ENFJ

## About ENFJs

ENFJ (Extraverted, Intuitive, Feeling, Judging) is one of the 16 personality types identified by Jungian analytical psychology. ENFJs are direct, initiating, and control types who are structured idealists. They are also known as mentors and are people-focused, excelling at creating the best social experiences, meetings, and parties.

#### Hero - Extraverted Feeling

ENFJs have Fe Hero, which makes them extremely caring and sensitive to the value judgments of others. However, they can be easily taken advantage of due to their giving nature. ENFJs are also critical of others' life choices or decisions, particularly if they impact others. They have a weakness for being taken advantage of through subtle manipulation and should be cautious of this.

#### Inferior - Introverted Thinking

ENFJs have a hard time trusting people and can be triggered by situations like divorce or children being separated from their parents. Over-communicating with ENFJs is crucial, and it can help activate their ISTP subconscious, making them more diligent and productive. Providing context and writing things down can also help because ENFJs have Ti Inferior and are easily confused without context.

#### Critic - Extraverted Intuition

Their Ne Critic makes them constantly on guard for imminent betrayal, while their Ti Inferior causes them to doubt themselves. ENFJs tend to live in covert contract land, expecting blind loyalty in return for their devotion. They crave recognition and external validation because they are afraid they are not smart enough.

#### Trickster - Introverted Sensing

They have Si Trickster, which makes them impatient and forgetful, so notes and reminders are helpful.

#### Demon - Extraverted Thinking

ENFJs have Te Demon and need their day in court. It is essential to give them their day in court and listen to their thinking, or they can become cruel. They are an in-charge type and need recognition and appreciation for their positive contributions.

#### Conclusion

ENFJs hold themselves and others to high standards of perfectionism due to their idealism and can easily feel guilty. Their feelings need to be managed with words of affirmation, which is their primary love language. Demonstrations of loyalty are crucial because ENFJs have Ne Critic and can jump to conclusions. If they have alienated someone, they can become depressed due to their guilt-prone Fe Hero function.

## Relationship Compatibilities

*(See Compatibilities for more information)*

### Social Compatibility

1. Golden Pair = INFP
2. Silver Pair = ENFP
3. Bronze = ISTJ
4. Super Ego = ESTJ
5. Pedagogue = INTP
6. Benefactor = ENTP

### Emotional Compatibility

1. Partnership = ISFP
2. Affection = INFP
3. Prudent = INTJ
4. Natural = ISTJ
5. Compliance = ESFP
6. Respect = ENFP
7. Kinship = ENTJ
8. Refinement = ESTJ

### Sexual Compatibility

1. Affection = INFP
2. Companionship = INTP
3. Natural = ISTJ
4. Intrigue = ISFJ
5. Respect = ENFP
6. Trust = ENTP
7. Refinement = ESTJ
8. Kindred = ESFJ

## Rules for Love

1. Always express your feelings and values to them. Use “I feel” instead of “I think”.
2. Support them in making wise decisions based on your values. They want to align with you.
3. Be open to new experiences and adventures with them. They want to broaden your horizons.
4. Always listen to them attentively and reflect back what they say. They need to feel heard and understood.
5. Give them recognition and praise for their efforts and achievements. Share your status and spotlight with them.
6. State your intentions before taking action. They need to know what you are planning to do and why.
7. Help them remember important details and tasks. Write things down for them or remind them gently.
8. Don’t be too objective or critical with them. Be more subjective and empathetic. Admit when you are wrong and apologize sincerely.

1. ↑ Who Are The ENFJs? | Season 3 Episode 7 | CS Joseph

https://csjoseph.life/who-are-the-enfjs/
https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=fmzYW\_0mfJk
https://open.spotify.com/episode/3d8WBb0sPSsZVBzZva8EED
2. ↑ 8 Rules for Loving an ENFJ | Season 27 | CS Joseph

https://csjoseph.life/8-rules-for-loving-an-enfj-season-27-cs-joseph/ https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=EEKcxtplTXchttps://open.spotify.com/episode/2PbUJJ5yFf5leiP2wqyCNA