Datasets:

Elfsong

/

beyond_blue

like 0

[ { "author": "user-id/14751", "content": "<p>Hi,<br>\nThis is my first post on this site, but i am so glad i found it.<br>\n<br>\nIm 21 years old and have major anxiety when leaving my house or being alone sometimes even all the time!<br>\ni have dizzy spells, chest pain, cant breathe and constantly feeling sick.<br>\nI was wondering if anyone else around my age or anyone in that matter that would have some advice on dealing with the attacks?<br>\nany advice is wanted, as it is getting so out of control and starting to control my life!<br>\nThanks in advance</p></div>", "date": "05-11-2013", "url": "https://forums.beyondblue.org.au/t5/anxiety/needing-advice/td-p/52508" }, { "author": "user-id/9566", "content": "<p>Hi Casey,</p>\n<p>I've only recently posted on here as well. I  am 24 and am experiencing a lot of anxiety as well with the same symptoms as you - feeling like I can't breathe, feeling like I am going to choke, tightness in chest and headaches. Have you been having panic attacks of just feeling these feelings all of the time? I've experienced panic attacks where these sensations become more intense, but I also experience them throughout the day on a daily basis as well.</p>\n<p>I went to a GP and they referred me to see a psychologist. I was doubtful the psychologist would be able to help but it has helped me a lot, I've only had four sessions so far.  Make sure you find a psychologist who works for you. I went to one who I found useless and that was a bit disheartening, so I went back to my GP, and they suggested a different psychologist who has turned out to be really good. Try and seek help before it gets worse , I'm definitely glad I did.</p>\n<p>Hope this helps.</p></div>", "date": "05-11-2013", "url": "https://forums.beyondblue.org.au/t5/anxiety/needing-advice/td-p/52508" }, { "author": "user-id/27576", "content": "<p>Hi Casey,</p>\n<p>Mary89 is right, going to see your GP is a good idea, the attacks sound very unpleasant and if you feel things are getting out of control then the time to seek help is now.</p>\n<p>In the meantime, you may wish to check out the beyondblue fact sheet on panic disorders, there are some tips in there about how to cope during a panic attack: \nhttps://www.bspg.com.au/dam/bsg/product?client=BEYONDBLUE&amp;prodid=BL/0506&amp;type=file\n</p>\n<p>best<br>\nCB</p>\n<p>_______________________________________________________________<br>\nOnline Community Manager</p></div>", "date": "06-11-2013", "url": "https://forums.beyondblue.org.au/t5/anxiety/needing-advice/td-p/52508" } ]

[ { "author": "user-id/17839", "content": "<p>Why is it that when some talk about things it all about drugs they are on or bad time of bogan type things . Can we just be unique and as we all meant to be?</p>\n<p>I suffer daily . I take pills . I am a good man a bad one and have panic Attacks . </p>\n<p> </p>\n<p> </p>\n<p>  </p></div>", "date": "27-10-2013", "url": "https://forums.beyondblue.org.au/t5/anxiety/feeling-others-are-week-that-can-not-hide-what-i-have/td-p/47237" }, { "author": "user-id/27576", "content": "<p>Hi Andy,</p>\n<p>Welcome to the forums.  What do you find works best to help you manage your panic attacks, or would you like some advice from others on how you can cope better?</p>\n<p>best<br>\nCB</p>\n<p>_______________________________________________<br>\n<strong>Online Community Manager</strong></p></div>", "date": "29-10-2013", "url": "https://forums.beyondblue.org.au/t5/anxiety/feeling-others-are-week-that-can-not-hide-what-i-have/td-p/47237" }, { "author": "user-id/28401", "content": "Hi Andy, <br>\nI agree, in part, with what you say; i.e. ‘Can we just be unique and as we all meant to be?’Each person is unique in their own right. I think a starting point for personal growth and development is accepting yourself for who you are, an imperfect, growing, changing human being. This takes the pressure away from continuously striving for perfection. Your heading - ‘Feeling others are week that can not hide what I have.’ Implies that you commit personal energy in hiding your anxiety. In my experience this can be physically and mentally draining; wearing a mask when in company. Point, while it can be healthy to accept your current circumstances this doesn’t mean you need to endure them; this is where personal growth and change occurs. That said you may not have all the solutions and this can be where it’s beneficial to explore what others are doing or have experienced. <br>\nI assume you’re referring to the posts on this forum when you say ‘ some talk about things it all about drugs they are on or bad time of bogan type things.’ You have a point in that there can be a common thread in a number of posts. My view is that one of the functions of the forum is that it provides an avenue for people, who aren’t content with their current situation, to express this. There can be many reasons for doing this such as the satisfaction of making a statement publicly, a sense of having been heard, reaching out for acceptance, understanding or guidance. One question is: why are there so many posts? A reason might be that, despite the high incidence of mental health issues, you can still feel very much alone, not understood or even accepted by those around you. The forum provides a safe environment where you can spill your guts without the sense of being labelled a wacko. I wish you all the best. <br></div>", "date": "03-11-2013", "url": "https://forums.beyondblue.org.au/t5/anxiety/feeling-others-are-week-that-can-not-hide-what-i-have/td-p/47237" } ]

[ { "author": "user-id/15930", "content": "<p>Hi </p>\n<p>feeling anxious, want to vomit or pass out.  Hiding in my car at work while writing this. </p>\n<p> </p>\n<p>Any advice? </p></div>", "date": "31-10-2013", "url": "https://forums.beyondblue.org.au/t5/anxiety/new/td-p/49672" }, { "author": "user-id/4603", "content": "<p>Hi Lenie</p>\n<p>You poor thing.  You really need to see someone.  I was in a similar situation last year having the same feelings as you while driving home at night from work. I ended up calling 000 for help as I didn't know what was going on with me. Now I know it was a panic attack.</p>\n<p>I suggest if you can take some slow deep breaths and count to 4.  I know it's hard but try and tell yourself that you're okay, you'll be fine.  But I still think you need to speak with someone about this.</p>\n<p>Has anything happened for you to feel like this? Or did it just come out of the blue?</p>\n<p>Please let us know how you are going, take care</p>\n<p>Jo</p></div>", "date": "31-10-2013", "url": "https://forums.beyondblue.org.au/t5/anxiety/new/td-p/49672" }, { "author": "user-id/15930", "content": "<p>Hi Jo</p>\n<p>I have started talking to my doctor about this and have started medication to help but everything feel like it taking forever and a day to improve.   it happens a lot and I've been pushing myself to get out and about I don't want it to control my life. </p>\n<p>thanks for the post though, it's nice to know I'm not alone.</p></div>", "date": "01-11-2013", "url": "https://forums.beyondblue.org.au/t5/anxiety/new/td-p/49672" }, { "author": "user-id/8236", "content": "<p>dear Lenie, your feeling is never any good, as it seems to only escalate.</p>\n<p>Medication can take awhile to take effect, and if nothing is getting any better sooner then go back to our doctor.</p>\n<p>Instead of going back to your car try going for a walk instead, this may have a better affect for you. Geoff.</p></div>", "date": "03-11-2013", "url": "https://forums.beyondblue.org.au/t5/anxiety/new/td-p/49672" } ]

[ { "author": "user-id/17747", "content": "About six months ago I was diagnosed with OCD, and I've only told my partner and a close friend. \n<p>I would like to tell my mum, but it started when I was 12 and I really don't want her to feel like she let me down by not noticing what was going on. I don't blame her at all, because I don't have overt compulsions- they're mostly mental, so it's not like it's noticeable. And I did everything I could to make sure no one would notice.</p>\n<p>So I guess what I'm asking is if you're a parent, would you want to know? Or would you rather not? I really don't want to cause her any stress, but on the other hand I want to be open.</p>\n<p>Thanks</p>\n<p> </p></div>", "date": "01-11-2013", "url": "https://forums.beyondblue.org.au/t5/anxiety/should-i-tell-my-mum-i-have-ocd/td-p/49753" }, { "author": "user-id/8236", "content": "<p>dear Chonty, OCD is an illness and I've had it for 54 years but I hide it or do these habits when no one can see me, or if I need to do them when I'm with other people around they won't even notice, and if for some reason I am caught out out then I can have an explanation.</p>\n<p>My Mum and Dad didn't know as far as I knew because they never asked me about it, or maybe they did know but never asked me why, and my Dad was a GP which obviously helped.</p>\n<p>What I would suggest is for her to watch the anxiety video where you log on, as it explains about OCD and your anxiety, this would be a great way to to tell her, plus I would click 'resources' at the top and get BB to send out all the printed information and OCD is also explained in the material.</p>\n<p>Can I ask how your girlfriend and friend understood and didn't think the worst of you.</p>\n<p>I am always interested when other people post about OCD so please keep in touch with us. Geoff.</p></div>", "date": "02-11-2013", "url": "https://forums.beyondblue.org.au/t5/anxiety/should-i-tell-my-mum-i-have-ocd/td-p/49753" }, { "author": "user-id/17747", "content": "Hey Geoff, thanks for replying.\n<p>I was all keen for telling her but as soon as I see her I lose all motivation. My friend understood quite well, as she's been dealing with depression and anxiety herself so we're pretty relatable on a lot of levels. My partners still adjusting I guess, he tries to be supportive but gets frustrated. I don't blame him though, considering he had a 'normal' me for four years and then gets slammed with this. He thinks Im getting worse when in fact it's just I've stopped hiding it from him.</p>\n<p>It sounds like you've been dealing with OCD for a long time. Can I ask how you deal with it when it gets too mmuch?</p></div>", "date": "02-11-2013", "url": "https://forums.beyondblue.org.au/t5/anxiety/should-i-tell-my-mum-i-have-ocd/td-p/49753" }, { "author": "user-id/8236", "content": "<p>dear Chonty, please you mustn't feel as though you have leprosy, although at a young age I thought that I was stupid, strange and out of the ordinary, because back in those antiquated days it wasn't really recognised as OCD and that's why I think Dad never understood it nor anyone else.</p>\n<p>I really understand why your boyfriend is having trouble, but it's no different than him having some permanent injury which he may be embarrassed about.</p>\n<p>You could ask your mum to read some information on OCD before you tell her, because it's an enormous task for you to have to do.</p>\n<p>How old are you and do you remember any previous family members who may have had it as well, as it's easy to pick up if you see someone else doing these habits, and I'm sure they feel strange themselves, but you're not, I'm not, and I don't judge myself to be inferior, because no one's perfect.</p>\n<p>When it gets too much I may go into my room by myself and do what I have to do, but I still hide it and after 54 years I've had enough practice.</p>\n<p>I don't think that your mum will be totally upset, maybe a little surprised, but it's something that has to be learnt that we are still the person we are.</p>\n<p>My eldest son has also got, but he doesn't take medication, but I do, and this was also to help me with my long depression, I will talk about that next post as I have to go, but I will always respond back to you, so please don't hesitate in asking questions. L Geoff. x</p></div>", "date": "02-11-2013", "url": "https://forums.beyondblue.org.au/t5/anxiety/should-i-tell-my-mum-i-have-ocd/td-p/49753" } ]

[ { "author": "user-id/15930", "content": "<p>Hi</p>\n<p>I'm freaking out. I'm normally tense ( I think it's the only thing holding together). But panicking, gonna vomit or pass out because I  am standing in front of a large assembly (job requires it, normally work one on one with people but exceptions like this arise)</p>\n<p>any advice on how to get through this with some grace?</p></div>", "date": "31-10-2013", "url": "https://forums.beyondblue.org.au/t5/anxiety/performance-anxiety/td-p/49299" }, { "author": "user-id/27576", "content": "<p>Hi Lenie,</p>\n<p>It's very common to get nervous before speaking in public, but if it induces a panic attack for you, and it's going to be part of your work ongoing, then I really would recommend seeing a psychologist to help address it.</p>\n<p>In terms of short-term fixes, anxiety is a very real physical reaction with your brain setting off the 'fear' response.  I've read an analogy from a psychologist that says it's similar to how we react when we see a scary film, we know the film is not real but the body and brain still react.</p>\n<p>The instinct when getting up to speak when nervous is to hurry through and get it over as quickly as possible, this can actually make the panic worse, as it makes your nervousness visible to the audience which then feeds back to you in a loop.</p>\n<p>Try starting with acknowledging and accepting that this is uncomfortable for you, and doing the very opposite of what your instincts are telling you to do: speak in a slow and measured tone, take deep breaths, concentrate on the parts of your body that are tense and practice clenching and unclenching those muscles.  </p>\n<p>I also think there's no harm in choosing someone that you know who will be in the audience and letting them know beforehand that you find public speaking difficult, and use them to make eye contact with during the talk rather than avoiding people altogether.  It will help to desensitise you to the fear of being up in front of people.</p>\n<p>These are just a few tips to get started, but as I mentioned given how strong your attacks are, I would recommend seeing a psychologist or a face-to-face support group in your state.</p>\n<p>We have a list available on our website here: \nhttp://www.beyondblue.org.au/the-facts/anxiety/helpful-contacts-and-websites/face-to-face-support-and-treatments\n</p>\n<p>Does anyone else have tips on how to overcome public speaking fears?</p>\n<p>best<br>\nCB</p>\n<p>_______________________________________________________<br>\n<strong>Online Community Manager</strong></p></div>", "date": "01-11-2013", "url": "https://forums.beyondblue.org.au/t5/anxiety/performance-anxiety/td-p/49299" } ]

[ { "author": "user-id/41590", "content": "<p>Hi everyone-</p>\n<p>My name is Megan.  I'm 35 years old and have struggled with anxiety/depression and bipolar disorder since I was about 20 years old.  I thought I had concurred my demons - but apparently I was wrong.  I went all through nursing school (even graduated with an invitation to join a prestigious nursing honor society) with minimal anxiety.  Up until the end of school I was only taking my regular medications.... but everything changed and has not gone back.  I am currently dealing with an 18 year old son who is having a difficult time with life.  I just transitioned into a new job - which I love and I am so scared I will lose if they find any of this out.  \n</p><p></p> \n<p> </p> \n<p>I have panic attacks DAILY.. sometimes HOURLY.... I get through the day with </p> medication.. sometimes that doesn't even help.  I have had my heart checked and although I do have benign PVC's and some mitral valve regurgitation - there is nothing wrong with my heart.... I feel like once I figure out that I am not going to die from my symptoms- my body attempts to fool me with new symptoms.... Now I feel like my head has pressure and sometimes I feel as if I'm going to pass out.... often I feel this way.... My palms get sweaty, I feel sick.. I know this is anxiety because it only happens when I leave my house and if I take medication I feel better.. .if it was really something with my brain or heart- this medication would not help it.... \n<p></p> \n<p>My husband tries to be supportive but he get sick of it , I'm sure...   I would too... I'm just looking for a friend or someone to talk to.. I feel so alone and hopeless.. I signed up for an intensive outpatient program through Rogers Memorial which is a leading hospital when it comes to Anxiety.. but they have me on a waitlist.. so who knows how long it will take before I can get in..  </p> \n<p> </p> \n<p>Thanks for listening.. </p></div>", "date": "31-10-2013", "url": "https://forums.beyondblue.org.au/t5/anxiety/hello-i-need-someone-to-listen/td-p/49490" }, { "author": "user-id/8236", "content": "<p>dear Megan, point taken and we can hear what you are saying.</p>\n<p>Can I just ask a couple of questions which you can reply to, and it's only to get a little more knowledge of where you are.</p>\n<p>What concerns you more, your new job, your son, or the lack of support from your husband, or it can be a combination of all of them.</p>\n<p>I am never sure that we can ever be free of depression, anxiety or bipolar once we have had to suffer from it, as we are prone to it's idiosyncrasies.</p>\n<p>Personally I feel good but I know what the triggers are that could bring me undone, but when I am feeling slightly done then I could be over swamped and then fall back into depression, but it still doesn't matter if I am prepared to face the black dog, because there are times when I just lay down and let it take me, as I am not strong enough to with hold it.</p>\n<p>I saw my new psychologist yesterday for the second time, and the usual question always arises, 'what do you have planned for the future', and as usual I couldn't answer him, because by having depression forward planning for can be dangerous, because I always fear that any plans can not be adhered to, plus the fact that I always fear that they will end in disaster, so I take it week by week.</p>\n<p>Please return and we are always here for anybody and in this case it's you. L Geoff. x</p></div>", "date": "31-10-2013", "url": "https://forums.beyondblue.org.au/t5/anxiety/hello-i-need-someone-to-listen/td-p/49490" } ]

[ { "author": "user-id/7660", "content": "<p>Hello, </p>\n<p>I'll start off by telling whoever is reading a little about myself. I am a 19 year old female who suffers from anxiety and depression. Signs of this began in my early teens (13-14) when my half sister was born, i started self mutilating, wouldnt move out of my room, etc. To cut an extremely long and painful story short - My biological father has denied me from day dot as he suffers from a herion addiction, my mother is also a drug addict but she abuses perscription pain killers, my step father is abusive and all sorts of messed up. My mums first husband (when I was around 5-7) used to physically abuse me and my mum she quickly moved on to her husband she is still with now (the crazy one). </p>\n<p>In my teens my mother relied on me a lot to look after my sister and then shortly after, brother. Because my step dad is too fat and lazy to do anything ever, he was always either blind drunk or at work. My mum used to mix so many manipulative toxic things into my mind about my step dad, telling me he is a bad person etc.. So many mixed messages, but when it comes down to it what she really taught me was, men are garbage \"the dirt you walk on!\" So now you have the jist - my childhood was pretty sh*t. </p>\n<p>I have seen so many different psycholigsts etc and they all just p*ss me off because they all say the same \"when you're angry try and breath deeply!\" i tell you right now, when i am mad i am not stopping to \"breathe!\" I'm not stopping for anything...I know what my problem is, i can easily identify when I am acting out etc, its just i still cant control it, the rage for no aparent reason, the lashing out at my boyfriend, the bossiness, and most of the time, the tears. I cry so much all the time over nothing at all. I find myself sitting in my bathroom with the worst pain in my chest just wailing and if I am found by my partner i simply cant explain why I am so distraught. I simply tell him its \"everything!\" .... My main problem is that my first boyfriend, I cheated on because I was so accustom to my mothers ways (i watched her cheat on my step dad multiple times) once i pulled myself out of those ways and taught myself that those actions are dead wrong is when i met my boyfriend now - and here is where i need help - </p>\n<p>He is a great guy, really nice, caring. He opened up his home to me. He has his demons too, and he has an anger issue, when he is mad there is no stopping him, he even gets violent (never with me! i promise) I find myself spending a lot of money on him and I do absolutely everything for him, like cook, clean, wash his clothes, etc... and he doesnt do anything, but proceeds to tell me that I am lazy! Anywho, thats not the point... I care for him, a lot. We laugh, play and i have a lot of fun with him but i am not sure he is the one. He makes me really mad, he is extremely stubborn &amp; selfish and I cannot handle that at all. When we fight its always huge cause he always needs to be right. I never receive any token of appreciation for what I do for him either - ever!  I know i dont love him, and its because of the 'stubborn/selfish' trait and when I try to leave him, I cant!? I am so petrified of being alone and everything else that comes after that. I know i am doing the wrong thing by wasting his time. I want to do the right thing, i really do. But i am so so scared. What do i do? </p></div>", "date": "29-10-2013", "url": "https://forums.beyondblue.org.au/t5/anxiety/advice/td-p/48333" }, { "author": "user-id/10086", "content": "<p>Thanks for your post bfay02.  You're not alone, there're are people here to listen.  You do seem to be having the rough end of it at the moment, but the great thing about life is we can make changes and start enjoying it. Life really can be wonderful and I'm sure you have seen moments with your partner, \"He is a great guy, really nice, caring.....\"  Don't let the bad cloud the good.</p>\n<p>The most interesting thing in your whole post is you said \"I know I don't love him\".  We are all afraid of being alone at times, but it's not that bad because it allows us the time to really,...really find out what we want.  It allows us time to plan, to write a list of, \"what do I want in my life\".</p>\n<p>Being scared is ok too.  Each of us humans on this earth will feel it in our lives.  So try and not focus on that but use it to make good decisions.  Only you will be able to chose if you can tolerate his traits which effect you or if you need to move to a place where you are able to be single and make some changes to your life.</p>\n<p>Believe in your self.  Love your self.  We all do.  Have faith and trust in your own decision making and will be correct.  Make a goal and go after it. and if I can leave you with the one thing that has always kept me going......never  never give up.</p>\n<p>cheers. bug</p>\n<p> </p></div>", "date": "29-10-2013", "url": "https://forums.beyondblue.org.au/t5/anxiety/advice/td-p/48333" }, { "author": "user-id/10086", "content": "<p>O yeah forgot to say.......you're amazing for putting up your first post, well done,.....it's the first step....just like me.....</p>\n<p>cheers. bug</p></div>", "date": "29-10-2013", "url": "https://forums.beyondblue.org.au/t5/anxiety/advice/td-p/48333" }, { "author": "user-id/9165", "content": "<p>Hello bfay02,</p>\n<p>Life can be a real pain sometimes, and I can't say if it gets better or worse. There are, however, many opportunities to learn and grow. Things that happened to us in childhood, especially things our parents do, can have a lasting effect that runs into adulthood. Stoopid parents. The way parents treat their kids can leave an imprint, a program, that can last for years affecting us in countless ways. But their behaviours are basically their own programs which they acquired in their own childhood from their own parents and experiences. So our parents had bad experiences, and they pass those onto their kids, who pass them onto their kids, and so on. It's a vicious cycle.</p>\n<p>I recently encountered a book that I think may be extremely useful for you. It's called <em>Running on Empty: Overcoming Your Childhood Emotional Neglect </em>by Jonice Webb. I myself encountered emotional neglect, and in some cases emotional abuse, from my own parents (though they weren't aware of what they were doing or the harm they were causing). My neglect was different to yours, but the book will still be extremely useful for you. It talks about different parenting styles (including the addicted parent), the neglected child grown up, self-care, and much more. I highly recommend the book.</p>\n<p>Hope this helps.</p>\n<p>Ragnarok</p></div>", "date": "30-10-2013", "url": "https://forums.beyondblue.org.au/t5/anxiety/advice/td-p/48333" } ]

[ { "author": "user-id/20923", "content": "<p>I work with parents with mental illness, and what would they think if they knew I had one too!? I teach mindfulness, how come I can't teach it to myself? Not that anyone would know. I have the smile and calm voice down pat.</p>\n<p>I'm white knuckled, wide eyed, hyperventilating sort of terrified of most things these days. I can barely swallow a panadol without thinking I am near to death from an allergic reaction or brain tumour. How do you tell someone you are a hypochondriac, when it all feels so real? Positive test results lead to a few moments of peace until the next fear comes up. Or else I disappear above myself and turn glassy eyed, dizzy brained and vacant.</p>\n<p>Small spaces make me want to die. I braved a 6 hour plane ride and was pacing/crying both ways despite the hefty dose of anti-anxiety medication. I keep waiting for things to get better. </p>\n<p>How do I stop giving this fear to my future offspring? Even when I have my mind together I am still afraid. How do I avoid driving my lovely partner away?</p>\n<p>Official diagnosis of PTSD/panic disorder with agoraphobic tendancies. Probably sitting more on general anxiety these days. Feeling lost and so alone in my crazy little world. </p></div>", "date": "12-10-2013", "url": "https://forums.beyondblue.org.au/t5/anxiety/terrified/td-p/39322" }, { "author": "user-id/27576", "content": "<p>Hi Jessie83,</p>\n<p>Flipping that around, how do you know that the parents you work with wouldn't be more reassured to discover that the person speaking with them can understand what they're going through?  That's not a suggestion that you should disclose your situation at work, that's a choice that you will need to make, but just keep it there as a thought exercise.</p>\n<p>What's more concerning is that you feel alone and not on top of your anxiety.  Are you able to talk to your partner openly about how you're feeling?  How do those conversations go?</p>\n<p>It sounds like you have access to medication, but what about therapy?  Working through intense phobias and PTSD flashbacks is not a journey you should attempt alone, nor should you feel inadequate because you need the help.</p>\n<p>Hopefully you won't feel so lost and alone now that you're posting here, there are plenty of us who have been in our own crazy little worlds (and are still there!).  Take a little time to congratulate yourself on the work you do, which is obviously well received and appreciated despite how you're feeling on the inside.</p>\n<p>Thoughts from others?</p>\n<p>best<br>\nCB</p>\n<p>________________________________________________________________<br>\n<strong>Online Community Manager</strong></p></div>", "date": "15-10-2013", "url": "https://forums.beyondblue.org.au/t5/anxiety/terrified/td-p/39322" }, { "author": "user-id/6226", "content": "<p>HI Jessie 83.</p>\n<p>Your story has similarities to mine. I work in the medical field and telll others what to do, to clam down, deep breath and relax. I couldt tell myself that. I felt terrible for years, had panic attacks and even problems to walk at times. I got told that I am so strong that i could push away those anxieties during work but they came out once i was home.I went to counceling for my flashbacks and trauma i went through,. that helped a bit. But lately i got worse and got medication. I just started and i feel an inner peace i havent felt for a long long time.</p>\n<p>HOw do your meds help you? Do you do counceling just because u teach mnindfulness to others doesnt mean u have to be able to teach yourself that. I cant do it and need help from others. Just because our brain seems to switch off when we are anxious and depressed. I can see that now because the meds lift the brain fog.</p>\n<p>I hope u find some supportive councilour and some meds which work for you</p>\n<p>Keep us updated how u go <span class=\"lia-unicode-emoji\" title=\":slightly_smiling_face:\">🙂</span></p>\n<p>Beetle</p></div>", "date": "20-10-2013", "url": "https://forums.beyondblue.org.au/t5/anxiety/terrified/td-p/39322" }, { "author": "user-id/28401", "content": "<p><span style=\"font-family: Calibri;\">Hi Jessie83,</span></p>\n<p><span style=\"font-family: Calibri;\"> </span></p>\n<p><span style=\"font-family: Calibri;\">A doctor can have immense knowledge of brain tumours, for instance, and can perform surgery to correct these conditions with incredible success. This does not exclude him from having a brain tumour. Mental illness is not different. I know of several psychologists who themselves suffer from depression. Apparently the chemical activity of the brain has a significant influence on whether you experience a mental illness. I’ve had depression and anxiety for most of my adult life; 30+ years, and it’s only been within the last month that I’ve been relieved of the symptoms of these conditions as a consequence of new prescribed medication.</span></p>\n<p><span style=\"font-family: Calibri;\">Seek professional help or advise your treating practitioner of what you’re experiencing. Investigate the benefit of meeting with a psychologist to see what strategies they might offer. In the mean time</span></p>\n<p><span style=\"font-family: Calibri;\">consider this:</span></p>\n<p style=\"text-align: justify;\"><strong><span style=\"font-size: 11pt; text-decoration: underline; font-family: Calibri, sans-serif; color: #444444;\">Reserve 8% of Your Time for Worry.</span></strong></p>\n<p style=\"text-align: justify;\"><span style=\"font-size: 11pt; font-family: Calibri, sans-serif; color: #444444;\">A survey regarding worry revealed these facts: </span></p>\n<p style=\"margin: 6pt 0cm 6pt 36pt; text-align: justify;\"><span style=\"font-size: 11pt; font-family: Symbol; color: #444444;\">·<span style=\"font-style: normal; font-variant: normal; font-weight: normal; font-size: 7pt; line-height: normal; font-family: 'Times New Roman';\">         </span></span><span style=\"font-size: 11pt; font-family: Calibri, sans-serif; color: #444444;\">40 percent of things most people worry about never happen; </span></p>\n<p style=\"margin: 6pt 0cm 6pt 36pt; text-align: justify;\"><span style=\"font-size: 11pt; font-family: Symbol; color: #444444;\">·<span style=\"font-style: normal; font-variant: normal; font-weight: normal; font-size: 7pt; line-height: normal; font-family: 'Times New Roman';\">         </span></span><span style=\"font-size: 11pt; font-family: Calibri, sans-serif; color: #444444;\">30 percent of what we worry about has already happened and cannot be changed; </span></p>\n<p style=\"margin: 6pt 0cm 6pt 36pt; text-align: justify;\"><span style=\"font-size: 11pt; font-family: Symbol; color: #444444;\">·<span style=\"font-style: normal; font-variant: normal; font-weight: normal; font-size: 7pt; line-height: normal; font-family: 'Times New Roman';\">         </span></span><span style=\"font-size: 11pt; font-family: Calibri, sans-serif; color: #444444;\">22 percent of what we worry about regards problems which are beyond our control; </span></p>\n<p style=\"margin: 6pt 0cm 6pt 36pt; text-align: justify;\"><span style=\"font-size: 11pt; font-family: Symbol; color: #444444;\">·<span style=\"font-style: normal; font-variant: normal; font-weight: normal; font-size: 7pt; line-height: normal; font-family: 'Times New Roman';\">         </span></span><span style=\"font-size: 11pt; font-family: Calibri, sans-serif; color: #444444;\">only 8 percent of what we worry about are situations over which we have any influence.</span></p>\n<p><span style=\"font-family: Calibri;\">Focus on what you can influence and accept yourself for who you are – an imperfect, growing, changing human being. I wish you well.</span></p></div>", "date": "21-10-2013", "url": "https://forums.beyondblue.org.au/t5/anxiety/terrified/td-p/39322" }, { "author": "user-id/20923", "content": "<p>Thank you beetle <span class=\"lia-unicode-emoji\" title=\":slightly_smiling_face:\">🙂</span> Yes I am still pondering whether I should go back on meds. I was on an SSRI nd it was great. It helped lift me out of a fog. I can't really tell if I am in the middle of one again or not (it's quite possible!) </p>\n<p>I am trying ACT therapy. I am also considering biofeedback therapy. I have picked up a little in the last few weeks but still feel weird. I normally feel quite void of most emotions aside from distress, but lately I have been feeling teary/sad and excited and loving and a few others. I'm not sure if that is a good sign or bad. </p>\n<p>Glad to hear meds are working for you. It is such a relief to feel the greyness lifting! Tahnks for replying to my post <span class=\"lia-unicode-emoji\" title=\":slightly_smiling_face:\">🙂</span> <span class=\"lia-unicode-emoji\" title=\":slightly_smiling_face:\">🙂</span></p></div>", "date": "28-10-2013", "url": "https://forums.beyondblue.org.au/t5/anxiety/terrified/td-p/39322" }, { "author": "user-id/20923", "content": "<p>Thanks for your reply. I did post one but I think it was lost in cyber space. Yup I have a great partner who is able to feel and show a great deal of empathy/care/love to me, particularly in times of great distress. I think maybe I switch it around and think \"how would I cope with a partner like me\" and I feel that I would leave me, so it makes me sad that I am firstly not the sort of partner I would like to be, and fearful that he might leave me. Thebn I think that of course I couldn't take on a partner like me; I am not coping, but my partner is well and so is able to support me through this time. I have access to sedatives when I fly on planes, but no regular medication for the last 5 years or so. I am seriously considering it now as I had such a great result last time I was on it. I am also looking for a new job, my job is notoriously high stress and everyone experiences some degree of vicarious trauma; me so maybe more as I am already vulnerable to it. It will be nice to do something else for a change <span class=\"lia-unicode-emoji\" title=\":slightly_smiling_face:\">🙂</span></p></div>", "date": "28-10-2013", "url": "https://forums.beyondblue.org.au/t5/anxiety/terrified/td-p/39322" }, { "author": "user-id/20923", "content": "<p>Thank you Colin <span class=\"lia-unicode-emoji\" title=\":slightly_smiling_face:\">🙂</span> I am investigating different types of psychology at the moment. I think I will continue with ACT therapy, and am considering doing some biofeedback. My new psych has suggested that as I have PTSD it is likely I have some weird trauma pathways in my thought processes, and if I can address that I may experience some relief. I like the idea of addressing this kind of scientifically or medically, as I have not had a great deal of success with traditional talk therapy in the past. The idea in ACT is to accept and live iwth anxiety and that sounds quite appealing, as I have almost given up hope I will ever experience life in any other way. </p></div>", "date": "28-10-2013", "url": "https://forums.beyondblue.org.au/t5/anxiety/terrified/td-p/39322" } ]

