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[ { "content": "Stepfather was fired unexpectedly and has been refused a reason for his termination. Boss's son now gets his contracts, is this wrongful termination? We live in Huntsville, AL and this happened last week. My stepfather works at a printer/office supply renting leasing type company and he and my mom had just returned from vacation and when he went back to work they fired him, and although he asked their reasoning, they refused to explain. Now, his friends at the job have told him that all the contracts he had sold and negotiated were being passed on to the boss's son, and he is making easy money because of it. I was just wondering if this could qualify as wrongful termination because as far as anyone can tell, the only reason he was fired was so that the boss's son didn't actually have to work to sell anything and he could get paid commission for all the contracts that are soon to come back up that my stepdad was previously in charge of. I couldn't find anything in the AL or federal state codes but I did only give it a topical review. We plan on trying to set up a meeting in order to at least give the boss a chance to explain if there were other factors at play but, being as he was among their top salesman, had won them contracts with several large companies, and had a spotless record, I don't know of any other reason for him to be dropped.", "role": "user" }, { "content": "Did your father have an employment contract?", "role": "assistant" } ]

[ { "content": "Stepfather was fired unexpectedly and has been refused a reason for his termination. Boss's son now gets his contracts, is this wrongful termination? We live in Huntsville, AL and this happened last week. My stepfather works at a printer/office supply renting leasing type company and he and my mom had just returned from vacation and when he went back to work they fired him, and although he asked their reasoning, they refused to explain. Now, his friends at the job have told him that all the contracts he had sold and negotiated were being passed on to the boss's son, and he is making easy money because of it. I was just wondering if this could qualify as wrongful termination because as far as anyone can tell, the only reason he was fired was so that the boss's son didn't actually have to work to sell anything and he could get paid commission for all the contracts that are soon to come back up that my stepdad was previously in charge of. I couldn't find anything in the AL or federal state codes but I did only give it a topical review. We plan on trying to set up a meeting in order to at least give the boss a chance to explain if there were other factors at play but, being as he was among their top salesman, had won them contracts with several large companies, and had a spotless record, I don't know of any other reason for him to be dropped.", "role": "user" }, { "content": "Sorry to hear this happened. The employer, as far as I know, does not need to provide the employee with a reason for the termination. What your father should do, and most likely his only recourse, is to file for unemployment. Once your father has filed for unemployment the employer will then be allowed to weigh in on the whether or not unemployment is allowed. The employer will either attempt to provide an acceptable reason (one that can be used to deny unemployment) or they will provide a reason that will not succeed in the denial of unemployment benefits. If you are denied unemployment benefits you should be able to appeal the initial decision, this is when you'll likely find out the reason given for the termination.", "role": "assistant" } ]

[ { "content": "I only want to pay child support and they are forcing me to have a family My ex (22) is 4 months pregnant, it wasn't planned; we did talk about it that I didn't want to keep it but in the end she just decided to. Now she and her father is forcing me have a family with her in which I don't want but her father is threatening me with either slander or defamation, maybe worse. I said I am wiiling to pay child support and give parental support as I am still the father of the child. I just don't want to be forced on having a family which I don't want. I am from the Philippines in which is an asian country.", "role": "user" }, { "content": "---\r > http://imgur.com/a/myIAb\r \r ---\r *I am a bot whose sole purpose is to improve the timeliness and accuracy of responses in this subreddit.*\r \r ---\r **It appears you forgot to include your location in the title or body of your post. Please update the body of your original post to include this information.**\r \r ---\r ***Do NOT delete this post - Instead, simply edit the post with the requested information.***\r \r ---\r \r Author: /u/Christianopinaa\r \r Title: **I only want to pay child support and they are forcing me to have a family**\r \r Original Post: \r \r > My ex (22) is 4 months pregnant, it wasn't planned; we did talk about it that I didn't want to keep it but in the end she just decided to. Now she and her father is forcing me have a family with her in which I don't want but her father is threatening me with either slander or defamation, maybe worse. I said I am wiiling to pay child support and give parental support as I am still the father of the child. I just don't want to be forced on having a family which I don't want.\r \r \r \r \r ---\r LocationBot 4.998375 71/193rds | Report Issues", "role": "assistant" } ]

[ { "content": "I only want to pay child support and they are forcing me to have a family My ex (22) is 4 months pregnant, it wasn't planned; we did talk about it that I didn't want to keep it but in the end she just decided to. Now she and her father is forcing me have a family with her in which I don't want but her father is threatening me with either slander or defamation, maybe worse. I said I am wiiling to pay child support and give parental support as I am still the father of the child. I just don't want to be forced on having a family which I don't want. I am from the Philippines in which is an asian country.", "role": "user" }, { "content": "You don't have to assume any parental duties besides child support. (Please give them any of your family medical issues, they need to know.)", "role": "assistant" } ]

[ { "content": "I only want to pay child support and they are forcing me to have a family My ex (22) is 4 months pregnant, it wasn't planned; we did talk about it that I didn't want to keep it but in the end she just decided to. Now she and her father is forcing me have a family with her in which I don't want but her father is threatening me with either slander or defamation, maybe worse. I said I am wiiling to pay child support and give parental support as I am still the father of the child. I just don't want to be forced on having a family which I don't want. I am from the Philippines in which is an asian country.", "role": "user" }, { "content": "---\r > http://imgur.com/a/myIAb\r \r ---\r *I am a bot whose sole purpose is to improve the timeliness and accuracy of responses in this subreddit.*\r \r ---\r **It appears you forgot to include your location in the title or body of your post. Please update the body of your original post to include this information.**\r \r ---\r ***Do NOT delete this post - Instead, simply edit the post with the requested information.***\r \r ---\r \r Author: /u/Christianopinaa\r \r Title: **I only want to pay child support and they are forcing me to have a family**\r \r Original Post: \r \r > My ex (22) is 4 months pregnant, it wasn't planned; we did talk about it that I didn't want to keep it but in the end she just decided to. Now she and her father is forcing me have a family with her in which I don't want but her father is threatening me with either slander or defamation, maybe worse. I said I am wiiling to pay child support and give parental support as I am still the father of the child. I just don't want to be forced on having a family which I don't want.\r \r \r \r \r ---\r LocationBot 4.998375 71/193rds | Report Issues", "role": "assistant" } ]

[ { "content": "I only want to pay child support and they are forcing me to have a family My ex (22) is 4 months pregnant, it wasn't planned; we did talk about it that I didn't want to keep it but in the end she just decided to. Now she and her father is forcing me have a family with her in which I don't want but her father is threatening me with either slander or defamation, maybe worse. I said I am wiiling to pay child support and give parental support as I am still the father of the child. I just don't want to be forced on having a family which I don't want. I am from the Philippines in which is an asian country.", "role": "user" }, { "content": ">her father is threatening me with either slander or defamation, maybe worse. Can you elaborate", "role": "assistant" } ]

[ { "content": "I only want to pay child support and they are forcing me to have a family My ex (22) is 4 months pregnant, it wasn't planned; we did talk about it that I didn't want to keep it but in the end she just decided to. Now she and her father is forcing me have a family with her in which I don't want but her father is threatening me with either slander or defamation, maybe worse. I said I am wiiling to pay child support and give parental support as I am still the father of the child. I just don't want to be forced on having a family which I don't want. I am from the Philippines in which is an asian country.", "role": "user" }, { "content": "What country, state, or province do you live in ? In most places, and certainly everywhere in the US, a person or a court cannot force you to have a personal relationship with your children's mother or with your children. Courts can compel you to pay child support. That's all. In most places, demanding something intangible like \"a relationship\" is not money or property, so threatening defamation is not extortion. But if he actually does defame you, in a way that causes you money damages, you could (in theory) sue him in civil court. Most public comments about a man who gets your daughter pregnant then wants nothing to do with her are likely to be opinion, which is not defamatory. Defamatory statements must be about facts.", "role": "assistant" } ]

[ { "content": "I only want to pay child support and they are forcing me to have a family My ex (22) is 4 months pregnant, it wasn't planned; we did talk about it that I didn't want to keep it but in the end she just decided to. Now she and her father is forcing me have a family with her in which I don't want but her father is threatening me with either slander or defamation, maybe worse. I said I am wiiling to pay child support and give parental support as I am still the father of the child. I just don't want to be forced on having a family which I don't want. I am from the Philippines in which is an asian country.", "role": "user" }, { "content": "> I am from the Philippines in which is an asian country. The laws in the philippines support your position to only pay child support/parental support. That said, you know very well that in the Philippines, gun crime is *very common* and an aggrieved father may do drastic things. My suggestion is to move but do your legal obligations.", "role": "assistant" } ]

[ { "content": "I only want to pay child support and they are forcing me to have a family My ex (22) is 4 months pregnant, it wasn't planned; we did talk about it that I didn't want to keep it but in the end she just decided to. Now she and her father is forcing me have a family with her in which I don't want but her father is threatening me with either slander or defamation, maybe worse. I said I am wiiling to pay child support and give parental support as I am still the father of the child. I just don't want to be forced on having a family which I don't want. I am from the Philippines in which is an asian country.", "role": "user" }, { "content": "---\r > http://imgur.com/a/myIAb\r \r ---\r *I am a bot whose sole purpose is to improve the timeliness and accuracy of responses in this subreddit.*\r \r ---\r **It appears you forgot to include your location in the title or body of your post. Please update the body of your original post to include this information.**\r \r ---\r ***Do NOT delete this post - Instead, simply edit the post with the requested information.***\r \r ---\r \r Author: /u/Christianopinaa\r \r Title: **I only want to pay child support and they are forcing me to have a family**\r \r Original Post: \r \r > My ex (22) is 4 months pregnant, it wasn't planned; we did talk about it that I didn't want to keep it but in the end she just decided to. Now she and her father is forcing me have a family with her in which I don't want but her father is threatening me with either slander or defamation, maybe worse. I said I am wiiling to pay child support and give parental support as I am still the father of the child. I just don't want to be forced on having a family which I don't want.\r \r \r \r \r ---\r LocationBot 4.998375 71/193rds | Report Issues", "role": "assistant" } ]

[ { "content": "I only want to pay child support and they are forcing me to have a family My ex (22) is 4 months pregnant, it wasn't planned; we did talk about it that I didn't want to keep it but in the end she just decided to. Now she and her father is forcing me have a family with her in which I don't want but her father is threatening me with either slander or defamation, maybe worse. I said I am wiiling to pay child support and give parental support as I am still the father of the child. I just don't want to be forced on having a family which I don't want. I am from the Philippines in which is an asian country.", "role": "user" }, { "content": "> I am from the Philippines in which is an asian country. The laws in the philippines support your position to only pay child support/parental support. That said, you know very well that in the Philippines, gun crime is *very common* and an aggrieved father may do drastic things. My suggestion is to move but do your legal obligations.", "role": "assistant" } ]

[ { "content": "I only want to pay child support and they are forcing me to have a family My ex (22) is 4 months pregnant, it wasn't planned; we did talk about it that I didn't want to keep it but in the end she just decided to. Now she and her father is forcing me have a family with her in which I don't want but her father is threatening me with either slander or defamation, maybe worse. I said I am wiiling to pay child support and give parental support as I am still the father of the child. I just don't want to be forced on having a family which I don't want. I am from the Philippines in which is an asian country.", "role": "user" }, { "content": "---\r > http://imgur.com/a/myIAb\r \r ---\r *I am a bot whose sole purpose is to improve the timeliness and accuracy of responses in this subreddit.*\r \r ---\r **It appears you forgot to include your location in the title or body of your post. Please update the body of your original post to include this information.**\r \r ---\r ***Do NOT delete this post - Instead, simply edit the post with the requested information.***\r \r ---\r \r Author: /u/Christianopinaa\r \r Title: **I only want to pay child support and they are forcing me to have a family**\r \r Original Post: \r \r > My ex (22) is 4 months pregnant, it wasn't planned; we did talk about it that I didn't want to keep it but in the end she just decided to. Now she and her father is forcing me have a family with her in which I don't want but her father is threatening me with either slander or defamation, maybe worse. I said I am wiiling to pay child support and give parental support as I am still the father of the child. I just don't want to be forced on having a family which I don't want.\r \r \r \r \r ---\r LocationBot 4.998375 71/193rds | Report Issues", "role": "assistant" } ]

[ { "content": "I only want to pay child support and they are forcing me to have a family My ex (22) is 4 months pregnant, it wasn't planned; we did talk about it that I didn't want to keep it but in the end she just decided to. Now she and her father is forcing me have a family with her in which I don't want but her father is threatening me with either slander or defamation, maybe worse. I said I am wiiling to pay child support and give parental support as I am still the father of the child. I just don't want to be forced on having a family which I don't want. I am from the Philippines in which is an asian country.", "role": "user" }, { "content": "What country, state, or province do you live in ? In most places, and certainly everywhere in the US, a person or a court cannot force you to have a personal relationship with your children's mother or with your children. Courts can compel you to pay child support. That's all. In most places, demanding something intangible like \"a relationship\" is not money or property, so threatening defamation is not extortion. But if he actually does defame you, in a way that causes you money damages, you could (in theory) sue him in civil court. Most public comments about a man who gets your daughter pregnant then wants nothing to do with her are likely to be opinion, which is not defamatory. Defamatory statements must be about facts.", "role": "assistant" } ]

[ { "content": "My [28m] family insists on forcing my grandfather [78m] through medical cancer treatment and acts infantalizes him, take away his choice, and he's too sweet to stop them but told me privately he just \"wants to die with dignity in his own house\" My grandfather has been getting forgetful for a few years now. He practically raised me when I was a kid and has always been the strongest and most capable man I've ever known. He was a naval officer for decades, he ran companies, he was an avid traveller, a sailor with his own yaght winning many races. He was a handyman who built his own house from scratch, who could fix anything, do whatever he set his mind on. He was involved in civil rights. He could hear a piano tune play and immediately recreate it even without any formal training whatsoever. Now for years this brilliant man has been trapped in a body that is increasingly weaker and more frail. It breaks my heart. Last week when I visited him, he took my hand in his hand, pulled me closer to him and said: \"I'm not afraid to die. But if I do, can you make sure it's in my own house, in my own bed, and with dignity?\" I hate the way my mother, father and cousins, uncles and aunties talk about my grandfather and his condition. Not to mention my grandmother who for years has overfed him on pills and medications half of which I'm sure only made him worse, more desoriented and weaker. They infantalize him. They treat him like a big child. Like someone with hardly a will of his own. No respect. He wants to die with dignity. If the cancer gets worse, chances are he will be put in a hospital. Surgery and chemo may cause his mind to deteriorate at a faster rate. Which would be the worst thing they could ever do to a proud and strong man. Just because he's forgetful at times does not mean he is a child without a will of his own. Now my grandfather is the kindest soul you could imagine. And my grandmother's word is everything to him. He will go along with whatever she says, even if it's not what he wants. I have no allies in my family, which is quite large and loves my grandfather to death, to the degree that they overlook his quality of life and his own choices. They're blind and deaf to any arguments I make and at the same time I have a hard time talking privately to my grandfather without my grandma being present. **TL;DR:** My grandfather has cancer. His health, mental and physical, is in decline but he wants to die with honor and dignity and it looks like my family won't allow him that choice. **EDIT:** My location is Louisiana.", "role": "user" }, { "content": "Contact the Governor’s Office of Elderly Affairs in Louisiana: http://goea.louisiana.gov/ Health care power of attorney forms are available on their website: http://goea.louisiana.gov/assets/docs/LouisianaHCPOA.pdf", "role": "assistant" } ]

[ { "content": "My [28m] family insists on forcing my grandfather [78m] through medical cancer treatment and acts infantalizes him, take away his choice, and he's too sweet to stop them but told me privately he just \"wants to die with dignity in his own house\" My grandfather has been getting forgetful for a few years now. He practically raised me when I was a kid and has always been the strongest and most capable man I've ever known. He was a naval officer for decades, he ran companies, he was an avid traveller, a sailor with his own yaght winning many races. He was a handyman who built his own house from scratch, who could fix anything, do whatever he set his mind on. He was involved in civil rights. He could hear a piano tune play and immediately recreate it even without any formal training whatsoever. Now for years this brilliant man has been trapped in a body that is increasingly weaker and more frail. It breaks my heart. Last week when I visited him, he took my hand in his hand, pulled me closer to him and said: \"I'm not afraid to die. But if I do, can you make sure it's in my own house, in my own bed, and with dignity?\" I hate the way my mother, father and cousins, uncles and aunties talk about my grandfather and his condition. Not to mention my grandmother who for years has overfed him on pills and medications half of which I'm sure only made him worse, more desoriented and weaker. They infantalize him. They treat him like a big child. Like someone with hardly a will of his own. No respect. He wants to die with dignity. If the cancer gets worse, chances are he will be put in a hospital. Surgery and chemo may cause his mind to deteriorate at a faster rate. Which would be the worst thing they could ever do to a proud and strong man. Just because he's forgetful at times does not mean he is a child without a will of his own. Now my grandfather is the kindest soul you could imagine. And my grandmother's word is everything to him. He will go along with whatever she says, even if it's not what he wants. I have no allies in my family, which is quite large and loves my grandfather to death, to the degree that they overlook his quality of life and his own choices. They're blind and deaf to any arguments I make and at the same time I have a hard time talking privately to my grandfather without my grandma being present. **TL;DR:** My grandfather has cancer. His health, mental and physical, is in decline but he wants to die with honor and dignity and it looks like my family won't allow him that choice. **EDIT:** My location is Louisiana.", "role": "user" }, { "content": "While you grandfather is mentally competent he needs to meet with an attorney and draw up advanced directives and a power of attorney. The advanced directives can be a DNR or living will and the POA can give you the power to overrule *all* of your family when he declines to the point that he is no longer mentally competent. The POA will override your grandma's status as his wife and give medical decision making power to the one he names.", "role": "assistant" } ]

[ { "content": "My [28m] family insists on forcing my grandfather [78m] through medical cancer treatment and acts infantalizes him, take away his choice, and he's too sweet to stop them but told me privately he just \"wants to die with dignity in his own house\" My grandfather has been getting forgetful for a few years now. He practically raised me when I was a kid and has always been the strongest and most capable man I've ever known. He was a naval officer for decades, he ran companies, he was an avid traveller, a sailor with his own yaght winning many races. He was a handyman who built his own house from scratch, who could fix anything, do whatever he set his mind on. He was involved in civil rights. He could hear a piano tune play and immediately recreate it even without any formal training whatsoever. Now for years this brilliant man has been trapped in a body that is increasingly weaker and more frail. It breaks my heart. Last week when I visited him, he took my hand in his hand, pulled me closer to him and said: \"I'm not afraid to die. But if I do, can you make sure it's in my own house, in my own bed, and with dignity?\" I hate the way my mother, father and cousins, uncles and aunties talk about my grandfather and his condition. Not to mention my grandmother who for years has overfed him on pills and medications half of which I'm sure only made him worse, more desoriented and weaker. They infantalize him. They treat him like a big child. Like someone with hardly a will of his own. No respect. He wants to die with dignity. If the cancer gets worse, chances are he will be put in a hospital. Surgery and chemo may cause his mind to deteriorate at a faster rate. Which would be the worst thing they could ever do to a proud and strong man. Just because he's forgetful at times does not mean he is a child without a will of his own. Now my grandfather is the kindest soul you could imagine. And my grandmother's word is everything to him. He will go along with whatever she says, even if it's not what he wants. I have no allies in my family, which is quite large and loves my grandfather to death, to the degree that they overlook his quality of life and his own choices. They're blind and deaf to any arguments I make and at the same time I have a hard time talking privately to my grandfather without my grandma being present. **TL;DR:** My grandfather has cancer. His health, mental and physical, is in decline but he wants to die with honor and dignity and it looks like my family won't allow him that choice. **EDIT:** My location is Louisiana.", "role": "user" }, { "content": "Contact the Governor’s Office of Elderly Affairs in Louisiana: http://goea.louisiana.gov/ Health care power of attorney forms are available on their website: http://goea.louisiana.gov/assets/docs/LouisianaHCPOA.pdf", "role": "assistant" } ]

[ { "content": "My [28m] family insists on forcing my grandfather [78m] through medical cancer treatment and acts infantalizes him, take away his choice, and he's too sweet to stop them but told me privately he just \"wants to die with dignity in his own house\" My grandfather has been getting forgetful for a few years now. He practically raised me when I was a kid and has always been the strongest and most capable man I've ever known. He was a naval officer for decades, he ran companies, he was an avid traveller, a sailor with his own yaght winning many races. He was a handyman who built his own house from scratch, who could fix anything, do whatever he set his mind on. He was involved in civil rights. He could hear a piano tune play and immediately recreate it even without any formal training whatsoever. Now for years this brilliant man has been trapped in a body that is increasingly weaker and more frail. It breaks my heart. Last week when I visited him, he took my hand in his hand, pulled me closer to him and said: \"I'm not afraid to die. But if I do, can you make sure it's in my own house, in my own bed, and with dignity?\" I hate the way my mother, father and cousins, uncles and aunties talk about my grandfather and his condition. Not to mention my grandmother who for years has overfed him on pills and medications half of which I'm sure only made him worse, more desoriented and weaker. They infantalize him. They treat him like a big child. Like someone with hardly a will of his own. No respect. He wants to die with dignity. If the cancer gets worse, chances are he will be put in a hospital. Surgery and chemo may cause his mind to deteriorate at a faster rate. Which would be the worst thing they could ever do to a proud and strong man. Just because he's forgetful at times does not mean he is a child without a will of his own. Now my grandfather is the kindest soul you could imagine. And my grandmother's word is everything to him. He will go along with whatever she says, even if it's not what he wants. I have no allies in my family, which is quite large and loves my grandfather to death, to the degree that they overlook his quality of life and his own choices. They're blind and deaf to any arguments I make and at the same time I have a hard time talking privately to my grandfather without my grandma being present. **TL;DR:** My grandfather has cancer. His health, mental and physical, is in decline but he wants to die with honor and dignity and it looks like my family won't allow him that choice. **EDIT:** My location is Louisiana.", "role": "user" }, { "content": "I am a medical social worker and I see this type of stuff all the time. The very best thing to do is to get Grandpa to sign a healthcare Power of attorney form (names someone close to him who he wants to have make his medical decisions), a living will (what he wants to have done if he is hospitalized and can't speak for himself), and an advance directive (whether or not he wants to have CPR done on him). Now you can have Grandpa go to his lawyer and get it done, but there is a way to have it done free, and it's completely legal. It's called \"Five Wishes\" and you can download and print it off of this site: https://pdfsimpli.com/forms/5-wishes-pdf/ When he fills it out, he just has to fill in the blanks, and then have someone sign it as a witness (someone different). There are a lot of different statements saying I want to have this done or I want to have that done. If he doesn't want that done, he just crosses it out. If there's something not listed, he puts that on the blank lines at the end of each \"wish.\" The most important thing about this document is 1. keep it safe (because if family members disagree with it, they may make it disappear, KWIM?). and 2. keep it handy, because if Grandpa's heart suddenly stops and he needs CPR, you need to produce that Wishes document to show that he doesn't want CPR (or whatever). This is not the kind of document that you sign and then put in the filing cabinet for years. This is the document that you sign and then put on the fridge or on the side of his bed, somewhere where medical professionals will see it.", "role": "assistant" } ]

[ { "content": "My younger brother died, I have his kid. My brother died in June of 2020. My husband and I have been primary caregivers since then. His mother, X, is not the mothering type and often doesn't ask about or see him for weeks, and months at a time. Kid is 3 and never had his own bed there. She gets him when it's convenient for her. So she has a new partner and this other girl just had her 4 kids removed from the home. This happened last Thursday night. I got a call and told CPS was there, they were being evicted, could I come get him. I did and CPS caseworker said he was removing other girls kids and X was just named in the investigation. They are now trying to find housing across state lines to give them time to clean up before CPS catches up. We want to draw something up that gives me guardianship. Problem is she is desperate to hold on to his SS check. She can keep that, we just need him to stay with us. How can it be worded without excluding her from being mom, but making it legal that he resides with us. I need to be able to enroll him in school, keep his dr and medicaid stuff straight without the worry of her calling or being able to undo anything.", "role": "user" }, { "content": "You need an attorney, You'll have to pursue guardianship through the courts if the mother won't allow the child to stay with you. There's no guarantee the court will place him with you over his mother.", "role": "assistant" } ]

[ { "content": "My younger brother died, I have his kid. My brother died in June of 2020. My husband and I have been primary caregivers since then. His mother, X, is not the mothering type and often doesn't ask about or see him for weeks, and months at a time. Kid is 3 and never had his own bed there. She gets him when it's convenient for her. So she has a new partner and this other girl just had her 4 kids removed from the home. This happened last Thursday night. I got a call and told CPS was there, they were being evicted, could I come get him. I did and CPS caseworker said he was removing other girls kids and X was just named in the investigation. They are now trying to find housing across state lines to give them time to clean up before CPS catches up. We want to draw something up that gives me guardianship. Problem is she is desperate to hold on to his SS check. She can keep that, we just need him to stay with us. How can it be worded without excluding her from being mom, but making it legal that he resides with us. I need to be able to enroll him in school, keep his dr and medicaid stuff straight without the worry of her calling or being able to undo anything.", "role": "user" }, { "content": "Reach out to CPS, and ask them for assistance in establishing some type of custodial control. Additionally, ask them for any information they have on resources to support him. As kin, you may be able to get additional support (in my state they could pay medical expenses and for day care, etc.) tell them you want to go for guardianship.", "role": "assistant" } ]

[ { "content": "My younger brother died, I have his kid. My brother died in June of 2020. My husband and I have been primary caregivers since then. His mother, X, is not the mothering type and often doesn't ask about or see him for weeks, and months at a time. Kid is 3 and never had his own bed there. She gets him when it's convenient for her. So she has a new partner and this other girl just had her 4 kids removed from the home. This happened last Thursday night. I got a call and told CPS was there, they were being evicted, could I come get him. I did and CPS caseworker said he was removing other girls kids and X was just named in the investigation. They are now trying to find housing across state lines to give them time to clean up before CPS catches up. We want to draw something up that gives me guardianship. Problem is she is desperate to hold on to his SS check. She can keep that, we just need him to stay with us. How can it be worded without excluding her from being mom, but making it legal that he resides with us. I need to be able to enroll him in school, keep his dr and medicaid stuff straight without the worry of her calling or being able to undo anything.", "role": "user" }, { "content": "\\_\\_ Not legal advice \\_\\_ First and foremost, props to you for doing what you're doing. Any brother would be blessed and proud to have a sister like you. Go to your local court, there are guardianship clinics you can reach out to (for free) with an attorney present (for free) to give you the necessary advise. However, since there is a mother present, you will 'most likely' need her blessing / signature on the papers, in order to become a legal guardian. Please note, your income may affect the SS if high pay / income, you won't get SS which ultimately leads to the mother not getting it, which ultimately leads to things not going the way you want it. So, use your wording carefully (what may happen in the future, does not necessarily need to be discussed) as it's a mere possibility, and it's not your job to do so. best of luck to you.", "role": "assistant" } ]

[ { "content": "My younger brother died, I have his kid. My brother died in June of 2020. My husband and I have been primary caregivers since then. His mother, X, is not the mothering type and often doesn't ask about or see him for weeks, and months at a time. Kid is 3 and never had his own bed there. She gets him when it's convenient for her. So she has a new partner and this other girl just had her 4 kids removed from the home. This happened last Thursday night. I got a call and told CPS was there, they were being evicted, could I come get him. I did and CPS caseworker said he was removing other girls kids and X was just named in the investigation. They are now trying to find housing across state lines to give them time to clean up before CPS catches up. We want to draw something up that gives me guardianship. Problem is she is desperate to hold on to his SS check. She can keep that, we just need him to stay with us. How can it be worded without excluding her from being mom, but making it legal that he resides with us. I need to be able to enroll him in school, keep his dr and medicaid stuff straight without the worry of her calling or being able to undo anything.", "role": "user" }, { "content": "Reach out to CPS, and ask them for assistance in establishing some type of custodial control. Additionally, ask them for any information they have on resources to support him. As kin, you may be able to get additional support (in my state they could pay medical expenses and for day care, etc.) tell them you want to go for guardianship.", "role": "assistant" } ]

[ { "content": "My younger brother died, I have his kid. My brother died in June of 2020. My husband and I have been primary caregivers since then. His mother, X, is not the mothering type and often doesn't ask about or see him for weeks, and months at a time. Kid is 3 and never had his own bed there. She gets him when it's convenient for her. So she has a new partner and this other girl just had her 4 kids removed from the home. This happened last Thursday night. I got a call and told CPS was there, they were being evicted, could I come get him. I did and CPS caseworker said he was removing other girls kids and X was just named in the investigation. They are now trying to find housing across state lines to give them time to clean up before CPS catches up. We want to draw something up that gives me guardianship. Problem is she is desperate to hold on to his SS check. She can keep that, we just need him to stay with us. How can it be worded without excluding her from being mom, but making it legal that he resides with us. I need to be able to enroll him in school, keep his dr and medicaid stuff straight without the worry of her calling or being able to undo anything.", "role": "user" }, { "content": "You need an attorney, You'll have to pursue guardianship through the courts if the mother won't allow the child to stay with you. There's no guarantee the court will place him with you over his mother.", "role": "assistant" } ]

[ { "content": "My younger brother died, I have his kid. My brother died in June of 2020. My husband and I have been primary caregivers since then. His mother, X, is not the mothering type and often doesn't ask about or see him for weeks, and months at a time. Kid is 3 and never had his own bed there. She gets him when it's convenient for her. So she has a new partner and this other girl just had her 4 kids removed from the home. This happened last Thursday night. I got a call and told CPS was there, they were being evicted, could I come get him. I did and CPS caseworker said he was removing other girls kids and X was just named in the investigation. They are now trying to find housing across state lines to give them time to clean up before CPS catches up. We want to draw something up that gives me guardianship. Problem is she is desperate to hold on to his SS check. She can keep that, we just need him to stay with us. How can it be worded without excluding her from being mom, but making it legal that he resides with us. I need to be able to enroll him in school, keep his dr and medicaid stuff straight without the worry of her calling or being able to undo anything.", "role": "user" }, { "content": "She is already committing fraud by recieving his SSI check when he doesn't reside with her; the rules for custodial SSI are very clear about this.", "role": "assistant" } ]

[ { "content": "Can my parents force me to take custody of my niece? (I'm in California) Hi, I'm really new to reddit. I'm a 17 year old girl living with her parents, who are very religious. My brother has a drug problem and so does his wife. They have a kid. They've both been arrested. My parents are saying that it's my legal responsibility to take custody of their kid because I turn 18 next week and it's the law that I have to adopt my niece. I can't find any law that says this, but I can't be sure. I told them I'm going to college (which they didn't know I plan on doing) and they said that's not important, that I have a Godly and legal duty to this child and they will find me a husband to make money to pay bills. I guess my question is: is there really a law that says I have to take custody of my niece? I love her but I can't take care of a two year old. I also don't want to marry some random man to \"take care\" of me. I think my parents are just wanting to not have to take her. They keep telling me that if she goes \"into the system\" they'll turn me in for child abuse and I'll go to jail. I don't want that. Is there really a way they can force me to take her? And what really happens to her if I don't? Sorry if this is all over the place, I'm just really scared and I can't afford a lawyer, I have no money. Thank you in advance.", "role": "user" }, { "content": "Here are some links to help you find Free and low cost legal help Your college may also have legal services for students. If there is a law school in the area, they may also have free or low cost legal clinics. You can contact Child Protective Services in the county where you live. Tell them the situation. Ask them for assistance in getting help for your niece. They won't make you take your niece and they won't accuse you of child abuse; they will make sure she is taken care of by the right people. If you call CPS now, you can get people looking after your niece before your parents abandon her. If the child is dumped off on your door step, call the police. Tell them a child has been abandoned.", "role": "assistant" } ]

[ { "content": "Can my parents force me to take custody of my niece? (I'm in California) Hi, I'm really new to reddit. I'm a 17 year old girl living with her parents, who are very religious. My brother has a drug problem and so does his wife. They have a kid. They've both been arrested. My parents are saying that it's my legal responsibility to take custody of their kid because I turn 18 next week and it's the law that I have to adopt my niece. I can't find any law that says this, but I can't be sure. I told them I'm going to college (which they didn't know I plan on doing) and they said that's not important, that I have a Godly and legal duty to this child and they will find me a husband to make money to pay bills. I guess my question is: is there really a law that says I have to take custody of my niece? I love her but I can't take care of a two year old. I also don't want to marry some random man to \"take care\" of me. I think my parents are just wanting to not have to take her. They keep telling me that if she goes \"into the system\" they'll turn me in for child abuse and I'll go to jail. I don't want that. Is there really a way they can force me to take her? And what really happens to her if I don't? Sorry if this is all over the place, I'm just really scared and I can't afford a lawyer, I have no money. Thank you in advance.", "role": "user" }, { "content": "Not only can your parents (or the law) make you take care of the child. At 18 with only a high school education and living with your parents, it is unlikely the state would even give you custody. You would not have the financial ability to care for this child", "role": "assistant" } ]

[ { "content": "[Texas] The guy who stole from me wants me to write him a letter of recommendation. What am I allowed to say? My former housekeeper’s son asked me to write him a letter of recommendation today. He used to steal my wife’s bras. We caught him carrying two out to his car one day. He froze in place, said “oops,” and returned *one* and honest-to-god tried to sneak the other into his car. I strongly suspect he stole our tableware, plates, and glasses too. I never caught him red-handed with them, but they only disappeared on days he and his mom came to clean. It wasn’t even our *nice* kitchen stuff either; he stole our decade-old IKEA plates, forks, knives, and spoons, along with all of our daughter’s sippy-cups and straws. He was in his twenties when he did all of this. And now he’s asking me to write a letter of recommendation. How much liability am I exposing myself to if I figure out who this clown wants me to send this letter to and tell them he’s a thief? There is no criminal record that I am aware of because we never filed a police report; we just fired him and his mom and replaced our stuff (including the bras)—and I know we are *very* lucky to have been able to do that. My first instinct is just to delete the email and block this guy’s address and be done with him, but the sheer temerity of his “may I ask a favor of you?” is *really* getting to me.", "role": "user" }, { "content": "Just decline Even if you have truth on your side the cost of litigation is high and is not with exposing yourself to the risk What would you have to gain other than sticking it to him? Ignore and move on", "role": "assistant" } ]

[ { "content": "[Texas] The guy who stole from me wants me to write him a letter of recommendation. What am I allowed to say? My former housekeeper’s son asked me to write him a letter of recommendation today. He used to steal my wife’s bras. We caught him carrying two out to his car one day. He froze in place, said “oops,” and returned *one* and honest-to-god tried to sneak the other into his car. I strongly suspect he stole our tableware, plates, and glasses too. I never caught him red-handed with them, but they only disappeared on days he and his mom came to clean. It wasn’t even our *nice* kitchen stuff either; he stole our decade-old IKEA plates, forks, knives, and spoons, along with all of our daughter’s sippy-cups and straws. He was in his twenties when he did all of this. And now he’s asking me to write a letter of recommendation. How much liability am I exposing myself to if I figure out who this clown wants me to send this letter to and tell them he’s a thief? There is no criminal record that I am aware of because we never filed a police report; we just fired him and his mom and replaced our stuff (including the bras)—and I know we are *very* lucky to have been able to do that. My first instinct is just to delete the email and block this guy’s address and be done with him, but the sheer temerity of his “may I ask a favor of you?” is *really* getting to me.", "role": "user" }, { "content": "“I am unable to provide a recommendation for this person.”", "role": "assistant" } ]

[ { "content": "[Texas] The guy who stole from me wants me to write him a letter of recommendation. What am I allowed to say? My former housekeeper’s son asked me to write him a letter of recommendation today. He used to steal my wife’s bras. We caught him carrying two out to his car one day. He froze in place, said “oops,” and returned *one* and honest-to-god tried to sneak the other into his car. I strongly suspect he stole our tableware, plates, and glasses too. I never caught him red-handed with them, but they only disappeared on days he and his mom came to clean. It wasn’t even our *nice* kitchen stuff either; he stole our decade-old IKEA plates, forks, knives, and spoons, along with all of our daughter’s sippy-cups and straws. He was in his twenties when he did all of this. And now he’s asking me to write a letter of recommendation. How much liability am I exposing myself to if I figure out who this clown wants me to send this letter to and tell them he’s a thief? There is no criminal record that I am aware of because we never filed a police report; we just fired him and his mom and replaced our stuff (including the bras)—and I know we are *very* lucky to have been able to do that. My first instinct is just to delete the email and block this guy’s address and be done with him, but the sheer temerity of his “may I ask a favor of you?” is *really* getting to me.", "role": "user" }, { "content": "I would take the non confrontational role here and just decline to provide a recommendation. You can always let him know you’re too busy to help out and that should be a hint. Or you can follow your instinct and just block him and he’ll move on. You aren’t obligated to help anyone who stole from you.", "role": "assistant" } ]

[ { "content": "[Texas] The guy who stole from me wants me to write him a letter of recommendation. What am I allowed to say? My former housekeeper’s son asked me to write him a letter of recommendation today. He used to steal my wife’s bras. We caught him carrying two out to his car one day. He froze in place, said “oops,” and returned *one* and honest-to-god tried to sneak the other into his car. I strongly suspect he stole our tableware, plates, and glasses too. I never caught him red-handed with them, but they only disappeared on days he and his mom came to clean. It wasn’t even our *nice* kitchen stuff either; he stole our decade-old IKEA plates, forks, knives, and spoons, along with all of our daughter’s sippy-cups and straws. He was in his twenties when he did all of this. And now he’s asking me to write a letter of recommendation. How much liability am I exposing myself to if I figure out who this clown wants me to send this letter to and tell them he’s a thief? There is no criminal record that I am aware of because we never filed a police report; we just fired him and his mom and replaced our stuff (including the bras)—and I know we are *very* lucky to have been able to do that. My first instinct is just to delete the email and block this guy’s address and be done with him, but the sheer temerity of his “may I ask a favor of you?” is *really* getting to me.", "role": "user" }, { "content": "“I am unable to provide a recommendation for this person.”", "role": "assistant" } ]

[ { "content": "[Texas] The guy who stole from me wants me to write him a letter of recommendation. What am I allowed to say? My former housekeeper’s son asked me to write him a letter of recommendation today. He used to steal my wife’s bras. We caught him carrying two out to his car one day. He froze in place, said “oops,” and returned *one* and honest-to-god tried to sneak the other into his car. I strongly suspect he stole our tableware, plates, and glasses too. I never caught him red-handed with them, but they only disappeared on days he and his mom came to clean. It wasn’t even our *nice* kitchen stuff either; he stole our decade-old IKEA plates, forks, knives, and spoons, along with all of our daughter’s sippy-cups and straws. He was in his twenties when he did all of this. And now he’s asking me to write a letter of recommendation. How much liability am I exposing myself to if I figure out who this clown wants me to send this letter to and tell them he’s a thief? There is no criminal record that I am aware of because we never filed a police report; we just fired him and his mom and replaced our stuff (including the bras)—and I know we are *very* lucky to have been able to do that. My first instinct is just to delete the email and block this guy’s address and be done with him, but the sheer temerity of his “may I ask a favor of you?” is *really* getting to me.", "role": "user" }, { "content": "Let him know he doesn’t want your recommendation.", "role": "assistant" } ]

[ { "content": "[Texas] The guy who stole from me wants me to write him a letter of recommendation. What am I allowed to say? My former housekeeper’s son asked me to write him a letter of recommendation today. He used to steal my wife’s bras. We caught him carrying two out to his car one day. He froze in place, said “oops,” and returned *one* and honest-to-god tried to sneak the other into his car. I strongly suspect he stole our tableware, plates, and glasses too. I never caught him red-handed with them, but they only disappeared on days he and his mom came to clean. It wasn’t even our *nice* kitchen stuff either; he stole our decade-old IKEA plates, forks, knives, and spoons, along with all of our daughter’s sippy-cups and straws. He was in his twenties when he did all of this. And now he’s asking me to write a letter of recommendation. How much liability am I exposing myself to if I figure out who this clown wants me to send this letter to and tell them he’s a thief? There is no criminal record that I am aware of because we never filed a police report; we just fired him and his mom and replaced our stuff (including the bras)—and I know we are *very* lucky to have been able to do that. My first instinct is just to delete the email and block this guy’s address and be done with him, but the sheer temerity of his “may I ask a favor of you?” is *really* getting to me.", "role": "user" }, { "content": "“I am unable to provide a recommendation for this person.”", "role": "assistant" } ]

[ { "content": "[Texas] The guy who stole from me wants me to write him a letter of recommendation. What am I allowed to say? My former housekeeper’s son asked me to write him a letter of recommendation today. He used to steal my wife’s bras. We caught him carrying two out to his car one day. He froze in place, said “oops,” and returned *one* and honest-to-god tried to sneak the other into his car. I strongly suspect he stole our tableware, plates, and glasses too. I never caught him red-handed with them, but they only disappeared on days he and his mom came to clean. It wasn’t even our *nice* kitchen stuff either; he stole our decade-old IKEA plates, forks, knives, and spoons, along with all of our daughter’s sippy-cups and straws. He was in his twenties when he did all of this. And now he’s asking me to write a letter of recommendation. How much liability am I exposing myself to if I figure out who this clown wants me to send this letter to and tell them he’s a thief? There is no criminal record that I am aware of because we never filed a police report; we just fired him and his mom and replaced our stuff (including the bras)—and I know we are *very* lucky to have been able to do that. My first instinct is just to delete the email and block this guy’s address and be done with him, but the sheer temerity of his “may I ask a favor of you?” is *really* getting to me.", "role": "user" }, { "content": "Does he know he was fired for stealing your wife's bras? He also stole your daughter's sippy cups? It's too bad you didn't report him at the time. It wasn't about stealing, but the thrill of taking personal items from a woman and girl. This kind of behaviour is a predictor of later sexually predatory behaviour. Think about why he would ask you for a reference. He knows what he did.", "role": "assistant" } ]

[ { "content": "[Texas] The guy who stole from me wants me to write him a letter of recommendation. What am I allowed to say? My former housekeeper’s son asked me to write him a letter of recommendation today. He used to steal my wife’s bras. We caught him carrying two out to his car one day. He froze in place, said “oops,” and returned *one* and honest-to-god tried to sneak the other into his car. I strongly suspect he stole our tableware, plates, and glasses too. I never caught him red-handed with them, but they only disappeared on days he and his mom came to clean. It wasn’t even our *nice* kitchen stuff either; he stole our decade-old IKEA plates, forks, knives, and spoons, along with all of our daughter’s sippy-cups and straws. He was in his twenties when he did all of this. And now he’s asking me to write a letter of recommendation. How much liability am I exposing myself to if I figure out who this clown wants me to send this letter to and tell them he’s a thief? There is no criminal record that I am aware of because we never filed a police report; we just fired him and his mom and replaced our stuff (including the bras)—and I know we are *very* lucky to have been able to do that. My first instinct is just to delete the email and block this guy’s address and be done with him, but the sheer temerity of his “may I ask a favor of you?” is *really* getting to me.", "role": "user" }, { "content": "“I am unable to provide a recommendation for this person.”", "role": "assistant" } ]

[ { "content": "[Texas] The guy who stole from me wants me to write him a letter of recommendation. What am I allowed to say? My former housekeeper’s son asked me to write him a letter of recommendation today. He used to steal my wife’s bras. We caught him carrying two out to his car one day. He froze in place, said “oops,” and returned *one* and honest-to-god tried to sneak the other into his car. I strongly suspect he stole our tableware, plates, and glasses too. I never caught him red-handed with them, but they only disappeared on days he and his mom came to clean. It wasn’t even our *nice* kitchen stuff either; he stole our decade-old IKEA plates, forks, knives, and spoons, along with all of our daughter’s sippy-cups and straws. He was in his twenties when he did all of this. And now he’s asking me to write a letter of recommendation. How much liability am I exposing myself to if I figure out who this clown wants me to send this letter to and tell them he’s a thief? There is no criminal record that I am aware of because we never filed a police report; we just fired him and his mom and replaced our stuff (including the bras)—and I know we are *very* lucky to have been able to do that. My first instinct is just to delete the email and block this guy’s address and be done with him, but the sheer temerity of his “may I ask a favor of you?” is *really* getting to me.", "role": "user" }, { "content": "Say NO! Or if you prefer, No Thank You!", "role": "assistant" } ]

[ { "content": "[Texas] The guy who stole from me wants me to write him a letter of recommendation. What am I allowed to say? My former housekeeper’s son asked me to write him a letter of recommendation today. He used to steal my wife’s bras. We caught him carrying two out to his car one day. He froze in place, said “oops,” and returned *one* and honest-to-god tried to sneak the other into his car. I strongly suspect he stole our tableware, plates, and glasses too. I never caught him red-handed with them, but they only disappeared on days he and his mom came to clean. It wasn’t even our *nice* kitchen stuff either; he stole our decade-old IKEA plates, forks, knives, and spoons, along with all of our daughter’s sippy-cups and straws. He was in his twenties when he did all of this. And now he’s asking me to write a letter of recommendation. How much liability am I exposing myself to if I figure out who this clown wants me to send this letter to and tell them he’s a thief? There is no criminal record that I am aware of because we never filed a police report; we just fired him and his mom and replaced our stuff (including the bras)—and I know we are *very* lucky to have been able to do that. My first instinct is just to delete the email and block this guy’s address and be done with him, but the sheer temerity of his “may I ask a favor of you?” is *really* getting to me.", "role": "user" }, { "content": "“I am unable to provide a recommendation for this person.”", "role": "assistant" } ]

[ { "content": "Over $5000 of musical gear was stolen from me in OK. I reported it stolen to local PD. 3 weeks later, I find it listed for sale online in a store located in CO. The guy who sold it out there is a suspect I named on the police report. But neither LE office is going to pursue criminal charges. Why?", "role": "user" }, { "content": "How did he steal it?", "role": "assistant" } ]

