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“Role of Grandmother” is an emerging and recurring theme for me these days and it’s playing out via…
By: Julie-Anne Mullan
Tags: Adoption, Grandmother, Birth Trauma, Pregnancy, Energy Healing

“Role of Grandmother” is an emerging and recurring theme for me these days and it’s playing out via family, friend and client sources. There’s so much we want for our grandchildren and that’s okay in the human community. Nice thought to want a better start, great birth, and wonderful life for generations of the future. Great that we do what we can to make the best happen — on condition that we undertake not to be disappointed (I speak as though to myself here ) if things turn out differently.

What if we, the professionals who meet with expectant mums, listen out for the possibility that it is the grandmother who needs support to resolve her unresolved tears and fears, in preparation for this incoming child.

That said, it’s super of us to work with a mum in advance of her baby’s birth supporting her intention to have the best birth possible and be able to respond to the unexpected(!) if it happens. And, also, on hearing a cry for help from the grandmother, regarding her birth(s), encourage her to seek birth healing which takes many forms such as Matrix Birth Reimprinting, Emotion Code, and other sensory healing modalities.

Common themes that arise relate to conception context, social pressures, relationship with the dad as also tales of pressure to give baby up for adoption; heart pain that never goes away but that can be addressed very effectively even decades later. PS some of you will remember the Troubles….they, the children who lived through them are the grandparents of today, and if still affected, deserve peace. Do this, and in time to come, those affected by the covid restrictions of last 16 months will more easily be recognised as holding on to memories of loss, whatever they may be.
A Transracially-Adopted Child’s Bill of Rights
By: Pact, An Adoption Alliance
Tags: Adoption, Transracial Adoption, Bill Of Rights, Adoptee, Race

by Liza Steinberg

adapted from “A Bill of Rights for Mixed Folks,” by Marilyn Dramé.

Every child is entitled to love and full membership in his or her family.

Every child is entitled to have his or her heritage and culture embraced and valued.

Every child is entitled to parents who acknowledge that this is a race-conscious society.

Every child is entitled to parents who know that he or she will experience life differently than they do.

Every child is entitled to parents who are not looking to “save” him or to improve the world through adoption.

Every child is entitled to parents who know that being in a family doesn’t depend on “matching.”

Every child is entitled to parents who know that transracial adoption changes the family into a family of color forever.

Every child is entitled to be accepted by extended family members.

Every child is entitled to parents who know that, if they are white, they benefit from racism.

Every child is entitled to parents who know that they can’t transmit the child’s birth culture if it is not their own.

Every child is entitled to have items at home that are made for and by people of his race and/or ethnic heritage.

Every child is entitled to opportunities to make friends with people of his or her race or ethnicity.

Every child is entitled to daily opportunities of positive experiences with his or her birth culture.

Every child is entitled to build racial pride within his or her own home, school, and neighborhood.

Every child is entitled to have many opportunities to connect with adults who are the same race as they are.

Every child is entitled to parents who accept, understand and empathize with his or her culture.

Every child is entitled to learn survival, problem-solving, and coping skills in a context of racial pride.

Every child is entitled to take pride in the development of a dual identity and a multicultural/multiracial perspective on life.

Every child is entitled to find his or her racial identity to be an asset and to conclude; “I’ve got the best of both worlds!”
Deconstructing the Date
By: Erika Anderson
Tags: Patriarchy, Presence, Dating App, Mindfulness, Dating

Photo by Jessica Felicio on Unsplash

Finding the one is a colossal waste of time. This had been my mantra until recently, when I decided to get back on apps in order to find “a” one. Someone I wanted to see again. Someone I wanted to kiss. Someone to share my nights with.

What I have found is that we’re no good at meeting each other. Yes, once we’ve gone through matching and messaging, we may agree on place and time — and actually go through with it. But once we’re there, who is to say that we’re actually wanting to be seen for who we are or to truly see the person before us? Who’s to say we even know how to do that?

That we can bring basic decency to the process is a win for humanity.

My relationship ideal is to create a “here.” A third place — where you and I meet. A place that feels connected. Where there is no spiel. No rote run down on what we’ve done and where we’ve been. In my bedroom, woodcut letters read be here with me. I’m not trying to kidnap anyone — I just want to find a present with someone else.

While it’s easy to complain about dating, it’s close to miraculous that we’re willing to meet strangers at all. In several decades time, we have adopted a completely new behavior. That we can bring basic decency to the process is a win for humanity. But the fact that we don’t know how to be in our own bodies and connect with someone else is a loss.

I only want to be with someone if we add something to each other’s lives.

This isn’t a problem with no name, but it’s certainly a problem with no solution. If you don’t know how to be with yourself, I can’t help you. If you don’t know how to be with me, I can try to guide you, but I can’t do it for you.

While I used to bristle at the idea that we don’t need to teach men, as I look at the landscape of patriarchy, the systems that support an ignorance of the self and others’ needs, I see that the whole thing is rigged. I have spent a decade of dates playing therapist, trying to help men understand their emotions and reactions, and I’m officially done — not from a place of anger but one of clarity. I don’t know that we ever got anywhere anyhow.

