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[ { "content": "[California, USA] Tenants stole two of my routers, and are using my internet, while I have no access to it. They also called my service provider and shut off my parents service at their house..(our accounts are connected). I'm a landlord, I have four tenants living in my home. Two of which are a couple, and the ones I suspect are the culprits. I have no proof, but I just don't see the other two doing it. I cut the couple off from using it to begin with, because I want them to move out, and they are making it extremely difficult. I just want to know, what legal steps can I pursue in this situation? I've been in contact with Comcast (my service provider) and they record calls, and said I could be provided with the audio.. Is them calling and messing with my wifi account illegal (i.e. turning off my parents wifi)? I think they used a mutual friend of ours phone to make the calls, I don't really have 100% proof of it to show, but I know it's them. This is so infuriating. My parents nag me about why they are even still here after messing with our accounts. I left them a note in the bathroom saying they needed to be gone today, or I was going to press charges. But what charges can I press with no hard proof?", "role": "user" }, { "content": "Have you provided the tenants with written notice to vacate (with proper advanced notice)? Are the tenants on a lease? If so, when does it end?", "role": "assistant" } ]

[ { "content": "[California, USA] Tenants stole two of my routers, and are using my internet, while I have no access to it. They also called my service provider and shut off my parents service at their house..(our accounts are connected). I'm a landlord, I have four tenants living in my home. Two of which are a couple, and the ones I suspect are the culprits. I have no proof, but I just don't see the other two doing it. I cut the couple off from using it to begin with, because I want them to move out, and they are making it extremely difficult. I just want to know, what legal steps can I pursue in this situation? I've been in contact with Comcast (my service provider) and they record calls, and said I could be provided with the audio.. Is them calling and messing with my wifi account illegal (i.e. turning off my parents wifi)? I think they used a mutual friend of ours phone to make the calls, I don't really have 100% proof of it to show, but I know it's them. This is so infuriating. My parents nag me about why they are even still here after messing with our accounts. I left them a note in the bathroom saying they needed to be gone today, or I was going to press charges. But what charges can I press with no hard proof?", "role": "user" }, { "content": "Former CA Landlord here... #If you can get to that note, take it down ASAP. FOR GOD'S SAKE, contact a tenant's rights association and ask them what you do about this. Hopefully they will be helpful to a landlord who just wants to handle things LEGALLY. >**I left them a note in the bathroom saying they needed to be gone today, or I was going to press charges.** This is so fucking illegal that a lawyer would be foaming at the mouth to take it on. It could even be considered blackmail. Even this: > I cut the couple off from using it to begin with, because I want them to move out Jesus man, admitting that you are making thing shitty for them in order to get them to move out is called \"constructive eviction\" and is a very, VERY expensive mistake for you to make in CA. I understand your frustration. Shitty tenants suck, especially when they live in your home. But you are a landlord, and they have rights that will be *very expensive for you* (and delay getting them out) if you violate them.", "role": "assistant" } ]

[ { "content": "[California, USA] Tenants stole two of my routers, and are using my internet, while I have no access to it. They also called my service provider and shut off my parents service at their house..(our accounts are connected). I'm a landlord, I have four tenants living in my home. Two of which are a couple, and the ones I suspect are the culprits. I have no proof, but I just don't see the other two doing it. I cut the couple off from using it to begin with, because I want them to move out, and they are making it extremely difficult. I just want to know, what legal steps can I pursue in this situation? I've been in contact with Comcast (my service provider) and they record calls, and said I could be provided with the audio.. Is them calling and messing with my wifi account illegal (i.e. turning off my parents wifi)? I think they used a mutual friend of ours phone to make the calls, I don't really have 100% proof of it to show, but I know it's them. This is so infuriating. My parents nag me about why they are even still here after messing with our accounts. I left them a note in the bathroom saying they needed to be gone today, or I was going to press charges. But what charges can I press with no hard proof?", "role": "user" }, { "content": "I'm a landlord tenant attorney in CA, but I am not yours. You need to speak with one, soon. You may have opened yourself to massive litigation. Hope and pray your tenants don't leave today based on the note. I don't know what steps you've taken to have them move out, but your attorney you hire can help guide you. You may be able to evict due to the impersonation, but don't hold your breath. End the tenancy properly and stop attempting self help at this point as you're putting yourself in a very financially tenuous place.", "role": "assistant" } ]

[ { "content": "[California, USA] Tenants stole two of my routers, and are using my internet, while I have no access to it. They also called my service provider and shut off my parents service at their house..(our accounts are connected). I'm a landlord, I have four tenants living in my home. Two of which are a couple, and the ones I suspect are the culprits. I have no proof, but I just don't see the other two doing it. I cut the couple off from using it to begin with, because I want them to move out, and they are making it extremely difficult. I just want to know, what legal steps can I pursue in this situation? I've been in contact with Comcast (my service provider) and they record calls, and said I could be provided with the audio.. Is them calling and messing with my wifi account illegal (i.e. turning off my parents wifi)? I think they used a mutual friend of ours phone to make the calls, I don't really have 100% proof of it to show, but I know it's them. This is so infuriating. My parents nag me about why they are even still here after messing with our accounts. I left them a note in the bathroom saying they needed to be gone today, or I was going to press charges. But what charges can I press with no hard proof?", "role": "user" }, { "content": "Former CA Landlord here... #If you can get to that note, take it down ASAP. FOR GOD'S SAKE, contact a tenant's rights association and ask them what you do about this. Hopefully they will be helpful to a landlord who just wants to handle things LEGALLY. >**I left them a note in the bathroom saying they needed to be gone today, or I was going to press charges.** This is so fucking illegal that a lawyer would be foaming at the mouth to take it on. It could even be considered blackmail. Even this: > I cut the couple off from using it to begin with, because I want them to move out Jesus man, admitting that you are making thing shitty for them in order to get them to move out is called \"constructive eviction\" and is a very, VERY expensive mistake for you to make in CA. I understand your frustration. Shitty tenants suck, especially when they live in your home. But you are a landlord, and they have rights that will be *very expensive for you* (and delay getting them out) if you violate them.", "role": "assistant" } ]

[ { "content": "[California, USA] Tenants stole two of my routers, and are using my internet, while I have no access to it. They also called my service provider and shut off my parents service at their house..(our accounts are connected). I'm a landlord, I have four tenants living in my home. Two of which are a couple, and the ones I suspect are the culprits. I have no proof, but I just don't see the other two doing it. I cut the couple off from using it to begin with, because I want them to move out, and they are making it extremely difficult. I just want to know, what legal steps can I pursue in this situation? I've been in contact with Comcast (my service provider) and they record calls, and said I could be provided with the audio.. Is them calling and messing with my wifi account illegal (i.e. turning off my parents wifi)? I think they used a mutual friend of ours phone to make the calls, I don't really have 100% proof of it to show, but I know it's them. This is so infuriating. My parents nag me about why they are even still here after messing with our accounts. I left them a note in the bathroom saying they needed to be gone today, or I was going to press charges. But what charges can I press with no hard proof?", "role": "user" }, { "content": "That's not how you do it at all. Consult with a landlord-tenant attorney in California.", "role": "assistant" } ]

[ { "content": "[California, USA] Tenants stole two of my routers, and are using my internet, while I have no access to it. They also called my service provider and shut off my parents service at their house..(our accounts are connected). I'm a landlord, I have four tenants living in my home. Two of which are a couple, and the ones I suspect are the culprits. I have no proof, but I just don't see the other two doing it. I cut the couple off from using it to begin with, because I want them to move out, and they are making it extremely difficult. I just want to know, what legal steps can I pursue in this situation? I've been in contact with Comcast (my service provider) and they record calls, and said I could be provided with the audio.. Is them calling and messing with my wifi account illegal (i.e. turning off my parents wifi)? I think they used a mutual friend of ours phone to make the calls, I don't really have 100% proof of it to show, but I know it's them. This is so infuriating. My parents nag me about why they are even still here after messing with our accounts. I left them a note in the bathroom saying they needed to be gone today, or I was going to press charges. But what charges can I press with no hard proof?", "role": "user" }, { "content": "Former CA Landlord here... #If you can get to that note, take it down ASAP. FOR GOD'S SAKE, contact a tenant's rights association and ask them what you do about this. Hopefully they will be helpful to a landlord who just wants to handle things LEGALLY. >**I left them a note in the bathroom saying they needed to be gone today, or I was going to press charges.** This is so fucking illegal that a lawyer would be foaming at the mouth to take it on. It could even be considered blackmail. Even this: > I cut the couple off from using it to begin with, because I want them to move out Jesus man, admitting that you are making thing shitty for them in order to get them to move out is called \"constructive eviction\" and is a very, VERY expensive mistake for you to make in CA. I understand your frustration. Shitty tenants suck, especially when they live in your home. But you are a landlord, and they have rights that will be *very expensive for you* (and delay getting them out) if you violate them.", "role": "assistant" } ]

[ { "content": "[California, USA] Tenants stole two of my routers, and are using my internet, while I have no access to it. They also called my service provider and shut off my parents service at their house..(our accounts are connected). I'm a landlord, I have four tenants living in my home. Two of which are a couple, and the ones I suspect are the culprits. I have no proof, but I just don't see the other two doing it. I cut the couple off from using it to begin with, because I want them to move out, and they are making it extremely difficult. I just want to know, what legal steps can I pursue in this situation? I've been in contact with Comcast (my service provider) and they record calls, and said I could be provided with the audio.. Is them calling and messing with my wifi account illegal (i.e. turning off my parents wifi)? I think they used a mutual friend of ours phone to make the calls, I don't really have 100% proof of it to show, but I know it's them. This is so infuriating. My parents nag me about why they are even still here after messing with our accounts. I left them a note in the bathroom saying they needed to be gone today, or I was going to press charges. But what charges can I press with no hard proof?", "role": "user" }, { "content": "It sounds as though you may not be helping your situation much. If you do things \"because you want them to move out\" and fail to follow proper landlord tenant laws and eviction procedures, you could very easily find yourself in all kinds of hot water. Take a step back, breathe, review the laws and regulations of your locale and talk to a real-estate attorney if needed. Then move forward with the proper steps to get rid of the problem tenants and pursue the internet/theft issues.", "role": "assistant" } ]

[ { "content": "[California, USA] Tenants stole two of my routers, and are using my internet, while I have no access to it. They also called my service provider and shut off my parents service at their house..(our accounts are connected). I'm a landlord, I have four tenants living in my home. Two of which are a couple, and the ones I suspect are the culprits. I have no proof, but I just don't see the other two doing it. I cut the couple off from using it to begin with, because I want them to move out, and they are making it extremely difficult. I just want to know, what legal steps can I pursue in this situation? I've been in contact with Comcast (my service provider) and they record calls, and said I could be provided with the audio.. Is them calling and messing with my wifi account illegal (i.e. turning off my parents wifi)? I think they used a mutual friend of ours phone to make the calls, I don't really have 100% proof of it to show, but I know it's them. This is so infuriating. My parents nag me about why they are even still here after messing with our accounts. I left them a note in the bathroom saying they needed to be gone today, or I was going to press charges. But what charges can I press with no hard proof?", "role": "user" }, { "content": "Former CA Landlord here... #If you can get to that note, take it down ASAP. FOR GOD'S SAKE, contact a tenant's rights association and ask them what you do about this. Hopefully they will be helpful to a landlord who just wants to handle things LEGALLY. >**I left them a note in the bathroom saying they needed to be gone today, or I was going to press charges.** This is so fucking illegal that a lawyer would be foaming at the mouth to take it on. It could even be considered blackmail. Even this: > I cut the couple off from using it to begin with, because I want them to move out Jesus man, admitting that you are making thing shitty for them in order to get them to move out is called \"constructive eviction\" and is a very, VERY expensive mistake for you to make in CA. I understand your frustration. Shitty tenants suck, especially when they live in your home. But you are a landlord, and they have rights that will be *very expensive for you* (and delay getting them out) if you violate them.", "role": "assistant" } ]

[ { "content": "Neighbor cut down 6 of my trees and is stacking dirt oon my land without permission [NC] I own a vacant lot. It's about an acre. The house next door was bought by some flipping house company. I found out yesterday that they cut down several of my trees, stacked up an 8 foot pile of dirt, dumped trash and debris, and in general made it a mess by driving backhoes and other equipment over it. Property is worth $25k or so. I was preparing to sell it but now I feel like I can't. Don't have too much money to put into suing them. What can I do? I'm contemplating confronting them tomorrow?", "role": "user" }, { "content": "Take pictures and don't confront them. Do talk to a lawyer. This is going to be a great thread", "role": "assistant" } ]

[ { "content": "Neighbor cut down 6 of my trees and is stacking dirt oon my land without permission [NC] I own a vacant lot. It's about an acre. The house next door was bought by some flipping house company. I found out yesterday that they cut down several of my trees, stacked up an 8 foot pile of dirt, dumped trash and debris, and in general made it a mess by driving backhoes and other equipment over it. Property is worth $25k or so. I was preparing to sell it but now I feel like I can't. Don't have too much money to put into suing them. What can I do? I'm contemplating confronting them tomorrow?", "role": "user" }, { "content": "On the one hand, wild growth trees on a vacant lot are mostly worth about what the lumber would cost. On the other hand, dropping the biggest, heaviest rock possible on real estate developers always warms my heart. OP, go speak to a real estate lawyer tomorrow morning. Call your state bar association and ask for a referral to someone local. You and your lawyer should discuss whether it's practical to bring a suit against the flippers for: * an injunction that they stay off of your property and cease using it as an access-way and dump, * an order that they remove their debris, or that they pay for your own debris-removal, * the cost of replacing the trees they cut down, * the cost of restoring whatever other parts of the property they damaged, * anything else your lawyer can think of. Odds are good that if they're flippers, they'll want to be rid of the property ASAP. Having it tied up in a lawsuit makes that really difficult, as they may have to disclose the suit (and the risk that you place a lien on the property due to the resulting judgement) to buyers and their lenders. It also ties up a bunch of the developers' time and money in a lawyer. What I'm saying is, I think you have them by the balls on this one. You should be aiming for a settlement, here, not to win the suit: if you make them fight you on every inch, you'll spend more on your own lawyer without getting much more in return. If they're willing to settle, you likely come out ahead. If I'm right, your lawyer will likely take this on contingency. Edit: one thought - how much would the value of the neighbouring house increase if the yard were an entire acre larger?", "role": "assistant" } ]

[ { "content": "Neighbor cut down 6 of my trees and is stacking dirt oon my land without permission [NC] I own a vacant lot. It's about an acre. The house next door was bought by some flipping house company. I found out yesterday that they cut down several of my trees, stacked up an 8 foot pile of dirt, dumped trash and debris, and in general made it a mess by driving backhoes and other equipment over it. Property is worth $25k or so. I was preparing to sell it but now I feel like I can't. Don't have too much money to put into suing them. What can I do? I'm contemplating confronting them tomorrow?", "role": "user" }, { "content": "I would get an arborist in ASAP to assess the damage to your trees, and the cost to replace. Mature trees are serious business. Paging tree law experts.", "role": "assistant" } ]

[ { "content": "Neighbor cut down 6 of my trees and is stacking dirt oon my land without permission [NC] I own a vacant lot. It's about an acre. The house next door was bought by some flipping house company. I found out yesterday that they cut down several of my trees, stacked up an 8 foot pile of dirt, dumped trash and debris, and in general made it a mess by driving backhoes and other equipment over it. Property is worth $25k or so. I was preparing to sell it but now I feel like I can't. Don't have too much money to put into suing them. What can I do? I'm contemplating confronting them tomorrow?", "role": "user" }, { "content": "On the one hand, wild growth trees on a vacant lot are mostly worth about what the lumber would cost. On the other hand, dropping the biggest, heaviest rock possible on real estate developers always warms my heart. OP, go speak to a real estate lawyer tomorrow morning. Call your state bar association and ask for a referral to someone local. You and your lawyer should discuss whether it's practical to bring a suit against the flippers for: * an injunction that they stay off of your property and cease using it as an access-way and dump, * an order that they remove their debris, or that they pay for your own debris-removal, * the cost of replacing the trees they cut down, * the cost of restoring whatever other parts of the property they damaged, * anything else your lawyer can think of. Odds are good that if they're flippers, they'll want to be rid of the property ASAP. Having it tied up in a lawsuit makes that really difficult, as they may have to disclose the suit (and the risk that you place a lien on the property due to the resulting judgement) to buyers and their lenders. It also ties up a bunch of the developers' time and money in a lawyer. What I'm saying is, I think you have them by the balls on this one. You should be aiming for a settlement, here, not to win the suit: if you make them fight you on every inch, you'll spend more on your own lawyer without getting much more in return. If they're willing to settle, you likely come out ahead. If I'm right, your lawyer will likely take this on contingency. Edit: one thought - how much would the value of the neighbouring house increase if the yard were an entire acre larger?", "role": "assistant" } ]

[ { "content": "Neighbor cut down 6 of my trees and is stacking dirt oon my land without permission [NC] I own a vacant lot. It's about an acre. The house next door was bought by some flipping house company. I found out yesterday that they cut down several of my trees, stacked up an 8 foot pile of dirt, dumped trash and debris, and in general made it a mess by driving backhoes and other equipment over it. Property is worth $25k or so. I was preparing to sell it but now I feel like I can't. Don't have too much money to put into suing them. What can I do? I'm contemplating confronting them tomorrow?", "role": "user" }, { "content": "I'd start by reviewing your property boundaries and/or getting/reviewing a survey to ensure the trees were absolutely on your property. If you're confident that was the case, you may see if you can find an attorney to work on contingency (i.e. they take a portion of your winnings/settlement).", "role": "assistant" } ]

[ { "content": "Neighbor cut down 6 of my trees and is stacking dirt oon my land without permission [NC] I own a vacant lot. It's about an acre. The house next door was bought by some flipping house company. I found out yesterday that they cut down several of my trees, stacked up an 8 foot pile of dirt, dumped trash and debris, and in general made it a mess by driving backhoes and other equipment over it. Property is worth $25k or so. I was preparing to sell it but now I feel like I can't. Don't have too much money to put into suing them. What can I do? I'm contemplating confronting them tomorrow?", "role": "user" }, { "content": "On the one hand, wild growth trees on a vacant lot are mostly worth about what the lumber would cost. On the other hand, dropping the biggest, heaviest rock possible on real estate developers always warms my heart. OP, go speak to a real estate lawyer tomorrow morning. Call your state bar association and ask for a referral to someone local. You and your lawyer should discuss whether it's practical to bring a suit against the flippers for: * an injunction that they stay off of your property and cease using it as an access-way and dump, * an order that they remove their debris, or that they pay for your own debris-removal, * the cost of replacing the trees they cut down, * the cost of restoring whatever other parts of the property they damaged, * anything else your lawyer can think of. Odds are good that if they're flippers, they'll want to be rid of the property ASAP. Having it tied up in a lawsuit makes that really difficult, as they may have to disclose the suit (and the risk that you place a lien on the property due to the resulting judgement) to buyers and their lenders. It also ties up a bunch of the developers' time and money in a lawyer. What I'm saying is, I think you have them by the balls on this one. You should be aiming for a settlement, here, not to win the suit: if you make them fight you on every inch, you'll spend more on your own lawyer without getting much more in return. If they're willing to settle, you likely come out ahead. If I'm right, your lawyer will likely take this on contingency. Edit: one thought - how much would the value of the neighbouring house increase if the yard were an entire acre larger?", "role": "assistant" } ]

[ { "content": "Neighbor cut down 6 of my trees and is stacking dirt oon my land without permission [NC] I own a vacant lot. It's about an acre. The house next door was bought by some flipping house company. I found out yesterday that they cut down several of my trees, stacked up an 8 foot pile of dirt, dumped trash and debris, and in general made it a mess by driving backhoes and other equipment over it. Property is worth $25k or so. I was preparing to sell it but now I feel like I can't. Don't have too much money to put into suing them. What can I do? I'm contemplating confronting them tomorrow?", "role": "user" }, { "content": "The usual advice would be something like: - make certain of property lines, perhaps by having a survey done - document all damage to your property - call a lawyer and cash in, because large trees can be quite valuable, and you break it, you bought it. Or you cut it down, you bought it. Something like that. $25K doesn't sound like the world's most valuable property, but still, that above sequence is probably right.", "role": "assistant" } ]

[ { "content": "Neighbor cut down 6 of my trees and is stacking dirt oon my land without permission [NC] I own a vacant lot. It's about an acre. The house next door was bought by some flipping house company. I found out yesterday that they cut down several of my trees, stacked up an 8 foot pile of dirt, dumped trash and debris, and in general made it a mess by driving backhoes and other equipment over it. Property is worth $25k or so. I was preparing to sell it but now I feel like I can't. Don't have too much money to put into suing them. What can I do? I'm contemplating confronting them tomorrow?", "role": "user" }, { "content": "On the one hand, wild growth trees on a vacant lot are mostly worth about what the lumber would cost. On the other hand, dropping the biggest, heaviest rock possible on real estate developers always warms my heart. OP, go speak to a real estate lawyer tomorrow morning. Call your state bar association and ask for a referral to someone local. You and your lawyer should discuss whether it's practical to bring a suit against the flippers for: * an injunction that they stay off of your property and cease using it as an access-way and dump, * an order that they remove their debris, or that they pay for your own debris-removal, * the cost of replacing the trees they cut down, * the cost of restoring whatever other parts of the property they damaged, * anything else your lawyer can think of. Odds are good that if they're flippers, they'll want to be rid of the property ASAP. Having it tied up in a lawsuit makes that really difficult, as they may have to disclose the suit (and the risk that you place a lien on the property due to the resulting judgement) to buyers and their lenders. It also ties up a bunch of the developers' time and money in a lawyer. What I'm saying is, I think you have them by the balls on this one. You should be aiming for a settlement, here, not to win the suit: if you make them fight you on every inch, you'll spend more on your own lawyer without getting much more in return. If they're willing to settle, you likely come out ahead. If I'm right, your lawyer will likely take this on contingency. Edit: one thought - how much would the value of the neighbouring house increase if the yard were an entire acre larger?", "role": "assistant" } ]

[ { "content": "Neighbor cut down 6 of my trees and is stacking dirt oon my land without permission [NC] I own a vacant lot. It's about an acre. The house next door was bought by some flipping house company. I found out yesterday that they cut down several of my trees, stacked up an 8 foot pile of dirt, dumped trash and debris, and in general made it a mess by driving backhoes and other equipment over it. Property is worth $25k or so. I was preparing to sell it but now I feel like I can't. Don't have too much money to put into suing them. What can I do? I'm contemplating confronting them tomorrow?", "role": "user" }, { "content": "I'd start by reviewing your property boundaries and/or getting/reviewing a survey to ensure the trees were absolutely on your property. If you're confident that was the case, you may see if you can find an attorney to work on contingency (i.e. they take a portion of your winnings/settlement).", "role": "assistant" } ]

[ { "content": "Neighbor cut down 6 of my trees and is stacking dirt oon my land without permission [NC] I own a vacant lot. It's about an acre. The house next door was bought by some flipping house company. I found out yesterday that they cut down several of my trees, stacked up an 8 foot pile of dirt, dumped trash and debris, and in general made it a mess by driving backhoes and other equipment over it. Property is worth $25k or so. I was preparing to sell it but now I feel like I can't. Don't have too much money to put into suing them. What can I do? I'm contemplating confronting them tomorrow?", "role": "user" }, { "content": "Take pictures and don't confront them. Do talk to a lawyer. This is going to be a great thread", "role": "assistant" } ]

[ { "content": "(NC-USA) Neighbor cut down my 20 ft tree without permission The neighbor behind my house cut down a 20-25 Leyland Cypress tree that is on my property. The entire trunk of the tree is 8-12 inches over the property line (on my side). I called the police and we confronted him about it and he admitted to cutting it down. The police took no report though and he referred me to the magistrate's office to get a warrant since it's a Class 1 Misdemeanor in my state. I have security footage of the tree being cut down, but the camera is 90 feet away so it's hard to see a face. I went to the Magistrate's office and he granted the warrant. I believe the tree's value to be around $2,000-$5,000 based on calling some nurseries and they said they sell 8 ft trees for $300-400. They don't sell trees 20-25 ft tall. What's my next step? Should I pay to have a survey done? Should I start the small claims court now (max $10k lawsuit in small claims in my state), or wait until after the criminal case is resolved? (Court date is in December) Any other advice?", "role": "user" }, { "content": "The general consensus on things tree related is to get an arborist to determine the value of the tree. Make sure you get an estimate for the replacement and what value the wood would have had. Then if it is below the small claims court limit, sue him there for the combined costs. Make sure you have copies of the estimates, a statement from the officer who responded, and the information from your survey showing that it was on your land.", "role": "assistant" } ]

[ { "content": "(NC-USA) Neighbor cut down my 20 ft tree without permission The neighbor behind my house cut down a 20-25 Leyland Cypress tree that is on my property. The entire trunk of the tree is 8-12 inches over the property line (on my side). I called the police and we confronted him about it and he admitted to cutting it down. The police took no report though and he referred me to the magistrate's office to get a warrant since it's a Class 1 Misdemeanor in my state. I have security footage of the tree being cut down, but the camera is 90 feet away so it's hard to see a face. I went to the Magistrate's office and he granted the warrant. I believe the tree's value to be around $2,000-$5,000 based on calling some nurseries and they said they sell 8 ft trees for $300-400. They don't sell trees 20-25 ft tall. What's my next step? Should I pay to have a survey done? Should I start the small claims court now (max $10k lawsuit in small claims in my state), or wait until after the criminal case is resolved? (Court date is in December) Any other advice?", "role": "user" }, { "content": "I am not a lawyer, but Nursery guy/arborist here, get a professional/certified arborist to give you a quote of the tree's value, the estimated value of the removed tree may be more important than the replacement cost for smaller specimens. If you have pictures of the tree available and not just the security footage that would be a bonus for the person doing the estimate. The reason no one tends sells trees that large is because they physically can't handle that large an operation, the root ball alone would have to be 8 to 10 feet in diameter to even give the tree a chance of surviving. I'm sure an actual lawyer can chime in to tell you if your state has triple damages for malicious tree-cuttery, I know that has come up in other tree law threads.", "role": "assistant" } ]

[ { "content": "(NC-USA) Neighbor cut down my 20 ft tree without permission The neighbor behind my house cut down a 20-25 Leyland Cypress tree that is on my property. The entire trunk of the tree is 8-12 inches over the property line (on my side). I called the police and we confronted him about it and he admitted to cutting it down. The police took no report though and he referred me to the magistrate's office to get a warrant since it's a Class 1 Misdemeanor in my state. I have security footage of the tree being cut down, but the camera is 90 feet away so it's hard to see a face. I went to the Magistrate's office and he granted the warrant. I believe the tree's value to be around $2,000-$5,000 based on calling some nurseries and they said they sell 8 ft trees for $300-400. They don't sell trees 20-25 ft tall. What's my next step? Should I pay to have a survey done? Should I start the small claims court now (max $10k lawsuit in small claims in my state), or wait until after the criminal case is resolved? (Court date is in December) Any other advice?", "role": "user" }, { "content": "Since you're asking whether or not to get a survey, I'll take that to mean that you've never had one done. In that case, how are you certain that it was on your property? Your first step is a survey to be sure that it's your property", "role": "assistant" } ]

[ { "content": "(NC-USA) Neighbor cut down my 20 ft tree without permission The neighbor behind my house cut down a 20-25 Leyland Cypress tree that is on my property. The entire trunk of the tree is 8-12 inches over the property line (on my side). I called the police and we confronted him about it and he admitted to cutting it down. The police took no report though and he referred me to the magistrate's office to get a warrant since it's a Class 1 Misdemeanor in my state. I have security footage of the tree being cut down, but the camera is 90 feet away so it's hard to see a face. I went to the Magistrate's office and he granted the warrant. I believe the tree's value to be around $2,000-$5,000 based on calling some nurseries and they said they sell 8 ft trees for $300-400. They don't sell trees 20-25 ft tall. What's my next step? Should I pay to have a survey done? Should I start the small claims court now (max $10k lawsuit in small claims in my state), or wait until after the criminal case is resolved? (Court date is in December) Any other advice?", "role": "user" }, { "content": "I am not a lawyer, but Nursery guy/arborist here, get a professional/certified arborist to give you a quote of the tree's value, the estimated value of the removed tree may be more important than the replacement cost for smaller specimens. If you have pictures of the tree available and not just the security footage that would be a bonus for the person doing the estimate. The reason no one tends sells trees that large is because they physically can't handle that large an operation, the root ball alone would have to be 8 to 10 feet in diameter to even give the tree a chance of surviving. I'm sure an actual lawyer can chime in to tell you if your state has triple damages for malicious tree-cuttery, I know that has come up in other tree law threads.", "role": "assistant" } ]

[ { "content": "(NC-USA) Neighbor cut down my 20 ft tree without permission The neighbor behind my house cut down a 20-25 Leyland Cypress tree that is on my property. The entire trunk of the tree is 8-12 inches over the property line (on my side). I called the police and we confronted him about it and he admitted to cutting it down. The police took no report though and he referred me to the magistrate's office to get a warrant since it's a Class 1 Misdemeanor in my state. I have security footage of the tree being cut down, but the camera is 90 feet away so it's hard to see a face. I went to the Magistrate's office and he granted the warrant. I believe the tree's value to be around $2,000-$5,000 based on calling some nurseries and they said they sell 8 ft trees for $300-400. They don't sell trees 20-25 ft tall. What's my next step? Should I pay to have a survey done? Should I start the small claims court now (max $10k lawsuit in small claims in my state), or wait until after the criminal case is resolved? (Court date is in December) Any other advice?", "role": "user" }, { "content": "MS paint or it didn't happen", "role": "assistant" } ]

[ { "content": "(NC-USA) Neighbor cut down my 20 ft tree without permission The neighbor behind my house cut down a 20-25 Leyland Cypress tree that is on my property. The entire trunk of the tree is 8-12 inches over the property line (on my side). I called the police and we confronted him about it and he admitted to cutting it down. The police took no report though and he referred me to the magistrate's office to get a warrant since it's a Class 1 Misdemeanor in my state. I have security footage of the tree being cut down, but the camera is 90 feet away so it's hard to see a face. I went to the Magistrate's office and he granted the warrant. I believe the tree's value to be around $2,000-$5,000 based on calling some nurseries and they said they sell 8 ft trees for $300-400. They don't sell trees 20-25 ft tall. What's my next step? Should I pay to have a survey done? Should I start the small claims court now (max $10k lawsuit in small claims in my state), or wait until after the criminal case is resolved? (Court date is in December) Any other advice?", "role": "user" }, { "content": "I am not a lawyer, but Nursery guy/arborist here, get a professional/certified arborist to give you a quote of the tree's value, the estimated value of the removed tree may be more important than the replacement cost for smaller specimens. If you have pictures of the tree available and not just the security footage that would be a bonus for the person doing the estimate. The reason no one tends sells trees that large is because they physically can't handle that large an operation, the root ball alone would have to be 8 to 10 feet in diameter to even give the tree a chance of surviving. I'm sure an actual lawyer can chime in to tell you if your state has triple damages for malicious tree-cuttery, I know that has come up in other tree law threads.", "role": "assistant" } ]

[ { "content": "My family’s new neighbor connected our fences without permission and built onto our property **TL;DR:** Neighbor built her fence onto our property. She drilled her fence into our fence to connect them to avoid paying for another wall after agreeing specifically not to do that. Do we have any right to get her to remove the part on our property? I live in California (San Bernardino County) in a town in the mountains. Recently, a woman moved in next door into a house that was recently put onto the market. My family has not been fond of her since she moved in, but yesterday she took things to the next level. She had been planning on building a fence and connected a string from her house to our fence, which my parents assumed meant she would be connecting our fences. We put up a fence a few years ago, and it doesn’t rest on the property line. When we built our fences we left about 2 feet on either side and about 6 feet off the back of the fence so we had access to the entire property for weed abatement. My parents saw the string and immediately knocked on her door to explain the situation, however, she wasn’t home and my parents left a note which the boyfriend gave to her. The situation only worsened from there, which eventually led to the woman coming over to our house with surveyors (which my parents doubt the credibility of). The conversation basically ended with the woman agreeing to not build on our property, agreeing to leave the 2-foot gap between the fences, and then they left. We didn't have any of this in writing, which I admit we should have gotten, but we took her at her word. She lied. She drilled into our fence and connected hers so she wouldn’t have to pay for the last wall, making it so we no longer have access to the back part of our property, and building ON our property. Our family is unsure how to proceed in this situation. Is there any way that we can have her remove the fence from our property and disconnect our fences?", "role": "user" }, { "content": "Did she build it herself or hire a service to build her fence?", "role": "assistant" } ]

[ { "content": "My family’s new neighbor connected our fences without permission and built onto our property **TL;DR:** Neighbor built her fence onto our property. She drilled her fence into our fence to connect them to avoid paying for another wall after agreeing specifically not to do that. Do we have any right to get her to remove the part on our property? I live in California (San Bernardino County) in a town in the mountains. Recently, a woman moved in next door into a house that was recently put onto the market. My family has not been fond of her since she moved in, but yesterday she took things to the next level. She had been planning on building a fence and connected a string from her house to our fence, which my parents assumed meant she would be connecting our fences. We put up a fence a few years ago, and it doesn’t rest on the property line. When we built our fences we left about 2 feet on either side and about 6 feet off the back of the fence so we had access to the entire property for weed abatement. My parents saw the string and immediately knocked on her door to explain the situation, however, she wasn’t home and my parents left a note which the boyfriend gave to her. The situation only worsened from there, which eventually led to the woman coming over to our house with surveyors (which my parents doubt the credibility of). The conversation basically ended with the woman agreeing to not build on our property, agreeing to leave the 2-foot gap between the fences, and then they left. We didn't have any of this in writing, which I admit we should have gotten, but we took her at her word. She lied. She drilled into our fence and connected hers so she wouldn’t have to pay for the last wall, making it so we no longer have access to the back part of our property, and building ON our property. Our family is unsure how to proceed in this situation. Is there any way that we can have her remove the fence from our property and disconnect our fences?", "role": "user" }, { "content": "First, I'd hire my own surveyor the mark the lot. Second, if the fence indeed does come onto my property, I'd have a lawyer sent a demand letter to have her remove it. Not squashing this now leads to her claiming possession of the land down the road.", "role": "assistant" } ]

[ { "content": "Neighbor sanding my car without my permission Hello r/legaladvice , recently my neighbor with which I share an apartment building decided to take a wet sander or some kind of device to my Toyota. Originally there had been some clear coat damage when I bought the vehicle, but my neighbor has become infatuated with assisting me get rid of the spots and he decided to take action without my permission despite having a conversation with him the night previous to this occurring(I believe he was drunk, as he seems to be consistently all day). Doing this resulted in not only the complete destruction of the hood finish but in spots where clear coat was an issue, the paint has been stripped to the bare metal. This is not the first time he’s attempted to do something helpful and it’s gone wrong. I am especially upset due to the fact I planned on selling the car soon, and now I will probably get half of what I would’ve for it. Co-workers have been telling me to claim it on my comprehensive insurance and file a police report. The only issue is there are no cameras in my parking lot so I don’t have physical proof besides our several interjections over the topic. I don’t want to come off too harsh but this is just absolutely uncalled for and I have not felt frustration like this in a long time lol. At the end of the day I’m looking for the money to get my paint redone due to someone else’s mistake, what course of actions should I follow to ensure something is done? I have no photos currently as I was almost late to work upon the inspection of my vehicle so I will update this post as soon as I get the chance. Thank you for your time in advance.", "role": "user" }, { "content": "Not a Lawyer but maybe try talking to him about it. Now what I mean is first look up recording laws in your state and see if yours is one party consent, next if it is have a recording device on your person that's not noticable and record a conversation with him (if two party have a friend along who knows about the recording device). Have a casual conversation with your neighbor and bring up the topic of the car, and see if he'll admit to it. If you have him admitting on tape he did it you could file a report to the police and your insurance for property damage.", "role": "assistant" } ]

[ { "content": "Neighbor sanding my car without my permission Hello r/legaladvice , recently my neighbor with which I share an apartment building decided to take a wet sander or some kind of device to my Toyota. Originally there had been some clear coat damage when I bought the vehicle, but my neighbor has become infatuated with assisting me get rid of the spots and he decided to take action without my permission despite having a conversation with him the night previous to this occurring(I believe he was drunk, as he seems to be consistently all day). Doing this resulted in not only the complete destruction of the hood finish but in spots where clear coat was an issue, the paint has been stripped to the bare metal. This is not the first time he’s attempted to do something helpful and it’s gone wrong. I am especially upset due to the fact I planned on selling the car soon, and now I will probably get half of what I would’ve for it. Co-workers have been telling me to claim it on my comprehensive insurance and file a police report. The only issue is there are no cameras in my parking lot so I don’t have physical proof besides our several interjections over the topic. I don’t want to come off too harsh but this is just absolutely uncalled for and I have not felt frustration like this in a long time lol. At the end of the day I’m looking for the money to get my paint redone due to someone else’s mistake, what course of actions should I follow to ensure something is done? I have no photos currently as I was almost late to work upon the inspection of my vehicle so I will update this post as soon as I get the chance. Thank you for your time in advance.", "role": "user" }, { "content": ">Co-workers have been telling me to claim it on my comprehensive insurance and file a police report. Co-workers are right. Even if you can't end up proving he did it, if you have coverage for the damage to your vehicle, your insurance should handle the damages AND handle the attempt to hold your neighbor responsible. They will also try to recover your deductible against the neighbor. If you don't have comprehensive coverage, then your only option is to go after your neighbor directly. Ask him if he did it, if you can get it in a text or email even better. Depending on your state, look up if your state is a two-party or one-party consent state. If it's one party, then record the conversation (two party means he has to give permission to record). Then take whatever you can to court to prove it.", "role": "assistant" } ]

[ { "content": "My sister has harassed our family since the passing of our mother, insisting that she is owed the portion of our living father's pension that was being paid to my mother while she was alive. My mother passed away 15 years ago. It was traumatic for my whole family, but especially for my sister who has suffered from untreated (she is treatment adverse) mental and emotional illness. One of the symptoms of my sister's illness is an obsession with money, often believing she is owed it from people in her life (boyfriend, aunts and uncles, my father). My mother and father divorced about 6 years before my mother passed away and my father retired 2 or 3 years after that. In the divorce agreement, my mother got some meaningful portion of my father's pension. The story goes that my mother tried to put a clause in the divorce contract stating that if anything were to happen to her, that benefit would pass along to her children. My father and his lawyer challenged this and the clause was removed. So, my mother was receiving a portion of my father's pension payments until she passed. After she passed, my father received the entirety of his pension payments. My sisters and I did not receive anything. My sister has verbally and emotionally abused my father and our entire immediate and extended family about this. She has tried to build alliances against my father, played others off each other, been extremely manipulative, demanded agreement that she is right, and demanded mediation (despite no legal challenge to mediate). It has been terrible, especially for her, as she has wasted years being angry and enraged that she has not received what she is \"owed.\" Her obsession with this has come at the cost of her health, education, career, and life as well as the health and happiness of our family. At this point she is estranged from most everyone in the family, and those she is not estranged from seem to either absorb her diatribes and verbal assaults as an act of love and familial duty, or pay her the ransom of the moment (rent, medical bill, new computer, etc.) Today, she is not only demanding the portion of my father's pension moving forward, but also back payments for the last 15 years since my mothers death. These demands come of family members, but never once through the courts. It doesn't make any sense to me that children of divorce and subsequent death of a parent would receive a portion of their living parent's pension. Am I off base here? Does she have a case to be made? If that divorce contract clause would have stayed, would it have even been legitimate? I would appreciate any advice you can offer. Thank you!", "role": "user" }, { "content": "Maybe you and your dad should consider putting a restraining order on her. I had to do that to my brother who was heavily on hard drugs because he would harass me for money too and it stopped pretty quickly. She obviously doesn’t see your dad as family but an ATM and that must really hurt him. When your dad does pass you will be the next one she will be after about inheritance. Maybe your dad should consider removing her from his will all together if she’s treating him like that. It sucks but sometimes you need to give them tough love for them to look at their actions and change their priorities. My brother also has some mental health issues too and nothing is ever his fault.", "role": "assistant" } ]

