Eram Kader

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**Eram Kader** is an Orlesian Grey Warden, and Warden-Commander of Ferelden, who ruled the Arling of Amaranthine for six years. He is the son of Nika Kader and Eadrek Kader.

## Biography

Nearing 40, as he is 38, he became a Warden when he was 22 and reckless, as he joined the army when he was 17 to keep himself out of trouble as he lived in poverty, and sickness killed his family. He is now nearing his calling, but keeps that to himself in the hopes that he has yet more years than he thinks.

## Personality

He had an excellent mentor in the army, a disgraced chevalier who greatly influenced who he is now. He was soon promoted to Captain before joining the Wardens, having a taste for leadership and finding he was a natural. He made many mistakes as a captain that his mentor covered for, and felt the pressure to mature so that more people would not die from his ignorance and reckless mistakes. Eram is confident, forward, resourceful and competent, motivated by the need to be independent and have control over his life. He is bold and full of drive, he enjoys his position as the respected leader of the Ferelden Grey Wardens. He has vision, intelligence, and the determination to push ideas through to completion no matter the obstacles, he is a force to be reckoned with. He does not have time for romance and views it as a pointless distraction that would hinder him form being an effective leader. In his youth, before he was a Warden, when he was simply an officer in the Orlesian Army, he planned on marrying a surfacer woman, as he wanted a son to teach and take after him. He courted her seriously, wanting marriage from the start, but decided to leave her when he was recruited into the Grey Wardens, not wanting to burden her with a husband that was never there, he still thinks of her, and she keeps him updated on her life, her new marriage, and their newborn daughter. He is always up for a challenge, and takes his role as Commander of the Grey seriously, with the utmost sense of personal responsibility. He holds himself to a higher standard than most, viewing the success of his Wardens as a reflection of his personal standards, and wants nothing more than to build them into smart, independent, capable, and formidable warriors and protectors. He cares less about their moral values than them being rational and upholding his standards wherever they are. He is more interested than being respected than being loved, and gets what he wants regardless of of criticism or opposition. He has a personal code of honor, and a sharp sense of justice that pushes him to act when he perceives injustice, especially abuse of power over subordinates, as the first captain he was under scarred him. He can be intimidating and intense, as he is blunt, no nonsense, and does not suffer fools, though he is much more tolerant and diplomatic than his youth.

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8s are natural leaders who often need to have control over their own surroundings and want to have a big impact on the world.

