Talk:Stepfamily

message: In many fairy tales, stepmothers are portrayed as wicked, evil, and hating their stepchildren. This is perhaps best seen (or at least most well known) in Cinderella and Hansel and Gretel. 
:How about in real lifes? Is there any specific research on it?211.75.249.244 05:47, 17 May 2004 (UTC)
replies: text: Yes, for good reason. People typically care about their biological family, but not their stepfamily. Jim Michael (talk) 18:32, 23 March 2014 (UTC)
replies: text: You're going to need to cite that. Most stepparents are NOT abusive and do care about their stepchildren. 108.210.5.163 (talk) 19:32, 21 April 2021 (UTC)
thread_title:  [[Cinderella effect]] 

message: How would you designate a man who has married one's mother and the one whose mother was married was originally born as a child to a single parent?? Georgia guy 22:41, 5 May 2006 (UTC)
replies: text: Married one's biological mother? Richard001 23:21, 12 July 2007 (UTC)

text: A man who is married to your mother is your stepfather. This is the case regardless of the previous marital status of the mother. Jim Michael (talk) 18:32, 23 March 2014 (UTC)
thread_title:  Designation 

message: What is the etymology of the word? Thes entinel 03:10, 8 May 2006 (UTC)
thread_title:  Origins 

message: Reverted an assertion that because death doesn't severe the bond between the parents, no stepfamily is formed when the widowed remarries.  (Cinderella didn't have a stepmother, apparently.)  Goldfritha 23:48, 1 June 2006 (UTC)
thread_title: Death vs. divorce

message: Here is some error:
According to clause 3: half of children under age 13 live in a kind of stepfamily
According to clause 5: 30% of all children live in stepfamilies
What happens when children living in stepfamilies reach age of 13,
stepfamily dissolves?
Vselezn (talk) 16:28, 17 February 2010 (UTC)
thread_title: Statistics

message: I looks like the original etymology supplied (stoep) was added in error some time ago. I have added what may be the accepted etymology (steop). Can someone more expert please check and correct...87.102.8.141 21:54, 15 December 2006 (UTC)
replies: text: I removed this since I can find any proof of it "the ca. AD 1000 Middle-English root stoep meant "unrelated by marriage (or blood)"87.102.4.180 13:45, 16 December 2006 (UTC)
replies: text: "step- combining form. Indicating relationship through the previous marriage of a spouse or parent rather than by blood: stepson; stepfather. [Old English stẽop-; compare ãstỹpan to bereave" - Collins English Dictionary (3rd edition, Glasgow: HarperCollins, 1991). Hope this helps. Cheers, Sam Clark 10:44, 18 December 2006 (UTC)
thread_title: [[Etymology]]

message: I've added a link to the step-family section of a charity I support. Any problems please feel free to change it but they provide some good support that people might find useful.  —Preceding unsigned comment added by Doive (talk • contribs) 10:08, 19 September 2007 (UTC)
thread_title:  Care for the Family 

message: I am researching the legal and social status of a divorced stepfamily for a personal genealogy project.  Specifically, if a parent remarries, such that there is step-parent and step-siblings, and then divorces, does this nullify the "step" relationships?  Some relatives have asserted that the stepfamily is unrelated and should not be included in a family tree. Miqrogroove (talk) 18:03, 20 March 2008 (UTC)
replies: text:  The answer appears to be both.  I see evidence of a definition of stepparent that ends with divorse or death, and evidence of a definition.  See http://en.wiktionary.org/wiki/Talk:stepmother for some references of usage of stepmother and ex-stepmother.  Docbillnet (talk) 14:59, 26 August 2009 (UTC)
replies: text: People who are related through marriage are related only for the duration of the marriage. Jim Michael (talk) 18:42, 23 March 2014 (UTC)
replies: text: Not in all states. In the rare cases where a step-parent has been assessed child support, that child support obligation does NOT terminate if the marriage ends in divorce. 108.210.5.163 (talk) 19:34, 21 April 2021 (UTC)
thread_title:  Divorced stepfamily 

message: If your step-mother or father has brothers and sisters and they have their own children what would the relation be between those people?  —Preceding unsigned comment added by 67.80.106.105 (talk) 21:15, 2 April 2008 (UTC)
replies: text: Yes, these terms are correct. For example, person A's stepparent's brother is A's step-uncle, and the step-uncle's child is A's step-cousin. Jim Michael (talk) 18:42, 23 March 2014 (UTC)
thread_title:  Step-parents, siblings & their children 

