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Tensing Your Body During Sex
By: Bat Sheva Marcus, Mph, Phd, Clinical Director
Tags: Womens Health, Orgasm, Pelvicmuscles, Pleasure, Tensing

It seems that part of having an orgasm for many women is tightening up their pelvic muscles. This is yet another example of one of those things that women do which they think is “weird.” Most women whom I’ve spoken with give me one of their “oh-my-g-d-you’re-not-going-to-believe-me” looks when they admit that they need to seriously tense up and scrunch their muscles in order to orgasm. Well, listen up girls… most women tense up in order to have an orgasm. It makes a certain amount of sense if you think about it. An orgasm happens when there is just too much stimulation in the nerves and they “shoot off” as a response. Tensing up the leg, thigh and pelvis muscles just add to the general tension so that it makes it easier to have an orgasm. There are even some women who can have orgasms just by squeezing their thighs together (That probably makes riding the NYC subways way more pleasurable).

There is absolutely nothing wrong with tensing up your muscles to have an orgasm, unless it gets in the way of your having sex the way you want to. Here are some examples:

You get painful muscle spasms after the orgasm (or in the process) because you are squeezing your muscles too tight.

You feel like you need to concentrate so hard on squeezing your muscles that you end up with a headache.

You break the headboard because you are pulling so hard (okay, I’m exaggerating , but you get my drift).

You end up hurting your partner because you use him as your main squeeze toy (I’m not kidding, we had a patient like that).

You can only orgasm in weird positions that allow you to tense as much as you need to. E.g. climbing up a pole.

If any of these are the case, then you might be best off working around the problems, rather than trying to change the tensing pattern, which is often hard to do. If you decide you really don’t like tensing so much here are some things to consider:

You may need stronger stimulation. Try a stronger vibrator and see if that allows you to orgasm without tensing. Learn more about choosing the right vibrator .

. Try relaxing and creating more intense fantasies. ( Some erotica might help! )

) You may want to have your hormones checked out or consider some alternative medical interventions. They are available. Contact us for a Free phone consultation

But the bottom line message from me is this: there is nothing wrong with tensing your muscles. If it’s not causing secondary problems, just go right on squeezing!

Tensing your body during sex can either be a means to generating pleasure or a reaction to experiencing pain. If you’re interested in learning about tensing your body due to pain, read our blog to learn more.
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Tags: Fashion, Womens Health, Women In Business, Women Fashion, Women

Welcome to Women Lotus Style! This channel is interested in female (fashion, beauty and fitness ) Here you will find a lot of interesting stuff!
Tarot Card Reading + Shadow Work with Katie Jonzen
By: Serena V Amoroso
Tags: Spiritual Growth, Freedom, Womens Health, Spirituality, Shadow Work

Ohhhh get ready for some real juiciness with @jonzen__ . Her intuitive nature with tarot cards ( which is a wild story how the cards started speaking to her!!! ) & the reading she shared for the collective was ON POINT ( excuse the sound for the first little bit — it improves! This is real life Doing our best with tech ).

WATCH HERE

Be sure to check out Katie’s tarot page too: @intotheshadow__

How did the card reading resonate for you?

x Serena

@serenavamoroso
Lesson 3 : Healthy habits around eating
Tags: Pcos, Womens Health, Healthy Habits, Habits, Healthy Eating

We all are big fans of healthy habits and yet they are so tough to build. When we start something, we all are just looking for one moment to stop those healthy habits and fall back to our old regime. I have tried this 100s of times and failed each time and now I have found a shortcut to it — now I change my environment instead of my habits because it is fairly easy to do in comparison.

If I cannot change my habits, I will change my environment

Here are a list of things we can do in our environment and some in our habits to make it fairly easy for us to reap maximum benefits :

Replace plastic from our kitchen: If there should be one thing we all should do instantly which will begin the best results in our health, I will go with this one. Women with the Polycystic ovary syndrome (PCOS), the most common hormone imbalance in women of reproductive age, may be more vulnerable to exposure to the chemical bisphenol A (BPA), found in many plastic household items, according to a new study. You can start with a water bottle(to glass, stainless steel and copper) and then slowly, you can change all the plastic containers (to steel and glass). This alone change can increase your family life span by over 5 years and you will start having a great taste as well.

Replace our utensils : Have you ever found those big iron utensils owned by your grandmother? Has she ever boasted about the taste and the benefits of those utensils? Well, she is right. The best way to increase iron in the body is to cook food in iron utensils. Also, it causes the least damage to your food and will reap the best benefits for the body. Start with replacing only one item which you use most of the time.

Get yourself a clay pot: If you really wanna enjoy your water and make it better for the environment as well, go for this one.

Expressing gratitude before cooking and eating food: Our mind and our body has a direct connection. If you are stressed about eating food, it won’t work that great for the body. We should respect food as all of us depend on it for lifeline. A troubled intestine can send signals to the brain, just as a troubled brain can send signals to the gut. Therefore, a person’s stomach or intestinal distress can be the cause or the product of anxiety, stress, or depression

Never eat your food with stress. Even while eating junk food, express gratitude, keep calm and relax your mind. This alone habits can help your body make the best of the food you eat.

