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HotConversation1273 | A few months ago I was accepted into this full time software engineering fellowship and it’s made me realize that I CANNOT work sustainably to save my life. It’s so hard to prioritize my time when I get so hyper focused on each task or just on something completely irrelevant.
I was just diagnosed last year so I’m still learning how to learn with ADHD but I feel even more pressure to work so much harder to prove my worth bc I’m a Black woman in engineering. I’ve been falling into a really unhealthy cycle of taking more than my prescribed dose to work longer bc I’d waste so much time during the day and it’s just gotten out of hand. it’s like you go your whole life feeling so dumb and incompetent and now you don’t and you just wanna learn everything all the time but that’s just??? not sustainable or normal. anyways idk sorry for the rant, I’m just tired & don’t know what to do | 2021-12-22T18:32:56.000Z | rmbjwb | 1 | 1 | ADHD | I get extremely anxious if I’m not working 24/7 | 1 | https://www.reddit.com/r/ADHD/comments/rmbjwb/i_get_extremely_anxious_if_im_not_working_247/ |
snorefestt | Hey guys, I was curious if anyone else has the same issue as me. My apartment is a fucking pigsty, with no exaggeration of the word. I live by myself and my house is beyond messy into dirty, I haven't been able to have anyone over for months. My girlfriend has a few preteen/teen kids and is working two jobs right now, and I spend most of my time at her place. She has very little time to clean, and dishes pile up super fast. Whenever I go over and she's not home, I get the urge to clean to help her out, and feel so much more motivated to do every chore I absolutely hate at my house. She doesn't ask me to, but it feels good being able to help out. I just wish I could get that kind of motivation at my house; instead of the feeling of dread and self hatred. Anyway, I just wanted to reach out and see if anyone else feels similarly. | 2021-12-22T18:24:25.000Z | rmbd1y | 3 | 5 | ADHD | I can't will myself to clean my own house, but feel incredibly motivated to clean my girlfriends place? | 1 | https://www.reddit.com/r/ADHD/comments/rmbd1y/i_cant_will_myself_to_clean_my_own_house_but_feel/ |
etyf12 |
i have 6 exams in the next 2 weeks one of them on monday and i havent studied for any of them and i feel overwhelmed from all of this and now i cant sit down and study for the exams and i dont know how to deal with this, maybe someone here can give me some tips on how to sit myself down and study or maybe with how not to get so overwhelmed from every little thing.
thx | 2021-12-22T18:22:52.000Z | rmbbvu | 1 | 2 | ADHD | i need some help | 1 | https://www.reddit.com/r/ADHD/comments/rmbbvu/i_need_some_help/ |
GetHairOrDieTryin | Is there anyone out there that is struggling with ADD/ADHD that’s interesting in chatting for a bit? Maybe sharing struggles and advising each other on tips and tricks that we both may have? I got diagnosed approximately two months ago and I’m still in the process of figuring out meds. Haven’t tried therapy yet! I’m 27 years old and from Sweden, currently in medical school and definitely struggling haha… | 2021-12-22T18:20:35.000Z | rmba1t | 3 | 2 | ADHD | Anyone up for a chat? | 1 | https://www.reddit.com/r/ADHD/comments/rmba1t/anyone_up_for_a_chat/ |
ZeroTransPat | Whenever I get hungry, I never eat because I don't know what to eat. So I end up having pizza because its easy.
I obviously can't eat pizza forever but when I'm at work it makes it even more difficult because I'm limited to my area and how busy I am, so I end up ordering out.
I could prepare something for work at home but that would require me to think about it and thats difficult to plan. (Adhd..)
Any tips? | 2021-12-22T18:18:47.000Z | rmb8lm | 2 | 1 | ADHD | Figuring out what to eat sucks | 1 | https://www.reddit.com/r/ADHD/comments/rmb8lm/figuring_out_what_to_eat_sucks/ |
[deleted] | [removed] | 2021-12-22T18:18:19.000Z | rmb88p | 1 | 1 | ADHD | Watching movies at x1.5 playback speed | 1 | https://www.reddit.com/r/ADHD/comments/rmb88p/watching_movies_at_x15_playback_speed/ |
Used_Inspection2618 | I’m on 20 mg of Lexapro and 50 mg Vyvanse and was wondering if anyone has drank alcohol while being on an antidepressant and stimulant? And what was your experience like? I take Vyvanse in the morning and Lexapro at night. If I’m drinking at night should I just skip the Lexapro for a day? Or should I skip both? | 2021-12-22T18:15:52.000Z | rmb6f2 | 4 | 1 | ADHD | Drinking while on meds? | 1 | https://www.reddit.com/r/ADHD/comments/rmb6f2/drinking_while_on_meds/ |
TheToastyToad | I've recently had a big lifestyle change, with a new job and part time study so I'm carrying a big mental weight. Pre 6 months ago I was surviving fine on my medication but I feel it only fixes whatever mode my mind is in. The last few months have been pushing my brain to the limit to where my medicine doesn't do much and effectively, my brain is in permanent fog mode. Whilst my medicine works in pushing away inattentiveness it has lead me to become always on and I struggle to thoroughly relax which is slowly frying my brain, more is coming in than going out.
I'm glad the Christmas break is here, I need it. Taking a week off the meds, no work, no study and just allowing my brain to refresh. I think, as an inattentive, we focus on pushing our brains harder to meet the expectations but ignore the necessary maintenance to keep it running. Engines that are worked harder are maintained more often.
(I'm not recommending anyone to stop their medications btw, just to consciously make the effort to give yourself deserved TLC).
Take care | 2021-12-22T18:13:15.000Z | rmb47u | 1 | 2 | ADHD | Using Christmas to take a break | 1 | https://www.reddit.com/r/ADHD/comments/rmb47u/using_christmas_to_take_a_break/ |
Field-cave1519 | I'm a newly diagnosed 42 yr old female, who started Adderall about a month ago. The 5mg I started with quieted things down in my brain a tiny bit but didn't really do much else. I've gone up to 10mg with a 5mg booster in the afternoon. About 30 mins after the initial dose, I feel calmer and I'm able to internally narrate my thoughts step by step a bit (which is a bit odd for me, although it may be more "normal" than 40000 thoughts circling around) but that's about the only real difference for me. I also initially felt almost grossly hungover at around 1pm (without taking the 5mg booster) but that seems to have dissipated a bit
I'll discuss with my therapist and then my prescriber in 2 weeks at my next appointment, but I'm wondering if I should be getting more out of it? Or if it's just the wrong dose or medication for me? How do you know?
Do most people stop extreme ineffective multitasking, have vastly improved focus (not stopping mid-sentence to check instagram or whatever), are able to prioritize correctly, more improved motivation, just from meds? I'm still just in stop mode with paying bills, working on a business I said I'd launch months ago etc.
I guess I'm wondering if I'm expecting too much and how did you know you found your correct medication? Was it a lightbulb type of thing or more gradual? | 2021-12-22T18:11:07.000Z | rmb2i8 | 1 | 1 | ADHD | Does everyone get the euphoria feeling when they first start their correct medication? I just feel kind of okay? | 1 | https://www.reddit.com/r/ADHD/comments/rmb2i8/does_everyone_get_the_euphoria_feeling_when_they/ |
Away_Entertainment29 | TL;DR - rough time titrating on concerta for the last two months, each dose either fizzled out, made me exhausted/zoned out and angry, but generally it's great for my symptoms. Feeling really disheartened, if in a similar boat, what worked for you in the end/do you have any advice?
So I've been titrating up on concerta for about two months, currently coming to the end of my 36mg.
- 18mg worked wonders the first day, then slowly went more to the background as time went on, and the benefit was kind of unnoticeable.
- 27mg again felt very calming and focusing on the first day, felt like it was my dose, but then as the two weeks went on I felt incredibly tired, zoned out, couldn't keep my eyes open etc., they worked for my symptoms but otherwise felt awful, like I'd had no sleep.
- 36mg then came along and holy crap, first day I felt extreme anxiety/anger, and I would hyperfocus on thoughts resulting in me taking nothing in people said to me. This did eventually level out as the month went on, and for a little while it felt okay - again it did a lot for my symptoms and focus. But now the anger and strong emotions are slowly creeping back, I'm feeling very spaced out when out of the house, and it's almost a feeling of being so focused to the exclusion of the world around me, but without feeling tired thankfully. I just feel so absent.
This whole experience has left me feeling really disheartened and like a fake - my psych initially told me he thought I'd end up on a high dose due to my severe symptoms, but I'm reacting to these middling doses awfully. I've told him via my online portal but I haven't heard anything I think due to the leadup to Christmas (fun fact didn't organise my next round in time so will be without anything for the first week of 2022 🙃) and it's just making me worry like crazy I won't find the right med/I'm just faking my condition.
I guess I'm just asking if anyone has had a similar experience and what worked for them in the end. It's hard because I don't think I get regular meetings with Psychiatry UK, so it's difficult to explain my experiences in a succint manner via messages, given how much it's fluctuated, so I think I'd really just appreciate some perspective so I can go into it with suggestions/clarity in mind in order to explain my situation better. | 2021-12-22T18:09:50.000Z | rmb1ib | 1 | 1 | ADHD | Xaggatin: zoned out and angry | 1 | https://www.reddit.com/r/ADHD/comments/rmb1ib/xaggatin_zoned_out_and_angry/ |
etyf12 | [removed] | 2021-12-22T18:09:33.000Z | rmb1av | 1 | 1 | ADHD | i need help | 1 | https://www.reddit.com/r/ADHD/comments/rmb1av/i_need_help/ |
terrapin09 | I have ADHD and I highly suspect I have OCD.
I hear a lot about intrusive thoughts and specific obsessions but for me that often isn't my experience? Because of my ADHD all my thoughts come at me at breakneck speed and there's so many of them - it's hard to process them or identify specific obsessions sometimes and as a result I tend to doubt whether I do have OCD or not. Instead, often I just experience a general heightened level of anxiety and I have certain physical compulsions like cracking my knuckles and blinking hard three times (3 and 5 are my "good numbers").
However, my more ritualistic compulsions are usually preceded by much more identifiable specific obsessions, for example I run the tap for five seconds before filling my glass up and I have to turn the tap off after five seconds, as a response to the obsession that the water will taste bad and/or make me sick.
Anyway, just wanted to share my experience and see if anyone experiences something similar. | 2021-12-22T18:04:08.000Z | rmawy6 | 2 | 2 | ADHD | ADHD and OCD | 1 | https://www.reddit.com/r/ADHD/comments/rmawy6/adhd_and_ocd/ |
-seeker_ | Hello everyone,
My life is falling apart and I have to take action now. I go to bed when most people wake up. And these days I stay in bed for the whole day today. Doing literally almost nothing on several days. I started with my internship in september, but had to quit 5 weeks ago because of mental & physical health problems.
I am also thinking of quitting my study, for the 5th time!!!
I find it really difficult to have a side job next to my study. When I am studying, all of my mental focus goes into that. Which drains my mental battery totally. One of the reasons that I want to quit, is that I can start to earn money and focus only on photography. Instead of getting deeper in debt, without knowing if this study is going to benefit me in the future.
