Cailan Theirin

## Personality

For Campaigners (ENFPs), one of the great joys of parenthood is sharing their sense of wonder and inspiration with their children. Few things feel more rewarding to a Campaigner parent than seeing their child light up with curiosity about the world around them.
Parents with this personality type want their children to feel accepted and worthy just as they are. Rather than pressuring their children to look or act a certain way, Campaigners encourage their children’s creativity and self-expression. Drawing on their own ingenuity and creativity, these parents guide their children to discover and embrace their unique passions and interests.
Campaigners encourage their children’s curiosity, sweeping away dolls and dinosaurs when interests shift to the ocean, then sweeping away the fish when tastes change again, to the stars.

Balancing Love and Discipline
Most Campaigner parents know the value of structure and predictability. That said, they might not have the heart (or, as they may see it, the lack of heart) to enforce rules and restrictions. These personalities often worry that if they’re too strict or disciplinarian, they’ll compromise the loving bond that they have with their children.
With time, however, many Campaigners discover that having just enough structure can actually help their children thrive. Once they recognize this, these parents often learn to set guidelines in a way that’s loving but firm. In this light, enforcing appropriate rules can become yet another way that Campaigners express just how much they love and care for their children.
No matter how their children behave, Campaigner parents rarely lose touch with their open-minded and empathetic nature.
Campaigners tend to radiate acceptance and compassion. As parents, they aim to become confidants their children can open up to without fear of judgment. People with this personality type excel at creating safe spaces where their children can feel comfortable talking about their frustrations and their fears, as well as their dearest hopes and dreams.
Go On, Spread Your Wings
Throughout their children’s lives, Campaigners provide a combination of almost overwhelming love and support. But as children mature into adolescence, they naturally feel drawn to establish their independence. They may spend more time with their friends than with their family or experiment with views and ideas that are radically different from their parents’.
Campaigners often see their children’s choices and behaviors as a referendum on their own parenting success.
Although Campaigners love the idea of their children becoming independent, they may sometimes feel that their children are pushing them away – something that can be profoundly hurtful for these personalities. Campaigners may be free spirits, but they are also sensitive to others’ feelings and expectations, and they may struggle not to take their children’s behavior personally.
Fortunately, Campaigners’ compassion can help them understand and honor their children’s needs through every stage of development. Parents with this personality type have the wonderful ability to meet their children exactly where they are. This can help their children develop a strong sense of self and self-worth, enabling them to venture confidently out into the big, wide world, knowing that they have both themselves and their Campaigner parent to depend on.

“Maybe I could…fly helicopters *and* be an oceanographer who writes songs and cooks?” Campaigners (ENFPs) are known for having a wealth of ideas, interests, and hobbies – to the extent that they may struggle to fit everything that they care about into their lives.

It’s no surprise, then, that choosing a career path can leave people with this personality type feeling overwhelmed or scattered. They may feel pulled in multiple directions, uncertain of how to honor their passions and keep their options open while pulling in a steady paycheck.

The good news? Campaigners can use their boundless curiosity and imagination to propel themselves forward in nearly any profession.

When selecting a career, Campaigners tend to find that their main issue isn’t a lack of options. It’s that there are just so many fascinating and worthy possibilities to explore.

## What Works for Campaigners

Campaigners have a way of brightening the world around them – including their workplaces. With the right mindset, these personalities can find pleasure and gratification in nearly any job. They may even welcome the challenge of breaking through a grumpy coworker’s shell, making harried customers smile, or boosting the morale of a less-than-cheerful workplace.

That said, Campaigners are more likely to be fulfilled by work that meets certain criteria. First, they need to believe that what they do on a daily basis aligns with their core values. Second, most people with this personality type feel best in jobs that use – and build on – their talents.

It can be hard for Campaigners to maintain motivation in a job that doesn’t enable them to help people or create community in some way.

