Letting go to free yourself
By: Shawna-Kay Mills-Trepair
Tags: Self-awareness, Forgiveness

Holding onto your past or pain is not going to fix anything. Repeating those memories again and again in your head will not put you in a positive mental space. It will only make you cry, bitter and resentful and that is not the person you want to be. It’s time you move and work on letting go.

Letting go of the past is not easy, it hurts and you did not deserve it. Moving on seems like an impossible task looking from where you are standing. But you need to clear your mind and think about who you are and who you want to be. Hiding your pain in the dark memories of the past and tricking yourself that you have let go, will not take you to who you need to be.

It is time to stop hiding in the dark. the time to live the life you were meant to live. It is time for you to feel the fresh air again. Here are some essential tips on letting go to free yourself.

Don’t live by limitations you are the key:

“I cannot do this” or “I can never do that” are phrases we use a lot of times in our life. Either it is about letting go of a relationship or overcoming your biggest fears. Many people in your life will tell you what you can or cannot do. Don’t be held back by the limitations people put on you. Remember only you can set yourself free. “Whatever the mind can conceive and believe, it can achieve”- Napoleon Hill.

Letting go of the idea that you can control others:

You cannot control another person’s feelings, emotions or actions no matter how hard you try. The one person you can control is you. If you think that you can make someone happy by doing everything right; you are wrong. You will never know how a person will feel or react. Just try to be positive in your thoughts and actions towards others.

Start your journey without expectations:

It is one of the main tips you need to remember in order to move on and let go. “ A journey of a thousand miles begins with the first step.”-Lao Tzu. When you start your journey without any expectation, you will be more motivated to make progress, than becoming discouraged for not meeting an expectation that you made for yourself.

Understand that every relationship will not be the same:

You need to understand that there are different types and depth of relationships. It is ok to have a relationship with someone that is different from the norm. The most important thing is that it is positive and builds who you want to be. However, if the time should come when it is no longer a positive place for you letting go and moving on does not mean that you have failed. It means you know who you are and who you want to be. Clinging to the past will only keep you stuck in one place and breathes negative energy in your life.

Letting go of past mistakes while Making room for new ones:

Made a mistake or said something stupid? Don’t blame yourself as we all do these kinds of things in our life. Let go of past mistakes and start appreciating yourself. Make room for mistake. “To err is human,” — Alexander Pope. If you feel bad, just learn from your bad experience, stop punishing your heart and yourself.

These are some of the important tips on letting go and make yourself free and alive again. Start following them one by one and see a positive and beautiful change in your life.

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