“Forgiveness” And How Some Christian People Get It All Wrong.
By: Samantha Clarke
Tags: Abuse, Spirituality, Mental Health, Relationships, Christianity

“Forgiveness” Of Violent Criminals Is NOT Required By Victims In Order To Heal Or Obtain Approval From God.

Despite what abusers make you believe through ‘justification’…you owe respect to no one who has harmed you intentionally…no continued contact or ‘forgiveness.’

When it comes to leaving a violent home, one should never apologize or feel guilty or seek forgiveness for doing the right thing. Because you were being manipulated by a person with no regard whatsoever for humanity, and you made a judgment call on premise of empathy and morality, unlike that person whom you left, who has none. In fact, if someone wants to refute this notion using Christianity to reinforce their own false beliefs, this topic is very specifically and heavily addressed in the Bible.

Neither do these violent people deserve forgiveness for sake of absolution nor reconciliation on your part as a victim of violent crime. You did nothing wrong as a human to preserve human life, and when talking about a violent man, we should see that he’s beyond forgiving as an inhuman entity — and that is something we must “let go and let God” handle.

People who have had no experience in dealing with sadistic criminals — who unlike myself and others who have intimately witnessed them and may agree exhibit full characteristics of demonic possession — likely will have difficulty understanding the difference when evaluating the concept of ordinary sin versus the concept of blasphemy by possession.

In this distinction, there exists ordinary sin, which is what many might call “mistakes,” and a soul completely consumed by evil, in which willful, patterned, sinful behavior is deliberate and not at all a “mistake.” And this is a very big issue, as they are simply NOT the same, nor should they be approached in the same way.

When someone chooses to repeatedly dehumanize another human being using violence…It is no longer our place to take upon us the burden’s of another person’s sin. At that point, they have been consumed by evil entirely…and while we may be called or choose to witness to that person, the decision to heal and accept Love is their choice alone, and it is between them and God’s mercy, not another person.

Just as we cannot force another person to change their violent behavior, we are likewise simply not capable of pardoning another person’s sin or forcing them to salvation in Love. And while some religions may proclaim some people are able to assist in said process, at the end of the day we do not own another person’s spirit — and so we also are not the ultimate judge of someone else’s soul.

And further, we know that this pardoning requires true remorse of the sinner and free willingness to seek God genuinely — something that prideful, violent men who are psychopathic criminals simply cannot do. Any attempts to request forgiveness made by these abusers of their victims…is sadly only manipulation to lure and entrap you back into the cycle of violence.

The truth is the majority of these criminals deliberately reject the very nature of Love itself — although their tongues may lie, their actions speak louder than words.

Violent offenders…they should be asking God’s forgiveness, not yours — and if they truly did change, it would be clearly reflected by a change in behavior. Even still, as victims of violence, we should be aware that such drastic changes may still indicate a deceptive tactic attempt to lure victims, and we should always place value on a life of Love over evil and depart from all it represents.

No proclaimed follower of Christ should be encouraging another human being to continue to dwell with pure evil — not only is that is intentionally endangering a person’s life, but it’s going directly against the Love of God.

Yet despite this, we see people who’ve identified themselves as believers attack crime victims and further shame them for doing the right thing — and someone who was a true follower of God would not be doing that at all, rather the opposite.

Unloving, ungodly people turn their backs on victims of violence — they don’t stand up against oppressors perpetrating crimes against many others — they bear no responsibility to humanity — they see other people’s safety, freedom and rights as irrelevant to themselves.

So know if someone has shamed you in this way, condemned or punished you for seeking safety, pursuing peace, choosing Love over violence, speaking truth for justice, and turning your back on evil — they, like the violent ones, are not really who they claim to represent.