The Wedding Saga
By: Sadhana Rh
Tags: Weddings, Marriage, Emotions, Family, Life

My Big Day — “Mangalya Dhaarana” (Together Forever Moment)

You may not remember the jewellery you wore, the food you ate, the mehndi on your hands or even the footwear you wore on your wedding day — but you will remember how it all made you feel. This is a feeling which you cannot express.

Although we know that these days’ people really want to delay or do not want to get married but marriage do really matter to our people. Be it a big-fat wedding, a small- casual wedding or over the top wedding, people who want to get married, care only about making it their special day and not anybody else’s.

Ok so let me give you a glimpse of my wedding day. Ours was a Hindu wedding but not an elaborated one. Though I never had trouble falling asleep, the night before my wedding I hardly had a shut-eye moment. Waking up I exactly felt the opposite of what I was supposed to feel, I felt like a truck ran over me. I convinced myself that a shot of filter coffee will keep me up and kicking throughout the day. I was edgy, getting ready for my big day. I literally took everything personally, overthinking. Growing up in my home, loving it despite flaws, carrying loads of memories with me I got ready for my big day. My sister, my mother each and every member of my family ensured everything to be perfect for the big day without any compromises.

Leaving my home behind, looking at my empty cupboard as they packed my belongings brought me to the realization of plunging into the unexplored world of marriage and the responsibilities accompanied, dawned during this time. We obviously know that unexplored and unknowns always confuse you and frighten you to a greater extent. Looking at those empty cupboards and my belongings packed were too much for me to handle. No matter how wonderful the future life could be!

I took on a big leap in a hope of building a new home with new family members. I knew that my life would never be the same. However, the happiness of entering a fresh chapter of my life with a wonderful person by my side made me feel confident. I was a happy bride throughout my big day, extremely happy and emotional during the “Mangalya Dhaarana,” where me and my husband were united forever. Tear-jerking moments were “Kanyadaana,” where my parents entrusted me to my husband and “Laaja homa” signifying that my brothers ask me to be one among the family members. By this time, I knew I was entrusted to my husband’s family in all ways and would definitely miss those early morning cuddles and conversations with my mother while gulping a big mug of milk. I knew I would no more have my dad by my side watching football or news and debate on almost all topics. Late night movies, long drives, hanging out with my brothers and sister for was now a dream.

Now, when I sit back and ask myself “Was it an oceans of emotions on that day?” certainly it was. Weddings are always a bittersweet. It is always a combination of bliss and desolation.

But it’s ok to feel anxious, this is once in a life time moment. As long as you live and enjoy the moment you will be fine. Well I was sure with my husband by my side and the values taught by my parents’ back home to build a new home, we would lead a happy life.

I will be sharing some more experiences from my wedding days. Look out for my story which will be shared very soon with you all. Let me know your feedback and views for some more upcoming works of mine.