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19 year old with minimal experience or education working retail. What should I include in my cover letter to get a job in tech?
Thanks for letting me know! | Summarize the following paragraph: Hello!
I'm 19 (almost 20), with 2 years of general education in college. At this time, school isn't really doing it for me. I started school in pursuit of a Bachelor's in Computer Science, but have since found myself lacking motivation and direction for school.
I've recently started some online programming courses (through Udacity), for which I've found more motivation. I'm still not sure where I want to direct myself career-wise. For the time being, however, I want some employment in the tech field.
I've been working in retail for the last 3 years. I make decent money (for retail) at my current job. Thus, I have quite a bit of experience in customer service, and do my job quite well.
When it comes to technology, though, I have little-to-no formal experience or education. I've had a passion for technology from a young age. Using software and troubleshooting is almost second nature to me and I learn new concepts quickly.
So I ask: with my history, how can I go about getting an entry level Help Desk job to get my feet wet? There is a posting on Indeed for a similar position at a local theme and water park. What should I include in my cover letter? How can I set myself apart from others that do have experience? Am I even cut out for a job like this? If not, what can I do to prepare for it? | openai_summarize |
my ex boyfriend Mondo[M/29] showed up to my house unannounced bcuz of an argument we had. | Summarize the following paragraph: I[F/22] started dating Mondo[M/29] at the end of last year. Things seemed pretty good and I really did like him. We shortly moved in together and I eventually found my biological dad on Facebook. So I decided to go to Michigan to meet my dad Edward[M/48] for the first time. When I was in Michigan Mondo[M/29] was giving me a hard time for being out in Michigan for 6 weeks.. So to make things a little easier I broke off the relationship. The whole time I was in Michigan he would act pretty childish and would ask me everyday to be his girlfriend and my answer would be no, so that would result in him getting mad at me and hanging up on me.
When I got back to California from my trip I decided to go to the apartment to pick up my belongings and a bunch of my shit ended up missing but didn't want to make a big deal about it. He made it a point for us to talk about what happened and soon decided that we should hangout again. Things were good at first and soon I realized this wasn't a good idea bcuz he was drinking too much and started to do heavier drugs. He started to develop an unhealthy lifestyle and I basically cut ties with him. We got into a ugly argument which resulted in us to say stupid shit.. About 5 days after the fight he decided to show up to my house uninvited and scared the crap out of my sister Vivian[F/19].. All he was doing was knocking on door and her bedroom window.
Thankfully I wasn't home that night and was staying with my mom Teresa[F/42].. The next day he demanded that I apologize for my comments in the augment and I didn't.. He then threatened to show up to my mom's house.. Now that I walk out of my house I'm scared that I'll see him.. Have you been through this? Why do people act this way? | openai_summarize |
Girl I have a crush on is casually flirting with me but I'm not sure if she's interested in me, or if I'm friendzoned. | Summarize the following paragraph: I'm a college kid (junior) and had a class last term with a female friend I totally have a crush on. We do homework together, study together, occasionally get together on to watch tv/movies or pregame, etc. The backstory on us is that we were supposed to go out last year, but I messed it up by getting way too drunk and making a fool of myself in front of her, so she canceled, and we didn't really talk until we ended up in the same class this year (by which time she's been dating another guy for a couple of months). I've tried apologizing for that since we started talking again, and she basically smiled and said not to worry.
A couple of times this year, she's said things like "I don't think I would date anyone in our class. Except for you." or "You should be flattered. If i wasn't with my boyfriend, I'd totally take you to my sorority's formal." The problem is I don't know if she means it or if I'm friendzoned and she's fluffing my ego.
Anyway, her and her boyfriend broke up recently, and normally this is the sort of thing that you play by ear, to see if she's receptive or not to us going out, but we're on winter break now and live in different cities. We text fairly regularly, so now I'm not sure whether to just wait until the end of break (kind of a long wait) or to just hit her up sometime over break. What do you think RA? | openai_summarize |
My parents want me to live at home forever, and have an arranged marriage with an Indian girl from India. I want to live on my own, and will probably marry my girlfriend (a white girl). I've been told if I do that, I will be dead to them. Is there anyway to salvage my relationship? | Summarize the following paragraph: Growing up, my parents have always been very traditional. We moved to the US when I was two years old, and they've always been very protective. I couldn't date anyone, have sleepovers, have friends over too often, etc. My mom once locked me out of the house because I spent too long at a friend's house (down the hall from out apartment building) when I was maybe 7-8 years old.
I am now 22 years old and have my own well-paying job and can support myself completely. I moved out, against their wishes, but gave them hope (maybe a bad idea..) by saying I would move back in once I finished my Master's degree (which I'm working on part-time). I have no intention of moving back in. I want to eventually marry my girlfriend, and she wants to marry me.
I told my parents about her. My dad said if I married anyone that wasn't Indian, he would excommunicate me. My mom said she would excommunicate me if I didn't move back in. I have no intention of following either of their wishes. I am NOT going to have an arranged marriage, nor will I live with my parents for the rest of their lives. Is their any way to salvage my relationship with them despite me wanting to live my own life? | openai_summarize |
Husband wants to use sperm donor for child. He thinks telling him would ruin his chance of fathering child. What is the right thing to do? | Summarize the following paragraph: My husband “Rob” and I have struggled for almost 10 years to have children and we are now in our late 30s. My husband only has a 5 percent chance of fathering a child. We are discussing artificial insemination by a sperm donor and Rob said he would want to pick a donor who looked like him and had similar intellectual strengths.
He also wants to give his own sperm sample at the same time and have the samples mixed so that he can psychologically maintain the possibility that the child could be his biologically. When we asked the doctor if this idea was OK, he said no. He said he believes children have a right to information about their specific biological background.
Unfortunately, Rob doesn’t want to proceed if we have to inform anyone that the child is not his, even though intellectually he understands that the real father is the one who raises the child.
Here’s my dilemma: I could afford a few rounds of artificial insemination from another physician without Rob knowing about it. Do I do it and, if it works, let him believe that we hit the 5 percent jackpot? Or is this the kind of information that would ultimately get out and potentially explode our relationship and damage our parental relationship with the child? Please tell me straight up if I’m terrible for even thinking such a thing could work. | openai_summarize |
Oil company pumped 255 gallons of oil into my uncle's house. Oil is not safe to use in a house with gas heat. Oil was stored in basement. Oil has developed large rust holes all over the house. Oil is leaking into the basement with no maintenance, water, or air purifiers. | Summarize the following paragraph: Hello, posting this on behalf of my uncle.
Last Thursday a local oil company delivered and pumped 255 gallons of oil into my uncles house. He has gas heat. The oil co delivered to the wrong address. The oil pipe on the outside of the house was not permanently shut by the previous owners. The oil tank in the basement was not removed by previous owners during conversion from oil to gas, and a wall was just built around it. The oil tank went u looked for 20+ years and developed large rust holes all over it. The house passed inspection when my uncle bought it 14 years ago.
In conclusion, the 255 gallons of oil pumped into the tank and then immediately spilled all over the basement floor. My uncle only realized when he smelled a strange odor and called the gas company who came to find the spill in the basement. My uncle didn't realize at first as he was upstairs and the basement door/all windows in the house were shut. The oil company had already began ripping up carpets, foundation and basement walls and has put air purifiers all throughout the house. They sent my uncle to live in a hotel until the house is cleaned/fixed/demolished based on the extent of the damage, but he needs to pay upfront and only gets reimbursed once a month, which will become very expensive. I work IT for a law firm and each attorney I spoke with at work refcomended that my uncle get an attorney right away , but each one he calls said he only needs an attorney if the oil co declines responsibility. What do we do next? He has no access to his closthes, home goods, etc.
Thanks in advance. | openai_summarize |
My close friend cheated on her boyfriend. Should I be supportive regardless of how I feel/think? | Summarize the following paragraph: I guess this is an age-old question, but I feel torn about it now that it happened in my life.
I [32 f] have a close friend [26 f] who cheated on her boyfriend [31 m] of 5 months. I love her like a sister, but do not approve of her actions. She is generally a nice sweet girl, who has been feeling stressed out at her new job, and feeling neglected by her bf. I told her to fix the issues in the relationship as a priority, and she went on to do this.
She thinks I should be supportive of her because she realizes her mistake, and she would do the same for me. But I feel very disappointed and can't bring myself to go meet her boyfriend (I live in another country currently and will go back for a visit soon). I find it very uncomfortable to look at him in the eye and pretend nothing happened. I was actually keen to meet him before this happened.
My question is, should I be supportive towards her even though I am upset? I feel like it's against my conscience. I am married now and fidelity is something that matters a lot to me. I feel bad for being judgemental but I can't help it. | openai_summarize |
gf smokes weed ~8 times a day in college. Im concerned. She get's pissed that i'm concerned. What do? | Summarize the following paragraph: I [20] live in the Philadelphia area where my gf [19] and I met. She is now in her sophomore year of college out in Pittsburg (6 hour drive away). Excluding original separation problems of our relationship last year, we have always had a good relationship. I used to be a pothead in high school but sobered up before she and I started our relationship. She still enjoys smoking marijuana, and I will join her on rare occasions. I visited her this past weekend at her off campus house and even though her younger brother and i were staying with her, she still continued to smoke around 5 different times throughout the day. Her roommate and her constantly talked about how proud they were of how little they have been smoking while I was there. When i bring up my concern that she has been smoking too much, she lashes out on me. She argues that she is still getting her work done and that there are positives to smoking weed and being "high or post high 80% of the day". I understand how with art, marijuana may seem beneficial, but there is such thing as moderation/too much of a good thing. When ever I am off put by her getting stoned daily and regularly she asks me what's wrong yet gets pissed when i tell her. I have no idea what to do, Reddit. What should i do/what are your thoughts? | openai_summarize |
Things going well, we had a big stupid fight. Now I'm afraid I ruined everything. | Summarize the following paragraph: My boyfriend and I have been dating for 10 months but "casually" dated for 6 months before that. About a month ago, I told him I loved him. He gave me a hug and said "I like you a lot...a lot more than when we started dating. But I'm not at that level yet. Is that okay?"
I'll admit, I was a bit disappointed. I know some people need more time, but I was almost sure he would say it back. His best friend told me he loves me, and he even co-signed a 7 year car loan for me! Who would do that for a casual girlfriend?
But I was fine with waiting if it meant he would be comfortable and actually mean it. However, this week we had a HUGE fight. We were both in the wrong (the argument was about something he did, though I escalated it to the point of tears) but instead of explaining myself calmly and rationally I got really emotional and stated crying. He got defensive which made me even more upset. We usually don't fight for long (or ever)- but this lasted about two hours before it was "resolved".
I wish I had better control of my emotions. I ended up looking super emotional, bringing up stuff from months ago and using the same arguments over and over. Usually I am very articulate and can clearly express myself, but this was the first time he got so defensive. I was getting frustrated that he didn't understand what I was trying to say, but I was not expressing it well at all. He made an angry comment towards me, but then tried to explain himself so we could just end the disagreement.
Now I'm worried I've ruined my chance to ever hear "I love you" from him. I really hope this did not put our relationship off course, because it was going so well. | openai_summarize |
Its been a rough few months, but I'm trying to make it as easy as possible for my gf by not being a dick and being supportive (and I should say I'm a fan of her, and she's awesome) | Summarize the following paragraph: Im 20m shes 20f
Gf of 2.5 years recently ended it with me because she didn't feel the same way about me any more. The best thing I can do is realise that its just the end of one chapter in my life, and make it as easy for her as possible by not being a dick about it.
She obviously still cares about me, we've been best friends for 3 years, and she's said herself that she doesn't want to loose me as a friend. I don't want to lose her either, I'm not going to be creepy or weird or try and win her back, but she's a great chick and even though I'm still in love with her I'm not going to let my feelings mess things up, especially since we have mutual friends.
It hurts lots, I keep thinking about all the things we never got to do, and remembering all the great things we did, I miss her like crazy. But in a previous break up I learnt that things won't change just because I want them too, so its best for both of us if I try to make things easy. | openai_summarize |
I graduated a class with a woman who had trouble writing her first book. Strongly encouraged to stay but when I asked the teacher about it she called me a whore. | Summarize the following paragraph: I have a bachelor in creative writing. I spend most of my time working as a waiter, playing Street Fighter and smoking pot. Sometimes I write but no more than a couple of sentences to calm my guilty conscience. After I heard two former classmates had published their second book I signed up for a workshop. The workshop seemed legit as it was given by a published author. I’d never read any of the author's work but I’d seen her on tv and it looked like she knew what she was talking about. When I found out the workshop was geared toward writers who had trouble writing their first book I was completely sold.
Today I had my first class. The other students are an aroma therapist and a housewife. The aroma therapist wrote a story about the power of smell and the importance of foreskins. When I was asked to give feedback the teacher insisted I remained positive. So I tried my best. I don’t remember what I said. The housewife then read her story. It was about a stay-at-home mom in a loveless marriage. After the final paragraph the aroma therapist asked if the housewife’s story was personal. The housewife broke down in tears. The teacher then started yelling that it was the West Keys all over again. I didn’t bother to ask what this ment. After the housewife was consoled we discussed my work. I was suprised by how accurate and insightful the teacher's feedback was.
At the end of the workshop we drank some wine and the teacher made some sexual remarks towards me. I ignored them. Two glasses later she berated the housewife for not dealing with her marriage problems and mocked the aroma therapist and aroma therapy in general. When she'd had her fill she concluded the class by telling a story about the sun god Ra and moon cycles. In the car ride home I thought about the class. I'd gotten good feedback but at what expense? Now I don’t know if I should stay or quit. | openai_summarize |
I (From the passenger seat) almost sent my friends car through the front of a building. | Summarize the following paragraph: Back in high school, my two friends and I were heading back to Friend 1#'s car. The car was in pretty decent shape, despite being small and a little old, it was also a manual transmission. So Friend #2 get's in the back seat, and I sit in the passenger seat. Friend #1, in an attempt to be cool, decides he's going to get in through the open window in the car, instead of through the door. Now, it is initially important to note that the front of this car is facing towards the entrance to the building infront of us. So while Friend #1 was having a difficult time trying to get through the window, and I wanted to turn the radio on. So, I (being the stupid teenager that I was) decide to start the car, while I originally decided to only turn on the radio, I turned it the rest of the way and the engine turned on. So,
-Friend #1 is stuck halfway inside the window.
