Laws of Faerie

**Never Lie, Word is Bond.** Fae, both Seelie and Unseelie, take the value of their word extremely seriously. While the Folk may be ticksy with their phrasing, lying is an abomination to even the most mischievous prankster.

* *Pinky Swear.* The pinky swear is the most solemn of Oaths-on-the-fly. Faeries must always uphold their promises and oaths.

**Be Polite.** The Fae detest rudeness. Please respect the land, nature, each other and honour our diversity.

* *Don’t just say “thanks”, show it.* When someone does something for you, to offer mere words in exchange for actions or things is considered most rude by Fae standards. Always try to also show your thanks through reciprocity.

**Never take, Always Trade.** No matter what form of currency you use, be it skills, coyne, human money, knowledge, favors, etc. the People always give something in exchange, even if it is the smallest bauble in their pocket.

**Confuse, don’t abuse.** Remember, yes means yes and no means no. Fae are tricksy, but honour the boundaries of consent and mutual respect. An’ it harm none, do as thou wilt.

### **Intended Audience**

Adults and adults with family (not limited but best suited to ~10yo+).  Our events and activities are geared largely toward adults who haven’t outgrown the fun of Neverland, are captivated by the surreality of Wonderland and love the enchantment, folklore and glamour of Faerieland.  It is intended for those who love storytelling, world-building, gaming, questing, costuming, live-action immersion eventing, for themselves and who wish to include their families in these traditions to weave incredible shared-story experiences.

### **Rating**

PG (with optional R in more controlled or private settings).  We want our events to be simultaneously fun for grown-ups, but without the worry that their younglings might encounter dubious scenes.  10pm is our classic “bedtime/after-hours” marker, and younglings are allowed at their parental-unit’s discretion. We do not have, at any time in any public spaces overt sexual activities which would otherwise be inappropriate for underage audiences.  We are neither the language police nor the alcohol police but we aim to create a family-friendly environment and overt breaches of that ruin this type of atmosphere will not be tolerated.

### **Diversity**

We are a group of diverse individuals, creating and participating in a community by sharing and reveling in all our fantastical glory.  We aim to create an environment where everyone can comfortably be whoever and whatever they are, so long as it does not seek to infringe or assert itself upon others.  Respect pronouns, respect personal space, respect consent.

### **Consent-based Play**

We offer consent-based events and narrative play.  Yes means yes, everything else means no; each person is responsible for communicating for themselves, and for respecting the communicated boundaries of others. All challenges, scenes, and other interactions take place at the consensual discretion of the individuals involved.

Please remember to honor the personal space of one another.  Do not touch people without their consent and permission - this includes hand-shakes and hugging!  “Are you a hugger?” is a thing! and no shame to those who aren’t feeling it.

#### ***How to use Hand-signal Check-ins***

In addition to vocal consent, we also employ a hand-signal “check in” system in order to help stay attuned to the emotional and mental status of one another, without breaking ambiance.

--You can initiate a hand-signal check-in at any time with the “OK” hand gesture.

* *Thumbs Up Response:* This indicates that the respondent is doing good, all systems are go.

* *Double Thumbs Up:* All systems are go, feel free to intensify and go deeper.

* *Thumbs Sideways Response:* Iffy.This indicates that the respondent may be uncertain or uncomfortable about something.  Please pause whatever is occurring to seek clarification or communicate with one another before either continuing, or ceasing.

* *Thumbs Down:* Stop! Whatever it is, do not continue, persist or insist. Cease and desist and allow space, take a break, fade to black.  Though people may choose to do so, no one is required to explain themselves and should not be pressured to do so.

## **Rules of Thumb**

* Seelie and Unseelie alike share in the ranks of nobility and give them appropriate respects and honour
* A good liege should require from their line the duty(ies) which each one can perform
* Insolence for its own sake is frowned upon and reflects poorly
* It is supremely unwise, and unadvisable to go about ignoring those of higher rank simply because you are not sworn in fealty to them specifically. An example of a good reason for ignoring a noble of higher rank that is outside your line of fealty would be their request presents a specific conflict or contradiction with your liege or higher ranking previously standing agreements/orders