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Amal’s Totkay on Shah Rukh’s life
By: Shah Rukh Khalid
Tags: Fake It Till You Make It, Habits, Amal Academy, Comfort Zone, Growth Mindset

In life, whenever you are stuck at something, totkay’s are always ready to help you. Amal’s 5 totkays are no different. It was fun to read that the stuff that I already do are actually consider as good things. In fact, today I learned I am not a lunatic for talking to myself.

The main takeaways were that everyone isn’t confident. Many of us do have to fake it one way or another. It is true that by faking it you make it. Creating new habits are really difficult, sometimes you just don't want to accept change. But than again, growth can only be achieved if we accept change.

If I had to choose my favorite totka, than it has to be fake it till you make it. As it gives relieve that everyone is same if everyone adopts this totka. Sometimes we become uneasy when we look at other peoples confidence or how they operate in life. Maybe it is time to fake it.

I have adopted this at my university. I was never confident, but whenever I took the stage of the class and stood in front, I talked as if no one really matter. From the inside I would be sweating, but on the outside I would show my confidence.

I also love talking to myself, or at least allow an argument take place in my brain, as that ends up getting me ideas or self reflect upon my day.

But to develop a growth mindset, I need to get out of my comfort zone. New habits need to be adopted. The mega project is one of them. I still feel uneasy thinking about the fact I would have to practically work with unknown people and don’t know whether we will be able to achieve our goals or not.

I am Hoping for the best.
4 keys to improving your Design
By: Othmane Agoumi
Tags: UX Design, Creativity, UX, Habits, Branding

Let’s begin with you, are you a creative person? I think you are. Do you know why? because you’re a human who has knowledge and awareness of your daily needs and wants, and how you serve yourself; by thinking, finding solutions for your problems and requests.

Creativity isn’t a gift from God is a Continuity of practice, is a to cross your Cognitive bounds to reach the next level of thinking and creation. Let’s do it.

If you’re a designer you know your priority is the users or consumers, so you know that you’re designing for humans, not aliens and we are aware of how we think and how we behave thank you psychology. if you read books or you have ideas about their subject you know Atomic habits by James Clear one of the world’s leading experts on habit formation, reveals practical strategies that will teach you exactly how to form good habits, break bad ones, and master the tiny behaviors that lead to remarkable results. what I learned from this book that tiny changes are the most impact on our lives our works our thinking. this practical strategy has principles 4 principles Cue-Craving-Response-Reward so how I use this method in my design.

What information consumes is rather obvious: it consumes the attention of its recipients. Hence, a wealth of information creates a poverty of attention and a need to allocate that attention efficiently among the overabundance of information sources that might consume it. — HERBERT SIMON, recipient of Nobel Memorial Prize in Economics and the A.M. Turing Award, the “Nobel Prize of Computer Science”

What is the first thing you begin your design with, get a good first impression, A big Headline, or a strong CTA that is the aim of the first page, so when you grab your users attention you build that curiosity to explore, the next step is to give more to grow that craving for knowledge simply to behave and what is the shape of that behavior is to respond by buying your product or using your services and this is the reward.
Working From Home — How my daily routine becomes much better than before
By: M. Rizki Aiman
Tags: Work, Workingfromhome, WFH, Habit, Productivity

2. Healthier

Before working from home, my weekend time is usually used to study or continue to work on my own app. But, when working from home, I’ve already study at night on weekdays so I won’t do it again on weekend. And, continue to work on my app is the only one left.

The problem is, there’s a time when I want a break from coding. So, what will I do when I want a break? I decide to invest my time to learn about health. Money and health are two thing that I want to be a master of since my college days. I’ve learn some stuff about money on the past, so I decide to focus on health right now (COVID factor too).

While most people think WFH period can make them fatter, I’m thinking it as a golden chance to lose my weight. You don’t need to hangout with friends, and you can cook your own food, so it will be very easy to track your calories intake. The starting point of my research is about a healthy diet.

I’ve been doing the research since early July, and I’ve learn A LOT about how human body works, food including macro and micro nutrients, calories deficit, how important muscle for metabolism, etc. The result, I’ve lost 20 KG from the last five month. When you have knowledge, everything becomes much easier. Investing my time to research about health is one of the best time-investment I’ve ever did.

2020 could be easily become the worst year for any human being, only yourself who can turn around that. Fun fact, 2020 is my most productive year ever.

3. Lower Cost Life

The most obvious one is I don’t need to pay for my ride fuel and parking fee. The second one is the one that I really want to mention, it’s about food consumption cost. When you decide to cook your own food yourself, you won’t only get a healthier food, but also an indirect discount for your food-cost.

Raw material food is always cheaper than cooked food. I really recommend you to invest your time to learn about cooking, and your life will get much better.
Why you should learn one skill a day?
By: Vignesh Shenoy
Tags: Success, Learning, Skill, Habits

Most of us on a Sunday just want to relax on the couch, watch Netflix and chill and then we just watched 3 movies and just lost 7–8hours of our life or rather scroll through instead for 3 hours just giggling at the memes and watch stories about food and travel photos/videos from our friends or celebs.

but if the same 7 hours of our day we had used to learn a new skill like learning a course about artificial intelligence or data science or learn yoyo so you could compete in next local yo-yo competition or maybe learn pen tricks, stunts, chess, card tricks, painting etc…it would make your day feel more productive and it may come handy in future when you lose your job this new skill you learned may help you to make some revenue. Learning a new skill will also help you to use your brain to focus on something more rigorously.

