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Verizon lied about changing my plan, I called the police with audio of my phone giving them lie, they said I threatened them with a gun, I called the police again.
EDIT: I just found out that Verizon has a policy requiring customers to call to cancel a prepaid plan if they get charged for a data overage. | Summarize the following paragraph: I'll be honest: I know this is a crime, but I'm skeptical that anyone cares. My entire life has been underpinned with experiences of people hurting me illegally, but no one actually caring or doing anything about it except hurting me even more.
Here's the short of it. Early 2015, Verizon began offering prepaid plans which made sense. I changed my plan on the web site, my phone stopped working. I called Verizon customer service, they got my phone working again. They said that they successfully switched the phone to the new plan and everything was fine. I recorded this conversation.
A few months later, I suffer data overages. I discover this is because the previous representative lied, never actually changing my plan. He said he had done so. Therefore, all subsequent fees were the product of this error.
Ultimately, I spent a minimum twenty hours calling Verizon to no avail. I went to a corporate store, wherein I stood for three hours without resolution.
In the end, a Verizon store employee suggested I could come in the next day for a new phone with a new plan for all the inconvenience.
In the end, the Verizon store called the police and told them I threatened them with a gun, subsequently telling me I was banned from the store.
The audio recordings I have saved have me calling the store and definitely not threatening them, and I have subsequent calls from the police within the following hour telling me that I threatened them with a gun. | openai_summarize |
my partner [29M] has been posting sexually explicit photos and videos online and it's upsetting me. Am I over reacting or should I call it quits?
EDIT: I have no idea how to word this so sorry for that. | Summarize the following paragraph: I'm just so torn... Have been with my partner for 6 years and over the past 2 or so years we have had issues with him posting sexually explicit photos and video online of himself and sharing these with other men.
Since the first time we fought about this I've become a little more guarded and honestly he lost my trust a little bit.
Recently my gut was telling me that this behaviour had started again (or possibly never stopped) and sure enough I found new photos/video's posted online from 3-4 weeks ago... is online cheating really 'cheating'... is it time to call it quits... or am I over reacting.... maybe this isn't what it seems and is in part my fault as I have been distant.
Just feeling physically ill and emotionally drained at the moment | openai_summarize |
How do I tell my boyfriend I skipped my finals without causing him to think I'm a loser? | Summarize the following paragraph: 24/f, 29/m together for a year. I performed poorly in high school and B.A, while my boyfriend has done pretty well for himself.
Two months before my M.A finals, I decided to skip them because, it is of no use to score just pass marks with poor preparation. In view of my career goals, I need to be among the top-scorers otherwise I might as well drop out. I need at least four months of consistent hard-work to face exams with confidence.
But I did not tell any of this to my boyfriend who thinks I'm going to sit my finals this month. If i told him the truth, he would tag me a loser. I don't want to think I am a loser (read: any longer) because now I have completed a major chunk of my syllabus and my mock tests say I will do well.
But I have no spine to confess my admittedly loser-like act to my boyfriend. He already thinks that I'm delusional to set up a challenging career goal for myself, that I am not intellectually capable to perform well academically. | openai_summarize |
My girlfriend of 4 years broke up with me for lack of a better word.. I can't calm down and I feel terrible. | Summarize the following paragraph: I don't really know what to type.. I wont bore you with our story, however.. we tried again and this morning she told me she didnt want to try anymore (One of the reasons being that I take strong sleeping pills and if I stay awake to long whine Ive taken them, I start to say really strange shit, like hallucinating and stuff).. and as we spoke while I had taken one of them, I stayed up past the "deadline" and she got scared about what I said. I have no memory of what I said.
However, I was fine with her leaving when I was at work (She texted me).. but once I got home.. I just started to cry.
I don't know how to handle this shit.. Ive lost everything now. Everything makes me sad and I cant calm down. | openai_summarize |
I am extremely awkward and I want to take a friendship further. | Summarize the following paragraph: My friend and I met originally in high school and back then I was a spastic annoying little child. Since then I have matured grown a couple feet and definitely not changed too much. She and I definitely would butt heads jokingly in high school all the time, but we spent a lot of time together during it and definitely didn't try to avoid each other, but we weren't that close. We have always had a lot of similar interests, and connected easily. Over the past year we really reconnected and have been spending lots more times together. we are both busy adults so when time permits it at least we spend time together. We talk a lot and I have really been trying to taking things further, but to no avail. At one point we had an awkward night out that was similar to a date. I ended up kissing her and she freaked out and we didn't talk for 3 days and she had told me to leave and that it freaked her out. After a few weeks we left that in the past and are still close. I am positive that she freaked out only because she isn't used to that sort of thing and it wasn't because it was me in particular. Anyways I have been been doing my best to get closer, and last night 2 other close mutual friends, her and I had a night of games and drinking that ended up with her and I spending the night cuddled up together her couch. It was nothing sexual and we both kind of acted like nothing happened. Anyways to sum all that up I'm just confused and need an outside perspective. Any advice would be appreciated. | openai_summarize |
Coworker wanted relationship, denied her, I want to date someone else, I'll feel almost pressured into feeling bad about the co-worker. What do I do? | Summarize the following paragraph: Long story short, a coworker of mine really wanted to date me. I think she's a great person, and I've respectfully declined in the most sincere way possible, and she understood. Other coworkers seem to want to urge me to be with her, despite my intentions being very clear.
This is not the issue, necessarily.
More specifically;
I want to date someone who isn't a co-worker. I've been talking to another woman now for a short while, and we plan on going out soon, but I'm not sure how to go about this. Do I wait it out a bit?
Do I just go for it and not care? Any tips?
Thanks in advance! | openai_summarize |
She rejected me because she needs to focus on her studies and boyfriend needs to focus on his studies, what did I do wrong? | Summarize the following paragraph: I've liked this girl since junior year in highschool (both juniors in college now) We are similar in a multitude of ways and have natural chemistry. She goes to school 12 hours away and hadn't seen each other in ages until October when she came home. We both got drunk and ended up cuddling for the night. Since then we have been talking constantly via text. She came home for winter break, we were drunk again and the same thing happens. Despite our years apart I was starting to think we had a chance. Asked her to go sledding with me (so we can hang out sober) and we end up going to dinner and a movie as well. We continue to hang out and sleep together (although no sex) for a week or so. Both having lots of fun and she honestly seems really into it//bummed that she has to go back to school. Her best friend even hints that she wants me to make it official. She was getting ready to go back to college so I went to visit her last night. We talk and she admits to having had a crush on me since high-school as well. We kiss for the first time before I leave. She leaves for school the this morning and I call her to see if she wants to "make it official". I thought it was just a formality at this point as we had been acting similar to a couple for a few weeks. She doesn't answer (because she was driving) and she calls back later. We talk and I ask her but she rejects me saying it wouldn't be fair to me because she will be very busy and needs to focus on herself. I'm just stunned that she would put in the time and effort into what seemed to be a the foundations of a solid relationship if the plan really was never to make it serious in the end. What changed since I kissed her to when she rejected me (under 24 hours) or am I missing something else entirely? I guess I'm just wondering what went wrong. What did I do wrong? | openai_summarize |
Broke up with my crush and she's gone back to her ex, how do I tell her that I love her without making the situation awkward? | Summarize the following paragraph: I had a crush on a good friend for like 5 years and tried asking her out once, which went well but I never followed through because she was moving away soon. Finally last November my friend mentioned to her that I liked her and we started talking frequently. We "dated" throughout most of December while she was in town and I finally lost my virginity towards the end of December. As a precursor to all of this she made sure that I was looking for something serious and not just sex.
Well she went back to her college town in January and anything of a romantic nature stopped and we slowed down considerably on how much we talk. She started seeing a new guy and has been since then. They aren't in a relationship, but are exclusive, which is confusing as fuck. She has tried ending it several times, but always ends up giving it another try. We've been talking pretty frequently, much more so lately. About a month ago I ended up telling her I loved her, which went over really well considering how crazy it was. A couple days ago she told me that her friends are advising her that we shouldn't be hanging out or even talking due to her feelings towards me, but she wouldn't ever consider that. She told me there's something she needs to tell me, but it wouldn't be fair to her current guy to do it now and that I'm dense for not realizing what it is. This is all incredibly frustrating.
Oh and she's my +1 to a wedding in a few weeks, which would be awesome if she was single or with me. | openai_summarize |
How do I tell my gossiping friend that I don't want her at my wedding without hurting her feelings. | Summarize the following paragraph: I have this friend from high school who I occasionally enjoy spending time with, but she can also be very irritating. She has a lot of friends and always talks about everyone and tells me confidential stuff about herself and others. The past few years we haven't seen each other frequently, we kind of grew apart. We were both a part of a group of girls who stuck together and I voluntarily dropped out of the group, and now I'm only seeing this particular friend.
My problem is that she is expecting an invitation for my wedding next year, but I don't really want her to participate. My reasons are:
1. She always brags about how popular she is and how many random weddings she has attended. It really bothers me and I feel like a need to crush her ego a little. Yeah I know it is a bit immature, but I am sure you know a person like this.
2. My wedding won't be fairy-tale-like. My fiancé and I have small families and almost no friends (we're both introverts). Also we have no ambitions of spending lot of money on the wedding. I imagine I'll be constantly nervous on my big day because of all the imperfections, and how much she'll talk to others about it.
3. I really don't like her boyfriend. But don't think I can invite her without telling her to not bring a plus 1.
My question is, how can I tell her that she is not invited to my wedding without hurting her feelings? Even though we have some issues, she is still my friend and I enjoy spending time with her once in a while, and most important she's one of the only friends I left. | openai_summarize |
Got two tickets, one got my plate number wrong. I need to pay them. | Summarize the following paragraph: I was visiting New York City. I found a spot that I thought was fine and parked there for 2 days and got 2 tickets. I was parked too close to a hydrant.
I just finally got the money to take care of them, but when I went online to pay them there was only one outstanding citation. It was at this point that I noticed one of the tickets got my plate number wrong!
What I'm wondering now is if I'm off the hook for this ticket. Is there anyway this can get back to me? Or do I have 130 extra dollars that I thought were gone forever? | openai_summarize |
My [37F] husband [45] has midlife crisis. He is bored of his marriage and wants to cheat with the girls at his job. I'm afraid he's going to cheat because he's bored of his wife. | Summarize the following paragraph: We have been together for so long, and had an amazing marriage. We have always been happy and rarely even fight. But he had his 45th birthday last week, and was having anxiety over it and saying he's old and all sorts of stuff.
He admitted to me that he is bored in the marriage, and feels like his life is wasting away. We don't have much sex anymore, he works a lot and is tired.. And I dunno, maybe not attracted to me. I think I'm too old. There are so many young girls at his job, I'm afraid he's going to cheat on me because he's bored of his wife.
I haven't let myself go, I work really hard everyday to look nice and make him happy.. I haven't gained any weight.. So I'm afraid he just doesn't like me because I'm not a 20something year old girl and he doesn't like that. How do I make him happy and want me again? | openai_summarize |
Cameras caught me having drunken sex at friends house after a party. Friend refuses to delete video. | Summarize the following paragraph: Back story:
Following a night out with a group of friends to celebrate a birthday, we were all invited over our longtime friend's house for an after party. It was getting really late and we had some drinks, so rather than drive home our host graciously offered to let us all spend the night.
I was set up on air mattress in the living room where, after everyone else had fallen asleep, my partner and I had sex. Little did we know there are security cameras all over the house that record everything. In a guest bedroom another couple was also unknowingly having sex on camera.
I didn't take long for our host to find out that we were all having sex at his house. He let us know that he found out because an alarm was tripped when a door was opened (I went on the patio) and a photo sent to his phone.
As soon as I found out I apologized. He's pissed. He can't believe we had sex at his house. He feels disrespected and inconvenienced that he now has to change all these sheets, and even believes the air mattress to be ruined (it's totally not). Issues which we believe pale in comparison to being unknowingly recorded while having sex.
My partner, and the other couple, are so embarrassed that it was all on camera. We feel violated. I trust my friend won't do anything with the footage, but, despite assures us he hasn't/won't watch it, he refuses to delete it.
The biggest issue, in my opinion, isn’t the sex tape then. It's our friendship. He has absolutely no reason to keep the footage, and every reason to delete it, yet he won't.
Now, here's my question: am I the bad guy, or is he? Yes, I probably shouldn't have had drunken sex in his living room, but shouldn't a longtime friend delete such sensitive material if we are all asking him to? | openai_summarize |
girlfriend is really bad texter and it makes me feel like she doesn't want to talk to me and doesn't care about me. How should I handle the situation? | Summarize the following paragraph: Hey everyone, so I've been in a relationship with this girl for about 4 months. And she's a really bad texter or atleast in my opinion she is and I need an outside viewpoint. We're both in our freshman year of university and we're both pretty busy so when we text I put in the effort to have a good conversation with her, asking how her day was and telling her about mine etc. When she texts back she always uses short answers like cool, nice, sweet, and it honestly makes me feel like she doesn't care to talk to me which frankly stresses me out. I'll say "have a good night" and she'll respond with "okay". I hope I'm not the only one who sees the issue with this. Anyway, I've put it off as she's a bad texter for now but it's gotten to where she does it so much that I honestly feel like she doesn't care to talk to me at all. I don't want to be the guy that confronts her about texting because it kind of seems ridiculous but I feel like shit sometimes and it ruins my day. Writing this post has helped me a little bit but some outside input would be amazing. What should I do? Should I confront her? Should I just stop putting in the effort when texting? I really like this girl. | openai_summarize |
I told a stupid lie that blew into a huge fight that I wanted to avoid. How do I fix things so he's not second guessing everything? | Summarize the following paragraph: Backstory: My boyfriend and I have been together for almost two years and we have a child together. He's very into open communication, which is something that has always been very hard for me. I'm trying to be more open with him. But it's a learning process for me.
