My 8 Burning, Unanswered Questions on Sex
By: Zoe Naz
Tags: Sexuality, Future, Love, Sex, Culture

My 8 Burning, Unanswered Questions on Sex

From existential to kinky, here’s what I’m mentally masturbating over.

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For the curious and restless like me, here’s what I think about laying in bed. To set the scene, not usually naked and in the act. Then my thoughts are preoccupied with other stimuli. But for when sheep counting gets old…

1. Does porn mean voyeurism is in our blood?

What do you do when you hear someone having sex next door? Cover your ears, leave the room you’re in, or get real quiet and put your ear closer to the source. Thought so.

The word voyeur, after all, comes from the french word “voir,” which means to see, so don’t worry, your fetish is safe with me.

2. If we prostitute out our time every day, aren’t we all paying one way or another for sex?

Time is our most valuable currency. We can never earn it back, yet we swipe it away and spend it on short-term thrills. And there’s nothing wrong with that; let’s just be honest with ourselves. Like Fernando Pessoa once said, “To be understood is to prostitute oneself.” There’s no elitism here.

3. Is sex like fashion where everything old becomes new again?

If that’s true, I think we are in for some drug-fueled orgies of the 80s and increased levels of same-sex intercourse that was deemed acceptable and normal in Ancient Rome. It’s just a matter of time.

4. Is there such a thing as having no boundaries?

Sounds dangerous. I like it but I also think boundaries (and the fluidity of them) create the feelings of arousal and excitement in the bedroom. If it wasn’t dangerous, would it be fun? For me, it’s an exploration of hanging near the edge without crossing it.

5. Why isn’t clitoral stimulation in blockbuster movies?

Seriously? I think most of the female population would thank the Academy if we started to see more real sex scenes in movies that included some gentle strokes to le clit.

6. Why is it called foreplay and not foresex?

Next time, I’m just going to tell my friends we “played” and see if they get it. And just in case you are wondering, here’s how you say foreplay in 70 languages across the globe. But the real debate, is that is foreplay even relevant anymore when you have so many different types of sexual stimulation? Though, let me be clear, like working out, warming up before being penetrated is always a good idea in my mind.

7. In 10 years, what kink is left to uncover?

I am sure human ingenuity will uncover something new. As the journalist, Bryan Clark once said, “the only possible culmination of AI research is packing it neatly inside a synthetic body and having sex with it.” If you find this idea uncomfortable, you’re in like-minded company. But a quick search online and you find ethical debates on why sex robots for older disabled people should be embraced that might challenge your preconceived notions.

8. If we didn’t have religion, what would sex look like today?

I think our species would be having a lot more sex. Various bodies of research over the last 20 years cite that high levels of self-reported religious affliction result in fewer sexual outcomes for unmarried adults across every age group. Unsurprisingly, the research also concluded that this effect was stronger among women rather than men. However, contrary to popular belief, according to Pew Research, the overall world population of non-religous people is expected to decline as a percent of the global population.