5 Things a Woman Will Text When She Is Not That Into You
By: Brooklyn Thomas
Tags: Tech, Relationships, Digital Life, Love, Dating

1. You are turning into the grim reaper

Are your conversations particularly lopsided? Do you find yourself trying to find out as much about her as possible, only for her to send back two/three-word replies? If the answer is yes to all of the above, you may be turning into a grim reaper, and by that, I mean trying to raise the dead from the grave. I know that we all like to give people the benefit of the doubt; however, if someone is repeatedly not invested in the conversation, it may mean that they are not invested in you. For the majority of us under lockdown and furlough, we have a lot of time to kill. In fact, many people are struggling for things to do, so I think in this instance it may be good to leave things alone. If you feel like you are constantly messaging her first, stop messaging her! If she doesn’t reply, you have the confirmation that they were wasting your time. If you do, you know that there was no malice intended and things are expected to run smooth. It sounds like a win-win to me!

2. You’re the only one who asks questions

People who are interested in you will always want to ask questions to get to know more about you. Firstly, it stops you finding out how much of a weirdo they are and secondly when we like someone; it is human nature. to want to know about them. It’s refreshing not to have to talk about yourself, so if they never really ask you questions, it may be time to ask yourself if they are really worth your time. After all, interested people will want to find out as much as possible about you!

3. No effort at humour

The best thing about texting is the little hits of dopamine you get from that validation that someone wants to speak for you. After all, social media was designed to be that way! This is why people spend time talking to people they aren’t even remotely interested in. And also why you can find yourself speaking to someone who doesn’t seem willing for the conversation to continue yet, they continue it anyway. I think for most people, humour is a great way to get comfortable and test the waters. It also offers a wonderful opportunity to connect and talk. This is why I believe that if someone isn’t trying to make you laugh, then they most likely are using you for the dopamine hit vs anything substantial. In a world of memes, gifs and emoji’s, there are endless ways to bring about the spark without feeling awkward or having to think so deeply about things. Therefore, if they aren’t trying to make you laugh… delete contact. You deserve more than the bare minimum.

4. She rarely texts you back/ right back

So this one requires a little discretion. We all have busy lives; therefore, it is crazy to think that someone will be constantly available for you. However, in a technologically driven world, the chances of someone not being on their phone at least a couple of times a day is pretty slim to none. On average people spend 3 hours and 15 minutes a day, so if you don’t speak for a few minutes a day, at the very least, something is definitely a little fishy. There is no reason why you should be waiting days for a response. If someone wants to keep you, then they’ll do whatever they can to keep the focus on themselves. After all, busy people make the time to pursue the things they deem as worthwhile.

5. Social media paradox

Social media is both a blessing and a curse. While it does promote interconnectivity, it has also made the dating game almost impossible to navigate. Personally, I wouldn’t say I like adding people onto my social media until we are at least a few dates in, however, if you do be wary of people who won’t text you back but will like your Instagram picture or your tweet. People tend to do this because they like the attention you give them, but they don’t want to keep up a conversation. In essence, you are an ego boost. So if you find that you are being given the bare minimum, cut them off.