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her heart, presenting not only her daughter, but also all of those she is in contact with including us, the readers of this book and testimony with a gift of Love.An Appreciative InquiryTereza says the success of her journey is the result of her training in Appreciative Inquiry. This learning and personal/organizational development methodology created by David Cooperrider has been extremely successful everywhere it has been properly applied. I am a witness of its effectiveness, both in my personal life and in Nutrimental a company I participate in and in several programs at FIEP.Traditionally, many people, and even organizations, for that matter, see themselves as a problem to be solved, and the work method they adopt start with the creation of a list of problems. They look for the root causes and then they set out to devise and implement solutions. The main frame of reference for this kind of planning hinges on the past.There is a big difference between this method and Appreciative Inquiry. In the latter, the focus is not on the problem, but rather in the construction of a desirable future based on strengths. The individual, or the organization, stop being perceived as a problem to be solved and are instead seen as the solution itself, as potential, as a mystery to be unveiled and developed.One aspect that differentiates Appreciative Inquiry from other personal development methodologies is that images of the future emerge from positive examples occurred in the past. These images become viable because they are based on extraordinary moments of the individuals, or the organizations, existence. The principal frame of reference for planning is the future we want to create.Its basic work tool is the Appreciative Interview Protocol; a critical part carefully developed to guide the whole learning and change effort. The ingenious and creative book-manual written by Tereza and Bia exhibit the properties of a self-applicable appreciative research script, geared to the recovery of human potential, and having as its motto the ethics of care.Instilled with this elevated purpose, Tereza and Bia share with the reader, suggestions and attitudes that can change the daily routines of both Caregiver and the Loved One (Care Recipient) into something positive and enriching. But what we learn as we go on turning the pages is not what the book suggests in concrete terms. It is, rather, an exercise of sensitivity that our spirit, little by little, is being exposed to.This sensitivity actually becomes the effective tool of change, as if, gradually and aware of the impact that everything around us has on our feelings, we woke up from a kind of anesthesia and, coming out of this immobility, we generated in ourselves the movements needed for cure. And, once again, I think that, if the eye is sound (loving), all our whole body will be full of light [and healthy]. eyes, together with the physical ones, chose to perceive from then on, what love is, and then, beginning with this book, the two of them start being filled with light and showing, as if with a lantern, how to exercise
the Christ in our lives.Give Christ to the world, dont keep Him for yourself; and doing so, do it with your hands. Mother Teresa of CalcuttaTereza and Bia changed static energy (potential), the feeling of pure and free love, into kinetic energy. That is, practical actions of love. What they are proposing here is to illustrate how in everyday life, step by step, from an attitude of love, an appreciative attitude, and good eyes, they were sensitized by the practices of love, and how it acted positively in the molecules of their bodies explained by quantum physics allowing cure to find its way in. Looking at Bia (Loved One), we see her physical cure and can be sure that, in her soul and spirit, Tereza (Caregiver) was also healed. And very likely, all of those who were so close to them throughout the whole process medical team, group of friends from Little Rock were also healed in some degree.So, infused with kinetic energy, some molecules activated others and were all equally benefited. Otherwise, how else could we understand Teresa of Calcuttas touching the untouchables, witnessing and working amidst so much suffering, while at the same time staying healthy enough to go on giving more and more?!The Ethics of CareGiving care is at the core of human nature. It establishes a relationship of affection with reality. For such, we must use our thought, our senses, perceptions, and relationships, simultaneously. Daniel Goleman, in his book called Emotional Intelligence, quotes advanced studies about the movement of neurons in the human brain, which show that its first reaction is affection. Thought kicks in only