Replace junk with fruits, dates and nuts : If you are a big fan of crunching and wants something to be in your mouth all the time, well you are not alone. You already know this but now is the time to implement it. Throw that bakery items, cornflakes, chips and other junk food and fill your kitchen with fruits and healthy food, so when you are feeling most hungry, you do’t break your regime of eating healthy.

All the best champions! Keep working hard!
Make Him Worship You — Women’s Relationship Monster
Tags: Womens Health, Men, Mental Health, Relationships Love Dating, Women

by now you’re probably wondering what this Secret Obsession is, right?

Well, to put it simply, it’s a recently discovered primal drive that ALL MEN are powerfully influenced by without even knowing it.

Every man you know agonizes over this primal drive more than anything else… Even his sex drive.

In fact, this drive is so hard-wired into a man’s mind that is subconsciously controls everything he does.

From the time he wakes up to the moment his head hits the pillow at night.

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Exercising Your Erotic Brain
By: Bat Sheva Marcus, Mph, Phd, Clinical Director
Tags: Womens Health, Erotic, Sexual Health

More and more we understand that the brain is elastic. When you are getting “better” at a skill it is not only because you are learning that particular skill but because you are actually expanding parts of the brain. When you are working on learning something new, say a certain type of math, you will be activating more neurons and neurotransmitters and making that part of the brain “more fit.” And there is no reason that shouldn’t be true about the erotic part of your brain as well. That is, the parts that “light up” and are activated during sexual arousal, can also be “exercised” so they function more quickly, or efficiently, or strongly when you want them to.

What does that mean to you? It means that even if you believe that you are a person who does not get interested or aroused by sexual stories, images or fantasies, you can probably improve that significantly if you practice. I do know it sounds funny. I need to “practice” to get turned on? But yes, I think that’s true. And I’ve seen it work.

If you want to get your erotic brain charged, start by reading some erotic stories. See what things might turn you on, even just a little. Then focus on those things more and use your brain to create images, or stories that take that small “turn-on” and expand it. Use your brain to create something that turns you on a little more. And then do it again. And again. It may be frustrating at first, but even with a little bit of work, women often find that the situation improves fairly quickly. And don’t think you should only be doing this when you want to have sex. Exercise your brain during the day, anytime you have the chance. Notice a sexy image on a billboard? Stop and play with it in your head. Someone flirts with you a little? Build a whole sexy scene out of it in your head. See if you can get aroused. Remember, you don’t have to “do something” with the turn on. Just notice it. And enjoy it.

I think you might find, like many of our patients do, that once your erotic brain has a chance to breath, stretch, expand, it gets easier and easier to get turned on when you want to. And that’s a big plus for your sex life.

So go ahead, exercise your erotic brain.

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Relaxing and Recharging During the Holiday Season
By: Dawn Mcgee
Tags: Holidays, Womens Health, Relaxation, Self Care, Lifestyle

During this time of year, holiday joy is in the air! Whether you’re shopping, baking, or working on planning a holiday that looks a little different this year, the holiday season can mean a lot of time doing prep work! This holiday season may not mean a house full of guests or a dozen different parties, but that doesn’t mean recharging isn’t necessary.

Personally, I love to recharge by being active. One way I do this is by taking time to play pickleball with my family. This way, I get to be active, spend time with my husband and son, and recharge while doing it. Recharging can be anything you want it to be, so long as it’s something that gives you back your energy instead of being a drain and another task on your list.

Here are some of my ideas for recharging and regaining your energy!

Take a Walk on Your Own

If you’re an introvert (or, like me, an ambivert) and are finding a little too much quality time with others, consider recharging with a solo walk around your neighborhood or favorite park. This will give you the opportunity to get moving, take in some fresh air, and give your mind a little bit of space.

2. Watch Your Favorite Movie

When you have just been going too hard for too long, you might feel the need to just turn off your mind for a little while. Watching that movie that you can already quote every line of is a great way to do that! There’s no guilt in taking a break on the couch when you need to recharge your batteries, and a well-loved movie is the perfect solution.

3. Make Time for What Makes You Happy

There are so many ways to recharge your mind and get back to feeling 100%. However, the very best way to do that is always going to be by thinking about what it is that makes you happy, and then doing that thing. Whether it’s time spent with a book you love, or quality time with the people you love, self-care can look however you want it to. The most important thing is that you come out of your recharge time feeling energized and ready to take on the world again.

If you need ideas for how you can recharge your body and mind, press reply for help with brainstorming!

How do you like to recharge your mind? Let me know in the comments!
Problems of Vaginal Smell and How to Avoid It With the Correct sanitary Napkins
Tags: Sanitary Napkins, Womens Health, Sanitary Pads, Menstruationmatters, Menstrual Cycle

Problems of Vaginal Smell and How to Avoid It With the Correct sanitary Napkins

If you are a teenager reading this, then you might have experienced going to the toilet and facing an unpleasant and foul odour, haven’t you? However, as your menstrual cycle comes to an end, the foul odour vanishes like it never existed. You may be wondering what this all means? This smell is from your vagina, and it is termed as “vaginal smell”. It is something that occurs as a part of your monthly periods, and reduces your tension. Do not feel embarrassed or shy to talk about it. You are not the only female who goes through it. Many other girls and women experience vaginal smell which is natural and bound to happen during periods. Being vocal about it means that you want to be cautious and aware about your health.

