R.O.R.
By: Tyler Scott
Tags: Business Development, Alzheimers, Investment, Family, Dementia

The phrase I hated the most growing up that my mother would say was, “Why couldn’t you be like “so and so”?” This phrase would cut me to the bone when I was a child. I wasn’t a bad kid, I just wanted to make her proud of me. Now years later, I look back and the phrase doesn’t have the same meaning or effect that it once had. After many experiences (highs and lows) we’ve built relationships with other people. Just like those experiences some great and some not so great.

You have invested in your relationships (partner/spouse, family, friends, business), maybe not financially, but at least with time and energy.

How do we create a return on relationship (not financial) with others? Can this be done without the perception of coming across as being selfish?

One of the biggest struggles within our own families are family dynamics & family issues. We all have different personalities, thoughts and views on the world. We tend to hurt those the most that are close to us. We get into physical altercations or verbal altercations. Oftentimes, these altercations are left unresolved. After many years, nobody seems to remember why they don’t see eye to eye. Another form of family issue is abuse. Some examples of abuse are physical, mental, emotional and financial. All forms of abuse can lead to furthering the damage of the family issues, oftentimes lead to divorce or abandonment.

For those that are in or lucky to get out of the abuse cycle, we beat up ourselves over the past. We think to ourselves, is this or was it worth it? We second guess ourselves with statements like “I should’ve, I would’ve, I could’ve.”

A major problem to why we are saying those statements is that we are stuck to our habits (even old habits) and routines. Our emotions control our thoughts on how we perceive how things are. We see that person and want NOTHING to deal with them.

Our relationships change as we age and get older. Our outlook on how we see others as well as how others see us change. On the flipside, if the relationship is not having a positive return, remember from one of our last blogs, this too shall pass. Turn it into a positive, Remember that we can control how we react to things. Everything can be positive. It is our own outlook, not theirs. We can still have a net positive on a return on relationships.

This may be difficult to hear. Sometimes we need to suck it up, put our head down and go to work. Humility is a strength. Sometimes its just sitting down and hearing someone out. Humility and being able to understand others are strengths, not weaknesses. The hard work and effort will pay off (blood, sweat and tears).

Some might ask why the sudden change? Why are you acting or talking strange? Some might say you are being manipulative or being selfish. Some might think that you are trying to make them look bad.

You are going to shock them. You will gain their respect. You will gain and see a return on your relationships. Some examples of the return on your relationship are personal happiness, relationships strengthened or renewed.

Positive transformation in you and others around. Others who see the relationship between you and others. Others will see different people as the problem. Nobody wants to be the problem. Those others will want to change. Others will want the positive changes in themselves and other relationships that they are having.

Working with our senior loved ones is no different. We have the opportunity to have a positive return on relationship with them. We have the opportunity to create new positive memories instead of relying on the past, old memories.

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