message: Several dictionary definitions say a step-parent is a SUBSEQUENT spouse of a parent.
If my father has been married twice, and I am his child by his first wife, then his second wife is my stepmother. (Obvious.)
But if I am his child by his second wife, then his first wife is NOT my stepmother. (???)
I could imagine that it had been assumed long ago that, if my father has a second wife, his first wife is dead. So my question wouldn’t have made sense. But that assumption is no longer reasonable. Has the definition changed in the meantime?
- Loren  —Preceding unsigned comment added by 71.131.196.134 (talk) 03:54, 21 June 2009 (UTC)
replies: text:  Interesting question.  I have not found any references to text that considers wifes from previous marriages as stepmothers.   For example, my wife's first husband died.   If my son considered him a stepfather he would write something like "my stepfather died before I was born".  The lack of this type of usage implies the definition of stepparent does not extend to marriages before a child was born.  Docbillnet (talk) 15:08, 26 August 2009 (UTC)
thread_title:  Another question of definition: 

message: In January, 2008, there were two external links for Australia (permanent link).
*Stepfamily Zone Australian site dedicated to stepfamilies and their unique challenges. (www.stepfamily.asn.au)
*Stepfamily Forum Free forum and discussion board for all members of the stepfamily. (stepfamily.stepfamilyforum.com)
Last year, these changes were made to that section:
*26 October, User:Steptopia added a new link, which was reverted as linkspam; the user was warned. Steptopia then removed both long-standing external links, without comment.
*8 November, IP from Australia replaced the stepfamily forum link.
*26 February, IP from Australia appears to have attempted to edit the External Links, but only added a space. This IP then asked a question about blacklisting of the site that had been removed as a net effect of the prior edits. The site is not blacklisted, but that question would attract the attention of those volunteers who deal with excessive external links.
*27 February, Barek [ placed a linkfarm notice] on the External Links section.
I have above noted that there seem to be, indeed, too many external links, particularly in the United States section. I recommend that editors of this article review these links, and keep those which are most useful. See WP:EL for guidance. I suggest, in particular, links which will then link to other resources, and links which are neutral, as well as links which are particularly useful. Links appealing to a narrow audience may not be appropriate, but it is up to the editors of this article to decide. Of course, that any editor can become an editor of this article, absent some conflict of interest. If you are connected with a web site as an owner or employee or officer, you should not add links to your site, but may suggest them in Talk.
Because it was long-standing, and without serious review, I am replacing the former link to stepfamily.asn.au. It appears to have been removed as a kind of vandalism or making a point, and that wasn't noticed. --Abd (talk) 18:22, 27 February 2009 (UTC)
thread_title:  Changes to External links section for Australia 

message: This is just a question of curiosity, but what exactly is a stepsibling once (or more times) removed? I think it would be something of interest to address in this article. Fuelsaver (talk) 23:23, 9 October 2009 (UTC)
replies: text: There's no such thing as a 'stepsibling once removed'. People are either stepsiblings or are not. Once removed, twice removed etc. describes types of cousins only. Jim Michael (talk) 18:42, 23 March 2014 (UTC)
thread_title: Question regarding term "stepsibling once removed"

message: The article should maybe try to determine how often incest occurs within newly formed stepfamilies. Given that the obvious biological link is no longer prevalent in the second family, it is possible to imagine that the taboo surrounding sexual relations with step-relatives is not as strong as in biological families. ADM (talk) 19:49, 29 November 2009 (UTC)
replies: text: The article is open to editing by anyone, including you. If you want to research this question and come up with reliable information, it would improve the article. Just be sure to cite your sources, OK? Thanks! --MelanieN (talk) 06:33, 30 November 2009 (UTC)
replies: text: Stepfamily incest is multiple times more common than biofamily incest, because of the Westermarck effect and the Cinderella effect. Jim Michael (talk) 20:02, 23 March 2014 (UTC)
thread_title: [[Incest]]

message: Perhaps a strange question - but if a stepparent dies (while still married to someone's parent), is that someone still the step-sibling of the stepparent's children? I assume divorce means that a "step-sibling" will no longer be a step-sibling, but is the same true for death? All Hallow's Wraith (talk) 00:12, 20 February 2012 (UTC)
replies: text: People related through marriage are only related for the duration of the marriage. Jim Michael (talk) 20:02, 23 March 2014 (UTC)
replies: text: Not true in the case above. You've made several comments on this Talk page that suggest you have an agenda. Please cite your sources. 108.210.5.163 (talk) 19:35, 21 April 2021 (UTC)
thread_title:  Question 