The peculiar odour that you experience occurs when the blood discharged from your body during the monthly cycle comes in contact with the atmosphere. You might think that this is just blood. Nonetheless, this is much more than that. It comprises vaginal mucus, bacteria, fluids and tissue that your body discharges and combines and causes the vaginal smell.

This is your body, and you are in charge of protecting it. Everything that goes around your body, including the vaginal smell comes under your jurisdiction. The vaginal smell is normal and it is something that you might often experience. Yet, if you feel like the vaginal smell during your monthly cycle is a bit strange from what it usually is, or find that the odour has enhanced, you maybe want to take a few measures. For instance, book an appointment with your gynaecologist and get a check-up done to get relieved of this obstacle.

To make you feel stress-free basic hygiene and health care steps can help from vaginal odour at a bare minimum. Doing so will save females from any sort of unpleasant or embarrassing experience in public. The easiest way to get rid of the smell is by changing sanitary pads frequently. Depending on your flow change the sanitary napkins and get rid of foul odour.

Still unsatisfied? Don’t worry, Wonderize has taken the responsibility to make your monthly cycles more pleasant with a range of sanitary napkins that are fueled by the Odour Control System. These sanitary napkins help in making you feel cleansed and confident all day long without any hassle! With Wonderize, escape from that repulsive vaginal smell and enjoy a fresh feeling, even during periods!
Align Your Life: Menstrual Cycle 101
By: Serena V Amoroso
Tags: Moon, Embodiment, Womens Health, Wellness, Menstruation

Until you embrace your cyclical nature you will be in a constant fight with yourself. MOON {menstrual}🩸CYCLE 101.

Your moon cycle is a GUIDE.

As a woman, it is a roadmap to your alignment, flow and ease in life.

𝙉𝙤𝙬, 𝙄 𝙙𝙞𝙙𝙣’𝙩 𝙖𝙡𝙬𝙖𝙮𝙨 𝙛𝙚𝙚𝙡 𝙩𝙝𝙞𝙨 𝙬𝙖𝙮 𝙖𝙣𝙙 𝙢𝙖𝙮𝙗𝙚 𝙮𝙤𝙪 𝙙𝙤𝙣’𝙩 𝙚𝙞𝙩𝙝𝙚𝙧. 𝙔𝙀𝙏.

The magic of our bodies as women have been co-opted for millennia.

For a decade, I felt shame, frustration & disgust around this aspect of being a woman. I felt cursed.

Now, my moon cycle is something I celebrate. It 𝙎𝙐𝙋𝙋𝙊𝙍𝙏𝙎 me in flowing with all aspects of my life.

My body’s 𝙣𝙖𝙩𝙪𝙧𝙖𝙡 𝙧𝙝𝙮𝙩𝙝𝙢𝙨 influence the foods I eat, the workouts I do, my sexual desires, how I socialize with others, my creative expression + work flow.

Aligning my life with my moon cycle gave me the permission to begin truly honoring myself.

It gave me permission to 𝘽𝙀 as I am. Period 😉.

🩸 Permission to be withdrawn.

🩸Permission to be social.

🩸Permission to be shadowy.

🩸Permission to be flirty.

When you begin to 𝙐𝙉𝘿𝙀𝙍𝙎𝙏𝘼𝙉𝘿 + 𝙃𝙊𝙉𝙊𝙍 the fluctuations of your hormones ( endocrine system ) you access a new state of self-love + freedom.

The 4️⃣phases of your cycle each have a different energy expression.

💥Reclaim your body as a sacred temple.

💥Reclaim the beauty of your moon 🌚 cycle.

💥Reclaim the power within you.

This is a beautiful part of your 𝙨𝙖𝙘𝙧𝙚𝙙 feminine nature.

Want more on this? Send me a DM to learn about my Feminine Magnetism Course.

Embrace your flow💞🙏🏼Serena

@serenavamoroso
Information - womenlotusstyle - Medium
Tags: Fashion, Womens Health, Women In Business, Women Fashion, Women

About

The busty 24-year-old found fame after posting a string of saucy selfies to social media, where she was quick to rack up an impressive online following.

https://womenlotusstyle.blogspot.com/2020/12/demi-rose-episode-5-information.html

Internet star Demi has also managed to sign a modelling contract, after attracting the attention of US publicity group Taz’s Angels. On June 12 she took to Instagram Stories to reveal the sad news that her mum, Christine, had died aged just 63. Her death comes just eight months after Demi’s father Barrie Mawby died in October 2018, aged 80.

Born:

27 March 1995

Age

25 years

Birmingham, United Kingdom

Height:

1.57 m

Nationality:

English

Full name:

Demi Rose Mawby

Parents:

Christine Mawby, Barrie Mawby

Education:

Walsall College, John Willmott School, New Oscott Primary School
December Gifts From Amber Wellness Group!
By: Amber Wellness Group
Tags: Womens Health, Holidays, Wellness, Healthcare

B12 shots for $25 during the month of December -Feel the vitality! Support energy and your general well being! $10 off for the entire month of December 2020, no limit on how many times you use this special, but only available in December. Many people will come in 1–2 times a week over a 4 week period. Feel great today!

