Amal Totkay
By: Mariyam Muhammad Iqbal
Tags: Amal Academy

Developing a Growth Mindset

Self Talk

“The way you choose to think and speak about yourself (to yourself and others), IS A CHOICE! You may have spent your whole life talking about yourself in a negative way, but that doesn’t mean you have to continue that path.” — Miya Yamanouchi

According to me, self-talk is a thing that a person naturally does throughout. It literally helps in increasing the self confidence of an individual and curbs al the negative thoughts and emotions. I am practicing self talk in my life and always keep asking myself what I am doing, is it right or not? is the work will improve and polish myself or not? I believe it is our inner voice which we may not have focused but when you practice it, it makes you feel good one who self talks is thought to be more motivated, productive and confident.

2. Get Out Of Your Comfort Zone

“You never change your life until you step out of your comfort zone; change begins at the end of your comfort zone.”

― Roy T. Bennett

Many times we read articles of how to get out of the comfort zone and many other times we hear people talking about how to jump out of the comfort zone but do we really know what it means to get out of the comfort zone.

To get out of the comfort zone means to do the things in which one is not comfortable doing and to get yourself stepped out of the comfort zone is really a daunting task. However, if one gets him or herself out of the comfort zone, his/her performance in life as well as at work starts improving.

Getting out of the comfort zone means achieving goals, and most of all attaining success. Stepping out of a comfort zone according to Wikipedia raises anxiety and generates a stress response, this results in an enhanced level of concentration and focus.

I am now trying to get myself out of the comfort zone so that I would improve my soft as well as hard skill to achieve my goals and to get succeeded in life.

3. Create New Habits

“It is easier to prevent bad habits than to break them.” ―Benjamin Franklin

“Successful people aren’t born that way. They become successful by establishing the habit of doing things unsuccessful people don’t like to do.” ―William Makepeace Thackeray

Adopting new habits is itself a part of getting out of comfort zone as it requires a passion, determination and courage to adopt any new thing. However, a lot of time and efforts are taken to develop habits.

If the good habits are created, it helps in reaching and achieving the goals and enhances the overall quality of life.

“Motivation is what gets you started. Habit is what keeps you going.” — J Rohn

Moreover, good habits lead to the effectiveness of an individual and help one to become a person everyone wishes to be, allow one to help other people all around and help in reaping the lifelong advantages. I have adopted the good habits such as reading novels, searching new things, reciting Holy Quran, and spending time for meditation.

4. Ask People For Help

“I’ve never been good with asking for help; it seems risky, but at some point when things are really dicey, your stubbornness gives way to a certain form of humility that, after you get over yourself, feels liberating. I started to believe that the universe was conspiring to help me finish my house, sending people along at the right moment.”

― Dee Williams

When I was a teenager, I would ask for help from everyone because I used to think everyone is my friend but I was wrong. Time has taught me that not everyone is your friend and can be trusted nor everyone gives you a helpful advice. Sometimes, what we do usually, we start trusting people think they are our real friends but no, they are not. They are the real life snakes in our life who do not want us to get succeeded in life. So, I learnt that ask help from those who you think are your true well wishers and want to you get success in every step of your life.

5. Fake It Till You Make It

Just believe in yourself. Even if you don’t, pretend that you do and, at some point. you will. — Venus Williams

I understand by this statement, ‘Fake it till you make it’ that when we imitate our competency, confidence, and an optimistic mindset, we can have all these things actually in our real life. I have experienced this before. I was not confident in the beginning but I would always pretend others that I am very much confident. By pretending, I believe I have got the quality of being confident as I always wanted to be confident. As faking challenges one to perform any task which he/she is not good at, motivates an individual to act in a different manner to meet his/her desired goals, help in adopting a behavior which will help in leading towards a better future.

I have found the five tips (Totkays) amazing and incredible as these tips help in the development of growth mindset of an individual. The conclusion is that all the tips are required to adopt for people who want to have growth mindset instead of fixed. I loved each tip described and explained in the course. As I am already practicing and implementing most of the tips in my daily life, I will practice more to develop a growth mindset.