Do It: Encourage Others’ Success And It Will INCREASE Yours
By: Sabana Grande
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Do It: Encourage Others’ Success And It Will INCREASE Yours

Bestselling author details how he became successful.

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I confess. I’ve been negative many times. I’ve sometimes felt bad about failing and wished others would fail too so as to prove that something was not achievable.

I did not immediately change when I attended the Millionaire Mind Intensive seminar, more than 5 years ago. It was run by a guy called Harv Eker, author of Secrets of the Millionaire Mind, a #1 New York Times, Wall Street Journal, and USA Today Bestseller. Tony Robbins' words on Harv’s work were, “Study Harv’s work as if your life depended on it… Financially it may!” according to this source.

I always had a problem with Think and Grow Rich. I know that’s taboo here and anywhere else where people are actively taking control of their lives, but hear me out.

Napoleon Hill Was Fucking Poor

And he died poor, according to this article. Now, for those of you who don’t know, Napoleon Hill was the man who was famously recruited by Andrew Carnegie (reportedly) to learn from and write about the success tricks and mental processes of America’s wealthiest.

He never became a millionaire. He was poor very frequently in his life and most of his wealth came from selling books about how to become successful. Now, if someone writes that there is a secret in their book that will help you, too to become successful once you know it but never becomes successful themselves, what does that tell you?

I Would Be More Inclined To Listen To Steve Jobs Telling Me That Farting Was The Key To Success

Because Steve Jobs made money. Harv Eker made money in the health industry. He is a millionaire and has made his first million + in just 2 1/2 years. I’m not saying he’s Bill Gates, but that’s not a bad track record for the average man.

So on that line, I’m not going to tell you to be positive. You’ve heard it. There was something cuter and more subtle that I learned at his seminar and by reading his book.

Trying to be positive is a very broad goal, and people lose track. Nobody can monitor themselves all the time.

Just Encourage Success

Don’t worry about being positive for positivity’s sake. You’re allowed to feel like shit sometimes. Just make that ONE concession though: always encourage and congratulate success around you.

In other words, when you see that somebody around you has achieved something great or had a successful business venture, make sure to say, “That’s great!” Even if you don’t mean it. I’m asking you to lie. Here’s why:

Our minds are constantly programmed with what we want.

Our minds are constantly programmed with what we want.

Our subconscious doesn’t just know exactly what you want and get it for you. Does it? If you want proof of that, you can just look at your self-sabotaging behaviors. If you can self-sabotage — that is, you want something consciously but fail to get it as a result of your actions, not as a result of your lacking ability — then you can be sure that your subconscious exists, and is screwing you over.

But Think and Grow Rich Was A Bestseller!

You may be thinking by now. Napoleon Hill put the short-lived earnings under his wife’s name because of all of his past failed business ventures and debt. She later decided to keep it and left Napoleon Hill for her lawyer. He was back to rags again.

The findings I’m presenting to you are not my own. They were written about, however, by someone who was not motivated by not starving to death that month. Harv Eker was already rich when he wrote his bestseller, Secrets of the Millionaire Mind. According to him, the human psyche is more easily programmed by what we tell others.

Hence, if we want to encourage a certain behavior in ourselves, we should praise others for it! So if you want to lose weight or write a book, find somebody who lost weight and congratulate the fuck out of them.

Yes. Yes, it works.

And you will see your own life start to change. I’m not ashamed of the growth I’ve had on Medium in just 2 months, but Terry Mansfield has written prolifically and done terrifically on this platform (see what I’m doing? ;)).

Kidding aside, one of his most VIRAL articles, You Don’t Need Magic To Succeed on Medium — Reciprocity Does The Trick, written in our very own backyard, ILLUMINATION-Curated, also encourages you to show your appreciation for other’s work and achievements.

2 Bloggers & 1 Millionaire Are Telling You To Do It

Yet you’re sitting there, reading this as if it’s just enough to read this positive article and its message will magically embed itself into your brain. No, you have to actually do it.

Do it.

When you congratulate others for their success, you encourage and prod your pscyhe to lead you in the same direction.

This horse is your subconscious:

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Lead it in the direction you want with a nice fucking carrot. UNLESS simply reaffirming things to yourself over and over again robotically and not interacting any differently with others works best for you. You never know. It could be.

It could be that mindlessly repeating affirmations in your brain will one day make you very successful. But will yelling from the rooftops, “WHAT YOU DID WAS GREAT! CONGRATULATIONS,” to all the people who are succeeding around you (maybe don’t actually scream. Most people respond best to simply talking volume or just writing to them) do anyone any harm?

Think about it! If it works, you become successful. If it doesn’t, you’ve made someone’s day. Encourage the success around you.

The idea for writing one of my most read articles, Why Are You Ignoring Your MEDIUM Profile? I got after simply writing to congratulate somebody else. Later on, I thought I’d try something new out of the experience. It produced results and I wrote about it.

LOOK. It’s simple.

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