******ANOTHER MOTHER'S DAY, ANOTHER CHILDLESS DAY******
By: Omenesa Oruma Akomolafe Aka, Lady O
Tags: Couples, Infertility, Baby, Ttc, Mothers Day

******ANOTHER MOTHER'S DAY, ANOTHER CHILDLESS DAY******

May 9th, 2021

Friday afternoon I remembered that today would be mother’s day. I said out loud, "Another Mother’s Day, Another Childless Day". I meant it. I didn’t feel as horrible as I felt last year, which was absolutely painful, especially since it seemed all my friends were pregnant last year. Also last year I had text a friend to encourage him on father’s day, only to be told he was now a father. I wasn’t told about the pregnancy, and we had shared quite a few woes of Infertility. We spoke that year periodically. It really hurt me to the core. I can’t remember the last time I cried like that over not having a child. Oh well, I wiped my tears and kept it moving.

The pain this year is painful. It is an annoying pain. A frustrating pain, but like I said, I’m not pining and whining like I did last year. I’m just irritated. Today is Mother’s Day. This is a year later and I still don’t have a child. But to be honest with you, I have only been with my husband for 2 weeks since March of last year. The pandemic made sure we didn’t get to see each other earlier as he is in Nigeria and I am in the US for now. We only got to see for 2 weeks during a vacation I insisted on taking, however I guess I was hoping the 2 weeks will suffice, especially since I was ovulating. In fact that’s why I am sad today. I wouldn’t have been sad if I didn’t "Meet" with my husband at all, that would be ridiculous, but that little ray of hope has been diminished AGAIN.

That’s what’s making me sad. Then again, this is my 10th year in marriage and I don’t have a child. 10 YEARS. A DECADE. I am pained about it. I am angry about it. I have tried all sorts of mediums and I am beyond livid. Why can’t God just give me a child? Just one child? Why hasn’t it happened yet? These are my lamentations this morning. BUT have to put things in perspective. We have tried and we are still trying and when we are finally together on a consecutive daily bases, we will try even harder. I didn’t intend for the pun 😆 Until then I will continue to take care of myself, my womb, my health and my mind. Hey, we can probably get him to ship his sperm to the US for an IUI or IVF 😆. What am I worried about? It’s gonna happen in God’s timing.

This is just to encourage couples trying to conceive. I know it’s hard. I know it’s painful. I know it’s expensive. I’ve been there and I am still there, but perspective is keeping me. Having a plan is keeping me too. We have a plan and we have deadlines within the plan. We are also open to many options, though not all. Here are some options for you though (IUI, IVF, Surrogacy, HSG, Adoption). There are a few more others, but keep trying. It will happen. Enjoy your time together without children. You have so much freedom to do so much, travel and live without interruptions of changing diapers ☺ Focus on the positive you have now and be content while trying. Your baby will be here soon, okay?

Your heir is your legacy. Your legacy is the hard work you put into this world, and the seeds in which you watered daily to become a tree, a monument of businesses and impartation of lives. A legacy is living out your God given purpose, and leaving nothing undone. Your heir is not necessary a child.

Now if it never happens for you, just know that you tried and God sees what you don’t. Easy to say huh? Oh remember the statement I made to myself It, " Another childless day". Not only did I say it but I did it out loud. That wasn’t right. I spoke that into the atmosphere. On this fertility journey, we must be careful with the words we speak. I am not childless. I have eggs, very good eggs the doctor says. I have 2 clear and clean Fallopian tubes and I have a womb. My husband’s sperm is up to per. I am not childless. We are not childless. Neither are you.

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#Fly

#Legacy

#OMENESA