Does Pegging Make You Gay?
By: Stephen Uba
Tags: Relationships, Sexuality, Sex, Self, Men

Modern Sex

Does Pegging Make You Gay?

Demystifying butt sex for the heterosexuals who still struggle to understand.

Pegging is a sexual position involving a woman wearing a dildo strapped around her waist and penetrating the butt hole of a man in the doggy-style position.

Pegging is quite unorthodox and its practice is not popularly understood. One can have progressive conversations about sex, but still be skeptical about its progressive practice. Understanding ourselves, our bodies, and our partners, is key to narrowing down how we choose to explore in the bedroom.

The 21st century has brought about sexual freedom and led to progressive conversations around sex. The very nature of sex is now open to more interpretation, and intimacy is now fostered by healthy and consensual exploration between partners. So, let’s take a trip down the male G-spot to explore gay sex and pegging.

The male G-spot is a sensitive, walnut-sized gland in the prostrate, behind the penis, and it contains tons of nerve endings, making it a perfect target for mind-blowing orgasms.

Laurie Mintz, Ph.D., author of Becoming Cliterate: Why Orgasm Equality Matters — and How to Get It, explains in her book, which popularized the female G-spot, that the clitoris is to the penis what the G-spot is to the prostate.

Fran Walfish, PsyD, a Beverly Hills-based family and relationship psychotherapist, explains that the male prostate contains many sensitive nerve endings that can provide intense pleasure and climax.

This goes to show that, just like the female G-spot, the male prostate is capable of mind-blowing, next-level orgasms if stimulated carefully and properly.

According to a 2011 study of 25,000 men who have sex with men published in the Journal of Sexual Medicine, less than 40 percent of respondents reported engaging in anal sex with their last sexual partner.

The hasty assumption that anal sex is what defines homosexuality in men, needs to change. Mutual masturbation and oral sex are also popular among gay men.

Having anal sex doesn’t necessarily make you gay. Being gay is more a result of who you choose to love, rather than what sexual fantasy you’re interested in.

Gay partners have sex almost the same way we all have sex, which is, the way we like it, how open we are to exploration and the level of consent between us and our partner.

Anal sex is the most universal sex there is. We all can practice and enjoy butt sex if and when we choose to. Yet, there are so many misconceptions about butt sex out there.

So many people like to highlight the ‘ew’ factor when it comes to anal sex, and they almost always tend to forget that our beautiful butts can be cleaned and there are easy ways to do it. Alicia Sinclair, CEO of luxury Sex Tech brands Le Wand, b-Vibe, and The Cowgirl, put it well in an interview she did with Bustle:

One of the great things about anal play is that folks of any gender and orientation can enjoy it, not just gay men (obviously). The sensations and experiences that feel good to you have nothing to do with your sexual orientation or gender. It’s kind of like how the food that you enjoy is a totally different question than who you want to have dinner with.

Religion and society continue to intensify the already magnified ignorance. Sometimes they foster outright hate by ‘sodomizing’ everything progressive about sex and our bodies. Other times, it could be subtle, like convincing the vast majority of us, for no reason, to see anything open-minded about sex and our bodies as ‘dirty acts’.

Society will keep getting it wrong and missing out on wonderful sexual experiences because it cares more about labeling others for their differences rather than understanding more about its naturally flawed state. Sexual fulfillment will keep being placed on a scale of moral superiority over others, instead of on true self-awareness and enlightenment.

Though being gay might open you up to practicing pegging and anal sex more than the average heterosexual, the practice of pegging is still no indicator to anyone’s same-sex status.

The practice of progressive sex acts — like pegging — not only gives you the opportunity to enjoy more pleasure but also sensitizes you on what your lady might enjoy.

According to a 2012 study published in the journal Sex Roles, clinging to traditional gender roles could make us feel less comfortable between the sheets. Dr. Charlie Glickman, a sexuality educator, found out that straight men who had tried pegging were more in tune with what their female partner needed from them during penetration.

Myths seem to be the mediocre conclusions about sex these days. Every mediocre wants to have an opinion about things they have never tried and so fall prey to myths.

Being gay is a myth a lot of heterosexuals still struggle to understand. Pegging is no different, and wrong assumptions will always be made about its practice.

The key here is understanding who you are, what you enjoy, what is factual, and how much you value your sexual pleasure.

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