message: Okay, so I get married and have one child by my husband. My father is his father-in-law. We divorce or he dies or something, and I remarry a guy that already has a child. My father is of course his father-in-law, and he is of course my child's stepfather. Here's where the confusion comes in...
Would my second husband technically be my child's father-in-law as well? Aren't the children sibling-in-laws? I see why they're step-family, but wouldn't they all also be family-in-law?
I mean, my father isn't genetically related to either of my husbands, so why wouldn't Husband 2 be my child's father-in-law? Motherloving non-genetic relationships, how do they work? (It just hit me all of the sudden, and I just HAD to ask, although I'm probably going to wish I hadn't. *wink*)
My brain hurts...
74.177.120.167 (talk) 00:15, 27 May 2013 (UTC)
replies: text: No to both your questions. You and your hypothetical future second husband would be the stepparents of each other's children. The children would be stepsiblings, not siblings-in-law. A sibling-in-law is a sibling's spouse or a spouse's sibling. Jim Michael (talk) 18:47, 23 March 2014 (UTC)
thread_title:  Confusion over terms 

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thread_title:  Removing POV tag with no active discussion per [[Template:POV]] 

message: Do some parts of the world have laws against a stepbrother and stepsister having sex together? Can they marry each other? Obviously, such things are frowned on in most of the world, but are they illegal anywhere? 94.196.149.221 (talk) 13:09, 27 October 2013 (UTC)
replies: text: Such laws do exist and should be included in this article. Historical instances should be included too like Nero and his wife Claudia Octavia who was his stepsister. 1.127.106.14 (talk) 12:37, 17 December 2022 (UTC)
thread_title:  Stepsiblings 

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thread_title:  External links modified 

message: :Stepmothers are thought to be less violent in their abuse and instead rely mainly on verbal and emotional abuse.
This ignores completely that almost all infanticide is maternal, and statistically more disproportional in blended families, with the probability of infanticide raising up to five thousand times normal in such families. It appears the abuse section brushes over maternal abuse as a fairy tale and focuses in on the paternal and sexual abuse whilst utterly ignoring you know, something a little worse than any kind of abuse, ending someones life. 121.210.33.50 (talk) 00:12, 27 June 2020 (UTC)
thread_title:  Abuse section 

message: The terminology section is hilarious. If I want to demonstate to someone the insansity that is Wiki, I'll be sure to direct them there. 71.184.87.187 (talk) 00:21, 18 June 2022 (UTC)
thread_title:  LOL 

message: The definitions given do not make sense or correlate with common use. A step uncle should be a step-parent's sibling (this definition isn't even included).  It doesn't really make sense that whether or not an aunt or uncle is a "step" is based on whether or not you already have cousins. This is an unnecessary redefining of the term. By that definition the person transitions from step to "full" aunt/uncle if they have a child. That doesn't work anywhere else. 
Generally any current spouse of an aunt/uncle is an aunt/uncle. Period. Whether or not you consider them to continue to be after a marriage ends might vary. They are your aunt/uncle by definition of their marriage to your aunt/uncle, not through cousins. Such a definition would also introduce a silly procession. Imagine your uncle married, now you have an aunt. Then they divorce. Then your uncle married again, a new aunt. They have a child. Then they divorce. Uncle remarries first aunt, by this definition her remarrying, turns her into a step aunt. What? Then they have a kid and she turns into your aunt again? J1DW (talk) 21:10, 7 November 2022 (UTC)
thread_title:  Step uncle/aunt 

message: This article should include a picture to explain terminology around this topic. 
1.127.106.14 (talk) 12:39, 17 December 2022 (UTC)
thread_title:  Pictures 

message: I think these articles
https://en.wiktionary.org/wiki/stepsibling
https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Stepsibling
https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Stepfamily
need to make clear the 2 definitions of step-siblings
1. co-children-in-law
2. adoptive siblings
In these posts
https://christianity.stackexchange.com/questions/91992/can-step-siblings-marry-in-catholicism
https://christianity.stackexchange.com/questions/91966/according-to-catholicism-can-co-parents-in-law-marry
https://law.stackexchange.com/questions/41600/can-co-parents-in-law-marry-for-example-a-husbands-father-and-a-wifes-mother
https://judaism.stackexchange.com/questions/130193/can-co-parents-in-law-marry-for-example-a-husbands-father-and-a-wifes-mother
Someone says 'You could perhaps make it clear whether you are asking about step-siblings who have or have not been adopted by the step-parent.'
For example, in Stranger Things s4,  when the Byers adopt Eleven, there's this part in S04E03 someone asks Jonathan 'Is Jane's father or mother around?' and then Jonathan says 'Uh, no. No, her mom's out of town. I'm her brother. Um, step-brother. But, uh…'
Or is Jonathan wrong? Or does this Wikipedia article have a different definition like how some definitions of 'rectangle' don't include 'square' ? Thewriter006 (talk) 01:11, 27 July 2023 (UTC)
thread_title:  Co-children-in-law vs adoptive siblings