The Smaller Things In Life
By: Nha T
Tags: Humans, Philosophy Of Mind, Perspective, Life

Why the smaller things in life are never truely appreciated until they are directly brought into the spotlight.

Life itself is a complicated topic. The meaning behind it, our purpose here, our milestones in life (marriage, relationships, jobs, graduating, education,etc), emotional resilience built off of countless misfourtunes, success and so many other aspects. Yet, why is it that people tend to appreciate the smaller things than things such as money and succss. Why is it that some people are willing to spoil others, while some are stingy? Why is it that stereotypically, people appreciate things such as small hand written notes and small gifts over something like a whole new car of apartment? And why is it that these small aspects aren’t talked about in society as much?

Let’s take it a step back, and think about this from a logical perspective, like from a relationship view. In relationships, sure a female individual may appreciate her partner bringing her flowers, chocolates, diamond rings and designer handbags, but then why would most females say that they appreciate things such as quality time and small gestures over this? The same thing applies with males. Why do males find so much appreciation in a female who is able to understand them and melt their daily stresses from their daily lives compared to a female who is simply just willing spoil and spend for the man on end, affording him everything he would have wanted. Is this truely what people mean when they say that ‘money cannot buy happiness’?

On social media, think about it. You don;t see your celebrities posting about how their significant other had chosen to get them a rose on a random day of the week because they were thinking about them. No. It doens’t work like that. All you see are mounts of gifts, diamond rings, proposals, etc. These smaller things in life, the ones that truely touch the human heart, are not commonly esxpressed on social media, let alone in out everyday lives. But why would that be the case?

Simply put, this is because of how society has built and conditioned us to think. If a female were go ramble on about how she appreaciates a male individual for spending time with her, understanding her and simply just being there for here, they would tease her about having ‘low standards’ even though she just feels apprecuated by those simply actions. In the male world, it is even worse, as society continues to try and accept the fact that males and men are able to express gratitude and appreaciation for females without having to look ‘soft’. Logically, if a guy were to simply appreciate a female in our day and age, he would be labelled a ‘simp’ and due to the negative connotation that we, as individuals, have put aorund that word, it makes it even harder for males to accept that in fact, it is normal to openly express gratitude and appreciation for small things like that.

However, as a human tendency, we all, whether openly or not, do feel a heartstring pulled when small actions and gestures are done for us. Hence, why the next time someone does something nice to you, maybe you might ant to consider openly expressing the gratitude. And I’m not talking about a simple thank you. But more so to let them know that you truely do appreciate all the thought, time and effort they put into getting you something. Let them know that you do use that gift. At the end of the day, the typical thing is to let people know how much you truely love them. Not everyone is able to express it, but in doing so, maybe one day in future it will be normalised.