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r/relationships TITLE: I [28F] am going to a combined bachelor/bachelorette party and don't want to participate in certain activities. Help! POST: Throwaway because this is a pretty specific problem. In a few weeks, I'm going to a weekend-long combined bachelor/bachelorette party. I will know 6 people there out of about 25. We're going to a lakehouse and I was incredibly excited for a weekend full of boating and chilling on the water. My excitement waned a little when I found out that we're going to be spending the majority of Saturday playing drinking games on teams. I would have been pumped to do this about 4 years ago, but now, I'm not much of a drinker and am really dreading participating in this. I'm 5'3" 110 lbs and usually have a max of 4 drinks when I go out. If I have any more, I get a wicked hangover. Plus, beer does not agree with me (they're getting kegs for the drinking games). I physically can't drink all day. So my question is simple: how do I get out of it? I'm not going to skip the entire weekend, so that's not a solution. If it was a bar crawl or some other drinking activity I could easily not drink a lot or simply pour out drinks if I'm peer-pressured. But this is different. There are teams and everyone is watching you. I don't know most of the people who will be there, but I do know this: they are big drinkers and are *very* competitive. Most (guys and girls) played collegiate sports. I know the teams will be pre-determined before we arrive. Should I let the organizer know that I would like to be a referee or something? What are some good ways to deal with the imminent peer pressure? I know I'm going to get a lot of shit for not participating. How can I hold my ground? I know this probably sounds like a really lame problem, but I appreciate any advice! TL;DR:

r/tifu TITLE: TIFU by mistaking a girl for a guy POST: This one actually happened a few hours ago. I'm absolutely mortified. A week ago, my friend's friends smoked us up. We were chilling and just generally having a good time. This girl comes in and off the bat I thought she was a he. So I'm joking around and try to guess everyone's name and I land on her. I call her John. In less than a millisecond I recognized NOPE, not a fucking john but a pretty feminine name and hey, guess what I'm an asshole. My friend and I stuck around for a bit and then left, both of us embarrassed as hell. Today, they invited her to a bonfire. She asked if I could come, they had no problem. She brings her girlfriend along, who turns out ends up going to the same college as me. We're not too friendly and I was absolutely shocked. I was at a solid [8] and ended up saying shit like "holy shit this is a one in a million thing", just general stupid shit you don't say. The rest of the night was super awkward and we ended up leaving. I am such an asshole. TL;DR:

r/AskReddit TITLE: Would you leave a government job to go back to the private sector for more pay, but a lesser quality of life? POST: Kindly bear with me as this might be a bit long-winded. I transitioned from the private sector as a Web Dev to a state job (doing the same work) about two years ago, and took a small pay cut which at the time seemed OK since the job with the state had a retirement option and good health insurance. Upon joining here, I instantly felt like a huge burden had been lifted from my shoulders - no more accounting on a time-sheet for every minute spent, no more rude clients, difficult project managers, capricious HR, etc. Instead, a trust based atmosphere, where everyone around me is well-educated, in a very professional setting, and the people are just much more mature. I have worked here for two years and not one day have I rued going to work, or not felt like going to work. I know the work, and not to be boastful, I do it very well. The people love my skills and the speed with which I develop. My time is my own, I can work from home when I like, and finish projects and take time to do them right. That being said, the pay cut really irks me. We are expecting our first child in the fall, and with our finances the way they are, we really could use more money. Enter complication - I just got contacted and offered a job by a private firm, as a project lead and a very real 60% raise over what I am earning now. It is unreal, and I am very giddy at the money I could be making. But at the same time I am having a very hard time saying goodbye to the only job I've ever loved, and the job security that goes with this job(people don't get fired here). What would you do Reddit? Would you leave job security, excellent coworkers, easy and predictable job for a pay hike? I am just at my wits end, and the new company wants to know ASAP. TL;DR:

r/relationships TITLE: I [21 M] am newly single after a 2 year committed relationship. I think I'm too scared to try dating/form new relationships in the future. Help? POST: Hi /r/relationships! Around New Years 2015 my fiancé [18 F] and I [21 M] broke off our engagement for mutual reasons, but having looked back on the situation surrounding our break-up, I'm starting to feel a bit anxious about even bothering with dating again. I've had several relationships (11) since my early teen's, bit of an early bloomer, and after this very serious 2 year relationship I don't feel I can continue bothering to meet women or date. Initially after breaking up, my ex- met someone new and I slept around quite a bit with previous girlfriends and my ex's friends, which of course sparked a lot of tension. But now that I have, in no uncertain terms, satisfied my needs sexually, I feel quite drained and empty emotionally. Personally I am very outgoing, I work out often and am looking at career prospects in the Navy, but the only part of my life that is stunted is my ability to feel love, or physical attraction. Is this my mind's way of telling me to cool off for a while before trying again, or have I truly worn myself out emotionally too? TL;DR:

r/relationships TITLE: Me [24 M] with my GF [23 F] are hitting a wall about living together POST: I graduated from college two years ago and she is graduating this May. We have been dating for 2 years and have been living together since August while she finished her last year of school. Now this shes graduating, she wants to move home for work in order to save money. Right now we live together in peace with our two cats and have no issues being roommates / significant others. We really enjoy each others company. Here's the storyline now :: she wants to save this money in order to purchase an apartment in the town we currently live in because that is the town she is working in. Her plan is in 2 or 3 years time to have enough for a down payment for this apartment. She wants to buy a place in order to not waste money on rent and "for the opportunity to live alone", as she puts it. However, she has no plans about our situation living together. Her only plan is to live home and eventually get a mortgage on a place. When I've asked her, she said she has no idea what the future is going to be like and even mentioned 6 years from now; 3 years living on her own? My issue is I don't want to be 30 years old dating a girl for 8 years before we finally move in for real together. But I can't stop her from wanting to follow what she wants to do. I wish she would say when I buy this place we can move in together, but she won't commit to saying anything about the future. And this also affects me because is she has no real plans for us in the future, I'm wasting time, and how much money I should save for myself. I'm not saying I want to buy a suburban house tomorrow, but I do want some kind of plan since we are serious about being together. TL;DR:

r/loseit TITLE: Hey loseit, I need some advice for a friend POST: So my friend has always been thin, but struggles with her body image. I personaly think she has always looked amazing and especially now considering she has had three kids! Anyway, she has it stuck in her head that she HAS to weigh 110lbs in order to feel good about herself. I keep trying to tell her that numbers don't matter as long as she looks great and feels good about herself. She's not the best at healthy eating and I've been trying to give her advice. She'd rather starve herself. :/ I did convince her to start using myfitnesspal to track calories. She bought a treadmill and uses it everyday for walking. She's about 5'5" I think and around 125-130lbs. She's real self conscious about her stomach (having three kids it's not totally flat but she's nowhere near being overweight at all). Would you guys have any advice I could give her to help her focus on toning and not worry so much about her actual weight? I tried to tell her that muscle burns more calories and she will feel a lot better if she just ate right and toned. Any help is appreciated! She's my best friend and I love her dearly and I just hate hearing her hate herself so much. TL;DR:

r/relationships TITLE: My 4 year girlfriend [22f] is too busy for the relationship POST: So ill try to sum this up as nicely as possible. Basically Ive been dating my SO for 4 years now. We met in college and never looked back. Personally Ive never been more in love with her, and nothing about the relationship would indicate her feeling differently. In August she was accepted to med-school, and she has been working her ass off since. Shes in a different city than myself but I had been making weekend trips to see her every so often and things were going well. However, last night she decided to tell me her feelings have been changing and she doesnt know how she feels us. Basically she says that she has been focusing on herself so much that she wants an independent lifestyle to rely on herself and to decide what is best for her. She says that being with me doesnt allow her to be true to herself. To me this has all been a shock. I feel my personal life and my professional life are separate, and that no matter what happens I will always want her by my side. I feel like I dont deserve to be in a relationship with a woman who doesnt know if the relationship is worth it to her. She says she wants time to figure things out but I have been giving her space. Ive asked her to think about what she truly wants, but she makes it out as im pushing her to make a decision. The last thing I want to do is break up with her, but I dont want to carry on like this. Im really crushed by all of this. What am I suppose to do? TL;DR:

r/AskReddit TITLE: Why won't my dog stop chasing his tail? POST: He's a Boston Terrier-Beagle mix and he's driving me insane. He has fixation issues and will never leave something be if he wants it bad enough. I will have to hide something for days for him to stop looking for it. He will chase his tail about 4-5 times a day. During each time he chases his tail for a solid hour and intermittently he will gnaw on his foot out of frustration. He does it everywhere, on the hard-wood floors, (so I hear his clicka-claka of his little nails the whole time) on the couch, (he eventually falls off or spills over into my lap because he becomes oblivious to his surroundings) and when I try to take him out (makes his #2s look like a Jackson Pollock). I don't want to get rid of him because he is just too cute, but I am worried for my sanity. I was wondering if any of you have similar problems? Any advice? TL;DR:

r/Dogtraining TITLE: Opinion/advice needed on off-leash neighborhood dog POST: Background: My lab, age 2, came into our lives at about 1.5. A breeder didn't want him anymore but things we have learned about him is that he probably didn't meet many other dogs (he overly sniffs, prefers attention of humans, heckles always raise instantly with other dogs but it goes away in a minute). So, he is still very "new" to greeting dogs. But, dog encounters, when he has them, are always friendly. First let me preface this by saying that the off-leash labrador in question is a very friendly one. She is older (probably around 7-8 years old, a rescue) and very compliant to the owner, but walks/jogs off leash around our suburban neighborhood. She typically is walking ahead of the owner, but will immediately stop and sit if the owner asks her to. When we do pass them every so often, she'll be trotting ahead of the owner and make her way towards us, face on. My lab will perk his ears up, furl his eyebrows (the same way he is when he's alert over a squirrel) and bark at her. They have greeted each other in the past, but she was dominating him (nothing aggressive) and we parted ways. I wanted him to calm down so I told the owner sorry, no greeting today. She sat and watched a barky Toby walk by. TL;DR:

r/relationships TITLE: BF[25/M] (1 year) won't play online games with me[24/F] because I'm bad, but plays with other girl [20s/F](cause she's good), & won't teach me. I'm jealous. POST: My BF is a competitive gamer. I'm a casual gamer. At first he was playing solo, but it was lonely. We played together but he would get annoyed because my rank isn't as high as his so we matched with lower people (my level) & lose. He doesn't like teaching in general. So I've stopped playing with him, but he plays with other people... He plays with this girl. BF says It's the opposite situation with her. Her BF is lower ranked. I get that she has a BF. I know my BF is just playing with her based on skill. They don't flirt or anything. I'm just jealous she gets to play with my BF & I don't. How do I handle this? Any suggestions? & how do I deal with this jealousy? I suggested we try connecting & bonding over other things: cooking (he doesn't like to cook together), doing a puzzle (2k puzzle was too much for him, so I did it on my own), going to movies (gets expensive), watching movie at home (he falls asleep/rather game when home), played monopoly once, Legos, Sorry if post is all over the place... Not sure what to do...thank u in advanced for any insight & advice. TL;DR:

r/relationships TITLE: Me [19F] with my boyfriend [21M] have been together 7months, but I am not sure if this is what I want POST: Me and my boyfriend's relationship has been really lacking for the past few months. We have had a lot of problems, and he lives 4 hours away so we rarely get to be together. Our relationship and friendship before were always amazing. We talked about everything. We just clicked I guess. Recently I haven't been unhappy, but I haven't been happy either. I feel like we are dating out of convenience. We have talked about all of our problems, but I am just not sure if this is what I want. What got me really emotional is I just found a bunch of screenshots from our time as friends and our first few months dating. Nothing is the same. The things we wanted, the things we wanted to be, nothing. The thought of staying with him doesn't excite me, but the thought of losing him hurts too. Is this normal? Should we break up? Bottom line: I just don't feel happy anymore. TL;DR:

r/dating_advice TITLE: Rebuilding trust POST: My SO and i had a rough time in the beginning of our relationship, and there was some dishonestly on my SO's part a few times. We've been together for a few years now and i need to be able to fully trust the things my SO tells me. For a while we were doing great, until today when i walked in on my SO smoking when he had told me he had quit. Admittedly, i was suspicious because i always smelled cigarettes on him but when i would ask about it, the response was always "i havent smoked in a long time!" And he would be upset when i didnt believe him But the underlying problem is the trust. I understand quitting smoking is hard, but why lie about it? It sucks to always wonder if your SO is lying or not. How should i approach this? I don't want to be an asshole about it, but i need my SO to know i can't trust so easily anymore. TL;DR:

r/relationships TITLE: Me [17 M] with my HUGE Crush [17 F]. POST: So I have had a crush on this girl, we can call her Sam, for about 5 months and don't really know how to talk to her or get her attention. Let me explain: We are currently both seniors in high school. I have know her since elementary school and have always liked her but my feelings for her really grew at the end of my junior year. I had gotten my seat changed in my math class as we would every semester and I got a seat next to her. I started some regular talk, said hello when she walked in asked her how she was, etc. We would work together on most assignments sometimes joined with another friend of hers. Almost immediately I felt it and really developed my crush on her. I now and have been thinking about her all the time and can't get the feelings and thoughts of her out of my mind. ALL THE TIME EVERY DAY. Here is the problem: I never really told her because of how awkward I thought it would be the next day having to sit next to her if she hadn't shared the same feelings for me. (Yes I am aware I should have told her then but I didn't. Not going to dwell on the past.) We are currently both seniors and only share one class together but I don't really have any time to talk to her. We walk in sit in our seats (opposite sides of the room) teacher talks for the entire period, then we leave. I still say hello if we walk out the door at the same time but after that we go our separate ways. I don't know how I could tell her or even get her phone number and talk to her for a bit and she how she feels. Like I said we are both seniors and I might not ever get an opportunity again after we graduate. I need some advice/help with what I could or should do. Any and all help is appreciated. I also feel like I could be missing something so might have to add it in later via edit. And I will apologize for any grammar mistakes; I am pretty tired typing this. TL;DR:

r/BreakUps TITLE: Me [27M] with my ex [25F] dealing with toxicity POST: Long story short. I was dating a girl for 10 months. Last march we broke up. I felt free. I broke up with this girl because of her irrational and unjustified jealousy. She went through some shit on her previous relations and, after a few months with me, she started to do some crazy shit. Last 3 months were wicked: she started to look at my phone; she yelled at me while drunk after some party for some shit. Let me tell you right now: I never cheated on her. Not even close. So, one day I felt enough is enough and I broke up with her. The following months were amazing. I felt good and better without her; I started a new job at an amazing company; I had a great summer; I bought a new car; I moved to a better home; I kept working on myself. But for the last months there have been obviously periods where I have missed here. But last weekend was awful... it was like: why I feel like this? I am objectively better without here. It was toxic; unhealthy. My opinion is: I miss the routine; I miss the good moments we had (there was good moments); I miss the good sex. But I don't miss the shit; the crazyness; the unreasonable fucking discussions. Any advice from you? Thanks for, at least, reading me. Peace and love. TL;DR:

r/relationships TITLE: My [36F] brother [40M] 'accidentally' shot his son [8M] with a bow and arrow in the arm. His ex wife and daughters don't speak to him. He keeps pressuring me to get them to talk to him POST: So as title states my moron brother shot a arrow through his sons arm. I don't care if it was an accident it was moronic to do what he did. He told his son to go pick something up near the target and he did. He decided this was a good time to shoot an arrow and it hit his son on the arm. His wife and daughters [40F, 16F, 14F,10F] refuse to believe this was an accident. His wife divorced him and nothing could change her mind about it. They think even if it was a mistake, it's unforgivable to shoot an bow and arrow around a child when he is near the target. My nieces have become super protective of my nephew since that day. Their mother tells me they play with him all the time. My brother keeps pressuring me to get his daughters and ex wife to speak to him. It's getting to the point where he calls me in the middle of the night to make it happen. How do I get him to stop? TL;DR:

r/relationships TITLE: I 27M asked a girl 27F out and got a maybe/rejection but now she's texting me randomly? POST: So like the title says, I asked a girl I met through a friend out and she said she doesn't do one on one dates, only group hangouts. I took that as a soft rejection because we didn't really know each too well. This was maybe a month ago. But over the last few days, she's randomly texted me, asking if I'm coming to the gym we both workout at and just random stuff. Like today we've spent most of the day talking about book preferences, work, how she wants to buy a house, etc... So my question is what gives? Am I reading too much into this or is she just being friendly. She could have asked our mutual friend if we were working out (we work out together), but she asked me. TL;DR:

r/relationship_advice TITLE: 28M married to 28F need some advice POST: First i want to set up what's going on, we met through a friend and things spiraled fast we fell for each other hard, She became pregnant, i did the right thing and proposed to her, she then had a miscarriage. We both agreed that we wanted to be together so we decided to try for another kid.. My son was born in august of 2010. I decided before he was born to goto college and provide a better life for him so i went through basically hell of a full time job, a full time college schedule and taking care of our son at night so she could rest cause i was gone for 12-15 hours per day, every day meaning i only got 1-2 hours a night of sleep tops. Things got better and we decided we wanted to have a second kid because we both wanted to be done with the hell of raising an infant by the time we were 30. so flash forward a year. I still am working my ass off school, work, kid. Wife starts having doubts of wanting to be with me says i'm not doing "enough" not knowing what enough means i promised her it would get better and to be patient. Flash forward another year, i upgraded my shitty job to a decent job and graduated with an associates degree things seem to be looking better. Second son is born october of 2012. Now we are kinda back to what we were doing before. I work 6-7 hours a day for a small company as a developer but when i get home it's instantly my responsibility to take care fo the kids, clean house, make dinner and then i stay up at night with our second son while she rests. on weekends it's 100% my responsibility to take care of the kids and if i ask for help i get mean looks of "really?" or "stop bothering me" and it will be simple things like hand me a diaper or, can you get a glass of water for the 2 year old, or make a bottle? TL;DR:

r/Cooking TITLE: Question on Lasagna making (and using an enamel/cast iron pot) POST: Hi folks - I'm trying a new lasagna recipe this weekend, and I'm pretty excited. However, it's going to be two MASSIVE pans of lasagna (about 4lbs of meat/4lbs of cheese in each one), and I'd like to do the prep/assembly the day before so I'm not spending the entire day on it (I'm not a very good cook, even following an easy recipe takes me forever). So my question is this: if I'm using "oven-ready" lasagna noodles, am I safe to go so far as to assemble the lasagna (with cooked meat sauce, cheese and oven-ready lasagna noodles all stacked in the pan) and then put the pan into the fridge overnight and bake it the next day? Or will that screw things up somehow (do the noodles absorb moisture or something)? Should I bake it a little bit first, then warm it up the next day? Another question - the recipe specifies I should cook the meat (and eventually the rest of the sauce) in either a cast-iron pot or an enamel pot (like a Le Creuset). Is that really that important? I don't have a cast iron pot (I know, I'm not a real cook - but I never claimed to be!), and I definitely don't have time to get one & season it before this weekend - and I don't want to spend the money on a Le Creuset just for this dish (despite how awesome it's going to be). Can I just use my favorite giant teflon-coated saucepan (you want to kill me now, don't you)? Thanks for your advice! TL;DR:

r/relationships TITLE: She [29/F] is moving cross country in a year. I'm [30/M] not sure what to do. POST: So about a year ago, I met a woman who I instantly had a serious connection with. We got involved pretty quick, and we dated for a few months before she decided she didn't have time for a relationship, and broke things off. We went through a bit of a rough patch, and it sucked, but we have recently (within the last couple of weeks) rekindled things, and it's been nice. The problem is that in a year, she has every intention of moving across the country. I've known this for some time, so it's not a huge surprise or anything. My question is, do I continue to see this woman and enjoy the time we have together despite knowing that there is an expiration date on whatever it is we have together, or do I just cut ties and move on with my life and miss out on getting to spend at least this time with her? TL;DR:

r/relationships TITLE: My (24F) boyfriend's (28M) vacation plans worry me POST: So we have been together for a year and a half. Our friends were getting married and we were going to be in the wedding party but they called off the wedding. The bachelorette party already happened while the wedding was still on but it was just a low key night and the bachelor party was supposed to be this weekend but since it was too late for them to cancel and get their money back it's now a "forever a bachelor" party. The plan was always for them to go to Vegas and I knew they would be going to strip clubs and gambling and I'm cool with all of that. One of their friends said he didn't think he should attend the wedding/bachelor party because he really didn't support the marriage but he's now coming to the new version of their Vegas bachelor party. He's crazy rich and is a professional poker player (I think), DEFINITELY does drugs and he's turned the weekend into something else entirely. He's upgraded the rooms to like a big suite where they'll all stay and a bunch of his model friends (like 50 girls + are in the Facebook group) are going now and it has been really hyped up to be a crazy party weekend. I'm worried about everything now and my boyfriends never given me reason to think he would cheat but everything about this upcoming weekend is making me super nervous. I don't want to tell him not to go because it sounds like a fun weekend, but would I be a bad girlfriend if I asked to join them? If I'm being stupid for worrying about this just say so. TL;DR:

r/relationships TITLE: I (31M) cant seem to get over my ex (28F). Why is this taking so long? POST: Basics: - Together for 6 mo - We live in different countries but she was planning to move to mine for work. - Cant give too many specifics because I know she reads this sub too. This girl was my first relationship following my divorce in 2014. And right from the start I fell for her hard. And I have every reason to believe she felt the same. We saw each other fairly often for being half a world away and talked on Skype daily. We had so much in common and thanks to Reddit and Imgur we had tons of horrible internet inside jokes right from the word "go". But like all good things, it ended. There was no cheating, no dramatic moment. It's cliche to say it, but it ended *not with a bang, but a whimper*. We simply wanted different lives. I wanted to be a family man and she didnt want to have kids. And as much as she wanted to be with me, she couldnt bridge that chasm and give up on the life that she wanted to live. I get that; hell, the reason I ended my marriage was because my ex and I wanted different lives. So I recognize that it took tons of guts for her to tell it to me straight like that. Here is the weird thing about it... This breakup was more devastating to me than the end of my 10 year marriage. Part of that must be due to that I ended my marriage whereas this relationship was ended by her; but still. Why should a 6 mo relationship hurt more than losing someone I was with for more than 10 years? Fast forward to today. I'm not over her. Dunno when I will be. I'm not the mopey type of guy but every time I see something that reminds me of her its like a cloud descends on my whole mood and it's affecting my job. So here I am. TL;DR:

r/dogs TITLE: Potentially dangerous dog with a potentially incapable owner? POST: This past winter, I moved to an apartment near a town home complex, where a lady and her Rottweiler live. Don't get me wrong-I adore the bully breeds (especially Rotties!), but my concern is the fact that this particular dog seems to be aggressive. Now that the weather is nice again, I've started going for walks outside in the mornings, and whenever I pass this lady and her dog, the Rottweiler lunges at me. I've seen this happen with other people too. This morning it even growled and barked as I tried to pass. The biggest issue is the fact that the woman walking the dog is *tiny*-like there's no way she can even be five feet tall, because I'm 5'3 and she's over a head shorter than I am-and every time the dog lunges, she gets jarred and shouts at the dog. Basically, if that dog *really* wanted to get loose, there would be no stopping it. To whom would I address these concerns? The dog hasn't actually attacked me or anything, but I just feel like this is irresponsible of the owner to walk a dog of that size when she can't control it very well. Also, I should add that I know the general area of the complex where she lives, but not the exact house. TL;DR:

r/relationships TITLE: my [24F] boyfriend [28M] pays our rent/utilities/groceries and doesn't think I'm grateful, what can I do to show him that I am? POST: 24F/28M, 4 years together I am a graduate student. The first two years my boyfriend and I were dating I lived with my parents to save money so I could devote my entire income to beginning to pay off my (hefty) student loans. He wanted to move in together and I told him that wouldn't be possible for me until I graduated. He said he'd help me out. I asked him if he was sure and he said absolutely, it would be more than worth it if he could be with me everyday. I moved in with him and he pays our rent, utilities, groceries, and anytime we go out to eat or see a movie or something "extra" like that. I pay my cell phone bill, tuition, and for any personal items I need. Whenever we get in fights, regardless of what it's about he always brings up that he doesn't think I'm grateful enough. I *am* grateful, I just don't know how to show it in a way he would notice and/or understand, and I think it would be tacky of me to point out the ways that I *have* been grateful. I'm definitely not assuming- I let him pick the groceries and never ask him to buy anything that only I eat, and I clean up after myself in the apartment. When I have time I try to cook dinner for him as often as I can. Going out to dinner or movies is never my idea- when he asks I usually say something like, "Are you sure? I can cook something for dinner instead if you want." Not that this is related, but we have sex multiple times a week, so that can't be the issue either. The only other way I can think to show my "appreciation" would be to say thank you randomly, but wouldn't that be awkward? I'm not sure when/how often I should say it. How can I show him I appreciate what he's doing for me? TL;DR:

r/tifu TITLE: TIFU by going to the Eastern States Expo (The Big E) when it was making history. POST: So today I spent about 3 hours in traffic on the way there, about 45mins in line waiting for tickets just to enter. Then waited approx. 15mins to an hour at any given time a clusterfuck of 1,000-10,000 people decided to move in different directions at once. An hour here to wait for the circus, a half-hour to leave it. Lets not forget we're all walking at half-strides, shoulder to shoulder, slowly making your way around all the people that think its a good idea to have a in-depth conversation in the middle of a fucking intersection or state house(the biggest attractions). A 20 minute line just to cross the street leaving the fair, and then another 2 hours of traffic getting out of West Springfield. TL;DR:

r/relationship_advice TITLE: A question concerning sex... POST: This is probably gonna come off as quite amusing to some of you, but thats fine. Thank god for the anonymity of the internet! So, this question concerns my new girlfriend. We've recently started having sex, and shes into it, but she keeps mentioning finding out what my boundaries are, and pushing them. Now I'm a pretty open minded guy, and I'll try most anything once. I'd like to think I'm fairly adventurous even, but there is one thing she mentions that bothers me. She likes rough sex, which I'm all for occasionally, but she likes some pain, some hitting, hair pulling, choking, and the real big one for me, name calling. This is just... well, it's outside my comfort zone. I don't know how to be a "mean" guy in bed. I'm usually very quiet, and if I try to be verbal, i.e. name call or talk dirty, I just feel ridiculously embarassed and quickly lose all steam. How the hell can I try to feel more into that sort of thing? It's just not me, but I really want to do what I can for my woman. Sex with my previous partners has always been fulfilling because I knew exactly how to please and that's honestly 80% of my enjoyment. I like the power you feel when you can get someone off, it's exhilarating. TL;DR:

r/AskReddit TITLE: BB Bold or the Storm? Yay or Nay? POST: My girlfriend's mom is getting rid of her Blackberry Storm, (I love her to bits but) she's one of those people that just, on a whim, replaces anything because it's out of style or because the fashion magazines and rap videos tell her to. Yeah. Anyway, she's getting rid of her BB Storm, it's a touch screen, it's nice, etc. I have a Bold 9000, perfect phone for me, looks nice, durable, and it's served me well since I've gotten it. The Storm looks like it's fun to use, I've never had a touch gadget (I do so love tactile buttons, but I hear the Storm is a press-to-touch deal) other than that touch pad on my Zune/DS/tablet. So yay or nay? Does the Storm have any drawbacks that I should know about? Or would my Bold be the one I take to the ball? Note: I'm getting this Storm for free, so there's no cost other than the 15 minutes it takes to change my phone with my cell phone provider. TL;DR:

r/relationships TITLE: My (21M) girlfriend (20F) of 2.5 years won't talk to me unless I get STD tested (which I AM NOT doing) because she doesn't trust me. POST: [Here] is the backstory for this situation written on the wrong throwaway. This girl who I vented to (in front of her boyfriend) has lost her mind and has started harassing my girlfriend. I can't do anything to stop it because I don't have her contact information. However, she told my girlfriend to tell me to "stop trying to hook up with her because she's engaged." My girlfriend refers to this girl as my mistress and said she will no longer believe anything I say and has no trust in me. She then mentioned that she doesn't want to touch me because of my "NEED to masturbate daily." She said she can no longer lie to herself and think I DIDN'T have a physical (or emotional) relationship with this girl. She doesn't believe that I haven't. Reddit, I haven't. She said she won't talk to me until I get STD tested and still won't believe I didn't have a relationship with this girl. She said she'll be waiting until I make the appointment. I haven't responded to her 14 page text yet because I'm in shock. My girlfriend is my only sexual partner ever and the only girl I've kissed in the past 4 years. I AM NOT getting STD tested. I will not give in to that because nothing I ever do makes my manipulative girlfriend trust me. And I will not falsely admit I did something with this stupid girl. TL;DR:

r/legaladvice TITLE: UK - DVLA fine taken to court, who do I owe the money to? POST: I was fined £100 by the DVLA for not declaring my motorbike SORN / not having proper insurance (I haven't been riding the bike). I left home and moved in with my aunt because of problems with my family, and consequently didn't receive the post informing me that I was being summoned to court for it - I know I'm supposed to have updated my address but I'm struggling financially and emotionally and didn't put it very high on my list of priorities. As I didn't attend, a default verdict was given and I now owe £330, which is a £200 fine and £130 court fees. I can't tell the court that I didn't get the letter due to leaving home because obviously not notifying the DVLA is an offence in itself and carries a heavier fine; so I'm electing to just pay the fine any try to move on. Problem being, I don't have £330, and I won't have for another month, though the fine is due in 2 days. I want to ask if I could perhaps pay an amount this month, as a gesture of good faith, and then pay the rest next month once I have been paid. Or, maybe even set up a monthly payment plan. I want to know who I owe the money to, so that I know who I have to speak with; to try and get this sorted out. TL;DR:

r/relationships TITLE: I [18 M] am no longer happy with my clingy Gf [19 F] and don't know how to end it. POST: Me and my girlfriend have been dating for about a year and a half. I am her first boyfriend and she assumes were gonna be together forever. Last year she went to college three hours away from me. She became super insecure and jealous of me. This year I am also attending college although I'm adding an extra two hours to our distance making it about a 5 hour drive to see each other. While she was at college i realized i really wasn't as happy as I could be with her. I kinda brushed it off thinking the next summer when she came back would hopefully be better. Needless to say it wasn't. we fought constantly. This took a huge strain on me. Now as I'm attending college on my own I am experiencing everything I missed out on. I'm realizing how happy I am without her. We've fought via phone and text almost everyday I've been here. I have recently made friends who are girls that make me truly happy. Now, I'm not saying i want a relationship with said girls, but i realize how much happier they make me feel and don't bring me down constantly. My girlfriend is very attached and believes I'm gonna be the man she spends the rest of her life with. Again she has never experienced a boyfriend before me. Although, she doesn't treat me as if i am this all around amazing guy she thinks I am. she yells at me and guilt trips me on the daily while I'm here at school trying to get involved and make the best out of my time here. She expects me to never leave my room and only talk and FaceTime her with my spare time. I am very close to her family, and also do not want to ruin her life. Thats what makes ending it so hard. I guess what I'm Asking is where should I go from her? Do i pursue my happiness or suffer to keep hers? TL;DR:

r/relationships TITLE: Me [28 M] with my wife [27 F] 4 years, my mom found her fake IDs and thinks she's using me. [UPDATE] POST: Op _____________________________________________________________________________ So I'm back and yes I've talked to my mother and it did not go well. I called her over and my wife and daughter went out for the day so I could talk to her. She came over and, she asked about my wife I told her everything was fine. I just got to the punch and told her what was going to happen if she didn't stop her behavior. "My wife has done nothing to you to deserve to be treated this way, and if you have a problem with her you have a problem with me. She is not going to 'scam' me or 'use' me we've been together for 4 years now. She would have to be a pretty damn good faker to scam me for this long don't you think. I have decided that if you do not stop this behavior I will go no contact with you." She got mad asked how I could say that to her and then cried a little then said. I'm not her son anymore and left. It kinda......hurt that my own mother could just drop me that fast like nothing. My sister called and, actually told me that my mom has hated my wife ever since we met. She said my mom would call her nasty names and even called our child names as well. She said my mom would just pretend to get along with my wife for "my sake" but she hated her. It feels surreal like just the flip of a switch was all she needed and, it set her off. After all of that I took my wife and daughter to the park and I felt really happy. I was sad because of what my mom had said but I feel better knowing that I have a family. My wife made a joke and said "plot twist what if it turns out our daughter is the one scamming both of us" hehe. But I feel better now and I'm going to focus on my family right now and that's pretty much it. Bye, and thanks for all the advice. TL;DR:

r/relationship_advice TITLE: I'm[19/f] having serious insecurity issues in a otherwise healthy relationship[22/m]. POST: For backstory purposes, my last two relationships ended in them cheating on me. Didn't see it coming in either one. One of them was a 2 year relationship. Fastfoward to now: I met my now boyfriend in late December. Things happened pretty quick. Within the first month I was staying over every night/sleeping together. After about 3 months I moved the 45+ miles and transferred my job to the town where he is and now we live together. We're going on 5 months now. I was having issues with jealousy/snooping through his phone with no explaination as to why I was paranoid, he has given me no reason to not trust him... however he had a serious discussion with me and told me it needed to stop or he'd end up resenting me. For the most part, I'm over that and haven't touched his phone since. Now I have all of these crazy insecurities coming out of the woodwork. I don't feel attractive, smart, or that I have anything to bring to the relationship. He's incredibly intelligent, is a handy man with vehicles, has musical talent, etc., and I have nothing to show in the way of talents/skills. It doesn't help that he never compliments unless I fish for it. I tell him repeatedly I don't feel good about myself and he doesn't do anything to convince me that I should which just lets me down lower. I feel mediocre. All I want is for him to be affectionate with words and tell me what I mean to him/what he likes about me. I know he loves me and is generally a very sweet guy. I can't decide if he's clueless or if he doesn't feel that I'm special in any way. It's developing into a serious insecurity and I'm afraid the jealousy I've worked hard to not indulge in will come back. Any one have any suggestions/opinions on how I should handle this or what I can do to better the situation? TL;DR:

r/AskReddit TITLE: AskReddit: I put my arm around a girl who as been flirting with me for weeks but rejected the attention based on her recent break up. What do I do now? POST: It's hard to fit this all in a submission title, so here are some more details. So this girl and I have been hanging out and chatting a lot lately. Lots of flirting from what I can tell. She'd lean her head on my arm, give long deep hugs at greetings and departures, overall been touchy and compliments me a lot and says things like "you're great." I took all this as signs that I have the green light to make a move. The night I was planning on doing this she tells me she had just broke up with someone, so I held off, unsure whether she was telling me she doesn't want to be in a relationship right now *or* if she was telling me the runway is clear and I'm a go for landing a kiss on her. As I said, I held off to see how the rest of the night went and she was still flirty with me. So we hang out a few days later on the weekend, we just talk and hang out for about an hour or two. I walked with her on her way to work and we were joking and laughing, so I figured this was a good time to put my arm around her and see how that floats. When I do that, she reminds me she had just ended a relationship and "isn't available." I was pretty dumbfounded to be honest. She continued to talk about how there was a mutual attraction going on, which I was pleased to hear, but I'm still confused about the whole thing. Anyone know what I should do now? I like her quite a bit and would like to pursue something with her. TL;DR:

r/relationships TITLE: broke up long ago...wtf is my problem. POST: ok, so this is my attempt at getting over a relationship. SO and I were together for 8 years and it ended about 18 months ago (started at 20). We got along fairly well and had gone through so much together before it fell apart...moved across the country away from our families, bought our first home, got engaged, moved back across the country...Trouble is, I don't know if I ever was really happy with her. I cheated on her (she doesn't know about it), and what finally ended the relationship was the fact that she cheated on me. What I couldn't take was that she had formed a relationship with this new guy. What I had done was wrong, but it never went past a sexual thing. I couldn't stand the thought that she had fallen for another man. Her words, "we had an emotional connection"...that moment will haunt me forever. We tried to work it out but it just wasn't happening. Fast forward to now...I'm with someone new and we are having a baby in the next 6 months. It wasn't on purpose, but I am absolutely thrilled at the prospect of raising a child with this woman. The problem is, I can't seem to shake the thought of my ex. I can't help but wonder if she is happy, if we could have worked it out, if I could have forgiven her eventually. I know inside that it's better for us both to be apart, but I literally cannot shake the feeling that my new SO is trying to make me move on. I don't understand why I feel this way. I almost resent her for being a person that I want to be with. I have dated 4 or 5 other girls since the breakup but this one is different. We have a great time together, she's incredibly talented, smart, beautiful, and genuinely loves me. Why can't I feel the same way about her as I did/do about my ex? I want to think about my current SO when I'm lonely..not my ex!!!! Or when I daydream...I want it to be about my current SO. this sucks. TL;DR:

r/relationships TITLE: Me [26 M] with my [20 F] gf of one year, dont know what to do as she wants me to be more fun, afraid she will cheat POST: Hi So I've been dating my gf for over a year now. In september my father was diagnosed with cancer, so I went back to living with my parents to help them. My gf is at university and just finished her year by failing some important competitive exam she was preparing for years. Now she has the whole summer of free-time. I've been pretty much depressed by my situation at home since January and I admit I've had lower energy levels (also because I took a new job where I am back home at no before 8PM). During the school year I spent most of my free time with her going to her place, and helping her with preparing her exams etc (she didn't have that much freetime to do fun stuff) My gf is complaining that I'm not fun and cheerful enough, and that I'm also depressed / bringing her down. For this summer she tells me she wants to have fun and do crazy thing because she had a shit year. Now the issue is twofold : - I have no time during the week days to see her as I'm working - When I'm with her I fear I may not be fun enough for her and that she will resent me for this She tells me that she has been chatting up with old male friends to have more fun / laugh more and that this is a good thing for us because she needs to have fun. I'm just worried she will eventually meet these guys and basically cheat on me. What should I do ? I love her with all my heart and I want to do all I can to make her happy TL;DR:

r/AskReddit TITLE: Would you care if a girl you dated had breast implants? POST: I am a very modest girl; dress conservatively, shy, etc. I am getting small breast implants because my boobs are lopsided. One is a full cup size bigger than the other and it is quite marked when I'm naked (obviously), in a bra/bathing suit, or going braless/wearing something low cut. I'm 19, and I'm a virgin. Yes, guys have seen my breasts before, and yes, they did notice the size difference and usually comment. I just feel really uncomfortable/inhibited with them being so different, in and out of clothes. They have been this way since I was 13 and I am now done developing according to my family doc and gyno. I am getting implants over winter break with an excellent surgeon. (I am in college). I'm requesting a very natural look--I honestly don't want anyone to know, and I doubt they will, because the implants will be small and also, no one is likely to suspect someone my age would have them. (I live in an area where plastic surgery is relatively uncommon). I am confident I am making the right decision for ME, and I know that is all that matters, but I'm really, really scared about dating. I'm getting silicone implants which feel pretty darn natural (I felt the implant, it's actually squishier than my current breasts, which are firm). I am just scared about being dumped or judged for my surgery. Guys can be really cruel online, stating they'd never date a woman with implants and that implants are disgusting. Am I setting myself up to be forever alone? Would it really be such a big deal if you found out your smart, pretty and modest girlfriend had implants? I have no idea! Tell me your thoughts, and do be honest! I need to be prepared for what to expect. TL;DR:

r/relationships TITLE: I [26/F] think my boyfriend [27/M] of one month unknowingly gave me an STD. How do I tell him? POST: A couple days ago I noticed some weird things happening "down there" and all the things I've Google have led me to believe that my boyfriend gave me accidentally gave me herpes while going down on me. I'm getting tested tomorrow and I'm expecting the absolute worst. I've (kinda) gotten over the feelings of humiliation and embarrassment but now I'm more worried about how to being it up to him. I don't want to downright accuse him because it could've been dormant but he looked like he had a pretty bad cold sore breakout that day so I want him to get tested just in case. What's the best way to being this up without be accusing or coming off as disgusting or like I've been cheating (only been with him and before him I was celibate for almost a year)? TL;DR:

r/relationships TITLE: I've [22F] only slept with my partner [24M] and am a bit confused. POST: So I have only slept with my boyfriend, who I have been with for 5 years, and have never had a problem with this fact ( and never thought I would) until recently. I am starting to get curious, more so just to see the difference and what it would be like with someone else. I have never and will never cheat by the way. Now we have been talking about marriage a lot, and I want to spend the rest of my life with him, but I worry that these thoughts will never go away and don't want to reach old age regretting my decision. I'm also worried I will subconsciously ruin this just to try. I'm just so confused. TL;DR:

r/relationship_advice TITLE: Catholic Girlfriend's conscience VS me POST: My girlfriend (Hayley) was raised as a Catholic and is really devoted to her faith. I've always been an Athiest but we've never argued about religion or my lack there of. We've been together for almost 6 months now and we've been best friends our whole lives. We care and love each other and all the lovey stuff I won't go into. However she's beginning to become torn between her religious beliefs and me. She feels uncomfortable now that we have sex before marriage and that she's gay (we're 24 so it's legal) and she feels like she's betraying god and her faith and stuff like that. We started to argue more and she's having a really hard time because her conscience is pleading her to stop what she's doing. I've told her I'm willing for us to take a break until she sorts out her shit, even for us to break up all together and just stay friends. But she tells me she loves me and she doesn't want to break up with me and she wants to stay with me. I say coolies but she refuses to give up her faith. Now she can't pick sides and it's really stressing us out. I'm fine with the possibility of us breaking up so she can feel better about herself, but over something as stupid as making the invisible man in the sky be happy about her choices really pisses me off. Any advice Reddit? TL;DR:

r/relationships TITLE: I [21F] just found out that the guy [21M] I met on Tinder already has a girlfriend, what should I do? POST: So I met a guy on Tinder about a week and a half ago and so far we've been on two dates. Nothing's really serious yet, but after stumbling upon his Instagram profile (he linked it from his Facebook), I find out that he already has a girlfriend. Now at this point I would just call him out on it, but I am not sure if I should also tell his girlfriend. Am I being too nosey or is this part of my "duty" as a girl to inform another girl that her boyfriend is cheating? The guy in question is a huge casanova. Over Tinder he talked to me about hooking up and seeing each other just for sex. I haven't slept with him but he is extremely persistent. Now I know for sure he's not just a huge player but also a cheater. Definitely not sleeping with him now. But what should I do about the girlfriend situation? TL;DR:

r/relationships TITLE: My boyfriend [20M] of a little over 2 years wants an open relationship and I [20F] don't know how to handle it POST: So, my boyfriend wants an open relationship. I, personally, don't want anything from anyone else outside of a platonic relationship, so if we do open the relationship it would only be on his side. However, we did discuss how he would feel if I ever decided I wanted to open my side of the relationship and he really was not a big fan of that idea (which honestly really annoyed me lol) with the reasoning that he's more of a jealous person than I am. I've discussed the open relationship at length with him and he's told me that he really only wants to explore things sexually (we've only ever been with each other) and his interactions would mainly be limited to one night stand type situations. Considering we are each other's first I can understand why this is something he would like to try. I'm not necessarily worried about him leaving me for someone else, but more so the feelings of insecurity, inadequacy, and jealousy that might arise from it. He says if it'll affect me negatively or hurt me he doesn't want to do it, but I don't want him to just say that and then resent me later on for keeping him from doing something he wants to do. Anyway, I'm just really torn and don't know what to do and I could really use some advice about it. What would you guys do if you were in my position? TL;DR:

r/travel TITLE: Travel Itinerary - Finding the right balance of spontaneity (Europe for 30 days) POST: Hi all, I'm a 22 yo female (atlanta, ga) and I just booked a flight to London in mid July and a flight back to the states from Rome in mid Aug. I have a semi rough schedule laid out for my ~30 days in Europe. London (4 days) > Paris (4 days) > Bern (3 days) > Munich (4 days) > Dolomites (3 days) > Venice (3 days) > Florence (3 days) > Rome (4 days) I'd love to see all these places, but I'm not necessarily committed to them. As I'll be couchsurfing and staying at hostels, I assume I'll meet a bunch of travelers along the way and I might want to travel with them for a bit. How do you suggest I plan out my transportation costs between these locations? I'd like to find the right balance of being spontaneous without having to pay too much $ TL;DR:

r/relationships TITLE: I [22/F] think it's time to leave my bf [23/M] of almost 6 years. POST: I'm just going to start this off with the fact that I am a horrible girlfriend. I've cheated on him numerous times, all of which he knows about. Somehow he's forgiven me... The past two years were great. We moved in together, I was 100% faithful to him after everything that happened, and I genuinely loved and cared for him. However, I noticed I was also almost 100% dependent on him. Coincidentally (or not), 2 years ago I lost my car due to a series of break downs that I just couldn't afford to fix. Due to this, I was forced to quit a job I had in order to find a shittier one that was more convenient for him to drive me. I was broke most of the time and often had to rely on him to pay my bills, buy food, help me buy clothes for work, etc. I felt like a huge burden, even though he insisted I wasn't. Regardless, it plunged me into a huge depression that I never thought I was going to get out of. He was there for me like no other person. A series of heartbreaking events happened in my life that kept egging on my depression, but he was there just to listen and love. Whenever someone asks about him, I have nothing but extremely nice things to say about him. He is a great person. The past couple of months have been great for me personally. I've made amazing gains in my life (got a new car, amazing new job), and I haven't felt this good about myself in years. I'm finally feeling independent and confident again. However, it breaks my heart that the better my personal life is getting, the more I feel like I can't stay with my SO anymore. I do love and care for him, but not the way a life partner should. I know he deserves better, especially after everything that I've put him through these 6 years. I guess why I'm posting is because I'm honestly not sure what to do. I don't want to break his heart. Nonetheless we just resigned our lease 2 months ago, and I wouldn't be able to leave anytime soon. Any advice would be greatly appreciated. TL;DR:

r/relationships TITLE: Me[20/M] with my friend [26M] and his wife [26F], about a year or so, probably not the typical sort of inquiry made on this sub. (SFW) POST: Edit: Decided to not go through with it, just going to wait until he's back from his trip. Thanks for all your advice. If anyone wants to continue commenting, be my guest. I'd not mind reading different views on the situation, though it is a non-issue now. So I have a friend from work, and he has a wife. The three of us hang out somewhat frequently. I'm definitely closer with the husband, but I'd call the wife a good friend as well. A few weeks ago the three of us saw a movie together, and then we got on the topic of the new Insidious Chapter 2 movie. We talked about going together, but it was raised that the husband would be on a work related trip at the time (i.e. now). The wife said, "Well, EarlofJohn and I will just go see it then." The husband said, "Eh, whatever", but the tone with which he said it implied that he did not feel entirely comfortable with it. Now I am wanting to see the movie and do not have anyone to go with. I would see it alone, but scary movies like these tend to terrify me. What I want advice on is whether I should bother asking him if I may get in touch with the wife about seeing the movie together. I absolutely am not considering just asking her directly without running it by him. I just want some advice, as I have neither been married nor been in a romantic relationship for more than a few months (they have been married a few years now), and consequently do entirely understand how I should proceed. I just don't know exactly how to approach the subject with him, or if I even should bother. I don't want to overstep my boundaries as a friend. TL;DR:

r/relationships TITLE: Not Sure Where to Go POST: I attend a boarding school and I [16M] met this girl [15F] a few months ago. We hit it off and it seemed like everything was going great. She flirted a lot with me and asked me to ask her out to a dance but i couldn't because i was going to be away for the weekend of said dance. After this dance, she continued to flirt with me, constantly asking me about what my ideal girl was and if i liked anyone. She also tried to eat dinner with me as much as possible and really just hang out around me. Later on she told me she liked me but i didn't say whether i liked her back or not, just that i'd think about it. Anyway, later on i started getting feelings for her until the point where i asked her out and to my surprise she declined. This is where we kinda hit a rough patch because we didn't really talk anymore (still don't) and i asked her if she led me on, which she denied. I try and make attempts to be friends with her again by apologizing to her, but she always ignores my texts so I am not sure if i should talk to her in September face to face, or simply give up TL;DR:

r/AskReddit TITLE: Is anyone else having problems with the loan company Sallie Mae, if so any similar to mine? POST: Called Sallie Mae twice in the past month (July) because I haven't received bills to my physical address in May and June after months of getting them sent to me regularly. >The First time I called them and I talked to a woman that said that she would send it to me, no explanation of why the bills never came. When I asked her why I had never received any she said I was "all set until July"- as in my payments where caught up. (I asked if that is what she meant by all caught up and she said yes) She never answered my question as to why I never got the bills. >End of July comes. Still haven't gotten a bill from Sallie Mae. They call and leave a message saying that they have an 'important message' about my loans. >I called them back today and they said I'm three months behind on my payments. I ask them how is that possible when I just talked to a representative that said I was all set. Once again, never answered my question, just apologized. I asked why I hadn't gotten any bills to my physical address. This time the man I was talked to said that it was to be taken care of online through CitiBank. I was baffled. I've never done any business through Citibank, never had my account information transferred to them. And I certainly never okayed that it be taken care of online through them. So naturally I tell him this. He apologizes and said he couldn't "opt me out" of dealing with my loan payments through them. So I ask to speak to a manager. The guy puts me on hold for about five minutes then comes back and tells me that he was able to opt me out of this Citibank (even though he had just said he couldn't) and says that my payments will be sent to my physical address from now on. I am SO skeptical that I will actually receive my bills. And I'm incredibly pissed that they are ruining my credit when I am trying to dutifully pay my goddamn loans back. This just doesn't seem right... And it seems there is nothing I can do about this, because they have me by the balls here. TL;DR:

r/relationships TITLE: She thinks I lied, when in reality she didn't listen to what I said... POST: We've been dating for four and a half years, both of us are 22. We have known each other since we were little kids, but only started hanging out/dating after we graduated high school (we attended different high schools). We are both in the same university program, and our practicum experience is supposed to end on April 21. However, due to vacation times, my practicum actually ends on April 15. She thinks I lied about when my practicum ends, in order to avoid doing more work. However, I know that I did tell her the truth about when my practicum ended. This is not the first time that we have had this issue. I am not quite sure how to deal with this, so if anybody can shed some light on what I need to do to work through this situation, please let me know. Thanks! TL;DR:

r/relationship_advice TITLE: [M/20] with a question of etiquette regarding an [F/20] POST: Throwaway here. Well, I did my best impression of Jim from The Office and waited. For two years. Now it seems like one of my best friends, who I have fallen for, is finally on the outs with her long distance BF, a guy I have never met before. If they do end up splitting, it wont be because its an abusive relationship or anything dramatic, she's just fallen out of love with the guy because he's, well... boring. Anyway, my question is a question of proper etiquette, as in, how long should I wait after they split before trying to ask her out myself?If it's important, they've been together about 2 years now. Thank you for any advice you guys can give me! TL;DR:

r/AskReddit TITLE: I've caught my girlfriend in an outright lie, and she knows I've caught her, but she wont give it up. What would you do? POST: Backstory: she was supposed to be going fishing with her best friend (call her Annie) and Annie's boyfriend, and a few of his friends last night. She tells me she doesnt have signal, and will text me when she can. This was around 7. I hang out with my bros all night and finally get a text from her at almost midnight saying "hey babe, I'm staying at Annie's, ill text you in the morning." and a few other personal things. I text her back like wtf and she says "yeah, sorry, im really tired and Annie's already fallen asleep." So whatever, i let it go and have some fun with the bros. A few hours later with nothing to do i jump on instagram (dont hate) and see that Annie posted pictures of stuff she bought at the beach (were three hours away from the beach). I go over to my girlfriends house this morning and ask her, and she says Annie left this morning. When i ask her about the photo, she says Annie's aunt sent that stuff to her. When i ask her why the caption reads "i love spending money", she just bullshits around. TL;DR:

r/relationships TITLE: Me 27M: dating someone [25F] casually but think they're holding me back from love POST: I was single for a long time before I met the person I'm currently dating. I haven't had a relationship in a long time, and I'd really like one, but the person I'm dating now is fairly vocal about not wanting one and I'm not really attracted to her like that. We met a little over two months ago, and she was fairly clear early on that she wanted sex and something a little bit more. We agreed we wouldn't be exclusive but enjoyed hanging out and going on dates. This was cool with me: I hadn't dated someone in a long time and was sexually attracted to her. I find her attractive, but know I'm not falling in love with her, and she doesn't even want that. But things have been getting more romantic with us lately: we were at her friend's house and accidentally stayed up super late just talking and making out before realizing it was way too late into the night. But still, I feel like I do really want someone that I can love, and she's definitely not it. Even if we were in a relationship right now, I don't think she'd be the person I wanted. But I enjoy dating her a lot. It's one of those things where if I didn't have someone else to date, I'd really like seeing her more casually (which is what our relationship is right now). But also I worry that the fact we have sex and I enjoy hanging out with her holds me back from asking out other women. Although we're most certainly not exclusive, I feel like I like her, and that makes it feel weird to approach other women. I know that once I like someone, I tend to continue to like and date them, and it's been hard for me to detach from her when I see other women at events and such. I think it's basically this: why face rejection, when I know there's someone who wants to go out and have sex with me tonight? I don't want to cut it off with her: she's fun, I have a lot of fun hanging out, we have good sex, we enjoy ourselves together, but she's not someone I would love, and we're not headed in that direction. TL;DR:

r/AskReddit TITLE: Reddit, what do you think/do when you see your ex with a loser? POST: I recently broke up with a girl and still have her and her roommates as Facebook friends. Her roommate posted a pic of my ex and she was with a guy who, based on his facebook profile, looks like a real winner. Even though I broke up with her because she was extremely attached and bi-polar, I still want her to be with a decent guy. She has tried to be super friendly to me (and I've been nice to her) since we broke up and she tries to talk to me every Tuesday and Thursday (We have a Lit class together). She also told me a story of how she was in a potentially awful wreck last month with a guy who was driving her drunk as hell, and I'm pretty sure this is the same guy. TL;DR:

r/relationships TITLE: How do I convince my SO that I'm not boring? POST: My SO (M23) and I (F23) have been dating for 2 years, and for the most part our relationship has been fun, healthy and supportive. We spend a lot of time together now that we're students in the same city (we were in a LDR for about year, definitely our rockier time). Lately he's seemed more down than usual so last night when we were hanging out at his place I asked him what was wrong. He said he recently became bored with his life. After some pressing as to why he felt that way, he admitted that he's found me boring because I "don't do many interesting things." We've always had some issues with finding common interests/activities. Our most frequent activities together are watching the same TV shows, cooking new recipes, and roaming around the city to find good places to eat. We also dance and run, both of which are activities I did before we started dating and introduced him to (he seems to enjoy them). I don't do much outside of these activities (I'm a broke student, and I need time for my studies, too!). He also enjoys more extreme sports, and while I've tried them with him in the past, I've never enjoyed them much. I am content with my array of activities. I find that they are a good balance between what I enjoy doing (they are interesting to me) and my studies. When I have money I like to travel, but right now finances are tight and I'm not sure what other interesting things I can do while on a strict budget. I'm afraid that he's starting to lose interest in our relationship, though he assures me he's not planning to break up with me. How do I gain his interest again? How do I convince him that I'm not a boring person? Or what can I do to stop being "boring?" TL;DR:

r/personalfinance TITLE: [22] Move back home for relatively lower paying job but to be with friends and family, or stay at remote location to make more money? POST: Hi guys, Currently I'm in a construction job [but office work] that requires me to be out on site for 21-28 days straight, 12 hours a day, and then i get 7-10 days off. I just started this job. I would make about $125k-$145k per year depending upon my shift pre taxes. I have another opportunity back home that I can take, but I would be making $70k-80k pre taxes. All my friends and family are back home in this city however, and I love it there. I know on paper its a very easy decision, is to take keep my current high paying job but my question is, is it worth it to stay remote for the sake of extra savings? I am currently in a time zone that makes it very difficult for me to talk everyday with my friends and family and gf (ahead 4 hours of everyone back home) and I'm honestly contemplating if a slower rate of savings with love and friendship in my life is better than staying out here? TL;DR:

r/relationships TITLE: I [15 M] am turned on by my stepfather [45 M] POST: hello um... this is my throwaway account for obvious reasons and i really need help on this one. my parents are seperated since i am 1 and i lived with my dad and step mom since. i am going to live with my step-dad and mom in 5-6 months, but the thing is... i have developed some feelings to my step-dad, and he turns me on, like a lot. i can't be comfortable around him, i can't act like myself. i am going to live with this man, but how am i supposed to live with him if i fantasize having sex with him every second when i'm with him. he loves my mother so very much and he really is a good man. he is certainly not a pedophile or something like that. i just want to snuggle him all night, live with him all my life and... have sex with him all day... i can't help myself... what am i supposed to do... help... TL;DR:

r/relationships TITLE: 20/M and my girlfriend (19/F) have been together for nearly 4 years.. POST: A little background.. We've had our problems like any other couple. I was a jealous asshole and in turn, she didn't trust me. I caught her several times in my email, on my Facebook and searching around on sites like OkCupid for a profile that could be mine. We talked a lot about everything that we felt, made promises and got better. I love her to death. I don't see myself with anybody else, even though I'm still young, I see myself with her indefinitely. I was away for a year last year and we talked every day, texted and skyped sometimes. When I came home, everything seemed normal until the sun went down. When we crawled into bed, kissing and cuddling started but it didn't go any further than that. We used to have sex all the time a few years ago (when she was 17 and I was 18) sometimes several times a day. It's like we couldn't have sex enough, and now it's like a chore. I try not to let it bother me, because she works now and maybe she's just tired or something, but in the back of my head I can't help but think negative thoughts. Another thing that made me think negatively was the quality of the sex we did have. When I came home, I noticed she was slightly looser. Not a huge change, but noticeable. Wasn't going to say anything but even before I had the chance, she asked me if she felt looser. I didn't tell her yes because I didn't want to make her feel bad. She explained that she masturbated with a large object and thinks that's what stretched her out. As far as I thought I knew, vaginas don't work like that but I could be wrong. What do you think? Am I just being paranoid? I honestly hate feeling like this because I really do love her, but I do need closure. This is driving me crazy. TL;DR:

r/relationships TITLE: Bf (M29) and I (F25) are having problems after being together for alost a year. He wants to know every detail of my life and criticizes or is dissapointed in me constantly about things that have nothing to do with him. POST: He wants to know every detail of things I do in my life and criticizes me or is disappointed in me when I do things my way and not in a way that he would do these things - these things that have NOTHING to do with him . He thinks he knows better about a lot of things so thinks I should consult him and follow whatever advice he gives me to a tee. But I make my own goddamn decisions and I take others advice and follow it if I want to. I don't want to be chastised or lectured every time I do something that isn't exactly how he thinks I should handle things. I find myself not telling him the whole truth about things he asks about and withholding information from him because I know that he will probably get mad at me or lecture me about my life. Need to say an example. If i tell him about a situation where I am confronting someone and I do it my way and not his way. He gets upset. If i am moving and I decide to leave my couch behind because my roommate can have it - because he would be upset by a roommate leaving behind stuff he thinks I shouldn't leave anything behind. So he gets MAD at me and acts super dissapointed in me and talks to me aggressively in this tone of voice that sounds like I hurt him in some way. GAH It's not like I am doing drugs or something. I am just trying to live my life. I don't want to be constantly walking on egg shells. TL;DR:

r/relationships TITLE: I'm 21/M with relationship complications with 21/F. She is dealing with the loss of her late boyfriend. POST: Last night I went over to this girls house. Long story short, we had sex. But that's not the problem. The problem is that she is my good friend ever since freshman year of high school, which was about 7 years ago. We had seen each other and hung out with each other for a couple of times since she moved into the town that I live in. We both enjoy each others company. Anyway last year, her boyfriend had passed away and she had been coping with it. And today, she had told me that she thought she was uncomfortable moving forward and that she is still dealing with the loss of her late boyfriend. I am guessing that she wants to end it. I am not sure what to do. I had liked her even since high school, and I am sure that she felt the same way towards me at some point in our friendship. Before, when we would get together, I would feel confused about our relationship and honestly, I would hold back my feelings for her because I knew she was still distraught on moving forward. After what she had told me, I am still confused about what to do. TL;DR:

r/legaladvice TITLE: [NY/FL] Cousin is claiming copyright on our deceased grandfather's photos POST: This actually happened several years ago, but I was reminded of it yesterday (and the whole matter being unresolved still makes my blood boil). When our grandfather passed away my uncle was the executor of his estate- and due to decades of family tensions etc- my branch of the family gave wide berth to the whole situation. My uncle made the calls, he divided up the estate as he saw fit (completely against what was actually dictated in the will) and essentially took all of the sentimental assets personally from my grandfather's home in Florida back to New York. Somewhere along the way, one of my cousins started putting up old family photos on Flickr. At first this seemed really nice- these were photos many of us hadn't seen in years (and the youngest of us (me) hadn't seen at all). However- this cousin refuses to speak to anyone in our side of the family- not as a result of our distance during my grandfather's illness- this cousin has been a miserable human his whole existence. He has put a personal copyright on these photos (i.e. All Images © John Johnsonsonson) - so none of us can save any of these images and keep them for our own records. The thing of it is- he didn't take these photos, many of these photos were taken before he was even born. I happened to ask my aunt (cousin's mother) (my godmother) why her son had placed a copyright label on photos of my parents taken before he was born, by someone else- and she responded that it was because (paraphrasing), 'He took the time to scan the images, otherwise they'd be molding in the back of [her] closet'. I responded that the opportunity was never presented to the rest of the grandchildren- or else we would have been happy to pitch in. Mainly, the photos weren't my aunt's to keep in her closet to mold. My cousin didn't have any sole rights to the films. (Unless so decreed by his father- who was making up rules as the executor of his father's estate, I guess.) TL;DR:

r/weddingplanning TITLE: I, the brother of the groom, has to plan a proposal party and need help on ideas. Please help. POST: So my brother married his girlfriend in November last year without having a wedding or a proper proposal because he did not have enough money. His wife is very understanding about not having a wedding at the time. Fast forward until last month, when my brother got a better job and now wants to surprise his wife with a wedding proposal and to have an actual wedding in August. Things he wanted for the proposal is to have friends and family when he propose because he was sad that no one, except me, was there at the wedding procedures in City Hall. People have a busy life of their own so I will not fault them for not being there, and I was between jobs at the time so I had spare time. So he plans to invite friends and family over to his house, hooray his owns a house now, and will have his dog bring his wife the ring and that is when he will propose. So he left me with the job of planning the evening with about 15 people at 8:00 PM on a Friday, May 30... If it helps, I live in Southern California. I never heard of a proposal party before and have no idea what to plan for the party since he wants it to be romantic and yet have friends and family over... So TL;DR:

r/relationships TITLE: My [25M] girlfriend [23F] of 3 years is angry/embarrassed that my first Instagram photo is of another girl POST: Some context: I'm visiting one of my best friends for the weekend and went out with him and his girlfriend last night. At one point I wanted to take a picture of something trivial at the bar, and having recently decided to download Instagram, decided to Instagram it. My friend's girlfriend is in the shot, interacting with what I was taking a photo of. It is in no way seductive, but it's also not an unflattering photo of her. As soon as I post it, I get a series of (increasingly not passive) aggressive texts from my girlfriend about how fucking weird it is. Apparently multiple friends of hers asked her who the girl was. I can understand that she's embarrassed, and I can understand how, without context from the rest of the night, posting a photo of some random girl is weird. That being said, it's a cool photo and I don't really think I did anything wrong. Deleting the photo would be an admission of guilt and I don't think it would repair the damage that has already been done. At this point all my friends are telling me I've done nothing wrong, but I'm a little concerned they're just being supportive and telling me what I want to hear. So I'm asking you, sane reddit denizens, was it a grievous social media faux pas? Or is it just an unfortunate situation given the circumstances (namely, I don't have a portfolio of photos of her and I together on Instagram yet). Was I insensitive or is she being overly sensitive, or both? TL;DR:

r/AskReddit TITLE: Paul Burgum is walking from Monte Carlo to Billingham (North East England) for charity - without any money, relying on the generosity of others. POST: I work in the voluntary sector, and this guy (Paul Burgum) is a real inspiration to everyone who works in my area. When I heard that he was walking from Monte Carlo all the way to Billingham for charity, I honestly thought it was a joke. He is doing this without any money, and is relying on the generosity of people he meets on his journey to keep himself afloat. He says that we would be amazed by the help we can get from other if only we ask. "How is he going to get over the English channel?" – well, he doesn't quite know yet. He is hoping that someone will be generous enough to give him a ticket, or that a company will hear about his journey and give him a space on one of their ships. He literally is relying on people's generosity to get back home. I was expecting him to raise thousands of pounds to justify the work that he is putting into such a trip. It turns out, he has raised just over £600, and he is already 20 days into his hike. I've been told by people that he never expects to raise much money at all, and this is his third and biggest walk yet. I see some things get huge attention through Reddit, and I think this isn't getting the attention it deserves. [Here is his blog] which he updates whenever and however he can (usually by his phone, charging it for free in coffee shops when he can). When he isn't walking for charity, Paul runs a thriving Social Enterprise, which has won a number of awards for its work with young people. Although his organisation is healthy, Paul only pays himself a four-figure annual salary and puts the rest of the money back into the company. Oh, and on top of this Paul suffers from mental illnesses including anxiety, and has only been learning French for 8 weeks prior to his walk. I think what he is doing is a seriously epic mission, and I hope by putting it on here I can help him some publicity while I sit in a warm, comfy office. TL;DR:

r/AskReddit TITLE: OCD cashier, what would you have done? POST: I was at Menards and at the checkout the cashier had OCD (according to my wife who has worked as a mental health professional). The cashier was rearranging items we we put on the counter before she scanned them. There was a can of sparkling water with a price tag that didn't ring up. The cashier tried about 10 or more times to enter the code from the label on the can. I said "forget it, I don't want it" and then she turned on her light to get a manager. I said, "forget it," again. She heard me but refused to listen at first. So I had to say again "Mam, I don't want that." Knowing that she could have easily just have done an override and manually typed in the price this really bothered me (I've worked as a cashier before). That wasn't all of the weird things she did. When I handed her a $100 bill she asked if I had something smaller. I said "No." She acted like she could't accept my money. I said "I'm sure you can get change if you need it." She didn't need it, she had the change in her drawer, a few twenties, etc. Also, prior to even checking out, this cashier was asking us, if we were going to check out, we were still looking at items. I should have never went to her counter. I will never go to her again, even if she's the only cashier in the store, I'll just drop my shit and walk out. I'm sure some of you may say that I'm over reacting about this, but the whole experience bugged the shit out of me. My wife just laughed. She said, she had clients that had OCD and it didn't bother her at all. I almost felt like going to a manager and talking to him/her about this employee. I won't, I think this person should probably be used elsewhere in the store, maybe stocking shelves (I'm sure they would be really good at that). TL;DR:

r/weddingplanning TITLE: Grooming Issue with [intended] Best Man POST: My fiance and I are beginning to plan our wedding for next fall and we have our bridal party all chosen, but we haven't officially asked anybody yet. My best friend, who I'm intending to make my best man, wants to look like a scummy bad ass biker guy. I don't know why he has this aspiration, but he does. Now, I don't really care how he wants to look, but I do care how he looks on our wedding day. He has made proclamations that he's not going to cut his hair or trim his beard anymore on multiple occasions over the past few years, but ends up caving for one reason or another. This weekend, he told one of our mutual friends(after attending some motorcycle event) that he's growing his hair and beard our and isn't even going to cut them for our wedding. The problem here is that his beard isn't a good beard. The base layer is good, but then it stops looking good, so the longer it gets, the more scraggley it gets. I don't care as much about the hair because I'm fine with it being in a pony tail if the beard looks okay. Basically I'd be fine if he were willing to cut the hair and keep the beard as shitty as he wants, or trim the beard so it doesn't look shitty, and just pull his hair back. I haven't spoken with him about yet, and considering how he generally doesn't follow through with growing out his hair, I'm not sure it's a relevant point until the wedding gets closer. What he said to our friend just particularly bothered me because I don't want my best man to look like a caveman next to me. TL;DR:

