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no matter what type of curveball life throws your way, your able to take it in stride and have enough inner harmony to just say okay, not a problem. E um estado de espirito em que nao importa que tipo de vida curveball joga sua maneira, o seu poder para toma-lo com calma e ter a harmonia interior suficiente para dizer ok, nao e um problema. This brings us to a staple of Zen enlightenment, meditation. Isso nos leva a um grampo de iluminacao Zen, meditacao. Meditation is when you sit for long periods of time, bringing along certain difficulties, which in turn you will enable you to handle any and all situations that come your way and get through even the worst type of difficulty that one can face. A meditacao e quando voce se sentar por longos periodos de tempo, trazendo algumas dificuldades, que por sua vez ira permitir-lhe lidar com qualquer e todas as situacoes que surgem em seu caminho e passar mesmo o pior tipo de dificuldade que se pode enfrentar. Finding Zen enlightenment can be a challenge. Encontrar iluminacao zen pode ser um desafio. For most people, it can be a great struggle to discipline their minds in order to achieve a state in which enlightenment can occur. Para a maioria das pessoas, pode ser uma grande luta para disciplinar suas mentes a fim de alcancar um estado em que a iluminacao pode ocorrer. With so many negative distraction in the world, how can a person successfully block all of the negative thoughts. Com tanta distracao muitas negativas no mundo, como pode uma pessoa com sucesso bloquear todos os pensamentos negativos. This is why effective mediation is so important to the Zen lifestyle. E por isso que uma mediacao eficaz e tao importante para o estilo de vida zen. And not just a once in a while kind of practice. E nao apenas uma vez em uma especie durante a pratica. Meditation should occur each day, just like eating, breathing, sleeping, etc. Daily meditation is an efficient way of "cleansing" the mind, making the possibility of Zen enlightenment more likely to happen. A meditacao deve ocorrer a cada dia, como comer, respirar, dormir, etc meditacao diaria e uma forma eficiente de "limpar" a mente, tornando a possibilidade de iluminacao zen mais provavel de acontecer. Although extremely difficult the achievement of Zen enlightenment is the pinnacle of the Zen lifestyle. Embora extremamente dificil a realizacao da iluminacao Zen e o auge do estilo de vida zen. It is something that its teachings drive home from the very beginning and when finally achieved is the ultimate in freeing up your mind, which in turn allows deeper thoughts. E algo que os seus ensinamentos para casa, desde o comeco e quando finalmente alcancada e a ultima palavra em liberar sua mente, que por sua vez permite que os pensamentos mais profundos. The impact of this accomplishment far outweighs the sacrifice that one must make to become more patient, understanding and loving. O impacto desta realizacao supera de longe o sacrificio
que se deve fazer para se tornar mais paciente, compreensivo e amoroso. Want to learn more about achieving Zen enlightenment ? Quer saber mais sobre a realizacao da iluminacao zen ? Visit my Zen Enlightenment blog to get more info on how to use Zen to improve your mindset and your life. Visite meu Iluminismo Zen blog para obter mais informacao sobre como usar o zen para melhorar a sua mentalidade e sua vida.