[ { "content": "My sister has harassed our family since the passing of our mother, insisting that she is owed the portion of our living father's pension that was being paid to my mother while she was alive. My mother passed away 15 years ago. It was traumatic for my whole family, but especially for my sister who has suffered from untreated (she is treatment adverse) mental and emotional illness. One of the symptoms of my sister's illness is an obsession with money, often believing she is owed it from people in her life (boyfriend, aunts and uncles, my father). My mother and father divorced about 6 years before my mother passed away and my father retired 2 or 3 years after that. In the divorce agreement, my mother got some meaningful portion of my father's pension. The story goes that my mother tried to put a clause in the divorce contract stating that if anything were to happen to her, that benefit would pass along to her children. My father and his lawyer challenged this and the clause was removed. So, my mother was receiving a portion of my father's pension payments until she passed. After she passed, my father received the entirety of his pension payments. My sisters and I did not receive anything. My sister has verbally and emotionally abused my father and our entire immediate and extended family about this. She has tried to build alliances against my father, played others off each other, been extremely manipulative, demanded agreement that she is right, and demanded mediation (despite no legal challenge to mediate). It has been terrible, especially for her, as she has wasted years being angry and enraged that she has not received what she is \"owed.\" Her obsession with this has come at the cost of her health, education, career, and life as well as the health and happiness of our family. At this point she is estranged from most everyone in the family, and those she is not estranged from seem to either absorb her diatribes and verbal assaults as an act of love and familial duty, or pay her the ransom of the moment (rent, medical bill, new computer, etc.) Today, she is not only demanding the portion of my father's pension moving forward, but also back payments for the last 15 years since my mothers death. These demands come of family members, but never once through the courts. It doesn't make any sense to me that children of divorce and subsequent death of a parent would receive a portion of their living parent's pension. Am I off base here? Does she have a case to be made? If that divorce contract clause would have stayed, would it have even been legitimate? I would appreciate any advice you can offer. Thank you!", "role": "user" }, { "content": "A common way for a retirement plan to be handled in divorce is for the court to split it into two separate accounts altogether with what is called a Qualified Domestic Relations Order (QDRO). To the extent possible under the plan, both spouses would be able to designate their own beneficiaries who would receive whatever the plan provides after their death. There are a number of possible reasons why that didn't happen here. But really, the simple matter is that it didn't. Your father's pension is his, and your sister has no legal claim to it. Engaging with her on this is not helpful for anyone. If she sues, hire an attorney and respond to the suit.", "role": "assistant" } ]

[ { "content": "My sister has harassed our family since the passing of our mother, insisting that she is owed the portion of our living father's pension that was being paid to my mother while she was alive. My mother passed away 15 years ago. It was traumatic for my whole family, but especially for my sister who has suffered from untreated (she is treatment adverse) mental and emotional illness. One of the symptoms of my sister's illness is an obsession with money, often believing she is owed it from people in her life (boyfriend, aunts and uncles, my father). My mother and father divorced about 6 years before my mother passed away and my father retired 2 or 3 years after that. In the divorce agreement, my mother got some meaningful portion of my father's pension. The story goes that my mother tried to put a clause in the divorce contract stating that if anything were to happen to her, that benefit would pass along to her children. My father and his lawyer challenged this and the clause was removed. So, my mother was receiving a portion of my father's pension payments until she passed. After she passed, my father received the entirety of his pension payments. My sisters and I did not receive anything. My sister has verbally and emotionally abused my father and our entire immediate and extended family about this. She has tried to build alliances against my father, played others off each other, been extremely manipulative, demanded agreement that she is right, and demanded mediation (despite no legal challenge to mediate). It has been terrible, especially for her, as she has wasted years being angry and enraged that she has not received what she is \"owed.\" Her obsession with this has come at the cost of her health, education, career, and life as well as the health and happiness of our family. At this point she is estranged from most everyone in the family, and those she is not estranged from seem to either absorb her diatribes and verbal assaults as an act of love and familial duty, or pay her the ransom of the moment (rent, medical bill, new computer, etc.) Today, she is not only demanding the portion of my father's pension moving forward, but also back payments for the last 15 years since my mothers death. These demands come of family members, but never once through the courts. It doesn't make any sense to me that children of divorce and subsequent death of a parent would receive a portion of their living parent's pension. Am I off base here? Does she have a case to be made? If that divorce contract clause would have stayed, would it have even been legitimate? I would appreciate any advice you can offer. Thank you!", "role": "user" }, { "content": "Maybe you and your dad should consider putting a restraining order on her. I had to do that to my brother who was heavily on hard drugs because he would harass me for money too and it stopped pretty quickly. She obviously doesn’t see your dad as family but an ATM and that must really hurt him. When your dad does pass you will be the next one she will be after about inheritance. Maybe your dad should consider removing her from his will all together if she’s treating him like that. It sucks but sometimes you need to give them tough love for them to look at their actions and change their priorities. My brother also has some mental health issues too and nothing is ever his fault.", "role": "assistant" } ]

[ { "content": "My sister has harassed our family since the passing of our mother, insisting that she is owed the portion of our living father's pension that was being paid to my mother while she was alive. My mother passed away 15 years ago. It was traumatic for my whole family, but especially for my sister who has suffered from untreated (she is treatment adverse) mental and emotional illness. One of the symptoms of my sister's illness is an obsession with money, often believing she is owed it from people in her life (boyfriend, aunts and uncles, my father). My mother and father divorced about 6 years before my mother passed away and my father retired 2 or 3 years after that. In the divorce agreement, my mother got some meaningful portion of my father's pension. The story goes that my mother tried to put a clause in the divorce contract stating that if anything were to happen to her, that benefit would pass along to her children. My father and his lawyer challenged this and the clause was removed. So, my mother was receiving a portion of my father's pension payments until she passed. After she passed, my father received the entirety of his pension payments. My sisters and I did not receive anything. My sister has verbally and emotionally abused my father and our entire immediate and extended family about this. She has tried to build alliances against my father, played others off each other, been extremely manipulative, demanded agreement that she is right, and demanded mediation (despite no legal challenge to mediate). It has been terrible, especially for her, as she has wasted years being angry and enraged that she has not received what she is \"owed.\" Her obsession with this has come at the cost of her health, education, career, and life as well as the health and happiness of our family. At this point she is estranged from most everyone in the family, and those she is not estranged from seem to either absorb her diatribes and verbal assaults as an act of love and familial duty, or pay her the ransom of the moment (rent, medical bill, new computer, etc.) Today, she is not only demanding the portion of my father's pension moving forward, but also back payments for the last 15 years since my mothers death. These demands come of family members, but never once through the courts. It doesn't make any sense to me that children of divorce and subsequent death of a parent would receive a portion of their living parent's pension. Am I off base here? Does she have a case to be made? If that divorce contract clause would have stayed, would it have even been legitimate? I would appreciate any advice you can offer. Thank you!", "role": "user" }, { "content": "Others have commented with good advice, but nobody so far has mentioned the statute of limitations. Even if she has an ironclad legal position... The fact that her complaint is based upon something that happened / started 15 years ago means she is almost certainly barred by time. She could start an action (any one can, for anything) but the statute of limitations could be raised as defense.", "role": "assistant" } ]

[ { "content": "My sister has harassed our family since the passing of our mother, insisting that she is owed the portion of our living father's pension that was being paid to my mother while she was alive. My mother passed away 15 years ago. It was traumatic for my whole family, but especially for my sister who has suffered from untreated (she is treatment adverse) mental and emotional illness. One of the symptoms of my sister's illness is an obsession with money, often believing she is owed it from people in her life (boyfriend, aunts and uncles, my father). My mother and father divorced about 6 years before my mother passed away and my father retired 2 or 3 years after that. In the divorce agreement, my mother got some meaningful portion of my father's pension. The story goes that my mother tried to put a clause in the divorce contract stating that if anything were to happen to her, that benefit would pass along to her children. My father and his lawyer challenged this and the clause was removed. So, my mother was receiving a portion of my father's pension payments until she passed. After she passed, my father received the entirety of his pension payments. My sisters and I did not receive anything. My sister has verbally and emotionally abused my father and our entire immediate and extended family about this. She has tried to build alliances against my father, played others off each other, been extremely manipulative, demanded agreement that she is right, and demanded mediation (despite no legal challenge to mediate). It has been terrible, especially for her, as she has wasted years being angry and enraged that she has not received what she is \"owed.\" Her obsession with this has come at the cost of her health, education, career, and life as well as the health and happiness of our family. At this point she is estranged from most everyone in the family, and those she is not estranged from seem to either absorb her diatribes and verbal assaults as an act of love and familial duty, or pay her the ransom of the moment (rent, medical bill, new computer, etc.) Today, she is not only demanding the portion of my father's pension moving forward, but also back payments for the last 15 years since my mothers death. These demands come of family members, but never once through the courts. It doesn't make any sense to me that children of divorce and subsequent death of a parent would receive a portion of their living parent's pension. Am I off base here? Does she have a case to be made? If that divorce contract clause would have stayed, would it have even been legitimate? I would appreciate any advice you can offer. Thank you!", "role": "user" }, { "content": "Sounds like the chances of you or another relative convincing your sister of this are between slim and none. Just ignore contact. If for some reason it's impossible to ignore her then tell her to ask her own lawyer to explain it to her.", "role": "assistant" } ]

[ { "content": "My sister has harassed our family since the passing of our mother, insisting that she is owed the portion of our living father's pension that was being paid to my mother while she was alive. My mother passed away 15 years ago. It was traumatic for my whole family, but especially for my sister who has suffered from untreated (she is treatment adverse) mental and emotional illness. One of the symptoms of my sister's illness is an obsession with money, often believing she is owed it from people in her life (boyfriend, aunts and uncles, my father). My mother and father divorced about 6 years before my mother passed away and my father retired 2 or 3 years after that. In the divorce agreement, my mother got some meaningful portion of my father's pension. The story goes that my mother tried to put a clause in the divorce contract stating that if anything were to happen to her, that benefit would pass along to her children. My father and his lawyer challenged this and the clause was removed. So, my mother was receiving a portion of my father's pension payments until she passed. After she passed, my father received the entirety of his pension payments. My sisters and I did not receive anything. My sister has verbally and emotionally abused my father and our entire immediate and extended family about this. She has tried to build alliances against my father, played others off each other, been extremely manipulative, demanded agreement that she is right, and demanded mediation (despite no legal challenge to mediate). It has been terrible, especially for her, as she has wasted years being angry and enraged that she has not received what she is \"owed.\" Her obsession with this has come at the cost of her health, education, career, and life as well as the health and happiness of our family. At this point she is estranged from most everyone in the family, and those she is not estranged from seem to either absorb her diatribes and verbal assaults as an act of love and familial duty, or pay her the ransom of the moment (rent, medical bill, new computer, etc.) Today, she is not only demanding the portion of my father's pension moving forward, but also back payments for the last 15 years since my mothers death. These demands come of family members, but never once through the courts. It doesn't make any sense to me that children of divorce and subsequent death of a parent would receive a portion of their living parent's pension. Am I off base here? Does she have a case to be made? If that divorce contract clause would have stayed, would it have even been legitimate? I would appreciate any advice you can offer. Thank you!", "role": "user" }, { "content": "Others have commented with good advice, but nobody so far has mentioned the statute of limitations. Even if she has an ironclad legal position... The fact that her complaint is based upon something that happened / started 15 years ago means she is almost certainly barred by time. She could start an action (any one can, for anything) but the statute of limitations could be raised as defense.", "role": "assistant" } ]

[ { "content": "My sister has harassed our family since the passing of our mother, insisting that she is owed the portion of our living father's pension that was being paid to my mother while she was alive. My mother passed away 15 years ago. It was traumatic for my whole family, but especially for my sister who has suffered from untreated (she is treatment adverse) mental and emotional illness. One of the symptoms of my sister's illness is an obsession with money, often believing she is owed it from people in her life (boyfriend, aunts and uncles, my father). My mother and father divorced about 6 years before my mother passed away and my father retired 2 or 3 years after that. In the divorce agreement, my mother got some meaningful portion of my father's pension. The story goes that my mother tried to put a clause in the divorce contract stating that if anything were to happen to her, that benefit would pass along to her children. My father and his lawyer challenged this and the clause was removed. So, my mother was receiving a portion of my father's pension payments until she passed. After she passed, my father received the entirety of his pension payments. My sisters and I did not receive anything. My sister has verbally and emotionally abused my father and our entire immediate and extended family about this. She has tried to build alliances against my father, played others off each other, been extremely manipulative, demanded agreement that she is right, and demanded mediation (despite no legal challenge to mediate). It has been terrible, especially for her, as she has wasted years being angry and enraged that she has not received what she is \"owed.\" Her obsession with this has come at the cost of her health, education, career, and life as well as the health and happiness of our family. At this point she is estranged from most everyone in the family, and those she is not estranged from seem to either absorb her diatribes and verbal assaults as an act of love and familial duty, or pay her the ransom of the moment (rent, medical bill, new computer, etc.) Today, she is not only demanding the portion of my father's pension moving forward, but also back payments for the last 15 years since my mothers death. These demands come of family members, but never once through the courts. It doesn't make any sense to me that children of divorce and subsequent death of a parent would receive a portion of their living parent's pension. Am I off base here? Does she have a case to be made? If that divorce contract clause would have stayed, would it have even been legitimate? I would appreciate any advice you can offer. Thank you!", "role": "user" }, { "content": "What jurisdiction are you in? What type of pension does your Dad receive, government or private company pension?", "role": "assistant" } ]

[ { "content": "My sister has harassed our family since the passing of our mother, insisting that she is owed the portion of our living father's pension that was being paid to my mother while she was alive. My mother passed away 15 years ago. It was traumatic for my whole family, but especially for my sister who has suffered from untreated (she is treatment adverse) mental and emotional illness. One of the symptoms of my sister's illness is an obsession with money, often believing she is owed it from people in her life (boyfriend, aunts and uncles, my father). My mother and father divorced about 6 years before my mother passed away and my father retired 2 or 3 years after that. In the divorce agreement, my mother got some meaningful portion of my father's pension. The story goes that my mother tried to put a clause in the divorce contract stating that if anything were to happen to her, that benefit would pass along to her children. My father and his lawyer challenged this and the clause was removed. So, my mother was receiving a portion of my father's pension payments until she passed. After she passed, my father received the entirety of his pension payments. My sisters and I did not receive anything. My sister has verbally and emotionally abused my father and our entire immediate and extended family about this. She has tried to build alliances against my father, played others off each other, been extremely manipulative, demanded agreement that she is right, and demanded mediation (despite no legal challenge to mediate). It has been terrible, especially for her, as she has wasted years being angry and enraged that she has not received what she is \"owed.\" Her obsession with this has come at the cost of her health, education, career, and life as well as the health and happiness of our family. At this point she is estranged from most everyone in the family, and those she is not estranged from seem to either absorb her diatribes and verbal assaults as an act of love and familial duty, or pay her the ransom of the moment (rent, medical bill, new computer, etc.) Today, she is not only demanding the portion of my father's pension moving forward, but also back payments for the last 15 years since my mothers death. These demands come of family members, but never once through the courts. It doesn't make any sense to me that children of divorce and subsequent death of a parent would receive a portion of their living parent's pension. Am I off base here? Does she have a case to be made? If that divorce contract clause would have stayed, would it have even been legitimate? I would appreciate any advice you can offer. Thank you!", "role": "user" }, { "content": "Do what my grandmother did, if anyone contest the will after fathers said death, they get $1. My aunt did this with my mother and siblings, and she got a $1. Still trying to contest it, but nope.", "role": "assistant" } ]

[ { "content": "My sister has harassed our family since the passing of our mother, insisting that she is owed the portion of our living father's pension that was being paid to my mother while she was alive. My mother passed away 15 years ago. It was traumatic for my whole family, but especially for my sister who has suffered from untreated (she is treatment adverse) mental and emotional illness. One of the symptoms of my sister's illness is an obsession with money, often believing she is owed it from people in her life (boyfriend, aunts and uncles, my father). My mother and father divorced about 6 years before my mother passed away and my father retired 2 or 3 years after that. In the divorce agreement, my mother got some meaningful portion of my father's pension. The story goes that my mother tried to put a clause in the divorce contract stating that if anything were to happen to her, that benefit would pass along to her children. My father and his lawyer challenged this and the clause was removed. So, my mother was receiving a portion of my father's pension payments until she passed. After she passed, my father received the entirety of his pension payments. My sisters and I did not receive anything. My sister has verbally and emotionally abused my father and our entire immediate and extended family about this. She has tried to build alliances against my father, played others off each other, been extremely manipulative, demanded agreement that she is right, and demanded mediation (despite no legal challenge to mediate). It has been terrible, especially for her, as she has wasted years being angry and enraged that she has not received what she is \"owed.\" Her obsession with this has come at the cost of her health, education, career, and life as well as the health and happiness of our family. At this point she is estranged from most everyone in the family, and those she is not estranged from seem to either absorb her diatribes and verbal assaults as an act of love and familial duty, or pay her the ransom of the moment (rent, medical bill, new computer, etc.) Today, she is not only demanding the portion of my father's pension moving forward, but also back payments for the last 15 years since my mothers death. These demands come of family members, but never once through the courts. It doesn't make any sense to me that children of divorce and subsequent death of a parent would receive a portion of their living parent's pension. Am I off base here? Does she have a case to be made? If that divorce contract clause would have stayed, would it have even been legitimate? I would appreciate any advice you can offer. Thank you!", "role": "user" }, { "content": "What jurisdiction are you in? What type of pension does your Dad receive, government or private company pension?", "role": "assistant" } ]

[ { "content": "My sister has harassed our family since the passing of our mother, insisting that she is owed the portion of our living father's pension that was being paid to my mother while she was alive. My mother passed away 15 years ago. It was traumatic for my whole family, but especially for my sister who has suffered from untreated (she is treatment adverse) mental and emotional illness. One of the symptoms of my sister's illness is an obsession with money, often believing she is owed it from people in her life (boyfriend, aunts and uncles, my father). My mother and father divorced about 6 years before my mother passed away and my father retired 2 or 3 years after that. In the divorce agreement, my mother got some meaningful portion of my father's pension. The story goes that my mother tried to put a clause in the divorce contract stating that if anything were to happen to her, that benefit would pass along to her children. My father and his lawyer challenged this and the clause was removed. So, my mother was receiving a portion of my father's pension payments until she passed. After she passed, my father received the entirety of his pension payments. My sisters and I did not receive anything. My sister has verbally and emotionally abused my father and our entire immediate and extended family about this. She has tried to build alliances against my father, played others off each other, been extremely manipulative, demanded agreement that she is right, and demanded mediation (despite no legal challenge to mediate). It has been terrible, especially for her, as she has wasted years being angry and enraged that she has not received what she is \"owed.\" Her obsession with this has come at the cost of her health, education, career, and life as well as the health and happiness of our family. At this point she is estranged from most everyone in the family, and those she is not estranged from seem to either absorb her diatribes and verbal assaults as an act of love and familial duty, or pay her the ransom of the moment (rent, medical bill, new computer, etc.) Today, she is not only demanding the portion of my father's pension moving forward, but also back payments for the last 15 years since my mothers death. These demands come of family members, but never once through the courts. It doesn't make any sense to me that children of divorce and subsequent death of a parent would receive a portion of their living parent's pension. Am I off base here? Does she have a case to be made? If that divorce contract clause would have stayed, would it have even been legitimate? I would appreciate any advice you can offer. Thank you!", "role": "user" }, { "content": "Your sister is not legally entitled to anything. A judge would not even hear this case as it has zero legal basis. Since a parent does not have any legal responsibility to a child once the child is an adult, this is the same thing as an absolute stranger demanding money.", "role": "assistant" } ]

[ { "content": "Im being forced to move today due to a major plumbing issue the home owner won’t fix; he expects me to continue paying the utilities until he sells the house. The home owner is unable to afford to fix the plumbing issue and has decided to sell the house. The issue is so severe the home is unliveable until it is fixed. He expects me to continue to pay utilities until he sells. I am not on a lease. I don’t have any ownership of the home other than the utilities are in my name. I thought about asking him to pay me back for the utilities for the weeks/months until he sells, but he is behind on EVERY bill (the mortgage, his car payment, the internet bill, his ps5 rental, his guitar payments, thousands owed to friends and family that he’s never paid them back for after borrowing…..) and I know he would NEVER pay me back for the utilities. I already paid rent for the entire month of September even though I haven’t been able to live here at all since 8/31 because of the plumbing issue (feces water backs up and floods the downstairs bathroom anytime any toilet is flushed, shower or sink or washer used….). I am paying thousands to board my dogs until I can move in with my mom. I REALLY cannot afford utilities for a house I’m not living in. Is it wrong of me to turn off the utilities when he takes my key tomorrow? Can I legally do that? What are my rights here? Any advice is appreciated.", "role": "user" }, { "content": "You paid rent for September, you have rights to the property until September unless he refunds you, you are not legally obligated to turn over the keys until the end of september. Maybe contact a lawyer because this man would owe you for any fees associated with this including the cost to board your dogs. Be wary tho because he probably won't have the money to pay for it, so weigh your options on that. Maybe offer cash for keys, as in he can have the keys back in exchange for a refund or partial refund of September's rent in order to lower your financial loss due to this situation. Just know that legally, you do not have to turn over the keys until the end of September and i wouldnt because they are one of the few leverages you have in this situation. A verbal lease is still a lease, just month to month by default according to the law. I would cut off the utilities ASAP, as well as print out any record of you paying for utilities and rent and keep them in a safe spot in case you might need them for any type of court if you do pursue damages or they attempt a small claims suit (they have ZERO standing but anyone can sue for anything) By record I mean, bank statements, texts, emails, letters, bills and so on. Images you have of the problems are also good to keep on hand and available as well and should be put somewhere safe in a cloud as well. From now on, if you can, only contact your landlord via text or email and save every conversation. Look up the recording laws in your state, if it is legal, record ALL interactions with the landlord. This will help you in case they attempt to come at you for damages even though it is not your liability. Be firm and DO NOT continue paying for utilities of a place that you do not live in, that could hurt your credit immensely if they rack the bills up so high you can't pay.", "role": "assistant" } ]

[ { "content": "Im being forced to move today due to a major plumbing issue the home owner won’t fix; he expects me to continue paying the utilities until he sells the house. The home owner is unable to afford to fix the plumbing issue and has decided to sell the house. The issue is so severe the home is unliveable until it is fixed. He expects me to continue to pay utilities until he sells. I am not on a lease. I don’t have any ownership of the home other than the utilities are in my name. I thought about asking him to pay me back for the utilities for the weeks/months until he sells, but he is behind on EVERY bill (the mortgage, his car payment, the internet bill, his ps5 rental, his guitar payments, thousands owed to friends and family that he’s never paid them back for after borrowing…..) and I know he would NEVER pay me back for the utilities. I already paid rent for the entire month of September even though I haven’t been able to live here at all since 8/31 because of the plumbing issue (feces water backs up and floods the downstairs bathroom anytime any toilet is flushed, shower or sink or washer used….). I am paying thousands to board my dogs until I can move in with my mom. I REALLY cannot afford utilities for a house I’m not living in. Is it wrong of me to turn off the utilities when he takes my key tomorrow? Can I legally do that? What are my rights here? Any advice is appreciated.", "role": "user" }, { "content": "Where I am you can call the utility companies and tell them you're vacating the property and they should be transferred to the homeowner. They may have information on file already, or they may ask for it, but be very clear that you are terminating your responsibility. Then put in a google doc the date & time of the call (hell, take a screenshot of your call log to prove you were talking to them & didn't just call and hang up). That google doc is something you should be using to document everything happening with this shit show so that if you end up in court you'll have undeniable documentation.", "role": "assistant" } ]

[ { "content": "Im being forced to move today due to a major plumbing issue the home owner won’t fix; he expects me to continue paying the utilities until he sells the house. The home owner is unable to afford to fix the plumbing issue and has decided to sell the house. The issue is so severe the home is unliveable until it is fixed. He expects me to continue to pay utilities until he sells. I am not on a lease. I don’t have any ownership of the home other than the utilities are in my name. I thought about asking him to pay me back for the utilities for the weeks/months until he sells, but he is behind on EVERY bill (the mortgage, his car payment, the internet bill, his ps5 rental, his guitar payments, thousands owed to friends and family that he’s never paid them back for after borrowing…..) and I know he would NEVER pay me back for the utilities. I already paid rent for the entire month of September even though I haven’t been able to live here at all since 8/31 because of the plumbing issue (feces water backs up and floods the downstairs bathroom anytime any toilet is flushed, shower or sink or washer used….). I am paying thousands to board my dogs until I can move in with my mom. I REALLY cannot afford utilities for a house I’m not living in. Is it wrong of me to turn off the utilities when he takes my key tomorrow? Can I legally do that? What are my rights here? Any advice is appreciated.", "role": "user" }, { "content": "You paid rent for September, you have rights to the property until September unless he refunds you, you are not legally obligated to turn over the keys until the end of september. Maybe contact a lawyer because this man would owe you for any fees associated with this including the cost to board your dogs. Be wary tho because he probably won't have the money to pay for it, so weigh your options on that. Maybe offer cash for keys, as in he can have the keys back in exchange for a refund or partial refund of September's rent in order to lower your financial loss due to this situation. Just know that legally, you do not have to turn over the keys until the end of September and i wouldnt because they are one of the few leverages you have in this situation. A verbal lease is still a lease, just month to month by default according to the law. I would cut off the utilities ASAP, as well as print out any record of you paying for utilities and rent and keep them in a safe spot in case you might need them for any type of court if you do pursue damages or they attempt a small claims suit (they have ZERO standing but anyone can sue for anything) By record I mean, bank statements, texts, emails, letters, bills and so on. Images you have of the problems are also good to keep on hand and available as well and should be put somewhere safe in a cloud as well. From now on, if you can, only contact your landlord via text or email and save every conversation. Look up the recording laws in your state, if it is legal, record ALL interactions with the landlord. This will help you in case they attempt to come at you for damages even though it is not your liability. Be firm and DO NOT continue paying for utilities of a place that you do not live in, that could hurt your credit immensely if they rack the bills up so high you can't pay.", "role": "assistant" } ]

[ { "content": "Im being forced to move today due to a major plumbing issue the home owner won’t fix; he expects me to continue paying the utilities until he sells the house. The home owner is unable to afford to fix the plumbing issue and has decided to sell the house. The issue is so severe the home is unliveable until it is fixed. He expects me to continue to pay utilities until he sells. I am not on a lease. I don’t have any ownership of the home other than the utilities are in my name. I thought about asking him to pay me back for the utilities for the weeks/months until he sells, but he is behind on EVERY bill (the mortgage, his car payment, the internet bill, his ps5 rental, his guitar payments, thousands owed to friends and family that he’s never paid them back for after borrowing…..) and I know he would NEVER pay me back for the utilities. I already paid rent for the entire month of September even though I haven’t been able to live here at all since 8/31 because of the plumbing issue (feces water backs up and floods the downstairs bathroom anytime any toilet is flushed, shower or sink or washer used….). I am paying thousands to board my dogs until I can move in with my mom. I REALLY cannot afford utilities for a house I’m not living in. Is it wrong of me to turn off the utilities when he takes my key tomorrow? Can I legally do that? What are my rights here? Any advice is appreciated.", "role": "user" }, { "content": "That is not a reasonable request. Don’t even keep them in your name. You should also get your September rent back and your full security deposit if there is one. If he is behind on every other bill he owes you are unlikely to get your rent and deposit back. Why give him more money for nothing?", "role": "assistant" } ]

[ { "content": "Generally speaking, would a notarized document have any effect in court against a signed contract I'm being forced into? I know I need a lawyer, but right now I'm just looking for a general legal point of view. TL;DR; Can signing a protest document and having it notarized challenge a contract in the future that I'm being forced into? Details: Due to circumstances, I'm being forced to sign a contract that does not have favorable terms for me. In fact, it could fuck me pretty bad in the future in the event the other two people involved decided to. The problem is, it's this contract as it is or nothing. And I can't afford to sue them at the moment. And they know all this. They know they have me between a rock and a hard place. Sign the contract they presented as is or nothing. We all did the same amount of work up to this point. The thing is, the terms of the agreement are so egregious, I'm hoping the court looks at this and allows me to challenge it. A few things in it that are ridiculous: * they own everything I've done in the past 17 years * they have some kind of claim over anything I do in the future bc it derives from the past * I have to do work for this company whenever they want without pay * I'm not allowed to work in my current position or any other position I have before bc I have 'proprietary information' * they can contact any employer I have in the future and prevent me from working in my profession bc of the terms of the contract * they have power of attorney to sign any document in my place, even if I refuse * they can use dilute my stock at any time and not their own (They are only giving me 10 and they are taking 45 each) * I agree that I can never sue them for any reason. And it goes on. This is the most aggressive contract I've ever read. And they can fuck me any time they want. **The kicker is it has a half page in all capital letters with a disclaimer said in about 10 different ways that I'm agreeing that I'm not 'under duress'. But I am under duress. And they know it. They know I have to sign it or I have no recourse to stop them and they can include whatever they want and I can't negotiate it.** But I have to sign it as is. And they know I can't afford to sue them if they form this company without me, so it's a sign it or get nothing kind of deal. So my question is, since the terms are so egregious, and they know I have no choice and no recourse right now and I am being forced to sign whatever they want, can I go get a document signed that says (in general) > 'I am under duress. They know I have no option or recourse and I have been informed that I either sign the contract the way it is or get nothing and there is nothing I can do about it.' and go get it notarized and dated at the bank before signing the contract. Would this help at all in the future in case of a dispute/lawsuit?", "role": "user" }, { "content": "Notarizing a document only works to prove that it's you who signed it. There is no magic in notarizing a document that makes it \"more legally binding\" than anything else. Unless you think that there is a chance that the other side will argue that you didn't sign it, or that you didn't sign it on that day, then this will be no more effective than anything else you write down to that effect. You can choose not to sign the contract with unfavorable terms, or to negotiate better terms if you want. But you can't sign the contract, and then later say get out of it because you didn't really like the terms when you signed it.", "role": "assistant" } ]

[ { "content": "Generally speaking, would a notarized document have any effect in court against a signed contract I'm being forced into? I know I need a lawyer, but right now I'm just looking for a general legal point of view. TL;DR; Can signing a protest document and having it notarized challenge a contract in the future that I'm being forced into? Details: Due to circumstances, I'm being forced to sign a contract that does not have favorable terms for me. In fact, it could fuck me pretty bad in the future in the event the other two people involved decided to. The problem is, it's this contract as it is or nothing. And I can't afford to sue them at the moment. And they know all this. They know they have me between a rock and a hard place. Sign the contract they presented as is or nothing. We all did the same amount of work up to this point. The thing is, the terms of the agreement are so egregious, I'm hoping the court looks at this and allows me to challenge it. A few things in it that are ridiculous: * they own everything I've done in the past 17 years * they have some kind of claim over anything I do in the future bc it derives from the past * I have to do work for this company whenever they want without pay * I'm not allowed to work in my current position or any other position I have before bc I have 'proprietary information' * they can contact any employer I have in the future and prevent me from working in my profession bc of the terms of the contract * they have power of attorney to sign any document in my place, even if I refuse * they can use dilute my stock at any time and not their own (They are only giving me 10 and they are taking 45 each) * I agree that I can never sue them for any reason. And it goes on. This is the most aggressive contract I've ever read. And they can fuck me any time they want. **The kicker is it has a half page in all capital letters with a disclaimer said in about 10 different ways that I'm agreeing that I'm not 'under duress'. But I am under duress. And they know it. They know I have to sign it or I have no recourse to stop them and they can include whatever they want and I can't negotiate it.** But I have to sign it as is. And they know I can't afford to sue them if they form this company without me, so it's a sign it or get nothing kind of deal. So my question is, since the terms are so egregious, and they know I have no choice and no recourse right now and I am being forced to sign whatever they want, can I go get a document signed that says (in general) > 'I am under duress. They know I have no option or recourse and I have been informed that I either sign the contract the way it is or get nothing and there is nothing I can do about it.' and go get it notarized and dated at the bank before signing the contract. Would this help at all in the future in case of a dispute/lawsuit?", "role": "user" }, { "content": "Your concept of duress is likely no where near what the law actually requires...", "role": "assistant" } ]

[ { "content": "Generally speaking, would a notarized document have any effect in court against a signed contract I'm being forced into? I know I need a lawyer, but right now I'm just looking for a general legal point of view. TL;DR; Can signing a protest document and having it notarized challenge a contract in the future that I'm being forced into? Details: Due to circumstances, I'm being forced to sign a contract that does not have favorable terms for me. In fact, it could fuck me pretty bad in the future in the event the other two people involved decided to. The problem is, it's this contract as it is or nothing. And I can't afford to sue them at the moment. And they know all this. They know they have me between a rock and a hard place. Sign the contract they presented as is or nothing. We all did the same amount of work up to this point. The thing is, the terms of the agreement are so egregious, I'm hoping the court looks at this and allows me to challenge it. A few things in it that are ridiculous: * they own everything I've done in the past 17 years * they have some kind of claim over anything I do in the future bc it derives from the past * I have to do work for this company whenever they want without pay * I'm not allowed to work in my current position or any other position I have before bc I have 'proprietary information' * they can contact any employer I have in the future and prevent me from working in my profession bc of the terms of the contract * they have power of attorney to sign any document in my place, even if I refuse * they can use dilute my stock at any time and not their own (They are only giving me 10 and they are taking 45 each) * I agree that I can never sue them for any reason. And it goes on. This is the most aggressive contract I've ever read. And they can fuck me any time they want. **The kicker is it has a half page in all capital letters with a disclaimer said in about 10 different ways that I'm agreeing that I'm not 'under duress'. But I am under duress. And they know it. They know I have to sign it or I have no recourse to stop them and they can include whatever they want and I can't negotiate it.** But I have to sign it as is. And they know I can't afford to sue them if they form this company without me, so it's a sign it or get nothing kind of deal. So my question is, since the terms are so egregious, and they know I have no choice and no recourse right now and I am being forced to sign whatever they want, can I go get a document signed that says (in general) > 'I am under duress. They know I have no option or recourse and I have been informed that I either sign the contract the way it is or get nothing and there is nothing I can do about it.' and go get it notarized and dated at the bank before signing the contract. Would this help at all in the future in case of a dispute/lawsuit?", "role": "user" }, { "content": "So why not let them form the company without you?", "role": "assistant" } ]

[ { "content": "Generally speaking, would a notarized document have any effect in court against a signed contract I'm being forced into? I know I need a lawyer, but right now I'm just looking for a general legal point of view. TL;DR; Can signing a protest document and having it notarized challenge a contract in the future that I'm being forced into? Details: Due to circumstances, I'm being forced to sign a contract that does not have favorable terms for me. In fact, it could fuck me pretty bad in the future in the event the other two people involved decided to. The problem is, it's this contract as it is or nothing. And I can't afford to sue them at the moment. And they know all this. They know they have me between a rock and a hard place. Sign the contract they presented as is or nothing. We all did the same amount of work up to this point. The thing is, the terms of the agreement are so egregious, I'm hoping the court looks at this and allows me to challenge it. A few things in it that are ridiculous: * they own everything I've done in the past 17 years * they have some kind of claim over anything I do in the future bc it derives from the past * I have to do work for this company whenever they want without pay * I'm not allowed to work in my current position or any other position I have before bc I have 'proprietary information' * they can contact any employer I have in the future and prevent me from working in my profession bc of the terms of the contract * they have power of attorney to sign any document in my place, even if I refuse * they can use dilute my stock at any time and not their own (They are only giving me 10 and they are taking 45 each) * I agree that I can never sue them for any reason. And it goes on. This is the most aggressive contract I've ever read. And they can fuck me any time they want. **The kicker is it has a half page in all capital letters with a disclaimer said in about 10 different ways that I'm agreeing that I'm not 'under duress'. But I am under duress. And they know it. They know I have to sign it or I have no recourse to stop them and they can include whatever they want and I can't negotiate it.** But I have to sign it as is. And they know I can't afford to sue them if they form this company without me, so it's a sign it or get nothing kind of deal. So my question is, since the terms are so egregious, and they know I have no choice and no recourse right now and I am being forced to sign whatever they want, can I go get a document signed that says (in general) > 'I am under duress. They know I have no option or recourse and I have been informed that I either sign the contract the way it is or get nothing and there is nothing I can do about it.' and go get it notarized and dated at the bank before signing the contract. Would this help at all in the future in case of a dispute/lawsuit?", "role": "user" }, { "content": "Your concept of duress is likely no where near what the law actually requires...", "role": "assistant" } ]

[ { "content": "Generally speaking, would a notarized document have any effect in court against a signed contract I'm being forced into? I know I need a lawyer, but right now I'm just looking for a general legal point of view. TL;DR; Can signing a protest document and having it notarized challenge a contract in the future that I'm being forced into? Details: Due to circumstances, I'm being forced to sign a contract that does not have favorable terms for me. In fact, it could fuck me pretty bad in the future in the event the other two people involved decided to. The problem is, it's this contract as it is or nothing. And I can't afford to sue them at the moment. And they know all this. They know they have me between a rock and a hard place. Sign the contract they presented as is or nothing. We all did the same amount of work up to this point. The thing is, the terms of the agreement are so egregious, I'm hoping the court looks at this and allows me to challenge it. A few things in it that are ridiculous: * they own everything I've done in the past 17 years * they have some kind of claim over anything I do in the future bc it derives from the past * I have to do work for this company whenever they want without pay * I'm not allowed to work in my current position or any other position I have before bc I have 'proprietary information' * they can contact any employer I have in the future and prevent me from working in my profession bc of the terms of the contract * they have power of attorney to sign any document in my place, even if I refuse * they can use dilute my stock at any time and not their own (They are only giving me 10 and they are taking 45 each) * I agree that I can never sue them for any reason. And it goes on. This is the most aggressive contract I've ever read. And they can fuck me any time they want. **The kicker is it has a half page in all capital letters with a disclaimer said in about 10 different ways that I'm agreeing that I'm not 'under duress'. But I am under duress. And they know it. They know I have to sign it or I have no recourse to stop them and they can include whatever they want and I can't negotiate it.** But I have to sign it as is. And they know I can't afford to sue them if they form this company without me, so it's a sign it or get nothing kind of deal. So my question is, since the terms are so egregious, and they know I have no choice and no recourse right now and I am being forced to sign whatever they want, can I go get a document signed that says (in general) > 'I am under duress. They know I have no option or recourse and I have been informed that I either sign the contract the way it is or get nothing and there is nothing I can do about it.' and go get it notarized and dated at the bank before signing the contract. Would this help at all in the future in case of a dispute/lawsuit?", "role": "user" }, { "content": "It sounds to me like these people don't know what they are doing from a legal perspective, and that they have probably written all of the agreements that you have signed thus far, and that they have written the one that they want you to sign now. It sounds like nothing between any of you has ever been reviewed by an actual attorney. If that's the case, then nobody can say what might or might not hold up in court. Do you think that these people owe you anything right now, or that they may owe you something in the future? For instance, you claim to own some % of some businesses with them. Do you hope to get paid for that somehow, someday? If so, then when and how? Why do you need to sign anything with them? Why not just beat the rush and sue them for whatever you believe you have cause to sue them for.", "role": "assistant" } ]

[ { "content": "Generally speaking, would a notarized document have any effect in court against a signed contract I'm being forced into? I know I need a lawyer, but right now I'm just looking for a general legal point of view. TL;DR; Can signing a protest document and having it notarized challenge a contract in the future that I'm being forced into? Details: Due to circumstances, I'm being forced to sign a contract that does not have favorable terms for me. In fact, it could fuck me pretty bad in the future in the event the other two people involved decided to. The problem is, it's this contract as it is or nothing. And I can't afford to sue them at the moment. And they know all this. They know they have me between a rock and a hard place. Sign the contract they presented as is or nothing. We all did the same amount of work up to this point. The thing is, the terms of the agreement are so egregious, I'm hoping the court looks at this and allows me to challenge it. A few things in it that are ridiculous: * they own everything I've done in the past 17 years * they have some kind of claim over anything I do in the future bc it derives from the past * I have to do work for this company whenever they want without pay * I'm not allowed to work in my current position or any other position I have before bc I have 'proprietary information' * they can contact any employer I have in the future and prevent me from working in my profession bc of the terms of the contract * they have power of attorney to sign any document in my place, even if I refuse * they can use dilute my stock at any time and not their own (They are only giving me 10 and they are taking 45 each) * I agree that I can never sue them for any reason. And it goes on. This is the most aggressive contract I've ever read. And they can fuck me any time they want. **The kicker is it has a half page in all capital letters with a disclaimer said in about 10 different ways that I'm agreeing that I'm not 'under duress'. But I am under duress. And they know it. They know I have to sign it or I have no recourse to stop them and they can include whatever they want and I can't negotiate it.** But I have to sign it as is. And they know I can't afford to sue them if they form this company without me, so it's a sign it or get nothing kind of deal. So my question is, since the terms are so egregious, and they know I have no choice and no recourse right now and I am being forced to sign whatever they want, can I go get a document signed that says (in general) > 'I am under duress. They know I have no option or recourse and I have been informed that I either sign the contract the way it is or get nothing and there is nothing I can do about it.' and go get it notarized and dated at the bank before signing the contract. Would this help at all in the future in case of a dispute/lawsuit?", "role": "user" }, { "content": "Your concept of duress is likely no where near what the law actually requires...", "role": "assistant" } ]

