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After all, why do girls do this? Let’s know.
Tags: Relationships, Relationship Building, Relationships Love Dating, Relations

The time in the life of any boy and girl is the most painful when for some reason he has a breakup with his love. This is the moment of their life, whose pain cannot be expressed in words. Now just think about how you imagine a reaction from a girl in such a painful moment. Maybe your girlfriend may even slap you.

After all, why do girls do this?

1. Sometimes your relationship lasts for a long time. After a long time, there is a time in between when both of you have to separate. If this breakup is a usual breakup then girls slap and calm their minds.

2. Nowadays there are many boys who befriend girls for hobbies and girls start believing them to be true. In such a situation, when the reality comes in front of the girls and there is a breakup, then the angry girl’s hand is bound to rise.

3. During the breakup, when the girl feels that till now, she was only loving the person in front of her heart. The one in front was just playing. In such a situation, it is difficult for anyone to control their emotions and the angry frontman gets slapped.

4. By the way, nowadays, with the time of getting older, girls take out their anger by speaking abusive words during breakup. At the same time, if it is about a decent girl, then she slaps the front and calms her mind.

5. In most cases it happens that boys start counting the evils of girls as a reason. Sometimes they make them bad for their family, sometimes they do not consider them of their type. In such a situation, the girls are unable to tolerate the first pain of a breakup and the second, to hear their own evil, and in anger, their hand gets up to slap.

Read also: Save your relationship under work stress in this way.

Read also: After all, what do girls want from you? Let’s know.

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Christmas Day: Being Single vs. Being Engaged For The Holidays
By: Sara Knick
Tags: Engagement, Holidays, Christmas, Relationships Love Dating, Singles

I had been single for 27 years going through several Christmases “by myself.” Now, moving forward, this will be the 5th year in a row that I will not be single for the holidays. I’ve been with my fiancé for a good solid four years. I got engaged in August 2018 and this will be my third year spending the holidays engaged. I will always enjoy the holidays whether I’m single or taken! I have a lot of nostalgia regarding the holidays.

I love feeling joyful with my fiancé around this time of year, but it is also a reminder of our family members that have passed away that are no longer with us. We still feel a lingering sadness about the loss of our moms.

We still feel the voids from those family members that have passed away. The changing dynamics of our families in relation to these losses hasn’t been easy to come to terms with. Even though we have each other, we still cannot fill those losses.

The love and support that we give to each other during the holidays has made it easier to get through them. We have cultivated our relationship to the point where we each take responsibility for the roles that we play in our relationship and it has made it easier to give each other support where needed. The reliability and loyalty that we’ve demonstrated to each other has made our relationship worth staying in.

We’ve made our home a joyful and clean place to be in. We’ve both made efforts to keep our house a sanctuary. We’ve done baking and cooking for each other and decorating for the holidays. This has allowed us to feel better and more relaxed. We recognize that there’s no changing the past, but we can do all that we can to enjoy the time that we’ve got now.

We do still have those moments of sadness that we encounter when we realize we can’t remedy certain aspects of the past.

My fiancé and I are grateful for each other in our current relationship. We have grown to know each other and love each other on an in-depth level. Even when I was single, I enjoyed the holidays because I did not take to heart what other people thought about my relationship status. The joy that I get from being my authentic self is enhanced in being in my current relationship as well as being in this joyful time of year.

Being single for several years during the holidays did not take joy out of my life. I still felt joyful because I was in touch with my authenticity. I would rather have been single because I was not going to settle for a partner who did not match or complement the person that I was. I was very firm in this belief. Being single does not equal being alone. Being engaged does not always equal happiness either. We experience a range of emotions as human beings. I still acknowledge that my fiancé and I are two different people with our own desires, boundaries and needs. The holidays are filled with happiness because we’ve both put in energy and effort to make it joyful. Because of this, I am grateful.
●How to Get Your Ex Back●💝
Tags: Love, Relationships, Relationships Love Dating, Dating

●How to Get Your Ex Back●💝

Learn the Secret to Opening His Heart Again

◆Did you share a special connection with a guy?

And despite his recent actions, you know he felt it too?

Well, I believe that's a relationship worth fighting for. And the good news is I may have a way for you to rekindle things with your ex.

Because no matter what a man claims, he wants that beautiful connection back too.

But he won't let himself act on those feelings when he's trying to move on.

●As a dating coach and relationship expert, here’s what I’ve noticed about this situation...

● A man who is closed off to a relationship with you believes the last chapter has been written.

He envisions the story of your relationship as having ended; the last page of the last chapter already written.

◆ To get him back, you must change that mental framework.

Here's the problem with us men as I see it.

