How to Know if He Likes You Only Through Online Chats
By: Gunawan Saputra
Tags: Romance, Relationships, Heartbreak, Dating, Love

“Sorry to break this to you, but you’re nothing to him!”

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1. He doesn’t reply or just leaves you on “Read”.

If you keep seeing the double blue check mark, the daunting “Seen”, or we just never reply you no more, that’s it! That’s the sign! If we’re sincerely interested in you, we’ll always be the one ending the conversation to a point where you are the one leaving us on “Read”!

You can also see subtle signs on whether we’ll ghost you. Conversations will naturally branch out to several topics and we won’t reply to all those points even if they’re questions directed to us. We’re not paying full attention and we just want it to be over soon. If somehow you still don’t get the hint, we’ll either leave you with a “LOL”, meaningless emojis, or double tap (likes) on your comments.

2. He’s not interested in what’s going on with you.

We rarely probe into your statements. When you mentioned that you’re badly injured recently, we will reply with, “oh, what happened?” and nothing else. There’s no, “have you recovered?”, “how does it affect your work?”, or “are you not allowed to do or eat certain things?”. There’s no further questions because we just don’t care that much!

Another sign is we don’t share anything about ourselves because we don’t want to let ‘strangers’ know anything about our personal lives. Why bother, we won’t be interacting that much anyway. If we’re interested in you, we’ll naturally share about ourselves. We want to find the chemistry and eventually that ‘click’ between us.

3. He treats other girls like how he treats you.

Either if it’s flirty or ignorant, if we treat you similarly to the other girls then it’s clear you’re not special. Guys might have the same late night conversations, give sweet nicknames, or actively share pictures with other girls as well. And if you ever catch us complimenting other girls in a flirty way when you’re around, that’s the nail to the coffin.

When we’re interested with you, we don’t want to appear interested with other girls, we don’t want to send the wrong message. We want you to know that we only have our eyes on you. If we act differently in a group chat compared to our private DMs, such as being more curious about you and show that we care, then girl, WE. WANT. YOU!

4. He never offers any help, or even try to get in touch with you.

Why would we waste our valuable time to help somebody who we’re not interested in? We’d rather use it to watch YouTube, sleep, or just not be bothered. If we voluntarily offer to help you in more than one occasions, it’s a sign that we’re interested in you. We want to be seen as reliable, caring, and will always be there for you.

On top of that, if we’re taking initiative to get in touch with you, either through text or call, it shows that we’re thinking about you. We want to talk to you more, know what’s going on with you, and eventually ask you out for brunch, a hike, or just an evening walk together. We constantly crave for your company and want to know if we’re a step closer to winning your heart.

5. He doesn’t even bother trying to impress you.

We will always try to get your attention, either through subtle or a very loud approach. We’ll do things just to get that “Woah!” reactions so you would see us as the most interesting person compared to your other guy friends. If we are excited to show off something to you, either our hobbies or something that happened that day, it’s probably a good sign!

We feel more comfortable with people who can make us laugh. Positive feelings will create positive impressions. If we can’t stop making jokes, being funny, or playfully teasing you, we’re probably trying to get your attention. We will also laugh more to your antics as well because everything you do or say just look more interesting to us!

6. He doesn’t remember most things about you.

We’ll remember small details about you, such as your go-to drink at Starbucks, your feud with that one classmate in college, or the fact that you’ve had four different pets which are all different species along with each of their names. We make the conscious effort to remember, sometimes even taking small notes — yes we’ll go to such extent. We’re interested to learn about you.

The same applies if we notice small changes in your appearance, especially those insignificant part of your looks or outfit that most people won’t notice. We’re so mesmerised by you that we look at every bits of details about you. We take up space in our mind just for these information that isn’t significant to our lives. We prioritise you!