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How An Interview Made Me Think About Gender Stereotypes
By: Nilla Chen
Tags: Stereotypes, Feminism, Women, Sexism, Work

How An Interview Made Me Think About Gender Stereotypes

Photo by Gabrielle Henderson on Unsplash

Simply put, I got an interview with a company — a famous semi-conductor company here. Their stock price is soaring, and the future looks promising. My family was happy about this.

My only concern with the interview was that the position was ‘secretary.’ It was quite different from the career path I’ve experienced so far — I’ve worked as a translator, and currently work in sales. I searched online to see what others have to say about the position:

“Wow. You get an interview invitation from that company? You must look very pretty.”

“Great opportunity to get an engineer husband that earns a lot!”

“Choosing secretary is like choosing mistress for those managers…”

“No, you don’t have to talk about any professional skills. Just dress prettily.”

I wasn’t troubled by those comments at the time. After all, trolls were just being trolls, so I went to the interview.

After going through questions about my past experience, the interviewer looked at me and said,

To be honest, I’m not sure why you would like to apply for the job. You worked perfectly well on translating or selling. It’s an overkill in my opinion to put you in this position. The career path of a secretary doesn't have a promising future. Frankly speaking, most applicants just want to get an engineer husband here and live happily afterward.

I replied politely, saying that I thought being a good secretary is not easy, although it seems to be. I wouldn’t be overqualified at all, and I still had a lot to learn.

I could understand why he was saying this, although I was a bit surprised about how a secretary’s value is underrated here. Anyway, I’d expected that my past experience wasn’t a perfect fit, so I tried hard to include all administrative experience I had in my resume.

The interviewer seemed satisfied with the reply, but suddenly came with a sharper question:

Do you know how common it is for a secretary to be fancied, surrounded, and pursued by males? How would you handle the situation?

This is a neutral and fair question, although I felt uncomfortable about working in that kind of environment. He was just trying to let me know how the situation would be like if I worked here, I assumed. So I talked about my past experience of working with males and assured him that I could work professionally with males in the office.

Then he asked the question that has crossed my line:

“Do you have a boyfriend?”

His reaction after my answer has also crossed my line. He talked as if there will be an issue, and he re-asked all questions above — emphasizing that a secretary needs to get along with males in the office.

I don’t understand what’s the issue of getting along with males in the office and me having a boyfriend. This shouldn’t have anything to do with my professional performance, I said.
Did Joseph Epstein say female PhD’s should drop their Dr prefix or did he refer to all PhD’s?
By: Joseph Mariadassou
Tags: Sexism, Jill Biden, Feminism

Did Joseph Epstein say female PhD’s should drop their Dr prefix or did he refer to all PhD’s?

You have to give him the benefit of doubt and presume he was suggesting that PhD could use a different honorific other than Dr.
Pinterest COO Settlement Ignores Black Women Who Blew Whistle Back in June
By: Tracey Ford
Tags: Racism, Discrimination, Sexism, Business, Pinterest

Pinterest COO Settlement Ignores Black Women Who Blew Whistle Back in June

In what was likely seen as a nice step forward for women fighting gender discrimination in the workplace, particularly at the often all-male C-suite level, former Pinterest chief operating officer Françoise Brougher received a $22.5 million settlement, the largest of its kind to date. Unfortunately, the settlement highlights the difference between how Black and White women are received when raising issues of discrimination and inequality in the workplace.

Two months before Brougher, a White woman, filed her suit, two Black women, Ifeoma Ozoma and Aerica Shimizu Banks, came out on social media with their claims of racial and gender discrimination. Ozoma and Banks’ allegations inspired more women to share their experiences at Pinterest, and Brougher herself credits the pair for giving her “the courage to come forward.” But Ozoma and Banks didn’t receive the same treatment as Brougher. Initially, Pinterest came forward and claimed the two women had been treated fairly before eventually admitting that the company needed to “do better.”

Now, the company is receiving criticism once again for how it treated the initial claims from two Black women versus the seemingly swift manner in which Brougher’s allegations were treated — Brougher’s case was settled in just four months when cases of this kind typically take years to be resolved.

“This week, we saw, yet again, another large corporation display clear inequitable treatment of Black employees in Silicon Valley,” says Jade Magnus Ogunnaike, senior campaigns director at the racial equity organization Color of Change. “Pinterest’s handling of Françoise Brougher’s lawsuit — paying out $22.5 million — compared to how the company practically ignored Ifeoma Ozoma and Aerica Shimizu Banks after they called out intense discrimination, is blatant racism in practice.”
Thinking is hard…
Tags: Racism, Social Justice, Culture, Sexism, Cognition

We often don’t realize that conscious cognition takes effort and that it’s much less demanding to go on “automatic pilot” (i.e., let our decisions/behaviors be guided by out of awareness processes…sort of like when you drive somewhere familiar and, after you arrive, you don’t remember the specifics of making the drive.)

Some have written about “fast and slow thinking” (and won a Nobel prize for their thinking and writing) which references much the same thing as what I’m calling “automatic pilot” (fast thinking) and more effortful in consciousness thinking (slow thinking).