r/tifu TITLE: TIFU by picking my nose POST: Greetings Reddit. Last night I fucked up. I was at my girlfriend's apartment and was helping her with some schoolwork. I was on the couch on my laptop and she was sitting at the table with a direct view of me. I was watching the superbowl and was rather oblivious to what she was doing. I was having trouble getting a label to print out and was in my own world not really paying attention to anything. I mindlessly picked my nose and immediately put my finger in my mouth. There really wasn't anything on it so I just kind of did it without thinking. That's when I hear my girlfriend scream "that is so disgusting!". It is at that point that I snap back into reality and realize what I've done. And I'm definitely embarrassed. A grown man in his mid 20s doesn't need to do that let alone be caught by someone he wants to kiss. In fact I was kind of hoping to get a little sexy time that night. I got a stuffed nose instead when I laid down. I think God was mocking me for my stupidity. On a side note my poor girlfriend's roommate was in the kitchen doing dishes and she thought she did something disgusting. Thankfully my girlfriend didn't rat me out, but I can never feel comfortable again. TL;DR:

r/AskReddit TITLE: 17 year old friend has cancer. Parents refuse to pay treatment, made her quit her job, beat her for being upset and not passing drug test. How do I help? POST: My friend is 17 years old and was diagnosed with leukemia (she was not specific on diagnosage) the day before her birthday. Her parents have told her word for word, 'I don't care and I'm not paying for your treatment.' She got into a fight with them and it quickly turned physical. Her mom hit her multiple times for 'being upset.' As a young girl it is normal to be scared and upset over such news. It is a tough time for anyone in that situation, let alone have 0 support from family members. About a week after her diagnosis, her and her parents were still not getting along (as you could imagine). She was beyond upset and turned to smoking marijuana, which was something she did regularly before her diagnosis. Her parents, drug tested her randomly and she failed. This sparked another fight (also turning physical) and they forced her to quit her job. Threatening they would call her work and make them fire her for smoking marijuana, she agreed and quit. Giving her 0 income to pay for her own treatments. Obviousally, this is not right and her parents are basically making it seam as if she's wrong for having leukemia. She will not go to authorities because 1. Her father is a local cop 2. Child services have been called on 4 other occasions 3. She is scared for her younger siblings (9 and 12 years old) I have no idea what to do, I feel like the right thing would be to go to police.. But her father being a cop complicates that. Is there an anonymous phone number or site that could potentially help her? Would raising money be an option? Your opinions would be much appreciated. TL;DR:

r/AskReddit TITLE: what mis-information is widely touted by the hivemind here, but is in fact untrue? POST: I'm pretty tired of everyone crying about how banks got bailed out and tax payers got the short end of the stick. please do some research- and you'll see that the majority of 'bailed' out companies have paid the money back with interest. In the case of Goldman, they took $10Bn INVESTMENT from the gov't (which got from taxpayers), and they repaid it with 23% interest. on an overall basis- the majority of TARP funds have been repaid with interest, and the outstanding companies are on track to also pay back in full/with interest. Getting mad at the banks- is like being mad at students for taking out gov't loans...i.e. moronic. TL;DR:

r/relationships TITLE: Me [24F] with my boyfriend [27M] of 2 years, is giving a $200 gift on his birthday appropriate? POST: We were at the mall and saw Cirque du Soleil being advertised. He wanted to go but said it was too expensive for a ticket. It's not that he is not financially stable, but I think it just felt like too much to spend on a night out. His birthday is next week and I am thinking of just buying the tickets for us. With taxes and everything, it will probably amount to $200 total. I am okay with paying for that. He is a professional with a well-paying job, but is by no means rich. He has an average life, but supports his family financially, so is always careful about wasting money. I know he would really enjoy the night, but I am worried about two things: * Him feeling awkward that I am able to afford all of this for one night out * Him feeling pressured to buy me something expensive on my birthday, which is 2 months from now TL;DR:

r/relationships TITLE: Me [20/M] with my girlfriend [20/F] 6 months, meet girlfriend on a night out (with our boy/girl mates), she tells me to go back to my friends, then blames me for not wanting to see her POST: Ok so I go with my friends on a night out, girlfriend goes with hers (both are friendship groups have girls/boys in), I bump into her by accident early on in the night, we have small talk for a few minutes, both of us are laughing (having fun), then she tells me to go back to my friends. I haven't offended any of her friends or anything, there's nothing me or my friends have done wrong - just to get that straight. 'You should go back to your friends', I keep the conversation going, wanting to stay with her a bit longer, replying 'yeah in 5 minutes (etc. etc.)'. Eventually I just go back, respecting what she told me to do and not wanting to question her in front of friends (I always avoid getting friends involved in disagreements with relationships - we both do). On top of this she has introduced me to her friends like once - I always respect peoples privacy and keeping friendships separate, but when my girlfriend doesn't want me top hang around with her and her friends, feel devalued by her. At the end of the night, I question why, apparently it's my fault as she didn't think I wanted to see her. I make it clear that she was the one who told me to go back to my friends. We've also had an issue with meeting each others friends too, she has met all of mine, knows them well etc. But I have barely met hers. I told her a couple of weeks ago, that I wanted to meet her friends. She told me that she would let me meet them etc. etc. It's not like it would be hard for me to meet them - she hangs out with them all the time. Opinions on why she is doing this? Where do I go from here? TL;DR:

r/AskReddit TITLE: What to do about thieving housemate? Help me Reddit, he has my wii! POST: I live with approximately 10 other guys (college house). I am close friends with all of them with one exception: a new guy that moved in about 2 months ago. Since then, many things have gone missing, including various items of clothing/shoes from our rooms, tools, and lots of other things. It seems likely that this new guy that no one really knows is the thief, but we have no proof whatsoever and it is possible that it is someone else. Again, however, I am close friends with every other housemate and it started shortly after he moved in. Recently, a travesty occurred: MY WII AND ALL OF MY GAMES WERE STOLEN. I come home one day and the wii is just gone. This is the last fucking straw, I really need to do something about this situation and I desperately want my wii back. Both myself and the new guy are rarely home (girlfriends) and I have not spoken with him, but the landlord has talked to him and he claims he is not stealing things. With no evidence, my landlord says there is nothing he can do. Reddit, oh wise, cunning, intelligent Reddit: HOW DO I GET MY WII BACK? TL;DR:

r/AskReddit TITLE: How do I tell someone I don't want to be their friend? POST: This guy who I've seen around at school a lot and I chatted about a mutual appreciation of a suit and tie, and ever since he has assumed we are great friends. He's a really nice guy, but he is trying way too hard for a legitimate friendship to happen, instead of letting it gradually develop overtime as it should. He now sits with my friends and me at lunch without being invited to, and makes a good amount of situations uncomfortable. All he talks about is clothing now and boring conversation topics, and is way too "high-fivey" all the time. Sometimes it feels like he is coming onto me in a sensual sort of way, and it is just weird. I've been distant and uninterested so he gets the idea but he clearly hasn't. I don't want to hurt his feelings but i need to let him know i don't want to really talk to him anymore TL;DR:

r/relationships TITLE: Me (33/M) broke up with girlfriend (23/F). Does the ignore rule really work? POST: I was recently in a relationship. We started out as best friends because I dated her other friend first. We grew to like each other and gave it a shot. It ended within a couple months. She knew how much I liked her because I made it known. We broke up because of outside problems surrounding our relationship. Mainly because I dated her best friend before and it started a lot of problems with her at work. So she said it was probably best if we didnt do this right now. So since we broke up we have still hung out and I got her flowers for her bday and threw her a party. I feel like we still hang out but are not in a relationship. Its basically like we are in a relationship without a title or spending the night anymore. So I feel like I am moving in to the "friend zone"/comfort zone for her. And I want to get out of that. So my question is does ignoring a girl really work? I tried today and haven't heard anything from her? I figured I would by now if she was thinking about me. So how long do you play this game and does it really work? I would love some answers from people that have tried this before. TL;DR:

r/relationships TITLE: Me [20F] dealing with the aftermath of discovering my BF[28M] of 2 years cheated on me a year into our relationship. POST: Before I even start I'm addressing the age gap, I don't get shit from people IRL (or at least to my face), but people on the internets always have to comment on it because that's what people on the internets do. I'm just asking that people don't tell me that's the problem right now because its not. Anyway, My BF and I have been dating for 2 years. Last year I caught him getting kinda flirty in some texts to a friend of his, I let him know that made me uncomfortable and he stopped. Fast forward to this month, I recently started using more of his computers and his ipad (he was really secretive). I ended up stumbling onto some old messages to a girl and in them he straight up hits on her and she even mentions how he has a girlfriend but he continues to flirt with her. This set me off and I look some more (I know it was wrong of me to go through his messages but I was really upset) and find that he had been sending and receive nudes from multiple women last year while we were dating. It was all from before I had told him that just flirting with other people made me uncomfortable, but he knew it wasn't okay because he hid it from me this whole time. I confronted him about it and he admitted he fucked up but he hasn't done anything since, but I obviously still feel really hurt. Right now we're giving each other space and trying to start over, he's even booking a couple's councilor. I know he really has changed, he has depression and around the time I first caught him texting that girl he started medication to help with it and he's definitely more confident and involved. But I'm not sure I can get over this. I'd really like advice from someone who's gone through something similar. TL;DR:

r/relationships TITLE: When to break off a FWB when entering a real relationship? POST: I [M21] recently started dating a girl I'm really interested in and she is really genuine and also really into me, I think we're going to go far. But I also recently started having sex with a friend whom I've had for almost a year, we're really close **as friends only** and find each other attractive but I don't really want to 'date' her. My FWB [F20] knows I'm dating this other girl [F21] (who I'm not serious about, but expect it to become serious, we met a month ago), but the girl doesn't know I have a FWB (this happened quite recently). I haven't slept with the new girl yet (we're taking our time), but I've slept with my FWB starting a few months before I met the new girl. I'm planning on stopping the FWB thing once I first have sex with the new girl.. TL;DR:

r/relationships TITLE: [Dating] How do I [20M] know if my coworker [19F] finds me attractive or wants to date? POST: There is a [19F] coworker that [20M] I think is attractive and, from what interaction we've had at work, fun to talk to. I still don't know a lot about her hobbies or what she does in her free time. But we do that whole "tease each other and pretend we don't like each other" type interaction. Like I'll walk into a room she's in and she'll make a disgusted face and say "ew it's you" in a very sarcastic manner, and then proceed to smirk about it once she see's my reaction. I feel like that is a sign she might also think I'm attractive, but beating around the bush is always so hard. If she does think I am attractive, I'm sure she's wondered the same thing about if I find her attractive as well. The other thing is, I had my friend (also coworker) ask her what she was getting her 'boyfriend' for Christmas, to find out if she actually has one. Her response was "sort of have a boyfriend" and he left it at that. That means to me that she either doesn't know what she wants (which is my initial instinct), OR the guy she wants to date/dating is confusing her or she might want to break up with him. TL;DR:

r/AskReddit TITLE: In a Love triangle and don't know what to do. POST: I've talking to this girl for almost 3 terms (she's the socially awkward type) but I have been having small conversations with her (currently at that time I have no feelings for her). Tell my friend about this girl and he wants to check her out, so I show him the girl in my class he gets interested (he is also a socially awkward type but worse than her), so I decide to be a nice guy and introduce him to her. He doesn't talk throughout the conversation and I end up doing all the talking. I notices almost instantly that he has a crush on her and ask him straight out "if he likes her" he responds with a "yeah, a little". He asks for advice on how to talk to her and I give him tips to starting a conversation with her but he does nothing. Everytime she walks past he just stands there and glares at her (me and my friends call that "eye rape") so I decide if he's not going to talk to her I will, every time she walks past I start a conversation with her. I constantly tell my friend to say "hello" or anything. He does nothing but just stands there and glares at her. He then tells me that they've been talking online via Facebook, Skype and Xbox Live but he completely avoids starting a face to face conversation with her at school. We start talking more often and having more full length conversations (start having small feelings for her). Realize my feelings and start feeling like a dick. I ask my friends what to do and they all say just take the girl from him, they all say I have a better chance in getting in with her than he ever does. I don't know what to do because I don't want to be an asshole and take the girl from him. Extra Background story/information: -This has happened before and I told him about it and he was cool with it but I knew he was upset about, he becams down and really negative about everything for weeks -she has a height complex and im slightly taller than her and my friend is smaller than her (I'm Also using the phone app when I was writing this) TL;DR:

r/relationships TITLE: Worried I might be checking out of my relationship POST: I'm worried that I'm already checking out.  I [M22]  have been in an on and off relationship with my GF[F21]  for about 2 years now.  Recently,  I've been feeling more and more anxious about general aspects to of the relationship.  Going to her apartment makes me nervous and spending time with her always feels like I could be doing something else more productive. When we interact,  I shut down sometimes because there is no way to console her.  She'll keep pestering me for the answer she wants.  Some times,  I feel like she doesn't allow me to express my self in ways that I want.  She often critizes the way that I talk,  telling me that I am being rude and that she doesn't want to talk until I change what I said. Otherwise, she's an amazing girl and she' supported me through my depression and my anxiety with stride.  She deals with these issues herself and has always been able to find ways to help me,  be it out of a panic attack or feelings of worthlessness.  She's a great cook, and we share many of the same interests and ideas.  She annoys me sometimes,  but never to the point that I want to leave her.  She can be jealous,  but I never Now though,  I'm apathetic.  It doesn't feel like this relationship is bringing me as much happiness as it was before.  My eyes have started to wander and I have a fear that I could be missing out on someone that I could grow with,  because frankly,  I feel like my relation is holding me back from archive great things. TL;DR:

r/relationships TITLE: I [F,23] work part time. My boyfriend [M,25] works full time. How do I not feel like a leech when we move in together? POST: We are moving in together in a few weeks, and the income disparity is making me feel awkward. I am part time, working up to 30 hours a week for $9.10 an hour plus commission. He works full time for around $10 an hour. I pull in around $900-$1100 a month, he does around $1400. Together, we're pretty financially stable, the apartment we're renting is fairly inexpensive, and we both have substantial savings. We're also both students, but due to various circumstances, both of our educations are free. However, I feel like shit that I work maybe 30 hours a week max (usually closer to 25) and he works up to 50. I make substantially less than him, and even though we contribute 50/50, even to dates (rule is, whoever comes up with the place pays) and plan on continuing that with the apartment, I worry that upon moving in, I'll feel like some kind of leech. I'm a great cook, and I clean very thoroughly, so I guess that could be of help to make me feel less useless. Whole Stepford idea, giving him a happy place to come home to (something he's never had) and a girlfriend who is relaxed, in shape, and able to take care of him. Working part time is good for me. I have C-PTSD so too much would be overwhelming. I do babysit on occasion, and love it, plus it brings in some extra money. I'm also a damned good couponer. I know that me working full time would decrease our quality of life (I'd have less time to cook, clean, etc) and also possibly bring the crazies back in me (I deal with the mental stuff with a good balance of eating well, exercise, therapy and meds, but stress can really fuck me up). Plus, the company I'm with is relevant for my career and degree and upon achieving my degree, I will have a full time position. So leaving would be stupid. But even with all of this, I still feel like a leech. Help? TL;DR:

r/relationships TITLE: I [18 M] need to breakup with my girlfriend [17 F] but she's crazy about me and has no idea this is coming, how can I do this right? POST: Before I start let me just say I know I'm young and inexperienced but I hope that doesn't make this all meaningless, I really do need a little help. Alright so we've only been dating for five months but she's already crazy in love with me, and I'm not really not sure how to handle it. She goes to a different high school about 20 minutes away and I'm currently in between cars so I only see her on the weekends if everything works out. We've got one of those text message relationships and she constantly tells me how much I've improved her life since we started dating and how she couldn't live without me. I mean every time we fight she tells me she almost has a panic attack thinking about us breaking up. Don't get me wrong she is an amazing person and I wouldn't be posting this if I didn't care about the way she feels. So far she's been a fantastic girlfriend that any guy would be lucky to have. However I'm just scared because this is completely out of the blue and she has no idea I want to end the relationship, and us breaking up is going to wreck her. I really do care about her and I want to do this the best way possible. I'm ashamed to admit but I don't really see a way to do this in person, I mean I can't breakup with her then ask her mom for a ride home, and I need to do it soon because she deserves to date a guy who is just as crazy for her as she is for him, and unfortunately I'm not that guy no matter how bad I want to be. I don't know if it matters but the reason I want to end it is because I still have feelings for an ex and they're too strong to ignore any longer. I know there is an easy answer to this question but I'm not very experienced in break ups and I really would appreciate some advice so I don't end up feeling like a horrible person, thank you. TL;DR:

r/Advice TITLE: Would you outshine your boss in efforts of acquiring their position? (Story inside) POST: So... My boss is probably the most laid back, easy going, chilled out boss in the world. I know that I am ABSOLUTELY BLESSED to have her as my boss. Although, as of late, she's been VERY SLOPPY. She doesn't give 2 shits about her job anymore, has constantly threatened to leave, and has recently graduated with a degree in business. WELLLLL, Today, she called in sick (no big deal), and the administrator and owner of the building pulled me aside and asked if I would be interested in her position? I respectfully said it would be something i'd have to consider, and that i'd get back to them. SOOOO NOW, i've been given a task of the manager, and I think it's in order to see how well i play the role of Manager. MY QUESTION IS...Should I do an outstanding and efficient job? Or, should I do give a mediocre effort? BTW: Her job pays $35 an hour, while mine (As her assistant) only pays much lower. ( I was told, i'd be making $35) TL;DR:

r/relationships TITLE: Me [28/M] with my [32/F] partner of 4 months, wondering if it's the right time to ask her to make it officially official. POST: So, I met this lovely woman off Tinder. Her and I have been dating over the past four months. What started off as intense sexual chemistry has really blossomed into a wonderful relationship. Her and I have a great time together, always motivate each other, have matching sex drives (and sexual interests), and generally just like being around the other. This past Memorial Day weekend, I went on a trip with her to her family friend's cabin. I was slightly nervous because it was the first time we'd be spending extended, intimate time with one another (She works 9-5, I work all over the place and weekends so we generally only get a night out or in to be together). That nervousness dissipated on the ride up there. We hit a whole new level of comfort in the relationship and really enjoyed the rest of the trip. We discussed a lot about us, our lives, our relationship (she said that she's WAY more open and honest around me than she should be. Good?? Bad??) So long story short, I met her parents last night. They like me. Her best friends like me. She likes me. I think I'm ready to take this to the next level. The 'love' word has almost slipped out on numerous occasions and almost feels natural to say. How do I approach this without having the worst case scenario happen (it blowing up in my face)? TL;DR:

r/relationships TITLE: I [23M] am considering to break up with my GF [22F] of 2 years, I don't know if it's the right decision POST: I'm considering ending things with my girlfriend, but I can't bring myself to do it. Here is why I'm considering to end things: Lately (the last couple of months) we don't talk as much as we used to. We only have sex a few times a month. I feel like I've lost interest in her. She says she loves me everyday and it feels like I'm lying to her when I say 'I love you too'. I know that in the long run we don't want the same things in life. I still care for her a lot and I think I love her which makes the decision very hard for me. I can't help but feeling guilty for not being honest about my doubts about our relationship. I can't make the final decision to end things because every time I try to actually have the talk or just think about it I begin questioning if I'm doing the right thing. I've had these doubts for several months now and I feel bad for "wasting her time" until I make up my mind. Every time I think about breaking up I remember how much I care for her and how cute and lovely she is. So I guess my question is how do I know if it's really the time to break up when I still have feelings for her? I haven't said anything to her about my doubts as I want to be sure about my decision, so I wont hurt her needlessly. I hope some of you can give me some advise or thought on what I should do. TL;DR:

r/relationships TITLE: G/F asks me who is hotter, her or another girl,then asks me to find a physical flaw in the other girl? POST: We woke up this morning and immediately I was physical/sexual with her, but we dont have privacy so it didnt go anyway. Within 10 minutes she is showing me a picture of a girl and asking me who is hotter(my g/f or the other girl). I did say my g/f is hotter of course, more exotic and gorgeous. I did however say the other girl kinda looked like a YouTube person and went on to say that she looks like such a boring and plain white girl. Thats all I meant, it wasnt supposed to be a compliment but apparently my fiance thinks the girl is gorgeous so shes upset with me. That started her on to asking me if the girl or the youtuber is hotter. I said I dont even care, they are both boring and plain to me and I dont care about either of them. I kept telling her(my g/f) that she is beautiful and I wish she wouldnt be so insecure, but she wont believe me unless I find 1 physical flaw in the other girl, and boring/plain doesnt count, neither does me not caring a single bit about either of the other girls. I refused because I find it ridiculous that she doesnt just accept a compliment from me, OR an answer. I answer one question from her and she just keeps asking more. btw, despite the name I am a guy(transgender though, mtf pre-everything). I just dont know how to handle it, I dont understand why I cant just not care at all about another women, like who cares what she looks like, shes not my fiance and not want Im into. But thats not enough, so what do I do? Im 27 shes 22. Male/female relationship for 4 and a half years. TL;DR:

r/tifu TITLE: TIFU by telling my girlfriend she is a 9 POST: I can't remember how we got on the subject but I told her she was a 9/10 (referring to her looks). Knowing my own scale, I consider a 9 to be a big compliment. I rate hot celebrities like Rachel Bilson 9. A 9 is amazing. Damn near any guy would love for their girlfriend to be a 9. This is not how she took it. She instantly wanted to know why she wasn't a 10. When I stalled she asked me who was a 10. I blurt out Emily Ratajowski without thinking. An endless number of questions followed, none of which had a possible correct answer. So now she thinks her boobs aren't big enough, she needs to lose weight, and wear makeup. I don't think she needs to do any of that. In fact her boobs are amazing, she is the perfect weight, and I don't even like girls who wear makeup. Doesn't matter, she doesn't believe me. The worst part is I really do think she is perfect for me. I wouldn't change a thing about her. But now I'm "the reason girls have complexes". I guess I'm just a little too honest sometimes. TL;DR:

r/relationships TITLE: Me (17M) and my girlfriend (16F), she keeps promising things then getting cold feet. POST: I'll get right to it, in our relationship my girlfriend tends to be very shy and slow going with everything, so everything in the relationship is at her pace. Her head tends to be real jumble (her words, more or less), so even on normal topics I have trouble understanding her. What happens is, I'll ask her either over, or out, for some time to be intimate, and when the moment arrives, she ends up either getting cold feet, or giving a very weak performance. I would be really fine with this, since I was used to this happening in other relationships. I think the problem is in that she gets my hopes up, which is easy to do. Should I tell her to stop promising things? to be clear, it isn't just sexual things she promises and leaves on, it's that she promises those and pulls out most often. TL;DR:

r/relationships TITLE: Me[19 M] love at "first sight" with[? F] ? POST: So i work in a hotel as a hotel porter, and yesterday my coworker send me to go get some change( coins and stuff since we didn't had non on the register),so i went to the coffee shop that is right in the front of the hotel( since i already have a kinda of "friendship" with one of the woman that works there) to get some change. In that coffee shop there is a girl that works there too but i dont know her age and name but she is kinda my age too and very cute, whenever a pass in front of the shop i look inside and see her staring at me for a moments and then she looks at other thing. So resuming this, since yesterday i entered the shop, i was about to talk with the guy working there ( i guess he was the boss) to get some change and the girl was doing something but then when she saw that i was there she started looking at me and when i looked back to her and smiled she blushed a little and smiled back. She was smiling a lot and she didnt took the eyes out of me, i noticed it by my ( peripheral vision). I feel like a sort of connection with her every time i pass by there, but yesterday i felt a even strong connection since we smiled and kinda "chatted" with each other for a moments and changed some eye contact TL;DR:

r/AskReddit TITLE: Whats the thing your body does that annoys you the most? I'll go first... POST: If in a hurry and need to shit, ill decide to pull the trigger on it depending on whats happening at the moment, and varying degrees of comfort. But sometimes holding it is impossible thus I have to go right away. Why is it almost every time this happens I'll shit and it will take 15 minutes, and a half a roll of toilet paper to get my asshole clean? When im not in a hurry and im just laying around the house i'll shit and wipe and nothing will come off on the paper. One and done. If by chance I am home and I know its gonna take half a roll ill just hop in the shower and clean up. Nothing worse than continuing your day with a raw ass. TL;DR:

r/relationships TITLE: [Update] I [25 M] want to ask a girl out from my class. I feel so stupid asking reddit for this but I need help.. POST: [Here's the link to my prior thread]( So, I went to class preparing to ask her out after class for lunch. Well, it turns out she already has a boyfriend.. I actually figured that out before even asking her out to lunch. I should have just assumed she did. =/ I'm pretty sad about that. It was so easy to talk to her and she is a beautiful person. I know I know, there's more fishes in the sea. I just had it in my head I'd ask her out and she'd say yes. I'm somewhat certain she would have said yes. Meh... Should I go ahead and try online dating or something? Is online dating good for someone with zero dating experience or not? How will I find a girlfriend now lmao.. TL;DR:

r/Dogtraining TITLE: Dominant-dog tricking other dogs to approach by laying down? POST: I'm trying to get my 2 year old 85 pound black mouth cur less reactive around other dogs. When another dog/dog with owner approaches (I go to a park where there is a leash law that most people ignore) he will go into the 'down' position. He will remain in that position until the dog is within pouncing/smelling range and then he will jump up and either be perfectly friendly or be a domineering snarling a-hole. He has been doing this ever since I got him, only he has been less friendly as he's gotten older. I used to encourage him to stay down when other dogs approach (he is great at the down command), but I have recently realized that he is doing it without me telling him to because the other day he plopped down when another dog approached and he refused to stand/sit even when I pulled at his leash...I think he is trying to trick other dogs, and it works, but I have honestly never heard of a dog doing what he does. What is causing him to do this? Should I try to stop this behavior? How? I don't give him a chance to do this when I'm walking, but sometimes I sit down on a bench in the park to watch the sunset or read. I've read you shouldn't pull at a dog's collar when another dog approaches because that makes them more reactive? Also, for reference, I use a prong collar (he normally heels well, but I don't like the struggle when 85 pounds of muscle decides to pull.) For more reference, my dog is fine with other dogs as long as they are obviously submissive to him, smaller than him, and have floppy ears. He has lunged and snarled at certain dogs especially large dogs with pointed ears (I used to think he exclusively hates german shepherds.) I want to get him to a point where he is ok with all other dogs, so right now I am just trying to expose him to dog-heavy areas. My ultimate goal is to be able to take him to a dog-park, not necessarily off-leash, but without behavior issues. TL;DR:

r/relationships TITLE: My fiance (25/f) Broke up with me (32/m) due to financial and timeline issues... What is your opinion? POST: Her and I both have great jobs. I've been here 6 years and her for one year. Her dad put her though school and she finished her degree in art history. I'm 31 she's 25. Everything was perfect, and even til the end, she was bragging how awesome a man I am. Now we broke up a couple months back, but this is now almost the sole reason for the relationship failure. She came to work with me and her dad (big company that's how we met) as her backup plan because she doesn't want anything to do with her degree. It pays very well for someone just having a high school diploma... Can be close to 6 figures. Now, work is shutting their doors in 2017. By the time that happens, ill have an associates degree in comp Sci and be almost debt free. But there's our difference. We've been together 2/1/2 years. Engaged for 6 months at that point. She has no debts, lives at home. She feels I am too big of a risk with job security. She is pretty adamant on being married and having kids by the times she's 30. I have no problems with that... But we both want to have no problems financially in the future, and want to be pretty well off. She also plans to get a masters in something... Possibly occupational therapy. I eventually want to get my bachelor's in computer science (better jobs better pay). We are talking a little bit again, but before we try to make things work, what should I do? I feel helpless at this point and confused. But she isn't sure if wants to go all in on me because of this... I dedicated my last 6 years making awesome money, and now upcoming job loss has killed us. I feel she really does love me, just confused? Advice? TL;DR:

