Marian Hawke

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**Marian Hawke** is the Champion of Kirkwall, younger sister of Garrett, and the older sister of Carver and Bethany Hawke. She is an apostate mage, a noble of House Amell, and the former lover of the infamous Anders.

## Biography

Marian was born around 9:06-9:07 Dragon in a small village near Amaranthine. Her father, Malcolm, was an apostate mage who died three years before the beginning of the game, while her mother Leandra Amell is a noble from Kirkwall. She has two younger twin siblings—the mage Bethany and the warrior Carver, as well as her twin brother, Garrett.
The family was forced to move to Lothering when Bethany's magic manifested when she was nine. They'd been living in Lothering for ten years when the Fifth Blight started in Ferelden. She stayed in Lothering to safeguard Leandra and Bethany. After the defeat at Ostagar, the family escaped the darkspawn attack by fleeing north to the Free Marches, during which Garrett was killed by an ogre.

## Involvement

After arriving in Kirkwall, she and her two remaining siblings worked as smugglers for Athenril, working for a year to pay for their bribe into the city, living with their maternal uncle Gamlen in Lowtown.

## Physical Description

Buxom and curvy, moderately tall, with dark makeup, bright aqua-turquoise eyes, smooth pale skin, and a boyish short haircut. She sways when she walks, and has a regal voice, bright and clear. She has a warm smile and eyes, is approachable, and radiates kindness, with smooth, flowing movements.

## Personality

Peaceful, sympathetic, diplomatic, caring, wise, selfless, and kind. She is witty, flirty, charming, a tad sarcastic at the wrong times, protective, and a leader. Far from close-minded, she is receptive, despite her strong opinions. Having three siblings, she knows the importance of allowing others to express themselves fully, even when she doesn't agree, like with Carver, she recognizes his right to voice his truth. She is reliable, as she hates letting people down, or a cause she believes in. She can always be counted on to see her promises and responsibilities through, no matter how difficult. Though she is a do-gooder, she is far from boring and is passionate, as she has many interests and is always down to play cards at the Hanged Man, and rarely finds herself at a loss for something interesting to do. She harbors a deep desire to be a force for positive change, not just in the lives of mages like her, genuinely believing that if she brings mages and templars together, they can do a world of good, she is altruistic. She is a charismatic leader, determined and inspiring, and never lost sight of her main goal, to be of service to others. She can unrealistically put pressure on herself to right every wrong that she encounters, and sometimes spreads herself too thin, and gets burnt out. She sometimes comes across as condescending or patronizing, especially to those she cannot relate to that think she acts better than them or that she knows better, like Merrill, Carver, and Fenris, something she has in common with Sebastian. Her empathy can go a bit too far, like with Anders, whom she enables, taking on his problems as her own, and feeling guilt and accountability when things go wrong, viewing it as a personal failure. She fears losing her family, being alone and unloved, thus she is cut deeply whenever Carver pulls away, or when she is blamed by her mother, coping by being the main provider. She expresses love, hoping to be loved and appreciated back. She is an excellent team player, being caring and gentle, nurturing and patient, and a vocal activist. Marian is quiet, studious, and reserved. She strives to serve others and struggles with criticism, she loves giving people counsel, and caring for sick or injured stray animals.

