17 Things That Drive Him Wild During Sex
By: Emma Austin
Tags: Sex, Relationships, Women, Men, Advice

It took me a long time to realize that it’s the little things that make sex really hot.

I was always worried that I wouldn’t be good at sex. That girls like me just didn’t have what it takes.

I imagined that all the hot and experienced women out there were using special techniques or had some amazing skills that were designed to blow a guy’s mind.

I didn’t have a clue what those were. I just knew I didn’t have them.

The more I thought about it, though, the more I realized it wasn’t skill and technique that really did it for me.

Yeah, a guy who knows how to eat pussy really well can make me come. A guy with great dicksterity and solid rhythm can put me over the edge multiple times.

But those aren’t the things that really turn me on.

It’s a confident smirk that gets me hot. It’s anything that shows he’s being attentive to my needs. It’s the groans of pleasure and anything that shows enthusiasm.

And the more I paid attention to what guys said about women, the more I realized it was the same thing for them.

Yes, they love it when a girl knows a thing or two about how to stroke a cock. They’re also pleasantly surprised when she has enough stamina to ride it long and hard.

But those aren’t the things that they notice the most.

What gets a guy’s attention and makes him want to fuck you even harder are a lot more subtle than that.

Even if you don’t think of yourself as sexy, even if you don’t think you’re skilled or experienced enough, you can create the hot little moments that will be swimming at the back of his mind all week.

If you’re playful, in the moment, and really into him there’s a good chance you’re already doing some of those sexy little things. But to give you a bit of inspiration, here are some of the small things that guys love in a big way.

1. Keeping Your Hands Busy When You’re Making Out

Kissing is underrated. It’s one of those things that couples tend to stop doing once they settle down. But it’s also a really good way to show your desire for each other — and turn a spark into full blown passion.

When you’re making out with your partner, it’s that desire you want to convey. You want to show that you’re not just going through the motions — you’re locking lips because you feel the urge to be close to them.

That’s where your hands come in.

Touching his chest, running your fingers through his hair, and pulling him closer to you while you’re making out will make him feel like you genuinely desire him, like you’re lost in the moment and he’s the only thing on your mind.

2. Talking Dirty

Guys love it when a girl shows her dirty side. And nothing does that better than letting out a few filthy phrases.

Tell him what you want to do to him — and what you want him to do to you. And be explicit.

Ask him to eat your pussy instead of just hinting at it.

Take his cock out of your mouth just long enough to tell him how much you love sucking it.

Tell him how you want him to fuck you — harder, deeper, faster.

It’s going to make you seem hornier. It’s going to make him feel like a stud. And you’re both going to have better sex because of it.

3. Sucking on His Finger

Sucking on his finger is one of those things that doesn’t seem like much but can really light him up.

It makes you look like you’ve got an eager mouth that’s craving to have something in it. There’s really no better way to create a lot of pre-blowjob anticipation.

It also slows things down and gives him a moment to picture how his cock would look between your lips.

The image of you sucking his finger is going to stay in his mind right up until the moment you pull down his underwear and suck him off.

4. Tugging His Hair While He’s Going Down on You

When he’s going down on you, he’s paying attention to more than just your pussy.

He’s listening out for signs that you’re really into it. He wants to know that he’s licking you exactly the way you want it.

Your moans are going to be a clue. The way you breathe, too. Maybe he’ll look up at your face a few times to see what kind of reaction he’s getting out of you.

And reaching down to touch him is one clear sign that you’re loving his tongue work.

Gripping his hair and gently tugging on it shows him that you can’t get enough of his mouth. It’s the perfect reward for all the pleasure he’s giving you.

5. Grinding Against His Mouth

Unless he’s into being more submissive, he probably won’t be into you full on facefucking him.

But a soft grind against his mouth shows how much you want him.

It makes it clear that you love the oral he’s giving you so much that you’re impatient for more. You want his mouth on your pussy without any interruption — and you’re willing to shuffle your hips to get it.

It’s also a physical reaction to pleasure. Your moans will show how hot his tongue is making you, but your moans combined with some horny squirming sends an even clearer message.

6. Praising Him

Technically, this is a subset of dirty talk. But it’s one of the hottest ones.