\*\*A little background story (studies & balance)\*\*
I am a 27 years old, creative guy. Photography is my passion, as I am a visual person. In the past, I've quit my studies multiple times(4x).
I am now studying for the fifth time, but this time a creative study (multimedia design). During my 1st year I lived with family, so they did everything for me in the house. During the 2nd year, I moved on my own, just when the covid pandemic started. Studying from home made living on my own feel as if I am riding a bike with side wheels. Because I didn't have to go by train to the university, which saved me time and energy. With several other benefits. During the 3rd year, this year, things changed drastically... i started an internship and my bad focus gave me a hard time! I was forgetful too sometimes. I came also often too late. My life had no stability/balance anymore and I became very tired. There was also something going on with my physical health **(see side note)**. So I decided to quit my internship to focus on my physical and mental health.
It has been five weeks since I quit. Now I am thinking of quitting my study again and to follow my passion: photography. But.... I am doubting if this is the right decision.
**side note: TRT** In the 2nd year of my study I started TRT(testosterone replacement therapy) which gave me extra energy and I went to the gym a lot with the extra time I had, due studying at home. I lowered my dosage, because it had a negative impact on studying and because of side-effects. And eventually I quit TRT when I left my internship, because of these side-effects. So my testosterone is now being 'restarted'. Initially I didn't need TRT, but I was stubborn. Symptoms of ADHD could have been the reason that I thought that I had low testosterone symptoms.
**Therapy** In april 2021 I stopped after being 2 years in therapy (for my anxiety, emotion regulation and forming my own identity). During therapy I learned where my intense emotions arised from (scheme therapy) so that I could be more rational. Therapy helped me a lot, by giving me mental space and it made me mentally more stable.
**Diagnosis & personality disorder interview** In my diagnosis it was mentioned that:-my attachment style is: anxious-ambivalent(in Dutch: onveilig (ambivalent) gehecht).-that i have traits in my personality from cluster B and C personality disorders, which also could be coming from ADHD.I have social anxiety and agora phobia.
I also had an interview to asses if I had a personality disorder. Only thing, this was with a woman and I am shy with women, so I held myself in during this interview... so no personality disorder and my psychologist told me one that I don't have one, because my problems are not that severe when compared to people with a personality disorder diagnosis.
\*\*ADHD(medication, research, childhood)\*\*
In July/August this year, I went to my GP to ask for a new ADHD medicine, but he told me that I had to go to a psychiatrist. the appointment is scheduled halfway February(6months later).
During the two years of therapy I wanted to start with adhd medication and insisted on having an adhd research, because in the past I used & abused drugs and knew that amphetamine made me stable and gave me a calm feeling from within. I also was tired of my chaotic mind full of thoughts.
I had an adhd research done in 2019, but to an extent I think it wasn't done very well. As an adult I have symptoms of combined ADHD. However the diagnosis was 'delayed', because they were not sure if I had it as a child. My my mother told the psychologist that I was normal as a kid. But she also doesn't really buy the idea of ADHD and as I've known her, I think that she wasn't aware of the symptoms, because she doesn't and didn't know anything about ADHD...
During my last conversation with the adhd research psychologist, I tried to ask for some clarification and I didn't get much out of it. I also said that my report cards showed *only* good/excellent results. End of conversation. -.-
When I now look closely at my school report cards, from when I was 6-7 years, there are a couple of remarks mentioned about my behavior that could be related to adhd? I don't know for sure if that's the case, but I would love to hear from you guys what you think? So that I can help from a new psychologist and get a new research done.
elementary class 2 - **6 years old**
*"repeating sentences of 4 words is difficult"(note that I emigrated to the Netherlands when I was 4)*
*"LISTEN closely/carefully!"*
*"Take your time!!!"*
*"wants to quickly > innacurate"*
*"fails according to his own idea"*
*"...thinks now before he speaks"*
elementary class 3 - **7 years old**
*"sometimes he wants to do his best so much that he forgets to listen"*
*"Should wait on your turn & think before you speak"*
*"should focus more on his work"*
*"don't hesitate/doubt yourself!"*
*"is interested in everything!"*
**School performance & adolescence years at school**
All my school reports and school performance afterwards were good/excellent. I liked school when I was a kid/teenager. Until when I was 15/16, everything went well. I chose a level halfway highschool that was somehow too difficult for me and subjects that were not in my interest, because I thought that I needed those subjects to become a doctor (lolz).. and I started drinking & using drugs from age 16/17. From that point everything went downwards. I started neglecting my homework more(I think that I was inconsistent before neglecting it). Slept always late and came often too late. I also remember that I was the "class clown" and loved showing resistance towards some teachers that "didn't like me".
**ADHD medication**
I tried ritalin (several brands) and also Vyvanse via the psychiatrist. The results were mixed. I could definitely sit still for a longer period of time and focus on 1 task. Without switching to 1000 other activities. My mind becomes quiet (sometimes). I also was very positive and told my psychologists one time when I took it: "everything is fine, there are no problems in my life". But retention of information during conversations(calling or whats app) wasn't always better, sometimes even worse.. I sometimes felt dumber on them. Also my creativity got worse sometimes and my "photo editing" skills were impacted, because I would be less detail oriented. So it really impacts me negatively visually..
As of now, I got my hands on ritalin (not prescribed). Just took 5mg half way this post, because I was switching to FB and insta constantly. I also experience the same as before: sitting still is way easier for me, I can focus on 1 task & I have more patience. For example when watching tutorial videos. But it's not that I am focussed completely on everything what the guy in the tutorial says, only on the important stuff that I can apply. However sometimes at the beginning I feel rushed & I sense a dopamine high and then after 30-40 minutes I can be chaotic/make more mistakes/ messy. < *is this because I don't have adhd*? People say that the effect of medication is subtle.. Finally my way of thinking gets also blocked/disrupted (thinking deeply & in a diverge way).
**ADHD symptoms?**
*I am chaotic when I work & talk. (but I can also be very orderly and detail oriented)*
*Shy*
often s*low*
*I tend to forget what I said or should say during conversations*
*I can ramble/talk a lot.*
*Low frustation tolerance/ no patience.*
*Intrusive thoughts.*
*A very busy mind.*
*Can't sit still too long with boring tasks.*
*hyperfocus and I can read a lot when I am interested in /obsessed with something.*
*Especially on Reddit...*
*Procastinating until last minute*
A*ddictive personality*
\*\*OCD or perhaps undiagnosed Borderline personality disorder?\*\*
During this summer I experienced scary intrusive thoughts that really made me scared. So I started researching and found that it was related to OCD. I am 100% sure that I have OCD if I look at my behavior and thoughts... I also read that some of OCD symptoms could overlap with ADHD. And I also found out that some of borderline symptoms could overlap with ADHD. I also can find myself in some of the BPD symptoms. I also know that these disorders are not mutually exclusive, so they can be present in 1 person.
**Finally** I don't want to get a diagnosis from you guys, but I want some insights & help. Also if you can relate to my problems and tell me your experience, that would really help me out.
**Questions:** \-Do you guys think that I might have adhd? Or am I too obsessed with getting a diagnosis?-Should I go back go former psychologist?
\-Or should I search for another mental health institution with a different adhd research team?(I found one, but the waiting list is: 5-6 months again...)?
\-Concerning adhd medication, have you also experienced the same effects? any similarities?
\-If you have OCD or BPD (with/without adhd), could you share your story/experience/advice with me?
**TLDR:** I am looking for help, advice & experiences.. I am unsure whether I have ADHD, OCD and/or BPD, which are causing problems in my life, especially at school/internship. I have quit several studies and I am thinking of quitting again. Because I find it really difficult to have a stable and balanced life. I have tried adhd medication with mixed result. I also share some remarks from my teachers during elementary school and also some symptoms that I have. | 2021-12-22T18:04:04.000Z | rmawvm | 0 | 2 | ADHD | Need your support, advice & help please! Life is falling apart. | 1 | https://www.reddit.com/r/ADHD/comments/rmawvm/need_your_support_advice_help_please_life_is/ |
DarkeningLight1 | I'm currently working for a temporary employment company. It's interesting work because I switch from firm to firm and things don't stay the same. Now there are times when there's no work but that's not a problem because the contract covers this in between. A blessing because it's like paid offtime. Now here lies also the trap I fall in everytime.
I sleep, wake up and there's nothing I get done because I don't find the motivation. I literally just laze around and read stories, books etc. on my phone the whole day until I'm tired out. I also become literally the Personification of unsocial, because suddenly my introvert personality is like hiked up to the maximum. When family or friends are contacting me, I'm just filled to the brim with annoyance and the desire to not being disturbed.
I sink my entire energy in the task of reading and wholly ignore things like doing household chores, washing dishes, contacting people, just because I find them boring and can't bring myself to care. The days blur together. Then when there's a new task for work suddenly it changes. I come home tired from work, but thanks to my Medikinet medication I can go through the day and even when tired I finish boring task because I care. I have a routine then
But this laziness periods are dangerous. I don't even work out during them, so all the effort invested are gone and I start from scratch. It's a spiral but I don't really know how to get out of it.. | 2021-12-22T18:00:37.000Z | rmatz5 | 2 | 2 | ADHD | Laziness, Apathie and no motivation | 1 | https://www.reddit.com/r/ADHD/comments/rmatz5/laziness_apathie_and_no_motivation/ |
RobGioRomo | I need advice. I don’t know what to do. I’ve ruined my relationship with my wife. She’s had enough and is planning to move out in January.
Most of the time, I don’t help with the tasks around the house such as laundry, dishes, taking out the trash, etc…I do them when I remember to or when I can get myself to actually even get them started, but I struggle so much to actually get up and do things. It’s embarrassing and I hate that I’m like this. It’s gotten extremely bad and my wife has had enough. We have 3 kids. A soon to be 5yo daughter, a 3yo daughter, and an 8mo son. She has a lot on her plate every day. On top of taking care of the kids all day, she also has a couple of side businesses that she tries to manage all on her own. It’s really hard for her to keep up with all the house work with everything else she has going on. Yet, I still come home from work and manage to just loaf around most of the time. I feel like a piece of shit for it as well, but most of the time, I can’t control it.
I just recently started talking to a counselor, but it might be to late. I want us to try couples counseling, but she’s never believed in it. I told her we need to at least try it and she says that doesn’t mean she’s not going to move out. I don’t want that to happen. I don’t want to put my kids through any of this. I just hate the idea of my babies wondering what is going on and wanting for either one of us to be there and we just can’t be. It breaks my heart.
