The power of the open heart.
By: Paco Chávez
Tags: Breakthrough, Consciousness, Psychology, Self Mastery

The power of the open heart.

I have the opportunity of being able to write this sitting down at the edge of the ocean as the morning rises. I can´t think of a more beautiful sight than the sun coming up behind the mountains while the waves of the ocean reflect its radiant light beams. For anyone searching for a cure to mental anxiety, depression, and worry, I highly insist you get your butt to the nearest beach, doesn´t matter where you stay, and just be one with the sand and the water. Humans weren´t made to live in packed cities, running around all the time, don´t you get it? We created this lifestyle that reprograms our healthy brains into worrying about literally everything that happens in our lives. Even those who have succeeded in what might seem the best jobs in the world basking in the world's finest luxuries aren´t exempt from the storms of the mind. When we close our hearts and focus on external things, we set ourselves up for a lifetime of endless pitfalls and mental crutches. Our mind becomes our greatest foe and we spend the only life we have being a slave to it. We keep working and searching for meaning in external things trying to shut these thoughts away when actually what we need to start doing is facing them. To face our fears we must first realize our hearts are closed, even when we think they are open. We first need to recognize that there is a distinction between having a truly open heart and sudden rushes of dopamine and oxytocin that the amygdala´s in our brains produce. These rushes of emotions and chemicals are what humans mistake for love because we become totally conscious of the upside of things and negate all the negative sides. Let´s say you start to get infatuated with someone after meeting them, you feel this person is a sign from the heavens that will come to save you from pain and give you a life full of happy moments. Before long, reality kicks in and you realize not a single person on this planet is a perfect human being. We tend to put people on pedestals and minimize ourselves when this happens, you tell yourself you can´t believe what an amazing person the earth has presented to you and forget that you yourself, have all these qualities too. You just refuse to acknowledge them yourself because your mind is too busy living a fantasy, one that seems very real. Don´t worry though, this does not mean that the relationship is meant to fail or that there is no one out there that will share happiness with you. But that is precisely what this is about, sharing happiness.

“When the voice and the vision on the inside is more profound, and more clear and loud than all opinions on the outside, you’ve begun to master your life”

― John Demartini, Count Your Blessings: The Healing Power of Gratitude and Love

To share happiness with someone else we must embark on the journey of opening our true hearts ourselves. We must work to evolve into conscious beings that are capable of diving into the deepest depths of our psyche, emotions, and souls to find out what we are made up of, independent of all the external things that we have achieved. Independent of our physical appearances and without judging the thoughts and emotions that daily inhibit our brains. To bring into balance our judgments and realize within every positive trait lies a negative frequency that brings it into balance. Putting people on pedestals reduces our authenticity, this will cause life to give us a feedback system from our environment whenever we skew reality with subjective bias and fail to reach a balance. Pure reflective awareness is what we must strive to apply every day in our lives, especially around other humans. When we reflect awareness, we acknowledge that every positive and negative trait inside of us lies within the person sitting in front of us. What you see in them, you see in you, nothing to change. This is called grace. Grace is such a beautiful emotion and energy because that is where a truly open heart shines. It is where the heart is most potent and able to give back to the world. In true grace, our heart opens and we start to live a life of equanimity.

Our values as people are the underlying foundation for human behavior, they are the roads we must choose to take every day to manifest a reality of equanimity, peace, grace, and success. When we live in alignment with our values there is the highest probability of objectivity, reflectiveness, and even-mindedness. Our mind evolves from being imminent to transcendent and develops the ability to strategically plan the dissolving of these infatuations and prepare for both sides of chaos and order to enter our lives. To live in alignment with our values we must live by our highest priorities on a daily basis. This means waking up every day and setting our day for ourselves without immediately giving in that power to someone or something else. We maximize our goal achievement to the degree that we are authentic, this is why when we live in an equanimous state we are able to be more reflective and showcase our authentic self. We desire to be authentic and reflective in awareness to solve our problems, create momentum, and a domino effect every day of our lives. This puts us in a state of constant flow which makes life seem as if it were the most simple and easy thing to maneuver because it is. Life shouldn´t be a complicated struggle even though it does involve the struggle, we must accept the struggle at all times may it be present. We have all the behaviors we see in other people because we are everything.

“The moment you realize you already have everything you’re looking for, the universe gives it to you.”

Become a master of your destiny by asking yourself, “how is this helping me achieve my highest value goals?”. Remember that resilience and adaptability are a byproduct of a centered mind that will daily have less noise to be disturbed by. Less anxiety, worry, self-doubt, and insecurities. Find the hidden order in the daily chaos to battle the deepest foes of your mind with an open heart. It has been scientifically proving that if you are not living congruently with your highest values you drastically decrease your aging process. Do not make things more complicated than they should be, start by being grateful for what you have every day. Be grateful you get to breathe, you get to have a body and a mind to control, not the other way around. An open heart is an expression of full potential that will lead you to the life you have always dreamt of having. Dreams do not necessarily have to stay as dreams, just as long as we consciously set our daily habits and actions towards them. Remember that the quality of your life is determined by the quality of your thoughts.