsmsws

The parents control. Not the grandparents. You can even tell your own mother not to be there. If all else fails call the hospital to confirm.

You may be 16, but a minor who has given birth is considered emancipated for most purposes. You are able to make your own decisions regarding this. Most states also have laws saying that minors are in charge of their own reproductive care (which also birthing a child). Many hospitals do have rules about how many people can be in the delivery room at one time - no crowds or entourages. However, you get to dictate who gets to be there and for how long. If your mother is attempting to intimidate you, calmly and clearly explain your situation to your doctor and let the hospital know ahead of time that you don't want her there. They have to abide by your wishes. You are by far not the first minor giving birth in the midst of family drama - the hospitals deals with this all the time. Just be very clear that she is not welcome under any circumstances and stick to it. It may be a tough pill for your mom to swallow, but she will no longer have veto power over your decisions once the baby arrives. Now, she may have leverage to ensure your compliance with her wishes- giving you a place to stay, paying for some of your expenses, etc. However, she cannot overrule your decisions once you become a parent - just something to think about.

5pnnxl

legaladvice_train

I'm 16 and pregnant and about to give birth in 3 weeks. My mom says she controls who goes into the delivery room. I told her that it's my right to choose who I want in there. Is she right about being able to control who goes in there? (California) Sorry for formatting I'm on mobile. So I'm about to be due in 3 weeks and I want specific family members to be able to see me when I want and how long it should be because I know it's going to be really stressful. I tried to tell my mom but she said that I have no rights in who I say goes in or not and that since she's the parent that she decides who sees me and who doesn't. I'm just really worried about that because she will exclude almost all of my dad's side of the family (they've been separated and pretty much hate each other) even though they've helped out when my mom kicked me out of the house for a little over a month. I even told her that I don't want her there and I would rather be alone in the room if that makes everyone happy but she still says that I have no rights. I know it's really stupid but I don't want to stress out anymore than I already am and I just want to know ahead of time so that I can tell my doctor and the hospital before hand but I haven't been able to call them about this because I don't want to be told that "she's my mother do what she says" you know?

dcsmsws

dcsmhsv

You may be 16, but a minor who has given birth is considered emancipated for most purposes. You are able to make your own decisions regarding this. Most states also have laws saying that minors are in charge of their own reproductive care (which also birthing a child). Many hospitals do have rules about how many people can be in the delivery room at one time - no crowds or entourages. However, you get to dictate who gets to be there and for how long. If your mother is attempting to intimidate you, calmly and clearly explain your situation to your doctor and let the hospital know ahead of time that you don't want her there. They have to abide by your wishes. You are by far not the first minor giving birth in the midst of family drama - the hospitals deals with this all the time. Just be very clear that she is not welcome under any circumstances and stick to it. It may be a tough pill for your mom to swallow, but she will no longer have veto power over your decisions once the baby arrives. Now, she may have leverage to ensure your compliance with her wishes- giving you a place to stay, paying for some of your expenses, etc. However, she cannot overrule your decisions once you become a parent - just something to think about.

She is wrong. The choice is yours, within the limits set by the hospital.

5pnnxl

legaladvice_train

I'm 16 and pregnant and about to give birth in 3 weeks. My mom says she controls who goes into the delivery room. I told her that it's my right to choose who I want in there. Is she right about being able to control who goes in there? (California) Sorry for formatting I'm on mobile. So I'm about to be due in 3 weeks and I want specific family members to be able to see me when I want and how long it should be because I know it's going to be really stressful. I tried to tell my mom but she said that I have no rights in who I say goes in or not and that since she's the parent that she decides who sees me and who doesn't. I'm just really worried about that because she will exclude almost all of my dad's side of the family (they've been separated and pretty much hate each other) even though they've helped out when my mom kicked me out of the house for a little over a month. I even told her that I don't want her there and I would rather be alone in the room if that makes everyone happy but she still says that I have no rights. I know it's really stupid but I don't want to stress out anymore than I already am and I just want to know ahead of time so that I can tell my doctor and the hospital before hand but I haven't been able to call them about this because I don't want to be told that "she's my mother do what she says" you know?

dcsolzc

dcsp5x6

> I tried to tell my mom but she said that I have no rights in who I say goes in or not and that since she's the parent No, you are.