These personality types may feel that something is missing if they take on a career that doesn’t allow them to use and improve their people skills. Campaigners also tend to be most motivated in careers that offer learning opportunities and room for creativity – including the opportunity to experiment with side projects that catch their interest.

This explains why many Campaigners are drawn to careers in nonprofits, public service, counseling, education, customer or public relations, hospitality, media and entertainment, and the service industry. Jobs in social media and communications can be an excellent fit for them as well, allowing them to balance creativity with a sense of human connection. Campaigners may also gravitate toward scientific and technical fields where they can have a positive impact, such as human health and environmental science.

## Letting Creativity Prevail

For people with this personality type, few things are as demoralizing as a job where every day is the same. Predictability and repetition can make Campaigners feel not only bored but also a little disheartened. Although they benefit from a degree of structure and accountability, they may lose steam in work environments that rely on strict regimentation and hierarchy.

Campaigners crave variety, and they love to ask questions. To maintain motivation, they need to feel as if they’re pushing boundaries and exploring new ideas. Any job that expects them to keep quiet and follow protocol is effectively turning two of Campaigners’ greatest strengths into liabilities.

Fortunately, Campaigners’ irrepressible creativity is an asset in the majority of workplaces. With their enthusiasm and empathy, these personalities can turn each workday into an opportunity to learn something new and make the world just a little better – and they wouldn’t have it any other way.

With their warmth and open-mindedness, Campaigners (ENFPs) often find ways to make their workplaces more creative, inspiring, and caring – no matter where they may be on the career ladder. Whether they’re a brand-new hire or a CEO, Campaigners feel happiest when they have the time and freedom to explore new ideas. And if they can explore those ideas alongside other people who share their excitement – well, that’s even better.

Some personality types are sticklers for workplace hierarchies, but Campaigners see all of their colleagues as their equals. Sure, they may want to impress their boss, but chances are they want to make a good impression on everyone else as well.
Campaigner Subordinates
As employees, Campaigners often impress their managers with their creativity and adaptability. People with this personality type are happy to experiment with new ways of doing things and to change course when necessary. They also stand out as excellent listeners, always eager to consider other people’s perspectives.
Like any personality type, though, Campaigner subordinates have their pet peeves. Chief among these is micromanagement. Campaigners care about doing a good job, and they often feel that they do their best work when they can move at their own pace and do things in their own style.
Constant nitpicking from their bosses can be seriously stressful for Campaigners.
That said, many people with this personality type do benefit from some direct management and oversight. Campaigners are notorious for skipping ahead to a new project before they’ve completed the last one. They love exploring new endeavors, but once a project’s allure begins to fade, they may find it difficult to stay motivated. In this spirit, Campaigners may find it helpful to view check-ins from their bosses as accountability and encouragement – in other words, teamwork – rather than micromanagement.
Campaigner Colleagues
Campaigners view the people they work with not just as coworkers but as friends. People with this personality type take a genuine interest in their colleagues, curious about what makes them tick.
Campaigners can be counted on to provide cheer and support whenever one of their coworkers is down or stressed.
Campaigners are always on the search for win-win solutions to any problem. They don’t want to succeed at other people’s expense, and they rarely put down a colleague to make themselves look good. Instead, they give credit where it’s due and lavish praise on anyone who does a good job. Group brainstorms are their forte. Campaigners listen to other people’s viewpoints and suggestions not just with tolerance but also genuine excitement.
Their ability to relax and have fun will always make these personalities popular around the watercooler. But what sets Campaigners apart is how they can transform their popularity into natural leadership, inspiring their colleagues to band together in teams and collaborate to reach their goals.
Campaigner Managers
Campaigner bosses don’t talk down to the people who work for them. In fact, managers with this personality type behave much like they did before they were in charge – they establish real connections with their employees, and they inspire by example rather than shouting orders from behind their desks.
Campaigners prefer to focus on the big picture, letting their employees use their own judgment when it comes to handling details.
However, not everyone shares this perspective on leadership. In the absence of clear orders, some employees may feel that they are being expected to read Campaigners’ minds. And some teams may need strict deadlines and timetables in order to succeed in their projects.
For Campaigner personality types, it can be especially difficult to reprimand or fire employees – even those who deserve it. Unless they set boundaries and expectations, Campaigner bosses may end up disappointed or even taken advantage of by the people who work for them.
Fortunately, these personalities have the sensitivity and insight to recognize when their team needs more structure or discipline in order to thrive. And while it may not be easy, Campaigners can use their communication skills and empathy to handle even the most challenging workplace situations in a way that is kind and fair.

