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[1044.30 --> 1045.24] and you're,
[1045.24 --> 1045.48] you know,
[1045.62 --> 1046.36] gossiping about them
[1046.36 --> 1046.82] for months,
[1046.92 --> 1047.58] talking to all your friends
[1047.58 --> 1048.40] about how hurt you are,
[1048.56 --> 1049.60] you're willing to stab them
[1049.60 --> 1050.62] in the back on social media
[1050.62 --> 1051.96] but they think it's okay
[1051.96 --> 1053.62] and this is common
[1053.62 --> 1054.68] or you're,
[1054.76 --> 1055.02] you know,
[1055.56 --> 1056.66] you're willing to sort of
[1056.66 --> 1057.88] find secretive,
[1058.08 --> 1058.80] dangerous ways
[1058.80 --> 1059.66] of finding vengeance
[1059.66 --> 1061.84] and we do this thing
[1061.84 --> 1063.14] as one of my pastor friends
[1063.14 --> 1063.42] puts it,
[1063.44 --> 1064.44] we do peace faking
[1064.44 --> 1066.38] rather than peace making
[1066.38 --> 1068.32] and the kind of forgiveness
[1068.32 --> 1069.54] that Jesus invites us to
[1069.54 --> 1070.34] is not just a forgiveness
[1070.34 --> 1071.10] of words,
[1071.46 --> 1073.12] it goes to this deep place
[1073.12 --> 1073.48] of us
[1073.48 --> 1075.48] that it comes from the heart
[1075.48 --> 1076.78] that the forgiveness
[1076.78 --> 1077.74] has to be real,
[1077.82 --> 1078.88] it has to be this heartfelt
[1078.88 --> 1080.60] release of revenge,
[1080.88 --> 1081.90] this heartfelt desire
[1081.90 --> 1082.78] for the good of the one
[1082.78 --> 1083.64] who sinned against you
[1083.64 --> 1084.60] and this ability
[1084.60 --> 1086.14] to truly want their good.
[1089.00 --> 1089.88] In this series,
[1090.02 --> 1090.80] I've been on the hunt
[1090.80 --> 1092.32] for a definition
[1092.32 --> 1092.86] of forgiveness
[1092.86 --> 1093.48] and by the way,
[1093.54 --> 1094.38] if you've got a great one,
[1094.46 --> 1094.86] let me know
[1094.86 --> 1096.12] because there are so many
[1096.12 --> 1097.06] and they often grab
[1097.06 --> 1097.86] different dimensions
[1097.86 --> 1098.52] of forgiveness
[1098.52 --> 1099.18] and reconciliation
[1099.18 --> 1101.12] but here's two
[1101.12 --> 1101.88] that I like.
[1102.22 --> 1103.24] The first is from Tim Keller
[1103.24 --> 1104.00] in a book called
[1104.00 --> 1104.36] Forgive,
[1104.66 --> 1105.58] I commend that book to you,
[1105.64 --> 1106.42] it's very good
[1106.42 --> 1108.52] and he defines forgiveness
[1108.52 --> 1109.04] very simply,
[1109.18 --> 1109.80] he says forgiveness
[1109.80 --> 1112.04] is renouncing revenge
[1112.04 --> 1113.86] and being open
[1113.86 --> 1115.40] to reconciliation.
[1116.52 --> 1117.82] It is renouncing revenge
[1117.82 --> 1118.48] and what I like
[1118.48 --> 1119.46] about that second part
[1119.46 --> 1120.84] is the reason he says
[1120.84 --> 1121.42] be open
[1121.42 --> 1122.64] is because you need to,
[1122.72 --> 1123.52] you need two parties
[1123.52 --> 1124.42] to reconcile,
[1124.72 --> 1124.88] right?
[1124.88 --> 1125.72] You both have to come
[1125.72 --> 1126.20] to the table
[1126.20 --> 1126.78] with humility
[1126.78 --> 1127.38] and love
[1127.38 --> 1128.68] to really reconcile
[1128.68 --> 1129.50] unlike my children
[1129.50 --> 1132.00] but you can forgive anybody
[1132.00 --> 1133.90] even if they never say sorry,
[1134.30 --> 1134.98] even if they never know
[1134.98 --> 1135.74] how much they hurt you,
[1135.86 --> 1136.84] even if they never come back
[1136.84 --> 1138.20] to you after whatever happened,
[1138.34 --> 1139.44] you can forgive them still
[1139.44 --> 1140.24] and this is what Jesus
[1140.24 --> 1141.04] is talking about.
[1142.78 --> 1143.96] Dr. Gary Brashears
[1143.96 --> 1144.74] has written extensively
[1144.74 --> 1145.78] on forgiveness as well
[1145.78 --> 1146.94] and this one I think
[1146.94 --> 1147.94] teases out a few things
[1147.94 --> 1148.84] that I don't see elsewhere.
[1148.98 --> 1149.38] He writes,
[1149.38 --> 1150.94] the heart of forgiveness
[1150.94 --> 1153.12] is my personal act
[1153.12 --> 1154.96] to release the one
[1154.96 --> 1156.46] who sinned against me
[1156.46 --> 1158.00] from my personal right
[1158.00 --> 1159.86] to collect on the moral debt
[1159.86 --> 1160.54] for the offense