THIS IS WHY YOU FAIL
By: Ifrah Raza
Tags: Failure, Lifestyle, Inspiration, Fail, Motivation

You often find yourself asking questions like “hey, why am I not making any progress?”, “why is this so hard?”, “why can’t I be good enough?” or “why do I keep failing?”, in the middle of the night, clinging to your pitiful life. And you are often told that failure is essential, that failure is this ‘glorified shortcoming’ that you are somehow seeking right from the start, the ultimate goal. But the truth is that failure is, indeed, the singular most bitter reality to deal with, a hard pill to swallow and the most tenacious adversity to process. It doesn’t matter how much the losers glorify it and try to make it appear like some desired result, the truth is bitter, hard and painful: you don’t want to fail, whatsoever.

But if you’re stuck in the spherical cycle of moving past your failure, here are some points to highlight why you even fail to begin with.

YOU MAKE EXCUSES

Isn’t making up a reason and sneaking away from a problem, the best way to overcome it? No. And yet we find ourselves doing exactly the same. We fail when we stop seeking the truth, we fail when we delude ourselves into believing that we are trying when the reality is the opposite of it. “I wasn’t born talented”, “I don’t have enough money”, “my parents are always fighting”, “I don’t have enough time”, “I’m tired” how many times have you given yourself these reasons? Don’t let your conditions, past and lack of resources define you. Break free from this cycle and tell yourself “I can.”

YOU ARE NOT TRYING HARD ENOUGH

Maybe you study 8 hours a day but getting the highest score in class requires you to study for 10 hours. Maybe you work 10 hours a day but getting that promotion requires that you work 12 hours. Maybe you’re putting in enough hours but what you truly need is a new strategy. The gist is that you need to try and try again, be smart enough to calculate where you’re lacking and turn it around by starting all over again. You don’t need excuses, you need results.

YOU ARE IMPATIENT

Bingo! We live in a World that runs on instant gratification. You posted that picture on instagram an hour ago and you keep checking your phone every 5 minutes to see the number of likes you’ve reached on it. Simon Sinek, a motivational speaker and the author of five books including ‘leaders eat last’ and ‘start with why’ says that,

“I keep meeting these hard-working, smart kids and they’ve just graduated high school, they’re on their entry level job. I sit down and ask them, “hey how’s it going?” they go, “I think I’m gonna quit.” I ask why and they say “I’m not making an impact” and I say “you’ve been here for eight months!”

Results take time. You can’t expect to become a billionaire overnight only if you keep dreaming. Dream big, set goals, device a plan, put your all into it, and wait. Patience is key, they tell you time and time again. But it’s only the truth.

YOU GIVE UP

You don’t fail when you fail, you fail when you give up. Failing doesn’t mean that you should stop trying. If one method fails, plan another. Failure is the constant reminder of whether you are working down the right path or if it needs amendments made to it. Persistence wins. Giving up too early means that you never had a firm resolve to begin with. Failure never gives you a reason to give up, it only gives you a reason to try harder.

Jack Ma, the famous Chinese Billionaire and philanthropist failed 5 times in School, got rejected from 30 jobs and Harvard rejected him 10 times. When asked about how he coped with it he said “if you don’t give up you still have a chance. Giving up is the biggest failure.”

You fail when you see yourself as a failure and dwell on it. Failing once, twice or even thirty times doesn’t make you a failure as long as you’re still trying.

YOU FEAR FAILURE

We’ve all been there, done that. The desperation and misery succeeding the atrocity of failure renders us scared and hopeless, pessimistic and unreformed. We cry, hurt and give up because our bodies and minds are designed to avoid pain at all cost. Ever wonder why trauma even exists? Why can’t you ride that swing you fell off as a child? Why does the broken marriage of your parents frightens you to get married, too? Why does failing a grade scares you off from school? It is completely alright to take a break for a day or two, to mourn your loss and reflect upon your shortcomings. But you must always come back. And you must always come back stronger. Break free from the cycle, train your body and your mind to look beyond the obvious, try to look at the bright side even in the dimmest of the nights, even when there is no bright side. And know that the best things come to those who try again.

So get back up, and work-hard once more. Try again for the life you have ahead of yourself. Trust the process and know that as long as you’re being smart with your choices, nothing can stop you from trying again.