The 6 Habits of Genuinely Happy People
By: Sophia Lill
Tags: Happiness, Inspiration, Habits, Women, Life

Kindness:

It is how we treat ourselves through our thoughts, words, and actions. The more we be kind to ourselves, the more we are happy. Happy people are always satisfied with themselves and treat themselves kindly.

Showing love for ourselves will boost our confidence and make us feel more worthy, which will automatically make us happy. We often show kindness to others, but we mistreat ourselves with negative thoughts that are underestimated to us, and we keep telling unworthy words, where our mind believes it, and it starts taking action through it.

How To Apply:

Show love to yourself as much as you’re showing it to others. If you don’t love yourself, don’t wait for others to do it. Be kind to yourself either with your words or with your thoughts. Always try to tell yourself loving words. Take care of yourself from the outside and the inside.

Acceptance:

Last year, I had to give a speech in front of a large group of people at my university, and when it’s my turn, my heart started beating fast; I felt dizzy and frozen. I started to speak, but my voice was shaking, and I was completely shaken. I lost the words, and I couldn’t speak; I said ‘I’m sorry’ and I get back to my seat.

It was a terrible experience for me, I was so ashamed that I was walking with a bent head at my university, I hated myself and blame it all the time, I know it wasn’t my fault, but I couldn’t accept it, I felt unhappy for a long period.

After struggling to accept the real me, I stand in front of the mirror once, and I kept saying, ‘Girl! It’s not your fault; you weren’t prepared enough. Now that experience is in the past, focus on the present, and let go of all your anger and negative thoughts about yourself. Accept what happened and move forward, etc.’

After that day, I felt hope again, and I was so happy for no reason because I accepted myself as it is, with all my sins, faults, and everything that happened to me.

The lesson to take from my experience, and that it helped me, after all, to become happier and more peaceful, is that accepting yourself as you are, is the secret to healing.

You may go through a stupid experience like mine, or you’ve already gone through it. It’s hard to forget it and go ahead, but it’s not impossible. You have to strongly believe in fate and destiny, where you truly accept whatever happens to you with an open heart and be satisfied with who you are!

how to apply:

There may be a lot of bad experiences that face us in life, it’s often not our fault, but it’s okay. We can learn from it and progress because from every wrong thing we do, we learn something, and that something it’s what makes us progress in our life. So, accept yourself with all your sins and faults, extract the lesson from every wrong thing you do, and make a better you.

Gratitude:

“If you aren’t grateful for what you already have, what makes you think you would be happy with more.”- Roy T. Bennett

A study by the two psychologists, Dr. Robert A. Emmons of the University of California, Davis, and Dr. Michael E. McCullough of the University of Miami, about gratitude. They asked participants to write a few sentences each week on particular topics.

Group1: Writing about things they were grateful for that had occurred during the week.

Writing about things they were grateful for that had occurred during the week. Group2: Writing about daily irritations or things that had displeased them.

Writing about daily irritations or things that had displeased them. Group3: Writing about events that had affected them (with no emphasis on them being positive or negative).

The results from ten weeks showed that group1, who wrote about gratitude, was more optimistic and felt better about their lives.

“In positive psychology research, gratitude is strongly and consistently associated with greater happiness. Gratitude helps people feel more positive emotions, relish good experiences, improve their health, deal with adversity, and build strong relationships.”-Harvard Medical School.

How To Apply:

Be thankful for everything you have in your life, health, home, family, etc. Show love to yourself and everyone around you. Don’t be afraid to tell your mom that you love her, thank her for dinner, tell your partner how good he is, etc.

Write in your journal every day you wake up how thankful you’re for waking up with good health, for the cozy home, etc. Even if you’re going through the worst time ever, be thankful that you’re still alive and you have the chance to do more.

Presents:

We often recall memories from the past, especially the bad ones, because they have stronger feelings. We either keep remembering bad things that happened to us or the good ones and keep comparing them to the present and how we were happier back then, which makes us unhappy.

Most of the time, remembering the past and retrieving the feeling like we’re living those memories right now makes us feel uncomfortable in any way. So, why we’re keeping remembering the past and not living the moment!

“The present moment is filled with joy and happiness. If you are attentive, you will see it.” — Thich Nhat Hanh

Happy people often focus their time and attention on the present because they’re not allowing any distractions to live more enjoyment and pleasure.

How To Apply:

The present will be our past too! So, focus on it and make it more joyful that your future will be better, too, not only your past. The present changes our lives because we can not change our past but our future if we focus on the present.

Goodness:

It is the quality of morals. When we are good to others, also to ourselves, it makes us feel mentally better. Happy people are the ones who have the best morals. They often tend to be helpful and kind towards others, but they never forget themselves.

They’re happy to share good things with others advice, food, things they own, etc. When we’re good, we get enough esteem to feel happier either from ourselves or others, which will boost our confidence and reflect on us with good emotions.

Happy people are confident in serving themselves first before anyone else without any feelings of guilt because we can’t give something to others if we don’t have it. So being good must be to ourselves first, then the others; otherwise, we will feel lost. Believe me, it is not a bad thing as is common.

How To Apply:

Goodness is not something to pretend. It’s not our actions nor words; it’s our intentions if we’re really carriers of good or not. So, work hard on yourself to make a better personality that has a good quality of morals.

Intention:

It’s when we have desires and attempt to achieve them. With intention, we become fearless where we have enough boldness to achieve our goals. Our desire give us a strong intention to reach our purpose in life, which will give us the motivation to take action and be successful.

“True happiness is not attained through self-gratification, but through fidelity to a worthy purpose.”- Helen Keller

Happy people never stay without a purpose in life. It’s what makes them live for. Each year we have a different mindset, and our goals differ from year to year because of the different circumstances we go through.

How To Apply:

Please don’t stand on the sideline of life. Live your life with purpose, make plans, set goals, and work hard to achieve them.