We are doing a fun holiday gift back to you this year with scratch off cards in every supplement bag or shipment from our office. Come in or order with Michelle to get yours before supplies run out. Each scratch-off card will have a discount, free shipping, or other fun promotion. Everyone is a winner at AWG!!

Gift Certificates — if you would like to purchase a gift of wellness for a loved one or friend, we can help you! If your wellness is something you would like support from loved ones this holiday season, let them know that we can provide gift certificates in your name.

To learn more, click here.
A Woman’s Guide to Staying Fit and Healthy This Fall
By: Journey To Wellness
Tags: Womens Health, Collagen For Skin, Fitness, Health And Wellness, Vitamins

Fall is here, and with it comes cooler temperatures all over the country. As we settle into this cooler time of year, many ladies might be wondering whether not they should continue the exercise regimen that they have been practicing the whole summer. While you might have to change your approach a little to suit the cooler weather, there is no reason that you should let the autumn put a damper on your health and fitness plans.

Your fitness regimen is important to you, so don’t let the fall stop you from working on your routine. There are still plenty of things you can do to work on staying fit and keeping on top of your women’s health goals this autumn.

How You Can Keep on Exercising

Exercise is important all year round, not just when the weather is warm. With that in mind, you could be trying to figure out the best way for you to continue your health and fitness regimen all year round. There’s no need to make it a complicated affair because there are plenty of things you can do both inside and outside to continue working on all of your health and wellness goals.

You can utilize a few of these ideas if you can’t come up with any fall workouts of your own.

Walking

Walking is one of the simplest and most overlooked things any health enthusiast could be doing to keep on top of their exercise regimen, all year round. Walking is good for your cardio and can work out your whole body. It is also an activity that can be done all year round, so if the weather is too cold to go outside, simply find a spacious indoor area to walk around in for a while.

The buddy system

Working out can be infinitely more fun if you have a partner to do it with. When you have a buddy to do your exercises, you will have someone with whom you can set fitness goals and someone who can just help break the monotony of silently working out by yourself.

Home gym

If you have the space in your home and the budget for the equipment, you can set up a home gym in an unused room and work out from the comfort of your own home anytime you’d like. No gym fees, no need to get out in the cold, and no need to pack a gym bag. You can do it all from your own house!

These are just a few of the ways you could consider upping your game in the health and wellness department when the weather is a little cooler. You don’t have to be outside or go to the gym in order to get your workout in — it is entirely possible from the comfort of your own home, without even needing to go outside.
How to Exercise According to Your Menstrual Cycle For Less Cramps and Bloating
By: Hey Green Goddess
Tags: Periods, Womens Health, Menstrual Cycle, Exercise, Menstruation

How to Exercise According to Your Menstrual Cycle For Less Cramps and Bloating

Hormones, cramps, PMS, bloating, and everything in between can make exercising during your period the worst thing EVER….Unless you sync your exercise routine to your menstrual cycle!

I never thought twice about the connection between my workouts and period. But once I learned how exercise can actually HELP to get rid of those painful period cramps, I gave it a shot. Ever since I’ve been syncing my workouts to my cycle, my period pain has gotten a lot better!

Here is a breakdown of the EXACT workouts and exercises you should be doing during each part of your cycle:

DAYS 1–7 | MENSTRUAL PHASE | MOVE IT!

The menstrual phase starts with the first day of bleeding. During this time, estrogen and progesterone are super low, which can make you feel tired. And another hormone — prostaglandin — is at an all-time high, which is why you might be experience painful cramps. I know that these first few days of your cycle can make it tempting to curl up in bed and binge Netflix and eat a pint of dark chocolate ice-cream. Believe me, I get it. BUT, if you exercise, your cramps will decrease and you will feel SO much better. Trust me! Take a walk, stretch, take a restorative yoga class. Move your body, you won’t regret it!

Here are some great workouts to do during your menstrual cycle:

DAYS 8–14 | FOLLICULAR PHASE | GO HARD!

The follicular phase is week 2 of your cycle. During this time, your testosterone and estrogen are RISING which means your body is ready to build muscle (in other words, it’s time to GO HARD!) That mean strength training, crossfit, kickboxing, and high intensity workouts.

Here are some great workouts to do during your menstrual cycle:

DAYS 15–21 | OVULATORY PHASE | GO STEADY!

During the ovulatory phase, estrogen is decreasing which means you may feel tired. This means that your metabolism might be a little slower and intense workouts can feel strenuous, which is why you should opt for steadier workouts like a slow run or long walk.

Here are some great workouts to do during your menstrual cycle:

DAYS 22–28 | LUTEAL PHASE | REST UP!

Your body is preparing for your period which means progesterone is surging and you may be experiencing cramps, tender breasts, and moodiness. The best thing you can do is listen to your body and rest up. If you’re in the mood for some movement, stick with something relaxing like restorative yoga, walking, or pilates.

Here are some great workouts to do during your menstrual cycle:
Information Video - womenlotusstyle - Medium
Tags: Fashion, Womens Health, Women In Business, Women Fashion, Women

About

Instagram star and makeup artist who became known for sharing her modeling photos on social media. She also runs another account called xttionamakeup featuring her makeup looks and tutorials.

https://womenlotusstyle.blogspot.com/2020/12/tiona-fernan-xttiona-episode-4.html

Before Fame

She posted her first Instagram picture in December 2013.

