Being in Your Own League Makes You Thrive in All Seasons
By: Simona Rich
Tags: Life Lessons, Self Help, Self Confidence, Business Lessons, Entrepreneurship

Being in Your Own League Makes You Thrive in All Seasons Simona Rich Follow Oct 20 · 4 min read

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Today’s society is full of guilt so those with self-confidence are often seen as egotistic. There are of course egotistic people in the world, and many of them, yet self-confidence is different from egotism.

Self-confidence allows you to be in your own league, when you don’t look at what others are doing but do your own thing. This makes you able to create something very different from the rest, and therefore you get a premium for it.

Those who are at ease with themselves don’t try to mould their natures according to the latest trends and opinions of the world. They become the masters of their lives by growing from within — by learning to listen to the inner nature and not to that which is external.

They attract wealth and opportunities by focusing on developing themselves and mastering their art. Then all the blessings come as a by-product which is how the natural order is.

I don’t follow the numbers [money]. I focus on developing my acting skills. Then the numbers naturally come. — Anil Kapoor, Indian actor

If people have identical looks, identical employments and identical goals, they will experience identical lifestyles and identical problems: money shortage, unhappiness and lack of meaning.

There’s no need for such self-sacrifice, however. By simply being yourself you are already in your own league. All you need is to own it — detach from external influences and be led by what’s in your heart.

Early decision that made me thrive

Early in life, from the age of 22, I chose to be in my own league. I did what was in my heart — to write, make videos and offer consultations.

Because I naturally did what I loved to do, blessings in the form of loyal readers and income started reaching me six months into my career, allowing me to travel the world and live in my favorite country of all — India.

South India — my favorite place in the world. Image source: my own.

Twelve years later I’m still enjoying the dividends of my choice. I’ve just settled in a pretty studio apartment in the heart of Vilnius Old Town, my favorite place in my home country Lithuania:

My studio in Vilnius Old Town. Image source: allowed for public use by my landlord.

The reason I survived and thrived all these twelve years as a blogger was because I never looked at the competition and only did what was in my heart. I never followed the trends and I never looked at what other people were doing.

Because I thoroughly enjoy my work, customers, readers and viewers feel it. This kind of energy attracts and therefore most of my customers become loyal clients and supporters.

What it means to be in your element

Being your own unique self means you’re at ease with what you are. You don’t try to change yourself by looking at what the world is doing, but you focus on the person that you are and your growth is about improving what’s already good and reducing that which is undesirable.

There’s so much power in this kind of being. Any person who becomes at peace with what she is and learns to use what she was given to the best of her ability will develop the magnetic power which is what amazes the world.

When you no longer look outside of you for guidance but are led by that which is within, you naturally attract attention. When everyone is distracted by the trendy things to do and be, isn’t it natural to stop and take interest in that which is so unlike anything else?

Being your own unique self is especially important for entrepreneurs as there’s so much competition today. If you compete, you are just like everyone else. It’s not possible to survive for long without offering something truly unique. The world is changing so fast that in its turns many businesses die — unless they have something which others do not.

How to trust yourself

Being in your own league requires having trust in yourself. Trust comes from going through various events and instead of allowing obstacles to beat you down, to learn to overcome them — by yourself.

Trusting yourself comes from independence. If you live a totally independent life — living in your own place, earning your own money from your own business, solving your own problems— this eventually helps you to get to know yourself and to make wise choices.

Trusting yourself makes you unique, the center and not the periphery, which has attractive power. Your business is bound to reflect what you are.

Isn’t it natural for people to appreciate something so unique that it can’t be compared with anything else? Something that knows its value and owns its style?

Surely people want to get that which is different, one of a kind, and they are ready to pay a premium for it. And this is what keeps you thriving even in the most difficult times.