8 Sexy Quotes From ‘Sex and the City’ That’ll Make You Ponder
By: Myra Brown
Tags: Relationships, Sexuality, Love, Feminism, Sex

8 Sexy Quotes From ‘Sex and the City’ That’ll Make You Ponder

If this iconic show was one of your favorites, you’d remember these timeless gems, too.

Carrie Bradshaw is career goals for those of us who love writing about love, sex, and romance. I wouldn’t dream of doing half the things she did — be kick-ass successful at writing about sex, have my sexy picture sprawled across a New York bus, date Mr. Big, and I sure as hell wouldn’t break up with a guy as hot as Aidan.

No less impressive than Carrie were her three friends — Samantha Jones, Miranda Hobbes, and Charlotte York. Together these four women were the torchbearers of one of the most significant feminist influences in the entertainment industry — smart, independent, beautiful women living in The Big Apple, each holding her own career-wise and otherwise.

They taught us how to be single, independent, and happy, unapologetic about our sexuality, and the value of a sound support system — friendship. They made us laugh, cry, or inspired us, but in one way or another, they left their mark on us.

Although I watched Sex and the City all wrong — first Sex and the City movie part 1, then the entire series, and then the 2nd movie — the series inspired me in more ways than one. With a lot more time on my hand since the pandemic started, I’ve been re-watching some episodes of this timeless classic. The pearls of wisdom uttered by these ladies spoke to me as strongly now as they did a decade ago.

But with age came a new understanding, even a fresh and renewed appreciation of how true the words rang even today. The century has turned, the rules of the dating game have changed — from the bars in new York to Tinder, the players have changed, but human nature has not. If you are as ardent a fan of SATC as I am, I’m sure you’d not only remember but also identify with these statements. So, here are some of my favorite ones in no particular order.

1. I will not be judged by you or society. I will wear whatever and blow whomever I want as long as I can breathe — and kneel. — Samantha.

After Carrie, Samantha is my undisputed favorite. Love her or hate her, but you can’t ignore her. Her tongue-in-cheek wit and sass are all over this iconic statement. It taught me to be myself and not bend to societal rules or pressure. It inspired me to live life on my own terms and break free from the mold that society expects women to fit into. And most important of all, it taught us to embrace our sexuality without apologies.

2. I’m a trisexual. I’ll try anything once. — Samantha.

Another pure gold from Samantha. Boy, don’t you just love her attitude towards her sexuality. Bold, open, willing to experiment? Although I wouldn’t claim that I’d try anything, I can safely say that she always inspired me to step out of my comfort zone. Not every sexual experience feels like love at first sight; some things grow on you if you give them time. As long as you’re healthy and have a willing and trustworthy partner, what’s the harm in trying something new in the boudoir? Samantha taught us to be willing and open to new experiences in life.

3. He’s just not that into you. So move on. — Miranda.

Long before the movie, He’s Just Not That into You released — the shoot straight from the hips — Miranda Hobbes had already broken the girl-code by giving this piece of advice. Life is too short and precious to waste on someone who doesn’t treat you like a queen/king, someone who doesn’t give you the love and attention you deserve. Hats off, Miranda, you schooled us in dating 101. You taught us to recognize our own value and not cast pearls before swine.

4. I read that if you don’t have sex for a year, you can actually become ‘revirginized.’ — Charlotte.

Lol. Ever the over-reacting, innocent, and absolutely lovable Charlotte. But jokes apart, this statement aptly highlights the insecurities that many of us feel about sex and our own bodies. Having a partner is considered a sign of success, of having conquered something in life. Singlehood is frowned upon by society, friends, and family alike. Everyone’s always trying to put a finger on what’s wrong with you when you’re single. Well, even if you’re single, it doesn’t mean you’re not having sex, but societal pressure can get to you. The Holiday season especially can be quite stressful. So remember that we’re enough. Our insecurities are sometimes just that, insecurities.

5. Maybe we can be each other’s soul mates. And then we can let men be just these great, nice guys to have fun with. — Charlotte.

The term soulmate has been romanticized to the moon and back. But what if there is no such thing as soulmates because we can have more than one, and they could be anyone — a friend, a boyfriend, a girlfriend, the stereotypical gay best friend? Charlotte makes a fair point and forces us to question what we take for granted, what we ass-u-me. Yes, love would be so much easier if we didn’t build it up to be our lifesaver, the one thing that’s fix everything wrong in our lives, if we kept our expectations realistic. The lovely Charlotte’s undoubtedly wiser than she’s been given credit for — she taught us to challenge the status quo.

6. You have a lot of nerve telling me to get a wax. If you were in Aruba, the natives could bead your back. — Samantha.

Ever the chaperone of feminism, Samantha hit another home run with this statement that challenges the hypocrisy of beauty standards. Why aren’t men and women held equally accountable? Perhaps because men are more visual creatures and hold beauty in the same league of importance that women hold the fatness of a man’s wallet. But with traditional roles of the sexes being thrown out the window, and a new age of equality being established, isn’t it time we change these archaic and unequal rules? I’d bellow a yes — more power to challenging hypocrisy and having equal expectations from all sexes.

7. The most exciting, challenging, and significant relationship of all is the one you have with yourself. And if you can find someone to love the you you love, well, that’s just fabulous. — Carrie.

Of all our relationships, we probably value the one with ourselves the least. Most of us don’t even have a relationship with ourselves. Pascal wasn’t joking when he said this.

All men’s miseries derive from not being able to sit in a quiet room alone.

We are so used to the hustle and bustle of modern life; even in this pandemic, the always-on world of social media has us by the tenterhooks. We’ve never been trained to build and nurture a relationship with the self, dig deeper into our own subconscious, address deep-seated issues that bother us, and be at peace. Finding the love of your life does not excuse us from loving ourselves. To give love, we need to have love, and the first step in having love is self-love. That’s what we can take from this wise gem — self-love.

Bonus Quote: Abso-f-ing-lutely. — Mr. Big.

Few people know that Mr. Big actually had a name — John Preston — and it was revealed only in the series finale. I’ve never been much of a fan of his. But if there’s one thing I love about Big, it’s his bold and dashingly “Abso-f-ing-lutely” s. The pizzazz and self-confidence he oozed could’ve made any girl swoon. So, Carrie, we understand the attraction.

I’m sure there are many more inspiring things said and done in this series. If you can think of any I missed, do share in the comments. I love jogging my memory and taking a trip down memory lane; if the journey is as pleasant and inspiring as re-watching ‘Sex and the City’ was.