Trivia

She has over 1.1 million followers on Instagram and counting on her main account.

Family Life

She was born and raised in Curacao. She has a sister named Taixa. She has dated rapper Soulja Boy.

Associated With

Her and Griffin Arnlund are both Instagram stars who model.

BIRTHDAY

August 3, 1998

BIRTHPLACE

Curacao

AGE

22 years old

BIRTH SIGN

Leo
Is Your BV Stuck to Your IUD?
By: Ena Dahl
Tags: Womens Health, Advice, Sexual Health, Sexuality, This Happened To Me

The story ends well; my friend promptly removed hers, and soon after, both of her infections vanished. And when I followed, mine did too. I did simultaneously go on oral antibiotics, followed my a week-long lactobacilli cure, but the BV cleared already a day after the IUD had been removed.

While it all worked out in the end, it’s beyond me that in all of the most popular health resources online (such as Healthline, Mayo Clinic and Web MD, etc.), the link between BV and IUDs is not mentioned. It’s first when you search for the two together do you discover the many credible medical resources pointing it out, which means you first have to suspect this connection on your own. Why was I never informed of this risk by medical personal when offered the option of an IUD in the first place? Why did it take tenfolds of visits to doctors, gynecologists and STI testing centers for my friend and I before anyone brought up the possibility?

While a BV is usually harmless, it can reek hawoc on your sex life, and when it becomes chronic, and if left untreated, it can increase your risks of contracting STIs or develop into pelvic inflammatory disease, which may lead to infertility. Why didn’t any of the health professionals I talked to seem to worry about this for a second?

While I’m now so happy to have my all-natural, healthy self back, I continue to be enraged by the seemingly systematic trivialization of the risks posed on women related to birth control and sexual health. I keep wondering why there are still so few, if any, options that do not risk either our mental or physical well being—or both. And, as always, why the viable options for men are still not on the market.

While IUDs work great for many, and are wonderful in that they offer an effective, non-hormonal birth control method, their potential for encouraging the growth of unhealthy vaginal bacteria should be widely known! Had I had known when I got mine what I do now, I could have been spared countless amounts of worry, stress and pain, and not to mention money, on something that could have been easily avoided.
5 Simple Ways to Tackle Period Pain at your Home
Tags: Womens Health, Sanitary Pads, Menstruationmatters, Menstrual Cup, Menstrual Health

5 Simple Ways to Tackle Period Pain at your Home

Every woman has a different story when it comes to periods, period pain and cramps. We as women have our own way of tackling this issue. Some of us would like to Netflix and chill in our beds, others might prefer binging over some chocolates, and the enthusiastic ones would get going with their early morning yoga sessions.

If experiencing excruciating and non-stop pain, it is best if you take medical help and get it resolved soon.

Nevertheless, period pain is a common episode in most of our lives, and luckily, there are some hacks to tackle it.

1) Hot Water Bag- Most women are acquainted with the benefits of a hot water bag during your monthlies. Hot water bag helps in giving you instant relief and solves various problems like cramps and lower back pain. Feel relaxed and less pain with this tool.

2) Bath in warm water- A hot and warm bath works miracles for period pain and cramps. Additionally, it is always advised to maintain proper hygiene during your periods.

3) Early morning Yoga- It might seem tough getting out of your bed and performing yoga, but it does show positive effects in reducing fatigue and pain. Yoga helps in stretching your muscles and keeps the blood flow regularly. Some light exercises and stretching with pleasant music in the background helps in giving you a relieving experience.

4) Proper hydration — Water is one of the best ways to keep tiredness and fatigues at bay. Drink lots of water throughout the day as it will help you flush waste out of your system. You can also make yourself some cinnamon tea or ginger tea as both can help give relief from period pain.

5) Unwind and relax — When at home, always make the fullest of it. Unwind and withdraw from all the stress and give yourself that much-needed break. Grab your favourite munchies, put on a heat patch, and watch some good movies to get you through the day.
Gram Slam of Mamms
Tags: Turning 40, Womens Health, Poem, Breasts, Mammograms

Photo by cottonbro from Pexels

My mamms

got jammed

and crammed

while grammed

this morning.

When Shorty

turns forty

Oh Lordty

it ain’t no party.

The memory

of my mammaries

getting puddled,

prodded, and pulled

sends my

epidermis into

retreat because

it ain’t no treat

knowing the

mammogram is

an annual repeat.

I need

more tissue

to sop up

the impact

of my chest

space getting

hijacked, whacked, and

smacked about by

plastic plates

trying to smash

images out.

There should be

a more pleasant

way to gram

the mamms.

Visual representation of story on @tolbert_on_medium Instagram
“I Give Myself Permission” (35 Positive Affirmations)
By: Cassandra Pereira
Tags: Positive Thinking, Self Improvement, Womens Health, Positive Attitude, Positive Affirmations

I Give Myself Permission…

I give myself permission

to do whatever I need to do

in this moment, to feel good.

I give myself permission to feel

whatever it is I need to feel.

I give myself permission

to breathe presence into this

time I take with myself,

to empower myself in

my ownership of my life.

I give myself permission to feel powerful.

I give myself permission to feel my power lifting up me

like a warm wind into new experiences of self and identity.

