The Things I Learned From Being a Phone sex Operator
Tags: Sex Work, Phone Sex, Culture, Phone Sex Talk, Sexuality

I have rarely enjoyed phone sex articles from other operators. I often feel they exploit the men who are clients or even put down the women in the industry. I’m hoping this article might help to change some of the stereotypes.

Being a phone sex operator has been an extremely fun and exciting job for me. But it’s also much more than a job too; it’s also a learning experience. I’m in an environment where I have the chance to discuss all the things you could never discuss at the dinner table or in mixed company. I’ve learned a lot of things about men, about masturbation, and about secret fantasies. But I’ve also learned some valuable life lessons about other people, about business, and even about myself.

I’ve learned that people are more unique than I previously thought. Talking to so many different personalities, working with other women, and servicing men for several years now, I really learned just how unique all individuals are. Tastes in sexuality are vastly different. And sexuality is a very large part of who we are even though most of it we keep private.

I’ve learned that men who call phone sex lines often do so to “avoid” physically cheating on their wives. And further, sometimes men call me to tell me how hot their wives are. I also often hear about great marriages, adoring their children, and fantasies that include their partner. I hear stories from men about how they could never cheat on their beloved wife, but she may not like a certain sex act, hence their call to me.

I have learned how to communicate with others in many different styles. From the passive-aggressive style to the average “Joe” to the non-communicative. I’ve also learned how to understand a caller’s “need” from their communication style. Sex talk is not always the real reason a client calls. Some clients need to feel heard, need to feel special, need to feel understood. I’ve been able to apply this skill to my regular life as well.

I’ve learned that we should not be ashamed of masturbation. Right now, somewhere in the world thousands of people are rubbing one out as you read this. My company gets calls 24/7 and 365 days per year. I always know someone out there is ready to masturbate.

I’ve learned that not all men enjoy porn. Some find it degrading towards women and are put off by some of the images in modern pornography. While others may have certain disabilities that are not represented in porn, and they simply cannot “identify” with it at all. I have spoken to many clients who are blind for example.

I have learned patience to a degree I thought once was not humanly possible. This comes from both hiring women to work for me who have zero computer skills to talking with clients who struggle with social skills.

I’ve learned that running a business is hard work and keeping everything both protected and transparent is a real struggle. The women I hire need their safety/privacy protected and the clients need my business to be honest and upfront.

I’ve learned more than I ever wanted to about Trademarks, Copyrights, and other legal issues.

I’ve learned not to make snap judgments about people. I have dealt with some extremely “difficult” clients. Sometimes I would judge them as rude, mean, or just abrasive. Sometimes I thought they didn’t like me but yet they kept calling. I discovered that once I got to know these men a bit that I could ask them if they were having a bad day or some type of life struggle. Usually, they were. By listening, not judging them, and showing a shred of humanity they always became much “nicer”. And with that, I learned that showing just a small amount of caring to someone can really brighten their day.

I’ve learned that masturbation is a desire that’s best given in to. Sometimes as humans we need release at the darnedest of times. Sexual passion; whether with a partner or as a simple animal urge, needs to be nurtured. Even in times of crisis, our bodies crave to be touched. It’s human nature.

I’ve learned that masturbation is a “cure” for many ailments including exhaustion, mental clarity, boredom, and loneliness. Sometimes we just need to explode in orgasmic fantasy so we can get our minds focused back in reality. We use it as a form of escape and it can release tension. Masturbation is a form of self-care.

I’ve learned that having naughty fantasies usually mean you are intelligent and have a great imagination. Fantasy is normal, healthy, and a lack of it… can make life pretty boring.

I’ve learned that I like men even more than I thought I did when I started! I found out many interesting and intriguing things about the male psyche. I consider myself lucky to learn how to better relate to men in my own personal life through this experience.

I’ve learned that I like to talk. I learned that I like people. I learned that it’s not easy to run a business. And mainly, I learned that I love my work!