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Heart Hotel
By: Jeremy Rumble
Tags: Meditation, Somatic Practice, Heart Centered, Forgiveness, Love Yourself

Heart Hotel

A lot of things can be said about forgiveness. If you’re not ready to, nothing I can say will change that. You might as well stop here.

I’m going to keep going. What is forgiveness? How do we learn it?

I’m probably not qualified to answer these questions. That’s okay though. I think maybe you’ll find the answers you need either way.

So what are we doing here?

I’ve been learning the importance of not doing everything from mind.

Turns out these things we have holding our heads up … well they’re also pretty smart.

If you’re like me, it may be necessary to learn to get into the body by learning it in the mind.

Hell if you’re like I was just a couple years ago, you might balk at the idea. My body works fine. I’m clearly living in it or else I’d be in someone else’s body or an AI, amirite?

But no. There’s more.

It’s not so simple.

In fact it’s probably the simplest thing ever, but the mind will try to understand it in ways that brush it off as being simply feeling good or feeling bad.

So trying to understand it is how books fill with pages and songs fill with lyrics. Simplest, most complex thing ever.

Confused yet?

There’re many ways to get there.

This one’s called the Heart Hotel.
Forgiving You Is Easy But Believing You Again Is Not
Tags: Relationships, Life Lessons, Forgiveness, Love, Thoughts And Feelings

Forgiving You Is Easy But Believing You Again Is Not

Photo by CHUTTERSNAP on Unsplash

You said you were sorry,

You asked me to forgive you for the last time,

You promised that it won’t happen again.

And I got fooled, every single time.

My heart broke, every single time.

But today, I don’t regret forgiving you.

I would do that a thousand times if you ask me to.

Because my dear, forgiveness is easy,

But believing you again is not!

— Prudence
Forgiveness: What’s in it for me?
By: Dave Fogarty
Tags: Cleanse, Forgiveness

“Forgiveness is not an occasional act; it is a constant attitude.”



You want to get rid of stress, fear, foreboding, bad dreams and lots of other junk? Then follow Martin Luther King Jr.’s advice and make forgiveness an everyday part of your life. Forgiveness is like pouring clean water into a murky glass. The pure water eventually dilutes the grease and grime of human life, opening the way to Nirvana and Moksa. Here are some actions to consider:



Say a prayer out loud that includes “please forgive me” asking the supreme being to forgive you for the wrongs you know you’ve committed, and those you may not be aware of.



Meditate silently, and forgive those that have hurt you and your loved ones.



Ask for forgiveness from someone that you’ve hurt.



Tell someone who hurt you and your loved ones that you forgive them.



Do a ritual cleanse like the Balinese water purification ceremony (See Washing It Off blog, August 10, 2020)



Write down on a piece of paper what you want to be forgiven for, and throw it into the fire. (See Fire Purification blog, August 11, 2020 ).



Make up your own ritual to give and receive forgiveness.



Decide to forgive yourself, sometimes the hardest act of all.



Toss your “You Hurt Me List”



You don’t realize how much your grievances are harming you until you’ve let them go. Have you ever consciously or unconsciously collected a list of complaints about your spouse, friends, enemies, the government? I have, and just so you know, my list has a great deal
“Mothers Advice”
Tags: Poems On Medium, Greif, Poetry, Forgiveness

I wish i could ask her,

What the right answer is.

Before it was too late.

-M.M
Forgiveness or despair?
By: Curious Stranger
Tags: Despair, Love, Forgiveness, Relationships

Love is a tough feeling. It makes you weak, blind and sometimes stupid. Not forever. Just as long as it takes for a pink illusion in our brains to clear up. Then it grows into something real, possibly happily ever after.

A lot of times love negatively affects women more than man. We are ready to ignore anything when it comes to being with someone we are attached to. Is there a limit tho? How much are you willing to forgive and close your eyes on? Object of interest lies about education, job, whereabouts… not as bad as it could be. Maybe he lacks confidence. Okay. He or she fakes personality. Being so nice to everyone but talking sh*t about them behind the back. Who isn’t guilty of it? Okay. Cheating? Gets caught. Keeps lying instead of admitting and asking forgiveness. It hurts, but “no one made me feel like that” kicks in as an excuse. More?

Are honesty and loyalty not that important for healthy happy relationships? Isn’t it like being high on drugs. Feels good even though you know it’s not right, it may turn against you one day. Not today, not at the moment. So let it be? Live in a moment. Maybe it’s right.

Let’s make it clear, I’m not talking about open relationships or polygamous relationships where partners agree on certain terms. They are honest. I’m talking about partners where one is constantly shapes her- or himself to just be with that other person. It’s not agreement, but they are happy at the moment. So maybe there is no right or wrong? I don’t know. I don’t t understand it. I would love to though.