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Avoidance compulsion
8s search at all costs, and sometimes subconsciously, to avoid weakness. They do everything they can to avoid being weak, feeble, vulnerable, depend on others, unfair (or restrictive) rules and being controlled or manipulated.
Center of attention and motivation
8’s attention is mainly focused around questions of power: who has it and especially - “is it being used fairly?”. They often summarise things and are more interested in the whole picture rather than the details, which they will look at if they feel the need to.
They are autonomous and are motivated to develop their independence to become their own authority. They are also motivated by contributing to have an impact on the world. They do not need to be loved but they need to be respected. They need a sense of fairness and equality in their relationships with others.
Vice and defense mechanism
When they are in the grips of their compulsion (avoiding weakness), their ego makes them excessive and can push them to extremes. They are quick to respond and can react excessively, answering in a strong way to what triggered their compulsion. They tend to push things to the maximum, make too much of it, become too intense and not want to limit themselves. They may have too much faith in their own justice and truth. Their defense mechanism is denial: They can deny or repress (often unconsciously) the vulnerabilities, weaknesses or more tender feelings they may have, especially when they are in the action.
In harmony
When they are at peace with themselves and manage their compulsion, 8s are confident, brave, fair, responsible, clear, stern, protective, keen for action and can make good leaders.
They are at ease when others are loyal, innocent and sincere, and when they are the only ones to have control. Then, they lean towards their integration type (type 2) and the latter’s positive traits are incorporated into their behaviour. This way, they become more affectionate, generous and humble.
In imbalance
In the grips of their compulsion, 8s can become intimidating, impulsive, dictatorial, irritable, lecherous, aggressive and merciless.
If the situation doesn’t improve, they lean towards their disintegration type (type 5) and the latter’s negative traits are incorporated into their behaviour. They can thus have more paranoid thoughts and become more distant and withdrawn for a certain period of time.
Wings
Type 8’s neighbouring types are 7 and 9. The “wing” is the neighbouring type that appears to have the most influence on the base type.
8w7s are more energetic, audacious and entrepreneurial but can also be more impulsive and prone to addiction.
8w9s are calmer, more receptive and stable, but can also be obstinate and indifferent.
Commanders are natural-born leaders. People with this personality type embody the gifts of charisma and confidence, and project authority in a way that draws crowds together behind a common goal. However, Commanders are also characterized by an often ruthless level of rationality, using their drive, determination and sharp minds to achieve whatever end they’ve set for themselves. Perhaps it is best that they make up only three percent of the population, lest they overwhelm the more timid and sensitive personality types that make up much of the rest of the world – but we have Commanders to thank for many of the businesses and institutions we take for granted every day.
Striving for Greatness
If there’s anything Commanders love, it’s a good challenge, big or small, and they firmly believe that given enough time and resources, they can achieve any goal. This quality makes people with the Commander personality type brilliant entrepreneurs, and their ability to think strategically and hold a long-term focus while executing each step of their plans with determination and precision makes them powerful business leaders. This determination is often a self-fulfilling prophecy, as Commanders push their goals through with sheer willpower where others might give up and move on, and their Extraverted (E) nature means they are likely to push everyone else right along with them, achieving spectacular results in the process.
At the negotiating table, be it in a corporate environment or buying a car, Commanders are dominant, relentless, and unforgiving. This isn’t because they are coldhearted or vicious per se – it’s more that Commander personalities genuinely enjoy the challenge, the battle of wits, the repartee that comes from this environment, and if the other side can’t keep up, that’s no reason for Commanders to fold on their own core tenet of ultimate victory.
The underlying thought running through the Commander mind might be something like "I don’t care if you call me an insensitive b\*\*\*\*\*d, as long as I remain an efficient b\*\*\*\*\*d".
If there’s anyone Commanders respect, it’s someone who is able to stand up to them intellectually, who is able to act with a precision and quality equal to their own. Commander personalities have a particular skill in recognizing the talents of others, and this helps in both their team-building efforts (since no one, no matter how brilliant, can do everything alone), and to keep Commanders from displaying too much arrogance and condescension. However, they also have a particular skill in calling out others’ failures with a chilling degree of insensitivity, and this is where Commanders really start to run into trouble.
A Worthy Challenge
Emotional expression isn’t the strong suit of any Analyst type, but Commanders’ distance from their emotions is especially public, and felt directly by a much broader swath of people. Especially in a professional environment, Commanders will simply crush the sensitivities of those they view as inefficient, incompetent or lazy. To people with the Commander personality type, emotional displays are displays of weakness, and it’s easy to make enemies with this approach – Commanders will do well to remember that they absolutely depend on having a functioning team, not just to achieve their goals, but for their validation and feedback as well, something Commanders are, curiously, very sensitive to.
