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tem fama de vagabunda por nao ser virgem e o camarada so muda de opiniao quando literalmente na hora h percebe que na verdade ela era pura e casta;-Nas historias que a mocinha perde a virgindade pro mocinho, sexo se torna entao uma ferramenta de poder, a mocinha nunca mais vai transar com ninguem, porque e como se o corpo dela so conhecesse aquele homem, o homem praticamente vira dono do desejo dela;- Na maioria das vezes que as mulheres dizem nao para o sexo, o parceiro a seduz de todas as formas e ate chantageia, ate que ela ceda ao desejo sexual, esquecendo que nao significa NAO.- Na maioria das historias essas mulheres sao vistas como um passatempo por seus parceiros e toda e qualquer demonstracao de afeto e amor sao ridicularizadas e se tornam motivo de humilhacao por parte do parceiro que deixa claro que nao quer nada serio e nunca vai ama-la, ate que no final ele acaba cedendo ao amor e revela que tudo foi em consequencia dos traumas que sofreu, mas ate isso acontecer a mocinha ja sofreu o diabo;- Em varias historias essas mulheres criam filhos sozinhas, em alguns casos algumas sao viuvas, outras divorciadas ou foram abandonadas, mas na maioria das historias que a mocinha e mae solteira, o mocinho e o pai da crianca que de alguma forma nunca ficou sabendo do filho ou foi enganado por algum parente que nao contou da gravidez. Ele vive como um playboy, bon vivant enquanto a mocinha passa perrengue pra criar a crianca;- Varias personagens sao forcadas a se casar, seja para esconder alguma vergonha, salvar sua familia ou para o bem de seus filhos. Mesmo que elas nao tenham desejo de se casar, acabam casando pelo bem dos outros;-grande parte dessas mulheres para de trabalhar quando casam com o mocinho;-grande parte dessas mulheres sao afastadas de suas familias quando casam com o mocinho, sao levadas pra lugares onde nao conhecem ninguem e nao tem nenhum tipo de apoio emocional;- em varias situacoes o mocinho escolhe ate o que a mocinha vai vestir, sem contar no que eles vao comer, pra onde vao viajar e etc, autonomia feminina nivel zero; - Varias delas sao chantageadas pelos parceiros, que utilizam de seu dinheiro e poder para fazer ameacas que vao desde deixa-las sem emprego, na miseria ate pegar a guarda das criancas;-Varias mulheres sao retratadas como interesseiras, desde as vilas que querem separar a mocinha do mocinho, ate mesmo a propria mocinha que muitas vezes e lida pelo mocinho como uma cacadora de fortunas;-Mulheres sao compradas facilmente, se tornam esposas e amantes em troca de pagamentos de dividas e herancas a serem recebidas, na maioria dos casos com a ja mencionada chantagem;-Muitas dessas mulheres sofrem agressoes verbais e algumas delas agressoes fisicas ainda que por acidente. Sao gritos, humilhacoes publicas, palavroes, na maioria das vezes machistas e etc;-Muitas dessas mulheres sao desacreditadas por seus parceiros, ou tidas como loucas em algum momento. Em varias historias as personagens sao expulsas de casa com uma mao na frente e outra
atras, pois vivem na casa do parceiro e dependem completamente dele financeiramente;-a grande maioria dos homens possui traumas emocionais gravissimos e de uma forma ou de outra desconta suas frustracoes nas mulheres da trama;E esses sao apenas alguns dos temas que eu consigo lembrar.Agora para pra pensar comigo. No Brasil, esses romances do tipo Julia, Sabrina e Bianca existemdesde a decada de 1970. Aqui nos EUA os primeiros livrinhos sao ainda mais antigos, comecando a ser comercializados ainda na decada de 1950. Isso significa que sao entre 60 e 40 anos, ou entre tres e quatro geracoes de mulheres, em todos os lugares do mundo onde esse tipo de leitura esta presente, sendo doutrinada pra acreditar que ser mal tratada por um homem e algo valido, se esse homem for a sua alma gemea e que esse tipo de comportamento abusivo e o que acontece quando se esta em busca do amor verdadeiro. E isso e extremamente preocupante, principalmente se considerarmos que oficialmente essas historias foram escritas por mulheres.Eu nao tenho nada contra continuar lendo, agora mesmo tenho um na cabeceira da cama, mas em um mundo onde de acordo com a Organizacao Mundial de Saude, 35% das mulheres ja sofreram violencia emocional, onde mais de 30% ja sofreram violencia fisica ou sexual por parte do parceiro e mais de 38% das mulheres assassinadas foram mortas pelo companheiro, e preciso ler com olhos atentos para nao deixar que uma nova geracao de mulheres seja afetada por uma romantizacao da violencia.As you may know at this point, I love to read. I really like it. I am the kind of person who used to spent hours closed in my bedroom only to finish a book. I would preferably read