Slow thinking is tiring and effortful and we tend to avoid it when possible. In a book titled “Hit Makers: How to Succeed in an Age of Distraction” by Derek Thompson was the following sentence:

“When something becomes hard to think about, people transfer the discomfort of the thought to the object of their thinking.”

In case you were wondering why sexism and racism (or all of the “isms” of oppression) have persisted for so long…I betcha part of the reason is because they are difficult/hard to think about (and any thinking that is deliberate and in awareness is hard) so we avoid doing so.

I also suspect that the reason this culture is addicted to the snappy one liner comeback and/or quotable quote is that little thought is required for them. Capitalism and conformity and status quo maintenance work best when folks don’t consciously think about them too much.

Speed is a useful ability for escaping physical danger. Speed doesn’t work the same way though when you’re engaging in thinking. When thinking, speed is more often correlated with error and lack of thoroughness (but it’s much easier than the other sort of thinking…remember that next time someone stymies you with a quick comeback…speed isn’t necessarily an indicator of an admirable trait...it’s all contextual.)

We live in a culture that lauds “fast thinking”…probably that’s one of the factors contributing to many of the bad situations we face. “It makes my head hurt” is more than just a saying.

I hate to tell ya though, opting for the path of least resistance often tends to contribute to the creation and maintenance of major messes.
Open Letter to Monica Lewinsky
Tags: Harassment, Monica Lewinsky, Bullying, Sexism

This has bothered me a lot lately.

Monica has shown back up in public life again after what seems like 20 years gone and I feel like the entire country owes her an apology.

We shouldn’t have trafficked in your humiliation.

Not for doing essentially what any young person in their early twenties is doing. None of it was shocking, just scandalous.

And by today’s standards, and without infantilizing your own agency, is it not clear that this was the most egregiously inappropriate workplace conduct possible?

To be frank, I work at a state agency, and have three younger female employees. They are all 10 yrs older than you were at the time. Out of propriety, I don’t tell dirty jokes because that is legit harassment. I especially would not come on to any of them. For me to have a relationship with one of them would be irresponsible as a human, and fireable as an employee. As it should be.

And while I think I might be an attractive middle aged gentleman, I am not the President of the US. So if it would be inappropriate for me because of the inequality of the situation, extrapolate that to the leader of the free world and a starry eyed 20 year old kid.

And who fancies themselves the protectors of the powerless in our modern politics? The Democrats? They did you dirtier than any Republican. Looking back, I can’t take Hillary seriously as a feminist, and see Democrats as only situationally about protecting women.

But that water is long under that bridge. I love that you’re back. I love that you’ve chosen a public role as a voice of compassion. I love that you’re stronger than all that. And I love that you’re making this world better than that one.
MeToo
By: Terry Trueman
Tags: Fairness, Mea Culpa, Sexism, Justice, Accountability

Mea Culpa, b/c I have been guilty of bad shit too. Still, how come #Metoo has lost some energy?

Image courtesy of Markus Spiske, Unsplash

#MeToo

began as women,

justifiably,

started standing up

against men

trying to rape, grope

molest or

otherwise

accost them,

These men were

indifferent

to the wishes,

desires, feelings

of the women.

It soon became, for some,

a kind of Victim’s club,

nonetheless much needed

and legitimate for

posting grievances

long-suppressed

and overdue

for adjudication.

As so often is the case

in such matters

things started well.

But as is equally

common

and perhaps unavoidable

the bar got lower

and lower as more

and more

women

began to come into

the movement with

what became their default

compliant,

“He made me feel uncomfortable.”

There is no defense

for the falsely accused man

who, without any intention

to do harm

is named in

such an indictment.

I can make you

uncomfortable

if I try,

at least I’m pretty sure I can,

but for someone

to complain to me, or worse,

behind my back, about me

“making them feel uncomfortable”

when I may have said something

or done something

that was not intended to do harm

and, even after I apologize,

for me to be

punished for this sin…

Seems to me that this is how

#Me Too

has found its way

to the top of its death spiral.

************************************

Wikipedia & Encyclopedia https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Terry_Trueman

#MeToo can be found this book, available on Amazon.com and or places like Latahbooks.com
My Number One Tip on Learning.
By: Britni Pepper
Tags: Number One Tip, Doctor, Sexism, Learning, Dr Jill Biden

My Number One Tip on Learning. The ability to learn is not based on gender. Smart, wise, well-read, and/or dedicated people come in every flavour of humanity.

We might see two children walking along the street and assume the taller has more learning. But when we see two adults in today’s world, this no longer applies.

A man may be a beach bum or a doctor of philosophy. Or both. Likewise a woman.

Ask; don’t assume.

Just like the #MeToo tag sparked discussion and that conversation should never be suppressed, let us think #DrJill when we look at someone. Learning is in the person, not in the eye of the beholder.

