Who Are the Men Who Pay Me for Sex?
By: Mysterious Witt
Tags: Sexuality, Sex Work, Relationships, Work, Men

Who Are the Men Who Pay Me for Sex?

My clients are all different; there’s no “typical” man who pays to sleep with me.

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One of the first questions many people have for me when I tell them that I’m an escort is who my typical client is. That’s a hard question to answer. The men I sleep with for pay really run the gamut.

My clients literally come in all shapes and sizes, races, and ethnicities. Black, brown, white, tall, short, thin, heavyset, Asian, Middle Eastern, Latin American, white-collar, blue-collar. In short, there’s no “typical” client.

There are only good and bad clients. A good client is one who follows protocol and is respectful of my boundaries. A bad client isn’t.

Here’s a non-exhaustive list of some of my better regular clients.

Wolfgang.

Wolfgang is fifty-five, German, an auto executive. He’s been married for twenty years to the same woman, and they have two children together. However, they no longer have sex. That’s why he pays to have sex with me.

Wolfgang comes to my place after work once every two weeks, telling his wife that he has a late meeting. He has no plans to divorce her. He considers himself happily married.

Robert.

Robert is sixty, Latino, a civil engineer. He was married once and has no children. He divorced acrimoniously.

He has no interest in getting married again. In fact, he has no interest in even having another girlfriend.

I see him once every two weeks at his place.

Gabriel.

Gabriel is thirty-five, Israeli, a filmmaker. He’s been married for five years and has two small children. He’s happily married but sees me because he has a bondage fetish. He likes to be tied up while having sex.

He’s discussed his fetish with his wife but she’s not into it, so he pays me to carry it out with him. His wife doesn’t know about this.

Tony.

Tony is forty, a photographer, never been married. He’s handsome and yet he pays me for sex.

He has a ballbusting fetish. That means he’s aroused by getting kneed the testicles. He’s mentioned that it’s hard to find women to carry out this fetish with him. That’s why he pays me to do it.

Alex.

Alex is thirty, Latino, a sales executive. He has a girlfriend who knows he comes to me for crossdressing sessions. What she doesn’t know is that I have another man come over while Alex visits and Alex gives him a blowjob.

David.

David is forty-two, Korean-American, a business litigation lawyer. He’s been happily married to the same woman for twenty years.

He respects his wife and always shows me pictures of them with their kids. His wife is a pretty blonde, also a successful lawyer. David loves her. He just wants more variety in his sex life, so he pays me for that.

Anthony.

Anthony is seventy, Greek, a retired real-estate investor, never married. He didn’t lose his virginity until age thirty. He has a girlfriend but she lives across the country. They never have sex. He says that she would have sex with him if he asked, but she wouldn’t enjoy it. That’s why he stopped asking.

Anthony sees me once every three weeks. He says I’m his soulmate and yet he has no desire to leave his girlfriend. He sometimes takes me to classical concerts as part of our session and also plays his violin for me before we have sex.

Lawrence.

Lawrence is fifty, Latino, an oil-refinery worker. He has never been married and has no children. He often asks me if he should be dating. I tell him he can date if he wants to. He says that he doesn’t want a girlfriend but other women want to be with him.

We’ve been seeing each other for five years. He says he loves me. I think that he just doesn’t want a relationship. He wants an excuse not to be serious with a woman. But he still wants sex, so he pays me.

Shaun.

Shaun is twenty, Persian, a data-science undergraduate. I don’t see him very often because he typically doesn’t have enough money. He likes to be whipped and then masturbated by me. We’ve been seeing each other for three years.

Bob.

Bob is sixty-five, a retired stockbroker. He was married once and has two adult children. His marriage ended badly.

He sees many different escorts for sex. He and I session together once a month. He pays well and we always go out to eat as part of our meeting. We sometimes have threesomes with other escorts.

Rudy.

Rudy is seventy-five, Italian-American, and can no longer achieve an erection. He pays me for intimacy because it’s exciting for him to be in bed with a woman even if he can’t penetrate her.

He was in a twenty-five-year-long marriage, most of which was sexless. He would like me to stop working and become his wife. I feel bad that he was in a sexless marriage for so many years but I don’t want to marry him. I’m glad that he’s finally exploring his sexuality even though he can no longer achieve an erection.

Pierre.

Pierre is forty-five, Haitian, a construction manager. He is married with two adult children. He and I see each other once a month. He likes to have sex doggy-style.

Moddie.

Moddie is fifty-five, African-American, an accountant. He was married once to a woman who psychologically abused him. He does not want to get married again. In fact, he doesn’t even want to have a relationship. And yet he sees himself as in a relationship with me even if it’s an open, paid one.

He always takes me out to a really nice dinner. I’ve been seeing him for four years now. He has a huge penis and we sometimes do cuckold sessions with my other clients so they can watch us have sex.

Daniel.

Daniel is thirty-five, Jewish, newly married. He and his wife still have sex but he says it’s boring. We often have threesomes with other escorts.

I feel guilty about having sex with Daniel behind his wife’s back. I continue to see him because I need the money. It’s hard to make value judgments about my clients when I’m in the business of earning a living doing sex work to support my children.

Tyler.

Tyler is sixty and happily married but still books me to give me oral sex. We never have penetrative sex. He doesn’t talk about his wife much but has mentioned that they only have sex once a month.

Tim.

Tim is twenty-seven, a software developer. I don’t think he has a girlfriend. He sees a lot of escorts because I’m always getting requests from other women for references. He’s a good-looking guy, tall, and has money, but he’s very shy. He also likes a lot of kinky stuff like having his face slapped and being urinated on. I believe that’s why he pays me for sex.

Rajeev.

Rajeev is twenty-eight, from India originally, and in the U.S. to pursue his Ph.D. He comes to me for humiliation, such as face-slapping and anal fisting. He says paying to be degraded by me is helping him finish his studies.

In closing.

As you can see, I don’t have a typical client. The only thing my clients have in common is that they’re all respectful of my body and my time.

To comprehend how difficult it is to book a session with me, know I reject potential clients daily.

Even men I have met with before sometimes end up blacklisted. They don’t show up to an appointment or start to try to lowball my session rate. I block them.

In short, they forget it’s a privilege to pay me for sex. As long as we’re on the same page about that, a man can remain my client. If not, I’d rather not session with him.

So there you have it: my clients are all different but they have one thing in common: they’re respectful of me. On all other fronts, they couldn’t be more distinct.