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[ "Yeah, what's your deepest darkest secret?", "Kidding, but should I be scared to be in a car with you while driving?", "haha so you just never got caught, got it. My deepest darkest secret is that I secretly find black girls named (Mishal) really attractive, don't judge me;) hbu?" ]

[ { "coach_comment": null, "content": " No kids, no tattoos, ran into many curbs, never been to prison LOL.", "role": "Her" }, { "coach_comment": null, "content": " Any more questions?", "role": "Her" }, { "coach_comment": null, "content": "Yeah, what's your deepest darkest secret?", "role": "assistant" }, { "coach_comment": " These messages break up the usual boring get to know you conversations that usually happen on dating apps and make it more interesting and fun.", "content": "Kidding, but should I be scared to be in a car with you while driving?", "role": "assistant" }, { "coach_comment": null, "content": " Noo", "role": "Her" }, { "coach_comment": null, "content": " I’ve never got a ticket haha", "role": "Her" }, { "coach_comment": null, "content": " What’s your deepest darkest secret?", "role": "Her" }, { "coach_comment": " This message is a more fun/ interesting way to pay the girl a compliment instead of just saying that he finds her attractive.", "content": "haha so you just never got caught, got it. My deepest darkest secret is that I secretly find black girls named (Mishal) really attractive, don't judge me;) hbu?", "role": "assistant" } ]

[ "We can go sometime babe 😘, this one’s for the boys" ]

[ { "coach_comment": null, "content": " How’s your day going ?", "role": "Her" }, { "coach_comment": null, "content": " Just woke up from a nap, got stories scheduled for next week", "role": "Student" }, { "coach_comment": null, "content": " That’s good babe. Any plans for the rest of the night or just relaxing ", "role": "Her" }, { "coach_comment": null, "content": " Just relaxing, prob watch some baseball. Trying to plan this trip with my friends to go to florida at the end of the month", "role": "Student" }, { "coach_comment": null, "content": " Not going with me ?", "role": "Her" }, { "coach_comment": " This message does well to set a boundary, which is important especially early in a relationship.", "content": "We can go sometime babe 😘, this one’s for the boys", "role": "assistant" } ]

[ "Anyway, had to slide into the DM’s to see what that fun bubbly vibe ws all about", "So far so good.. Might have to see in person before giving you the final verdict", "Shoot me your number and we’ll iron out the details", "Just making sure. My buddy sent me a bottle of Caymus, SO good.", "Anyway, make sure you saved the number ;)", "Lol perfect.. I’ll email you this weekend", "I might be able to save a little for you" ]

[ { "coach_comment": null, "content": " Long Beach?", "role": "Student" }, { "coach_comment": null, "content": " yes I'm out here", "role": "Her" }, { "coach_comment": null, "content": " Ahh you seem like a Long Beach girl.", "role": "Student" }, { "coach_comment": null, "content": " Now what does that mean?", "role": "Her" }, { "coach_comment": null, "content": " You like the beach, driving boats, and raving. That screams LB chick!", "role": "Student" }, { "coach_comment": null, "content": " I don't know girls out here that like to rave, they're all in the IE!", "role": "Her" }, { "coach_comment": null, "content": "", "role": "assistant" }, { "coach_comment": " This message provides a reason for him messaging her in the first place without coming across as weird or creepy.", "content": "Anyway, had to slide into the DM’s to see what that fun bubbly vibe ws all about", "role": "assistant" }, { "coach_comment": null, "content": " And what’s the verdict?", "role": "Her" }, { "coach_comment": " This message seeds the idea of an in-person meet up.", "content": "So far so good.. Might have to see in person before giving you the final verdict", "role": "assistant" }, { "coach_comment": null, "content": " Hmm okay", "role": "Her" }, { "coach_comment": null, "content": " Let’s see when that’ll happen", "role": "Her" }, { "coach_comment": " It is good to get the girl’s number and move the conversation off the social media app as this requires a certain level of ivestment from the girl.", "content": "Shoot me your number and we’ll iron out the details", "role": "assistant" }, { "coach_comment": null, "content": " Hey Lesli, it’s Javier the cute raver", "role": "Student" }, { "coach_comment": null, "content": " hey hey what’s up", "role": "Her" }, { "coach_comment": null, "content": " Do you drink wine ?", "role": "Student" }, { "coach_comment": null, "content": " Yes I do", "role": "Her" }, { "coach_comment": null, "content": "Just making sure. My buddy sent me a bottle of Caymus, SO good.", "role": "assistant" }, { "coach_comment": null, "content": "Anyway, make sure you saved the number ;)", "role": "assistant" }, { "coach_comment": null, "content": " I’ve actually never tried that wine", "role": "Her" }, { "coach_comment": null, "content": " hmm I did save it but your texts are sending through your email lmao", "role": "Her" }, { "coach_comment": null, "content": "Lol perfect.. I’ll email you this weekend", "role": "assistant" }, { "coach_comment": null, "content": "I might be able to save a little for you", "role": "assistant" }, { "coach_comment": null, "content": " Hope you do", "role": "Her" } ]

[ "It’s ok if you can’t control yourself around me", "You just have to be good until Saturday ;)", "Don’t get too excited, coming from the chick that double text me haha ;). But, you’re cute so it’s all good" ]

[ { "coach_comment": null, "content": " u truly suck at texting", "role": "Her" }, { "coach_comment": null, "content": " What do you mean lol? I was busy, but anyway i’m thinking mini golf and a drive in movie", "role": "Student" }, { "coach_comment": null, "content": " hahahah it’s fine I am too so I have no room to talk. I am usually not this persistent at texting", "role": "Her" }, { "coach_comment": null, "content": " but I like that", "role": "Her" }, { "coach_comment": " ", "content": "It’s ok if you can’t control yourself around me", "role": "assistant" }, { "coach_comment": " These messages do well to put the student in the buyers frame, implying she can’t wait to meet up with him again. ", "content": "You just have to be good until Saturday ;)", "role": "assistant" }, { "coach_comment": null, "content": " BAHAHAHAH STOP", "role": "Her" }, { "coach_comment": null, "content": " you wish 😆", "role": "Her" }, { "coach_comment": null, "content": " i have seen you a singular time don’t get too excited", "role": "Her" }, { "coach_comment": " This is a good method of flirting as it suggests that she is the one who is excited which she might see as negative but ends in a compliment.", "content": "Don’t get too excited, coming from the chick that double text me haha ;). But, you’re cute so it’s all good", "role": "assistant" } ]

[ "Analysis: Cute but will slash your tires if upset", "How’d I do" ]

[ { "coach_comment": null, "content": " I 100% want a psychoanalysis", "role": "Her" }, { "coach_comment": "This message is broad and could apply to millions of girls. ", "content": "Analysis: Cute but will slash your tires if upset", "role": "assistant" }, { "coach_comment": null, "content": "How’d I do", "role": "assistant" }, { "coach_comment": null, "content": " I’ve never slashed anyone’s tires, but i’m not going to say that I wouldn’t 😂", "role": "Her" } ]

[ "maybe voice notes would be better then so we don’t have a breakdown in communication. Then we might never get to our first date. Wouldn’t that be tragic.", "I was thinking you, me, a bottle of wine, laughs, teases, neck kisses, that sort of thing. Vibing and building chemistry", "I am a red wine drinker, you know me so well already lol", "You’ll find out soon enough ;)", "a doctor? You out here saving lives", "Depends, what’s your schedule like?", "You’ll have to tell me more about that on our date", "Potentially?", "Ever been to (name of venue)?", "I’m full of surprises 😉", "Hey (her name) last night was fun", "Not sure I had to persuade you 😉 we should get together again sometime soon", "Let’s do it, is there a day that works best for you?", "I was going to say town again or is there somewhere you’re dying to show me in Stalybridge? 😉", "That is a dream, I could be your muse", "I’ll expect my first portrait on our date" ]

[ { "coach_comment": null, "content": " Hey Anna I like your style 👌", "role": "Student" }, { "coach_comment": null, "content": " Hey, I like yours too 👍 and nice hair!", "role": "Her" }, { "coach_comment": null, "content": " Thanks, I wonder how well our styles would mix", "role": "Student" }, { "coach_comment": null, "content": " It could work", "role": "Her" }, { "coach_comment": null, "content": " You don’t sound confident", "role": "Student" }, { "coach_comment": null, "content": " That’s the problem with messages, can’t tell how something is meant to come across", "role": "Her" }, { "coach_comment": " This message is a good excuse to send a voice message. Voice messages are useful because they can humanize you. It is likely the girl is getting a lot of messages on dating apps and other messages but sending voice messages can set you apart from the crowd by doing something most men don’t and by making you more real, not just words on a screen. ", "content": "maybe voice notes would be better then so we don’t have a breakdown in communication. Then we might never get to our first date. Wouldn’t that be tragic.", "role": "assistant" }, { "coach_comment": null, "content": " (Sent as a voice message) So I’m not a fan of voice notes but I guess I led myself into that. What were you thinking for the first date?", "role": "Her" }, { "coach_comment": " This message is good to use when talking about what will happen on the date. It shows the girl that you are emotionally mature as you want to vibe and build chemistry before anything happens but there is a sexual undertone and there is no ambiguity about it being a date when you mention teases and neck kisses.", "content": "I was thinking you, me, a bottle of wine, laughs, teases, neck kisses, that sort of thing. Vibing and building chemistry", "role": "assistant" }, { "coach_comment": null, "content": " Sounds like a lovely evening ", "role": "Her" }, { "coach_comment": null, "content": " I could get on board with that", "role": "Her" }, { "coach_comment": null, "content": " Shoot me your number and we’ll organize it ", "role": "Student" }, { "coach_comment": null, "content": " Wait, are you a red or white girl first?", "role": "Student" }, { "coach_comment": null, "content": " That cannot be a dealbreaker", "role": "Her" }, { "coach_comment": null, "content": " Unless you drink rose", "role": "Her" }, { "coach_comment": null, "content": " (Gives her phone number)", "role": "Her" }, { "coach_comment": null, "content": " Messaged", "role": "Student" }, { "coach_comment": null, "content": " Hey Anna, it’s Alfie from the thing", "role": "Student" }, { "coach_comment": null, "content": " Don’t worry, not a rosè drinker", "role": "Student" }, { "coach_comment": null, "content": " oh that thing", "role": "Her" }, { "coach_comment": null, "content": " I didn’t think you would be, I bet you’re a red wine drinker though", "role": "Her" }, { "coach_comment": null, "content": " How’s your day been?", "role": "Her" }, { "coach_comment": " This message implies a level of familiarity and closeness between the girl and the student.", "content": "I am a red wine drinker, you know me so well already lol", "role": "assistant" }, { "coach_comment": null, "content": " Day has been great, been at uni, then gym, currently making dinner, you?", "role": "Student" }, { "coach_comment": null, "content": " lol Classy", "role": "Her" }, { "coach_comment": null, "content": " That’s very positive for a Tuesday. What do you do at uni?", "role": "Her" }, { "coach_comment": null, "content": " Just been working, going to to the gym soon", "role": "Her" }, { "coach_comment": null, "content": " I’m a classy guy haha", "role": "Student" }, { "coach_comment": null, "content": " Getting my teaching qualification. What do you do?", "role": "Student" }, { "coach_comment": null, "content": " I’m sure you are 👀", "role": "Her" }, { "coach_comment": null, "content": " Ooh okay, when will you finish? I’m a doctor. Wish I was still at uni 😢", "role": "Her" }, { "coach_comment": " This message seeds the date again after setting it up on Hinge.", "content": "You’ll find out soon enough ;)", "role": "assistant" }, { "coach_comment": null, "content": " finish in july. It’s been a stressful few weeks, can’t wait for the easter holidays lol ", "role": "Student" }, { "coach_comment": " This message is a slight exaggeration but pays her a compliment in a more lighthearted way.", "content": "a doctor? You out here saving lives", "role": "assistant" }, { "coach_comment": null, "content": " When will that be then? 😉 why has it been stressful have you had deadlines? Easter holidays lol I remember those 😭 do you get two weeks off? Haha yes, except when we’re on strike", "role": "Her" }, { "coach_comment": " This is a very simple message that begins arranging the date. ", "content": "Depends, what’s your schedule like?", "role": "assistant" }, { "coach_comment": null, "content": " Deadlines, placement, kids attacking me, yanno the usual stuff. Yeah a couple of weeks but it’s going to be full of essay writing.", "role": "Student" }, { "coach_comment": " This message seeds the date. ", "content": "You’ll have to tell me more about that on our date", "role": "assistant" }, { "coach_comment": null, "content": " Potentially free this weekend, then I have quite a bit of free time next thursday onwards, what about you? Sounds fun, how old are the kids, are they putting you in your place… ah, well i have an exam coming up, maybe we could have a productive time together", "role": "Her" }, { "coach_comment": " This message calls out the fact that the girl is being unclear with her intentions. If this kind of thing is called out, you may find a genuine reason for her apprehension in meeting up or just a scheduling issue that can be overcome. ", "content": "Potentially?", "role": "assistant" }, { "coach_comment": null, "content": " Kids are year 3-6. They try lol but it’s always the small ones you can lift with one finger that act all hard", "role": "Student" }, { "coach_comment": null, "content": " Woman of mystery. When are you free? Well I hope you’re not lifting kids when you’re on placement lol", "role": "Her" }, { "coach_comment": null, "content": " Free maybe saturday & sunday eve this weekend. No lol not about to start wrestling kids ", "role": "Student" }, { "coach_comment": null, "content": " Okay, Thursday is probably best for me but that might be too long for you to wait… I could be tempted by this weekend, busy Friday night and Saturday day currently", "role": "Her" }, { "coach_comment": null, "content": " We could do saturday night", "role": "Student" }, { "coach_comment": null, "content": " Where would you fancy going?", "role": "Her" }, { "coach_comment": " This message baby steps towards the close. You should allow the girl to say yes to each step individually to minimize flaking.", "content": "Ever been to (name of venue)?", "role": "assistant" }, { "coach_comment": null, "content": " Yeah, only sat outside for drinks though", "role": "Her" }, { "coach_comment": null, "content": " it’s nice there, good wine", "role": "Student" }, { "coach_comment": null, "content": " Sounds good to me, could go there or anywhere in town. Do you live in the center? I’m busy until about 6, could probably make it into town for 7", "role": "Her" }, { "coach_comment": null, "content": " Sounds good, shall we say 7:30? Living in Prestwich atm. You?", "role": "Student" }, { "coach_comment": null, "content": " Yeah should be ok! Staylybridge if you know where that is lol", "role": "Her" }, { "coach_comment": null, "content": " Great", "role": "Student" }, { "coach_comment": null, "content": " I know the name, think i played football there a few times", "role": "Student" }, { "coach_comment": null, "content": " I didn’t think you looked like the type to play football 😅", "role": "Her" }, { "coach_comment": null, "content": " You doing anything today?", "role": "Her" }, { "coach_comment": " This sort of message can imply that there is more to you than meets the eye. It can make her more excited to meet you in person.", "content": "I’m full of surprises 😉", "role": "assistant" }, { "coach_comment": null, "content": " Got to the gym this morning but just having a chill day before some very intense essay writing starting monday. You?", "role": "Student" }, { "coach_comment": null, "content": " Ahah, better make the most of this weekend then… so I’m currently at the theater lol it’s on for longer than I expected, can we meet at 8 instead?", "role": "Her" }, { "coach_comment": null, "content": " Nice, you’ll have to tell me about it later. 8 works for me", "role": "Student" }, { "coach_comment": null, "content": " cool, I’ll be getting the train to town, gets in at 7:55, wanna meet somewhere near there?", "role": "Her" }, { "coach_comment": null, "content": " That’s fine, can meet at the station and walk over to the venue", "role": "Student" }, { "coach_comment": null, "content": " see ya soon", "role": "Her" }, { "coach_comment": null, "content": " see you soon", "role": "Student" }, { "coach_comment": null, "content": " off the train now where shall I walk to?", "role": "Her" }, { "coach_comment": null, "content": " Uber dropping me off outside the station in 5 mins", "role": "Student" }, { "coach_comment": null, "content": " okay I’ll wait inside", "role": "Her" }, { "coach_comment": " This is a good message to send to the girl the day after a date to reopen, start conversation and move towards the next date. ", "content": "Hey (her name) last night was fun", "role": "assistant" }, { "coach_comment": null, "content": " Hey (student’s name) yeah i really enjoyed it, even if you did persuade me to let you come back to mine", "role": "Her" }, { "coach_comment": " This message contains some callback humor to the date and suggests meeting up for a second date.", "content": "Not sure I had to persuade you 😉 we should get together again sometime soon", "role": "assistant" }, { "coach_comment": null, "content": " Well I tried to play it cool 👀 we should, maybe over the weekend?", "role": "Her" }, { "coach_comment": " This message moves into the logistics of setting up the date.", "content": "Let’s do it, is there a day that works best for you?", "role": "assistant" }, { "coach_comment": null, "content": " Not the saturday night but pretty much free otherwise, when’s good for you? You said you might be seeing family?", "role": "Her" }, { "coach_comment": null, "content": " Actually I could do the saturday so yeah any time really from thursday onwards", "role": "Her" }, { "coach_comment": null, "content": " Yeah I don’t think I’m going to see family, need to focus on work so don’t want to take 3 days off that. Shall we do friday?", "role": "Student" }, { "coach_comment": null, "content": " Yeah 3 days is a lot to commit lol. Friday is good with me 😊 have you got anything in mind?", "role": "Her" }, { "coach_comment": null, "content": " Great, shall we go for some food", "role": "Student" }, { "coach_comment": null, "content": " Yes please, town again or? Prestwich? Stayleybridge?", "role": "Her" }, { "coach_comment": " This message is a slight tease, implying that she wants to impress the student on their next date. ", "content": "I was going to say town again or is there somewhere you’re dying to show me in Stalybridge? 😉", "role": "assistant" }, { "coach_comment": null, "content": " Well there are many hidden gems, maybe one day 😉 let’s do town", "role": "Her" }, { "coach_comment": null, "content": " How was day one of productivity?", "role": "Her" }, { "coach_comment": null, "content": " I’ll hold you to that 😉 I’ll show you some gems in Prestwich in return. Let’s do town this time then", "role": "Student" }, { "coach_comment": null, "content": " So tell me, are you actually a doctor?", "role": "Her" }, { "coach_comment": null, "content": " I’m in school studying to be one.. Soon enough", "role": "Student" }, { "coach_comment": null, "content": " Is that you’re dream job?", "role": "Her" }, { "coach_comment": null, "content": " It is, what about you’re dream job ?", "role": "Student" }, { "coach_comment": null, "content": " To be a painter in Italy, but that will probably never happen so i’m looking for a graphic design job haha", "role": "Her" }, { "coach_comment": " ", "content": "That is a dream, I could be your muse", "role": "assistant" }, { "coach_comment": null, "content": " hahaha sure you can", "role": "Her" }, { "coach_comment": null, "content": "I’ll expect my first portrait on our date", "role": "assistant" }, { "coach_comment": null, "content": " hahah and when is our first date?", "role": "Her" }, { "coach_comment": null, "content": " When are you typically free?", "role": "Student" }, { "coach_comment": null, "content": " Saturday should work", "role": "Her" }, { "coach_comment": null, "content": " Great, shoot me your number and we’ll sort it out.", "role": "Student" } ]

[ "I bet you use that line on all the cute guys ;)", "Always wanted to travel to italy. Been to parts of Europe, a lot of mexico, want to skydive, and maybe add drinks with a cute brunette called (her name), you?", "We could make perfect travel buddies", " Sounds like the best of both world to me 😏", "We should do Thailand together. We’ll plan it on our first date", "Oh (her name), maybe this won’t work after all lol. What’s your go to drink?" ]

[ { "coach_comment": null, "content": " What’s something on your bucket list?", "role": "Her" }, { "coach_comment": " This is a good message to use if the girl messages first and is particularly good when used on Bumble. It challenges her while also framing you as a cute guy.", "content": "I bet you use that line on all the cute guys ;)", "role": "assistant" }, { "coach_comment": null, "content": " A make or break answer really 😂", "role": "Her" }, { "coach_comment": " Adding her to your bucket list is just a fun way of saying you’re attracted to her and shows intent.", "content": "Always wanted to travel to italy. Been to parts of Europe, a lot of mexico, want to skydive, and maybe add drinks with a cute brunette called (her name), you?", "role": "assistant" }, { "coach_comment": null, "content": " That’s the exact same as me!! I want to skydive but i’m scared haha. I would love to go to italy one day too", "role": "Her" }, { "coach_comment": null, "content": " She is half blonde I'm afraid. Might want to change that on the bucket list", "role": "Her" }, { "coach_comment": " This message implies future projection of potential activities but the ‘could’ means she still has to win you over.", "content": "We could make perfect travel buddies", "role": "assistant" }, { "coach_comment": " This message passes her slight shit test by staying calm and turning it into a compliment. ", "content": " Sounds like the best of both world to me 😏", "role": "assistant" }, { "coach_comment": null, "content": " Ideal plan right there", "role": "Her" }, { "coach_comment": null, "content": " What are the top 3 places you want to visit?", "role": "Her" }, { "coach_comment": null, "content": " Kenya, Thailand, California, Bali. You ?", "role": "Student" }, { "coach_comment": null, "content": " Thailand, Mykonos, Greece, New York, and Australia. Definitely others, but these are my main ones. ", "role": "Her" }, { "coach_comment": " This message begins to seed the idea of a first date. ", "content": "We should do Thailand together. We’ll plan it on our first date", "role": "assistant" }, { "coach_comment": null, "content": " Don’t have to ask me twice to go on vacation haha. So, whens the date?", "role": "Her" }, { "coach_comment": null, "content": " You free friday ?", "role": "Student" }, { "coach_comment": null, "content": " Yes, what do you have in mind?", "role": "Her" }, { "coach_comment": null, "content": " I know a good wine bar near downtown", "role": "Student" }, { "coach_comment": null, "content": " You’re gonna hate me", "role": "Her" }, { "coach_comment": null, "content": " I’m not a big wine girl lol", "role": "Her" }, { "coach_comment": " This message is challenging and puts the student in the buyers frame.", "content": "Oh (her name), maybe this won’t work after all lol. What’s your go to drink?", "role": "assistant" }, { "coach_comment": null, "content": " ahahahaha", "role": "Her" }, { "coach_comment": null, "content": " I apologize", "role": "Her" }, { "coach_comment": null, "content": " I like vodka, rum, gin", "role": "Her" }, { "coach_comment": null, "content": " I’m sure we can find a way through this lol, we should get drinks then", "role": "Student" }, { "coach_comment": null, "content": " Let's do it, here’s my number", "role": "Her" } ]