Commanders are true powerhouses, and they cultivate an image of being larger than life – and often enough they are. They need to remember though, that their stature comes not just from their own actions, but from the actions of the team that props them up, and that it’s important to recognize the contributions, talents and needs, especially from an emotional perspective, of their support network. Even if they have to adopt a "fake it ‘til you make it" mentality, if Commanders are able to combine an emotionally healthy focus alongside their many strengths, they will be rewarded with deep, satisfying relationships and all the challenging victories they can handle.
Efficient – Commanders see inefficiency not just as a problem in its own right, but as something that pulls time and energy away from all their future goals, an elaborate sabotage consisting of irrationality and laziness. People with the Commander personality type will root out such behavior wherever they go.
Energetic – Rather than finding this process taxing Commanders are energized by it, genuinely enjoying leading their teams forward as they implement their plans and goals.
Self-Confident – Commanders couldn’t do this if they were plagued by self-doubt – they trust their abilities, make known their opinions, and believe in their capacities as leaders.
Strong-Willed – Nor do they give up when the going gets tough – Commander personalities strive to achieve their goals, but really nothing is quite as satisfying to them as rising to the challenge of each obstacle in their run to the finish line.
Strategic Thinkers – Commanders exemplify the difference between moment-to-moment crisis management and navigating the challenges and steps of a bigger plan, and are known for examining every angle of a problem and not just resolving momentary issues, but moving the whole project forward with their solutions.
Charismatic and Inspiring – These qualities combine to create individuals who are able to inspire and invigorate others, who people actually want to be their leaders, and this in turn helps Commanders to accomplish their often ambitious goals that could never be finished alone.
Commander Weaknesses
Stubborn and Dominant – Sometimes all this confidence and willpower can go too far, and Commanders are all too capable of digging in their heels, trying to win every single debate and pushing their vision, and theirs alone.
Intolerant – “It’s my way or the highway” – People with the Commander personality type are notoriously unsupportive of any idea that distracts from their primary goals, and even more so of ideas based on emotional considerations. Commanders won’t hesitate a second to make that fact clear to those around them.
Impatient – Some people need more time to think than others, an intolerable delay to quick-thinking Commanders. They may misinterpret contemplation as stupidity or disinterest in their haste, a terrible mistake for a leader to make.
Arrogant – Commander personalities respect quick thoughts and firm convictions, their own qualities, and look down on those who don’t match up. This relationship is a challenge for most other personality types who are perhaps not timid in their own right, but will seem so beside overbearing Commanders.
Poor Handling of Emotions – All this bluster, alongside the assumed supremacy of rationalism, makes Commanders distant from their own emotional expression and sometimes downright scornful of others’. People with this personality type often trample others’ feelings, inadvertently hurting their partners and friends, especially in emotionally charged situations.
Cold and Ruthless – Their obsession with efficiency and unwavering belief in the merits of rationalism, especially professionally, makes Commanders incredibly insensitive in pursuing their goals, dismissing personal circumstances, sensitivities, and preferences as irrational and irrelevant.
With his professional relationships, like with Seneschal Varel
As in other areas of their lives, Commanders approach dating and relationships with a set of goals and a plan to achieve them, and proceed to do so with impressive energy and enthusiasm. People with the Commander personality type are in it to win, and will gladly take leading roles in relationships from the start, assuming personal responsibility for how smoothly things go and working actively to ensure a mutually rewarding experience. Romantic relationships are a serious business, and Commanders are in it for the long haul.
Taking the Lead
This sense of personal responsibility means that Commanders put a lot of energy into their relationships, and they show their creativity by always having something new on the agenda to keep things interesting, especially in the dating phase. At the same time though, Commander personalities keep their eyes on the long term, and if they determine that a relationship is heading towards a dead end, they will cut their losses and move on in what will seem to their partner an abrupt end to the attention they had been receiving.
This occasional ruthlessness with personal relationships is Commanders’ primary weakness, and if they aren’t careful they can develop quite the reputation. Sensing others’ feelings and emotions will never be a comfortable skill for Commanders, but it is critical that they work consciously to develop it, both for their partners’ sake and for their own healthy emotional expression. If they don’t, they risk dominating and overruling their partners, and this insensitivity can easily break a relationship, especially early on.
Loving Boldly
But as all goes well in the dating phase and a future is deemed viable, people with the Commander personality type continue to impress with their creativity and energy. Their authentic confidence makes Commanders’ sex life dynamic to say the least, and they often push to explore new ways to express their affection with imaginative enthusiasm. Yet Commanders tend to have these innovations planned in advance, with some structure and predictability to their sex lives, leaving the true spontaneity to those less organized personality types.
Commanders are extremely growth-oriented, and will seize any opportunity to improve themselves, listening to and acting on criticisms, so long as they are logical ones, and always striving to improve their knowledge. At the same time, Commanders expect this of their partners, and it is surprising to them that others don’t always share this attitude. Still more surprising to Commander personalities is others’ active efforts to avoid these tense situations.
