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Tags: Teenagers, Young People, Equality, My Story

A girl’s point of view.

“Congrats you’re having a girl,” said the doctor to my parents. They were happy of course because they could dress up this girl in a dresses, paint the nursery pink, and buy princess toys. Because that what girls like, well that’s what their spouse to like right? And that’s how I grew up in a pink room, with bunnies, and dolls. I’m not complaining though I’m very very blessed and I had a good childhood. But I think that’s what surprised my parents especially my mom when I started to like different stuff. I remember when I went to private school, girls could wear skirts or pants but it was expected of me to wear a skirt because I have to look “nice” because I’m a girl. I know it’s cause I’m a girl because my brother could wear pants without a problem. So I learned to dress up always because that’s how I present myself and how I look is how much I’m worth, right? I remember when I got out of private school, and I didn’t want to wear the same plaid skirt every day so I started to like less girly clothes, I wouldn’t tell my mom though and if I did we wouldn’t end up buying it. If I did get lucky and we bought it, there’s no point in wearing it your just gonna get yelled at. In another instance, we were going to a party and my mom said “ you have to dress up and look nice” but when I expressed how I didn’t want to and how “ My brother is wearing sweatpants and a sweatshirt” I just got yelled at. Now, this might seem easy and that boys and girls have to present themself, but having this high expectation of looking perfect and girly every day is not easy from a girl’s point of view. You think things might change when you’re older? Like everything does, but instead, it just gets more clear and worse. Most people have crushes when there younger, including me. Now paint this scene in your mind and anxious teen finally holding hands and talking with her crush, we get to the main crosswalk and everything is great until a guy in a car holding up money yells at you both “This is more than your bitch”. This is what happened to me in the summer, my crush at the time just shrugged it off but the more I thought about it the more it bothered me. It’s just words but it probably wouldn’t have happened to me if I was a guy and it shouldn’t have happened to me especially this young. Now I’m not saying these things don’t happen to guys it does but from a girl’s point of view, we are taught to deal with it and end up wasting time thinking about it. Some people might not understand what I mean by thinking about it so much or why girls take so long getting dressed. But in the morning I first have to pick an outfit that is “appropriate” then I have to think about what others will think about it then when I finally find something I like and I feel good it, I have to go in the kitchen and see if my mom is ok with it. As a guy have you ever been nervous that your mom will yell at you because of your outfit, tell you that you look like a pornstar or that you would get dirty looks. Maybe not or maybe has happened to you but it’s something I have to worry about daily. From a girl’s point of view, I think this is unfair that a lot of women that read this can relate. Now, why did I write about this when I could have written about something simpler, something less “controversial”. Because I will not keep viewing this world and staying silent.