No one’s saving you and signs you need to get into the passenger seat of your life.
By: Mathew . B
Tags: Radical Self Acceptance, Life Lessons, Self Improvement, Self Actualization, Self Help

You allow the opinions of others to influence your everyday endeavors :

Now nothing wrong with asking for advice when it comes to crucial matters you’re not educated on but there’s a fine line between lacking trust in yourself and not being knowledgeable on certain topics, because we certainly can’t know it all but many a times we ask for others opinion or even worse blindly follow others unsolicited opinions due to a deep lack of trust in ourselves, ask yourself, are you following others opinions because you genuinely agree with them or are you following their opinions due to fear and lack of trust in your otherwise competent abilities?

Your emotions are a reflection of others emotions :

As humans we are inherently empathetic except for the few psychopaths amidst us, where people pleasing comes in and healthy human attachments leave is when we feel the need to mimic others emotions and take them on as our own, an example of this would be a significant other experiencing a minor misfortune whatever it may be and instead of consoling them and showing them our support in whatever way we decide and moving on with our own day we spend our time catastrophising and or being crippled by their issues as though their burdens are ours to bear and maybe even to the point of feeling guilty if we don’t do so, enmeshment is heavily romanticized but in the end when you do take on others emotions so heavily you’re doing them a disservice as you’re not reaching out to them from a clearer state of mind to truly aid them in whatever way they may need.

Often times you deny obvious truths in an attempt to trick yourself :

What’s in the dark will always come to light, in a world full of harsh realities and adversities we developed many coping mechanisms which include denial, It stems from a lack of trust in oneself, and it’s tricky to identify, and often we deny deep truths that take years on years to bring to light which hinder us in many ways until we finally accept, release and soon after we realize the many mental hoops we didn’t need to traverse and the wasted time we could’ve saved if we had just been honest with ourselves and allowed ourselves to feel the initial shock of the truth.

You don’t allow yourself to feel certain emotions :

Our emotions serve an inherent purpose of warning us of dangers and alerting us of certain needs and so on and so forth, So it’s not up to us to control what emotions we feel and what emotions we bottle up, because as you restrict yourself from feeling your emotions more and more the either of two things can occur, you either eventually get triggered by a certain event which launches you into an outburst or continuously disconnect from your emotions and numb them all out until you allow yourself to feel your repressed emotion. Dealing with our feelings is intimidating but it doesn’t always have to be you must remember that every emotion serves a purpose and is there to guide you , so listen to how you’re feeling and proceed accordingly, definitely don’t wallow in your emotions and allow them to consume you but definitely listen to yourself and meet your emotional and bodily needs.

The end goal is building trust and honesty within yourself so you can identify what it is you truly want :

Every day we’re bombarded with media telling us how and when we should live our lives, certain lifestyles might work for some and some won’t work for you which is why it’s important to build trust and honesty within yourself in order tune out the outside distractions and tune into yourself and start making decisions which are true to you so you can get into the passenger seat of your life and enjoy the ride.