I give myself permission to fly higher than I’ve ever flown before.

I give myself permission to try harder than I’ve ever tried before.

I give myself permission to fail.

I give myself permission to succeed.

I give myself permission to be right where I am,

wherever I might be between those mythic, drifting poles.

I give myself permission to be unsure about what I’m doing here.

I give myself permission to be present in my reality right now.

This room. This body. This being.

I give myself permission to call it good.

I give myself permission to call myself worthy.

Yes, I am good, and I am worthy.

I give myself permission to still know who I am,

even when I’m lost and unsure.

I don’t look outside hoping someone else will find me.

I give myself permission to find myself,

to feel down deep and know who I am.

I give myself permission to trust who I am.

I give myself permission to trust in the unknowable value

of my unique purpose.

I give myself permission to be who I am.

I don’t look outside hoping someone else will give me permission.

I don’t need the permission of my mother.

I don’t need the permission of my father.

I don’t need the permission of any lover, or spouse, or sibling, or teacher.

I am an adult now, and I give myself permission.

I give myself permission to care less about their approval.

I give myself permission to make healthier choices.

I give myself permission to get up and dance!

I give myself permission to go in the direction that calls my true heart.

I give myself permission to go at my own pace.

I give myself permission to accept who I am.

I give myself permission to intentionally change the stories of who I am.

I give myself permission to let go of who I’ve been.

I give myself permission to become a new version of me.

I give myself permission to change.
Merry Christmas from Quarantine
By: Kendra Mack
Tags: Diary Writing, Diary, Life, Journal, Writing

Merry Christmas from Quarantine

The scene Christmas morning

HOME NEWS:

A Holly Jolly Soggy Christmas at Home

Aisha and I spent our first Christmas together in our apartment, opening presents, cooking and eating food, staying dry, and not giving anybody coronavirus.

Overnight rain melted away most of snow on the street and sidewalks, which was truly a Christmas miracle. After shoveling ourselves out a couple weeks ago, we were dreaming of the opposite of a white Christmas. And sometimes Christmas dreams do come true.

While we weren’t able to spend Christmas with our families this year, we were still thankful to exchange and receive such nice things as a new pots and pans (thanks Mom and Dad!), wine glasses (thanks Katie and Doug!), board and card games to keep us entertained, and candles to keep us smelling good.

Speaking of wine, after having a very skiddish and skeptical morning, Kitty received some nice bottles of CATbernet. And thus Kitty was won over by the holiday.

Kitty is skeptical of this Christmas business

In between opening presents, Aisha and I cooked ourselves a bagel and bacon brunch. We called and FaceTimed with our families in the afternoon, and tested out our new mattress topper (a Christmas gift from me to Aisha) via a glorious rainy Christmas nap.
Christmas was absolutely amazing.
By: Tyler Wright
Tags: Journal

Christmas was absolutely amazing. You know. Besides corona. Anyways. I got a new pair of cool thermal looking Vans, a PS4, LED lights, a mini fridge, a freaking NARUTO shirt. (I’m obsessed with Naruto atm). Anyways. Yeah my Christmas was great. Besides the fact that my Nana just lets family come over even though we are in a PANDEMIC. But Lowkey I always hang out with friends so I can’t say much. I’m probably gonna get it but I haven’t yet. OH YEA. I’m baking muffins so hold on.

Update: they are delicious.

I just got GTAV and I’m upset cause I suck at games 😭. But like it’ll be fine I’ll just get my friends to beat it for me and I’ll watch. Ill write more tomorrow!!! Follow for daily updates!!!!
A different point of view
Tags: Love Letters, Villains, Journal, Poet, Writing

A different point of view

I may be the villain in your story. You may see me as the overbearing lover who needed constant reassurance. But how can i stop myself from thinking you’ll be bored when all you do is send me videos of other girls and tell me i’m not your type? How could i possibly think your love could last forever when you promised me so much so fast. You changed my idea of a perfect future, i never thought i would want a marriage or children all i wanted was to see the world and meet its people. But how could i still want that when you showed me a picturesque future and then pulled it out of reach? I may be the villain in your story but i’m afraid i may never see you as the villain in mine.
#4: Last journal of 2020
By: Alexander Collin
Tags: 2020, Journal

This should be a long one, but I have college application deadlines coming up. So, please, bear with me. This week I’m not as happy as I am last week — and that’s okay. Probably because my instant-gratification-monkey lost control of my professional procrastinating brain. And my brain does not like it when the panic monster takes over. But, there it is, 7 days before my Ivy League application and I still have a lot to do.

So here I am, doing the thing I’m not supposed to do, journaling. I really don’t know why I’m writing and what I’ll be writing but I’m just doing it. This week was super unproductive as there’s Christmas Day — a day where all my unproductive sins are forgiven. Forgiven by myself obviously, but all this time since March 2020 are Christmas Day’s for me. Even though some days are harder than the other, I still manage to find myself doing nothing but complain. And here I am again, complaining.

At least, Jay Shetty said that happy people complain … wait for it … mindfully. And right now, I’m complaining mindfully. I’m complaining on the fact that I’m not going over to my friends house for a sleepover. I’m complaining on the fact that I will — most probably — spend new year’s eve alone .I’m complaining on the fact that I had approximately 3 weeks and I did nothing. I’m complaining on why everyone is having a fun holiday. But, here I am, writing an essay — and journal — on the last days of 2020, alone in my room.

