Average people are weak. Very weak. They just hide from anything difficult. When they do actually do something difficult you can bet there was a lot of hand holding along the way. Fact is they can spend their whole lives hiding and lying to themselves but the one main thing they can't hide from and can't stand is rejection. It destroys them. But the only way to reject rejection is to stay alone. Loneliness also destroys them. They hate both. Loneliness is a killer while rejection is overkill. Because of this, if you love someone they control you, it's their way of phasing out rejection completely. But if you don't love them, you control them. Give a person the cold shoulder but not flat out rejection and they're like putty in your hands. Don't use this fact to get a partner. Instead just use it to keep the people you're surrounded by in your daily life at bay.
Label: no hate