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How Hard is It to Have Sexless Individual Toilets?
By: Midori The Sea
Tags: Masculinity, Gender Equality, Beyourself, Transgender, Innovation

I begin to think I’m really stupid. To start solving some of the pressing gender issues, I thought of two immediate solutions and I don’t understand why no one has thought of these and implemented them:

Abandon men/womenswear altogether so men can wear dresses too, like women can wear trousers since 120 years ago.

Have individual cubicles as toilets

This way, everyone is the same and equal. No one will judge a person’s outfit before they go into the loo, and everyone can touch up their make up in front of the mirror without fear.

The gender/sex chat bores me, not because it’s not important, but because it’s missing the point, and not proceeding fast enough.

I am thinking from the perspective of those ladies who work in night clubs’ toilets, selling candies, deodorants and everything else. Do the gent’s have a similar person selling candies? If not, you will be in for a treat in my toilets.
Masculinidad
By: Angela Kerber Pandah
Tags: Masculinity, Patriarchy, Feminism, Guerra, Fear

in Getting Ready for the New Day
Your Love
By: The Good Men Project
Tags: Masculinity, Relationships, Men, Dating, Love

Your Love

Photo credit: Shutterstock

By Hendrix Black

Your love is not meant…

… to be hoarded.

… to be diluted or dripped out slowly to those you claim to care for.

Your love is not meant…

… to be weaponized.

… to be dangled like a dog treat to those you deem deserving, or…

… to be withdrawn as a knee-jerk reaction to your unhealed hurts.

Your love is not meant to be…

… reduced to a currency.

… traded in the ever-shifting markets of entitlement and expectation.

… tracked and audited — measured and balanced in some zero-sum game of give and take.

Your love…

… is vast. Raw. Infinite.

… is self-reinforcing and self-regenerative.

… is the most precious gift you can offer in human form.

Your love…

… is meant to flow freely and abundantly.

… is meant to be given even MORE fully and generously in moments of hurt.

… is the balm that softens the friction between your love affair with life itself.

Your love is…

… meant to heal.

… meant to inspire and uplift.

… meant to be the force that brings new life into creation.

To be a true king, is to know true love.

And to know true love, is to be a king.

And it’s with that, I say…

I see you, King.

—

The story was previously published on The Good Men Project.
Introducing: The Sucker for Love Mixtape Series
By: Stanley Fritz
Tags: Masculinity, Relationships, Newsletter, Sex, Love

Do you remember that time when the person you were dating told you that things weren’t working out? Or maybe they didn’t tell you a damn thing. Maybe they ghosted you, maybe you found out when they changed their relationship status on Facebook, or told Twitter/IG/Snapchat/Insert social media platform that they were single. No matter how you found out, do you remember how you felt?

I do, and for those of you wondering, (probably no one) I am a textbook sucker for love. I fall fast, and I fall hard. So when things don't work out, I feel the heartbreak or rejection just as intensely as I feel the infatuation. And because the crash is as hard, if not harder than the rise, it’s sometimes hard to take anything from the experience besides the way the conclusion made you feel. But here’s the thing, no matter how good, bad, or unpredictably a relationship or entanglement ended, there is always a lesson to be learned. Unfortunately, some of us miss out on the growing moment, which brings me to the Sucker4Love Mixtape.

The Sucker4LoveMixtape will be a weekly column where I share the hard lessons learned from my past relationships. That's right, instead of having to do the hard personal work, I’m giving you the option to be a fly on the wall of my love life. Come find out what my key takeaway was after failing to clap Aurelle’s cheeks to her satisfaction, or how being “Friend Zoned” taught me that the “friend zone” wasn’t a real thing. I got lots of stories, and even more messages, so come get all of this free game.

But wait, there’s more! With every post, I’ll be including a Spotify playlist with songs to fit the mood for that moment. This will be a combination of songs/artists we already know, as well as newer folks you may not have heard of before. So yeah, I’m excited about this, and I hope you are too. Wondering how not to miss any of this? It’s simple, if you haven’t already, follow my medium page, as well as Let’s Not Be Trash’s page. Once you do that, you will get notifications anytime we publish something new. If you already followed those accounts, you’re all set. Ok, guys, I’m going to start writing, I hope you join me on this journey!

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PENCEGAHAN KEKERASAN BERBASIS GENDER DALAM RUMAH TANGGA MELALUI INTERNALISASI NILAI-NILAI FEMINISME GUNA MENINGKATKAN KETAHANAN KELUARGA DI ERA NORMAL BARU
Tags: Masculinity, Feminism, Women, Gender, Gender Equality

in Change Your Mind Change Your Life
Life lessons from a Dad
By: David Trask
Tags: Fathers And Sons, Masculinity, Manliness, Life Lessons, Men

Three generations…and a dog named Copper

Sometimes I amaze myself and I don’t always understand why. When I look at a problem and come up with a solution that I know many men my age would never have attempted, I sometimes stand back amazed at how I arrived at this idea. Then I remember…

I’m a man. I’m a father and more importantly, I’m a Dad. I’m also a son and of course, I’m also a husband. These roles help define who I am, but at least one of them helped to make me the man and the father that I am today. I am the son of a man who taught me what it means to be a man, not just in gender, but in the manner in which I live my life.

