Learn the art to preserve the precious
By: Rishika Bucha
Tags: Relationships, Blogging, Connection, Life Lessons, Friendship

Our life is incomplete without relations, without having friends surrounding us. They decorate our life with their presence. But nowadays, we all are developing the mindset that no one cares, surely but there are exceptions. Today people make efforts only when they are in need , but very few does step ahead with no selfish motive inside.

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If you have such people , whether one or more , it can be your family , relative , cousin or a friend , but do maintain good connection with them. Friends are not the one’s who just calls you when they need something in return, I believe friendship is not a deal that binds but an open thread that stays intact , that understand silence , that feels you , that gives you space to breathe but at the same time ready to hold you whenever you fall down and slap you whenever you follow wrong and show you way to make things right. There are few things that are really crucial for any relation or connections, I observed and those are-

Communication Understanding Time Space Care and most importantly Respect

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No need to talk for hours but do stay connected , do let them know you are there not to listen but to understand. Most relations break because of the misunderstandings ,here we should try to feel the person more , the worst thing people want is the possession of title “ IMPORTANT”. They want to be the most important person in their close ones life but the fact is no one is superior to you except yourself when it comes to the top priority. They want to get hold of everything going on in the other person’s life, but however close you are to someone, you can’t take over their personal space. If you really consider them your friend, give them the air to breathe because friendship has no rules and conditions and the one that carries has never learnt to be the true one. Another is Ego, people who think themselves to be right always ,will never improve. Especially when it comes to being someone who wants to be there, will always be however wrong you turn out towards them. Why carry this feeling that I am right, they are wrong? There is no right or wrong, whether its friendship or any other connection…its just who is true to the feeling not just mere words and who just carry words with ego in heart.

Ask your friend or person you care about randomly about their well being, be kind to them, forgive them because its a very short life and carrying grudges will only lead you to lose something precious. Better be grateful than being filled with regrets in life for not taking those steps that could have made things better, especially when that one step mattered.

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But beware because as soon as you attach you will choose the path that will hurt you at every step…..You need to know where you find peace and whose pinging up destroys it, choose your surrounding wisely as this is what will make you a better you. Be good to all but on top of everyone treat yourself the best. You are going to stay with yourself the longest so better make a connection you cherish till the end. The one who knows the value of the soul it carries, the efforts it does , the struggle one faces and after passing through everything you still stand up with hope and strength in, deserves enough respect and love….but WE RARELY LOOK FORWARD TO US WHEN WE REALLY SHOULD.

Connections are precious ,friendship is vital but more valuable is to know, to be kind to all but strong enough to choose kindness for ourselves when everything turns to letting ourselves down.

Lastly I will conclude it with this

True stays few , if you have such few in any form or any relation, handle such people with care because true people can be the best and turn their back and never return the same when they are treated worst. Because Respect matters the most to any human you meet.

keep smiling:)