Anyway, a few days ago we went to visit some family and I went to pick up some food for everyone. I also stopped to visit a female friend at my old workplace. I thought my SO would be upset that I did. When I returned, he asked if I stopped by and I said no. Because I didn't want a silly argument. (Yes, I should have something so small, but I don't like confrontation and fighting so I thought I would skip the fight.) Yesterday, due to a message I received from my friend, SO found out. He was really angry. Not because I stopped by, but because I lied. Which I completely understand. I messed up. But now he's second guessing everything. I don't lie usually. But that was just something that didn't matter. So I didn't think it was a big deal. But of course, I made it an even bigger fight. He told me he didn't care if I stopped by but since I lied, I ruined things.
Is there a way to fix this? Do I just let him be until he seems okay? Or do I talk to him? I don't even know what to say. | openai_summarize |
3 years 4 month relationship might end because shes sorting out feeling she may have for another guy, would I be a dumb for letting her sort them out and taking her back? | Summarize the following paragraph: As I said we have been together for 3 years and four months and recently we broke up. We broke up because at her work she met a guy who she hung out with after work behind my back, what she told me is they ended up kissing and cuddling. BUT she came back to me the same night crying, and saying she was sorry, because she knows what she did was wrong.
I suppose my question is although I would take her back in a heart beat. Shes now at a point that shes confused and isnt sure if she loves this guy or wants to still be with me. I dont know myself if im okay with letting her trying to be with a guy who shes known for maybe a few months and hung out with ONCE (after work) and then take her back?
I need some serious advice please
shes the love of my life, and the best friend of mine, I wouldnt ever wanna lose her. | openai_summarize |
Have some pre-paid legal coverage to help with medical stuff, what other legal documents should I consider getting? | Summarize the following paragraph: [USA]
I have already subscribed for some pre-paid legal coverage to get some documents drawn up I've come to understand that everyone should have. The coverage does not cover anything business-related, but does include general legal services. In the past few months I've had drawn up:
* a will
* a durable power of attorney (financial)
* an advanced medical directive / living will
Are there any other legal documents should I consider getting drawn up while I still have free general legal assistance for the next few months? I think I have most of the general bases covered, but am I missing anything folks commonly need from the above list?
thank you! | openai_summarize |
Potential girlfriend maintains very emotional and deep relationship with ex-bf. Says she wants to date me, but that she isn't ready to kick ex out of her life. I'm not comfortable with the idea of "sharing" her with someone she once loved. | Summarize the following paragraph: I've been talking to this girl in my class for the past few weeks, often late into the night/morning. We've really been hitting it off well, and there is definitely a lot of mutual trust. We have both been very open about our pasts, previous Significant Others, our feelings towards each other, etc.
We just went on our first date, and she admitted to me that she is still in regular contact with her first boyfriend, who she dated for two years. Though they are no longer "dating," they occasionally meet up for movie nights, hang out, talk all the time on the phone, and tell each other everything; she says that he was the first guy she was ever physical with, she feels emotionally attached to him, and says he has developed a dependency on her. (Apparently the last time they broke up, he spiraled into a really bad depression.)
She has explicitly expressed hope that she and I will develop a romantic relationship, however she was also clear that she does not feel ready to take Old Flame out of her life.
I really like her, and I am fairly certain she doesn't have any sort of physical relationship with this guy anymore, but I feel uneasy about her keeping up such a deep emotional relationship with someone else.
I don't think it's fair to give her a him-or-me ultimatum, and I really don't want to lose her, but I don't like the feeling that I'm sharing her affections and attention with this other guy.
How should I proceed? | openai_summarize |
Girlfriend is texting me constantly, how do I stop it without compromising on our relationship? | Summarize the following paragraph: Like the title says, I recently broke it off after a year and 3 months. Long story short after 7 months of weekly fights and nothing changing despite my efforts, I felt it was time to call it. There are still feelings, there always are - break ups don't hurt because we don't feel things.
The thing is we were long distance, and I made a lot of things for her to remind her of what we had. She is going through them now and is feeling stuff. Every time she comes across something, she texts me. I don't want to know what she's feeling. I can't trust that she isn't trying to keep me on the hook anyway possible.
It's at the point where she fills my inbox with texts. I'm talking 10-20 new messages an hour. Phone calls and voicemails. She won't stop and I can't heal. How do I stop this? | openai_summarize |
Should I have a LDR with my best friend and then try to transfer to her school? | Summarize the following paragraph: We've known each other since Sophomore year (we're both seniors now), and she told me she liked me ever since that class I had with her 2 years ago. So fast forward and here we are now, happy as can be and I'm dating a girl I can also call my best friend. First semester is already coming to an end, and I'm concerned.
I've heard success stories and tragedies about high school sweethearts going to college and maintaining a LDR. My parents are moving to Seattle or Portland in the upcoming summer and I'll be going with them since I'll be attending community college. She is going away to either Arizona or staying in California for college. What I'm asking is, based on experience, should I try to maintain a LDR for two years and then transfer to her school? I know we've only been dating for a month and so much more can change, but we both love each other and want to make plans for after high school.
I want to add that I'm not going to be that boyfriend who skypes her every night and will get super mad if she experiments, I mean it's college and I'm looking forward to that too. So I would tell her that and give her freedom, but to still be committed to having a relationship with me. | openai_summarize |
My ex just lost what little remained of her friend network. Am I dumb to try to support her two month's after our break up? | Summarize the following paragraph: So short backstory of relationship. We broke up just past two months ago when I found out she was planning to cheat. She wasn't entirely to blame, I was depressed and wanted no bedroom time for half a year. This hurt her emotionally, a lot... That relationship was screwed from the word go.
Long story,
Here you go it's a wall of text!
Which leads to today's problems. My ex has just been cut off from what remained of her "friends". REALLY long story cut REALLY short. She cut a toxic person out of her life. They tried to bring her back. The friends didn't like it when my ex told them no, repeatedly... So they cut my ex out of their lives.
Now this is where my question get's asked. The only people that my ex has left in her life on a social scale is me, and the guy that she could have cheated on me with and his girlfriend. (Which she isn't even close to either, go figure!)
I want to be there for her during this time. Not because she's my ex, or because I still love her (I unfortunately still do...) But because past everything we were and are still great friends. But would I be hurting her by this?
What do you think Reddit? Am I being dumb here, or can I actually be there for her? | openai_summarize |
Dating guy who doesn't want to be 'tied down' right now, but I'm growing some serious feelings for him. I need to be told to break it off, tell me to break it off and also your horror stories form your similar situations to scare me straight. | Summarize the following paragraph: I'm 22f seeing a 26m, we'll call him M.
Basically I like M a lot, we've been seeing each other for a little over a month. He works in computers, is fun, sarcastic, a little aloof but slowly opening up, I can mentally and verbally spar with him in good fun. We have a great time together and the sex is really good. I think I'm starting to fall for him.
The catch is over the weeks we've touched on the topic of an official relationship and his answers morphed from 'I dunno what I want right now'-which I honestly believe was his honest answer at the time to 'I don't want to feel obligated to do things/spend time together or be tied down' now.
I don't need a giant commitment from him now, but I'd like to know at some point in the future there's a chance for it. When I though he just didn't know what he wanted I thought I would just wow him with how awesome and not crazy I am and he'd fall for me. Now the not wanting to be tied down, gah, fuck. Eh. I need to cut him off. Distance myself, something. We both really like the set up we have, seeing each other once a week, texting several times a week and in general really enjoying each other's company when we're together.
So what do I do from here? His work schedule is crazy so we can only see each other on weekends and I'm going out of town for the next weekend, so we won't see each other for two weeks. I'd like to have this conversation in person, but I think I should call him.
What do I say? Do I just say I don't think I can keep seeing him if there's no chance for something more in the future. Just say I don't want to see him anymore. Fuck. I don't want to stop seeing him. I need someone who lived through this to tell me what I need to hear. | openai_summarize |
Boyfriend finds small issues with so many things, including stuff I plan for him. Starting to feel like crap. | Summarize the following paragraph: My boyfriend was originally so excited and positive about everything, but now that we've been together for a few months, he's always finding something to complain about.
Restaurants never have the right fancy liquor for craft cocktails, the entertainment is "cheap and tacky", the lighting is too dim. I planned us a big trip to France, and he kept nitpicking and finding things that were wrong with it. We had dinner with a couple who said they could "stay here an extra week" (which I agreed with!), and he replied "I think I'd get bored".
I guess he's just honest, but sometimes it's nice to be appreciative when someone puts in effort to make you happy.
I'm trying not to be insecure, but these things start to hurt my feelings and make it seem like nothing impresses him. | openai_summarize |
wife hates my requirements for work as a powersports salesman. She also thinks I'm staring at every single female around me. | Summarize the following paragraph: I work for a powersports retail company. In this type of business, which is aimed at men who ride all types of motorcycles, usually involved promo models at venues that feature female wait staff or large rallys and meet ups. There are also many, many more men as that is largest demographic for our business.
She continues to have issues with me at these events where I'll be working with promo models that I hire to interact with customers. This is not a unique thing to just my company. Others do it to much greater extremes.
I'm tired of being asked if there are promo models around when she knows there are or she makes a comment about an event I'm required for my job to attend and work at.
There doesn't seem to be a way to bring her around. She constantly thinks I'm staring checking out every single female around me.
Any suggestions OTHER than why did I marry someone so much younger? | openai_summarize |
I don't get a gift for being a little bitch. How do I not seem like a greedy ass? | Summarize the following paragraph: At the risk of sounding like a materialistic ass, I am posting this.
My fiancee has never been good at gift giving with me. I have never gotten a birthday or anniversary gift. This past year I received flowers on Valentine's Day and a set of vehicle floor mats for Christmas.
I have tried talking to him about it. It is not just about getting money spent on me. I see a gift as a reflection of the feelings you have about a person and a reassurance that they were thinking of you.
I do really enjoy getting gifts. It would be nice to even get one for no reason except that he was thinking of me. Again, not all about money. Sometimes when I am out, I will get him his favorite candy or something he mentioned wanting or needing for no reason, just to make him happy esp when he wasn't expecting anything.
This is starting to affect my self-esteem. I felt hurt when I got nothing on Mother's Day and my birthday, and it makes me sad that I can never look forward to any little surprises from him. I would like to be spoiled a little bit, and the longer this goes on I feel like I am not worth any effort.
How do I solve this without looking like a greedy ass? | openai_summarize |
Lost 115 lbs. Sleep apnea went away. Had a sleep study yesterday, but I got rid of the mask and CPAP machine and now I can sleep normally again!** | Summarize the following paragraph: Guys, today is a HUGE day for me.
I was diagnosed with SEVERE sleep apnea around January, which is when I decided to start losing weight.
For those that don't know, obstructive sleep apnea is when your airway collapses when you sleep (usually from being fat) and you stop breathing, making you wake up for a few seconds, and then fall back asleep. It is a serious medical condition that causes all sorts of medical problems.
I was 274 pounds at 26 years old, and I was tired of it. I had to get a CPAP machine, which is a big machine with a mask you wear while you sleep that forces air down your throat. Not fun, and very tough to get used to. To make matters worse, it would leave red marks on my face all day from wearing the mask at night.
So last night, after losing 115 pounds since January (after 9 months of calorie-counting, I'm now 159.2 lbs), I had another sleep study to see if I still have the sleep apnea.
This morning, the sleep technician came in and said my weight-loss cured my sleep apena, and I can get rid of the mask and CPAP machine!!
I can sleep normal again!!
Thanks again to everyone here for all the help and support!! | openai_summarize |
Girlfriend saw my FB search history and is questioning it. Don't know what to say or do... | Summarize the following paragraph: Our relationship is very strong and has been from day 1. I have nothing to hide and leave my FB on or my phone laying around with no password for access or anything like that. I'm very open with her because I trust her.
Today I was in the bathroom and she hopped on my computer to use Facebook. As I was still logged on, she saw that I had recently searched for a name of a person I was seeing about 2 years ago and had been for only a month or so at the time. She then saw that I routinely searched her name (which is true). The thing is, I use Facebook to creep. I like to just look at people's pictures and posts. As we are not friends on Facebook, I would have to type her name in which shows up on the activity wall on FB. So of course it looks bad as it shows I've searched her name once a week or so. I wouldn't sit their and gaze a pictures or read wall posts for long durations or anything like that. I'd pop on for a minute at most and then just look at something else.