[ { "author": "user-id/26806", "content": "<p>Does anybody find themselves avoiding situations due to experiencing diarrhoea , staying home incase it happens  or if you can't find a toilet in time, if anybody else experiences this what are some of your coping mechanisms as I can't seem to find a cure no matter where I go which is hardly anywhere it always ends up happening </p></div>", "date": "28-10-2013", "url": "https://forums.beyondblue.org.au/t5/anxiety/toilet-nightmare/td-p/47414" }, { "author": "user-id/21089", "content": "<p>Hey iJUSTwantTObe</p>\n<p>I can totally relate.  </p>\n<p>I call them 2sec warnings, because that's how long I have from being aware I need to go to actually going.  Horrid!!</p>\n<p>For myself I've explored other causes on top of anxiety.</p>\n<p>There's soooo many things I can't eat for this very reason.  Main ones for me are fruit especially citrus and vitamin C (let's not even go there!).</p>\n<p>Have you tried out a naturopath?  Just to explore if diet is contributing.  Also your GP?</p>\n<p>Please stay in touch</p>\n<p>cheers amamas</p></div>", "date": "28-10-2013", "url": "https://forums.beyondblue.org.au/t5/anxiety/toilet-nightmare/td-p/47414" }, { "author": "user-id/20923", "content": "<p>That can also be a result of high anxiety. I too get it when I;m anxious. I would look into medical reasons first, then continue to address the anxiety if there isn't a medical reason for it. </p></div>", "date": "28-10-2013", "url": "https://forums.beyondblue.org.au/t5/anxiety/toilet-nightmare/td-p/47414" } ]

[ { "author": "user-id/26699", "content": "<p>Hey whoeverz reading. I started having anxiety in highschool, although I never understood what it was til this year. I would worry and feel stressed alot but I didnt recognise it as anxiety because Ididnt know what it was. This year,its gotten to the point where I traded my morals for guilt, regret and anxiety. I have family issues and Im not quite sure who iam anymore because I've went against my morals.</p>\n<p>I was pregnant andactually kind of excited and nervous but also my anxiety was getting pretty bad. I was suffering from an identity crises, stayed away from friends and fam in fear of not being good enough or being looked down on. my family always considered me as the kid who will get somewhere in life..career wise, i was considered smart to my parents when really I wasnt. I think I put a high expectation on myself. Which sucked cause theres always someone out there who has something negative to sayor think about you and I just want to be good enough. I feared I wouldnt be a good mother. I have no career/job, I drop out of anycourse I start over something small or in fear everyone is judging me or if im not as smart as others. It was agreed by my partner and I to have a termination. I told myself if I ever was to get pregant, to keep the child. I feel guilty. I question whether what I did was right or not. According to my counsellor I am experiencing 'grief' but am I? I always saw myself as the lady with a career until her 30's and then kids. because of having my life pictured and planned and having it go complete opposite and against my morals, makes me question if they even were my morals to begin with.. who I am... and what my morals are now. I keep lying to myself and pretending itnever happened only to feel a tear as I see people with cute babies. Its gotten to the point thatI dont want to get out of bed, i cant get to sleep in fear ill just dissapoint or be looked apon as a monster.</p></div>", "date": "27-10-2013", "url": "https://forums.beyondblue.org.au/t5/anxiety/when-morals-lies-and-anxiety-collide-help/td-p/46384" }, { "author": "user-id/26806", "content": "<p>Hi Ashleigh, first of all I'm sorry to hear what you have gone through. Second of all you need to stop being so hard on yourself, you need to give yourself the time to recover you made a life changing decision it's not something you should be expected</p>\n<p>to be over and moved on from. I know it's hard  trying to figure out who you are what do you want from life especially now that things have gone in a different direction from what you first imagined , but it's ok to  have speed humps in life , unfortunately things aren't always going to go to plan but that's not saying you can't get back on track if that's what you want to do. The main thing just try not to be so hard on yourself the more you stress about who you are and where your life's going the harder it's going to be to figure it out. Just day each day at a time. Live for that day try not</p>\n<p>to look to far into the future because it will just overwhelm you. Wish you all the best xx</p></div>", "date": "28-10-2013", "url": "https://forums.beyondblue.org.au/t5/anxiety/when-morals-lies-and-anxiety-collide-help/td-p/46384" } ]

[ { "author": "user-id/11977", "content": "<p>I have to go to the HCF Dentist this afternoon, and I have to go by myself and talk to the receptionist. My brother will be getting there later than me but is meant to have the first appointment, so I have to swap the two appointments around. I've never had to go by myself and I know it sounds so petty but I'm really scared. Can anyone tell me what exactly you're meant to say to the receptionist when you get there, and do I need to go see the receptionist again after my appointment before I leave? I know how ridiculous this sounds and I hate that I can't just push my fears aside, but no one in my family understands how big a deal this is for me because they're all really confident and I'm just not. I also have a habit of making a complete fool of myself on a regular basis, and really want to avoid that which is why I'm feeling so nervous. Can anyone help?</p></div>", "date": "08-10-2013", "url": "https://forums.beyondblue.org.au/t5/anxiety/feeling-overwhelmingly-anxious-about-something-that-should-be/td-p/36854" }, { "author": "user-id/39444", "content": "<p>You could call ahead if you're worried.  It might be easier for you to talk over the phone than in person.<br>\n<br>\nI imagine something like the following would do a passable job?<br>\n<br>\n\"Hi, I'm Temperance Fogworthy.  My brother is Lord Nodloddington Fogworthy.  We have consecutive appointments scheduled and my brother can't be here for his earlier slot, so I was wondering if I could switch them around.\"<br>\n \"Thanks.\"<br>\n\"You too.  Bye.\"</p>\n<p>But it doesn't matter too much.  Most of a receptionist's job is to be nice to people.  So the receptionist will probably have a big smile and speak kindly, no matter how sillily you act.<br>\n<br>\nAs time goes by and you take more notice of how other people tick, you'll become more confident in yourself when you realise that we're all just people.  We're all just as stupid as you are.  Everyone makes fools of themselves, every day.  Maybe other people are stupid in different ways to you, but they're still complete nonces.  And that's the tooth!  Ha.  Ha hah.  Hah ahhHAh haHhAha !!!</p></div>", "date": "08-10-2013", "url": "https://forums.beyondblue.org.au/t5/anxiety/feeling-overwhelmingly-anxious-about-something-that-should-be/td-p/36854" }, { "author": "user-id/21739", "content": "<p>Dear tash,</p>\n<p>How did you go ?  It's not just the dentist that can make for an anxious moment - there's always the grumpy neighbour, the boyfriend that doesn't return texts and the granny that says \"I've got a secret for you\" and then puts you in a headlock before confiding \"you're my favourite\".</p>\n<p>If you feel the anxiety creeping on a few days before the event you can always postpone.   It just me 3 attempts to get a new script from my GP.   I had too many other pressures for a while and doing this one simple thing, i.e. turning up, just didn't seem possible for a while.  Probably the ability to communicate is the best thing.   Even if it's to cancel something until you feel better about it.</p>\n<p>The site has daily moderation so maybe you got a response in time.   Next time try planning a strategy a bit earlier if you can develope some insight.</p>\n<p>Adios, David.</p></div>", "date": "09-10-2013", "url": "https://forums.beyondblue.org.au/t5/anxiety/feeling-overwhelmingly-anxious-about-something-that-should-be/td-p/36854" } ]

[ { "author": "user-id/8245", "content": "<p>I haven't sought help before this, but I am feeling so completely terrible that I thought it might be a good option. Long story short, I have had 5 deaths in the family in so many years and I suppose I am now very preoccupied with a fear of a terminal illness or death. Anxiety, which I have lived with for 6 years, is only starting to become 'unmanageable' now, after the death of my Nana one week ago. Has anyone else, with this kind of experience, had these kinds of episodes where you are just terrified of getting sick, or dying, or perhaps 'creating' symptoms? I keep getting these numb, tingly types of symptoms in my arms and hands, I am sure my anxiety is causing them (coupled with being a student and using a computer 10+ hours per day). Can anyone help? Need someone to talk to.</p></div>", "date": "01-10-2013", "url": "https://forums.beyondblue.org.au/t5/anxiety/anyone-out-there-with-health-anxiety/td-p/100137" }, { "author": "user-id/21739", "content": "<p>Dear messy,</p>\n<p>You must have been close to you Nana and the week since her passing would seem like a day.  Good on you for posting your concerns on health anxiety.</p>\n<p>I think everyone has a bit of health anxiety.  From the family meal that someone pulls out with an important soccer match to attend to the wedding where the bride doesn't show.  For me, it's more noticeable when I book a medical appointment.   With bipolar I can be fine on booking but by the time the session comes up I am heading into mood land and can't commit to the actual appearance.  So I just annoy the surgery with a few bookings, cancellations and re-bookings.  But, hey, at least I communicate these non appearances.</p>\n<p>So, your whole body can spasm with anxiety.   If you are unable to get to a medical situation then maybe you have to police the computer time.   I always thought having a trampoline would be good for study.   Some computer time coupled with unabashed jumping for 10 mins.    A real breaker.  And one way to get the arms and hands moving and to redistribute the blood.  Save your tingling for your brain.</p>\n<p>Adios, David.</p></div>", "date": "02-10-2013", "url": "https://forums.beyondblue.org.au/t5/anxiety/anyone-out-there-with-health-anxiety/td-p/100137" }, { "author": "user-id/14315", "content": "<p>Hello Messy, I am very sorry that you have been through so much ,you poor darling. I too lost my grandma at the beginning of last year ,she was my favorite person and I miss her everyday but it does get easier! I spent weeks crying and lost my appetite but gradually I got better and my dad explained that my Granny would not want me to make myself sick but to keep living life as best as you can. Also I think everyone is abit scared of death because its so unknown ,but you cant focus on it because its inevitable and you can let it rule you. Hope you feel better soon! Poppy. <span class=\"lia-unicode-emoji\" title=\":slightly_smiling_face:\">🙂</span> </p></div>", "date": "08-10-2013", "url": "https://forums.beyondblue.org.au/t5/anxiety/anyone-out-there-with-health-anxiety/td-p/100137" }, { "author": "user-id/27576", "content": "<p>Hi messy29, it's not uncommon for anxiety to manifest in consuming fears about death, as opposed to the everyday fear that we all feel to some extent.</p>\n<p>I have two friends who experience this: one is in his mid-20s, and he describes himself as terrified of it. He also is being treated for anxiety, and has had a close family member die of a terminal illness, so this probably hasn't helped.  The other is closer to 40 - we've been friends for about 20 years, and he often told me when he was a bit younger that he would wake up in the middle of the night panicking about death and unable to get back to sleep; his wife would just have to sit and try to talk him down.</p>\n<p>Don't know whether you were just using it as a turn of phrase or whether you actually feel this way, but saying that you \"make up\" symptoms suggests that your anxiety isn't real, or that you should be able to cope with it.  The symptoms and the fear is very real, there are just different ways of dealing with them - going to see a therapist, or looking at medication options with your GP if you're having panic attacks.  </p>\n<p>It's good that you've got the self-awareness to identify that things are starting to get a bit much for you to handle by yourself, so now is a good time to reach out for some extra help.  These symptoms you describe are part of anxiety for some people.</p>\n<p>I'm sorry you've lost so many close family members in the last few years, I have lost a few myself and know the gap that it leaves in your life.  Take care.</p>\n<p>best<br>\nCB</p>\n<p>__________________________________________________________________<br>\n<strong>Online Community Manager</strong></p></div>", "date": "08-10-2013", "url": "https://forums.beyondblue.org.au/t5/anxiety/anyone-out-there-with-health-anxiety/td-p/100137" } ]

[ { "author": "user-id/9918", "content": "<p>i don't understand whats happening to me, i thought i got over my anxiety and out of the blue when i was watching a movie with my husband i had a sudden panic attack that was back in May, since then i have been worried if il keep getting them. i started feeling better again until i landed back from the UK and felt abit sick so i took some cold and flu tablets and had an immediate allergic reaction and was taken to hospital i have never had a reaction to anything before. since then i have not been able to eat properly and i get scared of having an allergic reaction even though i had it before with meds not food and every time i go to eat i basically have a panic attack and think my throat and face is swelling up and im constantly checking in the mirror poking my tongue out to check im ok.. i get all light headed and start to space out alot more often than what i used to its like im not even real when this happens, i have now lost 6 kilos in 4/5 weeks unintentionally. its starting to take a toll on me at work as i keep freaking out over everything  like if i feel something like a pain in my body or if i feel remotely sick i get obsessed with where the pain is from and think im going to die and now even my husbands calling me paranoid and says i freak out allot. I am always feeling so heavy, weak, tired and really emotional i couldn't stop crying today for no reason i am worrying myself sick with whats going on with my body, i also have been getting bad reflux when i try and eat and upset guts getting diarrhea. i have been to the doctors and had blood test done on nearly everything except hcg levels and they all came back fine stool samples to see if i have a parasitic infection ( i had one back in feb) and those test came back clear, i also told them i came off the contraceptive pill 7 weeks ago and all they have said is it may make me have mood swings, could coming off the pill make me feel like this?? like im going crazy??. im so worried that i cannot eat and recently cant really stomach water .i just want to go back to normal again and stop freaking out but i dont know how or what to do!! has anyone had symptoms like this or know of anything i can do to help??</p></div>", "date": "29-09-2013", "url": "https://forums.beyondblue.org.au/t5/anxiety/i-dont-know-what-to-do-anymore-and-im-worrying-myself-sick/td-p/99418" }, { "author": "user-id/27576", "content": "<p>Hi Alicia, I think your post says it all: it sounds like you are incredibly anxious and on edge at the moment.  You say you've had loads of tests done at your doctor's, but have you told your doctor any of the above?  </p>\n<p>I'm guessing you have a history of anxiety based on your first sentence, so you have been here before.  If that's correct, then please try and take some assurance from knowing that depression and anxiety are unfortunately a bit like the flu; it can come and go throughout your life, it doesn't mean you're \"broken\" again.</p>\n<p>I'd suggest you go back and see your doctor and explain the effect the anxious symptoms are having on your life, particularly work, and take it from there.</p>\n<p>It would be good if your husband could help you through this period as well, perhaps you could refer him to the anxiety section of our website so he can read up on it: <a href=\"http://www.beyondblue.org.au/the-facts/anxiety\" style=\"font-size: 0.8125em; line-height: 1.38462;\" rel=\"nofollow noopener noreferrer\">http://www.beyondblue.org.au/the-facts/anxiety</a> - these symptoms are very real, and are not just you \"freaking out\".</p>\n<p>best<br>\nCB</p>\n<p>__________________________________________________________________<br>\n<strong>Online Community Manager</strong></p></div>", "date": "30-09-2013", "url": "https://forums.beyondblue.org.au/t5/anxiety/i-dont-know-what-to-do-anymore-and-im-worrying-myself-sick/td-p/99418" }, { "author": "user-id/12824", "content": "<p>Hi alicia,</p>\n<p>I do believe that from my own experience that being on a contraceptive can smooth out the mood swings if they are cyclical so it might just be that you are naturally more moody. Stress can also affect the digestive system. I had IBS (Irritable Bowel Syndrome) for several years. I eliminated just about everything from my diet, did yoga and meditation and Tai Chi and nothing really helped. There was no real rhyme or reason or pattern to the foods that seemed to affect me. I had all sorts of tests even swallowed a camera at one point to get a look at my stomach which was quite interesting. Then one day I just said F this, I am not going to worry any more, I am just going to eat what I like and just bear the discomfit. I also took up running. It worked for me. Best wishes, Chris.</p></div>", "date": "30-09-2013", "url": "https://forums.beyondblue.org.au/t5/anxiety/i-dont-know-what-to-do-anymore-and-im-worrying-myself-sick/td-p/99418" }, { "author": "user-id/9918", "content": "<p>thankyou for the replies and fir the advise, i went back to the doctor on sunday evening and they did one final test to rule out near enough everything and it turns out i have ibs and a stomach parasite called helicobactor pylori the symptons i was having with ny stomach are because if this but i have been prescribed anti biotics for the next 2 months and hopefully that will get rid of the bug. its given me some peace if mind on why i lost my appetie and why ive lost so much weight. however i still feel anxious abiut everytging and have spoke to my husband and family  and got them to look at the beyond blue website and decided together that i do need help still with my anxiety and phobias so i have booked in with my doctor next wednesday to get a referral to a phsycologist  nearby who will hopefully help me get better and stop thinking the way i do. thankyou again.</p>\n<p>alicia</p></div>", "date": "04-10-2013", "url": "https://forums.beyondblue.org.au/t5/anxiety/i-dont-know-what-to-do-anymore-and-im-worrying-myself-sick/td-p/99418" }, { "author": "user-id/21739", "content": "If you feel better DON'T stop the antibiotic course.  It needs to run the full distance.  Adios, David.</div>", "date": "04-10-2013", "url": "https://forums.beyondblue.org.au/t5/anxiety/i-dont-know-what-to-do-anymore-and-im-worrying-myself-sick/td-p/99418" }, { "author": "user-id/12824", "content": "<p>Hi,</p>\n<p>I agree with</p><blockquote><strong class=\"sfUserQuote\">The Real David Charles said:</strong>If you feel better DON'T stop the antibiotic course.  It needs to run the full distance.  Adios, David.</blockquote> <p></p>\n<p>Even if you do not feel better probably best to take the full course.</p>\n<p>I hope this does not come out the wrong way but I am glad you found a physical problem to deal with and that your family have come on board to support you with your anxiety.</p>\n<p>cheers,</p>\n<p>Mulberry</p>\n<p></p>\n<p></p></div>", "date": "05-10-2013", "url": "https://forums.beyondblue.org.au/t5/anxiety/i-dont-know-what-to-do-anymore-and-im-worrying-myself-sick/td-p/99418" } ]

[ { "author": "user-id/31068", "content": "<p>I get really anxious over stupid little things, like when my teacher picks people to read out of the text book or when I have to get up to walk in front of the class. Even when I have to press the bell and walk off of the bus, I play it over and over in my head planning out what I am going to do before I actually do it and I have major butterflies and I just feel really nervous for some reason. Those are the small things but the bigger ones are if I have to speak in front of people or when I get confused or lost/stressed and upset. I get really overwhelmed, for example one day I had an exam over the phone that I hadn't studied for and I had no idea what to do and I broke down crying and I felt so overwhelmed that I couldn't stop crying, I was shaking and I felt like I was going to be sick and for the rest of the day I was just really jittery.</p>\n<p>Another time I was late for school so I was naturally really anxious about getting in trouble and some things happened and I got really confused as to where I was meant to be going and all of a sudden I started crying and I ran to the bathroom and locked myself in the cubicle. Some of the things I remember feeling were: Shaking, Cold but then hot flushes, headaches, feeling like I was going to be sick, I couldn't stop crying and I had massive butterflies in my stomach for the rest of the day. It was like I was fine one minute and the next I wasn't. After that, I researched anxiety and I thought I may have some form of anxiety but I keep telling myself that I am overexaggerating. This may sound stupid but I keep thinking that I'm just doing this for attention so that people will feel sympathy for me, but i'm not that type of person and it is driving me mad. I want to tell someone but I keep telling myself that I don't have anxiety which is kind of making me believe that I don't and if I tell someone and I don't actually have anxiety I think I would be really embarassed and I wouldn't know what to do. I know that my parents and friends would want to help me whatever happens but i can't help feeling this way. I don't know what to do, if anyone could give me some advice/help me that would be great, even just give me your opinion on this situation please??? </p></div>", "date": "26-08-2013", "url": "https://forums.beyondblue.org.au/t5/anxiety/possbile-anxiety/td-p/92490" }, { "author": "user-id/5945", "content": "<p>Hi Jac,</p>\n<p>Welcome to the forum! We're glad you have posted because it does sound like you are experiencing anxiety, and there are many people who can offer you some advice. Everyone experiences anxiety from time to time, but it becomes a problem when we are becoming anxious in situations where we don't need to be anxious, or when it is starting to have a negative impact on how we are living our lives. For this reason, it sounds like it would be worth talking to someone about what you are experiencing. Sometimes, things that start off small can become bigger problems if we don't get onto them earlier, so please don't feel bad about asking for help.</p>\n<p>A good place to start might be your school welfare coordinator, who can tell you more about anxiety and some strategies to help. They could also help refer you to someone else if you are interested in counselling services. It is up to you how much you want to tell your parents, but they may be able to offer you some reassurance and guidance when you are feeling overwhelmed. </p>\n<p>You might also find it helpful to read through some of the material and links on this website about anxiety. </p>\n<p>Good on you for sharing so bravely- we hope you stay in touch with us on the forum and let us know how you are getting on. </p>\n<p>With best wishes</p>\n<p>beyondblue moderation team</p></div>", "date": "01-09-2013", "url": "https://forums.beyondblue.org.au/t5/anxiety/possbile-anxiety/td-p/92490" }, { "author": "user-id/27703", "content": "<p>Hi Jac,</p>\n<p>You sound exactly like i was when i was at school. I often months or years after events that i worried about significantly would look back and think \"why was i so worried about that\" but it didnt help at the time i was freaking out. I just considered myself as a natural worrier and accepted it, however many years later that worry manifested itself in proper anxiety about 18 months ago. It was not a fun experience and i ended up getting a bit of help and did a number of wellbeing self help courses online which taught cognative Behavour Therapy and i have improved remarkably over the last 6 months or so. I still freak out every now and again but its not constant and i have a bit better handle on how to control it.</p>\n<p>My advice to you is if going to a doctor to discuss and perhaps get a diagnosis is a little bit daunting then focus on trying to improve how your mind deals with worry by googling self help courses and techniques for controlling worry or generalised anxiety disorder. They helped me get back to enjoying my work and life without the constant worry without medication. The first thing they will teach you which i struggled to accept for a long time is you need to understand that your worry is not helping protect you from future events and it is not in any way beneficial for you. i always beleived my worry prepared me for the unpredictable future but trust me i was wrong.</p>\n<p>It can be a bit of a tough slog to start with but once you start to retrain your mind o think differently about situations and the future you will start to break free of the contact worry and anxiety.</p>\n<p>Good luck</p></div>", "date": "02-09-2013", "url": "https://forums.beyondblue.org.au/t5/anxiety/possbile-anxiety/td-p/92490" }, { "author": "user-id/27580", "content": "<p>Hi Jac,</p>\n<p>You are not alone! I have paranoia about letting people down. I drive myself to do as much as possible and when some thing goes wrong, which is usually something minor I get the butterflies, the over thinking on situations, worrying of the overthinking. I drive myself sometimes to exhaustion, where I start getting sick. Then when i'm ill and have to take time off of work the guilt sets in. I look back and all my anxiety is based on the trivial, just like Professional worrier, at the time it doesn't feel trivial.</p>\n<p>I have learnt to though, over the last 18 months, to stop and step back from a situation and take a few good deep breaths. Then I almost chant or pray to myself and say 'this situation will not kill me, hurt nor have a significant impact on my life. I will not let this affect my life'</p>\n<p>The more I say it, the more I believe it. I have been saying negative things to myself for many years now and I believed it. Now I'm going the other way, positive sayings. I still struggle everyday but I can cope.</p>\n<p>Different techniques work for different people.</p>\n<p>Good luck and we are here to listen if you need.</p></div>", "date": "13-09-2013", "url": "https://forums.beyondblue.org.au/t5/anxiety/possbile-anxiety/td-p/92490" }, { "author": "user-id/41245", "content": "Heya,  good on you for sharing :)\n<p>Sounds like anxiety to me, I was such the same while I was at school. It started small as playing a situation over hundreds of times in my head before doing anything such as asking a question at school or even just asking  for something off someone, speaking everything... i would dwell on everything such as \"aww why did I ssaythat\" on something Isaid years earlier. I choose not to believe it and have the \"naa im sweet attitude\" and not ttalk to anybody and eventually it ended up controlling my life.  I now wakeup anxious and continually feel that way.  I highly recommend you find a person you trust and speak with them, best of luck.</p>\n<p>Always here to talk,</p>\n<p>Nakka</p></div>", "date": "01-10-2013", "url": "https://forums.beyondblue.org.au/t5/anxiety/possbile-anxiety/td-p/92490" } ]

[ { "author": "user-id/23853", "content": "<p>I've suffered anxiety and depression for about 10 years now. Ive also suffered with anorexia and bulimia. I've been married for 13 years and my husband has stuck by me through all this time. I've tried just about every medication there is out there with no success. i think they made me worse. I've been seeing councilors for all these years and do my best to stay on top of things. I get up and go to work every day, I look after my 2 children with my husbands support. I exercise 5 days a week and I don't withdraw myself from social situations and do things that used to make me happy. But none of this works. I can't seem to find a medication that helps and lately I've come to a point where I just want to give up and sleep all the time. My husband says Ive been just like a zombie for the past year. I'm there in body but not really mind. I haven't been happy for a long time and I'm always sad. Is there really any hope. I know there are a lot of people a lot worse off than me but it doesn't make any difference knowing this. My 6 year old daughter last night asked my husband \" is mummy ever going to be happy\". I just don't know what to do anymore.</p></div>", "date": "28-09-2013", "url": "https://forums.beyondblue.org.au/t5/anxiety/i-m-worried-about-where-my-life-is-going-to-end-up/td-p/99366" }, { "author": "user-id/39444", "content": "<pre id=\"code\" class=\"plain-text\" style=\"overflow-x: auto; overflow-y: auto; padding-top: 10px; padding-right: 10px; padding-bottom: 10px; padding-left: 10px; margin-top: 0px; margin-bottom: 0px; color: #000000; font-size: 12px; line-height: normal; font-family: Consolas, 'Bitstream Vera Sans Mono', 'Courier New', Courier, monospace !important;\">I think life generally ends up, quite uninterestingly, in a hole in the ground, making intimate counsel with the swarming things that swarm and the crawling things that crawleth. So I don't think how it ends up can be very much of the point of the thing. I think it's not about getting anywhere, so much as looking, listening, and licking at the fanciful things encountered whilst going somewheres.\n\nIf the old pasttimes aren't churning your butter, have you tried new ones? I recently took up tango lessons. I believe I have managed to craft for myself a one-man remedial group, as the first stage of the first lesson - \"how to walk\" - saw me taken aside from the others and chided for not knowing even how to *stand* like a man. But hope springs eternal, and the dance must go on.\n\nForgive me if this is overly presumptuous, but I get the vibe like you feel you're a passenger in your life, rather than the driver. Like life is \"taking\" you somewhere, rather than you taking it somewhere? If so, my prescription is to do new things.\n</pre></div>", "date": "29-09-2013", "url": "https://forums.beyondblue.org.au/t5/anxiety/i-m-worried-about-where-my-life-is-going-to-end-up/td-p/99366" }, { "author": "user-id/27576", "content": "<p>Hi Sandy78, are you seeing a counsellor currently? There are so many different medications, and for some people they work, others not; but finding a connection with the right therapist where you are in the driving seat can be invaluable.  Batman makes a good point above about taking some control back, declaring some goals, even you're just starting with: to be happy.</p>\n<p>Some research in the UK about wellbeing uncovered 5 areas of our lives in which we can really make a difference: <a href=\"http://www.mind.org.uk/employment/mind_week_2011/employees/five_ways_to_wellbeing\" style=\"font-size: 0.8125em; line-height: 1.38462;\" rel=\"nofollow noopener noreferrer\">http://www.mind.org.uk/employment/mind_week_2011/employees/five_ways_to_wellbeing</a></p>\n<p>Connecting with others, being active, taking notice, learning new things, and giving.  It sounds like you're doing some of these already, but if you're not enjoying them - your exercise regime for example - dump it and try something else.  The social situations: are you socialising with people you actually like, share your interests and stimulate you?  Do they make you laugh?</p>\n<p>You've come a long way through a great deal of crap, and yes you're right, knowing others are \"worse off\" doesn't help at all, so forget that and just come back to you.  What little changes can you make to bring the \"zombie\" back to life again?  It doesn't have to be a 24-hour makeover.  Try some little things.</p>\n<p>best<br>\nCB</p>\n<p>____________________________________________________________________<br>\n<strong>Online Community Manager</strong></p></div>", "date": "30-09-2013", "url": "https://forums.beyondblue.org.au/t5/anxiety/i-m-worried-about-where-my-life-is-going-to-end-up/td-p/99366" }, { "author": "user-id/13663", "content": "<p class=\"MsoNormal\">Hi Sandy, I hear what you’re saying.<span>  </span>I’m not sure my story will help, other than\ntell you that I also struggle with various medicine and was quite skeptical\nabout them.<span>  </span>That was until recently when\na local psychiatrist tried me on something the GPs could not readily start me\noff on.<span>  </span>I’m please to say that the medicine\nnow take helps to relieve my extreme anxiety.<span> \n</span>(<em>I did a lot of work on myself and\npushed hard to be heard with the doctors</em>) It took quite a few years and a\nfew melt downs, but I am no longer the skeptic when it comes to medicine, as I\nonce was.<span>  </span>If a medicine does not work\nfor me, I let the doc know and or I will even take the appropriate steps myself\nto go off them. (Seek professional help when doing so)<span>  </span>… I am sorry to hear how difficult this\nprocess has been for you.<span>  </span>Hang in there\nand bring up your concerns regarding your medicine with the doctors that prescribe\nit to you.<br>\n<br>\nAlthough I have “finally” found medicine that works for me I do not stop\nthere.<span>  </span>I have to tell you, your TITLE to\nthis thread got my attention; specifically the word “Worried.”<span>  </span>With worry comes a lot of “thinking”.<span>  </span>It may feel like you’re there in body, but\nnot in mind, however I ask you to consider the possibility, how you might\nactually be trapped in your mind.<span>  </span><br>\n<br>\nYou mention how you are trying the things that used to make you happy, however\nthey are no longer working for you.<span>  </span>I\nknow this well … it’s been a cry of mine for years and largely the finally\nreasoning that something “is” wrong with me.<span> \n</span>Because of that, I had to open myself to other possibilities. <br>\n<br>\nI gave up smoking cigarettes which was a huge step.<span>  </span>That was like 8 years ago.<span>  </span>Whilst it was hugely self empowering, I still\nfound myself falling into deep ruts of depression with each following years\nhaving the bouts last much longer and deeper.<span>  \n</span>I joined online forums much like this one, however was lacking the\ninsight that I have come to know now.<span> \n</span>However, I did find an attraction to get back up every time my foot\nstumbled into my mouth.<span>  </span><span> </span><span> </span>I have\nbeen banned on quite a few forums; with story growing wearier at each\nturn.<span>  </span>None the less I began to find my determination\n(after each drawn out depressive stint) was having me understand my whole story\nin a new light.<span>  </span>In fact, the answer for me\nhas been an attempt over the last few years, to let go of my story.<span>  </span><br>\n<br>\nForgive me for being so long winded about this Sandy.<span>  </span>Unfortunately there is no quick fix to life’s\nlesson and in a way; I guess that is what I am really getting at here.<span>  </span>I fully encourage you to hang in there and\nride with what you must.<span>  </span>It’s actually OK to be where you are at.<span>  </span>No it’s not a\nnice place to be … it’s downright miserable and it hurts.<span>  </span>In that context you have my deepest condolences\nand I want you to know I’m feeling your every word.<span>  </span><br>\n<br>\nI still struggle very much myself … This appeal I give to you is also helpful\nfor me, although I reach out with utmost sincerity.<span>  </span>Worry is a terrible thing.<span>  </span>It ties us to the past and throw us into the future\nwhilst robbing us of “our life” I am a proponent for the healing concepts of Mindfulness.<span>  </span>I have found much “relief” at my attempts to practice\nit.<span>  </span>I have also and still am learning\nabout Raw Emotion and how it impacts our bodies … it’s trying to think by\nfeeling the body’s response to triggers intended to elicit an emotional\nresponse, as opposed to simply reacting on auto pilot.<span>  </span>It requires a little effort to catch oneself\nin the process before allowing an otherwise learned behavior to keep\ncontrolling us.<span>  </span>… The mind using the\npast to throw us into the future and keep us from the present to which it does\nnot want to face.<br>\n<br>\nI’ll leave it at that.<span>  </span>I’m just some\nother guys struggling like everyone else.<span> \n</span>I only started walking about two weeks ago or so.<span>  </span>I was encouraged by other members in here,\nand since then my photography has now become a tool like the walking and I have\nstarted a blog that helps me keep focused and moving forward.<span>  </span><span> </span><br>\n<br>\nYou or anyone else is most welcome to view it.<span> \n</span>It is non-reply, however emails are well received.<br>\n<br>\nFull credit to you, for sticking it out for so long with your family.<span>  </span>So many people cur and run these days.<span>  </span>You’re a fighter … Reminds me of a quote I\njust used actually … “You were given this life, because your tough enough to\nlive it”<span>  </span>Takes a bit to warm up to, but\nonce you make it back into the sun after being out of it for so long … you’ll\nget the picture.<br>\n<br>\nSo on that note Sandy … my warmest wishes to you in your time of need.<span>  </span><br>\n<br>\n<em>I may be wrong &amp; I may be wrong … but\nI do know, I want to share.</em><br>\nMy Blog:</p>\n<p class=\"MsoNormal\">http://photographyformentalillness.blogspot.com.au/</p></div>", "date": "30-09-2013", "url": "https://forums.beyondblue.org.au/t5/anxiety/i-m-worried-about-where-my-life-is-going-to-end-up/td-p/99366" } ]

