Queers R Us Wiki- Community Guidelines

## Disclaimer

First and foremost, this wiki is radically inclusionist. What this does NOT mean is that we believe it is ever okay in any capacity to send threats, harassment, or baits to people; what it DOES mean is that any and all good faith identities are accepted, respected, and protected in this community. No form of exclusionism will be permissible- this includes but is not limited to aspec exclusionism, mspec exclusionism (anti-bi/poly/pan/omni/etc.), transmedicalism of any form, exclusionism towards microlabels, xenogenders, or neopronouns, being anti-mspec/male/non-binary lesbians or anti-mspec/female/non-binary gays, and any and all other forms of exclusionism.

Additionally, no form of bigotry will be allowed in any circumstance. Racism, Nazism, anti-semitism, islamophobia, transphobia, homophobia, queerphobia, ableism/sanism, sexism, and intersexism will result in an immediate indefinite ban, as will TERF/TEHM/'gender-critical' rhetoric.

This being said, this community is designed to be a positive, inclusive, safe, and constructive place for queer people and our wonderful allies! As such, please adhere to the following rules on this wiki. If you have difficulty reading through large chunks of text at one time, feel free to skip to the 'TLDR' part at the bottom of each section of guidelines!

## Community Interaction

1. When engaging in discussions, be it through community posts, blog posts, or article comments, please remain respectful. Do not refer to another person with derogatory phrases, slurs, or implications of any kind, and do not dogpile or harass people. The usage of slurs, threats, doxxing, and harassment will result in an immediate and indefinite ban.
2. Everyone has different experiences- not understanding where someone is coming from is not an excuse to shut them down. The queer community builds itself on acceptance and genuine compassion for others, and it's important to recognize that many people are not privileged with equal access to resources to learn about queer identity, history, etc. etc. We are all simply doing our best to learn and grow, and facilitating change through listening and engagement is much more productive than shutting down anyone who doesn't automatically fit our standard of what a queer person or their knowledge of things "should" look like. Be respectful of the different places people are in when engaging in discussions with them!
3. If someone asks a question in good faith, respond in good faith. If you can't tell whether or not it's in good faith, give them the benefit of the doubt because you don't have the power to come to your own conclusion about their journey. For example, if someone asks what a certain identity is or why something is wrong or improper, it's not your own place to deem "well, this seems like an obvious question" and then subsequently shame them for simply wanting to learn. If someone asks a question, just be respectful and answer it earnestly! Never call someone "stupid", "dumb", or any iteration of the word, ESPECIALLY the r word, for asking questions which you PERSONALLY think are "obvious".
4. If someone's behavior is extremely obviously the behavior of a troll, report them, tag admins, and move on. As tempting as I know it can be to yell at or mock a troll, this never helps a situation die down. Trolls want to get that reaction out of queer people to mock us- and while it is not our responsibility to bear the burden of their own ignorance, let's not give them the satisfaction of knowing they've succeeded. Report, tag, then ignore, repeat.
5. Queer spaces should always be as accessible as possible! So, please always provide necessary trigger warnings for posts! If someone asks you to add a trigger warning to your post, do it. Do not try to debate whether or not the trigger is "valid" as that's very ableist, rude, and unnecessary. Simply respect their wishes, and add the trigger warning to your post!
6. In the same vein as the previous rule, please provide appropriate content warnings for image content. If your post contains an image which is bright, flashing, or otherwise dangerous to people with epilepsy, migraines, and other conditions, push it down and explicitly warn for the image's content. If someone asks you to add a content warning to a photo and to then push it down in the post, do it.
7. Again in the vein of accessibility, if you have pictures, videos, or gifs in your post, either provide an image description, audio description, or gif description yourself, or ask others to help. You may tag an admin if you wish for help with how to make such descriptions. Please always be patient with people requesting accessibility!

### TLDR

TLDR of the above section of guidelines- always be respectful when interacting, and always assume good faith with questions and engagement! Do not use slurs or derogatory language, do not harass, threaten, or dogpile, and do not feed the flames of drama or trolling! If someone asks you to make your post more accessible by adding appropriate trigger/content warnings, image/audio/gif descriptions, or TLDRs, please respect their wishes and do so! Additionally, do not speak over other people on minority issues if you are not from the group they're from (i.e if you're white don't speak over POC, if you're a singlet don't speak over systems, etc.!)

## Content

1. All pages and discussions on this wiki must be SFW. This does not mean that things like sex cannot be brought up, as that would be counterintuitive in a pro-queer space, but it means that these discussions should never be graphic. Bringing up sexual attraction is not the same thing as graphically describing sexually explicit content or fantasies. The former is acceptable, the latter will not be accepted here. We are aware that the push to make pride "family friendly" is inherently queerphobic, and that is not our aim- but this site is meant to be geared toward younger queer people who are still in the process of learning more about their identity, history, and community, so this simply is not the place for explicit sexuality.
2. Content of this wiki's pages must be related to queer content in some way. Pages for things which are queer-adjacent, but not inherently queer themselves, will most likely be deleted. This means pages should have something to do with at least one of the following: Queer history, being non-straight, non-cis, a-spec, polyamorous, intersex\*, and any directly adjacent topics like queer slang, definitions, forms of queerphobia, etc. etc.
3. Page content which contains mentions of triggering things like violence, discrimination, and harassment, must have proper warnings for said content.

\* This wiki recognizes that not every intersex person views being intersex as a queer identity. This is simply a community that is accepting of those who view their being intersex as queer and respectful towards those who don't. This is no attempt to tell any intersex person how to feel about being in the queer community, but rather an approach of accepting those who id as queer and respecting the decisions and boundaries of those who don't!

### TLDR

TLDR of the above section of guidelines- All content on this wiki must be sfw. There is nothing wrong with queer sexuality, but this website is simply not the time or place for it. Page content must have proper content warnings and be queer-related/adjacent in some way! This wiki both respects intersex people who view their being intersex as queer and respects the boundaries of those who don't, and is a safe space for all!