WHY THE YOUNG MAN(19–25) WHO’S BROKE SHOULD AVOID RELATIONSHIPS,SITUATIONSHIPS AND JUST ABOUT ANYTHING THAT REQUIRES MAN TO WOMAN ATTENTION.
Tags: Dating, Broke, Self Development, Relatonships, Finance

What is he talking about? You may ask in your mind or out loud when you see this topic, especially if you know me personally, you will wonder what has gotten into divine, well, celibacy. Not that celibacy has gotten into me, whatever that means. Celibacy is the word a broke man should hold dear, man can be read as woman in this article by the way. Young women are just as broke as their male counterparts, so if you’re not using your woman prowess to get some dough and in the age bracket of 19–25 you might as well read on and see what I’m rambling about.

Now, I don’t speak on behalf of the poor man, it’s a difference between being broke and poor. The poor man has his problems and it does not concern me at all. The broke has some money coming in one way or the other; it may not be in the form of income or a salary or it could be that, income or salary. That you have money coming in at some point in time means you can afford to spoil yourself to some extent, spoil is not the word, say “take care of oneself” satisfyingly, let’s leave “spoil” for who can. To take care of yourself satisfyingly with your small change will leave you broke again until when next you see money to do as you wish. Where is the space for woman/man there? if you think about it there’s none. It simply says that relationships are for the rich and well to do, you do know relationships cost money right? So the broke man who thinks he’s in love is actually in trouble. Except you would rather have a low quality type of relationship, the type where you settle for a partner and for what, companionship? Haha! Relationships worth having and building will actually cost you a bag, it will cost me. Date nights, phone calls, outdoor activities, trips and a whole lot of factors that suck away the money and all for sheer love. These are lovable things to do with a lover, granted. But you’re still going to be alright if you cannot afford to. The broke may afford to, most of you can afford to splurge in relationships knowing fully well that the money is for one person to use effectively, but you sacrifice your small change that will do more for you, in exchange for what? regular sex, speaking to the man here. To be able to afford doesn’t mean you have to do it, place importance on your money and come back to tell me if spending in relationships are worth it. The demographic is the broke 19–25 year old please, if you’re older you can figure out your shit, sir. What I’m on about is that relationships are overrated especially around these parts, even worse if you’re under 25 and broke. Love and relationships are just crappy i dare say, all people want to truly do is fuck, which is as should be anyway. Except for the religiously conscious, but you never know with these guys. It is one in ten people who actually find someone with mature and futuristic intentions within the 19- 25 year old bracket, the rest of us just want sex, but will take the relationship since it comes with the package, until we tire out of course. Now, take it all away, the sex and the companionship that comes with having a special person, you get loneliness right? Wrong. You get a clear space to think and do and also use your money for you and you, you get me? Hehe. It may not occur to you but you should know the money you spend in that relationship which will end sooner or later adds up, it adds the fuck up. Think about it, all your small change summed up to one fat amount and poof the person’s gone someday when it ends, it’s normal level but that money would have been used elsewhere if you ask me. Young man, young and broke man what do you actually benefit from a relationship again? A nut? Hahaha. I laughed here because I once saw an article that read “better to spank your tank and get back to work, than loose some change to get the same damn nut” funny stuff. I can understand how some young people, broke and young people is the emphasis, I understand how some young and broke people will think a relationship is ultimate and a must have in their lives, with these types it may not be about the sex, it could be for validation, some people have thought themselves into negative loneliness that they think only a lovers warmth and availability can save them, it’s pathetic if you ask me. What is wrong with being alone? Not that you should be alone for too long though, no go get spirit wife or husband. The point is, to be in a relationship, you have to be ready for it, mentally emotionally and as i have been saying, financially! I speak for the average Nigerian young and broke, for my non-naija readers, just enjoy the article. The young and broke in the demographic is likely to still be staying with parents or guardians and such, the ones who do not live with parents or guardians are not looking for love and relationships, i guarantee it, but if they are, hmm, enter at your own peril. They’re busy trying to pay the rent or get the job done. For these ones, a nut is a nut and that’s on that, I come(UM) you go, you get me? Of course you do. So how does a young man living under another mans’ roof handle a relationship? He does in the shittiest of ways, and as you know or should know it will end in tears. Remember, man can be read as woman; i am all for equality and this goes both ways. Except I strongly believe in taking care of my woman in all areas, especially financially and she doesn’t necessarily have to reciprocate with the finance, I like to provide and that’s about it. So what concerns a broke young man living in his fathers’ house with a relationship? Absolutely nothing, what you’re doing is play games, leave it for the pre-teens and teenagers, i mean that. For the broke young woman in the demographic, if you must be in a relationship my dear, i know this horny men won’t let you lot rest anyway, i’ll advice that if you must, must O, and you don’t have to. But if you must be in one, make sure he or she is over 25 and independent, it’s easier this way. Under 25s are just a lot of stress, even you women. A broke young woman in the demographic has the choice of being in a relationship but a broke young man does not have that choice. No go feel say you dey in love bros, with your skinny pockets.

Celibacy is the solution to this problem. First of all i am almost sure that all of my readers may be Christian. Doesn’t the holy book say something about fornication? I know you don’t want to hear it, i know this but that book is the ultimate rule book if you actually looked it up and tried your best in doing as it says. You’re only in a relationship first to grind crotches amongst other things, there’s no getting married in your agenda young man, i lie? Nobody will pressure you as to why you’re not in a relationship while under 25; you’re still a kid, just grown. You should develop properly before allowing yourself fall in love and all of that mushy stuff. When i say develop, i mean get yourself some income or be in the direction of getting you streams of it, it is what really matters, don’t let anybody tell you different. If you’re not broke and in the demographic, if your pockets are fat enough and you have steady income flow, you can test the relationship waters and be intentional about it too. Love is a beautiful thing to give and to receive, especially the romantic kind. For the broke man who isn’t likely to take my celibacy talk seriously, try as much as possible to spend close to nothing when it comes to getting some punani, you’re broke for fuck sake, and you should be selfish with your money until you can afford to take care of a partner comfortably. If you read up to this point, Divine J dey for you.

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