Embracing yourself and other lies!
By: Shipra Jain
Tags: Motivation, Embracing Yourself, Body Positive, Self Love

Two friends walk into a bar, let us call them Lanky and Lardy. They want to have fun, celebrate life. But, the people in the bar start want to get to know them. They start with -“Lanky! You look like you could eat some cake. Here, have some.” Hey! You stay away from the cake Lardy.”

Lanky is in the twenties, healthy and happy. Lardy is in the thirties and is also healthy and happy.

The only problem is Lanky and Lardy are not healthy as per the “society”., as per what we see on the internet. (As you may have guessed) Lanky is skinny and Lardy is chubby.

The usual assumption is that a skinny person is not eating enough and/or probably has an eating disorder. They are advised to put on weight, eat well, not worry too much etc.

Everybody advises the chubby person on the latest diet trends, weight-loss medicines, exercises, discipline etc.

Little do they know both Lanky and Lardy do not have an eating disorder, they eat healthy, exercise well, sleep well and live their lives. It is just that they have different body types.

Why is having a different body type a crime? Why do all men need to be muscular with big arms, legs, and chest? Why do all women need to be skinny with big breasts, small waist and big butt?

When will we stop creating and promoting body types? Do we really want to look like cloned versions of each other? And since we are talking about this- body positivity is for everybody, plus-size people do not have dibs on it.

Let us take the example of the recent years, The Kardashian effect has made everybody from that industry look like clones. Every reality show based in L.A is so confusing. They all look alike and the issues are the same — s*x and money.

Even in the make-up industry, it is all big lashes, big mouth, wayyyy too much highlighter, thick brows and they all end-up looking like clones. Like dolls made in factories. I always thought makeup is a form of self expression. When did we move from self expression to imitation?

Why are we still living in high school? We talk so much about being a snowflake, then why are we giving in into these trends?

We are in the 21st century and bullying still exists! There are so many people who talk about “embracing yourself”, “be who you are”, “you are you”, “one life to life” etc. but nobody follows it.

You get trolled and bullied for being “you”. Everybody wants to be a viral trend. That is it! Just a few seconds of fame.

Trust me when I say this, you or your body, your hair, your skin, your height, your nose, your eyes, nothing, nothing is a problem. Rather they are YOU. They represent who you are, where you come from, what you and your family’s journey has been like. And, you don’t have to be ashamed of it, take pride in it. That is YOU, take pride in yourself. Do not be a factory made doll. Be you, embrace you.

Do not punish yourself just to be like somebody else. Take care of your physical and mental health. Hustle, hustle hard, dream and work towards making them a reality.

I do not live by the society’s rules now. I do not let anybody tell me what to do, what to eat, what to wear, nothing. I trust me, believe me and love me. And I am finally free!

You can live this one life trying to be somebody else, or you could just be you and live your best life! Make embracing yourself a truth.

Until next time, take care, stay safe and mask-up! :)