Extract number 2 from my upcoming book.
By: Alif Mada
Tags: Spiritual Growth, Spirituality, Creativity, Psychology, Mind

Extract number 2 from my upcoming book.

(Procrastinating to hit the gym)

INDIVIDUALISM

According to Dr.Google:

INDIVIDUALISM is the habit of principle of being independent and self-reliant. It also involves the right of an individual to freedom and self-realization. Indivisualism has-been used as a term denoting the quality of being an individual.

Let’s take a dig at understanding the correlation between reliance, gratification and modesty or the lack of pride.

We get obsessed with something when we admire that thing for too long. It all begins with that one thought and our imagination helps us to create the entire picture. You don’t need to be a geek or a library person to have a strong vocabulary bank regarding something that you admire. For example the ancient Arabs had many words for Arabian horses. A sweet lover can assume it like going to the Candy Shop. The sweets around capture your imagination. You start day dreaming about your dream delights. Well this push is made intense by the marketing strategy of placing expensive delights at places where your eyes can easily reach. Just like this we humans tend to build an imaginative view of ourselves. It is an explanation of the phrase “get off your high horse ”.It is a false perception people have of themselves. It’s about the battle between your real self and the imaginative self. Our real self might be an introvert,shy,timid and vulnerable person but our imaginative self is loud, aggressive and outspoken.

Needless to say an idea comes into existence after a thought strikes out mind. These imaginative images convince a person to completely transform themselves when they are in the public eye. You start moulding yourself according to the channels the environment provides you. You develop an artificial version of yourself.

This inturn causes your real self to starve. The soul feels trapped in the body. The soul starts choking. The reason being that the real side of an individual does register the difference between right and wrong and what is senseless or what makes sense. It knows where its internal light is pointing at. But this emotionally sensitive side is told not to speak. Instead the fake version tells you to do what shall make you likeable amongst others.

We try to feel comfortable in uncomfortable scenarios. This is all done just for the perception of others. You are constantly conscious of the human eyes looking at you. You just become a person with flesh and bones who lives only to maintain a version that others would appreciate. These people cannot accept the truth. Wait! Can these people not accept the nature of truth? Yes, because truth by it’s very nature is a difficult pill to swallow. It always makes someone uncomfortable. Yet it remains to be solid like steel. Nothing can make the truth bend. By decoding the DNA of truth it now becomes easy to understand that why were messengers of God humiliated. The notion is a very simple one. People oppress those who don’t want to gel in with the go with the flow mentality. But truth needs no words to be supported. It remains highlighted no matter how much people hate it.

So basically the goal is to challenge the notion of living for the love of the people. You basically turn into a robot with the controls given to others with your consent. You can thing of becoming a puppet with strings with someone else.

What happens when you starve for too long. The acid in our stomach starts eating up the digestive lining. If this starvation is not treated then it results into an ulcer. Similarly the traits and characteristics belonging to us start getting digested away. The soul needs to be fed like the body. This life full of pretence has led us to falsely perceive he way we act in the public sphere. If someone praises us we need to know the difference in being grateful or to give away our heart in return. We have started renting our heart at a very cheap price. These emotions cause a chain reaction. It just yields one fake response after another. People become the pinnacle of our lives.

Another example would be of palm trees. One of the most beautiful trees in the world are the palm trees. But inorder to check out the quality of dates you have to climb up the tree. Sometimes the tree looks incredibly good but it’s actually dead. You just find dry leaves and no dates at all. No matter how attractive a jar looks from the outside if there are cracks and spider webs inside then it is of no use. Pottery utensils looks very attractive but in reality pottery is the most brittle material. It smashes into pieces easily. This phenomenon turns out to be true for humans too.

People who tend to chose this type of attitude for life are hollow within themselves. These people are wearing a disguise and they are inflating their fake side constantly. These people look impressive outwardly but are insecure internally. Ever noticed why people always surrounded by their peers often are alone when a calamity hits them? This is because when a situation arises,their union disappears. Don’t judge people but do gauge them. Don’t become amongst people who have turned into such people who are dead within or those who are seen around such people.

Happiness is an emotion that needs to be felt and not just shown. We need to abstain from these fake social media lives. Shallow and material things should not be the aim. We need to broaden our understanding and start having a rich and meaningful conversation. This is a powerful reminder.

The life of pretence has a pulling effect. We must be sure that our placement is in the no field zone so that we aren’t sucked by this huge magnet. So how do we get fuel for the soul? How should be fill in the hollow pit. It can only be done by creating a need to be loved by Allah. This kind of love needs to be earned. Feel the need to be loved by Allah. Just be InTouch with your own heart and it won’t let you go astray. In the end, always remember that these self-help theories are for our own improvement and not for identifying faults in others.