Britni
Galley Girls
Tags: Feminism, Sexual Harrassment, Flight Attendant, Sexism, Workplace Harassment

by N. Goodwin

Colombia, 2018: Nastasia Goodwin

Summer fun, they meld to one

in metal rooms of ego and science

made up of dreams from simple men

and thoughts conjured in perfect silence.

History brought suits

and scholars in Sunday’s best

and wealth embroidered collars

that crinkled in times of rest.

Champagne and cigarettes

were luxuries they earned

while stiff meals and stiffer drinks

safely welcomed the return.

Beautiful girls, like you and me,

grabbed and squeezed like clockwork,

burning through smiles of “know-it-all,”

showing men how locks work.

We roll on until morning,

or we’re given a stranger’s bed.

We may crash and burn someday,

but it’s lovely in our heads.
Sexism in my culture!
By: Falaq Waris
Tags: Pakistan, Culture, Sexism

Life of being a Pakistani girl has very impacted my life and what my career might be. Constantly hearing that a woman should cook and clean is very irritating. This cultural idea runs in countries like India, Denmark, and in the middle east. My dream of becoming an amazing journalist might just start here. I have an amazing aunt who constantly tells me to follow my dream. Being scared of what people might think is something that always comes to mind. In the culture, I grew up in it's always like be a doctor, lawyer, or engineer that's it. Mostly for a woman, if a woman chooses anything else it's not very impressive. Culture and religion are two different things. I have learned that from a very wise man. He once said if your happy, life will be easy. I believe that I'm strong and I was brought into this world as a girl for a reason. I have found a purpose in life and that's to help women and men who are trapped in this sexist culture. I have a voice and I will use it.
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Tags: Grilling, Australia, Germany, Sexism

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For fucks sake Kayleigh:
By: David Sf
Tags: Sexism

For fucks sake Kayleigh:

1 men dating women younger than then is the norm

2 men dating women 10–20 years younger than them is not the norm. Cite some census statistics if you wanna make this argument

3 men dating younger women isn’t sexist

4 men and women are not the same, we are asymmetric, we live different lives

5 women can still date younger men if they are mature enough to not gaf about what some people will think
The most used justification for sexism or racism or other ism must be “it was a joke” or similar.
By: Manon Rae
Tags: Equality, Racism, Sexism

The most used justification for sexism or racism or other ism must be “it was a joke” or similar. If anyone says they were offended by the joke, they would be told to chill out, be labelled a snowflake, told to get a life, or stop being pc for pc sake. If you ever find yourself saying that, take time to reflect if you are prejudiced against someone without realising it.
White People in Tech: Just Hire BIPOC and LGBTQ+ People
By: Ian Paredes
Tags: Racism, Tech, Bipoc, Sexism, Tech Is So White

I had to be that asshole recently who wrote a letter to damn near 30+ people in my company (out of about 140–150 employees) who constitute the all-volunteer D&I initiative that happens to be ran by a white lady who is the head of HR. It was about how I felt slighted when I explicitly mentioned Filipino-American History Month in a survey that they sent to everyone in June, slightly after the committee was formed (and more importantly, was only formed after George Floyd was murdered in Minneapolis) — one committee member reached out by phone about a few weeks later, requesting an interview about my experiences as a Filipino person in tech, about Filipino-American History Month, and other thoughts related to the company. I agreed. I waited months for the interview to happen — nothing. They didn’t interview much of anyone either for any of the other events, historical days or months, etc. that had happened leading up to October (which is when Filipino-American History Month is celebrated) — we did not get to hear any perspectives from any Indigenous people, Black people, Latinx people, etc., just emails from a mostly white committee that go over demographic data but not much else. Not only that, but they forgot about Filipino-American History Month — a month that I had explicitly mentioned to them months prior, a month that was enshrined as an official holiday by Congress back in 2009. A month that, coincidentally, is not mentioned on Google Calendar (whereas National Hispanic Heritage Month is listed on there.) I hated having to write this email, because it gives the impression that I am putting my identity above others — that is absolutely not the case. I want to learn more about other cultures, just not from a very imperialist white person’s lens.

I received a very HR style response from the head of the committee/head of HR to the effect of, “we are not going to really change much, and how dare you insult our committee when we are dedicated to high fiving each other on our Slack channel while saying things like “empowerment” and the like?”

Further, I believe that a lot of D&I programs fail to uplift BIPOC and LGBTQ+ voices, and can be actively harmful to those groups by taking on the wrong strategies or the wrong lens. Often, D&I committees will implement an internship pipeline program that prioritizes BIPOC, but will be blind to a very obvious solution: just hiring BIPOC and LGBTQ+ people in IC or management positions. They want a magical job board meant for a specific group of people, but none exists: we apply the same exact way as everyone else. Just hire us. It is not that hard.

