10 Life Lessons I Learned From The Real Housewives
By: Dominique Willis
Tags: Life Lessons, Personal Growth, Personal Development, Self Improvement, Life

1. “People come for me all the time. They just don’t find me.”

Karen Huger, Real Housewives of Potomac

If people want to bring negative energy into your life, you don’t have to let them. People can jab at you, but you never let them in your life, so they’re jabbing at air. Cutting out toxicity is necessary.

2. “Say it, forget it. Write it, regret it.”

Dorinda Medley, Real Housewives of New York City

The written word lasts. Memory is faulty, so if you say something, it could be forgotten. However, if you write something, it becomes an official record of your thoughts. Be thoughtful and purposeful about what you write.

3. “Who gon’ check me, boo?”

Sheree Whitfield, Real Housewives of Atlanta

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When in conflict, don’t allow sly attempts at threatening you. It is not okay to threaten others. Let them know threats will not work with you.

4. “GO TO SLEEP!”

Bethenny Frankel, Real Housewives of New York City

Some people will be nasty, cruel, mean, or just a “bad drunk.” You don’t need to go tit for tat with them. Let them know that they don’t need to argue with you, they need to help themselves.

5. “What are you doing here without Dorinda?”

Sonja Morgan, Real Housewives of New York City

When you see someone engaging in shady behavior, you can call them out. You don’t have to keep silent when other people display bad behavior. Speak up, and stick up for other people.

6. “Be cool. Don’t be all, like…uncool.”

Luann de Lesseps, Real Housewives of New York City

Don’t shame other people for what they do in their bedroom. Full stop. And, don’t judge other people’s lives — it’s a lot of energy expended without any rewards.

7. “I said what I said.”

NeNe Leakes, Real Housewives of Atlanta

Be strong in your convictions. If you lead a life in your truth, with love, kindness, respect, generosity, and grace, you can rest assured that your words hold power. Stand like a warrior.

8. “Gone with the wind fabulous.”

Kenya Moore, Real Housewives of Atlanta

Be confident in yourself. You offer so many great things to the world. Don’t dim your light, but dig and find the gold within yourself.

9. “If I can smell your breath, you’re too close.”

Dorit Kemsley, Real Housewives of Beverly Hills

Defining boundaries will only benefit you. If someone is crossing the line (physically, mentally, emotionally), you can kindly tell them to stop. If they continuously ignore the boundary that you clearly outlined for them, then they don’t need to ever be in your space again.

10. “I want them out because their heart is not in the right place.”

Karen Huger, Real Housewives of Potomac

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And we are back where we began, with Karen Huger. She said, “…walking in your truth is so comfortable. It’s such an easy thing to do.” If your truth is telling you that someone is not an addition to your life, but a subtraction, you have the right to escort them out the door.

What would you rather be: perpetually uncomfortable because you continue to engage with those that make you feel uncomfortable or momentarily uncomfortable because you are letting someone toxic leave your life?

Own your truth. Own your feelings. Be you.