The Right and Wrong Ways to Interact With Women Sex Writers Online
By: Mysterious Witt
Tags: Sexuality, Advice, Work, Writing, Women

The Right and Wrong Ways to Interact With Women Sex Writers Online

Please respect our time and expertise as WRITERS.

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Women sex writers are by definition women who write about sex. Seems like a simple definition, but you’d be amazed by how many people conflate our job with other things.

Confusion about what our job entails leads some to believe that just because we write about sex, we also want to have sex with our readership. Or that we want to talk about sex privately with our readers or even consult on our readers’ personal sex lives and relationships through private chats.

We don’t. We’re writers. That’s our job — nothing more, nothing less.

With this in mind, here are some of the wrong ways to approach women sex writers online and some of the right ways.

The wrong way to approach us:

Slip into our inbox or send a private comment with requests to pay us for sex in any form.

We are writers. Even if we offer sex work on a different platform, you’ve found us as our writing persona. Making such requests when we’re wearing our writing hat is disrespectful of our writing careers and makes you come off like a noob.

Slip into our inbox or send a private comment with demands for advice about your personal sex life/relationships.

Believe it or not but we lead busy lives. It takes A LOT of time to write what we do while also doing all the other things we have to get done in order to keep the lights on.

Giving you free advice is not one of those things. Asking a professional writer to give you her free emotional labor is also disrespectful of her time.

Everyone has difficulties in life and we’re no different. Please find a trained professional to help you with your issues, as many of us have.

Slip into our inbox or send a private comment with demands to “pick our brains” about one of our skills.

Be it how to become a writer or other questions about our expertise in whatever other fields we work in, once again, this is disrespectful of our time. Please use your friend Google to find a class or watch a YouTube video on whatever subject you’re curious about. Don’t depend on us to generously give you our time for free.

The right way to approach us:

Read our work.

This may come as a surprise to some people, but we get paid for your reads. So please, read away.

Share our work.

If you like what you read, please share our work with your followers. Publicizing our work is the greatest gift you can give us. This can help us get paid now or at a future point. It can also help get out the word that we exist while spreading our unique ideas to the world.

Respond and interact.

Please, please, please respond to our work with lengthy comments. Delve deep. We welcome introspective viewpoints in regards to our ideas.

It’s even okay to disagree with us as long as you craft an intelligent argument in the comments section — not in our private inbox.

Ask for advice in the comments section.

As long as you make your advice queries known publicly, so it furthers the conversation for other readers, it’s fine to ask for personal advice in the comments section. If doing that scares you, please consider changing your user name/email so you’re anonymous.

Request we write about a certain subject for public enjoyment.

By all means, please politely ask us to write an article about whatever subject you’re curious about so that we can ultimately get paid for this work and also share these ideas with other people. It will make us feel less like we’re working for free just for you.

It’s a privilege to write for you — with caveats.

Please don’t think I’m being harsh here. It’s a privilege to write for our readers and an honor to be read by you. As a woman sex writer, I’m grateful to all those who find my expertise, ideas, and words to be of value.

Thank you for your time.

That said, I am also a very busy and private person — as many women sex writers are. So go ahead, read our work to your heart’s content and please share our words. Leave comments and get the conversation started. But don’t expect any other favors. Understand the reality is you’ve encountered us as writers. Please show us the respect that our hard work merits.