Nobody asked dream; for people living in lifelong pain
By: Minjung Choi
Tags: Failure, Books, Dreams, System, Pain

Photo by Kelli McClintock on Unsplash

Which life have you gone through?

What is learned in the cradle is carried to the grave. As innate personality is crucial, acquired ability is critical. Which family have you grown up in? Who have you met as your friends? How much have you learned? These questions define us. When I was younger, I couldn’t and didn’t want to accept it. However, as I grow up, I cannot help agreeing with it. Unconsciously, I consider various elements when observing others, such as their accent, behavior, and so on.

Why did nobody ask their dream?

I read this book to study how to deliver painful story through interview. Although I had the clear goal, I couldn’t focus on the way the book told. I became totally immersed in what the book said. It was sheer torture to read this book to the end without break. I couldn’t skip even one letter. Every record made me stop and think their lives.

The Book ‘Nobody asked my dream’

Thus, watching and sharing this story on the topic ‘failure’ was challenging. However, I believed Li:Fe lab should determine how deep failure we can face. The story of this book was one of failures I felt demanding to endure. Therefore, I suggested that we should read this book, and my teammate agreed with it.

How did we conduct the second experiment?

1. Read the book

What if you learned violence, survival, and counter-society when you were young? How about growing without even elementary education? All they experienced have made them isolated from society before you realized it.

It was too miserable, but what was scaring to me was that all of these examples happened only 60 years ago. This unbelievable forced them to grab failure in their hands. Since they have grown up, they had to be cast into prison, police station, and street.

By reading this book, we could realized we need to focus on SYSTEM which bears failures.

2. Do a life experiment

Analyzing my failure in terms of SYSTEM

To watch my failure in the systemic perspective, I had to choose one failure. I selected my miserable time when I was annoyed with myself for the first time. I had to do too many tasks, but could do nothing. Besides, I couldn’t ask any help. I believed that I could do whatever I wanted and had to do, but I couldn’t without my all endeavor. For the first and last time in my life, I cried loudly in front of my teacher.

For 3 days, looking painfully at my past experience, I hoped to escape from thinking about it. The deeper I focused on it, the more arduous effort I had to make. When I finished it(finally!), I was so surprised that I could release myself from an old fetter. I thought all I failed sprung from my fault such as lack of capacity. But it wasn’t. There were systemic issues.

3. Talk together to make Conversion points

2nd study in Li:Fe Lab

We looked back one week, asking how helpful feedback was and how our experiment was. We decided to view every failure in the systemic perspective and learn to analyze our emotion. While accumulating our own skill and stories, we are going to create methods which formulate our contents with common-sensing.

Review

That wasn’t your fault. You haven’t done anything wrong. The environment you were in made you fail. Please don’t blame yourself.

No matter how painful life you have lived, your failure must not be made all because of you. Be free from your failure. If you can’t, at least you don’t have to carry all burden. Please share your burden, make your load lighter than ever, and Free at last!

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Next time, we are going to read Why nations fail. Keep your eyes on our project!