You Are the Creator of Your Happiness
By: Darshak Rana
Tags: Self, Happiness, Spirituality, Letters, Self Improvement

SPIRITUALITY | NEWSLETTER

You Are the Creator of Your Happiness

Spiritual Secret #13

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Dear Spiritual Souls,

Can you believe it’s December — The last month of 2020!

We are just 30 days away from ushering into 2021. Last month I celebrated my birthday, thinking more about the past year that has taught me many life lessons.

While thinking more about the experiences I had endured, the more I wanted to hold onto this year. I did not want this year to slip away from my life so easily.

This year has taught me many life lessons and the importance of spirituality in our lives. More importantly, it has taught me to create my happiness.

I have understood and realized that happiness is neither a myth nor a far fetched achievement. I developed and practiced some belief systems that I would hold onto for my entire life.

I am sharing here some of my belief systems that changed my perspective towards life and happiness:

Happiness is not dependent on physical entities . Objects, possessions, gadgets are designed to give us comfort, not happiness. Once we learn the art to live without it, we can experience sublime happiness irrespective of our situations and material possessions. So, we need to stop correlating happiness with comforts.

. Objects, possessions, gadgets are designed to give us comfort, not happiness. Once we learn the art to live without it, we can experience sublime happiness irrespective of our situations and material possessions. So, we need to stop correlating happiness with comforts. Physical comfort is different from emotional comfort. One can have a lavish bungalow and luxurious car yet be stressed and sad.

Happiness is an emotional feeling . Happiness is our internal creation and can be created irrespective of external comforts.

. Happiness is our internal creation and can be created irrespective of external comforts. Happiness is not based on achievement.

Lanu Pitan: Happiness is a journey.

Happiness is a state of being created while working towards the goal, not a feeling to be experienced after achieving it.

Happiness is a stable state of mind irrespective of situations, and hence happiness is our strength.

My response must be based on my personality(understanding), not based on others’ behavior or predispositions.

Happiness can not be shared until I feel it. If I am not happy with myself, I can’t spread it. It is like wearing a perfume of happiness. If I remain cheerful and happy, automatically, my surroundings will benefit from me. Conversely, if I am sad and gloomy, I can’t make others happy no matter what.

I have no control over people’s behavior, and I must never aim to achieve that. It’s like trying to catch shadows.

No one is responsible for my hurt and pain. No one can insult me without my permission. It’s the consequence of my past Karma. But how I react to it now would determine the consequence in the future.

We always have a choice; respond or react. Reacting means answering without considering its consequences(it always brings sorrow and pain). Responding means understanding and answering after weighing the pros and cons of it. (It’s likely to bring happiness and peace and mind)

Changing the mindset is the solution to most of the problems in our life. We need to stop assuming, blaming, criticizing, complaining, etc. Instead, we must start accepting, thanking, loving without expectations, understanding, etc.

Thus, I have created a happy lifestyle in 2020 by following these beliefs in my life. And trust me, you may find it difficult to follow initially. Once your mind has been trained to think that way, the result is a happy life. This is why our next prompt is based on the mind.

Please share your learnings and experiences from this year as we might not have this chance to think about this precious time.

On that note, see you all next Tender Tuesday. Till then, stay happy, safe, healthy, spiritually sound, and keep sharing your spiritual secrets.

Om Shanti!

(I am a Peaceful Soul)

Warmest Regards,

Darshak Rana