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On Faith
Tags: Manifestation, Creating, Faith, Trust

I had a crisis of faith yesterday. It started with an inspiration to record and share healing meditations. In the process I ran into several technical challenges. What equipment to use? What recording software? How to edit it? How to add music etc? Finally feeling satisfied about my creation. I moved on to sharing it. What was the best format? How do I add a picture? Where will it be hosted? Will anyone listen to it? At each step there were challenges and delays landing me in familiar feelings of fear, disappointment, despair and frustration. In exhaustion I complained to a friend that I was having a crisis of faith. My understanding of faith has been that it has something to do with believing in an outcome or a certain future. As the outcome that I was hoping for seemed to be pushed further away from my initial vision of sharing a gift of healing, the despair deepened.

This morning it occurred to me that faith has absolutely nothing to do with future outcomes and everything to do with trusting what is happening right NOW. Smack dab in the mess of holding a vision and not yet being able to share it. Trusting that when the time is right for it to be shared, I will have the knowledge, skills, support, or whatever I need to share it. Faith is about trusting the NOW, as uncomfortable as it may be, while still trusting that in the fullness of time, what I want to create will be created in the best way possible. This is has nothing to do with the future, it is me wanting NOW to be different.

Some days I feel like I am standing with a foot in two different worlds while trying to keep my mind and heart balanced in the middle. The future that I am creating is beautiful and I often make the mistake of judging what has already been created, otherwise known as NOW as less worthy than the glamorous future. Loving what has been created and loving the vision of what has yet to be made manifest in equal measure right here in the present is what I am coming to understand as faith. It is all about trusting my NOW.
T R U S T ❤
By: Sakshi Patel
Tags: Faith, First Post, Beginning Writer, Love, Trust

Yaah Trust!! It’s very small word of five letter’s but plays the biggest role in our life… I trust you… it’s easy to hear but difficult to do.. When you trust on someone it means you believe in him. You allowed him to stop you when you are on wrong path, when you are doing something wrong… Let me share the story of two love bird’s..

Yes!! Let’s have a love story..

( SHEVEER❤ // Part- I)

Hairs were coming on her eyes.. It was a light breeze, blue sky, birds are flying and the romantic music was on the way… actually she is in the wedding… she stay there for 3 days.. There was a boy!! Who love her.. 24 hours he want her in front of his eye’s.. He want to marry her!! But the thing his he was scared of losing her.. They don’t even talked yet but the feelings he have was pure.. You know the love at first sight 😍!! He is in love.. But he didn’t tell to her because he thinks if I proposed her and if she says no then what I will do.. He always want to know the way through he get connect with her wherever that is social media, call or sms anything… she saty there for 3days but on 4th day she left.. He was feeling so sad.. But then he get the notification of follow request.. You know who’s request was that.. That was the request of that girl.. He at the moment just accept her request and messaged:-

He:- hello❤

She:- hey..!!🌻

He:- kesi ho?

She:- thik hu.. Aap kese ho?

He:- mein bhi thik hu…

She:- kkrh?

He:- nothing and you?

She:- nthng…

He:- accha

She:- hnn!!🙂

He:- vese aap bhot jldi chle gye?🤔

She:- haan thoda kaam aagya tha isliye jaana pda..

He:- accha… vese aap dance bhot accha krti ho…☺🥰

She:- ohh!! Thank you..😊😍

He:- your welcome☺

In the same way they continue…

After somedays he said…

He:- I want you to be my Queen👑.. Will you be my queen?

She:- its just your attraction… not the love…

He:- I am in true love with you. I sure!!

She:- will you wait for me?

He:- means?

She:- you love me.. Right? I think it’s just your attraction.. I will stop talking to you till 14 February.. If you love me you will wait for me and if it’s just your attraction you will ignore me.. You will not wait for me… okeh?

He:- you want to take my love test?

She:- yaah!! May be..

He:- okeh.. If I have to give the test I will… I will wait for you… today it’s 16 December.. And yaah don’t worry about anything just keep smiling… I love your smile.. 🥰!!

Take care of yourself!! ❤
How Much Better Would Your Relationship be if You Could Read Your Partner’s Mind?
By: The Good Men Project
Tags: Communication, Advice, Relationships, Love, Trust

Paul Ekman and Wallace V. Friesen spent eighteen years studying facial expression and body movement and wrote a book about their research called Unmasking the Face. Their research can help you “improve your recognition of facial clues” and “increase your ability to detect facial deceit.” In other words, you can improve your ability to identify how someone is feeling, even when they’re trying to hide it.

For example, two of my children have very different “tells” when they’re lying, but because I know my children, I can recognize their lies almost every time. The first child is naturally structured and disciplined. He only lies when feeling cornered, but he always feels fearful when lying, because he’s been taught that it’s wrong. His face stays relatively neutral and doesn’t register extreme feelings, but if I’m looking closely, his eyes always give him away. They never fail to get slightly tight and open a little too wide.