a whole story in one day.One of my favorite hobbies, as a reader, is those romances that we buy in newsstands. I know that doesnt match my image of hardcore PhD, activist, who has an opinion about everything, but I started to read when I was a teenager and I became addicted to the sugared romance where good girls and good guys are going to live happily ever after. Cmon guys, I have a heart, I am a romantic, the kind of girl who cries with love songs while thinking about the crush lol. Since my teenager years until now, I have collected them, I have sold them, I have exchange them, I have bought them and I keep reading those novels, in any free time that I may have, it can be during long plane or bus trips or even to distract my mind from heavy subjects.However, sometimes we cant get distracted because those heavy subjects are following us even during our moments of leisure.Some time ago, I wrote a post here, about how in Brazil those publications are completely white, how the representatives of the publishing house in my country decided not to bring any of the books with Black characters. They only bring books with white people. Few years ago, when I interviewed one of the responsible for those series, they
said they only translated white books, because there was no audience for Black romance (In a country with 50% of Black population, but that is another story), and all the same bullshit that they always say.But today I would like to approach another subject, I want to talk about sexism.I remember that when I was on 8th grade, and I started to read these books, my Portuguese teacher mentioned that a research that was done with female readers of this literature genre, have demonstrated that those women usually think exactly the same. At that time, I knew it was a critique to the book content, but I thought, it was a reference to their bad quality and I didnt understand why she was mentioning an equal mentality.Years later, when I started to learn more about gender issues and about Black feminism, I realized how those books content is actually really sexist. For those who never read one of them and even for those who like myself have been reading it, these stories always involve a romance between a man and a woman who struggle during the whole book to have their relationship, until their happy end. That is ok, a cliche plot as any other romantic movie or telenovela.However, when I started to analyze the characters in those movies I realize that in most of cases there is an abusive relationship happening. It is always a man, usually older, wealthy, having a relationship with a young, virgin woman. Where is the problem with this?In the way this woman is represented. When I read these books I realize that:- Most of the sheroes in the stories are virgin. They only lose their virginity to the main male character. The non-virgins in the story are showed as whores. Several times, the sheroe has the reputation of a whore because she is not a virgin, and the guy only changes his opinion when literally he gets to her bed and realizes that she is actually pure and chaste.- In the stories that show a woman losing her virginity to the main character, sex became a tool of power, the girl will never have sex with anyone else, because now her body only knows that man, the man basically becomes the owner of her desire;- Every time when a woman say no to her partner, he seduces her anyway or blackmail her until she "changes" her mind, forgetting that no means NO;- Most of the stories show women who are perceived as a hobby for their partners and showing affection and love is ridiculed by the guy and a reason for him to humiliate the girl. He clarifies since the beginning that he doesnt want anything serious with her and that he never will love her, until the moment in the end when he gives a chance to love and reveals that everything was a consequence of the traumas that he had suffered. However, until this happens, the girl has suffered as a dog;- Several stories bring women who raise their children alone, in some cases