We try to think our way through romantic relationships. That's why "logic" gets in the way of reconnecting with your ex.

● Logic tells him he tried it and things didn’t work out.

To succeed, you have to bypass his logic in order to reach his heart.

◆ You have to connect with his emotional desires directly.

This requires the activation of a deeper kind of wisdom that is often silenced by rational, conscious thought.

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Asexuality as a compromise for respectful relationships?
Tags: Soulmates, Respectfulness, Asexuality, Relationships Love Dating

Asexuality as a compromise for respectful relationships? And attractive women seeking soul gratification in modern day relationships….

It’s been some time since I embarked on a fully committed relationship, however one repeating pattern seems to be evidently obvious to me, that is, that when a woman who is considered attractive and by societal norms as a sexual being, a sensual being, accepts the invitation of a male for the starting of a new relationship, as soon as intimate relations commence or as soon as this activity of intimacy is expected upon her, almost as a right rather than a feeling of mutual want and need, towards the partner, the respect almost instantly diminishes in the relationship and never returns. Perhaps, this is an early relationship stumbling ground, or perhaps, this is the reason many men and women relate as asexual, in a society where having sex after 3 dates is the norm, or where sexual intimacy and pregnancy must begin within at least a few weeks or short months of marriage. By choosing the latter, the person who becomes asexual not only protects themselves to a certain extent in the relationship by refusing to render their bodies and their most intimate bodily acts to a person, who is unable to be respectful to them, but it also provides them with a new-born set of eyes, in seeing the way in which the male and the female, are meant to be, in how they are created to be. Male and female are created to compliment each other, to provide companionship and fulfil each other’s needs for a sense of belonging and a sense of comfort towards each other, in the world, this can be defined as soulmates or twin flames, which for a-sexual like me, has a greater priority than the bodily needs for quick intimate relationships. If this soul gratification is found and fulfilled, do the couple even need to have any physical relations? Asexuality is not a phase, it is not something that is going to go away, even with the advent of a soulmate. Many can relate that despite finding their other halves in life, there is no change to their asexuality…
How To Make Your Man To Respect You: Powerful Manuals
By: Her Secret
Tags: Couples Counseling, Dating Advice, Make Him Worship You, Make Him Want You, Relationships Love Dating

If you want that man to RESPECT YOU and VALUE YOU for who you are, you must understand the following:

If what you want is to be respected, set the example starting WITH YOURSELF. A thinker once said:

“Respect yourself and others will respect you”

while a writer said:

“If you want to be respected, the best thing you can do is respect yourself. Only by respecting yourself will you make others do it.”

Women, you have to understand that men respect only women who love and respect themselves.

All you have to do is enjoy yourself and what you have around you, receive and hug it with your two hands.

See Also: The secret male psychological loophole (Video Presentation)

1. THE GENUINE WOMAN

Men adore women who are confident and original.

They like to be the man and chase. Being honest with yourself and not trying to act the way you assume the man wants you to behave will allow the man to respect you for who you are.

Men don’t need women who are like them to respect them, they need women to be women. That is to say, intelligent, hard-working, open, or even athlete.

2. NO TO Hasty SEX

Attention, when you give yourself too fast you lose many points of respect, believe it or not, men need time to fall in love with you, if you give it speed and efficiency they will associate you differently.

Help each other to get to know you slowly, as well as enjoy great and unforgettable memories.

3. TELL THE TRUTH

Honesty and integrity are key to earning the respect of anyone. Never lie. A man cannot respect you if he cannot trust you.

It is also key not to tell white lies when describing yourself in a way that ends up giving a bad impression. If what you want is a real relationship, tell the truth even if it sounds redundant.

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You Don’t Squeeze Lemons Into Paper Cuts
By: Niki Marinis
Tags: Sex, Dating, Relationships Love Dating, Self, Life Lessons

Life is what you can live with. Somewhere inherent in that statement is the concept that life is what you make of it. The key word being You. When life hands you lemons, or in my case tedious dates and mistakenly optimistic, irreversibly awful sex, you don’t squeeze them into paper cuts, you cut them into garnishes and make some cocktails.

So when I was 32 and life handed me a gorgeous ginger 23-year-old who turned out to have unacceptable bedroom moves, I figured the only thing left to do was make some lemonade. But not before crowdsourcing a few recipes. And by that I mean, I asked my followers on this newfangled social media thing at the time called Twitter.

I had questions. Important questions, vital questions, real questions of regional security (my lady regions). I was used to dating… well, men. And let’s face it, 23-year-olds aren’t men. #sorrynotsorry

I asked the much more experienced dating community on Twitter if these young bucks came with the skill and expertise of intuitive sex wizards or if we had to train them?

