We’re Having a Baby
Tags: Baby, English Learning, English, English Language

Hi I’m Vanessa from speak English with Vanessa.com and in my family there are 5 members Vanessa Dan Dodger. Have been handled. But we have room for one more in our apartment right right. So it’s true. Yeah baby. So we wanted to share this exciting news with you and also include some English because this is a big time in our lives and it’s something that maybe a lot of you have experienced to. In this video we’re gonna share with you some information about our future baby and also some polite and rude questions that you can ask someone who’s pregnant a lot of people ask me questions nowadays so I wanna help you ask polite questions not rude questions so are you ready to start with some polite questions I’m ready okay the most common question is when are you due this question means when is the baby coming if you imagine a homework assignment maybe your teacher said this assignment is due next week do means it needs to be finished must come yes so it’s the same for a baby we say when are you due or when is the baby due it’s most common to say when are you due and when are we do we are due July 8 it’s coming in nice in soon.

Another common question is how far along are you and this means how long have you been pregnant and for me I have been pregnant for about 5 months a little bit less than 5 months so when someone asks me Vanessa how far along are you I can say 5 months it doesn’t mean that the baby will come after 5 months it means that I have been pregnant for 5 months we usually say months. But it was a weeks well I think that if you’re talking to someone else who is pregnant usually they count each week 15 weeks 20 weeks but most people don’t really know immediately 20 weeks equals 5 months so 5 months usually you can just say 8 months but some women might say weeks if they want to be really specific right the next question is how are you feeling well I’ve feeling actually pretty good it’s very general question yeah usually this is physically how are you feeling especially if you ask the woman the one who is pregnant because typically the first 3 months maybe you feel really tired or kind of sick and for me I felt pretty tired pretty sick sick I didn’t eat that much I just ate crackers and muffins.

We’re Having a Baby

For about a month or 2 months but now it’s a little bit further into my pregnancy so I feel a lot better I had more energy we can do more stuff together to be more active because I just feel more alive I feel fine yeah how do you feel I’m feeling great yeah how do you mentally feel because how do you feel could be physically or mentally so how do you feel about being a father I feel mostly excited definitely yeah this is something I’ve always wanted to area I knew I wanted to be a dad and I like that that’s a lot so I think she’ll be a great mother so for the most part I’m a maybe a little nervous just because I think pregnancy and giving birth is kind of scary in general big deal yeah I need this kind of thing I I enjoy I think I’ll for the most part into it yeah it’s a new adventure another question that’s okay to ask if somebody is pregnant is are you going to find out the gender.

So this means are you going to find out if it’s a boy or a girl before you give birth and today we are both wearing I have some pink Dan has some blue classic and the answer for us is are we going to find out the gender yes I think so yes so next week we’re filming this now but next week we’re gonna find out the gender so before I posted this video we will definitely know the gender of our baby at the moment we don’t know but when you watch this video we will now so I want you to guess in the comments below what do you think yeah do we look like we’ll have a boy or a girl do you think our child is a boy or a girl and I want to give you the correct answer at the moment I don’t know but when I post this video we will now so what I’m gonna do is I’m gonna write a blog post to go along with this video that will include all of the questions and it will include the answer from our doctors visit next week the next week we’ll find out but when you watch this the answer will be revealed so you can click on the link in the description below this video or at the end of the video I’ll post a link so that you can click on it and see if your guess is correct so what do you think do you think we’re gonna have a boy or a girl I I think my initial hunch or my initial idea was a girl but because I think I might be wrong I’m saying a boy.