they are widows or divorced, or women who were abandoned, but in the majority of the stories where the girl is a single mother, the male character is the father and for some reason he never heard about the child, usually because someone hided the kid from him. He lives as a playboy, while the girl is leaving a hell to raise her child;- Most of these characters are forced to get married, or to hide a shame in their families, or to save their families or for the good of their children. Even they dont want to get marry, they cede for the good of others;- Most of these women stop to work when they get marry with this guy;- Most of these women are separate from their families when they get married, they are taken to live in a completely different place without any kind of emotional support;- In many cases the guy decides what the girls is going to wear, or where they are going to eat, to live, to travel an etc, showing zero level of autonomy for the women.- Several of them are blackmailed by their partners, who use their money and power to threat the women with things like live them without a job, in poverty, or ask for their children custody;- Several women are portrayed as gold diggers, since the villains who want to interfere in the main couple relationship, until the sheroe herself that is perceived by the guy as a gold digger.- Women are easily purchased, they become wives and mistress in exchange for money, debt payments, to receive inheritances, most of the cases involving the blackmail that I mentioned before;- Several women are verbally or physically abused even by accident. Men yell at them, they humiliate them publicly; they curse them using sexist words and etc;- Several of them are in some moments discredited by their partners, or treated as if they were crazy. In several stories, the female characters are kicked out of the house without anything to call their own, because they usually are living in their partners house and are totally dependent of them financially;- Most of these men have severe emotional traumas and they cast their frustration in the women of the stories;These are only few of the themes that I am able to remember.Now think with me. Here in the U.S these books such as Harlequin romances have been commercialized since 1950s, in Brazil they arrived in the late 1970s. That means that this kind of literature is between 60 and 40 years. Which means three or four generation of women in the whole world where those books were published, have been indoctrinated to believe that being poorly treated by a man is something worth if this man is your soulmate and that this kind of abusive behavior is what happens when you are searching for true love. This is extremely worrying, especially if we consider that at least officially those plots were written by women. I dont have anything against keep reading it, actually I have
one on my bedside table right now, but in a world where according with the World Health Organization, 35% of women have been victims of emotional violence committed by their partners, where more than 30% have been sexually or physically abused by a partner and where 38% of women murdered were murdered by a partner, it is necessary to read it with our eyes open, so we wont let another generation of women being affected by a romanticized violence.
Gente a Sara e uma menina linda que precisa da nossa ajuda para participar de uma competicao de breaking dance chamada Festival de danca urbana feminina Batom Battle pra qual foi selecionada. Ela precisa de uma passagem de Belem para Brasilia pra esse fds. Quem puder ajudar com qualquer quantia ate amanha (01/12) pra que ela possa pegar um onibus de Belem ate Brasilia e participar da competicao no sabado ja esta valendo. E quem nao puder mas puder partilhar vale tb. Bora mostrar que sonhos sao possiveis e que o hip hop continua despertando o melhor nas pessoas.P.S Eu nao conheco a Sara, mas eu sei que o hip hop nos faz sonhar grande. https://m.facebook.com/story.php?story_fbid=170446676731023&id=100012970752886Guys this is Sara, she is a beautiful girl who needs our help to participate in the breaking dance competition Baton Battle Urban Dance Festival. She needs a roundtrip ticket from the city of Belem in the state of Para in Brazil to the city of Brasilia, the capital of the country. She needs this amount until tomorrow (12/1), because the competition is on Saturday. If you can help with any amount please do it and if you can't but you can share with your facebook friends until we get someone who cans that is also helpful.Let us show that dreams are possible and that hip hop is still arising the best on people.P.S I don't know Sara, but I know that hip hop makes us have big dreams. https://m.facebook.com/story.php?story_fbid=170446676731023&id=100012970752886 Acabei de chegar do cinema e eu tive que escrever esse post antes de ir dormir, porque nao ia me aguentar. Hoje criei coragem, marquei um encontro comigo mesma e fui assistir All Eyez on me.Queria ter tido um zilhao de pessoas la comigo, mas como nao tinha, fui sozinha, me controlando pra nao cutucar o moco do lado e fazer meus comentarios.Confesso que eu fui pro cinema esperando o pior, nao achei que fosse ser um bom filme, achei que ia escrever uma unica linha falando pra vcs economizar a grana e assistir online, ate porque as criticas sao bem ruins por aqui, mas nao.Na verdade o filme me surpreendeu.Vou