Believing in yourself — An important step to success
Tags: Love Yourself, Believe In Yourself, Believing In Myself, Self Love, Self Confidence

You know, the main thing one needs to succeed is belief. Belief in oneself that they can achieve what they want to. This is one quality that many teenagers and young adults lack. It is difficult for them to find their talent, have a goal, and have self-confidence. There are many reasons why one lacks self-confidence but here are the few that I could think of.

1. The first reason is fear. It is the fear that belief in oneself can lead to being over-confident. Now, they can fear being overconfident due to two reasons. Number 1 is that they have been called overconfident when they simply believed in their ability to do something and number 2, they have seen people around them becoming over-confident due to success. As the saying goes, “Success is a lousy teacher. It seduces smart people into thinking they can’t lose.”

It is quite difficult to get over this fear and for someone, it might even take years to get over it. usually categorized as a ‘stupid’ and ‘childish’ fear, it isn’t taken into consideration much until one gets the courage to get over it and share their experience. even then, people have a difficult time believing this fear and yet another victim can be ignored.

2. The second reason can be demotivation. this isn’t a normal demotivation done out of spite but the one that is one jokingly. You might have noticed in your own friend group, friends usually say things like “yeah right, you and good-looking are enemies” or “Stop dreaming of things you will never achieve”. Obviously, these statements are said in fun and are to be taken lightly but for some people, it is difficult to do so. there are sensitive people out there who take the smallest of things said to them at heart. Once they hear many such statements, they start to believe them and demotivate themselves. In most cases, they don’t even admit this to their family and friends with the fear that they might be considered as a ‘weakling’.

3. This is probably the most common one; demotivation by society. I have written on many occasions on how I don’t agree with how our society works. I believe that the negative vibes that society gives off are too much for people to handle. One of these negative vibes are the backhand compliments and the demotivation. For those of you who don’t know, backhand compliments are statements that initially sound like a compliment but turn out to be an insult. A few examples of this can be “You’re really funny in your own way” or “The confidence you have in yourself is just amazing”. One can easily spot the hidden insults here. Again, these statements take a toll on the mental health of a person and they eventually start to believe in those lies fed by society.

One may say that well the world isn’t for such weak-hearted people but the point here isn’t about someone being weak or strong-hearted but it is about how negativity in daily life changes the normal mindset of a person.

4. The fourth reason is comparison. Comparison is a very prominent thing that is usually done mistakenly. When you compare a person to someone else, they think that they don’t have any worth and are useless. This again takes a toll on one’s mental health.

If you see or know someone who has issues with self-confidence, take action. Don’t just sit there waiting for it all to be fine on its own ’cause believe me, that isn’t going to happen. help that person out even if you don’t know them. Make them believe in themselves and filter out the negative stuff from their minds.

Remember, it is a small effort that can change someone’s life.