resposta corporal, igual uma levediminuicao da tensao fisica, ou lagrimas, ou uma respiracao mais profunda.Gendlin chama isto de mudanca sentida. A ,mudanca sentida sido mostradacorrelacionando com o aumento da frequencia alfa no EEG (Don l977) . De acordocom Gendlin essa especie de processo e um importante motor de mudanca napsicoterapia.Mais de 40 anos de pesquisa mostraram forte e repetidamente que clientes queclientes que processam numa maneira experiencial alta ou focaliza; se saiemmelhor na terapia, de acordo com clientes, terapeutas e medidas de resultadoobjetivas. (Ver http://www.focusing.org/research-basis.html)As pesquisas encontraram tambem suporte para a ideia de que a interacao com ocliente na terapia, se os ajuda na maneira de focalizar, e desejavel no processo.Um outro lado interessante dos efeitos da focalizacao e que homens ou aquelesque operam mais atraves de suas compreensoes, obtem melhor acesso a suasemocoes, aprendendo a ter acesso ao corpo. Por outro lado aqueles que operammais atraves das emocoes e que se veem facilmente perdidos ou tomados porfortes emocoes a focalizacao ajuda-os a criar uma relacao saudavel baseada emseus corpos. Outro lado dos efeitos desenvolvidos no uso da focalizacao podeincluir: sendo mais realistas e vivendo mais no presente atraves de seu corpo;sendo capazes de conectar mais profunda e ricamente como o desenrolar de suaexperiencia de vida, obtendo mais acesso a suas intuicoes, etc. Como acomunicacao pode ser usada para objetivos alem da psicoterapia assim tambem afocalizacao pode ser usada para muitos objetivos. O modo que eu ensinofocalizacao e antes de tudo para uma auto-terapia, de modo que uma vezaprendida ela possa ser usada para tomar decisoes, ter ideias criativas ,aprendizagens interiores, ou mesmo Think at the edge a respeito do que voceconhece, e trazer novas palavras ou ideias que voce apenas sente de um mododifuso.
even something like the general theory of relativity, that have become new paradigms in their fields. In contrast, the student of mindfulness focuses often on those particular cognitive processes that defy immediate algorithmic representation.
Quando uma relacao entra em crise, na verdade ela so esta expondo os problemas sistemicos encubados, que ja existiam antes mesmo do casal se conhecer. Trazemos conosco tendencias de emocoes, pensamentos e comportamentos hereditarios, e estas tendencias ficam latentes, esperando so o momento para se manifestar.Devido a elas as emocoes latentes, encontramos exatamente o tipo de parceiro ideal para que isso ocorra. Parece maldade do universo, certo? Mas nao e... E exatamente o contrario: a natureza humana faz com que, ao manifestarmos esta combustao sistemica, possamos limpa-las do nosso sistema familiar. Pois e, herdamos tendencias a manifestar determinados comportamentos para que, ao trabalha-los, eles nao ocorram mais, e possamos deixar aos nossos filhos e netos a imunidade.Nao sei se isso parece estranho, mas e exatamente assim que ocorre a evolucao biologica das especies. Cada geracao que vem, e mais forte que a anterior. Como todos percebem, os homens vivem cada dia mais anos isso significa que ele se torna forte, a cada geracao. E como ele se torna forte? Enfrentando todas as calamidades, doencas, epidemias que surgiram durante os seculos e seculos de existencia humana. Somente os fracos sucumbem.As emocoes e pensamentos conflitantes, segundo a teoria sistemica, tambem passam por esta depuracao. E a linhagem familiar quer, no fundo, que seus descendentes sejam fortes, para que a linhagem se perpetue. Faz sentido, certo? Mas vamos la: o que tem a ver este papo de geracoes mais fortes, emocionalmente, e as crises de relacionamento? Bem, como disse acima, a crise e uma oportunidade de ficarmos fortes emocionalmente. Para se resolver um problema emocional, e necessario olhar para ele. Quando surge uma briga, por mais que a razao diga coisas do tipo: voce e insensivel! Voce me traiu! Voce nao liga para mim, so para os filhos! Voce esta com