These bad times would pay off when I get my college decisions — or not. Because, it all depends on how it turns out. So, wait for my complains on March 2021 or my celebration — I hope. I guess the main reason I’m writing my journal is because I just didn’t want to be inconsistent for once and I’m really hoping that this journal would last for years — at least.
3 Conscious Journaling Techniques to Maximize Your Personal Growth
By: Purvee Chauhan
Tags: Personal Development, Productivity, Wellness, Journal, Mental Health

3 Conscious Journaling Techniques to Maximize Your Personal Growth

Photo by Thought Catalog on Unsplash

“Fill your paper with the breathings of your heart.” — William Wordsworth

I came across this quote when I was preparing for standardized exams a decade ago. I was stressed and unsure of where I wanted to be. Peer pressure was taking over. I didn’t know where to vent my feelings and how to notice cheerful things. A friend of mine told me to write. He emailed —

“Start off with writing anything. I said, write ANYTHING. Yes, you can actually start off with writing “ANYTHING”. Don’t worry about the topics to write on, leave that for now. Just write. Finally, after gathering enough courage, you touch the tip of the pen on the page, scratch some zig-zag lines and stop. Then you start off with writing whatever is coming to your mind. You write continuously. You do not end a sentence with a period but use commas [,] and continue writing. After writing about 3–4 lines comes your first period [.] (full stop). You realize that you were lost, and you were focusing on whatever you were writing. Congratulations, you’ve finally started off.”

And there I was. I started writing for myself. I was journaling. I could focus my attention on things that needed my focus. And I was happier, healthier, more reflective, organized and productive. I was filling papers with the breathings of my heart. Here are some journaling styles that help me become a better version of myself:

1. Bullet journaling to get more organized

What is it and how do I use it?

A form of journaling in which you can list to-dos, plans, add reflections, etc. It is flexible but planned. It comprises of sections such as month, week or day in which you can use simple annotations like bullets, dashes, crosses, and circles to code and signify different tasks.

You can personalize this journal by making these sections and annotations per your style. It is used everyday once/ twice/ongoing during the day, depending upon the content you are organizing.

For starters:

Make an index.

Ensure you have weekly/daily sections listed in the journal.

For daily checklists, you can use simple boxes to list all your tasks, a tick when you complete them, a circle to postpone it for tomorrow and a cross if you do not want to do the task anymore. You can also use emojis if that makes you smile. For ‘signifiers’ you can use !!! for high priority, !! for medium and ! low priority.

You can have a reminders section for things/dates/events you do not want to forget.

Add wish-lists — books you want to read, movies you want to watch, recipes you want to try.

Add quotes/ reflections/ lessons.

Review your work periodically.

Note: Repeat the same for weekly and monthly logs.

These checklists do not need to be work checklists. You can make two sections, professional and personal, to organise yourself better.

Why does it help?

It helps you keep a track of your work and life. Gives you peace of mind. Keeps you organized and, hence, less overwhelmed.
Since You Left
Tags: Breakups, Narasi, Journal, Poetry, Hurt

We have always joked about how we are going to be, if we’re ever going to part way. I have always been the one who began to laugh at the thought that I accidentally met you on my way to the office and pretend not to see you. You’re the one who cringed on the scenario, despised it, and whined about why I’ve ever thought about it.

Then I would cradle you in my arm, stroking your back in a soothing circle, whispering to you, “I would never leave you, you don’t have to worry.” I’d be following those with something like this, breaking the ice, “If we ever part ways in the future, most likely you are the one who leave me.” You would scoff, ignore me, and bury your face on the crook of my neck. We slept in bliss for God knows how long.

Not even the bluest sky can prepare me for the immense pain that I have to bear, when half of me has torn so suddenly.

The day we part ways, I was numb, I carried on my days like an empty can drift through waves, emptiness and nothingness. I have not been able to bring myself to shed a single tear. The words were raw, sitting at the back of my throat, and I refuse to swallow them.

I’m not ready, because it would dissipate past my vessels, dilute in my blood, and draw on me, the fact that I’m no longer with you. I have tried my best as sleepless nights come and go, though your colors on me have begun to fade.

The clock stopped ticking for you, but it keeps ticking for me. The sound was deafening, it caught me off guard and made me eat the lump that had been sitting on my throat for months. My defense, let loose, washed away by hot trickling drops of defeat and confusion. I mourned, trying to make sense of where it went wrong. I put my hands where it hurts the most, my chest, as if I had covered it with all my sticky fingers, the pain would disappear, or at least it wouldn’t get any worse.

I light the cigarettes, because I was too proud to beg for the moon and the ocean, which once engulfed us in glow and comfort. It’s so hard to get you out of my chest. Every huffs and every blow, it drives me even lower.