-Friend #2 is in the back, unable to do anything.
-I am in the passenger seat.
-Car is faced directly towards the glass entrance to the building.
-Parking Break off.
-I am turning on the engine.
The Car immediately springs to life, and with Friend#1 halfway inside, starts to violently and abruptly attempt to drive forward since the clutch was engaged. I immediately turn the engine off, and all of us are frozen in our seats. Friend #1 get's in and turns the engine on, all of us completely silent. I got out and looked at the front of the car, and if it wasn't for the curb, we would have gone straight through the front of the store. I got back in, and we all broke up in laughter. | openai_summarize |
Don't stay in a relationship with someone who is constantly telling you lies. | Summarize the following paragraph: Here's the original post:
Not four months after this post I found out that the girl had been cheating on me. Having not heeded the advice given, I actually ended up moving to another city with her. When I found out we broke up and I had her move out and back in with her parents in her home town. Unfortunately however, she still reaches out to me every day, and still has yet to pick up the rest of her belongings (It's been 6 months). Truth be told, I wish that I would have followed the advice of this thread immediately as it would have made things much less complicated. Instead, I let myself get wrangled in more more hurt, headaches, and overall distress.
LET THIS BE A WARNING! SEXTING, EXCESSIVE CONTACT WITH EXES, LIES, ARE MORE THAN RED FLAGS. THEY ARE INSTRUCTIONS TO LEAVE A TOXIC RELATIONSHIP.
What ever it is that you fear of leaving a relationship where someone is constantly disrespecting you is certainly no worse that realizing that you had been delusional since you began noticing that things were strange. | openai_summarize |
Is it normal for SO to be insecure when having a flirty guy come into our relationship? I don't want to lose her because of this. | Summarize the following paragraph: I've been with my SO for over 8 months now and it's currently long distance.
Long story short, when my SO and I were testing out the long distance over winter break and she was unsure of her feelings, there was a guy (a friend of a friend) that she was introduced to and he was super into her. Nothing happened, but she may have opened up too much and for a month he would text her all flirty but her responses were not. This bothered me when my SO were having issues and after we were fixed. He eventually stopped and we both think he got the hint.
Currently, our relationship has grown significantly and we talked about and fixed all of our mistakes over winter break. She is back home and occasionally hangs out with the flirty guy because she is close with the friend that introduced them. Everything is going great, but she recently went to a party and had "real" talk with the flirty guy and another friend and stayed late. I trust her completely, I just dislike this guy for trying to take her from me and nudge himself into my relationship as an option for my SO. | openai_summarize |
girlfriend did a photo shoot in lingerie, I became extremely upset, why do I feel this way, what is the cause of it, how can I overcome this reaction in the future? | Summarize the following paragraph: Preface: I'm living in Vancouver, WA and she lives back in CA. We met there, both born there, and I moved to take a job.
Predicament: Talked on the phone today, heard she had done a photo shoot for a local artists exhibit. Previously, she had been asked to do a music video for a band that involved full nudity and to go so far as people basically feeling her up. She declined, but I was still infuriated anyone would just come out and ask that question. I don't know who he is or if he was sincerely an artist looking for a model. It wasn't, to my knowledge, an erotic setting other than what she describes as a lingerie-esque top with booty shorts. She explained that it wasn't full nudity or anything to the extent of what I think it was.
Instantly after hearing she did that, I became infuriated. I felt like someone had taken advantage of her which was clearly not the case. I felt like someone had taken something I hold very dearly to me and violated it. More or less, someone had seen what I only should see.
I'm not claiming her as property, I understand it is her body and she will do whatever she pleases with it within the confines of a monogamous, committed relationship. She is not the type of person to be unfaithful nor does she just flash every passerby. She is modest in her own way.
My questions to the reddit world is: why does it bring up such strong feelings? Why do I feel so...violated, if that's the correct term? How can I come to grips with it and let it pass? Why do things like this illicit these reactions and feelings? | openai_summarize |
met a girl who is super far out of my league and while were fooling around i cant hold an erection because she makes me nervous. | Summarize the following paragraph: About a week or so ago a girl from my college took a liking to me out of the blue and this girl is HOT and shes just my type. me being a rather chubby guy i was bewildered that a girl like this would even look twice at a guy like me. so she takes me back to her room one night after a party, while were fooling around i'm extremely aroused however i cant seem to hold an erection for the life of me. i figured i was just too drunk and she didnt seem to disappointed. over the next week i continue fooling around with her this time sober, and the same thing. no matter what she and i do i cant get hard. i realized its because she make me nervous, ive never been with a girl this attractive and my desire to please her is taking over my mind. i cant seem to relax and its driving me mad... i have some sort of mental block preventing me from getting it up. the girl is really cool and she understands but i fear that if it happens again she wont like me anymore.i want to date this girl but it wont happen if i cant have sex with her. i just need some advice that could help me get over my own brain. its been driving me crazy these past couple days and even though she says its okay i feel like less of a man.
i appreciate any advice this sub has to offer and thank you. | openai_summarize |
Boyfriend has flesh colored bumps on the penis. How do I get him to seek medical attention? | Summarize the following paragraph: My boyfriend [32M] and I [29F] have been together for 4 years. First, a little back story. Before we got together I got an STD test and everything was negative. He has been the only man I've been with since then. After a few months of dating we started having sex. I noticed his penis had a small bump on it. It was flesh colored and he assured me it was just from nicking himself with the razor.
Over the last four years I've noticed other flesh colored bumps on the skin above his penis. But again, this can be contributed to shaving because he shaves that area a lot. Which he does for me :). I've also noticed the original bump has gotten bigger and it bothers me. I don't think he has an STD, but I still think it couldn't hurt to go to the doctor.
Also, I've told him a several times I think he should get it checked out and he just tells me it's not a big deal and it would be weird to go. I've even offered to go with him if that would make him feel more comfortable. He's an amazing man, and I love him beyond what I could explain. I'm just worried about him. How do I get him to go to the doctor? | openai_summarize |
Met a girl that I like a lot, and she's in a long distance relationship and thinks I'm cool and want to keep hanging out. She's thinking of getting together with her friend, but not sure if she actually likes me. What should I do? | Summarize the following paragraph: I just met this girl 3 weeks ago, I got a pretty good vibe from the meeting, we went on a dinner then drinks. Asked her out a few more times after that, and through out that we've been emailing and calling each other a lot.
After some pretty obvious flirting/advances through email one night, I got a call from her. She told me that she's actually seeing somebody, but she thinks I'm really cool and want to keep hanging out with me. She also said that they don't called each other boyfriends/girlfriends. I didn't know what to say right away so I mentioned something like I don't want to be a bad guy, so I'll keep trying until she's decided.
After some more reflection, I wrote her an email, that basically sums up what I said. I like her a lot, and would keep hanging out with her, but please let me know when she's made up her mind. She responds that thanks for my understanding and she'll have a chat after they meet during thanksgiving.
In the mean time, we are still doing lunches, dinners, etc. But more recently, she brings her friend along a lot. Her friend knows about the situation as well and just says that she's not sure yet. She also just sends me random (lovely) one line emails out of the blue that brightens my day.
I really don't want to be a third party but I like her a lot. I want to keep trying but don't know if I should and don't know if she actually likes me, what are your thoughts? | openai_summarize |
Ex is watching me work out and i never noticed it, should i confront her or ignore it or what? | Summarize the following paragraph: Me and this girl had been dating for 6 months and her mom never liked the fact i was an atheist. So to appease her mom, she broke up with me about a month ago.
It hurt of course but i moved on. She still will send me a message every once in a while asking how life is,Do I respond since I'm not desperately trying to get her back.
Recently i have started running on a track not very far from my place and this morning was the first time i had a running mate with me. Now i never wear my glasses when i run (helps to blur everything out i guess.)
So me and him get done with our run and when we are walking our cool down lap he ask me "did you notice (exgirlfreinds name) was in the bleachers watching?" I was of course really fucking confused by this, and I'm not sure how i should be taking it that my ex is going so far as to watch me work out when she doesn't want to be with me because she wants to appease her parents more then be with me. how should i go about dealing with her in the stands watching me workout? | openai_summarize |
Friend is in an online relationship with somebody, and very rarely speaks to anybody else when he's talking with him. Afraid that he's going to end up completely cutting ties with everybody that he once knew. | Summarize the following paragraph: I have a friend, 16M who has been in an online relationship with somebody ~22M (not exactly sure on his age) for about 4 years. The two of them are constantly playing multiplayer games together on Steam, and if they're not doing that they're watching anime together or just talking to one another via Skype. My friend is a great dude in real life, but when he's home on his computer, he very rarely speaks to anyone from his real life. There have been numerous times that I try to start a conversation with him, or simply ask him a question, and he'll block me "for being annoying".
I think it's great that the two of them get along so well, but I'm pretty sure they're planning on moving in together as soon as my friend turns 18. He's very sensitive about talking about his boyfriend to anyone, as if he's trying to keep it a secret even though we all know about it, so I've just pieced this together from some of the things they post on each others' Steam profiles. I'm concerned that he's going to end up shutting everybody that he knows out from his life just to be with his boyfriend. I understand that they want to be together, but after seeing how he acts when he's talking to his boyfriend online, I don't want him to completely shut contact with everybody that he once knew. | openai_summarize |
Girlfriend of 2 years dumped me, we still talk daily, I don't know what to do. | Summarize the following paragraph: My long distance girlfriend of 2 years dumped me a couple of weeks ago. We'd see each other a couple times a month and talked daily when we were dating. I felt her growing cold towards me and I reached out the most during the last month before she broke up with me. I was ready to move, etc. The week she dumped me she said she was too comfortable with me and she needed someone more dangerous (I'm boring I guess?). She said she needed space as well. I tried to give it to her. She proceeded to text/call me every other day and came and saw me within that 5 day period. After she left my house I was miserable. 4 days later I received a call. I played it cool and got off the phone asap. The next day she sent me a picture of one of those summer coke bottles with my name on it. I went to 3 stores to find one with her name and returned with a pic. She didn't know I went to three stores, but I thought it was a romantic gesture. Instant cold. She responded negatively. The next day, July 4, I went to my uncle's house and left my phone at home charging. When I got home there were 9 missed calls, 9 texts, 2 silent voice mails, and one sobbing voicemail. The gist was she said she needed me there, she wishes things were like they were in the beginning, etc. I called her back asking if she meant everything she said and she said "some of it". Right then I said I'm not going to play games with you, if you want me you know where I am; if you don't, then leave me alone....
4 days later... today. She texted me. Telling me one of my favorite bands is playing around my birthday in her town and my town, and she just kept trying to make conversation. I don't know what to do. I want her back. I've been making changes, but I just don't know what she wants from me.
I asked my friend and he said it's like walking a dog in the dark, every now and then you have to pull on the leash to see if they're still there... | openai_summarize |
My gf is texting excessively in a way that is making me mad, and I don't want to bring up how much this annoys me. What do you think? | Summarize the following paragraph: I'm 22, she's turning 20 in a month. We've been together for 6 months.
So my gf is just god-awful about responding to texts. That is, she will regularly go hours without responding to my texts, while I respond to hers within minutes. I know this might seem like a small issue to most of you, but it really annoys me, because it's our main method of communicating with each other when we're not together.
I've brought up how much this annoys me around 4 times before this, and she always apologizes and promises to get better about texting back. I then subsequently feel bad for making such a big deal out of something that seems so small, and that I can't just be okay with how long it takes to get a response. I'm trying my hardest not to be unreasonable here. I don't want to keep trying to change her about this, because that feels really controlling, and I want to avoid that.
Furthermore, the amount of content and attention she's putting into each text seems to be decreasing, which is worrisome.
Anyway, onto the real reason for asking this question: if I was to suggest that we just stop texting because it's too annoying to deal with, how do you think she would react to this? And also, how would you react to this if your significant other said this to you, and you were the same about texting as my gf is?
I know it might seem drastic, but it's starting to make me resentful, and I think not texting would stop that. Also, keep in mind that it would severely cut off most of our communication that we have daily, aside from the odd phone calls and skype chatting, and of course when we get together.
I'm sure I'm going to get a lot of crap about this, and I don't care: just give me advice anyway. | openai_summarize |
Stressed out; stay where i am or go somewhere else while simultaneously starting a new major. | Summarize the following paragraph: I am 25 and have been working the same warehouse night job for 4 years now and have worked my way from a picker to management. I work with two of my long time friends and the three of us make up the night management team. I have been trying to get my degree as well, but am struggling with that because college is expensive and the late classes are interfering with my work schedule causing me to make less and therefore not afford school.
I have recently decided to change my major yet again from Chemistry to Math/Statistics because i do better with numbers than i do with geometry and blanket theory. However, i am also looking for a new job because of the stress that is on me right now where i currently am. The company keeps offering me day time positions at an increased rate of pay, but i would rather work somewhere else completely in an attempt to 'start over.'
As it stands currently, one of our managers went behind our backs and decided to leave as well. So if i left also, i would stick one my friends who is also my boss with 2 fresh managers with no training on our system.
Should i stay with my night crew, go to a day shift position, or continue looking elsewhere? The stress on my mental health and personal relationships from night jobs is essentially the Genesis of all this. | openai_summarize |
Some random neighbor's daughter said I touched her, and I never did
EDIT:
The girl was actually my good friend and I had been friends with her and her family for a long time. So she did not actually say any of this. | Summarize the following paragraph: Be sure to explain in detail with line breaks.
A little backstory. From ages 5-14 we lived in a small neighborhood where everyone was friends, all the kids hung out etc. All the parents were friends and all the good stuff. We moved away at 14 and came back when I was 17.
Fast forward to thanksgiving when I was 17, we had some of the neighborhood people over (we moved to a different neighborhood, much more expensive, not sure if that is affecting this). All goes well, we all hang out have a good time. There is one family, with 2 daughters, probably 15 and 13.
After the party the family's mom (one of my moms good friends) basically stops texting her and calling her...seems odd but whatever.
