How Does Becoming a Parent Change Your Life?
By: Aditi K
Tags: Life Lessons, Workaholic, Confessions, Work Life Balance, Parenting

Let us take you to the journey where this life-changing stuff happened. And, we totally believe that by end of the read; parenthood is going to inspire life within you! So here goes a list of the top seven reasons (out of the endless list), how your life can also transform:

1. You’re going to find your best friend after a long time.

While growing as adults all of us have missed many get-togethers and parties with old friends in time. We’ve lost touch with many folks – sometimes due to work, sometimes due to the distance and time zones. And, there are some like us, who keep themselves burdened with an emotional backlog because we do not open up much with everyone around!

Your child will free you from emotional load. Your son or daughter will be the go to person, with whom you could be yourself. Without caring, without pretending, without thinking. You’ll care and love for each other, without expecting. And, that’s where you’ll find true friendship.

2. You’re going to live and laugh at the moment for no reason.

When was the last time, we laughed our hearts out? Was it that great stand-up? Was it that hilarious comedy show? But, how long did that fun last? Pfff… Do we remain upset even at that time when one must be elated? Well, that’s where our kid made the difference. We realized that babies have this power of captivation. Why? Because, their soul is so pure, and without any bias.

With your baby around, you’ll feel the bliss that you’ve never experienced before. Just being able to spend quality time with your son and daughter, is the ultimate happiness. It’s an unforgettable pleasure — to look into those naughty eyes, seeing the smile when you let them win, the first time they call you Mom and Dad – it’s music to the ears. You’ll just come alive.

3. Your mornings are never going to be dull again.

We know how beautiful the day goes if you get up early and get things sorted. As a couple, we’ve generally struggled to be the morning folks. But we’ve always found this part very difficult because our mornings were really stressful – the pressure of household chores along with managing the office has been the reason why we used to hate getting up into reality. But believe me, for the last year there has been no day when we haven’t laughed out loud remembering the night and the early morning playful time with our boy.

The child takes away the heavy work pressure and converts it into his daily activity. He just jumps from his crib and gives you the best hug possible. The presence, the beauty, the calm, the energy — all of it is so positive. It has brought us joy and has attracted so much more positivity in our lives.

4. You’re going to find new interests, sports, and hobbies.

A daily routine for an urban couple mostly revolves around work and home. We start acting like machines, which just exist to work. At times you feel that your life has no purpose, other than to earn bread and butter. Leisure means spending time passively on your couch. The only goal remains a future where you could find time for yourself. Develop new interests, follow your passion, pursue your hobbies – we keep reading this but how many of us can follow it wholeheartedly. In the end, we keep postponing the precious moments in life for tomorrow.

Your child is your teacher. Your baby will help you learn how to find new interests — knowingly or unknowingly. Your son and daughter will bring you back to live in the moment lifestyle. Keep your fingers crossed. The child will engage you and motivate you in ways you’ve not seen yourself before.

5. You’re going to dance and sing like never before.

Well, some of us may still be singing and dancing right now, but many don’t especially if you are a workaholic couple as we were. We used to hesitate in a lot of stuff because for us the opinion of others made us shy. When we cared too much about the opinion of others that’s when we realized that we had started ignoring our own opinions as a couple.

T he child is going to break that vicious cycle. You’ll see the example in front of you. How to care less and live more? That’s when, the inner joy will start flowing out. And, see I told you — now, you’re going to dance and sing like never before.

6. You’re going to be more loving and grateful.

Striving for success is a toxic dream. Not because such striving is bad, but because it takes away our focus from the present. And, when we are absent from the present, we tend to miss out on life. We stop being grateful. We lose that feeling of loving someone and being loved.

The child brings that back. You’ll be the whole world for someone and someone is going to be your whole world. You’ll be loved unconditionally. You’ll feel blessed. You’ll be thankful. And, that’s when you don’t want to ask for anything more in life.

7. You’re going to be more caring and giving.

Our societal relationship has always been conditional. It’s not about Not guilty about it, but we were always into a barter mode – give this and take that. We never realized that we even started trading our emotions as well. At times the practical behavior of work took away our compassion – There was a time when there was no empathy, no truthfulness. But we found what we lost.