If it had ever been real, how could I have been a wreckage, and you an everlasting gleam shining on my despair? I can only dream about the day you are coming back, even though it’s just a dream.
Daily Life of a Melancholic Teen
Tags: Melancholic, Daily Life, Depressed, Journal, Help

Day 1:

I’m writing to just tell my story, I don’t really know if this title is going to draw people in but if you are here, hi. Today is Christmas and even though it’s suppose to be a joyful day, I hate it. Every holiday something happens, I get kicked out the house, my mom and dad fight, I get beat for no reason. But this year felt different i thought it was going to be a good day despite the fact that my 2020 has been shit. But once again my karma didn’t fail me and this time my dad didn’t come. He drives trucks for a living and has always made it for the holidays but this time he couldn’t make it. But maybe it was for the best. You see my mom is cheating on my dad with a guy who lives thousand of miles away. Everyone knows, I wouldn’t be surprised if my dad knew. But no one says anything, my family pretends that nothing is happening in this house. It’s suffocating. I know this makes me seem like a bad person, but when i tell you I love my dad more than I love myself. I say i don’t love my mom, but i steady seek her validation maybe that’s why I don’t say anything. No, that’s just an excuse I use, the real reason is that I’m selfish and if i actually tell him then it’s real. And I will once again start a problem that I can’t handle and maybe this time actually end it all.

-F.W.M.
My First Day in Therapy.
By: Pngc Things
Tags: Depression, Life, Anxiety, Therapy, Journal

I feel anxious. Is this normal? I feel a little worried about what she will think. I’m scared that they might mistake my random moodiness and depression for “thoughts of suicide”. I swear I would never. But. Sometimes, I just feel a little sad, lost and alone. I can’t be the only one. Am I?

I’m not always sad. Sometimes I am happy, anxious, in love, mad, excited and jealous. My emotions vary. Not always so one sided, it just depends on how well you know me or how I am doing that day. People know me as such a kind, caring, happy person. Always smiling. But…the closest people to me know that there’s a little darkness in me too. Like I said, I vary.

At the end of the day though, I just hope it helps. I am getting a little tired of all of these unnecessary feelings. I just want to feel happy, worry free, calm. I’m tired. I am only 28 years old, man. I’m so young. I can’t continue being like this for the rest of my life. I can’t live a life of anxiety and depression.

It’s not fair to me at all, I deserve better. I deserve more. Anyway, we shall see how this goes.

9/5/20
Platonic Vocal Chords, Pt. 1
By: Ann-Sophie Barwich
Tags: Pandemic Diaries, Journal, Santiago De Compostela, Pilgrimage, Inner Voice

I arrived in Santiago de Compostela today.

Amid the pandemic, an audiobook was probably the only way to go on a pilgrimage. It turned out to be more than just a pastime. The questions that running can answer also arise to me. Maybe that’s why, despite months of hesitation, I decided to write down daily impressions again.

It’s strange listening to yourself thinking again. It’s not quite my own voice yet that I think I hear. But she changes her pitch with a few sentences. Then she trembles and shifts to a pitch with some sentences. Then she trembles again and transforms into a tone of voice that distantly approaches the next words again.

We shall now see to whom these words lead.
On Turning Twenty
By: Eteroitha, Teri
Tags: Diary, 20s Life, Turning 20, Birthday, Journal

It’s December 13, and the day is almost drawing to a close. Well not quite, it’s 12:00 pm but for the first time in 4 years I’m already over the day, and it has barely just begun.

I woke up knowing that the day will turn out like any other day. I had no grand expectations. Even with my track record of questionable birthdays, I still looked forward to them so I don’t know what happened this year. Maybe it’s the stress or frustration of 2020 in general, who knows?

What I do know is that I don’t have any feelings of happiness or even sadness. I don’t feel different or changed and that extra sparkle that comes with adding another year has become dull, replaced with nonchalance and lethargy.

If you had told me earlier in the year that this was how I would feel I would’ve laughed and told you that was impossible. Birthdays (along with any other holiday really) were my hype days. I had carried all my friend’s birthdays on my head so why was mine any different? Like I said earlier, I don’t know. My friends didn’t know either.

I don’t want this post to sound ungrateful because I am grateful for life, I definitely do not take that for granted but I would be lying if I said I was over the moon on the 13th of December.

Why I’m telling you this then? I don’t know. Maybe you do relate, maybe you don’t.

Thoughts aside, here’s to turning the page and starting a new chapter.

Chapter 20 please be good to me. Thanks.
Christmas eve…
By: Ashley Mcbroom
Tags: Santa, Journal, Family, Teens, Christmas Eve

Today really did just feel like another day, I woke up said good morning to my mum and had a nice warm shower. Today being Christmas eve and all didn't feel any different or change a thing (well besides the few ads that popped up on my phone), I really shouldn't be surprised at this stage though considering I'm not a big fan of Christmas time. there is only ever one event during Christmas that I look forward to and that was cancelled… well until one of my aunties decided to organise a new one and invite everyone but me my mum and my younger brother and lets just say it wasn't an accident.

Honestly really sucks considering we didn't do anything wrong and we found out quite late from a member from my very large family. after breakfast my brother had decided to go out and during that time his skate rail came in (yes he is a skater boy) my and mum decided it would be funny to bring it in and under the tree as a surprise and even put a big bow on it, you wouldn't belie how long he didn't notice it, I watched ‘the Grinch’ and a few episodes of ‘Friends’ while eating lunch. And that was basically my day I'm now getting ready for be and writing this and that's just about it. ba bye XO

(p.s Merry Christmas for those of you who celebrate or enjoy it!)