Straight queer

**Straight queer** is a term with various definitions, depending on the context. It can refer to a cisgender heterosexual person who is gender non-conforming, a person on the multi-attracted spectrum who has a strong preference for a different gender than their own, or a heterosexual and/or a heteroromantic person who identifies with any queer label. People under this term can also refer to themselves as queerhet or heteroqueer.

## Community

### History

Straight queer in the queer community historically meant a queer person who "looked straight" by confirming cisheteronormative gender roles or was straight-passing. It has also referred to cisgender heterosexual (cishet) men who do not conform to hetero-masculinity and those who are allies, which has been criticized by radical feminists.

### Flags

A heteroqueer flag was made on June 29, 2019 by Mod Ap of Beyond MOGAI Pride Flags; one of the simplified versions was made by the same mod on August 27, 2018, and the other by mod named Gayer9000 April 10, 2021. The top colors represent queerness and bottom colors straightness. The alternative pride flag was posted on Tumblr by kaestral on 18th March 2021.

### Controversy

*This sub-heading will be about the controversy that "queer heterosexuality" and "straight queer" hold, both in context of radical feminism and due to queer being often used as a synonym of non-straight.*

### Perceptions and discrimination

Many heterosexual people in the LGBTQIA+ community meet with misplaced homophobia and are told they may not be queer enough due to them being straight, especially when it comes to cishet a-spec or polyamorous people. Straight is sometimes used as the opposite of queer , which may cause confusion on why someone might want to call themselves both straight and queer.

## Media

### Literature

* Jasnah Kholin (asexual heteroromantic) - *The Stormlight Archive* by Brandon Sanderson
* Makoto Ariga (straight trans woman) - *Wandering Son* by Hōrō Musuko
* Hiroyuki Yoshida (straight trans woman) - *Wandering Son* by Hōrō Musuko
* Ryuu (straight trans man) - *Boys Run The Riot* by Keito Gaku
* Paige (aromantic heterosexual) - *Take Me to Your Nerdy Leader* by Hailey Gonzales
* Victoria Spring (aroace heteroromantic) - *Solitaire* and *Heartstopper* by Alice Oseman

### Television

* Dyson (straight polyamorous) - *Lost Girl* by Anna Silk
* Ollie de Ooievaar (straight trans man) - *Alfred J. Kwak* by Herman Van Veen