It would better to start with 15–30mins per day if you feel too hard to complete your goals and slowly increase afterwards.
How waking up early can changed my life
By: Sai Nookala
Tags: Lifestyle, Routine, Habits

I believe walking up early can change anyone’s life because it worked wonders for me. I am a night person and I am not used to believing the waking up early science but after many suggestions from my parents and close ones I tried it and man it worked wonders for me. Now I am going to tell u my personal experiences and happenings of waking up early and why everyone should give it a try.

Walking up early in the morning can give us more positive vibes. Let me give an example

So you have set an alarm for 5 am and woke up at sharp 5 am after the alarm rung then your mind feels it as an achievement so waking up in the morning with a victory with your self can give you the most benefit on the contrary if you wake up late at 9 am or so first you will hear your parents scoldings so your morale will be down by some means but you will not be able to notice that later it will affect you.

Now coming to another thing mornings are so peaceful so you will not hear any tv sounds annoying brothers and sisters voices or any other distractions so it will be the best time to study or complete projects anything which needs your brain at its full potential

The most important thing is sunrise people who woke up late misses out one of the most important and beautiful creation of nature i.e, sunrise.

So try it for yourself for a week and you will notice a change in yourself.

It soothes out your mind and one of the most essential and important vitamin for your body vitamin D is available naturally when you expose yourself to the early sun rays so there are benefits physically and mentally also.

Also when it comes to physical fitness give yourself some time and work on your fitness because if your body is fit it coordinates with the mind more perfectly and helps to get the lethargic nature away

Last but not least you will have more time to arrange and organize for your schools/colleges it makes life more simple and will face no problem like skipping breakfast, forgetting our books etc

So I have been trying this for 2 months this has been working wonders for me that’s the reason wanted to share this with you all and try out and see the magic.
Want To Be Successful?
By: Michael Lim
Tags: Books, Self Improvement, Habits, Self Development, Reading

What Is The Impact of Reading?

“Reading is a meta-habit that can solve all other habits” — James Clear

I know that any success I’ve enjoyed in my life has been achieved through a strong foundation of reading widely and consistently. I’ve been able to teach myself skills in writing and communication, cultivate a growth mindset and develop a deep understanding of diverse perspectives I would otherwise not be exposed to.

I’ll never really understand people who say they don’t have time to read. These are the same people who can still find time to watch several hours of reality television a day or spend entire weekends binge-watching a new Netflix series. The average person uses their phone anywhere between 3–6 hours a day. You have the time, we all do.

I am not asking you to give all of this up but if you reallocated just a bit of that time to reading per day, you can get through more books than you already are. I also don’t mind if you don’t want to read but don’t use a lack of time as an excuse. Be honest and accept that reading isn’t a priority for you and that’s okay.

While reading can seem like an inconvenience in the short-term, which learning often is, in the long-term you will save time as the knowledge and skills you acquire will save you more time and energy.

For instance, one of the biggest advantages of reading is being able to read something complex, comprehend it, and distill the important elements into action. I would call this skill a form of meta-reading — the ability to read a book and understand the broader implications of the ideas beyond the domain of the book.

I actually don’t know any successful people who don’t read a lot. They seem to understand the value and leverage that books provide more than anyone else.

Elon Musk famously said that books raised him first and then his parents. Even at the height of Microsoft, Bill Gates took regular ‘think weeks’ where his assistant would pack a bag full of books that he would dissect on his break. Naval Ravikant attributes any success and intelligence he has as a consequence of his reading habits.

The great thing about this is that reading is not just available to billionaires or CEOs. Most of the world can read and consume the same books that Elon and Bill do. You can use this advantage for yourself. One of the best quotes that really inspired me to take my reading was by Mark Twain who said, “a person who won’t read has no advantage over one who can’t read.”

In one book you can learn all the lessons that took someone a lifetime to learn. You can develop a skill by reading 2–3 books that might have taken decades of trial and error to uncover. You can become a thought leader in any field by just reading books in that field or industry.

You can apply this in any industry or domain. Identify the fundamental or sourcebooks and understand them deeply. If you’re interested in economics read Adam Smith. If you want to find out more about evolution as a binding principle, read Charles Darwin.
3 Kinds of Men Are Prone to Epididymitis
By: Sara Yy
Tags: Epididymitis, Treatment, Habits

Epididymitis is a common condition in gentlemen. There are several causes can cause epididymitis, in most cases, poor residing practices use the principal fault. Which gentlemen are at risk of epididymitis? Listen to the doctor’s guidance, which will be of excellent help.

