G-Spot Orgasms Are Actually Clitoral
Tags: Sex, Sexuality, Feminism, Equality, Women

“The g-spot is actually the root of the clitoris, the internal portion. All orgasms are actually clitoral.” — Gigi Engel, award-winning author and sexologist

I was taught that the G-Spot was the spot for vaginal sex. It was the destination everyone wanted to get to. For my lovers, finding this mythic place was a crowning, sexual achievement. For myself, finding the G-Spot was always an anticlimax, and I couldn’t understand why. Since stimulating the g-spot into orgasm was “the goal” for sex, I spent years believing that something was wrong with my body.

Turns out, only 15% of people with a vulva experience G-Spot orgasms. Along with not knowing that my body was normal, I was also uneducated about the clitoris.

Though discovering the clitoris wasn’t the glorious moment one might imagine. I had been so thoroughly conditioned to prioritize penetration, the penis, and the g-spot that I believed the clit wouldn’t produce a satisfying orgasm. The best orgasms, I had decided, must come from the G-Spot since this pleasure point was all anybody talked about.

Actually, the clitoris is an erectile structure that is, on average, four inches long. Or rather, it’s four inches long when flaccid. While experiencing an erection the clit can grow to be larger than the average penis (about 5 inches long). This information wasn’t discovered until the 1990s and is still not mainstream information.

Did you also beleive that one orgasm was better than the other?

This is a common myth perpetuated by our dismal sex education system and mainstream media.

A large reason why people with a vulva are taught to glorify the g-spot is that we live in a heterosexist patriarchy.

Simply put, heterosexism is the belief that heterosexuality is the normal sexual orientation. Which perpetuates the myth that everyone is aspiring to have, or mimic, a heterosexual relationship.

When we beleive that heterosexuality is the standard, sex turns into a very specific recipe. It’s when something phallic penetrates a wet orifice. Since penetration was the goal of sex, the g-spot was considered the orgasmic holy grail.

Unfortunately, this provides everyone with misleading information about sex and vaginal orgasms. Today, I’m going to be focusing on vaginal orgasms.

“[The Clitoris] is your vaginal pleasure center: Packed with 8,000 nerve endings, stimulating the clitoris is the best way to reach orgasm for many people.” — Gigi Engle

Not only is the clitoris an orgasmic playground, but the g-spot is located at the root of the clitoris. Meaning a G-Spot orgasm is also a clitoral orgasm.

However, if society started conditioning people with a vulva to stimulate their clitoris as opposed to the G-Spot, we would no longer be prioritizing penetration or the penis. Hence why knowledge about the clit has taken so long to surface.

In our patriarchal society, we have a pleasure hierarchy where cis-men exist at the top, and all other genders file in below. This means that we position the penis higher on the pleasure pyramid. This is also why medical knowledge of the penis dates back centuries, while doctors did not learn the truth about the clit’s anatomy until the late 1990s.

“The medical community didn’t know about the clitoris’ identical makeup to the penis until a female urologist named Helen O’Connell, M.D., figured it out while dissecting cadavers. She published her work, “The Anatomy of the Clitoris,” in 1998.” [source]

Not only is this vital research barely twenty years old, but scientists and doctors weren’t legally required to include women’s bodies in medical research until 1993.

Miseducation and biased sexual practices were handed down to all of us, men included. It isn’t men’s fault that we prioritize their penis’ or pleasure, but it is a man’s problem just as much as any other gender.

Turns out, even cis-men have a clitoral structure in their body.

The penis and the clitoris are almost identical functions, structures, and size. Both are designed to engorge when stimulated. Both are pleasure centers for the human body. Both need clitoral structures in order to produce an erection.

The shaft, of the penis or the clitoris, is made up of caverns of erectile tissue that almost exactly resemble each other. Without this clitoral tissue, neither a penis nor a clitoris can achieve an erection. Both are labeled in Latin as corpora cavernosa (f) or corpus cavernosum (m). Which literally translates to “cave-like bodies”.

Dr. Myrtle Wilhite, who ran a sexuality research center, explained this similarity the best:

“Technically, it isn’t a penis that becomes erect. The clitoral caverns inside of the penis are the structures that become engorged and erect […] Therefore, because all mammals have clitoral caverns, all mammals get erections regardless of their gender.”

How ironic that society teaches us to prioritize a penis during sex when it’s actually the clitoral caverns inside the penis that allow it to produce an erection.

When I discovered this, it was empowering information. I’d been measuring my orgasmic ability on incorrect data, meanwhile, all the men I knew where using their body’s clitoris to achieve orgasm without feelings of inferiority.

Even more empowering is this: regardless of your gender we all experience erections. Everyone’s pleasure is valid and all erections are created equal.