Extraordinary Interesting Solutions
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Extraordinary Interesting Solutions

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In moments of great tension, emotions often take over. Situations in day-to-day living occur where tempers flare and regret later occurs. In nature, fire does not fight fire, water does. The same as a soft word can certainly give an advantage in the face of pressure. The book of Proverbs has the saying, “A soft answer turns away wrath, but a harsh word stirs up anger”.



A gentle and controlled approach to an angry situation provides an opportunity to choose words and actions rationally and bring a more desirable conclusion to a potentially damaging situation. Take charge of your emotions or they will take charge of you.



We sometimes assume we do not have the power. That we give it to others. We say things like “He makes me so angry” or “She knows how to push my buttons”.

Think about this. No one has the power to MAKE you angry. If someone has assumed that power over you, YOU have granted them that right. You might have reacted because you felt that person drove you to it, BUT the choice to be angry or rational is yours to make.



Louise Nevelson, a famous American artist once said, “YOU must create your own world. I am responsible for my world



There are two ways to approach any situation:

• You can react to the words and actions of others

• You can act from attitudes of your own choosing



Look up the word “react”. It is made up of the prefix “re” which means again and the word “act” which means to perform an action. So then “react” could mean “to perform the actions of another”. Reacting to negativity can risk explosion and acting out of understanding allows you to remain cool and poised, giving a chance for a peaceful, happy solution.



If you are faced with an angry, escalating situation try the “soft” approach. Bring your emotions under control and proceed in a calmer state. Remain in control of the most vital resource you possess — your mind. With practice, a soft answer is the best defense against harsh words.



Eleanor Roosevelt, a wonderful lady who gained tremendous admiration after she left this world, once said “Somewhere along the line of development we discover what we really are, and then we make our real decision for which we are responsible. Make that decision primarily for yourself, because you can never really live anyone else’s life, not even your own child’s. The influence you exert is through your own life and what you become yourself.”



If you examine flowers, sunrises, and sunsets, snowflakes, or people, you can see the great laws of life provide a wonderful uniqueness of God’s many expressions. As an example, there is nothing secretive or magical in the instructions for starting a car. We follow the instructions so power in the car can be released into action that we can move to another destination. The power was there before we turned the switch. It was quiet, present, ready, and waiting but was inactive. It was potential needing to be activated.



So too the power is within us is there as potential but ready and waiting. We activate it by turning the key to our consciousness — mind power. Operate this power with care for the best results. Soft answers that turn away frustration and anger and bring instead love and compassion will always transform darkness into the light of happiness!

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Remember not only to say the right thing in the right place but far more difficult still to leave unsaid the wrong thing at the tempting moment — Benjamin Franklin

Discretion of speech is more than eloquence — Francis Bacon

Speak when you are angry and you will make the best speech you will ever regret. — Ambrose Bierce

Think twice before you speak, because your words and influence will plant the seed of either success or failure in the mind of another. — Napoleon Hill

Your word is your wand. The words you speak create your own destiny — Florence Scovel Shinn

Half of the troubles of this life can be traced to saying yes too quickly and not saying no soon enough. — Josh Billings

There are some who speak one moment before they think — Jean de la Bruyere