A Campaigner (ENFP) is someone with the Extraverted, Intuitive, Feeling, and Prospecting personality traits. These people tend to embrace big ideas and actions that reflect their sense of hope and goodwill toward others. Their vibrant energy can flow in many directions.

> It doesn’t interest me what you do for a living. I want to know what you ache for – and if you dare to dream of meeting your heart’s longing.
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Campaigners (ENFPs) are true free spirits – outgoing, openhearted, and open-minded. With their lively, upbeat approach to life, they stand out in any crowd. But even though they can be the life of the party, Campaigners don’t just care about having a good time. These personality types run deep – as does their longing for meaningful, emotional connections with other people.

## The Magic of Everyday Life

Friendly and outgoing, Campaigners are devoted to enriching their relationships and their social lives. But beneath their sociable, easygoing exteriors, they have rich, vibrant inner lives as well. Without a healthy dose of imagination, creativity, and curiosity, a Campaigner simply wouldn’t be a Campaigner.

In their unique way, Campaigners can be quite introspective. They can’t help but ponder the deeper meaning and significance of life – even when they should be paying attention to something else. These personalities believe that everything – and everyone – is connected, and they live for the glimmers of insight that they can gain into these connections.

Campaigners are independent and creative, always on the lookout for the magic and meaning in everyday life.

When something sparks their imagination, Campaigners can show an enthusiasm that is nothing short of infectious. These personalities radiate a positive energy that draws in other people, and Campaigners may find themselves being held up by their peers as a leader or guru. But once the initial bloom of inspiration wears off, Campaigners can struggle with self-discipline and consistency, losing steam on projects that once meant so much to them.

## Seeking Joy

Campaigners are proof that seeking out life’s joys and pleasures isn’t the same as being shallow. Seemingly in the blink of an eye, people with this personality type can transform from impassioned idealists to carefree figures on the dance floor.

Campaigner personalities are capable of intense thought and feeling – and also of kicking back and having a good time.

Even in moments of fun, Campaigners want to connect emotionally with others. Few things matter more to these personality types than having genuine, heartfelt conversations with the people they cherish. Campaigners believe that everyone deserves to express their feelings, and their empathy and warmth create spaces where even the most timid spirits can feel comfortable opening up.

People with this personality type need to be careful, however. Campaigners’ intuition may lead them to read far too much into other people’s actions and behaviors. Instead of simply asking for an explanation, Campaigners may end up puzzling over someone else’s desires or intentions. This kind of social stress is what keeps harmony-focused Campaigners awake at night.

Campaigners will spend a lot of time exploring different relationships, feelings, and ideas before they find a path for their lives that feels right. But when they finally do find their way, their imagination, empathy, and courage can light up not only their own lives but also the world around them.

