That one time I went to a Sex Magic Ritual Event…
By: Elliot Mcmonagle
Tags: LGBTQ, Self Improvement, Wellness, Loneliness, Body Image

I am used to being a part of a team.

My parents would set out ways for each family member to contribute to the household.

Whether that was taking turns doing dishes, setting the table for dinner, lighting candles for when guests came over, grabbing the groceries to bring them into the house, etc, etc.

I played on many sports teams from soccer to basketball to volleyball to tennis to flag football to indoor lacrosse.

You name it, I played it.

The teams create the experience together but it is us up to the individuals to contribute the best they can to the team as a whole.

When I set off for college I was “alone” for the first time in my life and I was feeling lost.

Every person seemed to have their sights set on… alcohol, partying, drugs…

I wanted something different and a place to connect.

Subconsciously, I was desiring a team to work with and be a part of for encouragement and support and love. And to share the load so I didn’t have to do this whole life thing on my own.

That is when I sought out communities to become a part of.

I started with the LGBTQ+ club on campus and it challenged me to feel comfortable in my skin.

Though I didn’t really feel like I could be myself in this space and I struggled with this a lot.

I was so scared to go into this community that the first few times I had my friends and my sister join me.

Joining group dynamics can be really challenging for many people due to social anxiety, fear of rejection or ridicule, fear of the unknown, uncomfortablity, not knowing anyone in the group, on and on.

There is a certain kind of magic that happens when being a part of different group experiences.

It is less about what the group looks like, what the reason for everyone joining, or what you will get out of the experience.

And more about you and how you get to learn more about yourself in ways where you hide yourself around others or project yourself in a way to be liked by others.

In other words learning when you are being truly authentic to yourself and when you are not.

There is a powerful distinction between the two and a lot of journeying that gets to happen to learn about who you are and how you get to live this life that is true and enriching for you.

When I moved to San Diego it was like Freshman year of college all over again and I was on the search for community, friendship, help.

I found many communities that have changed my life forever.

One day I was invited by my friend to join an event called Sex Magic Ritual and she explained very little about the experience but I was open to it as long as I didn’t have to have sex.

She told me there is no sex involved, though taking off clothing to your comfort level is on the table.

I was intrigued and said “hell yes!”

It helped that I had recently gone to the nude beach (for the first time) and with this friend who invited me.

Thanks for hanging with me if you are still reading :) I am going somewhere with this!

In this experience I was surrounded by a group of maybe 20–30 people in a house that I was unfamiliar with.

There were cushions all around to sit on. It was quiet as we came in and the ambiance was calm and peaceful.

As people came into the house and we were getting started it got really hot.

I thought to myself how my friend said clothing was optional… so I decided to take my top off.

Mind you, there are men and women of all ages and demographics.

I was likely the youngest in the group at around 22 years of age and the oldest maybe being 60 years of age.

As the night went on the facilitators had us move around the room at our own pace and then we linked up with someone and shared what was going on in our life.

We listened. Said thank you. And we could hug at the end or shake hands or smile but everything was to our comfort level.

We never did anything we didn’t want to do.

I could go on and on about this experience as it really shed light on areas of myself that I never knew existed and I connected with people in ways where words were never needed in order to have an exchange of love and appreciation for another’s creation.

To this day I am so appreciative of this experience.

The most exciting part is that Taina, the facilitator of the Sex Magic Ritual agreed to guide the Queerly Intentional group this coming Monday at 5pm PST through some of her life changing experiences.

Taina Ixchel, MA, is a pansexual Shamanic and Tantric Educator, Priestess, Facilitator, Coach, and exquisite Latina goddess queen.

She helps people become more powerful and magnetic, create deeper connections with themselves and others so that they can have more fulfilling relationships and lives.

Taina has a Master’s Degree, is a Tantric Counselor, a certified Energetic Relationship Practitioner, Holistic Health and Wellness Coach and Theta Healing Practitioner.

She’s been practicing Tantra for over 10 years since she was initiated into one-on-one esoteric training with a Master who told her it was her destiny to teach this Love.

For over 3 years, she has facilitated monthly Red Tent: Sacred Priestess Circles for womxn to create community and embody the Divine Feminine.

Taina also coaches singles and couples to live freely and fully empowered through Tantric and Shamanic principles and hosts regular workshops in San Diego and virtually.

She is also the Author of the upcoming book “The Lotus Flower: An Origin Story”.

Taina truly embodies pleasure and play as a path to healing, freedom and living a joyful life and specializes in helping others express their highest, most loving, magnetic and playful selves.

It’s time for us all to live our fullest expressions. For the greatest good of all. Find out more: www.PowerPriestess.com

In other words, Taina is a literal powerhouse.

I am so excited for this workshop for many reasons.

In the queer community (in all communities) but especially in the queer community there is a huge portion of folks with body dysmorphia, which is, according to Mayo clinic, defined as “a mental illness involving obsessive focus on a perceived flaw in appearance.”

I would like to see folks experience a new or different level of appreciation or love for themselves and their bodies in this 2 hour online experience.

Disclaimer: this workshop is not to solve or fix any mental or physical illnesses.

I wouldn’t anticipate any form of nudity on this call, if that is a concern for you.

If you are interested in signing up for the workshop it is $22 and you can purchase your ticket here: https://www.eventbrite.com/e/128920696273

If you have questions message me on instagram at msmcmagic_222.

To get an idea of how many folks will be in the workshop I have had 1–6 people.

I would love to see a few more friendly faces to experience the magic within these spaces.

No more than 20 people will be involved :)

Thank you again for reading this and I hope to see on Monday at 5PM PST!