Fast forward to this weekend and there is a party at an old neighbors house and the lady (mother of the 15 year old) won't attend if my mom is there because her 15 (probably like 20 now?) daughter said I touched her during thanksgiving a few years back....
I had no contact with this girl and we were never even alone. I've never made any contact with her. She told other neighbors what allegedly happened and it definitely did not happen. How do I/we handle this? | openai_summarize |
Roommate decides to let his brother stay on our couch for a couple weeks due to his lack of planning out to get their own place. HELP. | Summarize the following paragraph: So, my boyfriend and I have lived in the same apartment for 3 years now and we let one of our good friends move into the extra bedroom about a year ago. Everything has been fine until about two months ago.
Our roommate, let's call him Perry, told us two months ago that his brother was moving to town and that he would be moving in with him. We were totally fine with that. Actually we were thrilled to have the apartment to ourselves again! Well, a couple days ago Perry tells my boyfriend that he started looking for a place a couple days ago and didn't realize that most places have waiting lists and take time to check credit etc... Well, duh! I feel like anyone knows you can't just look for a place in one day and move in... But he procrastinated and now his brother will be here Friday and Perry is saying he will need to stay on our couch for a couple weeks.
We are both livid. We very clearly expressed that the lack of planning is not our problem and that we are kind enough to let him stay for a night or two on the couch. But we are not a frat house and I want to be able to comfortably chill in my own living room when I get off from work. So, Perry's brother calls my boyfriend last night freaking out because "Where will he stay after those days?" And "Wtf this is ridiculous!". We explained that he is not our responsibility and we are not the bad guys... What do I do from here? What if he does stay for a couple days and refuses to leave? I am absolutely pissed and need a little advice. I just want Perry gone at this point and his entitled brother as well.. Help redditors. | openai_summarize |
new relationship with friend is very exciting but miss comfort of being with ex, what do? | Summarize the following paragraph: I recently started seeing a close friend of mine (29m) in a romantic manner, nothing really big yet just a couple dates( over the last 2 months). I really like him and because we have been friends for a long time things are a bit awkward. Everything seems to be going great so far, he is obviously very interested in me as well, we haven't discussed where this is going yet but I just want to take things slowly.
When we are together I feel like a nervous teenager, butterflies, etc. Which is good I suppose, but sometimes I really miss how things were with my ex (27m)( we were together a little under 2 years). We broke up several months ago because of lifestyle incompatibilities and what not. I don't know whether I really miss him and that relationship or just that feeling of ease and comfort, like I didn't feel like my heart was going to explode from being nervous, we just enjoyed each others company and for together fairly easily.
I don't know if I am just feeling silly and awkward bc of how new and exciting things are or maybe there is a real problem. Do I just need to wait and let myself grow more comfortable? | openai_summarize |
I bought the worlds most perfect underwear which made me feel a bit sexier and I would totally bang myself in. | Summarize the following paragraph: I don't know if this is off my chest material but I wanted to talk about it anyways. I had hanes boxer briefs where they would rise and could visiblely see from outside your pants. I threw those all away. I then discovered evolve no rise trunks. They were awesome. They were not ideal but I liked the bulge it gave you hah. But I went to H&M and bought a pair of thier trunks with designs on them and they are a god send. They hug your body so good you feel good. Im a little chubbier so I've delt with self consciousnes but ive been taking pictures of me in them and I feel attractive. Doesnt makes sense but that's how I feel. | openai_summarize |
I have a lot of debt. Can't open secured credit card. Are there any other options? | Summarize the following paragraph: So when I was 18 I made some stupid mistakes (maxed out CC and got my account closed, sent bills to collections) and killed my credit score. I'm 23 now and paid off the collections account roughly a year ago and paid off the credit card account a couple of months ago and got my finances in order.
The only debt I have now is my currently accruing student loan and I'm living with my dad and made a habit of paying my bills on time (pre authorized payments are a blessing for the procrastinator). I went to the bank a couple weeks ago to apply for a low limit credit card (student card with a $500 limit) and I was rejected. So I asked about a secured card and the lady told me I couldn't even open up that type of account either.
I'm trying to rebuild my credit and reverse my previous mistakes. What can I do for now? | openai_summarize |
I [51 /F] am a single mum who wants to meet a person. Help. | Summarize the following paragraph: So 11 yrs ago my son was 6 months old and my partner and I broke up. It was my fault, in part, and his in others but that is by the way.
A lot has happened since then, moving close to Mum to nurse her through breast cancer (she died), being a single mum, losing my job through depression.
To cut a long story short, I am now hale and healthy and self sufficient as regards money (substitute teacher) but so out of the scene I don't know what to do. I run Cub Scouts, work etc but socialize little as I have few friends because I have spent so much time caring for others and have limited funds. Everyone I know is at least 15 yrs younger than me and happily in a relationship.
I tried on line dating a year ago but everyone in my age range is so fat/bald/staid I could not find a single person I liked the look of. I think I need to meet a person and develop a relationship first because the photos just make me think of my Dad and yeuurgh to that.
BUT I need advice. I mean last time I was in a relationship anyone who shaved/epilated in the pubic area was a porn star or very kinky. Please give me advice on how it is out there now and what do I do
EDIT: thanks for all the good advice. I will try many of the suggestions. I do know looks aren't everything which is why I don't want to go the online dating route. That does tend to focus on looks rather than personality (although I have always liked a good head of hair I can run my fingers through). Yes. I am probably lacking in confidence so will try to concentrate on giving off the right vibes/flirt. I need to practice at least
Oh, and the other thing: the trim rather than the wax | openai_summarize |
I'm "introverted" and have never had a crush or a girlfriend, but I'm interested in a guy who is too shy to express his feelings to me. How do I keep him interested and entertained?** | Summarize the following paragraph: He and I were batchmates in college (not all the same classes though) and we lost touch for many years in the middle. Now suddenly we've started chatting again, thanks to Whatsapp and FB.
I always thought he was kinda cute and interesting. In the interim, I've had many relationships, one night stands, flings, boyfriends, you name it. He, on the other hand... Nope. He's never been into all that. He's never had a girlfriend. I don't know about crushes or whatever, probably not. He's never mentioned it and I've never asked.
He is *very* shy face to face, but his text replies to me are longer than I expect, and seem quite friendly. We keep it cool, chat about regular, mundane stuff like pets and work and stuff, but he remembers strange details about me from 7 years ago that blow my mind. He remembers when I cut my foot on glass in 2009 and bled all over the place. He remembers the name of the guy I dated in 2005! He remembers all these insanely tiny details about me and it just slips in now and then, making me wonder if he... likes me? For reference, I am a confident and loud girl. I talk non-stop (and text non-stop too). I can talk about literally anything. I *am* introverted too. I need my space and make it very clear. But I'm happy around people.
In any case, I don't want a relationship or anything, but I certainly want to develop this friendship. How to keep an introverted, possibly asexual guy, entertained and talking to you? Introverted (and easily embarrassed) guys of Reddit, what are the DOs and DON'Ts of a friendship with you? | openai_summarize |
I'm a guy from the internet and she's a girl from the internet.
Sorry for english, english is not my first language. | Summarize the following paragraph: So, I'm a 23 years old man and she's 25, we started living together because I didn't have enough money to pay my rent (but she don't know that), the only thing she knows was that I needed a place to stay.
So she invites me here.
For our story together, it's hard to tell, I met her on internet in 2009, we shared a lot together but we never had the chance to met each other we went to the point that we say each other the love we shared but as it was difficult to met she get a boyfriend and I move on with my life. Last year when my mom was dying and when she died, she was there for me like none of my friends did, she's one of the best people I've met.
Currently I was flirting with another girl but when I get there ... I don't know ... | openai_summarize |
Boyfriend doesn't show his love in a way I value, and I don't know why it's difficult for him to show it. | Summarize the following paragraph: Jon (M27) and I (F27) have been together for three years and lived together for two. Jon is great at physically and verbally showing his love. He tells me up to 10x a day he loves me and is very affectionate (big hugs, kisses, etc) all the time.
I reciprocate this verbal and physical affection, but I'm also very thoughtful & do a lot of acts of service. I leave him love notes all over the house. I surprise him with his home-cooked favorite lunch. I do his laundry without him asking. I buy him a video game he wants for no reason. I do these things because I love him and want to express it.
For the past year, I've been asking if he could also be thoughtful towards me. For example, I was out visiting my family on the east coast for a few months and I asked him if he could write me a letter because it would mean a lot to me/be thoughtful. He never did. I go as far as to *tell* him thoughtful things he could do for me. E.g. "It would be really sweet if you made the bed for me", "I'd really like it if you drew me a picture", "I'd love it if you planned a surprise date"....I don't think these are crazy outrageous things to ask for, but he never does them.
Anyway, it's been like this for a year. He shows his love toward me in a physical and verbal way, but has a hard time doing acts of service which I really value. We've had multiple talks about it and he always says hes going to try harder, he means it this time, etc. but at this point I feel like it's never going to happen. I've asked him why it's difficult for him and he says he doesn't know.
Am I being ridiculous in asking for him to show love in a certain way, or should I accept his own way of showing love? | openai_summarize |
friend decided to break up with GF because of breach of trust. He has decided to tell the other guy's GF but still has a gf from the time of the infidelity. Should he? | Summarize the following paragraph: Hey guys, first time posting here. My buddy recently found out that his GF cheated on him a year ago. He has decided to break up with her because of the breach of trust and what not. However he is conflicted about another related issue. The guy she slept with (a former coworker) was taken at the time of the infidelity and still currently dating the same girl; he cheated as well. She was** drunk/high, but not blackout drunk and knew what they were doing (according to his GF (now ex)). How do you think he should handle this situation?
EDIT 1: woops buddy read the post and corrected me and said she was crossed (drunk/high) and he was sober | openai_summarize |
I am looking for an opportunity to go to China and pay for a Scholarship to go to China | Summarize the following paragraph: Well I was invited to the International Scholar Laureate Program for engineering in China and I have to say it is really expensive and I myself can't afford it all. I know that looking at my history I haven't contributed much to Reddit except for Makeup but I was hoping somebody would "spread the word" and find somebody that was willing to contribute. I know that it is really shameful for me to ask for money to you guys when everybody wants to get "free" money but this is a once in a lifetime opportunity for me. I don't want you to pity me I would like to share with you that I am here on a Visa, I work part-time and go to school full-time. I pay my school out of pocket, that's why I am finishing up my time in the El Paso Community College, I have applied for tons of Scholarships, but they always have a clause where you have to be a Resident or a Citizen and that's where my problem is. I have a 3.8 GPA and I am pursuing a Degree in Electrical Engineering. Anyway,[here]( is the link that my school created for me so Programs and or companies help me out and believe me I haven't stopped looking, but I decided to post here even if it may be a long-shot. Thank you for your time in reading about this and if there is any other thing that I can answer for you just let me know and I would be more than gladly will get back to you. | openai_summarize |
my girlfriend is very upset that I'm going to have girls as roommates even though they're only friends. | Summarize the following paragraph: I'm about to start my final semester in college and she's already graduated. In the spring I'll be living with my best friend (male) and his three roommates (females) who I'm also good friends with. I've known them all since I was a sophomore and have never been anything other than platonic friends with any of them, and have never had any interest in any of them. I should add that I've also lived with girls as roommates in the past and never had any issues- it's completely normal to me.
Anyways, my girlfriend, who I have been dating for eight months, is not happy at all with this situation. She has told me that she is very uncomfortable with me living with girls. She lives about an hour away from my campus so we can typically see each other once or twice a week and on weekends. She has told me that she doesn't like that other girls will get to be with me every day when she can only see me a few times a week.
It comes across as jealousy even though I've told her many times that these girls and I are strictly friends and I have zero interest in any of them. She's very dismissive when we try to talk about it and says things like "I don't want to hear your explanations" and that I'm a "dick" for not sympathizing with her. Our last few conversations about it have lead to her hanging up on me
So what I'm wondering is, what can I do to improve this situation? Is she justified in being as upset as she is about this? It seems like it shouldn't be such a big deal to me, but maybe I'm wrong?
Thanks for the help guys, let me know if there's anything I left out! Sorry if there are any weird mistakes I'm typing on my phone...
EDIT: I think I should add that obviously I've never cheated on her or done anything to make her think I would. | openai_summarize |
I want to be in a relationship with a woman at a credit union, but I don't want to be in a relationship with her. | Summarize the following paragraph: Hello /r/relationships, I have a minor predicament on my hands. I currently work at a Credit Union as a teller and I enjoy my job for the most part. I get the pleasure of dealing with the general public and in return I get to talk to beautiful women. There is one woman in particular that I really like and would love to be in a relationship with her. The issue is she is a member at the credit union and hitting on members is frowned upon. I don't think there is an official rule, it's more of a common sense thing. That's not helping me because I want to remain professional, but at the same time get with her.
The good news is this is not my career, I am in engineering school and hope to have a good internship by the end of the school year in May.
What should I do here, I really want to be in a relationship with her, but at the same time I don't think I could deal with the awkwardness if she said no or if she closed her account? | openai_summarize |
Met a girl at a competition, she has a great personality and good looks too. Won't be seeing her for at least 2 to 3 months. How to proceed. | Summarize the following paragraph: Just a little back story:
I compete at an elite level in an individual sport. I was in Sweden last weekend and met a lot of people over there. I thought I'd try out a few things with a girl I had seen before, she looked like she was a lot of fun. The only thing I was doing was looking in her eyes and smiling, sometimes even blinking. Though she smiled back I wasn't getting a real big response and seeing as she had much attention from other guys I thought she wasn't interested. Not a big deal. Her loss for not meeting someone awesome.
These competitions always end with a Banquet and a party afterwards. She was there looking quite nice but still with many guys around, I was having fun and wasn't going to compete for a girl I assumed wasn't interested. So I didn't a initiate conversation with her.
Flash forward a bit. When I got home and turned my phone on I had internet again and noticed she looked me up on facebook and sent me some messages about why I didn't talk to her at the banquet and that she should probably talk to me but she's to shy.
That was last week. After I got back I started talking to her a bit and again trying out some seduction stuff. I was still outcome independent. Along the way I started noticing she genuinely has one of the best personalities I've ever come across. I don't really now where this is going at the moment but right now I've got the feeling that a defining moment is coming up. I can't say I want a relationship with this girl right now but we could still have a lot of fun.
