How do deal with bad friends
Tags: Teenagers, Drama, Fake Friends

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I’ve been going through this friendship breakup for the past month and I wish I’ve listened to everyone that was telling me how bad of a friend she was.

This girl, we will call her Destiny, went behind my back for the past months and I found out through Snapchat, imagine finding out your best friend is hanging out with people you hate the most THRU SNAPCHAT.

Anyways we were friends for 3 years and we had this friend group with 5 friends. Last summer we fought with one of them so the group got even smaller, and this summer we fought with another girl so we remained 3 but another girl joined us so 4.

We were never the same since I got a boyfriend, I have a long term relationship of almost 2 years so of course I’m going to spend most of my time with him. Because of the pandemic we didn’t hang out so much so now it began the fallout of our friend group.

In the course of these months I got in 3 fights with Destiny regarding her attitude. The 3rd time was the last big and awful fight. My mistake was treating her like shit with our other friends but keep in mind, they didn’t know we fought.

So one night my friend texted me saying if I see what she sees and I was very confused and she was really angry and she called me on FaceTime telling me to check Snapchat and to check our ex friend’s story. So I didn’t think much of it I just thought it was the usual drama nothing worse and when I go to check I see Destiny with our other two friends we got in a fight.

I was in the state of shock and I couldn’t believe what she’s done I didn’t get why she’s done what she’s done I mean I get our two other friends because they were angry with us but I don’t know why she did it.

So we called our other friend through FaceTime and I started crying, bawling my eyes out because she knew they wronged me in the past and then I told them to leave the group chat on Snapchat.

So of course her being such a bad friend didn’t text me and but instead she texted the friend that told me to check the Snapchat story. This friend is like the nicest one in our group she’s can be easily taking advantage of and she is usually the nice one. And she texted her saying why she talks behind her back and why she told told me that she went out with them but she forgot that our ex friend put that on her story.

And she had this bad bitch attitude towards this friend and told her that she is now happy with them and she’s grateful for making that decision. So I was so angry I wanted to text her and all that I could think of is I’m going to be the shit out of her. I was really hard broken because she knew that her hanging out with them it’s going to hurt me and I still don’t get what I did so wrong towards her.

Just think about the fact that she agreed completely with our decision to kick our ex friends out of the group and she was always the one that started trouble and started talking crap about them after leaving a group. I’m not going to say that I’m a saint and I didn’t talk crap about them too but I didn’t go back to them pretending we’re friends because I’m not that person if you’re wrong me I’m not going to come back and ask for you to be my friend.

And then this friend told me that she texted her a couple days ago asking her if she wants to make up with one of our ex friends and she told me she acted weird telling her that I am nothing to her and I don’t mean nothing we’re just simply colleagues. So she did all this just to hurt me and she wanted me to leave the group.

So I’m not going to keep on telling you what this girl did to me because there are three years worth of “trauma”, only if you want me to.

So my advice is to not respond back with hate the most hurtful thing in my opinion is ignorance, if you ignore someone that is going to hurt the most. Just pretend that you don’t care and just act like she doesn’t mean anything to you just like my friend acted. Don’t go telling other people what she did or telling her secret that’s not a nice behavior. And if a number of people tell you that this is not good for you and that this friend is not good for you please listen to them because I didn’t and in the end I realized that they were right and I should not lower my standards just because I don’t want to lose a friend that is toxic to me.

Be careful what kind of people you surround yourself with and always be the bigger person.