[ "Well that all depends. Are you the sexually open minded type of girl?", "Only if you say please", "Me bending (her name) over my bed, grabbing a fistful of her hair and.." ]

[ { "coach_comment": null, "content": " I really want to know. The devil emoji is enticing. Is it a dirty thought or something about going to hell, I need to know", "role": "Her" }, { "coach_comment": " This message gets consent from the girl about moving forward with sexualising the conversation. It asks in a challenging way if she is open to talking about sex on the dating app.", "content": "Well that all depends. Are you the sexually open minded type of girl?", "role": "assistant" }, { "coach_comment": null, "content": " I would say so.. Are you the sexually open minded type of guy ?", "role": "Her" }, { "coach_comment": null, "content": " Mhm, glad you’re as well ;)", "role": "Student" }, { "coach_comment": null, "content": " So am I hearing the shower thought?", "role": "Her" }, { "coach_comment": " This message gets consent from the girl about moving forward with sexualising the conversation but it also establishes a dominant frame. ", "content": "Only if you say please", "role": "assistant" }, { "coach_comment": null, "content": " Fucks sake, this better be good", "role": "Her" }, { "coach_comment": null, "content": " Please 💜", "role": "Her" }, { "coach_comment": " The aim of this message is to give her just enough of the sexual fantasy for her to imagine me doing these things to her but also allows her to fill in the blanks if she wants to. It also prompts her to ask for more, allowing you to go deeper into the sexualisation. ", "content": "Me bending (her name) over my bed, grabbing a fistful of her hair and..", "role": "assistant" }, { "coach_comment": null, "content": " You gonna smack her ass while its bent over?", "role": "Her" }, { "coach_comment": null, "content": " Hard", "role": "Her" }, { "coach_comment": null, "content": " Just realized I didn’t say please", "role": "Her" }, { "coach_comment": null, "content": " Sorry", "role": "Her" }, { "coach_comment": null, "content": " Ohh, you’re a bad girl, you’ll be punished on our date now", "role": "Student" }, { "coach_comment": null, "content": " That sounds good, when am I getting spanked then (students name)", "role": "Her" }, { "coach_comment": null, "content": " What’s your schedule like ?", "role": "Student" }, { "coach_comment": null, "content": " I’m free tomorrow, here is my number", "role": "Her" } ]

[ "Sounds like you could use some stress relief” This message is a good segway into asking for the date. Can usually be followed up with “I hear drinks with a handsome, (something else about their physical appearance, hobbies, job) man does wonders for stress", "I’m great, just got home from my brothers birthday, but still managed to get a workout in this morning, looking nice and sharp for our date", "I’m a sucker for girls with lots of tattoos. The more the merrier. No flaws here btw haha", "Absolutely. I could maybe do with a few more tattoos if we are being picky", "Cute, we’ll see when you’re handcuffed to the bed", "i’ll be sure to add handcuffing to tomorrow nights agenda", "You, me, a bottle of wine, laughs, teases, neck kisses. That sort of thing. Vibe and build chemistry", "We can swap out the bottle of wine. That and pulling you close and letting our lips touch, but not kiss", "Think you can handle all that?", "Not cocky, just confident. We will have some fun" ]

[ { "coach_comment": null, "content": " Hey (her name)", "role": "Student" }, { "coach_comment": null, "content": " Hey (student name)", "role": "Her" }, { "coach_comment": null, "content": " How’s your Thursday been treating you ?", "role": "Student" }, { "coach_comment": null, "content": " Not bad, just got home from work, exhausted", "role": "Her" }, { "coach_comment": null, "content": " What about you ?", "role": "Her" }, { "coach_comment": null, "content": " Shit.. what do you do ?", "role": "Student" }, { "coach_comment": " This message is a good segway into asking for the date. Can usually be followed up with “I hear drinks with a handsome, (something else about their physical appearance, hobbies, job) man does wonders for stress", "content": "Sounds like you could use some stress relief” This message is a good segway into asking for the date. Can usually be followed up with “I hear drinks with a handsome, (something else about their physical appearance, hobbies, job) man does wonders for stress", "role": "assistant" }, { "coach_comment": " This message dhv’s while also bringing up the idea for the date.", "content": "I’m great, just got home from my brothers birthday, but still managed to get a workout in this morning, looking nice and sharp for our date", "role": "assistant" }, { "coach_comment": null, "content": " I’m a nurse.", "role": "Her" }, { "coach_comment": null, "content": " The only stress relief tonight is vodka and bed haha", "role": "Her" }, { "coach_comment": null, "content": " Where is home ? Pumping the guns for the bid day ? I assure you i will not be doing the same haha", "role": "Her" }, { "coach_comment": null, "content": " Orange county is home. As long as you pick a cute outfit you should be okay", "role": "Student" }, { "coach_comment": null, "content": " hahaha should be ok ??", "role": "Her" }, { "coach_comment": null, "content": " It’s all good then", "role": "Student" }, { "coach_comment": null, "content": " So tell me a bit about yourself (her name). Any weird tattoos? Kids? Fun Kinks? Crazy hobbies?", "role": "Student" }, { "coach_comment": null, "content": " hmm I always feel like I’m boring answering these types of questions. I work a lot and let loose a little on the weekend. Lots of little tattoos but all of them mean nothing to me", "role": "Her" }, { "coach_comment": null, "content": " Kinks is a great question but definitely one for real life chat", "role": "Her" }, { "coach_comment": null, "content": " What about you ? Musically inclined I see", "role": "Her" }, { "coach_comment": null, "content": " I like tattoos, are you at the point where you stopped counting ? I have 6.", "role": "Student" }, { "coach_comment": null, "content": " That’s fair, we can discuss kinks on Wednesday. Ya, I play guitar, love reading, writing, and exercising. ", "role": "Student" }, { "coach_comment": null, "content": " I think 9-10 but stopped counting. People like you make me feel guilty, creative, healthy, and all. What are your flaws?", "role": "Her" }, { "coach_comment": " This message gives the girl some validation while being curt and succinct. ", "content": "I’m a sucker for girls with lots of tattoos. The more the merrier. No flaws here btw haha", "role": "assistant" }, { "coach_comment": null, "content": " Ya, lots of random doodles, forget I have them honestly. Completely flawless and perfect huh?", "role": "Her" }, { "coach_comment": " This message is slightly sarcastic but works because it gives false modesty. ", "content": "Absolutely. I could maybe do with a few more tattoos if we are being picky", "role": "assistant" }, { "coach_comment": null, "content": " A few more for yourself or a few more on a girl?", "role": "Her" }, { "coach_comment": null, "content": " Just re-read, and got it", "role": "Her" }, { "coach_comment": null, "content": " I meant me, but don’t let that stop you from getting more haha", "role": "Student" }, { "coach_comment": null, "content": " Oh trust me, you couldn’t stop me from doing anything", "role": "Her" }, { "coach_comment": " This message is bold but establishes a sexual frame and asserts dominance.", "content": "Cute, we’ll see when you’re handcuffed to the bed", "role": "assistant" }, { "coach_comment": null, "content": " Cute, haha fuck off you’re 24. You’re cute", "role": "Her" }, { "coach_comment": null, "content": " But ya, handcuffing sounds right up my alley", "role": "Her" }, { "coach_comment": null, "content": "i’ll be sure to add handcuffing to tomorrow nights agenda", "role": "assistant" }, { "coach_comment": null, "content": " Oh what else is on the agenda?", "role": "Her" }, { "coach_comment": " This is a good message to send whenever a girl asks what you will be doing on the date. It shows the girl that you are emotionally mature as you want to vibe and build chemistry before anything happens but there is a sexual undertone and there is no ambiguity about it being a date when you mention teases and neck kisses.", "content": "You, me, a bottle of wine, laughs, teases, neck kisses. That sort of thing. Vibe and build chemistry", "role": "assistant" }, { "coach_comment": null, "content": " That sounds very nice", "role": "Her" }, { "coach_comment": null, "content": " Tell me a bit more", "role": "Her" }, { "coach_comment": null, "content": " Oh and I don’t drink wine or whisky, anything else is fine", "role": "Her" }, { "coach_comment": " This message builds the sexual tension.", "content": "We can swap out the bottle of wine. That and pulling you close and letting our lips touch, but not kiss", "role": "assistant" }, { "coach_comment": null, "content": " Gave me butterflies in my stomach. Can’t wait to see what else you’ve got", "role": "Her" }, { "coach_comment": " Slightly challenging towards the girl but also gets consent from her.", "content": "Think you can handle all that?", "role": "assistant" }, { "coach_comment": null, "content": " I enjoy your cockiness", "role": "Her" }, { "coach_comment": null, "content": " How do you know you can handle me ?", "role": "Her" }, { "coach_comment": " This message is short and succinct and gets across the student’s level of confidence. ", "content": "Not cocky, just confident. We will have some fun", "role": "assistant" }, { "coach_comment": null, "content": " haha i’m sure we will, but I actually like cocky so keep that in mind", "role": "Her" }, { "coach_comment": null, "content": " I’ll keep that in mind for tomorrow, say 7:00?", "role": "Student" }, { "coach_comment": null, "content": " Sounds good to me", "role": "Her" } ]

[ "How do you think my hair got so curly", "Hmm, maybe you’re a medical marvel", "I’m sure we can carry out some of that research on our date", "Of course, I don’t want to see any funny stuff from you", "Seems we’ve found our perfect matches", "Can’t believe you forget your plants names, bet they feel super neglected lol", "You like wine btw?", "What’s your go to?", "That’s okay, I’m not a big drinker either. We can still laugh, flirt and build chemistry while being sober", "No worries, I’ve been good. Busy but that’s how I like it", "How have you been?", "Sounds like you could use some stress relief” This message is a good way to move towards a date. Women usually agree with this statement so a good follow up to this would be “I hear drinks with a handsome, (something else about their physical appearance, hobbies, job) man does wonders for stress", "I hear drinks with a handsome curly-haired man does wonders for stress” This message is a good reply to “sounds like you could use some stress relief", "Researched, peer reviewed and widely accepted by the scientific community", "We should split a bottle sometime soon” This message moves forward with the idea of a date and meeting up in person. The phrase ‘sometime soon’ is good to use as it is ambiguous and open to interpretation. It is usually better than suggesting a specific day to meet up as that particular day may not work for her. The phrase ‘sometime soon’ allows for you to open the dialogue of when the date will happen and should often precede the message “What’s your schedule like?", "No worries, I’m sure our potential romance can stand the test of time", "Shoot me your number and we’ll sort it", "Potential romance*", "Messaged" ]

[ { "coach_comment": null, "content": " Do you eat the crust on the pizza?", "role": "Her" }, { "coach_comment": " This is a lighthearted response. It’s a common story that eating the crusts gives you curly hair and the student had curly hair. He could have answered the question more logically but this was more fun and opened up another route of conversation as she also had curly hair.", "content": "How do you think my hair got so curly", "role": "assistant" }, { "coach_comment": null, "content": " You have a point, however my hair isn’t curly and I rarely eat crust", "role": "Her" }, { "coach_comment": " This is a funny exaggeration of the joke because everyone knows that eating the crusts doesn’t make your hair curly but this message goes along with the joke that was established in the previous message.", "content": "Hmm, maybe you’re a medical marvel", "role": "assistant" }, { "coach_comment": null, "content": " In that I survived so long while being this dumb, absolutely! But we definitely need more research on the crust curl situation", "role": "Her" }, { "coach_comment": " It is good to briefly mention the idea of a date when talking to a girl on a dating app as it is the only reason to be on there but so many men have conversations that are too long and lead nowhere.", "content": "I’m sure we can carry out some of that research on our date", "role": "assistant" }, { "coach_comment": null, "content": " Strictly for data gathering purposes, correct?", "role": "Her" }, { "coach_comment": " This message turns around the idea that it is usually the man who wants to have sex as soon as possible and puts the girl into that frame instead, implying that she just wants to have sex. It can also be powerful, as the man, to deny sex up front as it is usually the girl who will do this.", "content": "Of course, I don’t want to see any funny stuff from you", "role": "assistant" }, { "coach_comment": null, "content": " I can promise to put on my most serious face", "role": "Her" }, { "coach_comment": null, "content": " The issue is the thought of that cracks me up", "role": "Her" }, { "coach_comment": null, "content": " Data gathering or going on a date", "role": "Student" }, { "coach_comment": null, "content": " Me being serious", "role": "Her" }, { "coach_comment": null, "content": " Glad you don’t take yourself too seriously", "role": "Student" }, { "coach_comment": null, "content": " appreciating the utter silliness of everything makes everything a lil better, for sure", "role": "Her" }, { "coach_comment": null, "content": " Couldn’t avoid it anyway tbh", "role": "Her" }, { "coach_comment": null, "content": " Couldn’t agree more", "role": "Student" }, { "coach_comment": null, "content": " So give me the basics. Any kids? Tattoos? Fun kinks? Crazy hobbies?", "role": "Student" }, { "coach_comment": null, "content": " No kids, no tattoos although I do wish I could be cannot, kinks are pretty chill as far as kinks go, and unluckily enough I could say the same about my hobbies!", "role": "Her" }, { "coach_comment": null, "content": " Not really selling myself here, I can see that 😂", "role": "Her" }, { "coach_comment": null, "content": " Also very sorry, I’m at work so reply times may be random, I apologise", "role": "Her" }, { "coach_comment": null, "content": " But do give me your breakdown", "role": "Her" }, { "coach_comment": null, "content": " What’s stopping you getting tattoos?", "role": "Student" }, { "coach_comment": null, "content": " No kids, 6 tatts, kinks the usual spanking, hair pulling, choking etc, and I play guitar, read, write, gym and run", "role": "Student" }, { "coach_comment": null, "content": " I studied acting and still somehow not given up on the idea, so it’s more or less for employability. We’ll see.", "role": "Her" }, { "coach_comment": null, "content": " What’s the direction those go though?", "role": "Her" }, { "coach_comment": null, "content": " The kinks, that is 😂", "role": "Her" }, { "coach_comment": null, "content": " I respect you keeping the dream alive, I’m in a similar boat with music", "role": "Student" }, { "coach_comment": null, "content": " They’re interchangeable, did you have a preference?", "role": "Student" }, { "coach_comment": null, "content": " May they come true", "role": "Her" }, { "coach_comment": null, "content": " I mean, you know, I’m as much of a switch as the next guy but that’s cause we’re adults, however I do prefer the other person or people to lead ngl", "role": "Her" }, { "coach_comment": null, "content": " I don’t mind switching from time to time but I definitely prefer taking the lead", "role": "Student" }, { "coach_comment": null, "content": " Oh lucky us", "role": "Her" }, { "coach_comment": " This message can be good when you find something you have in common with a girl and imply that you are perfect for each other. ", "content": "Seems we’ve found our perfect matches", "role": "assistant" }, { "coach_comment": null, "content": " If only it were that easy huh", "role": "Her" }, { "coach_comment": null, "content": " Had a good day?", "role": "Her" }, { "coach_comment": null, "content": " Great thanks, had a mock interview in uni, went for a run, repotted a couple of plants and cooked dinner, you?", "role": "Student" }, { "coach_comment": null, "content": " Sounds fab! Oddly enough, I’ve also repotted some plants because I had the day off, but chilled most of it", "role": "Her" }, { "coach_comment": null, "content": " Sounds good, always enjoy meeting people who also like plants. How many you got?", "role": "Student" }, { "coach_comment": null, "content": " Never actually counted them", "role": "Her" }, { "coach_comment": null, "content": " Atm I’m struggling to not have them pass out cause of the cold", "role": "Her" }, { "coach_comment": null, "content": " but wbu, how many leafy bois", "role": "Her" }, { "coach_comment": null, "content": " It’s a hard but rewarding life being a plant parent. I’ve got 10 atm just got a Venus fly trap for my birthday last weekend ", "role": "Student" }, { "coach_comment": null, "content": " Omg did you name it", "role": "Her" }, { "coach_comment": null, "content": " Do you name all your plants?", "role": "Student" }, { "coach_comment": null, "content": " My friends and flatmate name them for me but we immediately forget the names 😂", "role": "Her" }, { "coach_comment": null, "content": " There’s a little chopstick that says Felix, that’s the only reliable one, and that chopstick is half buried in the soil of one of the pots. The issue is the pot has two plants in it, no one knows who tf Felix is", "role": "Her" }, { "coach_comment": " The conversation felt like it was getting too nice/ bland/ boring so this tease creates a small negative spike in her emotions, making the conversation a little more interesting.", "content": "Can’t believe you forget your plants names, bet they feel super neglected lol", "role": "assistant" }, { "coach_comment": " The conversation had been going on for a while at this point and, generally, you want to move the girl over to texting/ Whatsapp/ iMessage as soon as possible. This message is a good start to the process leading up to ask her on a date. ", "content": "You like wine btw?", "role": "assistant" }, { "coach_comment": null, "content": " 😢", "role": "Her" }, { "coach_comment": null, "content": " Not my go to but I don’t dislike it", "role": "Her" }, { "coach_comment": " When you get this response to the wine close it is simpler to ask her what her favorite drink is. Don’t try to force wine on her and don’t overcomplicate things. ", "content": "What’s your go to?", "role": "assistant" }, { "coach_comment": null, "content": " Ruuuuuum", "role": "Her" }, { "coach_comment": null, "content": " I don’t really drink all that much though ", "role": "Her" }, { "coach_comment": " The aim of this message is to establish the idea of a date and create a man-to-woman frame. ", "content": "That’s okay, I’m not a big drinker either. We can still laugh, flirt and build chemistry while being sober", "role": "assistant" }, { "coach_comment": null, "content": " Sorry for falling off the face of the earth, went home and it was mad", "role": "Her" }, { "coach_comment": null, "content": " I hope you’ve been ok though", "role": "Her" }, { "coach_comment": " Since the girl hadn’t responded in a while, the aim of this message is to show that you are unaffected by her absence with a slight display of higher value that you have other things going on in your life.", "content": "No worries, I’ve been good. Busy but that’s how I like it", "role": "assistant" }, { "coach_comment": null, "content": "How have you been?", "role": "assistant" }, { "coach_comment": null, "content": " I’m very glad", "role": "Her" }, { "coach_comment": null, "content": " I wanna say I rested a bit while at home but that’s a big ol lie", "role": "Her" }, { "coach_comment": null, "content": " I feel alright though, and got a few days off this week so I’m not being thrown straight back into the deep end of insanity and work and all", "role": "Her" }, { "coach_comment": null, "content": " What have you been up to?", "role": "Her" }, { "coach_comment": null, "content": " Fair enough lol where’s home? I’ve had a couple of gigs, started my 2nd placement at uni so that’s been pretty full on and still managed to have a social life as well", "role": "Student" }, { "coach_comment": null, "content": " Home is Bucharest, in Romania. Sounds like you’ve been doing super well! I’m glad", "role": "Her" }, { "coach_comment": null, "content": " wow how come you’re in manchester?", "role": "Student" }, { "coach_comment": null, "content": " Yeah, I’ll tell you in more detail over drinks", "role": "Student" }, { "coach_comment": null, "content": " Thinking hard about that I see", "role": "Student" }, { "coach_comment": null, "content": " It’s been absolutely hysterical, sorry", "role": "Her" }, { "coach_comment": null, "content": " good hysterical?", "role": "Student" }, { "coach_comment": null, "content": " Busy and too much kinda hysterical", "role": "Her" }, { "coach_comment": " This message is a good way to move towards a date. Women usually agree with this statement so a good follow up to this would be “I hear drinks with a handsome, (something else about their physical appearance, hobbies, job) man does wonders for stress", "content": "Sounds like you could use some stress relief” This message is a good way to move towards a date. Women usually agree with this statement so a good follow up to this would be “I hear drinks with a handsome, (something else about their physical appearance, hobbies, job) man does wonders for stress", "role": "assistant" }, { "coach_comment": null, "content": " You’re not wrong", "role": "Her" }, { "coach_comment": " This message is a good reply to “sounds like you could use some stress relief", "content": "I hear drinks with a handsome curly-haired man does wonders for stress” This message is a good reply to “sounds like you could use some stress relief", "role": "assistant" }, { "coach_comment": null, "content": " is this method peer-reviewed", "role": "Her" }, { "coach_comment": null, "content": " Academia approved", "role": "Her" }, { "coach_comment": null, "content": " Rated on tripadvisor?", "role": "Her" }, { "coach_comment": " This message continues her joke.", "content": "Researched, peer reviewed and widely accepted by the scientific community", "role": "assistant" }, { "coach_comment": null, "content": " I’ll have to take your word for it, i suppose", "role": "Her" }, { "coach_comment": null, "content": " You’re a rum girl if I remember correctly?", "role": "Student" }, { "coach_comment": null, "content": " Am indeed", "role": "Her" }, { "coach_comment": " This message moves forward with the idea of a date and meeting up in person. The phrase ‘sometime soon’ is good to use as it is ambiguous and open to interpretation. It is usually better than suggesting a specific day to meet up as that particular day may not work for her. The phrase ‘sometime soon’ allows for you to open the dialogue of when the date will happen and should often precede the message “What’s your schedule like?", "content": "We should split a bottle sometime soon” This message moves forward with the idea of a date and meeting up in person. The phrase ‘sometime soon’ is good to use as it is ambiguous and open to interpretation. It is usually better than suggesting a specific day to meet up as that particular day may not work for her. The phrase ‘sometime soon’ allows for you to open the dialogue of when the date will happen and should often precede the message “What’s your schedule like?", "role": "assistant" }, { "coach_comment": null, "content": " Most definitely, the only issue is I’m ont free for the next week or so", "role": "Her" }, { "coach_comment": " This message can come across as corny but is funny most of the time. It shows the girl that you aren’t overly eager to meet up and you have patience. ", "content": "No worries, I’m sure our potential romance can stand the test of time", "role": "assistant" }, { "coach_comment": " It is usually best to move a girl off the dating app and get her number.", "content": "Shoot me your number and we’ll sort it", "role": "assistant" }, { "coach_comment": null, "content": " Romance HAH", "role": "Her" }, { "coach_comment": " This message shows that you are cool, collected and not sold on her yet by drawing attention to the fact that your previous message talked about potential romance, not romance.", "content": "Potential romance*", "role": "assistant" }, { "coach_comment": null, "content": " Awful 😂", "role": "Her" }, { "coach_comment": null, "content": " (phone number)", "role": "Her" }, { "coach_comment": " It can be useful to send this message on the dating app after messaging her number. Sometimes texts don’t go through, get lost among others or she exclusively uses WhatsApp when you sent her an iMessage. This message just lets her know you are still interested and that you have followed up after her giving you her number.", "content": "Messaged", "role": "assistant" } ]

