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Human: Airbnb host kicked off platform is threatening to sue me! Last month I reported an Airbnb host for sending me threatening messages and he has since been removed from the platform. Since then he has sent me a few disgruntled messages, the most recent of which threatened legal action for the loss of income related to being kicked off of both Airbnb and VRBO. Just a few moments ago, I received an email from a lawyer representing the ex-Airbnb host. It is largely a summary of events where the lawyer explains the situation, apologizes on behalf of his client for the inappropriate behavior (that he says were sent by his ex-wife, who was listed as a co-host), and makes a request that I contact Airbnb to get him reinstated to the platform, following which he will relinquish any claim he may have against me and resolve all outstanding issues between us. The message ends with "this offer will remain open for 21 days, after which time it will no longer be open for acceptance." It's pretty obvious to me at this point that I should contact a lawyer, but does he really have any ground to stand on here? I know I'm not being officially sued quite yet, but the threat is still there. I documented all of our interactions, including my correspondence with Airbnb that lead to him being removed from the platform, so I have everything in order if needed. I'm not entirely surprised he's gone this far, but I think I would be very surprised if this somehow went to court **and** I lost. Any thoughts? I've never been sued before, so advice and feedback is very welcome! Assistant: Ignore till served. I know it's hard to believe, but as a pastor, I've been threatened like this. People ask for money, don't get it, and threaten. I report people for beating their spouse, they threaten and send lots of paperwork. They get all sorts of people involved, but never lawyers. And they never actually serve. I've had to learn that when this happens, report it to my insurance and then we both ignore till served.

Human: Airbnb host kicked off platform is threatening to sue me! Last month I reported an Airbnb host for sending me threatening messages and he has since been removed from the platform. Since then he has sent me a few disgruntled messages, the most recent of which threatened legal action for the loss of income related to being kicked off of both Airbnb and VRBO. Just a few moments ago, I received an email from a lawyer representing the ex-Airbnb host. It is largely a summary of events where the lawyer explains the situation, apologizes on behalf of his client for the inappropriate behavior (that he says were sent by his ex-wife, who was listed as a co-host), and makes a request that I contact Airbnb to get him reinstated to the platform, following which he will relinquish any claim he may have against me and resolve all outstanding issues between us. The message ends with "this offer will remain open for 21 days, after which time it will no longer be open for acceptance." It's pretty obvious to me at this point that I should contact a lawyer, but does he really have any ground to stand on here? I know I'm not being officially sued quite yet, but the threat is still there. I documented all of our interactions, including my correspondence with Airbnb that lead to him being removed from the platform, so I have everything in order if needed. I'm not entirely surprised he's gone this far, but I think I would be very surprised if this somehow went to court **and** I lost. Any thoughts? I've never been sued before, so advice and feedback is very welcome! Assistant: You got an email from a lawyer on a Sunday? I wonder if it’s a friend of the plaintiff. They usually charge extra for that. I would briefly call the law office and ask to verify if the lawyer and law firm are representing the client in question.

Human: Company keeps sending me snail mail after I called and asked them to stop. Company XYZ was sending a lot of junk mail to my apartment, so I called and asked them to stop. They said they couldn't stop because they were sending it on behalf of someone else's account - the previous resident, and that the previous resident would have to contact them. I obviously have no way of contacting the previous resident. A month later, and I'm still getting the junk mail. Can I sue? ​ \[Northeast United States\] Assistant: Is the mailer first class? If so, visit the USPS and ask the clerk to fill out form 3575Z for this individual. Are you receiving other mail for this individual? Non-first class (presorted STD/EDDM/ECRWSS/ECRWSH

Human: Company keeps sending me snail mail after I called and asked them to stop. Company XYZ was sending a lot of junk mail to my apartment, so I called and asked them to stop. They said they couldn't stop because they were sending it on behalf of someone else's account - the previous resident, and that the previous resident would have to contact them. I obviously have no way of contacting the previous resident. A month later, and I'm still getting the junk mail. Can I sue? ​ \[Northeast United States\] Assistant: I don’t think it’s a situation you can sue but if they include a return letter just tear up what they sent you, stuff it in the envelope and Mail it back to them. The postage will already be paid and it costs the company more money that way. I’ve heard many who have done this and haven’t gotten a letter back since

Human: Getting mail for a dead maybe-former resident. University sending the mail insists he's alive, that he lives in my unit, and that they'll keep sending them. [CA, USA] I rent a condo near a university in suburban LA county. I've lived here for several years. Recently, I started getting mail for a man who doesn't live here. The mail is from the university, and they appear to be retirement benefits from the information printed on the envelope. Often times it's just single envelopes with what I assume are checks inside, but other times it's sizable boxes filled with tons of paperwork explaining benefits. One time it was a large package; I obviously didn't open it, so I have no idea what it contained. Each time, I've written "return to sender, nobody here by that name" on envelopes or boxes, and my mailman has taken them away. Sometimes the return-to-sendered envelopes come back, with the mailman explaining that the college mailroom told him that *yes,* This Particular Man *does* live here. He doesn't! My landlords don't recognize the name, and they've owned the unit for over a decade. My elderly HOA president hasn't heard of This Particular Man either, and he's lived in the complex for a loooooooong time. I looked into This Particular Man, and found that he's **dead**. I called the university department sending the retirement checks and told them that I'm erroneously receiving mail for a dead former employee who never lived in my unit, but they keep insisting that NO, he's alive, and he lives with me, and that they will keep sending the mail. I can't find any contact info for his family, so I don't have a forwarding address. The university wouldn't let me know if he had any other contact information. When I talked to my mailman, they told me to talk to the university, which obviously got me nowhere. What is my responsibility, as the renter of this unit, for this mail? If one of the packages gets stolen off of my doorstep, am I liable (though who would care)? I feel weird receiving checks for somebody every two weeks; am I obligated by law to do anything more with them than what I'm doing (returning to sender every time)? Is there any way I can get the university to stop erroneously sending this mail so whoever is supposed to be getting these checks does? Assistant: Mail for a dead person and a university office insisting he lives there despite no one in the neighborhood having knowledge of a person by that name? Someone was cashing those checks. Definitely keep sending them back.

Human: Getting mail for a dead maybe-former resident. University sending the mail insists he's alive, that he lives in my unit, and that they'll keep sending them. [CA, USA] I rent a condo near a university in suburban LA county. I've lived here for several years. Recently, I started getting mail for a man who doesn't live here. The mail is from the university, and they appear to be retirement benefits from the information printed on the envelope. Often times it's just single envelopes with what I assume are checks inside, but other times it's sizable boxes filled with tons of paperwork explaining benefits. One time it was a large package; I obviously didn't open it, so I have no idea what it contained. Each time, I've written "return to sender, nobody here by that name" on envelopes or boxes, and my mailman has taken them away. Sometimes the return-to-sendered envelopes come back, with the mailman explaining that the college mailroom told him that *yes,* This Particular Man *does* live here. He doesn't! My landlords don't recognize the name, and they've owned the unit for over a decade. My elderly HOA president hasn't heard of This Particular Man either, and he's lived in the complex for a loooooooong time. I looked into This Particular Man, and found that he's **dead**. I called the university department sending the retirement checks and told them that I'm erroneously receiving mail for a dead former employee who never lived in my unit, but they keep insisting that NO, he's alive, and he lives with me, and that they will keep sending the mail. I can't find any contact info for his family, so I don't have a forwarding address. The university wouldn't let me know if he had any other contact information. When I talked to my mailman, they told me to talk to the university, which obviously got me nowhere. What is my responsibility, as the renter of this unit, for this mail? If one of the packages gets stolen off of my doorstep, am I liable (though who would care)? I feel weird receiving checks for somebody every two weeks; am I obligated by law to do anything more with them than what I'm doing (returning to sender every time)? Is there any way I can get the university to stop erroneously sending this mail so whoever is supposed to be getting these checks does? Assistant: Idea: Let a few of these letters and packages pile up, then write Deceased; Return to Sender on all of them and return them all at once. Maybe a huge block of them arriving in the office at once will get someone's attention. Or, ask them why they're so damn certain that this person lives at your address. Have they spoken to someone?

Human: Apartment wants to force me to join Facebook group through addendum (UT) The apartment complex I live in (Utah) gave everybody an addendum, which would require us to join their Facebook group and failure to keep that friendship on Facebook would breach the Residential Rental Agreement. The addendum also says that the owner can post all required notices on the Facebook page (like apartment inspections, rule changes, etc). The owner is also given permission to publish pictures of the residents on the Facebook page. This includes children and guests. Then, the addendum says that residents aren't allowed post anything negative about the complex on any forum or any Facebook page. The complex gives us until April 15th to sign it and 5 days after to join the Facebook page. First of all, do I have to sign the addendum? What will they do if I don't sign it? I already have an existing contract they are trying to tack this onto. I don't use Facebook, so this would require me to get one and actively use it so I don't miss important posts. The addendum isn't clear what kinds of posts they'll make on the Facebook page. They could target an individual resident and call him out on breaking a rule in front of all the other residents on Facebook if they wanted to. Secondly, giving them the right to take pictures of me whenever they want to is really creepy. This would allow them to go over to the playground and take pictures of all the kids if they wanted to. And third, residents can't say anything negative about the apartments online? So, they could consider it a breach of contract if you tell your friends not to move into the complex because it isn't a good place to live. Overall, the whole thing is incredibly controlling. I don't agree with the addendum, but I don't know what the repercussions are for not signing it. I'm moving out in June when the existing contract expires, so I don't have much more time here anyways. Giving them the right to take pictures of me and post them on Facebook without me knowing is a big privacy concern of mine as well. Any advice would be appreciated. Thanks guys! Assistant: You don't have to sign the addendum. If you don't sign the addendum, you can expect for your lease not to be renewed at the end the term. I think this addendum is absolutely silly and I wouldn't sign it (or signed the lease if it was present when I moved in).

Human: Apartment wants to force me to join Facebook group through addendum (UT) The apartment complex I live in (Utah) gave everybody an addendum, which would require us to join their Facebook group and failure to keep that friendship on Facebook would breach the Residential Rental Agreement. The addendum also says that the owner can post all required notices on the Facebook page (like apartment inspections, rule changes, etc). The owner is also given permission to publish pictures of the residents on the Facebook page. This includes children and guests. Then, the addendum says that residents aren't allowed post anything negative about the complex on any forum or any Facebook page. The complex gives us until April 15th to sign it and 5 days after to join the Facebook page. First of all, do I have to sign the addendum? What will they do if I don't sign it? I already have an existing contract they are trying to tack this onto. I don't use Facebook, so this would require me to get one and actively use it so I don't miss important posts. The addendum isn't clear what kinds of posts they'll make on the Facebook page. They could target an individual resident and call him out on breaking a rule in front of all the other residents on Facebook if they wanted to. Secondly, giving them the right to take pictures of me whenever they want to is really creepy. This would allow them to go over to the playground and take pictures of all the kids if they wanted to. And third, residents can't say anything negative about the apartments online? So, they could consider it a breach of contract if you tell your friends not to move into the complex because it isn't a good place to live. Overall, the whole thing is incredibly controlling. I don't agree with the addendum, but I don't know what the repercussions are for not signing it. I'm moving out in June when the existing contract expires, so I don't have much more time here anyways. Giving them the right to take pictures of me and post them on Facebook without me knowing is a big privacy concern of mine as well. Any advice would be appreciated. Thanks guys! Assistant: Are they offering to give you anything in return or is this a completely one sided contract? It does not sound like you gain anything at all by signing this addendum, so don't sign it.

Human: My boyfriend is threatening to send my friends a sex tape of me, can the police help? I live in Kentucky. I am 21 and he is 26. He has a video of me where he made me lick him EVERYWHERE. It is so embarrassing. No one would look at me the same way if they saw it. He says if I ever break up with him he will send it to all my friends and family. He's not even really my bf anymore. He makes me spend the night at his apartment every night and demands sexual things but I hate the things he does to me. He keeps degrading me more and more in bed. Any time I tell him no he names one of my friends and starts to send them the video. So I always end up doing what he wants. He treats me horrible, he says he has stretched me out so bad I won't feel good to any other guy. He says no one will want to kiss me when he shows them the video. The only reason I do it is so he won't show people the video but he keeps getting more extreme in bed making me do worse things for him. It's like he is testing my limits. I've been told this is black mail and I could take him to court. But could the police arrest him without notice and look through all his stuff to find all the copies and delete them? Even if he gets in trouble he will still send everyone the video as soon as he gets a chance, I know him. Assistant: On the less-legal side, have you thought about how exactly your friends would react? I mean, people have sex. It's not shameful, especially as you were in a committed relationship. Him sharing the video may be seen as more a reflection on him than on you.

Human: My boyfriend is threatening to send my friends a sex tape of me, can the police help? I live in Kentucky. I am 21 and he is 26. He has a video of me where he made me lick him EVERYWHERE. It is so embarrassing. No one would look at me the same way if they saw it. He says if I ever break up with him he will send it to all my friends and family. He's not even really my bf anymore. He makes me spend the night at his apartment every night and demands sexual things but I hate the things he does to me. He keeps degrading me more and more in bed. Any time I tell him no he names one of my friends and starts to send them the video. So I always end up doing what he wants. He treats me horrible, he says he has stretched me out so bad I won't feel good to any other guy. He says no one will want to kiss me when he shows them the video. The only reason I do it is so he won't show people the video but he keeps getting more extreme in bed making me do worse things for him. It's like he is testing my limits. I've been told this is black mail and I could take him to court. But could the police arrest him without notice and look through all his stuff to find all the copies and delete them? Even if he gets in trouble he will still send everyone the video as soon as he gets a chance, I know him. Assistant: >Even if he gets in trouble he will still send everyone the video as soon as he gets a chance, I know him. See, I know that sounds like a bad situation but you have to realize that this actually completely takes his power away here. You *know* that this tape is coming out, period. That means his threat has no force. Start operating under the assumption that the tape is already as good as released and start nailing him to the wall with the very good advice in this thread.

Human: Can I do anything about my neighbors broken down cars that have been on the street for years? My neighbors have a total of 4 broken down cars, not including the 2-3 cars they actively drive. They are a household of I think 4 people total. They have 2 broken down cars occupying the back third of their backyard(we have alleys here so most people tend to park in back) preventing them from parking back there. It’s their yard though so, whatever. Then out front, they have a broken down truck and van that are parked on the street and haven’t moved in at least a year. The cars are visibly broken down and are missing parts like windows and bumpers. We do not have designated parking spots, we live in the city in the hospital district so parking out front is already hard enough competing with the nurses, let alone my neighbors and their 7 total vehicles. The vehicles definitely belong to them because back when I first moved in 5 or so years ago, they drove those cars. But sometime in mid 2020 they stopped, parked them up next to each other on the curb and have never moved them since. Never seen anyone come to work on them, they’ve simply never moved since for well over a year if not close to two years now. Is there anything I can do to force these people to deal with or remove these vehicles? Can I have them towed for being clearly broken and parked on the city street for over a year? Will I get in trouble for having them towed if I know they belong to my neighbors? I’ve tried talking to these people before but they’re either not home/ignoring my knocking, or they tell me they’ll deal with it later and never do. Mind you these people are also garbage hoarders that have had city health inspectors called on them by the previous landlord, so they’re clearly not in the habit of letting go of garbage. Any advice or links or anything would be greatly appreciated. For background, I live in the city of Tacoma WA. Thank you! Assistant: Here is where you can report the abandoned vehicles (be sure to include location, car make/model, and license plate if they have one) https://www.cityoftacoma.org/cms/one.aspx?portalId=169&pageId=38900&rqst=14 It doesn't matter if you know the owner, an abandoned vehicle is any vehicle on city streets that hasn't moved for an extended period of time or is clearly inoperable. They aren't making this a priority right now unless it's a safety issue but you can at least get them in a queue.

Human: Can I do anything about my neighbors broken down cars that have been on the street for years? My neighbors have a total of 4 broken down cars, not including the 2-3 cars they actively drive. They are a household of I think 4 people total. They have 2 broken down cars occupying the back third of their backyard(we have alleys here so most people tend to park in back) preventing them from parking back there. It’s their yard though so, whatever. Then out front, they have a broken down truck and van that are parked on the street and haven’t moved in at least a year. The cars are visibly broken down and are missing parts like windows and bumpers. We do not have designated parking spots, we live in the city in the hospital district so parking out front is already hard enough competing with the nurses, let alone my neighbors and their 7 total vehicles. The vehicles definitely belong to them because back when I first moved in 5 or so years ago, they drove those cars. But sometime in mid 2020 they stopped, parked them up next to each other on the curb and have never moved them since. Never seen anyone come to work on them, they’ve simply never moved since for well over a year if not close to two years now. Is there anything I can do to force these people to deal with or remove these vehicles? Can I have them towed for being clearly broken and parked on the city street for over a year? Will I get in trouble for having them towed if I know they belong to my neighbors? I’ve tried talking to these people before but they’re either not home/ignoring my knocking, or they tell me they’ll deal with it later and never do. Mind you these people are also garbage hoarders that have had city health inspectors called on them by the previous landlord, so they’re clearly not in the habit of letting go of garbage. Any advice or links or anything would be greatly appreciated. For background, I live in the city of Tacoma WA. Thank you! Assistant: Call the non-emergency police line and report abandoned cars. They will put a sticker on them saying to move in xx number of days or they'll be towed.

Human: Future neighbor plans to build long, paved driveway through my yard, claiming there's an easement, of which I had no knowledge. What recourse do I have? I live in Pennsylvania. Here's my obligatory Paint depiction of easement! Some background: We bought our home one year ago in a beautiful suburban neighborhood. Our neighborhood in PA was built ~30 years ago when the original farmhome (the property behind us) sold off the surrounding acres. Since then, the original farmhouse owners have sold this home a few times. This farmhouse property is behind our home, so we're located along their property line, divided by trees. This brings me to a few days ago, when I found 2 men examining the grassy yard space between me and my next-door neighbor. One guy introduces himself and says he is the future owner of the farm home behind me, tells me that there is an easement next to my home and that he plans to build a second paved driveway where this easement is, so that he has better access to his home (the other guy with him was the driveway company guy). So this LONG paved driveway would go from our curb (public road), between my home and my next door neighbors', and then back about 300 yards to his secluded farmhome. We were caught off guard by this since there's no mention of this easement in our deed and even the previous sellers did not disclose any knowledge of an easement. We are trying to get answers from our real estate agent and title company in regard to that. Since then, I've spoken with older neighbors, who could swear that easement is no longer there, that it was forfeited or altered after my house was built in 1982. I have spent hours at my county and township offices, searching for plans and documents. After playing Davinci Code, I did find evidence (map and deed from 1977 and 81) of there being a proposed easement on my land for ingress and egress and utility, which is the same paperwork the future owner has left in my mailbox. There is no mention that a driveway is or is not allowed to be constructed, but I've been told it is implied to be allowed in the terms "ingress/egress". It's also worth noting that in my land transfer documents, it clearly states that "no structure shall be constructed within six foot on any side yard lot line". Does an easement override these types of statements? At this point, my main questions are: - How can I be absolutely certain of what is currently allowed on my land? Should I wait for him to get all the permits and surveys which will certainly be required? - If the driveway is built, am I entitled to compensation from my title insurance, since we had no knowledge of this supposed easement? Is it worth lawyering up? This driveway will totally downgrade the complexion and value of our otherwise lovely property. Can anyone PLEASE offer any advice or leads for us to investigate his legal right to construct this driveway. I know it's not technically on me to do the investigating but we want to do anything we can to stop this before it gets too far. Thanks! Assistant: This is absolutely the right time to get an attorney involved. A few hundred dollars investment now could save you a major headache later down the line.