When I was just a wee lad around a year old, my father wrote me a letter which my Mom read to me for the first time when was a young teenager. Nearly 56 years later, I still have that letter and the words still resonate deep within my soul. One particular phrase rises to the top each time I begin to think about my Dad and that letter. He wrote, “You should be so strong and stand so tall that you can look any man in the eye and tell him to go to hell.” Years later I still know exactly what he meant. Notice I didn’t use an exclamation point after the word “hell”. It’s not about fighting, yelling, and swearing. Those are not the signs of a true man. A man can project confidence and look you square in the eye and tell you how it is going to be. Period. A man will also listen to your perspective, take it into consideration, and move on from there. A man is his own being. He bases his work and his decisions on what is best for his family, not what is best for himself. He doesn’t direct, he teaches. He doesn’t denigrate, he encourages.

So, as I stand here contemplating my latest invention derived from good ‘ol Yankee ingenuity, I remember all that my Dad has taught me through the years. I’m willing and able to tackle projects that are new to me simply because I was taught to try and not be afraid. When we try, we learn. When we learn, we gain experience. Through experience, we become better men.

Join me as I share the lessons from my Dad and the lessons I’ve passed down to my son. It is my hope that you will find yourself willing to become a better man and father along the way.
Man Up
By: Jason Madden
Tags: Masculinity, Spiritual Growth, Poetry, Healing Emotions, Thespiritualwell

Man Up

Photo by Sasha Freemind on Unsplash

I don’t feel pain

and I definitely don’t cry

I’m a man after all

I lock those feelings inside

Push them down deep

armour up

Nothing gets in

No hurt, no love

I get angry though, but that’s ok

What’s masculinity without a little rage

I’ll just fuck my way through it

Drink myself stupid

Numb myself out to avoid feeling human

Relationships will crumble

My soul will ache

and I will just disappear into my pain

Despite my best efforts

I still have a heart

There might not be tears

but I’m falling apart

I tried to “Man Up”

and now it’s man down

Down, down, down…….

Downward spiral and I can’t get out

Falling deeper and deeper

I think I need help

Here, take my hand

Vulnerability the rope

I know your pain

I’ve been there before

Hear my words and forget the lies you’ve been told

Your feelings aren’t weak, they’re more precious than gold

Feelings your strength, your connection to others

Expression of Self

That’s your Super Power.
The White Men Who Threaten Me With Their Own Suicide
By: Momentum Blog Team
Tags: Masculinity, Men, Black Women, Gender, Racism

The White Men Who Threaten Me With Their Own Suicide

Writing about race and gender makes Black women a target for desperate white men who don’t want to change Momentum Blog Team ·Dec 4, 2020

“I have received many violent emails from white men over the years, but I sat with this one for a while. I tried to process what I was reading and tried to figure out what I should or could do about it. In the end, I placed it in the same folder as all the death and rape threats.” — Ijeoma Oluo

Read Oluo’s powerful story in its entirety below.
Becoming a Man of High Value
By: Andrew Puckett
Tags: Masculinity, Mentorship, Business, Personal Development, Mental Health

What does it mean to be a Man of High Value? No, it is not a scientific or mathematical formula… though it does rely on the basic understanding of mental, physical and spiritual sciences. Every man is made of three parts, intertwined: mind, body and spirit. To neglect one is to neglect all.

A man of high value always knows his limitations, but more importantly, knows his gifts. To know only one is to lose the value of both.

A man of high value always seeks to give without return, while accepting the gifts of others with an open heart.

A man of high value has mastery over himself, while inspiring others to follow suite.

A man of high value has the thirst for wisdom, a depth of knowledge and the ability to discern between the two.

A man of high value seeks to provide opportunity for others, while fostering their growth.

A man of high value empowers others through his strengths, while refining himself by addressing his weaknesses.

A man of high value knows when to talk, how to listen and why to walk away.

A man of high value is in control of his financial health.

A man of high value takes immediate action for tomorrows blessings.

A man of high value understands his purpose, while leading others to theirs.

A man of high value knows who to question, why to give answers and how to give advice.

A man of high value seeks legacy, not applause.

A man of high value lives by principle, acts on values and gives through purpose.

For more content and reading, visit www.andrewxpuckett.com.
The Problem With “Nice Guys”
By: Ayodeji Awosika
Tags: Masculinity, Relationships, Women, Dating, Love

You’ve heard all the tropes when it comes to dating, relationships, and how life treats you when you’re a “nice guy.”

“Women only want to date jerks. Why can’t a nice guy like me get a girl?”

“All the things I do for my woman and she still treats me this way.”

“You have to be a cheat to get ahead in life. Guys like me always get the short end of the stick.”

It’s all BS.

You don’t need to be super-aggressive, dominant, and bold to get what you want from life itself.

When it comes to your relationships, both with women and the world, you don’t have to be perfect to get them to work. Nor should you look at relationships as a scoreboard.