All of us get hurt by other people at least once in life. It’s part of being. We all have a choice to make, but aren’t you getting tired of lies? One thing when you don’t know what other person hides. The other thing is constantly cover up new details with another excuse. Aren’t you tired? Is it a type of relationship or a desperate need for not being alone? Being single isn’t loneliness. It’s being in relationship with yourself. Is being in relationship that has been built on lies a despair or just choice to make? How long can you make a deal with your own conscience? What do you feel? I know how I would feel. It didn’t take me long to lose an interest while lies were unfolding one after another. But it’s me. What do people that compromise big and small feel? I genuinely want to understand. Not to judge. Just understand why.
Did you forgive yourself for what you didn’t know before?
By: Bert M. Ohnemüller
Tags: Decade Of Humanity, Forgiveness, Humanity, Achievement, Changemaker

Dawn Friedman

Did you forgive yourself for what you didn’t know before?

Don’t be cruel to yourself.

Maybe you didn’t realize it the last time you were cruel to yourself, maybe you would not realize it still. But it exists. There are times when you are the cruelest to you.

A crisis has a lot of ‘side-effects’ like cruelty — we all have to face a huge amount of suffering to grow — every situation is a potential personal coach, without any extra expenses. We must learn to use the lessons wisely instead of being cruel to yourself.

Don’t punish yourself or carry your mistakes on your shoulder. Instead, analyze them, place them under your feet, and use them as stepping stones. It has been a while that we are all together in suffering. Our past is explaining why we are suffering and invites us to reconsider it. Every suffering has an end. All that matters is what we have learned during those situations.

How wisely we have used the time. Jim Rohn says: “Suffer the pain of discipline, or suffer the pain of regret”. We cannot change what has happened and what has brought us to this point, but we can use this struggle for our future progress.

Again, it is a question of changing your mind to change your reality. See any challenging situation as a free coaching session. Life means lifelong development and learning — say “Yes” to life and grow instead of shrinking.

This is your life, this is the moment, to write and rewrite your history. Be grateful for any mistake and look at it as a stepping stone to your legacy.

If you feel you are doing good, then strive to make it better. And, if you feel otherwise, then start all over again. These times give you a chance to transform in both cases. Tough times don’t last, but tough people do.

Ask Yourself
What Just Happened?
By: Patricia Rosa
Tags: Conversations, Relationships, Storytelling, Forgiveness, Work Life Balance

You have exciting news, and you just can’t wait to share your story. You start the conversation, and your partner or spouse takes over the conversation and turns it into something totally different.

You’ve had a difficult day, but this one thing made it a bit better. What just happened? That’s what you ask yourself. How did this conversation go so wrong?

It wasn’t you. Sometimes you just have to accept that. What just happened isn’t your fault. Perhaps your spouse was tired or had a bad themselves.

You could get mad, only to find one of you sleeping on the couch tonight. Or you could just get over it and forgive.

Forgiveness is a powerful thing. Forgiveness you give away, expecting nothing in return.

What just happened, is over. No one has the power to take that away from you if you don’t let them.
Now he knows
By: Minda Corso
Tags: Obedience, Forgiveness

Huldah. How many of you have heard of her? I remember reading about her for the first time a few years ago and was a big fan. While I’m not jealous of her name, she was a prophetess, and that’s pretty great.

Not too many female prophetesses that I know of in the bible. Her grandfather-in-law was Keeper of the Wardrobe. (Random trivia fact for you.)

So, Huldah. What’s her story? I’m glad you asked. 😆 King Josiah (the guy who became king at 8 years young) finds out there is a Book of the Law he hasn’t been following. 18 years into his reign he learned this. And is devastated. He now knew what the Word said — knew his actions hadn’t aligned — and believed God’s anger would be forever against him.

Enter the kick-butt prophetess: Huldah. She responds to King Josiah with this: “Because your heart was responsive and you humbled yourself before the Lord when you heard what I have spoken against this place and it’s people… You tore your robes and wept in my presence, I have heard you, declares the Lord… Your eyes will not see all the disaster…” (2 Kings 22:19ish)

So I’m not saying you need to tear your clothes, but weeping, fasting, and apologies/repentance go a long way. God is gracious and kind. And maybe you need someone today to remind you that His heart toward you is good, that he hears you, and that he forgives. Let Huldah give you that reminder.
So Grateful
By: Toni Crowe
Tags: Poetry, This Happened To Me, Forgiveness, Women, Poem

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7 Ways to Help Overcome Bitterness
By: Madison Gilbert
Tags: Overthinking, Forgiveness, Bitterness, Overcoming Obstacles, Mental Health

Ouch. You’re going to want to scroll right over this one. Many of us have been hurt in our lives, and if we aren’t careful that hurt can turn into bitterness. Making that the only thing we can think about. Bitterness sets us back from being ourselves and from experiencing happiness, and most importantly it sets us back from God. So, here are 7 ways to help you overcome bitterness that has helped me.

Buy a journal.

I can’t express how much buying a journal and writing in it has helped me overcome things. Write how that person or multiple people have hurt you and how it made you feel, what haunts you most about the situation?

2. Write a letter.

Write a letter addressed to them, tell them how much they hurt you in that letter, how badly you wanted to get your revenge. Call them names, let it all out, and once you’re done writing that letter, burn it.

3. Take a break from sharing.

Try to quit telling everyone you come in contact with how badly that person has done you wrong, it will be a struggle but it is definitely worth it. It’s a step in the right direction, plus people will want to be around you more.

4. Stop stalking.

Quit going on social media and going through their lives from seven years ago, stop asking people about them, and the latest they have heard. It will just more than likely set you up for heartbreak, hurt, self-torture, and low self-esteem.