Human: Future neighbor plans to build long, paved driveway through my yard, claiming there's an easement, of which I had no knowledge. What recourse do I have? I live in Pennsylvania. Here's my obligatory Paint depiction of easement! Some background: We bought our home one year ago in a beautiful suburban neighborhood. Our neighborhood in PA was built ~30 years ago when the original farmhome (the property behind us) sold off the surrounding acres. Since then, the original farmhouse owners have sold this home a few times. This farmhouse property is behind our home, so we're located along their property line, divided by trees. This brings me to a few days ago, when I found 2 men examining the grassy yard space between me and my next-door neighbor. One guy introduces himself and says he is the future owner of the farm home behind me, tells me that there is an easement next to my home and that he plans to build a second paved driveway where this easement is, so that he has better access to his home (the other guy with him was the driveway company guy). So this LONG paved driveway would go from our curb (public road), between my home and my next door neighbors', and then back about 300 yards to his secluded farmhome. We were caught off guard by this since there's no mention of this easement in our deed and even the previous sellers did not disclose any knowledge of an easement. We are trying to get answers from our real estate agent and title company in regard to that. Since then, I've spoken with older neighbors, who could swear that easement is no longer there, that it was forfeited or altered after my house was built in 1982. I have spent hours at my county and township offices, searching for plans and documents. After playing Davinci Code, I did find evidence (map and deed from 1977 and 81) of there being a proposed easement on my land for ingress and egress and utility, which is the same paperwork the future owner has left in my mailbox. There is no mention that a driveway is or is not allowed to be constructed, but I've been told it is implied to be allowed in the terms "ingress/egress". It's also worth noting that in my land transfer documents, it clearly states that "no structure shall be constructed within six foot on any side yard lot line". Does an easement override these types of statements? At this point, my main questions are: - How can I be absolutely certain of what is currently allowed on my land? Should I wait for him to get all the permits and surveys which will certainly be required? - If the driveway is built, am I entitled to compensation from my title insurance, since we had no knowledge of this supposed easement? Is it worth lawyering up? This driveway will totally downgrade the complexion and value of our otherwise lovely property. Can anyone PLEASE offer any advice or leads for us to investigate his legal right to construct this driveway. I know it's not technically on me to do the investigating but we want to do anything we can to stop this before it gets too far. Thanks! Assistant: Doing your own research is good. But perhaps you should also send a certified letter demanding that Future Neighbor produce some proof that the easement exists. In your letter, state that you believe it doesn't exist and you have no intention of granting it either.

Human: Police thought I was evading arrest, I just didn't want to stop car in the middle of nowhere... I'll keep this brief. I was on a highway at 3am on Monday, coming home from my job that runs late into the night. I see a cop following me for a few minutes before he begins flashing the lights at me to pull over. Seeing as it was late, and there was basically no one else around, I didn't feel good about pulling over. I slowed down, put my blinkers on, and called 911. I asked the operator to let the cop know that I'd be pulling into the 24/7 Wal*Mart near my home. She claims she complied. The cop began to tailgate me. It took fifteen minutes for me to get to the Wal*Mart. The cop arrested me for "Second Degree Police Eluding". He also suspected I was drunk but I passed my sobriety test. I also got a ticket for "Reckless Driving". My court date is around a month from now. I spoke to an attorney, and asked if I could have the operator vouch for me. Apparently, she can't??? So now I have no proof that I *wasn't* evading police. Am I fucked now? If not that, what can I do to prove that I wasn't trying to outrun the cops? Assistant: >I spoke to an attorney, and asked if I could have the operator vouch for me. Apparently, she can't??? I don't see why your attorney cannot get a recording of your 911 call.

Human: Police thought I was evading arrest, I just didn't want to stop car in the middle of nowhere... I'll keep this brief. I was on a highway at 3am on Monday, coming home from my job that runs late into the night. I see a cop following me for a few minutes before he begins flashing the lights at me to pull over. Seeing as it was late, and there was basically no one else around, I didn't feel good about pulling over. I slowed down, put my blinkers on, and called 911. I asked the operator to let the cop know that I'd be pulling into the 24/7 Wal*Mart near my home. She claims she complied. The cop began to tailgate me. It took fifteen minutes for me to get to the Wal*Mart. The cop arrested me for "Second Degree Police Eluding". He also suspected I was drunk but I passed my sobriety test. I also got a ticket for "Reckless Driving". My court date is around a month from now. I spoke to an attorney, and asked if I could have the operator vouch for me. Apparently, she can't??? So now I have no proof that I *wasn't* evading police. Am I fucked now? If not that, what can I do to prove that I wasn't trying to outrun the cops? Assistant: 911 calls are within the scope of discovery that a DA has. Get a new lawyer.

Human: [OREGON] My tenant/roommate has been missing for 3 weeks and his employer stopped by, wondering where he is. His cat is going crazy in his room, will probably die soon, I need advice on how to proceed. I live in a room shared house (2 stories, 6 rooms) and also manage the tenants as part of my rent. We have a tenant that hasn’t shown up in 3 weeks, not entirely uncommon, before he got a cat. He’s always been a bit sporadic and tends to take off for days or weeks, occasionally a month at a time but usually lets us know beforehand. Usually, not always. He doesn’t have a phone, so we can’t get ahold of him. His boss stopped by the other day and asked if we’d seen him, he hasn’t been to work in 3 weeks. We let his boss know that we hadn’t seen or heard anything from him in that time either. He also has (had?) a meth problem that I thought we got past, I honestly thought he was dealing for a while because of his constant coming and going, all hours of the day and night. And disappearing for days at a time is pretty common tweaker behavior. Also, constantly giving rides to shady characters that we sometimes met. Not to mention he’s had all four of his tires slashed, twice. So maybe this time he pissed off the wrong people and got buried in the woods? IDK My question is; He has a (now currently dying) cat in his room. How do I go about gaining entry to his room? Do I call the police and have them perform a welfare check? Knowing full well he isn’t home. Do I file a missing persons report? I am at a loss here and have no idea how to proceed and stay within legal landlord parameters. PLEASE HELP ME SAVE THE CAT!!! TIME IS LIMITED BEFORE IT DIES!!! Also, I do NOT need advice on evictions. I am fully aware of tenant law regarding that and have plenty of court experience. This missing person stuff is new territory, please only offer advice regarding how to save the cat. That is all I care about at the moment. Thank you. Assistant: Just open the door. You said it's unlocked. Literally open the door and let the cat out. No one is going to be able to provide you a legal source that says "yes ihateflyingthings, you can legally save a cat in this specific situation". Save the cat. Stop living with tweakers.

Human: [OREGON] My tenant/roommate has been missing for 3 weeks and his employer stopped by, wondering where he is. His cat is going crazy in his room, will probably die soon, I need advice on how to proceed. I live in a room shared house (2 stories, 6 rooms) and also manage the tenants as part of my rent. We have a tenant that hasn’t shown up in 3 weeks, not entirely uncommon, before he got a cat. He’s always been a bit sporadic and tends to take off for days or weeks, occasionally a month at a time but usually lets us know beforehand. Usually, not always. He doesn’t have a phone, so we can’t get ahold of him. His boss stopped by the other day and asked if we’d seen him, he hasn’t been to work in 3 weeks. We let his boss know that we hadn’t seen or heard anything from him in that time either. He also has (had?) a meth problem that I thought we got past, I honestly thought he was dealing for a while because of his constant coming and going, all hours of the day and night. And disappearing for days at a time is pretty common tweaker behavior. Also, constantly giving rides to shady characters that we sometimes met. Not to mention he’s had all four of his tires slashed, twice. So maybe this time he pissed off the wrong people and got buried in the woods? IDK My question is; He has a (now currently dying) cat in his room. How do I go about gaining entry to his room? Do I call the police and have them perform a welfare check? Knowing full well he isn’t home. Do I file a missing persons report? I am at a loss here and have no idea how to proceed and stay within legal landlord parameters. PLEASE HELP ME SAVE THE CAT!!! TIME IS LIMITED BEFORE IT DIES!!! Also, I do NOT need advice on evictions. I am fully aware of tenant law regarding that and have plenty of court experience. This missing person stuff is new territory, please only offer advice regarding how to save the cat. That is all I care about at the moment. Thank you. Assistant: https://www.oregonlaws.org/ors/90.322 In cases of emergency you can enter without notice. This is an emergency. Enter and save that cat right now

Human: Are public schools really allowed to make students pay them to get an education? PA I am a high school senior about to graduate. At the end of last year, my guidance counselor told me I was required to take five AP classes, that it was “school policy” for students to be in the highest class level they could, and my grades qualified me for the highest class level, AP. I told him that I couldn’t afford ONE AP test, let alone five, and that that was why I had refused to sign up for AP classes for the past two years. He told me that I could take the class but not take the exam, which sounded great so I signed up for all five. When it came time for the tests I told my teachers that I wasn’t taking the tests because I couldn’t afford them, and they told me that I was required to take the tests, that it was school policy. There was so much back and forth about it that I ended up in the principal’s office arguing with her. She told me that since I have proof of being a low income student (free lunches $$) they could get my fees waived. So they didn’t make me pay upfront, and I took all five tests. Now that graduation is a week away, the school is trying to get everyone to settle their “accounts” with the school and pay for lost textbooks and whatnot. If you don’t pay, you don’t get to graduate. I thought it was a mistake when I got a bill for almost five hundred dollars, but the school is now telling me that my fees WEREN’T waived and I’m responsible for paying for them. They won’t tell me why my fees weren’t waived, so I’m pretty sure at this point that they fucked up somewhere, that I was told the wrong information and now they’re trying to cover their asses. I don’t have five hundred dollars. My mom doesn’t have five hundred dollars, which I thought was pretty obvious since I’ve been on free lunch since kindergarten. But now apparently my diploma will be withheld if I don’t pay up. I’m supposed to be going to college in August, so I’m obviously not ok with that. My mom and I have both talked to everyone at the school who’ll listen to us, but they just keep saying it’s my fault and I have to pay up. My only option at this point is going to one of those CASH MONEY NOW CASH CASH CASHCASHCASH loan places, which will really chap my ass but apparently is the only way I can graduate next week. So now I’m wondering if this is even legal. It’s a PUBLIC school, isn’t my education supposed to be free? I know that someone has to pay for the tests, I’m not one of those people trying to get something for nothing. But it doesn’t seem right that they REQUIRED me to take five AP classes and then REQUIRED me to take the tests and REQUIRED me to run up a five hundred dollar bill. I think they should eat the cost of the tests, since I got wrong information from two separate administrators. Can a public school really charge me this much money just for doing what I was told I had to do to get my education? Tl;dr: School told me I was required to take five AP classes I tested into. Then they told me I was also required to take the AP tests, and that my AP test fees would be waived since I'm poor, but now they're saying I have to pay for them to graduate. Can public schools really have a school policy that force students to pay tons of money? Assistant: DO NOT ENTERTAIN THOSE PAYDAY LOANS! It will be the worst decision of your life.

Human: Are public schools really allowed to make students pay them to get an education? PA I am a high school senior about to graduate. At the end of last year, my guidance counselor told me I was required to take five AP classes, that it was “school policy” for students to be in the highest class level they could, and my grades qualified me for the highest class level, AP. I told him that I couldn’t afford ONE AP test, let alone five, and that that was why I had refused to sign up for AP classes for the past two years. He told me that I could take the class but not take the exam, which sounded great so I signed up for all five. When it came time for the tests I told my teachers that I wasn’t taking the tests because I couldn’t afford them, and they told me that I was required to take the tests, that it was school policy. There was so much back and forth about it that I ended up in the principal’s office arguing with her. She told me that since I have proof of being a low income student (free lunches $$) they could get my fees waived. So they didn’t make me pay upfront, and I took all five tests. Now that graduation is a week away, the school is trying to get everyone to settle their “accounts” with the school and pay for lost textbooks and whatnot. If you don’t pay, you don’t get to graduate. I thought it was a mistake when I got a bill for almost five hundred dollars, but the school is now telling me that my fees WEREN’T waived and I’m responsible for paying for them. They won’t tell me why my fees weren’t waived, so I’m pretty sure at this point that they fucked up somewhere, that I was told the wrong information and now they’re trying to cover their asses. I don’t have five hundred dollars. My mom doesn’t have five hundred dollars, which I thought was pretty obvious since I’ve been on free lunch since kindergarten. But now apparently my diploma will be withheld if I don’t pay up. I’m supposed to be going to college in August, so I’m obviously not ok with that. My mom and I have both talked to everyone at the school who’ll listen to us, but they just keep saying it’s my fault and I have to pay up. My only option at this point is going to one of those CASH MONEY NOW CASH CASH CASHCASHCASH loan places, which will really chap my ass but apparently is the only way I can graduate next week. So now I’m wondering if this is even legal. It’s a PUBLIC school, isn’t my education supposed to be free? I know that someone has to pay for the tests, I’m not one of those people trying to get something for nothing. But it doesn’t seem right that they REQUIRED me to take five AP classes and then REQUIRED me to take the tests and REQUIRED me to run up a five hundred dollar bill. I think they should eat the cost of the tests, since I got wrong information from two separate administrators. Can a public school really charge me this much money just for doing what I was told I had to do to get my education? Tl;dr: School told me I was required to take five AP classes I tested into. Then they told me I was also required to take the AP tests, and that my AP test fees would be waived since I'm poor, but now they're saying I have to pay for them to graduate. Can public schools really have a school policy that force students to pay tons of money? Assistant: > She told me that since I have proof of being a low income student (free lunches $$) they could get my fees waived. You need to talk to the principal and get it waived in the system. Don't bother to talk to anyone else.

Human: Took newborn to hospital for head injury and now they’re telling me that they have to involve Child Protective Team??? Today I experienced what any worse parents can experience, my child getting injured, as I was getting him on his car seat, my 8 week old flung him self off the counter that I had the car seat on and bumped his head. I felt like complete and utter shit but I immediately took him to the ER to rule out any traumatic brain injury. I’m now in the hospital day 2, they stated results of imaging was normal, but this nurse told me that child protective team will talk to me and also that they are going to re X-ray my newborn??? When I asked why they said it’s standard procedure for anyone under a year old to have child protective team involved. I feel a failure as a parent because I made my first mistake with my baby and I’ve just gone through hell dealing with the stress of my newborns injury, and now im being told child protective team has to investigate? Is this normal?? And why do they have to re-X-ray the bones and expose them to more radiation? Assistant: I used to work for DCS in a US state years ago, and it was standard procedure for a child under a certain age with an injury to have an investigation, for the reasons stated above, like abuse being covered by an "accident." I had coworkers going to hospitals pretty frequently. This can happen even when someone does everything right, but due to the high potential for abuse, it has to be investigated.

Human: Took newborn to hospital for head injury and now they’re telling me that they have to involve Child Protective Team??? Today I experienced what any worse parents can experience, my child getting injured, as I was getting him on his car seat, my 8 week old flung him self off the counter that I had the car seat on and bumped his head. I felt like complete and utter shit but I immediately took him to the ER to rule out any traumatic brain injury. I’m now in the hospital day 2, they stated results of imaging was normal, but this nurse told me that child protective team will talk to me and also that they are going to re X-ray my newborn??? When I asked why they said it’s standard procedure for anyone under a year old to have child protective team involved. I feel a failure as a parent because I made my first mistake with my baby and I’ve just gone through hell dealing with the stress of my newborns injury, and now im being told child protective team has to investigate? Is this normal?? And why do they have to re-X-ray the bones and expose them to more radiation? Assistant: You aren't a failure. It's common for injuries to children to involve CPS or other higher level review. >And why do they have to re-X-ray the bones and expose them to more radiation? To make sure there isn't other signs of abuse or trauma.

Human: Propery manager conducted audit and says I owe $1600 in back payments for discounts erroneously given to me. They have taken my February rent to apply to this oversight and is now telling me that I am behind on February rent!!! My apartment manager is harassing me for money I do not owe. When I moved into my apartment there were many outstanding deficiencies. I sent an exhaustive email detailing/noting all of the items that they promised to do prior to my move in that were not completed. The property manager conducted a walk thru of my unit. I pointed out all of the outstanding items. She apologized for the many oversights and told me that they would apply concessions to me account verbally and via email. The amount and duration of the concessions were not told to me. My rent is $1500 a month and for 8 months I received a concession of $200 off of my monthly rent. I paid $1300 per month plus water, as billed. Now the property manager sent me a notice stating that I owe back $1600 because she hadn't intended to give me those discounts and it was meant to only be a one-time discount of $200. She has taken my Feb rent payment and applied it toward this amount and informed me that I am now behind on my rent. When submitting my rent checks I always made note on my checks that the check was to cover rent+water. I have never missed a rent payment and never paid late. Always paid my rent on time, minus the concessions that were given to me. I received a notice demanding I pay the delinquent rent (that IMo is not delinquent) or face eviction. Also, received a notice to renew my lease. Another note... the property is under new ownership and management and they are telling me that these discounts though given to me from the prior owner/management company are now owed to them. The onsite property manager, the one harassing me, is the same onsite manager who issued the discounts and now working with the new company. Assistant: Do you still have a copy of the emails? It sounds like you may be looking at court. If the lease says $1,500 and the manager says it was a one time credit of $200 and you have no other proof it is going to be hard to win a case. If you have emails listing everything that was wrong you could at least get a total value to show the single $200 wouldn’t have come close to covering it.

Human: Propery manager conducted audit and says I owe $1600 in back payments for discounts erroneously given to me. They have taken my February rent to apply to this oversight and is now telling me that I am behind on February rent!!! My apartment manager is harassing me for money I do not owe. When I moved into my apartment there were many outstanding deficiencies. I sent an exhaustive email detailing/noting all of the items that they promised to do prior to my move in that were not completed. The property manager conducted a walk thru of my unit. I pointed out all of the outstanding items. She apologized for the many oversights and told me that they would apply concessions to me account verbally and via email. The amount and duration of the concessions were not told to me. My rent is $1500 a month and for 8 months I received a concession of $200 off of my monthly rent. I paid $1300 per month plus water, as billed. Now the property manager sent me a notice stating that I owe back $1600 because she hadn't intended to give me those discounts and it was meant to only be a one-time discount of $200. She has taken my Feb rent payment and applied it toward this amount and informed me that I am now behind on my rent. When submitting my rent checks I always made note on my checks that the check was to cover rent+water. I have never missed a rent payment and never paid late. Always paid my rent on time, minus the concessions that were given to me. I received a notice demanding I pay the delinquent rent (that IMo is not delinquent) or face eviction. Also, received a notice to renew my lease. Another note... the property is under new ownership and management and they are telling me that these discounts though given to me from the prior owner/management company are now owed to them. The onsite property manager, the one harassing me, is the same onsite manager who issued the discounts and now working with the new company. Assistant: City/state makes a big difference. Please edit your post and include.

Human: [MI] My ex and I came to an agreement for me to keep my son for a week, she disappeared for 3 weeks, and is now saying I kidnapped him. I have had my son since the 20th of January. BM was supposed to pick him up the 27th of January, she did not pick him up. I texted her and she said “I’ll be back eventually”. During her time away she was doing hardcore drugs, driving reckless, and partying(she posted these things online). She showed up at my door yesterday, no car, barely any clothes, and obviously still high on something, wanting our son. I refused to give him to her and called her parents to take her home. Today she is now posting that I kidnapped our son, she didn’t know where he was, and that I’m abusing him. Absolutely none of this is true, she has not even tried to come get him today. I have cameras in front of my house and can prove that. What I have: 1. Screenshots of every text message between me and my ex agreeing to me having him for a week, her saying she’d be back eventually, and my “where are yous?” during these 3 weeks, 2. Phone call recordings of me and her parents talking about her showing up to my house high 3. Screen recordings of her doing drugs, reckless driving, etc 4. The video of her showing up to my house high How do I proceed from here? I am worried that she will call the police and this will destroy my career. I am already getting hate mail. Assistant: File for emergency custody, for starters. Do not let her take him. Do not let her parents take him. If he’s in school/daycare, alert them of the situation and her current state. And lastly, ignore the bullshit on social media. The people that matter will know the truth.

