Where Do You Want to Come?
By: Holly Bradshaw
Tags: Relationships, Women, Self, Sex, Sexuality

Where Do You Want to Come?

I have a few suggestions…

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I don’t say this to offend any of my penis-owning friends, but — writing about semen in a sensual, erotic way can be a huge challenge.

Ejaculate. Splooge. Jism. Spunk. Baby batter. Clam sauce…The colorful language possibilities are seemingly endless, but the sexy factor just isn’t there for most of them.

And then there’s come or cum (both spellings in noun form are perfectly acceptable — see?).

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But, whatever a sex blogger like me decides to call it during her many, many uses of the word, one thing’s for certain — I have plenty of opinions of where I’d like a gentleman to come when we’re making love.

The following descriptions range from places on my body that I find incredibly sexy for a guy to come, to places I’m pretty sure I wouldn't enjoy, to areas I’m open to but have yet to experience.

What’s Hot

Inside my vagina

This. This is at the top of my list for a reason — it’s my number one choice for a guy to aim his ejaculate. It’s also one of the upsides of a committed relationship — we can safely lose the condom. Safety is non-negotiable, and the only men who have come inside are men I’ve been in long-term relationships with.

Having my intrauterine device inserted was another requirement for him to come inside, as I’m not keen on having any more babies.

But, when our health checks out and I’m good to go with safe and effective birth control, then by all means, please fuck me hard, into oblivion, and look in my eyes as you release your essence inside me with a big, shuddering climax.

In my mouth

For me, taking a man’s ejaculate into my mouth is not quite as hot as enjoying him finishing in my pussy, but it’s certainly up there. I’ve said before how much giving oral sex turns me on, especially when I’m being dominated, and tasting his pleasure as he comes on my tongue is the big finale.

Sometimes just asking my husband to come in my mouth while he’s fucking me takes him that much closer to orgasm — and that’s when we switch from penetrative sex to oral. I’m a fan of doing things that way because then I can taste both myself and him.

All over my breasts

My partner has gotten off by fucking me between my breasts exactly once. I found it to be a bit awkward (physically and visually), and not necessarily pleasurable for me, so we haven’t found much reason to try that since.

But, I did discover how sexy it is and how much I like it when he comes on my breasts. Since then, he’ll sometimes pull out of me just as he’s about to climax and paint my breasts and nipples with his pleasure. Lying there submissively and arching my back as I take it puts me in a dreamy form of sub-space that I enjoy immensely.

The small of my back

I might have discovered this during our more reckless days of using pulling out as birth control. This was during a time when I was younger and not as opposed to having a second child, though I wasn’t trying to get pregnant either.

I just want to put a disclaimer here: pulling out is not incredibly effective at preventing pregnancy, so it’s not something I’d ever recommend as birth control.

But, now that I know, I find it highly erotic when I’m being fucked from behind and he pulls out, rubbing the tip of his cock on the small of my back as he comes.

What’s Not

I’ve never experienced a man coming on my face or in my hair, and I’ve gotta say, I really don’t desire giving it a try. Though there’s something insanely sexy about the feel of him coming on my breasts and even up toward my neck, I draw a pretty solid line at coming on my face.

I’ve seen porn where the guy comes hard and heavy on the woman’s face, and I literally gagged. I don’t say this to yuck anyone else’s yums. If you love it, go for it and enjoy it! But for me, I think I have some sort of texture or sensory thing about it, and it’s definitely one of my personal yucks.

What I’d Like to Try

I’ve succeeded in having anal sex all of one time. And even though we achieved pain-free penetration and continual thrusting, my husband actually never got the opportunity to come inside my ass.

We haven’t tried again since that time a couple of months ago. But based on what a positive experience it was for both of us, I think it’s something we’d like to continue exploring.