My second child is more of a free spirit who tells stories to amuse himself, and others. For him, the truth is more flexible, open to interpretation; and he feels no fear or ethical dilemma about lying. His face also stays relatively neutral. But if I’m looking closely, his eyes, and sometimes his mouth, give him away as well. The inner corner of one eyebrow will lift slightly in amusement, sometimes accompanied by a subtle twitch in the corner of his mouth.

I’ve found these skills are especially useful for identifying when someone is hurt because it’s common for people to try to hide hurt. By recognizing when someone is hurt and trying to hide it, you can tenderly address their injured feelings before they become angry — -which is often the result of suppressed hurt. It’s much easier to nurture a relationship when someone is hurt than when they are angry.

With this in mind, a brief primer might be helpful. Depending on the circumstances, hurt will usually manifest as a combination of fear, surprise and/or sadness. The evidence of these feelings can be replaced quickly by anger so it’s important to pay close attention.

FEAR

When someone is afraid, their “eyebrows appear raised and drawn together; the eyes are open [wide] and the lower lid is tensed; and the lips are stretched back.”

SURPRISE

When someone feels afraid, their “eyebrows are raised, the eyes are opened wide, and the jaw drops open, parting the lips.”

SADNESS

When someone feels sad, the “inner corners of the eyebrows are raised and may be drawn together. The inner corner of the upper eyelid is drawn up and the lower eyelid may appear raised. The corners of the lips are drawn down, or the lips appear to tremble.”
Love is Patient, Love is Kind, Love is Scary
By: Tiffany Hsu
Tags: Marriage, Dating, Relationships, Love, Trust

Your endorphins are high, serotonin is running rampant, and oxytocin is overtaking your actions. You’re giving your vulnerabilities and opening up your heart to someone who was once a stranger.

You are in love.

Love is one of the best feelings you can ever experience. It’s a feeling or an experience that we continuously sought after. For no rhyme or reason, we crave it.

Love is innate, and we need it.

When you’re in love, it feels like nothing can bring you down. You have a person who will always hold you up and be your foundation. Everything will be alright.

Until your endorphins level out, your serotonin is coming to a peaceful walk, and your oxytocin is enabling you to take control. You’re more vulnerable than you once were to someone who was once a stranger.

Are you still in love?

Love is now one of the scariest feelings you can ever experience. You start to feel comfortable. Nothing is new. You still crave it, but you start doubting.
My husband revealed he has a child from a previous relationship. What do I do?
Tags: Marriage, Advice Column, Relationships, Family, Trust

By Julia Naftulin

My husband of 15 years just revealed he has a child from a previous relationship, and that the child was born 15 to 20 years ago. I have five kids with him.

I’m not sure if my husband is lying about how recently he found out about this child. My gut tells me he knew all along and hid it from me for years.

I don’t know which way to turn. Should I stay with him, or should I go?

33, Alabama

Dear Alabama,

Considering the bombshell news your husband dropped, it’s normal to question the future of your relationship.

The fact you’re most fixated on whether or not your husband lied about his knowledge of his child speaks volumes to your dynamic with your husband, New York City-based therapist Kelly Scott told me.

“I would imagine that if this is where her head went upon learning this news, that she probably already had some doubts about the relationship before even learning about this kid,” Scott told me.

That doesn’t necessarily mean your husband isn’t worthy of your trust, or that you can never trust him again. It does mean, however, that you have some thinking to do about why you may have had trouble trusting him in the first place.

According to Scott, you need to figure out how much your lack of trust for your partner stems from his previous actions, and how much it comes from your tendency to be distrustful of others.

A therapist can offer an objective perspective and help you gauge this, said Scott, but if you don’t have the resources to see a professional, a trusted friend who doesn’t have an agenda regarding your relationship status could also help.

Once you investigate your relationship dynamic a bit more, you’ll have more clarity on whether it’s one that can be repaired, or one you need to move on from. There isn’t a right or wrong choice here and only you can decide if you husband’s news is a deal breaker for you.

If you decide the overarching trust issues are something that can be improved, you should figure out how to talk with your children about their once-secret sibling since this news affects them too, even if they don’t know it yet.

Scott suggested enlisting a therapist who specializes in working with children to talk through the new family dynamic you and your kids might have in store.

As Insider’s resident sex and relationships reporter, Julia Naftulin is here to answer all of your questions about dating, love, and doing it — no question is too weird or taboo. Julia regularly consults a panel of health experts including relationship therapists, gynecologists, and urologists to get science-backed answers to your burning questions, with a personal twist.

Have a question? Fill out this anonymous form. All questions will be published anonymously.

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How brand reputation is important and should not be overlooked.
Tags: Branding, Art, Online Business, Reputation, Trust

How brand reputation is important and should not be overlooked.

Whether you have a personal brand or a business brand. The reputation of that brand is important.

“A good name is to be chosen rather than great riches, loving favor rather than silver and gold.”

