Getting interested is really powerful than being interesting .
By: Talha A. Mughal
Tags: Behaviorism, General, Entrepreneurship, Relationships, Conversations

Whom you search for in a college group photo? For whom growth you are actually concern about? About whom you think about most of the time? The answer is you — Yourself. People want to be praised and wish others to talk positively about them. They starts listening motivation speeches and constantly remain in an unending quest of finding what is best for them and how they can improve their well-being. You have witnessed, people usually visit conjurers and palmists to get a prediction about their future. In any way people want to know about their selves. They get fond of themselves developing a grave interest in finding ways that makes them happy. As a result, the person who get interested in their actions get interesting in itself for them.

Do you believe, how many times people used “I” in their phone calls showing their self-obsession? It was 39,000 times in 500 telephone calls — a research made by The York Telephone Company. Dale Carnegie in his book How to win friends and influence people explains, very impressively, how it is really important to get interested in others matter to get yourself super interesting. He talks about the story of the famous German Kaiser (a word used for emperor in German) who saved him by flying to Holland in World War I. His nation got against him. In this time of hatred a little boy sent him a letter showing him kindness that read he would always love Wilhelm as his Emperor. It casted a deep effect on him and he invited the little boy to see him while endangering his life. The boy came, with his mother — to whom he got married then.

Ashfaq Ahmed (a famous Pakistani writer, playwright and broadcaster) use to say, it is a rule of nature what you divides in people, you’ll get the same back in return whether it is curse, goodness or anything else. If you are getting an interest in someone else’s actions conversely you are making yourself interesting to them and it really works. I experimented it myself. Once I invited my friend for having a tea. Allegedly, I started conversation with an aim of boasting my own actions and defining how I got succeeded. He showed his interest initially but when conversation got continued and I didn't ask him about anything from his life he got bored resulting in loss of his interest. Later, upon thanking me for the tea he left the place wearing a strange rude expression. After some days I met him again and asked him question about himself like what is he doing these days? What are his future plans? Etc. and results were amazing. He got very much in the conversation neglecting the fact that I was exactly telling the same thing about myself as I told him before but in a different manner by relating his story to mine. I’d like to highly recommend you to try it out by yourself. Hence, getting interested rather interesting is really a powerful tool to get yourself interesting.

As a matter of fact, I implemented the same strategy in this blog. Starting with a common question to whom everyone can relate I grabbed your attention and interest. In second para I explained how much you are actually obsessive about yourselves by showing some statistics report and in the last I described everything about myself, without losing your interest, and told you how I used my power of getting interested rather interesting lead me to having a great talk.

Just think what if I started to talk about myself in the beginning irrespective of your area of interest. What would be the results? Surely you will never read it.