Write down a list of names of those who can be there (and, possibly, those who can't), and make it now. If you are giving birth in three weeks according to plan, it could happen today (babies don't really respect plans...), so be prepared. Why a list? Well, two reasons: * Deliveries can be stressful and you may be drugged on painkillers, adrenaline, endorphine and stuff, and your mind will be on other things, so you might not be able to tell them clearly at the time, or your mother might be able to use your confused/distracted state to sneak in. * A list is a clear and concise statement of what you want. It's very hard to argue against. It also makes the work easier for the hospital staff. Basically, it becomes a simple "You are not on the list, leave or we will have security escort you out.". Paper is more solid than words, so, write a list now, and keep it on you until you get an opportunity to hand it to the hospital staff. Also, as others have said, explain to the staff what's going on, so they are prepared and knows that it's an important issue to you. Please update when this is resolved, not only on the legal issue, but on the status of you and your child as well. Good luck!

5pnnxl

legaladvice_train

I'm 16 and pregnant and about to give birth in 3 weeks. My mom says she controls who goes into the delivery room. I told her that it's my right to choose who I want in there. Is she right about being able to control who goes in there? (California) Sorry for formatting I'm on mobile. So I'm about to be due in 3 weeks and I want specific family members to be able to see me when I want and how long it should be because I know it's going to be really stressful. I tried to tell my mom but she said that I have no rights in who I say goes in or not and that since she's the parent that she decides who sees me and who doesn't. I'm just really worried about that because she will exclude almost all of my dad's side of the family (they've been separated and pretty much hate each other) even though they've helped out when my mom kicked me out of the house for a little over a month. I even told her that I don't want her there and I would rather be alone in the room if that makes everyone happy but she still says that I have no rights. I know it's really stupid but I don't want to stress out anymore than I already am and I just want to know ahead of time so that I can tell my doctor and the hospital before hand but I haven't been able to call them about this because I don't want to be told that "she's my mother do what she says" you know?

dcsp5x6

dcslv09

Write down a list of names of those who can be there (and, possibly, those who can't), and make it now. If you are giving birth in three weeks according to plan, it could happen today (babies don't really respect plans...), so be prepared. Why a list? Well, two reasons: * Deliveries can be stressful and you may be drugged on painkillers, adrenaline, endorphine and stuff, and your mind will be on other things, so you might not be able to tell them clearly at the time, or your mother might be able to use your confused/distracted state to sneak in. * A list is a clear and concise statement of what you want. It's very hard to argue against. It also makes the work easier for the hospital staff. Basically, it becomes a simple "You are not on the list, leave or we will have security escort you out.". Paper is more solid than words, so, write a list now, and keep it on you until you get an opportunity to hand it to the hospital staff. Also, as others have said, explain to the staff what's going on, so they are prepared and knows that it's an important issue to you. Please update when this is resolved, not only on the legal issue, but on the status of you and your child as well. Good luck!

The parents control. Not the grandparents. You can even tell your own mother not to be there. If all else fails call the hospital to confirm.

5pnnxl

legaladvice_train

I'm 16 and pregnant and about to give birth in 3 weeks. My mom says she controls who goes into the delivery room. I told her that it's my right to choose who I want in there. Is she right about being able to control who goes in there? (California) Sorry for formatting I'm on mobile. So I'm about to be due in 3 weeks and I want specific family members to be able to see me when I want and how long it should be because I know it's going to be really stressful. I tried to tell my mom but she said that I have no rights in who I say goes in or not and that since she's the parent that she decides who sees me and who doesn't. I'm just really worried about that because she will exclude almost all of my dad's side of the family (they've been separated and pretty much hate each other) even though they've helped out when my mom kicked me out of the house for a little over a month. I even told her that I don't want her there and I would rather be alone in the room if that makes everyone happy but she still says that I have no rights. I know it's really stupid but I don't want to stress out anymore than I already am and I just want to know ahead of time so that I can tell my doctor and the hospital before hand but I haven't been able to call them about this because I don't want to be told that "she's my mother do what she says" you know?