I have zero feelings for this person and I absolutely love my girlfriend. I just like to creep people I used to hang out with just out of sheer curiosity. Of course I have search results for other people, but this one happened to have the most searches and now she is questioning if I still like this person (I don't!). My girlfriend never questions anything and fully trusts me but when she saw this, she was obviously devastated and I feel like shit because of it. There's really nothing more to this than creeping out of curiosity. I don't know what to tell her or what to do? | openai_summarize |
My boyfriend won't stop talking to his ex, I don't know what to do. | Summarize the following paragraph: My boyfriend and I just started dating (about 3 months), but have been best friends since we were 13 and 14. His ex broke up with him over a year ago, however, he texts this girl all the time and sends her pictures of random internet stuff he thinks she'll find amusing. Also, he indicated to her that he would be going down to visit her (she lives 4.5 hours away) sometime this month. We've gotten into a couple arguments about it and I finally was clear about my feelings on the situation a few days ago: that I don't want him to talk to her anymore and I don't want him to visit her. He agreed that he would do this, and then told me last night that he was really upset about it and that he didn't want to stop talking to her anymore. I have no idea what to do. Additionally, we have a little bit of drama revolving around me having very HL and him LL, which, in conjunction with this situation, is making me super insecure. How do I deal with this? | openai_summarize |
relationship was going screwy, ex-g.f decided to hook up with a guy in another state and lie about everything, found out at the last minute (I was to pick her up for a date) and then told me to fuck off completely and lead me on the past 3 times we've talked, I am almost suicidial with just the mere fact I want these feelings to go away after almost an entire year.. | Summarize the following paragraph: Backstory:
Last year (and the year previous) I was in love and dating an amazing girl, there was a lot of B/S that happened, (I moved to Ohio for a week from the south and returned) that caused a downward spiral into us just fighting. She played/plays wow, and ignored me all the time and we tried patching things numerous times. Then I find out she was cheating on me with a guy she met on wow (lame i know) A bunch of shit happened that made me go pretty much catatonic/depressed to the point where I find daily life a year later a horrible task.
I am currently dating a girl, but it feels I am trying to mold her into who/what my ex was to me, I break down constantly and she will have to administer klonopin as I start to have hyperventilation issues.
Currently I am sitting at work freaking out, on the verge or a nervous breakdown...I found her facebook, I messaged her email with a long thought out message asking to talk politely about the situation to maybe give me some closure but then I sent like 3 more emails due to no response...I cannot function reddit, when I freak out I think about hurting myself horribly...im 25...i am well adjusted socially, yet at night+driving home+driving to work+pretty much randomly all the time I burst into tears and begin a full blown panic attack that crushes my soul...It feels like nothing will ever be the same...I dont want to live without her...I need help...I know I should go to therapy..I know I should seek help..but I've tried and my work's health insurance doesnt cover it. How can I get over this...my usual method is to just bottle it up and cloud my head with as much meaningless bullshit as possible from reading the net until I hit a spot or see an old photo of us that a friend has on facebook....last night I had a major breakdown to where my current SO (who is amazingly understanding) forced a klonopin into my mouth... | openai_summarize |
graduated last year, did an internship. that didn't turn into a full time entry level job. feels stuck. | Summarize the following paragraph: Well first off I would like to say I've been on reddit for a while but have not post anything until now. This might be a rant.
So I graduated last year in May 2012 with a BA, and did some volunteer work like some of you suggested since I couldn't get something I wanted. I then got an offer for an internship and did the internship that ended recently, but it started in Feb of this year. I feel like I basically did nothing this whole year since graduation as I have nothing to show for it. The internship didn't work out (in terms of translating to a full time job) Does anyone have any suggestions of what I should do? I've been applying to dozens of jobs and the economy is suppose to be better here in the greater LA area, but I've only heard back from 3-4 of the 80+ jobs I've applied to so far. | openai_summarize |
I've lost a ton of weight and am ready to start a new challenge. Post your progress pics! | Summarize the following paragraph: I lost a ton of weight in grad school, and basically put all of it back on in the 6 months between graduating and getting my first industry job. Ever since I moved I was committed to getting back in shape, and finish my goal of having a flat stomach and feeling comfortable running shirtless and going swimming. No idea what my end scale goal is, but I'd like my BF% to be 12-10%. I've still got a lot of work to do, but I've been taking pictures every so often and I feel like I'm in a good place to start sharing them!
6 days a week I'm running/rucking a 5k with anywhere from 21lbs to 55lbs in the morning before work. I'm on a push/legs/pull split Mon/Wed/Fri at the gym for about an hour or so of high intensity 4x8s or 3x15s with supersets. I also go to an hour long bootcamp Tue/Thur after work. I've been eating at a deficit around 1750-2000cal and cutting down on sugar, carbs, and booze. I was on some BCAAs for a while in the morning, but my most regular supplement is just Whey isolate after working out. | openai_summarize |
I was found to be in a domestic violence situation, and now I am afraid my ex boyfriend might find out I was abused. Help? | Summarize the following paragraph: First off, I'm not even sure if I am posting this in the right place, but I couldn't really think of anywhere else to post.
I am going to a counselor because my ex boyfriend was mentally, physically, and sexually abusive towards me. I want to get my life back on track again. We have been broken up since July and I haven't had any contact with him in close to two months. Today was my first meeting with my counselor and she asked me if the ex had ever hit me in front of his son, or if he ever abused or neglected him. I told her he treated his son okay, but he had smacked me around a couple of times in front of the kid, and played it off as if "we were just playing."
She said she had to report this. I assuming to social services? She said it would be totally anonymous, and nothing about me would be mentioned. She said whoever she was reporting this to would make a phone call to him to "check up on him" if it was even deemed worthy of being investigated.
I am terrified that he is going to figure out it was me somehow. I am scared, because he comes from a "Deliverance-like" family who'd have no problem making sure I went missing somewhere down in the bayou despite the consequences.
I would like to note that he has an ex-wife who is always pulling this stuff on him. (i.e. "omg my son has a bruise, my ex husband is raping him!")
Anyway, I would like to know what this whole ordeal, reporting, checking-up, all of this generally consists of, and if they are going to give any information that would trace it back to me, or what the odds are that he would be able to figure out it was me would be. ALSO, what should I say or do if he does figure out it was, or is suspicious of me?
If I should post this somewhere else, please let me know. Thanks for the help! | openai_summarize |
gf has ex bf relationship post as the first viewable thing non friends can see, not sure if she knows or not. | Summarize the following paragraph: So my gf (21) and me (24) made our relationship of 3is months "official" by putting it on Facebook the other day. Only problem is when friends and family now stalk her profile she has her last relationship thing on it as the first thing that comes up because it's pinned, once your friends with her you can't see it unless you scroll through like a year of posts so I'm not even sure she knows. It was over a year ago and they took it off fb but the initial post is still there. How do I go about telling her I want her to hide or remove it. Am I over thinking this? | openai_summarize |
I got my boyfriend something for our anniversary, he got me nothing. I know he doesn't like to make a big deal out of romantic events, but I think they're important and he knows that too, should I be upset? | Summarize the following paragraph: He came to pick me up, knowing I wanted to spend time with him that day, and we spent a good amount together. I got him something thoughtful (he liked it, said it was very sweet of me), he has said he "doesn't like to make a big deal out of these things" previously (which I take to mean romantic events) and didn't get me anything, not even a card knowing these are a bigger deal to me, should I be upset? My rational brain says that if that's the way he is and if he still loves me then I shouldn't care, but then the hopeless romantic in me says that it's just an excuse and that if he really cared he'd want to do more. My upbringing has taught me that giving gifts, those little things, are important, but his is different and they didn't even make his birthday a big deal. My family knows about our anniversary yesterday, and I'm afraid/embarrassed of telling them he got me nothing. I feel like they're going to judge him and think he doesn't appreciate me (we have previously gone through a period where he wasn't treating me right and we're getting better), while I would like to be shown more appreciation, I'm willing to work through it. Help, I'm all kinds of confused. | openai_summarize |
What are some other alternative cancer treatments that people have tried and say worked?**
Thanks! | Summarize the following paragraph: Hi all,
Hopefully this is the right forum :). My dad got diagnosed with pancreatic cancer (acinar cell carcinoma) about a month ago and recently started chemotherapy. There's a lot of literature out there about all sorts of herbal remedies that people have taken in order to (purportedly) boost their immune system, help their body get rid of toxic chemicals, etc. My dad came across this website: and asked me to do some research. The scientist (and cynic) in me takes one look at it and thinks it's a scam, trying to get people to cave in when they're weakest, but interestingly enough, some of the products (like zeolite), I've heard about from other places too.
So I'm wondering if anyone has personally or knows someone who's tried these sorts of things and can testify they work? Some of the products the website talks about are zeolite, Oxy-E, and other things to help "cleanse and balance" the body. I think most of it is baloney, but at the same time, my dad is in stage IV, so I feel like I should explore as many routes as possible. | openai_summarize |
I need advice on breaking up with a long term SO who is living with me. | Summarize the following paragraph: I'm a 24m who currently lives with a 24f. We've been living together for basically 2 years now.
Originally things were really good together, we had a lot of fun, talked a lot, sex was good, we were in love. But over the past year or so all of that has just 'naturally' completely vanished. It happened in such a slow manner that I didn't pick up on it until it was too late.
We no longer kiss or hug or do anything really. There is no conversation and she works nights so it's not like I even really see her.
Basically though I am planning to call it off. The problem is that we are living together and the rent agreement doesn't end until September. I was planning to break it off this weekend but have no idea how the approach it as I've never done it before and I'm really worried about the aftermath. | openai_summarize |
Went from friends to more than friends with a girl. First time trying to get serious with someone of the opposite sex. Want to know what I can do to try and have her open up more and help out our communication without scaring her off. | Summarize the following paragraph: Last September I met a girl who lives on the same floor of our college dorms as I do. We became friends and started hanging out a bit and I began to develop feelings for her. I wanted to tell her how I felt but I am very inexperienced with the opposite gender and just being around her made me extremely nervous.
Fast forward to last month and I finally got the courage to tell her how I felt and we ended up hooking up a week later. Things were good the next couple of days and she even spent the night a couple of times.
The reason for this post is that I feel there is still a communication barrier between us. Often times when we are talking we will run out of things to say and there will be an awkward silence where I don't know what to say. I also feel like I am the one who has to initiate everything (whether it's texting, kissing, or hanging out in general) and I get the feeling that I might be annoying her a little bit. I go back and forth between whether she really likes me or if it is just a convenience thing. My gut tells me to just be straight up and talk to her about this but I am worried if I dump all this on her then it will scare her away. I want to try and give this thing a real chance at something more than just a fling but I haven't been able to take her out on a proper date since we have finals next week and spring break right after.
Am I over obsessing about all of this? I just want some sort of advice on how to try and get her to open up more or what I should do so that I don't mess things up. | openai_summarize |
My ex-gf (25F) and I (23M) just got back together and she's now telling everyone how to break up with me. Does anyone know a decent place to stay that isn't so tied to our families? | Summarize the following paragraph: Been with this girl for two years almost. Last 2 months were LDR while I finished my military service.
Well it was a terrible time for both of us as we argued the entire time. Well we made up and she picked me up from the airport and now we live together.
I got a message from a mutual friend a few days ago that was quite distressing. Apparently she has been asking everyone how to break up with me and telling them it isn't the same anymore.
I chose to live with her away from my family and just got a job here. I just feel hurt and I don't know what to do. | openai_summarize |
Girlfriend broke up with me, I am confused about what to do next because she is seeing a councilor, and wants me to remain friends. | Summarize the following paragraph: Hey everyone,
My Girlfriend (20) and I (21) just broke up last week after 2 and a half years.
However, she told me she is not sure if it is forever, and she is seeing a councilor about some things in her life, and about us possibly getting back together to work on things. She told me she still loves me and cares about me, but right now she does not want to be together. She told me she is "waiting for something to happen." yet she doesn't know what.
She says while we are broken up we should remain friends. We are partners on a group project for school that we need to work on together. We attend the same class of only 20 people every MWTh I understand I need to be courteous and professional along those lines, and that I want to be, but how do I deal with seeing her so often? I want to get back together with her, but at the same time I'm agitated about her basically stringing me along and not saying if we're really done or not. | openai_summarize |
Parents are racist against my boyfriend and won't let up. I need to do something about this situation. | Summarize the following paragraph: Hello reddit, and thank you for reading! So, I have been dating my boyfriend for almost two years now, and we have known each other for almost three. I really feel that he is the love of my life, although I realize I'm young, and he feels the same way. We will be moving in together next fall, and I will be visiting his family in Egypt next winter, something I'm super excited for.
The problem arises with my family; we're Russian, any my parents do NOT accept the fact that the two of us are dating. I told them, they met him about 3 months ago (ish), and now they never bring him up in conversation and are kind of just waiting for us to break up, not taking the relationship seriously. When they had him over the one time, there was just this tension in the air like he wasn't welcome, and before meeting him they've expressed countless times their disapproval of the relationship. If it isn't clear, the disapproval comes from the fact that he is Egyptian (Muslim family), and my family is Russian (half Jewish to ice the cake). When I saw my mother today she kept telling me that I should keep my eye out for other guys. Obviously, it's really shitty for me to keep hearing these things and shitty for my boyfriend to have to deal with this. Since we're moving in together, I'm going to have to tell my family at some point.
I come here to ask for advice on how to handle this situation most effectively. I foresee it getting really ugly, and I don't think there's a way out of that, but I am just looking for some insight here, maybe from someone who has encountered a similar situation? I'm really at a loss here. My boyfriend suggests taking a rather aggressive approach with my family and placing a sort of ultimatum on them, but I don't know about that. For the record, his parents do not share these racist feelings and will be happy to meet me this winter. | openai_summarize |
My divorced mother is trying to speak with me, I don't know how to respond because she's been cheating on my father. | Summarize the following paragraph: To shorten the story, my birth mom cheated on my father and got divorced, I don't remember her much except a physical fight she had with my grandmother. Over the years I would talk with her once in awhile and she would give me birthday gifts and such, then as I became older and more associated with social media I here further apart as I was told to block her on all mediums. Then around June she got ahold of my number from a friend and started texting me. At first it was just hey, I miss you. Then it starts to become more desperate as she talks about how she regrets what she's done and deserves it, but still loves me and my sister very much. Then, on my birthday she texts me again as well as the Fourth of July. Each time sounding more and more desperate, also the friend who she got the my number from also texts me about how desperate she sounded. The last time she texted me was August 4 with just a hey how are you? I love you. I haven't replied to a single text of hers because I don't know what to say. And speaking to her is discouraged. It just makes me alittle sad because all she wants are some words with me but i don't know how to respond because the last memory I have of her is her fighting my grandma. | openai_summarize |
My girlfriend [17] and I [21/F] are both in relationships, but she has generalized anxiety disorder, and I don't know why I can't feel like we're just friends. | Summarize the following paragraph: I'm going to try and make this short because I just have one simple question that I want answered. There is a whole other story that I could tell and I probably will in a separate post, but I want this one to be simple. Also I didn't know which flair to use, it was either this or "personal issues" I chose "relationships" because it is mainly specific to this relationship I am in, because I have other friends that are girls.
