The Most Influential Leaders Avoid These 5 Common Barriers to Authenticity
By: Dr. Matthew Jones
Tags: Psychology, Leadership, Inspiration

Trust, something that cannot be purchased, is created through relationships with others.

Not just any relationships though — genuine relationships that are founded on connection and mutual vulnerability are required to build meaningful, enduring trust.

And that’s the value of authenticity — it helps you build trust within an organization one relationship at a time and create a winning culture that encourages collaboration. This type of genuine culture is something that’s only possible when people aren’t holding themselves back due to fear of judgment.

Unfortunately, the road to authenticity has many roadblocks — things that must be overcome to unleash your true potential.

Here are five common barriers to living an authentic life:

1. Negative past experiences when being honest, open, and vulnerable

At one point in your life, you were a cuter, younger version of yourself when you received messages — from peers, family, friends, or society — that you were unacceptable and needed to change.

Part of discovering your authentic self and sharing that with others involves working through these uncomfortable feelings and understanding how previous experiences impact your current state.

2. Fear of taking risks to build trust

Regardless of previous experiences, some people are just afraid to build trust with others.

Building trust, after all, requires that you take risks — that you’re vulnerable, open, and honest — and that, no matter how confident you feel, can be scary.

You must overcome your fear and take risks to unleash your authenticity.

3. Focusing on anything other than the present moment

The present moment is where authenticity is engaged.

This moment is the only time that you can create changes or make decisions, which is why ruminating on the past or fixating on the future is problematic to your growth — it does nothing but block you from your sense of agency.

4. Believing you can and should “handle your problems” alone

If you think that you can heal and grow into your authentic self alone, you’re wrong. Your wounds were created by others, which is why you must connect with others to heal.

Authenticity requires that you embrace vulnerability.

And one of the best places to do that is with a professional coach or licensed therapist, so that you can, after healing and growing, build those valuable relationships in all aspects of your life.

5. Thinking that authenticity is a goal, rather than a state of being

Our hyper-competitive, instant gratification society brainwashes people into focusing on the outcome rather than the process. If you don’t fall in love with the process of self-development, then you won’t see the results.

Authenticity isn’t a goal that you can achieve, it’s a moment-to-moment practice of listening to your intuition, practicing what you preach, and being vulnerable in your interactions.

It’s building self-awareness of your strengths, weaknesses, and areas of growth — while actively working to improve yourself as a holistic human being.

It’s not something that you can simply check off your to-do list and move on. And pretending otherwise does yourself a disservice — of thinking that you’re authentic when you’re really just self-involved and stuck in your ways.

Avoid that entire trap of thinking that authenticity is a goal you can achieve or an object you can acquire and get back to the basic practices that lead to self-growth.

That’s what real leaders do.