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W: so I supposed to settle for

a

uh

regular type dude

H: how tall are you

i am 5'3 dress size

i am a medium

dress size number

um

how much did you weigh the last time you

weighed yourself

157

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first face out of the shower just your

natural face

on a scale from one to ten what would

you rank your natural face

okay fresh face out of the shower your

natural face

you can't use seven what would you rank

yourself one to ten

okay

a six is right above average a five is

average right

you're five foot three a hundred and a

dress size ten so that's above average

weight five foot three you should be

able to draw size four four six 125

pounds even if i believe you're 157 160

you're almost 33 pounds 33 over your

ideal target weight

and you have listen listen listen

if you're

if you're average to cute looking

if you're below average

health

from a weight standpoint

and you have two children

overall

does that make you

below average average or above average

factor all those things in together

average

so why should you get anything over then

why should you get above average what do

you mean settle for you should get what

you are

i see millionaires with average women

all the time

they don't have big chess tattoos either

and two other kids

man i'm just saying okay i wanna no no i

mean let's be honest let's be honest why

should an average woman

say she's settling for an average man

maybe nothing wrong with it wait wait

wait wait wait no no you said so i

should just settle no you said that

listen listen you said so i should just

settle for an average guy and i'm like

you're an average woman why should you

not i would be i would be settling i

mean he could i mean

why would okay why would you be settling

and he wouldn't so what would he be

doing would he be upgrading

he don't got no money so

if he don't have no money you ain't fine

enough for no money

i'm not fine enough for no money no

you're sick

you said you're sick you don't get money

you get second shift at the plant

did you go to college

congratulations don't care

man you got two children

and you said you are six i give you okay

five six you your numbers together would

be average so

why so an average man would be upgrading

to get you

look i didn't say i'm asking i'm asking

ma'am because i'm coming we're just

having a conversation you said you'd be

settling so by by extension

okay so i guess we'll be settling for

each other

no

but my my issue is

you said settling for him that means

you'd be getting something less than

what you deserve

when we settle we get lost i already

have

everything that i need if if he's not

adding to me then

that will be settling right raven i want

you to understand what i asked you last

night i asked this question oftentimes

with black women if you have to work as

hard

today

or harder if you want children with a

husband would you rather have a husband

or be single and almost 100 of the time

black women would say if i have to work

as hard as i am today with a husband i'd

rather be single because a husband is

not just by being a man ain't enough

he's supposed to make her life easier

that is why i have no problem telling

women to die alone it is not our job to

make women's lives easier

it's our job to protect provide but

that's not necessarily easy it's harder

relationships are hard so ma'am

you got all the things you need

except somebody to share life with

and the man who can meet your standards

okay

can he meet other women's standards

okay then why should he not get

the best if he can meet your highest

standard he can meet another one another

woman's standard and all i'm saying is

that why should a man have to settle for

a woman with two kids because you got a

business

kevin they don't have to settle for me

but my but you said you'd be settling

for him

okay just like you kevin you say that

high-value men are supposed men are

supposed to have money right that's what

you say

so if they don't have money that means

their value is low right

now you go off women no no no no if you

want to know how okay high value men

that's completely different component

that's less than ten percent of men

and high value men get high value women

women who are in high demand

right

that's not your category

because i got kids right you're not

ma'am ma'am yes are you would you say

that you're a woman that's

uh in high demand or most wanted

i could be i mean yeah

with two children

where in the world do women who are

average to above average look averaged

acute

who are a little overweight with two

kids where are these women in high

demand

okay man i'm working on myself so

no ma'am i asked a very specific

question it's not no because i

you're working yourself that's fine but

that doesn't mean you're in high demand

i can get there

can i

and so you mean to tell me if i don't if

i can lose 20 pounds

ago 80 years ago with a woman in your

position

even without the children 80 years ago

would a woman in your position be with

the with the top 10 percent man

you said

80 years ago 80 years ago would she be

with a man at the top 10 of all men 80

years ago

yeah

no

they're only there a limited amount of

these men to go around

man this one i want you guys to

understand especially in the black

community

you're an average woman by any stretch

of the imagination and i think that's

being fair average at best is more

likely to turn average at best would be

pretty fair

why

but why would but listen

i'm listening but the issue is so i got

to settle for an average man

that's not settling that's getting what

you can afford to buy on the sexual

marketplace okay so if i wanted a high

volume what do i do

be reincarnated

you can't get one

let me be honest you can't you're 37

with two kids

if they're less than ten percent of the

men why would he pick you

over a woman with no children

look kevin i talked to the pretty good

high volume i go on days with high

caliber man yes they will go on dates

with you they will talk to you they'll

have sex with you we talk about marriage

we talk about marriage i want you to

understand

this is what the issue is because i've

talked about this for a year and a half

because men will deal with you what man

of value who is a high value man

recognized by other men of value

what man that fits in that category is

seriously vetting you to be a wife today

i'm talking to someone now i mean i've

been dating this guy now who's

a high pretty high value

and

what makes him high value

he owned his own uh

car dealership

and

he has multiple businesses uh-huh uh he

owned houses right he's doing he's doing

pretty good for himself

he's probably not rich but

man being high value is more than just

money he got a good head on his

shoulders he got a good personality he

take care of himself you work out he

don't even look like oh jesus christ

ma'am

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i'm trying to be i'm trying to be