Basically, my girlfriend [17] has been having some stress recently, and she has generalized anxiety disorder, so when she worries it kind of grows and spreads to other things that she shouldn't be worrying about. This stress has eventually gotten to her not knowing if she wants to be in the relationship anymore. She says she still likes me, but she needs to figure out the other stuff and that maybe we should just be friends.
That is where my problem comes in. I still love her and have feelings for her and all of that (and I'm pretty sure she feels fairly similar, I still have to talk to her more about that.) but being just friends does not sit right with me. For example, just today (after she said that she didn't think we should be together) she was complimenting me and saying she was proud of me. Usually hearing those things from her would make me so happy, but with the thought that we are just friends, it just didn't mean as much.
I have been trying to think of an answer as to why I feel this way and the best explanation I can think of right now is that I still love her and have feelings for her and am attracted to her, and if we were just friends I feel like I should not have those feelings and I can't do anything about it. Like I still want to hug, kiss, cuddle (etc.) all those things that people in relationships do, and if we are just friends and I still feel that way, it just doesn't feel right to me. So I am just looking for an answer as to why I can't seem to be just friends. | openai_summarize |
LDR GF denying sex after constant sexting/camsex. I'm shocked and betrayed, and I don't really feel like talking to her as much | Summarize the following paragraph: Hello reddit
My LDR girlfriend of six months told me yesterday that she wasn't ready to lose her virginity at this age. This was to my surprise because we have been sexting and talking about sex a lot during the entire relationship.
I have met her before and we did fool around a lot. Granted, we didn't have sex, but a lot of other occurrences took place. During the time we have been apart, we have sexted, had camsex and basically built up for what was going to be a great sex life.
I'll be visiting her home country to shop with my peers and therefore suggested that we meet up, go to my hotel and do what we have been waiting for. After that, we'll do everything else we would be able to do for the time I'm there.
Surprisingly, she turns me down. She says that "we have too little time" to go to a hotel, and she rather prefers to do other activities. I tell her that we sure will have enough time (we'll see each other for 6 hours) but she doesn't buy it, and I understood that she doesn't want sex.
I feel cheated and betrayed. I understand her reasoning which is cultural and has to do with keeping it for marriage, but I don't understand why she accepted how much we sexted, leading me to expect far too much. I had an ex who also denied me from sex and it didn't last long at all - I grew sexually frustrated and felt unappreciated.
I have been without sex for a year and it hasn't been the best of times because I have a really high libido. It's cruel that I have applied for uni in the girl's country (something I've wanted, not based on her) and she doesn't even want to offer her virginity to me.
Now I don't really feel like talking to her as much. I do love her but I don't wanna go through what I went through with my ex. I do NOT wanna wait for marriage either because imo, it's plain stupid.
What advice do u have for me?
EDT: grammar | openai_summarize |
Broke up with my boyfriend of 1.5 years after an argument, and now feel like a horrible person. | Summarize the following paragraph: Hey there, just needed a little guidance/support here, if you can. My partner and I have been on and off for over a year. I have broken up with him a few times, but we always make up and then the cycle continues. Anyway, we ended things about a month ago and, surprise, hung out and became closer yet again. We hung out last night, and it was disastrous. He bugged me at the start of the night, then I told him what upset me, but it through me way off. Throughout the night I felt uncomfortable with him and detatched. We were out at a bar, drank, ended up arguing (privately) there. Then when we got to his house, I let everything out. Everything that I never said to him because he is such a kind and mellow guy. I called him some names and was just very blunt. I hurt him a lot. I know this needed to happen, for the cycle to end, but I can't help but feel like a terrible person. Our relationship was based off of love, communication and understanding one another; yet, a dark side of me came out. He told me I broke his heart. I just hope he forgives me one day and doesn't remember me for how I was last night. | openai_summarize |
Found out my sister has been having sex with her boyfriend. I feel like I will have to tell my mom about this, and I want to be sure she is safe. | Summarize the following paragraph: Backstory: I come from a pretty religious home. I have one sister, who doesn't id with any religion, specifically. She is a VERY private person and doesn't really tell us much about her feelings/ boyfriend/ personal stances. My parents raised us to follow rules of no underage drinking, no sex before marriage, etc. This comes into play later.
So, a few days ago I was helping my sister find her phone. She was out of the house, and was making sure she left it at home. (called me from another phone) I found it, and saw she had a few messages on it. I assumed these to be from her texting her phone to find it, so i opened her phone to reply.
The phone opened upon messages of her and her boyfriend, and long story short, they implied that they have been having sex.
I realize it's her body, her relationship, and probably NONE of my business to have snooped and found this out. But I love my sister, and I have a few concerns. One of them being, I feel like my mother should know about this. My mom has always told us if we ever did decide to do anything like this, to come to her. My mom is super supportive and loves us both dearly. Also, my sister is still living in their house, so I feel like their rules also still apply.
I know my mom would want my sister to be safe, and would want to know about this. I am a bit torn. I love my sister very much and really want to let her know that I am here for her if she needs to talk about anything.
I believe my sister is on BC ( for acne/period related reasons). This is her first and only boyfriend. I just want to make sure she knows the risks and is being safe. How should I approach this to minimize damage in any relationships? Should I just pretend I never saw this? | openai_summarize |
should I wait around for my SO to want what I want, or should I move on without him. | Summarize the following paragraph: My SO and I have been on and off for the past two years. As of recently, we've been friends. We hang out, sleep together, in my eyes it feels like we are more than friends. To my SO, it's strictly friendship. I want more than friendship and even though he tells me he only wants friendship, he acts as if he is in a relationship. He is affectionate, kisses me, takes me on dates, buys me flowers, etc. It's confusing to me. I feel that his actions speak louder than his words. What he tells me doesn't match his behavior. Sometimes I feel as if it annoys him that he likes me and doesn't want to admit he loves me. He has a hard time expressing how he feels so I try not to hold it against him. But why fight how you feel about someone? I'm not sure why it bothers him that he loves me. I've asked him before and he never really gives an answer.
I'm at a point that I'm ready to be committed to someone and I would like it to be him. I don't know if I should wait or move on and find someone who wants what I want. It's hard for me to walk away because I feel invested in our relationship, whether it be as friends or more than that. I love him a lot and we get along very well. We enjoy a lot of the same things and we always seem to be laughing and having a good time. I think he is worth the wait, but it isn't easy.
Anyone ever been in this situation? Do you wait or do you walk away? I don't want to make a mistake and miss out on something awesome. | openai_summarize |
I have been exclusive with a guy I'm dating for 3.5 yrs and I want to date someone else. How do I say this without coming off as a sissy? | Summarize the following paragraph: I have ALWAYS had a boyfriend. I just got out of a serious relationship of 3.5 yrs in November. Immediately I started dating a bunch of guys and within a few weeks I became exclusive with one guy, so I told everyone I couldn't see them anymore because I had a boyfriend. Long story short, he was an alcoholic and we ended up breaking up a little over a month later.
I don't want to get into a relationship again right away. How do I date someone and say I don't see us as being exclusive without turning him off to a potential future? I started dating a 22 yr old guy and he already invited me to see his parents and to go on vacation with him. I really like him but I don't want to limit myself when he is only 22 and I may be wasting my time since I want to get married in the next few years and he is so young. Do I even need to mention that I don't want to be exclusive, or should I wait until he has the "talk"? And if he does bring up the "talk" how do I say this in a way that I don't sabotage a potential future with him or someone else I am dating? | openai_summarize |
ex-gf wants to see me again. I'm scared of hurting her. What can I do? | Summarize the following paragraph: I broke up with my girlfriend around nine months ago. We were in a very happy relationship, but I got cold feet and ran away. She recently emailed me again and told me that her feelings are still very much intact for me, and that it was difficult to keep any kind of contact with me. I feel very much the same way.
Anyway, I asked her if she were interested in meeting up again under the pretext of maybe starting to date again if we took it very slowly. The last thing in the world that I want is to hurt her. I feel like a complete shit for dumping her in the first place, and I've had a very difficult time getting over her. The only problem is that I'm afraid that I might end up being a shit again. Is there ever a scenario where you can get back with an ex and end up happy about the situation?
Thanks in advance for your help, Reddit. Also, I'm quite drunk right now. Sorry for my childish explanations. | openai_summarize |
Me and a girl got into a relationship. I like her alot, she has mixed signals, I like her alot, she wants to go out more, I am in love with her and she said she doesn't want to see me again. She said she is sorry, should I wait a few days before texting her again? | Summarize the following paragraph: Been seeing this girl a few times. At parties she always stood close to me and made eye contact.
Lately, I tried to flirt with her, but she keeps sending me mixel signals, or that she is going to do something with me, but in the end cancel the plans.
She said she has feelings for me but that she doesn't know if it is enough and wants to go out with me more.
I fell in love with this girl. I like her alot, we went to the movies and she invited me to her house. But the downside is she has so many guy friends and I get jealous of that fast... That last night was the last straw when she was talking to my middle school bully. I said I don't like that guy I don't want you to talk with him since he is a jerk.
She kept reminding me that it was a friend of one of her guy friends and that he couldn't try anything with a "winky face". I couldn't take it so I just asked if she was coming with me and she said no, which in turn I asked for a goodbye hug and she said "maybe later".
I texted her this morning to apologise and said I am sorry because I have feelings for her. I asked if she wanted to see me again which in turn she replied "No I don't think so... sorry :d"
I really don't know if she just is angry or joking around at me or if she doesn't want to see me again... I really don't want to lose this girl since she is so perfect in my eyes... but if she lost interest with me it's best to move on right?
Should I wait a few days before texting her again, or should I just move on? | openai_summarize |
giant creatures need tons of food to live in those depths and would have to have a large population to sustain the species. | Summarize the following paragraph: I was reading about the bloop tonight (after finding [this comment]( and got into a discussion with my boyfriend about whether or not the origin of the sound could be biological (scientists have confirmed it has to be). His arguments are:
- A creature of the size necessary to create a 1000+ mile radius noise is far too large to exist without us knowing about it due to the breeding pool necessary to sustain a population in the same way that Bigfoot cannot exist because if it did, the necessary population to sustain the species would be easily noticeable due to the number of people looking for it.
- The size of a creature necessary to create that type of noise would consume way too much food to not be noticed in the context of the number of necessary specimens noted above.
- It can't be mammalian in nature or we would see it surfacing for air (because there is shit for air down there), so it has to be a fish. Fish down that deep could not sustain internal body temperature and fish that live in deep waters are pretty small (angler fish). | openai_summarize |
Asked a girl on a date, she declined, is now friend-zoned. | Summarize the following paragraph: So my wife and I split a few months ago and have filed for divorce. Since then, I have met a girl who I really like. We hung out with a group of friends and I thought we really hit it off. We have mutual friends and she knows my situation, and when I asked her if she would want to hang out again some time, she said she would, but that under the circumstances she thinks it's best we stay friends.
I told her I appreciated her being direct with me and that I completely respect where she's coming from. Then I texted her saying I was thinking of getting the group together and asked if she wanted to join, but she never responded. I am a little bit concerned that I rushed to asking her on a date, since the time we had hung out and had a lot of fun was the same night I told that group of friends about my ex and I splitting, so obviously the subject was talked about some (nothing bad, we are on good terms, but I'm sure I was a little down/zoned out at some parts of the night). I wish I had waited until we hung out with a group again before asking her out, so she could see I was doing well and not talking about my ex.
Am I permanently friend-zoned? It really did seem like we had some chemistry. I am also worried she might not come out with that group again to avoid anything awkward though. I have been tempted to text her again but I haven't. I assume her not responding means I should probably hold off. What should I do? | openai_summarize |
My fiancee wants the tiniest possible wedding, I want a slightly larger one. We compromised with a lopsided intimate wedding (me having more guests) and I planned the whole thing. Now she wants to uninvite people I invited already because the ceremony will make her uncomfortable. | Summarize the following paragraph: My fiancee and I have been together nearly 8 years and have had a 2 year engagement. We're getting married this summer and we're very excited!
However, all along the planning has been really difficult. She at first started helping me a plan a traditional wedding, inviting her extended family and friends and mine, which was going to be a lot of people. Eventually, she confessed that she really doesn't like the idea of being the center of attention and doesn't want a big wedding. She said she'd be most happy with just our close family and friends and that was all. So, we cut the list down massively and chose an intimate venue. The issue is that I have a really close knit group of friends as well as their families that I grew up with that to me are non-negotiable. I really want them to be at my wedding. This means she's bringing 6 people and I want about 15, including my family.