Curious – Campaigners can find beauty and fascination in nearly anything. Imaginative and open-minded, these personalities aren’t afraid to venture beyond their comfort zones in search of new ideas, experiences, and adventures.
Perceptive – To people with this personality type, no one is unimportant – which might explain how they can pick up on even the subtlest shifts in another person’s mood or expression. Because they’re so sensitive to other people’s feelings and needs, Campaigners can make full use of their caring, considerate nature.
Enthusiastic – When something captures their imagination and inspires them, Campaigners want to share it with anyone who will listen. And they’re just as eager to hear other people’s ideas and opinions – even if those thoughts are wildly different from their own.
Excellent Communicators – Campaigners brim with things to say, but they can be caring listeners as well. This gives them a nearly unmatched ability to have positive and enjoyable conversations with all sorts of people – even people who aren’t particularly sociable or agreeable.
Festive – Campaigners may live for deep, meaningful conversations, but they can also be spontaneous and lighthearted. These personalities know how to find fun and joy in the present moment – and few things give them more pleasure than sharing their joy with others.
Good-Natured – All of these strengths come together to form a person who is warmhearted and approachable, with an altruistic spirit and a friendly disposition. Campaigners strive to get along with pretty much everyone, and their circles of acquaintances and friends often stretch far and wide.
Campaigner (ENFP) Weaknesses

People-Pleasing – Most Campaigners are uncomfortable with the prospect of being disliked. To maintain the peace, they may compromise on things that matter to them or allow other people to treat them poorly. And when they fail to win someone over, they might lose sleep trying to figure out what to do about it.
Unfocused – The thrill of a new project – especially one that involves collaborating with other people – can bring out the best in Campaigners. But this personality type is known for having ever-evolving interests, meaning that Campaigners may find it challenging to maintain discipline and focus over the long term.
Disorganized – Campaigners’ enthusiasm is legendary, but it doesn’t extend to everything. Specifically, people with this personality type may try to avoid boring, practical matters, such as chores, maintenance, or paperwork. The resulting sense of disorganization can become a major source of stress in their lives.
Overly Accommodating – Campaigner personalities feel called to uplift others, and they may find themselves saying yes whenever anyone asks them for guidance or help. But unless they set boundaries, even the most energetic Campaigners can become overcommitted, with too little time and energy to tackle the necessities of their own lives.
Overly Optimistic – Optimism can be among this personality type’s key strengths. But Campaigners’ rosy outlook can lead them to make well-intentioned but naive decisions, such as believing people who haven’t earned their trust. This trait can also make it difficult for Campaigners to accept hard but necessary truths – and to share those truths with others.
Restless – With their positive, upbeat attitude, Campaigners rarely seem upset or dissatisfied on the outside. But their inner idealism can leave them with a nagging feeling that some major areas of their life just aren’t good enough – whether that’s their work, their home life, or their relationships.

