Talk:Obsessive love

message: How do you treat obsessive love anyway?  I'm currently suffering from it, and I don't want to end up committing any of the consequences.  Please help!  —Preceding unsigned comment added by WalterJid (talk • contribs) 22:37, 4 September 2007 (UTC)
thread_title:  How to treat obsessive love 

message: I consolidated the information in the lists that were tagged into a body of text, but the latter part ("What Causes It?") ends up seeming like one long run-on sentence.  I couldn't think of any better way to do this while simultaneously eliminating the list.  If anyone has any better ideas on how to format that portion, it would be appreciated.  If one feels I've simply done a horrible job, just revert and re-add the cleanup-laundry tag.  I also fixed the above date for the deletion discussion, as it was set to November 31 2006, a date which has not yet occurred.
--Skullfission 11:15, 1 November 2006 (UTC)
replies: text: No need to be apologetic. One of Wikipedias tenets is to be bold. Keep up the good work. --GringoInChile 13:18, 1 November 2006 (UTC)
thread_title:  Lists 

message: This is like an essay.....the person makes a statement but does not answer WHY or HOW, e.g. HOW is obsessive love similar to unrequited love.--196.219.185.21 21:22, 13 March 2007 (UTC)
replies: text: Hey, does anybody know what disorder it is if a person removes another person, and inserts themselves into a story, particullaryly if it is the removal of a past girlfriend and insertion of herself into the empty slot?  —Preceding unsigned comment added by Coolpeople200 (talk • contribs) 00:19, 15 April 2008 (UTC)
thread_title: Explanations

message: This section, although it may be true, is purely subjective.  Research on the actual emotional state of an obsessed lover must replace this subjective account. —The preceding unsigned comment was added by Eaguerra (talk • contribs) 14:22, 26 March 2007 (UTC)
replies: text: The whole possession thing is messed up, imho, because of BDSM. You can want to be possessed or want to possess without having a mental dissorder. This is just an opinion on sanity, this isn't fact. 71.88.41.176 04:39, 29 July 2007 (UTC)
thread_title:  How to spot a person suffering from obsessive love 

message: The article states that education creates a climate for obsessive love, "as nearly all obsessive lovers are educated people and thus able to think about and analyze their feelings".  It seems to me that someone able to analyze their feelings and think things through rationally would be less likely to become pathologically obsessed.  Furthermore, since when are educated people more likely to analyze their feelings?  How the article is referenced makes it really hard to go back and see what Mr. Hodgkinson really meant.  In the meantime I got rid of that bit because it doesn't make much sense.
The article needs to be re-written in more appropriate style and with more helpful citations.  I've gone through and quickly fixed the tone and syntax in a few places, just for a start.
--Awesomebitch 00:12, 23 August 2007 (UTC)
thread_title:  Education, writing style 

message: There needs to be more detail on how an obsessive love affects the person's friends and families, and how one can disassociate everyone else for this one person. C. Pineda (クリス) 02:47, 26 October 2007 (UTC)
thread_title:  Expert needed 

message: Why? Because there's no such a thing like "obsessive love", there's no such a medical term and the citations are taken from books written by journalists and not scientists, everything being extremely subjective! There is abolutely no base for any of the so called "phases"... everyting seems to be the result of someone's frustratation, probably a pretended "victim" of unrequited love, as it is the case with the the author of one of the cited books, that is Liz Hodgkinson ... she's just a jurnalist with a very strong personal opinion on the subject and nothing else...  —Preceding unsigned comment added by 89.43.81.62 (talk) 08:35, 21 June 2008 (UTC)
replies: text: Actually, I have been "in love" with someone and came across this page by googling the term "obsession". And I have to say I'm VERY surprised that over 90% of the symptoms described on this page matches what I'm currently going through. Having read this page and realizing what is actually going on with me really helps knocking some sense back to me. Although, I hope there is some guidelines on how to cure this condition other than "getting professional help". --206.116.117.223 (talk) 06:22, 8 October 2008 (UTC)

text: I find it absurd to criticize obsessive love due to the criteria for it being subjective - because ALL mental illnesses are the same. The various diagnostic criteria are arbitrary and subject to change in future versions of the DSM. And finally, obsessive love is absolutely real, and just because you haven't had it doesn't mean it doesn't exist. You might as well deny the existence of gluten sensitivity or restless legs syndrome (both used to be commonly denied to exist - but of course, only by those who didn't have them). It exists, but the DSM folks have really badly dropped the ball by not including it as a mental disorder.  — Preceding unsigned comment added by 63.78.215.165 (talk) 21:29, 11 July 2016 (UTC)

text: Even if it's complete BS, people have written books about it. The threshold for inclusion in Wikipedia is verifiability, not truth. If people believe it exists, an article can be written about it. VDZ (talk) 01:54, 17 February 2009 (UTC)
thread_title:  The entire article is complete hogwash and should be removed! 

message: i currently have obsessive love.--Sweetheart2009 (talk) 00:15, 15 July 2009 (UTC)
thread_title:  Help 

message: The article seems to suggest that:
a) subject is violent and stalker-ish towards the object
b) subject's suspicions are paranoid and unbiased
c) object breaks off the relationship out of discomfort
Critiques, for each point:
a) subject is not necessarily the emotionally abusive side; may be obsessed with an emotionally abusive object
b) cheating and lies prevalent as they are, and people not always even bothering to conceal them, subject may be validly suspicious of behaviours perpetrated (think cheating, mind games, emotional abuse), admitted to, and apologized for by the object, semi-forgiven, but quite possibly ongoing
c) what of subjects breaking off the relationship, unable to bear the stress, embarrassment, or belittlement, despite said obsession for the object?
...unfortunately, my questions aren't exactly based on idle speculation, but rather on the mess that has become life for the last 6 years.
Aadieu (talk) 18:37, 26 August 2009 (UTC)
thread_title:  Biased towards dangerous and disturbing (rather than disturbed) extremes? 

message: I've found a few sources worth citing to make both articles a little more objective: 
* : "The pathological love is characterized by being a behavior of taking care and paying attention to the beloved partner in a way which is repetitive and careless of control in an amorous relationship."
* : links with OCD. 
* : "The term "love addiction" has been applied to persons who obsessively seek to regain the pleasurable love state which existed with a former love relationship."
Also, I've proposed the merge of love addiction into this article. MichaelExe (talk) 02:42, 13 November 2009 (UTC)
thread_title:  PubMed sources 

message: The only one mentioned in this article is obsessive-compulsive disorder. A high proportion of people with borderline personality disorder experience this. Does anyone have a ref to support its connection to OCD or BPD? Jim Michael (talk) 00:44, 5 June 2012 (UTC)
replies: text: I have found and added a reference. Doctor Whom (talk) 18:14, 15 December 2021 (UTC)
thread_title:  Which mental disorders make a person likely to experience this? 

message: That line made me laugh, I'll admit. But not sure if it belongs in the intro, since it's not really a verifiable fact, and more like an editorial. 162.205.77.189 (talk) 09:10, 31 December 2013 (UTC)
thread_title:  "For most of history, this was called perseverence" 

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