How to Be a Nicer Person Without Being Fake
By: Brandon Bell
Tags: Kindness, Self Improvement, Life, Self, Gratitude

How to Be a Nicer Person Without Being Fake

Photo by Tom Parsons on Unsplash

Being nice to somebody can really make their day, you don’t know what they’re going through just by a first glance. At times we assume people are doing good because they may be well dressed or they have some designer on but that doesn’t take away from the fact that they’re human too. Humans go through good and bad times, it’s what makes our life balanced.

Often we let these bad times take a hold of our emotions for a longer period of time than when we’re happy. Knowing this can help us be more understanding of each other and also allow us to be more genuine as well.

Being nice to someone doesn’t take much work, there are many things that you can do to help someone be in a more positive mood. It’s not easy to be nice all of the time, we become so focused on ourselves that we forget about others’ emotions. But these times of stress are needed so that we know what it’s like to experience how someone else may be feeling in a sense.

We all get sad, angry, and stressed, but we have the ability to be happy as well. When one person is happy, it gives someone else who’s around them a greater chance to be happy.

Has someone ever made your day by being nice to you?

This feeling that we get from someone else stays tucked in our pockets throughout the entire day and helps us to spread that joy in every person that we meet and in everything that we do. It’s easier to get stuff done when we’re in a good mood, even writing this blog post now is fueled by me having a peaceful and happy morning.

Now, imagine if I were to spread this positivity to somebody else today by being nice. This would help them to spread that same positivity onto someone who they meet as well. It’s a chain effect of happiness that the world needs, especially during 2020.

Giving people genuine compliments

Giving someone a genuine compliment can go a long way. People have insecurities just like you and at times people feel like they’re invisible. Other than feeling invisible, we also feel self-conscious about our appearance, the way that we are, or the way how we act.

We are so scared to be ourselves because we don’t like the fact that everyone may not like us. Show someone that you appreciate their presence by giving them a compliment. It’s just as easy as saying “hello” to someone you’ve never met before.

Start trying this at work where you may have customers you haven't seen before. Notice something on them that you find unique and give them a compliment about it. You can say something like “I like the color of your shoes” instead of just saying “I like your shoes.”

The second option is nice but it’s likely they’ve heard it before or they know that you didn’t put much effort into the compliment. In 2020, an easy way to compliment somebody is with their mask.

A few days ago, there was a customer who walked into my job with a mask that had “baby Yoda” on it and I told her that I liked her mask. You can tell that she liked the compliment but what would’ve blown her more away was if I complimented her on the picture that was on the mask, this also could’ve potentially started a conversation between me and her as well.

Make sure that you’re making eye contact with that person too when giving them a compliment, this lets them know that you’re being genuine. This also makes them give you eye contact back to making the back and forth hold more weight as well. This is the weight that builds connections and future friendships as well.