The news was disheartening.

Apparently, young men are like IKEA furniture; a total steal of a deal and exactly what you need at that moment, but assembly is required and there’s often a part or two missing.

Ugh. I mean, who has that kind of time?

But then I got a lovely bit of advice. Something so easy and simple it was appalling I hadn’t thought of it. Clearly, I was not yet the genius I am today. A lovely lady on Twitter told me bluntly, “Just tell him what you want. You want foreplay, tell him you want foreplay.”

No joke. Real talk. That simple.

Not one to miss a chance for hot sex to test a theory, I texted my on-again-off-again booty call of years. The response was immediate and clear. He loved foreplay, couldn’t get enough, and thought it was incredibly sexy and a huge turn on. And just like that, my untapped tree resource sprung a leak and I was about to be drowning in maple syrup.

He came over a few nights later. And while I won’t go into the nitty-gritty details, it’s safe to say that my neighbors were well aware of my ability to stir up a good glass of lemonade.

If I hadn’t had that disastrous-left-me-desirous-of-getting-more-and-getting-it-good sex, I never would’ve crowdsourced statistics, gotten that simple yet ingenious advice, been bold and brazen and simply asked for what I wanted, and enjoyed that maple syrup like it was the last my pancakes would ever see.

So whether we’re talking about lemons into lemonade or silver linings into cocoons of happiness, the message is clear; life is what you make it, so you’d better make it good.

As for me, I went to sleep that night wrapped in sheets made of silver linings, questions answered, thirst quenched, and life happily lived with.
In the West, people are less likely to have sex than ten years ago
By: Piotr Dariusz Makowski
Tags: Relationship Advice, Relationships, Relationships Love Dating

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Its a well known fact, as pretty much every other person on the planet, since the time I was mature enough, sex has devoured my brain. At the time I wasn’t mature enough to comprehend the contrast between great sex, alright sex, terrible sex, Extraordinary Sex… Sex was sex. And afterward sex was basically web pornography, which at the time wasn’t close to as evolved as it is presently. This was back in the dial up days, where I was “riding the web” with either an AOL, Compuserve, or Wonder free preliminary. I surmise around then, the modems weren’t sufficiently quick to try and watch recordings like you can today. An image said 1,000 words. The lone recordings were on tapes which some companion would have found in his folks mystery concealing spot in the wardrobe. VHS Tapes, not DVDs…

I surmise around then, I expected all sex was Extraordinary pornography star sex. With the size and endurance of the pornography star folks, and that all young ladies would take it like pornography star young ladies. All things considered, pornography was fundamentally my handbook, a guide that showed me very close the flying creatures and honey bees (a similarity I actually don’t get). Tips on the most proficient method to give her incredible sex.
Hello,
Tags: Marriage, Dating, Relationships Love Dating, Couples, Love

I am back with another Story, Check out the tips for your 1st date…

Perhaps the best things in life are free. Looking back, the best dates I ever went on didn’t cost much or anything at all.

Traditional dating can be expensive; dinner, which can easily cost $40 or more. Follow that with a movie, which can run another $40 if you buy popcorn, drinks and candy. Suddenly you are close to a hundred dollar evening, and before you know it, all of your extra money for the month has been spent on a date.

Yet it doesn’t have to cost so much. The best thing is that often, romance can be free. An afternoon spent hiking. Having a nice quiet picnic at a park or lake, an afternoon stroll through the forest; All wonderful dates, and they only cost you time

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Christmas Eve Reflections: How I Survived Being Single The Majority Of My Years During The Holidays
By: Sara Knick
Tags: Dating Advice, Single Life, Christmas, Relationships Love Dating, Singles

I was single for several years before the time of 2016. I didn’t judge myself or think too much into my relationship status compared with others around me. I enjoyed festivities like decorating and wrapping gifts. I hung out with my dog and switched his collar to the Christmas one that I bought him. I focused on the aspect of joy at a personal level.

I did desire to meet the right person for me, but I couldn’t control the time at which I would meet the right person. I felt sad at having a lack of control in this way and sometimes I would feel more depression.

After 2011, my mom had passed away and I had felt even more depressed, I was struggling emotionally. I hadn’t found many people in the dating world that had lost their moms like I had. I was 22 years old and most men still had their moms so it was a struggle that was unrelatable to most of them.

Being single during most of the holidays for several years allowed me the time to reflect as well as to explore the depth of my feelings to a large degree. I enjoyed the time I had with myself. I utilized all of the time that I had either into work or endeavors that I was passionate about. Finding a significant other was not number one in my book. It was a desire, but I wanted to approach it intelligently.

