Reflections on Jay Shetty’s Think Like a Monk
By: Young Jains Of America, Yja
Tags: Reflection, Book, Perspectives, Ymq4

Written by Jay Shetty, a personality known for his videos and podcasts on living a purposeful and spiritual life, Think Like a Monk scrambled up the charts — and I just wanted to see what the hype was all about. Though most wouldn’t guess from his outward appearance, Jay has spent time living a monastic life. Struggling to meet the status quo of an Indian household and fulfill the hopes and desires of his family, Jay was lost. One fortunate day, he reluctantly attended a talk featuring a monk by the name of Gauranga Das. He developed an instant curiosity that drove him to explore life at an ashram for the next four summers, and, later on, led him to make the life changing decision of leaving everything behind and becoming a Hindu monk. After three years of learning how to think like a monk, his guru told him that there would be greater value and service if he left the ashram and shared what he learned with the world. This book is one of the sublime results of this action, a shocking revelation for the modern world.

Jay Shetty creates an immersive experience through personal anecdotes, quotes from renowned entities, and academic research to give his readers a lens into the monk world. Most of us reading his book wouldn’t take such drastic measures towards attaining peace and satisfaction. In the world we live in today, such a task is difficult to carry out — especially with our society’s picture of a good person: one who deserves to go to Heaven, Nirvana or the Good Place. In the process of modernizing and making everything “easier” to understand, I believe that the basic fundamentals of living a prosperous life have gotten lost over the years. Jay does a remarkable job to help the layman understand and practice how to live a better life — one with meaning and purpose. He acknowledges time and again that taking the leap of faith is not something the common man would prioritize, but he makes the starting point of one’s spiritual journey accessible. He says, “the greater your investment, the greater your return.”

As I started reading Think Like A Monk, I was in awe after seeing so many parallels to Jain philosophy and our core beliefs. In Jainism, the purest form of the soul exhibits total bliss, ultimately achieving a state of inner peace. It is precisely this inner peace that Jay writes about, guiding us through a meditative excursion with three checkpoints: Let Go, Grow, and Give. Let me be your tour guide as we walk through his guided trail.

Starting Point: Let Go

For starters, you and I are pretty much strangers to one another, so let’s introduce ourselves! Who are you? Who am I? Most of us get stumped right here. But what is our true identity? We are so used to describing ourselves using an external, temporary attribute that isn’t really us. For example, “Hi, I’m Shruti Jain and I’m a Software Engineer” doesn’t tell you who I really am. That is my job role, and further, it tells you nothing about my true self: my soul. Jay recalls through an anecdote: He [Gauranga Das] says, “Your identity is a mirror covered with dust. When you first look in the mirror, the truth of who you are and what you value is obscured. Clearing it may not be pleasant, but only when that dust is gone can you see your true reflection.” It is our responsibility to remove these distractions that are fogging up the clarity of our true self.

Maybe we work together and figure out how to remove these distractions. How hard can it be, right? Well, there is a clutter of emotions — both positive and negative — that we deal with especially in today’s day and age. For example, a lot of these emotions stem from the instant gratification or lack thereof from social media, in turn causing harm to our mental and physical health. Throughout life, we ride a rollercoaster of emotions, and through its course we collect what we know as karma — good (punya) and bad (paap). These emotions impede our dharmic progress, detrimental to our spiritual growth in Jainism. How do I prevent this?

Jay shares a very practical approach to identifying, assessing, and acting upon the negativities in our life. To start off, audit your negative thoughts. Though it is near impossible to patrol our thoughts so as to make sure they are positive one hundred percent of the time, we must not undermine the importance of the following:

challenging ourselves to identify the root of the negativity

acknowledging whether it stems from within or the individuals around us

acting upon it while being mindful of the mental space and energy we allow for it to absorb

Another practice Jay highlights is Ksama: Amending Anger — Seeking Forgiveness and Forgiving. Sound familiar? Michhami Dukkadam and Uttam Kshama are integral parts of our religious practice. Hey! Maybe we can refer to his exercise and write out forgiveness letters to individuals of all relations to us — new, old, and even those we aren’t close with anymore. He says, “The pinnacle of forgiveness, true sattva, is to wish the person who caused you pain well” (p.44). Oh, and friend, if I may call you that, don’t forget to forgive yourself too!

Wait, Shruti. Sure, I can learn to forgive, but can I really forgive without knowing the root cause? That’s fair, and lucky for us Jay left us with some insight. He describes the root as that which prevents life, not death — fear. What’s your biggest fear? Well, before you answer that, here’s a thought: THE CAUSE OF FEAR: ATTACHMENT. THE CURE OF FEAR: DETACHMENT. And if that sounds familiar, it’s because it’s reminiscent of one of our core beliefs in Jainism — Aparigraha, or non-possessiveness.