[ "I’ve given you a follow but I’m not on there much. Shoot me your number as well" ]

[ { "coach_comment": null, "content": " You look like my future ex wife 😏", "role": "Student" }, { "coach_comment": null, "content": " You look like you know how to show a woman a good time ", "role": "Her" }, { "coach_comment": null, "content": " As an artist, it’s always seemed right that I marry a musician 🤔 you can be my muse", "role": "Her" }, { "coach_comment": null, "content": " Until we have an expensive divorce and there’s fights over who gets to keep the nicely glazed ceramic plant pots", "role": "Her" }, { "coach_comment": null, "content": " But until that time comes, how’s it going (student’s name)?", "role": "Her" }, { "coach_comment": null, "content": " I definitely enjoy showing women a good time. Love the idea of us being each others muses, it was meant to be", "role": "Student" }, { "coach_comment": null, "content": " I’m great heading to the gym then got some last minute christmas prep to do before I go away tomorrow. You?", "role": "Student" }, { "coach_comment": null, "content": " Got to appreciate a man of musical talent I’m fantastic with a pencil or a paintbrush but the most I could ever play on a guitar was smoke on the water", "role": "Her" }, { "coach_comment": null, "content": " Ooh nice, where are you going away? And good thank you been adding some finishing touches to the ceramics I’ve made for Xmas prezzies, going out for a festive meal with the pals tonight which should be nice", "role": "Her" }, { "coach_comment": null, "content": " I can teach you a little more on our date haha got an air bnb in Rhosneiger til boxing day. Sounds fun, what colour did you paint mine? 😉", "role": "Student" }, { "coach_comment": null, "content": " Sounds good to me, I’ll trade you in life drawing classes, ah nice I was in an Airbnb in Aberystwyth last weekend was a yurt with a woodfire hot tub was class, haha you don’t strike me as the kind of man who would want a ceramic fairy house incense burner but maybe I’m wrong", "role": "Her" }, { "coach_comment": null, "content": " Isn’t life drawing the one where you pose nude? 😉 Don’t be so quick to judge Sammy ", "role": "Student" }, { "coach_comment": null, "content": " It certainly is. I’m intrigued, what's the name of your band? Feel I should check out your sound ", "role": "Her" }, { "coach_comment": null, "content": " Sounds like a great first date idea", "role": "Student" }, { "coach_comment": null, "content": " We’re called (name of student’s band)", "role": "Student" }, { "coach_comment": null, "content": " Are you on spotify?", "role": "Her" }, { "coach_comment": null, "content": " We are", "role": "Student" }, { "coach_comment": null, "content": " Where can I see your work since you’re having a nosy at mine?", "role": "Student" }, { "coach_comment": null, "content": " I don’t think you can add photos on here but can add my insta will send some - (her insta)", "role": "Her" }, { "coach_comment": null, "content": "I’ve given you a follow but I’m not on there much. Shoot me your number as well", "role": "assistant" }, { "coach_comment": null, "content": " Sure do you have WhatsApp? (Girl give number)", "role": "Her" }, { "coach_comment": null, "content": " Messaged", "role": "Student" } ]

[ "hey (girl’s name), you recovered from your crushing defeat yet 😉", "We could find out but I was thinking drinks for our next date", "What’s your schedule look like this week?", "Let’s do 7:24 then", "Awesome, 7:24 at (name of venue) then", "Hey (her name), you picked a cute outfit for our date? 😉", "Need help choosing or you gonna surprise me?", "Keeping the mystery alive 😏" ]

[ { "coach_comment": " This message works as it connects you two in a shared experience. It is also good because it is teasing her about her loss without being too harsh or rude.", "content": "hey (girl’s name), you recovered from your crushing defeat yet 😉", "role": "assistant" }, { "coach_comment": null, "content": " I’ve recovered from losing, but throwing the ball behind me… still recovering from that one 😂", "role": "Her" }, { "coach_comment": null, "content": " They say three times is the charm for a reason, the odds are on your side…", "role": "Student" }, { "coach_comment": null, "content": " Are you saying the next time I play, I’m going to win???", "role": "Her" }, { "coach_comment": " This message works here as, to keep things interesting, it’s usually best to vary the type of dates you take a girl on. It would have been a little weird if they had gone bowling again. ", "content": "We could find out but I was thinking drinks for our next date", "role": "assistant" }, { "coach_comment": null, "content": " As much as I enjoyed losing to you in bowling, drinks would be a good second date 😉", "role": "Her" }, { "coach_comment": " The first date went very well so there is no need to do lots of talking/ courting between the first and second date. ", "content": "What’s your schedule look like this week?", "role": "assistant" }, { "coach_comment": null, "content": " Depending on my work schedule, I generally am free most weekdays after 6:30", "role": "Her" }, { "coach_comment": null, "content": " What about you?", "role": "Her" }, { "coach_comment": null, "content": " I could work with Tuesday around 8pm, how’s that?", "role": "Student" }, { "coach_comment": null, "content": " You wanna do 8pm again? Haha", "role": "Her" }, { "coach_comment": null, "content": " You got a point, we would be missing the end of happy hour", "role": "Student" }, { "coach_comment": null, "content": " Right haha so maybe a little earlier", "role": "Her" }, { "coach_comment": " This message is so specific when arranging the time to be a lighthearted tease. ", "content": "Let’s do 7:24 then", "role": "assistant" }, { "coach_comment": null, "content": " Very particular, but works for me 😂", "role": "Her" }, { "coach_comment": " This message establishes the overall plan for the date.", "content": "Awesome, 7:24 at (name of venue) then", "role": "assistant" }, { "coach_comment": null, "content": " See you then haha", "role": "Her" }, { "coach_comment": " You don’t want to set up the date, even a second date, and then not talk the the girl at all before you meet. You need to keep the lead warm. A good way to do this is ask if she picked a cute outfit for their date. ", "content": "Hey (her name), you picked a cute outfit for our date? 😉", "role": "assistant" }, { "coach_comment": null, "content": " I definitely have a couple of options ☺️", "role": "Her" }, { "coach_comment": " This message creates the idea that she wants/ is trying to impress him by what she wears. ", "content": "Need help choosing or you gonna surprise me?", "role": "assistant" }, { "coach_comment": null, "content": " I think I’m gonna go with surprise", "role": "Her" }, { "coach_comment": " This message creates a flirty tone like she is hiding something explicit from him. It also creates the role play of them being a long married couple who are trying to keep the mystery alive.", "content": "Keeping the mystery alive 😏", "role": "assistant" }, { "coach_comment": null, "content": " Oh definitely 😉", "role": "Her" }, { "coach_comment": null, "content": " I’ll be there in twenty to get a table, lmk when you arrive.", "role": "Student" }, { "coach_comment": null, "content": " Okay! I got off work a little late so I might be a couple minutes behind, but I’m on my way", "role": "Her" } ]

[ "I’m sure we can make Iowa more fun 😏", "alright I’ll give that to you.. But this is what I’m thinking.. You, me, a bottle of wine, laughs, teases, neck kisses, vibing and building chemistry", "You don’t seem like the type who’s attracted to shy guys", "You seem like a confident girl in general. You have a nice smile btw. You probably intimidate a lot of guys because of your looks which I imagine gets frustrating because deep down you’re actually quite submissive but only for the right guy", "You like wine?” This message is great to use when the vibe in the conversation is good and it is time to move towards setting up the date. Girls usually like wine and, if they don’t you can follow up with “what’s your preferred drink?”. This message should usually come before saying “we should split a bottle sometime soon”. This message can be edited to use something other than wine depending on what fits the conversation. For example, “you like bowling?”, “you like vodka?” or “you like ice cream?", "How’s moscato, white wine?", "We should split a bottle sometime soon” This message moves forward with the idea of a date and meeting up in person. The phrase ‘sometime soon’ is good to use as it is ambiguous and open to interpretation. It is usually better than suggesting a specific day to meet up as that particular day may not work for her. The phrase ‘sometime soon’ allows for you to open the dialogue of when the date will happen and should often precede the message “What’s your schedule like?", "I’m sure we’ll make up for that on our date 😉 I’m free Sunday or Monday , you?", "What would you like to know?", "It’s the most efficient way to move through the water, get your mind out of the gutter 😉", "That doesn’t worry me 😉" ]

[ { "coach_comment": null, "content": " Do you happen to need a new gym partner? 😅 🫣", "role": "Her" }, { "coach_comment": null, "content": " Idk… do you think you can keep up?", "role": "Student" }, { "coach_comment": null, "content": " Possibly 😬 😬", "role": "Her" }, { "coach_comment": null, "content": " Before I let you spot me give me the basics. Any kids? Tattoos? Fun kinks? Crazy Hobbies?", "role": "Student" }, { "coach_comment": null, "content": " No kids, but I have a dog who is basically my child. Yes tattoos, w another one scheduled in a couple of weeks. And all i do is work bc Iowa is boring 🙃 hbu?", "role": "Her" }, { "coach_comment": " This message works here because she liked his photo and sent the opening message so there is already some sexual attraction from the girl. However, the message is ambiguous and can be perceived as sexual from the girl or related to some kind of activity. This is a good message to use to hint at the idea of a date. ", "content": "I’m sure we can make Iowa more fun 😏", "role": "assistant" }, { "coach_comment": null, "content": " you think so?", "role": "Her" }, { "coach_comment": null, "content": " got any ideas?", "role": "Her" }, { "coach_comment": null, "content": " was wondering why I ain’t see you anymore 😂", "role": "Her" }, { "coach_comment": null, "content": " wait… hold up.. You’ve seen me at the gym and didn’t come talk to me", "role": "Student" }, { "coach_comment": null, "content": " Yeaaa i been seen you 😂 1. I get too nervous 2. I ain’t wanna bother you 3. I ain’t know if you single or what so i just assume", "role": "Her" }, { "coach_comment": " This message is good to use when talking about what will happen on the date. It shows the girl that you are emotionally mature as you want to vibe and build chemistry before anything happens but there is a sexual undertone and there is no ambiguity about it being a date when you mention teases and neck kisses.", "content": "alright I’ll give that to you.. But this is what I’m thinking.. You, me, a bottle of wine, laughs, teases, neck kisses, vibing and building chemistry", "role": "assistant" }, { "coach_comment": null, "content": " I mean that doesn’t sound too bad 🫣 😉", "role": "Her" }, { "coach_comment": null, "content": " Hey it’s (student’s name) the cute light skin 😏", "role": "Student" }, { "coach_comment": null, "content": " oh he’s confident too huhhh", "role": "Her" }, { "coach_comment": null, "content": "You don’t seem like the type who’s attracted to shy guys", "role": "assistant" }, { "coach_comment": null, "content": " i mean you probably aren’t wrong 🤷🏻‍♀️", "role": "Her" }, { "coach_comment": null, "content": " what kind of girl do you think i am tho", "role": "Her" }, { "coach_comment": null, "content": "You seem like a confident girl in general. You have a nice smile btw. You probably intimidate a lot of guys because of your looks which I imagine gets frustrating because deep down you’re actually quite submissive but only for the right guy", "role": "assistant" }, { "coach_comment": null, "content": " ok you’re pretty good, i’ll give it to you", "role": "Her" }, { "coach_comment": " This message is great to use when the vibe in the conversation is good and it is time to move towards setting up the date. Girls usually like wine and, if they don’t you can follow up with “what’s your preferred drink?", "content": "You like wine?” This message is great to use when the vibe in the conversation is good and it is time to move towards setting up the date. Girls usually like wine and, if they don’t you can follow up with “what’s your preferred drink?”. This message should usually come before saying “we should split a bottle sometime soon”. This message can be edited to use something other than wine depending on what fits the conversation. For example, “you like bowling?”, “you like vodka?” or “you like ice cream?", "role": "assistant" }, { "coach_comment": null, "content": " depends on the kind", "role": "Her" }, { "coach_comment": null, "content": "How’s moscato, white wine?", "role": "assistant" }, { "coach_comment": null, "content": " not bad. Is that your favorite?", "role": "Her" }, { "coach_comment": null, "content": " Yes ma’am… risata moscato.. The blue bottle", "role": "Student" }, { "coach_comment": null, "content": " yea that ain’t bad", "role": "Her" }, { "coach_comment": null, "content": " i usually drink stella rose", "role": "Her" }, { "coach_comment": " This message moves forward with the idea of a date and meeting up in person. The phrase ‘sometime soon’ is good to use as it is ambiguous and open to interpretation. It is usually better than suggesting a specific day to meet up as that particular day may not work for her. The phrase ‘sometime soon’ allows for you to open the dialogue of when the date will happen and should often precede the message “What’s your schedule like?", "content": "We should split a bottle sometime soon” This message moves forward with the idea of a date and meeting up in person. The phrase ‘sometime soon’ is good to use as it is ambiguous and open to interpretation. It is usually better than suggesting a specific day to meet up as that particular day may not work for her. The phrase ‘sometime soon’ allows for you to open the dialogue of when the date will happen and should often precede the message “What’s your schedule like?", "role": "assistant" }, { "coach_comment": null, "content": " I’m down 😌", "role": "Her" }, { "coach_comment": null, "content": " What’s your schedule like", "role": "Her" }, { "coach_comment": null, "content": " except i am a lil salty i noticed you at the gym but you ain’t notice me sooo", "role": "Her" }, { "coach_comment": " This message brings up the idea of their impending date. This is often a good message to use when something small but negative has happened such as not noticing her in the gym. The implication is that they will make up for the missed conversation they could have had in the gym during their date. ", "content": "I’m sure we’ll make up for that on our date 😉 I’m free Sunday or Monday , you?", "role": "assistant" }, { "coach_comment": null, "content": " whatever you sayyy and i work this weekend but might be able to make monday work ", "role": "Her" }, { "coach_comment": null, "content": " Alright Monday.. You..me.. And a bottle of wine", "role": "Student" }, { "coach_comment": null, "content": " sounds fun 😉", "role": "Her" }, { "coach_comment": null, "content": " tell me about you tho", "role": "Her" }, { "coach_comment": " This briefly puts the burden of leading conversation on her which is okay to do sometimes ", "content": "What would you like to know?", "role": "assistant" }, { "coach_comment": null, "content": " everything", "role": "Her" }, { "coach_comment": null, "content": " Of course.. For you I’d even be willing to give you private lessons 😏", "role": "Student" }, { "coach_comment": null, "content": " oooo really 😇", "role": "Her" }, { "coach_comment": null, "content": " we can practice in my pool", "role": "Her" }, { "coach_comment": null, "content": " Sounds like a plan.. Ima teach you all the strokes.. My favorite is breaststroke ", "role": "Student" }, { "coach_comment": null, "content": " Interestinggg why’s that", "role": "Her" }, { "coach_comment": " This message takes the idea that he is thinking about sex with his breaststroke message and frames the girl as the one who is thinking about sex, stealing the frame in the student’s favor. ", "content": "It’s the most efficient way to move through the water, get your mind out of the gutter 😉", "role": "assistant" }, { "coach_comment": null, "content": " My mind wasn’t in the gutter i ain’t got no breasts to stroke anyways 😂 😉", "role": "Her" }, { "coach_comment": " Her previous message about having no breasts could be an insecurity she has so this message lets her know, in a way that is calm, cool and succinct.", "content": "That doesn’t worry me 😉", "role": "assistant" }, { "coach_comment": null, "content": " good 🫣", "role": "Her" } ]

[ "well I’m sure you’re still cute ;) but with all these hair changes I hope you’re not going through some kind of mental breakdown haha", "I’ll be sure to add beach picnic to our dates agenda", "You have exceptional taste, shoot me your number for romance arrangement purposes" ]

[ { "coach_comment": null, "content": " hiii", "role": "Her" }, { "coach_comment": null, "content": " Cute, dyed hair, and nose piercings, what’s the catch?", "role": "Student" }, { "coach_comment": null, "content": " I just chopped my hair super short like 2 hours ago and it looks really bad lol, that’s the catch ", "role": "Her" }, { "coach_comment": " This message works as it is a joke/ tease based on the idea that women change their hair when they are going through a tough time. ", "content": "well I’m sure you’re still cute ;) but with all these hair changes I hope you’re not going through some kind of mental breakdown haha", "role": "assistant" }, { "coach_comment": null, "content": " nah it’s just fun lol", "role": "Her" }, { "coach_comment": null, "content": " i get bored of how it looks n do something else", "role": "Her" }, { "coach_comment": null, "content": " What would you say is your favorite scene in cars?", "role": "Student" }, { "coach_comment": null, "content": " sally and lightening cruise, tractor tipping, the peterbilt moment, when sh-boom by the chords plays, doc whipping around willy’s butte, and when lightning pushes the king to the finish line", "role": "Her" }, { "coach_comment": null, "content": " the scene i can remember is when lightning did a pitstop, guido did it really fast and chick hick crew drop their grills. ", "role": "Student" }, { "coach_comment": null, "content": " thats a great scene too", "role": "Her" }, { "coach_comment": null, "content": " so tell me what do you think makes your chicken tender and mozzarella spot the best? ", "role": "Student" }, { "coach_comment": null, "content": " it’s just simply delicious. Plus it’s on the beach and it’s the only yorktown pub on this planet", "role": "Her" }, { "coach_comment": null, "content": " getting food and having a beach picnic is always a great first date ", "role": "Student" }, { "coach_comment": null, "content": " absolutely", "role": "Her" }, { "coach_comment": " This message is a good way to seed the date if you and the girl are talking about things you both like.", "content": "I’ll be sure to add beach picnic to our dates agenda", "role": "assistant" }, { "coach_comment": null, "content": " although beach picnic right now doesn’t sound very fun, tooooo cold", "role": "Her" }, { "coach_comment": null, "content": " that’s not a worry jackets exist, or sit in the car with the heater on, music playing, people watching and the ocean right in front of us", "role": "Student" }, { "coach_comment": null, "content": " THAT’S MY FAVORITE", "role": "Her" }, { "coach_comment": null, "content": " eating in the car from the beachfront parking lot", "role": "Her" }, { "coach_comment": null, "content": " what music do you prefer whilst sitting in the car?", "role": "Student" }, { "coach_comment": null, "content": " Depends on the mood", "role": "Her" }, { "coach_comment": null, "content": " 80% of the time want $uicideboy$ playing", "role": "Her" }, { "coach_comment": null, "content": " I have a 22 hour playlist mainly $uicideboy$, night lovell and pouya ", "role": "Student" }, { "coach_comment": null, "content": " but other times I want rock, indie, alt, my party playlist, 2010 pop songs, or country ", "role": "Her" }, { "coach_comment": null, "content": " ok marry me then ", "role": "Her" }, { "coach_comment": null, "content": " Bruh", "role": "Student" }, { "coach_comment": null, "content": " We share the exact same music", "role": "Student" }, { "coach_comment": null, "content": " it’s meant to be, plus you’re in the navy, favorite branch by far", "role": "Her" }, { "coach_comment": " At this point in the interaction there is enough positive back and forth between the girl and the student that he can go for the number close without getting rejected. Also saying she has exceptional taste when talking about the student himself shows a good level of cocky humor. ", "content": "You have exceptional taste, shoot me your number for romance arrangement purposes", "role": "assistant" }, { "coach_comment": null, "content": " (phone number)", "role": "Her" }, { "coach_comment": null, "content": " Sounds good to me", "role": "Her" } ]

[ "You look like my future ex wife 😏", "We’re getting a prenup and I’m keeping the dog", "He’s a labrador, how on earth would he have fit in the microwave?? This is why it never worked between us (her name)", "If you play your cards right I might let you touch the hair on our date 😉", "Let’s start with wine, laughs, teases, neck kisses, vibing, building chemistry and go from there 😉", "Only if there’s chemistry, I’m not that easy 😉", "I know a couple of good wine places in town if you’re down", "Mic check..1..2" ]