tentar nao fazer nenhum spoiler, mas vou partilhar alguns sentimentos que o filme me trouxe.Primeiro o filme reforcou um sentimento que ja havia sido despertado em mim quando escrevi minha dissertacao de mestrado que e o fato de que as mortes de Big e Tupac sao um simbolo do genocidio da juventude negra, o quanto eles nos matam em nossas fases mais produtivas e que quanto mais longe a gente chega mais a gente incomoda.O filme me lembra tambem que um MC como Tupac nao se faz sozinho. Enquanto tem varios rimadores de meia tigela por ai se achando a ultima bolacha do pacote, o cara so era um dos melhores, se nao o melhor rapper de todos os tempos, porque ele teve uma base, sua mae como pantera negra, lhe ensinou o que era resistencia, lhe ensinou a lutar contra o sistema e a reconhecer as ferramentas do sistema. O cara lia jornal desde crianca,
o cara lia os classicos, o cara foi fazer teatro, o cara era versatil, nao era quadrado. Ele teve uma formacao. Era por essas e outras que ele nao rimava coracao com mao.Assim como muitos MCs depois dele e muitos de nos que de alguma forma temos visibilidade, Tupac nao se via como lider, nao queria ser lider e precisou ser lembrado do quao poderoso era o microfone em sua mao. O quanto as ideias propagadas eram muito mais letais do que qualquer arma que ele pudesse carregar e que ele seria uma referencia e uma lideranca ainda que essa nao fosse sua intencao.O filme me fez pensar tambem, que mesmo aqueles de nos que ja reconhecem as ferramentas do sistema e desenvolvem estrategias pra lutar contra elas, ainda podem se deixar envolver e abater pelas mesmas. Afeni Shakur, se rendendo ao vicio e Tupac sendo preso sao demonstracoes claras disso.Me faz pensar tambem na arrogancia da juventude, no quanto a gente acha que sabe de tudo, que tem que falar tudo. Mas ai eu lembro que ele tinha so 25 anos e que um jovem de 25 anos conquistou o mundo com sua musica e atitude.No mais a semelhanca entre o ator Demetrius Shipp Jr. e Tupac no filme faz com que a gente tenha a sensacao de ver Tupac de novo, de que esses 20 anos nao se passaram. Me senti em uma versao full screen do Coachella.O filme me levou a outro tempo, outro lugar, me fez lembrar dos papos sentada na calcada, ouvindo suas musicas e duvidando se ele havia mesmo morrido.Tambem nao pude deixar de comparar Tupac com Mano Brown, claro que cada um tem seu flow, mas as ideias fortes, o carisma com o publico, ate mesmo alguns aspectos da historia de vida, me fazem ver semelhancas entre os dois.Achei o filme bom, foi poetico, foi intenso assim como Tupac. O tipo de filme que deixa a gente triste, mesmo a gente ja sabendo o final. Mas o mais lindo, foi ouvir os irmaos e irmas no fundo do cinema gritando: isso mesmo, prega mesmo, a cada palavra de resistencia que era dita ali.*O titulo desse post foi retirado de um trecho da musica Foi num baile Black de Mano BrownI just arrived from the movie theater and I had to write this post before I go to bed. I wouldnt be able to handle myself until tomorrow. So, today, I was brave enough to have a date with myself and decided to go watch All Eyez on me. I wished I could have several people by my side, but I didnt have so I went alone, and had to control myself and not poke the guy that was in the next seat to tell him my comments.I confess that I went to the movies waiting for a terrible movie. I thought I would write one line, telling you guys to save some money and wait to see it on Redbox, especially after I read some bad reviews.But actually the movie surprised me.I will try not
to post any spoiler here, but I am going to share some of my feelings regarding this movie.First of all, the movie reinforced a feeling that I carry with me since I wrote my Masters thesis that Tupac and Bigs deaths are a symbol of the Black genocide, and how they kill us in our more productive age and that how far we go, more we bother them.The movie also shows that a MC like Tupac doesnt rely only in his own talent. Considering that nowadays several mediocre MCs think they are the best on it, Tupac only was one of the best, if not the best rapper of all time because he had a foundation. His mother, as a Black Panther taught him, what resistance was, she taught him how to fight against the system and to recognize the tools of the system. The guy used to read the newspaper, the guys used to read the classics, the guy went to study theatre, the guy was versatile, and he was not limited. He had a formation. Those are some of the reasons why he used to rock with his rhymes.Like many other Mcs after him, and in a certain way many of us who have any kind of visibility, Tupac didnt see himself as a leader, he didnt want to be a leader and had to be reminded how powerful the