Mental violence. My mother earns an average salary as an…
Tags: Emotional Violence, Mental Abuse, Singapore, Mental Illness, Domestic Abuse

I lived in a very average but very abnormal household in Singapore. Of course we pride feminism, but society has never condoned male idiocy. My childhood is filled with emotional trauma, leaving me an insecure and mentally disturbed growing up years. I find myself still getting affected by those mental disturbances, brought about by the extreme abnormalities of the household I lived in.

My mother earns an average salary as an office worker. However, that money is not for supporting the sloth of a man. My father is an utterly useless piece of crap. He does not pay a single cent for any of the utilities bill of the house and not to mention that when they first bought over the house from his father, my mother ended up as the one paying for the majority sum of the house. She basically paid for everything. I don’t even want to begin saying how it is the norm for my mother to settle the bill for all things. SHE PAID FOR EVERYTHING. He is so useless that asking him to fork out a cent was as if she was trying to rob him of something, when the only truth is the exact way around, because over the years, he has accumulated a lot of debts and they were unpaid credit card bills of which the interests rates has accumulated so much that it all amounted to $13000, all of which my mother had paid for him. If there is even anyone reading this now, the level of shamelessness revelaed till this point is already more than enough and I don’t even want to start saying how he, as one who does not want to work. He does not want to work, he leeches onto others like nothing and this is unjustified just as it already is.

The last thing to say would be that, if such a person wants to owe others, then he at least have the shame to repay, but he doesn’t. There is something very atrocious I find him doing in the house. He acts like a fucking dominator of the house in the name of religion. He hangs paintings representing a particular religion, called Taoism all about the house and I’m not saying anything about Taosim. I don’t know much about it. I only know that it’s his intentions behind his actions which are abominable, of which, it seems to me a disservice to any religion. No religion will tell you to be heartless towards anyone, and he is, and I think that this word already is an understatement for who I see he really is. He has no rights to hang the paintings all over the living room, as if treating the whole place like his own, not when he doesn’t pay a fucking single cent, so he jolly well shuts up about everything. But he not only doesn’t shut up, he starts to sing, very creepily and sinisterly, knowing full well I hadn’t been awake, and he would always take out the lighter and I, in my locked room door have been so traumatized over the sound of lighters and the smell of more than twenty five sticks or more joss sticks, burning at the same time in the space of a small living room in an old four-room HDB flat.

He has no respect for the opinions of others. It is to our extreme discomfort that he would start to light things up early in the morning and make it hard for us to breathe, it is practically impossible for me to stay in the living room and even in my room. I am not out of offend anyone who burns joss sticks, but the smoke from joss sticks are indeed carcinogenic.

One more observation is that I see him closing the windows whenever, there were other residents burning offerings in a large wooden thing downstairs and he who claims the smoke in the house he burns to be good, would be afraid of what every other people generally believe?

Second observation, which is just a very clear indication of him trying to dominate others when he really is nothing but a weakling, is him, installing a sort of red thing, and he burns again joss sticks outside the door, and that would first and foremost disturb other neighbors, not to mention how tiny the corridor between the houses really is. The moment he starts to burn, the smoke would last for a long time, and anyone who leaves thier hosue during that period of time will have to bear the smell and lack of oxygen to breathe. It should be illegal. Another thing is that him installing such a thing without the permission of us, really is only a gaudy display of some egotistical hubris.

No one has ever agreed with him to put such a thing outside the gate. No one agrees with him, for one would only be an incurable lunatic.