On Valentine’s, when I told a guy I had been dating for a month that I wanted to feel more connected to him, all he could say was, “This is awkward.” That he grabbed his things and walked out, while shocking in and of itself, didn’t really surprise me. I haven’t heard from him and I don’t expect to. A previous version of me would try to repair this, try to help him figure it out — what was he scared of? Where was the wound? But that’s not my work. That’s his work, whether he chooses it or not.

I don’t need to date. I don’t need to marry. I only want to be with someone if we add something to each other’s lives. If we can inhabit a space of our own making.

This essay is part of a series about relationships, dating, and friendship, sponsored by Chorus, the matchmaking app where friends swipe for friends.
My Grandmother likes to wear skirts
By: Nnebuugo Paul.
Tags: Patriarchy, Grandmother, People, Family, Rhymes

Picture designed by meeee, lol

“My Grandmother likes to wear skirts. She don’t know what she can do.

Her time says it’s Six o’clock. We are ready to comb our hair; we are ready to brush our teeth. St… jk, jk” — Nigerian Rhyme (well, most of it)

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My Grandmother likes to wear skirts.

She had a pair of shoes that went with each skirt she wore, no matter the color.

The entire village nicknamed her “madam koinkoin”

But my grandmother paid no attention to them.

On Mondays, On Fridays.

In the mornings, in the evenings.

To church, to the market.

It didn’t matter.

Wherever my grandmother went, her skirts danced along.

Nobody knew why but for me.

Grandmother had told me one day, as she pointed at the pictures of my grandfather in the family album.

She said he worked with the whites.

His boss was a kind woman who feared the Lord.

From time to time, his boss would send gifts to her through my grandfather, skirts.

But she would refuse to touch them because she hated the fact that her husband served a woman.

It was not as if she hated it, exactly.

It was just that people taunted her.

They said she was married to a fellow woman because a real man would never serve a woman.

That it was a white woman that he served made it an even greater abomination.

And so, not only would she refuse to touch the gifts, she would nag, and nag, and nag.

One day, my grandfather had enough.

He resigned from his job, even though it paid him well and provided more than enough for the family.

My grandmother was pregnant with my mother, and he didn’t want to see her nag in her current position.

So he gave up one thing for another.

After quitting his job, Grandpa went back to his old job, palm wine tapping.

On the second day, after he started tapping wine again, he fell from a palm tree and died.

Suddenly, it didn’t matter again what job he did or who bossed him.

The moment she pulled off her mourning dress, my grandmother wore skirts.

It has been 37 years, but my grandmother has worn a skirt every day of her life since then.

My grandmother likes to wear skirts.

It’s a reminder of what really matters and how people’s opinions can end a man if you let it.
THE BIRD AT DAWN. CHAPTER 1
By: Satabdi Mishra
Tags: Patriarchy, Oppression, Love Story In English, Freedom, Widowhood

CHAPTER 1

“Manali! Come lend me a hand here.” called out Sudha. Quiet as a statue, pale as the rising moon, she went in and started chopping the vegetables. “We are leaving tomorrow for Nupur’s baby shower. Take care of the house. The maids will come at 6. Here, take the keys. Lock up and sleep early.” declared the mother-in-law. “Can’t I join you all, Ma? Haven’t met Nupur in months,” she asked eagerly. It had been long since she smiled last, hence wanted to be a part of something cheery. “No Manali, You can’t come. It’s considered inauspicious when widows participate in festivals, weddings or celebratory social occasions. Meet Nupur when she comes here, next month.” urged Mrs. Upadhyaya.

The Upadhyayas left for Berhampur the next morning, leaving Manali all alone in the large, empty house. A red Sambalpuri Ikkat silk saree grabbed her attention, as she started cleaning the cupboard. Tears rolled down her eyes as she looked at the pale yellow Kurta she was wearing. Solitary she stood as she reminisced all she had been through, in the past two months. Her heart roared in despair as the red sindoor on her forehead was wiped clean and her glass bangles smashed. So much had changed since Sourav passed.

Mahashivaratri it was. On their way back from Lingaraj Temple, they got hit by a truck on the highway. Sourav died on the spot as Manali was rushed to the hospital, she was critical. Nothing has been the same in her life since the incident. Gloomily she sighed as she remembered her ritual bath. Wiping her tears, she headed towards the kitchen to cook dinner. Separating onion, garlic among the spices, she pondered how lonely she was.

Tired after a hectic day, she sat scrolling Facebook. A shiver ran down her spine as ‘his’ profile popped up. Memories flashed back as she stumbled upon “PC: Manali Choudhury”. Nostalgic, she caressed the picture, accidentally liking it. Panicked, she unliked it immediately. Now a depressed widow, she badly wanted to vent herself out, the way she felt, but there seemed none slightly interested to lend an ear. People had been avoiding her. She had not spoken much to anyone since March.

Guilt swept in as she clicked “Add Friend” helplessly. In a second, he accepted her request and texted a ‘Hey’. No matter how tempting it was to text back, she held herself back apprehensive of the consequences. But finally gave in to the pathetic condition she was in.