after a few seconds.That is, we feel reality before thinking about it. We believe that this inner device is part of a divine self-protection logic that impels us to watch over one another, and, ultimately, ensure life on this planet.This book-manual, wisely and lovingly written by Tereza and Bia is a living example of these premises, and suggests that the Ethics of Care is the path leading to individual and global cure. The pungent story of the authors lives reveals the extraordinary power of our senses, when they are properly supported by loving solidarity relationships in touch with our divine dimension. Its spiritual level is a source of inspiration and strength, while its technical side provides a method. We are at the brink of destroying our biosphere. Todays world is sick and begs to be guided by a new set of expectations migration from an EGO-based system to an ECO-based one. Everything points to the urgent need for Care. Development of a new attitude, and practical knowledge, become critical for healing both the parts (individuals-communities) and the whole (humankind-nature). We are now faced with a unique mobilization opportunity in which to build a New Culture, that of the Ethics of Care.Much has been said about ethics, but these words and concepts grow to be dry and hollow if they do not contemplate the practical and deep side of care and support that it implies its spiritual and social dimensions. The Ethics of
Care happens through correct action. This book-manual is the authors contribution to all of those who feel the calling to join the ranks of care.This calling is implied in the intriguing quote from I CHING, at the end of this book. This source of millennial knowledge suggests that, as the praxis of care is disseminated, the building of a new culture will be taking place. A change of community behaviors. A natural transformation of the world. Because when we do something good, we are automatically included as part of the energy chain created by this gesture, and become partially responsible for the process until the very end. A growing number of individuals have been sensitized by this ethics. However, the great challenge lies in reinforcing humanity through the Ethics of Care.This book does its part. It basically shows us how through positive relationships (Appreciative), how going through life with a good eye, and doing good, we are led towards cure, which, in turn comes from love. Tereza and Bia, in their mother-daughter relationship, found in their own frames of reference daily exercises and thorough and caring practices in everything they saw or did. Thus, their days were filled with light and cure through their loving eyes. The beneficial effects can be felt until now, in the production of this book, which includes suggestions which, practiced under the spirit of faith, love, and charity, are reflected in Luke 6:38: give, and it will be given to you; good measure, pressed down, shaken together, running over, will be put into your lap. For the measure you give will be the measure you get back.Tereza and Bia chose the best part, that of practicing Love.
AN APPRECIATIVE EXPERIENCE Bia and I are witnesses that cure depends essentially on physical, mental, and spiritual disposition based on sensitivity networks. The senses of vision, hearing, smell, touch, and taste, isolated or in combination, are a generous source of nourishment for both body and mind. Associated with good memories, positive thinking, and promises of a better future, they are a gift to the heart. Spirituality was the incredible force that sustained us in moments that inspired faith, trust, and joy. The subtitle Feeling to help cure defines the purpose of our Sitting Beside You.To Feel is a demanding verb. It requires patience, tolerance, unconditional dedication to other, acceptance, letting go, humility, and wisdom in order to allow one to decide for oneself and for the other. BiaTo Feel, in the sense of taking in the other, means listening to the others concerns, fears, suffering, while being willing to participate in the others destiny, dreams, and quests. Here, I recall the empathy and consideration of Dr. James Suen, who knowing about our loneliness and fears paid us daily visits to find out if we were doing well, if we were eating properly, and brought us movies, CDs, and DVDs of musicals to entertain us. He talked about a wide range of subjects, listened to Bias observations and gently insisted on her participation in coming up with answers. Very cautious in prescribing medication and treatments, he patiently went over them with me, spoke slowly to make sure that I clearly understood his recommendations. When the time was right, he took us to meet his family and to gorgeous places around Little Rock. Dr. Suenshine, as