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Love selflessly like a Dog or Die with lots of expectations like a Human!
By: Vivek Kumar
Tags: Self-awareness, Love Yourself, Dogs, Human Behavior, Life Lessons

It wasn’t until quite recently that I was scared of ‘Dogs’. I am glad that I feel no more ‘scared’.

It wasn’t until quite recent times that I had lots of ‘expectations’ from family, relatives, friends and well wishers. I am glad that I have ‘freed’ myself from a lot of them.

I am not sure that how it would shape up my life or future. I am glad that I would have no ‘regrets’ as my life would be all about ‘my choices’.

I often see people making complaints about others, blaming them for their failures and yet doing things which they shouldn’t be. I am glad that I don’t do these any more!

If you love anyone and they expect everything but ‘love’ in return, Is it really ‘LOVE’. I am glad that either love selflessly or I don’t love at all.

Most people fail to make choices even about the simplest of things and they ‘regret’ once they actually did. I am glad that i stick to my choices and live by that.

Interestingly, Humans always find themselves in situations where they aren’t able to make ‘choices’ and yet ‘expect’ things to get better or ‘reciprocated’ for what they do for others. I am glad that i don’t ‘expect’ any ‘reciprocations’

Oh! That’s the reason I love ‘Dogs’ more than ‘Humans’ as they are ‘selfless’ and I can be ‘selfless’ too when I am around them. I am glad that I have allowed to ‘love’ to flourish and not the ‘expectations’.

So would you like to love selflessly like a Dog or Die with lots of expectations like a Human!
So why is it that I think I am “awake” ?
By: Hypnagogic Matt
Tags: Thoughts, Inspiration, Love Yourself, Wake Up, Deep

So why is it that I think I am “awake” ?

Could it be the way I think? That I believe that I am different to normal people, that I even categorize myself as something other than “people” ?

Yes yes but why?

You see… people in this world limit themselves. They spend far too much time in their heads and not enough time in the real world.

Today’s society is not an easy one and we’re constantly mislead to believe we’re incapable of greatness. The truth is, you are capable of whatever you believe you are capable of. A friend of mine once told me, “whether you believe you can or can’t, you’re right” and that really stuck with me.

You see this is more than a simple quote as it has real truth behind it, something called the placebo effect. And when you allow this placebo to take place for this situation, it causes a snowball and before you know it you amaze yourself with your unseen capabilities. You prove to yourself that you can do what you previously believed you couldn’t and therefore gain confidence and experience which allows you to take on the next task. And when you prove to yourself you can do that, magic happens.

Too many times I’ve heard the words “ah that’s life” “oh yeah shit happens it’s just life” and so on and I’m absolutely sick of it. Yes life bring shitty situations, yes sometimes it can have detrimental effects on your plans.

But no… there are no bad days, only bad moments that you allow to control your days.

That’s not just how life works, that’s your lack of determination and incorrect mindset.

Don’t fall for the nasty words, the negative influences, the pathetic sad pattern all humans follow.

Break free from the system, be the you you’ve always dreamed of being

2020 is the start of a brand new decade and if you commit and believe without any doubts, is is going to be *Your* decade!

Wake up.
Why do we want to become beautiful.?
Tags: Love Yourself, Lifestyle, Beauty Tips, Beauty, Beauty Is Power

People want to look beautiful so that they can get more attention everywhere.The beauty industry is expanding day by day.It would not be wrong to say that, everyone wants to be so beautiful, anyone who sees just pays attention to.

https://www.statista.com/statistics/813600/global-beauty-market-cagr-by-category/

This is a natural and positive desire. But the excess of everything is bad.I’m not against make-up, but often after having my chemo, I have to hide my dark circles with make-up for some hours. But I want to talk about your everlasting beauty,when you are 70 years old and you have wrinkles on your face, then no choice but to look at them. Will that make you beautiful and attractive..?

How can you always look beautiful??

Each person is as deep as the ocean, and on its surface are planted training seeds that highlight the beauty and ugliness of its face. So beauty comes from the inside of your face, it depends on your company and the environment.

If you are engaged with positive people and activities, no negativity will come near you. People will love your company invariably and you will get attention from everywhere because positive people always have solutions to their problems. You will always be a beauty in people’s lives and this happiness will always make your personality attractive.So you don’t have to put a lot of powder on your face because you will always look Charming even at 80 years old.
To be beautiful means to be yourself!
By: Rajeshwari C
Tags: Love Yourself, Self Care, Mental Health, Self Love

We are art. We are the sky. We are perfectly imperfect.

Mental health and self-love have always put me in introspection. What does “to love yourself” mean? Some time ago, a part of me was broken and that had shaken my grounds. But, I believe that everything happens for a reason. From then, I started evaluating myself and tried to look inward. I realized that, unconsciously or consciously we only try to impress others. In this process of acting and faking around, we tend to forget our originality. “Anything, good or bad that makes us forget about our own individuality or makes us immensely self- indulgent is toxic.”