[ { "content": "Over $5000 of musical gear was stolen from me in OK. I reported it stolen to local PD. 3 weeks later, I find it listed for sale online in a store located in CO. The guy who sold it out there is a suspect I named on the police report. But neither LE office is going to pursue criminal charges. Why?", "role": "user" }, { "content": "Were your items entered into NCIC? If yes, go light up the agency in whose jurisdiction they were recovered. There's always going to be some poor detective who's new on the job and has various shitty things he needs to do and is looking for an easy win. Find him/her. If the agency has a Facebook page, ping it. Same goes for Twitter, email, etc. Send them a public records request for any incident report related to the theft. People often say \"Let the detectives do their jobs,\" but if you can be both loud and *helpful* (for example, by providing serial numbers, providing a statement asserting the relationship between the girl and the thief, etc.) you'll get much further along.", "role": "assistant" } ]

[ { "content": "Over $5000 of musical gear was stolen from me in OK. I reported it stolen to local PD. 3 weeks later, I find it listed for sale online in a store located in CO. The guy who sold it out there is a suspect I named on the police report. But neither LE office is going to pursue criminal charges. Why?", "role": "user" }, { "content": "Is it possible that this guy is involved in worse crimes? It sounds a little like a tv show plot, but if there's an ongoing investigation on him for more serious charges, they may not want to jeopardize that case for yours.", "role": "assistant" } ]

[ { "content": "Over $5000 of musical gear was stolen from me in OK. I reported it stolen to local PD. 3 weeks later, I find it listed for sale online in a store located in CO. The guy who sold it out there is a suspect I named on the police report. But neither LE office is going to pursue criminal charges. Why?", "role": "user" }, { "content": "The store has your stuff. They screwed up and bought stolen property. Demand they make it available for pickup and arrange for someone to get it. In writing, lots of ways, call and document. If the store sells it, file a complaint with the police about the store knowingly selling stolen property. And sue the store for the value of the property. That's a possible course of action.", "role": "assistant" } ]

[ { "content": "(CA) Fifteen year old daughter was given a vandalism citation for drawing crayon pictures on cement at apartment complex where she lives. \"Graffiti\" was washed off by my daughter the next day. Two families now facing eviction based on rental manager pressing charges. My daughter and her friend were hanging out at rental office/pool facilities after hours with two other boys they know from their school . Manager see kids on security cam and call police. Just before police arrive boys leave and police question daughter and friend. Police said they would have given a warning but manager wanted to press charges. Manager later talks to my ex-wife and says that because the boys were guests of the daughters they are responsible for the \"graffiti\" and she would be putting through a 30 Day eviction notice. This seems bizarre to me and not exactly sure what my next steps should be. Understandably my ex-wife is freaking out. This can't be legal. I do have the arresting officers phone number, should I be calling him for further information? Thank you for any insight.", "role": "user" }, { "content": "What does your lease agreement say? Honestly not to sound like a downer, it was some destruction to property. I mean if they were children such as 3-7 maybe you could fight . Chances are , they were cited and they will most likely have to pay a fine it’s nothing to serious. However on the eviction, I would say you don’t have to much of a case. You can try to argue it once they bring a unlawful detainer action. Hopefully the judge will see how minor it is . Either way good luck", "role": "assistant" } ]

[ { "content": "(CA) Fifteen year old daughter was given a vandalism citation for drawing crayon pictures on cement at apartment complex where she lives. \"Graffiti\" was washed off by my daughter the next day. Two families now facing eviction based on rental manager pressing charges. My daughter and her friend were hanging out at rental office/pool facilities after hours with two other boys they know from their school . Manager see kids on security cam and call police. Just before police arrive boys leave and police question daughter and friend. Police said they would have given a warning but manager wanted to press charges. Manager later talks to my ex-wife and says that because the boys were guests of the daughters they are responsible for the \"graffiti\" and she would be putting through a 30 Day eviction notice. This seems bizarre to me and not exactly sure what my next steps should be. Understandably my ex-wife is freaking out. This can't be legal. I do have the arresting officers phone number, should I be calling him for further information? Thank you for any insight.", "role": "user" }, { "content": "California cop here... For the criminal side of your question... How old is your daughter? There is a brand new law in California that police cannot question a minor under 15 without a lawyer present. Period. Parents and Miranda doesn't matter. Bring that up with your defense attorney because you stated the police came and questioned your daughter. But more importantly... If your daughter didn't commit the crime... Why was she given a ticket? The boys she was with Drew on the ground, right? I'm a little confused on that point. Edit: your daughter is 15... Duh. Yeahhh... Do some research on that new CA law, or at least bring it up with the defense attorney.", "role": "assistant" } ]

[ { "content": "I think I am being investigated by a higher law enforcement agency for stuff that distant relatives are doing. So I have been kind of paranoid for the last few days and I am unsure of how to proceed. Since Monday of two weeks ago someone has been parking a black panel van outside my house and followed me to work. When I say follow I mean the van would remain where it was until I got to work. However when I would go out for lunch it would be in the parking lot. At first I assumed coincidence until I saw the car outside of the grocery store one day when I had spent over 2 hours in the store talking with a friend of mine who works there. I wrote down the plate number and went home. Next morning the van across the street had the same plate number as the one from the grocery store. I live in a kind of small town so I figured it could still be a coincidence; until I left for lunch that day and saw the van had the same plate number. Now I knew something was up. I called a friend of mine asking if he were playing a joke on me. His uncle owns a plumbing business and uses black vans with vinyl clings on them. I thought that maybe they hadn't branded the van yet and he were just screwing with me. He told me it was not him but asked me what the license plate was. He wanted to see if it was an old van they no longer used. When I told him the plate number he made a big deal about the plate only having numbers and no letters on it. He thought I were screwing with him until I showed him the pictures of van outside my house and work. Side note. I will not be sharing these pictures as they are very clearly identifiable with the landmarks in the background. He told me to call the police immediately. I talked to an officer over the phone and told him what was happening. He made a big deal about the license plate only having numbers on it and did not believe me. I just asked him if he could send a car by my place. He reluctantly agreed and thought I was bullshitting him. The next day the van was gone. Two days later there is a white SUV with dark tint on the windows. This SUV is also following me around and is being more aggressive. I started carrying my gun in my car just in case because of it but I have been advised against it. I think it is a police van and SUV that has been following me as they both have license plates that have no letters in it. Looking up online it looks like, in Texas, license plates that only have numbers belong to the police. I have been unable to confirm that as the police dept has been very terse with me. They told me that if I wanted to get them involved in this issue I should come down and talk about it at the station with them. Yeah I am definitely not gonna do that. My friend told me to contact a lawyer immediately as it is likely I am being investigated by some LEA that is not my local department as they did not know anything about the black van at first. I have family who are, well lets just say that we have a small herd of black sheep in our family. They live in NJ and are involved in a lot of illegal things. We will leave it at that. My familial connections with them has precluded me from getting a security clearance in the past to work for a major US military contractor and has created issues at airports. But I have never been investigated before. My local department has advised me not to make contact with the SUV following me and to not carry my firearm in my car. These two statements from them have me extremely paranoid and I am unsure of what I should do now?", "role": "user" }, { "content": "1. Stop carrying a fucking gun over this. That is the stupidest fucking thing I have read in a long time. 2. Get an attorney.", "role": "assistant" } ]

[ { "content": "I think I am being investigated by a higher law enforcement agency for stuff that distant relatives are doing. So I have been kind of paranoid for the last few days and I am unsure of how to proceed. Since Monday of two weeks ago someone has been parking a black panel van outside my house and followed me to work. When I say follow I mean the van would remain where it was until I got to work. However when I would go out for lunch it would be in the parking lot. At first I assumed coincidence until I saw the car outside of the grocery store one day when I had spent over 2 hours in the store talking with a friend of mine who works there. I wrote down the plate number and went home. Next morning the van across the street had the same plate number as the one from the grocery store. I live in a kind of small town so I figured it could still be a coincidence; until I left for lunch that day and saw the van had the same plate number. Now I knew something was up. I called a friend of mine asking if he were playing a joke on me. His uncle owns a plumbing business and uses black vans with vinyl clings on them. I thought that maybe they hadn't branded the van yet and he were just screwing with me. He told me it was not him but asked me what the license plate was. He wanted to see if it was an old van they no longer used. When I told him the plate number he made a big deal about the plate only having numbers and no letters on it. He thought I were screwing with him until I showed him the pictures of van outside my house and work. Side note. I will not be sharing these pictures as they are very clearly identifiable with the landmarks in the background. He told me to call the police immediately. I talked to an officer over the phone and told him what was happening. He made a big deal about the license plate only having numbers on it and did not believe me. I just asked him if he could send a car by my place. He reluctantly agreed and thought I was bullshitting him. The next day the van was gone. Two days later there is a white SUV with dark tint on the windows. This SUV is also following me around and is being more aggressive. I started carrying my gun in my car just in case because of it but I have been advised against it. I think it is a police van and SUV that has been following me as they both have license plates that have no letters in it. Looking up online it looks like, in Texas, license plates that only have numbers belong to the police. I have been unable to confirm that as the police dept has been very terse with me. They told me that if I wanted to get them involved in this issue I should come down and talk about it at the station with them. Yeah I am definitely not gonna do that. My friend told me to contact a lawyer immediately as it is likely I am being investigated by some LEA that is not my local department as they did not know anything about the black van at first. I have family who are, well lets just say that we have a small herd of black sheep in our family. They live in NJ and are involved in a lot of illegal things. We will leave it at that. My familial connections with them has precluded me from getting a security clearance in the past to work for a major US military contractor and has created issues at airports. But I have never been investigated before. My local department has advised me not to make contact with the SUV following me and to not carry my firearm in my car. These two statements from them have me extremely paranoid and I am unsure of what I should do now?", "role": "user" }, { "content": "If you are legally allowed to carry a firearm then you may do so. No one here has any idea what the circumstances are, but if they are following you they are doing a piss-poor job of it since the idea should be that you have no idea that they are there. Surveillance like you describe is very expensive and resource intensive. If it is the police or another agency, it will be very short lived unless they have a really REALLY good reason to believe that you're involved in something beyond \"I'm related to organized crime.\"", "role": "assistant" } ]

[ { "content": "I think I am being investigated by a higher law enforcement agency for stuff that distant relatives are doing. So I have been kind of paranoid for the last few days and I am unsure of how to proceed. Since Monday of two weeks ago someone has been parking a black panel van outside my house and followed me to work. When I say follow I mean the van would remain where it was until I got to work. However when I would go out for lunch it would be in the parking lot. At first I assumed coincidence until I saw the car outside of the grocery store one day when I had spent over 2 hours in the store talking with a friend of mine who works there. I wrote down the plate number and went home. Next morning the van across the street had the same plate number as the one from the grocery store. I live in a kind of small town so I figured it could still be a coincidence; until I left for lunch that day and saw the van had the same plate number. Now I knew something was up. I called a friend of mine asking if he were playing a joke on me. His uncle owns a plumbing business and uses black vans with vinyl clings on them. I thought that maybe they hadn't branded the van yet and he were just screwing with me. He told me it was not him but asked me what the license plate was. He wanted to see if it was an old van they no longer used. When I told him the plate number he made a big deal about the plate only having numbers and no letters on it. He thought I were screwing with him until I showed him the pictures of van outside my house and work. Side note. I will not be sharing these pictures as they are very clearly identifiable with the landmarks in the background. He told me to call the police immediately. I talked to an officer over the phone and told him what was happening. He made a big deal about the license plate only having numbers on it and did not believe me. I just asked him if he could send a car by my place. He reluctantly agreed and thought I was bullshitting him. The next day the van was gone. Two days later there is a white SUV with dark tint on the windows. This SUV is also following me around and is being more aggressive. I started carrying my gun in my car just in case because of it but I have been advised against it. I think it is a police van and SUV that has been following me as they both have license plates that have no letters in it. Looking up online it looks like, in Texas, license plates that only have numbers belong to the police. I have been unable to confirm that as the police dept has been very terse with me. They told me that if I wanted to get them involved in this issue I should come down and talk about it at the station with them. Yeah I am definitely not gonna do that. My friend told me to contact a lawyer immediately as it is likely I am being investigated by some LEA that is not my local department as they did not know anything about the black van at first. I have family who are, well lets just say that we have a small herd of black sheep in our family. They live in NJ and are involved in a lot of illegal things. We will leave it at that. My familial connections with them has precluded me from getting a security clearance in the past to work for a major US military contractor and has created issues at airports. But I have never been investigated before. My local department has advised me not to make contact with the SUV following me and to not carry my firearm in my car. These two statements from them have me extremely paranoid and I am unsure of what I should do now?", "role": "user" }, { "content": "Have you checked to see if you have a carbon monoxide detector at home?", "role": "assistant" } ]

[ { "content": "I think I am being investigated by a higher law enforcement agency for stuff that distant relatives are doing. So I have been kind of paranoid for the last few days and I am unsure of how to proceed. Since Monday of two weeks ago someone has been parking a black panel van outside my house and followed me to work. When I say follow I mean the van would remain where it was until I got to work. However when I would go out for lunch it would be in the parking lot. At first I assumed coincidence until I saw the car outside of the grocery store one day when I had spent over 2 hours in the store talking with a friend of mine who works there. I wrote down the plate number and went home. Next morning the van across the street had the same plate number as the one from the grocery store. I live in a kind of small town so I figured it could still be a coincidence; until I left for lunch that day and saw the van had the same plate number. Now I knew something was up. I called a friend of mine asking if he were playing a joke on me. His uncle owns a plumbing business and uses black vans with vinyl clings on them. I thought that maybe they hadn't branded the van yet and he were just screwing with me. He told me it was not him but asked me what the license plate was. He wanted to see if it was an old van they no longer used. When I told him the plate number he made a big deal about the plate only having numbers and no letters on it. He thought I were screwing with him until I showed him the pictures of van outside my house and work. Side note. I will not be sharing these pictures as they are very clearly identifiable with the landmarks in the background. He told me to call the police immediately. I talked to an officer over the phone and told him what was happening. He made a big deal about the license plate only having numbers on it and did not believe me. I just asked him if he could send a car by my place. He reluctantly agreed and thought I was bullshitting him. The next day the van was gone. Two days later there is a white SUV with dark tint on the windows. This SUV is also following me around and is being more aggressive. I started carrying my gun in my car just in case because of it but I have been advised against it. I think it is a police van and SUV that has been following me as they both have license plates that have no letters in it. Looking up online it looks like, in Texas, license plates that only have numbers belong to the police. I have been unable to confirm that as the police dept has been very terse with me. They told me that if I wanted to get them involved in this issue I should come down and talk about it at the station with them. Yeah I am definitely not gonna do that. My friend told me to contact a lawyer immediately as it is likely I am being investigated by some LEA that is not my local department as they did not know anything about the black van at first. I have family who are, well lets just say that we have a small herd of black sheep in our family. They live in NJ and are involved in a lot of illegal things. We will leave it at that. My familial connections with them has precluded me from getting a security clearance in the past to work for a major US military contractor and has created issues at airports. But I have never been investigated before. My local department has advised me not to make contact with the SUV following me and to not carry my firearm in my car. These two statements from them have me extremely paranoid and I am unsure of what I should do now?", "role": "user" }, { "content": "There's a non-zero chance that your house could get searched before this is all over. Do some housecleaning now, and get rid of anything that's dubious. That expired pain prescription your old girlfriend left in the medicine cabinet? Those pills go down the toilet, and the empty bottle gets thrown away *at work*. Do you have too many doses of cold remedies with pseudoephedrine? The extras go down the toilet. That single counterfeit $20 you got in your change once and kept as a curio? That goes through the shredder *at work*. Are you certain that any firearms you bought in another jurisdiction are legal in your current location? Are you *certain* that the shotgun you inherited from Uncle Willy has a legal length barrel? If you have a landline at home, do you use modern cordless phones with good security, or are you still using 900Mhz cordless phones from back-in-the-day that broadcast both sides of the conversation in clear?", "role": "assistant" } ]

[ { "content": "I think I am being investigated by a higher law enforcement agency for stuff that distant relatives are doing. So I have been kind of paranoid for the last few days and I am unsure of how to proceed. Since Monday of two weeks ago someone has been parking a black panel van outside my house and followed me to work. When I say follow I mean the van would remain where it was until I got to work. However when I would go out for lunch it would be in the parking lot. At first I assumed coincidence until I saw the car outside of the grocery store one day when I had spent over 2 hours in the store talking with a friend of mine who works there. I wrote down the plate number and went home. Next morning the van across the street had the same plate number as the one from the grocery store. I live in a kind of small town so I figured it could still be a coincidence; until I left for lunch that day and saw the van had the same plate number. Now I knew something was up. I called a friend of mine asking if he were playing a joke on me. His uncle owns a plumbing business and uses black vans with vinyl clings on them. I thought that maybe they hadn't branded the van yet and he were just screwing with me. He told me it was not him but asked me what the license plate was. He wanted to see if it was an old van they no longer used. When I told him the plate number he made a big deal about the plate only having numbers and no letters on it. He thought I were screwing with him until I showed him the pictures of van outside my house and work. Side note. I will not be sharing these pictures as they are very clearly identifiable with the landmarks in the background. He told me to call the police immediately. I talked to an officer over the phone and told him what was happening. He made a big deal about the license plate only having numbers on it and did not believe me. I just asked him if he could send a car by my place. He reluctantly agreed and thought I was bullshitting him. The next day the van was gone. Two days later there is a white SUV with dark tint on the windows. This SUV is also following me around and is being more aggressive. I started carrying my gun in my car just in case because of it but I have been advised against it. I think it is a police van and SUV that has been following me as they both have license plates that have no letters in it. Looking up online it looks like, in Texas, license plates that only have numbers belong to the police. I have been unable to confirm that as the police dept has been very terse with me. They told me that if I wanted to get them involved in this issue I should come down and talk about it at the station with them. Yeah I am definitely not gonna do that. My friend told me to contact a lawyer immediately as it is likely I am being investigated by some LEA that is not my local department as they did not know anything about the black van at first. I have family who are, well lets just say that we have a small herd of black sheep in our family. They live in NJ and are involved in a lot of illegal things. We will leave it at that. My familial connections with them has precluded me from getting a security clearance in the past to work for a major US military contractor and has created issues at airports. But I have never been investigated before. My local department has advised me not to make contact with the SUV following me and to not carry my firearm in my car. These two statements from them have me extremely paranoid and I am unsure of what I should do now?", "role": "user" }, { "content": "1. Stop carrying a fucking gun over this. That is the stupidest fucking thing I have read in a long time. 2. Get an attorney.", "role": "assistant" } ]

[ { "content": "I think I am being investigated by a higher law enforcement agency for stuff that distant relatives are doing. So I have been kind of paranoid for the last few days and I am unsure of how to proceed. Since Monday of two weeks ago someone has been parking a black panel van outside my house and followed me to work. When I say follow I mean the van would remain where it was until I got to work. However when I would go out for lunch it would be in the parking lot. At first I assumed coincidence until I saw the car outside of the grocery store one day when I had spent over 2 hours in the store talking with a friend of mine who works there. I wrote down the plate number and went home. Next morning the van across the street had the same plate number as the one from the grocery store. I live in a kind of small town so I figured it could still be a coincidence; until I left for lunch that day and saw the van had the same plate number. Now I knew something was up. I called a friend of mine asking if he were playing a joke on me. His uncle owns a plumbing business and uses black vans with vinyl clings on them. I thought that maybe they hadn't branded the van yet and he were just screwing with me. He told me it was not him but asked me what the license plate was. He wanted to see if it was an old van they no longer used. When I told him the plate number he made a big deal about the plate only having numbers and no letters on it. He thought I were screwing with him until I showed him the pictures of van outside my house and work. Side note. I will not be sharing these pictures as they are very clearly identifiable with the landmarks in the background. He told me to call the police immediately. I talked to an officer over the phone and told him what was happening. He made a big deal about the license plate only having numbers on it and did not believe me. I just asked him if he could send a car by my place. He reluctantly agreed and thought I was bullshitting him. The next day the van was gone. Two days later there is a white SUV with dark tint on the windows. This SUV is also following me around and is being more aggressive. I started carrying my gun in my car just in case because of it but I have been advised against it. I think it is a police van and SUV that has been following me as they both have license plates that have no letters in it. Looking up online it looks like, in Texas, license plates that only have numbers belong to the police. I have been unable to confirm that as the police dept has been very terse with me. They told me that if I wanted to get them involved in this issue I should come down and talk about it at the station with them. Yeah I am definitely not gonna do that. My friend told me to contact a lawyer immediately as it is likely I am being investigated by some LEA that is not my local department as they did not know anything about the black van at first. I have family who are, well lets just say that we have a small herd of black sheep in our family. They live in NJ and are involved in a lot of illegal things. We will leave it at that. My familial connections with them has precluded me from getting a security clearance in the past to work for a major US military contractor and has created issues at airports. But I have never been investigated before. My local department has advised me not to make contact with the SUV following me and to not carry my firearm in my car. These two statements from them have me extremely paranoid and I am unsure of what I should do now?", "role": "user" }, { "content": "There's a non-zero chance that your house could get searched before this is all over. Do some housecleaning now, and get rid of anything that's dubious. That expired pain prescription your old girlfriend left in the medicine cabinet? Those pills go down the toilet, and the empty bottle gets thrown away *at work*. Do you have too many doses of cold remedies with pseudoephedrine? The extras go down the toilet. That single counterfeit $20 you got in your change once and kept as a curio? That goes through the shredder *at work*. Are you certain that any firearms you bought in another jurisdiction are legal in your current location? Are you *certain* that the shotgun you inherited from Uncle Willy has a legal length barrel? If you have a landline at home, do you use modern cordless phones with good security, or are you still using 900Mhz cordless phones from back-in-the-day that broadcast both sides of the conversation in clear?", "role": "assistant" } ]

[ { "content": "I think I am being investigated by a higher law enforcement agency for stuff that distant relatives are doing. So I have been kind of paranoid for the last few days and I am unsure of how to proceed. Since Monday of two weeks ago someone has been parking a black panel van outside my house and followed me to work. When I say follow I mean the van would remain where it was until I got to work. However when I would go out for lunch it would be in the parking lot. At first I assumed coincidence until I saw the car outside of the grocery store one day when I had spent over 2 hours in the store talking with a friend of mine who works there. I wrote down the plate number and went home. Next morning the van across the street had the same plate number as the one from the grocery store. I live in a kind of small town so I figured it could still be a coincidence; until I left for lunch that day and saw the van had the same plate number. Now I knew something was up. I called a friend of mine asking if he were playing a joke on me. His uncle owns a plumbing business and uses black vans with vinyl clings on them. I thought that maybe they hadn't branded the van yet and he were just screwing with me. He told me it was not him but asked me what the license plate was. He wanted to see if it was an old van they no longer used. When I told him the plate number he made a big deal about the plate only having numbers and no letters on it. He thought I were screwing with him until I showed him the pictures of van outside my house and work. Side note. I will not be sharing these pictures as they are very clearly identifiable with the landmarks in the background. He told me to call the police immediately. I talked to an officer over the phone and told him what was happening. He made a big deal about the license plate only having numbers on it and did not believe me. I just asked him if he could send a car by my place. He reluctantly agreed and thought I was bullshitting him. The next day the van was gone. Two days later there is a white SUV with dark tint on the windows. This SUV is also following me around and is being more aggressive. I started carrying my gun in my car just in case because of it but I have been advised against it. I think it is a police van and SUV that has been following me as they both have license plates that have no letters in it. Looking up online it looks like, in Texas, license plates that only have numbers belong to the police. I have been unable to confirm that as the police dept has been very terse with me. They told me that if I wanted to get them involved in this issue I should come down and talk about it at the station with them. Yeah I am definitely not gonna do that. My friend told me to contact a lawyer immediately as it is likely I am being investigated by some LEA that is not my local department as they did not know anything about the black van at first. I have family who are, well lets just say that we have a small herd of black sheep in our family. They live in NJ and are involved in a lot of illegal things. We will leave it at that. My familial connections with them has precluded me from getting a security clearance in the past to work for a major US military contractor and has created issues at airports. But I have never been investigated before. My local department has advised me not to make contact with the SUV following me and to not carry my firearm in my car. These two statements from them have me extremely paranoid and I am unsure of what I should do now?", "role": "user" }, { "content": "Have you tried going and knocking on the window of the van and asking them? If it is LEA they aren't going to shoot you for knocking on the window.", "role": "assistant" } ]

[ { "content": "I think I am being investigated by a higher law enforcement agency for stuff that distant relatives are doing. So I have been kind of paranoid for the last few days and I am unsure of how to proceed. Since Monday of two weeks ago someone has been parking a black panel van outside my house and followed me to work. When I say follow I mean the van would remain where it was until I got to work. However when I would go out for lunch it would be in the parking lot. At first I assumed coincidence until I saw the car outside of the grocery store one day when I had spent over 2 hours in the store talking with a friend of mine who works there. I wrote down the plate number and went home. Next morning the van across the street had the same plate number as the one from the grocery store. I live in a kind of small town so I figured it could still be a coincidence; until I left for lunch that day and saw the van had the same plate number. Now I knew something was up. I called a friend of mine asking if he were playing a joke on me. His uncle owns a plumbing business and uses black vans with vinyl clings on them. I thought that maybe they hadn't branded the van yet and he were just screwing with me. He told me it was not him but asked me what the license plate was. He wanted to see if it was an old van they no longer used. When I told him the plate number he made a big deal about the plate only having numbers and no letters on it. He thought I were screwing with him until I showed him the pictures of van outside my house and work. Side note. I will not be sharing these pictures as they are very clearly identifiable with the landmarks in the background. He told me to call the police immediately. I talked to an officer over the phone and told him what was happening. He made a big deal about the license plate only having numbers on it and did not believe me. I just asked him if he could send a car by my place. He reluctantly agreed and thought I was bullshitting him. The next day the van was gone. Two days later there is a white SUV with dark tint on the windows. This SUV is also following me around and is being more aggressive. I started carrying my gun in my car just in case because of it but I have been advised against it. I think it is a police van and SUV that has been following me as they both have license plates that have no letters in it. Looking up online it looks like, in Texas, license plates that only have numbers belong to the police. I have been unable to confirm that as the police dept has been very terse with me. They told me that if I wanted to get them involved in this issue I should come down and talk about it at the station with them. Yeah I am definitely not gonna do that. My friend told me to contact a lawyer immediately as it is likely I am being investigated by some LEA that is not my local department as they did not know anything about the black van at first. I have family who are, well lets just say that we have a small herd of black sheep in our family. They live in NJ and are involved in a lot of illegal things. We will leave it at that. My familial connections with them has precluded me from getting a security clearance in the past to work for a major US military contractor and has created issues at airports. But I have never been investigated before. My local department has advised me not to make contact with the SUV following me and to not carry my firearm in my car. These two statements from them have me extremely paranoid and I am unsure of what I should do now?", "role": "user" }, { "content": "There's a non-zero chance that your house could get searched before this is all over. Do some housecleaning now, and get rid of anything that's dubious. That expired pain prescription your old girlfriend left in the medicine cabinet? Those pills go down the toilet, and the empty bottle gets thrown away *at work*. Do you have too many doses of cold remedies with pseudoephedrine? The extras go down the toilet. That single counterfeit $20 you got in your change once and kept as a curio? That goes through the shredder *at work*. Are you certain that any firearms you bought in another jurisdiction are legal in your current location? Are you *certain* that the shotgun you inherited from Uncle Willy has a legal length barrel? If you have a landline at home, do you use modern cordless phones with good security, or are you still using 900Mhz cordless phones from back-in-the-day that broadcast both sides of the conversation in clear?", "role": "assistant" } ]

[ { "content": "I think I am being investigated by a higher law enforcement agency for stuff that distant relatives are doing. So I have been kind of paranoid for the last few days and I am unsure of how to proceed. Since Monday of two weeks ago someone has been parking a black panel van outside my house and followed me to work. When I say follow I mean the van would remain where it was until I got to work. However when I would go out for lunch it would be in the parking lot. At first I assumed coincidence until I saw the car outside of the grocery store one day when I had spent over 2 hours in the store talking with a friend of mine who works there. I wrote down the plate number and went home. Next morning the van across the street had the same plate number as the one from the grocery store. I live in a kind of small town so I figured it could still be a coincidence; until I left for lunch that day and saw the van had the same plate number. Now I knew something was up. I called a friend of mine asking if he were playing a joke on me. His uncle owns a plumbing business and uses black vans with vinyl clings on them. I thought that maybe they hadn't branded the van yet and he were just screwing with me. He told me it was not him but asked me what the license plate was. He wanted to see if it was an old van they no longer used. When I told him the plate number he made a big deal about the plate only having numbers and no letters on it. He thought I were screwing with him until I showed him the pictures of van outside my house and work. Side note. I will not be sharing these pictures as they are very clearly identifiable with the landmarks in the background. He told me to call the police immediately. I talked to an officer over the phone and told him what was happening. He made a big deal about the license plate only having numbers on it and did not believe me. I just asked him if he could send a car by my place. He reluctantly agreed and thought I was bullshitting him. The next day the van was gone. Two days later there is a white SUV with dark tint on the windows. This SUV is also following me around and is being more aggressive. I started carrying my gun in my car just in case because of it but I have been advised against it. I think it is a police van and SUV that has been following me as they both have license plates that have no letters in it. Looking up online it looks like, in Texas, license plates that only have numbers belong to the police. I have been unable to confirm that as the police dept has been very terse with me. They told me that if I wanted to get them involved in this issue I should come down and talk about it at the station with them. Yeah I am definitely not gonna do that. My friend told me to contact a lawyer immediately as it is likely I am being investigated by some LEA that is not my local department as they did not know anything about the black van at first. I have family who are, well lets just say that we have a small herd of black sheep in our family. They live in NJ and are involved in a lot of illegal things. We will leave it at that. My familial connections with them has precluded me from getting a security clearance in the past to work for a major US military contractor and has created issues at airports. But I have never been investigated before. My local department has advised me not to make contact with the SUV following me and to not carry my firearm in my car. These two statements from them have me extremely paranoid and I am unsure of what I should do now?", "role": "user" }, { "content": "Just a thought - if this is law enforcement your phone may be tapped, too.", "role": "assistant" } ]

[ { "content": "I think I am being investigated by a higher law enforcement agency for stuff that distant relatives are doing. So I have been kind of paranoid for the last few days and I am unsure of how to proceed. Since Monday of two weeks ago someone has been parking a black panel van outside my house and followed me to work. When I say follow I mean the van would remain where it was until I got to work. However when I would go out for lunch it would be in the parking lot. At first I assumed coincidence until I saw the car outside of the grocery store one day when I had spent over 2 hours in the store talking with a friend of mine who works there. I wrote down the plate number and went home. Next morning the van across the street had the same plate number as the one from the grocery store. I live in a kind of small town so I figured it could still be a coincidence; until I left for lunch that day and saw the van had the same plate number. Now I knew something was up. I called a friend of mine asking if he were playing a joke on me. His uncle owns a plumbing business and uses black vans with vinyl clings on them. I thought that maybe they hadn't branded the van yet and he were just screwing with me. He told me it was not him but asked me what the license plate was. He wanted to see if it was an old van they no longer used. When I told him the plate number he made a big deal about the plate only having numbers and no letters on it. He thought I were screwing with him until I showed him the pictures of van outside my house and work. Side note. I will not be sharing these pictures as they are very clearly identifiable with the landmarks in the background. He told me to call the police immediately. I talked to an officer over the phone and told him what was happening. He made a big deal about the license plate only having numbers on it and did not believe me. I just asked him if he could send a car by my place. He reluctantly agreed and thought I was bullshitting him. The next day the van was gone. Two days later there is a white SUV with dark tint on the windows. This SUV is also following me around and is being more aggressive. I started carrying my gun in my car just in case because of it but I have been advised against it. I think it is a police van and SUV that has been following me as they both have license plates that have no letters in it. Looking up online it looks like, in Texas, license plates that only have numbers belong to the police. I have been unable to confirm that as the police dept has been very terse with me. They told me that if I wanted to get them involved in this issue I should come down and talk about it at the station with them. Yeah I am definitely not gonna do that. My friend told me to contact a lawyer immediately as it is likely I am being investigated by some LEA that is not my local department as they did not know anything about the black van at first. I have family who are, well lets just say that we have a small herd of black sheep in our family. They live in NJ and are involved in a lot of illegal things. We will leave it at that. My familial connections with them has precluded me from getting a security clearance in the past to work for a major US military contractor and has created issues at airports. But I have never been investigated before. My local department has advised me not to make contact with the SUV following me and to not carry my firearm in my car. These two statements from them have me extremely paranoid and I am unsure of what I should do now?", "role": "user" }, { "content": "There's a non-zero chance that your house could get searched before this is all over. Do some housecleaning now, and get rid of anything that's dubious. That expired pain prescription your old girlfriend left in the medicine cabinet? Those pills go down the toilet, and the empty bottle gets thrown away *at work*. Do you have too many doses of cold remedies with pseudoephedrine? The extras go down the toilet. That single counterfeit $20 you got in your change once and kept as a curio? That goes through the shredder *at work*. Are you certain that any firearms you bought in another jurisdiction are legal in your current location? Are you *certain* that the shotgun you inherited from Uncle Willy has a legal length barrel? If you have a landline at home, do you use modern cordless phones with good security, or are you still using 900Mhz cordless phones from back-in-the-day that broadcast both sides of the conversation in clear?", "role": "assistant" } ]

[ { "content": "(CA and MI) I think a consignment store is trying to rip me off, what are my options? Back in November I sent a few of my designer items to a consignment store that has a large online presence. I have worked with them before on smaller items and didn't have a problem. Also, within the community of people who buy and sell both new and used designer items they have a good reputation. One of the items I sent them was a designer coat and they initially said they would list it for $4,600. This was fine with me because it gave me a nice payout after they took their cut. The first thing that they didn't tell me was that they would be listing the coat on eBay. I was checking their website for a couple weeks before I finally e-mailed and asked when the coat would be there. They replied that there much have been a misunderstanding and that the coat was on their eBay page. There wasn't a misunderstanding, they just never told me, I checked the emails. However, at the end of the day it was fine because the coat was just listed at a buy out price and not a bid. I should also say that I didn't sign any kind of agreement, but their policy is that they get to keep the item for 90 days and then you can request it be returned to you at no charge or for a $25 fee if returned before. After a couple months of the coat not selling we discussed over e-mail lowering the prices of the items I had with them and they lowered the price of the coat to $4,050. Again, this price was still okay because I would still be getting back the money I wanted after their cut. However, I didn't want another price drop because then it would no longer be beneficial to sell for the price. I was well past the 90 days to have the coat returned, so I just watched the eBay listing. I was happy to see that it sold at the $4,050 price and that the eBay auction was over. Strangely, they didn't e-mail me and I had to reach out to them after a while. When things had sold in the past they were usually very prompt with reaching out. Yesterday I got a \"sales summary\" explaining my cut etc. and much to my horror they are listing that they sold it for $3,600! Now I have e-mailed them twice and have not gotten any response. I have asked why if eBay says it sold at $4,050 that they are claiming it sold for less. In any event, if I have to fight them on this what are my options? What are the laws governing consignments? If they continue to ignore me and just try to send me a check for the much lower amount can anything be done? Moreover, since I am in California and they are in Michigan which laws apply? Thanks!", "role": "user" }, { "content": "Did you sign a contract with them on this issue? What does it say about their ability to change the listing price of an item? Absent any other agreement, you can sue them in small claims for the the amount they owe you for the $4050 sales price.", "role": "assistant" } ]

[ { "content": "(CA and MI) I think a consignment store is trying to rip me off, what are my options? Back in November I sent a few of my designer items to a consignment store that has a large online presence. I have worked with them before on smaller items and didn't have a problem. Also, within the community of people who buy and sell both new and used designer items they have a good reputation. One of the items I sent them was a designer coat and they initially said they would list it for $4,600. This was fine with me because it gave me a nice payout after they took their cut. The first thing that they didn't tell me was that they would be listing the coat on eBay. I was checking their website for a couple weeks before I finally e-mailed and asked when the coat would be there. They replied that there much have been a misunderstanding and that the coat was on their eBay page. There wasn't a misunderstanding, they just never told me, I checked the emails. However, at the end of the day it was fine because the coat was just listed at a buy out price and not a bid. I should also say that I didn't sign any kind of agreement, but their policy is that they get to keep the item for 90 days and then you can request it be returned to you at no charge or for a $25 fee if returned before. After a couple months of the coat not selling we discussed over e-mail lowering the prices of the items I had with them and they lowered the price of the coat to $4,050. Again, this price was still okay because I would still be getting back the money I wanted after their cut. However, I didn't want another price drop because then it would no longer be beneficial to sell for the price. I was well past the 90 days to have the coat returned, so I just watched the eBay listing. I was happy to see that it sold at the $4,050 price and that the eBay auction was over. Strangely, they didn't e-mail me and I had to reach out to them after a while. When things had sold in the past they were usually very prompt with reaching out. Yesterday I got a \"sales summary\" explaining my cut etc. and much to my horror they are listing that they sold it for $3,600! Now I have e-mailed them twice and have not gotten any response. I have asked why if eBay says it sold at $4,050 that they are claiming it sold for less. In any event, if I have to fight them on this what are my options? What are the laws governing consignments? If they continue to ignore me and just try to send me a check for the much lower amount can anything be done? Moreover, since I am in California and they are in Michigan which laws apply? Thanks!", "role": "user" }, { "content": "Did the ebay listing take a 10% cut as their fee?", "role": "assistant" } ]

[ { "content": "I created a unique beadwork pattern and copyrighted it through Legal Zoom in 2011. I just found out someone ripped off my pattern in 2013 and it was published in a magazine. What are my options for protecting my copyright in order to sell my own pattern? I am located in Washington State, copycat is in Florida, magazine is US based. I created a beading pattern for a very unique style of creating a component of an object and actually sold said completed objects for many years on Etsy and at in-person art shows. I used a very specific combination of bead sizes and shapes, and it's this combo that makes the pattern unique and identifiable. I used Legal Zoom in 2011 to protect my idea and sent in both a written copy and physical object. Copyright was granted in 2011. I just found out someone literally counted each single, individual bead in my pattern and essentially rewrote the pattern and it somehow ended up in a national magazine in 2013. This magazine then had to create the bead-by-bead diagram in order to publish the pattern. The magazine seemed to have gone out of business in 2020. The only difference between the copy and my own pattern is 4 beads in the original round, essentially decreasing the entire pattern by 1 \"row\". Everything else is exactly the same. I would like to sell my own copyrighted pattern. Will I run into any troubles for selling the original .pdf that was printed/sent to Legal Zoom for copyright as my own original work, considering someone else ripped off the pattern and it's published in a now discontinued magazine? Is it possible to be compensated for the magazine publishing my stolen pattern? Thanks so much!", "role": "user" }, { "content": "The website you mention is up-selling something that people do directly. It's not knowable if you'd have any trouble, only time will tell. To sue, you'd need a lawyer who specializes in IP law to sue in federal court, and suing a defunct magazine isn't going to be fruitful.", "role": "assistant" } ]

[ { "content": "I created a unique beadwork pattern and copyrighted it through Legal Zoom in 2011. I just found out someone ripped off my pattern in 2013 and it was published in a magazine. What are my options for protecting my copyright in order to sell my own pattern? I am located in Washington State, copycat is in Florida, magazine is US based. I created a beading pattern for a very unique style of creating a component of an object and actually sold said completed objects for many years on Etsy and at in-person art shows. I used a very specific combination of bead sizes and shapes, and it's this combo that makes the pattern unique and identifiable. I used Legal Zoom in 2011 to protect my idea and sent in both a written copy and physical object. Copyright was granted in 2011. I just found out someone literally counted each single, individual bead in my pattern and essentially rewrote the pattern and it somehow ended up in a national magazine in 2013. This magazine then had to create the bead-by-bead diagram in order to publish the pattern. The magazine seemed to have gone out of business in 2020. The only difference between the copy and my own pattern is 4 beads in the original round, essentially decreasing the entire pattern by 1 \"row\". Everything else is exactly the same. I would like to sell my own copyrighted pattern. Will I run into any troubles for selling the original .pdf that was printed/sent to Legal Zoom for copyright as my own original work, considering someone else ripped off the pattern and it's published in a now discontinued magazine? Is it possible to be compensated for the magazine publishing my stolen pattern? Thanks so much!", "role": "user" }, { "content": "Patterns are not generally eligible for copyright protection as they are considered a method of doing something. >Copyright does not protect ideas, concepts, systems, or methods of doing something. Source: https://www.copyright.gov/help/faq/faq-protect.html Any original materials you created to express your idea, aside from the method to recreate it, would be eligible for copyright protection. Examples would include photographs of the item, prose describing it, or illustrations of it. You would be free to sell your own version of the pattern. You cannot use images from the magazine to sell your pattern without their permission. You can describe your pattern as being published in that magazine, however, as that would be a statement of fact, which is also not copyrightable.", "role": "assistant" } ]

[ { "content": "[NJ] Amazon says I returned the wrong item and is threatening to charge me for it In June I brought a rather expensive drone for myself. It was just a little over $1000. When I received it, I noticed that it was missing one of the cables that was required to use the drone. I immediately requested a replacement on Amazon and returned the one with the missing cable. I returned it to a UPS store as advised on the Amazon return instructions. A few days later I received notice that the return was received and never heard anything of the issue again. Fast forward two and a half months later and I receive an e-mail from Amazon that states that I returned the incorrect item and that I'll be charged if I don't return the right item. I know for a fact that I returned the right item, so I e-mailed back simply stating that I returned the correct item and asked them to provide proof that I returned the incorrect item. I received another canned response back simply stating that I returned an incorrect item. I replied to the canned response with the same response, only this time I also cc'ed jeff@amazon.com which from my understanding forwards to some special inbox that gets more attention. I called amazon customer support to get more information. Support told me that they could not give me more information and that all they could tell me is that they received the wrong item. They did take a report though where I explained again that I returned the item and the customer service rep stated that a special team was handling the case and that I wouldn't receive any more emails on the subject and that I wouldn't be charged. I wished I had recorded that phone call. Later that day I receive another email from amazon, this time I think it's a reply to the email I cc'ed to jeff@amazon.com email, essentially stating the same thing that Amazon support had been stating. I asked them again to provide proof that I returned the wrong item and I asked that they return the incorrect item back to me if they cannot provide proof for whatever reason. I also pointed out that the Amazon website lists the return as completed and even lists that date (2 months ago) that the return was received by amazon on. Again they responded similarly to their previous e-mails, stating that I returned the wrong item and that they were going to charge me for it. They said they could not provide proof and could not send the incorrect item back to me. They also said that they could not send me proof because they discarded the incorrect item that they claimed I sent them. I called support back to get an explanation on the last e-mail I had just received and was again told the same thing as the first call, that a team would be back in contact with me within 24-48 hours via email and that I wouldn't be charged or should receive anymore e-mails requesting that I send the item back. Due to how inconsistent amazon has been up to this point, I started recording all of my calls. I also saved all of the emails I have up until now. I also took screen shots of the return order page that still shows the return as completed and received by amazon on June 24th. I'm really at a loss for what to do here. I don't have the return shipping receipt anymore since it was so long ago and I received confirmation that they received the item. When I returned the item, amazon allows you to return the item in it's regular product box without a cardboard shipping box to a UPS store. I suspect that between the UPS store and the Amazon warehouse that someone stole or replaced the drone. However since Amazon won't give me ANY information, I have no way to confirm that. It seems that every response I get back from Amazon on any of my requests for information is met with a \"fuck you, pay me.\" from amazon. I assume they're going to charge my card for the $1000 soon. It's an Amazon Store credit card by Synchrony bank, so I have no clue how a credit dispute would work out in this case. If they charge me, would it even be worth brining a company like Amazon to small claims court? It feels like a VERY uphill battle in a case of he said, she said.", "role": "user" }, { "content": "Can you get tracking information/proof of shipment and delivery from UPS?", "role": "assistant" } ]

[ { "content": "[NJ] Amazon says I returned the wrong item and is threatening to charge me for it In June I brought a rather expensive drone for myself. It was just a little over $1000. When I received it, I noticed that it was missing one of the cables that was required to use the drone. I immediately requested a replacement on Amazon and returned the one with the missing cable. I returned it to a UPS store as advised on the Amazon return instructions. A few days later I received notice that the return was received and never heard anything of the issue again. Fast forward two and a half months later and I receive an e-mail from Amazon that states that I returned the incorrect item and that I'll be charged if I don't return the right item. I know for a fact that I returned the right item, so I e-mailed back simply stating that I returned the correct item and asked them to provide proof that I returned the incorrect item. I received another canned response back simply stating that I returned an incorrect item. I replied to the canned response with the same response, only this time I also cc'ed jeff@amazon.com which from my understanding forwards to some special inbox that gets more attention. I called amazon customer support to get more information. Support told me that they could not give me more information and that all they could tell me is that they received the wrong item. They did take a report though where I explained again that I returned the item and the customer service rep stated that a special team was handling the case and that I wouldn't receive any more emails on the subject and that I wouldn't be charged. I wished I had recorded that phone call. Later that day I receive another email from amazon, this time I think it's a reply to the email I cc'ed to jeff@amazon.com email, essentially stating the same thing that Amazon support had been stating. I asked them again to provide proof that I returned the wrong item and I asked that they return the incorrect item back to me if they cannot provide proof for whatever reason. I also pointed out that the Amazon website lists the return as completed and even lists that date (2 months ago) that the return was received by amazon on. Again they responded similarly to their previous e-mails, stating that I returned the wrong item and that they were going to charge me for it. They said they could not provide proof and could not send the incorrect item back to me. They also said that they could not send me proof because they discarded the incorrect item that they claimed I sent them. I called support back to get an explanation on the last e-mail I had just received and was again told the same thing as the first call, that a team would be back in contact with me within 24-48 hours via email and that I wouldn't be charged or should receive anymore e-mails requesting that I send the item back. Due to how inconsistent amazon has been up to this point, I started recording all of my calls. I also saved all of the emails I have up until now. I also took screen shots of the return order page that still shows the return as completed and received by amazon on June 24th. I'm really at a loss for what to do here. I don't have the return shipping receipt anymore since it was so long ago and I received confirmation that they received the item. When I returned the item, amazon allows you to return the item in it's regular product box without a cardboard shipping box to a UPS store. I suspect that between the UPS store and the Amazon warehouse that someone stole or replaced the drone. However since Amazon won't give me ANY information, I have no way to confirm that. It seems that every response I get back from Amazon on any of my requests for information is met with a \"fuck you, pay me.\" from amazon. I assume they're going to charge my card for the $1000 soon. It's an Amazon Store credit card by Synchrony bank, so I have no clue how a credit dispute would work out in this case. If they charge me, would it even be worth brining a company like Amazon to small claims court? It feels like a VERY uphill battle in a case of he said, she said.", "role": "user" }, { "content": "> If they charge me Stop payment on any attempt they make to impose the unlawful claim. They can deal with your credit card provider, who will require more than just their baseless assertion that you returned the wrong item. Despite the Amazon sponsorship of the card they are still subject to US banking and credit regulations and they'll be dealing with a third party, they are not a bank.", "role": "assistant" } ]

