SELFLOVE|A journey of self discovery to create self love!
By: Arzisha Fatima
Tags: Healing, Love Yourself, Self Worth, Positivity, Self Love

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Loving yourself comes down through your ACTIONS!

In order to know how to love yourself you must carry out actions that feel aligned with your heart and your intuition.

Inside every person rests a child, that is sensitive, soft and loving. Now let’s suppose that you are to take care of this inner-child of yours, and do not let it feel neglected.

What kinds of things would you do to take care of this child to love it, honour it, protect it from the selfish world?

I’m sure you already have a few ideas flooding your brain.

Now,conversely, what all could be the things that doesn’t make this child feel neglected? Uncared for? Resented? Like as if it was a nuisance?

This inner child is your heart.

The more you love, cherish and honour your inner child, the more it flourishes, comes alive, and energetic.

How to become a better Self-lover everyday:

Let’s get down to the nitty gritty!

I’ve stated a list of simple actions that can make you LOVE YOURSELF FIRST, if you follow them.

1.Taking care of your nutrition:

Eat clean. The food that you put in your body is your fuel. Your constantly putting in junk food will make you feel like a junk.

So eat clean. Drink plenty of water, eat lots of veggies, nuts and limit the intake of processed foods.

2. Unfollow or unfriend your social media people who spread negativity:

Do not let the sick minds and negative thoughts of the negative people conquer your brain. What I simply mean is that, do not follow the people in your social media account that are just designated to spread negativity all around.

To be honest, I too have approximately 1K followers in my Instagram, but I do not follow all of them. Specially the ones whom I think are my foes(because they are the ones who probably have negative perspective regarding me).

3.Invest your time in sleep:

You roughly spend a third of your life sleeping. So enhance your sleeping schedule and acquire almost six to eight hours of good sleep.

Whenever going to sleep, put on eyemask, or switch off all the lights so that you can pacify your mind while sleeping.

4. Be intentional while you spend your time:

Say No to people you don’t like spending your time with. Do not pay heed to the opportunities that are not meant to serve you and your core values.

If I highlight the importance of time, I would always suggest you to manage it wisely when it comes to self-love. So do not waste it on people who are deceiver or I would call them as “ A devil in disguise”. Know who are your true pals and cherish your friendship with them in togetherness.

5. Self Recognition:

The most important thing is self recognition,i.e., to recognize your own self.

“When you recover or discover something that nourishes your soul and brings joy, care enough about yourself to make room for it in your life.”

— Jean Shinoda Bolen

This saying perfectly fits for someone who think that they are not enough to fill their life with love and need someone to understand them.

6. Spend time alone:

Whether you’re single or in a relationship (everybody needs some space) you can cultivate a relationship with you by spending time alone.

Many a times, I’ve seen people who keep a diary and make accounts of every single thing they like or dislike, or perhaps complaints to god or boasting themselves.

They are the people who really take out time and look into their life unlike the ones begging someone to love them and forfeit their lives to them.

7. Have no regrets. Instead forgive yourself:

Often we feel depressed by our wrong doings in the past and are likely to punish ourselves. Now this could be a major barrier to self love. There could be many reasons behind it.

Maybe you feel bad about how you treated your ex. Or maybe you’ve a whole streak of months or years in your life where you haven’t forgiven yourself.

Instead of regretting you need to forgive yourself. Turn to God, say out loud the things you think were wrong, or if you’ve hurt someone. Meditate on your thoughts.

Just spending your time with your favorite person is not enough, also invest your love into others in a roundabout way, it funnels love into your relationship with others as well.

Love the ones whom you’ve deemed to be worthy of your time and the love for yourself will automatically find a way out to you and will get bigger, better and so.

You are enough!

Your greatest responsibility is to love yourself and to know that you are enough, nobody will standout with you at your times of adversity.

And believe me or not, if you are not to know who you are or what you can do, nobody else is going to value your worth.

Your journey of self love begins!

You can start your journey by whichever tips you find the easiest to incorporate into your life.

And then, when you think you’ve got a solid handle on integrating one habit, start with the other.

Wishing you the best of luck in your self love journey!

Dedicated to your success,

Arzisha.