The Concept Of Self-love.
By: Lanu Pitan
Tags: Self Love, Spiritual Growth, Spirituality, Lifestyle, Spiritual Secrets

This is loving who you are, with the good as well as the bad.

Photo by Tim Mossholder on Unsplash

We all know that none of us is perfect, and most people tend to highlight or emphasize only the good aspects of people while condemning the bad. It is what we all do. And that is where self-love comes in.

self-love is recognising that your own happiness and mental health is a top priority and doing all you can including setting boundaries to protect it.

We first have to know what it means, understand it fully, believe in it before we can develop it. This simply means, the more we value ourselves as individuals, the more we have on our hands to offer the world. This includes being authentic with yourself, not trying to live your life pleasing to others. This is a bit difficult in this age of living the dream life imparted to us by social media and or letting others define what is normal or standard to us. Every one of us is unique in a way, and we have to respect and love our uniqueness.

‘’Self-love is not selfish, you cannot truly love another until you know how to love yourself.’’ Chrysalis Hair

Connect with your inner self. This is important for everybody. We are spirit beings, and we are not whole without that connection. Part of that connection involves gratitude, the practice of solitude and silence, kindness, empathy, patience, love, and understanding towards others. Realise and appreciate the interconnection with your inner self others, as being part of the whole.

Listen to your body. Your body is the best barometer there ever is. It tells you when you need that rest when what you eat and drink does not agree with your tummy. It is your best doctor to diagnose the body debility, informing you to take adequate care accordingly. So eat and drink healthily, only those that enhance your health.

‘’How you love yourself is how you teach others to love you.’’ Parade

Positive Affirmation. Make a wish; make a list of some of your positive desires. Read them to yourself every morning, smile to yourself, accept yourself. Affirmations do work and brighten your the whole day ahead.

Enjoy the simple things in life. The very best things in life are simple. Don’t complicate your life. Learn to enjoy beauty and life in its simplest forms.

‘’Simplicity is the ultimate sophistication.’’ Leoarnado Vince

Choose the people you surround yourself with. Believe it or not, you are at least 50% of the people you surround yourself with. There is no point surrounding yourself with negative and toxic people. These are people who would put you down, tell you cannot achieve your dreams, or drum up your flaws.

Motion is the rule of health. Move your body every day, a bit of exercise, a walk, no matter how gentle, will positively impact your health. This is particularly important that people are urged to stay at home due to the pandemic, and others are working from home.

‘’Be your own reason to smile.’’ Pinterest

Forgive yourself and others. Holding up past grudges against others and ourselves is not going to help our mental health. We all have something we did in the past that we are not proud of. This is part of growing up, as we learn from our mistakes and develop spiritually. We have to accept that mistakes are part of development in life. What is important in mistakes is to learn the lesson and move on.

“When a woman becomes her own best friend life is easier.” Diane Von Furstenberg

Don’t crave approval. We are all humans, and we love commendations and approval from others. Seeking approvals want us to have to meet the others’ standard. And no matter how hard you try, some people won’t be satisfied.

“You can be the ripest, juiciest peach in the world, and there’s still going to be somebody who hates peaches.” Dita Von Teese

Be realistic with your situation. You know the real situation you are in. Don’t covet what others have, knowing that it is out of your reach. We cannot achieve all, but grateful for the ones we have.

Educate your mind. There are many free online courses to learn new things. Education does open up the mind and keep you busy. Education builds up your self-confidence, as you are aware of what is going on around you. Education also allows you to take baby steps to build up the mind you want in life.

Ask for help. This is part of interconnectivity. No one is an island of knowledge. Seek guidance and help as necessary. Seek a second opinion, and compare ideas, especially if you want to embark on a project. Getting the right perspective is a good thing.

Learn to say no. I remember years back in the UK; there was this aggressive car credit company called ‘’YES CAR CREDIT’’. They advertised that they would never say no. What happened to them in the end? They folded up as they went into administration. Our life is like that; we cannot keep saying yes to everyone and expect not to suffer for it. Learn to say no to things that don’t measure up or agree with your value.

The Takeaways

Self-love is important because it pertains to our mental health and well-being. When we are sure of ourselves, we set our boundaries when others make too much demand on us. We cannot please everyone, and there is no point even trying to do so. Those who try to, end up with all sort of feeling of inadequacy, the bone of anxiety and depression, which can lead to cardiovascular illnesses and other serious ailments like cancer.

If you love yourself and solid inside, you create a shield that protects you from the storms of life when they come. There can be serious life changes like illnesses, loss of a job, grief, like loss of significant other, and or children. Self-love protects you from being tossed about.

Remember, when you care for yourself, you care for the world. Maria Stenwinkel says because your action has a ripple effect on others.

Thank you, Darshak Rana, for the prompt, ‘’SELF-LOVE’’, and tagging m to take part. Blessings.