reasonable

but it's more than just money and i'm

saying a man like okay

why would a man

how can i say this without sounding rude

i'm trying to why would a man who has

this going on

and what state are you in

i am in cleveland ohio

okay i didn't need like just that state

but anyway why would a man who's

choose a woman like that

okay if you say he's high value to me

when i talk about high value is it's not

just money it's it's over a period of

time it's what you do it's also men of

value must recognize you as a peer or a

potential peer you got to have a network

of high value men and others and you

must be useful to others in a group so

you look you judge a man not just on his

money by his network but other men who

say yeah that's a man of value he's a

mover a shaker a most eligible okay man

but these men don't settle

they don't settle they don't get women

who are they don't they don't they don't

they're there are men on on youtube

right now saying i don't know what i'm

talking about about being high value but

here's one thing that they do agree with

me on they don't take a woman with

children

they don't

i've had men who vehemently disagree

with me on a lot of things they don't

listen to me but unanimously we don't

take another man's children because

that's not even in our in their mindset

they don't

so you ladies can call it what you want

and i'm thinking if

how long have i been dating

um

two weeks now

i said seriously but considering you to

be a wife in two weeks ma'am yup

we just been i said we've been talking

about it man that's what i'm saying man

that's it i said what men of value who's

recognized by other men of value is

seriously betting you to be a wife and

you said this man you ain't knowing this

dude for two weeks from the streets i'm

a [ \_\_ ] from the streets i get the money

the only is not pushing this hard man is

because i get i really get triggers it

triggers me when i hear average women

talking about settling for average men

and i'll be honest

because you'd be lucky to get an average

man he would be settling for you

he would be settling for you to have to

deal with you

two children from somebody else yes

ma'am that's why because

no you ask let me finish

he'd be settling for you

because you

if i got two children

amongst other things yes

i mean i'm a good person to get along

with so that maybe that may be ma'am

that maybe you could be you could be a

perfectly lovely person but there are

other women who are perfectly lovely

people who are childless

and more physically appealing

that's fine like i mean so that means so

man by definition see that's the thing

the kind of men you ladies talk about

you want

they are rare they are

for everyone for every man that falls

into your category the thousands of

women that want him

he can only have one wife

that's why

he gonna have a lot of wife i mean no no

no no he gonna have a lot he gonna have

a lot of he gonna cheat a lot but he's

gonna have one wife he can only marry

one person it's called it's called

bigger truth all right that's enough

that's enough that's enough no that's

enough you can only have one wife don't

no no no no that's all you don't have

one wife nope nope you've had you sat

there and

and i'm and why did you marry your baby

daddy

softball

softball you grew apart was that before

after the second child

the second child we

we was getting into arguments and stuff

so and how long we all together

we were teenagers see that's the problem

there's another problem man

you get no higher than your baby daddy

because men look at a woman and then she

look at her children because men say i'm

i'm not going to go raise another lesser

man's child

that's what happens you think all men

think like that

you think i got a million subscribers on

each platform because i don't know what

i'm talking about you think i can do

this night in night out and people cos

ma'am

y'all would be better off to realize

that more men think like this because

the results show they do that's you're

almost like a mirror copy of average at

best the video that's that sparked a lot

of this

she only had one kid you got two

yes you trying to make it seem like i'm

like i'm are you trying i'm saying i'm

making it no i want to understand that

how we came in is the same thing that

she said i would you saying i would have

to settle for an average man and i talk

this is a men's platform

what do you think you were saying to all

the men that are average men when you

say that you will be settling for them

50 of men are average

or below

you don't have a problem offending them

no i don't want to offend nobody

when you say you settle for okay ma'am

if i said i settled for you would you

would that make you feel good

a lot of people settled if i said i

settled for don't see when when a woman

doesn't answer a question directly she's

attempting to be deceptive yes i'll be

mad yeah

right thank you so don't play with me

so when you say you're going to settle

for an average man you don't mind

offending them so i have no problem

telling you why i think it's crazy for

an average woman

average you say you're five or six i'll

give you a six five six okay fine but

all the other things man put you below

average

