My ex found a new love with this material and I don't know what I should do.

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Sambo

I know I'm not suppose to beat the drum but I need some advise on what I should do.

I was living with the woman of my dreams for 3 years the only thing was she was unhappy.

We bought this material to help us heal our relationship and finances.

She listened to the tapes 6 times and read the book Ask and you shall receive.

Within 5 months we split up and 2 weeks after she finds the man of her dreams (after only 3 dates with the guy) and is in love again.

I am now bitter and resentful for buying the tapes what should I do?

Evey

I know what I would do. I would get better dreams. I would want a HAPPY woman in my dreams, so sounds like a dream upgrade is in order and then I would re-read the books, listen to tapes while applying it to my life and worry not one second about my ex. But before that, i think i would really get this stuff and become one happy secure person before looking for a woman. Because like will attract like, you might to work on yourself first.

::stardust::rocket::stardustif she can do this, you can too.

SheerLuckHolmes

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> I know I'm not suppose to beat the drum but I need some advise on what I should do.
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> I was living with the woman of my dreams for 3 years the only thing was she was unhappy.
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> We bought this material to help us heal our relationship and finances.
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> She listened to the tapes 6 times and read the book Ask and you shall receive.
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> Within 5 months we split up and 2 weeks after she finds the man of her dreams (after only 3 dates with the guy) and is in love again.
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> I am now bitter and resentful for buying the tapes what should I do?
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Looks like you are at 17 or below on the Emotional Guidance Scale. I would get discouraged about the whole situation and throw everything in a corner and stomp around your home for awhile.

Then when that no longer feels a little better I would blame Abraham/Hicks and your ex for all this trouble. Damn them!!!

Then when that no longer feels as good... I would try worrying about every having the possibility of being in love again.... then doubt that any of this is any good... then be disappointed in myself for trying to make things better, oh why did I ever try and make things better?.... Then I wouldtrybeingoverwhelmed for awhile... Then get into being frustrated with women and the whole guy/gal thing... Then just throw up my hands and be bored with it all... just too much trouble... Then I would try being content with everything and everyone I do have in my life. Yea... try that for a while. Cause you know there might be some special gal out there that might be willing to be happy all on her own, without needing me to always rescue her... Yea, just share our happiness.. You know that might work... I can see the possibility of that. That feels possible and good........

As Abe has said, we are not trained to be sensitive to our emotions. We are radiating our vibration outward and receiving back an exact refection of it through LOA on a minute by minute, hour by hour, day by day basis.

Start paying attention to feeling a little bit better one step at a time. You are the center of your vibratory universe, make it a good one.

NatureLover

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::LOL::LOL::LOL Loving it!!

Hiya Sambo :)

You've got some lovely answers here from SheerLuck and Evey.

And, you've acknowledged your feelings, which is great - you've just got to learn to use them to your advantage. The book, Ask and It Is Given, really is excellent at helping people to get to grips with all this.

I read somewhere that Abe said that if you break up with someone and they meet their ideal mate quickly afterwards, it means you've... ??? done a good job helping them to align... ??? can't quite remember it actually, but it was something like that. (Please correct me someone! :) )

Good luck hun!

Love and best wishes,

::hugging

Lifebloom82

I mean this as nicely as possible, but this forum, with its' sunshine lollipop mentality quotient being so over the top, is probably not the best place for you to be when you're bitter and resentful.

Not much is going to change overnight, and not much is going to change in the week to come, just try and feel a tiny bit better each day, and use anything and everything in your power to pamper and treat yourself. Buy really good tasting food, take walks, listen to your favorite music, at this point your most violent/jarring revenge oriented music will do.

Imagine the two of them contracting a really bad std, or taking a sudden fall down on the pavement and losing teeth, imagine them both turning on each other and becoming absolutely miserable. It feels better doesn't it? Milk that a little bit each day as different environmental factors bring your mind back to the "reality" of what happened.

Eventually revenge and anger and blame will fade away, and you'll look back at the situation, lightly pissed off, but not enough to give yourself any grief over. Things may work back in your favor and you and her may get back together, maybe not, you'll be the one to decide as time goes on.

But for right now, chill out a little bit and just take the emotional rollercoaster ride one peak and plateau at a time. Things will eventually get better.

Sambo

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Thank you all for the kind / funny words so far ... I am feeling the love and it is helping me.

She read that book I didn't.

I've mostly just listened to the Money and The Law of Attraction cd actually 4 times now.

We bought the two books because she wanted the help with love and I wanted the help with my finances.

Does anyone know if there is a particular cd/book that would help me stop feeling the resentment that she's choosing to love someone other then me, so quickly and to help me stop feeling the loss.

Lifebloom82

> Does anyone know if there is a particular cd/book that would help me stop feeling the resentment that she's choosing to love someone other then me, so quickly and to help me stop feeling the loss.
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Playboy

Sambo
07-10-2010, 02:36 PM

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ok now that made me laugh and that's a very good thing lol !!!!!

Celeste

Abraham always emphasizes that we are freedom-seeking beings. What greater gift can you give someone you love than the freedom to love the one they want to love? How long would you have held onto someone who is unhappy? Unhappiness seeps into everything that surrounds it.

She concentrated on improving relationships, you concentrated on improving finances. I'm not saying if you had worked on improving the relationship and ignored the finances, that things would have worked out differently. But it's somewhat telling where each of you focused your desires, yes?

You say she is the woman of your dreams. But truthfully, she is the woman of your past dreams, and she manifested into your life and now has faded out because you two are no longer a match. Think about it. Now you have no choice but to turn your attention to what you really want, which is everything. Not just the finances, but another great love who will be so perfect for you, even if she isn't a perfect person, that you will look back with appreciation at the one who has now left you. You will be joined with someone who is happy in her own life, and also happy to be with you. What a beautiful life that can be.

Your resentment is justified from your perspective, and certainlyyou will find agreement amongst those who have stood in your shoes. But from a broader perspective, it is all unfolding as it should.

::hearts

Evey

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actually..i really, really appreciate a good issue of playboy myself! ::LOLand they are all good...right? LOL!

after that my fav book of Abraham Hicks is The Vortex.

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