Amal’s Tokay: Reflecting What I Perceived
By: Sabeera Butt
Tags: Amaltotkay, Self Confidence, Action, Dreams, Purpose Of Life

“Follow your passion, be prepared to work hard and sacrifice, and above all don’t let anybody limit your dreams.”

Desire in my opinion is a feeling to have something or wanting something to happen. Having that thing or making that thing happen is not in our control. Being humans this word desire is imprinted in our brains. More or less it never ends. And somehow it’s what that keeps the spark called life alive. There are two kinds of people.

Some take desires as their dreams and continue to purue them for the rest of their lives. Learning from every opportunity coming their way. They are the people with growth mindset. The remaining few just wait for their desires to fulfill and once fulfilled think of a new one. Putting all their efforts focusing on a single thing having a fixed mindset.

People who convert desires to their dreams and passion, strive for them, and sacrifice for them are the ones with a purpose. Purpose of living.

Being living is not an achievement but knowing the purpose of living is. Wanting something, making it your passion, taking it as your dream, knowing the ‘why’ , and making a start are the things which reflect your mindset. It’s a growth mindset which leads you towards your dreams and makes you do whatever you can for your passion.

When I took a step towards my dreams joining Amal Fellowship was one of the best decisions.

Amal has gifted me five Totkay to start the journey from fixed mindset to growth mindset.

1. Self talk

Knowing and being able to talk with yourself is the first step towards a growth mindset. Chewing over your dreams and motivating yourself is the best and first thing you need to do. Nobody can inspire you unless or until you want to. You need to talk with yourself, make it very clear what do you want, why do you want, and what you can do to achieve that. That’s what Amal had taught us very first day Know yourself.

2. Moving out of comfort zone

I’ve always agreed on the fact that success only comes at the cost of something. And that first something is giving up your comforts i.e. moving out of your comfort zone. We never learn or gain something when keep sticking to a place we find comfort in. Dreams demand action and action comes by taking a step. Standing still will never do magic. You’ll have to do start from somewhere.

3. Create new habits

Opting for habits that makes you learn something new everyday is another vital step towards growth mindset. Changing the path that leads you nowhere is necessary for growth. Exposing yourself to change, new challenges and getting the most of it is hard but not impossible.

4. Ask for help

A walk towards your passion and dreams brings a lot of obstacles and failures. Wise are those who don’t quit instead gain lessons from failures. During your journey you often need someone to hold your hand and help you go an extra mile and there is nothing wrong in taking help. It’s not something to feel ashmaed for infact it shows your confidence and strength. Asking for help is not easy but once you ask it makes things easy.

Remember Ak or ak gyara!

5. Fake it till you make it

Nothing is worth having when comes easy. Good things take efforts and time but that does not mean that we stop trying. Keeping the spirits high and your passion alive is the key to success.

There is saying

“Fake it till you make it” which mainly means to be confident and optimistic towards your goals. Confident and sure about the reality of your dreams.

My favorites among them all are

Moving out of your comfort zone

Change the habits

These two covers the most that are essential for a growth mindset. Strength to take smaller steps towards new challenges and experiences. Inspiring us to learn new things and making a best version out of ourselves.

I’ve personally started following all these totkay gifted by Amal. In my journey towards achieving my goal I am moving out of my comfort zone and striving hard to go an extra mile and don’t miss an opportunity to adapt new skills.

From today till every coming day, saying yes to every challenge and grabbing the opportunities for gaining a growth mindset is what that will help us pursue happyness.

Let yourself be silently drawn by the strange pull of what you really love. It’ll not lead you astray.

~Rumi