[ { "coach_comment": " This is a playful way to start conversation. It can also lead into fun role plays about you and the girl being married, getting divorced and the reasons behind the divorce. ", "content": "You look like my future ex wife 😏", "role": "assistant" }, { "coach_comment": null, "content": " hahahahahah oh cute", "role": "Her" }, { "coach_comment": null, "content": " Can’t wait to get divorced 😏", "role": "Her" }, { "coach_comment": " This message continues the joke from the opener while teasing her by implying that the student will win the breakup.", "content": "We’re getting a prenup and I’m keeping the dog", "role": "assistant" }, { "coach_comment": null, "content": " Nooooo I want the dog 🥺", "role": "Her" }, { "coach_comment": null, "content": " Can we have shared custody of it", "role": "Her" }, { "coach_comment": null, "content": " No, I’ve seen you kick him after a tough day at work. I won’t allow it", "role": "Student" }, { "coach_comment": null, "content": " That was only 1 time 🙁", "role": "Her" }, { "coach_comment": null, "content": " Saw you try and put him in the microwave once ", "role": "Her" }, { "coach_comment": " This message works as a continuation of the joke while also framing the student as the one who initiated the break up, putting him in the position of power.", "content": "He’s a labrador, how on earth would he have fit in the microwave?? This is why it never worked between us (her name)", "role": "assistant" }, { "coach_comment": null, "content": " Hahahahaha i don’t know you’re the one trying to fit him in there!!", "role": "Her" }, { "coach_comment": null, "content": " yeah I’m glad we got divorced", "role": "Her" }, { "coach_comment": null, "content": " You look cool", "role": "Her" }, { "coach_comment": null, "content": " I enjoy your hair", "role": "Her" }, { "coach_comment": null, "content": " Probably doesn't make up for the fact that you kick dogs but it’s still cool", "role": "Her" }, { "coach_comment": null, "content": " I’m going to read between the lines and take the compliment there lol", "role": "Student" }, { "coach_comment": " This message is a great way to move the interaction forward/ transition the conversation to setting up the date.", "content": "If you play your cards right I might let you touch the hair on our date 😉", "role": "assistant" }, { "coach_comment": null, "content": " hahahahahha", "role": "Her" }, { "coach_comment": null, "content": " Yeah there’s a compliment in there somewhere", "role": "Her" }, { "coach_comment": null, "content": " and ooooo how exciting", "role": "Her" }, { "coach_comment": null, "content": " How do I play my cards right 🥺 🥺", "role": "Her" }, { "coach_comment": " This message works well to paint a picture of what her experience on the date will be like. You appear emotionally mature, confident and fun.", "content": "Let’s start with wine, laughs, teases, neck kisses, vibing, building chemistry and go from there 😉", "role": "assistant" }, { "coach_comment": null, "content": " Hahahahahahaha oh cute", "role": "Her" }, { "coach_comment": null, "content": " Where should we go for wine xxxx", "role": "Her" }, { "coach_comment": null, "content": " So we go for wine and have a laugh, tease each other, kiss each other’s necks, vibe, build chemistry", "role": "Her" }, { "coach_comment": null, "content": " and THEN I can touch your hair ?", "role": "Her" }, { "coach_comment": null, "content": " Sounds like a good deal to me xxxx", "role": "Her" }, { "coach_comment": null, "content": " Where are you based?", "role": "Student" }, { "coach_comment": " This message comes off high value as you are showing that you are selective with women and it gives her the chance to qualify herself.", "content": "Only if there’s chemistry, I’m not that easy 😉", "role": "assistant" }, { "coach_comment": null, "content": " I live in (location)", "role": "Her" }, { "coach_comment": null, "content": " Where do you live?", "role": "Her" }, { "coach_comment": null, "content": " And omg yeah don’t worry I’ll bring my tes tube x", "role": "Her" }, { "coach_comment": " This message is a nice way to baby step towards the close. It’s not specific and chilled.", "content": "I know a couple of good wine places in town if you’re down", "role": "assistant" }, { "coach_comment": null, "content": " Oh cute !!", "role": "Her" }, { "coach_comment": null, "content": " Yeah I’m always down for some wine", "role": "Her" }, { "coach_comment": null, "content": " Where’s your favourite 🥺", "role": "Her" }, { "coach_comment": null, "content": " There’s (venue) in (location) and (venue) that’s good", "role": "Student" }, { "coach_comment": null, "content": " Oh cool (venue) is cute I like it in there", "role": "Her" }, { "coach_comment": null, "content": " I’ve never been to the other place though!!", "role": "Her" }, { "coach_comment": null, "content": " Let’s do (venue) this time and (venue) next. Shoot me your number and we’ll get it sorted", "role": "Student" }, { "coach_comment": " This is a good message to use if the girl ghosts or hasn’t replied for a couple of days. It is a humorous way to get her attention without seeming needy.", "content": "Mic check..1..2", "role": "assistant" }, { "coach_comment": null, "content": " Omg cute sounds like a plan", "role": "Her" }, { "coach_comment": null, "content": " I’m in", "role": "Her" }, { "coach_comment": null, "content": " Sorry I’m so bad on here - (phone number) here’s my number x", "role": "Her" }, { "coach_comment": null, "content": " messaged ", "role": "Student" } ]

[ "You look like my future ex wife 😏", "You know the kids won’t leave the dog behind. This is why it never worked between us", "Shame, the make up sex would have been phenomenal", "Unless you disagree", "You don’t remember the time I dragged you across the bed by your ankles and kissed you passionately, sucking on your nipples nice and slow, until you became nice and wet. You begged me to shove it in but instead I mercilessly teased you with my cock. Finally, when you couldn’t take it anymore, I slid inside you. Your back arched, my hand pulling your hair, your legs collapsed shaking from pleasure", "That depends on how persuasive you are over wine. Shoot me your number and we’ll sort it out" ]

[ { "coach_comment": " This is a playful way to start conversation. It can also lead into fun role plays about you and the girl being married, getting divorced and the reasons behind the divorce. ", "content": "You look like my future ex wife 😏", "role": "assistant" }, { "coach_comment": null, "content": " Ahhh I thought I recognised you 😉", "role": "Her" }, { "coach_comment": null, "content": " We’re getting a prenup and I’m keeping the dog though", "role": "Student" }, { "coach_comment": null, "content": " No you can have full custody of the kids that you begged me for, I’m keeping the dog and the waffle maker", "role": "Her" }, { "coach_comment": " This message works as a continuation of the joke while also framing the student as the one who initiated the break up, putting him in the position of power.", "content": "You know the kids won’t leave the dog behind. This is why it never worked between us", "role": "assistant" }, { "coach_comment": null, "content": " It never worked between us because I caught you flirting with that McDonald’s waitress. I will see you in court if you don’t give up the dog", "role": "Her" }, { "coach_comment": null, "content": "I told you there was nothing between us, I kept going back to that particular McDonald’s because they do the best big macs", "role": "Student" }, { "coach_comment": null, "content": " I saw you! You can have her anyway, the dog and I have left the country. You’ll never find us", "role": "Her" }, { "coach_comment": " This message works here as it continues the joke but opens up a sexual dialogue.", "content": "Shame, the make up sex would have been phenomenal", "role": "assistant" }, { "coach_comment": " This is a good message to send if you have proposed something and the girl hasn’t responded. The message implies you’re entitled and expecting a response from her without getting needy or butthurt.", "content": "Unless you disagree", "role": "assistant" }, { "coach_comment": null, "content": " Not at all but you’ll have to remind me how good the sex was before", "role": "Her" }, { "coach_comment": " This message works well here because it shows that you understand sex from the female perspective. The descriptive nature of the message shows that you understand that women are turned on by having their mind stimulated rather than their eyes. That it is the build up and teasing, not just putting your dick in and thrusting hard and fast. This will set you apart from most guys on dating apps.", "content": "You don’t remember the time I dragged you across the bed by your ankles and kissed you passionately, sucking on your nipples nice and slow, until you became nice and wet. You begged me to shove it in but instead I mercilessly teased you with my cock. Finally, when you couldn’t take it anymore, I slid inside you. Your back arched, my hand pulling your hair, your legs collapsed shaking from pleasure", "role": "assistant" }, { "coach_comment": null, "content": " You never fucked me like that! Must have been one of your many side things", "role": "Her" }, { "coach_comment": null, "content": " We need to sort this out ", "role": "Student" }, { "coach_comment": null, "content": " Well then fuck me like that and we won’t need to go through this divorce! Think of the children", "role": "Her" }, { "coach_comment": null, "content": " Gladly 😏", "role": "Student" }, { "coach_comment": null, "content": " Remind me, you like wine?", "role": "Student" }, { "coach_comment": null, "content": " Do you even know me? I love wine", "role": "Her" }, { "coach_comment": null, "content": " Good, we should split a bottle sometime soon", "role": "Student" }, { "coach_comment": null, "content": " I think we should too, do I still get the dog", "role": "Her" }, { "coach_comment": " This message works here because it implies that he is still not sold on her and she has to qualify herself on the date but it still moves the interaction forward. Once the girl is compliant and it’s clear she likes you, there is no need for more messaging, just go for the number or organize a date.", "content": "That depends on how persuasive you are over wine. Shoot me your number and we’ll sort it out", "role": "assistant" }, { "coach_comment": null, "content": " Oh you should know I’m very persuasive over wine. I always get you to do what I want ", "role": "Her" }, { "coach_comment": null, "content": " (phone number)", "role": "Her" }, { "coach_comment": null, "content": " messaged", "role": "Student" } ]

[ "Read my mind, sounds like a great first date", "Definitely some beautiful spots I can show you here", "Yeah been there a few times, beautiful place. Maybe that can be our second date", "We should probably organize the first one before that though", "Do you like wine?" ]

[ { "coach_comment": null, "content": " Whiskey tim", "role": "Her" }, { "coach_comment": null, "content": " Film, blanket, cup of tea", "role": "Student" }, { "coach_comment": null, "content": " Whiskey wouldn’t hurt either ", "role": "Student" }, { "coach_comment": null, "content": " What about cup of tea in the afternoon, whiskey at night?", "role": "Her" }, { "coach_comment": " The aim of this message is to seed the date. It is too early in the interaction to go for the close but it’s good to seed the date.", "content": "Read my mind, sounds like a great first date", "role": "assistant" }, { "coach_comment": null, "content": " Let’s check when it will be rain haha", "role": "Her" }, { "coach_comment": null, "content": " in the meantime give me the basics. Any kids? Tattoos? Fun kinks? Crazy hobbies?", "role": "Student" }, { "coach_comment": null, "content": " I’m new to the area, just arrived for a month. I’m a long distance trail runner before I moved here. I don’t have any crazy hobbies, but I love to have a crazy life", "role": "Her" }, { "coach_comment": null, "content": " What about you? Any interesting stories about you?", "role": "Her" }, { "coach_comment": null, "content": " What’s a long journey trail runner?", "role": "Student" }, { "coach_comment": null, "content": " no kids, 6 tatts, and i play guitar in a band, read, write, gym and run too", "role": "Student" }, { "coach_comment": null, "content": " I usually train for the long journey trail race, above 50km", "role": "Her" }, { "coach_comment": null, "content": " Nice profile", "role": "Her" }, { "coach_comment": null, "content": " That’s pretty impressive. How’d you get into that?", "role": "Student" }, { "coach_comment": null, "content": " I tried some shorter races and joined some running clubs, then found that I love long distance, so I started to find some races to practice with my coach back home. But now I can only practice by myself, still finding the way back to training too.", "role": "Her" }, { "coach_comment": null, "content": " I definitely prefer the longer distances but I’ve only gone as far as a half marathon so far. I’ve been meaning to join a running club too actually", "role": "Student" }, { "coach_comment": null, "content": " I love long distance. Put myself totally in the nature from sunrise to sunset. That’s incredible!", "role": "Her" }, { "coach_comment": null, "content": " Wondering if I could try this here", "role": "Her" }, { "coach_comment": " This message works well as the girl and student have connected on a hobby but it is now time to start moving towards closing and suggesting they do that hobby together is a great way to do that.", "content": "Definitely some beautiful spots I can show you here", "role": "assistant" }, { "coach_comment": null, "content": " I just found the Peak District is not far from the city. Have you been there?", "role": "Her" }, { "coach_comment": " This message works well here as it shows a sense of cocky humor that you are already assuming there will be a second date before you’ve had the first. It uses callback humor because they have already talked about the first date to remind her that is an unfinished thread but also to seed the idea of a second date.", "content": "Yeah been there a few times, beautiful place. Maybe that can be our second date", "role": "assistant" }, { "coach_comment": null, "content": " I would be very happy about that", "role": "Her" }, { "coach_comment": " This message brings the conversation back on track to organizing the first date.", "content": "We should probably organize the first one before that though", "role": "assistant" }, { "coach_comment": " This is a great way to start the closing sequence and you can set up the date from here.", "content": "Do you like wine?", "role": "assistant" }, { "coach_comment": null, "content": " Yes, and black coffee without sugar and milk", "role": "Her" }, { "coach_comment": null, "content": " You? Coffee or tea?", "role": "Her" }, { "coach_comment": null, "content": "", "role": "assistant" }, { "coach_comment": null, "content": " yea. We can have a wine and you can tell me more about any of your favorite wine too", "role": "Her" }, { "coach_comment": null, "content": " Sounds good. Shoot me your number and we’ll organize it.", "role": "Student" }, { "coach_comment": null, "content": " (phone number)", "role": "Her" } ]

[ "That is the dream, I can be your muse", "You can do my portrait on our date", "When are you typically free?" ]

[ { "coach_comment": null, "content": " You look like my future ex wife 😏", "role": "Student" }, { "coach_comment": null, "content": " I will be if you don’t grow your hair long like your pic ", "role": "Her" }, { "coach_comment": null, "content": " You’ve nothing to worry about there", "role": "Student" }, { "coach_comment": null, "content": " How’s your Sunday treating you?", "role": "Student" }, { "coach_comment": null, "content": " Oh that’s good", "role": "Her" }, { "coach_comment": null, "content": " I’m currently sat in a retail park cause I forgot Aldi doesn’t open till 11", "role": "Her" }, { "coach_comment": null, "content": " This may be rock bottom", "role": "Her" }, { "coach_comment": null, "content": " How about you?", "role": "Her" }, { "coach_comment": null, "content": " That’s pretty devastating, I can’t imagine the pain that must have caused you", "role": "Student" }, { "coach_comment": null, "content": " I’m just on my way to the gym", "role": "Student" }, { "coach_comment": null, "content": "Ah nice I went this morning, first time in a new gym was so scary 😭", "role": "Her" }, { "coach_comment": null, "content": " I joined pure gym, spent 12 mins in there. Walked out and signed up to JD gym straight after", "role": "Her" }, { "coach_comment": null, "content": " Wow why was that?", "role": "Student" }, { "coach_comment": null, "content": " Just so cramped and busy, I could touch the ceilings if I jumped and that freaks me out", "role": "Her" }, { "coach_comment": null, "content": " Sounds a little claustrophobic, I take it JD is like a warehouse then lol", "role": "Student" }, { "coach_comment": null, "content": " JD is huge", "role": "Her" }, { "coach_comment": null, "content": " How was your day?", "role": "Her" }, { "coach_comment": null, "content": " It’s been pretty chill, gym this morning, then did some uni work and just watched a film. You?", "role": "Student" }, { "coach_comment": null, "content": " Pretty much the same but instead of uni work been applying for jobs", "role": "Her" }, { "coach_comment": null, "content": " What do you do for uni?", "role": "Her" }, { "coach_comment": null, "content": " What’s the dream job? I’m doing a PGCE in primary with special needs", "role": "Student" }, { "coach_comment": null, "content": " Ideally would be a painter living in Italy but don’t think that will ever happen, i’m looking for a graphic design job but there’s so many applicants per job it’s impossible", "role": "Her" }, { "coach_comment": null, "content": " And that’s so cool! My brother is special needs", "role": "Her" }, { "coach_comment": " So far the conversation has been platonic with very little flirting or intent shown. This message adds a more playful vibe to the interaction that has been missing until now. It also implies that the student is someone who would inspire art. That is open to interpretation by the girl but usually means he is very physically attractive.", "content": "That is the dream, I can be your muse", "role": "assistant" }, { "coach_comment": null, "content": " Oh right, how old is he?", "role": "Student" }, { "coach_comment": null, "content": " Hahahah sure you can", "role": "Her" }, { "coach_comment": null, "content": " He’s 15 and has cerebral palsy", "role": "Her" }, { "coach_comment": null, "content": " Funniest person ever, has no filter", "role": "Her" }, { "coach_comment": " This message is great for moving the interaction forward. It prevents the risk of the conversation going nowhere. Using something they have talked about on the dating app and they should explore it together on their date is a very easy way to get onto the topic of the in-person meet up.", "content": "You can do my portrait on our date", "role": "assistant" }, { "coach_comment": null, "content": " He’s a little older than I work with but I definitely know a few like him 😂", "role": "Student" }, { "coach_comment": null, "content": " 😂 When should our date be?", "role": "Her" }, { "coach_comment": null, "content": " Hahaha yeah he really is something, he once told a woman she stank in the shop and I immediately had to remove him. I was mortified ", "role": "Her" }, { "coach_comment": " This works well as he is asking her when she is free instead of suggesting days on which they can meet up. This reduces the risk of her flaking on the date.", "content": "When are you typically free?", "role": "assistant" }, { "coach_comment": null, "content": " I know that feeling lol sometimes it’s the hardest thing in the world to keep a straight face", "role": "Student" }, { "coach_comment": null, "content": " Sorry i fell asleep so early last night, I am typically free any evening, so whenever suits you", "role": "Her" }, { "coach_comment": null, "content": " You free Saturday? It is usually better to suggest two different days to meet up but this student could only do saturday.", "role": "Student" }, { "coach_comment": null, "content": " Yeah should be!", "role": "Her" }, { "coach_comment": null, "content": " Great shoot me your number and we’ll get it sorted", "role": "Student" }, { "coach_comment": null, "content": " Cool it’s (phone number)", "role": "Her" }, { "coach_comment": null, "content": " messaged ", "role": "Student" }, { "coach_comment": null, "content": " Hey (her name) it’s (student’s name) from the thing", "role": "Student" }, { "coach_comment": null, "content": " From the thing 😭 😭 😭", "role": "Her" }, { "coach_comment": null, "content": " lol how’s 8pm saturday?", "role": "Student" }, { "coach_comment": null, "content": " Yeah good with me, where should we go? Are you in the city?", "role": "Her" }, { "coach_comment": null, "content": " Ever heard of (venue)?", "role": "Student" }, { "coach_comment": null, "content": " Yeah it’s cool there", "role": "Her" }, { "coach_comment": null, "content": " Let’s meet there at 8 and see where the night takes us", "role": "Student" }, { "coach_comment": null, "content": " Stunning 🙂", "role": "Her" }, { "coach_comment": null, "content": " Hey (her name), all good for tonight? This is an important message because it is always necessary to check in with the girl before the date. If you set up the date a few days before it is supposed to happen, don’t talk too much to the point where you are constantly texting but it is important to check in with her so she doesn’t assume you are ghosting or flaking on her.", "role": "Student" }, { "coach_comment": null, "content": " Hey, yeah all good 🙂", "role": "Her" }, { "coach_comment": null, "content": " Great, let me know when you’re on your way", "role": "Student" }, { "coach_comment": null, "content": " I will, shall I meet you outside", "role": "Her" }, { "coach_comment": null, "content": " Yeah sounds good", "role": "Student" } ]

[ "Nice, I like a girl who looks after her physical health. Where are you from originally?", "Ah so you have that sexy Spanish accent then 😏", "A flower on your ass, I like that lol you’ll gave to teach me more Spanish on our romantic date", "Hey, it (student’s name) from the thing", "Last night was fun” It is important, if you want to see the girl again, that you check in with her and get a second date set up as soon as possible. Another option for this message is “Last night was 🔥” or “I had a good time last night" ]