[ { "content": "[NJ] Amazon says I returned the wrong item and is threatening to charge me for it In June I brought a rather expensive drone for myself. It was just a little over $1000. When I received it, I noticed that it was missing one of the cables that was required to use the drone. I immediately requested a replacement on Amazon and returned the one with the missing cable. I returned it to a UPS store as advised on the Amazon return instructions. A few days later I received notice that the return was received and never heard anything of the issue again. Fast forward two and a half months later and I receive an e-mail from Amazon that states that I returned the incorrect item and that I'll be charged if I don't return the right item. I know for a fact that I returned the right item, so I e-mailed back simply stating that I returned the correct item and asked them to provide proof that I returned the incorrect item. I received another canned response back simply stating that I returned an incorrect item. I replied to the canned response with the same response, only this time I also cc'ed jeff@amazon.com which from my understanding forwards to some special inbox that gets more attention. I called amazon customer support to get more information. Support told me that they could not give me more information and that all they could tell me is that they received the wrong item. They did take a report though where I explained again that I returned the item and the customer service rep stated that a special team was handling the case and that I wouldn't receive any more emails on the subject and that I wouldn't be charged. I wished I had recorded that phone call. Later that day I receive another email from amazon, this time I think it's a reply to the email I cc'ed to jeff@amazon.com email, essentially stating the same thing that Amazon support had been stating. I asked them again to provide proof that I returned the wrong item and I asked that they return the incorrect item back to me if they cannot provide proof for whatever reason. I also pointed out that the Amazon website lists the return as completed and even lists that date (2 months ago) that the return was received by amazon on. Again they responded similarly to their previous e-mails, stating that I returned the wrong item and that they were going to charge me for it. They said they could not provide proof and could not send the incorrect item back to me. They also said that they could not send me proof because they discarded the incorrect item that they claimed I sent them. I called support back to get an explanation on the last e-mail I had just received and was again told the same thing as the first call, that a team would be back in contact with me within 24-48 hours via email and that I wouldn't be charged or should receive anymore e-mails requesting that I send the item back. Due to how inconsistent amazon has been up to this point, I started recording all of my calls. I also saved all of the emails I have up until now. I also took screen shots of the return order page that still shows the return as completed and received by amazon on June 24th. I'm really at a loss for what to do here. I don't have the return shipping receipt anymore since it was so long ago and I received confirmation that they received the item. When I returned the item, amazon allows you to return the item in it's regular product box without a cardboard shipping box to a UPS store. I suspect that between the UPS store and the Amazon warehouse that someone stole or replaced the drone. However since Amazon won't give me ANY information, I have no way to confirm that. It seems that every response I get back from Amazon on any of my requests for information is met with a \"fuck you, pay me.\" from amazon. I assume they're going to charge my card for the $1000 soon. It's an Amazon Store credit card by Synchrony bank, so I have no clue how a credit dispute would work out in this case. If they charge me, would it even be worth brining a company like Amazon to small claims court? It feels like a VERY uphill battle in a case of he said, she said.", "role": "user" }, { "content": "If you bounce the charge back,, you risk Amazon closing the account. The very first thing I would do would be to ask Amazon if you shipped back the wrong item, exactly what item did it receive? Surely Amazon can tell you what it received? This is a basic question, and it is probably one of the first questions a judge in small claims court would ask.", "role": "assistant" } ]

[ { "content": "[NJ] Amazon says I returned the wrong item and is threatening to charge me for it In June I brought a rather expensive drone for myself. It was just a little over $1000. When I received it, I noticed that it was missing one of the cables that was required to use the drone. I immediately requested a replacement on Amazon and returned the one with the missing cable. I returned it to a UPS store as advised on the Amazon return instructions. A few days later I received notice that the return was received and never heard anything of the issue again. Fast forward two and a half months later and I receive an e-mail from Amazon that states that I returned the incorrect item and that I'll be charged if I don't return the right item. I know for a fact that I returned the right item, so I e-mailed back simply stating that I returned the correct item and asked them to provide proof that I returned the incorrect item. I received another canned response back simply stating that I returned an incorrect item. I replied to the canned response with the same response, only this time I also cc'ed jeff@amazon.com which from my understanding forwards to some special inbox that gets more attention. I called amazon customer support to get more information. Support told me that they could not give me more information and that all they could tell me is that they received the wrong item. They did take a report though where I explained again that I returned the item and the customer service rep stated that a special team was handling the case and that I wouldn't receive any more emails on the subject and that I wouldn't be charged. I wished I had recorded that phone call. Later that day I receive another email from amazon, this time I think it's a reply to the email I cc'ed to jeff@amazon.com email, essentially stating the same thing that Amazon support had been stating. I asked them again to provide proof that I returned the wrong item and I asked that they return the incorrect item back to me if they cannot provide proof for whatever reason. I also pointed out that the Amazon website lists the return as completed and even lists that date (2 months ago) that the return was received by amazon on. Again they responded similarly to their previous e-mails, stating that I returned the wrong item and that they were going to charge me for it. They said they could not provide proof and could not send the incorrect item back to me. They also said that they could not send me proof because they discarded the incorrect item that they claimed I sent them. I called support back to get an explanation on the last e-mail I had just received and was again told the same thing as the first call, that a team would be back in contact with me within 24-48 hours via email and that I wouldn't be charged or should receive anymore e-mails requesting that I send the item back. Due to how inconsistent amazon has been up to this point, I started recording all of my calls. I also saved all of the emails I have up until now. I also took screen shots of the return order page that still shows the return as completed and received by amazon on June 24th. I'm really at a loss for what to do here. I don't have the return shipping receipt anymore since it was so long ago and I received confirmation that they received the item. When I returned the item, amazon allows you to return the item in it's regular product box without a cardboard shipping box to a UPS store. I suspect that between the UPS store and the Amazon warehouse that someone stole or replaced the drone. However since Amazon won't give me ANY information, I have no way to confirm that. It seems that every response I get back from Amazon on any of my requests for information is met with a \"fuck you, pay me.\" from amazon. I assume they're going to charge my card for the $1000 soon. It's an Amazon Store credit card by Synchrony bank, so I have no clue how a credit dispute would work out in this case. If they charge me, would it even be worth brining a company like Amazon to small claims court? It feels like a VERY uphill battle in a case of he said, she said.", "role": "user" }, { "content": "Just had a similar issue and I was able to resolve it. It was a total pain in the ass. I returned an iPhone and they claimed they received an empty box. Here’s what finally solved it, because I kept going through the exact same Groundhog Day loop that you did. I called UPS and opened an investigation with them using the return tracking number. UPS completed their investigation but wouldn’t tell me what their findings were and that I have to call Amazon to get that info. That was another frustrating loop. Eventually I got a UPS supervisor to confirm that they were waiting for paperwork from Amazon to send them payment for the iPhone, so I took that to mean UPS concluded it was their fault. With that supervisor on the phone, I three way called to Amazon, requested a US based supervisor, then had the UPS supervisor explain to Amazon what was going on. I then made sure that the Amazon supervisor included all that information in a note to the specialist team. I then replied to one of those specialist team emails, restating the conversation that just took place, confirming that UPS accepted liability. They confirmed the refund via email later that day. Overall, it was a colossal pain in the ass, especially since the tracking on it showed a scan weight that confirmed I didn’t send an empty box, but finally it’s resolved after a month of dealing with it. I also got nowhere with those executive emails. The final Amazon supervisor I spoke to, when I asked him what to do if I still don’t get my refund, he told me to dispute the charge with my CC.", "role": "assistant" } ]

[ { "content": "[NJ] Amazon says I returned the wrong item and is threatening to charge me for it In June I brought a rather expensive drone for myself. It was just a little over $1000. When I received it, I noticed that it was missing one of the cables that was required to use the drone. I immediately requested a replacement on Amazon and returned the one with the missing cable. I returned it to a UPS store as advised on the Amazon return instructions. A few days later I received notice that the return was received and never heard anything of the issue again. Fast forward two and a half months later and I receive an e-mail from Amazon that states that I returned the incorrect item and that I'll be charged if I don't return the right item. I know for a fact that I returned the right item, so I e-mailed back simply stating that I returned the correct item and asked them to provide proof that I returned the incorrect item. I received another canned response back simply stating that I returned an incorrect item. I replied to the canned response with the same response, only this time I also cc'ed jeff@amazon.com which from my understanding forwards to some special inbox that gets more attention. I called amazon customer support to get more information. Support told me that they could not give me more information and that all they could tell me is that they received the wrong item. They did take a report though where I explained again that I returned the item and the customer service rep stated that a special team was handling the case and that I wouldn't receive any more emails on the subject and that I wouldn't be charged. I wished I had recorded that phone call. Later that day I receive another email from amazon, this time I think it's a reply to the email I cc'ed to jeff@amazon.com email, essentially stating the same thing that Amazon support had been stating. I asked them again to provide proof that I returned the wrong item and I asked that they return the incorrect item back to me if they cannot provide proof for whatever reason. I also pointed out that the Amazon website lists the return as completed and even lists that date (2 months ago) that the return was received by amazon on. Again they responded similarly to their previous e-mails, stating that I returned the wrong item and that they were going to charge me for it. They said they could not provide proof and could not send the incorrect item back to me. They also said that they could not send me proof because they discarded the incorrect item that they claimed I sent them. I called support back to get an explanation on the last e-mail I had just received and was again told the same thing as the first call, that a team would be back in contact with me within 24-48 hours via email and that I wouldn't be charged or should receive anymore e-mails requesting that I send the item back. Due to how inconsistent amazon has been up to this point, I started recording all of my calls. I also saved all of the emails I have up until now. I also took screen shots of the return order page that still shows the return as completed and received by amazon on June 24th. I'm really at a loss for what to do here. I don't have the return shipping receipt anymore since it was so long ago and I received confirmation that they received the item. When I returned the item, amazon allows you to return the item in it's regular product box without a cardboard shipping box to a UPS store. I suspect that between the UPS store and the Amazon warehouse that someone stole or replaced the drone. However since Amazon won't give me ANY information, I have no way to confirm that. It seems that every response I get back from Amazon on any of my requests for information is met with a \"fuck you, pay me.\" from amazon. I assume they're going to charge my card for the $1000 soon. It's an Amazon Store credit card by Synchrony bank, so I have no clue how a credit dispute would work out in this case. If they charge me, would it even be worth brining a company like Amazon to small claims court? It feels like a VERY uphill battle in a case of he said, she said.", "role": "user" }, { "content": "Can you get tracking information/proof of shipment and delivery from UPS?", "role": "assistant" } ]

[ { "content": "[NJ] Amazon says I returned the wrong item and is threatening to charge me for it In June I brought a rather expensive drone for myself. It was just a little over $1000. When I received it, I noticed that it was missing one of the cables that was required to use the drone. I immediately requested a replacement on Amazon and returned the one with the missing cable. I returned it to a UPS store as advised on the Amazon return instructions. A few days later I received notice that the return was received and never heard anything of the issue again. Fast forward two and a half months later and I receive an e-mail from Amazon that states that I returned the incorrect item and that I'll be charged if I don't return the right item. I know for a fact that I returned the right item, so I e-mailed back simply stating that I returned the correct item and asked them to provide proof that I returned the incorrect item. I received another canned response back simply stating that I returned an incorrect item. I replied to the canned response with the same response, only this time I also cc'ed jeff@amazon.com which from my understanding forwards to some special inbox that gets more attention. I called amazon customer support to get more information. Support told me that they could not give me more information and that all they could tell me is that they received the wrong item. They did take a report though where I explained again that I returned the item and the customer service rep stated that a special team was handling the case and that I wouldn't receive any more emails on the subject and that I wouldn't be charged. I wished I had recorded that phone call. Later that day I receive another email from amazon, this time I think it's a reply to the email I cc'ed to jeff@amazon.com email, essentially stating the same thing that Amazon support had been stating. I asked them again to provide proof that I returned the wrong item and I asked that they return the incorrect item back to me if they cannot provide proof for whatever reason. I also pointed out that the Amazon website lists the return as completed and even lists that date (2 months ago) that the return was received by amazon on. Again they responded similarly to their previous e-mails, stating that I returned the wrong item and that they were going to charge me for it. They said they could not provide proof and could not send the incorrect item back to me. They also said that they could not send me proof because they discarded the incorrect item that they claimed I sent them. I called support back to get an explanation on the last e-mail I had just received and was again told the same thing as the first call, that a team would be back in contact with me within 24-48 hours via email and that I wouldn't be charged or should receive anymore e-mails requesting that I send the item back. Due to how inconsistent amazon has been up to this point, I started recording all of my calls. I also saved all of the emails I have up until now. I also took screen shots of the return order page that still shows the return as completed and received by amazon on June 24th. I'm really at a loss for what to do here. I don't have the return shipping receipt anymore since it was so long ago and I received confirmation that they received the item. When I returned the item, amazon allows you to return the item in it's regular product box without a cardboard shipping box to a UPS store. I suspect that between the UPS store and the Amazon warehouse that someone stole or replaced the drone. However since Amazon won't give me ANY information, I have no way to confirm that. It seems that every response I get back from Amazon on any of my requests for information is met with a \"fuck you, pay me.\" from amazon. I assume they're going to charge my card for the $1000 soon. It's an Amazon Store credit card by Synchrony bank, so I have no clue how a credit dispute would work out in this case. If they charge me, would it even be worth brining a company like Amazon to small claims court? It feels like a VERY uphill battle in a case of he said, she said.", "role": "user" }, { "content": "Just had a similar issue and I was able to resolve it. It was a total pain in the ass. I returned an iPhone and they claimed they received an empty box. Here’s what finally solved it, because I kept going through the exact same Groundhog Day loop that you did. I called UPS and opened an investigation with them using the return tracking number. UPS completed their investigation but wouldn’t tell me what their findings were and that I have to call Amazon to get that info. That was another frustrating loop. Eventually I got a UPS supervisor to confirm that they were waiting for paperwork from Amazon to send them payment for the iPhone, so I took that to mean UPS concluded it was their fault. With that supervisor on the phone, I three way called to Amazon, requested a US based supervisor, then had the UPS supervisor explain to Amazon what was going on. I then made sure that the Amazon supervisor included all that information in a note to the specialist team. I then replied to one of those specialist team emails, restating the conversation that just took place, confirming that UPS accepted liability. They confirmed the refund via email later that day. Overall, it was a colossal pain in the ass, especially since the tracking on it showed a scan weight that confirmed I didn’t send an empty box, but finally it’s resolved after a month of dealing with it. I also got nowhere with those executive emails. The final Amazon supervisor I spoke to, when I asked him what to do if I still don’t get my refund, he told me to dispute the charge with my CC.", "role": "assistant" } ]

[ { "content": "[NJ] Amazon says I returned the wrong item and is threatening to charge me for it In June I brought a rather expensive drone for myself. It was just a little over $1000. When I received it, I noticed that it was missing one of the cables that was required to use the drone. I immediately requested a replacement on Amazon and returned the one with the missing cable. I returned it to a UPS store as advised on the Amazon return instructions. A few days later I received notice that the return was received and never heard anything of the issue again. Fast forward two and a half months later and I receive an e-mail from Amazon that states that I returned the incorrect item and that I'll be charged if I don't return the right item. I know for a fact that I returned the right item, so I e-mailed back simply stating that I returned the correct item and asked them to provide proof that I returned the incorrect item. I received another canned response back simply stating that I returned an incorrect item. I replied to the canned response with the same response, only this time I also cc'ed jeff@amazon.com which from my understanding forwards to some special inbox that gets more attention. I called amazon customer support to get more information. Support told me that they could not give me more information and that all they could tell me is that they received the wrong item. They did take a report though where I explained again that I returned the item and the customer service rep stated that a special team was handling the case and that I wouldn't receive any more emails on the subject and that I wouldn't be charged. I wished I had recorded that phone call. Later that day I receive another email from amazon, this time I think it's a reply to the email I cc'ed to jeff@amazon.com email, essentially stating the same thing that Amazon support had been stating. I asked them again to provide proof that I returned the wrong item and I asked that they return the incorrect item back to me if they cannot provide proof for whatever reason. I also pointed out that the Amazon website lists the return as completed and even lists that date (2 months ago) that the return was received by amazon on. Again they responded similarly to their previous e-mails, stating that I returned the wrong item and that they were going to charge me for it. They said they could not provide proof and could not send the incorrect item back to me. They also said that they could not send me proof because they discarded the incorrect item that they claimed I sent them. I called support back to get an explanation on the last e-mail I had just received and was again told the same thing as the first call, that a team would be back in contact with me within 24-48 hours via email and that I wouldn't be charged or should receive anymore e-mails requesting that I send the item back. Due to how inconsistent amazon has been up to this point, I started recording all of my calls. I also saved all of the emails I have up until now. I also took screen shots of the return order page that still shows the return as completed and received by amazon on June 24th. I'm really at a loss for what to do here. I don't have the return shipping receipt anymore since it was so long ago and I received confirmation that they received the item. When I returned the item, amazon allows you to return the item in it's regular product box without a cardboard shipping box to a UPS store. I suspect that between the UPS store and the Amazon warehouse that someone stole or replaced the drone. However since Amazon won't give me ANY information, I have no way to confirm that. It seems that every response I get back from Amazon on any of my requests for information is met with a \"fuck you, pay me.\" from amazon. I assume they're going to charge my card for the $1000 soon. It's an Amazon Store credit card by Synchrony bank, so I have no clue how a credit dispute would work out in this case. If they charge me, would it even be worth brining a company like Amazon to small claims court? It feels like a VERY uphill battle in a case of he said, she said.", "role": "user" }, { "content": "Are you sure that the emails are actually coming from Amazon?", "role": "assistant" } ]

[ { "content": "[NJ] Amazon says I returned the wrong item and is threatening to charge me for it In June I brought a rather expensive drone for myself. It was just a little over $1000. When I received it, I noticed that it was missing one of the cables that was required to use the drone. I immediately requested a replacement on Amazon and returned the one with the missing cable. I returned it to a UPS store as advised on the Amazon return instructions. A few days later I received notice that the return was received and never heard anything of the issue again. Fast forward two and a half months later and I receive an e-mail from Amazon that states that I returned the incorrect item and that I'll be charged if I don't return the right item. I know for a fact that I returned the right item, so I e-mailed back simply stating that I returned the correct item and asked them to provide proof that I returned the incorrect item. I received another canned response back simply stating that I returned an incorrect item. I replied to the canned response with the same response, only this time I also cc'ed jeff@amazon.com which from my understanding forwards to some special inbox that gets more attention. I called amazon customer support to get more information. Support told me that they could not give me more information and that all they could tell me is that they received the wrong item. They did take a report though where I explained again that I returned the item and the customer service rep stated that a special team was handling the case and that I wouldn't receive any more emails on the subject and that I wouldn't be charged. I wished I had recorded that phone call. Later that day I receive another email from amazon, this time I think it's a reply to the email I cc'ed to jeff@amazon.com email, essentially stating the same thing that Amazon support had been stating. I asked them again to provide proof that I returned the wrong item and I asked that they return the incorrect item back to me if they cannot provide proof for whatever reason. I also pointed out that the Amazon website lists the return as completed and even lists that date (2 months ago) that the return was received by amazon on. Again they responded similarly to their previous e-mails, stating that I returned the wrong item and that they were going to charge me for it. They said they could not provide proof and could not send the incorrect item back to me. They also said that they could not send me proof because they discarded the incorrect item that they claimed I sent them. I called support back to get an explanation on the last e-mail I had just received and was again told the same thing as the first call, that a team would be back in contact with me within 24-48 hours via email and that I wouldn't be charged or should receive anymore e-mails requesting that I send the item back. Due to how inconsistent amazon has been up to this point, I started recording all of my calls. I also saved all of the emails I have up until now. I also took screen shots of the return order page that still shows the return as completed and received by amazon on June 24th. I'm really at a loss for what to do here. I don't have the return shipping receipt anymore since it was so long ago and I received confirmation that they received the item. When I returned the item, amazon allows you to return the item in it's regular product box without a cardboard shipping box to a UPS store. I suspect that between the UPS store and the Amazon warehouse that someone stole or replaced the drone. However since Amazon won't give me ANY information, I have no way to confirm that. It seems that every response I get back from Amazon on any of my requests for information is met with a \"fuck you, pay me.\" from amazon. I assume they're going to charge my card for the $1000 soon. It's an Amazon Store credit card by Synchrony bank, so I have no clue how a credit dispute would work out in this case. If they charge me, would it even be worth brining a company like Amazon to small claims court? It feels like a VERY uphill battle in a case of he said, she said.", "role": "user" }, { "content": "Just had a similar issue and I was able to resolve it. It was a total pain in the ass. I returned an iPhone and they claimed they received an empty box. Here’s what finally solved it, because I kept going through the exact same Groundhog Day loop that you did. I called UPS and opened an investigation with them using the return tracking number. UPS completed their investigation but wouldn’t tell me what their findings were and that I have to call Amazon to get that info. That was another frustrating loop. Eventually I got a UPS supervisor to confirm that they were waiting for paperwork from Amazon to send them payment for the iPhone, so I took that to mean UPS concluded it was their fault. With that supervisor on the phone, I three way called to Amazon, requested a US based supervisor, then had the UPS supervisor explain to Amazon what was going on. I then made sure that the Amazon supervisor included all that information in a note to the specialist team. I then replied to one of those specialist team emails, restating the conversation that just took place, confirming that UPS accepted liability. They confirmed the refund via email later that day. Overall, it was a colossal pain in the ass, especially since the tracking on it showed a scan weight that confirmed I didn’t send an empty box, but finally it’s resolved after a month of dealing with it. I also got nowhere with those executive emails. The final Amazon supervisor I spoke to, when I asked him what to do if I still don’t get my refund, he told me to dispute the charge with my CC.", "role": "assistant" } ]

[ { "content": "[NJ] Amazon says I returned the wrong item and is threatening to charge me for it In June I brought a rather expensive drone for myself. It was just a little over $1000. When I received it, I noticed that it was missing one of the cables that was required to use the drone. I immediately requested a replacement on Amazon and returned the one with the missing cable. I returned it to a UPS store as advised on the Amazon return instructions. A few days later I received notice that the return was received and never heard anything of the issue again. Fast forward two and a half months later and I receive an e-mail from Amazon that states that I returned the incorrect item and that I'll be charged if I don't return the right item. I know for a fact that I returned the right item, so I e-mailed back simply stating that I returned the correct item and asked them to provide proof that I returned the incorrect item. I received another canned response back simply stating that I returned an incorrect item. I replied to the canned response with the same response, only this time I also cc'ed jeff@amazon.com which from my understanding forwards to some special inbox that gets more attention. I called amazon customer support to get more information. Support told me that they could not give me more information and that all they could tell me is that they received the wrong item. They did take a report though where I explained again that I returned the item and the customer service rep stated that a special team was handling the case and that I wouldn't receive any more emails on the subject and that I wouldn't be charged. I wished I had recorded that phone call. Later that day I receive another email from amazon, this time I think it's a reply to the email I cc'ed to jeff@amazon.com email, essentially stating the same thing that Amazon support had been stating. I asked them again to provide proof that I returned the wrong item and I asked that they return the incorrect item back to me if they cannot provide proof for whatever reason. I also pointed out that the Amazon website lists the return as completed and even lists that date (2 months ago) that the return was received by amazon on. Again they responded similarly to their previous e-mails, stating that I returned the wrong item and that they were going to charge me for it. They said they could not provide proof and could not send the incorrect item back to me. They also said that they could not send me proof because they discarded the incorrect item that they claimed I sent them. I called support back to get an explanation on the last e-mail I had just received and was again told the same thing as the first call, that a team would be back in contact with me within 24-48 hours via email and that I wouldn't be charged or should receive anymore e-mails requesting that I send the item back. Due to how inconsistent amazon has been up to this point, I started recording all of my calls. I also saved all of the emails I have up until now. I also took screen shots of the return order page that still shows the return as completed and received by amazon on June 24th. I'm really at a loss for what to do here. I don't have the return shipping receipt anymore since it was so long ago and I received confirmation that they received the item. When I returned the item, amazon allows you to return the item in it's regular product box without a cardboard shipping box to a UPS store. I suspect that between the UPS store and the Amazon warehouse that someone stole or replaced the drone. However since Amazon won't give me ANY information, I have no way to confirm that. It seems that every response I get back from Amazon on any of my requests for information is met with a \"fuck you, pay me.\" from amazon. I assume they're going to charge my card for the $1000 soon. It's an Amazon Store credit card by Synchrony bank, so I have no clue how a credit dispute would work out in this case. If they charge me, would it even be worth brining a company like Amazon to small claims court? It feels like a VERY uphill battle in a case of he said, she said.", "role": "user" }, { "content": "Are you sure that the emails are actually coming from Amazon?", "role": "assistant" } ]

[ { "content": "[NJ] Amazon says I returned the wrong item and is threatening to charge me for it In June I brought a rather expensive drone for myself. It was just a little over $1000. When I received it, I noticed that it was missing one of the cables that was required to use the drone. I immediately requested a replacement on Amazon and returned the one with the missing cable. I returned it to a UPS store as advised on the Amazon return instructions. A few days later I received notice that the return was received and never heard anything of the issue again. Fast forward two and a half months later and I receive an e-mail from Amazon that states that I returned the incorrect item and that I'll be charged if I don't return the right item. I know for a fact that I returned the right item, so I e-mailed back simply stating that I returned the correct item and asked them to provide proof that I returned the incorrect item. I received another canned response back simply stating that I returned an incorrect item. I replied to the canned response with the same response, only this time I also cc'ed jeff@amazon.com which from my understanding forwards to some special inbox that gets more attention. I called amazon customer support to get more information. Support told me that they could not give me more information and that all they could tell me is that they received the wrong item. They did take a report though where I explained again that I returned the item and the customer service rep stated that a special team was handling the case and that I wouldn't receive any more emails on the subject and that I wouldn't be charged. I wished I had recorded that phone call. Later that day I receive another email from amazon, this time I think it's a reply to the email I cc'ed to jeff@amazon.com email, essentially stating the same thing that Amazon support had been stating. I asked them again to provide proof that I returned the wrong item and I asked that they return the incorrect item back to me if they cannot provide proof for whatever reason. I also pointed out that the Amazon website lists the return as completed and even lists that date (2 months ago) that the return was received by amazon on. Again they responded similarly to their previous e-mails, stating that I returned the wrong item and that they were going to charge me for it. They said they could not provide proof and could not send the incorrect item back to me. They also said that they could not send me proof because they discarded the incorrect item that they claimed I sent them. I called support back to get an explanation on the last e-mail I had just received and was again told the same thing as the first call, that a team would be back in contact with me within 24-48 hours via email and that I wouldn't be charged or should receive anymore e-mails requesting that I send the item back. Due to how inconsistent amazon has been up to this point, I started recording all of my calls. I also saved all of the emails I have up until now. I also took screen shots of the return order page that still shows the return as completed and received by amazon on June 24th. I'm really at a loss for what to do here. I don't have the return shipping receipt anymore since it was so long ago and I received confirmation that they received the item. When I returned the item, amazon allows you to return the item in it's regular product box without a cardboard shipping box to a UPS store. I suspect that between the UPS store and the Amazon warehouse that someone stole or replaced the drone. However since Amazon won't give me ANY information, I have no way to confirm that. It seems that every response I get back from Amazon on any of my requests for information is met with a \"fuck you, pay me.\" from amazon. I assume they're going to charge my card for the $1000 soon. It's an Amazon Store credit card by Synchrony bank, so I have no clue how a credit dispute would work out in this case. If they charge me, would it even be worth brining a company like Amazon to small claims court? It feels like a VERY uphill battle in a case of he said, she said.", "role": "user" }, { "content": "If you bounce the charge back,, you risk Amazon closing the account. The very first thing I would do would be to ask Amazon if you shipped back the wrong item, exactly what item did it receive? Surely Amazon can tell you what it received? This is a basic question, and it is probably one of the first questions a judge in small claims court would ask.", "role": "assistant" } ]

[ { "content": "[CA] I adopted a dog that was certified as spayed by the adoption agency. When she started exhibiting signs of heat, I spent over $600 in vet bills to determine what was wrong, only to discover that she was never spayed. Adoption agency says they have no obligation to refund these vet bills. I adopted a female dog several months ago from a Humane Society shelter. The adoption fee included spay/neuter surgery and I was given an official document signed by their vet certifying that my dog was sterilized. The Humane Society also states on their website that all adopted dogs are sterilized. A few months after the adoption, my dog started exhibiting signs of heat. I called the Humane Society to double-check if she had been sterilized, and they confirmed that she had been. I brought her to my vet to find out what was wrong. Over the course of several appointments, he examined her, gave her multiple tests, and put her on medication to try to figure out what was wrong. He couldn't figure it out, so he referred me to a specialist. The specialist did an ultrasound and was able to confirm that my dog had never been spayed. The total cost of all bills related to this issue was $677. I brought this to the attention of the Humane Society. They told me that sometimes this happens because their vets make mistakes about whether or not a dog has been sterilized. This was not mentioned in any of the documents I received during the adoption process. All of my documents from them guaranteed she was sterile. The Humane Society offered to spay her for free and to pay for half of my vet bills, but they said they are doing this as a kind gesture, and they are in no way obligated to pay for any of this. I cannot find any legal documentation on their site regarding whether or not they are responsible for false documents or incorrect medical information about a dog. From a legal standpoint, are they obligated to refund me for the money I had to pay because of their false information? Thanks for your help!", "role": "user" }, { "content": "I am not a lawyer but since pets are property, and they said the property was spayed and it wasn't isn't that technically fraud?", "role": "assistant" } ]

[ { "content": "[CA] I adopted a dog that was certified as spayed by the adoption agency. When she started exhibiting signs of heat, I spent over $600 in vet bills to determine what was wrong, only to discover that she was never spayed. Adoption agency says they have no obligation to refund these vet bills. I adopted a female dog several months ago from a Humane Society shelter. The adoption fee included spay/neuter surgery and I was given an official document signed by their vet certifying that my dog was sterilized. The Humane Society also states on their website that all adopted dogs are sterilized. A few months after the adoption, my dog started exhibiting signs of heat. I called the Humane Society to double-check if she had been sterilized, and they confirmed that she had been. I brought her to my vet to find out what was wrong. Over the course of several appointments, he examined her, gave her multiple tests, and put her on medication to try to figure out what was wrong. He couldn't figure it out, so he referred me to a specialist. The specialist did an ultrasound and was able to confirm that my dog had never been spayed. The total cost of all bills related to this issue was $677. I brought this to the attention of the Humane Society. They told me that sometimes this happens because their vets make mistakes about whether or not a dog has been sterilized. This was not mentioned in any of the documents I received during the adoption process. All of my documents from them guaranteed she was sterile. The Humane Society offered to spay her for free and to pay for half of my vet bills, but they said they are doing this as a kind gesture, and they are in no way obligated to pay for any of this. I cannot find any legal documentation on their site regarding whether or not they are responsible for false documents or incorrect medical information about a dog. From a legal standpoint, are they obligated to refund me for the money I had to pay because of their false information? Thanks for your help!", "role": "user" }, { "content": "I can't help feeling that your vet was partially at fault for the extent of your bills. How did he/she not notice that there wasn't a scar from the spay? Why wouldn't an ultrasound be one of the first things he/she tried?", "role": "assistant" } ]

[ { "content": "[CA] I adopted a dog that was certified as spayed by the adoption agency. When she started exhibiting signs of heat, I spent over $600 in vet bills to determine what was wrong, only to discover that she was never spayed. Adoption agency says they have no obligation to refund these vet bills. I adopted a female dog several months ago from a Humane Society shelter. The adoption fee included spay/neuter surgery and I was given an official document signed by their vet certifying that my dog was sterilized. The Humane Society also states on their website that all adopted dogs are sterilized. A few months after the adoption, my dog started exhibiting signs of heat. I called the Humane Society to double-check if she had been sterilized, and they confirmed that she had been. I brought her to my vet to find out what was wrong. Over the course of several appointments, he examined her, gave her multiple tests, and put her on medication to try to figure out what was wrong. He couldn't figure it out, so he referred me to a specialist. The specialist did an ultrasound and was able to confirm that my dog had never been spayed. The total cost of all bills related to this issue was $677. I brought this to the attention of the Humane Society. They told me that sometimes this happens because their vets make mistakes about whether or not a dog has been sterilized. This was not mentioned in any of the documents I received during the adoption process. All of my documents from them guaranteed she was sterile. The Humane Society offered to spay her for free and to pay for half of my vet bills, but they said they are doing this as a kind gesture, and they are in no way obligated to pay for any of this. I cannot find any legal documentation on their site regarding whether or not they are responsible for false documents or incorrect medical information about a dog. From a legal standpoint, are they obligated to refund me for the money I had to pay because of their false information? Thanks for your help!", "role": "user" }, { "content": "I am not a lawyer but since pets are property, and they said the property was spayed and it wasn't isn't that technically fraud?", "role": "assistant" } ]

[ { "content": "[CA] I adopted a dog that was certified as spayed by the adoption agency. When she started exhibiting signs of heat, I spent over $600 in vet bills to determine what was wrong, only to discover that she was never spayed. Adoption agency says they have no obligation to refund these vet bills. I adopted a female dog several months ago from a Humane Society shelter. The adoption fee included spay/neuter surgery and I was given an official document signed by their vet certifying that my dog was sterilized. The Humane Society also states on their website that all adopted dogs are sterilized. A few months after the adoption, my dog started exhibiting signs of heat. I called the Humane Society to double-check if she had been sterilized, and they confirmed that she had been. I brought her to my vet to find out what was wrong. Over the course of several appointments, he examined her, gave her multiple tests, and put her on medication to try to figure out what was wrong. He couldn't figure it out, so he referred me to a specialist. The specialist did an ultrasound and was able to confirm that my dog had never been spayed. The total cost of all bills related to this issue was $677. I brought this to the attention of the Humane Society. They told me that sometimes this happens because their vets make mistakes about whether or not a dog has been sterilized. This was not mentioned in any of the documents I received during the adoption process. All of my documents from them guaranteed she was sterile. The Humane Society offered to spay her for free and to pay for half of my vet bills, but they said they are doing this as a kind gesture, and they are in no way obligated to pay for any of this. I cannot find any legal documentation on their site regarding whether or not they are responsible for false documents or incorrect medical information about a dog. From a legal standpoint, are they obligated to refund me for the money I had to pay because of their false information? Thanks for your help!", "role": "user" }, { "content": "> They told me that sometimes this happens because their vets make mistakes about whether or not a dog has been sterilized. Well it sure as fuck shouldn't jesus christ, I would be absolutely livid if a shelter worker told me that. Does your paperwork give you the name of the vet who did the spay/signed off on it? That's who your beef is with. Contact them directly, they need to cover your bills, they carry insurance for this type of thing. After you get your bills covered please contact the board of directors of that shetler. They are breaking state laws adopting out unfixed animals, the fact they are so lackadaisical about it is horrendous, California euthanises way too many unwanted dogs to have city run shelters adding to the problem.", "role": "assistant" } ]

[ { "content": "[CA] I adopted a dog that was certified as spayed by the adoption agency. When she started exhibiting signs of heat, I spent over $600 in vet bills to determine what was wrong, only to discover that she was never spayed. Adoption agency says they have no obligation to refund these vet bills. I adopted a female dog several months ago from a Humane Society shelter. The adoption fee included spay/neuter surgery and I was given an official document signed by their vet certifying that my dog was sterilized. The Humane Society also states on their website that all adopted dogs are sterilized. A few months after the adoption, my dog started exhibiting signs of heat. I called the Humane Society to double-check if she had been sterilized, and they confirmed that she had been. I brought her to my vet to find out what was wrong. Over the course of several appointments, he examined her, gave her multiple tests, and put her on medication to try to figure out what was wrong. He couldn't figure it out, so he referred me to a specialist. The specialist did an ultrasound and was able to confirm that my dog had never been spayed. The total cost of all bills related to this issue was $677. I brought this to the attention of the Humane Society. They told me that sometimes this happens because their vets make mistakes about whether or not a dog has been sterilized. This was not mentioned in any of the documents I received during the adoption process. All of my documents from them guaranteed she was sterile. The Humane Society offered to spay her for free and to pay for half of my vet bills, but they said they are doing this as a kind gesture, and they are in no way obligated to pay for any of this. I cannot find any legal documentation on their site regarding whether or not they are responsible for false documents or incorrect medical information about a dog. From a legal standpoint, are they obligated to refund me for the money I had to pay because of their false information? Thanks for your help!", "role": "user" }, { "content": "What's odd is that they couldn't tell she WASN'T spayed. Sometimes it can be difficult to tell if a dog WAS spayed, if the scar isn't visible and there's no tattoo (this happened to the dog I adopted from the shelter- they told me she hadn't been spayed and she had been. Didn't find out until they went in and found no uterus). I don't know if you're just curious about their legal obligation. I would be satisfied with them offering to spay her and split the vet bills, but that's just me.", "role": "assistant" } ]

[ { "content": "[CA] I adopted a dog that was certified as spayed by the adoption agency. When she started exhibiting signs of heat, I spent over $600 in vet bills to determine what was wrong, only to discover that she was never spayed. Adoption agency says they have no obligation to refund these vet bills. I adopted a female dog several months ago from a Humane Society shelter. The adoption fee included spay/neuter surgery and I was given an official document signed by their vet certifying that my dog was sterilized. The Humane Society also states on their website that all adopted dogs are sterilized. A few months after the adoption, my dog started exhibiting signs of heat. I called the Humane Society to double-check if she had been sterilized, and they confirmed that she had been. I brought her to my vet to find out what was wrong. Over the course of several appointments, he examined her, gave her multiple tests, and put her on medication to try to figure out what was wrong. He couldn't figure it out, so he referred me to a specialist. The specialist did an ultrasound and was able to confirm that my dog had never been spayed. The total cost of all bills related to this issue was $677. I brought this to the attention of the Humane Society. They told me that sometimes this happens because their vets make mistakes about whether or not a dog has been sterilized. This was not mentioned in any of the documents I received during the adoption process. All of my documents from them guaranteed she was sterile. The Humane Society offered to spay her for free and to pay for half of my vet bills, but they said they are doing this as a kind gesture, and they are in no way obligated to pay for any of this. I cannot find any legal documentation on their site regarding whether or not they are responsible for false documents or incorrect medical information about a dog. From a legal standpoint, are they obligated to refund me for the money I had to pay because of their false information? Thanks for your help!", "role": "user" }, { "content": "> They told me that sometimes this happens because their vets make mistakes about whether or not a dog has been sterilized. Well it sure as fuck shouldn't jesus christ, I would be absolutely livid if a shelter worker told me that. Does your paperwork give you the name of the vet who did the spay/signed off on it? That's who your beef is with. Contact them directly, they need to cover your bills, they carry insurance for this type of thing. After you get your bills covered please contact the board of directors of that shetler. They are breaking state laws adopting out unfixed animals, the fact they are so lackadaisical about it is horrendous, California euthanises way too many unwanted dogs to have city run shelters adding to the problem.", "role": "assistant" } ]

[ { "content": "[CA] I adopted a dog that was certified as spayed by the adoption agency. When she started exhibiting signs of heat, I spent over $600 in vet bills to determine what was wrong, only to discover that she was never spayed. Adoption agency says they have no obligation to refund these vet bills. I adopted a female dog several months ago from a Humane Society shelter. The adoption fee included spay/neuter surgery and I was given an official document signed by their vet certifying that my dog was sterilized. The Humane Society also states on their website that all adopted dogs are sterilized. A few months after the adoption, my dog started exhibiting signs of heat. I called the Humane Society to double-check if she had been sterilized, and they confirmed that she had been. I brought her to my vet to find out what was wrong. Over the course of several appointments, he examined her, gave her multiple tests, and put her on medication to try to figure out what was wrong. He couldn't figure it out, so he referred me to a specialist. The specialist did an ultrasound and was able to confirm that my dog had never been spayed. The total cost of all bills related to this issue was $677. I brought this to the attention of the Humane Society. They told me that sometimes this happens because their vets make mistakes about whether or not a dog has been sterilized. This was not mentioned in any of the documents I received during the adoption process. All of my documents from them guaranteed she was sterile. The Humane Society offered to spay her for free and to pay for half of my vet bills, but they said they are doing this as a kind gesture, and they are in no way obligated to pay for any of this. I cannot find any legal documentation on their site regarding whether or not they are responsible for false documents or incorrect medical information about a dog. From a legal standpoint, are they obligated to refund me for the money I had to pay because of their false information? Thanks for your help!", "role": "user" }, { "content": "What's odd is that they couldn't tell she WASN'T spayed. Sometimes it can be difficult to tell if a dog WAS spayed, if the scar isn't visible and there's no tattoo (this happened to the dog I adopted from the shelter- they told me she hadn't been spayed and she had been. Didn't find out until they went in and found no uterus). I don't know if you're just curious about their legal obligation. I would be satisfied with them offering to spay her and split the vet bills, but that's just me.", "role": "assistant" } ]

[ { "content": "[CA] I adopted a dog that was certified as spayed by the adoption agency. When she started exhibiting signs of heat, I spent over $600 in vet bills to determine what was wrong, only to discover that she was never spayed. Adoption agency says they have no obligation to refund these vet bills. I adopted a female dog several months ago from a Humane Society shelter. The adoption fee included spay/neuter surgery and I was given an official document signed by their vet certifying that my dog was sterilized. The Humane Society also states on their website that all adopted dogs are sterilized. A few months after the adoption, my dog started exhibiting signs of heat. I called the Humane Society to double-check if she had been sterilized, and they confirmed that she had been. I brought her to my vet to find out what was wrong. Over the course of several appointments, he examined her, gave her multiple tests, and put her on medication to try to figure out what was wrong. He couldn't figure it out, so he referred me to a specialist. The specialist did an ultrasound and was able to confirm that my dog had never been spayed. The total cost of all bills related to this issue was $677. I brought this to the attention of the Humane Society. They told me that sometimes this happens because their vets make mistakes about whether or not a dog has been sterilized. This was not mentioned in any of the documents I received during the adoption process. All of my documents from them guaranteed she was sterile. The Humane Society offered to spay her for free and to pay for half of my vet bills, but they said they are doing this as a kind gesture, and they are in no way obligated to pay for any of this. I cannot find any legal documentation on their site regarding whether or not they are responsible for false documents or incorrect medical information about a dog. From a legal standpoint, are they obligated to refund me for the money I had to pay because of their false information? Thanks for your help!", "role": "user" }, { "content": "IMHO you should take the deal. You could sue the Humane Society for fees, but remember you could lose and if you win -- it's money that is being taken away from a non-profit. You may be able to get them to give you a credit on the other half for a checkup/shots. You could off that they agree to give you all, but half in cash and the other half is forgiven as a tax-deductible donation (so you get to claim it on your taxes). There are lots of ways to try and negotiate something more fair. It also sounds like you need a better vet. Your vet should have second guessed the paperwork and surgery from a shelter and considered that she wasn't properly spayed at first. Multiple visits to find out she wasn't spayed or wasn't properly spayed is just ridiculous.", "role": "assistant" } ]

[ { "content": "Can my employer charge every employee $5 every paycheck for “product loss”? I live in Missouri. I work at a restaurant that I love working in, but our owner does some weird things with payroll. First of all, he’s “scared” of doing direct deposit. On top of that, he knowingly uses a payroll system with vulnerabilities. I could live with paper checks, and I was able to hide my personal info. What really confuses me is charging EVERY employee $5 on EVERY paycheck for “product loss”. Servers, managers, cooks, bartenders, food runners, dishwashers, barbacks, and even security. Is he allowed to do this?", "role": "user" }, { "content": "Unless he has your written approval to deduct from your pay, you should file a wage claim with your state's Dept of Labor.", "role": "assistant" } ]

[ { "content": "Can my employer charge every employee $5 every paycheck for “product loss”? I live in Missouri. I work at a restaurant that I love working in, but our owner does some weird things with payroll. First of all, he’s “scared” of doing direct deposit. On top of that, he knowingly uses a payroll system with vulnerabilities. I could live with paper checks, and I was able to hide my personal info. What really confuses me is charging EVERY employee $5 on EVERY paycheck for “product loss”. Servers, managers, cooks, bartenders, food runners, dishwashers, barbacks, and even security. Is he allowed to do this?", "role": "user" }, { "content": "No. It's wage theft. However, it is very considerate of him to document it so nicely on everyone's paycheck. Your state Department of Labor would be a good starting point.", "role": "assistant" } ]