I’ve been there myself. From experiences in my younger days when I tried to ‘get the girl’ — you’ll see some stories below — to a failed marriage that failed partially because I focused too much on keeping score — I had to learn how to have healthy relationships with women and the world.

Mainly, I had to learn how to stop making decisions from a place of insecurity and approval seeking and just focus on becoming my best self — letting the chips fall where they may.

There are men of all backgrounds with different talents, attractiveness, characteristics, etc that do just fine with women and the world at large. You can be one of these men while having a ton of healthy qualities.

You can be reasonable, optimistic, confident, authentic, engaging, generous, assertive, inspiring, curious, honest, bold, compassionate, and kind.

But you can’t be nice.
5 Ways to Raise Your Social I.Q. and Why You Want To
By: The Good Men Project
Tags: Masculinity, Men, Social Intelligence, Advice, Business

You can ramp up your Social I.Q. by altering your attitudes and reactions:

1. Always create a win-win situation with others. Especially in inter-personal relationships, there has to be something in it for the other person. Being aware of your needs is only half of the equation.

Test your Social I.Q.:

Your boss is making you work overtime this week so you won’t be home to help out around the house. You want to buy a new Go-Pro with the money, but your partner would rather any extra money go towards paying down credit card debt. What’s the win-win?

2. Learn to understand an opposing view. If you watch liberal television, listen to conservative radio. If you read the Washington Post, also check out The Times. Watch all of the Presidential debates and determine why each candidate has their viewpoint. It’s not about agreeing or disagreeing; it’s about learning to think critically.

Test your Social I.Q.:

Your best friend, who has the total opposite political view from yours, has asked you to be his best man at his wedding a year from now. In the past, you two have had heated debates where no one wins and have gone weeks without speaking to one another. He’s the one who eventually breaks down and apologizes first. With the 2016 election starting soon, how can you handle the subject differently?

3. Don’t insist on all or nothing. Arguments happen until reaching a compromise. Be the first to make that compromise.

Test your Social I.Q.:

You want to paint the walls tan because neutral colors have higher resale value, but your wife wants them a fun color, so the space is more fun and inviting. What color do you buy?

4. Hold the other person in high regard. Not everyone will be your cup of tea, so you may have to get creative with this one. But when you see the best in someone you automatically value them and their contributions.

Test your Social I.Q.:

You are on the Town Board of a quiet little beach community. During a monthly meeting the chairman, who you always butt heads with, suggests changing some zoning laws allowing commercial landowners to build residential properties in hopes of boosting the local economy. You’re concerned because this is where you planned on retiring. What questions could you ask in the spirit of collaboration?

5. Give first. Don’t always worry about what’s in it for you. Develop the attitude that what goes around comes around and leave it at that. Not only is it true, but it also impresses the heck out of everyone that knows you.

Test your Social I.Q.:

A co-worker is selling Girl Scout cookies for her daughter’s troop, and you are on a diet, doctor’s orders. What do you do?

—

Remember: Be flexible. Be open. Be empathetic. And watch how it builds co-operation and helps your ultimate success.

—

The story was previously published on The Good Men Project.
Salesforce Web-to-Lead Integration
Tags: WordPress, Salesforce Development, Web To Lead

Salesforce Web-to-Lead-Form is a very simple, but very effective way to capture your Website visitors’ information and send it to your Salesforce account as a new lead.

In this tutorial, I show you how to do this. We will use Wordpress and Salesforce as an example.

1 — Salesforce actions you need to perform.

Log in to your Salesforce account. If you do not have one yet, get the Developer Edition. It’s free!

Now that you’re signed in, click on the Gear Icon in the upper right corner. Go to “Setup”. Perform a quick search for Web-to-Lead and click on it.

Go to “Setup”

Click Create Web-to-Lead-Form

Create Web-to-Lead-Form

Select the fields you want to include in your Web-to-lead form.

Enter your Return Url. After submitting the form, your visitors will be redirected to this page. We will create it in the next steps.

Web-to-lead Setup

Copy the HTML code and paste it into your favorite text editor. You will need it in the next steps.

Click on Finished.

And that is it! Now, it’s time to go to WordPress.

2 — WordPress actions you need to perform.

Log in to your WordPress admin area. (e.g.: “https://yourwebsite.com/wp-admin”)

Create a new page or post.

Add a Custom Html Block and insert the Web-to-Lead- Form generated by Salesforce (you saved it, remember?). You have the option to preview the result.

and insert the Web-to-Lead- Form generated by Salesforce (you saved it, remember?). You have the option to preview the result. Click Publish (or Update if the page is already published).

(or Update if the page is already published). Create a new page. After submitting the form, your visitors will be redirected to this page ( Return URL) . This is your “thank you” page.

. This is your “thank you” page. Publish the page and that is it!

Let´s test it out!

Now, all you have to do is fill the form, and the data should be sent to Salesforce as a new lead. You can find these records on the Leads tab (Salesforce Dashboard).

Give it a try!

