80% of American moms don’t do these things for their toddlers, which leads to depression.
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80 % of American moms make these mistakes in raising their toddlers

THE U.S. IS ONE OF THE most depressed countries in the world, according to the World Health Organization. Provided that the USA is a prime location for business, technology, science, pop culture. Higher education is great if you can manage to find yourself in better universitys.

How is this possible?

Because of mistakes in parenting.

1. DON’T ASK FOR HELP AROUND THE HOUSE

Only 28 percent of American parents make their kids do chores, according to a 2015 survey.

Harvard examined the childhood psychosocial variables and biological processes that predicted health and well-being later in life.

Researchers concluded that kids who had chores fared better later in life. Chores were the best predictor of which kids were more likely to become happy, healthy, independent adults.

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Why is vacuuming and clearing the table so important to kids’ well-being in life? One reason is that kids first develops physical abilities, and after 5 years, the brain actively develops. It is necessary to form the main routine for up to 5 years old. And kids feel competent when they do their chores. Whether they’re making their bed or they’re sweeping the floor, helping out around the house helps kids feel capable.

Young children respond well to reward chore charts to help remind them to do their chores. This reward chore charts helps to teach your child self-care skills and domestic duties while playing. Since preschoolers usually can’t read, a chart with pictures of each chore can jog their memory about what they need to be doing.

The basic rules are daily repetition and form of play.

2. PAYING KIDS FOR CHORES

Why is it better not to do this?

Rewards don’t work in the long term. Rewards often only buy temporary compliance. Rewards might even be counterproductive. Rewards erode intrinsic motivation. The child will not complete their chores if they do not need money now. Kids don’t learn to budget their time, control their emotions, etc. Family values are replaced with money. Household chores are perceived as work.

You need to teach your child to do household chores from early childhood. If you start teaching a child to clean the table at 5 years old, although at 3 he could already do it, it will affect his mental health.

Just because he doesn’t want to do it. Your child perfectly understands that you and not he will do it. Why should he do this, since he hasn’t done it before?

But how to motivate a child to do household chores if you can’t pay for them?

Be a Good Role Model and teach your children.

You can motivate your child by Role Model. Toddlers learn a lot about how to act by watching their parents. The younger they are, the more cues they take from you. Be aware that you’re constantly being watched by your kids.

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The emotional motivation that works best in both adults and children.

Without payment a child is more likely to think, “I’m really a great helper. I’m a hard worker and now it’s clean. This was actually kind of fun.”

The lessons we teach our children today are ultimately going to shape who they become tomorrow; and, who they become directly affects our future. The best thing we can do for our children is to allow them to do things for themselves — without attaching a monetary affirmation to it.

Love and respect your kids.

Let Your children never suffer from depression and be happy and successful people.

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