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reservam quarto em hoteizinhos secretos, surpreendem com presentes, passagens aereas, convites inusitados. Sao inteligentes, charmosos, ousados, corajosos, batalhadores. Disputam nosso amor como se estivessem numa guerra, e pra que? Tudo o que recebem em troca e uma mulher que nao para de olhar pela janela, suspirando por algo que nem ela sabe direito o que e."Perdoem esse nosso desvio cultural, rapazes. Nenhuma mulher se sente amada o suficiente.Livro: Trem-Bala - Martha Medeiros
Super atrasada, mas ainda no clima do Dia Internacional da Mulher, ca estou eu tentando concatenar as ideias e compartilhar algumas opinioes. Alguns amigos e amigas me consideram ate um pouco machista. Mas o fato e que depois de ja ter vivido algumas boas experiencias nessa vida, desencanei de alguns (pre)conceitos e passei a tentar encarar algumas facetas da nossa grande jornada com mais simplicidade.O que eu quero mesmo e falar de igualdade. Esse assunto esta martelando a minha cabecinha oca ja ha algum tempo e por causa de assuntos diversos. Aproveitando a deixa do 8 de marco, vou tentar expor algumas das minhas angustias. Eu acredito que nao se deve tratar desiguais como iguais. Homens e mulheres sao diferentes muito diferentes e isso e fato. E o que eu quero expor aqui vai parecer pura incoerencia pois eu vou justamente reclamar da desigualdade. O grande desafio vai ser organizar o pensamento para que essa incoerencia faca algum sentido (se e que isso e possivel).Tenho tido muita sorte na vida e trabalhado em grandes empresas. Realmente eu nao tenho do que reclamar. Mas analisando friamente, muitos detalhes fazem grande diferenca no dia a dia das relacoes entre homens e mulheres. Vamos aos exemplos praticos:1. Plano de SaudePoucas sao as empresas que permitem que as mulheres possam colocar seus maridos/companheiros como dependentes no plano de saude. Isso afeta diretamente a renda da funcionaria. Dois funcionarios, um homem e uma mulher, que foram contratados no mesmo dia na mesma funcao terao renda diferenciada porque na casa da funcionaria, o seu marido/companheiro nao usufrui do plano corporativo da sua esposa. Nada justifica essa desigualdade de tratamento.2. Auxilio CrechePor contra partida, em muitas empresas apenas a funcionaria tem direito a um beneficio chamado auxilio-creche. A principio muita gente da vivas a isso, como se fosse uma compensacao. Errado novamente. Qualquer funcionario deveria ter direito a tal beneficio. Concede-lo somente as mulheres faz com que a contratacao de uma mulher seja considerada uma escolha mais cara para a empresa. Mesmo que a empresa nao estimule esse tipo de pensamento, gerentes tapados pensam assim. Acreditem em mim.4. Gravidez e MaternidadeSe reproduzir e necessario para a sobrevivencia da humanidade por que as empresas insistem em perguntar ainda na entrevista se a mulher ja e mae ou pretende ser e quando? Para mim pessoalmente nem e um problema de fato (ja desencanei da maternidade imediata, mas isso e assunto para uma postagem exclusiva), mas eu acho o fim da picada querer saber se a mulher quer engravidar ou nao. E um sinal incontestavel de que o pensamento que ali impera e praticamente medieval. Mulheres engravidam, ponto. Faz parte da natureza. Tentar sempre contabilizar isso e a estupidez mor dos gerentes e das empresas.5. ChefiaMulheres ainda sao minoria em cargos de chefia. Nao sao duronas. Precisam se preocupar com filhos e isso as torna menos disponiveis do que os homens. E varios outros argumentos preconceituosos. Faca-me o favor! Jogue a moca na fogueira e deixe-a se virar! Ja trabalhei com mulheres muito mais exigentes do que homens. Cobre pelo resultado e
esqueca o resto. Mas nao assuma antes que, por ser mulher, uma pessoa nao serve para a funcao. Uma outra faceta deste mesmo problema e que, para acabar com a defasagem gerencial, muitas empresas instituiram cotas de diversidade. Um numero X de gerentes deve ser de mulheres. Triste escolha. Isso significa que uma mulher podera escolhida para um cargo de lideranca a despeito da sua real capacidade. Se ela faz m, vai a empresa inteira soltar piadinhas do tipo bem feito, devia estar pilotando um fogao. E isso so piora as coisas... Acaba com o credito da mulherada. Nao sei se consegui demonstrar exatamente qual e o meu descontentamento. Como eu disse la no comeco, eu sei que homens e mulheres sao diferentes, mas para mim isso nao justifica esses exemplos da mais ultrapassada desigualdade. Em pleno seculo XXI homens e mulheres mudaram os seus comportamentos. Homens se flexibilizaram e mulheres se endureceram. Por que ainda resistir a isso? Por que achar que conceitos que eram validos na decada de 70 ainda podem ser aplicados em tempos de pura competitividade? Querem pasteurizar o mundo, tornando-o o habitat de androgenos dos dois generos? Respeitemos as diferencas e deixemos o povo trabalhar! Teno certeza de que disposicao nao vai faltar.