Human: [MI] My ex and I came to an agreement for me to keep my son for a week, she disappeared for 3 weeks, and is now saying I kidnapped him. I have had my son since the 20th of January. BM was supposed to pick him up the 27th of January, she did not pick him up. I texted her and she said “I’ll be back eventually”. During her time away she was doing hardcore drugs, driving reckless, and partying(she posted these things online). She showed up at my door yesterday, no car, barely any clothes, and obviously still high on something, wanting our son. I refused to give him to her and called her parents to take her home. Today she is now posting that I kidnapped our son, she didn’t know where he was, and that I’m abusing him. Absolutely none of this is true, she has not even tried to come get him today. I have cameras in front of my house and can prove that. What I have: 1. Screenshots of every text message between me and my ex agreeing to me having him for a week, her saying she’d be back eventually, and my “where are yous?” during these 3 weeks, 2. Phone call recordings of me and her parents talking about her showing up to my house high 3. Screen recordings of her doing drugs, reckless driving, etc 4. The video of her showing up to my house high How do I proceed from here? I am worried that she will call the police and this will destroy my career. I am already getting hate mail. Assistant: Document everything! The text messages between you The agreement that it would be onky a week The social media shpwing what she was doing for three weeks

Human: Can i (a minor 17) press charges on my moms abusive boyfriend if my mom refuses to? Earlier tonight i was lying on my couch and i head my mom scream from her room so i ran in to see her boyfriend on top of her with his hand around her neck. He got off and left as soon as i came in. i let him walk away while i talked to my mom to figure out exactly what happened and she told me that he got pissed after she refused to let him look at her phone i told her she needed to call the police but she said she wouldnt becuase 1. She didnt want my sibling to get involved and 2. She didnt want him getting in trouble. This isnt the first time this has happend ive had to detain him before but was able to do so fairly easily because im alot stronger than he is however this time he came back in from the house with a glock and cocked it on his way to his room while everyone else was eating dinner for all my strength im no match for a gun and im genuinely scared for the first time since i was a small child i told my mom i wouldnt do anything at least until Tomorrow when my younger sibling leave to go visit our biological father but that was before the gun should i disregard our agreement and call the police? And can they even do anything about it if i did call them? Assistant: If you haven't called the police yet, do it now. This isn't a legal advice situation, this is a "you, your sibling, and your mother are in danger of being murdered" situation. Full stop. Call CPS as well

Human: Can i (a minor 17) press charges on my moms abusive boyfriend if my mom refuses to? Earlier tonight i was lying on my couch and i head my mom scream from her room so i ran in to see her boyfriend on top of her with his hand around her neck. He got off and left as soon as i came in. i let him walk away while i talked to my mom to figure out exactly what happened and she told me that he got pissed after she refused to let him look at her phone i told her she needed to call the police but she said she wouldnt becuase 1. She didnt want my sibling to get involved and 2. She didnt want him getting in trouble. This isnt the first time this has happend ive had to detain him before but was able to do so fairly easily because im alot stronger than he is however this time he came back in from the house with a glock and cocked it on his way to his room while everyone else was eating dinner for all my strength im no match for a gun and im genuinely scared for the first time since i was a small child i told my mom i wouldnt do anything at least until Tomorrow when my younger sibling leave to go visit our biological father but that was before the gun should i disregard our agreement and call the police? And can they even do anything about it if i did call them? Assistant: Do call the police if you haven’t already. Your mother is not safe and neither are you or your siblings. I urge you to reach out to a Domestic Violence hotline like ncadv.org. They have some really great resources and can help you navigate the system and this situation. Additionally, you NEED a safety plan. On average, it takes domestic violence victims 7 tries before they completely leave their partner. Do not give up on your mom. She is scared and manipulated by her partner. Please call the police.

Human: My parents kicked me out but used my info for rental assistance? Is this fraud? Hi im. A 22 year old male. My mom had kicked me out at the beginning of 2022 and I was told to live with my dad. I tried to apply for rental assistance and was told I was supposed to be at my moms address from our states rental assistance program. Since then I still haven’t lived there and I know that at least from January to June my information was being used. Is this considered fraud? And if I wanted to take legal action how could I? Assistant: You can also call the state housing dept that provides the assistance and report it, they will also go after people who fraudulently claim benefits.

Human: My parents kicked me out but used my info for rental assistance? Is this fraud? Hi im. A 22 year old male. My mom had kicked me out at the beginning of 2022 and I was told to live with my dad. I tried to apply for rental assistance and was told I was supposed to be at my moms address from our states rental assistance program. Since then I still haven’t lived there and I know that at least from January to June my information was being used. Is this considered fraud? And if I wanted to take legal action how could I? Assistant: It’s fraud but not fraud against you. Just keep pressing the issue with the government agency you are trying to get rental assistance from. They need to take you off her claim so you can put one in for yourself. It’s their call if they want to pursue charges against your mother.

Human: [Florida] I found out that my younger sister was sent away to a religious camp for her sexuality by my evangelical parents, who lied and took money from me (I believe) to fund it. I am furious. I posted this in r/relationships but I was told to post here. I live in Florida and so do my parents. This rest of this is a direct copy paste of what I posted there. I posted a thing here a two years ago that helped me with an uncomfortable situation involving a boss at work and it helped me save a good friendship and my job, so hopefully you guys can help me again with a much much more serious situation. I didn't remember that account so I made a new one. I need to give a little background to explain the situation. This will probably be long. I'm shitty at writing so please bare with me. I work as a computer engineer and live away from my parents. I moved out when I was 18, not because we had a particularly distant relationship, but because I was very hungry for independence and I didn't want to go to college like they wanted me to. I fell in love with programming and got a job a month after I graduated, and I've done that since. I am extremely frugal, and I now make about 70k a year after taxes (go mr. money mustache). Both my parents are in traditional white collar jobs that make significantly more money than I do, and they are horrific with money. When I was growing up my parents were semi-religious (church on easter and christmas type of deal) and not particularly invested in it or politics. Somewhere in the last three or four years they became interested in it, and in the last year in particular (regarding the last elecion especially) they have become some of the most religious and overfocused political people i've ever seen. I have tried distancing myself from this by refusing to talk about these issues over the phone at all. I could not disagree more with them. I think they have some very hateful views, but I've chosen not to engage them on it. Growing up I was not close to my younger sister, mainly because of our age gap. However she has grown up and is very pleasant to speak to. We have spoken on the phone daily (I speak to mom and dad much less frequently) since she was around 14. I have not been exposed to to much of this because I intentionally tell both sides I don't want to talk about their drama (although I am generally clear with my sister that I agree with her, but I don't want to badmouth her parents). My sister is a lesbian, which I have no issue with whatsoever, and my parents do not (or did not) know and would immediately be against. We talked about this a quite often. My sister also has political views completely at odd with my parents (she was in trouble for not supporting their favorite political candidate, you can probably guess who) but I encouraged her to swallow it and suck it up at home for her safety and sanity. She mentioned a few times in the last two months about wanting to come out to them and I highly highly discouraged it. I have heard both of my parents approve of a pastor who disowned his gay son and similar stories. I didn't want them to do that to her. I have offered to let her live with me when she turns 18 but imagined that being in the future. I made her promise not to do that and she did. On her 16th birthday, she came out to them. I was a little angry with her over the phone (I didn't curse or scream or anything, but I was annoyed, but with sympathy for her position. I did chide her a bit, which I acknowledge was dumb.) She was extremely mad at me and didn't call me for four days, which was a long time for us not to speak. We spoke afterwards and I was much better, but things weren't going well. They didn't kick her out but weren't speaking to her at all. Literally she was screaming at them and they just quietly went into their rooms, not saying a word. I offered to speak to them for her and she begged me not to, so I did not, against my better judgement. My Dad, a week later, called me over the phone. He said that he was sick and needed emergency money to have a procedure He begged me "not to tell" mom or my sister. He needed about 20 grand. I had refused them money in the past for a car loan and made it clear that I wasn't giving them money, but I did for this, cautious but ultimately trusting him not to lie about his own potential death. I disagreed with him about a lot of things but he had always been so steadfast about the importance of honesty the thought of him lying about something like that seemed ridiculous and I felt guilty for even thinking that. About another week after that, my sister stopped calling me. I thought she was mad again for some reason but she didn't answer at all. I was worried. I called my parents and asked about her after about a week and they said she was being moody (I thought they thought I didn't know about her sexuality or what was going on). I checked my Facebook that night and I read an days old message from one of her friends that explained that she had been trying to reach me and that my sister was taken from her house into a van and driven off by men in a program with her and my parents there before kicking the friend out of the house. Her friend visited my parents house several times and they eventually told her they sent her to a religious program. She didn't get the name. I called up my father, and he denied it twice before admitting it after a long talk. I was so angry. They seriously have these religious camps that parents can send teens to anytime without committing a crime forever. I didn't think it had anything to do with the money, but I looked it up after that and found out that these programs are generally very expensive. I called him up again and he admitted that's where the money went. I demanded that he let her out and he told me it was his money. I told him I'd never speak to him again and he just ignored me. I try calling him up every few hours for the last several days when I found out and they ignore almost all of my calls. He intentionally didn't tell me the name of the facility or camp, but I've done reading and these are almost always dangerous places. I don't even know if she is in the US anymore. People die and get brainwashed at these places. I feel so guilty for giving them the ability to do this. I don't know the name of the camp, and I did technically give them the money. My only recourse at this point is to go tell everyone in their neighborhood what they did. I saw a facebook post they made about sending my sister to a snooty christian boarding school and that is NOT what they did. I called the school they posted and she isn't going there. They are very connected to the church/suburban town community and I think it would threaten them to have their image splattered with the truth. I would completely disown them now if it wouldn't completely destroy my chances of getting her out. I am at a loss. Please help me. tl;dr: My parents lied to me and took money claiming it was for an illness only to turn around and use it to send my sister to a camp because she came out. They are ignoring my calls. I don't have any legal grounds (i think) and I do not know how to convince them to let her out. Assistant: Not legal advice, but I would suggest calling the church and talking to someone there. Ask to be anonymous, and explain that you have a child/family member that is gay/lesbian, and if there are any "programs" the church can recommend that could help. Chances are the church employees will give you the name(s) of the same place, which may allow you to help track her down. Good luck.

Human: [Florida] I found out that my younger sister was sent away to a religious camp for her sexuality by my evangelical parents, who lied and took money from me (I believe) to fund it. I am furious. I posted this in r/relationships but I was told to post here. I live in Florida and so do my parents. This rest of this is a direct copy paste of what I posted there. I posted a thing here a two years ago that helped me with an uncomfortable situation involving a boss at work and it helped me save a good friendship and my job, so hopefully you guys can help me again with a much much more serious situation. I didn't remember that account so I made a new one. I need to give a little background to explain the situation. This will probably be long. I'm shitty at writing so please bare with me. I work as a computer engineer and live away from my parents. I moved out when I was 18, not because we had a particularly distant relationship, but because I was very hungry for independence and I didn't want to go to college like they wanted me to. I fell in love with programming and got a job a month after I graduated, and I've done that since. I am extremely frugal, and I now make about 70k a year after taxes (go mr. money mustache). Both my parents are in traditional white collar jobs that make significantly more money than I do, and they are horrific with money. When I was growing up my parents were semi-religious (church on easter and christmas type of deal) and not particularly invested in it or politics. Somewhere in the last three or four years they became interested in it, and in the last year in particular (regarding the last elecion especially) they have become some of the most religious and overfocused political people i've ever seen. I have tried distancing myself from this by refusing to talk about these issues over the phone at all. I could not disagree more with them. I think they have some very hateful views, but I've chosen not to engage them on it. Growing up I was not close to my younger sister, mainly because of our age gap. However she has grown up and is very pleasant to speak to. We have spoken on the phone daily (I speak to mom and dad much less frequently) since she was around 14. I have not been exposed to to much of this because I intentionally tell both sides I don't want to talk about their drama (although I am generally clear with my sister that I agree with her, but I don't want to badmouth her parents). My sister is a lesbian, which I have no issue with whatsoever, and my parents do not (or did not) know and would immediately be against. We talked about this a quite often. My sister also has political views completely at odd with my parents (she was in trouble for not supporting their favorite political candidate, you can probably guess who) but I encouraged her to swallow it and suck it up at home for her safety and sanity. She mentioned a few times in the last two months about wanting to come out to them and I highly highly discouraged it. I have heard both of my parents approve of a pastor who disowned his gay son and similar stories. I didn't want them to do that to her. I have offered to let her live with me when she turns 18 but imagined that being in the future. I made her promise not to do that and she did. On her 16th birthday, she came out to them. I was a little angry with her over the phone (I didn't curse or scream or anything, but I was annoyed, but with sympathy for her position. I did chide her a bit, which I acknowledge was dumb.) She was extremely mad at me and didn't call me for four days, which was a long time for us not to speak. We spoke afterwards and I was much better, but things weren't going well. They didn't kick her out but weren't speaking to her at all. Literally she was screaming at them and they just quietly went into their rooms, not saying a word. I offered to speak to them for her and she begged me not to, so I did not, against my better judgement. My Dad, a week later, called me over the phone. He said that he was sick and needed emergency money to have a procedure He begged me "not to tell" mom or my sister. He needed about 20 grand. I had refused them money in the past for a car loan and made it clear that I wasn't giving them money, but I did for this, cautious but ultimately trusting him not to lie about his own potential death. I disagreed with him about a lot of things but he had always been so steadfast about the importance of honesty the thought of him lying about something like that seemed ridiculous and I felt guilty for even thinking that. About another week after that, my sister stopped calling me. I thought she was mad again for some reason but she didn't answer at all. I was worried. I called my parents and asked about her after about a week and they said she was being moody (I thought they thought I didn't know about her sexuality or what was going on). I checked my Facebook that night and I read an days old message from one of her friends that explained that she had been trying to reach me and that my sister was taken from her house into a van and driven off by men in a program with her and my parents there before kicking the friend out of the house. Her friend visited my parents house several times and they eventually told her they sent her to a religious program. She didn't get the name. I called up my father, and he denied it twice before admitting it after a long talk. I was so angry. They seriously have these religious camps that parents can send teens to anytime without committing a crime forever. I didn't think it had anything to do with the money, but I looked it up after that and found out that these programs are generally very expensive. I called him up again and he admitted that's where the money went. I demanded that he let her out and he told me it was his money. I told him I'd never speak to him again and he just ignored me. I try calling him up every few hours for the last several days when I found out and they ignore almost all of my calls. He intentionally didn't tell me the name of the facility or camp, but I've done reading and these are almost always dangerous places. I don't even know if she is in the US anymore. People die and get brainwashed at these places. I feel so guilty for giving them the ability to do this. I don't know the name of the camp, and I did technically give them the money. My only recourse at this point is to go tell everyone in their neighborhood what they did. I saw a facebook post they made about sending my sister to a snooty christian boarding school and that is NOT what they did. I called the school they posted and she isn't going there. They are very connected to the church/suburban town community and I think it would threaten them to have their image splattered with the truth. I would completely disown them now if it wouldn't completely destroy my chances of getting her out. I am at a loss. Please help me. tl;dr: My parents lied to me and took money claiming it was for an illness only to turn around and use it to send my sister to a camp because she came out. They are ignoring my calls. I don't have any legal grounds (i think) and I do not know how to convince them to let her out. Assistant: At the very least, you need to sue your parents. When you sister is in an ok position, you need to cut contact with them.

Human: I came out to my parents as Lesbian and they kicked me out. I’m 17, don’t have a home, and they’re threatening to keep my savings and stuff, too. What can I do? Basically in the title. I’m 17, living in Utah, US. I’m living at a friend’s right now but they don’t really have room for me, I’m staying on their couch and it won’t work long term. Is it even legal for my parents to kick me out as a minor? Like I just turned 17, I can’t do anything for myself legally (i.e. get an apartment) for a year. Do I have any grounds on my savings or my stuff? Assistant: OP in your last post to /r/legaladvice you state you’re 19. In this post you say you just turned 17. Your real age is important in regards to your options. Either way you were a tenant and they cannot kick you out without legally evicting you. If you are indeed a minor they can’t just kick you out, they have a legal obligation to provide for you until you are 18 and in some states until you graduate high school if you turn 18 before then.

Human: I came out to my parents as Lesbian and they kicked me out. I’m 17, don’t have a home, and they’re threatening to keep my savings and stuff, too. What can I do? Basically in the title. I’m 17, living in Utah, US. I’m living at a friend’s right now but they don’t really have room for me, I’m staying on their couch and it won’t work long term. Is it even legal for my parents to kick me out as a minor? Like I just turned 17, I can’t do anything for myself legally (i.e. get an apartment) for a year. Do I have any grounds on my savings or my stuff? Assistant: Call CPS, they will have resources for you and help you. I’m so sorry you’re going through this

Human: (Indiana) I was fired for refusing to sign an nda after being sexually assaulted at work. Was this legal? I was barred from calling the police after I was sexually assaulted at work. I was also told I had to sign an nda saying I could never call the police, testify in court or tell anyone else I was sexuallying assaulted or I would face a 6 figure penalty. I was told I would get a $4000 bonus. I wasn't given any time to decide. It had to be signed immediately. I wouldn't sign it so I was fired and escorted out by security. I did go to the police. My boss was arrested and charged with battery and sexual battery. Another manager and a security guard were both charged with obstruction of justice because they tried to delete the cctv. My boss, the other manager and the security guard weren't fired, they came back after getting bail. My question now is was it legal for them to fire me because I wouldn't sign the agreement or does at will employment cover them. Assistant: You need a good employment law attorney immediately.

Human: (Indiana) I was fired for refusing to sign an nda after being sexually assaulted at work. Was this legal? I was barred from calling the police after I was sexually assaulted at work. I was also told I had to sign an nda saying I could never call the police, testify in court or tell anyone else I was sexuallying assaulted or I would face a 6 figure penalty. I was told I would get a $4000 bonus. I wasn't given any time to decide. It had to be signed immediately. I wouldn't sign it so I was fired and escorted out by security. I did go to the police. My boss was arrested and charged with battery and sexual battery. Another manager and a security guard were both charged with obstruction of justice because they tried to delete the cctv. My boss, the other manager and the security guard weren't fired, they came back after getting bail. My question now is was it legal for them to fire me because I wouldn't sign the agreement or does at will employment cover them. Assistant: As everyone else said, employment attorney, now. For what it's worth though, while you're correct in not signing, the NDA would likely be unenforceable if you had signed it. NDAs legally cannot be used to prevent you from reporting criminal activity, especially that in which you're the victim.

Human: Stepfather was fired unexpectedly and has been refused a reason for his termination. Boss's son now gets his contracts, is this wrongful termination? We live in Huntsville, AL and this happened last week. My stepfather works at a printer/office supply renting leasing type company and he and my mom had just returned from vacation and when he went back to work they fired him, and although he asked their reasoning, they refused to explain. Now, his friends at the job have told him that all the contracts he had sold and negotiated were being passed on to the boss's son, and he is making easy money because of it. I was just wondering if this could qualify as wrongful termination because as far as anyone can tell, the only reason he was fired was so that the boss's son didn't actually have to work to sell anything and he could get paid commission for all the contracts that are soon to come back up that my stepdad was previously in charge of. I couldn't find anything in the AL or federal state codes but I did only give it a topical review. We plan on trying to set up a meeting in order to at least give the boss a chance to explain if there were other factors at play but, being as he was among their top salesman, had won them contracts with several large companies, and had a spotless record, I don't know of any other reason for him to be dropped. Assistant: Nope. At-will employment. He can be fired for no reason at all.

