Repository: pytorch
Issue: Depthwise conv3d slower than normal conv3d
Labels: module: performance,module: nn,triaged,needs research

### 🐛 Describe the bug

Profile the normal conv3d layer with the script below. I got 3.384 ms on my RTX4000.

```python
import torch

DEPTHWISE=False

N = 1
IC = 64
D = 15
H = 75
W = 315
OC = 64
KD = 3
KH = 3
KW = 3

input_tensor = torch.randn(N, IC, D, H, W, dtype=torch.float16, device="cuda")
if not DEPTHWISE:
  input_tensor = input_tensor.contiguous(memory_format=torch.channels_last_3d)
conv3d = torch.nn.Conv3d(64, 64, kernel_size=3, padding=1, bias=False, groups=IC if DEPTHWISE else 1).cuda().half()

@torch.compile
def compiled_conv3d(tensor):
  with torch.no_grad():
    return conv3d(tensor)

# warm up
output_tensor = compiled_conv3d(input_tensor)
torch.cuda.synchronize()

with torch.profiler.profile(activities=[torch.profiler.ProfilerActivity.CUDA]) as prof:
    output_tensor = compiled_conv3d(input_tensor)
print(prof.key_averages().table(sort_by='self_cuda_time_total', row_limit=5)) 
```

Change to `DEPTHWISE=True` and run again, I got 3.442ms. If I comment out @torch.compile, there is no difference.

I expected that depthwise conv3d be faster than normal conv3d, especially when the channel number is not low (64). Why doesn't this work on pytorch?

### Versions

Collecting environment information...
PyTorch version: 2.1.0+cu121
Is debug build: False
CUDA used to build PyTorch: 12.1
ROCM used to build PyTorch: N/A

OS: Ubuntu 20.04.6 LTS (x86_64)
GCC version: (Ubuntu 9.4.0-1ubuntu1~20.04.1) 9.4.0
Clang version: Could not collect
CMake version: version 3.26.4
Libc version: glibc-2.31

Python version: 3.8.10 (default, May 26 2023, 14:05:08)  [GCC 9.4.0] (64-bit runtime)
Python platform: Linux-5.8.0-59-generic-x86_64-with-glibc2.29
Is CUDA available: True
CUDA runtime version: 11.8.89
CUDA_MODULE_LOADING set to: LAZY
GPU models and configuration: GPU 0: Quadro RTX 4000
Nvidia driver version: 535.54.03
cuDNN version: Probably one of the following:
/usr/lib/x86_64-linux-gnu/libcudnn.so.8.6.0
/usr/lib/x86_64-linux-gnu/libcudnn_adv_infer.so.8.6.0
/usr/lib/x86_64-linux-gnu/libcudnn_adv_train.so.8.6.0
/usr/lib/x86_64-linux-gnu/libcudnn_cnn_infer.so.8.6.0
/usr/lib/x86_64-linux-gnu/libcudnn_cnn_train.so.8.6.0
/usr/lib/x86_64-linux-gnu/libcudnn_ops_infer.so.8.6.0
/usr/lib/x86_64-linux-gnu/libcudnn_ops_train.so.8.6.0
HIP runtime version: N/A
MIOpen runtime version: N/A
Is XNNPACK available: True

CPU:
Architecture:                    x86_64
CPU op-mode(s):                  32-bit, 64-bit
Byte Order:                      Little Endian
Address sizes:                   46 bits physical, 48 bits virtual
CPU(s):                          20
On-line CPU(s) list:             0-19
Thread(s) per core:              2
Core(s) per socket:              10
Socket(s):                       1
NUMA node(s):                    1
Vendor ID:                       GenuineIntel
CPU family:                      6
Model:                           85
Model name:                      Intel(R) Xeon(R) W-2255 CPU @ 3.70GHz
Stepping:                        7
CPU MHz:                         2170.961
CPU max MHz:                     4700.0000
CPU min MHz:                     1200.0000
BogoMIPS:                        7399.70
Virtualization:                  VT-x
L1d cache:                       320 KiB
L1i cache:                       320 KiB
L2 cache:                        10 MiB
L3 cache:                        19.3 MiB
NUMA node0 CPU(s):               0-19
Vulnerability Itlb multihit:     KVM: Mitigation: VMX disabled
Vulnerability L1tf:              Not affected
Vulnerability Mds:               Not affected
Vulnerability Meltdown:          Not affected
Vulnerability Spec store bypass: Mitigation; Speculative Store Bypass disabled via prctl and seccomp
Vulnerability Spectre v1:        Mitigation; usercopy/swapgs barriers and __user pointer sanitization
Vulnerability Spectre v2:        Mitigation; Enhanced IBRS, IBPB conditional, RSB filling
Vulnerability Srbds:             Not affected
Vulnerability Tsx async abort:   Mitigation; TSX disabled
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Versions of relevant libraries:
[pip3] numpy==1.23.5
[pip3] onnx==1.14.0
[pip3] onnxruntime==1.16.0
[pip3] tf2onnx==1.14.0
[pip3] torch==2.1.0
[pip3] torchaudio==2.0.2+cu118
[pip3] torchvision==0.15.2+cu118
[pip3] triton==2.1.0
[pip3] triton-nightly==2.1.0.dev20230718193615
[conda] cudatoolkit               11.8.0               h6a678d5_0  
[conda] numpy                     1.23.5                   pypi_0    pypi
[conda] pytorch-triton            2.1.0+9e3e10c5ed          pypi_0    pypi
[conda] torch                     2.1.0.dev20230719+cu118          pypi_0    pypi
[conda] torch-mlir                20230720.905             pypi_0    pypi

cc @albanD @mruberry @jbschlosser @walterddr @mikaylagawarecki