[ { "author": "user-id/40356", "content": "<p>Help!</p>\n<p>*a little disclaimer *</p>\n<p>i have had my heart listened to and I have been told that I have no trace of asthma.</p>\n<p>so my new anxiety symptom( I thought I had experienced thm all!) is chest tighness?</p>\n<p>please if anyone gets this let me know your experience and if you have overcome it.</p>\n<p>my chest tightness feels like someone is sitting on my chest and is so uncomfortable , but goes away if I can distract myself....</p>\n<p>i feel like I'm going bonkers....yes I have started to see a pschcologist also seeing bev aisbett for a counselling session( she is the author of the \"IT\" series) I have been prescribed medication and am still contemplating it.</p>\n<p>Has anyone been on an anti-depressant?</p>\n<p>thanks xxxx</p>\n<p></p></div>", "date": "15-09-2013", "url": "https://forums.beyondblue.org.au/t5/anxiety/chest-tightness/td-p/96400" }, { "author": "user-id/21739", "content": "<p>Dear Rachael,</p>\n<p>You sound very pro-active.  Well done.</p>\n<p>Anti-depressant can be both short or long term.   They don't always make a good fit so there are several different types to basically try until one works the best.   It's not worth trying them if you want a cure as they basically mask the symtoms of depression and part of depression cuts down your immunity system.  But you're cheast pains from anxiety is a real concern.</p>\n<p>When you say it <strong>\"feels like someone sitting on my cheast\"</strong> you are echoing the Medieval painters.   Some would depict a person sleeping on their back with a sort of figure hunched on their chest. So Medievalists has the same feeling and sought to portray it with art.    The constriction is caused by muscular contractions - you probably get shortness of breath too.  It's all wound up and no place to go.  A good massage once a week or a bit of walking can lessen the tightness.</p>\n<p>You might find some trauma from the past is inside your subconscious.    A few counselling sessions would help ease these inner thoughts that are so well interpretated by the physical cheast tightness.   GP's have what's called A Mental Health Plan.  Basically your usual details and a referral for up to 10 free sessions.  Something has definately happened in your past to cause this anxiety.  Then when you anticipate a future event which heralds more difficulty (probably something more serious than \"Where's the remote ?\"  Lol) this anxiety kicks in again.</p>\n<p>Some asthmatics turn to swimming.  Even though you don't have asthma swimming is great for stretching the body out.  Anxiety is kind of a double edged thing - a real pain if it is inhibiting yourself but a terrific boost if you are about to perform something wonderful.  Part of the bodies NATURAL coping mechanisms.</p>\n<p>Adios, David.</p>\n<p>PS  I have to go to bed soon as my wife has reminded me we have a \"big day\" tomorrow.  Yep, City of Sydney Council meeting for a NYE gig - we have to anxiously plod though the essentials of the big gig like parking and guests.   Makes me laugh.  We usually get 4 guests per performer (we have a big band) but this year the admin decress we get 2.46 guests per performer (OK, that's 32 guests for 13 musos). I might have to sit on the Administrators cheast myself..................</p></div>", "date": "17-09-2013", "url": "https://forums.beyondblue.org.au/t5/anxiety/chest-tightness/td-p/96400" }, { "author": "user-id/30860", "content": "I started out having sharp pains under each arm and in the centre of my chest after a medical all clear and being told I was having anxiety attacks its now the same feeling you describe. Other symptons include heart racing, a feeling of dread and of confusion. Your not alone.</div>", "date": "18-09-2013", "url": "https://forums.beyondblue.org.au/t5/anxiety/chest-tightness/td-p/96400" }, { "author": "user-id/30254", "content": "<p>Hello Rachael,</p>\n<p>There is a short clip on the beyondblue YouTube page about chest tightness, it's part of the \"My Name Is Anxiety\" programme starring Ben Mendelsohn.  I know this clip is there because I am the bloke in the clip!!</p>\n<p>Yes, I know this symptom.</p>\n<p>Unlike you I do have a diagnosis of asthma, and bronchitis which flares up every winter after a particularly nasty bout of it I had while visiting Britain in 2000-2001.  But when the squeeze comes I know the difference, especially when I take my puffer \"anyway\" (knowing it isn't asthma) and the tightness doesn't shift.</p>\n<p>I am on an SSRI tablet and have been since (diagnosis in) 2009, but since chest tightening is for me now a \"panic attack\" sort of thing rather than a daily life thing (as it was in the years before I was being treated for GAD), the tablets themselves don't actually do much in the short term \"emergency\".  It's then that I have to practice laming myself down with breathing, meditation, and self-soothing \"it's okay Damien, you'll be fine, it's all good mate\" mantras.</p>\n<p>As I say I get this MUCH less than once I did, generally staying well in ways to alleviate all the GAD stuff knocks this one out too, but yes when it comes, along with heart palpitations and the impending sense of Armageddon it's pretty bloody nasty.  If you are seeking treatment (and you say you are, yay Rach!!), then hopefully as you get \"better\" this too shall pass.</p>\n<p>Bless.</p></div>", "date": "30-09-2013", "url": "https://forums.beyondblue.org.au/t5/anxiety/chest-tightness/td-p/96400" } ]

[ { "author": "user-id/10023", "content": "<p>my life is a mess. it's over. there is no way out for me anymore. i have severe agoraphobia and can barely leave the house and i've been like this for years. i have zero support and spend 90 percent of the time completely on my own locked in the house staring at four walls and listening to my own thoughts. i have nobody that loves me or cares or checks in. i had so many dreams and they are all without reach. i can barely look after myself and i am 37!!!!!! and i have the capacity of a toddler for self care right now. There is something so terribly wrong with my brain, i can feel it and i feel like i am dying all the time. I want to be strong enough to put myself out of my misery. but i am scared.</p></div>", "date": "22-09-2013", "url": "https://forums.beyondblue.org.au/t5/anxiety/i-don-t-know-what-other-choice-i-have/td-p/97804" }, { "author": "user-id/27576", "content": "<p class=\"MsoNormal\">Hi abluejay,</p><p></p>\n<p class=\"MsoNormal\">Welcome to the forums, and I’d like to think you can take\nthat feeling of “zero support” and add a few numbers to it now that you’re\nhere.  </p><p></p>\n<p class=\"MsoNormal\">I am close to your age (35) and have been through long\nperiods where I can’t take care of myself properly either. Those have also been\nthe times when I’ve confined myself to the house, afraid to go outside.</p><p></p>\n<p class=\"MsoNormal\">You’re stuck in a landslide of negative thoughts about yourself\nright now. I say landslide because when we’re feeling like this, one thing just\nleads to another and they just get bigger: I can’t take of myself &gt; my\ndreams are shattered &gt; I can’t go outside &gt; no one cares about me etc.</p><p></p>\n<p class=\"MsoNormal\">Don’t know whether you have tried CBT (cognitive behavioural\ntherapy) before, but the main idea behind it is to pick up negative thought\npatterns and help us to confront them and ask, how real is this?</p><p></p>\n<p class=\"MsoNormal\">There are tell-tale signs in your post of a number of these\nthinking styles, and all of us have been through these at some stage. Have a\nlook at this page and see if you recognise any: <a href=\"http://www.get.gg/unhelpful.htm\" rel=\"nofollow noopener noreferrer\">http://www.get.gg/unhelpful.htm</a></p><p></p>\n<p class=\"MsoNormal\">The fact that you are panicked to the point of thinking\nabout self-harm is very concerning. Not sure what treatment you may have been\nreceiving up until now for your agoraphobia, but please go and see your GP, or\nas a first point of reassurance at least give our support line a call on 1300\n22 4636.</p><p></p>\n<p class=\"MsoNormal\">In the meantime, try to refocus your thoughts away from the\npast and the future and concentrate on tasks in the moment. That might be as\nsimple as having a shower or making a cup of tea. That might be the only thing\nyou can do in a whole day right now, but that doesn’t matter. It’s all about\ntaking the first step.  You can do it.</p><p></p>\n<p class=\"MsoNormal\">Take care, and please keep checking in.</p><p></p>\n<p class=\"MsoNormal\">best<br>\nCB</p>\n<p class=\"MsoNormal\">___________________________________________________________________<br>\n<strong>Online Community Manager</strong></p>\n<p class=\"MsoNormal\"> </p><p></p></div>", "date": "23-09-2013", "url": "https://forums.beyondblue.org.au/t5/anxiety/i-don-t-know-what-other-choice-i-have/td-p/97804" } ]

[ { "author": "user-id/5411", "content": "<p>Hi there</p>\n<p>i haven't been here in a while, things were going ok for a while.</p>\n<p>I just need some advice.  Does anyone have any strategies of coping with everyday 'life' stress?</p>\n<p>i suffer from 3 autoimmune conditions which make me tired, give me aches &amp; pains among many other things.  I also suffer GAD and have HAD depression.  I also have two annoying kids aged 11 &amp; 13 who just annoy me because they can.  My husband works night so I have to deal with them, dinner etc on my own, plus running around.</p>\n<p>i am not working but I want to go back to work but I get stressed easily and I just want to know how I can cope?  I'm sick of these things controlling me, \"I\" want to control me.  I want to travel in a few years and so need the money.</p>\n<p>Any advice would be greatly appreciated.</p>\n<p>I'm hoping to see my psychologist next week who got an ear bashing last week because I was sooooo wound up and he tells me it's just stress.   Yeah derr I figure that.</p></div>", "date": "21-09-2013", "url": "https://forums.beyondblue.org.au/t5/anxiety/how-to-cope-with-stress/td-p/97757" }, { "author": "user-id/21739", "content": "<p>Dear Marley,</p>\n<p>I remember you - sounds like the \"arsenic hour\" around dinner time is getting to you.  I don't know if you can predict the annoying behaviours from your kids to lessen their impact.   I've only got one 18 yr home as the other 2 kids moved out and I mistakenly believed it would be a breeze with just one child but I was wrong !   I love you take on it - <strong>\"who just annoy me because they can\".</strong></p>\n<p><strong></strong></p>\n<p>Why don't you spend  1 hrs with a Careers Advisor and do some aptitude tests.  The results will trigger hooking up with the relevant course and the whole thing can be done in small steps.  Hopefully your physical health will not hinder your dreams.   I'm not sure about travel - it seems a fantastic thing but hitting rock bottom on return is a bit daunting.   Why don't you do a few day trips just to get into the hang of escaping and having some time to yourself ?  Even seeing a double bill at the movies is a huge 5 hrs out of the domestic brashness.</p>\n<p>I imagine keeping 2 kid quiet whilst you night worker husband sleeps during the day would be an impossible task.  That's a lot of pressure.</p>\n<p>Adios, David.</p>\n<p>PS  Good to read your post - you probably remember a few names on BB.</p></div>", "date": "22-09-2013", "url": "https://forums.beyondblue.org.au/t5/anxiety/how-to-cope-with-stress/td-p/97757" } ]

[ { "author": "user-id/5300", "content": "<p>lately I can't shake off the feeling that everyone is judging me. I become so anxious and nervous around people, even my closest friends and family, all I think about when talking to them is wondering what they are thinking about me. It is almost like I have forgotten who I am, and how I use to act? I use to be such an outgoing and confident person.. I don't know how to go back to that?! I constantly feel like I need to drink in order to relax and often take it too far and just embarrass myself, which leads to me being even more anxious. </p>\n<p>I can't look people in the eye anymore and if there is even the shortest silence between conversations I start to freak out. How do I fix this? Is this anxiety? I just want to be back to my normal self again <span class=\"lia-unicode-emoji\" title=\":disappointed_face:\">😞</span> </p></div>", "date": "16-09-2013", "url": "https://forums.beyondblue.org.au/t5/anxiety/forgotten-who-i-am/td-p/96650" }, { "author": "user-id/36241", "content": "<p>It's good that you noticed this change in your behaviour.<br>\nHaving had anxiety earlier this year I definitely recognise your description and I would say yes, it does sound like anxiety to me. This is really helpful for you to know, and from here you can:</p>\n<p>Chat to someone close to you about it<br>\nMake a doctors appointment to explore medication options (the one I am on is really effective I've found)<br>\nFind a good psychologist (this takes a little while, don't just go for the first one you find)<br>\nMake looking after yourself your number one priority. This<span style=\"font-size: 0.8125em; line-height: 1.38462;\">s might mean cutting back on your workload until you feel better and making time to do anything that you notice helps you feel calmer e.g. listening to music, having a bath, exercising, reading, watching TV- remember this is not your everyday life, it is just a period of coping that you need to go through before you start feeling better. Give yourself some slack, and ask if others can do the same if that's an option for you.</span></p>\n<p><br>\n</p></div>", "date": "17-09-2013", "url": "https://forums.beyondblue.org.au/t5/anxiety/forgotten-who-i-am/td-p/96650" }, { "author": "user-id/27576", "content": "<p>Hi del,</p>\n<p>Welcome to the forums.  Anxiety is frightening when it comes on, and when you think you can't go back to how you were before, which then becomes a loop: 'what if I stay like this?'</p>\n<p>All of anna3's suggestions are good ones.  Good that you've identified drinking is short-term gain for long-term pain.  Cutting back on that would be a good start until you can get some of your symptoms under control.  There's a fact sheet about alcohol, depression and anxiety here that may help: <a href=\"https://www.bspg.com.au/dam/bsg/product?client=BEYONDBLUE&amp;prodid=BL/0058&amp;type=file\" style=\"font-size: 0.8125em; line-height: 1.38462;\" rel=\"nofollow noopener noreferrer\">https://www.bspg.com.au/dam/bsg/product?client=BEYONDBLUE&amp;prodid=BL/0058&amp;type=file</a></p>\n<p>When I've been having severe depressed or anxious episodes I have had to make a conscious decision to cut alcohol out entirely, because the 'mood hangover' was too much for me personally.</p>\n<p>Check out this section of our website too for tips on managing stress: <a href=\"http://www.beyondblue.org.au/the-facts/recovery-and-staying-well\" style=\"font-size: 0.8125em; line-height: 1.38462;\" rel=\"nofollow noopener noreferrer\">http://www.beyondblue.org.au/the-facts/recovery-and-staying-well</a></p>\n<p>When you go to your doctor, explain everything to him/her as you have above, including the behaviour changes.  It will help in getting you the best treatment as anxiety comes in many different forms.</p>\n<p>And please keep posting here for support, whatever's on your mind.</p>\n<p>best<br>\nCB</p>\n<p>___________________________________________________________________<br>\n<strong>Online Community Manager</strong></p>\n<p><br>\n</p></div>", "date": "20-09-2013", "url": "https://forums.beyondblue.org.au/t5/anxiety/forgotten-who-i-am/td-p/96650" }, { "author": "user-id/21739", "content": "<p>Dear Del,</p>\n<p>You <strong>are</strong> getting back to your old confidant self.   Your thread is very clear and supportive.    A bit of alcohol can turn into a lot but you seem to be on it.   I think the main thing with anxiety is that you can stop doing the activities that you love whereas it would be better to maintain them and keep an eye out for any anxiety triggers.  Find the balance and be less hard on yourself.</p>\n<p>I am having a social next Tue for some friends I fell out with.  It's a huge effort to re-connect but I felt it was time to put the past behind each other.   A mutual friend is coming to be the Peacemaker.  Maybe that's what you need.  A buffer.  Someone to ease you through the anxious moments without judgement.</p>\n<p>Maybe it's a risk to put ourselves in difficult situations but even going over a zebra crossing is full of risks too.  Pouring boiling water into a cup.   Shaving.   Parking a car in a heavy  trafficked street with horns blaring.    Even running a bath if you get a call and forget the water's running.  I mean, the next step to being social and mixing it up outside the house is on a par with all these domestic things we must cope with.     My dad was home on stress leave when I was a kid and he couldn't even boil the kettle and make toast at the same time.   Plus carried two sets of spare car keys incase he locked himself out.    Stress, anxiety and a bit of OCD.</p>\n<p>Good Luck getting back to your real self.   My nephew/niece christened me The Real David cos there is another Uncle called David.  But he's a completely selfish type that doesn't connect with anyone whereas I am a musician that maybe gets too involved. Being your true self will probably make the alcohol dry up a bit.</p>\n<p>Adios, David.</p>\n<p> </p>\n<p> </p>\n<p> </p></div>", "date": "21-09-2013", "url": "https://forums.beyondblue.org.au/t5/anxiety/forgotten-who-i-am/td-p/96650" } ]

[ { "author": "user-id/40842", "content": "<p>Anyone have those days where you feel like your right back where you started all those years ago before the medication and therapy? </p>\n<p>Today is one of those days.  Woke up, had breakfast and then when it was time to go to work I had a huge panic attack.  One of those that seem to go on forever, when in reality it was about 3 minutes. All those awful symptoms; heart racing, nausea, fear, hot &amp; cold runs.  <span style=\"font-size: 0.8125em; line-height: 1.38462;\">I gave in, took some meds and went back to bed.  It took 40 minutes of meditation before I could relax my muscles and brain. </span></p>\n<p><span style=\"line-height: 12.727272033691406px; font-size: 10px;\">Luckily my boss is amazing and when I told her I couldn't come in this morning she understood.  Now its 3 hours later and I'm trying to think of excuses why I shouldn't go to work this afternoon.  Truth is I don't want to feel the panic again.  This is the worst thing about anxiety.  When we are scared to death of feeling panic again, and all I want to do is sit on my couch where it is safe, but instead I have to get up, be strong and push through.  And remind myself that one slip does not mean I'm back where I started. Tomorrow is a new day <span class=\"lia-unicode-emoji\" title=\":slightly_smiling_face:\">🙂</span> </span></p></div>", "date": "18-09-2013", "url": "https://forums.beyondblue.org.au/t5/anxiety/back-to-the-begining/td-p/97130" }, { "author": "user-id/27576", "content": "<p>Hey jess334, it's like a big game of snakes and ladders sometimes.  After many years of fighting it and hating myself for not being able to 'harden up' and wish it away, I learnt that some days you just have to write off, reset like a frozen computer and start again the next day, like you said, and having an understanding employer in that situation is vital.</p>\n<p>One of the biggest breakthroughs I had was getting to that point of confidence where you can experience the panic, or the depression, and know that it will go away. Doesn't make the present moment any better, but it certainly makes the recovery faster.</p>\n<p>best<br>\nCB</p>\n<p>____________________________________________________________________<br>\n<strong>Online Community Manager</strong></p></div>", "date": "18-09-2013", "url": "https://forums.beyondblue.org.au/t5/anxiety/back-to-the-begining/td-p/97130" }, { "author": "user-id/8236", "content": "<p>dear Jess, you have been a quite but strong responder over a long period, but I knew that you were still a bit fragile, so I have my rubber gloves on and reply to you as you should be in a caring and loving way. lol</p>\n<p>You know that you will feel better, but that's beside the point, once we have this illness still attached to us, and yes I still have it and always will, it's our ability to be able to learn on how to control it, and that's never easy, but as time processes little set backs don't worry us any more, or we have learnt that we will be OK.</p>\n<p>You are a strong person and you have had a great deal to cope with, but you have come this far, and instead of your head poking out of the ground now your up to your knees, if you gather on what I'm trying to say. L Geoff. x</p></div>", "date": "19-09-2013", "url": "https://forums.beyondblue.org.au/t5/anxiety/back-to-the-begining/td-p/97130" }, { "author": "user-id/15648", "content": "<p>your amaizg jess</p>\n<p>so strong</p>\n<p> </p>\n<p>marry me hehe</p></div>", "date": "19-09-2013", "url": "https://forums.beyondblue.org.au/t5/anxiety/back-to-the-begining/td-p/97130" }, { "author": "user-id/36480", "content": "<p>Hi Jess, </p>\n<p>Yep! I think we all have relapses at times, goes with the territory. </p>\n<p>It's great that you have such an understanding boss, they make a world of difference. I have one as well <span class=\"lia-unicode-emoji\" title=\":slightly_smiling_face:\">🙂</span> </p>\n<p><span style=\"font-size: 0.8125em; line-height: 1.38462;\">Yes, you had a slight set-back but guess what? You've got up and pushed through even though I know (as a fellow anxiety sufferer) that it's the last thing you want to do. So good on you! That really is something to celebrate. When in that awful place we really do need to congratulate ourselves for those little wins, as small as they seem, they are HUGE. </span></p>\n<p><span style=\"font-size: 0.8125em; line-height: 1.38462;\">I'm sure you know that going to work is the best thing for you to do. That's a really big thing that helps me when I'm having a bad morning - knowing that going to work is the best thing for me to do, no matter how much my insides are fighting with every ounce of my being not too. And you know, that's the hardest step. From there it get's easier. </span></p>\n<p><span style=\"font-size: 0.8125em; line-height: 1.38462;\">Distraction, distraction, distraction! </span></p>\n<p><span style=\"font-size: 0.8125em; line-height: 1.38462;\">And absolutely, one set back does NOT mean you are going back to where you were. Tomorrow is a new day, and it may not be easy, but it will be a little better than yesterday and so will each day after that until you will be feeling yourself again. </span></p>\n<p><span style=\"font-size: 0.8125em; line-height: 1.38462;\">Stay strong, and as my mum says to me, put your battle a</span><span style=\"font-size: 11px; line-height: 14px;\">rmour</span><span style=\"font-size: 0.8125em; line-height: 1.38462;\"> on and fight!! </span></p>\n<p><span style=\"font-size: 0.8125em; line-height: 1.38462;\">Best wishes xx</span></p></div>", "date": "20-09-2013", "url": "https://forums.beyondblue.org.au/t5/anxiety/back-to-the-begining/td-p/97130" }, { "author": "user-id/40842", "content": "<p>Thanks for the replies everyone. </p>\n<p>These forums are great for being able to get some positive support from people who know what it feels like.  Its very helpful knowing I'm not the only one who goes through this! </p>\n<p>Gonna keep slugging on : ) </p>\n<p>Jess </p></div>", "date": "20-09-2013", "url": "https://forums.beyondblue.org.au/t5/anxiety/back-to-the-begining/td-p/97130" } ]

[ { "author": "user-id/10105", "content": "<p>I dont kow why I feel this way but I feel as if I have to keep proving myself.  I think I have been successful in my career and I have a wife and adult daughter but I feel extraordinarily alone. I think I try to please everyone but I know I dont. My wife says my issues stem from my childhood but my parents are dead and I dont feel I have to please them any more.  I think I had as normal a childhood as most but maybe more fantasy then is really healthy.  I am the eldest of three.  Was I trying to attract my parents attention all the time and failed?  I broke my right arm twice so that must have grabbed a bit of attention!</p>\n<p>I have never been good dealing with people and I know I wold try and hide but my job has, for the past 25 years, put me in front of people as a CEO.  I have felt the pressure of 'performing' but not really being myself.  I want to retire in a few years time but am anxious that I will be more alone than I feel now. I have recently taken up golf and rekindled my interest in watercolour painting. I sometimes wish I was dead but I dont want to kill myself. Can anyone help me as I cant talk to anyone about this.</p></div>", "date": "24-10-2013", "url": "https://forums.beyondblue.org.au/t5/anxiety/62-year-old-male-who-is-confused-anxious-and-possibly-depressed/td-p/45290" }, { "author": "user-id/27576", "content": "<div>Hi JMP,</div>\n<p>Do you think maybe your role as a CEO has hindered you from being able to connect with people on a one-to-one level, because people see you as ‘the boss’ and not the bloke they can have a drink or go out to dinner with?  </p>\n<p><span style=\"font-size: 0.8125em; line-height: 1.38462;\">Never being satisfied with your achievements in life can have its positives, driving us to do more, but striving for perfection and believing we haven’t made an impact on peoples’ lives when we have is going to burn you out over time, and it sounds like that’s what’s happening.</span></p>\n<p><span style=\"font-size: 0.8125em; line-height: 1.38462;\">Why do you feel you can’t talk to anyone about this, especially your wife?  Or close friends?  Are you afraid that saying ‘I wish I was dead but I don’t want to kill myself’ will scare them too much?  </span></p>\n<p><span style=\"font-size: 0.8125em; line-height: 1.38462;\">Try not to worry about having these feelings despite having a ‘normal’ childhood, they can happen to anyone and comparing yourself against others who have had more traumatic things happen to them is likely to make you feel worse.  You’re feeling how you’re feeling, so just concentrate on yourself for a bit.</span></p>\n<p><span style=\"font-size: 0.8125em; line-height: 1.38462;\">Picking apart why you feel depressed or alone can be helpful sometimes, but going for an archaeological dig into your past is not always so.  Looking at what’s missing in your life now and what you can do to improve your wellbeing is more forward-looking, and you’ve already started doing that by reconnecting with pastimes you enjoy.</span></p>\n<p><span style=\"font-size: 0.8125em; line-height: 1.38462;\">What about the people in your life? How connected do you feel to your wife, your daughter, the rest of your family, friends? </span></p>\n<div>Best</div>\n<div>CB</div>\n<div>__________________________________________</div>\n<div>Online Community Manager</div></div>", "date": "28-10-2013", "url": "https://forums.beyondblue.org.au/t5/anxiety/62-year-old-male-who-is-confused-anxious-and-possibly-depressed/td-p/45290" } ]

[ { "author": "user-id/23712", "content": "<p>I always felt like I had to be the best at everything... If it wasn't the best, it was a waste of time. </p>\n<p>I had no idea how much pressure I was placing on myself to be good at things without trying. Until later...On my third year of uni,my life slowly started to fall apart. Something inside me snapped...I was not the best. I was not worth anything. The pressure I put on myself not allowing myself to be a beginner at anything had lead to me no longer try anything. </p>\nI am 25, have no job, a uni degree that I can never work in because the thought of it makes me incredibly anxious, and I still live at home. I feel I can no longer try anything out of the desperate fear I will fail at whatever I do and not be able to handle it. I came from being a grade A student with a flair for creativity to someone who is scared to ask for a job at my local bakery out of fear I won't pick it up fast enough. I can't ask for what I want because I convince myself it is impossible to obtain. It gets so bad that when I am doing something where any kind of pressure is on, my mind completely blanks out, as if on purpose making me unable to perform the simplest task. I scramble for words, as my heart pounds. Please don't embarrass yourself. Please brain, just work. <br>\n<br>\nI have convinced myself that my brain no longer works, that the person I was has been lost. I don't know what happened to me, but my mind has become my worst enemy and it is ruining my life. I want to be free of this negativity, this belief that I am worthless and have nothing to offer anymore. Has anyone felt like this before? Been completely consumed by the belief you can't so something and the fear that comes if you think about trying? I would like to hear someone elses story... to know I'm not alone.<br>\n<br></div>", "date": "21-07-2013", "url": "https://forums.beyondblue.org.au/t5/anxiety/i-could-have-done-anything-with-my-life-now-i-feel-like-i-can-do/td-p/74939" }, { "author": "user-id/6932", "content": "<p>You are not alone, by any stretch of the imagination.  I have a similar story, am a lot older than you, but I began my own business after years of working for other people.  It took off like a rocket and for the last 2 years I have worked 24/7 and even though tired took on staff, made plans for expansion.  Then one day about 2 months ago I just fell apart and had an anxiety attack that I feel has still not completely resolved.  I now doubt myself, hate my own business, have given away half my clients and have to force myself to work.  I find it hard to put one foot in front of the other, I can't sleep without sleeping pills and feel like I have a bleeding ulcer constantly.  It is like I look down on myself from afar and don't know where that intelligent, enthusiastic, fun person is anymore.  My husband and daughter can't truly understand what I am going through and I feel like all I do is complain about how bad I feel. All I want is to be the happy person I used to be and took for granted.  I know I am in there somewhere.  I look at photos of myself smiling so I know it existed once.  Don't give up.  If we do that how can we ever get better.  You are not alone.  S</p></div>", "date": "22-07-2013", "url": "https://forums.beyondblue.org.au/t5/anxiety/i-could-have-done-anything-with-my-life-now-i-feel-like-i-can-do/td-p/74939" }, { "author": "user-id/21739", "content": "<p>Dear arise,</p>\n<p>Why should living at home when 25 be a bad thing ?   There's support, domestic stuff, people know where you are and your parents are probably happy to help.   You know it's OK.  Otherwise you would leave.</p>\n<p>A lot of the brain isn't used.   Your subconscious would have those negative thoughts for eternity, like it's set in stone.   I'm composing for a big band and the writing is still fine but sometimes organising musicians is way too stressful for me so my wife does it instead.  About 10 yrs ago I stopped going to gigs so I'm always thinking \"what a waste of time writing stuff that I don't listen to\".  But, with composing, I've already heard it in my head.  I don't need to be a the gig.  Does that make me a bad musician ?  Should I stop writing ?   Probably not.</p>\n<p>I'm thinking your study should be re-ignited.  Maybe a shorter course than uni.  Something you're interested in without having all the \"it must be perfect\" mindset.  It's more for the social than the study but, hey, you gotta start somewhere.  Even if you still feel defeated it's worth being involved if you can.  There's an old addage:  To Try is To Succeed.      Most failures help you learn something.   Look at politics.  Sorry, bad example.  Lol.</p>\n<p>Adios, David.</p></div>", "date": "23-07-2013", "url": "https://forums.beyondblue.org.au/t5/anxiety/i-could-have-done-anything-with-my-life-now-i-feel-like-i-can-do/td-p/74939" }, { "author": "user-id/39300", "content": "<p>Wow I cannot believe how similar our situations are. I am a couple years older than you, don't have a full time job and still live with my parents. I have a degree in something which the far majority of jobs make me incredibly anxious. I was a high achiever at school, always near the top. So now I feel like I am basically failing at life.</p>\n<p>I guess the only thing I can do right now is just try to get any job, because I can't stay unemployed forever. And if I crash and burn, really I'll just be in the same situation as I am now. But it does feel horrible. I become a completely different person when I am anxious and I don't like that person. I just can't handle any type of pressure. I was fortunate to have a job for a number of years which alleviated much of my anxiety and I was able to find my true self again after struggling through uni, but that job came to an end through no fault of my own and now I find myself in this incredibly stressful situation.  </p>\n<p>So no, you are not alone. There are people out there in the same boat as you, I being one of them. I do know that things will get better, I just don't know when. </p>\n<p> </p>\n<p> </p></div>", "date": "31-07-2013", "url": "https://forums.beyondblue.org.au/t5/anxiety/i-could-have-done-anything-with-my-life-now-i-feel-like-i-can-do/td-p/74939" }, { "author": "user-id/41460", "content": "Hi arise. You are definitely not alone. My life has turned into one of fear and hence I am facing the same situation as yourself. I suffer from chronic anxiety and ocd and the task of walking into a bakery/bar/supermarket to ask to speak to the manager and ask for a job is not just really hard anymore but an impossibility. Like yourself, the person I once was is gone.....dead, buried and cremated. Done and dusted. Finished. I suffer under any type of pressure (this is anxiety) and my mind goes blank too and I go to dust. My faith in myself is gone and I have no confidence. So don't feel alone, there are people like myself facing the same problems</div>", "date": "26-10-2013", "url": "https://forums.beyondblue.org.au/t5/anxiety/i-could-have-done-anything-with-my-life-now-i-feel-like-i-can-do/td-p/74939" } ]