Commanders in particular would do well to remember that their approach is just one angle of a multi-faceted spectrum of alternatives. While Commanders may view criticism as the most efficient route (and they’re often right), they should bear in mind that their partners may be more interested in emotional support and growth, an area of self-improvement that Commanders themselves too often avoid.
As with most things, balance is key, and Commanders should strive to meet their partners half-way, whatever their needs, be it through honest criticisms or steady emotional support and praise.
As with other Analyst types, Commanders’ best matches are with other Intuitive (N) types, with one or two opposing traits to create more balance in the relationship. Mature Commanders are able to recognize and adapt to the needs of their partners, and know that even the most rational individuals have emotional needs that must be met. Fortunately the same logic that dismisses emotions is also able to recognize that a conciliatory attitude can be the best tool to get the job done. With their strong senses of responsibility and dedication, people with the Commander personality type are sure to make this effort, resulting in long-lasting, satisfying relationships.
As in most aspects of their lives, in friendship Commanders seek personal growth and inspiration, and they often have a plan for how to accomplish it. Friendships of circumstance, built on things like shared routines, are not Commanders’ preferred method – rather, they pursue their friends, seek out individuals who share their passion for deep, meaningful discussions, and who enjoy learning and development as much as they do. It is not always easy to be Commanders’ friends – they demand a lot from these relationships – but they pay a great deal of attention to their friendships, and it is unlikely that it will ever feel stagnant.
Commander friendships are built on ideas, and a lot of what they find enjoyable is the repartee of putting thoughts forward and defending them from assault from every angle. People with the Commander personality type are very smart and highly critical, and they won’t back down if they are put on the defensive – in fact, there’s no better way to earn their respect.
It’s not easy to stand up to a personality as big and blustery as Commanders’, and they too often find that others crumple under the force they apply when they really start to enjoy themselves.
Only the most hardened rationalists are able to hold their ground against strongly expressed Commander personalities, who neither need emotional support, nor understand others’ need for it. This lack of sensitivity is Commanders’ chiefest weakness. Their tendency to challenge their friends, question their conclusions, and dismiss emotional arguments as irrelevant is especially difficult for Feeling-oriented friends to cope with. Either a point is supported by logic and reason, or it is erroneous.
Bridging the Gap
More enlightened Commanders recognize that if ever there was an area where they could learn from others and improve themselves, it is in the realm of emotional sensitivity – to dismiss any aspect of personal growth borders on hypocrisy. Friendships with people from the Diplomat type group can be especially rewarding for Commanders, as the shared Intuitive (N) trait fosters an instantaneous connection that can bridge the chasm between their uninhibited logic and the recognition that cooperation and conciliation can often accomplish more than that logic ever could alone.
Still, the bulk of Commanders’ friends will likely fall into the Analyst category, as all of these types share the same passion for logical, far-reaching ideas and critical debate. Anyone who can match Commanders’ ability to brainstorm and theorize will find an honest and dedicated friend. Anyone who can’t or won’t, as with many more down-to-earth types who often question the point of such discussions, will find themselves ignored – perhaps a situation that is best for everyone.
As parents, most Commanders must temper their strong-willed, hyper-logical approach to life in order to make room for their children’s needs and feelings. This by no means suggests that people with the Commander personality type are bad parents – far from it – simply that their relationships with children, who are typically more sensitive and less able to conduct truly rational analysis, require a great deal more emotional tact and personal liberty than they are accustomed to giving.
Building Emotional Tolerance
Commanders welcome differences of opinion, and this is true with their children as well. But while gladly having rational, well-thought-out discussions about roles and responsibilities, at the end of the day Commanders expect their authority to be respected. A disagreement is no excuse for shirking established responsibilities, and Commander parents can be utterly uncompromising in maintaining this structure. This strictness can be a tremendous source of tension in the household – a little flexibility can go a long way.
When these debates devolve into emotional appeals is when Commander parents run into real trouble, as their persistent weakness with emotional tolerance makes dealing with growing children, especially adolescents, their most significant challenge. As in their other relationships, Commander parents should strive to strengthen this skill – often enough young children don’t have the words to express their needs rationally, and adolescents don’t have the patience for it, a perfectly natural condition.
It has taken him many years to learn, but he know knows to listen to emotional expression as a valid form of communication and responds in kind, to build trust, minimizing emotional conflicts, which he views as a dangerous distraction and detriment to the effectiveness of his team.
Fostering Independence
Commander parents should remember that a part of developing that necessary sense of independence is being able to control one’s own schedule and activities, to chart one’s own course, at least to a certain extent. People with the Commander personality type will spare no effort for their children, but it’s sometimes the case that taking a deep breath and loosening their structures as their children grow and mature does more to achieve their goal of raising capable, intelligent adults than forced extracurriculars ever could.

