The Home & The Child
By: Kelvin Fosu
Tags: Parenting, Children Education, Home Improvement, Teenagers, Church

Photo by Migs Reyes from Pexels

If your child won’t share their thoughts and ideas with you,

Then, they are sharing with someone.

If you don’t teach your child,

Then someone else is teaching them.

If your child doesn’t feel your presence or love, then someone else is giving such love(lust).

Someone is feeling the gap you ain’t giving your child.

Painfully it's always the wrong peers who fill this emptiness in the child.

Painfully, the friends who influenced them negatively would become very successful in life while your child keeps battling in her addictions and evil behaviors.

Hence, the child’s future becomes bleak.

When they become dragons, the parent is the first to face their wrath.

It hurts to the bone when a child that you played with, fed, cuddled, name them…., suddenly insults you, gives you attitudes, and disrespects you in public.

The child’s behavior is largely influenced by the accumulation of things he/ she listens to, watches. And because this makes them happy, they sink deep into it, owning it.

It’s the duty of the home to suggest to the child what is worth watching and what isn’t.

By age four(4), the child is able to tell very good constructive lies such that parents believe these lies.

It is at this age that the home should download into their minds, all the resources that will make the child prepared for the future of work.

Like simple coding exercises, collaborative projects, and the likes.

These make your child thrive in the future of work.

Remember, you only have ten (10) years of control of your child’s life. After this period, they become themselves and wouldn’t want to be with you but with their peers and the likes.

Also, be a friend and a teacher to your child; don’t over friend them else they’d take advantage of you.

Therefore be their teacher so they know their limits, punish them if you have to. But overly punishing them get them to use it and they will even get the strength to become the worst you could ever imagine.

In my part of the world, when a child misbehaves, the mother is blamed. Forgetting that, the home makes or unmakes the child. (Everyone in the home).

Teach the child to take and accept the responsibilities for their actions and they should stop the blame game.

They are not the only child facing such things the home can’t give and that there are millions of children out there facing the same but have chosen to live a humble life and some have grown to become successful people in society and using their experiences to better the lives of others.

Never discuss people, friends, relatives, or sensitive information when kids are around. They tend to lose trust and disrespect both parties involved depending on how they view the conversation and they become gossips and backbiters.

Also, the child wouldn’t trust in telling you about their secrets, friends, and lifestyle because they are scared you’d someday tell on them hence, the secrecy.

Teach them to avoid unnecessary comparisons, this makes them depressed and feel unimportant.

If your child keeps repeating their mistakes, and you’ve done all that you can to help them live upright lives, then you have done your very best. Leave the child else you will become their enemy.

Don’t beat the child, for if the situation gets worst. By leaving a hatred scar in the heart of the child and might transfer that hatred to others and when it's finally grown, the child comes attacking you.

Someday, they will come searching for you for such advice, and please do not reject them but rather accept them with a warm embrace.

Your child is one of your greatest investments and is a blessing and joy to the home.

Be the best friend of your child and make parenting fun and appreciable, would you?

*ClearThroat*