[ { "author": "user-id/41460", "content": "Hello everybody. This is my first post and I thought I would tell you about my problems with anxiety and how it is impacting my life. I am 30 years of age and now know that I am suffering chronically from anxiety; constantly worrying about everything no matter how small the matter. I first sought help for anxiety back at the start of 2010. Did some cognitive behaviour therapy which I found to be quite useless. So I finished up with my psychologist but anxiety has gotten worse since 2010. I currently work 12 hours a week in a very menial job that doesn't test my anxiety and is good for my health but I want to better myself and look at a career/skills training for a better financial future however I have deteriorated to the point where I believe I cannot do anything other than my basic/menial job. I suffer from fear as part of anxiety and at the point now that I cant even walk into a bar and ask for a job of fear I cant do the job and that it will all end quickly. 10 years ago at 20 I was nothing like this. I believed I could do anything, that I could conquer the world. I gained qualifications and had 3 good fulltime jobs but these came to an end. How things have changed. I now spend my life in fear, with worrying thoughts and I am now having images of my own funeral and me being in peace. I just don't see the point in life overall however I do enjoy the finer things in life which keeps me going in the meantime. I am contemplating trying to get on a disability support pension and leaving my job to pay for psychological sessions with other treatments rather than cbt but know this can only help so much. I am just not too well, fidgeting, restless, tired, thoughts running through my mind too often and also angry I have ended up in this position(not my fault though). In the meantime I will just keep doing the best I can meditating/exercising/eating properly and trying to enjoy the finer things in life. I am looking forward to contributing to the forum as much as possible and I know from reading certain posts I can relate well to other peoples problems. Have a good day everybody.</div>", "date": "24-10-2013", "url": "https://forums.beyondblue.org.au/t5/anxiety/introducing-myself/td-p/45044" }, { "author": "user-id/8236", "content": "<p>dear Anxiousguy, hi and welcome aboard.</p>\n<p> It appears as though you are suffering from OCD which is an illness that can control our lives, for 54 years I have had it, but over that time the degrees of it's devastation change to a certain state.</p>\n<p>Have a look on the net and see if any of the symptoms relate with you.</p>\n<p>This is just a short reply , but please get back to us and we can discuss it further, because it's causing a great deal of concern for you. Geoff.</p></div>", "date": "25-10-2013", "url": "https://forums.beyondblue.org.au/t5/anxiety/introducing-myself/td-p/45044" }, { "author": "user-id/41460", "content": "Hi Geoff. You are spot on. My psychologist back in 2010 was certain I had ocd as well as anxiety. We did some cognitive behaviour therapy. I know in my mind I have ocd as well as anxiety. I constantly worry, for example I know I want to go for a jog at some point in the day and then every 20 minutes or so I get this recurring thought that I have to go for a jog as if I am being bugged and that it is very very important when its really just a jog. I just cant relax. I also check things too much such as pulling at my car door handle too much to ensure its properly locked or looking in to ensure every knob on every door is down after I have locked it with my keys.</div>", "date": "25-10-2013", "url": "https://forums.beyondblue.org.au/t5/anxiety/introducing-myself/td-p/45044" }, { "author": "user-id/21739", "content": "<p>Dear guy,  (yes anxious but don't let it define you),</p>\n<p>Congratulations of taking the decision to seek a Disability Support Pension.  Being <strong>\"not too well, fidgeting, restless, tired, thoughts running through your head\"</strong> and having all that anxiety makes working life difficult and may actually be making your condition worse as you battle each day to be \"normal\" and \"perform\".</p>\n<p>The road to a DSP is full of admin.   I don't like Centrelink as they muck me around so I usually nominate my partner to go into bat for me.  Many other responders have warned of the dangers of not keeping copies.  You have to imagine that you are like a chess novice playing against Gary Kasparov.  Centrelink have all the moves - the \"lost form\", the \"your beneift has been cut for reason X72\", the \"can you hand in your doctors certificate which should be on file as we have a mark against your file on the computer saying we received it but we don't actually appear to have in on our computer in full\" and the \"we hope this isn't inconveniant\".</p>\n<p>If you get past the opening gambit there are still tricky Centerlink knight forks to combat (such as receiving letters detailing your benefit in the same post as letters cutting it).  There is the Centrelink castling procedure whereby you turn up for an appointment only to find that Centrelink has switched it to another day (without informing you) and \"Look, here is the right day on the computer ....see ?  Would I lie to you ?\".  But you can generally win the day with some thoughtful anticipation and pushing the last pawn of yours up the file to hopefully exchange for a Queen. Just make sure it's covered with a diagonal running Bishop and that you can 'discover Chess' in opponent Centrelink in the same way you can discover a full tube on Minties under the car seat after it rolls out during a sudden stop.</p>\n<p>But at this late stage of the game, when the DSP is so close and within your grasp, Centrelink will then move offices and claim the game has to start all over again.  It is pretty rare that you are treated as a mate having a quick chess game over a beer.   No, you are  treated as an annoying person who dares to rock the boat of procedure and force their hand into giving your large fortunes in exchange for a poxy illness that anyone can pretend to have.  \"Huh, anxiety !  What's that when it's at home ?\".</p>\n<p>If you are shaking your head and saying \"My God, this David Charles person is a real freak\" then take the time to update each effort at Centrelink on this thread over the next 3 months and we shall see how things go.    You might win out as Gary Kasparov failed to beat the super duper chess computer Big Blue twice before storming out of the exhibition match and elbowing a nerdy onlooker on the way.   So that is the trick -  your \"anxious guy\" persona must be \"Big Blue\" to win out against the administrative moves of an organisation that spends its entire life playing with people and then re-setting the pieces every now and then.</p>\n<p>When Centrelink convince you that you might not be sick enough to warrant a DSP that is the \"en passant\" manuevre where an attacking pawn can take the opponents who cheekily jumps 2 spaces to avoid the attack from, say, Rh7 to Rh5.  They know every trick in the book and don't even bring oranges for half time.</p>\n<p>Adios, David.</p>\n<p>PS  If it's any consolation I have a small British Army Pension (which is allowed) but every few years they send me a form to see if I am still alive and eligible.  To have a form to decide whether you need another form is probably closer to \"Twister\" or \"What time is it Mr Wolf ?\" as, although the moves change drastically, the position remains the same.    I must now pick up my daughter from her babysitting as they didn't work out it would be nice to drop her home.  Time:   12:10 am.</p></div>", "date": "26-10-2013", "url": "https://forums.beyondblue.org.au/t5/anxiety/introducing-myself/td-p/45044" }, { "author": "user-id/8236", "content": "<p>dear Anxiousguy, that's a good way to explain OCD ' as if I am being bugged', I must say that it's so difficult to justify what we continue to do when we have OCD. </p>\n<p>People tend to believe that we are insane because they have no idea of how this illness controls us, why we have to check on locks etc, but a parallel to this illness is like, say myself or anyone else who can't leave the house because of social anxiety, and this to a person who doesn't suffer from depression cannot fathom why on earth this happens.</p>\n<p>Their usual comments back to us 'is why not', or 'don't be so stupid of course you can leave, what's stopping you'.</p>\n<p>Again the same applies to depression, 'why are you depressed, you have a good family, house, job and everything possible' so you shouldn't be depressed.</p>\n<p>So it's just a vicious circle, and to others we can't justify any of this to them, and that's where the problem begins. Geoff.</p></div>", "date": "26-10-2013", "url": "https://forums.beyondblue.org.au/t5/anxiety/introducing-myself/td-p/45044" } ]

[ { "author": "user-id/4603", "content": "<p>I am feeling a bit empty and anxious, actually sick in the pit of my stomach.  I had a week off on the Gold Coast with my husband which was really nice.  But now I'm home (another week off work) and I am feeling empty, depressed and anxious.  I don't understand why I'm feeling like this; I'm feeling panicky going back to work next week.  </p>\n<p>I know I can't be \"on holidays\" forever.  I just feel like I want to be somewhere else; it's a weird feeling (can't really explain).</p>\n<p>I didn't feel like this while away; it's only been today that I feel like this. It's like I can't handle all the day to day stuff - house, kids, dinners, house cleaning, bills, etc. I just don't want to know about any of it.</p>\n<p>I don't know, I'm not making sense - I wish i was away forever.</p>\n<p> </p>\n<p>Jo </p></div>", "date": "22-10-2013", "url": "https://forums.beyondblue.org.au/t5/anxiety/feeling-empty-and-anxious/td-p/44169" }, { "author": "user-id/27576", "content": "Hi Jo, \n<p><span style=\"font-size: 0.8125em; line-height: 1.38462;\"><br>\n</span></p>\n<p><span style=\"font-size: 0.8125em; line-height: 1.38462;\">Not that it helps, but I think it’s normal for you to be\nfeeling like this given what you’re going through.  You are making sense.  </span></p>\n<p><span style=\"font-size: 0.8125em; line-height: 1.38462;\">The holiday was always going to be a break, a\nrespite, it sadly was not going to fix everything at once.</span></p>\n<p><span style=\"font-size: 0.8125em; line-height: 1.38462;\">I’ve experienced similar when going through really bad\npatches, then going away on a trip and feeling amazing.  It would frustrate me so much – why can’t I\nfeel like this all the time?  Then I realised\nit was because the stressors had been temporarily removed.  I still had to work through them when I got\nback, and that’s the tough part. </span></p>\n<p><span style=\"font-size: 0.8125em; line-height: 1.38462;\"> But you can do it, it’s such a cliché, but it’s one day at a\ntime and I honestly think the holiday has helped lift the lid on the pressure\ncooker for you, based on your posts since you’ve come back.  You are making progress. </span></p>\n<p><span style=\"font-size: 0.8125em; line-height: 1.38462;\">best<br>\nCB</span></p>\n<p><span style=\"font-size: 0.8125em; line-height: 1.38462;\">__________________________________<br>\nOnline Community Manager</span></p></div>", "date": "25-10-2013", "url": "https://forums.beyondblue.org.au/t5/anxiety/feeling-empty-and-anxious/td-p/44169" }, { "author": "user-id/4603", "content": "<p>Hi Chris,</p>\n<p>Thanks for replying.  You do an amazing job reading and replying to lots of people, it's fantastic what you do!!!!</p>\n<p>It feels like I have made one step forward (being away on holidays) and two steps back (being home again). </p>\n<p>I have to remember to take one day at a time. Thanks for saying I'm making progress, it means a lot. I only wish others that see me could say it to me also and i wish i had my parents could tell me that as well (sorry I'm crying, it's almost 3rd yr of not seeing them)</p>\n<p>No, you're right I am making progress, </p>\n<p>Thanks again</p>\n<p>Jo</p>\n<p>ps,  do you think you could change your photo - I'm sick of seeing that Hawthorn scarf!!!!!</p>\n<p> </p>\n<p> </p></div>", "date": "25-10-2013", "url": "https://forums.beyondblue.org.au/t5/anxiety/feeling-empty-and-anxious/td-p/44169" } ]

[ { "author": "user-id/9419", "content": "<p>I have recently been diagnosed with Anxiety. I worry about things I can not control, like the end of the world, and smaller things such as going to school. I get so nervous being around people, I can never relax. I feel that I have to act in a certain way and never reveal myself to others. Which makes it difficult to make friendships. I have had several panic attacks. I feel sad, physically and emotionally drained, and hopeless. I often feel like I am useless and  have suicidal thoughts.Are these also symptoms of Anxiety? Or are these signs of depression?</p></div>", "date": "24-10-2013", "url": "https://forums.beyondblue.org.au/t5/anxiety/could-i-have-depression-as-well-as-anxiety/td-p/45459" }, { "author": "user-id/6226", "content": "<p>HI EmmaMay</p>\n<p>Yes you can have both. I am also recently diagnosed with Anxiety and depression. My GP assessed my illness via the DASS scale. U can also test yourself. Google DASS.</p>\n<p>You sound a bit like me feeling useless and having suicidal thoughts.</p>\n<p>Please do the DASS, call lifeline or beyond blue if u feel suicidal.Make sure you seek help so that your conditon can be treated. I struggled for years and didnt tell my doc how I realy felt and had therefore no treatment which nearly ended up in suicide.</p>\n<p>Good luck let us know how u go .Best wishes.</p>\n<p>Beetle</p></div>", "date": "25-10-2013", "url": "https://forums.beyondblue.org.au/t5/anxiety/could-i-have-depression-as-well-as-anxiety/td-p/45459" }, { "author": "user-id/22980", "content": "<p>Hi EmmaMay</p>\n<p>I am a lifelong anxiety sufferer. I understand how confused and stressed you must feel, but Anxiety can be managed though-you just have to learn about it. I suggest you do as much reading about Anxiety and even look into seeing a counsellor for some more guidance. Have your family and friends aware so they can help you on your journey. Dealing with Anxiety can make you feel depressed since it isn't a fun thing to deal with.</p>\n<p>Dont let it get you too down, even though it is an awful feeling and you must feel so frightened. Once you know what it is, you will find it's not as scary as you imagine. There are so many resources available to help you- Beyond Blue is a great one. Keep talking it out with others too. You will get there <span class=\"lia-unicode-emoji\" title=\":slightly_smiling_face:\">🙂</span></p>\n<p>Take good care of yourself .  </p></div>", "date": "25-10-2013", "url": "https://forums.beyondblue.org.au/t5/anxiety/could-i-have-depression-as-well-as-anxiety/td-p/45459" } ]

[ { "author": "user-id/41245", "content": "So im woundering if others go through this too.\n<p>I cannot handle if my house is cluttered or has the smallest amount of mess it sets me off and i have to tidy asap or walk away(yet think about it constantly).</p>\n<p>And eer omg my bench! I cannot handle one crumb, one stain, one unrinsed dish nothing!  I feel like IIam constantly cleaning my bench or checking tthat it is clean. It's funny because I am nnot a particularly tidy person and far from a clean freak.</p>\n<p>But it feels good doing this cleaning.  Knowing its tidy. IIt's like therapy. </p></div>", "date": "21-10-2013", "url": "https://forums.beyondblue.org.au/t5/anxiety/anxiety-and-cleaning/td-p/43656" }, { "author": "user-id/21739", "content": "<p>Dear Nakka,</p>\n<p>There's a bit of anxiety, Aspergers and OCD all mixed in there !   I think my dad had to have all the cans in the larder facing the right way.</p>\n<p>If you want to think about problems I find washing up is good.   It's got to be something so benile and crassy that you don't have to think about it.   My worst case of \"order\" and \"cleanliness\" happened earlier this year when my auto pilot brain tried to put the washing up away in all its cupboards whilst my partner tried to cook Sunday lunch.  It really freaked me out and took me suprise.  Two people using the same bench top.....................too much flux for me !</p>\n<p>Adios, David.</p>\n<p>PS   Sometimes I leave the washing up for 2 or 3 days just so someone else can do it.  But they always hold out longer than me.  What an unfair condition.</p></div>", "date": "21-10-2013", "url": "https://forums.beyondblue.org.au/t5/anxiety/anxiety-and-cleaning/td-p/43656" }, { "author": "user-id/8236", "content": "<p>dear Nakka, we have had plenty of return replies which has been terrific, so please forgive me if I have forgotten.</p>\n<p>What you are doing is a great example of having OCD, as I often do the same, especially when I have visitors and they leave dirty cups on the bench and then open the cupboard and get a new cup.</p>\n<p>And as this feeling feels good then your OCD has been rewarded or reinforced, but if it hasn't then your anxiety kicks in, and you have to clean the bench, that's what this illness  does to us.</p>\n<p> It's not your fault, and as it maybe stupid for others to try and rationalise what we do, we can't help it. L Geoff. x</p></div>", "date": "22-10-2013", "url": "https://forums.beyondblue.org.au/t5/anxiety/anxiety-and-cleaning/td-p/43656" }, { "author": "user-id/41245", "content": "Hey David &amp; Geoff. \n<p>Hows everything? </p>\n<p>Wow ocd? Suppose ive never thought about it in that way, but it does make sence.</p>\n<p>Suppose we all have our things, my father was such the same David, he was an army man for 24yrs from the age of 15 soo was oooh so so particular and chronically ocd also adhd (according to my mother who works in mental health lol) and I was just the messy child whom didnt conform and always thought it was silly but I totally understand now as I find myself doing the same.</p>\n<p>Haha yes two people using the same bench would be too much, too much clutter not enough space lol.</p>\n<p>And omg don't even get me started on the cup situation,  It grinds my teeth when people do that.</p>\n<p>Very good point Geoff. We cannot</p>\n<p> </p>\n<p>Regards,  Nakka</p></div>", "date": "22-10-2013", "url": "https://forums.beyondblue.org.au/t5/anxiety/anxiety-and-cleaning/td-p/43656" }, { "author": "user-id/21739", "content": "<p>Hey Nakka,</p>\n<p>How are you with windows/blinds ?</p>\n<p>I like to micro manage the openess of the window or length of the blind as per the changing weather.   It is real madness.  A cloud passes for 2 mins and then I have to re-do the area.</p>\n<p>I'm thinking that when mental illness leads to a lot of domestic time there a certain things that seem to require immediate attention but really could wait a couple of hours.  The best ex would be hearing the Post come (bicycle/bike) or the Garbage Truck empty the street and getting out to the post box or empty garbage bin straight away to steer in on it's premeditated course.  Or walking down the road flipping the lids on other's garbage bins if it look like rain.  It's borderline autistic.</p>\n<p>It stems from desiring control.   We can't really control ourselves in the mental area so we chose to over control everything else.  Make sense ?  </p>\n<p>This is part of the rationale I have for responding.   I put my time into something worthwhile but I also acknowledge that I can't control the update.  In a way, the way the Online Forum works is a sort of mini anger management course or, to put it another way, an opportunity to trust that someone has a better judgement which is an even stranger thing when you consider a number of threads will talk about being too anxious for the GP.  Being anonymous seems to serve many purposes.</p>\n<p>To put this into a question:   If a patient could be anonymous at the GP, psychiatrist, psychologist, counsellor, psychiatric hospital would this lead to more coming forward for help ?  Or does a psychiatric nurse just get used to seeing the same type of sufferers and therefore blend us all into a group ?   (With the odd exception, i.e. psych nurse to me once \"Not you again !\").</p>\n<p>Adios, David.</p></div>", "date": "23-10-2013", "url": "https://forums.beyondblue.org.au/t5/anxiety/anxiety-and-cleaning/td-p/43656" } ]

[ { "author": "user-id/22373", "content": "<p>Can't stay postive  i am 24/m cos I had panic attack 10 months ago and feeling nervous and sacred all the time  because I dont want another panic attack I hate the feeling of pani attack thats make me worry 24/7 which leads to anxiety and depression I am just been diagnosed with anxiety and depression feelng bit ashamed cos its related to mental health feeling low about myself I was at clif b4 10 months at work but haven't really work from 10 months , atm cant go out cos I am sacred if I hv panic attack and even a small things trigger the anxiety sacred to stay alone but only with my gf </p></div>", "date": "19-10-2013", "url": "https://forums.beyondblue.org.au/t5/anxiety/feeling-useless-nervous-coward-feeling-social-phobia-low-swlf/td-p/42402" }, { "author": "user-id/21089", "content": "<p>Hey Karan</p>\n<p>It sounds as though things are intensely hard for you at the moment!</p>\n<p>Have you spoken to your GP about how much your fear is taking from your life?</p>\n<p>I always say this so no doubt sound like a broken record but the online and phone support provided by beyondblue is exceptional.  They have kept me breathing so many times.</p>\n<p>Once my anxiety levels were so high they were flying somewhere around Jupiter, all I was trying to do was find a Dr open on the weekend.  I couldn't think straight and the more I tried the worse I got.  Thank goodness I thought to call beyond blue!!  They helped me breath while they found the Dr I needed. Crisis averted!!</p>\n<p>I guess what I'm trying to say is please reach out.  I know how you're feeling right now is a mixed bag of crippling emotions so doing anything except surrendering to the fear seems impossible.  However you posted on here which is a big step - well done!</p>\n<p>So if you can type on here could you type to a counsellor on the beyondblue helpline?  They are there between 4pm and 10pm.  I say that first because I much prefer typing to phoning - my anxiety skyrockets on the phone and I can't think straight.</p>\n<p>However if phone calls ok for you they are there 24/7 and they are so caring, understanding, informative and this has always helped me - so CALM.</p>\n<p>Thinking of you Karan and wishing you all the best</p>\n<p>Keep in touch</p>\n<p>cheers amamas</p></div>", "date": "20-10-2013", "url": "https://forums.beyondblue.org.au/t5/anxiety/feeling-useless-nervous-coward-feeling-social-phobia-low-swlf/td-p/42402" }, { "author": "user-id/4603", "content": "<p>Hi Karan</p>\n<p>I can relate to your post about panic attacks.  For me I was having panic attacks while driving home in the dark. It got to the point where I would call Lifeline and then 000. A few occasions I had the police turn up and help me get home safely.  At the time I thought I was dying, couldn't breathe properly and my heart was racing.  But after seeing my psych (which I have been seeing for 3 yrs) he has helped me work out an action plan of what to do in case of panic attacks.  </p>\n<p>I think you need to see your GP for a mental health plan to see a psych.  The psych will give you some helpful advice on how to deal with your anxiety and panic attacks.</p>\n<p>I actually had a panic attack while on the plane flying home yesterday. I tried deep slow breathing but it got worse to the point where I fainted.  So I guess I need to discuss this with my psych to work out some plan of how to handle this better if it happens next time (which I hope it doesn't because it felt horrible).</p>\n<p> Good luck and i hope you let us know how you go</p>\n<p>Jo</p></div>", "date": "20-10-2013", "url": "https://forums.beyondblue.org.au/t5/anxiety/feeling-useless-nervous-coward-feeling-social-phobia-low-swlf/td-p/42402" } ]

[ { "author": "user-id/6179", "content": "<p>Hi. I am a long term sufferer of panic disorder but have never been diagnosed and never sought direct help before. My panic disorder started about 10 years ago but I've had good years and bad ones during that time. The last 24 months have not been particularly good.</p>\n<p>I have a high normal blood pressure around 140/85 which absolutely skyrockets during a panic attack to 170/110. This does not help my anxiety at all. I have been to a few GP's concerned about this and they have said I do not rquire medication. I was diagnosed with cardiac arrythmia and my blood tests showed a slight thyroid issue however nothing that apparently needed treatment. I also suffer from heart palpitations maybe a few times a week which I can describe feeling as like a sudden emptying of my chest. These generally trigger a panic attack.</p>\n<p>I drink too much. I drink both because I like it and as a coping mechanism to alleviate anxiety. However after a heavy drinking session my anxiety is always at its worst. I am often on the verge going to the ER absolutely certain that something serious is wrong with my heart. That THIS time I might die.</p>\n<p>My anxiety is effecting my personal and my work life. My personal life as I am often too anxiety ridden to do anything. And my work because I am missing days, or just feeling too anxious at work to really concentrate on my job. I have missed days from work and I am certain my reputation there has suffered from it. I would love if everybody understood anxiety, but I work in a blue collar, male dominated industry and even I wouldn't understand why somebody was just afraid of nothing if I didn't suffer from it. I have not told anybody at work as I don't beleive it would help. However worrying about my work performance only adds to my anxiety.</p>\n<p>Can anybody suggest what I should do about this? I have seen many GP's who seem to toss me out of thier office after 10 mins saying there is nothing wrong. Are there any GP's who are really good with panic disorder sufferers? </p></div>", "date": "05-10-2013", "url": "https://forums.beyondblue.org.au/t5/anxiety/panic-disorder-help-wanted/td-p/36122" }, { "author": "user-id/21739", "content": "<p>Dear Strauchy,</p>\n<p>How many GPs have you tried so far ?</p>\n<p>I know you mentioned drinking is for coping with anxiety.   But then you mentioned drinking leads to anxiety.  So, what do you do then ?  Keep drinking in the sort of self perpetuating cycle of damage or get to the bottom of the primary anxiety cause during a few dozen sessions with a top counsellor ?  That seems more habit based than an effective treatment plan.  It takes a few heavy and focused weeks at rehab to break the drinking but when you were to go home the anxiety would kick it in again.  <strong>For the time being it's probably quite brilliant for you to be able to recognise this dilemma and write so well about it and it's effect on your, work &amp; family.</strong></p>\n<p>There was a major car crash on my dog walk today.   5 police cars, fire truck, a million gawky neighbours.  Apart from the usual \"Again ?  It's once a month now\" and \"Was anyone hurt ?\" neighbourly concerns there was one woman that drew me aside and said \"And just before Christmas !\".    Her anxiety was totally transparent.  It made me think that sometimes we simply get to that anxious state naturally (through fear or frustration) and other times we like to manufacture a sort of over the top anxiety which a comment like \"And just before Christmas !\" fitted into.</p>\n<p>Days of work for sickness are not a well received thing.   The rest of the office form their own selfish opinions.   But someone, somewhere, fought for those sickie entitlements and you seem to need a break now and again.  It kind of says more about your colleagues - that they hall all taken days off in a sneaky way.  So, therefore, you must be doing the same.  </p>\n<p>I remember doing my Citizen Ceremony one Australia Day and having to miss some of my Police Band work on the same day (which was a bigger ceremony).   Even with the national day being called Australia Day, the citizenship ceremonies being established on that one day, following an 18 month application procedure and knowing that the Police Service preferred it's members to be full citizens, I still had musician colleagues think I was pulling the wool over everyone's eyes.   </p>\n<p>It seems you get called a shonky bastard for anything these days.  It's amazing you are still able to work with such strong panic disorders.   I'm impressed.</p>\n<p>Adios, David.</p></div>", "date": "06-10-2013", "url": "https://forums.beyondblue.org.au/t5/anxiety/panic-disorder-help-wanted/td-p/36122" }, { "author": "user-id/8245", "content": "<p>There are many GP's who are good with treating anxiety from both a psychosocial and pharmacological perspective. Perhaps you have been unlucky with your current GP, which is a shame. They will quite often explore medication options with you, and recommend a good counsellor/psychologist/psychiatrist. I am now just making a foray into the world of addressing my own issues for panic disorder/ health anxiety. It is tough, you have taken the first step though, and this is key. I know how it feels to lose days, weeks of your life in the fog of anxiety and panic. I can assure you there are wonderful health professionals out there who can provide you with options for treatment and recovery, but sometimes it takes a bit of searching. The first step is perhaps to find a GP you can build a trusting, professional relationship with. They deal with these issues so frequently, that they are likely to have a few psychologists that they prefer to refer to for conditions like panic disorder. I wish you well and hope that you find some support soon. </p></div>", "date": "06-10-2013", "url": "https://forums.beyondblue.org.au/t5/anxiety/panic-disorder-help-wanted/td-p/36122" }, { "author": "user-id/16946", "content": "<p>Hey Strauchy,</p>\n<p>I see parallels in your story with my own experiences. Panic disorder/ Anxiety &amp; alcohol abuse to help keep a lid on the panic... but alcohol is a mask and only eventually exacerbates things.</p>\n<p>You probably do need a break from the Alcohol... It's a depressant mate, and although gives some short term relief, that not what you're after. Are you? Try drinking non-acho diet ginger beer every second beer, for a while, then two in row, then just drinking ginger beer. It's also good for the unsettling bowl issues associated with Panic. But defo talk to your doc about the alcohol, if just dropping cold it is a concern for you. There are strategies available to help I'm sure.</p>\n<p>What we resist persists.</p>\n<p>This is key in learning to overcome the feelings of anxiety, and the inappropriate escalated response in eventual Panic... It's your fear of the Panic it that drives it ever harder.</p>\n<p>This can be a hard pill to swallow... But learning to discard the fear of Panic is the key to discarding it's power over you.</p>\n<p>I personally have been through the Linden Method, the Panic Away Program, and the practices in a book called Anxiety No More, and they all have a similar theme at their core... Acceptance. </p>\n<p>What we resist persists.</p>\n<p>There is some good reading here, and it helped me a ton.</p>\n<p>Best wishes.</p>\n<p> </p>\n<p>Jim</p></div>", "date": "11-10-2013", "url": "https://forums.beyondblue.org.au/t5/anxiety/panic-disorder-help-wanted/td-p/36122" }, { "author": "user-id/28401", "content": "Hi Strauchy, A starting point for effectively addressing your situation is for you to realise that you are the client, even in the presence of a doctor, and that they are there to provide a service for you. I suggest you assert the request for referral to a psychologist. I am of the understanding that you don’t need a referral; you can access a psychologist of your own accord. A referral though will enable a mental health program to be set up for you to cover the costs. I suggest you find out more about this initiative.</div>", "date": "12-10-2013", "url": "https://forums.beyondblue.org.au/t5/anxiety/panic-disorder-help-wanted/td-p/36122" }, { "author": "user-id/8236", "content": "<p>dear Strauchy, I can see a catch 22 situation here, because you have panic attacks at home but more so at work, you seem to what to quell these feelings by drinking alcohol, but at work your not allowed to drink, so your anxiety and panic attacks begin, so then once at home you drink too much and then you feel guilty, which then raises your blood pressure. Geoff.</p>\n<p> </p></div>", "date": "13-10-2013", "url": "https://forums.beyondblue.org.au/t5/anxiety/panic-disorder-help-wanted/td-p/36122" }, { "author": "user-id/6179", "content": "<p>Hey thanks for all the responses they have all helped. I will take the advice and see about getting a prgrom sorted with a psychologist. Has this helped anyone before? I am quite skeptical towards psychologists as I tend to think \"What can they tell me that I can't research myself?\" and that it will be a waste of time and money. But I think maybe it's worth a shot. </p>\n<p> </p>\n<p>Thanks again everyone. </p></div>", "date": "16-10-2013", "url": "https://forums.beyondblue.org.au/t5/anxiety/panic-disorder-help-wanted/td-p/36122" }, { "author": "user-id/8236", "content": "<p>dear Strauchy, point taken, however what they do is to try and guide our thinking on a different path, make us talk about our concerns, and under these concerns may lay problems which we haven't thought about.</p>\n<p>Sometimes it works but it so much better if you have good understanding or relationship with them.</p>\n<p>And by saying relationship I mean connection. Geoff.</p></div>", "date": "17-10-2013", "url": "https://forums.beyondblue.org.au/t5/anxiety/panic-disorder-help-wanted/td-p/36122" } ]

