Shame over having no friends.

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**Freespirit7**

I've cut out my friends at least 4-5 times in my life in order to start over fresh (this was pre-abe). But haven't really made any long-lasting friends after I've started working. Being socially awkward on top of that is a little challenging for me to handle too. When I'm with a group of people, it's a little better cause then everyone just talks with each other and no one notices that I'm quiet. But if I'm alone with just 1 or 2 people, I struggle a little. I almost never know what to say anyway, and if I do say something (just to pretend that I have 'some social skills') it just seems 'off', or 'awkward'. At least I've put some stuff in my vortex now.

Coworkers always tell each other what they've done over the weekend, and that usually includes partying with their amazing group of friends. But when they ask me, I always say "oh nothing much". Which is the truth. It was only recently that I for some reason felt tired of giving the same answer, and even though I don't like to lie at all, I've started to make up stories so that I feel better when they ask. I just say "oh I just visited with an old friend" or something like that.. while I may have been referring to my inner being, but they don't know that :).

Yesterday I went out with a guy who I met through work. I really like him. He's handsome, kind, social and has a lot of friends. People just seem to love him and I can see why. He's just amazing. Anyway, his phone died this morning and he needed to call a friend so I offered him to use my phone. Then a troubling thought crossed my mind, "what if he accidentally notices how short my phone list is, and realizes that I have absolutely no friends". And at breakfast, he asked me what I like to do in my spare time, and what I like to do with my friends. I was lost for words. I didn't feel like telling him that I spend most of my free time at home doing nothing, so I just told him that I like to hang out with friends and go to fun parties etc. But at some point we will get to know each other more and I think he will realize this current fact about me, and I don't feel like explaining to him why I don't have a lot of friends and why I cut out the ones I had before (no need to re-tell old stories).

I know I will one day manifest amazing friends. But in the meantime, how do I make peace with my current situation, and not worry about being judged by someone I'm romantically interested in? It doesn't help that he has a million friends - it almost makes my situation seem worse. I want to remember that my worthiness isn't dependent upon the number of friends I have.

**sedonawoman**

Hi FS7,:wave:

When I read this your recent threads came to mind.

About how important your alignment is to you.

Re-read those few threads and find that good feeling place again.

Get off this topic for now and go general.

If you get in alignment with yourself, these worries will drop away.

Get ITV and you'll never have to explain anything to anyone.

Things just work out for you.

What you 'fear' you are attracting.

So stop fearing this unless you want more of it!

I am working on making friends as well. They are in our vortex.

Sounds like yours are here NOW. :kiss: :s13:

By the way, I never get tired of seeing your avatar.

It always makes me smile. :wave:

**freespirit7**

SedonaWoman. Wonderful responses. I felt the love. It was like my IB speaking to me. Thank you :).

Universe, I want more of this please!

**sedonawoman**

:kiss: :wave:

You probably attracted this cool guy because you were able to tell a slightly new story.

How cool is that? :s13:

There is surely no shame for us in being a work in progress and aligning with new friends NOW! :snuggle:

So tend to your alignment Miss FS7 and make it your #1 priority.

And i'll try to do the same. :kiss:

**treelotus**

I recommend.. set the tone.. prepave.. set the climate.. the atmosphere...

once you're in worry, you're already in momentum.. so forget about it..

then go back to setting the tone when you feel centered again.:kiss:

**Sunlover**

keep your attention on what you do want,

the friends you do want,

the relationship you desire dating,

focus on what you think of others - rather than what they might think of you.

what matters is being who you want to be,

and it is just fine being right where you now stand,

and enjoying your journey.

the relationship section of the book to getting into the vortex meditation cd is really helpful!

really simply put very valuable relationship perspectives!

**LoveEnergy**

FreeSpirit, know that you are not alone ! there are many, many people feeling the way you do !

Myself included, but I feel awkward and quiet in groups, instead open and happy with just one or two people. As a result I always find excuses to avoid or withdraw early from group gatherings.

My best friend? Abe ! And I hardly need anything else. As soon as I come from work, I open the books, or listen to Abe on youtube. It fills me with joy. I know I'm worthy, like this, solitaire and introvert as I am. And I know the kind of people I like to be around find their way into my reality. I do have very very nice interactions with people with whom I click. There's nothing wrong with not being a social butterfly. Just be yourself, and if this guy is a vibrational match to you, he'll stick around.