She said it was more than she wanted, but that it would be ok. I went ahead and did almost all of the planning and have honestly been stressing about it a lot. I got us a venue, invitations, a reception for just the small group of us and I was all ready to send out the invitations (late, by the way), when she says suddenly that she's not looking forward to the event and that she thinks inviting the parents of my childhood friends is inviting people she barely knows to her intimate wedding and she's going to feel uncomfortable.
I can kind of see what she means, but I really want these people there. These are two families that were instrumental for me growing up and really make me happy. Yet, I can't start our marriage off with a wedding that she will hate. At the same time, I've done all this work and even verbally invited these people and they were really excited. I don't want to go back on it now and start uninviting people.
This whole wedding thing has just been a really unhappy experience due to the fact that we want different things.
Any ideas about what I should do, Reddit? | openai_summarize |
GF is getting rid of all contact with me and the relationship is in a dire state. How do i approach this? | Summarize the following paragraph: So it has been like any other relationship. Lots of laughs and joy, fights and arguing, inside jokes and fantastic bonding. I think we could have done with little less fighting. But it has been great! We have travelled together in a faraway land and been through so much together.
She went on a week-long event around the country with her college friends. All this time, little or no contact. If i hadn't said hello or goodnight or asked something, she wouldn't have said a single word to me. Comes back and tells me what she really wants is to be alone. And that this has nothing to do with anybody else but her. She says that she wants to do more things in life and its not about other men. She was drunk and tired so we didn't talk long and she said she needs time to make up her mind.
So thats fine with me. Take your time. Because we live together she has really no place else to go we still see each other, but she is incredibly busy with school and work so there is really no time to talk. Or she doesn't want to. Meanwhile i'm dying over not knowing what she will do.
Thing is, she hasn't told me anything concrete yet. She said thats what she wants: she feels like she wants to be alone. But she isn't sure if thats the right thing to do. Maybe throwing away all that we have is not the right decision. Also she has been thinking about this for about half a year.
She tells me i'm not the problem and i have done everything right. She even said i'm great! I think the spark has gone down from where it used to be.
How to approach this situation? Is there anything i can do to not lose her/to get her back? This whole thing is extremely hard on me. | openai_summarize |
Found texts between him and his guy friend talking about this girl he was attracted to on the plane and continued to try and pursue when he was on vacation 5 months ago. Don't know how to handle situation. | Summarize the following paragraph: We have a very healthy relationship. No cheating and no problems besides the normal argument here and there. It will be a year this month, and we have discussed moving in together within the next five months.
I snooped on his phone, I know, I know, it's wrong. I shouldn't have. I have never had a reason to. What I did find was a little alarming, and I do not know how to digest it.
He went away for vacation to a huge party city in March with some friends/couples. I, being pretty lax, waved him off and told him to have fun. From what I am seeing now in his texts between him and his guy friend, he met this girl next to him on the 3 hour plane ride, they exchanged numbers and he added her on Facebook. He continued to discuss how hot she was, sending pictures of her to his friend and how he should have tried harder to get with her.
My emotions got the best of me and I freaked out on him. He confessed to it, stating that he was attracted to her but he would never cheat on me, all of that is "just guy talk". He apparently just tried to hang out with her and her friends on vacation but to no avail. He tried to get defensive in the beginning of the fight about me snooping.
Reddit, I understand we are human, I can relate to a guy approaching me in an airport and chatting for a few hours, but I have always just walked away knowing I am committed to a relationship. The fact that this was pursued beyond the plane makes me sick to my stomach, I have this inkling that if he had had the chance, he may have taken the opportunity. But he didn't, and now I'm stuck in limbo, 5 months after the incident may I add. Advice? | openai_summarize |
How do I know the exact terms under which I need to pay interest on my Chase Freedom credit card per the 15 month introductory 0% interest on purchases and balance transfers?
Thanks! | Summarize the following paragraph: Hey PF,
I received the Chase Freedom credit card last November with a 15 month 0% interest on balance transfers and purchases. Right now I'm in a spot financially where it would be convenient for me not to pay the full balance off of my card for two months.
I'm just wondering how I can make sure of the exact terms and conditions under which I will be able to carry a balance on my credit card without paying interest. I've been looking around for terms on Chase's website, but haven't found anything specific to Chase Freedom, and more specifically, the offer that I received personally through Chase Freedom last November.
Where is a reliable source I can use to determine the exact terms under which I need not pay interest on my Chase Freedom credit card per its 15 month introductory 0% interest on purchases and balance transfers? | openai_summarize |
Me [24 M] and girl I'm seeing [23 F] are having an issue regarding our relationship, she's not looking for a relationship (just having a great time) and I'm not looking to do anything at the moment. | Summarize the following paragraph: I have been seeing this girl romantically for the past 2 months (been talking for 6 months) and I've finally decided that I want to have the talk about where our relationship is going. When I first began speaking to her she expressed the fact that she wasn't looking for a relationship, and I was okay with that as I wasn't looking to jump into anything at the time.
Over the last 2 months our relationship has really picked up traction. We have begun sleeping together regularly, she will often sleep over my house. I have met all of her family and friends and all of the people who are close to her. We don't see each other constantly, maybe twice a week on average, but that is perfect for me and her both as we are both pretty independent.
Now, to me, these are all signs that our relationship is progressing nicely. I have had numerous relationships in the past where everything was going along nicely like this, but only for everything to fall apart very quickly, and i think it was due to a lack of communication about what the other person wanted out of the relationship.
So, in order to combat that I sent her a text last night asking her where she thinks our relationship is headed. Her reply was both heartening and worrying, in that she said she loves spending time with me, but isn't really looking for a relationship right now. I'm fine with that, honestly i'm happy to just keep on doing what we're doing so i'm looking for a bit of advice on whether or not this all is normal? I've only ever had shitty relationships in my life so I have no idea on how a good one is meant to work.
What do you guys think of this situation? Can anyone give me some advice on what i should do from here? | openai_summarize |
My SO and I are going to different colleges that aren't that close to each other. Traveling to see each other is going to be a challenge. We have a strong relationship and I don't want college to come between us. How do I stay positive when I know a lot of high school relationships don't last though college? | Summarize the following paragraph: I'm not exactly sure if this is the right sub to put this in, but any feedback will help.
Background: My SO and I have been together for over a year now. We have a very strong, loving relationship that I have a lot of confidence in. We communicate well, and work through our issues rather than fighting about them.
We got together our senior year in high school. I went to a different school than him but we both participated on the same club sports team. Now we are both going to separate colleges three hours away from each other. He won't have a car and I might get one. There is no easy public transportation from his college to mine. The bus that could transport us doesn't really work for both of our schedules. Not to mention I will be participating in a college sport which makes my weekends the only off days I will have.
Now, I always was a firm believer that high school relationships never amounted to anything. They would normally end in a few months or end when the two would go to college. With that being said I truly love my SO and I don't want college to come between us. I don't think it will but I'm not much of an optimist.
I hear a lot of couples going to college and breaking up. That makes me nervous for my relationship. On the flip side, I know couples who met in high school and have been married for a very long time.
So, I just want to know if any of you have any advice or personal stories that will help me stay positive about the situation. Thanks! | openai_summarize |
Me and ex-boyfriend are trying to come to an agreement on a week-by-week schedule for our kids (Mon/Tues/every other weekend). We're on very good terms with each other and together for 50/50. Is this a good idea? | Summarize the following paragraph: 37 yr old mom of three: 6 year old b/g twins and a 14 year old daughter. Their father and I are split (going on 3 yrs now) and are on very good terms. We get along great, we still parent the children together 50/50, the kids adore his live-in gf and frankly, so do I. No huge issues, just the normal day-to-day parenting stuff and we deal with that stuff all together as a family. [Also, we live about 15 minutes from each other, if that makes a difference here.] I consider us very lucky!
Currently, we split the week like this: He has them M/W/every other weekend (Fri-Sun) and I have them Tues/Thurs/every other weekend (Fri-Sun).
He mentioned today that we might all be better off with a change-up of the days, so that they are with each of us for a longer period of time, to decrease the back-and-forth and mommy day/daddy day bouncing that we've been doing.
His proposed schedule is that we change to Mon/Tues/every other weekend and Wed/Thurs/every other weekend, which is fine with me too... but in talking about it at all it makes me wonder what other parents do. Maybe we're missing out on a great idea that has worked for you! My thought was just a straight out week each, so two weeks a month -- but that seems like a long time to go without seeing them. Before I sit down to talk about it with him I'm curious -- what do you guys do? | openai_summarize |
I am a 20 year old with no living expenses who will be making about 10k this summer and likely 20k by graduation. What is the best way to handle this cash? | Summarize the following paragraph: Last week I landed a great internship with a company that I am very excited about. It pays $22.50/hr with a 40 hour workweek (possibility of overtime) for approximately 3 months. They have a history of rehiring most of their interns and eventually offering them entry level positions upon graduation. I am only a sophomore so I will likely intern with them one more summer in addition to this one if all goes well. Not to put the cart before the horse, but if by graduation I was offered a position I would almost certainly take it. So, for context, there is a future with this company. Furthermore it is 20 minutes from my parents home so I will be living with them. My family is well off so all my college expenses including tuition, food, rent, beer money, etc. is covered. I have offered to take on some expenses for myself, but my parents insist that I have earned my keep with on campus jobs and scholarships. For all intent and purposes I have no expenses nor will I until 2017.
With some fuzzy math I have determined that by the end of the summer I will have approximately $10,800 before taxes. If this continues into next year it will be app. $21,400 by 2017. I want to put it to work, and I need a plan. I do *not* want to let this money just sit there or worse, slowly piss it away on stupid shit over my college career. I've read the FAQ for "I have $x, what do I do with it?", but none of it seems applicable for a 20 year old college student who is fortunate enough to have the financial support of his family. I know nothing about retirement planning, but perhaps I should learn? Is it remotely possible that the company has some sort of resource like a 401k that I should take care of? How can I put this money to work? | openai_summarize |
I'm not feeling romantic feelings towards a guy i've been dating, but I want to, but don't know if I ever will, and want to know if I should just end things. | Summarize the following paragraph: Hi there everyone.
I am a 26 year old male and I've recently started dating a friend with benefits. We met online and shed to go on a date. When we first met, we both agreed that the other was outside of each other's acceptable dating range, and we decided it would be best to be fwb. We meet the following week and have a casual good time, but then he tells me the day after that he's starting to develop feelings for me. I tell him a couple days later that the feeling isn't mutual, and we agree to remain friends. Well, we hang out about a week ago, and I have a really good time, and I begin to think that I could see us dating, and I become affectionate, which leads him on, and he thinks we are dating. The next day at work I'm utterly consumed with obsessive thoughts that I just don't feel romantic feelings for this guy, and I can't shake this feeling no matter how hard I try. I tell him how I feel, and we have a very intense and emotional conversation, but we agree to give it a chance with no pressure. That very evening, I feel like I miss him and I look forward to seeing again. We meet up the following evening and we spend the weekend together, and I had a good time. We meet up again Monday night, and that is also nice. But yesterday those obsessive thoughts came back, and I can't shake this feeling of guilt, because I feel the same kind of connection with him as he with me, and now I'm thinning I just need to end things firmly with him. But I'm in turmoil because on paper he's everything I look for in a guy: he's sweet, smart, funny, handsome and gentle. But I just don't feel the same kind of excitement I felt for previous guys I was in to. Not to sound cheesy, but I want to want him, and I feel like if I could just feel the same way he does, we'd be so good together. | openai_summarize |
Got a girlfriend, want to know when to follow up because I'm a loner. | Summarize the following paragraph: I've been flirting on and off with a bartender at a bar I go to after work in town. We seem compatible, she's got a great personality, and is very attractive. I was a little tipsy but I had enough courage to tell her I'd like to take her to dinner. She said she had a busy next few days, but she handed me a slip of paper with her number on it and gave me a smile.
It's been a while since I've been in the dating scene ... I tend to be a bit of a loner. And now that the liquid confidence is gone, I need your help. Are there general guidelines to follow when it comes to following-up after a woman has given you her number? I know this may sound like an incredibly immature question but I have very little experience when it comes to dating.
I figured I would wait until maybe tomorrow, and follow-up with her via (text? phone call?) about when she might be free? She won't be working again until Friday. Appreciate your help, thank you! | openai_summarize |
My girlfriend's ex is a douchebag and i feel like a coward. | Summarize the following paragraph: Well, me (18 years old) and my girlfriend (17) have been together for about a year now and i still love her to death.
Anyways, let's proceed to the subject.
She has told me about the guys she's been with before we got together. And i've heard stories that made me angry and sad, i mean she's been treated really bad by these douchebags that it made me feel that i had to do confront these bastards.
Okay here's one of the persons. I know who the guy is and i've seen him a couple of times, he slept with my girlfriend on four occasions (before our relationship of course) and it was mostly just sex, no emotions whatsoever, except a couple of times, but in general just sex.
She told me that he was acting like a real douche infront of his friends when she was present, but when they were alone he was mostly adorable.
Things he did, was mostly hit her on the arm, push here etc.
And once he made her suck his dick(well forced here a bit, he kept saying that he wanted a bj, and she was afraid of him so she did it).
So as you guys can see, he was a total jerk. Now there were more occasions with other people, such as one guy that hit her beaver with his foot etc. (know this guy too).
Now i feel really bad about this, i mean the feelings came now, a year after. I've been thinking about this but not very much, and i still don't know what to do....
I'm angry and sad, i just want to hit these guys, and i haven't done it yet, and i really don't have a lot of experience from fighting (except for training Muay thai 3 months, and a street fight against two people, but more than that no). I just really feel like a complete coward doing nothing about this.