1. Men that rest in the vehicle and also the office.

Sitting for too much time is a bad habits to guy wellness. Fresh and midst-older males are full of energy, and a lot of of them have achieved specific achievement in their profession. Vehicles have become the standard gear. So they like to push auto involving the place of work and residence, and the majority of of some time they sit at job. Doctors explain that seated for quite a while will inevitably compress the epididymis, creating the epididymis area to get compressed and causing congestion as well as lingered bacteria , as a result creating the epididymitis.

2. Guys who consume less water and do less exercise in daily life.

During the entire modern day office, teenagers are the main pressure. When immersed in their state of function, it can be easy to result in a busy condition with no time to maneuver, not to mention drinking water. This greatly decreases the regularity of drinking water and pee amount, leading to microorganisms to remain to make issues within the entire body. In the evening, men are typically tired out and much less likely to do exercising, making themselves resistance poorer.

READ MORE: What Exercises Are Suitable For Patients With Epididymitis?

3. Professional guys who stay up delayed and don’t get enough sleeping time.

Professional males, as the anchor of the organization, shoulder the obligation and problem. The enormous operating strain is also predictable. Operating overtime and remaining up late can be popular things, the corresponding sleep time as well as sleep good quality will be tough to ensure. After retaining these behavior for a very long time, our bodies resistance will decline, which can be simple for pathogens for taking advantage of it.

In anything, guys who are active with function can easily overlook their day-to-day medical, producing themselves health declined. Medical doctors point out to that younger and midst-older grown ups, as crucial people of community and loved ones, should be aware of their particular wellness, form excellent behavior related to function and relaxation.

When having epididymitis and connected signs, they should get handled in time. Don’t miss out the best probability. Commonly, natural medication Diuretic and Anti-inflammatory Pill can be provided to them. It has a great result on terminating inflammations without any side effects. It can also safeguard the urogenital method for masculine health. So that you can select it properly.
A New Daily Routine
By: Brennan Kenneth Brown
Tags: New Years Resolutions, Life Lessons, Self Improvement, Habits, Writing

A New Daily Routine

There can be a sense of being overwhelmed when trying to form new habits. One solution I’ve found to be helpful to counter-act the feeling is translating these new habits into a one-page document outlining what I ought to be doing each day. Included are links to other related and helpful articles I’ve written!

I developed such a document before, and although was pretty good, it was more rooted in nebulous ideals that weren’t directly connected to an output such as quantitative measurement of progress and action. As such, these daily actions weren’t really accomplished that well or at all most of the time, so I decided to update them accordingly:
3 Ways to Practice Self-Love in 2021
By: Prajakta Kn
Tags: Startup, Life Lessons, Habits, Self Love, Mental Health

3 Ways to Practice Self-Love in 2021

Photo by bady abbas on Unsplash

Yesterday, as the invited speaker at the annual gathering of the Indian Women’s Circle (Greater Toronto Area), I shared how we can be and grow into the truest version of ourselves in 2021 through the practice of self-love.

2020 — A Year of Losses

Let me take you back to January 2020. Where were you? Who were you with? What were you doing? What were you planning?

I was in Bali, with my family, we had just visited the Green School and we were so taken by the architecture and the concept of it that we were considering moving there for the year.

Fast forward to today — we didn’t move to Bali, because we couldn’t and we all know why.

This year has been a year of losses.

We’ve lost our plans.

Many of us have lost jobs, businesses, and income.

Some have lost loved ones, and all of us have lost the ability to travel and see our loved ones.

We’ve lost our routines and schedules, our freedom, our space, and our peace of mind.

Apart from the actual loss of people, everything else we’ve lost is in reality our collective loss of self-identity. The identity that you had carved out for yourselves, all these years.
3 Rules to Accomplish Your New Years Resolutions
By: Rj Wade
Tags: New Year Resolution, Resolutions, 2021, Habits

Rule Number One: The Cure to Doubt is Consistency

It’s not what we do once in a while that shapes our lives. It’s what we do consistently.”

― Anthony Robbins

As a writer, I go through phases where I am determined to be financially independent solely on my writing. However, I worry about what others will think; I expect the results to come quicker than they do. I am heartbroken when my audience does not grow as fast as I think it should. It breeds a toxic cycle that eventually leads me to give up.

This is a natural fact of human nature; motivation or passion does not yield results. We live in a world that is dominated by technology that gives us instant gratification. We see the overnight sensations and the college dropouts turn billionaire, but these cases are rare. You can not replicate their path, and you have to give yourself a chance to succeed. There is a solution to my dilemma and many others that will keep us dedicated to our endeavors.

“One bulb at a time. There was no other way to do it. No shortcuts — simply loving the slow process of planting. Loving the work as it unfolded. Loving an achievement that grew slowly and bloomed for only three weeks each year.”

― Jaroldeen Asplund Edwards, The Daffodill Principle

The simple reality is that becoming a successful freelancer in any regard is difficult. The hardest part is to battle my own mental psyche. If you are experiencing something similar, the solution is to be consistent. Develop a system that is manageable and realistic. For me, I decided to post 1 article a week. No matter how I feel, I put the time in throughout my week to put together one piece of work that I find meaningful. I do my best to reflect on my old work as time passes. It shows growth despite the cringe.

