General -- Family Information

Families are similar to friends in that we have added them to beYou with the intention to improve and add more features as time goes on. Some of the things we will be adding for families include family leader boards, competitions between families, family-specific achievements, family pages with image galleries, and more.

## Who can be in a beYou Family

* **Head of Household (HoH)** - Creator of the Family. The person who makes the family (initiates the family name) will ALWAYS be the Head of Household.
* **Spouse** - added through marriage certificates.
* **Children** - added through adoption or birth certificates.
* **Extended family members** - added through extended family certificates.

**IMPORTANT**: You can only be in ONE beYou family at a time. This works just like how taxes would work in real life. You can only be claimed by ONE household at a time. For example: if you are part of your parent's family and decide to get married, but your spouse has a family already, then you would either need them to leave their family to join yours or vice versa.

## Starting a New Family

If you are not in a family you can start your own family using the family page.
There is a button to create a new family. ***You must choose a family name that doesn't already exist.*** Once created you can add family members by applying for marriage, birth, adoption, or extended family applications through a beYou Lawyer or beYou Doctor (Birth Certificates or Adoption-to-Birth Certificate Conversion).

## Finding a Lawyer

Extended Family applications in beYou are processed by any active beYou Lawyer. Lawyers can be found by either visiting the main beYou sim and seeing who is online on the lawyer boards or by using the profession search feature on the website to see which lawyers have been active in the past few days at: https://www.beyouworld.com/searchProfessionals?professionName=Lawyer
NOTE: The web search will not tell you who is online at the time of your search; just who's been online recently.
To search other professions you can use the navigation menu and select Professions --> Search Professionals. From here you simply select the desired one and click Search.

## How Law Forms work

If you are an active beYou Lawyer, you will purchase forms from an educator on the beYou markets. Once purchased, they will automatically be added to your assets based. This will then allow you to submit these forms on your lawyer page on the main beYou website.

On the website, Navigate to the Law hyperlink under Professions, There you will see these family law processing Tabs.

## Adding Family Members

There are two ways you can add family to your beYou profile:

* Marriage, divorce, extended family (for example: mother in law, sister in law, etc.), and adoptions are processed by beYou Lawyers.
* Births and adoption-to-birth certificate conversions are processed by beYou Doctors.

beYou lawyers can process their own applications for their family or they ask another lawyer to process their family's additions.
If you would like to be added to a family you will have to contact the head of household for that family. Once an application is submitted to join a family you will have to confirm this using your family page. If an application has been submitted with your name you will receive a family confirmation.

NOTE: You can not marry more than one person at a time (re: poly marriages)

If you do not confirm your acceptance in the application it will not process and you will never be added. After you and everyone else named in the application confirms their family status, your application will process after a few days.
Once completed you will send yourself the completed certificate and enter the fulfillment code in it.

## Leaving a Family

Anyone can choose to leave a family using the family page on the website and if you are the head of household, you can request that members be removed from your family. There is a "Remove Family Member" option for the head of household and a Leave My Family button for Non-Head of Household members. Divorce Certificates will remove a spouse from a family once completely processed by a beYou Lawyer and confirmed by both people.

## **Adopting/Becoming Adopted**

To adopt or become adopted in beYou, you must see a beYou Lawyer.

Before requesting an adoption, make sure the following conditions are met:

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> * The adopted party should not be a part of another family as they will be adopted into the parent's family.
> * All parties should have their current login (aka user) name connected to their beYou account.\*
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> \***NOTE**: This applies to premium SL members who have recently changed their username. If they have and haven't updated their beYou logins to their current username.
> Once the form has been submitted by your lawyer, you will need to go to your family tab (on your beYou profile page) and confirm the application process. Adoption applications take approx. 5 days to be fully processed.
> After the adoption application completes, all parties involved will receive a prim in SL to signify the adoption. This prim will look like a adoption certificate and can be set up to show your adoption details using a fulfillment code. This code is generated at the time your adoption completes and is available on the family tab of your profile by clicking the blue buttons at the bottom or through your lawyer.
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> ### Processing an Adoption Application
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> If you are an active beYou Lawyer, you will purchase forms from an educator on the markets. Once purchased, they will automatically be added to your assets based. This will then allow you to submit these forms on your lawyer page on the main beYou website.
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> ### How to Process Adoption Form (Web Form)
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> If you want to adopt you must first find a Lawyer who can process the application for you (if you are not already an active Lawyer in beYou).
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> On the website, Navigate to the Law hyperlink under Professions click on the Adoptions tab (you will need to scroll to mid page) click on the New Adoption button. Fill all required fields on the form.
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> **Lawyer Key**: Auto-filled, cannot change.
> **Lawyer Name:** Auto-filled, cannot change.
> **Parent Name:** The name of the main parent (Must have a family name started or be in a family)
> **Spouse Name:** (Optional) A second parent name (Must be in the SAME family as Parent1)
> **Child Name:** The name of the child being adopted (Must **NOT** be in any family)
> When typing the names of the people involved, please allow the form to auto-lookup the names matching what you are typing. This will ensure you get the correct spelling of all names involved. The auto lookup will start working after at least 3 characters are typed.
> **All parties involved, will need to go into the beYou Profile page once the application is submitted and hit Confirm**. Failure of **ANY** party to confirm the request will result in the application **not processing completely**.
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> #### Confirmations
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> * **All** parties will have to visit their profile on the beYou website (http://www.beyouworld.com/me) and confirm the request. Without this **confirmation from all parties involved**, **the request will not process** and will retain the status of "Unconfirmed".
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> * Once processed, the adoption certificate will be available as a gift on the user's profile page. The fulfillment code will be generated and will be visible on the family section of your profile page. The lawyer who processes the application will also have this code available if needed by the client.
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> 1. If there is no family already started, your family will need to come up with a family name and you will need to decide who will be the head of household.   The Head of household will need to create the family name  (here https://www.beyouworld.com/me#family-info)
> 2. Make sure your family members did not create another family name on accident and if they did, have them leave the family.  The head of household should create the family. beYou does not allow 2 existing family names to be joined, they will need to abandon any created name to be added to your family name.
> 3. If adding the adoptee to an already established family name, talk with your family and let them know that you will be taking action to adopt.  **All BeYou applications can not go through unless they are accepted by ALL parties on the form**.
> 4. If adding the adoptee to an already established family name, the main requestor should be the main parent, in case of divorce child will stay with the main parent. (ie. If you marry into a family and bring your child the head of household should be the spouse on the form)
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> If you would like to show yourself as adoptable on our beYou adoption search page, you may change your adoption status via your profile page.
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## **Getting Divorced**

To get divorced using beYou, you must see a beYou Lawyer.
It is advised that if you are getting a divorced that you remove yourself from the beYou family to which you belong. While it isn't required, it may save you some stress later on.
If you are the head of household and seeking divorce, you can manually remove your spouse from your family, via the family tab on your beYou Profile.
Once your request for divorce has been submitted by your lawyer, you will need to go to your family tab (on your beYou profile page) and confirm the application process. Divorce applications take approx. 5 days to be fully processed.

After the Divorce application completes, each member will receive notification that the divorce has been completed. You will not receive a certificate or prim of any kind.

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> ### Processing a Divorce Application
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> If you are an active beYou Lawyer, you will purchase forms from an educator on the markets. Once purchased, they will automatically be added to your assets based. This will then allow you to submit these forms on your lawyer page on the main beYou website.
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> 1. Go to http://beyouworld.com/professions/law.
> 2. Select the Divorces tab (it's the third tab).
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> 4. Customer Name\*: Enter the username of person requesting the divorce. When the name starts to auto-complete in the drop down list, select it.
> 5. Participant Name: Enter the username of Spouse #2. When the name starts to auto-complete in the drop down list, select it.
> 6. Click the 'Initiate Divorce' button.
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> **All parties involved will have to confirm their involvement** in the Divorce by visiting their profile page and clicking on the confirmation at the bottom on the family section of their profile page. Failure of all parties confirming will result in the application not completing.
> beYou Divorce certificates take up to five days to process once all of the confirmations have been approved and the application filed. Once the process has been completed, the fulfillment code will appear on your Divorces page and you can send it to your client.
> **REMINDER**: When typing the names of the people involved, please allow the form to auto-lookup the names matching what you are typing. This will ensure you get the correct spelling of all names involved. The auto lookup will start working after at least 3 characters are typed.
> \***Customer Name**: The customer name field is for the person who will be treated as the main party of the Divorce. This carries significance with respect to families. If either party is in a family ensure that they are treated as the customer. If the other participant is not in a family already, they will be added into the customers family when the certificate is ready.
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> If one or more parties do not confirm they can be auto-confirmed by submitting a request via the beYou Support Portal.
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> Divorce requests can be cancelled if done before the form is fully processed. The lawyer will have to do this by clicking the request on the divorce tab, then choosing the cancel button.
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## **About Extended Family Applications**

Extended family applications allow for members to be added to a family without being married or adopted in. This is necessary for such things like Aunts, Uncles, Cousins, etc.. Previously, a beYou family only consisted of parents and kids. We are now expanding families to include whoever you want and can be as large as you want.