Okay and because we like to be competitive and we like to win I’m gonna guess the opposite so my guess is a girl and dance guess is the buoy yes I have no idea absolutely no idea. Think it’s a pretty pretty much a 5050 chance yeah so I have a 50 percent chance of being correct mmhm and you too so do I. All right let’s go to the next one some people like to ask more detailed questions such as are you taking birthing classes and so this question has to do with the kind of preparation that you’re going to do so in the U. S. it’s pretty common to take birth scene classes and that means just how to give birth some kind of techniques maybe breathing or some mental techniques something to help your partner help you yes and for us the answer is yes we haven’t started yet to because it’s too soon but shortly we will be taking a local birthing class it’s actually pretty long it’s 6 weeks for 3:00 hours each time yeah but they got to you got to prepare the new mothers and fathers yeah they don’t just talk about how to give birth this class talks about how to nurse how to be a parent what kind of things your baby might need your house yeah so it’s pretty detailed.

So in the U. S. going to a birth class or a burning class is pretty common and for us we’re not going to a hospital we are going to a birth center to give birth to have the baby so it’s a little bit different but it’s connected to the hospital but it’s a a place kind of like a little house little more cozy yeah it’s a little more comfortable and relaxed scene and it’s only for giving birth there’s no one else there it’s only us the midwives and anyone who we want to come with us so it’s pretty open but hopefully it will be a positive experience another more detailed questions somebody might ask you is have you thought about names yet and this is kind of a personal question I feel like because a lot of couples in the U. S. don’t tell people their baby names until the baby is born.

So for us we’ve thought about names but we haven’t really talked to many people about it maybe some close family if they ask us that question but typically we don’t really share that information I’m a little more open about it yeah I I have talked with co workers about names. Just a preference that happens it’s not rude to ask someone have you thought about names but I think if you said what names do you like it could be a little too direct because a lot of people at least in the U. S. don’t like to share that too much because it’s it’s a personal choice another more detailed question that’s okay to ask maybe for friends and family is do you have a preference boy or girl. So this question you’re asking someone do you want a girl do you want a boy which one do you want to set some people when they have asked me this they say this a little bit hesitantly like do you want a boy or girl maybe I shouldn’t ask they feel a little hesitant about asking that because it kind of implies that if I say I want a girl it implies that if I have a boy I won’t be happy so in reality I will be happy with that boy I’ll be happy with that girl but sometimes you have a little preference yourself and what you what do you.

It’s hard to say I can imagine both lives with a boy and with the girl do you have a preference I don’t know I am I am really in between and maybe maybe a little bit more good leaning towards a girl yeah and it is a little bit because I don’t know I feel like I will feel much more warm and loving towards a girl but with the black will be like how can I save this boy to be young man little more of a duty kind of feeling the boy and I think for me if I had a boy I didn’t have any I don’t have any brothers so growing up with a boy and helping a son will be a completely new experience for me so both could be completely new challenges so some people feel like it might be rude to ask this but if you are friends or family with the person or if you just say it with a smile on your face it’s not a big deal yes it’s just a preference in the end you just want a healthy baby there are also some kind of rude questions maybe route especially if you don’t know the person very well maybe if they’re really really good friends you could ask this but not do you probably should be careful yeah such as was it easy to get pregnant and it’s interesting because each of these rude questions people have already asked me them and I try not to be offended easily and it doesn’t really bother me but I just wanna let you know that it can be kind of rude so you probably shouldn’t tell someone or ask someone this but when you ask someone was it easy to get pregnant some people really want a baby do you really want to get pregnant and maybe it takes a couple months a couple years sometimes to get pregnant so for those people they probably feel really sensitive about this topic because it’s a big deal they’re always thinking about it and were. Rain or caring about it so I would be very hesitant to say this to to anyone unless you’re a family member or someone really close to them yeah and in that case you’ll probably already know yep you’ll probably already know the next question that’s pretty rude is to ask was it an accident.

So this is saying are you an accident were you planning to get pregnant and I think this question is rude because first of all it’s pretty personal but also because it implies that you if it is an accident that you don’t want your baby because you were not planning to get pregnant so I think a lot of people. If it was an accident they don’t want to say yes because it implies that they don’t want their baby they weren’t planning for their baby but certainly for us if you might know I like to plan a lot my life. So for us it was not an accident and for me I don’t feel strange answering this question because it was not an accident but when you ask someone you don’t really know if it’s an accident or not so I recommend not asking this to someone who’s pregnant unless you really know them well and accident is a very common way to describe getting pregnant without a plan yes all right the next pretty rude question to ask is are you happy.

So this is a lot of rude connotations and someone has asked me this already and I feel like it’s rude because it implies that you shouldn’t be happy or there some problem like are you happy and maybe it for them they don’t want to have a baby yet they’re not ready it’s not a good time in their life so they’re kind of reflecting that by asking you are you happy how do you feel because for them maybe they don’t want to have a baby yet so they can’t imagine what that’s like so instead if you want to ask about someone’s emotional feelings I recommend asking with a smile very kindly hello how do you feel about being a mother or how do you feel about being a parent that’s the polite way that’s really polite and some people have asked does that too wow this is a new stage in your life how do you feel how do you feel about being a mother and that’s really nice the smile polite and they’re not in Plano you shouldn’t be high leaves it open ended yes are you happy.

The final rude statements which you should probably never say to a woman it is wow you’re so big you must be due soon yes actually someone has not asked me this yet because not very big yeah my body is not very big yet but someone asked my friend this we’re told my friend that she was walking in the parking lot and she was 7 months pregnant so she still has 2 months to months until she was going to give birth and a stranger said to her well you’re so big I think the baby’s coming soon. And she was thinking hi I have to wait 2 more months I know my body is big I’m tired I don’t have much energy you don’t need to tell me that.

So this is something that I’m sure you wouldn’t really tell someone but in some cultures it might be more common to comment about someone’s physical appearance but in the U. S. for women especially not to but for pregnant women they might feel sensitive about their changing body because for me my body is not that big right now but my body is bigger than I have ever been because this is just a new thing in my life so maybe some women feel much more sensitive about this so don’t comment about her physical size. We also have a bonus situation to share maybe something rude you shouldn’t do and what is that well from my experience I think a lot of people are curious about a pregnant woman’s belly because it’s something it’s a miracle it’s something incredible that you are growing another human inside of you and your body looks different so a lot of people want to touch a pregnant woman’s belly rub her belly yes and in the U. S..

For some people they don’t care they’re fine with people touching their belly but I recommend just ask if you’re curious if you’re a close friend or a good friend the do you mind if I touch your belly can I touch your belly is it okay if I touch your belly and usually if you ask this it’s not a problem because you’re already a friend and you’re asking but some people just touch they just touch your belly and this is. Breaking a social barrier because usually we don’t touch each other even friends you don’t just touch their bodies sometimes friends just touch each other yeah especially if you’re pregnant though it’s kind of a sensitive things so I recommend if you want to do this or if it’s normal in your country to touch a pregnant woman’s belly just ask ask first and make sure that your good friends before we go I just wanted to explain a little bit about how I will be able to teach English and have a baby at the same time because I want to continue teaching you English and that’s my passion I don’t want to stop so I have a great plan of it preparing a lot of materials in advance I’ve already got a lot of exciting videos prepared some interviews some special locations we’re gonna talk about so there’s a lot of exciting material coming up we’re doing the work now yes so we can take a break later yes with the baby so probably in the month of July I will take a little break from live videos but after that we’ll see what happens I plan to continue to be active and to continue to share English in the real world with you that’s the goal thank you for watching everyone and if you’d like take a look in the comments below and write down if you think we will have a boy or a girl yes right your prediction and then after you write your prediction no cheating you can click on the blog post in the description or at the end of this video and find out the real answer for me when we found this I’m just so curious.

Yes and I would drive me crazy I want to meet our child I’m curious what they will be like do you think our child will have brown hair or red hair straight hair or curly hair color eye color eyes brown eyes green eyes are physical features are pretty different so our child will be a very interesting looking child probably. So please write a comment below and let us know do you think it’s a boy or girl what color hair what color eyes what is your prediction and click on the blog post to find out thanks so much for sharing this special time with us and I’ll see you next time bye hi.