Mais uma vez a Mulherada se junta pra falar de um tema bem importante: A inseguranca masculina em relacao ao tamanho do seu penis.O tamanho realmente vai definir uma relacao sexual satisfatoria? O que pensamos sobre tudo isso? Alguns relatos, dicas e muito bom humor! Nesse podcast, estiveram presentes "B" do site e podcast A Vida Secreta, Cafeina do Bebendo,Daniela Monteiro do Dani Cast, Camis Barbieri e Erica Ribeiro do podcast Seriadores Anonimos e Angelica Hellish do Masmorra Cast.Comente!Divulgue!A Mulherada agradece.Email da Mulherada: avozdamulher@gmail.comTwitter da Mulherada: @MulheradaCastCLIQUE PLAYER ABAIXO, PRA ESCUTAR AQUI NO BLOG.OU FACA DOWNLOAD AQUI Links prometidos:(+18)Pequenos Delitos - Blog de Exibicionistas, para Voyeristas.Formspring falado pela "B" do Vida Secreta.Bolsa de DouglasCompre o livro da Cafeina! "Isso so acontece comigo?" A querida Claudia Franca confeccionou o video abaixo com o intuito de mostrar as faces das mulheres que lutam e resistem a tanta opressao. Nao importa idade, cor da pele ou ate mesmo nacionalidade; essa luta e de todas! Nesse podcast, Cafeina do Bebendo, Angelica Hellish do Masmorra Erotica e Thais liberaram a entrada de Touroman do Filmes com Legenda, Toscochanchada, Jerimum Beta e Pauta Livre News e Noise, Sr.Seu Panda do site e podcast Diecast Connection e Marcos Noriega do Masmorra Erotica para que eles dessem suas opinioes sobre o feedback dos ouvintes que comentaram no podcast Mulherada # 04.Curtam esse bate papo super bem humorado e sem nocao e comente!Mas cuidado, seu comentario pode ser respondido...hahahaPara fazer o download do podcast, clique aqui.Ou clique no player abaixo e escute aqui no blog.Boa diversao! Jiaozi, Baozi, Zongzi... what?!Yeah Jiaozi, Baozi, Zonzi... You might think i might be making this names up, no im not. they do sound funny i agree with you but these are the most traditional food in China. Last time i told you about Jiaozi, or dumplings as the rest of the world knows it. Jiaozi is for the chinese family as bread is for the French, pasta for the Italians, and hamburgers for the Americans. But although jiaozi is something you can eat everyday , anywhere in China, it is also one dish that must be present on special occasions like the Spring Festival, birthdays.Following the list of the most tradional ones comes baozi, or steamed bread, stuffed with vegetables, pork meat, and most of the time sold on the streets for 1 yuan ( less than 5 cents ). The perfect snack for the middle of the afternoon, but most chinese prefer it for breakfast. Unlike jiaozi , baozi is not so easy to make, and requires as many skills as baking bread, so most families would not spend time making baozi together but instead will just stop at the vendor and get a dozen before going to work. Now zongzi reminds me of the Mexican tomales, or the brazilian pamonha.Glutinous rice wrapped in bambu leaves. Sometimes it can be sweet or if you prefer salty. Served specially during the dragon boat festival, but of course you can find zongzi anytime during the year in any supermarket or even street vendor. I will save
you from the historical details on how each of these dishes became so popular in china, or why they were first eaten, if you really want to know more you can do your own research, google them and find more about it. My intention here is just to get you interested , and curious about it .Since i started this project I have been thinking more and more about the number of things one can find in China to talk about, and "food" would take me at least a year to be able to cover all i have eaten in China. That in it self shows how rich is this culture, and how creative are chinese. Next week we will talk about noodles... i mean i will be eaten noddles and you will be reading about it...
