How to overcome fears?
By: Nischal Kanishk
Tags: Fear, Fear Of Failure, Motivational, Motivation, Life

What is the fear? Why do we fear? Is it just imaginary or something else? Let’s dive deep into this topic and see and realize what is exactly a fear and how can we overcome that.

What is Fear?

According to science, people are born with just two fears — Fear of falling and fear of loud sounds. And all the other fears we have are just built over time. It might be you who created the fear in your mind, it might be your close friends, your family members, or any other person. But if you notice what did I just wrote, CREATED. Yes, fears are created, and anything which can be created can be destroyed also. Give it a thought.

Now we know fear is something which is created. But how exactly it’s created? The answer is imaginary. We imagine the fear, we never see the fear. We create situations in mind and a simple question — What if? What if something wrong happens? What if I can’t do it? These are the questions we create to find and further create a fear. And fear can become so great that you can see and feel the things happening around you which are not happening. So, we should understand fear is imaginary. And we can’t simply overcome something imaginary. This might have answered the question — What is fear?

Why fear?

Why fear is created? Sadguru says it happens because you are not living in your life, you are living in your mind, and what goes in mind? Thoughts. So, you are always surrounded by thoughts that are good and bad, imaginary, and real. If you look closely to fear, it doesn’t seem to happen in the present, it always takes place in the future. Let’s see it with an example — Suppose you are fearing to dive into the water. You are not fearing now, your fear says what happens after you jump. That’s where you get the fact, why people say to live in the present. That will be the time you will understand what is life?

Also, imaginary fears which are non-existential is insanity. It can make a person very weak from the mind and also that person will face various brain-related problems. Sadguru also says fear is something that is rooted in your mind. A simple solution to it is to try rooting thoughts in reality and that’s when the word fear goes off. This is a perfect solution but it needs practice, time, and focus.

Create good movies and Enjoy the fear

To create FEAR, you think excessively, have so many things going in your mind, create situations, create another situation from an already existing one. You also create movies in your mind, you can’t simply just disagree with it. But that movie has no producers, but a director — YOU. You can title the movie like some horror movie because you feared that. If that is the case then make some good movies in your mind, that you might enjoy. Think deeply on this — Enjoy the fear. Enjoy the thoughts that come to your mind. You can’t change reality, then at least enjoy what is happening. Start using your mind differently.

Instead of thinking about consequences, think about the possibilities, and you might have a solution to what will happen in the future because you will be prepared for anything that will happen. You already have had those situations in your mind, so now you can act wisely. Reality is the thing that takes away the fear. When you create a possibility that’s when you start searching for answers and slowly your possibilities help you reach a point where to see the reality.

Control your mind

Another thing is controlling your mind. When you let your mind control you, problems start knocking on your door, and what mind does is forces you to open the door. You open you see the problems you fear, and then your mind comes to help by overthinking in that situation. So, the first thing is controlling your mind before it controls you. Meditation has helped many people, but not all. What I suggest is you find your way to control your mind. It might be listening to music, playing some sport, doing some art or any other thing. Remember you need to learn how to live happily?

Clear your mind

Suppose you fear from a ghost. That is a thought in your mind that ghost is something. You don’t exactly know what it is, or who it is. All the perceptions and thoughts you have made about ghost stays in your mind. If you clear your mind and clear that thought of a ghost, the ghost will not mean anything to you and you won’t fear. Everything is just the game of your mind.

#1 Solution: Practice to face the problem

Sometimes your fear starts hurting you from inside. What you can do in that situation is that you can practice how to face that situation. It can be divided into two parts:

Short term solution Long term problem

Either you can work on it and find some solution to it, face it, and then overcome it. That becomes your short-term solution. OR you can just sit in a corner and cry, and fear even more, which eventually becomes a long-term problem.

#2 Solution: Belief in YOU

You need to believe in what you are doing. Jay shetty says if you can believe in you, no one else can and will believe in you. So, the first step to overcome something is believing that yes you can do, yes you have the capabilities. This also comes with practice.

#3 Solution: Build confidence

Now suppose you have stage fear and fear from talking in front of 100’s of people. Why does that happen? You have thoughts in mind like what will people think about me, how will I speak, will I serve the purpose. In all the questions you can notice something common — I. You are always linking the things with yourself which constantly makes you think about yourself and will create a self -doubt. Feel you are pleasing people, think about the other people, why have they come there. Then you will feel you are serving people and that boosts your confidence.

#4 Solution: Find ways to face and overcome

The more you run from something, the more it will come to you. Take an example of a criminal, even though he might have not committed any crime, he will run from the police with a fear that they may catch him/her. When he/she will stop running from the police he/she will get to know the reality that they were fearing from something that didn’t even happen. So, face your problems, face your fears and that’s how you will overcome it.