DEATH: AN ORGANIC EVENT…..
Tags: Covid, Todo, Death, Co Vid

DEATH: AN ORGANIC EVENT…..

A major realization yesterday, I owe it all to my ‘dead’(it took some time and hesitation to write the word) friend and her graciousness and wisdom of who she was when she was alive and what she gave me with her death news.

Death is a very organic event which has not changed at all. What has changed over time is the meaning we have given it. We call it transition, passing, old age, end of chronic disease,pain reliever, gone,a better place, heaven, sky, angels, COVID,journey….. and many other names depending on our belief systems and also our understanding of that organic event in our lives to give it a meaning to what just happened.

We are going back to basics in so many areas of our lives with this new way of living with COVID that it is about time we go back to basics of acknowledging the word death as an organic event and just see what comes up for us.

So after yesterday’s emotional pain I started contacting all those people that had come to my mind recently and I had not reached out. The reason for me contacting them was not because ‘What if something happens to them or they die(this was not the thought at all even though it seemed like it initially) But on internal investigation, the thought was. “what if something happens to me and I die and I do not get an opportunity to say hello or good byes to them”.

Thinking of death as organic as it is…..brought me closer to myself and my fears. I just had a realization that I am worried about my death also when events like this happens. It gets projected in my worry towards my loved ones and my worry about loosing someone. Isn’t that interesting…I am worried about losing myself to death!!

Such an organic thought and it brought me so much peace in so many ways.Yes, I might die, don’t know how and don’t know when. I never knew that before COVID either. Why is that fear of the unknown so real now. How ignorant to think I had better control of that event in my life earlier. It is okay to be aware of that unknown event. And I want to make sure I do what I need to do, say, feel and express before that time comes

As the meaning we gave, the time frame seemed more farther out with the stories we told ourselves. COVID has come with a gentle reminder that we were in an illusion and not seeing death as a raw organic event.

A practical aspect that we all need to answer this time along with all the self work that is happening is below:

✅Do you have a will?

✅Do you have a power of attorney to make the final decisions for you? If you love your loved ones please do this and help them not have to make a decision for you. You owe them freedom from the guilt and the should’ve and could’ve

✅Have you shared your personal information to the people you trust who can take care of your family after your death. If you have children this is very important to have clarity on. We don’t know when we will die but we know what we would want for them if we died

Very organic and direct questions….but we cannot ignore them. If you don’t have the above in place, I highly recommend you do something about it and start putting it on paper. I sure don’t have it all either

Of course, do it with a smile on your face because death is organic and was always there and will always be there!! It’s the fierce conversations we need to have with ourselves to help give closures to our loved ones when our time comes