The Overwhelming Rage Women Carry Inside
By: Claire Divino
Tags: Metoo, Relationships, Feminism, Women, This Happened To Me

We, women, are enraged and I, as a woman, am no exception. I wasn’t even aware of the degree of this rage, though, until I started to regularly publish on Medium.

At first, I was going to write romance. Instead, this somehow turned into erotica, and then I added to it relationships and women categories, which is when all hell broke loose.

There were things that triggered me quite severely, sometimes to the point of feeling as if I were shaking inside, a storm brewing inside of me, and I saw other female writers being triggered as well.

Julia Beaudett, for instance, was deeply upset and hurt by another female writer on Medium who slut-shamed her, and Yael Wolfe by how her nephew started to exhibit disturbing signs of misogyny at an early age despite his liberal upbringing.

Julia and her supporters expressed her anger and hurt on Twitter as well as in several responding posts, while Yael was shocked by having to watch the corruption of her nephew unfolding in front of her eyes.

For me, for instance, the moment of rage and shock came when one of my followers made a seemingly innocent remark — he said that he, as a man, creates life by putting his seed inside a woman.

Well no, guys, you do nothing of the sort. You merely contribute a mere HALF (not even all) of the seed, while literally ALL the heavy lifting that comes with actually CREATING life is done by women and nature and most certainly NOT men.

That remark was the last straw that broke my camel’s back and I let off the steam in the post It Turns Out We Don’t Need Males or Sperm to Reproduce.

The remark, however, I’m convinced, was in all honesty stated with no malicious intent and no awareness of its significance whatsoever. I know this guy and I know that he is far from a bad person.

And that’s the core of the problem — just like Yael Wolfe noted in her post, males have been conditioned to think and act like that from a very young age. Even when they grow up, they might not be aware of where these ideas came from and what they mean.

It’s not even necessary that their parents instilled certain beliefs, they get these ideas from all over the place. Misogyny is what a majority and not a minority of people mindlessly practice each and every day, including in front of the kids.

And it makes girls hurt and angry starting at a very young age as well.

Taking into account that Yael’s nephew has been born and raised in a liberal family, imagine how much worse things can get when kids grow up in a far more restrictive conservative environment.

Actually, I don’t have to imagine that because it’s just plain obvious. Everyone who cares to open their eyes can see how most men still consider themselves superior to women, whether they are aware of it or not.

Even God, the grand CREATOR, is depicted as a MAN and not a woman despite the indisputable fact that it’s WOMEN and not men who CREATE and make life possible by the virtue of having wombs and eggs.

EGG and WOMB are universally accepted symbols of life and NOT sperm!

And I feel that we, women, have finally reached the point where we are just not going to take any of this crap anymore.

No more slut-shaming and putting down, denial of our powers and qualities, no more double standards and glass ceilings, no more sexism and misogyny, no more absurd and unjust expectations about how we should act and look!

The #MeToo movement was just the beginning, the beginning of the snowball that’s going to get as big as the Moon if something doesn’t change and soon.

Seriously, people, I’ve had beyond enough of this and from what I see around me, a lot of women are just about to get to that point as well.

As I’m writing this, I feel enormous pressure building up behind the dam wall that was put in place unjustly and held for way too long. It will burst any time now and I cannot wait for it to happen, for mine has already burst.

I can see it elsewhere too — in the amazingly strong Miley Cyrus who is not afraid of her sexuality and doesn’t care about what anyone thinks about her as expressed in her Midnight Sky lyrics:

“I was born to run, I don’t belong to anyone, oh, no…,” and

“Uh, lotta years went by with my hands tied up in your ropes, forever and ever, no more!”

I can see it in Billie Eilish and her refusal and rebellion against the highly sexualized norms applied to women, especially in the entertainment industry, as expressed in her short film Not My Responsibility.

And I can see it on Medium in the voices of countless women who dare to speak up and tell it like it is.

The new generation of women is coming strong, they are already here, and these females warriors will reclaim what has been unjustly taken from us centuries ago. And you better get ready for it.