## Tropes

* Affair Letters: Can be found in his camp in the *Return to Ostagar* expansion, revealing he was planning to divorce Anora and marry Empress Celene of Orlais.
* Attention Deficit... Ooh, Shiny!: Alistair's party banter with Wynne describes him as such. Alistair: Maric and Cailan had come to Redcliffe to visit the Arl. I was very young then. We were introduced. I believe I said, "Greetings, Your Highness." He said, "Ooh! Swords!" and ran off to the armory.
* Boisterous Bruiser: He's pretty boastful about how kick-ass he and the Wardens are.
* Cruel and Unusual Death: During the Battle of Ostagar, an Ogre that managed to break through the Fereldan lines seizes Cailan and crushes him in its fists, snapping his spine.
* Dead Guy on Display: Only seen in the *Return to Ostagar* DLC. The darkspawn crucify his corpse atop the bridge overlooking the valley at Ostagar as a trophy of their victory.
* Death by Origin Story: Killed by an Ogre at the Battle of Ostagar.
* Dumb Blonde: "What's that you say, Loghain? Strategy against the overwhelming darkspawn horde? Boring! Besides, the sheer awesomeness of my Infinity +1 Sword and the Grey Wardens is far more than enough against these beasties!" (Paraphrased)
* Fake Ultimate Hero: He fancies himself a real hero, but as Loghain points out, Cailan isn't all that he thinks he is.
* A Father to His Men: At Ostagar, it's mentioned that he spends a lot of the time drinking and talking with the troops, often without his bodyguards. It apparently drives Loghain up the wall.
* Glory Hound: His motivation for the battle is a quest for personal glory.
* Heroes Love Dogs: Ostagar apparently stinks of dogs because he brought all of his kennels with him. During the battle, he noticeably winces and turns not to look when one of the Mabari charging the darkspawn gets impaled on a Hurlock's sword.
* Hidden Depths:
	+ There are a few subtle hints that a lot of his behavior is an act and that he is a much more canny and humble leader than he appears - rather, he acts like he does because a King is *expected* to act the way he does, and in the face of an army of darkspawn you kind of want to inspire confidence in your men rather than terrifying them by letting on just how screwed they might be if things don't work according to plan.
	+ Given his love of legendary battles and military history, one could easily infer that Cailan is actually very well-read and this is part of the reason he's annoyed at Loghain for sticking to more traditional, "boring" strategies, instead of trying new tactics to combat the Horde.
	+ It's implied that Cailan wishes to increase foreign ties with Orzammar, as upon meeting the Dwarf Noble, he mentions having witnessed a Proving during his last royal visit and expresses the desire to learn more about Dwarven culture. He also seems similarly interested in learning more about the Dalish. Should a Dalish Elf player character have at him for being a "Human Lord", he doesn't take it personally and is completely understanding why the Dalish feel that way.
	+ Furthermore, he expresses interest to find out what the Alienages are like, something his advisors and guards wish him not to know. When the City Elf gives him the blunt response, "I killed an Arl's son for raping my friend", he's visibly taken aback and appears rather disturbed to discover that conditions are that bad and that the elves who live there are being so mistreated.
	+ An example of Cailan being more intelligent and politically savvy than he appears is his insistence that Alistair join the Warden in lighting the beacon at the Tower of Ishal. As the closest thing to an actual heir to the throne if Cailan falls in battle, he wants Alistair to be as far away from the front lines as possible, a surprisingly smart move on his part.
* Leeroy Jenkins: It doesn't help that he openly mocks the suggestion he's "over-confident" either.
* Nice Guy: May not be the sharpest tool in the shed, but he's friendly to just about everyone, no matter what their background. He's even nice to elven player characters that mouth off at him; he's very understanding as to why they have grievances.
* Noodle Incident: *The World of Thedas* reveals that when he was still a prince, Cailan and Anora disappeared for nine days to hunt a giant, and were later found with a Fereldan soldier in Crestwood, "drunk as dwarves, covered in bruises, cuts, and ash, and smelling strangely of cheese." Apparently several hundred wheels of said cheese were involved. Cailan: *[dramatic pause]* It's better that the people of Ferelden never know the lengths to which their prince must go to protect them.
* O.O.C. Is Serious Business: He normally acts like a goofy and overconfident Glory Hound. However, when a Human Noble informs him of Arl Howe's betrayal and the deaths of their family, he becomes dead serious and vows to bring him to justice as soon as they are all done with the darkspawn.
* Royals Who Actually Do Something: He doesn't succeed, but it's the thought that counts. It also highlights why this is often a *very* bad idea; his personal presence in the battle turned what would have been a nasty, but temporary, defeat into a complete disaster.
* Sheltered Aristocrat: Despite being a sheltered buffoon, he genuinely wants to govern well. He assures the Human Noble he'll eliminate the traitorous Arl Howe once the darkspawn are defeated, and his shock at what happened when the City Elf confronts him with the truth of what's been happening in the Alienage is genuine.
* Sibling Yin-Yang: Averted, for the most part. Cailan and his half-brother are actually pretty similar in their nonchalant approach to things, their coming off as idiots to those around them, their willingness to discard formality for friendship, and their bravery in the face of adversity. Alistair definitely acts a lot like Cailan a few times after he ascends the throne, because even if he doesn't really want the job, *you will remember who is king*. The main difference between them is that Cailan thinks of himself as a Warrior Prince, while Alistair, who doesn't, actually *is* one. In fact, Anora comments that she's wary of marrying Alistair because he resembles Cailan way too much.
* Strong Family Resemblance: His facial structure is very similar to Alistair's; the main difference is really their hairstyles and color.
* Succession Crisis: More downplayed, but his letters to Orlais reveals that this was on his mind since Anora is suspected of being infertile. After the Battle of Ostagar, Cailan intended to divorce Anora and marry the Empress of Orlais. Killing two birds with one stone, he'd be uniting two nations and ensuring he finally had an heir. There's a bit of blame-shifting in that, though; Word of God confirms that the Theirin line has never been very fertile, so it's likely Anora isn't the one who's sterile. Notably, despite having had what his wife calls "discreet" affairs, he's not known to have sired any children outside the marriage.
* Unwitting Instigator of Doom: His well-meaning yet ultimately suicidal insistence on leading the charge and mixing it up with the Darkspawn personally leads to a good deal of the plot of *Origins* being far more complicated than it should've been.
* Warrior Prince: King, but either way he's not one even if he thinks otherwise.
* Wide-Eyed Idealist: He almost overlaps with The Fool, with his estimation of the coming battle. He's something of an Ascended Fanboy of the Grey Wardens who Jumped at the Call and then doesn't take things seriously enough.
* Wrong Genre Savvy: He views himself as a hero slaying evil, just like in the old tales he was raised on and decides not to wait for reinforcements before taking the fight to the darkspawn because he's convinced that legendary heroes like the Grey Wardens will always prevail. He dies a gruesome death after being betrayed by an ally.

