How Trying to Become Sexy Can Ruin Your Life
By: Mike Ortega
Tags: Self Improvement, Life Lessons, Self, Life, Culture

When I was in college, I always tried to look more sexy and attractive. I changed my clothes, shoes and purchased a new one. I wasted $5000 and brought up the new bike to get a girlfriend.

Humans are the most materialistic animal in the world.

I was trying to become attractive because I really wanted to impress girls in the class. To get social status, how many times we make decisions that can hurt us financially and emotionally.

Everyone in this world craves for attention. I had wasted dollars to look more attractive. It was a mistake. The worst part is I realized it when I left college, broken with low CGPA and no job in hands.

1. You end up following trends and crowd

During my college life, I purchased a new bike by taking a loan from a bank with a high-interest rate. I did it because someone told me, riding an expensive bike can give you a beautiful girlfriend. I listened to them, and I had 3 girlfriends in my 4 years of college life, but they left as I was jobless at the end, of course.

When you follow trends like having a girlfriend in college is necessary, you end up becoming bankrupt and with no job. Don’t follow the trend and listen to your friends. You don’t need to follow someone to look attractive, be unique and try to be happy with it.

If you focus more on your goals instead of looking sexy and attractive cool people automatically get attracted towards you, the law of attraction works best when start upgrading yourself.

2. You fall in love with materialistic possessions

Look matters but above it talent matters.

Dress well when you are going out of the home. Buy quality clothes and accessories. It is necessary. Don’t do this to impress girls sitting next to you or office colleagues.

When we try to look attractive, we buy new things and waste our money and mental energy thinking about it.

Trying to look attractive makes us fall for material possessions and we fill ourselves with fear, wrong beliefs and grudges.

3. You try to please others

How many times you change clothes before going to a party. How many hours we search on amazon to purchase party suit. All we are doing the same thing, we are trying to impress others.

Humans try to attract and impress their opposite partner and friends to please them. We try to show them how sexy and rich we are.

We try to take a certificate from them.

Reality is no one cares about you. In this world, everyone is here to pleasure herself, they are friend with you because you’re wearing a nice suit looking sexy. They are in love with your suit, not with you.

Understand a fine line between being respected and being entertained.

Actually, we don’t need to please anyone. Self-approval with self-governing standard accidentally takes us to the right path. Pleasing others doesn’t make any sense.

4. You become miserable deep inside

Nowadays depression looks like a smiling face with a burning heart from inside

In my college, I did everything to impress girls to get more friends and social status, but Everyone left me. No one was there to help me, to pay my rent when I was jobless. It made me miserable.

Running behind materialistic things can make you miserable from inside. Trying to look more attractive to increase our cravings for new fashion and new trends. We forget to satisfy our inner self; we remain with anxiety and worry from inside.

It’s better to live minimalistic, rather than burning daily with new materialistic cravings.

Final thought

I learned a lesson from my college life and made my way towards a minimalistic lifestyle. Don’t allow your inner self to fall prey to look attractive and sexy to impress others.

Self-approval is the best thing ever I practised in my life. It helped me to change my life. Now, I don’t look for attractiveness, because it lies within us.