Why I stopped “manifesting” clients, (and you can too!)
By: Everest Asher
Tags: Spirituality, Manifesting, Desire, Coaching, Life

Byron Katie defines insanity as “Believing you need something you don’t have.”

When we’re in scarcity mindset, we are believing we need more and we don’t have it. That’s there isn’t enough.

When we’re convinced we need something and we try to manifest it, we get a bit hysterical about it not being here yet. “We need it, it’s not here, it’s not working, why isn’t it working. God hates me.” and like, you don’t NEED it, you just really want it. But you don’t think you can “just have” something so you’re always trying to prove to the universe that it’s really crucial and it needs to pay attention right now and it’s really go time blah blah blah. Basically you’re arguing your point with the universe because you don’t think you deserve it and you’re trying to prove that you do.

Oh yeah, and it’s not working.

If you NEED to eat a piece of pizza right now, you get crazy eyes. You’re all like, whacked out and when you get it you devour it, too much even, zero appreciation, zero tasting. You’re also a hangry psycho until you have it. Whereas if you WANT a piece of pizza, you can want it really really bad and it’s making you excited. You start to fantasize about where you’re gonna get that perfect pizza, you can plan your whole day around it. When you get it you savor it, appreciate it. Whatever we appreciate, we get more of.

When you’re assured that you deserve it, the waiting is DELICIOUS. It’s like foreplay. Fucking my husband when I’ve wanted it all day is way better than a surprise quickie, IMO. And we’re always, always going to be desiring something so the “wait” is always going to be here.

I used to manifest clients based off my needs or their needs. I need a client because ______ and they need me because _______ . But here’s the thing, I never NEED a client and neither do you, and tbh they never NEED me. But I want my clients. They’re the only place in my entire world that I can go full on. Give someone my full power. And watching that go down is fucking electrifying for me. It’s so excited. And they don’t need me because they have major unconscious problems and will die without my coaching, but they want it. Why? Because it’s fucking FUN! Because having your soul mate, or living your dream, or looking and feeling hot or designing your perfect perfect career, or making shit tons more money is just FUN!! It’s more fun than slogging it out at your current level and settling for less.

So instead of “manifesting” my client based on my “needs” or their needs, I get hyped about why this next client would be so fun FOR ME. I don’t worry about who they are or where they are or how they’re going to get to me because I don’t have to. For the pure reason that I WANT it, I get to have it. And all I, or you, ever have to do is put it out there why it would be so fun, so delicious to have this experience, and whet my appetite with that desire, and everything else takes care of itself.

And when you’re getting clear of why you want it you don’t say “well because I would love to buy a truck.” That’s you saying why you want to buy a truck. You get clear by saying “because side splitting LOL attacks with my client about how we can’t believe how little we used to settle for is the most fun part of my week.”

That’s clarity.

My last few clients have all come to me when I have space available and they’re literally so fun. When I was needs manifesting I’d get exactly who I designed but it was way harder and there was just no surprise there. When I put it out there based on desires and say “bring me who you know I’ll like”, I surrender any and all concept of who I think this person needs to be, I say YES to everyone, and trust implicitly that who is brought to me is who I’m meant to serve.

I just filled a spot but this client is so much better than I could have designed and I’m so excited about our work together that I’m now sooo curious to see who else I can party with!

If it’s you come find me!