Trying to understand the abuse of women and find possible remedies.
By: Flavio Musa De Freitas Guimarães
Tags: Abuse, Crime, Solutions, Remedies, Help

What I have seen about the subject are videos showing the help signal, and the alternative of calling the police and saying some nonsense that, hopefully, will be understood and the police force will go to the victim’s address to save her.

Yes, a gesture from us can help, but whoever is on the front lines of this worldwide battle studies and knows that the vast majority of these women are isolated from groups, family, friends and without any support. Much of what goes here is the result of comments and help from an extraordinary woman, Africa Zanella, frontline fighter, writer, activist and speaker.

Social class isn’t that important unless it’s drugs, heavy drinking.

Yes, it is good to make the victim aware, AND THE PERPETRATOR AS WELL

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As soon as these women know their rights, they will probably suffer from numerous psychological disorders, also due to their economic dependence, which paralyzes them.

There are cases of women who go to a health clinic and ask for an abortion permit, to save their child from future abuse, showing that they are in fear and panic, with no alternative, not being able to go anywhere without the criminal’s supervision.

It’s amazing and shameful!

Focusing on the shame of the perpetrator is more effective: in some of the patterns of behaviour found in many cases the man has remorse after he is sober, enabling them to understand his behaviour; can help.

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Punishment for crime is a last resort, rarely effective.

These types of men have been trained and conditioned to believe that women are just an extension of them, their property, their black shadow. In fact, they are somehow punishing themselves by projecting their incompetence onto women, trying to deny their own incompetence.

Society needs to retrain itself and separate this inappropriate practice based on some romantic notions, and of unequal power between the sexes.

Public policies, programs and, yes, social engineering are needed to bring balance, with a compassionate heart, and the Law.

Wikipedia

The Judeo-Christian religions were largely responsible for this with the fable that Eve was created from a part of Adam.

The original Christian religions, Catholic and Lutheran, have endeavoured to correct this misinterpretation.

However, numerous so-called “evangelical” sects proliferate, especially aimed at the poor, and confirm this legend and the other one, the “grow and multiply”; they preach that it is abominable and forbidden any type of non-natural birth control: they induce proliferation of children that their followers cannot support; children are produced with no care, no affection, famine, who, so often, may become outlaws and bandits.

Worse, much worse, are the legends of fanatically Orthodox Jews and Muslims who rigorously subject women as extensions of the male and under his authority, subject to inconceivable and unacceptable punishment if they dare to complain.

Legends for legends, it would be better the one saying that there was a woman before Eve, Lilith https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Lilith, created with Adam from the dust of the earth, created in the same way as Adam, so she demanded equality and did not accept to be dominated by her husband.

The West has a lot to learn from Eastern life and practice, such as TAO, for example, where both men and women are considered spiritual beings under the influence of the “Law of creation by Mother Earth”.

Comment by Africa Zanella:

“We know why this happens, drugs, alcohol, culture, religion etc… The big challenge is how are we going to prevent this abuse and this violence from happening?

This author believes that much more needs to be done to educate, understand and remedy the perpetrator’s behaviour, rather than a legal system that punishes, separates, and fails to seek ways to remedy the trauma and impact on individuals and the family.”.