Leveraging knowing your worth to exceed your goals!
By: Darla Delayne
Tags: Business Coaching, Goal Setting, Business Strategy, Mindset Coaching, Entrepreneur

It never feels good, completely, when we feel afraid and act inside that fear. Sometimes there might be a bit of relief at first but then the guilt sets in.

“I knew I shouldn’t have done that” “I knew this wasn’t going to end well” “Now I’m back where I started or worse off!”

Because the powerhouse women I work with know there’s something they need to do differently to consistently blow away their goals, I often get asked,

“How do I stop being so afraid and then acting out of that fear?” ⠀

I know that how I feel about myself and other people really is what determines how I take action in my life and my business. And I also know the truth that all humans are innately pure love energy at their core, in their heart and are worthy. ⠀⠀

If that is true, why do we continue to compare ourselves to other people as if there’s some hierarchy of worth??

We’ve developed a belief that some people are better than us and somehow it’s ok for them to have what they want or do what they want but not us.

We also, in that sludge of fear, think that we are better than some other people, too. Maybe we judge them as bad or wrong so it justifies our righteousness. It could also be that our cultures judge certain types of people as below other types and this seeps into our belief system and drips out of our feelings and into our actions.

This is how we think our worth is judged. It’s how we imagine luck, abundance, and value is doled out. We end up fighting our own thoughts and others to determine worthiness.

It’s a total, complete waste of time and energy and is designed to distract us from our own growth and expansion.

Our brain is comfortable in letting us waste this time because the alternative is knowing the full, equal value and worth of every individual and that leads to risk taking, creating new opportunities, going for big dreams and the brain is programmed to keep you in the “safety” of the past.

“Living in the now and knowing the future is filled with infinite possibilities is the world of our heart, not our mind. Our mind wants us alive, our heart wants us to LIVE!”

Do the mountains push themselves higher and say, “Look how tall we are. We’re so much better than the rest of the world!”⠀

Do the canyons dig even deeper so they are the best at being deep and going low?

Do the plains spread themselves and measure their perfect flatness and say, “See how perfectly flat we are!!” ⠀

They just ARE and we marvel at the grandeur of their height, of their depth, of their expanse.⠀⠀

As all-inspiring as the earth is and all that lives here naturally, none of it, except when in fear, feels the need to act purposely grandiose or unworthy and small. ⠀

Humans are the only ones that feel like they need to act in some way to try to prove that they are better out of a fear that they really are not as good.⠀

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When we release the need to compare and hold close the truth that we are all, every single one, a creation to have their grandeur marveled at, we find ourselves at peace and in full freedom from fear. When we approach others with this curiosity and inquisitiveness that marvels at their natural grandeur, then we will always be acting out of love and abundance instead of fear and lack. In turn we are able to then receive the love and abundance that flows from there. That includes in our businesses.

Since we take action from how we feel, if we feel safe in who we are and safe when we see others, our brain allows us to go for our goals with the full intention of it working out for us every time.

This then is step one in every action you take in your life and in your business to stop acting out of fear and allow yourself experience your vision!