[ { "author": "user-id/38671", "content": "<p>Hi All, new here.</p>\n<p>I have suffered from anxiety for many years, and have coped as many others have done as I've read in the personal stories and threads, throwing myself into work and sedating with alcohol. Not a binge drinker partying all night, but enough to dull me and get to bed by 9:30pm, then awake at dawn and back into it. Did that solid for the last 15 years - no socialising and they had to force me to take holidays. </p>\n<p>I've been like this most of my life recently however it has become overwhelming and I've stopped working and am seeking help to work it out. The usual symptoms outlined on sites like this - didn't want to see or talk to anyone or answer the phone, some OCD (esp when stressed), irritability, ages to fall asleep, neck/jaw/back pain, worrying about things which may (and didn't ever) happen etc..</p>\n<p>My GP knows I had anxiety issues for a while and I have been on a low level antidepressant for ages which certainly helped. I saw her again last week outlining the issue and first action was blood tests, 24 BP check (my BP very high for my age - 43) and a mental health plan with some follow up counselling from a clinical psych. Of course, given my condition I'm pretty anxious about what to expect. Have of course stopped any drinking and getting myself out for a solid walk each day. I have told my parents and (albeit very limited) social group, so wondering what to expect next. </p>\n<p>Anyone have any advice?</p>\n<p><span style=\"background-color: transparent; font-size: 0.8125em; line-height: 1.38462;\">Thanks. </span></p></div>", "date": "09-10-2013", "url": "https://forums.beyondblue.org.au/t5/anxiety/anxiety-mental-health-plan/td-p/38024" }, { "author": "user-id/8236", "content": "<p>dear RecognisingAnxiety, with drinking too much alcohol can alter and make our health dangerous, not only BP but more so our platelets which can cause us to have a stroke and end up in nursing home if it's too bad.</p>\n<p>I also have OCD for 54 years, older than most responders, makes me feel old, and it can have the tendency to control our lives and is caused from anxiety or hereditary, but I'm not sure who had this illness in my past family, as my Mum and Dad and their siblings didn't have it, so it must have been beyond that.</p>\n<p>There are OCD courses online which I have done one so google to see, they are free.</p>\n<p>Good on you for walking, but it's an illness that is difficult to get rid of, and unfortunately I have been unlucky. Geoff. </p></div>", "date": "11-10-2013", "url": "https://forums.beyondblue.org.au/t5/anxiety/anxiety-mental-health-plan/td-p/38024" }, { "author": "user-id/38671", "content": "<p>Thanks very much Geoff, I appreciate your reply. Went to GP yesterday and mildly high cholesterol, but thyroid fine, BP back to normal and no other physical issues. Much less scary than I anticipated. So cutting out the vino and off for some CBT and see how that goes. My OCD doesn't prevent me from functioning, but makes it a real effort and is a frustrating, extra hassle I need to deal with on a daily basis. Lots of small stuff that if you don't do it leaves you with a nagging anxiety that something horrible will happen - like some dodgy sounding superstitions. If you don't mind me asking, what are your symptoms like - what strategies have found that help alleviate it?</p>\n<p><span style=\"font-size: 0.8125em; line-height: 1.38462;\"> </span></p></div>", "date": "11-10-2013", "url": "https://forums.beyondblue.org.au/t5/anxiety/anxiety-mental-health-plan/td-p/38024" }, { "author": "user-id/8236", "content": "<p>dear RecognisngAnxiety, firstly I want to thank you for joining us, as there is a multitude of different people on this site, all with different problems.</p>\n<p>There are plenty of psych's or therapists who do CBT for symptoms like OCD, and all have different techniques.</p>\n<p>I am pretty well the same as you, but the main process for me is that no one ever knows that I do any habits or rituals associated with this illness, as I learnt a long long time ago to hide them, rather than being ridiculed as freakish or weird, and this started with an older brother, who always chatised me.</p>\n<p>For me counting to 4 or doing things 4 times, but this varies, as I may count to 4 but do the habit multiple times, like it could be 10 times but only count to 4.</p>\n<p>There are certain things that I MUST DO before either going to bed, getting out of the car, and those who are reading this I AM NORMAL see me in the photo I still have a head on. lol.</p>\n<p>Mind you I do feel weird saying all these things, but it's site to help other people, so 'forward she goes', and anyone who wants to comment please join in.</p>\n<p>If I would normally do a habit and someone is with me, then I would do it 2 or 3 times but a shorter version, but still count to 4, or do it when they are not watching.</p>\n<p>I asked my psychologist once if she knew if I was doing a habit, and I had seen her for 20 years, but no she didn't know or had seen me do it, maybe I should become a magican.</p>\n<p>Over 54 years I can walk over cracks on the footpath now, and have doing this for a long time, but it's been replaced by something else.</p>\n<p>Someone has posted, and I'm so sorry I have forgotten your name, half brain damage, about a seminar in Melbourne at Federation Square, plus a link, so if you are in Melbourne hope that you can go and listen to the talk.</p>\n<p>I would be interested to see how you go with CBT as well as the vino. Geoff.</p></div>", "date": "13-10-2013", "url": "https://forums.beyondblue.org.au/t5/anxiety/anxiety-mental-health-plan/td-p/38024" }, { "author": "user-id/38671", "content": "<p>Thanks very much Geoff, I appreciate how hard it is to be open about these things and I respect your honesty. My OCD revolves around household things such as the oven/stove or anything electrical also locks, windows and arranging items in kitchen and bathroom - all labels out and have to be symmetrical, evenly spaced and in same spot each day, which may sound just being tidy but spending an hour a day at it gets frustrating. Cutting out the alcohol was a compulsory step for me and finding exercise reduces the tension better, gives you a great appetite and wake up feeling 100% better. I'm not in Vic I'm afraid, but had a search and found that link - maybe they will make a video or similar of it. </p>\n<p><br>\n</p></div>", "date": "14-10-2013", "url": "https://forums.beyondblue.org.au/t5/anxiety/anxiety-mental-health-plan/td-p/38024" }, { "author": "user-id/8236", "content": "<p>dear RecognisingAnxiety, all labels out, me too, evenly spaced, me too.</p>\n<p>I had a phone call from a nephew last night and he wasn't feeling well, crying and he was going to see my old psychologist ( I had 20 years with her )as she has moved to the same town in vic, what a coincidence hey, but he told me that he has OCD plus depression, and also said that his sister also has OCD, well I never could pick it up, so I'm not the only one in my extended family.</p>\n<p>Just wondering whether you are male or female. </p>\n<p>It certainly looks like we both do the same habits/rituals, so I am human after all. lol. Geoff.</p></div>", "date": "15-10-2013", "url": "https://forums.beyondblue.org.au/t5/anxiety/anxiety-mental-health-plan/td-p/38024" } ]

[ { "author": "user-id/28251", "content": "<p>Hi everyone,  my life has gone downhill in the last 6 months. I used to be the girl who would ride her motorbike anywhere, go get a tattoo on impulse, hang out with friends and have a drink. I don't know what set it off but I started having some symptoms of health problems eg: tight throat, light headed, heavy feeling in the chest. I've had ct scans, ecg's, blood tests, there is nothing physically wrong with me. Problem is now I feel worried all the time that somebody has missed something. I have panicky feelings about not being able to breathe, I've had nasal congestion for months now and that makes the panic worse, feeling like I can't breathe! The big worry is that now I'm too scared to take any medication of any type in case I'm allergic to it, even things I've had before like simple medication for a headache. I'm not allergic to anything, but now I worry my self silly thinking 'what if?'   I want to go back to the person I was at the beginning of the year and not be this panicky nut bag <span class=\"lia-unicode-emoji\" title=\":slightly_smiling_face:\">🙂</span> I want to be able to go to the shops without being frightened that my throat will close and no one will be able to help me. Any advice would be much appreciated, thanks</p></div>", "date": "10-10-2013", "url": "https://forums.beyondblue.org.au/t5/anxiety/what-happened-to-my-life/td-p/38110" }, { "author": "user-id/28466", "content": "<p>You're mind is capable of powerful things, i've experienced the same symptoms, talk to your doctor about anxiety and depression i'm sure he/she will be able to help! Just remember you will be okay, just don't let it consume your life <span class=\"lia-unicode-emoji\" title=\":slightly_smiling_face:\">🙂</span> </p></div>", "date": "10-10-2013", "url": "https://forums.beyondblue.org.au/t5/anxiety/what-happened-to-my-life/td-p/38110" }, { "author": "user-id/8236", "content": "<p>dear Katty, just a question, do you suffer from OCD at all.</p>\n<p>You say you don't know what set it off, and for most of the time none of us ever do, although it can be a combination of different events, however with depression one problem leads to another problem and before we know it it just gathers anything in it's way. L Geoff. x </p></div>", "date": "11-10-2013", "url": "https://forums.beyondblue.org.au/t5/anxiety/what-happened-to-my-life/td-p/38110" }, { "author": "user-id/20923", "content": "<p>If you replaced motorbike with pushbike, I could have written that myself. Not sure what to do either. My health anxiety is really limiting what I can do: even going for a walk is extremely challenging at the moment. One tip I can give is to do something ALMOST every day that you find challenging/scary (every now and then I think it's ok to have a doona day!). When you do it, no matter how big or small, make sure you celebrate/congratulate yourself. When I was really bad a few years ago just walking to the letterbox was the most I could do. It shocks me to think about now. These days my scary thing is maybe having  a hard work out at the gym (anyone with health anxiety will understand how hard this can be!); shopping centres; hiking in national parks. Sometimes my scary thing is driving to a quiet supermarkket and buying milk, if it's one of those days! I have been symptom free for a few years but feeling it creep up again, as I have a hella stressful job and busy life, so I am doing my scary tasks daily routine to see if it can help. Otherwise it's back onto meds. If you get really stuck, I can't advocate enough for taking a simple antidepressant (start of really really slow as you can feel a bit rubbish for a few weeks if you don't!) I had to take new meds last week for asthma. It all went fine though it took 2 days to work up to the full dose. Try to identify things that you are feeling a bit phobic about and address it now as much as you can. </p></div>", "date": "12-10-2013", "url": "https://forums.beyondblue.org.au/t5/anxiety/what-happened-to-my-life/td-p/38110" } ]

[ { "author": "user-id/15648", "content": "<p>Feel anxious all the time jump at everything so scared. any way to overcome or help or natural thing to take or something..</p>\n<p> </p>\n<p>i  get neck pain back pain cant relax headaches tired jumpy and feel on edge all the time its so hard to be normal these days.</p>\n<p> </p>\n<p> </p></div>", "date": "18-09-2013", "url": "https://forums.beyondblue.org.au/t5/anxiety/anxiety-help/td-p/97140" }, { "author": "user-id/27576", "content": "<p>Hi LeedsUnited21, have you checked out the Anxiety section of our website? <a href=\"http://www.beyondblue.org.au/the-facts/anxiety\" style=\"font-size: 0.8125em; line-height: 1.38462;\" rel=\"nofollow noopener noreferrer\">http://www.beyondblue.org.au/the-facts/anxiety</a> . <span style=\"font-size: 0.8125em; line-height: 1.38462;\">There's info there about how you can relax, as well as treatments you can look into.</span></p>\n<p><span style=\"font-size: 11px; line-height: 14px;\">If this is something you're experiencing all the time as opposed to a short-term reaction to something that's happening in your life, like an upcoming event, then you should see your GP about it.  That's what I had to do, anxiety was making my stomach feel like it was filled up like a balloon and it was affecting my ability to work and concentrate.</span></p>\n<p><span style=\"font-size: 11px; line-height: 14px;\">Also, have you told anyone else in your life that you're feeling like this? Friends, family? Just getting these feelings off your chest and some support around you can bring things down a notch.</span></p>\n<p><span style=\"font-size: 11px; line-height: 14px;\">My best coping method is to be in a quiet room where I can lay down, relax, listen to music, and concentrate on my breathing, but different things work for different people. </span><span style=\"font-size: 11px; line-height: 14px;\">There are loads of people on here who experience anxiety, so I hope they'll be able to share their tips for coping as well.</span></p>\n<p><span style=\"font-size: 11px; line-height: 14px;\">best<br>\nCB</span></p>\n<p><span style=\"font-size: 11px; line-height: 14px;\">________________________________________________________________________________<br>\n<strong>Online Community Manager</strong></span></p></div>", "date": "18-09-2013", "url": "https://forums.beyondblue.org.au/t5/anxiety/anxiety-help/td-p/97140" }, { "author": "user-id/15648", "content": "yes i have talked to people and stuff been to doctor as i have it each day and feel so bad. went to physotherapy but didnt really help to dont know what else to do</div>", "date": "19-09-2013", "url": "https://forums.beyondblue.org.au/t5/anxiety/anxiety-help/td-p/97140" }, { "author": "user-id/27576", "content": "<p>It sounds like your doctor, therapist and people in your life perhaps haven't realised how much this is affecting you.  This is one of those times where you have to stick it out and keep seeking that help until someone listens to you fully.  It may not happen first time out, but you have to keep trying.</p>\n<p>Try giving our support line a ring if you would like to talk to someone on the phone: <span style=\"line-height: 16px; font-size: 16px; color: #595959;\">1300 22 4636</span></p>\n<p><span style=\"line-height: 16px; font-size: 16px; color: #595959;\">Have a look at some of the causes of anxiety on this page: </span><a href=\"http://www.beyondblue.org.au/the-facts/anxiety/what-causes-anxiety\" style=\"font-size: 0.8125em; line-height: 1.38462;\" rel=\"nofollow noopener noreferrer\">http://www.beyondblue.org.au/the-facts/anxiety/what-causes-anxiety</a> </p>\n<p>Do any of those things sound familiar?  </p>\n<p>best<br>\nCB</p>\n<p>____________________________________________________________________<br>\n<strong>Online Community Manager</strong></p></div>", "date": "20-09-2013", "url": "https://forums.beyondblue.org.au/t5/anxiety/anxiety-help/td-p/97140" } ]

[ { "author": "user-id/40422", "content": "<p>So I have posted here for my feelings of depression and my alcohol use and move this thread if you think it belongs elsewhere, but I had a serious incident that really scared me and made me finally realise that its ok to ask for help and get some. I was so desperate and totally convinced I was going to die. I tried lying down but my heart was pounding and seemed to stop when I lay down then my breathing would slow and I was sure i was dying. I thought i was having a stroke or a heart attack. The feelings of panic were so strong and scary. I ended up calling a friend and made it to a doctor. He gave me some pills which almost immdiately took the worst of the symptoms away. The shaking and sweating and pounding heart. It left the craving emptiness in my guts though. I couldnt seem to relieve it with anything at all. In the back of my mind I think I was craving a drink as I recently came off a \"bender\" maybe that's what triggered this whole thing. I resisted and stuck with the meds only and I feel tired but OK today and actually able to work. Going to see my own GP when I get back to finally come clean about the whole picture. It feels OK to let people in to help. Thanks for listening. MaryG</p></div>", "date": "19-09-2013", "url": "https://forums.beyondblue.org.au/t5/anxiety/anxiety-meltdown/td-p/97322" }, { "author": "user-id/21739", "content": "<p>Dear Mary,</p>\n<p>I'm just waiting for a friend with similar nightly benders to hit rock bottom so he can get some help and save his marriage.   You did well to even manage to call a friend in your worst moment.  I guess we are all good at pretending nothing's wrong.   Alcohol rehab is very taxing mentally.  Not your most fun course.  Good Luck.</p>\n<p>Adios, David.</p></div>", "date": "19-09-2013", "url": "https://forums.beyondblue.org.au/t5/anxiety/anxiety-meltdown/td-p/97322" } ]

[ { "author": "user-id/24153", "content": "<p>HI,  I have had two weeks now of anxiety, harm OCD intrusive thoughts and disorientation.  I don't know whether i am up down or sideways.  I have had my medication reviewed; seen my g.p.; been to the psychologist; got a referral for a Psychiatrist (scared of them); slept more; taken time off work; tried to get uni work done.</p>\n<p> Nothing is helping.  I am overwhelmed and fear loosing my mind.</p>\n<p> The thoughts i recognize as anxiety fueled intrusions but they are horrible and getting more out of control. I just want to find myself again and cope. But my anxiety never listens to what want, and it's bossing me around.</p>\n<p> Any help welcomed. </p>\n<p> sare</p></div>", "date": "04-06-2013", "url": "https://forums.beyondblue.org.au/t5/anxiety/cannot-crack-it/td-p/49580" }, { "author": "user-id/21739", "content": "<p>Dear sare,</p>\n<p>Are you living with someone ?  Can they support you ?   If the drama unfolds in a more dangerous way can you get to the Emergency Unit ?   </p>\n<p>Medication can come back OK in blood testing but sometimes remain unaffective.  So your description of what is happening is really important for medical staff to consider helping you.   Anytime I am loosing my mind with a manic episode starting I am in the psych ward pronto.  These type of escalations need to be nipped in the bud before you lose your sense of perception or harm yourself.</p>\n<p>Even if the person driving you to the hospital is nonplussed that it might be really important you should do what's best for you nevertheless.  A quick review at the psychiatric admission will either send you home with contacts or keep you in to get a balance on your life.  Maintainance is the key.  <strong>Hospitals see this kind of stuff all the time so you won't freak out.</strong></p>\n<p>A uni counsellor can organise extensions whilst your admitted or lying low.</p>\n<p>Adios, David. </p>\n<p> </p>\n<p> </p>\n<p> </p>\n<p> </p></div>", "date": "04-06-2013", "url": "https://forums.beyondblue.org.au/t5/anxiety/cannot-crack-it/td-p/49580" }, { "author": "user-id/8236", "content": "<p>dear Sare, OCD and the control it has over us is so unbearable, and we can't seem to be able to explain to anybody what, how or why we do them, because they just don't understand that we seem to have two minds in our head.</p>\n<p>It reminds me of an episode or cartoon of Fred Flinstone which maybe able to explain this illness, anyway Fred is standing there deciding on what to do, and on his right hand side there is the devil version of Fred telling him to do it, 'go on Fred no one will know, and on the other side is the angel Fred, telling him, 'it's not a good idea Fred because it's naughty so please don't do it'. So this is what happens to a person with OCD, and we decide to do our habits rituals, because the devil's mind says it has to do it, otherwise our anxiety will go through the roof.</p>\n<p>I only wish that I could help you in stopping these intrusive thoughts, but maybe if you try doing an online course, and google 'online training for ocd' this may help you, and I truly hope so, but it's a continual exercise that needs to be done every day. Please reply back to me, as I know what it is doing to you. Geoff.</p></div>", "date": "05-06-2013", "url": "https://forums.beyondblue.org.au/t5/anxiety/cannot-crack-it/td-p/49580" }, { "author": "user-id/24153", "content": "<p>HI Geoff and David and BB,</p>\n<p> </p>\n<p>I wanted to let you know i have finally cracked it!  this last episode lasted a long time and was exhausting. I ended up increasing my medication under the advice of my g.p. and while am still unfortunately on a higher dose ( not great due to weight gain),  am feeling better and today is surprisingly intrusive thought and anxiety free,  which is such as change from when we spoke.</p>\n<p> </p>\n<p>Thank you for your support and to BB for the hotline ,  which i rang a number of times.</p>\n<p> </p>\n<p>Its funny when things get better you feel a different kind of different i guess,  but can say today I have no SI and no conflict in my head and can finally just do my job and get on with life.  \"exhale\".</p>\n<p> Happy to be well and wanted you to know.  </p>\n<p>Sare</p></div>", "date": "10-09-2013", "url": "https://forums.beyondblue.org.au/t5/anxiety/cannot-crack-it/td-p/49580" }, { "author": "user-id/8236", "content": "<p>dear sare_anxiety, this is the first post I have read this morning and what a great one to read, well done and congratulations.</p>\n<p>Don't worry too much about the weight gain that can be addressed later, the most important part is that you are feeling so much better. Geoff.</p></div>", "date": "11-09-2013", "url": "https://forums.beyondblue.org.au/t5/anxiety/cannot-crack-it/td-p/49580" }, { "author": "user-id/27576", "content": "<p>Hi sare_anxiety,</p>\n<p>Great to hear you've come out the other side and got such wonderful support from David, Geoff and the BB helpline.  I hope you can bookmark this thread and come back to it later if you start to doubt yourself again, it's written proof of how far you've come and what's possible.</p>\n<p>all the best<br>\nCB</p>\n<p>____________________________________________________________________<br>\n<strong>Online Community Manager</strong></p></div>", "date": "11-09-2013", "url": "https://forums.beyondblue.org.au/t5/anxiety/cannot-crack-it/td-p/49580" }, { "author": "user-id/24153", "content": "Thanks Geoff. Will do. TAke care</div>", "date": "18-09-2013", "url": "https://forums.beyondblue.org.au/t5/anxiety/cannot-crack-it/td-p/49580" } ]

[ { "author": "user-id/40831", "content": "I am wondering if i am suicidal if i dont want to live like i am anymore but i dont want to kill myself. Weird i know. I am so tired of fighting my anxiety so tired. i just think that if i could close my eyes and dissapear i would not feel anything anymore. i am so tired. i am going to see my doctor tomorrow cause i jsut did the test on this web site and it said 41. i can even write andymore.</div>", "date": "28-07-2013", "url": "https://forums.beyondblue.org.au/t5/anxiety/anxiety-or-a-death-wish/td-p/78199" }, { "author": "user-id/6932", "content": "<p>I know exactly how you feel, just getting through the day is exhausting and it would be easier just to not get up at all, but I am sure there are people around you who would be devastated to know that you are thinking that.  Please tell someone and let me know how you are.</p></div>", "date": "30-07-2013", "url": "https://forums.beyondblue.org.au/t5/anxiety/anxiety-or-a-death-wish/td-p/78199" }, { "author": "user-id/22980", "content": "<p>Hi Amjeck</p>\n<p>Please try and stay storng. I know how hard Anxiety can be. It is so hard at times, but it can be managed and you can live a lovely, happy life.  </p>\n<p>Dont give up. Definately go see your Doctor or get some counselling and make a start on the process of learning about Anxiety and ways to manage it. Keep trying even when it is hard. It will be worth it in the end.</p>\n<p>Stay in touch with Beyond Blue and talk to other people in similar situations, or call the help line and have a chat with someone. Life is precious and you deserve to enjoy it.  Best of Luck. </p></div>", "date": "30-07-2013", "url": "https://forums.beyondblue.org.au/t5/anxiety/anxiety-or-a-death-wish/td-p/78199" }, { "author": "user-id/27951", "content": "<p>Hi Amjeck</p>\n<p>There are so many people who have been through similar things to what you're experiencing. You are so not alone. There are days you feel on top of things, and other days where you just scream inside your head \"Why?!\" \"Why me?!\" When you're physically and emotionally drained, I find it lowers your defences and increases your vulnerability.</p>\n<p>It doesn't sound like you're suicidal but are more looking for an \"off\" button for the anxiety. If it were that easy, I wouldn't be posting on this forum. There is no \"off\" button, but it is possible to make anxiety take a back seat in your life. It's great that you're going to a doctor, and I really hope you have a strong support network, not just of medical professionals, but of people who you can lean on.</p>\n<p>All the best.</p></div>", "date": "30-07-2013", "url": "https://forums.beyondblue.org.au/t5/anxiety/anxiety-or-a-death-wish/td-p/78199" }, { "author": "user-id/40831", "content": "<p>Thank you for your lovely supportive words. I am suprise that anyone even answered my letter. I felt so low and sad and tired. I went and saw my doctor and got some medication. I am feeling so much better. Hey i even went to a shop for the first time in 6months. YAY maybe things are going to get better!! </p>\n<p>Thank you again</p>\n<p>Kind regard</p>\n<p>Amjeck</p></div>", "date": "18-09-2013", "url": "https://forums.beyondblue.org.au/t5/anxiety/anxiety-or-a-death-wish/td-p/78199" } ]

[ { "author": "user-id/11041", "content": "<p>If anybody knows any social anxiety groups or group therapies in Melbourne, Please let me know! </p>\n<p>O anybody that has over come severe social anxiety, please give me links, or any help you can!</p>\n<p>Thanks</p></div>", "date": "17-09-2013", "url": "https://forums.beyondblue.org.au/t5/anxiety/social-anxiety-groups/td-p/96808" }, { "author": "user-id/40842", "content": "<p>Hi Social phobe, </p>\n<p>Sorry I don't know of any social anxiety groups, but I do suffer from severe social anxiety myself.  I am on anti depressants, which help bring the anxiety down significantly, but there is still a lot to deal with. My GP and psychologist have been the most helpful.  </p>\n<p>I found this book called 'the happiness trap' by Russ Harris really helpful.  I am only half way through, but some of the techniques he describes are useful when I feel a panic attack come on.  </p>\n<p>Good luck <span class=\"lia-unicode-emoji\" title=\":slightly_smiling_face:\">🙂</span> </p>\n<p>  </p></div>", "date": "18-09-2013", "url": "https://forums.beyondblue.org.au/t5/anxiety/social-anxiety-groups/td-p/96808" }, { "author": "user-id/27576", "content": "<p>Hi Social phobe, check out the Anxiety Recovery Centre: <a href=\"http://www.arcvic.org.au/\" style=\"font-size: 0.8125em; line-height: 1.38462;\" rel=\"nofollow noopener noreferrer\">http://www.arcvic.org.au/</a></p>\n<p>Also, see this page on our website about social phobia, which includes a fact sheet. It includes information on the range of treatments available: <a href=\"http://www.beyondblue.org.au/the-facts/anxiety/types-of-anxiety/social-phobia\" style=\"font-size: 0.8125em; line-height: 1.38462;\" rel=\"nofollow noopener noreferrer\">http://www.beyondblue.org.au/the-facts/anxiety/types-of-anxiety/social-phobia</a></p>\n<p>Take care.</p>\n<p>best<br>\nCB</p>\n<p>___________________________________________________________________<br>\n<strong>Online Community Manager</strong></p></div>", "date": "18-09-2013", "url": "https://forums.beyondblue.org.au/t5/anxiety/social-anxiety-groups/td-p/96808" } ]

[ { "author": "user-id/15648", "content": "Hair been really flaking and nasty last year since I got anxiety could it be a cause?</div>", "date": "11-09-2013", "url": "https://forums.beyondblue.org.au/t5/anxiety/anxiety-causing-dandruff/td-p/95515" }, { "author": "user-id/21739", "content": "<p>Dear All White strip,</p>\n<p>Mental health affects all our body.  It's like we are under attack all the time so the main thing that suffers (particularly in children) is the immune system.</p>\n<p>You need to go to Jo3's chemist and get some comprehensive shampoo.  For some even having hair would be the issue.</p>\n<p>Sometimes when I'm composing I feel the stress in my hair !  Infact,on a few occasions I have stop working and washed my hair.  Just to re-assert the balance.</p>\n<p>Nervous tics and slightly OCD hair pulling behaviours are common on this site.</p>\n<p>Adios, David.</p></div>", "date": "13-09-2013", "url": "https://forums.beyondblue.org.au/t5/anxiety/anxiety-causing-dandruff/td-p/95515" }, { "author": "user-id/40842", "content": "<p>Hi Leeds, </p>\n<p>I'm not sure if anxiety is the cause of dandruff, but I found that when my anxiety is higher, I tend to notice itchiness more, which in turn causes me to scratch, which makes it worse.  I've scratched until I bled on numerous occasions. </p>\n<p>I found that TGel 2in1 Daily Control is the best medicated dandruff shampoo.  Plus you can buy it in a shopping market, it doesn't smell and its not crazy expensive.  </p>\n<p>Good luck, Jess</p>\n<p><br>\n</p>\n<p><br>\n</p></div>", "date": "18-09-2013", "url": "https://forums.beyondblue.org.au/t5/anxiety/anxiety-causing-dandruff/td-p/95515" }, { "author": "user-id/15648", "content": "thanx jess</div>", "date": "18-09-2013", "url": "https://forums.beyondblue.org.au/t5/anxiety/anxiety-causing-dandruff/td-p/95515" } ]

[ { "author": "user-id/17221", "content": "I suffer from both anxiety and depression (not clinically diagnosed, but it's very clear I have it, I have all the symptoms and it highly runs in my family)<br>\nI just seem to always be so tense, angry and frustrated, causing me to lash out in anger at my boyfriend, whom I live with.<br>\nIt just seems to be getting worse, every thing he does/says just causes me to react. I get very anxious about certain things, especially driving. I just want to be able to stop lashing out, once I seem to get into angry mode I just cannot stop, my heart feels tense and beats really fast and I just get angry and literally cannot stop lashing out and yelling/crying.<br>\n<br>\nWhat are some techniques that I can try at home to help me be a calmer and happier person, so I am able to concentrate on making my relationship work rather than ruining it. Thanks</div>", "date": "16-08-2013", "url": "https://forums.beyondblue.org.au/t5/anxiety/how-to-stop-lashing-out/td-p/89849" }, { "author": "user-id/12824", "content": "<p>Hi Amyy_93,</p>\n<p>You sound like you have a lot of negative energy. Even if anxiety runs in your family it is probably a good idea to get a second opinion from a doctor. There are other health problems which have similar symptoms. </p>\n<p>Two different approaches you could try is to take up Yoga which is really good for cultivating patience. If you just want to burn up the negative energy try running or weight training. </p>\n<p><span style=\"line-height: 1.38462; font-size: 0.8125em;\">There is a book \"Feeling Good\" by David D Burns which has a program you can follow to help deal with the cognitive distortions. </span><span style=\"line-height: 1.38462; font-size: 0.8125em;\">But it might help more to talk to a professional to get to the bottom of where all the anger is coming from. </span></p>\n<p><span style=\"line-height: 1.38462; font-size: 0.8125em;\">Hope you find a way to be calmer and happier. </span></p>\n<p><span style=\"line-height: 1.38462; font-size: 0.8125em;\"><br>\n</span></p></div>", "date": "16-08-2013", "url": "https://forums.beyondblue.org.au/t5/anxiety/how-to-stop-lashing-out/td-p/89849" }, { "author": "user-id/21739", "content": "<p>Dear Amyy,</p>\n<p>Do you ever wash up ?   (Stay with me).   Let's say you do.   Run the water and put the plug in.   Slip in a few plates, cutlery.   Grab the scourer.  Is the water needing to be turned off ?   Have you past the point where you can ask your partner, child, cat, person that keeps picking off the best roses in your front garden,etc, to do the washing up for you ?  So - why the domestic description ?</p>\n<p>You tell me.     Did you <strong>\"get into an angry mode\"</strong> thinking about something predictable ?  Did you <strong>\"react\" </strong>?   Did you <strong>\"lash out\"</strong> ?   OK.  Why not ?   You can probably work it out - because you are in a situation you can control and that you've been in 1,000 times.   It doesn't even matter if there's a lot to wash up or a little.  It doesn't even matter if you break a plate.   You don't get angry when you are doing something boring or familiar.</p>\n<p>So how can you apply \"washing up\" to anger management ?  It's pretty simple.  You need to predict a nasty situation happening.   You need to be accepting of the potential to make you angry.   You need to really be able to control yourself because when you are in that angry attitude you will take on the world.  You will smoulder looking for any opportunity to pounce and destroy a moment. Basically, as any anger management course will tell you, you need to find your triggers.  What makes you bust open like a stick of dynamite ?  How short is your fuse ?</p>\n<p>Maybe when you're talking to your partner you can imagine the conversation is as mundane as washing up.   The water (partner), plates (conversation), scrubbing (arguements),etc, are all there but you don't have to get a flame thrower (angry vent) to clean them (keep the situation balanced).  Because they'll be another meal and life goes on.   If this behaviour of acceptance and listening becomes automatic it just means you've graduated to a dishwasher.    </p>\n<p>Someone is still pushing a button.  You're just not doing anything to lash out.</p>\n<p>Adios, David.</p>\n<p>PS  Hey, I'm a composer - just thought some lateral thinking might help.   Most anger management is about perspective and pre-empting your own reaction.  Relationships Australia do various courses if you feel angry enough.</p></div>", "date": "16-08-2013", "url": "https://forums.beyondblue.org.au/t5/anxiety/how-to-stop-lashing-out/td-p/89849" }, { "author": "user-id/26217", "content": "<p>Its good that you are actually aware of what your doing and treating your man. I agree, it sounds like you have a lot of negativity inside of you and needs to be release through something not someone ie partner.</p>\n<p>I would start by telling him or writing him a letter about your feelings and how its not a direct attack on him, he would appreciate this, before you lose him.</p>\n<p>I would then look into meditation, yoga or a physical activity you might enjoy like boxing to expel this energy. When you feel these emotions coming on, leave the house and go for a walk with music, get a punching bag and go outside and punch. On a deeper level you might need to get to the root cause of why your angry.</p></div>", "date": "20-08-2013", "url": "https://forums.beyondblue.org.au/t5/anxiety/how-to-stop-lashing-out/td-p/89849" }, { "author": "user-id/17221", "content": "Thanks everyone, I joined a gym! And it's within walking distance from my house <span class=\"lia-unicode-emoji\" title=\":slightly_smiling_face:\">🙂</span> will be focusing my energy on that from now on and see how I go <span class=\"lia-unicode-emoji\" title=\":slightly_smiling_face:\">🙂</span><br>\nThank you all so much for the support!</div>", "date": "01-09-2013", "url": "https://forums.beyondblue.org.au/t5/anxiety/how-to-stop-lashing-out/td-p/89849" }, { "author": "user-id/37202", "content": "<p>Hi Amy i read your post and think this is all too familiar I have the same problems lately and I get angry and just take it out on everyone else especially if I'm in anxiety mode I lash out at the kids, my partner friends whoever even slightly gets my nose out of joint ( or so I think ) even the littlest thing seems to tick me off and when  I'm not anxious this doesn't seem to happen , or if I'm even in pain or have an anxiety symptom as I am right now I have been trying to over come my fears for about 6 years now and it's on and off and I try my best and have come a long way but still have a long way Togo it does help to talk to someone especially if u don't know them as such as a physiologist because they don't know ur situation and may understand more and I like the comment where u are suggested to write down how u feel especially as ur partner may not understand how ur feeling I'm sorry if I rambled so much and hope u feel better soon </p></div>", "date": "15-09-2013", "url": "https://forums.beyondblue.org.au/t5/anxiety/how-to-stop-lashing-out/td-p/89849" } ]

