Those things that no one told me about being a mother.
By: Pri Tan
Tags: Pregnancy, Anxiety, Motherhood, Postpartum, Postpartum Depression

Those things that no one told me about being a mother.

It’s hard. It’s effin hard. It’s a storm, so you better learn to love the rain. It’s endless responsibility If you have been the priveleged kinds who have never picked a glass in their life, then good great luck to you, because now you will have to work your ass off. Way way harder than any corporate job 24–7–365 1/4 Forget sleep Day and night are the same Colic is a bitch. Baby whatsapp groups are a must Leave your ego and take as much help as you can. No point listening to your body, as nothing will change, you still have to take care of the suckling, irrespective. Okay, take care of your back. Ghee helps lots. Panjiri, laddoos, pinnis and all those things you eewed at, is lke a medicine. Your boobs will sag Your boobs may differ in size Sex life becomes 0. Sex gets hard. Sex is important but you are tired and it’s a fuc*ing task. You will hear from yourself and others that you are always tired. What a mess. You want to multi task, but you can’t. A good maid is for the lucky ones. There are more bad than good maids, so keep your eyes and ears open. The jhaapas are bloody over rated. Complete menace mostly. Again, for the lucky few only, who get the good concerned loving ones. You may gain weight post the delivery too. Breast-feeding is the hardest and can get stressful AF. People you expect who will appreciate you, may not. So keep the expectations 0. People may use your misery as their brownie points. Let them. ( If it didn’t happen with you, you will not understand this) People may judge you if you don’t breast feed. People will judge you of you leave your home in the 40 days. People will anyways find reasons to comment. So chill. You may not get time to do anything. You may not be able to go for a walk, yoga, etc etc. You will always be worried about your baby. To the point of anxiety. Post partum is a thing. PPD really hits bad You may keep crying and trying. You might get a few bald patches on the head.. hormones. You may get facial hair. You could get hormone disorder like thyroid or sugar or BP etc type of issues. Breast milk doesn’t get produced in every mother You will poop, bathe, sit sleep with the baby. You may be alone without any help. You may feel like you are dying but you still have a show to run. You will cry, lots. You will have mood swings lots lots. Your hormones woo test the worst of you Your tiredness will get the daylights off you. You may get into a lot of arguments, but nothing good will come off it. Your husband might make remarks at you, but it’s kay, he too isn’t used to the hag aching ailing us. Therapy helps. Yoga I’ve heard helps ( but still too tired to start, oh LO is 11 months) It’s a lot of dark times. But remember, after every dark night, light comes and shines bright. You may feel that life is so so purposeless. You may miss thag financial freedom of you stop work post baby. But see there are tradeoffs. You will be fine. This will pass. You are loved. You are worthy. It’s the hardest thing ever, but it’s the choice we made. You are doing the best. Yes you are. You may not bathe your baby 3 days, but you are still the best. Teething baby can fuzz your brains, but it’s a phase. Take a nap like a cat and your body adjusts. Give it some time. Okay could be couple of months. Life’s changed yes, but for the better. You can party like a champ, maybe not today, but soon. There is no right and wrong of mommy hood, its all right as long as you feel alright. Rejoice that you are there and capable of taking care of your baby. Rejoice that you have a baby, think of those who ache so bad..