10 ‘C-Words’ that’ll make your life better!
By: Prajwal Shukla
Tags: Self Improvement, Success Story, Life Lessons

Hello There!

Colossal to know that you are reading. I agree, the title does sound like a random clickbait article/blog on buzzfeed, but it’s nothing like that. What you’re about to read are the learnings of my life, for a period of over 2 years, I won’t express any details of the story or experience that made me come up with these because that would make this blog pretty lengthy, I’d rather simply explain how, why and what are the benefactors of each learning. Let us begin now:

The first word is so popular that almost everyone wants it, but almost always miss an opportunity to be it. I’m talking opposite of hot, this is what was coming to Westeros.

1. Cool:

If you received a rupee for every time you’ve used this word, how rich would you be? Starting at a young age of 9, your friend does something out of the ordinary and you simply learn the word “COOL!” a.k.a. “Cool Bro/Dude”. You try doing things that actors perform on screen, or something cool you’ve seen on the internet trying to impress people, earn a little social status and most of the time, it backfires, you’re mocked upon, left humiliated/embarrassed. This moment, this exact moment is really the part where you get the opportunity to be a “REAL” cool person, but you blow it away by letting your ego take over. The next time you’re caught off guard in such a moment, just play it cool, by understanding that it is okay, it happens to thousands of people everyday and you can be better just by smiling and being yourself. There’s no more cooler person than you being yourself, and there’s no more ruder a person who tries to show someone he/she is not.

2. Confident:

If you’ve made it with cool, confidence is the next big go to thing. People are legitimately afraid of confidence, I’m not kidding, because you know who you are, people are literally afraid of being or projecting themselves as confident. And by doing so, they lose out on a whole lot of wants and needs in their life. That raise you’ve wanted to ask your employer for, that date you wanna ask out your crush to, that killer score you wanna make in a sport, that fancy place you want to take your family to, that different opinion you want to let your friends/peers know that you have, it all starts from one thing, and that’s you, the confident version of you. When you want something, just ask for it, practice asking/saying what you want/feel/need, get rejected in the process too, because until you ask for it, the answer is always going to be NO. It is when you choose to be confident, the probability of you achieving what you want goes from a 100% No to a 50% Yes, and if you ask me, I say that is a great chance to leap for.

3. Calm:

You must’ve come across ‘Respond instead of Reacting’ is an address given by Azim Premji (Chairman of Wipro) to students at the ‘Shaping Young Minds Program’ on February 9, 2004 in Mumbai. I’m not repeating his speech, a validly effective take away perhaps. In any situation, anywhere, anytime when you’re faced with a conflicting, contradicting or debating opponent, which can also happen in everyday conversations, before you say anything, ask yourself a question, “Will taking part in this, bring me any kind of joy/satisfaction/reward or anything good enough to drag my attention and worth into it?” Instead of reacting the way you were about to, take 3 seconds to analyse what just happened and saying what can take it where, then reply with the most logical, polite and humble response you can come up with. You’ll thank yourself for it, because those 3 seconds give you the chance to calm down.

Bonus Note: We’ve all had a moment when after a debate/heated argument is over. This same process can help you come up with better replies during debates, so that you don’t get demotivated/depressed or start feeling lesser about yourself.

4. Composed:

What do you understand by composed. What does one mean when one says that they’re holding their composure. Never really thought a lot about it, did you? Kudos if you have figured it out, and for better understanding, consider for a moment that you’re in your school, let us suppose the 6th standard and you’re asked to write an essay of your choice by the teacher, the only catch is they call the essay a “Composition”. Even better an example, look at an orchestra, every individual musician/player is amazing at what they do, put together in a giant room, they can mesmerise you to sway to their tunes, but without a leader, without a music conductor/composer to lead them, they’d be terrible and you’d ask for a refund on your ticket. Composure of the human mind and body is pretty much the same. Compose them together properly and you can do wonders, you can apply self control to your behaviour. Calm and composed usually go together.

5. Casual:

When you’re meeting someone for the first time or giving presentation, you start thinking about what are other’s going think about what you’re about do and say. Which causes you to get more nervous and you bring yourself down like a tree cut at it’s base. To make this nervousness go away, be casual, some people will ask you to act natural/normal, but don’t do that because what’s normal to you isn’t to everyone and it’s not really you if you have act like it. Just be casual, feel like it’s a regular conversation you’ve been having with a friend for years now, that way it doesn’t give you a new nervous feeling, makes your shivering feet go away and keeps you the real you to make your words more effective.

6. Comfortable:

Now, comfort doesn’t necessarily always have to be, beer in one hand, remote in the other, kicking back and relaxing on the recliner sofa, having the air conditioner set to comfort. Comfort means being distressed, felling ease at whatever it is you’re doing. To explain what comfort means on an easily understandable level, the next time you’re with a close friend of the opposite gender, try touching their arm and observe how they respond to it. Yes! That vibe you know you’re feeling from that person, is comfort. If they’re not comfortable then it could turn to disgust real quick.

7. Convenient:

“What could he possibly mean by convenient? Do I need to make my life convenient?” If you’ve asked yourself this, that’s not what I’m trying to say. I’ve learnt over time that we need to provide convenience to others, yes, even to those people who wouldn’t do the same for us, because when we make someone else’s life even a little bit convenient compared to what it currently is, there is mutual respect and the person now knows that they can trust us and rely on us. And when you make way for someone, they tend to return the favour.

8. Creative:

There’s so many different and creative ways that you can boost your creativity, just search and you’ll find them. Creativity is more important than you’d consider it, it plays a vital role in influencing your personality. Creativity is a mindset, regardless of what your job-role, position, or whether you’re a student, being creative is what helps you become a better version of yourself. I take utmost pleasure in quoting one of my inspirations, (A scientist that I also have the honor of sharing my DOB with) whom I idolise for many reasons, Albert Einstein. He said, “Creativity is Intelligence having fun.” I standby this thought and completely agree. Creative thoughts come to you when your knowledge is left idle to imagine itself into new perspectives.

9. Cooperative:

You constantly keep hearing about team, team-effort, team-building, team-work etc. and if you’re an HR you’re practically living the word team. What binds this “TEAM” together at any instance is neither the hard-work nor practice, if you were to take a guess, might I suggest cooperation. A strong team is built and defined by the efficient and effective cooperation each member has with every other member. Cooperation doesn’t have to be doing all the work assigned, rather easing someone else’s by doing small and simple tasks, whenever asked for, sometimes even if recognised by you. The largest of teams rely on successful gelling and cooperation of the entire team together instead of focusing on the nitpicking skills of each individual because helping each other by solving problems is more important than finding them.

10. Convincing:

You wouldn’t have read the blog so far, if I wasn’t what I’m about to write about. Especially when in the advertising, marketing and even more importantly, (the part that sucks life out of humanity) sales require you to have this as a skill. I know not everyone of you aren’t a sales-rep/exec, but you do try to slip in a lot of things that you have to convince people of, and you either force it onto them and become a sellout or you don’t sell enough. You have to find the right amount of convincing you need to do with the mindset of people you’re with. Listen to them, their interests and respond accordingly.

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