TOGETHER WE CAN CHANGE THE WORLD
By: Claire Gibbs
Tags: Self, Psychology, Self Improvement, Love, Sociology

TOGETHER WE CAN CHANGE THE WORLD

A bold statement, but I believe we can.

Not I, I can’t do it, it needs everyone of you. It needs you to take an honest look at yourself , realise your flaws and consider the paths you have taken to date and consider whether this is where you want to be. Are you being true to yourself, are you being true to others? take responsibility for yourself, accept who you are right now and move forward to be the person you want to be. Just think about where you are at and if you don’t like it, only you can change it, think, what’s important to you and why are you doing what you do? it won’t cost you anything, it won’t take anything from you but it may just change the world as we know it. Ok so maybe I’m hoping for too much, but I love what I’m aiming for right now and to even achieve a tiny bit I will be overwhelmed and have achieved great things, do you love what you are all aiming for right now and if you only get part of it would you still feel you have succeeded or do you want it all?

I’m as much to blame as anyone and I see things clearer than most.Spending more money than the item is worth simply for the achievement of having won but who is the winner? Worse than that the prize is now forgotten and stored out of view. The glory lasted oh but a day, Something worth it now has its value lost.

Is it right that we in a moment waste energy and money on an item lost in time Worthless, not needed yet at the time we had to have it, why? We say we are caught up in something but is that the truth or the excuse?

If everyone moans about others then why are we so quick to follow suit. We need to realise we are Sheep to the slaughter, but whats confusing is we choose to be a sheep.

If I said you had a week to live would you make the choices you make, working late in the office

Buying your child a gift to open on their own to fill a space you should be filling What if I was to tell you you have everything you need. The fault is in you, your failure to see it.Everything we value, everything we need, what if you had it yet never knew.

You carry on searching in the big open space. Never looking inside of you, at who you are, what you have and what’s in view.

What if all you had to do to be happy was look, truly see and appreciated where you are, realign your sight, who’s standing right beside you, you have no need to take flight What if it really was that simply. Would you not feel terribly stupid that you only had to see

While we still have the drive, the passion and love, we need to change our focus We want something , we get it.

We want things to change, then they can. Why follow the sheep when they don’t know where they are going, It takes one person to change the direction of the flock, why not be that person.

Everyone thinks it will take more than they have, but in reality it will not take anything from us, it will give us something back.

How did it get to the point where we are all competing against each other, truth and honesty lost and replaced with greed and power, together anything is possible, against each other is destruction.

People will do anything no matter how absurd in order to avoid facing their own soul. Those that face their own demons are seen as neurotic. People fail to take notice of thoughts and consciousness which is the true definition of insanity.

We are all responsible for the psychological downfall as we are killing the messenger and paying no attention to the message.

We are electromagnetic energy, the heart and brain have a two-way dialogue influencing the others functions. Suggesting that the heart sends far more information to the brain than vide versa, the signals from the heart influence perception, emotional processing and higher cognitive functions. The heart generates the strongest rhythmic electromagnetic field in the body. We are an electromagnetic expression of our highest cognitive function.

All matter contains positive and negative, we need balance of both. We need to deal with our inner demons as to not chemically subject them into the physical world.

When you come across indifference in people you get rid of them. Honest and moral people trying to understand their place in the world become the prime consumer market for those that wish to exploit their vulnerability. Frustration at the lack of power to run our own lives . Everyone is competing again each other to get a piece of something to suggest they have won the prize, only it results in the destruction of the planet which dies with competition.

Everything we hear, every person we come into contact with every word on tv, our subconscious mind is open to all signals and influenced by our environment, are we leading conscious or subconscious lives ?

Too afraid to be free or independent. Unable to take responsibility so blame money. Money is a symbol only, makes people crave one thing, we are empty, sad and lonely and fill our lives with material possessions which creates a dependance on an external force.

Our demons and frustrations are evident in our treatment of others, we are unable to understand our emotions so we treat others badly as they remind us of the hatred in ourselves.

We need to look inside ourselves and change, we need to master the art of living. While there is still some hope left and while some of us still have it in us to question things and face up to who we are we need to use technology to unite rather than distance ourselves from each other. Take the power of our lives back, show understanding, love and compassion towards others and appreciate our differences rather than fight against them. We are all equal and there is a place for all of us in this world living in harmony as oppose to fighting against. We either choose to learn from our differences and advance as a race or fight against and destroy it.

You can think I’m crazy, I’m fine with that, at least you will have thought.

If when asked the question what you would do with one week to live If you would act differently then act now.

Value each day, make a difference today. Try it, you may just feel you are eventually happy.

HAPPINESS

What is happiness?

