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signs and signals that a person is lying include: Eyes maintain little or no eye contact, or there may be rapid eye movements, with pupils constricted. Hand or fingers are in front of his or her mouth when speaking. His or her body is physically turned away from you, or there are unusual/un-natural body gestures. His or her breathing rate increases. Complexion changes such as in color; red in face or neck area. Perspiration increases. Voice changes such as change in pitch, stammering, throat clearing.As with all non-verbal language, it's important to remember here that everyone's personal body language is slightly different. If you notice some of the typical non-verbal signs of lying, you shouldn't necessarily jump to conclusions, as many of these signals can be confused with the appearance of nervousness. What you should do, however, is use these signals as a prompt to probe further, ask more questions and explore the area in more detail to determine whether they are being truthful or not.Further clarification is always worthwhile when checking out your understanding of someone's body language, and this is particularly true during job interviews and in negotiating situations.Interviews and negotiations, and reflectionWhat do you do when you are asked a really good question? Do you ponder for a few moments before answering?You might simply blurt something out without taking time to think about the answer, or you could take a moment to reflect before answering. By taking some time to reflect on your response, you are indicating to the questioner that they've asked you a good question and it is important enough for you to take some time to consider your answer.Be that in an interview situation or when negotiating something with someone, showing that you are indeed thinking over your answer is a positive thing. Some typical signs and signals that a person is reflecting on their answer include: Eyes look away and return to engage contact only when answering. Finger stroking on chin. Hand to cheek. Head tilted with eyes looking up.So, whether you are on the receiving end of someone pondering, or you are doing the pondering, there are certain gestures that give it away.One size does NOT fit allWe mentioned earlier that each person is unique, and that their signs and signals might have a different underlying cause from the ones you suspect. This is often the case when people have different past experiences, and particularly where cultural differences are large. This is why it's important to check that your interpretation of someone else's body language is correct. You might do this through the use of further questions, or simply by getting to know the person better.To help practice and further develop your skill in picking up body language, engage in people-watching. Observe people be that on a bus/train or on television without the sound and just notice how they act and react to each other. When you watch others, try to guess what they are saying or get a sense of what is going on between them.Even if you do not get the chance
to check whether you are correct in your assessment, you will be developing your observational skills. This in turn can help you to pick up signals when you are interacting with others.Tip:As well as learning to read body language, people often consciously use it to project messages and reinforce what they're saying we can all call to mind the body language used by a "slippery" used-car salesman.Whether or not this is acceptable depends on the situation. It's fine to put on a "brave face" when you're about to meet someone or do a presentation. However, it's not acceptable if you're trying to persuade someone to do something that's against their interests what's more, the gestures you can't control may give you away, leading to a serious loss of trust and credibility.Key PointsBody language impacts a great deal of how we communicate, and can reflect quite accurately what's going on inside us.It includes body movements and gestures (legs, arms, hands, head and torso), posture, muscle tension, eye contact, skin coloring (flushed red), even people's breathing rate and perspiration. Additionally, the tone of voice, the rate of speech and the pitch of the voice all add to the words that are being used.It is important to recognize that body language may vary between individuals, and between different cultures and nationalities. It is therefore essential to verify and confirm the signals that you are reading, by questioning the individual and getting to know the person.This site teaches you the skills you need for a happy and successful career; and this is just one of many tools and resources that you'll find here at Mind Tools. Subscribe to our free newsletter, or join the Mind Tools Club and really supercharge your career!