Flying home for a wedding , spending just 2 weeks with my family and then flying back to China , going straight to work = Super extra culture shock ! Dont try that! I promisse you this is not good at all.Living in China takes a lot of doses of patiency, cold blood and deaf ears... and when you have very little of those you are most likely to experience a super mega culture shock period. Im not the most patient person and all my friends know that for a fact. I have changed a lot since i moved to China and im able to cope with much more now. But i really get frustrated when people say they are going to do something and they simply DONT! or when they tell you something and after 5 minutes change their mind just because... or tell you to be there at 10 and it is 11: 30 and you are still waiting...Cold blood is not a "forte" of mine either. I cant see something wrong without saying something, but in China you learn how to ignore some things and just keep moving. But again most people know that my blood can get from 0 to 40 Celcius in a fraction of seconds if you push the wrong button.And ears.. well no need to say..im a language teacher, and after 6 years in china i dare to say that my chinese is pretty good.. so it is hard not to hear you saying that i have a BIG ASS. which i do by the way , and i m really proud of it.. but why do you have to say it aloud on day light to everyone to hear?! oh yeah you think i cant understand you!! So i guess you know where im going with this post! It is so hard to be back in China this time. I guess because the time at home was just perfect. My sister's wedding was such a sweet time. Most of my family was there, uncles and aunts that i hadnt seen in a very long time, all my cousins, plus the great brazilian food, barbecue, sun .. the SUN!!! the brazilian SUN!!! blue sky, nice people, beautiful people, green fields, have i mentioned BLUE SKY!??Not only that, flying home this time had a different taste. I had a pretty tough year in China, new city, new job, new friends, a lot to change and adjust to , so when i board the first flight i was ready to go home, and i found myself enjoying every little detail of that journey. The first stop in London made me sure of the fact that i have been in China for too long. When i was waiting for my second flight i went around the airport in and out shops, but the book shop was the place i spent most of my time in, just admiring all those books.. and thinking how many books i havent read ?! how much i need to catch up!? in China
it is really hard to get English books, dont even try to get anything in portuguese, so whenever i go home i try to buy and read a book or two, but that puts me so behind on my reading.. Maybe that doesnt mean much for you but for me... i grew up reading , loving books, the smell of the books..when i went to college my favorite classes were the ones i had to read and by that i mean british, american, portuguese and brazilian literature.. how i loved that... i used to love to discuss with the teachers the deep meanings of a book... miss that so much.. And when i saw all those books at the airport bookshop i missed it more.. i missed to be able to go to a libriray and pick up a good book and forget about life and time...toThis was also the first time i flew into London during the day, so i got to see the whole city... beautiful!!! amazing.. must go .. Can you believe!? 6 years in china i always fly over places like London , Frankfurt and i never get to go out of the airport... that HAS TO STOP!" Excuse me....please....thank you...." those are the other things i miss in China, and i guess it is there where my culture shocks starts and ends...Still in London i had this good culture shock, when somene was talking to me there was always these keys words involved.. as if nothing more was important in the sentence my brain could only focus on those few words.. .. thank you madam...Finally in Brazil all the happiness , and the good mood, all the friendness that brazilians have to share with the world got back to me. Maybe it is the sun. Maybe the sun light makes us happier, and even when our lifes are not that great we have a reason to smile. It was short.. too short.. didnt get enough of that SUN , didnt get enough of that happiness. Didnt smile enough.And back i was into dirty , polluted China. Where the sky is always grey, where the life is always grey, where people dont smile, where people will never say thank you, please, excuse me, where people live only for work and money. Now im sitting on my balcony , it is my day off, and it is sunny outside, im here enjoying some sun, but i ask you , how many chinese are doing the same?!Even those that have the day off, would not sit outside during this hour of the day ,they dont like the sun...im not kidding! they cover everything to go out if it is sunny. Hats, scarfs, jackets..The sun is bad for you , they say... well maybe.. aybe if you get too much sun it will burn all the none sense ideas of yours and bring a smile to your face... The past 2 weeks have been really hard for me. I have been irritated and the more i get in touch with the
chinese around me the more irritated i get... the more i interract with them the more angry i get with the stuppid things i hear and see. for example right now i just saw the most common thing in china.. a taxi driver just stopped in front our building , got out of his car, and went to pee at our garden. Day light for everyone to see. So nice isnt it?! Writting this blog is my way of dealing with all this frustration , i dont want to give the wrong idea, China has many interesting things to offer, but this is my on way to find balance in all this crazy caos we see outside. Since i came back from Brazil i started looking for jobs , and by that i mean anywhere but China. If when i went to Hongkong last time i knew i had to start thinking about a new place to go, to find a new passion a new home, now that i have been to Brazil I know what kind of place im looking for, and im open to your suggestions.I dont need a place where i can make loads of money, i dont need fancy nor amazing...i just need a place where i will be able to see the sky, smell the flowers and hear the birds. where people will say thank you and please, where people are still valued for who they are and not for what they have, where i will be able to keep teaching and touching people's life and being touched. A place to settle down and call home, a place taht at the end of the day i can drink a cup of coffee at a very quiet coffee shop without having someone staring at me and saying that my ASS is big.
