Let’s Talk About Everything!
By: Cita Sacita Dewi
Tags: Conversations, Talking, Life

Being a talkative person sometimes get me into trouble.

When I was in 9th grade, my English teacher rebuked me for being noisy in her class. Well, that was not the first time I got scolded by my teacher and the first time I got scolded is when I was in kindergarten, my teacher gave me this moon shape stamp in my hand because I can’t stop talking even when my teacher told me to stop. Soon after that, I cried as hard as I can. That was, of course, embarrassing , that’s why I still remember it up until now. I don’t know why I really love having a conversation with my friends, even it’s not something necessary to talk about.

As long as I remember, my parents never taught me, specifically, about how to speak or how to deal with other people. It just I am, as a child, copying the way they talk, the way they handle situation, the way they express their happiness or sadness. You may say that I’m learning by observing their behavior. Until finally I grow up into young adult. It’s normal for you to have a conversation for various needs. And for me, starting a conversation is not a big deal, unless when it comes to “important conversation”, like having conversation with your lecturer.

Having in a conversation with someone, even if you’re not really close to that person, somehow it feels therapeutic in some way.

It releases some toxic notion because maybe, you share the idea and you can see what other’s think about something. You might find a new idea. You release bad tense. You make a good relation. You find a solution, by talking to others! Isn’t it good? Friend of mine ever asked me this “How can you be so confidence to talk with them?”.

First, I put them as an ordinary human being with no harm and have a good intention. It’s not always me who start the conversation, it can be the other way round. Let me tell you this. You are in the middle of your trip and it take two hours to get to destination. On your left side, there is an old man, talking about how good the weather is. Of course, as someone younger, I’m gonna respond his sentences. It’s not just because I’m trying to be polite, sometimes, I just need someone to talk about everything. But you have to be careful with someone you talking to. It’s hard to find a good companion to talk. Remember, don’t talk loosely and don’t give any personal information about yourself to stranger and . If you’re not feeling comfortable , you better be keep silent or just pretending listening to music by using headphone.

Secondly, see their reaction toward you words. Not everyone comfortable to have a conversation with you,even when you think you have interesting story to talk about. You need to know when to stop.Third. Have a good closing such as “Nice to talk to you”. or “See you next time, hope you enjoy your trip!”. That’s how you deal a conversation with someone you just met. What about having a nice conversation with someone you already know? Well, I always ask how’s their day lately. Or asking them the same topics we’re in. It will lead you to other topics. You don’t have to feel awkward, if you want to end the conversation because it just too boring or you can’t understand about the subject, you can tell them by asking “what do you mean by bla bla bla” or you can ask permission to go somewhere else.

With this ability, it took me to someone else world. It takes a big courage to start but it will lead you to something you never knew before. It tighten your relationship with your friends, family, spouse, colleagues, and other people. As for me, having a conversation is about having a good talk between your interlocutors and you enjoy every moment of it. Here’s a little tips : read as much as you can, about anything you like. So you’ll never run out of interesting discussion to talk about! Cheers!