5. Pray about it.

Yes, one of the most cliché but also the most effective. Ask God to help you move on, ask him to help you forgive them.

6. Forgive.

Eventually, open your mind up to forgiving that person or multiple people that have done you wrong. Maybe they didn’t realize what they said would hurt you, maybe they didn’t aim it towards you, or maybe they did. Either way, no matter how much you want them to rot, they deserve forgiveness. Remember, God will judge them. Forgiving them is hard and seems unimaginable, but with time comes healing, and healing comes forgiveness.

7. Move on.

Now that you have eventually forgave them, try to keep looking in the right direction. Don’t turn back, leave the past in the past. If you’re stuck on the past, it hinders your future. Now that you don’t have anything that sets you back, you can finally move on and be the best version of yourself.
5 Steps to Forgiveness
By: Mj Blehart
Tags: Mindfulness, Forgiveness, Life, Self, Mental Health

Let’s talk about forgiveness. It’s been a subset of my writing all week here.

It is very, very important to acknowledge that forgiveness is NOT forgetting being wronged, nor ignoring that something happened, nor denying that you were upset or offended by something.

This is equally true whether this is a matter of forgiving yourself or someone else.

When it comes to the bigger picture disputes we’re inundated with every day, the idea of forgiveness isn’t truly applicable.

Right now, there are a lot of people and circumstances that will be difficult, if not veritably impossible, to forgive. This almost turned into a whole political thing — because, in the United States right now, we’re faced with a lot of people doing and saying terrible things that are largely unforgivable.

When it comes to the grand scheme of things, forgiveness is a challenging idea. I, for one, will not just forgive the people who are blindly siding with white supremacists, hate-mongers, and threatening people I care about just because we’re on opposite sides of an artificial divide. I don’t expect anyone else to forgive this — not without those people recognizing how their behaviors are having a negative impact on the world.

Frankly, forgiveness on that scale is not really in your control anyhow. That’s because you have no control over anyone but you.

Releasing the idea of forgiveness for the big picture is important — because it makes it far easier to be accountable to yourself and the people who are a part of your life. Because that’s the only place where forgiveness can occur.
Why is Forgiving Yourself so Important?
By: Mj Blehart
Tags: Self Improvement, Mindfulness, Forgiveness, Life, Mental Health

The number of times I have fucked things up in my life is pretty impressive. I mean, when it comes to doing it wrong, choosing poorly, and generally screwing up in some way or other — I am a pro.

How many of you can make the same statement? Do you also believe yourself to be a professional fuck-up? Or maybe you haven’t reached the level of fuck-up, but are a professional screw-up?

Here’s the thing — this is true of EVERYONE. Every. Single. Person. On. Earth. Screws-up or fucks-up stuff. Everyone.

Some people cannot admit this to anyone, themselves included. I give you exhibit ‘A’ — Donald Trump. As far as he is concerned, he is always right and certainly never screws-up or fucks-up in the least. Unless you are part of his cult followers — you know that nothing could be farther from the truth.

But this is not the point of this article — so let’s move on.

You are going to get it wrong, mess up, fail, screw-up, unintentionally cause hurt, and fuck-up from time to time. Likely, you already have. No matter what you do, odds are you’ll do so again.

Recognizing this, you have a choice. Hold onto the idea that you ARE a fuck-up when you get it wrong — or that you fucked-up but are still just a person trying to live your life. The difference is huge — because when you personify that negativity it will interfere with your life on many levels.

On the other hand, when you see it for what it is — a human error — you can let it go and move forward. And that’s where forgiveness comes in.
Son, Be of Good Cheer, Thy Sins Be Forgiven Thee
By: M.X. Christopher
Tags: Jesus, Forgiveness, Christianity, Self, Mental Health

“Son, Be of Good Cheer, Thy Sins be Forgiven Thee”

Often times we can be found beating our chests, asking for forgiveness, yet still feeling guilty. We would do well to study this scripture out of Matthew 9:2.

You are forgiven.

What Jesus does in this verse is so amazing, because he not only forgives this man before the man even says a word, but he shows the redemptive power of forgiveness. Jesus shows that forgiveness heals.

How many of us carry heavy burdens?

It’s not unknown in these days that holding onto guilt, shame, anger, or fear can lead to pathologies in the body.

Guilt and shame can actually make you sick.

The flip side is also true. True forgiveness heals, as Jesus shows.

Let’s get right to it then. Who is forgiven?

Everyone is forgiven. Only, not everyone receives forgiveness. But, this doesn’t mean they aren’t forgiven.

In John 3:29, John writes upon seeing Jesus, “Behold, the Lamb of God, who takes away the sin of the world!”

Takes away the sin of the world…

Now, if you are searching this scripture, many translations leave out the part where it says, who takes away the sin of the world. But, I have found it in my ESV bible.

So let’s get right to it…the Lamb of God, who takes away the sin of the world. Christ atoned for all sin, and every sin. There is nothing his forgiveness does not cover.

There are millions and millions of people walking around, carrying the sin and shame of their past, believing they must carry this weight for all their lives.