If anyone can give me any sort of advice as to how I could possibly fix my situation or just any helpful advice at all, I would greatly appreciate it. | 2021-12-22T17:59:41.000Z | rmat17 | 12 | 4 | ADHD | My Wife is leaving me. I need advice. | 1 | https://www.reddit.com/r/ADHD/comments/rmat17/my_wife_is_leaving_me_i_need_advice/ |
ZeroTransPat | [removed] | 2021-12-22T17:57:44.000Z | rmarjo | 1 | 1 | ADHD | Anyone else constantly never know what to eat? | 1 | https://www.reddit.com/r/ADHD/comments/rmarjo/anyone_else_constantly_never_know_what_to_eat/ |
[deleted] | [deleted] | 2021-12-22T17:56:01.000Z | rmaq6j | 1 | 2 | ADHD | Struggling with “positive reframing” | 1 | https://www.reddit.com/r/ADHD/comments/rmaq6j/struggling_with_positive_reframing/ |
echidnasarepinky | [removed] | 2021-12-22T17:51:25.000Z | rmammx | 1 | 1 | ADHD | Real ~125,000 Word ADHD Autobiography (Only Known in Existence) - 20 Years of Hell by Government Screwups | 1 | https://www.reddit.com/r/ADHD/comments/rmammx/real_125000_word_adhd_autobiography_only_known_in/ |
yaboiiisaac | [removed] | 2021-12-22T17:49:52.000Z | rmalg8 | 1 | 1 | ADHD | Another just got diagnosed post | 1 | https://www.reddit.com/r/ADHD/comments/rmalg8/another_just_got_diagnosed_post/ |
Ok_Impact8279 | Hi there, this Reddit page has been helpful since being diagnosed with adhd a couple of months ago. It is funny, because when I see these posts, I think “this is normal”.I am now realizing that most of my best friends I grew up with and consider my only close friends, all have been diagnosed with adhd. I also have close family members with adhd. So, when asking everyone with advice everyone seems to think these things are “normal”. Well anyways… I have been grieving the loss of my 10 year old dog. She died two weeks ago and at first I felt extremely lost but a healthy grief. The new thing is that I went and met a rescue dog and brought him home even though my gut was telling me no and introduced home to the family and existing dog. When I realized it wouldn’t work, I “woke up” and realized how bad of an idea it was. I took him back to the foster and felt extreme guilt and told myself that I’m not going to put another creature through my impulsive behavior while I’m grieving. Not to mention I’m going to nursing school and do not need to take in another dog. Well a few days later, I see a dog that needs a new home and I start feeling incredibly passionate and almost obsessive making plans for a new dog. Then the next day I let it go and then at some point the cycle sparks again. Is this what impulsivity is? Can adhd symptoms be more intense during bereavement? | 2021-12-22T17:48:28.000Z | rmake5 | 1 | 1 | ADHD | Impulsive tendencies | 1 | https://www.reddit.com/r/ADHD/comments/rmake5/impulsive_tendencies/ |
shirayuku_desu | Hi, I’m college student who has a boyfriend with ADHD. He has trouble putting focus into his work, despite telling himself he’d do his best for the semester. His under performance put a toll on his mental health, and I feel helpless for not being able to help.
Before recommending using meds- He has. I believe he’s taking Adderall, since he always mentions it before studying. But the side effects that come along are extreme, it makes him feel numb and super depressed. I remember talking about taking a new prescription, something that’s less intense, but provides the focus to concentrate on his studies. Well- he instantly panicked . As a psyc student, I felt inconsiderate because he probably did take other meds- but they were probably just as bad…. felt very insensitive, so I reassured him afterwards. I love him so much, though I’m not sure what I can do to help
The only thing I saw that might help is studying or doing work for short periods at a time (5-10 minutes). So suggestions would be greatly appreciated.
-Thank you | 2021-12-22T17:47:23.000Z | rmajk8 | 3 | 1 | ADHD | Studying tips | 1 | https://www.reddit.com/r/ADHD/comments/rmajk8/studying_tips/ |
eht_amgine_enihcam | Some days the Vyvance works really well. Some days I don't feel it. I thought it was just shit sleep patterns or something from me.
I knew to avoid citric acid (sodas and OJ) an hour before and after taking my dose. However, I did a proper search on what foods are actually acidic.
Oat meal is highly acidic. The cheese I chuck on is also acidic. I think this is what killed the Vyvance. Just looking at it, I would have thought it was basic/neutral.
I like bacon/salami/high fat meats. These also apparently decrease absorbtion.
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Would a more alkaline diet boost medication effectiveness for most people with ADHD as the western diet tends to be fairly acidic? What would the perfect breakfast be? I think spinach and baked beans are good. | 2021-12-22T17:47:21.000Z | rmajji | 4 | 3 | ADHD | What would be the perfect adhd breakfast? | 1 | https://www.reddit.com/r/ADHD/comments/rmajji/what_would_be_the_perfect_adhd_breakfast/ |
Queenside24 | I started stimulants a few months ago. Everyday I drank a ton of water, but I still felt awful at the end of the day. Well, I found a solution! Stimulants can cause dehydration, but if you drink too much water, it’ll dilute the important minerals and electrolytes your body needs. To get around this, I’ve started making my own electrolyte drink. I’ve been feeling so much better!
Just put a pinch or two of Himalayan pink salt in your water and then add some liquid flavor to cover up the taste of the salt. That’s it!
You can use other salt, but pink salt is best because it has extra minerals in it or something.
Happy hydration! | 2021-12-22T17:41:29.000Z | rmaewd | 1 | 2 | ADHD | DIY Gatorade/Liquid IV for those on stimulants! | 1 | https://www.reddit.com/r/ADHD/comments/rmaewd/diy_gatoradeliquid_iv_for_those_on_stimulants/ |
-sushithegoldfish- | Hey y'all!
I got diagnosed with moderate to severe ADHD in September of this year after a lifetime of what now seem like very obvious symptoms haha. My psychiatrist also said that I exhibit anxious tendencies and some people find that their anxiety becomes worse on stimulants. I'm currently taking 60mg of Vyvanse daily because I've found that anything lower does not help regulste my ADHD symptoms at all. Unfortunately, I've also found that my anxiety is worse when I'm on my medication. I become anxious very easily, and struggle to bring myself down from it, essentially causing me to shut down and become very snappy with people around me (which I feel awful about afterwards and always apologize).
Does anyone else experience this?
I'm just nervous to talk to my primary care doctor or my psychiatrist about it because I really do not want to go through changing medications again.
Thank you in advance for any advice or support! | 2021-12-22T17:38:57.000Z | rmacxi | 2 | 1 | ADHD | Anxious on Vyvanse | 1 | https://www.reddit.com/r/ADHD/comments/rmacxi/anxious_on_vyvanse/ |
iliketxt | This is my first post on here, I'm sorry but I just need to get this off of my chest
I had issues since I was young but I was always unable to treat them due to money problems (America) or people not taking me seriously. I always hoped that it would go away when I'm older but now it feels like it had gotten worse. Ever since the start of high school, I struggled to pay attention in class or it will take me hours to do a simple worksheet because I can't force myself to focus. I was always scolded by my parents for not being able to sit still. I started to lose track of time easily (I would take time to think for a few minutes but it ends up being an hour as an example) and I would have these mood swings where I would be energetic and happy one minute then depressed and lethargic the next. Everyone around me noticed these things and pointed them out to me so I wasn't the only one who realized something was wrong. I began doing research on my own and discovered what ADHD was. I would take all of these questionnaires and read all these articles off of medical sites that highly suggest that I should get consulted for ADHD. I came across the subreddit and it was the first time I felt like I was understood. The thing is, I can't get consulted for ADHD because my parents tell me that it would cost too much out-of-pocket money we don't have. I have other siblings that cost money also so I'm not exactly a priority right now. Yet my GPA is at an all-time low because my symptoms are getting worse. 5 minutes of daydreaming turned into 2 hours, my teachers would talk for an entire hour and I would listen and take notes yet I forget that I'm in the classroom twenty minutes in. I struggle to keep focus no matter how much I force myself to do it. That's just some of it and I'm so scared that I can't do anything about it because I can't get these issues treated. I'm so scared that my GPA will stay low because I can't pull myself together. I'm in my junior year and it's halfway through, I'm afraid that I won't get accepted into any good colleges. I don't want to be like everyone else in my family but I feel like I will. There's nothing wrong with having these issues but what can I do about these issues if I can't get them treated? | 2021-12-22T17:37:13.000Z | rmabm7 | 1 | 1 | ADHD | Scared about future (Vent) | 1 | https://www.reddit.com/r/ADHD/comments/rmabm7/scared_about_future_vent/ |
Hillybilly-Brah | The video I am sharing goes into the TPN(Task-Positive Network) and DPN (Default-Mode Network) of our minds. Understanding these parts of mind can help people with ADHD with a coping mechanism I learned from the video. I thought sharing this subject matter could potentially help some people on here.
https://youtu.be/fGMy4FDGUek | 2021-12-22T17:36:49.000Z | rmabb8 | 1 | 1 | ADHD | Coping Mechanism- Understanding the TPN/DPN of our minds | 1 | https://www.reddit.com/r/ADHD/comments/rmabb8/coping_mechanism_understanding_the_tpndpn_of_our/ |
crazystray | [removed] | 2021-12-22T17:28:47.000Z | rma4r9 | 0 | 1 | ADHD | Does marijuana counteract adderall? | 1 | https://www.reddit.com/r/ADHD/comments/rma4r9/does_marijuana_counteract_adderall/ |
Awkward-Chipmunk7138 | I have been waiting for an ADHD diagnosis (multiple other symptoms) but the one that I struggle with the most and have noticed more the past year or so is boredom intolerance in work situations.
At first I thought it was because I work in a boring admin job that is ‘too easy’ for me and provides no challenge. Mostly monotonous data processing. However I’m beginning to think it’s ADHD symptom as I physically cannot tolerate the boredom of it, it makes me very apathetic. For example I cannot focus on a piece of work for more than 5 minutes without my mind wandering and looking stuff up online or chatting or going on my phone. Has anybody has this symptom and attributed it to ADHD? It’s to the point the boredom is extremely uncomfortable. Also the same goes for meetings. I can’t sit still after about 15 minutes in and feel desperate for it to end, and restless and unable to engage.
Thanks in advance! | 2021-12-22T17:28:22.000Z | rma4fy | 3 | 4 | ADHD | Boredom intolerance | 1 | https://www.reddit.com/r/ADHD/comments/rma4fy/boredom_intolerance/ |
Illustrious_Gur_5908 | I’m currently freaking out a little and I’m scared that my mental health won’t get fixed and I’ll die alone because no one wants to be around me. I’ve been disassociating a lot and thinking why I can’t be loved or why I’m always pushing people away. It scares me so much because I made so much progress before and I stopped hyperfocusing on being healthy and now I don’t want to try because what’s the point if I’m always falling down the same hole. I want to keep working on myself but I genuinely feel unloved and and alone and why do it for myself if I’m just going to be alone. Idk why I’m ranting to y’all but thank you for reading. | 2021-12-22T17:24:41.000Z | rma1j8 | 2 | 1 | ADHD | I’m scared | 1 | https://www.reddit.com/r/ADHD/comments/rma1j8/im_scared/ |
NotasSpecial | i’m in my 20s and got diagnosed with adhd earlier this year with my first therapist ever. (came from a culture and tradition of denying and vilifying mental illness and therapy)
after my diagnosis, a lot was happening with moving and couldn’t get the motivation for months to go talk to my PCP and get medication.
finally managed to pull it together, go to my new therapist m, re-diagnose with adhd and am finally starting my first day of medication today!
so excited to start this treatment and journey!! | 2021-12-22T17:20:27.000Z | rm9y7o | 2 | 2 | ADHD | FINALLY ON MEDICATION | 1 | https://www.reddit.com/r/ADHD/comments/rm9y7o/finally_on_medication/ |
rdegannes87 | [removed] | 2021-12-22T17:19:33.000Z | rm9xha | 1 | 1 | ADHD | Concerta Crash mitigation | 1 | https://www.reddit.com/r/ADHD/comments/rm9xha/concerta_crash_mitigation/ |
Mzoo- | The headline basically says it all. I‘m a 20 years-old female with ADHD and today I went into the city to get a few last gifts for Christmas. While there, the sounds and people started to overwhelm me and I got nervous. Stepped into multiple stores without ever buying anything and then started crying because I felt stressed out, in the middle of the streets.
