Engagement: My Two Experiences From A Kid’s Perspective
By: Sara Knick
Tags: Childhood Memories, Love, Relationships Love Dating, Engagement, Marriage

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When I was younger around the age of 5 or 6, my mom told me that the boy that I was being watched with had given me the ring from his Cracker Jack box. I don’t remember anything about what happened myself, but the mom of the boy told my mom and it became a cute story. Later on, I was in 7th grade and sitting in my class on the far right of the classroom. In my mind, it was an ordinary day. I think we were learning about Ancient Egypt. I enjoyed my teacher and how she taught. There was a boy on my left that randomly went down on one knee and proposed to me in front of the whole class. It was embarrassing. He had come in from a different country a year or two ago. I was trying to ignore him. At this point, I didn’t feel super attractive at this age and I was self conscious. I was considered somewhat of a smart kid in class. I was upset with him after this. I tried to just focus on my work and my next classes. I was just like, “Ew!” and repulsed from the whole experience. In my head, I had many questions. What compelled him to do this? Was it supposed to be a joke to embarrass me in front of the class?

Women usually fantasize about the notion of getting engaged quite frequently, but at these young ages for myself, I knew that it wasn’t right in so many words. With the “engagement proposal” in 7th grade, I felt repelled by the energy and knew that it wasn’t right for me. I knew inside myself that it would not work. There was no foundation. He knew nothing about me and there was no love involved.

All too often women can feel pressured to respond in a specific way in regards to relationships, marriage or love. We can have beliefs pushed on us about what age we need to get married or how it is going to be “too late” if we don’t have children by a specific age. Considering outside opinions too seriously can lead us to more misery because we are not connected with the true energy of ourselves and our beliefs.

Because I didn’t have self-doubt about what I felt was right, it was easy for me to make a good choice for myself. I may have been self-conscious about my looks, but I knew that there was more that I wanted to do. I felt that the pairing of the energy wasn’t right and rejected it.

Sometimes people can feel bad or uncomfortable in rejecting someone. If a relationship doesn’t feel right and you put effort and energy into it, you are not doing yourself any favors. Deciding to forge a new path can be beneficial for you and the other partner if that’s the way that you decide to go.

If you’ve been in a relationship for awhile, you may feel like there’s no going back and you are too invested in your current relationship for life even though you are still grasping for more while the other person has become complacent or too comfortable.

We need to do what feels right to us. This comes with us using exploration, intuition, knowledge as well as rejection. Rejection isn’t bad. It is a means to redirect our path towards where we want to go.

In these two experiences from my childhood, I learned about true energy without having outside opinions. I learned to know what was right for myself. I also had no other outside pre-conceived ideas, beliefs or feelings on topics of relationships, marriage and love. I was able to react and act naturally to what felt right to me.