So please, the people of reddit, give me some advice tell me what i should do. | openai_summarize |
I'm in a relationship with a girl but I'm not sure if it's the right relationship for me.** | Summarize the following paragraph: I've been seeing this girl for about a month and recently had the official talk about becoming exclusive which I think we were both ready for and wanted. Things have been going great but today the realization hit me that my previous "relationships"(using that word a bit loosely) haven't made it much further than where this one is.
I have a lot of experience dating but not with relationships. I haven't dated anyone in the last five years that I wanted to be in a relationship with. I dated one girl off and on for about three years but never committed. Before that there were a few short lived relationships. One ended because I was overly eager (learned my lesson). The rest really ended due to my lack of interest.
I suppose that part of me worries that I cannot break past this point, even despite me primarily being the one to end things at or before this point. I also realize this insecurity itself is not helpful and could turn out to be a self-fulfilling prophecy.
I'm not even sure what advice to ask for other than thoughts on my situation or just general early relationship advice. | openai_summarize |
Why does my girlfriend rest my hand across her chest while we are cuddling? | Summarize the following paragraph: My girlfriend and I frequently cuddle together on the couch together to watch various movies and television programs. I usually wrap my arm around her shoulders but sometimes she lifts my arm and brings it closer to her so my arm is around the back of her neck and my hand is resting on her chest.
When she does this, I'm not sure if she just wants me to cuddle closer or she is putting my hand there for a reason. The first time this happened my fingers were curled inwards so my hand was spread out across her chest, but she softly rubbed my hand and held my hand until it just kinda unfurled and rested on her chest so now i just keep my hand open whenever she moves my arm.
I'm not distraught or worried about this or anything. Its actually pretty cool ^^;. but I'm just a bit confused and I feel like it would be hard to ask her about it.. Why do you think she does this?
Thanks for taking the time to read, have a good day and stuff :) | openai_summarize |
My 4.5 month old baby cries a lot and is super upset and is freaking out about his crib. We are rocking him in and out, and keeping a bed time routine, but it has not worked. How can we get him to self-soothe in the crib so he won't get upset? | Summarize the following paragraph: To start off, my little guy has bed shared with me from week 2 until now - he is almost 4.5 months. I believe he is in a sleep regression from what the internet tells me which makes sense, at night now he wakes up and screams to be fed and does it much more often - before he would just gently stir and feed.
My husband and I have been trying to get him used to his crib a bit because we would like our bed back in the next few months, so we have begun trying to gently get him in the crib for naps. We are setting up some (I believe) bad habits by rocking him to sleep and nursing him to sleep before putting him in there because he wakes up about 20 min. later and is not happy. He screams.
I have tried putting him in his crib "awake" but somewhat drowsy but he just cries and screams and it intensifies as time goes on. We have tried to let him just CIO with timed check ins - but aren't comfortable with it, as he gets so intensely upset that he is hoarse and shakes for a good while after we've gone in to check on him. He also doesn't stop crying when we check on him - it almost gets worse. Just today as well he started to roll from back to stomach and is all over his crib because he is just going insane in there.
I guess our challenge is how do we get him to self-soothe when we are putting him down awake and he loses it EVERY time.
The rocking and/or nursing seems to be the only way he will nap in the crib.
We do have a nap routine and bed routine that we do, the room is TOTALLY dark, we have white noise, it is a good environment. I just don't know what to try at this point, have I screwed up him using his crib now? Am I destined to bed share until he is a toddler? | openai_summarize |
My best friend stopped speaking to me six months ago. She has a history of mental health issues. If she's depressed, how can I approach this situation? | Summarize the following paragraph: At the end of January my best friend cut me off for what felt like no reason. We were in the middle of a very tiny fight, and then it turned into the cold war. I got a little explanation two months later, a vague hint that "things were too negative," but honestly she must've been lying extraordinarily well that whole time because I never felt anything negative between us. Maybe I'm an idiot though!
After all this time, the irrationality of it could make sense if she's depressed. She has a history of mental distress. She's been diagnosed with severe anxiety, which she sees someone for, but depression has always been in her life, too. She was suicidal about 10 years ago, and goes through very dark times depending on her life circumstances. The last time we spoke she was dealing with a difficult medical diagnosis, great stress from her close friends, and a scary restructuring at her office. 2015 was a truly back breaking year for her on every level.
I was her friend through all of that, and we would plow right into mental health issues together. Now I'm starting to realize I may need to take her health into account if I want to restart this friendship. I could be wrong (maybe I was an asshole!), but I'm looking for advice on what to do if this is depression speaking, not my friend. | openai_summarize |
How do I make it clear that my friend can have sex without telling me? The last few times I've tried only encouraged the arsehole. | Summarize the following paragraph: I (m22) have a best friend (same age, also male). For the sake of this, I'll call him Andy.
Andy has sex with a lot of women. He's good looking and charming, fair play to him. I'm not really either of those. Recently Andy has taken to informing me of every new sexual experience he has, not unlike a boasting prick.
Here's where it gets embarrassing; I can't help but measure my activity against his, so every time he feels the need to tell me about some new girl, it depresses me. My sex drive isn't all that high. I don't get the chance to meet many women. Unlike Andy, I have a job, I don't live in the city, and there's that lack of charm I mentioned earlier.
My problem goes further than sexual jealousy, however, more like I'm just sick of being official keeper of his shag-tally. It's gotten to the point where he'll text me at 3 in the goddamn morning to tell me he's banged some girl. I really really don't want to hear it. | openai_summarize |
I'm a muslim and my gf is a muslim and she's getting anxiety attacks more often. We broke up. What should I do? | Summarize the following paragraph: I'll try to keep this as short as I can, I'm also not good at writhing stories.
Okay. I'll start from the beginning. I'm a third year med student and about 8 months ago I met this beautiful girl, also a med student. After two months we were in a commited relationship. Here is the catch: she's a muslim and because of this her parents dont know about us. I on the other hand am not a muslim, however I've been studying Islam for about 4+ years now.
We thought we could make it work. We just have to keep it on a down low, meaning, we could only act like a couple in the university/other city/at my place. It worked in the beginning. We saw eachother a few times a week, but lately it has become a lot less. Also, when we part ways, she's getting anxiety attacks more often. Thinking she might get caught.
What might fix this is if we tell the parents, but as I stated before, there are some problems:
- I'm not a muslim yet (however I'm not going to convert only because of this)
- I'm not of the right ethnicity (she's morrocan and I'm mixed asian/black (blasian!))
- when we do tell the parents, we'll probably have to get married. I am personally not ready for this.
All of this is tearing me apart. Me not seeing her as much as I want to and when I do see her, she leaves like a mess.
And now there is the present. About an hour ago I talked to my gf about all this. We decided to "break up" for now, so that I can think on what to do. I'm all messed up and don't know what to do. That's why I'm turning to you guys, hoping you can give me some extra insights, so I can make a complete decision. | openai_summarize |
Asked a girl I like if I would see her at a place we've worked out at together, never heard back, saw her driving away with a guy when I arrived 30 minutes late. Need advice | Summarize the following paragraph: I'm not in a relationship right now, just seeking some advice on how to get that to happen. I recently ran into a girl that I had seen a couple months ago waiting tables at a friend's pizza place. She and I had a short conversation that had started with her making joke about my long hair (a dude here). I thought she was cute, but had a girlfriend at the time so I didn't pursue her at the time.
Fastforward to a week ago where I ran into her at a climbing gym. I said hi and she remembered me. We climbed together & chatted for a couple hours and at the end of it all, we agreed to meet tomorrow to climb together again. We did, and at the end of the next day before she took off she said, "hey I should get your phone number sometime" which wasn't at that very moment because she didn't have her phone on her.
I got her phone number after going back to the place she waited tables at and hanging out with her and a couple of the people that worked there as the place closed up for the night.
A few days later (today) I texted her to see if I might see her at the gym and told her I was going to be there around 8:30. I never heard from her, but got to the gym at 9pm only to see her driving away with a guy in the front seat :(
What do I do? Do I lay my cards on the table and tell her that I like her and that it was disappointing to see her driving off with another guy? Do I pretend I never saw her and continue to try and build a friendship? Do I say something about having seen her and leave the whole you had a guy in your front seat thing out of the picture? I want so badly to be with her, but don't know the best strategy for getting the girl. | openai_summarize |
my girlfriend says she doesn't love me but refuses to give a reason other than a more or less cold hearted 'you started it'. Need advice. | Summarize the following paragraph: i've never felt this low in my entire life. We had our problems recently but I never thought it would come to this, and especially not this sudden.
She can't give me a solid reason other than 'you said it before me' in an argument roughly 2 months ago I said I didn't like her. We made up literally the next day. She's been at uni for less than a month. I know for a fact this is an excuse and it's making me feel so much worse, I feel like she's been planning it for a long time and she just used me until she started her new life, found new friends and started meeting other boys.
It's making me question myself as a person and what I did wrong for her to lose interest so quickly and be so cold about it, am I *that* horrible of a person? she is so unapologetic and hostile and keeps using the same excuse. It's almost like she's speaking from a script which is honestly the most upsetting part as my brain is now going overcharge thinking about every possible reason
I don't really know why I'm posting this, I'm super depressed at the minute and need a second opinion and I have no one else to talk to about this stuff, I think I may go and see my psyche again. | openai_summarize |
Tampons started leaking on my first day of wearing them and I need help with how to take them out without pain. I'm a 22 year old virgin so I'm bummed out but I'm going to Cancun next week. | Summarize the following paragraph: I'm going to Cancun next week and I'm due to start my period on saturday. Which would be amazing if I did because then I would be towards the end of my period when I arrive. For the past 3 days I've been trying to induce it buy drinking ginger/parsley tea and taking vitamin C so far I don't think its working because I'm stressing out over it so much!
In the case that I do start it on my vacay I'm going to need advice. I'm a 22 year old virgin and I've only worn tampons once and it wasn't so great. I bought the tampax pearl active lites. I decided to take baby steps with tampons on my first try. The tampon went in amazing! I couldn't feel it at all and I felt like a real grown up women using tampons. I wore a pantyliner underneath incase it started leaking and went on with my day. Well after the first 3-5 hours it started leaking so I went to take it out.
Removing it was incredibly unpleasant and painful! I slowly had to pull it down taking deep breathes with each pull. When I got to the entrance of my vaginal canal thats when the pain increased and I was tearing up! After I gave myself a pep talk and taking a couple more deep breathes I decided to just pull really hard and rip it out. It worked but I ended up spending at least 15-20 minutes trying to take out a lil baby tampon out of me! So this might be tmi but I dissected my tampon to make sure it was completely soaked and to check for dry spots. Well it was fully soaked no dry spots whastsoever. I then swore off tampons after that because even the lite slender fit active tampons were too much for me.
Now I need advice on how to take out tampons without pain and to do it quickly so that way I won't waste 15-20 minutes in the bathroom wherever I go trying to take out a tampon! Has anyone else experienced this before? Also what other brands would you recommend? | openai_summarize |
Shes a bit busy and I'd like to see her more often. Should I ask her to go? | Summarize the following paragraph: Let me preface this by saying, I have no problem with only seeing each other once a week or so. We are both busy people and don't always have time to hang out.
That being said, I know when I've seen girlfriends in college this rarely we've always fizzled out. There were always other issues to consider but that's always how it ended.
We do text every other day but just the usual "How's your day", "Awesome how about yours". At least we have plenty to talk about when we actually see each other!
Is this what an adult relationship is like? I've always moved very quickly with girlfriends and it has obviously never worked out so maybe this is good?
I'd love to hear some of your experiences and opinions on whether or not I should try and get us both to find more time for each other.
If you would like to learn more about where she's coming from you can read it [here]( | openai_summarize |
A big dick means nothing unless you have the game to make a girl want to see it! | Summarize the following paragraph: I have to get this off my chest, it just bothers me so much!
The perpetuated idea of having a bigger dick getting you laid more often/with greated ease just irks me so fucking much. I have a bigger than average cock and I can promise you that it simply does not mean shit unless you have the game to back it up.
I mean what the fuck am I supposed to do? Just whip it out and show it to everyone?! Unless I can woo a woman to the point in which it's appropriate to show her my girth and length, it means NOTHING!!
At first my self confidence was boosted by my specific physical boon, but as soon as I realised how useless it was unless I could reveal my large dick to a girl in an appropriate manner, well, the boosted self confidence and large, swollen cock meant nothing!! | openai_summarize |
I'm going to university next year, my girlfriend wants to break up with me in 6 months, she thinks I'll be too heavy and she'll feel guilty. I love her more than anything in this word. If I don't stay with her I know we'll get back together then. | Summarize the following paragraph: So here's the deal.
I'm eighteen, going to university next year, my girlfriend of 5 months is a year younger, so she still has one more year of High School. She told me she loves me, but only wants us to date up until the end of the summer because she wants both of us to meet more people and thinks it's unrealistic for us to think of a future if this is the first relationship we've ever been in. I think we could make it work and just want to just take it day by day. My university is only half an hour from her house, so I'll be able to see her on the weekends and stuff but She thinks that she would be weighing me down and i would now have a good time in university if I stay with her. She says let's keep going till August but I'm wondering what's the point. Now every time I look at her all I see is this relationship having an expiry date. The thing is I love her, more than anything in this word. And I know everyone says there are more fish in the sea but I don't want anyone else. She pulled me out of a rough place in my life and makes me a better person. I don't want to leave her, but she thinks that after university if we really were the best thing to happen to us we'll get back together than. | openai_summarize |
No one notices 35lbs/20% body weight loss. Everyone notices 36lbs/21% body weight loss. | Summarize the following paragraph: I made a post three weeks ago basically saying I'm happy with my progress so far but it hasn't really made much difference in my appearance. Post here:
This week I've had more than a dozen people remark on my weight loss (still the same weight/only two pounds down compared to where I was three weeks ago), several of which when I've responded with "yeah a little bit. thanks." Have remarked that it's more than a little bit. One person who despite me saying I feel great, I'm a powerhouse and starting to flex comically to give her the gun show kept saying I was getting too thin and shouldn't lose anymore (I actually found it a bit rude how much she pushed it even though I'm sure it's coming from a good space). I'm 5'4" and 140 so I'm not at risk of starving anytime soon.