If he eats you out like he’s fucking starving and makes you come like crazy, tell him how amazing it was.

If he hits all the right spots when he’s fingering you, let him know you appreciate the expertise.

If watching him undress makes you flush with warm excitement, bite your lip and tell him how hot he is.

And if he fucks you into tomorrow, thank him for the incredible pounding he gave you.

Your appreciation will make him feel like a stud, every single time.

7. Blowing Him Enthusiastically

Women are kind of in a lucky spot. For the most part, we don’t have to think too much about blowjobs. Just taking his cock in your mouth is going please most guys.

But to earn your spot in his spank bank, you’ve got to blow him like you mean it.

There are a few different things that go into sucking cock enthusiastically.

One is being playful with it. Pretending his cock is a toy you’re using your mouth to play with is going to result in some really fun head for both of you.

Another is just your desire to make him moan, groan, and come. If you suck him off with the genuine goal of giving him as much pleasure as you can, you’re set.

And one of the single best things you can do is moan softly while his cock is in your mouth.

Letting those moans escape from your throat shows him that you’re not just sucking his cock as a favor. You’re not doing it just because he was kind enough to lick your pussy. You’re doing it because you want his cock in your mouth. You want to run your tongue along his head, you want to wrap your lips around his shaft, you want to bob your head on it.

8. Looking Up While Giving Head

This is one of those things that I never used to understand.

Guys absolutely fucking love it when a girl looks up at them while sucking their cock. But to me, it just seemed awkward.

And it absolutely can be. Staring into his eyes the whole time like you were starring in a gonzo porn video might get uncomfortable for both of you.

But looking up at him once in a while, giving him fleeting glances, or making eye contact while you’re stroking his cock to give your jaw a break are all incredibly hot.

The more I watched girls doing it in porn, the more I realized why that is. Looking up at him makes you look vulnerable and innocent, which is a fucking gorgeous contrast with the cock that’s in your mouth and the dirty things you’re doing to it.

So, be sure to give him a few glances. Remember that you’re not just doing it to look at his reactions (though that’s really fucking hot, too) — you’re doing it to give him a show.

9. Teasing His Cock

There are some guys who claim that they don’t give a fuck about anticipation. They want their dick in their lady and they’d rather not wait for it.

Either they’re the outliers or they have never been properly teased, because there’s nothing hotter than feeling your desires get stronger.

Go ahead and stroke his cock until your arm starts to get sore, suck him off like it’s your job. But be a bit of a tease first.

Rub his cock through his pants and then through his underwear. Watch him get harder and feel him getting stiff under your palm.

Slowly pull his underwear down. Let him take a few heavy breaths before you unleash his cock.

Trace your fingertips down his shaft, give the head some gentle kisses, admire it while you gently play with it.

Make him want it even more than he already did. And just when he’s about to lose it, give him exactly what he’s been waiting for.

10. Showing His Balls a Little Love

A lot of guys feel a bit self-conscious about their balls. It’s part of their whole package but it’s the one that rarely gets any love.

That’s why showing their balls a little action is such a big deal for them.

Every guy is different when it comes to their balls. Some of them love a firm tug and a little roughness. Some guys are too sensitive for anything but some light contact.

But unless you’re dealing with a guy who doesn’t want his balls played with at all, you usually can’t go wrong with giving them a few gentle strokes or cupping your hand over them while you’re giving him head.

If you’re into it, you can go a bit further and lick them while stroking him off.

It’s going to make him feel better about his body, feel more attractive, and it will give him some extra stimulation that he’ll highly appreciate.

11. Showing Off Your Body

This is a hard one for a lot of women.

Some of us would prefer to keep our shirts on and Winnie the Pooh our way through sex. But for the most part, we don’t have a problem getting undressed with our partner.

But we don’t want to do anything that makes us feel highly exposed.

I’ve been there, too, but I’ve tried really hard to overcome it.

In part, it’s because I want to be downright shameless when I’m having sex. I want to have all the dirty fun I want and not give a fuck.

But it’s also because I know how much it turns my husband on when I just let go and show myself off to him.

Sometimes, it feels a little vain. But it doesn’t honestly matter because part of sex is superficial. No matter how deep your connection is, he’s also in it to see you naked and touch you everywhere.

