I wasn’t just this smart guy who had deep thought patterns, I just wanted to be me.
By: Danny Wright
Tags: Black Sheep, Communities, Friends, Entrepreneurship, Parents

I wasn’t just this smart guy who had deep thought patterns, I just wanted to be me. Danny Wright Mar 20, 2019·4 min read

Photo Credit: Gavin Waston

Today, I wanted to talk about when I was younger. I had this big want to create my own community of friends and before I got into music, when I was at school, I was quite lost in a way. I was probably only 12/13 years old and so young. I’d just moved to a new school and the friends I made were into different interests than me and this made me want to seek out my own ‘people.’ This started around the time that I found my own thing and that thing was music. I wanted to make friends with people who appeared shy and introverted because I could relate to that, I was like that. I didn’t come across like that, but I was. I feel like at home I was like the ‘black sheep’ because I was a middle child, I was the only one who went to university, I’m into rock and alternative music and I’m the only one who does music (plays an instrument). I would give that the ‘black sheep’ label if that makes sense, although I never really knew what that meant, but to me it means the odd one out. Definitely in my family when I was younger being the odd one out probably came across a lot, I spent a lot of time in my room learning guitar and reading random books and looking into random things. I had, and still have, this fascination with evolution, psychology and philosophy which I will definitely talk about in a later blog.

Because of that ‘black-sheep’ syndrome, ‘middle-child’ syndrome, whatever it was, I wanted to find my own community out of the house. I wanted to create a community full of the people who I saw as introverted or shy because I knew they weren’t really like that. I’d want to make those people come out of their shells, be themselves and have fun. I’d act like the silly one wanting everyone to feel at ease around me and that’s how I made friends. I related to these people because I could see they were not what people said they were. When someone says that you’re something when you’re growing up, people in authority, parents, teachers, etc, you start to believe it; you start to think ‘Oh, if that’s what they say I am, then that’s what I am,’ which is not necessarily true. If someone says that you’re shy and you take on that role as the shy one, then you’re not being true, it’s just something that you’ve been told, but not necessarily true. So, I felt for some people that was the case that they just took on that role because someone said that’s what they were. And I felt I could recognise that, and I wanted to bring people out of that and tell them to be themselves. Obviously, being so young that wasn’t what I was actually saying, but looking back, that’s how I was thinking about things. It was probably also giving myself permission to be me. If I gave them permission to be themselves, then I was also giving myself permission to be me, to be who I wanted to be and who I was. I wasn’t just this smart guy who had deep thought patterns, I just wanted to be me.

So anyway, I made a lot of friends this way during my school time and I really had this want for bringing people out of themselves, I don’t know why, I just really wanted to do that for them and still now I love helping people to see their full potential because we, as a society, we build up these of false beliefs in ourselves that stop us doing something we were meant to do or we really want to do. And it comes from authority as well, like those authoritative voices growing up, some people will be told something when they were younger and then they believe it and live it and live within the boundary of it. Like, ‘I’m the sporty one, I’m the shy one, I’m the intelligent one, academic one.’ Yeah, so I love now, as an adult, bringing people out of their shells and letting them see their full potential.

I think soon I would love to help develop other up and coming artists with brand development and artist development and overseeing their growth as artists. I’d love to do something like that.

So, I wanted to put some kind of advice at the end of this, so I guess what I’m trying to say is if you’re younger, or any age really, and you’re at a place where you feel like you’re not really in the right kind of community where you can really be yourself, you’re either in a community where you’ve either taken on this role which is not really you and you’re trying to live up to it, knowing it’s not you, then you don’t have to do that. You can seek out other people that are truer to you and that allows you to be more of yourself. Sometimes it starts from a common interest, sometimes it’s not even a common interest, it could spark from anything.

Thanks for reading, I have a new music video out called ‘Nerves.’ https://www.facebook.com/dannywrightuk/videos/392932768192118/

I am an independent musician, I have stuff out there which I want to share, so my music video is out there, ‘Nerves,’ which touches on the subject of social anxiety, shyness and confidence, so go listen to that song, share the video, I’ll catch you next time. Cheers guys, bye!