Encourage equality, don’t force it!
By: Hugo Bertrand
Tags: Politics, Equality, Culture, LGBT, Society

If you do have a passion for people, you should not care what people’s tastes are, what they love, what they do not love, what they admire etc. You should simply let it be! If you meet someone part of the LGBT community or are friends with that person, you are negotiating with that person socially, therefore you should not care about what that person loves as that is their business, not yours.

Coming out is important, but do it privately, do come out with your close friends and your parents, but not to the whole world, not on LinkedIn, and do not put it in your twitter bio. Human Beings cannot obtain real human satisfaction through electronic platforms, as this is not real enough. In this world, there is a problem where too many people are attached to their Ego and feel entitled. Like Nikki Sapp explains: “The problem is, when we become attached to who we THINK we are, and then try to convince others that this is who we are as well, we create a prison for ourselves.”

The ideal thing to do would be to detach yourself from your Ego which lies in your mind. You want to lead, from your stomach, (Guts, Fear) then your Heart (kindness, curiosity, openness) and then comes the mind which balances all of that. (I will go develop further in the next articles ) Eckhart Tolle, spiritual guru and psychologist, mentions that you do not want to use your Ego and Mind all the time. Nowadays, we think too much with out our conscious minds and not enough with our bodies. You want to free yourself from your Ego and from your mind.

We want to empower equality and encourage it, we do not want to force it. Quotas on people is a long term form of extreme inequality. I do not think it is right to select and judge people in function of what they love, whether man or woman or transexual people. We do say that Privacy is human right, but then it is possible that one candidate might be rejected because he/she is gay or lesbian? How come California signed into law and ordered corporations to include on their boards “underrepresented communities” which includes individuals who identify as Black, African-American, Hispanic, Latino, Asian, Pacific Islander, Native American, Native Hawaiian or Alaska Native, or who identify as gay, lesbian, bisexual or transgender? If Elon Musk is famous or infamous for one thing, is to speak honestly and without caring too much about political correctness, he did criticise California, and how entitled people are.

Society talks a little too much about feminism and women empowerment these days, and men feel somewhat guilty if something goes wrong, and in the long run, both men and women become so scared but polite that many are not having sex nor forming families in the rich countries and demography is declining. I think we’ve done huge progress when it comes to empowering women and there is still much more to be done. Some newspapers even mentioned that if we wanted real equality, why wouldn’t we talk about machismo as much as we talk about feminism? Melinda Gets keeps saying that society needs more woman in tech and I’m happy because when I have female friends that wish to enter the industry but cry, I send them these articles and they are happy again! But Melinda Gates, please do not over-say it, if women want to work as firefighters, or as a taxi drivers, or stay at home, or want to work in a bank, let them be! We are not living life to the fullest! Experiences, life and learning from mistakes is more important than being overwhelmingly polite and perfect, what do you say?

You want to have a passion for people, just like Patch Adams, one must go beyond a persons’ tastes, or the details, and aim for the core of what makes us human: which is a heart, a smile, eyes, and the brain. Do not look at what is superficial such as skin colour or gayness/straightness. The brain, the heart, the eyes are the same in everybody. Most people in this world cannot distinguish the fundamentals of what makes us human, from the details. Do understand the human-condition and you will be a better off in life.

As a kid, I barely lived in my home country, I grew up in London and in Barcelona, I was the smallest in my class, I was bullied for many years, and when I wanted to play with the younger kids that were my size, they to me that I should play with people my own age. When I was six, I was sitting on a chair next to my young sister and my mother tells us: “Hugo, you are very lucky to be a boy” And to my sister: “Maria, you are very lucky to be a girl.”

This experience taught me 3 things, to be good at communicating for the times I had to defend myself, to be good at ignoring certain people that belittles me so I can move on the next person, and to accept my identity and other people’s. I now live in Berlin which is probably the city where there is the most Gay, Lesbians, Transexuals. And all is good! I have many friends that are LGBT and I could not care less! People are People.

People are people. So stop putting quotas, stop forcing diversity and encourage it instead. Respect Mother Nature, learn from the Animal Kingdom, and you will find out that LGBT and skin colour is really nothing at all.

How do we encourage equality? By actively listening to the so called minorities, and acting on their decisions but you do not encourage equality by putting somebody in a leadership position because of a person’s colour or sexual preference; to me, that’s being superficious and fake.

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