## Relationships

As friends, Campaigners (ENFPs) are cheerful and supportive. They’re nearly always up for a little lighthearted banter – or a deep, heartfelt, emotional discussion about anything and everything.

Generous and giving, Campaigners have much to offer in the realm of friendship. At times, however, they may struggle with a suspicion that they care more about their friends than their friends care about them – a suspicion that can leave these sociable, warmhearted personalities feeling more than a little lonely.

For Campaigners, friendship is an opportunity to see the universe through another person’s eyes.

## The Adventure of Friendship

Imaginative and upbeat, Campaigners know how to transform even the most ordinary moments into a special occasion. And for these personalities, nearly any opportunity to spend time with friends *is* a special occasion. Campaigners cherish their friends, and they’d hate to take a single moment together for granted.

With their trademark good cheer, Campaigners can turn any occasion into an adventure – an unforgettable dance party, an impromptu cookie-baking contest, or a soul-baring conversation about the state of the world.

As you might expect, Campaigners’ sociable energy can be a magnet for other outgoing personality types. But their warmth and sincerity draws all sorts of people out of their shells, and many Campaigners feel drawn to befriend people who are relatively shy or reserved.

Attracted to depth and nuance, people with this personality type find it gratifying to watch someone gradually open up and reveal their innermost thoughts and feelings. And with their unique combination of sensitivity and enthusiasm, Campaigners can help quieter friends feel understood and accepted – and not a little exhilarated.

## In Too Deep

From the outside, it might seem that friendship comes easily to these personality types – and to some extent, it does. But that doesn’t mean that Campaigners always experience the deep, meaningful relationships that they long for.

Some people simply don’t want to open up emotionally in the way that Campaigners crave. Others may turn out to be closed-minded or judgmental in ways that don’t match their values. To Campaigners, it can sometimes seem as if the rest of the world were satisfied with superficial, casual relationships. In these moments, they can’t help but wonder whether their deep longing for human connection is just too much for other people to handle.

Ever the idealists, Campaigners may find it difficult to accept that they can’t befriend everyone.

Campaigners’ idealism can also cause issues within their close friendships. This personality type is known for going to great lengths to be caring and helpful, and Campaigners take pride in being unfailingly generous with their energy, time, money, attention, and emotions. But, at times, Campaigners may give so much to their friendships that they can’t meet their own needs. Unfortunately, even between the dearest of friends, this sort of imbalance can create resentment and misunderstanding.

