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THE WESTMINSTER DINNER.

Oil Wednesday last the fourteenth anniveisary din-
lit , in celebration of the triumph ut 11'estininster, was
held at the Cf(Wen and Auditor sl'averit. The great MOM
was tilled a cousidetable time before the chair has taken,
by a a respectable assemblage of Independent ttellfle-
mem At a little after five n'eloA, S:r Fraiteis Barden
emered the room, accompanied uv J C. Hohliouse, Esq.
S. Whitbread, Esq. Alderman Wood, and a number of
other distinguished characters, and was received in the
Must enthusiastic manner. Sir F. Borden then took
t:te
Alter the cloth Was drawn, the first toast gi, en was
—" people, the only source of leglliwae power."
Three mu .s Lorre. Tune—" Britons, str:ke
Toa•t—" Tile King. acid Ili:IV tie recollect his own (le-
d,' atom, inai the crown is held in trust for the benefit
of his people."—Three
told a flsitering tale," was given amulet much applause.
Tne health or the Queen way next (baulk iii toe
With eoiliniUrd Cher I'S. Swig—
" Rule Britanina." Toast—" The only cure for all our
grievances—a thorough reform iii our Cnnouuus House
of Poliainent," was drank with three nines three.—
Te ne—" k the rogues out."
Alderman IVisod mien lose and said, that as he was an
elector of Westudioter, lie had the privilege, of wbich
he stout,: avail himself with peculiar delight, of propo-
sinA a toast to them—the health of au ; of
whom lie might well say, that no man could be found
in the whine kusgdoin who had advocated tile cause tit
libery so much, liar suffered so notch for sit aileceating
it, as S.r Francis Burdett. (Applause.) The wormy
Aidermaii professed Isis inability to do adequate justice
to him who was the subject of the toast he was about to
propose, but said, tha 10114 as he had health and spirits,
the elector, of Wes:moister would tie tier aux otos to
maintaiii him in that situation which lie had so long
filled to Ille atliniratiou of themselves I.iel then moo at
large. He concluded by proposing the health of" The
consisteut opposer of tyranny and oppression ; the steady
advocate of our rights; the nicorruptible SlateSlll.lll, un-
daunted by persecution, unsullied by co:minion : our
hottest representative, Sir F Burdett." Which was then
dank atitelst reiterated cheers. Tune—" Whilst happy
in noir native laud."
Sir F. Hottestre, in rising to return thanks, said it
could not but be nighty gratifying to hoot to meet attain
so 1111 l tieruus au assemblage of los comintuents, and to
inert with such tesiiniontes of iegard and affection as he
had then met with, alter so long a colon:emu's, which
was too lung to admit of the suspicion that any thing
like deceit or duplicity existed either oil one side or the
iner. To the electors of NVestitiiiister he shook' ever
appeal as the only persons who were the must liberal
in judging, he could admit none others. His services
had been rather too handsomely spoken of by the
worthy alderman, and lie could only say, with regard
to them, that he would be always inure than repaid by
the approbation of his constituents. As to what had
been sat(' about the incousetdences he had endured, he
MUSI iu answer say, that he could take no individual
merit for enduriug such sufferings as he had, when he
considered the number of bus tellOW countrymen who
hail been impr soiled with such rigour, for offences
%Inch the most hardy, since the explosion of the Stuarts,
would not before have ventured to punish.—(Loud ap-
plause.)—The worthy Baronet expressed the high plea-
sure which he felt at seciiu that his constituents main-
tained the saute solid and unalieraole determination in
favour of that ref Orin which they had so long contended
for, and of which they still continued in steady pursuit,
%odium any falling uhf, notwithstanding the great length
of time they had been together in so unprofitable a chase.
But when he saw so many men of rank, weight, mud
abilities, continuing to join them in the poison, and so
favourable a prospect as had been held oat of reformers
of every description uniting in their object, he did
feel greatly encouraged in proceeding with his constitti-
emits 111 tout course which they had to lung consistently
and with so much ardour gone on. (Applause.) During
his alltSeilee trout the House of Commons, their great
question hail been taken up by a getitletuali, in vinuse
stile hinds he hoped it had not 'Witted, although by an
unfortuilate conjuaction of circistustatice, it had been
got rid of in a manner that could not have totes' foreseen.
But he thought they could look back with conlideoce to
the considerable tontine,' of iniportaut pvrsuus who were
prepared to have stipixirted the aneasuie on which
their hopes were founded. lie saw nothing in their
general affairs upon which he could congratulate them.
flity saw Oil every side the Little violent encroacluntres
made upon their taws and liberties. But 110litilig that
had been done tor a letigth of mite should give them
more alarm fur the liberty of the press--without which
sit inner libeity could long comiiitic to exisi—than the
formation of a body of persons, who had united, tinder
the name of the constitut. I society, for the purpose
•:an setting and destroying all those publications which
advocated political setitimesits that did not square with
those held ey this association. He thought that those
wilts vv etc hostile to the liberty of the press ;night have
',etas Well ulilatiell Willi the UliCOlistioniiiiirl measures
that had been adopted agaisist it, •,Otl the exercise of
thOSe Inleinilitititatilidl powers Wit Cil hail &men vested
iii, and sO eliiurutly rased by the Attorney and tile Sup-
erior General, with those doors tilts society seemed to
hare set themselves at variance, fin the purpose of de•
stroyieg what little of the liberty of the press yet
remalied.—(Great tiwy eOliSolrfed
Ie ii,litirtt Of those woo belonged to inis, whirls he
b. II lake the lite gay to call unconstitutional and
tots-IL igusit association, they would temold with paid
lite Aldine of a prison to lime (root who was indebted
to the public for Ills wealth, lame, rank, and charac-
ter, and even lire the purse which he turned against
their licirCat blrinfl4l3l, the ithellV of tile press.—(Great
Tne Mom speakar then adverted to the 14-
invislattle dlttir at Nlauctiesirr. and voil6tatulated tile
mottling that they had inn to tilt the upprillnlUM Of shat
deed upon WOK brave tuca who had fought with such

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bravery in the service of the country. He commented
I at great length upon the transaction in a powerful man-
' tier, that occasioned continued bursts of feeling. He
animadverted with much severi:y upon the statements
that had been made to jastity the proceeding, and after-
wards gi.-eti up as totally des; si nie of foundatimi, and said
the ponlic should never forgo, from these instances, how
little credit Was due to the statements made from men in
the highest situations. Yet, upon these statements, the
six acts which had struck so deeply had been founded,
mid he had no doalu that the saute ear would be given
to similar statements from the Sallie quarter, when vet
it was necessary to make similar encroachments. Had
the people in the country continued to go on with the
abaard system of Ludilitisto, mid continued to commit
depreilatsons on private properly, their excesses would
have beets beheld with an eye inure forbearance, but
it was because they hail put he finger upon the real sore,
and had called for reform, that they were attacked holt-
recily.—After some foram oinervations, the host. lain.
adverted to the subject of the attacks which were making
upon the press, which had been working with excel-
lent effect in quarters vs here, until very lately, they
had no very great reason to entertain any sanguine
expectations, and had done more for tile cause 01 truth
and liberty than any thing else bestile. I mleel in
speaking of the benefits iliai were to be derived In its
free and proper exercise, he knew not how sufficiently
to express himself. When they SAW the priiereatt it was
h ly making; the extensum of its powerful itilitience
met 1161111 i that had before never enjoyed its light ; wilco
the saw the .111iiiiiCS With WlliC3 it WaS b)
some of the first patriots, not withasidoig the difficulties
it had in its way, though lite). might hook at their labours
with touch satisfactiott, they could not but tremble hir
thesis when they saw the 1111w:deli and the iinaiiiient
peril to which tory so honourable exprosed themselves.
applause.) He much wished this Ile could suggest sonic
measures, or devise some lite:111S, 111.11 W0111(1 give to those
who fearlessly strata fortiard plat Support which they so
well deserved. The buss liirtitiet concluded by calling
Upon reformers each to mine in Ills sitVil circle, and to
bring the whole body n hear oat the House with such
a sentiment as would oblige tlieni to turn a reluctaiit ear
to the demands of the peoale.
The matt Willa proposed was—" The memory of our
unfortunate fellow-sOjects, men, women, and
who suffered at Manshester iii August, 1819," which
was drank in sole silence; after which " The Dead
March in Saul " was played Ly the baud with much
solemnity.
The lion. D. Kuria tau next addressed the meeting
lie said, he had great salisfaction in proposing a toast
that required no recommendation. He should, there-
fore, without further delay, propose the health of our
worthy representative," John Cam llobliouse, the able ,
and intrepid suplairter of the borougnmosiger oligarchy
—the Mall WllO dares to attack apostacy when sheltered
by power." (Great anytime.)
Mr. HOSHOUSE Sdiii, tit Ira, colleague considered him-
self higoly honoured by the compliment •hat had been
just paid hilli,il..stieigtoisited as lie was by the approbation
of all the people of England, how much more should
himself feel Hat timed by the reception of his 'lathe? The
most that a man can do by his conduct in public life is
to realize the wishes of private friendship, and that, it
was truly grateful to his breast, he hail done. He was
now little more than a year the colleague of their lima-
tr.ed representative, and if he hail fall.d its fulfilling
any of their expectations, it WAS Ir ttttt wain of ability-,
and trot from want M. *mho,' tttttt . Several geotlenteti
regretted that they could not be present at the meeting.
Nit. H. then read-letters from Lord Nugent and Mr.
Leonard, in which they severally expressed their regret
at not being able to attend the meeting. The cause
(said air. IL) is good, and never can want fr:ends; even
if your own virtues did not support it, the vices of your
opp ,cents would. (Applause.) The country can never
lie well governed unless the people shall be fairly trine.
seined. Time electors of Westminster had taken a proud
part, aid they should ever find hint their a ;Mots assist-
aut. Our rulers say we are doing well. It reminded
nits of a doctor, who, when his patient told him he had
slot slept last night, said it was a good symptom ; the
patient said he felt quite feverish—the doctor said it was
a very good symutoni—in this way we are dyi sig o. 10,000
good symptoms. (A laugh.) Nlr Huth e Isere ridi-
culed the association for restraining the liberty of the
press, and said, they would hod tha whale they thought
th• y were gaining laurels, they were gaining a cap and
bells. In 1693 there was also an association for putting
down the liberty of the press, but it failed in its object,
and the free press, which was long the glory ol the coun-
try, would overcome every effort to extingotah it.
The Ghanaian next proposed the health of " Mr.
Whitbread, and our brother rebirtners its Middlesex."
Mr. Whil ['BREAD, in retooling thanks, said, he came
to the meeting with a heart full of gratitude for the ho.
flour that many of the electors of Westminster, who
were also electors of Nlidillesex, had done I . He had
faithfully endeavoured to discharge his duty, and would
end as he had begun--a steady reformer. lie stated,
that it was Mr. Ilyng's wish to have attended the meet-
ina, but it was not in his power.
The Chairman next proposed " the Constitution of
Old England," which was drank with great all Luse.
Mr. 1 HELWALL, in an animated speech, called on
the meeting to support the constitution, which was at-
tacked by an association for putting down the liberty of
the press. He pledged himself that lie would not be
found timidly seeking his own safety when he should
contend for the salvation of the country.
The Chairman twit psonosed " the health of Alder-
man Wood,' whose public acts, he said,
.required no
praise
Alderman WOOO said. he was always a true reformer;
sometimts he was called a radical, but he supposed those
' who gave him the appellation judged by his acts, for he
was always ready to root out corruption. (Applause.)
lie was sorry an association had been formed in London
a:o6lst the freedom of the press, he hoped they would
remove to head-quarters.

a.

Mr. House's taeaith was 11C11 proposed by the Chair-
man.

Mr. Hums reunited thanks, and said, though at all
times happy to meet his countrymen, ne W3b recultarly
so to meet those who had set an exmtvle to all England,
by sending men of virtue and talent to Rlrliatil
'rite Hon. I)ottglas Kilmaird's health was IleXl drank.
Mr. KINNAIRD returned thanks, and said all Scut-
land were relOrtners.

At half past ten o'clock Sir F. Burdett, and many
other members of the House of Coinmoos, kit the ;own;
soon alter which the company (which was one of the
most numerous and respectable we have witnessed on
any similar occasion fur many years) separated. Nearly
400 per ((((( s sat down to dustier, and 111.111 y were oblie,ed,
Mr want of room, to dine bk low stairs.

TILE QUEENS VISIT TO THE ITAILIAN OPER.I.

......i....

On Thursday night het Majesty honoured the Italian
Opera with her presence. She entered the house soon
:diet the coinmencentent of the performance, acc.itmiit-
tiled by Lird and Lady Hood. Her Majesty occupied
one of the center link ate boxes in the second tier, Lot
as she remained is the hack part of the box, she was
not recognized until towards the end of the second act,
when she etas observed by several gentlemen w the pit
and the boxes. At the end of the act the presence of
her Majesty became generally known, alio site was re-
ceived by the majority of the audience in the pit and
gallery with cheers and clapping of hands. There was
however some hissing in the pit, winch only excited
strut i/er wiuifestatious of feeling amongst the majorit).
The applause had lasted for mime mitimes bcfore Ler
Majesty had rearmed herself in the front of the box.—
Oii domg which the whole of the audience r..se, and
" God save the Queen" was loudly called for. The ca I
was attempted to be opposed, nut the opposition was
drowned amidst the clamour which was occ..stotted lay
the band going on wino the sic of me litter to a:-
company the ballet. The perk bbbb tees welt driven ba. k
with the cries oi. " off, oft," and the call for " G id
sate the•Qtteett" being persisted in, the 11111114111 y at
Irultth came forward, and sung the hymn " God save
the King," substituting the name of the " QatTat" for
that of the King iii each stanza. Some part of the au-
dience who dial not hear the name prommiaced dis-
tinctly, gave it themselves with great empliasis. Op-
position was wit en up after Signor Ambrogent had led
forward the company. The nobility and gently w toe
boxes did not matures( any sot erse feeling, trio shard in
the most respectful lUMlllicr whilst the hymn was sun.;
and we must say, that the vocal pert rs fat e it wart
a great deal of timidity, but the band played it with
much spirit. Her laj..sty was dressed in a yellow sat,ii
dress, turned up with black velvet and gold. Site wore
a black hat with a pl of ostrich feathers, and ap-
peared iu good health and spirits. The Opera was Don
Giovanni, and in the ballet Madame Fanny Bilis, the
principal dancer at the Parisian Opera, delighted the
audience by a display of elegant agility that fully jusitti-41
her celebrity. The House was extre.a ely crowued, and
during the remainder of the night her AN:sty was tile
principal object of attention; and on her departure she
received the same manifestatiens of zeal and of respect
that she was greeted with on her Iselin; recognised.

FEOIII LAST NIGHT'S GAZETTR.
BANKRUPTCY ENLARGED.
T. Wood, Wakefiekk Yorkshire, manner, from June 5 to
June to.
BANKRUPTCIES SUPERSEDED.

11. and .I.liall:Cliperfl;;;Tesitre et, iron merchants.
E. Pitt, Manchester, woolstapler.
BANKRUPTS.
C. Tuthill, Meeklenburgh Square, merchant. Solicitor, Mr.
Taylor, Furnival's Inn.
I. Jacobs. Bristol, glass manufacturer. Sols. Messrs. Adlink
ton and Co. Bedford Row.
J. Jackson. Halifax, York, shoemaker. Sol. Mr Wiglesworth,
Gray', Inn Square.
H. White, Gracechurch Street, merchant. Sol. Mr. Corry,
Ba‘ingliall Street.
H. Trollope, Reading, Berke, linen draper. Sol. Mr. Gates,
Newgate Street.
0. Skinner. Gorleston, Suffolk, grocer. Soh. Messrs. Swain
and Co. Old Jewry.
J. Mason, Aliinchuiter, hat manufacturer. Sol. Mr. Clabon,
Mark Lane.
J. Peters and F. Weston, Bristol, maltsters. Sol. Mr. Evans.
Ha•ton Garden.
E. L. Edwards, Cardigan, linen draper. Sols. Messrs. Jenkins
and Co. New Inn.
H. Rowe. Amen Corner. printer. Sols. Messrs. Stephenson
and Co. Southampton Buildings.
G. A. Baker, Blackman Street, Borough, cheesemonger. Sol.
Mr. Latkow, Doctors Commons.
It. Carbery and D. Dowell, St. James's Street, hat era Sot
Mr. llopkin.on, Lincoln's Inn New Square.
.1. Archer, Ware, Hero, miller. Sol. Mr. Eond, Ware.
J. Edington, Lower Therms Street, stat.oner. Soh. Messrs.
Pearse and Co. Lombard Street.
C. J. Bolden, Duke Street, West Smithfield, painter. Sol. Mr.
Basinghall Street.
DIVIDENDS. _

June 16, H. and W. (Ttithitsb,iftsitisione, carpenters-19, A.
Humphrya, Worcester, merchant-0, W. Rust, Sheffield,
merchant-16. W. P. Hash, Shipliam. Norfolk, tanner-19. J.
Garland, Austrinfriars, merchant-16, J. I.awrance, Hatton
Garden, woollen draper-16. J. Sparkes and A. Coles. Portland
Street, coachmokers-16. G. Webb, Cornhill, dealer-16, C. H.
and T. Little, Carlisle. cotton manfacturets-16, T. Stunt, Allen
Street, Goawell Street, carpet manufacturer-16. B. W. and B.
Finelutm. Epping, Essex, bankers-23. G. and F. Wardale,
Upper Thames Street, oil crushers—v(4 B. Bewley, Manchester,
slater-19, G. Harris, Birmingham, and J. Edmonds, Aston,
japanners-19. W. Gadesby, Canterbury, cabinet maker-19,
T. Rutland, Wootton Underedge, Gloucestershire. grocer-4, R.
Coliens. Maidstone, bop dealer—l 6, S. Bilbrough, Gilderaume,
York, merhant—vt, M. Vigor, Bristol, cabinet ntiker.
CERTIFICATES to be granted June 16.
R. Sisson, Leeds, merchant—L. Frost, Liverpool. timber
merchant—C. Lockey, Ivy Lane, com chandler—J. Hart. Bath,
saddler—W. Bale, Richmond, Yorkshire, woollen draper—W.
I loult, jun. Stourport, Worcestershire, cabinet maker-1. Nash,
Bath, fishmonger—G. Backhouse, Kendal, Westmoreland.
ironmonger—J. Dorrington, Manchester, wine and spirit dealer
Ball, Alhury, Surrey, paper maker--. 1. and C. Bogen.
Plymouth, coachmakers—S. Grim wood. Bores, Sulffilk, miller—
W. Cruickshank, London Street, merchant—G. A. 'f. Bruggen-
kate, Little East Cheap, merchant—T. Farquharson, Swanca,
mercbant—.l. Cummings, osborn Street, Whitechapel, brewer—
T. Jent, Piccadilly, chinaman.

PRICE OF STOCKS.
Bank Stock 229 0 1111 l nun 0.
3 per Cent. Red. Imp. 3 per Cent.
3 per Cent. CAmsulx 751 India loud• 49
3i per Cent. 946 India stock 234
4 per Lent. 93 I Exchequer Bilis ss. di..
5 per Cent. Navy 1I Luna. tur Ac. Thi
Lour Auu. 19 Lottery 'rickets ..El4

COURSE OF EXI
Amsterdam, 12 14 C. F.
Ditto, at sight, 12 11
Rotterdam, It 13
Antwerp, 12 10
Hamburgli, 38 7
Altona, IS
Paris, 3 da) s' sight, 23 80
Ditto. t 6
Boiirdeauz, 20 15
Frankfort on theNlaine,l37l
Petersburgh, 9 , 3 U.
Vienna, Ef. Flo. 10 20
Trieste, Et'. Flu. Id 20
Madrid, 36—Cadiz, 331
Bil boa, Bai canna, 35

RANGE, Miv 26.
3:4—Gibraltar,3ol
Leghorn, 361—Genoa, 43i
Malta, 43—Venire, 27 60
Naples, 49i
Oporto, 494—Halria,S8
Rio Janeiro, 18
Palermo, 116
Dublin, 9 per cent.
Cur', di per vent.
Foreign gold in bars, 91. 17s.
101.1. per oz.
New Doubloons,
New Dollara,la. 10d.
Silver in bars, standard, 49.
11d.

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L WWII.
SUNDAY, MAY sl.

In the House of Commons, Mr. Creevey's motion
respecting the Barbadoes and Leeward Island Du-
ties was negatived, by acceding to the previous
question—thus, what ought to be, and what was in-
tended to be, appropriated to the repairs of the forts
and to other honest and useful purposes, is still to

be misapplied to the payment of pensions—some of
which have bcen granted to persons to whore a
halter might, perhaps, have " done nobler justice."
If we mistake not, the inestimable services of the
Right Hon. George Canning have laid these funds
under heavy contributions in the shape of pensions
to his pauper mother and sisters, while the House
of Commons is called upon to add additional bur-
then. upon the starving and desl'onding people, to
mo•et expenses which the funds in question ought to
defray.—Mr Scarlett's new Bill for regulating the
poor has bren read a second time: we gave a copy
of this Bill in our last, by reference to which our
readers will perceive that in has three important
points—first, to restrict the poor rates within the
amount that was levied during the year terminating i

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at Lady-day last—secondly, to deprive the poor of
the right to relief, unless they be either ill or too old
to work—and thirdly, to prevent the removal of any
person who has been employed in s parish, without
gaining a settlement in it, to the parish in which he
or she may in truth and law belong. To the first,
that is, the restrictive point, we would object, that
the maximum of rate is flied from a season of extra-
ordinary plenty and cheapness, and that if it become
a law, and it should please Providence to visit us
with a season or two of dearth, the poor must in-
evitably be starved, or the humane Overseer be
liable to a refusal to pass his accounts, because he
could not refuse to supply bread to " him who was
ready to perish." As to the second point, it has
always been the boast of our country, that no Eng-
lishman lives but who has a claim to support if he
need itband though we never would wish parochial
aid extended ta those who could obtain employment,
but prefer a life of lazy pauperism, yet we should
regret very much that a law should be permitted to
disgrace our statute-book, by making the inability
to obtain employment a capital crime, punishable
with starvation, because we know that, from the
stagnation of trade, hundreds would die every day
in the streets, were so inhuman a law now in exist-
ence. The third appears to be a point of minor
importance, but still deserving censure ;—no man
who is accustomed to the Appeal business at the
Sessions can be ignorant of the many artifices that
are constantly used to prevent a proveable-hiring of
such a mature as to give a right of settlement; and
if the Bill pass in its present shape, no person will
engage a workman without as particular an exa-
mination into his health and constitution as is
matte by a Life Insurance Office before effecting a
policy—and of course he whose appearance is not
robust in the extreme will be rejected.—The Bill
for the abolition of capital punishment for forgery,
being one of a series of Bills of the same humane
tendency introduced by Sir James Macintosh, has
been committed, and, we have no doubt, will pass
the House in spite of the puny opposition of the
Solicitor-General.

The Lords have passed the Grampound Disfran-
chisement Bill, notwithstanding every effort of the
Lord Chancellor to prevent it—thus one blow more
has been given to the infamous and corrupt borough-
mongering system.

We have received the Paris papers of Tuesday
and Wednesday last. The Ottoman. Porte is making
great exertions to put down the Greek insurrection.
The Russian troops are also in motion, and, though
not destined to cross the frontier, as an army of ob-
servation they must damp and paralyse the energies
of the Insurgents, who do not appear to have
increased in strength or spirit. These observations,
however, are wounded exclusively upon the intel-
ligence in the French Papers, which in the present
state of the public press in France are not the best
authority we could wish The domestic intelligence
which they contain consists of ordinary Court routine
movements, contributions for purchasing the estate
of Chambord for the Duke of Bourileaux, and the
reports of the proceedings in the Court of Peers on
the trial of the conspirators of the 19th of August,
and in the Chamber of Deputies, none of which are
are of any interest.

The following is an extract of a letter received on
Saturday from Santiago de Chili, dated the 10th of
January last :--
W e have just received dispittches (ruin Limn, •nsmun-
rine the ple twit advice, that since the 'mfr.. 'ion of the
regiment of Nuinantin, 800 airline, with all the officers, 27
offlecrs belonging to different other regmients have also pow
owl rto San Martin. tie was within a few leagues of the
cut), and hourly expecting its San. sid.• Af111711,11 is ales
rail tit have arrived at Cruz.... Lunt Cochrane has (since
the fi low) taken six sail of vessels, four of which are foam
!spoilt. thief. principally laden with quo ksilver, and very
valuable; another is the Indian. from Rio Jam ira, with an
a-sorted cargo. Captain Basil Hall, of the (noway, is send-
ing an caplet", to Burnet, lyres with the abuser