[ { "content": "Generally speaking, would a notarized document have any effect in court against a signed contract I'm being forced into? I know I need a lawyer, but right now I'm just looking for a general legal point of view. TL;DR; Can signing a protest document and having it notarized challenge a contract in the future that I'm being forced into? Details: Due to circumstances, I'm being forced to sign a contract that does not have favorable terms for me. In fact, it could fuck me pretty bad in the future in the event the other two people involved decided to. The problem is, it's this contract as it is or nothing. And I can't afford to sue them at the moment. And they know all this. They know they have me between a rock and a hard place. Sign the contract they presented as is or nothing. We all did the same amount of work up to this point. The thing is, the terms of the agreement are so egregious, I'm hoping the court looks at this and allows me to challenge it. A few things in it that are ridiculous: * they own everything I've done in the past 17 years * they have some kind of claim over anything I do in the future bc it derives from the past * I have to do work for this company whenever they want without pay * I'm not allowed to work in my current position or any other position I have before bc I have 'proprietary information' * they can contact any employer I have in the future and prevent me from working in my profession bc of the terms of the contract * they have power of attorney to sign any document in my place, even if I refuse * they can use dilute my stock at any time and not their own (They are only giving me 10 and they are taking 45 each) * I agree that I can never sue them for any reason. And it goes on. This is the most aggressive contract I've ever read. And they can fuck me any time they want. **The kicker is it has a half page in all capital letters with a disclaimer said in about 10 different ways that I'm agreeing that I'm not 'under duress'. But I am under duress. And they know it. They know I have to sign it or I have no recourse to stop them and they can include whatever they want and I can't negotiate it.** But I have to sign it as is. And they know I can't afford to sue them if they form this company without me, so it's a sign it or get nothing kind of deal. So my question is, since the terms are so egregious, and they know I have no choice and no recourse right now and I am being forced to sign whatever they want, can I go get a document signed that says (in general) > 'I am under duress. They know I have no option or recourse and I have been informed that I either sign the contract the way it is or get nothing and there is nothing I can do about it.' and go get it notarized and dated at the bank before signing the contract. Would this help at all in the future in case of a dispute/lawsuit?", "role": "user" }, { "content": ">Would this help at all in the future in case of a dispute/lawsuit? Not likely. You can't write a document saying that you will soon sign a different document but your signature on the different document shouldn't \"count\". Of course, it's POSSIBLE that your signature on the different document shouldn't count (for instance, if the person asking you to sign that document was actually holding a real gun to your head at the time). But all you are saying is that for some unstated reasons you think that you are \"under duress\". Well, that would be up to the court to determine - and your prior document saying that you are \"under duress\", in and of itself, doesn't prove that you were \"under duress\".", "role": "assistant" } ]

[ { "content": "Generally speaking, would a notarized document have any effect in court against a signed contract I'm being forced into? I know I need a lawyer, but right now I'm just looking for a general legal point of view. TL;DR; Can signing a protest document and having it notarized challenge a contract in the future that I'm being forced into? Details: Due to circumstances, I'm being forced to sign a contract that does not have favorable terms for me. In fact, it could fuck me pretty bad in the future in the event the other two people involved decided to. The problem is, it's this contract as it is or nothing. And I can't afford to sue them at the moment. And they know all this. They know they have me between a rock and a hard place. Sign the contract they presented as is or nothing. We all did the same amount of work up to this point. The thing is, the terms of the agreement are so egregious, I'm hoping the court looks at this and allows me to challenge it. A few things in it that are ridiculous: * they own everything I've done in the past 17 years * they have some kind of claim over anything I do in the future bc it derives from the past * I have to do work for this company whenever they want without pay * I'm not allowed to work in my current position or any other position I have before bc I have 'proprietary information' * they can contact any employer I have in the future and prevent me from working in my profession bc of the terms of the contract * they have power of attorney to sign any document in my place, even if I refuse * they can use dilute my stock at any time and not their own (They are only giving me 10 and they are taking 45 each) * I agree that I can never sue them for any reason. And it goes on. This is the most aggressive contract I've ever read. And they can fuck me any time they want. **The kicker is it has a half page in all capital letters with a disclaimer said in about 10 different ways that I'm agreeing that I'm not 'under duress'. But I am under duress. And they know it. They know I have to sign it or I have no recourse to stop them and they can include whatever they want and I can't negotiate it.** But I have to sign it as is. And they know I can't afford to sue them if they form this company without me, so it's a sign it or get nothing kind of deal. So my question is, since the terms are so egregious, and they know I have no choice and no recourse right now and I am being forced to sign whatever they want, can I go get a document signed that says (in general) > 'I am under duress. They know I have no option or recourse and I have been informed that I either sign the contract the way it is or get nothing and there is nothing I can do about it.' and go get it notarized and dated at the bank before signing the contract. Would this help at all in the future in case of a dispute/lawsuit?", "role": "user" }, { "content": "Your concept of duress is likely no where near what the law actually requires...", "role": "assistant" } ]

[ { "content": "How do I press charges for child abuse & sexual abuse of a minor? What legal options do I have, if any? I am the mother of just one of his victims. We had a child together and separated by the time the child was 5. We live in the same state but different counties so it was easy to coparent while also having our personal space. When our child turned 16 I got very ill & diagnosed with a chronic illness. I truly believed letting child live with their father full time during this period was in the best interest of my child. A year and a half later I was in remission. I didn’t want to have them switch schools again and put them through any more stress. They turned 18 halfway through her senior year and decided on their own that they wanted to come home with me. I just was so happy to have my baby back home with me that I didn’t question anything. Then graduation rolls around. We have our tickets, a whole party planned after, family coming in from around the country to be there. That’s when my child tells me they do not want the father there. I was shocked. I respected their wishes but did try to question why? The graduation ceremony went off without a hitch. Everything was going great until the father showed up to the celebration later that night. My child ran, hid, & dialed 911. Something is very wrong. They refuse to talk to police. All they will say is that they don’t want him there. I’ve never seen my child so afraid. He’s trespassed from the property. Party is over. The next day my child begins to tell me what their father did. They have video of him brutally beating them and all sorts of abuse. Then the bombshell of sexual abuse. And they aren’t the only victim. My child refuses to even get e restraining order out of fear of threats made if they ever spoke out. The only underage victim I know doesn’t have anyone to press charges for them and they are also terrified. Unfortunately in that case, the victim’s mother says she doesn’t believe her. She has moved away from my ex, gotten her children out of the same house as him but she has completely changed. She can’t even get out of bed to work anymore. She abuses drugs to cope with the pain. Please tell me this isn’t legal? Just because we all have rights doesn’t actually mean that he can get away with these crimes, does it? I called police. The victim has to press charges because they have since turned 18 is all I’m told. Is that legal? I’ve called police, the sheriff, the abuse hotline & CPS for our state. I’m getting nowhere and I don’t know what legal rights I have. Aren’t you supposed to say something if you see something? Wouldn’t I being risking criminal charges if kept silent and allowed him to keep committing these crimes & more? Please don’t remove my post because I don’t know the legal system well enough to know exactly what the legal definition is of the help that we desperately need. There is a statue of limitations for reporting. Do I just have to pray that my child turns their father in before that? It’s cruel to make a victim have to tell their story over and over again just for a semblance of justice. It’s unimaginable to put your own child through that. Is it legal to force an 18 year old to press charges? Couldn’t they just testify?", "role": "user" }, { "content": ">. My child refuses to even get e restraining order out of fear of threats made if they ever spoke out. Then dont try to force her to do something she doesnt want to do. She is an adult and makes her own choices You cannot do anything as this isnt your issue anymore. CPS cannot do anything, she isnt a child. You need to back off and let her control her life. She is already dealing with a lot and having another parent betray her and control her is not going to help. Get some therapy to work through this", "role": "assistant" } ]

[ { "content": "How do I press charges for child abuse & sexual abuse of a minor? What legal options do I have, if any? I am the mother of just one of his victims. We had a child together and separated by the time the child was 5. We live in the same state but different counties so it was easy to coparent while also having our personal space. When our child turned 16 I got very ill & diagnosed with a chronic illness. I truly believed letting child live with their father full time during this period was in the best interest of my child. A year and a half later I was in remission. I didn’t want to have them switch schools again and put them through any more stress. They turned 18 halfway through her senior year and decided on their own that they wanted to come home with me. I just was so happy to have my baby back home with me that I didn’t question anything. Then graduation rolls around. We have our tickets, a whole party planned after, family coming in from around the country to be there. That’s when my child tells me they do not want the father there. I was shocked. I respected their wishes but did try to question why? The graduation ceremony went off without a hitch. Everything was going great until the father showed up to the celebration later that night. My child ran, hid, & dialed 911. Something is very wrong. They refuse to talk to police. All they will say is that they don’t want him there. I’ve never seen my child so afraid. He’s trespassed from the property. Party is over. The next day my child begins to tell me what their father did. They have video of him brutally beating them and all sorts of abuse. Then the bombshell of sexual abuse. And they aren’t the only victim. My child refuses to even get e restraining order out of fear of threats made if they ever spoke out. The only underage victim I know doesn’t have anyone to press charges for them and they are also terrified. Unfortunately in that case, the victim’s mother says she doesn’t believe her. She has moved away from my ex, gotten her children out of the same house as him but she has completely changed. She can’t even get out of bed to work anymore. She abuses drugs to cope with the pain. Please tell me this isn’t legal? Just because we all have rights doesn’t actually mean that he can get away with these crimes, does it? I called police. The victim has to press charges because they have since turned 18 is all I’m told. Is that legal? I’ve called police, the sheriff, the abuse hotline & CPS for our state. I’m getting nowhere and I don’t know what legal rights I have. Aren’t you supposed to say something if you see something? Wouldn’t I being risking criminal charges if kept silent and allowed him to keep committing these crimes & more? Please don’t remove my post because I don’t know the legal system well enough to know exactly what the legal definition is of the help that we desperately need. There is a statue of limitations for reporting. Do I just have to pray that my child turns their father in before that? It’s cruel to make a victim have to tell their story over and over again just for a semblance of justice. It’s unimaginable to put your own child through that. Is it legal to force an 18 year old to press charges? Couldn’t they just testify?", "role": "user" }, { "content": "She is the victim, and if she does not want the investigation to proceed, then it almost certainly will not proceed- there is nothing you can do to change that.", "role": "assistant" } ]

[ { "content": "[OR] Put in my final 30 days notice at an apartment complex. Before I gave them my keys their maintenance crew went through my stuff, drank my alcohol and took some of my electronics. As the title says, before I told them I was gone for good and give them my keys, their maintenance crew scattered all my clothes that were in bags through out the apartment, they consumed my food, used my dryer and left their clothes in it, and stole some of my electronics and cleaning supplies. What do I do next?", "role": "user" }, { "content": "Did you tell them you were going to be gone by a certain date, but did not turn in the keys on that date? Even so they should have reached out to you to see why keys were not turned in and billed you for any extra days past your move out date. We never enter an apartment unless we have keys or we have made contact with the tenant and they give up PTE. Even then if there is abandon property we call them to come pick it up or let us know it is trash. Talk to the manager and find out where you stuff is.", "role": "assistant" } ]

[ { "content": "[OR] Put in my final 30 days notice at an apartment complex. Before I gave them my keys their maintenance crew went through my stuff, drank my alcohol and took some of my electronics. As the title says, before I told them I was gone for good and give them my keys, their maintenance crew scattered all my clothes that were in bags through out the apartment, they consumed my food, used my dryer and left their clothes in it, and stole some of my electronics and cleaning supplies. What do I do next?", "role": "user" }, { "content": "Breaking and Entering, along with theft. Police time, this is a criminal matter.", "role": "assistant" } ]

[ { "content": "[OR] Put in my final 30 days notice at an apartment complex. Before I gave them my keys their maintenance crew went through my stuff, drank my alcohol and took some of my electronics. As the title says, before I told them I was gone for good and give them my keys, their maintenance crew scattered all my clothes that were in bags through out the apartment, they consumed my food, used my dryer and left their clothes in it, and stole some of my electronics and cleaning supplies. What do I do next?", "role": "user" }, { "content": "Did you tell them you were going to be gone by a certain date, but did not turn in the keys on that date? Even so they should have reached out to you to see why keys were not turned in and billed you for any extra days past your move out date. We never enter an apartment unless we have keys or we have made contact with the tenant and they give up PTE. Even then if there is abandon property we call them to come pick it up or let us know it is trash. Talk to the manager and find out where you stuff is.", "role": "assistant" } ]

[ { "content": "[OR] Put in my final 30 days notice at an apartment complex. Before I gave them my keys their maintenance crew went through my stuff, drank my alcohol and took some of my electronics. As the title says, before I told them I was gone for good and give them my keys, their maintenance crew scattered all my clothes that were in bags through out the apartment, they consumed my food, used my dryer and left their clothes in it, and stole some of my electronics and cleaning supplies. What do I do next?", "role": "user" }, { "content": "Yeah that's clear theft. Call the police. I can't imagine the look on the face of their as you explain that but if my experiences are anything to go off of, it's usually the same poker face year-round; even for the strangest offenses.", "role": "assistant" } ]

[ { "content": "Apartment Complex charging me for cleaning my apt and moving out furniture. I gave my 60-day notice only 11 days ago! I live in Texas. I recently got married and moved in with my wife. I procrastinated on moving out of my old apartment. I moved out 75% of my stuff in early August. I basically just had to clean (a lot) and left a table, TV stand, entertainment center/bookshelf and just a bunch of random stuff. I finally got it worked out with management and turned in my 60-day notice on August, 25th. I then sent an email asking if there was a way to adjust the 60-day notice so I didn't have to pay an extra month's month rent. They very clearly declined to say my 60-day notice would start that day (august 25th). A 60-day notice was policy when canceling a lease early. My plan was then to eventually, within the 60 days, finish cleaning/moving out and turn in my keys. Today, September 5th, I get an email titled \"final account statement\". They billed me ~2,800 dollars. Charged me for things like \"4 keys not returned and lock change\" for 150. \"trash out bags(16) and furniture out (5 pieces)\" for 650. And a notice fee of 850. I don't even know what that is. Lots of other random charges adding up. So they threw away all my stuff and charged me a lot for doing it? Didn't I have 60 days? I can't contact them today because it's Labor Day but I plan on calling them tomorrow. I've never been involved in anything legal at all, but it seems to me that I have some grounds here? What should I do?", "role": "user" }, { "content": "When was the end of your lease term? were you a month to month tenant? That's the important question here, because if the end of your lease term was at the end of the 60 days after August 25th then you were illegally evicted. If your lease ended Sept. 1st, for example, then they did nothing wrong.", "role": "assistant" } ]

[ { "content": "Apartment Complex charging me for cleaning my apt and moving out furniture. I gave my 60-day notice only 11 days ago! I live in Texas. I recently got married and moved in with my wife. I procrastinated on moving out of my old apartment. I moved out 75% of my stuff in early August. I basically just had to clean (a lot) and left a table, TV stand, entertainment center/bookshelf and just a bunch of random stuff. I finally got it worked out with management and turned in my 60-day notice on August, 25th. I then sent an email asking if there was a way to adjust the 60-day notice so I didn't have to pay an extra month's month rent. They very clearly declined to say my 60-day notice would start that day (august 25th). A 60-day notice was policy when canceling a lease early. My plan was then to eventually, within the 60 days, finish cleaning/moving out and turn in my keys. Today, September 5th, I get an email titled \"final account statement\". They billed me ~2,800 dollars. Charged me for things like \"4 keys not returned and lock change\" for 150. \"trash out bags(16) and furniture out (5 pieces)\" for 650. And a notice fee of 850. I don't even know what that is. Lots of other random charges adding up. So they threw away all my stuff and charged me a lot for doing it? Didn't I have 60 days? I can't contact them today because it's Labor Day but I plan on calling them tomorrow. I've never been involved in anything legal at all, but it seems to me that I have some grounds here? What should I do?", "role": "user" }, { "content": "You have a right to possession of the premises the entire 60 days. Were your discussions with them in writing? Locate that documentation. If they cannot retrieve your possessions, they may be legally obligated to compensate you for them.", "role": "assistant" } ]

[ { "content": "Apartment Complex charging me for cleaning my apt and moving out furniture. I gave my 60-day notice only 11 days ago! I live in Texas. I recently got married and moved in with my wife. I procrastinated on moving out of my old apartment. I moved out 75% of my stuff in early August. I basically just had to clean (a lot) and left a table, TV stand, entertainment center/bookshelf and just a bunch of random stuff. I finally got it worked out with management and turned in my 60-day notice on August, 25th. I then sent an email asking if there was a way to adjust the 60-day notice so I didn't have to pay an extra month's month rent. They very clearly declined to say my 60-day notice would start that day (august 25th). A 60-day notice was policy when canceling a lease early. My plan was then to eventually, within the 60 days, finish cleaning/moving out and turn in my keys. Today, September 5th, I get an email titled \"final account statement\". They billed me ~2,800 dollars. Charged me for things like \"4 keys not returned and lock change\" for 150. \"trash out bags(16) and furniture out (5 pieces)\" for 650. And a notice fee of 850. I don't even know what that is. Lots of other random charges adding up. So they threw away all my stuff and charged me a lot for doing it? Didn't I have 60 days? I can't contact them today because it's Labor Day but I plan on calling them tomorrow. I've never been involved in anything legal at all, but it seems to me that I have some grounds here? What should I do?", "role": "user" }, { "content": "Did you pay September rent? The only way I'd imagine this was ok for management to do was if you told them you abandoned the unit and they followed procedure to declare it as such.", "role": "assistant" } ]

[ { "content": "Apartment Complex charging me for cleaning my apt and moving out furniture. I gave my 60-day notice only 11 days ago! I live in Texas. I recently got married and moved in with my wife. I procrastinated on moving out of my old apartment. I moved out 75% of my stuff in early August. I basically just had to clean (a lot) and left a table, TV stand, entertainment center/bookshelf and just a bunch of random stuff. I finally got it worked out with management and turned in my 60-day notice on August, 25th. I then sent an email asking if there was a way to adjust the 60-day notice so I didn't have to pay an extra month's month rent. They very clearly declined to say my 60-day notice would start that day (august 25th). A 60-day notice was policy when canceling a lease early. My plan was then to eventually, within the 60 days, finish cleaning/moving out and turn in my keys. Today, September 5th, I get an email titled \"final account statement\". They billed me ~2,800 dollars. Charged me for things like \"4 keys not returned and lock change\" for 150. \"trash out bags(16) and furniture out (5 pieces)\" for 650. And a notice fee of 850. I don't even know what that is. Lots of other random charges adding up. So they threw away all my stuff and charged me a lot for doing it? Didn't I have 60 days? I can't contact them today because it's Labor Day but I plan on calling them tomorrow. I've never been involved in anything legal at all, but it seems to me that I have some grounds here? What should I do?", "role": "user" }, { "content": "> I finally got it worked out with management and turned in my 60-day notice on August, 25th. I then sent an email asking if there was a way to adjust the 60-day notice so I didn't have to pay an extra month's month rent. They very clearly declined to say my 60-day notice would start that day (august 25th). A 60-day notice was policy when canceling a lease early. I think you'll be okay so long as you have documentation of an agreed upon date of vacating the apartment. When I've terminated a lease, I turn in a signed letter saying \"I will be out of the apartment by *date*\" and they either accept that or have me write a new letter. This sounds to me like an employee at the property office processed your move-out way too early and made a work order for maintenance people to stop over at your place and check it/clean/move out leftover stuff. This person wasn't on the same page as the manager who probably made the call to deny your request to move out early. None of this is your fault, but it is a major mis-understanding on the part of the property management office. I'd be willing to bet if you call them and speak to the head manager they'll reimburse you for your property and waive all fees just to avoid getting into legal hot water. Best case scenario, but if the property manager is smart, they'll eat the cost rather than the embarrassment of having a cop coming in to their office to serve charges.", "role": "assistant" } ]

[ { "content": "Apartment Complex charging me for cleaning my apt and moving out furniture. I gave my 60-day notice only 11 days ago! I live in Texas. I recently got married and moved in with my wife. I procrastinated on moving out of my old apartment. I moved out 75% of my stuff in early August. I basically just had to clean (a lot) and left a table, TV stand, entertainment center/bookshelf and just a bunch of random stuff. I finally got it worked out with management and turned in my 60-day notice on August, 25th. I then sent an email asking if there was a way to adjust the 60-day notice so I didn't have to pay an extra month's month rent. They very clearly declined to say my 60-day notice would start that day (august 25th). A 60-day notice was policy when canceling a lease early. My plan was then to eventually, within the 60 days, finish cleaning/moving out and turn in my keys. Today, September 5th, I get an email titled \"final account statement\". They billed me ~2,800 dollars. Charged me for things like \"4 keys not returned and lock change\" for 150. \"trash out bags(16) and furniture out (5 pieces)\" for 650. And a notice fee of 850. I don't even know what that is. Lots of other random charges adding up. So they threw away all my stuff and charged me a lot for doing it? Didn't I have 60 days? I can't contact them today because it's Labor Day but I plan on calling them tomorrow. I've never been involved in anything legal at all, but it seems to me that I have some grounds here? What should I do?", "role": "user" }, { "content": "When was the end of your lease term? were you a month to month tenant? That's the important question here, because if the end of your lease term was at the end of the 60 days after August 25th then you were illegally evicted. If your lease ended Sept. 1st, for example, then they did nothing wrong.", "role": "assistant" } ]

[ { "content": "Apartment Complex charging me for cleaning my apt and moving out furniture. I gave my 60-day notice only 11 days ago! I live in Texas. I recently got married and moved in with my wife. I procrastinated on moving out of my old apartment. I moved out 75% of my stuff in early August. I basically just had to clean (a lot) and left a table, TV stand, entertainment center/bookshelf and just a bunch of random stuff. I finally got it worked out with management and turned in my 60-day notice on August, 25th. I then sent an email asking if there was a way to adjust the 60-day notice so I didn't have to pay an extra month's month rent. They very clearly declined to say my 60-day notice would start that day (august 25th). A 60-day notice was policy when canceling a lease early. My plan was then to eventually, within the 60 days, finish cleaning/moving out and turn in my keys. Today, September 5th, I get an email titled \"final account statement\". They billed me ~2,800 dollars. Charged me for things like \"4 keys not returned and lock change\" for 150. \"trash out bags(16) and furniture out (5 pieces)\" for 650. And a notice fee of 850. I don't even know what that is. Lots of other random charges adding up. So they threw away all my stuff and charged me a lot for doing it? Didn't I have 60 days? I can't contact them today because it's Labor Day but I plan on calling them tomorrow. I've never been involved in anything legal at all, but it seems to me that I have some grounds here? What should I do?", "role": "user" }, { "content": "> I finally got it worked out with management and turned in my 60-day notice on August, 25th. I then sent an email asking if there was a way to adjust the 60-day notice so I didn't have to pay an extra month's month rent. They very clearly declined to say my 60-day notice would start that day (august 25th). A 60-day notice was policy when canceling a lease early. I think you'll be okay so long as you have documentation of an agreed upon date of vacating the apartment. When I've terminated a lease, I turn in a signed letter saying \"I will be out of the apartment by *date*\" and they either accept that or have me write a new letter. This sounds to me like an employee at the property office processed your move-out way too early and made a work order for maintenance people to stop over at your place and check it/clean/move out leftover stuff. This person wasn't on the same page as the manager who probably made the call to deny your request to move out early. None of this is your fault, but it is a major mis-understanding on the part of the property management office. I'd be willing to bet if you call them and speak to the head manager they'll reimburse you for your property and waive all fees just to avoid getting into legal hot water. Best case scenario, but if the property manager is smart, they'll eat the cost rather than the embarrassment of having a cop coming in to their office to serve charges.", "role": "assistant" } ]

[ { "content": "Apartment Complex charging me for cleaning my apt and moving out furniture. I gave my 60-day notice only 11 days ago! I live in Texas. I recently got married and moved in with my wife. I procrastinated on moving out of my old apartment. I moved out 75% of my stuff in early August. I basically just had to clean (a lot) and left a table, TV stand, entertainment center/bookshelf and just a bunch of random stuff. I finally got it worked out with management and turned in my 60-day notice on August, 25th. I then sent an email asking if there was a way to adjust the 60-day notice so I didn't have to pay an extra month's month rent. They very clearly declined to say my 60-day notice would start that day (august 25th). A 60-day notice was policy when canceling a lease early. My plan was then to eventually, within the 60 days, finish cleaning/moving out and turn in my keys. Today, September 5th, I get an email titled \"final account statement\". They billed me ~2,800 dollars. Charged me for things like \"4 keys not returned and lock change\" for 150. \"trash out bags(16) and furniture out (5 pieces)\" for 650. And a notice fee of 850. I don't even know what that is. Lots of other random charges adding up. So they threw away all my stuff and charged me a lot for doing it? Didn't I have 60 days? I can't contact them today because it's Labor Day but I plan on calling them tomorrow. I've never been involved in anything legal at all, but it seems to me that I have some grounds here? What should I do?", "role": "user" }, { "content": "When was the end of your lease term? were you a month to month tenant? That's the important question here, because if the end of your lease term was at the end of the 60 days after August 25th then you were illegally evicted. If your lease ended Sept. 1st, for example, then they did nothing wrong.", "role": "assistant" } ]

[ { "content": "Apartment Complex charging me for cleaning my apt and moving out furniture. I gave my 60-day notice only 11 days ago! I live in Texas. I recently got married and moved in with my wife. I procrastinated on moving out of my old apartment. I moved out 75% of my stuff in early August. I basically just had to clean (a lot) and left a table, TV stand, entertainment center/bookshelf and just a bunch of random stuff. I finally got it worked out with management and turned in my 60-day notice on August, 25th. I then sent an email asking if there was a way to adjust the 60-day notice so I didn't have to pay an extra month's month rent. They very clearly declined to say my 60-day notice would start that day (august 25th). A 60-day notice was policy when canceling a lease early. My plan was then to eventually, within the 60 days, finish cleaning/moving out and turn in my keys. Today, September 5th, I get an email titled \"final account statement\". They billed me ~2,800 dollars. Charged me for things like \"4 keys not returned and lock change\" for 150. \"trash out bags(16) and furniture out (5 pieces)\" for 650. And a notice fee of 850. I don't even know what that is. Lots of other random charges adding up. So they threw away all my stuff and charged me a lot for doing it? Didn't I have 60 days? I can't contact them today because it's Labor Day but I plan on calling them tomorrow. I've never been involved in anything legal at all, but it seems to me that I have some grounds here? What should I do?", "role": "user" }, { "content": "Did you pay September rent? The only way I'd imagine this was ok for management to do was if you told them you abandoned the unit and they followed procedure to declare it as such.", "role": "assistant" } ]

[ { "content": "Apartment Complex charging me for cleaning my apt and moving out furniture. I gave my 60-day notice only 11 days ago! I live in Texas. I recently got married and moved in with my wife. I procrastinated on moving out of my old apartment. I moved out 75% of my stuff in early August. I basically just had to clean (a lot) and left a table, TV stand, entertainment center/bookshelf and just a bunch of random stuff. I finally got it worked out with management and turned in my 60-day notice on August, 25th. I then sent an email asking if there was a way to adjust the 60-day notice so I didn't have to pay an extra month's month rent. They very clearly declined to say my 60-day notice would start that day (august 25th). A 60-day notice was policy when canceling a lease early. My plan was then to eventually, within the 60 days, finish cleaning/moving out and turn in my keys. Today, September 5th, I get an email titled \"final account statement\". They billed me ~2,800 dollars. Charged me for things like \"4 keys not returned and lock change\" for 150. \"trash out bags(16) and furniture out (5 pieces)\" for 650. And a notice fee of 850. I don't even know what that is. Lots of other random charges adding up. So they threw away all my stuff and charged me a lot for doing it? Didn't I have 60 days? I can't contact them today because it's Labor Day but I plan on calling them tomorrow. I've never been involved in anything legal at all, but it seems to me that I have some grounds here? What should I do?", "role": "user" }, { "content": "When was the end of your lease term? were you a month to month tenant? That's the important question here, because if the end of your lease term was at the end of the 60 days after August 25th then you were illegally evicted. If your lease ended Sept. 1st, for example, then they did nothing wrong.", "role": "assistant" } ]

[ { "content": "Apartment Complex charging me for cleaning my apt and moving out furniture. I gave my 60-day notice only 11 days ago! I live in Texas. I recently got married and moved in with my wife. I procrastinated on moving out of my old apartment. I moved out 75% of my stuff in early August. I basically just had to clean (a lot) and left a table, TV stand, entertainment center/bookshelf and just a bunch of random stuff. I finally got it worked out with management and turned in my 60-day notice on August, 25th. I then sent an email asking if there was a way to adjust the 60-day notice so I didn't have to pay an extra month's month rent. They very clearly declined to say my 60-day notice would start that day (august 25th). A 60-day notice was policy when canceling a lease early. My plan was then to eventually, within the 60 days, finish cleaning/moving out and turn in my keys. Today, September 5th, I get an email titled \"final account statement\". They billed me ~2,800 dollars. Charged me for things like \"4 keys not returned and lock change\" for 150. \"trash out bags(16) and furniture out (5 pieces)\" for 650. And a notice fee of 850. I don't even know what that is. Lots of other random charges adding up. So they threw away all my stuff and charged me a lot for doing it? Didn't I have 60 days? I can't contact them today because it's Labor Day but I plan on calling them tomorrow. I've never been involved in anything legal at all, but it seems to me that I have some grounds here? What should I do?", "role": "user" }, { "content": "Op. Pay your September rent right now so they have absolutely nothing to stand on. I don't care if it means driving 2 hours tonight. Get a check to them ASAP.", "role": "assistant" } ]

[ { "content": "USPS delivering my packages to a pay-to-access parcel locker at my apartment complex rather than use my mailbox or deliver to my door I’m assuming this has to be illegal. I’m interested if anyone has a citation for me especially, but I’d be happy for confirmation about whether this is legal or not. My apartment complex had a parcel locker installed a few months ago, where packages can be delivered and you get them at your convenience, and the packages are safe from porch pirates in the meantime. I tried to sign up, but it isn’t a free service, so I opted out. Since then, all my packages were delivered to my door or mailbox, but last week the postal service delivered two of my packages to the parcel locker. The apartment complex won’t help and told me to just sign up for an account to get my packages, and do it quick because the longer they sit in the locker, the more the parcel locker will charge me. I’ve asked Usps to look into it, but after 3 business days I’ve gotten no response. I can’t access several of my packages delivered by USPS now, and two more packages are being delivered by them this week. If it is illegal, is my apartment complex, the parcel locker, or USPS the one violating the law? If it matters, the state is North Carolina. Any help is much appreciated.", "role": "user" }, { "content": "Just looking at the USPS manual, it looks like the building management is responsible for providing a delivery point for the USPS, which they have done with the parcel locker. This means that you have a beef with the landlord, not the USPS. Since they are charging for the locker, it is essentially a rent increase.", "role": "assistant" } ]

[ { "content": "USPS delivering my packages to a pay-to-access parcel locker at my apartment complex rather than use my mailbox or deliver to my door I’m assuming this has to be illegal. I’m interested if anyone has a citation for me especially, but I’d be happy for confirmation about whether this is legal or not. My apartment complex had a parcel locker installed a few months ago, where packages can be delivered and you get them at your convenience, and the packages are safe from porch pirates in the meantime. I tried to sign up, but it isn’t a free service, so I opted out. Since then, all my packages were delivered to my door or mailbox, but last week the postal service delivered two of my packages to the parcel locker. The apartment complex won’t help and told me to just sign up for an account to get my packages, and do it quick because the longer they sit in the locker, the more the parcel locker will charge me. I’ve asked Usps to look into it, but after 3 business days I’ve gotten no response. I can’t access several of my packages delivered by USPS now, and two more packages are being delivered by them this week. If it is illegal, is my apartment complex, the parcel locker, or USPS the one violating the law? If it matters, the state is North Carolina. Any help is much appreciated.", "role": "user" }, { "content": "I'd tell the company they are in possession of your property and you want to give them a chance to return it before you involve the police and the shipping company. If they refuse, just tell USPS that you didn't receive the package and you want to start a claim. Suggest that the company is holding your packages hostage and you have no contract with them. They might send a legal letter encouraging them to provide your property.", "role": "assistant" } ]

[ { "content": "USPS delivering my packages to a pay-to-access parcel locker at my apartment complex rather than use my mailbox or deliver to my door I’m assuming this has to be illegal. I’m interested if anyone has a citation for me especially, but I’d be happy for confirmation about whether this is legal or not. My apartment complex had a parcel locker installed a few months ago, where packages can be delivered and you get them at your convenience, and the packages are safe from porch pirates in the meantime. I tried to sign up, but it isn’t a free service, so I opted out. Since then, all my packages were delivered to my door or mailbox, but last week the postal service delivered two of my packages to the parcel locker. The apartment complex won’t help and told me to just sign up for an account to get my packages, and do it quick because the longer they sit in the locker, the more the parcel locker will charge me. I’ve asked Usps to look into it, but after 3 business days I’ve gotten no response. I can’t access several of my packages delivered by USPS now, and two more packages are being delivered by them this week. If it is illegal, is my apartment complex, the parcel locker, or USPS the one violating the law? If it matters, the state is North Carolina. Any help is much appreciated.", "role": "user" }, { "content": "uspis.gov This might be below their paygrade, but they will get back to you. And if they are able to help, I almost feel sorry for your landlord. These guys are serious.", "role": "assistant" } ]

[ { "content": "USPS delivering my packages to a pay-to-access parcel locker at my apartment complex rather than use my mailbox or deliver to my door I’m assuming this has to be illegal. I’m interested if anyone has a citation for me especially, but I’d be happy for confirmation about whether this is legal or not. My apartment complex had a parcel locker installed a few months ago, where packages can be delivered and you get them at your convenience, and the packages are safe from porch pirates in the meantime. I tried to sign up, but it isn’t a free service, so I opted out. Since then, all my packages were delivered to my door or mailbox, but last week the postal service delivered two of my packages to the parcel locker. The apartment complex won’t help and told me to just sign up for an account to get my packages, and do it quick because the longer they sit in the locker, the more the parcel locker will charge me. I’ve asked Usps to look into it, but after 3 business days I’ve gotten no response. I can’t access several of my packages delivered by USPS now, and two more packages are being delivered by them this week. If it is illegal, is my apartment complex, the parcel locker, or USPS the one violating the law? If it matters, the state is North Carolina. Any help is much appreciated.", "role": "user" }, { "content": "Contact the postal inspectors office. There are many federal laws surrounding your right to unhindered delivery of mail. Meaning they can be fined or imprisoned for keeping your package. https://www.law.cornell.edu/uscode/text/18/1708 Also please be kind to your postal employees. Many of them are working 6 or 7 days a week and rarely get out after 8 hours in a day. Its a very stressful job no matter where you are in usps.", "role": "assistant" } ]

[ { "content": "USPS delivering my packages to a pay-to-access parcel locker at my apartment complex rather than use my mailbox or deliver to my door I’m assuming this has to be illegal. I’m interested if anyone has a citation for me especially, but I’d be happy for confirmation about whether this is legal or not. My apartment complex had a parcel locker installed a few months ago, where packages can be delivered and you get them at your convenience, and the packages are safe from porch pirates in the meantime. I tried to sign up, but it isn’t a free service, so I opted out. Since then, all my packages were delivered to my door or mailbox, but last week the postal service delivered two of my packages to the parcel locker. The apartment complex won’t help and told me to just sign up for an account to get my packages, and do it quick because the longer they sit in the locker, the more the parcel locker will charge me. I’ve asked Usps to look into it, but after 3 business days I’ve gotten no response. I can’t access several of my packages delivered by USPS now, and two more packages are being delivered by them this week. If it is illegal, is my apartment complex, the parcel locker, or USPS the one violating the law? If it matters, the state is North Carolina. Any help is much appreciated.", "role": "user" }, { "content": "It's weird that they delivered to the locker even though you never opted in. You should have a case against the apartment office if they give you any BS. But at the same time, a parcel locker is like $20 one time payment with fees for leaving packages in them longer than 3 days. I would say that the effort fighting this is not worth $20, and my apartment package locker gives me peace of mind that I won't have packages stolen.", "role": "assistant" } ]

[ { "content": "USPS delivering my packages to a pay-to-access parcel locker at my apartment complex rather than use my mailbox or deliver to my door I’m assuming this has to be illegal. I’m interested if anyone has a citation for me especially, but I’d be happy for confirmation about whether this is legal or not. My apartment complex had a parcel locker installed a few months ago, where packages can be delivered and you get them at your convenience, and the packages are safe from porch pirates in the meantime. I tried to sign up, but it isn’t a free service, so I opted out. Since then, all my packages were delivered to my door or mailbox, but last week the postal service delivered two of my packages to the parcel locker. The apartment complex won’t help and told me to just sign up for an account to get my packages, and do it quick because the longer they sit in the locker, the more the parcel locker will charge me. I’ve asked Usps to look into it, but after 3 business days I’ve gotten no response. I can’t access several of my packages delivered by USPS now, and two more packages are being delivered by them this week. If it is illegal, is my apartment complex, the parcel locker, or USPS the one violating the law? If it matters, the state is North Carolina. Any help is much appreciated.", "role": "user" }, { "content": "Contact the postal inspectors office. There are many federal laws surrounding your right to unhindered delivery of mail. Meaning they can be fined or imprisoned for keeping your package. https://www.law.cornell.edu/uscode/text/18/1708 Also please be kind to your postal employees. Many of them are working 6 or 7 days a week and rarely get out after 8 hours in a day. Its a very stressful job no matter where you are in usps.", "role": "assistant" } ]

[ { "content": "USPS delivering my packages to a pay-to-access parcel locker at my apartment complex rather than use my mailbox or deliver to my door I’m assuming this has to be illegal. I’m interested if anyone has a citation for me especially, but I’d be happy for confirmation about whether this is legal or not. My apartment complex had a parcel locker installed a few months ago, where packages can be delivered and you get them at your convenience, and the packages are safe from porch pirates in the meantime. I tried to sign up, but it isn’t a free service, so I opted out. Since then, all my packages were delivered to my door or mailbox, but last week the postal service delivered two of my packages to the parcel locker. The apartment complex won’t help and told me to just sign up for an account to get my packages, and do it quick because the longer they sit in the locker, the more the parcel locker will charge me. I’ve asked Usps to look into it, but after 3 business days I’ve gotten no response. I can’t access several of my packages delivered by USPS now, and two more packages are being delivered by them this week. If it is illegal, is my apartment complex, the parcel locker, or USPS the one violating the law? If it matters, the state is North Carolina. Any help is much appreciated.", "role": "user" }, { "content": "Report it to the postmaster general as possible mail theft/shady shit.", "role": "assistant" } ]

[ { "content": "USPS delivering my packages to a pay-to-access parcel locker at my apartment complex rather than use my mailbox or deliver to my door I’m assuming this has to be illegal. I’m interested if anyone has a citation for me especially, but I’d be happy for confirmation about whether this is legal or not. My apartment complex had a parcel locker installed a few months ago, where packages can be delivered and you get them at your convenience, and the packages are safe from porch pirates in the meantime. I tried to sign up, but it isn’t a free service, so I opted out. Since then, all my packages were delivered to my door or mailbox, but last week the postal service delivered two of my packages to the parcel locker. The apartment complex won’t help and told me to just sign up for an account to get my packages, and do it quick because the longer they sit in the locker, the more the parcel locker will charge me. I’ve asked Usps to look into it, but after 3 business days I’ve gotten no response. I can’t access several of my packages delivered by USPS now, and two more packages are being delivered by them this week. If it is illegal, is my apartment complex, the parcel locker, or USPS the one violating the law? If it matters, the state is North Carolina. Any help is much appreciated.", "role": "user" }, { "content": "Contact the postal inspectors office. There are many federal laws surrounding your right to unhindered delivery of mail. Meaning they can be fined or imprisoned for keeping your package. https://www.law.cornell.edu/uscode/text/18/1708 Also please be kind to your postal employees. Many of them are working 6 or 7 days a week and rarely get out after 8 hours in a day. Its a very stressful job no matter where you are in usps.", "role": "assistant" } ]

