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Narcasist,an interesting profession Kyle you
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Narcasist,right and that can that can have some risks you know it might give people carte blanche to criticize you but it
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Narcasist,also benefits you know if you
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Narcasist,takes does that matter to you it doesn
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Narcasist,let me again I
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Narcasist,to like somebody who maybe works in a restaurant but not Ryan Seacrest and I mean met circle videos get a lot of
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Narcasist,views sure I I don
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Narcasist,you covet it having that like ability to you know people making parting the seas for you
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Narcasist,here comes Kyle no that would feel uncomfortable okay alright so that kind
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Narcasist,of attention on you yeah and especially now that I
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Narcasist,circle video right well they give they if I went to a restaurant and they were
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Narcasist,like we have a table right up here and I was like oh cool thank you I would feel special because they just did just
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Narcasist,happen to happen yeah but if they were like because you
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Narcasist,did a job right cuz I did my everyone everyone did so the producer doesn
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Narcasist,a table because she just worked as hard as everybody else but she doesn
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Narcasist,a couch absolutely okay alright so how do you deal with frustration mm-hm
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Narcasist,sometimes I go eat fast food sometimes I take a nap
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Narcasist,sometimes I have a fake conversation with myself or the person that I
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Narcasist,frustrated with and just get it all out like that but I try to if I feel
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Narcasist,frustration coming on I
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Narcasist,problem for you mmm what let
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Narcasist,always interested to hear how people deal with you know one of the most frustrating things we could do is deal with customer service yeah that
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Narcasist,you
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Narcasist,one of a million calls they might even be working for 20 companies that day you can
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Narcasist,reading from a script
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Narcasist,honestly today I would deal with a call like that I would be frustrated huh but
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Narcasist,I would deal with it and what I think is the most efficient way to a solution for whatever the reason I
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Narcasist,years ago it would have not been that way I would have been irate screaming
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Narcasist,yelling I mean just just so it did my my
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Narcasist,anger right we
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Narcasist,I was having I was losing okay I was losing all right I still didn
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Narcasist,cable bill paid and now I
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Narcasist,knew this would go on for as long as I was alive so I might as well make these things not angry today I had to call a
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Narcasist,roofing company and they had not called me back they had not emailed they said they were gonna do this and this and
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Narcasist,this and they did none of those things and normally 10 years ago I would have told them what was up today I said guys
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Narcasist,this is what
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Narcasist,right I already know and that just makes everything better uh-huh okay when you when you overall
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Narcasist,think about how you feel about your life right now hmm how do you how do you feel about
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Narcasist,like where you
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Narcasist,the most overall content and happy that
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Narcasist,I
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Narcasist,includes the time I had my first dream job of working with animals mm-hmm
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Narcasist,when I thought oh man it doesn
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Narcasist,with animals I got to do it but now I look at life and five pillars and
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Narcasist,friends family finances career which are different and health and all of those
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Narcasist,are so good right now that I like I think this is the best it
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Narcasist,yeah okay so I
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Narcasist,doing doing well when things in those in those realms are good to be honest with you no not at all sorry I will say some
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Narcasist,people even with all those things good they still find something to harp at but most would tomorrow mentor Collette did
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Narcasist,you go yeah okay you get fired okay we found someone who found someone else to do your job you
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Narcasist,you love this job you may very clear you love what you get to do here love the people you work with how
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Narcasist,do you how would you cope with something like that I would honestly just throw
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Narcasist,myself back into the other in front of camera projects that I
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Narcasist,because I
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Narcasist,to your hypothetical if they fired me because they the company was like we
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Narcasist,just we just don
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Narcasist,interviews with you
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Narcasist,yeah no but even though I can
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Narcasist,yeah why well because I
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Narcasist,thing in my life yeah and I I did and I
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Narcasist,don
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Narcasist,would you be able to let go of it yeah of course mm-hmm yeah yeah and I would watch like the next two videos and then
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Narcasist,critique everything she did and be like that
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Narcasist,with my life okay yeah um how do you handle criticism I
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Narcasist,incredibly well no what about the other 10% terrible why what what differentiates the 90 normally the
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Narcasist,source the source what kind of source can be that part of that ten percent which throws you off a source that would
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Narcasist,have no reason to critique those subjects that we
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Narcasist,animal behaviorist for 15 years mm-hmm so you
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Narcasist,want to set me down and talk about how to potty train your dog and I
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Narcasist,because I just don
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Narcasist,right if director critiques me on my hosting performance and be like yeah I need to
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Narcasist,listen to that yeah do you have any people in your life that you feel genuinely jealous or covetous of their
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Narcasist,lives that I
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Narcasist,because she
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Narcasist,industry that
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Narcasist,really great marriages and relationships and I guess I am jealous I don
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Narcasist,I
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Narcasist,ever take advantage of a person to forward your cause or get your needs met
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Narcasist,of course mm-hmm yeah I think when you
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Narcasist,say take advantage I feel like it
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Narcasist,was doing it but I
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Narcasist,email them for me I would like to meet them you know like let
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Narcasist,do that has it ever happened in a way that were someone
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Narcasist,if someone watched that and I have done that tell me because I don
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Narcasist,you I mean none of us are perfect we all have parts of ourselves that we
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Narcasist,that part of yourself well I go to therapy okay good yeah I read a lot I
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Narcasist,try to be as honest with myself as I am with everybody else and there
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Narcasist,that I
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Narcasist,where you
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Narcasist,what
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Narcasist,pursuit on whatever my target is okay whether that
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Narcasist,getting my dog to do what she needs to do anything finances relationships
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Narcasist,friendships family once I narrow in on something then that
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Narcasist,after this conversation I
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Narcasist,you were could you could you imagine okay but I trust me I
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Narcasist,with people in the media where I
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Narcasist,you know listen you brought up some interesting issues that I poked at you know one was that sort of that
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Narcasist,emotionality you
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Narcasist,does call me fifty three times there
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Narcasist,of empathy or coldness that was probably the only little like little red flag that popped up a little bit for me you
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Narcasist,know I would say to you there are peuta Klee and clinically be mindful of that aspect of yourself that
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Narcasist,there are times when you may not have the emotional bandwidth to take something on but a human relationship is
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Narcasist,a reciprocal space and that there are times that people are going to expect you to maybe kind of be bigger than that
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Narcasist,emotional space you can be it would be exhausting for you on a daily basis I don
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Narcasist,play upon your strengths to be honest but I do think that you know it could somebody who is if you love someone and
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Narcasist,they
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Narcasist,is addressed if you
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Narcasist,lives you
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Narcasist,yeah I don
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Narcasist,misses you I should have been more I feel like I need to be a little narcissistic to be like you you if I was
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Narcasist,gonna sit here and dissect you sure could I say there was one or two things that you said there was like mmm
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Narcasist,superficial like how often do you you know do you are you like are you big into stuff do you care about your whole
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Narcasist,like what you wear and what you drive and all of that I don
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Narcasist,don
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Narcasist,great car it doesn
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Narcasist,measure of success is to get meaning and purpose from your work that
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Narcasist,narcissism and in fact when we work with narcissistic clients one of the things we try to do is meaning and purpose
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Narcasist,focused work thinking that if we can bubble that up to the surface it might help sort of address some of that
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Narcasist,emptiness and that insecurity I hear that you
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Narcasist,that yeah when the criticism comes from a place where you
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Narcasist,normal kind of a reaction back to that you know if your your ratios more were like 20 80 like 80% of the time I can
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Narcasist,tolerate criticism that would give me pause yeah you know you
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Narcasist,about when you do fall into a loving relationship that you want it to be
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Narcasist,where you
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Narcasist,would go well yeah he just talked to the narcissist expert for five hours and they did a therapy session so he
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Narcasist,going to deliver the answers to make him right see Narcisa I can tell everybody I
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Narcasist,was very honest I
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Narcasist,mean is there anything that you can add to did this feel like a valid session to
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Narcasist,you or did you feel like I was putting on here
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Narcasist,it
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Narcasist,clear I
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Narcasist,dealing with you can get some of the superficial narcissism at a dinner party but the real depths work to get this
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Narcasist,that could take a long time I know you I had that advantage College I
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Narcasist,enough about you but what I could be lying you know you could be lying and anyone could be lying in therapy and you
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Narcasist,know you could all listen you
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Narcasist,being on this side of the camera maybe any of us that you want to be on this side of the camera needs to take a good hard look inside and say why is that
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Narcasist,why is it more important for us to be on this side than that psychos or those are absolutely equal roles yeah Timmy so
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Narcasist,there is some self-examination that means to happen there you know I I would
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Narcasist,over the course of longer-term therapy we look at how do you intersect in your relationships
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Narcasist,maybe this pattern of low emotionality is actually something we do need to be more concerned about and as I got to
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Narcasist,know more about you and saw how it surfed it surfaced with family with friends with partners with coworkers
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Narcasist,I might start to see a pattern there that
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Narcasist,this is something that we
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Narcasist,kind of arrogant and brash you
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Narcasist,gate there
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Narcasist,unless it
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Narcasist,little long can you give me maybe two because of my inability to be as
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Narcasist,emotionally available as people want me to be has hurt me yeah better yes and
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Narcasist,it
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Narcasist,like two things that I can do to practice that now while I
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Narcasist,listen in case and listen to people in situations where it
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Narcasist,stakes but like you know don
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Narcasist,know I
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Narcasist,do it with with smaller with friends you actually like also listen to your friends starts telling you their
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Narcasist,emotional stuff say uh oh man you know watch those reactions because for some people for whom sharing emotional stuff
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Narcasist,may not be easy and they see you going like this that might be enough to make them more reluctant to share in that
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Narcasist,space you
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Narcasist,people we sometimes have to do things that don
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Narcasist,know to really be there for people and hear them and give richness and validation to their
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Narcasist,stories by hearing them with an open heart oh god I can do that though I
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Narcasist,literally yeah can practice this with people because right now you
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Narcasist,others as important I
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Narcasist,it matters it
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Narcasist,just I could put my phone away and just go yeah and don
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Narcasist,to be like you know all like you know trippy and all that like really just you know lie back in the sofa and hear it
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Narcasist,put that phone away be present with it don
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Narcasist,they
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Narcasist,listening to them because that
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Narcasist,about is who
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Narcasist,those big ticket days happen those are the bridges that carry the relationship to the next level and that
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Narcasist,narcissistic people can
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Narcasist,for another person emotionally is a practice skill and in our technologically soaked womb people are
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Narcasist,not good at being there for other people they
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Narcasist,look at that person be present with them stop doing your grocery list in your mind and be in the room yes oh my gosh
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Narcasist,this was so good for me loved ones and
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Narcasist,hopefully you know a partner or even when you
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Narcasist,broad pattern and someone else who can
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Narcasist,listen you know I
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Narcasist,live in LA you know you
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Narcasist,kind of thing doesn
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Narcasist,rest emanates from that and so I believe that I
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Narcasist,he
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