How To Deal with Loneliness in Festivals & Explore its Beauty?
By: Umme Salma
Tags: Life Lessons, Festivals, Loneliness, Coffee Times Movement

How To Deal with Loneliness in Festivals & Explore its Beauty?

So many arrangements of celebration, but still something is missing. Amid so many people and joyful events, are you finding yourself alone? Let’s explore the beauty of loneliness. Umme Salma Follow Nov 28, 2021 · 4 min read

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Yes, it happened to me years before. I was going through a phase when I was afraid of festivals as that cruelly mirrored me with the ghost of loneliness.

My whole family was going through a tough time, but it deepened when the festive season brought its gift of an extra dose of sadness for us wrapped with glittered packaging of celebration.

After my dad’s demise, we could not celebrate the festive seasons in a true sense for a couple of years. After losing the love of life, the festival becomes a kind of punishment for my mother. Imagine, with the heavy heart of losing the love of her life, she made all the yummy dishes and put a smile on her face to make us happy. But, I could not see the spark in her eyes.

Things got worse when I had my breakup with my boyfriend; my dream of a prince charming coming into my life and rescuing us from the cruel world of loneliness got shattered. It affected my mother’s health badly as she was trying to find happiness in weaving the dream of her daughters’ new life. My father’s death, my mother’s deteriorated health, and the sudden breakup broke me down into little -pieces.

I used to find solace in my work and was so busy and occupied with work that I had no time to feel sad. I intentionally did not allow my sorrows to control me. But at the festive time, I got the luxury to feel sad and alone. During long vacations of the festival, the loneliness got the opportunity to squeeze me every ounce and took the remaining spirit of life.

Long story short, by the grace of the Almighty, now we (me and my family) embrace and celebrate festive wholeheartedly, our souls dance with the rhythm blending in the festive eve, and it brings color into our lives.

But, that chapter of my life teaches me to see the beauty in loneness more deeply and profoundly. That life-changing lesson helped me to learn to accept life as it is and celebrate life fully.

This story is dedicated to those beautiful lonely souls who are still unaware of the hidden treasure in the cave of loneliness.

Tears, let it flow for some time.

I always prefer to see my glass is half full rather than empty. So mostly, even at my difficult time, I remain calm and composed.

However, when I was going through seasonal festive sadness fever, I realized sometimes, crying releases our deposited pain. I believe through praying, in front of Almighty, we should surrender completely, and seek forgiveness to Him and release our pain in the form of tears. It’s the time to connect with our higher self; it’s the time to connect with our creator.

Come on, write it down.

At every festival, I wrote an exclusive journal to pour my heart unknowingly its healing power and medical recommendations. I did it as it gave me a friendly shoulder. Moreover, I used to write my plan for a sunny bright future; it was like writing my destiny, although I believe in pre-destiny.

Write down everything you are feeling. Who knows, that may become your masterpiece one day!

Create and Spread Happiness

I have a keen interest in food photography, and I used to watch Andrew’s food photography in the festive then clicked beautiful pictures of delicious food items made by my mom. It’s not only helped the hunger of my creativity but also, my mom feels appreciated. Her face lit up seeing the beautiful pictures of her hand-made food.

Yes, you can create happiness or create a doomed atmosphere to indulge. I am sure you are smart enough to choose to create happiness and spread it among your loved ones, or family, or stranger, or even to your pet.

Why are you not pamper yourself?

I am obsessed with utilizing time, and sometimes I make wrong steps out of that obsession. For example, I remember I used my entire holiday doing digital marketing courses. Later, I realized it was not a good strategy as it exhausted me eventually. The festive was approaching to end, and so my energy level was.

I did not allow myself some time to rest and do some self-care things in festive to recharge me.

Self-care is one of the meaningful activities that we can do during our vacations. Who does not want to look beautiful, feel beautiful?

Celebrate the season with a whole heart. You are not alone, and even if you think you are alone, that is not miserable. Trust me; explore the beauty of loneliness gracefully and enjoy every bit of this.

Enjoy the festive season and read good articles that can feed your thoughts, bring peace to your soul. Recently, I read a beautiful article on writing by Radhika Iyer. I am sure you are going to love this :)

Thanks for being with me.