[ { "content": "USPS delivering my packages to a pay-to-access parcel locker at my apartment complex rather than use my mailbox or deliver to my door I’m assuming this has to be illegal. I’m interested if anyone has a citation for me especially, but I’d be happy for confirmation about whether this is legal or not. My apartment complex had a parcel locker installed a few months ago, where packages can be delivered and you get them at your convenience, and the packages are safe from porch pirates in the meantime. I tried to sign up, but it isn’t a free service, so I opted out. Since then, all my packages were delivered to my door or mailbox, but last week the postal service delivered two of my packages to the parcel locker. The apartment complex won’t help and told me to just sign up for an account to get my packages, and do it quick because the longer they sit in the locker, the more the parcel locker will charge me. I’ve asked Usps to look into it, but after 3 business days I’ve gotten no response. I can’t access several of my packages delivered by USPS now, and two more packages are being delivered by them this week. If it is illegal, is my apartment complex, the parcel locker, or USPS the one violating the law? If it matters, the state is North Carolina. Any help is much appreciated.", "role": "user" }, { "content": "uspis.gov This might be below their paygrade, but they will get back to you. And if they are able to help, I almost feel sorry for your landlord. These guys are serious.", "role": "assistant" } ]

[ { "content": "USPS delivering my packages to a pay-to-access parcel locker at my apartment complex rather than use my mailbox or deliver to my door I’m assuming this has to be illegal. I’m interested if anyone has a citation for me especially, but I’d be happy for confirmation about whether this is legal or not. My apartment complex had a parcel locker installed a few months ago, where packages can be delivered and you get them at your convenience, and the packages are safe from porch pirates in the meantime. I tried to sign up, but it isn’t a free service, so I opted out. Since then, all my packages were delivered to my door or mailbox, but last week the postal service delivered two of my packages to the parcel locker. The apartment complex won’t help and told me to just sign up for an account to get my packages, and do it quick because the longer they sit in the locker, the more the parcel locker will charge me. I’ve asked Usps to look into it, but after 3 business days I’ve gotten no response. I can’t access several of my packages delivered by USPS now, and two more packages are being delivered by them this week. If it is illegal, is my apartment complex, the parcel locker, or USPS the one violating the law? If it matters, the state is North Carolina. Any help is much appreciated.", "role": "user" }, { "content": "You may also be able to file a complaint with a tenancy office in your state. This seems like an arbitrary addition to rent and they may order your rent be decreased the amount charged by the service.", "role": "assistant" } ]

[ { "content": "Moved out 20 days ago, landlord is charging us for someone breaking in and withholding security deposit So, as the title says, my roommate and I moved out of a duplex we were renting on the 31st of May and handed the landlord the keys after spending the weekend cleaning and making the empty house look presentable. The landlord and her husband walked through and said that everything looked nice and would get back to us about the deposit. Three days ago, we received an email listing repairs and cleaning she had to do herself and had to hire a service for, including things like wiping down the walls and “dirty floors” throughout the house. She even said she removed a large tree and bush from the backyard and that the total costs were almost a thousand dollars more than our deposit. She did not include any receipts or proof of any of the costs. Few of the things she listed I agree with, but many I do not. My roommate and I were ready to just take the L and let it go, but then earlier today we received a text from her informing us that someone had broken into the house and caused a bit of damage and is requesting that we send her $350 each as soon as we can. I would like to now fight her for the security deposit, but my biggest question is if she can do anything like take us to court over just ignoring her request for money? If we have text and email proof that she would not charge us the extra $1,000 of out of pocket costs, can she later come after us for that money? Any help is appreciated. We live in California, by the way.", "role": "user" }, { "content": "Not a lawyer, property manager but not in your state. You are absolutely not responsible for the large tree and bush in the back yard. Those can be expensive, but she elected to remove them, and they had nothing to do with the returned condition of the home. If someone broke into the home after you returned the keys, that is her problem, not yours. You returned the keys and at that point you were done. Any break in after that has nothing to do with you. Regarding the cleaning described, did you take any photos after you were finished moving all of your belongings out and cleaning? That is a necessity. If you smoked, vaped or used a lot of candles in the home, then the walls may have needed special cleaning before Painting, and it would be reasonable to charge you for that since it is not a normal part of turnover. That can be very expensive and generally is awarded to landlords by courts. You can always File with the court to recover your deposit If you cannot come to an agreement.", "role": "assistant" } ]

[ { "content": "Moved out 20 days ago, landlord is charging us for someone breaking in and withholding security deposit So, as the title says, my roommate and I moved out of a duplex we were renting on the 31st of May and handed the landlord the keys after spending the weekend cleaning and making the empty house look presentable. The landlord and her husband walked through and said that everything looked nice and would get back to us about the deposit. Three days ago, we received an email listing repairs and cleaning she had to do herself and had to hire a service for, including things like wiping down the walls and “dirty floors” throughout the house. She even said she removed a large tree and bush from the backyard and that the total costs were almost a thousand dollars more than our deposit. She did not include any receipts or proof of any of the costs. Few of the things she listed I agree with, but many I do not. My roommate and I were ready to just take the L and let it go, but then earlier today we received a text from her informing us that someone had broken into the house and caused a bit of damage and is requesting that we send her $350 each as soon as we can. I would like to now fight her for the security deposit, but my biggest question is if she can do anything like take us to court over just ignoring her request for money? If we have text and email proof that she would not charge us the extra $1,000 of out of pocket costs, can she later come after us for that money? Any help is appreciated. We live in California, by the way.", "role": "user" }, { "content": "Small claims. Once you turned in the key, you’re done. Did you take any pictures? She may back peddle if she knows you will be taking her to court because she will have to show proof. Also, any “improvements“ are solely the responsibility of the owner. The court will laugh in her face about the break-in claim. Tell her, that she either gives you deposit back or you will sue. Don’t heed her threats.", "role": "assistant" } ]

[ { "content": "Tow truck driver told me I had 3 seconds to step back or he'd put a gun to my head. This morning at around 3 am, my friend noticed a tow truck lifting my car. I went running outside and he followed behind. When I got up to the truck, he wss sitting inside with the window rolled down ready to back out and was telling me to step back, and I stood my ground and told him to drop my car. Once again he told me to step back and I asked why I was being towed. He then told me I had about 3 seconds to back up or he was going to put a gun to my head. I replied something like \"Did you for real just tell me you're gonna put a gun to my head?\". He then stepped out and was telling my friend and I were about to get hurt, while holding his hand behind his back. My other friends then came outside to see what was up and he got back in the truck and began threatening them too. Once they backed off and he cooled down, he got out and told me the reason why I was being towed was because I didn't have a permit to park where I was and it would be 62.50 to drop the truck. There was no gates, signs, or labeling anywhere on the spots that said I need a permit to park in the lot. Apparently you needed one anyways. If I was parked illegally, I get it and I'll pay the fine. I just want to know if I can legally do anything about the threats he made with a gun. Thanks", "role": "user" }, { "content": "Where were you parked? Did he have any reason to feel threatened? Imagine if four or five angry guys ran out of an apartment and started screaming at him, for example.", "role": "assistant" } ]

[ { "content": "Tow truck driver told me I had 3 seconds to step back or he'd put a gun to my head. This morning at around 3 am, my friend noticed a tow truck lifting my car. I went running outside and he followed behind. When I got up to the truck, he wss sitting inside with the window rolled down ready to back out and was telling me to step back, and I stood my ground and told him to drop my car. Once again he told me to step back and I asked why I was being towed. He then told me I had about 3 seconds to back up or he was going to put a gun to my head. I replied something like \"Did you for real just tell me you're gonna put a gun to my head?\". He then stepped out and was telling my friend and I were about to get hurt, while holding his hand behind his back. My other friends then came outside to see what was up and he got back in the truck and began threatening them too. Once they backed off and he cooled down, he got out and told me the reason why I was being towed was because I didn't have a permit to park where I was and it would be 62.50 to drop the truck. There was no gates, signs, or labeling anywhere on the spots that said I need a permit to park in the lot. Apparently you needed one anyways. If I was parked illegally, I get it and I'll pay the fine. I just want to know if I can legally do anything about the threats he made with a gun. Thanks", "role": "user" }, { "content": ">There was no gates, signs, or labeling anywhere on the spots that said I need a permit to park in the lot. If that is true, then you were improperly towed. Signage is required at entrance/exits by law in Orlando and Orange county (be sure to check boundaries on a map). Not that it's really going to help you much as the signs will magically appear the moment they get a whiff of an actual formal complaint. And of course they will have been there forever. I'd really suggest returning to the location in the daytime and check first. It's amazing how often the signs pop up after someone say they didn't see them. And about the gun and threats. As you can well imagine, driving a tow truck is more than a little dangerous. Many drivers carry and others will make you _think_ they have a gun when they don't. It's mostly a way to avoid physical altercations, but threatening you like that is illegal. Just wanted you to understand why it happened. Something else I could tell you is that a lot of times tow truck companies work very closely with law enforcement so legal complaints go no where with them. However, I'd bet good money that a guy doing private property tows in Orlando is not with the company that does the police/government contracts in Orlando and Orange county. In fact, there is a good chance that the cops hate whatever company he does work for and they might even be real interested in what you have to say.", "role": "assistant" } ]

[ { "content": "Tow truck driver told me I had 3 seconds to step back or he'd put a gun to my head. This morning at around 3 am, my friend noticed a tow truck lifting my car. I went running outside and he followed behind. When I got up to the truck, he wss sitting inside with the window rolled down ready to back out and was telling me to step back, and I stood my ground and told him to drop my car. Once again he told me to step back and I asked why I was being towed. He then told me I had about 3 seconds to back up or he was going to put a gun to my head. I replied something like \"Did you for real just tell me you're gonna put a gun to my head?\". He then stepped out and was telling my friend and I were about to get hurt, while holding his hand behind his back. My other friends then came outside to see what was up and he got back in the truck and began threatening them too. Once they backed off and he cooled down, he got out and told me the reason why I was being towed was because I didn't have a permit to park where I was and it would be 62.50 to drop the truck. There was no gates, signs, or labeling anywhere on the spots that said I need a permit to park in the lot. Apparently you needed one anyways. If I was parked illegally, I get it and I'll pay the fine. I just want to know if I can legally do anything about the threats he made with a gun. Thanks", "role": "user" }, { "content": "Call the tow company too.", "role": "assistant" } ]

[ { "content": "Tow truck driver told me I had 3 seconds to step back or he'd put a gun to my head. This morning at around 3 am, my friend noticed a tow truck lifting my car. I went running outside and he followed behind. When I got up to the truck, he wss sitting inside with the window rolled down ready to back out and was telling me to step back, and I stood my ground and told him to drop my car. Once again he told me to step back and I asked why I was being towed. He then told me I had about 3 seconds to back up or he was going to put a gun to my head. I replied something like \"Did you for real just tell me you're gonna put a gun to my head?\". He then stepped out and was telling my friend and I were about to get hurt, while holding his hand behind his back. My other friends then came outside to see what was up and he got back in the truck and began threatening them too. Once they backed off and he cooled down, he got out and told me the reason why I was being towed was because I didn't have a permit to park where I was and it would be 62.50 to drop the truck. There was no gates, signs, or labeling anywhere on the spots that said I need a permit to park in the lot. Apparently you needed one anyways. If I was parked illegally, I get it and I'll pay the fine. I just want to know if I can legally do anything about the threats he made with a gun. Thanks", "role": "user" }, { "content": ">There was no gates, signs, or labeling anywhere on the spots that said I need a permit to park in the lot. If that is true, then you were improperly towed. Signage is required at entrance/exits by law in Orlando and Orange county (be sure to check boundaries on a map). Not that it's really going to help you much as the signs will magically appear the moment they get a whiff of an actual formal complaint. And of course they will have been there forever. I'd really suggest returning to the location in the daytime and check first. It's amazing how often the signs pop up after someone say they didn't see them. And about the gun and threats. As you can well imagine, driving a tow truck is more than a little dangerous. Many drivers carry and others will make you _think_ they have a gun when they don't. It's mostly a way to avoid physical altercations, but threatening you like that is illegal. Just wanted you to understand why it happened. Something else I could tell you is that a lot of times tow truck companies work very closely with law enforcement so legal complaints go no where with them. However, I'd bet good money that a guy doing private property tows in Orlando is not with the company that does the police/government contracts in Orlando and Orange county. In fact, there is a good chance that the cops hate whatever company he does work for and they might even be real interested in what you have to say.", "role": "assistant" } ]

[ { "content": "Tow truck driver told me I had 3 seconds to step back or he'd put a gun to my head. This morning at around 3 am, my friend noticed a tow truck lifting my car. I went running outside and he followed behind. When I got up to the truck, he wss sitting inside with the window rolled down ready to back out and was telling me to step back, and I stood my ground and told him to drop my car. Once again he told me to step back and I asked why I was being towed. He then told me I had about 3 seconds to back up or he was going to put a gun to my head. I replied something like \"Did you for real just tell me you're gonna put a gun to my head?\". He then stepped out and was telling my friend and I were about to get hurt, while holding his hand behind his back. My other friends then came outside to see what was up and he got back in the truck and began threatening them too. Once they backed off and he cooled down, he got out and told me the reason why I was being towed was because I didn't have a permit to park where I was and it would be 62.50 to drop the truck. There was no gates, signs, or labeling anywhere on the spots that said I need a permit to park in the lot. Apparently you needed one anyways. If I was parked illegally, I get it and I'll pay the fine. I just want to know if I can legally do anything about the threats he made with a gun. Thanks", "role": "user" }, { "content": "Where did this happen?", "role": "assistant" } ]

[ { "content": "Tow truck driver told me I had 3 seconds to step back or he'd put a gun to my head. This morning at around 3 am, my friend noticed a tow truck lifting my car. I went running outside and he followed behind. When I got up to the truck, he wss sitting inside with the window rolled down ready to back out and was telling me to step back, and I stood my ground and told him to drop my car. Once again he told me to step back and I asked why I was being towed. He then told me I had about 3 seconds to back up or he was going to put a gun to my head. I replied something like \"Did you for real just tell me you're gonna put a gun to my head?\". He then stepped out and was telling my friend and I were about to get hurt, while holding his hand behind his back. My other friends then came outside to see what was up and he got back in the truck and began threatening them too. Once they backed off and he cooled down, he got out and told me the reason why I was being towed was because I didn't have a permit to park where I was and it would be 62.50 to drop the truck. There was no gates, signs, or labeling anywhere on the spots that said I need a permit to park in the lot. Apparently you needed one anyways. If I was parked illegally, I get it and I'll pay the fine. I just want to know if I can legally do anything about the threats he made with a gun. Thanks", "role": "user" }, { "content": ">There was no gates, signs, or labeling anywhere on the spots that said I need a permit to park in the lot. If that is true, then you were improperly towed. Signage is required at entrance/exits by law in Orlando and Orange county (be sure to check boundaries on a map). Not that it's really going to help you much as the signs will magically appear the moment they get a whiff of an actual formal complaint. And of course they will have been there forever. I'd really suggest returning to the location in the daytime and check first. It's amazing how often the signs pop up after someone say they didn't see them. And about the gun and threats. As you can well imagine, driving a tow truck is more than a little dangerous. Many drivers carry and others will make you _think_ they have a gun when they don't. It's mostly a way to avoid physical altercations, but threatening you like that is illegal. Just wanted you to understand why it happened. Something else I could tell you is that a lot of times tow truck companies work very closely with law enforcement so legal complaints go no where with them. However, I'd bet good money that a guy doing private property tows in Orlando is not with the company that does the police/government contracts in Orlando and Orange county. In fact, there is a good chance that the cops hate whatever company he does work for and they might even be real interested in what you have to say.", "role": "assistant" } ]

[ { "content": "Tow truck driver told me I had 3 seconds to step back or he'd put a gun to my head. This morning at around 3 am, my friend noticed a tow truck lifting my car. I went running outside and he followed behind. When I got up to the truck, he wss sitting inside with the window rolled down ready to back out and was telling me to step back, and I stood my ground and told him to drop my car. Once again he told me to step back and I asked why I was being towed. He then told me I had about 3 seconds to back up or he was going to put a gun to my head. I replied something like \"Did you for real just tell me you're gonna put a gun to my head?\". He then stepped out and was telling my friend and I were about to get hurt, while holding his hand behind his back. My other friends then came outside to see what was up and he got back in the truck and began threatening them too. Once they backed off and he cooled down, he got out and told me the reason why I was being towed was because I didn't have a permit to park where I was and it would be 62.50 to drop the truck. There was no gates, signs, or labeling anywhere on the spots that said I need a permit to park in the lot. Apparently you needed one anyways. If I was parked illegally, I get it and I'll pay the fine. I just want to know if I can legally do anything about the threats he made with a gun. Thanks", "role": "user" }, { "content": "Did you pay the 60? What did the AirBnB host/listing say about parking? If the host knew that a permit was needed and didn't tell you, maybe you could ask the host to reimburse the $. If the host didn't know, consider calling the tow company. Call the police to report the threat regardless. Not a lawyer", "role": "assistant" } ]

[ { "content": "Tow truck driver told me I had 3 seconds to step back or he'd put a gun to my head. This morning at around 3 am, my friend noticed a tow truck lifting my car. I went running outside and he followed behind. When I got up to the truck, he wss sitting inside with the window rolled down ready to back out and was telling me to step back, and I stood my ground and told him to drop my car. Once again he told me to step back and I asked why I was being towed. He then told me I had about 3 seconds to back up or he was going to put a gun to my head. I replied something like \"Did you for real just tell me you're gonna put a gun to my head?\". He then stepped out and was telling my friend and I were about to get hurt, while holding his hand behind his back. My other friends then came outside to see what was up and he got back in the truck and began threatening them too. Once they backed off and he cooled down, he got out and told me the reason why I was being towed was because I didn't have a permit to park where I was and it would be 62.50 to drop the truck. There was no gates, signs, or labeling anywhere on the spots that said I need a permit to park in the lot. Apparently you needed one anyways. If I was parked illegally, I get it and I'll pay the fine. I just want to know if I can legally do anything about the threats he made with a gun. Thanks", "role": "user" }, { "content": ">There was no gates, signs, or labeling anywhere on the spots that said I need a permit to park in the lot. If that is true, then you were improperly towed. Signage is required at entrance/exits by law in Orlando and Orange county (be sure to check boundaries on a map). Not that it's really going to help you much as the signs will magically appear the moment they get a whiff of an actual formal complaint. And of course they will have been there forever. I'd really suggest returning to the location in the daytime and check first. It's amazing how often the signs pop up after someone say they didn't see them. And about the gun and threats. As you can well imagine, driving a tow truck is more than a little dangerous. Many drivers carry and others will make you _think_ they have a gun when they don't. It's mostly a way to avoid physical altercations, but threatening you like that is illegal. Just wanted you to understand why it happened. Something else I could tell you is that a lot of times tow truck companies work very closely with law enforcement so legal complaints go no where with them. However, I'd bet good money that a guy doing private property tows in Orlando is not with the company that does the police/government contracts in Orlando and Orange county. In fact, there is a good chance that the cops hate whatever company he does work for and they might even be real interested in what you have to say.", "role": "assistant" } ]

[ { "content": "Tow truck driver told me I had 3 seconds to step back or he'd put a gun to my head. This morning at around 3 am, my friend noticed a tow truck lifting my car. I went running outside and he followed behind. When I got up to the truck, he wss sitting inside with the window rolled down ready to back out and was telling me to step back, and I stood my ground and told him to drop my car. Once again he told me to step back and I asked why I was being towed. He then told me I had about 3 seconds to back up or he was going to put a gun to my head. I replied something like \"Did you for real just tell me you're gonna put a gun to my head?\". He then stepped out and was telling my friend and I were about to get hurt, while holding his hand behind his back. My other friends then came outside to see what was up and he got back in the truck and began threatening them too. Once they backed off and he cooled down, he got out and told me the reason why I was being towed was because I didn't have a permit to park where I was and it would be 62.50 to drop the truck. There was no gates, signs, or labeling anywhere on the spots that said I need a permit to park in the lot. Apparently you needed one anyways. If I was parked illegally, I get it and I'll pay the fine. I just want to know if I can legally do anything about the threats he made with a gun. Thanks", "role": "user" }, { "content": "Did he tow your car? Did he let it down? Did you pay him?", "role": "assistant" } ]

[ { "content": "Tow truck driver told me I had 3 seconds to step back or he'd put a gun to my head. This morning at around 3 am, my friend noticed a tow truck lifting my car. I went running outside and he followed behind. When I got up to the truck, he wss sitting inside with the window rolled down ready to back out and was telling me to step back, and I stood my ground and told him to drop my car. Once again he told me to step back and I asked why I was being towed. He then told me I had about 3 seconds to back up or he was going to put a gun to my head. I replied something like \"Did you for real just tell me you're gonna put a gun to my head?\". He then stepped out and was telling my friend and I were about to get hurt, while holding his hand behind his back. My other friends then came outside to see what was up and he got back in the truck and began threatening them too. Once they backed off and he cooled down, he got out and told me the reason why I was being towed was because I didn't have a permit to park where I was and it would be 62.50 to drop the truck. There was no gates, signs, or labeling anywhere on the spots that said I need a permit to park in the lot. Apparently you needed one anyways. If I was parked illegally, I get it and I'll pay the fine. I just want to know if I can legally do anything about the threats he made with a gun. Thanks", "role": "user" }, { "content": ">There was no gates, signs, or labeling anywhere on the spots that said I need a permit to park in the lot. If that is true, then you were improperly towed. Signage is required at entrance/exits by law in Orlando and Orange county (be sure to check boundaries on a map). Not that it's really going to help you much as the signs will magically appear the moment they get a whiff of an actual formal complaint. And of course they will have been there forever. I'd really suggest returning to the location in the daytime and check first. It's amazing how often the signs pop up after someone say they didn't see them. And about the gun and threats. As you can well imagine, driving a tow truck is more than a little dangerous. Many drivers carry and others will make you _think_ they have a gun when they don't. It's mostly a way to avoid physical altercations, but threatening you like that is illegal. Just wanted you to understand why it happened. Something else I could tell you is that a lot of times tow truck companies work very closely with law enforcement so legal complaints go no where with them. However, I'd bet good money that a guy doing private property tows in Orlando is not with the company that does the police/government contracts in Orlando and Orange county. In fact, there is a good chance that the cops hate whatever company he does work for and they might even be real interested in what you have to say.", "role": "assistant" } ]

[ { "content": "[WA] Hotel advertised wifi, couldn't even pick up signal from room. Charged me for 1 night when I cancelled 5 minutes after checking in. tl;dr: Hotel advertised wifi, wifi was literally unusable. Asked for refund and was still charged one night's stay. Seeking full refund. This is relatively small potatoes compared to a lot of what I see on this sub, but the way I was treated irked me enough to want some recourse. Anyway, I'm working out of town for a while and booked a hotel for a full month stay. Wifi is a must for me and their website stated it was available. After checking in and paying I try to connect in my room only to find that I can't even find their network listed in my wifi settings. Turns out they have one shitty router in their office which is 200+ feet from the rooms. Bringing my laptop right next to the office only gets me 2.5 mbps, which itself is barely usable. Seeing that there isn't any serviceable wifi and I'll be there for a month I ask for a refund, to which I'm told I'll be charged for one night. \"We held the room for you and we're legally required to clean it so you have to pay.\" I informed her I did not receive the service their website promised and as such I shouldn't be charged anything. Had I known the wifi was unusable I would never had made the reservation. No luck. I was rudely informed that I was lucky to get anything because normally they don't offer any sort of refund at all and that my cancelation is an immense burden on their business. I remain calm and respectful but as I persist she just gets angrier and more boisterous. I'm frustrated, but ultimately I agree to the partial refund because there's really nothing more I can do. I'm hoping there is something that can be done to compel the hotel to give me a full refund. To me this seems like a clear case of false advertisement. Their website advertises a service that their facility fails to deliver on. Is there a government agency to contact that could resolve this? I can't imagine hiring a lawyer would be economical as I'm only out around $80. Thanks for your time.", "role": "user" }, { "content": "What if they have a 5g ac network and your laptop couldn't pick it up? All hotels/motels I've seen charge 1 night for canceling at the last minute. Perhaps requesting a discount would be better. But they advertised wifi and they had it. Unless it said in room wifi they aren't doing anything wrong.", "role": "assistant" } ]

[ { "content": "[WA] Hotel advertised wifi, couldn't even pick up signal from room. Charged me for 1 night when I cancelled 5 minutes after checking in. tl;dr: Hotel advertised wifi, wifi was literally unusable. Asked for refund and was still charged one night's stay. Seeking full refund. This is relatively small potatoes compared to a lot of what I see on this sub, but the way I was treated irked me enough to want some recourse. Anyway, I'm working out of town for a while and booked a hotel for a full month stay. Wifi is a must for me and their website stated it was available. After checking in and paying I try to connect in my room only to find that I can't even find their network listed in my wifi settings. Turns out they have one shitty router in their office which is 200+ feet from the rooms. Bringing my laptop right next to the office only gets me 2.5 mbps, which itself is barely usable. Seeing that there isn't any serviceable wifi and I'll be there for a month I ask for a refund, to which I'm told I'll be charged for one night. \"We held the room for you and we're legally required to clean it so you have to pay.\" I informed her I did not receive the service their website promised and as such I shouldn't be charged anything. Had I known the wifi was unusable I would never had made the reservation. No luck. I was rudely informed that I was lucky to get anything because normally they don't offer any sort of refund at all and that my cancelation is an immense burden on their business. I remain calm and respectful but as I persist she just gets angrier and more boisterous. I'm frustrated, but ultimately I agree to the partial refund because there's really nothing more I can do. I'm hoping there is something that can be done to compel the hotel to give me a full refund. To me this seems like a clear case of false advertisement. Their website advertises a service that their facility fails to deliver on. Is there a government agency to contact that could resolve this? I can't imagine hiring a lawyer would be economical as I'm only out around $80. Thanks for your time.", "role": "user" }, { "content": "You aren't due anything for what amounts to a free amenity. If it was that important, you should have shopped for what you needed before booking the hotel. Called the hotel. Asked questions. You were presumptuous, and that is on you. The hotel shouldn't be out money due to your lack of planning or foresight. They are a hotel, not an internet cafe.", "role": "assistant" } ]

[ { "content": "[WA] Hotel advertised wifi, couldn't even pick up signal from room. Charged me for 1 night when I cancelled 5 minutes after checking in. tl;dr: Hotel advertised wifi, wifi was literally unusable. Asked for refund and was still charged one night's stay. Seeking full refund. This is relatively small potatoes compared to a lot of what I see on this sub, but the way I was treated irked me enough to want some recourse. Anyway, I'm working out of town for a while and booked a hotel for a full month stay. Wifi is a must for me and their website stated it was available. After checking in and paying I try to connect in my room only to find that I can't even find their network listed in my wifi settings. Turns out they have one shitty router in their office which is 200+ feet from the rooms. Bringing my laptop right next to the office only gets me 2.5 mbps, which itself is barely usable. Seeing that there isn't any serviceable wifi and I'll be there for a month I ask for a refund, to which I'm told I'll be charged for one night. \"We held the room for you and we're legally required to clean it so you have to pay.\" I informed her I did not receive the service their website promised and as such I shouldn't be charged anything. Had I known the wifi was unusable I would never had made the reservation. No luck. I was rudely informed that I was lucky to get anything because normally they don't offer any sort of refund at all and that my cancelation is an immense burden on their business. I remain calm and respectful but as I persist she just gets angrier and more boisterous. I'm frustrated, but ultimately I agree to the partial refund because there's really nothing more I can do. I'm hoping there is something that can be done to compel the hotel to give me a full refund. To me this seems like a clear case of false advertisement. Their website advertises a service that their facility fails to deliver on. Is there a government agency to contact that could resolve this? I can't imagine hiring a lawyer would be economical as I'm only out around $80. Thanks for your time.", "role": "user" }, { "content": "A lot of people saying, \"well they had wifi, so they didn't lie\" and that you should be charged at least a night for cancellation fee. But, what do they advertise? Does it say \"in-room wifi\"? Or just \"wifi available\" ? What is their advertised cancellation policy? (you were in the room for less than 30 minutes. IMO, yeah full refund) Also a lot of people saying you should have called to check the wifi strength or whatever, sure everyone starts calling for stuff like that, this sub will explode with \"people keep calling..\" \" the phone won't stop... \"", "role": "assistant" } ]

[ { "content": "[WA] Hotel advertised wifi, couldn't even pick up signal from room. Charged me for 1 night when I cancelled 5 minutes after checking in. tl;dr: Hotel advertised wifi, wifi was literally unusable. Asked for refund and was still charged one night's stay. Seeking full refund. This is relatively small potatoes compared to a lot of what I see on this sub, but the way I was treated irked me enough to want some recourse. Anyway, I'm working out of town for a while and booked a hotel for a full month stay. Wifi is a must for me and their website stated it was available. After checking in and paying I try to connect in my room only to find that I can't even find their network listed in my wifi settings. Turns out they have one shitty router in their office which is 200+ feet from the rooms. Bringing my laptop right next to the office only gets me 2.5 mbps, which itself is barely usable. Seeing that there isn't any serviceable wifi and I'll be there for a month I ask for a refund, to which I'm told I'll be charged for one night. \"We held the room for you and we're legally required to clean it so you have to pay.\" I informed her I did not receive the service their website promised and as such I shouldn't be charged anything. Had I known the wifi was unusable I would never had made the reservation. No luck. I was rudely informed that I was lucky to get anything because normally they don't offer any sort of refund at all and that my cancelation is an immense burden on their business. I remain calm and respectful but as I persist she just gets angrier and more boisterous. I'm frustrated, but ultimately I agree to the partial refund because there's really nothing more I can do. I'm hoping there is something that can be done to compel the hotel to give me a full refund. To me this seems like a clear case of false advertisement. Their website advertises a service that their facility fails to deliver on. Is there a government agency to contact that could resolve this? I can't imagine hiring a lawyer would be economical as I'm only out around $80. Thanks for your time.", "role": "user" }, { "content": "If WiFi is mission critical for you, then the wise thing to do would be to get a hotspot. Because, here's the thing: wifi goes down. It happens. Also, I call BS on it only taking 5 minutes between check in and cancelling. Did you troubleshoot your WiFi connection? Did you reboot your device? Did you try finding the network from a different device? (I.e. phone)? Did you look for an Ethernet port? And, put yourself in the shoes of the person who comes in after you. Would you want a room that hadn't been cleaned, but it's ok because the previous person was in there under 30 minutes? I know I wouldn't - you can do a LOT in 30 minutes that would render the room in need of cleaning.", "role": "assistant" } ]

[ { "content": "Hotel refusing to give refund after they triple charged me for a room what should I do? Edit in USA On thanksgiving I attempted to stay at a hotel in my family’s hometown but 30 mins in I noticed bugs coming out of the sink, trash and tub. I went to the front desk and requested a room change and they did so but the second room also had bugs. I go back to the hotel desk where they’re issuing a refund to a customer for giving him a dirty room. After he leaves she gives me a third room and another hotel attendant walks to the room with me to check it out. We get there and there’s bugs in the tub. She offers a refund so I accepts and she calls the hotel GM for approval. GM is upset because she just had to issue a refund and says I should call tomoro to speak to her about it. I debate about why I can’t just have my money if the attendant saw the bugs and they have no response. I decide to just say fuck it and drive home and when I stop for gas about an hour away from home and the pump stomps at 5ish bucks. I check my account and it’s empty. The hotel has charged me for every room change. I call them and they notice their mistake but still maintain that I must call in the morning. I call the next morning and they tell me the GM won’t be there til the next day. I keep calling when they tell me to and every time it’s the same answer. I call corporate and they contact the GM and he says he’s unaware of the issue and will call me back when he resolves it. I’ve gotten that same bs response from the hotel owner for two weeks now and corporate says their hands are tied since only the hotel can process refunds. They can clearly see the charges stemming from that night and the hotel has cameras that corroborate my story but they refuse to refund me. One of the charges has since been rejected by my bank but the other two are still present. It’s not that much ~$160ish but I’m that’s a lot when you’re unemployed. What should I do to resolve this?", "role": "user" }, { "content": "---\r > http://imgur.com/a/myIAb\r \r ---\r *I am a bot whose sole purpose is to improve the timeliness and accuracy of responses in this subreddit.*\r \r ---\r **It appears you forgot to include your location in the title or body of your post. Please update the body of your original post to include this information.**\r \r ---\r ***Do NOT delete this post - Instead, simply edit the post with the requested information.***\r \r ---\r \r Author: /u/NotEvenMaditscool\r \r Title: **Hotel refusing to give refund after they triple charged me for a room what should I do?**\r \r Original Post: \r \r > On thanksgiving I attempted to stay at a hotel in my family’s hometown but 30 mins in I noticed bugs coming out of the sink, trash and tub. I went to the front desk and requested a room change and they did so but the second room also had bugs. I go back to the hotel desk where they’re issuing a refund to a customer for giving him a dirty room. After he leaves she gives me a third room and another hotel attendant walks to the room with me to check it out. We get there and there’s bugs in the tub. She offers a refund so I accepts and she calls the hotel GM for approval. GM is upset because she just had to issue a refund and says I should call tomoro to speak to her about it. I debate about why I can’t just have my money if the attendant saw the bugs and they have no response. > I decide to just say fuck it and drive home and when I stop for gas about an hour away from home and the pump stomps at 5ish bucks. I check my account and it’s empty. The hotel has charged me for every room change. I call them and they notice their mistake but still maintain that I must call in the morning. I call the next morning and they tell me the GM won’t be there til the next day. I keep calling when they tell me to and every time it’s the same answer. I call corporate and they contact the GM and he says he’s unaware of the issue and will call me back when he resolves it. I’ve gotten that same bs response from the hotel owner for two weeks now and corporate says their hands are tied since only the hotel can process refunds. They can clearly see the charges stemming from that night and the hotel has cameras that corroborate my story but they refuse to refund me. One of the charges has since been rejected by my bank but the other two are still present. It’s not that much ~$160ish but I’m that’s a lot when you’re unemployed. What should I do to resolve this?\r \r \r \r \r ---\r LocationBot 4.31977192 | Report Issues", "role": "assistant" } ]

[ { "content": "Hotel refusing to give refund after they triple charged me for a room what should I do? Edit in USA On thanksgiving I attempted to stay at a hotel in my family’s hometown but 30 mins in I noticed bugs coming out of the sink, trash and tub. I went to the front desk and requested a room change and they did so but the second room also had bugs. I go back to the hotel desk where they’re issuing a refund to a customer for giving him a dirty room. After he leaves she gives me a third room and another hotel attendant walks to the room with me to check it out. We get there and there’s bugs in the tub. She offers a refund so I accepts and she calls the hotel GM for approval. GM is upset because she just had to issue a refund and says I should call tomoro to speak to her about it. I debate about why I can’t just have my money if the attendant saw the bugs and they have no response. I decide to just say fuck it and drive home and when I stop for gas about an hour away from home and the pump stomps at 5ish bucks. I check my account and it’s empty. The hotel has charged me for every room change. I call them and they notice their mistake but still maintain that I must call in the morning. I call the next morning and they tell me the GM won’t be there til the next day. I keep calling when they tell me to and every time it’s the same answer. I call corporate and they contact the GM and he says he’s unaware of the issue and will call me back when he resolves it. I’ve gotten that same bs response from the hotel owner for two weeks now and corporate says their hands are tied since only the hotel can process refunds. They can clearly see the charges stemming from that night and the hotel has cameras that corroborate my story but they refuse to refund me. One of the charges has since been rejected by my bank but the other two are still present. It’s not that much ~$160ish but I’m that’s a lot when you’re unemployed. What should I do to resolve this?", "role": "user" }, { "content": "Did you pay with a CC, or Visa-debit? If so, call your bank and request a chargeback. It might take a few days, but you’ll get your money back. I’ve done a few legit merchant disputes; and they’ve worked out in my favour.", "role": "assistant" } ]

[ { "content": "Hotel refusing to give refund after they triple charged me for a room what should I do? Edit in USA On thanksgiving I attempted to stay at a hotel in my family’s hometown but 30 mins in I noticed bugs coming out of the sink, trash and tub. I went to the front desk and requested a room change and they did so but the second room also had bugs. I go back to the hotel desk where they’re issuing a refund to a customer for giving him a dirty room. After he leaves she gives me a third room and another hotel attendant walks to the room with me to check it out. We get there and there’s bugs in the tub. She offers a refund so I accepts and she calls the hotel GM for approval. GM is upset because she just had to issue a refund and says I should call tomoro to speak to her about it. I debate about why I can’t just have my money if the attendant saw the bugs and they have no response. I decide to just say fuck it and drive home and when I stop for gas about an hour away from home and the pump stomps at 5ish bucks. I check my account and it’s empty. The hotel has charged me for every room change. I call them and they notice their mistake but still maintain that I must call in the morning. I call the next morning and they tell me the GM won’t be there til the next day. I keep calling when they tell me to and every time it’s the same answer. I call corporate and they contact the GM and he says he’s unaware of the issue and will call me back when he resolves it. I’ve gotten that same bs response from the hotel owner for two weeks now and corporate says their hands are tied since only the hotel can process refunds. They can clearly see the charges stemming from that night and the hotel has cameras that corroborate my story but they refuse to refund me. One of the charges has since been rejected by my bank but the other two are still present. It’s not that much ~$160ish but I’m that’s a lot when you’re unemployed. What should I do to resolve this?", "role": "user" }, { "content": "---\r > http://imgur.com/a/myIAb\r \r ---\r *I am a bot whose sole purpose is to improve the timeliness and accuracy of responses in this subreddit.*\r \r ---\r **It appears you forgot to include your location in the title or body of your post. Please update the body of your original post to include this information.**\r \r ---\r ***Do NOT delete this post - Instead, simply edit the post with the requested information.***\r \r ---\r \r Author: /u/NotEvenMaditscool\r \r Title: **Hotel refusing to give refund after they triple charged me for a room what should I do?**\r \r Original Post: \r \r > On thanksgiving I attempted to stay at a hotel in my family’s hometown but 30 mins in I noticed bugs coming out of the sink, trash and tub. I went to the front desk and requested a room change and they did so but the second room also had bugs. I go back to the hotel desk where they’re issuing a refund to a customer for giving him a dirty room. After he leaves she gives me a third room and another hotel attendant walks to the room with me to check it out. We get there and there’s bugs in the tub. She offers a refund so I accepts and she calls the hotel GM for approval. GM is upset because she just had to issue a refund and says I should call tomoro to speak to her about it. I debate about why I can’t just have my money if the attendant saw the bugs and they have no response. > I decide to just say fuck it and drive home and when I stop for gas about an hour away from home and the pump stomps at 5ish bucks. I check my account and it’s empty. The hotel has charged me for every room change. I call them and they notice their mistake but still maintain that I must call in the morning. I call the next morning and they tell me the GM won’t be there til the next day. I keep calling when they tell me to and every time it’s the same answer. I call corporate and they contact the GM and he says he’s unaware of the issue and will call me back when he resolves it. I’ve gotten that same bs response from the hotel owner for two weeks now and corporate says their hands are tied since only the hotel can process refunds. They can clearly see the charges stemming from that night and the hotel has cameras that corroborate my story but they refuse to refund me. One of the charges has since been rejected by my bank but the other two are still present. It’s not that much ~$160ish but I’m that’s a lot when you’re unemployed. What should I do to resolve this?\r \r \r \r \r ---\r LocationBot 4.31977192 | Report Issues", "role": "assistant" } ]

[ { "content": "Hotel refusing to give refund after they triple charged me for a room what should I do? Edit in USA On thanksgiving I attempted to stay at a hotel in my family’s hometown but 30 mins in I noticed bugs coming out of the sink, trash and tub. I went to the front desk and requested a room change and they did so but the second room also had bugs. I go back to the hotel desk where they’re issuing a refund to a customer for giving him a dirty room. After he leaves she gives me a third room and another hotel attendant walks to the room with me to check it out. We get there and there’s bugs in the tub. She offers a refund so I accepts and she calls the hotel GM for approval. GM is upset because she just had to issue a refund and says I should call tomoro to speak to her about it. I debate about why I can’t just have my money if the attendant saw the bugs and they have no response. I decide to just say fuck it and drive home and when I stop for gas about an hour away from home and the pump stomps at 5ish bucks. I check my account and it’s empty. The hotel has charged me for every room change. I call them and they notice their mistake but still maintain that I must call in the morning. I call the next morning and they tell me the GM won’t be there til the next day. I keep calling when they tell me to and every time it’s the same answer. I call corporate and they contact the GM and he says he’s unaware of the issue and will call me back when he resolves it. I’ve gotten that same bs response from the hotel owner for two weeks now and corporate says their hands are tied since only the hotel can process refunds. They can clearly see the charges stemming from that night and the hotel has cameras that corroborate my story but they refuse to refund me. One of the charges has since been rejected by my bank but the other two are still present. It’s not that much ~$160ish but I’m that’s a lot when you’re unemployed. What should I do to resolve this?", "role": "user" }, { "content": "Call the hotel and give them the option of giving the refund which would be the easy option or tell them that you will have to file a dispute with your bank.", "role": "assistant" } ]