MESSAGES LOG IN EXPLORE HELP US EDIT Home Categories Relationships Social Interactions Language Nuances Article Edit DiscussEdit ArticleHow to Read Body LanguageRead Body Language Intro.jpgNoticing the signals that people send out with their body language is a very useful social skill. Some of us can read it naturally and some of us are notoriously oblivious. Fortunately, with a little extra attentiveness, you can learn to read body language, and with enough practice it can become second nature.AdSteps Read Body Language Step 1 Version 2.jpg 1 Pay attention to how physically close someone is to you. The closer they are, the warmer they are thinking of you. If you move slightly closer to them and they move even closer to you, they probably really like you or are very comfortable around/by you. But this could also mean that they have a special comfort with you. A strong friendship or they consider you a member of their family. It is worth noting that personal space is culturally fluid; keep in mind that what is considered close in one country is far away in another. Ad Read Body Language Step 2 Version 2.jpg 2 Watch their head position. Overly tilted heads are either a potential sign of sympathy, or if a person smiles while tilting their head, they are being playful and maybe even flirting. Lowered heads indicate a reason to hide something. Take note if someone lowers their head. If it is when he is complimented, he may be shy, ashamed, timid, keeping distance from the other person, in disbelief, or thinking to himself or herself. If it is after an explanation, then he may be unsure if what he said was correct, or could be reflecting. It should be noted that some cultures see this as a sign of respect. Tilted heads mean that they are confused or challenging you, depending on their eye, eyebrow, and mouth gestures. Think of how a dog slightly tilts its head when you make a funny noise. Read Body Language Step 3 Version 2.jpg 3 Look into their eyes. People who look to the sides a lot are nervous, or distracted. However, if a person looks away from the speaker, it very well could be a comfort display or indicate submissiveness. Looking askance generally means the person is distrustful or unconvinced. If someone looks down at the floor a lot, they are probably shy or timid. People also tend to look down when they are upset, or trying to hide something emotional. People are often thinking and feeling unpleasant emotions when they are in the process of staring at the ground. Sometimes looking down and away from the body can indicate shame or guilt. Just be certain to validate this feeling by reverting back to the topic a second time to validate the body language reading. Some cultures believe that looking at someone in the eyes is a sign of disrespect, or is only done with intimate friends or family, so this could explain why someone is avoiding eye contact with you. Dilated pupils mean that the
person is interested. Keep in mind, however, that many substances cause pupils to dilate, including alcohol, cocaine, amphetamines, MDMA, LSD and others. Don't mistake having a few drinks for attraction. If their eyes seem focused far away, that usually indicates that a person is in deep thought or not listening. 4 See if they're mirroring you. If someone mimics your body language this is a very genuine sign that they are trying to establish rapport with you. Try changing your body position here and there. If you find that they change theirs similarly, they are mirroring. Read Body Language Step 5.jpg 5 Check their arms. People with crossed arms are closing themselves to social influence. Though some people just cross their arms as a habit, it may indicate that the person is (slightly) reserved, uncomfortable with their appearance (self-conscious and trying to cover it), or just trying to hide something on their shirt. If their arms are crossed while their feet are shoulder width or wider apart, this is a position of toughness or authority. Also be aware of their surroundings. If it's cold, or it might seem cold to them, they're probably just trying to stay warm. If they are rubbing their hands together or somehow touching their own body, they might be comforting themselves (which means they aren't enjoying the current situation). If someone rests their arms behind their neck or head, they are open to what is being discussed or just laid back in general. If their hands are on their hips, they might be waiting, impatient or just tired. If their hands are closed or clenched, they may be irritated, angry, or nervous. 6 Pay attention to gestures in conversation. Exaggerated movements can express passion or interest in the subject. Frequent reaching forwards or superfluous hand gestures can mean that someone is trying to convince you of something. Noting the intensity, frequency, and reach of hand gestures can help you read another person's body language, but remember that the exact meaning of these gestures will depend largely on context. 7 Be aware of nervous gestures: If someone brushes their hair back with their fingers, this may be preening, a common gesture if the person likes you, or their thoughts about something conflict with yours. They might not voice this. If you see raised eyebrows during this time, you can be pretty sure that they disagree with you. If the person wears glasses, and is constantly pushing them up onto their nose again, with a slight frown, that may also indicate they disagree with what you are saying. Look to make sure they push up their glasses with an intent, not casually adjusting them. Look for pushing on the rim with two fingers, or an extra motion of wiggling the side of their glasses. The frown or raised eyebrows should tip you off. (Note: A frown may also indicate eyestrain, and constant re-adjusting of glasses could be the result of an improper fit. The distinguishing feature is whether they are looking directly at you while doing it.) Lowered eyebrows
