As A Woman, I Am Tired Of Being Torn Down
By: Angela Welch
Tags: Self-awareness, Womanhood, Women, Self, Empowerment

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As A Woman, I Am Tired Of Being Torn Down!

Let’s lift each other up, and not bash each other.

There are so many things people disagree on everyday. Everyone is entitled to their own opinion.

Can’t we just be kind to each other? Why do people feel the need to shame others? It’s not like everyone is always going around asking for an opinion, so why must we shove our opinions down someone else’s throat?

A lot of the shame is women on women. I think as women we should stand together, help each other up, and not beat each other down. We are all fighting our own battles. I think it is time that we all come together to make the world a better place.

The world is bad enough as it is.

Men and women can be friends!

This one is really annoying to me. I have had male friends in the past and just because I am a woman does not mean we have slept together or we are going to. It does not mean we are in love, and it does not mean I have any desire to be with him.

I can’t tell you how many times a woman has called me or sent me a Facebook message about their boyfriend, husband, or whatever.

This gets really old, especially when you’re trying to build a career and you’re actively growing your network.

Yes, I am friends with your husband on Facebook. Why are you cursing me out because he liked three of my posts? How old are we? Or even better, Do you realize I live on the other side of the country? How big do you think his penis is? Does it reach that far? I didn’t think so!

I should not be shamed for my choices as a mother

I have three kids. I should not be told that my son was too old to still be breastfeeding.

In fact, you should not have anything to say about me breastfeeding or formula feeding. You should trust that I, as a mother, will make the best possible decision for all of my kids.

Women, in public or not, should not be shamed for the way they choose to feed their kids. It is none of your business. If you do not like it, don’t look.

I formula fed my oldest two and I breastfed my youngest.

When you formula feed your kids it’s bad because breast is best, but when you breastfeed your kids it’s gross and you need to cover up. No matter what people are going to have something to say.

Yes, I stay at home with my kids. I am doing this as a choice. It should not matter if I work or not. I do not have to go get a “real" job to make you happy. You are not the one paying my bills.

I hate that women who stay at home get shamed for not bringing money into the home and women who do work get shamed for not spending enough time with their kids and for not taking care of their home.

Is it your house? Do you live there? Why does it matter anyway?

I should not be shamed for what I wear.

I am old enough to know as a woman, if you wear certain things you will get a certain kind of attention.

They say you are asking for it. How am I asking for it by being comfortable in my own skin?

I know as a woman, we are expected to look a certain way. Don’t gain weight. Wear this makeup to look prettier or younger or wear this to make you look thinner.

I do not wear makeup as a choice. I get shamed for that too. People say I do not get ready enough and I need to try harder.

I bet if I tried harder and wore makeup someone would accuse me off trying to sleep with their significant other.

I was sexually assaulted in high school on a regular basis. I was told not to wear this or that. I wore sweat pants and hoodies damn near everyday and it still happened. Did they ever do anything to the boys? No, they did not. It is just not right.

I am very cautious about what I wear now, not because of men but for the simple fact that I have a teenage daughter. I make a point to wear clothes that reasonably cover me.

I don’t want her to think it’s okay for some men to act like they do, but I do want her to stay safe and dress appropriately at the same time.

I don’t do anything in public that I wouldn’t want her to do.

I am trying to lead by example.

I should not have to shame my daughter for what she wears.

Why is it that the girl’s dress code at my daughter’s school is two pages long, while the boy’s dress code is only one, maybe two paragraph(s)?

Why do I have to tell her that if you wear this they might think you are asking for it, like it’s a free pass to mistreat you or touch you?

On what planet is this okay? I should not have to fear for my daughter every day.

In conclusion

I understand that everyone is entitled to their own opinion. I just wish the opinion was not geared toward each other as much.

Why do we have to be against each other? Isn’t the world negative enough as it is?

We should be lifting each other up as a whole. I’m not just talking about men, or just talking about women, but everyone needs to do their part to make the world a better place.