My COVID Christmas: How My Fiancé And I Are Making It Special
By: Sara Knick
Tags: Holidays, Covid 19 Crisis, Christmas, Relationships Love Dating, Covid 19

COVID has been affecting people. The news is still coming out with stories surrounding COVID. In the United States, there are 315,793 deaths and 17,379,773 confirmed cases as of today. My fiancé and I have been wearing masks when we go out only when we need to. We’ve also been making the house feel “Christmas-y” around this holiday season.

We want COVID to go away, but it’s still out there existing. It feels like being in a movie with no ending at this point. Everything has been drawn out with no conclusion. It’s tiring and exhausting wanting to feel a conclusion to this nightmare, but new data and new stories keep surfacing around this topic of COVID.

There are limited events and gatherings this year within the community that we can go to. It is advised still that everyone only get together around the people that they live with in their immediate households. There isn’t much joy in that because the holidays are all about extending our joy and feeling joy in the community and with those that we don’t get to see all year, but with these limitations, we are having to deal with the holidays in different and new ways.

My fiancé and I love each other. We have been doing things around the house and for each other that have been supportive and in the spirit of the holidays. In our downtime and in the moments that we’ve got together, we’ve been making the most of them. We’re both busy, but still communicate to each other by phone. I’ll call him in the middle of the day and send texts throughout the day.

During this holiday season, my fiancé bought me a surprise holiday unicorn so that we could put it on the front lawn. My fiancé also set up blue lights that cover the house at night and create a nice backlit effect for the unicorn. I set up the small Christmas tree in our window with multicolored lights. I set up the stockings… one for me and one for my fiancé. I set up the holiday linens in the kitchen. I got out Christmas smelling candles for the living room. I put out holiday decorations in the front room. I filled my fiancé’s stocking and ordered all of his gifts. I also got out my Christmas clothing! My fiancé made two different types of vegan cookies for us… salted caramel and chocolate chip! We also have been watching Christmas movies that my fiancé searches for and surprises me with.

The holidays are difficult for us because our moms have both passed away. There are certain reminders of our moms that make us sad now that we do not have them around anymore.

My fiancé and I have both contributed to the feeling of the holidays within our own home and beyond to make sure that we know that we love and value each other. Yesterday morning my fiancé texted me that he appreciates me and sees my efforts. He also told me that he values me and that he is proud of me. I am very appreciative of him and feel very supported by him.

We’ve learned that through tragedy, mistakes and loss that those people that continue to stay in our lives are special. We’ve been there for each other when life got very difficult. The holidays this year has been our chance to connect on a deeper level, but to also have fun and joy in the process. We are grateful for each other and realize that both of our efforts combined can help in making the holidays special.