Jesus seems to whisper…I have already forgiven you. Come to me. Drink from my brook of bliss.

When will we simply run to him?
Can She Welcome Them Back?
By: William J Spirdione
Tags: Sonnet, Poetry, Family, Forgiveness, Anger

Can She Welcome Them Back?

photo by William J Spirdione

Can she welcome them back into her heart?

Crying so long she’s not cared for her soul.

Has it been too long? Much too late to start?

Only time, but still taking quite a toll.

She asked, “what did I do, what could I say?”

“Not even talk to me ever again?”

“I won’t get to feed the baby today.”

“Or read him a book, or ride on the train.”

Sometimes an answer is nowhere in sight.

It doesn’t much matter, how hard she tried.

But try still she will, with all of her might.

Long past the time she finds reason to cry.

Will she ever even let them back in?

“Of course”, she whispered, “what was I saying?”
How To Forgive the Year 2020, That MotherF*cker
By: Tarja Parssinen
Tags: Funny, Meditation, Forgiveness, Covid 19, Humor

To better understand the inherent shitiness of being you during the year 2020, the following is a technique that uses a forgiveness meditation script inspired by Danny Bonaduce and Bette Davis, a technique that relies on the cleansing flames of rage combined with pre-Method acting melodrama.

Meditation can be very intense. Remember to use your breath.

Now, you might feel disingenuous as you start the forgiveness meditation, but if we started in a place of genuine emotion, you would need an ark to carry your nameless terror, along with two of every ice cream flavor.

Let us begin:

1. Settle yourself. Find that perfect moment sometime after you wake up, but before you fall back into a waking sleep that is now known as “life.”

2. Visualize someone or something that’s harmed you, like the year 2020, which came in like Shirley Temple on the Good Ship Lollipop and then threw you overboard like a puppy in a weighted sack.

3. Label the feelings that arise in reaction to thinking about 2020. Call them gently by name — nay! Go forth and meet them as suggested in the meditative incantation by Clark W. Griswold in “Christmas Vacation” when he says, “I want to look him straight in the eye and I want to tell him what a cheap, lying, no-good, rotten, four-flushing, low-life, snake-licking, dirt-eating, inbred, overstuffed, ignorant, blood-sucking, dog-kissing, brainless, dickless, hopeless, heartless, fat-ass, bug-eyed, stiff-legged, spotty-lipped, worm-headed sack of monkey shit he is! Hallelujah! Holy Shit! Where’s the Tylenol?”

Damn you, 2020!

4. Bring awareness to the physical sensations inside you. Do you feel like ralphing? Upchucking? Nauseous? Yes. The exact opposite of a warm lavender neck-wrap and a foot massage.

5. Keeping 2020 in mind, say, “As best I can, you suck balls and I’m amazing. I wish myself joy and love.” Wait. That’s not it. “As best I can, I’ll look back on this time with a pure hatred for you and awe in my own strength.” Here we go: “Burn in Hell, 2020.”

6. Finally, experience the light-headedness caused by meditating in your mask, but also the lightness inside you. Feel the burden of resentment solidify into a beautiful, shiny stone, on to which you can carve the words “Up Yours” and place next to the Buddha on your dresser.

By putting 2020 behind you, or at least in a figure-four leg lock, you are moving towards Gratitude and Letting Go, also called Compartmentalization. Don’t worry, you can always return to the massive vortex of negative energy that consumed almost a year of your life — and feel free to drag loved ones with you.

Now, at last, you can move towards Light and Love! Also known as the year 2021, in the year of our Netflix, Prime, and HBO Max.
The choice of Forgiveness
Tags: Feelings, Life Lessons, Forgiveness, Strength, Life

The choice of Forgiveness

Though, can everything could be that easy for anyone to summon this strength?

*It is as if asking someone to forget the predicament all together, even if you try, the heart never allows this ignorance. The constant throbbing with every beat keeps replaying the broken promises, betrayal of someone you deemed trustworthy like a broken recorder. If you even happen to move on in your life the memories had kept you caged in every moment by making you second guessing every decision, every choice.

*Indirectly you are getting punished for someone else mistakes because remember you were not wrong in the first place for putting your trust in them. So why do we are bound to suffer?

*This is where comes the role of inner strength, a strength no one and absolutely nothing could deprive it from us. To feel its power, we need to learn the first step- To let it go.

*This nowhere means we feel pressurized by completely forgetting the awful incidents, it only means to give ourselves permission for scars to heal with time. So it’s important we first forgive ourselves for the choices we made, that went wrong.

*The pain may not be cured but surely with the time the harsh throbbing in heart would lessen to a dull ache and finally get healed because you gave the right remedy, an opportunity to it.

*It all happened in the past, so let it remain in the past and do not allow its presence anywhere in the future and further ruin our life. For this, we need to forgive the people who broke the promises or even if your own self happened to be the reason- forgive them.

Forgiveness is not a weakness instead it brings out an immense strength to give yourself a second chance without feeling burdened by your past anymore.

Because you deserve this second chance to once again believe in life, to believe in ourselves.

