The Finck Family

**The Finck Family** is the ninth episode of Season 1 of Nanny 911.

## Episode summary

Nanny Deb is in Connecticut helping the Finck family with three sets of twins: 9-year-old twin girls Alexandra & Amanda (who were adopted), 4-year-old fraternal twins Stephen & Katarina (who were born through in-vitro) and 3-year-old twin boys Daniel & David (who were born naturally).

Paul is a dental equipment salesman while Deborah stays at home with the kids. The kids constantly whine and tend to be very aggressive with each other, and there is a lack of communication between Deborah & Paul.

## Observation

When Nanny Deb enters the Finck home it's in chaos, Paul goes to work in the basement and the younger 2 sets of twins are whining and upset and Deborah runs around trying to get the kids ready for the day. After, she is face with mounds of housework. Throughout the morning the kid roughhouse, scream, lash out, and cry.

At lunch Paul comes up stairs demanding food and criticizing Deborah, and the kids display poor table manners.

At nap time Deborah is trying to put the younger 2 sets of twins down but instead, they jump on beds and refuse. When Deborah had enough she decides to lock Stephen in his room as he wails and begs to be let out.

At dinner the kid wreak havoc , banging forks, yelling, and David pulls the blinds off the dining room window. both parents are incapable of controlling them.

Bedtime is as usual the kids put up a fight and when Deborah gives up and Paul goes up there thinking that he can handle them only to be hit in the nose with a toy by one of the twins.

## Parent Meeting

Nanny Deb addresses the family's issues. (The younger kids are messing around upstairs)

## Teaching

Nanny Deb comes to the house and puts in rules such as No whining, No hitting, Mean what you say, and a Reward Chart for the kids. Deborah isn't convinced that the Nanny's plan will work.

Throughout the 2nd Day, Nanny Deb enforces the no whining rule by giving the kids a chance to express themselves when ever they are whining, or distressed. This seems to be working well. She teaches both parents how to give the kids words to express themselves but Deborah was being reluctant and resistant, while Paul is actually getting on with the program.

Paul is starting to teach and help Stephen, Katarina, David, & Daniel on how to communicate properly but things aren't going well with Amanda and Alexandra. When an issue arises between Amanda and Alex in the basement, Amanda begins whining. Paul fails at defusing the conflict which causes Amanda to storm off in tears.

Nanny Deb comforts Amanda and then resolves the conflict between Alex and Amanda and tells them that If they are upset or feel ignored they can speak to Paul or Deborah and that "theyr'e the oldest and their very special" Amanda responds with "actually we were adopted?" Nanny Deb reassures the both of them are special and worthy of love and attention. Paul has been moved by this event and the next day he makes amends with both Alex & Amanda

Daniel uses a bad word and throws a tantrum, Deborah threatens to take a toy away from him which makes him stop. Paul calls her out for not using the Nanny's communication technique which causes a brief argument. Deborah thinks that her husband is acting like a know-it-all and leaves the basement.

Paul complains to Nanny Deb about Deborah giving in to the kids meltdowns, he fears that the day Nanny Deb leaves all the progress his family has made will be undone. Nanny Deb tells him that he needs to trust and believe in Deborah.

The parents communication issues are manifesting itself in the children, when they're left alone to play in the basement they were wrestling and being rough. While this rough play was happening, Amanda smothered Stephen with a pillow until he wet himself. Stephen was sobbing hysterically and gasping for air, he limps upstairs to tell Deborah, "Amanda was fighting me!, She put a pillow on me and crushed me and made me go potty". Deborah takes upstairs to clean him up. Nanny Deb is livid.

Nanny Deb decides to confront Paul and Deborah about the communication issues in the whole family, and says that it's totally unacceptable that the children are lashing out. Deborah requests a break because she's gonna start lash out at her. The Nanny's response is "that's your issue right there, you don't listen". She then points out the children's violent behavior and anger warning that it'll worsen if it's not curbed.

The kids are being loud and rowdy downstairs and Deborah uses that as a ticket to leave the uncomfortable conversation. Paul is embarrassed by Deborah's attitude.

She then tries to leave the kitchen but Nanny Deb goes after her and blocks her from exiting. She tells Deborah that the older children's behavior needs to be nipped in the bud. She says that she doesn't wanna see one of the kids' faces on the news saying that they have assaulted someone because they couldn't control themselves. Deborah finally gets it and agrees to change her ways for the better.

Throughout the days The Finck Family improves, the parents are working together, the kids are taking on responsibilities, and the house is quieter.

## Family Members

* Paul Finck
* Deborah Finck
* Alexandra and Amanda, 9
* Stephen and Katarina, 4
* David and Daniel, 3

## Trivia

* According to Katerina the episode was staged.

## Events-Post Nanny 911

* Paul is a Multi-Millionaire
* Alexandra and Amanda both got married
* Deborah had cancer but it was cured

## External Links

* Whatever happened to the Finck family-Newstimes, August 7, 2010
* Paul's Facebook
* The Finck Family's Gofundme for Deborah's Cancer
* Katerina's Twitter
* Katerina´s Vsco
* Paul´s YouTube Channel
* Amanda´s Twitter
* Katerina´s Youtube Channel
* Katerina´s Other Youtube Channel
* 4 minute clip On Youtube
* A part of the episode on archive.org