I do not focus on the numbers or the views; I concentrate on enjoying my work and standing by the content I put out. Dedicate yourself long term. Try it for a year or two, and see what the results are. If you want to exercise, go for a walk every day, get in the gym for even ten minutes every day. It is impossible to fail.

You will notice a change in yourself if you stay consistent and give it time. I would guess you can’t remember your failures from years prior; what do you have to lose from just trying? The point is to start small, develop a system that works for you, and stay dedicated. The real risk is following the status quo and being miserable.
Men with These Improper Habits Are Susceptible To Epididymitis
By: Amanda Chou
Tags: Epididymitis, Herbal Remedies, Habits

Epididymitis is a typical disease in guys. There are several leads to can bring about epididymitis, and in most cases, bad lifestyle behavior go ahead and take principal pin the blame on. Which guys are prone to epididymitis? Pay attention to the doctor’s assistance, which will be of excellent support.

1. Men that have a sedentary habit.

Resting for very long is a bad behavior to masculine overall health. Young and midsection-older guys are complete of vitality, and a lot of of them have achieved certain accomplishment in their profession. Autos are getting to be the standard products. Hence they like to drive auto involving the office and home, and the majority of of time they sit at function. Medical doctors point out that seated for quite a while will inevitably compress the epididymis, inducing the epididymis location to become squeezed and causing over-crowding as well as lingered microorganisms , as a result creating the epididymitis.

2. Men who consume less water and do less workout in daily life.

Through the entire modern day office, young men are the principle force. When immersed in the state of operate, it can be easy to result in a active scenario with no time to maneuver, much less drinking water. This greatly cuts down on the frequency of drinking water and pee volume, causing bacteria to stay to make problems within the body. After work, males are usually fatigued out and fewer prone to do exercise, creating themselves resistance poorer.

READ MORE: What Exercises Are Suitable For Patients With Epididymitis?

3. Elite men who keep up delayed and don’t get enough rest time.

High level gentlemen, as the foundation of the business, arm the responsibility and pressure. The enormous operating strain is also predictable. Doing work overtime and remaining up late can be common things, the corresponding sleep at night efforts and sleeping quality will be hard to ensure. Right after retaining these behavior for a very long time, our bodies resistance will fall, which can be easy for pathogens to consider edge of it.

In a word, men who are occupied with operate can easily dismiss their every day healthcare, generating themselves overall health decreased. Doctors remind that younger and center-old men and women, as essential folks of society and loved ones, need to be aware of their very own overall health, develop excellent routines related to operate and relaxation.

When getting epididymitis and associated signs and symptoms, they must get handled in time. Don’t miss out the best opportunity. Frequently, holistic medication Diuretic and Anti-inflammatory Pill can be accessible to them. It has a excellent effect on terminating inflammations without having adverse reactions. It can also safeguard the urogenital system for guy overall health. Therefore you can pick it securely.
Let’s Make Forbidden Fruit Taste Bitter
By: Heya Desai
Tags: Habit Building, Behavior Change, Habits, Productivity

I’m that person who used to get bursts of motivation and spontaneous will-power to change everything up and take on countless new objectives at one time. These “spurts of motivation” as I like to call them were often followed by maybe one, or at most a few days of following through and being extremely satisfied about life 😁.

But most of these came to an end relatively quickly. Meditation for example, was something I found relaxing and beneficial when I did it consistently but eventually I had let go of this practice too.

It’s weird. I enjoyed the new things I tried, I felt content at the end of the day when I hit the bed, but for some reason I didn’t continue on. Turns out, making changes in a lifestyle requires more than just willpower and being “motivated”.

Motivation is what gets you started. Habit is what keeps you going. — Jim Ryun

Sometimes the will for change stems from simply wanting to grow as a person and for self-improvement and other times it can be to break a bad habit and replace it with a valuable one.

If there’s any similarity I’ve noticed among all of the people around me it is that something has to trigger them to make a change in their life or develop a habit.

This is why “I told you so” is a phrase we end up saying to people around us. It’s not that your advice is bad or that the philanthropist mentality isn’t serving purpose.

Instead, not doing what you’re told or recommended is all a result of human nature; forbidden fruit tastes so much sweeter.

When someone or something discourages us from doing something, we might understand the underlying reasons, yet at the same time our freedom is threatened. We are hence motivated to regain control of the situation and do the exact opposite — not because we want to but because we were forbidden from doing so. 🙅‍♀️

It makes no sense though somehow I find so many instances in my life when I’m doing just this. If I’m about to clean because I WANT TO and sometimes out of generosity, but then my parents swing in and tell me to clean, all that motivation goes underground. 📉

“Okay Heya we get it, humans don’t like being told what to do… we know that lol.”

What you might NOT KNOW is that there is actually a scientific reason for this behaviour: psychological reactance.

