Bound To Unforgiveness
Tags: Women, Bible, Christianity, Writing, Empowerment

Unforgiveness is one of the deadliest diseases that is rarely talked about in today’s society. But that’s ok because you’re about to get schooled Queen — class is in session!

“Unforgiveness is like drinking poison yourself and waiting for the other person to die.” -Marianne Williamson

There are many people in the world who are walking around with fake identities. They are angry, bitter, hateful and filled with rage; this is not who they truly are. Because they’ve refused to surrender the hurt from their past situations, they have transformed into their pain. It is because of unforgiveness that they have characteristics that make them “Negative Nancy”. There are many people who are enslaved to the traumas of their past.

Some of them don’t realize that the enemy is now their master instead of God. They are unaware that God can’t properly operate in them or do much for them because they have broken one of the greatest commandments, which is to love one another as God has loved us (John 15:5). I’m about to ask you a question that requires you to be honest with yourself so inhale…and release… — have I just described you?

If so, God has you reading this article, at this moment, for a specific reason. Can I tell you a secret Queen? I use to be her — a broken woman bound to unforgiveness. But it was by God’s grace that I was able to surrender that burden and pick up not only forgiveness but joy! Queen, it is time to start walking in the freedom of love because if you don’t, then you will forever be hindered in your walk with Christ. It is my desire for you to walk in freedom and it is my prayer that you will do just that.

The Process of Bondage

The first step to the process of bondage is luring, which means to be tempted to do something or go somewhere. Many people think that it’s a person, place, or thing that the enemy uses to tempt us, but it’s not, it’s the emotion behind that person, place, or thing. As we read the story of Cain and Abel in the bible (Genesis 4:1–8) we see that it’s not because of Abel’s mere existence that caused Cain to kill his very own brother, but it was the emotion of jealousy towards Abel, that made Cain kill him. It is in that same manner that the enemy causes us to be angry, mad and bitter towards a person, which causes us to be lured into the bondage of unforgiveness. Emotions come from the heart and that’s why the bible tells us to guard our hearts because everything we do flows from it (Proverbs 4:23). If the enemy has controlled our emotions towards a person, then he has captured our heart.

The second step to bondage is being arrested (spiritually, mentally, emotionally) because after we’ve been lured, the cuffs are then put on us. Arrested means to be seized by legal authority and taken into custody. Once we have fallen into the enemy’s trap of emotional temptation towards someone, he officially has the legal right to dwell in our hearts. He can do that because by submitting to unforgiveness, we give him permission to rule over our emotions.

Then we are taken into custody, which means imprisonment and that leads us to our third step; slavery. Slave — a person who is legal property of another and is forced to obey them. So this means we are now bound to hatred, anger, bitterness, rage and heartbreak. The bible tells us to get rid ourselves of bitterness and all types of other evil behavior and to forgive one another just as God has forgiven us (Ephesians 4:31–32). When we are a slave to sin, we can’t be a slave to Christ.

Being freed from bondage is just apart of the “becoming” process. To understand how The Power of Growth is lucrative to your journey; read this article that was published in my digital magazine by clicking here.

The Consequences Of Unforgiveness

Here are a few consequences of unforgiveness. Research shows that some sicknesses are a result of unforgiveness. Harboring negative emotions, this anger and hatred creates a state of chronic anxiety, high blood pressure, heart attacks, and cancer. If you are dealing with these health issues, then maybe it’s a possibility that unforgiveness is the underlying problem.

Other consequences are: it harms family interactions, hinders our prayer life, damages our ability to testify, and stagnates spiritual growth. Please don’t be fooled into thinking that you can harbor unforgiveness and have a successful walk and relationship with God! That is a lie from the enemy and it is impossible for God to do great things in you and for you if you are bound to hateful characteristics.

Now, here is how forgiveness can benefit you. Forgiveness allows you to see the bigger picture of the negative experiences you’ve faced, you receive freedom and your story can help bring others to salvation. For example, I went to high school (9th grade) with this girl who I was friends with, and long story short — she betrayed me. 5 years later she visited the church I was attending at that time and because I forgave her, God was able to use me to bring her to a spiritual breakthrough. He was also able to use me to bring her to a greater experience with Him.

I could have cussed her out, avoided her, or brought up what she did to me, but instead, I chose to forgive her. Me forgiving her set her free from some things she was going through at the time. Isn’t that a blessing? You may be thinking that you’ll never be able to do such a thing to a person who wronged you. But may I ask you another question beautiful — if God is so gracious to forgive you on a daily basis when you’re not deserving of it, what makes you think you’re above forgiving someone else? Ouch! Marinate in that!

Forgiveness is easier said than done, but it is possible Queen

It’s a process where you have to be vulnerable with God and you must desire it. The three ways to the road of forgiveness are:

Deliverance

Deliverance frees you from the control of the enemy and the person who hurt you. This means that a spiritual process must take place since the enemy still has legal right within you. You have to spiritually evict the enemy with the word of God. “When the righteous cry for help, the Lord hears and delivers them out of all their troubles.” -Psalms 34:17

Healing

You need to be healed from the person(s) in order to move forward in your walk with Christ. You can’t properly operate from a place of brokenness. “Behold, I will bring to it health and healing, and I will heal them and reveal to them abundance of prosperity and security.” -Jeremiah 33:6.

Prayer and Fasting

“However, this kind does not go out except by prayer and fasting.” -Matthew 17:21. Some things can only come about by both prayer and fasting. Prayer opens the doors for spiritual manifestation to take place. Once you pray for healing and deliverance, God will begin to free you from unforgiveness. Fasting is not just about giving up food, but it’s about getting closer to God; by emptying ourselves and allowing him to fill us up.

Queen, I pray that if you are dealing with unforgiveness, that you receive freedom in Jesus’ name. Take these tools and knowledge and apply it to your life because the bible tells us not to only be hearers of the word, but to be doers [take action] of the word (James 1:22). God wants to bless you and grow you past your pain, but he can’t do so until the chains of unforgiveness are broken off of you. You can do it Queen!

“For freedom Christ has set us free; stand firm therefore, and do not submit again to a yoke of slavery.” -Galatians 5:1

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