What I am trying to tell
By: Jannah Kanaan
Tags: Questions, Positive Thinking, Thinking, Sleeping, Thoughts

What I am trying to tell

Hello everyone

I am Jannah and I am 17 years old. I live in The Netherlands. I study at the higher secondary education. The picture above is my favorite picture of myself!

I am so glad that you clicked on my story. I actually have so much to say, and at the same time, I dont even know what to say. Besides studying, being young and trying to enjoy my life, there are alot of other things that people almost never discuss. For example the thoughts that keep you awake at night. The thoughts that have developed can come from different factors. It could be: being sad, being happy, being in love, being grateful etc.

I hope that for you, dear reader, it is because of happiness, joy or other positive feelings. But I know, the most common reason for sleepless nights are because of thoughts, negative thoughts. Or bad news, maybe it could be stress. Actually, it could be all of the above. I to have been in those situations. Awful thoughts that cross my mind and keep me moving in bed and trying to find a position to fall in sleep. All just because I don’t want to think about it.

I wish somebody would tell me sooner that it is normal and okay to think, but as long as you are not hurting yourself or causing damage to your mental health. I wish somebody would tell me that staying awake and trying to look for answers isn’t the answer. I know that it can be hard, because life is hard, but life is al about bending and not breaking.

Another question that I have been thinking about it: why did no one tell me that, sometimes not knowing things, is better than knowing it. There are countless nights that I have been spending trying to find the answers on people’s actions. Or other questions. Why, how, when aren’t the questions that you should ask. Just keep that in mind.

I know it sounds harsh but I will explain why I said what I said. So, let’s say someone did you dirty. I know for almost 100% your first thoughts will be: why would they do that? Why would they do that to me? When did they do it? How could they even do it? Etc. And here comes my perspective: the person already did it so thinking about why and how is too late and is only stressing you out. The person had his/her reason to do that and you don’t need to know it. It happened get over it, try to focus on the future. Instead of f.e. keeping yourself up all night and ruining your own sleeping schedule, try to stay positive. Because as i said, it already happened. I am not here to sugarcoat things. I know it is hard, it certainly is really hard to control your thoughts. But what does it do for you? Does it help you to get angry, cry or anything else? No, it doesn’t. What helps you is trying to stay positive, focus on the future.

Something that really helped me is ‘the five year rule’. The rule is: if it doesn’t matter in 5 years, it shouldn’t get in the way for more than 5 minutes. Think about it, cry, yell, but not more than five minutes. Because after those 5 minutes, it is done. You are done. Done thinking about it and done caring about it.

I hope I helped you!

Yours faithfully,

Jannah Kanaan