Are You Stuck In Life? Stop Rotting And Change It Today.
Tags: Relationships, Change Your Life, Self Improvement, Work Life Balance, Debt

Feeling stuck in life can be something very unsettling, exhausting and frustrating.

It could be financial problems at play, or loss of employment, loneliness, boredom, or just a sense of emptiness in your life. It could be that every day finds you so busy that you hardly have time to eat.

Believe me, I have been there in the past and it felt unbelievably painful, carrying this weight every day, in my car, my work, my home. Every night, I would lay in bed thinking to myself, “Is this all there is in life?”

If this is where you are right now?

Well guess what? This is the time for major changes in your life.

Tiny, half-cooked changes won’t cut it. Simple “band-aid” fixes are not going to bring you any relief or resolve your feelings and problems. You need more radical changes.

If you want to make changes in your life, meaningful changes, don’t wait for the perfect time, it will never come. Waiting for the perfect time or day to make changes in your life, is the same as waking up one morning and discovering a unicorn in your parking lot………right next to your Lamborghini………smoking a cigar.

When you acknowledge and accept that you need a change in your life, it will be so much easier for you to make changes, changes can save you, create new energy, new happiness, and a meaningful outlook on your life and the future. Don’t let yourself get discouraged by the people around you, family or friends. The truth is, you do have the power to hit the reset button on your life anytime.

I always say this to my family and friends.

“Life is too short to be ignored, to be depressed, to be angry or to allow precious time to pass you by.”

I was 37 when my eyes opened and I woke up to the bitter reality. I realized what it was happening to my life on a daily basis (most of it a result of poor planning and life decisions). Bank loans everywhere, workplace bulling and manipulation, constant anxiety and depression, living in a state of scarcity and insecurity about my future. What a sad messy waste!!!

Nowadays I find myself in a better place, loving life, being in control of every aspect and appreciating every single sunrise and sunset. Making a move on a foreign country (a number of countries actually) was the best thing I ever did in my life, working on my own projects, and feeling more empowered than ever before.

So, let’s have a look now on the things you can do to get the results you rightfully deserve in life.

How to change your work

It is easy to find yourself stuck with your work. Hmmm…..lets see how this could happen.

You are very good on what you do and in return you are “rewarded” by ending up working for many years (if not for ever) doing the same thing, but…… you no longer enjoy or care about it. Yep, I have seen this so many times, it breaks my heart.

Worst of all, people who find themselves in this situation, assume that this is normal, this is who they are, this is what they do best. They are convinced this is normal, they will not even consider anything else until…..the layoff comes, or in the best case scenario, retirement.

The best, and to my opinion, the only way to get out of this unfulfilling work cycle, is to change your work from just a job to a profession, something you are really drawn to, something which is always been part of your dreams.

It is an unfortunate but true fact, a job has limits and it only lasts as long as other people and circumstances allow it. Armed with the gift of your own call and talents, your work will finally be something you really enjoying doing and as a result it will last for a lifetime.

Go to your favorite spot, could be a coffee shop, a restaurant, the beach, the park, anywhere that makes you feel calm and relaxed. Sit down with a piece of paper and a pen and create your plan. What are your personal gifts and traits? Can other people benefit from them?

Get creative and put your talents into good use. What products or services could you sell that will add value and benefits to others? Despite if your wish is to work for yourself or others, refocusing on your core interests and abilities are the best way to get out of the rut at work and stop feeling stuck in life.

How to change your relationship

Relationships are like elevators, they are either bringing you up or taking you down.

Do you have someone special in your life right now that supports your dreams, desires and future goals? If you do, this is something wonderful and you must value it. No need to make any changes here.

Do you have a significant other who is not growing at the rate that you are? Is he or she always critical of your actions and thoughts? Do they always try to put you down and place your dreams in bad light, presenting them as unrealistic or foolish? Do you not feel loved and supported for what you want and who you are? Well guess what……..It’s time for you to move on, perhaps to a new relationship.

First, if a relationship is no longer providing your soul with happiness, laughter, support and companionship, this relationship is toxic and harmful. You are by far better on your own or if this is not something you wish to do, find someone, this time find someone aligned with your dreams in life, someone more compatible with the next phase of your life.

With a better partner by your side, you will find again your way into sharing, loving, and supporting. Stuck in a toxic relationship? Now, that calls for a big change here.

How to change your financial situation

Do you feel burdened by your money troubles? Do the bills seem endless with no hope in sight?

You’re not the first person getting trapped in this spiral, and certainly won’t be the last. What it takes to get out of it? Big changes.