I never rushed into making any kind of life changing decision no matter what time of the year it was. The holidays were still an amazing time of year that I could enjoy on my own. I was majorly into photography and exploring my environment using my camera at this time. I enjoyed Christmas music and lights. I enjoyed the snow. I enjoyed wrapping gifts and using thought into choosing the gifts I wanted to give to my family and friends.

When certain family and friends would ask me about what I was doing with my life and wanted to catch up with me, I would feel alienated. I felt like I had no one to back me up or understand what I was going through.

Emotions were intensified for me around the holidays. I experienced extreme joy, but also got in touch with an intensified feeling of a lack of support. I showed support for myself when necessary. Even though I did not have what I wanted at the time when I wanted it, it didn’t mean that I would never get what I wanted.

I allowed myself to experience a range of emotions without judgment about it. I went to places of joy that provided comfort and love for me. I loved looking at lights. I loved spending time with my dog. I ate well and used yoga to feel better. I got in the spirit of the holidays by celebrating them. I didn’t see being single as a badge of loneliness and give up on being joyous around the holidays. It didn’t matter to me what relationship status I had. The holidays would not escape me.
Sparks : The idea of lovin' someone
By: Afrin Jahan Chowdhury
Tags: Love, Lifetime Deals, Relationships Love Dating, Life Lessons, Self-awareness

Sparks : The idea of lovin' someone

There’s no mystery in love because love itself a mystery. when one can crack the whole thing about love or what it is, he may not be able to fall in love or things could be upside down too. Like, when you solve an unsolved mystery, you will feel happy and want to absorb the whole thing.

Everyday we fall in love, yes we do! with a person, with something pretty flowers, birds , nature and what not! But if I tell you that you actually don’t fall in love, you like the idea of loving something! Seems confusing, right? Yes, definitely it is.

You like the color of the sky, it changes its color in different seasons. What if there’s one color? only blue or black? there’s no different season , no Autumn, no Winter? Would you still fall in love with the sky?

The idea of loving someone is projecting your own ideology on someone or something who might not be ready to live with it.

You like someone’s spontaneous thoughts, words, smile , the way she/he moves. But these are the things you like about the person, not the person. Imagine that person without all of these good/bad things, he/she is just a person. Would you still like him/her? The sky without color, a human without emotions.

Things always fade away. What will you do when there won’t be any color, emotions? Exactly that’s when people leave to find another "idea of loving someone", because we are all human. We hate the idea of being alone.

If one can overcome the idea of loving someone/something, she/he might be able to solve the unsolved mystery.

The Idea of loving someone is more like a architectural thing, but being with someone is supervising the whole construction, make it possible even when the architectural things doesn’t work properly.
Reasons Why Women Should Appreciate Men For Sex.
By: Princess Martha
Tags: Sex, Love, Relationships, Relationships Love Dating

Reasons Why Women Should Appreciate Men For Sex.

It has ever been the men who appreciate ladies after having sexual intercourse. This is not supposed to be so, it should be the ladies. According to scientists report, ladies enjoyed sex the most, without sex women hardly stay long. Ladies without husband die early. Research have it that, the male sperm help to water the woman womb which in turn prevent them from womb ulcer. so why men appreciating for it? Continue reading

https://vwegbaworld.blogspot.com/2020/12/reasons-why-women-should-appreciate-men.html?m=1
Warning: Don’t Marry The Wrong Person
Tags: Relationship Advice, Red Flags, Relationship Counseling, Relationships Love Dating, Dating Red Flags

I feel bad for those who will marry someone who does not know how to control his/her anger (emotions).

I feel bad for those who will marry someone who does not know how to deal with difficult periods (in life).

I feel bad for those who will marry an egotistical person.

Watch out and stay away from childish adults

Stay away from anyone who is emotionally immature.

Don’t allow love alone to influence your decision: don’t allow feelings to influence your decision at all.

Follow God’s formula for laying foundations (Proverbs 3:19)

Establish your ultimate relationship by ‘wisdom’ not feelings. Lay the foundation of your ultimate relationship with ‘knowledge’ and ‘understanding’.

“Wisdom is the principal thing; therefore get wisdom: get understanding before anything else”. Proverbs 4:7

How do you get knowledge & understanding?.

✔️Seek God’s instructions

✔️Consult a Relationship Counsellor

✔️Learn from experience (both yours and others).

✔️Seek advice from responsible and knowledgeable parents.

Do what God did when he laid the foundation of this earth (Jeremiah 10:12).

If you’re looking for what to avoid in a partner, just read 2nd Timothy 3:1–5.
Dating Coach Certification
By: Ashu Saini Saini
Tags: Marriage, Relationships, Relationships Love Dating, Love, First Date

1. Don’t overcomplicate things

The first date with someone you know little or nothing about is full of uncertainty. Don’t make things more complicated by trying to arrange the perfect romantic dinner, or planning a whole day out. Instead, keep things short and simple. A cup of coffee in a central location will make it clear fast if your date is someone you would like to spend more time with. And if things go well, the coffee could turn into a lunch or dinner, adding some spontaneity into the mix.

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Is Your New Year Resolution To Find True Love?
By: Lanu Pitan
Tags: Spirituality, Dating, Relationships Love Dating, Dating App, Love

There are overwhelming dating apps now available for all classes of people

Photo by Travis Grossen on Unsplash

I was reading a newspaper article that stated that the statistics of mature people living with HIV & STD in the UK, (where I live) now surpasses those of young adults. And the shocking part is that more and more are getting diagnosed every day.

HIV is the Human Immunodeficiency Virus, is a kind of STD (sexually transmitted disease).

The newspaper stated that within the age range of 35–49 years are the highest with a whopping 42.4% are HIV positive while those within the age range of 50–64 years, 35.8% are HIV positive. This was 2019 real data, and it is the frightening percentage of the 101,500 of the people living with HIV in the UK. Obviously, I was in shock. I believe this is the age of responsibility and accountability. An age that sex should not be a wild and carefree passion, but rather a purposeful enjoyment of the bond of love that exists between two people. It is definitely an age to take adequate care of who one’s sleeping with. This is beyond me!!!

I decided to carry out a bit of research and write a story about it.

Online Dating Apps

The online dating business is huge. In 2019, the revenue is £265 million from forty-six organisation. That is only in the UK, globally, it runs into billion dollars industry, and is growing by the day, thanks to smartphones where all sorts of dating apps are possible. It is estimated that up to thirty million people are on dating apps.

Image by LUMEN: dating app advert

All classes of people are in, with an organisation like Tinder and ‘Plenty of Fish’ leading the way. And funnily enough, mature daters are not being left out, the age range above, with high HIV & STD infection. And of course with the dating comes that ‘almighty passion — sex’’. That might even be the reason for dating in the first instance.

Genuine Need For Affection

I must agree that not all people on dating apps are there for sex only. There is a genuine need for affection for some people. My cousin, Olaolu (not her real name) is keen to look for love come next year. She is tired of coming back from work to an empty home with no one to discuss her day with. And it is driving her crazy. She laments that there must be a man somewhere waiting for her, to which I jokingly added, ‘’He who created them created two from the beginning…….and it is not good that a man should be alone by himself, I am going to make a helper, suitable for him….’’Genesis 2:18. ‘’Yes you always encourage me to ask in faith’’, she reminded me, to which I added, ‘’according to His Holy Will.
Stop. Just. Stop.
By: April Hawkins, Ask A Bitchface
Tags: BDSM, Relationships, Relationships Love Dating, Masochism

An Ask A Dominatrix w/ Mistress Eve column.

Do not send that text or make that phone call when your’re emotionally agitated. AKA — YOU’VE LOST IT

Rant, scream, draw, paint … let loose another way. This MUST be on paper only. Not the computer.

Writing gets your thoughts and emotions into the physical. Paper, pen/pencil/paint are physical. You touch the tools, they receive your energy. Do not judge yourself and/or edit, just let all hell, hurt, whatever break free. The more creative you are, the better, perhaps calmer, you’ll become.

Painting and drawing particularly release emotions, often ones you didn’t know existed.

The next step is self care. This is something you gift yourself for learning the self- control of not sending your initial response.

YOU are rewarding yourself for learning self-control and, most importantly, doing all the heavy stuff above.

Editors Note: If you urgently need assistance in finding self care, hit the contact author, reply, or leave a comment button on the platform, and I will send you a list of sliding fee scale and community funded mental health organizations in your locale if you feel safe sharing. The 1–800-Fuckboy hotline is always manned, and if you are feeling like self-help is not quick enough, I will talk you through the worst parts until the self-help groups can see you. askmsmacon@gmail.com.

In conclusion, wait until you have absolutely no emotions associated with the event. (I am deadly serious about this.) At this point, ask yourself if the act of responding would enhance your life in any way.

99% chance you’ll walk away.
Please don’t delete anything you wrote in the past.
By: Christopher Robin
Tags: Dating Advice, Dating, Relationships, Relationships Love Dating, Love

Please don’t delete anything you wrote in the past. Even if you’ve evolved or things have changed it still has value.

You’ve published things that have helped me understand things in new ways. And, as you said, it’s an acute reminder that we are allowed to be imperfect. We are allowed to change and evolve.

Thank you for sharing your journey.
Choose Your Poison
By: Doug Ecks
Tags: Short Poetry, Humour, Poetry, Relationships Love Dating, Love Poetry

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His Secret Obsession — Incredible Conversions For Female
By: Vicky Bhandari
Tags: His Secret Obsession Pdf, His Secret Obsession Book, Relationships, Relationships Love Dating, His Secret Obsession

His Secret Obsession has helped thousands of women improve their relationships.

His secret obsession is a breakthrough program written by relationship expert James Bauer, based on over 12 years worth of research and experience.

It shows women how to tap into a powerful life-long desire all men share, and harness it to transform the way men experience them.

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How Love is Different When You Love Yourself First
By: Claire Boyce
Tags: Relationship Advice, Love Yourself, Relationships Love Dating, Attractlove, Love

I have heard a lot of people complain about relationships lately, with lots of blame about men and women thrown in for good measure. The blame is likely because the relationships aren’t able to heal their childhood wounds.

Lots of people go about relationship subconsciously looking for someone to validate them, looking for the approval they didn’t get from their parents.

Lo and behold, many of us attract partners who do the same things to us our parents did — OR we subtly get them to treat us the same way. When we aren’t healed, we look for love from outside of us — and even if that love or lover is healthy, we won’t be able to accept it — we will sabotage the relationship in some way.

Coming from a place of self-love is different. When we come from a place of loving ourselves, that love naturally emanates from our hearts to others’ hearts.

Instead of looking at what we can “get” from someone — validation, approval, acceptance, we look at what we can give.

If you’re struggling in relationships, take a good look at yourself. Are you going into with a needy mentality, which often bleeds into an entitlement mentality? Or are you thinking about what you can give, what you can share with someone? We also need to look at what potential partners are looking for — what do men want? What do women want? What is healthy communication and do I know how to do it? It’s not the same things your ego needs to validate itself.

And it’s not that we should change ourselves — but we have to go beyond ourselves to be able to connect with another person.

Going into any relationship — romantic, work, or personal thinking about what you can give is a much more successful strategy. You automatically come from a place of strength and empowerment instead of needing the other person to fulfil you.

Its bound to be successful with the right people for you.
Judgment vs. Love
By: Sara Knick
Tags: Dating Advice, Dating, Judgement, Relationships Love Dating, Love

Sometimes we hear phrases like, “Don’t judge me” or “Stop judging other people,” but we need to form some types of judgment about others in order to make healthy choices in our love lives. All judging is is forming an opinion or a conclusion about someone or something. We have to make judgments in order to choose the right path for us. If we never formed judgments, we would never be able to make the right decisions in the way of love.

People want acceptance, but they fear judgment. Being judged negatively can hurt our feelings or self esteem. We can feel worthless or devalued when we are judged unfairly.

When it comes to love, we have to make judgments in order to continue seeing someone or ending a relationship. When we make judgments about a dating partner or potential dating partner with no basis in reality for those judgments, we can stop ourselves from experiencing potential joy in a relationship meant for us.

Making healthy judgments in love and the dating world leads to healthy decisions and in this way, we can create the healthy relationship that we desire. Acceptance of what is not good for us leads to letting others overstep our boundaries as well as the degradation of our authenticity. If something doesn’t feel right to us and we allow it to be in our lives, we are agreeing to misalignment.

If a dating partner or potential dating partner has an unhealthy habit that we dislike, we need to make a healthy judgment to not accept this unhealthy habit in our relationship. We may turn away this potential dating partner because we are unhappy with how time would be spent in the relationship. It could take the form of an addiction such as smoking or drinking. We need to let go of those that are not in alignment with our highest selves and that help us to be better people.

You may have the idea that someone you’re dating may change one day or that you can “fix” someone. This thought process may happen on a conscious or subconscious level. The time that you’ve been waiting or the time that you had attempted to “fix” this person could have been better spent with someone that is in actual alignment with their highest selves.

We believe what we want to believe. We see what we want to see. Making judgments is essential to our existence. If we never made a judgment, we would never be able to move on with our lives or stay on the right path. Judging just to judge and be negative is one thing, but the act of making judgments for survival is essential to creating the love life we want.

Accepting everything that comes your way in life with no discernment on what is good or bad for you will open you up to whatever fate has in store. You will feel out of control and uncertain. However, if you are in touch with your authenticity, know what is good for you and what you want in a partner, you will make good judgments on who is and who is not suitable for you as a partner in your own relationship. These judgments can save you from much heartache, pain and wasted time.
Why not to date a guy who plays video games!!!
Tags: Dating Advice, Relationships, Relationships Love Dating, Dating

Yes, I aware that about 90% of the guys you meet today love their games, but here are all the reasons that you should look for the other 10%.

First of all, video games are highly addictive. I once went out with a guy and while on FaceTime, he was playing video games. It’s not fun being in second place to a computer screen, trust me on that. They are so addictive that the guy just can’t help going down that rabbit hole. The adrenaline rush is what keeps him looking at the screen and not at you. Do you really want to be second on his list of priorities?

Secondly, video games make mentally unstable men. The main thing with video games is that they cause a lot of stress while playing them. You are constantly scared that you will die or run out of time. This stress in large amount (oh let’s say… about a few hours a day) can cause a lot of stress, which forced your brain to release certain hormones and enzymes, such as cortisol and a-amylase. Those, in small quantities, improve the decision making ability and help cope with stress. However, in large quantities, it can lead to mental disorders such as depression, anxiety, and bipolar disorder.

Now, ask yourself: do you really want to go out with a guy like that? Don’t you think you deserve better than a guy that doesn’t give you enough attention and has an unstable nervous system?
Because of You
By: Jason Madden
Tags: Personal Growth, Spiritual Tree, Love Yourself, Poetry, Relationships Love Dating

A Poem

Photo by Nick Scheerbart on Unsplash

I ran

Not because of you

but because of me

I was hurting inside

scared to be seen

Not yet a man

just a boy pretending to be

Sorry for the pain I left

but I finally grew

I am the man I am today, because of you.
Lover’s timing?
Tags: Dating Advice, Lovers, Dating, Relationships, Relationships Love Dating

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One thing some of us might agree to is that the timing never seems to be right.

At least, not with the ones we want.

They’re usually living approximately five hundred miles and above away from us, trying to work on themselves, not ready for anything serious.

The list could go on.

And yes, sometimes, they’re already taken.

And while some relationships end because one person isn’t putting in enough effort, some end because one person is taking things too seriously too soon.

Right person, wrong time…

This is something we’ve heard a couple of times.

I’d tell you what I think, I think the people you meet at the ‘wrong time’ are the wrong people, the right people wouldn’t let timing play a drastic role in affecting your relationship.

They would find a way to make things work, compromise, prove to you their worth, and show you you’re worth it as well.
Infidelity…
Tags: Relationships, Cheating, Relationships Love Dating, Infidelity

“Anyone can betray anyone” — Victoria Aveyard, by a thousand different ways

Have you ever wondered why the fear of being cheated on is sometimes lurking around the corner even when you are in the most secured relationship? Worse, keeping thinking about it can pose as a potential threat to the happy relationship that we treasure dearly. One of the reasons I can think of: we are afraid of the UNKNOWN.

Do not get me wrong here, I bet that amongst those who are reading this, there are some already being cheated in the past or right now drowning in emotional turmoil because of the very same reason. Ironically, experience something does not mean that you know everything about it. It can still remain a totally foreign concept since it hurts us so bad that we rather keep distance and stare at it from far. Thus, only the thought of it can create fear.

What I refer to as “UNKNOWN” is not the experience itself, yet it is the self-knowledge about our own emotions, why we feel the way we do; how we perceive infidelity and how it is defined, why we cheat?
Dating Coach Certification
Tags: First Date Relationship, Love Dating, Relationships, First Date Tips, Relationships Love Dating

1. Use realistic photos if you’re online dating.

This is technically something you do before the first date, but it can definitely inform how well it goes. “I’m a size 16, so I was always nervous to represent myself as me,” says Newman. At first she’d included an admittedly awesome photo of herself on her online dating profile, but it wasn’t 100 percent representative. She realized that may have been a mistake when Date Nine looked her up and down then frowned, very clearly surprised by what he saw. “We had a torturous three-hour dinner where he didn’t talk to me but kept ordering more food,” she says. Of course it’s smart to use attractive photos, but they’re going to see you anyway. No point hiding the real you!

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How Polyamory Has Changed Me- and How It Hasn’t
By: 𝑨𝒖𝒕𝒖𝒎𝒏 𝑺𝒆𝒂𝒗𝒆
Tags: Polyamory, Dating, Poly, Relationships, Relationships Love Dating

JY has remained part of my life, but we haven’t seen each other as much. Part of that is just life. Covid-19 has changed a lot. I don’t travel back and forth as much. Sometimes plans are made and I’ve cancelled because of work (even though I control my own work schedule there are just times when I have to say no to other stuff and focus on the words) or because I’m just not emotionally in that space.

Even though I don’t physically see JY as much, I still do care about him and I do want him in my life. I enjoy our conversations. And, truth be told, I might feel closer to him than I have in the past. I feel like he has become more relaxed about our relationship because he knows I am not pushing for more than he can give. And in return, he gives more of himself on an emotional level.