Continue reading Chapter 2
The Moment I Realized I Can’t Be A Christian
By: Andrew Cheng
Tags: Christianity, Religion, Atheism, Politics, Philosophy

In Defence of Buffet-Style Christianity

The God of the Old Testament is not a virtuous entity. He doesn’t even meet John Stuart Mill’s Harm Principle; He’s actively harming innocent people.

We may ultimately live in a world where might makes right, but that doesn’t make God’s tyranny worthy of praise and worship.

While I will always draw great inspiration from the character of Christ, I can never wholeheartedly support a God who punishes a monarch by killing his subjects’ children. I denounce the notion a creator can do whatever he wants to his creation. Those with great power must hold themselves to higher standards; Uncle Ben was right.

I want to think I would defy such a God till the very end. Though, in all honesty, should I find myself face-to-face with such an entity, I would probably yield as Winston Smith did at the conclusion of 1984. Luckily for me, the evidence for such a God is all but non-existent.

As such, I will always be an agnostic, even if I continue to harbor emotional biases towards the church.

I suppose I am what evangelicals like to call a buffet-style Christian. I sample the parts of the Christian story I like, and I apply them only when it serves me.

The concept of a buffet-style Christian draws ire from both evangelicals and atheists alike. You shouldn’t get to pick the parts of the Bible you want to keep. Either accept it all or denounce it completely.

To the evangelicals — particularly the Christian nationalists, I retort that you, too, are buffet-style Christians.

The Bible is very much against Sunday night football games. (And any activity that involves pigskin, for that matter.) Not a single verse advocates for the right to bear arms. And, no, President Bush, God has never once promised anybody democracy.

However, the Bible does implore you to welcome the foreigner in your midst (Leviticus 19:34). You should probably spend more time protesting divorces than gay marriage, at least if you value Jesus’ teachings more than Paul’s (Matthew 5:32). And you should give all your possessions to the poor. (Matthew 19:21)

You can find my retorts to atheists here and here.
Why Nobody Should Be an Atheist
By: Matthew Prince
Tags: Religion, Atheism, Belief, God, Philosophy

Why Nobody Should Be an Atheist

If we are choosing reason over blind faith, then there is no logical reason to be an atheist. Matthew Prince Follow Jan 26 · 5 min read

Photo by Diana Simumpande on Unsplash

Since the birth of modernization, there has been a decline in organized religion. Science has provided answers to some unexplained phenomena that were attributed to the Gods and spirits. We have laid aside many superstitious beliefs. Lightning isn’t Zeus showing his anger, nor is the rainbow a bridge that reaches between the earth and the realm of the Gods, like it was believed in the Greek and Norse mythology, respectively.

As someone who was born and raised in Nigeria, I didn’t have to grapple with the logic or illogic of believing in the supernatural. It’s just part of us from birth. Wherever you turn, people suggest the existence of a God(s).

Research has shown that humans are predisposed to believe in Gods and the afterlife — Not just those of us with a heavy religious background. Children below the age of three accredit their parents and God with the ability of all-seeing and all-knowing. At four, they understand that their parents are not all-seeing or all-knowing, but they continue to believe these powers are possessed by a God.

Another study suggested that people are instinctively dualistic; We naturally believe that our mind, soul, or spirit continue to live after our physical death.
A Few Thoughts to Ponder About Prayer
By: Tim Zeak
Tags: Bible, Prayer, Christianity, Atheism, Apologetics

* Many will say that prayer does not change God but changes us. This seems to be the most common explanation for why prayers are not answered. However, there is a big problem with that assertion. It just so happens to contradict the Bible in numerous places. A few examples of many are:

Matthew 18:19: “Again I say to you, that if two of you agree on earth about anything that they may ask, it shall be done for them by My Father who is in heaven.”

Jeremiah 33:3: “Call to Me, and I will answer you, and I will tell you great and mighty things, which you do not know.”

1 John 5:15: And if we know that He hears us in whatever we ask, we know that we have the requests which we have asked from Him.

John 16:24: Until now you have asked for nothing in My name; ask and you will receive, so that your joy may be made full.

Genesis 25:21 Isaac prayed to the Lord on behalf of his wife, because she was barren; and the Lord answered him and Rebekah his wife conceived.

Is it possible that those people who claim that prayer is to change us and not God, are just grasping at straws?

* Mark Twain said that praying is asking God to change His mind.

* While many testify that having a headache eased or finding their lost car keys was answered prayer, others wonder why there has never been a documented case of God healing an amputee or just anything at all that has no other plausible explanation. Is it an answer to prayer if a flipped coin turns out a winner? To prove His greatness and the fact that He answers prayer, why has He never healed an entire hospital or rained down manna to starving people where it could be documented by video?

* Some teach that a clear cut, no doubt about it miracle witnessed on TV news would deprive us from the necessity of having our faith tested. Why? Others believe that it really would help people everywhere to truly believe and to increase their faith?