The society in which we live is instrumental for us to believe that, “We are not enough.” Body shaming and tagging people on the basis of their looks exists right from school. We idealize particular body types. Knowingly or unknowingly, we tend to make fun of a person’s mental health, abilities and physical appearance. All of these contribute layer by layer to become a hard shell of toxicity.

I was vulnerable when I came across self-love. It started with acknowledging my fears and weaknesses. I started believing that, “I am complete!” I started accepting myself! When I started embracing my imperfections, I refrained from living for others and the beautiful journey with myself began! I asked myself, “I am my home and always will be. What’s the use if I don’t feel like home with my own self?” We divert our energy towards the outer world and try to fit in somewhere.

I ate amazing food, watched movies, went to different places, spent time with people and all of that didn’t make me feel good in any way! All that is just a way to deviate the mind from the damage for a short time! I accepted that being alone is fine. Some battles have to be fought alone and that makes a person stronger. For one to shed off negativity and get inclined towards one’s emotions, actions, thoughts and spending time with one’s own self is the real self-love.

I started speaking kind and brave words to myself. We usually talk good to the people and not to ourselves. I developed a strong conviction that, “I’ve to be kind towards myself.” I told myself a hundred times that, “Instead of fighting with the world, I should fight with myself.”

Speak to yourself, pen down things, dance, embrace your flaws, look after yourself like a mother does, be your own friend, meditate and be proud of yourself. No cosmetic is needed to make you beautiful because you already are! Do all that you love to do! Evaluate and know yourself on a daily basis. Be brave and self- sacrificing without losing yourself .The world is beautiful and always will be! Explore and enjoy all the shades of the nature.

“When life puts you through darkness, do not forget to love yourself a bit harder.”
Radiating Forgiveness
By: Sneha Garg
Tags: Forgiveness, Love Yourself, Writing, Monday Motivation, Love

Do you think what is happening to you right now, is not fair? Your present life is only a reflection of your past actions, thoughts, words and emotions; so do not call it unfair.

What is unfair is what we did with the Son of God and yet he prayed,

“Father, forgive them for they do not know what they are doing”-Luke 23:34

So forgive yourself and forgive everyone, as your younger self did not know any better back then; but use your intelligent mind, loving heart and a virtuous spirit to make better choices today to create a phenomenal tomorrow.

Rejoice that the Lords of Karma consider you important enough to give you a chance to rectify your mistakes. They are oh so lovingly teaching you the lessons of life and fast forwarding your soul evolution. We might not be able to recognise it right now, but we are doing absolutely magnificent with God than without him on our path.

Seize every opportunity life presents you with to share the kindness in your heart, soul and mind. Give your best to everyone life puts in your path, regardless of their ability to give anything back and see how angels shower their blessings and God opens doors where there is no way out.

Stop living small and start radiating the unimaginable light of your true being, your pure soul.
How to Maintain Healthy Lifestyle
By: Priyanka Sharma
Tags: Healthcare, Love Yourself, Fit, Health, Healthy Lifestyle

Health is Important

Did you go out for walk today?

Let me Guess, Nope! Being busy with Schedule, you must not have find the enough time.

Determination is the primary factor to have healthy lifestyle. We don’t prioritize our Mental and Physical health both. Instead, We are so occupied with professional commitment nowadays that we overlook ourselves. This could be threatening for our future and could give incurable damage for long term.

So Guys.. It’s better to invest few minutes today to prolong our healthy existence. Lets Get started:

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Early to Bed and Early to Rise: It’s the perfect mantra to get your body function in a disciplined manner and get it more organized.

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Meditation Magic: Meditation would boosts our brain to cope up with the very hectic schedule and would keep it focused, fresh and energize throughout the day.

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Yoga is Blessing: To empower and strengthen our body, this is the very ancient technique and blessing from our ancestors. It will keep Mind, Body and Soul happy altogether.

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Morning Walk is Mandatory: Intake fresh air and enjoy soothing breeze would relax your Mind and would empower the inner metabolism of your body.

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Physical Exercise: Why should we lag behind in physical shape. Your Physique gives the first impression out there. So, stretch out your muscles and show hit Gym at least thrice a week.

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Creative Mind is Healthy Mind: Our mind also needs to feed with the food of it’s choice. So, follow any of your passion/ Interest to keep it creative.

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Healthy Eating: Obviously, Diet plays the critical role in our health. Healthy Mind resides in healthy body only and healthy body comes from healthy food.

These are very minute things, which I am sure everyone knows but not able to follow. Lets, challenge our selves to accomplish a Healthy Mind, Healthy Body and Healthy Soul and be an inspiration to others.

Lets Make this world a Healthier World to live in.

PS: I am also starting from Today!!
Hashtag Blessed
By: Julia Lucidi
Tags: Moving Abroad, Travel, Love Yourself, Gratitude, Munich

Hashtag Blessed

I just landed in Amsterdam. The weekend in Munich was cold, but full of love and beer. As it always is.

