Why Erotica Will Free Your Mind
By: Matilda Swinney
Tags: This Happened To Me, Writing, Sex, Reading, Sexuality

Why Erotica Will Free Your Mind

The truth behind the fantasies

Photo by David Lezcano on Unsplash

A month or so ago, I noticed my sex blog posts were getting more and more explicit. So, as an outlet for my obviously horny mind, I decided to make a clear distinction between the two and start writing erotica. This would allow my sex posts to stay more explorative and educational, while leaving room for the truly explicit content.

It’s been an interesting decision. I’ve discovered I love writing erotica. How did I not realise this before? It seems obvious to me now, as I have always read a lot of dirty stories.

The thing is, it’s the hardcore stories, which are my favourite

I like non-consent stories about control, humiliation and domination. These are the stories which turn me on the most. So, these are the stories I write. Now, not everyone likes stories like this, especially if people forget I have made them up. Some people feel offended by hardcore erotica stories.

But, by honestly exploring what turns you on, you can understand your reality better. While you might not like the same thing as someone else, or want your favourite erotic stories to come true, you can still learn a lot about yourself from your choice of erotica.

As Linda Garnets, PhD, a researcher at the University of California at Los Angeles, explains, “our erotic personalities are as unique as our fingerprints, and our sexual identities, sexual attractions, and sexual fantasies don’t all have to fit together seamlessly (and they also likely change over time).”

So, although you may not want your fantasies to come true, the written word can help you to understand exactly what turns you on. From there, you can explore in more detail exactly what it is about a story which turns you on and pick and choose what you want to re-create in real life.

Erotica also teaches you to embrace your desires and not feel ashamed

For example, even, if your sexual turn ons are illegal, the first step to dealing with this is to talk openly to a therapist. You have to freely explore your mind and work out why you feel this way, in order to heal and move on.

The large majority of us share the most common fantasies, but can feel too shy to talk about them. But, by reading or even writing erotica, you inject fun and entertainment into your desires. You give yourself an increased confidence and awareness of your own pleasure.

You take the initiative and figure out what you really like. And this is the only way you will be able to open up freely during sex, in order to receive the pleasure you deserve. Having the confidence to explore and express your desires will open you up more than you could ever expect.

“A recent study has shown that consuming sexy literature can help everything from your libido to the strength of your orgasm. A 2016 study, which was published in the journal Sexual and Relationship Therapy, recorded the sexual functioning of 27 women over six weeks. Half read self-help books, and the other half read erotic fiction. The result? Both groups made equal, statistically significant gains when it came to:

sexual desire

sexual arousal

lubrication

satisfaction

orgasms

pain reduction

overall sexual functioning”

So, who knew erotica could be such a rewarding and beneficial part of life?

Not only could it increase your confidence but it could give you a boost of sexual desire, and help reach the all important orgasm.

Try adding a daily dose of naughty literature to your diet and see how free, confident and open it makes you feel. It’s time to explore your desires and find your true pleasure.