But all of this underlines a very troubling condition in tech that undergirds a lot of “progressive-looking” companies — white people take space, they take credit, and most of all, they take power while undermining WoC and other BIPOC.
I am within my right to pick women based on their qualifications AND their sex.
Tags: Sexism, Misogyny, Feminism

I am within my right to pick women based on their qualifications AND their sex. The number of women chosen because they are women is far fewer than the number of men chosen because they’re not. I will pick a female candidate for anything over a male one if they are similarly competent. The point is not to pick someone unqualified. But Chris Rock said it best, about not choosing white person if a black person was also vying for the position. On eschewing white men: “All other things being equal, f**k ‘em!”
15% of Americans want Black Slavery reinstated.
By: Cliff Lapp
Tags: Homosexuality, Racism, Sexism, Islamophobia, Hate

15% of Americans want Black Slavery reinstated. I am against hate. If you hate another person because of their race, sex, religion, etc., that is not acceptable, and it goes against me The Constitution of Our America. I am open-minded, but not willing to allow hateful actions.
Hold on just a moment there, and think about the basis of what you are arguing: everything you…
By: Ron Collins
Tags: Equality, Life Lessons, Sexism, Activism, Gender Equality

Hold on just a moment there, and think about the basis of what you are arguing: everything you write here assumes that it is any of your or anyone else’s privilege even to know how much I or anyone else earn.

I wonder where that premise comes from, and what sources of information you use to inform it?

Let me set you straight: how much I earn, and whatever it is I do to earn it, and how that may or may not stack up against anyone else’s earnings, are none of your business. It would be rude and invasive of you to ask me, and it would be naive and self-destructive of me to answer.

And, to find out by not even asking me but instead digging up that information from other sources, is a degree of abuse and manipulation beneath contempt. Do you tolerate such behavior regarding your own private affairs? If you would not, if such creepy monitoring by anyone of your life’s activities would feel to you like the lowest form of abuse, then how can you point it at others?

Such utter dismissiveness of that most private and personal of individual liberties, to earn a living and to do with it as one pleases, is the entire basis for this fascist surveillance apparatus known commonly as ‘income tax.’ I suspect strongly that the data used in forming such busybody conclusions as the above comes at least in part straight out of income tax records.

But if you had even the most rudimentary grasp of what ‘freedom’ even means, you would recognize that it was never any bureaucratic regime’s business to interrogate anyone as to the nature and scope of their livelihoods, and it is cowardly and submissive and absolutely antithetical to anything resembling genuine freedom, to tell them.

But maybe it isn’t freedom that motivates you at all. Maybe assuming the right to pry into others’ personal affairs, and to use that information to coerce them into compliance with your demands, is how you mean to get ahead in life.

What does that say about you?

‘If you mind your own business, then you won’t be mindin’ mine…’
Sexist Talk
By: Iffah Suraya Jasni
Tags: Poem, Racism, Sexism

A Poem.

Photo by Markus Spiske on Unsplash

I will never understand what she truly covets but I do continue to be the one who aches at her mocking tone of voice and facial expressions as she says sexist things that are very well meant to afflict my sense of peace and identity.
Why is Sexism still an issue?
By: Clarissa Blanton
Tags: Not A Well Behaved Woman, Sexism

In this modern age, why are is this still a problem?

Photo by Gabrielle Rocha Rios on Unsplash

I’ll be honest, I thought we were done with sexism. Spoiler alert! We’re not, not even close. (Just a note, parts of this is a rant)

I won’t pretend I’ve never experienced it, the truth is, I have. I’m sure we all have. But here’s the thing… women have been able to vote since 1920, which is 100 years ago. You saw that right, a 100 YEARS. Why on Earth do women still have to deal with it?

I have a couple of reasons I feel especially compelled to write about this topic.

#1. Body Image

Yea, this might not seem like a huge deal, but to me, women’s bodies are portrayed as something like this….

Yep, seems realistic to me! No issue fitting in body organs…none at all. It’s fine, who really needs them.

Meanwhile, men are portrayed as these normal looking dudes, with multiple body figures. But for woman? Hourglass shape it is!

#2. Prejudice

It’s always been unfair for women, for example, a lady tried to wear pants…and was then thrown behind bars. In the workplace, there are countless examples of prejudice. I read about a (female) hiring manager who was told by the candidate that he didn’t feel she was doing an eloquent job. (She was doing great, she’d hired a lot of people). He then requested to talk to a man. And what makes me especially mad? HE GOT THE JOB.

I read another example, where a girl spoke up for herself because she was being harassed by boys (her age) and was told that men have it easier and just to suck it up, she’ll be fine. She was not fine. She was being sexually harassed.

SUCK IT UP! MEN JUST HAVE IT EASIER. Not an acceptable answer at all.

#3 Slippery Slope

It’s a delicate issue, but listen.

What if we let it start with 1 or 2 sexist or offensive remarks. No harm, no foul, right?

But if that's ok, when does it stop being ok? When they kiss you without consent? What if they take it further than that…. And yet, no action has been taken.
Why Do Politicians Want These Hate Crime Laws?
By: Conor Fitzgerald
Tags: Racism, Sexism, LGBTQ, Politics, Ireland

There is no clamour from Irish people for a Hate Crime laws. As highlighted by Gript, the Bill recently discussed in the Seanad is a catastrophic Orwellian mess, yet it is supported by every mainstream party. The only dissenting voice in the Seanad debate was the independent Sharon Keogan. Few laws can expect this kind of cross-party support. What is the source of this consensus?