Psychological reactance is our brain’s response to any and all threats to our freedom. In the simplest of terms, when we are pushed to do something, in most cases it only increases our intrinsic motivation to push back. By resisting what may be best choice to make, we are inevitably at a disadvantage however our freedom is restored and so we proceed with the action. If you want to learn more about this theory and how to reframe the situation to avoid reactance, check out this article.

Knowing that certain behaviour is natural does not mean that we cannot implement strategic change to make doing the right thing a reflex action.
Nice Tips but How can we reduce screen time?
By: Sloan Don
Tags: Productivity, Habits, Wellness, Culture, Social Media

Nice Tips but How can we reduce screen time? If you are a Blogger or Writer. I used to research and write a lot and the whole thing happened in front of the laptop.

Well! Waiting for your next tip...
Creatures of Habit
Tags: Thoughts, Schedule, Everyday Life, Habits

One raves about how they would like to break the “monotony of everyday life” by doing something out of their daily routine, if that makes sense. On the contrary, when we have time to spare we scutter to finish our task instead of being idle. Most of us do not have the patience to relax because we aren’t really accustomed to it.

What we ought is pretty much defined, for a good dozen years since birth. Those bricks have long been laid and nobody really thinks about it anymore. We are molded into a certain habitual life since a young age. And like most people, I too am a creature of habit. I often try to “go-with-the-flow”, but in vain. I thrive when I have a schedule to follow. I sleep better when I set out the tasks I want to achieve for tomorrow. Otherwise, it feels chaotic and my productivity and motivation swoops down. As much I am hesitant to admit it, I am comfortable with certainty per se, and so are most people.
12 — Highly Important Skills, Every Kid Must LEARN.
By: Samrat Chakraborty
Tags: Money, Success, Entrepreneurship, Habits, Wealth

The age of 3–12 years is the most critical point of every children's life. This is the period when their brain is learning things at a high speed.

The skills which am going to talk about, are highly essential skills for an adult to perform at their highest level.

12 — Important skills are:

Problem Solving Goal Setting+Power of Discipline & Will Power Swimming, Cycling, athletics, Riding Improv Life’s Ethics (Sins + Vices) Art of Meditation Spirituality & Time Management Bodybuilding Money & Financial Literacy Power of Choice. Science & art of Concentration Self Defense + Bushcraft

If from early on, we instill these Extremely important skills, then our future generation youngsters will be much more mentally & emotionally stable individuals.

I have this dream that this entire course to be taught in each & every school and colleges all around the world. It should be open to all, even adults from any walks of life can easily learn these skills.

Be Great.
The Easiest Way To Build Good Habits
By: Karan Advani
Tags: Self Improvement, Habits, Lifestyle, Advice, Self Help

Habits are the ways in which our brain automates a task so that we can focus on the things that need our attention the most. For instance, when we brush our teeth we don’t necessarily think about the strokes of the brush. Instead, we think about how will the meeting at work go.

Photo by ŞULE MAKAROĞLU on Unsplash

Hence, habits can be a very effective way of saving time and mental energy. But the problem lies in building good habits. Often times we intend on building a habit, and more often than not, we fail.

Let me share some ways in which I have been able to create and instill new habits in my life
The Good Egg: Look Back, Live Forward
By: The Good Egg
Tags: Self Improvement, Goals, Habits, New Year Resolution, Resolutions

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Good Morning! Happy almost end of 2020! We’re getting close to the end of what many would call a challenging year. For the next two weeks, we’ll be discussing New Year’s Resolutions and how to set achievable goals.

According to the website, “The Ultimate Annual Review” by Steve Schlafman, we need to reflect on this past year in order to plan for 2021. He believes we should take a “5 Step Journey” to reflect on where we’ve been and where we want to go.

Step One: Moments and Milestones.

We start with reflecting on where we’ve been.

Today’s Challenge

Go through your calendar and pick out 3 major moments/milestones during three month intervals (see photo below).

They could be actual major events or small ones…considering we’re living through a pandemic.

Schlaffman offers some examples:

-Volunteered

-Got Married

-Changed jobs

-Founded a startup

-Took a risk

-Lost weight

-Protested racism

-Welcomed a baby

-Started a habit

-Moved cities

-Took a course

-Learned to cook

Take some time to enjoy this process — get comfy, and have fun reflecting on the past year.

-The Good Egg 🐣
Stop Making Your Bed
Tags: Make Your Bed, Habit Building, Habits, Productivity

Prioritize what serves you — drop the rest.

Making your bed has become the cornerstone of productivity. The great marker of a person who has their life together culminates in this morning ritual. In the self-improvement culture, making your bed has very little to do with the actual result, and much more to do with becoming a specific type of person.

I bought into it for a while. Believed I needed to be the person who woke early and immediately made the bed. But when your partner sleeps later than you this complicates the matter. My partner has never picked up a self-help book so he is immune to the pressure of a made bed. And coming back later myself to make the bed never really had an impact on my life in any positive way.

So I let it go.

I don’t make my bed anymore.

If you love a made bed, and it truly serves you in life to make it every morning then by all means continue. But, if it’s not serving you I offer you the warm embrace of freedom to release this silly standard.