dcsp5x6

dcsmxy4

Write down a list of names of those who can be there (and, possibly, those who can't), and make it now. If you are giving birth in three weeks according to plan, it could happen today (babies don't really respect plans...), so be prepared. Why a list? Well, two reasons: * Deliveries can be stressful and you may be drugged on painkillers, adrenaline, endorphine and stuff, and your mind will be on other things, so you might not be able to tell them clearly at the time, or your mother might be able to use your confused/distracted state to sneak in. * A list is a clear and concise statement of what you want. It's very hard to argue against. It also makes the work easier for the hospital staff. Basically, it becomes a simple "You are not on the list, leave or we will have security escort you out.". Paper is more solid than words, so, write a list now, and keep it on you until you get an opportunity to hand it to the hospital staff. Also, as others have said, explain to the staff what's going on, so they are prepared and knows that it's an important issue to you. Please update when this is resolved, not only on the legal issue, but on the status of you and your child as well. Good luck!

Are you receiving prenatal care? If so, talk to your provider now. Don't wait until you're in labor to deal with this. If this is your first, you'll be tripping balls on hormones, so you won't be in the right state of mind for rational shit. Have you decided where you intend to deliver? If so, you can go talk to the administration ahead of time to put a plan into place. Hell, do both. Also, have you written a birth plan? Part of that can include who you want in the room with you and who should be kept out. I have helped friends write their plans. One of my birth plans is on my midwife's website as being exceptionally thorough. (Lawyer, so typical!) When you arrive at the hospital/birthing center/wherever you intend to deliver, just hand over the plan. Talking while in labor is challenging. My mom was there for my first birth and I didn't like it. So, for the next, I just didn't tell my mom when I was in labor. I called her right after baby #2 was born. Giving birth under stressful conditions is the fucking worst. I was so stressed for my first. The room was filled with people I didn't like so it took 15 hours. My second, it was me, my husband, my midwife and her apprentice. Night and day experience. Labor was so much less painful that I didn't even believe I was in labor. Have you considered hiring a doula? Some are expensive, but some work on a sliding scale or will work for free if new and need experience. Your doula can advocate for you and kick people out of the room. I was an unofficial doula for a friend. I kicked out her mom and sisters because my friend asked me to. Her family still hates me, but I was happy to take the heat on that one. Do you have a friend who is willing to act as your bouncer?

5pnnxl

legaladvice_train

I'm 16 and pregnant and about to give birth in 3 weeks. My mom says she controls who goes into the delivery room. I told her that it's my right to choose who I want in there. Is she right about being able to control who goes in there? (California) Sorry for formatting I'm on mobile. So I'm about to be due in 3 weeks and I want specific family members to be able to see me when I want and how long it should be because I know it's going to be really stressful. I tried to tell my mom but she said that I have no rights in who I say goes in or not and that since she's the parent that she decides who sees me and who doesn't. I'm just really worried about that because she will exclude almost all of my dad's side of the family (they've been separated and pretty much hate each other) even though they've helped out when my mom kicked me out of the house for a little over a month. I even told her that I don't want her there and I would rather be alone in the room if that makes everyone happy but she still says that I have no rights. I know it's really stupid but I don't want to stress out anymore than I already am and I just want to know ahead of time so that I can tell my doctor and the hospital before hand but I haven't been able to call them about this because I don't want to be told that "she's my mother do what she says" you know?

dcsmwxa

dcsp5x6

Do you currently live with your mother? Is she going to be bringing you to the hospital? If so, and you don't have a less-stressful option, don't announce your plan to bar her from the room and to invite whomever you want. If you want to discuss with the L&D people, make sure that as a minor, your privacy regarding conversations with a physician are not revealed to your mom.

