Life Totky
By: Fawaz Javid
Tags: Amal Totkay

Mind set is something you create yourself. It’s not built in mechanism. Growth in common and in our surroundings is taken as the increase in the mass or potential of something and growth is referred to olding . But when I look onto this growth word during the study of this course its meanings is completely changed . In common point of view , the success of people depends upon their growth and it would be more with progressing age but to me growth depends upon success , the level of growth is determined by the level of success you have reached in your life . It has nothing to do with your age , your qualifications , your society it is all about your potential . To make it easy , if you utilize your capacities and abilities in the best way and reach at the zenith of success in the initial period of your life then you have grown at a early age and your growth is maximum while you are still young .

This change of mindset to perceive things differently was not possible without using the following basic tools ,

1. Self- talk :

Self talk has changed me alot . Previously I was aggressive with myself . I simply refuse to do something thinking that it’s not my ability , not my taste but now I give time to myself and think that I could do this if I put some effort. It would be adventurous for me to do something different . As the thought of mind changed so everything evolved and now I feel more confident. Self talk is actually self reflection.

“ The mind is just like a muscle — the more you exercise it, the stronger it gets and the more it can expand.”

2. Get out of your comfort zone :

Every person has different comfort zone but in real I think that comfort zone for most of the people starts from where the person is not ready to do more work than his daily routine , to make different use of his time , his abilities , his capacities . It is not meant that you can’t have comfort zone but it should change as you grow , as you evolve . You should build more challenges for you , more achievements will come to you.

3. Create new habits :

Habits determine the daily routine of your life . You feel comfortable doing things which you are used to and which gives you relaxation and satisfaction so why not create new habits ; new means of happiness. My daily routine consisted on going to office in the morning , coming home having lunch and then going to play badminton 🏸. Now I have made a habit of eating some healthy fruits , started reading a good book and articles , spend more time with family , doing some exercise and believe it that my level of satisfaction and happiness has increased tremendously . I am at more peace now . To conclude ;

“ Happiness is an inside job “

4. Ask people help :

Asking people help is something that needs a lot of courage but of you are build personally with more confident and your personality is a reflection of actual you than asking for help is no more difficult. I usually ask people help when I realize that I can’t do it and it is getting harder for me and when you ask people help you actually believe in them , in their knowledge and intellectual which creates a ball of happiness for the person whom you asked help . And to everyone’s surprise , people help you back and help you solve your troubles. Some people mix asking for help to begging but this course has made this clear that asking for help in a positive way and getting helped in a positive way makes you grow.

5. Fake it till you make it :

This is something that gives goosebumps to you rivals . You actually have to pretend to be more grown , more confident , more persistent till you achieve your goal . Keep your performance in the best way .

Our performance level is not determined by the people who just look at us and say , but our performance is the mirror of our hardworking and passion. Handwork pays off in the best way .

“You must be the person you have never had the courage to be.”