my daughter used to call him, intentionally playing with Dr. Suens name, not only took care of us, but cared for us. Dr. Suen, with his soft and peaceful voice instills hope and trust through carefully chosen words, and envelops his patients in a cloak of attention and compassion. He is trully a doctor of the body, mind, and spirit.Feeling to help cure. Cure, in Latin was spelled coera and fitted into a context of love and friendship relationships in which one gives of oneself to focus on the other with dedication and consideration. Physicist Amit Goswamit, author of the book The Quantic Physician adds that, in order to accomplish complete healing processes, that is, of body, mind, and spirit, it is necessary for the medical sciences to adopt a new formula: integrating methods used in conventional medicine (pharmaceutics, surgery, and technology) with alternative medicine practices like homeopathy, acupuncture, meditation, and yoga.Conversely, modern alternative medicine is recapturing one of the leading therapeutic traditions that advocated that cure is a comprehensive process involving the individual as a whole and not just the part that is in poor health; a Western tradition that goes back to the cult of Asclepius (ca. 2000 B.C.), whose art of healing gave us the father of classic and modern medicine, Hippocrates (460-377 B.C.)In his sanctuary, in Epidaurus, Greece, Asclepiads stimulated activities associated with dance, music, gymnastics, poetry, rites, and sacred sleep.There was also the
Abaton, an incubation room where the sick were allowed to sleep and dream in communion with the deities that touched them and cured them. The Odeon was the place where one could enjoy soothing music and also write and recite enchanting poems. The Gymnasium was where therapists guided and helped patients with exercises that integrated mind and body. In the Stadium, sports and controlled competition improved muscle tone. The Library was reserved for book consultation, contemplation of works of art and discussions on the most varied subjects.Bia and I are witnesses that cure results from the bonding between reason I think, I know my doctors reputation, I know the depth of his knowledge and the technology he masters; and sensitivity I feel, I trust, I want to be healed, combined with the beliefs and expectations of those interacting with the patient. It is a relationship of esteem, affection, and mutual empathy between patient, the healer, the caregiver, and those comprising the sensitivity network.And to substantiate that the idea above has been championed for a long time, we quote the following words from the Bible: Honour a physician with the honour due unto him for the uses which ye may have of him: for the Lord hath created him. And he hath given men skill, that he might be honoured in his marvellous works. With such doth he heal men, of such doth the apothecary make a confection; My son, in thy sickness be not negligent: but pray unto the Lord, and he will make thee whole. Then give place to the physician, for the Lord hath created him: let him not go from thee, for thou hast need of him. There is a time when in their hands there is good success. For they shall also pray unto the Lord, that he would prosper that, which they give for ease and remedy to prolong life. (Ecclesiasticus 38: 1-14)Caregiver will thus be our way of calling those who take care of and care for people who, for one reason or other, depend on Care. The Caregiver must always remember that he or she is body, person, and affection, interacting with another body, person, and affection, that is, the Loved One, the person that has been enfeebled by disease.Body, a structure made of muscles, blood, nerves, and bones, our primary way of being, of inhabiting, and embracing the world; a structure that also bears dreams, desires, conflicting passions, guilt, joys and sorrows, successes and failures, health and suffering, scars on the skin and in the soul. This is what we are: human-body-soul beings.We should also take notice that the Loved One, for being this somebody else, should be respected in his/her dignity. Dignity that also invokes clearmindedness, courage, acceptance of reality, absence of pettiness, modesty, discretion, and thoughtfulness not to overburden the other with his/her own misfortunes. Or maybe all of that, but upside down, unconsciously reversed.Feeling is synonymous with Loving Caregiver.
experience, and strength to overcome the emotional and physical limitations that, up to that moment, were downright unthinkable. And you too have become a Loving Caregiver, because you have opened yourself to another persons pain, becoming a sentient person ready to take in another human being that needs to be loved, touched, and felt.
