7 Simple Ways to Make People Like You Instantly
By: Rajeev Kirpalani
Tags: Friendship, People, Like, Relationships

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Do you know who the greatest winner of friends in the world is? I think you do know him. You have met him not once rather daily. He is your dog. You love him, right? I am sure you do, everyone does. And there is a strong reason for it. A dog genuinely takes interest in you whenever you appear in from of him. He greets you with barks of ecstasy and joy. He has no ulterior motives behind this show of great affection.

You, I, and everyone else like dogs because dogs give us importance. People aren’t interest in me and you. They are interested in themselves. So, to get people interested in you, you need to become interested in them. Once you are successful in putting your interests aside and giving more importance to others selflessly, you have got all the powers to become an instant star of any conversation. With this fact in mind, we move ahead to explore a few more ways that actually make people like you instantly.

Take a Genuine Interest in Other People.

Enough is said about it already. To emphasize it, even more, I recommend you to make it your habit. Only this single habit help to hack any conversation and turn it in your favor. Remember real friends are made this way only.

Make Them Feel Important

One fine morning, I was taking a cup of coffee and shuffling through my emails. What shocked me was an email later from my assistant. She requested her resignation. It was so disappointing to see this because I was under the impression that I had been very fair to her and receptive to all her needs. Soon I realized what actually might have happened.

Of course, I couldn’t accept her resignation. So, I invited her over dinner at my house. After the dinner, I made a statement in front of my family that how important she is to me, and appreciated her for being an excellent and reliable assistant to me. It’s been more than a year and she is even a better assistant now. What I did is just made her feel important.

Give Sincere Compliments

Fake compliments do reach ears, however, they are bound to make fail connections. You can compliment people in three ways. You can cast a direct positive compliment and express your admiration. And you can do that simply by appreciating people’s appearance, behaviors, and possessions. So, basically, you can compliment in these three ways.

For example, “you are a great entrepreneur” is a behavioral compliment. Likewise, you can admire people’s physical looks and the things in their possessions like a house. Of these three, compliments about people’s behaviors have more persuasive results. The effects will become even more powerful when you use them along with other techniques we are discussing here.

Be a Good Listener

Listen to others keenly. Encourage them to speak about themselves. This will inspire them to interact with you longer. And when you win their confidence, what you say will directly land into their subconscious mind.

Remember People’s Names

Do you know which the most used single word is? It’s the personal pronoun. Yes, it’s I. Thus, it reiterates the essence of the previous point we made that people are interested in themselves only. Another thing people like most is to hear their names. For people, listening to their names is the sweetest of all sounds they ever heard. Thus, remember people’s names and repeated them while having conversations with them.

Say Thank You More

Thank people more to make them like you. Before that learn how to say “thank you” properly. It may sound trivial to you, however, it is one of the highly important skills needed to build strong relationships. Whenever you get an opportunity to say thank you, never miss that. The moment you pass a thank you note, see the person in his or her eyes, touch him or her if possible, and use the person’s name as well. Also, you can send a written note.

Final Thoughts

Building successful relationships and establishing a heart-to-heart link is great art. The moment you learn it, you become unstoppable. You won’t be able to make your mark in the world through fake techniques. Try the things we have discussed just now and you will rock. Soon, you will be recognized and become more visible if you make people around you feel important, and appreciate them.