It just hit me... stop trying!!

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**nyc2008**

Hi all, I just had a semi-revelation today from re-watching the last seminar and second hot seater. It was this guy who really got screwed in a business deal, and he was complaining to Abe that he was doing everything he could to try to change his fortune and it wasn't working. He was saying things like, "I sit down every morning and say Universe this is what I want, I know you have it, I know you know I want it..." Then he says, "I'm doing what you say to do, Abe!"

Abe lovingly stopped him dead in his tracks, and said pretty forcefully - "We love you but you have not done ANYTHING we tell you to do." They went on the explain that the work is not asking for conditions to change, or praying for a way out of something, or doing a process hoping for justice SO THAT you can be happy. It's simply accepting and appreciating what IS, and being happy REGARDLESS of the condition.

It's hard to explain, but the man was doing the gridwork hoping his situation would change - and so it didn't. He wasn't getting just being happy regardless of circumstances. This was HUGE for me - I know they've said it a million times before, but you're not doing a process or gridwork or getting into the Vortex so that something will change or happen or manifest - that slows it down!!!

You're doing the gridwork because your natural state is alignment. SO... as delusional as it sounds, I'm actually going to be HAPPY today. NOW. For no reason!! Not for something to change. Not because I'm "doing gridwork." But because I deserve to be happy regardless of conditions!

Anyway, sorry for the rambling but I hope this helps someone! It feels so good to just release the struggle and STOP TRYING!  :)

**marie la luz**

Thanks for reminding me. Get happy first, and then do something.

Happy because it feels right.

Happy because its normal.

As much work as it seems you can do to try to get happy, I wonder what would happen if you took happy for granted all day long and tried to do stuff to mess things up. Hmmm... What if I feel good consistently and try to do everything wrong? How would that work out? Of course all the while choosing to envelop my heart in a good feeling. I wonder....

**chic**

:exactly:

"Because when you realize it was all for the feeling anyway, then you´r home free..."

Abe ( The quote just popped into my head and I can´t remember the WS, maybe I´ll "stumble upon" it later :smile: )

**Millita**

> You're doing the gridwork because your natural state is alignment. SO... as delusional as it sounds, I'm actually going to be HAPPY today. NOW. For no reason!! Not for something to change. Not because I'm "doing gridwork." But because I deserve to be happy regardless of conditions!
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thank you!! i needed exactly this right now. :ilu:

it so strange how i know this stuff and still it clicks sometimes like the first time. amazing!

**CreatorChristine**

Ton of bricks - meet nyc2008! :wooohooo: Cool beans, ain't they? :cool: :exactly: :beautiful: CONGRATS! :fireworks:

**susu**

" there is no try only do"

Yoda

you got it NYC.

sweet ain't it?

**Kellismom**

Yes!!! I needed this reminder today...thanks for posting this thread!!! :kiss:

**TinaMe**

Yar bugger! I've been doing that, suddenly clarity here. I've been doing that on a few subjects in my life, thinking something like ok I'll be happy or I'll feel better when this and this happens. Well no wonder it won't move!!!

:-) Thanks for this reminder

**zenjenn**

Whoooooohooooooo! No trying ...just feeling better...so easy. Hardly worth 195 dollars....LOL

**nyc2008**

You guys!!!! I have something amazing to report. So a couple of hours after I started this thread (basking in my new found "revelation" ;), I got a call from a company that I've been talking to about a job. They made me an offer - exactly what I asked for (fair but not crazy over the top), with excellent vacation and benefits, AND a sign-on bonus! My supervisor approved everything, and as it turns out, they had all my paperwork on file from a few years ago when I applied there, so the HR person was able to send me the written offer letter within the same hour I got the verbal offer! (It usually takes a couple extra days). It all happened so fast and I'm holding the offer letter as we speak!!

I'm so excited and happy and I KNOW it was because I just got happy for no good reason ;).

PLEASE - everyone needs to try this...I have such strong desires and so much resistance, and if it can work for me, it can work for you all too! :)

I'm going out for a celebratory cocktail tonight :) :).