People spend a lifetime building their livelihood and stake their name on something they believe in. If leaders of something you associate yourself with fail and you associate yourself with that organization or brand and they set you up to fail then I would question what they are really all about.

We live in a free market where everyone has or should have an opportunity to sell their goods or services not the elite few who have an advantage and take advantage of everyone else. Giving no-one else the opportunity but their small tight circle which all falls conveniently under their brand.

Furthermore they use their platform to manipulate people. So what actually is spoken is done not out of service or actually helping but creating more competition between them and anyone they view as a threat.

Something has gone amiss that cannot be redeemed with easy forgiveness now lets carry on like it never happened but to address seriously the loss of values, integrity, boundaries, respect, privacy from oversharing and what a healthy community should be about and be like.This is not a ‘humbling experience’ but causes a lot of distrust and questions why are the foundations so moral less.

So protect your reputation, being vulnerable doesn’t include a distasteful expos’e of every rumor true or false that comes to light committed for the world to hear. Its more damaging than anything else, not just to the people involved but everyone associated with ‘the brand’.

If this has given you food for thought then make sure you follow, applaud and recommend this article.
Do you even know how true these words are???!!!???
By: David L. Swedlow
Tags: Surrender, Grace, Trust

Do you even know how true these words are???!!!??? I mean, I *suspect* you do (since you wrote it. But, really, does anyone, can anyone trust that trust comes while grieving? And then isn’t it obvious that it couldn’t possibly be any other way.
On the 10th Day of Christmas…
By: Stephanie Alleman
Tags: Estate Planning, Christmas, Trust, Family, Peace Of Mind

On the 10th Day of Christmas my true love sent to me….10 estate planning documents!

Let’s set the stage. This adorable couple is nestled by a fire near the Christmas tree, and they’re reading through their estate planning binder and just got to the part where they held their children’s share in trust (meaning not outright) until the kids turn 70. Cue tons of laughter because won’t the kids be shocked when they can’t get their inheritance outright for a very long while!

I’m joking. But it has happened before… In any event, there are many different estate planning documents that can be in your estate planning toolbox. Here are a list of 10 estate planning documents to have:

Financial Power of Attorney Health Care Power of Attorney HIPAA Authorization Advance Directive for Health Care Personal Property Memorandum Assignment of Personal Property Pour-Over Will Memorandum of Trust Trust Transfer documents for your assets!

All 10 of these documents can make up a well-rounded estate plan. Each serves a different purpose and helps you out in a unique way. We have articles going over the above documents in detail, but the gift of estate planning this year and these documents can fill your heart with joy and peace of mind, just like Christmas.

One of the best things to hear as an estate planning attorney is that we brought peace of mind to a client, and they can go about their life knowing they have a plan in place. Those who know this feeling are trying to protect themselves and their family from going through any additional heartache that can result by not having a plan.

New Years resolution for 2021 — Get an Estate Plan!

Happy Holidays!

Alleman Law Firm (405) 252–0472
After He Leaves You for Another Woman, Will You Still Have Sex With Your Husband?
By: Roz Warren
Tags: Sex, Infidelity, Relationships, Trust, Cheating

After He Leaves You for Another Woman, Will You Still Have Sex With Your Husband?

Photo by Sabina Tone on Unsplash

I belong to a support group for women whose marriages broke up after their husbands or boyfriends cheated on them.

We were recently Zooming, and one of us mentioned that she and her soon-to-be-ex husband had just had sex. He’d stopped by to pick up some stuff he’d left in the basement — and they’d ended up in bed together.

“It’s not cheating,” she said. “After all, we’re still married.”

Most of the group agreed. Even if your ex -husband is now living with the woman he left you for, you’re still married, which means that he’s still the one person who by law you are totally allowed to get down with.

And several members of the group admitted they’d done just that.

Why?

“He’s a jerk — but he’s still good in bed.”

“Even after he divorces me and marries her, I’ll probably still have sex with him. Don’t get mad, get even.”

“Our sex life is actually a lot better now that he’s married to her. Go figure.”

Not all of us have have had sex with our exes. But all of us did think that the Other Woman’s belief that infidelity couldn’t possibly happen to her was hilarious.

“He left his marriage for her,” scoffed one member of the group, “and now she’s convinced that he’ll never cheat? Where is her brain?”

None of us felt that it was our responsibility to make sure our former sweetie remained faithful to the babe who used to be his side chick. And if Mr. Infidelity still knows how to push all your buttons in bed?

Why not go for it?

In a perfect world, of course, you’d throw the cheater out, move on and never look back. But, just in case you hadn’t noticed, this isn’t a perfect world. You continue to move in the same circles. Or live in the same small town. Your paths are going to cross and re-cross. Especially if you have kids.

And? The illicit thrill your partner once got from sneaking around now attaches to you. Suddenly, you’re sexy forbidden goods. That can be quite a turn-on.

