I didn’t realize how wrong the others were until I met the one who was right for me
Tags: Trust, Love Yourself, Signs He Loves You Deeply, Healing Emotions, Lovestory

I didn’t realize how wrong the others were until I met the one who was right for me HappilySleepDeprived Feb 21, 2020·4 min read

Whenever you find yourself doubting yourself or the actions and intentions of the one you believe to be “The One,” that in itself should be an indication of something gone awry. Don’t get me wrong, I believe in the ability for couples to overcome differences and even come out stronger after the trials of life and difficulties of loving one another. I don’t however, believe that anyone who doubts in themself or their partner will be able to overcome those difficulties or differences. You can still go through struggles and screaming battles with one another without ever doubting your love or loyalty to each other. It is definitely easier for someone who has an optimistic view of love to find and share love. I think that optimism can even infect or encourage someone who may have more pessimistic views.

Doubt is the root of the failure of all relationships.

I’m not saying that you can’t have moments of weakness in your mind when it comes to being in love with someone. Everyone goes through seasons of depression, anxiety, sadness, loss, frustration, stress, or whatever you want to call it that may cause lapses in judgment that may shroud their true character. Despite those barriers, I believe those who truly know in their mind and heart that they and their partner will overcome those moments will actually be able to come out on top.

This is coming from the perspective of someone who is solely searching for a true lifelong partner. I understand that there are many people who date and fall in love without the intent of being with that person for the rest of their life. My stories and perspective about heat break, satisfaction, and love are not coming from

Even from the introduction of this story, you can probably tell that I’m not the most optimistic or hopeful person when it comes to relationships. My true colors show because I started out with a disclaimer to my back up my opinions. That doesn’t mean I’m not a dreamer or an idealist. My concerns don’t falter by beliefs in finding true love or beliefs that I have truly found “the one” to share my entire life with. Every step I take brings me closer to reaching that beloved destination of a happy ending.

When I first met him, I never thought he’d be the one I would want to be with. That goes along with my views on how I don’t like to believe in first impressions completely, but I don’t want to digress onto that story. The more I started to trust him and myself, the easier it was to be in love with him. I’m not writing this from a perspective of dating 2 months into a relationship. I believe we are past our “honeymoon phase” and we have come close to almost 1 year and 2 months of dating. When we began our relationship, it felt like it was too easy to be around him. Laughter and comfort came all too easily whenever we were together. Even when we weren’t together, I still felt the comfort and ease that anyone should have when they’re in a safe and loving relationship.

The doubts and internal struggles I had with others didn’t exist when I was loving and being loved by him. I realized that all the devastating realities about “love” and “relationships” became so trivial in hindsight.

My battle with healing after being cheated on was a difficult downhill struggle. That oxymoron of a phrase was the perfect description of the emotions and mental state after the break-up. Uphill battles are meant to be won. This battle was not something I was trained to win at all. I doubted every part of myself. I doubted my ability to trust, my ability to love, my ability to overcome hardships, my own beauty and self-image, my judgment of character, my established relationship with friends, and even my dream of a future with anyone else. I doubted everyone else’s intentions, their ability to

He makes me believe in a better future for us. He gives me confidence to trust my own hopes and dreams. He tells me not to worry and that he knows I can in moments when I am unsure of what I’m working towards. He helps me see and learn things that I couldn’t on my own. He treats me the way I hoped to be treated but doubted would be possible. He showed me how ridiculous it was to have distrusted myself in loving or being loved.

Some may believe the question is how do people know that they’ve found the one? I believe, that when you’ve found the one, you don’t have to question whether or not you have anymore.

We’re nowhere near being married yet. We don’t have plans of our future family yet. We haven’t gone through even half of the struggles we will encounter, but I know we’ll be together when it all happens.

to be continued… (2/21/20)