Courtship and Marriage

No rigid, formal, traditional institution of marriage and courtship exists for the peoples of the Wildest Peaks. They do not participate in ceremonies to celebrate and
officially seal a couple's union, nor do they follow an elaborate system of
courtship. Couples are considered married when they move together into a new
house apart from their parents and nuclear family. The marriage is expected to
be lifelong, monogomous, and, in some areas with particular ethnic groups,
heterosexual.

## Courtship

No official system
of courtship dictates how two individuals begin romantic involvement. Parents
do not participate in the process of selecting potential suitors; the bachelors
and bachelorettes grow a relationship by spending time amongst one another. There
are no terms within the language for "boyfriend" or
"girlfriend," although the concept of a sweetheart is
well-understood.

Sex outside of
marriage is neither encouraged nor condoned; nevertheless, it is accepted as a
regular happenstance without much stigma. Non-marital sex may occur as one
night stands, short relationships that are never intended to last, or serious
relationships heading toward marriage. Children born outside of wedlock are not
approved, but not stigmatized either; there is no stigma for an individual
being a "bastard" according to the English definition of the word.
Children born from prostitution or rape are those who are regarded as
unpleasant "bastards." More on this is discussed in "Familial
Relations."

Courtships typically
last over a year before a couple marries, and may go as long as several years.

## Betrothal

There is no official
cultural sense of a couple becoming betrothed. The couple agree to marry one
another and then speak to their parents about it. These conversations are done
in private, with each child speaking to her/his parents about the desire to marry.
They ask if their parents approve of the relationship.

Parents may either
accept the marriage and speak their approval and goodwill for the union, or
they may express their distaste for such a marriage. It is highly desirable for
parents to condone the relationship rather than condemn it, although the couple
may override their parents' desires and marry without familial approval. The
marriage is generally considered more "secure" and
"blessed" if all parents express good emotions toward the
relationship.

The time in which a
couple is "engaged" - that is, planning to move in and live together
in their own house - varies in duration from several days to almost a year. All
of it depends upon the couple's financial abilities to procure a house of their
own. In a parent-approved relationship, the parents may assist the bride and
groom in purchasing and/or constructing a new home. Urban couples must purchase
their homes, while rural couples will spend a month or two after their
"betrothal" constructing a home for themselves in the village.

Arranged marriages
are incredibly rare, even within the upper class. It is assumed that a strong
marriage will be between people of similar interests, classes, abilities, and
the like. When this does not occur, such as in the union between Xhadouk and Mera,
there may be some skeptical public talk. The practice of arranged marriages is
mostly isolated to a few minor tribes.

## Marriage

### Marriage ceremonies and traditions

#### Wedding day

The time at which a
couple are officially considered married is when they move to live together in
their own home apart from their parents and other family members. The day they
finally, permanently move into the new home with their belongings in a sort of
"housewarming party" is what may be considered the official day of
marriage. A marriage that is particularly frowned upon by family and friends
may not have this celebration, but the high majority of marriages - especially
heterosexual ones - commence with this move-in party. People who celebrate
these move-in festivities are considered a bit more "solidly" married
than those who forego the tradition.

The move-in day
takes place after the couple have moved their belongings into the new building.
Then they invite friends and family into the house for a celebration. The
couple dress in intricately pattered, fine clothing, while other guests dress
up in their best clothes. The family of the bride and groom typically attend to
cooking a feast for guests, eaten in the new house. Food is set on the dining
mats, and people will come to sit around the dishes when they are hungry. There
is no formal eating time; the food is kept out all day for guests.

The celebration
lasts all day, and visitors may come and go as they please. While they visit,
they may eat food, speak their well-wishes to the couple, and visit the
couple's religious shrine in the corner. It is expected to visit the shrine no
matter what goddess or god is commemorated in that household; if a guest
follows a different deity, they are still expected to pay their respects to the
goddess or god of the newlywed's household. The gods expect the couple to
acknowledge the union to their deity to gain approval. Embedded within the
house itself is a symbol of their union, and the spouses may give one another
some heirloom article of clothing to wear as a symbol of their relationship,
too. This clothing article, which may be a scarf or jewelry, does not need to
be worn at all times.