## Making Life Spectacular

Fortunately, Campaigners’ emotional sensitivity enables them to respond not only to their friends’ needs but also to their own. Once Campaigners learn to balance their desire to help others with their need to stay true to themselves, they can bring the full strength of their empathy, curiosity, and joy to their friendships. And the adventures that Campaigners share with their friends are the stuff that a good life is made of.

### Anora

It’s hard to overstate just how much Campaigners (ENFPs) care about love. This is a passionate, warm, openhearted personality type – one that brims with hopes and dreams, ideas and experiences – and Campaigners bring every ounce of this vibrant energy to their romantic relationships.

For Campaigners, romantic relationships are beautiful and exhilarating – an opportunity for two souls not only to explore the world together but also to connect on the deepest of levels.

Many Campaigners harbor a deep longing to share their lives with another person. As a result, these personalities may feel a bit empty or uninspired when they’re single. While their dedication to relationships is admirable, Campaigners may need to guard against investing too much of their sense of self in their relationship status.

## Fanning the Flames

When Campaigners are interested in someone, they rarely hold back. People with this personality type tend to fall in love easily – and they fall *hard*. Campaigners shower their new flame with affection, trusting that the devotion and passion that they feel are real.

Optimists at heart, Campaigners are undaunted by the practical challenges and inconveniences of a new partnership. This might explain why they generally don’t shy away from long-distance relationships – in their minds, physical distance is no match for the power of true love. Rather than focusing on potential issues, Campaigners sink into the joys of a relationship’s honeymoon stage, constantly looking for ways to prove their dedication and delight their partner.

In a world of dating games and rules, Campaigners’ willingness to throw caution to the wind can be a breath of fresh air.

For better or for worse, not everyone can match this personality type’s ardor and intensity. Some people just need more space – whether physical, emotional, or both. If their partner’s enthusiasm doesn’t seem to match their own, Campaigners may find themselves feeling insecure or needy.

And when the flames of romance start to flicker or wane – as happens in nearly every longer-term relationship – Campaigners might worry that their devotion has been misplaced and the match isn’t meant to be after all.

## The Mystery of Relationships

Perhaps because they’re so unstinting with their affection, Campaigners can struggle with the mystery of why some relationships don’t work out. Shouldn’t love be enough to keep two people happily together – especially when one of those partners is as eager to please as a Campaigner?

But, like everyone, people with this personality type need to remember that relationships are in all ways mutual – mutual interest, mutual growth, and mutual responsibility. As many Campaigners learn, the fate of a relationship has less to do with whether it was “meant to be” in some cosmic sense than with how partners treat and communicate with each other.

Campaigners know that lasting love takes effort and commitment – but they may become alarmed when the work of being in a relationship starts to feel like, well, work.

## Cherished Ideals

Campaigners approach their relationships with the highest of ideals. They long to know and unconditionally accept everything about their partner, just as they long for that person to know and unconditionally accept them in return.

With this intense, all-in approach to love, Campaigners may feel more energized in the exciting, unpredictable early stages of a courtship than they do in established relationships. After all, long-term relationships require two people not just to enjoy each other’s company but also to navigate practical matters together, such as chores, budgeting, and social or family obligations.

In settled relationships, Campaigner personalities may find themselves longing for the days when they and their partner were more focused on candlelit dinners than who was going to empty the dishwasher.

For Campaigners, such issues can seem painfully unromantic. But unless these types take on their share of the responsibilities and help keep things running smoothly, they may actually amplify any stress and resentment in the relationship.

Fortunately, Campaigners can find ways to balance their spontaneous, passionate nature with the stability and consistency that long-term relationships require. With their trademark sensitivity and goodwill, these personalities can transform even the most mundane tasks into a creative, heartfelt expression of love.