Talk:They

message: My child Alex is amazing, I love her very much.
My child Alex is amazing, I love him very much.
My child Alex is amazing, I love them very much.
My child Alex is amazing, I love it very much.
There is something lost in the last two sentences.  I'm not an expert in grammar, but they seem impersonal, as if the child is an object, a concept or a group, not a person.  The use of 'they' and 'it' when referring to a person seems somehow dehumanizing, and loses the individual.
'They' has the same amount of persona as the word 'it'.  'It' is an object.  'They' is a group, a collective.  I, you, he, she, these are individual designations, I can have a relationship with these.  'It' and 'they' seem like words I would use to describe a cause, a political party or an eating utensil.
The pronoun seems to denote different meanings of words, I love her is individual deep love, I love it is superficial love, I love them is impersonal love.
If a daughter asks her father to start referring to her as they, their and them, it's asking her father to express his deep individual love in an impersonal way, and it hurts.
--   — Preceding unsigned comment added by Frontier teg (talk • contribs) 17:32, 11 October 2019 (UTC)
thread_title:  What is the grammatical rule? 

message: An anonymous user had changed "is a special case of this pronoun" to "is an incorrect use of this pronoun". I reverted it back. It is NPOV to state that it is incorrect. The article already documents that this usage is disputed. Wikipedia ought not to judge this correct or incorrect, only acknowledge how people actually use the word, and link to the dispute.--RLent (talk) 20:22, 4 February 2008 (UTC)
thread_title:  Singular They 

message: 3p miller real name bobby Johnson born 1989 miller  a singer  a leader of the band piz zip has
a green deer friend named moon star called him 3p 3p smokes, drink and bad  behaver yellow hair age (23)  — Preceding unsigned comment added by 2.222.168.102 (talk) 19:00, 3 February 2012 (UTC)
thread_title:  3p miller (piz zip) 

message: 3p miller real name bobby Johnson born 1989 miller  a singer  a leader of the band piz zip has
a green deer friend named moon star called him 3p 3p smokes, drink and bad  behaver yellow hair age (23)  — Preceding unsigned comment added by 2.222.168.102 (talk) 19:02, 3 February 2012 (UTC)
thread_title:  3p miller (piz zip) 

message: As noted by many historians, singular "they" was often used as "de facto" gender-neutral pronoun along with the presumption of "he". Also within the last 100 years or so "they" has become taboo for gender neutral pronouns. It seems silly to omit one group of people by potentially offending another (using "her" as a gender neutral pronoun in place of "he"). Likewise, it also seems silly to invent a pronoun when the language already has use of another one (itself a borrowed word). "They" was a commonly used pronoun for 3S, until British parliament ordered "he" be used for a generic 3S. To say "they" 3S is taboo when it has historical precedent is ostrich-like behavior :-)
http://www.princeton.edu/~achaney/tmve/wiki100k/docs/Singular_they.html
http://www.psmag.com/culture/gender-neutral-pronouns-actually-doomed-67600/  — Preceding unsigned comment added by 158.145.224.113 (talk) 01:28, 30 January 2014 (UTC)
thread_title:  Anonymous