So leave some lights on, take off your clothes, and get in the positions that make you the most exposed.

Get on all fours for him. Push your ass up so he can get a good look at your pussy and your ass at the same time. Spread your legs for him, let him spread your ass with his hands, and don’t grab your robe when you get up to walk across the room for a sex toy.

He wants to see you — all of you. He wants to take you in and really appreciate the way your body looks. Exposing yourself is going to be an incredible turn-on for him.

12. Begging

Girls who beg are fucking hot. And the more dominant he is, the more he’ll be into it.

It barely matters what you beg about. You can plead for him to make you come. You can whine about how badly you want his cock. You can ask him to fuck you with a desperate tone in your voice.

It makes you look submissive, which can be really hot. But the desperation you convey with your begging is going to make him feel incredibly desirable.

Just knowing that he has something you’re willing to plead for is going to make him feel like a sex god.

13. Holding Him Tightly While He Fucks You

The missionary position has a bad reputation and that’s totally unfair.

There’s so much to love about it — the way he can control the angle of his cock, how easily he can regulate his depth, and how intimate it feels to be that close to each other.

But there’s one way to make it even hotter. And that’s by holding him while he fucks you.

Wrap your legs around his waist and pull him in close while he pounds into you. Hold your arms around his neck and whisper little dirty words in his ear. Put your hands on his ass and pull him into you.

All of those things will make him feel just how much you want him, and that’s going to make it so much better for him.

14. Arching Your Back

Doggystyle sex is fucking hot. Full stop.

But you can make it even more appealing to him by arching your back.

Arching your back while you’re on your knees and waiting for his cock is going to make your ass look even better than it already does. It’s going to expose your pussy some more to him.

It makes you a bit more vulnerable and looks incredibly inviting. It’s guaranteed to make him want to fuck you even more than he already does.

Keep arching when he’s plowing into you. It’s going to make your ass look fantastic and let him get even deeper inside you.

And if that’s not a win-win, I don’t know what is.

15. Doing Kegels on His Cock

This is one of those secret sex tricks you read about once in a while. And it’s one that actually works.

Flexing your pelvic floor muscles while he’s fucking you is going to make you squeeze around his cock.

That sudden tightness is going to be a pleasant surprise — one that makes it harder for him to hold back and last longer. Think of it like your pussy fucking him back.

Those bursts of extra stimulation are going to feel great on his cock and give him an incredible experience.

16. Telling Him You’re About to Come

Telling him your orgasm is coming is going to excite him and help him keep going even if his muscles are getting sore and tired.

It’s confirmation that he’s giving you the pleasure you need and the orgasms you want.

But it also signals to him that he’s got some moves. When a girl moans that she’s about to come, there’s always a hint of excited surprise in her voice. And that’s enough to make him feel like he’s exceeded expectations.

17. Asking Him to Come Somewhere Specific

How you react to him coming can make or break the experience for him.

If you act disgusted by his spunk, it might spoil his big finish.

If you’re neutral or indifferent to it, it’s all good. But it’s not going to be memorable for him.

If you really want to get him excited, show some enthusiasm for his orgasm.

Let him know you don’t just want him to come, but you have preferences about where he does it.

Ask him to come on your ass. Tell him to cover your tits with it. Say you want him to come in your mouth if you’re into spitting or swallowing. And if you want to be one of the dirtiest girls he’s been with, tell him to come on your face.

It doesn’t really matter where you want him to come. All that matters is that you show some enthusiasm about him finishing.

Even if you’d rather not get any on you, telling him you want to watch him come on himself is going to be hotter than being indifferent about it.

Show Him an Amazing Time

Sometimes, women kind of phone it in when it comes to sex.

I’ve been guilty of it, too. You get in this mindset where you think that giving sex is good enough. If you’re taking his dick at all, it’s good enough.

But that’s a recipe for some pretty mediocre sex.

If you want to have an amazing time, you have to really bring it and turn him on.

That means doing things that show that you’re horny as fucking hell.

Even better — doing things that show you’re horny for him specifically.

Every sign of desire, eagerness, and enthusiasm you give is going to fire up his passion and send his lust into overdrive.

So, arch your back, beg for his cock, and watch him completely lose himself in pleasure.