These Are The Things You Learn When You’re A Hopeless Romantic
By: Alexandria Brown
Tags: Relationships, Love, Self, Life Lessons, Creative Non Fiction

These Are The Things You Learn When You’re A Hopeless Romantic

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Is there ever a point in our lives where we should give up on love? Where we should throw in the towel and just be content with not finding another person to let into our hearts? I don’t think so. I don’t think that we should ever look at life and think that love will never find us.

1. Prince or Princess Charming might ride the bus instead of a white horse.

Does what we drive or what we wear or what we do really matter at the end of the day? Why do we set impossibly high standards on what we’re looking for in another person? High standards are great but if it’s so specific it makes it so that when we do find someone, they have to meet a criteria list that literally not many people can. When you find someone who makes you happy, the details really are just the details.

2. Sometimes the person you love doesn’t magically realize they love you too.

Sometimes we fall for people who don’t feel the same way. Does that mean that in some way there’s something wrong with us? No. Not at all. I have found that sometimes falling for the wrong person can teach us what we want from the right person.

3. You have to kiss a lot of frogs.

Or maybe you didn’t have to and are just lucky. Sometimes though, it takes a long time till you find the one person you want to settle down and have a house full of puppies with. Just because it’s taking a long time to find the one though doesn’t mean that there’s anything wrong with you. It just means that they’re taking their sweet ass time to get to you.

4. Nothing good comes without struggle.

Even when you meet the right person, that doesn’t mean you ride off into the sunset and that’s it. You just get to live your life with your love without any sort of issues. Nope. No way. Whoever said love isn’t work is wrong. Love is another full-time job on top of your already full-time job. Even though it’s work, it’s so fulfilling if you find the right partner to do it with.

5. Sparks fade but laughs don’t.

You know that fuzzy feeling in your tummy you get when that new person you’re into texts you? Yeah, that fades. It just has too. It deepens into something more than just butterflies. So if you’re the type of person who lives for sparks, I’m sorry to tell you that it’s not real. Find someone you can be incredibly silly with. Find the person who you stay up all night with laughing. Find the person that allows you to be yourself and loves all of the quirks you thought were unloveable. That’s the person you should want to end up with. Not the one with instant sparks.

6. Never settle.

The last and probably the most important point. Never settle. For anything or anyone. Resentment isn’t something you want to feel later on in life. You want to look at the person you’ve ended up with and see what you saw in them the first time you met. Fall in love with the person for everything that they are and everything they add to your life. Never let someone make you feel like you can’t do better because if that person is not making you feel your absolute best, I promise you can find better.

Your happily ever after might not have a sunset or royalty but it will match whatever reality you’ve created. From one hopeless romantic to another, falling in love isn’t always sunshine and rainbows but it is worth diving into. No matter what happens at the end of the day, love will always be the best feeling.