[ { "content": "Can my employer charge every employee $5 every paycheck for “product loss”? I live in Missouri. I work at a restaurant that I love working in, but our owner does some weird things with payroll. First of all, he’s “scared” of doing direct deposit. On top of that, he knowingly uses a payroll system with vulnerabilities. I could live with paper checks, and I was able to hide my personal info. What really confuses me is charging EVERY employee $5 on EVERY paycheck for “product loss”. Servers, managers, cooks, bartenders, food runners, dishwashers, barbacks, and even security. Is he allowed to do this?", "role": "user" }, { "content": "Does it take you below minimum wage? Is this a set policy written and provided to everyone?", "role": "assistant" } ]

[ { "content": "Can my employer charge every employee $5 every paycheck for “product loss”? I live in Missouri. I work at a restaurant that I love working in, but our owner does some weird things with payroll. First of all, he’s “scared” of doing direct deposit. On top of that, he knowingly uses a payroll system with vulnerabilities. I could live with paper checks, and I was able to hide my personal info. What really confuses me is charging EVERY employee $5 on EVERY paycheck for “product loss”. Servers, managers, cooks, bartenders, food runners, dishwashers, barbacks, and even security. Is he allowed to do this?", "role": "user" }, { "content": "No. It's wage theft. However, it is very considerate of him to document it so nicely on everyone's paycheck. Your state Department of Labor would be a good starting point.", "role": "assistant" } ]

[ { "content": "Can my employer charge every employee $5 every paycheck for “product loss”? I live in Missouri. I work at a restaurant that I love working in, but our owner does some weird things with payroll. First of all, he’s “scared” of doing direct deposit. On top of that, he knowingly uses a payroll system with vulnerabilities. I could live with paper checks, and I was able to hide my personal info. What really confuses me is charging EVERY employee $5 on EVERY paycheck for “product loss”. Servers, managers, cooks, bartenders, food runners, dishwashers, barbacks, and even security. Is he allowed to do this?", "role": "user" }, { "content": "Does it take you below minimum wage? Is this a set policy written and provided to everyone?", "role": "assistant" } ]

[ { "content": "Can my employer charge every employee $5 every paycheck for “product loss”? I live in Missouri. I work at a restaurant that I love working in, but our owner does some weird things with payroll. First of all, he’s “scared” of doing direct deposit. On top of that, he knowingly uses a payroll system with vulnerabilities. I could live with paper checks, and I was able to hide my personal info. What really confuses me is charging EVERY employee $5 on EVERY paycheck for “product loss”. Servers, managers, cooks, bartenders, food runners, dishwashers, barbacks, and even security. Is he allowed to do this?", "role": "user" }, { "content": "Unless he has your written approval to deduct from your pay, you should file a wage claim with your state's Dept of Labor.", "role": "assistant" } ]

[ { "content": "Someone stole my $700 amazon package (sold & shipped by amazon) and amazon wont refund me (I'm in LA, California if that matters): I bought an irobot roomba, total was $689. Sold by amazon, shipped by amazon (AMZL). At the same time I also ordered cereal and oatmeal, everything got \"Delivered\" monday. My building has an amazon hub inside it, and the cereal and oatmeal were marked as \"delivered\" in amazon and I retrieved them from the amazon hub. The roomba was marked as \"left in mailroom\" and was not left in the amazon hub (which is inside the mailroom). For reference, I have ordered 38 packages to this building from amazon and never one time have they ever just thrown it in the mailroom and left, they always put it in the hub/lockers or leave it with the front desk. The front desk told me they tell delivery people to do this as well. I told amazon on Tuesday that I got the oatmeal and cereal but not the roomba. They told me to wait until wednesday and assured me \"the carrier just made a tracking error and it will show up tomorrow\". I wait and nothing. Then they opened an investigation and told me no matter what I'd have a refund for the $700 by friday. I was told friday that nope, no refund because it's marked as delivered and there's nothing I can do. They suggested I go to the police for help... I think this is BS because my apartment complex has like 500+ units and the delivery driver just LEFT the package in the mailroom unattended as opposed to putting my package in a locker or leaving it at the front desk. In the past every package is either put into the hub/locker or left with the front desk. Leaving a $700 item out unattended in the mail room seems completely unacceptable to me. Amazon even admits that they left my package unattended in the mailroom, but insists that there's nothing they can do to help me because it's marked as \"delivered\". I have been a prime member for years, and I have ordered hundreds and hundreds of items from amazon, many expensive, and I've never had an issue before, and I'm shocked that they're so unwilling to help me. I checked with the front desk and they thoroughly looked everywhere for the package, and I asked if there's video cameras in the mail room and there is not. Then I did go to the police and filed a theft report and mailed it to amazon, but as they've been unwilling to help me so far I don't think they will do anything for me now either. I would like to take further action here to get my money back. My friend suggested I call my bank and ask for a chargeback, but I'm worried that will hurt my credit. I'm also going to call visa and ask if they can somehow cover it. Beyond that I feel like I just lost $700 and can't get it back.", "role": "user" }, { "content": "I'm surprised to find that your place doesn't have cameras there. Definitely file a report and show Amazon. Then talk with bank/credit union or card issuer about chargeback. Petty theft is petty. Good luck!", "role": "assistant" } ]

[ { "content": "Someone stole my $700 amazon package (sold & shipped by amazon) and amazon wont refund me (I'm in LA, California if that matters): I bought an irobot roomba, total was $689. Sold by amazon, shipped by amazon (AMZL). At the same time I also ordered cereal and oatmeal, everything got \"Delivered\" monday. My building has an amazon hub inside it, and the cereal and oatmeal were marked as \"delivered\" in amazon and I retrieved them from the amazon hub. The roomba was marked as \"left in mailroom\" and was not left in the amazon hub (which is inside the mailroom). For reference, I have ordered 38 packages to this building from amazon and never one time have they ever just thrown it in the mailroom and left, they always put it in the hub/lockers or leave it with the front desk. The front desk told me they tell delivery people to do this as well. I told amazon on Tuesday that I got the oatmeal and cereal but not the roomba. They told me to wait until wednesday and assured me \"the carrier just made a tracking error and it will show up tomorrow\". I wait and nothing. Then they opened an investigation and told me no matter what I'd have a refund for the $700 by friday. I was told friday that nope, no refund because it's marked as delivered and there's nothing I can do. They suggested I go to the police for help... I think this is BS because my apartment complex has like 500+ units and the delivery driver just LEFT the package in the mailroom unattended as opposed to putting my package in a locker or leaving it at the front desk. In the past every package is either put into the hub/locker or left with the front desk. Leaving a $700 item out unattended in the mail room seems completely unacceptable to me. Amazon even admits that they left my package unattended in the mailroom, but insists that there's nothing they can do to help me because it's marked as \"delivered\". I have been a prime member for years, and I have ordered hundreds and hundreds of items from amazon, many expensive, and I've never had an issue before, and I'm shocked that they're so unwilling to help me. I checked with the front desk and they thoroughly looked everywhere for the package, and I asked if there's video cameras in the mail room and there is not. Then I did go to the police and filed a theft report and mailed it to amazon, but as they've been unwilling to help me so far I don't think they will do anything for me now either. I would like to take further action here to get my money back. My friend suggested I call my bank and ask for a chargeback, but I'm worried that will hurt my credit. I'm also going to call visa and ask if they can somehow cover it. Beyond that I feel like I just lost $700 and can't get it back.", "role": "user" }, { "content": "File a report with Amazon. You can do a charge back with your credit card. Note that Amazon may choose to freeze your account with them, which is their right. > My friend suggested I call my bank and ask for a chargeback, but I'm worried that will hurt my credit. Nope, that isn't how chargebacks work. Visa will freeze the charge while they investigate. They will either remove the charge (meaning you don't pay anything and Amazon doesn't get paid) or will keep it if they discover you're lying. > I'm also going to call visa and ask if they can somehow cover it. That is a waste of time. Your options with Visa is a charge back. They aren't going to pay for it out of the goodness of their hearts. Edit: It may be considered theft so worth a shot.", "role": "assistant" } ]

[ { "content": "Someone stole my $700 amazon package (sold & shipped by amazon) and amazon wont refund me (I'm in LA, California if that matters): I bought an irobot roomba, total was $689. Sold by amazon, shipped by amazon (AMZL). At the same time I also ordered cereal and oatmeal, everything got \"Delivered\" monday. My building has an amazon hub inside it, and the cereal and oatmeal were marked as \"delivered\" in amazon and I retrieved them from the amazon hub. The roomba was marked as \"left in mailroom\" and was not left in the amazon hub (which is inside the mailroom). For reference, I have ordered 38 packages to this building from amazon and never one time have they ever just thrown it in the mailroom and left, they always put it in the hub/lockers or leave it with the front desk. The front desk told me they tell delivery people to do this as well. I told amazon on Tuesday that I got the oatmeal and cereal but not the roomba. They told me to wait until wednesday and assured me \"the carrier just made a tracking error and it will show up tomorrow\". I wait and nothing. Then they opened an investigation and told me no matter what I'd have a refund for the $700 by friday. I was told friday that nope, no refund because it's marked as delivered and there's nothing I can do. They suggested I go to the police for help... I think this is BS because my apartment complex has like 500+ units and the delivery driver just LEFT the package in the mailroom unattended as opposed to putting my package in a locker or leaving it at the front desk. In the past every package is either put into the hub/locker or left with the front desk. Leaving a $700 item out unattended in the mail room seems completely unacceptable to me. Amazon even admits that they left my package unattended in the mailroom, but insists that there's nothing they can do to help me because it's marked as \"delivered\". I have been a prime member for years, and I have ordered hundreds and hundreds of items from amazon, many expensive, and I've never had an issue before, and I'm shocked that they're so unwilling to help me. I checked with the front desk and they thoroughly looked everywhere for the package, and I asked if there's video cameras in the mail room and there is not. Then I did go to the police and filed a theft report and mailed it to amazon, but as they've been unwilling to help me so far I don't think they will do anything for me now either. I would like to take further action here to get my money back. My friend suggested I call my bank and ask for a chargeback, but I'm worried that will hurt my credit. I'm also going to call visa and ask if they can somehow cover it. Beyond that I feel like I just lost $700 and can't get it back.", "role": "user" }, { "content": "I'm surprised to find that your place doesn't have cameras there. Definitely file a report and show Amazon. Then talk with bank/credit union or card issuer about chargeback. Petty theft is petty. Good luck!", "role": "assistant" } ]

[ { "content": "Someone stole my $700 amazon package (sold & shipped by amazon) and amazon wont refund me (I'm in LA, California if that matters): I bought an irobot roomba, total was $689. Sold by amazon, shipped by amazon (AMZL). At the same time I also ordered cereal and oatmeal, everything got \"Delivered\" monday. My building has an amazon hub inside it, and the cereal and oatmeal were marked as \"delivered\" in amazon and I retrieved them from the amazon hub. The roomba was marked as \"left in mailroom\" and was not left in the amazon hub (which is inside the mailroom). For reference, I have ordered 38 packages to this building from amazon and never one time have they ever just thrown it in the mailroom and left, they always put it in the hub/lockers or leave it with the front desk. The front desk told me they tell delivery people to do this as well. I told amazon on Tuesday that I got the oatmeal and cereal but not the roomba. They told me to wait until wednesday and assured me \"the carrier just made a tracking error and it will show up tomorrow\". I wait and nothing. Then they opened an investigation and told me no matter what I'd have a refund for the $700 by friday. I was told friday that nope, no refund because it's marked as delivered and there's nothing I can do. They suggested I go to the police for help... I think this is BS because my apartment complex has like 500+ units and the delivery driver just LEFT the package in the mailroom unattended as opposed to putting my package in a locker or leaving it at the front desk. In the past every package is either put into the hub/locker or left with the front desk. Leaving a $700 item out unattended in the mail room seems completely unacceptable to me. Amazon even admits that they left my package unattended in the mailroom, but insists that there's nothing they can do to help me because it's marked as \"delivered\". I have been a prime member for years, and I have ordered hundreds and hundreds of items from amazon, many expensive, and I've never had an issue before, and I'm shocked that they're so unwilling to help me. I checked with the front desk and they thoroughly looked everywhere for the package, and I asked if there's video cameras in the mail room and there is not. Then I did go to the police and filed a theft report and mailed it to amazon, but as they've been unwilling to help me so far I don't think they will do anything for me now either. I would like to take further action here to get my money back. My friend suggested I call my bank and ask for a chargeback, but I'm worried that will hurt my credit. I'm also going to call visa and ask if they can somehow cover it. Beyond that I feel like I just lost $700 and can't get it back.", "role": "user" }, { "content": "Not a lawyer, but what service did they use to deliver the package? If I recall correctly when they ship with their own service (usually listed as AMZL US) they usually take a photo of the package and where they left it when it was delivered. I could be wrong about that, but I know they do it with mine and I’m not sure if I had to tick a box at some point to make that happen. If they did take a photo, it’s worth a look to see exactly where they left it. It may have just been plunked down in a random spot and left there all willy nilly. They can get creative or lazy with that mess at my house; I’ve had to crawl under my front porch to retrieve packages, found one hidden in a bush after looking for it for ages, had a few run over because they left it on the ground next to my post box and the wind blew it far enough into the street to be hit. They’re pretty shit at delivering. Personally speaking only, literally every package that they marked delivered that wasn’t actually received were all delivered by AMZL US. I have had to contact Amazon 12 separate times because the packages weren’t received at all. Like the others, file a police report and turn it into Amazon. Ask them for the exact date and time of the delivery (the big name carriers all track that) and turn that over to the police as well.", "role": "assistant" } ]

[ { "content": "Someone stole my $700 amazon package (sold & shipped by amazon) and amazon wont refund me (I'm in LA, California if that matters): I bought an irobot roomba, total was $689. Sold by amazon, shipped by amazon (AMZL). At the same time I also ordered cereal and oatmeal, everything got \"Delivered\" monday. My building has an amazon hub inside it, and the cereal and oatmeal were marked as \"delivered\" in amazon and I retrieved them from the amazon hub. The roomba was marked as \"left in mailroom\" and was not left in the amazon hub (which is inside the mailroom). For reference, I have ordered 38 packages to this building from amazon and never one time have they ever just thrown it in the mailroom and left, they always put it in the hub/lockers or leave it with the front desk. The front desk told me they tell delivery people to do this as well. I told amazon on Tuesday that I got the oatmeal and cereal but not the roomba. They told me to wait until wednesday and assured me \"the carrier just made a tracking error and it will show up tomorrow\". I wait and nothing. Then they opened an investigation and told me no matter what I'd have a refund for the $700 by friday. I was told friday that nope, no refund because it's marked as delivered and there's nothing I can do. They suggested I go to the police for help... I think this is BS because my apartment complex has like 500+ units and the delivery driver just LEFT the package in the mailroom unattended as opposed to putting my package in a locker or leaving it at the front desk. In the past every package is either put into the hub/locker or left with the front desk. Leaving a $700 item out unattended in the mail room seems completely unacceptable to me. Amazon even admits that they left my package unattended in the mailroom, but insists that there's nothing they can do to help me because it's marked as \"delivered\". I have been a prime member for years, and I have ordered hundreds and hundreds of items from amazon, many expensive, and I've never had an issue before, and I'm shocked that they're so unwilling to help me. I checked with the front desk and they thoroughly looked everywhere for the package, and I asked if there's video cameras in the mail room and there is not. Then I did go to the police and filed a theft report and mailed it to amazon, but as they've been unwilling to help me so far I don't think they will do anything for me now either. I would like to take further action here to get my money back. My friend suggested I call my bank and ask for a chargeback, but I'm worried that will hurt my credit. I'm also going to call visa and ask if they can somehow cover it. Beyond that I feel like I just lost $700 and can't get it back.", "role": "user" }, { "content": "I'm surprised to find that your place doesn't have cameras there. Definitely file a report and show Amazon. Then talk with bank/credit union or card issuer about chargeback. Petty theft is petty. Good luck!", "role": "assistant" } ]

[ { "content": "Someone stole my $700 amazon package (sold & shipped by amazon) and amazon wont refund me (I'm in LA, California if that matters): I bought an irobot roomba, total was $689. Sold by amazon, shipped by amazon (AMZL). At the same time I also ordered cereal and oatmeal, everything got \"Delivered\" monday. My building has an amazon hub inside it, and the cereal and oatmeal were marked as \"delivered\" in amazon and I retrieved them from the amazon hub. The roomba was marked as \"left in mailroom\" and was not left in the amazon hub (which is inside the mailroom). For reference, I have ordered 38 packages to this building from amazon and never one time have they ever just thrown it in the mailroom and left, they always put it in the hub/lockers or leave it with the front desk. The front desk told me they tell delivery people to do this as well. I told amazon on Tuesday that I got the oatmeal and cereal but not the roomba. They told me to wait until wednesday and assured me \"the carrier just made a tracking error and it will show up tomorrow\". I wait and nothing. Then they opened an investigation and told me no matter what I'd have a refund for the $700 by friday. I was told friday that nope, no refund because it's marked as delivered and there's nothing I can do. They suggested I go to the police for help... I think this is BS because my apartment complex has like 500+ units and the delivery driver just LEFT the package in the mailroom unattended as opposed to putting my package in a locker or leaving it at the front desk. In the past every package is either put into the hub/locker or left with the front desk. Leaving a $700 item out unattended in the mail room seems completely unacceptable to me. Amazon even admits that they left my package unattended in the mailroom, but insists that there's nothing they can do to help me because it's marked as \"delivered\". I have been a prime member for years, and I have ordered hundreds and hundreds of items from amazon, many expensive, and I've never had an issue before, and I'm shocked that they're so unwilling to help me. I checked with the front desk and they thoroughly looked everywhere for the package, and I asked if there's video cameras in the mail room and there is not. Then I did go to the police and filed a theft report and mailed it to amazon, but as they've been unwilling to help me so far I don't think they will do anything for me now either. I would like to take further action here to get my money back. My friend suggested I call my bank and ask for a chargeback, but I'm worried that will hurt my credit. I'm also going to call visa and ask if they can somehow cover it. Beyond that I feel like I just lost $700 and can't get it back.", "role": "user" }, { "content": "I would call and talk to someone else at amazon, sometimes talking to a different customer service person works better. I have an interesting thing that has just happened; have this ring doorbell, it recorded the amazon delivery driver bringing my packages to the door, signing for my packages and leaving with my packages, ultimately the police found the boxes in the dumpster. I had to report it to the police before amazon would refund me my money, I know this is a different situation but amazon needed the police report to go after the driver but because they aren’t the victim at the moment there is not much they can do. Once you give them the police report they then become the victim and can decide to press charges. Once I gave them the police report number they gave me a refund", "role": "assistant" } ]

[ { "content": "Someone stole my $700 amazon package (sold & shipped by amazon) and amazon wont refund me (I'm in LA, California if that matters): I bought an irobot roomba, total was $689. Sold by amazon, shipped by amazon (AMZL). At the same time I also ordered cereal and oatmeal, everything got \"Delivered\" monday. My building has an amazon hub inside it, and the cereal and oatmeal were marked as \"delivered\" in amazon and I retrieved them from the amazon hub. The roomba was marked as \"left in mailroom\" and was not left in the amazon hub (which is inside the mailroom). For reference, I have ordered 38 packages to this building from amazon and never one time have they ever just thrown it in the mailroom and left, they always put it in the hub/lockers or leave it with the front desk. The front desk told me they tell delivery people to do this as well. I told amazon on Tuesday that I got the oatmeal and cereal but not the roomba. They told me to wait until wednesday and assured me \"the carrier just made a tracking error and it will show up tomorrow\". I wait and nothing. Then they opened an investigation and told me no matter what I'd have a refund for the $700 by friday. I was told friday that nope, no refund because it's marked as delivered and there's nothing I can do. They suggested I go to the police for help... I think this is BS because my apartment complex has like 500+ units and the delivery driver just LEFT the package in the mailroom unattended as opposed to putting my package in a locker or leaving it at the front desk. In the past every package is either put into the hub/locker or left with the front desk. Leaving a $700 item out unattended in the mail room seems completely unacceptable to me. Amazon even admits that they left my package unattended in the mailroom, but insists that there's nothing they can do to help me because it's marked as \"delivered\". I have been a prime member for years, and I have ordered hundreds and hundreds of items from amazon, many expensive, and I've never had an issue before, and I'm shocked that they're so unwilling to help me. I checked with the front desk and they thoroughly looked everywhere for the package, and I asked if there's video cameras in the mail room and there is not. Then I did go to the police and filed a theft report and mailed it to amazon, but as they've been unwilling to help me so far I don't think they will do anything for me now either. I would like to take further action here to get my money back. My friend suggested I call my bank and ask for a chargeback, but I'm worried that will hurt my credit. I'm also going to call visa and ask if they can somehow cover it. Beyond that I feel like I just lost $700 and can't get it back.", "role": "user" }, { "content": "I'm surprised to find that your place doesn't have cameras there. Definitely file a report and show Amazon. Then talk with bank/credit union or card issuer about chargeback. Petty theft is petty. Good luck!", "role": "assistant" } ]

[ { "content": "Someone stole my $700 amazon package (sold & shipped by amazon) and amazon wont refund me (I'm in LA, California if that matters): I bought an irobot roomba, total was $689. Sold by amazon, shipped by amazon (AMZL). At the same time I also ordered cereal and oatmeal, everything got \"Delivered\" monday. My building has an amazon hub inside it, and the cereal and oatmeal were marked as \"delivered\" in amazon and I retrieved them from the amazon hub. The roomba was marked as \"left in mailroom\" and was not left in the amazon hub (which is inside the mailroom). For reference, I have ordered 38 packages to this building from amazon and never one time have they ever just thrown it in the mailroom and left, they always put it in the hub/lockers or leave it with the front desk. The front desk told me they tell delivery people to do this as well. I told amazon on Tuesday that I got the oatmeal and cereal but not the roomba. They told me to wait until wednesday and assured me \"the carrier just made a tracking error and it will show up tomorrow\". I wait and nothing. Then they opened an investigation and told me no matter what I'd have a refund for the $700 by friday. I was told friday that nope, no refund because it's marked as delivered and there's nothing I can do. They suggested I go to the police for help... I think this is BS because my apartment complex has like 500+ units and the delivery driver just LEFT the package in the mailroom unattended as opposed to putting my package in a locker or leaving it at the front desk. In the past every package is either put into the hub/locker or left with the front desk. Leaving a $700 item out unattended in the mail room seems completely unacceptable to me. Amazon even admits that they left my package unattended in the mailroom, but insists that there's nothing they can do to help me because it's marked as \"delivered\". I have been a prime member for years, and I have ordered hundreds and hundreds of items from amazon, many expensive, and I've never had an issue before, and I'm shocked that they're so unwilling to help me. I checked with the front desk and they thoroughly looked everywhere for the package, and I asked if there's video cameras in the mail room and there is not. Then I did go to the police and filed a theft report and mailed it to amazon, but as they've been unwilling to help me so far I don't think they will do anything for me now either. I would like to take further action here to get my money back. My friend suggested I call my bank and ask for a chargeback, but I'm worried that will hurt my credit. I'm also going to call visa and ask if they can somehow cover it. Beyond that I feel like I just lost $700 and can't get it back.", "role": "user" }, { "content": "If all else fails, try sending a succinct email to Jeff@Amazon.com. This is the equivalent of contacting executive customer service. You should note in the email that you are a frequent long term customer (if you are). If you are a newer customer or have lots of questionable returns they may not be so inclined to help. EDIT - not sure why this got downvoted. Oh well. It is good advice regardless. Good luck OP!", "role": "assistant" } ]

[ { "content": "New apartment tried to give me a not agreed upon floor plan and now won't refund me after their screw up. I feel like got completely screwed with this apartment. I was supposed to receive the key to my new place on Friday and had requested to do a walkthrough of my specific unit which they scheduled for Thursday. Come to find out at the walkthrough, they assigned me the wrong and much smaller floor plan which would not work for me or my belongings. It was confirmed after the leasing lady looked through my file they had indeed assigned me the wrong floor plan but yet the rent listed matched the \"correct\" floor plan (shady much?!). Moving forward they did not have any availabilities for the floor plan I needed and my only other options were to wait 3 more week for something that \"should become available\" or get an even bigger floor plan and pay 200 more in rent. I asked them if they could do anything to accommodate that considering the circumstances and was given a straight \"no, there was nothing they could do with the price.\" There were two ladies in the office speaking with me and they both were extremely cold, showed no concern, or accountability for their inability to hold up their end of things. Instead, they had a \"take it or leave it attitude\" and wanted to force me into something I never intended on or agreed to. So, after dealing with a back & forth for two and a half hours. I asked for my admin/app fee ($325) and deposit ($250) back so that I could figure out another living arrangement. They refused, saying it was non refundable. In any other circumstance I get it, but my question is... considering their negligence, am I right in requesting a full refund of those fees. One of the ladies argued that they were giving me solutions (shared above) but I would not pick any. Again, why should I be forced into any solution that doesn't fit my needs, simply because the office couldn't do their job correctly?", "role": "user" }, { "content": "Did you sign a lease?", "role": "assistant" } ]

[ { "content": "New apartment tried to give me a not agreed upon floor plan and now won't refund me after their screw up. I feel like got completely screwed with this apartment. I was supposed to receive the key to my new place on Friday and had requested to do a walkthrough of my specific unit which they scheduled for Thursday. Come to find out at the walkthrough, they assigned me the wrong and much smaller floor plan which would not work for me or my belongings. It was confirmed after the leasing lady looked through my file they had indeed assigned me the wrong floor plan but yet the rent listed matched the \"correct\" floor plan (shady much?!). Moving forward they did not have any availabilities for the floor plan I needed and my only other options were to wait 3 more week for something that \"should become available\" or get an even bigger floor plan and pay 200 more in rent. I asked them if they could do anything to accommodate that considering the circumstances and was given a straight \"no, there was nothing they could do with the price.\" There were two ladies in the office speaking with me and they both were extremely cold, showed no concern, or accountability for their inability to hold up their end of things. Instead, they had a \"take it or leave it attitude\" and wanted to force me into something I never intended on or agreed to. So, after dealing with a back & forth for two and a half hours. I asked for my admin/app fee ($325) and deposit ($250) back so that I could figure out another living arrangement. They refused, saying it was non refundable. In any other circumstance I get it, but my question is... considering their negligence, am I right in requesting a full refund of those fees. One of the ladies argued that they were giving me solutions (shared above) but I would not pick any. Again, why should I be forced into any solution that doesn't fit my needs, simply because the office couldn't do their job correctly?", "role": "user" }, { "content": "I would escalate with management and then take them to small claims court.", "role": "assistant" } ]

[ { "content": "My sister (38f) took her bearded dragon (1yr) to a reptile boarding in Southern CA and was returned nearly fried, and near death. What can we do? From March 9 - 24 2020, my sister boarded her bearded dragon at a reptile shop in Southern California which We found on google and had good reviews. When my sister dropped it off on the 9th she gave careful instructions on the dragons diet and bathing schedule. She saw that the cage was much smaller than she anticipated but didn’t want to worry being that it is a “specialty” shop with high reviews. During her visit in Australia, we called the reptile place to request a status update and a photo. However, we never got the photos. But we didn’t let this worry us as CVOID-19 was changing a lot of things and shops were closing down. When my sister returned back to Los Angeles, she was asked to pick up her dragon the following day March 25. On the 25th when she picked up her dragon she saw that it had its eyes closed but didn’t think much of it until she got home. Her dragon was showing extreme lethargy and closed eyes. I had my sister watch it overnight to see if there were any improvements. The following day, she took the dragon to the vet which they had to provide care overnight. During this period I called the boarding and I told them that the dragon under their care had to be held overnight in the hospital. When I called I said “I need to know the care you provided because my sisters dragon is being hospitalized”. I tried recording the conversation but my app didn’t work. During this conversation the man yelled at me and said that “the vets don’t know shit”, “they want money”, “they don’t know how I care for my animals”, “I fed, bathe and we sent photos” “I gave him mill worms”. I knew then that my sister told them specifically not to feed it mill worms because it didn’t sit well with the dragon and then I proceeded to say “I’m not calling to argue, I need to know how you cared for it so I can tell the vet, can I also get the photos you said you sent to my sister to see the time stamp” he then said he couldn’t get a hold of them and said I’ll need to call back. The vet report came back and said “gravid lethargy (suspect secondary to inappropriate husbandry while boarding).” The vet also said that it had a bacterial infection which is caused by dirty conditions. The final bill was $1295! The vet recommended for us to report it to the BBB. We want to take action but not sure what to do or how to do it. Do we have something here? I don’t think a google review is sufficient. TL:DR - sister’s dragon nearly died. Has a long recovery. Vet confirmed it’s from poor boarding conditions.", "role": "user" }, { "content": "Review with pictures of the returned conditions, store is probably going to tell you to eat shit so prepare for having to go the legal route. Make your own logs and documentation, write out what you remember of the phone conversation.", "role": "assistant" } ]

[ { "content": "My sister (38f) took her bearded dragon (1yr) to a reptile boarding in Southern CA and was returned nearly fried, and near death. What can we do? From March 9 - 24 2020, my sister boarded her bearded dragon at a reptile shop in Southern California which We found on google and had good reviews. When my sister dropped it off on the 9th she gave careful instructions on the dragons diet and bathing schedule. She saw that the cage was much smaller than she anticipated but didn’t want to worry being that it is a “specialty” shop with high reviews. During her visit in Australia, we called the reptile place to request a status update and a photo. However, we never got the photos. But we didn’t let this worry us as CVOID-19 was changing a lot of things and shops were closing down. When my sister returned back to Los Angeles, she was asked to pick up her dragon the following day March 25. On the 25th when she picked up her dragon she saw that it had its eyes closed but didn’t think much of it until she got home. Her dragon was showing extreme lethargy and closed eyes. I had my sister watch it overnight to see if there were any improvements. The following day, she took the dragon to the vet which they had to provide care overnight. During this period I called the boarding and I told them that the dragon under their care had to be held overnight in the hospital. When I called I said “I need to know the care you provided because my sisters dragon is being hospitalized”. I tried recording the conversation but my app didn’t work. During this conversation the man yelled at me and said that “the vets don’t know shit”, “they want money”, “they don’t know how I care for my animals”, “I fed, bathe and we sent photos” “I gave him mill worms”. I knew then that my sister told them specifically not to feed it mill worms because it didn’t sit well with the dragon and then I proceeded to say “I’m not calling to argue, I need to know how you cared for it so I can tell the vet, can I also get the photos you said you sent to my sister to see the time stamp” he then said he couldn’t get a hold of them and said I’ll need to call back. The vet report came back and said “gravid lethargy (suspect secondary to inappropriate husbandry while boarding).” The vet also said that it had a bacterial infection which is caused by dirty conditions. The final bill was $1295! The vet recommended for us to report it to the BBB. We want to take action but not sure what to do or how to do it. Do we have something here? I don’t think a google review is sufficient. TL:DR - sister’s dragon nearly died. Has a long recovery. Vet confirmed it’s from poor boarding conditions.", "role": "user" }, { "content": "“gravid lethargy (suspect secondary to inappropriate husbandry while boarding).” translates to \"Your dragon was mated.\" If it's a female dragon, which \"gravid\" leads me to believe it is, it's pregnant. So your vet bills aren't over yet.", "role": "assistant" } ]

[ { "content": "My sister (38f) took her bearded dragon (1yr) to a reptile boarding in Southern CA and was returned nearly fried, and near death. What can we do? From March 9 - 24 2020, my sister boarded her bearded dragon at a reptile shop in Southern California which We found on google and had good reviews. When my sister dropped it off on the 9th she gave careful instructions on the dragons diet and bathing schedule. She saw that the cage was much smaller than she anticipated but didn’t want to worry being that it is a “specialty” shop with high reviews. During her visit in Australia, we called the reptile place to request a status update and a photo. However, we never got the photos. But we didn’t let this worry us as CVOID-19 was changing a lot of things and shops were closing down. When my sister returned back to Los Angeles, she was asked to pick up her dragon the following day March 25. On the 25th when she picked up her dragon she saw that it had its eyes closed but didn’t think much of it until she got home. Her dragon was showing extreme lethargy and closed eyes. I had my sister watch it overnight to see if there were any improvements. The following day, she took the dragon to the vet which they had to provide care overnight. During this period I called the boarding and I told them that the dragon under their care had to be held overnight in the hospital. When I called I said “I need to know the care you provided because my sisters dragon is being hospitalized”. I tried recording the conversation but my app didn’t work. During this conversation the man yelled at me and said that “the vets don’t know shit”, “they want money”, “they don’t know how I care for my animals”, “I fed, bathe and we sent photos” “I gave him mill worms”. I knew then that my sister told them specifically not to feed it mill worms because it didn’t sit well with the dragon and then I proceeded to say “I’m not calling to argue, I need to know how you cared for it so I can tell the vet, can I also get the photos you said you sent to my sister to see the time stamp” he then said he couldn’t get a hold of them and said I’ll need to call back. The vet report came back and said “gravid lethargy (suspect secondary to inappropriate husbandry while boarding).” The vet also said that it had a bacterial infection which is caused by dirty conditions. The final bill was $1295! The vet recommended for us to report it to the BBB. We want to take action but not sure what to do or how to do it. Do we have something here? I don’t think a google review is sufficient. TL:DR - sister’s dragon nearly died. Has a long recovery. Vet confirmed it’s from poor boarding conditions.", "role": "user" }, { "content": "> I tried recording the conversation but my app didn’t work. I have nothing to add about this situation at large, but be careful with recording conversations in CA. You must make them aware you are doing so before recording anything.", "role": "assistant" } ]

[ { "content": "My sister (38f) took her bearded dragon (1yr) to a reptile boarding in Southern CA and was returned nearly fried, and near death. What can we do? From March 9 - 24 2020, my sister boarded her bearded dragon at a reptile shop in Southern California which We found on google and had good reviews. When my sister dropped it off on the 9th she gave careful instructions on the dragons diet and bathing schedule. She saw that the cage was much smaller than she anticipated but didn’t want to worry being that it is a “specialty” shop with high reviews. During her visit in Australia, we called the reptile place to request a status update and a photo. However, we never got the photos. But we didn’t let this worry us as CVOID-19 was changing a lot of things and shops were closing down. When my sister returned back to Los Angeles, she was asked to pick up her dragon the following day March 25. On the 25th when she picked up her dragon she saw that it had its eyes closed but didn’t think much of it until she got home. Her dragon was showing extreme lethargy and closed eyes. I had my sister watch it overnight to see if there were any improvements. The following day, she took the dragon to the vet which they had to provide care overnight. During this period I called the boarding and I told them that the dragon under their care had to be held overnight in the hospital. When I called I said “I need to know the care you provided because my sisters dragon is being hospitalized”. I tried recording the conversation but my app didn’t work. During this conversation the man yelled at me and said that “the vets don’t know shit”, “they want money”, “they don’t know how I care for my animals”, “I fed, bathe and we sent photos” “I gave him mill worms”. I knew then that my sister told them specifically not to feed it mill worms because it didn’t sit well with the dragon and then I proceeded to say “I’m not calling to argue, I need to know how you cared for it so I can tell the vet, can I also get the photos you said you sent to my sister to see the time stamp” he then said he couldn’t get a hold of them and said I’ll need to call back. The vet report came back and said “gravid lethargy (suspect secondary to inappropriate husbandry while boarding).” The vet also said that it had a bacterial infection which is caused by dirty conditions. The final bill was $1295! The vet recommended for us to report it to the BBB. We want to take action but not sure what to do or how to do it. Do we have something here? I don’t think a google review is sufficient. TL:DR - sister’s dragon nearly died. Has a long recovery. Vet confirmed it’s from poor boarding conditions.", "role": "user" }, { "content": "“gravid lethargy (suspect secondary to inappropriate husbandry while boarding).” translates to \"Your dragon was mated.\" If it's a female dragon, which \"gravid\" leads me to believe it is, it's pregnant. So your vet bills aren't over yet.", "role": "assistant" } ]

[ { "content": "My sister (38f) took her bearded dragon (1yr) to a reptile boarding in Southern CA and was returned nearly fried, and near death. What can we do? From March 9 - 24 2020, my sister boarded her bearded dragon at a reptile shop in Southern California which We found on google and had good reviews. When my sister dropped it off on the 9th she gave careful instructions on the dragons diet and bathing schedule. She saw that the cage was much smaller than she anticipated but didn’t want to worry being that it is a “specialty” shop with high reviews. During her visit in Australia, we called the reptile place to request a status update and a photo. However, we never got the photos. But we didn’t let this worry us as CVOID-19 was changing a lot of things and shops were closing down. When my sister returned back to Los Angeles, she was asked to pick up her dragon the following day March 25. On the 25th when she picked up her dragon she saw that it had its eyes closed but didn’t think much of it until she got home. Her dragon was showing extreme lethargy and closed eyes. I had my sister watch it overnight to see if there were any improvements. The following day, she took the dragon to the vet which they had to provide care overnight. During this period I called the boarding and I told them that the dragon under their care had to be held overnight in the hospital. When I called I said “I need to know the care you provided because my sisters dragon is being hospitalized”. I tried recording the conversation but my app didn’t work. During this conversation the man yelled at me and said that “the vets don’t know shit”, “they want money”, “they don’t know how I care for my animals”, “I fed, bathe and we sent photos” “I gave him mill worms”. I knew then that my sister told them specifically not to feed it mill worms because it didn’t sit well with the dragon and then I proceeded to say “I’m not calling to argue, I need to know how you cared for it so I can tell the vet, can I also get the photos you said you sent to my sister to see the time stamp” he then said he couldn’t get a hold of them and said I’ll need to call back. The vet report came back and said “gravid lethargy (suspect secondary to inappropriate husbandry while boarding).” The vet also said that it had a bacterial infection which is caused by dirty conditions. The final bill was $1295! The vet recommended for us to report it to the BBB. We want to take action but not sure what to do or how to do it. Do we have something here? I don’t think a google review is sufficient. TL:DR - sister’s dragon nearly died. Has a long recovery. Vet confirmed it’s from poor boarding conditions.", "role": "user" }, { "content": "Obviously leave as many reviews online as you can. You can likely take this company to court for neglect. Serving the owner or collecting payment is another story. I’m sorry that happened to your pet. I hope the poor little guy recovers.", "role": "assistant" } ]

[ { "content": "My sister (38f) took her bearded dragon (1yr) to a reptile boarding in Southern CA and was returned nearly fried, and near death. What can we do? From March 9 - 24 2020, my sister boarded her bearded dragon at a reptile shop in Southern California which We found on google and had good reviews. When my sister dropped it off on the 9th she gave careful instructions on the dragons diet and bathing schedule. She saw that the cage was much smaller than she anticipated but didn’t want to worry being that it is a “specialty” shop with high reviews. During her visit in Australia, we called the reptile place to request a status update and a photo. However, we never got the photos. But we didn’t let this worry us as CVOID-19 was changing a lot of things and shops were closing down. When my sister returned back to Los Angeles, she was asked to pick up her dragon the following day March 25. On the 25th when she picked up her dragon she saw that it had its eyes closed but didn’t think much of it until she got home. Her dragon was showing extreme lethargy and closed eyes. I had my sister watch it overnight to see if there were any improvements. The following day, she took the dragon to the vet which they had to provide care overnight. During this period I called the boarding and I told them that the dragon under their care had to be held overnight in the hospital. When I called I said “I need to know the care you provided because my sisters dragon is being hospitalized”. I tried recording the conversation but my app didn’t work. During this conversation the man yelled at me and said that “the vets don’t know shit”, “they want money”, “they don’t know how I care for my animals”, “I fed, bathe and we sent photos” “I gave him mill worms”. I knew then that my sister told them specifically not to feed it mill worms because it didn’t sit well with the dragon and then I proceeded to say “I’m not calling to argue, I need to know how you cared for it so I can tell the vet, can I also get the photos you said you sent to my sister to see the time stamp” he then said he couldn’t get a hold of them and said I’ll need to call back. The vet report came back and said “gravid lethargy (suspect secondary to inappropriate husbandry while boarding).” The vet also said that it had a bacterial infection which is caused by dirty conditions. The final bill was $1295! The vet recommended for us to report it to the BBB. We want to take action but not sure what to do or how to do it. Do we have something here? I don’t think a google review is sufficient. TL:DR - sister’s dragon nearly died. Has a long recovery. Vet confirmed it’s from poor boarding conditions.", "role": "user" }, { "content": "“gravid lethargy (suspect secondary to inappropriate husbandry while boarding).” translates to \"Your dragon was mated.\" If it's a female dragon, which \"gravid\" leads me to believe it is, it's pregnant. So your vet bills aren't over yet.", "role": "assistant" } ]

[ { "content": "My sister (38f) took her bearded dragon (1yr) to a reptile boarding in Southern CA and was returned nearly fried, and near death. What can we do? From March 9 - 24 2020, my sister boarded her bearded dragon at a reptile shop in Southern California which We found on google and had good reviews. When my sister dropped it off on the 9th she gave careful instructions on the dragons diet and bathing schedule. She saw that the cage was much smaller than she anticipated but didn’t want to worry being that it is a “specialty” shop with high reviews. During her visit in Australia, we called the reptile place to request a status update and a photo. However, we never got the photos. But we didn’t let this worry us as CVOID-19 was changing a lot of things and shops were closing down. When my sister returned back to Los Angeles, she was asked to pick up her dragon the following day March 25. On the 25th when she picked up her dragon she saw that it had its eyes closed but didn’t think much of it until she got home. Her dragon was showing extreme lethargy and closed eyes. I had my sister watch it overnight to see if there were any improvements. The following day, she took the dragon to the vet which they had to provide care overnight. During this period I called the boarding and I told them that the dragon under their care had to be held overnight in the hospital. When I called I said “I need to know the care you provided because my sisters dragon is being hospitalized”. I tried recording the conversation but my app didn’t work. During this conversation the man yelled at me and said that “the vets don’t know shit”, “they want money”, “they don’t know how I care for my animals”, “I fed, bathe and we sent photos” “I gave him mill worms”. I knew then that my sister told them specifically not to feed it mill worms because it didn’t sit well with the dragon and then I proceeded to say “I’m not calling to argue, I need to know how you cared for it so I can tell the vet, can I also get the photos you said you sent to my sister to see the time stamp” he then said he couldn’t get a hold of them and said I’ll need to call back. The vet report came back and said “gravid lethargy (suspect secondary to inappropriate husbandry while boarding).” The vet also said that it had a bacterial infection which is caused by dirty conditions. The final bill was $1295! The vet recommended for us to report it to the BBB. We want to take action but not sure what to do or how to do it. Do we have something here? I don’t think a google review is sufficient. TL:DR - sister’s dragon nearly died. Has a long recovery. Vet confirmed it’s from poor boarding conditions.", "role": "user" }, { "content": "Obviously leave as many reviews online as you can. You can likely take this company to court for neglect. Serving the owner or collecting payment is another story. I’m sorry that happened to your pet. I hope the poor little guy recovers.", "role": "assistant" } ]

[ { "content": "My sister (38f) took her bearded dragon (1yr) to a reptile boarding in Southern CA and was returned nearly fried, and near death. What can we do? From March 9 - 24 2020, my sister boarded her bearded dragon at a reptile shop in Southern California which We found on google and had good reviews. When my sister dropped it off on the 9th she gave careful instructions on the dragons diet and bathing schedule. She saw that the cage was much smaller than she anticipated but didn’t want to worry being that it is a “specialty” shop with high reviews. During her visit in Australia, we called the reptile place to request a status update and a photo. However, we never got the photos. But we didn’t let this worry us as CVOID-19 was changing a lot of things and shops were closing down. When my sister returned back to Los Angeles, she was asked to pick up her dragon the following day March 25. On the 25th when she picked up her dragon she saw that it had its eyes closed but didn’t think much of it until she got home. Her dragon was showing extreme lethargy and closed eyes. I had my sister watch it overnight to see if there were any improvements. The following day, she took the dragon to the vet which they had to provide care overnight. During this period I called the boarding and I told them that the dragon under their care had to be held overnight in the hospital. When I called I said “I need to know the care you provided because my sisters dragon is being hospitalized”. I tried recording the conversation but my app didn’t work. During this conversation the man yelled at me and said that “the vets don’t know shit”, “they want money”, “they don’t know how I care for my animals”, “I fed, bathe and we sent photos” “I gave him mill worms”. I knew then that my sister told them specifically not to feed it mill worms because it didn’t sit well with the dragon and then I proceeded to say “I’m not calling to argue, I need to know how you cared for it so I can tell the vet, can I also get the photos you said you sent to my sister to see the time stamp” he then said he couldn’t get a hold of them and said I’ll need to call back. The vet report came back and said “gravid lethargy (suspect secondary to inappropriate husbandry while boarding).” The vet also said that it had a bacterial infection which is caused by dirty conditions. The final bill was $1295! The vet recommended for us to report it to the BBB. We want to take action but not sure what to do or how to do it. Do we have something here? I don’t think a google review is sufficient. TL:DR - sister’s dragon nearly died. Has a long recovery. Vet confirmed it’s from poor boarding conditions.", "role": "user" }, { "content": "Review with pictures of the returned conditions, store is probably going to tell you to eat shit so prepare for having to go the legal route. Make your own logs and documentation, write out what you remember of the phone conversation.", "role": "assistant" } ]

[ { "content": "My sister (38f) took her bearded dragon (1yr) to a reptile boarding in Southern CA and was returned nearly fried, and near death. What can we do? From March 9 - 24 2020, my sister boarded her bearded dragon at a reptile shop in Southern California which We found on google and had good reviews. When my sister dropped it off on the 9th she gave careful instructions on the dragons diet and bathing schedule. She saw that the cage was much smaller than she anticipated but didn’t want to worry being that it is a “specialty” shop with high reviews. During her visit in Australia, we called the reptile place to request a status update and a photo. However, we never got the photos. But we didn’t let this worry us as CVOID-19 was changing a lot of things and shops were closing down. When my sister returned back to Los Angeles, she was asked to pick up her dragon the following day March 25. On the 25th when she picked up her dragon she saw that it had its eyes closed but didn’t think much of it until she got home. Her dragon was showing extreme lethargy and closed eyes. I had my sister watch it overnight to see if there were any improvements. The following day, she took the dragon to the vet which they had to provide care overnight. During this period I called the boarding and I told them that the dragon under their care had to be held overnight in the hospital. When I called I said “I need to know the care you provided because my sisters dragon is being hospitalized”. I tried recording the conversation but my app didn’t work. During this conversation the man yelled at me and said that “the vets don’t know shit”, “they want money”, “they don’t know how I care for my animals”, “I fed, bathe and we sent photos” “I gave him mill worms”. I knew then that my sister told them specifically not to feed it mill worms because it didn’t sit well with the dragon and then I proceeded to say “I’m not calling to argue, I need to know how you cared for it so I can tell the vet, can I also get the photos you said you sent to my sister to see the time stamp” he then said he couldn’t get a hold of them and said I’ll need to call back. The vet report came back and said “gravid lethargy (suspect secondary to inappropriate husbandry while boarding).” The vet also said that it had a bacterial infection which is caused by dirty conditions. The final bill was $1295! The vet recommended for us to report it to the BBB. We want to take action but not sure what to do or how to do it. Do we have something here? I don’t think a google review is sufficient. TL:DR - sister’s dragon nearly died. Has a long recovery. Vet confirmed it’s from poor boarding conditions.", "role": "user" }, { "content": "> I tried recording the conversation but my app didn’t work. I have nothing to add about this situation at large, but be careful with recording conversations in CA. You must make them aware you are doing so before recording anything.", "role": "assistant" } ]

[ { "content": "My sister (38f) took her bearded dragon (1yr) to a reptile boarding in Southern CA and was returned nearly fried, and near death. What can we do? From March 9 - 24 2020, my sister boarded her bearded dragon at a reptile shop in Southern California which We found on google and had good reviews. When my sister dropped it off on the 9th she gave careful instructions on the dragons diet and bathing schedule. She saw that the cage was much smaller than she anticipated but didn’t want to worry being that it is a “specialty” shop with high reviews. During her visit in Australia, we called the reptile place to request a status update and a photo. However, we never got the photos. But we didn’t let this worry us as CVOID-19 was changing a lot of things and shops were closing down. When my sister returned back to Los Angeles, she was asked to pick up her dragon the following day March 25. On the 25th when she picked up her dragon she saw that it had its eyes closed but didn’t think much of it until she got home. Her dragon was showing extreme lethargy and closed eyes. I had my sister watch it overnight to see if there were any improvements. The following day, she took the dragon to the vet which they had to provide care overnight. During this period I called the boarding and I told them that the dragon under their care had to be held overnight in the hospital. When I called I said “I need to know the care you provided because my sisters dragon is being hospitalized”. I tried recording the conversation but my app didn’t work. During this conversation the man yelled at me and said that “the vets don’t know shit”, “they want money”, “they don’t know how I care for my animals”, “I fed, bathe and we sent photos” “I gave him mill worms”. I knew then that my sister told them specifically not to feed it mill worms because it didn’t sit well with the dragon and then I proceeded to say “I’m not calling to argue, I need to know how you cared for it so I can tell the vet, can I also get the photos you said you sent to my sister to see the time stamp” he then said he couldn’t get a hold of them and said I’ll need to call back. The vet report came back and said “gravid lethargy (suspect secondary to inappropriate husbandry while boarding).” The vet also said that it had a bacterial infection which is caused by dirty conditions. The final bill was $1295! The vet recommended for us to report it to the BBB. We want to take action but not sure what to do or how to do it. Do we have something here? I don’t think a google review is sufficient. TL:DR - sister’s dragon nearly died. Has a long recovery. Vet confirmed it’s from poor boarding conditions.", "role": "user" }, { "content": "If you're in California recording phone calls remember that, by law, you MUST notify the other party that you're recording.", "role": "assistant" } ]

[ { "content": "My puppy was neglected by the boarding service I used and was returned to me in extremely poor health. I signed an agreement with them and need advice. http://imgur.com/a/Mo46e My wife was hospitalized and I had to board the dog because I had to work and wanted to be with my wife when I could. So, I ended up boarding him at this place for three days (2 nights). I had signed the above document like 6 months ago when I was taking him their for daycare for a few days before I ended up switching to a different place. When I went to pick up my dog the person working their handed him to me and I carried him to the car, then when we got home and it was time for him to walk into the house he could barely move and I noticed his eye was swollen shut, all 4 of his paws were bloody and red and had discharge... I called the Emergency Vet and they said it could probably wait until morning... Took him in the next day and he had infections in all 4 of his paws and his eye was more or less OK but he needed ointment for it. A week later he still is still limping and still has wounds on his paws. I'm going to have to take him back to the vet again... It is possible he will need surgery was he may have a foreign object in-bedded in his paw. But as you can imagine with my wife being hospitalized and me taking a couple days off, boarding the dog, vet bills, etc etc... This is causing a serious financial burden for us. I'm basically hoping that there is some way I can still take this to small claims... Or that because they list their services at the bottom of the agreement and \"dog boarding\" isn't included that that may not be included under the \"activities\" mentioned in the agreement. I did talk to the owner who didn't even apologize, basically told me shit happens and then hung up. The other thing I am curious about is the non-disparagement part... I am wondering if I can word a yelp/google review in such a way as to not violate that... I don't want this happening to other people. I just realized that I don't know what is listed on the agreement that I actually signed under \"activity\" \"dates(s) of activity)\" and \"location\" but almost certainly nothing like \"boarding\" and any date near this one because I signed that thing specifically for doggy daycare sometime last year. Any advice is appreciated... All I want is fair compensation for the injury to my dog and I want to prevent this from happening to other animals. I would have been happy if they had just told me my dog was getting sick/was injured there because I would have taken him to the vet earlier or picked him up earlier... Thank you.", "role": "user" }, { "content": "What did they say when you asked how all 4 paws got infected?", "role": "assistant" } ]

[ { "content": "My puppy was neglected by the boarding service I used and was returned to me in extremely poor health. I signed an agreement with them and need advice. http://imgur.com/a/Mo46e My wife was hospitalized and I had to board the dog because I had to work and wanted to be with my wife when I could. So, I ended up boarding him at this place for three days (2 nights). I had signed the above document like 6 months ago when I was taking him their for daycare for a few days before I ended up switching to a different place. When I went to pick up my dog the person working their handed him to me and I carried him to the car, then when we got home and it was time for him to walk into the house he could barely move and I noticed his eye was swollen shut, all 4 of his paws were bloody and red and had discharge... I called the Emergency Vet and they said it could probably wait until morning... Took him in the next day and he had infections in all 4 of his paws and his eye was more or less OK but he needed ointment for it. A week later he still is still limping and still has wounds on his paws. I'm going to have to take him back to the vet again... It is possible he will need surgery was he may have a foreign object in-bedded in his paw. But as you can imagine with my wife being hospitalized and me taking a couple days off, boarding the dog, vet bills, etc etc... This is causing a serious financial burden for us. I'm basically hoping that there is some way I can still take this to small claims... Or that because they list their services at the bottom of the agreement and \"dog boarding\" isn't included that that may not be included under the \"activities\" mentioned in the agreement. I did talk to the owner who didn't even apologize, basically told me shit happens and then hung up. The other thing I am curious about is the non-disparagement part... I am wondering if I can word a yelp/google review in such a way as to not violate that... I don't want this happening to other people. I just realized that I don't know what is listed on the agreement that I actually signed under \"activity\" \"dates(s) of activity)\" and \"location\" but almost certainly nothing like \"boarding\" and any date near this one because I signed that thing specifically for doggy daycare sometime last year. Any advice is appreciated... All I want is fair compensation for the injury to my dog and I want to prevent this from happening to other animals. I would have been happy if they had just told me my dog was getting sick/was injured there because I would have taken him to the vet earlier or picked him up earlier... Thank you.", "role": "user" }, { "content": "I don't think non-disparagement clauses like that hold up. They're basically saying you can't even talk about this to a judge or jury. We had a similar case in Texas and it was thrown out (prestigious pets). There may be some information in my link on their legitimacy. I'm not very familiar with the bill so read through it. To my understanding these types of clauses are meant for employment contracts and not small businesses and customer relations. I'd be surprised if a state like WA allowed this (they're banned in CA). You can certainly file in small claims. I'd argue your point about the contract, information from your vet on why this happened (unsanitary conditions, bacteria, foreign objects in paws, lack of cleaning, etc), failure to mitigate your damages by ignoring his injuries. I can't say you'd win but my company has a contract stating what you can't sue us for and we get sued for them all the time (and often settle). https://www.govtrack.us/congress/bills/114/hr5111/text", "role": "assistant" } ]

[ { "content": "My puppy was neglected by the boarding service I used and was returned to me in extremely poor health. I signed an agreement with them and need advice. http://imgur.com/a/Mo46e My wife was hospitalized and I had to board the dog because I had to work and wanted to be with my wife when I could. So, I ended up boarding him at this place for three days (2 nights). I had signed the above document like 6 months ago when I was taking him their for daycare for a few days before I ended up switching to a different place. When I went to pick up my dog the person working their handed him to me and I carried him to the car, then when we got home and it was time for him to walk into the house he could barely move and I noticed his eye was swollen shut, all 4 of his paws were bloody and red and had discharge... I called the Emergency Vet and they said it could probably wait until morning... Took him in the next day and he had infections in all 4 of his paws and his eye was more or less OK but he needed ointment for it. A week later he still is still limping and still has wounds on his paws. I'm going to have to take him back to the vet again... It is possible he will need surgery was he may have a foreign object in-bedded in his paw. But as you can imagine with my wife being hospitalized and me taking a couple days off, boarding the dog, vet bills, etc etc... This is causing a serious financial burden for us. I'm basically hoping that there is some way I can still take this to small claims... Or that because they list their services at the bottom of the agreement and \"dog boarding\" isn't included that that may not be included under the \"activities\" mentioned in the agreement. I did talk to the owner who didn't even apologize, basically told me shit happens and then hung up. The other thing I am curious about is the non-disparagement part... I am wondering if I can word a yelp/google review in such a way as to not violate that... I don't want this happening to other people. I just realized that I don't know what is listed on the agreement that I actually signed under \"activity\" \"dates(s) of activity)\" and \"location\" but almost certainly nothing like \"boarding\" and any date near this one because I signed that thing specifically for doggy daycare sometime last year. Any advice is appreciated... All I want is fair compensation for the injury to my dog and I want to prevent this from happening to other animals. I would have been happy if they had just told me my dog was getting sick/was injured there because I would have taken him to the vet earlier or picked him up earlier... Thank you.", "role": "user" }, { "content": "What did they say when you asked how all 4 paws got infected?", "role": "assistant" } ]

[ { "content": "My puppy was neglected by the boarding service I used and was returned to me in extremely poor health. I signed an agreement with them and need advice. http://imgur.com/a/Mo46e My wife was hospitalized and I had to board the dog because I had to work and wanted to be with my wife when I could. So, I ended up boarding him at this place for three days (2 nights). I had signed the above document like 6 months ago when I was taking him their for daycare for a few days before I ended up switching to a different place. When I went to pick up my dog the person working their handed him to me and I carried him to the car, then when we got home and it was time for him to walk into the house he could barely move and I noticed his eye was swollen shut, all 4 of his paws were bloody and red and had discharge... I called the Emergency Vet and they said it could probably wait until morning... Took him in the next day and he had infections in all 4 of his paws and his eye was more or less OK but he needed ointment for it. A week later he still is still limping and still has wounds on his paws. I'm going to have to take him back to the vet again... It is possible he will need surgery was he may have a foreign object in-bedded in his paw. But as you can imagine with my wife being hospitalized and me taking a couple days off, boarding the dog, vet bills, etc etc... This is causing a serious financial burden for us. I'm basically hoping that there is some way I can still take this to small claims... Or that because they list their services at the bottom of the agreement and \"dog boarding\" isn't included that that may not be included under the \"activities\" mentioned in the agreement. I did talk to the owner who didn't even apologize, basically told me shit happens and then hung up. The other thing I am curious about is the non-disparagement part... I am wondering if I can word a yelp/google review in such a way as to not violate that... I don't want this happening to other people. I just realized that I don't know what is listed on the agreement that I actually signed under \"activity\" \"dates(s) of activity)\" and \"location\" but almost certainly nothing like \"boarding\" and any date near this one because I signed that thing specifically for doggy daycare sometime last year. Any advice is appreciated... All I want is fair compensation for the injury to my dog and I want to prevent this from happening to other animals. I would have been happy if they had just told me my dog was getting sick/was injured there because I would have taken him to the vet earlier or picked him up earlier... Thank you.", "role": "user" }, { "content": "I am not a lawyer but many times I've seen in this sub that waivers of liability do not cover negligence. If it were shown that you hired them to provide basic care for your dog, they were definitely negligent in providing that care, and you incurred bills as a result of their negligence, I would be quite surprised if they were not responsible for paying those bills.", "role": "assistant" } ]

[ { "content": "Porter at dealership took me (as customer) to his house instead of giving me a ride to work as promised upon return of rental car. Can I sue the dealership? ## Can I sue dealership if their porter who was to give me a courtesy ride to work after returning their rental car took me against my will to his home instead, took my cell phone from me so I couldn't call work or for help, punched me in the face, etc. and terrorized me while I was in the truck and couldn't leave for 2 hours for not creating a safe environment for customers or ____ ???? The employee is a convicted felon of drugs and a type of battery. I almost got fired over this. I filed a statement with Sherriff's Dept right after it happened and they took pictures. The employee was supposed to be at his job at the dealership during the time he abducted me. Can I sue Dealership?", "role": "user" }, { "content": "Assuming the employer negligently hired or supervised this employee, yes. Merely being a convicted felon doesn't it make it a slam dunk case though, you have to show evidence knew he had some type of tendency to cause this and they allowed it to happen by hiring him because this isn't going to be one of those situations where the employer is automatically responsible for the actions of their employee. This wasn't mere a frolic or detour debate. The employee went completely off the rails.", "role": "assistant" } ]

[ { "content": "Porter at dealership took me (as customer) to his house instead of giving me a ride to work as promised upon return of rental car. Can I sue the dealership? ## Can I sue dealership if their porter who was to give me a courtesy ride to work after returning their rental car took me against my will to his home instead, took my cell phone from me so I couldn't call work or for help, punched me in the face, etc. and terrorized me while I was in the truck and couldn't leave for 2 hours for not creating a safe environment for customers or ____ ???? The employee is a convicted felon of drugs and a type of battery. I almost got fired over this. I filed a statement with Sherriff's Dept right after it happened and they took pictures. The employee was supposed to be at his job at the dealership during the time he abducted me. Can I sue Dealership?", "role": "user" }, { "content": "Short answer. Yes you have a lawsuit against his employer. Whether you will be successful will depend on whether they were negligent in hiring him. What they knew about his criminal background etc. It’s also a criminal matter for kidnapping and battery. How long ago did this happen?", "role": "assistant" } ]

[ { "content": "Porter at dealership took me (as customer) to his house instead of giving me a ride to work as promised upon return of rental car. Can I sue the dealership? ## Can I sue dealership if their porter who was to give me a courtesy ride to work after returning their rental car took me against my will to his home instead, took my cell phone from me so I couldn't call work or for help, punched me in the face, etc. and terrorized me while I was in the truck and couldn't leave for 2 hours for not creating a safe environment for customers or ____ ???? The employee is a convicted felon of drugs and a type of battery. I almost got fired over this. I filed a statement with Sherriff's Dept right after it happened and they took pictures. The employee was supposed to be at his job at the dealership during the time he abducted me. Can I sue Dealership?", "role": "user" }, { "content": "---\r > http://imgur.com/a/myIAb\r \r ---\r *I am a bot whose sole purpose is to improve the timeliness and accuracy of responses in this subreddit.*\r \r ---\r **It appears you forgot to include your location in the title or body of your post. Please update the body of your original post to include this information.**\r \r ---\r ***Do NOT delete this post - Instead, simply edit the post with the requested information.***\r \r ---\r \r Author: /u/datdat1212\r \r Title: **Porter at dealership took me (as customer) to his house instead of giving me a ride to work as promised upon return of rental car. Can I sue the dealership?**\r \r Original Post: \r \r > ## Can I sue dealership if their porter who was to give me a courtesy ride to work after returning their rental car took me against my will to his home instead, took my cell phone from me so I couldn't call work or for help, punched me in the face, etc. and terrorized me while I was in the truck and couldn't leave for 2 hours for not creating a safe environment for customers or ____ ???? The employee is a convicted felon of drugs and a type of battery. I almost got fired over this. I filed a statement with Sherriff's Dept right after it happened and they took pictures. The employee was supposed to be at his job at the dealership during the time he abducted me. Can I sue Dealership?\r \r \r \r \r ---\r LocationBot 4.0 | GitHub (Coming Soon) | Statistics | Report Issues", "role": "assistant" } ]

[ { "content": "Porter at dealership took me (as customer) to his house instead of giving me a ride to work as promised upon return of rental car. Can I sue the dealership? ## Can I sue dealership if their porter who was to give me a courtesy ride to work after returning their rental car took me against my will to his home instead, took my cell phone from me so I couldn't call work or for help, punched me in the face, etc. and terrorized me while I was in the truck and couldn't leave for 2 hours for not creating a safe environment for customers or ____ ???? The employee is a convicted felon of drugs and a type of battery. I almost got fired over this. I filed a statement with Sherriff's Dept right after it happened and they took pictures. The employee was supposed to be at his job at the dealership during the time he abducted me. Can I sue Dealership?", "role": "user" }, { "content": "Short answer. Yes you have a lawsuit against his employer. Whether you will be successful will depend on whether they were negligent in hiring him. What they knew about his criminal background etc. It’s also a criminal matter for kidnapping and battery. How long ago did this happen?", "role": "assistant" } ]

[ { "content": "Porter at dealership took me (as customer) to his house instead of giving me a ride to work as promised upon return of rental car. Can I sue the dealership? ## Can I sue dealership if their porter who was to give me a courtesy ride to work after returning their rental car took me against my will to his home instead, took my cell phone from me so I couldn't call work or for help, punched me in the face, etc. and terrorized me while I was in the truck and couldn't leave for 2 hours for not creating a safe environment for customers or ____ ???? The employee is a convicted felon of drugs and a type of battery. I almost got fired over this. I filed a statement with Sherriff's Dept right after it happened and they took pictures. The employee was supposed to be at his job at the dealership during the time he abducted me. Can I sue Dealership?", "role": "user" }, { "content": "---\r > http://imgur.com/a/myIAb\r \r ---\r *I am a bot whose sole purpose is to improve the timeliness and accuracy of responses in this subreddit.*\r \r ---\r **It appears you forgot to include your location in the title or body of your post. Please update the body of your original post to include this information.**\r \r ---\r ***Do NOT delete this post - Instead, simply edit the post with the requested information.***\r \r ---\r \r Author: /u/datdat1212\r \r Title: **Porter at dealership took me (as customer) to his house instead of giving me a ride to work as promised upon return of rental car. Can I sue the dealership?**\r \r Original Post: \r \r > ## Can I sue dealership if their porter who was to give me a courtesy ride to work after returning their rental car took me against my will to his home instead, took my cell phone from me so I couldn't call work or for help, punched me in the face, etc. and terrorized me while I was in the truck and couldn't leave for 2 hours for not creating a safe environment for customers or ____ ???? The employee is a convicted felon of drugs and a type of battery. I almost got fired over this. I filed a statement with Sherriff's Dept right after it happened and they took pictures. The employee was supposed to be at his job at the dealership during the time he abducted me. Can I sue Dealership?\r \r \r \r \r ---\r LocationBot 4.0 | GitHub (Coming Soon) | Statistics | Report Issues", "role": "assistant" } ]

[ { "content": "Porter at dealership took me (as customer) to his house instead of giving me a ride to work as promised upon return of rental car. Can I sue the dealership? ## Can I sue dealership if their porter who was to give me a courtesy ride to work after returning their rental car took me against my will to his home instead, took my cell phone from me so I couldn't call work or for help, punched me in the face, etc. and terrorized me while I was in the truck and couldn't leave for 2 hours for not creating a safe environment for customers or ____ ???? The employee is a convicted felon of drugs and a type of battery. I almost got fired over this. I filed a statement with Sherriff's Dept right after it happened and they took pictures. The employee was supposed to be at his job at the dealership during the time he abducted me. Can I sue Dealership?", "role": "user" }, { "content": "Assuming the employer negligently hired or supervised this employee, yes. Merely being a convicted felon doesn't it make it a slam dunk case though, you have to show evidence knew he had some type of tendency to cause this and they allowed it to happen by hiring him because this isn't going to be one of those situations where the employer is automatically responsible for the actions of their employee. This wasn't mere a frolic or detour debate. The employee went completely off the rails.", "role": "assistant" } ]

[ { "content": "Rental Car Company claiming \"significant\" damage, 3 days after I returned the vehicle and did a clean walk around. How do I proceed? Hello, I rented a car from Avis, in downtown Baltimore, drove it straight to Newark, NJ. I had the car for a total of a few hours and drove it without incident. After I returned the car, the rental agent did a walk around with me, which was also without incident - gave me a receipt and sent me on my way. 3 days later, I got a phone call from someone at Avis in Newark saying that there was \"significant\" body damage to the car and that a claim will be started. It is absolutely impossible that damage occurred to the car during my rental so I disputed it. I stated that if the damage is so significant, how could they have me go on my way and then call me 3 days later. How do I know what happened to the car in those 3 days? The Avis representative stated that he was just telling me that a claim will be started and Avis will be looking into it and may or may not reach out to me. 3 weeks went by and Avis never reached out to me so I figured it was resolved somehow. Today, I got a call from the 3rd party that handles Avis's claims billing and told me that I was responsible for roughly $1000 of damages to the car. I told them the story and how Avis never even reached out to me. So they sent me the documentation but I firmly disputed it again. So as of now, they have said that since they're a third party, all they can do is get back to Avis with my comments & that I'm refusing to pay. How can this be dealt with? I am 100% certain that I did not hit the car anywhere even slightly, let alone to cause \"significant\" body damage.", "role": "user" }, { "content": "You have your copy of the return receipt, signed by their agent, that shows it in non-damaged condition, right?", "role": "assistant" } ]

[ { "content": "Rental Car Company claiming \"significant\" damage, 3 days after I returned the vehicle and did a clean walk around. How do I proceed? Hello, I rented a car from Avis, in downtown Baltimore, drove it straight to Newark, NJ. I had the car for a total of a few hours and drove it without incident. After I returned the car, the rental agent did a walk around with me, which was also without incident - gave me a receipt and sent me on my way. 3 days later, I got a phone call from someone at Avis in Newark saying that there was \"significant\" body damage to the car and that a claim will be started. It is absolutely impossible that damage occurred to the car during my rental so I disputed it. I stated that if the damage is so significant, how could they have me go on my way and then call me 3 days later. How do I know what happened to the car in those 3 days? The Avis representative stated that he was just telling me that a claim will be started and Avis will be looking into it and may or may not reach out to me. 3 weeks went by and Avis never reached out to me so I figured it was resolved somehow. Today, I got a call from the 3rd party that handles Avis's claims billing and told me that I was responsible for roughly $1000 of damages to the car. I told them the story and how Avis never even reached out to me. So they sent me the documentation but I firmly disputed it again. So as of now, they have said that since they're a third party, all they can do is get back to Avis with my comments & that I'm refusing to pay. How can this be dealt with? I am 100% certain that I did not hit the car anywhere even slightly, let alone to cause \"significant\" body damage.", "role": "user" }, { "content": "Auto insurance adjuster here: They probably already filed the claim with your insurance. Contact your insurance company and tell them that you were sent a bill. Let your insurance company handle it, that's what you pay them for. Your insurance company will ask you what happened and tell them exactly what you posted here. Your insurance company will likely deny their claim and that's it. Third party companies that work for rental companies are notorious for this. They send bills to everyone involved in the claim hoping someone will pay it. Believe it or not clerical errors of businesses paying things they don't owe happen all the time. It's Avis's burden of proof that the damage occurred while you were the renter of the vehicle. If what you said was all true then they can't prove that you returned the car with damage since they waited 3 days to call you.", "role": "assistant" } ]

[ { "content": "Rental Car Company claiming \"significant\" damage, 3 days after I returned the vehicle and did a clean walk around. How do I proceed? Hello, I rented a car from Avis, in downtown Baltimore, drove it straight to Newark, NJ. I had the car for a total of a few hours and drove it without incident. After I returned the car, the rental agent did a walk around with me, which was also without incident - gave me a receipt and sent me on my way. 3 days later, I got a phone call from someone at Avis in Newark saying that there was \"significant\" body damage to the car and that a claim will be started. It is absolutely impossible that damage occurred to the car during my rental so I disputed it. I stated that if the damage is so significant, how could they have me go on my way and then call me 3 days later. How do I know what happened to the car in those 3 days? The Avis representative stated that he was just telling me that a claim will be started and Avis will be looking into it and may or may not reach out to me. 3 weeks went by and Avis never reached out to me so I figured it was resolved somehow. Today, I got a call from the 3rd party that handles Avis's claims billing and told me that I was responsible for roughly $1000 of damages to the car. I told them the story and how Avis never even reached out to me. So they sent me the documentation but I firmly disputed it again. So as of now, they have said that since they're a third party, all they can do is get back to Avis with my comments & that I'm refusing to pay. How can this be dealt with? I am 100% certain that I did not hit the car anywhere even slightly, let alone to cause \"significant\" body damage.", "role": "user" }, { "content": "Avis will likely set up a claim on your policy for you. If you haven't heard from your insurance company then Avis might not have reported it to them. If they don't set up a claim I'm wondering if they know they don't have a case. It's possible that this is a last resort and they are pursuing you directly hoping you will just pay them. I would contact Viking and tell them to direct all correspondence to your insurance and if they're making a claim they can set one up. Even if they call your bluff it's best that your insurance company knows anyway so they can deal with the headache instead of you.", "role": "assistant" } ]

[ { "content": "Rental Car Company claiming \"significant\" damage, 3 days after I returned the vehicle and did a clean walk around. How do I proceed? Hello, I rented a car from Avis, in downtown Baltimore, drove it straight to Newark, NJ. I had the car for a total of a few hours and drove it without incident. After I returned the car, the rental agent did a walk around with me, which was also without incident - gave me a receipt and sent me on my way. 3 days later, I got a phone call from someone at Avis in Newark saying that there was \"significant\" body damage to the car and that a claim will be started. It is absolutely impossible that damage occurred to the car during my rental so I disputed it. I stated that if the damage is so significant, how could they have me go on my way and then call me 3 days later. How do I know what happened to the car in those 3 days? The Avis representative stated that he was just telling me that a claim will be started and Avis will be looking into it and may or may not reach out to me. 3 weeks went by and Avis never reached out to me so I figured it was resolved somehow. Today, I got a call from the 3rd party that handles Avis's claims billing and told me that I was responsible for roughly $1000 of damages to the car. I told them the story and how Avis never even reached out to me. So they sent me the documentation but I firmly disputed it again. So as of now, they have said that since they're a third party, all they can do is get back to Avis with my comments & that I'm refusing to pay. How can this be dealt with? I am 100% certain that I did not hit the car anywhere even slightly, let alone to cause \"significant\" body damage.", "role": "user" }, { "content": "Pro tip for future renters: At pickup and drop off take 5 pictures of your car. Front, both sides, back, and a picture of the entire car with the rental office, signs, lot, etc etc in the picture/background. If you want to have more documentation, enable geo-tagging on the pictures.", "role": "assistant" } ]

[ { "content": "Pregnant cousin left her child in the car for over two hours while at a casino This was totally stupid and irresponsible. The cops were called when someone saw a 2.5 yo child left in the car. After reviewing footages, they realized it was over two hours. Child services was called and they contacted us to pick up her son because she was potentially going to jail. On our way there, they told us to turn around and they’re letting her go home tonight but there will be a warrant out for her arrest for another day. This is in NC for context. As a family member, what can we expect will happen? Is this a felony and will she lose custody of her child and her employment? Is it too soon to seek out a lawyer? Any insights would be greatly appreciated.", "role": "user" }, { "content": "I would be very surprised if she is charged with a felony in NC. This is in the wheelhouse of the A1 misdemeanor for placing a child at risk of harm (but thankfully no harm done). Depending on the county, she is likely to be asked to take a parenting class and comply with CPS in exchange for a positive disposition. If mental health issues are involved she may be asked to get an evaluation. Depending on what county you are in, there may be a very good PD (public defender) office or great appointed attorneys. However, if she hasn’t been served with the warrant yet, you probably won’t be able to get a meeting with a Pd. So you can definitely talk to a local lawyer about how such cases are handled in that jurisdiction. ETA: unless this child is injured it is definitely not a felony. https://www.ncleg.net/enactedlegislation/statutes/html/bysection/chapter_14/gs_14-318.4.html", "role": "assistant" } ]

[ { "content": "Pregnant cousin left her child in the car for over two hours while at a casino This was totally stupid and irresponsible. The cops were called when someone saw a 2.5 yo child left in the car. After reviewing footages, they realized it was over two hours. Child services was called and they contacted us to pick up her son because she was potentially going to jail. On our way there, they told us to turn around and they’re letting her go home tonight but there will be a warrant out for her arrest for another day. This is in NC for context. As a family member, what can we expect will happen? Is this a felony and will she lose custody of her child and her employment? Is it too soon to seek out a lawyer? Any insights would be greatly appreciated.", "role": "user" }, { "content": "If CPS asks the court for temporary custody, you can contact them to say you are interested in being considered for kinship placement (meaning the kid lives with you while in custody.", "role": "assistant" } ]

[ { "content": "My uncle had a stroke while driving and crashed into a concrete pole. Instead of taking him to the hospital, the police assumed he was drunk and put him in jail. He was later admitted to the ICU. He ended up with a brain bleed and several aneurysms. He struggles to walk now and remains bedridden; would he have any legal case against the department? I am definitely not one who believes in ridiculous lawsuits, but I feel like this was just negligence on the part of the police. Please note he was completely sober when the incident occurred. My heart aches for him; he is at home while he waits for his surgeries and takes care of himself. His dad is supposed to be “helping” him but seems to do the very minimum. He cannot afford extra help, and sometimes has to drag himself across the floor to use the bathroom since he cannot walk. He has to Uber Eats himself food or take an Uber to Walmart for his meals.", "role": "user" }, { "content": "I would definitely talk to a lawyer about this case. There is definitely something here but when it comes to suing law enforcement... don't get your hopes up.", "role": "assistant" } ]

[ { "content": "My uncle had a stroke while driving and crashed into a concrete pole. Instead of taking him to the hospital, the police assumed he was drunk and put him in jail. He was later admitted to the ICU. He ended up with a brain bleed and several aneurysms. He struggles to walk now and remains bedridden; would he have any legal case against the department? I am definitely not one who believes in ridiculous lawsuits, but I feel like this was just negligence on the part of the police. Please note he was completely sober when the incident occurred. My heart aches for him; he is at home while he waits for his surgeries and takes care of himself. His dad is supposed to be “helping” him but seems to do the very minimum. He cannot afford extra help, and sometimes has to drag himself across the floor to use the bathroom since he cannot walk. He has to Uber Eats himself food or take an Uber to Walmart for his meals.", "role": "user" }, { "content": "Not a lawyer, but a paramedic. If your uncle wasn’t drinking, absolutely this is prime lawsuit material. Your uncle should have been seen by EMS, who should have been able to recognize the signs of a stroke. A lawyer should review EMS’s patient care report, and see what the officer did to determine her was intoxicated (breathalyzer? Roadside sobriety test?). A good lawyer would be able to tear apart EMS and the arresting officer. However, please keep in mind: Maybe your uncle was drinking that night, and sustained a head injury in the crash. Head injuries can cause brain bleeds, with a delay in presentation of symptoms from minutes to even weeks later. This is even more likely if your uncle is older, and an alcoholic. But like I said: if your uncle was sober this is a great case to pursue.", "role": "assistant" } ]

[ { "content": "My uncle had a stroke while driving and crashed into a concrete pole. Instead of taking him to the hospital, the police assumed he was drunk and put him in jail. He was later admitted to the ICU. He ended up with a brain bleed and several aneurysms. He struggles to walk now and remains bedridden; would he have any legal case against the department? I am definitely not one who believes in ridiculous lawsuits, but I feel like this was just negligence on the part of the police. Please note he was completely sober when the incident occurred. My heart aches for him; he is at home while he waits for his surgeries and takes care of himself. His dad is supposed to be “helping” him but seems to do the very minimum. He cannot afford extra help, and sometimes has to drag himself across the floor to use the bathroom since he cannot walk. He has to Uber Eats himself food or take an Uber to Walmart for his meals.", "role": "user" }, { "content": "---\r > http://imgur.com/a/myIAb\r \r ---\r *I am a bot whose sole purpose is to improve the timeliness and accuracy of responses in this subreddit.*\r \r ---\r **It appears you forgot to include your location in the title or body of your post. Please update the body of your original post to include this information.**\r \r ---\r ***Do NOT delete this post - Instead, simply edit the post with the requested information.***\r \r ---\r \r Author: /u/noogieboogie\r \r Title: **My uncle had a stroke while driving and crashed into a concrete pole. Instead of taking him to the hospital, the police assumed he was drunk and put him in jail. He was later admitted to the ICU.**\r \r Original Post: \r \r > He ended up with a brain bleed and several aneurysms. He struggles to walk now and remains bedridden; would he have any legal case against the department? I am definitely not one who believes in ridiculous lawsuits, but I feel like this was just negligence on the part of the police. Please note he was completely sober when the incident occurred. > > My heart aches for him; he is at home while he waits for his surgeries and takes care of himself. His dad is supposed to be “helping” him but seems to do the very minimum. He cannot afford extra help, and sometimes has to drag himself across the floor to use the bathroom since he cannot walk. He has to Uber Eats himself food or take an Uber to Walmart for his meals. \r \r \r \r \r ---\r LocationBot 4.31977192 | Report Issues", "role": "assistant" } ]

[ { "content": "My uncle had a stroke while driving and crashed into a concrete pole. Instead of taking him to the hospital, the police assumed he was drunk and put him in jail. He was later admitted to the ICU. He ended up with a brain bleed and several aneurysms. He struggles to walk now and remains bedridden; would he have any legal case against the department? I am definitely not one who believes in ridiculous lawsuits, but I feel like this was just negligence on the part of the police. Please note he was completely sober when the incident occurred. My heart aches for him; he is at home while he waits for his surgeries and takes care of himself. His dad is supposed to be “helping” him but seems to do the very minimum. He cannot afford extra help, and sometimes has to drag himself across the floor to use the bathroom since he cannot walk. He has to Uber Eats himself food or take an Uber to Walmart for his meals.", "role": "user" }, { "content": "Not a lawyer, but a paramedic. If your uncle wasn’t drinking, absolutely this is prime lawsuit material. Your uncle should have been seen by EMS, who should have been able to recognize the signs of a stroke. A lawyer should review EMS’s patient care report, and see what the officer did to determine her was intoxicated (breathalyzer? Roadside sobriety test?). A good lawyer would be able to tear apart EMS and the arresting officer. However, please keep in mind: Maybe your uncle was drinking that night, and sustained a head injury in the crash. Head injuries can cause brain bleeds, with a delay in presentation of symptoms from minutes to even weeks later. This is even more likely if your uncle is older, and an alcoholic. But like I said: if your uncle was sober this is a great case to pursue.", "role": "assistant" } ]

[ { "content": "My uncle had a stroke while driving and crashed into a concrete pole. Instead of taking him to the hospital, the police assumed he was drunk and put him in jail. He was later admitted to the ICU. He ended up with a brain bleed and several aneurysms. He struggles to walk now and remains bedridden; would he have any legal case against the department? I am definitely not one who believes in ridiculous lawsuits, but I feel like this was just negligence on the part of the police. Please note he was completely sober when the incident occurred. My heart aches for him; he is at home while he waits for his surgeries and takes care of himself. His dad is supposed to be “helping” him but seems to do the very minimum. He cannot afford extra help, and sometimes has to drag himself across the floor to use the bathroom since he cannot walk. He has to Uber Eats himself food or take an Uber to Walmart for his meals.", "role": "user" }, { "content": "Three things you need for a succesful suit: 1. A duty of care. Easy one this, the police owe a duty of care to folk they arrest 2. An error. Trickier one. The police do find a lot of drunk people and most haven't had strokes. So very fact specific, mainly did they follow their own procedures for checking the health of arrested people. 3. Harm. Ie did the delay cause the harm, or was it the original stroke and the accident. Again, very fact specific Edit: I seem to have typed this with a potato. Many many typos hopefully sorted Edit 2: to acknowledge the wise comments below, yes, all three could be in place, but it's about what you can prove in court, and about holding the police to a fair standard for the police, not an emt. What seems obvious to an emt is not always so for someone else.", "role": "assistant" } ]

[ { "content": "My uncle had a stroke while driving and crashed into a concrete pole. Instead of taking him to the hospital, the police assumed he was drunk and put him in jail. He was later admitted to the ICU. He ended up with a brain bleed and several aneurysms. He struggles to walk now and remains bedridden; would he have any legal case against the department? I am definitely not one who believes in ridiculous lawsuits, but I feel like this was just negligence on the part of the police. Please note he was completely sober when the incident occurred. My heart aches for him; he is at home while he waits for his surgeries and takes care of himself. His dad is supposed to be “helping” him but seems to do the very minimum. He cannot afford extra help, and sometimes has to drag himself across the floor to use the bathroom since he cannot walk. He has to Uber Eats himself food or take an Uber to Walmart for his meals.", "role": "user" }, { "content": "I would call Adult Protective Services and see if they can help with care services for him.", "role": "assistant" } ]

[ { "content": "My uncle had a stroke while driving and crashed into a concrete pole. Instead of taking him to the hospital, the police assumed he was drunk and put him in jail. He was later admitted to the ICU. He ended up with a brain bleed and several aneurysms. He struggles to walk now and remains bedridden; would he have any legal case against the department? I am definitely not one who believes in ridiculous lawsuits, but I feel like this was just negligence on the part of the police. Please note he was completely sober when the incident occurred. My heart aches for him; he is at home while he waits for his surgeries and takes care of himself. His dad is supposed to be “helping” him but seems to do the very minimum. He cannot afford extra help, and sometimes has to drag himself across the floor to use the bathroom since he cannot walk. He has to Uber Eats himself food or take an Uber to Walmart for his meals.", "role": "user" }, { "content": "I would definitely talk to a lawyer about this case. There is definitely something here but when it comes to suing law enforcement... don't get your hopes up.", "role": "assistant" } ]

[ { "content": "My uncle had a stroke while driving and crashed into a concrete pole. Instead of taking him to the hospital, the police assumed he was drunk and put him in jail. He was later admitted to the ICU. He ended up with a brain bleed and several aneurysms. He struggles to walk now and remains bedridden; would he have any legal case against the department? I am definitely not one who believes in ridiculous lawsuits, but I feel like this was just negligence on the part of the police. Please note he was completely sober when the incident occurred. My heart aches for him; he is at home while he waits for his surgeries and takes care of himself. His dad is supposed to be “helping” him but seems to do the very minimum. He cannot afford extra help, and sometimes has to drag himself across the floor to use the bathroom since he cannot walk. He has to Uber Eats himself food or take an Uber to Walmart for his meals.", "role": "user" }, { "content": "I would call Adult Protective Services and see if they can help with care services for him.", "role": "assistant" } ]

[ { "content": "My uncle had a stroke while driving and crashed into a concrete pole. Instead of taking him to the hospital, the police assumed he was drunk and put him in jail. He was later admitted to the ICU. He ended up with a brain bleed and several aneurysms. He struggles to walk now and remains bedridden; would he have any legal case against the department? I am definitely not one who believes in ridiculous lawsuits, but I feel like this was just negligence on the part of the police. Please note he was completely sober when the incident occurred. My heart aches for him; he is at home while he waits for his surgeries and takes care of himself. His dad is supposed to be “helping” him but seems to do the very minimum. He cannot afford extra help, and sometimes has to drag himself across the floor to use the bathroom since he cannot walk. He has to Uber Eats himself food or take an Uber to Walmart for his meals.", "role": "user" }, { "content": "---\r > http://imgur.com/a/myIAb\r \r ---\r *I am a bot whose sole purpose is to improve the timeliness and accuracy of responses in this subreddit.*\r \r ---\r **It appears you forgot to include your location in the title or body of your post. Please update the body of your original post to include this information.**\r \r ---\r ***Do NOT delete this post - Instead, simply edit the post with the requested information.***\r \r ---\r \r Author: /u/noogieboogie\r \r Title: **My uncle had a stroke while driving and crashed into a concrete pole. Instead of taking him to the hospital, the police assumed he was drunk and put him in jail. He was later admitted to the ICU.**\r \r Original Post: \r \r > He ended up with a brain bleed and several aneurysms. He struggles to walk now and remains bedridden; would he have any legal case against the department? I am definitely not one who believes in ridiculous lawsuits, but I feel like this was just negligence on the part of the police. Please note he was completely sober when the incident occurred. > > My heart aches for him; he is at home while he waits for his surgeries and takes care of himself. His dad is supposed to be “helping” him but seems to do the very minimum. He cannot afford extra help, and sometimes has to drag himself across the floor to use the bathroom since he cannot walk. He has to Uber Eats himself food or take an Uber to Walmart for his meals. \r \r \r \r \r ---\r LocationBot 4.31977192 | Report Issues", "role": "assistant" } ]

[ { "content": "My uncle had a stroke while driving and crashed into a concrete pole. Instead of taking him to the hospital, the police assumed he was drunk and put him in jail. He was later admitted to the ICU. He ended up with a brain bleed and several aneurysms. He struggles to walk now and remains bedridden; would he have any legal case against the department? I am definitely not one who believes in ridiculous lawsuits, but I feel like this was just negligence on the part of the police. Please note he was completely sober when the incident occurred. My heart aches for him; he is at home while he waits for his surgeries and takes care of himself. His dad is supposed to be “helping” him but seems to do the very minimum. He cannot afford extra help, and sometimes has to drag himself across the floor to use the bathroom since he cannot walk. He has to Uber Eats himself food or take an Uber to Walmart for his meals.", "role": "user" }, { "content": "I would call Adult Protective Services and see if they can help with care services for him.", "role": "assistant" } ]

[ { "content": "A drunk woman crashed a car into our house and caused a significant amount of damage. The car insurance won’t fully cover the expenses. The car she was driving was not hers. It was a friend of hers. That policy owner’s coverages are not enough to fill cover the cost of the damages. What are our next steps? -Do we have to sue the driver, the policy owner, or the insurance for the rest of the damages to our property? -What kind of lawyer would we need? -Do we have to pay out of pocket for said lawyer until the costs are recovered later? -How long does it usually take if we have file a lawsuit? Thank you so much for your help, y’all. This has been a very weird time.", "role": "user" }, { "content": "Any civil attorney can help. You should sue both the driver and car owner. You would likely pay out of pocket for the lawyer. And if no party has money to pay you, you might not get much if anything Is there a reason you don't want to use your homeowners insurance? They would do all the leg work on the suing and trying I connect on said lawsuit", "role": "assistant" } ]

[ { "content": "A drunk woman crashed a car into our house and caused a significant amount of damage. The car insurance won’t fully cover the expenses. The car she was driving was not hers. It was a friend of hers. That policy owner’s coverages are not enough to fill cover the cost of the damages. What are our next steps? -Do we have to sue the driver, the policy owner, or the insurance for the rest of the damages to our property? -What kind of lawyer would we need? -Do we have to pay out of pocket for said lawyer until the costs are recovered later? -How long does it usually take if we have file a lawsuit? Thank you so much for your help, y’all. This has been a very weird time.", "role": "user" }, { "content": "File a claim with your homeowners insurance and let them go after the other parties. Visit /r/insurance for advice from insurance professionals.", "role": "assistant" } ]

[ { "content": "A drunk woman crashed a car into our house and caused a significant amount of damage. The car insurance won’t fully cover the expenses. The car she was driving was not hers. It was a friend of hers. That policy owner’s coverages are not enough to fill cover the cost of the damages. What are our next steps? -Do we have to sue the driver, the policy owner, or the insurance for the rest of the damages to our property? -What kind of lawyer would we need? -Do we have to pay out of pocket for said lawyer until the costs are recovered later? -How long does it usually take if we have file a lawsuit? Thank you so much for your help, y’all. This has been a very weird time.", "role": "user" }, { "content": "Any civil attorney can help. You should sue both the driver and car owner. You would likely pay out of pocket for the lawyer. And if no party has money to pay you, you might not get much if anything Is there a reason you don't want to use your homeowners insurance? They would do all the leg work on the suing and trying I connect on said lawsuit", "role": "assistant" } ]

[ { "content": "A drunk woman crashed a car into our house and caused a significant amount of damage. The car insurance won’t fully cover the expenses. The car she was driving was not hers. It was a friend of hers. That policy owner’s coverages are not enough to fill cover the cost of the damages. What are our next steps? -Do we have to sue the driver, the policy owner, or the insurance for the rest of the damages to our property? -What kind of lawyer would we need? -Do we have to pay out of pocket for said lawyer until the costs are recovered later? -How long does it usually take if we have file a lawsuit? Thank you so much for your help, y’all. This has been a very weird time.", "role": "user" }, { "content": "You would be better off going through your home paneers insurance. You wouldn’t sue the drivers insurance. Her policy limits are what they are. If she doesn’t have enough coverage to pay for your damages, her insurance will only pay up to her policy limit. If you sue her, understand it could take years before you ever see a dime from her.", "role": "assistant" } ]

