What Every Mother Does Not Know !
By: Fuzail Hayaat
Tags: Love, Kids, Mothers And Daughters, Baby Care, Moms

If one thing is a constant in your child’s life, it’s their mom!

Not to take anything away from dads, but mother always have that special touch.

As much as you may love your child, moms seem to forget a very important lesson about their kid. This lesson is counter-intuitive. Few mothers even know about it. Yet it is 100 percent in control of your relationship with your child!

Have you ever wondered why there seems to be so many single mothers, while there is only a few single fathers? The reason for this is not often talked about. Here is the one reason, your body (if your woman) sends out chemicals that force you to love your child. Men do not produce these chemicals. Even if a mother wanted to give up her child, it would be extremely difficult.

What does this mean for your relationship with your child?

You can not be rational. It is hardwired into your body to support and protect your kid. Therefore, everything that happens in your child’s life will feel like it is happening to you.

Last evening I was speaking with my mother about our experience together growing up. She still holds on to the guilty feels about certain situations. Her logical mind tells her to let go of these feelings, but her emotional mind will not let them go.

From experience I can tell you that growing up was a roller coaster for many reasons. It is much more complex when the child and mother are sharing the experiences with the same level of emotions. This is the very reason for fights with your kid.

What is a mother to do? Feel guilt? Constantly express your feelings to your kid? No! You need to check your emotions.

I am not saying quit loving your kids or not be emotional in general. What I am saying is you need to have your “inner” parenting skills together. You can not be on the same emotional roller coaster as your kid. You have to develop your “inner” skills. Kids struggle with understanding themselves, if you as a parent can figure it out either, you both are in the same stinking ship.

Eventually, what happen is you learn how to positively address your emotional issues. You learn how effectively control you feelings, and then you teach your child to do the same thing.

One great way to clam your emotions is exercise. If you walk 30 minutes a day, it will greatly improve your physical and emotional help. What is even better is if you walk with you kid; it will allow for conversation to flow, it frees emotions that might be built up, most important it builds your connection with your kid.

Another tip is to be selfish! Mothers are notorious for not giving themselves time. I know when my mom was raising the four kids in our family she would work a 16 hour day from firs thing in the morning until we fell asleep at time. Set aside time for your emotional health.

Lastly, make time for you and your kid to bond. Do not just go through the motions of life. Finding activities that you can do together that will bring you together.

John T.S. Murphy- went from being the kid that most parent wish they NEVER had. To a success story. Graduating College, Owner of Multiple Business, and a Constant Addict for Self Improvement. He has a new book titled “GIVE UP NOW, YOUR A FAILURE!” The book is a how-to guide for people dealing with their Learning Disabilities.

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