Amal Totkay — or Life Hacks. So what if I started at 3 am? So what…
By: Pawan Kumar
Tags: Comfort Zone, Habits, Life Hacks, Helping Out

So what if I started at 3 am? So what if it is not a good time to self-reflect? I am here to pour my heart out, to cry on your screens and to scream in your ears (kidding, we do not do that here). Well I am here to share few totkas( like we already hadn’t enough), the totkas which will let you know how to achieve new level of mindfulness :) Let us get started, shall we?

Developing a Growth Mindset

Ever wondered when you are stuck at some point in your life, you either submit to the situation or rise from it, stronger than ever. So what exactly decides what decision you are going to take? Has it to do anything with your mindset? Well, actually, it does! All our decisions and steps we take somehow show our approach towards life. For instance, I see a wall, what will I do? Should I stop moving forward or should I just jump over it? (Mind you, I am not a long jumper) No, I will actually get a hammer, smash that wall to pave my way. This is the life lesson fellas, this hammer is your mind, and that smashing is your consistency, the more you smash the more bricks you will break. So keep smashing, until you crave a door out of it. (Invite me to TEDx next time)

Getting Out of Comfort Zone

I really wish I had one, but yeah for the sake of conversation. Let us talk about what makes you uncomfortable (not talking about your crush). Imagine you are stuck in a room full of people whom somehow you were hesitant to communicate (not your crush again), but now you got chance to communicate with them? What would you do? Will you go and talk to them or just stand in a side, away from the eyes of crowd? Or hide under the table, maybe? Bruh use your growth mindset, take out your hammer once again, smash that wall of doubtfulness, and approach those people. This is hella difficult, but this what we call getting out of comfort zone, doing things which are beneficial for us, but somehow we keep avoiding them due to inconveniences. I hope you get it now, if you don’t, I got my own hammer and we love smashin here.

Create New Habits

Did someone say habits here? Who got time for this when we are so burdened with our life? However, seriously dude, get one and if you do not develop one, your chances of getting insane increases ten-folds. As in the world, reaching closer to insanity every day, habits are the only escape as they do not only help us to stay busy (to avoid existential crisis), they also assist us to learn something new every day. Long before Amal happened, I tried to keep myself busy by learning some Spanish (Hola, amigos y amigas), and I won’t lie, it helped me to avoid overthinking and kept my sanity in check. I hope we all are getting some lessons here, and if you aren’t getting some, go from this again, you unfocused person.

Ask People Help

Okay, this is important. First, you should know that we are living in a society, which solely works because we all are somehow helping each other out, and if this ceases, complete social fabric of society will wear out. At some point of your life, even your hammer would not work, and you might need a screwdriver, but you don’t have one, so what would you do? Buy it? We aren’t all rich here, so the only option left is reaching out to someone for help. It is essential, because there are so many tools out there, carried by multiple people, and it is highly unlikely that someone got it all. Hence, in order to unlock multiple doors, you need to take assistance, and don’t be shy, you also got a hammer, which you can lend to someone else. Feels like unlocking some life lessons here.

Fake It Till You Make It

This one is my favorite, as I can personally relate to it (playing pretend game all my life). Ever played sim games, where we use to live in a simulated world and pretended to do all the things, a common human do like buying a house, or getting a new car. This is not the fake thing we are talking about here, so come back from your illusionary World. Once again, take out your hammer again, in the midst of the people who own wedges. okay wait, don’t barge yourself out, you are not in wrong room. Now you got to somehow pretend that you got what they all have, well it is very unlikely that your hammer will convert into wedge, but it will serve same purpose if it comes to break out things, so I guess we good, aint we? You see what I did here? I just showed that if you find yourself in a good position, even though you lack few skills to be there, then don’t worry just fake it until you get hold of all the skills required to be at that place. (But don’t pretend for too long pls)

Is it morning yet?