Plus? Revenge sex is sweet. The emotional satisfaction of putting one over on the woman you blame for wrecking your relationship is undeniable. That, plus a big fat orgasm? (Or two?) What’s not to love?

All I’m saying is that if you were an affair partner, and now you think you’re in a monogamous relationship with the person who left their marriage for you?

I’d think twice.
The 12 Days of Christmas — Estate Planning Edition
By: Stephanie Alleman
Tags: Estate Planning, Christmas, Elderlaw, Probate, Trust

The 12 Days of Christmas — Estate Planning Edition

Welcome to the Alleman Law blog, where we are big supports of the holidays! So much, in fact, that we’re going to bring you our version of The 12 Days of Christmas song, estate planning style. Please enjoy!

On the 12th day of Christmas my true love sent to me, 12 laughing heirs!

If you don’t have an estate plan that says who you want your assets to go to, the state chooses who gets your stuff. There’s a family tree the state chose and it branches out until it finds someone still alive to be your "heir-at-law" or if there are a handful on that level then “heirs-at-law.” For some people who don’t have close relatives, this means that someone who you’ve never met - say a cousin four times removed or a great, great, great nephew - could get your assets.

They're called laughing heirs because they received a windfall and don't have to mourn the loss of someone they never knew, and they laugh their way to the bank to deposit their check. You can prevent this from happening by having a validly drawn up and signed Will or Trust that says exactly who you want to get your assets!

While laughing heirs is one of the funnier concepts we learn about in law school, it isn’t so funny when it happens to you, and all the assets you worked for your entire life go to someone you never knew. So don’t let this happen to you. Call us at (405) 252–0472 or email hello@elderlawokc.com to start planning!
Spiritual Message from the Sun
Tags: Surrender, Astrology, Tammeron, Spirituality, Trust

Spiritual Message from the Sun

Use more holistic modalities to support your emotional well being during this intense solar eclipse energy

When you try to suppress your emotions or pretend they don't exist, it might result in physical symptoms

Such as exhaustion

But you can combat low energy by changing the emotional vibration of your home

Try experimenting with essential oils to lift your spirits

My personal blend I am using right now is a combination of Frankincense, Myrrh and Wintergreen

Together these 3 can offer a powerful sense of safety and trust as we surrender into a sense of darkness

Prepare yourself as we move through the week ahead

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Trust and how to get it.
By: Dick Martin
Tags: Leadership, Public Relations, Trust, Communications

George Shultz turns 100 today. He celebrated with an op ed in the Washington Post.

Shultz has been U.S. secretary of labor, treasury, and state. And looking back on his life and career, he says he discovered that “Trust is the coin of the realm.”

“When trust was in the room, whatever room that was — the family room, the schoolroom, the locker room, the office room, the government room or the military room — good things happened. When trust was not in the room, good things did not happen. Everything else is details.”

Shultz identified 10 lessons he learned in acquiring and nurturing trust. Three have special application for public relations people.

Genuine empathy is essential in establishing solid, trusting relationships. Telling a story helps make your case in a way no abstraction can: A story builds an emotional bond, and emotional bonds build trust. The best leaders trust their followers with the truth, and their followers trust them back.

Trust me, he’s right.
Trusting the Process
By: Ani Vidrine
Tags: Christianity, Advent, Clarity, Trust, Hope

Trusting the Process

photo by Anne Nygård on Unsplash.com

Love, prepare our way!

Dear One,

I am writing to remind you of things you already know. When you feel lost and confused, like you are wandering around in a hopeless wilderness, know that you are not alone. Love goes before you and with you in every season of your life.

The confusion of the wilderness is known by the voice in your head that questions your every move, doubts the motives of others, and distracts you from Truth. As you listen to the voice of Love, those ideas that inspire faith and hope, you will be guided into the field of clarity where you embody the fullness of who you are in Love. You can trust the process, for Love is making straight your path.

Remember, this moment is an opportunity to connect to Love, and therefore, to live into the fullness of who you are.

As always, do what best awakens you to love,

Your Inner Wisdom
Intuition Saved My Life. And Is Now My Compass.
By: Karin Weiser
Tags: Lifehacks, Compass, Inner Critic, Intuition, Trust

Why is it important to listen? It might just save your life.

I’ll never forget the one defining moment when I learnt to listen to my gut feeling and believe in more than meets the eye.

I was a student at the University of East Anglia in Norwich, UK. Thursday night was the big social night of the week for students. There was a live disco on campus, affectionately known as the LCR (large common room). You could get in for next to nothing and dance your feet sore until 1 am. If you lived off campus, your transport was either a shared taxi or bike ride home.

Norwich is cycle friendly, with bike lanes (rare in other UK cities back in the 90s) especially to and from campus. I cycled and found myself cycling home alone. Not unusual as most of my friends didn’t cycle. And not unsafe for a short ride through a sleepy residential area. The streets were lit and there were no lonely roads to navigate.

