SHOULD I DATE A NON — BELIEVER? THAT IS THE QUESTION.
By: Soobie Chau
Tags: Christianity, Dating Advice, Christian Living, Christian Dating, Dating Tips

Hey guys welcome back to my channel today I’m gonna be talking about why youshouldn’t date a non-believer or a non-christian if you’re a Christian yourself the Bible says not to be unequally yoked and this is not just like another command or another rule that we have to follow it’s for our own good and God says it for a reason so I wanted to share those reasons with you and just share some thoughts that I have as well.

So if you guys are interested in reading this post, let’s go ahead and get on into it so I’ve dated a few non-believers like in high school and stuff and now I look back and see what I have with Kyle and I’m just like what was I thinking I was not thinking aboutdating in the right way I noticed a lot of Christians just think to casually of dating and God doesn’t want us to do that.

He wants us to be very intentional about dating and only dating somebody that you see potential and marry so alot of the guys in my past.

I never really saw potential in marrying I really just thought, oh this is a nice guy like we can have fun tonight.

Of course like I probably thought about marriage but it wasn’t like oh my gosh like I can really see some great qualities in this guy or he is somebody I really want to marry.

So once I found Kyle and once I became obedient and broke up with the old guys that I dated I feel like gods really blessed me forbeing obedient to him before you get into any dating relationship.

I think it’s really important to pray and ask God seek His wisdom in what to do and if you should be entering into this relationship honestly.

I wish I neverdated in high school I wish Kyle was my only boyfriend notthat I didn’t learn anything but it was really just a waste of time until I met Kyle and saw some really great qualities in him I feel like all the other guys were just waste of time.

I think a lot of girls like myself think oh I can lead him to the Lord like if he’s not a believer he’ll become a believer after they date me but that’s so not true that never works for any of my boyfriend’s I had one boyfriend like come to church with me and like say he accepted Christ and all this but really I don’t think really had that true relationship with him I think he really was just saying it so that I would like him or whatever andI wouldn’t break up with him if you’re dating with the intention of marrying hopefully you wouldn’t be dating a non-believer because God says not to here are a few reasons why getting into a reallyship or marrying a non-believer is not really good for your soul at all.

So thefirst one is your values goals and motivations are completely differentfrom the other person if you love Jesus as a believer you’re motivated by Godthat’s why you live that’s everything you live for it’s to serve Jesus if you’re dating a non-believer.

They have their own selfish desires inmind which is just the world I mean if you don’t have God why would you notjust look after yourself and do everything to like gain self-worth in this world because you don’t have a creator higher than you to say hey this is what you’re supposed to be doing.

so you guys have totally different motivations you’re looking towards eternity while the other person is looking towards temporary things and so I think that is just so important to realize that that’s not gonna work in a relationship when you guys both have different mindsets and different values and things that motivate you so that’s the first reason the next reason is for a lack of true intimacy if you don’tshare that same passion in your heart for the Lord the true intimacy will never be there what’s that newness and excitement wearsoff you’re gonna long for that deeper connection and someone to relate withwho has a like mind as you do so that lack of true intimacy will definitelycause problems in your relationship so what a lot of people think is oh I’llmarry them now change them later and so they’re not Christians now

But I’m sureonce we get married they’ll see how I AB see how much I love Jesus and hopefullychange and God will work it out and maybe that might be true that mighthappen but I know that’s not the case for a lot of people so in the beginningyour spouse or your boyfriend or whatever might go to church with youmight really support you but say like no that’s not for me but still really besupportive but as you go on in marriage or on in dating that support and thatdedication to like uplifting you and whatever you believe in is slowly gonnafade away and that will really damage your relationship so reason number fouris competition your spouse or your boyfriend or whoever is gonna constantlyfeel like they have to one-up you or feel like they’re happywithout Jesus or prove to you that you don’t need God so that competitionbetween each other to try to prove like no I’m right no I’m right no I’m rightit’s gonna be a really damaging and just will cause a lot of fights in therelationship so just looking for a spouse or a boyfriend that has the samevalues and beliefs as you do is gonna make the relationship so much smootherthe last reason is compromise if you’re in a relationship with a non-believeryou are probably going to have to compromise your face his friend group orher friend group and your friend group is gonna be totally different this groupof friends loves the world your group of friends loves the church and loves Godso those two groups combined don’t really mesh well together just becauseyou have different values different morals and beliefs and so when you putthose two together they’re not gonna have fun they’re not gonna enjoy theirtime together both of you will feel held back by the other which will cause a lotof bitterness and resentment between you two so I would highly recommend notgetting into a relationship with a non-believer if you are a Christianbecause you are just gonna be totally separate and how you operate and whenyou offer it with someone who has those same beliefs as you do you guys life isso much easier it goes so much smoother and you’ll just have a happier healthierrelationship in marriage and in dating one of the biggest takeaways from thisvideo is I really want you to be intentional about seeking God’s wisdombefore getting into it relationship I think that is so important if you seeany red flags that you’re kind of uneasy about I would definitely talk to Godabout it and see what he wants to do he’ll tell you he’ll let you know inyour heart so if you guys have any questions make sure to leave them in thecomments down below.