The 10 Best Places to Have Sex in Public (and Not Get Arrested)
By: M. Howard
Tags: Sex, Sexuality, Travel, Relationships, Risk Taking

The 10 Best Places to Have Sex in Public (and Not Get Arrested)

You know you want to risk it, you just don’ want to get caught.

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I dated a guy recently who was one of those “I’m up for anything — anytime, anywhere” types. We both got a thrill out of doing things that were risque and adventurous and sex was no different.

Camping out in the woods one weekend in an unestablished campground, we found ourselves walking down to the nearby river to cool off after we set-up camp.

As we waded around in the knee-high water, I eyed a large, flattish rock in the middle of the river that looked big enough to hold us both. I suggested to him that we move over to it and he waded over with me. Before I knew it, my dress was pulled up and he was behind me and inside me, while the river thrashed wildly all around us.

Despite the fact that we could be caught by other campers who may have ventured by, we took a risk and had sex on a rock in the middle of the river.

Sometimes the risk is worth the reward. Having sex in public places can be worth the risk if you know how to choose your location wisely and you and your partner can maximize your stealth abilities.

It doesn’t take a lot of pre-planning to have sex in public, but it does require some general rules to follow which allow you to go undetected for risk-free penetration.

There are a few things to consider before you begin thinking about having sex in public. One is your clothing. For women, dresses and skirts make a great option because they can allow easy access and can also be rearranged in a hurry if you are caught. For men, unzipping your pants and leaving them up can allow for easy adjustments, and wearing a longer shirt, sweatshirt, or coat that could hide your boner if you don’t have time to zip up can also be useful.

Another point to consider is the time of day. Nighttime is always easier for hiding in the shadows than during the day, but sometimes you will not have the option to have sex at night. Therefore, if you must have your tryst during the day, be aware of how visible you may be to others.

Finally, the last thing to think about is the “getting caught factor.” In some situations, it won’t be detrimental to get caught unawares by a stranger while you are in the throes of having sex, but there are definitely people who could catch you and the outcome would be much more devastating. Spouses or partners catching their significant other with their lover, a police officer citing you on indecent exposure charges, or a professional career where you may be exposed later at work might be reason enough to error on the side of caution. Understanding your possible “getting caught factor” will help you decide if this is the right risk for you.

10. Parked car

This is a great one for beginners who are trying out public sex for the first time. The risk is all in the location of where you choose to park. Nighttime is usually the safest bet. Find a place where little traffic or pedestrians are going to walk by. Alleyways, remote roads, and deserted parking lots can all allow you enough privacy to get the job done.

Things to consider: You need to be aware of your surroundings. Deserted business parking lots might seem like a safe bet, but if you are caught by late-night security drive-bys or the police (especially if you are the only car in the lot), you will be given a talking to and asked to leave.

9. Parking garage

Slightly more risky than a car parked in a remote location is a car parked in the middle of the city. This one can be a lot of fun at night or even during the day, again given the fact that you know how much pedestrian and car traffic might be present. Parking garages tend to have a lot of lights on during the night but can be pretty deserted during the day, depending on their location. If you have tinted windows, a large SUV with fold-down seats, a van with an area to lay down or you just want to try for foreplay instead, the parking garage can be a great option.

Things to consider: Some parking garages have security patrols or cameras.

8. Public restroom

One of the best options for the daytime is a public bathroom. It is private, single bathrooms allow you to lock the door for safety, and going into one will not attract too much attention. You may have to compete with strange looks when you come out with your partner, but it beats getting caught with your pants down.

Things to consider: Bathrooms can be smelly and not very clean. I do not recommend port-a-potties either — for obvious reasons.

7. Park

Any location outside is a great option for sex in public. It allows you the ability to hide more easily and can be fun when it comes to wandering around to find a perfect location. This is a good option for daytime sex because most parks are closed at night and you run the risk of someone seeing you if you are walking around with your flashlight phone lit up like a Christmas tree. Parks with woods tend to have areas that are remote and more private than large open parks with playgrounds and soccer fields. Choose your park wisely.

Things to consider: Parks can be busy, especially during nice weather. The last thing you want is a child or family coming upon you while you are in a compromising position. Make sure you are well-enough off the beaten path before you pull down your pants.

6. Hiking trail

Nature can be both wildly romantic and downright dirty for having sex. A hiking trail provides a great location where you can wander off the trail (if it’s safe of course) and find a nice place to get down. They can also be very remote and free of strangers, so this is a good daytime option for those who find themselves looking to get laid in Mother Nature. Not to mention a trail empty of other hikers with a waterfall nearby will make it all the more memorable.

Things to consider: Trails can be busy with foot traffic or unsafe to travel off. Be sure to be aware of your surroundings; if there are many people around or you are not in a location that affords you the ability to go off-trail, don’t risk it.

5. Hot springs

Keeping with our nature theme, hot springs can be a very romantic and arousing time to have sex. Established hot springs can give you some privacy or if you are with others, you can usually sit near your partner in the steaming water to at least get a little frisky.

Things to consider: As with any kind of sex in water, hot tubs and hot springs can be just that — hot. Sex in water is difficult enough because of lubrication, so be aware.

4. Hotel rooftop

Hotels have many different places where you and your partner can sneak away from the prying eyes of others and have sex. A hotel rooftop is private, remote, and sexy as hell. Peering out on the city while you are in the middle of sex is thrilling and erotic. It will make for a memorable experience for you both and you won’t have to worry about making too much noise.

Things to consider: Accessing a hotel rooftop can be tricky. Some hotels don’t have rooftop access as well, so play it safe and save this one for one of those rare occasions when you can both find the access and not get caught.

3. Balcony

A balcony railing is a great place to hold on, to lean on, or to be tied to in an act of kinky dominance. Balconies make great places to have sex because they can be private or public. A balcony can allow you to be outside during the day or night and not attract too much attention to yourself if you do it right. A man standing behind a woman would not look too obvious during the day if there weren’t a large number of people who could view the balcony. A balcony at night provides a good deal of privacy if it has walls on either side or is dark enough to hide you.

Things to consider: Some balconies have very little privacy during the day. If you decide to have sex on a balcony, check to make sure it isn’t too busy or visible.

2. Nude beach

If you are fortunate enough to live near a nude beach and you don’t mind a little sand in your shorts, this is a great option for public sex. Not only do you have other individuals who are more open-minded to that sort of thing nearby, but you have the luxury of not looking odd or out of place by being naked. A blanket or two can provide you with some privacy and keep you from getting too sandy in places you don’t want to try and deep clean later.

Things to consider: You shouldn’t assume that because you are at a nude beach that everyone there wants to watch you have sex. Still error on the side of caution and try to find a secluded or private area where there won’t be a lot of people meddling into what exactly you are doing.

1. Sex club

Finally, a place where you will be appreciated and encouraged to bare it all and get it on. A sex club is a fantastic place to explore your voyeuristic or exhibitionist side. If you want to be watched, a sex club is the place for you to have sex in public. Some sex clubs also have private rooms where can copulate without having to perform in front of others if that is not your thing. However, if you find the idea arousing, you will not only be able to have sex in a safe and comfortable environment, but you’ll also be able to watch others. It’s a win-win situation for public sex.

Things to consider: Most sex clubs have memberships and cost money to join. I also realize they are also not as prevalent as parks, parking lots, and restrooms. But they sure are fun.