How to Spot TOXIC “Friends”
By: Avery Reding
Tags: Toxic Relationships, Friends, Relationships, Toxic Friendships, Friendship

1.) Full of Jealousy

Jealously is a common sign in toxic friendships. Have you ever been excited about something you just bought or earned in success? You can’t wait to tell your best friend and then…. their reaction is not what you expected. It is filled with irritation and annoyance, either in their voice or face. They are NOT happy for you. They are JEALOUS you have something that they don’t. A true friend would be excited with you! They’d congratulate you, talk to you about it and make you feel even better. You’re not bragging, it is normal for someone to want to tell their close ones about their success.

2.) The Bad Influence

Somehow a toxic friend has the ability to pass their toxic traits onto others. You may feel your behavior changing when you hang out with this friend. You might not realize it because you are getting a thrill out of it and having “fun”. Whether it’s drinking, going out every night, participating in illegal actions, or even just constant gossiping. If you or anyone else notices you’re changing while you’re with this friend, it’s definitely not a good sign. Remember it’s your actions and choices that determine the long run. Is it worth it?

3.) Manipulative Mood Swings

Do you ever find yourself feeling emotionally drained after an argument with you best friend? It’s because they lack YOUR empathy. They don’t feel your pain. So pay attention to what they say when their mad at you. That’s what they’ve been waiting to say to you. Toxic people tend to say the most hurtful words on PURPOSE because they know what gets to you. a few hours later they’ll most likely message you apologizing and acting like everything is fine. That is NOT okay. Do not accept their apologies hours after the argument. You really think they care or are truly sorry after all the things they just said?

4.) The User of All Things

This topic is pretty straight forward. How do you feel; when you get a call like… “Hey, could you give me ride here?” Of course! because you have a good heart and their your friend right? You think it’s just a one time thing, but then it becomes repetitive. One thing about toxic people they also like take up and use your time. “Hey, could I borrow this shirt?” Sure! I don’t even where it anymore! Yeah right… then it’s walking out of your closet with 5 other shirts saying I’ll wash them and give them back. “Can I borrow $10 for gas? I’ll pay you back.” You know their lying, or it’ll take weeks for them to give it back to you… but you’re too nice! WELL STOP! They are using you, do NOT invest in them any longer. Trust me, You’ll regret it.

5.) They Constantly Put You Down

One thing you need to know about toxic friends is, that they are so unhappy with them selves, so they feel as if they need to take you down with them. They are so self-centered that they never consider your feelings. Always doubting your words and actions, making you feel like you shouldn’t try. They belittle your dreams and beliefs because they don’t want you to succeed.

6.) Not So Friendly Competition

A toxic friends favorite thing to do is to secretly compete with you. This is why they get jealous over your achievements and success. They are comparing themselves to you in every way they can. Now, don’t get me wrong. All friends can have friendly competitions. You can tell the difference between when a friend is happy for you rather than mad. Have you noticed that when a toxic friend achieves something, they might act like they are better than you for a little while and blow you off. Until… They need you back.