A Singular Vision
In the world of business, the sometimes overbearing level of self-confidence that Commanders (especially Assertive ones) too often mishandle in their personal relationships is transformed into an admirable authority, keeping people on track and getting things done. Naturally the best careers for people with the Commander personality type make the fullest use of these qualities, and many would describe executive positions and entrepreneurialism to be ideal lines of work – any position high enough that they can clearly see the horizon.
For Commanders, failure is not an option – they conceive a vision of the future, formulate a strategy to achieve that vision, and execute each step with ruthless precision.
Structure and order are key, and if someone gets sloppy, or holds things back with incompetence, laziness or inefficiency, Commanders will not hesitate to come down, hard. Commander personalities pursue their goals with singular vision, and have strict standards for themselves and others that are designed above all else to be effective. This makes Commanders excellent corporate strategists, and their objectivity and clarity of thought make them respected lawyers and judges.
None of this could work if no one could understand what Commanders were thinking, and they have the good fortune of being clear and concise communicators, especially in person, making business administration a comfortable fit – so long as their tasks don’t stray too far into routine maintenance and upkeep. Commanders also have a thirst for knowledge, and they aren’t afraid to use a principle once they’ve grasped its underlying mechanisms. Combining this with their leadership makes Commanders trying, but effective, university professors.
Great Expectations
The only problem is, it takes time for Commanders’ skills to be recognized, and stagnating as low-level employees will have them bouncing off the walls and deeply unhappy. He has always craved leadership and responsibility, growth and opportunity, and genuinely enjoys managing others to get a job done. He is a visionary and leaders, not a grunt or day-to-day administrator. Getting that to be recognized is not always easy, but Commanders are probably up to the task.
For people with the Commander personality type, the workplace is all but a natural habitat. Commanders’ efficiency and clear communication are valued, their leadership is admired, and their ability to simply get things done is unrivaled. That being said, some situations are more appropriate for Commanders than others – these qualities all point to a managerial or executive role, making any position of comparative powerlessness highly undesirable.
Commander personality types are strident ones though, able to adapt themselves to just about any hierarchical relationship by doing what they do best: asserting their opinions, taking the initiative, and accomplishing feats that others thought impossible.
Commander Subordinates
Subordinate positions are challenging for Commanders, and it takes active management to ensure their satisfaction and engagement. Ever the high achievers, Commander subordinates set out to learn new skills and to seek out new challenges and responsibilities, eager to prove that nothing is impossible with a little hard work. If things get a little slow, Commander personalities may slip into periods of absentmindedness, but when they feel involved in the projects around them, they prove well organized and well prioritized.
Commanders hold themselves to very high standards, but a lot of what sets this tone is feedback from their environment – namely, criticism from their managers. Objective, rational statements about what is done right and what can be done better are helpful to Commanders, and far from resenting such criticisms, they appreciate them. Opportunities for growth keep people with the Commander personality type engaged and productive, and so long as their managers recognize this as their primary responsibility, it will be a fruitful and satisfying relationship.
Commander Colleagues
Among colleagues, Commanders are sociable and greatly enjoy sharing ideas and critiques in their frequent brainstorming sessions. Natural leaders that they are, Commanders tend to assert themselves into positions as representatives and project leads, considering their objectivity and charisma the perfect qualities for these roles. Commander personalities enjoy working with equals, but people must demonstrate that they are equals – anyone Commanders view as being less competent or driven will see only condescension and arrogance.
He is strong-willed, focused, stern, stoic, calm, and tireless. He seems confident, but still has self-doubt when people are too scared to tell him the truth or disagree with him, as he does not take criticism well. He only trusts in his experience, and has learned to trust his instincts, despite not having faith in himself in his youth.
Commanders are strong-willed, even dominant, and though they enjoy inspiring and tutoring others, the energy they bring to the process can seem overbearing. When these roles are reversed, Commanders’ mentors should bear in mind that their students are very rational and respect firm confidence – hand-holding, emotional appeals or wavering indecision will likely burn the bridge then and there. In a partnership, what is best is what is most effective, and time wasted sugarcoating reality is just that – time wasted.
Commander Managers
Commander managers are confident, charismatic communicators, and they communicate but one vision: to get the job done as efficiently as possible, and to the highest standard of quality. All else is subordinate to that objective, but the means by which Commanders achieve it cause others to adopt this cause as their own. Commanders are natural leaders, and their ability to formulate a strategy and to identify the strengths of each member of their teams, incorporating those abilities into their plans so that each individual fills a unique and important role, makes them able motivators.
But while these efforts boost morale and satisfaction among Commanders’ likeminded subordinates, they are still crafted to achieve that ultimate goal of timely and exceptional work. Those seen as inefficient by their Commander managers, or who demonstrate themselves to be lazy or to produce shoddy work will know in no uncertain terms of their failure to impress. The only way to recover is to comply, the only alternative is to find a new manager to impress, somewhere else.

## Relationships

* Anders
* Velanna
* Oghren
* Sigrun
* Nathaniel
* Justice
* Leonie
* Sidona

He wishes he would just shut up and not try to ruffle feathers, but does secretly enjoy his puns. He thinks not have a purpose or core values in life is a cowards way out and lazy. He wants him to take the responsibility of being a warden seriously.

She depresses him and he thinks she acts like a petulant teenager and does not care to parent her.

He is disgusted by him, thinking he gives both dwarves and Wardens a bad name. He does not find him funny, but appreciates both his usefulness in battle and his willingness to follow orders without serious question.

He gets flustered by her cuteness, and is concerned that she is suicidal or depressed, but also thinks she may just be mentally tough, which makes him want to trust her more.

## Trivia

* He has a taste for fine wines.
* He is a light sleeper.
* His nightmares are not as bad since he is a dwarf.
* He has grown to love Ferelden as his home, though he misses the climate of Orlais.
* His favorite color is purple, and his former fiancé made him a wool scarf the color of plums, he still wears it on winter nights.
* He has a large collection of maps, as he views them as essential against the Darkspawn.
* It is hard to make him angry, but easy to annoy him, though he is well-practiced in appearing calm.