Happiness means different things to each of us depending on our experiences and the way we deal with them.

In reality very few of us are truly happy. We all search for it so why is it that the reality is, very few of us find it or when we do then we have it for a while only to lose it again.

Happiness to me is about being true to yourself and gives us peace within ourselves given any situation. It’s about knowing who we are and accepting ourselves for who we are, it’s about realising that who we are is constantly changing depending on external factors and how they affect us. We have no control over what is thrown at us but we do have control over how we react to them and how we are affected.

We react to situations based on learnt behaviour; it is an automatic response to a present situation based on past experiences. We have no control over our reactions, we can’t help it and we can’t change it, or rather we believe we can’t because as its automatic we don’t see how as we all agree we have no control over it and therefore believe it can’t be changed and so in our view we know we are right.

What we need to ask is why are we right, we are, but why. We are right because at the time of questioning it or being forced to question it in the event of an argument then we revisit the action and consider our reaction and are lead to the same conclusion.

We consider both parts of the equation and it still adds up to the same answer reinforcing we are right to react as we did, and would do so again if the same action was carried out. So that’s it, nothing we would change, we are happy we did the right thing.

We accept that each of us react differently to situations and we don’t always agree with the reactions of others, feeling that their reaction is wrong. In everyday life we are constantly questioned over our reactions and told we are wrong, told we need to change but we don’t see how this is possible.

When we are confronted about our reactions we stand our ground and fight our own corner because we know we are right, as I have explained about, we have reassessed it, would react the same way and would do it again so we must be right. In cases of arguments we react and then argue with the belief we are right and cant at that point change ourselves even with the best will in the world therefore the fault must lie with another, they must be wrong and not realise it and the argument continues, at that point arguing is pointless, there is never going to be a satisfactory conclusion for both parties, the matter can not necessarily be resolved as both are fighting for the same thing but against each other and getting nowhere, the only option is to deal with it best you can but not overall having resolved the issue or it being in anyway positive to either party therefore no one wins in a situation where there is another possible outcome that rarely is considered – that you both can we right.

Both being right means in the long term you are both right, you are both individually right at the time and both together right going forward. Arguing is then viewed as a positive as oppose to a negative. You can come out of it feeling stronger than you were at the start of it, understood and more at peace with yourself as oppose to feeling like part of you has been lost at the hands of another. In the scenario where part of you is lost each time then the relationship ends when all your parts have been lost, which they will be, there is only so much you can give before you cease to exist at all.

We end up on paths of gradual destructing which in time sees the death of multiple relationships, our true potential never achieved and us questioning the meaning of life, feeling it is cruel to be given something , some glimse of happiness and then have it taken away. Each time we feel a lesser version of ourselves as our parts disappear and fade through no fault of our own.

DO WE PLAY A PART IN OUR DESTINY, CAN WE TAKE CONTROL OF OUR LIVES?

The answer is yes. The answer is, you can have everything you want and keep it, you can have the happiness you crave and life the life you dream of. You may be thinking Im crazy, this cannot be the case, it isn’t possible and you have tried so many times but nothing works out as you hope. I know you can have everything you want and be in control of your life instead of seeing in your future but it passing by in the present and into your past with nothing changing and the stack of wasted dream stacking up as you don’t know how to use them.

We are all aware of what a super hero is, a mythical being with special powers to change the world, to help when no one else can. A superhero can perform a positive act without a negative impact on anyone. What if in the present we have the opportunity to be our own superhero, a change to save ourselves with no destruction to another.

What if we can change our own lives for the better regardless of each of our individual journeys, want doesn’t even cost you anything, it doesn’t take anything from you, it provides you with a constant and finally your safe place from which you can view the world. Instead of the constant flow of the steam eroding you and trying to wash you away, you become a rock in the centre of a slow flowing stream, instead of fighting in the winds of time, forever changing direction and bumping into other people along the way in the same position of trying to save themselves, you have your own constant, your place in the world which is not a physical place but the prison inside ourselves in which we have locked away all our hope and dreams, we finally have the key to unlock our inner self. Since everyone has an inner self, a different version of themselves that they wish to be then we all have the opportunity to seek and find our true selves and to be what we set out to be,

This is when in my view we will feel happiness, when we are true to ourselves and see that those we love are not the enemy, our pasts are not our demons, we are our own nemesis, fight for yourself against yourself and not against others that have joined you for the ride.

Each of us has it within us to grow and learn from each other in a way that serves only to strengthen mankind as oppose to trying to wipe it out.

How To Find Yourself

Going back to where it all went wrong, the point where an action creates a reaction, the point where you are right, the other is wrong and you set off on the wrong path. Let’s look in more detail at this scenario that we took to be unchangeable.

We can’t control the actions of another, we have already discussed and agreed we can’t change our automatic reaction. What we do have is the opportunity to view the situation very differently. If the present action and reaction is as a result of learnt behaviour, as a result of the past then we can’t change the past as we are no longer there. If the present simple serves to carry the past into the future then we serve no purpose at all and we wouldn’t need a control button if the settings had already been set. So there must be some purpose to us having the remote control option to our present and if we want to choose what to watch in the future then we need to use it in the present, to change the channel from what you have watched time and time again in your past.

We thought we couldn’t change the past and its right, we change, but the control we have in the present, while it can’t delete past recordings then it can change the channel onto a different view.

Since we know in the moment of an action followed by a reaction, right, still thinking about the now multiple scenarios where we are right given learnt behaviour then the fault must lie in another. The once perfect partner we at first loved and care for is the cause of our now sadness and our views of them reverse. Everything we want goes wrong and there is nothing we can do to fix. we are at a loss and history is repeating itself time and time again until we accept our fait and settle for less than we need, accept things for what they are and never really achieve our full potential, feeling at a loss as to why and blind to the reasons why. We are left time and time again feeling a whole array of negative feeings about ourselves and each other and other time on a bigger scale this is creating the downward spiral of the destruction of society with each failed relationship taking something from us and leaving us worse than we were, parts of us lose each time.

But what if There is a way you can retain all your parts and even join your parts with those of another to build a super solid structure that is never lost and will never end because this scenario creates a constant and constants don’t change, they remain no matter what. In this set up then you both win , you may not win in that instance but instead over a period of time, time needed to see the situation the same, consider that neither of you with agree you are wrong, and that right to do that, because neither of you are wrng. You are both reacting to the same situation in different ways due to your individual leart behaviours. Everyone goes to school and is taught the same lessons yet when they leave school they all go in different directions. The same lessons have resulted in multiple outcomes each specific to each individual person.

So if we go through the same school system and all end up individual, then why not realise that we may have the same actions happen and both have different reactions depending on our views of the situation.

What we need to do is remember there are multiple outcomes from the same input and all are right and need to be consider. In an argument your partner is as right as you are given what they know and believe. There we have the differences, ‘what we each individually know and believe based on life’s lessons. The next part is where we have the choice to either damage and destroy or the ability to take this situation and listen, understand and learn something which in time will further unite us. Telling the other they are wrong is distructive to both them and you because the same rules apply, we feel we are right and the other person is wrong, we suggest the other should change but never realise that we can change when we view it from a different angle. What if I was to tell you that in the heat of the moment you are both right, neither of you is wrong.

You have both reacted to a situation in accordance to your belief at the time resulting in the automatic response. Yet you see your partner as wrong and think they should change when you already accept that you are incapable and have no control over your automatic response to change it , you expect from another something that you accept you can’t do yourself.

If I was to say, we are all different, unique and react depending on our learnt experiences and external influences and we have a degree of control over the way we let those external influences change us depending on the level of importance we place on them. What is important to each of us is a forever changing list, and what’s important to one is not necessarily to another . It’s about seeing things for what they are and then deciding what matters to us and accepting that we are all human and accepting yourself for who You are, have the confidence to be yourself and think, am i doing the best I can at any given time and even the time. One moment in time doesn’t last, it is constantly changing and over time we change to. Our situations change, things happen that cause us to change, change is possible.

We create ourselves, no one else, us. So why then do we look to everyone else when things go wrong, blame others for things that happen, how we feel. Are we looking for answers in the wrong place, is our attention diverted when it should remain at the core. How do each of us expect to understand anything, be happy with anything and love someone if we do not understand and love ourselves, we are asking of others, complete strangers to give us what we don’t give ourselves. Then we wonder why things go wrong, why we are not happy, why things aren’t working out. If other people or things continuously fix us how can we learn to fix ourselves.

While we remain Mismatched in ourselves we try to fit together when we don’t know our own shape.

To find true, true happiness, true love and contentment we first need to be true to ourselves.

Searching outwards for something having not first looked with in. Easier that way, always someone to blame. You think others should change but rarely yourself. Yet what if I was to tell you if you first blame yourself, if I say it’s perfectly ok to be at fault, that success comes with looking at the failures of yourself. Only then can you see the full picture, realise your place in the world, your strengths and weaknesses. We are all the same, born with nothing and created by influence. Perhaps you are as you are due to others, but they are not the fault, that lies with you the moment you pass the reins, let others rule and take charge and then wonder why it’s not the path you would choose, you are lost and can’t find your way. Blindly led but your eyes were open, all you had to do was see.

Be yourself, be true and live an honest life, only then will you find peace and be capable of giving and receiving love unconditionally .