Maybe making the bed is still serving you, but here’s some questions to ask if it, or some other habits in your life, are really not benefitting you. Even the ones that seem ‘good’ might not always be ‘good for you’.
9 Habits That You Should Absoloutely Avoid
By: Abrar Ahmed
Tags: Habits For Success, Happiness, Success, Habits, Life

There are so many bad habits that you learn from interacting with people. All these little things we do with people around us will somehow come back on us. These are the same bad habits that silently affect your life. You need to stop doing these bad habits if you want to be a better person.

Don’t judge people

While you are living your life, do not judge other people around you. There are many reasons why people do certain things. You have nothing better to judge them before getting to know him/her well.

Smile often

Don’t ignore people around you. A smile is the one thing you need to give to every human you come across. A smile can brighten a person’s day.

Talk too much

Always seek attention and make sure that you stand out. You need to be the talk of the town.

Maintain eye contact

Do not stare at a person and go off in a day dream.

Talk very fast

If you have a lot to say to someone, talk very fast. Remember, when you talk very fast, people tend to get annoyed and you tend to annoy them more. Speak at a normal pace.

Tackle too much

Solve the problems of people easily but you also create problems for them. You need to solve the problems of a person while keeping in mind the problems they have.

Take up more things

You don’t have to focus on one thing. Everyone will take the time to tell you not to overburden yourself. This takes a toll on your own well-being. When you take up more things, it takes a toll on your self-esteem. You may feel like you are not doing enough for your family and that you are not doing enough for yourself.

Never be objective

Never try to be objective with people. Trying to be objective is always something that makes you look wrong. Trying to look objective is like asking a person to accept that all people are bad. So, when you are looking to know more about a person, you should try to be objective.

Fall for the moment

There are people out there, who will only remain in your mind for that brief moment.

To conclude, one thing to remember is that life is too short. You don’t have to judge people. Just make sure that you do everything you can to make yourself a better person.
Tik Tok Lies, Your Habits Don’t
By: Caleb Gauff
Tags: Habits For Success, Quarantine, Habits, Tik Tok, Habit Building

Every morning I do the same thing you and just about every other person in a first world country does- I pick up my damn phone because I need to check all of the important stuff that I missed while I was sleeping.

And you know what? It’s rarely anything important. Yet, I do it every morning.

Why?

Because it’s a habit I’ve formed, albeit a bad one, over the last however many years of having a phone. And I keep telling myself that I’ll break that habit whenever I want to because my phone doesn’t control me (“he said, having not seen The Social Dilemma yet”). But my phone punks me every morning and I pick up it up even before I stretch out my old 29 year-old body.

That’s the funny part about habits- we think they are as simple as deciding that you’re done with a bad one and are ready to start a good one. I know there’s plenty of science behind it: some people say it takes 21 days to start a new one and keep it. Others say it takes 4–6 weeks. In reality, it seems like it depends on the person. Some “science” that I can subscribe to about habits is this: if it took you all of these years to create bad ones, it’s probably going to take you a little while to replace them with better ones.

Yes, deciding you want to change is the first step but everything takes time. We all use time as the excuse for why we couldn’t do something before.

I want to work out, but I my job is taking up all my time.

I want to write that book, but I don’t have time because of the yard work.e

I want to learn how to cook…but that new season of the Bachelorette just hit Hulu.*

* Full transparency: I never got the hype about the Bachelor/Bachelorette shows. But then I kind of watched one not on purpose because my girlfriend and her step-sister were watching it, and I was in the same room and it was surprisingly deep…and maybe a little entertaining. So I take back some of my previous slander.

But with quarantine, we’re all at home. With more time than we’ve ever experienced before and all of our habits, bad and good, are magnified.

So what’s your excuse now?

And I write this a self-reflection piece because I’ve noticed it in myself.

I actually got up and went for a walk this morning. Did I still look at my phone? Yeah…I had to see if people are still freaking out about black people getting superpowers today. But hey, it’s progress.

So those things you’ve been wanting to do- now’s the time. It doesn’t have be perfect, just get going. You’ll figure out how the details later. And those habits that you’re not happy with? There’s never a better time to start working on them than there is right now.

I just want y’all to win.

P.S.: Tik Tok being in the title was complete clickbait and I’m not even ashamed. You just clicked here out of habit for everything Tik Tok.

Got ya.
An Ode to 2020
By: Jay Sizemore
Tags: Resistance Poetry, 2020, New Year, Remembering, Poetry

An Ode to 2020

Photo by Jamie Street on Unsplash

What an absolute shithole.

What a vomitous promenade,

a hangover headache made manifest

as calendar of paper cut days.

If ever a year was a suicide watch,

or a self-tying knot

of processional puppet string

strangling light from the eyes,

it was you, year of bad juju,

blood cells like black Cadillacs

colliding calm heartbeats

into car crash heart attacks.

The universe is exhausted,

never a December more exalted,

to see a revolution conclude

and come out clean

as a worker for the meat plant,

the one who holds the bolt gun,

refusing to ever eat

another hamburger or steak,

we are all vegan cannibals now.