I‘m kind of ashamed because normally it‘s little kids that randomly start to cry while I’m public and also because my reason just does not feel valid enough :( | 2021-12-22T17:18:01.000Z | rm9wcc | 3 | 1 | ADHD | Started crying while shopping | 0.99 | https://www.reddit.com/r/ADHD/comments/rm9wcc/started_crying_while_shopping/ |
PickleLad12 | I've wasted so much time over the past month trying to get my prescription for Adderall filled and every single time i go to the pharmacy, they say "oh we dont have that in stock, we usually get it in stock \*random day of the week\*. THIS HAS BEEN GOING ON FOR 3 WEEKS. One pharmacy flat out refused to fill it for me, they told me to just go back to my doctor and have them write another script. and another one glanced at it for a split second and said "nah we dont have that". Worst part about it is that i have a paper script and apparently walgreens cant hold onto those, so i have to keep going back and back checking if its in stock instead of just waiting for a notification when its in. Is there something im missing here??? im so fucking pissed off | 2021-12-22T17:17:01.000Z | rm9vjj | 2 | 3 | ADHD | So frustrated right now about pharmacies | 1 | https://www.reddit.com/r/ADHD/comments/rm9vjj/so_frustrated_right_now_about_pharmacies/ |
omglollerskates | I always have a good workout! Before adderall I would come home after a long day and force myself to work out, you know, the thing that is regarded as crucial for regulating the ADHD brain. But even when I managed to initiate, I often couldn’t sustain the effort. I’d feel so wiped out and bored that I’d just lay on my mat halfway through. I do Pilates/yoga type stuff and on my meds I can really focus on activating the elusive deep core, I feel strong, so in tune with my body, and energized throughout. When I find the time for in-person classes it’s never wasted. Holding handstand has been a life goal of mine, and I’ve made more progress with three months of meds than years of inconsistent efforts.
Sometimes I get sad thinking about where I’d be today had I gotten diagnosed younger. Ah well. There is only forward! | 2021-12-22T17:09:22.000Z | rm9phb | 1 | 1 | ADHD | A small thing I love about being on meds… | 1 | https://www.reddit.com/r/ADHD/comments/rm9phb/a_small_thing_i_love_about_being_on_meds/ |
[deleted] | [removed] | 2021-12-22T17:07:50.000Z | rm9o75 | 1 | 1 | ADHD | Need your support & help! Life is falling apart. What should I do? (upvote please). Is this undiagnosed adhd? | 0.67 | https://www.reddit.com/r/ADHD/comments/rm9o75/need_your_support_help_life_is_falling_apart_what/ |
[deleted] | [deleted] | 2021-12-22T17:07:11.000Z | rm9nn6 | 1 | 1 | ADHD | I am worried about my partner's state of mind | 1 | https://www.reddit.com/r/ADHD/comments/rm9nn6/i_am_worried_about_my_partners_state_of_mind/ |
citrus_v2 | Hello friends!
I don't really have friends or know others with ADHD, hence why I'm here. I'm F23 and I've only been diagnosed with combined-type ADHD in September, so things are quite new to me.
In February, I'll be starting a new study at a school that I've always wanted to go to. Now, I've done multiple studies in the past, but never been able to finish them because I found out it wasn't really what I'm looking for. Looking back at it, I also kind of struggled in class because of my ADHD, I think. I think I'm a fast learner, I just get distracted real fast and long explanations don't do anything for me. It's funny though because I never had issues back in middle school... I always used to be the top goody-two-shoes kid and now I'm just not. Which kinda messes with me as well.
I was wondering if people in here can share tips or experiences on how they followed their studies/managed to do their homework/etc? I'm really scared I'll fail again, but I'm also motivated!
Im looking forward to it! | 2021-12-22T17:06:34.000Z | rm9n55 | 1 | 1 | ADHD | ADHD and studying? | 1 | https://www.reddit.com/r/ADHD/comments/rm9n55/adhd_and_studying/ |
Motherfunkers | [removed] | 2021-12-22T17:01:02.000Z | rm9inb | 1 | 1 | ADHD | Getting bored with relationships | 1 | https://www.reddit.com/r/ADHD/comments/rm9inb/getting_bored_with_relationships/ |
gator--wave | I went to one of the top public universities in my state, got a 32 on the ACT, and had my whole life planned out. Until I got kicked out for poor academic standing in April of 2021. Fastforward to the fall semester, where I'm at home recovering from surgery and working while all of my school friends post about their classes and how much fun campus is. It was depressing as hell, but I fought hard to get signed up for spring classes! It's at a community college and it's kind of lame compared to what everyone else is accomplishing, but I DID IT!!! 2 CLASSES FOR THE FIRST 8 WEEKS AND 2 CLASSES FOR THE LATTER 8 WEEKS SO I DON'T OVERWHELM MYSELF!!! I CAN DO THIS!!!! | 2021-12-22T16:58:42.000Z | rm9gmj | 4 | 6 | ADHD | I GOT BACK INTO COLLEGE AFTER MAJORLY FUCKING IT UP LAST YEAR!!!!! | 0.88 | https://www.reddit.com/r/ADHD/comments/rm9gmj/i_got_back_into_college_after_majorly_fucking_it/ |
sav3434 |
How do you guys prevent or at least lessen the crash from your meds? Even if I take a small, instant release dose, I still have a severe crash at the end of the day. This is really the one thing preventing me from taking my meds which do help while they work but it’s hard to outweigh that with the side effects. Plus, I find it hard to take it continuously cause each day I just feel worst from the day before.
Then on top of that I can’t sleep even with a strong sleep med. any suggestions are helpful thank you :) | 2021-12-22T16:58:15.000Z | rm9ga0 | 2 | 1 | ADHD | How do you prevent med crash? | 1 | https://www.reddit.com/r/ADHD/comments/rm9ga0/how_do_you_prevent_med_crash/ |
[deleted] | [removed] | 2021-12-22T16:58:03.000Z | rm9g4n | 0 | 1 | ADHD | I need help :( | 1 | https://www.reddit.com/r/ADHD/comments/rm9g4n/i_need_help/ |
[deleted] | [deleted] | 2021-12-22T16:55:13.000Z | rm9dz3 | 1 | 2 | ADHD | So, I was diagnosed today (29F) and I feel... everything? | 1 | https://www.reddit.com/r/ADHD/comments/rm9dz3/so_i_was_diagnosed_today_29f_and_i_feel_everything/ |
do_you_tho | [removed] | 2021-12-22T16:54:24.000Z | rm9ddh | 2 | 2 | ADHD | How do you feel about brutalist architecture? | 0.75 | https://www.reddit.com/r/ADHD/comments/rm9ddh/how_do_you_feel_about_brutalist_architecture/ |
sav3434 | [removed] | 2021-12-22T16:50:45.000Z | rm9amz | 1 | 1 | ADHD | How do you prevent med crash? | 1 | https://www.reddit.com/r/ADHD/comments/rm9amz/how_do_you_prevent_med_crash/ |
Aylali | Hi guys, I got diagnosed not too long ago (I'm 27 and a woman). I know maladaptive daydreaming is often associated with ADHD and I just wondered whether my irrational and strong bond with my Teddy bear (his name is Teddy) may in any way be connected to this.
Like, I have a whole backstory for him, there is a whole world of teddies (they're just nocturnal, so people and teddies keep missing each other) and Teddy always knows or is related to other teddies we (my husband got in on this lore) come across. Like on TV or in a store front and it's be like "Oh, that's his cousin Gladys"
And I genuinely love that Teddy. Like, I would mourn him like I would a person if anything happened to him.
Do any of you have a plushie/doll/thing you love/anthropomorphize? If not, mind giving your two cents on the matter of whether you think it may be related to ADHD or not? :) | 2021-12-22T16:50:14.000Z | rm9a99 | 6 | 7 | ADHD | Do you still have a plushie? | 1 | https://www.reddit.com/r/ADHD/comments/rm9a99/do_you_still_have_a_plushie/ |
Fendaren | I was in my 30s when I first made the realization that I had executive function problems. Looking back on my childhood it's so evident now, but being told I was lazy and emotional growing up had convinced me I was.
My wife and I are veterans and get our healthcare through the VA. We luckily have a local VA clinic in our community, so we don't have to drive to KC for every appointment. Being children of the 70s, we grew up and developed our mental health issues and didn't get diagnosed or treated. So it took until our mid 30s before we did anything about it.
I approached my VA therapist about possible executive function issues, maybe adhd, maybe emotional issues. It was all blown off. She didn't like labels and my masking was good enough to make her think I was fine. So I got zoloft and that was it. I didn't think to talk to my psychiatrist about it, so I let it go. But things got worse.
This was 6 or 8 years ago, I'm now almost 45. In that time I have educated myself about attention and mood disorders, but you can only do so much with executive dysfunction and little to no professional help. I would let it go, but things would get bad, financially or relationship wise. So I would try to get help. I was passed between 4 or 5 different psychiatrists in this time, all of which were less than helpful. I haven't had a therapist in a couple years.
I finally wrote a message to the mental help department itself pleading for help. I thought I had it, but it's clear the mental health department of the kcva is understaffed and at least partially incompetent (I say partially because my wife has gotten pretty good care with her mental health.)
I have decided to go outside the VA, but my finances are horrible, thanks in large part to my untreated whatever I have. I don't know where to go that's cheap enough but actually will help me. | 2021-12-22T16:49:56.000Z | rm99zl | 3 | 2 | ADHD | I'm giving up on VA mental health care, is there somewhere else to go that's good and inexpensive? | 1 | https://www.reddit.com/r/ADHD/comments/rm99zl/im_giving_up_on_va_mental_health_care_is_there/ |
naura_ | I had to make a call to talk (!) to a customer service person. That part was actually not that bad except i had to go through a bunch of menus to get there. I wrote it on my hand thinking that i will have it later when i pay the bills except
I showered.
I never shower at 8 am but i did *today*.
/facepalm | 2021-12-22T16:43:20.000Z | rm94vt | 2 | 3 | ADHD | This morning…. | 1 | https://www.reddit.com/r/ADHD/comments/rm94vt/this_morning/ |
sandwichmeats | Hi, newly medicated ADHDer (diagnosed at 36!) and medication has completely changed my life.