Write down a list of names of those who can be there (and, possibly, those who can't), and make it now. If you are giving birth in three weeks according to plan, it could happen today (babies don't really respect plans...), so be prepared. Why a list? Well, two reasons: * Deliveries can be stressful and you may be drugged on painkillers, adrenaline, endorphine and stuff, and your mind will be on other things, so you might not be able to tell them clearly at the time, or your mother might be able to use your confused/distracted state to sneak in. * A list is a clear and concise statement of what you want. It's very hard to argue against. It also makes the work easier for the hospital staff. Basically, it becomes a simple "You are not on the list, leave or we will have security escort you out.". Paper is more solid than words, so, write a list now, and keep it on you until you get an opportunity to hand it to the hospital staff. Also, as others have said, explain to the staff what's going on, so they are prepared and knows that it's an important issue to you. Please update when this is resolved, not only on the legal issue, but on the status of you and your child as well. Good luck!

5pnnxl

legaladvice_train

I'm 16 and pregnant and about to give birth in 3 weeks. My mom says she controls who goes into the delivery room. I told her that it's my right to choose who I want in there. Is she right about being able to control who goes in there? (California) Sorry for formatting I'm on mobile. So I'm about to be due in 3 weeks and I want specific family members to be able to see me when I want and how long it should be because I know it's going to be really stressful. I tried to tell my mom but she said that I have no rights in who I say goes in or not and that since she's the parent that she decides who sees me and who doesn't. I'm just really worried about that because she will exclude almost all of my dad's side of the family (they've been separated and pretty much hate each other) even though they've helped out when my mom kicked me out of the house for a little over a month. I even told her that I don't want her there and I would rather be alone in the room if that makes everyone happy but she still says that I have no rights. I know it's really stupid but I don't want to stress out anymore than I already am and I just want to know ahead of time so that I can tell my doctor and the hospital before hand but I haven't been able to call them about this because I don't want to be told that "she's my mother do what she says" you know?

dcsp5x6

dcsmhsv

Write down a list of names of those who can be there (and, possibly, those who can't), and make it now. If you are giving birth in three weeks according to plan, it could happen today (babies don't really respect plans...), so be prepared. Why a list? Well, two reasons: * Deliveries can be stressful and you may be drugged on painkillers, adrenaline, endorphine and stuff, and your mind will be on other things, so you might not be able to tell them clearly at the time, or your mother might be able to use your confused/distracted state to sneak in. * A list is a clear and concise statement of what you want. It's very hard to argue against. It also makes the work easier for the hospital staff. Basically, it becomes a simple "You are not on the list, leave or we will have security escort you out.". Paper is more solid than words, so, write a list now, and keep it on you until you get an opportunity to hand it to the hospital staff. Also, as others have said, explain to the staff what's going on, so they are prepared and knows that it's an important issue to you. Please update when this is resolved, not only on the legal issue, but on the status of you and your child as well. Good luck!

She is wrong. The choice is yours, within the limits set by the hospital.

5pnnxl

legaladvice_train

I'm 16 and pregnant and about to give birth in 3 weeks. My mom says she controls who goes into the delivery room. I told her that it's my right to choose who I want in there. Is she right about being able to control who goes in there? (California) Sorry for formatting I'm on mobile. So I'm about to be due in 3 weeks and I want specific family members to be able to see me when I want and how long it should be because I know it's going to be really stressful. I tried to tell my mom but she said that I have no rights in who I say goes in or not and that since she's the parent that she decides who sees me and who doesn't. I'm just really worried about that because she will exclude almost all of my dad's side of the family (they've been separated and pretty much hate each other) even though they've helped out when my mom kicked me out of the house for a little over a month. I even told her that I don't want her there and I would rather be alone in the room if that makes everyone happy but she still says that I have no rights. I know it's really stupid but I don't want to stress out anymore than I already am and I just want to know ahead of time so that I can tell my doctor and the hospital before hand but I haven't been able to call them about this because I don't want to be told that "she's my mother do what she says" you know?

dcslv09

dcsolzc

The parents control. Not the grandparents. You can even tell your own mother not to be there. If all else fails call the hospital to confirm.

> I tried to tell my mom but she said that I have no rights in who I say goes in or not and that since she's the parent No, you are.

