A letter to those who fear having no friends to hang out with this vacation:
Tags: Fear, Loneliness, Self Improvement, Social Life, Vacation

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Guess what, if I’m writing about this, it’s because I’m in the same situation. It’s a situation that’s hard emotionally, especially if you lack in confidence. You want busy days and wish something was scheduled every day of the week during vacation. This story is here to help you get through the unsatisfactory lack of, well… a life really and make the most out of it so that you won’t ever face this problem again.

Make sure to space out those precious activities you planned so that you don’t have a short period of high mood and energy followed by the negative extreme: low energy and mood. If you believe those few days will boost your energy enough to make the next few days just as good, go for it.

What can you do “Post-vacation” to avoid having too few friends to go out with in the first place?

If this is a fear, you probably don’t have an intense presence during your regular social gatherings like school or work. People are less interested in you with that attitude and it’s tough to make friends. It may have been this way for a while because you haven’t developed enough secure friendships or simply confidence that will continue to cherish outside of the imposed social gatherings.

Don’t force anything too much but try to speak your opinion more times than only the perfect occasion; every moment is an opportunity. Remember to smile and give people “good vibes”, as in having a good mood. It naturally attracts others to your company, instead of having a closed off image and acting too reserved. That’s honestly a fundamental technique to build a life, especially in high school, as that is the source of these empty holidays awaiting us. All I’m asking is for you show a happy, present image who speaks more often than he usually does. At first your classmates / coworkers or any person in a social gathering will be a bit surprised but they will quickly get used to your more intense presence and start talking to you more often. Just avoid pushing it too hard, you wouldn’t want to be fake.

Applying these rules as early as possible would be ideal for finding and deepening connections to the point where you can go out with them or network.

When the break has already started

If it’s too late, make the most out of the friendships you already have without seeming desperate: little people enjoy the company of a desperate person. Before you go out with ‘em, put yourself in the best mood possible so the person will want to spend more time with you.

The thing is, the situation is delicate and the fact that it effects your mood is a burden because your friends might not see the same you during vacation and become more distant so just hang in there, don’t people please to much but just enough and be the best version of yourself whenever there is a social interaction with potential friends or opportunities. You are most likely to be surrounded by family so take advantage of it. A deep relationship with a family member brings a lot as you see them often. It’s basically a time to make the most out of your free time and the opportunities that are given, as you have more moments to focus on them. You can stop there, but if you ever want something, you’ll have to go and get, not wait for it.

This is slowly becoming a letter to myself…

Stay active and use the free time to your benefit.

The holidays slow your rhythm. Being active becomes harder as a result of the passivity. Don’t see it as avoiding a vicious cycle of depression and therefore wasting your precious vacation but see it as making the most of these holidays and transforming this relaxing time in a period of growth.

That comes back to keeping positive thoughts, working out,… Just keep a minimum of activity that you can build off of. Stay in there and hold on to the beauty of life, despite the loneliness!