One benefit that I didn’t see coming is the ability to relax. I spent so, so much of my life in a form of paralysis, sitting or laying for hours on end, stressing about all the things I needed or wanted to be doing but just not being able to make myself do them.
Now I can decide to take a break and just fully relax with the knowledge that I can get up and do whatever I need to do whenever I choose to.
It’s such a blessing! In retrospect, I’m not sure I was ever truly able to relax. Visibly I may have looked like I was relaxed but internally there was a million things going on my mind. | 2021-12-22T16:38:51.000Z | rm91b5 | 3 | 25 | ADHD | An unforeseen benefit of being medicated, the ability relax | 0.97 | https://www.reddit.com/r/ADHD/comments/rm91b5/an_unforeseen_benefit_of_being_medicated_the/ |
Naive-Cow9811 | im on my gap year and im applying to colleges right now except that I can’t seem to write my personal statement (common app essay). I just fucking can’t. My ideas are all over the place, I can’t stick to any and somehow the words aren’t coming to me in a way that is appropriate for this essay. And I’ve spent so fucking long trying to write it but I can’t. At this rate, I’ll end up like last year. I wrote my personal statement last year on the day my first university application was due. I don’t want to repeat it at all, but at this rate I feel like I’m headed down that path.
Please, please share your experiences/tips I could use any advice at this time. I’m desperate. | 2021-12-22T16:38:22.000Z | rm90wi | 2 | 1 | ADHD | Help writing essay | 1 | https://www.reddit.com/r/ADHD/comments/rm90wi/help_writing_essay/ |
MrsDaisy_ | [removed] | 2021-12-22T16:33:50.000Z | rm8xdl | 1 | 1 | ADHD | Am I the only one constantly spilling while drinking because I tilt the cup too much EVERY TIME? | 1 | https://www.reddit.com/r/ADHD/comments/rm8xdl/am_i_the_only_one_constantly_spilling_while/ |
FairandStyle | Do some companies design personality/pychometric tests to ensure people with ADHD do not get in? I applied to 2 different positions at banks with different personality tests and I got disqualified after them. The result of the tests was 'You have a lack of focus'. If it were true, is this illegal or allowed? Just curious. Also, when I applied for the same position the following year; they didn't allow me to retake the test. | 2021-12-22T16:31:24.000Z | rm8vis | 12 | 7 | ADHD | ADHD people getting screened out by companies | 1 | https://www.reddit.com/r/ADHD/comments/rm8vis/adhd_people_getting_screened_out_by_companies/ |
[deleted] | [removed] | 2021-12-22T16:27:52.000Z | rm8snt | 1 | 1 | ADHD | Transferring my Ritalin prescription to a different state | 1 | https://www.reddit.com/r/ADHD/comments/rm8snt/transferring_my_ritalin_prescription_to_a/ |
Problemwizard | All the symptoms are things I have anyway, and that fluctuate too much to be able to tell. I do not generally remember past sensations much at all, so I can't tell if anything is wrong. I am completely alone here and would not know if anything is from new meds, poor sleep or this blow to the head???
For context, my dog ran into me. She was coming from below jumping, I was bowing down. | 2021-12-22T16:27:30.000Z | rm8see | 1 | 1 | ADHD | How would you ever know if you have a concussion or trauma | 1 | https://www.reddit.com/r/ADHD/comments/rm8see/how_would_you_ever_know_if_you_have_a_concussion/ |
munemashad | [removed] | 2021-12-22T16:26:31.000Z | rm8rn1 | 1 | 1 | ADHD | Anyone from Bangladesh living with ADHD? | 1 | https://www.reddit.com/r/ADHD/comments/rm8rn1/anyone_from_bangladesh_living_with_adhd/ |
Stuwars9000 | Hello there.
Like many of us, I have insomnia (for as long as I can remember). I am on adderall (40 in the AM, 20 in the PM) and Zoloft. My therapist suggested Seroquel for sleep as well as not taking my PM Adderall (I take it at 3pm). She feels 3pm is too late and may be feeding into my sleep issues.
I started with Seroquel a few days; at 1st 25mg but this didn't do much so I upped it to 50mg before bed (per therapist directions). I am sleeping at night but I am tired and groggy for 2 to 4 hours in the AM...even after 40mg of adderall and a cup of coffee. Also, by 5pm or so I find I get easily angered...more like free-floating aggression than explosive anger. Everything annoys me and I grumble a lot.
So, my question is this...have any of you been prescribed Seroquel for insomnia? How was it/is it? Anyone take anything else for insomnia?
I like getting sleep but hate feeling groggy when I wake. I stopped waking-and-baking years ago to avoid this feeling.
(My current insomnia: awake until 2am-4am, tossing and turning, switching from my bed to my couch, beginning to drift off only to wake up and be awake for some time, getting 2-4 hours sleep (I have school-age kids), naps are VERY RARE).
Thanks Everyone. | 2021-12-22T16:18:32.000Z | rm8lob | 2 | 1 | ADHD | Seroquel for sleep/insomnia | 1 | https://www.reddit.com/r/ADHD/comments/rm8lob/seroquel_for_sleepinsomnia/ |
oceanrue | Maybe I live under a rock, but imagine a college that was structured like high school. It may be just me, but the annoying block scheduling and same 5 classes for 70 minutes a day is what kept my grades up.
Instead of seemingly impossible goals, and days between classes, inaccessible professors… Everything was so much easier to retain and pay attention to when there was more time spread out with teachers and subjects. So why not do it in college? Why not force a schedule where you don’t have the abundant free-time and instead are given information slowly and consistently. We all got straight A’s in high school because we mirrored each other and were forced to focus.
Work and school are two different things. Work, in my opinion, is much easier to pay attention to than phalanges and thoraxes. Or numbers and logic..? So does any of this make sense? | 2021-12-22T16:18:19.000Z | rm8lih | 4 | 2 | ADHD | University | 1 | https://www.reddit.com/r/ADHD/comments/rm8lih/university/ |
Aleffante | I (28F) have been friends with a friend group (same age, minly M) since almost 9 years, and during this time I have been sometimes close to some people in the group, and at other times I have not because I have been living abroad. Since corona happened we made up with most members of the group and regularly meet on online calls.
Recently I have been diagnosed with inattentive ADHD by a professional and have been prescribed meds. I decided to tell this to my friends in the group. One of my friends in the group told me that he doubts that I have ADHD, because in his opinion I dont have the right symptoms, and that he knows it well from experience with living with his gf (hyperactive ADHD) and reading on the subject. He also accused me of not reading enough, which is fair, I have just been diagnosed last month.
This really hurt me and I started questioning about opening up to people on the issue. I know that there is a common joke in the adhd subs that people don't take the diagnosis seriously, but when I faced the same reaction from a close friend it really hit me.
My question is, is this friendship salvageable? I feel really unvalidated and hurt. | 2021-12-22T16:15:16.000Z | rm8j89 | 9 | 4 | ADHD | Told one of my closest friends I have been diagnosed with ADHD, he said he doubts it because his gf has ADHD, and he has read a lot on the subject, and my symptoms don't qualify. Should I cut this person out of my life? | 0.83 | https://www.reddit.com/r/ADHD/comments/rm8j89/told_one_of_my_closest_friends_i_have_been/ |
bee1397 | [removed] | 2021-12-22T16:12:58.000Z | rm8hcw | 22 | 0 | ADHD | Help with husband | 0.33 | https://www.reddit.com/r/ADHD/comments/rm8hcw/help_with_husband/ |
Accomplished-Drag-52 | I didn't fancy myself as a bookworm my entire life but since being diagnosed and being able to name the disorder that was causing me to not commit to tasks as well as other people did, I've been able to see tasks to conclusion.
Today, I finished my first book: *"Order from Chaos: The Everyday Grind of Staying Organized with Adult ADHD"*
Would highy recommend it. It gives some neat practical tips. I'm so satisfied with this development and have even ordered another book to sink my teeth into 🙂😁 | 2021-12-22T16:06:02.000Z | rm8bwj | 1 | 3 | ADHD | I read a book from cover to cover and took notes to summarize! | 0.81 | https://www.reddit.com/r/ADHD/comments/rm8bwj/i_read_a_book_from_cover_to_cover_and_took_notes/ |
[deleted] | [deleted] | 2021-12-22T15:59:28.000Z | rm86ay | 2 | 1 | ADHD | Apparently hyperfocus isn't an adhd thing | 1 | https://www.reddit.com/r/ADHD/comments/rm86ay/apparently_hyperfocus_isnt_an_adhd_thing/ |
hijinked | I was talking with my therapist about some of the issues I've been dealing with lately, and one big one has to do with *cognitive flexibility.* I had never heard this term before, but it is **the ability to adapt our behaviour and thinking in response to the environment**. -foothillsacademy.org
The way it affects me is I'll be doing something like cooking and my wife will come in and go "Let me join you" and I'll go "No, I really want to do this a certain way. Or if she says "Hey let's go do this thing" I'll go "No, you need to give me some advanced notice, I'm not ready for that right now. " Previously I just thought it was anxiety but my therapist thinks it might be more related to my ADHD.
She gave me some exercises to do to help out. Basically I just have to train my brain to be more open to new things. Some little things I can do to work on it are things like take a different route to work, order something new from a restaurant, or try an experience that I've never done before.
Has anyone else here had an issue with cognitive flexibility and was there anything that helped you deal with it? It's kind of getting in the way of my marriage a little bit. | 2021-12-22T15:56:07.000Z | rm83pv | 4 | 16 | ADHD | Cognitive Flexibility | 0.89 | https://www.reddit.com/r/ADHD/comments/rm83pv/cognitive_flexibility/ |
Mediocre_Stoic | Before I start I’ll say that this post is referring to the UK specifically.
I have private health insurance through work which is how I got my diagnosis of ADHD PI. However, the insurance paid for my diagnosis but nothing else, meaning I’d have to fork over £££ to get medication privately which I just can’t afford.
When trying to go via the NHS I’m told the waiting list is 3+ years?? What am I supposed to do in the meantime? I feel like I can’t continue like this but I just can’t afford the private route.
When I read up on ADHD articles “get medicated” is just thrown around like it’s easy, I just don’t know what to do. | 2021-12-22T15:55:03.000Z | rm82vg | 4 | 1 | ADHD | How do people get medication so easily? | 1 | https://www.reddit.com/r/ADHD/comments/rm82vg/how_do_people_get_medication_so_easily/ |
extrovert-actuary | So I’m all for people being safe and such, but I’m fucking dying inside working remote for 2yrs straight. My actuarial peers all act like they all drew one big “bank error in your favor” card by being able to work remote, and I feel like I’m all alone.
My dopamine kick is other people. I have always been super highly functional in social settings, but hours will slip by in an ADHD fog without others around.
In school I could ace tests and participate in class but could never get my homework done.
I tried running my own business until I realized I just couldn’t get the solo back office stuff done when I wasn’t with clients.