will have a strong impact particularly on the health sector. Chronic-degenerative pathologies like stroke, heart ischemia, neoplasia, diabetes, Alzheimers, senility, and partial or total immobility are going to demand an increasingly larger and more complex apparatus, and better well-equipped hospitals, with better equipment and well-prepared physicians. These factors aggravated by loneliness (caused by smaller family units, where both husband and wife are out to work and therefore unable to provide care) and the low socio-economic level of most part of the elderly population will demand cooperation and much compassion from the general society for their ailing fellow citizens. Even though this is a disturbing scenario, the nation has to get ready to face this challenge. This manual aims at providing support and motivation for Caregivers in charge of this huge population of aging people.THIS BOOK INTENDS TO...Humbly informRespectfully suggestWholeheartedly share
Bia and I feel we should tell you, Caregiver, a little about our story, as a way of explaining why we are so keen on helping you to feel in order to help cure.About 25 years ago, we spent a great deal of our time looking for a cure to a congenital problem our daughter Bia presented at birth. It was first diagnosed as a hemangioma and treated as such until December 2006, when God placed Rafaela Calixto and her mother Izamar in our path.We had known each other for a long time, because we used to see the same doctors and go to the same hospitals. We kept a friendly relationship and exchanged information for a long time, until we lost contact, due to several changes of address. We met again around Christmas, 2006, by chance, in Sao Paulo, in one of the floors of the huge AC Camargo Hospital complex, formerly called Hospital do Cancer, on Vergueiro [street]. And, low and behold, neither of us were supposed to have been there, since neither one had made a specific appointment with their doctors. We were there to give them their Christmas presents.After the initial surprise was over, mother and daughter told us that they had been trying to reach us since they had come back from the United States, four months earlier. They were returning from a three-year stay marked by several surgeries performed by Dr. James Suens blessed hands; and Rafaela, fully cured. They had fervently wished Bia the same. In that same night, in her Hadock Lobo apartment, Rafinha took shots of Bia, from several angles, e-mailed them to Dr. Suen, and called him to tell him that they had finally found the girl from Curitiba.From then on, Dr. Suen asked us for all kinds of exams for Bia from the time she was three years old until that date and gave us hope. He also asked us the question: would you accept being a case in Discovery Channel Health? It is a very successful recently launched American TV series that documents extremely difficult medical cases. It was January 12, 2007. From then on, things happened in vertiginous speed: the Discovery team arrived, headed by producer Brent Henderson, with Brian Sewell and Ivan Capeller to shoot Bia, family, and friends. The hectic preparation for the trip lots of it was less stressful thanks to the help of an army of friends. We arrived in Little Rock on March 1, after a 16-hour trip, and the surgery was scheduled for March 9. ]We can guarantee you that miracles do happen. And we wholeheartedly wish that you will get yours, too. Essential AcknowledgementTo GodSpecial AcknowledgementsTo my familyTo my friendsTo Izamar CalixtoTo Rafaella CalixtoTo Dr. James Y. SuenTo the Guardian Angels of Little RockIsabelSuzana / GilsonYaso/ SaravanahBob/ AngieFayga/ LuizCurtSidney CarswellRev. Del FarrisGeorgeRodneyEzequielTom /Judy AdamTom BonnerJulioMariaAna To illustrate the importance of Care we took a very old tale, of Greek origin, retold by Hyginus, who died in the 10th year of our era. Hyginus was a man of several intellectual interests and adapted
them to the terms of the Roman culture. What we bring to you, however, is Heideggers translation from the Latin original.As 'Care' once crossed a stream, she saw some clay: she picked up a piece thoughtfully and began to shape it. While she considered in herself what she had created, Jupiter came up to her. Care asked him to provide spirit to the clay form. This he was pleased to do for her. But when she wished to give her name to her creation, Jupiter would not allow it and said that his name ought to be given to it. While 'Care' and Jupiter argued over the name, the earth (Tellus) came up and wanted the creation to be named after her since she had, afterall, given it a part of her body. The three claimants asked Saturn to settle the matter. And Saturn gave them an apparently just decision as follows: 'You, Jupiter, because you have provided the spirit, should receive the spirit when the creature dies; you, earth, because you provided the body, should receive the body. But because 'Care' first shaped this creature, so should it be that she possesses it as long as it lives. And because the name is subject to dispute, so should it be that it is called "homo", since it is made out of earth ("humus").What can be concluded from this tale?That the task of taking care of and caring for, as it was granted to Care, became the true and eternal essence of human beings. That each individual deserves to be loved and respected, because they were first loved by God and this love must last their whole life long. Care can also be translated as concern, esteem and sense of responsibility for a Loved One or for an object.Caring for someones body is paying attention to the spirit that animates them, said a spiritual master.Care, in fact, equals another word of four divinely intense letters: Love.
