When You Say “Hey Buddy, I Made It”, Make Sure Your Shadow Is There To Cheer With You
By: Tung Vo
Tags: Self-awareness, Self Improvement, Motivation, Mental Health, Inspiration

People keep telling me “It’s too difficult to be genuine”. I think I know the reasons.

Life is harsh, which is pretty clear.

The number of problems that we have to deal with keeps growing as we grow up. They are tuition fees, where to live, what to eat, how to support your family and beloved ones, how to have a car, how to get promoted, how to be a millionaire, and so on…

People believe that they have to adjust, change themselves, and live their lives with different faces in order to properly communicate with other people, to cope with many aspects of life, and to seize gold opportunities.

Then they lose their own selves in the end.

For me, admitting that “I lost myself already” is positive to some extent because it means at least you know who you were, who you should be, and who the real you are.

That is, you are aware that how much you have changed, no matter what it is, good or bad, there is a little regret in your words, because it is always better to be yourself in every decision to get what you want, and also great to have everything in your life built by your true self.

Do you know what is worst?

You let go of yourself to become another one.

You were born unique. Are you something special or outstanding? It doesn’t matter, you are a unique one.

Even though you resemble someone, your personality is similar to someone, or people cannot stop compare you with someone else, only you know what makes you different, and whether it is manifested or not depends on you.

However, you choose to become another person, to make others believe that you are another one for what you’re chasing.

And then you are them, they are you, nothing different.

Do you know why it is bad?

Because you chose to do it.

Every night, you lie down exhaustedly because being another one is not easy and all the emotions that you express are not for you, which just makes you stuck.

Personal desires and goals are the most precious things that need to be respected.

It is wonderful if you never stop striving for those things in your life, even you have to trade your ego for it, as long as you’re happy with your choice.

However, what will it be like if all your rush and your changes don’t pay off? You fail to gain what you want.

Does that mean you lose everything including yourself? After all the failures, no one is beside you even your shadow.

Many people out there are day in day out battling with their life, they wish they could be true to themselves once to make decisions, to follow what they’re destined to be.

It’s all about your choice.

Once you make your decision, you’ll find ways to make it work.

I choose to be genuine in everything I do. I think my life would be miserable if I didn’t live authentically, and fight for my life philosophy.

You only live once, why don’t you find ways to express the true you.

I met people in my life accidentally. They just come and get to know me. They stay to be friends, and important ones of mine because of who I am.

I have never chosen or forced anyone to stay with me or leave me, I just keep myself being sincere and genuine.

That’s how I met great people and awesome friends.

That is also how I write; I’d like to create content that expresses myself most honestly.

Ideas come to me naturally, but sometimes I still get stuck in explaining myself and making them easy to understand.

At that time, I would close my eyes, focus deeply, and feel what I truly think about the topic, I then carefully select words that best demonstrate me, although they’re not the finest.

There are definitely disadvantages to a lifestyle that always stays true with words and actions (please don’t hurt other people by being yourself, it’s another realm), but I believe that what I will achieve will be great and worth it because when these contents touch the heart of readers, they will stay.

They stay because they gradually get to know me, who has similarities and common feelings with them, and they’d like to know more and pick up more valuable experiences from me.

Stay true to yourself, do things genuinely, make decisions, and live a life of who you are. This sounds dreamy but not delusional at all. Just think about it, if you can feel how great your life could be, why don’t give it a go.

Choosing to be yourself or become another person is not an easy choice, do what you think is worth it.