One, two, three and 1000
By: Sid Berry
Tags: Fear, Milestones, Opportunity, Bargain, Parents

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Where will a few steps take you — we never know. So, while I was on my morning walk I realized that I could go a km, or two or three. Personally, I did not want to go for a long one but I had to get in enough steps for round one to make the 10,000 cumulative. Now there is a parallel to this though, isn’t every one of us walking towards something — we call it a goal, a destination, a career, a person, or simply a lifestyle. And how far do we go in that direction over the course of our lives? Sometimes quite far and then other times not enough to be measured with tangible outcomes.

To all those destinations which have been elusive to us for so long and maybe we have already given up on them — Have you ever asked why did you not get through? Give it a moment to settle in, How interesting life would be if we had made it to those experiences. Personally, my life would have been more fulfilling if I could spend time with my parents especially when they were growing old, if I could have made more meaningful relationships with my friends back then, if I could have had the courage to ask the girl I liked so much, out for a coffee instead of just sitting in the library like a dumb kid.

Well, I really miss those times when I had the chance and all those things were right in front of me and all I had to do was go out and just do it. One of the reasons why we do not do things we so much want to is — afraid of the outcomes. What was the worst that could have happened, maybe a no for the wish asked for or a bargain for a much less significant opportunity? We never do think through the things that we most want, and just give in to the first fear of losing it when in reality — that thing never existed in the first place.

Now, over to how not repeat that kind of behavior in the first place. I will share a few thoughts in bullets to deal with it.

Know that you do not have anything to lose, I know it is easier said than done but, think of how it will help you grow as a person even you end up not having that thing

“Rome wasn't built in a day”, same goes with life and more so for a meaningful and rewarding life for sure. You see, when we go out and see people living all those nicer moments with all these pretty things, it's not something that rained on them from the sky, they are responsible for it and it took them time to get there. So, take a step or two daily and consistently and soon you will have covered a thousand miles distance in that direction.

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Pay attention to how you feel, and do it honestly. You know the magic about feeling, we do not have to think hard to know if we are doing something right or wrong, it is an easy & quick way to check upon yourself — how you feel and take the steps from that those observations to keep yourself healthy.

This is not to suggest you can indulge with substances or materialistic infatuations for feeling good just for the sake of feeling good, once in a while it is okay to let the feelings slip through but in the long run — it is about knowing what you need to do with your feelings to be able to live a fulfilling life. For example, if I feel bad I will exercise or eat some nice food but that is not going to take care of the feelings of their source by any means. It will just give temporary relief to me and that’s all there is to it.

Be yourself, I know it sounds so simple but how often you have said or done things, not to be likable but to just not hurt someone else. Maybe a couple of times you have been that nice soul, and it is fine as long as it does not affect your personal values or integrity in any way whatsoever. How will you know, well you need to know what are your “values” and “rules of life” are in the first place and then take care of it like rose petals.

It is not easy and I myself struggle through it even though I am writing it but that’s more of the reason to share it — coz it is something we have to learn from & grow through that, “You will cover 1000 miles if you take a one, two, three steps a day and then do it every day going forward. It will look insignificant today when you look at its for its one-piece but let it all come together and form that beautiful picture in your life.

I hope you are able to live more of those desired experiences that you so much hope for in your life.