The FIRST Step Toward Healing a Broken Marriage
By: Thriving In Love
Tags: Marriage, Christian Living, Life Coach, Coronavirus, Infidelity

A few years ago, I noticed some bruising on my legs. I hadn’t bumped into anything or done any extremely physical activity that I could think would have caused the bruising. So I called my sister who is a nurse. She immediately said I should contact my doctor because bruising doesn’t happen for no reason, if it wasn’t an external cause then there may be something more serious going on internally.

When I spoke with my doctor, she suggested I get my routine blood work done to make sure everything was normal. I was diagnosed with lupus in 2010, so I have my blood tested every few months to make sure I am doing well.

The next day, the nurse called with my blood test results and instructed me to go directly to the emergency room. The tests showed that my platelets had dropped to only 12,000 (the normal range is 150,000–450,000). Unknowingly, I was one trip or fall away from possibly bleeding from my brain.

I called Christian and he came home from work to drive me to the hospital. The following days were long. I was afraid, uncertain, and very emotional.

The doctors explained if I had not paid attention to the bruising and taken the steps to find out what was wrong, things could have been a lot worse. They were able to identify what was wrong and begin the steps towards building my numbers back up.

The process wasn’t easy, physically, mentally, or emotionally. But through it, I learned a lot more about the healing journey.

A broken relationship isn’t much different than a broken (or sick) body. In fact, the steps to healing are pretty much the same.

➡️​Over the next few days, I’ll be sharing the FIRST 3 STEPS toward healing a broken marriage.

The FIRST STEP toward healing a broken marriage is identifying your symptoms. Ask yourself: What’s going wrong? In order to identify what’s wrong, you have to look at yourself first.

☑️​What’s been different about you?

☑️​Do you look, feel, or react differently?

☑️​Has your energy been low when it comes to your relationship? Why?

☑️​What’s changed?

Take some time to pray and ask God to help you identify your symptoms. You may even want to write them down. If you’ve ever gone to the doctor, you know the first thing they ask about are your symptoms. They cannot help you if you don’t know what’s been going on. The same applies to your marriage. If you don’t take the time to do self examination, you won’t be able to move on to the next step. You can try, but you won’t be very successful.

Knowing what’s changed within you, pushes you take ownership in the broken state of your marriage.

True healing occurs in your marriage when both husband and wife stop looking at one another’s flaws and look in the mirror. As we continue working on the steps toward healing a broken marriage, we will discuss how you and your spouse will need to work together to true healing.

Tomorrow, we’ll be back with Step 2 toward healing a broken marriage.

We’re praying for you! Remember, trust the process.

Lyneesha

P.S. This Thursday, we are hosting a FREE webinar called, Quarantine and Heal. We’ll be taking a deeper dive into the necessary steps for healing a broken marriage. In the next few days, we’ll only have time to discuss the FIRST 3 steps. On Thursday night, we’ll be able to go much deeper AND answer your questions. This event is free but you must register to receive the login details. Sign up here >>