My First Long Distant Relationship
By: Syed Zaidi
Tags: Breakups, Dating, Relationships, Online Dating, Love

The Proposal

One day while we were chatting, she confessed that she likes me. Hearing that was unbelievable as no one said that to me, ever. This made me thrilled. I asked,

“So what do you consider me now?”

On which she replied, “Boyfriend.”

I don’t know what went through my mind, but I texted her, “You didn’t ask me out.”

This message made her embarrassed, and well, she proposed if I want to be her boyfriend.

I cried with tears of joy and replied to her yes.

I was innocent and dumb, didn’t realize what was about to come.

Our First Call

Everything changed after she became my girlfriend. I felt happier and more loved. She appreciated me more and called me in sweetest way possible. Being in love was the best feeling ever. Now we talked on call. I was very nervous, less confident and shy as well because I rarely spoke English.

I remember it was exactly 11 am in Pakistan when she called me on Snap chat. I picked up the call instantly and there was pin drop silence. After a few minutes passed, I said “Hello.” softly. I heard an exquisite voice say, “Hey dear, how are you?”. My girlfriend’s voice was soft as silk that it melted my heart.

After asking each other how we were, we talked about how we met and relived old memories. Before our call ended, we both expressed love to each other. Our conversation lasted for an hour.

“We were together even when we were apart.” — Shannon A. Thompson

Days passed by, our long distant relationship strengthened regularly. We would talk on call all night long. If one of us wasn’t feeling good, the other would comfort and help each other feel better. If my girlfriend needed help in studies, I would help her instantly as I was a senior in education than her.

Two months passed, we had a month relationship ceremony twice. We both recorded videos in which we spoke few words and expressed our love for each other. I couldn’t believe that my relationship is of two months. Though it was an online long distant relationship, but it was my first one, I had to make sure I don’t make any mistakes and listen to everything my girlfriend has to say.

What could be better for a guy like me? Long distant relationship was working fantastic for me, I never felt so loved before. There were some important things which I didn’t realize and regretted after such as education. Even though I encouraged Mariam to study harder and helped her when she needed, I stopped studying properly like I used to as I got distracted.

I never thought of how painful love can be.

In the third’s midst month of our relationship, I received a message from Mariam’s Google Hangout. The message comprising threats and abusive language. The sender wrote to never contact Mariam again. It shocked me. It was very difficult to accept the message. I tried to contact Mariam by texting and calling her on all of her social media accounts. But there was no response.

I was out of breath.

A day passed, I stayed up the whole night waiting for her reply. Another day passed, and I was still up. By the third day, I was so exhausted that I slept while I was laying down. A week passed, and I got no response from my girlfriend. After 9 days, I got a text from a random account.

“Hey babe. It’s me. Sorry I wasn’t able to talk to you because I got caught. I am grounded for a while, I am not sure when we will talk.”

Reading her message comforted me to some extent. I texted her back. She was offline by then.

Few days after her message, I got in touch with her best friend. She connected me and Mariam on a phone call. We talked for two minutes in which she told that her parents beat her up. All I could do was support her mentally, as I wasn’t present there. That is the worst cons of a long distant relationship.

After four days, she got in touch with me and told me she secretly bought a phone. By now it has been four months of our relationship. We stayed together, and I didn’t even think of breaking up during the time she was away. We didn’t celebrate third month anniversary because of the bad time she had.