* Two other reasons often given why a prayer is not answered is that the person lacks enough faith or has hidden or unconfessed sin. Imagine the painful guilt and anxiety that this sort of thing can cause. Some preachers claim that God answers all prayers but sometimes His answer is “no” or “later.” But can anything ever be declared to be true that is not falsifiable? Do these explanations have any basis, or are they just cheap cop-outs.

* The remission of some cancers is not a rare occurrence, even to those who never pray.

* To quote again Matthew 18:19 “Again I say to you, that if two of you agree on earth about anything that they may ask, it shall be done for them by My Father who is in heaven.”

Does that mean that no two Christians ever prayed to God to wipe out leukemia and the other diseases that millions of innocent babies are born with each year? If Matthew is correct, how is it possible that the mosquitoes that spread malaria in Africa are still alive?
“Science” by definition, is what the majority of scientists on earth believe at any given time.
By: Richard Aberdeen
Tags: Atheism, Creation, Evolution, Jesus, Science

“Science” by definition, is what the majority of scientists on earth believe at any given time. This does not mean it is true. For example, the majority of scientists today believe life is a result of evolution by natural selection. However, this does not make it true. There are a growing number of scientists, based on a growing body of evidence, who believe Darwinism is wrong. However, because they are not the majority, then what they believe is not considered science, unless and until the majority of scientists on earth agree.

There was a time when Copernicus’ view was in the minority, a time when Galileo was in the minority, a time when Einstein was in the minority. Because a view is not the majority, this does not necessarily make it wrong, but it does mean that it is not “science”, unless and until the majority of scientists agree.

You are criticizing me for using the term “science” instead of scientists, so now you know the difference. Using the term “science” is accurate as long as it represents a majority view, even if some day it is no longer a majority view.

Science used to believe the following 5 things listed below; each number noted below at one time was by far the majority opinion of living practicing scientists on earth.

The Universe is a result of deliberate design and creation by an Eternal Creator, also called “Primary Cause”. Nothing can exist unto itself, without a primary cause. What this means is that energy, light, motion, intelligence, life and mathematics cannot rationally exist unto themselves. Even if they could possibly do so, all scientific experiments demonstrate the opposite conclusion, including all known experiments here in the 21st Century. The atom is the smallest part of matter. The sun and planets revolve around the earth. There is only one galaxy, which is static and eternal.

Numbers 3,4 & 5 are no longer “science”, because they have been demonstrated by evidence to be incorrect. They are no longer “science” because the majority of scientists no longer agree.

However, numbers 1 & 2 remain “science”, because they have not been demonstrated by evidence to be incorrect.

What you and Richard Dawkins and all atheists are trying to do is just eliminate 1 & 2, without providing any evidence to substantiate your position. This is why both you and Richard Dawkins are not practicing science. What you are promoting has never been established by evidence to be correct or even remotely possible.

You can’t just decide you don’t like the fact that Jesus is smarter than you, so you can freely go around pretending he was wrong about God. Both you and Richard Dawkins will have to answer one day for what you do, whether you like it or not. We can’t just pretend there is no God, because God exists, anyway and, we are responsible to what we teach God’s children, however good or bad it may be.
How to Be an Irreplaceable Designer
By: Hoang Nguyen
Tags: Creativity, Design, Personal Development, Personal Growth, Mindset Shift

OPINION

How to be an Irreplaceable Designer

Photo by Faizur Rehman on Unsplash

We all are talented, which means we excel at something. Lucky people are the ones who recognize their talent in the first place and do it passionately, which helps them attain specific work achievements.

However, the problem is that it makes us feel too special to be replaced by someone else. The truth is that life revolves around nobody. We can be good at something and out there full of people who are also doing well or even better than us.

There was a time when I started to get upset that perhaps I am the best fit for the current position now, but there is always a better option to replace me when the time comes.

I started to obsess with the fear of being replaced.

If you are reading here and find yourself like me, don’t worry.

Here is how I overcame it:

Firstly, I shifted my mindset from “I am irreplaceable” to “I am valuable.”

I am irreplaceable will nourish the ego to grow, be self-righteous, and fail.

will nourish the ego to grow, be self-righteous, and fail. I am valuable will motivate us constantly to strive to improve and develop ourselves.

We cannot make ourselves an “irreplaceable” individual, but we can strive to be more “valuable” for the organization. And only that right drive can help us truly become better. Let’s start from:
Why I stop Letting the Design Speak for Itself
By: Hoang Nguyen
Tags: Creativity, Design, Storytelling, Mindset Shift, Design Think

MINDSET

Why I stopped letting the design speak for itself

Illustration by Storytale

You are the best person to tell the story you create. So when the opportunity arises, tell it impressively!

Since ancient times, stories have been a useful tool to connect and convey human culture. People who were merchants, adventurers, transporters, hunters, and people with different professions passed on their journeys, experiencing stories over the campfire and liquor glasses at night. To reduce loneliness on the way of adventure while ensuring that there were still legacies if something happened.