Human: Stepfather was fired unexpectedly and has been refused a reason for his termination. Boss's son now gets his contracts, is this wrongful termination? We live in Huntsville, AL and this happened last week. My stepfather works at a printer/office supply renting leasing type company and he and my mom had just returned from vacation and when he went back to work they fired him, and although he asked their reasoning, they refused to explain. Now, his friends at the job have told him that all the contracts he had sold and negotiated were being passed on to the boss's son, and he is making easy money because of it. I was just wondering if this could qualify as wrongful termination because as far as anyone can tell, the only reason he was fired was so that the boss's son didn't actually have to work to sell anything and he could get paid commission for all the contracts that are soon to come back up that my stepdad was previously in charge of. I couldn't find anything in the AL or federal state codes but I did only give it a topical review. We plan on trying to set up a meeting in order to at least give the boss a chance to explain if there were other factors at play but, being as he was among their top salesman, had won them contracts with several large companies, and had a spotless record, I don't know of any other reason for him to be dropped. Assistant: If your stepfather is over 40 he should consult an employment lawyer who handles employee cases to determine if he has an age discrimination case. He may have a very good case.

Human: [Texas] The guy who stole from me wants me to write him a letter of recommendation. What am I allowed to say? My former housekeeper’s son asked me to write him a letter of recommendation today. He used to steal my wife’s bras. We caught him carrying two out to his car one day. He froze in place, said “oops,” and returned *one* and honest-to-god tried to sneak the other into his car. I strongly suspect he stole our tableware, plates, and glasses too. I never caught him red-handed with them, but they only disappeared on days he and his mom came to clean. It wasn’t even our *nice* kitchen stuff either; he stole our decade-old IKEA plates, forks, knives, and spoons, along with all of our daughter’s sippy-cups and straws. He was in his twenties when he did all of this. And now he’s asking me to write a letter of recommendation. How much liability am I exposing myself to if I figure out who this clown wants me to send this letter to and tell them he’s a thief? There is no criminal record that I am aware of because we never filed a police report; we just fired him and his mom and replaced our stuff (including the bras)—and I know we are *very* lucky to have been able to do that. My first instinct is just to delete the email and block this guy’s address and be done with him, but the sheer temerity of his “may I ask a favor of you?” is *really* getting to me. Assistant: “I am unable to provide a recommendation for this person.”

Human: [Texas] The guy who stole from me wants me to write him a letter of recommendation. What am I allowed to say? My former housekeeper’s son asked me to write him a letter of recommendation today. He used to steal my wife’s bras. We caught him carrying two out to his car one day. He froze in place, said “oops,” and returned *one* and honest-to-god tried to sneak the other into his car. I strongly suspect he stole our tableware, plates, and glasses too. I never caught him red-handed with them, but they only disappeared on days he and his mom came to clean. It wasn’t even our *nice* kitchen stuff either; he stole our decade-old IKEA plates, forks, knives, and spoons, along with all of our daughter’s sippy-cups and straws. He was in his twenties when he did all of this. And now he’s asking me to write a letter of recommendation. How much liability am I exposing myself to if I figure out who this clown wants me to send this letter to and tell them he’s a thief? There is no criminal record that I am aware of because we never filed a police report; we just fired him and his mom and replaced our stuff (including the bras)—and I know we are *very* lucky to have been able to do that. My first instinct is just to delete the email and block this guy’s address and be done with him, but the sheer temerity of his “may I ask a favor of you?” is *really* getting to me. Assistant: Just decline Even if you have truth on your side the cost of litigation is high and is not with exposing yourself to the risk What would you have to gain other than sticking it to him? Ignore and move on

Human: I think I am being investigated by a higher law enforcement agency for stuff that distant relatives are doing. So I have been kind of paranoid for the last few days and I am unsure of how to proceed. Since Monday of two weeks ago someone has been parking a black panel van outside my house and followed me to work. When I say follow I mean the van would remain where it was until I got to work. However when I would go out for lunch it would be in the parking lot. At first I assumed coincidence until I saw the car outside of the grocery store one day when I had spent over 2 hours in the store talking with a friend of mine who works there. I wrote down the plate number and went home. Next morning the van across the street had the same plate number as the one from the grocery store. I live in a kind of small town so I figured it could still be a coincidence; until I left for lunch that day and saw the van had the same plate number. Now I knew something was up. I called a friend of mine asking if he were playing a joke on me. His uncle owns a plumbing business and uses black vans with vinyl clings on them. I thought that maybe they hadn't branded the van yet and he were just screwing with me. He told me it was not him but asked me what the license plate was. He wanted to see if it was an old van they no longer used. When I told him the plate number he made a big deal about the plate only having numbers and no letters on it. He thought I were screwing with him until I showed him the pictures of van outside my house and work. Side note. I will not be sharing these pictures as they are very clearly identifiable with the landmarks in the background. He told me to call the police immediately. I talked to an officer over the phone and told him what was happening. He made a big deal about the license plate only having numbers on it and did not believe me. I just asked him if he could send a car by my place. He reluctantly agreed and thought I was bullshitting him. The next day the van was gone. Two days later there is a white SUV with dark tint on the windows. This SUV is also following me around and is being more aggressive. I started carrying my gun in my car just in case because of it but I have been advised against it. I think it is a police van and SUV that has been following me as they both have license plates that have no letters in it. Looking up online it looks like, in Texas, license plates that only have numbers belong to the police. I have been unable to confirm that as the police dept has been very terse with me. They told me that if I wanted to get them involved in this issue I should come down and talk about it at the station with them. Yeah I am definitely not gonna do that. My friend told me to contact a lawyer immediately as it is likely I am being investigated by some LEA that is not my local department as they did not know anything about the black van at first. I have family who are, well lets just say that we have a small herd of black sheep in our family. They live in NJ and are involved in a lot of illegal things. We will leave it at that. My familial connections with them has precluded me from getting a security clearance in the past to work for a major US military contractor and has created issues at airports. But I have never been investigated before. My local department has advised me not to make contact with the SUV following me and to not carry my firearm in my car. These two statements from them have me extremely paranoid and I am unsure of what I should do now? Assistant: 1. Stop carrying a fucking gun over this. That is the stupidest fucking thing I have read in a long time. 2. Get an attorney.

Human: I think I am being investigated by a higher law enforcement agency for stuff that distant relatives are doing. So I have been kind of paranoid for the last few days and I am unsure of how to proceed. Since Monday of two weeks ago someone has been parking a black panel van outside my house and followed me to work. When I say follow I mean the van would remain where it was until I got to work. However when I would go out for lunch it would be in the parking lot. At first I assumed coincidence until I saw the car outside of the grocery store one day when I had spent over 2 hours in the store talking with a friend of mine who works there. I wrote down the plate number and went home. Next morning the van across the street had the same plate number as the one from the grocery store. I live in a kind of small town so I figured it could still be a coincidence; until I left for lunch that day and saw the van had the same plate number. Now I knew something was up. I called a friend of mine asking if he were playing a joke on me. His uncle owns a plumbing business and uses black vans with vinyl clings on them. I thought that maybe they hadn't branded the van yet and he were just screwing with me. He told me it was not him but asked me what the license plate was. He wanted to see if it was an old van they no longer used. When I told him the plate number he made a big deal about the plate only having numbers and no letters on it. He thought I were screwing with him until I showed him the pictures of van outside my house and work. Side note. I will not be sharing these pictures as they are very clearly identifiable with the landmarks in the background. He told me to call the police immediately. I talked to an officer over the phone and told him what was happening. He made a big deal about the license plate only having numbers on it and did not believe me. I just asked him if he could send a car by my place. He reluctantly agreed and thought I was bullshitting him. The next day the van was gone. Two days later there is a white SUV with dark tint on the windows. This SUV is also following me around and is being more aggressive. I started carrying my gun in my car just in case because of it but I have been advised against it. I think it is a police van and SUV that has been following me as they both have license plates that have no letters in it. Looking up online it looks like, in Texas, license plates that only have numbers belong to the police. I have been unable to confirm that as the police dept has been very terse with me. They told me that if I wanted to get them involved in this issue I should come down and talk about it at the station with them. Yeah I am definitely not gonna do that. My friend told me to contact a lawyer immediately as it is likely I am being investigated by some LEA that is not my local department as they did not know anything about the black van at first. I have family who are, well lets just say that we have a small herd of black sheep in our family. They live in NJ and are involved in a lot of illegal things. We will leave it at that. My familial connections with them has precluded me from getting a security clearance in the past to work for a major US military contractor and has created issues at airports. But I have never been investigated before. My local department has advised me not to make contact with the SUV following me and to not carry my firearm in my car. These two statements from them have me extremely paranoid and I am unsure of what I should do now? Assistant: Are you positive that the license plate has only numbers? Is it exempt? http://www.plateshack.com/y2k/Texas3/tx2017exempt.jpg If it is, this IS government. But as other stated it would have to be the most piss poor surveillance I've ever heard of. Get a lawyer if you want. This seems pretty obnoxious. Don't listen to this but I'd wave at them, bring them donuts or something, but just the cheeky part of me. See if your lawyer can write them a nasty letter or something and listen to his advice.

Human: [NJ] Amazon says I returned the wrong item and is threatening to charge me for it In June I brought a rather expensive drone for myself. It was just a little over $1000. When I received it, I noticed that it was missing one of the cables that was required to use the drone. I immediately requested a replacement on Amazon and returned the one with the missing cable. I returned it to a UPS store as advised on the Amazon return instructions. A few days later I received notice that the return was received and never heard anything of the issue again. Fast forward two and a half months later and I receive an e-mail from Amazon that states that I returned the incorrect item and that I'll be charged if I don't return the right item. I know for a fact that I returned the right item, so I e-mailed back simply stating that I returned the correct item and asked them to provide proof that I returned the incorrect item. I received another canned response back simply stating that I returned an incorrect item. I replied to the canned response with the same response, only this time I also cc'ed jeff@amazon.com which from my understanding forwards to some special inbox that gets more attention. I called amazon customer support to get more information. Support told me that they could not give me more information and that all they could tell me is that they received the wrong item. They did take a report though where I explained again that I returned the item and the customer service rep stated that a special team was handling the case and that I wouldn't receive any more emails on the subject and that I wouldn't be charged. I wished I had recorded that phone call. Later that day I receive another email from amazon, this time I think it's a reply to the email I cc'ed to jeff@amazon.com email, essentially stating the same thing that Amazon support had been stating. I asked them again to provide proof that I returned the wrong item and I asked that they return the incorrect item back to me if they cannot provide proof for whatever reason. I also pointed out that the Amazon website lists the return as completed and even lists that date (2 months ago) that the return was received by amazon on. Again they responded similarly to their previous e-mails, stating that I returned the wrong item and that they were going to charge me for it. They said they could not provide proof and could not send the incorrect item back to me. They also said that they could not send me proof because they discarded the incorrect item that they claimed I sent them. I called support back to get an explanation on the last e-mail I had just received and was again told the same thing as the first call, that a team would be back in contact with me within 24-48 hours via email and that I wouldn't be charged or should receive anymore e-mails requesting that I send the item back. Due to how inconsistent amazon has been up to this point, I started recording all of my calls. I also saved all of the emails I have up until now. I also took screen shots of the return order page that still shows the return as completed and received by amazon on June 24th. I'm really at a loss for what to do here. I don't have the return shipping receipt anymore since it was so long ago and I received confirmation that they received the item. When I returned the item, amazon allows you to return the item in it's regular product box without a cardboard shipping box to a UPS store. I suspect that between the UPS store and the Amazon warehouse that someone stole or replaced the drone. However since Amazon won't give me ANY information, I have no way to confirm that. It seems that every response I get back from Amazon on any of my requests for information is met with a "fuck you, pay me." from amazon. I assume they're going to charge my card for the $1000 soon. It's an Amazon Store credit card by Synchrony bank, so I have no clue how a credit dispute would work out in this case. If they charge me, would it even be worth brining a company like Amazon to small claims court? It feels like a VERY uphill battle in a case of he said, she said. Assistant: > If they charge me Stop payment on any attempt they make to impose the unlawful claim. They can deal with your credit card provider, who will require more than just their baseless assertion that you returned the wrong item. Despite the Amazon sponsorship of the card they are still subject to US banking and credit regulations and they'll be dealing with a third party, they are not a bank.

Human: [NJ] Amazon says I returned the wrong item and is threatening to charge me for it In June I brought a rather expensive drone for myself. It was just a little over $1000. When I received it, I noticed that it was missing one of the cables that was required to use the drone. I immediately requested a replacement on Amazon and returned the one with the missing cable. I returned it to a UPS store as advised on the Amazon return instructions. A few days later I received notice that the return was received and never heard anything of the issue again. Fast forward two and a half months later and I receive an e-mail from Amazon that states that I returned the incorrect item and that I'll be charged if I don't return the right item. I know for a fact that I returned the right item, so I e-mailed back simply stating that I returned the correct item and asked them to provide proof that I returned the incorrect item. I received another canned response back simply stating that I returned an incorrect item. I replied to the canned response with the same response, only this time I also cc'ed jeff@amazon.com which from my understanding forwards to some special inbox that gets more attention. I called amazon customer support to get more information. Support told me that they could not give me more information and that all they could tell me is that they received the wrong item. They did take a report though where I explained again that I returned the item and the customer service rep stated that a special team was handling the case and that I wouldn't receive any more emails on the subject and that I wouldn't be charged. I wished I had recorded that phone call. Later that day I receive another email from amazon, this time I think it's a reply to the email I cc'ed to jeff@amazon.com email, essentially stating the same thing that Amazon support had been stating. I asked them again to provide proof that I returned the wrong item and I asked that they return the incorrect item back to me if they cannot provide proof for whatever reason. I also pointed out that the Amazon website lists the return as completed and even lists that date (2 months ago) that the return was received by amazon on. Again they responded similarly to their previous e-mails, stating that I returned the wrong item and that they were going to charge me for it. They said they could not provide proof and could not send the incorrect item back to me. They also said that they could not send me proof because they discarded the incorrect item that they claimed I sent them. I called support back to get an explanation on the last e-mail I had just received and was again told the same thing as the first call, that a team would be back in contact with me within 24-48 hours via email and that I wouldn't be charged or should receive anymore e-mails requesting that I send the item back. Due to how inconsistent amazon has been up to this point, I started recording all of my calls. I also saved all of the emails I have up until now. I also took screen shots of the return order page that still shows the return as completed and received by amazon on June 24th. I'm really at a loss for what to do here. I don't have the return shipping receipt anymore since it was so long ago and I received confirmation that they received the item. When I returned the item, amazon allows you to return the item in it's regular product box without a cardboard shipping box to a UPS store. I suspect that between the UPS store and the Amazon warehouse that someone stole or replaced the drone. However since Amazon won't give me ANY information, I have no way to confirm that. It seems that every response I get back from Amazon on any of my requests for information is met with a "fuck you, pay me." from amazon. I assume they're going to charge my card for the $1000 soon. It's an Amazon Store credit card by Synchrony bank, so I have no clue how a credit dispute would work out in this case. If they charge me, would it even be worth brining a company like Amazon to small claims court? It feels like a VERY uphill battle in a case of he said, she said. Assistant: Can you get tracking information/proof of shipment and delivery from UPS?

Human: Can my employer charge every employee $5 every paycheck for “product loss”? I live in Missouri. I work at a restaurant that I love working in, but our owner does some weird things with payroll. First of all, he’s “scared” of doing direct deposit. On top of that, he knowingly uses a payroll system with vulnerabilities. I could live with paper checks, and I was able to hide my personal info. What really confuses me is charging EVERY employee $5 on EVERY paycheck for “product loss”. Servers, managers, cooks, bartenders, food runners, dishwashers, barbacks, and even security. Is he allowed to do this? Assistant: No. It's wage theft. However, it is very considerate of him to document it so nicely on everyone's paycheck. Your state Department of Labor would be a good starting point.

Human: Can my employer charge every employee $5 every paycheck for “product loss”? I live in Missouri. I work at a restaurant that I love working in, but our owner does some weird things with payroll. First of all, he’s “scared” of doing direct deposit. On top of that, he knowingly uses a payroll system with vulnerabilities. I could live with paper checks, and I was able to hide my personal info. What really confuses me is charging EVERY employee $5 on EVERY paycheck for “product loss”. Servers, managers, cooks, bartenders, food runners, dishwashers, barbacks, and even security. Is he allowed to do this? Assistant: Unless he has your written approval to deduct from your pay, you should file a wage claim with your state's Dept of Labor.

Human: My sister (38f) took her bearded dragon (1yr) to a reptile boarding in Southern CA and was returned nearly fried, and near death. What can we do? From March 9 - 24 2020, my sister boarded her bearded dragon at a reptile shop in Southern California which We found on google and had good reviews. When my sister dropped it off on the 9th she gave careful instructions on the dragons diet and bathing schedule. She saw that the cage was much smaller than she anticipated but didn’t want to worry being that it is a “specialty” shop with high reviews. During her visit in Australia, we called the reptile place to request a status update and a photo. However, we never got the photos. But we didn’t let this worry us as CVOID-19 was changing a lot of things and shops were closing down. When my sister returned back to Los Angeles, she was asked to pick up her dragon the following day March 25. On the 25th when she picked up her dragon she saw that it had its eyes closed but didn’t think much of it until she got home. Her dragon was showing extreme lethargy and closed eyes. I had my sister watch it overnight to see if there were any improvements. The following day, she took the dragon to the vet which they had to provide care overnight. During this period I called the boarding and I told them that the dragon under their care had to be held overnight in the hospital. When I called I said “I need to know the care you provided because my sisters dragon is being hospitalized”. I tried recording the conversation but my app didn’t work. During this conversation the man yelled at me and said that “the vets don’t know shit”, “they want money”, “they don’t know how I care for my animals”, “I fed, bathe and we sent photos” “I gave him mill worms”. I knew then that my sister told them specifically not to feed it mill worms because it didn’t sit well with the dragon and then I proceeded to say “I’m not calling to argue, I need to know how you cared for it so I can tell the vet, can I also get the photos you said you sent to my sister to see the time stamp” he then said he couldn’t get a hold of them and said I’ll need to call back. The vet report came back and said “gravid lethargy (suspect secondary to inappropriate husbandry while boarding).” The vet also said that it had a bacterial infection which is caused by dirty conditions. The final bill was $1295! The vet recommended for us to report it to the BBB. We want to take action but not sure what to do or how to do it. Do we have something here? I don’t think a google review is sufficient. TL:DR - sister’s dragon nearly died. Has a long recovery. Vet confirmed it’s from poor boarding conditions. Assistant: Review with pictures of the returned conditions, store is probably going to tell you to eat shit so prepare for having to go the legal route. Make your own logs and documentation, write out what you remember of the phone conversation.