It’s likely that many Senators genuinely believe that there is an epidemic of hate crimes that we need to urgently address through legislation. In deciding what issues to address, Senators are sealed in an NGO propaganda bubble. They are surrounded by lavishly funded pressure groups who are ideologically and financially motivated to want laws that will empower them. There is no countervailing force that would highlighted the dangers of such laws.

We’re conditioned to assume that politicians we don’t like act in bad faith with low motives but if every piece of information you hear pushes you in a single direction then your legislative efforts will reflect that. They may genuinely think this is what their constituents want.

There is a social standing aspect to this, politicians to want to look good in the papers and on Twitter by proposing laws that will get you celebrated and not dragged. These laws offer the chance to be thought of as a pillar of the community amongst people with a lot of social capital (the young, the educated, the wealthy, the activist). Irish people have found approval internationally, and identity, as the country that is changing from traditional to progressive at the speed of light. To look good not just on Irish Twitter (tm) but to be thought well of and maybe even written about in the pages of the Guardian or the New York Times — that’s the dream of dreams for an Irish politician.

The darker side of this point is that politicians crave a quiet life as much as anyone else. You can’t be seen to not do “the right thing” if everyone else is doing it. Creating massively overreaching laws and empowering NGOs as a way of certain noisy, crazy groups and their enablers quiet and keeping them off your back for a period of time. (This doesn’t actually work, but I understand.)

Politicians sees the way the cultural wind is blowing culturally and want to go with it rather than against. If the sought-after constituency of young voters want this, if the EU does, and if it smooths the path for “inevitable, necessary and desirable” mass migration and accelerated demographic change — what good can come from opposing it? Better to be known as the person who pushed hate crime laws and secure a future ministry, Oireachtas committee, a spot on Prime Time, potentially profitable NGO work down the line.

The Hate Crime Bill attracts this support because it has powerful and well-funded groups pushing for it; because politicians feel it makes them look good and Ireland look good; and because its more profitable in a variety of senses; because it’s easier for them; and because it’s safer. That’s leadership, I guess.
Why I’m No Longer Talking to Most Men About Sexism
By: Rosalind Pagan
Tags: Feminism, Life, Life Lessons, Women, Sexism

You know those times when you tell friends about the sexist behaviour you’ve experienced?

If your friends are women, they will probably nod sympathetically or roll their eyes in that “tell me about it” way. Men will be shocked and appalled but they will commonly phrase their reaction as, “I find it hard to believe anyone behaves like that.”

You hear their sympathy, but listen to what is really being expressed with that response: disbelief.

As a woman, I have been experiencing sexism since before I even understood what it was.

When we weren’t allowed to wear pants at school because our uniform dictated skirts for the girls and pants only for the boys.

When grown men thought it was okay to catcall a girl in her school uniform and laugh at her blushing and scurrying off to school at hyper speed, her skirt providing little security against the breeze.

It’s shocking to learn that sexism is still rife in our schools.

“The use of misogynist language is commonplace in schools.”

The above statement about misogynist language comes from a report about the prevalence of sexism and sexual harassment, in schools.

The report, It’s Just Everywhere, was compiled in 2019, and urges that:

“…schools, education bodies and government must take urgent action to tackle sexism in schools.” “Reports from both students and teachers reveal that sexual harassment is prevalent in schools. For many students, it is simply the norm.”

This is not a problem that has gone away. It is a problem that has been swept under the carpet.
Sadly, most working women cannot afford to let their gray hair show.
Tags: Hair, Aging, Women, Sexism, Elderly

Sadly, most working women cannot afford to let their gray hair show. mari ·Nov 19, 2020

Unless you have a super-secure job, you’re better off continuing to dye your hair. You don’t want to be categorized as being “tired,” which is the pejorative word used to marginalize older women. Aging men are getting the same treatment (although not quite to the same extent as women), as the proliferation of men’s hair products shows. And whether you continue to dye your hair or not, as you get older be prepared to be called “honey” and “sweetheart” by random strangers.
How can PCOS affect you psychologically?
By: Pcos Diary
Tags: Culture, Sexism, Pcos, Lebanon, Psychology

We have all felt sad and ostracized at some point because of our PCOS symptoms, right?

It’s a universal experience and nothing to be ashamed of. This is why we reached out to Dr. Loulwa Kaloyeros, Senior Instructor of Psychology at LAU, to talk to her about how PCOS can affect us as we grow up.

PCOS affects our self-perception so negatively. This is because, in this society, women are forced into looking “feminine”; no body hair, excess weight, acne, etc., which is the exact opposite of PCOS symptoms.

First, Dr. Kaloyeros stated that from what she’s seen she believes that in Lebanese communities an unmarried girl visiting a gynecologist for a consultation can be problematic. Because of this many women are left undiagnosed, which later can cause serious health problems. This proves that holding onto a stigma is harmful and we need awareness to rid ourselves of that.

