how to be a powerful influential woman and great leader
By: Subhashis Banerji Success Unlimited Mantra
Tags: Women, Success, Leadership, Growth, Transformation

In this article you will learn

-14 powerful reasons — why many women don’t become influential-leaders

-43 remarkable soft skills and qualities women develop — through their journey of normal life — irrespective of their education, social-status and financial-position and whether working or housewives — they do all things CEOs do

-39 basic tips — on How you as a woman can come in big-ways to take leadership roles

-49 Qualities to develop on How to start our journey to be a great leader — the basic steps- all the points mentioned above and following — have separate and detailed Do-it-yourself blogs and YouTube videos

-The initiation into Leadership for the aspiring-leader — is all about being a B.I.T.C.H — acting B.I.T.C.H.Y and becoming B.I.T.C.H.yer to develop yourselves into remarkable leaders — this acronyms B.I.T.C.H.yer — is a powerful formula although may looks similar to insulting-words used by unsophisticated

Why women are natural leaders — YET — why many of the women with remarkable talents don’t recognize this themselves

Women how you can use your natural strengths to become a great leader and a woman of influence

Irrespective of their education, social-status and financial-position and whether working or housewives — most women play many of the roles — which the CEOs and chairpersons do.

Although being a women and being a leader — have fight for everything and can’t expect a fair-deal — at the CEO levels — most women do exceedingly well — especially in the global best organizations.

14 powerful reasons — why many women don’t become influential-leaders

1. Many women develop psychological-issues hampering their personalities and subduing their aspirations [because of various social-and-family oppressions, restrictions and suppressions - this is kind of global phenomenon]

[because of various - this is kind of global phenomenon] 2.Very rare [if at all any] — organization — recruits, handholds and mentors women to harness the tremendous power of women’s natural leadership AND also to create meritocratic and impartial opportunities and pathways to make them go to the top

3.Politicians like any other genre — are male-controlled AND they are least interested in correcting and balancing the skewed tilt and almost pathetically insignificant percentage of women

4.Because of their social-status — and how they are treated by the males in their family as well as professionally and socially — many women get into the mindset of — I can’t or it is not worth fighting

5.Workplace discrimination — and women being passed for promotion is as prevalent as subtle sexual harassments

6.Women facing — “have-to-fight” to “get-what-they-deserve” and what is their right — makes many women give-up lower-down aspirations

7.Their get caught-up in managing — multiple-roles — that many women accept their role as house-wives, mothers, care-giver and suppress their big-calling [which although inculcates the right soft-leadership-skills and which males can never get automatically AND have to learn with through experiences and with focused concentration]

8.Their being responsible of giving-birth and raising children also at times — plays havoc with women who have otherwise managed to create a space for themselves — in the business and professional world

9.Many women themselves — undervalue, underrate and undersell themselves — I am giving the following questions with my reading[answers]

I.Who can become great leader — men or woman — BOTH can become great leaders .

. II.Who have the best soft-skills to become wonderful leaders — women because of their types of life’s experiences and exposures

III.Who does not recognize — their own massive inner strengths, power and potential — women.

10. Women very rarely have or enroll powerful-mentors — to coach and guide them

11. The other side of coin is — most women don’t mentor OPENLY — other women

12. Instead of using their uniqueness and creating a niche-leadership — they try to conform and compete with strengths which is typically-male-specific

13. Restricted exposure and experiences [which happens as a result of all above reasons] — and which is an essentially needed prerequisite — makes many women not as competent

14. There is not enough focus given by the media, the existing leaders, the top-leadership — to the efforts of accomplished women — to help motivate and inspire more women to come into leadership

43 remarkable soft skills and qualities women develop — through their journey of normal life [where they have to face — biases, impartiality, opposition, suppression etc. etc. of every kind and nature from almost every one]

