How to Know if You Are a Success or Failure
By: Amit Kumar
Tags: Failure, Growth Mindset, Education, Successful, Life Lessons

You don’t compare your life to others

“It is better to fail in originality than to succeed in imitation.”-Herman Melville

Your Life is your answer to the question paper given to you by the almighty and your question paper is as unique as you are in this world.

The problem is that you compare your answer with someone else’s answer and break your head.

You don’t know whether another person has got a simpler question paper or a tough one.

You don’t know the preparation level of the other person for the answer given by him, you don’t know the support level and guidance the other person has, you don’t know the level of questions he is answering now so there is no point in comparing yours with his.

And if you have learned this and are solely focusing on your life, then you are a success.

You have a happy loving family

“The most important thing in the world is family and love.” –John Wooden

There is no dearth of homeless people in this world.

There is also no dearth of people having a home and wishing to move out if they could.

As per a report, more than 85% of the families in this world are dysfunctional.

People are filing divorce cases left and right, children are suffering for no fault of theirs and people are shouting at each other without understanding what they want in a relationship.

So among all of this, if you have a family where you rush with joy after every day’s work, where you share your joy and sorrows, and where you feel complete in this world, you are blessed my friend and you are way more successful than anyone could ever be in this world.

You are healthy

“It is health that is the real wealth and not pieces of gold and silver.” — Mahatma Gandhi

All of us fancy giving all sorts of gifts to ourselves and our loved ones but in reality, the biggest you can ever give to yourself and your family is your health.

When you are sick you put yourself and your family in financial, emotional, and physical trouble, and by being healthy, you are taking all of these away from yourself and them.

Surely there are going to some time when you will fall sick, but let's that be an exception rather than a norm.

By being healthy, you are also being independent and will be able to help others.

“It is health that is the real wealth, and not pieces of gold and silver.” — Mahatma Gandhi

So if you are someone who takes good care of his health, then you are a success.

You are getting paid for the work you do

There is no dearth of penniless talented people in this world.

There is also no dearth of jobless highly educated and experienced people in this world.

So if you are one of those blessed ones who are getting paid for the work you do, you can’t even think the word “F” of failure. You are a big success.

You are able to put food on the plates for your family

There are billions of people in this world who sleep hungry every day.

There are so many people who weren’t able to provide meals to their family yesterday.

There are so many people who couldn’t afford three meals yesterday.

But you had.

Yesterday and the day before that and the week before that, you have been able to provide meals to your family. In fact, you are able to give them what they wanted to have.

In this world where you are always looking around the heroes to the world who have done some big miraculous works, feeding and keeping your family healthy and lively is nothing less of a heroic work so bow your head to yourself, you are a Hero.

“Children are our most valuable resource.” — Herbert Hoover

You are able to define and give values to your children

Children are the future of tomorrow. They are the ones who are going to either punch someone in their face when they grow up or they are going to help someone in need.

Either they are going to be rude or kind.

What they become depends on how you bring them up as it is the world that has to face the result of what you give to your children.

So if you are someone who has clearly defined values for yourself and making sure that your children grow up in a well-mannered adult, then you are surely giving a big helping hand in making this world a better place.

And you deserve nothing less than a big salute for this.

You have friends to rely on

There are some people in this world who care for us and will always be there for us, no matter whether we are a gem or an absolute jerk.

They are called family. They have to be there; they can’t help it.

Then, there is another set of people who have the option to not to be there, but they would be there always, sometimes they will come even before your family, they are called friends.

This species is very rare to find in today’s social media-driven fake world.

And even after this, if you are someone who in spite of all the shortcomings has got a few nutcases always with you no matter what, then my friend you are in a league today where people will kill to be.

There is no dearth of lonely people today in spite of having thousands or millions of friends or followers on social media so if you have those 1–2 friends who care for you like you do, then I don’t think you need to check any other parameter of success to know whether you are one.