Thank’s a lot!
Los contratos inteligentes de IOTA ya están acá
By: Animus Coop
Tags: Blockchain, Smart Contracts, Iota

in A Right to Retrofit
Be a man of understanding
Tags: Men, Mens Health, Masculinity

“Be a man of understanding and understand everyone is not going to have the same understanding.” Kevin Gates quote.

Message for all men out there

Every man needs to understand violence is not needed in every situation when you do not agree with another male. Understanding will help you see the other persons perspective giving you the reason to why they view things the way they view it. Be aware next time you are in any situation be understanding before you react to anything.
True Patience and Love
By: Alan Tegel
Tags: Love, Poetry, Life, Masculinity

True Patience and Love

Photo by Flickr from Pexels

Anger, fear, hate, and sadness

Thanks to society

Women live in fear

It can bring a man to tears

When a man loves a woman

He hates to see the void

The one filled with darkness

That fills her entire soul

His battles are clear

He must enter with no fear

He must deliver love

Letting her face filled with tears

Once the hate is gone

He must continue to pour his love

It needs to fill the barren space

Watch all the dark places

Disappear from her heart

Hugs warm touches

Soft platonic kisses to her face

A shoulder to beat on

Protection from the horrid rat race

Use his masculine spirit

The eternal spark from his loins

But do not use it physically

For it will taint his pure love

Hold her hard

Hug her soft

Never let go

Let his want love to surround her

Wait for her to sag into his arms

When he feels her relax

Feel safe from the dark place

Let her sleep in his arms

Let her wake to see his sleeping face

He listens to her breath

Knows his warmth deeply penetrates

Quashes the darkness

Makes her dream softly in her dreamscape

When she wakes from her rest

Crusty eyes from salty tears

She will know his masculine love

Comes without lust but pure desire

For then she knows she is safe at home

With this knowledge and confidence

In safety at home

She can be the warrior

And Slay those dragons many times

Over and Over
Soy Boys: How Did Veganism Become Anti-Masculinity?
By: Haider Samsara
Tags: Gender, Masculinity, Fitness, Animals, Vegan

Soy Boys: How Did Veganism Become Anti-Masculinity?

This story is available to read for free on COSY.LAND.

Photo by Darya Tryfanava on Unsplash

In 2016, the Vegan Society reported there were twice as many female vegans (63%) than men (37%) in the UK. One could suggest many reasons why that might be the case.

Women are generally considered to have more empathy and consideration about wider issues like animal welfare, the environment, and some suggest they are less stubborn than men when it comes to re-evaluating their beliefs and habits, particularly in pursuit of a healthier lifestyle.

But I would argue this statistic, among others where vegan men are shown to be a minority, reflect deeper concerns about abstaining from animal products, and its bearing on masculinity.

In other words, there is still a widespread view that “eating meat makes you more of a man”, that I want to get to the bottom of.

What is a ‘Soy Boy’?

You might have heard the term ‘soy boy’ thrown around to insult a man who allegedly lacks masculine characteristics. Similar insults from your Alpha Male Bro include ‘cuckold’, and ‘beta male’ — all generally geared towards trivialising a man’s masculinity by doing rather ‘unmanly’ things, like being subservient. Or in the case of being a cuckold, enjoying the thought of your wife sleeping with another man.

As the Urban Dictionary definition goes:

I know Urban Dictionary doesn’t appear to be the most reliable source of information, but for colloquial terms, it’s probably the best resource we have.

Despite admittedly finding the humour in it, the belief that soy consumption can negatively impact the male physique and sex drive is less funny, and more interesting.

Rather than seeming like just another instance of toxic masculinity, it represents a common misconception that vegan men have less testosterone than their meat-eating buddies.

It’s such a prevalent belief among men, that this myth can deter young men (often insecure or trying to achieve bodybuilding gains) from pursuing the advantages that come with adopting a plant-based diet.
the connection crisis fueling the patriarchy
By: Alex P.
Tags: Loneliness, Poetry, Connection, Masculinity

“i’ve gotta get some fucking friends.”

photo courtesy jonathan rados on unsplash

i’ve jokingly been saying this to myself and my partner, quoting one of my favorite movies, i love you, man.

paul rudd’s character is the epitome of the new age sensitive guy. his sweet, caring approach to life has landed him a solid career and a beautiful partner, but it’s clear that something’s off.

he has no guy friends. he has rejected traditional masculinity and in doing so chosen to walk a lonely road.

but here’s the thing: men are not alone on this road.

a question on r/AskReddit made me realize how many men are struggling with this same issue. it helped me see just how many men are walking this road, feeling alone, afraid, and deeply ashamed.

r/AskReddit post from u/BenTennyson2101

men aren’t really alone. they just aren’t talking about it. they aren’t connecting and deciding to walk this road together. the patriarchy doesn’t let them.

trapped by the taboo of wanting deep connection and the shame our patriarchal society dumps on men that don’t accept traditional masculine values, men are left feeling disconnected and alienated.

what they don’t realize is that millions of men are feeling this way, and a modern masculinity movement is growing. one that will uproot the patriarchy and create a world where everyone can explore what it means to become fully human.