[ { "author": "user-id/41589", "content": "<p>I have been through a long road with severe depression and anxiety and I am only just at a stage where my doctor feels I can do it without medication anymore which is like winning lotto for me I was just so proud and happy. In the midst of things though I am doing a diploma in counselling as I felt having gone through what I have that I have a lot to share in building strength and coping mechanisms for depression and anxiety. I would really like to get the word out there about using art therapies to help divert some of the negative feelings to something creative as it helped me very much. Anyway that's all well and good but I have three children and getting each module in is hard enough but for every module the markers love to just pick pick pick at the little things and have me resubmit for the tiniest reasons and its driving me NUTS! I swear it could end me back on medication the way they are and no one really understands why i get SO ANGRY. </p>\n<p> School has always been a struggle for me and this will be the first thing I have seen through as now I am 30 I can cope better with school and my mental illness than when I was a teenager so this is huge for me to start with but each module I get done I get done while having kids whinging and changing dirty nappies/potty training. Trying to break up fights and woe betide if dinner isn't on the table on time then I have these pain in the ass markers who I know for a fact are 10 years younger than me and some have probably never been through some of the things I have telling me how best it should be dealt with! OMG! Then telling me to resubmit tasks from the module when the next module I have to do I am running behind time on thanks to the million other things I have to deal with. Some of it is rediculous! I have to admit I am probably a very solutions focused person and that's not going to suit everyone. I see a problem and I start to search for the best road to solve it bang its done lets move forward. I live my whole life like that and I think it might have to do with my anxiety I would worry if I didn't have things that way but its very difficult for me to even get this stuff done the first time and they want things redone. </p>\n<p>I feel stressed out and I just wish I could scream right now because it really messes with that nasty little depression bit of my brain that says \"give up your not going to get it done, its too hard\". It makes me angry with the markers and just feel like its not worth it. Even though it is because I know it would be a huge achievement for me to finish this course as it will be the first one I finish since I even started high school and I really want to prove to myself I can do it and I know I am smart at it because other people say I am but I just hate that all these resubmissions are making it hard for me to fight that little demon I have and get through. God I wish the markers would cut me some slack lately I am feeling burnt out.  </p></div>", "date": "25-08-2013", "url": "https://forums.beyondblue.org.au/t5/anxiety/diploma-is-going-to-make-my-head-explode/td-p/91980" }, { "author": "user-id/21739", "content": "<p>Dear Meg, </p>\n<p>Changing deadlines - what could be worse !   You might find out that some of these changes are getting you to hand in work very early, say, earlier than the official deadline.  Might be something illegal going on there just for the convenience of the course monitors/teachers.  Very hard to keep calm with pressure on top of pressure.</p>\n<p>Adios, David.</p></div>", "date": "26-08-2013", "url": "https://forums.beyondblue.org.au/t5/anxiety/diploma-is-going-to-make-my-head-explode/td-p/91980" }, { "author": "user-id/27003", "content": "<p>Hi Meg82,</p>\n<p><span style=\"line-height: 1.38462; font-size: 0.8125em;\">Thanks for writing. Markers can be hard can't they? It's almost like they need to prove what they know, by proving what you might not already know (because you are a student). Hang in there. You obviously have done it so far, and to do it with 3 children and underlying depression issues means that you are doing it harder than a lot of students. You should be proud of your achievements thus far, and continue to strive for your goal because it matters to </span><em style=\"font-size: 0.8125em; line-height: 1.38462;\">you,</em><span style=\"line-height: 1.38462; font-size: 0.8125em;\"> not anybody else. Think of what an inspiration you are to your children by studying- they can see how hard you work and they can see that they could do it too if they worked hard.</span></p>\n<p>Perhaps you could engage in some cardio exercise to vent your frustration? If you can go for a run or bike ride- something to get your heart rate up- you can benefit from the release of happy chemicals in your body and the exertion can help with built up frustration. Have you tried boxing? Do something that challenges you- that way, you can have the chemical release, the feeling of achievement and the knowledge that you did something for yourself and, you did it well. The markers can't mark your exercise! The knock-on effect of exercise can be weight loss, clearer skin, better health and higher self esteem as you see the results of your hard work. You just sound like you need to do something for yourself and going for a run or doing some boxing for example, is free and can be done in the spare room or by running up the street.</p>\n<p>I hope this is of some help. Hang in there and speak to your practitioner about coming off your meds- perhaps s/he can give you some coping strategies.</p>\n<p><br>\n</p></div>", "date": "27-08-2013", "url": "https://forums.beyondblue.org.au/t5/anxiety/diploma-is-going-to-make-my-head-explode/td-p/91980" }, { "author": "user-id/41589", "content": "Thankyou so much I have thought about getting a boxing bag actually to vent the frustration. We have just finished doing suicide prevention role plays today and I feel like I did really badly. I feel like suicide prevention is totally out of my depth. We really have a short time to go through each module and this one needs waaaaaaaay longer on learning about it because I feel like I am coming to the end of the module with still not having a clue. I mean I have been on the end of being the suicidal person and I kind of still don't know how I got through it the only way I did was by focusing on my kids and the fact they need me around. Its really hard to counsel anyone in that situation and I still feel lost. I am just glad the role plays are over now this has been the most emotional module for me and I do not like it. Its been nearly 3 years now since I myself was in the place of being suicidal but I really don't like to think about it because it was such a very sad place to be and I really think there is no right way to go about counselling someone who is suicidal at the end of the day its a really touchy subject and everyone has their opinions on how best to deal with it. Its really clear to me by doing the module that not much is really known about suicidal tendencies and its a difficult subject. Bring on getting that boxing bag lol.</div>", "date": "31-08-2013", "url": "https://forums.beyondblue.org.au/t5/anxiety/diploma-is-going-to-make-my-head-explode/td-p/91980" }, { "author": "user-id/21739", "content": "<p>Dear Meg,</p>\n<p>Did you get your assignments in ?</p>\n<p>Role playing suicide prevention seems worse than actually being in the situation for real.   I've had a couple of attempts and life had piled up way too much plus the 20+ years of bipolar kicked in.  Before I really thought about it I was losing control and really wanted to seek a way out. Probably looking for the triggers is the best solution.  It only takes ONE thing to push things too far - what they call \"the tipping effect\", i.e. you are balanced but one end gets added to negatively by increasing ammounts until eventually you hit rock bottom and it's tough to get back up.   </p>\n<p>Marketing companies use this same strategy for flooding the market with their new product.  Pretty soon you see it everywhere and believe you have to buy it !</p>\n<p>Adios,David. </p>\n<p> </p></div>", "date": "15-09-2013", "url": "https://forums.beyondblue.org.au/t5/anxiety/diploma-is-going-to-make-my-head-explode/td-p/91980" } ]

[ { "author": "user-id/28754", "content": "<p>Hi, so I've recently just moved schools in the last year and I've really found it quite struggling. I've been known to always be shy but I didn't think it was anything more. I became so afraid of not fitting in that I wasn't able to string a sentence together to talk to people. I'd just smile and sit there quietly unless someone spoke to me first. I then cut myself off making it harder to fit in and for people to like me. It was then after when I made friends that they suggested it wasnt just shyness.. They've started teasing me about the possible chance that I have social anxiety and they continuously say I have no social skills and I am awkward to be around. Its probably not teasing because it is the truth. It was then I started weighing out the possibilities. I don't go to parties because I dislike meeting and interacting with people I don't know, if I drink its usually so I feel more confident with myself, I am much more talkative when I drink, I hate walking into class rooms with everyone seated because I know I'm being judged, I hate going to school because I fear that the teacher will pick me to answer a question and I won't know it, I usually blush when people that I am unfamiliar with talk to me,I can't maintain eye contact, my voice is usually weak when people ask my questions so im having to repeat myself, (this brings more attetion to myself) I sweat excessively, and as of recently I stutter when I'm talking to someone who intimidates me which is mostly everyone. The stress and the worrying from what other people think of me is really holding me back from day to day things, particularly from playing sport because i'd have to meet new people. Lately I wonder if it would be better if I didn't exist because I feel like a freak. I don't even know if there is anything wrong with me and perhaps I'm just attention seeking or I'm over thinking things but I do know I don't  like to feel this way and I've been spending a lot of nights crying and losing sleep from thinking about all this. Is this normal? </p></div>", "date": "01-09-2013", "url": "https://forums.beyondblue.org.au/t5/anxiety/am-i-just-shy/td-p/93579" }, { "author": "user-id/9388", "content": "<p>Hi, I'm not an expert and I can't really offer you any advice but I can say that you are not alone.</p>\n<p>I can relate to almost everything you have talked about.  Hopefully, over time we can learn to overcome our issues.</p>\n<p>Alex.</p></div>", "date": "02-09-2013", "url": "https://forums.beyondblue.org.au/t5/anxiety/am-i-just-shy/td-p/93579" }, { "author": "user-id/31254", "content": "<p>Hi cjs96,</p>\n<p>It sounds like you are suffering from low self esteem and think that you are not a good person who is worth knowing. </p>\n<p>Most people are shy when they are put in an unfamiliar situation like going to a new school or starting a new job so just think it is okay to have some of these feelings.</p>\n<p>As for what others say, you can't control that so try not to worry about it. It would be good if you could find a couple of nice friends to spend your time with. Sport could be a good way to meet them but you will need to make an effort.</p>\n<p>I'm sure you are not a freak and I think you might benefit from going to see the school counsellor and discuss some of your concerns to get a wise opinion on your feelings. Nobody should spend their nights crying and not sleeping and even if it is someting more like your a bit depressed there is always someone who can help.</p>\n<p>Good luck to you and never give up.</p>\n<p> </p></div>", "date": "02-09-2013", "url": "https://forums.beyondblue.org.au/t5/anxiety/am-i-just-shy/td-p/93579" }, { "author": "user-id/12824", "content": "<p>Hi cjs96,</p>\n<p>Just a few thoughts I had as I was reading your post. I know what it is like to have trouble fitting into a new school. It is really tough that you made some friends and then they started to tease you. But if they are your friends maybe they are trying to help you. If you have a school counselor you might consider speaking to them about your concerns. If you think you will have trouble expressing your feelings to another person you could take along some notes on what you have written here. You can help yourself to speak more confidently by practicing reading in front of a mirror. Also by recording yourself and listening and adjusting your voice. Look yourself in the eye and say I am a good and confident person.Positive self talk can help. Also exercise can be really good to help with both anxiety and shyness. If you have trouble with team sports you could try one of the martial arts. I know from my experience that the more I give in to the worries and fears the harder it becomes. You have your whole life to party try to avoid getting caught up in the trap of self medicating with alcohol. Best wishes, Chris.  </p></div>", "date": "02-09-2013", "url": "https://forums.beyondblue.org.au/t5/anxiety/am-i-just-shy/td-p/93579" }, { "author": "user-id/29993", "content": "<p>hi,</p>\n<p>Everybody feels awkwardness when they are put in a new and/or strange situation. The trick is taking the first step outside your comfort zone. Talk to someone you usually wouldn't; engage in an activity that you have interest in but haven't done. I've personally spent a lot of time worrying about what others think of me, and wondering what to say to break the ice, and sometimes I still do, but this is how a lot of people feel at first. Just be comfortable with yourself,</p></div>", "date": "13-09-2013", "url": "https://forums.beyondblue.org.au/t5/anxiety/am-i-just-shy/td-p/93579" } ]

[ { "author": "user-id/6932", "content": "<p>Such a vicious cycle happening within me. I drink to alleviate my anxiety and then suffer the despair of my drinking. Three different medications later the depression is clearing but not the anxiety. I have confessed to my psychologist and husband about my struggles with alcohol. I am an intelligent person why can't I get this monkey off my back? I don't want to live this up and down life anymore but every time I seem to have things under some sort of control I self destruct again and go back to square one. Its like having an out of body experience as i watch myself head for that wine bottle. its the only thing that numbs the anxiety. Why? Help.</p></div>", "date": "07-09-2013", "url": "https://forums.beyondblue.org.au/t5/anxiety/anxiety-alcohol-equals-despair/td-p/94912" }, { "author": "user-id/8236", "content": "<p>dear Daisychain, this a problem a lot of people have to cope with, including myself when I was depressed, which brings me to my point, are you sure that your depression is under control. </p>\n<p>I felt like this many years ago, but as soon as something went wrong or upset me, I would reach for the bottle, because I couldn't cope or handle this problem.</p>\n<p>Anxiety is linked to depression as Dr. Brian Ironwood explains.</p>\n<p>With myself I had to cope with my (ex) wife and two young sons who didn't like me drinking as I was doing, and would tip it out if they found the wine cask, so I then became a cupboard drinker, much to the despair of them all, but it was the only solution to my problem then.</p>\n<p>My psychologist always said that the alcohol would reduce the effect of what the antidepressant was trying to do, I knew that but the medication was taking too long to work, whereas alcohol was instant, and that's all I wanted.</p>\n<p>If you need some medication to help you stop then there are a few types which your doctor should know about, and what it does is to stop the urge for alcohol, and even if you do have a drink then the effect from it won't be there, but it won't work if you still want to drink.</p>\n<p>It's a vicious circle, because with having depression all we want is to feel at peace within ourselves.</p>\n<p>The problem is if depression has gone then you will have a great chance of stopping your consumption, but if it's still there you have little chance. L Geoff. x</p></div>", "date": "08-09-2013", "url": "https://forums.beyondblue.org.au/t5/anxiety/anxiety-alcohol-equals-despair/td-p/94912" }, { "author": "user-id/6932", "content": "<p>Thank you Geoff for your very sensitive reply.  It is good to talk with someone who has been in my shoes.  I agree totally with you.  I am going back to the dr Tuesday to review my medication.  I hope that your struggles have improved and all I can do is take advice and gain hope from others that things can end up in a positive way, and I can be happy (and at peace) again.  Thank you for taking the time to try and help. DC x</p></div>", "date": "08-09-2013", "url": "https://forums.beyondblue.org.au/t5/anxiety/anxiety-alcohol-equals-despair/td-p/94912" }, { "author": "user-id/8236", "content": "<p>dear Daisychain, thank you.</p>\n<p>We both know just as many other people do, that to overcome drinking too heavily can always be a major concern, and of course the consumption level depends on how we feel mentally.</p>\n<p>I would classify myself in this category, but not now or the last 10 years, and I know that I can only consume so much alcohol, otherwise I will have an epileptic fit, so this forbids from drinking too much, because recovering from a 'grand mal' seizure is not advisable, as you lose all thoughts, don't know the date or year, so I suppose I know my limit.</p>\n<p>Ask your doctor about these drugs that I have mentioned, and the ones that come to mind are campral and naltrexone, and I'm not exactly sure whether these names will be mentioned, or whether they will be deleted.</p>\n<p>Dear DC, I know the battle that confronts you and I really feel for you and the struggle, so please let me know how you get on. L Geoff. x</p></div>", "date": "09-09-2013", "url": "https://forums.beyondblue.org.au/t5/anxiety/anxiety-alcohol-equals-despair/td-p/94912" }, { "author": "user-id/277", "content": "Hi <span class=\"sfforumUser\">Daisychain, Ahhh that Social Lubricant , been there done it Tshirt, havn't drank for many many years, but the urge in SOME social situations never goes. Only thing that stops me now, is the rebound Anxiety and dreaded depression that follows a binge, and the unpredictability of the stuff... TC <span class=\"lia-unicode-emoji\" title=\":slightly_smiling_face:\">🙂</span><br>\n</span></div>", "date": "12-09-2013", "url": "https://forums.beyondblue.org.au/t5/anxiety/anxiety-alcohol-equals-despair/td-p/94912" } ]

[ { "author": "user-id/18219", "content": "My local supermarket is getting a makeover and they have moved things around. I went in last week and was a bit freaked out by this. Luckily I had a list and managed to get out with everything I needed. Today was shopping day again, and I was prepared, but they had changed more things and I was completely thrown and had a meltdown. I feel completely crazy, as it is only the supermarket and I will get used to it, but I am not coping very well with the changes.</div>", "date": "02-09-2013", "url": "https://forums.beyondblue.org.au/t5/anxiety/breakdown-at-the-supermarket/td-p/93811" }, { "author": "user-id/27576", "content": "<p>Hi Tomella - I live with anxiety issues, and thought I was the only person who got freaked out in supermarkets. Glad it's not only me!  </p>\n<p>Sounds like you're persevering well, you've identified specifically what's freaking you out - ie. things being moved around and not being able to find anything - you're reinforcing that you will get used to the changes and you've got a list.</p>\n<p>Have you ever tried online shopping as a backup?  I have friends who swear by it, and while I think I'd personally prefer to go to the supermarket myself, it could be a useful standby if you find yourself in this situation again.</p>\n<p>If you've done everything you can to prepare for the shopping trip and you still freak out, then head home and order online - at least you get the shopping done, and it gives you some more time to work out how you can get through it better next time.</p>\n<p>Either that, or see if you can take your partner or a supportive friend along with you to reassure you through each step.</p>\n<p>Take care.</p>\n<p>Anyone else have any nightmare shopping experiences they'd like to share, and how you've coped?</p>\n<p>best<br>\nCB</p>\n<p>____________________________________________________________________<br>\n<strong>Online Community Manager</strong></p></div>", "date": "06-09-2013", "url": "https://forums.beyondblue.org.au/t5/anxiety/breakdown-at-the-supermarket/td-p/93811" }, { "author": "user-id/8236", "content": "<p>dear Tomella, it does give you the s---------s, and it even happens when there is no make-over, because each week they change their specials, and companies pay an extra fee for their product to be on view as you walk into the shop, hoping that you will put it in your shopping basket, and it works and then good for that particular company</p>\n<p>I am just wondering whether you have some form of OCD which comes from anxiety, but not all people with anxiety have this illness. Geoff.</p></div>", "date": "07-09-2013", "url": "https://forums.beyondblue.org.au/t5/anxiety/breakdown-at-the-supermarket/td-p/93811" }, { "author": "user-id/277", "content": "Hi <span class=\"sfforumUser\">Tomella same thing happened to me some years back, small corner store. Checkout used to be near the door, Ahh Escapism!..then moved it right over where there no easy escape. In the line i though't i was going to pass out, funny though now i go to a bigger one, and I do relatively ok...progress i guess... don't avoid ok!!! TC <br>\n</span></div>", "date": "12-09-2013", "url": "https://forums.beyondblue.org.au/t5/anxiety/breakdown-at-the-supermarket/td-p/93811" } ]

[ { "author": "user-id/31909", "content": "I'm a 45 year old female and ive just started back on medication for anxiety, I have been dealing with anxiety and panic attacks for years, I'm  into my seventh day on meds and it feels like my anxiety is worse, I feel not to bad for parts of the day. I am always thinking something is seriously wrong with me I just hate this feeling, would love to here from anyone who is going through the same thing. My doctor also says im perimenopause OMG!!! </div>", "date": "29-08-2013", "url": "https://forums.beyondblue.org.au/t5/anxiety/anxiety-panic-attacks-and-new-meds/td-p/93006" }, { "author": "user-id/27951", "content": "<p>Hi Hurley </p>\n<p>Sorry to hear about your struggles with panic and anxiety. Congratulations for being courageous and seeking help. It's an uphill battle with this stuff, and it takes time and effort to manage it. Medication is definitely useful, it can just take awhile to kick in. I Unfortunately they're not a \"quick fix\" and I've heard they can take anywhere from 2-7 weeks to start taking effect. I'd say give it a few weeks and if they don't seem to be working, talk to your GP about getting a different prescription. A referral to a psychologist is always useful as well - they can give you personalised strategies to manage anxiety. </p>\n<p>All the best and take care.</p></div>", "date": "30-08-2013", "url": "https://forums.beyondblue.org.au/t5/anxiety/anxiety-panic-attacks-and-new-meds/td-p/93006" } ]

[ { "author": "user-id/35124", "content": "<p>I have depression and anxiety caused by a lifetime of things always going wrong. As of late I have been really good! Ive started my new job (which I am loving) but today feels toxic, I went to the shopping centre and had a panic attack because of the amount of people there, I then yelled at my little cousin because she kept trying to be close to me and all i wanted was space. Now im at home and i feel so alone. My bedside table is filled with different types of pain medication and there is a bottle of wine on  the floor. I find its such a struggle on days like today to stay away from them all but everything is in eyesight. I wish i had friends that understood. no one seems to care. </p></div>", "date": "24-08-2013", "url": "https://forums.beyondblue.org.au/t5/anxiety/struggling-to-handle-the-bad-days/td-p/91461" }, { "author": "user-id/21739", "content": "<p>Dear Kelly,</p>\n<p>What happened to cause the shopping centre panic attack ?   You've been there before ?  With your family / cousin ?  Did the anxiety of the new job trigger something and you suddenly felt closed in by too many people ?   Do you get these a lot ?</p>\n<p>When you're half comatosed on your bed, pain medication strewn around, etc, you could say it was you that didn't seem to care.   Yet you project this onto \"friends\" saying they don't understand and <strong>\"no one seems to care\"</strong>.   It's a real chicken and egg situation.    But stay home and recover.   There are at least another 130 days (approx) till Christmas.   The shops can wait till your mindset is balanced.</p>\n<p>Might be worth explaining to your cousing what happened.   A child wouldn't be able to process the panic attack without some help.   If it's a friendly cousin you don't want to alienate them and get a situation where they're afraid of being with you.</p>\n<p>Have a Plan B -  \"If it gets to much for me we'll just head back to the car straight away - I don't want to have any trouble today as I'm feeling a bit anxious\".</p>\n<p>Adios, David. </p>\n<p> </p>\n<p> </p>\n<p> </p></div>", "date": "26-08-2013", "url": "https://forums.beyondblue.org.au/t5/anxiety/struggling-to-handle-the-bad-days/td-p/91461" }, { "author": "user-id/8236", "content": "<p>dear Kelly, social anxiety causes us to hate the thought of going out and to be with other people, and it then ruins our life to the point of being swamped by a crowd, and their urge to be with us when we don't this to happen.</p>\n<p>And because of this is why you didn't want your little cousin to be close to you, but it doesn't mean that you dislike her, I'm sure that you love her, but not at that particular time.</p>\n<p>These pain killers must be related to ' a lifetime of things always going wrong', so I am interested as to what has happened to you, just briefly if you like.</p>\n<p>I used alcohol as a way to numb my depression, just as many other people may have, but when we wake up the problem is still there, and it could be worse, so it's a vicious circle that goes on from day to day, so it's like we are stamping on the ground in the same spot, and not getting any where.</p>\n<p>So the analogy is we have to learn how to get out and run, and by doing this is by seeking professional help.</p>\n<p>Kelly we know what you are going through, a lot of us including myself have social anxiety, so that's why I avoid any family get together functions, and with xmas creeping up so quickly it all starts again. </p>\n<p>Hope you can reply to us. L Geoff. x</p>\n<p> </p></div>", "date": "26-08-2013", "url": "https://forums.beyondblue.org.au/t5/anxiety/struggling-to-handle-the-bad-days/td-p/91461" }, { "author": "user-id/35124", "content": "<p>I love my little cousin but some times it gets too much when she always has to touch me or be close to me, I end up snapping at her and feel guilty afterwards. the saying that goes around 'that will never happen to me' well im the person everything happens to. my mum is a sociopath, brother schizophrenia and my ex boyfriend is a narcissistic<span style=\"line-height: 16px; font-size: 13px; color: #444444;\"><strong>.</strong> put it all together and my life isnt the best. </span></p>\n<p><span style=\"line-height: 16px; font-size: 13px; color: #444444;\">I tried to end my life the other night. The police and ambos came. now everyone is angry at me and im hiding in my room. I have a brusie on my chest where the ambos grabbed me to wake me up and have marks in my arms and hands as the student nurse couldnt put the drip in the right way, Ive ended up worse. </span></p>\n<p><span style=\"line-height: 16px; font-size: 13px; color: #444444;\">I dont know how to make things better. Can anyone make any suggestions?</span></p></div>", "date": "26-08-2013", "url": "https://forums.beyondblue.org.au/t5/anxiety/struggling-to-handle-the-bad-days/td-p/91461" }, { "author": "user-id/8236", "content": "<p>dear Kelly, now that you have a job that you love, it would be a good idea to move away from these toxic people, they are only doing harm to you, and this means dropping your boyfriend, all of them are inciting and adding to these bad feelings.</p>\n<p>You haven't mentioned about seeing your doctor, unless I have missed something, but you now need professional help. Please keep this tag open and reply to us. L Geoff. x </p></div>", "date": "29-08-2013", "url": "https://forums.beyondblue.org.au/t5/anxiety/struggling-to-handle-the-bad-days/td-p/91461" } ]

[ { "author": "user-id/14862", "content": "<p>Hi,</p>\n<p>The sky is getting lighter outside and the birds are starting to chirp, but I haven't had a wink of sleep since trying to go to bed hours ago... my heart is racing and I've been on the verge of tears (if not bawling my eyes out) for the past 5 hours now.</p>\n<p>Things have been like this for almost 6 years. Not every night, not even most nights - but every now and then, it happens. Sometimes without warning, sometimes triggered by an upsetting event. And once it starts, the anxiety grows and snowballs and gets infinitely huge until all I want to do is leap out of my body, away from my racing heart and mind, to somewhere far away. I toss and turn and get more and more freaked out by everything until I have no choice but to get out of bed and away from the thoughts by parking myself in front of the TV to try to forget everything.</p>\n<p><span style=\"line-height: 1.38462; font-size: 0.8125em;\">And it's always, always on the back of my mind: will tonight be another one of *those* nights?</span></p>\n<p><span style=\"line-height: 14px; font-size: 11px;\">I am a naturally anxious/high-achieving person. I've been through two incredibly stressful degrees (I'm almost 27) and now, because I have chosen not to pursue the path my education would indicate (another story), I am looking for a job - without much success. </span></p>\n<p><span style=\"line-height: 14px; font-size: 11px;\">I feel so helpless when this \"sleep anxiety\" happens to me. </span><span style=\"line-height: 1.38462; font-size: 0.8125em;\">I don't know what to do I don't know where to turn. My boyfriend is incredibly supportive and tries his best (he stayed up with me for 3 hours tonight but he couldn't keep his head up so I told him to go to bed) but it's not something I expect people to understand or know how to help.</span></p>\n<p><span style=\"line-height: 14px; font-size: 11px;\">I've tried going to my GP and she referred me to a psychologist, who didn't help all that much.</span></p>\n<p><span style=\"line-height: 14px; font-size: 11px;\">I'm at a loss for what to do. I know I should probably consider seeing another professional. </span></p>\n<p>I am just so exhausted. If it persists like this I'm afraid of what I might do.</p>\n<p>I know it's linked to feeling useless/unemployable/not having money or direction but this began well before all of this was even an issue.</p>\n<p>I just want to be normal - to fall into bed like a normal person, close my eyes, and fall asleep...</p>\n<p><strong>Helpful related threads:</strong></p>\n<p><a href=\"https://www.beyondblue.org.au/get-support/online-forums/staying-well/sleep\" rel=\"nofollow noopener noreferrer\">Sleep</a></p></div>", "date": "26-08-2013", "url": "https://forums.beyondblue.org.au/t5/anxiety/6am-and-still-awake/td-p/92125" }, { "author": "user-id/27951", "content": "<p>Hi TS</p>\n<p>I've been there many times. It's just another nuisance that anxiety sufferers have to deal with. Night is the time where our bodies are supposed to relax and recharge us for the next day, but our minds seem to have other ideas (literally). It can also be compounded by anxiety about not getting to sleep, which creates a self-fulfilling prophecy, and means you sleep even less (or not at all). </p>\n<p>Maybe a different psychologist might help? I've been told that sometimes you have to go to more than 1 professional to find someone who is the \"right fit\" for you. </p>\n<p>In terms of sleeping (or not sleeping) ... you're probably mentally, emotionally and physically exhausted right about now, so probably your highest priority at this point should be to give yourself some time out. Take a few hot showers, get a massage, go for a walk, etc. The experts suggest, just before you go to bed, that you write down your thoughts and worries on a piece of paper, and maybe put them in a box. It can give you a sense of \"letting go\". Sometimes life is about taking things one minute at a time, moment by moment. All the best, and take care of yourself.</p></div>", "date": "26-08-2013", "url": "https://forums.beyondblue.org.au/t5/anxiety/6am-and-still-awake/td-p/92125" }, { "author": "user-id/12824", "content": "<p>Hi TS,</p>\n<p>I hope that when the tears end you do feel some relief. I know what it is like to cry uncontrollably. After many years of suffering I have recently been getting help from a psychologist. I have some features of GAD but am high functioning so I am not really considered to be ill. I do have a high level of stress because of my various commitments. I hit overload on the stress at times and can end up with severe depression. I am currently undertaking a program of CBT. It may help to write down what you are thinking when you are crying. It may be worth while trying a different psychologist. I know from my experience that it can be a very challenging process. But it has been worth the effort. Best wishes, Chris.</p></div>", "date": "26-08-2013", "url": "https://forums.beyondblue.org.au/t5/anxiety/6am-and-still-awake/td-p/92125" } ]

[ { "author": "user-id/33491", "content": "<p>Every night when it gets dark I start freaking out that I can hear noises around my house and that someone is going to try break into my house and if that happens I get so panicked that I I don't know how I would react or what I would do. I have my tv on the lowest volume setting and listen to all the noises, my heart races, I get really scared and I can't seem to shake it!</p>\n<p>i know it's just a fear and my sensible side tells me I'm being silly but I can't help it..</p>\n<p>I'm so sick of this feeling of being afraid every night it's only stated to happen over the past few months, I really need some advice on what could help me!</p>\n<p>so if you have any tips or ever feel like this please share as I'd really appreciate some peace if mind..</p>\n<p><br>\n</p></div>", "date": "23-08-2013", "url": "https://forums.beyondblue.org.au/t5/anxiety/can-t-sleep-so-anxious-advice-needed/td-p/90908" }, { "author": "user-id/37824", "content": "<p>Hi Anxious. I used to feel that way all the time! It made me so tense! It might sound weird but one thing I did to get over it was to go to sleep with the fan on all the time, and to play music. At first I was still anxious but after a while it really helped. It is still soft enough that I think I would hear if a window broke or something, but it is noisy enough that I don't jump at all those little noises like branches scratching the roof etc.</p>\n<p>Of course everybody is different</p></div>", "date": "23-08-2013", "url": "https://forums.beyondblue.org.au/t5/anxiety/can-t-sleep-so-anxious-advice-needed/td-p/90908" }, { "author": "user-id/8236", "content": "<p>dear Anxious, in my darkest days of depression, I would also play music from a radio station I often listened to.</p>\n<p>This took my mind far away even though I may have been crying to a song that I loved, but even now any song I still love I become sentimental over it. Geoff. </p></div>", "date": "25-08-2013", "url": "https://forums.beyondblue.org.au/t5/anxiety/can-t-sleep-so-anxious-advice-needed/td-p/90908" } ]

