19734 - Make default port 61613 in connector plugins, to match convention/docs

Docs and comments for the ActiveMQ connector stated that the port would default
to 61613 (the closest thing to a standard Stomp port we've been able to find) if
unspecified; instead, it defaults to 6163. This commit changes the default port
to match what we said, and does the same in the RabbitMQ connector.
19734 - Make default port 61613 in connector plugins, to match convention/docs

changelog
Docs: New server configuration reference

This page describes all of the server settings most users will need, including
info about the connector and security plugins.
19752 - Friendly and informative errors when there's no libdir

There is no default libdir so when users do not set it they get
very unfriendly errors from File.exist etc which does not really
say what is wrong.

This commit adds a better error message when libdir is not set
19827 - Application#halt does not work if discovery data is supplied

Prior to version 2 the discovery situation was real simple, discovery
time == 0 means there were no discovery done at all.

Since version 2 things are a lot more complex as discovery time can be
zero if someone supplied specific discovery data either through --nodes,
or -I or through the API.

The halt() helper needed updating for the post 2 world and unfortunately
this means the behaviour also had to change slightly

it would exit with 0 when no discovery done but any responses were
received, effectively masking situations with no discovery but with some
failures.

This refactors the code and changes the meaning of 0 slightly in the
case of no discovery to: no discovery were done and > 0 responses were
received, all ok.

Thus in cases where discovery isn't done for whatever reason you still
get correct exit codes in the case where any results were failures.
19694 - Remove plugin.discovery.timeout

The plugin.discovery.timeout option used to be useful a long time
ago as a way to influence default discovery time.

It's not been used for this for a long time and now doesn't really
change anything in a meaningful way, this commit removes this feature