feeling alone on my journey and resonating with the comments shared by strangers, i wrote this poem:

sad

hurting

aching

lonely

a simple question on reddit

felt like looking in the mirror

i’m not alone

men are in crisis

without connection

their lives have lost meaning

their spirits dwindled

endless comments

the sentiment the same

we are lonely

we are emotionally confused

emotionally illiterate

we are full of shame

shame for being

less than

the strong,

confident,

patriarch

society demands

we can feel the desire

the need

to be different

and yet we still feel

the cage of patriarchy

that keeps us contained

stuck

trapped

only together

in love

can we redefine

masculinity

it will take time

and heart

so much caring

but it can be done

it must be done

it’s time for a new masculinity

are you going to be part of it?
I’m a Man and I Cry
By: Agents Of Change
Tags: Advice, Men, Courage, Masculinity, Life Lessons

I’m a Man and I Cry

Photo credit: iStockphoto

By Paul Gilbride

Earlier this year I attended my daughter's National Dance Competition at Disney in Orlando. She is a high school senior, and this would be one of the last times I would watch her dance. She entered the competition with a severe case of tendonitis and swelling in her ankle and had not practiced for two weeks leading up to the competition.

After the first performance in preliminaries, she hobbled off the floor, clearly in pain. The decision was made to put her in a wheelchair for the remainder of the competition, but she would still dance. Her performance in prelims was shaky but good enough that her team made it to the semi-finals.

In the semi-finals, she danced very well, but the level of pain and discomfort she felt when it was over was apparent. If they made finals she wanted to dance, but the pain was intense, and her ability to perform at the level she needed to seemed unlikely.

Their semi-final performance earned them the right with eleven other teams to compete for the championship. My daughter needed to perform one last time.

The finals were exciting, and the arena at the ESPN Sports Complex in Disney was packed. As each team performed, their parents and supporters were allowed to kneel in front of the stage directly in front of them to cheer them on. Her team performed amazingly. Arguably the best they had performed all year and that included my daughter.

The girls, the parents, and the coaches knew it, and the level of pride and excitement in the hall waiting for them to emerge from backstage was palpable. They wheeled my daughter out first in her wheelchair. She had tears in her eyes as the supporters roared with praise and applause.

I knelt next to her as the rest of the team emerged and were engulfed by their friends and family. We embraced, and I began to cry uncontrollably.

I was overwhelmed with pride for her courage, her talent, her commitment and the sudden realization that because of this injury….this would be the last time I would ever watch her compete as a dancer. My mind raced back to when she was 6-years-old, and I took her to her first practice.

We were now both sobbing and visibly shaking behind our embrace. When I finally let go, I stepped back to allow her mother and others to congratulate her on her performance.
Honor and Chivalry
By: Manny Cabrera
Tags: Catch 22, Apathy, Masculinity, Honor, Chivalry

I read a lot of junk on the internet, but it’s usually thought provoking junk. Today was different. Today I read an internet gem and had garbage thoughts about it. (Here’s the link: https://qr.ae/pN9pyP.)

So, according to this delightful little read, honor makes no sense whatsoever and should be replaced with dishonor. Sleep with your best general’s wife and be a good king. Die on the battlefield and be a dead king. Checks out.

This prompted me to consider: what about chivalry? Is it dead because it makes no sense? I happen to think that to hold a door for a woman just because she’s a woman is belittling. And what of the fellas we don’t hold doors for? Is that unchivalrous? I don’t actually care, but I’d bet more men would hold doors for other men if they wanted to sleep with them or saw them as needing to be serviced.

Anyway, I suppose we could just hold doors for people and that would be better than just holding them for women. But I’m sure some ladies would be appalled. Its a catch-22 world with a catch-22 attitude.

But do men who don’t hold doors make better men? Or do men who hold doors make better men? I used to hold the door for people but I realized it made me a doorman and was seldom appreciated or reciprocated. Besides, have you ever seen the look of despair on someone's face as they consider whether they should increase their walking speed or continue at their resentful pace while you impatiently hold the door, barely feigning a smile? Where’s the honor in any of that?

So in conclusion: live like a king, don’t hold doors, there’s no winning, regardless.
My Path To Becoming a Man Wasn’t as Clear as I had Expected
By: Agents Of Change
Tags: Identity, Adulthood, Men, Masculinity, Life Lessons

My Path To Becoming a Man Wasn’t as Clear as I had Expected

Photo credit: Flickr

By Glendon Moss

Growing up, the concept of “being a man” seemed clearer than it should have been. I grew up surrounded by uncles and a dad who were into lifting heavy weights and rock ’n’ roll music. Their actions were always clearly conveyed a sense of bravado and fearlessness.

From an early age, I set the standards for my apparent masculinity quite high. In my small mind, there were two simple rules that all men lived by:

(1) Respect the women in your life and (2) show no fear or pain.

They were obvious additions to these with many subcategories, but these two were the bedrock of all I knew.
Is it ok for MEN to wear a dress?
Tags: Men, Masculinity, Gender Equality, Pop Culture, Viral

Is it ok for MEN to wear a dress?

Harry Styles for vogue magazine.

Harry Styles drew a lot of criticism from prominent conservatives for donning a dress in a photo on the cover of Vogue magazine.

Some people are angry that he wore a dress, is it because they are very sensitive to exploring gender roles in society?

Or does it provoke anger or insecurity around masculinity?

Clothing is clothing, but when it is attached to gender prejudices, it can be controversial.

Styles dons a voluminous periwinkle blue gown paired with a black tuxedo jacket (both designed by Gucci).

Young Thug, another musician known for his unconventional fashion choices, drew criticism as well as praise for sporting a dress on the cover of his 2016 mixtape, “No, My Name Is Jeffery.”

Photo from the Album cover on GQ

Due to the digital age that we live in,this cover immediately went viral. It sparked a passionate conversation around masculinity and gendered dressing.

Previously the singer wore a black dress by the Japanese brand Commes Des Garçons on the cover of the Guardian weekend defended the queer aesthetics of his visual work.

Of course, Harry’s choice didn’t go unnoticed, causing some outrage among elements of the conservative right-wing media.However, it’s important to note the majority of people were fanning over Styles in a dress rather than hating on him.

Similar to Harry, Actor Billy Porter wore a tuxedo gown to the 2019 Academy Awards. The ensemble, which looked like a normal tuxedo at the top, had an enormous velvet skirt on the bottom.

Billy Porter in the Tuxedo dress.

Billy has been making bold fashion statements way before Harry. The reaction for his fashion also has been hate and love. What Porter is trying to demonstrate is diversity in clothing for men is entirely possible.

Generally, men have not been open to the idea of adapting to garments in quite the same manner that women have adopted trousers. Women initially started wearing trousers out of practicality, to take on Man’s jobs.
*Why MEN are important ??*
By: Huzaifa Surti
Tags: Manhood, Man, Masculinity, Being Men

*Why MEN are important ??*

1. You can't spell (Madam)

without the (Adam)in it

2. Neither can you spell (Woman)

without the (Man)



3. You also cannot spell (Female)

without the (Male)

4. Nor spell (She)

without the (He)

5. You most definitely cannot spell (Mrs)

without the (Mr)

6. and finally, in prayers, we continue to say (Amen)

and not (A-women)...

*Dedicated to All Wonderful MEN*
A lovely sentiment, Tom. Great writing; mature, analyticial, genuine, and emotional.
By: Akos Peterbencze
Tags: Crying, Men, Emotions, Mental Health, Masculinity

Freelance Writer. The Weakest Superhero. Saving the world through pop culture, mental health, and true crime. Be my ally: rb.gy/3shdg5
3 Reasons To Watch ‘The Great Pottery Throw Down’
By: John Devore
Tags: TV Series, Craft, Masculinity, Reality TV, Streaming

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The second half of a project focused on Black identity politics, masculinity, and gender roles.
By: Rah Ameen
Tags: Thought, Magazine, Masculinity, Identity

The second half of a project focused on Black identity politics, masculinity, and gender roles. The project features a diverse and well rounded panel, thought provoking discourse, images of my favorite internet people, and much more. Culture is important. Discussion is important.

Read the full version here: bit.ly/2ExLNoS
Men actually listen to Candace Owens?!
By: Jane Stoll
Tags: Vikings, Masculinity, Candace Owens

Men actually listen to Candace Owens?!

I’m not surprised by her shallowness and ignorance of history — in her world, these two things are in high demand.

Ironically, many of the men she’s speaking to idolize Vikings. But Vikings were sticklers for cleanliness, grooming, and looking fabulous. And men were not shamed for crying or expressing “soft” feelings. King Harald Hardrada of Norway was well known for his beautiful hair and wasn’t shy about showing it off. He loved fine clothes and jewelry and is recorded as having been flamboyant in dress and manner — but as commander of the Varangian Guard he led an army of 6,000 men and many historians consider him to have been the most brilliant military tactician of his day. And he was a beserker, the fiercest of warriors, when in battle. But we have romantic love poems he wrote to his wife and he’s recorded as having been a gifted musician and lover of art, music, and poetry.

How sad is it that Owens is limiting men to such small, narrow parameters that there is no way they can actualize the fulness of their being?
International Men’s Day — The Men Syndrome
By: Rahul Iyer
Tags: November 19, Masculinity, Thoughts, International Mens Day, Opinion

I am 32 years old. Single. Living with my senior-citizen parents in their house. I am content with my job and I take out time to pursue my passions. I have (consciously) taken breaks in my career and my parents have been more than supportive of my decisions. I chose not to run the rat race. I don’t feel left behind or have a fear of missing out.

But you must be wondering why I am writing this? Since today morning, I have received numerous forwards on my WhatsApp wishing me for ‘International Men’s Day’. Firstly, Thank you for your wishes.

Second, I do not necessarily connect with the way society perceives men and the expectations that are defined to be associated with the concept of ‘Being Man’. I disregard the fact that you are considered a nice example of being a man ‘If and only If’ — one manages to earn more than your spouse, be the forerunner in being the breadwinner of the family, shoulder responsibilities without shedding a tear because all your lives you’ve been told ‘Strong men do not cry’. Also, the idea of other men gloating over their achievements — be it a 6-figure salary, a new house, a new car, etc. is nauseating, to say the least.

Over the years, I have realized that it’s okay to not try to be an over-achiever in the quest to be perceived as an ‘Ideal Man’. It’s absolutely okay to not be able to manage things, as the world would want one to perceive things. It’s okay to breakdown and vent out your frustrations. It’s Okay to Not Be Okay! It’s Okay to Not Be the Man the world desires one to be.

Don’t suit-up on those emotions caught inside, rather be vocal about it. Don’t fall for toxic masculinity.

I came across a very powerful message, which triggered me writing this. ‘Mad Over Marketing’ shared a post written by ‘@allontheboard’:
Here’s to ‘Him’
By: Renita Siqueira
Tags: Men, Internationalmensday, Poetry, Masculinity, Gender Roles

Poetry about the men we need.

Photo by Brittani Burns on Unsplash

Here’s to him

who stands up for fellow humans

irrespective of the labels society graciously provides

Here’s to him

who shows his strength through kindness and empathy

even when expected otherwise

Here’s to him

who is intelligent and has a wonderful sense of humour

without berating or un-dignifying others

Here’s to him

who is truly gentle and knows how to treat women well

and not just his wife, sister, daughter or mother

Here’s to him

who loves wholeheartedly

without reserve or shame

Here’s to him

who owns himself, his virtues, his faults

and doesn’t put ‘male ego’ to the blame

Here’s to him

who shares his beliefs

doing his bit to save humankind from ruin

Here’s to the ‘man’

who truly believes that above all else

it’s most important to be human.
Today is International Men’s Day … but when is it Women’s day?
By: Camilla Engelby
Tags: Toxic Masculinity, Mental Health, Masculinity, International Mens Day, Mens Day

Is that not the question one asks on these days? I’m only asking because each year on International Women’s Day social media is flooded with men asking angrily or sarcasticly (or both) when it’s International Men’s Day. Well it’s today.

In all seriousness though, this is a very important day!

This year’s theme is “Better Health for Men and Boys”.

So let’s start with the sad fact that the suicide rate for men globally is much higher than that of women.

One cause is toxic masculinity and gender stereotypes. Till this day many still teach boys and men that “boys don’t cry” and to “man up”.

Subsequently, when struggling, men tend not to reach out and get the help they desperately need — with fatal consequences.

The same toxicity is also the root cause for another issue that men face. Many men put off going to their doctor when physically ill, meaning that life threatening illnesses may be further along by the time they seek treatment.

An example of toxic masculinity at work is that right now #BringBackManlyMen is trending on Twitter. Most likely caused by the pictures of Harry Styles wearing a dress — something that the brilliant Billy Porter has done to per-fec-ti-on on multiple occasions previously — as if that is somehow an offence that diminishes all men. Rather than one person living their best life.

Because to some people, people conforming to gender stereotypes is much more important than the wellbeing of a single individual. They’d rather force everyone to take the blue pill & have us all remain enslaved by the toxic masculinity that hurts everyone, rather than redefine and broaden masculinity to better suit all men.

So on this #MensDay day let’s focus on bettering the lives of men — gay, straight, bi, cis, trans, etc. — by making masculinity inclusive for ALL men.

I firmly believe that it will have a positive long-term impact on both the physical & mental health of men & boys.

#YouAreIncluded

PS. Women’s day is 8 March, in case you didn’t know and don’t know how to use a search engine.
Double Standards
By: Katherine M. Gamble
Tags: Gender Equality, Double Standard, Toxic Masculinity, Masculinity, Gender Roles

Photo by Juan Marin on Unsplash

I was born female.

I didn’t have a say in the matter.

You were born male.

Despite you didn’t have a say in the matter, you think your gender makes you superior.

Why is this so?

I think that I know.

I am trying my hardest not to see you as a foe.

But your need to try to assert control of me has got to go.

My life is my seed to grow.

I don’t need your approval.

Never did, never will.

Seeing you for who you are tells me how to feel.

But here’s the deal.

I am woman and proud.

Anything you could do, so can I.

I will not hide the person I am inside.

I love being a woman as you love being a man.

I just need you to understand.

My choices are mine and your opinions don’t matter.

I don’t care how your image of me shatters.

Save your double standards for someone who cares.

Because I never will.
Men and their pride part 2
Tags: Toxic Relationships, Pride, Men, Feelings, Masculinity

“You know men become boys when pride comes.”Poodievillle lyrics

Meaning

Most men weakness is being perceived as weak mentally or physically. That is what hurts so many men pride this is why you hear these popular phrases beta and alpha males. Men will turn into boys by fighting or doing childish things whenever they feel played by another man this is so that they feel even by always responding or coming out on top. Perfect example in public how many times have you seen men fight over simple things in public. In most cases it is never about the problem but the crowd around made them turn to two year old boys who have to always fight and whoever wins the fight should get all the praises being abled a winner while the other one is labelled a loser. Another example is how many men have been killed because the situation had to involved a woman. This is because when a woman gets involved pride is at its highest therefore both men feel like death is the ultimate decider to whoever win.
Demokrat Viruslar
By: Alish Nazarov
Tags: Veba, Tarix, Covid-19, Democracy, Azərbaycan

in A Right to Retrofit
Texas House Speaker Dennis Bonnen, Wife Test Positive for COVID-19
By: Speaker Dennis Bonnen
Tags: Dennis Bonnen, Covid 19

Texas House Speaker Dennis Bonnen and his wife have tested positive for COVID-19, according to a post Sunday on his Facebook page.