[ { "author": "user-id/19121", "content": "<p>I don't think im really depressed or have any particularly strong anxieties. I am just overwhelmed. Overwhelmed that I can't find a new job, that I have to commute for hours every day, that I don't know how to build a strong career or build a new career. That I really don't have many positives at the moment. I really just want to have things to look forward to and I want to enjoy myself.</p>\n<p> It's making me really stressed and I feel like I am taking it out on others around me. I don't want to stress other people out, because everyone seems to have their own stresses.  </p>\n<p>I am really not sure who to talk to or how to deal with things. I know I need to be proactive and make changes, but I guess thats easier said than done. </p></div>", "date": "23-08-2013", "url": "https://forums.beyondblue.org.au/t5/anxiety/overwhelmed/td-p/91078" }, { "author": "user-id/21739", "content": "<p>Dear Cindy,</p>\n<p>Success is equally as overwhelming.  Just be yourself.  Run your own race.   The external stress and all those comparisons you make probably are acting as a barrier to you actually achieving anything !  Being proactive is a great thing but being proactive when stressed is just another stress.</p>\n<p>Start from somewhere small, like, WHERE do I want to work ?  Then build to WHAT do I want to work as ?  And then the big one - WHO do I want to work for ? Just the same way you would do a jigsaw - sort the colours, do the edges and try and fill in the rest before mum shouts \"The pizzas are here\".  Lol.</p>\n<p>Adios, David.</p></div>", "date": "23-08-2013", "url": "https://forums.beyondblue.org.au/t5/anxiety/overwhelmed/td-p/91078" }, { "author": "user-id/37824", "content": "<p>Hi Cindy,</p>\n<p>I don't know if it helps, but when I feel overwhelmed, it is usually a sign to slow down, and stop doing so much. I like to take a bath, listen to some relaxing music, unplug the internet and turn off the tv and maybe take a walk. Anything that makes me feel like my mind is a little quieter. Try to get enough sleep. That's a big one. Maybe then the things you really want will emerge more clearly?</p></div>", "date": "23-08-2013", "url": "https://forums.beyondblue.org.au/t5/anxiety/overwhelmed/td-p/91078" }, { "author": "user-id/8236", "content": "<p>dear Cindy, you have said those words associated with depression ' I really don't have many positives at the moment'. No one </p>\n<p>No one who has this illness can possibly think in a positive way, it's all negative thoughts, and this is always a barrier that blocks our thinking of being able to be positive.</p>\n<p>Sure everybody have their own stress's but sometimes they have to lift their game so that they can help you, but unfortunately this doesn't happen.</p>\n<p>Travelling for hours everyday only makes you dig yourself into a deeper hole, because the 'what if', 'or could I' churn over in your mind.</p>\n<p>How about you go to an employment agency and have a chat with them, there maybe something that's close to home or as their say 'under your nose' that you are missing out on. Good luck.  L Geoff. x</p></div>", "date": "25-08-2013", "url": "https://forums.beyondblue.org.au/t5/anxiety/overwhelmed/td-p/91078" } ]

[ { "author": "user-id/6693", "content": "i have suffered from anxiety since i was 17 and depression since i was 32 i am now 44. i never knew i had ether until 6 years ago i would just get a tingling feeling in my hands then extremely hot then loose my vision and pass out once every couple of years never gave it much thought. then 12 years ago my younger brother committed suicide and my attacks servilely increased until i had to see a doctor who gave me medication it did not help it did stop the attacks but did not stop the constant sensation that something was not right.so i sleeked a natural remedy with vitamins and minerals which has stopped the sensation but has not helped with my depression which i have suffered with since the lose of my brother nothing makes me happy i just pretend to be happy. i found a great job 8yrs ago were i made a lot of friends and 4yrs ago built a house with my wife and two teenage boys hoping it would give me happiness and self worth which it didnt it just increased the presser then 2yrs ago a larger company brought out the company i worked for and my friends started leaving then 2months ago i was let go. now i feel lost again im trying to find work but have had no luck like normal everything is going to shit i owe thousands on land and water rates im now behind in my house payments.im starting to lock my self away from the world again im lashing out at the people i love my wife is tired of it she has put up with so much.22yrs of dealing with me she deserves better im on new meds now which has helped with my anger but not with my confidence.i have always felt responsible for the lose of my brother that i didnt see it and didnt stop it.im scared i am going to loose everything i worked so hard for yet i dont seem to care enough to swallow my pride and ask for help or maybe i just dont want to admit that i have failed again i guess thats why im writing this i dont know who else to tell any advise would be greatly appreciated and thank you for taking the time to read this             </div>", "date": "20-08-2013", "url": "https://forums.beyondblue.org.au/t5/anxiety/not-sure-if-i-can-be-fixed/td-p/90346" }, { "author": "user-id/8236", "content": "<p>dear Opy, sorry it's been 2 days before a reply.</p>\n<p> With depression we always think that we have failed, because that's part of this illness.</p>\n<p>Maybe your anxiety and depression were quietly sneaking up on you before 17 so you may not have known.</p>\n<p>I can't image how badly you feel about your brother, which brings to the point that when I tried I know that my twin would be devastated, just as you are.</p>\n<p>You can't really blame yourself about your brother, although this would always seem to happen, but most of the time there is no indication of their intent.</p>\n<p>At the moment your world is crashing down, so there are a couple of things you have to try and do, I know that you couldn't give a damn at the moment, but please try and make this effort, sorry.</p>\n<p>Contact your bank and tell them that you lost your job and they will offer a rescue package, it's best for you to do this before they contact you, because the discussion will be totally different, in other words they won't be so heavy with you.</p>\n<p>The other concern is that try and go back to your doctor and tell him/her that you are suffering from depression.</p>\n<p>You will need some money coming in so go to a centrelink office and get the forms to apply for some money on a fortnightly basis. Hope that you can get back to us. Geoff.</p></div>", "date": "23-08-2013", "url": "https://forums.beyondblue.org.au/t5/anxiety/not-sure-if-i-can-be-fixed/td-p/90346" } ]

[ { "author": "user-id/3260", "content": "<p>For some time i have had a fear of going out of the home, some days are worse than others. I think its the fact that i get scared of having a panic attack? i do put a lot of things of and don't go places cause of it. how does one get over this? I had to have a scan the other day and that was scary, i could feel the panic coming but i tried to change my thoughts and it went away!,  do i just keep on pushing myself? i don't really go to the store cause of this or i try to put of family gatherings </p></div>", "date": "08-08-2013", "url": "https://forums.beyondblue.org.au/t5/anxiety/how-to-deal-with-anxiety-and-going-out/td-p/87269" }, { "author": "user-id/21739", "content": "<p>Dear Missy,</p>\n<p>A friend of mine decided to beat something similar by saying \"Once I've got my special red lipstick on I'm fine\".   Bit simplistic but sometimes you can find one thing that makes it easier to get out.   Plus, the wrong phone call or thinking can lead to panic attacks at home too.</p>\n<p>Why don't you wait it out for a bit ?   PIck a good day and run with it.  Take the pressure out of the situation.    It is often said that knowing you're going to die (similar to torture) is worse than the actual dying.   You need to do what's comfortable and slowly build up some ways to cope if you feel up to it.</p>\n<p>We all put a lot of things off.   Including the washing up !  Lol.  Seriously, social situations are a bit prone to anxiety.  You're being sensible by avoiding something that triggers a panic attack.    A bit of counselling might unlock the real reason.</p>\n<p>Adios, David.</p></div>", "date": "08-08-2013", "url": "https://forums.beyondblue.org.au/t5/anxiety/how-to-deal-with-anxiety-and-going-out/td-p/87269" }, { "author": "user-id/40842", "content": "<p>Hi Missy </p>\n<p>I have the same problem.  I am working with my therapist to help me get out of the house and back into my life.  Right now, I am focusing on doing one thing every day that gets me out of the house and into an anxious situation.  Then I have to stay in the situation until my panic has halved, or gone away.  Last night I managed to stay at my boyfriends house all night.  Then today I had trouble just going to the doctor.  </p>\n<p>Its just one day at a time and one situation at a time. Being scared of panic brings on more panic.  Talk to your doctor about therapy, it can really help. </p></div>", "date": "14-08-2013", "url": "https://forums.beyondblue.org.au/t5/anxiety/how-to-deal-with-anxiety-and-going-out/td-p/87269" }, { "author": "user-id/36741", "content": "<p>Hi Missy</p>\n<p> Good on you for managing to cope while having your scan.</p>\n<p> I have severe anxiety and have been house bound for a few years. I was so bad I couldn't get out of my bedroom. I have been working with a therapist and attempting to move away from my safety zone.</p>\n<p> I find breaking down fearful tasks into small, achievable steps is the way to go for myself and as Jess says staying with the panic until it decreases, and not moving on to the next step until you can do the previous step easily. My first aim was to get out of my bedroom and in to the next room. Such a small step, but a huge one for me. I continued doing this until I felt ready to move on to the next step.</p>\n<p> Another thing I do is look at a situation and give it a mark out of ten for how much anxiety it is going to possibly cause. If its a 3 out of 10 I make myself give it a go, if it's 9 out of 10 I opt out.</p>\n<p> </p>\n<p>I wish you well in your recovery.</p>\n<p> </p>\n<p>Saska</p></div>", "date": "20-08-2013", "url": "https://forums.beyondblue.org.au/t5/anxiety/how-to-deal-with-anxiety-and-going-out/td-p/87269" } ]

[ { "author": "user-id/26050", "content": "<p>I think I have anxiety but I'm not 100% sure can you guys please help me?</p>\n<p>the symptoms I suffer from are:</p>\n<p>hot flushes</p>\n<p>blushing</p>\n<p>scared of socializing</p>\n<p>hate going to public places shopping centers/restaurants</p>\n<p>sweating</p>\n<p>clammy hands</p>\n<p>heart rate goes up</p>\n<p>freezing finger tips</p>\n<p>shacking</p>\n<p>worrying</p>\n<p>swallow a lot</p>\n<p>Other things you need to know is:</p>\n<p>I have a huge phobia of public speaking such as speaking in front of the school which I avoid, speaking in front of the class eg speech I avoid reading in front of the class I avoid and even talking to someone in person. My blushing makes it a lot worse because I can feel it happening and everyone points it out because im in year 7 and it makes everything worse.</p>\n<p>I barely put my hand up in glass but I only do it for some teachers such as my maths teacher and my pdhpe teacher but never volunteer to read.</p>\n<p>BLUSHING!!!!!!</p>\n<p>blushing is a big put down in my life, I think if I don't blush then I wouldn't be scared to public speak or even talk to my friends. When im talking to someone my brain automatically thinks \"omg what if I blush, theyre gonna think im some kind of loser.\" That's when I start to blush, its very frustrating because everyone looks a you. Ive got some speeched coming up for school and sometimes at night I think about suicide, I mean nothing to the world im only another human destroying earth im not gonna be famous or talented so why should I deserve to live? I don't think ill ever commit suicide.</p>\n<p> </p>\n<p>I was going so well with this blushing that I stopped blushing for about 2 weeks and when I got an award on stage I still had the symptoms all but blushing but the whole year seven was up there so I had nothing to worry about, but then I was shopping which I rarely ever do and my mum saw someone I know and she was my friends mum and we were talking and she goes your red what have you been doing, I was speechless the world stopped it felt like agers until I managed to spit out I got embarrassed easily. It turned my whole life upside down ever since ive been blushing and have gotten worse. I also never go shopping because im scared ill see someone there and then blush or think im stupid for wearing the wrong clothes. Its really hard I told some of my friends that I think I have anxiety and none of them understand like they make me do things like talking in front of the class and even things like going to the toilet by myself or going to the canteen ive never gone to the canteen by myself and this year only 2 ive gone to the toilet by myself which im quite proud of. Can you please tell me if you think ive got an anxiety disorder.</p></div>", "date": "14-08-2013", "url": "https://forums.beyondblue.org.au/t5/anxiety/do-i-have-anxiety/td-p/89313" }, { "author": "user-id/21739", "content": "<p>Dear tigerlibby,</p>\n<p>Anxiety has many forms but you're right in the thick of it from what you've described.  Can you check out \"social anxiety\" ?  Even going to the toilet is kind of mixed in with \"separation anxiety\".     A GP can direct you for therapy.  At the moment there are 10  counselling times for Free if you fill in the Mental Health Plan with your GP. </p>\n<p>I think you're post got missed for a while but you did well to write on BB.  School has many pressures so if you get a handle on your anxiety now it will help with Yr 12 and all the HSC stuff.     I don't think anyone really understands anxiety until it happens to them.   Your friends should just support you long term  After school there's a need for friendships.  School is really only a minor part of life.  Think Big.</p>\n<p>Adios, David.</p></div>", "date": "16-08-2013", "url": "https://forums.beyondblue.org.au/t5/anxiety/do-i-have-anxiety/td-p/89313" }, { "author": "user-id/26217", "content": "<p>Anxiety comes in many forms, and sometimes one thing can lead to another such as the blushing is now manifesting other phobias.</p>\n<p>I know what you mean with blushing, you can feel it happening and it wont stop. I find by self talking and acknowledging it is happening can make it disappear faster e.g \" ok i can feel myself burning up, deep breathe and concentrate on something else\" the more you focus on knowing your going red, the redder you will get.</p>\n<p>Excuse yourself from situations you feel uncomfortable in, let close friends know your situation so your not secretive. Even make a joke out of your blushing, acknowledge your blushing to other people and it will come and go quicker.</p>\n<p>I have been in the situation where i was put on the spot about something and my face started burning. I knew it, but kept breathing and acted cool and said something like, geez this scarf is giving me hot flushes.( good for winter!) in summer use the heat as an excuse lol</p></div>", "date": "20-08-2013", "url": "https://forums.beyondblue.org.au/t5/anxiety/do-i-have-anxiety/td-p/89313" } ]

[ { "author": "user-id/36789", "content": "<p>I found out approximate 10 months ago that my wife has been cheating on me and this not the fist time in our 18 years of marriage .  It really knocked me for six and I know I am suffering from anxiety every time she goes out or I see her texting on her phone.  We have had marriage counselling and I still love her very much but I can't shake the uneasy feeling I get when she goes out without me.  We seem to go good for 2-3 weeks then something triggers me into a spiral and I find it hard to even talk or look at her.  I won't our relationship to work but I have real trust issues and I always think the worst. </p>\n<p>I have always thought of myself as a strong man, and if a mate was telling me his wife had cheated on him I would say leave her.  It's not that I fear being alone or that I am doing this for my 3 kids, I do love her, but I am just a mess inside and the constant cycles of up and down is emotionally draining.  It also affects my thinking at work and if I have to go away for work I suffer constant anxiety.</p>\n<p>its horrible feeling this way, I hope the triggers become less and the cycles end, I know I am not the same man I used to be and it makes me mad inside that a broken heart can cause so much pain.</p></div>", "date": "18-08-2013", "url": "https://forums.beyondblue.org.au/t5/anxiety/treading-water/td-p/90193" }, { "author": "user-id/21739", "content": "<p>Dear Sucram,</p>\n<p>Did the marriage counselling help ?  I guess we always get pushed in a relationship but having a spouse cheat on you is pretty tough.   It doesn't make you less of a man.  If your anxiety gets too much you should probably talk to someone like a GP or counsellor again.   It's gotta be better to live, work and play with some air of normality.  The next corner might bring another affair but then your partner might not take that corner.  Better to find ways of being yourself and centering things.</p>\n<p>Adios, David.</p></div>", "date": "19-08-2013", "url": "https://forums.beyondblue.org.au/t5/anxiety/treading-water/td-p/90193" }, { "author": "user-id/8236", "content": "<p>dear Sucram, this is never a pleasant life to live.</p>\n<p>The same happened to me where I caught my ex ringing from a public phone twice, and she said that she was ringing person A but when I checked they hadn't heard from her.</p>\n<p>This was a major addition to my on going depression, and only made it become worse. </p>\n<p>One day she worked 'all night' didn't ring me, but again said that she had so much to do that she forgot, crap.</p>\n<p>I used to ring her everyday at work, just to make sure that she was there.</p>\n<p>Then there was the time when went on holidays, and one day we enjoyed 'the fruits of life', I then went over to the community hall to see the cricket score, and I found out later on that she had rung someone.</p>\n<p>The main trouble is that once they do it only entices them to continue, sorry mate, but they become more cunning on how and when they have the opportunity. Geoff.</p></div>", "date": "20-08-2013", "url": "https://forums.beyondblue.org.au/t5/anxiety/treading-water/td-p/90193" } ]

[ { "author": "user-id/12824", "content": "<p>Hi,</p>\n<p>I am wondering if anyone knows if anxiety can make someone more vulnerable to manipulation and covert aggression?</p></div>", "date": "18-08-2013", "url": "https://forums.beyondblue.org.au/t5/anxiety/manipulation/td-p/90187" }, { "author": "user-id/21739", "content": "<p>Dear Chris,</p>\n<p>Anxiety has that edge so aggression is always lurking.  The manipulation might be more to do with one's anxiety causing an over reaction to stress.  So a lot of exagerated behaviour would come out which is partly manipulation and partly just not being able to anticipate or predict a stressful trigger.</p>\n<p>You know it's not going to be good.</p>\n<p>Adios, David.</p></div>", "date": "19-08-2013", "url": "https://forums.beyondblue.org.au/t5/anxiety/manipulation/td-p/90187" }, { "author": "user-id/8236", "content": "<p>dear Chris, correct me if I'm wrong but I believe you are the Chris with OCD.</p>\n<p>Well with OCD which is caused by a major factor and that's anxiety, then 'we are more vulnerable to manipulation', which then makes us do more habits and rituals. Geoff.</p></div>", "date": "20-08-2013", "url": "https://forums.beyondblue.org.au/t5/anxiety/manipulation/td-p/90187" } ]

[ { "author": "user-id/3020", "content": "<p>Hi,</p>\n<p>    I'm at a young age of 15 and i'm currently in a relationship with my girlfriend of nine months. The tricky part is the fact that ever since i've got in this relationship i've had mental issues.. Thoughts and feelings that are so negative they ruin all my motivation to actually live my life. They get to a point where I just want to end this relationship just so they can be over and I can be normal again but I know for a fact if I get into another relationship they'll still be somewhere on the horizon.</p>\n<p>These thoughts are vicious, they're the basic thoughts of 'Oh, she's out with her friends.. I wonder if she's cheating on me' then it goes to the extreme of 'Is she even thinking of me? Could she be cheating on me or found a better guy..' 'Why is it taking her so long to reply is she in-danger?' Then it comes to the basic negative thoughts that are not as prevalent and in the mind as the ones above like. These thoughts start off as 'Is she losing love for me? Am I going to lose her' These thoughts are so negative that it ruins my day and injects poison into our relationship when I need reassurance (She doesn't take it to well when I ask these things)</p>\n<p>I don't know if this is anxiety or insecurity but i'll state the fact of in my past relationships (Yes besides the fact im at a young age they were all within a year of eachother) I never had these thoughts, I could be continously happy and enjoy my relationship and be ontop of the world. I don't know what to do and it'll be the end of us if I don't get these sorted out but first I need some information on what i'm experiencing so I can find a way to suppress and treat the issues.</p>\n<p>Is there anyone that could shine some light on this, it would be much appreciated? :s<span style=\"line-height: 1.38462; font-size: 0.8125em;\"> </span></p></div>", "date": "15-08-2013", "url": "https://forums.beyondblue.org.au/t5/anxiety/new-here-looking-for-some-advice-help/td-p/89635" }, { "author": "user-id/8236", "content": "<p>dear Deletrious, welcome aboard.</p>\n<p>You seem to be a mature young fellow, and experiencing the throes of having a love life, all of which we have had, and even as we grow older it never stops.</p>\n<p>Basically it involves both anxiety and insecurity, and even for me a 58 year old, no not grand-father for your age, but when I was married I still had exactly the same doubts that you are having, so it goes on forever.</p>\n<p>The fact is that whether or not you trust your girlfriend, and at a young age is up to you, but being 15 the temptation would be there, because at this age the hormones are bouncing around and are open for anything.</p>\n<p>This is probably not what you want to hear, but having a relationship for 9 months at your age is remarkable.</p>\n<p>The fact is that at 15 your own testosterone levels are piling up. What you have to learn to do is to realise that many kids your age will be bouncing in and out bed to whom ever wants to do it, and that loyality and honesty doesn't exist.</p>\n<p>By saying this doesn't actually mean that she is doing it behind your back, as she maybe sitting in the corner with the rest of her friends giggling away, and even at my age we still do this, but all to no avail, but I'm sure the females do the same.</p>\n<p>Hold that tongue of yours.</p>\n<p>What I am trying to say is that young adolescents don't really want to be tied down for a long period in any relationship, because they want to enjoy themselves, so there is a nak to appreciate that you have to learn that this relationship and the next maybe for a night or a few months, and if you are worried ask her straight out, and if you suspect anything then move onto the next girl.</p>\n<p>Geoff.</p></div>", "date": "16-08-2013", "url": "https://forums.beyondblue.org.au/t5/anxiety/new-here-looking-for-some-advice-help/td-p/89635" }, { "author": "user-id/21739", "content": "<p>Dear Deletrious,</p>\n<p>You can't control your girlfriend so your anxiety, although perfectly natural, is also a bit misguided.  Teenage times are fast moving.    Before you know it you've passed the HSC and are off on the next adverture.  Maybe it's the speed of your physical and mental growth that causes you to seek security in a regular girl.  It centres you.  You can offer friendship and maybe.</p>\n<p>Some couples prefer an Open style Marriage - multiple partners and no questions asked.    They will say they have \"an understanding\".    But most relationships have a bit more monogamy, trust and reliability.  Unless you're married to this girl I would be surprised if you can bank on any commitment.    Generally when you try and police a partner they lose all respect for you.  Better to date a robot.  But then you could also get anxious worrying if the batteries are gonna run out.  Lol.</p>\n<p>Adios, David.</p></div>", "date": "17-08-2013", "url": "https://forums.beyondblue.org.au/t5/anxiety/new-here-looking-for-some-advice-help/td-p/89635" } ]

[ { "author": "user-id/15648", "content": "Ok so for about a year now iv been really really  jumpy and have bad anxiety now.. my bodyis in fear all the time.. I cant relax and have muscle pain and stuff.. I don't think im depressed as it hasnet stopped me going out and and working but its making life very shit indeed <span class=\"lia-unicode-emoji\" title=\":disappointed_face:\">😞</span> cause I jump not only for noises butwhen someone walks around the corner and its quiet etc.. I have no idea why.. I tried some pills and stuff but nothing has helped.. please help does anyone else have this?</div>", "date": "02-08-2013", "url": "https://forums.beyondblue.org.au/t5/anxiety/jumpiness-and-fear/td-p/84887" }, { "author": "user-id/21739", "content": "<p>Dear Leeds United,</p>\n<p>Maybe your hearing is amazing.   Did you check out the quality of your hearing ?   When I'm manic I over hear and often can use public transport as everything is amplified to an uncomfortable level.  Mania seems to come from what you say - <strong>\"bad anxiety\"</strong>.    Plus, it's makes you social.     The faster you jump and respond to things the faster your processing is going.  And with mania (or the onslaught of mania) this is what is happening - your brain is in super overdrive.   </p>\n<p>Maybe there are other signs like dreaming big grandiose schemes and not being able to concentrate much on what people are saying to you because you have already worked out what they are going to say, the gestures &amp; tone.</p>\n<p>Adios, David.</p></div>", "date": "03-08-2013", "url": "https://forums.beyondblue.org.au/t5/anxiety/jumpiness-and-fear/td-p/84887" }, { "author": "user-id/26116", "content": "<p>Yes, I sometimes get those excessive startles when someone comes around the corner, loud noises or a see something move suddenly in the corner of my eye. I tried medication briefly but it made me more anxious. For me things improved when:</p>\n<p>1. I quit my old job that I absolutely hated and was a big source of stress for me.</p>\n<p>2. Got adequate sleep.</p>\n<p>3. Did regular exercise.</p>\n<p>Still get those startles and anxiety but not as bad and things are improving with some mental exercises as well.</p></div>", "date": "04-08-2013", "url": "https://forums.beyondblue.org.au/t5/anxiety/jumpiness-and-fear/td-p/84887" }, { "author": "user-id/15648", "content": "fair enough. I play soccer and sleep a lot doesn't seem to help.... its so weird now.. all I can think about is trying to anticpate noises and stuff cause I know it makes me jump <span class=\"lia-unicode-emoji\" title=\":disappointed_face:\">😞</span></div>", "date": "04-08-2013", "url": "https://forums.beyondblue.org.au/t5/anxiety/jumpiness-and-fear/td-p/84887" }, { "author": "user-id/12824", "content": "<p>Hi LeedsUnited21,</p>\n<p>I think I know what you mean. I find that thinking/worrying too much about anything at all tends to take me away from actually noticing what is going on around me. You may be doing more worrying about noticing than actually noticing. I can also find it disturbing to have someone standing in my blind spot same as if you are driving. You know they are there but just out of sight. Thanks for sharing, Chris.</p></div>", "date": "05-08-2013", "url": "https://forums.beyondblue.org.au/t5/anxiety/jumpiness-and-fear/td-p/84887" }, { "author": "user-id/21739", "content": "<p>Dear Leeds United 2  Arsenal 0,</p>\n<p>Jumpy from noises ?      Or jumpy from thinking about noises ?  Or jumpy just cos you are already jumpy ?    </p>\n<p>I have a cat just like that.   But she was abused as a kitten so every noise could lead to something bad.     I would never have guessed that you play soccer from your user name !  Lol.      When I lived in England in the 70's/80's Leeds United did really well and I think won the FA Cup one year.  Don't they play in a white stripe ?</p>\n<p>You may have scored an own goal with all the jumpyness &amp; anxiety.    Try and subsitute a calmer persona and deal with things AFTER they've  happened.</p>\n<p>Adios, David.</p></div>", "date": "06-08-2013", "url": "https://forums.beyondblue.org.au/t5/anxiety/jumpiness-and-fear/td-p/84887" }, { "author": "user-id/15648", "content": "jumpy from noises like someone coughs i jump like a horror movie and on edge all the time now for everything and social anxiety. its pretty bad i must admit. everything makes me jump and be on edge and act weird even someone walking up behind me and saying my name makes me freak out</div>", "date": "06-08-2013", "url": "https://forums.beyondblue.org.au/t5/anxiety/jumpiness-and-fear/td-p/84887" }, { "author": "user-id/21739", "content": "<p>Dear Leeds,</p>\n<p>The most boring therapy would be to wear noise cancelling headphones.    I'm sure that a little development in the ability to NOT react will go a long way.</p>\n<p>Maybe a good psychologist will unearth what drives your fear of sudden noises.  Sometimes paying $40 for a professional full body massage will ease the jumpyness or even swimming.   You can't really jump when swimming.  At $7 a swim it might be a cheaper alternative.</p>\n<p>Adios, David.</p></div>", "date": "06-08-2013", "url": "https://forums.beyondblue.org.au/t5/anxiety/jumpiness-and-fear/td-p/84887" }, { "author": "user-id/15648", "content": "<p>stil so jumpy tried </p>\n<p> </p>\n<p>yer been ok just so jumpy when people walk around corners and stuff to so silly.. don't know why</p></div>", "date": "16-08-2013", "url": "https://forums.beyondblue.org.au/t5/anxiety/jumpiness-and-fear/td-p/84887" } ]

[ { "author": "user-id/4326", "content": "I have shocking depression/anxiety, and there is no reason why, as my business life is starting to become successful.  I have had this thing for about 13 or 14 years now, but it is so erratic like super highs to super lows in seconds.  In my school days I was kind of popular but now I am hated equally by everyone (except for my wife, she is gold) I am so scared of speaking on the phone, and I used to have good phone skills (10-12 years ago).  I walk in to a room and I feel like everyone starts talking about me (am I schizophrenic?) and meeting new people, just forget about it! when I go to a supermarket for example as soon as I say hello their facial expression just drops.  Even people that I have known for 15 years, I feel very uncomfortable around them, and don't say much because my voice quivers I am that nervous, it shows and then they hang serious crap on me and I'm just over it.  I have gone to the doc and been prescribed an antidepressant a couple of times and a serotonin thing once,but neither worked for longer than a day or 2 (placebo effect maybe?) and the doc's just blow me off every time and make me feel like I'm making stuff up (as I feel comfortable with a doctor for some reason, and don't show symptoms there for some reason???? I don't even go very often like 3 times in the last 5 years) I took a lot of xtc and smoked a lot of weed not so long ago, but clean now and still feel like crap.  Anyone had something similar and can help out with anything, I mean anything I'm desperate! Cheers</div>", "date": "15-08-2013", "url": "https://forums.beyondblue.org.au/t5/anxiety/help-i-m-over-feeling-like-this/td-p/89618" }, { "author": "user-id/32214", "content": "Hi jakyl. I can relate to several things you talk about. I avoid phone calls as much as possible and just say Im really not a phone person!  Meeting new people can be tough and sometimes I even feel anxious around friends too. My anxiety comes and goes depending on the situation and is often related to social situations and yes sometimes I think I may have some illness like bipolar or schizophrenia or something because i know my thoughts are so irrational! I also have a very supportive husband which does help a lot. I also found that once I was in the doctors office, it was hard to describe the way I felt as I was okay at that time. You could try writing down your feelings/symptoms when you are having one of those moments to tell the doctor before you go,  and maybe try some different doctors until you find someone that gets it. I have been off medication for 3 years and and trying to stay off them. But everyone is different and some people just need it to take the edge off. It did work for me for a while but it does take some time to kick in properly. Sometimes weeks. Without medication can make it harder to kick, but there are other tried and true ways to curb your anxiety. I still think about going back on them sometimes but try and refrain. I know it seems simple but have you tried meditation, yoga, excercise or dietary changes? These things can definately make things a little more manageable. And making sure you get enough sleep. I find that when I am sleep deprived it is worse.  <span class=\"lia-unicode-emoji\" title=\":slightly_smiling_face:\">🙂</span> <span class=\"lia-unicode-emoji\" title=\":slightly_smiling_face:\">🙂</span></div>", "date": "16-08-2013", "url": "https://forums.beyondblue.org.au/t5/anxiety/help-i-m-over-feeling-like-this/td-p/89618" } ]

[ { "author": "user-id/41139", "content": "<p>Hi everyone! I am new to these forums but am hoping to deal with my anxiety/phobia and panic attacks once and for all!  My anxiety is mainly centred around a specific phobia of mine - heights!  Therefore I hate bridges, flying - anything high!  This is coupled with driving anxiety. I panic when I can't picture the route (ie. going over any bridges) and when I go anywhere new.  My panic attacks are centred around my response to the situation (I am terrified that when I fly I am going to panic and open the door and jump out!!).  Does anyone else have a specific anxiety and/or panic attacks relating to specifics and how did you address them?  Does CBT really work???  I am really keen to change my current life pathway and reconnect with the outgoing person I once was!</p>\n<p>Thanx!</p></div>", "date": "05-08-2013", "url": "https://forums.beyondblue.org.au/t5/anxiety/anxiety-phobia/td-p/86509" }, { "author": "user-id/40842", "content": "<p>Hi jenjo1, </p>\n<p>From my personal perspective, CBT can be very very helpful. I found that the more I know about panic and anxiety and how it works the better I can deal with it.  CBT will help you understand why you get panicked and what the physiology of it is.  This therapy really helps especially with anxiety. </p>\n<p>I have general and social anxiety, not specific to a phobia, but CBT definitely helps.  </p>\n<p>Good luck</p></div>", "date": "14-08-2013", "url": "https://forums.beyondblue.org.au/t5/anxiety/anxiety-phobia/td-p/86509" } ]

