Soothing 'worthiness issues'...

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**mikeh**

I'm not exactly sure if the umbrella topic of 'worthiness issues' is the right phrasing for what I'm describing. I have just realized that almost all of the contrast-y situations in my life are more than likely the result of me vibing unworthy and undeserving...perhaps. I sat down tonight and realized that this trail of 'unwanted' manifestations that have followed me around for years all contained one (vibrational) constant-- this issue of unworthiness.

I think the reason I have a problem with authority figures (see: jobs) is because my 'unworthiness' vibes always coax from them attitudes of anger/judgment/frustration/yelling and in return I vibe intense fear of disappointing people, making others upset, doing things 'wrong', getting in trouble, not smart enough, etc. It's a circle and it doesn't matter what job I'm doing or where (because it begins and ends with my vibration, yup!). I'm always vibing 'unqualified', insecurity, and I even feel like a fraud while doing the things I love and have a huge talent for.

I know it's all vibration and while I could sit here and blame my parents, I know that it's only that my vibration was trained at a young age to feel that I'm never quite as good as I should be. It's not their fault..it's nobody's fault...my vibe just happened to get trained a certain way and I'd like to turn it around now.

The good news is that finally I understand and feel that this exact vibrational issue is really the root behind all of the supposed contrast in my life right now-- from career, to friendships, to relationships..it all boils down to how I really feel about ME. Of course, duh! I know this.

I think before I continue to look for the ideal career (as I've been doing for several years), and trying to manifest certain relationships, I should correct this mis-alignment with me...because until I do it'll just follow me everywhere and manifest over and over again.

Anything you'd like to give me would be much appreciated! I'm always doing things for me, things that I love doing, and more often than not just flowing with life and doing my best not giving a rip...but for some reason this 'unworthiness' and insecure vibe is still very much a part of me.

**theXception**

The first thing I want to say is "congratulations". It takes creativity to put your life's stories together like that and brains to identify the common thread. Further, it takes courage to say "It is about me and I am the one who is going to change it.". Well done, man.

**TheXception**

And one quick idea in response to your topic. When you think a happy thought, you feel good. It doesn't matter who you are. It works for everybody. This idea gives me a feeling of worth.

**honeypie**

Hi Mikeh! You can re-write your beliefs. :) Some of my new beliefs: No one needs to change for me to be happy; I don't need to change for anyone to be happy; I don't need to change for me to be happy! I also really tuned into: I create my own reality. I say it over and over with emphasis on a different word each time. Others can create whatever reality they want with regards to who they think I am or what they think about what I'm doing, but I create my own reality. Other new beliefs: I've never done anything wrong. I'm not doing anything wrong. I'll never do anything wrong. Does any of this relate? :) And specifically on worthiness- I am worthy! You are worthy! "There is great love here for you"- sound familiar? :s13:

**This Is Bliss!**

Hi Mikeh:wave:,

I have been following your threads and cheering you on since joining this forum and there have been so many times that I wanted to post because our "issues" and situations are so similar. I totally identify with very much of what you have to say and after reading this post tonight, I feel like we are long lost twins!:laugh:

Worthiness and self-confidence in general is something that I have felt has been the undercurrent of most issues in my life like you had mentioned. It has been in the last 2 or so days that I have really identified this as being the major resistance in my life that has caused my contrasts so this post is very timely and just assures me that I am on the right track.:thankyou:

What I have found to be working for me to raise my worthiness vibe is making a concentrated decision/effort to think uplifting thoughts to myself and make long lists of why I'm so great!:laugh: Basically, I have hired a new PR person to represent myself which is ME and she can't stop telling herself and everyone else all of her great qualities. I definitely have been feeling better because of this... I feel like my vibe is slowly starting to rise. :woohoo:

Anyway, I think your fab and I know you're on the right track to finding the truth of how wonderful you really are... it will come!

:s13:Ali

**honeypie**

Hi again, mikeh! I was realizing that prior to reading your post, I had been thinking about one of my favorite Christian authors... who writes that when he travels and gives talks the one thing he sees the most is people have no idea of their worth, or low self-worth. When I read one of his books, I really believed by the end of it that God loved me, and then I thought "but I bet God didn't want ME to find that out!" Sheesh! It's a process! Anyway, I think you're awesome, and how cool is it that you've figured this out and can go from here! Another awesome Abe reminder- You are where you are, and it's ok. Even without having a strong sense of self-worth, you are STILL worthy! And you're on the path to knowing that for sure.

