Help with moving up the EGS

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**sindy**

Hi, guys!

I'm posting because the act of posting is the only thing I can think of to move me up my EGS. You guys are all so smart and fun, and I need that kind of help.

I recently moved out of my apartment. I was a great tenant, paid my rent on time for five years. I paid to have my carpets professional cleaned and de-flead (as requested for people with pets), and I spent a long time cleaning. Looooooong time. I'm physically exhausted and I threw my back out.

I love my neighbor, who owns the place, so I wanted to make it clean for her. However, her friends own the property management company, and they are demanding more money on top of my original deposit because of cleaning and damages.

I'm shocked, pissed off, AND feeling powerless! The management people have always been notoriously mean, but I thought they would be fair, at least. On one hand, I am so tired and exhausted I just want to pay and be done. On the other hand, I know I'm right and I feel like I'm the only one who can stick up for myself. And I don't want to let them get away with this!!

But my overriding feeling now is sheer exhaustion and wanting to just give up and cry. I feel really tired from responsibilities in general, and my normal things of making me feel better aren't working. I'm scheduling an appointment with a counselor and that thought makes me feel better.

I am just so angry. I worked so hard to make that place look good. What crooks! Yet, they've fulfilled my expectation of creepy landlords. I thought I had disspelled that belief when I got to know the owner and she acted more like a landlord. This property management place did nothing for me. So, I'm also feeling guilt for bringing such pain on myself.

I'm actually a big ball of emotions right now. This threw me over the edge after just losing my cat, having family drama, etc. etc.

Should I really just be mad at myself?

**MiAlma**

Is it too late to take pictures of the apartment and then tell them "Sue me if you want!". If you have proof and a witness I don't think they can do anything about it. Joking aside, the only advice that I have and that I am certain Abraham would say is get in the Vortex however you can. Align with yourself and trust that the Universe will take care of this in way that is favorable to you. Find a place of peace in your mind and heart, distract yourself. Do things that you love to do and expect the Universe to handle this.

**CreatorChristine**

> **sindy wrote:**
> Should I really just be mad at myself?
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>

**NEVER!!!!!!!**

**chillinjoan**

I saw this on Judge Judy once.

They did take pictures and won the case because Judge Judy said it was cleaner than most she has seen and had minimal wear and tear which is expected.

I would take the pictures and FEEL that it will be ok. I mean, what can they do, really? take you to court and you win? Maybe show THEM the pictures so they know they have no legs to stand on.

if you want to be angry, that is fine, just not at yourself, at the situation and then find relief from there.

I think you will find relief from anger just by taking the pics.

**SlowJam**

Hey, Ms. Sindy---

Not sure what your question is, but...

If you are in the position to "pay and be done," congratulations!

That must feel really good.

It also must feel really good to move! I know I like to---I've done it 14 times up until this last move in 2003, and I'm itchin' for other horizons! I get excited when I think of it.

You also have to see the comedic side of this. Your landlord, with his Snidely Whiplash moustache, rubbing his hands together, turning tenants upside down and shaking the change from their pockets, charging extra for looking in the mirrors and wearing them down and...so on.

If you are saying that you are not getting any of your deposit back, then...

Hi, ho, hi, ho, it's off to court you go!

Either way, la la la la la, it's only money.

My ex-landlord didn't want to give back my deposit because he wasn't able to rent our place before we moved out.

Why couldn't he rent it? "Because there were moving boxes all around."

The judge heard that and whacked his gavel---judgement for the plaintiff.

Ain't life funny?

Sending you love and hugs and where is that landlord I shall go visit him with Tony Bagels and Joey and Timmy and have a "talk."

Best of luck...Slowwwwwww Jammmmmmmmmmmm

**sedonawoman**

Hi Sindy,::wave

What would 'feel downstream' for me personally.

Is to take pics of the great job you did.

And if it comes to it, go to small claims court.

A small filing fee, what do you have to lose.?

And with your pics, and all the work you did,

i imagine you'd win.

I had this happen many years ago. Same thing.

And feeling 'bullied', i did nothing.

I'd also had to do a lot of cleaning when i moved in.

I let it bother me for a long time.

And i wished i had gone to small claims court to get my deposit back.

For many that might be 'upstream',

for me if i'd went it would have felt 'downstream'.

Because i too, could have proved it with the pics i took.

I know what Abe says about court.

But that's just my 2 cents.

That would feel 'downstream' to me.

And the EGS, that would feel better to me than feeling helpless.

Take a breath, know that all is well. Much love, Cindy

:allgood

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