Photo by Lee yan on Unsplash

More than that, storytelling is also one of the abilities that help us survive and climb up the top of the food chain. Not the fangs, sharp claws, incredible strength, or superior speed, man’s evolutionary advantage was its ability to solve problems. And humans are even more powerful when matters are solved in groups. Thus, the stories will help connect the facts, create shared goals, and inspire the team.

We spend a lot of time and effort doing creative work to turn our thoughts into visible things. Powered by passion, designers can create great stories but often forget investing in telling them and then regret seeing them fade away.

“But I don’t have to tell a story. Let my design speak for itself.”

I used to be like that, and there’s nothing wrong with this thought. But after many years at work, been through many flops, I realized I had to learn how to tell stories for a few reasons.
A Simple Strategy To Manage Your Thoughts
By: Dr Sam Akbar
Tags: Thoughts And Feelings, Self-awareness, Mindset, Wellbeing, Mindset Shift

Don’t change your thoughts. Change your relationship with your thoughts.

An educated mind can entertain a thought with accepting it — Aristotle

​I think the biggest revelation I have had as a psychologist is finding out that I can choose what thoughts to buy into.

You can actually choose whether to entertain a thought! Who knew? Well, Aristotle, obvs, but it was news to me.

I can remember so clearly what life was like before I knew this. I have a vivid memory of walking down the road to Baron’s Court tube station and being so involved with arguing with my mind that I had actually started waving my arms up and down. I was that person you cross the street to avoid.

We get fused with our thinking. And often those thoughts do not serve us at all. They take us away from being present and following our values. Thoughts can encompass us in a psychological fog so you can’t see where you are going and you certainly cannot take effective action.

So try this: next time your mind is giving you a beating put the words ‘I am having the thought that…’ in front of the statement.

‘I am having the thought that I can’t do this/will never be good enough/am a failure.’

If you want to go to superpowers level then try ‘I am noticing I am having the thought that I can’t do this/will never be good enough/am a failure.’

The key point is that it’s not about whether the thought is true or not, it’s about whether it helps you live a meaningful and authentic life in line with your values.

You cannot always change what your mind tells you but you ABSOLUTELY can change your relationship with your thoughts. Isn’t that just the best news you’ve had in ages?

Thanks for reading! If you like what you read, join the Mind Minute newsletter in the bio to get more ways to mange your mind.

Dr Sam
Be Open To Receive
By: Janet Neustedter
Tags: Welcome The Lord, Receive, Mindset Shift, Mindset Coaching

Pressing in, changing attitude and welcoming the moment…

I had a meeting scheduled the other day, and a full load of work that needed my attention. I could almost feel the palpable wall in my mind I had built up to my hostile feelings about the meeting. It was a Zoom networking meeting and would take an hour plus out of my day. I was not “feeling it”.

“Be Open To Receive” came to my mind. I needed to change my mindset. I thought:

-> Be open to receive community

-> Be open to receive what others had to offer

-> Let this time be designated for this and be present.

When I opened up the Zoom meeting, turned on my video and began, my mind was fresh. I released the negativity and was focused on who would I meet? What would I learn? What relationships could be formed? By having that talk with myself the meeting went by in a breeze and was quite enjoyable.

Do you have things during the day or week that you just don’t want to go for whatever reason?

If we show up with hesitancy we are blocking the universe from sending us gifts. We are telling the world to shut down and not allow natural flow. In order to receive the offerings, the gifts the world is laying at our doorstep… we have to have that talk with ourselves.

In my life, it is natural for me to give. If you need something, just ask me! I am your girl! I have a friend that just drips giving. She truly is amazing. She gives small, thoughtful gifts to everyone that she touches, or touches her. She constantly shows up with a plant, or a small package, or a bag of candles because it is fall and the pumpkin scent is everywhere and she knows I love them! Having said that, I also love to receive. I LOVE A GIFT! This friend I mentioned? She does not want anything. Giver only.

Where do you fall? When someone pays you a compliment, do you receive it graciously with a polite, “thank you” or do you brush it off, unable to receive it?

This week with the 4th of July just happening, enjoy the freedoms that you have. Enjoy the moments with your loved ones, and do something FUN! Be open to receive, even when you don’t feel it.
5 Reasons why you could be financially Struggling
Tags: Self Improvement, Abundance, Money, Mindset Shift, Growth

5 Reasons why you could be financially Struggling Sanjay Follow Jul 6 · 6 min read

These 5 Psychological blocks might be holding you back from manifesting financial abundance

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Everyone wants to be rich and financially independent. However, only a few have such freedom of financial abundance. The rest have to struggle for their financial freedom.

You would have heard this phrase “Rich get richer and poor get poorer”. We all know this phrase is a cliché and heard this out of many. However, have you taken some time to realize why the phrase is true in most cases?

The common answers could be:

- Rich people have college degrees and the poor do not have one.

- Rich people have white collared jobs, and the poor have the blue collared jobs

- Some are born rich, and some are born poor

And the list would go on.

The reasons you hear are just the tip of an iceberg. Also, these reasons always get centered around external factors like education, jobs, and surroundings.

What we do not realize is that our financial abundance greatly depends on internal factors such as our mindset, focus, emotions, beliefs, and perception.

