Do Women Really Like Anal Sex?
By: Michelle Brown
Tags: Sex, Sexuality, Relationships, Love, Lifestyle

Do Women Really Like Anal Sex?

Have You Ever Heard of an Anal Orgasm?

I’ve surveyed some of my women friends about anal sex and how they feel about it.

And the results were decidedly mixed.

The answers I received were not overwhelmingly for the yes I love it side or the no way I’d never do that side. It was more of a grey area with some varying opinions.

So, what’s the big deal with anal sex anyway? Is it still as taboo as I imagine it might be?

Well, not exactly.

It’s still not a subject any of us gals regularly brings up — however — if you make a point to ask most women about it, generally, they’ll give you a pretty straightforward answer about how the idea of anal sex makes them feel.

A good handful of women think anal sex is gross and they are just not down AT ALL with the whole ‘poop canal' being used as a sexual entryway.

The idea that anal sex is ‘dirty’ can come from a real repulsion to thinking about fecal bacteria playing a role in a sexual experience.

Additionally, some women who have tried it find it to be quite painful and never want to try it again. Period.

Not every woman has tried anal sex but those who did try it have had responses ranging from never wanting to do it again, to being okay with doing it as an erotic adventure every once in a while, to really being into it on a regular basis — with some conditions surrounding the activity like showers first and bowel movements beforehand.

Some women find anal sex extremely pleasurable and can even experience an orgasm from it. There’s even such a thing called an ‘anal orgasm' which I admit, I was curious about.

In my subsequent research, it turns out that an anal orgasm is the result of the sexual stimulation of the nerves in and around the anus. The anus has multiple nerves, especially the incredibly erogenous pudendal nerve — which connects to the clitoris. The pudendal nerve carries sensation to and from your perineum, reaching your vagina, vulva, and anus, too.

So, in other words, an anal orgasm is like a regular orgasm but creates a much more intense feeling due to all the nerve endings in that area. And many women enjoy that — not to mention lots of men as well!

It’s no secret that when a man penetrates during anal sex, it’s a much tighter entrance so that squeeze can feel unbelievably pleasurable for a man.

That being said, there are indeed men out there who think the idea of anal sex is gross, just like some women do. Not every man is obsessed with anal sex as we may have been led to believe. A lot of them aren’t interested in it at all. Some are curious and willing to try it and then there are those who simply can’t get enough.

All in all, I have discovered that a good amount of women do like anal sex — although it’s still not often discussed. Some of them like to indulge in it as an erotic treat with their partner after a shower, a drink, and some good lubrication while others partake in it much more often than that. And then there are women who say it’s completely off the table — no matter what.

It’s hard to know exactly what kind of ‘taboo’ sex acts people are engaging in behind closed doors but I think, overall, people are a little more open about what they’re up to in the bedroom these days.

The bottom line is really that if you’re not comfortable trying or doing something with your body during sex — don’t do it and don’t be ashamed of that stance. The same goes for being open to experiencing different sex acts. If you like it and you and your partner are on the same page — enjoy it without shame.

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