[ { "content": "Hotel refusing to give refund after they triple charged me for a room what should I do? Edit in USA On thanksgiving I attempted to stay at a hotel in my family’s hometown but 30 mins in I noticed bugs coming out of the sink, trash and tub. I went to the front desk and requested a room change and they did so but the second room also had bugs. I go back to the hotel desk where they’re issuing a refund to a customer for giving him a dirty room. After he leaves she gives me a third room and another hotel attendant walks to the room with me to check it out. We get there and there’s bugs in the tub. She offers a refund so I accepts and she calls the hotel GM for approval. GM is upset because she just had to issue a refund and says I should call tomoro to speak to her about it. I debate about why I can’t just have my money if the attendant saw the bugs and they have no response. I decide to just say fuck it and drive home and when I stop for gas about an hour away from home and the pump stomps at 5ish bucks. I check my account and it’s empty. The hotel has charged me for every room change. I call them and they notice their mistake but still maintain that I must call in the morning. I call the next morning and they tell me the GM won’t be there til the next day. I keep calling when they tell me to and every time it’s the same answer. I call corporate and they contact the GM and he says he’s unaware of the issue and will call me back when he resolves it. I’ve gotten that same bs response from the hotel owner for two weeks now and corporate says their hands are tied since only the hotel can process refunds. They can clearly see the charges stemming from that night and the hotel has cameras that corroborate my story but they refuse to refund me. One of the charges has since been rejected by my bank but the other two are still present. It’s not that much ~$160ish but I’m that’s a lot when you’re unemployed. What should I do to resolve this?", "role": "user" }, { "content": "---\r > http://imgur.com/a/myIAb\r \r ---\r *I am a bot whose sole purpose is to improve the timeliness and accuracy of responses in this subreddit.*\r \r ---\r **It appears you forgot to include your location in the title or body of your post. Please update the body of your original post to include this information.**\r \r ---\r ***Do NOT delete this post - Instead, simply edit the post with the requested information.***\r \r ---\r \r Author: /u/NotEvenMaditscool\r \r Title: **Hotel refusing to give refund after they triple charged me for a room what should I do?**\r \r Original Post: \r \r > On thanksgiving I attempted to stay at a hotel in my family’s hometown but 30 mins in I noticed bugs coming out of the sink, trash and tub. I went to the front desk and requested a room change and they did so but the second room also had bugs. I go back to the hotel desk where they’re issuing a refund to a customer for giving him a dirty room. After he leaves she gives me a third room and another hotel attendant walks to the room with me to check it out. We get there and there’s bugs in the tub. She offers a refund so I accepts and she calls the hotel GM for approval. GM is upset because she just had to issue a refund and says I should call tomoro to speak to her about it. I debate about why I can’t just have my money if the attendant saw the bugs and they have no response. > I decide to just say fuck it and drive home and when I stop for gas about an hour away from home and the pump stomps at 5ish bucks. I check my account and it’s empty. The hotel has charged me for every room change. I call them and they notice their mistake but still maintain that I must call in the morning. I call the next morning and they tell me the GM won’t be there til the next day. I keep calling when they tell me to and every time it’s the same answer. I call corporate and they contact the GM and he says he’s unaware of the issue and will call me back when he resolves it. I’ve gotten that same bs response from the hotel owner for two weeks now and corporate says their hands are tied since only the hotel can process refunds. They can clearly see the charges stemming from that night and the hotel has cameras that corroborate my story but they refuse to refund me. One of the charges has since been rejected by my bank but the other two are still present. It’s not that much ~$160ish but I’m that’s a lot when you’re unemployed. What should I do to resolve this?\r \r \r \r \r ---\r LocationBot 4.31977192 | Report Issues", "role": "assistant" } ]

[ { "content": "Hotel refusing to give refund after they triple charged me for a room what should I do? Edit in USA On thanksgiving I attempted to stay at a hotel in my family’s hometown but 30 mins in I noticed bugs coming out of the sink, trash and tub. I went to the front desk and requested a room change and they did so but the second room also had bugs. I go back to the hotel desk where they’re issuing a refund to a customer for giving him a dirty room. After he leaves she gives me a third room and another hotel attendant walks to the room with me to check it out. We get there and there’s bugs in the tub. She offers a refund so I accepts and she calls the hotel GM for approval. GM is upset because she just had to issue a refund and says I should call tomoro to speak to her about it. I debate about why I can’t just have my money if the attendant saw the bugs and they have no response. I decide to just say fuck it and drive home and when I stop for gas about an hour away from home and the pump stomps at 5ish bucks. I check my account and it’s empty. The hotel has charged me for every room change. I call them and they notice their mistake but still maintain that I must call in the morning. I call the next morning and they tell me the GM won’t be there til the next day. I keep calling when they tell me to and every time it’s the same answer. I call corporate and they contact the GM and he says he’s unaware of the issue and will call me back when he resolves it. I’ve gotten that same bs response from the hotel owner for two weeks now and corporate says their hands are tied since only the hotel can process refunds. They can clearly see the charges stemming from that night and the hotel has cameras that corroborate my story but they refuse to refund me. One of the charges has since been rejected by my bank but the other two are still present. It’s not that much ~$160ish but I’m that’s a lot when you’re unemployed. What should I do to resolve this?", "role": "user" }, { "content": "I am not a lawyer but I had a similar experience where I did not stay in the room and asked for a refund. In my case the hotel just kept stalling me everyday and advised me not to escalate it to my bank for a chargeback. Stupidly, I listened to them until it was too late to get a chargeback. Do yourself a favor and call your bank and explain the situation and get a chargeback now before it’s too late.", "role": "assistant" } ]

[ { "content": "Hotel refusing to give refund after they triple charged me for a room what should I do? Edit in USA On thanksgiving I attempted to stay at a hotel in my family’s hometown but 30 mins in I noticed bugs coming out of the sink, trash and tub. I went to the front desk and requested a room change and they did so but the second room also had bugs. I go back to the hotel desk where they’re issuing a refund to a customer for giving him a dirty room. After he leaves she gives me a third room and another hotel attendant walks to the room with me to check it out. We get there and there’s bugs in the tub. She offers a refund so I accepts and she calls the hotel GM for approval. GM is upset because she just had to issue a refund and says I should call tomoro to speak to her about it. I debate about why I can’t just have my money if the attendant saw the bugs and they have no response. I decide to just say fuck it and drive home and when I stop for gas about an hour away from home and the pump stomps at 5ish bucks. I check my account and it’s empty. The hotel has charged me for every room change. I call them and they notice their mistake but still maintain that I must call in the morning. I call the next morning and they tell me the GM won’t be there til the next day. I keep calling when they tell me to and every time it’s the same answer. I call corporate and they contact the GM and he says he’s unaware of the issue and will call me back when he resolves it. I’ve gotten that same bs response from the hotel owner for two weeks now and corporate says their hands are tied since only the hotel can process refunds. They can clearly see the charges stemming from that night and the hotel has cameras that corroborate my story but they refuse to refund me. One of the charges has since been rejected by my bank but the other two are still present. It’s not that much ~$160ish but I’m that’s a lot when you’re unemployed. What should I do to resolve this?", "role": "user" }, { "content": "---\r > http://imgur.com/a/myIAb\r \r ---\r *I am a bot whose sole purpose is to improve the timeliness and accuracy of responses in this subreddit.*\r \r ---\r **It appears you forgot to include your location in the title or body of your post. Please update the body of your original post to include this information.**\r \r ---\r ***Do NOT delete this post - Instead, simply edit the post with the requested information.***\r \r ---\r \r Author: /u/NotEvenMaditscool\r \r Title: **Hotel refusing to give refund after they triple charged me for a room what should I do?**\r \r Original Post: \r \r > On thanksgiving I attempted to stay at a hotel in my family’s hometown but 30 mins in I noticed bugs coming out of the sink, trash and tub. I went to the front desk and requested a room change and they did so but the second room also had bugs. I go back to the hotel desk where they’re issuing a refund to a customer for giving him a dirty room. After he leaves she gives me a third room and another hotel attendant walks to the room with me to check it out. We get there and there’s bugs in the tub. She offers a refund so I accepts and she calls the hotel GM for approval. GM is upset because she just had to issue a refund and says I should call tomoro to speak to her about it. I debate about why I can’t just have my money if the attendant saw the bugs and they have no response. > I decide to just say fuck it and drive home and when I stop for gas about an hour away from home and the pump stomps at 5ish bucks. I check my account and it’s empty. The hotel has charged me for every room change. I call them and they notice their mistake but still maintain that I must call in the morning. I call the next morning and they tell me the GM won’t be there til the next day. I keep calling when they tell me to and every time it’s the same answer. I call corporate and they contact the GM and he says he’s unaware of the issue and will call me back when he resolves it. I’ve gotten that same bs response from the hotel owner for two weeks now and corporate says their hands are tied since only the hotel can process refunds. They can clearly see the charges stemming from that night and the hotel has cameras that corroborate my story but they refuse to refund me. One of the charges has since been rejected by my bank but the other two are still present. It’s not that much ~$160ish but I’m that’s a lot when you’re unemployed. What should I do to resolve this?\r \r \r \r \r ---\r LocationBot 4.31977192 | Report Issues", "role": "assistant" } ]

[ { "content": "Hotel refusing to give refund after they triple charged me for a room what should I do? Edit in USA On thanksgiving I attempted to stay at a hotel in my family’s hometown but 30 mins in I noticed bugs coming out of the sink, trash and tub. I went to the front desk and requested a room change and they did so but the second room also had bugs. I go back to the hotel desk where they’re issuing a refund to a customer for giving him a dirty room. After he leaves she gives me a third room and another hotel attendant walks to the room with me to check it out. We get there and there’s bugs in the tub. She offers a refund so I accepts and she calls the hotel GM for approval. GM is upset because she just had to issue a refund and says I should call tomoro to speak to her about it. I debate about why I can’t just have my money if the attendant saw the bugs and they have no response. I decide to just say fuck it and drive home and when I stop for gas about an hour away from home and the pump stomps at 5ish bucks. I check my account and it’s empty. The hotel has charged me for every room change. I call them and they notice their mistake but still maintain that I must call in the morning. I call the next morning and they tell me the GM won’t be there til the next day. I keep calling when they tell me to and every time it’s the same answer. I call corporate and they contact the GM and he says he’s unaware of the issue and will call me back when he resolves it. I’ve gotten that same bs response from the hotel owner for two weeks now and corporate says their hands are tied since only the hotel can process refunds. They can clearly see the charges stemming from that night and the hotel has cameras that corroborate my story but they refuse to refund me. One of the charges has since been rejected by my bank but the other two are still present. It’s not that much ~$160ish but I’m that’s a lot when you’re unemployed. What should I do to resolve this?", "role": "user" }, { "content": "I've had this happen before. They were really slow, but they finally returned my money. They tried to outright deny that they were wrong. They told me it was normal to charge twice as a \"hold\", but they never told me about that before I booked and it was 3 weeks later and extra charges still not dropping off. On top of my double charge upfront to book the stupid room (which i didn't notice until after the fact), when I checked out they asked how I'd like to pay.... So I paid in cash. I was tired and blanked that I had already paid, and apparently they didn't record my DOUBLE prepayment. Called them for WEEKS. All I got was \"manager\" after \"manager\" telling me they are looking into it. Honestly I received the fastest response when I tagged them on Twitter complaining I had been triple charged with zero response from management, Got an email and a call an hour later from corporate apologizing and that this shouldn't have happened. They said even a hold shouldn't have stayed on more than a few days, but that they weren't sure why I had a hold to begin with (it's bc it was a double charge mistake, not a hold, but corporate clearly danced around that). Granted it still took them a few days to process the return on top of the back and forth time between me and management. It took a total of 3-4 weeks after the incident to get my money back. Sadly I don't think it will be a quick turnaround. Start moving up the chain of command until someone listens. Pretty likely the management will continue to downplay this so they don't look bad. Find their boss and complain and so on. Or try social media and make them deal with it now, tag ANY corporate account they have and anything with their name, someone is bound to see it.", "role": "assistant" } ]

[ { "content": "Hotel refusing to give refund after they triple charged me for a room what should I do? Edit in USA On thanksgiving I attempted to stay at a hotel in my family’s hometown but 30 mins in I noticed bugs coming out of the sink, trash and tub. I went to the front desk and requested a room change and they did so but the second room also had bugs. I go back to the hotel desk where they’re issuing a refund to a customer for giving him a dirty room. After he leaves she gives me a third room and another hotel attendant walks to the room with me to check it out. We get there and there’s bugs in the tub. She offers a refund so I accepts and she calls the hotel GM for approval. GM is upset because she just had to issue a refund and says I should call tomoro to speak to her about it. I debate about why I can’t just have my money if the attendant saw the bugs and they have no response. I decide to just say fuck it and drive home and when I stop for gas about an hour away from home and the pump stomps at 5ish bucks. I check my account and it’s empty. The hotel has charged me for every room change. I call them and they notice their mistake but still maintain that I must call in the morning. I call the next morning and they tell me the GM won’t be there til the next day. I keep calling when they tell me to and every time it’s the same answer. I call corporate and they contact the GM and he says he’s unaware of the issue and will call me back when he resolves it. I’ve gotten that same bs response from the hotel owner for two weeks now and corporate says their hands are tied since only the hotel can process refunds. They can clearly see the charges stemming from that night and the hotel has cameras that corroborate my story but they refuse to refund me. One of the charges has since been rejected by my bank but the other two are still present. It’s not that much ~$160ish but I’m that’s a lot when you’re unemployed. What should I do to resolve this?", "role": "user" }, { "content": "---\r > http://imgur.com/a/myIAb\r \r ---\r *I am a bot whose sole purpose is to improve the timeliness and accuracy of responses in this subreddit.*\r \r ---\r **It appears you forgot to include your location in the title or body of your post. Please update the body of your original post to include this information.**\r \r ---\r ***Do NOT delete this post - Instead, simply edit the post with the requested information.***\r \r ---\r \r Author: /u/NotEvenMaditscool\r \r Title: **Hotel refusing to give refund after they triple charged me for a room what should I do?**\r \r Original Post: \r \r > On thanksgiving I attempted to stay at a hotel in my family’s hometown but 30 mins in I noticed bugs coming out of the sink, trash and tub. I went to the front desk and requested a room change and they did so but the second room also had bugs. I go back to the hotel desk where they’re issuing a refund to a customer for giving him a dirty room. After he leaves she gives me a third room and another hotel attendant walks to the room with me to check it out. We get there and there’s bugs in the tub. She offers a refund so I accepts and she calls the hotel GM for approval. GM is upset because she just had to issue a refund and says I should call tomoro to speak to her about it. I debate about why I can’t just have my money if the attendant saw the bugs and they have no response. > I decide to just say fuck it and drive home and when I stop for gas about an hour away from home and the pump stomps at 5ish bucks. I check my account and it’s empty. The hotel has charged me for every room change. I call them and they notice their mistake but still maintain that I must call in the morning. I call the next morning and they tell me the GM won’t be there til the next day. I keep calling when they tell me to and every time it’s the same answer. I call corporate and they contact the GM and he says he’s unaware of the issue and will call me back when he resolves it. I’ve gotten that same bs response from the hotel owner for two weeks now and corporate says their hands are tied since only the hotel can process refunds. They can clearly see the charges stemming from that night and the hotel has cameras that corroborate my story but they refuse to refund me. One of the charges has since been rejected by my bank but the other two are still present. It’s not that much ~$160ish but I’m that’s a lot when you’re unemployed. What should I do to resolve this?\r \r \r \r \r ---\r LocationBot 4.31977192 | Report Issues", "role": "assistant" } ]

[ { "content": "Hotel refusing to give refund after they triple charged me for a room what should I do? Edit in USA On thanksgiving I attempted to stay at a hotel in my family’s hometown but 30 mins in I noticed bugs coming out of the sink, trash and tub. I went to the front desk and requested a room change and they did so but the second room also had bugs. I go back to the hotel desk where they’re issuing a refund to a customer for giving him a dirty room. After he leaves she gives me a third room and another hotel attendant walks to the room with me to check it out. We get there and there’s bugs in the tub. She offers a refund so I accepts and she calls the hotel GM for approval. GM is upset because she just had to issue a refund and says I should call tomoro to speak to her about it. I debate about why I can’t just have my money if the attendant saw the bugs and they have no response. I decide to just say fuck it and drive home and when I stop for gas about an hour away from home and the pump stomps at 5ish bucks. I check my account and it’s empty. The hotel has charged me for every room change. I call them and they notice their mistake but still maintain that I must call in the morning. I call the next morning and they tell me the GM won’t be there til the next day. I keep calling when they tell me to and every time it’s the same answer. I call corporate and they contact the GM and he says he’s unaware of the issue and will call me back when he resolves it. I’ve gotten that same bs response from the hotel owner for two weeks now and corporate says their hands are tied since only the hotel can process refunds. They can clearly see the charges stemming from that night and the hotel has cameras that corroborate my story but they refuse to refund me. One of the charges has since been rejected by my bank but the other two are still present. It’s not that much ~$160ish but I’m that’s a lot when you’re unemployed. What should I do to resolve this?", "role": "user" }, { "content": "www.elliott.org has a list of contacts at all the major hotel chains. I would email corporate a polite concise description of the issue and ask for assistance", "role": "assistant" } ]

[ { "content": "NYC hotel charged me for an additional full stay after my early checkout. First time posting on here and I don't travel often so I'm not sure if I screwed up bigtime and I have to pay or if I'm being taken advantage of and there's something I can do to fix this. Back in the beginning of summer I was in NYC for some time on behalf of my company. I made my hotel reservation through a third-party site using my corporate card. I received an email with my itinerary and it very clearly stated that I'd be staying for 21 nights, from 5/24-6/13 and even listed out the room rates for each night (to be paid to the hotel directly, not to the third-party site). Halfway through my stay I was told it was time to head home so with a couple days' notice I requested an early checkout and was told it would be no problem. So I checked out on 6/2 and received a receipt showing my departure date as June 2nd, along with the rates I paid each and every night. I then got on a plane and flew home. A couple weeks later while submitting expense reports I saw a charge from June 14 from the hotel, for over $3k. When I contacted the hotel they told me it was for my stay from June 6 through June 14. When I explained I wasn't even in the state I was given the number and email of a manager, but after reaching out to him and leaving messages I didn't get any response so I disputed the charge with the CC company. I sent them my itinerary from the 3rd-party site and the receipt showing my \"departure date\" of June 2nd. They eventually issued a chargeback and I thought that was the end of it. Now yesterday I got an email from the CC company saying that the merchant has provided documents showing the charge is valid and that the chargeback has been reversed. In the \"supporting documents\" the hotel has a receipt showing me checking out on the 2nd and not being charged for the following several nights, but then checking BACK IN on the 6th and staying through the 14th. They even charged me for valet parking on a few days even though when I was in NYC I never even got behind the wheel of a car. After looking at the documentation they sent as \"proof\" it looks like the hotel split my initial reservation into two for some reason, and even though I successfully checked out of the first one early they still charged me for the entirety of the second. I have no idea why they would split up the reservation but it wasn't my doing and it wasn't done with my consent. I've responded to the CC company saying I'd like to keep the dispute open but they're requesting a cancellation confirmation. I thought my receipt with the departure date as June 1st WAS the cancellation confirmation. I didn't even know I had a second reservation until after I'd been charged. Some additional information I've come across during the situation: Right in my itinerary email from the third-party site it says that no-shows will be responsible for one night's fee plus any applicable taxes and such. So even if I did make the two reservations, shouldn't I have only been on the hook for that instead of the entire stay? How was I charged for a full reservation when I wasn't even there to check in? So am I just going to be stuck paying over $3k for a hotel room when I wasn't even in the same state? Or is there something else I can do? Any advice would be appreciated.", "role": "user" }, { "content": "Does the room number appear on either bill? Ask them to show that the key card for that room was active from June 6 through June 14.", "role": "assistant" } ]

[ { "content": "NYC hotel charged me for an additional full stay after my early checkout. First time posting on here and I don't travel often so I'm not sure if I screwed up bigtime and I have to pay or if I'm being taken advantage of and there's something I can do to fix this. Back in the beginning of summer I was in NYC for some time on behalf of my company. I made my hotel reservation through a third-party site using my corporate card. I received an email with my itinerary and it very clearly stated that I'd be staying for 21 nights, from 5/24-6/13 and even listed out the room rates for each night (to be paid to the hotel directly, not to the third-party site). Halfway through my stay I was told it was time to head home so with a couple days' notice I requested an early checkout and was told it would be no problem. So I checked out on 6/2 and received a receipt showing my departure date as June 2nd, along with the rates I paid each and every night. I then got on a plane and flew home. A couple weeks later while submitting expense reports I saw a charge from June 14 from the hotel, for over $3k. When I contacted the hotel they told me it was for my stay from June 6 through June 14. When I explained I wasn't even in the state I was given the number and email of a manager, but after reaching out to him and leaving messages I didn't get any response so I disputed the charge with the CC company. I sent them my itinerary from the 3rd-party site and the receipt showing my \"departure date\" of June 2nd. They eventually issued a chargeback and I thought that was the end of it. Now yesterday I got an email from the CC company saying that the merchant has provided documents showing the charge is valid and that the chargeback has been reversed. In the \"supporting documents\" the hotel has a receipt showing me checking out on the 2nd and not being charged for the following several nights, but then checking BACK IN on the 6th and staying through the 14th. They even charged me for valet parking on a few days even though when I was in NYC I never even got behind the wheel of a car. After looking at the documentation they sent as \"proof\" it looks like the hotel split my initial reservation into two for some reason, and even though I successfully checked out of the first one early they still charged me for the entirety of the second. I have no idea why they would split up the reservation but it wasn't my doing and it wasn't done with my consent. I've responded to the CC company saying I'd like to keep the dispute open but they're requesting a cancellation confirmation. I thought my receipt with the departure date as June 1st WAS the cancellation confirmation. I didn't even know I had a second reservation until after I'd been charged. Some additional information I've come across during the situation: Right in my itinerary email from the third-party site it says that no-shows will be responsible for one night's fee plus any applicable taxes and such. So even if I did make the two reservations, shouldn't I have only been on the hook for that instead of the entire stay? How was I charged for a full reservation when I wasn't even there to check in? So am I just going to be stuck paying over $3k for a hotel room when I wasn't even in the same state? Or is there something else I can do? Any advice would be appreciated.", "role": "user" }, { "content": "Sorry your stay in our fair city has left you with some problems. This is precisely the type of matter that should be handled by your company's general or outside counsel, if you have one. If not, consider making a complaint to the New York City Department of Consumer Affairs using this form. They may respond asking for more information. Good luck!", "role": "assistant" } ]

[ { "content": "NYC hotel charged me for an additional full stay after my early checkout. First time posting on here and I don't travel often so I'm not sure if I screwed up bigtime and I have to pay or if I'm being taken advantage of and there's something I can do to fix this. Back in the beginning of summer I was in NYC for some time on behalf of my company. I made my hotel reservation through a third-party site using my corporate card. I received an email with my itinerary and it very clearly stated that I'd be staying for 21 nights, from 5/24-6/13 and even listed out the room rates for each night (to be paid to the hotel directly, not to the third-party site). Halfway through my stay I was told it was time to head home so with a couple days' notice I requested an early checkout and was told it would be no problem. So I checked out on 6/2 and received a receipt showing my departure date as June 2nd, along with the rates I paid each and every night. I then got on a plane and flew home. A couple weeks later while submitting expense reports I saw a charge from June 14 from the hotel, for over $3k. When I contacted the hotel they told me it was for my stay from June 6 through June 14. When I explained I wasn't even in the state I was given the number and email of a manager, but after reaching out to him and leaving messages I didn't get any response so I disputed the charge with the CC company. I sent them my itinerary from the 3rd-party site and the receipt showing my \"departure date\" of June 2nd. They eventually issued a chargeback and I thought that was the end of it. Now yesterday I got an email from the CC company saying that the merchant has provided documents showing the charge is valid and that the chargeback has been reversed. In the \"supporting documents\" the hotel has a receipt showing me checking out on the 2nd and not being charged for the following several nights, but then checking BACK IN on the 6th and staying through the 14th. They even charged me for valet parking on a few days even though when I was in NYC I never even got behind the wheel of a car. After looking at the documentation they sent as \"proof\" it looks like the hotel split my initial reservation into two for some reason, and even though I successfully checked out of the first one early they still charged me for the entirety of the second. I have no idea why they would split up the reservation but it wasn't my doing and it wasn't done with my consent. I've responded to the CC company saying I'd like to keep the dispute open but they're requesting a cancellation confirmation. I thought my receipt with the departure date as June 1st WAS the cancellation confirmation. I didn't even know I had a second reservation until after I'd been charged. Some additional information I've come across during the situation: Right in my itinerary email from the third-party site it says that no-shows will be responsible for one night's fee plus any applicable taxes and such. So even if I did make the two reservations, shouldn't I have only been on the hook for that instead of the entire stay? How was I charged for a full reservation when I wasn't even there to check in? So am I just going to be stuck paying over $3k for a hotel room when I wasn't even in the same state? Or is there something else I can do? Any advice would be appreciated.", "role": "user" }, { "content": "Third party sites are almost always non refundable and cannot be canceled. When I worked in hotels we could not shorten a 3rd party stay without GM approval and the 3rd party agreeing as well. You should have clarified you that you expected a refund so they could attempt to help you at check out.", "role": "assistant" } ]

[ { "content": "NYC hotel charged me for an additional full stay after my early checkout. First time posting on here and I don't travel often so I'm not sure if I screwed up bigtime and I have to pay or if I'm being taken advantage of and there's something I can do to fix this. Back in the beginning of summer I was in NYC for some time on behalf of my company. I made my hotel reservation through a third-party site using my corporate card. I received an email with my itinerary and it very clearly stated that I'd be staying for 21 nights, from 5/24-6/13 and even listed out the room rates for each night (to be paid to the hotel directly, not to the third-party site). Halfway through my stay I was told it was time to head home so with a couple days' notice I requested an early checkout and was told it would be no problem. So I checked out on 6/2 and received a receipt showing my departure date as June 2nd, along with the rates I paid each and every night. I then got on a plane and flew home. A couple weeks later while submitting expense reports I saw a charge from June 14 from the hotel, for over $3k. When I contacted the hotel they told me it was for my stay from June 6 through June 14. When I explained I wasn't even in the state I was given the number and email of a manager, but after reaching out to him and leaving messages I didn't get any response so I disputed the charge with the CC company. I sent them my itinerary from the 3rd-party site and the receipt showing my \"departure date\" of June 2nd. They eventually issued a chargeback and I thought that was the end of it. Now yesterday I got an email from the CC company saying that the merchant has provided documents showing the charge is valid and that the chargeback has been reversed. In the \"supporting documents\" the hotel has a receipt showing me checking out on the 2nd and not being charged for the following several nights, but then checking BACK IN on the 6th and staying through the 14th. They even charged me for valet parking on a few days even though when I was in NYC I never even got behind the wheel of a car. After looking at the documentation they sent as \"proof\" it looks like the hotel split my initial reservation into two for some reason, and even though I successfully checked out of the first one early they still charged me for the entirety of the second. I have no idea why they would split up the reservation but it wasn't my doing and it wasn't done with my consent. I've responded to the CC company saying I'd like to keep the dispute open but they're requesting a cancellation confirmation. I thought my receipt with the departure date as June 1st WAS the cancellation confirmation. I didn't even know I had a second reservation until after I'd been charged. Some additional information I've come across during the situation: Right in my itinerary email from the third-party site it says that no-shows will be responsible for one night's fee plus any applicable taxes and such. So even if I did make the two reservations, shouldn't I have only been on the hook for that instead of the entire stay? How was I charged for a full reservation when I wasn't even there to check in? So am I just going to be stuck paying over $3k for a hotel room when I wasn't even in the same state? Or is there something else I can do? Any advice would be appreciated.", "role": "user" }, { "content": "Sorry your stay in our fair city has left you with some problems. This is precisely the type of matter that should be handled by your company's general or outside counsel, if you have one. If not, consider making a complaint to the New York City Department of Consumer Affairs using this form. They may respond asking for more information. Good luck!", "role": "assistant" } ]

[ { "content": "My Sister (38) Kicked her Daughter, My Niece(16) out of her house 2 months ago, and now Demanding her to come back tomorrow or police will be involved. My Sister made my Niece move out from her Home about 2 month ago(kicked her out) because niece was looking to get Emancipated(Never got Emancipated), and for causing trouble(Being a Teenager). My Parents, Nieces Grandparents, took her in and she is living with us. While she has been living with us, she has been on her best behavior. She is still going to her school which is 20 minutes away with us dropping her off and picking her up. Doing Homework and working as a piano tutor on and off, and she is still going to Her Church on sundays, we, me and my parents, dont go to her church but we do drop her off and pick her up. She also asks My Parents Permission to go out, which is not often. She hasn't had any problems here other than her mom bugging her to talk and move back home, Which Niece doesn't want to since she was abused by my sister and her stepfather. well now, my sister is demanding she move back to her home or she will call the police calling her a run away. So, my question is who would get in trouble if the police get involved? will it be my Niece, my Sister, or me and my parents? Location is Florida", "role": "user" }, { "content": "~~I think I'm still listed as a run away some fifteen years later, police don't care unless another crime is involved.~~ The abuse would be a different thing, if that were true and the police were notified it is likely social services would get involved. No telling what would happen then, it would be up to their investigation and determination. edit: I stand corrected apparently it's a misdemeanor in Florida", "role": "assistant" } ]

[ { "content": "My Sister (38) Kicked her Daughter, My Niece(16) out of her house 2 months ago, and now Demanding her to come back tomorrow or police will be involved. My Sister made my Niece move out from her Home about 2 month ago(kicked her out) because niece was looking to get Emancipated(Never got Emancipated), and for causing trouble(Being a Teenager). My Parents, Nieces Grandparents, took her in and she is living with us. While she has been living with us, she has been on her best behavior. She is still going to her school which is 20 minutes away with us dropping her off and picking her up. Doing Homework and working as a piano tutor on and off, and she is still going to Her Church on sundays, we, me and my parents, dont go to her church but we do drop her off and pick her up. She also asks My Parents Permission to go out, which is not often. She hasn't had any problems here other than her mom bugging her to talk and move back home, Which Niece doesn't want to since she was abused by my sister and her stepfather. well now, my sister is demanding she move back to her home or she will call the police calling her a run away. So, my question is who would get in trouble if the police get involved? will it be my Niece, my Sister, or me and my parents? Location is Florida", "role": "user" }, { "content": "You can strip out all of the good stuff and leave it as this: >Sister kicked 16yo out, wants her back Don't get in the way. I hosted troubled friends as a teen and if/when the parents wanted their kid back, that's what the law says has to happen. One friend ran away/became homeless to prevent it happening. The choices are simple: * She can run away (bad) * She can go back to mom (bad) * You can contact a lawyer first thing Monday am after stalling your sister and getting time to put a plan together so you can go to court ASAP (good)", "role": "assistant" } ]

[ { "content": "Broke up with my girlfriend of 2.5 years, she took all our money Throwaway here - this is in Canada, Newfoundland To give a bit of backstory, me and my girlfriend were together for 2.5 years and in September of this past year we won $120,000 from a lottery. How it happened was that her family members all were going in on this \"chase the ace\" draw that if won had a pot of around 725,000. Each family member included put in $20 towards it and I was going to put in $20 for us but the previous night we went out for drinks and I covered all of them so she gave her own $20 towards it. We made an agreement that if they won, we would each share our portion of the earnings. This was in September and we were living with my parents for 3 weeks at this point to help save money for when I graduate school to buy a house, and after we won the money we continued living together until I broke up with her in early March. When we won the money, it was $120,000 that was given to her in the form of a cashiers cheque and then we went to a financial advisor and then opened up a joint high interest savings account where $90,000 was deposited into it with both our names on the account, with the $30,000 left over being split between me and her and going into our personal bank accounts. When we broke up, she went to the bank and closed the account and took all the money herself and is refusing to give me anyway and says since it was \"our money for our future together\" (her words) and I broke up with her, she has rights to all the money legally. I consulted a lawyer and he says I have a very good chance to get my half back but I also wanted to hear from more people as well. Posted this on mobile so I'm sorry for any grammar issues.", "role": "user" }, { "content": "You need to sue for half of it, that's about all you can do.", "role": "assistant" } ]

[ { "content": "Broke up with my girlfriend of 2.5 years, she took all our money Throwaway here - this is in Canada, Newfoundland To give a bit of backstory, me and my girlfriend were together for 2.5 years and in September of this past year we won $120,000 from a lottery. How it happened was that her family members all were going in on this \"chase the ace\" draw that if won had a pot of around 725,000. Each family member included put in $20 towards it and I was going to put in $20 for us but the previous night we went out for drinks and I covered all of them so she gave her own $20 towards it. We made an agreement that if they won, we would each share our portion of the earnings. This was in September and we were living with my parents for 3 weeks at this point to help save money for when I graduate school to buy a house, and after we won the money we continued living together until I broke up with her in early March. When we won the money, it was $120,000 that was given to her in the form of a cashiers cheque and then we went to a financial advisor and then opened up a joint high interest savings account where $90,000 was deposited into it with both our names on the account, with the $30,000 left over being split between me and her and going into our personal bank accounts. When we broke up, she went to the bank and closed the account and took all the money herself and is refusing to give me anyway and says since it was \"our money for our future together\" (her words) and I broke up with her, she has rights to all the money legally. I consulted a lawyer and he says I have a very good chance to get my half back but I also wanted to hear from more people as well. Posted this on mobile so I'm sorry for any grammar issues.", "role": "user" }, { "content": "We're not going to overrule your lawyer.", "role": "assistant" } ]

[ { "content": "Broke up with my girlfriend of 2.5 years, she took all our money Throwaway here - this is in Canada, Newfoundland To give a bit of backstory, me and my girlfriend were together for 2.5 years and in September of this past year we won $120,000 from a lottery. How it happened was that her family members all were going in on this \"chase the ace\" draw that if won had a pot of around 725,000. Each family member included put in $20 towards it and I was going to put in $20 for us but the previous night we went out for drinks and I covered all of them so she gave her own $20 towards it. We made an agreement that if they won, we would each share our portion of the earnings. This was in September and we were living with my parents for 3 weeks at this point to help save money for when I graduate school to buy a house, and after we won the money we continued living together until I broke up with her in early March. When we won the money, it was $120,000 that was given to her in the form of a cashiers cheque and then we went to a financial advisor and then opened up a joint high interest savings account where $90,000 was deposited into it with both our names on the account, with the $30,000 left over being split between me and her and going into our personal bank accounts. When we broke up, she went to the bank and closed the account and took all the money herself and is refusing to give me anyway and says since it was \"our money for our future together\" (her words) and I broke up with her, she has rights to all the money legally. I consulted a lawyer and he says I have a very good chance to get my half back but I also wanted to hear from more people as well. Posted this on mobile so I'm sorry for any grammar issues.", "role": "user" }, { "content": "You need to sue for half of it, that's about all you can do.", "role": "assistant" } ]

[ { "content": "Broke up with my girlfriend of 2.5 years, she took all our money Throwaway here - this is in Canada, Newfoundland To give a bit of backstory, me and my girlfriend were together for 2.5 years and in September of this past year we won $120,000 from a lottery. How it happened was that her family members all were going in on this \"chase the ace\" draw that if won had a pot of around 725,000. Each family member included put in $20 towards it and I was going to put in $20 for us but the previous night we went out for drinks and I covered all of them so she gave her own $20 towards it. We made an agreement that if they won, we would each share our portion of the earnings. This was in September and we were living with my parents for 3 weeks at this point to help save money for when I graduate school to buy a house, and after we won the money we continued living together until I broke up with her in early March. When we won the money, it was $120,000 that was given to her in the form of a cashiers cheque and then we went to a financial advisor and then opened up a joint high interest savings account where $90,000 was deposited into it with both our names on the account, with the $30,000 left over being split between me and her and going into our personal bank accounts. When we broke up, she went to the bank and closed the account and took all the money herself and is refusing to give me anyway and says since it was \"our money for our future together\" (her words) and I broke up with her, she has rights to all the money legally. I consulted a lawyer and he says I have a very good chance to get my half back but I also wanted to hear from more people as well. Posted this on mobile so I'm sorry for any grammar issues.", "role": "user" }, { "content": "Like everyone else is going to tell you, listen to your lawyer.", "role": "assistant" } ]

[ { "content": "I let a friend borrow my car now they won't return it. I moved out of state and left a car at my mother house. I let my friend borrow it for what turned out to be a while and they were helping me with the note. Well they were supposed to drop it off now they're saying it's wrecked and that they're not going to drop it off. That they will abandon it somewhere. Like I said I live out of state. I don't know what to do. Could I call the police of the town where my friends at? Will they even do anything?", "role": "user" }, { "content": "For clarification, do they have the title? You said they were helping you with the note. If so, it can become more complicated...", "role": "assistant" } ]

[ { "content": "I let a friend borrow my car now they won't return it. I moved out of state and left a car at my mother house. I let my friend borrow it for what turned out to be a while and they were helping me with the note. Well they were supposed to drop it off now they're saying it's wrecked and that they're not going to drop it off. That they will abandon it somewhere. Like I said I live out of state. I don't know what to do. Could I call the police of the town where my friends at? Will they even do anything?", "role": "user" }, { "content": "What state is the vehicle registered in? Some states have what they call \"Operation Without Consent\" laws. Meaning that you have given your vehicle to a known subject with permission but now you are revoking that permission. It's different than trying to claim they stole it, because they didn't. They're just refusing to return it. Vehicle can still be entered into NCIC so that if your friend is caught driving it on a cops automatic plate reader they'll get the status notification and can pull a stop and recover the car for you. It can also help protect you if your friend does go out and intentionally wreck it. Now which police would have jurisdiction over this is where it gets tricky. Normally you would report to your local police and they would make the entry. Did you update your vehicle registration when you moved? Is your mother's name on the registration?", "role": "assistant" } ]

[ { "content": "I let a friend borrow my car now they won't return it. I moved out of state and left a car at my mother house. I let my friend borrow it for what turned out to be a while and they were helping me with the note. Well they were supposed to drop it off now they're saying it's wrecked and that they're not going to drop it off. That they will abandon it somewhere. Like I said I live out of state. I don't know what to do. Could I call the police of the town where my friends at? Will they even do anything?", "role": "user" }, { "content": "It depends on the state. In Iowa we have “Operating a Motor Vehicle Without the Owner’s Permission” as a criminal charge.", "role": "assistant" } ]

[ { "content": "I let a friend borrow my car now they won't return it. I moved out of state and left a car at my mother house. I let my friend borrow it for what turned out to be a while and they were helping me with the note. Well they were supposed to drop it off now they're saying it's wrecked and that they're not going to drop it off. That they will abandon it somewhere. Like I said I live out of state. I don't know what to do. Could I call the police of the town where my friends at? Will they even do anything?", "role": "user" }, { "content": "What state is the vehicle registered in? Some states have what they call \"Operation Without Consent\" laws. Meaning that you have given your vehicle to a known subject with permission but now you are revoking that permission. It's different than trying to claim they stole it, because they didn't. They're just refusing to return it. Vehicle can still be entered into NCIC so that if your friend is caught driving it on a cops automatic plate reader they'll get the status notification and can pull a stop and recover the car for you. It can also help protect you if your friend does go out and intentionally wreck it. Now which police would have jurisdiction over this is where it gets tricky. Normally you would report to your local police and they would make the entry. Did you update your vehicle registration when you moved? Is your mother's name on the registration?", "role": "assistant" } ]

[ { "content": "I let a friend borrow my car now they won't return it. I moved out of state and left a car at my mother house. I let my friend borrow it for what turned out to be a while and they were helping me with the note. Well they were supposed to drop it off now they're saying it's wrecked and that they're not going to drop it off. That they will abandon it somewhere. Like I said I live out of state. I don't know what to do. Could I call the police of the town where my friends at? Will they even do anything?", "role": "user" }, { "content": "For clarification, do they have the title? You said they were helping you with the note. If so, it can become more complicated...", "role": "assistant" } ]

[ { "content": "I let a friend borrow my car now they won't return it. I moved out of state and left a car at my mother house. I let my friend borrow it for what turned out to be a while and they were helping me with the note. Well they were supposed to drop it off now they're saying it's wrecked and that they're not going to drop it off. That they will abandon it somewhere. Like I said I live out of state. I don't know what to do. Could I call the police of the town where my friends at? Will they even do anything?", "role": "user" }, { "content": "You really should fly back and collect your vehicle in whatever form it’s in and assess the damages and proceed from there. Since you have no friends or family to assist, you physically need to be present.", "role": "assistant" } ]