caso com outra! Voce esta uma balofa! No fundo, tudo isso e desculpa... O que a emocao esta dizendo por detras das acusacoes? Geralmente, coisas do tipo: quero ser visto... quero carinho... quero que voce me abrace e nao fale tanto... quero compartilhar... A busca do ser visto e acolhido e sistemico. Todos nos temos esta necessidade, e isso e herdado do sistema familiar. Quando nao sabemos lidar com esta necessidade, queremos que o parceiro faca isso por nos. E como atraimos exatamente o tipo de parceiro que precisamos para depurar nossas emocoes, ele tambem quer o mesmo de nos. O que acontece quando duas criancas querem o mesmo doce? Podem brigar... ou dividir... Se um deixar a sua parte para o outro, desculpe-me a expressao, mas esta ferrado. Porque quem deu a sua parte, permanece com a carencia. E o outro, inconscientemente, assume o papel de culpado, porque recebeu mais do que merecia. E... as regras sistemicas sao muito diferentes que as crencas sociais sobre relacionamento. Por isso, vou falar sobre dicas sistemicas para salvar crises no relacionamento: 1 um parceiro deve reconhecer que o outro tem raizes diferentes. Deve respeitar e amar a familia do outro, sinceramente, pois os problemas originam-se nas raizes;2 um parceiro deve cuidar das suas raizes. So pode
resolver os problemas que tem a ver consigo. Nao tem nada a ver com o outro, nem deve cobra-lo. Isso quer dizer: problema no casamento significa curar as proprias magoas que se tem do papai e da mamae;3 um homem e um mulher tem o mesmo valor e validade. A familia de cada um tem o mesmo valor e validade;4 um parceiro deve dar e receber na mesma medida. Se quer dar, mais que receber, ha crise. Se quer receber, mais que dar, ha crise;5 no amor familiar, ha uma hierarquia. O relacionamento do casal e o mais importante. Depois, vem os filhos. Dar mais atencao aos filhos que ao relacionamento do casal, indica problemas sistemicos que detonam em crise;6 os filhos sao felizes quando os pais amam-se mutuamente. Cuidar dos filhos significa, em primeiro lugar, cuidar da boa relacao entre o casal. 7 quando se esta em segundo ou terceiro casamento, o parceiro deve reconhecer que os filhos do outro na relacao anterior tem prioridade. Deve reconhecer que a ex-esposa ou ex-marido tem prioridade. A segunda mulher sera sempre a segunda. O segundo marido sera sempre o segundo. Sistemicamente, e assim, e esse reconhecimento restabelece o equilibrio.8 para os filhos, a madrasta ou padrasto estao sempre em segundo lugar, do que o pai ou a mae biologica. E isso nao importa se a relacao com os progenitores e boa ou nao. Padrasto e o segundo pai. Madrasta e a segunda mae. So isso.9 quando nasce um filho numa relacao extra-conjugal, a relacao original esta acabada. 10 o sistema familiar impele seus membros a procriar. Significa que os pais deram continuidade a vida. Num relacionamento sem filhos, nao ha como a vida ser transmitida para frente, e entao, este fato deve ser compensado com a dedicacao a um todo maior, seja profissionalmente, espiritualmente, dedicando-se as artes, ou outra forma de expressao de vida.11 longos relacionamentos sem casamento, ou seja, o compromisso de ficar juntos, seja isso oficial ou nao, significa que o parceiro esta passando a mensagem ao outro: voce nao e bom o suficiente para mim. E vice-e-versa.12 a fidelidade baseada na ideia: eu sou a unica pessoa boa para voce, e portanto, voce e so meu, esta contaminado com questoes sistemicas. Um casal ajustado e fiel, ate o momento que tiver que ser.13 nao existe perdao no relacionamento. Quem perdoa, se coloca em posicao superior ao outro. E quem pede perdao, joga toda a responsabilidade da sua culpa ao outro. A solucao para um erro e dizer: fiz isso. Sinto muito. Com sinceridade. O unico perdao valido e o mutuo: eu lhe feri. Voce me feriu. Vamos nos perdoar e recomecar...14 encontrar um parceiro ideal significa estar consciente e equilibrado com as proprias emocoes sistemicas, permitindo encontrar alguem igualmente equilibrado e consciente.
