-stop giving a shit
Published: 2022-08-14 15:18:22

Easier said than done, for sure. And it’s something we hear over and over again.

It normally goes something like this, where you say; “Yeah, I don’t care”.

And then next thing you know, you’re in your room, thoughts racing in your head with all the possibilities of why something went wrong or why someone doesn’t like you.

But just picture this for a little minute.

You currently are on a rock that’s been spinning around for billions of years, generation after generation, in the middle of absolutely nowhere, and this ‘nowhere’ keeps getting bigger.

How does that even make sense?

And not to be blunt but, how fucking insignificant are we?

Truth is, most things are predominantly out of your control. And in the long run, nobody gives a shit about what you say or do anyway.

So, to be blunt, life’s too short to care.

Something I’ve found from personal experience, the people who care the most about what others think normally have the most insecurities.

And what caring too much does is plague your ability to do the things you actually want to do. Things like pressing the ‘publish’ button, focusing on your health, traveling, or starting your own business, for example.

The same things you know would be great for you, but at the same time, you’re thinking about what people might think or care too much about helping others feel content.

Eventually, it becomes paralyzing.

In reality, trying to be liked by everyone will leave you being *truly* liked by no one. It’s ineffective and will only hold you back from what you want.

There will be many people who like you and others who won’t.

People will also judge you no matter what you’re doing — it’s a human trait that we ALL have.

You included.

Don’t tell me you’ve never judged anyone in your life. Ya, little devil.

So, we might as well do the things that we want to do, no? Within reason, of course.

**“When a man is denied the right to live the life he believes in, he has no choice but to become an outlaw.” — Nelson Mandela**

Now, I’m not encouraging you to become unthoughtful, inconsiderate, or rude. Not one single bit.

It also doesn’t mean you need to go out of your own way to purposely disrespect someone or something. Not giving a shit doesn’t coincide with being a hateful, cruel, or evil person.

To stop caring, or to at least limit the number of things you care about means you back yourself.

You look out for your own mind and health by focusing on your needs and setting up clear boundaries.

More importantly, you’re confident in yourself and proud of who you are.

Your sole focus should be on things that matter most to you, and the people who matter most to you.

For example; creating a better product or service for your customers, writing more informative, thoughtful content, being a better parent, or getting fitter. Whatever it is to you.

This leads me on to one of the biggest tests we face in our lives.

Being able to master ourselves.

The ability to gain an unwavering focus on what we’re trying to achieve without being influenced by anything else that isn’t important.

Sure, self-mastery is difficult. Sometimes even painful or isolating.

But it’s the most crucial ingredient that will give you the ability to take charge of your own life, your own thoughts, and your own actions.

In truth?

You don’t need anyone to accept you in order to make you feel good about yourself.

And you don’t need to unwillingly change who you are in order to make someone like you.

It’s not becoming more arrogant or selfish.

It’s becoming more authentic.

Confidence and authenticity create a deeper connection with the people in your life because it shows them who you really are. Being true to yourself will invite more people into your life, people who are just like you.

And authenticity also breeds liberation for your mind.

As for the ones who don’t like you for who you are? Well, they’re obviously not a great fit for you, are they?

So, why would you give a shit?

Our one focus should be on building those small, private wins by doing things that we actually care about.

Things that seem insignificant, irrelevant, and tedious at the time. But then when you look back, you think to yourself;

“Fuck, man. I’ve come a long way.”

As long as you do that, everything around you will find its place.