[ { "content": "Landlord is threatening to evict if I don’t take my guns out of the apartment. What are my options? Hey, new to reddit but came here at a friends suggestion so forgive me if this is the wrong place. I currently live in an apartment in San Diego, CA. I have lived here for about 4 months with no problems. All of a sudden I get an email from my landlord telling me that a neighbor complained about me owning guns. I asked how she could even know and he said he couldn’t say. Now, I do have several guns, but I rarely take them out of the house. When I do they are in a hard, locked carrying case. I assume the neighbor saw me walking in or out with my rifle or shotgun case and it is pretty obvious (considering the CRPA and NRA logos on them) that there are guns in the bag. I told my landlord that my guns are in a secure safe and that they are all legal and registered. He is telling me now that I have 30 days to remove the guns from my apartment or be evicted. I checked my lease and there is nothing in there about having guns or not. What are my options here? What can I say to my landlord? This whole situation is infuriating and I want to handle it the right way. Thank you all for your help!", "role": "user" }, { "content": "Please review the Landlord Tenant Questions section of the /r/LegalAdvice Wiki for common questions and answers regarding landlord tenant issues. If this does not apply to your question, please disregard. *I am a bot, and this action was performed automatically. Please [contact the moderators of this subreddit](/message/compose/?to=/r/legaladvice) if you have any questions or concerns.*", "role": "assistant" } ]

[ { "content": "Landlord is threatening to evict if I don’t take my guns out of the apartment. What are my options? Hey, new to reddit but came here at a friends suggestion so forgive me if this is the wrong place. I currently live in an apartment in San Diego, CA. I have lived here for about 4 months with no problems. All of a sudden I get an email from my landlord telling me that a neighbor complained about me owning guns. I asked how she could even know and he said he couldn’t say. Now, I do have several guns, but I rarely take them out of the house. When I do they are in a hard, locked carrying case. I assume the neighbor saw me walking in or out with my rifle or shotgun case and it is pretty obvious (considering the CRPA and NRA logos on them) that there are guns in the bag. I told my landlord that my guns are in a secure safe and that they are all legal and registered. He is telling me now that I have 30 days to remove the guns from my apartment or be evicted. I checked my lease and there is nothing in there about having guns or not. What are my options here? What can I say to my landlord? This whole situation is infuriating and I want to handle it the right way. Thank you all for your help!", "role": "user" }, { "content": "Are you on a lease or month to month. Also being a gun owner isn't a protected class.", "role": "assistant" } ]

[ { "content": "Landlord is threatening to evict if I don’t take my guns out of the apartment. What are my options? Hey, new to reddit but came here at a friends suggestion so forgive me if this is the wrong place. I currently live in an apartment in San Diego, CA. I have lived here for about 4 months with no problems. All of a sudden I get an email from my landlord telling me that a neighbor complained about me owning guns. I asked how she could even know and he said he couldn’t say. Now, I do have several guns, but I rarely take them out of the house. When I do they are in a hard, locked carrying case. I assume the neighbor saw me walking in or out with my rifle or shotgun case and it is pretty obvious (considering the CRPA and NRA logos on them) that there are guns in the bag. I told my landlord that my guns are in a secure safe and that they are all legal and registered. He is telling me now that I have 30 days to remove the guns from my apartment or be evicted. I checked my lease and there is nothing in there about having guns or not. What are my options here? What can I say to my landlord? This whole situation is infuriating and I want to handle it the right way. Thank you all for your help!", "role": "user" }, { "content": "Please review the Landlord Tenant Questions section of the /r/LegalAdvice Wiki for common questions and answers regarding landlord tenant issues. If this does not apply to your question, please disregard. *I am a bot, and this action was performed automatically. Please [contact the moderators of this subreddit](/message/compose/?to=/r/legaladvice) if you have any questions or concerns.*", "role": "assistant" } ]

[ { "content": "Landlord is threatening to evict if I don’t take my guns out of the apartment. What are my options? Hey, new to reddit but came here at a friends suggestion so forgive me if this is the wrong place. I currently live in an apartment in San Diego, CA. I have lived here for about 4 months with no problems. All of a sudden I get an email from my landlord telling me that a neighbor complained about me owning guns. I asked how she could even know and he said he couldn’t say. Now, I do have several guns, but I rarely take them out of the house. When I do they are in a hard, locked carrying case. I assume the neighbor saw me walking in or out with my rifle or shotgun case and it is pretty obvious (considering the CRPA and NRA logos on them) that there are guns in the bag. I told my landlord that my guns are in a secure safe and that they are all legal and registered. He is telling me now that I have 30 days to remove the guns from my apartment or be evicted. I checked my lease and there is nothing in there about having guns or not. What are my options here? What can I say to my landlord? This whole situation is infuriating and I want to handle it the right way. Thank you all for your help!", "role": "user" }, { "content": "Others have covered how to check your lease to determine if your landlord can evict you for this. If you really like the apartment and would prefer to renew the lease in 8 months (or stay there now if the lease does give the landlord the right to restrict your guns in some way), you may want to call local ranges and see if they have storage lockers. Or see what the smallest locker is that you can get at a regular storage facility. I'd also suggest getting cases that aren't prominently labeled with NRA or anything else that implies \"gun inside\". There's nothing illegal about them, but all they do is get people like your neighbor riled up, and make you a target for thieves. Gun collections are a high value target that professional thieves are willing to take time to stake out. They'll bring extra help and carry the entire safe out so they can take their time breaking into it elsewhere. Since you rent, I assume you don't have the option to secure the safe well enough to prevent this, since that would damage the property.", "role": "assistant" } ]

[ { "content": "Airbnb host kicked off platform is threatening to sue me! Last month I reported an Airbnb host for sending me threatening messages and he has since been removed from the platform. Since then he has sent me a few disgruntled messages, the most recent of which threatened legal action for the loss of income related to being kicked off of both Airbnb and VRBO. Just a few moments ago, I received an email from a lawyer representing the ex-Airbnb host. It is largely a summary of events where the lawyer explains the situation, apologizes on behalf of his client for the inappropriate behavior (that he says were sent by his ex-wife, who was listed as a co-host), and makes a request that I contact Airbnb to get him reinstated to the platform, following which he will relinquish any claim he may have against me and resolve all outstanding issues between us. The message ends with \"this offer will remain open for 21 days, after which time it will no longer be open for acceptance.\" It's pretty obvious to me at this point that I should contact a lawyer, but does he really have any ground to stand on here? I know I'm not being officially sued quite yet, but the threat is still there. I documented all of our interactions, including my correspondence with Airbnb that lead to him being removed from the platform, so I have everything in order if needed. I'm not entirely surprised he's gone this far, but I think I would be very surprised if this somehow went to court **and** I lost. Any thoughts? I've never been sued before, so advice and feedback is very welcome!", "role": "user" }, { "content": "Are you sure that's communication from a real lawyer? Is everything you told AirBnB fully truthful?", "role": "assistant" } ]

[ { "content": "Airbnb host kicked off platform is threatening to sue me! Last month I reported an Airbnb host for sending me threatening messages and he has since been removed from the platform. Since then he has sent me a few disgruntled messages, the most recent of which threatened legal action for the loss of income related to being kicked off of both Airbnb and VRBO. Just a few moments ago, I received an email from a lawyer representing the ex-Airbnb host. It is largely a summary of events where the lawyer explains the situation, apologizes on behalf of his client for the inappropriate behavior (that he says were sent by his ex-wife, who was listed as a co-host), and makes a request that I contact Airbnb to get him reinstated to the platform, following which he will relinquish any claim he may have against me and resolve all outstanding issues between us. The message ends with \"this offer will remain open for 21 days, after which time it will no longer be open for acceptance.\" It's pretty obvious to me at this point that I should contact a lawyer, but does he really have any ground to stand on here? I know I'm not being officially sued quite yet, but the threat is still there. I documented all of our interactions, including my correspondence with Airbnb that lead to him being removed from the platform, so I have everything in order if needed. I'm not entirely surprised he's gone this far, but I think I would be very surprised if this somehow went to court **and** I lost. Any thoughts? I've never been sued before, so advice and feedback is very welcome!", "role": "user" }, { "content": "Ignore till served. I know it's hard to believe, but as a pastor, I've been threatened like this. People ask for money, don't get it, and threaten. I report people for beating their spouse, they threaten and send lots of paperwork. They get all sorts of people involved, but never lawyers. And they never actually serve. I've had to learn that when this happens, report it to my insurance and then we both ignore till served.", "role": "assistant" } ]

[ { "content": "Airbnb host kicked off platform is threatening to sue me! Last month I reported an Airbnb host for sending me threatening messages and he has since been removed from the platform. Since then he has sent me a few disgruntled messages, the most recent of which threatened legal action for the loss of income related to being kicked off of both Airbnb and VRBO. Just a few moments ago, I received an email from a lawyer representing the ex-Airbnb host. It is largely a summary of events where the lawyer explains the situation, apologizes on behalf of his client for the inappropriate behavior (that he says were sent by his ex-wife, who was listed as a co-host), and makes a request that I contact Airbnb to get him reinstated to the platform, following which he will relinquish any claim he may have against me and resolve all outstanding issues between us. The message ends with \"this offer will remain open for 21 days, after which time it will no longer be open for acceptance.\" It's pretty obvious to me at this point that I should contact a lawyer, but does he really have any ground to stand on here? I know I'm not being officially sued quite yet, but the threat is still there. I documented all of our interactions, including my correspondence with Airbnb that lead to him being removed from the platform, so I have everything in order if needed. I'm not entirely surprised he's gone this far, but I think I would be very surprised if this somehow went to court **and** I lost. Any thoughts? I've never been sued before, so advice and feedback is very welcome!", "role": "user" }, { "content": "The truth is an absolute defense in civil cases pertaining to libel and slander, and that is where this sounds like it going, so as long as you were 100% honest in your communications, you would have a very, VERY good chance at coming out on top of this were to go to court. I wouldn’t be wasting time and money on a lawyer unless you are actually served.", "role": "assistant" } ]

[ { "content": "Airbnb host kicked off platform is threatening to sue me! Last month I reported an Airbnb host for sending me threatening messages and he has since been removed from the platform. Since then he has sent me a few disgruntled messages, the most recent of which threatened legal action for the loss of income related to being kicked off of both Airbnb and VRBO. Just a few moments ago, I received an email from a lawyer representing the ex-Airbnb host. It is largely a summary of events where the lawyer explains the situation, apologizes on behalf of his client for the inappropriate behavior (that he says were sent by his ex-wife, who was listed as a co-host), and makes a request that I contact Airbnb to get him reinstated to the platform, following which he will relinquish any claim he may have against me and resolve all outstanding issues between us. The message ends with \"this offer will remain open for 21 days, after which time it will no longer be open for acceptance.\" It's pretty obvious to me at this point that I should contact a lawyer, but does he really have any ground to stand on here? I know I'm not being officially sued quite yet, but the threat is still there. I documented all of our interactions, including my correspondence with Airbnb that lead to him being removed from the platform, so I have everything in order if needed. I'm not entirely surprised he's gone this far, but I think I would be very surprised if this somehow went to court **and** I lost. Any thoughts? I've never been sued before, so advice and feedback is very welcome!", "role": "user" }, { "content": "Ignore till served. I know it's hard to believe, but as a pastor, I've been threatened like this. People ask for money, don't get it, and threaten. I report people for beating their spouse, they threaten and send lots of paperwork. They get all sorts of people involved, but never lawyers. And they never actually serve. I've had to learn that when this happens, report it to my insurance and then we both ignore till served.", "role": "assistant" } ]

[ { "content": "Airbnb host kicked off platform is threatening to sue me! Last month I reported an Airbnb host for sending me threatening messages and he has since been removed from the platform. Since then he has sent me a few disgruntled messages, the most recent of which threatened legal action for the loss of income related to being kicked off of both Airbnb and VRBO. Just a few moments ago, I received an email from a lawyer representing the ex-Airbnb host. It is largely a summary of events where the lawyer explains the situation, apologizes on behalf of his client for the inappropriate behavior (that he says were sent by his ex-wife, who was listed as a co-host), and makes a request that I contact Airbnb to get him reinstated to the platform, following which he will relinquish any claim he may have against me and resolve all outstanding issues between us. The message ends with \"this offer will remain open for 21 days, after which time it will no longer be open for acceptance.\" It's pretty obvious to me at this point that I should contact a lawyer, but does he really have any ground to stand on here? I know I'm not being officially sued quite yet, but the threat is still there. I documented all of our interactions, including my correspondence with Airbnb that lead to him being removed from the platform, so I have everything in order if needed. I'm not entirely surprised he's gone this far, but I think I would be very surprised if this somehow went to court **and** I lost. Any thoughts? I've never been sued before, so advice and feedback is very welcome!", "role": "user" }, { "content": "The truth is an absolute defense in civil cases pertaining to libel and slander, and that is where this sounds like it going, so as long as you were 100% honest in your communications, you would have a very, VERY good chance at coming out on top of this were to go to court. I wouldn’t be wasting time and money on a lawyer unless you are actually served.", "role": "assistant" } ]

[ { "content": "Airbnb host kicked off platform is threatening to sue me! Last month I reported an Airbnb host for sending me threatening messages and he has since been removed from the platform. Since then he has sent me a few disgruntled messages, the most recent of which threatened legal action for the loss of income related to being kicked off of both Airbnb and VRBO. Just a few moments ago, I received an email from a lawyer representing the ex-Airbnb host. It is largely a summary of events where the lawyer explains the situation, apologizes on behalf of his client for the inappropriate behavior (that he says were sent by his ex-wife, who was listed as a co-host), and makes a request that I contact Airbnb to get him reinstated to the platform, following which he will relinquish any claim he may have against me and resolve all outstanding issues between us. The message ends with \"this offer will remain open for 21 days, after which time it will no longer be open for acceptance.\" It's pretty obvious to me at this point that I should contact a lawyer, but does he really have any ground to stand on here? I know I'm not being officially sued quite yet, but the threat is still there. I documented all of our interactions, including my correspondence with Airbnb that lead to him being removed from the platform, so I have everything in order if needed. I'm not entirely surprised he's gone this far, but I think I would be very surprised if this somehow went to court **and** I lost. Any thoughts? I've never been sued before, so advice and feedback is very welcome!", "role": "user" }, { "content": "You got an email from a lawyer on a Sunday? I wonder if it’s a friend of the plaintiff. They usually charge extra for that. I would briefly call the law office and ask to verify if the lawyer and law firm are representing the client in question.", "role": "assistant" } ]

[ { "content": "Airbnb host kicked off platform is threatening to sue me! Last month I reported an Airbnb host for sending me threatening messages and he has since been removed from the platform. Since then he has sent me a few disgruntled messages, the most recent of which threatened legal action for the loss of income related to being kicked off of both Airbnb and VRBO. Just a few moments ago, I received an email from a lawyer representing the ex-Airbnb host. It is largely a summary of events where the lawyer explains the situation, apologizes on behalf of his client for the inappropriate behavior (that he says were sent by his ex-wife, who was listed as a co-host), and makes a request that I contact Airbnb to get him reinstated to the platform, following which he will relinquish any claim he may have against me and resolve all outstanding issues between us. The message ends with \"this offer will remain open for 21 days, after which time it will no longer be open for acceptance.\" It's pretty obvious to me at this point that I should contact a lawyer, but does he really have any ground to stand on here? I know I'm not being officially sued quite yet, but the threat is still there. I documented all of our interactions, including my correspondence with Airbnb that lead to him being removed from the platform, so I have everything in order if needed. I'm not entirely surprised he's gone this far, but I think I would be very surprised if this somehow went to court **and** I lost. Any thoughts? I've never been sued before, so advice and feedback is very welcome!", "role": "user" }, { "content": "I’d stay silent until served. At that point reevaluate the lawsuit’s merits with a lawyer. You can always plausibly deny you ever got an email from the lawyer.", "role": "assistant" } ]

[ { "content": "Airbnb host kicked off platform is threatening to sue me! Last month I reported an Airbnb host for sending me threatening messages and he has since been removed from the platform. Since then he has sent me a few disgruntled messages, the most recent of which threatened legal action for the loss of income related to being kicked off of both Airbnb and VRBO. Just a few moments ago, I received an email from a lawyer representing the ex-Airbnb host. It is largely a summary of events where the lawyer explains the situation, apologizes on behalf of his client for the inappropriate behavior (that he says were sent by his ex-wife, who was listed as a co-host), and makes a request that I contact Airbnb to get him reinstated to the platform, following which he will relinquish any claim he may have against me and resolve all outstanding issues between us. The message ends with \"this offer will remain open for 21 days, after which time it will no longer be open for acceptance.\" It's pretty obvious to me at this point that I should contact a lawyer, but does he really have any ground to stand on here? I know I'm not being officially sued quite yet, but the threat is still there. I documented all of our interactions, including my correspondence with Airbnb that lead to him being removed from the platform, so I have everything in order if needed. I'm not entirely surprised he's gone this far, but I think I would be very surprised if this somehow went to court **and** I lost. Any thoughts? I've never been sued before, so advice and feedback is very welcome!", "role": "user" }, { "content": "Don't respond or say anything unless you're officially served. The \"Anything you say can and will\" cliche from TV cop shows is true. NOTHING you say in a response to a threat letter can help you, it can only hurt you.", "role": "assistant" } ]

[ { "content": "Airbnb host kicked off platform is threatening to sue me! Last month I reported an Airbnb host for sending me threatening messages and he has since been removed from the platform. Since then he has sent me a few disgruntled messages, the most recent of which threatened legal action for the loss of income related to being kicked off of both Airbnb and VRBO. Just a few moments ago, I received an email from a lawyer representing the ex-Airbnb host. It is largely a summary of events where the lawyer explains the situation, apologizes on behalf of his client for the inappropriate behavior (that he says were sent by his ex-wife, who was listed as a co-host), and makes a request that I contact Airbnb to get him reinstated to the platform, following which he will relinquish any claim he may have against me and resolve all outstanding issues between us. The message ends with \"this offer will remain open for 21 days, after which time it will no longer be open for acceptance.\" It's pretty obvious to me at this point that I should contact a lawyer, but does he really have any ground to stand on here? I know I'm not being officially sued quite yet, but the threat is still there. I documented all of our interactions, including my correspondence with Airbnb that lead to him being removed from the platform, so I have everything in order if needed. I'm not entirely surprised he's gone this far, but I think I would be very surprised if this somehow went to court **and** I lost. Any thoughts? I've never been sued before, so advice and feedback is very welcome!", "role": "user" }, { "content": "If he has proof it was his wife and not him who sent the emails, he needs to present that to the platform himself and ask for reconsideration. Sounds like the only information you have that it was the wife is his email, and not any first-hand knoweldge? This is a desperate attempt to get you to help, but you should ignore the letter. I agree with others that you don't need to hire an attorney or respond unless you're served.", "role": "assistant" } ]

[ { "content": "Airbnb host kicked off platform is threatening to sue me! Last month I reported an Airbnb host for sending me threatening messages and he has since been removed from the platform. Since then he has sent me a few disgruntled messages, the most recent of which threatened legal action for the loss of income related to being kicked off of both Airbnb and VRBO. Just a few moments ago, I received an email from a lawyer representing the ex-Airbnb host. It is largely a summary of events where the lawyer explains the situation, apologizes on behalf of his client for the inappropriate behavior (that he says were sent by his ex-wife, who was listed as a co-host), and makes a request that I contact Airbnb to get him reinstated to the platform, following which he will relinquish any claim he may have against me and resolve all outstanding issues between us. The message ends with \"this offer will remain open for 21 days, after which time it will no longer be open for acceptance.\" It's pretty obvious to me at this point that I should contact a lawyer, but does he really have any ground to stand on here? I know I'm not being officially sued quite yet, but the threat is still there. I documented all of our interactions, including my correspondence with Airbnb that lead to him being removed from the platform, so I have everything in order if needed. I'm not entirely surprised he's gone this far, but I think I would be very surprised if this somehow went to court **and** I lost. Any thoughts? I've never been sued before, so advice and feedback is very welcome!", "role": "user" }, { "content": "If it is not a summons, you have zero obligation to respond. And if your communication with AirBnB regarding this host was entirely truthful, he will have a very tough time prevailing in any sort of legal action. Remember this ratio... people that threaten to sue vs those that actually sue is 100:1", "role": "assistant" } ]

[ { "content": "[CO, USA] My roommate has adopted a dog, violating our lease. The landlord is threatening to evict everyone. My roommate has recently adopted a dog as an \"emotional support animal\" (ESA). The problem is, he adopted it, found out he couldn't keep it, and then had it made into an ESA. The landlord, having a paper trail of this, spoke to an attorney who said this will not hold up and that the animal remains a violation of our lease. My two questions are these: 1) The landlord has stated she is required to evict everyone if she evicts one of us. Is this true? 2) What actions do I have against my roommate to force him out or to get rid of the dog prior to all of us being evicted?", "role": "user" }, { "content": "Isn't the point of a joint and several clause in a lease to give the owner the option to evict as a group OR individually? I get that people should be careful about who they co-sign ANYTHING with, but things happen. When I had a rental house for a short period I had the threaten eviction against one of 3 tenants who was basically abusing the property. The other 2 were dream tenants... I never took it to court, as the bad one left of his own accord, but if I had evicted him, why should I be forced to evict the other 2? If I served a notice to quit, and 2 of the 3 left, why on earth would a court force me to ruin their rental history with an eviction just to get rid of the one who didn't leave? I get that monies owed as rent is a joint obligation, and the tenants would have a case against the non-paying roommate, but what about situations like this where one party decides unilaterally to breach the lease against the wishes of the other parties? AFAIK from reading here the lessees can't evict a roommate, it has to be from the lessor, right?", "role": "assistant" } ]

[ { "content": "[CO, USA] My roommate has adopted a dog, violating our lease. The landlord is threatening to evict everyone. My roommate has recently adopted a dog as an \"emotional support animal\" (ESA). The problem is, he adopted it, found out he couldn't keep it, and then had it made into an ESA. The landlord, having a paper trail of this, spoke to an attorney who said this will not hold up and that the animal remains a violation of our lease. My two questions are these: 1) The landlord has stated she is required to evict everyone if she evicts one of us. Is this true? 2) What actions do I have against my roommate to force him out or to get rid of the dog prior to all of us being evicted?", "role": "user" }, { "content": "You could negotiate with the landlord to evict the roommate and redo the lease with the remaining people", "role": "assistant" } ]

[ { "content": "My partner and I just got married and my aunt-in-law is suing us and the family because she was not invited to our wedding There was an initial lawsuit PRIOR to the wedding that claimed that my mother in law was not allowed to threaten to not attend if her sister were to be invited (I am actually shocked that this was a real document written up by a real lawyer. I guess people will do anything if they are paid adequately). And, turns out, the aunt was not invited to the wedding. This was entirely our choice because WHY in the WORLD would we invite her. However, I guess we were legally obligated to, because now we have violated this legal order and now likely have to appear in court. I didn't realize that you could sue to be invited to a party? There are such substantial, long term disputes within my partner's family that when their aunt was not invited to our wedding she decided to literally sue us. This is real. This is extremely big \"I am rich and bored\" behavior. This is some of the most flagrantly, ruthlessly, inappropriately un-family-like adult behavior I've seen in my life. So my question is....what can we do? Can we somehow contact a lawyer and get this shit handled/dropped/something without having to pay a lot of money? She is literally trying to punish us financially. It's like a joke. I don't get it.", "role": "user" }, { "content": "Is it small claims court and you got a summons to appear for mediation or something? They sometimes schedule a mediation upon complaint filing. That's the only sense I can make out of this. It does not sound like they have a valid cause of action. You may be able to get monetary sanctions against them for filing a frivolous lawsuit. A motion to dismiss would be granted in a heartbeat.", "role": "assistant" } ]

[ { "content": "My partner and I just got married and my aunt-in-law is suing us and the family because she was not invited to our wedding There was an initial lawsuit PRIOR to the wedding that claimed that my mother in law was not allowed to threaten to not attend if her sister were to be invited (I am actually shocked that this was a real document written up by a real lawyer. I guess people will do anything if they are paid adequately). And, turns out, the aunt was not invited to the wedding. This was entirely our choice because WHY in the WORLD would we invite her. However, I guess we were legally obligated to, because now we have violated this legal order and now likely have to appear in court. I didn't realize that you could sue to be invited to a party? There are such substantial, long term disputes within my partner's family that when their aunt was not invited to our wedding she decided to literally sue us. This is real. This is extremely big \"I am rich and bored\" behavior. This is some of the most flagrantly, ruthlessly, inappropriately un-family-like adult behavior I've seen in my life. So my question is....what can we do? Can we somehow contact a lawyer and get this shit handled/dropped/something without having to pay a lot of money? She is literally trying to punish us financially. It's like a joke. I don't get it.", "role": "user" }, { "content": "That’s not how this works OP. Someone (maybe a lawyer) typed up a letter. That’s probably all that happened. Unless you went to court and a judge (only a judge) made a ruling/judgement you do not need to do anything. Anyone can TRY to sue you for any reasons anytime, but if they actually file a lawsuit in court is a totally different thing. Them winning a lawsuit is also totallly different thing.", "role": "assistant" } ]

[ { "content": "My partner and I just got married and my aunt-in-law is suing us and the family because she was not invited to our wedding There was an initial lawsuit PRIOR to the wedding that claimed that my mother in law was not allowed to threaten to not attend if her sister were to be invited (I am actually shocked that this was a real document written up by a real lawyer. I guess people will do anything if they are paid adequately). And, turns out, the aunt was not invited to the wedding. This was entirely our choice because WHY in the WORLD would we invite her. However, I guess we were legally obligated to, because now we have violated this legal order and now likely have to appear in court. I didn't realize that you could sue to be invited to a party? There are such substantial, long term disputes within my partner's family that when their aunt was not invited to our wedding she decided to literally sue us. This is real. This is extremely big \"I am rich and bored\" behavior. This is some of the most flagrantly, ruthlessly, inappropriately un-family-like adult behavior I've seen in my life. So my question is....what can we do? Can we somehow contact a lawyer and get this shit handled/dropped/something without having to pay a lot of money? She is literally trying to punish us financially. It's like a joke. I don't get it.", "role": "user" }, { "content": "Is it small claims court and you got a summons to appear for mediation or something? They sometimes schedule a mediation upon complaint filing. That's the only sense I can make out of this. It does not sound like they have a valid cause of action. You may be able to get monetary sanctions against them for filing a frivolous lawsuit. A motion to dismiss would be granted in a heartbeat.", "role": "assistant" } ]

[ { "content": "My partner and I just got married and my aunt-in-law is suing us and the family because she was not invited to our wedding There was an initial lawsuit PRIOR to the wedding that claimed that my mother in law was not allowed to threaten to not attend if her sister were to be invited (I am actually shocked that this was a real document written up by a real lawyer. I guess people will do anything if they are paid adequately). And, turns out, the aunt was not invited to the wedding. This was entirely our choice because WHY in the WORLD would we invite her. However, I guess we were legally obligated to, because now we have violated this legal order and now likely have to appear in court. I didn't realize that you could sue to be invited to a party? There are such substantial, long term disputes within my partner's family that when their aunt was not invited to our wedding she decided to literally sue us. This is real. This is extremely big \"I am rich and bored\" behavior. This is some of the most flagrantly, ruthlessly, inappropriately un-family-like adult behavior I've seen in my life. So my question is....what can we do? Can we somehow contact a lawyer and get this shit handled/dropped/something without having to pay a lot of money? She is literally trying to punish us financially. It's like a joke. I don't get it.", "role": "user" }, { "content": ">I am actually shocked that this was a real document written up by a real lawyer. So a lawyer wrote you a letter saying you had to invite said aunt? That doesn't mean anything. They could write you and tell you you had to walk 5.000 miles but that doesn't mean you have to actually do that... The whole story is a bit confusing but I'm guessing there was no lawsuit and no court order to invite this person so you didn't have to and any letters from this lawyer (if they're real) should be ignored. You only need to respond/act if any actual court documents show up, but I doubt they will. If you want you can look up the information for the lawyer online and contact them to see if they actually send these letters. Use the contact information you find online, not on the letter. There's a chance they sent a letter with a fake letterhead. > This is real. This is extremely big \"I am rich and bored\" behavior. Even rich people can't use the courts to force an invite to a wedding... I would be interested to see a law that would force anyone to invite an unwanted guest to a private event.", "role": "assistant" } ]

[ { "content": "My partner and I just got married and my aunt-in-law is suing us and the family because she was not invited to our wedding There was an initial lawsuit PRIOR to the wedding that claimed that my mother in law was not allowed to threaten to not attend if her sister were to be invited (I am actually shocked that this was a real document written up by a real lawyer. I guess people will do anything if they are paid adequately). And, turns out, the aunt was not invited to the wedding. This was entirely our choice because WHY in the WORLD would we invite her. However, I guess we were legally obligated to, because now we have violated this legal order and now likely have to appear in court. I didn't realize that you could sue to be invited to a party? There are such substantial, long term disputes within my partner's family that when their aunt was not invited to our wedding she decided to literally sue us. This is real. This is extremely big \"I am rich and bored\" behavior. This is some of the most flagrantly, ruthlessly, inappropriately un-family-like adult behavior I've seen in my life. So my question is....what can we do? Can we somehow contact a lawyer and get this shit handled/dropped/something without having to pay a lot of money? She is literally trying to punish us financially. It's like a joke. I don't get it.", "role": "user" }, { "content": "Is it small claims court and you got a summons to appear for mediation or something? They sometimes schedule a mediation upon complaint filing. That's the only sense I can make out of this. It does not sound like they have a valid cause of action. You may be able to get monetary sanctions against them for filing a frivolous lawsuit. A motion to dismiss would be granted in a heartbeat.", "role": "assistant" } ]

[ { "content": "My partner and I just got married and my aunt-in-law is suing us and the family because she was not invited to our wedding There was an initial lawsuit PRIOR to the wedding that claimed that my mother in law was not allowed to threaten to not attend if her sister were to be invited (I am actually shocked that this was a real document written up by a real lawyer. I guess people will do anything if they are paid adequately). And, turns out, the aunt was not invited to the wedding. This was entirely our choice because WHY in the WORLD would we invite her. However, I guess we were legally obligated to, because now we have violated this legal order and now likely have to appear in court. I didn't realize that you could sue to be invited to a party? There are such substantial, long term disputes within my partner's family that when their aunt was not invited to our wedding she decided to literally sue us. This is real. This is extremely big \"I am rich and bored\" behavior. This is some of the most flagrantly, ruthlessly, inappropriately un-family-like adult behavior I've seen in my life. So my question is....what can we do? Can we somehow contact a lawyer and get this shit handled/dropped/something without having to pay a lot of money? She is literally trying to punish us financially. It's like a joke. I don't get it.", "role": "user" }, { "content": ">There was an initial lawsuit PRIOR to the wedding that claimed that my mother in law was not allowed to threaten to not attend if her sister were to be invited Was this an actual lawsuit or just a demand letter written by a lawyer? It sounds like it was just a demand letter. But let's assume the ridiculous that this lawsuit was filed and won by your aunt-in-law. Call it tortious interference of some absurd form I don't know, won for failure to appear. Even if that were (absurdly) the case that could only bind your mother in law, preventing her from interfering with your choice of who to invite. It would in no way obligate you to invite her. If it was only ever a demand letter by a layer to begin with not even your mother in law is legally bound by it. Much less you. Your aunt-in-law has no case. Just show up for court if it comes to that, however unlikely, and laugh at her.", "role": "assistant" } ]

[ { "content": "I charged with a felony when I was the victim Back in 2020 I was arrested and charged with domestic abuse assault impeding normal breathing and 3rd degree harassment. My dad was kicking me out and started a fight with me when I came to pack my things. We were in the front yard when the cops arrived and my stepbrother had joined by this time and was choking me out. When the cops were taking witness statements they only took my dad and stepmoms statement even though my stepbrother was involved and 4 other witnesses. The cops statement stated I was in a choke hold. My dad also stated he had said what caused the fight. But I was charged with the impeding breathing and the harassment charge for what he said. The trial went on for 2 years before being dismissed and had to have a second district attorney look over the case. The second district attorney said that he was dismissing the case because it was clearly all in the police report I didnt do either of the crimes. He also said that he could see with how my dad and stepmom kept changing their stories over the 2 years. I'm glad the charges got dismissed and in a month or so I can fill out paperwork to get the charge expunged off my record. But in that two years the whole case caused me to have severe depression, lose a career I was just starting, I didnt get numerous jobs because the felony charge and was even banned from using doordash because I had applied and was denied because of the felony. I even had to sit down with my first court appointed attorney and read the police report to him because he hadn't even read it 6 months into the case and treated me like I was guilty. The whole trial I was having to prove i was innocent. The second district attorney said it was pretty common for this guy to just put cases through and just skimming over case files. Is this something I can sue the state or the original district attorney for?", "role": "user" }, { "content": "Did you go with a public defender or hire a lawyer?", "role": "assistant" } ]

[ { "content": "I charged with a felony when I was the victim Back in 2020 I was arrested and charged with domestic abuse assault impeding normal breathing and 3rd degree harassment. My dad was kicking me out and started a fight with me when I came to pack my things. We were in the front yard when the cops arrived and my stepbrother had joined by this time and was choking me out. When the cops were taking witness statements they only took my dad and stepmoms statement even though my stepbrother was involved and 4 other witnesses. The cops statement stated I was in a choke hold. My dad also stated he had said what caused the fight. But I was charged with the impeding breathing and the harassment charge for what he said. The trial went on for 2 years before being dismissed and had to have a second district attorney look over the case. The second district attorney said that he was dismissing the case because it was clearly all in the police report I didnt do either of the crimes. He also said that he could see with how my dad and stepmom kept changing their stories over the 2 years. I'm glad the charges got dismissed and in a month or so I can fill out paperwork to get the charge expunged off my record. But in that two years the whole case caused me to have severe depression, lose a career I was just starting, I didnt get numerous jobs because the felony charge and was even banned from using doordash because I had applied and was denied because of the felony. I even had to sit down with my first court appointed attorney and read the police report to him because he hadn't even read it 6 months into the case and treated me like I was guilty. The whole trial I was having to prove i was innocent. The second district attorney said it was pretty common for this guy to just put cases through and just skimming over case files. Is this something I can sue the state or the original district attorney for?", "role": "user" }, { "content": "Contact your local bar / and or go to your local college law school they have legal clinics that tend to help people in your situation.", "role": "assistant" } ]

[ { "content": "Closed on my home and recently found out the house next door is a mental health group home (non-profit). Was the realtor required to disclose this during the sale? Bergen county, NJ The title kinda says it all. We just closed on a beautiful home and found out our neighbor is group home for non-self sufficient disabled men. Was the realtor required to disclose? We were notified our taxes went up this year about $500, based on a $100,000 raise of appraisal, which we thought was appropriate until our neighbor clued us in. My neighbor only told us about it because I complained our neighbors were watching me and my fiancé do yard work for hours. Any advice would be greatly appreciated!", "role": "user" }, { "content": "Unfortunately, no that did not have to be disclosed.", "role": "assistant" } ]

[ { "content": "Closed on my home and recently found out the house next door is a mental health group home (non-profit). Was the realtor required to disclose this during the sale? Bergen county, NJ The title kinda says it all. We just closed on a beautiful home and found out our neighbor is group home for non-self sufficient disabled men. Was the realtor required to disclose? We were notified our taxes went up this year about $500, based on a $100,000 raise of appraisal, which we thought was appropriate until our neighbor clued us in. My neighbor only told us about it because I complained our neighbors were watching me and my fiancé do yard work for hours. Any advice would be greatly appreciated!", "role": "user" }, { "content": "If it’s makes you feel better, you will enjoy less property crime. I used to live next to something similar and because there were night staff on and some residents were a little curious, we enjoyed a complete crime free stay!", "role": "assistant" } ]

[ { "content": "My mother-in-law says we can't keep her from her grandchild because she has grandparent rights. LA We are currently living with my wife's parents. We haven't told her we were going no contact as soon as we leave but we are thinking about it due to their toxicity. We are looking into moving to TX soon. She said we couldn't even move away from them because of their rights. It sounds like BS to me but I wanted to check on it. Google says grandparent rights come into play if a parent or parents are deemed incompetent or dead.", "role": "user" }, { "content": "https://www.courts.ca.gov/17976.htm?rdeLocaleAttr=en I am not a lawyer, but it looks as if Grandparents rights are more geared towards a primary caregiver cutting off an established relationship with the secondary caregivers parents.", "role": "assistant" } ]

[ { "content": "My mother-in-law says we can't keep her from her grandchild because she has grandparent rights. LA We are currently living with my wife's parents. We haven't told her we were going no contact as soon as we leave but we are thinking about it due to their toxicity. We are looking into moving to TX soon. She said we couldn't even move away from them because of their rights. It sounds like BS to me but I wanted to check on it. Google says grandparent rights come into play if a parent or parents are deemed incompetent or dead.", "role": "user" }, { "content": "> She said we couldn't even move away from them because of their rights. That's cute, but wrong. Louisiana does not recognize grandparents' rights anywhere near the extent that your mother-in-law thinks. The relevant statutes are La. R.S. 9.344, Louisiana Civil Code Article 136, and Art. 1264 of the Louisiana Children’s Code. http://legis.la.gov/legis/Law.aspx?d=107570 http://legis.la.gov/Legis/Law.aspx?d=108715 http://legis.la.gov/Legis/Law.aspx?d=72739 The Cliffs Notes version is that so long as you and your spouse are married, alive, and not incarcerated, the grandparents are pretty much out of luck under ordinary circumstances.", "role": "assistant" } ]

[ { "content": "Company keeps sending me snail mail after I called and asked them to stop. Company XYZ was sending a lot of junk mail to my apartment, so I called and asked them to stop. They said they couldn't stop because they were sending it on behalf of someone else's account - the previous resident, and that the previous resident would have to contact them. I obviously have no way of contacting the previous resident. A month later, and I'm still getting the junk mail. Can I sue? &#x200B; \\[Northeast United States\\]", "role": "user" }, { "content": "---\r > http://imgur.com/a/myIAb\r \r ---\r *I am a bot whose sole purpose is to improve the timeliness and accuracy of responses in this subreddit.*\r \r ---\r **It appears you forgot to include your location in the title or body of your post. Please update the body of your original post to include this information.**\r \r ---\r ***Do NOT delete this post - Instead, simply edit the post with the requested information.***\r \r ---\r \r Author: /u/AnyPairIsTheNuts\r \r Title: **Company keeps sending me snail mail after I called and asked them to stop.**\r \r Original Post: \r \r > Company XYZ was sending a lot of junk mail to my apartment, so I called and asked them to stop. They said they couldn't stop because they were sending it on behalf of someone else's account - the previous resident, and that the previous resident would have to contact them. I obviously have no way of contacting the previous resident. A month later, and I'm still getting the junk mail. > > Can I sue?\r \r \r \r \r ---\r LocationBot 4.999988713 83/601rds | Report Issues | >!TdUO5NmMWlXWXJFcjJzZ!<", "role": "assistant" } ]

[ { "content": "Company keeps sending me snail mail after I called and asked them to stop. Company XYZ was sending a lot of junk mail to my apartment, so I called and asked them to stop. They said they couldn't stop because they were sending it on behalf of someone else's account - the previous resident, and that the previous resident would have to contact them. I obviously have no way of contacting the previous resident. A month later, and I'm still getting the junk mail. Can I sue? &#x200B; \\[Northeast United States\\]", "role": "user" }, { "content": ">Can I sue? No. You've no loss to sue for and no cause of action to sue if you did. They're entitled to send you mail.", "role": "assistant" } ]

[ { "content": "Company keeps sending me snail mail after I called and asked them to stop. Company XYZ was sending a lot of junk mail to my apartment, so I called and asked them to stop. They said they couldn't stop because they were sending it on behalf of someone else's account - the previous resident, and that the previous resident would have to contact them. I obviously have no way of contacting the previous resident. A month later, and I'm still getting the junk mail. Can I sue? &#x200B; \\[Northeast United States\\]", "role": "user" }, { "content": "---\r > http://imgur.com/a/myIAb\r \r ---\r *I am a bot whose sole purpose is to improve the timeliness and accuracy of responses in this subreddit.*\r \r ---\r **It appears you forgot to include your location in the title or body of your post. Please update the body of your original post to include this information.**\r \r ---\r ***Do NOT delete this post - Instead, simply edit the post with the requested information.***\r \r ---\r \r Author: /u/AnyPairIsTheNuts\r \r Title: **Company keeps sending me snail mail after I called and asked them to stop.**\r \r Original Post: \r \r > Company XYZ was sending a lot of junk mail to my apartment, so I called and asked them to stop. They said they couldn't stop because they were sending it on behalf of someone else's account - the previous resident, and that the previous resident would have to contact them. I obviously have no way of contacting the previous resident. A month later, and I'm still getting the junk mail. > > Can I sue?\r \r \r \r \r ---\r LocationBot 4.999988713 83/601rds | Report Issues | >!TdUO5NmMWlXWXJFcjJzZ!<", "role": "assistant" } ]