First things first, you’re not powerless in the face of your debts. As long as you recognize and accept that you have a financial problem.

Get a grip over where you spend your money and how you earn it.

Understand that there is a difference between want and need. This takes a surprising amount of discipline. After all, many things you don’t really need in your life, are frustratingly seductive.

Make sure you make money doing what you love. When you are stuck in life, you’ll spend your money on almost anything just to make up for the emptiness you are feeling.

Keep track of your money. Make new goals on where to spend and how to save. This is “crunch time” and not the time to be timid. You know it deep inside, your financial situation can only change if you change. Your future self will thank you for this.

How to change your health

Do you drink coffee while getting ready for work, yet still felt tired? Do you have the energy that you had twenty years ago?

If you answered these questions with positive answers, then, there is a problem here that needs your attention.

Set a big dream or goal for yourself. Maybe, it’s running a marathon, climbing Mt. Kilimanjaro, been able to fit perfectly into the clothes you love, cutting back on blood pressure or cholesterol medication, or playing games and sports with your children and not feeling like the air is sucked out of your lungs.

We are wired to live long, as long as we take care of our health. The life choices you make determine if you stay healthy as you age or develop diseases and disabling conditions like heart disease, diabetes, high blood pressure, and stroke.

There is so much to explore and experience in this world, don’t deprive yourself or your life. Make some big changes and get healthy now!

How to change your emotions

Tired of always feeling down and negative?

The way you think and the questions you feed yourself will reflect on your overall mood. The highs and lows you experience can significantly affect your well-being.

Whatever you focus on, you feel. You will always find things in your life that are wrong or not going as well as you want. Don’t focus on the wrong things, try to focus on the good things in your life. Remember, happiness is a choice and so is depression, anger, frustration, or any other emotion.

Start a journal. When you wake up in the morning, ask yourself, “what I am grateful for today?” Write down everything that you feel or think throughout the day, learn and understand yourself. Do this for few days, then go over what you wrote and understand the situations that pull your trigger. This will help you to make big changes with your emotions.

Only you can change your emotional state. Stop waiting for others to help you and make you feel better. This is an area that requires your participation and only yours.

Change country or living location

Do you feel limited and miserable where you live? Move!!! Yep…..Only a move will solve this.

You can try and change the structure of your house, remodel it or change the layout, BUT, at the end of the day, you cannot move it, it’s still in the same place.

Maybe you are tired of living in a big city, and you dream for a slower pace in life. Maybe you live in the country and you would love to live in a big city where skyscrapers grow, maybe you live in Europe and want to move to Asia to try the cuisine.

Whatever the reason, in this world there are so many places to go and experience life, there is no reason to settle for less by living in a place that don’t make you feel alive and happy. There is no reason to be stuck in life.

This could also be the best opportunity to change your environment which in return will lift your spirit and sense of adventure. Where would you really love to go? Do your research, find out more about those places. Take the required steps now and move there!

How to change your “bad” habits

It is easy to get into bad habits and it is extremely hard to change.

Do you have any addictions or just bad habits which seem to have an impact to your health, finance or life? We all have bad habits to various degrees. Habits by definition are the things we are so used to that they become our default, even when we know better.

First identify the habits you want to change. Find something to replace the bad habit and be kind to yourself in the process. Be aware that it will take time to shift from “bad” to “good” habits.

The way to change unhealthy habits is to replace them with new behaviour which is more useful, healthier, and which makes you feel better about yourself. Changes in this area will give you big benefits in your life.

How to change your circle of friends

You can tell where most people are going to end up in life simply based on who they hang around.

Do you have the right friends? Do you feel good when you are around your circle of friends? Does your current circle of friends share your interests? Do you come home after spending time with these friends and feel wonderful? Or you come home wondering why you wasted your time.

If you want to change your circle of friends for any of the above reasons, it’s good to step outside of your comfort zone and spend time with friends who can expose you to greater things. If you cultivate these friendships, you will soon find yourself advancing too. When you utilize each other’s strengths, everyone wins.

Making big changes and acquiring new friends can make all the difference in your life. It’s time to branch out and start establishing some new relationships.

Changes are necessary when you are stuck in life

If your life is moving in a direction that no longer works to your benefit, you don’t have to be stuck. Remember, this is your one life to live and only you have the power to make positive changes.

Stuck in one or more areas of your life? Get moving buddy!!

Once you start moving, you’ll feel empowered, you’ll feel the power of change, and you’ll feel the rut moving behind you and you moving towards your dreams and a better tomorrow. All it takes its one small step towards change to start creating wonderful things in your life again.

Make it happen today. Life is too short.