Overly Idealistic – Protagonists tend to have clear ideas about what’s right and what’s wrong. They often think that everyone shares these fundamental principles – or, at least, that everyone should share these principles. So it can come as a genuine shock to Protagonists when people violate their core values, such as truth or justice.
Intense – When it comes to self-improvement, Protagonists are rarely short on energy or determination. But they may not recognize that not everyone shares these qualities. At times, Protagonists may push others to make changes that they aren’t ready for – or simply aren’t interested in making in the first place.
Twos are defined by their desire to belong and to be loved by others. They are helpful, nurturing and caring towards others. They are eager to involve themselves in others' lives. Twos rarely say no when others ask them for help, and want to prove value to others by always being there for them.
Givers are highly empathetic and caring individuals who put others’ needs above their own. They have intuitive abilities to anticipate the emotional gaps of others and support them.
They find great joy in being available and are seen as a source of encouragement or a shoulder to cry on. Through thick and thin, they’re the ride-or-die companion and friend.
Twos are strategic in how they form relationships. Usually open and popular, Givers find themselves in a variety of groups and are liked by many. Their encouraging and supportive nature draws in people from all stages of their lives.
Givers are motivated by their desire to gain approval from other people, often through indirect methods. Twos have an unconscious ulterior motive in their acts of kindness, and often assume others are the same.
An unhealthy Two may look like a person who is selfless in a superficial way. Or someone who supports and gives to others at the expense of harming themselves or another person, such as by enabling an addict.
Enneagram Twos are part of the “heart-based” triad of the Enneagram, along with Type 3s and Type 4s. This triad focuses on the emotion of sadness as a result of feeling like the individual is not loved for who they really are.
As children, Twos often grow up in environments where they feel like their basic emotional needs are not met. So they learn how to adapt to others’ expectations early on and repress their own desires in an effort to support other people.
Healthy Type Twos are able to serve others while also meeting their own needs. They also know how to love and accept themselves as they are, and rely less on approval from other people.
A strong sense of meaning, acknowledgment from loved ones, and emotional intimacy with others are Givers’ grounding principles.
Altruism holds a strong place in their hearts and they readily go out of their way to volunteer their time and energy to bring others up.
Kindness and reciprocity are the guiding values for their decisions. To improve someone else’s life or mood is immeasurably better than helping themselves.
The shared experience of spending quality time with a loved one is among the best feelings in the world to Type Twos.
In public, Givers are the people that strangers are naturally drawn to for directions or advice. They possess a strong aura of approachability. They’re highly attuned to the needs of others and can be seen as the ‘mother’ or ‘father’ figure of a group of friends.
At home or alone, they continually make an effort to keep in touch with loved ones. Whether that’s through homemade dishes, tender words, or surprise gifts, they’re attuned to others’ love languages and enjoy putting a smile on their faces.
When they are healthy, Twos are selfless caregivers who are fulfilled by freely giving unconditional love. They’re comfortable with sharing their own needs to others and secure a healthy give-and-take balance. They acknowledge when others require distance and develop secure attachment styles. They’re able to practice mindfulness and understand the meaning of altruism. They recognize their own self-worth and can gently guide others towards theirs as well. Givers understand the meaning of empathy, and are able to have genuine, heart-to-heart connections with others.
When they are average, Twos assume the martyr role in relationships and constantly seek ways to feel important by attending to others’ needs. They feel fulfilled when others remind them how grateful they are to have them in their lives, and work hard to maintain this image of the constantly accessible friend. By continuously attending to others’ needs, Givers may burn out and overcompensate for their energy levels. They may use flattery or compliments in order to gain acceptance and appreciation within a community or relationship. They’re hypersensitive to the approval and appraisal of others, especially those they truly care about.
When they are unhealthy, Twos fall into a pit of self-despair and criticism — constantly looking for others’ faults and wrongdoings. They try to gain control over relationships and may become either overly clingy or overbearing. There’s now an excuse for their every action and they play the victim card in order to gain sympathy and reassurance. Finally, they unleash their manipulative side, and mindlessly blame other people for their suffering and misery. Givers base their self-worth on the opinions of those they’ve helped — and if received with criticism, they’ll wallow in despair and develop various forms of physical illness: aches, fevers and nausea.
Growth Tips for Enneatype 2s
Practice mindfulness for personal growth. When Twos learn how to step outside of themselves and see their personality more objectively, they can observe patterns in their thoughts, feelings, and behaviors. By observing yourself from an outside perspective, you can better understand where you need to set boundaries and practice self-care.
Take note of your own feelings about things. Twos often deny their own emotions and needs, while prioritizing those of other people. Growth for a Type Two lies in acknowledging and accepting your own emotions. Activities like journaling can help Twos get more in touch with their emotions.
Practice self-love. Enneagram Twos often feel trapped in their need to please other people. If approval is not easy to gain, the Giver may feel unworthy because they are not appreciated. It’s essential for Twos to learn to love who they truly are.
Learn how to set healthy boundaries. Type Twos are known for giving more energy to others than they may actually have to give. This leaves them feeling depleted and detached from their own identity. Twos flourish when they learn how to set healthy boundaries focused on their needs.
Share your authentic self with other people. Twos tend to alter their personalities to please the people around them. Make a conscious effort to be transparent and honest about how you think and feel. You will learn that people truly value the authentic side of you!
Famous Enneagram Type 2s
Mother Teresa
Maya Angelou
“Peeta Mellark” (Hunger Games)
“Samwise Gamgee” (Lord of the Rings)
Enneagram Type Twos truly elevate and focus on romantic relationships - they love to give their huge hearts to someone special. Because of this, finding a partner is so important to them, as is gaining approval. Twos are intuitive and can actively “read” the people around them, aligning with their perceived moods and preferences in order to maximize the possibility of connection. However, sometimes they go to great lengths to give to others through helpfulness in order to get their own needs met.
Twos bring positive and often bubbly energy to important situations, such as when a partner is grieving a personal loss with work or extended family, and will work hard to please their partner. However, sometimes the partner doesn’t want or require the help of the Two, so they find themselves unappreciated, unnoticed, or unwanted.
Emotionally, Twos have trouble moving from this posture, even when their spouse or others have tried to set a loving boundary. This is often because they fear rejection and may have faced abandonment issues growing up.
In addition, Twos frequently repress their own anger, sadness, anxiety or hurt feelings to please others. However, when their feelings are hidden, they come out in ways that can feel manipulative, prideful and controlling to those around them, even if on the surface the Two maintains a happy façade. This overcompensating behavior can mask depression and create marriage struggles. This happens when, instead of balance and self care, a Two turns toward hedonism or self-inflation to get their needs met or puts on a false generosity.
If you love a Two, remind them to use their thought life to guide them into a time of quiet each morning, so they can prioritize their day with what is truly needed versus what seems to be needed. Remind them not to let their feelings be their only guide as they invite these thoughts in - and encourage them to take care of themselves (including mental and physical self-care). Remind them to revisit the past for cues and look to the future for their plans, make active plans and learn from the past and let go more - instead of manipulating.
Remember that Twos feel that in order to receive love, they must be giving. It isn’t out of cruelty but a desire to genuinely find love. Encourage your Two in their chosen love language (not just yours) and try to help them to feel safe by regularly assuring them that they are the most special person in your heart, especially if you happen to be someone who does not show it outwardly all the time.