Human: My sister (38f) took her bearded dragon (1yr) to a reptile boarding in Southern CA and was returned nearly fried, and near death. What can we do? From March 9 - 24 2020, my sister boarded her bearded dragon at a reptile shop in Southern California which We found on google and had good reviews. When my sister dropped it off on the 9th she gave careful instructions on the dragons diet and bathing schedule. She saw that the cage was much smaller than she anticipated but didn’t want to worry being that it is a “specialty” shop with high reviews. During her visit in Australia, we called the reptile place to request a status update and a photo. However, we never got the photos. But we didn’t let this worry us as CVOID-19 was changing a lot of things and shops were closing down. When my sister returned back to Los Angeles, she was asked to pick up her dragon the following day March 25. On the 25th when she picked up her dragon she saw that it had its eyes closed but didn’t think much of it until she got home. Her dragon was showing extreme lethargy and closed eyes. I had my sister watch it overnight to see if there were any improvements. The following day, she took the dragon to the vet which they had to provide care overnight. During this period I called the boarding and I told them that the dragon under their care had to be held overnight in the hospital. When I called I said “I need to know the care you provided because my sisters dragon is being hospitalized”. I tried recording the conversation but my app didn’t work. During this conversation the man yelled at me and said that “the vets don’t know shit”, “they want money”, “they don’t know how I care for my animals”, “I fed, bathe and we sent photos” “I gave him mill worms”. I knew then that my sister told them specifically not to feed it mill worms because it didn’t sit well with the dragon and then I proceeded to say “I’m not calling to argue, I need to know how you cared for it so I can tell the vet, can I also get the photos you said you sent to my sister to see the time stamp” he then said he couldn’t get a hold of them and said I’ll need to call back. The vet report came back and said “gravid lethargy (suspect secondary to inappropriate husbandry while boarding).” The vet also said that it had a bacterial infection which is caused by dirty conditions. The final bill was $1295! The vet recommended for us to report it to the BBB. We want to take action but not sure what to do or how to do it. Do we have something here? I don’t think a google review is sufficient. TL:DR - sister’s dragon nearly died. Has a long recovery. Vet confirmed it’s from poor boarding conditions. Assistant: If you're in California recording phone calls remember that, by law, you MUST notify the other party that you're recording.

Human: Employer wants me to switch my daughters daycare because he feels like I should stay past 5, even thought that's the end of the work day. Hey Reddit. I'm a Canadian citizen and I am having an issue at work. I am performing well, doing my job, and not doing anything against company policy or Canadian law. Recently my employer expressed the fact that although our day ends at 5PM that because I'm not staying past 5 like some other employees that he thinks I am not hustling or taking the job seriously. I know nothing can be done so although I was upset I brushed it off. The reason I leave at 5 on the dot usually is because my daughter is in daycare and the daycare is not open past 6. I need to be there to pick her up, and also want to be there to spend the night with her. We'll, yesterday night a superior messaged me about a daycare he found that is open to 7PM and serves dinner to kids. I was infuriated. I don't know why they expect me to pay more money and switch my daughter to another day care after already making friends and getting used to her current daycare. Especially since it's only because they feel I should be staying after 5. Is this legal? Are there issues I can bring up? Or is my employer just a big POS? Assistant: Contact the government office that deals with these employment questions, you should be crystal clear on the legal rules before you take any action.

Human: Employer wants me to switch my daughters daycare because he feels like I should stay past 5, even thought that's the end of the work day. Hey Reddit. I'm a Canadian citizen and I am having an issue at work. I am performing well, doing my job, and not doing anything against company policy or Canadian law. Recently my employer expressed the fact that although our day ends at 5PM that because I'm not staying past 5 like some other employees that he thinks I am not hustling or taking the job seriously. I know nothing can be done so although I was upset I brushed it off. The reason I leave at 5 on the dot usually is because my daughter is in daycare and the daycare is not open past 6. I need to be there to pick her up, and also want to be there to spend the night with her. We'll, yesterday night a superior messaged me about a daycare he found that is open to 7PM and serves dinner to kids. I was infuriated. I don't know why they expect me to pay more money and switch my daughter to another day care after already making friends and getting used to her current daycare. Especially since it's only because they feel I should be staying after 5. Is this legal? Are there issues I can bring up? Or is my employer just a big POS? Assistant: Is it legal for him to suggest an alternative daycare? Yes. It is not legal for him to fire you because you don’t stay past the end of the work day. I would be looking for a new job if I were you.

Human: Sent to collections for a hospital bill from 2008 for my (then) 5 year old daughter's prostate removal and hospital stay. No one will listen when I tell them it's a mistake. California. I could really use some advice or to be pointed in the right direction here. No one from the collections company or the hospital will listen when I try to show them that it is a mistake. I even went to the hospital with my daughter, her birth certificate (she was born there) and her SSN but they just told me the bill is accurate. It's a huge bill and there's no way I can afford it. The calls are constant. I have three pre-teen kids and my wife died when they were small and I'm doing it all on my own here. If I get stuck paying the bill I'll lose my house and money is tight. It's obviously a mistake and I'm freaking out. What should I do to and how can I get someone to listen to and fix it? Assistant: Prostate removal from female? Case closed.

Human: Sent to collections for a hospital bill from 2008 for my (then) 5 year old daughter's prostate removal and hospital stay. No one will listen when I tell them it's a mistake. California. I could really use some advice or to be pointed in the right direction here. No one from the collections company or the hospital will listen when I try to show them that it is a mistake. I even went to the hospital with my daughter, her birth certificate (she was born there) and her SSN but they just told me the bill is accurate. It's a huge bill and there's no way I can afford it. The calls are constant. I have three pre-teen kids and my wife died when they were small and I'm doing it all on my own here. If I get stuck paying the bill I'll lose my house and money is tight. It's obviously a mistake and I'm freaking out. What should I do to and how can I get someone to listen to and fix it? Assistant: Do not pay a cent. It's beyond the statute of limitations. But, if you pay anything, that may restart the clock. It is also too late to report to collections. So, best thing is to order them not to contact you about it any more. Best to do that in writing.

Human: Inherited a house I didn't know about and now dad wants me to sign it over to him so he can "set up a trust fund"...any advice appreciated (x-post from r/personal finance) A little background: I will be 30 years old next week, and I live in an apartment with my 31 year old brother. We both still have a lot of student loan debt and other expenses, but we manage to get by. Five years ago, our mother died of cancer. My dad, who I used to be very close with, suddenly became like a whole different person (as sometimes happens following a tragedy), and a year after mom dies he starts dating this other woman. They move very quickly, planning a trip to Europe within a couple weeks of meeting one another, and within six months he's basically moved in with her. At this point, my brother and I were still living at home trying to save some money while paying off some our college loans (I was 26 and bro was 27), and suddenly dad wants us to move out ASAP so he can sell the house. I found out much later that she was the one pulling the strings and urging him to kick us out, that we were just "freeloaders" (even though we were giving dad as much money as we could afford a month to help with expenses while still saving/paying down debt). Sidenote: she has been divorced 3 times now, dad will be her 4th marriage. Red flag. So that's what we do. I find a nice apartment within our price range and we move out. So now it's 3 years later, my dad is ready to marry this woman in 3 weeks, and I get a call out of the blue from him (we rarely speak even though both my brother and I are in the wedding). Turns out one of the houses (he has two) dad rents out in Louisiana (we live in MA) was actually in my mom's name and my brother and I's name, meaning that when she died 5 years ago, we inherited it. This is the first I've heard of it. So his reason for the call was to tell us that he wants to "save us the headache of dealing with a house" and instead set up a trust fund with the money from the house, but in order to do so, we have to sign the house over to him before the wedding, and he wants us to meet with him and a lawyer within the next week or so. I will admit I'm pretty ignorant to stuff of this nature since I've never had to deal with it before, so at first glance I didn't question this and told him okay, that's nice, because I really don't want to deal with a house either. I didn't really think more about it until this morning when I mentioned it to a couple of my coworkers and they were like "whooaa wait a minute, you guys are over 30, why would you need a trust fund when you should just get the money?" They also know the ongoing dramatic saga that has been my relationship with my father over the last 5 years, so they told me it sounded like him and his fiance want the money before the wedding. I don't know what to think. Is there something I'm missing? What questions should I be asking? I really don't want to destroy whatever is left of my relationship with my father if I can avoid it, but I also don't want to throw away the possibility of finally being able to pay down our debt and live a more comfortable life. I've been dreaming about not living paycheck to paycheck for years. Assistant: I agree with an attorney but you should also consider that your mother may have had other assets that were in your name only. Was there a will?

Human: Inherited a house I didn't know about and now dad wants me to sign it over to him so he can "set up a trust fund"...any advice appreciated (x-post from r/personal finance) A little background: I will be 30 years old next week, and I live in an apartment with my 31 year old brother. We both still have a lot of student loan debt and other expenses, but we manage to get by. Five years ago, our mother died of cancer. My dad, who I used to be very close with, suddenly became like a whole different person (as sometimes happens following a tragedy), and a year after mom dies he starts dating this other woman. They move very quickly, planning a trip to Europe within a couple weeks of meeting one another, and within six months he's basically moved in with her. At this point, my brother and I were still living at home trying to save some money while paying off some our college loans (I was 26 and bro was 27), and suddenly dad wants us to move out ASAP so he can sell the house. I found out much later that she was the one pulling the strings and urging him to kick us out, that we were just "freeloaders" (even though we were giving dad as much money as we could afford a month to help with expenses while still saving/paying down debt). Sidenote: she has been divorced 3 times now, dad will be her 4th marriage. Red flag. So that's what we do. I find a nice apartment within our price range and we move out. So now it's 3 years later, my dad is ready to marry this woman in 3 weeks, and I get a call out of the blue from him (we rarely speak even though both my brother and I are in the wedding). Turns out one of the houses (he has two) dad rents out in Louisiana (we live in MA) was actually in my mom's name and my brother and I's name, meaning that when she died 5 years ago, we inherited it. This is the first I've heard of it. So his reason for the call was to tell us that he wants to "save us the headache of dealing with a house" and instead set up a trust fund with the money from the house, but in order to do so, we have to sign the house over to him before the wedding, and he wants us to meet with him and a lawyer within the next week or so. I will admit I'm pretty ignorant to stuff of this nature since I've never had to deal with it before, so at first glance I didn't question this and told him okay, that's nice, because I really don't want to deal with a house either. I didn't really think more about it until this morning when I mentioned it to a couple of my coworkers and they were like "whooaa wait a minute, you guys are over 30, why would you need a trust fund when you should just get the money?" They also know the ongoing dramatic saga that has been my relationship with my father over the last 5 years, so they told me it sounded like him and his fiance want the money before the wedding. I don't know what to think. Is there something I'm missing? What questions should I be asking? I really don't want to destroy whatever is left of my relationship with my father if I can avoid it, but I also don't want to throw away the possibility of finally being able to pay down our debt and live a more comfortable life. I've been dreaming about not living paycheck to paycheck for years. Assistant: You've already gotten good advice in the other thread. Don't sign the house over. Your father has acted like this house was his for five years and taken the income from it, though he knew it wasn't his. On the other hand, he may have paid the property taxes, may have kept up the house, etc. So that's a good thing. You and your brother should probably speak with a lawyer and figure out how to reassert control over the property and decide what to do with it.

Human: My friend who is staying with me has not returned her UHaul.. I have a friend I've known for a few months now who recently got in a situation with her apartment complex (it's a long story, I will not go into it here as it is not relevant to the post) and her and her roommate were evicted. They had 3 days to obtain all of their belongings and move. On the second day of packing, they had found a house, and rented a UHaul. It is currently parked in front of my house. Well, the house fell through. She has been looking every day since, however it is not easy. Houses here go quick, and sometimes the house you're looking at is gone before your application is even processed. I received a call this morning, because she put me down as I think a reference or contact for uhaul, and the trailer was supposed to be returned a few days ago. It's parked in front of my house. Uhaul called me and told me she needed to return it, or I could never rent from uhaul again. I'm not so worried about that, although it probably will be a pain on my ass somewhere in the future, I feel lile that is the least of my concerns. I was under the imoression she had talked to uhaul and was just paying out the ass every day to hold the trailer, and clearly thats not the case. Obviously not returning the uhaul is wrong, the next customer, all that. But is this a crime? Are they going to report it stolen? If so how long does she have? And could I be in trouble because of this? I'm obviously going to try to convince her to get a storage unit or find someone she can store her belongings with, however, I've learned you can't really make grown people do anything, so if she decided to play chicken with uhaul, what's going to happen? Assistant: Your friend needs to go get a storage unit and put an their shit in there for the time being, then return it. They could report it stolen and your friend could get into legal trouble, and they are probably already going to get sued for the extra days of rent. You probably will not be in any criminal trouble unless there's something else we don't know. For example its not hitched to your vehicle is it? Pretty easy to claim you were the one stealing it in that case.

Human: My friend who is staying with me has not returned her UHaul.. I have a friend I've known for a few months now who recently got in a situation with her apartment complex (it's a long story, I will not go into it here as it is not relevant to the post) and her and her roommate were evicted. They had 3 days to obtain all of their belongings and move. On the second day of packing, they had found a house, and rented a UHaul. It is currently parked in front of my house. Well, the house fell through. She has been looking every day since, however it is not easy. Houses here go quick, and sometimes the house you're looking at is gone before your application is even processed. I received a call this morning, because she put me down as I think a reference or contact for uhaul, and the trailer was supposed to be returned a few days ago. It's parked in front of my house. Uhaul called me and told me she needed to return it, or I could never rent from uhaul again. I'm not so worried about that, although it probably will be a pain on my ass somewhere in the future, I feel lile that is the least of my concerns. I was under the imoression she had talked to uhaul and was just paying out the ass every day to hold the trailer, and clearly thats not the case. Obviously not returning the uhaul is wrong, the next customer, all that. But is this a crime? Are they going to report it stolen? If so how long does she have? And could I be in trouble because of this? I'm obviously going to try to convince her to get a storage unit or find someone she can store her belongings with, however, I've learned you can't really make grown people do anything, so if she decided to play chicken with uhaul, what's going to happen? Assistant: Only if she hides it. Just tell uhaul where it is so they can come and get it

Human: Ex husband wants put our 8 year old Non- verbal autistic son in a group home.What do I need to do to get custody again? Assistant: There are too many variables to give a definitive answer. 1) what your current custody order actually states. 2) why you don’t have primary custody to begin with 3) what your Son’s various doctors and therapists have diagnosed and done for him from start to finish. Ie do his past and current medical professional providers concur. 4) what your lawyer says. I mean you need to talk to someone who knows the current laws and precedents say about situations like this.

Human: Ex husband wants put our 8 year old Non- verbal autistic son in a group home.What do I need to do to get custody again? Assistant: Why did you not got the custody at first ?

Human: Home was broken into a month ago, cops just arrested burglar who was caught selling some of our stuff at a pawn shop. Can I press charges to compensate for the items we never got back? Burglar broke into our home while we were at work on 7/8. Two days later he sold our PS4 and Xbox at the local pawn shop. Police caught and arrested him about a week ago. Most of our other expensive items are still missing - flat screen TV, laptop, sound bar, custom gaming PC, and an antique Japanese coin. Can we get a lawyer to sue for damages/stolen goods? We are still missing about $5000 worth of electronics. This is all in the police report. In Oklahoma. Assistant: You don’t press charges — you file a police report, which you’ve already done. You can sue for the value of the items. If this guy has no money, he won’t be able to pay you if you win. Won’t your homeowners’ insurance cover some of the items’ value?

Human: Home was broken into a month ago, cops just arrested burglar who was caught selling some of our stuff at a pawn shop. Can I press charges to compensate for the items we never got back? Burglar broke into our home while we were at work on 7/8. Two days later he sold our PS4 and Xbox at the local pawn shop. Police caught and arrested him about a week ago. Most of our other expensive items are still missing - flat screen TV, laptop, sound bar, custom gaming PC, and an antique Japanese coin. Can we get a lawyer to sue for damages/stolen goods? We are still missing about $5000 worth of electronics. This is all in the police report. In Oklahoma. Assistant: You can contact the District Attorney. They can make restitution a part of sentencing or a plea deal. As others have said - a private suit is most likely a waste of time if this is the typical no-asset scumbag situation. But if the DA says "Hey, you can get time served and probation if you figure out how to pay this money, or you can spend a year or two in prison if not... that sometimes DOES get blood from the proverbial stone.

Human: Incident at my son's high school: Boy broke a classmate's wrist. School and police aren't doing anything because the boy has diplomatic immunity (New York) I didn't even know that family members of diplomats have diplomatic immunity as well. Would the girl whose wrist got broken and her parents have any kind of recourse here or is diplomatic immunity absolute? The boy did not get in trouble at school or arrested by the police and he's still attending classes like normal. Assistant: But the immunity does not extend to school rules. Yes, the kid could be expelled without any consequences for the school.

Human: Incident at my son's high school: Boy broke a classmate's wrist. School and police aren't doing anything because the boy has diplomatic immunity (New York) I didn't even know that family members of diplomats have diplomatic immunity as well. Would the girl whose wrist got broken and her parents have any kind of recourse here or is diplomatic immunity absolute? The boy did not get in trouble at school or arrested by the police and he's still attending classes like normal. Assistant: Does diplomatic immunity actually apply to violent crimes?

Human: [CO] Son's school says they will call the police on 8 year old with Autism My son is 8 years old, in 3rd grade. He has high functioning autism and ADHD. He has a 504 plan. When we first started going to this school, they indicated he didn't need a 504 plan because he was too high functioning. In Kindergarten he eloped from school and ran home. We are a 10 minute walk from school. I work from home and made him go back immediately. This got the school motivated on getting his 504 plan going. We worked with the school and his therapists and things improved. Until this year. This year has gone very poorly. He struggles to tell me why, but he absolutely hates school this year. He's left his classroom several times, and managed to make it all the way home twice. This year his school also has a new principal. We had a 504 review meeting with the school recently to see what accommodations we can make for him and agreed on a plan. (Getting an autism specialist involved, perhaps having an IEP, etc.). The principal is super concerned about him eloping from school, and rightly so. We made some incentive structures for him to stay in class. That improved things for a bit. However today, after he eloped for the 2nd time this year, she told him next time she would call the police. I understand her concern about safety, however he's 8 and has autism and ADHD. If he interacts with the police in a confrontational manner I'm terrified he might struggle with them, disobey, even hit them to escape. What can I do? Do I need a lawyer? If I do, where can I find a good one that does education or special needs or something like that? Should I try to de-escalate with the principal or stop communicating except through an attorney? Should I keep him home from school to prevent further escalations until I have help? Thanks Assistant: Let her call the police. A child with known disabilities keeps walking out unnoticed of the school she runs and she called the cops on him after his parents have been present in the issue. The question that the cops will be raised in how many of the kids also can walk and leave under her and her staff watch?

Human: [CO] Son's school says they will call the police on 8 year old with Autism My son is 8 years old, in 3rd grade. He has high functioning autism and ADHD. He has a 504 plan. When we first started going to this school, they indicated he didn't need a 504 plan because he was too high functioning. In Kindergarten he eloped from school and ran home. We are a 10 minute walk from school. I work from home and made him go back immediately. This got the school motivated on getting his 504 plan going. We worked with the school and his therapists and things improved. Until this year. This year has gone very poorly. He struggles to tell me why, but he absolutely hates school this year. He's left his classroom several times, and managed to make it all the way home twice. This year his school also has a new principal. We had a 504 review meeting with the school recently to see what accommodations we can make for him and agreed on a plan. (Getting an autism specialist involved, perhaps having an IEP, etc.). The principal is super concerned about him eloping from school, and rightly so. We made some incentive structures for him to stay in class. That improved things for a bit. However today, after he eloped for the 2nd time this year, she told him next time she would call the police. I understand her concern about safety, however he's 8 and has autism and ADHD. If he interacts with the police in a confrontational manner I'm terrified he might struggle with them, disobey, even hit them to escape. What can I do? Do I need a lawyer? If I do, where can I find a good one that does education or special needs or something like that? Should I try to de-escalate with the principal or stop communicating except through an attorney? Should I keep him home from school to prevent further escalations until I have help? Thanks Assistant: Please, please search for autism resources in your state. Find an advocate that will go with you to the ARC meeting. An attorney well-versed n educational law would be great, but an advocate can help a lot. Ask - Knowing that part of his disability is running for situations that provoke anxiety, what is your plan to ensure his safety?

