You Need These 3 Coaches to Succeed in Life
By: Eir Thunderbird
Tags: Fitness, Mental Health, Feminism, Coaching, Parenting

You Need These 3 Coaches to Succeed in Life

As Bill Gates said at the beginning of one of his Ted Talks, “everybody needs a coach”.

Photo by Sarah Cervantes on Unsplash

Maturing made me realize that I will start now paying for things if I am expecting quality. For this reason, I pay a member account for different online services. Also, I ask for help from external people on topics where I do not have the experience nor the expertise to tend for myself. Not to mention that I do also pay for simply having my handhold during a new journey.

And all this makes me feel like a woman that knows what she wants.

I wasn’t always like that. Part of it was due to not affording it. Services, in general, come with a price, of course. But I was also vain to believe that I can do everything by myself. I was deluding myself that by not requiring help, I was in control. Unfortunately, it was the exact opposite.

When I had less time on my hands, I understood the value of being supported by the expertise and professional individuals. Up until then, I had no restrictions on taking my time. But was the time effectively used?

After I became a mother, my personal time reduced dramatically. I had no time for basic hygiene so any complex undertakings, such as getting back into shape or leisure time, were simply out of question.

As I was putting hours into raising my son, I was also piling up frustration, tiredness, and eventually, anger. I was forgetting an important rule they tell us during the pre-flight safety briefings:

Passengers should also heed the instruction to put on their own oxygen mask before helping others put on their masks. Passengers who have put on their own oxygen masks will be fully capable of helping others in nearby seats, but passengers who do not may become impaired before they are able to help others or themselves.

Widely applicable to many situations beyond the initially intended context, this instruction translates into the simple advice of tending for yourself to be able to take care of the others (including infants).

One day I finally realized I was not being selfish for asking and taking personal time away from the baby. At the same time, I also came to the conclusion that a coach can help one gain more focus on goals by achieving them more effectively. You know that saying: “we’re too poor to afford to buy cheap things”. As counterintuitive as it may sound, in fact, we end up spending more (on frequent replacements, for instance).

Final Thoughts

As we age, we also begin appreciating time more, over money. Thus, hiring a coach makes a lot of sense. Some examples of coaches:

Fitness & nutrition coach — yes, you can do it on your own too, but if you are new to it, a coach will help you get a head start on your health goals.

Therapist — yes, you can study psychology by yourself and use your friends for venting, but you might take years to reach the same level of a therapist.

Financial consultant — yes, you could do fine with basic savings but hey, who doesn’t want to avoid relying on their pension alone when they retire? Well, a financial consultant can help you understand how to invest some of your money, while you can. And this kind of insight requires domain expertise.

The list can go on with different other areas ranging from business to love affairs. We live in a world of services. For any need, there is — or soon will be — a service to fulfill it.

We can’t and shouldn’t try to be the experts on everything. We should also not limit ourselves to self-sufficiency. At the end of the day, this is how we help the economy grow.

Love,

/ET