It’s been three years since I first stepped foot in Germany. Some people ask me why I decided for Munich and even though it was a completely random decision, it was hands down the best choice I could’ve made.

Since then, I visited over 20 countries and made friends with people from over 15 nationalities. Learned how to deal with solitude, learned how to keep in touch with old friends and kinda learned two new languages (very kinda!).

Every time I go to Munich I am flooded with this sense of gratefulness. I am so thankful for everything that has happened in my life because I moved to that beautiful city. I am reminded of how far I’ve come and how far I can still go. I take a moment to appreciate how much I am loved by the people who were a part of my everyday life but now I only see twice a year. I get impressed with how much I can love in such completely different ways.

I feel powerful. As if I could conquer the world, one city at a time, with lovely people from different backgrounds supporting my conquests.

I am grateful for the opportunities I had, for the adventures I lived, for the challenges I’ve overcame.

Thank you Munich, being with you is always the best reminder of my blessings.
No Ordinary Person Is Really Ordinary!! Everyone Has a Purpose In the Puzzle of Life!!
By: Tapiwa Zuze
Tags: Respect, Love Letters, Love Yourself, Self Esteem, Love

No Ordinary Person Is Really Ordinary!! Everyone Has a Purpose In the Puzzle of Life!! Tapiwa Zuze Aug 23·2 min read

No Ordinary Person Is Really Ordinary!! Everyone Has a Purpose In the Puzzle of Life!!

Champagne is expensive, but it does not quench thirst like ‘ordinary’ water.

That thing called ‘ordinary’ does not mean it is not valuable.

Water might be ‘ordinary’, but without it there is no life.

Value ordinary people. They can just save your life.

Don’t be too proud to respond when your gateman greets you.

Don’t be too proud to adjust when that junior staffer calls your attention to issues.

Don’t be too proud to listen to the advice of your followers because some of them are even better leaders; only that you are privileged compared to them.

Don’t be too proud to listen to your subordinates as a leader because you don’t know it all.

Remember it was a house girl that told Naaman how to cure his leprosy.

If you treat the ordinary people in your life like garbage, you may die with your ailments.

Low-class people are not necessarily low life people.

Read more at https://www.tapiwazuze.com/2021/08/no-ordinary-person-is-really-ordinary.html

Who says you are better than those ordinary people?

Those ordinary people were made by God, and God deposited certain strengths and weaknesses in them.

Don’t allow your pride to destroy you, call that ordinary people, he or she is ready to help you.

Wisdom is profitable to direct and when we do things together, we do it better.

Adopted and edited by:

Tapiwa Zuze

Read more at https://www.tapiwazuze.com/2021/08/no-ordinary-person-is-really-ordinary.html
Sunrises = New beginnings…❤. Turning 24 years old in 17 days and it…
By: Julissa Jimenez
Tags: Love Yourself, Transformation, Self Love

Turning 24 years old in 17 days and it made me think back on what I’ve learned, every situation I overcame, beautiful memories and not so beautiful ones, everything that has made me who I am today and everything that has made me want to change and become a better woman, human being, soul everyday that i know i am capable of evolving into.



This thought on this post is my reminder and yours that you are capable, resilient, and worthy each morning of creating the life you desire and of loving yourself, talking to yourself with love regardless of hardships or changes in life. It’s so easy to give up and believe the bs your subconscious thoughts wants you to believe. All that is doing is blocking your light. Your ability to move forward, to have confidence in everything you do, and most importantly, your ability to truly love your inner self.

This journey is not easy, but even better. Challenges are what keeps me going. Because it’s a constant reminder that I CAN do it. I CAN if i believe i can. So, I know it will be constant work but if i worked for others throughout my life, why not work on what’s most important to me: myself? Although it doesn’t pay me in cash, it does pay me in quality of life & of mind. Now is my time to continue to work on myself and for myself.

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Reminder: Be patient with yourself through this beautiful evolving journey.

Wish everyone a loving Sunday and remember, even if you’re super close on giving up, remember your motivations in life, and remember why you made it this far. We are all warriors.

Being grateful is essential to this part of the journey.

Grateful for my struggles and my successes.

They taught me to keep moving forward no matter what.

Feeding my mind love because i choose to.

What’s stopping you from feeding yours with ❤ ?
5 Beneficial ways to Deal with conflict in a relationship:
By: Raju Kumar Singh
Tags: Relationship Building, Dating Advice, Love Yourself, Breakup Problem Solution, Life

5 Beneficial ways to Deal with conflict in a relationship:

Do you at any point feel like your accomplice misconstrues you? Do you feel unheard in your relationship?

You may consider how fantastic it felt toward the start of your relationship. Didn’t it begin since you and your accomplice lifted each other up to come nearer together?

Why, when you contend, does it seem like you’re miles separated?

Truly struggle in our connections is unavoidable. Indeed, even the most joyful couples have conflicts. What recognizes effective connections from the rest is the means by which accomplices in the relationship approach conflicts.

Keep away from these undesirable things during a conflict.

1-Scorn. Scorn is perilous in light of the fact that it appears as remarks that cause one accomplice to appear to be better than the other.

2-Preventive Ness. Protectiveness shows up when the cautious accomplice rationalizes or diverts fault as opposed to assuming liability.

3-Stalling. Stalling shows up when an accomplice totally closes down and assembles a divider as opposed to going up against the issue.

4-Childishness. Now and again we get so centered around our own requirements that we ignore the significance of recognizing our accomplice’s necessities and wants.

The manner in which you settle every conflict can rescue your relationship.

Here are solid approaches to manage a conflict:

Tune in with compassion. During a conflict, tune in fully intent on understanding your accomplice’s perspective. Be open as you pay attention to why your accomplice feels the manner in which they do.

Try not to get protective.

Keep the discussion quiet and conscious.

Comprehend the foundation of your accomplice’s perspective.

Express appreciation. Conflicts can prompt a strained climate where both you and your accomplice’s gatekeepers are up and alert. After your accomplice imparts their experience to you, express appreciation.

“I like that you imparted that to me.”

“I understand that may have been hard for you to share. Much thanks to you for confiding in me with that.”

Be interested. At the point when you approach a conflict with interest, you are opening yourself to discover some new information about both you and your accomplice. Pose inquiries.

Be interested about your accomplice’s viewpoint and what triggers may have come up paving the way to or during the contention.
Things to remember
Tags: Love Yourself, Mental Health, Self Love

Remember that you already did more than enough and beyond good, the problem is in him, he need to fix himself and it’s none of your business at all.

Please focus on your self, fir. He cares about you, so do you. He (finally) respect your decision, to take a break. Please remember that taking a break is a form of self love and self respect. How can you find peace in the place that already broken? I believe if you’re happy than everything good will follow into your life

Please do not think that you’re alone and pathetic because it isn’t. You’re surrounded by people who love and support you. Grateful that they here. You can always reach them anytime you need help.

No, you don’t lose each other. Don’t be so cynical about life, remember you actually find yourself alongaway the process. I know it might be hard but you’ll get over it like you always have :)

Please see it right here, in a new prespective! You’re mind is amazing, you have a sharp feeling and great at critical thinking! Would be nice if you practice it more on positive thoughts :)

Please think more on yourself for now, take a rest if necessary. Eat something healthy, it will helps to build healthy habit too! Also, please talk to someone if you feel overwhelmed.

p.s. you’re thinking so much so it would be nice to share you’re precious thought to anyone :)
Heal the World with Love: A Channeled Message from Jeshua
By: Maria Pax
Tags: Love Yourself, Metaphysics, Esoteric, Consciousness, Channeling

Maria: Choosing trust and love in infinite source feels like truth and freedom but doubt seems to be the unrequited lover that won’t leave. The soul self knows it’s time to let it go but the smaller self doesn’t seem to want to let it go.

Jeshua: She doesn’t have to — love will do that for her. She need do nothing. Allow the love in and all else will dissolve and fade. Love, love, love — that is all there is. Love the resistance. Love the hate. Love the doubt. Love the fear. Love the love. Love the small. Love the big. Love the too big and the too small. Love the pain until pain no longer feels necessary. Love it all. There is no greater truth or medicine than this.

When you love the hate, you do so with the love of the infinite, not the ego mind. Love the ego mind, too, but know it has limitations. Love from a place far more expansive than the human mind can presently comprehend. Love from the mind of God, with the ears, eyes, mouth, and hands of God. Love from this place and you will know the truth of love that “heals all things, embraces all things, trusts all things, transcends and transforms all things.”

I come to share again with you the greatest prophecy and teaching of all: “Love your neighbor as yourself.” If you do not love your neighbor/coworker/fellow human, let this be a sign where you are not loving yourself. “This is hard” you say, “of course I love myself. It is him that has the problem and doesn’t know how to be kind and considerate.” But, dear one, how can you be more compassionate of the suffering that causes him to act in such a manner? Can’t you think of a time when you have not been considerate of others? Even in those moments, you are worthy of love and forgiveness. So, why not your neighbor as well? When you love your neighbor as yourself AND yourself as much as your neighbor, you create massive ripples your human eyes cannot yet see. You create a world that no longer needs fences and encryption measures. Does this sound far-fetched to you? Man once thought the notion of flying was laughable yet here you are flying from one place to the next as if it has always been this way. You cannot begin to imagine how glorious life will be when love without expectations or borders is fully manifest in the world you see.

In truth, and it has been said many times over, the world you see is a reflection of the world within. Begin to love yourself without limit or judgment. Practice every day, for this is the most worthy practice of all. Practice loving others without the limitation of judgment and soon your world will no longer feel the need for walls, fences, boundaries, or firewalls. Set your intention to love with the heart of All That Is pure and divine and your world will, in fact, change. Trust this. Practice this. Believe this will every fiber of your being and you, yourself, will be transformed.

You, dear one, are love. You have always been love and will always be love. And so it is.
25 things I learnt as a 25yo 🌸
By: Manjari Shreya
Tags: Motivation, Love Yourself, Self Help, Believe In Yourself, Self Love

25 things I learnt as a 25yo 🌸

As I turned 26 this year, here are the things I learnt and accepted as a part of growing into a 26yo.

1. Believe in yourself, no matter what

2. Do it because someone knows you will be able to do it

3. Everything’s achievable through practice, persistence and determination

4. Financial freedom is everything

5. Relationships are important and not everyone’s a friend

6. Be around people who are kind to others even when they don’t need them

7. Be the person from point 6 to someone

8. You will never be the same and that’s OKAY

9. Feeling lonely even in a room full of people who love you is NORMAL

10. Value everything. Big or small

11. Even if you hate it, if it’s helping you grow... DO IT

12. Cook for yourself and do it with love

13. You are enough. Keep working on yourself EVERY SINGLE DAY!

14. People who have been with you will leave you and you cannot hold onto that forever

15. Forgive people but never forget the lesson

16. Change is inevitable

17. Your health is more important than you realise right now. Take care of yourself

18. Become a go-getter, life sorts itself once you have the attitude to face it

19. Practice some art form. Dancing, drawing, anything!

20. Give yourself 20 minutes everyday

21. People from different walks of life know a different you and it’s NOT your responsibility to change how they see you

22. Develop perspectives

23. Have a heart. Be empathetic

24. Don’t fake it till you make it. Keep it real

25. Make your head the best place to be in because that’s where you are all the time!

Growth is inevitable and while there’s an ocean of emotions, realisations and ambitious hitting me now, I’m sure there’s more to life than just a 8–5 job and the thirst to be someone my weave can be proud of.
Acceptance
By: Dishti Puthran
Tags: Love Yourself, Pcos, Self Acceptance, Being Fat, Self Love

Acceptance

Acceptance is such a strong word. I don’t even remember what it feels like to look at a picture of me and feel like I’m beautiful,like the picture is perfect…

Always being on the heavier side, I can’t seem to think of a time I was honestly happy in my own skin. As a child, I remember being told that don’t worry “this is just baby fat. It will go away”. I vaguely remember wondering if there was anything wrong with the way I looked. Up until then I was perfectly content with how I looked. Always having my parents and everyone around me keep reminding me of my weight. I almost hated my grandmother cause she showed me new exercises to reduce my belly.

As I started growing up, a few heart breaks had me wanna get my revenge-body and I got it. Only that I didn’t know I had it. I still saw myself “fat". Now as I look at those pictures 10 years later,what would I not give just to get that body back. I could trade anything to just tell that girl to be happy,smile a little more,bunk a few more college lectures, have a little more fun, make a few more boyfriends, shop a little more,wear those beautiful dresses…

Today as I stand at a 100 kgs, not in control of my weight due to pcos, having the most loving husband,living away from family in the UAE,I wear a bathing suit without much embarrassment. I realised that the way I felt about myself was a strong refection of what others thought about me. Now,jusy as my husband loves me no matter what,I try to love myself each day, accepting myself one step at time.
10 Adorable Relationship Goals For EVERY Couple… Illustrated!
By: Natasha Singh
Tags: Love And Sex, Love Letters, Love Yourself, Love, Lovestory

It isn’t easy to describe the feeling of being loved in words… But it can surely be described with some adorable illustrations. An illustrator from South Korea, Puuung, came up with these super cute illustrations that sum up the feeling of being in love perfectly. These love illustrations by Puuung are relatable on so many levels and you’ve got to share these with your guy. *Heart*

1. When all you want to do is curl up in a blanket so he can hug you to keep you warm!

Image: Puuung on Instagram

2. When he pulls your nose and tells you how cute you are…

Image: Puuung on Instagram

3. When you just can’t hold yourself back from kissing him…even when he’s busy.

Image: Puuung on Instagram

4. Because every short one needs a tall one…

Image: Puuung on Instagram

5. When hugging him makes everything all right!

Image: Puuung on Instagram

6. One of those romantic kisses…

Image: Puuung on Instagram

7. When you watch Netflix together on a lazy Sunday…

Image: Puuung on Instagram

8. When he takes care of you and makes you hot chocolate!

Image: Puuung on Instagram

9. When all you want to do is hug him as tightly as you can!

Image: Puuung on Instagram

10. Kissing under the stars… Best feeling EVER!

https://www.popxo.com/trending/love-illustrations-by-puuung-161250/
Am I a Bully ?
By: Aakash Chandar
Tags: Moral Responsibility, Love Yourself, Bullying, Psychology, Self Improvement

Everyone knows what bullying is or what bullies do to people. In fact, many of us might have experienced this from either the victim’s or the bully’s point of view. And, I am confident that any person in his/her right mind, would stand against this immature act. But, have you ever imposed this question to your conscience,

Have I ever been a bully in my life ?