Most marriages are
heterosexual. However, most peoples within the Western Peaks do not oppose
homosexual relationships, and will often celebrate marriage move-ins much akin
to heterosexual marriage beginnings. Other homosexual couples will not
celebrate the move-in day, but once they come to live under one roof, there is
an understanding by the public they are romantically together. Because there is
some stigma to homosexuals depending upon the people group, they are more
likely to have quiet marriage beginnings.

#### Familial names

Once a couple is
married, one of the spouses will take the other's familial name. They will add
it to their own. Typically the spouse with the higher social status and
reputation will be the name adopted by their partner. The partner will place it
before their first familial name, preceded by the title "Shaa."

For example, when
Xhadouk ra Garet Rangar married Vilot da Mera, she changed her name to Shaa
Xhadouk Vilot da Mera, while the Sovereign kept his name Xhadouk ra Garet
Rangar.

In some societies,
both partners take the title "Shaa" once they are married. Their
children will not have the title "Shaa" unless they are adopted;
otherwise, they will take the familial name both spouses now share.

If there is a change
in social status by the lesser partner, then they will take on a new article.
For instance, if the husband marries an upper class wife, he will change his
article from "ro" to "ra."

### Marital expectations

There are no clearly
outlined duties of what a husband is to do for his wife, or a wife to do for
her husband. The people simply practically assume that the husband(s) and
wife/wives will be able to work out living together, doing what needs to be
done to provide for their children and gain an income. In urban environments,
the partner who receives the highest pay may become a breadwinner while the
other cares for children, or both parents may continue to work to some
capacity. Rural environments, meanwhile, will have the children grow up working
in the fields/shops with their parents starting at a young age. Parents will
continue to work to subsist and the children will be raised within that.

There is no sense of
a wife or husband being superior to the other. They are considered as equals.

Couples are expected
to be monogamous. Polyamorous relationships do not exist and are strictly
taboo. Cheating and committing adultery within the marriage - and during the
informal courtship period when it is clear the couple love one another - is
taboo as well. Adultery may be sufficient grounds to warrant a divorce.

### Marital trends

Most individuals
marry within their own tribe, ethnicity, and Sovereignty. However, typically
there is not a huge stigma when a multiracial couple marry. People will moreso
question the goodness of a match based upon age gap, social status, and
position of authority. The public become suspicious when there is a large age
gap, for those who are significantly older tend to be in greater positions of
authority; a relationship where one individual is in greater authority than
another is considered suspect. The younger and/or less powerful individual is
suspected to have been tricked, coerced, or "after something" in the
relationship. In the same way, couples of different social classes are not
regarded as good matches because they might not understand one another; people
believe that these unions form out of lust rather than a solid foundation.

Multiethnic
relationships and marriages between followers of different gods does not carry
a high negative stimulus.

Marriage does not
intersect with government. There are no benefits to marrying in regards to
governmental regulations, and the government does not keep a census or record
of married couples.

## Divorce

### Separation

Divorce is not
encouraged within society and will cause rumors, but it still occurs. Either
party within the relationship may evoke a divorce - regardless of whether or
not their spouse desires a divorce. The separation of marriage occurs with the
same level of casualness a union does. Divorces occur when the partners quit
living together. For this reason, being denied access into one's home by their
spouse is an incredibly alarming event. There are situations in which the
spouse will only lock the other out for a day or two, but typically this is the
signification of a divorce.

Because marriage is
not a legal institution to begin with, there also are no legal proceedings for
divorces, either. Everything is settled by the separated couple, including
distribution of belongings and how their children will be raised. It is not
uncommon for the individual who initiates the divorce to keep hold of the high
majority of belongings in that house - and to keep a hold of that house, as
well. Children of divorced parents will typically be raised by only one of
their parents, or that parent plus a new spouse they might marry.

### Remarriage

Couples may - and
sometimes do - remarry. This happens when the couple return to live under one
roof once more. There is not another ceremony for this rejoining, but is
considered a more private and delicate manner. It is not exuberantly talked
about in conversation to the re-wed couple.

It is perfectly
acceptable to marry a different spouse after separating from the first.
Notoriously sexually loose, "promiscuous" individuals may have a
cycle of people coming to live, stay, and leave their house.