Second, she stated that girls who start showing symptoms at a young age are more prone to bullying, because as she explains we live in a culture in which girls have to be “girly enough”, and are not allowed outside of that binary. Third, she highlights that these symptoms show up at a really critical time in a girl’s development. During puberty, girls are already struggling with “growth, sexuality, and identity and trying to process all these changes and suddenly he has to deal with undesirable symptoms like hair and acne.” This can shake her self-image and make her doubt herself. This certainly has an impact on self-esteem and self-confidence.

Both of these points prove again that the sexist culture we live in complicates dealing with PCOS and hurts young girls who have it.

Finally, Dr. Kaloyeros agreed that awareness is vital, “as it creates a more receptive and educated community that is able to understand what the girl is going through”.
Complicity is
Tags: Culture Change, Oppression, Racism, Veganism, Sexism

easy, avoiding collusion with the operations of oppression is much more difficult (especially in this culture which is founded on systems of oppression).

And…avoidance of complicity isn’t made easier by our tendency (culturally conditioned?) to presume that if we know something about one form oppression then we know all we need to know about all forms of oppression.

Not true.

White feminism is a “thing”, white veganism is a “thing”, the former is where folks who identify as feminist…and attempt to resist sexism and in the latter case who identify as vegan and attempt to resist animal exploitation…each can (and often do) easily end up supporting and engaging in racism in their quest to resist the particular manifestation of oppression they’ve chosen to focus on.

Why? Because they don’t know much of anything about race/racism but think they do because they may know a little about sexism or about harm to animals. The culture has conditioned them (us) to think they (we) do as a way to subvert effective resistance.

We, humans who’ve been conditioned by U.S. culture, are so easy to flimflam it’s not even a chore…we are lousy at thinking coherently about the structures and operations of oppression and our deficits exhibit the effectiveness of our cultural conditioning.

Ya gotta do the work and we have centuries of not doing the work (reading, thinking, listening, learning) to overcome. Luckily, there are tons of resources out there for those who are willing to learn…and if you aren’t willing to learn…well…shut up and follow the lead of those who are oppressed and/or those who are doing the work.
No World For Girls
By: Kat Morris
Tags: Sexism, Poetry, Poetry On Medium, Childhood, Animation

I grew up on cartoons where men fought over women

Where “no” was a funny answer from a prudish woman

And to try again, despite a declined invitation

Was bold and courageous, not offensive and dangerous

I grew up watching Penelope Pussycat squirm within the arms of Pepé Le Pew

Not knowing it was a warning, a sign of things to come

I watched Princess Peach being kidnapped by Bowser time and again

She was a possession, property, nothing more than an object of affection

Not a woman, not human

Human

What does that mean to men who drew cartoons for children?

What does “woman” mean to men who laughed at early animation

And watched Bluto claim Olive Oyl like a prize

Artists watched women scream and men guffaw with smiles on their faces

Wanting little boys to idolize Johnny Bravo as he flexed his muscles

Whilst he leered over women and shouted, “Whoa, momma!”

There is no safe place for women in old cartoons

Princesses are cast into sleeping beauties, cursed until true love’s first kiss

Men think it’s iconic to make girls believe their worth is purely measured by Men finding them desirable

And will only be free of spells and curses if a man loves them so

This is not a plea to male animators and writers of cartoons

This is for all the young girls who grew up believing that men were heroes

And girls are an afterthought, damsels in distress

Where are the cartoons that depict real life?

Give me ghosts, witches, goblins, and magic

Give me glass slippers, dragons, and brave knights

But as they remove their helmets, let me see the long flowing hair of heroines

Show me the truth — mirror mirror on the wall

Where are the worlds for little girls?

For as long as I can recall

It is little girls who have been the bravest of them all
What is it with men — some men?. Emma Austin wrote, in her column ‘Love…
By: Aidan Magellan Gabriel Moore
Tags: Slut Shaming, Respect Women, Sexism

Emma Austin wrote, in her column ‘Love Emma’

‘You Can Call Me a Slut — But Only if You Respect Me

It’s the only time it doesn’t feel like an insult

I told one guy to never call me a slut while working hard for the other one to use that exact word with me. Because it’s not the word that bothers me. It’s the way it’s used and who uses it that matters.’

This is my reply.

It was always a mystery to me why many men disrespect a woman who gives them what they constantly ask her, even pester her, for and spend a lot of energy persuading, pressuring and even coercing her for. The term ‘slut’ is one of the words used disrespectfully.

She may even be called ‘a prostitute’ which is a word for a woman who earns her living using her most valued and sought-after asset, female beauty, which is not long lasting anyhow and may well go to waste.

I can’t recall that men disparage those who provide them with the other things they need, like food, drink, meat, clothing, hair care. Do these men sneer at the barista who brings them a morning coffee? Do they sneer at the grocer, the butcher, the waiter, the tailor or haberdasher, the barber who sells them the other things they need? Do they have contemptuous terms for them?

The community I live in discourages this disrespect and those working girls who supply sexual services to men are called ‘sex workers’ and respected. Their work-places are regulated and legislation protects them from abuse and wage-theft.

