Don’t Let Your Emotions Abuse You
By: Hlayisani D. Baloyi
Tags: Decision Making, Change, Emotions

Let’s get this straight, nobody likes to be stuck in traffic. It is frustrating in fact. Imagine being in a car stuck in a long queue which seems to take hours and delaying you to get to your destination, with all this different type of cars; new, old, luxury and skorokoros, some of the people are complaining shouting at each other, hooting their bells and some are reefing their engines making noise all over with the smell of petrol and diesel disturbing your breathe. what a frustration!

Our emotions are like traffic. One emotion designs invitation letters and sends them to other various kind of emotions, then they all come to the party hosted by a situation, with the inviter first in line, the second and then the rest until they became a traffic of emotions in a long queue wanting to get into the party and make an impact. Once they are all in, they want to dance to the music and we cannot control them.

When you are in an emotional state is hard to come up with something solid. Many people try to win over a situation by pushing out the emotion through over thinking and coming up with a quick solution. Let me tell you, that’s like turning up the volume to the emotion’s favorite song. It will dance so much in a way that other emotions cannot resist the entertainment. They will all make a cycle to exchange dances like people competing to win for the best dancer’s trophy, which will be awarded to the most influential dancer by the party judge “Mr quick decision maker”.

The world today is over crowded with regrets as a result of emotional based decisions. Many people can’t get their lives right because they have become victims to their emotions which are now and then influencing every decision. Every decision they make is related to what happened, it is not forward structured and this has produced many problems in our family and communities.

Our emotions are supposed to be seen like a reporter who’s reporting the news over what just happened. To say “hey! This is what just happened” making us aware of a particular event that just occurred in our daily lives. They are not supposed to pressure us for a quick solution. As a people we must learn to listen to what our emotions are telling us and then process that information carefully to find a good way of dealing with that matter, considering the consequences and benefit of that final decision.

The weather is a beautiful example on how we should deal with the relationship between emotions and decisions. When it is raining the sun remains in the background deciding on how it is going to shine the next day when the rain is over. It doesn’t try to wrestle the rain because that may cause disaster, instead it leaves a room for the rain to perform its part-time job and once it is done it goes back to doing its daily rotten.

This should encourage us as a people to let emotions ease before making a decision, yes emotional situations will occur but that doesn’t give us a license to act immediately. We must normalize letting emotions ease first then start to make decisions while relaxed and not pressured by emotions. This will get us more positive results and allow us to a peaceful life.

Emotions are emotions, they will always be there to help us understand where we are but we shouldn’t let them have a hand in making decisions.

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