mic in his hands was. How the ideas propagated were more lethal than any other weapon that he could carry and that he was a reference and a leadership even it was not his intention.The movie also made me think, that even those who know the tools of the system and develop strategies to fight against them, still can be involved and shot by them. Afeni Shakur with her addiction and Tupac being arrested are demonstrations of this.It make me think in youth arrogance, in how, when we are young, we think we know everything and we can say everything we want. But then, I remember that he was only 25 and that a 25 years old Black man was able to conquer the world with his music and attitude.Furthermore, the similarity between Demetrius Shipp Jr, the actor who plays Tupac and Pac himselfmake us feel as if we were saying Tupac alive again, as if these 20 years were not gone. I felt as if I were in a full screen version of Coachella.The movie also took me to other time and place and reminded me of the talks that I had with friends seated in the sidewalk and listening to his songs and guessing if he was really dead.I also could not stop myself from comparing Tupac with Brazilian rapper Mano Brown, of course each of them has his own flow, but the strong ideas, the charisma with the audience, and even some aspects of their personal life, make me thing about similarities between them.I thought the movie was good, poetic and intense as Tupac used to be. The same kind of movie that let us sad in
the end, even we previously knew what would happen. But the most beautiful thing was to hear the brothers and sisters in the back of the movie theater yelling: preach bro, yeah preach after every word of resistance that was said there.*This posts title is an excerpt of Mano Brown song Foi num baile Black
O preco da CuraPor: Daniela Gomes e Coletivo Dada Mkutano (esse e um texto escrito a 10 maos)E interessante como por mais que a gente post coisas nas redes sobre tudo e mais um pouco, tem alguns temas que pra gente sao tao dolorosos que a gente evita falar. Eu tenho alguns temas que pra mim sao assim um pouco mais espinhosos e esse e um deles.Uma vez ouvi uma pessoa dizer que a mulher negra tem o poder de curar sua comunidade, pois e ela quem da a luz. Na hora, achei tao lindo pensar no poder da criacao e no processo de reproducao como capaz de gerar cura. Naquele momento, a beleza de pensar o meu ventre como um local de inicio para algo tao poderoso realmente me encantou, principalmente porque quem disse isso foi uma mulher negra. Minha admiracao por essa fala nao acabou, mas ao mesmo tempo, venho pensando na responsabilidade que ela coloca nos nossos ombros e nas coisas que a comunidade cobra de nos por conta disso. E me pergunto: qual e o preco da cura?De acordo com essa fala, que esta correta, o processo curativo ocorre porque mulheres negras sao responsaveis, por gerar, criar, suprir, cuidar, zelar, amar e com isso geram uma corrente de coisas positivas que vai se disseminando por toda a comunidade. Isso e otimo e tem tudo pra dar certo se for colocado em pratica.O problema e que por conta propria algumas pessoas acham que isso significa que nos mulheres negras somos unica e exclusivamente as responsaveis por isso e que alem de tudo que ja foi mencionado tambem temos que consertar o emocional alheio e ainda carregar as pessoas nas costas. E assim em nome da preservacao e da cura da nossa comunidade a afropilantragem vai se perpetuando e se multiplicando a cada dia, ainda que essa nao tenha sido a ideia original desse conceito.Nos passamos perrengues, nossos emocionais ficam fragilizados, sofremos em relacionamentos abusivos tudo para preservar a comunidade, para nao expor o outro, dentro e fora da militancia, mas poucas pessoas fazem o mesmo por nos. E esse tipo de violencia e reproducao ultrapassa fronteiras e se reproduz em todos os lugares.Exemplo claro pra mim dessa ideia, de passar por cima de nossas dores para curar a comunidade, ainda e o caso de Anita Hill e Clarence Thomas. Anita Hill era uma advogada afro-americana que foi assediada sexualmente quando trabalhava como secretaria de Clarence Thomas. Anos depois, quando Clarence Thomas foi indicado a Suprema Corte, Anita se levantou para dizer que esse homem nao era digno de ser o primeiro negro na Suprema Corte, pois ele era um predador. Anita foi massacrada por diversas pessoas na comunidade negra que acharam que ela deveria ter passado por cima de seu sofrimento, para que um negro pudesse finalmente chegar a suprema corte americana. Em outras palavras, para que ele nao fosse exposto Anita deveria ser sacrificada. Anita e so uma mulher negra que passa por isso e nao da pra achar que isso so acontece nos EUA. Na militancia brasileira