Attachments are some of the greatest sources of our pain. From here, it is just a lifelong practice of mentally changing our relationship with all the items on our list with the ultimate goal of detaching from them and learning how to enjoy and value what is in front of us.

All this talk about negative emotions and fears are sending shivers down my spine. Jay is definitely right to have us LET GO of the negativity! I think it’s time we take the reins to these emotions in our hands and navigate through the new opportunities that stem our way by uncovering the deeply rooted truths. We will use them to build a meaningful and happier life, ultimately realizing that true happiness is within; it is internal. We have to live life with intentions by having them permeate through our behavior. Be mindful!

Wow only one-third of the way to our final destination! How are you holding up? Whenever you are ready, now that we have let go of so much baggage, it’s time to fill that void with some good stuff.

Next Stop: Grow

A concept to familiarize yourself with when you embark on the second stretch is that of the monkey mind vs. the monk mind. Think of it as the monkey mind is the child and the monk mind is the pragmatic adult. Jay refers to the conflict between the two to help us understand the impulses that drive our decisions and actions off track and how we expect the monk mind to direct us to pause and assess the bigger picture. It is our responsibility to nurture and train our monk mind to gain more self-control and become more aware of the different voices inside us.

Jay paints a vivid picture for us to better understand the influence of our 5 senses on our thoughts and actions depending on how present and developed our monk mind is. “These senses are responsible for our desires and attachments and have the power to pull us in the direction of impulsivity, passion, and pleasure destabilizing the mind” (p.152). He uses an analogy of a charioteer (the intellect) and his horses (the senses). In the first scenario, the charioteer is untrained and asleep on the job, so the horses have complete control of the reigns (the mind) and have freedom to lead the charioteer anywhere. The horses make their own judgements based off of whatever is around them, veering the chariot off the road “in the direction of temporary pleasure and instant gratification” (p.151). In the second scenario, the charioteer is trained, awake, aware, and attentive with the reigns to the chariot in his hands, carefully steering along the correct route. The horses, in this case, are completely controlled by the charioteer’s command.

Do you think your monkey mind or monk mind overpowers the majority of the time? It’s okay, I need to learn to calm my monkey mind too! It takes identifying our dharma, establishing a routine, and taking control of our mind by destroying our egotistical mindset to cleanse our soul of its impurities. Dharma, in the context of this book, is defined as Passion + Expertise + Usefulness. Our dharma is within us already, it’s a matter of opening up our mind and curiosities to it. However, if we let our monkey mind thrive and take over, we make ourselves vulnerable to violence, close-mindedness, and greed. This is all a work in progress and can take a lifetime to achieve, but now that we are starting to dig deeper into our souls and how we can live a purposeful life, how do you feel?

Final Destination: Give

We have reached the last stretch of our little excursion!

With all the enlightening insight and practices we have learned so far, it is very important to practice gratitude, or genuine appreciation for everything in our lives, regardless of our progress in our spiritual journey so far. “Even if your life isn’t perfect, build your gratitude like a muscle. If you train it now, it will only strengthen” (p.211).

There are so many ways to express gratitude, from simple words like “thank you” to taking part in a volunteer service to simply being kind to everyone, even strangers. Our lives are composed of the little events we experience, be it commuting to work, working on a class project, or going grocery shopping. The pleasure we receive from these events are dependent on the mutual kindness we give and receive to and from those around us. These acts of kindness go a long way in bringing forth the positive qualities in our life — compassion, resilience, confidence, and passion — and help us form meaningful relationships with ourselves as well as others.

Beyond gratitude, service is the most direct form of giving and it is one of the most satisfying acts for our soul. It not only helps others, but also helps us.

“When you’re living in service, you don’t have time to complain and criticize.

When you’re living in service, your fear goes away.

When you’re living in service, you feel grateful.

Your material attachment diminishes” (p.269). “Service is the direct path to a meaningful life” (p.269).

And with that we have reached the end of our tour through the guidance of Jay Shetty. Though many questions have been left unanswered, it is important to internalize the fact that these changes cannot happen overnight. Regardless, if you have made it till here and have enjoyed the content so far, I highly recommend you invest in this feel-good book as it has a lot of practical advice to offer through the flurry of examples and insights. This was just a surface level depiction of a handful of the many teachings you will encounter in this book! Good luck with your spiritual journey, my friend.

- Shruti Jain