De tudo, ao meu amor serei atentoAntes, e com tal zelo, e sempre, e tantoQue mesmo em face do maior encantoDele se encante mais meu pensamento. Quero vive-lo em cada vao momentoE em seu louvor hei de espalhar meu cantoE rir meu riso e derramar meu prantoAo seu pesar ou seu contentamento.E assim, quando mais tarde me procureQuem sabe a morte, angustia de quem viveQuem sabe a solidao, fim de quem amaEu possa dizer do meu amor (que tive):Que nao seja imortal, posto que e chamaMas que seja infinito enquanto dure. Nosso amor comecou por uma simples brincadeira , nem eu e nem vc iamos levar a serio.Hoje estamos vivendo outras vidas, minha vida ao teu lado e simplesmente de alegria ... nem sempre mais temos nossas maguas um com o outro; mais nada nus impede de ficar juntos e vencer qualquer barra que atrapalhar-mos ! ;* -Amor sao mais de meses ao teu lado , sao dois anos e cinco meses contigo . Teeamoo mais que tudo. "Deus nos Uniu,e nimguem vai nos separar" RogerioBatistaDaSilva ' s2 - Durante um tempo vim percebendo que tudo na minha vida tava dando errado.Que todas as pessoas estavao se afastando de mim, logo percebi que muita coisa parecia estar mudando. Mais tambem percebi que essas pessoas que estavao se afastando de mim eu chamava de amigo (a) ou seja, por tudo o que estava acontecendo comigo praticamente nenhum deles estendeu a mao pra mim quando eu mais precisei. Fiquei muito cabisbaicha, chateada com tudo aquilo, porque mais que incrivel que pareca sempre achava que todas as quelas pessoas me admiravam, que sempre iam tar comigo para o que der e vinher... mais foi de pura "ilusao" Na escola eu num era popular, mais conhecia muita gente e num era e nunca sera ser "popular" porque eu acho isso uma pura besteira, e legal voce ter 'varios amigos' mais oque adiantava ter milhares de amigos e ter ao menos um ou dois que voce pelo menos achava que seria uma amizade eterna, no meu caso foi assim - Uma Garota, sempre andava comigo muitas pessoas "Zuavam" ela e eu sempre estava ali com ela; ela tinha pele mulata, cabeilos trancados e ninguem... absolutamente ninguem, tava nem ai pra ela, e eu sempre ali com ela jamais deixando-a abaixar a cabeca para todas aquelas pessoas. Os dias, os meses, estavam passando e ela com uma alto-estima la em cima, um belo de um dia ela chegou na escola muito bonita, a escola inteira parou quando a viu com um Super Look da moda, seus cabeilos que eram trancados, incrivelmente ficaram lindo solto ao vento; ela estava desnubrante ninguem acreditava que era ela quando eu avi dei um Super-Abraco nela e disse que estava linda. Com o tempo a nossa amizade foi se destanciando, ela sempre queria ser popular e ter varios amigos, meu caso ja era bem diferente, nao ligava muito pra popularidade. As pessoas que zuavao aquela menina ultimamente so queriam saber dela, e a nossa linda amizade foi ficando ao vento... Quando a gente
se via na escola era apenas um Oi que a gente trocava, e ela sempre ali achando que estava Abafando e etc. Hoje eu me lembro perfeitamente como se fosse hoje, sera? . Sera que ela so estava ao meu lado pra mim proteger ela? sera que ela so estava fingindo ser "amiga".Bom isso so Deus sabe. Mais hoje eu posso falar pra ser meu amigo(a) voce tem que me conquistar muito, nao e bobagem e a pura realidade. Eu nao quero uma amiga(o) para apenas dizer eu tenho um amigos(as) ! Nao Hoje se eu quisesse ser popular eu seria facilmente, mas nao quero isso, quero uma pessoa pra estar comigo ali pro que der e vinher. APENAS ISSO BASTA .