Setting Goals That Are Right For You
By: Sian Winfield
Tags: Authenticity, Goals In Life, Goals, Goal Setting

Setting goals sounds simple, but there are many areas that we need to consider at the start to ensure that they are the right goals for us and actually our goals.

At times balancing multiple responsibilities, or having ‘other things to do’ often means our goals gets lost as just something else that doesn’t get done.

Or for some the issues is even finding the time to think about what your goals should be, or remembering what they would have been before work, kids, COVID hit.

Setting Your Goal.

We need to ask ourselves the right questions so that our goals are truly in line for us. To decide the goal itself.

Where do I want to be in 5 years time? What is it that I would like to be doing? Where would I like my life to be?

Think BIG, think BOLD, think out of the box! Try not to let the foundations of your world around you now or any constraints hold you back.

So, let’s ask that again….

What is it that you would REALLY like to be doing?

Is actually This YOUR Goal?

We can often find ourselves in a position where we have been driven by other people’s expectations of us, our family, friends, partner or society. However when we really dig a bit deeper we realise that what we are doing isn’t what we really want to be doing but what others expect of us or what we thought they did.

With this in mind it is key to check that the goal that we have in mind really is what WE TRULY want to do.

Ask yourself these questions:

Are these my goals or someone else’s? Is this what I want to do or what someone else expects of you? Does this goal hugely motivate and excite me? Is it something that I would feel greatly accomplished for achieving?

When you reach that point when asking yourself, this is the goal for YOU.

The Impact On Your Life & Others.

The next consideration is how would you doing this impact those around you. How would achieving it change your life, or family life or availability to do what you currently do?

Would that impact then not be something that you want to happen? Sometimes thinking this part through can again highlight that this isn’t your goal. Or the end goal isn’t the future you see.

Having an awareness of this and a consideration of this means that you can be prepared for how this may change your life and the considerations you need to bring in to your goal setting plan.

Talking to those doing this impacts and bringing them in to the loop can be a great way to make sure that you have had the right conversations and at the same time you have also added in some accountability that you will be working on this goal. A double wammy!

If someone is not happy to support you in your new venture or find workarounds to help make it happen, this raises a few questions for sure.

We have all heard the advice around surrounding yourself with people that support you and RAISE YOU UP, not those who will hold you back or down. Sometimes we can change as the people that we surround ourselves we outgrow, any true friend or relationship will be on your team.

Summary.

Taking time to think through your goals can mean that you are truly sure that this is something for you. A smart decision that takes you forward to the world you wish to create for yourself, from the core.