and squinted eyes illustrate an attempt at understanding what is being said or going on. It's usually skeptical. This is presuming they are not trying to observe something that's far away. Read Body Language Step 7.jpg 8 Watch their feet: A fast tapping, shifting of weight, laughing, or movement of the foot will most often mean that the person is impatient, excited, nervous, scared, or intimidated. The meaning of feet tapping can usually be discerned depending on the context; if you are currently talking and they are tapping their feet, that is an indication of a desire to leave (though usually this behavior manifests when the person is anxious to get somewhere specific, such as a meeting, rather than because of what you're doing specifically). Slow shuffling indicates boredom with the current situation. If during flirtation your legs/feet touch, tapping can generally be interpreted as nervous excitement. This is because if they were uncomfortable, they would discreetly move away from the contact, a much more subtle escape than indirectly trying to tell you to move away. Note though that some people with ADHD will constantly jiggle their legs. It doesn't mean anything, it's entirely subconscious and, while eccentric, it is difficult to stop. Some people also do it out of habit. If the person is sitting, feet crossed at the ankles means they're generally at ease. If while standing, a person seems to always keep their feet very close together, it probably means they are trying to be "proper" in some way. Sometimes feet together means that they are feeling more submissive or passive. If they purposely touch their feet to yours, they are flirting! Some people may point their feet to the direction of where they want to go or sometimes their interest. So if it's pointing at you, he/she may be interested in you. AdVideo Understanding body language is a great way to read non-verbal communication cues. Whether you want to learn alpha male moves or impress your peers, these are body language tips will definitely help you out.Tips If they lean forward, they're interested in listening to you. Watch your own body language, see what message you're giving off. To become more aware about body language, watch TV with the voice off, every night, for three weeks in row. By guessing what's going on just from body language, you'll improve your ability to read it. Keep in mind that each person has their own unique body language called baseline behaviors. Pay special attention to changes in body language rather than the body language itself. Notice how close they get to you. If they are right up against you that probably means they like you or feel comfortable in your presence. It's easy to spot a confident person: they will make prolonged eye contact and have a strong posture. They may also sit or stand very correct. When a person closes his/her eyes longer than the time it takes to blink, that usually means that he/she is feeling stress, alarm, or despair (although it could mean that their contacts are
dry, this will sometimes be accompanied by rubbing of the eye). Watch the face - it will usually give off a quick involuntary and sometimes subconscious twitch when something happens that irritates, excites, or amuses them. When a person often tap their fingers on something it's usually a sign of excitement or impatience. Also when a person elongates his or her blinks, it could possibly be a sign of annoyance, disbelief, or boredom or, could be a sign of nervousness. Look for twitches in the lips and corners of the mouth, or even pouting. And if they press their tongue against their mouths, then they are not interested. Be aware of the person's mouth. Constant twitching usually means they are agitated or annoyed. You can watch someone's breathing pattern to determine whether they are nervous or relaxed. Short quick breaths indicate being nervous or under stress and deep long breaths indicate calmness, relaxed at ease. Lowered eyelids could mean that someone is bored or trying to deflect a comment. A lowered eye shows calmness. To tell if someone is lying to you the most common way is by a small tensing of the muscles surrounding the eye. Realize that sometimes all of this could be wrong. Many people appear proud, arrogant and better than everyone else because they feel useless or sad. Do not judge a person solely by their body language. Take the person's culture and beliefs into consideration. You shouldn't isolate yourself by constantly examining body language when interacting with people. Otherwise, there is no reason to gain a social upper hand anyway. This is paralysis by analysis. Confidence is key to making a good impression. But, remember the fine line between confidence and cockiness Always consider that a person's body language might be influenced by a medical condition.Meet Neon Heart, a New Article Booster and Featured Author who has been active in the wikiHow community for over a year. She has started 19 articles and enjoys voting on NFDs and fixing grammatical errors. Her proudest accomplishments on wikiHow have been becoming a Booster and Featured Author, and her favorite article shes worked on is How to Make an Allied Map in Starcraft. Her favorite article on wikiHow is How to Make Blended Pink and Purple Eyes. She says that the potential knowledge base of wikiHow being practically infinite makes her stick around, since theres always more to update and correct to help readers. She says the community is really down to earth, and she feels a connection to everyone here. To newer editors, she advises: Edit and write articles about topics that youre passionate about!