I believe if we could re frame the sentence, it might make more sense.

Do I even know who is a bully ?

People don’t become bullies all of a sudden and not all people become one. My personal opinion is that, these are people who try to conceal their weakness in such a way that they exploit other’s feelings and bring their fears come true. They dwell on the opponent’s fear and this makes poor sods vulnerable to whatever things they say. According to my theory, only a portion of people who explicitly call themselves bullies fall under this category and the rest include the common people. The ones who are unaware of the consequences that arise from their actions. In fact, most of them don’t even act according to their will, rather become preys of the situation.

Let’s say you start fighting a bunch of random people on the street, only few people fight back and most of them would not and rather prefer flight instead. This is a common link that all the members of the animal kingdom share which is even responsible for our survival, FEAR. Also, most people have the tendency to stay in groups for survival. The same goes with people who belong to a gang or pack. If the Alpha in the group wants to do something, the other people are obliged to do it even if they don’t want to. They prefer not to piss off the lead in the group because if they do, then they will also end up like the others. If you cannot find the freedom to express your feelings in a group, it’s better to step out and fight for what you feel is right.

From making jokes based on appearance till mimicking a person’s behavioral traits, everything that corners a person physically and emotionally is wrong. Similarly, no such act should be encouraged for the greater good. A voice should be raised, if the victim requires support.

Not all are perfect. Everyone is unique in their own way. Imperfections are what defines us from one another. No matter what, embrace the type of person you are and your weakness.

Wear it like an armor so that no one could use it against you.

And always remember to stay true to your conscience because that will help you spread love than hate, and stop labeling people based on their differences. Next time if you come across such things, make sure you man up and do the right thing.

Live.Laugh.Love

Originally published at amateurblogger121.blogspot.com.
I have asked this question to myself a lot of times that how should I react to someone who is being…
By: Kangan Sharma
Tags: Negative Thoughts, Positive Thinking, Love Yourself, Be Your Own Boss, Positive Vibes

How to deal with negative people?

I have asked this question to myself a lot of times that how should I react to someone who is being rude to me or who is always being negative no matter what the situation is. I am sure a lot of you have also thought about this at least once because we all meet a lot of people daily and some of them carry negative energy or vibes with them which not only affects their happiness but also affects our vibes. Mostly teenagers had to face this a lot of times as teenage is the age when we meet a lot of new people and most of them are the temporary ones and in that phase of our life we need to learn how to deal with negative people as well.

Here are some of my tips to deal with negative people which I wish I knew before.

1. BE KIND TO THEM

I know this may seem difficult to be kind to people who are being rude to you. But trust me this is the best way to deal with them and this will actually help. Being kind and not being rude to them in return will save your energy because arguing with them will only affect your own inner peace.

2. NEVER TRY TO CHANGE ANYONE

You cannot change a person’s perspective and way of thinking so just don’t try to change others. Unless the person is so close to you or so important to you, don’t try to change someone’s perspective because at the end of the day only you will get disappointed. So to save your vibe and energy don’t argue or try to change toxic or negative people.

3. STAY AWAY FROM THEM

The best way to be happy and positive is to cut negative people from your life and be around people who motivates you, supports you and makes you happy. Choose your friends and the people you hang out with wisely because according to a study you are an average of 5 people you be with most of the time. So don’t be around people who are rude to you or who always have negative thoughts going on in their minds.
RELATIONSHIP 💕
By: Victor Ette
Tags: Girlfriend, Love Yourself, Boyfriend, Relationship Building, Love

RELATIONSHIP 💕

You can fall in love with anyone, but building a relationship takes absolutely more than what attracted you to them. It takes more than love.

Many folks are fond of loving when it's convenient, when it's sweet, when love is there but that can only last for just the first 3-6 months of the relationship. After then, you'll realise that the feelings have dropped, it'll now be your responsibility to make it work, not love responsibility.

📌Listen, Relationships cannot be readymade. You have to build it and it's never always about love alone.. it requires commitment, intelligence and determination even in marriage.

Everyone falls, sleep, bend, stand, and sit in love because it takes little or no effort to do that but STAYING IN LOVE AND BUILDING A RELATIONSHIP? only the strong and committed ones do that. That's why

we must find that one person and commit to the person through an intentional discipline of self and also bridling of emotions.

Building a relationship is hard work, it's like

building a career, it's's like pursuing a dream. It's always tough, at some point it will be so bitter but you can make it work by putting your heads together and scale through the trying times by being focused and committed.

The kind of love that attracts two people together is not the kind of love that will keep them together. Be emotionally strong! Be self

disciplined. Sticking to one person is not natural, you must develop yourself to do that.

It works great and perfect with people of like minds, people of the same believes, people that share the same school of thought.

📌Build yourself

📌Be Disciplined

📌Stay Committed and Trust God

It works for the like minds.

Written By Victor Ette
How did I Fall in Love With Myself in 2020?
Tags: Love Yourself, Comfort, Failure Stories, Healing Emotions, Falling In Love

How did I Fall in Love With Myself in 2020? Chandrima Jun 17·3 min read

‘When life gives you lemons, make orange juice and let the world wonder how you did it.’

There are billions of people across the globe. Everyone has a story to tell, to share. Great people had said, ‘life is not a bed of roses, it’s full of thorns.’ Well, they had said the truth. As we grow up, we are under the care and protective shield of our parents. As a teenager, I used to think, ‘my life will be easier once I get out of school.’ But, guess what? I was proven wrong by life itself. I used to think being out of school I never have to again sit and study for exams. But, less I knew my real exams were remaining.

‘How did I fall in love with myself in 2020?’- for this, I had to go a little backward. It was the year 2017, a freshly high-school graduate and also a NEET failure. Despite this setback, I decided to give it another try. I skipped college. Guess what? I failed again. That was the time, I started to think of myself as a failure. I was so disappointed with myself that I was least interested in doing anything. but I can’t just sit at home, I need to at least get a degree. So without any further ambition, I had taken admission in a normal graduate course. My father was so disappointed with me. I had taken Hindi as my major subject. I still remember my father telling his friend that English was my major subject. When I asked him about this, he said, ‘What else do you expect me to tell them?’ I was taken aback. I was shocked. That was the time, I started writing. I used writing to ease my pain.

Starting from 2018, I had written several quotes, articles. Everyone used to encourage me that I should take up writing as my career and I used to tell them a big fat NO. Little did I know, in the back of my mind I wanted to write. I have always believed that ‘words have the power to heal. Writing a quote or an article had always helped me to ease the pain in my darkest times. I believe that my words have the power to comfort one, to inspire one. That is what I wanted to do for the rest of my life.

Image credits: cafemom.com

Honestly, my father still doesn’t support me and I don’t know if I will ever get his support. I had tried a lot of times to make him understand my perspective but I had always received a backlash. Therefore, I had stopped telling him anything. I can’t change his mind. But I still hope, one day will come when he will be proud of me. That’s all I can wish for.

Sometimes. I wonder what if the pandemic hadn’t happened? What if I never had this self-realization? Honestly, now when I look back, I am thankful I failed because I would never be writing this article if I hadn’t.

And that is how I did fall in love with myself in 2020! The year forever etched in my heart as the ‘year of loving myself and believing myself in what I do.’
Date Yourself!
By: Ramya Kethepalli
Tags: Love Yourself, Love, Self Love, Dateyou

Seta, the Curry Saviour-

Seta is a married woman with two kids, who are in their teens. Relishing chicken is the Sunday regime at their home. Since many years, seta never got the opportunity to relish the pieces, as the bowl gets cleaned up by the time she eats. One fine Sunday, after the cooking, seta kept apart of the chicken curry aside, and the rest on the lunch table. Once the kids and husband completed their eating. She brought out the other bowl, which she stored for her and enjoyed it to the fullest. And ate to the content of her heart. Seta felt happy for herself and started doing the same every week.

Round the Clock Manoja-

Manoja is a working woman with a five-year-old son. She competes with time to manage, and balance the personal and professional life. She had to run behind the time, to get the things done for her son and husband, with no breaks in-between. One fine day, her exhaustion reached the saturation, then, she left the baby with her husband, went on a solo trip for a week. She did not regret her decision. She fell in love with herself during the trip and discovered herself. She was boarded with full energy, once she came back.

Yashoda, a life-fighter-

Yashoda raised her two songs, single-handedly after the death of her husband. She had many dreams of being a singer but concentrated on the future of her sons. On a festive day, she got a call from her younger son, asking her to move to his house, to take care of her grandson, as both of them were working. Yashoda smoothly turned up the offer. She later enrolled in music classes to explore her passion for singing.

All the above three stories talk about the importance of self-love.

It is important to love yourself.

A person who can’t love themselves, can’t share their love to anyone else honestly.

Enjoy yourself, adopt a hobby, take a break- both mentally & physically and rediscover the NEW YOU.

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My own bullying story
By: Edeliza Delgado
Tags: Love Yourself, My Life Story, Bullying, Stopbullingnow, Bullying In Schools