r/relationships TITLE: I [16 M] always end up in stupid arguments with my dad [46 M] over the smallest things. POST: I always fall out with my dad over the smallest things. He's a stressed out guy and gets angry easily, not to mention he's had a lot to deal with recently that I won't get into, but it stills annoys me. For instance, I asked him what our Netflix password was cause I forgot it, and when he claimed we don't have a password, I tried to calmly explain that we must have a password or we wouldn't have an account. He started shouting at me about how I 'always think I'm right' and that 'I was trying to talk over him', when I wasn't at all. Eventually I figured out the password, but still, I was only trying to help get the account sorted. We always butt heads over small things like this and I have to bite my tongue and not shout back at him, but it's infuriating and annoying. Also sometimes I'll just talk to him after a long day of school and , while I'll admit I shouldn't, I'll give a slightly sarcastic answer to something he says. Sarcasm's just natural to me. He will start shouting at this and telling me that I'm disrespectful and ungrateful because of my light jabs. It makes me feel like I have to hide things from my parents and watch everything I say in case they take anything the wrong way. It sucks, I'm not being myself around them. I'm not trying to be disrespectful or hateful, and I try explain to them that I'm sorry if I come across as being moody sometimes, but they always act as if I'm doing it on purpose to hurt them. I'm not, and I can't convince them otherwise. I just feel as if I'm distanced from my parents after always arguing with them over small thing. Sure, I'm no angel, but I just want them to hear my side of the story or debate sometimes, cause sometimes I am right and its unfair they just dismiss my help as being a know it all, and dismiss my sense of humour as disrespectful and being aggressive. TL;DR:

r/relationships TITLE: My[26 queer] partner[22 queer] of 2 years has depression and I think it's starting to ruin me. POST: I knew my partner had depression when we started dating but it has gotten worse. They don't have money for therapy, so i am the only person they can confide in. This wasn't a problem for the past 1.5 years because they college had therapy, but since graduation i've been the only person they can confide in and it's draining me. I've talked to them about it and recently they'd confided in me less, but whenever they have a problem they wear it on their sleeve and it impacts our time together. I realize how selfish this may seem, because I know having depression is harder than dating someone with depression, but i feel like so much of my energy is spent trying to help my partner and that it's having a negative effect on me. I don't want to break up with them because I believe we have a strong relationship otherwise. But sometimes I think about what life without this emotional burden would be like, but then again, the grass is always greener. Can anyone in a similar situation give me some insight? TL;DR:

r/relationship_advice TITLE: I (20m) want to fix things between my (21f) girlfriend. L POST: Things between my SO and I aren't really going well. I've been with her for about 2 years though there was a period where we had broken up for a month. I truly want to fix things between us, I care about her immensely but, we fight constantly. Its gotten to the point where we will fight, make up, and then another issue arises immediately. It's driving me crazy. I'm scared that if we were to break up she wouldn't do anything with her life. I constantly try to motivate her to do/learn new things but she never stays interested. It's like she doesn't do anything. No hobbies no social activities. I mean she hasn't even finished high school. The lack of motivation to do anything is astounding. She has practically no friends. She hardly ever hangs out with anyone. If I mention anything she gets offended and thinks I'm trying to get rid of her, which is honestly pretty clingy. I'm the total opposite, I constantly meet new people and love to be around friends. It makes it more difficult because we live together as well. I really don't know what to do, any advice would be appreciated. TL;DR:

r/Parenting TITLE: My 22 month old's two comfort objects go hand in hand. How do I get rid of one and not the other? POST: My 22 month old has two comfort objects - his blankie and an empty bottle. Before I go any further, let me defend myself here. We never put any liquid in the bottle and he doesn't actually suck on it. He never has any stomach or gas issues because he's not swallowing air. Basically he just rests the bottle in his mouth and holds it there with his hand. He has refused a pacifier since about 4 months old. Anyway, he's almost 2 and is hardly without the blanket and bottle. He doesn't use them much at home except after he's been playing for awhile and wants to chill out with his bottle and blankie on the couch. He does, however, want them at all times when we're someplace new or around new people, which is understandable. I know that having a pacifier can start to affect teeth, although he doesn't hold the bottle with his teeth or suck on it, so I'm not sure if it's exactly the same, but nonetheless, we are starting to get some strange looks. I'm alright with the blanket going everywhere, but I think it may be time to get rid of the bottle. But, the bottle and blankie HAVE to go together. He throws a fit if he has one and not the other. So I'm not sure how to get ride of essentially *half* of his comfort object. I'm also kind of considering just letting it play out and see if he drops it on his own. But I don't really want a 3 year old walking around with a bottle hanging out of his mouth. TL;DR:

r/relationships TITLE: Me [22 M] broke-up with my girlfriend [24 F] of 3.5 years, moving on sucks. POST: Just this morning my girlfriend and I broke up. I brought up the possibility of a breakup during an argument, and she decided that's what she wanted. She took the night to think, and said to me she wasn't happy anymore. So she ended the 3.5 year relationship. I need help moving on. The problem is, I have no support system for this. She and I met freshman year of college. We met, I made her my entire world, and never bothered to make new friends. I literally drive myself nuts. I HATE being alone. It's why I tried to fight to hard to keep the relationship alive when she said she wanted the breakup. I know the relationship was unhealthy and breaking up was the right decision. I just don't know what to do with myself. I re-activated my facebook just to find an old friend who would want to talk to me. I made an okcupid, I've been trolling craigslist for anything... I'm literally desperate for someone. I don't know how to control these feelings and make them go away. TL;DR:

r/relationships TITLE: My [24 M] GF [23 F] 1.5 years doesn't want to hear any of my advice. Wants to take a break. POST: She's studying in film school and I'm working as engineer. She stopped school last year temporarily to work. She quits work earlier this year (January) citing she has to finish requirements for school but she's really not doing anything. Her requirements are already been up for a year but she's not doing anything about it. She'd rather read a nice book or edit pictures to post on facebook than do her film requirements to finally finish school. I keep telling her not to run away from her problems because it will not go away and will just haunt her back. She's always defensive when we talk about it and always keeps quiet. I'm unhappy because she doesn't do anything now. On dates, she'll always depend on me for money, and we always need to go on expensive restaurants rather than cheap ones and I'm uncomfortable with that because she doesn't really earn money and I do. She uses her credit card that her father pays every month when we go. I love her and I want her to be independent. I don't want her to depend on parents for money. I want her to finish school but she doesn't want to. She doesn't want to even get a job now. All she does is think but not doing any actions about it. Don't know what to do. She asks for a break, been going on for 3 days now. I still want to talk to her but she doesn't want any of it. TL;DR:

r/tifu TITLE: TIFU by giving my 8yo stepbrother the same scar i got a month earlier POST: How i got my scar ? Drunk cycling down a banking and into a tree. Today was the first day back home after working in another city for a couple of months so no-one saw or heard about my scar before. As soon as my stepbrother saw it he wanted to know where i got it from, so naturally i pulled out my phone and showed him a picture of a bloody chin. Now something happened i didn't know about: My Stepbrother apparently has severe blood-phobia and faints within seconds. He drops like he was knock-out cold and faceplants into the floor. Now he will get a scar at the exact same place i have mine. You can't imagine how happy his overly protective mother is. TL;DR:

r/relationships TITLE: My boyfriend [20M] and I [23F] are seemingly bickering a lot lately - and I feel guilty about it. POST: Well we have been going out for around a year now, and for the most part it has been the most wonderful thing in the world. I love him, and (hopefully) he loves me. Lately, it seems like he is being pretty selfish in this whole relationship. He rides motorbikes. Fine with me, I like motorbikes too. But when he drops everything we plan just to go riding with the same person every weekend, it takes its toll. So sometimes I get upset, and tell him that it bothers me. He says "Why don't you let me go riding?" But I do. All the time. Him dropping everything is what the problem is. He never seems to do what I want to do either, its all what he wants to do. He seems to tease me all the time. Not the cute teasing, its more the dodge kissing, telling me that i'm weird kinda way. I tell him not to do it so often, but he seems to forget after a few hours. Next issue is that he keeps kicking me out of bed at night because he is 'tired'. He was in a motorbike race meet on the weekend and for the week prior and now after it hes like "i need proper sleep, let me have one day to stretch out". I don't know if its justified to keep kicking me to the couch. With all this, I get grumpy and a bit upset, and he makes me feel guilty for feeling this way. So the question is - Is it justified for me to feel this way about his seemingly growing selfishness, or am I being a bitch? Can/How can I fix things? TL;DR:

r/legaladvice TITLE: Apt complex sent me a 'final account statement' after I moved out with bogus charges. POST: Location: USA, Missouri (Kansas City) I recently moved from a large apartment complex and moved to another city within the state for work. The apt complex mailed me a "final account statement" where they itemized outstanding charges (such as water, trash, sewer, etc) from the final month of my tenancy to be deducted from my deposit ($250). Beyond that, they also charged me for carpet damage (pet damage) and are telling me I owe them an additional $253. I had two small (10-15lb) non-shedding dogs for which I was required to pay a non-refundable pet deposit of $250 each as well as a $25/mo pet fee per dog. So, over the two years I was in the apartment, I paid an extra $1,700 over my rent to keep my pets. I own a carpet shampooer and cleaned the carpets semi-regularly about 3x per year. At the time I moved out, I vacuumed the carpets, wiped down the baseboards, scrubbed the bathrooms, and cleaned out the fridge, microwave, etc. I elected not to shampoo the carpets when I moved because there were no stains or visible signs of soiling. My lease states I am liable for damages caused by improper use, recklessness, negligence, or intentional conduct by me/wife, guests, etc, but the carpet honestly looked the same as when we moved in, certainly nothing any reasonable person wouldn't consider normal wear over time. The thing that really bugs me is that I know they were already planning to upgrade the flooring and appliances after we moved anyway from one of the assistant managers we were friendly with. They state they will send any balance to collections after 30 days. Paying the bill doesn't pose any real hardship and I'll probably just pay it because I don't want my credit to get dinged with a collection. It's not really a sum large enough to justify hiring a lawyer. I'm mostly mad and don't want to pay out of principle because I know they are just trying to screw me and probably do it all the time. Not sure if I have any actual recourse. TL;DR:

r/AskReddit TITLE: Here's one for you Redditors at work, parents and childless: POST: So, an employee that has a baby or a kid has a built in, indisputable excuse to miss a day at work: Woke up and my baby is sick, I'm not coming in to work today. My kid got in trouble at school, I need to leave early and go pick him up. It snowed so much they cancelled school, I need to stay home with my 6 year old. Etc. Now an employee with no children doesn't have this 'get-out-of-work' excuse. Of course I am not trying whatsoever to discount any of those situations, as I am sure having a sick baby is very scary and something you absolutely should make a priority over work. But, say for example, that day your kid is staying home because of the snow day. Well, I don't have kids, thus no reason to stay home, and I DO have to drive in that same snow to get to the office regardless. So my question is : **What are your thoughts on the moral,ethical, professional implications** of a single person, that has no kids, calling the boss one workday morning and saying "Look. I don't have any kids, so I went to a bar and decided to have 4 beers and 3 whiskeys on a tuesday night. Then I met another young single person and we went back to her place and stayed up until 4am doing things in her bedroom that could land us jobs with Cirque du Soleil, if you catch my drift. Anyway, I'm too tired and too hungover to come to work today, see you tomorrow!" I feel like my boss wouldn't think that was too cool, but of course I am free to take a "sick day" whenever I need to, but I would essentially be lying about being "sick". TL;DR:

r/Advice TITLE: My half-sister stood me up. Should I give her another chance? POST: I just met with my father's family for the first time a couple of weeks ago. I never had a relationship with him growing up because of his drug addiction. I recently found out that I have an older half sister. After contacting her, she said she was aware of me for a while but never knew how to contact me. We set up a time to meet but she never showed. 5 hours later she texted me saying she "forgot" and was unable to contact me because she was at her kid's sports event. She offered to meet another day when she is off work and noted the 2 days per week that she has off. My family says she stands them up often and they think she was hungover. She told them she was nervous about meeting me. I personally think she was hungover and that I wasn't a priority to her. I'm really hurt and don't know how to respond to her, or if I should at all. TL;DR:

r/relationships TITLE: Me [22 /F] Trying to re enter the dating world. I need advise after 2 years being single and out of a abusive relationship POST: Hi I have been going through a really bad rough patch when it comes to dating. It has been over 2 years now since I have had a real relationship. The last 2 guys I dated have semi made me lose hope in finding love again. The the first to last guy I was in a abusive relationship that was both physical and verbal. He was my second love and since than i have been going to therapy to get myself back to normal. My last boyfriend he used me for sex and was never there for me when I needed him and dumped me when I accused him of cheating on me. Relationships before that were pretty civil and since than I have remained friends and or talking terms with them. Now that it is the end of the year and I am just graduating from college I am wanting a real mature relationship. I feel like I dropped my standards when I was in school and because of that it has made me very vulnerable. At this point and time I have become very selective and have found myself surrounded by people who have no real ambitions or don't fit where I am at with life. I am not perfect and don't expect that of someone else. I am just sick of not finding the right guy. I have already done the dating websites and they have given me ppl I don't like or abusive ppl like my ex. So my questions are of right now, how should I get myself out there? and what is the best way to filter and meet real good people? I really have been out of the loop of real dating and could use all the help i can get. TL;DR: