Love Goggles
By: Michaela Jean
Tags: Life Lessons, Love, Individuality, Self Love, Knowledge

Love Goggles

Now I know you’ve heard of beer goggles.

Photo by Akshat Jain on Unsplash

In my line of work, we also throw the term “deployment goggles” around. To explain, deployment goggles are when you deploy to a different country and you go so long without any type of attention or intimacy that it starts making people seem more attractive. (I can attest to this, I didn’t want to believe it, but then I lived it)

Here’s another for your goggle dictionary: Love Goggles.

I wear love goggles like it’s my job, which isn’t meant to sound braggy.

I was listening to a radio show a while back and the women were talking about how they couldn’t follow through with the standards they set for themselves once they were in a relationship, and they didn’t know why.

Although I wanted nothing more than to call in and blow their minds with this concept, I hate the way my voice sounds over the radio (forced to use a walkie-talkie at work) so I decided to write about it instead.

Well, here’s your easy answer — Love Goggles.

Love goggles are a little more complex than your everyday beer goggles or deployment goggles. They not only cloud the physical aspects of your partner but also your own standards, morals, and even goals, kind of like an emotional VR Headset.

You may be shaking your head right now thinking to yourself “Love goggles…? no way” but hear me out.

Have you ever put something you wanted on the back burner because you put the support of your significant other first?

Have you skipped your favorite Zumba class, book club, or girls night out because your significant other REALLY wanted you to do something else, or maybe they expressed to you that they really don’t like when you do those things?

Have you gone through a break-up where afterward you tell yourself you’ll never put up with anyone with certain characteristics, but the next person you choose is showing you all the same red flags?

Here’s a big one, have you given up on a big dream of yours, maybe a business idea, change of career, or going back to school because your significant other wasn’t exactly supportive or motivating?

LOVE GOGGLES.

I guarantee that down the road you’re going to take those love goggles off and regret letting the relationship sway your decision making.

I’m guilty of this 100%, when I’m in a relationship I have a nasty habit of putting my significant other in front everything, to include myself. These relationships almost never last, mostly because there isn’t any sort of balance.

Your significant other should be swaying your decision making, but not without notable evidence of why you should, or shouldn’t do things.

The biggest flaw of the emotional obscuring love goggles is you start to lose sight of yourself and can only see you and your other half as a pair. You need to keep your individuality, your goals, and your dreams in order to keep your sanity and a healthy relationship

I’m not saying to take your love goggles off and never put them back on, I’m just saying that some days you may want to sit back and ask yourself if you’re happy with your decsions. Are you happy because you still have love and aren't lonely? or are you happy because it was the best decision for you (first), and (then) your relationship?

We all need and want love, but we also need it to be fair, supportive, and motivating not stressful, harmful, and harsh. Sometimes its hard to see the flaws of a relationship (any kind of relationship) through the haze of love goggles.