Gray-asexual

**Gray-asexual**, also known as **graysexual** or **gray-A**, is an asexual identity characterized as being "in between" asexual and allosexual; that is, being asexual while also able to experience, or have experienced previously, sexual attraction. People who identify as gray-asexual may experience sexual attraction that is uncommon for the individual, may only be directed toward specific people, occurs infrequently, at low intensity, or in an ambiguous way. The term is often included in the asexual spectrum.

## Etymology

Preceded by earlier discussion of "semisexuality," the term "gray-a" was first used in a 2006 Asexual Visibility and Education Network (AVEN) thread of the same name by AVEN user KSpaz, who dedicated a thread to the "fuzziness" in between asexual and allosexual. The term "gray area" is often used to refer to an ill-defined situation wherein the rules are not clear or unknown.

## Community

The term gray-asexual has become one of the most common ace identity terms after asexuality itself. In the 2019 Ace Community Census, gray-asexuals made up about 10% of ace respondents.

### Flag

Gray-asexuals are represented by the gray stripe in the asexual community flag, which was created collaboratively within the community in 2010. A flag specifically for gray-asexuality was created by Milith Rusignuolo and uploaded to Wikimedia Commons on June 21, 2013. For this flag, purple represents asexuality, white represents allosexuality, and gray represents the transition between asexuality and allosexuality, which in turn is meant to represent the infrequent or low feelings of sexuality that grayasexual people may feel.

### Distinction

#### Asexual

Main article: Asexual
Although gray-asexuality is on the asexual spectrum, it is different from asexuality itself. Asexual people do not experience sexual attraction, whereas gray-asexual people may feel sexual attraction in particular situations.

### Perceptions and discrimination

According to the 2019 Ace Community Survey Report, 10.9% of all 10,648 self-selected participants identified as gray-asexual. This was the most popular response behind asexual (67.9%). Gray-asexual people were just as likely to be questioning as asexual-identified people, and less likely to be questioning than demisexual-identified people.

Some gray-asexual people experience internalized acephobia, as their experience of asexuality may be different from other people, particularly around the concept of wanting and enjoying sex.

## Media

* Tristan Miller, who organizes the annual Ace Community Survey

## References

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18. ↑ Weis, Robin; Hermann, Lea; Bauer, Caroline; Miller, Tristan L.; Baba, Ali; van der Biezen, Tracy; Campos, Ana; Smiga, Joseph A.; Tomaskovic-Moore, Sig; Trieu, Theresa H.; Walfrand, Aria; & Ziebert, Jacci: "The 2019 asexual community survey summary report." (2021). asexualcensus.wordpress.com. The Ace Community Survey Team.
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