As for other people, I have found no one else that I really connect with in the way I connect with JB and JY. I’m not up for hook-ups and when I talk to people on dating sites, they think that is what being poly means. So, I’m off dating sites.

There is one thing I am learning: polyamory is a fluid construct.

Am I open to another relationship? Yes. But it has to be someone that actually wants to invest the time into developing a relationship. I think I’d be very interested in having a relationship with a woman. But I have met no one that I clicked with.

There is one thing I am learning: polyamory is a fluid construct. For me, at least. My relationships and my life are the way they are for now. But that doesn’t mean they can’t/won’t change in the future.

Oh — there’s one other thing that I’ve learned repeatedly. I’ve learned it from my own experiences. I’ve learned it from the groups I am in. I’ve learned it from the articles I read.

Communication is everything. If you don’t communicate with your partners, it all goes to hell in a handbasket damned fast. All parties need to use their words. Not just when there are problems or hurt feelings. Communication is a benefit all around, even when there are good feelings and vibes happening.
How To Create An Emotional Bond With a Man
By: Her Secret
Tags: Couples Counseling, Dating Advice, Emotional Connection, Attract A Man Emotionally, Relationships Love Dating

When you meet a man you like, you probably know that you are interested in him because of physical attraction or because of your interest in his opinions and experiences. You enjoy spending time with him and you look forward to seeing him forever. At this early stage of getting to know each other, you have not yet developed a deep emotional connection, and this connection will only occur over time. If you are interested in getting to know a man better and getting more emotionally involved, you will need to consider how the two of you can share more experiences and intimacy.

Steps To Create An Emotional Bond With a Man

Step1

Spend time doing activities that the two of you really enjoy. When you and your partner share an activity, you will feel excited, happy, and engaged in what you do. These are strong, positive feelings, and by feeling them together, you can become closer. For example, if you both enjoy climbing and doing these challenges together, you will feel closer together due to the excitement and enjoyment of sharing the experience.

Step 2

Connect through physical relationship. Whether you are sexually active or not, your physical relationship with your partner is critical to your emotional connection. Kissing, hugging, holding hands, and stroking each other can communicate important feelings of affection and closeness. Hugging your love when he’s tired or kissing him when you’re really attracted to him are ways to express and experience an emotional connection.

Step 3

Communicate your wishes and your goals. Talking about your wishes and dreams is a way to open up with your partner and share your most personal thoughts and feelings. By sharing on a deeper level, you allow him to see different parts of you that may be more intimate or personal. This also allows you to learn more about him, building a mutual sense of connection.

Step 4

Discuss and share your spirituality. This is an intense emotional issue for many people. Understanding a man’s perspectives and feelings about his spirituality can help you feel more connected and intimate with him. If you are not spiritual, you may still be interested in exploring your spirituality a bit further, or you may have an important reason for your choices on the subject.
Boundary Issues
By: Galit Birk
Tags: Boundaries, Mental Health, Poetry, Relationships, Relationships Love Dating

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Tangled
By: Camille Fairbanks
Tags: Intimacy, Poetry Sunday, Relationships Love Dating, Opening Up, Love And Sex

Tangled

Photo by Damir Spanic on Unsplash

Time pulses as we tangle

Tangle our legs and our fingers

Our hair and our toes and our breath

Time hovers as we tangle

Tangle our words and our thoughts

Our dreams and our hopes and our futures

Time stops as we untangle

Untangle our pain and our fears

Our truths and our flaws interweaving
9 First Date Tips For When You’re Going Out With Someone You’ve Never Met Before
Tags: Girlfriend, Relationships, Relationships Love Dating, Love, First Date

9 First Date Tips For When You’re Going Out With Someone You’ve Never Met Before Ryanson ·Dec 20, 2020

When you’re going on a date with someone you’ve never met before — whether that’s someone you met on a dating app, a friend of a friend or a totally blind date — it’s normal to be a little nervous and worry that things won’t go well. After all, who’s to say you’ll even have an IRL connection with this total stranger? But it’s important to remember that first dates don’t necessarily have to be cause for stress: even if it doesn’t turn into a second date, that’s OK!

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https://www.elephantjournal.com/2020/12/5-ways-to-overcome-feelings-of-jealousy-in-relationships-rita-wehbe/ Here are five ways and thought patterns that tremendously helped me in battling and…
Tags: Relationship Advice, Relationships, Relationships Love Dating, Relationship Building, Jealousy

5 Ways to Overcome Feelings of Jealousy in Relationships.

I was in denial for so long because I've always known that I am not someone who envies anybody for anything, except when…