5pnnxl

legaladvice_train

I'm 16 and pregnant and about to give birth in 3 weeks. My mom says she controls who goes into the delivery room. I told her that it's my right to choose who I want in there. Is she right about being able to control who goes in there? (California) Sorry for formatting I'm on mobile. So I'm about to be due in 3 weeks and I want specific family members to be able to see me when I want and how long it should be because I know it's going to be really stressful. I tried to tell my mom but she said that I have no rights in who I say goes in or not and that since she's the parent that she decides who sees me and who doesn't. I'm just really worried about that because she will exclude almost all of my dad's side of the family (they've been separated and pretty much hate each other) even though they've helped out when my mom kicked me out of the house for a little over a month. I even told her that I don't want her there and I would rather be alone in the room if that makes everyone happy but she still says that I have no rights. I know it's really stupid but I don't want to stress out anymore than I already am and I just want to know ahead of time so that I can tell my doctor and the hospital before hand but I haven't been able to call them about this because I don't want to be told that "she's my mother do what she says" you know?

dcsmxy4

dcsolzc

Are you receiving prenatal care? If so, talk to your provider now. Don't wait until you're in labor to deal with this. If this is your first, you'll be tripping balls on hormones, so you won't be in the right state of mind for rational shit. Have you decided where you intend to deliver? If so, you can go talk to the administration ahead of time to put a plan into place. Hell, do both. Also, have you written a birth plan? Part of that can include who you want in the room with you and who should be kept out. I have helped friends write their plans. One of my birth plans is on my midwife's website as being exceptionally thorough. (Lawyer, so typical!) When you arrive at the hospital/birthing center/wherever you intend to deliver, just hand over the plan. Talking while in labor is challenging. My mom was there for my first birth and I didn't like it. So, for the next, I just didn't tell my mom when I was in labor. I called her right after baby #2 was born. Giving birth under stressful conditions is the fucking worst. I was so stressed for my first. The room was filled with people I didn't like so it took 15 hours. My second, it was me, my husband, my midwife and her apprentice. Night and day experience. Labor was so much less painful that I didn't even believe I was in labor. Have you considered hiring a doula? Some are expensive, but some work on a sliding scale or will work for free if new and need experience. Your doula can advocate for you and kick people out of the room. I was an unofficial doula for a friend. I kicked out her mom and sisters because my friend asked me to. Her family still hates me, but I was happy to take the heat on that one. Do you have a friend who is willing to act as your bouncer?

> I tried to tell my mom but she said that I have no rights in who I say goes in or not and that since she's the parent No, you are.

5pnnxl

legaladvice_train

I'm 16 and pregnant and about to give birth in 3 weeks. My mom says she controls who goes into the delivery room. I told her that it's my right to choose who I want in there. Is she right about being able to control who goes in there? (California) Sorry for formatting I'm on mobile. So I'm about to be due in 3 weeks and I want specific family members to be able to see me when I want and how long it should be because I know it's going to be really stressful. I tried to tell my mom but she said that I have no rights in who I say goes in or not and that since she's the parent that she decides who sees me and who doesn't. I'm just really worried about that because she will exclude almost all of my dad's side of the family (they've been separated and pretty much hate each other) even though they've helped out when my mom kicked me out of the house for a little over a month. I even told her that I don't want her there and I would rather be alone in the room if that makes everyone happy but she still says that I have no rights. I know it's really stupid but I don't want to stress out anymore than I already am and I just want to know ahead of time so that I can tell my doctor and the hospital before hand but I haven't been able to call them about this because I don't want to be told that "she's my mother do what she says" you know?

dcsmwxa

dcsolzc

Do you currently live with your mother? Is she going to be bringing you to the hospital? If so, and you don't have a less-stressful option, don't announce your plan to bar her from the room and to invite whomever you want. If you want to discuss with the L&D people, make sure that as a minor, your privacy regarding conversations with a physician are not revealed to your mom.

> I tried to tell my mom but she said that I have no rights in who I say goes in or not and that since she's the parent No, you are.