Human: Car accident while in another state, insurance wants to total vehicle ('79 Ford pickup) that I intend to keep/fix. If I accept, it may be illegal to drive home. – Tennessee, North Dakota] I have a '79 F-100 that I rebuilt and am quite fond of. It runs and drives beautifully, gets great highway milage, and I (and others) really enjoy it. I drove it from TN to ND in August, and subsequently all around the area for about a month before being crashed-into by an utter nincompoop who ran a stop sign (RIP Honda). [Truck Before and After His insurance took quite a while to come up with an offer ($6k, total loss), and I haven't accepted it yet (can't find anything to compare it to) and I'm somewhat doubting that I should. The damage is just cosmetic really, and I plan on fixing it myself here in North Dakota before going home. The patina is intentional and part of the "look" (which I'll probably never be able to replicate exactly and I may just end up restoring), but the truck overall is in excellent mechanical condition. From what I gather, a totaled vehicle can't be legally registered, driven or insured in Tennessee until it's "rebuilt", which if true would make it practically impossible to drive home legally (which I intended to do weeks ago were it not for the accident). The insurance agent said the only way to avoid a salvage title would be to drop the claim. Any guidance or insight is much appreciated. Assistant: My condolences. I have the exact same truck but in root beer brown and would be devastated if that happened to me. As far as advice, when my trailblazer blew the engine about 1000 miles from home, I just rented a uhaul truck and trailer for a one way trip. It was pretty hairy driving an empty truck with that heavy ass trailer load, but I got home.

Human: Car accident while in another state, insurance wants to total vehicle ('79 Ford pickup) that I intend to keep/fix. If I accept, it may be illegal to drive home. – Tennessee, North Dakota] I have a '79 F-100 that I rebuilt and am quite fond of. It runs and drives beautifully, gets great highway milage, and I (and others) really enjoy it. I drove it from TN to ND in August, and subsequently all around the area for about a month before being crashed-into by an utter nincompoop who ran a stop sign (RIP Honda). [Truck Before and After His insurance took quite a while to come up with an offer ($6k, total loss), and I haven't accepted it yet (can't find anything to compare it to) and I'm somewhat doubting that I should. The damage is just cosmetic really, and I plan on fixing it myself here in North Dakota before going home. The patina is intentional and part of the "look" (which I'll probably never be able to replicate exactly and I may just end up restoring), but the truck overall is in excellent mechanical condition. From what I gather, a totaled vehicle can't be legally registered, driven or insured in Tennessee until it's "rebuilt", which if true would make it practically impossible to drive home legally (which I intended to do weeks ago were it not for the accident). The insurance agent said the only way to avoid a salvage title would be to drop the claim. Any guidance or insight is much appreciated. Assistant: It’s already registered. Just drive it home.

Human: My girlfriend wants to lock her disabled son out of the house on his 18th birthday without finding him housing. However she plans to continue collecting his SSDI. He is illiterate and does not understand SSDI. If I am also living there, could I be liable for this if she is caught? FL Assistant: Basically, yes. >415.111 Criminal penalties.— (1) A person who knowingly and willfully fails to report a case of known or suspected abuse, neglect, or exploitation of a vulnerable adult, or who knowingly and willfully prevents another person from doing so, commits a misdemeanor of the second degree, punishable as provided in s. 775.082 or s. 775.083.

Human: My girlfriend wants to lock her disabled son out of the house on his 18th birthday without finding him housing. However she plans to continue collecting his SSDI. He is illiterate and does not understand SSDI. If I am also living there, could I be liable for this if she is caught? FL Assistant: The better question is wtf are you doing with this monster in the first place? Don't bother answering. You two are made for each other.

Human: (FL) I'm a small scale chicken farmer, I sell at a local farmers market. Some guy wants to sue me because I wouldn't sell to him. I have all the relevant permits and licenses. The chickens are butchered at the farm, I don't sell live chickens. I was set up at my usual spot when a man approached me and asked to buy a chicken. I asked what weight, young or a hen. He asked for a younger bird any weight. I grab one out of the fridge and ask him if it's ok. He says that he wants a live chicken. I told him that I don't sell live chickens. He immediately became angry and demanded that I sell him a live one since he's "seen people coming out of the farmers market with live chickens before". I told him no again. He then tried to bribe me($100) saying he needs one badly and if I want I can drop one off at *near by beach* after the farms market closes. Again no. He said that he needs it due to his religion. The answer was still no. Then he started to accuse me of discriminating against him because of his religion. He threatened to sue me for it. I didn't sell it to him because it's against my rules, the rules of the farmers market and I'm pretty sure against the law. Could I be sued for this? Would a judge side with him? Assistant: If you had the sale all ready to go through, then said "no" once you found out his religion, then maybe it could support a discrimination suit. If you never sell live chickens to anyone, the fact that this guy got dealt with according to policy isn't going to lead to a successful lawsuit.

Human: (FL) I'm a small scale chicken farmer, I sell at a local farmers market. Some guy wants to sue me because I wouldn't sell to him. I have all the relevant permits and licenses. The chickens are butchered at the farm, I don't sell live chickens. I was set up at my usual spot when a man approached me and asked to buy a chicken. I asked what weight, young or a hen. He asked for a younger bird any weight. I grab one out of the fridge and ask him if it's ok. He says that he wants a live chicken. I told him that I don't sell live chickens. He immediately became angry and demanded that I sell him a live one since he's "seen people coming out of the farmers market with live chickens before". I told him no again. He then tried to bribe me($100) saying he needs one badly and if I want I can drop one off at *near by beach* after the farms market closes. Again no. He said that he needs it due to his religion. The answer was still no. Then he started to accuse me of discriminating against him because of his religion. He threatened to sue me for it. I didn't sell it to him because it's against my rules, the rules of the farmers market and I'm pretty sure against the law. Could I be sued for this? Would a judge side with him? Assistant: The answer to "can I be sued?" is always yes. But, provided you don't do something stupid like miss the court date or ignore the suit, he can't win.

Human: (FL) I'm an author, a woman wants to sue me because my book gave her daughter nightmares. A woman wants to sue me for emotional distress because my book gave her daughter nightmares. It's a horror novel and is kept in the scary stories/horror section. I guess because it has vampires she was expecting a *Twilight* type story. The book is only popular locally so there aren't many online reviews for it. Apparently her teenage daughter has lost sleep and had trouble with school because of that and refuses to sleep in her own room without a light on because of my book. Can she sue me for her daughters emotional whatever because she bought her the book without reading the back cover? Assistant: Vampires are undead bloodsuckers, not sparkly boyfriends. She should sue Stephanie Meyer for lying to everyone.

Human: (FL) I'm an author, a woman wants to sue me because my book gave her daughter nightmares. A woman wants to sue me for emotional distress because my book gave her daughter nightmares. It's a horror novel and is kept in the scary stories/horror section. I guess because it has vampires she was expecting a *Twilight* type story. The book is only popular locally so there aren't many online reviews for it. Apparently her teenage daughter has lost sleep and had trouble with school because of that and refuses to sleep in her own room without a light on because of my book. Can she sue me for her daughters emotional whatever because she bought her the book without reading the back cover? Assistant: Has she *actually filed a lawsuit* or is she *just threatening to sue*? People threaten to sue all the time. There's nothing you can do until she actually sues. Do not respond to any of her emails, calls, texts, letters, whatever until you either get something from a lawyer or get sued. Once either of those two things happen, THEN it's time to talk to a lawyer. In the unlikely case that she DOES sue you, I doubt very much her case will go anywhere, but it would be an outstanding marketing boom for you!

Human: [FL] My classmates parents want to sue me because of what happened in debate class. It's a public high school and we're in 11th grade. I'll refer to my classmate as John. At my school instead of having debate club they made it into an elective class. There's about 30 of us in class. Each class certain people are picked to debate each other on a topic. We're given the topic a week in advance to prepare. My topic this week was self driving cars and wether or not they would be beneficial. My position was against and Johns was for. At the end of class everyone voted and I won. That was Thursday. On Friday Johns mom came up to me and told me that they were going to sue me for emotional distress. Apparently since my argument focused mostly on poverty and the growing divide between the upper class and middle/working class it disturbed John. This is apparently what caused him to have some sort of crisis on Thursday night. He supposedly even had a panic attack. So can they sue me and what do I do? Assistant: Your debate was so good it emotionally devastated a high school junior? Damn son.

Human: [FL] My classmates parents want to sue me because of what happened in debate class. It's a public high school and we're in 11th grade. I'll refer to my classmate as John. At my school instead of having debate club they made it into an elective class. There's about 30 of us in class. Each class certain people are picked to debate each other on a topic. We're given the topic a week in advance to prepare. My topic this week was self driving cars and wether or not they would be beneficial. My position was against and Johns was for. At the end of class everyone voted and I won. That was Thursday. On Friday Johns mom came up to me and told me that they were going to sue me for emotional distress. Apparently since my argument focused mostly on poverty and the growing divide between the upper class and middle/working class it disturbed John. This is apparently what caused him to have some sort of crisis on Thursday night. He supposedly even had a panic attack. So can they sue me and what do I do? Assistant: They won't sue you. Unless we are missing some facts, no lawyer is going to take this case because it is arguably sanctionable to bring it, and it has low chance of success as well as a very high cost (experts, etc.) Also, to have an actionable emotional distress claim you need an actual underlying injury, usually a physical one. It's not a standalone claim. Just ignore it.

Human: Can my mom sue me to get the house back? So last year my mom sold me her house to me because she was about to lose it to foreclosure. She went through bankruptcy twice and already lost another house. I bought so we wont lose it for the amount left on the mortgage. Now she accused me of stealing from her 50,000 dollars threatened to go to a lawyer and wants to kick me out. What can i do to protect myself because she is very unstable and irresponsible with her finances Assistant: This seems like an empty threat. She is probably in another financial bind and she thinks threatening you will get you to give her some money. What money does she have to pay a lawyer to sue you? If she sues you without a lawyer, she’s going to have a really hard time figuring out what to do. You might actually be able to evict her.

Human: Can my mom sue me to get the house back? So last year my mom sold me her house to me because she was about to lose it to foreclosure. She went through bankruptcy twice and already lost another house. I bought so we wont lose it for the amount left on the mortgage. Now she accused me of stealing from her 50,000 dollars threatened to go to a lawyer and wants to kick me out. What can i do to protect myself because she is very unstable and irresponsible with her finances Assistant: What was the appraised value of the property at the time of the transaction?

Human: My mom claimed me as dependant and is taking the stimulus check. I'm 21 and she has not been monetarily supporting me in any way and she didnt have permission. Is there anything I can do about it? My crackhead mother has been stealing money from me for years and I'm ready to strike her for it. Is that a thing I can do on this case? Edit: I live in the state of Ohio Assistant: Paper file your taxes claiming yourself. They may send a letter to CHM asking her to prove that you are her dependent. She shouldn't be able to prove that, and you'll get your stimulus. This may take three or four years though, IRS is overwhelmed.

Human: My mom claimed me as dependant and is taking the stimulus check. I'm 21 and she has not been monetarily supporting me in any way and she didnt have permission. Is there anything I can do about it? My crackhead mother has been stealing money from me for years and I'm ready to strike her for it. Is that a thing I can do on this case? Edit: I live in the state of Ohio Assistant: Have you been filing your taxes as independent?

Human: I'm 16 and pregnant and about to give birth in 3 weeks. My mom says she controls who goes into the delivery room. I told her that it's my right to choose who I want in there. Is she right about being able to control who goes in there? (California) Sorry for formatting I'm on mobile. So I'm about to be due in 3 weeks and I want specific family members to be able to see me when I want and how long it should be because I know it's going to be really stressful. I tried to tell my mom but she said that I have no rights in who I say goes in or not and that since she's the parent that she decides who sees me and who doesn't. I'm just really worried about that because she will exclude almost all of my dad's side of the family (they've been separated and pretty much hate each other) even though they've helped out when my mom kicked me out of the house for a little over a month. I even told her that I don't want her there and I would rather be alone in the room if that makes everyone happy but she still says that I have no rights. I know it's really stupid but I don't want to stress out anymore than I already am and I just want to know ahead of time so that I can tell my doctor and the hospital before hand but I haven't been able to call them about this because I don't want to be told that "she's my mother do what she says" you know? Assistant: I am not a lawyer, but I am a pediatrician. In most states (and including California), pregnant minors are emancipated for medical care of the pregnancy. That means that **only you** and not your mother have the legal right to consent and control your medical care related to the pregnancy. See here

Human: I'm 16 and pregnant and about to give birth in 3 weeks. My mom says she controls who goes into the delivery room. I told her that it's my right to choose who I want in there. Is she right about being able to control who goes in there? (California) Sorry for formatting I'm on mobile. So I'm about to be due in 3 weeks and I want specific family members to be able to see me when I want and how long it should be because I know it's going to be really stressful. I tried to tell my mom but she said that I have no rights in who I say goes in or not and that since she's the parent that she decides who sees me and who doesn't. I'm just really worried about that because she will exclude almost all of my dad's side of the family (they've been separated and pretty much hate each other) even though they've helped out when my mom kicked me out of the house for a little over a month. I even told her that I don't want her there and I would rather be alone in the room if that makes everyone happy but she still says that I have no rights. I know it's really stupid but I don't want to stress out anymore than I already am and I just want to know ahead of time so that I can tell my doctor and the hospital before hand but I haven't been able to call them about this because I don't want to be told that "she's my mother do what she says" you know? Assistant: Pull your doctor aside and explain to them. Also talk to your nurses. You have control here, your mom has nothing.

Human: My former landlord just contacted me saying that he did found an old rent check that he allowed to go stale. He was unable to deposit it because it was written over 2 years ago. He wants me to write him another check. Am I required to do so? (Oregon, USA) I lived in that house for about 2 years on a month to month basis. I paid my rent monthly in the form a personal check made out to my landlord. He usually deposited them within one month, however he somehow forgot or neglected to deposit a check from 2015, and just noticed it this week. I never noticed that he didn't deposit the check. My former landlord sent me a photo of the check, so I have proof that I wrote it. He informed me that the bank would not honor the check because of its age, and that he'd like me to write another. I checked my bank statements, and I know that the check was not deposited. I would guess that there's some law saying what my obligation is here, but I couldn't find it. All I found was that banks generally don't honor checks that are over 6 months old, however I could not find anything regarding whether or not I still legally owe him money. I feel that I upheld my end of the deal by writing the check and it's his fault that he didn't deposit it. Am I required to write another check? Can someone hold onto a check indefinitely to deposit whenever they wish, or does the debt "expire" after some time? Thanks for your help. Assistant: Legally, as abortion_layaway has stated, you probably are in the clear. However, if your relationship was good and he didn't screw you over with regard to security deposit and the like, it would be morally good to pay him. I would ask for the original check back in return as he could probably deposit in an ATM and it would go through without ever being noticed by a human if your account is still open. If he's local, perhaps do the exchange in person.

Human: My former landlord just contacted me saying that he did found an old rent check that he allowed to go stale. He was unable to deposit it because it was written over 2 years ago. He wants me to write him another check. Am I required to do so? (Oregon, USA) I lived in that house for about 2 years on a month to month basis. I paid my rent monthly in the form a personal check made out to my landlord. He usually deposited them within one month, however he somehow forgot or neglected to deposit a check from 2015, and just noticed it this week. I never noticed that he didn't deposit the check. My former landlord sent me a photo of the check, so I have proof that I wrote it. He informed me that the bank would not honor the check because of its age, and that he'd like me to write another. I checked my bank statements, and I know that the check was not deposited. I would guess that there's some law saying what my obligation is here, but I couldn't find it. All I found was that banks generally don't honor checks that are over 6 months old, however I could not find anything regarding whether or not I still legally owe him money. I feel that I upheld my end of the deal by writing the check and it's his fault that he didn't deposit it. Am I required to write another check? Can someone hold onto a check indefinitely to deposit whenever they wish, or does the debt "expire" after some time? Thanks for your help. Assistant: Have him send you the old cheque back and write him a new one if you left on good terms.

Human: (MO)Served with a restraining order for my sister and her children. I haven’t seen/spoken with her for months: She claims my mothers residence is hers and now I can’t go to my elderly mothers house anymore. She doesn’t live there. This is the same sister who used technology and key logging software to stalk; harass and terrorize myself and my infant daughter almost one year ago now. I took my daughter on vacation and when we left for Disney World, everything was fine we were bffs again whatever. I made the mistake of trusting her to check on my home while we were away and was surprised to get a call from my landlord asking why there is a family of six suddenly living in my home and using my space, clothing, everything down to the shampoo she watered down so I wouldn’t notice, please. Apparently, she was seeing a new boyfriend and pretending that she lived in my home and acted like it was her own. I caught on when I noticed the family photos were turned around and some other smaller nuisances that you notice as a home owner. So, suddenly my sister despises me for some bogus reason so she doesn’t look like a fraud to her latest victim and I’m the scapegoat, just like back in childhood. My sister filed a restraining order for herself and her three children who have had to come spend time with me in secret on their dads weeks due to this sudden change of heart. She is making me out to be a stalker and a drug addict all of the things that SHE IS because she knows I could get her for breaking and entering or something like that if I really wanted to, I would assume. She put my mothers address down as hers and now I can’t go anywhere near my moms house. All of this was done without me ever seeing or talking to my sister. I haven’t had contact with her for months for obvious reasons. There’s a court date set and god only knows what kind of crazy narcissistic bs she’s gonna pull. I stick to the truth and the tapes of her using my property as her own. Is there anything else I should do/be aware of? Assistant: Does she receive aid (housing allowance,money,medical) from the State for her and the children? If she does, whch address does she use on that paperwork, Her house or your Mom's house? If she is using her address on the aid file you could use it to show she does not live at your Mom's house.

Human: (MO)Served with a restraining order for my sister and her children. I haven’t seen/spoken with her for months: She claims my mothers residence is hers and now I can’t go to my elderly mothers house anymore. She doesn’t live there. This is the same sister who used technology and key logging software to stalk; harass and terrorize myself and my infant daughter almost one year ago now. I took my daughter on vacation and when we left for Disney World, everything was fine we were bffs again whatever. I made the mistake of trusting her to check on my home while we were away and was surprised to get a call from my landlord asking why there is a family of six suddenly living in my home and using my space, clothing, everything down to the shampoo she watered down so I wouldn’t notice, please. Apparently, she was seeing a new boyfriend and pretending that she lived in my home and acted like it was her own. I caught on when I noticed the family photos were turned around and some other smaller nuisances that you notice as a home owner. So, suddenly my sister despises me for some bogus reason so she doesn’t look like a fraud to her latest victim and I’m the scapegoat, just like back in childhood. My sister filed a restraining order for herself and her three children who have had to come spend time with me in secret on their dads weeks due to this sudden change of heart. She is making me out to be a stalker and a drug addict all of the things that SHE IS because she knows I could get her for breaking and entering or something like that if I really wanted to, I would assume. She put my mothers address down as hers and now I can’t go anywhere near my moms house. All of this was done without me ever seeing or talking to my sister. I haven’t had contact with her for months for obvious reasons. There’s a court date set and god only knows what kind of crazy narcissistic bs she’s gonna pull. I stick to the truth and the tapes of her using my property as her own. Is there anything else I should do/be aware of? Assistant: Change your locks. You know she made herself a key. Also check your credit. I would not put anything past this woman.

Human: Neighbor keeps stealing power for electric car. My neighbor and I have a shared driveway. I own my house but the neighboring house is a rental. Last year, I bought an electric car, and paid to have a charger installed on my side of the driveway. When I installed it, the previous tenants asked if they could use it on two occasions for guests who had electric cars, and I agreed that they could. Well, the new tenants apparently feel that they're welcome to use it whenever they like to charge their own car. They've actually unplugged my car in order to plug in theirs on a couple of occasions. Of course, this uses my power, but also prevents me from charging my own car, which has caused problems. I went over and asked them to stop using my power, and they were extremely rude and said that it was included in their lease, and that their landlord told them it was included in the property. Talking to them has been completely useless. In fact, when I unplugged their car and plugged in my own, they came over and banged on the door, threatening to sue me. I haven't been able to get in touch with their landlord. The third or fourth time I found them charging their car on my plug, I called the police, who told me that this was a civil matter, and wouldn't intervene. What can I do, at this point, to stop them from using my charger? This is in Indiana. Assistant: I’d be most concerned that the tenant thinks the use of your charger is included in their lease.

Human: Neighbor keeps stealing power for electric car. My neighbor and I have a shared driveway. I own my house but the neighboring house is a rental. Last year, I bought an electric car, and paid to have a charger installed on my side of the driveway. When I installed it, the previous tenants asked if they could use it on two occasions for guests who had electric cars, and I agreed that they could. Well, the new tenants apparently feel that they're welcome to use it whenever they like to charge their own car. They've actually unplugged my car in order to plug in theirs on a couple of occasions. Of course, this uses my power, but also prevents me from charging my own car, which has caused problems. I went over and asked them to stop using my power, and they were extremely rude and said that it was included in their lease, and that their landlord told them it was included in the property. Talking to them has been completely useless. In fact, when I unplugged their car and plugged in my own, they came over and banged on the door, threatening to sue me. I haven't been able to get in touch with their landlord. The third or fourth time I found them charging their car on my plug, I called the police, who told me that this was a civil matter, and wouldn't intervene. What can I do, at this point, to stop them from using my charger? This is in Indiana. Assistant: Not a lawyer Everybody is suggesting how to secure your plug, which is good, but my top priority would be finding their landlord. Can’t suggest how is best for you but I’d just call all the local letting agents, check council/land registry records, and google the address in some form to find listings for starters. Your neighbours sound like fucking nutters so better someone else tells them to stop

Human: (FL) Psychotic neighbor has been harassing and threatening us on and off for 2 years and his father wont do anything about it. So for some background I live in a 2 bedroom apartment on the 2nd story with my mom and little brother. We own our space but the unit next to us is a rental that has had multiple families move in and out over the past 10 years. 2 years ago a middle age man and his son in his late 20's moved in. About a month after their initial move in I wake up at 2am to the son banging on our door, saying that "I know it's you talking outside my window, watch you back I'm gonna fucking kill you". After a call to the police(who told me they really couldn't do anything because neither him nor his father would answer after we called) we learned from the father that his son had suffered some sort of brain injury and showed signs of psychosis and that he was on medication for it, but he wont take it and his father wont force him to. From here on out for the next two years it's become a cycle of 2 months of silence, 2 weeks of harrassment before things come to a head and we have to call the cops, and nothing gets done. this week however after a heated confrontation he pushed my shoulders, took a kick at my legs, and threatened to rape my mother. Again another call to the cops and nothing, and I'm at my wits end. I have an anxiety disorder and I'm tired of being nervous to go outside MY OWN FUCKING HOUSE, and I feel like if this keeps going on, someone is going to get VERY hurt, So what do I do? PS: Some more info on my neighbor, he has an active case for aggravated stalking against another neighbor of ours that he is currently out on bail for, and before living in the unit he has spent two years in jail for kidnapping/assault with deadly weapon/ sexual assault. Also obviously I'm not a lawyer but is his father allowed to leave his son unattended for 8 hrs at a time? hes a night uber driver and when he leaves his son starts stalking around the neighborhood Assistant: Do you know who the owner of the rental is? I bet they would like to know what is going on and that they are harassing others.

Human: (FL) Psychotic neighbor has been harassing and threatening us on and off for 2 years and his father wont do anything about it. So for some background I live in a 2 bedroom apartment on the 2nd story with my mom and little brother. We own our space but the unit next to us is a rental that has had multiple families move in and out over the past 10 years. 2 years ago a middle age man and his son in his late 20's moved in. About a month after their initial move in I wake up at 2am to the son banging on our door, saying that "I know it's you talking outside my window, watch you back I'm gonna fucking kill you". After a call to the police(who told me they really couldn't do anything because neither him nor his father would answer after we called) we learned from the father that his son had suffered some sort of brain injury and showed signs of psychosis and that he was on medication for it, but he wont take it and his father wont force him to. From here on out for the next two years it's become a cycle of 2 months of silence, 2 weeks of harrassment before things come to a head and we have to call the cops, and nothing gets done. this week however after a heated confrontation he pushed my shoulders, took a kick at my legs, and threatened to rape my mother. Again another call to the cops and nothing, and I'm at my wits end. I have an anxiety disorder and I'm tired of being nervous to go outside MY OWN FUCKING HOUSE, and I feel like if this keeps going on, someone is going to get VERY hurt, So what do I do? PS: Some more info on my neighbor, he has an active case for aggravated stalking against another neighbor of ours that he is currently out on bail for, and before living in the unit he has spent two years in jail for kidnapping/assault with deadly weapon/ sexual assault. Also obviously I'm not a lawyer but is his father allowed to leave his son unattended for 8 hrs at a time? hes a night uber driver and when he leaves his son starts stalking around the neighborhood Assistant: You're kind of leaning on the wrong side of this. Dad can do whatever they want. The cops are the ones failing. "they don't answer the call" isn't true, they can absolutely do more. Call and make sure to emphasize you want a protective order. If at first you're getting the run around, go in and report in person. Go up the chain. Keep a log of incidents and details. Time, date, what happened. If you can record sound or video, do it.

Human: My GF made me write a signed document stating that if I cheat on her again, I have to send her $10k. Will this actually hold any power over me? The location is Charlotte, North Carolina. It's not that I will ever cheat on her, it's just scary giving rise to the possibility of this being held over me, and it wasn't even written in there that it becomes void if we break up. She was recording me write it but didn't get me signing it on camera. I'm mainly looking for peace of mind that it can't actually be used against me and it was honestly just supposed to be kind of funny for us and a way to help us move on, but the more I think about it, the more its kinda freakin me out. Heres a link to a photo of it. https://imgur.com/a/BDri8rz Any help is appreciated! Assistant: >and it wasn't even written in there that it becomes void if we break up If you break up with her, you can't be cheating on her. But it only specifies women, so you can engage with men as much as you want, so go wild! As others have mentioned, I don't think this would hold up and you two really should just move on from one another.

Human: My GF made me write a signed document stating that if I cheat on her again, I have to send her $10k. Will this actually hold any power over me? The location is Charlotte, North Carolina. It's not that I will ever cheat on her, it's just scary giving rise to the possibility of this being held over me, and it wasn't even written in there that it becomes void if we break up. She was recording me write it but didn't get me signing it on camera. I'm mainly looking for peace of mind that it can't actually be used against me and it was honestly just supposed to be kind of funny for us and a way to help us move on, but the more I think about it, the more its kinda freakin me out. Heres a link to a photo of it. https://imgur.com/a/BDri8rz Any help is appreciated! Assistant: No.

Human: My mother and I are being sued over a car accident that I don’t recall happening. NY 2 days ago, a process server showed up at my house and served me and my mother court documents for a personal injury lawsuit against us. A man is alleging I rear-ended him on Dec 18, 2018, & caused him so much injury that he has lasting, debilitating, permanent injuries. At that time period I was driving a Subaru that was registered & insured to my mother. However: #1 I have zero recollection of being involved in a car accident at all whatsoever on the date alleged. #2 there was never a claim put into my mothers car insurance for any accident. #3 my car had no front end damage (I found a pic from a few months later & the front end is totally intact). #4 there is no accident report or police report for that day/time under my moms cars’ VIN #. Now if I rear-ended someone so badly that they’re still badly injured 3 years later, I’m SURE the police would have came , an accident report would have been taken, & my mothers car insurance would be involved. Moreover, if rear-ended someone THAT badly, my mothers Subaru would have had extensive front-end damage & would have had to be fixed at a body shop through her car insurance. My entire extended family (including my 13 year old daughter) do not remember me being involved in an accident or Moms Subaru having any front-end damage & they also do not recall that Subaru getting any body work done at any shop. I no longer have the car, it was totaled in an accident about 6 months later. (Which is unrelated but I want to add this fact to show that the Subaru hasnt had that car insurance for about 2 & 1/2 years now.) What are my & Moms' options? Should I hire a private investigator to do surveillance on the man suing us, to see if this man is as injured as he claims? Should my mother contact the car insurance she had on the Subaru at the time? I’m sure we need to contact a lawyer. But my biggest concern is, how can I prove in court that i didn't hit this dude ??? Assistant: See if you have any bank statements, debit card purchases, credit card purchases from that date and time that can put you in a different location.

Human: My mother and I are being sued over a car accident that I don’t recall happening. NY 2 days ago, a process server showed up at my house and served me and my mother court documents for a personal injury lawsuit against us. A man is alleging I rear-ended him on Dec 18, 2018, & caused him so much injury that he has lasting, debilitating, permanent injuries. At that time period I was driving a Subaru that was registered & insured to my mother. However: #1 I have zero recollection of being involved in a car accident at all whatsoever on the date alleged. #2 there was never a claim put into my mothers car insurance for any accident. #3 my car had no front end damage (I found a pic from a few months later & the front end is totally intact). #4 there is no accident report or police report for that day/time under my moms cars’ VIN #. Now if I rear-ended someone so badly that they’re still badly injured 3 years later, I’m SURE the police would have came , an accident report would have been taken, & my mothers car insurance would be involved. Moreover, if rear-ended someone THAT badly, my mothers Subaru would have had extensive front-end damage & would have had to be fixed at a body shop through her car insurance. My entire extended family (including my 13 year old daughter) do not remember me being involved in an accident or Moms Subaru having any front-end damage & they also do not recall that Subaru getting any body work done at any shop. I no longer have the car, it was totaled in an accident about 6 months later. (Which is unrelated but I want to add this fact to show that the Subaru hasnt had that car insurance for about 2 & 1/2 years now.) What are my & Moms' options? Should I hire a private investigator to do surveillance on the man suing us, to see if this man is as injured as he claims? Should my mother contact the car insurance she had on the Subaru at the time? I’m sure we need to contact a lawyer. But my biggest concern is, how can I prove in court that i didn't hit this dude ??? Assistant: You are correct about needing to contact a lawyer. I am not your lawyer, and this is not legal advice. The other commenter is correct, the burden will be on this person to prove that this accident even happened, much less that you were at fault. If his lawsuit doesn’t seem like complete BS (somehow), then your lawyer will certainly look to verify his injuries/disabilities one way or another, probably through medical records and/or examination.

Human: I threw away my coworker's rotten food that was stored in the shared fridge, but now I'm being accused of theft and destruction of property. This the weirdest timeline. We have a shared fridge at work. Some people can't seem to leave it clean, so the other day I decided to clean it and throw away what was rotting in it. There were containers with moldy and disgusting food that have been there for weeks, yogurt that expired months ago and other disgusting old stuff all belonging to the same person. I asked them several times to throw it away but they didn't. In the end I threw it all away because of the risk of food poisoning for everyone. Now my coworker is upset I did this because they say some of it might still have been good (it wasn't). They're accusing me of theft and want to report me to the police and HR for stealing and destroying their property. Could destroying this inedible food really be considered theft and/or destruction of property? I know this sounds really dumb but I'd like to be sure. Assistant: The value of this in small claims court is less than the filing fee in most states. Highly unlikely and the judge would laugh. ​ The police would be highly unlikely to take this seriously and would likely laugh. ​ Your HR may take it seriously, in which case I would dust off the ole' resume. But based on the fridge, this doesn't sound like a well run business. ​ TL;DR: Your exposure on this is really low.

Human: I threw away my coworker's rotten food that was stored in the shared fridge, but now I'm being accused of theft and destruction of property. This the weirdest timeline. We have a shared fridge at work. Some people can't seem to leave it clean, so the other day I decided to clean it and throw away what was rotting in it. There were containers with moldy and disgusting food that have been there for weeks, yogurt that expired months ago and other disgusting old stuff all belonging to the same person. I asked them several times to throw it away but they didn't. In the end I threw it all away because of the risk of food poisoning for everyone. Now my coworker is upset I did this because they say some of it might still have been good (it wasn't). They're accusing me of theft and want to report me to the police and HR for stealing and destroying their property. Could destroying this inedible food really be considered theft and/or destruction of property? I know this sounds really dumb but I'd like to be sure. Assistant: You don't state your position in the company but for future reference you should ask your HR or office manager to handle the fridge. Or at least a manager. You may be disciplined by your company for doing it yourself and the coworker can indeed report you to HR. Now, their police report is not as likely to gain any traction...

Human: I hit an unleashed and got sued in a small claim court. What are my options? This happened back in late October. The owner had an unleashed dog that ran into my car. I was driving at 20mph. The incident was recorded on dashcam as well. The owner was basically blaming me and cussing me out when I stopped and got out of the car to check up on her dog. Luckily, the dog ended up with a broken leg and not in a life-threatened situation. They then requested me to pay for their medical bills which costs 6k. I told them that I'm not liable for their expenses since their dog technically ran into my car. They pushed it further and threatened to bring this to court. I have been reading other posts with similar situation. It seems that others agreed the owner is at fault here. However, I received a letter that they are suing me in a small claim court claiming that I'm responsible for their medical expenses. This is my first time getting sued. Reddit, please ease my mind. Am I legally responsible for this person dog's bills? ​ **TLDR:** Unleashed dog ran into my and and the owner is bring me to court. My hearing is next month. I got a video of the unleashed dog running into my car. Assistant: You car insurance may be your best option.

Human: I hit an unleashed and got sued in a small claim court. What are my options? This happened back in late October. The owner had an unleashed dog that ran into my car. I was driving at 20mph. The incident was recorded on dashcam as well. The owner was basically blaming me and cussing me out when I stopped and got out of the car to check up on her dog. Luckily, the dog ended up with a broken leg and not in a life-threatened situation. They then requested me to pay for their medical bills which costs 6k. I told them that I'm not liable for their expenses since their dog technically ran into my car. They pushed it further and threatened to bring this to court. I have been reading other posts with similar situation. It seems that others agreed the owner is at fault here. However, I received a letter that they are suing me in a small claim court claiming that I'm responsible for their medical expenses. This is my first time getting sued. Reddit, please ease my mind. Am I legally responsible for this person dog's bills? ​ **TLDR:** Unleashed dog ran into my and and the owner is bring me to court. My hearing is next month. I got a video of the unleashed dog running into my car. Assistant: Not only are you not liable for any damages to them, but they are actually liable for any damages to you or your car (where there any?) It's just a matter of whether you want your insurance to handle it or to handle it yourself.

Human: (Interstate) My brother gutted our mom's Estate Account via online transfer after the court had transferred the estate executorship away from him. Is this criminal embezzlement? I'm a little riled up about this and hope you all will bear with me if some editorializing makes it's way in... I'll try to keep it bare bones... My mother (in VT) passed away a few years ago and set my brother (based in CA) as the executor of her Estate which was worth a few hundred grand plus some other assets that required liquidating like stocks and jewelry. After two years of not filing needed paperwork with the Probate Court for various reasons, my brother agreed to transfer the executorship to me (based in CO) so I could close the Estate. After the Executorship transfer I tried ineffectually for a year to obtain all of the account, property, and tax documents I needed from my brother- which I take partial responsibility for, as I was at that point giving him every benefit of the doubt and making my requests verbally by phone and then repeatedly accepted the myriad reasons he was never able to come through. After almost exactly a year, at a follow up hearing by phone, the Probate judge explicitly told him to send me the info I needed. That same day my brother texted the account info for the Estate Account he'd set up and I went in to take it over later that week. Upon accessing the account I immediately learned two things had happened over the prior years: - My brother had utterly drained the Estate account (my mom's life savings plus her freshly sold property), direct depositing 1-3K to what I assume was his personal account every week or two via online transfer. - He continued doing so even after the transfer of Executorship, logging into the Estate Account and initiating further transfers at a noticeably accelerated pace and bringing the account balance to less than a dollar 3 months prior to that hearing and sending me the account info. Honestly, the whole thing threw me into a real depressed tailspin. I've now spent the last year agonizing over what to do next and feeling as though it's my family duty to protect my brother from the consequences of his actions though it means eating them myself. However during a recent (recorded) conversation with him, he was very clear in saying that he consciously and malevolently put me in this position as vengeance for years-old resentments he's held over an argument with my wife. He further stated that he turned the executorship over to me to begin with because I "couldn't do it" (which I believe means bring myself to document with the probate court his misuse of his position). At this point I'm done. I'm done waiting and stalling the Probate court and I'm done trying to rationalize his actions into my problem to fix. Obviously he have our issues but it never occurred to me that his apparent lack of integrity around money was consciously malicious. If he wants to argue or even fight with me he can always do so- he's my brother for chrissake- but to use my inheritance and my mom's last wishes as a weapon to attack me with is just too much. I'm now looking to bring whatever consequences he's earned home to roost and close the Estate along with this embarrassing chapter in our family's history. I'm hoping, but not expecting, that when the dust has settled he may even be willing to give being brothers another go. I'm fairly confident that the way he handled the money in the account while he was Executor is civilly actionable. However, my big questions is this: By accessing the Estate Account and transferring tens of thousands from it into his private account *after* stepping down as Executor/Administrator, did he also cross the line into *criminally* actionable? If so, what crime would this be considered? Assistant: >I've now spent the last year agonizing over what to do next and feeling as though it's my family duty to protect my brother from the consequences of his actions though it means eating them myself. It is 100% not your "family duty" to keep your felonious brother out of trouble for crimes he committed completely under his own free will. Hell, if anything you'd better throw him under the bus in case the scrutiny comes pointing to YOU.

Human: (Interstate) My brother gutted our mom's Estate Account via online transfer after the court had transferred the estate executorship away from him. Is this criminal embezzlement? I'm a little riled up about this and hope you all will bear with me if some editorializing makes it's way in... I'll try to keep it bare bones... My mother (in VT) passed away a few years ago and set my brother (based in CA) as the executor of her Estate which was worth a few hundred grand plus some other assets that required liquidating like stocks and jewelry. After two years of not filing needed paperwork with the Probate Court for various reasons, my brother agreed to transfer the executorship to me (based in CO) so I could close the Estate. After the Executorship transfer I tried ineffectually for a year to obtain all of the account, property, and tax documents I needed from my brother- which I take partial responsibility for, as I was at that point giving him every benefit of the doubt and making my requests verbally by phone and then repeatedly accepted the myriad reasons he was never able to come through. After almost exactly a year, at a follow up hearing by phone, the Probate judge explicitly told him to send me the info I needed. That same day my brother texted the account info for the Estate Account he'd set up and I went in to take it over later that week. Upon accessing the account I immediately learned two things had happened over the prior years: - My brother had utterly drained the Estate account (my mom's life savings plus her freshly sold property), direct depositing 1-3K to what I assume was his personal account every week or two via online transfer. - He continued doing so even after the transfer of Executorship, logging into the Estate Account and initiating further transfers at a noticeably accelerated pace and bringing the account balance to less than a dollar 3 months prior to that hearing and sending me the account info. Honestly, the whole thing threw me into a real depressed tailspin. I've now spent the last year agonizing over what to do next and feeling as though it's my family duty to protect my brother from the consequences of his actions though it means eating them myself. However during a recent (recorded) conversation with him, he was very clear in saying that he consciously and malevolently put me in this position as vengeance for years-old resentments he's held over an argument with my wife. He further stated that he turned the executorship over to me to begin with because I "couldn't do it" (which I believe means bring myself to document with the probate court his misuse of his position). At this point I'm done. I'm done waiting and stalling the Probate court and I'm done trying to rationalize his actions into my problem to fix. Obviously he have our issues but it never occurred to me that his apparent lack of integrity around money was consciously malicious. If he wants to argue or even fight with me he can always do so- he's my brother for chrissake- but to use my inheritance and my mom's last wishes as a weapon to attack me with is just too much. I'm now looking to bring whatever consequences he's earned home to roost and close the Estate along with this embarrassing chapter in our family's history. I'm hoping, but not expecting, that when the dust has settled he may even be willing to give being brothers another go. I'm fairly confident that the way he handled the money in the account while he was Executor is civilly actionable. However, my big questions is this: By accessing the Estate Account and transferring tens of thousands from it into his private account *after* stepping down as Executor/Administrator, did he also cross the line into *criminally* actionable? If so, what crime would this be considered? Assistant: Based on a quick glance, it is *fairly* likely that your brother has committed what could potentially be a federal crime but is certainly a crime in Vermont, which I would guess would be the jurisdiction of the estate considering your mother passed there.