The Construct of MindfulnessJournal of Social Issues, Spring, 2000 by Ellen J. Langer, Mihnea Moldoveanu Previous 1 2 3 4 5 6 7 8 9 Next Education is an area that often seems to abound in mindlessness. Many educational ramifications of mindfulness are reviewed in The Power of Mindful Learning (Langer, 1997). Whether intending to learn an academic subject, a new sport, or how to play a musical instrument, we often call upon mind-sets that hamper rather than help us to learn. For example, many of us believe that we should learn the basics of a task so well that they become second nature to us. Having mindlessly accepted this information, it rarely occurs to us to question who determined what the basics are. Surely, if women and men engage in the same sport, the differences in their bodies should result in differences in how to play the game, for example. Once we learn the basics mindlessly so that we no longer have to think about them, we are not in a position to vary them readily as we get more information about the task.Related ResultsBaby Boomers Reveal Their Secrets on Finding the Fountain of Youth Last shot? With Boozer free agency looming, this may be final Novel's Mobile Home, The Henry a cautionary tale for KansasPrecautions wise for KU ALMOST But Not Quite But there are relatively simple ways of reducing mindlessness in learning. Several studies more fully described in Langer (1997) explored the ramification of inducing mindful learning. In one study (Langer & Piper, 1987), mindfulness was encouraged by introducing information about objects in a conditional way, using language like "could be," rather than the more traditional, absolute way ("is," "can only be"), which was defined as the mindless condition. Participants in the mindful conditions were better able to use the objects creatively when the need for a novel use of the object arose. In subsequent studies this work was extended to the introduction of text in the same conditional manner. Here, the language that was used consisted of expressions such as "could be," "perhaps," "from one perspective." Similar benefits accrued from the mindfulness treatments in these studies (e.g., Langer, Hatem, Joss, & Howell, 1989).Attentional processes have been assumed to be central to learning. These have also been illuminated by mindfulness research. In one study (Langer, 1997) I asked both students and teachers what they meant by paying attention. Interestingly, both groups believed that this meant to "hold the image still as if focusing a camera." The problem, however, is that if one follows this instruction, it is very difficult to stay attentive. In contrast, in studies with children, college students and the elderly, (Langer & Bodner, 1997; Langer, Carson, & Shih, in press; Levy & Langer, in press), we found that if people are instructed to vary the stimulus, that is, to mindfully notice new things about it, then attention improves. Moreover, such mindful attention also results in a greater liking for the task and improved memory.Other mindful manipulations in the educational context have involved asking students to make
material more meaningful for themselves, compared to groups asked to memorize it (Lieberman & Langer, 1997). The meaningful group retained the information better and was able to utilize it in more creative ways in essays. Adding perspective taking also elicits better performance (Lieberman & Langer, 1997). Consider the difference between introducing a history lesson as "Here are the three reasons for the Civil War" versus "Here are three reasons for the Civil War from the perspective of...." The former presents the information as a closed package; the latter invites further consideration of how the information might vary from still other perspectives. Almost all of the facts most of us learned in school were taught to us in a perspective-free way that encourages mindless use of the information because it does not occur to us to question it again. In contrast, information presented in the mindful, perspective-taking c ondition was learned better by high school students, even though they had to deal with more information. Clearly, mindful teaching practices can have a pronounced effect on student learning.