Thank you for your time.
Top 6 Secrets of Giving a Great Apology
By: Lisa Ryan
Tags: Relationships, Apology, Forgiveness, Love, Personal Development

I want to teach you today about how to deliver a great apology. It’s one of those things that we all think we do pretty well, but in truth, there’s a whole lot of room for improvement. For all of us. BIG people know how to apologize well. Giants, actually.

Start by saying “I am SO sorry!”

Try to never say “I apologize.” The word apologize feels more formal, more remote, and it doesn’t really feel as warm and authentic as the word “sorry.” So when you start your apology, please begin by saying “I am so so sorry!”

Choose Wisely

Choose something your partner really wants you to be sorry about. Don’t chicken out and pick something small. You’re much better than that.

Beat Yourself Up

Exaggeration is useful. Say something like, “I was so thoughtless. I was so selfish. I can’t believe how inconsiderate I was of you.” Lay it on thick. Hyperbole is helpful. Apologies are all about ownership, and beating yourself up big time helps the person who is receiving your apology recognize that you are owning all your stuff.

Identify the Pain You’ve Caused

For example: “You must’ve felt so abandoned. How humiliated you must have felt by what I did. You must have been so hurt by what I said.” Identify the pain your poor behavior caused. Again, hyperbole is SO essential.

Wrap It Up

If you can honestly promise that whatever it was that you did will never happen again, then please, say so. But most of the time we really can’t make that kind of a promise, and it’s really imperative to never break a promise to the person you love. So instead, maybe you could say something like, “I hope in time you can forgive me. Or I will do my best to make sure that never ever happens twice. I’m so very sorry.”

Change.

And change permanently. There’s no point in offering a solid apology if you keep making the same mistake over and over again. That just tells your spouse you’re not that sorry, because if you were, you would’ve permanently changed. Worse, you lose your credibility, and all future apologies have zero merit!

The MOST important thing to remember about delivering a great apology is to never include two things. They both start with E — to help you remember. There is no room in a power-packed apology for an Explanation or an Excuse.

It is so easy to take ourselves off the hook that we don’t even know we’re doing it. You’ll know when you’re trying to give an excuse or an explanation because you’ll be using words like if, but, however, the reason I did that was because, but you got understand… Not helpful. No if‘s and‘s or buts. Using those words just dilutes a great apology.

Giving a good apology is really hard work. We all make mistakes. We all make mistakes every day actually. I know I do. Sometimes I spent half my day delivering solid apologies.

That’s all for today. I hope you get forgiven!

For more helpful information to help you save your relationship, check out Counseling for Busy People.
Be Gentle With Yourself
By: Stephenie Zamora
Tags: Healing From Trauma, Growth Mindset, Self Care, Forgiveness

Today, this week, this month…try being gentle with yourself.

Every time you start pushing yourself, feel burdened by the things you think you should be doing, or you start drowning in the endless and often arbitrary expectations of others, slow down.

Be gentle with yourself.

Slow down for a bit.

Take your foot off the gas.

Rest and recover.

Say no more often.

You’ve been through a lot.

Feel your feelings and feed the parts that are coming alive in truly nurturing ways. Take space and cut yourself some slack. Get support in healing from everything that’s happened.

Stop punishing yourself for the missteps and failures. Forgive yourself for whatever you did or didn’t do. Give yourself grace, tenderness, and care. Learn how to sit inside the emptiness and be with yourself.

This is some of the most critical work we can do. It lays the foundation for what’s next to reveal itself, giving us the energy and ability to pursue it wholeheartedly.

💕
Sometimes You Make the Wrong Choice
By: Mj Blehart
Tags: Mindfulness, Forgiveness, Choices, Life, Self

Recently, in the interest of avoiding causing someone close to me hurt, I made a choice.

It’s not important what that choice was, but what is important is the aftermath. I thought I made the right choice to protect this person from potential pain. However, I was wrong. And I made the wrong choice.

Yes, I fucked up. Plain, and simple, I got it wrong. In the interest of avoiding causing hurt, I caused hurt. The choice I made in this situation was the wrong choice.

But you know what? It happens. That’s life. Sometimes you make the wrong choice.

For a long time, to avoid making the wrong choice — I frequently did not choose at all.

The result? I spent a lot of my life at a crossroads spinning around in circles — but not going anywhere.

The overall lesson I have gained from this experience is that the wrong choice is sometimes better than no choice at all.

Not making a choice is still a choice. But it doesn’t take you anywhere.

When you make a wrong choice — and you will — forgiveness might become necessary. If another person is involved — like in my situation — they need to be willing to forgive me.

But I also need to be willing to forgive me. And that’s often much harder.
Learn To Forgive
By: Destiny S. Harris
Tags: Life Lessons, Self Help, Forgiveness, Bitterness, Wisdom

Learn To Forgive

Photo by Gus Moretta on Unsplash

One of the worst things you can do to yourself is not to forgive someone for hurting you, letting you down, and not meeting your expectations. The unforgiveness will only cause dissemination of deterioration in multiple aspects of your life.

Everybody slips up and makes mistakes. Everyone has a reason why they make those mistakes. We might not always agree with the reason behind their actions, but we can all learn to develop empathy, sympathy, and understanding for those who do wrong to us and others.

Whenever we hurt someone else, we are hurting ourselves. People who consistently hurt others are only hurting themselves. Think about this the next time you struggle to forgive someone…. Maybe someone hurting you is the opportunity you needed to develop a deeper empathy.