1.Listening

2.Nurturing and Care

3.Empathy

4.Slow response — remarkable because they can think through — many factors

5.Ability to handle pressure — learn not to cave-in

6.Maintain self-identity

7.Conflict-resolution and peacemaking

8.Balancing various roles and demand on time effectively

9.Trustable and dependable

10. Can encourage better

11. Collaborations and teamwork

12. Dedication

13. Networking

14. Self-motivation

15. Supportive

16. Higher emotional intelligence

17. Disciplined

18. Manage and organize events better

19. Take stand

20. Are more likely to speak-up for fairness

21. Possess some great values

22. Compete against bias to prove their worth

23. Resilience

24. Manage and carry themselves better

25. Take initiative during tough situation

26. Display calm in times of catastrophe

27. Focused on results

28. Building relationships

29. Analyzing issues plus Identifying and solving problems

30. Foresee future impacts better

31. Have natural compassion

32. View work more holistically — and focus on work-life balance

33. In spite of no encouragement — in the male-dominated world — the compete on equal terms and come-out winner

34. They can wear many hats — naturally without getting overwhelmed

35. Lead by example

36. They are ok with doing mundane-thankless BUT essential jobs — through internal motivation

37. Handle changes and adopt to change fairly well

38. They are soft yet firm

39. They can be great situational leaders

40. Women make terrific mentors

41. Millennial women are more educated than men

42. They can be display very high level of Professionalism

43. Highly creative — to find solutions — especially when their hands are tied with lack of resources

39 basic tips — on How you as a woman can come in big-ways to take leadership roles — How to encourage women to pursue leadership roles — Under this I have given few questions[along with general suggestions] to provoke, introspect and catalyze — the readers into taking actions

1. Few questions to ask yourself

I.Women may not always realize how poised for success they are in leadership roles — but their potential, abilities and what they can accomplished -are undeniable.

II.More women — mothers in particular — need to realize their worth and recognize in their own minds that they truly are natural leaders

III.If Only Women Knew They Were Natural-Born Leaders — But do they themselves consider them having leadership caliber

IV.What if they believed in themselves

V.What if they could train their minds differently

VI.Studies show that once women land leadership positions they excel — often surpassing men — because they already have very refined levels of soft skills necessary for effective leadership.

VII.Women need just to identify and master their unique strengths — wherever they have shown this — they have demonstrated that they have just as much capability as men to lead and run — in any sphere of life

2.Seek opportunities that may look like stretch — but have great exposure and learning opportunities.

3.Keep yourself updated with the latest and most-applied skill — as in this digital world — new skills and roles gets created as fast and disappear even faster

4.Walk the talk — lead from the front

5.Start Creating a culture of Inclusion through conscious efforts

6.Authentic genuine transparent and straight-forward Communication

7.If your current work environment doesn’t make you feel supported — seek a different opportunity — because to be an effective leader — you need to be able to ask for and able to practice what you believe in

8.Be committed to excel — not be mediocre

9.Proactively seek and embrace change

10. Dare to be yourself and have courage to be different

11. Have the heart to be mocked and ridiculed — when you go for your big dreams

12. Take risk in experimenting — which comes from your intuition

13. Influencing others through setting example

14. Be very-very disciplined

15. Go for unconventional ideas — break the rules to challenge the status-quo

16. Sharpen your emotional and social intelligences

17. Compete on equal footing — don’t expect to be given softer roles

18. Be competent through constantly learning and making your yesterday obsolete by reinventing yourself continuously

19. Continually honed and fine-tuned — all your unique strengths

20. Create Strategic Vision- use Creativity and Innovation to polish your Critical Thinking and Problem Solving skills

21. Be dependable and become epitome of Trustworthiness

22. Identify and understand your leadership strengths — Make your character synonymous with integrity and other strong core-values

