How do you make peace with something when you dont really want to

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**Wildcat Bengal**

What exactly are you supposed to do when you have a particular issue that you just don't want to make peace with? For example, I am very unhappy with my current job and I am at a point where I feel like I should be doing something better. I have worked on cleaning it up and finding things to appreciate about it and I have moved myself up the scale. However I keep finding myself thinking about how I just don't want to be happy at my current job, and how I'm gonna start looking for any job I can just to get away from my current job. Ive noticed this is the way I feel about alot of different subjects in my life. I know how it works, that you have to make peace with where you are first, but how do you do that when you just don't want to?

**Marc**

As long as you're focused on what you don't like about your current job, LOA can't bring you anything better. Making peace with your current job doesn't mean you have to stay there. If your heart is set on being somewhere else, that is fine and your IB already knows what you want. But as long as you're trying to get away from where you are you just drag what you don't want along with you.

**honeypie**

One of their quotes, or suggestions, really, that I like is to say "I'm going to make the best of this." The alternative, of course, is making the worst of this, so why not make the best of this? They don't say that you have to look at something you don't like and say you like it. But you can choose not to look at it, and to find things that you do like to look at, and find positive aspects as you've been doing. And what Marc said.

**SheerLuckHolmes**

The most attractive canidate for a new company is an employee that is happy at the job they are currently at. Vibrations come through during interviews. If you are unhappy where you are why would another company think you would be happy with them? This is all at the vibrational level where LOA works its best.

On one of the Abe CDs, Abraham was working with a lady in the hotseat that wanted to manefest a new relationship. Abe was working with her to appreciate the relationship she just got out of and finally the lady said, "Abraham, I do not want to get back together with my last relationship." Abe said they were not trying to get the lady back together with her last guy, they were trying to get her back together with herself.

Appreciation showered on everything in your life is showering yourself with appreciation. Appreciation doesn't mean that you are going to be stuck where you are. On the contary, getting really happy with where you are now, can not allow you to stay where you are. Whatever you give your attention to must evolve, must expand. It is how the universe grows.

If you are giving attention to the 'lack' of appreciation there will be an expansion of things to not appreciate. If you give your attention to what you can appreciate there will be an expansion of those things. Your job will get better and better or you will be promoted or you will find a new job or a new job will find you.

**TheXception**

> Originally Posted by **Wildcat Bengal**
> I know how it works, that you have to make peace with where you are first, but how do you do that when you just dont want to?
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**How would it feel to make peace with the fact that you just don't want to?**

**honeypie**

> Originally Posted by **SheerLuckHolmes**
> Appreciation showered on everything in your life is showering yourself with appreciation.
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Oh THIS IS AWESOME!!!!!

**purplelvr**

> Originally Posted by **TheXception**
> **How would it feel to make peace with the fact that you just don't want to?**
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**That spoke LOUDLY to me.**

**Kaleida**

I think the only time I've really been able to make peace with something I don't want and don't like, is when I've kind of.... admitted the fact that I don't like it, looked at why I don't like it and appreciated the reasons why I don't like it...

So, for example, I've been in a crappy romantic situation for a few years where the relationship I want just hasn't been coming... There's no way around it, I absolutely hate this and am unhappy with it. To say otherwise would be to pretend, to admit that I hate it is genuine. So I ask myself, why do I want a good relationship?

Because I'm a very loving person! Because I have tons of love to give! Because the most awesome thing about me is that I can't be fulfilled unless I'm giving heaps of love. Because I deserve to receive love back too and I know it. Because love is who I am. Because I KNOW I deserve better than what I've been experiencing.... because even though I can say I'm satisfied with the half-committed relationships I've been getting, in my heart I KNOW I deserve more, I deserve ALL of it, not half of it. To get half of it is not to live out my full potential, my heart will only be satisfied with something wonderful because it knows that's what I came here for. So yes, I hate what's been happening to me! And I appreciate the fact that I hate it because it shows me how big a part of me love is.

And so, the fact that I don't like this situation makes me appreciate how loving I am, shows me what I don't want, shows me what I do want, and shows me that I'm awesome enough that mediocre relationships won't satisfy me.

I've had occasional kind of spiritual experiences where I'm reaaally reaally in tune and in my vortex... The first thing that always happens when I get like that is that I am able to FACE my problems, LOOK at them with a kind of peace, admit that I hate them, and love myself anyway, and even love the fact that I hate the problem. And then after a bit of processing my mind shifts to pleasant thoughts...

one thing that always comes across strongly during these experiences is a strong acceptance of all my feelings, good and bad, and a strong knowing that all my feelings are OK, that every feeling I have is caused by a belief that seems true to me (whether it actually is or not), and thus to me all my feelings make logical sense and none of them are wrong... There's kind of a feeling of allowing and embracing all of it, but embracing the bad things doesn't mean i like them. I start to be able to appreciate the fact that I don't like them.

**Kaleida**

So maybe making peace with what's happening means making peace with your feelings more than with the situation?

E.g. Admit the things you like and the things you don't, don't go into denial, allow yourself to feel everything you feel without judging it, feel the fullness of where you are, the contrast between the good and bad things, kind of feel the FULLNESS of your experience, the pattern of light and dark... and then it starts to feel like appreciation...

I say all this but I have trouble with it too usually... although just writing this now has suddenly made me feel like my life is fuller and more complete than I thought...

**Kate**

> Originally Posted by **Kaleida**
> So maybe making peace with what's happening means making peace with your feelings more than with the situation?
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That's so clear! Thanks Kaleida

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