Never Give Up — Is One Of The Most Cliché Advice To Discover Our Passion
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Never Give Up — Is One Of The Most Cliché Advice To Discover Our Passion

2 reasons why “Never Give Up” is the worst advice to follow while discovering your passion.

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How many times have you been told, “Never give up!” or “No one likes a quitter!”?

How many times have you heard inspirational stories — (These stories are all over the damn places on Facebook or Linkedin…) — that go something like this: “So-and-So faced countless setbacks, but you know what he kept fighting all along” or “Mrs. A had failed 100 times, but she never gave up on her career and look where she is now”?

I assume your answer would be along the lines of “Infinite times or More times than I can remember.”

NEVER GIVE UP!!

It’s probably one of the most cliché phrases you’ll hear as you’re building your career.

I’ve heard this phrase more than 5000 times — or maybe more than that — in my life up till now.

And there is this another one —

“Winners never quit and quitters never win” — Vince Lombardi

Excuse my brain while I vomit.

What Nonsense!!! — Are you freaking kidding me?

From childhood, we’re taught to persevere, to be patient, no matter what, but sometimes that patience— that unwillingness or inability to let go — prevent us from moving forward, finding happiness, adapting to every challenge that life throws our way.

Giving up does not always make you a bad person, or failure, or whatever evil thing you have been telling yourself.

Sometimes giving up means that you are mature enough to know when to cut your own losses and move on, that you have the bravery to protect your own mental health, that you’re willing to take the risk of changing course.

Last year in 2019, I started blogging, yep I started that. I started my blog named Lifestyle on blogger.com. I was very excited about that and I thought maybe this is what I really wanted to do.

But the problem was I don’t know what I want to write about.

So, I started writing about anything I feel like — blogs on skincare, life routine, life …not writing much by myself but copying-pasting another author’s materials(Hey, I was a beginner back then and you can’t blame me for plagiarizing).

Yeah so, I keep writing — but something was wrong, something just didn’t feel right.

I started having conflicting thoughts —

Why I am even doing this? What the hell is the point? Will it even be worth it or not?

But completing ignoring asking myself answer to the question — Is this is what I really want to do? — I keep trying, repeating to myself “Don’t give up. Don’t give up…” again and again and after some time when things didn’t work out after putting so much effort I freaking felt like a complete mess — a f*cked up mess.

So, I quit then and there.

I didn’t quit because I can’t do it.

I quit because I feel f*cked up — because I don’t know what exactly I was doing and why I was doing that.

It is the same with all of us we keep doing what we’re doing without even acknowledging the fact is this what we want to do.

The more times we read the “Never Give Up” phrase, the more the thought of — “We’ll not give up” — gets embedded deep inside our brain.

“Keep trying. Keep going.”

“Don’t stop. You can do this. Just try once more.”

“If you give up, then you’re a loser.”

We keep ignoring the need to ask ourselves — Why I am Doing What I am doing? or Is this what I want to do? — and just keep trying again and again despite how many times we fail, but we kept going.

Obviously, there is nothing wrong with trying again and again, it’s the mantra we all need to follow to reach the level of success but it’s only efficient when we are trying what we really want to do.

Are you really doing what you really want to do?

If yes, then no problem for you, and if no then there is a problem — a problem that will ruin your career.

Here are 2 reasons why “Never Give Up” is the cliché advice — to follow — while discovering your passion