I'm just so confused as to this sudden seemingly global perception shift. Does this happen to everyone? | openai_summarize |
Feeling ostracized by coworkers, what can I do to be more relatable? | Summarize the following paragraph: My first job, it's great, really. I'm working with 19 other girls and 1 boy, and we usually have around 4 people on per shift, which is alright. Everyone who works there is in the 15-20 range, which creates an environment similar to high school.
The place that I work at is located in the city, where all of the workers except for me and maybe a few others are from. I am from a bigger town just on the outside of the city. That being said, there is the obvious difference of the gossip; they always joke about other people that go to their schools, and they always have all of the drama up to date. I know a majority of the city kids because I hang out with quite a bit of them, but it still makes me out of the loop.
It also seems like a personality thing. Take a guess what its like working with a bunch of teenagers. They're catty, mean, and all they care about is outdoing eachother. They always have their phones out during work, seeing how many "creepy boys lol" they can get to text them. I find myself at the opposite end of the scale. I'm gentle, I'd say I'm kind, I'm in a serious relationship and have been for a while, and I'm the biggest extrovert, so usually I can make friends very easily, which is why I'm concerned that its not happening now.
I always go out of my way to be nice to them, I've baked cookies, taken so many shifts, and helped out more than needed. But they all just make fun of me because I apologize all the time and I try to be nice.
Is there any way to be more relatable to them? I'm not going to change myself to be more like them, I'm not too fond of their lifestyle. Do you guys have any methods to keep you from being pushed around at work? | openai_summarize |
Don't know if I should break up with my boyfriend but I'm confused how to go about it. | Summarize the following paragraph: I have always believed that Love was dumb, it took a hold of all my friends and made them act irrationally. I was not into playing that game, that is, until I met him. We were friends instantly, spent all our time together and this continued until now. One month shy of two years.
This boy has told me he wants to stay with me but have sex with other people. He has downloaded tinder behind my back, he has random girls on snapchat he talks too, and worst of all I am still madly in love with him and want him to be in my life forever.
Love is so messed up. I should know better but I keep trying to reason that he will stop because he knows how badly it upsets me. Its almost compulsive. He is so cute I dont know why he feels like he needs a confidence boost from these random ( truthfully not so cute girls) when I would do anything for him. He always has an excuse and if he doesn't he just gets mad and blows up so there is no chance of a good discussion.
We have decided to take a break, not break up. And see how the time apart makes us feel about eachother. I'm still texting him ..even though according to a majority of this subreddit you should stay out of contact with you man.
I feel like I'm avoiding doing all the right things to help myself but in reality I feel so lost but in love. I don't want to ruin anything good but if its bad I need to know now and leave this bastard for real. No "break" like Ross and Rachel but an honest to goodness goodbye forever we cant be friends if this continues | openai_summarize |
I'm an "intense" guy. I don't know how to be more "bad." | Summarize the following paragraph: Sup, SO and I are going through a rough last few weeks. I think as I am getting my life together more and more we are working through things. We sort of on a break from each other but still hangout a few times a week etc. It's complicated. None the less she recently told me that she likes who I am becoming but that I need to be more, "bad." I am not at all sure what that means. I am a safe, patience, loving guy who does nothing bad in terms of breaking the law or anything. I don't think she means anything sexual either. We are going to go to a party this weekend together and I plan on partaking in underage drinking. Not that I am going to get smashed or anything but might have a few. This is completely out of my normal zone and I think maybe what she wants is for me to be a little more risk taking like that. Not sure. Help. I am just a "too nice" kind of guy. | openai_summarize |
I have developed feelings for a female friend [18F] of mine [21M], and need advice on making the move. | Summarize the following paragraph: There is a female friend [18F] that I [21M] have known for a few months, and considering the duration we have known each other, I say that we have developed a pretty solid friendship. I am interested in her and I get the feeling that she is interested in me as well--that gut feeling--but this is conflicting with what my rational thinking, which is putting me off from making a move/asking her out, and that is frustrating/confusing the crap out of me. This is despite the fact that I have been following my gut on this woman from initial contact and introduction up until now, and it has been spot on.
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My girlfriend self-esteem is so bad that she blames everyone for her problems. How can I get her to see that she has a serious problem?** | Summarize the following paragraph: Hi Reddit,
I’ve been with my girlfriend since we were in college (about four years). I love her a lot and we have a great relationship apart from this one thing that keeps rearing its ugly head. My girlfriend is horribly self-conscious and has a terrible self-image.
Even though she’s in shape and looks great (and I always catch guys checking her out) she consistently says that people find her disgusting and that she hates her body and herself. This extends past physical worries too: she also automatically assumes people don’t like her personality or think she’s an idiot.
I’ve tried everything I can to get her to open up more and see what I see. I’ve tried for two years now to get her to go to therapy or to counselling – both by hinting at how much it helped me and (at times) by flat out telling her.
It’s become a major wedge in our relationship. We’re long distance atm and I’m looking for somewhere to live in San Francisco. Every flatshare I look at she says things like “You know it’s okay if you live with hot girls – it’ll be nice for you to be around good looking girls” or “I won’t blame you if you find someone better than me out there”.
I’m becoming exasperated. No matter how many things I’ve tried – taking her to spas, writing her love notes, always telling her how beautiful she is, helping her pick outfits and encouraging her when she goes to the gym or eats right – all of it doesn’t seem to help. She always seems to be getting confident and then I’ll get a text like “sorry I’m so shit at everything” and we’re back at it again.
It’s almost caused us to break up before because I felt like I was fighting a losing battle.
What can I do Reddit? | openai_summarize |
Help me raise money for a new family laptop (as they don't have enough money to buy a new one and speak to me via skype). Help out by purchasing my Custom made T-Shirts at | Summarize the following paragraph: Hello everyone, I am a student at a boarding school which means I am away from my family for a good part of the school year. Recently I have been struggling to contact my family and discuss important family matters that include me.
The main problem is that my family is too poor to buy a new laptop in order to video call me or I them (in case you are wondering why I go to a boarding school, its because the state is paying for it as my parents have applied for a program for those who are less well off than others).
Over the past few weeks I have been trying to raise money for a new laptop to buy for my family back home and so far with little success.
This is why I ask you all to support me to raise money by purchasing a Custom T-Shirt that I have created. I will greatly appreciate all support given even if you can't purchase the shirt. | openai_summarize |
I'm trying to lose weight but I can't get rid of soda because I love it and it's still in my diet. | Summarize the following paragraph: I have tried to start eating right numerous times and they have all met with failure. I will be doing well and then I'll have one bad meal or one bad day and I end up feeling like a failure which causes me to to fall back into the same bad habits. That is not the case this time because I have drawn a line in the sand and that line is soda.
I love soda (especially Mt. Dew and Root Beer) and you can tell me how much it is bad for me but I still love it, yet despite my passion for pop I am no longer consuming the carbonated creation. I am trying to eat better foods and in smaller portions. I count my calories and do my best to try new veggies. Despite that I still find myself slipping up every now and again. I'll be working late and have to hit a drive thru because I don't have time to cook or family picks up dinner and it's an unhealthy choice. Despite these speed bumps I will still not drink soda at those times and it gives me hope. I no longer feel like a complete failure when I slip up but rather am proud of my one good choice that I stuck with and am able to move forward with confidence that I'm still trying my best. Drawing the no soda line in the sand has been the best psychological boost to my weight loss than anything I've done before. It has become that still small hope that I can make this change for the better. | openai_summarize |
Had a drunken kiss with a friend's ex girlfriend and don't know how best to proceed. | Summarize the following paragraph: I recently had a night out with a friend of mine and his ex girlfriend (they've been split up for about 5 months but are still friends) and had a drunken kiss with the aforementioned ex girlfriend. Generally I'm bi with a preference for dudes but she's one of the few girls I actually really like and have always had a strong emotional connection with.
So basically I'm not sure how best to proceed without hurting anyone's feelings. The two of them split up about 5 months ago and it was my friend that dumped her because she wanted to go out and have fun and he just likes to stay at home all the time. If she wasn't the ex of a very good friend then I'd certainly be up for asking her out on a proper date and seeing how things go but I don't want to hurt his feelings. On the other hand he dumped her, she's her own person and it's up to her who she sees. As far as I can see I basically have 3 options: 1, ask him how he feels about the situation; 2, tell her we should just remain as friends or 3, wait and see what happens next time I meet up incase it was just a drunken one off. | openai_summarize |
I have been late to everything and think it is part of my culture and I need to change it | Summarize the following paragraph: Hello Reddit, just to clarify I am a male Filipino that has always been late to everything. Family Parties **LATE** School **LATE** Hanging out with friends **LATE** Work **DOUBLE LATE** I notice that I got these habits from my parents and I became aware that tardiness is part of my culture. However it is affecting my work accountability, typically I show up to work 10-15 minutes late everyday. No matter what I do!!! I know it may sound ridiculous but I don't know what the hell is going on with my brain to think it is acceptable to be late. If I'm late I feel on time, if I am on time I feel early, if I am early I feel weird. Every morning I set this unreal expectation that I can wake up 5 minutes before work and still get there on time (when I am sleeping it becomes logical.) How can I change my lifestyle where I am 20 minutes early to every commitment? | openai_summarize |
Cop pulls me over and I crack a wise ass joke and he laughs and drives away. | Summarize the following paragraph: I own a [1987 Toyota Celica]( . I have a lot of stories and memories with this car. Not a lot of them are reddit worthy though. Im just going to post the one that comes first to mind.
Well I was driving very late at night. I want to say around 2:30 am. Of course at 2:30 in the morning every fucking car you see you think is a cop. Well im minding my own business and I was driving the speed limit and some asshole decides to ride my ass for a while. And of course that asshole turns out to be a cop. The cop throws on his sirens and I pull over. Shit. Shit. Shit. Well the cop comes up and just like he would normally and asked, "Son, do you know why I pulled you over?". Myself being a smart ass decided to say, "No dad why did you pull me over?". To my surprise me laughed and walked away and got in his car and drove away. What the fuck just happened? | openai_summarize |
told my boyfriend I was embarrassed by him to his work friends. Boyfriend is upset with me and I don't know how to move forward. | Summarize the following paragraph: I met my boyfriend about a year and a half ago. He approached me on the street and was just really cool and confident. We went on a couple of dates and it became apparent to both of us that we had a connection. We are in very different stages of life. I am 26 and I am an investment banker. He is 19 and is in university studying science. Luckily, he doesn't party or anything like that, we have very similar interests as a couple, it's nice.
I told my work friends about him a while ago and ever since they've said stuff like "say hi to your boy-toy for me." I have a work function coming up, it's like a formal dinner, and everyone is bringing their SO. My friends at work have said that they "can't wait to meet him" with a wink. I think they're expecting him to be some stereotypical hunky, sexy college guy, which isn't the case. He's more of a short, smart, hairy nerd haha. I love him as he is, and he is super sexy to me. I have never cared what anyone thought about me, but I liked that people at work thought I had some sexy college guy at home.
I was trying to be honest with my boyfriend and I told him what I said above but now he's upset with me and he's saying he doesn't want to go. I told him 2 days ago and he's been distant ever since. I know that it was a mistake to tell him, but he could tell something was wrong and I was trying to be honest. The function is this Friday. What should my next move be? What do I say to him? | openai_summarize |
ex's family convince him to dump me. I move away & he talks to me everyday telling me he loves me. Is coming to visit just to see me. Nothing physical. He hasn't moved on & neither have I. What do I make of this?? | Summarize the following paragraph: I (f29) was with my ex (m30) for 2 years. His family were strange (they didn't like anyone new.... or change) and I had the feeling they didn't like me. I didn't make very much money but he did and I could see that I frustrated him for being so broke but he knew I couldn't help my financial situation. His family took him out to dinner and convinced him to get rid of me. He broke up with me as soon as that dinner was finished and said it was all his decision, that people can be in love but not be together. I was confused because the night before we were making plans to get married.
I didn't fight it and I moved far away. We still talked everyday. He isn't the type to go out and sleep with people and neither did I. Neither one of us has moved on. He is making plans very soon to visit which I am nervous about. Everyone is saying its a "booty call" but he has never done anything like that so I am not sure what to think. He says he doesn't want sex. He wants to spend time with me because he misses me. He tells me he loves me & we correspond all day everyday. Everyone is saying "if he doesn't want you then why does he contact you so much & hasn't moved on? You may as well have stayed together". I don't know what was said but I know it was enough for him to keep his distance. I don't want another relationship again. I am messed up by this. I need help. | openai_summarize |
Boyfriend and I have communication issues. When things are great we are amazing. When we get bad it is abusive. What can we do to fix it? | Summarize the following paragraph: So my boyfriend and I get into horrible arguments.
When our relationship is good it is absolutely wonderful. He is the most considerate person in the world and I would do anything to keep him happy.
