Change

**Change** was the ?th post on the Frilly + Fancy blog.

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I do what I want to do.

...and as simple as that statement may seem,

not too many people seem to understand it-

let alone follow it.

I'll never comprehend why people are so ungodly reluctant when it comes to personal change. Change is the best possible thing that you can do for yourself. If you're changing, that means you're expanding… and if you're expanding, that means that you're THAT much closer to being the best version of yourself that you can be. If you're never open to change, then that means that you're never exploring possibilities for yourself. And if you're never exploring… then you'll never know what truly makes you happy.

People will always, always, ALWAYS disagree with the decisions you make for yourself. But that is NOT a good enough reason to avoid change. I know that dealing with peoples' criticism can be frustrating, but seriously- FUCK THEM. You go out and be fabulous and interesting, while they sit there, being the same lame-o they've "always been". Just because people are comfortable with being boring and predictable, doesn't mean you have to be too. If you wake up one day and get this rush of inspiration to start dressing like a pirate, then you should do it! If it makes you happy, YOU SHOULD DO IT. Sure, people may stare a bit… and maybe even laugh… but deep down inside they are thinking, "Damn! That girl's got balls! I wish I could act on a whim and do more spontaneous things with myself… but I'm scared people will laugh, or call me a poser. I can't handle that.". They are cowards. Cowards hiding behind hateful words. But the more we all reach out and be true to our desires, the more accepted it will become! YOU have to be the one to start it all.

I can nearly guarantee you that every successful person on this planet has gone through some MAJOR personal change to achieve the success that they now hold. Change is an exercise for your mind. It's a creative process that will lead you to many wonderful places. You cannot be intimidated by it!!

I know you might be wondering why I'm ranting about this (although if you know me at all, you probably already know)… but I am a HUGE advocate of change. I am the king of change. I've been through more phases in the past five years than most people go through in their entire life. And you know what? I'm proud of that. Because I'm an active explorer of my own destiny! People LOVE to try and bring me down by calling me "fake", or telling me that I don't know who I am or what I want… purely because I'm so open-minded about making drastic changes in my look/lifestyle. But do you not see the irony in that? I'm the fake one, because I'm following my heart and giving into my desires… meanwhile you're being the same person you've "always been", not giving into your ideas and wishes, because you're SO SET on being seen as what you simply refer to as "YOU"? That's just silly! How can you expect to TRULY know yourself if you don't explore multiple options? Would you be able to know your favorite food if you'd only tried macaroni and cheese your entire life? You might THINK that macaroni and cheese is your favorite… but simply because that's the only food that you've let into your life. Then one day, ten years later, you're going to randomly try pizza and be like, "FUCK! I should have tried this forever ago… I was missing out! PIZZA IS TOTALLY MY FAVORITE!". \*ten points for awesome metaphors, hahah\* But seriously! Discovering your true identity and what you want out of life is without a doubt, the biggest challenge on this planet. Don't put off on solving it until you're fifty years-old and all of your opportunities have passed you by. EXPLORE. EVOLVE. Embrace change. Own it.

You will be happy you did.

Much Love,

Kalel

P.S. Sorry this post wasn't exactly part of Frilly+Fall, but I just woke up today feeling like an open book... and wanting to share my thoughts. This is something I've been itching to speak about for such a long time, and for whatever reason, today felt right. :P

Edit: I would like clarify this section of the post-

"I know that dealing with peoples' criticism can be frustrating, but seriously- FUCK THEM. You go out and be fabulous and interesting, while they sit there, being the same lame-o they've "always been". Just because people are comfortable with being boring and predictable, doesn't mean you have to be too."

This statement was purely directed at the people who would be rude enough to make fun of someone for trying out a new change. It was NOT directed at those who maybe just aren't comfortable with change yet. Not everyone is. It's something that takes time and confidence! But everyone does crave change, whether you're willing to admit it to yourself or not. It is human nature to strive for more, to strive to be better, to evolve and become great.