How do you know if you’re in a Mentally Abusive Relationship?
By: Jazi-Freelance Writer
Tags: Motivational, Emotional Abuse, Mental Health Awareness, Writers On Medium, Abusive Relationships

Now, on to why you’re here.

Most of the time, physical abuse is common and I was beyond lucky to have not been a victim of physical abuse. However, I cannot say the same to my closest friends. I don’t think I can go into detail on her part, as it is not my story to tell. But, emotional and mental abuse is still just as bad. Mental and Emotional Abuse can be mostly portrayed verbally or in many other manipulative ways. It can still cut deeper than some knives.

Here are some of the common signs of Mental/Emotional/Verbal Abuse;

Breaking down at Small or Misinterpreted Arguments…

In personal experiences, I can say for sure that this has happened to me. I could be making bread and mess up an ingredient because I messed the instruction. Thank Goodness for my understanding Mother. I would say this is because of the many arguments that you’re already had and no longer believe that you are right, in any any circumstance. It can be the most embarrassing moment when you break down for simple things, but I can say that this is not your fault and please find persons that can be your safe place if, you have no professional help.

Conceal their Feelings…

I’m not the most trusting person now. The few people I have in my life, I protect like a wolf. If I’m meeting anyone new, it’s really hard for me to trust them or even get comfortable with them. Hence my terrible relationship experiences. I tend to rarely show real emotions with new people and I can honestly say this is because that the people who were supposed to family, ruined that trust. Like before, this is not your fault and may take some time to work through. It’s okay to be antisocial, but have people that you can be social with. After all, you are human. Join fun groups on Instagram and share with those in similar circumstances. You must understand as well, that you are not a machine, those emotions will break through.

Apologises Constantly…

In my experience, I don’t apologize anymore. Only to people that deserve it. But for my closest friends, they tend to apologize if there’s something wrong. Even if they are in the right, which is very common. Please, be patient with us, it’s not their’s or our fault. It’s probably something that they’ve gotten used to doing because they’d have to apologize whenever they’re “wrong”. Tell them that it is okay and they have no need to apologise. It is not your fault and you need to stay strong, darlings.

Needs Reassurance and Motivation…

There’s nothing wrong with needing reassurance and motivation, it’s definitely good for your mental health. Personally, I’ve been reassured more times that I can count and helped my friends as well. I could only say that this is because we come from such negative backgrounds, that once we have something good, it’s hard to believe it. Like before, the best thing to do is remain patient. We or their are doing our best to keep motivated and reassured on our own. However, that can become stressful by ourselves, so when we come to others for that support, please be understanding and patient.