This Panty Vibrator Is Perfect for Long-Distance Play
By: Emma Austin
Tags: Relationships, Review, Sex, Self, Women

I love really long, drawn out foreplay. If I had my way, every fuck would start with lots of teasing that feels like it never has to end.

But that can be really difficult to achieve when you don’t get to spend much time with your partner.

I don’t get lazy Sunday mornings in bed with my husband anymore. At least one of us has to crawl out from under the sheets to go make breakfast for everyone.

And the evenings are somehow even more chaotic than the mornings.

When everything is finally settled, the house is quiet, and the bedroom door is locked, there’s usually still time for some foreplay and a long fuck. But it all feels abrupt and rushed because we’re jumping right into our sexy, intimate mode instead of letting it build up organically.

Most of the time, I’ll get started without him. I’ll send him flirty messages while we’re doing our separate thing. I’ll get myself in the right mindset while luxuriating in a bubble bath. I’ll make good use of my porn subscriptions to get myself going. If I want to pull out the big guns, I’ll edge myself until I can barely think straight.

It gets me in the mood and excited to fuck. But it’s still not the same.

Turning yourself on is not nearly as exciting as having your partner do it for you. It feels more like prepping than actual foreplay. And you miss out on that sense of connection that you only get when you know someone else is working to seduce you.

That’s why I always loved the idea of using panty vibrators.

In theory, they should be the perfect little toy for long-distance play. I could just slide one into my underwear, tuck it in place, and give my partner control over the vibrations.

I would image Mr. Austin turning on the toy when I least expect it. With just the press of a button, he would send a rush of pleasure coursing through my body. I wouldn’t need to know what he was doing or where he was — all I needed to know is that he was teasing me and stimulating me.

I could picture him getting hard, feeling turned on by the thought of what he was doing to me.

I would text him between vibrations to let him know just how horny he was making me, trying to find the right words to encourage him to deliver more vibrations to my clit.

That was the fantasy. But the reality never lived up to it.

Next to vibrating cockrings, panty vibes were some of my most disappointing sex toy purchases.

For one thing, they never had much range. It only came close to the modest distance advertised on the packaging if there were no obstructions between the toy and the remote. Unless you and your partner were in the same room, they weren’t of much use.

And sure, you could find ways to play with them. But I can think of much better things to do when you’re at such close proximity.

When the remote did work the way it should, it was still a struggle to use the vibrators. They would move out of place whenever my hips would shift. Having to constantly reposition it was a major mood killer.

If I managed to hold it in place, I’d get something closer to a light tease than a full-on orgasmic experience.

Most of the panty vibrators I tried had really weak vibrations. They could give you a little buzz and get you started, but that would only take you so far. Even with a sensitive clit like mine, I could almost never reach a climax using them.

I was disappointed so often that I stopped using panty vibes completely. But I was willing to change my mind when Lovense asked me to try their brand new toy, the Ferri.

The Ferri is a panty vibe, so I was a little skeptical. But after having such a great experience with the Lush 2, I trusted Lovense to make a long-distance toy that wouldn’t disappoint me.

Spicing Up the Work Day

The Ferri is a small and discreet toy designed to provide external stimulation, which I personally prefer over internal vibrations.

Because it’s a toy that doesn’t have to be inserted, it can be clipped on or removed quickly and conveniently.

As soon as I took it out of the box and started messing around with it, I knew that it would probably stay where I wanted it to. The magnet that holds it in place is so strong that no amount of shifting or wiggling was going to loosen it.

I was also pleasantly surprised when I saw that the box included a second, backup magnet. That’s an awesome bonus for gals like myself who can’t keep track of their bobby pins and misplace every small thing they own.

It also works with the Lovense remote control app, which is just plain fun to use.

You can swipe your finger up and down the screen to create any kind of vibration pattern you want. And you can see the kind of vibrations the toy is delivering in real-time. That’s a big perk if you’re playing at a distance, because just pressing a button and shuffling through different vibration patterns makes it hard to get a good sense of what you’re doing — or what you’re doing to your partner.