It has been rainning in Ningbo since The Chinese New Year. According to the lunar calendar it should be spring already , and normally we would see the weather getting better and better. Temperatures should be going higher and the sun light should be shinning until later. But in fact what we only have seen since the Spring Festival is rainy days, very low temperatures and no sun at all.Today i was talking to someone at work , a local girl, and she said: the weather is terrible, and in fact it shouldnt be like this! It wasnt like this! Few years ago we would have the 4 seasons in Ningbo, now we go from Very Cold to Very Hot in a few days!! Well you already know what i told her, dont you?China is growing so fast that even the enviromment is complaining! And im not the only one saying it. I know exaclty what my friend from work is saying! I m not here that long, but in the past 6 years I have seen a lot of change. And i can assure you that China is growing too fast, therefore the enviromment is paying a huge price. But not only that ,the population is also paying the price.Some will defend , others will criticise.. i will just tell you how it is to live in a country that things are changing everyday.You wake up one day and go out for work , ready to take the bus you take every morning , but wait!? Where is the bus stop?? It was here last night!! Well they are fixing the road, or the sidewalk so the bus stop is not there anymore. Is the bus coming? Well maybe?!Or at lunch time you decide to go to your favourite dumpling restaurant around the corner , but wait the whole building is not there anymore!! Oh yeah the subway is going to pass here, so no more small shops!! Just a big shopping center, that will be ready before the subway starts running.At this pace China grows and has been growing for more than a decade. I have been here for 6 years and when i arrived i promisse you i thought i was going back on time .. compared to Brazil , 6 years ago China was so behind. In 6 years China not only was able to catch up with Brazil but also left us behind i would say in 10 years! Yeah! That is how behing we are now!!! But the cost is too high. Im also a proof of that. Living in a developing country that polutes more than creates clean solutions can make you sick as fast as they can build new roads. Not only that, when you live at a place that things are always changing you are under constant stress. When you try to get to work and your bus is not stopping where it used to , you have to start all over again, finding a new way to get to work. When your
resting time is disturbed by the construction next door, or when you cant have a nice day out because the weather is so bad and the levels of polution makes the air so tick that you can see the dust, you ask if the price isnt too high!?!This is year i have rented an apartment that is quiet nice , but further away from most of my friends, i have decided that i cant do that anymore. I need to live at a place that i can rest and have some of the life quality i was used too back home.Sometime ago i shared that I am ready to look for a new place to live, a new address, a new life at a new place. Start over. And i guess today`s post gives you a hint on why I have been thinking about moving away from China. One or two years it is a great experience. Six is a long time and a high cost. Not only to be away from those i love, but also to my health and life quality.But the sad part is .. I can move away, i have my way out.. what about those that cant? I think about my local friends that will spend the rest of their lifes here, facing this caos daily, seeing their country being distroyed by the progress...I really hope that China will find a balance between progress and life quality. Between building new buildings and presenving their wonderful past. But deep inside Im afraid that in less than 10 years they will run out of oppitions.The forecast says we will still see rain for another month. I wonder if i need to buy a boad instead of a bike!
Missing ...To live abroad means to miss.To miss home, to miss your family , to miss your friends, to miss your favourite restaurant`s food, to miss your local music, to miss your favourite spot at your hometown or your favourite summer beach, to miss that guy that you used to date, or to see that summer sunset hugging him, to miss being able to speak your native language with people that you dont need to explain what you mean when you say something funny, to miss driving your car around roads you are familiar with, to miss being angry with your neigbours when they play load music and you need to rest before you get to work next morning, to miss just sitting at home with nothing to do and watching your usual channel, to miss going to the supermarket and being able to buy all the items for dinner , to miss being able to read all the signs around you without using a dictionary, to miss complaining about how hot it is during summer, to miss going to the beach and get a sun burn for the 30th time, to miss stopping by friends home for dinner, to miss your mom s smile, to miss when she gets angry at something you said, to miss your dad s old joke, to miss having an argument with one of your sisters, to miss your dog waiting for you by the door when you get home, to miss birthdays and weddings, to miss friends and loved ones that pass away, to miss waking up on your own bed, to miss familiar faces on the streets, to miss being understood, to miss having your dad s sholder to cry when you are scared, to miss being able to be just one more on the crowed.Having...To live abroad means to haveTo have a chance to learn, to have to accept others the way they are, to have to speak a new language to express your heart , to have to humble yourself and adjust to a new reality everyday, to have to grow up , to have to get out of your confort zone , to have to face life with no one to protect you from your falures, to have to admit that you CAN T, to have to depend on others, to have to ask for help, to have to find beauty in different places, to have to be strong when all around you seems to fall apart, to have to eat whatever is on your plate, to have to start over again and again, to have to make new friends , to have to try different spots and find a new favourite one, to have to embrace a new love, to have to remember all the good moments you had with your family , to have the assurance of your family s love even from afar, to have to keep up with the news using different channels, to have to see the world with different eyes, to have to find new
friends to eat with, to have to learn how to go around new roads, to have to confess that you miss...Living...To live means to miss and to have... Paula Garcia 10 Janeiro de 2012