Reflection on Amal Totaky
By: Muneeba Khaliq
Tags: Amal Fellowship, Amal Totkay, Amal Academy

Amal totaky are really helpful in our routine life and enables us to deal with problems and failures by developing a growth mindset.And having a growth mindset is important because it can help you overcome obstacles you may face when learning something new or developing a new skill. Growth mindsets understand the importance of persistence and determination. By changing the way you think, you can change the way you learn and you can get a better version of yourself.

Self Talk:

Don’t be a victim of negative self talk_Remember YOU are listening.

Self talk is the way you talk to yourself, or your inner voice.Positive self talk about showing yourself some self-compassion and understanding for who you are and what you’ve been through.It’s really important because it sees our internal narrative switching to ideas like ‘I can do better next time’ or ‘I choose to learn from my mistakes, not be held back by them’.

Be mindful of the self-talk.It’s a conversation with the universe._David James

This Amal Totka helps me a lot to increase my self-confidence and curb all the negative or harmful thought patterns that bring me down.Positive self-talk helps me to re frame the way I look at stressful situations, understanding that I’ll approach challenges with the best of my ability and that whatever the outcome,at least I did the best I could do.So whenever I get stressed I do self talk and reflect on my actions and try to remove all the negativity and change it to positive thoughts and encourage myself to build a new hope for the new day.

Get out of your Comfort Zone:

Everything you ever wanted is one step outside your comfort zone.

Getting out from the comfort zone is the main key to develop a growth mindset.In this way you embrace changes around you and try to say yes to something.When in your comfort zone, your brain doesn’t want anything to change.Getting out of your comfort zone from time to time creates just enough good stress to ramp up your focus, creativity, pace, and drive, and it helps you respond to life stress when unexpected things happen.

You never change your life until you step out of your comfort zone; Change begins at the end of your comfort zone._Roy T. Bennett

From this totka I try to change my fixed mindset to a growth mindset.I’m trying to think in a new more better way and give some space to changes in my life by switching up my routine, by accepting my mistakes and by taking risk to learn new skills, to discard my fears and to build inner self stronger.Now I’ve realized that how much dangerous the comfort zone could be If I stay there more.Because I wouldn’t be able to achieve my goals until I take a step forward out of my comfort zone.

Create New Habits:

Successful people are simply those with successful habits._drain Trancy

One way to develop a growth mindset is by changing or creating new habits.Not only are habits important but they grow stronger and stronger over time and become more and more automatic. So make sure you have the right ones!.Habits shape your life far more than you probably realize because our brains cling to them at the exclusion of all else — including common sense.More than 40 percent of the actions you perform each day aren’t actual decisions, but habits.So We’ve to create new and good habits that can bring positive changes in our attitude and personality.

Depending on what they are, our habits will either make us or break us.We become what we repeatedly do._Sean Covey

By following this Amal Totka I’ve created some new habits of getting my work done at a proper time and I’ve started noting down all my weakness to improve, all my strengths to grow more, all my achievements to get motivation.I’m developing a growth mindset using this totka by trying to get stuck with my new good habits and to get rid of some of my bad habits.

Ask for help:

Offering to help is easy.Asking for help is the hard part._ Jen Mueller

Asking for help can be a challenge , even outside of a pandemic .Often we feel ashamed while asking for a help because we start overthinking about it ,what the other person will think and say that I can’t even do a small thing or I haven’t the ability to cope with a small challenge.But In fact this is called getting out of comfort zone and take a risk to ask for help without looking week.Asking for help allows us to surround ourselves with people who can make us feel good and facilitate further development. These people create optimism and hope that we are able to deal with challenging situations, which improves our resilience.

Ask for help not because you’re weak, but because you want to remain strong._ Les Brown

I’m already following this Amal totaka. I always try to ask for help from those I’m sure enough they can understand and help me out to getting things done. I’ve learnt that we can’t do everything alone by ourselves.Many times we face difficulty to do something and often get a hard time so at this moment it’s better to ask for help from your close ones or your team members because with their helps you can achieve your goals easily.

Fake it Till you Make it:

This English aphorism has a meaning that by imitating confidence, competence, and an optimistic mindset, a person can realize those qualities in their real life and achieve the results they seek.Action seems to follow feeling, but really action and feeling go together; and by regulating the action, which is under the more direct control of the will, we can indirectly regulate the feeling, which is not.If our spontaneous cheerfulness be lost, is to sit up cheerfully, to look round cheerfully, and to act and speak as if cheerfulness were already there. If such conduct does not make you soon feel cheerful, nothing else on that occasion can. So to feel brave, act as if we were brave, use all our will to that end, and a courage-fit will very likely replace the fit of fear.

Fake it Until you make it! Act As If you had all the confidence you require until it becomes your reality._Brian Tracy

I feel this totka really helpful in my life.Whenever I got depressed I follow this and act like I’m so normal and happy and while acting like this with others eventually I can find my own happiness in others happiness.Whenever I thought I can’t do this or this is something beyond my reach I follow this totka and replace my thinking by saying that ,This is nothing I’ve enough confidence to achieve this one day. Same like this whenever I’m going to give a presentation I look more confident even if I’m too much nervous.It gives me a sense of motivation and encouragement to accomplish the task efficiently.

My favorite tip is Self Talk and Ask for help.Because self talk is like self reflection and self realization which is the Amal’s principle of progress called “Khudi” and help me to get to know about myself and to improve by bringing positive changes in myself.Ask for help is really helpful for me because it leads to a good team where everyone help each other to do their projects and give strength to the team and to the every team member also. I’ve already started implementing both these tips in my life to get success and achievements.And I’ll try to follow all these Amal Totaky to develop a growth mindet by learning new skills ,by facing all the challenges bravely, by taking my failures as an opportunity , by getting feedback from others , by embracing changes and by believing in myself.

Thanks Amal Academy.