The sunrises keep screaming

like the cattle in our dreams,

and I’m finding more and more

blood in my teeth,

just chewing the foamy air

of my survival instincts,

every breath a new vaccine

against tomorrow’s news

and whatever fear the daylight brings.
Follow the Horse
By: Jeffrey Field
Tags: Apocalypse, Resistance Poetry, Covid 19, Donald Trump, God

Follow the Horse

December 19 — Waiting for the procession to leave Onate High School, destination, Young Park in Las Cruces.

Hot-mix Saturday at Young Park…

Old Testament, New Testament,

Jesus, Satanists,

treasonous Joe Biden,

patriot Donald Trump,

God and country, the flag,

say Amen somebody!

Faithful wretches

intent on restoring

God’s anointed leader…

follow the horse, the man said,

follow the horse.

So I followed the horse

through the streets of Las Cruces,

one of four horses leaving

steaming piles of horse shit

in their wake

as the line of trucks and cars

crept their way to Young Park,

and I played the fool

in front of a hundred

faithful wretches with guns

strapped to their belts,

waiting for the ultimate Trump tweet,

the one that says,

Standby is over… time to

take back what is rightfully ours.

I know how it ends… how it all ends.

I know because the angel

(whom I incorrectly believed to be God)

told me Earth was destined for catastrophe.

Catastrophe upon catastrophe,

queued up in Earth’s timeline.

That was 2011.

In a few days it will be 10 years later.

10 years.

Ten years.

Four horsemen herald the coming New Year.

The beginning is the end and

the end is the beginning… and it is now that

my confession must be spoken aloud.

Every catastrophe thrills

my secret heart.

I eagerly await the day’s news

for more… more… more.

Our fate is sealed.

Fate is destiny.

God’s will?

If this be God’s will, and I believe it is,

I stand ready,

I stand firm.

Knowing the future,

rejoicing in God’s plan,

I nevertheless put my body

on the line and fight

the demons

so intent on our…

destruction.

I emulate the Norsemen of old.

Asgard, the home of the gods, is unlike

any other heaven men have dreamed of.

No radiancy of joy is in it,

no assurance of bliss.

It is a grave and solemn place,

over which hangs the threat

of an inevitable doom.

I shall be like the Norsemen of old.

I shall fight the fate this angry god has

placed upon the world.

I shall fight knowing

my cause is lost.

Not for fame,

not for glory,

not for accolades.

Because that is who I am.

Rage, rage against the dying of the light.
Brighter Days Ahead
Tags: Resistance Poetry, Climate Crisis, Change, Youth, Poetry

Brighter Days Ahead

Photo by Markus Spiske on Unsplash

I was speaking to someone the other day

A young soul with dreams and ambitions

She said to me, ‘I want to make everyone’s life better’.

A statement so seamlessly grandiose and simplistic

Yet, it felt true and and innocent

I hung on to every syllable and wondered why

We can’t all have simple dreams of a better world

We can work towards.

She craved not money, nor social standing

But a better tomorrow, the world she would live in.

We do not ever, think like this

We act like adults, and hedge our bets

Do what we can, forgetting the rest

Because of issues of bureaucracy

Where money goes and power plays

This evil game, called politics

Has cast a shroud, over our inner child

Usurped our ability to hope and dream

Making us choose, who we can help.

Responsible, grown-up reasoning

Subjecting others to their demise.

It is kind of like, making a deal with the devil

Maybe not as nefarious, but flirting around the edges

“We will let you save, a chosen few

Just to show a semblance of progress

But many others, perhaps the majority

Will be left for us, for continued exploitation.”

No wonder why the youth are rising and taking action

For their uncorrupted mind, is bereft of norms and knowledge

Of how things are supposed to be done.

All they see is inequity and climate destruction

When they rage and demand for change

They know not of the dollars invested

Or economic implications

For them there is wrong and right,

No grey areas in their visions.

“Meet me in the middle,

50–50, at least you will get something.”

The youth do not understand 50–50

Save half and abandon the rest

These words you speak are for a different generation.

“We would go partially green, work out the percentages

Divest a little, but no not everything

Surely you can understand, we must protect our margins

And at least we are giving you something.”

Science says, that is not enough

No deal then, the youth will march unrelenting

Till their desires are met, with no compromises.

So maybe, the statement made by this friend of mine

Was not so grand nor simple,

Perhaps it was, a look into

What our world could become

A place where each person could decide

That their goal in life was to make the world a better place

However they choose to do so

These basic words, highlight our unity

A recognition that we are all, inextricably related

For if you prosper, so shall I.
Baby butterflies
By: Eloise Davenport
Tags: Resistance Poetry, Growth, Love, Poetry On Medium, Feminism

Photo by Bankim Desai on Unsplash

sitting Here against my will sweating

and the jewels feel prickly on my hairline.

i think of your hands there instead and

i believe i am dead

pathetic.

who is this weak boyish figure giving

me empty eyes

just slits

inflamed with years of tyrannized yowls;

i’m disturbed because

they never unhitch no matter how hard

i try, and i and my puppeteer try hard.

such a bad feminist

i proved that to myself today

the edge of revelation,

‘i am not who i thought’ is cold and sharp

or maybe i’m just not who i was.

being alone has hardly been a feat.

as i grew from pure to desirable

i favored it like strawberries;

no one saw the twisted branches

unless i ruled.

i was whoever i wanted to

any given other

it took you for me to muse:

perhaps i have the dimension

perhaps the art hasn’t lied

(i don’t resent; the art is still lovely)

& you saw both ripe & soured figs without

my show-and-tell

and you danced with them.