[ { "coach_comment": null, "content": " Hey, another runner? Love that", "role": "Student" }, { "coach_comment": null, "content": " Yeah", "role": "Her" }, { "coach_comment": null, "content": " 5k personal record?", "role": "Her" }, { "coach_comment": null, "content": " I only chat to athletes", "role": "Her" }, { "coach_comment": null, "content": " hope u understand", "role": "Her" }, { "coach_comment": null, "content": " 19:44 you?", "role": "Student" }, { "coach_comment": null, "content": " Omggggg", "role": "Her" }, { "coach_comment": null, "content": " That’s impressive", "role": "Her" }, { "coach_comment": null, "content": " 24:35", "role": "Her" }, { "coach_comment": null, "content": " Thanks haha yours isn’t a bad time either. Done anything further than 5k?", "role": "Student" }, { "coach_comment": null, "content": " Gracias gracias", "role": "Her" }, { "coach_comment": null, "content": " Every now and then I’d do a 10k", "role": "Her" }, { "coach_comment": " This message is a very simple way to switch up the conversation if one thread is going dry. It works well on girls who look ethnically diverse or ambiguous. It works on this girl as she had a Spanish flag in her bio and she spoke Spanish during the interaction. ", "content": "Nice, I like a girl who looks after her physical health. Where are you from originally?", "role": "assistant" }, { "coach_comment": null, "content": " Oh yeh :) I’m always active", "role": "Her" }, { "coach_comment": null, "content": " I’m from Barcelona", "role": "Her" }, { "coach_comment": null, "content": " Moved here 4 years ago", "role": "Her" }, { "coach_comment": null, "content": " Wbu? Where is your name from?", "role": "Her" }, { "coach_comment": " This message works well on almost anyone. It can be used to compliment someone on their accent or can be used to tease someone who has a typically unsexy accent. ", "content": "Ah so you have that sexy Spanish accent then 😏", "role": "assistant" }, { "coach_comment": null, "content": " Haha I’m not going to say no to that", "role": "Her" }, { "coach_comment": null, "content": " Glad to hear that ;) so give me the basics. Any kids? Tattoos? Fun kinks? Crazy hobbies?", "role": "Student" }, { "coach_comment": null, "content": " No kids that I know of, neither tattoos", "role": "Her" }, { "coach_comment": null, "content": " I’ve been tempted to get one tattoo on my bum though", "role": "Her" }, { "coach_comment": null, "content": " In Spanish we’ve got a saying ‘tener una flor en el culo’ to say someone is very lucky. It means ‘you’ve got a flower on the ass’ and I consider myself a very lucky person", "role": "Her" }, { "coach_comment": null, "content": " Ermm dancing most of the time, running a bit too, going climbing every now and then and gym when possible. I can’t stand still", "role": "Her" }, { "coach_comment": null, "content": " And as a hobby I’ll say that I love people watching, I get too involved hahaha", "role": "Her" }, { "coach_comment": null, "content": " Wbu?", "role": "Her" }, { "coach_comment": null, "content": "A flower on your ass, I like that lol you’ll gave to teach me more Spanish on our romantic date", "role": "assistant" }, { "coach_comment": null, "content": " Haha happy to teach you Spanish. Do you know the basics?", "role": "Her" }, { "coach_comment": null, "content": " Did it for a couple of years in high school and downloaded an app in lockdown lol", "role": "Student" }, { "coach_comment": null, "content": " Do you like wine btw?", "role": "Student" }, { "coach_comment": null, "content": " Sure, I’m free tomorrow evening if you wanna go for wine", "role": "Her" }, { "coach_comment": null, "content": " Tomorrow works for me. Shoot me your number and we’ll sort it out", "role": "Student" }, { "coach_comment": null, "content": " (phone number)", "role": "Her" }, { "coach_comment": null, "content": " Texted", "role": "Student" }, { "coach_comment": " This is a good first message to send someone if you got their number from a dating app. It is funny and a good way to start conversation.", "content": "Hey, it (student’s name) from the thing", "role": "assistant" }, { "coach_comment": null, "content": " Hey, 7pm at (venue)? It’s a new wine bar I’ve been wanting to try 🙂", "role": "Her" }, { "coach_comment": null, "content": " Sounds good to me. Are we okay to push back to 8:300?", "role": "Student" }, { "coach_comment": null, "content": " Yep all good", "role": "Her" }, { "coach_comment": null, "content": " Great see you then", "role": "Student" }, { "coach_comment": " It is important, if you want to see the girl again, that you check in with her and get a second date set up as soon as possible. Another option for this message is “Last night was 🔥", "content": "Last night was fun” It is important, if you want to see the girl again, that you check in with her and get a second date set up as soon as possible. Another option for this message is “Last night was 🔥” or “I had a good time last night", "role": "assistant" }, { "coach_comment": null, "content": " Agreed x", "role": "Her" }, { "coach_comment": null, "content": " We should get together again sometime soon", "role": "Student" }, { "coach_comment": null, "content": " Si, did you have anything in mind?", "role": "Her" } ]

[ "We must have similarly bad taste", "Had the same thing happen to me last week. Our date will be better though", "Positive. Define silly", "I definitely don’t take things too seriously, hoping you don’t either", "We should test this out in person" ]

[ { "coach_comment": null, "content": " You look like my future ex wife 😏", "role": "Student" }, { "coach_comment": null, "content": " How strange I was thinking you look like my next future mistake 👀", "role": "Her" }, { "coach_comment": " This message works here as it builds on the joke from the previous messages. It also uses the ‘we frame’ which allows the girl to imagine them together or having something in common.", "content": "We must have similarly bad taste", "role": "assistant" }, { "coach_comment": null, "content": " Great minds think alike and all of that", "role": "Her" }, { "coach_comment": null, "content": " Exactly, how’s your Friday treating you?", "role": "Student" }, { "coach_comment": null, "content": " Well Alfred I’ve not long got in from a couple of drinks, I’ve had worse fridays, what about yourself? ", "role": "Her" }, { "coach_comment": null, "content": " Alfred? Getting familiar fast 😏 my Friday was great, went out with some friends for St Patrick’s. Was that the end of your night?", "role": "Student" }, { "coach_comment": null, "content": " Absolutely, do you like Alfred? Hahaha I like calling people different versions of their name. Oooo nice where did you all go? Are you feeling fragile today then? it was, well I actually went on a date but we didn’t vibe so it lasted an hour and a half 👀", "role": "Her" }, { "coach_comment": null, "content": " No one calls me Alfred but I don’t hate it. Not too bad tbh, I’m one of those annoying people that doesn’t get hungover.", "role": "Student" }, { "coach_comment": " This message does a few things. First, it shows that you date women regularly and are selective with whom you pursue. Second, it shows that you are unaffected by the fact that she goes on dates with other men and not the jealous/ butthurt type. Third, it seeds the idea of a date and the two of you meeting up in person. The vibe has been good, there has been some light teasing and she is sending long paragraphs which shows her level of investment is high so it was a good time to begin seeding the date.", "content": "Had the same thing happen to me last week. Our date will be better though", "role": "assistant" }, { "coach_comment": null, "content": " I like it, what time did you get in last night? Was it late? Oh god yep I don’t know how you people exist, do you drink loads as well?", "role": "Her" }, { "coach_comment": null, "content": " Nightmare, yes was a bit awkward. I was just waffling on to make it less so 🤣 will it now? Are you sure about that?", "role": "Her" }, { "coach_comment": null, "content": " Are you a little bit silly or no?", "role": "Her" }, { "coach_comment": " This message works here as she asked too many questions to answer and the conversation still be easy to follow. This message cuts out a lot of the sidetracks it would be easy to go down. It is short, succinct and communicates confidence as he is ‘positive’ their date will go well. ", "content": "Positive. Define silly", "role": "assistant" }, { "coach_comment": null, "content": " You know like funny, a bit weird don’t take things too seriously kind of thing? I’ve said it and it’s hard to define but I know what I mean 👀 🙄", "role": "Her" }, { "coach_comment": " This message indicates that you are selective in who you spend time with, which is a high value trait.", "content": "I definitely don’t take things too seriously, hoping you don’t either", "role": "assistant" }, { "coach_comment": null, "content": " That’s good news, no i don’t either", "role": "Her" }, { "coach_comment": " The aim of this message is to begin moving towards the number close. The vibe has been good so far, there has been some light flirting, she has qualified herself and she has been sending long messages which shows she is invested so it is time to begin babystepping towards the close.", "content": "We should test this out in person", "role": "assistant" }, { "coach_comment": null, "content": " We should indeed. Why waste time", "role": "Her" }, { "coach_comment": null, "content": " Exactly. You free tonight?", "role": "Student" }, { "coach_comment": null, "content": " Hmmm that’s very tempting, what time?", "role": "Her" }, { "coach_comment": null, "content": " I’m seeing a friend’s band tonight but could meet after, say 9/9:30?", "role": "Student" }, { "coach_comment": null, "content": " What and go for a few drinks? I’m thinking about it I’m tempted hahaha need to go in the shower and get ready… 🙄", "role": "Her" }, { "coach_comment": null, "content": " Yeah we’ll go for a few drinks in town", "role": "Student" }, { "coach_comment": null, "content": " You know why not ok, you’ve twisted my arm", "role": "Her" }, { "coach_comment": null, "content": " Shoot me your number and we’ll sort it", "role": "Student" }, { "coach_comment": null, "content": " (phone number)", "role": "Her" }, { "coach_comment": null, "content": " texted", "role": "Student" } ]

[ "Smooth (her name) 😉 I guess there’s only one way to find out", "Sounds good, what do you do for work? I’m on day 2 of an intense couple of weeks of essay writing. Managed to get to the gym this morning though", "I’ll be the judge of that 😉 you like wine?", "Oh maybe this won’t work after all (her name) 😉" ]

[ { "coach_comment": null, "content": " Hey I like your style (her name) 👌", "role": "Student" }, { "coach_comment": null, "content": " Hey! Thank you, I like yours too!", "role": "Her" }, { "coach_comment": null, "content": " I wonder how well our styles would mix", "role": "Student" }, { "coach_comment": null, "content": " I think they’d mix quite well together ;)", "role": "Her" }, { "coach_comment": " The aim of this message is to hint at the in-person meet up without explicitly talking about it. It would be too early in the interaction for that. They need to get to know each other a little more first.", "content": "Smooth (her name) 😉 I guess there’s only one way to find out", "role": "assistant" }, { "coach_comment": null, "content": " What can I say 💁🏼‍♀️", "role": "Her" }, { "coach_comment": null, "content": " I guess there is", "role": "Her" }, { "coach_comment": null, "content": " How’s your Tuesday treating you?", "role": "Student" }, { "coach_comment": null, "content": " Fairly chilled so far! Heading to work soon though :( how about you?", "role": "Her" }, { "coach_comment": " When a girl asks about your day or what you have been doing, it is always good to throw some DHV’s in there. This can be anything from working hard, exercising, doing a hobby that sounds cool or you enjoy.", "content": "Sounds good, what do you do for work? I’m on day 2 of an intense couple of weeks of essay writing. Managed to get to the gym this morning though", "role": "assistant" }, { "coach_comment": null, "content": " I work in a clinic and then also do photography part time. Oh nice, are you at uni?", "role": "Her" }, { "coach_comment": null, "content": " Productive morning by the sounds of it", "role": "Her" }, { "coach_comment": null, "content": " Was going to say you looked too arty to only work in a clinic. What’s your favorite thing to take photos of? I am at uni", "role": "Student" }, { "coach_comment": null, "content": " Haha why thank you! I do a lot of fashion photography or weddings", "role": "Her" }, { "coach_comment": null, "content": " Oo nice what do you study? Are you in your final year?", "role": "Her" }, { "coach_comment": null, "content": " That makes sense, I’m definitely getting fashionista vibes from you", "role": "Student" }, { "coach_comment": null, "content": " Doing a teaching qualification specializing in special needs", "role": "Student" }, { "coach_comment": null, "content": " I do try hahaha", "role": "Her" }, { "coach_comment": null, "content": " Oh wow. That’s amazing!", "role": "Her" }, { "coach_comment": null, "content": " Are you enjoying it?", "role": "Her" }, { "coach_comment": null, "content": " I am, it’s challenging and the kids can be little shits sometimes but they often end up being your favorite lol", "role": "Student" }, { "coach_comment": null, "content": " So give me the basics. Any kids? Tattoos? Fun kinks? Crazy hobbies?", "role": "Student" }, { "coach_comment": null, "content": " Oh I can imagine! Must be so rewarding though, it’s the same with the clinic. It’s challenging but it’s always worth it", "role": "Her" }, { "coach_comment": null, "content": " Hahaha no children, I have a few tattoos", "role": "Her" }, { "coach_comment": null, "content": " I play guitar and piano poorly", "role": "Her" }, { "coach_comment": null, "content": " How about you?", "role": "Her" }, { "coach_comment": null, "content": " Exactly, what do you do at the clinic?", "role": "Student" }, { "coach_comment": null, "content": " You play guitar? That’s a green flag lol We should have a jam sometime soon This is a very simple method of seeding the date. The concept is to find something you have in common with the girl and suggest that you do it together.", "role": "Student" }, { "coach_comment": null, "content": " I manage mainly but it’s a lot of sitting in scan rooms and filling out reports, going through what’s seen on the scan", "role": "Her" }, { "coach_comment": null, "content": " I do hahaha but I’m not the best hahaha We should!! That would be fun", "role": "Her" }, { "coach_comment": " This message puts the student into a position of dominance as he is confidently better at something than she is so he will judge her on the day of the date. This forces the girl to qualify herself. This also begins the closing sequence that leads to getting the girl’s number. ", "content": "I’ll be the judge of that 😉 you like wine?", "role": "assistant" }, { "coach_comment": null, "content": " Hahaha that’s fair enough ;) and I do yet!", "role": "Her" }, { "coach_comment": null, "content": " We should split a bottle sometime soon", "role": "Student" }, { "coach_comment": null, "content": " What kind of wine are we talking", "role": "Her" }, { "coach_comment": null, "content": " Depends, you a red or white kind of girl?", "role": "Student" }, { "coach_comment": null, "content": " White for sure hahaha", "role": "Her" }, { "coach_comment": " This is a great way to flirt. By pushing her away a little you make her want to chase you. It is usually a technique that women use on men but it is very effective the other way around.", "content": "Oh maybe this won’t work after all (her name) 😉", "role": "assistant" }, { "coach_comment": null, "content": " Don’t break my heart 😉", "role": "Her" }, { "coach_comment": null, "content": " I’m sure we can find a way to make it work 😉 you got WhatsApp?", "role": "Student" }, { "coach_comment": null, "content": " I hope so 😉 and yeah, my number is (her number)", "role": "Her" }, { "coach_comment": null, "content": " Messaged", "role": "Student" } ]

[ "What’s that?”. With his two messages he's pedestalize her by complimenting her twice. It’s okay to compliment a girl and it was good to say “you seem like", "Careful, compliments like that might get yo a romantic date 😉", "a white girl who doesn’t like coffee? You’re full of surprises” or “A physics major who doesn’t like coffee? You do surprise me", "cute/ handsome. Tomato/ tomato 😉 How’s your weekend?" ]

[ { "coach_comment": null, "content": " Hey soo.. I guess we’re dating now..?", "role": "Student" }, { "coach_comment": null, "content": " I don’t think that’s how it works lol 😅", "role": "Her" }, { "coach_comment": null, "content": " I should probably figure out if you’re crazy or trouble or something first right?", "role": "Student" }, { "coach_comment": null, "content": " I’m not crazy or trouble, I’m nice 😊", "role": "Her" }, { "coach_comment": null, "content": " But you know what I think 🤔", "role": "Her" }, { "coach_comment": null, "content": " In that case looks like we might get along after all ", "role": "Student" }, { "coach_comment": ". With his two messages he's pedestalize her by complimenting her twice. It’s okay to compliment a girl and it was good to say “you seem like", "content": "What’s that?”. With his two messages he's pedestalize her by complimenting her twice. It’s okay to compliment a girl and it was good to say “you seem like", "role": "assistant" }, { "coach_comment": null, "content": " You damn right I am 😅😅but I think you cute", "role": "Her" }, { "coach_comment": " This way you get to seed the date without her having to commit to anything. After all, the purpose of being on a dating app is to meet up with the people you match with. This is important to keep in mind when texting.", "content": "Careful, compliments like that might get yo a romantic date 😉", "role": "assistant" }, { "coach_comment": null, "content": " You look like a girl who loves coffee", "role": "Student" }, { "coach_comment": null, "content": " Nope 👎", "role": "Her" }, { "coach_comment": null, "content": " I…sir…dislike coffee very much", "role": "Her" }, { "coach_comment": null, "content": " And who said you were handsome 😏", "role": "Her" }, { "coach_comment": null, "content": " 😅😅", "role": "Her" }, { "coach_comment": " or “A physics major who doesn’t like coffee? You do surprise me", "content": "a white girl who doesn’t like coffee? You’re full of surprises” or “A physics major who doesn’t like coffee? You do surprise me", "role": "assistant" }, { "coach_comment": null, "content": "cute/ handsome. Tomato/ tomato 😉 How’s your weekend?", "role": "assistant" } ]

[ "You seem like a gym rat", "no ice cream, no alcohol. Training for the olympics or something", "Gotta make sure you’re not crazy or something before i give you my number 😉" ]

[ { "coach_comment": null, "content": " Hey, Ronald Regan of Long Beach", "role": "Student" }, { "coach_comment": null, "content": " Hey", "role": "Her" }, { "coach_comment": " as it is shorter and matches her energy and investment level more accurately. ", "content": "You seem like a gym rat", "role": "assistant" }, { "coach_comment": null, "content": " Give me till next year", "role": "Her" }, { "coach_comment": " as it gets the same point across but in half the number of words.", "content": "no ice cream, no alcohol. Training for the olympics or something", "role": "assistant" }, { "coach_comment": null, "content": " No lol I'm doing this for myself", "role": "Her" }, { "coach_comment": null, "content": " What are you doing Friday? This attempt at closing came much too soon and was too abrupt. Even if you meet in person and get the number, it is still best to have a small amount of banter over text before closing on the date.", "role": "Student" }, { "coach_comment": null, "content": " I work Friday night at 8pm", "role": "Her" }, { "coach_comment": null, "content": " I can do Sunday evening but if you can't do it then I have next", "role": "Student" }, { "coach_comment": null, "content": " My off days are Tuesday", "role": "Her" }, { "coach_comment": null, "content": " Yikes. I'm busy during the week.", "role": "Student" }, { "coach_comment": null, "content": " Ok well if you want to get to know me you'll make time if not that's fine", "role": "Her" }, { "coach_comment": null, "content": " I get out of class early on Tuesday but I have to study for a little bit because I have exams coming up. I'm free after 8:00 PM.", "role": "Student" }, { "coach_comment": null, "content": " Do you know that you are texting me from your email address", "role": "Her" }, { "coach_comment": " to inject so flirting into the conversation. ", "content": "Gotta make sure you’re not crazy or something before i give you my number 😉", "role": "assistant" }, { "coach_comment": null, "content": " Oh ok", "role": "Her" }, { "coach_comment": null, "content": " That works for me", "role": "Her" }, { "coach_comment": null, "content": " Next Tuesday, I've decided that I want to go bowling with you at Round 1 in Lakewood. The one next to 24 hour fitness. It is better to soft close before hard closing. Instead of expecting her to agree to the day, time and activity all at once, a better sequence would have been:", "role": "Student" }, { "coach_comment": null, "content": " We should go for that game of bowling sometime soon”", "role": "Student" }, { "coach_comment": null, "content": " Sure, when were you thinking", "role": "Her" }, { "coach_comment": null, "content": " When are you typically free? ", "role": "Student" }, { "coach_comment": null, "content": " my days off are Tuesday and Wednesday”", "role": "Her" }, { "coach_comment": null, "content": " Let’s do Tuesday, say 8pm”", "role": "Student" }, { "coach_comment": null, "content": " Sounds good", "role": "Her" }, { "coach_comment": null, "content": " Sounds good", "role": "Her" } ]

[ "We should change that", "That doesn’t worry me. I know what I’m doing. You’re in good safe hands" ]

[ { "coach_comment": null, "content": " Someone’s adorable af", "role": "Student" }, { "coach_comment": null, "content": " thank you ;)", "role": "Her" }, { "coach_comment": null, "content": " I’m curious about something", "role": "Student" }, { "coach_comment": null, "content": " ?", "role": "Her" }, { "coach_comment": null, "content": " I’ll share but first I need to ask if you’re open minded", "role": "Student" }, { "coach_comment": null, "content": " yes i am", "role": "Her" }, { "coach_comment": null, "content": " Do men realize that you’re quite submissive to the right kind of dominant man?", "role": "Student" }, { "coach_comment": null, "content": " I think so", "role": "Her" }, { "coach_comment": null, "content": " Ever been with one?", "role": "Student" }, { "coach_comment": null, "content": " No", "role": "Her" }, { "coach_comment": " The aim of this message is to begin seeding the idea of a future meet up. The implication is that the student is dominant and she should meet up with him.", "content": "We should change that", "role": "assistant" }, { "coach_comment": null, "content": " ;)", "role": "Her" }, { "coach_comment": null, "content": " I’m a virgin by the way", "role": "Her" }, { "coach_comment": " This message is effective in making the student come across as confident and experienced in the bedroom. The purpose of this is to make her feel more at ease with the concept of having sex with him. It is deliberately short and to the point. ", "content": "That doesn’t worry me. I know what I’m doing. You’re in good safe hands", "role": "assistant" }, { "coach_comment": null, "content": " Ok, nice", "role": "Her" }, { "coach_comment": null, "content": " Do you like wine btw?", "role": "Student" }, { "coach_comment": null, "content": " yes!", "role": "Her" }, { "coach_comment": null, "content": " We should split a bottle sometime soon", "role": "Student" }, { "coach_comment": null, "content": " I agree", "role": "Her" }, { "coach_comment": null, "content": " Perfect. Shoot me your number for romance arrangement purposes", "role": "Student" }, { "coach_comment": null, "content": " (phone number)", "role": "Her" }, { "coach_comment": null, "content": " Texted ", "role": "Student" } ]

[ "I bet you use that line on all the cute guys 😉", "Smooth 😏” This message is a good follow up to most things girls will respond to the “I bet you use that line on all the cute guys 😉", "That good huh?” This is a good message to send if you ask a girl something, ask her how her day is or about an event she attended because it implies that she was having so much fun at the event that she forgot to text you, not that she ghosted or couldn't be bothered replying. Another good message to send here would be “looks like you forgot to press send lol” or “mic check..1..2", "Hella dull? That's going to be your name in my contacts lol", "It’s good, I can ease you back into it", "You don’t sound confident" ]

