4 Things No One Wants to See on Your Online Dating Profile
By: Renata Gomes
Tags: Self Improvement, Life Lessons, Relationships, Self, Love

4 Things No One Wants to See on Your Online Dating Profile

These don’t look good on anyone.

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Online dating is easier than most people think — if only you pay enough attention to the details.

If you’re not attracting the kinds of matches you want, it might be because you’re making a few basic profile mistakes. While what each person seeks when it comes to dating varies, there are a few things that don’t look good on anyone’s profile, regardless of who they are:

Too many group pictures

Some people do like to see one or two group pictures on a potential match’s profile because it implies they’re not a loner. They have friends, hobbies, and hopefully, a full life despite the fact that they’re single.

But you should limit your group pictures to one or two, and always make sure you have enough solo pics so your potential match knows who you are.

Your potential match doesn’t want to play “who’s Waldo?” with your profile pictures. They want to know who you are, and they especially don’t want to notice how many good-looking friends you have.

If you have spectacularly good-looking friends, make sure posting a picture with them won’t make you look like a consolation prize. You don’t want your potential match wondering if you can introduce him or her to your friends.

Be careful with pictures with friends of the opposite sex as well. No girl wants to look at you next to a dashing woman and wonder if she’s your ex-girlfriend or your sister. No guy wants to look at a picture of you and a handsome man and wonder if he even compares.

Bottom line: avoid guessing games and comparisons.

Too many pictures of you wearing sunglasses

I’m sure you look hot in sunglasses (most people do), but a potential match is interested in seeing your face.

More experienced online daters will avoid matching with you unless they can see your face. If all you post are pictures wearing sunglasses, or something else that covers your face, you’re unlikely to attract a lot of matches in the first place, or you’ll attract someone inexperienced who doesn’t even know what they want.

If you have a killer photo wearing sunglasses, use it, but make sure there’s a picture of your face available as well.

Negativity

Some online dating profiles read like this:

Absolutely no hookups!

If you’re no going to say hi, why match?

Not looking for casual sex, don’t insist.

If you voted for X or Y, don’t even match.

What these sentences all have in common is the negative energy they promote. They hint of someone who’s been through a lot and is hurt more than they are hopeful. That’s no good way to approach dating. Anything that hints of resentment is not a great idea for an online dating profile.

Negativity doesn’t attract great things, so avoid it at all costs.

Demands

The most fun, well-rounded people out there are not looking to overcome a long list of demands just to get a chance to meet you.

Demands on a dating profile look like this:

If you’re not up for commitment, don’t match.

If you match, say hi.

If you’re not going to answer my messages, why match?

I don’t do casual, no hookups, serious people only.

Don’t be flaky with me.

And so on.

Demanding things right from the beginning, before you’ve even matched with anyone scares more people away than attracts. If you’d like to attract someone lighthearted and fun, don’t be negative and demanding.

What to do instead

Make sure your profile ticks a few boxes:

Enough recent pictures of your face (make sure you have a couple of pictures taken within the last six months, and that your oldest picture isn’t more than one year old.)

Enough information about your passions and hobbies, through pictures or on your bio. Add a picture of your pet, if you have one. Mention what you like to do for fun.

Give people enough information for them to relate to positively. No one wants to come across a dating profile that reads “no hookups” over a dating profile that reads “I’m an Aerosmith fan and know the lyrics to all of their songs.” You’d want to give people reasons to look at your profile and say, “cool, me too.” Not, “that sounds like a lot of work. Pass.”

When in doubt, focus on being positive so that you attract mostly positive people.

Good luck with your search, and don’t forget to lighten up and have fun while you’re at it.