What the experience of pregnancy can teach us about successs
By: Inf Woobensky Pierre
Tags: Success, Baby, Goals, Pregnancy, New Years Resolutions

Last december, as the new years was comming billions of people around the world were doing one thing in common, they were all making resolutions for the new year; to speak a new language, to play a new instrument, to achieve a particular thing in the new year. But the sad thing about this is that today, about three months later most of this resolutions and goals have been abandoned, or maybe even forgotten. while there are many reasons for these failures, a good and proven knowledge on how to keep goals alive and actually achive them would have allowed them to have an outrageously happy and successful years just as they wished it to be. Now the question is how do you do that? how do you set a goal and actually achieve it no matter how big it is? could it be that the secret to such a sought-ater know-how is be found in somthing as common as pregnancy? Can the analysis of such a process be the key to all your goal? Well, the answer is Yes, and that’s what we are going to see in this article.

First of all,

The exciting part

We’ve all had this experience wherewe get higlly excited about a particular idea, about something we would like to be able to do, somthing we would like to have , or something we would like to become; maybe an instrument we would like to play, a championship we would like to win, a language we would like to speak, or anything basically we want to achieve. We get real excited about it, we are willing to do whatever it takes to get that thing. That’s the easiest and funnest part of a goal. The CONCEPTION of the goal.

Generally before a person becomes pregnant there is always this attractve part characterized by intense pleasure and huge rushes of adrenaline and dopamine circulating through the person’s body — it’s called sex by the way. That’s when the process for the conception of the baby begins. If it is successful — because often time many people just spend their time wishing and getting excited about reaching a particular goal, they never go to the next level — The conception brings to one of the first signs of pregnancy:

Morning sickness

A few weeks after conception, begins what is often called MORNING SICKNESS. It is marked by naussea, often times vomitting. Altough rarely serious, it can be very unpleasant. That’s when most people give up on their goals and resolutions, they are excited to get started, but then as things starts to get hard they give in. For example you may had the goal to lose an amount weights in a certain amount time, but after a week of lifting the weights your body starts to hurt badly, then you give up.

Altought unpleasant, morning sickness is considered a normal part of a healthy pregnancy.

So you must remember after setting a goal, the first steps are always going to be difficult. It’s never gonna be easy. You must have the courage to keep going, no matter what. Keep lifting the weights, no matter how uncomfortable it feels. Keep taking the lessons no matter how awkward you sound in the new instrument. The difficulties you encounter are not there to tell you that you’re not made for this, they’re a normal part of the process. Hardship is not a stopping sign, but a symptom of growth. There is a quote that says “Everything that is worth doing well, is worth doing badly in the beginning”.

The baby bump

In about 12 months, the belly of the pregnant woman starts growing to fit the baby. That’s when people starts noticing her pregnancy. Now, they know that she is expecting. It’s most dangerous and fragile state of the process.

In the goal setting perspective, that’s when you start seeing the result of your commitment during the hard stages, when you and people around you can easily observe the progressions. And just as for a pregnant woman, it’s the period where you have to be extremely careful.

First, you have to stay away from every form of harmful agents to the pregnancy — to your goal. You have to stay away from every person , thing or situation that might be potentially damaging to your goals; negative people, negative influences, people who are jealous about your progress,dream stealers, energy suckers, things that are holding you back, beliefs that hold you down, laziness, procrastination and so on, should all be avoided.

Second, it is critical in this stage for the woman to take good advice from experienced and trusted people and that she consults regularly her doctor, because, better than her, those people know how the process works and their guidance is really invaluable to her if she doesn’t this whole process to end up being a failure. So when you are pursuing your goals, you should not be alone in the battle. you should constantly be looking for genuine advices from every reliable sources you can find; books, mentors, people who’ve reached where you want to go, videos, workshops, etc. Often we fail, not because we are not committed or motivated, but because we don’t have the right techniques and strategies. For example, I’ve spent more than three years trying to learn to speak english, falling and standing back up, and faliing again, never even being able to make 10 mnute talk with a native. But the very day I got the how-to from a friend, it changed everything: in the next three months I was able to even spend an entire day speaking only in english with a native.

but it is far from enough to just listen to advices. and this brings me to the third and last thing you should consider when in this stage: you have to be DISCIPLINE. No woman can hope to have a successful pregnancy if you are not disciplined. if you don’t follow the prescriptions of your doctor. So just like for the pregnant woman there are things you shouldn’t eat, things you should eat, things you shouldn’t drink, things you should drink, things you shouldn’t do, and things you should do during pregnancy, you have a number of things you have radically say goodbye to, and things you should start embracing, when you decide to pursuit a goal. And that’s unnegotiable. No one can do your push ups for you, no one can lift your weight for you, no one can study for you, work for, wake up early for you or do anything that is your responsibility. You have to take ownership of your daily actions, you have to do the hard works that are required to bring you where you need to go. And the thing that will help you to do these, and to them with joy and excitement, is your passion for the goal.

Which brings us to the last stage of the process:

The delivery

As you are moving forward towards your goals, the closer and more excited you get the harder it gets. Now it’s time for the delivery of the baby, the goal you’ve been making all those sacrifices for since the begining. Every body is impatiently looking forward to that day; family members are all present, your coach, your, your peers, etc. It is a mixture of emotions, joy, fear, excitement… your emotional fullness makes you almost forget the pain that lies ahead, right before the triumph.

So she goes to the hospital, gets into the room, everything is ready, the rest of the family is waiting outside, scared and impatient, it’s about to start…

So what can we learn from this?

There are a three lessons we gonna get from it, and they will resume the process of goal achievement.