Stereotyping the Guys
By: William, Dollar Bill
Tags: Nonfiction, Prostitution, Culture, Sex Work, Education

Stereotyping the Guys

A view from underneath

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While mainstream society certainly has its well-known stereotypical attitude toward sex workers, few in the square world even consider the preconceptions upon which “providers” labor when dealing with customers who pay them for their services.

Servicing five to ten individuals a day on a very intimate basis, the girls build their wall to safeguard not just their personal safety — but their emotional safety as well. Quick judgments as well as ingrained attitudes all seemingly serve the working girl in this pursuit.

The first stereotype applies to black men. Squares may argue whether black men are in actuality larger, more long-winded, more dangerous, and less likely to leave a gratuity than their white or Asian counterparts. But working girls certainly don’t. The mythology applies. And given that a pro in the business seeks to exercise conservation while ensuring her safety, many just won’t see black guys — or especially — black men of the thug variety.

But beyond this obvious stereotype, the professional working girl has a certain attitude about anybody who walks through her door. And that is — he’s a trick. The derivation of that word comes from the idea that a girl is supposed to trick her customer into blowing his load before he has a chance to enter her vagina.

The program is to use her hands, mouth, or whatever to get the guy off so she can save wear and tear on her precious vaginal orifice. So right off — the hustle is on. Get the guys’ money with as little effort as possible. It’s The Battle of the Sexes played out in a professional arena.

Working girls are pragmatic in that they basically judge a guy by the size of his dick, his wallet, and the cleanliness of his body. They’ll always ask him what he does for a living when he calls. But she doesn’t really give a shit about who or what he is beyond the safety issue. Just so he isn’t a cop or a freak who’s going to hurt her, his personal info is of very little interest (unless he’s famous — that’s a big turn-on).

They view Indians, Pakis, and Arabs as dirty and aren’t fond of allowing them entry. They view Asians as clean, small, civilized, and worthy as customers. While they respect a guy for having a big dick, they often don’t want to see him because he’s likely to put a lot of mileage on the old chassis — or even put it out of commission for the day!

Attitudes and preconceptions vary as to the ethnicity of the working girl as well. Americans, regardless of color, generally have the worst attitude about the people who buy them their food, shoes, drugs, bling etc. They’re dirty tricks until proven otherwise. Asians are a little more tolerant. They view their chosen path as a craft and are a little more appreciative of guys who indulge in paying money for sex.

In general, girls from other countries have a better attitude than Americans — or at least that’s the case within the borders of the USA. Maybe in Europe, it’s the European girls who are the trash — and the Americans the class. I’m sure the rule has its exceptions but on balance, the fundamentals basically apply.

In closing, judgments and preconceptions born of stereotypes are ubiquitous in our global society and aren’t likely to go anywhere anytime soon. So why wouldn’t working girls judge their customers as well? It’s just human nature.