5 Kinds of “Friends” You Need to Cut Out Your Life for 2021| Girls Talk
By: Danielle Watson
Tags: New Year, 2021, New Year Resolution, Girl Talk, Friends

1. The Follow Fashion Friend

I’m Jamaican, so excuse the terms I use aka “follow fashion” which in other words is someone who exhibits “monkey see, monkey do” behavior.

This person is like the unnecessary shadow that you know you have, but want to forget. This friend doesn't seem to have a mind of their own but instead wants to share the same mind as you. It doesn't help either because sometimes you feel like you don't know how to tell them you need space. Boundaries are very essential to maintaining a healthy friendship or relationship, period! So friends like this can be extremely toxic because they want your undivided attention and seem bothered if any of your free time doesn't go to them, but that's not always the case. So if this isn't a friend you want to lose, just kindly remind them that there is a world of opportunity waiting for them to grasp it and that you're not the “everything that they need”.

2. The Doubter a.k.a. Negative Nancy

This friend thrives on reminding you that the glass is half empty instead of full. Maybe it's because they don't like the idea of seeing you shine and win or maybe they're literally just a shitty person, but anyway if you don't have anyone supportive on your team … get a new team! And trust me these toxic friends rather stay around you just to say “I told you so” and no one needs a snake in the grass who prays on your downfall. So go tell negative nancy to hit stage left and remind them that the bottom is too crowded anyway.

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3. The Shady Friend

This is probably the one friend that you have to watch out for the most, they try and take your insecurities and turn them into a joke, which obviously puts you in an uncomfortable position. They go hand to hand with Friend # 5, they try and use things that you don't favor as a way to try and make you second guess the love and confidence you have for yourself. This friend probably has deep-rooted jealousy towards you and knows how to tick all of your nerves to cause a meltdown. If you find yourself in a friendship, don't let them get the best of you — even if they are don't show it! They like #2 thrive on seeing you doubt your own self and capabilities. In 2021, we cancel all evil eyes and negative tongues and return them back to the sender.

4. The Nosey/ Big Mouth Friend

N ow, this friend one has caused me to reevaluate each and every one of my friends I have to this day. This friend triggered me and actually made me start writing in my journals and having my personal “Reflection Sunday’s” as a way to release my thoughts without having to vent to anyone

This friend doesn't just want to know your personal business, they want to spread it. Some people genuinely enter your life to have all the juicy details so when its the right time they get to dish it out, I’ve had my fair share and one to many to know that this friend will be the death on you — not literally of course. This friend somehow makes it possible for your business to end up at the lunch table before you can even get a word out and they somehow don't see a problem with it. Ever heard the saying “your friend shouldn't know my know my business?” Yea, neither have I, but I guess common sense isn't so common to this friend. Once you spot these clues you need to reroute and head on out, don't even give this friend the chance to talk excuses into your head — some things are better left unsaid.

5. The Selfish/ One Up You Friend

Now lastly, but certainly not least the most toxic friend right under #3. This friend will definitely tell you not to get something just for the sole purpose of one-up you and say they got it first. They like to be the first one to have something just have some sort of power of saying they got it first, this first was never raised on the proper morals of being a genuine friend they think that competing is the key to a successful friendship. At times when an opportunity arises, they will pass on sharing information with you because they want to rise on their own. And keep in mind that there is no “I” in the team and when you leave to reach the top you’ll get lonely if you decide to shit on everyone in the process.