5 Sex Secrets Women Wish You Knew(But Will Never Tell You)
By: David Denzongpa
Tags: Sex, Secrets, Relationships, Relationships Love Dating, Women

There are many men out there who don’t care much about a woman’s pleasure — or how she feels or what she’s thinking — during sex.

Since you’re taking the time to read this, you are probably not one of those men. And, that’s a good start…

You’re already a step ahead of most men because you’re at least interested in learning more, and maybe becoming better.

When men think about “sex secrets,” they tend to focus mainly on techniques. They are always trying to learn some new trick or maneuver that will make a woman have wild, screaming orgasms in bed…every single time.

And, while that’s all fine and good, it’s not new “techniques” or tricks that women wish you were focusing on.

Women think very differently from men. (Big surprise there, eh? ;-)

And, it’s what she’s thinking about — during sex — that you should be most concerned about.

Of course, the average woman would never tell her (male) lover what she’s thinking about…let alone what she wishes you knew or did, during sex.

So, I’m going to help you out by revealing her five “secret thoughts and wishes” about sex, that she would like you to know about…but will never tell you…

For starters, think about your first time…whether it was the very first time you had sex, or your first time with somebody new.

Were you nervous? Anxious? Worried about your skills or “moves?” Concerned about how you looked or if you’d “measure up”…?

Well… that’s how most women are… a lot of the time. Especially if it’s her first time with you.

Obviously, there is a small percentage of women out there, who are completely confident, secure, and comfortable with themselves, their bodies and sexuality.

However, most women are not that way at all… especially not if it’s their first time with that particular guy.

So, if you’d like to get her to enjoy incredible orgasms in bed with you, and maybe even have her consider you to be one of her best ever, you’d be wise to stop worrying about learning new “techniques”…

… and start focusing on how to make her feel comfortable, and how to relax her body and mind… so that she can stop thinking and worrying about the million things wrong with her, and focus on all the pleasure that she’s enjoying with you.

Let’s start with what she tends to focus on first…

No matter how “hot,” sexy, beautiful or “perfect” that you (and the rest of the world) may think she is, almost every woman — even the supermodels — are insecure (or at least self-conscious) about something or some part of their body.

I have met women who had amazingly flawless bodies… as good or better than supermodels. And while the rest of the world viewed them as goddesses and angels, these women felt self-conscious or even insecure about the silliest of things.

For example, one of them felt self-conscious because she felt that her left ear was slightly lower than her right one. Another felt that her pinky finger wasn’t perfectly straight and was often caught trying to hide it whenever she was out in public. And, so on…

The important thing for you to realize is, no matter how “perfect” you may think she looks, she is very likely insecure — or at least self-conscious — about some part of her body.

And, if you are lucky enough to have her willingly get naked in front of, you might as well make her feel good about doing it…and get her endlessly-criticizing mind to “shut up” so she can enjoy the experience.

There are lots of ways that you can get her to stop being so self-conscious. However, the simplest one is to just tell her otherwise.

One of the most powerful things you can say to her, when she’s naked is…

“Wow… you look… amazing…” …or…

“Wow… you are… so beautiful…”

The pauses “…” are important.

It’s also important how you say the above phrases. You wouldn’t want to come across as someone who has never seen a naked woman before. And, you definitely wouldn’t want to sound fake.

Also… don’t wait for (nor expect) her to respond to your positive comment by saying anything.

If she says “thank you” or just smiles, that’s great. But, don’t wait for it. Awkward silences are not good here.

After you tell her how amazing she looks, smile if she’s already looking at you, and then kiss her — either on the lips or on her body. Or simply continue doing what you were going to do anyway. Keep things moving.

Obviously, this stuff is even more important if the woman does not have a supermodel’s body. (And, most women won’t.)

Women tend to be self-conscious, especially when they’re naked, because they don’t realize that most guys are just glad that they got naked for you, and are willing to have sex with you.

So, you need to let it be known, or remind her, that she is the most important — and the most beautiful — woman on the planet right now… and that all of your focus and attention is on her.

“Do I Look, Feel, Smell, and Taste Okay?” Even if they have showered, shaved, waxed, moisturized, deodorized and done every other -ized, many women will still start wondering and worrying — right in the middle of having sex -about whether they shaved thoroughly or if they have dry skin, or something else…

And once again, her worrying and endless mind chatter will usually suck all the pleasure out of her experience with you. (Not in a good way.)

The simple fix for that is to show her that you don’t care about any of that… and touch her, kiss her, enjoy her completely.

It may even help to prepare ahead of time by reminding yourself to not flinch or stop suddenly, i.e. not get caught off guard and broadcast your surprise…if you do happen to notice that she missed a spot or discover a birthmark, scar, or whatever.

Otherwise, it will only make her feel self-conscious…even if it’s something completely insignificant (and all of it is)…and ruin the experience for both of you.

