What would you do if you were not afraid?
By: Sarah Boul
Tags: Fear, Motivation, Conquering Fear

Everything that comes after fear is a beautiful thing that only those who decided to jump would realize.

Fear… a word we have always heard, but have we really thought of it enough to know if our fear has stopped us from doing something we have always dreamed of?

If so, have we taken a path to fight it or have we just fled from it?

What would you do if you were not afraid?

As we go through a series of experiences in our lives, we go through many situations that we are afraid to even remember, perhaps because we do not want to take back what we did, or even justify what we did!

But with the passage of time, some frightening experiences become memories from which we learned many lessons, and the question may come here, have you ever thought about what is different you would have done if you weren’t afraid?

It may be difficult for us to admit fear sometimes, but, let me bring it closer to you.

Remember that day, when you were reprimanded by your professor for no reason, but you couldn’t defend yourself? Or when someone took the turn from you without your permission? Or maybe when you knew the answer but didn’t lift your finger?

Questions seem to be of no value, right? So what about the job interview you deserved to win but didn’t go with? Or the scholarship you got but thought you didn’t deserve it? Or that letter that was going to change the course of your life but you were unable to give it?

All these experiences, and many other things that are on your mind now, were opportunities you had dreamed of, and you may have sought them a lot, but you simply decided to find a good excuse for dropping them off.

I want you now to leave everything in your hand and read carefully, because you are about to admit many of the concerns that you once thought to leave behind, and know well, that recognition is the first way ..

I remember that day well, ten years ago (I was sixteen years old), when the robot professor came to school and told us about that competition, and I remember exactly how excited I was to participate, and a week later when the recording started, I started having all these thoughts: Am I good enough? What if I’m not ready? I am almost certain that all of the participants are better than me, maybe they will not accept me in the first place .. I can participate in the coming years, why take the risk?

And so on until there were no years left to come, and until this moment I did not have the opportunity to participate ..

After that, it became clear that the first year was nothing but a preparatory year, and that all of the participants were beginners like me, but as soon as I realized that, it was too late for me ..

In my second year of university, about six years ago, it happened again, in a lecture, when the professor told us that there is an opportunity for those who want to practice their public speaking skills to do a presentation on any topic of their choice. There was something inside that really wanted to share but I didn’t participate!

Years passed and I began to realize the number of opportunities I wasted because I was “afraid”. I may not have realized then that it is fear, but I began to feel that what was stopping me was an inner feeling that I could not describe.

Several years ago, I remember that night when I decided to start pushing through some of the limits I had set for myself, the first being public speaking. It may seem like a common challenge among many, and I found many of my friends who seek to break this barrier as well, I don’t know why, but for some reason, I was insisting on starting with this barrier.. I followed some of the techniques that I had read, and here I am, I started talking Fluent in front of the audience, someone even told me one day that I had a talent for public speaking (who knew that was one of my biggest fears!) You may be wondering now how I turned from “fear” to “talent”, don’t worry, I’ll share all the details with you now ..

Here are 5 steps to start fighting fear:

Acknowledge the fear

Ask yourself the right questions

Start the confrontation at a level that is safe for you

Review everything that happened to you during this experience

Read about other people’s experiences

Believe in yourself

Acknowledge the fear

Stand in front of yourself and acknowledge that what is preventing you from doing that thing is fear: fear of the result, failure, or even people’s words…

Ask yourself the right questions

The questions that will make you realize the true nature of these feelings, questions may be as follows:

What do you really want, where do you see yourself in the future?

What do you need to get to what you want? Is it a specific skill, opportunity, location, or even a person?

If you want to advise someone dear to you, a first step to reach what he wants, what is this advice?

What is the worst / best scenario?

Start the confrontation at a level that is safe for you

Start with deliberate steps that will not cause the worst scenario, for example: If one of your fears is speaking in front of an audience, start with a small audience, and on a regular occasion that is not a very important opportunity for you. One of the best opportunities is a place to study. We all came to learn and you will find many who will offer to help you.

Review everything that happened to you during this experience

If we assume that you spoke in front of an audience, ask about how your speech appeared in front of people, as most of us feel tension, but this tension is often only inside you and the listeners do not feel it.

Read about other people’s experiences

There are a lot of people who have gone through what you’ve gone through, and there must be strategies that you don’t know that will help you overcome any mistake you’ve made.

Believe in yourself

No one is born perfect, all of us have obstacles we have worked to overcome.

Finally, I want you to know:

That everything that comes after fear is a beautiful thing that only those who decided to leapfrog would realize.

Share your experiences with me in the comments, as perhaps someone needs to hear your experience in order to overcome one of their fears.