15 Things to Lose, In Order to Find You
By: Juliana James
Tags: Self Improvement, Personal Growth, Personal Development, Self Help, Self-awareness

15 Things to Lose, In Order to Find You

Photo of me, staring into the sunset

The honest truth is, I could really use some extra cash.

Christmas is fast approaching and I do not want to spend it like I did last year. Matter of fact, I want this Christmas to be better than the last. But that’s not the direction for this article.

Understand what you are, who you’re becoming, and where you’re meant to be.

Twenty five days ago, I picked up a new job, and I thought to myself; Who am I kidding? I say to myself I’m never working a 9–5 job ever again, but the true resolution here is, I have to start seeing me for who I am, and the values that I uphold, and yes, start believing that I’m worthy of the things that I so desire.

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This year, with all the crisis, Covid-19 and uncertainties, I’ve managed to let go of things, people and situations that do not add value to my existence here on earth. Hence the inspiration to writing this article.

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Why do you need to find YOU (I mean, it’s not like you disappeared or something) and what are the things you should lose?

I don’t know, but don’t sometimes you feel lost in your world? Days when you can’t go on, when you’re just — tired, devastated, upset, and tired again? Wouldn’t you want to know the reason why you keep burning out, and getting lost in the midst of your existence.

I’m curious to know, I don’t know about you.

So — here; we all get lost at some point in our lives. Whether we think we have it figured out, or we’re in search for purpose, or we’re trying to get to know the things that we love and cherish the most about ourselves, we’re all somehow, someway, looking for balance, and we cannot find ease and peace, if we do not know where and who we are.

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Which brings me to reveal to you, the 15 things you should probably lose, to find yourself.

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Ego: Ah yes yes yes, this. has. got. to. go. And by ego, that might mean losing a part of yourself too. You can never truly know yourself, if you can’t control your emotions, forgive and let go of the past. You must learn to tame your ego in order to find you. People’s Validation: Once you can no longer care about what people think or say about you, you will emerge a god-like personality, and nobody messes with God himself. What You Already Know: This huge, especially if you have a set of accolades for your knowledge. Finding you again, means unlearning and relearning… It means surrendering yourself to the little things that are important to your self-awareness. Negative Thoughts: You know this, more than I could ever explain to you. Low Energy Circle: Like hanging out with friends who think you’re a bit of weird, mixed with seriousness, and a dash of abnormal? Beware of this circle, for it cannot contain the energy that you possess. Your Desk Job: Is it paying your bills? Okay okay, don’t let this one go, but if it isn’t, I suggest you start looking for where your torso and feet fits in, and aim for that 6 figure job. (This is not for you, but it’s for you, if it’s YOU I’m talking about — isssh) Just’s and Maybe’s: I mean like, you have to start meaning the things you say to people for your own good. What is; “I think maybe I need to get a raise for the job I do, It’s just that, I have bills to pay…”? Soro Soke! (Speak Up) Why not try: “I need to get a raise for the job I do. I have bills to pay” PERIODTT! That Expensive Crib: Here’s an advice to me; “Julia, you’re living above your means, let’s go back to the middle-lifestyle for just a couple of months, so that we can start saving and investing in your dreams!” I hear that loud and clear. Is this you too? or about to be? Poor Mindset: That you can’t and won’t is totally up to you. That you hate other’s successes because your lazy ass can’t make that happen, is all you. Just don’t let it rob the gifts and purpose God has already given you. ’Cause, God is never going to give you what you can’t handle. So, if it hurts right now, it’s meant to build you a thicker skin for the next phase of your life. F^ck Boy/Girl/FWBees: If you do not see him/her in your life 20 years from now, he’s not your man, she’s not your woman, Understand what you are, who you’re becoming, and where you’re meant to be. I know for a fact that, if a man or woman, tells you that they are going to give you the world, the stars and the moon? They lying! That Toxic Relationship: I know you convince yourself that there’s probably room for improvement for this person. But I hate to break it to you, you’re not their creator, hence why I think, it’s not your duty or obligation to change them. “If they show you who they are the first time you meet them, believe them” — Oprah Winfrey. Old and New Fears: Wait, can you make a list of your new fears? Do they measure up to your old fears? How’d you even get there in the first place? I mean, what are you so afraid of, that you lose yourself in the process? You have got to own it! Always consider this question; ‘What’s the worst that could happen?’ The Fake Smiles: To whom it may concern, it’s not every time you act nice to strangers. Some strangers/people are looking for windows to break into, in order for them to compromise one’s truest form of kind humanity. The Complaints: It can only get better. I implore you to practice gratitude everyday of your life. The moment you catch yourself complaining, halt that tongue and add how much you’re grateful for. The Complacency: Self — approval is good, but it’s not enough to settle for less. Always seize every opportunity there is, at bettering yourself.

Oh and, let go of some weight please? You need to stay fit and healthy, because in this journey of finding you, you’re going to have to create more room for greatness and success.

Hope you enjoyed this article.