I WANT MY SON TO CHOOSE
By: Nameless Bistro G
Tags: Baby, Social Media

Hey guys, today I will be writing about a very important piece, I get to expose a very important part of me. (My SON) That’s right, I am a happy and blessed mother besides all my other titles. My Son is my everything. I know every mom says that and it’s TRUE, there is no greater feeling in this world than birthing and having a child. I usually believe its God’s only way of giving us a little taste of the fatherly love He has for us because as parents we know what we feel for our kids and to what extents we would go for them.

We live in a world characterized fully by social media. A world where everyone is a reality show by themselves and have an audience that cannot help but observe, comment and/or share. A world where likes and shares is total validation. Today we find parents creating facebook and instagram accounts for their kids as a way of showing them to the world and saving memories for the kids to see when they are grown. Oh how I love those very cute pics of the babies and the captions that mimic the little angles’ voice.you guys how cute is that? I admire those who do it and do find it cute

NOT ME, PLEASE

Spoiler Alert!!!, I do NOT do that. Call me old school or anything else, pictures of my son never made or make it to social media, not even on my whatsapp status. Atleast, not at this young stage of his life. Mind you, he is a very handsome and healthy little guy(I am grateful for that), I am not hiding him, I am saving him the opportunity to choose,I want him to have an opinion of himself before the world through social media gives him one. I also want to save my son the opportunity to make his own entrance into the world and use his own words to say his own things and pass aon his own message(s). I am of the opinion that we unconsciously build a styreotype for our kids and force them to fit in when we expose them so much on social media at young ages. This is how they find themselves not fitting in or looking down on th ose they think do not fit in…etc or many more misharps that the idea of social media representations can bring.

Another reason, and this is me being very real, is that I feel like this is my time to have him all to myself. I call it the exclusive factor. hahahah!!!, he is growing fast but I am enjoying these moments with him and I will chereish them for ever because soon he will be all grown up and I will be sharing him with many more people than I want to so i am saving him all to myself for now, no exposure.

If you ask me what I do about saving pictures of him, I will share with you this awesome, I mean really cool method I came up with. Before his birth, I created an email adress for him, Gmail to be precise. I wrote him a welcome to earth letter, his dad too and a couple of important family members and friends did the same to. all those lie in his email until he is big enough to read and understand, i will hand him this email and password. In those letters we include a lot of advice we believe he might need growing up or at some stage in his life. I have also so far, sent him pictures of all his milestones and will continue to. That way, he will get an intentional achive of things to gather from. To add, i share with him all pictures I think have a place in his baby album with him on google photos. He will get access to them as soon as he gets access to the said email account and password.

This is how I make use of Social Media for my Son. and so far, I am loving it. Please share with me your thoughts and hit the clap too. See you soonest for my next write up.

Much love, Bistro G.