I-Heteroflexibility iyindlela yokuthambekela kwezocansi noma indlela yokuziphatha ngokobulili ebonakala ngemisebenzi emincane yobungqingili ngendlela ehlukile ngokobulili obuhlukile, engahle noma ingahlukanisi nobungqingili . Ibonakaliswe njenge "iqonde kakhulu". Yize kwesinye isikhathi kulinganiswa ne- bi-ilukuluku lokuchaza ukuqhubeka okubanzi kokuthambekela kwezocansi phakathi kobungqingili nobungqingili, abanye ababhali bahlukanisa ukungahambisani nezimo njengokushoda "kwesifiso sokuzama Isimo esihambisanayo lapho kuqhutshwa khona umsebenzi wobungqingili naso sichaziwe, kubizwa ngokuthi yi-homoflexibility. Ucwaningo lukazwelonke e-US naseCanada lukhombisa ukuthi amaphesenti ama-3 kuye kwangama-4 kwentsha yesilisa, uma inikezwa ithuba lokukhetha igama elichaza kahle imizwa yabo yezocansi, izifiso zabo, nokuziphatha kwabo, bakhetha "ikakhulu" noma "ikakhulu" abesilisa nabesifazane. Njengoba u- "100% owesilisa nomuntu" kungukucatshangwa okukhulu kunakho konke, "ikakhulukazi-owesilisa nowesifazane" kwaba umgijimi wokuqala ukuzichaza.Kwabesilisa abayi-160 okwaxoxwa nabo ngocwaningo ngo-2008 nango-2009, cishe oyedwa kwabayisishiyagalombili wabika izinto ezihehisa abantu bobulili obufanayo, amaphupho, nokuchoboza. Iningi lalinayo le mizwa kusukela esikoleni esiphakeme; abanye abambalwa bazithuthukise muva nje. Futhi kusampula kazwelonke yezinsizwa ezineminyaka yobudala emaphakathi engama-22, inani "eliqonde ngqo" lenyuka lapho bephothula ucwaningo olufanayo eminyakeni eyisithupha kamuva.