3 Ways to Hear the Voice of Intimacy
Tags: Personal Development, Relationships, Psychology, Mindset, Love

How can we understand the intimacy of the others?

Being open to new experiences help us to learn and know what exactly we want from relationships. We do not have to accept the ways, but it gives us the perspective to think.

Invariably it was hard for me until recently, and I started having conversations about how relationships differ and may become complicated with expectations.

#1 Intimacy of being aroused sexually

It involves our desire to be touched in a certain way, at certain positions and specific times.

Not everyone likes hugs, yet they may like it when done appropriately.

Many of us want to be touched more than usual, and some of us do not at all.

We have our secret fantasies while making out, and some of us like to be submissive, and some the opposite. Some want to do it with lights-on OR enjoy the steamy intimacy in the dark.

Some of us are sexual in our minds; we see and uniquely observe everything; however, that does not always mean we are psychopaths. Some of us have a shallow sexual desire, yet; we do like to be touched in specific ways and at certain times.

Some of us want to start a relationship by getting to know each other’s bodies and feel the naked touch. For some, sex comes later, and we do not rely on physical intimacy to value the relationship alone.

#2 Intimacy with words and acknowledgment

Words play an essential role in our life. That's the source of communication for most of us, yet nowadays, verbal conversations are getting limited since people feel too comfortable behind the screens. So, texts are the form we rely on these days.

Knowing the vocabulary and tone becomes extremely necessary in scenarios where we are always on the phone/email.

Nevertheless, in person, too, it is invariably required to understand our tone and how others might perceive it.

Intimacy through words is one of the most romantic outcomes one can expect.

We write poems, use words with sounds that touch our hearts and mind. Verbalizing the feelings and saying things mesmerizes some people.

Some of us rely on words of affirmation and acknowledgment of the efforts we put into our relationships. Verbs influence our mind; we read, we write, and we become the change.

The voice of the person we love or admire hits the right spot in our minds and emotions.

Because it is also one of the most challenging tasks to articulate feelings and emotions, words become a significant source of both the creation and destruction of relationships.

#3 Intimacy with the presence and absence of beings

Romantic or non-romantic relationships can be built long-distance or just being pen-pals. At different stages in our life, we are distant apart from our loved ones.

The presence and absence of a person can trigger intimacy that thrives on missing and being missed by the person.

Many of us like to remain independent and enjoy solitude. However, it does not mean we do not want to pursue and maintain relationships. We miss our loved ones as much as an extrovert and socially engaged person might do.

Distance helps us to maintain our relationship and our intimacy with the other person. We like the space to help keep happiness as well as balanced attractions.

The presence of our loved ones, via letters, in-person, or electronically, can trigger an adrenaline rush in our gut. We get goosebumps just by thinking of the person. And we love it when it happens!

We understand that wherever he/she is, they still love us and hope for our best.

We need not have to stay with that person 24x7, yet some may require the other person to be as close to us as possible.

Some of us want to know that maybe that person cannot be with me forever; however, knowing the presence is all we need.

The presence of loved ones makes us smile and keep us happy. Just the thought of missing someone gives the feeling of importance and being important to someone.