Human: (Denmark) A TikTok user is stealing my content and going viral, which could have consequences for my future career Hi! I spent a lot of time making these videos a few years back, where I took public access TV and edited it to death, to make it crazy, awkward and surreal. I never put ads on it or anything, because I used other peoples material but according to my management, what I did falls under both “fair use” and “remix”, because the original content is distorted to such a degree, that it became something entirely new. If you know Vic Berger, it’s kinda like that, but even more far out and specifically targeted for a danish audience. Anyway, the content never went super viral, but had a moderate cult following, which eventually led to me getting work with TV - so for me, it turned out to be super important, and helped me build my career. Lately, my stuff has started to go viral on TikTok though, as lots of people are uploading various clips from my channel, and presenting it as their own stuff. I have no problem with this, as long as they credit me, and in most cases it’s as simple as me asking them to do so, and everything is good. But now there is this one guy, who has become viral almost solely with content I made, and who refuses to credit me and instead insults me, and uses his following to make it look like I had nothing to do with the content. I figure the best way to go about this now, is to make a copyright claim, but this is where it all gets a bit weird, because the stuff I made, is “technically” not my own stuff, because it is made from other peoples material, whom I assume would be considered the “real” copyright owners - but it being public access TV, funded by the state, the rule in Denmark is actually that the actual TV-programs, before I edited them, is public domain - but to my understanding, I would own the rights to the “remix” (being the clips I posted). So yeah, this is where I’m at. I’m pretty sure the rules for copyright on TikTok are the same all over the world, so I was hoping someone here could help me. How do I go about this? Thank you in advance! Assistant: Regardless of whether or not your work was fair use, you still own any creative work you did on top of the original source. In the same way game youtubers own the content they record of themselves playing without owning the copyright to game content underneath. You can file a copyright claim at https://www.tiktok.com/legal/report/Copyright?lang=en not sure how effective the response is on Tiktok but if it's anything like youtube their channel will suffer for getting copyright claimed.

Human: (Denmark) A TikTok user is stealing my content and going viral, which could have consequences for my future career Hi! I spent a lot of time making these videos a few years back, where I took public access TV and edited it to death, to make it crazy, awkward and surreal. I never put ads on it or anything, because I used other peoples material but according to my management, what I did falls under both “fair use” and “remix”, because the original content is distorted to such a degree, that it became something entirely new. If you know Vic Berger, it’s kinda like that, but even more far out and specifically targeted for a danish audience. Anyway, the content never went super viral, but had a moderate cult following, which eventually led to me getting work with TV - so for me, it turned out to be super important, and helped me build my career. Lately, my stuff has started to go viral on TikTok though, as lots of people are uploading various clips from my channel, and presenting it as their own stuff. I have no problem with this, as long as they credit me, and in most cases it’s as simple as me asking them to do so, and everything is good. But now there is this one guy, who has become viral almost solely with content I made, and who refuses to credit me and instead insults me, and uses his following to make it look like I had nothing to do with the content. I figure the best way to go about this now, is to make a copyright claim, but this is where it all gets a bit weird, because the stuff I made, is “technically” not my own stuff, because it is made from other peoples material, whom I assume would be considered the “real” copyright owners - but it being public access TV, funded by the state, the rule in Denmark is actually that the actual TV-programs, before I edited them, is public domain - but to my understanding, I would own the rights to the “remix” (being the clips I posted). So yeah, this is where I’m at. I’m pretty sure the rules for copyright on TikTok are the same all over the world, so I was hoping someone here could help me. How do I go about this? Thank you in advance! Assistant: Have you contacted TikTok directly?

Human: Upstairs neighbor keeps flooding our apartment Anything legal I can do Old lady who claims she “forgets” that the water is running in her tub. This is the 20th time this has happened. Honestly happens about once a month. And each time our bathroom and the people underneath us bathroom is flooded. Each time our mats are soaked and we can’t turn on the lights for at least 2 days. I’m sick of this . Legal advice? Assistant: Consider calling APS. Advanced age + memory issues could indicate the onset of dementia or other conditions where perhaps your neighbor is no longer safe living unassisted. What if she forgets to turn off the stove, too?

Human: Upstairs neighbor keeps flooding our apartment Anything legal I can do Old lady who claims she “forgets” that the water is running in her tub. This is the 20th time this has happened. Honestly happens about once a month. And each time our bathroom and the people underneath us bathroom is flooded. Each time our mats are soaked and we can’t turn on the lights for at least 2 days. I’m sick of this . Legal advice? Assistant: Everyone’s talking about mould, but you really need to have the structural integrity and safety checked too.

Human: Mail that isnt mine keeps being delivered to my address, someone takes mail from my porch/mailbox Backstory: I rent a house in California and have occupied this home with my family for almost 2 years. I am on a yearly renting lease, renting through an agency, and I have never had any communication with home owner during rental process as it was all dealt with through the renting company. Now, to more present times. Periodically over the last 2 years I have received mail to my address but to a different name. When this first happened shortly after I moved in, I assumed it was a previous rental tenant who had failed to forward their address. So I contacted the rental agency, mentioned the name on the package and asked if they could collect the package on behalf of the previous occupant, or provide a forwarding address I could mail it to. The agency requested the package be set on the front porch and it would be picked up that afternoon. I figured this meant the rental agency representative was picking up the package to ensure it got to the other person. After it was picked up, I figured that was it. It would be unlikely they'd make the mistake of sending their mail here again. But then it happened again. And again. And....15-20 more times. It happens every couple of weeks or so. Sometimes the rental agency sends me a notice via email that a package is arriving, and to coordinate with them for pickup. Sometimes they don't, and Im left feeling like I have to mention that yet another package has arrived. At this point, it is kind of frustrating. Why is it I am having to manage this other person's packages over and over again? But today is when things really took a turn for the worse. Today I'm sitting in my living room when I hear my mailbox open and shut (which is right outside my door). It's an odd time, but I figure mailman was late. I head towards the door, which has this neat one-way small window I can see out but no one can see in. And I see a middle aged woman at my mail box who is clearly not my mailman, holding a fistful of mail and is rifling through the letters. I immediately open the door and shout out "What the f* are you doing?!" Like clearly, this woman is trying to steal mail/information. She laughs and raised her hands, mentioned I startled her and then proceeds to say she's checking her mail. I'm suddenly thinking I'm dealing with someone on drugs or something as this is my residence and only my family lives here. I tell her she has the wrong address and that she needs to put all of my mail back. Now. She suddenly straightens up, snatches her sunglasses off of her face and sneers at me "Watch your mouth! This is MY house, I OWN it, this is MY mail. Keep it up and I'll have you evicted" and then she drops several of the letters (not all), then quickly grabs an envelop style package from the porch step while snapping "This is MINE" and then storms off angrily to her vehicle PARKED IN MY DRIVEWAY. I contact the rental agency immediately, and after describing the woman I am confronted with the information that this woman IS the owner of the house. In addition to that, I find out she's been the one picking up the packages this whole time- it's never been a rental agency associate. I'm really irritated at the fact that this woman has been coming to the property and feels the right to go through the mail in the mailbox and retrieve mail when I am unaware. I now am not sure of how many times she has been here unannounced, or how many times she has gone through my mailbox or taken packages from the porch. Which leads me to my questions. Is she legally allowed to do continue to send mail here and pickup anytime she wants? Is she allowed to go through my mailbox without me present to take whatever she wants? Do I have any legal responsibility for these packages? They have been in her name, but my address. Additionally- can she evict me for this verbal disagreement? I was startled, had no idea who she was an genuinely thought she was crazy/stealing mail. Is this normal behavior for property owners? Really looking for any assistance on how I can protect my sense of safety/privacy as well as protect my family from eviction for not allowing owner to take what they want from the mail. TLDR: renting a house for 2 years, home owner regularly visits at their leisure to go through mail or retrieve packages they have sent here without my knowledge/consent Assistant: Stop being nice. If a letter or package shows up that isn't yours, don't contact anybody, write "not at this address" across the address field and take it to the post office (don't put it back into your mailbox) A couple of cycles of this, she won't be receiving mail at your house anymore.

Human: Mail that isnt mine keeps being delivered to my address, someone takes mail from my porch/mailbox Backstory: I rent a house in California and have occupied this home with my family for almost 2 years. I am on a yearly renting lease, renting through an agency, and I have never had any communication with home owner during rental process as it was all dealt with through the renting company. Now, to more present times. Periodically over the last 2 years I have received mail to my address but to a different name. When this first happened shortly after I moved in, I assumed it was a previous rental tenant who had failed to forward their address. So I contacted the rental agency, mentioned the name on the package and asked if they could collect the package on behalf of the previous occupant, or provide a forwarding address I could mail it to. The agency requested the package be set on the front porch and it would be picked up that afternoon. I figured this meant the rental agency representative was picking up the package to ensure it got to the other person. After it was picked up, I figured that was it. It would be unlikely they'd make the mistake of sending their mail here again. But then it happened again. And again. And....15-20 more times. It happens every couple of weeks or so. Sometimes the rental agency sends me a notice via email that a package is arriving, and to coordinate with them for pickup. Sometimes they don't, and Im left feeling like I have to mention that yet another package has arrived. At this point, it is kind of frustrating. Why is it I am having to manage this other person's packages over and over again? But today is when things really took a turn for the worse. Today I'm sitting in my living room when I hear my mailbox open and shut (which is right outside my door). It's an odd time, but I figure mailman was late. I head towards the door, which has this neat one-way small window I can see out but no one can see in. And I see a middle aged woman at my mail box who is clearly not my mailman, holding a fistful of mail and is rifling through the letters. I immediately open the door and shout out "What the f* are you doing?!" Like clearly, this woman is trying to steal mail/information. She laughs and raised her hands, mentioned I startled her and then proceeds to say she's checking her mail. I'm suddenly thinking I'm dealing with someone on drugs or something as this is my residence and only my family lives here. I tell her she has the wrong address and that she needs to put all of my mail back. Now. She suddenly straightens up, snatches her sunglasses off of her face and sneers at me "Watch your mouth! This is MY house, I OWN it, this is MY mail. Keep it up and I'll have you evicted" and then she drops several of the letters (not all), then quickly grabs an envelop style package from the porch step while snapping "This is MINE" and then storms off angrily to her vehicle PARKED IN MY DRIVEWAY. I contact the rental agency immediately, and after describing the woman I am confronted with the information that this woman IS the owner of the house. In addition to that, I find out she's been the one picking up the packages this whole time- it's never been a rental agency associate. I'm really irritated at the fact that this woman has been coming to the property and feels the right to go through the mail in the mailbox and retrieve mail when I am unaware. I now am not sure of how many times she has been here unannounced, or how many times she has gone through my mailbox or taken packages from the porch. Which leads me to my questions. Is she legally allowed to do continue to send mail here and pickup anytime she wants? Is she allowed to go through my mailbox without me present to take whatever she wants? Do I have any legal responsibility for these packages? They have been in her name, but my address. Additionally- can she evict me for this verbal disagreement? I was startled, had no idea who she was an genuinely thought she was crazy/stealing mail. Is this normal behavior for property owners? Really looking for any assistance on how I can protect my sense of safety/privacy as well as protect my family from eviction for not allowing owner to take what they want from the mail. TLDR: renting a house for 2 years, home owner regularly visits at their leisure to go through mail or retrieve packages they have sent here without my knowledge/consent Assistant: Obligatory not a lawyer. Check your lease first of all; to see if there's any language, vague or otherwise, that allows her to do so. Try to snap some pictures, or take a video, of her going through your mail just to be safe. If she decides to come after you legally because of a missing or damaged package in the future, you can then argue that you did not give her permission to go through your mail and can't necessarily verify that she never took any that belonged to you.

Human: (IL) Post office scribbles over our "return to sender" notes and keeps giving us mail that isn't ours Since we moved into our apartment 2 years ago we've been getting mail sent by the military for a guy who doesn't live here. As the title says, we consistently write RTS and "wrong address" on the envelopes, in addition to talking face to face with the postmen and post office about it but they keep sticking it back in our mailbox. Now it's at the point where they are marking out our RTS notes and putting the envelopes back in. I doubt we can just throw this mail away but we're sick of getting it. What is the proper legal action when even the post office won't do anything? Assistant: Another helpful tip -- There's a bar code somewhere on the envelope -- usually on the bottom. If you take a marker and black it out, when it gets sent back, it'll be "rejected" and someone will have to manually look at it. They'll see the mark-ups that you have on the letter. Right now, someone is just sending it back to the processing plant where it's dumped back into the "regular mail" and the machine is just reading the bar code, sending it back to you.

Human: (IL) Post office scribbles over our "return to sender" notes and keeps giving us mail that isn't ours Since we moved into our apartment 2 years ago we've been getting mail sent by the military for a guy who doesn't live here. As the title says, we consistently write RTS and "wrong address" on the envelopes, in addition to talking face to face with the postmen and post office about it but they keep sticking it back in our mailbox. Now it's at the point where they are marking out our RTS notes and putting the envelopes back in. I doubt we can just throw this mail away but we're sick of getting it. What is the proper legal action when even the post office won't do anything? Assistant: Are you dropping them back into your mail box, or a regular mail box? I had this issue and started dropping them into the pick up mail box on the corner and the issue went away.

Human: [OH] My girlfriend's youngest daughter (4) has talked about her father (living in VA) multiple times of abusing her. He "checks" her privates for hair, he tells her, to make sure she's growing up, etc. The local child protection agency has done multiple "investigations" which consisted entirely of calling him and asking, "Did you do molest your children?" and him saying, "No. In fact, I want to report that her mother is molesting them." At that, they dismiss everything as a sour divorce tit-for-tat. One of the investigations was even triggered by the girl's counselor who was concerned the abuse was real and not something the girl was making up. THAT investigation also resulted in the agency conducting an interview over the phone with the accused and reporting back to her mother, "He denied it. End of investigation." This past week the little girl has started to talk about it again. Both her and her brother know sexual things way beyond their years that their mother did not teach them and I know that's one of the signs of abuse. My question is, where do we turn to now?! The "child protection" agency in our county has completely written off the allegations that the child has made and continues to make, in very vivid detail. Their mother is distraught, and has practically given up because she doesn't know where to turn, and decided that maybe the best thing is to get her on birth control as early as she can be if no agency is going to do anything about it. The father has made false allegations against members of her family (which got FULL investigations for some reason) and they determined that the father had coached the kids on what to say. He has threatened to make more accusations against her family and anyone she dates in order to make her life hell. She has told the agency this and they do nothing. We don't know what to do. Help! Assistant: Police are the next step. The children need forensic interviews done.

Human: [OH] My girlfriend's youngest daughter (4) has talked about her father (living in VA) multiple times of abusing her. He "checks" her privates for hair, he tells her, to make sure she's growing up, etc. The local child protection agency has done multiple "investigations" which consisted entirely of calling him and asking, "Did you do molest your children?" and him saying, "No. In fact, I want to report that her mother is molesting them." At that, they dismiss everything as a sour divorce tit-for-tat. One of the investigations was even triggered by the girl's counselor who was concerned the abuse was real and not something the girl was making up. THAT investigation also resulted in the agency conducting an interview over the phone with the accused and reporting back to her mother, "He denied it. End of investigation." This past week the little girl has started to talk about it again. Both her and her brother know sexual things way beyond their years that their mother did not teach them and I know that's one of the signs of abuse. My question is, where do we turn to now?! The "child protection" agency in our county has completely written off the allegations that the child has made and continues to make, in very vivid detail. Their mother is distraught, and has practically given up because she doesn't know where to turn, and decided that maybe the best thing is to get her on birth control as early as she can be if no agency is going to do anything about it. The father has made false allegations against members of her family (which got FULL investigations for some reason) and they determined that the father had coached the kids on what to say. He has threatened to make more accusations against her family and anyone she dates in order to make her life hell. She has told the agency this and they do nothing. We don't know what to do. Help! Assistant: Police. Now. Schools, doctors, dentist, therapist! Report it to all. Get names, write them doen, tell them you need their names for your records, demand follow up, go up the ranks.

Human: [TX] Local home builder drops nails all over our roads, leaving us with constant tire punctures. They won’t pay for tires or street sweeping, what can we do? I live in a new community right outside of Austin, all built by the same builder. Over the past few months, folks who live here have had to replace numerous tires due to nail punctures. When I take my daughter on walks around the neighborhood, we collect nails from the streets! They are coming off of trucks that come and go from the sites still under construction. Various neighbors have tried to be compensated for tires or asked them to pay for street sweeping. The builder says he won’t do anything, it’s not his problem. Our HOA says it’s not something they can make the builder do. Do we have any chance at getting to them if we hire legal representation? We’re also a bit rural, outside of the incorporated town limits of an Austin suburb. So I’m not sure if the town would even send a street sweeper. We’re talking 30+ new tires and countless patches. Im trying to collect an actual count from neighbors. Assistant: I'm going to take a different tack. Call the DOT, not the police. There are consequences for commercial vehicles with unsecured loads, I have seen trucks towed for allowing dirt/stones to blow off them.

Human: [TX] Local home builder drops nails all over our roads, leaving us with constant tire punctures. They won’t pay for tires or street sweeping, what can we do? I live in a new community right outside of Austin, all built by the same builder. Over the past few months, folks who live here have had to replace numerous tires due to nail punctures. When I take my daughter on walks around the neighborhood, we collect nails from the streets! They are coming off of trucks that come and go from the sites still under construction. Various neighbors have tried to be compensated for tires or asked them to pay for street sweeping. The builder says he won’t do anything, it’s not his problem. Our HOA says it’s not something they can make the builder do. Do we have any chance at getting to them if we hire legal representation? We’re also a bit rural, outside of the incorporated town limits of an Austin suburb. So I’m not sure if the town would even send a street sweeper. We’re talking 30+ new tires and countless patches. Im trying to collect an actual count from neighbors. Assistant: We've dealt with this twice and it is difficult to prove who dropped the nails unless you have video proof. I do suggest purchasing a magnetic sweeper to carry with you as you walk- it's a large bar magnet with a handle- they are reasonably priced and catch far more metal fragments and nails than by just eyesight alone. I also used one at a horse stable because of horseshoe nails puncturing tires. I filled buckets using the magnetic sweeper.