first hi im liza 17 yrs old im in grade 12 abm student im new to this up and wanted to share what i experience being bullied i first got bullied when i was in 7th grade i am not a very smart student but i do love to recitation so people hate me for that they said i was a attention seeker maybe but all i want is to have a good grades they started calling me names like zombie, stupid, they criticize my chin and said it was too long it went like that for 3 years every day they call that and their teased me and said i look like black shoe they criticize my skin my family and everything else about me i remember in 8th grade one of my classmate use my badminton rocket bag as a mop he step on it and stating sliding my bag they pull my hair tap me so hard in the back it was so hard but the only thing that i was so insecure is my chin because they keep teasing it everyday every minute and every second i got so tired of it and starting to get stress i dont want to go to school im cry every night cuz i cant tell my mom but when i cant take it anymore i cry everytime they teased my chin i always want to have a break from all of that when my bday was coming i ask my mom if i could buy make up so i could be abit pretty i specifically ask for a contour cuz i heard it can make your face looks smaller but it didnt help i was so depressed at that time cuz im soso tired of them tasing my chin even now my chin is still one of my insecurity before i dont care how i look but since that started i cant accept how my face look i want to die at thattime and always i didnt ask to be born but now i have to deal with all that my friend dont even listen to me they always advice me to just dont mind those bullies but how can you ignore them when they always teased you call you names so i started to gain weight cuz im stress eating it helps but its not good for your health but since i open up to my parents i started to feel better i feel good about myself and love the way i look but the thing that i leard the most is you can always ask for help cuz no man is an island im so thankful to have them its hard to forget those things but atleast i feel abit better now your not alone their is always a person who will fight with you comfort you and make you feel better thank you so much for reading my story im not a writer but i just wanted to share this thank you so much
Happiness is a Choice
By: Mrinalini Sugosh
Tags: Happiness In Life, Love Yourself, Happiness, Self Improvement, Self Love

Too often, people ask me how are you always constantly “happy”?

Well, I did some self-reflection and have realized that happiness is not actually due to external factors but a good chunk of it stems from within.

The happiest people today are not necessarily single or married. They are not always the ones with stable careers or an amazing income. In fact, the happiest people are the ones who have made a choice to love themselves wholly and truly.

They are people who have chosen to leave the past behind. These are people who constantly work on their self-esteem and put a higher price tag on their relationships.

They stopped playing victims. They stopped whining in self-pity and dining in pity parties. They stopped reminiscing all the anger, tears, and bitterness from the past.

To even start to be happy, one must realize that happiness is a personal choice and responsibility. People have to chose to be defined by their present and not their pasts.

They are happy because they don’t need validation from anyone. They are happy because they know that they don’t need to throw shade on anyone for them to shine. They are happy because they choose to be.

Here’s to the Happy Person in everyone!
The Love
By: Ljubica Antić
Tags: Love Yourself, Love

“Love — it doesn’t take a lot. It takes everything!”

So, the Valentine’s is finally over, and we have another full year to wait to tell somebody we love them. Oh wait…something’s doesn’t sound good here…

I really get the overall global hype over Valentines (but still thinks it is just another marketing trick, as Coca Cola’s Santa Clause).

On one side, it is a good thing to have one day a year to celebrate love and passion, in this chaotic daily rhythm we all have. To slow down, and think about the others, how much they mean to us, and see how much we mean to them as well (also important, don’t you agree?).

On the other, having just one day a day to celebrate love? Don’t think so. Love isn’t a one-day-stand. Love is constant, ubiquitous. It is the essence of our being, of our mind, of our energy.

It is created over time, with passion, effort, deeds, kind words, attention…It consumes you whole, your every living cell, every breath you take, every though you think.

Love is freely moving energy that moves us, makes us happy, fulfilled, calm, at peace. It is that one thing that we all respond to, without words.

Love for oneself and for the other. We first need to love ourselves so that we can love the other. As we respond to love, so the other will.

You really don’t need one day a year to show your love. Do it every day. Show it, say it, make it happen. We all our here for a short period of time, so don’t waste it without the love. Learn to use it and grow from it.
3 Ways to Love Yourself on Valentine’s Day
Tags: Inspiration, Love Yourself, Beauty, Gratefulness, Valentines Day

Valentine’s day, many people take advantage of this moment to express their affection for their loved ones, such as their spouses and families.

Besides them, there’s also someone left who needs to be loved. Who is that? Yes, that is yourself.

Why self-love? Mr. Basuki, a specialist in cultural, artistic, and mass media of IMAJI says that “Self-love is really important. To have good mental endurance, we have to start caring for each other, such as our parents, friends, and even ourselves. Care could also be described as love.”

That’s why we have prepared these three tips on how to love yourself:

1. Be grateful for what you have.

In this modern era, where social media are taking over the world, people always compare themselves to other people and forget to appreciate what they had.

So, every time you feel the situation that befell you is the worst, remember, there are people who want to be in your position right now.

Wait for the best thing to happen in the future because God’s plan will always be better than ours.

2. Treat yourself nicely.

You may be loved by anybody, even by yourself. Do the things you like would undoubtedly increase your self-love, such as playing games, go to the salon, or you can do your hobbies with your friends!

Doing those things will surely make you more confident to do anything on your own.

3. Forgive yourself and willing to change.

As a human, we can’t deny that we always make mistakes. Some people even got hit by their own mistakes that they wish never happened in the past.

The things that you can do are to forgive yourself and take your mistake as a lesson for your life in the future.

Loving yourself despite any mistakes you made in the past is always great for your self-worth.

Writer: Rayhan Nathanael Dachy

Editor: Emmanuel Felix

Photo: Glenity Marcella Siauw