Bullies are Desperate for Love and Inclusion — Hurting people hurt people. Life lessons & Love
By: Ep Mcknight
Tags: Community, Parents, Schools, Bullying

Why all need to intervene. Bullies have serious personality issues and need to be dealt with. They mask their pain by attacking others.

Another life ended too soon at the hands of someone who is in a lot of pain. This kid didn't have to die from the hands of another classmate. Where are the bullies parents in all this? Too much silence. Parents know when their kids are bullies but often turn a deaf ear until something tragic happens that forces their silence to become paramount.

When my daughter was in junior high school, she’d do things to others for no reason. Pranks like dropping eggs from a window on someone’s head, or throwing chicken bones out the window on others or just menacing types of misdeeds. Never once did I take it likely but chastised her with a severity to control and stop this dangerous behavior. Eventually it did diminished.

When a bully is not stopped, the bullying or the bully takes liberty and free range and increase their bullying efforts until someone is harmed or killed. Just like in the case of Diego. This death could have been avoided, if someone would have just done their job. The bullies, along with their parents, the school system have failed this child and many others like him.

A few weeks ago, Ms. Chrisitan Tinsley, see the article below, a parent suffered the same mishap where she reported bullying to the school and it all fell on deaf ears, so she took matters into her own hand. So one day thereafter, she barged into the school and went to her daughter’s classroom and threatened anyone, child, parent, whoever bullies her child they will have to deal with her. She made it clear, she would not beat up on a child but the parents can come and see her and she made her intentions very clear. Not that I agree with her actions but she may have saved her daughter ‘s life unlike Diego.

The school was horrified and escorted her out and now the penal system is threatening to lock her up for protecting her child. The best part of this story is that her child is yet alive. Jail time is wrong in her case. All those who failed Diego and this ladies daughter deserves some reprimanding. The schools, parents and community all have to work together to stop all this bullying. The bullies need counseling and love. Bullies have deep seated pain and is thrusting that pain on others. Bad enough our kids have to deal with gun violence and now bullying has become all too common. While it may be difficult to deal with, the choices are few. The children need to feel protected from bullying and all other life threatening elements. Pain begets more pain, hurting people hurt people.

A little boy by the name of Diego Stolz, 13, had been repeatedly targeted by bullies, even after the incidence had being reported to the Moreno Valley school district. The day before his death, one of them had punched him in the chest and threatened that more violence was coming. The principal assured them that the bullies would be suspended for three days but when Diego returned to classes after the weekend the boys were still there. Whose the real culprit here!!??

The bullies confronted him around lunchtime with a pair of sucker punches that knocked him to the ground, captured on video and posted on Facebook. Diego never woke up and was removed from life support nine days later. This breaks my heart and makes me agree that what Ms. Tinsley did was save her child’s life.

Diego had suffered much bullying according to the LA Times article. It all began when he was in the seventh grade where classmates stole his shoes and articles of clothing and continued on. What a nightmare for this kid to suffer and die like this, especially even having lost both parents prior.

Constant complaints to the school officials, fell on deaf ears or wasn’t taken serious, therefor a child lost his life. Even a science teacher attempted to intervened to get help but was not heeded, either.

According to the students and staffer, their school had become a haven for fights. Perhaps, that was why the administration was lax in their judgement. No one wants their school labeled as such, but denying doesn’t make it go away. As a matter of fact, it allows bullies to take continue their behavior without any penalty. This school turned a blind eye and a kid lost his life way too soon. There had been lo-simmering complaints of bullying at this school.

Here are the statistics for this school’s reputation. Per the Sheriff’s Department there had been a record of a total of 137 calls for service from August 2018 to September 2019. Most of the calls were non threatening, except for 38 calls that were related to violent or criminal allegations, including assault, battery, threats, disturbances and violations of the state Welfare and Institutions Code. 137 was an alert, but 38 criminal allegations, didn’t they see a death coming, like Diego.

The administrator is on leave and other changes had been made pertaining to Diego’s death but all is a day late and a dollar short. Two boys (13) have been charged with manslaughter in connection with Diego’s death. Diego’s aunt and family is now suing for millions of dollars and rightfully so, but not one dollar can restore this life.

Bullies need help psychologically and also need to pay for what they did in this case. Perhaps, their plight in the penal system will deter other bullies and save more lives in the school system and else where.

In conclusion, these bullies are people too and need much love, counseling and help. Parents, teachers, churches and communities, all need to band together to protect the innocence. Love can banish hate!!!

E.P. MCKNIGHT, #1 Amazon Best Seller’s list Author, IS A GRADUATE OF FORDHAM UNIVERSITY LINCOLN CENTER, NY,NY WHERE SHE RECEIVED HER MASTER’S DEGREE IN EDUCATIONAL PSYCHOLOGY. SHE IS HONORED TO DEBUT THREE OF HER 10 MINUTE PLAYS AT THE 2012 NAACP THEATRE FESTIVAL.

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