7 Things to Give Up for a Happy Life
By: Cosmin Angheluta
Tags: Happiness In Life, Self Improvement, Happiness, Self Love, Emotions

1. Self-Doubt

First of all, in order to be happy, you have to get yourself in the right mind-set to do so. You have to be confident that you can live the best life you have ever lived, and that everything that is in your mind can be reached, with a little bit of trust and some work.

Give up all the doubts you have on yourself, you ARE successful, you ARE beautiful, you ARE determined, you ARE lovable, you ARE worth it, you ARE everything you want to be.

2. Excuses

There’s nothing in your life that can bring you on the path of failure more than excuses. Excuses make people remain in their comfort zone, and as Roy T. Bennett said in his “The Light in the Heart”: “Great things don’t come from comfort zones”.

So give up on excuses, and let the uncertainty of life fill your days. Don’t waste time on coming up with an excuse, invest time by diving into some new experiences, into some new challenges, and ideas. You don’t want to become a living excuse; you don’t want to give up on anything life is offering you.

3. Fear of Future

Sometimes people give up on certain paths of their lives because of the fear they feel towards a challenge. Don’t be one of them.

It is true that “fear makes us feel our humanity”, as Benjamin Disraeli said, but the fact that it defines us does not mean it also has to get us stuck in the situation.

The fear of the future is the fear of living itself, it is the major mental block that forbids us to go ahead, to leave the old and dive into the new, to be hopeful that future always brings better things, because we already lived past, and it was pretty bad, mostly.

4. Procrastination

As a matter of fact, nowadays procrastination became one of the major problems of our kind. With the possibility of spending many time online thanks to our phones and the continuous fear of the future that makes us avoid working on things, this general problem is becoming the reason why many of us will not reach their dreams.

It is also true that procrastination may be the most difficult thing to get rid of, a lot of techniques are needed, a lot of methods, and ideas. You have to define how to fight procrastination, and always be aware of how you spend your time, or it will rapidly and fiery get in control over you.

5. People Pleasing

There is nothing you can do in your life worse than pleasing people hoping they will treat you better, or like you more, or even love you more. Human relationships are hard to understand and impossible to control, finding balance is really hard, and some ground rules are needed.

You should stop giving more when they give you less. You should stop being there when they don’t show up when you need them. You should stop making them gifts, and surprises, and compliments if they are not willing to do the same for you.

You are not a pleaser, you are not only a giver,: you should pretend to receive from the people you give to, and if this is not happening then stop giving.

6. Negative Self-Talk

I already talked about the power of self-talk, explaining how negative self-talk can be used to motivate yourself in some situations, but usually, it is suggested to not overdo it, since it can become a serious problem. Negative self-talk, and negative thinking in general, is one of the major things that keep you from taking action because you don’t feel worthy, you feel like you can’t match the situation and all this kind of crap. Well, stop doing that, it is killing your future. Negative self-talk is even worse than self-doubt since with self-doubt you are not sure you can do something, while with negative self-talk you are assuming you cannot do something, without even trying most of the times.

7. Judgment of Others

There’s a major thing that influences us today and keeps our mind worried with useless stuff: judgment of others. We all tend to use the judgment of the others on our behavior as a measurement of our success, or of our happiness, or social life, and so on. But there is a difference between analyzing what others say about you understanding how to improve healthily, and take all the external judgments as a critic and tear yourself down because of them. There will be people in your life outspoken about your behavior, that will make you analyze yourself in order to improve, but they will be a minority. The majority of the judgments you will receive will be caused by envy, carelessness, inattention, and revenge. For this reason, you have to learn to stop caring about what others say: mind their words, compare them to their actions, and see if they match. If they don’t just drop them.