Bonnen (R-Angleton) said in the post that his wife, Kim, tested positive last week, and he learned this weekend that he had COVID-19.

His wife has had “difficult but manageable symptoms,” and Bonnen’s have been mild, he said.

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Full coverage of the COVID-19 outbreak and how it impacts you

The Bonnen’s two sons, Jackson and Gregory, are being tested and they are quarantining as a family, the post said.

“We are unable to pinpoint our initial exposure, as we — like so many other families — made the difficult decision to celebrate Christmas with just our own household this year and have diligently followed all health protocols since March, thanks to my wife’s adamant reminders,” Bonnen wrote.

He warned people to take precautions.

“This disease is no joke in its unpredictability and severity, so please continue to keep your guard up and your loved ones protected,” Bonnen said.
Мафия не может править миром 179 серия __ Русская озвучка смотри онлайн YouTube (28 декабря 2020)
Tags: Covid 19, News

Action is the foundational key to all success (Pablo Picasso)
Обычная женщина 2 сезон 7 серия — сериал 2020 смотреть онлайн
Tags: Covid 19

If you are working on something exciting that you really care about, you don't have to be pushed. The vision pulls you (Steve Jobs)
2020 рік у фото/2020 Year in Photos
By: U.S. Embassy Kyiv
Tags: Year In Pictures, Us Embassy, Ukraine, Year In Photos, Covid 19

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Umoja- Unity
By: Raven G Holt
Tags: Umoja, Kwanzaa, Unity, Blackbodyissacred, Americher

Umoja- Unity

The Black Body is Sacred.

While many may not share this sentiment both within and outside the community, the Black Body is indeed sacred.

The following is not a superiority reflection; it’s an analytical observation from within.

History shows that the Black Body has been stolen, trafficked, enslaved, violated, and treated on a sub-human level for centuries. Because of this conditioning, we have enslaved our own, murdered our brothers & sisters, our homes have been left fatherless, and our children unsupervised, leaving the Black Family vulnerable. Within this, we have normalized a structure built on a frail foundation leaving our empires unsupported. Within our community, unity is the only thing that will reverse this generational curse. But we must understand that “a house divided against itself cannot stand”. We scoff at the humble practices of Kwanzaa as some “made-up holiday” and choose not to learn it’s fundamental principles of empowerment. When indeed all holidays and traditions are made up, yet we practice through commercial institutions without question. We drain our coin purses funding establishments that do not respect or value the Black dollar and body. The Black body continues to suffer silently through mental illness and is often misunderstood because of our psyches’ programming. The Black Female Body is hyper-sexualized and is disrespected and discarded because of it. The Black Male Body is sent out into the world without leadership and guidance, forcing them to seek refuge in toxicity resulting in incarceration or the grave. The Black body is susceptible to abuse of authority and minimal government representation in the courts and social structures. We need to restructure the unification element, police ourselves, and hold ourselves and the outside offensive elements accountable.

Brothers arm yourselves with education, economics, and the necessary means to protect your families. Sisters are called to do the same. Organization and structure are the only answer to breaking free from confinement. UNITY is Key!

Kwanzaa2020
[Unity] Cell Division and Growth (2)
By: Question Kid
Tags: Computer Graphics, Unity

In the example, particles are connected with the edges in between.

Closed

Branch

Edge Division

Search all dividable edges and add them into dividable pool buffer. Divide the particle that has no edges, if there is no dividable edge, and connect them together with the new edge Get the dividable edge from the pool buffer if there is an edge available

Edge Strength

Use position information of two connected particles to compute force for every edge Apply force by searching all the edges connected to the specific particle

Kernels (Edge)
Action and Func in C#
By: Needone App
Tags: Unity, C Sharp Programming

Actions and func are another ways to create delegates.

Action is a delegate that points to a method which in turn accepts one or more arguments but returns no value.

Func is a delegate that points to a method that accepts one or more arguments and returns a value.

Action and Func can be used with delegates

Action and Func can be used as method parameters

Example of Action

Action doesn’t return any value.

// action with generic type

Action<Book> printBookTitle = delegate(Book book)

{

Console.WriteLine(book.Title);

};

printBookTitle(book);





// action without generic type

Action printLog = delegate {

Console.WriteLine("log");

};

printLog();

Example of Func

Takes one or more parameters, and return a value which the type is the last parameters.

// Func convert an integer to string

Func<int, string> toString = delegate(int i)

{

return i.ToString();

};



Console.WriteLine(toString(12));

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