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JEFFREY MISHLOVE, Ph.D.: Hello and welcome. I'm Jeffrey Mishlove. Our topic today is "Self-Expression." With me is spiritual teacher IsanaMada, who is author of More Than Me and also A Call to Greatness. Welcome. ISANAMADA: Thank you, Jeffrey. MISHLOVE: It's a pleasure to be with you. ISANAMADA: I'm very happy to be here. MISHLOVE: When we think of self-expression, I'm of the opinion, as I look at your work, that your belief is that there is vast greatness, even glory, within each of us, and we hide ourselves from it sometimes by not being congruent or honest or fully truthful about who we are when we express ourselves in the world. ISANAMADA: Yes. I think I would feel more comfortable talking about it not so much as hiding it from ourselves, but that we have lost touch with it, that at least the modern human being in the Western world has become distracted by many things, and has just lost touch with that aspect of themselves, that part of the self, that level of their being, that is the truth of themselves, and instead have been living out of a surface level, a personality level, a lower-mind level of being that is not satisfying, that's not fulfilling, that is not truly an expression of who we are. MISHLOVE: I know you actually quote one writer -- I believe it's the Tibetan lama Sogyal Rinpoche -- who marvels at the great ability of modern culture to fascinate us with distractions that lead us away from ourselves. ISANAMADA: Yes. And he condemns that, and I think that we all can condemn that without feeling bad about condemning it. But also Sogyal Rinpoche stands for something; he doesn't just stand against that. He stands for the truth of ourselves and our ability to begin to understand ourselves in life and in death. MISHLOVE: In your works you draw upon the teachings of Sogyal Rinpoche, just to mention one among many, and it gave me the sense of optimism in spite of this cultural numbness, if I could call it that, because it seems as if we live in an age where there are more and more teachers of wisdom, teachers of enlightenment -- that it is being spoken of more and more. I can say that I have had the privilege of interviewing many such people, including yourself now, and that this is becoming in some sense the birthright of all people. ISANAMADA: Yes. Well, I think it always has been. I feel it always has been the birthright of all people, but that we are in a very special time now; we are in an unprecedented epoch of human history, and that epoch is marked by exactly what you're talking about -- the fact that enlightenment, that an evolutional leap, is available to the ordinary human being, and that the ordinary human being is so supported, is so blessed with wisdom at every turn, but is so distracted, and I think more than anything confused, more than numb. I feel that our culture is
confused. Our culture has become unable to make correct distinctions about what is lawful and what is not lawful in terms of being human, and that our spiritual leaders, our wisdom teachers, those people who have by grace experienced a perception that is transcendent to the ordinary way of perceiving things, that their duty and their blessing at this time is to help the culture, the individual human beings of the culture, to be able to see differently, to be able to translate what's going on in the world, and in their very own lives and their own processes that are very dynamic and very obviously unfolding, you see. But the people don't understand that they are awakening. They don't understand that they are awakening. They know something's happening, but they're not able to understand and translate what's happening as them, as their very own selves, and as the people they know and as the culture itself. MISHLOVE: You used the term earlier, lawful. ISANAMADA: Yes. MISHLOVE: I wonder if you could amplify. I was confused about,"We don't understand what's lawful and what is not lawful," I think you said in terms of our human nature. ISANAMADA: Yes, and when I use the word lawful, I take that from other very high teachings. I have been given that in my own research and my own study over the years, and that Lawful is with a capital L. Supposedly the word Lord translates to Law, and so the capital Lawful means that there is a truth that abides in us, that is transcendent -- the Lord is a transcendent state of being -- and that Lawfulness is a transcendent Law that is a part of our own genetic makeup, our own psychological and biological makeup, that's a part of our humanity, and that we have lost touch with that, that over time, while other important things were being put in place in our preparation for the next evolutionary leap, we've lost touch with that intuitional level.yyWe have failed to intuit the laws of the universe in our own course of action. MISHLOVE: It seems as if you look at the religions of the planet now -- they all have a sense of "This is God's law; these are the rules you must obey." And of course they're all different from one another, which makes one suspect that they may be relative, rather than some kind of fundamental law. And I gather you're referring to fundamental law here. ISANAMADA: Yes, I'm really referring to universal Principle, with a capital P, not to personal opinion. What I feel we need also is a very strong dose of humility. I find it very presumptuous of any human being, including myself, any of us, to appear on earth and to live a short lifetime, and in that lifetime to presume that our opinions about anything should hold any weight, and that we should live out of opinions, which are acculturated; they're really somebody else's opinions that we have taken on. They're not even our own true thoughts