**NOTE they can not already be in another family**

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> On the website, Navigate to the Law hyperlink under Professions click on the Extended Family tab (you will need to scroll to mid page) click on the New Extended Family button. Fill all required fields on the form.
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> **Lawyer Key**: Your Key \*\* This cannot be changed \*\*
> **Lawyer Name**: Your Name \*\* This cannot be changed \*\*
> **Family Name**: This is the family name that the user is being added to. Please be sure to allow the auto lookup to match the name for you.
> **Existing Family Member**: This is the name of the person who is adding this new family member and it must match exactly. They can be any member of the family.
> **New Family Member**: This is the name of the person who is being added in. This name must match exactly.
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> * Once processed, the extended family certificate will be available via a gift on the user's profile page. The fulfillment code will be generated and will be visible on the family section of your profile page. The lawyer who processes the application will also have this code available if needed by the client.
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> * If the "Existing Family Member" is not the Head of Household, this will trigger a confirmation for both themselves, the party to be added AND the Head of Household. This means there will be a total of 3 confirmations that must be approved before this will move forward.
> * It the requestor is the Head of House hold, only 2 confirmations will be needed, the Head of household and the person they are adding to the family.
> * **Failing to get ALL the members to confirm will result in the application not being processed completely.**
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## **Getting Married**

To get married using beYou, you must see a beYou Lawyer.

> Before you apply, make sure the following conditions are met:
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> * Both parties must not already be married or the application will not be accepted.
> * If either partner is already in a family and you wish to have the other join into that family your Lawyer can ensure that the first name used is the person who is in the family. You do not have to be in a family to get married.
> * If you're starting a new family, the head of household (aka Spouse 1) must be the creator of the family name.
> * The potential spouse can not be a part of a pre-existing family. If they are they need to leave that family in order to be married.
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> Once the form has been submitted by your lawyer, you will need to go to your family tab (on your beYou profile page) and confirm the application process. Marriage applications take approx. 5 days to be fully processed.
> After the marriage application completes, both partners will receive a prim in SL to signify the marriage. This prim will look like a marriage certificate and can be set up to show your marriage details using a fulfillment code. This code is generated at the time your marriage completes and is available on the family tab of your profile by clicking the blue buttons at the bottom.
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> If you are an active beYou Lawyer, you will purchase forms from an educator on the markets. Once purchased, they will automatically be added to your assets based. This will then allow you to submit these forms on your lawyer page on the main beYou website.
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> 1. Go to http://beyouworld.com/professions/law.
> 2. Select the Marriages tab (it's the first tab by default).
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> 4. Customer Name\*: Enter the username of Spouse #1 (aka Head of Household). When the name starts to autopopulate in the drop down list, select it.
> 5. Participant Name: Enter the username of Spouse #2. When the name starts to autopopulate in the drop down list, select it.
> 6. Click initiate marriage certificate.
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> **All parties involved will have to confirm their involvement** in the marriage by visiting their profile page and clicking on the confirmation at the bottom on the family section of their profile page. Failure of all parties confirming will result in the application not completing.
> beYou marriage certificates take up to five days to process once all of the confirmations have been approved and the application filed. Once the process has been completed, the fulfillment code will appear on your marriages page and you can send it to your client.
> **REMINDER**: When typing the names of the people involved, please allow the form to auto-lookup the names matching what you are typing. This will ensure you get the correct spelling of all names involved. The auto lookup will start working after at least 3 characters are typed.
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## Name Change

With the arrival of the Second Life Avatar Name Change Feature for premium members, beYou devised a tool to help those who've changed their Second Life Name. This will allow users to get their login credentials changed for logging into the beYou Website.
Even though beYou accounts are linked to your avatar key, it is best to change your login credentials by seeing a lawyer if you have officially changed your Secondlife avatar name.

To change your name you will need to see a beYou Lawyer.

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> If you are an active beYou Lawyer, you will purchase forms from an educator on the markets. Once purchased, they will automatically be added to your assets based. This will then allow you to submit these forms on your lawyer page on the main beYou website.
> Once you have processed your client's request, they will need to login to the beYou website using their OLD login credentials (ie former SL username) in order to confirm the request, just like the other forms you process.
> Once they have confirmed the request, it should change their credentials to their new SL user name instantaneously. Have them log out of the site and then login with their new credentials to confirm.
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> In the event that they change their minds, you can cancel the request as long as there is no fulfillment code present on the request.
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> 2. Hover over Professions and choose Law.
> 3. Click the Name Change Tab.
> 4. Locate their name and request.
> 5. If there is no fulfillment code present, click it and choose cancel.
> 6. Confirm the cancellation. In the event this doesn't work, you will need to submit a ticket.
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## Family Notes

* You can only be in ONE beYou family at a time. This works just like how taxes would work in real life. You can only be claimed by ONE household at a time. For example: if you are part of your parent's family and decide to get married, but your spouse has a family already, then you would either need them to leave their family to join yours or vice versa.
* Make sure you leave a family to join another **before** you try to join anyone else's even for marriage.