The Biggest Losers.
By: Ernest Sandefer
Tags: Beauty Standards, Thinkpiece, Lizzo, Black Women, Fatphobia

I didn’t want to waste all this newly inherited free-time on this stupid ass topic, but I see no one saying what I feel needs to be said so as usual, I have to disturb my peace to write this piece and share my piece of mind. I’m no stranger to the big gals. If I’m not loving them offline I’m writing about them periodically because I’m no fetishizer, just a man who with many developed palates. BB-dubs (BBW’s) is just one of them. Sue me. Beautiful people in general, no matter their size, but this isn’t about me, this is about Lizzo and many other women who are of similar body type.

Why They Mad.

If you’ve been living under a rock or donut box you probably missed the backlash Lizzo got for endorsing a flat tummy tea brand and working out. Blasphemous, right? How dare someone endorse an alleged weight loss product and worse, how dare someone have weight loss goals and even worse than that how dare someone put in work to meet those weight loss goals instead of just wishing on a star? Instead of forcing men to find her attractive, Lizzo is deciding to not rely on a man’s gaze to make her feel pretty. She’s deciding to lose weight for her own personal reasons and even if it were for a man, she’s still pissing the wrong people off. When I say “the wrong people” I don’t mean people she shouldn’t piss off, I mean people who she shouldn’t give a damn about anyways because they never gave a damn about her.

What They Saying.

What these losers are saying when they’re expressing their disappointment with Lizzo is “you’re supposed to stay undesirable like me and the rest of us “undesirables” out there.” Wow. Just wow. Of course I have more to say, but still, wow. Now that I’m all wow’d out let me take on this mindset. For starters, Lizzo is indeed desirable. How do I figure, I believe so. She’s not just attractive because she is black or because she’s a BBW, but also because she’s just an overall sweet woman with a banging personality and a sense of human that is actually funny. Yes ladies, men like to laugh, too. Have any of y’all ever thought about why people actually liked Lizzo instead of just assuming people liked her because she was fat like you or fat and black like you? She’s one hell of a singer, she’s one hell of a performer, she’s pretty and she’s funny. Sounds like a lot of traits that’d anyone would like or love in a person. If your fandom for her goes away with her weight then it wasn’t Lizzo you were a fan of it was her weight. So if a guy were to fetishize her for her weight he’d be wrong, but you only like her for the same reason that fetishizer fetishize her for. Make it make sense, please. White people we know why you’re mad. Lizzo was/is your mammy. Your menstrual show. Now that she’s deciding to do something for herself for once, it doesn’t sit right with you. You want her to be big, loud, dance for you and twerk to encourage folks to vote (Democrat) but the moment she deicides to dance and do for herself she’s falling in line with European beauty standards. The same standards y’all have no problem with when calling dark-skinned black men predators with no proof or provocation.

P.s. weight loss programs/fitness is not fatphobic. Assuming someone is undesirable because they are fat is fatphobic. You may have been disregarded because of your weight, but your attitude and mentality is trash and that’s the bigger issue here. Not your weight, not undeserving people judging you because of your weight. Lizzo owes you nothing. I wish I can say she owes me a lap-dance, but that’s not the case therefore that comment is null and void.