And, very soon after any of the above happens, give lots of attention to a part of her body that she feels good about…and get her mind back on track.

You can even slip in certain phrases here, like… “You are turning me on sooo much…”

And, of course… if you don’t already know, most women are very self-conscious about how they look, smell and taste down there.

So, while you’re setting up camp between her legs, you can once again slip in a few reassuring phrases like… “You smell sooo good…”…or… “You taste soooo good…” …or even…. “I am soo turned on right now…”

Don’t pause to get up and look at her when you say these things. Just take a quick second and do it while you’re pleasuring her (without mumbling much.)

After you’ve made her feel comfortable and sexy about her body, her mind can then start wondering about whether you’re enjoying what she’s doing to — and for — you. “What If He Doesn’t Think I’m Any Good?”

Yes, it’s true.

And yes, even women who are experienced in the bedroom can occasionally become self-conscious about whether or not you’re enjoying her, and what she’s doing to/for you.

Obviously, the way to fix that problem is — once again — to just tell her how much you’re enjoying it.

And, it helps a lot if you’re specific about what exactly it is that she’s doing.

So, if you like the way she does something, it’s always more believable if you tell her specifically what it is that you enjoy about it.

Example: I love the way you run your fingertips on my thigh.

This will make her feel more confident about what she’s doing… and it will ensure that she does it for you again… and probably more often, in the future.

Of course, pleasurable (preferably genuine) moans and sighs at the right moments help a lot too, to let her know that you’re enjoying what she’s doing.

And Now…..How Naughty Can We Get? Building on the previous section, making her feel comfortable and more confident about what she’s doing can even help her to do more — and new — things for you. (That can be very good for you.)

The truth is, many women want to feel completely uninhibited in bed. They want to go a little wild, and they want to occasionally take control. They want to take charge and try out a new position that they’ve just read about, and so on.

Unfortunately, most times she’s either too shy, self-conscious, or embarrassed to do it… or she simply doesn’t want to come across as “too experienced,” promiscuous, or dog forbid, even slutty. (You can thank society for that one.)

It could even be something as simple as “talking dirty” to and with you. But, she may never bring it up herself — even if she’s secretly fantasizing about doing it.

The way to loosen her up is to increase her overall comfort level.

Remember, she has to feel comfortable, relaxed, even lusted after, before she will open up and start doing all the things that she really wants to do with you… including all the things that you really want her to do for you.

You can start by making her feel comfortable, safe, and more confident about what she’s already doing to/with you…as explained in the earlier section.

And, keep letting her know how great she looks… how much her scent/smell, taste, body, moans, etc. is turning you on…

Finally, pay attention.

She may hint at something, accidentally lead you towards it (before realizing, catching herself, and then backing off — out of shyness/embarrassment), or she may even say/whisper something in the heat of passion.

If/when she does, give her what she wants right away…show her how happy and excited you are that she offered/suggested it. The more you do this, the more you encourage and cheer her on by showing your excitement and arousal, the more comfortable and confident she will feel about doing that… and about doing more.

Another way to get her to open up and do more is to bring up / talk about some of her best moves, soon after you’ve had sex with her.

Tell her how much you enjoyed those specific things and how much of a turn-on it is for you when she takes control (or at least, takes the initiative) and does things or makes suggestions.

All of the above will continue to make her feel more comfortable, confident, and even help her feel closer to — and more relaxed with — you.

And all of that will make her do more for you, do it more often, and even introduce new things for both of you to experience and enjoy.

Important: Be careful about bringing up specific things that you’d like her to do for you, or participate in…especially if its your first time together.

Also… never try to persuade, pressure, force, or guilt her into doing something for/with you that she may not be ready to do just yet (or ever.) That would only backfire on you, and it would also ruin any chances of your having sex with her again.

There are ways to get her to do just about anything you’d like — and have her enjoy it immensely — without pressuring or forcing her. But, that’s slightly more advanced stuff.

Where Do You Fit In…

Most of us can’t fully appreciate and enjoy anything in life unless we compare and contrast it with our past experiences.

Sex is no different.

Men usually compare their new lovers to their past ones after they’ve had sex.

But, women tend to do the comparison while they’re having sex with you. (As I mentioned earlier, women think differently than men.)

Yes, that means she is going to compare you to her past lovers — and especially to her ex.

The most important thing for you to understand is… she’s not with her past lovers or boyfriends right now — for good reason. She is with you.

So, don’t go ruining your time with her by becoming jealous, upset or self- conscious.

Besides, she can’t help doing this. The fact that she’s comparing you to her ex’s is not anything personal against you. Most women do it simply because they’re wired that way. That’s all.

So, don’t worry about any of that. And, definitely don’t take it personally. It’s really not about you.

The best thing you can do is to use the rest of the tips and advice in this report, to give her (and yourself) a pleasure-filled experience.

Do that and she may very well rank you at the top of her “comparison” list, which will also result in her enjoying many repeat performances with you.