A Message To My Clients
By: Hanz Kurdi
Tags: Coaching And Consulting, Personal Development, Life Hacking, Learning And Development, Gratitude

We have walked many paths together. Some joyful, some restless, and some painful, but all with intent. We shared intimate moments so deeply engrained beneath constraints upon constraints of a belief system we had to unlearn together. I remember when we cried together at the many AHA moments we had, the spark of creative realizations when pain turned to joy and bewilderment turned into faith that would be found in the unknowns of tomorrow, yet, that no longer mattered as your heart and your mind were able to rest once again without needing all the answers. I remember the moments when you told me you can sleep again, but not just any kind of sleep, the kind that was reminiscent of your childhood when play was the intended outcome of everyday to then fall in bed exhausted and yet excited to relive another day of ecstatic joy…ya that kind of sleep. I remember the times we argued over some mundane logic as to why you believed that you could not do something, or the reason why you could not changed the things you wanted to change about yourself, or, the best one yet, over the reasoning of why that was the case. I remember when after all that, we had a moment of silence preceding an “oh shit” moment that morphed into amazing breakthroughs. Even I was in tears!

To my therapist client who came to me with exhaustive energy and a defeated will to continue with her practice, your perspective was absolutely right. You intake so much from so many, your training has helped you keep the connection with your clients at bay, and yet, part of your humanness dissolved with that distance. You adjusted your views about this connection and found the right grounding work to allow for a deeper and more authentic gesture of healing with your clients. This allowed you to soar once again with a new sense of hope for your work. I am so proud of you and so appreciative of the time you gave yourself along the way.

To my member of the clergy client who came to me with a sense of affirmations of self in the work he did. I loved your questions about whether what you do is truly the right thing for your congregation. You kept asking what was the defining line between Gods work and your work, not because you didn’t know the answer, but because you wanted to do the best work for those who would seek your guidance. It was that one moment when you realized that your love of self was misplaced in the love for other so much so that the excavation work we did together led you to remember that a healthy you is a happy you, and that led to some of your greatest impacts at work. I am so proud of you and honored to have walked this path with you.

To my CEO client who struggled so deeply with anxiety, on and off again depression, misguided exuberance, family struggles, and personal health issues, you and I spent a lot of time together unraveling your past through the many portals and gateways we created to help excavate your past narratives, only to find that there is a tremendous depth and wisdom in the person that you are, unlearning your past hangups of self, and reimagining a future you want to live in by creating present narratives that truly feed your soul. You were so pained about your family struggles that with a few changes in communication, perspective, and narrative, you found your footing once again. Your struggles are deep becasue much is asked of you, remembering the things that truly matter to you while communicating your boundaries to yourself has put you in a place of awareness more closely associated with your amazing emotional intelligence. This was no easy task but that has changed so much of your life already. I am so proud of you and so glad I could be your right hand along the way.

To my single parent client who came to me with a list so long and a pain so deep that it made me realize after our sessions why I love doing what I do and why our verbal and emotional hugs were the catalyst of change along this journey. It was so easy to self deprecate and to believe that there is not much that can be done with your belief system which was built on false premises spoken to you by a voice so out of touch with reality. The intensity of a giving and caring mother was wrapped in its protective shell to make sure your kids were taken care of everyday. You are superhuman to me and what you continue to do and give is at a level so inspiring that when we had our breakthroughs, mostly in hilarious crying sessions, you remembered your 22 year old self so eager to take on the world with her immense power and grit. This 22 year old queen promised herself to persevere through all kinds of adversity and even though this recent experience was not something she planned, she remembered what it was like to be herself again and with that she broke through these imposed and invisible barriers that were put upon her. You did that! What a day it was! I cannot express the inspiration you gave me that day when we had our first, of many, breakthroughs together. I am so crazily proud of you. Thank you for how you continue to amaze me.

To my coach client that came to me with a loss of voice, a loss of identity, and a loss of direction. You worked so hard to find your footing in a world of healers that you thought that maybe this work was not for you. Your voice, so powerful, so directive, that once you got out of your own way, that voice evolved into something others could finally hear. Your identity was no longer one of a victim of circumstance but a protagonist in a story manifested by you! You got to create a reality by that belief that lingered around you which finally settled deep within your heart. It became your truth, your authenticity, your voice! You were able to support your family in the months to come, with cheerful tears and continued self love. I am so proud of who you’ve become and so grateful and honored to be considered family.

And so many more…

To my clients, there were so many of you, all walks of life, all backgrounds, that I was blessed to cross paths with. I cannot help but struggle when I see you struggle. It is in my nature to feel you and reflect back to you what I see within you. This process is never easy, it is never short, and it will always reflect the best in you. There is something common in all of you. It is found in the moments we feel seen, appreciated, and welcomed. It is when our own thoughts have reduced our own humanness that we find ourselves again from that special someone that took that extra time to show us how much they cared about us, how much they appreciated what we did, told us how we made them feel, and just made us feel seen. They showed us their humanity. This is where I found myself too. That simple act conjured up all the feelings we needed to get back on that saddle and continue our journey home. I could not have done it without you, and that is why I will not leave your side along our way home, not in need of one another, but in appreciation of all that is human between one another. I am so proud of us!