5pnnxl

legaladvice_train

I'm 16 and pregnant and about to give birth in 3 weeks. My mom says she controls who goes into the delivery room. I told her that it's my right to choose who I want in there. Is she right about being able to control who goes in there? (California) Sorry for formatting I'm on mobile. So I'm about to be due in 3 weeks and I want specific family members to be able to see me when I want and how long it should be because I know it's going to be really stressful. I tried to tell my mom but she said that I have no rights in who I say goes in or not and that since she's the parent that she decides who sees me and who doesn't. I'm just really worried about that because she will exclude almost all of my dad's side of the family (they've been separated and pretty much hate each other) even though they've helped out when my mom kicked me out of the house for a little over a month. I even told her that I don't want her there and I would rather be alone in the room if that makes everyone happy but she still says that I have no rights. I know it's really stupid but I don't want to stress out anymore than I already am and I just want to know ahead of time so that I can tell my doctor and the hospital before hand but I haven't been able to call them about this because I don't want to be told that "she's my mother do what she says" you know?

dcsolzc

dcsmhsv

> I tried to tell my mom but she said that I have no rights in who I say goes in or not and that since she's the parent No, you are.

She is wrong. The choice is yours, within the limits set by the hospital.

5pnnxl

legaladvice_train

I'm 16 and pregnant and about to give birth in 3 weeks. My mom says she controls who goes into the delivery room. I told her that it's my right to choose who I want in there. Is she right about being able to control who goes in there? (California) Sorry for formatting I'm on mobile. So I'm about to be due in 3 weeks and I want specific family members to be able to see me when I want and how long it should be because I know it's going to be really stressful. I tried to tell my mom but she said that I have no rights in who I say goes in or not and that since she's the parent that she decides who sees me and who doesn't. I'm just really worried about that because she will exclude almost all of my dad's side of the family (they've been separated and pretty much hate each other) even though they've helped out when my mom kicked me out of the house for a little over a month. I even told her that I don't want her there and I would rather be alone in the room if that makes everyone happy but she still says that I have no rights. I know it's really stupid but I don't want to stress out anymore than I already am and I just want to know ahead of time so that I can tell my doctor and the hospital before hand but I haven't been able to call them about this because I don't want to be told that "she's my mother do what she says" you know?

dcsmxy4

dcsqpag

Are you receiving prenatal care? If so, talk to your provider now. Don't wait until you're in labor to deal with this. If this is your first, you'll be tripping balls on hormones, so you won't be in the right state of mind for rational shit. Have you decided where you intend to deliver? If so, you can go talk to the administration ahead of time to put a plan into place. Hell, do both. Also, have you written a birth plan? Part of that can include who you want in the room with you and who should be kept out. I have helped friends write their plans. One of my birth plans is on my midwife's website as being exceptionally thorough. (Lawyer, so typical!) When you arrive at the hospital/birthing center/wherever you intend to deliver, just hand over the plan. Talking while in labor is challenging. My mom was there for my first birth and I didn't like it. So, for the next, I just didn't tell my mom when I was in labor. I called her right after baby #2 was born. Giving birth under stressful conditions is the fucking worst. I was so stressed for my first. The room was filled with people I didn't like so it took 15 hours. My second, it was me, my husband, my midwife and her apprentice. Night and day experience. Labor was so much less painful that I didn't even believe I was in labor. Have you considered hiring a doula? Some are expensive, but some work on a sliding scale or will work for free if new and need experience. Your doula can advocate for you and kick people out of the room. I was an unofficial doula for a friend. I kicked out her mom and sisters because my friend asked me to. Her family still hates me, but I was happy to take the heat on that one. Do you have a friend who is willing to act as your bouncer?

Your mom is a and A-hole for even causing you this stress. You tell you dad and whomever to come and sit in the waiting room. Utilize your nurses to keep your day as stress free as you can. Nurses are absolutely the best human beings in the world. God bless them all. God bless you and your baby in this most wonderful journey. Your baby will fill holes in your heart you never knew existed :-) Keep us updated.

