Female Intimacy Blocks And How To Dissolve Them
By: Anastasia Sheremeta
Tags: Tantra, Intimacy, Love And Sex, Feminine, Life

Body Shame

Shame for having desire

Sexual shame

Stuck in the masculine + Unable to surrender.

Body Shame is number one block for women.

Recently my client shared with me that she does never like to be on top even though it is the number one position for women to experience pleasure and orgasms.

And she said that the reason she doesn’t like to be on top is that even with her husband the whole time all she does is thinking about what does her stomach look like.

So instead of being able to enjoy herself, feel her body and feel the connection with her husband, body shame was crippling to her sex life and intimacy like a monster.

When she asked what she should do, well I told her she got to get out of her head and get back into her vagina.

So instead of being outside her body and think about her body issues, she has to go back inside her body and feel the feelings inside her vagina during sex and intimacy.

The Tantric technique I teach for that is Orgasmic Breathing.

Being able to use that during love making will help to get into the moment, focus on her pleasure and reverse attention.

When you’re in your head — you’re making it about you instead of it being about the connection.

So I told her every time she gets stuck in her head, reverse that attention and look at her husband.

Start paying attention to every movement, every sound, every twitch of his body, start noticing what brings him pleasure.

Sex is really about connection. And what is sexy is being in the moment. And what is really sexy is feeling the pleasure. So forget “pretty”, go into sexy.

Everybody is sexy when they feel sexy.

Quick tip: take your fingertips and begin to gently touch your body. Just lightly touch your body in a way that feels good, maybe your hair, face, chest.

Lightly stroke your arms with your fingertips. Begin to feel your skin tingle, your nerve endings come alive.

Take a few breaths in, just let yourself be sensual. And in this moment really just notice your sensations and go back to what does it feel like.

Once you feel that kind of sensual energy rising, you’re going to feel sexy because because you’ll tap into your body and into your sensations, instead of getting stuck in your head and judging yourself from the outside.

Sexy is an inside job.

Shame for having desire.

Unfortunately we live in the world that still has this whole madonna whore complex.

There is a double standard that women who enjoy sex are sluts. This is really disempowering and its a deep rooted belief that affects both men and women in relationships.

The solution for women is to learn to make friends with their desire and to begin to experiment what feels good to you + giving yourself permission to be uninhibited without fear or judgment.

Some time ago I had a female client who shared that she still had to turn the lights off to be able to have sex with her husband after 20 years of marriage.

And that’s because she was taught to be ashamed of enjoying sex when she was growing up.

Now imagine how that affects her intimacy with her husband if he can’t look into her eyes when making love and imagine how that spreads into all the other parts of their lives and intimacy.

So women I want you to take a moment, close your eyes, take a deep breath and remember the first time you were ashamed of being sexual. And notice where do you have this feeling in your body.

Forgive those people who made you feel that way and forgive yourself for any feelings of guilt, shame and judgement.

Throughout Tantra you can learn to liberate from your past negative experiences and tap into the beautiful female free of shame.

Sexual Shame

Being unable to speak your truth and ask for what you want from your man has to do with the idea of not being worthy to be loved the way you desire and the idea of sex being dirty.

However, the more you repress your sexual desires and fantasies, the more emotionally closed and unfulfilled you’ll feel.

When it comes down to guilt, shame and fear around intimacy we absolutely have to go deeper into layers of our sexual story and uncover beliefs that prevent us from experiencing the most beautiful, loving and spiritually intimate relationships.

I do Intimacy Coaching sessions through Skype to help you overcome your intimate struggles and finally enjoy the beautiful deep connection with your current or future partner. If you feel called to work with me, please reach out through my website. I am here for you.

Stuck in the masculine.

Your Masculine energy is your Purpose. It is your goal orientated purpose to enjoy doing You. It may be your work environment, the boss lady who thrives for success, or any other area of life that you want to improve. It is the vision of life you desire to fulfill.

Your Feminine Energy is your Pleasure. Pleasure to enjoy being You. Your body, art, music, dancing, earthing, sensuality. It is the nurturing side of you that brings you joy.

The more pleasure you find, create and experience — the clearer is your purpose.

Women who are stuck in their masculine are the controllers, the bosses and those who are just learning to intimately trust and love themselves and their current or future partner.

If you find yourself being difficult to open up, unable to allow yourself to feel emotions + process them, if you can’t feel the intimate connection with your man — then you need to learn how to surrender.

Letting go of control will unfreeze the vulnerable part of you, and you’ll actually win a lot more in happiness and love as whole. And if you have a partner you will notice him becoming more masculine and present with you.

The solution to this lays in your heart chakra. Through Tantric techniques you can learn to release oxytocin which is the love and bonding hormone. These techniques are simple yet practical to help you get immediate breakthroughs and have the love and intimacy you desire.

If you feel like your sexual energy is blocked and you have issues with climax, I invite you to try Tantric Kiss Meditation with me.

Moreover, if you are single and you would like to learn Tantra — you don’t need a partner, you can learn how to tap into your sexual Qi by yourself + have more energy, flowing creativity and even attract the right partner for you.

If you feel called to work with me — I offer Online Intimacy Coaching to help you experience life full of pleasure beyond your wildest dreams.

Do you want to own your sexuality?

Do you desire to become free of shame, guilt and fear around your intimate life?

Do you dream of always having your bedroom on fire? Knowing exactly what to do, when to do it and how?

Do you want impress your partner with a brand new version of yourself?

Then let me know through my website =)

Anastasia Delore