[ { "coach_comment": null, "content": " Well you’re hella cute ain’t ya", "role": "Her" }, { "coach_comment": " This is a good line to use if the girl messages you first. It was in response to pretty much anything but it is most effective when she compliments you.", "content": "I bet you use that line on all the cute guys 😉", "role": "assistant" }, { "coach_comment": null, "content": " Ye I do actually", "role": "Her" }, { "coach_comment": " This message is a good follow up to most things girls will respond to the “I bet you use that line on all the cute guys 😉", "content": "Smooth 😏” This message is a good follow up to most things girls will respond to the “I bet you use that line on all the cute guys 😉", "role": "assistant" }, { "coach_comment": null, "content": " How’s your new years day treating you?", "role": "Student" }, { "coach_comment": " This is a good message to send if you ask a girl something, ask her how her day is or about an event she attended because it implies that she was having so much fun at the event that she forgot to text you, not that she ghosted or couldn't be bothered replying. Another good message to send here would be “looks like you forgot to press send lol", "content": "That good huh?” This is a good message to send if you ask a girl something, ask her how her day is or about an event she attended because it implies that she was having so much fun at the event that she forgot to text you, not that she ghosted or couldn't be bothered replying. Another good message to send here would be “looks like you forgot to press send lol” or “mic check..1..2", "role": "assistant" }, { "coach_comment": null, "content": " Ye was good thanks sorry it’s been a busy start to the year", "role": "Her" }, { "coach_comment": null, "content": " Did you celebrate well?", "role": "Her" }, { "coach_comment": null, "content": " Nw. I did, New Year’s Day was spent on the couch watching films with all me christmas chocolate lol", "role": "Student" }, { "coach_comment": null, "content": " Sounds delightful and sounds like my day today tbh", "role": "Her" }, { "coach_comment": null, "content": " Sounds great", "role": "Student" }, { "coach_comment": null, "content": " So tell me what do you do for fun? ", "role": "Student" }, { "coach_comment": null, "content": " I run, play hockey, paint and crochet. Other than that I’m hella dull", "role": "Her" }, { "coach_comment": " The aim of this message is to tease a little but also to seed the idea of a future meet up by suggesting that she will give him her number without directly asking for it because the vibe is not right to do so yet. ", "content": "Hella dull? That's going to be your name in my contacts lol", "role": "assistant" }, { "coach_comment": null, "content": " It’s a good name don’t ya think? ", "role": "Her" }, { "coach_comment": null, "content": " Suits you lol you run? I’ve been looking for a running partner", "role": "Student" }, { "coach_comment": null, "content": " Ye a little, broke my wrist a few weeks ago and I know it was my wrist but I’ve not done a lot recently so trying to get back into it all.", "role": "Her" }, { "coach_comment": " The aim of this message is to subtly seed the idea of a future meet up and get her used to the idea of spending time with him. It also implies you are good at taking the leadership role and are better than her at something she wants to be good at.", "content": "It’s good, I can ease you back into it", "role": "assistant" }, { "coach_comment": null, "content": " Why how far do you normally go? You look super speedy", "role": "Her" }, { "coach_comment": null, "content": " I tend to do 20-30K a week, you?", "role": "Student" }, { "coach_comment": null, "content": " Omg nowhere near that much", "role": "Her" }, { "coach_comment": null, "content": " It has been a while tho, I’ll take new year new me very seriously this year", "role": "Her" }, { "coach_comment": null, "content": " Oh yeah, what are your resolutions this year?", "role": "Student" }, { "coach_comment": null, "content": " Also, you like wine btw?This is a good way to begin number closing the girl once the vibe in the conversation is good. ", "role": "Student" }, { "coach_comment": null, "content": " Well get fit obvs and errr not get black out drunk", "role": "Her" }, { "coach_comment": null, "content": " What are yours", "role": "Her" }, { "coach_comment": null, "content": " Yes I do, red is my fav tho", "role": "Her" }, { "coach_comment": null, "content": " I want to get back into writing. Used to write short stories but have let it slip this past year", "role": "Student" }, { "coach_comment": null, "content": " Good choice, we should split a bottle sometime soon", "role": "Student" }, { "coach_comment": null, "content": " Oooo what about?!", "role": "Her" }, { "coach_comment": null, "content": " Maybe we should 🥴", "role": "Her" }, { "coach_comment": null, "content": " All sorts, most recent on was about a homeless man I got chatting to at the train stop", "role": "Student" }, { "coach_comment": ". Any time a girl gives a flaky answer or uses the word ‘maybe’ when you’re organizing plans, it is better to get a clear answer and find out if there is a reason she might flake on the date. Sometimes it means nothing, other times you uncover a problem that you must overcome to get her on the date.", "content": "You don’t sound confident", "role": "assistant" }, { "coach_comment": null, "content": " Awh cute", "role": "Her" }, { "coach_comment": null, "content": " That’s the face I pull after my half of the bottle", "role": "Her" }, { "coach_comment": null, "content": " Lol shoot me your number and we’ll sort it ", "role": "Student" }, { "coach_comment": null, "content": " (phone number)", "role": "Her" } ]

[ "Thank u, but can you promise me not to steal it when we hang out and you get cold?", "We’ll see how persuasive you can be on our date ;)” or “depends how cute you are on our date, maybe I won’t be able to say no to you ;)", "Mm interesting, so can I propose something?", "We should chill and vibe out to some music sometime" ]

[ { "coach_comment": null, "content": " Nice fur lol", "role": "Her" }, { "coach_comment": " This message does well to seed the date in a playful way without requiring any commitment from the girl. It is a playful role play that allows her to imagine herself spending time with the student in person. ", "content": "Thank u, but can you promise me not to steal it when we hang out and you get cold?", "role": "assistant" }, { "coach_comment": null, "content": " Absolutely not, ur dealing with a full kleptomaniac here", "role": "Her" }, { "coach_comment": " or “depends how cute you are on our date, maybe I won’t be able to say no to you ;)", "content": "We’ll see how persuasive you can be on our date ;)” or “depends how cute you are on our date, maybe I won’t be able to say no to you ;)", "role": "assistant" }, { "coach_comment": null, "content": " Ugh well if ur gonna let me steal it that takes all the fun away. I’ll just wear it when I’m cold and wanna feel fabulous ", "role": "Her" }, { "coach_comment": null, "content": " Well just have to fight over it, u got hands?", "role": "Student" }, { "coach_comment": null, "content": " Def not lol u would pin me down 🙃", "role": "Her" }, { "coach_comment": null, "content": " U sound like my type of girl ;) are u submissive? The idea of this message is to play with the sexual undertones of her last message and take it down a more sexual route. ", "role": "Student" }, { "coach_comment": null, "content": " Mm maybe a lil bit ;)", "role": "Her" }, { "coach_comment": " The aim of this message is to make her intrigued and think about potential dates with you.", "content": "Mm interesting, so can I propose something?", "role": "assistant" }, { "coach_comment": null, "content": " Let’s hear it ", "role": "Her" }, { "coach_comment": " Here the student is proposing a very simple date idea. It is better to keep the first date as simple as possible. Keep it to drinks, coffee, hanging out at your place or a walk.", "content": "We should chill and vibe out to some music sometime", "role": "assistant" }, { "coach_comment": null, "content": " I think that’s a great idea", "role": "Her" }, { "coach_comment": null, "content": " Ok for sure, btw what are you looking for on here?", "role": "Student" }, { "coach_comment": null, "content": " Nothing serious, I mean if something turns into something naturally sure maybe. Wbu?", "role": "Her" }, { "coach_comment": null, "content": " Sam, just looking for something casual now and going with the flow, so what’s your plans for this week and tonight?", "role": "Student" }, { "coach_comment": null, "content": " Tonight I’m going to a friends and I might be hanging out with a friend this weekend but I’m not totally sure when lol if you wanna hang tho I’m definitely down", "role": "Her" }, { "coach_comment": null, "content": " Ok lol I do wanna hang, how about tomorrow?", "role": "Student" }, { "coach_comment": null, "content": " Or tonight after you leave your friend either one works", "role": "Student" }, { "coach_comment": null, "content": " Oh btw u stay with family right?", "role": "Student" }, { "coach_comment": null, "content": " Tomorrow probably works better, I don’t know how late u stay up but I get off at 10:30-11 so I probably won’t be leaving there until late lol", "role": "Her" }, { "coach_comment": null, "content": " And nope I got an apartment, no roommates 😋", "role": "Her" }, { "coach_comment": null, "content": " Ok I stay up hella late and I don’t get off until 11:30 either lol so I’d be down to swing by tomorrow, so how bout I text u tomorrow round 11 and see what you’re doing?", "role": "Student" }, { "coach_comment": null, "content": " Sounds fun, we can grab a drink or something if you want too", "role": "Her" }, { "coach_comment": null, "content": " For sure, we can do that or I can just buy a bottle of wine and come over and we can split it, what kind u like? The aim of this message is to get a straight to the house date instead of meeting out. It’s always better to ask. If she says no then you can always go out for drinks and there is usually no harm done. ", "role": "Student" }, { "coach_comment": null, "content": " Uhhh the kind that’s clear and taste like gin and is also called gin 🙂", "role": "Her" }, { "coach_comment": null, "content": " Lol I don’t like wine it gives me a headache and an upset stomach", "role": "Her" }, { "coach_comment": null, "content": " Also I have plenty of liquor so u don’t have to buy anything unless you want to", "role": "Her" }, { "coach_comment": null, "content": " Ah ok I see uuu, u stacked up haha ok sounds like a vibe, what’s your number?", "role": "Student" }, { "coach_comment": null, "content": " (phone number)", "role": "Her" } ]

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[ "hey (her name) I couldn’t forget the cute, curvy teacher I vibed so well with", "The drink was great, we should have another sometime where it’s not super loud lol", "No worries, what time works for you? Btw I know you live 3 hours away so we can meet in the middle", "Ok bet, but we should have a quick call sometime this week before we hang out, down with that?" ]

[ { "coach_comment": null, "content": " Hellp Amor lol not you naming yourself that in my phone lol. Its (her name) your fellow Leo, unless you forgot haha have a goodnight and get to sleep safely!", "role": "Her" }, { "coach_comment": " just to make it more succinct and flow better.", "content": "hey (her name) I couldn’t forget the cute, curvy teacher I vibed so well with", "role": "assistant" }, { "coach_comment": null, "content": " Honestly we did vibe! Lol", "role": "Her" }, { "coach_comment": null, "content": " How did the rest of your night go? ", "role": "Her" }, { "coach_comment": null, "content": " I practiced my dance moves with friends I made earlier and drank water to sober up from helping you drink but still made it home in one piece.", "role": "Student" }, { "coach_comment": null, "content": " Aww how fun! Did you like the drink? And glad you made it home safe!", "role": "Her" }, { "coach_comment": " So far the vibe has been good and it has been established that she remembers him very well from the previous night and had a good time. Now it makes sense to move towards the close while the vibe is good and she is invested.", "content": "The drink was great, we should have another sometime where it’s not super loud lol", "role": "assistant" }, { "coach_comment": null, "content": " I’d love that actually! And yeah, it was super loud in there. I could barely hear you lol", "role": "Her" }, { "coach_comment": null, "content": " When are you typically free?", "role": "Student" }, { "coach_comment": null, "content": " I’m usually always free on weekends 🙂", "role": "Her" }, { "coach_comment": null, "content": " Let’s do Friday, say 6:30 pm?", "role": "Student" }, { "coach_comment": null, "content": " I don't live in (location) so I won’t be able to do 6:30 lol", "role": "Her" }, { "coach_comment": " The aim of this message is to establish logistics to make it easier to set up the date.", "content": "No worries, what time works for you? Btw I know you live 3 hours away so we can meet in the middle", "role": "assistant" }, { "coach_comment": null, "content": " I’m soooo sorry. I forgot Friday is my mom’s birthday! Can you do any other day on the weekend?", "role": "Her" }, { "coach_comment": null, "content": " No worries, family first. No, I’m booked up for the rest of the weekend. Maybe we can set something up for next weekend.", "role": "Student" }, { "coach_comment": null, "content": " Yes! I’m completely free next weekend 🙂", "role": "Her" }, { "coach_comment": " It can be helpful to set up a phone call with a girl before your date. Phone calls can be great for building comfort and connection with the girl. You can also vibe and flirt using your voice in ways that cannot be done over text. ", "content": "Ok bet, but we should have a quick call sometime this week before we hang out, down with that?", "role": "assistant" } ]

[ "That’s cool, but please don’t tell me we have to do the matching pajamas too" ]

[ { "coach_comment": null, "content": " So I guess we’re dating now?... Not sure how this works", "role": "Student" }, { "coach_comment": null, "content": " Yes that’s how it is. Think you can meet my parents in November, and we’ll get engaged in December! ", "role": "Her" }, { "coach_comment": " The aim of this message is to begin a fun role play in which they are already in a long term relationship. The purpose of this is to get her to imagine this scenario in her head, therefore, getting her used to the idea of spending time with him in real life, making a date more likely. It can also be good to set up fun role plays in your messaging because it sets you apart from the other boring questions and ‘get to know you’ talk that happens on most dating apps.", "content": "That’s cool, but please don’t tell me we have to do the matching pajamas too", "role": "assistant" } ]

[ "No worries, you can make it up to me on our date 😉" ]

[ { "coach_comment": null, "content": " It’s always the discrete ones that are the most fun ;)", "role": "Student" }, { "coach_comment": null, "content": " how’s it going?", "role": "Student" }, { "coach_comment": null, "content": " Very well thank you ☺️", "role": "Her" }, { "coach_comment": null, "content": " Are you fun? You’re not discrete 😉", "role": "Her" }, { "coach_comment": null, "content": " Only one way to find out 😏 This message works to seed the date without the girl having to directly commit to it yet. It is a good way to get the girl to imagine spending time with you in person. ", "role": "Student" }, { "coach_comment": null, "content": " Hm which way would that be? 😳", "role": "Her" }, { "coach_comment": null, "content": " an adventurous night of flirting and drinks to see how fun we make each other feel. And perhaps other exciting things if the vibe is right This is a great message to send when she asks what will happen on the date. In this case it is how she will find out if he is fun. It paints a picture of a classy date with sexual undertones, with a confident man.", "role": "Student" }, { "coach_comment": null, "content": " Don’t like the plan? This message is a good way to be persistent without being needy. It assumes that it isn’t him she doesn’t like, it was the plan she didn’t like. ", "role": "Student" }, { "coach_comment": null, "content": " That’s a great plan ☺️", "role": "Her" }, { "coach_comment": null, "content": " Great. What area are you in btw? I’m in (location).", "role": "Student" }, { "coach_comment": null, "content": " (Location)", "role": "Her" }, { "coach_comment": null, "content": " Is it dangerous there?", "role": "Her" }, { "coach_comment": null, "content": " Ah not too far. It’s very safe, there’s a lot of kids walking around.", "role": "Student" }, { "coach_comment": null, "content": " Hmm idk", "role": "Her" }, { "coach_comment": null, "content": " I was aggressed there once", "role": "Her" }, { "coach_comment": null, "content": " Do you live alone or with roommates?", "role": "Her" }, { "coach_comment": null, "content": " Oh wow, I’m sorry that happened. I have roommates, It’s a really nice space", "role": "Student" }, { "coach_comment": null, "content": " Oh that’s unfortunate", "role": "Her" }, { "coach_comment": null, "content": " Why unfortunate? It’s a very big space and I still have a lot of privacy.", "role": "Student" }, { "coach_comment": null, "content": " I live alone and got used to privacy…", "role": "Her" }, { "coach_comment": null, "content": " Idk frankly speaking I can’t imagine being private with roommates 😂 and I want to be private lol", "role": "Her" }, { "coach_comment": null, "content": " Haha I understand that. Once you see my place you’ll understand what I mean. It’s 7 floors, I don’t see my roommates often at all lol This is a good message to allay her fears about a lack of privacy. She needs to feel safer and more secure in the knowledge that they won’t be heard or interrupted during their date. ", "role": "Student" }, { "coach_comment": null, "content": " ok then", "role": "Her" }, { "coach_comment": null, "content": " You can invite me on a date 😂", "role": "Her" }, { "coach_comment": null, "content": " Lol great. Do you like wine? This message is a great way to start a closing sequence. Most women enjoy wine and, once she says ‘yes’ it’s an easy transition from there to invite her to split a bottle together.", "role": "Student" }, { "coach_comment": null, "content": " I do", "role": "Her" }, { "coach_comment": null, "content": " I like all good things ", "role": "Her" }, { "coach_comment": null, "content": " Great then you’ll like me a lot 😉 This message is a good amount of cocky humor, implying that he is good and that she’ll like him since she mentions in her previous message that she likes good things.", "role": "Student" }, { "coach_comment": null, "content": " I’d like to take you to my favorite wine bar. We can have a drink there, flirt, and see where the night takes us. This continues the message from earlier as it maintains the idea of a classy date with sexual undertones, with a confident man.", "role": "Student" }, { "coach_comment": null, "content": " Wait just to make sure", "role": "Her" }, { "coach_comment": null, "content": " lol sorry I’m not coherent", "role": "Her" }, { "coach_comment": null, "content": " What’s your favorite wine bar?", "role": "Her" }, { "coach_comment": null, "content": " It’s called (venue)", "role": "Student" }, { "coach_comment": null, "content": " Ok I’d like to go there", "role": "Her" }, { "coach_comment": null, "content": " Hey what do you do?", "role": "Her" }, { "coach_comment": null, "content": " Like for work? I’m an engineering lead at a tech company. Wbu?", "role": "Student" }, { "coach_comment": null, "content": " I’m an analyst", "role": "Her" }, { "coach_comment": null, "content": " Ok lol I’m sorry I got dramatized by your neighborhood 😂", "role": "Her" }, { "coach_comment": ".", "content": "No worries, you can make it up to me on our date 😉", "role": "assistant" }, { "coach_comment": null, "content": " Well actually I’m free tomorrow as my plans got canceled", "role": "Her" }, { "coach_comment": null, "content": " Would you like to save me from boredom? ", "role": "Her" }, { "coach_comment": null, "content": " Absolutely, We’ll make it an unforgettable night then. Free around 730", "role": "Student" }, { "coach_comment": null, "content": " It’s a question right?", "role": "Her" }, { "coach_comment": null, "content": " Oh yes that was supposed to be a question mark lol", "role": "Student" }, { "coach_comment": null, "content": " Nice", "role": "Her" }, { "coach_comment": null, "content": " It’s good for me. 7:30 it is ", "role": "Her" }, { "coach_comment": null, "content": " Okay great, looking forward to it. Send me your number, and let’s get off this app", "role": "Student" }, { "coach_comment": null, "content": " Ok ☺️", "role": "Her" }, { "coach_comment": null, "content": " (Phone number)", "role": "Her" } ]

[ "Is the British accent fact or cap?" ]

[ { "coach_comment": null, "content": "Is the British accent fact or cap?", "role": "assistant" }, { "coach_comment": null, "content": " Fact 🤣", "role": "Her" }, { "coach_comment": null, "content": " Babygirl", "role": "Student" }, { "coach_comment": null, "content": " I’m gonna have to be careful around you because that’s my weakness", "role": "Student" }, { "coach_comment": null, "content": " 10/10 rizz 😌", "role": "Her" }, { "coach_comment": null, "content": " if my rizz was that good we’d be splitting a bottle of wine by now", "role": "Student" }, { "coach_comment": null, "content": " Smooth 🤣", "role": "Her" }, { "coach_comment": null, "content": " I don’t drink wine but you can buy me a cocktail", "role": "Her" }, { "coach_comment": null, "content": " shoot me your number already lucy", "role": "Student" }, { "coach_comment": null, "content": " (phone number)", "role": "Her" } ]

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[ { "coach_comment": null, "content": " PHD student and fun is a pretty rare combo", "role": "Student" }, { "coach_comment": null, "content": " I’m not sold (her name)", "role": "Student" }, { "coach_comment": null, "content": " Hahaha I promise we exist", "role": "Her" }, { "coach_comment": null, "content": " You’ll have to trust me on that", "role": "Her" }, { "coach_comment": null, "content": " I like your tattoos btw", "role": "Her" }, { "coach_comment": null, "content": " Aha I’ll believe it when I see it 😉", "role": "Student" }, { "coach_comment": null, "content": " Thanks do I see a couple small ones on you too?", "role": "Student" }, { "coach_comment": null, "content": " Yeah I have 4", "role": "Her" }, { "coach_comment": null, "content": " My most recent one is the tree on my arm", "role": "Her" }, { "coach_comment": null, "content": " I’m glad our tattoo tour won’t be one sided", "role": "Student" }, { "coach_comment": null, "content": " ooo I’d love to get the tour", "role": "Her" }, { "coach_comment": null, "content": " Maybe we can do a quick vibe check sometime", "role": "Student" }, { "coach_comment": null, "content": " Yes absolutely 🙂", "role": "Her" }, { "coach_comment": null, "content": " cool :) What's your availability like?", "role": "Student" }, { "coach_comment": null, "content": " I’m free Sunday afternoon/night or most days next week after 5", "role": "Her" }, { "coach_comment": null, "content": " Okk perfect! I have a pending business dinner on Sunday but if that happens we can do next week", "role": "Student" }, { "coach_comment": null, "content": " Do you have a phone number? I have notifications off here", "role": "Student" }, { "coach_comment": null, "content": " Sounds good 🙂", "role": "Her" }, { "coach_comment": null, "content": " Yes you can text me (her number)", "role": "Her" } ]

[ "Careful, cute compliments like that might just land you a date ;)", "& you obviously have a few of my weaknesses", "Cute & curvy, with a bit of a wild side. A sexy feminine energy which tells me there’s a fun submissive side to you for the right man 😉", "Mhm, I even have a plan", "Me & you splitting a bottle of wine. Talk about our passions while making deep eye contact.. If things get spicy I bend you over, grab a fistful of your hair, &...", "Oh yea? Are you a wine drinker ;)", "I smoke once in a blue moon but I’m down. We should smoke sometime soon", "👌 Shoot me your number" ]