However whenever I say anything critical we get into a fight. I'm not able to stay constantly up beat. I'm trying to change how I say things, instead of (for example) "Why haven't you done the dishes? We agreed on switching off on who does the dishes and it is your turn and we are out of forks and plates" saying "When were you planning on getting to the dishes and how can I help?"
But that is really hard in the meantime. Critical things need to be said during relationships so that we can understand what upsets the other person. "I don't like it when X happens." is enough to start a fight between us.
The problem is that he is incredibly smart. He thinks incredibly fast and refuses to apologize for anything that doesn't make immediate logical sense to him or is within his line of reasoning. I just want him to apologize for bugging me for whatever it was that bugged me instead of having him attack me and tell me that it shouldn't bug me.
Dishes not being done for a month bugs me.
Being grabbed against my will isn't affection, it scares me.
Having him leave in the middle of discussing what happened during the fight and having him come back a day later stoned and drunk is frightening and unhealthy for both of us.
Not being told when he is inviting friends over bugs me. Both because I do the cooking (and we are usually out of supplies. I need to know in advance if I need to buy stuff) and because I leave bras lying in my bedroom that I don't want his friends to see them (his friends come into our bedroom to play video games).
What are communication tips and methods? How can we improve this? When things are wonderful they are amazing but when they get bad I feel like our relationship is verbally and emotionally abusive. It isn't healthy for either of us and i really want to try and fix it and convince him that he needs to fix it with me. | openai_summarize |
Guy cheated on me so I took back the expensive comics I bought for him. | Summarize the following paragraph: A few years ago I was in a relationship with this guy who was obsessed with comics. Being the good little girlfriend I was, I bought him an expensive copy of one of his favorite books, Flight.
About three or four months into the relationship I found out he had been cheating on me with this younger girl (him and I were like 17 and she was 14). Against better judgement, oohh young love, I stayed with him after he promised he would change and never talk to her again. It wasn't for a few months did I realize that I was being a ditz and he was actually still lying to me/using me.
We broke up and when he was out with friends I went to his house to get some of my stuff (his mom let me in). I decided that considering he cheated on me it was only fair I took back all the things I bought him, things that he now saw as prized possessions. I only wish I could see his face when he came home to realize that I took back all the expensive comics and gifts I had given him over the course of our relationship. I saw one of his friends a few years later and he is still living at his moms house, working on his "rap" career and knocked up a one night stand. | openai_summarize |
I cry when I see an underdog win in just about any sports, does anyone else? Share your story! | Summarize the following paragraph: So maybe it's just me, maybe not. I've never been an emotional kid growing up. I rarely cried in the usual tearjerker movies or other emotional experiences, but ever since playing soccer all throughout high school and going through thick and thin with my team, It always gets me emotional to see the underdog win in just about any sport, and I get a little teary. Is this normal or am I just the odd one out?
If you've ever cried after playing or watching any sports event, whether it's the Superbowl, the Wimbledon, or the World Table Tennis Championships, share your story please. | openai_summarize |
This kid I go to school with is a second generation asshat, and needs to be dealt with. How should go about handling it? | Summarize the following paragraph: So this guy has been a jerk since we were all in middle school together. My parents have even informed me that his parents were really mean when they were all still in high school. I guess the apple doesn't fall far from the tree, since this kid has been talking shit to everyone.
He's that guy that no one really likes. I never had too much of a problem with it, since me and my friends were never directly effected by his assholiness, [until now]( He said some pretty nasty things about my girlfriend (shown in the imgur link) and would like your help.
What's the best way you have to get revenge on an asshole online and in real life? | openai_summarize |
Broke up with boyfriend. Not in love with him, still loved him as a friend. I want him to be happy, but I said I wasn't in love with him. He said he was. I'm just not in love with him anymore, how do I deal with this? | Summarize the following paragraph: Broke up with my boyfriend last night. There is noting wrong with him. He was great and I'm sure he's going to make some woman really happy one day, but it won't be me.
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This is the third time in 5 years I've had to break up with him. He was really in love & I really tried to make myself love him because he really is amazing, but my heart wasn't in it. We'd break up, months would go by, we'd talk again and start going out.
Last night I told him I just wasn't happy. He said he'd been a little unhappy since making it official again for the tird time. The problem is that while I was not in love with him, I still loved him as a friend & we'd have a lot of fun together, but there was no sexual chemistry or butterflies for the past 2 years. I know how great he is and what I'll be missing out on. It's also killing me that to know he is in pain for the third time.
He later on sent me a text message saying that he'll be ok. Not to be depressed and that he'll be there if I ever need him. This obviously made me burst into tears.
How do I deal with this? | openai_summarize |
I like my crush, but can't tell if she's into me. | Summarize the following paragraph: So I was messaging with my crush, and she brought up the new movie The Martian. I already went to see it opening day (great film and book btw), but was planning on seeing it again. Since she expressed interest in seeing it too, I thought, what the hell, and asked her if she'd like to see it with me. She said yes, which I'm really happy about, but I can't tell if she knows that it's a date or just a friendly moviegoing experience. We've been good friends for almost a year, and I only started developing feelings for her 2 months ago. This will be the first time that we've gone to see a movie together alone though. I think she likes me, but can't tell if I'm just in the friendzone or not.
So how do I make it clear that I want this to be a date, without outright saying that I like her if possible? I don't want her to walk into one situation expecting another. | openai_summarize |
dad being more physical, I'm afraid if I leave for college something bad will happen | Summarize the following paragraph: My dad's been a dick for a long time, but over the past year or two, his abuse has gotten worse towards my mom (40f) and I (16f)
He used to just yell and curse and call us names but now he's taken to bordering the line of physicality. He broke the kitchen table by slamming on it. He dumped a huge pitcher of ice cold lemonade on me. He throws things. He grabbed my mom's shoulders, shook her, and left bruises. He likes to press his chest against ours and get all up in our faces, spit in them. He's 6'3" and I'm 5'4" so it's very intimidating. He calls us filthy names, the most vile trash I've ever heard spill from someone's mouth. (Trust me, I've heard a lot.) He picks on her and my insecurities in the worst ways and gaslights my mother. He likes to tell her it's all in her head and that it's all her fault. She's starting to believe it and it kills me. He's started to take control of the house's finances and pretty much hold the money over our heads. He threatened to kill the cat yesterday, he was holding her and poised to smash her head.
I'm applying for colleges and I'm positive I'll get in. I have very high scores and I want to leave for college. I'm scared to leave her alone with him, though. He threatens to kill her often, even though he's never crossed the line by outright hitting her. I'm strong and I'm fine but she's recovering from breast cancer. There's none left but she has a couple reconstructive surgeries to go. The abuse continued through chemo and it broke my heart to see her sick and still treated like shit. She's not strong enough to leave him, and I don't blame her, but I don't fucking know what to do.
Fuck. | openai_summarize |
fiancée signs mortgage without my name on the form. Expects me to pay rent. And get rid of both her two dogs and my dog. Need advice on next step. | Summarize the following paragraph: Hi reddit again,
I am listening to your advice and my friends advices. I talked to a counsellor and they did give me some advice on how to deal with this issue, and basically told me to either bring her to couples counselling or tell her that I don't want to be treated like a doormat. I do not know what the next steps I should do next though?
I plan to talk to my mother later tonight to prepare her for the worst outcome. I then plan to send my fiancée a text telling her to meet me at a Starbucks to have the talk. Or do you think it would be better to involve her parents too? Maybe her parents can see the abuse she subjected me to?
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Edit: Also how would I go to claim back the stuff I bought? (e.g. engagement ring, wedding gown, etc). | openai_summarize |
My bf [17] recently broke up with me [f17]. I still love him but he wants to be friends like before. Is it possible to change his mind and win him back? | Summarize the following paragraph: Okay so he was my first bf, kiss, time and first love. We only dated for about 8 months, but I knew him since freshmen year and he was one of my best friends before we were even dating. He broke up with my last Friday he was crying when he did it said he so sorry that he had to hurt me. But he can't handle being in a relationship anymore and he wants to start off senior year on a new chapter. He also said he loves and cares for me still but not in love with me. I've been the only person to text first since the break up and some times he just lets the convo drop.
I have asked to hang out as friends but he always said no. I even asked if he would want to be friends with benefits he said he would enjoy that but he knows it wouldn't end well. There's a lot more to the story that I would be happy to share. But from what I given do you think there's anyway I could some how get him to fall back in love with me or at least rethink about dating again.
I know you must think just move on. But he so special I am the way I am today because of him. He made me feel special beautiful and confident. we are just so too compatible to give up so easily. I just want to show him that we can make this work if we both just work together at it. Help reddit. | openai_summarize |
Girlfriend has OCD and phobias and in a few years, I will be getting married. I want to have kids with her. My friends told me to dump her, but I am not ready to do that. It's been two years since we started dating. What should I do? | Summarize the following paragraph: We started dating back in college years ago, and when we first started dating, she let me know that she had a some mental health problems. She has severe OCD and phobias of germs and sperm. The two of us haven't had sex in near two years because of her irrational fears.
Some of my friends told me to dump her, and some told me to just have sex with another girl.
We are planned to be married within the next year. She has stated several times that she does not want kids, however I would actually like to have children sometime in the future.
I really like having sex. I miss it. It feels good. I know that I sound like a piece of shit, but it's been so long, what do I do?
This girl is so awesome and I love her dearly, so I have no intention of breaking up with her. | openai_summarize |
My dogs barfed today in the morning and the evening with no known cause. He is drinking water fine, otherwise acting normal. No blood and not foamy, no runny poops either. Begging currently, so I'm sure he would eat. It's only been one day, is puking sometimes just normal? What stage should I worry or go to the vet? Should I fast him for the rest of the evening? | Summarize the following paragraph: I have a 1 year old, 70 lb pit. This morning I woke up to my dog puking up liquid/bile at 5:30 am. He hasn't puked in a LONG time so it was random.
I took him out to go to the bathroom/walk and then fed him, he seemed fine. I left for work at 7 and he was in his crate until 1 when I came home. There was no puke in his crate and he was acting totally normal. I fed and walked him again.
At 6 he puked up what looked like ALL of his kibble, then some bile. I just took him out and he was acting normal and trying to play with the other dogs and he pooped normal too. He was SLIGHTLY less hyper than normal, but still in his range of behavior.
*some notes:*
-he is allergic to chicken and pumpkin. He has not had any, though.
-the only new thing in his recent diet is a new antler chew, and new sweet potatoe treats. He's had both of these things in the past with no issues. We added these things 6 days ago, when he probably hasn't had either one in 3-4 months before this.
-I haven't seem him eating or licking anything he isn't supposed to.
-There was at least a couple hairs in the puke, and I have LONG hair and also a cat.
-I gave him his flea medication chew thing 2 days ago. He's been taking them monthly so idk why it would randomly make him sick this time? | openai_summarize |
What are your favourite books/movies that share themes to Frank Herbert's Dune? | Summarize the following paragraph: Hi r/books,
I'm not really sure if this is the right sub so apologies if it's not. For english class at the moment (I'm in high school) we're being tasked to choose two books to read, and then later in the year we have to write a comparative essay on common themes between the texts.
I'm reading Dune at the moment as my first book, and we've been told the other text can be a film instead of a book if we're so inclined. So, r/books, what are some of your favourite books/movies that share themes to Frank Herbert's Dune? | openai_summarize |
bought a raft at an auction that had an all sales are final policy. Seller now wants to back out of the transaction. | Summarize the following paragraph: A few friends and I teamed up to bid on a raft the local university had put on auction from their outdoor recreation department. We were notified on the day of the close of the auction that our bid had been chosen. The policy of the auction clearly states that "All sales are final."
My friend phoned in his credit card and had 6 different conversations, by phone, e-mail and in-person. He even got a receipt for his payment in full for the winning bid.
Later, a supervisor from the university property department called and said there had been an error and someone else had a higher bid. They are going to void the transaction. We are kicking ourselves for not picking up the raft immediately, but we needed a pickup truck and a couple people to haul it, which we were going to do today. Instead, the university says they are going to refund the money and put the raft up for auction again. We told them we don't want the refund, we want our raft. What are our options? | openai_summarize |
My girlfriend and I helped out her step dad, her mom moved back in, and now I'm being forced out of the house. | Summarize the following paragraph: I recently moved in with my girlfriend into the house she used to live with her old step dad. At the time, her mom had left him for reasons that we deemed not bad or dangerous, so we decided if we could pay rent and live here, it would be beneficial to both sides since he needed money bad and we needed a place to stay.
So the first few months were good, we paid the rent and helped with internet and bought our own food. During this time, all the guy talked about though was how upset he was at her mom, how she left him with hot checks for the rent and how he was going to get her in trouble if it caused him to get the house taken away. We couldn't go a day without hearing how she had really screwed him over and how over her he was.
This all changed one day when she came to get her things with the kids she had just won custody of. That night, they were both in the same house, drunk, a few steps from having sex in front of these small kids due to the amount of alcohol they had consumed. Since then she has moved back in and completely destroyed the agreements we've had. I've been push out of two rooms and am now being told i can no longer sleep on my bed and that i have to find a place to put it, while i sleep on the couch every night. We already went to having our own room, to having to share a room with his son, to now me having a couch. Also they let their spoiled small dog outside with our dog, neither are neutered and their dog provoked an attack by our dog. Neither dog was hurt but the step dad kicked my dog and threatened to break his neck if it happens again.
I feel like I'm slowly being kicked out and that i should just cut my loses with the money i helped him out with and leave. But I don't know what to do.
What should I do? | openai_summarize |