Question: questions to ask your boyfriend when he's mad at you?
Answer: How can I help? This is a good first question to try, but delivery is important. ... 
Do you want a hug, or do you want space? ... 
Do you want to talk, or do you want to be left alone? ... 
Do you want to go for a walk? ... 
What I just heard you say is ____. ... 
What are you feeling?