2020 Self-Partnered Gift Guide
By: Rebekah Buege
Tags: Gift Ideas, Holidays, Dating, Body Image, Self Love

Single doesn’t mean you can’t be spoiled.

Self love isn’t all bubble baths and “treating yourself”, but at Christmas I don’t hold back.

As someone who’s been single for all of 2020, I deserve something extra special this year. Being self-partnered means my Christmas shopping is limited to only my friends and family. So I take special advantage of the extra room in my budget (an underrated perk this time of year!)

In my exclusive podcast subscription, I talk about using the 5 love languages to build tangible self love. The relationship you have with yourself grows in the same way any other relationship does…so it’s time to act like it. Invest time and energy figuring out how you feel the most loved, cared for, and supported. Then do that for your damn self, queen.

When you get really good at love, you become a polyglot and speak love in all languages you can.

That’s me. I love to love.

This year, I’m going all in on my gift giving love language.

I put together this gift guide of what I’ve given to myself this year…and why you should, too.

Mmm. Yes — if you like personalized wine recommendations, you gotta check them out. This bridges the gap between wine drinker and wine snob. You can discover high quality, unexpected wine just by knowing what fruit you prefer. If you want to reach snob status, they can help with that, too.

Take the taste palate quiz and get your first box of 6 personalized wine recommendations shipped to you for like $40 total. It’s amazing. Answering questions like, ‘what’s your favorite kind of chocolate?’ never felt so productive. Use these links to get a $50 credit. You’re welcome.

I gave up buying fashion jewelry in 2015. I fell in love with too many pieces that tarnished or simple broke. Super disappointing. This year I found delicate, stackable fine jewelry. Kendra Scott delivers on all fronts.

The ISA ring in 14k yellow gold with pave white diamonds is on the middle finger on my left hand. The cross 14k yellow gold band with white diamonds is on the index finger of my right hand.

They’re elegant, classic, but still dainty enough to wear everyday without a second thought. Use this link for 20% off your first order (and yes, that includes fine jewelry — what a steal!)

I’m a corporate girl. I traveled for work every month and needed a backpack that didn’t make me look like a high school lacrosse player. Enter, The Rowledge. I discovered Lo & Sons right before the world shut down, but I’ve still used the crap out of their luggage.

The Catalina Weekender bag changed my life with a separate bottom container for shoes (genius). It’s no wonder this company was founded by a woman. Use these links to get stellar 60% off sales.

Not only are their bags beautiful, they’re made with eco-friendly materials and focus on sustainability.

I changed my perspective on skincare. Shifting from “fix my skin problems” to “honor my skin where it’s at” and this British skincare line is a dream.

I ordered the Pro-Collagen line and fell in love with how the cleansing balm smells. Plus, you get a little washcloth included. I’m a sucker for a gift with purchase. Get your goodies here.

Their gift with purchase game is one of the strongest I’ve seen. When I ordered this, I got 11 product samples and a free velvet cosmetic bag. If you’re on the fence about a new skincare routine, try it, you’ll love it.

My dark, thick, German body hair has been a point of contention in my relationship with my body for years. Fighting it, giving up, and trying to find a balance that worked for me.

No matter the length or location, my skin is now free from painful bumps, ingrown hair, and post-wax worries thanks to my Fur Ingrown Concentrate.

Like wtf it’s also so cute, how can you even deal with that? I can’t. So I bought it. Honoring the way my body hair grows and responds is a step towards true body love.

These are all the new products I bought (and loved) this year. There’s a difference between being single and being self-partnered. The mindset of the former is, “I’m waiting for someone to love me,” the mindset of the latter is, “I’m loving me, and I plan to regardless if I’m in another relationship or not.”

So whether you have someone close to your heart or not, you can still be a great partner to yourself this holiday season.

Any of these are a good starting point.

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