## Relationships

### Companions

* Fenris
* Merrill
* Anders
* Aveline
* Sebastian
* Isabela
* Varric

They get along when it comes to slavers and elves. He dislikes that she coddles him too much when he shares his struggles and past. She finds him charming and attractive and enjoys flirting with him but thinks he would not go for a mage like her. They disagree over mages but he nevertheless sides with her.

They disagree on blood magic and demons, and she is very worried for Merrill and thinks she is being foolish, often warning and berating her. They agree on mages and elves. Marian is sweet to her and treats her like a little sister. She tries to get her to notice Carver in an attempt to set them up, feeling somewhat confident after Aveline and Donnic.

They had a whirlwind romance. They are very similar and feed into each other's views. She felt hugely betrayed by him, thinking he goes too far while she sees nuance. They come to a harsh and bitter end when he asks her to kill him and she does. She would not help him when he was being shady. They are both considerate and mindful of others, and are caring and romantic.
This can be a very warm, even passionate, couple when both parties continue to share their feelings openly together. Both are seeking warmth and connection, and both are willing to provide it when they are healthy. Hence, once they have gotten over the initial hurdles of intimacy, Enneagram Twos and Fours can be a safe place for each to share their hopes, fears, and insecurities. They can be good medicine for each other: Twos contribute sociability and energy, giving Fours the confidence to interact more easily with others. Twos are warm, outgoing, thoughtful and considerate, generous, and encouraging. Twos are also practical and action-oriented, willing to pitch in where needed and to do the things that need to be done, no matter how unpleasant or unglamorous.
To this mix, Fours bring creativity, a sense of humor, a willingness to laugh at human foibles, and emotional honesty. They see their own craziness and their own falseness and they do not try to varnish the truth of their quirks from themselves or from the Two. Fours also bring a sense of beauty and of subtlety into the relationship: they care about how things impact on themselves and others, and so they go out of their way to arrange their world to be more aesthetically pleasing, allowing the Two to feel more relaxed and nurtured. Fours also bring emotional depth and sensitivity to their relationships, a sense of mystery and unpredictability, sensuality and sexual freedom. In short, Fours invite Twos to take a closer look at their deeper needs, the truth of who they are and what they actually feel. Twos appreciate the subtleties and nuances that Fours bring, and Fours thrive in this atmosphere of appreciation. They can lighten up each other with unexpected humor and appreciation of each others' quirks. Each invites the other to mature emotionally, usually without saying so. Both help the other to stop being so concerned about what others think of them and to become more inner-directed.
Potential Trouble Spots or Issues
Usually Twos and Fours make better friends and colleagues than intimates. Surprisingly, this pairing is rare in intimate relationships. One would think that they would be a natural fit with each other: the rescuer (Two) and the rescued (Four), the lost child and the parental figure. The problem is that there can be too much emotionality and unspoken demands in this pairing for their own good. Twos and Fours tend to have many emotional issues in common-which allows them to understand each other readily while also laying the groundwork for potential problems and conflicts. They both need closeness and intimacy and tend to cling to anyone who responds to them sufficiently. Over the long term, there is the tendency to become competitive for attention or for one person to feel better liked and more appreciated than the other.
Moreover, Twos tend to find Fours too moody and temperamental, led too much by their feelings and unconscious impulses. They also see Fours as hypersensitive and self-absorbed—and not interested enough in others or their welfare. Fours tend to find Twos to be too saccharine and artificially upbeat, flattering and insincere to get close to people and to feel needed. Fours see Twos as secretly emotionally needy, desperate for others to like them and seek them out. They can see the Two's helpfulness as little more than an attempt to bribe people for love, which Fours disdain. Fours might begin to be secretly envious of the Twos social abilities and the kinds of positive reactions Twos generally get from people. Fours can begin to feel socially inept and overshadowed by the charm and popularity of Twos. Secret shame and the feeling of worthlessness on the part of both can begin to undermine the relationship. It can founder on Fours' feelings of abandonment if the Two becomes involved with others. It can also founder on Twos increasingly feeling unappreciated by the Four. Both begin to see the other as too emotionally needy—and ultimately as more demanding than each wishes to put effort into.
Introduction to ENFJ and ESFP compatibility
There are differences between people of the ENFJ and ESFP personality types which can be a great source of personal growth.
But these differences require a mutual understanding of one another in order for an ENFJ and ESFP relationship to work.
These personality types are drawn to each other for different reasons. ENFJs admire the kindness, practicality, and fun-loving nature of ESFPs while ESFPs are attracted to the creativity, ambition, and charisma of ENFJs.
For a variety of reasons that we’ll touch on in this guide, ENFJs and ESFPs have a unique connection.
ENFJ and ESFP relationships
ENFJs and ESFPs have some similarities and some differences in the way they approach relationships.
Both types are deeply interested in people and human psychology. As a result, they prioritize relationships.
ENFJs and ESFPs are in touch with their emotions and they tend to be thoughtful, kind, and appreciative of their partners.
Deep connections and the ability to build emotional intimacy are important for ENFJs and ESFPs when developing a bond. However, it can take time for people of both personality types to open up and share the more private side of themselves with their partners.
ESFPs approach relationships from a more practical angle than ENFJs. The details about how the relationship will progress in the future are a consideration for ESFPs whereas ENFJs focus on the big picture.
Feeling understood by their partner is essential for both ENFJs and ESFPs. Both types will put the time in to get to know each other on a deeper level and when they like someone, they naturally ask questions to discover the depths of their partner’s personality.
ENFJs can benefit from the ESFP’s more pragmatic attitude, particularly when it comes to everyday life and big decisions. ESFPs are often attracted to the ENFJ’s creativity and ability to think outside the box.
ENFJs and ESFPs are two of the most caring personality types. They tend to be highly aware of each other’s needs in a relationship and in tune with each other’s feelings. Both of these types typically have a high emotional intelligence which can be hugely beneficial in relationships.
Both types value harmony but this can sometimes result in issues being swept under the carpet. People in this personality type pairing should make a conscious effort to resolve issues as quickly as possible before they escalate.
ESFJs and ENFJs both have a dynamic, go-getting energy. As extroverts, they understand each other’s need for social interaction and when these personality types are in a relationship, they often enjoy doing activities and going to events together.
Key positives
ENFJs and ESFPs can have a lot of great experiences as a pair. They enjoy doing activities together and going to events.
ENFJs inspire ESFPs to dream big while ESFPs help ENFJs with everyday practicalities.
ENFJs and ESFPs are both caring, thoughtful people who prioritize relationships.
ESFPs inspire ENFJs to be more relaxed on a day-to-day basis while ENFJs motivate ESFPs to come up with concrete plans.
Potential challenges
ENFJs and ESFPs can be too focused on the external world and they can end up not taking time to self-reflect.
ENFJs and ESFPs aren’t always on the same wavelength and this can make it challenging to communicate in certain situations.
ENFJs and ESFPs can end up focusing too much on the people aspect of a situation instead of looking at it objectively.
ESFPs aren’t natural planners while ENFJs like to organize things in advance which can be challenging.
ENFJ and ESFP compatibility style
ENFJs and ESFPs have a growth compatibility style which is an interesting kind of connection. They have a huge amount to learn from one another and their strengths and weaknesses are complementary in a lot of ways.
ENFJs and ESFPs won’t always be on the same wavelength and this can bring challenges on a day-to-day basis. To make this relationship work, they will need to make a conscious effort to understand the way each other think.
The personality differences are not only a source of friction though. They can create attraction and it’s likely that they will deeply admire certain aspects of each other’s personalities.
This kind of connection requires both parties to be self-aware in order to have a fulfilling relationship. Honest communication is important in bonds of this kind and it can be an incredible source of personal growth.
If either one isn’t prepared to make an effort to overcome the hurdles, this relationship could be challenging.
Ultimately, your fate is in your hands. When you find this type of connection, it has the potential to be amazing if you approach it in the right way.
ENFJ and ESFP communication
Communication is important in any relationship because it allows people to share their emotions, opinions and expectations.
At the end of the day, effective communication can help both people feel valued, respected and heard. It also reduces the risk of misunderstandings which are often the cause of arguments in relationships.
ENFJs and ESFPs have an understanding and supportive communication style. During conversations, they will tend to focus on people’s emotions and offer reassurance. ENFJs and ESFPs can sometimes end up avoiding certain issues if they think they might create conflict.
ENFJs and ESFPs are often good at respecting and accepting each other’s feelings. Plus, they are good listeners. With their cooperative manners and their need for emotional intimacy, ENFJs and ESFPs will embrace sharing their feelings when the time is right.
ENFJs and ESFPs are usually comfortable sharing their thoughts with each other. They are quick at thinking on the spot and will often respond in the moment. Both types have a tendency to think out loud and sometimes say things without having fully formed an opinion.
ENFJs and ESFPs are talkative individuals who bounce off each other. However, it’s important for both people to remember to listen to each other as well as talk because there is a risk that they can end up talking over each other.
ENFJ and ESFP connection
A shared connection is essential for any healthy relationship and one of the best ways to build a bond is to talk about interests and passions.
Seeing someone talk about something they are passionate about is deeply attractive.
ENFJs are more abstract in the way that they approach life while ESFPs are more pragmatic. This can cause challenges in the way they connect.
ENFJs tend to prefer to connect over conversations about theories and ideas. ESFPs build connections by talking about more practical matters. This disconnect can make It harder for this personality pairing to instantly build a deep connection. It’s definitely possible but it can take a little longer.
Part of building a strong connection involves respecting each other’s personalities and choices. Even if these types don’t see eye-to-eye on everything, if they work together and communicate, they will be able to see where each other is coming from.
Connection is one of the most important pieces of the compatibility jigsaw puzzle and it takes a little more effort for ENFJ and ESFP couples because they aren’t always on the same wavelength.
ENFJ and ESFP conflict resolution
Conflict resolution can make or break a relationship and it takes a conscious effort to get it right.
In the heat of an argument, it can be easy to forget your partner’s needs and preferences but this is the time when it’s most important to put yourself in their shoes.
When it comes to conflict, ENFJs and ESFPs often prefer to resolve the situation there and then by talking things through. This can be beneficial for resolving issues as both types prefer to move at the same pace.
ENFJs and ESFPs value harmony in relationships. As empathetic people, both types will do their best to ensure that difficult conversations are broached tactfully. However, it can take them longer to bring up issues than some other personality type pairings because of their desire for peace.
ENFJs and ESFPs should be mindful to actually work through the conflict rather than just talk about their feelings, even if that means agreeing to disagree. It’s not necessary to be aligned with your partner on everything.
Both types naturally put themselves in other people’s shoes and this can help resolve matters as long as neither the ENFJ or ESFP is too emotional. This can happen because both types feel things deeply and if it does, you should take time out and wait for things to settle.
Being able to forgive your partner if they inadvertently hurt your feelings is key. That isn’t to say that you should be a pushover though. If your partner does upset you, you should let them know so you can work it out for the future.
ENFJ and ESFP daily life
Bigger topics like communication, connection, and resolving conflict are all important for a healthy relationship. But everyday life is equally important.
Little things add up to become big things and it’s important to appreciate how your partner approaches life on a daily basis.
ESFPs prefer flexibility in their everyday life while ENFJs are drawn to structure and routine. This can offer a good balance for both personality types but it needs to be approached in the right way.
ESFPs should do their best to keep their environment tidy and clean, particularly shared spaces, because this helps ENFJs maintain clarity of thought. In addition, ESFPs in relationships with ENFJs should try to be open to planning dates further in advance than they would usually choose to.
It’s essential for ENFJs to realize that ESFPs need freedom. ESFPs can feel trapped if they have everything planned out. ENFJs should leave space for spontaneity and change when spending time with an ESFP, particularly when planning a holiday together.
When it comes to everyday behaviors, both people need to be self-aware and make sure that they find that balance of staying true to themselves and appreciating their partner’s needs.
Summary of ENFJ and ESFP compatibility
In short, an ENFJ and ESFP relationship has incredible potential. When couples of this type are in a relationship, they will go above and beyond to understand and accept each other completely.
It’s worth noting that these personality types have more in common than you’d expect at first glance.
No relationship is smooth all of the time but if you communicate clearly, trust each other and show mutual respect, you’ll have the perfect recipe for building a beautiful connection.
Growth compatibility offers the opportunity to learn a lot from each other’s strengths and weaknesses.
Looking to learn more about personality type compatibility? You can read our individual guides about ENFJ compatibility and ESFP compatibility.
Enneagram Twos and Nines are similar in a wide variety of areas and reactions; both types are interested in nurturing others and in helping people to be better, more comfortable with themselves, and more at peace. Both types also tend to be optimistic and to reframe disappointments in the most positive way possible. This pairing has an outstanding warm, kindly, and good-natured quality about it that each side reinforces. Twos and Nines are easy-going, hospitable, and undemanding, happy to make friends happy and to welcome them into their home. Twos bring to the pair a more outward and interpersonally engaging energy: they would most likely be the first to introduce themselves at a party or to go to someone's aid and comfort if they perceived that the other person had some kind of problem. Twos are proud of their relationship, their home, their family and their friends—and they want to share them with others. Twos constantly add energy and new people to the relationship mix. They are more talkative than Nines and more openly curious about other people, how they live and what they are like, and more eager to get involved in others' lives.
On the other hand, Nines bring a quiet steadiness and uncomplicated directness that allows people to flourish and things to get done with a minimum of stress and conflict. Even if Twos become upset about their relationships, or are feeling moments of self-doubt about how loved they are, Nines have a way of calming them down and of providing a great deal of unquestioned acceptance. Both types are drawn to each other to provide soothing and support; their home and hearth, pets and love of nature are extremely important to them. Both go out of their way to be considerate of each other, as well as of other people. Much of their best communication is non-verbal, physical, arising from their simple, direct presence to each other. They can develop almost a psychic link with each other. This is a very mellow couple, whose emphasis on hospitality reminds people of how healing it is to be around loving, generous people.
Potential Trouble Spots or Issues
Both Twos and Nines tend to give away their power and to go along with the agendas of others. Yet, one of the parties will have to wear the pants in the family, taking charge and making decisions. Doing so goes against the grain of both types, although either will take charge if necessary. However, negotiating power and decision making in a Two/Nine couple puts both parties under increasing stress and both tend to feel that they are being forced into the bad guy role in the family—and that they will be resented and unloved while their partner gets off the hook.
Further, neither finds it easy to talk about their feelings or their growing discontent with the power balance in the relationship, or with any other sources of resentment and potential conflicts that they may have. Twos tend to actually take over too much, becoming domineering and controlling, not hesitating to boss the Nine around and to speak with surprising harshness to him or her. But because Twos can rationalize their motives and see themselves only as all loving, they can continue without feeling guilty or embarrassed.
Nines find it difficult to find their own voice and to speak up for themselves. But when the Nine actually does speak up, the Two often takes this as a lack of gratitude and tries to turn the Nine's comments around on them. Twos are not good at taking criticism, and when Nines find the courage to speak up, they may go overboard with a load of old resentments that have pilled up. The result is that Nines withdraw into silence and become passive-aggressive as a way of dealing with their anger, while Twos feel unappreciated, misunderstood, and rejected. Both try to keep everything quiet and normal on the surface, although they begin to deteriorate into longer silences with each other-and more distance, including less physical contact. An air of tension takes over, punctuated by angry outbursts and recriminations. The couple that seems so unassuming and supportive tends to end through attrition and drifting apart. Nobody wants to talk about what has really happened, no body wants to take responsibility for the deterioration of the relationship, and things eventually simply fall apart.
For further understanding about this type combination, read more about the Stress Arrow and how types Two and Nine behave when they are moving along it.

She helped her marry Donnic. They get along really well because they are both moral, selfless, lawful, and kind. They are best friends and have each other's backs and share secrets.

They are rivals, as she is anti-chantry due to Ander's influence and pro-mage. He dislikes that she is romancing Anders, but they stay friends when she kills him. They agree over helping people, and on demons and slavery. She pushes him to retake Starkhaven, that he owes his people that stability and that it would be cowardly and selfish to run and take the easier path of the Chantry.

They joke and flirt. Isabela gets annoyed by her getting involved in people's business. They both like freedom, and Isabela appreciates her cleverness. They are dissimilar, and Isabela finds her too selfless.

They get along because she is kind to dwarves and looks out for her family. They joke and flirt a lot. She cares about her place in Kirkwall and they are best friends. She is diplomatic and mildly sarcastic but not greedy.

### Family

* Garrett
* Carver
* Bethany
* Leandra
* Gamlen
* Malcolm

They were basically the same person, they had the same sense of humour and subsequent bad timing, but he was more aggressive while she is diplomatic. They were perfect battle partners, and they missed each other greatly when he joined the army. He died protecting her and she felt so much guilt over the fact that she was the one to survive. He was older by two years.

She tries to talk him up and is sympathetic to his inferiority complex but don't take shit for it. She hates that he became a templar but was eager to see him grow as a person. She appreciates him wanting her to be safe but struggles to not challenge the system.

They are very close and have similar views. They are supportive of each other and talk about girly things. Marian wants Bethany to embrace her being a mage so she can be happy with her life.

## Songs

* Burning Pile, Mother Mother
* I'm Not Calling You A Liar, Florence + The Machine
* Ship in a Bottle, fin
* Warriors, Imagine Dragons
* Glory And Gore, Lorde
* Immortals, Fall Out Boy
* Ain't No Rest for the Wicked, Cage The Elephant
* Say Amen (Saturday Night), Panic! At The Disco
* Glitter & Gold, Barns Courtney
* Nightmare, Halsey
* I'll Be Good, Jaymes Young
* R.I.P. 2 My Youth, The Neighbourhood
* I Want It All, Arctic Monkeys
* I Found, Amber Run
* Arsonist's Lullabye, Hozier
* World's Smallest Violin, AJR
* Natural, Imagine Dragons
* Some Nights, fun.
* The Last Of The Real Ones, Fall Out Boy
* Troublemaker, Olly Murs, Flo Rida
* Champion, Fall Out Boy
* Young, Vacations
* Falling, Florence + The Machine
* Therefore I Am, Billie Eilish
* Gasoline, Halsey
* River, Bishop Briggs
* Confident, Demi Lovato
* Wicked Ones, Dorothy
* Madness, Ruelle
* Problem, Natalia Kills
* Missed Connections, DOKYEOM
* Believe, The Bravery
* Everybody Loves Me, OneRepublic
* Human, Rag'n'Bone Man
* Play with Fire, Sam Tinnesz, Yacht Money
* Run Boy Run, Woodkid
* Line Without a Hook, Ricky Montgomery
* Achilles Come Down, Gang of Youths
* Dragon Age 2 Main Theme, Inon Zur
* Look What You Made Me Do, Taylor Swift
* Hayloft II, Mother Mother
* Immigrant Song, Led Zeppelin
* The Chain, Fleetwood Mac
* Bohemian Rhapsody, Queen