[ { "coach_comment": null, "content": " Hey trouble", "role": "Student" }, { "coach_comment": null, "content": " Hey handsome", "role": "Her" }, { "coach_comment": " This message works to seed the date and set intention early in the conversation. It also sets the frame that she is chasing him as she is the one giving compliments.", "content": "Careful, cute compliments like that might just land you a date ;)", "role": "assistant" }, { "coach_comment": null, "content": " I’m just stating the obvious haha", "role": "Her" }, { "coach_comment": " This message baits the girl into asking more and continuing the conversation. ", "content": "& you obviously have a few of my weaknesses", "role": "assistant" }, { "coach_comment": null, "content": " Oh yeah 😏 and what would those be?", "role": "Her" }, { "coach_comment": " This message is complimentary towards the girl. It is vague so it could apply to anyone. When you send a vague message like this, you reduce the risk of her responding negatively to the message. It also implies that he is the right man to bring out her submissive side. ", "content": "Cute & curvy, with a bit of a wild side. A sexy feminine energy which tells me there’s a fun submissive side to you for the right man 😉", "role": "assistant" }, { "coach_comment": null, "content": " Lol guess we’ll have to find out ", "role": "Her" }, { "coach_comment": " This message baits the girl into asking more and continuing the conversation. ", "content": "Mhm, I even have a plan", "role": "assistant" }, { "coach_comment": null, "content": " Do tell", "role": "Her" }, { "coach_comment": null, "content": " Say please 😏This message requires the girl to give consent. It also has sexual undertones and is effective because of the sexual vibe set up in the previous messages. ", "role": "Student" }, { "coach_comment": null, "content": " Plzzz", "role": "Her" }, { "coach_comment": " This message is effective as it shows that he is confident when on a date. It could also be taken to mean he is looking for a ONS but also implies he is looking for a connection with her. ", "content": "Me & you splitting a bottle of wine. Talk about our passions while making deep eye contact.. If things get spicy I bend you over, grab a fistful of your hair, &...", "role": "assistant" }, { "coach_comment": null, "content": " Sounds very intriguing", "role": "Her" }, { "coach_comment": " This message begins the closing sequence", "content": "Oh yea? Are you a wine drinker ;)", "role": "assistant" }, { "coach_comment": null, "content": " I’m not much of a drinker lol I rather smoke but if I do drink just don’t mind my funny faces lmao", "role": "Her" }, { "coach_comment": " It is important that he says ‘sometime soon’ in this message as it could be inferred as meeting anytime from right now, later that day or next week. ", "content": "I smoke once in a blue moon but I’m down. We should smoke sometime soon", "role": "assistant" }, { "coach_comment": null, "content": " Hell yea, we should plan something out 😏", "role": "Her" }, { "coach_comment": null, "content": " Where do you live? Lol", "role": "Her" }, { "coach_comment": null, "content": " (location) You?", "role": "Student" }, { "coach_comment": null, "content": " I’m in (location)", "role": "Her" }, { "coach_comment": null, "content": " Not too far. What evenings are you free coming up this week, cutie", "role": "Student" }, { "coach_comment": null, "content": " Technically I got all evenings free haha I work early mornings and most days I’m out by 230pm", "role": "Her" }, { "coach_comment": null, "content": " I do be going to be around 9 tho", "role": "Her" }, { "coach_comment": null, "content": " Let’s do Monday evening, say 7 pm. Sound good?", "role": "Student" }, { "coach_comment": null, "content": " that might be a little too late for me since I need to be up by 3am Tuesday. Can we meet a bit earlier?", "role": "Her" }, { "coach_comment": null, "content": " Hm. Well what’s a night where you don’t have work early the following morning ;)", "role": "Student" }, { "coach_comment": null, "content": " Friday and Saturdays haha", "role": "Her" }, { "coach_comment": null, "content": " Perfect. Friday evening, say 7 pm then. Deal? ", "role": "Student" }, { "coach_comment": null, "content": " Alright yes, that sounds good ", "role": "Her" }, { "coach_comment": null, "content": " Great & is your place an option", "role": "Student" }, { "coach_comment": null, "content": " Definitely not lmao. I just moved back to my parents house", "role": "Her" }, { "coach_comment": null, "content": " And yours? ", "role": "Her" }, { "coach_comment": null, "content": " It is, we just can’t smoke :/ maybe in my car 😏", "role": "Student" }, { "coach_comment": null, "content": " That’s fine by me 😜", "role": "Her" }, { "coach_comment": " This message is important as the risk of flaking is reduced if she gives her phone number.", "content": "👌 Shoot me your number", "role": "assistant" }, { "coach_comment": null, "content": " (phone number) ", "role": "Her" } ]

[ "Gym, planning, reading, meal prepping, hang out with friends. Just missing a little bit of (her name) 😉", "Originally from the Philippines, moved to TX when I was 7-8, now I’m here for our romance", "You’ll be whispering Gujarati on our date, I hope 😏", "Adventurous I see. I’m just looking to meet a cool girl I have chemistry with. Great/ kinky sex & cuddles are a bonus. Open to more with the right girl. I’ve found things go better organically that way." ]

[ { "coach_comment": null, "content": " What’s up, buttercup? 💕", "role": "Her" }, { "coach_comment": null, "content": " Sup sexy starburst, how’s your Friday?", "role": "Student" }, { "coach_comment": null, "content": " Omg you’re cuuute. Starburst, I like this ", "role": "Her" }, { "coach_comment": null, "content": " What’s good for your weekend?", "role": "Her" }, { "coach_comment": " This message provides a lot of subtle DHV’s: that he works out/ exercises, has hobbies, is educated, can cook and is social.", "content": "Gym, planning, reading, meal prepping, hang out with friends. Just missing a little bit of (her name) 😉", "role": "assistant" }, { "coach_comment": null, "content": " What are ya reading these days?", "role": "Her" }, { "coach_comment": null, "content": " 🤭 💕 okiii casanova", "role": "Her" }, { "coach_comment": null, "content": " Been reading Becoming Supernatural, about to starts The Alchemist", "role": "Student" }, { "coach_comment": null, "content": " Are you from here originally?", "role": "Student" }, { "coach_comment": null, "content": " Ooooooo love both", "role": "Her" }, { "coach_comment": null, "content": " Yeahhh.. Hbu", "role": "Her" }, { "coach_comment": null, "content": " Do you have audible? The narrators voice on alchemist is beautiful", "role": "Her" }, { "coach_comment": null, "content": " I bet", "role": "Student" }, { "coach_comment": " This is a good message to send if you have moved recently. Suggesting that you moved so you could pursue her is a playful way to express interest in her.", "content": "Originally from the Philippines, moved to TX when I was 7-8, now I’m here for our romance", "role": "assistant" }, { "coach_comment": null, "content": " How dreammmmy", "role": "Her" }, { "coach_comment": null, "content": " Can you speak any other languages?", "role": "Her" }, { "coach_comment": null, "content": " Tagalog. Learning Spanish rn. You?", "role": "Student" }, { "coach_comment": null, "content": " Fun! Gujarati, a smattering of Spanish and learning Italian", "role": "Her" }, { "coach_comment": " This message works if the girl can speak different languages or has a different accent. It also seeds the date. ", "content": "You’ll be whispering Gujarati on our date, I hope 😏", "role": "assistant" }, { "coach_comment": null, "content": " Only if you speak tagalog as we pretend to understand each other & confuse people watchers lmfao", "role": "Her" }, { "coach_comment": null, "content": " I like what I’m hearing. Sounds like we’re in for a good time", "role": "Student" }, { "coach_comment": null, "content": " 💜 💕", "role": "Her" }, { "coach_comment": null, "content": " ;) so what are you looking for on here, cutie", "role": "Student" }, { "coach_comment": null, "content": " Fun dates, whiskey lounges, tater tots. You?", "role": "Her" }, { "coach_comment": " This message does a lot of different things. It implies that he can be picky with the women he dates. It opens a sexual dialogue. This message hints at the idea that he is looking for more than a ONS if she is the right kind of girl, implying that she must qualify herself if she is to meet his standards. ", "content": "Adventurous I see. I’m just looking to meet a cool girl I have chemistry with. Great/ kinky sex & cuddles are a bonus. Open to more with the right girl. I’ve found things go better organically that way.", "role": "assistant" }, { "coach_comment": null, "content": " Aw that’s nice", "role": "Her" }, { "coach_comment": null, "content": " What does kink mean to you", "role": "Her" }, { "coach_comment": null, "content": " Spanking, hair pulling, choking, that sorta thing..", "role": "Student" }, { "coach_comment": null, "content": " Lol.. so sex", "role": "Her" }, { "coach_comment": null, "content": " The elements that make sex more fun (Sent as a voice message)", "role": "Student" }, { "coach_comment": null, "content": " 🤭 💕 I’m over here thinking you’re gonna say some real questionable kinky fuckery", "role": "Her" }, { "coach_comment": null, "content": " Get your mind outta the gutter, girl 😏", "role": "Student" }, { "coach_comment": null, "content": " What does this voice note say", "role": "Her" }, { "coach_comment": null, "content": " Also didn’t know you could send voice notes, so that’s fun", "role": "Her" }, { "coach_comment": null, "content": " Do you like margaritas", "role": "Student" }, { "coach_comment": null, "content": " I prefer a mezcal old fashioned, or whiskey neat with a water back. What’s your palate enjoy savoring", "role": "Her" }, { "coach_comment": null, "content": " We can pretend I like margaritas", "role": "Her" }, { "coach_comment": null, "content": " I just like a regular fruity margarita, pref Don Julio. We should grab some margs sometime soon", "role": "Student" }, { "coach_comment": null, "content": " Where do you like to find these fruity margs", "role": "Her" }, { "coach_comment": null, "content": " I’m game", "role": "Her" }, { "coach_comment": null, "content": " Let’s figure it out over text. Shoot me your number ;)", "role": "Student" }, { "coach_comment": null, "content": " Smooooth", "role": "Her" }, { "coach_comment": null, "content": " (phone number)", "role": "Her" } ]

[ "Don’t worry I’m gonna change that for you! I just hope you have a few qualities I like too", "Lol! I’m just not a fan of the bars in Williamsburg. I have a few wine bare I’d love to take you to though if you’re feeling adventurous", "Hey, I had fun last night" ]

[ { "coach_comment": null, "content": " What about funny and not broke guys?", "role": "Student" }, { "coach_comment": null, "content": " Hmm… not my type ", "role": "Her" }, { "coach_comment": null, "content": " But I might give it a shot", "role": "Her" }, { "coach_comment": " This message is designed to get her to qualify herself in some way. ", "content": "Don’t worry I’m gonna change that for you! I just hope you have a few qualities I like too", "role": "assistant" }, { "coach_comment": null, "content": " Okay great, I’m ready to be convinced. I think I do have some likable qualities", "role": "Her" }, { "coach_comment": null, "content": " And if not, I’ll just convince you also", "role": "Her" }, { "coach_comment": null, "content": " Good, I like the confidence. Do you like wine?", "role": "Student" }, { "coach_comment": null, "content": " Yes, how did you know??", "role": "Her" }, { "coach_comment": null, "content": " Because you seem like my type of girl of course ;) We should split a bottle of wine on my romantic patio sometime soon", "role": "Student" }, { "coach_comment": null, "content": " Ha, nice try", "role": "Her" }, { "coach_comment": null, "content": " Wine sounds good but we need to work on that location", "role": "Her" }, { "coach_comment": " Being adventurous is something most girls will see themselves as or will want to be and so, if you ask a girl if she is feeling adventurous, she is likely to agree with you. ", "content": "Lol! I’m just not a fan of the bars in Williamsburg. I have a few wine bare I’d love to take you to though if you’re feeling adventurous", "role": "assistant" }, { "coach_comment": null, "content": " Ever been to we got company? (Link to google maps)", "role": "Student" }, { "coach_comment": null, "content": " I haven’t but very willing to try", "role": "Her" }, { "coach_comment": null, "content": " Awesome, let’s go there. Free Wednesday at 7? Usually it is better to offer two days to meet up as she is less likely to respond negatively. Alternatively, you can ask her when she is free. ", "role": "Student" }, { "coach_comment": null, "content": " Yes, you’re in luck. Wednesday at 7 works ", "role": "Her" }, { "coach_comment": null, "content": " Lol guess I’ll go get a powerball ticket then 😉 Looking forward to it cutie. Drop me your number and I’ll send you a text. ", "role": "Student" }, { "coach_comment": null, "content": " (Phone number) ", "role": "Her" }, { "coach_comment": null, "content": " Hey, it’s Malik from Hinge", "role": "Student" }, { "coach_comment": null, "content": " So glad you clarified which Malik", "role": "Her" }, { "coach_comment": null, "content": " There are thousands of new Maliks texting me daily, it’s insane", "role": "Her" }, { "coach_comment": null, "content": " Damn that sounds amazing for you", "role": "Student" }, { "coach_comment": null, "content": " Luckily the best one is finally here to save the day. You normally a night owl?", "role": "Student" }, { "coach_comment": null, "content": " Yes, though I’m still a little jet lagged from Germany", "role": "Her" }, { "coach_comment": null, "content": " I see so what’s the story? Are you visiting or did you recently move here from Germany This message goes into the ‘get to know you’ stage and provides the girl with comfort and connection. ", "role": "Student" }, { "coach_comment": null, "content": " I recently moved back here from Germany. I have already lived in New York for two years before that, but as an au pair", "role": "Her" }, { "coach_comment": null, "content": " Ah just in time for our romance, lovely. Are you still working as an au pair or have you found a new gig this time around? This message keeps the tone of the conversation light hearted and fun by implying that she moved there to pursue him romantically. ", "role": "Student" }, { "coach_comment": null, "content": " Sorry, I was a little distracted today", "role": "Her" }, { "coach_comment": null, "content": " I’m not working as an au pair anymore, I’m here on a student visa", "role": "Her" }, { "coach_comment": null, "content": " That’s cool, looking forward to hearing more about that. Still good for tonight?", "role": "Student" }, { "coach_comment": null, "content": " Yes, still good. 7 still good?", "role": "Her" }, { "coach_comment": null, "content": "Yep 7 works perfect! Hope you survive all the Maliks texting you til then 😉", "role": "Student" }, { "coach_comment": null, "content": " I muted them for today. It’s a special day", "role": "Her" }, { "coach_comment": null, "content": " Absolutely ", "role": "Student" }, { "coach_comment": null, "content": " Running a bit late, will be there close to 7:10", "role": "Student" }, { "coach_comment": null, "content": " Okay. Hopefully nobody is going to propose to me by then. I might be taken", "role": "Her" }, { "coach_comment": null, "content": " Prepared to tackle someone at the altar", "role": "Student" }, { "coach_comment": null, "content": " That’s hot", "role": "Her" }, { "coach_comment": ". It is a good idea to use some kind of callback humor that relates to the date. ", "content": "Hey, I had fun last night", "role": "assistant" }, { "coach_comment": null, "content": " I did, thank you ☺️ hope you have a good night also", "role": "Her" } ]

[ "Oh no, made (her name) shy.", "I’m sure you appreciate a bit of forwardness", "Lost the sexy accent unfortunately lol", "You + me = more than friends 😏" ]

[ { "coach_comment": null, "content": " You seem like the perfect mix of cute & trouble ", "role": "Student" }, { "coach_comment": null, "content": " Called it 😂", "role": "Her" }, { "coach_comment": null, "content": " Cool. I’d know just how to handle you 😏 This kind of message with a sexual undertone can work well on some girls. It can be a good way to screen early on if the girl is DTF. However, this girl ghosts for a couple of days so he has to reopen her. ", "role": "Student" }, { "coach_comment": " This is one way, in this context, that works as a way to reopen. ", "content": "Oh no, made (her name) shy.", "role": "assistant" }, { "coach_comment": null, "content": " More like threw me off", "role": "Her" }, { "coach_comment": " This message works because it is true, most girls do appreciate a man who is forward.", "content": "I’m sure you appreciate a bit of forwardness", "role": "assistant" }, { "coach_comment": null, "content": " I do respect it yes", "role": "Her" }, { "coach_comment": null, "content": " Glad to hear", "role": "Student" }, { "coach_comment": null, "content": " Are you from here originally", "role": "Student" }, { "coach_comment": null, "content": " Yes I am", "role": "Her" }, { "coach_comment": null, "content": " Are you native to here too?", "role": "Her" }, { "coach_comment": null, "content": " I’m from Italy originally :) moved when I was young", "role": "Student" }, { "coach_comment": null, "content": " Wow that’s cool ☺️", "role": "Her" }, { "coach_comment": " This message is a great way to keep the ‘get to know you’ part of the conversation fun and flirty. ", "content": "Lost the sexy accent unfortunately lol", "role": "assistant" }, { "coach_comment": null, "content": " 😂", "role": "Her" }, { "coach_comment": null, "content": " So what are you looking for on here", "role": "Student" }, { "coach_comment": null, "content": " For friends", "role": "Her" }, { "coach_comment": " The aim of this message is to keep the conversation fun and also to pass her test as no one is on Tinder to meet friends.", "content": "You + me = more than friends 😏", "role": "assistant" }, { "coach_comment": null, "content": " 😂 cute", "role": "Her" }, { "coach_comment": null, "content": " Not as cute as our date will be The aim of this message is to seed the date.", "role": "Student" }, { "coach_comment": null, "content": " Smooth 😏", "role": "Her" }, { "coach_comment": null, "content": " ;) do you like wine", "role": "Student" }, { "coach_comment": null, "content": " I do enjoy wine 🍷 ", "role": "Her" }, { "coach_comment": null, "content": " We should split a bottle sometime soon", "role": "Student" }, { "coach_comment": null, "content": " Depends, White or red?", "role": "Her" }, { "coach_comment": null, "content": " Sweet red", "role": "Student" }, { "coach_comment": null, "content": " Okay then we can split a bottle lol", "role": "Her" }, { "coach_comment": null, "content": " What evenings are you free coming up cutie", "role": "Student" }, { "coach_comment": null, "content": " I got Thursday evening open", "role": "Her" }, { "coach_comment": null, "content": " Perfect. Let’s do Thurs, my lofty place, say 8 pm. Sound good?", "role": "Student" }, { "coach_comment": null, "content": " yes/ no As she has ghosted again and not showed a huge amount of investment throughout the interaction, this message is a non-needy, low investment message to get her attention again. ", "role": "Student" }, { "coach_comment": null, "content": " I’d rather meet somewhere public first, not that you’re a serial killer or something lol. Just would make me more comfortable ", "role": "Her" }, { "coach_comment": null, "content": " Oh, I forgot my axe upstate. No killing this month 😜 The aim of this message is to keep the conversation light hearted and put her at ease. ", "role": "Student" }, { "coach_comment": null, "content": " But I’m down. Light drinks at a bar first then wine at mine if you’re more comfortable. Deal? ;)", "role": "Student" }, { "coach_comment": null, "content": " Yes 🙌", "role": "Her" }, { "coach_comment": null, "content": " Cool, shoot me your number", "role": "Student" }, { "coach_comment": null, "content": " I think you forgot to hit send , babe This is an example of another message that can be useful when a girl doesn’t respond. ", "role": "Student" }, { "coach_comment": null, "content": " (Phone number)", "role": "Her" } ]

[ "Glad to hear. It was great, not too packed. Looking nice and fit for our date” The aim of this message is to seed the date. After telling a girl you have done any from of exercise, you can seed the date by saying “Looking nice and fit for our date", "feeling spontaneous?" ]

[ { "coach_comment": null, "content": " Hello! How are you?", "role": "Her" }, { "coach_comment": null, "content": " Hey cutie ;) doing amazing just got out of the gym, hbu?", "role": "Student" }, { "coach_comment": null, "content": " I’m good thank you ☺️ how was the gym", "role": "Her" }, { "coach_comment": " The aim of this message is to seed the date. After telling a girl you have done any from of exercise, you can seed the date by saying “Looking nice and fit for our date", "content": "Glad to hear. It was great, not too packed. Looking nice and fit for our date” The aim of this message is to seed the date. After telling a girl you have done any from of exercise, you can seed the date by saying “Looking nice and fit for our date", "role": "assistant" }, { "coach_comment": null, "content": " I see you’re good at giving massages 💆‍♀️", "role": "Her" }, { "coach_comment": null, "content": " I am! How do you feel about massages?", "role": "Student" }, { "coach_comment": null, "content": " I love massages 😍", "role": "Her" }, { "coach_comment": null, "content": " That’s good! Well perhaps I can give you one, but only on one condition. The aim of this message is to draw the girl in and get her curious about you. ", "role": "Student" }, { "coach_comment": null, "content": " What’s the condition?", "role": "Her" }, { "coach_comment": null, "content": " That I lay in the splits whilst you do?", "role": "Her" }, { "coach_comment": null, "content": " Perhaps! As long as you can handle the side effects ;) This message has a sexual undertone and gives the girl the opportunity to interpret that as a sexual innuendo or be coy. ", "role": "Student" }, { "coach_comment": null, "content": " Oh I think I can 🤣", "role": "Her" }, { "coach_comment": " is a great way to get a girl to meet, especially if you want to meet her that day. Most girls like to think they are spontaneous so they will usually respond positively. ", "content": "feeling spontaneous?", "role": "assistant" }, { "coach_comment": null, "content": " Spontaneous?", "role": "Her" }, { "coach_comment": null, "content": " Mhm, you free tonight?", "role": "Student" }, { "coach_comment": null, "content": " I could be 😉", "role": "Her" }, { "coach_comment": null, "content": " Only 1 mile away 😏", "role": "Student" }, { "coach_comment": null, "content": " Oh we close", "role": "Her" }, { "coach_comment": null, "content": " Very close", "role": "Student" }, { "coach_comment": null, "content": " I could be free in about an hour or so 😏", "role": "Student" }, { "coach_comment": null, "content": " That could work", "role": "Her" }, { "coach_comment": null, "content": " Not sure what my little sisters plans are", "role": "Her" }, { "coach_comment": null, "content": " Think we were going to head out for food and maybe a couple of drinks shortly", "role": "Her" }, { "coach_comment": null, "content": " Gotcha", "role": "Student" }, { "coach_comment": null, "content": " Yeah I just asked her and she was like can we go get some dins first", "role": "Her" }, { "coach_comment": null, "content": " Tbf I did pass out and nap a few hours ago because I was feeling a bit icky", "role": "Her" }, { "coach_comment": null, "content": " You free in a couple of hours?", "role": "Her" }, { "coach_comment": null, "content": " Otherwise another day can work x", "role": "Her" }, { "coach_comment": null, "content": " I’m going out around 10:30 so if it’s before then that’s cool. Otherwise another day works best", "role": "Student" }, { "coach_comment": null, "content": " I will keep you posted", "role": "Her" }, { "coach_comment": null, "content": " What’s your living situation? You live alone or are we gonna put on a show for some housemates?", "role": "Her" }, { "coach_comment": null, "content": " Cool. I have roommates but it’s a big place, so we’ll have plenty of privacy ;)", "role": "Student" }, { "coach_comment": null, "content": " Okay so we’re going to get some drinks and a little snacky snack", "role": "Her" }, { "coach_comment": null, "content": " What’s your address so I can come see you after", "role": "Her" }, { "coach_comment": null, "content": " Watch my dumb ass get lost 😂", "role": "Her" }, { "coach_comment": null, "content": " Lmao it’s hard to miss it’s on the corner", "role": "Student" }, { "coach_comment": null, "content": " Okay we’re having a drink and some food", "role": "Her" }, { "coach_comment": null, "content": " I’m horny and want a back rub 😂", "role": "Her" }, { "coach_comment": null, "content": " Mm then our time together will be just what you need ;) It is clear from the girl’s previous messages that she is DTF so all the student needs to do is keep it simple.", "role": "Student" }, { "coach_comment": null, "content": " Mmm I’m so full of food", "role": "Her" }, { "coach_comment": null, "content": " Ironically they forgot the sausage in my gnocchi and I was like oh girl it’s okay I’ll have my sausage tonight", "role": "Her" }, { "coach_comment": null, "content": " Haha that’s the spirit. Hope you saved some room 😉", "role": "Student" }, { "coach_comment": null, "content": " We’re just having another drink then I’ll walk over to yours", "role": "Her" }, { "coach_comment": null, "content": " Sounds good. See you in a bit cutie ", "role": "Student" }, { "coach_comment": null, "content": " Just paying now", "role": "Her" }, { "coach_comment": null, "content": " Should be at yours shortly 🙂", "role": "Her" } ]