5pnnxl

legaladvice_train

I'm 16 and pregnant and about to give birth in 3 weeks. My mom says she controls who goes into the delivery room. I told her that it's my right to choose who I want in there. Is she right about being able to control who goes in there? (California) Sorry for formatting I'm on mobile. So I'm about to be due in 3 weeks and I want specific family members to be able to see me when I want and how long it should be because I know it's going to be really stressful. I tried to tell my mom but she said that I have no rights in who I say goes in or not and that since she's the parent that she decides who sees me and who doesn't. I'm just really worried about that because she will exclude almost all of my dad's side of the family (they've been separated and pretty much hate each other) even though they've helped out when my mom kicked me out of the house for a little over a month. I even told her that I don't want her there and I would rather be alone in the room if that makes everyone happy but she still says that I have no rights. I know it's really stupid but I don't want to stress out anymore than I already am and I just want to know ahead of time so that I can tell my doctor and the hospital before hand but I haven't been able to call them about this because I don't want to be told that "she's my mother do what she says" you know?

dcsmwxa

dcsqpag

Do you currently live with your mother? Is she going to be bringing you to the hospital? If so, and you don't have a less-stressful option, don't announce your plan to bar her from the room and to invite whomever you want. If you want to discuss with the L&D people, make sure that as a minor, your privacy regarding conversations with a physician are not revealed to your mom.

Your mom is a and A-hole for even causing you this stress. You tell you dad and whomever to come and sit in the waiting room. Utilize your nurses to keep your day as stress free as you can. Nurses are absolutely the best human beings in the world. God bless them all. God bless you and your baby in this most wonderful journey. Your baby will fill holes in your heart you never knew existed :-) Keep us updated.

5pnnxl

legaladvice_train

I'm 16 and pregnant and about to give birth in 3 weeks. My mom says she controls who goes into the delivery room. I told her that it's my right to choose who I want in there. Is she right about being able to control who goes in there? (California) Sorry for formatting I'm on mobile. So I'm about to be due in 3 weeks and I want specific family members to be able to see me when I want and how long it should be because I know it's going to be really stressful. I tried to tell my mom but she said that I have no rights in who I say goes in or not and that since she's the parent that she decides who sees me and who doesn't. I'm just really worried about that because she will exclude almost all of my dad's side of the family (they've been separated and pretty much hate each other) even though they've helped out when my mom kicked me out of the house for a little over a month. I even told her that I don't want her there and I would rather be alone in the room if that makes everyone happy but she still says that I have no rights. I know it's really stupid but I don't want to stress out anymore than I already am and I just want to know ahead of time so that I can tell my doctor and the hospital before hand but I haven't been able to call them about this because I don't want to be told that "she's my mother do what she says" you know?

dcsqpag

dcsmhsv

Your mom is a and A-hole for even causing you this stress. You tell you dad and whomever to come and sit in the waiting room. Utilize your nurses to keep your day as stress free as you can. Nurses are absolutely the best human beings in the world. God bless them all. God bless you and your baby in this most wonderful journey. Your baby will fill holes in your heart you never knew existed :-) Keep us updated.

She is wrong. The choice is yours, within the limits set by the hospital.

5pnnxl

legaladvice_train

I'm 16 and pregnant and about to give birth in 3 weeks. My mom says she controls who goes into the delivery room. I told her that it's my right to choose who I want in there. Is she right about being able to control who goes in there? (California) Sorry for formatting I'm on mobile. So I'm about to be due in 3 weeks and I want specific family members to be able to see me when I want and how long it should be because I know it's going to be really stressful. I tried to tell my mom but she said that I have no rights in who I say goes in or not and that since she's the parent that she decides who sees me and who doesn't. I'm just really worried about that because she will exclude almost all of my dad's side of the family (they've been separated and pretty much hate each other) even though they've helped out when my mom kicked me out of the house for a little over a month. I even told her that I don't want her there and I would rather be alone in the room if that makes everyone happy but she still says that I have no rights. I know it's really stupid but I don't want to stress out anymore than I already am and I just want to know ahead of time so that I can tell my doctor and the hospital before hand but I haven't been able to call them about this because I don't want to be told that "she's my mother do what she says" you know?