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Chapters
By: Flip Flops To Snow Shoes
Tags: Divorce, Relationships, Forgiveness, Self Help, Motivational

Photo by Taisiia Shestopal on Unsplash

Buddhist saying, “People come in and out of our lives like chapters in our book.” And another, “Endeavour not to possess people, places or things”. And another, not Buddhist but same vein, “Can’t divorce the past. A person’s past forged who is here today”.

Life, people and relationships are not static. Why make binary decisions? Demand closure?

What is unhealthy in one moment is healthy in another. Why label? Judge? Impatiently? Out of context? Timing?

People are capable of growth; People are capable of regression.

Photo by Markus Spiske on Unsplash

Be gracious to yourself and others.

No man is an island,

entire of itself;

every man is a piece of the continent,

a part of the main.

If a clod be washed away by the sea,

Europe is the less,

as well as if a promontory were.

as well as if a manor of thy friend’s

or of thine own were.

Any man’s death diminishes me,

because I am involved in mankind;

and therefore never send to know for whom the bell tolls;

it tolls for thee. poet John Donne (1572–1631) Source: theidioms.com

no one is self-sufficient; everyone relies on others somehow

a person needs the support of others and society altogether to survive

nobody is actually self-contained; everyone must depend on others in order to thrive
Have You Heard? A SIMPLE REMINDER Is Your Best Bet To Grow
By: Fab To
Tags: Growth Mindset, Forgiveness, Happiness In Life, Smile, Celebrate

Your Life Is In yourHands

Photo by Ahmed Zayan on Unsplash

Be Happy

Leave jobs that bore you.

Move to a different state if that’s what your heart desires.

Switch careers if that’s what you want.

Love yourself a little harder every single damn day.

Fight — really fight — for the people you love and care about.

Never stay somewhere if you aren’t happy/content.

Stay curious.

Stay kind.

Forgive yourself.

Forgive others.

Give people a second chance.

—
The evil that men do lives after them;The good is oft interred with their bones.
By: Joseph Mariadassou
Tags: Sex Slave, Thomas Jefferson, Forgiveness

The evil that men do lives after them;The good is oft interred with their bones. (William Shakespeare, Julius Caesar)

The norms were different at that time. Abraham Lincoln and Mahatma Gandhi said terrible things about black peoples. Harping on the bad stuff bodes no good. Let’s forgive forget and move on. Besides If she had four children with him I would think she was more than a sex slave.
Forgiveness: Relief from Hatred.
By: Yuvraj Dhepe
Tags: Learning, Storytelling, Forgiveness, Children, Class

Imagine you are in your old school, n now is the last class, the arts class.

You are taking out your newly brought colors, n showing them to your old school friends smiling and charming and are excited which drawing will you do today or which activity is gonna be there today.

As you are chatting, the teacher comes in and intuitively asks the class, do you hate someone ? Even though the class was only of 7th Std, folks were shouting out loud speaking Yes they do.

So the teacher was a bit surprised, but continued and shared the idea that tomorrow each one of you will bring as many potatoes as many people you hate and write the person’s name you hate the most. After the activity was done folks were told to keep these potatoes within their sack for 7 days. Teacher at the end mentioned that on the 7th day your hatred will vanish.

The Students got excited and got the potatoes the next day. Some got 2, some 3 and some even got 5 potatoes in their sack, in the hope and kinda magic they wanted to see how hate can vanish.

(Well may be more than hate to these little hearts, vanishing might have been something more intriguing isn’t it ?)

As discussed the day before, every student wrote the name of the person on potatoes, whom they hated the most. Later everyday they carried potatoes. Three days passed by, from the 4th day student’s started complaining, about the smell of the potatoes getting rotten, also how heavy the potatoes were which they had to bear everyday.

Soon the 7th day came, and the teacher asked how do you feel about the people, potatoes I mean, which you had been carrying my young friends. Students broke out loudly with complaints of foul smell, of heavy weight they were carrying everyday and how unhappy they got in the 7 days time.

The teacher finally after listening to her class, said to students this is just a potato, which you could not bear just for 7 days, and god knows for how long you all had been bearing the hate regards to people in your tender hearts. Like potatoes, the hatred when beared in hearts everyday, starts to become heavy and you start disliking yourself because of the feeling you get if you see that person around or think about them.

Hate only increases when you remember the person, or meet them. Hate doesn’t do any good, so today you can throw this rotten potato and also throw away the hate from your hearts about the people and forgive the people you hate. You may remember the good time you had with the people and enjoy your time loving and respecting what you have.

Moral: Hatred when brought to heart, stays and builds heaviness in hearts whereas if you bring forgiveness in the heart it removes all the hatred and makes your heart feel light and charming about this gift we all have i.e Life.

Well this is a story which I read and is not solely mine but still if you relate to it I would love to hear the genuine experience of yours in the comments.

Join me on this 15 story journey.

Here is my previous story if you like to give a read.