Now I went back into an office environment… only to have to work remote. Just because I’m collecting a paycheck doesn’t mean I can stay focused at home any better than I could before. My wife (teacher) gets home at 4 and I feel like someone finally turned the lights on in my brain and I’m ashamed of how much time slipped by uselessly the rest of the day.
Fuck.
Anyway, thank you to whoever read this far. Any advice or suggestions welcome, but I just really needed somewhere to vent a bit. | 2021-12-22T15:54:10.000Z | rm825b | 2 | 5 | ADHD | Coping with Isolation | 1 | https://www.reddit.com/r/ADHD/comments/rm825b/coping_with_isolation/ |
[deleted] | [removed] | 2021-12-22T15:53:26.000Z | rm81lm | 1 | 1 | ADHD | We are the best people to tell secrets too since we will just end up forgetting what they tell us anyway. | 1 | https://www.reddit.com/r/ADHD/comments/rm81lm/we_are_the_best_people_to_tell_secrets_too_since/ |
emyemji |
22f/21m. my partner was diagnosed with adhd shortly before we met so our whole relationship i’ve seen and tried helping him navigate this experience and medications etc. i’ve tried to read into it a lot and we’ve had conversations about things that are a direct cause of his diagnosis and basically what we can do in hard times due to it. however lately it’s been feeling really suffocating and hard for me but whenever i try to explain to him, his mood swings/flooded w/ emotions just makes it even harder. (it’s never aggressive emotions, always sads or upset.) he feels like im attacking him and pointing all the blame on him when it’s not true and we know this is a cause of his adhd and ive tried wording things better in order to not cause this but i also cannot word things properly in english always so this can really hurt it too. i think this may also be due to him starting a higher dose of vyvanse over the summer? i know the crashes are a lot worse as well as low appetite which after awhile will make people irritable. i’m currently at a loss right now due to an argument that we couldnt solve properly and i would just like some advice on how i could help take care of him and navigate his feelings better. it’s hard for him to express himself properly plus we cant have proper schedule due to my work which affects some object permanence issues (when im gone it’s very emotionally hard for him; gets upsets or disturbed more easily (almost like if im gone i’ll always be gone) maybe a fight is more likely to happen, but then when we’re reunited it’s like a puppy, very happy everything is okay again.) and also delays the solving of problems. (we see each other for 4 days then away 4 days). when you’re having all these emotions or a crash what can someone do for you? is there a way to make this easier? although i care for him and want to make him have a comfortable time, it’s really hard having a partner with this diagnosis at times..if anyone has and suggestions on things i can implement to either help support him or the relationship i would gladly appreciate it. | 2021-12-22T15:50:34.000Z | rm7zdz | 3 | 1 | ADHD | seeking advice for partners adhd | 1 | https://www.reddit.com/r/ADHD/comments/rm7zdz/seeking_advice_for_partners_adhd/ |
captansam | [removed] | 2021-12-22T15:47:38.000Z | rm7x9i | 1 | 1 | ADHD | Online options for diagnoses? Having trouble booking in -person for over 4 months | 1 | https://www.reddit.com/r/ADHD/comments/rm7x9i/online_options_for_diagnoses_having_trouble/ |
TrenWhoreCokeHabit | For example: I don’t really feel any benefit of taking more than 40-60mg adderall IR at the same time. I don’t get more energy, more focus, mood improvement, or any other benefits. It just cranks my heart rate up, makes me pee more, and makes me crash harder when it wears off.
I believe I metabolize it very slowly though. A single dose of adderall IR will last me 10-12 hours before I start feeling unfocused again. | 2021-12-22T15:47:22.000Z | rm7x36 | 2 | 1 | ADHD | I feel like there’s a limit for how much adderall does for my ADHD, and taking a higher dosage is pointless. | 1 | https://www.reddit.com/r/ADHD/comments/rm7x36/i_feel_like_theres_a_limit_for_how_much_adderall/ |
Lyreca17 | [removed] | 2021-12-22T15:45:13.000Z | rm7vjz | 1 | 1 | ADHD | Day 1 on Stattera | 1 | https://www.reddit.com/r/ADHD/comments/rm7vjz/day_1_on_stattera/ |
king_panda78 | So I've been diagnosed with ADD/ADHD twice in my life. Once as a kid and again in my 20's. I was also diagnosed with depression so I admittedly focused on that vs the ADHD. I never gave the ADHD treatments q fair shake (ridlin as a kid; Strattera in my 20s). As I've grown older (now 43) I have felt more and more like my ADHD is more the root cause of my anxiety and depression.
That said...I got adderall from a relative and have taken now on 5 or 6 occasions. It's like a new world. I'm not overwhelmed by my thoughts and I feel like the best version of myself.
I would like to approach my doctor on being prescribed this. Certainly willing to rediagnose for ADD/ADHD and ensure no other health factors, etc. But....I'd specifically like adderall because it is what I tried with such great results. Would it be out of bounds to be frank with my doctor that I've taken it recently (albeit unprescribed) but had very favorable results?
Any help here on best approach would be greatly appreciated, friends. | 2021-12-22T15:43:59.000Z | rm7ulx | 7 | 1 | ADHD | Tried Adderall....Game Changer....now how do I approach my doctor? | 1 | https://www.reddit.com/r/ADHD/comments/rm7ulx/tried_adderallgame_changernow_how_do_i_approach/ |
loulee1988 | Sorry if someone has posted this before or it's not allowed or you know the drill....
But I was recently diagnosed later in life (primarily inattentive) and I'm still coming to terms with it a bit? I've suspected it for awhile but was kind of in denial? I And sorry if I ramble - but I'm trying to figure out how to express this feeling.
Throughout my life, all the signs that pointed towards me having ADHD that I've written off or been told that are character flaws or even failures of myself are all bubbling up to the surface again.
The biggest one that I've struggled with is how all these things such as lack of consistency, forgetfulness, missing details (a BIG one in my career) aren't just needing to "TRY HARDER" "you just need to have better time management"
**"That's not an excuse.**" - that is the biggest thing that has stuck with me throughout my life for all these things. I've been told by multiple people and it's been hammered into my brain. So a lot of times I've just sat there and beat myself up for **"making excuses"** or **not taking personal accountability**, I **just need consistency or I need to do better**, **all while wondering why it was SO hard for me to do normal things.**
Like if I failed somehow, whether it be meeting a deadline or making a careless mistake, everyone (I say everyone for the sake of rambling) would remind me that I just wasn't up to par and how did that happen? and I shouldn't be making excuses and do better.
I guess the hardest part is coming to terms with all these things I've thought are personal failures and character flaws were because I wasn't trying hard enough or I was making excuses - I always needed to take accountability for my failures and do better and try harder. I'm not just "lackadaisical" or need to focus better and pay attention to details as my mom used to tell me throughout life.
**I guess its realizing I'm not just playing the victim, or making excuses or a failure as a person - this is an ACTUAL thing this is how my brain operates.**
Thanks for coming to my TED talk lol | 2021-12-22T15:36:08.000Z | rm7op1 | 21 | 19 | ADHD | "That's Not An Excuse" | 1 | https://www.reddit.com/r/ADHD/comments/rm7op1/thats_not_an_excuse/ |
eht_amgine_enihcam | I had all the symptoms. I'd sleep half the day, be disruptive, get into fights, had some social problems (didn't listen to people), super disorganised. I dealt with the social stuff by high school but still didn't study and cruised through. I hate how if you're relatively high functioning you automatically get slapped with "he has no problems since smart, he's just eccentric".
I've just finished my masters and got medicated a few weeks ago. Before that, I got really good at a bunch of hobbies but dropped them after 1-2 years. People get impressed by the amount of shit I've done, but it's all just jack of all trades. Now I can actually sit through videos explaining stuff, I can give my full attention to people teaching me, I can self teach using textbooks. I thought I was lazy for 20 years and that it was eventually going to catch up to me, and was resigned to just staying on the dole. I knew working 8 hours a day would kill me. I've finally got my licence. There's no ticking time bombs of having to do something in that you've forgotten about. My relationships have improved cause I'm not constantly tired and irritable.
I feel if I was medicated I'd be at a professional level in at least 1 of them. I used to love math but I'm just re-finding my passion for it. Now I have 10 years of catching up to do compared to people who are neurotypical. People say not doing anything catches up to you in university, but I kinda wish it did so I could have had my hand forced to find professional help earlier. I guess learning to do a lot in a short period of time under pressure might have it's advantages. | 2021-12-22T15:29:48.000Z | rm7jnj | 1 | 1 | ADHD | Super disappointed I wasn't put on medication earlier (just a vent). | 1 | https://www.reddit.com/r/ADHD/comments/rm7jnj/super_disappointed_i_wasnt_put_on_medication/ |
ADHDDIAGNOSED | Your in a conversation with someone, your drifting in and out of the conversation, then you listen to what’s being said, all of a sudden you come up with something absolutely earth shattering brilliant and important to say, but you have to fight that Aaaarrgghh Shut up I’ve got to tell you this right now feeling, but you wait for them to finish because you’ve learned that’s polite and the sociable thing to do but they can notice that you want to say something, but continue to talk on, you can’t process what they’re saying anyway because your over here with this brilliant probably irrelevant to the conversation piece of genius your going to say, then they finish and say what was you going to say, 🤷♂️ nope soz it’s gone, in that zillionth of a second between you finishing your sentence and then my brain engaging to speak maybe the answer to the meaning of life as just gone poof into oblivion, probably never to be seen again 🤣🤣 | 2021-12-22T15:22:43.000Z | rm7ebv | 8 | 12 | ADHD | Do you ever do this 😂 | 1 | https://www.reddit.com/r/ADHD/comments/rm7ebv/do_you_ever_do_this/ |
onethatmeows | [removed] | 2021-12-22T15:15:14.000Z | rm78h1 | 1 | 1 | ADHD | How do I deal with time blindness? | 1 | https://www.reddit.com/r/ADHD/comments/rm78h1/how_do_i_deal_with_time_blindness/ |
musichealer | [removed] | 2021-12-22T15:14:44.000Z | rm783z | 1 | 1 | ADHD | Do you guys think ADHD gets worse with age or does life just get harder? | 1 | https://www.reddit.com/r/ADHD/comments/rm783z/do_you_guys_think_adhd_gets_worse_with_age_or/ |
Kay_Elle | So, I went back to college as an adult (now medicated)
I had been a challenge, but I struggle with one teacher/subject in particular.
It's a very theoretical subject in an otherwise practical course, that's one. So the boredom is real.
But I realized today the way he words/outlines tasks is specifically ADHD-unfriendly.
To begin with, his description are often unclear and ambiguous, which makes me have to re-read the instructions several times and still not quite getting it.
The parameters of the assignments are always VERY outlined, up to the point of micromanaging - stifling any actual creativity.
He sort of "scatters" around information and important data in different places, so it's not centralized. All that, while being really boring. So, I constantly have to search for important info in several places, getting distracted all the time, making it take much longer.
I have tried to bring up the latter with him, which made him quite hostile toward me.
This is an individual in quite high standing in my school - and I hate that people like this wil likely sit in that spot until they die and never change anything.