Just grow up, guys, and try to behave in an adult fashion, like mature men!
DISAPPEARING ACTS: WHERE ARE WE WHEN IT IS TIME TO PROTECT BLACK WOMEN?
By: J Hall
Tags: Racism, Sexism, Protect Black Women, Misogyny, Black Women

DISAPPEARING ACTS: WHERE ARE WE WHEN IT IS TIME TO PROTECT BLACK WOMEN? J Hall ·Nov 10, 2020

The sexist overtones toward Black women blend with the same rhetorical frustrations of White America and create a false equivalency. The present, yet silent, Black man ignores…

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J Hall is a Detroit-bred Howard Bison multimedia culture critic. An abstract thinker who believes “You ain’t wrong when you’re right,” and that his mother’s cupcakes are legendary. Check out his slight worldwide view here: https://linktr.ee/jhall.
I ALMOST clicked on this this morning and then I thought of this article.
By: Anne Emerick
Tags: Kamala Harris, Hillary Clinton, Women, Sexism, Politics

Image Snipped from morning online news

I ALMOST clicked on this this morning and then I thought of this article.

To women everywhere — I invite you to stop taking the bait.

p.s. This was on CNN.com
2020年11月9日 アメリカの現実⑪「21世紀の風ー女性を取り巻くダブルスタンダードが徐々に消えてゆく」
By: Hisami Ohshiba
Tags: Kamala Harris, コロナ禍, Sexism, パンデミック, Double Standard

Co-Founder and Managing Member, JaM Japan Marketing, A US-Japan marketing & business consultancy based in the San Francisco Bay Area
There’s a Simple Answer for How To Get More Men Into ‘Pink Collar’ Jobs
By: Agents Of Change
Tags: Discrimination, Life, Equality, Sexism, Gender

There’s a Simple Answer for How To Get More Men Into ‘Pink Collar’ Jobs

By Lynn Beisner

“How do we recruit boys into female-dominated professions?” This question, asked by Harriet Swain of The Guardian, is very easily answered, yet still important:

Earlier this month, the government repeated its commitment to encouraging more women into science in a response to the latest Science and Technology Committee report on the issue. But much less support exists for a group under-represented across higher education as a whole, and in certain subjects chronically so — men. Figures from the Universities and Colleges Admissions Service (Ucas) (pdf) show that another 20,000 men would be needed to redress the gender imbalance among nursing students, around 7,000 in education, and 10,000 each in psychology and social work. This is within the context of far higher numbers of women entering higher education generally; they are now as likely to enter as men are to even apply.

Well, the answer is sadly simple: You raise the salaries.

The reason that so-called pink-collared jobs remain populated by women is that these jobs are typically low-paying, not what a person could expect to raise a family on.

We have seen over and over again that as soon as women move into a field, the salaries drop. We became teachers, and salaries dropped below the living wage for a family. We became professors, and suddenly everything went adjunct and we can no longer earn a living at that. Even the salaries of doctors, now that women are populating that field, have dropped.

The converse is also true. When nurses started being paid better, we saw an influx of male students. According to my observations — and trust me, I spend way too much time around medical professionals these days -we are approaching gender parity already for men entering the field. Swain’s complaints ring hollow if one spends any amount of time in a high-quality, and therefore high-paying, medical facility.

These could be considered coincidences, but when you see how often a downturn or upturn in salary coincides with gender dominance in a field, coincidences become little more than theoretical. My sociologist friends tell me that my hunch is borne out by multiple studies that show exactly this.

We know how to solve the immediate problem of recruiting men into female-dominated workplaces. Now let’s focus on the real problem: How do we create a society in which all employees are valued and paid a living wage?

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This story was previously published on The Good Men Project.

About Lynn Beisner

Lynn Beisner writes about family, social justice issues and the craziness of daily life. Her work has been featured in The Guardian, Altnernet, The Good Men Project and in Role Reboot where she was a contributing writer. Her articles and ideas have been discussed internationally and in forums as diverse as MSNBC, The Young Turks, BBC and USA Today. To protect her family, she has been writing under this pseudonym since 2011.
Consider This Silicone Face Mask For The Perfect First Date
By: Julia Knox
Tags: Satire In The Sheets, Satire, Sexism

These hacks are a nightmare, but at least you’ll have his approval before he kills you

Do you want to date and never be rejected? You’re not alone. Or, maybe you are, but it’s only because you haven’t learned these hot tips yet. Here are the ways that you can make him and his hidden bottle of cyanide want you, and only you.

Silicone Face Mask

Go a little overboard with FaceTune on Tinder? We’ve got you. Consider this silicone face mask for the first date. It’s light pink and girly, so he probably won’t even notice while he’s preparing some Rohypnol®.

New Face

Have you considered just saving yourself the trouble of filtering and makeup by getting a new face entirely? Why not consider a rubber mask to start? I heard this cute guy in the elevator, and I am pretty sure he doesn’t like girls with facial features. He was also carrying a sword and some rope, but that’s probably beside the point.