[ "When you’re the small spoon, I’d wrap my arm around your waist and get you close to me while your booty warms me up when I hold you tight. Play with your hair and pull it to the side to kiss on the back of your neck", "Pro cuddler for a reason ;) I’ll be sure to include that to our romantic date’s agenda as well." ]

[ { "coach_comment": null, "content": " Hey 👋 what’s up?", "role": "Her" }, { "coach_comment": null, "content": " Hey Lucie. Just came back from a run with my dog. Tired him out and he’s passed out on the couch lol and you? ", "role": "Student" }, { "coach_comment": null, "content": " A tired pup is the best pup", "role": "Her" }, { "coach_comment": null, "content": " Mine is passed out next to me too", "role": "Her" }, { "coach_comment": null, "content": " Are you stealing some cuddles from him/her while asleep", "role": "Student" }, { "coach_comment": null, "content": " Of course!", "role": "Her" }, { "coach_comment": null, "content": " One of the best parts of having a dog ", "role": "Her" }, { "coach_comment": null, "content": " Good. Then I can trust your cuddling abilities. I’m a sucker for a good cuddle", "role": "Student" }, { "coach_comment": null, "content": " For sure", "role": "Her" }, { "coach_comment": null, "content": " But I have to tell you… I’m a little spoon hog. I never like taking my fair turn being the big spoon", "role": "Her" }, { "coach_comment": null, "content": " Should probably know that op front…", "role": "Her" }, { "coach_comment": null, "content": " With your height, I wouldn’t give you any other role to play.", "role": "Student" }, { "coach_comment": " The aim of this message is to create and encourage the girl to imagine a scenario in which she is enjoying spending time with you.", "content": "When you’re the small spoon, I’d wrap my arm around your waist and get you close to me while your booty warms me up when I hold you tight. Play with your hair and pull it to the side to kiss on the back of your neck", "role": "assistant" }, { "coach_comment": null, "content": " Sounds like you definitely know how to cuddle", "role": "Her" }, { "coach_comment": null, "content": " I like that", "role": "Her" }, { "coach_comment": " This message keeps the conversation light hearted and fun while also seeding the date.", "content": "Pro cuddler for a reason ;) I’ll be sure to include that to our romantic date’s agenda as well.", "role": "assistant" }, { "coach_comment": null, "content": " Assuming you charm me during the dinner and drinks portion… then yes, I want to see these cuddle skills for myself", "role": "Her" }, { "coach_comment": null, "content": "", "role": "assistant" }, { "coach_comment": null, "content": " Absolutely", "role": "Her" }, { "coach_comment": null, "content": " I can be very charming ", "role": "Her" }, { "coach_comment": null, "content": " Perfect. Shoot me your number for charming each other and potential cuddles romance arrangement purposes", "role": "Student" }, { "coach_comment": null, "content": " (Phone number)", "role": "Her" }, { "coach_comment": null, "content": " Texted", "role": "Student" } ]

[ "Fuckin amazing!! Just got back from the gym after a killer workout. Looking sharp for our date. You?” The aim of this message is to seed the date. After telling a girl you have done any form of exercise, you can seed the date by saying “Looking nice and fit for our date” or “looking sharp for our date", "Haha we should celebrate your freedom sometime soon then ;)" ]

[ { "coach_comment": null, "content": " I like your style 👌", "role": "Student" }, { "coach_comment": null, "content": " Thank you ☺️ I like youre too 😉", "role": "Her" }, { "coach_comment": null, "content": " How’s your Sunday going?", "role": "Her" }, { "coach_comment": " The aim of this message is to seed the date. After telling a girl you have done any form of exercise, you can seed the date by saying “Looking nice and fit for our date", "content": "Fuckin amazing!! Just got back from the gym after a killer workout. Looking sharp for our date. You?” The aim of this message is to seed the date. After telling a girl you have done any form of exercise, you can seed the date by saying “Looking nice and fit for our date” or “looking sharp for our date", "role": "assistant" }, { "coach_comment": null, "content": " Great 👏 🥰 I’m home, I started packing my things to move 🙌", "role": "Her" }, { "coach_comment": null, "content": " I decided to live alone, I can’t deal with roommates anymore", "role": "Her" }, { "coach_comment": null, "content": " I’m not lucky 🍀 haha 😆", "role": "Her" }, { "coach_comment": " This message seeds the date by using her moving as a reason to get together and celebrate. ", "content": "Haha we should celebrate your freedom sometime soon then ;)", "role": "assistant" }, { "coach_comment": null, "content": " Of course!!!", "role": "Her" }, { "coach_comment": null, "content": " Haha 😆", "role": "Her" }, { "coach_comment": null, "content": " Packing and drinking 😬", "role": "Her" }, { "coach_comment": null, "content": " and some romance back and forth never hurt celebrations", "role": "Student" }, { "coach_comment": null, "content": " Nope", "role": "Her" }, { "coach_comment": null, "content": " Where do you live?", "role": "Her" }, { "coach_comment": null, "content": " Brickell. You’re in Deerfield?", "role": "Student" }, { "coach_comment": null, "content": " I am", "role": "Her" }, { "coach_comment": null, "content": " Not top far. I’ll be sure to throw in a relaxing shoulder massage and pack extra charm for the celebration", "role": "Student" }, { "coach_comment": null, "content": " For you driving to Brickell ;)", "role": "Student" }, { "coach_comment": null, "content": " For sure 😌", "role": "Her" }, { "coach_comment": null, "content": " I don’t mind to drive", "role": "Her" }, { "coach_comment": null, "content": " Shoot me your number for romance arrangement purposes then ;)", "role": "Student" }, { "coach_comment": null, "content": " My number is (phone number)", "role": "Her" }, { "coach_comment": null, "content": " Texted", "role": "Student" } ]

[ "Looking nice and fit for our date” or “looking sharp for our date", "Look at us. Preparing for our romantic date we haven’t even organized yet", "Don’t worry. I’ll look sexy af and irresistible too. And I’ll be sure to pack extra charm in my pockets.", "Interesting phone number", "I deleted my instagram last month to focus on my business. Too much distraction. We can do phone number" ]

[ { "coach_comment": null, "content": " Privet Tatyana", "role": "Student" }, { "coach_comment": null, "content": " Privet! Ti govorish po Rysski?", "role": "Her" }, { "coach_comment": null, "content": " No haha I dated a Russian last year. I could only learn and remember that word", "role": "Student" }, { "coach_comment": null, "content": " Hahahaha", "role": "Her" }, { "coach_comment": null, "content": " How is your wednesday going", "role": "Student" }, { "coach_comment": null, "content": " Working! You?", "role": "Her" }, { "coach_comment": " or “looking sharp for our date", "content": "Looking nice and fit for our date” or “looking sharp for our date", "role": "assistant" }, { "coach_comment": null, "content": " Hahahahaha I am on my way to the gym!! 😂 😂 😂 😂 gonna make sure I am ready too 💪💪💪💪", "role": "Her" }, { "coach_comment": " This message introduces the ‘we’ frame implying they are doing something together or have something in common. This is an effective flirting technique as it creates a sense of closeness which provides comfort to the girl.", "content": "Look at us. Preparing for our romantic date we haven’t even organized yet", "role": "assistant" }, { "coach_comment": null, "content": " Now I need to get my manicure, pedicure, hair done ✔️ Shave lol get something sexy to wear god dammit so much shit to do lol 😂", "role": "Her" }, { "coach_comment": " This message keeps the interaction light hearted and fun.", "content": "Don’t worry. I’ll look sexy af and irresistible too. And I’ll be sure to pack extra charm in my pockets.", "role": "assistant" }, { "coach_comment": null, "content": " Hahahahahaha Deal", "role": "Her" }, { "coach_comment": null, "content": " Ever been to (venue)?", "role": "Student" }, { "coach_comment": null, "content": " Yes 🙌 love it", "role": "Her" }, { "coach_comment": null, "content": " That’s where we’ll have our romantic date then. Shoot me your number ", "role": "Student" }, { "coach_comment": null, "content": " Hahahahah lol", "role": "Her" }, { "coach_comment": " This message works well when you ask for the number and she refuses but in a playful way.", "content": "Interesting phone number", "role": "assistant" }, { "coach_comment": null, "content": " Do you have Instagram? Mine is (girl’s instagram)", "role": "Her" }, { "coach_comment": " The number is better to get than the instagram because it requires more compliance from the girl. This is because there will usually be a lot of guys in a girl’s dm’s on instagram but not many will have her phone number so you will stand out. ", "content": "I deleted my instagram last month to focus on my business. Too much distraction. We can do phone number", "role": "assistant" }, { "coach_comment": null, "content": "Or carrier pigeons will do? This is another example of a good message to send if she refuses or ignores you number request.", "role": "Student" }, { "coach_comment": null, "content": " Hahahaha", "role": "Her" }, { "coach_comment": null, "content": " (phone number)", "role": "Her" }, { "coach_comment": null, "content": " You funny I like that 🤣", "role": "Her" }, { "coach_comment": null, "content": " Texted", "role": "Student" } ]

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[ { "coach_comment": null, "content": " HAYYY", "role": "Her" }, { "coach_comment": null, "content": " Hey there ;) Was waiting for you to message me", "role": "Student" }, { "coach_comment": null, "content": " The time is now hahaha", "role": "Her" }, { "coach_comment": null, "content": " Better late than never! How’s your humpday treating you?", "role": "Student" }, { "coach_comment": null, "content": " Great 😘 Can’t complain, life is good", "role": "Her" }, { "coach_comment": null, "content": " Even better now that we’re talking?", "role": "Student" }, { "coach_comment": null, "content": " Of course 😝😝", "role": "Her" }, { "coach_comment": null, "content": " You leave at the end of April?", "role": "Student" }, { "coach_comment": null, "content": " For now", "role": "Her" }, { "coach_comment": null, "content": " Then we only have time for a short and intense romance ", "role": "Student" }, { "coach_comment": null, "content": " 😅 🤣", "role": "Her" }, { "coach_comment": null, "content": " Maybe u can convince me to stay", "role": "Her" }, { "coach_comment": null, "content": " As long as you can handle a relaxing massage accompanied by multiple screaming orgasms", "role": "Student" }, { "coach_comment": null, "content": " We shall see", "role": "Her" }, { "coach_comment": null, "content": " If I can handle it 😇", "role": "Her" }, { "coach_comment": null, "content": " Do you like wine?", "role": "Student" }, { "coach_comment": null, "content": " Yes", "role": "Her" }, { "coach_comment": null, "content": " Then we should split a bottle sometime soon on my romantic balcony while my dog entertains us for the evening ", "role": "Student" }, { "coach_comment": null, "content": " Have any plans this evening? 😝", "role": "Her" }, { "coach_comment": null, "content": " None. Feeling spontaneous? 😏", "role": "Student" }, { "coach_comment": null, "content": " Always", "role": "Her" }, { "coach_comment": null, "content": " Shoot me your number and lets make something magical happen tonight", "role": "Student" }, { "coach_comment": null, "content": " (Phone number)", "role": "Her" }, { "coach_comment": null, "content": " Texted", "role": "Student" } ]

[ "I’m not the best at math but you could replace my X and I won’t ask Y", "Lmao well I’ve never tried it, so I guess we’ll find out together 🫢", "Aha ok off to a good start 😅", "You’re cute, what are you looking for on here?", "Aha thanks girl 😘", "And me too, trying to have some fun and going with the flow", "Lmfoa is this LinkedIn?? 😏", "Shoot me your number, if we vibe maybe we can get together sometime this week ♥️", "Hey you 👋", "Just getting back from a nice walk hbu? (How about you?)", "Aha it’s soo nice out. You working from home?", "Oh that sounds so chill good for you!", "I’m in digital marketing aha but enough about work. What do you do for fun 😂", "Yeah I love exploring and seeing new places, getting rowdy with friends and playing music. But also enjoy taking it easy aha I have a cuddly side to me 💁‍♂️", "Hope you can handle being teased a bit 💁‍♂️", "I mean sounds like it could be a good time with the right company 😈", "Aha as long as you’re a good cuddler", "when are you available? 😘", "Love the confidence", "Oh so like right now??", "Ou wanna stream the hockey game and chill?", "Sure, I can just come for like 8 👍 what’s your address?", "Sounds good! 😘", "Here!", "Aha had such a good time thanks for having me 😘" ]

[ { "coach_comment": null, "content": " Hi", "role": "Her" }, { "coach_comment": null, "content": "I’m not the best at math but you could replace my X and I won’t ask Y", "role": "assistant" }, { "coach_comment": null, "content": " 😂 Omg how well does that work on women 😝", "role": "Her" }, { "coach_comment": " The aim of this message is to keep the conversation fun and light hearted in the early stages of the interaction.", "content": "Lmao well I’ve never tried it, so I guess we’ll find out together 🫢", "role": "assistant" }, { "coach_comment": null, "content": " Well it definitely got me laughing 😂", "role": "Her" }, { "coach_comment": null, "content": "Aha ok off to a good start 😅", "role": "assistant" }, { "coach_comment": " The aim of this message is to check her intentions and what she wants out of the interaction.", "content": "You’re cute, what are you looking for on here?", "role": "assistant" }, { "coach_comment": null, "content": " Thanks 🙂", "role": "Her" }, { "coach_comment": null, "content": " Nothing too serious I’m just here for a good time. This message can be interpreted as her looking for and one night stand (ONS).", "role": "Her" }, { "coach_comment": null, "content": " What about you?", "role": "Her" }, { "coach_comment": null, "content": " You’re easy on the eyes too", "role": "Her" }, { "coach_comment": null, "content": "Aha thanks girl 😘", "role": "assistant" }, { "coach_comment": " This message matches her energy. It doesn’t scare her off by saying he’s looking for something serious but it is also not explicitly looking for a ONS. It is deliberately vague.", "content": "And me too, trying to have some fun and going with the flow", "role": "assistant" }, { "coach_comment": null, "content": " Awesome :)", "role": "Her" }, { "coach_comment": null, "content": " So tell me about yourself", "role": "Her" }, { "coach_comment": null, "content": " Sounds like an interview question but you get the point 🤪", "role": "Her" }, { "coach_comment": " This message teases her boring ‘interview style’ question.", "content": "Lmfoa is this LinkedIn?? 😏", "role": "assistant" }, { "coach_comment": null, "content": " Aren’t you linking in an app so technically? 😉", "role": "Her" }, { "coach_comment": " This message conveys that he has options and can be picky when it comes to choosing women by saying ‘if we vibe’.", "content": "Shoot me your number, if we vibe maybe we can get together sometime this week ♥️", "role": "assistant" }, { "coach_comment": null, "content": " Haha sure (phone number)", "role": "Her" }, { "coach_comment": null, "content": "Hey you 👋", "role": "assistant" }, { "coach_comment": null, "content": " Hi Hunter what’s up?", "role": "Her" }, { "coach_comment": " When you get the phone number, it is usually better to go back into vibing instead of going straight for the date. ", "content": "Just getting back from a nice walk hbu? (How about you?)", "role": "assistant" }, { "coach_comment": null, "content": " Nice! Just got off a work meeting", "role": "Her" }, { "coach_comment": null, "content": " The day looks super nice", "role": "Her" }, { "coach_comment": " ", "content": "Aha it’s soo nice out. You working from home?", "role": "assistant" }, { "coach_comment": null, "content": " I’m an MBA student so I’m interning from home for now", "role": "Her" }, { "coach_comment": null, "content": " What about you - what do you do? ", "role": "Her" }, { "coach_comment": null, "content": "Oh that sounds so chill good for you!", "role": "assistant" }, { "coach_comment": " The aim of this message is to break away from the boring small talk and keep it fun and playful.", "content": "I’m in digital marketing aha but enough about work. What do you do for fun 😂", "role": "assistant" }, { "coach_comment": null, "content": " Yeah it’s good - keeps me busy which is nice", "role": "Her" }, { "coach_comment": null, "content": " Haha ok fair enough", "role": "Her" }, { "coach_comment": null, "content": " I’m an adrenaline junkie generally - roller coasters, skydiving etc. but on a regular day I like hiking, doing dinner and drinks with friends, love concerts", "role": "Her" }, { "coach_comment": null, "content": " Honestly I’m down for pretty much anything", "role": "Her" }, { "coach_comment": null, "content": " Travel was a big one pre-pandemic - you?", "role": "Her" }, { "coach_comment": null, "content": "", "role": "assistant" }, { "coach_comment": null, "content": "Yeah I love exploring and seeing new places, getting rowdy with friends and playing music. But also enjoy taking it easy aha I have a cuddly side to me 💁‍♂️", "role": "assistant" }, { "coach_comment": null, "content": " I don’t know whether to be insulted about the bookworm comment or not 😂", "role": "Her" }, { "coach_comment": null, "content": " haha me too! I will happily spend a day in bed on the weekend", "role": "Her" }, { "coach_comment": null, "content": "Hope you can handle being teased a bit 💁‍♂️", "role": "assistant" }, { "coach_comment": " This message injects a flirty vibe to the interaction. ", "content": "I mean sounds like it could be a good time with the right company 😈", "role": "assistant" }, { "coach_comment": null, "content": " It’s always a good time with the right company 😏", "role": "Her" }, { "coach_comment": null, "content": "Aha as long as you’re a good cuddler", "role": "assistant" }, { "coach_comment": null, "content": "when are you available? 😘", "role": "assistant" }, { "coach_comment": null, "content": " I’m the greatest cuddler", "role": "Her" }, { "coach_comment": null, "content": " Haha any time essentially - you?", "role": "Her" }, { "coach_comment": null, "content": "Love the confidence", "role": "assistant" }, { "coach_comment": " This message teases her.", "content": "Oh so like right now??", "role": "assistant" }, { "coach_comment": null, "content": " Haha ok any time in the evening", "role": "Her" }, { "coach_comment": null, "content": " I have a medical blog to write for today but I’m free post 7", "role": "Her" }, { "coach_comment": null, "content": "Ou wanna stream the hockey game and chill?", "role": "assistant" }, { "coach_comment": null, "content": " I’m down", "role": "Her" }, { "coach_comment": null, "content": "", "role": "assistant" }, { "coach_comment": null, "content": " Come to mine. I don’t know how long the blog will take me to write so it gives me a little bit of extra time this way", "role": "Her" }, { "coach_comment": null, "content": "Sure, I can just come for like 8 👍 what’s your address?", "role": "assistant" }, { "coach_comment": null, "content": " (Address)", "role": "Her" }, { "coach_comment": null, "content": " You’ll have to call me when you get here so I can let you up", "role": "Her" }, { "coach_comment": null, "content": "Sounds good! 😘", "role": "assistant" }, { "coach_comment": null, "content": " See you tonight 😊", "role": "Her" }, { "coach_comment": null, "content": "Here!", "role": "assistant" }, { "coach_comment": null, "content": " coming down", "role": "Her" }, { "coach_comment": null, "content": " Last night was fun but I’m sore as a mofo right now 😂", "role": "Her" }, { "coach_comment": null, "content": "Aha had such a good time thanks for having me 😘", "role": "assistant" }, { "coach_comment": null, "content": " Any time", "role": "Her" }, { "coach_comment": null, "content": " For that dicking down you’re always welcome here 🤪", "role": "Her" } ]