Slaying the Dragon
By: William, Dollar Bill
Tags: Culture, Orgasm, Sex Work, Sex, Education

Slaying the Dragon

Between a man’s legs (that fire-breathing monster)

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Here’s a boring piece of amateur psychology I wrote many years ago on the subject of exactly what is it that enables a woman to do escort work. Profound it ain’t but still, all these years later, I mostly agree with the following observations.

There have been a few times I’ve met phone girls in the escort business who are actually much more attractive than the women they arrange dates for. Well aware that the girls who do the escorting earn much more money than the phone girls, I’ll occasionally ask if they’ve ever considered going on the dates themselves (to make the big bucks). And generally, a horrified look will engulf the girl’s face and she’ll say something like “I would never!” So what is the rite of passage (or rites) that allows some women to become escorts? This is the question for the ages.

You could interview a thousand different escorts (and I have) asking this very question, and you still couldn’t be sure — as too many of the girls will just out and out lie to you faced with an interrogation that could truly reveal their essence. But I’ve dealt with enough escorts to at least think I understand how they can do what they do.

The psychologist’s party line is that the great majority of escorts have been sexually abused in their youth and that is the single predominant rite of passage in the business. Basically, I’m in agreement with this theory, but expand it to include sexual or emotional abuse at any age. And what I mean is…once a woman has been severely hurt emotionally by a man, she’s more inclined to slay the dragon for money.

Very early in life, little girls come to the realization that little boys have something between their legs that they don’t have. Naturally, they wonder why this is and wish they too could have that “thing.” This psychologists call “penis envy.” The more raging the case…the more likely a girl will engage in sex with multiple partners and/or be able to hop the barrier which allows them to sell “companionship” for money.

So…take a situation in which a girl is jealous of a guy who has what she hasn’t and is angry at him for breaking her heart…and you have the perfect storm! Why not slay the dragon for a buck? Think of the female empowerment involved!

Some guy rings your phone and for a fee, you get to exorcize all your demons and get paid for it! In walks your stranger…drops his pants…and gives you the opportunity to extract his essence. He huffs…he puffs…his face scrunches…and at the moment of climax, he is putty in your hands.

What better way to gain the upper hand on the male gender? Maybe that certain guy put her femininity in jeopardy or stole her innocence. But she’s just turned the tables, gaining back some of her self-esteem!

If I were an escort, I would live for that moment. And the louder the guy groaned and the more he shot…the more empowered I would feel. Plus, he gives you money for the privilege. Pretty good deal overall for the right personality…wouldn’t you say?

Ask yourself this: How many times have women checked the rubber to see how much you came…the implication being that the more they see in the rubber…the more empowered they feel “Man! I really slayed the dragon that time” is a thought that most likely comes to mind!

To be fair, there are other rites that propel a girl into this business. Love of sex and/or an urgent need for money are significant rites as well. If you’re a woman who needs to pay off a student loan…has a gambling addiction…or just likes designer bags and what not and the feeling of sexual satisfaction, it may not be as difficult for them to simply earn a handsome living taking care of men.

A lot of escorts I’ve interviewed have asserted that this is their reason for entering the business…and that there was no sexual abuse in their childhood. Do I believe them? To a certain extent, I give the girls the benefit of the doubt. There’s is not an easy living even if they make a lot of money doing it.

I tell you all this because bearing the rites of passage in mind, a guy might better melt the heart and soul of his partner and have a much more exciting experience be she paid or “earned.” Understanding any woman is the key to unlocking her inhibitions and freeing her mind so she can slay your dragon with a reckless abandon that will leave your toes curled and gonads blissfully drained.

Walking a mile in her shoes (not literally) just may help a guy unleash the demon who will slay the dragon that much more enthusiastically. And I’m sure we’re all for that!