Norwich is flat, but like all cities which are supposed to be flat, you encounter small hills and dips when on a bike. One of these hills could be found near my shared-flat. A side road crossed a main road leading into town. All traffic on this side road was obligated to stop, look both ways, and then safely continue. It was the early hours of the morning. There was no one around. Not even another car. I was tired. I wanted to get to bed. I dared myself to pick up speed, not stop and get momentum to manage the final hill before I reached my flat.

I turned my ear to listen for traffic. Nothing. It was safe. I peddled faster and faster. And looked forward to this rare occasion when I could speed up hill. As I approached the stop line in the road, something made me break. I had to break hard and fell off my bike, although unhurt.

Suddenly a black taxi whooshed passed in the dead of the night. Followed by complete silence.

I started to shake as I realized what had happened. I dared not think about the consequence had I not stopped.

A newspaper headline flashed before me, ‘perfect collision in the dead of the night.’

That something had saved my life. I remember looking up to the sky with tears in my eyes and said a silent ‘thank you.’ From that moment on, I knew I wasn’t alone. I call that something intuition today. I don’t question it when something doesn’t feel right. I respect it. It’s supported me in big as well as little decision making. It’s made me feel safe during my backpacking days when there were no mobile phones or internet connection.

I have total respect for feelings, silent whispers and irrational thoughts. And I use them as my compass to navigate life. When you live an intuitive life, it seeps into your daily habits. I practice intuitive eating and listen to those cravings for salmon, spinach and eggs my body asks for. I practice yoga intuitively and try to take inspired action without judgment. However, odd the feeling is.
Foolish Games.
By: Kira Dawn
Tags: Singing, Music, Love, Trust, Friendship

I did a video for Foolish Games by Jewel. You would think we were having some like love affair and shit. Really we are just out of control!!! So this is the best I can do Madam Preeeeeeeeeeeeeet…if you can figure it out you’re welcome to put it on love!!! Love you bestie!!!
Distilling facts on the “Vaccine Debate”​ — Should employers and governments make vaccines mandatory?
By: Abhijit Bose
Tags: Humanity, Coronavirus, Vaccines, Trust, Business

At the center stage of this debate is the question: Do we trust Pharma, Politicians, Employers and Our own ability to make good decisions for all sans biases greed, fear etc.?

Disclosure: I have no answers only facts.

Forces like money making and politics will be at play and at stake is the individual life and our global community well-being, but how do we decide as a society what is right? Question for all of us as individuals and businesses.

First Precedence: Liberty Regulated by Law

In 1905, the Supreme Court ruled against a pastor, Henning Jacobson, who had sued the state of Massachusetts for requiring residents to take a vaccine after an outbreak of smallpox. “Real liberty for all could not exist under the operation of a principle which recognizes the right of each individual person to use his own, whether in respect of his person or his property, regardless of the injury that may be done to others,” the court ruled. “It is, then, liberty regulated by law.”

Second: Bodily Right — Fundamental to all

“Bodily autonomy with regard to medical intervention is a personal choice and not something to be forced onto people by businesses.”

Third: Then there is story like VIOXX and estimated half a million lives lost prematurely

Disclosure: I had a role to play with digitization of the clinical trial records for FDA approval of VIOXX, still as an individual carry the burden of a decision I was distantly involved with.

VIOXX: The drug that after many years of trials was released in the year 2000, was very successful, but then came “The Downfall”. Merck removed one of the world’s best-selling painkillers from the market in 2004 after a study showed VIOXX caused an increased risk of serious cardiovascular events, such as stroke and heart attack.”.

Fourth: The fastest vaccine ever created

In 1963, a star researcher at the pharmaceutical company Merck took a swab of his own daughter’s throat to begin cultivating a weakened form of the mumps virus. And just four years later, in record time, Merck licensed Mumpsvax as the world’s first effective vaccine against this common and contagious childhood illness.

Whatever we decide? Hope it is the best outcome for the humanity. Life will be lost either way. Wish we had a better answer!

Share what do you think?
On Trust and Interdependence : A Reflection on Embracing Emergence
By: Irene Bantigue
Tags: Adrienne Maree Brown, Social Innovation, Baltimore, Emergent Strategy, Trust

When I meditate, I often mentally transport back to the shores of Assateague Island where I camped overnight with my family last year. The universe spoiled us that evening by offering a clear view of an expansive star-speckled sky. Having lived in major cities all my life, my sense of interconnectedness with nature, our world and my own, heightened in those moments. And since then, I’ve strived to recreate the sense of awe I felt from the mystery and possibility existing beyond what I could see.

adrienne maree brown’s Emergent Strategy: Shaping Change, Changing Worlds first came into my orbit earlier this year. The title surfaced multiple times in conversations at work and via references in other books. A principle I follow is that if something or someone is repeatedly presenting itself in my life, it means there is a lesson waiting for me to learn. So, this past May, I bought the book after Michelle Geiss, Impact Hub’s Executive Director, mentioned in a team meeting that she had finally delved into it too.

