Are We Still Attention-Seeking Babies?
Tags: Psychology, Affection, Narcissism, Love, Acceptance

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As the most “social animals” of the planet, we humans have certain social instincts. One of these “instincts” is craving for attention. Some of us feel the urge to have it more than the rest.

We Physically Work To Get Attention

People can do pretty weird things to have attention. Like girls caking their faces up, to beat each other out there. Wanting to be the “prettiest” or the most “attractive”. People working their bodies out at the gym or anywhere else, not concerned about their health, concerned about how “healthy” they will be looking to fellow humans.

People wish to have big identities so as they can prove themselves superior in front of their fellow mates. It will be safe to say that most humans have attention-seeking issues.

Why Are We Like This?

Attention seeking instinct develops in the early years. We as babies, need people to assist us. We need someone to feed us, we need someone to change our clothing, we need someone to protect us, we need someone to take care of us.

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We are extremely dependent when young. This dependency makes us cry for attention. As adults though, we cannot cry for attention. We instead do activities that we think will reward us with appreciation and respect.

The attention-hungry child in us never grows up. We just learn how to behave in “adult society”. We change our external behaviors when we realize that the “adult world” works differently. It does not give you the recognition you earlier had as a kid. You have to keep increasing your efforts to gain attention as you age. To gain love and to be valued we keep increasing our efforts.

You Can End Up Having Bad Personality Traits

Sometimes this wounded inner child in action can turn you into a narcissistic personality. Someone who’d go to any extent to be admired. You might feel like you’re being overlooked or you deserve way more than what you’re getting. You might get envious of people around you.

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You might even turn manipulative to feed your inner child. In short terms, you might gain attention and affection, but on longer terms, people will lose interest in you if they see you as someone with a superiority complex.

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As an adult, you should not be needing approval from others on your actions. If you’re doing things keeping people in your mind all the time, it’s going to drain you out. The need for love and the need to be “accepted” might turn you into a person with low self-esteem.

Be Conscious About Yourself

You don’t have to portray yourself as something that you’re not. Co-dependency as an adult is not healthy at all. You have to be conscious of your feelings. If you think you have an overactive attention-hungry baby inside you, you need to calm it down before it creates havoc in your life.

If you’re a person who’s trying to get rid of your attention-seeking behavior, you should try to physically keep yourself away from triggering environments. You need to know how to love yourself, as your fellow close people may or may not know how to do the job rightly.

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