5 new skills smart people never do.
By: Jessy Ammy
Tags: Lifeblog, Future Of Work, Smart Contracts, Gossip, Smart People

I have smart people in my life, people I observe how they handle things concerning them and others and so I was able to identify these few points that define them.

Though they are a lot of definition you could give to a smart person but these are the few most important trait that distinguishes them below…

As follow:

Smart people are not superior people, they are people with a vision of focus, focus on being better than who they were yesterday,

Smart people are people with zeal, people who thrive even with the challenges and distractions around to keep to their strength rather than fall to their weakness,

Smart people are people who accept, know their weaknesses, and focus on how to manage and live with them positively.

Smart people deal with criticism positively and they seek solutions to problems.

Like I said above, they are numerous definition to smart people but these are the I was able to identify associating with few of them.

Furthermore, I have been able to identify the 5(five) new skills smart people never associate themselves with and we are gonna step into it now:

1. Never Gossip:

Okay! So, Jessica, you are saying that if I never get to gossip about someone…. That makes me smart?

Lol, of course…

But, Jessica is that really possible?

Yes, guys, it is possible.

Now, let’s define what the word GOSSIPING means:

Gossiping is when you talk about someone who isn’t present mostly for approval or disapproval of the information.

Now lemme step into some people’s shoes with these examples below:

Eg.1 A lot of writers like myself refers to a point of an author or a theorist in their write up and that isn’t us gossiping, what we are doing is referring you to a fact in other to make our point strong or convincing.

Eg.2 I was having a conversation with someone that made me remember a humourous behavior of another person that was worth sharing and instead of calling the person’s name, I put it into action like it was me. Now that is not gossiping. Why? Because I didn’t specify the funny action to anyone.

Okay, let’s come down to the sibling’s conversation or friend’s, and it’s funny… you wanna use it as a story to put a smile on someone’s face, now instead of calling names — you could simply put it like a character in the form of “ a boy and a girl”…. And there you deliver your message.

You not only respect them but you achieve trust from the other.

Eg.3 Let’s say you wanna caution your sister about a guy they should avoid, instead of specifying it….

Tell it as a story (folktale) or in form of a question …

For instance, someone lied to you or deceived you and you wanna teach your friend how to detect a liar and stay away or be careful of people like that…

In the form of a question;

Hey Divine, How do you detect a liar?

And then Divine answers:

When they don’t say much about or don’t like answering questions about themselves…

Really, why do you think that?

Because they are trying to avoid being found when something goes wrong.

Okay, that is a good one but don’t you think …. Then you state your experience may be their inability to defend what they said.

This way you pass your message and learn from the other person about their standpoint on certain things and you guys connect on a deeper level.

You can’t get what you can’t give and even if you give and don’t receive it back, appreciate the fact you gave that gesture to someone…

People perceive things differently.

In essence, people get involved in our everyday activities either physically or in our minds. But, let’s make it an exercise to keep it positive, respect people’s self and seek permission if necessary not because they control you but it yields sincerity and trust.

They are varieties of ways you could practice talking about other people and maintain respect, transparency, and being real.

Like Grandma would say, if you are not blessings them with your mouth, shut up.

2. Never use the word “should” :

Your thoughts determine your actions…

So, if you wanna get things done, you must attach them with a strong word using “MUST”. I must do something, that leaves a strong message to the mind, and coordinates actions.

3. Never feel inferior:

Is all about your beliefs…

Smart people believe that no one is better than them… vise versa

Because we are all made of the same sand and the only person they should be competing with is being better than who they were yesterday and who they wanna be in 5 years.

A lot of times we let negative energy get to us, not only because of the people around us but because of how we feel about ourselves.

No outside negative force can penetrate our inside being if we feel positive about ourselves and remain grateful for what we have while pursuing what we need.

Remember: If your pursuits are stressing you, make sure it’s worth it.

4. Never disagree:

What! Jessy so you mean they agree with everything?

Lol, I am not saying they agree with everything but they disagree in LOVE.

For example, When an idea is presented to them, and maybe it’s not aligned with their perspective. Other than shunning it away, they show respect to their opinions by saying “ I see what you are saying but I think….”

Say it as you mean it and respect is given.

5. Never worry about the past:

Your purpose is greater than your past…

Past experiences are supposed to be survival techniques (lesson) not to control or limit your actions.

See, your experiences don’t define you… what you do about it, is what characterizes your progress.