23. Be comfortable with — working with men, managing men, and negotiating with men

24. Be a coach and mentor to your team

25. Create your succession plan through delegation and training and hand-holding the juniors

26. Never Compromise with Who You Are — maintain your own identify and purpose

27. Develop resilience

28. Be humble — treat everyone with disrespect

29. Enforce no compromise culture — with integrity, quality and safety

30. Play to your strengths — manage your weaknesses

31. Help others become better

32. Be impartial and transparent

33. Find and enroll mentors plus get yourself coached by the best

34. Never compare yourself to others

35. Practice professionalism

36. Create a Sassy and Classy personality

37. Support — do not criticize

38. Take care of yourself

39. Be comfortable with leaving your comfort zone and challenging your assumptions

Aspiring Leaders — what you can do to become a great leader​

The initiation into Leadership — is all about being a B.I.T.C.H — acting B.I.T.C.H.Y and becoming B.I.T.C.H.yer to develop yourselves into remarkable leaders.

How many of you would like to be considered — Suave, Refined, Polished, Graceful, Charming, Elegant, Classy, Royal.

Do you want to be — an outstanding leader — there is a very simple formula for all aspiring leaders — Is this only about feminine and women leadership — absolutely NOT — it is applicable for men equally.

This is the Synopsis of my talk delivered at WEF — the women economic forum annual conference at New Delhi.

Let me define each letter — of this acronyms B.I.T.C.H.yer — which looks similar to insulting-words used by unsophisticated

B = Bold — meaning Assertive*

I = Impressive — through polished communication*

T = Tough — meaning resilient*

C = Conscientiousness — meaning delivers Excellence

H = Highly-powerful — creating power through professionalism

Y = Yearning or have a very-very passionate dream which is larger than life

E = Exceptional — meaning cherishes and celebrates his/her uniqueness

R = Respectable*

S = Smart Executor or Implementer

49 Qualities to develop on How to start our journey to be a great leader — the basic steps- all the points mentioned above and following — have separate and detailed Do-it-yourself blogs and YouTube videos

1.Being assertive

2.Developing phenomenal level of confidence — by stretching yourself beyond comfort-zones

3.Being yourself

4.Taking risk

5.Facing Fears

6.Accepting and correcting mistakes

7.Bouncing back from failures — fast

8.Taking full responsibility for own actions, choices and decisions

9.Enhancing your unique strengths

10. Being respectable — to make people respect you for who you are

11. Letting go of past mistakes, failures, guilt and shame

12. Learning to handle difficult people* effectively

13. Saying No* even to the most powerful people — without jeopardizing your relationship with them

14. Gain cooperation from others

15. Claiming your rights

16. Being comfortable with yourself*

17. Expressing what you feel in appropriately way

18. Stop being taken for a ride or taken advantage of — prevent anyone from manipulating you

19. Handling put downs and insults effectively*

20. Setting healthy boundaries for others*

21. Respond to pressure effectively — by calmly handling difficult situations and people

22. Make healthy choices* — choosing the choices* which you want and not doing anything under pressure or threats

23. Taking healthy decisions

24. Asking tough questions — to clarify and understand

25. Sharing your views honestly

26. Handling abusive relationships — getting toxic people out of life

27. Becoming a role-model* for your children/juniors/seniors

28. Creating great impressions through delivering results — making results speak for you

29. Developing a Classy, Sassy & Assy personality*

30. Becoming a transformative leader* — meaning going for larger than life causes

31. Developing entrepreneur* spirit, habits and mindset

32. Practicing to be a true professional, an expert and master in some niche areas

33. Becoming epitome of reliability, dependability and bankability

34. Displaying high level of integrity

35. Giving credit to others

36. Self-confident but not an egoist

37. Developing finesse in manners and etiquettes

38. Creating power without authority over people

39. Yearning to achieve something big and meaningful

40. Living your passion

41. Not trying to fit with crowd BUT standing out through demonstrating role-model qualities

42. Not focusing on being likable

43. Becoming a person who loves, respects and accepts himself/herself

44. Treating everyone with dignity and respect

45. Have comfortable and close relationship with others

46. Loves and is fully comfortable in own company

47. A team player

48. A Story telling Presenter

49. Astute communicator

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