The following 5 psychological blocks could be on your way for lack of your financial abundance.

1. You don’t love money.

Photo by Tanjir Ahmed Chowdhury on Unsplash

I know that you need money, but ask this question to yourself, do you really love money? Like a mother who loves her kids unconditionally whether they love her back or not.

In a similar way, do you love the money you want? No matter if it stays with you or not.

Financially successful people love their money unconditionally. They always have a passion for money-making.

However, those who are struggling financially have conditional love for their money. They love when they have money and hate when it goes out from them.

To put it in a perspective, if you love a person unconditionally, it could be your partner, wife, or kids, you work for them with passion.

That unconditional love and passion for that person will drive you to commit to taking care of them and to provide for them.

The same thing applies to money. When you love money unconditionally, you naturally get committed to making more money and the drive will naturally help you explore more avenues to expand and manage your finances.
BJP leaders scamming people with fake PM-CARES websites.
By: Sajjad Ansari
Tags: Modi, Bjp, India, Scam, Pm Cares Fund

We have heard about Robin Hood who use to steal from corrupted Rich people and distribute among poor, here is the same case with the only difference is: this Robin Hood belongs to those Rich People and didn’t distribute among poor. Yes, i am talking about the ministers and the volunteers of Bharatiya Janata Party.

I have Already explained about how Prime minister of India Narendra Modi is operating an open scam in the name of PM-caresbefore.

Here, I am going to share details how BJP Ministers are taking advantage of this scam and filling their own bank accounts instead of Modi ji. It all started with a single fake website on 2nd of April while PM Modi announced his PM-Cares website on 31st.

Actually in short we can say BJP IT Cell created a special fake website and instead of real website they distributed the fake one among their ministers and volunteer.

The Official website for the PM-Cares : https://pmcares.gov.in

and the Fake Website : http://pmcaresfund.online (This fake site is being promoted by BJP leaders)

Lets start with the Cabinet Minster Chandrashekhar Bawankule.
62-Year-Old Man Scammed 70,000 Investors to the Tune of $147 Million
By: Marko Vidrih
Tags: Finance, Scam, Cryptocurrency Investment, Cryptocurrency, Investing

62-Year-Old Man Scammed 70,000 Investors to the Tune of $147 Million

A 62-year-old man from the United States pleaded guilty to deceiving more than 70,000 people who invested in his fraudulent crypto schemes. He managed to get more than $147 million from his victims.

The Department of Justice announced that Steve Chen agreed to plead guilty to conspiracy to commit fraudulent activities, as well as tax evasion.

Chen admitted to being the owner and CEO of US Fine Investment Arts (USFIA) and six other companies that attracted investments from July 2013 to September 2015.

Chen said that USFIA is a successful multi-level marketing company that also produces amber and precious stones in the mines of the United States, Dominican Republic, Argentina and Mexico. Thousands of customers who invested from $1,000 to $30,000 for promising profits from amber and gemstones mines that didn’t actually exist ended up with worthless digital coins purportedly backed by the gems.

Chen even promised that the company will conduct an IPO and become public. However, in his statement, he admitted that he really had no such plans.

The U.S. authorities also charged him with tax evasion, since in the 2014 declarations he presented only gross income of $138,015, although he actually earned $4,816,193.

Commenting on the case, the FBI representative noted that Chen seduced investors around the world, creating before them a mirage of fashionable cryptocurrency opportunities and dynamic marketing tactics, as well as due to false promises of imminent wealth.

Author: Marko Vidrih

Featured image credit: Pixabay
How not to buy into a QR code scam
By: Saurabh Shashwat
Tags: Scam, Security, Qr Code, Whatsapp Fraud, WhatsApp

Scammers are now using WhatsApp to steal money. Find out how you can protect yourself

Selling your products on online marketplaces is easy and can be done in just a few minutes through an app. However, there has always been an elements of risk involved while dealing with strangers and there have been several cases where the buyer takes the product without making the payment.

Now, a new type of scam has surfaced, in which the potential buyer scams the seller and takes their money. it involves the buyer sharing a QR code with the seller on WhatsApp and tricking them into sending them money.

How does the QR code scam work?

The scammers approach sellers listed on online portals and mention that they want to buy products front them. Then, they send a QR code to the seller on WhatsApp and ask them to scan the code to receive money. However, this is a ‘collect’ request and once the seller scans the QR and enters the PIN, the buyer receive money.

How to protect yourself from QR code fraud?

The First thing you need to remember is that when you are receiving money, you do not need to scan any QR code.

Scanning of QR code is required only while making a payment.
HOAX: This website inviting users to apply for the US visa lottery is a scam
Tags: Short Form, Kenya, Scam, English

HOAX: This website inviting users to apply for the US visa lottery is a scam

The link directs to a phoney webpage with a dubious free internet data offer. PesaCheck Follow Jul 6 · 5 min read

A website link shared on Facebook inviting users to apply for the United States of America 2021/2022 visa lottery is a HOAX.

The link shows an image of the US flag accompanied by the word “Visa.”