This is Bliss! I love your idea of the new PR person! :)

Sometimes I just spend time thinking about the non-physical part of me, and that gets me to thinking I'm pretty awesome!

I just remembered hearing Abraham talking about self-love, and they suggested starting out by finding things that you love in other people and things, because self-love really is a big stretch for most if not all of us. So love, love, love, love, love and then it will be obvious to love your own sweet self. :s13:

**mikeh**

I haven't had a chance to read everything yet but will do so tomorrow-- thanks in advance!

This is a little bit off of my main post but I thought I would include it:

Right now I have a job that's in the right 'area' that I desire (the arts) but the job itself is pretty much a complete 180 from what I would like to be doing and that's why my worthiness issues have become kind of inflamed recently thus I am constantly butting heads with supervisors unless left alone. I KNOW that I don't really have the abilities or desire to be successful or even competent in this particular job and I am fine with that because I know it's not what I want to do in life... so maybe a f\*\*\* it attitude is in order? lol. So the question is, what is the best way to approach going to work every day at something that I really would rather not do? Focus on a positive aspect? Or just envision doing what I would rather be doing? Making peace with it, I guess.

**Wilfred1204**

You make peace with it. And then the right job will come.

If you can be happy in this job, realizing this is only for now, finding anything about it that you actually enjoy...then your ideal job will be knocking at your doorstep!

When you stop noticing this isn't quite the job you would rather be doing (making peace with it), then you stop pusing againist it/trying to do something about it (you stop all resistance).

And in your state of finding what you like about this job now, the universe will GIVE YOU SOMETHING YOU REALLY LIKE...

The JOB you desire.

Hope this makes sense. Heard it in a video once.

Good night ;-)

**Marc**

> I know it's all vibration and while I could sit here and blame my parents, I know that it's only that my vibration was trained at a young age to feel that I'm never quite as good as I should be. It's not their fault..it's nobody's fault...my vibe just happened to get trained a certain way and I'd like to turn it around now.
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If you're at a vibration of guilt/unworthiness, then moving up to anger or blame is EXACTLY what you should do. The whole point of unworthiness is about judging yourself to be inappropriate in some way and the first thing you have to do get out of that is to shift the blame off yourself and onto someone or something. Later you'll be able to let them off the hook but you have to let YOURSELF off the hook first.

> I'm always doing things for me, things that I love doing, and more often than not just flowing with life and doing my best not giving a rip...but for some reason this 'unworthiness' and insecure vibe is still very much a part of me.
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The other piece you're mentioning is "insecurity." In my mind, that's a little bit of a different animal. Any time you're relying on someone else for your sense of connection you're naturally going to feel insecure because they can't possibly fill the role that you're giving to them. Your connection is all about you and your relationship with your Inner Being and no matter how important you are to someone else, they can't be connected all the time and focused upon you in order to make you feel better. Sooner or later they've got to live their own lives and then you're feeling "insecure" because you're perceiving your well being to be on very shaky ground. Now if you're able to practice deliberately reaching for your own connection, now insecurity isn't an issue because you're demonstrating to yourself that your well being is entirely about your own focus. That's really the ultimate in security because your connection is always up to you. Even if you're not perfect at it, because you always have the ability to reach for relief, you're always in control and insecurity goes away.

P.S. Should be EASY to not get mad at anyone in this job or to make a big deal out of anything, when thinking like this. Because either way in the end, it is just for now until you align consistently with the job/career in your vortex. :-P

**Sparklebright**

Great topic Mikeh!

I think worthiness is a huge issue for many of us. It's just that we are so used to seeing ourselves as \*less than\* that we think it's normal.

Recently having been reminded of one of my unwanted manifestations, only seconds after asking to \*feel better\* about it, I came across an Abraham quote that I had written in my book;

"How the manifestation feels when you notice it is exactly the same feeling that created it"

So I asked myself how do I really feel about this manifestation?

And I realized that I feel ashamed of it! It's not about whether or not IT is shameful--it's how I feel about it when I think of it or notice it.

And I can clearly recall that statements like "Shame on you!" and "You should be ashamed" were a very memorable part of my early life.

So now I am clear on what I do NOT want. I do not want to feel shame any more.

What I DO want is to feel proud and magnificent. Whatever those words mean to me vibrationally.

So when I see or feel this unwanted manifestation I can remember---I want to feel proud and magnificent. And those feelings are available to me right now no matter what happens to be manifesting right now.