(i knew you would before

i knew what you prefer to be called.)

your tango boasted and i huffed —

first from glorious whiplash,

three seconds of audible relief,

then with torment.

a tango is for appetite

but cannot fill you up.

can a lithe one learn to step unescorted?

probably not when the pipes

that guide vitality from lungs

to performance

are wrestling a constrictor

and losing

it’s not even venomous

but grandma was excited;

she knows a true snake bite

fifty years has got to be the deadliest of all

and look at me, ‘woe is i’

shut up.

as if i’d ever survive

but bunnies still pitter across my ideas —

the ones you once liked to hear.
Media Mania And Me
By: Sylvia Wohlfarth
Tags: Resistance Poetry, News, Self, Poetry, Social Media

Media Mania And Me

I listened to the news again, as always

— a habit which over time is weakening me

and that invisible part of the outer world

which lives within me — my inner maze

Believing, naively, knowledge bears wisdom

— the bellwether of freedom, justified.

There is wrong-doing, and marauding

wrong-doers causing a fearfully weak

stomach and nauseating my mind

with the absence of things.

What, I ask, is this mean streak in man

which can be tamed and fanned?

The epitome of cruelty and the void existence

of compassion are political humanoids

whose names like Harry Potter’s Voldemort

I refuse to soil my lips with.

Every now and then a glimpse of light

haloed by a morsel of goodness is reported

— a carrot at the tip of a stick intermittently

stretched out far away enough to keep us

reading, watching, hoping and believing.

The seesaw, though, remains lopsided

with one side suspended in the air

slanted to slide accelerating titbits

of grammatically incorrect snippets

of badness down our gullets.

Egoism, greed, destruction, distress

abuse, you name it, media has it

— sufficient to hang over us a hovering

net of insecurity and fear.

Fodder for my angry sadness —

I relentlessly winnow out the chaff.
Resistance Poetry 2020.11
Tags: Collection, Resistance Poetry, Politics, Commentary, Poetry

Resistance Poetry 2020.11

A pile of local weeklies sporting headlines like “Geiger Wins House Race” and “Miramant Reelected to State Senate” stared up at me from the tail of the check-out counter at my neighborhood market.

Consternated, I asked the clerk, “What’s with the old papers?” He looked at me quizzically. Then we both laughed. It was the Saturday after Election Day. The papers had been published Thursday, yet seemed ancient. The preceding four days had seemed like a month.

November seemed like a year. So much changed on a daily basis. Glad news. Bad news. WTF news. Despite the rapid change, it felt like wading through quicksand while being swarmed by greenhead flies.

Sometimes I hope we are in the final fifteen minutes of a horror show. Soon, the lights will come on, and those of us left alive with draw a deep breath. But mostly I feel we are in the first book of a trilogy, and there is so much more grief yet to come.

If you aren’t exhausted, there is either something wrong with you or you are a Zen master.

Not being a Zen master, I am exhausted. And exhaustion has a way of driving me to assess what I can change to make my life more manageable. So, here’s a heads up that there are going to be changes at Resistance Poetry:

I will no longer be posting links to poems on Twitter. I cannot begin to tell you how much I loathe Twitter. I find it a noisy, inane cesspool of self promotion punctuated by the occasional newsworthy item. Since ceasing posts on November 30, I already feel lighter. These monthly compilations will cease as of the December 2020 issue. They are tedious and time consuming to create and do not appear to have performed the function I hoped (at least in a meaningful way): connecting people to poets and poets to each other. RP will, until further notice, not accept new poets. Although I am occasionally awed by a new poet who contacts us, I have been finding the majority of those requesting writer designation are deadwood intent on earning some kind of Medium Merit Badge. Such is the wonder of social media.

I’m hoping these changes will make RP sustainable, because there will always be a need for a platform like this.

Now for our poets’ takes on the election and more:

THE ELECTION

Jane Woodman

antoinette nevitt

LB

Joe Váradi

Matthew B.

Samantha Lazar

Violet DeTorres

Harper Thorpe

Patsy Starke

Imad

Linda A Robinson, PhD

Andrew Wlos

Samantha Lazar

Christyl Rivers, Phd.

MORE

Nathalie Amazan

maurice blocker

Violet DeTorres

Mallory J. Dominic

Dougal Lorne

Afiyah The Poet

Adam Millett

Soft Tower

Sylvia Wohlfarth

Mark Juhan

AK (Aaska Aejaz)

Andrew Wlos

Jesse Wilson

Anna Rozwadowska

Imad

Kevin

Will Schmit

Rob Cullen

James G Brennan

Emma Briggs

John Gillen