What I'd like advice on is the following: how do I proceed given the knowledge that It will be at least another 2 to 3 months before I see her. The tools I have are online messengers and skype, Do I escalate sexually already to make sure to her that I'm not interested in being friends. Or maybe something else. I'm still outcome independent in the fact that if it doesn't work out then that's okay she lives in a country at least 700 miles away so chances are it wouldn't amount to anything. But still, she is so much fun. | openai_summarize |
Feeling a little tied down in a relationship, even though it's a great one. Am I being stupid? | Summarize the following paragraph: I'm starting to feel "restless" in the relationship, and since this is my first long-term deal, I'm worried that I'll either a. ignore the signs of being dissatisfied or b. become consumed by them.
I love him, and he is the sweetest and most amazing person, but I don't think there's really any passion. And when I think about that aspect, I don't feel excited, just kind of bleh. But this has been a recent development, and I might just be spiraling into a panic mode because I don't know if it's normal to feel so apathetic about someone at times.
I constantly fantasize about being with other people, both intimate and just in a casual, romantic way. But I've never found somebody that I've been more compatible with than him, so maybe I'm just being ridiculous.
We're so tied down together, in finances, and intertwined life, I might also be feeling a little trapped, like I couldn't leave if I wanted to. It took me awhile to feel comfortable with a commitment to begin with.
Am I just being selfish? I'm in something pretty damn perfect, but wondering if it could all be better.
I'm a bit overwhelmed, and feeling kind of crazy. Any advice from a third party would be appreciated! | openai_summarize |
Help me get out of this shitty relationship. | Summarize the following paragraph: My girlfriend broke up with me 2 days ago, and I've been very depressed since then. I haven't gone to my classes, just stayed alone by myself and haven't eaten. I am considering suicide, mainly because she's my only love. I can never love again because she was so perfect. She's gorgeous, thin, lovely black hair, deep brown eyes, and her smile just makes me feel so alive. Without a doubt she is the smartest girl I've ever met, and our conversations are so intellectually stimulating. She's also a very outgoing and adventurous girl, I love hanging out with her, just being with her makes me feel so happy. I feel so lost right now, and I don't know what the fuck to do. I can never love again, she's such a great girl. Please help, if you have advice for someone in this situation. | openai_summarize |
Girlfriend texting a guy in a flirtatious way, how do I prove she's cheating? | Summarize the following paragraph: So, I'm a guy, 23 years old. I've been dating this girl (22) for 2 years now and we're sharing an apartment. I've never had any reason to doubt her, but yesterday something made me very suspicious.
I woke up in the middle of the night and she was texting. So far, so good, nothing wrong with that. She didn't realise I was awake so I took a peek on who she was texting. She was using this app message that I don't use and people usually use for dating/flirting.
She was texting this guy in a flirtatious way and sending photos of herself (they weren't naked though).
I decided to look through her phone when I got the chance, but she deleted the app (I couldn't find it on her phone anymore).
Can anyone help me out? I'm pretty sure if I confront her she will get mad for me going through her things and will make it all about that, instead of the messages she was exchanging.
I have no way of proving it now also, since I couldn't find anything. | openai_summarize |
Can't tell if the date I went on Friday night was a one night stand or if she wants to see me again. | Summarize the following paragraph: So I met this girl on OK Cupid. I wasn't really expecting too much after another date where we just did not click.
We go to a couple of bars and then I invite her back to my place to smoke a joint and hang out. We get along great, she's funny and smart and I think we're having a good time. She says she's getting tired and should head home and I offer up my bed to her and I'll sleep on the couch. One thing leads to another and we end up sleeping together. She leaves in the morning and we text a little bit throughout the weekend and I say I'd love to see her again soon. So we make plans for Monday.
Today rolls around and at around 5 or 6 she says her family (who do live close by) are actually coming to visit so she has to cancel. I ask for a rain check and she says how about Friday. I say that sounds great.
Now I'm wondering if I've been texting her too much and coming on too strong. I don't really care which way this goes. If it was a one night stand or she just wants a real casual situation that's cool, but it's confusing for me and I can't stop thinking about the disappointment that may happen if she bails on Friday too. I don't want to freak her out by asking her what the situation is, but it's really frustrating. | openai_summarize |
boyfriend of 2.5 years is being over protective of his phone and is being sneaky with his facebook. | Summarize the following paragraph: i am 22 and my boyfriend 21 have been dating for about 2.5 years. we have recently started a long distance relationship when i decided to go to school in another state. before i left i gave him the option of an open relationship, or to both see other people untill i was finished with school then decide how we felt. he said he didnt want that.
recently i came back to visit him while on break from school. he started acting funny with his phone, never letting me borrow it to make calls, always turning it away from me when i was curious who he was texting. then when i finally got a hold of his phone i notice he was texting a weird number, but didnt see any texts before he grabed it out of my hands. a couple days later i got a hold of his phone again for a couple seconds and i saw the number again but this time i saw a text that said "damn you look sexy in that pic!". he gave me a bullshit explination that his friend was texting from his phone, but when i asked his friends details about the text he couldnt answer. my boyfriend is also being shady about his facebook as well, i used to know his password but he recently changed it, and whenever i look over his shoulder when hes on, he closes out of it.
very recently we had a fight where he told me he wanted to break up (which weve never done before). he told me he no longer was happy with me and couldnt see a future with me anymore because we fight so much. we "worked it out" and stopped fighting, and we stayed together under my persistance.
I fear that hes been cheating on me with another girl, and possibly wanted to break up with me for her. but i dont understand why he would do that when i already gave the option of and open relationship or no realtionship at all. is he cheating or just being over protective of his privacy? | openai_summarize |
How do I properly leash and collar my dog for jogging?
Thanks for your help! | Summarize the following paragraph: Hey everyone,
Not sure which subreddit is the right place to ask this question, but I figured this was a good start. I have a 2-year old standard schnauzer named Pepper. She is a very headstrong, feisty dog. We tried our best to train her (and are still trying) and have gotten trainers and behaviorists.... she still has a lot of issues, though, including pulling immensely on the leash, especially when in the presence of small furry creatures like squirrels and bunnies. She knows tricks well but not the best with behavior...
Anyway, in regard to WALKING with Pepper, we stopped using her standard leash and collar (around her neck) and started using a harness. However, Pepper is prone to hip dysplasia and her dog parents have a moderate case of it, so the behaviorist told us that would exacerbate it and make it worse. She recommended we move to the Gentle Leader, which we did. She even fitted it for us. Pepper hates the gentle leader though and is constantly still pulling and trying to get it off with her paws and rubbing her face in the grass. I feel bad! My fiance's parents recommended a choke collar, so my fiance tries that but I still don't feel comfortable using it. We have tried to no avail with all different leashes and techniques to stop the pulling.
Now, since the nice weather has arrived and Pepper is old enough, I have started jogging with her a little. Because I don't want to hurt her face with the Gentle Leader jogging, or her body with the harness, I am using the traditional leash and collar. We jog for about 20 - 40 minutes on average. She always wants to sprint (especially if she sees a small creature) and pulls crazily on the leash while jogging. She ends up choking and making rasping noises for half the job because she is choking herself. I feel like I may be doing permanent damage or hurting her. Can anyone give me advice on what kind of leash to use for jogging so that Pepper can enjoy and not be hurt or injured? Is the method I am using now doing damage? | openai_summarize |
I want to take the weekend off from seeing my boyfriend to show him what I can offer him while he is gone. He is very happy to see me but I want them to have a long-distance relationship. | Summarize the following paragraph: x-post from [/r/sex](
I have been seeing this guy for a few months but because of my emotional makeup, I am getting attached to him and would like more. I know this is bad news because he made it clear he wants to keep things casual and he is still inlove with his ex-gf whom he communicates due to their long distance.
He will be spending some time over during the weekend and I wanted to make it special. I know I will have to stop seeing him soon for my own emotional well-being but I want to take this weekend as an opportunity to show him what I can offer.
He was kind of open about dating exclusively but things got complicated (for me) when his ex decided that she fly in for the holidays and he seems very excited about it. I just want this possibly last time together to be amazing.
Do you have any advice on what we could do while we have a lazy weekend spent at my place? | openai_summarize |
I have a manipulative friend with whom I don't want to be friends with anymore, how do I tell her? | Summarize the following paragraph: At the beginning of high school a girl became friends with me. We didn't have much in common, our interests through high school were consistently different. She likes more "girly" things like clothes and shopping, she's catty and enjoys talking behind people's backs, making mean comments. I'm not the least bit interested in that. Anyways we always hung out in class but she was asking me all the time to give her answers during tests (making me run the risk of getting yelled at and my test taken away) and she had a hard time studying. I was more than happy to help her school wise, but after a while she wasn't able to learn even the simplest things. I got tired of it. On top of that she kept on asking me favors she could never return, or asking me to do things that were so simple (like asking me where a street in our city is. Use Google maps! You're on your iPhone all the time, why don't you use it?!). I had a lot of patience but my mom started to notice this was not good. It wasn't an 'equal' friendship. Two years ago my friend dropped out of high school, she is trying to graduate through a private institution and applying to get into the army, which I frankly don't really like. We have been out of touch for about a month, I haven't heard a word from her and I'm felling very happy. I used to panic when I got phone calls from her, fearing for whatever favor she might ask me next. This is the thing, she is very manipulative, and I found it hard to say 'no' during the course of our friendship. It sounds ridiculous, I know, it's so simple to say 'no' - but not with her. For the moment I don't know how I'll break the news to her, I don't know how to say "I don't want to be friends anymore". I want to be honest but try not to hurt her feelings. | openai_summarize |
Boyfriend had an abortion, found no one else to support him, wants to leave and find someone to support him. | Summarize the following paragraph: I had an abortion last spring due to being a poor, university student with no plans on being pregnant, and my boyfriend not holding down entry-level jobs. It was a topic of heated debate between my boyfriend and myself because he wanted the baby. We were living together at the time and things weren't perfect but we did love each other and still love each other very much to this day
Okay I'm going to skip a lot of the details and get straight to the point. He was morally against it, unlike myself. I never had any conflicting emotions about the abortion and I didn't feel any regret afterwards. I considered all the emotions someone on the opposite coin would feel and I realized that came down to seeing life for not what it is. My ideological point of view is much different from his, and I didn't see the life as anything but for what it was. There is nothing to hold onto from our imaginations of the baby, and it's possibilities are just concoctions of dreams. Basically, in my messy way of saying, I'm pro-choice and he's pro-life (neither of us are religious).
He is currently going through a depression and accounts it to not fully being over the abortion and claims he still has left over resentment towards me. He does not want to seperate and neither do I and we both agree that it is something he needs to work through. I tried to find resources online for men who have emotional issues with abortions, but their is little besides websites trying to push an christian ideology or men who have regrets pushing their girlfriends into doing the abortion.
So my question is have you or any couples you know in long term ( we have been together for 6 years) committed relationship had an abortion and moved on from it? Particularly, what did they do to reconcile if one partner was for it and the other against?
What advice would you give to my boyfriend on how to forgive me, overcome his anger issues and to move on? | openai_summarize |
I want to talk to my bf about his hygiene but I'm also scared to lose him. | Summarize the following paragraph: We just started dating and I haven't gotten along this well with someone in YEARS. We have the same sense of humor, adventure, taste in art, he has ambition, treats me like a queen, and the sex is awesome! The only difference is our hygiene habits :(
I was on cloud 9 until I saw his apartment. Dirty clothes everywhere, hasn't vacuumed in years, money lying around in random places (he does not believe in wallets wtf??), grime in the bathtub, beard trimmings in the sink, even poop stains in the toilet bowl! I was waking up sick every time I stayed over until my body got used to the germs. He smells bad sometimes too and doesn't like to shower. When he does shower he doesn't use soap or shampoo so he still smells afterwards.
I am very distracted, uncomfortable, and embarrassed by his hygiene habits. I told him that I was not okay with this the first time I went to his place. He said he liked things clean too, that he just "got behind" and that he'd call a maid service. That was two months ago now and if anything it's dirtier.
I keep running through ways to talk about it in my head. I don't want to be a nag and I don't want to give an ultimatum, but when I picture a future with him I imagine myself cleaning up after him all the time. My parents are coming to visit in a month and I'm scared to introduce him to them because I'm afraid he'll smell. He' rubbing up against a boundary for me. I'm almost 27 though and I feel like I should hang on to someone that meets all these other needs i.e. trustworthiness, kind, artistic, ambitious, etc. At the same time I do not want to invest time and energy into someone that I am ultimately incompatible with :(
Is this a deal breaker??? How can I tell him it's either me or the mess?? PLZ HALP!!! | openai_summarize |
Jealous of my friends in happy relationships while I've had nothing lasting | Summarize the following paragraph: (20M) I'm jealous of my friends because most of them are in happy relationships as I sit here on the side-line. I'm happy for them and don't wish ill but I'm just tired of waiting around for what seems like nothing. Don't get me wrong, I put myself out there. I'm active in clubs, enjoy hanging out with friends, and go out and try talking and meeting girls, but it's all to no avail. It seems most girls here already are in a relationship or simply don't want one. I'm just tired because I try so much with no pay off. My only relationship blew up in my face because all of a sudden she "regretted everything we did" (what little it was). So that made me feel like shit and that it was all a lie.
And what's really bugging me is that my friends always say how I'm good-looking and whatnot and several other complements and how they want to help me get a girlfriend. But it's empty words (the girlfriend part), and I sit here wondering to myself, "Why" "What am I doing wrong?" I'm just tired of being jealous and lonely. | openai_summarize |
Looking for documentary explaining basic principles of various areas of science (evolution, physics etc.) | Summarize the following paragraph: My father has a Phd in Dutch and communications, and I study something beta-orientated (science).
He often asks science related questions about why and how stuff happens, and I lack the skills to explain him in an ELI5 way so he loses interest. I am desperate to enrich his life with for him new insights on everything around him. I really would like him to have freshman college science level of thinking.
Thus I'm looking for a (series of) documentary/documentaries that could explain him the current theories about life and basic science in a non-boring way, so with context.