The link has also been shared on WhatsApp with a message stating that the online registration for the American Visa Lottery 2021 is now open.

Part of the message reads, “Take the chance of living in the USA and apply for the official US Green Card Lottery! The Green Card unlocks the door to the United States for thousands of USA fans every year”.

“It allows the lucky Green Card winners permanent residence as well as an unlimited work permit for the USA. Every year, the United States grants 55,000 Green Cards through the Green Card Lottery,” the message reads.

However, clicking the link does not direct one to the US Department of State website where applications for the Diversity Visa Program — also called “Visa Lottery” — are submitted.

The Department of State website states that it randomly selects applicants based on allocations of available visas in each region and country upon which the selectees win the chance to apply to become lawful permanent US residents. The E-DV website is the only means by which the department notifies selectees of their selection and the department expressly warns applicants against falling for scams relating to the immigration visa program.

A message that reads “deceptive site ahead” appears when a user clicks on the link, indicating that the website we are debunking is dubious.

When a user ignores the warning and continues, the website directs to a phoney page offering 20GB of free internet data instead of the promised American visa lottery form.

Clicking on the Get 20GB button opens up instructions directing the user to key in their telephone numbers to check if it is eligible to activate the free date.

Once the user does as instructed, a new message pops up confirming that their number is eligible to receive the internet bundles, valid for one month on their Android phone, computer, or iPhone. However, in order to activate the said internet bundles, the user must send the information to 12 groups on WhatsApp. This indicates that the website is a phishing scam out to mine personal information.

Additionally, the WHOIS information of the dubious website shows that it was registered on 20 June 2021, in Iceland, and the identity of the registrant is hidden.

Furthermore, the domain name of the dubious website is 20gb.xyx, which is different from the domain name of the US Department of State website, state.gov.

PesaCheck has looked into a website link inviting users to apply for the US 2021/2022 visa lottery and finds it to be a HOAX.
Questo sito è una truffa attenzione
Tags: WordPress, Scammer, Scam, Truffa, Stefano

Il sito riportato sotto nello screenshot è una truffa totale, fate attenzione non spedite soldi al porco truffatore Livornese chiamato “Stefano” presente in questo sito

The website reported in the screenshot below is a total scam, do not send money to the scammer pig from Livorno, called “Stefano” which is promoting this website.

THIS IS A SCAM WEBSITE!!! BE CAUTIOUS!! THIS BLOGGER IS A SCAMMER AND A LIAR!! I WAS SCAMMED BY HIM!

DO NOT WRITE TO THIS GMAIL EMAIL ADDRESS INCLUDED IN THE SCREENSHOT! IT’S A SCAM! YOU WILL LOST MONEY!!

THIS IS THE PHONE NUMBER IN USE BY THE SCAMMER!! YOU WILL FIND IT REPORTED IN SEVERAL WEBSITES AS FRAUDOLENT!!

Il maiale gestore del sito incluso negli screenshot truffa soldi alle persone creando dei gruppi whatsapp con dei complici fingendo di saperla lunga su come infrangere la legge prendendo titoli senza aprire un libro. Per guadagnare la fiducia del futuro truffato si presenta come un innocuo recensore e una volta contattato millanta anche di potere recuperare soldi da ipotetiche truffe facendo finte investigazioni. In realtà questo porco di Livorno chiamato Stefano ruba solo i soldi a chi gli da retta con la scusa di fare un comitato legale per recuperare il danaro e diffamando chiunque alla ricerca del “colpevole” che non è in grado di trovare al contrario di quello che il mitomane millanta. I truffati da questo sito sono almeno una decina. Appena tu gli scrivi alla email inclusa nello screenshot lui risponde lasciando il suo numero presente nello screenshot di Tellows, e da li lui conduce la sua truffa. Non pubblica i commenti negativi sulla sua truffa.

The pig who is in charge of the wordpress.com website included in the screenshots above is scamming money to people who contact him by creating also whatsapp groups with some partners in crime faking to know a lot about buying university degrees and to get a degree without opening a single book. To gain trust from the future victims he is publicly posing as an “innocent reviewer” but in reality he is well know scammer, once he is being contacted he will lie about the fact the he knows how to recover the money from possible scams by running fake cyber investigation. He is also faking to be an insider of Italian Police. In reality, this pig scammer know as Stefano is just stealing money to people that contact him using the excuse of being in need to organize a “class action” to recover the money of some “scam”, in the meantime anyone who is suspicious enough to be considered the culprit is being publicly defamed, in the end the culprit(s) will be never found despite what is promoting the scammer Stefano. So, Stefano is simply preying upon already scammed people, by scamming them another time. Stefano scammed at least ten people by using this wordpress.com blog only. Once you write to the scammer email provided above, Stefano the scammer is replying almost instantly by leaving his phone number which is the phone number reported in the Tellows screenshot. After gaining a phone contact of his victim, he will conduct the scam on whatsapp.
What Makes Email Scam Hard To Detect ?
By: Jack Mathew
Tags: Scam, Email, Technews, Apac, Technology

CIO Advisor Apac scam news

CIO Advisor apac scam news has been helping enterprise providing a solution against scam and spam in the industry. Nowadays, attackers use advanced techniques to scam organizations to pay them a hefty amount via fake invoicing.

