Ugly Truths of Life
By: Zoe Lexington-Sebert
Tags: Life, Truth

One day you and your loved ones are all going to be dead, and you have no control over that.

As humans we all have to die someday, because we’re not immortal, if we were then many people would still be alive, or the suicide rate would skyrocket.

However, look around at the people in your life. They are all going to die, the person you saw walking down the street, they’re going to die.

It’s just a matter of when, and we have no control over this. This is life and we just have to accept it.

You were probably an accident ….

Let’s be honest here, you were probably an accident. Most parents aren’t exactly conscious creators.

“Approximately 50 percent of all pregnancies in the United States are unplanned, and of these, 43 percent will end in abortion.” — Shriverreport

The stats from around the world ain’t much different. People forget to wrap it before they tap it.

Your parents didn’t ask for “you”. They didn’t choose “you”. They didn’t even know they were going to get “you”. They had no idea what you would be like, what you would look like, what kind of personality you would have, if you would be a boy or girl (at least not at first), or anything else.

Even if your parents planned to start a family, and really wanted children, it was never about “you”. Your mother simply wanted “a baby”, in the same way a woman wants “a man”. But they didn’t ask for “you”. They didn’t choose “you”. “You” could have been anyone.

Your parents probably suck

“Everybody knows how to raise children, except the people who have them.” — P.J. O’Rourke

Growing up, many people hate their parents and it’s not hard to see why, as humans we don’t know what we’re doing. We’re just guessing and hoping for the best, am I right?

Parents are just regular people who fucked without protection, any idiot could’ve done it, most idiots do.

“The average 70-year-old, is just an 11-year-old with 59 years of experience.” — Jed McKenna

I don’t know about anyone else, but I sure know that I’m sick of the lie “Your parents did the best they could”

Like REALLY? All parents?

I’m sure some parents did, but not all parents. If we’re being honest, most parents didn’t

Most parents were average at best. Some parents abused their children. Some molested their children. Some tortured their children. Some murdered their children.

Tell me which of these two statements is true in your experience:

a) Your parents did the best they could

b) Your parents did whatever they felt like doing, depending on how they were feeling in the moment

How many people do you know that are great parents anyway? Some? A few? Any?

Look around you at the people you know that have kids, including your friends and family, and ask yourself: Would you have liked them as your parents?

The answer is probably “NO.”

Why? Because most adults are still children themselves, childish and egotistical, selfish and stupid. Not exactly what you’re looking for in an ideal parent.

Not only do most parents suck but they have children for all the wrong reasons too.

Stupid reasons people have children:

I’m lonely

I don’t want to be lonely later on in life

I don’t want to look back one day and realize I missed out

My biological clock is ticking

My friends have children

My parents want grandchildren

My family are nagging me

It’s our culture

A baby will save my marriage

My partner is threatening to leave and it will make them stay

It’s what seems like the right thing to do

“Before I got married I had six theories about raising children; now, I have six children and no theories.” — John Wilmot

Everyone is lying to you

“Deceit makes our world go round. Without lies, marriages would crumble, workers would be fired, egos would be shattered, governments would collapse.” — A. J. Jacobs

When you’re younger you tend to believe everything people say.

But as you get older you start to realize something… Everyone is lying to you! Friends, family, parents, teachers, schoolmates, workmates, bosses, neighbors, strangers, advertisers, businesses, celebrities, the police, politicians, the government, gurus, religious and spiritual leaders etc. everyone is full of shit!

Everyone lies all the time about everything. People lie to your face. They lie at job interviews. They lie on dates. They lie under oath. They swear to God and lie. Men lie. Women lie. Children lie. Celebrities lie. Presidents lie.

Why do people lie?

To avoid taking responsibility

To avoid embarrassment and save face

To avoid having to do someone else a favor

To avoid hurting someone else’s feelings

To avoid punishment

To sound important/impressive

To influence/persuade/manipulate you

To get what they want

To get out of something they don’t want to do

They even lie for no reason! (Because they’re addicted to it)

Instead of telling you the truth, most people tell you:

What they want you to hear

What they want you to believe

What they think you want to hear

What they think will produce the desired result

Whatever it takes to cover their ass or to make you shut up and stop asking questions

My advice: Don’t trust anyone to tell you the truth, or to do what they say they were ‘gonna’ do. Instead, trust people to be themselves, to act in their own best interests, and above all, to do what they’ve always done.

And if you want to know what someone really thinks, pay more attention to what they do than to what they say, and listen with your eyes and not just with your ears, because people may lie with their words but they NEVER lie with their actions.

~Lord Smiley