### Public figures

* Drago Renteria
* Julian Gavino

## Resources

*Here you can place useful resources relevant for the described topic.*

## References

1. ↑ 1.0 1.1 Chrys Ingraham. *Thinking Straight: The Power, the Promise, and the Paradox of Heterosexuality*. Routledge. ISBN 0-415-93272-6. (web archive)
2. ↑ Robert Heasley: "Queer Masculinities of Straight Men: A Typology". journals.sagepub.com. [ contains vulgar language/slurs ]
3. ↑ Kim Wong-Shing: "What Heteroflexible Means & How To Know If It Applies To You". mindbodygreen.com.
4. ↑ Sian Ferguson: "What Does It Mean to Be Heteroflexible?". healthline.com.
5. ↑ 5.0 5.1 Genny Beemyn & Susan Rankin. *The Lives of Transgender People*. Columbia University Press. ISBN 978-0-231-51261-9. (web archive)
6. ↑ Kravitz M.: "Being Asexual or Aromantic Doesn’t Stop You From Being Straight". aninjusticemag.com.
7. ↑ Gabrielle Kassel: "Can Straight People Call Themselves Queer Without Being Appropriative? It’s Complicated". wellandgood.com.
8. ↑ 8.0 8.1 Carla A. Pfeffer: "Trans (Formative) Relationships: What We Learn About Identities, Bodies, Work and Families from Women Partners of Trans Men". researchgate.net. "“[...] I‘m heteroqueer now.‘ Like saying, Okay, I can‘t identify as lesbian and I guess now I‘m in a heterosexual relationship; but it‘s queer because my partner‘s trans.‘ [...]”" [ contains vulgar language/slurs ]
9. ↑ 9.0 9.1 Xan Nowakowski: "Creating Queer Kinship in “Straight” Spaces". writewhereithurts.net.
10. ↑ Roberta Mock. "Heteroqueer Ladies: Some Performative Transactions between Gay Men and Heterosexual Women". *Feminist Review*. Sage Publications, 75, issue 1. ISSN 0141-7789. (web archive)
11. ↑ 11.0 11.1 "Queerhet Flag". kaestral.tumblr.com. (Archived version).
12. ↑ "Straightqueer". *San Francisco Bay Area Gay and Lesbian*. 1/2. (web archive)
13. ↑ Laura Harris & Elizabeth Crocke. *Femme: Feminists, Lesbians, and Bad Girls*. Routledge. ISBN 041591874X. "[...] saying that it was okay for me to be queer only if I was a "straight queer": someone who was conventionally gendered and partnered monogamously with another conventionally gendered woman." (web archive)
14. ↑ Thomas Foster, Carol Siegel & Ellen E. Berry. *The Gay '90s: Disciplinary and Interdisciplinary Formations in Queer Studies*. New York University Press. ISBN 0814726739. "What accounts for, or disallows, the decidedly ambiguous labor of straight queer aspiration? What problems and possibilities are opened up by questions of straight engagement with or participation in queer theory (...)" (web archive)
15. ↑ "Virgins and Queers: Rehabilitating Heterosexuality?". *Gender and Society*. Vol. 8, No. 3, Sage Publications. ISBN 08912432. (web archive) [ contains vulgar language/slurs ]
16. ↑ "Heteroqueer Pride Flag". beyond-mogai-pride-flags.tumblr.com. (Archived version).
17. ↑ "Straight Queer Pride Flag". beyond-mogai-pride-flags.tumblr.com. (Archived version).
18. ↑ "Heteroqueer (2)". deviantart.com. (Archived version).
19. ↑ Madeline H. Wyndzen: "[http://www.genderpsychology.org/psychology/mental\_illness\_model.html The Banality of Insensitivity:
Portrayals of Transgenderism in Psychopathology]". genderpsychology.org. "For example, a MtF transsexual who is attracted to men should be viewed as a straight transsexual women but instead she is often called a "homosexual transsexual."" [ not secure, contains overdated language ]
20. ↑ Christopher A. Shelley. *Transpeople: Repudiation, Trauma, Healing*. University of Toronto Press. ISBN 0802095399. "Indeed, many of the excerpts presented above point to transpeople as objects for a potentially misplaced homophobia/heterosexism which perpetrators themselves struggle with, as reflected in statements such as ‘what are you?’" (web archive) [ contains vulgar language/slurs ]
21. ↑ Sherronda J. Brown: "On being too queer and not queer enough: Finding space for my asexuality". blackyouthproject.com. [ not secure ]
22. ↑ Sian Ferguson: "3 Ways Polyamorous People Are Excluded in Queer Communities – And Why It’s Wrong". everydayfeminism.com.
23. ↑ Elle Rose: "Yes, Aces and Aros Are Queer — Here’s Why". scretladyspider.medium.com.
24. ↑ "Terms & Definitions". amherst.edu. "“Straight: The non-scientific term used to describe heterosexuals; the colloquial term used to designate someone as “not queer.”"
25. ↑ Brandon Sanderson: "Chapter Seventeen". wob.coppermind.net.
26. ↑ 26.0 26.1 "Wandering Son". themanime.org.
27. ↑ Hailey Gonzales: "Take Me to Your Nerdy Leader". queerbooksforteens.com. [ not secure ]
28. ↑ Scott Stinson: "Stinson: The not-so-bizarre love triangle in Lost Girl". nationalpost.com.
29. ↑ "Ollie de Ooievaar". lezwatchtv.com.
30. ↑ Molly Sprayregen: "Drago Renteria is the father of Deaf queer activism". lgbtqnation.com.
31. ↑ Pinknews: "I'm a straight, disabled trans man but people think I'm gay | This is Life" [Video]. youtube.com. (Archived version).