Need Help Please - OOV on Job and Money

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**Kellismom**

This has been a challenging past 3 months job-wise and money-wise. DH's salary was unexpectedly cut by 20% and then I lost my job at the end of June. DH immediately manifested a fun part-time job. Then he asked his boss for a raise and his boss agreed he deserved one and the paperwork was submitted. His boss also hinted that they were really close to winning a big contract and that would mean possible bonuses too. However, that was weeks ago and so far...nothing. His raise is in limbo and so is the contract.

Within days of losing my job I got two really good job interviews which literally landed in my lap but nothing happened with either. This is puzzling to me because I have always been able to manifest a job under any circumstance. I think one reason is that my last full-time job really drained me. Another reason could be I am transitioning from one career to another. I have been doing office work for many years to pay the bills while working on a novel. I have been told by many people (friends and professionals in the business) who have read my work that they love my writing. Lately, I have been telling the story of how I will find a perfect part-time job to help pay the bills.

We usually work great as a team but lately we're both stumped as to what to do next. It's so rare they we are both OOV at the same time. Any advice would be greatly appreciated...thank you!

**Joyous\_LadyJ**
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**Belana**

Dear Kellismom,

I'm getting the feeling that you don't really *want* to find a job. The only reason you seem to be after it, is to "help pay the bills". Why ? Because you feel obligated toward your husband ? Because you feel that it's not fair of you, letting him take the entire load of bills on his shoulders ?

What you'd like *instead* of a job is, doing something you love doing, writing a novel. And you are getting some feedback that you would be good at it, so you're silently dreaming about writing novels and getting paid for that. Am I right ? If so, then that's your key.

If you are in a profession where you don't feel good, if you go to work just to get the bills paid, but don't really like doing what you're doing, it's very normal it's going to wear you out sooner or later and that has happened to you already. "*My last full time job really drained me*". There you have it. It's clear that office work isn't your thing, so it's also logical that if you'd go after a new office job, like the ones that "landed in your lap", they would lead to nowhere, because you're subconsciously sabotaging getting them. You don't really WANT that job, your heart is in "writing novels".

So if I were in your physical shoes to say it Abe-style  I would approach this from 2 different angles:

1. To make my left-side logical brain half shut up I'd make a practical financial plan, open-minded, and if possible, I would do this brain-storming with hubby, if doing it together with him would make you feel better about your finances at least, if he's making things worse with his comments, then it's best not to involve him while you're working it out. In that case you can always show him your plan when you have it ready, and then talk it through with him, but in any case, do it Abe-style

2. I would also get the right-side intuitive/creative brain half in on this and daydream as much as possible about writing novels. Imagine being a writer, imagine how you feel when you're writing (and you already know how it feels, because you're already doing it, so that's a very easy thing for you to do). It's very important that when you are in these meditative daydream sessions, that you keep them short and positive. So you could do them 20 or 30 times a day if you like, but always short, 68 seconds per session really is enough. You know 68 seconds is the combustion point, don't you ?

Why do you have to keep them so short ? The mind can be a tricky thing. If you start daydreaming about how wonderful it is to "just" write, you'll want to go on because it feels good to imagine that kind of stuff, but your mind will drift toward the financial part at some point, and then you'll start to feel bad, because you'll notice that money hasn't come in yet as a reward for all this writing. And that's when you sabotage your programation. So you get out of the meditation *before* your mind has a chance to go there. Like Abe states: "GET IN, FEEL GOOD, GET OUT".

Hope this helps you get started

Belana

**Kellismom**

Joyous Lady J & Belana...THANK YOU for your responses. So helpful...I am finding relief. What's interesting is last night I started losing confidence in my writing and it manifested iin DH getting irate about our finances. He's been really supportive all along because he knows how important this is to me. But when my pesky, internal critic started in: "This book is too wacky, who's going to read it? or "The budget is so tight now you HAVE to get another survival job asap. What if XXX happens?" Then DH started in with his money comments after dinner. To me that was a physical manifestation of my ambivalence. However, I then put my oars in the water and started thinking downstream. Really appreciate both your throughtful posts!!!

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