Spark All Your Feels — You Were Born for This
By: David Majister
Tags: Inspiration, Creativity, Passion, Life Lessons, Motivation

Spark All Your Feels — You Were Born for This

Power questions to light up your circuits

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You’re in tune with life. You dance to life’s melody. You’re dialed into the frequency of passion, and that vibrates in everything you do. You got the feels — you were born for this.

I admire people who live with purpose. They know what matters to them, and make big strides to achieve it. They live with the strong assurance “I was born for this”. That’s the kind of person I want to be.

I’ve discovered that finding your purpose is a lot easier and simpler than most people think.

You can start living with purpose and passion right away. All it takes is three questions to spark up your passion circuits.

Like a fish searching for water

A small fish swimming in the ocean asks a bigger fish:

“Can you tell me where to find this thing they call the Ocean?”

Finding your passion is a lot like a fish searching for water.

For a fish, water is everywhere, all around them. In the quote above, the small fish doesn’t notice the very thing that’s completely obvious.

The same is true of passion. Your passion is everywhere, all around you. It’s so close to you, so obvious, that it’s easy for you to miss it. You don’t see it, feel it or notice it.

Finding your passion means learning to see something that’s already there. The passion that lights you up are already encoded into you. You only need to learn how to read the code, how to unlock the matrix.

Here’s how I did this for myself (and in a moment I’ll share specific questions to ask so you can do it too).

Sparks of passion light you up in subtle, surprising ways

A few years ago I went for a coastal walk with my wife, along the clifftops. We were hiking in a remote part of the country, nobody else was there. Just the two of us, and our dog. Suddenly we saw the cliffs open out into a beautiful, vast sandy beach. It was pristine, and it was all ours.

This happened in the early springtime, the sun glittered on the waves, and the weather was cool. Neither of us wanted to go swimming or sunbathing, but we were curious about the beach. We walked down a small trail, between bramble bushes, and came to the sand. Then we went exploring, looking for driftwood. I found a stick and threw it for our dog.

As we were walking, I had an urge to take off my shoes and socks. I can’t explain it, it just seemed like the right thing to do. The sand beneath my bare feet was cold, I felt alive at my connection with nature. Then as we got close to the sea, I had another urge — to run!

I hadn’t been on a run for many years. But it just seemed the obvious thing to do in that moment. I felt free and I wanted to express it. So along the edges of the waves, besides their crashing foam, I ran and ran and ran. I sprinted the whole length of the beach, my dog sprinting beside me. As I reached the end of the beach, I leaned forward, gulping huge mouthfuls of air. I looked up and smiled at my wife, then I ran back to her. I couldn’t really explain what I had just done, but I knew that it meant something.

This short sprint — a couple of hundred meters — opened up a crack, a portal to a new dimension. I found a place where I discovered a new sense of purpose.

I switched on a new life path

As a result of that experience, when other opportunities came up to go running I said yes. Previously I would have thought “running, that’s not for me, I have too many other things to do, and I’m not into fitness”. But those few moments on the beach changed me forever. They were a clue to unlock my purpose.

When opportunities came up to go running, I made them a priority. I did this because I knew running brought me to a happy place. It lit me up.

What happened on the beach tuned me into my purpose. I listened to that clue. I followed up. I now run three times every week. It’s part of my life that gives me incredible joy.

I’d like to show you how you can find this for yourself too.

You might be thinking: ‘Sounds good for you, but is there really enough power to light me up?’

I bet you can find plenty of reasons why this is just a nice dream and won’t work for you. Maybe:

You’ve got a busy, stressful job and your boss drives you crazy — you need to quit and find a new career

You’re not in a good relationship — first you need to find the right person for you

You’ve tried already to find your passion so many times, and you still feel stuck

I can’t prove the technique I’m about to share will work for you if you’re in one of the situations above, or you’re facing something similar.

All I can say is that I was in all these situations, and following the technique meant I found surprising ways forward. After a while, I found:

The stressful job seemed a lot more fun — and new opportunities opened up

My relationship got much better and we started enjoying each others' company again

I stopped trying to find my passion, and realized I already knew it — I just needed to stop looking so hard.

Sherlock Holmes clues to find your spark of passion

Finding your passion is a bit like being a Sherlock Holmes and looking for clues. You’re solving a mystery. The good news is, the answers are everywhere, all around you. You’ll find them in your daily life once you know the right questions to ask.

Each day, ask yourself the following three questions. You can do this throughout the day, as a continual check-in. Or you can sit for a few minutes at the end of the day, and ponder what happened during the day. Here are the questions:

When did you feel free today?

What made you feel most alive?

What are you grateful for today?

As you ask these questions, you’ll find clues to your life purpose. You’ll start to see the things that light you up. Most likely, many of these things were there all along you just hadn’t spotted them before. I visited the beach hundreds of times before the day I started running — yet it was only that day I unlocked my passion because I noticed the clue.

When you get a clue — follow the spark

As you ask the three questions, you’ll find clues to your purpose and passion. I’ve been surprised plenty of times by what comes up when I ask the three questions, and I’m guessing you will too. The clues you find will likely catch you off-guard.

What should you do with these clues? Follow up.

As you notice the things that light you up, take positive steps to bring more of those into your life.

If running lights you up, adjust your schedule to allow more time for running

If being with your child lights you up, make a conscious effort to switch off your phone while you’re around them. Ask what game they want to play, then put your full attention into playing that game.

If cooking Italian food lights you up, invite some friends over for a meal, and make them your favorite recipe.

You’ll find that when you nurture your passions in this way, they’ll grow and grow. And you’ll grow too. You’ll be assured in your life purpose. You’ll come to a place where you can look at yourself in the mirror with a big smile.

You’ll spark all your feels and know: “I was born for this.”