[ { "content": "Under 18 kid stole a car from a neighbor, used it to wreck into my car that was parked, cops detained kid in stolen car and then released him. Can I sue parents? I have video of accident. It wasn’t actually an accident he rammed my truck twice intentionally. 2003 tacoma it’s worth 4-5k and damage may be around that so it’s probably totaled. Pretty much destroyed the whole passenger side. I looked into small claims and the max is 2,500 in kentucky so maybe that’s all I could get. Also the family probably is not well off so not sure how that works. Okay any advice is appreciated.", "role": "user" }, { "content": "there are two sections that could apply, depending on whether it really was an accident: https://law.justia.com/codes/kentucky/2019/chapter-186/section-186-590/ ​ if it was intentional property damage: https://law.justia.com/codes/kentucky/2019/chapter-405/section-405-025/", "role": "assistant" } ]

[ { "content": "Under 18 kid stole a car from a neighbor, used it to wreck into my car that was parked, cops detained kid in stolen car and then released him. Can I sue parents? I have video of accident. It wasn’t actually an accident he rammed my truck twice intentionally. 2003 tacoma it’s worth 4-5k and damage may be around that so it’s probably totaled. Pretty much destroyed the whole passenger side. I looked into small claims and the max is 2,500 in kentucky so maybe that’s all I could get. Also the family probably is not well off so not sure how that works. Okay any advice is appreciated.", "role": "user" }, { "content": "Do they not have car insurance you can file a claim against? If he’s a driver he may be on their policy. You’ll have more luck with that than small clams court. If not, do you have UIM insurance?", "role": "assistant" } ]

[ { "content": "A Goodwill company truck hit my parked car and they won’t pay for repairs I live in Milwaukee, and had my car parked on the side of the road. A goodwill company semi hit the side of my car. They called the police and filed a police report, and I contacted my insurance company. It’s been three months, and my insurance company (Allstate) has just told me that when they reached out to Goodwill and their insurance, that the vehicle was not insured at the time of the accident, and that Goodwill said they didn’t have a claim filed on their end. What do I do? I feel like I’m going to have to take legal action and I’ve never done that before. I feel like if I try it’s going to cost more money to get a lawyer than what my deductible reimbursement would be, but this was not okay and I want to sew them for the hassle it’s caused and for the fact that they are clearly badly run. My insurance company and I have reached out to Goodwill multiple times and have been given phone numbers that don’t work or have not been responded to at all.", "role": "user" }, { "content": "You should file a claim under your own insurance and let this be your insurer's problem. You're right. This hassle is greater than your deductible. And your insurer still may recover their payout and your deductible from Goodwill. If they don't you may be able to sue Goodwill for that amount directly.", "role": "assistant" } ]

[ { "content": "A Goodwill company truck hit my parked car and they won’t pay for repairs I live in Milwaukee, and had my car parked on the side of the road. A goodwill company semi hit the side of my car. They called the police and filed a police report, and I contacted my insurance company. It’s been three months, and my insurance company (Allstate) has just told me that when they reached out to Goodwill and their insurance, that the vehicle was not insured at the time of the accident, and that Goodwill said they didn’t have a claim filed on their end. What do I do? I feel like I’m going to have to take legal action and I’ve never done that before. I feel like if I try it’s going to cost more money to get a lawyer than what my deductible reimbursement would be, but this was not okay and I want to sew them for the hassle it’s caused and for the fact that they are clearly badly run. My insurance company and I have reached out to Goodwill multiple times and have been given phone numbers that don’t work or have not been responded to at all.", "role": "user" }, { "content": "This is 100% your insurance companies responsibility if you have uninsured/underinsured coverage. Your insurance company is being lazy - it's their liability and they will go after Goodwill to be made whole. Point #2 - Goodwill is admitting that they are operating uninsured semi-trucks in the city? There are a BUNCH of state agencies that would like to know about this. Goodwill organizations are locally controlled and operated, run by a board of directors. The liability for having semi trucks rolling around the city uninsured would certainly be a major concern.", "role": "assistant" } ]

[ { "content": "Employer wants me to switch my daughters daycare because he feels like I should stay past 5, even thought that's the end of the work day. Hey Reddit. I'm a Canadian citizen and I am having an issue at work. I am performing well, doing my job, and not doing anything against company policy or Canadian law. Recently my employer expressed the fact that although our day ends at 5PM that because I'm not staying past 5 like some other employees that he thinks I am not hustling or taking the job seriously. I know nothing can be done so although I was upset I brushed it off. The reason I leave at 5 on the dot usually is because my daughter is in daycare and the daycare is not open past 6. I need to be there to pick her up, and also want to be there to spend the night with her. We'll, yesterday night a superior messaged me about a daycare he found that is open to 7PM and serves dinner to kids. I was infuriated. I don't know why they expect me to pay more money and switch my daughter to another day care after already making friends and getting used to her current daycare. Especially since it's only because they feel I should be staying after 5. Is this legal? Are there issues I can bring up? Or is my employer just a big POS?", "role": "user" }, { "content": "Contact the government office that deals with these employment questions, you should be crystal clear on the legal rules before you take any action.", "role": "assistant" } ]

[ { "content": "Employer wants me to switch my daughters daycare because he feels like I should stay past 5, even thought that's the end of the work day. Hey Reddit. I'm a Canadian citizen and I am having an issue at work. I am performing well, doing my job, and not doing anything against company policy or Canadian law. Recently my employer expressed the fact that although our day ends at 5PM that because I'm not staying past 5 like some other employees that he thinks I am not hustling or taking the job seriously. I know nothing can be done so although I was upset I brushed it off. The reason I leave at 5 on the dot usually is because my daughter is in daycare and the daycare is not open past 6. I need to be there to pick her up, and also want to be there to spend the night with her. We'll, yesterday night a superior messaged me about a daycare he found that is open to 7PM and serves dinner to kids. I was infuriated. I don't know why they expect me to pay more money and switch my daughter to another day care after already making friends and getting used to her current daycare. Especially since it's only because they feel I should be staying after 5. Is this legal? Are there issues I can bring up? Or is my employer just a big POS?", "role": "user" }, { "content": "Not illegal. But maybe worth asking HR, \"To clarify, is Boss saying that staying past 5pm is a part of my job responsibilities and, as such, I should enroll my child in an alternate daycare? Im confused by what s/he is trying to communicate here but if my job responsibilities have changed, I would like to know.\"", "role": "assistant" } ]

[ { "content": "Employer wants me to switch my daughters daycare because he feels like I should stay past 5, even thought that's the end of the work day. Hey Reddit. I'm a Canadian citizen and I am having an issue at work. I am performing well, doing my job, and not doing anything against company policy or Canadian law. Recently my employer expressed the fact that although our day ends at 5PM that because I'm not staying past 5 like some other employees that he thinks I am not hustling or taking the job seriously. I know nothing can be done so although I was upset I brushed it off. The reason I leave at 5 on the dot usually is because my daughter is in daycare and the daycare is not open past 6. I need to be there to pick her up, and also want to be there to spend the night with her. We'll, yesterday night a superior messaged me about a daycare he found that is open to 7PM and serves dinner to kids. I was infuriated. I don't know why they expect me to pay more money and switch my daughter to another day care after already making friends and getting used to her current daycare. Especially since it's only because they feel I should be staying after 5. Is this legal? Are there issues I can bring up? Or is my employer just a big POS?", "role": "user" }, { "content": "Nowhere is it illegal for an employer to make a suggestion. Should you face repercussions for ignoring the suggestion, well, that's a different post.", "role": "assistant" } ]

[ { "content": "Employer wants me to switch my daughters daycare because he feels like I should stay past 5, even thought that's the end of the work day. Hey Reddit. I'm a Canadian citizen and I am having an issue at work. I am performing well, doing my job, and not doing anything against company policy or Canadian law. Recently my employer expressed the fact that although our day ends at 5PM that because I'm not staying past 5 like some other employees that he thinks I am not hustling or taking the job seriously. I know nothing can be done so although I was upset I brushed it off. The reason I leave at 5 on the dot usually is because my daughter is in daycare and the daycare is not open past 6. I need to be there to pick her up, and also want to be there to spend the night with her. We'll, yesterday night a superior messaged me about a daycare he found that is open to 7PM and serves dinner to kids. I was infuriated. I don't know why they expect me to pay more money and switch my daughter to another day care after already making friends and getting used to her current daycare. Especially since it's only because they feel I should be staying after 5. Is this legal? Are there issues I can bring up? Or is my employer just a big POS?", "role": "user" }, { "content": "Not illegal. But maybe worth asking HR, \"To clarify, is Boss saying that staying past 5pm is a part of my job responsibilities and, as such, I should enroll my child in an alternate daycare? Im confused by what s/he is trying to communicate here but if my job responsibilities have changed, I would like to know.\"", "role": "assistant" } ]

[ { "content": "Employer wants me to switch my daughters daycare because he feels like I should stay past 5, even thought that's the end of the work day. Hey Reddit. I'm a Canadian citizen and I am having an issue at work. I am performing well, doing my job, and not doing anything against company policy or Canadian law. Recently my employer expressed the fact that although our day ends at 5PM that because I'm not staying past 5 like some other employees that he thinks I am not hustling or taking the job seriously. I know nothing can be done so although I was upset I brushed it off. The reason I leave at 5 on the dot usually is because my daughter is in daycare and the daycare is not open past 6. I need to be there to pick her up, and also want to be there to spend the night with her. We'll, yesterday night a superior messaged me about a daycare he found that is open to 7PM and serves dinner to kids. I was infuriated. I don't know why they expect me to pay more money and switch my daughter to another day care after already making friends and getting used to her current daycare. Especially since it's only because they feel I should be staying after 5. Is this legal? Are there issues I can bring up? Or is my employer just a big POS?", "role": "user" }, { "content": "Nowhere is it illegal for an employer to make a suggestion. Should you face repercussions for ignoring the suggestion, well, that's a different post.", "role": "assistant" } ]

[ { "content": "Employer wants me to switch my daughters daycare because he feels like I should stay past 5, even thought that's the end of the work day. Hey Reddit. I'm a Canadian citizen and I am having an issue at work. I am performing well, doing my job, and not doing anything against company policy or Canadian law. Recently my employer expressed the fact that although our day ends at 5PM that because I'm not staying past 5 like some other employees that he thinks I am not hustling or taking the job seriously. I know nothing can be done so although I was upset I brushed it off. The reason I leave at 5 on the dot usually is because my daughter is in daycare and the daycare is not open past 6. I need to be there to pick her up, and also want to be there to spend the night with her. We'll, yesterday night a superior messaged me about a daycare he found that is open to 7PM and serves dinner to kids. I was infuriated. I don't know why they expect me to pay more money and switch my daughter to another day care after already making friends and getting used to her current daycare. Especially since it's only because they feel I should be staying after 5. Is this legal? Are there issues I can bring up? Or is my employer just a big POS?", "role": "user" }, { "content": "Contact the government office that deals with these employment questions, you should be crystal clear on the legal rules before you take any action.", "role": "assistant" } ]

[ { "content": "Employer wants me to switch my daughters daycare because he feels like I should stay past 5, even thought that's the end of the work day. Hey Reddit. I'm a Canadian citizen and I am having an issue at work. I am performing well, doing my job, and not doing anything against company policy or Canadian law. Recently my employer expressed the fact that although our day ends at 5PM that because I'm not staying past 5 like some other employees that he thinks I am not hustling or taking the job seriously. I know nothing can be done so although I was upset I brushed it off. The reason I leave at 5 on the dot usually is because my daughter is in daycare and the daycare is not open past 6. I need to be there to pick her up, and also want to be there to spend the night with her. We'll, yesterday night a superior messaged me about a daycare he found that is open to 7PM and serves dinner to kids. I was infuriated. I don't know why they expect me to pay more money and switch my daughter to another day care after already making friends and getting used to her current daycare. Especially since it's only because they feel I should be staying after 5. Is this legal? Are there issues I can bring up? Or is my employer just a big POS?", "role": "user" }, { "content": "Nowhere is it illegal for an employer to make a suggestion. Should you face repercussions for ignoring the suggestion, well, that's a different post.", "role": "assistant" } ]

[ { "content": "Employer wants me to switch my daughters daycare because he feels like I should stay past 5, even thought that's the end of the work day. Hey Reddit. I'm a Canadian citizen and I am having an issue at work. I am performing well, doing my job, and not doing anything against company policy or Canadian law. Recently my employer expressed the fact that although our day ends at 5PM that because I'm not staying past 5 like some other employees that he thinks I am not hustling or taking the job seriously. I know nothing can be done so although I was upset I brushed it off. The reason I leave at 5 on the dot usually is because my daughter is in daycare and the daycare is not open past 6. I need to be there to pick her up, and also want to be there to spend the night with her. We'll, yesterday night a superior messaged me about a daycare he found that is open to 7PM and serves dinner to kids. I was infuriated. I don't know why they expect me to pay more money and switch my daughter to another day care after already making friends and getting used to her current daycare. Especially since it's only because they feel I should be staying after 5. Is this legal? Are there issues I can bring up? Or is my employer just a big POS?", "role": "user" }, { "content": "Is it legal for him to suggest an alternative daycare? Yes. It is not legal for him to fire you because you don’t stay past the end of the work day. I would be looking for a new job if I were you.", "role": "assistant" } ]

[ { "content": "Employer wants me to switch my daughters daycare because he feels like I should stay past 5, even thought that's the end of the work day. Hey Reddit. I'm a Canadian citizen and I am having an issue at work. I am performing well, doing my job, and not doing anything against company policy or Canadian law. Recently my employer expressed the fact that although our day ends at 5PM that because I'm not staying past 5 like some other employees that he thinks I am not hustling or taking the job seriously. I know nothing can be done so although I was upset I brushed it off. The reason I leave at 5 on the dot usually is because my daughter is in daycare and the daycare is not open past 6. I need to be there to pick her up, and also want to be there to spend the night with her. We'll, yesterday night a superior messaged me about a daycare he found that is open to 7PM and serves dinner to kids. I was infuriated. I don't know why they expect me to pay more money and switch my daughter to another day care after already making friends and getting used to her current daycare. Especially since it's only because they feel I should be staying after 5. Is this legal? Are there issues I can bring up? Or is my employer just a big POS?", "role": "user" }, { "content": "Your employer can force you to work overtime, as long as you are being compensated for it. This article is informative. https://www.monster.ca/career-advice/article/overtime-laws-in-canada Might be time to start job hunting?", "role": "assistant" } ]

[ { "content": "Employer wants me to switch my daughters daycare because he feels like I should stay past 5, even thought that's the end of the work day. Hey Reddit. I'm a Canadian citizen and I am having an issue at work. I am performing well, doing my job, and not doing anything against company policy or Canadian law. Recently my employer expressed the fact that although our day ends at 5PM that because I'm not staying past 5 like some other employees that he thinks I am not hustling or taking the job seriously. I know nothing can be done so although I was upset I brushed it off. The reason I leave at 5 on the dot usually is because my daughter is in daycare and the daycare is not open past 6. I need to be there to pick her up, and also want to be there to spend the night with her. We'll, yesterday night a superior messaged me about a daycare he found that is open to 7PM and serves dinner to kids. I was infuriated. I don't know why they expect me to pay more money and switch my daughter to another day care after already making friends and getting used to her current daycare. Especially since it's only because they feel I should be staying after 5. Is this legal? Are there issues I can bring up? Or is my employer just a big POS?", "role": "user" }, { "content": "Turn it into a negotiation. IF they want you to stay later and use that specific daycare, tell'em to open up the old chequebook and compensate you for it. Otherwise start shipping CVs and pop smoke ASAP.", "role": "assistant" } ]

[ { "content": "Sent to collections for a hospital bill from 2008 for my (then) 5 year old daughter's prostate removal and hospital stay. No one will listen when I tell them it's a mistake. California. I could really use some advice or to be pointed in the right direction here. No one from the collections company or the hospital will listen when I try to show them that it is a mistake. I even went to the hospital with my daughter, her birth certificate (she was born there) and her SSN but they just told me the bill is accurate. It's a huge bill and there's no way I can afford it. The calls are constant. I have three pre-teen kids and my wife died when they were small and I'm doing it all on my own here. If I get stuck paying the bill I'll lose my house and money is tight. It's obviously a mistake and I'm freaking out. What should I do to and how can I get someone to listen to and fix it?", "role": "user" }, { "content": "Do not pay a cent. It's beyond the statute of limitations. But, if you pay anything, that may restart the clock. It is also too late to report to collections. So, best thing is to order them not to contact you about it any more. Best to do that in writing.", "role": "assistant" } ]

[ { "content": "Sent to collections for a hospital bill from 2008 for my (then) 5 year old daughter's prostate removal and hospital stay. No one will listen when I tell them it's a mistake. California. I could really use some advice or to be pointed in the right direction here. No one from the collections company or the hospital will listen when I try to show them that it is a mistake. I even went to the hospital with my daughter, her birth certificate (she was born there) and her SSN but they just told me the bill is accurate. It's a huge bill and there's no way I can afford it. The calls are constant. I have three pre-teen kids and my wife died when they were small and I'm doing it all on my own here. If I get stuck paying the bill I'll lose my house and money is tight. It's obviously a mistake and I'm freaking out. What should I do to and how can I get someone to listen to and fix it?", "role": "user" }, { "content": "Prostate removal from female? Case closed.", "role": "assistant" } ]

[ { "content": "Sent to collections for a hospital bill from 2008 for my (then) 5 year old daughter's prostate removal and hospital stay. No one will listen when I tell them it's a mistake. California. I could really use some advice or to be pointed in the right direction here. No one from the collections company or the hospital will listen when I try to show them that it is a mistake. I even went to the hospital with my daughter, her birth certificate (she was born there) and her SSN but they just told me the bill is accurate. It's a huge bill and there's no way I can afford it. The calls are constant. I have three pre-teen kids and my wife died when they were small and I'm doing it all on my own here. If I get stuck paying the bill I'll lose my house and money is tight. It's obviously a mistake and I'm freaking out. What should I do to and how can I get someone to listen to and fix it?", "role": "user" }, { "content": "Consult with a lawyer who specializes in suing debt collectors. It will depend on a few details which a lawyer will be able to help with but there are some steep consequences for debt collectors who violate collection laws (and this sounds like if they are not already violating they will)", "role": "assistant" } ]

[ { "content": "Sent to collections for a hospital bill from 2008 for my (then) 5 year old daughter's prostate removal and hospital stay. No one will listen when I tell them it's a mistake. California. I could really use some advice or to be pointed in the right direction here. No one from the collections company or the hospital will listen when I try to show them that it is a mistake. I even went to the hospital with my daughter, her birth certificate (she was born there) and her SSN but they just told me the bill is accurate. It's a huge bill and there's no way I can afford it. The calls are constant. I have three pre-teen kids and my wife died when they were small and I'm doing it all on my own here. If I get stuck paying the bill I'll lose my house and money is tight. It's obviously a mistake and I'm freaking out. What should I do to and how can I get someone to listen to and fix it?", "role": "user" }, { "content": "Prostate removal from female? Case closed.", "role": "assistant" } ]

[ { "content": "Sent to collections for a hospital bill from 2008 for my (then) 5 year old daughter's prostate removal and hospital stay. No one will listen when I tell them it's a mistake. California. I could really use some advice or to be pointed in the right direction here. No one from the collections company or the hospital will listen when I try to show them that it is a mistake. I even went to the hospital with my daughter, her birth certificate (she was born there) and her SSN but they just told me the bill is accurate. It's a huge bill and there's no way I can afford it. The calls are constant. I have three pre-teen kids and my wife died when they were small and I'm doing it all on my own here. If I get stuck paying the bill I'll lose my house and money is tight. It's obviously a mistake and I'm freaking out. What should I do to and how can I get someone to listen to and fix it?", "role": "user" }, { "content": "Did she have any hospital stay? If you're sure it's meritless, you read the FDCPA, you tell the debt collectors to go away, and they do.", "role": "assistant" } ]

[ { "content": "Sent to collections for a hospital bill from 2008 for my (then) 5 year old daughter's prostate removal and hospital stay. No one will listen when I tell them it's a mistake. California. I could really use some advice or to be pointed in the right direction here. No one from the collections company or the hospital will listen when I try to show them that it is a mistake. I even went to the hospital with my daughter, her birth certificate (she was born there) and her SSN but they just told me the bill is accurate. It's a huge bill and there's no way I can afford it. The calls are constant. I have three pre-teen kids and my wife died when they were small and I'm doing it all on my own here. If I get stuck paying the bill I'll lose my house and money is tight. It's obviously a mistake and I'm freaking out. What should I do to and how can I get someone to listen to and fix it?", "role": "user" }, { "content": "Prostate removal from female? Case closed.", "role": "assistant" } ]

[ { "content": "Sent to collections for a hospital bill from 2008 for my (then) 5 year old daughter's prostate removal and hospital stay. No one will listen when I tell them it's a mistake. California. I could really use some advice or to be pointed in the right direction here. No one from the collections company or the hospital will listen when I try to show them that it is a mistake. I even went to the hospital with my daughter, her birth certificate (she was born there) and her SSN but they just told me the bill is accurate. It's a huge bill and there's no way I can afford it. The calls are constant. I have three pre-teen kids and my wife died when they were small and I'm doing it all on my own here. If I get stuck paying the bill I'll lose my house and money is tight. It's obviously a mistake and I'm freaking out. What should I do to and how can I get someone to listen to and fix it?", "role": "user" }, { "content": "Did she have any hospital stay? If you're sure it's meritless, you read the FDCPA, you tell the debt collectors to go away, and they do.", "role": "assistant" } ]

[ { "content": "Sent to collections for a hospital bill from 2008 for my (then) 5 year old daughter's prostate removal and hospital stay. No one will listen when I tell them it's a mistake. California. I could really use some advice or to be pointed in the right direction here. No one from the collections company or the hospital will listen when I try to show them that it is a mistake. I even went to the hospital with my daughter, her birth certificate (she was born there) and her SSN but they just told me the bill is accurate. It's a huge bill and there's no way I can afford it. The calls are constant. I have three pre-teen kids and my wife died when they were small and I'm doing it all on my own here. If I get stuck paying the bill I'll lose my house and money is tight. It's obviously a mistake and I'm freaking out. What should I do to and how can I get someone to listen to and fix it?", "role": "user" }, { "content": "Do not pay a cent. It's beyond the statute of limitations. But, if you pay anything, that may restart the clock. It is also too late to report to collections. So, best thing is to order them not to contact you about it any more. Best to do that in writing.", "role": "assistant" } ]

[ { "content": "Sent to collections for a hospital bill from 2008 for my (then) 5 year old daughter's prostate removal and hospital stay. No one will listen when I tell them it's a mistake. California. I could really use some advice or to be pointed in the right direction here. No one from the collections company or the hospital will listen when I try to show them that it is a mistake. I even went to the hospital with my daughter, her birth certificate (she was born there) and her SSN but they just told me the bill is accurate. It's a huge bill and there's no way I can afford it. The calls are constant. I have three pre-teen kids and my wife died when they were small and I'm doing it all on my own here. If I get stuck paying the bill I'll lose my house and money is tight. It's obviously a mistake and I'm freaking out. What should I do to and how can I get someone to listen to and fix it?", "role": "user" }, { "content": "Here's a debt validation letter.", "role": "assistant" } ]

[ { "content": "Sent to collections for a hospital bill from 2008 for my (then) 5 year old daughter's prostate removal and hospital stay. No one will listen when I tell them it's a mistake. California. I could really use some advice or to be pointed in the right direction here. No one from the collections company or the hospital will listen when I try to show them that it is a mistake. I even went to the hospital with my daughter, her birth certificate (she was born there) and her SSN but they just told me the bill is accurate. It's a huge bill and there's no way I can afford it. The calls are constant. I have three pre-teen kids and my wife died when they were small and I'm doing it all on my own here. If I get stuck paying the bill I'll lose my house and money is tight. It's obviously a mistake and I'm freaking out. What should I do to and how can I get someone to listen to and fix it?", "role": "user" }, { "content": "You may also want to check, and freeze, your daughter's credit, in case she is a victim of identity theft. I hope this is not the case.", "role": "assistant" } ]

[ { "content": "My mother died, her now ex-boss took pictures of her dead body with his cell phone while she was laying in the morgue... He owns a Days Inn. I know the title sounds ghoulish, and that’s because it is. My mother passed away on the 10th, just 5 days from today. Biologically she’s my grandmother, but she and my grandpa adopted me when I was only 5 years old. So she raised me, took care of me and I was there every single day taking care of her up until the very end. She was a very tough woman, she worked every single day she could at Days Inn. She completely refused to stop working. After my grandpa passed away a couple years ago she felt that she needed to keep busy, to keep her mind off everything. Her boss, who is from Pakistan, wasn’t always the nicest guy to her. There were times I liked him, and other times I hated him. She would come home crying some days due to the way he treated her at work, yelling at her, making fun of her and childish things. On the 10th she had a massive heart attack, and died in my arms. I tried doing CPR on her and I called 911 immediately. I called my aunt and uncle, they got there and soon after her boss showed up. The ER just let him back there, without anybody’s permission. When he gets back there he kept repeating the same trash like ‘Oh man that’s life, life’s tough man.’ Seriously. My grandma worked for this scumbag for 20 years. She worked there before he even bought the hotel and changed the name to Days Inn. She was the head maid there. So when he walked back there where her body was, I was seriously having a nervous breakdown. She didn’t look like herself at all. She always wore a wig, she always wore makeup (most of it was on my shirt from trying everything I could to resuscitate her and keep her alive), and her false teeth had fallen out. All of a sudden he picked up his cell phone and started snapping multiple pictures of her body laying there and laughing at the same time. At the time I couldn’t even believe what happened. My mind was so messed up and I felt like I was in some sort of nightmare. I couldn’t believe anyone would do something like that to somebody, especially someone who worked for them for 20 years. I hit the floor and my chest felt like it was seriously about to cave in, I felt like I couldn’t breathe. I went and told my aunt, and she asked him to leave immediately. During this whole thing my biological mom was in Florida, and she started driving back when she heard. When they got back from Florida they told me that he sent them the pictures he took of her body. I nearly lost it after hearing that. She would’ve NEVER wanted ANYONE to see her like that, and this sick piece of trash is sending pictures of her body to people. I also found out that he not only sent the pictures to them, but also sent them to her co-workers. I contacted one of them who admitted that he sent them to her, but she didn’t want to lose her job by getting involved. She deserved so much better than this. I’m just wondering, if you’ve read this, what would your opinion be about this whole situation. I am so heartbroken over all this, and this guy taking illegal pictures of my mother’s dead body and sending them to who knows how many people. Probably his entire family has them and they’re probably passing them around. I just wanted to know if anyone has been through anything like this? It’s so horrific, and I feel so sick about all of this. I can’t sleep at night, I haven’t slept halfway decent since all this happened.", "role": "user" }, { "content": "I’m so sorry for your loss. After you have had time to grieve, you could talk to a personal injury lawyer. You may have a claim against him for infliction of emotional distress. Those are hard cases to prove, but if what you said is true, his behavior was pretty outrageous.", "role": "assistant" } ]

[ { "content": "My mother died, her now ex-boss took pictures of her dead body with his cell phone while she was laying in the morgue... He owns a Days Inn. I know the title sounds ghoulish, and that’s because it is. My mother passed away on the 10th, just 5 days from today. Biologically she’s my grandmother, but she and my grandpa adopted me when I was only 5 years old. So she raised me, took care of me and I was there every single day taking care of her up until the very end. She was a very tough woman, she worked every single day she could at Days Inn. She completely refused to stop working. After my grandpa passed away a couple years ago she felt that she needed to keep busy, to keep her mind off everything. Her boss, who is from Pakistan, wasn’t always the nicest guy to her. There were times I liked him, and other times I hated him. She would come home crying some days due to the way he treated her at work, yelling at her, making fun of her and childish things. On the 10th she had a massive heart attack, and died in my arms. I tried doing CPR on her and I called 911 immediately. I called my aunt and uncle, they got there and soon after her boss showed up. The ER just let him back there, without anybody’s permission. When he gets back there he kept repeating the same trash like ‘Oh man that’s life, life’s tough man.’ Seriously. My grandma worked for this scumbag for 20 years. She worked there before he even bought the hotel and changed the name to Days Inn. She was the head maid there. So when he walked back there where her body was, I was seriously having a nervous breakdown. She didn’t look like herself at all. She always wore a wig, she always wore makeup (most of it was on my shirt from trying everything I could to resuscitate her and keep her alive), and her false teeth had fallen out. All of a sudden he picked up his cell phone and started snapping multiple pictures of her body laying there and laughing at the same time. At the time I couldn’t even believe what happened. My mind was so messed up and I felt like I was in some sort of nightmare. I couldn’t believe anyone would do something like that to somebody, especially someone who worked for them for 20 years. I hit the floor and my chest felt like it was seriously about to cave in, I felt like I couldn’t breathe. I went and told my aunt, and she asked him to leave immediately. During this whole thing my biological mom was in Florida, and she started driving back when she heard. When they got back from Florida they told me that he sent them the pictures he took of her body. I nearly lost it after hearing that. She would’ve NEVER wanted ANYONE to see her like that, and this sick piece of trash is sending pictures of her body to people. I also found out that he not only sent the pictures to them, but also sent them to her co-workers. I contacted one of them who admitted that he sent them to her, but she didn’t want to lose her job by getting involved. She deserved so much better than this. I’m just wondering, if you’ve read this, what would your opinion be about this whole situation. I am so heartbroken over all this, and this guy taking illegal pictures of my mother’s dead body and sending them to who knows how many people. Probably his entire family has them and they’re probably passing them around. I just wanted to know if anyone has been through anything like this? It’s so horrific, and I feel so sick about all of this. I can’t sleep at night, I haven’t slept halfway decent since all this happened.", "role": "user" }, { "content": "Contacting corporate might also be a good idea. Everyone involved should report their own interaction with him so they can get a clear picture.", "role": "assistant" } ]

[ { "content": "My mother died, her now ex-boss took pictures of her dead body with his cell phone while she was laying in the morgue... He owns a Days Inn. I know the title sounds ghoulish, and that’s because it is. My mother passed away on the 10th, just 5 days from today. Biologically she’s my grandmother, but she and my grandpa adopted me when I was only 5 years old. So she raised me, took care of me and I was there every single day taking care of her up until the very end. She was a very tough woman, she worked every single day she could at Days Inn. She completely refused to stop working. After my grandpa passed away a couple years ago she felt that she needed to keep busy, to keep her mind off everything. Her boss, who is from Pakistan, wasn’t always the nicest guy to her. There were times I liked him, and other times I hated him. She would come home crying some days due to the way he treated her at work, yelling at her, making fun of her and childish things. On the 10th she had a massive heart attack, and died in my arms. I tried doing CPR on her and I called 911 immediately. I called my aunt and uncle, they got there and soon after her boss showed up. The ER just let him back there, without anybody’s permission. When he gets back there he kept repeating the same trash like ‘Oh man that’s life, life’s tough man.’ Seriously. My grandma worked for this scumbag for 20 years. She worked there before he even bought the hotel and changed the name to Days Inn. She was the head maid there. So when he walked back there where her body was, I was seriously having a nervous breakdown. She didn’t look like herself at all. She always wore a wig, she always wore makeup (most of it was on my shirt from trying everything I could to resuscitate her and keep her alive), and her false teeth had fallen out. All of a sudden he picked up his cell phone and started snapping multiple pictures of her body laying there and laughing at the same time. At the time I couldn’t even believe what happened. My mind was so messed up and I felt like I was in some sort of nightmare. I couldn’t believe anyone would do something like that to somebody, especially someone who worked for them for 20 years. I hit the floor and my chest felt like it was seriously about to cave in, I felt like I couldn’t breathe. I went and told my aunt, and she asked him to leave immediately. During this whole thing my biological mom was in Florida, and she started driving back when she heard. When they got back from Florida they told me that he sent them the pictures he took of her body. I nearly lost it after hearing that. She would’ve NEVER wanted ANYONE to see her like that, and this sick piece of trash is sending pictures of her body to people. I also found out that he not only sent the pictures to them, but also sent them to her co-workers. I contacted one of them who admitted that he sent them to her, but she didn’t want to lose her job by getting involved. She deserved so much better than this. I’m just wondering, if you’ve read this, what would your opinion be about this whole situation. I am so heartbroken over all this, and this guy taking illegal pictures of my mother’s dead body and sending them to who knows how many people. Probably his entire family has them and they’re probably passing them around. I just wanted to know if anyone has been through anything like this? It’s so horrific, and I feel so sick about all of this. I can’t sleep at night, I haven’t slept halfway decent since all this happened.", "role": "user" }, { "content": "It doesnt sound like there's anything illegal here, or anything that caused damages you can sue for. The only potentially problematic thing is this: >The ER just let him back there, without anybody’s permission. But that's more an issue of hospital policy than the law. Was anyone in your family present to refuse his visiting? Also your title says the boss took pictures in the morgue, but the text says it was in the ER. There might be stricter laws about who's allowed to access the deceased, not sure. The best you can do is complain to hospital administration about how this was handled, and maybe they'll tighten their procedures for the future.", "role": "assistant" } ]

[ { "content": "My mother died, her now ex-boss took pictures of her dead body with his cell phone while she was laying in the morgue... He owns a Days Inn. I know the title sounds ghoulish, and that’s because it is. My mother passed away on the 10th, just 5 days from today. Biologically she’s my grandmother, but she and my grandpa adopted me when I was only 5 years old. So she raised me, took care of me and I was there every single day taking care of her up until the very end. She was a very tough woman, she worked every single day she could at Days Inn. She completely refused to stop working. After my grandpa passed away a couple years ago she felt that she needed to keep busy, to keep her mind off everything. Her boss, who is from Pakistan, wasn’t always the nicest guy to her. There were times I liked him, and other times I hated him. She would come home crying some days due to the way he treated her at work, yelling at her, making fun of her and childish things. On the 10th she had a massive heart attack, and died in my arms. I tried doing CPR on her and I called 911 immediately. I called my aunt and uncle, they got there and soon after her boss showed up. The ER just let him back there, without anybody’s permission. When he gets back there he kept repeating the same trash like ‘Oh man that’s life, life’s tough man.’ Seriously. My grandma worked for this scumbag for 20 years. She worked there before he even bought the hotel and changed the name to Days Inn. She was the head maid there. So when he walked back there where her body was, I was seriously having a nervous breakdown. She didn’t look like herself at all. She always wore a wig, she always wore makeup (most of it was on my shirt from trying everything I could to resuscitate her and keep her alive), and her false teeth had fallen out. All of a sudden he picked up his cell phone and started snapping multiple pictures of her body laying there and laughing at the same time. At the time I couldn’t even believe what happened. My mind was so messed up and I felt like I was in some sort of nightmare. I couldn’t believe anyone would do something like that to somebody, especially someone who worked for them for 20 years. I hit the floor and my chest felt like it was seriously about to cave in, I felt like I couldn’t breathe. I went and told my aunt, and she asked him to leave immediately. During this whole thing my biological mom was in Florida, and she started driving back when she heard. When they got back from Florida they told me that he sent them the pictures he took of her body. I nearly lost it after hearing that. She would’ve NEVER wanted ANYONE to see her like that, and this sick piece of trash is sending pictures of her body to people. I also found out that he not only sent the pictures to them, but also sent them to her co-workers. I contacted one of them who admitted that he sent them to her, but she didn’t want to lose her job by getting involved. She deserved so much better than this. I’m just wondering, if you’ve read this, what would your opinion be about this whole situation. I am so heartbroken over all this, and this guy taking illegal pictures of my mother’s dead body and sending them to who knows how many people. Probably his entire family has them and they’re probably passing them around. I just wanted to know if anyone has been through anything like this? It’s so horrific, and I feel so sick about all of this. I can’t sleep at night, I haven’t slept halfway decent since all this happened.", "role": "user" }, { "content": "Contacting corporate might also be a good idea. Everyone involved should report their own interaction with him so they can get a clear picture.", "role": "assistant" } ]

[ { "content": "My mother died, her now ex-boss took pictures of her dead body with his cell phone while she was laying in the morgue... He owns a Days Inn. I know the title sounds ghoulish, and that’s because it is. My mother passed away on the 10th, just 5 days from today. Biologically she’s my grandmother, but she and my grandpa adopted me when I was only 5 years old. So she raised me, took care of me and I was there every single day taking care of her up until the very end. She was a very tough woman, she worked every single day she could at Days Inn. She completely refused to stop working. After my grandpa passed away a couple years ago she felt that she needed to keep busy, to keep her mind off everything. Her boss, who is from Pakistan, wasn’t always the nicest guy to her. There were times I liked him, and other times I hated him. She would come home crying some days due to the way he treated her at work, yelling at her, making fun of her and childish things. On the 10th she had a massive heart attack, and died in my arms. I tried doing CPR on her and I called 911 immediately. I called my aunt and uncle, they got there and soon after her boss showed up. The ER just let him back there, without anybody’s permission. When he gets back there he kept repeating the same trash like ‘Oh man that’s life, life’s tough man.’ Seriously. My grandma worked for this scumbag for 20 years. She worked there before he even bought the hotel and changed the name to Days Inn. She was the head maid there. So when he walked back there where her body was, I was seriously having a nervous breakdown. She didn’t look like herself at all. She always wore a wig, she always wore makeup (most of it was on my shirt from trying everything I could to resuscitate her and keep her alive), and her false teeth had fallen out. All of a sudden he picked up his cell phone and started snapping multiple pictures of her body laying there and laughing at the same time. At the time I couldn’t even believe what happened. My mind was so messed up and I felt like I was in some sort of nightmare. I couldn’t believe anyone would do something like that to somebody, especially someone who worked for them for 20 years. I hit the floor and my chest felt like it was seriously about to cave in, I felt like I couldn’t breathe. I went and told my aunt, and she asked him to leave immediately. During this whole thing my biological mom was in Florida, and she started driving back when she heard. When they got back from Florida they told me that he sent them the pictures he took of her body. I nearly lost it after hearing that. She would’ve NEVER wanted ANYONE to see her like that, and this sick piece of trash is sending pictures of her body to people. I also found out that he not only sent the pictures to them, but also sent them to her co-workers. I contacted one of them who admitted that he sent them to her, but she didn’t want to lose her job by getting involved. She deserved so much better than this. I’m just wondering, if you’ve read this, what would your opinion be about this whole situation. I am so heartbroken over all this, and this guy taking illegal pictures of my mother’s dead body and sending them to who knows how many people. Probably his entire family has them and they’re probably passing them around. I just wanted to know if anyone has been through anything like this? It’s so horrific, and I feel so sick about all of this. I can’t sleep at night, I haven’t slept halfway decent since all this happened.", "role": "user" }, { "content": "It doesnt sound like there's anything illegal here, or anything that caused damages you can sue for. The only potentially problematic thing is this: >The ER just let him back there, without anybody’s permission. But that's more an issue of hospital policy than the law. Was anyone in your family present to refuse his visiting? Also your title says the boss took pictures in the morgue, but the text says it was in the ER. There might be stricter laws about who's allowed to access the deceased, not sure. The best you can do is complain to hospital administration about how this was handled, and maybe they'll tighten their procedures for the future.", "role": "assistant" } ]

[ { "content": "My mother died, her now ex-boss took pictures of her dead body with his cell phone while she was laying in the morgue... He owns a Days Inn. I know the title sounds ghoulish, and that’s because it is. My mother passed away on the 10th, just 5 days from today. Biologically she’s my grandmother, but she and my grandpa adopted me when I was only 5 years old. So she raised me, took care of me and I was there every single day taking care of her up until the very end. She was a very tough woman, she worked every single day she could at Days Inn. She completely refused to stop working. After my grandpa passed away a couple years ago she felt that she needed to keep busy, to keep her mind off everything. Her boss, who is from Pakistan, wasn’t always the nicest guy to her. There were times I liked him, and other times I hated him. She would come home crying some days due to the way he treated her at work, yelling at her, making fun of her and childish things. On the 10th she had a massive heart attack, and died in my arms. I tried doing CPR on her and I called 911 immediately. I called my aunt and uncle, they got there and soon after her boss showed up. The ER just let him back there, without anybody’s permission. When he gets back there he kept repeating the same trash like ‘Oh man that’s life, life’s tough man.’ Seriously. My grandma worked for this scumbag for 20 years. She worked there before he even bought the hotel and changed the name to Days Inn. She was the head maid there. So when he walked back there where her body was, I was seriously having a nervous breakdown. She didn’t look like herself at all. She always wore a wig, she always wore makeup (most of it was on my shirt from trying everything I could to resuscitate her and keep her alive), and her false teeth had fallen out. All of a sudden he picked up his cell phone and started snapping multiple pictures of her body laying there and laughing at the same time. At the time I couldn’t even believe what happened. My mind was so messed up and I felt like I was in some sort of nightmare. I couldn’t believe anyone would do something like that to somebody, especially someone who worked for them for 20 years. I hit the floor and my chest felt like it was seriously about to cave in, I felt like I couldn’t breathe. I went and told my aunt, and she asked him to leave immediately. During this whole thing my biological mom was in Florida, and she started driving back when she heard. When they got back from Florida they told me that he sent them the pictures he took of her body. I nearly lost it after hearing that. She would’ve NEVER wanted ANYONE to see her like that, and this sick piece of trash is sending pictures of her body to people. I also found out that he not only sent the pictures to them, but also sent them to her co-workers. I contacted one of them who admitted that he sent them to her, but she didn’t want to lose her job by getting involved. She deserved so much better than this. I’m just wondering, if you’ve read this, what would your opinion be about this whole situation. I am so heartbroken over all this, and this guy taking illegal pictures of my mother’s dead body and sending them to who knows how many people. Probably his entire family has them and they’re probably passing them around. I just wanted to know if anyone has been through anything like this? It’s so horrific, and I feel so sick about all of this. I can’t sleep at night, I haven’t slept halfway decent since all this happened.", "role": "user" }, { "content": ">When they got back from Florida they told me that he sent them the pictures he took of her body. Depending on the circumstances, sending family members photos of a deceased loved one *may* constitute criminal harassment. You've got nothing to lose by going to the police and explaining the situation to them.", "role": "assistant" } ]

[ { "content": "My mother died, her now ex-boss took pictures of her dead body with his cell phone while she was laying in the morgue... He owns a Days Inn. I know the title sounds ghoulish, and that’s because it is. My mother passed away on the 10th, just 5 days from today. Biologically she’s my grandmother, but she and my grandpa adopted me when I was only 5 years old. So she raised me, took care of me and I was there every single day taking care of her up until the very end. She was a very tough woman, she worked every single day she could at Days Inn. She completely refused to stop working. After my grandpa passed away a couple years ago she felt that she needed to keep busy, to keep her mind off everything. Her boss, who is from Pakistan, wasn’t always the nicest guy to her. There were times I liked him, and other times I hated him. She would come home crying some days due to the way he treated her at work, yelling at her, making fun of her and childish things. On the 10th she had a massive heart attack, and died in my arms. I tried doing CPR on her and I called 911 immediately. I called my aunt and uncle, they got there and soon after her boss showed up. The ER just let him back there, without anybody’s permission. When he gets back there he kept repeating the same trash like ‘Oh man that’s life, life’s tough man.’ Seriously. My grandma worked for this scumbag for 20 years. She worked there before he even bought the hotel and changed the name to Days Inn. She was the head maid there. So when he walked back there where her body was, I was seriously having a nervous breakdown. She didn’t look like herself at all. She always wore a wig, she always wore makeup (most of it was on my shirt from trying everything I could to resuscitate her and keep her alive), and her false teeth had fallen out. All of a sudden he picked up his cell phone and started snapping multiple pictures of her body laying there and laughing at the same time. At the time I couldn’t even believe what happened. My mind was so messed up and I felt like I was in some sort of nightmare. I couldn’t believe anyone would do something like that to somebody, especially someone who worked for them for 20 years. I hit the floor and my chest felt like it was seriously about to cave in, I felt like I couldn’t breathe. I went and told my aunt, and she asked him to leave immediately. During this whole thing my biological mom was in Florida, and she started driving back when she heard. When they got back from Florida they told me that he sent them the pictures he took of her body. I nearly lost it after hearing that. She would’ve NEVER wanted ANYONE to see her like that, and this sick piece of trash is sending pictures of her body to people. I also found out that he not only sent the pictures to them, but also sent them to her co-workers. I contacted one of them who admitted that he sent them to her, but she didn’t want to lose her job by getting involved. She deserved so much better than this. I’m just wondering, if you’ve read this, what would your opinion be about this whole situation. I am so heartbroken over all this, and this guy taking illegal pictures of my mother’s dead body and sending them to who knows how many people. Probably his entire family has them and they’re probably passing them around. I just wanted to know if anyone has been through anything like this? It’s so horrific, and I feel so sick about all of this. I can’t sleep at night, I haven’t slept halfway decent since all this happened.", "role": "user" }, { "content": "It doesnt sound like there's anything illegal here, or anything that caused damages you can sue for. The only potentially problematic thing is this: >The ER just let him back there, without anybody’s permission. But that's more an issue of hospital policy than the law. Was anyone in your family present to refuse his visiting? Also your title says the boss took pictures in the morgue, but the text says it was in the ER. There might be stricter laws about who's allowed to access the deceased, not sure. The best you can do is complain to hospital administration about how this was handled, and maybe they'll tighten their procedures for the future.", "role": "assistant" } ]