dcsmxy4

dcsmwxa

Are you receiving prenatal care? If so, talk to your provider now. Don't wait until you're in labor to deal with this. If this is your first, you'll be tripping balls on hormones, so you won't be in the right state of mind for rational shit. Have you decided where you intend to deliver? If so, you can go talk to the administration ahead of time to put a plan into place. Hell, do both. Also, have you written a birth plan? Part of that can include who you want in the room with you and who should be kept out. I have helped friends write their plans. One of my birth plans is on my midwife's website as being exceptionally thorough. (Lawyer, so typical!) When you arrive at the hospital/birthing center/wherever you intend to deliver, just hand over the plan. Talking while in labor is challenging. My mom was there for my first birth and I didn't like it. So, for the next, I just didn't tell my mom when I was in labor. I called her right after baby #2 was born. Giving birth under stressful conditions is the fucking worst. I was so stressed for my first. The room was filled with people I didn't like so it took 15 hours. My second, it was me, my husband, my midwife and her apprentice. Night and day experience. Labor was so much less painful that I didn't even believe I was in labor. Have you considered hiring a doula? Some are expensive, but some work on a sliding scale or will work for free if new and need experience. Your doula can advocate for you and kick people out of the room. I was an unofficial doula for a friend. I kicked out her mom and sisters because my friend asked me to. Her family still hates me, but I was happy to take the heat on that one. Do you have a friend who is willing to act as your bouncer?

Do you currently live with your mother? Is she going to be bringing you to the hospital? If so, and you don't have a less-stressful option, don't announce your plan to bar her from the room and to invite whomever you want. If you want to discuss with the L&D people, make sure that as a minor, your privacy regarding conversations with a physician are not revealed to your mom.

5pnnxl

legaladvice_train

I'm 16 and pregnant and about to give birth in 3 weeks. My mom says she controls who goes into the delivery room. I told her that it's my right to choose who I want in there. Is she right about being able to control who goes in there? (California) Sorry for formatting I'm on mobile. So I'm about to be due in 3 weeks and I want specific family members to be able to see me when I want and how long it should be because I know it's going to be really stressful. I tried to tell my mom but she said that I have no rights in who I say goes in or not and that since she's the parent that she decides who sees me and who doesn't. I'm just really worried about that because she will exclude almost all of my dad's side of the family (they've been separated and pretty much hate each other) even though they've helped out when my mom kicked me out of the house for a little over a month. I even told her that I don't want her there and I would rather be alone in the room if that makes everyone happy but she still says that I have no rights. I know it's really stupid but I don't want to stress out anymore than I already am and I just want to know ahead of time so that I can tell my doctor and the hospital before hand but I haven't been able to call them about this because I don't want to be told that "she's my mother do what she says" you know?

dcsmxy4

dcsmhsv

Are you receiving prenatal care? If so, talk to your provider now. Don't wait until you're in labor to deal with this. If this is your first, you'll be tripping balls on hormones, so you won't be in the right state of mind for rational shit. Have you decided where you intend to deliver? If so, you can go talk to the administration ahead of time to put a plan into place. Hell, do both. Also, have you written a birth plan? Part of that can include who you want in the room with you and who should be kept out. I have helped friends write their plans. One of my birth plans is on my midwife's website as being exceptionally thorough. (Lawyer, so typical!) When you arrive at the hospital/birthing center/wherever you intend to deliver, just hand over the plan. Talking while in labor is challenging. My mom was there for my first birth and I didn't like it. So, for the next, I just didn't tell my mom when I was in labor. I called her right after baby #2 was born. Giving birth under stressful conditions is the fucking worst. I was so stressed for my first. The room was filled with people I didn't like so it took 15 hours. My second, it was me, my husband, my midwife and her apprentice. Night and day experience. Labor was so much less painful that I didn't even believe I was in labor. Have you considered hiring a doula? Some are expensive, but some work on a sliding scale or will work for free if new and need experience. Your doula can advocate for you and kick people out of the room. I was an unofficial doula for a friend. I kicked out her mom and sisters because my friend asked me to. Her family still hates me, but I was happy to take the heat on that one. Do you have a friend who is willing to act as your bouncer?

She is wrong. The choice is yours, within the limits set by the hospital.