Talk:Shidduch

message: The quote was not really "inaccurate". It was simply a rephrase. JFW | T@lk 03:36, 1 January 2006 (UTC)
replies: text: Perhaps, but the wording made it seem like the whole premise of the arranged marriage is off limits. In fact, marriages are commonly "arranged" in many Orthodox communities, while I doubt that any at all are conducted without the groom having seen the bride at all - as this is plainly prohibited. I wanted to make it clear that shidduchim are not discouraged; taking the practice to the extreme is. DLand 03:47, 1 January 2006 (UTC)

text: That is a more narrow definition of "arranged marriage," but ok. If you insist on reverting, at least leave out (or reword) the line "to discover whether they will get along" as this is somewhat of a speculation. There are documented cases in certain Hasidic sects of a couple "meeting" each other 15 minutes before the marriage. If you call that a shidduch and not an arranged marriage then fine. I agree that there is a distinction, but it isn't much. DLand 05:26, 1 January 2006 (UTC)
thread_title: Torah quote

message: AFAIK, a shudchan must be paid for his/her services in all cases, even if it is only a penny. (This comes from Avraham paying Eliezer?) ems 18:34, 6 March 2006 (UTC)
replies: text: Who says Avraham paid Eliezer, and why would it have mattered - Eliezer was his slave anyway! I believe there is halakha about it, but please don't ask where this is mentioned. Some communities have clear rules about payment of shadchanim. JFW | T@lk 23:16, 6 March 2006 (UTC)
thread_title:  Payment 

message: We need an article on Jewish dating (or something like that.)  There are many Jewish social events promoting continuity, such as the ever-popular Matzah balls, parties held on or near Christmas, and linked to Chanukah as well, ofter singles events.  This terminology is widely used in the American Jewish community, and this phenomenon probably deserves an article of its own.  There should be some mention of this in the Matzah Ball article, primarilly for disambiguation, and here as well.  And what about Jewish dating websites?  There should be some discussion of this.
Matzah Ball parties set for 6
MatzoBall official website
:Matzo Ball® Party is a project of the Society of Young Jewish Professionals. Now in its 21st year, the Society of Young Jewish Professionals, commonly known as SYJP, Inc., is the nation's largest and most successful membership organization for Jewish professionals, ages 21-49. SYJP,Inc. offers men and women the opportunity to meet in an environment conducive to developing networking opportunities, long lasting friendships and romantic relationships. We have sparked over 1,000 marriages and thousands of friendships thus far.  —Preceding unsigned comment added by 
"Fifteenth Matzo Ball brings Jewish singles together for Christmas Eve" The Boston Herald;  December 24, 2001
15 Matzo Balls brings Jewish singles...
"Matzo Ball draws thousands: Christmas Eve parties becoming a Jewish..." Sunday Gazette-Mail;  December 24, 2006 ; The Associated Press
Matzo Ball draws thousands...
"Matzo Ball set for Christmas Eve" Washington Jewish Week;  December 6, 2007
Matzo Ball set for Christmans Eve  —Preceding unsigned comment added by 64.223.179.40 (talk) 13:50, 23 November 2008 (UTC)
thread_title:  We need a section on Jewish dating in general 

message: Shidduch was started 2004 by JFDwolff, size=3,744 = a good size article, not just a stub. Shadchan started 2007 @ 203 bytes, seems to have remained a stub that reminds us that a Shadchan is not a Yenta. At present Shadchan's only purposes seem to be:
* remind us that a Shadchan is not a Yenta - without even telling us how the confusion began in 1964 with Yentel the Jewish Matchmaker in Fiddler on the roof
* a coat-rack for a SPAM External link for "Shadchan.net: The Bashert Agency"
::(feel free to take out the "A"s and "E"s as "Shdchn.nt: Th Bshrt gncy") Pi314m (talk) 17:06, 6 October 2019 (UTC)
thread_title: Why doing a Yenta-type intervention to merge [[Shadchan]] into [[Shidduch]]