Do you think the same way as I do?
Tags: Separation, Human Behavior, Relationships, Relationship Building

Who am I ?

Do you think the same way as I do?

Apart from a very small percentage of people all over the world, we all are concerned about how to behave in different circumstances, our acceptance and adaptability in societies. I have seen many friends of mine giving away their uniqueness (by uniqueness i mean everything that makes him the very person s/he is) just to get himself into a clique everyone else is jealous about. This is nothing new, everyone more or less have an idea about this; so what’s my point? Why am I writing about this?!

These is just a collection of scrappy thoughts of a hopeless 21 year old who is tired already of this fucking world. I don’t know whether it’s going to be worthwhile, but if you are someone who loves to read a little from here and there not thinking about personal gain then you are welcome.

Okay, let’s get back to the topic now, if we dissect the fact: why do we all want to be in a group of some kind and be popular in the group?

1. We are all attention seekers:

Accept it on deny it you, me & everybody loves attention. We want to be talked about in a group, now the size of this group determines your social status. If the group you are in has no members you are someone who no one gives a fuck about(ex. someone homeless); if the group is small you are just a regular guy with friends like me like and most of the people around the world; if the group is all the residents of a city or area then you are a local celebrity or hero or a city mayor. Now if the group is whole world then you are a global celebrity like justin bieber or the president of the United States.

Now there is a class of people who can’t be classified by this notion, they are people who gives absolutely zero fucks about what you and me think about them, still we talk about them. Make a guess, (now let me go a bit off topic her e) whatever you have guessed is right! Cause guess just can’t be wrong that’s why it’s a guess! So never stop guessing, this is the most powerful task human mind can do yet our education system and surroundings are busy to ruin this capability of ours mostly unwittingly. I promised myself that I will stick to the topic, but i am changing topic every now and then; just can’t help it!

Anyway if you have guessed something similar to me then this specific class of people are represented by the saints, preachers and scientists etc. Scientists are simply so busy thinking about their topic they don’t have the time to care about general people. Now by scientists I don’t mean those petty ones whose highest discovery is something that has absolute zero contribution to the world. Now, about the saints and preachers they really don’t think about you and me, they search for answers of their own questions and just tells us the answers they have found. As we are so reluctant to think about anything we take their opinions for granted because someone who has thought about an issue for years and years obviously has a better explanation than us. So, we make them saints and take lessons from them. But the point is they don’t care about what we think about them, they only care about what they think and they want us to think.

2. Fear of being alone:

Now this is something that is built into us as human beings. People reproduce simply because they want company. Once a child is born, s/he gives company to all the family members. As long as the child is happy with the company of family members, it doesn’t want to make friends or anything because all they need is family. The moment he(assuming it’s a boy) sees the uncertainty of being lonely while playing he seeks to make friends who can help him lift the fear of loneliness. When he is admitted into school, he doesn’t want to be alone among the students, to overcome this fear he starts to talk to the kid who sits next to him or whoever is available. Right at that moment he doesn’t think about cute or ugly, rude or polite, meritorious or dumb, male or female all he cares about is having someone to get out of loneliness. Now when he has already made a few friends he tries to find his best friend that too in fear of loneliness because he believes no matter what happens his best friend is never going to leave him alone.

Now the child grows up, gains intelligence. He is not the foolish child anymore to go and make friends with anyone readily available, he wants to make sure friends he is making are not just friends for friends sake they are indeed of his type, that too in fear of loneliness whether they are going to leave him or not for being or not being the same type. This is the reason we all want to be the part of a circle.

Then again why do we choose life partners or girlfriend or someone to sleep with? Well there is inborn attraction for opposite sex in human being, even then fear is the key. When we see our friends getting someone to love or talking about spending rest of their life after meeting a special one suddenly we start to think who is going to be my special one? What will I do when everyone else is spending times and vacations with their special ones in Maldives whereas I am probably pondering about my future sitting on the couch i curse every morning reading a horrible article like this! Horror!! Isn’t it? So we too start to search for soulmates or special one so that I don’t have to die alone. There’s no such thing as true love but by true love it means true fear of losing your love. For example, you love your mom the most because you simply can’t afford to lose her! That’s the greatest true love ever existed. Some would argue it is the opposite: a mother’s love towards the child, for me it’s same because same amount of fear is present in there as well.

You don’t trust me, Do you? alright then, let me make it clear to you. You, me everyone has seen so many soulmates getting separated and not willing to see each others’ face ever again. Now why does this happen? You can give me various reasons but I will say it happens because they don’t have that fear of losing each other anymore. They came out of the fear of loneliness or losing the special ones, that’s why they engage in activities that you were thinking are the reasons behind the separation. You cheat on his/ her because you no longer care about the consequences even if you do the fear is too little to keep you away from cheating or whatever is causing breakups (family problems, difference in opinions) etc.

Same applies for family and friends, the moment you come out of your fear of losing some one in your family you don’t value that relationship anymore. That’s why sadly, many children don’t even feel the necessity to spare some time to see mother’s face one last time before being laid to rest. The same mother who was your whole world when you were a little boy/girl, because you simply didn’t have the courage to lose her is now someone you don’t care about because that fear is gone.