Broken Heart — #6 Tips On How To Overcome It
By: Zaidi Mustafa
Tags: Heartbreaking, Heartbreak, Moveon, Improvement, Self Improvement

Photo by Kev Seto on Unsplash

Regardless of what kind of it I think most of us have experienced it beforehand.

If most of us associate heartbroken with love, I want to stretch this topic a bit wider to several different angles.

You might get it from your best friend or your business partner that ignores your proposal or idea although that is the best idea you could come with.

As a teenager, you might have it from your parents that not allow you to to have your first car.

Or perhaps you get it from your family or friends that keep asking you about kids while you’re not able to have one.

In career, you might suffer from a broken heart because you are not qualified for the position that you wish for and people make fun of you.

I had an experience prior where I literally can’t get rid of it and it causing me a chaos life. Wasting time thinking of it while I knew I can’t get it and I have to move forward.

Actually, the way to overcome it is very simple. Most of us know but we don’t want to move on perhaps because of will still have hope or we scared we couldn’t get a better person/ opportunity/ benefit.

Hence, here are a few tips on how to get rid of it.

1. Decide you want to get rid of it

This is the first step you have to do if you want to get rid of it. This is not as easy as it sounds because most people couldn’t even decide to do it. And if you one of them I would like to suggest you bounce from this answer because it’s not going to help you move the needle.

The best way to make sure you are able to do it is to list down everything that associates with that matter. This including both positive and negative consequences once you execute it.

When you have a crystal clear goal it’s going to help you make a very firm decision that you will not regret doing it down the road.

2. Move on

Second thing what you have to do is to leave it. You have made the decision and now don’t ever look back. Don’t give yourself any split second to think about it.

If that matter related to your best friend who has betrayed you beforehand delete anything that can associates to him or her. If it because of love you can do the same as well.

By not giving yourself any chance to think about them it’s going to help you accelerate the process of forgetting them.

Bear in mind this isn’t a test. You can’t think that you will be okay with it. You can overcome it although you still have access to them. That’s not going to happen. Delete everything.

Maybe it sounds a bit straight but that is the thing that you have to make used if you really want to get it done. I’m not asking you to hate people but just to make sure you can move on.

3. Move out

Another thing that could help you tremendously is moving out of the old place where you got your heartbroken. This going to help you to have a new environment and be surrounded by new people.

You could get everything new and it’s going to help you leave your past far away from you.

4. Look it from out of the box

You sink with the problem deep down because you are not able to see it from another angle. You can’t get out of the box and see the whole box from outside like other people see it.

You have to be neutral to look at it from a different angle. That is why you have to look from out of the box.

You certainly could get some different ideas and opinions if you ask someone else. This is because that person is not looking that matter from the same angle as you because he or she is looking from outside of the box.

You tend to make the same decision because was influenced by being in the box. You kind of go into the circle and can’t get out from your problem.

5. Get busy

Next step is to immerse your self with work or any activity that could make you busy. Go play sport, work your ass off for your career, meet your family often, spend time with friends or go for a vacation.

When you get busy you don’t have time to think about the past (sometimes don’t even have time to eat)

Make a commitment with others is one of the ways to compel your self to get busy. For instance, commit with your friend or business partner with a new project.

So you can’t take it for granted because you have to show up otherwise you are going to make people disappointed with you. This going to lead you to get busy.

7. Think positive

This is actually one of the ways on how to attract positive vibes to come you. If you have heard about RAS before you might want to keep positive thinking in your mind always.

RAS stands for Reticular Activating System. To make it simple its help you to attract whatever you want in your life or literally anything to come to you only by thinking of it.

You might have experienced prior when you thinking on something that thing keep on showing up.

For instance, if you want to buy a new car, then the car keeps on pop up on your Facebook newsfeed, on the blog you read, it also appeared once you flip a newspaper (I don’t know if you still read a newspaper), etc.

Most of us might think that is coincident. But that isn’t the case. That is what we call RAS. Anything you keep on thinking will come to you because it’s kind of has a magnet that attracts the thing that you want.

That is why you have to think positive. You are not getting what you want? Maybe you immerse your self with the negative thought?