Nobody is Doing Transgender Related Surgery On A 12 Year Old
Tags: Equality, Family, BlackLivesMatter, LGBTQ, Transgender

Nobody is Doing Transgender Related Surgery On A 12 Year Old

This just shows how much you DON’T know about transitioning

My heart goes out to Zaya Wade.

I can not imagine having to navigate being a young, black transwoman on such a cruel world stage.

Everyone is ranting and gathering their pitchforks about Zaya having surgery. Why are adults going on Instagram Live to discuss a 12-year-old’s genitalia? Why are grown people holding in-depth conversations about this child going through such a personal life journey?

If you would take a moment to use your common sense, you would realize that no doctor would perform a trans-related surgery on a 12-year-old, no matter how rich and famous their parents are.

At most, she’ll be put on medication to stop puberty which buys her more time to decide if this is the right step for her, which she may not even need.

A lot of transgender and nonbinary people know who they are as young as three.

My grandmother told my mom I was a boy when I was just two. Sure enough, when I got old enough to talk, I wasted no time telling them how much I hated dresses and pink. I wanted pants, dump trucks, wrestling figures, and remote-controlled cars.

All you have to do is pay attention to your child and not dictate what they like based on what you think they should enjoy based on their genitalia. Let girls play with toys marketed for boys and vice versa. Now, this doesn’t mean they’re trans. It simply means they’re human with a wide array of interests.

I can guarantee you nobody is “cutting his dick off.”

There is a vast difference between being gay and being transgender. Zaya and other young girls like her are not simply gay boys who are overly feminine. They are girls, whether you like it or not. There is no “let him be gay, but don’t cut his dick off!”

That’s not how any of this works. I know it’s hard for people to understand when they haven’t experienced any of this. It’s hard to comprehend when you got to grow up loving the body and skin that you’re in. You didn’t need anyone to tell you that you liked the opposite sex, it just happened.

This isn’t for you to understand.

Transgender people are not some test subjects you get to analyze and pick apart. We are human just like you all. We bleed the same. We feel the same emotions.

We are not some circus act. We are not a science experiment. We are not freaks or monsters or a mistake by God. We are simply who we are. We just happen to be transgender.

It is not our job to provide you with unlimited information no matter how personal it is to us. It is not our job to teach and coddle you and hold your hand until you magically understand that it really is none of your business.

You do not have to understand. You don’t even have to agree. Just leave us the hell alone. Stop trying to decide what basic human rights we deserve and what we should and shouldn’t be able to do with our own bodies.

Zaya Wade and all LGBTQ children deserve to live in their truth.

Why should they have to stay in the closet for 20+ years and bury such a horrendous pain deep down inside themselves?

Why should they have to wait until they turn a magical age just to be happy? Who are you to decide what they do and don’t know about themselves?

Unlike most transgender children, Zaya Wade is surrounded by a team of medical professionals and older trans-women mentors that will make sure she is safe, healthy, and happy. She also is surrounded by the unconditional love and support of her family.

No doctor is performing life-altering surgery on a minor at such a young age. I think the youngest age a doctor would perform such a surgery on is 16–17 and only with an abundance of documentation from therapists and parental consent.

If you all are so concerned, turn your attention to the young LGBTQ kids that actually need help.

Donate to LGBTQ organizations. Feed the homeless. Fight against the anti-LGBTQ laws trying to be put into place. Support LGBTQ groups in schools. Provide safe spaces for these kids to grow and feel loved. Support healthy LGBTQ discourse in schools.

Accept that trans people aren’t going anywhere. We’ve been here before you and we’ll still be here long after you’re gone. Accept that the LGBTQ community isn’t something you can just shove under the rug. We will not stick around in the shadows anymore.

We deserve to bask in the sunlight.