where can how would you listen let's

take it let's take it away from you and

me let's take it away from you and me

and looks and everything else because

it's too personal okay let's let's do

this okay

let's just do let's reset the table okay

where

would it make sense

for a high school graduate who graduated

with a c a 2.0

let's see a 2.0 right

would it make sense somebody like that

demanding to get into harvard princeton

mit stanford

no

would they be settling for junior

college

no

you're juco

junior college

2.0

but the way you talk and women like

yourself talk is like you deserve to get

into princeton harvard mit stanford

when you're a 2.0

going to junior college

can i say something sure i mean and

understand people go to junior college

to get associates decide to go to junior

college and go to a four-year and it

would be far better in the world for

women who are average to get with an

average man

because an average man provides a woman

options but i don't want you again with

the average man and feel like you're

settling you need to treat that man with

respect

because a man is worth more than a

goddamn paycheck

i mean if i'm in a relationship with

somebody why would i disrespect them

i'm talking about women in general and

while you disrespected him by saying

settling that's why

that's disrespectful

that's disrespectful saying i'm settling

is a condescending disrespectful tone

just like you say you would feel some

kind of way if i said i settled for you

but my grandmother settled for my my

grandmother had a sixth grade education

my grandfather had a fourth grade

education she settled for him and gave

us a family legacy that we are still

trying to measure up to

we are not doing nearly as well as the

people who had less education and more

heart more harsh circumstances in a

black community for us we are not good

stewards of our like their legacy and

part of the reason is because our women

are so out of line

you think you're settling or should get

more

and you can't get more they're only a

handful of these men but the rest of the

rest of women get men who roughly around

their area yes it's okay to want

something better it's okay to graduate

with a 2.0 and want to get into

princeton or want better but you've got

to be realistic and pick now again

everybody who thinks i'm being a little

harsh or whatever she's 37 with two kids

and still hasn't put in together any

real thought about what a marriage or a

relationship should be

but y'all focus on my tone and my

delivery and this net and all i'm

sitting is trying to do is tell women

like you ma'am

that you would be well life is better

with somebody

on your level and understand something

let me say this and i'll let you speak

if i put you with a high value man

and you were his wife and you went

around these places do you feel like you

would fit in the room with these women

their wives

yes

yes because i'm very i'm classy i'm not

a ratchet type woman i'm saying you're a

ratchet

i know how to speak i know how to drink

from a glass i mean ma'am they would

look ma'am i mean they would look at

your chest tattoo and rule you out i

could cover that with makeup kevin i

wouldn't i wouldn't even have okay okay

okay okay and see that's and that's

another thing i've had so many women who

were married to these kind of men say

these women have no idea how snarky and

how how vicious these women can be and i

got this when i was young it doesn't

matter ma'am you got it you still got

two kids out of wedlock ma'am they're

gonna

all the women have to do is like oh hey

how you doing hey hey roger here's your

wife uh hey uh

miss cleveland hey how you doing so

roger yeah he's a vp of marketing uh huh

and and where did you graduate from

college uh what ohio oh oh state

michigan

yeah

oh oh you didn't graduate or you didn't

graduate from college okay all right um

i'm just telling okay never mind they

don't get it they don't get it they

don't get it they don't get it

can i say something you say

something

i thought you were saying like

college and

all of that type of stuff didn't matter

i said to men it doesn't matter but i'm

talking i asked you being in the room

with their wives when you're in with the

soccer moms and the 4-h club

in the junior league and all these other

women oh women size you up they're

looking at everything about you and you

know how women can be and if you don't

let me tell you these women

they look at everything

all right never mind nevermind that's

enough enough it's enough it's tough

yeah at the end of the day

no you don't get a high

high value men want something for their

value

you may be a perfectly lovely woman but

they're limited in supply and if you had

as many options as he does would you

settle for a man like you

would you settle for a woman like you

would you do that

if you had as many options as men as he

has in women would you settle for you

yes i would of course you would outside

of your mind

that's why i have no problem that's why

i have no problem stand staying on code

because shame insults guilty need to be

right they're going to keep going and

keep going and keep going and keep going

and keep going to keep going

keep going

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