Question: can you ghusl with your wife?
Answer: Bathing (ghusl) after oral sex If a husband does have oral sex with his wife, and ejaculates semen, then ghusl is obligatory according to Islamic sexual hygienical jurisprudence; however, if he only releases Madhy (pre-ejaculatory fluids) then Wudu is only required, and has to wash the Madhy away.