[ { "content": "My mother died, her now ex-boss took pictures of her dead body with his cell phone while she was laying in the morgue... He owns a Days Inn. I know the title sounds ghoulish, and that’s because it is. My mother passed away on the 10th, just 5 days from today. Biologically she’s my grandmother, but she and my grandpa adopted me when I was only 5 years old. So she raised me, took care of me and I was there every single day taking care of her up until the very end. She was a very tough woman, she worked every single day she could at Days Inn. She completely refused to stop working. After my grandpa passed away a couple years ago she felt that she needed to keep busy, to keep her mind off everything. Her boss, who is from Pakistan, wasn’t always the nicest guy to her. There were times I liked him, and other times I hated him. She would come home crying some days due to the way he treated her at work, yelling at her, making fun of her and childish things. On the 10th she had a massive heart attack, and died in my arms. I tried doing CPR on her and I called 911 immediately. I called my aunt and uncle, they got there and soon after her boss showed up. The ER just let him back there, without anybody’s permission. When he gets back there he kept repeating the same trash like ‘Oh man that’s life, life’s tough man.’ Seriously. My grandma worked for this scumbag for 20 years. She worked there before he even bought the hotel and changed the name to Days Inn. She was the head maid there. So when he walked back there where her body was, I was seriously having a nervous breakdown. She didn’t look like herself at all. She always wore a wig, she always wore makeup (most of it was on my shirt from trying everything I could to resuscitate her and keep her alive), and her false teeth had fallen out. All of a sudden he picked up his cell phone and started snapping multiple pictures of her body laying there and laughing at the same time. At the time I couldn’t even believe what happened. My mind was so messed up and I felt like I was in some sort of nightmare. I couldn’t believe anyone would do something like that to somebody, especially someone who worked for them for 20 years. I hit the floor and my chest felt like it was seriously about to cave in, I felt like I couldn’t breathe. I went and told my aunt, and she asked him to leave immediately. During this whole thing my biological mom was in Florida, and she started driving back when she heard. When they got back from Florida they told me that he sent them the pictures he took of her body. I nearly lost it after hearing that. She would’ve NEVER wanted ANYONE to see her like that, and this sick piece of trash is sending pictures of her body to people. I also found out that he not only sent the pictures to them, but also sent them to her co-workers. I contacted one of them who admitted that he sent them to her, but she didn’t want to lose her job by getting involved. She deserved so much better than this. I’m just wondering, if you’ve read this, what would your opinion be about this whole situation. I am so heartbroken over all this, and this guy taking illegal pictures of my mother’s dead body and sending them to who knows how many people. Probably his entire family has them and they’re probably passing them around. I just wanted to know if anyone has been through anything like this? It’s so horrific, and I feel so sick about all of this. I can’t sleep at night, I haven’t slept halfway decent since all this happened.", "role": "user" }, { "content": "I’m so sorry for your loss. After you have had time to grieve, you could talk to a personal injury lawyer. You may have a claim against him for infliction of emotional distress. Those are hard cases to prove, but if what you said is true, his behavior was pretty outrageous.", "role": "assistant" } ]

[ { "content": "My mother died, her now ex-boss took pictures of her dead body with his cell phone while she was laying in the morgue... He owns a Days Inn. I know the title sounds ghoulish, and that’s because it is. My mother passed away on the 10th, just 5 days from today. Biologically she’s my grandmother, but she and my grandpa adopted me when I was only 5 years old. So she raised me, took care of me and I was there every single day taking care of her up until the very end. She was a very tough woman, she worked every single day she could at Days Inn. She completely refused to stop working. After my grandpa passed away a couple years ago she felt that she needed to keep busy, to keep her mind off everything. Her boss, who is from Pakistan, wasn’t always the nicest guy to her. There were times I liked him, and other times I hated him. She would come home crying some days due to the way he treated her at work, yelling at her, making fun of her and childish things. On the 10th she had a massive heart attack, and died in my arms. I tried doing CPR on her and I called 911 immediately. I called my aunt and uncle, they got there and soon after her boss showed up. The ER just let him back there, without anybody’s permission. When he gets back there he kept repeating the same trash like ‘Oh man that’s life, life’s tough man.’ Seriously. My grandma worked for this scumbag for 20 years. She worked there before he even bought the hotel and changed the name to Days Inn. She was the head maid there. So when he walked back there where her body was, I was seriously having a nervous breakdown. She didn’t look like herself at all. She always wore a wig, she always wore makeup (most of it was on my shirt from trying everything I could to resuscitate her and keep her alive), and her false teeth had fallen out. All of a sudden he picked up his cell phone and started snapping multiple pictures of her body laying there and laughing at the same time. At the time I couldn’t even believe what happened. My mind was so messed up and I felt like I was in some sort of nightmare. I couldn’t believe anyone would do something like that to somebody, especially someone who worked for them for 20 years. I hit the floor and my chest felt like it was seriously about to cave in, I felt like I couldn’t breathe. I went and told my aunt, and she asked him to leave immediately. During this whole thing my biological mom was in Florida, and she started driving back when she heard. When they got back from Florida they told me that he sent them the pictures he took of her body. I nearly lost it after hearing that. She would’ve NEVER wanted ANYONE to see her like that, and this sick piece of trash is sending pictures of her body to people. I also found out that he not only sent the pictures to them, but also sent them to her co-workers. I contacted one of them who admitted that he sent them to her, but she didn’t want to lose her job by getting involved. She deserved so much better than this. I’m just wondering, if you’ve read this, what would your opinion be about this whole situation. I am so heartbroken over all this, and this guy taking illegal pictures of my mother’s dead body and sending them to who knows how many people. Probably his entire family has them and they’re probably passing them around. I just wanted to know if anyone has been through anything like this? It’s so horrific, and I feel so sick about all of this. I can’t sleep at night, I haven’t slept halfway decent since all this happened.", "role": "user" }, { "content": "The question seems to be where did he take the photos. If you were at his place of business, not much you can do. This might be construed as desecration of the dead in some areas, but if it was on his property and he says that he needed information for insurance, osha, etc. he might have a case. If you were in the ER, often times the ER is chaotic and people who shouldn’t be there get in there. Not much you can do about it beyond the desecration thing. If you were in the main part of the hospital, or any department other than the ER (including the morgue). Then you have a leg to stand on. Sue the hospital for damages to your grandmother’s body while it was in their custody. They will then have the legal clout to go against her former employer as he was trespassing and hopefully fire the person who gave him access. Try harassment, try desecrating the dead, I think there might be legal precedent that you cannot slander the dead (but that may be me remembering a movie). In any case, talk to a lawyer and document everything. And yes, that is really skeevy.", "role": "assistant" } ]

[ { "content": "My mother died, her now ex-boss took pictures of her dead body with his cell phone while she was laying in the morgue... He owns a Days Inn. I know the title sounds ghoulish, and that’s because it is. My mother passed away on the 10th, just 5 days from today. Biologically she’s my grandmother, but she and my grandpa adopted me when I was only 5 years old. So she raised me, took care of me and I was there every single day taking care of her up until the very end. She was a very tough woman, she worked every single day she could at Days Inn. She completely refused to stop working. After my grandpa passed away a couple years ago she felt that she needed to keep busy, to keep her mind off everything. Her boss, who is from Pakistan, wasn’t always the nicest guy to her. There were times I liked him, and other times I hated him. She would come home crying some days due to the way he treated her at work, yelling at her, making fun of her and childish things. On the 10th she had a massive heart attack, and died in my arms. I tried doing CPR on her and I called 911 immediately. I called my aunt and uncle, they got there and soon after her boss showed up. The ER just let him back there, without anybody’s permission. When he gets back there he kept repeating the same trash like ‘Oh man that’s life, life’s tough man.’ Seriously. My grandma worked for this scumbag for 20 years. She worked there before he even bought the hotel and changed the name to Days Inn. She was the head maid there. So when he walked back there where her body was, I was seriously having a nervous breakdown. She didn’t look like herself at all. She always wore a wig, she always wore makeup (most of it was on my shirt from trying everything I could to resuscitate her and keep her alive), and her false teeth had fallen out. All of a sudden he picked up his cell phone and started snapping multiple pictures of her body laying there and laughing at the same time. At the time I couldn’t even believe what happened. My mind was so messed up and I felt like I was in some sort of nightmare. I couldn’t believe anyone would do something like that to somebody, especially someone who worked for them for 20 years. I hit the floor and my chest felt like it was seriously about to cave in, I felt like I couldn’t breathe. I went and told my aunt, and she asked him to leave immediately. During this whole thing my biological mom was in Florida, and she started driving back when she heard. When they got back from Florida they told me that he sent them the pictures he took of her body. I nearly lost it after hearing that. She would’ve NEVER wanted ANYONE to see her like that, and this sick piece of trash is sending pictures of her body to people. I also found out that he not only sent the pictures to them, but also sent them to her co-workers. I contacted one of them who admitted that he sent them to her, but she didn’t want to lose her job by getting involved. She deserved so much better than this. I’m just wondering, if you’ve read this, what would your opinion be about this whole situation. I am so heartbroken over all this, and this guy taking illegal pictures of my mother’s dead body and sending them to who knows how many people. Probably his entire family has them and they’re probably passing them around. I just wanted to know if anyone has been through anything like this? It’s so horrific, and I feel so sick about all of this. I can’t sleep at night, I haven’t slept halfway decent since all this happened.", "role": "user" }, { "content": "It may not be illegal, but there is certainly a civil case for intentional infliction of emotional distress per se. > A Florida appellate court recently explained that in cases in which the defendant's outrageous conduct is directed to a third person, the emotional distress felt by the victim's close relatives on learning of the acts is not actionable unless they observed the conduct and the conduct was directed at them; **however, \"unique considerations\" apply in cases involving dead bodies or pictures of dead bodies.** (Williams v. City of Minneola (Fla. Dist. Ct. App. 1991) 575 So.2d 683, 694.) The court held that the mother and sister of a decedent could state a cause of action for outrageous infliction of emotional distress by reckless conduct based on the defendants' exhibition of a videotape of the decedent's autopsy, even though they were not present at the display. It reasoned, **\"One who behaves outrageously with regard to pictures of a dead body can be presumed to know that severe emotional distress will be inflicted thereby on those who were closely related to the deceased, should those survivors become aware of the tortfeasor's behavior.\"** (Id. at p. 693.)", "role": "assistant" } ]

[ { "content": "Alright, so this is gonna be a long one. My dad who left us 10 years ago is now back and wants full custody and has been severely underpaying my mom in child support all while twisting lies about her to his own family (who she considers more of a family than her own) what are our options? So, to preface this, this is my first post in this community and I never thought I’d have a post of my own for here, but after tonight I realized my mom and I needed outside help. I’m 14 years old, a freshman at an amazing high school in GA, and I’m trans. (He/him please), my parents have had a legal separation for the past year or so and now my dad’s pushing for a full divorce to get my mom off of his flight benefits/his health insurance. So, my birthday is in 9 days, and I came out last year to both of my parents on my birthday. It took my mom a few months, but she’s now using my pronouns 100% (except for talking with my dad) but my dad has not made a single effort to even try and treats the topic as taboo. (I might also add here that my dad is terrible at communicating. He can’t have a serious conversation face to face, it always has to be over text). Anyways, this would just be annoying if it weren’t for the fact that my dad is trying his best to make sure I never go on hormones, get surgery, or even have my own life away from him. I understand I am too young for any of this right now, but in the next year or so I want to start seeing a gender therapist in order to start the process. He would put a complete halt on any of it. 1) Is my mom able to medically consent to hrt (hormone replacement therapy) for me, without my father being included in the decision? And 2) is there any way that after starting hrt without my dad’s consent that he could try and get legal custody of me under the premise of my mom being delusional and not looking out for my long term health, or any other similar thing? This is another medical question, and the background to it: I was diagnosed with Generalized Anxiety and Major Depression, as well as a Panic Disorder over two years ago, on 11/27/17. This diagnosis has been supported by another psychiatrist and two therapists as well as my psychiatrist that I see for medicine. I am currently on 15mg of Lexapro (Escitalopram) for long term treatment of depression and anxiety and 50mg of Atarax (Hydroxyzine) to help manage my extreme anxiety symptoms. My dad is planning on using this against my mom to prove that, again, she is delusional and cannot reliably look out for my future best interests. 3) Can he legally use this against my mom to get custody of me/my brother? 4) Can he legally get the court to order the discontinuation of me using my medicine, despite the fact that I’ve shown tremendous improvement? Alright, next question(s), these have to do with Child Support: So for the past 10 years he’s been paying a large amount of child support (60k) despite his salary of 140k at his last airline (he’s a pilot) while also paying 40k in taxes (allegedly, that’s what he told us and I don’t have the most accurate time frame so I can’t look up tax rates, sorry). He’s continued to pay 60k, up until right now, but last year he’d told me on a hiking trip that he made 250k (he was complaining about how much taxes he pays), and I relayed this information to my mom, unbeknownst to me he’d been telling her 200k. He’s been underpaying child support by 8,600$ assuming he made 200k. At one time that may have been his salary, but if he was making 250k he’d be underpaying by 25k, and now it’s come out that he’s actually making 313k when means he’s been underpaying by 47k, which my mom desperately needs. She’s on a salary of 4500$ a year, from her job. She barely has enough money to afford mortgage (above 1k a month), utility bills, food costs, and basic maintenance of the house (fixing the car, fixing the fridge, fixing the washing machine, etc). As it is her car is slowly running out of steam and in two years she’s no longer going to have a working car. She cannot afford her attorney which she found for the cheapest price possible while also guaranteeing that she had a chance to win the court case. 5) Is there any way to get reimbursement of the money he’s been owing my mom the last few years? and 6) How can we guarantee that from now on he’s paying the child support my mom is owed? This next portion is about medically related questions: My mom had two cancer surgeries at the beginning of the year, one for actual cancerous cells in her thyroid, and the other as a preventative surgery for precancerous cells in her uterus. My dad has access to all of the information on the billing about what doctors/procedures she had done since it’s his insurance. My dad has told me, and my brother (13yo but nonetheless ignorant of the whole situation) that my mom never actually had cancer and that both were preventative (which is true for one, but not the other) and he basically told us that my mom was making a much bigger deal out of it than it actually was. Now, keep in mind that when my mom told him she had cancer, he asked if she’d signed the divorce papers his lawyer had sent over. Not a single question about her cancer. He continued to add stress to her over signing the papers and other similar divorce things (seeing a mediator, responding with a counterclaim to his divorce filing, etc) while she was prepping for, and recovering from her cancer surgeries. 7)is there any legal recourse for this involving emotional damages? My mom is less interested in pursuing this route but just seeing all the stress she’s been under since this has started has all but destroyed her ability to relax. Now, my dad claimed he was getting audited by the IRS, and he needed my mom’s full medical receipts in order to straighten out things with the IRS. She sent them over despite being skeptical, but he was actually looking to see if she’d started me on Testosterone without his knowledge. 8) does he have any legal right to go stop my usage of testosterone at any point when I do start it? My final questions are in this paragraph, they are on minor’s privacy rights: My dad presented my mom with records detailing my usage and history of communication with everyone I’ve ever contacted using my phone. Now, I haven’t been doing anything wrong, but it still bothers me that he could potentially be seeing every single thing in writing on any social media I have (Snapchat, Instagram, tumblr, Pinterest, Reddit, Twitter, etc). I feel like I have a right to my privacy at the very least, esp. when I have not been doing anything wrong. I don’t talk to people older than 25, I don’t post every single second of my life on social media, and I don’t do anything illegal, so there’s no possible way for him to get anything to use against my mom in court (from what I know he knows) 9) Do I have the ability to protect my Information on my own phone? 10) could any legal action be taken against him for digging through my phone without my permission or even my knowledge? I would’ve handed over my phone for him to look through if he’d asked, but instead he’s gone behind my back to find out when I’ve been awake and on my phone, and to find information on the people I’ve been communicating with. My dad also has a habit of typing out very long, 3-6 paragraph texts that are usually fairly harsh, he constantly dismisses my mental health issues, and claims I am making up all of my “trans issues” to get attention. 11) Could my mom be at fault for me not responding to my dad’s texts? She asked me to be civil when I responded, and I cannot think of any nice way to respond to his texts, so I haven’t responded. Thank you all so much for reading this information dump, if you need clarification I will be combing through any and all comments you have, and I am also open to adding any information I may have forgotten here. I’m going to be posting the full list of questions just below this paragraph. 1) Is my mom able to medically consent to hrt (hormone replacement therapy) for me, without my father being included in the decision? 2) is there any way that after starting hrt without my dad’s consent that he could try and get legal custody of me under the premise of my mom being delusional and not looking out for my long term health, or any other similar thing? 3) Can he legally use this against my mom to get custody of me/my brother? 4) Can he legally get the court to order the discontinuation of me using my medicine, despite the fact that I’ve shown tremendous improvement? 5) Is there any way to get reimbursement of the money he’s been owing my mom the last few years? 6) How can we guarantee that from now on he’s paying the child support my mom is owed? 7)is there any legal recourse for this involving emotional damages? 8) does he have any legal right to go stop my usage of testosterone at any point when I do start it? 9) Do I have the ability to protect my Information on my own phone? 10) could any legal action be taken against him for digging through my phone without my permission or even my knowledge? 11) Could my mom be at fault for me not responding to my dad’s texts?", "role": "user" }, { "content": "Wait, you say your parents separated a year ago and now your dad wants a divorce and full custody, but he's been paying child support for 10 years after leaving your family? Your story does not make sense.", "role": "assistant" } ]

[ { "content": "Alright, so this is gonna be a long one. My dad who left us 10 years ago is now back and wants full custody and has been severely underpaying my mom in child support all while twisting lies about her to his own family (who she considers more of a family than her own) what are our options? So, to preface this, this is my first post in this community and I never thought I’d have a post of my own for here, but after tonight I realized my mom and I needed outside help. I’m 14 years old, a freshman at an amazing high school in GA, and I’m trans. (He/him please), my parents have had a legal separation for the past year or so and now my dad’s pushing for a full divorce to get my mom off of his flight benefits/his health insurance. So, my birthday is in 9 days, and I came out last year to both of my parents on my birthday. It took my mom a few months, but she’s now using my pronouns 100% (except for talking with my dad) but my dad has not made a single effort to even try and treats the topic as taboo. (I might also add here that my dad is terrible at communicating. He can’t have a serious conversation face to face, it always has to be over text). Anyways, this would just be annoying if it weren’t for the fact that my dad is trying his best to make sure I never go on hormones, get surgery, or even have my own life away from him. I understand I am too young for any of this right now, but in the next year or so I want to start seeing a gender therapist in order to start the process. He would put a complete halt on any of it. 1) Is my mom able to medically consent to hrt (hormone replacement therapy) for me, without my father being included in the decision? And 2) is there any way that after starting hrt without my dad’s consent that he could try and get legal custody of me under the premise of my mom being delusional and not looking out for my long term health, or any other similar thing? This is another medical question, and the background to it: I was diagnosed with Generalized Anxiety and Major Depression, as well as a Panic Disorder over two years ago, on 11/27/17. This diagnosis has been supported by another psychiatrist and two therapists as well as my psychiatrist that I see for medicine. I am currently on 15mg of Lexapro (Escitalopram) for long term treatment of depression and anxiety and 50mg of Atarax (Hydroxyzine) to help manage my extreme anxiety symptoms. My dad is planning on using this against my mom to prove that, again, she is delusional and cannot reliably look out for my future best interests. 3) Can he legally use this against my mom to get custody of me/my brother? 4) Can he legally get the court to order the discontinuation of me using my medicine, despite the fact that I’ve shown tremendous improvement? Alright, next question(s), these have to do with Child Support: So for the past 10 years he’s been paying a large amount of child support (60k) despite his salary of 140k at his last airline (he’s a pilot) while also paying 40k in taxes (allegedly, that’s what he told us and I don’t have the most accurate time frame so I can’t look up tax rates, sorry). He’s continued to pay 60k, up until right now, but last year he’d told me on a hiking trip that he made 250k (he was complaining about how much taxes he pays), and I relayed this information to my mom, unbeknownst to me he’d been telling her 200k. He’s been underpaying child support by 8,600$ assuming he made 200k. At one time that may have been his salary, but if he was making 250k he’d be underpaying by 25k, and now it’s come out that he’s actually making 313k when means he’s been underpaying by 47k, which my mom desperately needs. She’s on a salary of 4500$ a year, from her job. She barely has enough money to afford mortgage (above 1k a month), utility bills, food costs, and basic maintenance of the house (fixing the car, fixing the fridge, fixing the washing machine, etc). As it is her car is slowly running out of steam and in two years she’s no longer going to have a working car. She cannot afford her attorney which she found for the cheapest price possible while also guaranteeing that she had a chance to win the court case. 5) Is there any way to get reimbursement of the money he’s been owing my mom the last few years? and 6) How can we guarantee that from now on he’s paying the child support my mom is owed? This next portion is about medically related questions: My mom had two cancer surgeries at the beginning of the year, one for actual cancerous cells in her thyroid, and the other as a preventative surgery for precancerous cells in her uterus. My dad has access to all of the information on the billing about what doctors/procedures she had done since it’s his insurance. My dad has told me, and my brother (13yo but nonetheless ignorant of the whole situation) that my mom never actually had cancer and that both were preventative (which is true for one, but not the other) and he basically told us that my mom was making a much bigger deal out of it than it actually was. Now, keep in mind that when my mom told him she had cancer, he asked if she’d signed the divorce papers his lawyer had sent over. Not a single question about her cancer. He continued to add stress to her over signing the papers and other similar divorce things (seeing a mediator, responding with a counterclaim to his divorce filing, etc) while she was prepping for, and recovering from her cancer surgeries. 7)is there any legal recourse for this involving emotional damages? My mom is less interested in pursuing this route but just seeing all the stress she’s been under since this has started has all but destroyed her ability to relax. Now, my dad claimed he was getting audited by the IRS, and he needed my mom’s full medical receipts in order to straighten out things with the IRS. She sent them over despite being skeptical, but he was actually looking to see if she’d started me on Testosterone without his knowledge. 8) does he have any legal right to go stop my usage of testosterone at any point when I do start it? My final questions are in this paragraph, they are on minor’s privacy rights: My dad presented my mom with records detailing my usage and history of communication with everyone I’ve ever contacted using my phone. Now, I haven’t been doing anything wrong, but it still bothers me that he could potentially be seeing every single thing in writing on any social media I have (Snapchat, Instagram, tumblr, Pinterest, Reddit, Twitter, etc). I feel like I have a right to my privacy at the very least, esp. when I have not been doing anything wrong. I don’t talk to people older than 25, I don’t post every single second of my life on social media, and I don’t do anything illegal, so there’s no possible way for him to get anything to use against my mom in court (from what I know he knows) 9) Do I have the ability to protect my Information on my own phone? 10) could any legal action be taken against him for digging through my phone without my permission or even my knowledge? I would’ve handed over my phone for him to look through if he’d asked, but instead he’s gone behind my back to find out when I’ve been awake and on my phone, and to find information on the people I’ve been communicating with. My dad also has a habit of typing out very long, 3-6 paragraph texts that are usually fairly harsh, he constantly dismisses my mental health issues, and claims I am making up all of my “trans issues” to get attention. 11) Could my mom be at fault for me not responding to my dad’s texts? She asked me to be civil when I responded, and I cannot think of any nice way to respond to his texts, so I haven’t responded. Thank you all so much for reading this information dump, if you need clarification I will be combing through any and all comments you have, and I am also open to adding any information I may have forgotten here. I’m going to be posting the full list of questions just below this paragraph. 1) Is my mom able to medically consent to hrt (hormone replacement therapy) for me, without my father being included in the decision? 2) is there any way that after starting hrt without my dad’s consent that he could try and get legal custody of me under the premise of my mom being delusional and not looking out for my long term health, or any other similar thing? 3) Can he legally use this against my mom to get custody of me/my brother? 4) Can he legally get the court to order the discontinuation of me using my medicine, despite the fact that I’ve shown tremendous improvement? 5) Is there any way to get reimbursement of the money he’s been owing my mom the last few years? 6) How can we guarantee that from now on he’s paying the child support my mom is owed? 7)is there any legal recourse for this involving emotional damages? 8) does he have any legal right to go stop my usage of testosterone at any point when I do start it? 9) Do I have the ability to protect my Information on my own phone? 10) could any legal action be taken against him for digging through my phone without my permission or even my knowledge? 11) Could my mom be at fault for me not responding to my dad’s texts?", "role": "user" }, { "content": "Not a lawyer, but I am a tech-geek, so some of this falls into my sphere of interest. > 9) Do I have the ability to protect my Information on my own phone? So the first legal question here, is who owns the account? Someone is paying for your phone. If it's your mom, you have a good chance -- if it's your dad, you've got problems. If he's the one paying for the account, he has every legal right on the planet to access everything on it. It's not quite game over from a privacy standpoint, but it's very close. You also need to worry about parental permissions here -- just because you *can* hide things doesn't mean you *should*, and there may be consequences to avoiding parental supervision. I'd talk to your mother first about a lot of these. Now the good news is that from the sounds of it, he probably hasn't actually 'penetrated' your phone -- he's just using the cell company's logs to identify who you talk to, and when. But that's hard to diagnose with certainty with the degree of data you'e provided. That said, from a technical angle there _are_ some things you can do to limit his ability to snoop, even if he owns the account (some of these items, notably the first and fourth, are good ideas period): 1) **Change all your passwords. _All_ of them. *Right now* ** Try not to reuse the same password everywhere. There are services -- I use LastPass, there's KeyPass if you want to keep it local, and so on -- that help with this. Seriously, do this. *NOW*. Don't wait, don't pass go, don't collect 200$, and most assuredly don't read the rest of what I have to say until you do this. Start with your email account -- and I strongly recommend you use one that you can control yourself, such as a gmail account. School accounts can be opened up via the school, and there goes your security. (Legally, you may need to talk to your mother for permission to open said account). I don't have a doubt in my mind that you're reusing passwords, because almost everyone does, and that's a bad idea period. It means once he compromises you on one site, he has you on all of them. 2) Don't use apps, use a browser. And never select 'remember me'. If he owns the account, he probably has the ability to make snapshots of your device. And if an app uses a persistent log in token (or the browser has a persistent cookie), that's a vulnerability he *could* use to access your account. There are supposed to be protections against this, but defense in depth is better. 3) Anything you send/receive via the cell modem is automatically tracked by the cell company -- specifically, the entries are in logs. 99 times out of 100 nobody cares, I'm sorry to say it but it sounds like you may be the 1 out of a 100 where it matters. So you have two options: don't use the cell, or use a proxy to hide what you're doing. Note that SMS messages, since they're routed through the company, are compromised by default in your scenario. Note that this only hides *what* you are doing, not when. 4) Always use HTTPS, never use HTTP. This ties into the proxy advice, as well. If you use HTTPS, it's possible to tell *what* server you're contacting (say, facebook) but not what you're doing there. It's also nigh-impossible to modify your requests mid-flight, and if he's playing games by playing middleman to listen in on what you're doing, HTTPS has protections to detect that. Pay *attention* to the lock icon on your browser bar, and make sure it stays locked!", "role": "assistant" } ]

[ { "content": "Inherited a house I didn't know about and now dad wants me to sign it over to him so he can \"set up a trust fund\"...any advice appreciated (x-post from r/personal finance) A little background: I will be 30 years old next week, and I live in an apartment with my 31 year old brother. We both still have a lot of student loan debt and other expenses, but we manage to get by. Five years ago, our mother died of cancer. My dad, who I used to be very close with, suddenly became like a whole different person (as sometimes happens following a tragedy), and a year after mom dies he starts dating this other woman. They move very quickly, planning a trip to Europe within a couple weeks of meeting one another, and within six months he's basically moved in with her. At this point, my brother and I were still living at home trying to save some money while paying off some our college loans (I was 26 and bro was 27), and suddenly dad wants us to move out ASAP so he can sell the house. I found out much later that she was the one pulling the strings and urging him to kick us out, that we were just \"freeloaders\" (even though we were giving dad as much money as we could afford a month to help with expenses while still saving/paying down debt). Sidenote: she has been divorced 3 times now, dad will be her 4th marriage. Red flag. So that's what we do. I find a nice apartment within our price range and we move out. So now it's 3 years later, my dad is ready to marry this woman in 3 weeks, and I get a call out of the blue from him (we rarely speak even though both my brother and I are in the wedding). Turns out one of the houses (he has two) dad rents out in Louisiana (we live in MA) was actually in my mom's name and my brother and I's name, meaning that when she died 5 years ago, we inherited it. This is the first I've heard of it. So his reason for the call was to tell us that he wants to \"save us the headache of dealing with a house\" and instead set up a trust fund with the money from the house, but in order to do so, we have to sign the house over to him before the wedding, and he wants us to meet with him and a lawyer within the next week or so. I will admit I'm pretty ignorant to stuff of this nature since I've never had to deal with it before, so at first glance I didn't question this and told him okay, that's nice, because I really don't want to deal with a house either. I didn't really think more about it until this morning when I mentioned it to a couple of my coworkers and they were like \"whooaa wait a minute, you guys are over 30, why would you need a trust fund when you should just get the money?\" They also know the ongoing dramatic saga that has been my relationship with my father over the last 5 years, so they told me it sounded like him and his fiance want the money before the wedding. I don't know what to think. Is there something I'm missing? What questions should I be asking? I really don't want to destroy whatever is left of my relationship with my father if I can avoid it, but I also don't want to throw away the possibility of finally being able to pay down our debt and live a more comfortable life. I've been dreaming about not living paycheck to paycheck for years.", "role": "user" }, { "content": "You've already gotten good advice in the other thread. Don't sign the house over. Your father has acted like this house was his for five years and taken the income from it, though he knew it wasn't his. On the other hand, he may have paid the property taxes, may have kept up the house, etc. So that's a good thing. You and your brother should probably speak with a lawyer and figure out how to reassert control over the property and decide what to do with it.", "role": "assistant" } ]

[ { "content": "Inherited a house I didn't know about and now dad wants me to sign it over to him so he can \"set up a trust fund\"...any advice appreciated (x-post from r/personal finance) A little background: I will be 30 years old next week, and I live in an apartment with my 31 year old brother. We both still have a lot of student loan debt and other expenses, but we manage to get by. Five years ago, our mother died of cancer. My dad, who I used to be very close with, suddenly became like a whole different person (as sometimes happens following a tragedy), and a year after mom dies he starts dating this other woman. They move very quickly, planning a trip to Europe within a couple weeks of meeting one another, and within six months he's basically moved in with her. At this point, my brother and I were still living at home trying to save some money while paying off some our college loans (I was 26 and bro was 27), and suddenly dad wants us to move out ASAP so he can sell the house. I found out much later that she was the one pulling the strings and urging him to kick us out, that we were just \"freeloaders\" (even though we were giving dad as much money as we could afford a month to help with expenses while still saving/paying down debt). Sidenote: she has been divorced 3 times now, dad will be her 4th marriage. Red flag. So that's what we do. I find a nice apartment within our price range and we move out. So now it's 3 years later, my dad is ready to marry this woman in 3 weeks, and I get a call out of the blue from him (we rarely speak even though both my brother and I are in the wedding). Turns out one of the houses (he has two) dad rents out in Louisiana (we live in MA) was actually in my mom's name and my brother and I's name, meaning that when she died 5 years ago, we inherited it. This is the first I've heard of it. So his reason for the call was to tell us that he wants to \"save us the headache of dealing with a house\" and instead set up a trust fund with the money from the house, but in order to do so, we have to sign the house over to him before the wedding, and he wants us to meet with him and a lawyer within the next week or so. I will admit I'm pretty ignorant to stuff of this nature since I've never had to deal with it before, so at first glance I didn't question this and told him okay, that's nice, because I really don't want to deal with a house either. I didn't really think more about it until this morning when I mentioned it to a couple of my coworkers and they were like \"whooaa wait a minute, you guys are over 30, why would you need a trust fund when you should just get the money?\" They also know the ongoing dramatic saga that has been my relationship with my father over the last 5 years, so they told me it sounded like him and his fiance want the money before the wedding. I don't know what to think. Is there something I'm missing? What questions should I be asking? I really don't want to destroy whatever is left of my relationship with my father if I can avoid it, but I also don't want to throw away the possibility of finally being able to pay down our debt and live a more comfortable life. I've been dreaming about not living paycheck to paycheck for years.", "role": "user" }, { "content": "Tell him you'll only consider it if he pays you the 5 years of back rental income, lump sum, immediately. If he does, then you can say, \"I considered it, and I'm not gonna do it.\" That's your house. You're nearly 30. You're not a kid. Not even close. There's no way he needs to control your property. You need to do what you need to do to get control of it. Also, to get the rental income coming to YOU, not your dad. I get that you don't want to destroy the relationship, but that's exactly what he's doing... he's trying to take what's yours and benefit from it, while claiming he's doing it \"for your own good.\"", "role": "assistant" } ]

[ { "content": "Inherited a house I didn't know about and now dad wants me to sign it over to him so he can \"set up a trust fund\"...any advice appreciated (x-post from r/personal finance) A little background: I will be 30 years old next week, and I live in an apartment with my 31 year old brother. We both still have a lot of student loan debt and other expenses, but we manage to get by. Five years ago, our mother died of cancer. My dad, who I used to be very close with, suddenly became like a whole different person (as sometimes happens following a tragedy), and a year after mom dies he starts dating this other woman. They move very quickly, planning a trip to Europe within a couple weeks of meeting one another, and within six months he's basically moved in with her. At this point, my brother and I were still living at home trying to save some money while paying off some our college loans (I was 26 and bro was 27), and suddenly dad wants us to move out ASAP so he can sell the house. I found out much later that she was the one pulling the strings and urging him to kick us out, that we were just \"freeloaders\" (even though we were giving dad as much money as we could afford a month to help with expenses while still saving/paying down debt). Sidenote: she has been divorced 3 times now, dad will be her 4th marriage. Red flag. So that's what we do. I find a nice apartment within our price range and we move out. So now it's 3 years later, my dad is ready to marry this woman in 3 weeks, and I get a call out of the blue from him (we rarely speak even though both my brother and I are in the wedding). Turns out one of the houses (he has two) dad rents out in Louisiana (we live in MA) was actually in my mom's name and my brother and I's name, meaning that when she died 5 years ago, we inherited it. This is the first I've heard of it. So his reason for the call was to tell us that he wants to \"save us the headache of dealing with a house\" and instead set up a trust fund with the money from the house, but in order to do so, we have to sign the house over to him before the wedding, and he wants us to meet with him and a lawyer within the next week or so. I will admit I'm pretty ignorant to stuff of this nature since I've never had to deal with it before, so at first glance I didn't question this and told him okay, that's nice, because I really don't want to deal with a house either. I didn't really think more about it until this morning when I mentioned it to a couple of my coworkers and they were like \"whooaa wait a minute, you guys are over 30, why would you need a trust fund when you should just get the money?\" They also know the ongoing dramatic saga that has been my relationship with my father over the last 5 years, so they told me it sounded like him and his fiance want the money before the wedding. I don't know what to think. Is there something I'm missing? What questions should I be asking? I really don't want to destroy whatever is left of my relationship with my father if I can avoid it, but I also don't want to throw away the possibility of finally being able to pay down our debt and live a more comfortable life. I've been dreaming about not living paycheck to paycheck for years.", "role": "user" }, { "content": "It sounds like your dad is trying to hose you. Get a consultation with a probate attorney.", "role": "assistant" } ]

[ { "content": "Inherited a house I didn't know about and now dad wants me to sign it over to him so he can \"set up a trust fund\"...any advice appreciated (x-post from r/personal finance) A little background: I will be 30 years old next week, and I live in an apartment with my 31 year old brother. We both still have a lot of student loan debt and other expenses, but we manage to get by. Five years ago, our mother died of cancer. My dad, who I used to be very close with, suddenly became like a whole different person (as sometimes happens following a tragedy), and a year after mom dies he starts dating this other woman. They move very quickly, planning a trip to Europe within a couple weeks of meeting one another, and within six months he's basically moved in with her. At this point, my brother and I were still living at home trying to save some money while paying off some our college loans (I was 26 and bro was 27), and suddenly dad wants us to move out ASAP so he can sell the house. I found out much later that she was the one pulling the strings and urging him to kick us out, that we were just \"freeloaders\" (even though we were giving dad as much money as we could afford a month to help with expenses while still saving/paying down debt). Sidenote: she has been divorced 3 times now, dad will be her 4th marriage. Red flag. So that's what we do. I find a nice apartment within our price range and we move out. So now it's 3 years later, my dad is ready to marry this woman in 3 weeks, and I get a call out of the blue from him (we rarely speak even though both my brother and I are in the wedding). Turns out one of the houses (he has two) dad rents out in Louisiana (we live in MA) was actually in my mom's name and my brother and I's name, meaning that when she died 5 years ago, we inherited it. This is the first I've heard of it. So his reason for the call was to tell us that he wants to \"save us the headache of dealing with a house\" and instead set up a trust fund with the money from the house, but in order to do so, we have to sign the house over to him before the wedding, and he wants us to meet with him and a lawyer within the next week or so. I will admit I'm pretty ignorant to stuff of this nature since I've never had to deal with it before, so at first glance I didn't question this and told him okay, that's nice, because I really don't want to deal with a house either. I didn't really think more about it until this morning when I mentioned it to a couple of my coworkers and they were like \"whooaa wait a minute, you guys are over 30, why would you need a trust fund when you should just get the money?\" They also know the ongoing dramatic saga that has been my relationship with my father over the last 5 years, so they told me it sounded like him and his fiance want the money before the wedding. I don't know what to think. Is there something I'm missing? What questions should I be asking? I really don't want to destroy whatever is left of my relationship with my father if I can avoid it, but I also don't want to throw away the possibility of finally being able to pay down our debt and live a more comfortable life. I've been dreaming about not living paycheck to paycheck for years.", "role": "user" }, { "content": "Tell him you'll only consider it if he pays you the 5 years of back rental income, lump sum, immediately. If he does, then you can say, \"I considered it, and I'm not gonna do it.\" That's your house. You're nearly 30. You're not a kid. Not even close. There's no way he needs to control your property. You need to do what you need to do to get control of it. Also, to get the rental income coming to YOU, not your dad. I get that you don't want to destroy the relationship, but that's exactly what he's doing... he's trying to take what's yours and benefit from it, while claiming he's doing it \"for your own good.\"", "role": "assistant" } ]

[ { "content": "Inherited a house I didn't know about and now dad wants me to sign it over to him so he can \"set up a trust fund\"...any advice appreciated (x-post from r/personal finance) A little background: I will be 30 years old next week, and I live in an apartment with my 31 year old brother. We both still have a lot of student loan debt and other expenses, but we manage to get by. Five years ago, our mother died of cancer. My dad, who I used to be very close with, suddenly became like a whole different person (as sometimes happens following a tragedy), and a year after mom dies he starts dating this other woman. They move very quickly, planning a trip to Europe within a couple weeks of meeting one another, and within six months he's basically moved in with her. At this point, my brother and I were still living at home trying to save some money while paying off some our college loans (I was 26 and bro was 27), and suddenly dad wants us to move out ASAP so he can sell the house. I found out much later that she was the one pulling the strings and urging him to kick us out, that we were just \"freeloaders\" (even though we were giving dad as much money as we could afford a month to help with expenses while still saving/paying down debt). Sidenote: she has been divorced 3 times now, dad will be her 4th marriage. Red flag. So that's what we do. I find a nice apartment within our price range and we move out. So now it's 3 years later, my dad is ready to marry this woman in 3 weeks, and I get a call out of the blue from him (we rarely speak even though both my brother and I are in the wedding). Turns out one of the houses (he has two) dad rents out in Louisiana (we live in MA) was actually in my mom's name and my brother and I's name, meaning that when she died 5 years ago, we inherited it. This is the first I've heard of it. So his reason for the call was to tell us that he wants to \"save us the headache of dealing with a house\" and instead set up a trust fund with the money from the house, but in order to do so, we have to sign the house over to him before the wedding, and he wants us to meet with him and a lawyer within the next week or so. I will admit I'm pretty ignorant to stuff of this nature since I've never had to deal with it before, so at first glance I didn't question this and told him okay, that's nice, because I really don't want to deal with a house either. I didn't really think more about it until this morning when I mentioned it to a couple of my coworkers and they were like \"whooaa wait a minute, you guys are over 30, why would you need a trust fund when you should just get the money?\" They also know the ongoing dramatic saga that has been my relationship with my father over the last 5 years, so they told me it sounded like him and his fiance want the money before the wedding. I don't know what to think. Is there something I'm missing? What questions should I be asking? I really don't want to destroy whatever is left of my relationship with my father if I can avoid it, but I also don't want to throw away the possibility of finally being able to pay down our debt and live a more comfortable life. I've been dreaming about not living paycheck to paycheck for years.", "role": "user" }, { "content": "It sounds like your dad is trying to hose you. Get a consultation with a probate attorney.", "role": "assistant" } ]

[ { "content": "Inherited a house I didn't know about and now dad wants me to sign it over to him so he can \"set up a trust fund\"...any advice appreciated (x-post from r/personal finance) A little background: I will be 30 years old next week, and I live in an apartment with my 31 year old brother. We both still have a lot of student loan debt and other expenses, but we manage to get by. Five years ago, our mother died of cancer. My dad, who I used to be very close with, suddenly became like a whole different person (as sometimes happens following a tragedy), and a year after mom dies he starts dating this other woman. They move very quickly, planning a trip to Europe within a couple weeks of meeting one another, and within six months he's basically moved in with her. At this point, my brother and I were still living at home trying to save some money while paying off some our college loans (I was 26 and bro was 27), and suddenly dad wants us to move out ASAP so he can sell the house. I found out much later that she was the one pulling the strings and urging him to kick us out, that we were just \"freeloaders\" (even though we were giving dad as much money as we could afford a month to help with expenses while still saving/paying down debt). Sidenote: she has been divorced 3 times now, dad will be her 4th marriage. Red flag. So that's what we do. I find a nice apartment within our price range and we move out. So now it's 3 years later, my dad is ready to marry this woman in 3 weeks, and I get a call out of the blue from him (we rarely speak even though both my brother and I are in the wedding). Turns out one of the houses (he has two) dad rents out in Louisiana (we live in MA) was actually in my mom's name and my brother and I's name, meaning that when she died 5 years ago, we inherited it. This is the first I've heard of it. So his reason for the call was to tell us that he wants to \"save us the headache of dealing with a house\" and instead set up a trust fund with the money from the house, but in order to do so, we have to sign the house over to him before the wedding, and he wants us to meet with him and a lawyer within the next week or so. I will admit I'm pretty ignorant to stuff of this nature since I've never had to deal with it before, so at first glance I didn't question this and told him okay, that's nice, because I really don't want to deal with a house either. I didn't really think more about it until this morning when I mentioned it to a couple of my coworkers and they were like \"whooaa wait a minute, you guys are over 30, why would you need a trust fund when you should just get the money?\" They also know the ongoing dramatic saga that has been my relationship with my father over the last 5 years, so they told me it sounded like him and his fiance want the money before the wedding. I don't know what to think. Is there something I'm missing? What questions should I be asking? I really don't want to destroy whatever is left of my relationship with my father if I can avoid it, but I also don't want to throw away the possibility of finally being able to pay down our debt and live a more comfortable life. I've been dreaming about not living paycheck to paycheck for years.", "role": "user" }, { "content": "I agree with an attorney but you should also consider that your mother may have had other assets that were in your name only. Was there a will?", "role": "assistant" } ]

[ { "content": "Inherited a house I didn't know about and now dad wants me to sign it over to him so he can \"set up a trust fund\"...any advice appreciated (x-post from r/personal finance) A little background: I will be 30 years old next week, and I live in an apartment with my 31 year old brother. We both still have a lot of student loan debt and other expenses, but we manage to get by. Five years ago, our mother died of cancer. My dad, who I used to be very close with, suddenly became like a whole different person (as sometimes happens following a tragedy), and a year after mom dies he starts dating this other woman. They move very quickly, planning a trip to Europe within a couple weeks of meeting one another, and within six months he's basically moved in with her. At this point, my brother and I were still living at home trying to save some money while paying off some our college loans (I was 26 and bro was 27), and suddenly dad wants us to move out ASAP so he can sell the house. I found out much later that she was the one pulling the strings and urging him to kick us out, that we were just \"freeloaders\" (even though we were giving dad as much money as we could afford a month to help with expenses while still saving/paying down debt). Sidenote: she has been divorced 3 times now, dad will be her 4th marriage. Red flag. So that's what we do. I find a nice apartment within our price range and we move out. So now it's 3 years later, my dad is ready to marry this woman in 3 weeks, and I get a call out of the blue from him (we rarely speak even though both my brother and I are in the wedding). Turns out one of the houses (he has two) dad rents out in Louisiana (we live in MA) was actually in my mom's name and my brother and I's name, meaning that when she died 5 years ago, we inherited it. This is the first I've heard of it. So his reason for the call was to tell us that he wants to \"save us the headache of dealing with a house\" and instead set up a trust fund with the money from the house, but in order to do so, we have to sign the house over to him before the wedding, and he wants us to meet with him and a lawyer within the next week or so. I will admit I'm pretty ignorant to stuff of this nature since I've never had to deal with it before, so at first glance I didn't question this and told him okay, that's nice, because I really don't want to deal with a house either. I didn't really think more about it until this morning when I mentioned it to a couple of my coworkers and they were like \"whooaa wait a minute, you guys are over 30, why would you need a trust fund when you should just get the money?\" They also know the ongoing dramatic saga that has been my relationship with my father over the last 5 years, so they told me it sounded like him and his fiance want the money before the wedding. I don't know what to think. Is there something I'm missing? What questions should I be asking? I really don't want to destroy whatever is left of my relationship with my father if I can avoid it, but I also don't want to throw away the possibility of finally being able to pay down our debt and live a more comfortable life. I've been dreaming about not living paycheck to paycheck for years.", "role": "user" }, { "content": "Follow up question for the lawers on the thread. Assuming he and/or his brother weren't notified after his mothers death, what kind of problems could the executor of her estate get into?", "role": "assistant" } ]

