No More Lonelyhearts: Michael Lewis’ How to Find a Good Companion
By: Lois Lane Investigates Authors
Tags: Dating Tips, Dating Advice For Men, Love Advice, Dating Advice, Marriage

How to Find a Good Companion, Even Among Those Who Have Been Picked Over, Called Out, Damaged, Dumped, and Left for Dead, by Michael Lewis

How did you decide to write this book?

I’ve been married for 48 years, 12 years for the first time, and 36 for the

second time. This book that I have written about finding a companion

documents what is important to me.

● My feelings and desire for a close marriage have been present in

my heart since I began my teenage years.

● My motivation was also to have a family with children, to help contribute to future society.

● Answering my desire for a close companion in marriage is one of God’s blessings for me. He is pushing us to be successfully married and live by His

goals and rules.

I believe in romantic love as a basis for close, comfortable and happy marriages. I’ve been a married companion to my wife for 35 years. I married her after I went through 12 years with another wife who I had a hard time with. From her I learned a lot about finding a good companion and

being an effective husband.

I’m a product of my Dad and Mom just as you are.

I’m really a product of multiple Lewis married couples. I can

identify six parents (my known grandparents) in a row for

me. That’s not our focus today, but it’s important for me.

I am here today because these Lewis guys found and

happily married a good companion.

What’s the core of your message?

How would you advise people to find their soulmates?

My book is to give everyone unmarried but motivated for marriage to a special person some guidance. I have identified ideas, motivation and actions to help them achieve a long term relationship with their best soulmate.

If one is knowledgeable about marriage, we should start with the Bible’s first book. The marriage of Adam and Eve is an example of God matching people in a close marriage relationship that delivers God’s message to all of society.

From the beginning until now, our history with relationships covers our purpose in life.

Today, 60% of all American adults have entered into a successful

legal marriage with a person of the opposite sex. People who hope for this are my intended audience for my book.

After my first marriage, I studied my father and mother and how they learned to love and accept each other. So I have included some of their

approaches for finding a good companion, as well as some from my happily married grandparents.



Why is it important that we find soulmates? Doesn’t that put a lot of pressure on the dating process, to expect and look for intense love rather than focusing on friendship?

It is a natural thing for everyone to find a soulmate with a deep love and companionship to live by.

Dating is a beginning process possibly leading to a good marriage but just the beginning step of it all.

Marriage and children is the primary way we keep humanity going.

So if someone wants to find the right person to marry, they need guidance sometimes about how to carry it out. Some may find the right person by accident. My book is focused on those who don’t have a clear plan.



What would say to someone who’s

been single and lonely for years and thinks they give

up?

I would say to an older, single person that their opportunity for getting married to someone single is not over. They may never have been married, or have divorced, or a spouse of one who has died. The age in their life is not a barrier. There are still things you can do to improve your chances of meeting someone and falling in love.



What about the idea that we should focus on becoming our best selves rather than finding partners? Or that relationships should be about giving love, being there for someone else, rather than getting our needs met?

We should always focus on our best selves, whether we are single or in a relationship. Likewise relationships should involve giving love, being helpful to those close to you as well as getting our needs met.



Of course the person you are dealing with needs to be comfortable with you and interested in you. And I’d say you both need to come to admire each other.

My book has eight items for you to focus on regarding your self-improvement. I’ll go over the first three here.

First Item. Set yourself up to be an attractive companion. A self-assessment of yourself is important to your meeting people. You must do an honest review of your strengths and weaknesses. You must evaluate your personality, behavior and needs. You must be careful in evaluating your self-awareness and concentrate on making improvement in key areas. These are things that you must work on improving.

Second Item. Maintain your health, dignity and self-respect. These three things give you the most probable way of looking good. The potential candidates for a long term relationship will view you most positively by

looking good and coming across as a meaningful candidate for marriage.

Third Item. You can have fun while searching for a candidate for marriage, which can be a great adventure. Dating, going to movies, meeting their family and yours, shopping, boating, church, etc. Making it exciting, humorous, warm, and enthusiastic. Whatever it takes for you to make your potential companion feel wonderful.

Why did you choose to write a new dating guide? How is yours unique considering what else is out there?

I have a lot of friends and know other people who are

unhappy singles. They have somehow let me know they have no spouse or children, but don’t know how to find partners. They all envy their friends’ seemingly good marriages. This situation is why I have chosen to write this book.

While being serious and putting the most of you into this, make sure you incorporate your religious beliefs and methods into the plan you use. Including Jesus and God into all of this is very important.

I have three more upcoming books:

● Jesus Christ Delivers Blessings for Your Success

(already being published by Archway Publishing)

● Dad’s Poems for Daughters (100 poems)

● Husband’s Poems for Wife (100 poems)

My goal is to publish and distribute all of these.

Michael Lewis’ How to Find a Good Companion, Even Among Those Who Have Been Picked Over, Called Out, Damaged, Dumped, and Left for Dead is available here.