I passed my copy onto Sam Novak, Impact Hub’s Community Manager, before I could fully engage with the chapters that guide readers in exploring elements of emergence in their lives. While I intended on revisiting these sections, I did not define the timeline. I now know that leaving this intention open-ended was for the best: it created space for the universe to bring the opportunity to me. And it came in the form of a possibility — a leadership retreat led by my workplace — that I would not have otherwise imagined for myself.*

I share this story because during the leadership retreat, conversations around trusting ourselves, others, and the process resonated with me the most.** Being immersed in Lake Roland’s nature reminded me that cultivation and care are vital nutrients as these relationships grow. And that even the trees surrounding us, as grand and commanding as they were now, did not come into being overnight.
I’m sorry you lost your friends.
By: Ellane W
Tags: Life, Parenting, Relationships, Family, Trust

I’m sorry you lost your friends.

Years ago I decided that I would not lend anything I was not willing to say goodbye to. Books, money, clothing, whatever; in my mind it is theirs as soon as it leaves my hands. This way there are no hard feelings.

There are exceptions: if I let you look after my house or I lend you my car, I’ll fight to get them back. And if I trust you enough to let you look after my children, please remember that your life is on the line.
Build Trust in Your Relationships
By: Patricia Rosa
Tags: Ethics, Productivity, Relationships, Work, Trust

I used to broker freight for a mobile tool show. We had shows that moved daily, twice a week, or weekly depending on the market they were in.

They would set up the show, conduct the sale then pack up and move to the next town. My job was to arrange the transportation to move the show to the next location.

I built a relationship with two brokers over time. When we agreed on terms, they would start the process with their driver. Many times we had a verbal agreement, and we trusted each other. I would follow up with a signed order later.

We built this over time, following up our promises with actions. You have to work hard to earn someone’s trust, and even harder to keep.
Trusting yourself gives you a lot of power back
By: Claudia Lee
Tags: Self Improvement, Intuition, Life Lessons, Trust, Self-awareness

“The more disciplined your environment is, the less discipline you need to be, don’t swim upstream”- James Clear

(Source: Instagram, @elena.masci_illustrations)

There are so many pieces of life advice that are contradicting, but one that I struggle with most is choosing between spending time with people you love whose values and lifestyles you may not resonate with, and spending time with those that inspire you to be better.

I am a believer of the fact that ’you become the average of the top 5 people you surround yourself with’. I believe that whom you spend your time with matters.

The question that arises is, what if some people make you happy, but there are some values they have which don’t resonate with you, or they prefer not to take risks and are happy to settle for what they have? As a person who treasures my relationships, I don’t believe in ending a relationship based on the mere fact that the person does not have similar values and goals.

Though I am still figuring out how reconcile these two values, I always tell myself to listen to my intuition. There are some people whom, you know may not influence you positively in terms of lifestyle, who nonetheless make you feel valued and happy. It’s about knowing how to draw the line, and also trusting yourself. Trusting that you are responsible for your own actions and lifestyle.

Trusting yourself gives you a lot of power back. When you trust yourself, you don’t need to only spend time with everyone who resonates with your values, because you know that even when you spend time with those who don’t, you still have the internal motivation and discipline to stay grounded and driven, regardless of how others live their lives.
That time I felt overwhelmed when someone trusted me & how to cope with negative fellows
By: Laura Papavero
Tags: Negativity, Positive Thinking, Negative Thoughts, Trust, Smiling

I was used to hearing only complaints about me. Every single thing I did or said was a reason to blame me, and I basically grew up this way (and still sometimes I have to hear such things…). However, I took these nice compliments and remarks and I transformed them into fuel for myself. Indeed, I discovered that discouraging people actually motivate me to do and be my best. It feels so good to see the disappointment in the eyes of those who never trusted my capacities.

This year, before my graduation exam, I was very nervous. As the due date was approaching, I was more and more stressed. Someone kept encouraging me and I discovered that I felt overwhelmed about it, because they trusted me. If no one trusts you, then you cannot disappoint anyone. If someone believes you can do it, but you don’t reach your goal, you may disappoint that person. I was well prepared and I passed the exam, obtaining my degree, but I acknowledged that it was the first time during my 30-year-old life that I experienced this feeling.

On one hand, this made me think about how my approach to negativity and negative people has influenced me during my life. On the other, I changed this approach to enchance my own thoughts. One thing I can surely suggest if someone is struggling because of demotivating people, is really to convert the negative remarks in your own power. Shrug your shoulders and live your life as you want, as you dream, and show them how happy and successful you are. Smiling and ignoring the disheartening ones is the best choice to take away their pathetic and pessimistic power on you. Your success, your happiness, will become someone’s else disappointment. This is actually very sad, because people who look for others’ unhappiness in order to console themselves are just frustrated human beings who cannot cope with their lives. So, instead of improving their own existence, they enjoy when others face difficulties, trying to put themselves in a good light. Spoiler: you only look even more miserable when you put someone down.

