House-hunting in Turkey! Already!!!
By: Yvette Graham
Tags: Kalkan, Dating Over 60, Turkey, Women Traveler, Over 60s Womens Travel

So after a couple of nice scenic days out with John, having nice dinners, I visited the yacht, very nice and huge, located in a lovely Marina in Fethiye, yes I could live on that, but still not sure about him yet….but then on day 4 he took me house-hunting!!! Seriously? I’d only known him 3 days and as I told him later, this time last week I didn’t even know he existed!! But he had a plan, he was going to find his perfect woman (er me!) and we would rent a beautiful house together in Turkey, apparently we could get one for 600 euros a month each!!! Each? Why couldn’t we live on his yacht that he’d been living on for the last couple of years? Why did we need to rent a house? But we did apparently, an 80ft yacht with 3 floors and two kitchen wasn’t big enough for 2 of us! Hmmmm. I smelt a rat. Was it even his yacht? Couldn’t he afford a place on his own? Why was I being told I had to contribute 600 euro a month to rent a place where he got to decide that he wanted to live with me?? Not happening, I’ve had my fair share of control freaks! Although to be fair some of the places he took me to look at were very stunning. The one he really wanted was on top of a very high mountain and had both indoor and outdoor pools and a sauna! Very nice, but no way was I driving up that bloody mountain, did I mention I’m scared of driving up hills? Anyway I didn’t have a car, which was another strange thing, he had a little car in the marina, a mini that he pointed out to me, but he’d hired a car to take me out and about. Why? Looking back I’m not sure it was all his at all, maybe he was yacht sitting for a friend, maybe he was just crew? He said the yacht couldn’t actually move out of the marina? Seriously? What’s the point of an ocean going motor yacht that doesn’t move? He also told me he used to be a high-flying Forex trader and Forex trainer and made millions but it had been blown away in the ‘crash’ somehow. My head was spinning and I was going off him at a rapid pace now! I’ve just escaped a 4 year relationship with a compulsive liar, I didn’t need to take on another one and a control freak at that, and these men can be very plausible at first! He also didn’t like the fact that I hadn’t yet slept with him! Er hello, its still day 4! I told him I had to get to know him first as I don’t sleep around and I wouldn’t be doing that until I’d decided he was ‘the one’, but of course, he’d already decided for me and that was just part of getting to know each other, which is true, but not this fast Mr!! I’m almost 60, not 16 and I’m a grown woman who can decide things for herself and I’m rapidly deciding its time to leave Fethiye, beautiful as the place was!

When I got dropped off this evening he tried to come in, clearly intending to get me upstairs, but I fended him off and he got quite annoyed and started showing his true colours. He then left telling me I had to have a think about our ‘relationship’ (meaning when was I going to jump into bed with him?) and he was busy the next day with a plumber on the boat, so he’d call me……………er bye bye John!! I breathed a sigh of relief and immediately went on the local Facebook group and asked if anyone had a spare room to rent as I only had two nights left in the villa, although I could’ve extended it if I’d wanted to, I really didn’t want to be there for him to ‘pop by’. I think our 4 day romance was over! Oh dear. I think I had a lucky escape really, these men are quite mad! :)

Anyway, some more lovely pics of a place called Kalkan just down the coast from Fethiye, where Mr Not-So-Right had decided we were going to live in wedded bliss for the rest of eternity…. I must just mention the very nice restaurant there called Aubergine who made just amazing vegan food for me!