Will Love Make You Happy?
By: Luis Pereira
Tags: Dating Advice, Love, Happiness In Life, Happiness, Dating Pressure

Movies, songs, and even fellow writers talk about love. And the unfound joy it brought to their lives.

Yet what we don’t talk about is, if love will truly make you happy when you see your own flaws.

The answer is yes and no.

With the right partner, you can definitely be happier, but the same can be said with a bad partner. A bad partner will leave you worse than you felt before. It will make you feel distraught and potentially depressed.

To make things clear, love has the potential to bring happiness, but you first need to find happiness within yourself. Otherwise when you are left alone. Your thoughts will leave you in a lower place than you could have possibly imagined.

What should you do to make sure this situation does not occur?

You Should Focus On Yourself

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When I say focus on yourself, I mean do the things that make you happy and improve your own mental well being. For example, if you have abandonment issues, focus on that. Or if you have weight insecurities than work on it.

Doing these things will not only make you feel happier and productive but it also increases your mental health. Thus it ensures the possibility of you being in a good relationship, instead of one where you are seeking it for insecurity reasons.

Specify What You Want In Your Future Partner

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We often get into a committed relationship without even knowing what we want in a person. This could result in a huge loss of time and recovery both for you and the person.

The only catch is, your specifications shouldn’t be shallow e.g. appearance-wise. Looks do fade after all.

Your specifications could be like these ones…

The person prioritizes family Loves Kids Is Physically active Has a funny personality

These types of attributes will ensure the success of your relationship in the long run. But, do write down what you don’t want in a person.

Like, you don’t want them if…

They’re Self-absorbed Lazy Immature Violent

Be sure to make this list be based on your preferences.

When completing all of these steps, then love can make you truly happier than before. Though be aware, there will still be hardships, just like in any relationship.

What To Do When You Found Your Potential Partner

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When you found someone that sounds like a perfect match for you. You will need to be upfront and honest with them about what you want, are you dating to potentially get married or are you just going with the flow?

Doing so clears any assumptions both parties may have. Which will result in an even happier relationship.

When finally deciding to go for it. You can now spend the rest of your days being in a happy romantic relationship.

Should You Even Decide To Date?

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Though you might be thinking, what if I Don’t want to date? then don’t, it’s that simple. A lot of the times I hear friends and family members saying they need to date since they want someone to spend their lives with.

Although this is sweet, you need to remember. Having this mindset will only make you feel pressured to find anyone, even if they do not meet your specifications.

It is also important to remember, although you might say you are already at the age to get married or be dating. Truly think to yourself, is this what you want? And if so, was this by your own decision or by society's views on what you should be doing?

Many times, I often see people, feeling pressured by society that they will need to get married at a certain age or have kids at a certain age.

Do not let society control your own personal life.

You are the one who knows what's best for you after all.