To my reader(s): have you ever felt you are fighting against the world? Was it really the whole world or “just” your fellows? How did you cope with it? Any suggestions or life experiences are welcome!
Are you a challenging employee?
By: Angela Sheahan
Tags: Reason, Employee Experience, Trust, Self-awareness, Integrity

And three reasons why that’s not a bad thing.

Photo by Unsplash

Has your boss ever gotten *that tone* with you for pushing back on things you don’t agree with?

Do you ask a lot of specific and detailed questions about your assigned tasks?

Do you have a history of reworking projects with major blind spots?

If you answered yes to any of those questions, I have some news for you. You are a challenging employee. Before you stop reading, let me tell you that you are the best type of challenging.
Trust between organisations and Government
By: Eric Sutherland
Tags: Rfp, Government, Rfi, Trust, Business

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The Importance of Community
By: Kirstin Van As
Tags: Mastermind Group, Relationships, Community, Play, Trust

Ubuntu is part of a Zulu phrase and literally means: “I am, because you are.” A mother can only be a mother because of the child and a child can only be a child because of the mom.

To me, that’s the truth behind any relationship, regardless of the type.

Due to the size that this project has evolved into, I cannot take it on alone anymore. I’m going to have to join forces with some of my closest friends/family and form a solid mastermind. The term “mastermind” as described in Napoleon Hill’s book: The Law of Success, goes: “…a mastermind may be created wherever men blend their minds in a spirit of perfect harmony, with some DEFINITE objective in view.”

At the moment, I am busy recruiting my team. I want to present to each of them the opportunity to climb up the ladder to success with me. It will be up to them whether they accept the invitation or not. I do not want any one of them to do it because they have to. They should all be there because they want to. That’s the only way I know that they will give their all when the tough gets going, and the going gets tough! And we should all enjoy it along the way! I believe my work environment should have an element of playfulness to it otherwise I become too serious. I noticed I lose interest as soon as I feel the pressure that I HAVE TO do something. I don’t ‘have to’ anything. I want to be happy, and that’s the end of it.

To ensure success in my business relations I want to create a win-win situation with each and every individual. I want to make sure that their expectations and goals in their own field of expertise are met and fully taken care of. I want them to know that I’m not asking them to become an affiliate with me simply for my own benefit, but for OUR benefit. I cannot rise to the top alone! It’s going to be pretty damn lonely up there! Haha… They need to come with me!

Also, I thrive off of stimulating conversations of any kind. And having a group of colleagues around me whom I can engage with in interesting topics, just adds to the enjoyment of my work! Maybe I should start replacing the word “work” with the word “play” right here, right now. Yes! I’m going back to kindergarten. I am going back to my child-like self and I’m just going to meet up with all my favourite friends and we’re going to talk about all our favourite things and we’re going to play together! We’re going to dream and draw and debate and brainstorm and build sandcastles in the sandpit! Haha… don’t worry, I’ll act like I’m a grown-up too. I’ll just play the game…

I’ve already started this recruitment process and so far it’s going great! It’s super important WHO I choose because the key principle I need from each individual is trust. If there’s a solid foundation of trust and honesty, everything else can be overcome!

Yayyyyy! This makes me SUPER EXCITED! I can’t wait to tell them all about my plans!

What are your key principles when it comes to forming solid relationships? Comment below with your answers!
3 Songs that bring out my daddy issues
By: Carla Cook
Tags: Personal Development, Music, Daddy Issues, Playlist, Trust

Whether your a female or male, you are never exempt from having daddy issues.

World sucks. You have a problem with trusting too easily. Having a long list of breakups and makeups and allowing mediocre companionships, ring a bell?

I have a playlist for you.

Daddy Issues by The Neighbourhood

I am honestly in love with this group. Their voices give me somewhat of a “ If the Weeknd was in a band” vibe, which would be pretty crazy. The chorus a long just cries out to that “childhood trauma” part of you.

Go ahead and cry, little girl / Nobody does it like you do /I know how much it matters to you / I know that you got daddy issues /And if you were my little girl /I’d do whatever I could do /I’d run away and hide with you /I love that you got daddy issues /And I do too

The guy with the neck tattoo is the definition of daddy material, Zaddy material I mean.

So this next song is very much for the 90’s Disney channel fans, remember Lindsay Lohan “Parent Trap” and “Freaky Friday”

In the early 2000s, 2005 to be specific, she came out with a jewel.

Confessions of a Broken Heart (Daughter to Father)

I catch myself crying to this song a lot. It’s just one of those songs that hit heavy without really needing to try. There’s a specific verse that I play over and over whenever I’m thinking back at my past.

Daughter to father, daughter to father /Tell me the truth, did you ever love me’ /Cause these are, these are /The confessions of a broken heart, of a broken heart /I love you /I love you /I love you /I, I love you

You can probably remember the second to last, heart-wrenching “I love you”.

