Why can’t we agree to disagree?
By: Deepa Gupta
Tags: Support, Life, Disagreement, Relationships, Love

Namaste everyone,

In our day to day lives,we have a lot of disagreements with people around us, be it our closed ones also but that noway means that we hate them as well..This thing or I should say thought is not as simple as it appears..

We usually mix disagreements with hate and disrespect or sometimes even disregard for each other...but the thing is ,

If I like red and you like blue...It noway indicates that blue is a bad color and I should start to hate you ,because you donot like what I like..This simple thought helped me identify a major reason that acted as a deterrent in relationships...

As partners or as any two individuals it is a 100% possibility that our point of views can not fully match..We will agree on somethings and disagree on others..We actually fail to respect or even recognize each other's opinions and try to force our's onto them...This forceful behaviour can last for sometime...but its not healthy,it's not legitimate.. It is in fact disrespectful and even sometimes disturbing for one of the partner and he or she starts feeling underconfident and insecure because their opinion doesnot matter and even if they gather courage to express it ,It results in a rift or a bad fight or quarrel between the two individuals...

It is the trait of some dominating individuals that they want their opinion only to matter without even giving slightest regard to what their partners feel and want to say..

To agree on each other's disagreements is not that difficult, if we respect and trust each other completely..It is but obvious that one person's insecurities regarding disagreements on a particular thing results in a quarrel or I should say some kind of rift between the two individuals...

Dear readers,I personally feel we should give full freedom to our partners to express themselves fully.. so that we very well know what is exactly going on in their heads and how exactly they are feelings..What is our partner's view on a particular thing that affects our lives is definitely important..So how can we ignore it or even disregard it...One important point here is that if we are giving enough space to our partner's point of view and respect it ,the same behaviour is also expected from them as well...Because in relationships everything is mutual...The responsibility of the past ,present and future of a relationship lies on the shoulders of both the individuals and noway on any one of them...

I have seen a different side of many people in relationships, because usually people fail to acknowledge or understand other person's feelings and fears...

Dear readers,Why can't we act as support system for our partners or for that matter everybody we come in contact with..

Always give enough space for even your naturally introvert or under confident partner to flourish.. Act as a positive support,be real and respectful....With unconditional support and love, you can definitely make your some how weak partner do wonders and achieve his or her dream..Be a constant support system...This is what is expected...

The irresponsible behaviour of one of the partner be like

1.Taking the other for granted..

2. Misunderstanding the other all the time..

3. Disrespecting the other partner..

4. Occupying the personal space of the other forcefully..

5. Giving zero or very very little importance to other's point of view..

6. Prioritising yourself on your partner..

7. Giving high importance to your career and goals and giving negligible importance to your partner's ambitions and regarding them as useless..

8. Not trusting your partner..

9. Not asking for your partner's choice or opinion or like or dislike..

10. Taking decisions that affect both the partners without other's consent and sometimes even knowledge..

11. Forcing your superiority on the other in terms of finances,looks or any other stupid reason..

12. Using your partner as a ladder for growth instead of a support system and even failing to recognize and acknowledge..

13. Making fun of the weaknesses of your partner publicly instead of correcting him or her privately..

All the above mentioned acts of one of the partner result in resentment and in my personal opinion a kind of emotional abuse people do to their partners..

Dear readers,Please accept your partners with their weaknesses and strengths..Create enough space for both of the partners to flourish and prosper in a relationship..Disagreements on things can not or I should say must not be the reason of a failed relationship.. Disagreements are point of views..They are not judgements for parting ways..Opinion of both the partners should be equally valued..then only a healthy relationship can survive the ups and downs of life..This is actually the only way out for the prosperity and mental well being of both the partners and for the success of the relationship as a whole..Think about it..🤔😊💞