Lori Alexander

Lori Anne (Falk) Alexander is a self proclaimed christian blogger known as The Transformed Wife. She is married to Kenneth Alexander and together they have four children and thirteen grandchildren. She is known for being a conservative blogger and has published a book entitled “The Transformed Wife”.

## Early Life

Lori A Falk was born September 1, 1958 to Ellen and Arthur Falk in California. Her mother was a stay at home mom and her father was a doctor. She was one of three children, with two sisters, Alisa and Debbie. In August 2018, their mother died; as of August 2021, their father is still alive and celebrated his 90th birthday in April.

All three girls attended public school. Lori says she was bullied, saying girls would call her on the phone to call her names. She also mentions  to have first learned about the existence of homosexuality in junior high.

Throughout the years, Lori has given inconsistent stories about her childhood and her parents’ relationship. She has claimed they always fought, causing her to believe that that is just how marriage works and thus blaming her unhappy marriage on those experiences. But she has also claimed that her parents were very happy and never fought. Lori has said that she was raised in a christian home but then also says she wasn’t well versed in the bible as a child despite going to church every Sunday and bible camp during the summer where she was “saturated in Jesus”.

## Family

On December 27, 1980, Lori married Kenneth D Alexander. After having her daughter Alyssa in 1983, Lori said she wanted to stay home with her children, but that Ken told her to continue working until they had another child. She decided to sabotage her birth control in order to get pregnant again and thus her son, Ryan, was born in 1985. Two years later, in 1987, she had Steven and then finally in 1989 she gave birth to her last child, Cassi.

Alyssa married Jon Hustedt on February 27, 2011. She suffered from infertility for over seven years. Her son Gideon was born on September 3, 2019. Her daughter, August Madelyn was born December 11, 2021.

Ryan married Erin. They have four children, including Emma and Kenny.

Steven married Emily Rice on August 9, 2014. They have three children: Grace, David, and Phillip. Steven is a dentist in upstate New York.

Cassie married Ryan Boyer on January 28, 2014. They have four children.

## Blogging Career

Lori went to college and graduated with a degree in teaching. She worked for the first several years of her marriage until she had her second child, who was conceived when she poked holes in her diaphragm without her husband’s knowledge or consent.

Marriage was miserable; the couple often fought with Lori citing one of her versions of her upbringing as the model of her relationship with Ken. She says she blamed Ken for everything wrong in the first 23 years of their marriage, but then she read a book that completely changed her perspective. After realising she was a “nagging, contentious, rebellious (woman)”, she ran to Ken to apologise, asking him what she could do to serve him. She believes women should always submit to and obey their husbands wishes, not the other way around. This extends to sex. Lori has stated that denying one’s spouse sex is akin to infidelity and “extreme emotional abuse”. She has also stated “marital rape is when a husband forces himself upon his wife on a frequent basis while drunk or high on drugs or is simply an abusive, mean man. If there is true marital rape, there is physical abuse that comes with it.” Therefore a man having sex with his sleeping wife, after she has denied his request, is not rape. In her opinion, this woman “should have given him sex when he asked that night since we aren’t to deprive our husbands”.

Lori has previously claimed a strong desire to stay home with her children, and preached about the importance of women raising their own children, adding that children want their mothers instead of babysitters or nannies. Despite this, Lori hired a housekeeper as well as a nanny.

Despite her insistence that children should be homeschooled and that public schools are part of the demise of the family and thus the country, all four of Lori’s children went to public school.

Lori not only promotes hitting children as a form of discipline, but she heavily promotes the Pearls and their book To Train Up A Child, which has been credited with killing at least three children in the United States alone for its encouragement of child abuse through physical violence and starvation tactics. Lori agrees with the book’s message of hitting a five month old infant for not properly behaving. She has admitted that she hit all four of her children and claims they did not suffer from it nor do they remember it. Lori has also admitted to hitting her children for four hours “until the children learned to obey”. On numerous occasions she has described hitting her children on their buttockses if they “wiggled around while (changing) their diaper”, saying they learned to not move. “Pain is a great motivator and teacher”. She has also praised Joey and Rory Feek for their song “A Bible and a Belt” which promotes hitting children with a leather belt from Sears until it leaves “whelps”.

In addition to hitting her children, Lori also freely admits that she has thrown her children out of the house (something else encouraged by the Pearls) when they were only 1, 3, 5, and 7 years old after beating them with her slipper because they woke up early on Christmas morning and had opened all their presents before she and Ken had woken.

Ryan, Lori’s son, also follows the Pearls methods of withholding food as punishment from his daughter when she was only a year old. Lori has praised him for this, calling him “a very smart daddy”. He has also force fed her while she cried. Lori documented these incidents in a blog post titled “disciplining selfish, unruly children”.

## Hypocrisy in Beliefs

Lori holds many toxic and abusive beliefs, as well as being very hypocritical with those beliefs. She doesn’t believe women should work outside of the home, although she did so herself, and her eldest daughter does as well. Ignoring that she used birth control herself, she tells women that birth control is sinful,  causes all sorts of ailments such as cancer and infertility, and promotes sexual promiscuity. She decries women’s suffrage and says she is “not a fan at all” of women being allowed to vote, even though she herself votes.

She heavily discourages divorce, citing God's hatefulness toward it and saying it destroys all children involved. When telling the version of events in which her parents constantly fought, she says she often wished her own parents had divorced when she was younger, but they “stuck it out” and everyone was very happy for that. She also says when she was younger she was sure she would divorce Ken if he ever had an affair, but she now realises what a “HUGE mistake it would have been”, causing many to believe that Ken has in fact been unfaithful in their marriage. This was confirmed through a blogpost where both Lori and Ken admitted that Ken had affair, saying "he apologised" and "wanted (the) marriage to work".

According to Lori, “it’s not biblical for a woman to divorce her husband because he is physically abusing her.” She has even stated that women should take their children to visit their abusive father in prison as a “powerful testimony of God’s grace and forgiveness”.

## Controversial Statements

Throughout the years, Lori has made various statements that have caused much controversy, including telling mothers to not buy their daughters barbies. Barbies “cause little girls to be into big breasts, fashion, careers, and worldly garbage”. She encourages mothers to buy their daughters baby dolls to “train them in the special joys of motherhood”. She has also stated that she believes “feminism’s agenda is communism” and that it has “destroyed marriages/families”.

When the global pandemic began, Lori refused to increase her hand washing, claiming she was never a hand washer because she was “not afraid of germs”. She stated that many other things were “more destructive” than coronavirus, such as abortion, pornography, and the existance of transgendered people.

## Mocking The Dead

Much like God, death does not stop Lori. She has mocked popular christian influencers after their untimely deaths.

When Rachel Held Evans died on May 4, 2019 after suffering an allergic reaction to medication, Lori called her a heretic and implied she (Rachel) had met God - who is and always has been a man - and was sent to Hell. Rachel was 37 years old and left behind two children, a three year old son and an eleven month old daughter.

On August 1, 2021, a popular christian instagrammer and pastor’s wife, Paige Hilken, who was also friends with both Lori’s daughter and her niece, died from suicide after battling mental illnesses. Although Lori agreed that Paige believed in and loved Jesus, she states that Paige didn’t listen to him or “His Truth” and instead “listened to Satan and His lies”. Paige was 27 years old and left behind five children: a six year old son, a five year old daughter, a three year old son, a one year old son (whose second birthday was only five days away), and a four month old daughter.

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