Fremont, CA: Email scammers are becoming sophisticated a day using advanced tactics for stealing from organizations across the planet . Earlier, scammers wont to send an invoice, letter, or invitation to be listed during a bogus trade directory or renew the web site name . Today, however, the attacker’s campaigns revolve around supply chains, espionage, and research. Attackers dupe their victims by injecting themselves into a legitimate email thread about finance. These attacks are difficult to detect, and victims will realize that they need been scammed when their vendor follows up about an unreceived payment.

According to researchers at Agari, email fraud is linked to a cyber-criminal gang operating out of Nigeria. referred to as Silent Starling, the group started in 2015 with romance scams and cheque fraud then later advanced to wire transfer requests and gift card scams. Employing new attacks, the group has duped over 500 companies in 14 countries with the bulk of their victims from the U.S., Canada, and therefore the UK. The group has hacked 700 employee email accounts and stole over 20,000 emails to assist cash-out campaigns successfully.Top Risk and Compliance Solution Companies

The attack begins with the hackers attempting to steal email login credentials using phishing attacks redirecting users to a spoofed version of tools like Office365 and other enterprise software. After gaining the credentials, the attacker’s login and found out a forwarding rule to automatically redirect copies of all the emails to a separate account they control. Further, they inspect the content of the emails to know their victims. Later, email scammers found out alerts for keywords like invoices and payments to collect information like the language employed by the important sender and therefore the times of day they have a tendency to be most active. Further, they gain access to the attachments and links utilized in the e-mail to make a fake invoice that appears completely legitimate.

The invoice requests are precise because the purchasers are going to be expecting an invoice from the seller . the sole detail which is different within the invoice is that the bank details, which redirects the cash to the checking account of the cyber-criminal. These attacks are longer and resource consuming as compared to a daily BEC campaign, but the reward is higher. These attacks are stealthy, and that they can’t be caught. within the meantime, the organizations can cross-check the outgoing payments to guard themselves from these attacks.
How to recover dogecoin
By: Rebecca Steve
Tags: Stolen, Scam, Dogecoin, Recover, Doge

How to recover dogecoin

Beautiful write up about how to recover an old doge wallet. I don’t have any idea on how to go about that but if you want to recover your stolen or lost bitcoin from a scam investment then I can share my story on how I was able to get back my doge .

First and foremost, everyone should be careful where they invest their money. Cryptocurrency has made many rich and at the same time made so many broke and desperate. Let me share my Crypto experience. Although I have been hearing about dogecoin since last year but I didn’t pay much attention because I was satisfied trading only my bitcoin until one of my friends showed me how much he already made investing in dogecoin. I was convinced and I decided to do more research and finally I invested several amount of money in a website I was referred to by my Friends. I signed up and I was sent a wallet address to make the payment. I purchased 3500000 dogecoin and I transferred 3000000 to their wallet address. Few days later their website was down and we discovered we have been scammed. Every effort to get back our dogecoin failed until few weeks ago when I was referred to recovercyberscams @ qualityservice . com and I was able to get back all my dogecoin that was Stolen. They are reliable and trustworthy.
Followup article: Proving War on Rugs Still Has Ties to “FAIRMOON Scammers”
Tags: Scam, Cryptocurrency, Defi

War on Rugs’ PancakeSwap Tweet

On April 20 War on Rugs posted this tweet on their main Twitter account. The tweet was deleted soon after publishing, but we were able to retrieve an archive link for it. The motivation for deleting the tweet is unknown.

The tweet was about them receiving a message from someone claiming they swapped FAIRMOON for BNB, but never received the BNB. Looking at the transaction itself we can see that it acted as expected. The user just swapped for WBNB and not “regular” BNB. For this reason it may be the user did not understand what happened and contacted War on Rugs for help.

However, this is not the reason why the tweet is of interest. In our previous article we proved a network of wallets had sold 1.8 million USD worth of FAIRMOON tokens on inside information. FAIRMOON and War on Rugs attributed this to a “Miley”-character, who supposedly ran off with the funds. For details around this please refer to our previous article.

If you view the archived War on Rugs tweet, or view the transaction itself above, you will see that the wallet in question has this address: “0xe7db38f29c521450f40967f30d3e9977380988a9”, which we will now refer to as “…88a9”.

…88a9’s activity in FAIRMOON v1

4 days after FAIRMOON listing, the …88a9-wallet received 4.8 million FAIRMOON tokens from the central wallet that was investigated in our previous article (tx link).

While this transaction can resemble a giveaway transaction (around 5m tokens), it is important to note that this happened several days before the giveaway was ever announced. We can also note that this wallet received 1BNB from another wallet tied to the network also mentioned in our previous article (tx link).

So the wallet mentioned in the tweet both received funds directly from the central wallet in the scam network and also from wallets associated with it. This proves that War on Rugs is still in contact with the owner(s) (or people associated) with the “scam wallets”.