Three Genius Tips From Porn Stars on How to Deliver the Ultimate Blow Job
By: Matilda Swinney
Tags: Humor, This Happened To Me, Sexuality, Pornography, Sex

Three Genius Tips From Porn Stars on How to Deliver the Ultimate Blow Job

The best advice I have ever received

My first boyfriend loved to watch porn. He was always watching porn. When he wasn’t watching porn, he was reading magazines. And when he wasn’t reading, he was talking about it. You get the picture.

I was 17 and had never seen any porn. I was eager to see what all the fuss was about. Plus, I wanted to share his interests as his girlfriend.

And I never regretted that decision. As we sat on the edge of my boyfriend’s bed with the volume down low, I was fascinated. And over the next few years, no matter how much porn we watched, it always held a big fascination for me.

I knew how turned on porn made my boyfriend, so I paid close attention to what the stars were doing. Hopefully, I would learn something. The most impressive thing I saw was always blowjobs. There were three main lessons to learn.

Suck it like it’s the best thing on earth

When delivering a blowjob imagine a whole chocolate magnum or the new cookies and cream one. Basically, visualize your ultimate favorite lolly and lick and suck passionately. The porn stars I watched never stopped making appreciative noises and delighted moans. Boy, did they look like they were having the best time ever. They sucked up and down like they’d been given their favorite treat. The enthusiastic eye contact and delighted noises gave me so much pleasure just to watch.

And I guess there’s nothing better than someone appearing to truly love what they’re doing. Passion is super sexy. I mean, who would want a half-hearted attempt at fingering? Imagine looking down and see your partner yawn mid-finger. It certainly wouldn’t be hot.

Don’t be scared of dribbles, gagging or mess

I was surprised to see the amount of mess a blowjob made. I thought it would be essential for the porn stars to keep their immaculate faces perfect. They looked so glamorous to me, I didn’t think smudged mascara and salvia dripping out of their perfect lipsticked mouth would be hot. But, guess what? It was.

It turns out guys love a messy blowjob. Cosmopolitan spoke to porn superstar Chanel Preston, who defined a messy blow job as “one which uses a lot of spit.” She also said, “Some people are afraid to use a lot of spit because it feels messy, but there is something very sexy about getting all messy and gross during sex.”

So, there we have it. Get messy. Use lots of saliva and enthusiasm. And if you don’t have lots of saliva, Cosmopolitan advise plenty of water beforehand. And if you don’t have enthusiasm? Consider canceling the blowjob and having fun elsewhere.

Get hands on

I’ll always remember the day my boyfriend asked me to use my hands during a blowjob. I had never given anyone else a blowjob before him, so I was still new to the concept. I felt totally offended when he asked me to try using my hands. Especially, when he mentioned his favorite porn star did it. I had been basically writing notes. But, I must have missed that specific scene.

Pushing my feeling aside, I let my boyfriend show me what he meant. He wanted me to basically do a blowjob and a hand job at the same time. So, this may seem like the most basic piece of advice ever but for me, it was mind-blowing.

I’m not the most coordinated person, so it took a while for me to master it, but as soon as I did, it was gold dust. To this day, it is still the best technical sex tip I have received and has totally transformed my blowjobs.

Plus, when the mouth gets tired the blowjob can become a hand job for a while. Then when the mouth is ready to go again, off it goes, working in tandem with the trusty hand.

So, my exploration into porn taught me three golden blowjob rules — the messier the better, get passionate and always use your hands. These three rules have stayed with me from age 17 to 28 and proven to be excellent tips I can really rely on. I hope they’ll prove just as useful in your blowjob journey.