Subjects that I would like covered include:
* Origin of life (Miller experiment, coincedental nature of the origin of organisms, nucleotides+aminoacids>rna+proteins>mechanism capable of reproduction)
* Theory of evolution (with emphasis on the fact that evolution happens because of coincedental mutations without purpose; he asks me "why does everything seem to be designed, it must have a purpose right?")
* What mathematic formulas are, how they can relate to Euclidean space, what Euclidean space represents, its universal use, examples with simple every-day situations.
* Basic chemistry (Elements, how and why elements interact, molecules, ENTROPY, states of aggregation, heat)
* Basic/interesting physics with regard to: Manifestations of energy, Newton's laws, light/EMR, electricity, nuclear fission, carbon dating, special relativity.
* Big bang theory, astronomy, explaining how we can tell how far stars are, how we can tell the universe is 13,7b lys old etc..
* Brains as a computer/modern theories on conscience, why human's own will might not even exist.
* How physical constants can be indirectly determined, scientific method, that scientists DO realize current understanding of the world/science isn't per definition true.
* Essence of logic, axioms.
All ELI5. Or ELI 53 but have never had any science education. | openai_summarize |
At 6 or 7 years old, was accused of screaming "bitch" while ringing a friends doorbell, was grounded on Thanksgiving for it. | Summarize the following paragraph: So this was Thanksgiving Day when I was 6 or 7 years old, and it was around noon-ish from what I remember. My parents were getting ready setting up for the Thanksgiving day feast, and they had suggested I play outside so I didn't get in their way. As I was outside, I decided to go to my next door neighbor friend to see if he wanted to play outside for a bit. When I got to the door, I rang and rang the doorbell. Being my impatient young self, I probably rang the doorbell 10 times within a 5 minute span. No one came to the door though.
Finally giving up on trying to hang with my friend, I ventured off back home and decided to play in my backyard. It was about 10 minutes later that our doorbell started ringing. My mother opened the door and it was my friend's older sister, who was about 13 or 14 at that time, and she told my mom that while I was over ringing their doorbell, I was screaming "bitch" through the window. Of course this was not true, as I was only ringing the doorbell constantly for about 5 minutes.
My mother apologized to the girl and once word got to my dad about what i allegedly did, all hell broke loose. Let's just say, I was grounded and wasn't able to enjoy any of the Thanksgiving festivities that day. I begged and pleaded to my parents that I wasn't screaming "bitch," but they believed the older child in the situation I guess.
To this day, it still bothers me what that girl did, especially since Thanksgiving is one of my favorite holidays. | openai_summarize |
baby is no more, need help coming to grips with this to support my wife. Please. | Summarize the following paragraph: **Back story** (since that can be important): Married, happily, three children, 1 and 2 were planned, 3 was proof that prevention methods do not work.
3 weeks ago we learned that we were going to be parents again (oldest is 6, youngest 2.5), that is until last night. This afternoon the doctor confirmed that the baby is no longer viable; no heart beat, no growth since the last ultrasound,....
**Advice needed**: I am beside myself, this being our first experience dealing with the loss of a child, unborn though he/she may be. I am not sure how to console my wife. I am not sure how to process what I am feeling. I am not sure how to talk about this. Granted, my mind knows that it is still early, but try telling my heart that and the tears start to flow.
My family is everything for me. I am supposed to be the protector the provider, the rock that supports, yet I feel so powerless not being able to do anything. I am having trouble and need words of wisdom and comfort (yes irony is alive in seeking help from the interwebs...it is not lost on me). | openai_summarize |
I drunkenly bashed a garage open and passed out in it and left my prescription glasses inside. How do I get them back? | Summarize the following paragraph: Basically, I was hammered with my friends. Somehow got split up with them, and ended up at this house a few blocks away from my own.
The house has a for sale sign on it, and I'm pretty sure there's no one living but they do have some stuff in the garage (where I ended up).
Anyway, my drunk train of thought was, "I need to sleep, no one lives here, let's get into the garage and pass the fuck out." I kicked the door open, laid down in front of an old car in there and went to sleep.
I woke up a few hours later, a little more sober, and suddenly very aware of my breaking and entering. I hightailed it out of there, not quite sure where I was (phone was dead), and eventually found my way home. When I got home, I realized that I had left my hat and prescription glasses in the garage.
I went back to see the house today, the garage door now has one of those big, black realtor's locks on it.
I'm willing to pay for any of the damage I caused, but I really need my hat and glasses back. | openai_summarize |
Boyfriend wants to stay in Alaska for college and save up for a bakery. I want the bakery in high school. How can I be both? | Summarize the following paragraph: [Original post](
I'm 17, he's 18. Just broke up after 1.5 years.
So my boyfriend (now ex-boyfriend as of 8-15) told me that I had to choose between my career and him. My dream career is starting up my own bakery-cafe. It's been my life-long goal, and he knows that. The problem is that the college I want to go to is down in the lower 48, and he wants to stay in Alaska for college. He told me that if I really loved him I'd give up college and my dream career for him, and pick some other career that I don't like so I can stay with him. I asked him how he could be so selfish, and he replied saying I'm the selfish one for not picking him. If you want to read the conversation we had so you can see for yourself what occurred (and so you know that I'm not just telling my side of the story) ask for it in the comments, and I'll upload it. Let me know if you think what I did was right, or if he was the one who was right. | openai_summarize |
im a 21 y/o male with a 22 y/o female "best friend" that i've known since 2008. She's been giving me signs of both wanting a relationship and wanting sex. i personally could see myself doing both but with me being in school sex would be better for the time being. There are elements present that we could be something more than friends but i cant determine what. How can i proceed and What do i do to preserve the friendship if im wrong? | Summarize the following paragraph: EDIT: in case anyone cares. I went to hang out with her and some mutual friends in their 30s, husband and wife. Apparently my friends been fucking the husband and i had the Joy of hearing the, in the act last night. Crushed cant even describe me right now. Shes not my gf so i cant complain but i feel....bad.
I've been friends with this girl since highschool. It was the kind of superficial friendship where we talked about school and gossip but didnt really get to know each other. we went to prom together and i went off to college. we only talked periodically while i was there.
I returned home the summer of 2012 and we hung out a decent bit and got to actually know each other, to the point she calls me her best friend. she's really cool and I expressed how awesome she was as a friend. I left for college again and we continued to talk to the point it escalated that she'll call me babe and say she loves me sometimes. It doesnt feel like a friendly "i love you." she sends winky faces and hearts. However she mentioned she just wants to have casual sex (didnt specifically say with me) and that she never had a bf so shes not to pressed to get in a relationship now. That blew my mind because shes the quiet, shy type. I felt she was lacking in the relationship department but i had no idea she had the capacity to just go around and have sex with whoever.
Im back home for this lovely 2014 summer and she's telling me about her times with some guy shes been having sex with. Yet shes still calling me babe and saying she loves me. To maintain the friendship i reciprocate everything in hopes that her real intention will reveal itself. i just dont want to pursue her for sex and screw up our friendship because she really is an awesome friend outside of love and sex issues. Like if she could commit to a single relationship i would date her 100%. Shes always been there for me even when i didnt really know that much about her back in highschool. | openai_summarize |
My best friend of fifteen years has decided not to include me in her bridal party and it sounds like she might not even want me at the wedding. Am I justified in asking her for an explanation? | Summarize the following paragraph: I just came back from meeting with her and I'm fuming, so I will be as coherent as I can. Throwaway account in use.
My best friend and I have been like sisters since high school. We are also both engaged. Both our weddings are far away, but there was no doubt in my mind that she was going to be my maid of honor and I was going to be hers, as we had talked about it several times over the years.
Cut to today when we had lunch. After some alcohol, she informed me that there was "not going to be room for me in her bridal party" but that I was "still invited to the event and it would still be a good time."
I'm crushed! I understand that it's her wedding and she needs to do what is going to make her happy, but that doesn't change the fact that I am deeply hurt that one of my oldest, closest friends doesn't consider me close enough to even make me a bridesmaid. Moreover, she made it sound like I was only invited to the wedding at all because she felt bad.
This is so out of left field that I feel like I need an explanation as to why she would cut me out this way, but I'm afraid of looking like a bitch who's trying to ruin her wedding or make her do something she doesn't want to do. | openai_summarize |
I'm in love with my current boyfriend. She's a girl. I'm in love with her and he's in love with me. I'm just wondering if I should break up with him and move on. | Summarize the following paragraph: A little back story: I met my current boyfriend four years ago. We dated back then when he was 32 and I was 19. I moved out of the state and we broke up. We remained best friends over the four years. We talked to each other ALL THE TIME, but I dated other people.
April 2012, he asked me if I would like to come visit him. So I did. And we got back together, then I got back from the trip and he broke up with me. September, he drove out to see me. And we got back together.... THE CATCH!? Meanwhile, when he broke up with me in April, he specifically told me to move on and that he wanted me to be happy. So, I started doing so. There was this girl I worked with. I always thought she was amazing...and apparently she felt the same about me. We started dating and oh my god was it perfect. Yeah we argued some, but when I was with her, I felt on top of the world. I could talk to this girl about ANYTHING, and vice versa. I've wondered if she's my soul mate. BUT she's a girl. This is the first girl I've ever dated.
So when dude wanted to get back together in Sept...I dated both of them. Then I broke up with her, and have been with him since. He thinks I'm moving there in August to be with him. We've talked about it. He always talks about marriage, babies, a house, me moving, etc. But he doesn't really talk to me about anything else.
So, what am I supposed to do? I'm in love with a female. It scares me because I do not think I am gay, as I like dick...A LOT. But this girl just turned my world inside out and upside down. Especially after last night...we hungout and I kissed her...twice. WTF am I doing? Do I break up with him? Do I stop talking to her? I don't know what I'm doing.... | openai_summarize |
I sent postcards to people without them thanking me. How should I fix this? | Summarize the following paragraph: I guess this is going to come across as petty, but it hurt my feelings and I'm not sure what do about this in the future.
Almost every year for at least 10 years I've been going on vacation to various places and I've always sent my friends and family postcards. Maybe this has happened before and I just didn't notice, but this year it hit me that nobody was thanking me for them. It actually made me worried that they didn't get delivered but it seems like they all did. After I asked if it showed up, some people thanked me, others didn't.
So why am I bothering? If nobody is interested in getting postcards, why should I bother sending them? I don't feel like I could ask anyone and get a straight answer, since who's going to admit that they couldn't care less if I sent them a postcard or not?
ETA: My username is meant to be sarcasm. "Ha" meaning "as if." | openai_summarize |
I'm in love with my best friend, but I'm not sure what to do. Should I ask her? Should I just take the plunge?
Edit: Thank you for all the good advice. I'll definitely talk to her about it. | Summarize the following paragraph: So I'm a 21 year old guy in the UK, and I've been single since I was 18. I'm in love with my best friend (21F). We've known each other for 10 years, and we've been best friends for about 5. I'm not sure if she has any idea how I feel about her. We make each other laugh, and she's told me that I'm the only guy she's close to. She doesn't have many close friends due to being very shy.
Now we're both going back for our final year in university (two different ones) next week, and it's likely I won't see her until Christmas. I don't know if I should ask her to hang out this weekend, just the two of us. I get the feeling she does return my feelings in some shape or form, but I'm not 100% sure.
My confidence hasn't been great since I ended things with my ex (she didn't like that I was speaking to another girl), and although I've had short flings since then, I've never really committed to anything since.
What do you guys think? Should I at least see if she wants to do something? We've hung out alone a few times, and we enjoy each other's company, but I'm worried that I might be overstepping her boundaries by doing this. Should I just take the plunge? All our friends ask me why we're not together, and I imagine they ask her too, so it can't just be me that thinks we'd work out. She's never had a boyfriend, has confirmed she's straight, and generally keeps herself to herself, except when she's around me and a few other friends. | openai_summarize |
I think it is cruel to rub your dog's nose in house accidents with scolding, and I want to know if it is a good idea or not. | Summarize the following paragraph: My wife and I recently got our first dog together, a shih tzu-bichon mix, currently 4 months old. Potty training is going well, but she inevitably has a few slip-ups now and then. My in-laws always tell me I should rub her nose in it and scold her so she knows not to do it. I always think this sounds cruel and ignorant to do. And I know most trainers, as well as the majority of this subreddit, says that dogs don't think that way. The dog doesn't connect the punishment to the accident, and all that's happening is they are learning to fear you.
But my in-laws' dog virtually NEVER has accidents. The few times it does, you can tell it feels really bad. It seems like their dog did make the connection between the punishment and the accidents. I'm not considering using this method, but my mother-in-law brings it up all the time, so I just would like more information. | openai_summarize |
Dating a girl for a year, had problems with trust, insecurity, and trust issues, looking for advice and help. | Summarize the following paragraph: hey. so, i'm a 21 year old guy dating a girl who lives 2 hours away. we met in high school, started dating in college, and were together for around 8 months before i had to move back home.
prior to that point we had a few flubs and mishaps but nothing TOO noteworthy. i have a few questions for people who have been in relationships where even mid way through, you experienced rough patch or patches related to trust, insecurity, and other typical relationship killers. heres some of the feelings ive dealt with.
* i have a strong feeling that i put more effort into the relationship than her. this is likely in part due to her introversion. to her credit, i'm not the most "mentally stable" (whatever that means) person, so i've put her through a share of trials which, her lasting through could indeed be perceived as effort.
* while we are similar people, we have different paths in life, in general. shes in school and will continue to be in school and will get a job that being in school gets you. im seeking a future in the music industry and will continue to go where that takes me. i sometimes question whether or not she will grow out of me or is simply with me as a phase.
* i sometimes still have thoughts about having sex with other women. that's somewhat often but not too bad. i also very rarely have thoughts about having emotional connections with other women and being able to confide in them.
some background, i live at home and am very focused on my work, so while i'm a very extroverted person, i dont do much in the way of socializing with other people. we have had many struggles centred around my jealousy and trust issues.
my question is, has anyone else ever been in similar situations and seen their way through to it a happy and fruitful relationship? at least longer than the original "happiness period", after you got out of the rough patch? | openai_summarize |
Left $1300 cash in a lockbox in my car when I dropped it off. I need to find the owner to get it back. I'm not sure what to do. | Summarize the following paragraph: Ugh so I'm a fucking idiot. I dropped my car off at my mechanics place after hours (left my key in a lockbox) to have it worked on tomorrow. I had $1300 cash in in an envelope with my registration. I forgot to take it with me when I left the car.
I now have no way of getting to the car, or getting inside of it even if I could. I trust the owner of the place - I found him through a friend at church...he's an honest dude, and a genuinely good person. But the rest of the employees - I have no idea.
All I can think of is to call as soon as they open and ask to speak to the owner...tell him I left it and ask him to keep it secure?
If this gets stolen I'm completely fucked, right? | openai_summarize |
I don't know how to show my housemate I'm interested in her but it's a long story. | Summarize the following paragraph: Hi guys, so this will be pretty long... I can feel it. Basically, I was brought up thinking being in a relationship was bad (religious reasons), but now that i'm 18 I don't really care about that sort of stuff now and want a relationship.
I sorta realised I have no idea what i'm doing, in the past I never really wanted to pursue one so I have zero experience. Everything posted on the internet seems generic and my friends are just utterly useless (I love them all and everything, but simply useless)
Anyway, for university I moved out of home. My housemate is super cute, she's from France and we talk regularly. I like her, no idea what she thinks of me. I'm sure she thinks I'm a half decent bloke because I put the effort into making conversation unlike a few of my other housemates. But I'm terrible at knowing if she would reject me if I asked her out on a date.
The problem is for one, we live together. I don't want to be rejected and then have her uncomfortable for the rest of the year with one of the few people she likes in the house.
Two, I have no idea how to show her i'm interested... We text rarely because it's normally just about household stuff and I don't know how she would react to a random text out of nowhere (also I have no idea what to text her). But we do talk IRL and get along by watching TV/movies in the living room and stuff...
I don't know where i'm going with this but, what do I do? lol It just feels like i'm wasting my time just chit chatting with her and I feel like I should ask her out on a date to get to know her better... Or is that just weird? How would YOU progress the relationship? I need some advice guys because just thinking about this is annoying me so bad :( | openai_summarize |
After my first relationship ending badly for me, I feel like I can never trust in the same way again. How do I fix this? | Summarize the following paragraph: Hi. So I'm in a new relationship with this great guy. We started talking in April of this year, and started officially dating in September. Anyway, I really do love him. I connect with him and feel like he understands me on a certain level that most people don't.
I dated a guy, my first relationship, from December 2013 to October 2014. When he broke up with me, it was a complete surprise. That night, he had spent 4 hours in my dorm with me and my roommate, just being normal and shit. Everything was fine. Then bam, he brings me outside and breaks up with me. Tells me to go back to my room. We've never talked again.
I have absolutely 0 feelings left for this guy. In hindsight, I'm glad he broke up with me, because I felt like I could never be honest about myself with him. But... the way he broke up with me, so suddenly and out of the blue... I feel like it has affected me more than I realize.
In my relationship now, I feel so skeptical all the time. I feel so... I feel like I'm living in constant fear/with the constant expectation that he's about to break up with me at any second. I've told him about this, and he's just like "Why would you think that? I'd never do that to you," etc. etc. And I know he's genuine, and he's so sweet and good to me. He drives 4 hours round trip to see me every week (he lives about 1.5-2ish hours away from me), we have a good time together... it's everything that a new-ish relationship should be.
But I feel like I can never have that blind faith and trust in someone again. It makes me feel so sad. Like, I view relationships as something with an expiration date now. Just like, "welp, wonder when he's going to decide to break up with me." I feel like I can't trust. It sucks. It makes me fucking sad and paranoid.
What do I do? | openai_summarize |
how long should I give a girl I'm dating (23f) time to decide whether she wants to be exclusive with me or another guy she's seeing (23m) | Summarize the following paragraph: We had been seeing each other on a daily basis for three months- dates, movies, night caps, spooning, giving pet names, finishing each other's sentences - you know the whole fucking thing.
We were pretty much "together" but I hadn't asked her to be exclusive yet. Mainly because I'm indecisive and still wasn't sure about her ex situation. I slowed it down for a week because I was very busy and out of no where she's seeing another guy.
she says she's unsure about what to do and wants me to give her time to choose. the problem is when she isn't with me I know she's with him and I think they're sleeping together. | openai_summarize |
How much is too much to hang out with my boyfriend's friends in his dorm?
Thanks in advance! | Summarize the following paragraph: So in about two weeks, I'll be moving into a house by where my boyfriend goes to school. I was lucky enough to snag a super affordable living situation by where I'll be working, and being near him is a plus! I'm a recent grad and I'll be working a part-time job and volunteering at labs while I apply to graduate school. So that's all fine and dandy.
The thing is, I'm really nervous about how the social aspect of my life is going to work out. I try not to show it too much, but I tend to get a little clingy towards the BF since we've been long-distance for a while...and because he's the only one that I really know there, I'm worried that I'll be come super dependent and possessive. He said that I'm welcome to hang out with him/his friends in his dorm anytime since I get along with them, but (and this is where my inexperience with relationships shows - he's my first "real" anything) how much is too much? I know there's no right answer to that but I can't help but I feel like I'll be intruding/annoying his friends... | openai_summarize |
I'm weighing my options for asking out a guy that I met through friends. Do I ask him out for a group date thing, or just us? Also, do I show any signs of creepiness in my plans? | Summarize the following paragraph: Long story short, a guy [20M] that I [22F] previously disliked has gained my respect and I'm willing to try my luck in obtaining a date with him.
I met him through my good friends, and while they support me in my decision to pursue something with him, I guess I just need unbiased confirmation that I'm not being a total creep by asking him out. (If I am being a creep, PLEASE let me know!)
He practically worships hockey, the sport that I know very little about. My ideal first date is to go ice skating, but perhaps I should consider inviting him to a hockey game instead? Joining him in his comfort zone?
My biggest question is how should I go about with the actual asking part? Do I suggest a group outing first where I can then seek one-on-one time, or do I just go in for the kill? And should I make it clear that it's a date, or just insinuate it's more of a hangout?
Some additional, potentially helpful information: we are both in the same major at the same college, but I never see him in class because I'm a year ahead of him. He is a member of a rec team I'm captaining, and I don't have his number, but that can easily be obtained. | openai_summarize |
Haven't met boyfriend's parents but want to, he's met mine. Help me me figure out if/how I should ask him about this? | Summarize the following paragraph: My boyfriend (28M) and I (25F) have been dating for 8-9 months. Met online last December, hit it off. After 5-6 months, I invited him to a family gathering where he met my parents. He's seen them several times since then (we all live in my hometown); they get along well.
His family lives about two hours away, but his parents have been in town once every-other month or so for various reasons. So far he has not invited me to meet them. I did meet his brother when he was staying with boyfriend for awhile, I've met all his friends and even his extended friend group at a college reunion.
Potentially relevant factors:
-I love him, but have not told him this yet (soon!)
-This is the longest relationship he's had so far
-I may possibly be moving 1hr-3hrs away next July for residency (we haven't yet discussed what this means for us, long distance, etc.)
So, I know the answer is that he'll introduce me to them when/if he's ready, and I shouldn't push the issue. But I WANT to meet them and it's bothering me. I wish I could just ask him about it, but I don't know how to. Reddit, am I being crazy? I appeal to the collective masses to help me figure out if and/or how I should bring this up!! | openai_summarize |
gf of two years has been talking to someone behind my back for a month from midnight until morning, when confronted says he's just a friend | Summarize the following paragraph: Pretty much my girlfriend of two years has been talking to another guy behind my back. Everything seemed fine at the time, but I did however notice how tired she would always get during the day. When I confronted her about this she just gave some petty excuse such as she just couldn't sleep. But keep in mind that this has been going on for about a month. I got too suspicious and actually went through her messages, to find that she had been waiting for me to fall sleep to talk to this other guy from midnight all the way until the morning ~6am. When I asked her about this she tells me that he's just a friend and that she just needed someone to talk to. I still do love her very much ,but im not sure about what i should do from here. | openai_summarize |
Should I go to his funeral? | Summarize the following paragraph: At 7:30 this morning my wife's uncle passed away from an OD. He was not well liked by his family and mostly abandoned his kids and stole from his parents (violently). It's still extremely sad because this guy is survived by his 6 kids. Some of them are still at the age where they just know to love their dad regardless of how much interaction they get to have with him.
My selfish predicament is that I really don't feel the need for me to go to his funeral. Now, if I lived in the immediate area I wouldn't think twice, but I am an 8 hour drive or a couple of plane tickets I can't really afford away. The job I have right now can't really let me take off work to go. My wife also isn't comfortable driving the 8 hours herself to go to the funeral. Finally, she seems to really want me to go with her, so she doesn't have to deal with the stress and family sadness alone. | openai_summarize |
Is there hope for me having a relationship despite chronic fatigue? Where could I find girls that won't immediately be turned off by that? | Summarize the following paragraph: I have severe chronic fatigue, and the idea of a relationship -- while something I very much long for -- feels like it comes with a lot of expectations I cannot fulfill. That I'll be a disappointment, and a relationship will just dry up, because of my inability to know when I'll have enough energy to do something, and because I can go for long periods exhausted.
The flip side is that everyone I know likes me. I'm encouraging, really engage in what their talking about, thoughtful, friendly, compassionate, and push myself hard to share the good of life with people. I feel like I could make a good partner, even in the state I'm in, if her expectations were matched to my limitations.
But when I go on sites like OK cupid, it's a bunch of people "fluffing their mating plumage". They have money and energy to spend on their girl, I don't. I'm not ashamed for myself, I've overcome tremendous obstacles and thrived through tragedy -- but I guess don't stack up that well against people who haven't dealt with the same stuff.
I don't know where else to look for someone to be in a relationship with. Any ideas, or advice on the perspective I should have? | openai_summarize |
Feel bad that gf isn't at the stage in our relationship where she feels like we're going to spend the rest of our lives together, but did feel that way with her ex at about the same time. | Summarize the following paragraph: My bisexual girlfriend was with an ex who was a girl for 3 years; they were best friends for a year before dating. A couple months into actually dating my girlfriend felt very strongly that she would end up marrying this girl (they broke up because her partner fell out of love after some time; they are still very close friends). Now she is with me and I am positive we are very much in love with each other. We've been together for 3 months, and yesterday we had a conversation about our long-term future and she said that she can see us spending the rest of our lives together, but that she isn't sure about it like she was with her ex.
I'm feeling bad that she felt sure she would spend the rest of her life with her ex after 3 months but isn't as sure about it with me. I try to tell myself that she knew her ex intimately for a full year before dating her so it's different, but it's still stuck in my head that maybe she had a stronger relationship with her than she does with me. The other factor that might be relevant here is that her relationship with her ex was her first serious relationship. Normally I wouldn't feel bad about this because it's only been 3 months and very few people are ready for that type of commitment after such a short amount of time, but apparently she was with her ex. How do I get over this? | openai_summarize |
I (22f) hooked up with a guy (22m) at work. He got upset a little, and I don't know what to do about it. | Summarize the following paragraph: Alright, I'm going to preface this by asking for you guys to read this and respond without judgement. I know I'm in the wrong here. I (22f) met this guy (22m) at work. There's a lot of attraction there, he's really sweet, just the right amount of weird, and oddly innocent for his age. He has a long term girlfriend. We've been working together for a while, and have become good friends. He texts me a lot outside of work, just talking about our day, etc. That went on for about a month, and there was always some innocent flirting and stuff, nothing serious that either of us intended to act on. But then we did act on it. I know it's wrong. We've hooked up twice. Last night, I went out with a friend, and he was texting me. He brought up his girlfriend, and I don't know, I got a little irritated with that, I guess. I said something along the lines of, "If she makes you happy, then maybe we should stop hooking up." I was kind of catty, and he stopped texting me. Today, he is legitimately upset with me over this, and I'm unsure how I feel about this. I think he may actually have feelings for me, whereas I thought we were just messing around. I'm unsure of what to do. I'm confused at the fact that it's actually bothering me that he's upset, and I want to fix it. I'm confused and a little ashamed of the whole situation overall, and I don't know what to do about it either. I think I just need some outside input to better gain perspective. | openai_summarize |
Is air travel really cheaper than train ticket? What is the best way to get from one city to another? What do we have to bring in a plane? | Summarize the following paragraph: My wife and I will be spending 3 weeks in Europe doing the most touristy things possible. I am trying to find the most economical route to get to each city. I've found prices for air travel but train ticket prices are not so easy. Some sites say they don't have prices up until 90 days before the travel date. Also, how much time and/or money would I save taking the train? Here are some details:
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Our destinations are Barcelona, Dublin, London, Amsterdam, Rome, Venice, and Paris.
* The route is so far undecided however we are leaning towards starting in Paris and ending in Dublin because flights from/to the US is cheapest.
* Our journey starts in July (hooray peak season!)
* We understand 3 weeks won't be enough to fully appreciate the cities and culture.
* Luggage will be 32L backpacks and less than 22 lbs each.
* Both of us are under 25 but not students.
* So far, the price to beat is $431 total for flights. | openai_summarize |
I asked a girl out to have a beer and it is making me think I don't want to date because I can't find a reason to ask her out. | Summarize the following paragraph: Hi redditors !
I went to a concert last friday evening and there was some nice joking and looking at each other with a waitress so I tried something I had never done before, looked straight to her and said "If you are single, I'd like to ask for your phone number so I can ask you for a drink sometime". She smiled and agreed to give it to me, but I am having second thoughts since then. The thing is, I got out of a 10 years relationship a few month ago and I feel I am not ready to date yet. I found out a few days my ex was getting serious with a guy and I don't want that info to be the reason I ask girls out just to find out I am not ready yet. I don't want to just leave it there either because even though we have barely talked, I asked her phone number and it would be disrespectful not to give her any news.
I thought I could tell her that I really think she is cute and I would like to ask her for a drink but for the right reasons and not because I found got the courage to ask for her number when I had had a couple of beers.
Do you guys think that she likely won't care because she is probably not expecting anything from that, or that it would be a nice touch to explain why I don't think I can ask her out ? | openai_summarize |
My girlfriend's parents restricts her freedom. She can't stay out at night. This greatly limits our relationship. I question our future. | Summarize the following paragraph: My girlfriend and I have been together for a year. Things are great, shes thoughtful, agreeable, and never complains. We haven't experienced any major relationship problems, save one that I have been keeping to myself.
Her parents are too involved in her life. I understand they're concerned with her safety. She's not *allowed* to stay out late at night, sometimes they get irrationally upset and angry at her when she does. As a result, we've never spent a whole night together and that bothers me. While this isn't a big problem now, it is significant to me as I think it limits our relationship and will become a problem later on. With her older siblings [30s] in similar positions, I don't think there's a good chances our situation will improve over time. Moreover I have the feeling her parent's do not like me. They've never made the effort to get to know me or even communicate me. I feel like they've already decided they wouldn't like me too much.
Perhaps this second part deserves its own post but I feel its worth mentioning here. I discovered an excellent deal on a multi city flight. My ex-girlfriend who I am in amicable terms with resides in one of these cities. We agreed to remain friends when we separated two years ago and I would like to hold up my end of the deal and catch up over a meal. I told my GF about this and she is not happy about it. She said I could meet with her but I know she's not fine with it. She would be fine with it if she came along with me, but her parents would never allow her to travel. She already knows every point her parents would bring up if she tried to discuss the topic with them. I went ahead and booked my ticket, I dont think its fair that her parent's irrational concerns affect me. I decided I wont meet my Ex but I will tell her I'll be in town and my situation. I question my future with this otherwise great girl who I can't spend extended with or travel with. | openai_summarize |
Would adopting from the UK be fairer than adopting from an orphan country? | Summarize the following paragraph: My wife and I are 30, live in the UK and are thinking about adoption. As we're pretty young and don't already have children, we would ideally like to adopt a baby.
Recently we've been discussing would it be better to adopt a baby from the UK (where my wife is from and we live), from Ireland (where I'm from) or from China/Africa/somewhere where an orphan has even less chance of a good life. My concern is whether this route is unfair on a child, taking it away from its culture and homeland when we'd know nothing about its national identity. But then maybe that's irrelevant if the kid has a loving happy family and life...
I'd love to hear from anyone who has adopted or been adopted and what their thoughts are. Thanks Reddit. | openai_summarize |
Friend is interested in same girl I am, and I have put the girl in an awful position and lost a friendship | Summarize the following paragraph: I hope you're ready to hear of some high school drama, because OP is delivering tonight. I'm in search of advice and opinions, and for some reason I reached out to Reddit for just that.
So I'm at a complete standstill at the moment and the best way to resolve this problem would probably be to jerk off, sleep, and make a decision tomorrow.
I asked this girl I've been into for about a month to prom. We went on a date last Saturday and all went well and she seemed pretty interested in me. I asked if she's interested in me before and she said yes, but is not interested in perusing a relationship at the moment.
In comes one of my best friends, known him for 4 years, we know a lot of information and dirt on each other. He's known the girl for about a year now. They're good friends and I know this as fact. I asked her if she is interested in him as more than friends beforehand, and she said she use to be, but no longer is. For this reason, I assumed that he would be O.K with me chasing this girl.
Well, I asked this girl to prom in class. She said yes and we setup some plans for friday. My friend - completely unaware that I asked her, asked her to prom an hour later. No fucking shit this actually happened within less than an hour.
She apparently replied she's going with me. I know this because he started texting me immature texts calling me a jackass and a backstabber.
So what I've essentially done here is put the girl in a very bad position all together, potentially lost a friendship, and started problems I want nothing of. All I want are things to be O.K.
Please provide advice outside of "Forget both, find somebody else" or "Fuck him, go after her" or the other way around. Because it's her decision, I just don't want to lose a friendship and start lots of problems. | openai_summarize |
how to deal with weed in a relationship, not as good as your girlfriend, but also not as bad as your boyfriend. | Summarize the following paragraph: my ex, still friends, recently has been acting different, he was the definition of perfect, very handsome, so talented, amazing drummer, and extremly smart, explosively outgoing and friendly, but i noticed recently he'd been acting, spacey, like he didnt care about anything, he got in trouble in school, from his stories not as respectful to adults, and just like he didnt care about anything in general, i then learn he has taken up smoking pot, which generally speaking i really wouldnt mind,but for him, at such a young age, hes currently a sophmore, he doesnt realize the permanent affects that can happen. ive seen other friends of mine go stupid from just the time of freshman to senior year, and it sucks to think this may happen to him. | openai_summarize |
Girl [22f] taking pill, has been cold for a few weeks now and I'm not sure if I'm being paranoid over it or if it's actually making me insecure. | Summarize the following paragraph: So I started seeing this girl about 4 months ago now.
We were starting to get pretty serious up until about 3 weeks ago when she started taking the pill as we had started having sex. Before that point everything was great we were both excited about being together, going out all the time, texting all the time, etc. and generally things were happy.
From the day she started taking it she's been cold and distant ever since. We don't go out, we barely talk, etc etc.
I get that the pill can have a negative impact on her body and am trying my best to wait it out but she's been acting like she just doesn't want to know me anymore basically for a few weeks now and it's really starting to get to my head. Despite having talked about it (she acknowledges it's been making her "crazy" as she puts it and wants to change but cant until she finishes her current packet i think?) it's still making me insecure about this whole thing.
I had a girl do this exact same thing in my last relationship after a year or so and she ended up cheating on me so it might be messing with my head a bit.
I'm kind of at my wits end. Should I just break it off? I feel like going through this kind of rough patch mere months into any sort of relationship (using the term loosely here) is a terrible omen for the future, even if it is due to medical reasons. Is it so much to ask that she at least try and be aware of her actions? | openai_summarize |
My boyfriend's cousin posted on facebook saying "To my wonderful Father Conrado, Happy 63rd Birthday...it has been 16 years since you have been with us on this earth. I hope were ever you are you are well and know that I will always love you, forever until the day we meet again. Your son....Tim Conrad" | Summarize the following paragraph: My boyfriend's cousin posted on facebook: "To my wonderful Father Conrado, Happy 63rd Birthday...it has been 16 years since you have been with us on this earth. I hope were ever you are you are well and know that I will always love you, forever until the day we meet again.
Your son....Tim Conrad"
I read that with my boyfriend and moments later, he just said aloud "oh, wow, im sorry, i just got...kinda emotional" and i noticed he got a little choked up and then started scrolling through his facebook again and talking to me again normally.
My window of opportunity kinda passed, but how could I tell him that he should never apologize to me about feeling emotional, and that he should never be afraid to be vulnerable with me? I hate that most men feel like they aren't allowed to have feelings like this.
How would you view your boyfriend if this happened to you? | openai_summarize |
I've decided to end things with my girlfriend of 1 month because there was someone else. What should I tell her to get her to be honest with me? | Summarize the following paragraph: I spent much of this year dating several women casually, and decided to commit to my girlfriend, let's call her A, about a month ago. Things have been good, but not great. I haven't felt a lot of chemistry with her and we don't seem to have much of an emotional connection. I realize I may have committed to her too quickly, and that's all on me.
Before I committed to A, I had been dating another girl (29F), let's call her B. I had strong feelings for B, but she had not expressed interest in a relationship, and we went our separate ways when I decided to commit to A. However, B and I met for coffee a week ago, and she said wants to be in a relationship with me. We had a very long talk about things, and after thinking it over, I decided that I want to end things with A and pursue things with B.
I am seeing A tomorrow to end things, and I am wondering what is the best way to go about it? I want to be honest with her, but I also don't want to hurt her. Should I be honest and tell her there's someone else, or should I make up another reason for breaking up with her? | openai_summarize |
my mom's dad is dieing and I need to buy a ticket for her to fly to see him/go to his funeral, what is the site one of the previous mods is working on starting up for finding flights? | Summarize the following paragraph: Hey guys. My mom just got the call that her dad is about to die (it's been in the works for a bit, but I was hoping it'd happen after Christmas), and he lives across the country. Anyways, she can't afford to buy a ticket to get herself back there, and I know she really needs to for closure on the whole thing, even if it's for the funeral. So, I was planning on purchasing a ticket for her to go back, though prices are definitely higher during this time of year :( Anyways, I'm rambling, so on to my point, one of the administrators or mods or whoever that left a little bit ago joined in with getting a site up and running to search for flights, and it seemed real nice, but I can't remember what it was. Do any of you remember what the site was? Thank you! | openai_summarize |
I'm going to fall apart cause I cant get over my ex, i told her I still loved her, it didnt work (in my favor). | Summarize the following paragraph: I spent half the next day in the hospital, fighting off what felt like looming anxiety attacks.
I realized she couldn't be more insensitive.
I'm still in love with her.
(And I also lost my hoodie and umbrella over the last 2 days. little things).
She's never been able to share her feelings with me after we broke up. I was filed away (as she put it) in the "EX" folder, and that's that. She tries not to question that logic. Even though when we broke up we still loved each other.
I hate her seeming lack of care, even though I know otherwise. I feel like she's insensitive. I would do anything for her. Change to make what didnt work before work now.
We had a 2 year relationship. It ended cause we just functioned differently. I have no logical reason to still be in love with her. But no matter what happens, I still am.
Now, same as the last 5 months since we broke up. We have 80% of the same friends & acquaintances. Our main hobby is shared, and niche, so there's no other group to do it with in the area. Fuck. | openai_summarize |
girlfriend and I went to a festival where we dropped E and on the last day she proceeded to not know I exist. | Summarize the following paragraph: girlfriend and I went to a festival this weekend where we both popped E. On the last day she had a really good roll but she literally forgot about me and was ignoring me. I kept trying to dance with her but she would not dance with me. She wouldn't let me kiss her or touch her but she was dancing and hugging with other guys and having a great time but whenever id try she'd just curve me. I told her I was upset she just ignored me and showed no affection or attention whatsoever and she just told me to stop being annoying. This coming from a girl who went crazy on me last week (deleted me from everything social media) because a girl expressed interest in me and she was "prettier" than her according to her. Even though I immediately told the girl I have a girlfriend. I just feel like shit guys.. I'm coming down from the high and I'm depressed as fuck. My friend told me what she did was okay because she was in the zone but I felt so left out :( like why wouldn't she dance with me but whenever someone else came up to her she'd dance with them? This is no contact dancing by the way. It's completely innocent dancing. Please help. I just felt like she had more fun with other people than me. | openai_summarize |
I (20F) stalk my ex (22M) everyday for a year because I'm in love with the idea of being in love and I have issues with loneliness. I'm finally giving up and making myself free. | Summarize the following paragraph: And I've finally decided to stop. Today. I need to be free. I have an abnormal attraction to my ex and he treated me terribly. He's rejected me a total of 3 times now. I thought that he was too good for me and I kept trying to convince him that I was worth being with. I've shown him nothing but attention and affection but apparently what I have to offer isn't enough for him. I made myself believe that I was in love with him, but I realize now that it was just an unhealthy, obsessive crush. I was in love with the idea of being in love and I have issues with loneliness.
I started stalking him when he dumped me after only a 1 month relationship (he couldn't handle the long distance) and we dated 4 months before that. Two months of constant stalkimg before he came back, only to reject me again a few weeks later. Then I stalked everyday for an additional 8 months until we matched on pof and tinder in late March. Three days ago, we hung out at a hookah bar and had sex at the back of his car. Afterwards, we've barely been talking and I received a measly four text yesterday.
I finally give up. His interest is drifting off again and this is the 3rd time he's decided to go quiet on me. I'be been settling for scraps of attention by this man. I don't love myself as much as I should and I'm slowly teaching myself to respect myself and quit this creepy behavior. Stalking his social medias isn't okay. It never was but I see that more than ever now.
I'm feeling weak. I've tried stopping myself multiple times before, but I always caved because of curiousity. Now I want to stop more than ever but I'm afraid I'll just got back to my old ways. | openai_summarize |
Girlfriend broke up with me (20 y/o) for the same reason. I have feelings for her but am the bigger person. I don't care about other people's opinions on me. Wondering if I should try to get back together and if so how. | Summarize the following paragraph: So recently my girlfriend (21 y/o) from college of about a semester broke up with me (20 y/o) because she said I didn't really argue with her friends when they talked about me and I would sit there and ignore them. She said it made her feel like more of the man in the relationship.
She talked to me about this before and I personally thought that it wasn't that serious and thought by responding with at least something she would be happy but it seems like it didn't work.
I actually kinda wonder if it's worth trying to get back together, because isn't it possible she's trying to change me? I have feelings for her still and feel she's an open target for dudes now. However, I've been the bigger person forever and don't really care about others perceptions of what I do or how I act. Any advice? | openai_summarize |
I have ADHD, and I am struggling juggling my classwork with job and various other activities, and need advice. | Summarize the following paragraph: So I will give you the backstory, I am 29, and I have ADHD, been diagnosed since I was 12. I decided after getting laid off to start going to school for my website design and development certificate back in May. This summer I took 9 credits, and this fall I am in 13 credits all online. I recently started a job, where I was working 40 hours, in addition I have indoor soccer on Thursday nights, outdoor soccer on Sunday days, flag football on Saturday mornings, and I just started coaching a under 13 soccer team which takes up an hour on Friday through Saturday each night.
When I wasn't working it was really easy for me to keep up with my studies and do the work, but since I have gotten the job, I have really struggled to get the motivation to do my school work at night, because I put so much effort in my job. Starting last week we switched my time at my job from 40 hours to 20 hours where I am done at 1, but I still haven't able to get anything done and I fall further behind.
So I am curious how other people with ADHD have dealt with having a lot on their plate, and also were able to get their work done as well.
EDIT: So I guess I should be more clear, I am already on medications and I don't think that is the issue. I guess I am looking more towards ways people stay focused, and methods they use to get things done, like some sort of goal setting, etc. | openai_summarize |
Is dating more than one person at a time ok? Should I do it?
P.S. A lot of the guys that I've been seeing are from my past relationships. It's kind of a weird feeling so I dunno if this is a good idea or not. | Summarize the following paragraph: Hi, I'll try to keep this shortish and thanks in advance for reading.
I am 22 and just moved to a new city about a month ago. Prior to my move I have been with three guys--- the first two were wonderful, serious committed relationships of 3 years and 1 year respectively. Both ended amicably and I'm still friends with them.
Then I got involved with a guy who was a real dick. I was crazy about him but he treated me pretty poorly over time--I see now in hindsight that it was emotionally abusive. This lasted a year, ending in June of this year. I found out during the last 2 months of it that he had been dating/sleeping with many, many other girls the whole time; I was literally just another notch in the bedpost. I was in denial, being stupid, etc, but finally got the willpower up to end it with him. I felt kinda dead inside for a while.
But then I moved here and felt good about it being a fresh start. I've met a lot of guys (through work and going out and about on the town) and gone on quite a few dates--I kinda decided why not give it a chance? Q
But this morning looking through my phone I realize the last 6 people in my inbox are boys I am seeing now. A 21 year old, 24, two 26 year olds, a 27, and 29. I've slept with one of them (this guy knows its nothing serious) and have kissed one other but nothing more.
I'm new to grown up dating. Is this horribly sleazy? Am I turning into the girl version of the asshole that I myself was involved with?? What are your guys' opinions on this? | openai_summarize |
lost 40 Lbs, wondering how the hell am i going to do it again? | Summarize the following paragraph: lets get the Numbers out the way
M/24/6"0'
SW: 325
CW: 285
GW: 224
I always knew i was fat, i never denied that, but i never really cared. well, obviously i did care, but not enough to do anything major about it.
I have taken my diet and exercise seriously over the last month, almost every day (all day) dedicated to mindfully eating and increasing my exercise. ive lost 40 Lbs, which i should be ecstatic about. But i saw this milestone on the scales and just thought about the dread ahead. 61 lbs to go, loose Skin? eating healthy at the other end? will i fall off the wagon? will i keep the weight off? all these questions are plaguing me.
I never cared before, my weight wasn't a big enough problem to worry about (until it was, obviously) but now that I'm doing something about it. i realise I'm still fat but now I'm majorly aware of my self image.
i read a story on r/loseit about a gentleman who had issues with a girls reaction to his loose skin. I've physically had nightmares about this. reading this man's story has compounded this dread.
I'm Lifting, I'm moisturising and I'm Hydrating. but its scaring me so much I'm worries it will inhibit me from losing more. | openai_summarize |
Ex girlfriend texted me, i think she is trying to manipulate me, not sure how to handle it. I don't want to ignore her and go no contact, as i really don't want her stressing out about me. The relationship is over, and I'm still getting talked down too.. | Summarize the following paragraph: hello reddit..
Today my ex-girlfriend texted me after not speaking for a bit. She asked how i was, i was good ( I left her, i really don't want to talk to her). She told me to stop pretending like none of this bothers me, how she still loves me 'so much' and continued about how sad she is and is distracting herself with work and school. This is coming from a girl who has had several back-up plans over the last 3 years, lied to my face about cheating, when confronted with proof with cry and blame me. I explained to her why i have a hard time feeling sad about any of this, more than relieved. I feel 'no contact' is almost a manipulation, so i try my best not to ignore her, as she used to do it to me when we'd break up, and it would drive me crazy/ just make me want to talk to her more. After i explained my reasoning for everything, including not being too upset, her last text to me was 'you're just angry lol, this conversation is over. If you want to talk civil to me than cool, if not then i don't want to talk to you. What the hell is this? I'm trying my best to be nice and not make her upset, and it gets thrown in my face, like im angry about something? Thanks for any advice / input | openai_summarize |
My father had a recent stroke and is recovering well. I want to help him get back into the gym without putting him at risk. What are some weightlifting exercises he can do that won't put him at risk? | Summarize the following paragraph: Dad is a 72/m with diabetes type 2 and on blood thinners. He weight trains 3x/week and jogs about 3mi/2x/week. This is his second suspected TIA, the last one occurred 7 years ago. During this recent episode he was having numbness in his hands and lips, vertigo, and had a little trouble with slurring his speech, as if his tounge was swollen, and was having to concentrate to swallow. We went to the ER where he was monitored for a few hours and got an EKG & CT scan. They didn't find any smoking gun but the consensus was that he had a TIA the night before.
I made him take it easy yesterday and today he's saying he feels back to normal. I'm worried about him straining during his weight workout and triggering a full stroke, but I also realize that he needs to keep it up for his mental health as much as his physical health. What are some exercises that would carry a lower risk of injury while helping him fend off a future attack? Thanks!
(note - he's not a gym rat or into heavy lifting, mostly he does cardio and fairly low impact circuit training, def not a gym bro) | openai_summarize |
Girlfriend broke up with me because she's not ready for commitment yet. Need to understand why she's phobic of commitment. | Summarize the following paragraph: Basically, nothing has changed between us. We still behave with each other the way we used to. She's still alright with me telling her that I love her. She still tells me that she loves me, as frequently (or rather, occasionally, because she's not a very expressive person) as she used to.
The only thing she has issues with, is commitment. To her (and to me as well), a relationship is about commitment, because she doesn't believe in casual relationships (and neither do I). She broke up, she says, because she thought that she was ready for the commitment, but later realised that she really isn't. She further added that she does love me and thinks that I'm a great choice for a future partner, but that doesn't help her deal with her inability to commit yet. She told me that if I really want her, I should wait until she's ready for a relationship.
Please give me insight. I need to understand her. I don't know why she's so phobic of commitment. | openai_summarize |
Hooked up with girl in line for Taxi, went out with her, slept with her, drove her home, didn't hear from her after a few nights, texted her, she replied, went to hers, got some great chats in bed, she complimented my looks, teased each other, went home, went to work, texted her, got no response. | Summarize the following paragraph: Hey,
Basically I met this girl one night, waiting in line for a Taxi (about 2am). She was by herself and so was I, so I hit her up for a chat, asked where she was heading and it happened to be near mine, I offered to split a cab (both students, both poor, me flirting). As we get to hers I ask for her number and she said "Why not come in". I slept with her, had a great time with her.
A few days later I asked her to dinner, she's vegetarian so I took her to this cool vegetarian place, got some ice cream and went back to mine. The whole time she was smiling and laughing and acting very interested, at mine we slept together again but this time I drove her home because she said she needed to go home for class the next day.
A few times I text messaged her and got no answer, or a really delayed no-hearted reply, so I stopped and figured she would talk to me if she wanted to. Didn't hear from her for about 3 weeks then one night I was drinking and having a party so I sent her a message at around 6:30pm - "Hey how are you! I'm having a party and heading out later, what are you up to?" and I got a reply - "Going out with some friends, wanna meet up later?". Which I did, I went to hers and basically we just fooled around for a few hours, had some great chats in bed, laughed a lot, she complimented my body and looks, teased each other. Then I went home because I had work the next day (I originally offered her to come to mine and I would drive her home the next day but she wanted me to go to her and then leave...)
So...I'm not really sure what situation I'm in, FWB? Booty call? I want to ask her out again because I would happily date her, but I'm not sure where I stand. | openai_summarize |
Got a dog from an abusive situation, his sister has parvo as of today, got him almost 3 days ago, what are the chances of him having it also? Vet appt soon. | Summarize the following paragraph: Let me start by saying I know all the lack of proof of true information on the previous owner leaves this dog more open to the chance of having parvo but anyway..
I got my puppy Ozzy two days ago now, from an owner on craigslist who was selling two puppies who were apparently caged outside in all weather, they convinced the owner they could give the dogs a better home so he surrendered the pups to the person i got them from. She admitted to me that they were in bad condition and covered in fleas and they have been putting flea medication on the puppies bodies and bathing them. When I picked him up he was just bathed and in the past two days I've only found 2 fleas walking around on him. Still using frontline. I have a vet appointment for Wednesday morning (two days from now) He seems in perfect health, eating all his food, trying to steal our food, pooping whole and dark with no signs of worms or blood, but just today his poop started becoming more watery I assumed its because he was probably on a different food before and this one isn't going through his system correctly. He drinks a lot of water and whenever he wants. Definitely still has full appetite and thirst, would never suspect a thing. Today the original owner texted me and said his sister (who he was always with until 2 nights ago so about 72+ hours ago now) has parvo and started pooping blood. She claimed she "just got it" which doesnt make sense to me but what do I know. She went on to say that puppy was treated more harshly and in way worse condition than the puppy I have as if that would make me feel better. I don't feel like waiting two more days to find out, do you think he has parvo?
I literally didnt notice til I just typed this question out that theres no way of anyone knowing til I go to the vet. Sorry just needed to type this out to someone. I also have two other dogs who are completely up to date on their shots.
Any feedback or opinions on anything would be awesome | openai_summarize |
I am about to start uni. I have 4 months and my boyfriend is all I have. How to give time for myself without making it difficult to do the things I want (read books, go to the library, etc...)
Thanks! | Summarize the following paragraph: I am about to go into my final semester of uni. I will be at uni 9-6.30 on Tuesdays and Thursdays, working 9-5 on Mondays, Wednesdays and Fridays and doing some voluntary work/studying/exercising on weekends and in the evenings.
As this is my last semester, I want to do as well as possible... but with my hectic schedule, this doesn't leave me much time for my boyfriend. We live very close to one another and in the past, he has been a bit of a distraction to my studies... but my schedule has never been this hectic before.
I think it might be a good idea to put the relationship on ice until November. It has nothing to do with the relationship itself, but I feel like I just need some time to myself to get shit done, distraction free. | openai_summarize |
I am fourteen and I have terrible dandruff so I use head and shoulders. Does this make me a loser? | Summarize the following paragraph: Throwaway for this. I'm a fourteen year old girl (freshman in high school) and I notice in a lot of movies the 'loser/nerd' character has dandruff and uses Head and Shoulders. This character is usually male. The first time I notice this was when reading the book series The Clique (standard teenage drama fluff) and they were trying to make one character look like a loser by putting Head and Shoulders in her bathroom. I think there's also something like this in the movie Evolution. Drake makes fun of Josh for having dandruff in Drake and Josh (and we all know Josh is a loser).
This never really bothered me before until I had a slumber party. They noticed I had Head and Shoulders in my bathroom. They asked if I had dandruff and I said 'no, it's my brother's'. They said, 'Eww, that's gross'.
When I don't use Head and Shoulders, my dandruff gets really bad. I know it's not supposed to be good for your hair, but nothing else I've tried really gets rid of my dandruff. Does this really make me a loser or a nerd? | openai_summarize |
met a girl online, she was the one. want to move to her next town but i have no idea if the distance is worth it. | Summarize the following paragraph: Backstory: we met on a social webcam site and we got to talking and had a really great conversation was super cute and just got my stupid sense of humor which to me was awesome, so we exchanged skype information and just started talking. we skype for hours and hours and then we talk on the phone its just hard because we live 1,412.4 miles away from each other. we have situations like i planned on moving to atlanta for college again and she wants to go to school near boston, but the distance is hard, i just know she could be the one because we have so much in common, she is smart, funny, and just knows how to make me feel better when things are in the dump, and i give her those butterflies that she loves so much. she is amazing we both have said we want to be together but the situation is what scares me...do i take the risk and move there or continue the long distance realtionship? | openai_summarize |
How do I begin math as an undergrad? | Summarize the following paragraph: I have recently decided to start an undergrad degree in math/physics out of personal interest at a state university, however I am 25 and have forgotten a lot of math. About a week ago, I got on Khan Academy and refreshed up on arithmetic and as of now, progressed to an understanding of basic algebra/systems of equations. I love math and wish to continue, however, I was looking at some of the math needed for physics in general and it would seem that I am sorely not ready as I do not even understand what some of the symbols mean. Is this math that I need to learn on my own, or will uni teach me this as part of undergrad curriculum?
I never studied algebra II/trig in high school, and have forgotten most geometry, basically I am starting from scratch (thank you khan academy!) | openai_summarize |
I believe my tinnitus is causing me to get tired much more easily and sleep less. Any advice on how to sleep? I love music and sleep. | Summarize the following paragraph: I'm a 21 year old girl and a classical musician. Last year somehow, I got tinnitus. I don't know how; perhaps a head-cold coinciding with a loud radio in my aunt's kitchen. I can't imagine it would be just the radio. I was always careful to avoid tinnitus - it sounded like a nightmare from the professional musicians I knew. Now I'm scared that I'll have to give up playing flute because even with earplugs my tinnitus gets louder and louder.
It has forced me to stay awake at night, caused me to lose concentration during my finals, makes me depressed for no other reason than fear of lack of sleep; it gets SO loud from lack of sleep and stress. My situation is aggravated by the fact I have ME/Chronic Fatigue Syndrome. I get exhausted easily, but then can't sleep because of the tinnitus, which stresses me out and then I get more tired but the tinnitus gets louder.
I feel like I haven't had real sleep in months. I find myself waking in the night hitting myself from sheer frustration that I'm not *actually* sleeping, or digging my nails into my skin. That freaks me out, because I'm not really fully awake when I do it. I guess I'm just so angry at the injustice of it all.
I feel anxious every time I'm in a quiet room because I'm scared I'll hear those horrid tones. I LOVED silence. I craved it. Now I listen to brown noise to try to get that bliss back.
I'm utterly depressed and can't sleep.
Are there any other Redditors who have tinnitus and can anyone give me advice on how to sleep? Music and radios keep me awake, but I try to sleep with brown noise on my ipod. | openai_summarize |
Turns out he just likes to spoil, and be helpful! Thank you for all the advice! | Summarize the following paragraph: Thank you for all the replies, and advice! I didn't expect so many responses!
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Alright, I called him yesterday to talk about it. I told him the gifts were lovely, and that I was very flattered, but also almost shocked at how big of a gesture after just one date. I told him it was a little forward, and that I just wanted to make sure we're on the same page. I also explained that I was worried about my daughter's ability to wear the necklace without losing/damaging it.
He apologized, and said the last thing he wanted to do was make me uncomfortable. He said he did it because it was Valentine's Day, and it made him feel good to give the gifts.
He admitted that when my sister had worked for him, she talked about me a lot, and how proud she was of how I handle being a single mother, without any financial help from others, and how incredibly strong she feels I am, having watched me deal with chronic illness. (I have Cystic Fibrosis.)
He said when he met me, he was very impressed, and proud. He said knowing a bit of my back story made it feel good to spoil me.
He also explained that he'd bought the same necklace for his niece who is about my daughter's age.
He doesn't expect anything from me, and didn't mean to cross any lines. He just thinks a lot of me. We're going to see a movie, when we both have time. | openai_summarize |