YouTuber BeautNute — https://youtu.be/Nbu-1Z6AuCI

Voicebox removal

What’s really more dangerous, having your voice removed, or contradicting him again? That’s what I thought.

Good luck out there! And remember, don’t mask your emotions, and always be yourself. Unless that self is unacceptable. Good luck!
Thank you.
Tags: American, Sexism

Thank you. I’m so upset about this case. There was another medium article about this where this guy was like “she was difficult”. Ha!

Like you know what else is difficult these days? Being a decent human being and apparently everyone defending a sociopathic murderer has way more difficulty with it than Shannan ever did. Universe rest her soul and that of her kids. I truly believe people of the US are becoming more immoral, sexist, racist, etc every single day. Jesus, Krishna, Allah whoever needs to help the human race because the day has come where people publicly defend a man who murdered kids in addition to his wife.
Do Not Judge Me By Beauty
By: Abigail Siegel
Tags: Poem, Poetry, Body Positive, Sexism

Titian, Public domain, via Wikimedia Commons

they say beauty is in the eye of the beholder

I will not be beholden

I will not stay so golden

that you can keep me as Venus’ unaging statue

immortal and dead

no weight or stone will be placed upon me

to be taken back again

with no reward to show for my burdens

I walk in whatever sludge is right

and not any to make my skin tight

my views tighter

I am for me

to walk or lie as long as I must

to feel as real as a petal fallen from a flower

to nourish its soil below
What about Stacy Abrams?
Tags: Mental Health, Social Media, Sexism, Politics, Misogyny

It looks like I will always be too fat for Democrats, and it’s not just because no high-profile Democrat looks like me.

What about Stacy Abrams? The brilliant woman who engineered the electoral coup in Georgia? Please don’t give up on the Democratic party. Both parties are fat-phobic. With the republicans, it’s just plain sexist, like when Trump called Rosie O’Donnell “fat-faced and ugly,” (and all his other insults). With the left, it’s more about sanctimonious, pseudo-concern about being “healthy,” I hope Cooper gets some blowback for his tone-deaf remark.
KARVA CHAUTH : SEXISM IN DISGUISE
By: Avni Mandloi
Tags: Sexism, Gender Equality, India, Karva Chauth

My viewpoint might infuriate some of you. Nevertheless, the truth remains intact, though BITTER.

Amidst all the campaigns of women empowerment, and long posts on the eighth of March, calling women goddess and symbol of power ,Indians have never failed to prove themselves hypocrites.

To all those who are unaware of what Karva Chauth is, It is a one day long festival celebrated by the Hindu women of the Indian subcontinent , where married women practice fasting from sunrise to moonrise , for the long lives of their husbands. The day witnesses women dressed up performing POOJA as per the Hindu rituals.

Similar to all the other sexist festivals with blurred background and irrelevant , rubbish mythological traditional stories, karva chauth too, yet again, depicts women as the ultimate flexible, ready-to-adjust, diffident,weaker and dependent gender. The gender with no image but a shadow.

Since time immemorial , our rituals ,more or less have depicted the existence of a woman for the sole purpose of serving her man. HIS safety, HIS well-being, HIS needs,HIS pleasure, HIS comfort. It was never about HER. The fact that a woman fasts for a day , for the well being of not her but her husband, triggers in us not a tinge of gender inequality, proving obviously, that we are used to the sexist atmosphere. “Sada saubhagyavati bhava” the default blessing to a married woman is not for her but her husband. “Long live your husband” , is what it means.

The smell of sexism was about to create a sensation in our noses, but was neutralized the very moment.Thanks to the rubbish Bollywood for glamourizing this garbage and presenting it in a way ,that even the very women fail to notice the significance and rather enjoy it. The very famous national daily ‘Dainik Bhaskar’ today, on karva chauth, says:

JAISE SURYA BHASKAR KA PRATEEK HAI , WAISE HI BINDI MAHILAO K MAATHE KA SURAJ HAI.

which means,

AS THE SUN IS THE MONO OF DAINIK BHASKAR, IN THE VERY SAME WAY A BINDI IS THE SUN OF A WOMAN’S FOREHEAD.

Well what are the consequences?

The young ones in your family, maybe your very own kids are growing in a very biased atmosphere. Do not expect your son to treat women with equality if this is what he is being shown. He is no fool to let these things not seep into him. Example has a more massive and deep impact than statement. So no matter what you tell him, it’s always what you DO, that shapes his mind and views. So WATCH OUT!

To all the ‘cool’ people who deep within are asking me to calm down, calling me a ‘Feminazi’, who is ready to cut throats for the slightest issue; Well, if pointing out the illogical practices in our society makes me that, IT’S MY UTMOST HONOUR.

Lastly, to the ones who have come this far( very few of you, I know) , let us all pledge to build a more responsible , equitable and wise society run by intellect, so that the coming generation is shaped well.

Shruti 🦋
Lake Island, Germany
By: What Liz Tweets
Tags: Lake Island, Germany

I am a nurse learning and writing about health,life’s pleasures and problems