MEU CACHORRO E O AMORVoceja deve ter ouvido aquela frase: - Existemvarias formas para o amor.Eusempre filosofei sobre essa frase. Sobre o amor entre duas pessoas, sobre oamor dos pais para com seus filhos, dos filhos para com seus pais, o amor entrefamiliares, do amor entre amigos, e, de nos para com os animais. No meu casomeu amor pelos cachorros.Achoque a conclusao do ciclo deste aprendizado de amor chegou ao fim, ou talvezseja ao um grau superior de amor.Prafalar desse amor com os animais, em especial por um cachorro, preciso contar ahistoria do meu cachorro Sleep.OSleep nasceu em 21/11/2004 de uma das varias crias da sua mae a cadela Funny,ambos de uma raca chamada indefiduslatorius (vira lata ou raca indefinida), como meu falecido avo maternocostumava dizer. Na epoca queria muito um cachorro, pois eu e minha familia tinhamosacabado de mudar para uma casa propria.Avontade se juntou com a ocasiao e uma pessoa muito especial me deu ele. Nao sodeu, mas como tambem deu o nome a ele: - SLEEP. Segundo ela porque ele era omais dorminhoco dos filhotes.Elepassou a ser a atencao da casa, ganhou dois potinhos, uma casinha de madeira euma bolinha. Era levado que so que ele. Pegava os chinelos de todos de casa edestrocava. Nada podia ficar ao seu alcance. Com o tempo fui educando ele. Ensinei-oa dar a pata, sentar e deitar. Ta certo que tudo isso ele fazia por um bompetisco, mas fazia com muito agrado.Otempo foi passando e o Sleep crescendo, as artes foram diminuindo e ele setornou o dono da casa literalmente. Ele passou a ser um cachorro antissocial(rs) como meus amigos diziam.Todosque chegavam em casa ele precisava mostrar com latidos que era o dono dopedaco. Era necessario ele dar uma verificada, um cheiro aqui e outro ali,estava liberado a entrada. Mas mesmo assim ficava ali ranzinza no seu cantinho.E ai daquele que quisesse fazer um carinho nele. Logo ele mostrava seus dentes,com um ar nada amistoso, mostrando quem era o dono do pedaco. Mas se tivesse umbom pedaco de carne, logo ele fazia amizade, mas nada de carinhos (rs).Forampoucos os amigos e familiares que ganharam a confianca do Sleep, conseguindoacariciar nem que seja sua cabeca ou atras da orelha. Ele gostava mesmo que cocassesuas costas ou a barriga.Masele era assim mesmo, podia estar ranzinza, mas sua bolinha estava sempre ali,para que alguem a jogasse e tentasse tomar dele. Pois e! O Sleep nao aprendeu adeixar a bolinha ali para a gente jogar, era necessario tomar dele. Acreditoque ele se divertia a beca com isso, pois era bem dificil tomar a bolinha delee ele fazia um charme danado.Apesarde tudo, o Sleep foi sempre um bom parceiro, nunca negou um carinho e um afago.Estava sempre com o rabinho balancando. E eram tres frases que o deixavam felizde mais. A primeira era dizer: - vamospapar?; a segunda: - vamos passear?;a terceira era: - cade a bolinha?Impressionantecomo decorei todos seus latidos. Sabia quando tinha um gato no muro, quandotinha gente na frente de casa ou quando ele latia com o nada mesmo.Pormuitas vezes chegava em casa e sentava
na varanda, e como se ele entendesse oque eu dizia, falava da minha vida, das minhas alegrias, dores e amores. E elesempre ali, me ouvindo atentamente, as vezes sentia que olhava nos meus olhoscomo se quisesse dizer algo pra mim, dar um conselho, ou ate mesmo dizer: - para meu! Nao entendo nada!Maso tempo passou, o Sleep foi envelhecendo, a bolinha ele nao buscava mais, seuslatidos passaram a ser mais leves e menores, seu andar mais cansado, ficou maisamistoso com todos, ate que a doenca o pegou de vez. Comecou a ficar maismagro, quase ja nao levantava, quase ja nao latia, quase nao comia.Entaopassei a entender o real significado do amor do homem para seu animal deestimacao. Eu ja atendia esse amor na convivencia com ele, de tudo que contei avoces. Porem, entender que essa presenca fisica desse amor chegava-se ao fim,fazia meu amor ainda maior por ele. Queria eu ter poderes divinos para que apresenca fisica do Sleep perdurasse na minha vida.Mascomo se diz: - tudo na vida tem seus significados e licoes para aquele quequer aprender.Assimtive que tomar uma das decisoes mais dificeis da minha vida, ao ver meu parceirode anos se definhando com sua doenca, sentindo na minha propria pele sua dor esofrimento, tive que dar meus adeus, ou, meu ate breve para o Sleep, entendendoassim o verdadeiro amor que existiu entre eu e ele, entre ele e eu!Comodiz minha mae: - Sao Francisco o acolhera!Emmemoria do meu parceiro Sleep 21/11/2004 a 16/11/20016-Cade a bolinha?
Li esse poema e fiquei encantando com seu contesto. Em tempos em que se fala tanto das desilusoes amorosas vividas, vale a pena compartilha-lo.CertezasNao quero alguem que morra de amor por mim...So preciso de alguem que viva por mim, que queira estar junto de mim, me abracando.Nao exijo que esse alguem me ame como eu o amo, quero apenas que me ame, nao me importando com que intensidade.Nao tenho a pretensao de que todas as pessoas que gosto, gostem de mim...Nem que eu faca a falta que elas me fazem, o importante pra mim e saber que eu, em algum momento, fui insubstituivel...E que esse momento sera inesquecivel...So quero que meu sentimento seja valorizado.Quero sempre poder ter um sorriso estampando em meu rosto, mesmo quando a situacao nao for muito alegre...E que esse meu sorriso consiga transmitir paz para os que estiverem ao meu redor.Quero poder fechar meus olhos e imaginar alguem...e poder ter a absoluta certeza de que esse alguem tambem pensa em mim quando fecha os olhos, que faco falta quando nao estou por perto.Queria ter a certeza de que apesar de minhas renuncias e loucuras, alguem me valoriza pelo que sou, nao pelo que tenho...Que me veja como um ser humano completo, que abusa demais dos bons sentimentos que a vida lhe proporciona, que de valor ao que realmente importa, que e meu sentimento...e nao brinque com ele.E que esse alguem me peca para que eu nunca mude, para que eu nunca cresca, para que eu seja sempre eu mesmo.Nao quero brigar com o mundo, mas se um dia isso acontecer, quero ter forcas suficientes para mostrar a ele que o amor existe...Que ele e superior ao odio e ao rancor, e que nao existe vitoria sem humildade e paz.Quero poder acreditar que mesmo se hoje eu fracassar, amanha sera outro dia, e se eu nao desistir dos meus sonhos e propositos, talvez obterei exito e serei plenamente feliz.Que eu nunca deixe minha esperanca ser abalada por palavras pessimistas...Que a esperanca nunca me pareca um NAO que a gente teima em maquia-lo de verde e entende-lo como SIM.Quero poder ter a liberdade de dizer o que sinto a uma pessoa, de poder dizer a alguem o quanto ele e especial e importante pra mim, sem ter de me preocupar com terceiros... Sem correr o risco de ferir uma ou mais pessoas com esse sentimento.Quero, um dia, poder dizer as pessoas que nada foi em vao...Que o amor existe, que vale a pena se doar as amizades a as pessoas, que a vida e bela sim, e que eu sempre dei o melhor de mim... e que valeu a pena Tenho visto os posts de repercussao dasmanifestacoes e seu uso errado para discriminarem brancos de negros, pobres dericos.Como as pessoas estao invertendo valores porconta do Estado. E isso mesmo! Do Estado! Este que quer fazer voce acreditarque ser pobre, negro, idoso, estudante, ou seja o que for, deve ser tratado demodo diferente.Morei na cidade de Salvador/BA, onde talvez 70%dos meus amigos sejam negros e nunca paramos pra discutir segregacao, todosacham