Full disclosure: I used to be a journalist and KNOW I can write. I used to love writing. But any assignment I do for him is just devoid of any sort of soul or creativity. | 2021-12-22T15:13:26.000Z | rm774y | 21 | 19 | ADHD | I swear I have a professor who (unwittingly, maybe?) makes ADHD-unfriendly assignments. | 0.87 | https://www.reddit.com/r/ADHD/comments/rm774y/i_swear_i_have_a_professor_who_unwittingly_maybe/ |
Pretty-Grass | Hi ☺️ I am a 33 year old female who was diagnosed with ADHD in my teenage years but did not start taking medication until my mid to late twenties.
The benefits I experience from my medication (a stimulant) are life changing for me, but I’m starting to notice that my resting heart rate is elevated and given my family history of heart disease I am wanting to explore the idea of non stimulant medication, but I’m at a loss of where to start.
If you take a non stimulant medication to help manage your ADHD symptoms could you share what you take and your thoughts on the medication. | 2021-12-22T15:12:33.000Z | rm76ho | 2 | 1 | ADHD | Looking for non stimulant medication options | 1 | https://www.reddit.com/r/ADHD/comments/rm76ho/looking_for_non_stimulant_medication_options/ |
Gwummy__words | I (21F) finally had my first psychiatric appointment today. I knew it wasn't realistic but I'd always hoped I would magically be able to get rid of the feeling of being "fake adhd" if a professional could tell me that I in fact do have adhd.
Until the past couple months I didn't ever consider myself to be because I never fit any of the hyperactive symptoms. I get good grades (a lot of delayed last minute studying and tears and frustration but hey, results are results.) and I could always get my way out of any authority problems by talking my way out of it (thankfully I rarely take rule breaking to an extreme). Forgetfulness and getting distracted has always been an issue but I always chalk that up to me being lazy.
Covid gave me a lot less structure in life and I've also freshly graduated and am taking a gap year to write a research paper. It has been an absolutely terrible for me. All the symptoms (that I didn't know were symptoms) seemed to intensify. I only accidentally came across the word "adhd" again after I was looking up "how to fix concentration issues".
When I pieced it all together, it dawned on me that? Maybe? I might have adhd? I had already started second guessing myself at that moment. "Lazy" "airhead" "disruptful" are some terms that I've been associated with for so long that it's hard to imagine the problem being anything neurological and not just me at fault.
But anyway, got my diagnosis. I feel a little validated and it helped that the doctor was so understanding. But the feeling of being an imposter is still there, especially since I was so quick to reach out to a psychiatrist. "You only think you have adhd because you read up about it and want to associate yourself with it." It's a stupid thought, I know. But I can't help it.
The kicker was that my dad was so unimpressed by the diagnosis. To him, it's not that big of a deal and something I can overcome if I just try hard enough. I'm just worried sometimes that he's right.
I really want to know if there are others who feel that way too and what you do to combat the feeling. | 2021-12-22T15:10:55.000Z | rm75bn | 2 | 4 | ADHD | I feel like an imposter | 0.84 | https://www.reddit.com/r/ADHD/comments/rm75bn/i_feel_like_an_imposter/ |
ancaaremere | White F26, 1,58cm, 54kg. Diagnosed with ADHD, currently on Concerta 36mg and Gabaran. Severe myopia as well, treated with glasses/ contacts.
This phenomenon I first experienced in 2014, when I was diagnosed with depression and put on Venlafaxine and Rivotril. I took them at noon, felt nothing different whatsoever until I went to sleep and turned off the light and everything was fractals, triangles, mandalas, letters were floating above my phone screen, if I looked outside all the buildings were wavy. This persisted for a week or so, getting milder and milder.
I have been on Concerta for a month (after a 3 year break) and was also prescribed Rivotril to help with the crash and sleep issues (which I was having already). I took 3 (0,5mg) on different nights, absolutely nothing out of the ordinary happened.
Yesterday I asked my psychiatrist to replace the Rivotril with something that wouldn’t make me drowsy if I had to wake up early, plus I wasn’t feeling too great about benzos. So he gave me 15 0,75mg Zopiclone. I took my evening Gabaran at 8ish and took a Zopiclone at 1AM. Started feeling a bit sleepy, and I start noticing the letters on my phone were distorted. I thought ‘not again’, turned off the light and there we go, beasts dressed in circus clothes, my lipstick crawling like a worm, trees outside dancing and waving at me, cars dismantling an repairing themselves again and again, creatures morphing in and out of existence, all vanishing the moment I turned on the light or my flashlight.
I have no idea what’s going on, two different occasions, two different treatments, I cannot find anything on Google about visual hallucinations while completely sober and aware especially ONLY in the dark. | 2021-12-22T15:05:15.000Z | rm716l | 4 | 1 | ADHD | Full blown visual hallucinations EXCLUSIVELY in the dark? | 1 | https://www.reddit.com/r/ADHD/comments/rm716l/full_blown_visual_hallucinations_exclusively_in/ |
MotherCirce | I'm on Concerta. Sadly with my disabilities I'm always slow, not following instructions as desired, and generally underperforming at my workplace. I started taking Concerta as it helps me actually work at a pace I won't get let go at, but still underperforming.
On a unrelated note I have noticed it's causing insomnia. I legit have started to not sleep whatsoever yet I want to pass out the hours I'm at work.
Any advice? | 2021-12-22T15:01:25.000Z | rm6yfp | 1 | 1 | ADHD | Question about meds and sleep | 1 | https://www.reddit.com/r/ADHD/comments/rm6yfp/question_about_meds_and_sleep/ |
I_ECHO_I_Timid3 | So I’m 15 (m) and almost everyone who knows me well have said to me they think I have adhd not even me bringing up the conversation most of the time, just people asking me or just saying that I do. I have done multiple tests which all came out as very likely. I’ve spoken to my parents about people thinking I have adhd which they have agreed with. However I don’t think they would let me be seen by a professional and put on medication or go to therapy. So I really want to ask if I can be tested but I just don’t know how. Any tips ? | 2021-12-22T14:58:06.000Z | rm6vtc | 1 | 0 | ADHD | How do I ask my parents to get me tested by a professional ? | 0.5 | https://www.reddit.com/r/ADHD/comments/rm6vtc/how_do_i_ask_my_parents_to_get_me_tested_by_a/ |
honeyborn | You can check my previous post here for more info on my situation.
Waiting for my assessment with a free therapy service on January 17th, but my referral for the psychiatrist’s evaluation could take 18 months - that’s the approximate waiting time in the UK.
I was wondering if there are any over the counter medication or natural medicine that could help with memory/ concentration, that I can easily and legally obtain?
I’m on oral chemotherapy and that also has been giving me brain fog/ cognitive issues.
Any other self-help tips would be appreciated - I literally feel like a failure, incapable to stick to or finish anything I commit to and I can’t spend my life like this for the next 18 months. I’m desperate :(
Edit: more info | 2021-12-22T14:55:08.000Z | rm6tvp | 1 | 4 | ADHD | What can I do while I wait for a diagnose? | 1 | https://www.reddit.com/r/ADHD/comments/rm6tvp/what_can_i_do_while_i_wait_for_a_diagnose/ |
ChenofRivia | I’m asking because I was recently diagnosed with ADHD and I’m really struggling with school because of it. I’ve had extreme fatigue since I was 16 (now 22). The fatigue is so bad that I can barely make myself something to eat some days, let alone make it to university. It feels like burnout and I suspect it’s because my brain is on overdrive constantly.
Also, it’s seriously affecting my ability to get work done and to maintain friendships. I’ve lost friends because I’ll see their text come through, read it, and then become distracted so I forget to reply. I’ve never taken any medication for my ADHD since I didn’t really know what was causing this until a year ago, but I’m seriously considering it as I need something to change.
How was it for you? What changed? Was the experience positive, negative, or both? :) | 2021-12-22T14:48:30.000Z | rm6pgk | 1 | 3 | ADHD | How significantly did meds impact your life? | 1 | https://www.reddit.com/r/ADHD/comments/rm6pgk/how_significantly_did_meds_impact_your_life/ |
Nasha210 | I haven’t been on meds for a while because my insurance won’t cover it. But I think this happened some times even when I was on meds.
Every once in a while I get into a phase that starts all of a sudden where I start to binge…for the past 5 or 6 days it’s been porn. Doesn’t matter if I jerk off or have sex, I’ll want more. When I get into these periods it starts and stops as sudden as it started and I am not binging for weeks or months (note: it doesn’t mean I’ll stop watching porn or whatever but it’ll be less out of control).
Anyone else have this issue? I can’t figure out why this happens. I tried the mental health resources at work talking to counselors but they were full of shit. | 2021-12-22T14:47:33.000Z | rm6ovg | 3 | 3 | ADHD | Binging- porn, Netflix, news | 1 | https://www.reddit.com/r/ADHD/comments/rm6ovg/binging_porn_netflix_news/ |
Treadingresin | [removed] | 2021-12-22T14:47:06.000Z | rm6oko | 1 | 1 | ADHD | YOU HAVE THREE DAYS LEFT TO GET CHRISTMAS PRESENTS!! | 1 | https://www.reddit.com/r/ADHD/comments/rm6oko/you_have_three_days_left_to_get_christmas_presents/ |
Duchamp_in_motion | My partner has ADHD and he doesn't have a lot of relationship experience. He has avoided relationships his whole life until he met me and he's super attached to me. We have a couple communication and intimacy issues in our relationship and he seems to not be able to read me. I'm just wondering if people with ADHD struggle to read people? The other day I was starting to think he has ASD, but I don't want to jump to conclusions. | 2021-12-22T14:46:29.000Z | rm6o6f | 7 | 2 | ADHD | My partner has ADHD and struggles to read people, is this normal? | 1 | https://www.reddit.com/r/ADHD/comments/rm6o6f/my_partner_has_adhd_and_struggles_to_read_people/ |
ChenofRivia | [removed] | 2021-12-22T14:39:57.000Z | rm6jqa | 1 | 1 | ADHD | How significantly did meds impact your life? | 1 | https://www.reddit.com/r/ADHD/comments/rm6jqa/how_significantly_did_meds_impact_your_life/ |
diivinepotato | [removed] | 2021-12-22T14:39:24.000Z | rm6jdj | 1 | 1 | ADHD | Does it feel like suddenly the lights have been turned on in a dark room once your meds kick in? | 1 | https://www.reddit.com/r/ADHD/comments/rm6jdj/does_it_feel_like_suddenly_the_lights_have_been/ |
nottheuseriwanted | So 32M, in England and I finally got my appointment through for clinical assessment (via video). It's been a long wait with many ups and downs. My worry is what's going to happen? I mean I've lived like this for so long and I'm okay I guess so why diagnose me?
Granted, I have lost countless really quite good jobs due to being unreliable mainly, destroyed relationships for reasons I am yet to understand, 2 attempts on my life, I still make poor choices (I only realise in hindsight), I constantly lose things, I can't concentrate (I should be working right now but after about 30 seconds I'm back here), history of using substances to 'help' but again, turns out that's a bad idea. The usual sort of stuff I guess. They ask for a relative to be there too but my dad doesn't really know what to do and my mum is so against me seeking a diagnosis I don't think she will help. My younger sister is just like me and understands but will they accept what she says?
