This Is How You Control Anger!
By: Shashwat Jha
Tags: Peace, Calm, Peace Of Mind

In some situations we lose our temper, but it is only later that we realize our stupidity. By then it is too late. So the solution to this is that there is no need to control anger. Right now, are you angry? No. So why should you control something that does not exist? How can you control something that does not exist?

Anger is a certain level of unpleasantness, both for you and everyone around you. Most of the time you suffer more than your victim. And when you get angry, you could do the most idiotic things of your life. It is definitely not an intelligent way to exist.

Being angry about something or the other comes from a strong sense of likes and dislikes. This comes from a very deep identification of a certain way of thinking and feeling, which according to you, is the best way to live, think and feel. When someone is not in line with that, you get angry with them. As your likes and dislikes and your identifications with something or the other become stronger, all that you are doing is excluding the existence. If you say, “I like this very much,” you are excluding the rest of the existence in a big way at that moment. The stronger the like or dislike becomes, the deeper the exclusion becomes. Anger overflows because you have not included someone or something as a part of yourself. The very process of liberation is to include, not exclude. In inclusion, you become liberated. The day when everything, the whole existence, is included in you, you are liberated. In exclusion you become trapped, you become separate.

Anger is Your Creation

You do not wish to be angry, of course, but it is happening because you are creating an outside source for what is happening within you – which is not true. Just see that it is something that you are creating. Why are you creating something that you do not want? There is only one basic cause – you are ignorant of yourself.

If you knew how your system functions and how to manage this system, why would you create anger? Anger is not only damaging the external situation, it is also damaging the internal situation. People are causing enormous amounts of anger within and creating health problems for themselves. Accordingly, consequences will happen for external situations.

For every action that you perform, there is a consequence. You cannot avoid the consequence. When you cannot avoid the consequence, action should be controlled. Actions can be controlled only if a human being is controlled within himself. When he is in perfect balance, only then will he perform harmonious action. Still there are consequences; that is always there. There are enough consequences in the life process as it is. You do not have to go about creating new consequences for yourself.

So, especially if situations around you are rotten, is it not very important that you keep yourself in the most pleasant possible manner and see how to spread this pleasantness around you? If your actions were coming from your intelligence, this is how you would act. If situations around you are hopeless, it is all the more important that you keep yourself as beautiful as possible and see how to make it happen. Whatever you are, that is what you will spread around you. If you are angry, you will spread anger. With anger, more unpleasantness will come into the situations around you.