Wow, I should have ended with that one. Tough song to follow. Well when all else fails, bring in The Weeknd without the -e. I remember reading an article explaining The Weeknd perfectly.

haunted strip club vibes

Call out my name by the Weeknd

This song can be taken in so many different contexts. Most would think this song is just about .. well you know.. but I don’t see it like that. The Weeknd poured his heart into this song.

I put you on top, I put you on top

I claimed you so proud and openly

And when times were rough, when times were rough

I made sure I held you close to me

Words like these just speak to your abandonment issues, huh?

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Look at the trust that the bird comes back.
By: Dr. Preeti Singh
Tags: Trust

Inside my chest the redbird sings,

it flies more often now,

but it always comes

back,

He asks to roam, can’t deny him

slack.

I loosened the chains gave him room,

and red bird’s a glori…
Trust is a Big Part of Life
By: Floyd Mori
Tags: Life, Honesty, People, Trust, Integrity

Trust is a Big Part of Life

Photo by Joshua Hoehne on Unsplash

We should be trustworthy and have integrity

You may have heard people say, “You can’t trust anyone.” While that may be true to some extent, it is absolutely necessary that we trust. It is a big part of life. We have no choice but to trust people whether we like it or not. They don’t always earn or deserve our trust, but we need to place our trust in people on a regular basis. We just need to be careful who we trust.

When you take your car to a mechanic for a repair, you have to trust that they will be able to figure out what is wrong and that they won’t charge you an arm and a leg for the repair bill. If you buy or sell a car, you need to trust the person on the other end of the deal. It may not always work out well, but you have no choice but to place your trust in other people.

If you write a book and send it to publishers for their consideration, you have to trust that they will treat you well and not steal your material. If you get a book published, you have to trust that they will pay you for the books they sell. There is no way for you to really know exactly what is going on with the sales of your book. You have to trust that they will be fair and honest with you.

Going out to dinner in a restaurant is a matter of trust. You have to believe that you will be served good food which has been cooked in a sanitary and safe manner. You have to trust them that you are being given a fair price for your meal.

When you order something online or by phone, you have to have trust in the other person that you will not get cheated. You place your trust in others when you provide your personal information and credit card numbers.

Luckily, most people are trustworthy when they are doing business deals or providing services. Unfortunately, that is not true of everyone. That is why we need to be careful who we trust. If there are clues that a person or establishment is not trustworthy, we can avoid them and take our business elsewhere.

We know there will always be some dishonest people in the world who will cheat and lie. We cannot trust them, but we should be able to trust ourselves. We need to live our lives so that we can be trustworthy. There are many people in the world that we can trust.

Trust is something that we all need. We cannot exist in this world without trust.
Introducing COTI’s Global Trust System (GTS) for Bitcoin
Tags: Blockchain, Technology, Bitcoin, Cryptocurrency, Trust

We are pleased to announce the launch of COTI’s Global Trust System (GTS) for the Bitcoin network. The GTS is available via a web interface, an API, and soon also via Chainlink’s oracle and smart contract framework. The first release of GTS, for the Bitcoin network, enables users and other blockchain services to analyse BTC wallet addresses and identify malicious parties before transacting with them, introducing a layer of trust to the Bitcoin network that has previously not existed.

Trust Scores and Trust Nodes form an essential part of the COTI Trustchain. The Trustchain is designed to create a trustworthy operating environment for both consumers and merchants alike, one of the key components considered essential for the widespread adoption of cryptocurrencies. By creating the GTS and expanding our Trust score technology to other networks, any blockchain service, infrastructure, or chain will now be able to leverage efficient behavioral tracking to maintain trust scores and risk indicators for all network addresses and the consumers and merchants who access them.

The GTS engine is customized for each service, infrastructure, or chain, as each faces varying levels of risk, technicality complexity, and process flow. Past the Bitcoin network, we will also be expanding this service out to the Ethereum and Cardano networks in the future.

Trust Scores on COTI are calculating a number of factors, including, but not limited to -

Number of successful transactions

Number of transactions attempted or made that do not adhere to the network’s rules (with no obvious fraudulent intentions)

Number of possible attempts to double-spend/defraud. Actions like this must be critically dealt with to prevent a participant from perpetually building up a high trust score only to attempt defrauding other participants. There should either be a permanent and significant reduction in the participant’s Trust Score, or an extremely slow increase in the Trust Score.

Frequency of network use. We cannot expect ordinary users to use the network with the same frequency as merchants, so the user type is taken into account.

User type — the wide range of possible users impacts the trust score awarded to each user type and classification.

Network centrality

We’ve previously written about the GTS in great detail as it forms a critical part of our Universal Payment Solution (UPS) infrastructure.

How to use GTS via the Web?

Visit https://coti.io/trust

Insert BTC wallet address to analyze and click on “Check”: