Master Your Emotions With These 3 Tricks
By: Ankit Das
Tags: Emotions, Emotional Intelligence, Productivity, Personal Growth, Self-awareness

Master Your Emotions With These 3 Tricks

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Emotional intelligence has become very important to get successful, especially in leadership roles. If you are required to convince others to do a certain task, you can not let your emotions come in the way. But actually, you can’t deny your emotions.

So you need to know which strengths to turn to, how to approach your weak points, and how to direct your conversation so that the impact you have on others makes them respond constructively.

Following are three tricks that you can use to increase your emotional intelligence.

Re-evaluate your signs

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If you have noticed, then you must know how it feels like when you are nervous, your heart starts beating quickly, your stomach starts paining a little, right?

Well, most people negatively interpret stress, they associate these physical changes with emotional anxiety, like stress, but is that really true?

Suppose you are sitting for a test, what do you feel happening within your body? The same which we discussed above, your heart starts beating quickly, your stomach starts paining a little, right? And at this stage, you start thinking that you are nervous, you are stressed.

Now, what happens when you are on a roller coaster ride or while watching a horror movie? The same things happen, right? So, what about now? Do you still associate these feelings with nervousness or stress? No, you are excited and not nervous.

The problem is, we have wired ourselves in such an obscure way. If we start associating our feelings with positive things like the ones we discussed with excitement, things can go too different, you gain more confidence, your motivation level spikes up, and you can perform at your best.

A study has proven this too, where psychology researchers divided a group of students into two and were made to take a test, where the first group was left as it is, while the second group was suggested to re-evaluate their emotions and guess what, the second group performed much better than the first group while having almost similar intelligence level to the students of the first group.

Know your emotion

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An emotionally intelligent person can differentiate one emotion from the other. For example, how joy is different from satisfaction and how anger is different from jealousy.

They understand a broad spectrum of emotions, and all by the virtue of their emotional vocabulary.

Emotional vocabulary can be called the language used to describe how you feel, like sadness, depression, anger, joy, stress, etc. A vast majority of people know only two emotions, they are either feeling good or feeling bad. But, what about all the other emotions that are classified further?

If you’ll have a weak emotional vocabulary, you won’t know how you’re feeling, and neither can you express your feeling in the right way. And to improve how you express your feeling, you must expand your emotional vocabulary by distinguishing different emotions by going to the heart of the problem.

Every emotion has some unique characteristics, and many emotions differ in small but significant ways, so they need to be recognized individually.

When you get precise with your emotion, you understand your feeling better, and as a result, can regulate it too. You may control the negative feelings that cause you pain and cherish the positive feelings that can set you inspired. So take your time, and explore your feelings, maybe you learn some new emotions.

Experience new things

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How come, do you know the emotions you know? By experience, right? Experience teaches you new things by exposing you to the unknown. You’ll never know what the world has to offer if you just stay in your comfort zone.

There are a ton of perspectives and lifestyles in the world, and the more you understand different lifestyles and opinions, the wider your perspective will become. That’s the reason for many travelers being emotionally intelligent, their experiences open up a new world for others.

Even if you can’t travel, you can collect new experiences by reading books, watching movies, learning new languages, trying new foods, and in many other ways.

Experience creates understanding, which in turn creates empathy. You’ll get to know why others react in the way they do. Empathy lies at the root of emotional intelligence, but you need perspective to understand others.

According to a study, experiences, especially those in nature impacts your mental state by reducing negative activity in your mind. These experiences create a positive state of mind allowing you to escape the toxicity.

So to increase your emotional intelligence, step out of your comfort zone, and explore new things fearlessly. There’s a whole new world out there waiting for you to get understood.