I wanted to give myself the real long-distance experience, so I waited for a day when Mr. Austin and I were both too busy with work to spend much time together.

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I clipped the toy to my underwear, spread my lips so it would rest against my clit, and told Mr. Austin I was ready.

He must not have been, though, because I didn’t hear back from him right away. I figured he must be focused on one of his client’s blog posts, so I shrugged and went back to editing photos.

I was lost in my work, trying to make colors pop, when I felt the first vibration. The buzz was subtle and discreet, but it was enough to get my attention and make sit up straighter in my chair.

My breath jumped for a moment and I grabbed my phone to see if my husband had messaged me.

“How was that?” he wrote.

“Very good!” I typed back.

“Good. I wanted to make sure it worked. Get ready for more.”

I went back to work, trying to focus while feeling the occasional vibrations against my pussy. Each time, my attention shot away from the screen and concentrated on the feelings I was getting in my clit.

It felt like he was teasing me — and I suppose that’s exactly what he was doing. I got more and more aroused with every little vibration he sent my way.

We got a little flirty through the chat feature on the Lovense app. He would tell me about some of the fantasies he’s been having about me. He told me in exactly what way he planned to tie me down the next time he had the chance. Then, he asked me what I wanted him to do once my wrists and ankles were bound to the bed.

“The dirtier the details you give, the stronger the vibrations you’ll get,” he added.

I tried to be as filthy as I could so I could earn some pleasure in return.

Even though I was anticipating the vibrations, every bit of pleasure came as a surprise because I never knew exactly what kind of stimulation I was going to get.

Sometimes, they were slight vibrations that made me feel warm all over. Other times, I was hit with such intense stimulation that it stopped me dead in my tracks.

Most often, I’d get a mix of both. Mr. Austin would send me buzzes that went up and down like a roller coaster. I could picture the way his finger was gliding up and down his phone screen while it was happening.

After a while, he mostly dropped the patterns and gave me something more steady. He’d start with a soft vibration and very gradually increase the speed, and then let it come back down as slowly as it had climbed up.

Sometimes, the toy would jump right back to life as soon as it was done vibrating. Mostly, though, he left me eagerly waiting for more.

My clit was at the mercy of his whims — and that was a big part of the fun.

It was some great teasing and it turned me the fuck on. But I was also surprised by how heavy the vibrations got at the top range. When Mr. Austin held them long enough, I realized I was getting close to a climax.

I sent him a message asking him to finish me off.

Because he’s a pleasure dom, he teased me a while longer instead, making me ask for it again.

Then, he gave me exactly what I asked for. I felt the vibrations climbing again. Only this time, they didn’t go back down. Once they hit their peak, they stayed there.

The toy was vibrating at full power, relentlessly stimulating my clit. It couldn’t quite get me there on its own, but it was tantalizingly close. I stayed at the edge of an orgasm, but couldn’t get over it.

I had to reach down between my legs and push the toy against me. That extra pressure was all it took. I came almost instantly.

I leaned back in my chair and typed out a few more messages to my husband. I told him it worked and thanked him for the orgasm.

After a few minutes, I put the toy away and went back to editing photos. Though at this point, my mind was on other things.

Getting Connected When You’re Apart

I’m impressed by the Ferri and I think anyone considering a panty vibrator should try this one.

It does all the things panty vibes promise they’ll deliver but rarely do. It stays in place. It has incredible range. And it could actually make me come.

But the best part is the app control and being able to connect with anyone from anywhere.

It also gives you so much nuance and control. You can make incremental adjustments to the vibrations, which is really important when your goal is to tease and arouse. Instead of just turning it on or off, you can modify the vibrations smoothly and deliver the exact amount of pleasure you want to your lady’s clit.

If you’re in a long-distance relationship, spending time apart from your partner, or just want a way to play when you’re too busy, this is a fantastic option.

It’s quick and easy to use. You can spend hours teasing your partner and turning them on with ease. You might not get as much work done, but you’ll feel connected and horny, which is much better.

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