The 2-Step Procedure To Cure Fear and Become a Confident Person
By: Zehn Ninos
Tags: Self Improvement, Confidence, Personal Development, Fear, Psychology

2. Take action to cure your fear

You can cure every fear with taking the right action. Your action doesn’t have to be perfect. You’ll get to perfection with enough practice. For now, concentrate on taking actions.

You have to start somewhere. Everybody does. That “somewhere” is your first step to cure your fear.

Your fear is nothing but the attitude to a problem you’re facing.

Say you’re afraid of public speaking. But another guy you know kills it in public speaking. What do you think is the difference between you two?

It’s attitude.

Whenever you step onto the stage to speak, your hands shake and legs tremble. You can’t look at your audience in the eyes. All you do is take a quick glance at them and your heart beats faster.

Do you think the guy who’s a damn popular public speaker doesn’t have this stage fright? Does he not fear speaking in front of large gatherings?

Spoiler alert: everyone fears speaking in front of a large crowd. Even the ones who don’t admit that they do. But what separates them from the ones who suck at public speaking is the attitude.

The good news is, you can change your attitude by taking action. Act the way you want to feel. It’s more like fake it till you make it.

You give a big smile when you’re really amused by something or feel genuinely happy. “Feeling something” is the cause and “smiling big” is your reaction to it.

Psychologists say you can evoke the feeling if you can take the action which evokes that feeling.

Whenever you’re feeling down, give a big smile. You will feel happy instantly. This works in every situation where psychology is concerned.

Going back to our previous example, say, you’re afraid of public speaking. Now do exactly what a confident public speaker would do while giving his speech.

Stand with shoulder straight and legs apart, put your hands by your side, and look people in the eyes. You’ll instantly feel like a confident public speaker.

Now do the same to cure every fear you have and you’ll feel like a confident person.

Can’t talk to strangers? Do what a confident person — who’s good at talking to strangers — would do. Be the conversation starter. Say anything. What you say doesn’t matter. But saying does.

Your mind would fool with you by injecting all negative thoughts into your head. You’ll fear you might say something foolish? So what? Even if you do, that’s a start.

Don’t feel embarrassed making a fool of yourself. Just say whatever’s on top of your mind. Don’t think. It’s better not to let your thinking be a part of the conversation. That’s how you gain momentum.

Are you afraid of new settings? Put yourself into every new setting willingly. Go to unknown places full of strangers. Attend parties and large gatherings where you have to meet strangers. Go up to them. Start the conversation.

Can’t maintain eye contact while talking to someone? Challenge yourself to maintain eye contact for as long as you can.

Constant staring might make people feel awkward though. Maintain enough eye contact so that you don’t appear lacking confidence. When you have to look away, look at your sides. Don’t look down. Looking down makes you appear lacking confidence.

This way you can cure all fear relating stemming from lack of confidence. All you have to do is conjure up enough courage to take action.

Once you take action to cure your fear, it’ll become second nature. In time, you’ll become a confident person.