HOT WIRED TO MARRY AT THIRTY
By: Fatunla Samuel
Tags: Marriage, Love, Youth, Family

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In your twenties, the world is full of opportunities and most people would try a million activities if they could. You would have been done with schooling, might have learnt a new skill or you might be practicing a new religion while others may spontaneously feel out of place and without balance, not knowing what they really want to do. Your thirties, is when you build and maintain whatever facts and specifics you have approved in your twenties. You start to see life more differently and most definitely would be able to identify real from fake.

Back when I was in high school, I always felt cocoons of failure whenever I got to school late. Especially in situations when I got so close to the school gate before I heard the bell. The world around me would suddenly be paused and I would start to sense a quick gush of bad luck and weary in me. I then equally start to think about what punishment and penalty I would have to face before heading to class.

This is an exact expression of how young adults of today feel when they have five to seven years more to thirty. They start to slander themselves into multiple relationships just to find the right one and settle on or before they clock thirty years of age.

Hastiness becomes the tenant of the minds of females at 23, 24 and 25 years. Fear and abolishment becomes the bearer of statues in the minds of 26, 27 and 29 years old females and regret and guilt fully embraces the heart of 30 years old females.

A recent survey showed that little of 10% of 100 would find their spouse or partner at ages below twenty years, therefore the loop of time for marriage becomes a supposed marathon relay ground where males and females who are young adults start to meander in the thoughts and actions of finding the ‘one’ before the caution line is drawn.

Its gets harder for women who are not yet married after they clock thirty years old in Africa. They swiftly become bearers of guilt, and some tends to acquire a huge contempt for motivational speakers and advisors. The sensation of a door being shut at an open space begins to crawl on them, darkness gradually starts to creep on their initial glooming lights. This feeling has arguably led some of them to in turn ‘settle for less’ just to get off the dash board of misery.

Although, biology qualifies masculinity over femininity in terms of sex organ deterioration over years of growth. So it is justifiable and advisable for the female gender to be rather hasty and cautious of the time slander (THIRTY YEARS).

In past times, research showed that majority got married when they were in their twenties. Thus the thirty years old operando is just a new norm. The puppet race the current generation has gotten themselves into, have been drawn farther by other pursuit due course. Some of which are pursuant of wealth, equality, advocacy and inner peace as the case may be.

Why have you been wired to marry at thirty?

- Historical flaws.

- Congenial advices.

Historical flaws:

Even when you try not to bulge, concerning history has its way of attracting scenarios towards you. While you were a kid, you probably have heard stories of how your grandparents met themselves in their twenties and got married. Hell! This might even be the same age bracket at which your parents got married.

Hypothetically, you feel obligated to do so or even worse because of the present age and time the world is in, where even at your twenties you are still not confident that you would get your life on track after so many advances towards several activities. When you finally do get your life together, the next and appropriate decade to then do as your parents have, would be when you are thirty. You start to feel some homogeneity in you, just because your siblings also got married on or before thirty.

It automatically gets registered to you that it is only right to get married on or before thirty. Observation have shown that a better percentage of men got married at a younger age just because their parents had done it at the same age and they feel the same obligations to tread their footprints.

Congenial advices:

I once had a friend who was advised into getting married, when she was twenty three. An advice continually rung into her intuition solely because she was done with her first degree. The greatest of this persuasions have been seen to come from clergies and sometimes parents. You get the same symphony of words from your parents and it comes right back through your clergy man. And you start to think you are getting way too old not to have been married. Most times, it is as a result of them seeing that you are done with schooling, or have achieved a major break at a younger age. You then get advices like, its best you do get married now, it would be young and fun for you, and you would have so many years to enjoy marriage. Sadly, so many young adults have been lured by this little but constant push into toxic marriages.

Why should you get married at thirty?

No one knows the amount of time they have till other major breakthroughs and mile stones of their life’s. When you would finally get that doctorate degree, when you would equally buy your own house or when you would entertain others at the lunching of your own company. So, it is rather normal than rational to want to get married alongside, whilst you achieve all you want. My ideology is to ask yourself if you have settled other ‘ally’s’ of your life before wanting to enter into an eternal commitment such as marriage. ‘Ally’s’ being spiritually, educationally, financially, morally, economically, socially. If you have settled all of this to a minimum, then I feel you might just be ready for marriage.

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