[ { "content": "Inherited a house I didn't know about and now dad wants me to sign it over to him so he can \"set up a trust fund\"...any advice appreciated (x-post from r/personal finance) A little background: I will be 30 years old next week, and I live in an apartment with my 31 year old brother. We both still have a lot of student loan debt and other expenses, but we manage to get by. Five years ago, our mother died of cancer. My dad, who I used to be very close with, suddenly became like a whole different person (as sometimes happens following a tragedy), and a year after mom dies he starts dating this other woman. They move very quickly, planning a trip to Europe within a couple weeks of meeting one another, and within six months he's basically moved in with her. At this point, my brother and I were still living at home trying to save some money while paying off some our college loans (I was 26 and bro was 27), and suddenly dad wants us to move out ASAP so he can sell the house. I found out much later that she was the one pulling the strings and urging him to kick us out, that we were just \"freeloaders\" (even though we were giving dad as much money as we could afford a month to help with expenses while still saving/paying down debt). Sidenote: she has been divorced 3 times now, dad will be her 4th marriage. Red flag. So that's what we do. I find a nice apartment within our price range and we move out. So now it's 3 years later, my dad is ready to marry this woman in 3 weeks, and I get a call out of the blue from him (we rarely speak even though both my brother and I are in the wedding). Turns out one of the houses (he has two) dad rents out in Louisiana (we live in MA) was actually in my mom's name and my brother and I's name, meaning that when she died 5 years ago, we inherited it. This is the first I've heard of it. So his reason for the call was to tell us that he wants to \"save us the headache of dealing with a house\" and instead set up a trust fund with the money from the house, but in order to do so, we have to sign the house over to him before the wedding, and he wants us to meet with him and a lawyer within the next week or so. I will admit I'm pretty ignorant to stuff of this nature since I've never had to deal with it before, so at first glance I didn't question this and told him okay, that's nice, because I really don't want to deal with a house either. I didn't really think more about it until this morning when I mentioned it to a couple of my coworkers and they were like \"whooaa wait a minute, you guys are over 30, why would you need a trust fund when you should just get the money?\" They also know the ongoing dramatic saga that has been my relationship with my father over the last 5 years, so they told me it sounded like him and his fiance want the money before the wedding. I don't know what to think. Is there something I'm missing? What questions should I be asking? I really don't want to destroy whatever is left of my relationship with my father if I can avoid it, but I also don't want to throw away the possibility of finally being able to pay down our debt and live a more comfortable life. I've been dreaming about not living paycheck to paycheck for years.", "role": "user" }, { "content": "I agree with an attorney but you should also consider that your mother may have had other assets that were in your name only. Was there a will?", "role": "assistant" } ]

[ { "content": "Inherited a house I didn't know about and now dad wants me to sign it over to him so he can \"set up a trust fund\"...any advice appreciated (x-post from r/personal finance) A little background: I will be 30 years old next week, and I live in an apartment with my 31 year old brother. We both still have a lot of student loan debt and other expenses, but we manage to get by. Five years ago, our mother died of cancer. My dad, who I used to be very close with, suddenly became like a whole different person (as sometimes happens following a tragedy), and a year after mom dies he starts dating this other woman. They move very quickly, planning a trip to Europe within a couple weeks of meeting one another, and within six months he's basically moved in with her. At this point, my brother and I were still living at home trying to save some money while paying off some our college loans (I was 26 and bro was 27), and suddenly dad wants us to move out ASAP so he can sell the house. I found out much later that she was the one pulling the strings and urging him to kick us out, that we were just \"freeloaders\" (even though we were giving dad as much money as we could afford a month to help with expenses while still saving/paying down debt). Sidenote: she has been divorced 3 times now, dad will be her 4th marriage. Red flag. So that's what we do. I find a nice apartment within our price range and we move out. So now it's 3 years later, my dad is ready to marry this woman in 3 weeks, and I get a call out of the blue from him (we rarely speak even though both my brother and I are in the wedding). Turns out one of the houses (he has two) dad rents out in Louisiana (we live in MA) was actually in my mom's name and my brother and I's name, meaning that when she died 5 years ago, we inherited it. This is the first I've heard of it. So his reason for the call was to tell us that he wants to \"save us the headache of dealing with a house\" and instead set up a trust fund with the money from the house, but in order to do so, we have to sign the house over to him before the wedding, and he wants us to meet with him and a lawyer within the next week or so. I will admit I'm pretty ignorant to stuff of this nature since I've never had to deal with it before, so at first glance I didn't question this and told him okay, that's nice, because I really don't want to deal with a house either. I didn't really think more about it until this morning when I mentioned it to a couple of my coworkers and they were like \"whooaa wait a minute, you guys are over 30, why would you need a trust fund when you should just get the money?\" They also know the ongoing dramatic saga that has been my relationship with my father over the last 5 years, so they told me it sounded like him and his fiance want the money before the wedding. I don't know what to think. Is there something I'm missing? What questions should I be asking? I really don't want to destroy whatever is left of my relationship with my father if I can avoid it, but I also don't want to throw away the possibility of finally being able to pay down our debt and live a more comfortable life. I've been dreaming about not living paycheck to paycheck for years.", "role": "user" }, { "content": "Please don't talk to your father anymore about this until you consult with an attorney. They can guide you in this. You have THREE properties that you and your brother should have AT LEAST majority control of. There is a lot of money on the line. To discuss it anymore with him or his attorney without talking with your own is a mistake. There is a great deal of risk and money on the line here. Also, your father sounds like a scum bag. You didn't and will not hurt your relationship. He did. Consider trying to transform these properties into a continual residual income. It could really transform your life allowing you to not be in a position of debt any more AND possibly having a survivable income for you and your brother.", "role": "assistant" } ]

[ { "content": "Inherited a house I didn't know about and now dad wants me to sign it over to him so he can \"set up a trust fund\"...any advice appreciated (x-post from r/personal finance) A little background: I will be 30 years old next week, and I live in an apartment with my 31 year old brother. We both still have a lot of student loan debt and other expenses, but we manage to get by. Five years ago, our mother died of cancer. My dad, who I used to be very close with, suddenly became like a whole different person (as sometimes happens following a tragedy), and a year after mom dies he starts dating this other woman. They move very quickly, planning a trip to Europe within a couple weeks of meeting one another, and within six months he's basically moved in with her. At this point, my brother and I were still living at home trying to save some money while paying off some our college loans (I was 26 and bro was 27), and suddenly dad wants us to move out ASAP so he can sell the house. I found out much later that she was the one pulling the strings and urging him to kick us out, that we were just \"freeloaders\" (even though we were giving dad as much money as we could afford a month to help with expenses while still saving/paying down debt). Sidenote: she has been divorced 3 times now, dad will be her 4th marriage. Red flag. So that's what we do. I find a nice apartment within our price range and we move out. So now it's 3 years later, my dad is ready to marry this woman in 3 weeks, and I get a call out of the blue from him (we rarely speak even though both my brother and I are in the wedding). Turns out one of the houses (he has two) dad rents out in Louisiana (we live in MA) was actually in my mom's name and my brother and I's name, meaning that when she died 5 years ago, we inherited it. This is the first I've heard of it. So his reason for the call was to tell us that he wants to \"save us the headache of dealing with a house\" and instead set up a trust fund with the money from the house, but in order to do so, we have to sign the house over to him before the wedding, and he wants us to meet with him and a lawyer within the next week or so. I will admit I'm pretty ignorant to stuff of this nature since I've never had to deal with it before, so at first glance I didn't question this and told him okay, that's nice, because I really don't want to deal with a house either. I didn't really think more about it until this morning when I mentioned it to a couple of my coworkers and they were like \"whooaa wait a minute, you guys are over 30, why would you need a trust fund when you should just get the money?\" They also know the ongoing dramatic saga that has been my relationship with my father over the last 5 years, so they told me it sounded like him and his fiance want the money before the wedding. I don't know what to think. Is there something I'm missing? What questions should I be asking? I really don't want to destroy whatever is left of my relationship with my father if I can avoid it, but I also don't want to throw away the possibility of finally being able to pay down our debt and live a more comfortable life. I've been dreaming about not living paycheck to paycheck for years.", "role": "user" }, { "content": "I agree with an attorney but you should also consider that your mother may have had other assets that were in your name only. Was there a will?", "role": "assistant" } ]

[ { "content": "My teenage daughter's friend is staying with us, CPS has been called on her parents. Her mom is a hoarder and the house is unlivable. What do I need to do legally? My daughter is 17, her friend will be 18 in 6 months. I'll call the friend Nancy. This weekend Nancy came to stay with us because her extended family was holding an \"intervention\". Nancy had called an aunt who lives in another city and told her there was mold, insects, and feces in the house, and now that it's getting cold Nancy can't sleep with the windows open to mitigate the smell. Dad is an alcoholic, but functional. He does nothing about the hoarding, but he does work and provide for the family financially. There was no professional involved in this intervention. The family told Nancy's mom that a company was going to come today and clean everything out of the house, and she had from then (Saturday) to today to put anything she wanted to keep in boxes and remove them. Yesterday Nancy's mom called the police and told them anyone that came today to take her stuff would be \"escorted off her property.\" Her family then called CPS. I have a friendly relationship with Nancy's mom and she texted my husband and I this weekend to say thanks for letting Nancy stay with us. I texted her today to see if she will meet me for coffee so we can talk. Have not heard back. Do I need to contact CPS and let them know Nancy is staying with us? Is there anything I can do to help Nancy be able to keep staying with us? I don't want her to be forced to move back home if she doesn't want to, or be forced to move in with relatives out of town and have to change schools, on top of all the chaos she's been living in. She's a great kid and my daughter's best friend. Her mom is in complete denial and is currently decluttering, as though that's all that needs to be done. It sounds like the house needs to be gutted down to the studs and even the sub floors need to be torn out and replaced. I know a family lawyer and can hire them if I need to.", "role": "user" }, { "content": "I'd recommend looking online for temporary guardianship forms and having one with you if to do manage to meet with either of Nancy's parents. If they'll sign it willingly, it gives you a leg up in the process, and legally clears you to take Nancy to the doctor, sign school permission slips, etc. Note that this does not override their natural rights as parents, so it's still best if CPS formally places Nancy with you, but the form can be a helpful interim measure while the formal paperwork is getting worked out, and it documents their trust in you and willingness to have you watch over Nancy. I am not a lawyer but have used temporary guardianship forms regularly when my kids are traveling with other people or we're watching someone else's child.", "role": "assistant" } ]

[ { "content": "My teenage daughter's friend is staying with us, CPS has been called on her parents. Her mom is a hoarder and the house is unlivable. What do I need to do legally? My daughter is 17, her friend will be 18 in 6 months. I'll call the friend Nancy. This weekend Nancy came to stay with us because her extended family was holding an \"intervention\". Nancy had called an aunt who lives in another city and told her there was mold, insects, and feces in the house, and now that it's getting cold Nancy can't sleep with the windows open to mitigate the smell. Dad is an alcoholic, but functional. He does nothing about the hoarding, but he does work and provide for the family financially. There was no professional involved in this intervention. The family told Nancy's mom that a company was going to come today and clean everything out of the house, and she had from then (Saturday) to today to put anything she wanted to keep in boxes and remove them. Yesterday Nancy's mom called the police and told them anyone that came today to take her stuff would be \"escorted off her property.\" Her family then called CPS. I have a friendly relationship with Nancy's mom and she texted my husband and I this weekend to say thanks for letting Nancy stay with us. I texted her today to see if she will meet me for coffee so we can talk. Have not heard back. Do I need to contact CPS and let them know Nancy is staying with us? Is there anything I can do to help Nancy be able to keep staying with us? I don't want her to be forced to move back home if she doesn't want to, or be forced to move in with relatives out of town and have to change schools, on top of all the chaos she's been living in. She's a great kid and my daughter's best friend. Her mom is in complete denial and is currently decluttering, as though that's all that needs to be done. It sounds like the house needs to be gutted down to the studs and even the sub floors need to be torn out and replaced. I know a family lawyer and can hire them if I need to.", "role": "user" }, { "content": "Thanks for doing that for her. I moved in with my friend's family in high school and I still go see them every week and spend the holidays with them. I don't know how I would have even made it without the stability they provided for me.", "role": "assistant" } ]

[ { "content": "My teenage daughter's friend is staying with us, CPS has been called on her parents. Her mom is a hoarder and the house is unlivable. What do I need to do legally? My daughter is 17, her friend will be 18 in 6 months. I'll call the friend Nancy. This weekend Nancy came to stay with us because her extended family was holding an \"intervention\". Nancy had called an aunt who lives in another city and told her there was mold, insects, and feces in the house, and now that it's getting cold Nancy can't sleep with the windows open to mitigate the smell. Dad is an alcoholic, but functional. He does nothing about the hoarding, but he does work and provide for the family financially. There was no professional involved in this intervention. The family told Nancy's mom that a company was going to come today and clean everything out of the house, and she had from then (Saturday) to today to put anything she wanted to keep in boxes and remove them. Yesterday Nancy's mom called the police and told them anyone that came today to take her stuff would be \"escorted off her property.\" Her family then called CPS. I have a friendly relationship with Nancy's mom and she texted my husband and I this weekend to say thanks for letting Nancy stay with us. I texted her today to see if she will meet me for coffee so we can talk. Have not heard back. Do I need to contact CPS and let them know Nancy is staying with us? Is there anything I can do to help Nancy be able to keep staying with us? I don't want her to be forced to move back home if she doesn't want to, or be forced to move in with relatives out of town and have to change schools, on top of all the chaos she's been living in. She's a great kid and my daughter's best friend. Her mom is in complete denial and is currently decluttering, as though that's all that needs to be done. It sounds like the house needs to be gutted down to the studs and even the sub floors need to be torn out and replaced. I know a family lawyer and can hire them if I need to.", "role": "user" }, { "content": "I'm gonna have to say inform CPS, it's important for them to have information relevant to the child's whereabouts while conducting any investigation. Considering the state of her Mom's home and that her Mom is seemingly supportive of it, and that she's 6 months away from being an adult, I highly doubt they'll have any problem with it. So contacting them will be in both hers and your best interests, you may want to see about a consultation with your family lawyer just to be on the safe side though. My biggest recommendation would honestly be to see what the plans are for her when she turns 18.", "role": "assistant" } ]

[ { "content": "My teenage daughter's friend is staying with us, CPS has been called on her parents. Her mom is a hoarder and the house is unlivable. What do I need to do legally? My daughter is 17, her friend will be 18 in 6 months. I'll call the friend Nancy. This weekend Nancy came to stay with us because her extended family was holding an \"intervention\". Nancy had called an aunt who lives in another city and told her there was mold, insects, and feces in the house, and now that it's getting cold Nancy can't sleep with the windows open to mitigate the smell. Dad is an alcoholic, but functional. He does nothing about the hoarding, but he does work and provide for the family financially. There was no professional involved in this intervention. The family told Nancy's mom that a company was going to come today and clean everything out of the house, and she had from then (Saturday) to today to put anything she wanted to keep in boxes and remove them. Yesterday Nancy's mom called the police and told them anyone that came today to take her stuff would be \"escorted off her property.\" Her family then called CPS. I have a friendly relationship with Nancy's mom and she texted my husband and I this weekend to say thanks for letting Nancy stay with us. I texted her today to see if she will meet me for coffee so we can talk. Have not heard back. Do I need to contact CPS and let them know Nancy is staying with us? Is there anything I can do to help Nancy be able to keep staying with us? I don't want her to be forced to move back home if she doesn't want to, or be forced to move in with relatives out of town and have to change schools, on top of all the chaos she's been living in. She's a great kid and my daughter's best friend. Her mom is in complete denial and is currently decluttering, as though that's all that needs to be done. It sounds like the house needs to be gutted down to the studs and even the sub floors need to be torn out and replaced. I know a family lawyer and can hire them if I need to.", "role": "user" }, { "content": "Thanks for doing that for her. I moved in with my friend's family in high school and I still go see them every week and spend the holidays with them. I don't know how I would have even made it without the stability they provided for me.", "role": "assistant" } ]

[ { "content": "My teenage daughter's friend is staying with us, CPS has been called on her parents. Her mom is a hoarder and the house is unlivable. What do I need to do legally? My daughter is 17, her friend will be 18 in 6 months. I'll call the friend Nancy. This weekend Nancy came to stay with us because her extended family was holding an \"intervention\". Nancy had called an aunt who lives in another city and told her there was mold, insects, and feces in the house, and now that it's getting cold Nancy can't sleep with the windows open to mitigate the smell. Dad is an alcoholic, but functional. He does nothing about the hoarding, but he does work and provide for the family financially. There was no professional involved in this intervention. The family told Nancy's mom that a company was going to come today and clean everything out of the house, and she had from then (Saturday) to today to put anything she wanted to keep in boxes and remove them. Yesterday Nancy's mom called the police and told them anyone that came today to take her stuff would be \"escorted off her property.\" Her family then called CPS. I have a friendly relationship with Nancy's mom and she texted my husband and I this weekend to say thanks for letting Nancy stay with us. I texted her today to see if she will meet me for coffee so we can talk. Have not heard back. Do I need to contact CPS and let them know Nancy is staying with us? Is there anything I can do to help Nancy be able to keep staying with us? I don't want her to be forced to move back home if she doesn't want to, or be forced to move in with relatives out of town and have to change schools, on top of all the chaos she's been living in. She's a great kid and my daughter's best friend. Her mom is in complete denial and is currently decluttering, as though that's all that needs to be done. It sounds like the house needs to be gutted down to the studs and even the sub floors need to be torn out and replaced. I know a family lawyer and can hire them if I need to.", "role": "user" }, { "content": "I'm gonna have to say inform CPS, it's important for them to have information relevant to the child's whereabouts while conducting any investigation. Considering the state of her Mom's home and that her Mom is seemingly supportive of it, and that she's 6 months away from being an adult, I highly doubt they'll have any problem with it. So contacting them will be in both hers and your best interests, you may want to see about a consultation with your family lawyer just to be on the safe side though. My biggest recommendation would honestly be to see what the plans are for her when she turns 18.", "role": "assistant" } ]

[ { "content": "My teenage daughter's friend is staying with us, CPS has been called on her parents. Her mom is a hoarder and the house is unlivable. What do I need to do legally? My daughter is 17, her friend will be 18 in 6 months. I'll call the friend Nancy. This weekend Nancy came to stay with us because her extended family was holding an \"intervention\". Nancy had called an aunt who lives in another city and told her there was mold, insects, and feces in the house, and now that it's getting cold Nancy can't sleep with the windows open to mitigate the smell. Dad is an alcoholic, but functional. He does nothing about the hoarding, but he does work and provide for the family financially. There was no professional involved in this intervention. The family told Nancy's mom that a company was going to come today and clean everything out of the house, and she had from then (Saturday) to today to put anything she wanted to keep in boxes and remove them. Yesterday Nancy's mom called the police and told them anyone that came today to take her stuff would be \"escorted off her property.\" Her family then called CPS. I have a friendly relationship with Nancy's mom and she texted my husband and I this weekend to say thanks for letting Nancy stay with us. I texted her today to see if she will meet me for coffee so we can talk. Have not heard back. Do I need to contact CPS and let them know Nancy is staying with us? Is there anything I can do to help Nancy be able to keep staying with us? I don't want her to be forced to move back home if she doesn't want to, or be forced to move in with relatives out of town and have to change schools, on top of all the chaos she's been living in. She's a great kid and my daughter's best friend. Her mom is in complete denial and is currently decluttering, as though that's all that needs to be done. It sounds like the house needs to be gutted down to the studs and even the sub floors need to be torn out and replaced. I know a family lawyer and can hire them if I need to.", "role": "user" }, { "content": "I'd recommend looking online for temporary guardianship forms and having one with you if to do manage to meet with either of Nancy's parents. If they'll sign it willingly, it gives you a leg up in the process, and legally clears you to take Nancy to the doctor, sign school permission slips, etc. Note that this does not override their natural rights as parents, so it's still best if CPS formally places Nancy with you, but the form can be a helpful interim measure while the formal paperwork is getting worked out, and it documents their trust in you and willingness to have you watch over Nancy. I am not a lawyer but have used temporary guardianship forms regularly when my kids are traveling with other people or we're watching someone else's child.", "role": "assistant" } ]

[ { "content": "My friend who is staying with me has not returned her UHaul.. I have a friend I've known for a few months now who recently got in a situation with her apartment complex (it's a long story, I will not go into it here as it is not relevant to the post) and her and her roommate were evicted. They had 3 days to obtain all of their belongings and move. On the second day of packing, they had found a house, and rented a UHaul. It is currently parked in front of my house. Well, the house fell through. She has been looking every day since, however it is not easy. Houses here go quick, and sometimes the house you're looking at is gone before your application is even processed. I received a call this morning, because she put me down as I think a reference or contact for uhaul, and the trailer was supposed to be returned a few days ago. It's parked in front of my house. Uhaul called me and told me she needed to return it, or I could never rent from uhaul again. I'm not so worried about that, although it probably will be a pain on my ass somewhere in the future, I feel lile that is the least of my concerns. I was under the imoression she had talked to uhaul and was just paying out the ass every day to hold the trailer, and clearly thats not the case. Obviously not returning the uhaul is wrong, the next customer, all that. But is this a crime? Are they going to report it stolen? If so how long does she have? And could I be in trouble because of this? I'm obviously going to try to convince her to get a storage unit or find someone she can store her belongings with, however, I've learned you can't really make grown people do anything, so if she decided to play chicken with uhaul, what's going to happen?", "role": "user" }, { "content": "Your friend needs to go get a storage unit and put an their shit in there for the time being, then return it. They could report it stolen and your friend could get into legal trouble, and they are probably already going to get sued for the extra days of rent. You probably will not be in any criminal trouble unless there's something else we don't know. For example its not hitched to your vehicle is it? Pretty easy to claim you were the one stealing it in that case.", "role": "assistant" } ]

[ { "content": "My friend who is staying with me has not returned her UHaul.. I have a friend I've known for a few months now who recently got in a situation with her apartment complex (it's a long story, I will not go into it here as it is not relevant to the post) and her and her roommate were evicted. They had 3 days to obtain all of their belongings and move. On the second day of packing, they had found a house, and rented a UHaul. It is currently parked in front of my house. Well, the house fell through. She has been looking every day since, however it is not easy. Houses here go quick, and sometimes the house you're looking at is gone before your application is even processed. I received a call this morning, because she put me down as I think a reference or contact for uhaul, and the trailer was supposed to be returned a few days ago. It's parked in front of my house. Uhaul called me and told me she needed to return it, or I could never rent from uhaul again. I'm not so worried about that, although it probably will be a pain on my ass somewhere in the future, I feel lile that is the least of my concerns. I was under the imoression she had talked to uhaul and was just paying out the ass every day to hold the trailer, and clearly thats not the case. Obviously not returning the uhaul is wrong, the next customer, all that. But is this a crime? Are they going to report it stolen? If so how long does she have? And could I be in trouble because of this? I'm obviously going to try to convince her to get a storage unit or find someone she can store her belongings with, however, I've learned you can't really make grown people do anything, so if she decided to play chicken with uhaul, what's going to happen?", "role": "user" }, { "content": "I worked for Uhaul for many years. This isn't legal advice so much at insight on what they'll do. After they consider it stolen (usually a week after the due date has passed or after they can no longer establish communication with your friend) they'll send someone to both the address she rented it with and the one she said she was moving too. This is assuming it was a local rental and not one-way. If they spot it, they'll come to get it. The marketing company I worked under would send one of us to recover it, usually with one of the leads. If it was a truck, we'd bring the spare key and take it. If it was a trailer and it was unhooked and sitting there, we'd come with another truck and take it. We'd usually have a police escort but there were several times I just came up and took it. If your friends stuff is in the truck/trailer, U-Haul will store it and charge her. She will have to pay to retrieve it and if she doesn't, after the allotted time by law they have to hold it passes, they'll auction it off. Both you and her will be banned from ever renting from U-Haul again. I never saw them once try and press charges against anyone who didn't return equipment though.", "role": "assistant" } ]

[ { "content": "My friend who is staying with me has not returned her UHaul.. I have a friend I've known for a few months now who recently got in a situation with her apartment complex (it's a long story, I will not go into it here as it is not relevant to the post) and her and her roommate were evicted. They had 3 days to obtain all of their belongings and move. On the second day of packing, they had found a house, and rented a UHaul. It is currently parked in front of my house. Well, the house fell through. She has been looking every day since, however it is not easy. Houses here go quick, and sometimes the house you're looking at is gone before your application is even processed. I received a call this morning, because she put me down as I think a reference or contact for uhaul, and the trailer was supposed to be returned a few days ago. It's parked in front of my house. Uhaul called me and told me she needed to return it, or I could never rent from uhaul again. I'm not so worried about that, although it probably will be a pain on my ass somewhere in the future, I feel lile that is the least of my concerns. I was under the imoression she had talked to uhaul and was just paying out the ass every day to hold the trailer, and clearly thats not the case. Obviously not returning the uhaul is wrong, the next customer, all that. But is this a crime? Are they going to report it stolen? If so how long does she have? And could I be in trouble because of this? I'm obviously going to try to convince her to get a storage unit or find someone she can store her belongings with, however, I've learned you can't really make grown people do anything, so if she decided to play chicken with uhaul, what's going to happen?", "role": "user" }, { "content": "Only if she hides it. Just tell uhaul where it is so they can come and get it", "role": "assistant" } ]

[ { "content": "My friend who is staying with me has not returned her UHaul.. I have a friend I've known for a few months now who recently got in a situation with her apartment complex (it's a long story, I will not go into it here as it is not relevant to the post) and her and her roommate were evicted. They had 3 days to obtain all of their belongings and move. On the second day of packing, they had found a house, and rented a UHaul. It is currently parked in front of my house. Well, the house fell through. She has been looking every day since, however it is not easy. Houses here go quick, and sometimes the house you're looking at is gone before your application is even processed. I received a call this morning, because she put me down as I think a reference or contact for uhaul, and the trailer was supposed to be returned a few days ago. It's parked in front of my house. Uhaul called me and told me she needed to return it, or I could never rent from uhaul again. I'm not so worried about that, although it probably will be a pain on my ass somewhere in the future, I feel lile that is the least of my concerns. I was under the imoression she had talked to uhaul and was just paying out the ass every day to hold the trailer, and clearly thats not the case. Obviously not returning the uhaul is wrong, the next customer, all that. But is this a crime? Are they going to report it stolen? If so how long does she have? And could I be in trouble because of this? I'm obviously going to try to convince her to get a storage unit or find someone she can store her belongings with, however, I've learned you can't really make grown people do anything, so if she decided to play chicken with uhaul, what's going to happen?", "role": "user" }, { "content": "I worked for Uhaul for many years. This isn't legal advice so much at insight on what they'll do. After they consider it stolen (usually a week after the due date has passed or after they can no longer establish communication with your friend) they'll send someone to both the address she rented it with and the one she said she was moving too. This is assuming it was a local rental and not one-way. If they spot it, they'll come to get it. The marketing company I worked under would send one of us to recover it, usually with one of the leads. If it was a truck, we'd bring the spare key and take it. If it was a trailer and it was unhooked and sitting there, we'd come with another truck and take it. We'd usually have a police escort but there were several times I just came up and took it. If your friends stuff is in the truck/trailer, U-Haul will store it and charge her. She will have to pay to retrieve it and if she doesn't, after the allotted time by law they have to hold it passes, they'll auction it off. Both you and her will be banned from ever renting from U-Haul again. I never saw them once try and press charges against anyone who didn't return equipment though.", "role": "assistant" } ]

[ { "content": "My friend who is staying with me has not returned her UHaul.. I have a friend I've known for a few months now who recently got in a situation with her apartment complex (it's a long story, I will not go into it here as it is not relevant to the post) and her and her roommate were evicted. They had 3 days to obtain all of their belongings and move. On the second day of packing, they had found a house, and rented a UHaul. It is currently parked in front of my house. Well, the house fell through. She has been looking every day since, however it is not easy. Houses here go quick, and sometimes the house you're looking at is gone before your application is even processed. I received a call this morning, because she put me down as I think a reference or contact for uhaul, and the trailer was supposed to be returned a few days ago. It's parked in front of my house. Uhaul called me and told me she needed to return it, or I could never rent from uhaul again. I'm not so worried about that, although it probably will be a pain on my ass somewhere in the future, I feel lile that is the least of my concerns. I was under the imoression she had talked to uhaul and was just paying out the ass every day to hold the trailer, and clearly thats not the case. Obviously not returning the uhaul is wrong, the next customer, all that. But is this a crime? Are they going to report it stolen? If so how long does she have? And could I be in trouble because of this? I'm obviously going to try to convince her to get a storage unit or find someone she can store her belongings with, however, I've learned you can't really make grown people do anything, so if she decided to play chicken with uhaul, what's going to happen?", "role": "user" }, { "content": "I’ve had clients in the past charged with theft after keeping a rental vehicle beyond the designated return date and ghosting Hertz, Enterprise, etc. Your friend should be aware that she could get criminally charged. As far as your liability, don’t lie to U-Haul but make it clear that you did not rent the trailer. You may also want to let them know in writing that you didn’t agree to be a co-signer on the rental.", "role": "assistant" } ]

[ { "content": "My friend who is staying with me has not returned her UHaul.. I have a friend I've known for a few months now who recently got in a situation with her apartment complex (it's a long story, I will not go into it here as it is not relevant to the post) and her and her roommate were evicted. They had 3 days to obtain all of their belongings and move. On the second day of packing, they had found a house, and rented a UHaul. It is currently parked in front of my house. Well, the house fell through. She has been looking every day since, however it is not easy. Houses here go quick, and sometimes the house you're looking at is gone before your application is even processed. I received a call this morning, because she put me down as I think a reference or contact for uhaul, and the trailer was supposed to be returned a few days ago. It's parked in front of my house. Uhaul called me and told me she needed to return it, or I could never rent from uhaul again. I'm not so worried about that, although it probably will be a pain on my ass somewhere in the future, I feel lile that is the least of my concerns. I was under the imoression she had talked to uhaul and was just paying out the ass every day to hold the trailer, and clearly thats not the case. Obviously not returning the uhaul is wrong, the next customer, all that. But is this a crime? Are they going to report it stolen? If so how long does she have? And could I be in trouble because of this? I'm obviously going to try to convince her to get a storage unit or find someone she can store her belongings with, however, I've learned you can't really make grown people do anything, so if she decided to play chicken with uhaul, what's going to happen?", "role": "user" }, { "content": "I worked for Uhaul for many years. This isn't legal advice so much at insight on what they'll do. After they consider it stolen (usually a week after the due date has passed or after they can no longer establish communication with your friend) they'll send someone to both the address she rented it with and the one she said she was moving too. This is assuming it was a local rental and not one-way. If they spot it, they'll come to get it. The marketing company I worked under would send one of us to recover it, usually with one of the leads. If it was a truck, we'd bring the spare key and take it. If it was a trailer and it was unhooked and sitting there, we'd come with another truck and take it. We'd usually have a police escort but there were several times I just came up and took it. If your friends stuff is in the truck/trailer, U-Haul will store it and charge her. She will have to pay to retrieve it and if she doesn't, after the allotted time by law they have to hold it passes, they'll auction it off. Both you and her will be banned from ever renting from U-Haul again. I never saw them once try and press charges against anyone who didn't return equipment though.", "role": "assistant" } ]

[ { "content": "My friend who is staying with me has not returned her UHaul.. I have a friend I've known for a few months now who recently got in a situation with her apartment complex (it's a long story, I will not go into it here as it is not relevant to the post) and her and her roommate were evicted. They had 3 days to obtain all of their belongings and move. On the second day of packing, they had found a house, and rented a UHaul. It is currently parked in front of my house. Well, the house fell through. She has been looking every day since, however it is not easy. Houses here go quick, and sometimes the house you're looking at is gone before your application is even processed. I received a call this morning, because she put me down as I think a reference or contact for uhaul, and the trailer was supposed to be returned a few days ago. It's parked in front of my house. Uhaul called me and told me she needed to return it, or I could never rent from uhaul again. I'm not so worried about that, although it probably will be a pain on my ass somewhere in the future, I feel lile that is the least of my concerns. I was under the imoression she had talked to uhaul and was just paying out the ass every day to hold the trailer, and clearly thats not the case. Obviously not returning the uhaul is wrong, the next customer, all that. But is this a crime? Are they going to report it stolen? If so how long does she have? And could I be in trouble because of this? I'm obviously going to try to convince her to get a storage unit or find someone she can store her belongings with, however, I've learned you can't really make grown people do anything, so if she decided to play chicken with uhaul, what's going to happen?", "role": "user" }, { "content": "It’s a contracts issue. They rented for a period and she is in breach by not returning it. Eventually uhaul will come looking to repossess it. You can let them know where it is.", "role": "assistant" } ]

[ { "content": "My friend who is staying with me has not returned her UHaul.. I have a friend I've known for a few months now who recently got in a situation with her apartment complex (it's a long story, I will not go into it here as it is not relevant to the post) and her and her roommate were evicted. They had 3 days to obtain all of their belongings and move. On the second day of packing, they had found a house, and rented a UHaul. It is currently parked in front of my house. Well, the house fell through. She has been looking every day since, however it is not easy. Houses here go quick, and sometimes the house you're looking at is gone before your application is even processed. I received a call this morning, because she put me down as I think a reference or contact for uhaul, and the trailer was supposed to be returned a few days ago. It's parked in front of my house. Uhaul called me and told me she needed to return it, or I could never rent from uhaul again. I'm not so worried about that, although it probably will be a pain on my ass somewhere in the future, I feel lile that is the least of my concerns. I was under the imoression she had talked to uhaul and was just paying out the ass every day to hold the trailer, and clearly thats not the case. Obviously not returning the uhaul is wrong, the next customer, all that. But is this a crime? Are they going to report it stolen? If so how long does she have? And could I be in trouble because of this? I'm obviously going to try to convince her to get a storage unit or find someone she can store her belongings with, however, I've learned you can't really make grown people do anything, so if she decided to play chicken with uhaul, what's going to happen?", "role": "user" }, { "content": "I worked for Uhaul for many years. This isn't legal advice so much at insight on what they'll do. After they consider it stolen (usually a week after the due date has passed or after they can no longer establish communication with your friend) they'll send someone to both the address she rented it with and the one she said she was moving too. This is assuming it was a local rental and not one-way. If they spot it, they'll come to get it. The marketing company I worked under would send one of us to recover it, usually with one of the leads. If it was a truck, we'd bring the spare key and take it. If it was a trailer and it was unhooked and sitting there, we'd come with another truck and take it. We'd usually have a police escort but there were several times I just came up and took it. If your friends stuff is in the truck/trailer, U-Haul will store it and charge her. She will have to pay to retrieve it and if she doesn't, after the allotted time by law they have to hold it passes, they'll auction it off. Both you and her will be banned from ever renting from U-Haul again. I never saw them once try and press charges against anyone who didn't return equipment though.", "role": "assistant" } ]

[ { "content": "My friend who is staying with me has not returned her UHaul.. I have a friend I've known for a few months now who recently got in a situation with her apartment complex (it's a long story, I will not go into it here as it is not relevant to the post) and her and her roommate were evicted. They had 3 days to obtain all of their belongings and move. On the second day of packing, they had found a house, and rented a UHaul. It is currently parked in front of my house. Well, the house fell through. She has been looking every day since, however it is not easy. Houses here go quick, and sometimes the house you're looking at is gone before your application is even processed. I received a call this morning, because she put me down as I think a reference or contact for uhaul, and the trailer was supposed to be returned a few days ago. It's parked in front of my house. Uhaul called me and told me she needed to return it, or I could never rent from uhaul again. I'm not so worried about that, although it probably will be a pain on my ass somewhere in the future, I feel lile that is the least of my concerns. I was under the imoression she had talked to uhaul and was just paying out the ass every day to hold the trailer, and clearly thats not the case. Obviously not returning the uhaul is wrong, the next customer, all that. But is this a crime? Are they going to report it stolen? If so how long does she have? And could I be in trouble because of this? I'm obviously going to try to convince her to get a storage unit or find someone she can store her belongings with, however, I've learned you can't really make grown people do anything, so if she decided to play chicken with uhaul, what's going to happen?", "role": "user" }, { "content": "You didn't sign anything or agree to anything? It's parked on the street, not on your property? If both of those things are true, they can choose to ban you from renting from them, but you are not otherwise liable. However, they can name you as a defendant or sic the cops on you, albeit without justification, and that would be inconvenient and possibly costly. So you want the truck not in front of your house. One solution is to tell them it's there and tell her you told them. Then she can either deal with them or move it somewhere else.", "role": "assistant" } ]

[ { "content": "My friend who is staying with me has not returned her UHaul.. I have a friend I've known for a few months now who recently got in a situation with her apartment complex (it's a long story, I will not go into it here as it is not relevant to the post) and her and her roommate were evicted. They had 3 days to obtain all of their belongings and move. On the second day of packing, they had found a house, and rented a UHaul. It is currently parked in front of my house. Well, the house fell through. She has been looking every day since, however it is not easy. Houses here go quick, and sometimes the house you're looking at is gone before your application is even processed. I received a call this morning, because she put me down as I think a reference or contact for uhaul, and the trailer was supposed to be returned a few days ago. It's parked in front of my house. Uhaul called me and told me she needed to return it, or I could never rent from uhaul again. I'm not so worried about that, although it probably will be a pain on my ass somewhere in the future, I feel lile that is the least of my concerns. I was under the imoression she had talked to uhaul and was just paying out the ass every day to hold the trailer, and clearly thats not the case. Obviously not returning the uhaul is wrong, the next customer, all that. But is this a crime? Are they going to report it stolen? If so how long does she have? And could I be in trouble because of this? I'm obviously going to try to convince her to get a storage unit or find someone she can store her belongings with, however, I've learned you can't really make grown people do anything, so if she decided to play chicken with uhaul, what's going to happen?", "role": "user" }, { "content": "I worked for Uhaul for many years. This isn't legal advice so much at insight on what they'll do. After they consider it stolen (usually a week after the due date has passed or after they can no longer establish communication with your friend) they'll send someone to both the address she rented it with and the one she said she was moving too. This is assuming it was a local rental and not one-way. If they spot it, they'll come to get it. The marketing company I worked under would send one of us to recover it, usually with one of the leads. If it was a truck, we'd bring the spare key and take it. If it was a trailer and it was unhooked and sitting there, we'd come with another truck and take it. We'd usually have a police escort but there were several times I just came up and took it. If your friends stuff is in the truck/trailer, U-Haul will store it and charge her. She will have to pay to retrieve it and if she doesn't, after the allotted time by law they have to hold it passes, they'll auction it off. Both you and her will be banned from ever renting from U-Haul again. I never saw them once try and press charges against anyone who didn't return equipment though.", "role": "assistant" } ]

[ { "content": "Ohio-My daughter [15F] came to me [33F] and told me her friend [15M] is being abused at home. She has asked if he could stay over at our place for the night Hi, I just need an outside opinion and advice on this. I live in Ohio so if anyone knows the laws here or in America in general for this please let me know. Earlier today my daughter came into my bed room and asked if she could speak to me. She told me friend Ambrose is being abused at home and asked if he could spend the night. I allowed it and I met him. He is a good looking kid but he is very shy, and very quiet. He has a bruise on his back and he has a black eye. He said his cousin and her boyfriend gave it to him. I don't know his full status but apparently his cousin is his legal guardian. My daughter has sat with him the entire two hours he has been here. He told me his cousin is the only family he has. He has no one else otherwise he would not be staying there I am really concerned for this young man, he seems frightened of adults. I phoned his cousin did not say anything and said he is going to be spending the weekend at my place and the woman hung up on me. Did not say anything to me. I want to contact someone but my daughter is afraid of what will happen to him. She is scared they will take him away, I am going to contact someone in the morning. My daughter wants him to stay with us over the summer break. My daughter is a pretty girl she wants to be a model. At first I thought this was some master plan to get a boy to spend the night, but it's really not like that. She seems genuinely concerned for him and is taking good care of him. She as we speak is watching netflix with him on the couch. Who do I contact about this and if I were to want to take him in could I?", "role": "user" }, { "content": "Call CPS. The kid is being abused or being placed into dangerous situations. There's no guarantee of anything but you could certainly offer to be a temporary home for him if that's what you want to do.", "role": "assistant" } ]

[ { "content": "Ohio-My daughter [15F] came to me [33F] and told me her friend [15M] is being abused at home. She has asked if he could stay over at our place for the night Hi, I just need an outside opinion and advice on this. I live in Ohio so if anyone knows the laws here or in America in general for this please let me know. Earlier today my daughter came into my bed room and asked if she could speak to me. She told me friend Ambrose is being abused at home and asked if he could spend the night. I allowed it and I met him. He is a good looking kid but he is very shy, and very quiet. He has a bruise on his back and he has a black eye. He said his cousin and her boyfriend gave it to him. I don't know his full status but apparently his cousin is his legal guardian. My daughter has sat with him the entire two hours he has been here. He told me his cousin is the only family he has. He has no one else otherwise he would not be staying there I am really concerned for this young man, he seems frightened of adults. I phoned his cousin did not say anything and said he is going to be spending the weekend at my place and the woman hung up on me. Did not say anything to me. I want to contact someone but my daughter is afraid of what will happen to him. She is scared they will take him away, I am going to contact someone in the morning. My daughter wants him to stay with us over the summer break. My daughter is a pretty girl she wants to be a model. At first I thought this was some master plan to get a boy to spend the night, but it's really not like that. She seems genuinely concerned for him and is taking good care of him. She as we speak is watching netflix with him on the couch. Who do I contact about this and if I were to want to take him in could I?", "role": "user" }, { "content": "Call CPS or your local police might have a child abuse hotline. This is an emergency. Taking someone else's kid without the guardian's consent (and it sounds like you don't even know who the guardian is) is a terrible idea, for a night or for the summer. This can get you in tons of legal trouble, like felony kidnapping charges trouble. It's up to CPS to place him in a safe place, usually with family first, though you could offer.", "role": "assistant" } ]

[ { "content": "[IN] Mother's brother died in her other home she was letting him live in for free, his ex-wife and kids are demanding entry to retrieve his belongings which amounts to almost nothing. Virtually everything in the home is owned by my mother besides a tv, bed and computer. Is it legal to deny entry to these people to my mother's home? She is not refusing to let them have the few items, just not at this second as it has been less than 24 hours since his passing. Not to mention my mother is out of state currently and I have changed the locks at her request due to the ex-wife stating she was and will be entering the home today. This woman and her kids, who had very little to do with my uncle, live four hours away. My mother was the one who took him in when he was having kidney failure. Note: There was no will left behind", "role": "user" }, { "content": "Is it possible that what they are looking for are personal documents such as a will, banking information, life insurance policies and such? If so, you could offer to look through the house for such things and provide copies. If there is a will, it can be an \"chicken and egg\" problem if the heirs can't gain access to it. To answer your question, I think it is legal to refuse them entry. Arguably, your mother could be liable for allowing them access. What if a will turns up and none of them are named executor? It is the probate court's job to determine if the decedent was intestate and to appoint someone to act as executor or administrator. All that said it is possible to settle a small estate without probate. If the estate is worth less than $50,000, the family can use a small estate affidavit to claim property. However, they have to wait at least 45 days after death to use it. As others have stated, there is no way they have any court order or any other document that would grant them access within 24 hours of death. Good luck.", "role": "assistant" } ]

[ { "content": "[IN] Mother's brother died in her other home she was letting him live in for free, his ex-wife and kids are demanding entry to retrieve his belongings which amounts to almost nothing. Virtually everything in the home is owned by my mother besides a tv, bed and computer. Is it legal to deny entry to these people to my mother's home? She is not refusing to let them have the few items, just not at this second as it has been less than 24 hours since his passing. Not to mention my mother is out of state currently and I have changed the locks at her request due to the ex-wife stating she was and will be entering the home today. This woman and her kids, who had very little to do with my uncle, live four hours away. My mother was the one who took him in when he was having kidney failure. Note: There was no will left behind", "role": "user" }, { "content": "As the landlord it is your responsibility to secure the property which it sounds like you have already done. All of uncle Joe's property becomes the property of uncle Joe's estate. Uncle Joe's estate will get a court appointed executor. This executor will be named in a document signed by a judge, not uncle Joe's ex-wife's lawyer. You safely can surrender uncle Joe's estate's possessions to the executor. This sounds like a shady lot to me, I would not allow them in the house as a group. I would bet that one of them is going to keep you busy while the others steal stuff. If you wanted to be nice, arrange to meet ONLY one of them to hand over some of his stuff. Take photos, make a list of items, approx value and condition and make them sign for the stuff. That list should be provided to the executor once designated. You have no legal obligation to allow access to anyone not named on a written lease or the executor. ​", "role": "assistant" } ]

[ { "content": "Ex husband wants put our 8 year old Non- verbal autistic son in a group home.What do I need to do to get custody again?", "role": "user" }, { "content": "You can contact a family law lawyer and discuss your options.", "role": "assistant" } ]

[ { "content": "Ex husband wants put our 8 year old Non- verbal autistic son in a group home.What do I need to do to get custody again?", "role": "user" }, { "content": "There are too many variables to give a definitive answer. 1) what your current custody order actually states. 2) why you don’t have primary custody to begin with 3) what your Son’s various doctors and therapists have diagnosed and done for him from start to finish. Ie do his past and current medical professional providers concur. 4) what your lawyer says. I mean you need to talk to someone who knows the current laws and precedents say about situations like this.", "role": "assistant" } ]

[ { "content": "Ex husband wants put our 8 year old Non- verbal autistic son in a group home.What do I need to do to get custody again?", "role": "user" }, { "content": "Get a lawyer. The courts will hopefully prefer he live with a parent instead of a home. What are your parental rights currently?", "role": "assistant" } ]

[ { "content": "Ex husband wants put our 8 year old Non- verbal autistic son in a group home.What do I need to do to get custody again?", "role": "user" }, { "content": "There are too many variables to give a definitive answer. 1) what your current custody order actually states. 2) why you don’t have primary custody to begin with 3) what your Son’s various doctors and therapists have diagnosed and done for him from start to finish. Ie do his past and current medical professional providers concur. 4) what your lawyer says. I mean you need to talk to someone who knows the current laws and precedents say about situations like this.", "role": "assistant" } ]

[ { "content": "Ex husband wants put our 8 year old Non- verbal autistic son in a group home.What do I need to do to get custody again?", "role": "user" }, { "content": "You can contact a family law lawyer and discuss your options.", "role": "assistant" } ]

[ { "content": "Ex husband wants put our 8 year old Non- verbal autistic son in a group home.What do I need to do to get custody again?", "role": "user" }, { "content": "Why did you not got the custody at first ?", "role": "assistant" } ]