[ { "content": "Company keeps sending me snail mail after I called and asked them to stop. Company XYZ was sending a lot of junk mail to my apartment, so I called and asked them to stop. They said they couldn't stop because they were sending it on behalf of someone else's account - the previous resident, and that the previous resident would have to contact them. I obviously have no way of contacting the previous resident. A month later, and I'm still getting the junk mail. Can I sue? &#x200B; \\[Northeast United States\\]", "role": "user" }, { "content": "You have no legal recourse here. You can take the items you are receiving and put in marker \"NOT AT ADDRESS\" if they are marked for someone else, and put them in your outgoing mail. Once these start coming back to them, eventually, they'll stop sending them.", "role": "assistant" } ]

[ { "content": "Company keeps sending me snail mail after I called and asked them to stop. Company XYZ was sending a lot of junk mail to my apartment, so I called and asked them to stop. They said they couldn't stop because they were sending it on behalf of someone else's account - the previous resident, and that the previous resident would have to contact them. I obviously have no way of contacting the previous resident. A month later, and I'm still getting the junk mail. Can I sue? &#x200B; \\[Northeast United States\\]", "role": "user" }, { "content": "Disrupt the handling barcode, write ADDRESSEE UNKNOWN on the mailpiece, and deposit it wherever you normally put outgoing mail. You can also attach a note to your mailbox door saying \"So-and-So Not At This Address\" That may cause the mailperson to not deliver it to begin with.", "role": "assistant" } ]

[ { "content": "Company keeps sending me snail mail after I called and asked them to stop. Company XYZ was sending a lot of junk mail to my apartment, so I called and asked them to stop. They said they couldn't stop because they were sending it on behalf of someone else's account - the previous resident, and that the previous resident would have to contact them. I obviously have no way of contacting the previous resident. A month later, and I'm still getting the junk mail. Can I sue? &#x200B; \\[Northeast United States\\]", "role": "user" }, { "content": "Is the mailer first class? If so, visit the USPS and ask the clerk to fill out form 3575Z for this individual. Are you receiving other mail for this individual? Non-first class (presorted STD/EDDM/ECRWSS/ECRWSH", "role": "assistant" } ]

[ { "content": "Company keeps sending me snail mail after I called and asked them to stop. Company XYZ was sending a lot of junk mail to my apartment, so I called and asked them to stop. They said they couldn't stop because they were sending it on behalf of someone else's account - the previous resident, and that the previous resident would have to contact them. I obviously have no way of contacting the previous resident. A month later, and I'm still getting the junk mail. Can I sue? &#x200B; \\[Northeast United States\\]", "role": "user" }, { "content": "I don’t think it’s a situation you can sue but if they include a return letter just tear up what they sent you, stuff it in the envelope and Mail it back to them. The postage will already be paid and it costs the company more money that way. I’ve heard many who have done this and haven’t gotten a letter back since", "role": "assistant" } ]

[ { "content": "Company keeps sending me snail mail after I called and asked them to stop. Company XYZ was sending a lot of junk mail to my apartment, so I called and asked them to stop. They said they couldn't stop because they were sending it on behalf of someone else's account - the previous resident, and that the previous resident would have to contact them. I obviously have no way of contacting the previous resident. A month later, and I'm still getting the junk mail. Can I sue? &#x200B; \\[Northeast United States\\]", "role": "user" }, { "content": "Is the mailer first class? If so, visit the USPS and ask the clerk to fill out form 3575Z for this individual. Are you receiving other mail for this individual? Non-first class (presorted STD/EDDM/ECRWSS/ECRWSH", "role": "assistant" } ]

[ { "content": "Company keeps sending me snail mail after I called and asked them to stop. Company XYZ was sending a lot of junk mail to my apartment, so I called and asked them to stop. They said they couldn't stop because they were sending it on behalf of someone else's account - the previous resident, and that the previous resident would have to contact them. I obviously have no way of contacting the previous resident. A month later, and I'm still getting the junk mail. Can I sue? &#x200B; \\[Northeast United States\\]", "role": "user" }, { "content": "---\r > http://imgur.com/a/myIAb\r \r ---\r *I am a bot whose sole purpose is to improve the timeliness and accuracy of responses in this subreddit.*\r \r ---\r **It appears you forgot to include your location in the title or body of your post. Please update the body of your original post to include this information.**\r \r ---\r ***Do NOT delete this post - Instead, simply edit the post with the requested information.***\r \r ---\r \r Author: /u/AnyPairIsTheNuts\r \r Title: **Company keeps sending me snail mail after I called and asked them to stop.**\r \r Original Post: \r \r > Company XYZ was sending a lot of junk mail to my apartment, so I called and asked them to stop. They said they couldn't stop because they were sending it on behalf of someone else's account - the previous resident, and that the previous resident would have to contact them. I obviously have no way of contacting the previous resident. A month later, and I'm still getting the junk mail. > > Can I sue?\r \r \r \r \r ---\r LocationBot 4.999988713 83/601rds | Report Issues | >!TdUO5NmMWlXWXJFcjJzZ!<", "role": "assistant" } ]

[ { "content": "Company keeps sending me snail mail after I called and asked them to stop. Company XYZ was sending a lot of junk mail to my apartment, so I called and asked them to stop. They said they couldn't stop because they were sending it on behalf of someone else's account - the previous resident, and that the previous resident would have to contact them. I obviously have no way of contacting the previous resident. A month later, and I'm still getting the junk mail. Can I sue? &#x200B; \\[Northeast United States\\]", "role": "user" }, { "content": "Is the mailer first class? If so, visit the USPS and ask the clerk to fill out form 3575Z for this individual. Are you receiving other mail for this individual? Non-first class (presorted STD/EDDM/ECRWSS/ECRWSH", "role": "assistant" } ]

[ { "content": "Getting mail for a dead maybe-former resident. University sending the mail insists he's alive, that he lives in my unit, and that they'll keep sending them. [CA, USA] I rent a condo near a university in suburban LA county. I've lived here for several years. Recently, I started getting mail for a man who doesn't live here. The mail is from the university, and they appear to be retirement benefits from the information printed on the envelope. Often times it's just single envelopes with what I assume are checks inside, but other times it's sizable boxes filled with tons of paperwork explaining benefits. One time it was a large package; I obviously didn't open it, so I have no idea what it contained. Each time, I've written \"return to sender, nobody here by that name\" on envelopes or boxes, and my mailman has taken them away. Sometimes the return-to-sendered envelopes come back, with the mailman explaining that the college mailroom told him that *yes,* This Particular Man *does* live here. He doesn't! My landlords don't recognize the name, and they've owned the unit for over a decade. My elderly HOA president hasn't heard of This Particular Man either, and he's lived in the complex for a loooooooong time. I looked into This Particular Man, and found that he's **dead**. I called the university department sending the retirement checks and told them that I'm erroneously receiving mail for a dead former employee who never lived in my unit, but they keep insisting that NO, he's alive, and he lives with me, and that they will keep sending the mail. I can't find any contact info for his family, so I don't have a forwarding address. The university wouldn't let me know if he had any other contact information. When I talked to my mailman, they told me to talk to the university, which obviously got me nowhere. What is my responsibility, as the renter of this unit, for this mail? If one of the packages gets stolen off of my doorstep, am I liable (though who would care)? I feel weird receiving checks for somebody every two weeks; am I obligated by law to do anything more with them than what I'm doing (returning to sender every time)? Is there any way I can get the university to stop erroneously sending this mail so whoever is supposed to be getting these checks does?", "role": "user" }, { "content": "You say you found out he is dead; have you sent that proof to the University? Was it an obituary, info from findagrave.com, and city death records? All of that might be enough to make them rethink him being alive and calculate when they actually talked to him last.", "role": "assistant" } ]

[ { "content": "Getting mail for a dead maybe-former resident. University sending the mail insists he's alive, that he lives in my unit, and that they'll keep sending them. [CA, USA] I rent a condo near a university in suburban LA county. I've lived here for several years. Recently, I started getting mail for a man who doesn't live here. The mail is from the university, and they appear to be retirement benefits from the information printed on the envelope. Often times it's just single envelopes with what I assume are checks inside, but other times it's sizable boxes filled with tons of paperwork explaining benefits. One time it was a large package; I obviously didn't open it, so I have no idea what it contained. Each time, I've written \"return to sender, nobody here by that name\" on envelopes or boxes, and my mailman has taken them away. Sometimes the return-to-sendered envelopes come back, with the mailman explaining that the college mailroom told him that *yes,* This Particular Man *does* live here. He doesn't! My landlords don't recognize the name, and they've owned the unit for over a decade. My elderly HOA president hasn't heard of This Particular Man either, and he's lived in the complex for a loooooooong time. I looked into This Particular Man, and found that he's **dead**. I called the university department sending the retirement checks and told them that I'm erroneously receiving mail for a dead former employee who never lived in my unit, but they keep insisting that NO, he's alive, and he lives with me, and that they will keep sending the mail. I can't find any contact info for his family, so I don't have a forwarding address. The university wouldn't let me know if he had any other contact information. When I talked to my mailman, they told me to talk to the university, which obviously got me nowhere. What is my responsibility, as the renter of this unit, for this mail? If one of the packages gets stolen off of my doorstep, am I liable (though who would care)? I feel weird receiving checks for somebody every two weeks; am I obligated by law to do anything more with them than what I'm doing (returning to sender every time)? Is there any way I can get the university to stop erroneously sending this mail so whoever is supposed to be getting these checks does?", "role": "user" }, { "content": "I work for a similar university office in a different state, where we update records for any alumni, staff, friend of the University etc. We comb records daily to keep up to date on how to contact people and life events, especially for donations. If you can find something like alumni relations you may be able to find someone else who can help.", "role": "assistant" } ]

[ { "content": "Getting mail for a dead maybe-former resident. University sending the mail insists he's alive, that he lives in my unit, and that they'll keep sending them. [CA, USA] I rent a condo near a university in suburban LA county. I've lived here for several years. Recently, I started getting mail for a man who doesn't live here. The mail is from the university, and they appear to be retirement benefits from the information printed on the envelope. Often times it's just single envelopes with what I assume are checks inside, but other times it's sizable boxes filled with tons of paperwork explaining benefits. One time it was a large package; I obviously didn't open it, so I have no idea what it contained. Each time, I've written \"return to sender, nobody here by that name\" on envelopes or boxes, and my mailman has taken them away. Sometimes the return-to-sendered envelopes come back, with the mailman explaining that the college mailroom told him that *yes,* This Particular Man *does* live here. He doesn't! My landlords don't recognize the name, and they've owned the unit for over a decade. My elderly HOA president hasn't heard of This Particular Man either, and he's lived in the complex for a loooooooong time. I looked into This Particular Man, and found that he's **dead**. I called the university department sending the retirement checks and told them that I'm erroneously receiving mail for a dead former employee who never lived in my unit, but they keep insisting that NO, he's alive, and he lives with me, and that they will keep sending the mail. I can't find any contact info for his family, so I don't have a forwarding address. The university wouldn't let me know if he had any other contact information. When I talked to my mailman, they told me to talk to the university, which obviously got me nowhere. What is my responsibility, as the renter of this unit, for this mail? If one of the packages gets stolen off of my doorstep, am I liable (though who would care)? I feel weird receiving checks for somebody every two weeks; am I obligated by law to do anything more with them than what I'm doing (returning to sender every time)? Is there any way I can get the university to stop erroneously sending this mail so whoever is supposed to be getting these checks does?", "role": "user" }, { "content": "Idea: Let a few of these letters and packages pile up, then write Deceased; Return to Sender on all of them and return them all at once. Maybe a huge block of them arriving in the office at once will get someone's attention. Or, ask them why they're so damn certain that this person lives at your address. Have they spoken to someone?", "role": "assistant" } ]

[ { "content": "Getting mail for a dead maybe-former resident. University sending the mail insists he's alive, that he lives in my unit, and that they'll keep sending them. [CA, USA] I rent a condo near a university in suburban LA county. I've lived here for several years. Recently, I started getting mail for a man who doesn't live here. The mail is from the university, and they appear to be retirement benefits from the information printed on the envelope. Often times it's just single envelopes with what I assume are checks inside, but other times it's sizable boxes filled with tons of paperwork explaining benefits. One time it was a large package; I obviously didn't open it, so I have no idea what it contained. Each time, I've written \"return to sender, nobody here by that name\" on envelopes or boxes, and my mailman has taken them away. Sometimes the return-to-sendered envelopes come back, with the mailman explaining that the college mailroom told him that *yes,* This Particular Man *does* live here. He doesn't! My landlords don't recognize the name, and they've owned the unit for over a decade. My elderly HOA president hasn't heard of This Particular Man either, and he's lived in the complex for a loooooooong time. I looked into This Particular Man, and found that he's **dead**. I called the university department sending the retirement checks and told them that I'm erroneously receiving mail for a dead former employee who never lived in my unit, but they keep insisting that NO, he's alive, and he lives with me, and that they will keep sending the mail. I can't find any contact info for his family, so I don't have a forwarding address. The university wouldn't let me know if he had any other contact information. When I talked to my mailman, they told me to talk to the university, which obviously got me nowhere. What is my responsibility, as the renter of this unit, for this mail? If one of the packages gets stolen off of my doorstep, am I liable (though who would care)? I feel weird receiving checks for somebody every two weeks; am I obligated by law to do anything more with them than what I'm doing (returning to sender every time)? Is there any way I can get the university to stop erroneously sending this mail so whoever is supposed to be getting these checks does?", "role": "user" }, { "content": "Mail for a dead person and a university office insisting he lives there despite no one in the neighborhood having knowledge of a person by that name? Someone was cashing those checks. Definitely keep sending them back.", "role": "assistant" } ]

[ { "content": "Getting mail for a dead maybe-former resident. University sending the mail insists he's alive, that he lives in my unit, and that they'll keep sending them. [CA, USA] I rent a condo near a university in suburban LA county. I've lived here for several years. Recently, I started getting mail for a man who doesn't live here. The mail is from the university, and they appear to be retirement benefits from the information printed on the envelope. Often times it's just single envelopes with what I assume are checks inside, but other times it's sizable boxes filled with tons of paperwork explaining benefits. One time it was a large package; I obviously didn't open it, so I have no idea what it contained. Each time, I've written \"return to sender, nobody here by that name\" on envelopes or boxes, and my mailman has taken them away. Sometimes the return-to-sendered envelopes come back, with the mailman explaining that the college mailroom told him that *yes,* This Particular Man *does* live here. He doesn't! My landlords don't recognize the name, and they've owned the unit for over a decade. My elderly HOA president hasn't heard of This Particular Man either, and he's lived in the complex for a loooooooong time. I looked into This Particular Man, and found that he's **dead**. I called the university department sending the retirement checks and told them that I'm erroneously receiving mail for a dead former employee who never lived in my unit, but they keep insisting that NO, he's alive, and he lives with me, and that they will keep sending the mail. I can't find any contact info for his family, so I don't have a forwarding address. The university wouldn't let me know if he had any other contact information. When I talked to my mailman, they told me to talk to the university, which obviously got me nowhere. What is my responsibility, as the renter of this unit, for this mail? If one of the packages gets stolen off of my doorstep, am I liable (though who would care)? I feel weird receiving checks for somebody every two weeks; am I obligated by law to do anything more with them than what I'm doing (returning to sender every time)? Is there any way I can get the university to stop erroneously sending this mail so whoever is supposed to be getting these checks does?", "role": "user" }, { "content": "You say you found out he is dead; have you sent that proof to the University? Was it an obituary, info from findagrave.com, and city death records? All of that might be enough to make them rethink him being alive and calculate when they actually talked to him last.", "role": "assistant" } ]

[ { "content": "Getting mail for a dead maybe-former resident. University sending the mail insists he's alive, that he lives in my unit, and that they'll keep sending them. [CA, USA] I rent a condo near a university in suburban LA county. I've lived here for several years. Recently, I started getting mail for a man who doesn't live here. The mail is from the university, and they appear to be retirement benefits from the information printed on the envelope. Often times it's just single envelopes with what I assume are checks inside, but other times it's sizable boxes filled with tons of paperwork explaining benefits. One time it was a large package; I obviously didn't open it, so I have no idea what it contained. Each time, I've written \"return to sender, nobody here by that name\" on envelopes or boxes, and my mailman has taken them away. Sometimes the return-to-sendered envelopes come back, with the mailman explaining that the college mailroom told him that *yes,* This Particular Man *does* live here. He doesn't! My landlords don't recognize the name, and they've owned the unit for over a decade. My elderly HOA president hasn't heard of This Particular Man either, and he's lived in the complex for a loooooooong time. I looked into This Particular Man, and found that he's **dead**. I called the university department sending the retirement checks and told them that I'm erroneously receiving mail for a dead former employee who never lived in my unit, but they keep insisting that NO, he's alive, and he lives with me, and that they will keep sending the mail. I can't find any contact info for his family, so I don't have a forwarding address. The university wouldn't let me know if he had any other contact information. When I talked to my mailman, they told me to talk to the university, which obviously got me nowhere. What is my responsibility, as the renter of this unit, for this mail? If one of the packages gets stolen off of my doorstep, am I liable (though who would care)? I feel weird receiving checks for somebody every two weeks; am I obligated by law to do anything more with them than what I'm doing (returning to sender every time)? Is there any way I can get the university to stop erroneously sending this mail so whoever is supposed to be getting these checks does?", "role": "user" }, { "content": "Mail for a dead person and a university office insisting he lives there despite no one in the neighborhood having knowledge of a person by that name? Someone was cashing those checks. Definitely keep sending them back.", "role": "assistant" } ]

[ { "content": "Getting mail for a dead maybe-former resident. University sending the mail insists he's alive, that he lives in my unit, and that they'll keep sending them. [CA, USA] I rent a condo near a university in suburban LA county. I've lived here for several years. Recently, I started getting mail for a man who doesn't live here. The mail is from the university, and they appear to be retirement benefits from the information printed on the envelope. Often times it's just single envelopes with what I assume are checks inside, but other times it's sizable boxes filled with tons of paperwork explaining benefits. One time it was a large package; I obviously didn't open it, so I have no idea what it contained. Each time, I've written \"return to sender, nobody here by that name\" on envelopes or boxes, and my mailman has taken them away. Sometimes the return-to-sendered envelopes come back, with the mailman explaining that the college mailroom told him that *yes,* This Particular Man *does* live here. He doesn't! My landlords don't recognize the name, and they've owned the unit for over a decade. My elderly HOA president hasn't heard of This Particular Man either, and he's lived in the complex for a loooooooong time. I looked into This Particular Man, and found that he's **dead**. I called the university department sending the retirement checks and told them that I'm erroneously receiving mail for a dead former employee who never lived in my unit, but they keep insisting that NO, he's alive, and he lives with me, and that they will keep sending the mail. I can't find any contact info for his family, so I don't have a forwarding address. The university wouldn't let me know if he had any other contact information. When I talked to my mailman, they told me to talk to the university, which obviously got me nowhere. What is my responsibility, as the renter of this unit, for this mail? If one of the packages gets stolen off of my doorstep, am I liable (though who would care)? I feel weird receiving checks for somebody every two weeks; am I obligated by law to do anything more with them than what I'm doing (returning to sender every time)? Is there any way I can get the university to stop erroneously sending this mail so whoever is supposed to be getting these checks does?", "role": "user" }, { "content": "You say you found out he is dead; have you sent that proof to the University? Was it an obituary, info from findagrave.com, and city death records? All of that might be enough to make them rethink him being alive and calculate when they actually talked to him last.", "role": "assistant" } ]

[ { "content": "Getting mail for a dead maybe-former resident. University sending the mail insists he's alive, that he lives in my unit, and that they'll keep sending them. [CA, USA] I rent a condo near a university in suburban LA county. I've lived here for several years. Recently, I started getting mail for a man who doesn't live here. The mail is from the university, and they appear to be retirement benefits from the information printed on the envelope. Often times it's just single envelopes with what I assume are checks inside, but other times it's sizable boxes filled with tons of paperwork explaining benefits. One time it was a large package; I obviously didn't open it, so I have no idea what it contained. Each time, I've written \"return to sender, nobody here by that name\" on envelopes or boxes, and my mailman has taken them away. Sometimes the return-to-sendered envelopes come back, with the mailman explaining that the college mailroom told him that *yes,* This Particular Man *does* live here. He doesn't! My landlords don't recognize the name, and they've owned the unit for over a decade. My elderly HOA president hasn't heard of This Particular Man either, and he's lived in the complex for a loooooooong time. I looked into This Particular Man, and found that he's **dead**. I called the university department sending the retirement checks and told them that I'm erroneously receiving mail for a dead former employee who never lived in my unit, but they keep insisting that NO, he's alive, and he lives with me, and that they will keep sending the mail. I can't find any contact info for his family, so I don't have a forwarding address. The university wouldn't let me know if he had any other contact information. When I talked to my mailman, they told me to talk to the university, which obviously got me nowhere. What is my responsibility, as the renter of this unit, for this mail? If one of the packages gets stolen off of my doorstep, am I liable (though who would care)? I feel weird receiving checks for somebody every two weeks; am I obligated by law to do anything more with them than what I'm doing (returning to sender every time)? Is there any way I can get the university to stop erroneously sending this mail so whoever is supposed to be getting these checks does?", "role": "user" }, { "content": "Talk to your local Postmaster. Have him/her fill out a 3575-Z and check off the box \"Moved, Left no Address.\" It's way beyond your responsibility to do more than this. He's not there, regardless of what the college is saying. If they insist, simply write **REF** on all the mail you're getting. That means \"Refused\".", "role": "assistant" } ]

[ { "content": "Apartment issuing notice to file for eviction every month without wanting to evict me? I have lived at my current apartment for a little over a year, always paid rent on time never missed any payment and never had any complaints from management. Yesterday I had a posted notice on my door of a “notice of intent to file a complaint for summery ejectment (failure to pay rent)”. I check my bank and the renting portal and both showed that rent was paid on time, and the payment went through. I then proceeded to call the contact number they listed on the notice, and the representative let me know that they would be issuing these notices to everyone, every single month weather or not you pay your rent on time. She also said they have no plans to evict me so long as I keep paying on time, but I’m curious if what they’re doing is legal or if I can do anything if they try to evict me or my neighbors using this. I should also mention the notice on my door is labeled to the previous tenant and not me. Do I have to be concerned about them trying to add the late fee they listed on this to my rent for the month? This is my first time renting and I’m just concerned they’re doing this to evict people without the required months notice in Maryland.", "role": "user" }, { "content": "Hi there! I’m the LegalFAQ bot. It looks like you may be experiencing housing issues related to housing or eviction. Come to https://legalfaq.org to find legal resources for renters in each state. You can also find links to local groups that can help you with legal, financial, or other problems at https://legalfaq.org/getHelp. Help us provide accurate advice to fellow redditors: if your post was related to housing or eviction, please like this comment; otherwise, please dislike this comment. *v0.1*", "role": "assistant" } ]

[ { "content": "Apartment issuing notice to file for eviction every month without wanting to evict me? I have lived at my current apartment for a little over a year, always paid rent on time never missed any payment and never had any complaints from management. Yesterday I had a posted notice on my door of a “notice of intent to file a complaint for summery ejectment (failure to pay rent)”. I check my bank and the renting portal and both showed that rent was paid on time, and the payment went through. I then proceeded to call the contact number they listed on the notice, and the representative let me know that they would be issuing these notices to everyone, every single month weather or not you pay your rent on time. She also said they have no plans to evict me so long as I keep paying on time, but I’m curious if what they’re doing is legal or if I can do anything if they try to evict me or my neighbors using this. I should also mention the notice on my door is labeled to the previous tenant and not me. Do I have to be concerned about them trying to add the late fee they listed on this to my rent for the month? This is my first time renting and I’m just concerned they’re doing this to evict people without the required months notice in Maryland.", "role": "user" }, { "content": "I would tell them to stop. You can give them a \"cease and desist\". I use a service for rentals called FABCO, which is a rental history \"credit\" system. FABCO records every notice to vacate that is reported to them, or created through them. This rental company could be adding a 30 day notice to your file every single month, which would impact your ability to rent elsewhere.", "role": "assistant" } ]

[ { "content": "Apartment issuing notice to file for eviction every month without wanting to evict me? I have lived at my current apartment for a little over a year, always paid rent on time never missed any payment and never had any complaints from management. Yesterday I had a posted notice on my door of a “notice of intent to file a complaint for summery ejectment (failure to pay rent)”. I check my bank and the renting portal and both showed that rent was paid on time, and the payment went through. I then proceeded to call the contact number they listed on the notice, and the representative let me know that they would be issuing these notices to everyone, every single month weather or not you pay your rent on time. She also said they have no plans to evict me so long as I keep paying on time, but I’m curious if what they’re doing is legal or if I can do anything if they try to evict me or my neighbors using this. I should also mention the notice on my door is labeled to the previous tenant and not me. Do I have to be concerned about them trying to add the late fee they listed on this to my rent for the month? This is my first time renting and I’m just concerned they’re doing this to evict people without the required months notice in Maryland.", "role": "user" }, { "content": "Hi there! I’m the LegalFAQ bot. It looks like you may be experiencing housing issues related to housing or eviction. Come to https://legalfaq.org to find legal resources for renters in each state. You can also find links to local groups that can help you with legal, financial, or other problems at https://legalfaq.org/getHelp. Help us provide accurate advice to fellow redditors: if your post was related to housing or eviction, please like this comment; otherwise, please dislike this comment. *v0.1*", "role": "assistant" } ]

[ { "content": "Apartment issuing notice to file for eviction every month without wanting to evict me? I have lived at my current apartment for a little over a year, always paid rent on time never missed any payment and never had any complaints from management. Yesterday I had a posted notice on my door of a “notice of intent to file a complaint for summery ejectment (failure to pay rent)”. I check my bank and the renting portal and both showed that rent was paid on time, and the payment went through. I then proceeded to call the contact number they listed on the notice, and the representative let me know that they would be issuing these notices to everyone, every single month weather or not you pay your rent on time. She also said they have no plans to evict me so long as I keep paying on time, but I’m curious if what they’re doing is legal or if I can do anything if they try to evict me or my neighbors using this. I should also mention the notice on my door is labeled to the previous tenant and not me. Do I have to be concerned about them trying to add the late fee they listed on this to my rent for the month? This is my first time renting and I’m just concerned they’re doing this to evict people without the required months notice in Maryland.", "role": "user" }, { "content": "Keep a copy of the notice, screenshots or printouts of the bank records, and also same for the portal information. You may need it in future.", "role": "assistant" } ]

[ { "content": "Apartment issuing notice to file for eviction every month without wanting to evict me? I have lived at my current apartment for a little over a year, always paid rent on time never missed any payment and never had any complaints from management. Yesterday I had a posted notice on my door of a “notice of intent to file a complaint for summery ejectment (failure to pay rent)”. I check my bank and the renting portal and both showed that rent was paid on time, and the payment went through. I then proceeded to call the contact number they listed on the notice, and the representative let me know that they would be issuing these notices to everyone, every single month weather or not you pay your rent on time. She also said they have no plans to evict me so long as I keep paying on time, but I’m curious if what they’re doing is legal or if I can do anything if they try to evict me or my neighbors using this. I should also mention the notice on my door is labeled to the previous tenant and not me. Do I have to be concerned about them trying to add the late fee they listed on this to my rent for the month? This is my first time renting and I’m just concerned they’re doing this to evict people without the required months notice in Maryland.", "role": "user" }, { "content": "If the notice is not addressed to you, there isn't a problem . Once they do address you with a notice, make sure you send back a letter stating the truth of your on time payment. send this with receipt requested to prove they got it. And consulting a lawyer is likely a good idea.", "role": "assistant" } ]

[ { "content": "Apartment issuing notice to file for eviction every month without wanting to evict me? I have lived at my current apartment for a little over a year, always paid rent on time never missed any payment and never had any complaints from management. Yesterday I had a posted notice on my door of a “notice of intent to file a complaint for summery ejectment (failure to pay rent)”. I check my bank and the renting portal and both showed that rent was paid on time, and the payment went through. I then proceeded to call the contact number they listed on the notice, and the representative let me know that they would be issuing these notices to everyone, every single month weather or not you pay your rent on time. She also said they have no plans to evict me so long as I keep paying on time, but I’m curious if what they’re doing is legal or if I can do anything if they try to evict me or my neighbors using this. I should also mention the notice on my door is labeled to the previous tenant and not me. Do I have to be concerned about them trying to add the late fee they listed on this to my rent for the month? This is my first time renting and I’m just concerned they’re doing this to evict people without the required months notice in Maryland.", "role": "user" }, { "content": "**What your landlord is doing is illegal under Maryland law. Citations below. Contact a lawyer immediately.** To be clear, your landlord is regularly and repeatedly beginning the eviction process without cause? Sounds like the snowflakes over at /r/loveforlandlords think they've found \"one weird trick\" to circumvent tenancy laws or expedite the eviction process or something. I'd argue that this constitutes constructive eviction and/or improper eviction. Be sure you take note of who told you they're doing this every month, and save every notice you receive. My first stop would be to file a complaint with your state's attorney general in addition to any local housing / rental regulation agencies you have in your area. I'd also find someplace else to live when the lease is up, because that is hot garbage. Their eviction wouldn't stand a chance if you're paid up on time; it's the fact that they're beginning the process without cause. This serves no legitimate purpose other than to harass you with empty threats of eviction. EDIT: I just checked, and in my state it's unlikely that this would meet the grounds for constructive eviction. In my state, constructive eviction requires that the tenant abandon the premises as a result. Jurisprudence where you are may vary. I'd still pursue this with the AG and any local agencies you have, though. This is how we get stupid laws that say things like \"no you can't evict your tenants without cause\". EDIT 2: I just saw that you mentioned Maryland in your post. Maryland has some interesting caselaw regarding unwarranted evictions. One that jumps out (although I have not read the entire thing yet) is Wheeling v. Selene Finance, LP, where a landlord posted eviction notices without any cause for eviction. In that case, Maryland found that this did in fact constitute constructive eviction. EDIT 3: Holy moly, your landlord has brain damage if they did this in Maryland. The Maryland Court of Appeals found that RP § 7-113(d) does not require a tenant to actually be displaced. Furthermore, (b)(1) prohibits even a *threat* to evict without cause. **The courts actually awarded damages for emotional distress to the tenants.** Go Maryland! https://codes.findlaw.com/md/real-property/md-code-real-prop-sect-7-113.html >(b)(1) Except as provided in paragraph (2) of this subsection, a party claiming the right to possession may not take possession *or threaten to take possession* of residential property from a protected resident by (iii) Taking any other action that deprives the protected resident of actual possession. At this point I would stop posting on Reddit and consult a lawyer who has experience in Maryland landlord / tenant laws as well as the Maryland Consumer Protection Act. Pinging u/alkalineem in case they didn't see my edits.", "role": "assistant" } ]

[ { "content": "Apartment issuing notice to file for eviction every month without wanting to evict me? I have lived at my current apartment for a little over a year, always paid rent on time never missed any payment and never had any complaints from management. Yesterday I had a posted notice on my door of a “notice of intent to file a complaint for summery ejectment (failure to pay rent)”. I check my bank and the renting portal and both showed that rent was paid on time, and the payment went through. I then proceeded to call the contact number they listed on the notice, and the representative let me know that they would be issuing these notices to everyone, every single month weather or not you pay your rent on time. She also said they have no plans to evict me so long as I keep paying on time, but I’m curious if what they’re doing is legal or if I can do anything if they try to evict me or my neighbors using this. I should also mention the notice on my door is labeled to the previous tenant and not me. Do I have to be concerned about them trying to add the late fee they listed on this to my rent for the month? This is my first time renting and I’m just concerned they’re doing this to evict people without the required months notice in Maryland.", "role": "user" }, { "content": "Hi there! I’m the LegalFAQ bot. It looks like you may be experiencing housing issues related to housing or eviction. Come to https://legalfaq.org to find legal resources for renters in each state. You can also find links to local groups that can help you with legal, financial, or other problems at https://legalfaq.org/getHelp. Help us provide accurate advice to fellow redditors: if your post was related to housing or eviction, please like this comment; otherwise, please dislike this comment. *v0.1*", "role": "assistant" } ]

[ { "content": "Apartment issuing notice to file for eviction every month without wanting to evict me? I have lived at my current apartment for a little over a year, always paid rent on time never missed any payment and never had any complaints from management. Yesterday I had a posted notice on my door of a “notice of intent to file a complaint for summery ejectment (failure to pay rent)”. I check my bank and the renting portal and both showed that rent was paid on time, and the payment went through. I then proceeded to call the contact number they listed on the notice, and the representative let me know that they would be issuing these notices to everyone, every single month weather or not you pay your rent on time. She also said they have no plans to evict me so long as I keep paying on time, but I’m curious if what they’re doing is legal or if I can do anything if they try to evict me or my neighbors using this. I should also mention the notice on my door is labeled to the previous tenant and not me. Do I have to be concerned about them trying to add the late fee they listed on this to my rent for the month? This is my first time renting and I’m just concerned they’re doing this to evict people without the required months notice in Maryland.", "role": "user" }, { "content": "**What your landlord is doing is illegal under Maryland law. Citations below. Contact a lawyer immediately.** To be clear, your landlord is regularly and repeatedly beginning the eviction process without cause? Sounds like the snowflakes over at /r/loveforlandlords think they've found \"one weird trick\" to circumvent tenancy laws or expedite the eviction process or something. I'd argue that this constitutes constructive eviction and/or improper eviction. Be sure you take note of who told you they're doing this every month, and save every notice you receive. My first stop would be to file a complaint with your state's attorney general in addition to any local housing / rental regulation agencies you have in your area. I'd also find someplace else to live when the lease is up, because that is hot garbage. Their eviction wouldn't stand a chance if you're paid up on time; it's the fact that they're beginning the process without cause. This serves no legitimate purpose other than to harass you with empty threats of eviction. EDIT: I just checked, and in my state it's unlikely that this would meet the grounds for constructive eviction. In my state, constructive eviction requires that the tenant abandon the premises as a result. Jurisprudence where you are may vary. I'd still pursue this with the AG and any local agencies you have, though. This is how we get stupid laws that say things like \"no you can't evict your tenants without cause\". EDIT 2: I just saw that you mentioned Maryland in your post. Maryland has some interesting caselaw regarding unwarranted evictions. One that jumps out (although I have not read the entire thing yet) is Wheeling v. Selene Finance, LP, where a landlord posted eviction notices without any cause for eviction. In that case, Maryland found that this did in fact constitute constructive eviction. EDIT 3: Holy moly, your landlord has brain damage if they did this in Maryland. The Maryland Court of Appeals found that RP § 7-113(d) does not require a tenant to actually be displaced. Furthermore, (b)(1) prohibits even a *threat* to evict without cause. **The courts actually awarded damages for emotional distress to the tenants.** Go Maryland! https://codes.findlaw.com/md/real-property/md-code-real-prop-sect-7-113.html >(b)(1) Except as provided in paragraph (2) of this subsection, a party claiming the right to possession may not take possession *or threaten to take possession* of residential property from a protected resident by (iii) Taking any other action that deprives the protected resident of actual possession. At this point I would stop posting on Reddit and consult a lawyer who has experience in Maryland landlord / tenant laws as well as the Maryland Consumer Protection Act. Pinging u/alkalineem in case they didn't see my edits.", "role": "assistant" } ]

[ { "content": "Apartment issuing notice to file for eviction every month without wanting to evict me? I have lived at my current apartment for a little over a year, always paid rent on time never missed any payment and never had any complaints from management. Yesterday I had a posted notice on my door of a “notice of intent to file a complaint for summery ejectment (failure to pay rent)”. I check my bank and the renting portal and both showed that rent was paid on time, and the payment went through. I then proceeded to call the contact number they listed on the notice, and the representative let me know that they would be issuing these notices to everyone, every single month weather or not you pay your rent on time. She also said they have no plans to evict me so long as I keep paying on time, but I’m curious if what they’re doing is legal or if I can do anything if they try to evict me or my neighbors using this. I should also mention the notice on my door is labeled to the previous tenant and not me. Do I have to be concerned about them trying to add the late fee they listed on this to my rent for the month? This is my first time renting and I’m just concerned they’re doing this to evict people without the required months notice in Maryland.", "role": "user" }, { "content": "Hi there! I’m the LegalFAQ bot. It looks like you may be experiencing housing issues related to housing or eviction. Come to https://legalfaq.org to find legal resources for renters in each state. You can also find links to local groups that can help you with legal, financial, or other problems at https://legalfaq.org/getHelp. Help us provide accurate advice to fellow redditors: if your post was related to housing or eviction, please like this comment; otherwise, please dislike this comment. *v0.1*", "role": "assistant" } ]

[ { "content": "Apartment issuing notice to file for eviction every month without wanting to evict me? I have lived at my current apartment for a little over a year, always paid rent on time never missed any payment and never had any complaints from management. Yesterday I had a posted notice on my door of a “notice of intent to file a complaint for summery ejectment (failure to pay rent)”. I check my bank and the renting portal and both showed that rent was paid on time, and the payment went through. I then proceeded to call the contact number they listed on the notice, and the representative let me know that they would be issuing these notices to everyone, every single month weather or not you pay your rent on time. She also said they have no plans to evict me so long as I keep paying on time, but I’m curious if what they’re doing is legal or if I can do anything if they try to evict me or my neighbors using this. I should also mention the notice on my door is labeled to the previous tenant and not me. Do I have to be concerned about them trying to add the late fee they listed on this to my rent for the month? This is my first time renting and I’m just concerned they’re doing this to evict people without the required months notice in Maryland.", "role": "user" }, { "content": "Check to see if the building is up for sale. They could be doing the leg work (improperly) to evict you all before the new owners take possession. You should keep all paperwork given to you. Log the date, time of all calls including the persons name you talked to. You should probably contact a lawyer who deals with real estate and renting issues. If your allowed to record calls, do it. This sounds shady AF. I wish you the best of luck. Be safe!", "role": "assistant" } ]

[ { "content": "Apartment wants to force me to join Facebook group through addendum (UT) The apartment complex I live in (Utah) gave everybody an addendum, which would require us to join their Facebook group and failure to keep that friendship on Facebook would breach the Residential Rental Agreement. The addendum also says that the owner can post all required notices on the Facebook page (like apartment inspections, rule changes, etc). The owner is also given permission to publish pictures of the residents on the Facebook page. This includes children and guests. Then, the addendum says that residents aren't allowed post anything negative about the complex on any forum or any Facebook page. The complex gives us until April 15th to sign it and 5 days after to join the Facebook page. First of all, do I have to sign the addendum? What will they do if I don't sign it? I already have an existing contract they are trying to tack this onto. I don't use Facebook, so this would require me to get one and actively use it so I don't miss important posts. The addendum isn't clear what kinds of posts they'll make on the Facebook page. They could target an individual resident and call him out on breaking a rule in front of all the other residents on Facebook if they wanted to. Secondly, giving them the right to take pictures of me whenever they want to is really creepy. This would allow them to go over to the playground and take pictures of all the kids if they wanted to. And third, residents can't say anything negative about the apartments online? So, they could consider it a breach of contract if you tell your friends not to move into the complex because it isn't a good place to live. Overall, the whole thing is incredibly controlling. I don't agree with the addendum, but I don't know what the repercussions are for not signing it. I'm moving out in June when the existing contract expires, so I don't have much more time here anyways. Giving them the right to take pictures of me and post them on Facebook without me knowing is a big privacy concern of mine as well. Any advice would be appreciated. Thanks guys!", "role": "user" }, { "content": "> Secondly, giving them the right to take pictures of me whenever they want to is really creepy. This would allow them to go over to the playground and take pictures of all the kids if they wanted to. If the playground is a public place where you would normally expect to be seen by other people, they can likely already do this.", "role": "assistant" } ]

