BONDING WITH YOUR HUSBAND AND CARING FOR HIM
By: Sonakshi Punia
Tags: Relationship Advice, Husbandwifejourney, Love, Bonding, Relationship Building

BONDING WITH YOUR HUSBAND AND CARING FOR HIM

Marriage is a sacred union they say. We take holy vows, promises that we intend to keep till death do us apart. No matter how challenging it may be, love and commitment eases the path of life together. The experience of marriage can both be divine and frightening, it can be a fairy tale or a horror story; it is up to us to make it a heavenly experience or a horrifying one.

Marriage at the core is bonding between the couple. When the initial wedding bliss wears off and everything is back to normal, things can get difficult quickly. To make things work, there must be a bond between you and your spouse. Understanding your husband and caring for him are the key components of a strong bond. When it comes to bonding, communication is the key. Communicating does not necessarily mean talking. It means sharing views, beliefs, thoughts and expressions. Men tend to lack this ability but like us they also need to know that we care for them, we appreciate them and love them. They may never admit to their emotional needs, but they want the same things as us in many ways.

If your husband does every possible thing to keep you happy, you must also put efforts to make your bond stronger with him. Most of you must be thinking that I already do enough for him but let me remind you all that you are more mature emotionally than him. You owe it to your relationship. You need to put efforts that results in a happy marriage. Most of the men hold themselves back when it comes to expressing their love. This doesn’t imply that men only care about what lies on the surface. We need to understand they are made to feel this way since birth. So instead of depending upon your man to open up and make you feel special, why not take the initiative when its needed. Provide him the best environment to hold the conversation. Show him that you are available for him always. Be ready to share you darkest secrets with him so that he can confide in you as well.

It is not inappropriate to say men can be headache at times and may behave like kids, but in any which way he is your special man, don’t forget to cater to him, help him with little things and fulfilling his basic needs, he is much dependent on you for all that. If we talk about caring, it also includes caring about his emotions, feelings and interests. Respecting his thoughts and not criticising them. You fell in love with him for who he is, so let him be the best version of himself instead of changing him according to yourself. Lift him up rather than putting him down.

Once an old couple was interviewed on how they managed to stay together for so long, their reply was something that touched my soul and conveyed me something that I will never forget. It was “we were born in an era where we were taught to fix things when they get broken and not replace them with the new ones”. This story taught me a lesson of bonding that helped me in rethinking and fixing stuff when needed.

I cherish being a woman, but more than that I cherish being a wife and to all those who feel the same way, make your man feel loved and special. This will make your journey a special one and indeed a fairy tale.