Before helping someone — Stop and quickly consider those…
By: Bonaventure Barry
Tags: Opinion, Self Improvement, Healing, Angels, Spirituality

Before helping someone — Stop and quickly consider those…

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I really wanted to share this advice with many of you for a long time. Still, I needed to experience it entirely to a point where I know that I have overcome it effectively to be knowledgeable enough to share some thoughts about the subject. Suppose you are having a hard time saying “no” to your friends, family member, or people in your life. In that case, you are not honoring your authentic essence and the blessing you have been giving to reincarnate today on earth.

There are few essential things among many we are supposed to do during our time on earth if we choose to accept the mission

One — Know ourselves as fast as we can through good and bad experiences. All experiences are all the same, with just different polarities (painful or blissful). — A battery doesn’t work if the current doesn’t move from the negative to the positive side. Both polarities are needed to work efficiently. Gain wisdom from good or bad experience, they are all equal.

Two — Discover our divine given talents through our passions — It can be anything you can think of. Just follow the joy and the bliss. — Sometimes, the people close to us can see it better compared to us; listen to them if they are supportive. In addition to that, those talents are not required to be money-generating activities. Still, they have the most potential to bring you abundance and fulfillment.

Three — Use those talents /gifts for your enjoyment and share them with others — If the trees, the ground, the cloud, the wind, and fire were not sharing their gifts with us, we would have never had fruits from the trees, vegetable from the ground, rain from the cloud, fresh air to breathe and fire to cook and mold any metals. You see, the entire world around us know their gifts and talent, and they are sharing them with all of us for our enjoyment. You also have to do so.

At times, it can be hard to focus on ourselves to nourish and grow those talents because we are having a hard time saying “No” to what is not urgent or important.

Here are a few pieces of advice around the topic that can help you see clearly any request for help coming your way.

Consider the nature of the request

Pros and cons of the request. Is it useful, beneficial, or does it remove the issue or delay it further from happening again? Has the person become better as a result of you, granting it? Then decide if you wish to help or not

2) Consider the request’s timing and the person asking

Is it a good time to help? Can you do it without losing something of value to you? Do you need to use your money, time, or attention to something more meaningful? Then decide if you wish to help or not

3) Consider your ability to honor the service or request

Can you do it? Do you have what it takes to do it? Do you have all the backing necessary to do it? Are you knowledgeable about what is asked of you? Then decide if you wish to help or not

4) Consider the impact it will have on you and your relationship today and in the future

What will be the impact for you if you honor the request? Is it worth the effort? How does the person will see you if you do it or don’t? Would they be mad, dislike you, or understand your reasoning? Will the outcome be positive or not? Would it be positive for the person asking or not? Reflect on it a little, Then decide if you wish to help or not

5) Consider and analyze if it will not impact your priorities negatively

Will helping impact your priorities? Will it push you back a couple of months on your plan? Check to see if it will not introduce any negative situation after you have helped? Then decide if you wish to help or not

Remember, don’t expect anything after you helped, do it for love and your good will.

Expecting a payback unless the person agreed to pay it back or return it will lead to disappointment in some cases. The only thing you should expect is that you help improve the other person in any possible ways, and that will be enough.

In some cases, you have to do it without even thinking because of the severity of the issue? Yet, it will also require some discernment. Discern what’s needs to be done and if it is not affecting any of those considerations above, act on it, and provide your best possible service. The one thing to remember is to pay attention to see if the person is grateful or not afterward.

In short, the formula is [ Analyze and use discernment to figure out if it not detrimental to your well being] then decide if you wish to help or not.

We will have different ways and reasons to agree to a request or not. Still, the one reason that is unacceptable is to not think of the impact it will have on us first.

Those are what served me today and allowed me to “get rid of the old” to “make room for the new.” What techniques and reasoning methods are you using to overcome your desire to always say “Yes” to anyone asking for help. Share them in the comment below, and I leave with the love and light of the infinite creator. Go in peace and rejoice.