[ { "content": "Apartment wants to force me to join Facebook group through addendum (UT) The apartment complex I live in (Utah) gave everybody an addendum, which would require us to join their Facebook group and failure to keep that friendship on Facebook would breach the Residential Rental Agreement. The addendum also says that the owner can post all required notices on the Facebook page (like apartment inspections, rule changes, etc). The owner is also given permission to publish pictures of the residents on the Facebook page. This includes children and guests. Then, the addendum says that residents aren't allowed post anything negative about the complex on any forum or any Facebook page. The complex gives us until April 15th to sign it and 5 days after to join the Facebook page. First of all, do I have to sign the addendum? What will they do if I don't sign it? I already have an existing contract they are trying to tack this onto. I don't use Facebook, so this would require me to get one and actively use it so I don't miss important posts. The addendum isn't clear what kinds of posts they'll make on the Facebook page. They could target an individual resident and call him out on breaking a rule in front of all the other residents on Facebook if they wanted to. Secondly, giving them the right to take pictures of me whenever they want to is really creepy. This would allow them to go over to the playground and take pictures of all the kids if they wanted to. And third, residents can't say anything negative about the apartments online? So, they could consider it a breach of contract if you tell your friends not to move into the complex because it isn't a good place to live. Overall, the whole thing is incredibly controlling. I don't agree with the addendum, but I don't know what the repercussions are for not signing it. I'm moving out in June when the existing contract expires, so I don't have much more time here anyways. Giving them the right to take pictures of me and post them on Facebook without me knowing is a big privacy concern of mine as well. Any advice would be appreciated. Thanks guys!", "role": "user" }, { "content": "You don't have to sign the addendum. If you don't sign the addendum, you can expect for your lease not to be renewed at the end the term. I think this addendum is absolutely silly and I wouldn't sign it (or signed the lease if it was present when I moved in).", "role": "assistant" } ]

[ { "content": "Apartment wants to force me to join Facebook group through addendum (UT) The apartment complex I live in (Utah) gave everybody an addendum, which would require us to join their Facebook group and failure to keep that friendship on Facebook would breach the Residential Rental Agreement. The addendum also says that the owner can post all required notices on the Facebook page (like apartment inspections, rule changes, etc). The owner is also given permission to publish pictures of the residents on the Facebook page. This includes children and guests. Then, the addendum says that residents aren't allowed post anything negative about the complex on any forum or any Facebook page. The complex gives us until April 15th to sign it and 5 days after to join the Facebook page. First of all, do I have to sign the addendum? What will they do if I don't sign it? I already have an existing contract they are trying to tack this onto. I don't use Facebook, so this would require me to get one and actively use it so I don't miss important posts. The addendum isn't clear what kinds of posts they'll make on the Facebook page. They could target an individual resident and call him out on breaking a rule in front of all the other residents on Facebook if they wanted to. Secondly, giving them the right to take pictures of me whenever they want to is really creepy. This would allow them to go over to the playground and take pictures of all the kids if they wanted to. And third, residents can't say anything negative about the apartments online? So, they could consider it a breach of contract if you tell your friends not to move into the complex because it isn't a good place to live. Overall, the whole thing is incredibly controlling. I don't agree with the addendum, but I don't know what the repercussions are for not signing it. I'm moving out in June when the existing contract expires, so I don't have much more time here anyways. Giving them the right to take pictures of me and post them on Facebook without me knowing is a big privacy concern of mine as well. Any advice would be appreciated. Thanks guys!", "role": "user" }, { "content": "Are they offering to give you anything in return or is this a completely one sided contract? It does not sound like you gain anything at all by signing this addendum, so don't sign it.", "role": "assistant" } ]

[ { "content": "Apartment wants to force me to join Facebook group through addendum (UT) The apartment complex I live in (Utah) gave everybody an addendum, which would require us to join their Facebook group and failure to keep that friendship on Facebook would breach the Residential Rental Agreement. The addendum also says that the owner can post all required notices on the Facebook page (like apartment inspections, rule changes, etc). The owner is also given permission to publish pictures of the residents on the Facebook page. This includes children and guests. Then, the addendum says that residents aren't allowed post anything negative about the complex on any forum or any Facebook page. The complex gives us until April 15th to sign it and 5 days after to join the Facebook page. First of all, do I have to sign the addendum? What will they do if I don't sign it? I already have an existing contract they are trying to tack this onto. I don't use Facebook, so this would require me to get one and actively use it so I don't miss important posts. The addendum isn't clear what kinds of posts they'll make on the Facebook page. They could target an individual resident and call him out on breaking a rule in front of all the other residents on Facebook if they wanted to. Secondly, giving them the right to take pictures of me whenever they want to is really creepy. This would allow them to go over to the playground and take pictures of all the kids if they wanted to. And third, residents can't say anything negative about the apartments online? So, they could consider it a breach of contract if you tell your friends not to move into the complex because it isn't a good place to live. Overall, the whole thing is incredibly controlling. I don't agree with the addendum, but I don't know what the repercussions are for not signing it. I'm moving out in June when the existing contract expires, so I don't have much more time here anyways. Giving them the right to take pictures of me and post them on Facebook without me knowing is a big privacy concern of mine as well. Any advice would be appreciated. Thanks guys!", "role": "user" }, { "content": "You don't have to sign the addendum. If you don't sign the addendum, you can expect for your lease not to be renewed at the end the term. I think this addendum is absolutely silly and I wouldn't sign it (or signed the lease if it was present when I moved in).", "role": "assistant" } ]

[ { "content": "Apartment wants to force me to join Facebook group through addendum (UT) The apartment complex I live in (Utah) gave everybody an addendum, which would require us to join their Facebook group and failure to keep that friendship on Facebook would breach the Residential Rental Agreement. The addendum also says that the owner can post all required notices on the Facebook page (like apartment inspections, rule changes, etc). The owner is also given permission to publish pictures of the residents on the Facebook page. This includes children and guests. Then, the addendum says that residents aren't allowed post anything negative about the complex on any forum or any Facebook page. The complex gives us until April 15th to sign it and 5 days after to join the Facebook page. First of all, do I have to sign the addendum? What will they do if I don't sign it? I already have an existing contract they are trying to tack this onto. I don't use Facebook, so this would require me to get one and actively use it so I don't miss important posts. The addendum isn't clear what kinds of posts they'll make on the Facebook page. They could target an individual resident and call him out on breaking a rule in front of all the other residents on Facebook if they wanted to. Secondly, giving them the right to take pictures of me whenever they want to is really creepy. This would allow them to go over to the playground and take pictures of all the kids if they wanted to. And third, residents can't say anything negative about the apartments online? So, they could consider it a breach of contract if you tell your friends not to move into the complex because it isn't a good place to live. Overall, the whole thing is incredibly controlling. I don't agree with the addendum, but I don't know what the repercussions are for not signing it. I'm moving out in June when the existing contract expires, so I don't have much more time here anyways. Giving them the right to take pictures of me and post them on Facebook without me knowing is a big privacy concern of mine as well. Any advice would be appreciated. Thanks guys!", "role": "user" }, { "content": "Are they offering to give you anything in return or is this a completely one sided contract? It does not sound like you gain anything at all by signing this addendum, so don't sign it.", "role": "assistant" } ]

[ { "content": "Apartment wants to force me to join Facebook group through addendum (UT) The apartment complex I live in (Utah) gave everybody an addendum, which would require us to join their Facebook group and failure to keep that friendship on Facebook would breach the Residential Rental Agreement. The addendum also says that the owner can post all required notices on the Facebook page (like apartment inspections, rule changes, etc). The owner is also given permission to publish pictures of the residents on the Facebook page. This includes children and guests. Then, the addendum says that residents aren't allowed post anything negative about the complex on any forum or any Facebook page. The complex gives us until April 15th to sign it and 5 days after to join the Facebook page. First of all, do I have to sign the addendum? What will they do if I don't sign it? I already have an existing contract they are trying to tack this onto. I don't use Facebook, so this would require me to get one and actively use it so I don't miss important posts. The addendum isn't clear what kinds of posts they'll make on the Facebook page. They could target an individual resident and call him out on breaking a rule in front of all the other residents on Facebook if they wanted to. Secondly, giving them the right to take pictures of me whenever they want to is really creepy. This would allow them to go over to the playground and take pictures of all the kids if they wanted to. And third, residents can't say anything negative about the apartments online? So, they could consider it a breach of contract if you tell your friends not to move into the complex because it isn't a good place to live. Overall, the whole thing is incredibly controlling. I don't agree with the addendum, but I don't know what the repercussions are for not signing it. I'm moving out in June when the existing contract expires, so I don't have much more time here anyways. Giving them the right to take pictures of me and post them on Facebook without me knowing is a big privacy concern of mine as well. Any advice would be appreciated. Thanks guys!", "role": "user" }, { "content": "If you are already on a fixed-term lease (as opposed to a month-to-month contract) then you can't be forced to sign the addendum until your lease expires. Some of what is in the addendum may be illegal. Inspection notices usually have to be given in writing, not electronically. The part about taking pictures is fine, they already have that right anyway. The gag order about saying negative things is also ridiculous.", "role": "assistant" } ]

[ { "content": "Apartment wants to force me to join Facebook group through addendum (UT) The apartment complex I live in (Utah) gave everybody an addendum, which would require us to join their Facebook group and failure to keep that friendship on Facebook would breach the Residential Rental Agreement. The addendum also says that the owner can post all required notices on the Facebook page (like apartment inspections, rule changes, etc). The owner is also given permission to publish pictures of the residents on the Facebook page. This includes children and guests. Then, the addendum says that residents aren't allowed post anything negative about the complex on any forum or any Facebook page. The complex gives us until April 15th to sign it and 5 days after to join the Facebook page. First of all, do I have to sign the addendum? What will they do if I don't sign it? I already have an existing contract they are trying to tack this onto. I don't use Facebook, so this would require me to get one and actively use it so I don't miss important posts. The addendum isn't clear what kinds of posts they'll make on the Facebook page. They could target an individual resident and call him out on breaking a rule in front of all the other residents on Facebook if they wanted to. Secondly, giving them the right to take pictures of me whenever they want to is really creepy. This would allow them to go over to the playground and take pictures of all the kids if they wanted to. And third, residents can't say anything negative about the apartments online? So, they could consider it a breach of contract if you tell your friends not to move into the complex because it isn't a good place to live. Overall, the whole thing is incredibly controlling. I don't agree with the addendum, but I don't know what the repercussions are for not signing it. I'm moving out in June when the existing contract expires, so I don't have much more time here anyways. Giving them the right to take pictures of me and post them on Facebook without me knowing is a big privacy concern of mine as well. Any advice would be appreciated. Thanks guys!", "role": "user" }, { "content": "Site a religious exemption.", "role": "assistant" } ]

[ { "content": "Apartment wants to force me to join Facebook group through addendum (UT) The apartment complex I live in (Utah) gave everybody an addendum, which would require us to join their Facebook group and failure to keep that friendship on Facebook would breach the Residential Rental Agreement. The addendum also says that the owner can post all required notices on the Facebook page (like apartment inspections, rule changes, etc). The owner is also given permission to publish pictures of the residents on the Facebook page. This includes children and guests. Then, the addendum says that residents aren't allowed post anything negative about the complex on any forum or any Facebook page. The complex gives us until April 15th to sign it and 5 days after to join the Facebook page. First of all, do I have to sign the addendum? What will they do if I don't sign it? I already have an existing contract they are trying to tack this onto. I don't use Facebook, so this would require me to get one and actively use it so I don't miss important posts. The addendum isn't clear what kinds of posts they'll make on the Facebook page. They could target an individual resident and call him out on breaking a rule in front of all the other residents on Facebook if they wanted to. Secondly, giving them the right to take pictures of me whenever they want to is really creepy. This would allow them to go over to the playground and take pictures of all the kids if they wanted to. And third, residents can't say anything negative about the apartments online? So, they could consider it a breach of contract if you tell your friends not to move into the complex because it isn't a good place to live. Overall, the whole thing is incredibly controlling. I don't agree with the addendum, but I don't know what the repercussions are for not signing it. I'm moving out in June when the existing contract expires, so I don't have much more time here anyways. Giving them the right to take pictures of me and post them on Facebook without me knowing is a big privacy concern of mine as well. Any advice would be appreciated. Thanks guys!", "role": "user" }, { "content": "Say you have an abusive ex and that's why you aren't on Facebook, especially not with locational data. It's a safety issue. In some places, addresses of cops/judges/DAs/victims are protected by state or local laws. It might even be illegal to disclose their home address.", "role": "assistant" } ]

[ { "content": "Apartment wants to force me to join Facebook group through addendum (UT) The apartment complex I live in (Utah) gave everybody an addendum, which would require us to join their Facebook group and failure to keep that friendship on Facebook would breach the Residential Rental Agreement. The addendum also says that the owner can post all required notices on the Facebook page (like apartment inspections, rule changes, etc). The owner is also given permission to publish pictures of the residents on the Facebook page. This includes children and guests. Then, the addendum says that residents aren't allowed post anything negative about the complex on any forum or any Facebook page. The complex gives us until April 15th to sign it and 5 days after to join the Facebook page. First of all, do I have to sign the addendum? What will they do if I don't sign it? I already have an existing contract they are trying to tack this onto. I don't use Facebook, so this would require me to get one and actively use it so I don't miss important posts. The addendum isn't clear what kinds of posts they'll make on the Facebook page. They could target an individual resident and call him out on breaking a rule in front of all the other residents on Facebook if they wanted to. Secondly, giving them the right to take pictures of me whenever they want to is really creepy. This would allow them to go over to the playground and take pictures of all the kids if they wanted to. And third, residents can't say anything negative about the apartments online? So, they could consider it a breach of contract if you tell your friends not to move into the complex because it isn't a good place to live. Overall, the whole thing is incredibly controlling. I don't agree with the addendum, but I don't know what the repercussions are for not signing it. I'm moving out in June when the existing contract expires, so I don't have much more time here anyways. Giving them the right to take pictures of me and post them on Facebook without me knowing is a big privacy concern of mine as well. Any advice would be appreciated. Thanks guys!", "role": "user" }, { "content": "They can take photos of your kids at the playground without your permission", "role": "assistant" } ]

[ { "content": "Apartment wants to force me to join Facebook group through addendum (UT) The apartment complex I live in (Utah) gave everybody an addendum, which would require us to join their Facebook group and failure to keep that friendship on Facebook would breach the Residential Rental Agreement. The addendum also says that the owner can post all required notices on the Facebook page (like apartment inspections, rule changes, etc). The owner is also given permission to publish pictures of the residents on the Facebook page. This includes children and guests. Then, the addendum says that residents aren't allowed post anything negative about the complex on any forum or any Facebook page. The complex gives us until April 15th to sign it and 5 days after to join the Facebook page. First of all, do I have to sign the addendum? What will they do if I don't sign it? I already have an existing contract they are trying to tack this onto. I don't use Facebook, so this would require me to get one and actively use it so I don't miss important posts. The addendum isn't clear what kinds of posts they'll make on the Facebook page. They could target an individual resident and call him out on breaking a rule in front of all the other residents on Facebook if they wanted to. Secondly, giving them the right to take pictures of me whenever they want to is really creepy. This would allow them to go over to the playground and take pictures of all the kids if they wanted to. And third, residents can't say anything negative about the apartments online? So, they could consider it a breach of contract if you tell your friends not to move into the complex because it isn't a good place to live. Overall, the whole thing is incredibly controlling. I don't agree with the addendum, but I don't know what the repercussions are for not signing it. I'm moving out in June when the existing contract expires, so I don't have much more time here anyways. Giving them the right to take pictures of me and post them on Facebook without me knowing is a big privacy concern of mine as well. Any advice would be appreciated. Thanks guys!", "role": "user" }, { "content": "Say you have an abusive ex and that's why you aren't on Facebook, especially not with locational data. It's a safety issue. In some places, addresses of cops/judges/DAs/victims are protected by state or local laws. It might even be illegal to disclose their home address.", "role": "assistant" } ]

[ { "content": "[TN] 2 units directly above me in my apartment complex caught on fire at 2:30AM. Not a single fire alarm went off during this time. My unit has structural and smoke damage and is not livable. We have a month left on our lease and the complex may not terminate it early. Is there anything we can do? The lack of fire alarms is extremely concerning as we were only woken up by a man driving down the road who spotted the fire and called 911. He helped to notify and evacuate everyone in the building. I do not feel our complex has provided a safe and reliable living space. They are still deciding if our lease can be terminated a month early because of the circumstances, but if this gets denied I don't know what action we can reasonably take. What can we do? Our roommate is the only one of us 3 (my girlfriend and I) who had renters insurance. I have no experience with filing claims nor do I know if her insurance covers the entire apartment. Here is a picture of the after math. Our apartment is on the bottom: http://imgur.com/gallery/DQKRCXx", "role": "user" }, { "content": "More than likely you are not going to be covered by your roommate's policy, but you should check to be sure", "role": "assistant" } ]

[ { "content": "[TN] 2 units directly above me in my apartment complex caught on fire at 2:30AM. Not a single fire alarm went off during this time. My unit has structural and smoke damage and is not livable. We have a month left on our lease and the complex may not terminate it early. Is there anything we can do? The lack of fire alarms is extremely concerning as we were only woken up by a man driving down the road who spotted the fire and called 911. He helped to notify and evacuate everyone in the building. I do not feel our complex has provided a safe and reliable living space. They are still deciding if our lease can be terminated a month early because of the circumstances, but if this gets denied I don't know what action we can reasonably take. What can we do? Our roommate is the only one of us 3 (my girlfriend and I) who had renters insurance. I have no experience with filing claims nor do I know if her insurance covers the entire apartment. Here is a picture of the after math. Our apartment is on the bottom: http://imgur.com/gallery/DQKRCXx", "role": "user" }, { "content": "Those that are renting and have no renter's insurance but have auto insurance, do yourselves a favor and check with your auto insurance company for renter's pricing, I was astounded when my agent told me $5/month got me so much coverage because he could 'bundle' the two. Can you spare a Big Mac and fries a month to be protected? And if you never use it what are you out, $60/year?", "role": "assistant" } ]

[ { "content": "My boyfriend is threatening to send my friends a sex tape of me, can the police help? I live in Kentucky. I am 21 and he is 26. He has a video of me where he made me lick him EVERYWHERE. It is so embarrassing. No one would look at me the same way if they saw it. He says if I ever break up with him he will send it to all my friends and family. He's not even really my bf anymore. He makes me spend the night at his apartment every night and demands sexual things but I hate the things he does to me. He keeps degrading me more and more in bed. Any time I tell him no he names one of my friends and starts to send them the video. So I always end up doing what he wants. He treats me horrible, he says he has stretched me out so bad I won't feel good to any other guy. He says no one will want to kiss me when he shows them the video. The only reason I do it is so he won't show people the video but he keeps getting more extreme in bed making me do worse things for him. It's like he is testing my limits. I've been told this is black mail and I could take him to court. But could the police arrest him without notice and look through all his stuff to find all the copies and delete them? Even if he gets in trouble he will still send everyone the video as soon as he gets a chance, I know him.", "role": "user" }, { "content": "**Kentucky Statutes 514.080: Theft by extortion** (Blackmail) >(1) A person is guilty of theft by extortion when he intentionally obtains property of another by threatening to: >[...] >(c) Expose any secret tending to subject any person to hatred, contempt, or ridicule, or to impair his credit or business repute; or (It's possible to argue that blackmail for sexual services could be constituted as theft of labour, if only to enforce the spirit of the law rather than the letter. Few judges or juries are fans of sexual predators.) **Kentucky Statutes 510.020: Lack of Consent** (Sexual Offences) >Whether or not specifically stated, it is an element of every offense defined in this chapter that the sexual act was committed without consent of the victim. >(2) Lack of consent results from: >(a) Forcible compulsion; >(b) Incapacity to consent; or >(c) If the offense charged is sexual abuse, any circumstances in addition to forcible compulsion or incapacity to consent in which the victim does not expressly or impliedly acquiesce in the actor's conduct. I'm sure a professional lawyer from KY could pin a few more charges relating to assault or abuse. But with this many clear violations, you have a case. Go to the cops. They can refer you to support groups for sexual assault too, and walk you through the process. Since this is a criminal issue and not necessarily a civil one, they should be able to walk you through the process of what you can or need to do to help end this. And yes, he could always release the evidence, though unlikely. The police will likely seize most of it as evidence, and his lawyer will likely inform him that releasing it could bring more severe penalties down onto him and lengthen his prison time, or at least risk of an unfavourable verdict by painting him as malicious rather than remorseful.", "role": "assistant" } ]

[ { "content": "My boyfriend is threatening to send my friends a sex tape of me, can the police help? I live in Kentucky. I am 21 and he is 26. He has a video of me where he made me lick him EVERYWHERE. It is so embarrassing. No one would look at me the same way if they saw it. He says if I ever break up with him he will send it to all my friends and family. He's not even really my bf anymore. He makes me spend the night at his apartment every night and demands sexual things but I hate the things he does to me. He keeps degrading me more and more in bed. Any time I tell him no he names one of my friends and starts to send them the video. So I always end up doing what he wants. He treats me horrible, he says he has stretched me out so bad I won't feel good to any other guy. He says no one will want to kiss me when he shows them the video. The only reason I do it is so he won't show people the video but he keeps getting more extreme in bed making me do worse things for him. It's like he is testing my limits. I've been told this is black mail and I could take him to court. But could the police arrest him without notice and look through all his stuff to find all the copies and delete them? Even if he gets in trouble he will still send everyone the video as soon as he gets a chance, I know him.", "role": "user" }, { "content": "Go to the police and ask about restraining orders and that he's blackmailing/extorting you and forcing you into sex. Ask the police about getting a restraining order that blocks him from contacting you AND talking to any third party about you. If he violates that you call the police and he'll go to jail. I'm sure if you told your friends what was going on they would block him from sending messages also. Anyone who judges you for this isn't your friend. I'm a stranger to you, and I'm on your side. He's hoping you're too scared of him and the repercussions of what he might do, so he can keep you in his control. Don't threaten to leave, don't tell him you're leaving, just leave him and go to the police.", "role": "assistant" } ]

[ { "content": "My boyfriend is threatening to send my friends a sex tape of me, can the police help? I live in Kentucky. I am 21 and he is 26. He has a video of me where he made me lick him EVERYWHERE. It is so embarrassing. No one would look at me the same way if they saw it. He says if I ever break up with him he will send it to all my friends and family. He's not even really my bf anymore. He makes me spend the night at his apartment every night and demands sexual things but I hate the things he does to me. He keeps degrading me more and more in bed. Any time I tell him no he names one of my friends and starts to send them the video. So I always end up doing what he wants. He treats me horrible, he says he has stretched me out so bad I won't feel good to any other guy. He says no one will want to kiss me when he shows them the video. The only reason I do it is so he won't show people the video but he keeps getting more extreme in bed making me do worse things for him. It's like he is testing my limits. I've been told this is black mail and I could take him to court. But could the police arrest him without notice and look through all his stuff to find all the copies and delete them? Even if he gets in trouble he will still send everyone the video as soon as he gets a chance, I know him.", "role": "user" }, { "content": "Not a lawyer, etc, and I'm not sure if the police can arrest him without notice (though I suspect not; they'll have to investigate before arresting him, and I'm not sure if they'll be able to do that without alerting him), but I'm pretty sure they won't delete the videos because it would be evidence of his blackmail. I'm sorry... :( Not legal advice, but: I know you're aware of this, but this seems like it's a very abusive situation, both mentally/emotionally *and* physically. I know, too, you're afraid to leave because of the blackmail, but please try to. This will require you to be brave, but if you talk to your family and friends (everyone you're afraid he's going to send it to) and explain to them that he's blackmailing you and abusing you, and he might send them something that he forced(?) you to do, I'm sure they'll understand. Ask them to delete it without responding or even looking at it. I've... not been in your exact shoes, but I know how mentally abusive people can be; they get inside of your head and make you think everyone will think the very worst for you, and that's just not the case. Reach out; people will be understanding, I promise. *Nothing* he's saying is true. :( Here's a good list about steps you may want to take to get out of the relationship. -hugs- (if you want them) I wish you the best of luck, and hopefully the bastard'll get what he deserves...", "role": "assistant" } ]

[ { "content": "My boyfriend is threatening to send my friends a sex tape of me, can the police help? I live in Kentucky. I am 21 and he is 26. He has a video of me where he made me lick him EVERYWHERE. It is so embarrassing. No one would look at me the same way if they saw it. He says if I ever break up with him he will send it to all my friends and family. He's not even really my bf anymore. He makes me spend the night at his apartment every night and demands sexual things but I hate the things he does to me. He keeps degrading me more and more in bed. Any time I tell him no he names one of my friends and starts to send them the video. So I always end up doing what he wants. He treats me horrible, he says he has stretched me out so bad I won't feel good to any other guy. He says no one will want to kiss me when he shows them the video. The only reason I do it is so he won't show people the video but he keeps getting more extreme in bed making me do worse things for him. It's like he is testing my limits. I've been told this is black mail and I could take him to court. But could the police arrest him without notice and look through all his stuff to find all the copies and delete them? Even if he gets in trouble he will still send everyone the video as soon as he gets a chance, I know him.", "role": "user" }, { "content": "Go to the police and ask about restraining orders and that he's blackmailing/extorting you and forcing you into sex. Ask the police about getting a restraining order that blocks him from contacting you AND talking to any third party about you. If he violates that you call the police and he'll go to jail. I'm sure if you told your friends what was going on they would block him from sending messages also. Anyone who judges you for this isn't your friend. I'm a stranger to you, and I'm on your side. He's hoping you're too scared of him and the repercussions of what he might do, so he can keep you in his control. Don't threaten to leave, don't tell him you're leaving, just leave him and go to the police.", "role": "assistant" } ]

[ { "content": "My boyfriend is threatening to send my friends a sex tape of me, can the police help? I live in Kentucky. I am 21 and he is 26. He has a video of me where he made me lick him EVERYWHERE. It is so embarrassing. No one would look at me the same way if they saw it. He says if I ever break up with him he will send it to all my friends and family. He's not even really my bf anymore. He makes me spend the night at his apartment every night and demands sexual things but I hate the things he does to me. He keeps degrading me more and more in bed. Any time I tell him no he names one of my friends and starts to send them the video. So I always end up doing what he wants. He treats me horrible, he says he has stretched me out so bad I won't feel good to any other guy. He says no one will want to kiss me when he shows them the video. The only reason I do it is so he won't show people the video but he keeps getting more extreme in bed making me do worse things for him. It's like he is testing my limits. I've been told this is black mail and I could take him to court. But could the police arrest him without notice and look through all his stuff to find all the copies and delete them? Even if he gets in trouble he will still send everyone the video as soon as he gets a chance, I know him.", "role": "user" }, { "content": "Not a lawyer, etc, and I'm not sure if the police can arrest him without notice (though I suspect not; they'll have to investigate before arresting him, and I'm not sure if they'll be able to do that without alerting him), but I'm pretty sure they won't delete the videos because it would be evidence of his blackmail. I'm sorry... :( Not legal advice, but: I know you're aware of this, but this seems like it's a very abusive situation, both mentally/emotionally *and* physically. I know, too, you're afraid to leave because of the blackmail, but please try to. This will require you to be brave, but if you talk to your family and friends (everyone you're afraid he's going to send it to) and explain to them that he's blackmailing you and abusing you, and he might send them something that he forced(?) you to do, I'm sure they'll understand. Ask them to delete it without responding or even looking at it. I've... not been in your exact shoes, but I know how mentally abusive people can be; they get inside of your head and make you think everyone will think the very worst for you, and that's just not the case. Reach out; people will be understanding, I promise. *Nothing* he's saying is true. :( Here's a good list about steps you may want to take to get out of the relationship. -hugs- (if you want them) I wish you the best of luck, and hopefully the bastard'll get what he deserves...", "role": "assistant" } ]

[ { "content": "My boyfriend is threatening to send my friends a sex tape of me, can the police help? I live in Kentucky. I am 21 and he is 26. He has a video of me where he made me lick him EVERYWHERE. It is so embarrassing. No one would look at me the same way if they saw it. He says if I ever break up with him he will send it to all my friends and family. He's not even really my bf anymore. He makes me spend the night at his apartment every night and demands sexual things but I hate the things he does to me. He keeps degrading me more and more in bed. Any time I tell him no he names one of my friends and starts to send them the video. So I always end up doing what he wants. He treats me horrible, he says he has stretched me out so bad I won't feel good to any other guy. He says no one will want to kiss me when he shows them the video. The only reason I do it is so he won't show people the video but he keeps getting more extreme in bed making me do worse things for him. It's like he is testing my limits. I've been told this is black mail and I could take him to court. But could the police arrest him without notice and look through all his stuff to find all the copies and delete them? Even if he gets in trouble he will still send everyone the video as soon as he gets a chance, I know him.", "role": "user" }, { "content": "I think you got GREAT responses from others. I will only comment on this statement... >Even if he gets in trouble he will still send everyone the video as soon as he gets a chance, I know him. The only way that you can ever really be free is to stand up and own it. (Freedom's just another word for nothing left to lose.) You can think about how embarrassing it will be if people see this video, or you can think about how it feels to be enslaved to someone who holds this over your head versus how it would feel to be free from that. The people who don't really know you aren't going to ever see the video or give a shit. The people who do know you will admire you for standing up to a blackmailer.", "role": "assistant" } ]

[ { "content": "My boyfriend is threatening to send my friends a sex tape of me, can the police help? I live in Kentucky. I am 21 and he is 26. He has a video of me where he made me lick him EVERYWHERE. It is so embarrassing. No one would look at me the same way if they saw it. He says if I ever break up with him he will send it to all my friends and family. He's not even really my bf anymore. He makes me spend the night at his apartment every night and demands sexual things but I hate the things he does to me. He keeps degrading me more and more in bed. Any time I tell him no he names one of my friends and starts to send them the video. So I always end up doing what he wants. He treats me horrible, he says he has stretched me out so bad I won't feel good to any other guy. He says no one will want to kiss me when he shows them the video. The only reason I do it is so he won't show people the video but he keeps getting more extreme in bed making me do worse things for him. It's like he is testing my limits. I've been told this is black mail and I could take him to court. But could the police arrest him without notice and look through all his stuff to find all the copies and delete them? Even if he gets in trouble he will still send everyone the video as soon as he gets a chance, I know him.", "role": "user" }, { "content": "Not a lawyer, etc, and I'm not sure if the police can arrest him without notice (though I suspect not; they'll have to investigate before arresting him, and I'm not sure if they'll be able to do that without alerting him), but I'm pretty sure they won't delete the videos because it would be evidence of his blackmail. I'm sorry... :( Not legal advice, but: I know you're aware of this, but this seems like it's a very abusive situation, both mentally/emotionally *and* physically. I know, too, you're afraid to leave because of the blackmail, but please try to. This will require you to be brave, but if you talk to your family and friends (everyone you're afraid he's going to send it to) and explain to them that he's blackmailing you and abusing you, and he might send them something that he forced(?) you to do, I'm sure they'll understand. Ask them to delete it without responding or even looking at it. I've... not been in your exact shoes, but I know how mentally abusive people can be; they get inside of your head and make you think everyone will think the very worst for you, and that's just not the case. Reach out; people will be understanding, I promise. *Nothing* he's saying is true. :( Here's a good list about steps you may want to take to get out of the relationship. -hugs- (if you want them) I wish you the best of luck, and hopefully the bastard'll get what he deserves...", "role": "assistant" } ]

[ { "content": "My boyfriend is threatening to send my friends a sex tape of me, can the police help? I live in Kentucky. I am 21 and he is 26. He has a video of me where he made me lick him EVERYWHERE. It is so embarrassing. No one would look at me the same way if they saw it. He says if I ever break up with him he will send it to all my friends and family. He's not even really my bf anymore. He makes me spend the night at his apartment every night and demands sexual things but I hate the things he does to me. He keeps degrading me more and more in bed. Any time I tell him no he names one of my friends and starts to send them the video. So I always end up doing what he wants. He treats me horrible, he says he has stretched me out so bad I won't feel good to any other guy. He says no one will want to kiss me when he shows them the video. The only reason I do it is so he won't show people the video but he keeps getting more extreme in bed making me do worse things for him. It's like he is testing my limits. I've been told this is black mail and I could take him to court. But could the police arrest him without notice and look through all his stuff to find all the copies and delete them? Even if he gets in trouble he will still send everyone the video as soon as he gets a chance, I know him.", "role": "user" }, { "content": "There is some good advice on this thread, but also a lot of bullshit. OP, going to the police is not your only option, nor is it probably the fastest. Your best bet is to retain a lawyer, and file for a Temporary Restraining Order (\"TRO\") and a preliminary injunction from him releasing the tape. I am not sure about KY, but most states allow for those to be granted ex parte, meaning he does not have to be there for the initial hearing. After you have the TRO and Temporary Injunction, the Court will set a hearing, often within a short time, to determine whether there is a substantial enough threat to continue the TRO and Injunction. In this case, I think you will have a really good shot. If he keeps contacting you or releases the video, he will be in contempt of court and can be arrested for that. Then, your lawyer can file a civil suit against him seeking a permanent injunction. This guy is a creep, and you need to pursue all options to keep him out of your life. The civil side takes a lot of it out of the discretion of the police and the prosecutor.", "role": "assistant" } ]

[ { "content": "My boyfriend is threatening to send my friends a sex tape of me, can the police help? I live in Kentucky. I am 21 and he is 26. He has a video of me where he made me lick him EVERYWHERE. It is so embarrassing. No one would look at me the same way if they saw it. He says if I ever break up with him he will send it to all my friends and family. He's not even really my bf anymore. He makes me spend the night at his apartment every night and demands sexual things but I hate the things he does to me. He keeps degrading me more and more in bed. Any time I tell him no he names one of my friends and starts to send them the video. So I always end up doing what he wants. He treats me horrible, he says he has stretched me out so bad I won't feel good to any other guy. He says no one will want to kiss me when he shows them the video. The only reason I do it is so he won't show people the video but he keeps getting more extreme in bed making me do worse things for him. It's like he is testing my limits. I've been told this is black mail and I could take him to court. But could the police arrest him without notice and look through all his stuff to find all the copies and delete them? Even if he gets in trouble he will still send everyone the video as soon as he gets a chance, I know him.", "role": "user" }, { "content": "A lot of good advice in this thread. I will add one other point: Document the hell out of everything you can remember to the best of your ability. Dates, times, text messages/emails, factual points of what happened. This will bolster your claim and diminish his.", "role": "assistant" } ]

[ { "content": "My boyfriend is threatening to send my friends a sex tape of me, can the police help? I live in Kentucky. I am 21 and he is 26. He has a video of me where he made me lick him EVERYWHERE. It is so embarrassing. No one would look at me the same way if they saw it. He says if I ever break up with him he will send it to all my friends and family. He's not even really my bf anymore. He makes me spend the night at his apartment every night and demands sexual things but I hate the things he does to me. He keeps degrading me more and more in bed. Any time I tell him no he names one of my friends and starts to send them the video. So I always end up doing what he wants. He treats me horrible, he says he has stretched me out so bad I won't feel good to any other guy. He says no one will want to kiss me when he shows them the video. The only reason I do it is so he won't show people the video but he keeps getting more extreme in bed making me do worse things for him. It's like he is testing my limits. I've been told this is black mail and I could take him to court. But could the police arrest him without notice and look through all his stuff to find all the copies and delete them? Even if he gets in trouble he will still send everyone the video as soon as he gets a chance, I know him.", "role": "user" }, { "content": "There is some good advice on this thread, but also a lot of bullshit. OP, going to the police is not your only option, nor is it probably the fastest. Your best bet is to retain a lawyer, and file for a Temporary Restraining Order (\"TRO\") and a preliminary injunction from him releasing the tape. I am not sure about KY, but most states allow for those to be granted ex parte, meaning he does not have to be there for the initial hearing. After you have the TRO and Temporary Injunction, the Court will set a hearing, often within a short time, to determine whether there is a substantial enough threat to continue the TRO and Injunction. In this case, I think you will have a really good shot. If he keeps contacting you or releases the video, he will be in contempt of court and can be arrested for that. Then, your lawyer can file a civil suit against him seeking a permanent injunction. This guy is a creep, and you need to pursue all options to keep him out of your life. The civil side takes a lot of it out of the discretion of the police and the prosecutor.", "role": "assistant" } ]

[ { "content": "My Mom lost custody of me years ago and I have a restraining order against her. She has requested a copy of my birth cert - is there anything I should be wary of legally / anything I should do? (Illinois) Background, my mom has drug addiction problems and lost custody of me when I was 15. My aunt on my dad's side became my legal guardian and this remained until I turned 18 (I am now 23). I had occasional contact with my mother over the years (she occasionally gets clean, before she relapses again). In fall of 2020 she relapsed again and her actions became increasingly problematic. She and her boyfriend broke into my apartment and threatened my roommate with a gun, at which point I got a restraining order against both of them and they have stayed away since. Recently my personal papers got wet from a leaking pipe in my apartment building and I requested a new copy of my birth cert. I had problems with the request and learned that my mother has actually ALSO made this request recently, and was mailed a copy of my birth cert in the last week of December. I am wary of what she would want this for - it's not exactly a keepsake item so I am not sure what she could be doing with it, which makes me fearful of credit fraud or something. I do have a freeze applied on my credit as I've worried about her trying to use my identity, but not sure what else I should be worried about. Is there anything specific I should be afraid of / anything I should do? Or is there a good reason someone knows of that she might have wanted this to assuage my fears lol?", "role": "user" }, { "content": "Could she be trying to apply for unemployment benefits or Covid relief payments? Do you need a birth certificate for those?", "role": "assistant" } ]

[ { "content": "My Mom lost custody of me years ago and I have a restraining order against her. She has requested a copy of my birth cert - is there anything I should be wary of legally / anything I should do? (Illinois) Background, my mom has drug addiction problems and lost custody of me when I was 15. My aunt on my dad's side became my legal guardian and this remained until I turned 18 (I am now 23). I had occasional contact with my mother over the years (she occasionally gets clean, before she relapses again). In fall of 2020 she relapsed again and her actions became increasingly problematic. She and her boyfriend broke into my apartment and threatened my roommate with a gun, at which point I got a restraining order against both of them and they have stayed away since. Recently my personal papers got wet from a leaking pipe in my apartment building and I requested a new copy of my birth cert. I had problems with the request and learned that my mother has actually ALSO made this request recently, and was mailed a copy of my birth cert in the last week of December. I am wary of what she would want this for - it's not exactly a keepsake item so I am not sure what she could be doing with it, which makes me fearful of credit fraud or something. I do have a freeze applied on my credit as I've worried about her trying to use my identity, but not sure what else I should be worried about. Is there anything specific I should be afraid of / anything I should do? Or is there a good reason someone knows of that she might have wanted this to assuage my fears lol?", "role": "user" }, { "content": "You did well by freezing your credit. It could be several things. Tax season is coming up, also there has been stimulus checks given out. She may be trying to pull something here.", "role": "assistant" } ]

[ { "content": "My Mom lost custody of me years ago and I have a restraining order against her. She has requested a copy of my birth cert - is there anything I should be wary of legally / anything I should do? (Illinois) Background, my mom has drug addiction problems and lost custody of me when I was 15. My aunt on my dad's side became my legal guardian and this remained until I turned 18 (I am now 23). I had occasional contact with my mother over the years (she occasionally gets clean, before she relapses again). In fall of 2020 she relapsed again and her actions became increasingly problematic. She and her boyfriend broke into my apartment and threatened my roommate with a gun, at which point I got a restraining order against both of them and they have stayed away since. Recently my personal papers got wet from a leaking pipe in my apartment building and I requested a new copy of my birth cert. I had problems with the request and learned that my mother has actually ALSO made this request recently, and was mailed a copy of my birth cert in the last week of December. I am wary of what she would want this for - it's not exactly a keepsake item so I am not sure what she could be doing with it, which makes me fearful of credit fraud or something. I do have a freeze applied on my credit as I've worried about her trying to use my identity, but not sure what else I should be worried about. Is there anything specific I should be afraid of / anything I should do? Or is there a good reason someone knows of that she might have wanted this to assuage my fears lol?", "role": "user" }, { "content": "Check your credit. Make sure no one has applied for unemployment benefits.", "role": "assistant" } ]

[ { "content": "My Mom lost custody of me years ago and I have a restraining order against her. She has requested a copy of my birth cert - is there anything I should be wary of legally / anything I should do? (Illinois) Background, my mom has drug addiction problems and lost custody of me when I was 15. My aunt on my dad's side became my legal guardian and this remained until I turned 18 (I am now 23). I had occasional contact with my mother over the years (she occasionally gets clean, before she relapses again). In fall of 2020 she relapsed again and her actions became increasingly problematic. She and her boyfriend broke into my apartment and threatened my roommate with a gun, at which point I got a restraining order against both of them and they have stayed away since. Recently my personal papers got wet from a leaking pipe in my apartment building and I requested a new copy of my birth cert. I had problems with the request and learned that my mother has actually ALSO made this request recently, and was mailed a copy of my birth cert in the last week of December. I am wary of what she would want this for - it's not exactly a keepsake item so I am not sure what she could be doing with it, which makes me fearful of credit fraud or something. I do have a freeze applied on my credit as I've worried about her trying to use my identity, but not sure what else I should be worried about. Is there anything specific I should be afraid of / anything I should do? Or is there a good reason someone knows of that she might have wanted this to assuage my fears lol?", "role": "user" }, { "content": "You did well by freezing your credit. It could be several things. Tax season is coming up, also there has been stimulus checks given out. She may be trying to pull something here.", "role": "assistant" } ]