#S2: Thank you: A story of bravery.
Distractions Cannot Heal :
By: Riya Saroha
Tags: Calmness, Mindfulness, Meditation, Forgiveness, Acceptance

Distractions Cannot Heal :

All of us go through moments of physical or emotional pain – disappointments, illnesses, relationship issues, failures, fears, stress or grief. We need to begin the healing process at the first trace of pain. But instead, we often shy away from the problem by diverting our mind with distractions like TV, shopping, chatting, games, smoking or anything else. Our pain needs healing, not diversion. Wounds don’t subside with distractions, they get deeper when left unattended.

When your mind is disturbed, do you distract it, in the name of de-stressors? Or do you spend time talking to yourself, finding out what is troubling you, comforting the mind and healing the pain? At times, do you rely on other people or on time to heal emotional wounds? When feeling low, we often try to escape the emotional wound by distracting the mind towards shopping, television, holiday or addictions. The mind might not feel the pain, but the pain is still present. And as time passes, it can only get deeper because instead of healing it, we chose to temporarily relieve it. Our wounds of stress, anger or hurt are a result of our wrong thoughts. Spending time with ourselves and creating right thoughts now can heal the wound. Let us not use distractions, or depend on other people, or leave it to time. No-one else can either hurt us or heal us. Face your emotions, find the tool of knowledge and heal it. Remind yourself - I am a healer. No distraction can heal my wound. I heal myself with love and care. I face my emotions. I don’t try to escape it by distracting my mind.✨
Little Lies
By: Lennie Varvarides
Tags: Writing, Poetry, Forgiveness, Poem, Poets Unlimited

Little Lies

A poem about forgiveness

Immidiatly,

There is a frame.

It works for most.

Patterns and systems fly.

Off the handle procuders

Make sense.

Orders to follow and be followed by.

But some can’t keep in line.

So they are forced to lie.

Others colour out side the tracks. Leaving marks they choose to hide.

Confident they can and will get by.

Half eaten apples roll into bushes. Out of sight and out of mind.

Squriles chase eachother around bends that will not break.

Our mistakes are in tact.

There is nothing left to complain.

Woods are stolen by the rich.

While others hope for better things.

But hope is cheap and words are free and lies cost the lier little.

Immidiatly, a response is dishonest. Forgiveness has been known to lie. Sincier bitterness can lurk or hide, Between the touch or gap of two lips, parting.

I know, it sounds so harsh

Mixing up a godley act like forgivness with deceit,

But first we must admit,

That no one ever means sorry and no one can forgive.
Absolutely, David Grant.
By: Lanu Pitan
Tags: Spirituality, Forgiveness

An avid reader. A lover of Nature as Nature is the language of God. Trust your intuition. It is always right. Email: lanu_bennett@hotmail.com
Bullies
By: Amy Pierovich
Tags: Poetry, Pain, Forgiveness, Truth, Bullying

Bullies

Photo by Camellia Yang on Unsplash

Bullies, you know who you are,

cloaked in your finery,

you do not fool me.

I’d recognize you anywhere,

you victimize and blame,

those weaker than you

more vulnerable

you play an ugly game.

Bullies, you must answer to yourselves,

look into the mirror

you can not live free.

I challenge all of you bullies,

to answer the truth of who you are:

the ugliness of shame.

Bullies, someone must have hurt you,

which you carry deep inside,

so I find myself forgiving you,

in spite of all my pain.

Bullies, you called me unspeakable names,

alleged I was trying to steal your boyfriends,

how could that be true,

unless I possessed some sort of magical power,

a modern-day Mata Hari, far surpassing you.

But these were all lies, untruths,

spoken by the three of you,

two sisters and a red head,

God is watching you.

Bullies, could you not apologize,

for those transgressions of bygone days.

Why not attempt to reconcile,

and in so doing, change your fate.

Bullies, I await your reply,

I have been waiting forty-two years,

my life was shattered into one thousand pieces,

I will never, ever be the same.
karma
By: Susana Mia Pen Name
Tags: Helping Poor, God, Forgiveness, Karma

Some people waiting for the coming of this chosen one. Can we really trust any so called savior when we should have been doing charities for the poor, helpless people, animals? Expecting to be saved, not doing the worthy work to be saved is contradicting oneself. The great conjunction happening this month, once at december 15, another on december 21. So take chance of this month, to call upon The Creator of existence. To ask forgiveness, to be guided to the straight, simple path. Peace.
Suffer the Pain
By: Kira Dawn
Tags: God, Self Improvement, Poetry, Spirituality, Forgiveness

I never really understood

Definitely couldn’t admit

How God could cut me down

Even just for the thrill of it

I sat alone and it started me thinking

I’m wrong about the thrill

So then what was it?

This answer would take me a long time to learn

To even grasp

That I could weather any storm

“This too shall pass.”

I remember feeling so alone

Was sure God had abandoned me

I gave up

Plead insanity

Premeditated Vanity

Slamming my head against the broken mirror

Unable to see any clearer

I thought that I was Lost

Satan makes you think that at any cost

Heroin, Needles, burnt spoons

Scattered all around my filthy room

Who cares if I wake up anyway

Tomorrow is spent chasing the dragon away

If I die it will be okay

The Holy trinity is done with me, I guess it’s mutual

Then God intervenes at this most crucial

Knew it would be painful

It was okay because now I could see

This pain that I was about to endure

Made me want to grow even more

I took the pain of my arms of tracks

Was saved from the pit

God took me back

I can see now

That I had to

Survive the Fall

I had to Climb, at first quite honestly crawl

Before I could ever believe in me

I needed The Holy Trinity

Who do you think gave me the unhinged key.

