5 Surprising ways to ever reach Self-Acceptance: Life Tip!
By: Wumi Loye
Tags: Self Improvement, Anxiety, Self Love, Lifehacks, Stress

Do you ever feel like you’re not enough? Like as much as you want to be yourself, you’re worried about how people might perceive you? Or do you ever feel alone? If you’ve ever felt this way at any point in your life, you’re in the right place because this post is for you!

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At some point in my life, I used to feel this way as well. I would dream of having the perfect body; wish to be like someone. I’d be so angry at myself because someone else was better than I was. I would blame the way I was on my childhood, environment, or anything I could think of at that moment. I guess it’s safe to say I had low self-esteem.

I’m a slim and tall lady, and I hated how long my legs were, although I do not know why. I also used to want to gain weight and be fat. But after so many trials, I thought to myself: “what if I don’t like how I look when I gain weight?” or “what if I have to start doing exercise to lose my tummy fat?” or “what if I’m still not happy after I gain weight?”

So trust me when I say that I know how this feels. Without further ado, I’ll share the surprising ways I got out of this phase of my life.

1. Meditation and Journaling

I would describe this as being mindful, focusing on a particular thing, and being stable. Although, I’ve not been so consistent as I should. Let’s say I’m about 81% dedicated, is that not a pass? I know!!!!

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In the morning after devotion, I would sit on my bed, listen to the meditation playlist from my phone. Other times, I would sit silent and think of the things I’m grateful to have in my life.

It has helped me to be in tune with my mind, to be conscious of my feelings. Imagine how I want my day to look like, the things I would love to achieve for the day. I do this for about 5–10 minutes. Right after this, I go on to journaling.

Journaling is like a mind dump for me. It aids my self-awareness, helping me understand that I am in control of my life. I write my daily tasks and any other thing that is on my mind at that point.

In the evenings, when I’ve been home all day, I take walks in the evening and enjoy nature.

At night, if I was at work that day, here’s what I do before going to bed, I lay on my bed, reminisce on how my day went. Checking if I achieved any of the things I wrote down in the morning. The goals I achieved and could not achieve. I reflect on how to be better, and right after that, I engage in my night devotion and go to bed.

Trust me, before I started this, I thought it was time-consuming. I would think: “who has the time to sit for 10 minutes? I have better things to do”. But to be honest, nothing takes time if we want to do it, and this process has proved it to me.

2. Daily Affirmations

It is another beautiful thing to do every day. I write down statements, the kind of woman I want to be, and I speak them to myself. I also reassure myself of God’s promises to me. It has helped me to understand myself and the kind of person I’m growing to be. If you’re finding this hard to do, you can check youtube for videos relating to this. You can also tell yourself the things you love about yourself. On days when I’m not feeling up to it, I say to myself, “it’s not that bad” or “it’s something you can handle, keep going” These things might seem like it doesn’t mean much, but it goes a long way. It helps you remind yourself that only you have control over your mind, happiness, and life.

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3. Cleaning, Reorganizing, and Decluttering Environment

A clean environment helps me think well; it helps to increase my productivity. It helps reduce the way I’m stressed and my anxiety level. Sometimes, I also reorganize and declutter my room. It makes me feel like I’m in a new environment. It makes me feel energized and excited. Try reorganizing, or get a potted plant or a frame, something to spice up your environment. You’ll thank me!

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4. Self-Care

My dear reader, I wish you knew how important this is, get your hair done, facials, manicures, and pedicures. If you know me, you know I’m always up for anything princess treatment. It’s not every time you need a new set of skincare products. Sometimes, all you have to do is take care of yourself from the inside. Take some time off the internet, read that book, take that vacation, don’t always go so hard on yourself!

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5. Be Kind To Everyone

It might seem like an easy thing to do but trust it helps. It is as easy as giving compliments, gifting someone with something, helping your friends, meeting a need. All these make you see yourself in a type of way. It helps to bring out the good in you, which makes you feel better about yourself.

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After growing myself in all these things listed above for you, do I still want to gain some weight? Yes, I do! It is not because I want to look a type of way but because I want to be healthy, and I don’t want to be underweight for my age.

The Holy Spirit made me understand, if I am in the image of God, I don’t have to wish to have a perfect body when I already have one!

I must thank you for reading up to this point, you have my heart :). I’m sure you now understand that there is always room for you to love yourself if you want to. Choose to accept yourself the way you are; take your time, and ease yourself into the process of growth.

Remember, what matters most is that you’re taking a step. God loves you, and I love you too.

Love xx,

Wumi Loye.