How to Say ‘No’
By: Yusuf Kranda
Tags: People, Conversations, Nonprofit, Right, Relationships Love Dating

We all know that being approved and liked is one of the most important needs of people. From time to time, just in order to meet this need, people throw their wishes aside and ask them “YES” in order to meet the demands and expectations of other people; They say “NO” by postponing their wishes and expectations.

But here it is important to be able to balance the noes and the yeses we say to other people very well. Because one of the definitions of mental health is to adapt to the expectations of yourself and society in a balanced way. In other words, establishing the proper balance is a clear determinant of mental health.

If you think you will be loved and adopted by accepting everything, you are wrong. Being able to say no means that we are in control of our lives. Is there a more accurate way of saying no without hurting the other?

Generally recommended method;

1) Repeating what is requested from you in your own words, 2) Then, stating your reason together with why you did not agree, 3) No is the use of expressions that will make it easier for your answer to be accepted by those who ask you something. 4) Take your time and be patient. 5) Do not apologize too much, 6) Try not to bend under pressure, 7) Make an effort to show that you are on the same side with the other person and to understand this.

What is Empathy?

Empathy is the act of putting ourselves in the other’s shoes. The definition of the concept of empathy consists of three basic elements.

1) The person who will empathize should put himself in the place of the other person and look at the events from his perspective. 2) In order to be considered empathetic, we need to understand the feelings and thoughts of the other person correctly. 3) The last element in the definition of empathy is the behaviour of conveying the empathic understanding formed in the mind of the person who empathizes to the other person.

Empathy differs from sympathy

Having sympathy for a person means having the same feelings and thoughts as that person. If we sympathize with the other person, we will suffer or be happy with him.

When we empathize, it is essential to understand the feelings and thoughts of the other person. We do not have to put ourselves in the shoes of the person we sympathize with and understand him; It is essential to be a “supporter” in sympathy.

When we empathize, we don’t have to share the same feelings and opinions with the other person; we just try to understand his feelings and thoughts. It is one thing to understand a person, another to justify him. Understanding in empathy, and sympathy, whether we understand or not, is about giving rights to the other.

Episode Summary

The topic of the fifth week was effective communication. In this context, detailed information was given on effective communication techniques.

Definition of communication concept, communication process and its elements, effective communication process, communication barriers and communication development methods, communication styles and choice of communication channels.

The subjects were emphasized. In addition, impressive communication skills are covered. Finally, the department was terminated by discussing issues such as empathy and not being able to say no.