A bit rusty

Locks evil away

Those demons are crusty.
Waking Up Means Knowing Truth
By: Allison Kessler
Tags: Wake Up, Awakening, Forgiveness, Truth, Love Yourself

They are lying to us. We know they are lying to us. They know we know they are lying to us, and they are still lying to us.

A web of lies is hard to drop.

Liars Stick To Their Stories

Photo by pawel szvmanski on Unsplash

I went out with a liar once. He liked to be dating a nice girl and have a number of regular girls on the side who he cheated with. It was a game to him. He would lose when any particular nice girl caught him and ditched him for good. He loved his game.

He explained to me that he would stick to his lies to his dying breath. He would never ever admit anything and repeat the same lame story. His theme song was “It Wasn’t Me” by Shaggy, which you can see on YouTube here.

Oh what we do for fun.

Oh what we can do at lower levels of consciousness.

When You Wake Up, You Are Able To Discern True From Untrue

Photo by Julian Hochgesang on Unsplash

When I wrote How To Develop A Relationship With Your Higher Self, I had no idea that the last point being able to discern true from untrue was the crux of it all.

When you wake up, a lightbulb turns on in your head illuminating the world. In that article, I describe it as: lies start to fall flat and truth has a ring to it. As you trust your feelings more and more, you build a system of knowing what’s a lie and what’s truth and the better you get at it. You shorten the time between pondering on whether something is true, to knowing instantaneously what’s what.

Lies start to fall flat and truth has a ring to it.

This is how you develop your intuition.

When You Wake Up, The Lies Fall Away

When you wake up, your vibration rises up above the lies. In fact, the lies run from you because they are no longer a match. Lies can’t exist in the presence of Truth.

In the story I told in the beginning about dating a liar. I’m no longer attracted to that kind of thing, to that kind of man. It’s not even an option for me anymore. Why would I go there ever again — I learned my lesson and I can let that kind of behaviour go. By letting it go, I am free to move onward and upward to the next level and you can bet moving up is going to be beautiful and joyous. In any event, it will be much less painful.
Boom anger | Boomerang
By: Seemant Kulleen
Tags: Healing, Forgiveness, Self Love, Life Lessons, Life

This year, a childhood bully apologized to me. After so many decades it shouldn’t have made a difference.

But it did.

Distant childhood memories of feeling sad, hopeless, excluded, rejected, unloved and unloveable had become specters of insecurity.

With a simple acknowledgement, i felt a cleansing, a healing inside of me.

Light became unblocked.
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Tags: Mac, Pam

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映倫という生命体について(ΣωÅ)
By: Ryugekkaりゅーげっか 人肉パーティトマツハルカ
Tags: Anime, Japan, Television, News, Movie

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Day Two on Figma
By: Carol Low
Tags: UI, Design, Figma, Prototyping, Website Design

I’m on a 7 day design course with a focus on creating landing pages, and these are my thoughts on day 2! Read day 1 here.

Day 2

Day 2 introduces additional skills/tools in Figma and how to study another person’s design and try to recreate it for yourself.

We don’t get any assets provided today. Rather, we were equipped with a list of commonly used resources where we can look for free and affordable assets. Of course, since I’m taking the course for the sake of learning, I leaned towards freebies.

It turns out, there’s a lot of free material available! (Thank you dear creators!) So I spent a lot of time browsing, browsing, and browsing. I knew this would happen. I like following trails of links and discovering everything bright and shiny. It’s endless.

Here’s a few I liked today:

I didn’t end up using any of it yet though, since the assignment was to take a product and make a landing page for it.

Here’s how I landed.

Thoughts & Reflections:
Day One on Figma
By: Carol Low
Tags: UI, Product Design, Landing Page Design, Figma, Prototyping

I’m very happy to discover Figma. In the past few years, I have spent a lot of time on Product development, wireframing, and simplifying user experiences, but I have yet to spend time on advanced prototyping software. I’ve used more of a combination of Balsamiq, Miro and the good old pen and paper.

Since I’m between jobs right now, it’s the best time to be learning some new skills I previously didn’t have the time or headspace to. With that in mind, I signed up for a seven day course with the Product Design Academy to design a landing page.

In all honesty, I have no confidence in my design skills. Well, more specifically whether I’m able to produce something aesthetically beautiful — but I’m definitely up for a challenge. Either ways, it will help me understand designers better, and pick up some skills in Figma which may come in handy.

The course is self-paced and I’m in the process of going through interviews so I’m not too sure if I will be completing it in a week, but I shall post my results and thinking here.

Day 1

Day 1 is an introduction to the course, to landing pages, and to Figma. The course has 3 videos and then provides us with some assets to help us get started. I made an assumption that I should stick with the assets provided. It also helped set some limits so I don’t try too hard with trying to find the perfect images.

My first day on Figma. The top 2 are “completed” while the others where part of my ideation process.

Thoughts & Reflections: