Living in the vicious world of a female narcissist
By: James Vincent Corriere
Tags: Narcissism

Living in the vicious world of a female narcissist

On November 1, 2020 a woman that I fell in love with harshly discontinued our relationship for a reason that just seemed to be so trivial and unnecessary (I was to follow her political beliefs or we go our separate ways; her words, not mine). She ended the relationship by sending me a text, how cowardly, that she could no longer be intimate with me and that for me to take care! I was, to say the least, stunned at such an abrupt ending to what I thought was a great relationship. There were some signs that this woman, I will name her Ann, as that is her real name, had acted strangely. For example, she would stay the night with me and swoon me yet the next day would jut out that I was only concerned about I how felt during love making. Totally bizarre!

Of course, there were other events that were in complete opposite of her accusatory nature, like the weekends at her second home, which she had to move out of because she could not afford and which I helped pay for the moving; the cooking of meals for my vegan diet, (she too, was “Vegan!”), and too many others to list.

At first I thought she had some sort of Bi-Polar issue. Then, I was introduced to the condition of Narcissism. Wow, did she ever check off all of those boxes! Strangely enough, I hold a B.A. in Psychology along with a Masters in Education and in all of those years of study I may have read only a paragraph or two about this insidious disorder. The four stages of a Narcissistic relationship, if one can call it a relationship, unfolded quickly. To my astonishment and disappointment, Ann was living the life of a Narcissist.

Over the course of the next two months I read hundreds of articles, watched the same amount of videos, paid the same amount in dollars to online Narcissistic “counseling” (some of these individuals where helpful, others were simply charlatans). At a lost and my mind ruminating about Ann, I became exhausted and broken down over what I had gone through.

One particular event comes to mind. When I helped her move out of her weekend home that she was renting in a swank southern California town, probably so that she could easily locate other males, she offered me some outdoor patio furniture to take back to my home because she could not carry it with her in her Cadillac Escalade. She also offered me a business chair that was busted up and was all but unusable. When she stated to me that she no longer wanted to be with me, after a weekend of playing together, shopping sprees, etc., three weeks later I waited for her to leave for work and I returned her property to her other home, placing it neatly in her drive way. I also included the piece of trash business chair that she gave me! Just days later, I found a black bag on my step and upon opening it I discovered some of my clothing that I inadvertently left off with her somewhere along the line. She even returned a used Tubberware bowl that I gave her to take home some food in!

I am a man of wealth and integrity and I offered Ann so much. She could be on her way to traveling to exotic places with me at her side, loving her, doting on her, etc. A truly wasted opportunity for her.