Side story, I was supposed to be assessed when I was 12/13 due to being somewhat disruptive at home but my mum put an end to me being assessed for some reason.
What are they going to ask me? Is this going to be like the Spanish inquisition? What if they say "no, you're fine"? I will be absolutely mortified as there has to be something up! If they say yes then it would vindicate all these traits or actions and more importantly open doors to get it sorted. If you really do ever get it sorted?
Sorry, I rambled. I knew that would happen.
TLDR: Assessment due soon, worrying what's going to happen and what if they say I'm all good. Crack on. | 2021-12-22T14:38:40.000Z | rm6iuu | 4 | 1 | ADHD | After 4 years waiting I have my clinical assessment in 2 weeks. Now I'm questioning everything. | 1 | https://www.reddit.com/r/ADHD/comments/rm6iuu/after_4_years_waiting_i_have_my_clinical/ |
Fre_Sch | This might be not adhd related, I am not sure.
So to keep it short: i've been in a friends with benefits kinda thing but somewhat more serious. Because I am stupid and everyone told me to be with her I didnt do it. Now she is with someone else after years of being with me.
So it has been 4 months now. Almost 5. We didn't talk for almost 2 months now. And she basically ignored me most of the time after she met that guy. I was of course often very mad and just cursed that guy out which she didnt like.
Anyways I still cant stop wanting her back. Which is kinda strange for me. In my "real" relationships I didnt slip in a severe depression like I did this time and usually after 2 or 3 months I was at least open for something New.
I also had 4 years of FwB with another girl. When she met someone else I was also upset, then she came back and I still didnt want her. It also was kinda different to what I had with the last girl because in the first 2 years we also Dated other people and so on. And with the girl that is gone now I never saw anyone else. I did talk to others probably a fomo kinda thing but this is a different issue.
So my question is: is it possible to hyperfixate on a person? I am always questioning if I really miss her and love her or if I am just hyperfixating and thinking it is love.
She wont come back, she told me many times. But I also feel like I cant let go of her and I am afraid that I am keeping myself in depression because of this. Which would be stupid to let myself Suffer so much even though I dont love her.
I know it is complicated and probably hard to answer or help.
I also wonder if you can hyperfixate for that long. I never did something for more than 3 months. Except for Jobs and long lasting hobbies.
Maybe someone experienced something similar? I am just confused with all these feelings and then this depression, which got better though.
Yes I take meds (medikinet) but I just started out. So it is a very small dose.
Her leaving and me thinking she will come back gave me a lot of Motivation to get help 😅
Thank you redditors | 2021-12-22T14:32:47.000Z | rm6eu7 | 28 | 11 | ADHD | Hyperfixation on a person? | 0.88 | https://www.reddit.com/r/ADHD/comments/rm6eu7/hyperfixation_on_a_person/ |
IceCream-Fitness | I absolutely hate that ADHD is what is wrong with my brain, and not because I am ashamed of it but because there is a stigma around ADHD.
Anytime you have your ADHD symptoms flare up and your family, friends, or significant other are on your back about why you did or didn't do something and you say its because of your ADHD they look at you like your stupid. Like you have complete control over all of this and ADHD is just an excuse, you are just lazy. Yet if I was Bi polar or Autistic then they would understand.
I have had countless arguments with my husband because I don't do things in the timely manner that he would or I don't notice things like he does (Like how the floorboards are dirty and need to be cleaned 😑) After I was diagnosed it got better and I told him why I did what I did and that when I had my brain scan done it actually showed that I process things 50% slower than the average person (Not that I am dumb it just takes my brain longer to process what I am looking at).
I told him I don't see things like him, I don't look at dishes in the sink and I go "Oh let me put those away now". I look at them and go (God those look terrible, I really need to do those later), and I either forget or by the time I go to do them he has already done it. I told him if he notices something then to tell me like "Hey, the floor boards are really dirty in the kitchen, when are cleaning this weekend can you wipe them down?". But he said he doesn't feel that is his job to tell me.... so it is apparently easier for him to do all the things himself and then yell at me later.
Sorry for the rant I am just so frustrated with people looking at me like I am just making excuses when I say I have ADHD. I feel stupid when telling people I have ADHD because they don't see it as a real problem. They don't accept you have a real issue and work with you, they just work around you and yell at you for it. | 2021-12-22T14:25:03.000Z | rm69kt | 11 | 10 | ADHD | I feel stupid when telling people I have ADHD because they don't see it as a real problem | 1 | https://www.reddit.com/r/ADHD/comments/rm69kt/i_feel_stupid_when_telling_people_i_have_adhd/ |
JakobiiKenobii | I hope this doesn't break the rules, but here's what's going on with me:
I've always had a bit of dry mouth since I was little. So much that my dentist wrote a note for my school to allow me to chew gum during class because I needed to trigger my glands to produce saliva; otherwise, I was just getting cavities and bad breath all the time.
I started Adderall XR this year, and maybe six months before that, I had been on Wellbutrin XL (still am). One of the biggest side effects I've been struggling with lately has been how dry my mouth gets. It's so bad that it gets to the point that I'm getting sores on my tongue on a weekly basis, and the front top (?) of my tongue feels just like when you've burnt yourself drinking something that's too hot--except that feeling is aaaall the time and won't go away **no matter how much water I drink** ): I was eating an apple the other day and couldn't finish it because my tongue was so sore that the juice from the apple made it sting.
I was going to ask my doctor about it, but I wanted to know what some of you do to alleviate this? I've seen "artificial saliva" that you can buy in different forms, and I was considering getting that. **I do chew gum from time to time, but because 1. I'm fidgety and subconsciously bite on my tongue, and 2. my jaw misaligns very easily (I have to get it adjusted every two weeks), I end up accidentally biting my lip really hard, creating even MORE pain in my mouth, I just don't see chewing gum worth the extra pain; pretty counterproductive if you ask me.**
TL;DR: My tongue hurts all the time from having dry mouth and it sucks. What do you do to alleviate this side effect? Gum isn't as effective most of the time. I already drink plenty of water. | 2021-12-22T14:24:54.000Z | rm69hy | 13 | 3 | ADHD | How do you deal with severe dry mouth from meds?? | 1 | https://www.reddit.com/r/ADHD/comments/rm69hy/how_do_you_deal_with_severe_dry_mouth_from_meds/ |
Y615 | [removed] | 2021-12-22T14:23:11.000Z | rm68b7 | 1 | 1 | ADHD | I (22M) cannot study for more than 4 hours,even on meds | 0.99 | https://www.reddit.com/r/ADHD/comments/rm68b7/i_22m_cannot_study_for_more_than_4_hourseven_on/ |
highinanxiety | [removed] | 2021-12-22T14:20:44.000Z | rm66oc | 1 | 1 | ADHD | What are some of your symptoms of anxiety? | 1 | https://www.reddit.com/r/ADHD/comments/rm66oc/what_are_some_of_your_symptoms_of_anxiety/ |
jsarbo | Please, please help me.
The past 2-3 months I have been doing very well managing my symptoms and I have been overall, happy.
About 2 weeks ago I noticed myself becoming angry just by my fiancé’s presence… it makes me feel crazy as he is literally my favorite person. I have been SO irrationally angry with him about nothing. I can reason with myself, but can’t help my anger.
Not currently on any medications as none I have tried have worked. Been off for 3ish months.
I’m also upset because Christmas is my FAVORITE and being pissy is ruining it for me.
Please help me 😢😢😢😢😢 | 2021-12-22T14:14:17.000Z | rm62c0 | 8 | 2 | ADHD | IRRATIONALLY ANGRY | 1 | https://www.reddit.com/r/ADHD/comments/rm62c0/irrationally_angry/ |
random-reddit-kid | [removed] | 2021-12-22T14:12:30.000Z | rm616n | 1 | 1 | ADHD | Does ADHD relate or somewhat relate to communication disorder? | 1 | https://www.reddit.com/r/ADHD/comments/rm616n/does_adhd_relate_or_somewhat_relate_to/ |
Babyleafbaby | [removed] | 2021-12-22T14:11:42.000Z | rm60mw | 1 | 1 | ADHD | I messed up my meds & made myself really sick again. | 1 | https://www.reddit.com/r/ADHD/comments/rm60mw/i_messed_up_my_meds_made_myself_really_sick_again/ |
aravinth13 | Hey there everyone!
I was unaware of what ADHD actually is for most of my life. Fortunately, I met a friend who made me understand that I should not be blaming myself for who I am and how I do (don't do things). Then I joined this subreddit and I have finally made a decision to call my GP about doing something about this. I highly believe, no I know, I have ADHD and I also am afraid of being on meds if I get diagnosed. I really don't know why exactly I am making this post, but I would like to know how taking your meds has changed your mindset, thought process, etc., (and personality? I do not know much the meds will change a person) I don't want to know what you took, just tell me how it helps or not helps you.
Is getting diagnosed even worth it? It is just the process sounds to long and difficult. That and now-a-days doctors only speak with patients on the phone. I hate it, but I can't wait for so long. I am doing my final years at an uni and I want to be a better person, get a job, and get settled somehow. My belief is knowing myself better or being on meds would help me, but why is the process so goddamn difficult? | 2021-12-22T14:06:23.000Z | rm5x9f | 2 | 1 | ADHD | Getting help | 1 | https://www.reddit.com/r/ADHD/comments/rm5x9f/getting_help/ |
TheRealMasonMac | [removed] | 2021-12-22T14:01:24.000Z | rm5txh | 0 | 1 | ADHD | How would you know if you have ASD? | 1 | https://www.reddit.com/r/ADHD/comments/rm5txh/how_would_you_know_if_you_have_asd/ |
LightningBirdsAreGo | [removed] | 2021-12-22T13:59:00.000Z | rm5s4k | 1 | 1 | ADHD | I took two days off before my Christmas break to get everything done on time wish me luck. | 1 | https://www.reddit.com/r/ADHD/comments/rm5s4k/i_took_two_days_off_before_my_christmas_break_to/ |
Smeety | Hi Reddit.
I just started on Concerta again after 6 years.
I stopped taking Concerta 6 years ago because I felt like it wasn't working anymore, and i was starting to feel depressed which i thought could be because of the Concerta, i then tried to start on Elvanse but that made me feel really bad.
Anyway i just started on Concerta again today, and I'm not feeling very well. I don't really feel any kind of calmness i just feel anxious, sad and wired - i know it's my first day but I'm just afraid that it's gonna make me feel like I did 6 years ago, because I got a really bad depression after that whole period and had to drop out of school. I was hoping to hear how Concerta was affecting you the first time you took it, eventually after a break? | 2021-12-22T13:58:36.000Z | rm5rvy | 2 | 1 | ADHD | I need some help on ADHD medicin | 1 | https://www.reddit.com/r/ADHD/comments/rm5rvy/i_need_some_help_on_adhd_medicin/ |
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