[ { "author": "user-id/35973", "content": "<p>Hi,</p>\n<p>I have only just joined and its kind of reassuring to see other people dealing with similar issues. I was supposed to have my first ever counselling session today which i was feeling optimistic about but I couldn't leave the house this morning and I'm now feeling worse then ever. I have  the most amazing husband who is so lovely and sweet but just doesn't understand how it feels to worry over every single tiny thing and feel like people are laughing at you or hating you all the time even though you know it's probably not true. </p>\n<p>Every time I leave the house I feel like something bad happens or I build it up so much in my head that it feels awful and I always find something negative to take away from it no matter what it seems really difficult to have a positive or happy experience without something bad happening afterwards even thinking back to our beautiful wedding all the negative points are foremost i my mind before the happy ones. We live with my inlaws and I'm certain they think I'm rude and lazy as I can't leave the house and try to avoid socialising with them I don't mean anything personal against them it's just that socialising is difficult and essentially a chore for me. I feel like I say stupid things and always feel awkward and misunderstood. My friends at uni have started talking about me and getting annoyed that I miss so many classes when they always go I still work really hard and I'm happy with my marks but I constantly feel judged by them which ironically makes it harder to go and confront them so I miss even more classes.</p>\n<p>will go to the ends of the earth to avoid confrontation which is very difficult as I work on checkouts in a supermarket and deal with some pretty horrible people sometimes on a daily basis  and just have to take it. Simple daily tasks that are so easy and normal for people become massive mountains for me and I can get so worked up over it then I feel really lazy and awful and I've been gaining a lot of weight which in turn makes me more uncomfortable to go out as I feel like nothing looks nice and have never really had good self esteem. </p>\n<p>I really wish I could have made my appointment today, I feel like I'm missing out on my entire life and friends and ruining my husbands life too. I get way too much sleep and still feel tired constantly.</p>\n<p>my sisters and family get annoyed and angry with me as I go for months without talking to them it's not intentional i just don't realise. I know what I should do I just put up all these blockages I make myself and feel so stuck and as though people don't really understand or just think I'm shy or a bit weird.</p>\n<p>i just needed to let some of this out as I'm having a particularly bad day today.</p></div>", "date": "13-08-2013", "url": "https://forums.beyondblue.org.au/t5/anxiety/not-sure-what-to-do/td-p/88804" }, { "author": "user-id/21739", "content": "<p>Dear Wasso64,</p>\n<p>Something bad might happen if you leave the house ?   Isn't something bad happening if you DON'T leave the house too ?</p>\n<p>Don't worry about the missed appointment as it's common with mental health to baulk at the last minute or cancel the day before.  You can always re-schedule.  A first appointment might contain some form filling or multiple choice you can take home and fill out.  I can't think of anything worse than finally getting to a therapist only to be asked to sit there like a stunned mullet while forms are filled in.  If you want to make the appointment and also make it work try and get as much talking time as possible.</p>\n<p>Check out work is a bit soul destroying but then you only get a difficult customer for 5 mins.   I once worked with autistic adults and it was potentially like being with a difficult customer for 6 hours.  Plenty of drama.   So what if you're putting on weight ?  Working 10 cm away from a huge confectionary display probably doesn't help.</p>\n<p>I'm not sure I could ever had lived with my in laws so congratulations for managing this.   You must have great diplomacy skills and be courteous.  Sometimes when we say the wrong awkward thing it's instantly forgotten.    I made a joke yesterday about the Middle C on the piano and how musicians I deal with are jazz cats.   In the end, I reckoned that a cat sitting on the tonic (middle C) could be called a cat-a'-tonic (cat at tonic).  It was about then that my wife, severely knackered from a return flight from San Francisco, picked up a large jug of water and threatened to baptise me with it.  Do you think anyone's gonna remember that nonsense in a week's time ?  Probably not.</p>\n<p>I always reckon you should try a dummy run.   Get ready, get in the car, drive to the counsellor's office and then look for a nice cafe to have a tea/coffee after you eventually get to that first session.    If you can do the dummy run you should have a fair crack at the real thing.  That old addage:  to try is to succeed.</p>\n<p>Adios, David.</p>\n<p>PS  Do in laws ever stop fussing ?  Keep that jug of water handy.</p></div>", "date": "13-08-2013", "url": "https://forums.beyondblue.org.au/t5/anxiety/not-sure-what-to-do/td-p/88804" }, { "author": "user-id/14550", "content": "<p>Hi - you're definitely not alone in this <span class=\"sfforumUser\">Wasso64, and you are NOT weird. Anxiety is very, very scary, and it's not helped by the fact that many people just don't understand how intense your fears can be, and how ill you can sometimes feel.</span></p>\n<p><span class=\"sfforumUser\">Could you download some information about it that others in your family might read, because once they understand a little, they are more likely to be more helpful. Perhaps someone would go with you to your appointment - just to support you on the way there and back? </span></p>\n<p><span class=\"sfforumUser\">You will come through this. It can take time though, and help and support will speed up the healing process.</span></p>\n<p><span class=\"sfforumUser\"></span></p>\n<p> </p></div>", "date": "14-08-2013", "url": "https://forums.beyondblue.org.au/t5/anxiety/not-sure-what-to-do/td-p/88804" } ]

[ { "author": "user-id/27580", "content": "<p>My anxiety started when the never ending pressure of my job got too much. The feeling of being tense, of feeling sick, shortness of breath is awful. From that job I have felt I'm not good enough and everything I do is wrong and that I feel that I would let people down. </p>\n<p>When I have an attack sometimes I feel spacey, like light headed and I lose concentration. My face feels red hot.</p>\n<p>Now though I have more good days than bad. If a problem pops up I tend to talk it out with the person involved or just some one in general. A weight seems to lift off my shoulders even if it is for a while.</p>\n<p>I take everything day by day, but it seems to be there hiding in the back. One day I will shake it off.</p>\n<p> </p>\n<p>Thanks</p>\n<p>Bear</p></div>", "date": "12-08-2013", "url": "https://forums.beyondblue.org.au/t5/anxiety/will-i-ever-feel-ok/td-p/88495" }, { "author": "user-id/21739", "content": "<p>Dear Bear,</p>\n<p>Great outlook.  I guess when pressure builds slowly your coping mechanisms balance it all out.  But go too far and something snaps.  It's interesting that you can <strong>\"talk it out\"</strong> with the problem person as I think most of us would hide or avoid that person and create a sort of emotional war zone.</p>\n<p>Probably need more talking in life.</p>\n<p>Adios, David.</p></div>", "date": "13-08-2013", "url": "https://forums.beyondblue.org.au/t5/anxiety/will-i-ever-feel-ok/td-p/88495" }, { "author": "user-id/27580", "content": "<p>Thanks David,</p>\n<p>It has taken a long time for me to actually address any issues with anyone. I am close to my family and I found it hard to even talk to them. There are 2 quotes that I have learned to go by - The only person who can make you truly happy, is yourself - and - always face your fears.</p>\n<p>The second one was and is so very difficult. I still don't like to go out to parties and interact socially much, but I can address work issues and family issues.</p>\n<p>Cheers, Bear</p></div>", "date": "13-08-2013", "url": "https://forums.beyondblue.org.au/t5/anxiety/will-i-ever-feel-ok/td-p/88495" }, { "author": "user-id/21739", "content": "<p>Dear Bear,</p>\n<p>Good quotes.  Sometimes before social occasions I have a nap and then feel I am refreshed enough to get through it.</p>\n<p>In a light hearted vein I think I blame GST.     Before we just had problems but now we have problems plus 10% GST.  It's like the government are trying to kill us.</p>\n<p>Adios, David.</p></div>", "date": "13-08-2013", "url": "https://forums.beyondblue.org.au/t5/anxiety/will-i-ever-feel-ok/td-p/88495" } ]

[ { "author": "user-id/34860", "content": "<p>Hi all,</p>\n<p>i have just joined this group in the hope that I can stop feeling alone. I am 36 and have dealt with mental issues since 17. I have been diagnosed as having depression, OCD and Generalized Anxiety. Just this year I have started having panic attacks. I have a major major fear of vomiting and diarrhea. Lately even just hearing the word sets me into panic mode. I have also just recently convinced myself that my anxiety symptoms may be something worse like colon cancer or gall bladder problems. </p>\n<p>This weekend I'm dealing with \" that time of the month\" and have not eaten great. At 2pm today on the way home from a BBQ I had stomach pain and tried to go to the toilet which I seemed to be a bit constipated. I thought I would do the right thing and take the dog for a walk for 30mins. When I returned I had bad stomach cramps that were relieved when I went to the toilet. I still felt a bit worried there might be something wrong with me and an hour later I had a bit of diarrhea. That sent me into a full panic attack. I was in tears, hyperventilating, my legs felt numb and I felt sick. I was so worried I might have a stomach bug. That was 2 hours ago. I feel completely drained and tired and very stupid. Although I am not fully panicked at the moment the \"what if\" thoughts are still lingering. </p>\n<p>I am going through counselling every fortnight and thought I was doing ok but I guess not. Is it unusual to have a fear of something so simple? Cancer I can understand but a stomach bug? Everyone gets them at some time so I can't escape it. I just feel like I'm in a deep hole and can't get out. </p></div>", "date": "11-08-2013", "url": "https://forums.beyondblue.org.au/t5/anxiety/i-m-new-here-and-feeling-desperate/td-p/88377" }, { "author": "user-id/8236", "content": "<p>dear Hardy, welcome to this site, and I can understand all you are going through as I have had OCD for 54 years as well had depression for over 20 years, maybe much longer.</p>\n<p>OCD is generated by anxiety, and by having this anxiety creates OCD, but not everyone who has anxiety develops OCD, but as you can see one affects the other.</p>\n<p>It's an illness that allows us to worry about the small things in life, just as you have, the fear of having some sort of illness or disease, so we do some habit and/or ritual believing that this will stop but more so satisfy our fear.</p>\n<p>It's very difficult for us to justify our behaviour to someone who doesn't have this illness, but it's OK on this site, because we all suffer from some sort of depression so there is no criticism at all, and only people suggest ways to help any of us.</p>\n<p>However in the real world people think that we are crazy, we can't stop them from believing this, and that's why I hide my OCD so that nobody knows I have it, because we can't justify to them why we have to check the lock 4, 5, or 9 times.</p>\n<p>It seems to be abnormal to them, but to us it's natural to do this, so that we can get on with life.</p>\n<p>Your fear of getting a stomach bug is of no concern for me, because it's part of our illness, and I presume that there are other worries that concern you.</p>\n<p>There are a lot of people who have OCD on this site, and then some who maybe are too frightened to mention it, which they shouldn't be, because it's a huge problem, and all of us have our own different ways of how to cope with it.</p>\n<p>I hope that you can reply back to us. L Geoff. x</p></div>", "date": "12-08-2013", "url": "https://forums.beyondblue.org.au/t5/anxiety/i-m-new-here-and-feeling-desperate/td-p/88377" } ]

[ { "author": "user-id/26074", "content": "<p>I think I may be suffering with anxiety attacks, but I'm not sure. I can feel fine for weeks at a time but then one little thing could make me sad, like buying the wrong shade of foundation, and I could get into a flurry. I get hot and stuffy, like I can't breathe, I feel claustrophobic, get headaches, I cry, and I hyperventilate. But then, after about 10 minutes I am okay and I might not feel bad again for a few weeks. Should I be getting checked out? </p>\n<p>I am a 16 year old girl. </p></div>", "date": "09-08-2013", "url": "https://forums.beyondblue.org.au/t5/anxiety/confused/td-p/87326" }, { "author": "user-id/2248", "content": "<p>Hi Emma,</p>\n<p>My advice would be to talk to your GP about it. You may be suffering with anxiety attacks or you may have a physcial health problem but either way, it can't hurt to talk to your GP and tell them what is happening. Good luck! <span class=\"lia-unicode-emoji\" title=\":slightly_smiling_face:\">🙂</span></p></div>", "date": "09-08-2013", "url": "https://forums.beyondblue.org.au/t5/anxiety/confused/td-p/87326" } ]

[ { "author": "user-id/15598", "content": "My name's Alicia, I don't know where I should write this but this is the most relative. \n<p>Its more anxiety than depression.</p>\n<p>I moved to England, all my problems really started when I moved here.</p>\n<p>I missed most of my first year of high school in year 10. I hated everything and cried everyday. </p>\n<p>I don't know why im starting this far back. I haven't always felt that bad but I've never not felt bad.</p>\n<p>Lately its been worse. </p>\n<p>All I seem to do is worry about every tiny little thing. I panic and keep it inside till I explode, which no one sees.</p>\n<p>Work is hell. I didnt even get the job because I was good. </p>\n<p>The biggest joke is im selling lounges and I hate nothing more than talking to people. Its awful, trying to start small talk, fixing deliveries and worst is problems and angry customers. I think of things to say and come out something completely different.</p>\n<p>Yesterday my boss put me on the spot and made me tell a customer that shes wasn't getting her ottoman, she was cool with it, getting delivery another day. Then she phoned back a bit angry saying she wanted to cancel all together. I took message with her details and my boss is, all well you know what to do fix it. </p>\n<p>Now I have to be at work in the morning for 7.30 to give another ottoman to the delivery guy.</p>\n<p>I don't know why I feel so guilty.</p>\n<p>Plus earlier I was made to climb a ladder not too much of a big deal other than I hate ladders, ever since I was little.</p>\n<p>It was awful. I just want to tell them to stick their job. But I can't afford not too. </p>\n<p>I knew my boss before working with him too, he's a cool guy and I want to be nice to everyone so I just push my problems away. At least try to look like im doing things right.</p>\n<p>I really just feel so locked in and dont see the end of the day.  Everyone says I dony know why you freak out.. well, I don't either. I just do.</p>\n<p>Im seeing a psychiatrist and she's amazing to talk too. Then as soon as I leave the room im back to reality where no one must know my problems. </p>\n<p>I really cant talk about anything without bursting into tears.</p>\n<p>My mum left to start a cafe with the rest of the family I feel so out of that loop. <span class=\"lia-unicode-emoji\" title=\":disappointed_face:\">😞</span></p>\n<p>Plus problems with my parents and my dad. I cant even write anymore. </p>\n<p>I don't know what to expect from this.  I guess its just some way to get it off my chest.</p></div>", "date": "06-08-2013", "url": "https://forums.beyondblue.org.au/t5/anxiety/i-don-t-know-what-to-do-anymore/td-p/86924" }, { "author": "user-id/21739", "content": "<p>Dear Alicia,</p>\n<p>I'm not sure it's a bad thing to be anxious in a sales position (lounges) as it might give you the motivation to meet quotas and get out and sell, sell, sell.    It wouldn't have been the first time an annoyed customer cancelled due to delivery restrictions.  You probably have to anticipate a bit more before everything gets too much.  I'm sure the ladder phobia is something you could gently talk about.</p>\n<p>All the while I was reading I was thinking - but what if Alicia was an entertainer.  I'm a musician and there were definately times when performing wasn't so hot due to the location, crowd and who else I would be working with.  But the show must go on.   I guess if you had a little bit of this attitude you might survive a bit better.</p>\n<p>Sometimes when you need something (i.e. your job) it ends up controlling you and not the other way around.  Guilt is too powerful to sit on.  Is there something else you can do to increase your self confidence ?  You need some respite.</p>\n<p>I remember a Christmas type episode of \"Absolutely Fabulous\" - with Joana Plumley, etc.   To avoid family relatives they decide to spend one afternoon drinking champagne,etc, whilst lounging in the front shop window of some lavish store.  The thing was - no one really noticed.   This is the same with your anxiety - even if you splashed it about a bit more and told people your problems most of them wouldn't even take it in.  Infact, some might get downright unsupportive.</p>\n<p>Keep it for special friends and pets.  You can tell a turtle anything.</p>\n<p>Adios, David.</p>\n<p> </p>\n<p> </p></div>", "date": "07-08-2013", "url": "https://forums.beyondblue.org.au/t5/anxiety/i-don-t-know-what-to-do-anymore/td-p/86924" }, { "author": "user-id/18916", "content": "I don't know if this will work for you or even if you will want to do it. but here goes. Try thinking of a time when you have had some anxiety, a little not heaps. play it through your mind and then ask \" anxiety why are you here?\" consider the answer that you are given in context of the siuation. then ask what does anxiety bring to that situation and right down the answers, consider the answers and see if you can live without anxiety in that situation by playing it through your mind without the anxiety, as if you were happy to be doing it. See how it goes <span class=\"lia-unicode-emoji\" title=\":slightly_smiling_face:\">🙂</span>   </div>", "date": "08-08-2013", "url": "https://forums.beyondblue.org.au/t5/anxiety/i-don-t-know-what-to-do-anymore/td-p/86924" } ]

[ { "author": "user-id/40708", "content": "<p>Hello, </p>\n<p>Not sure how to go about this. Anyways my story is that I have anxieties about diseases especially HIV. I completely practice safe sex all the time. I'm just worried and terrified about it for some reason. </p>\n<p>To be honest i don't know if it's more about anxiety or OCD. I seem to be obsessed all the time, I research the net all the time, i go on medhelp.com and read all the posts on there. I have been worried for a couple of years now.  I don't like to look at my body just in case I find something on there. I have seen professional help and that helped for a while but now not doing so well i suppose. </p>\n<p>With all my worries i still have sex. (not a great way to fix the problem) I had a one night stand a couple of weeks ago and now i'm going crazy. I don't know if its anxiety but I keep getting symptoms and people keep tell me to move your safe, nothing to worry about. I'm just wondering any similar people out there, going through the same as I am. What have done to overcome this? </p></div>", "date": "05-08-2013", "url": "https://forums.beyondblue.org.au/t5/anxiety/hello-i-m-new-to-beyond-blue-anxiety-and-ocd-about-diseases/td-p/86664" }, { "author": "user-id/21739", "content": "<p>Dear hyrola,</p>\n<p>Sometimes we do the opposite of what we mean to.  Your obsession with sex and condoms and AIDS,etc,  against your passion for a one night stand.  It's a classic.</p>\n<p>I had herpes once and was very embarassed at the Doctor's.  When I did a urine test the nurse claimed I was doing it at the wrong time.  Talk about stress !  Another time I got checked for Non Specific Urethritis and was fine with all the poking, pinching and even the syringe that collected a sample from my penis (Yikes !).  But then when I left the surgery I came face to face with my crusty old next door neighbour - she was the main doctor !   Oooops !</p>\n<p>Maybe you have to be checked by a professional and have a \"what could be worse than this ?\" attitude.   You know - having your mum walk in by mistake because she was visiting someone in the main wards and got lost trying to find the cafe.    \"Oh, hyrola, fancy seeing you here - do you need a lift home ?  Ah.   What, if I may ask, are you doing in the Sexual Health Clinic ?\".  Embarrasing.  But at least you would know if you were healthy.</p>\n<p>Adios, David.</p></div>", "date": "06-08-2013", "url": "https://forums.beyondblue.org.au/t5/anxiety/hello-i-m-new-to-beyond-blue-anxiety-and-ocd-about-diseases/td-p/86664" }, { "author": "user-id/8236", "content": "<p>dear Hyrola, having this type of feeling is a dominating and controlling pressure on you, can I ask you a couple of questions.</p>\n<p>Does this control you about showering, having mirrors covered up, or no mirrors, and when you have sex ( sorry ) do you do it with your clothes on, that is having a jumper on or a t-shirt.</p>\n<p>The other question is how do you satisfy this fear of having an illness, I realise that this would only be temporary, but I'm curious. Geoff.</p></div>", "date": "07-08-2013", "url": "https://forums.beyondblue.org.au/t5/anxiety/hello-i-m-new-to-beyond-blue-anxiety-and-ocd-about-diseases/td-p/86664" }, { "author": "user-id/40708", "content": "Thank you for your reply.\n<p>I have tried different strategies to help me stay calm. Like breathing techniques,  consistently reminding myself of the facts and keep repeating to myself that I used condom. I have tried that attitude one you suggested but it caused me to feel uncertain. </p></div>", "date": "08-08-2013", "url": "https://forums.beyondblue.org.au/t5/anxiety/hello-i-m-new-to-beyond-blue-anxiety-and-ocd-about-diseases/td-p/86664" }, { "author": "user-id/40708", "content": "Thank you for your reply.\n<p>Oh yes, showers are the worst because I completely don't look, I keep my head up when I'm showering, same with changing clothes I do it super quick. I always think I'm going to find a rash or markings relating to the disease mentioned above. I don't cover mirrors but I do avoid them when I have my shirt off. Sex with clothes I have never done but when taking place I take the lights off. It's not an image problem at all just don't want to know if anything is there. </p>\n<p>Your 2nd question? Well to be honest there is no satisfaction, you just start thinking the worst possible outcome. It's become residual fear and the fear gets worse each time I have a sexual encounter.</p></div>", "date": "08-08-2013", "url": "https://forums.beyondblue.org.au/t5/anxiety/hello-i-m-new-to-beyond-blue-anxiety-and-ocd-about-diseases/td-p/86664" } ]

[ { "author": "user-id/11837", "content": "<p>Sorry, this is very long</p>\n<p>I've signed up to beyond blue just recently, in the hope that someone can shed a little light or just say something helpful. I've noticed this year that I've become really withdrawn, especially from family. I've come to dislike most of my family, and I can't stand being around them. Every little thing they do makes me jumpy. The thought of going to visit family makes me feel really antsy and panicky. Whenever I'm there I feel closed in and suffocated, and I become agitated, rude and sarcastic - I basically lash out before and after family visits. I don't really know why this is, but it may have something to do with my previous boyfriend- I used to spend 2-3 days a week at his house with his family, and I loved them all to bits. Then we split and his family moved, and I was obviously very torn. I think I may feel hostile towards my family because I want to be with my ex-boyfriends family, maybe? That's my only theory so far. My parents never really knew how involved I was with my boyfriend, and assumed I'd get over the breakup easily enough, they were wrong. I lost the only person that I trusted and could talk to, and have been lonely ever since.</p>\n<p>I've always loved helping other people, be it talking to them, stepping into a situation for them, or talking to someone in authority for them. But when it comes to my own problems, I have difficulty. For example, I want to be a psychologist or a counsellor in the future. But how could I be any good at that if I can't solve my own problems, and if I myself want to see a counsellor? My dad doesn't think I have anxiety, despite my telling him how I feel. He believes that society is making a big deal about teen anxiety and depression, and that we're wrongly diagnosing ourselves with it. But how does he know? He won't even listen to me..I can't help but think that if he spent more time talking to me instead of assuming I was fine.. I wouldn't feel like this. I am the eldest of three children and have always been 'the capable one'. My parents have not once sat down with me to ask how I'm doing, not unless I yell at them and burst into frustrated tears. They've always thought I could handle everything on my own, my other siblings needing guidance and support, not me. </p>\n<p>Sometimes I think my parents just don't want to accept that their daughter isn't as together as she appears. How bad would it look if their daughter had a breakdown and/or had to go to counselling? I've also got a reputation at school for having straight A's, being a clever, good girl. I'm tired of having all these expectations on me. I am so anxious about my schoolwork, and it doesn't help that all my teachers assume i can do it all on my own. I have a hard time asking for help, because it makes me feel stupid.</p>\n<p>I also get really anxious in social settings. I recently had a birthday and had some girlfriends over, I was so anxious I was feeling sick. I couldn't wait for them to leave, I wanted to tell them to go home as soon as they arrived. I never had problems with friends and socializing until after my boyfriend broke up with me. Still figuring that one out.. I think I lost friendships and connections while I dated, and maybe I'm having a hard time reconnecting. But.. It's been over a year? I don't get it. I sometimes feel so disconnected from everyone. I could be standing with a group while they're chatting, but feel completely invisible. </p>\n<p>Once my boyfriend broke up with me I got by one day at a time. Initially he shunned me completely, and my body reacted really badly. After being with him constantly and then just.. Not.. I would break down. I dated two guys that were abusive, (I didn't know that about them initially) and stayed with them longer than I should have, just to feel something. Some of those memories are pretty painful to think about, and I often have to see both of them, which doesn't help. I miss my ex a lot, often looking him up on Facebook, which I probably shouldn't. At times it comforts me, at others it hurts. More than once I have looked at flight prices, dreaming about flying to where he lives. </p>\n<p>I got my Ls when I turned 17, unlike everyone else who gets it at 16. I'm very annoyed about that- which is stupid, because I'm scared of driving. I could have had my Ps by now, if I got them when I turned 16. I want to blame my parents for that. They don't pay attention to stuff like that. They never once showed interest in me getting my license, no encouragement or anything. I was so angry. My friends parents went through the entire booklet with her prior to her 16th. Why didn't my parents? Why don't they ever involve themselves in my life? Ever since I could remember my mother has driven only when necessary. To and from work, to and from the shops. My dad is the one who drives everywhere. How come I'm so anxious about driving? It ticks me off. Why can't I just do it, why can't I just be okay with driving. Again, I want to blame my mum, she doesn't like driving, either did her mum. I feel like I've inherited the fear of driving or something, which I know is stupid. It's stupid in general. I want to blame my parents for it all, but I guess it's my own lack of confidence and initiative. But is it so wrong to want them to push me? Push me towards something, push me into helping myself?</p>\n<p>I guess I'm writing here because I want help, and this was the only place I was brave enough to start.</p></div>", "date": "05-08-2013", "url": "https://forums.beyondblue.org.au/t5/anxiety/just-want-to-be-happy-i-m-new-here/td-p/86763" }, { "author": "user-id/21739", "content": "<p>Dear Laurakay,</p>\n<p>You're anxiety is anxiety.</p>\n<p>Whether it be fretting over driving (wanting to control how and when your parents mentor you), your ex boyfriend (moving away / breaking up), education (being expected to do well), social settings (wishing your party friends would vacate the party they'd just come to) and so on.</p>\n<p>I didn't understand your take on your ex that <strong>\"Initially he shunned me completely and my body reacted very badly\".   </strong>Didn't your mind react worse ?  You're dreaming of flying to him although you've stated about 5 times he's your ex ?  Wouldn't meeting up with all your anxiety make things worse ? </p>\n<p>Your anxiety feeds itself so maybe being in permanent denial over your ex or getting very anxious about your memories with him is a great way of avoiding the reality.  And staying anxious.  It's impossible to live like this long term.</p>\n<p>Making things go quicker is only possible if you are a complete control freak. Being able to deal with your difficulties now (or at least trying to) will mean you'll be a great psychologist or counsellor.   I think you've just given yourself a pre-university training course.   With such skills you really can't fail.  You just gotta learn how to deal with own anxiety first.</p>\n<p>Adios, David.</p></div>", "date": "06-08-2013", "url": "https://forums.beyondblue.org.au/t5/anxiety/just-want-to-be-happy-i-m-new-here/td-p/86763" }, { "author": "user-id/40842", "content": "<p style=\"margin-top: 0cm; margin-right: 0cm; margin-bottom: 12pt; margin-left: 0cm; line-height: 12.25pt;\"><span style=\"font-size: 10pt;\"> Hi Laurakay, <p></p></span></p>\n<p style=\"margin-top: 0cm; margin-right: 0cm; margin-bottom: 12pt; margin-left: 0cm; line-height: 12.25pt;\"><span style=\"font-size: 10pt;\">First, don't\ngive up on your dream of being a counsellor.  Counsellors and\npsychologists aren't perfect! In fact having experience with anxiety and/or\ndepression can give you an insight that will help you engage with clients. My\nfavourite psychologist also suffered with anxiety, which meant that she was\nable to empathise and understand what I was going through.  <p></p></span></p>\n<p class=\"MsoNormal\"><span style=\"line-height: 115%; font-family: 'Times New Roman', serif; font-size: 10pt;\">My stepfather was the same when I started developing\nanxiety symptoms at 15.  He thought I was\ndoing it to get attention.  Luckily my\nmum was supportive.  If you don’t feel\nlike you can talk to your parents about it, try speaking to your school\ncounsellor or finding a counsellor on Beyond Blue to talk to.  They will be supportive and talking to\nsomeone about your problems is not ‘weak’. \nIt is more important to deal with these problems then it is to be ‘the\nperfect daughter’.  <p></p></span></p>\n<p class=\"MsoNormal\"><span style=\"line-height: 115%; font-family: 'Times New Roman', serif; font-size: 10pt;\">If your parents support your other siblings, they will\nprobably support you too.  Try sitting\ndown and talk to them when you’re not upset. \nExplain to them that you feel like they aren’t listening to you and that\nyou really need help.  They love you and\nthey will support you.  They might not know\nwhat to do straight away, but maybe you could tell them you want to talk to a\nprofessional about it.  <p></p></span></p>\n<p class=\"MsoNormal\"><span style=\"line-height: 115%; font-family: 'Times New Roman', serif; font-size: 10pt;\">Also, I didn’t get my driver’s licence until I was\n19!! I was petrified of driving and for my first lesson I just sat in the\ndriver’s seat and cried.  After the first\nfew times it got easier.  <p></p></span></p>\n<p style=\"margin-top: 0cm; margin-right: 0cm; margin-bottom: 12pt; margin-left: 0cm;\">\n</p>\n<p class=\"MsoNormal\"><span style=\"line-height: 115%; font-family: 'Times New Roman', serif; font-size: 10pt;\">Good Luck. \nKeep finding information on Beyond Blue. \nIt’s a great place to start.  <p></p></span></p></div>", "date": "07-08-2013", "url": "https://forums.beyondblue.org.au/t5/anxiety/just-want-to-be-happy-i-m-new-here/td-p/86763" } ]

[ { "author": "user-id/11041", "content": "<p>Hi,</p>\n<p>I used to be confident and very bold, a very good people person, all my life until about 4 years ago. After 6 months of drug abuse, I developed anxiety. I had never felt it before and wasn't sure what it was until I saught help. (stopped the drugs also)</p>\n<p>Shortly after that, it turned into social anxiety, which is even worse to me.</p>\n<p>I look around and cant find anyone that has my problem, it has effected my life in so many ways!</p>\n<p>I hate confrontation, I hate eating in front of people, my hands shake, I hate sitting with one person in the quiet, I hate social gatherings, I can barely hold a conversation with anyone, I can barely breath, I get extremely nervous when it comes to the opposite sex, I have performance anxiety and when people watch me do anything with my hands I get nervous and shaky and also when I pay with my card I get shaky and when I drink I struggle to put a cup to my mouth if im around someone, I even hate writing in front of people!</p>\n<p>In every circumstance I have the fear of embarrassment, like if a seat makes a funny noise I nearly have a panic attack and if I do anything embarrassing I have to really talk myself out of a panic attack! I even get anxious when other people do embarrassing things! </p>\n<p>It's completely horrible! How can I survive!</p>\n<p>I cant handle it anymore and I have no self esteem and or confidence which shows, and I don't know what to do!</p>\n<p>I have tried everything, counselling, psychiatrists, anti-anxiety medications, anxiety group therapy, it feels like I have exhausted all my options! </p>\n<p>is there anyone out there suffering the same thing? is there anyone that has ever recovered?</p>\n<p> </p>\n<p> </p>\n<p> </p></div>", "date": "19-07-2013", "url": "https://forums.beyondblue.org.au/t5/anxiety/does-anyone-else-suffer-from-social-anxiety-or-am-i-alone-in/td-p/74729" }, { "author": "user-id/22980", "content": "<p>Hi Social phobe</p>\n<p>Please know, you are certainly not alone. I myself have suffered Social Phobia as part of a number of Anxiety disorders throughout my life (and recovered!). I have had it at it's worst and struggled as much as you are. I knew I had to get out of the house, otherwise it would eventually ruin my life. I had quit a job working behind a bar as I kept spilling the drinks with my shaky hands because people were watching me, and then quit a second job I loved as I panicked dealing with people etc. I used to sit only near an exit so I had the security of making a run for it if I needed to. I couldn't even go grocery shopping alone for a number of years. The list goes on and on as you would know of the weird and wacky things we do out of fear. So, I slowly took baby steps... I sat a little further away from the exits,my partner would leave me on my own for 5 mins in the grocery store before coming in etc but I still continued on.</p>\n<p> Slowly as I continued to do these things, I was able to do a little more each time. </p>\n<p>Challenge yourself..but slowly and at a pace you are comfortable with. But whatever you do, keep going, bit by bit. Tell your friends about it, so you feel that safety when you are out with them (if you are comfortable to), keep signing your name, even if it ends up looking like scribble, spill your drink down your chin, but don't stop moving out of fear. Eventually you will beat it. You are in control of your life, not your Anxiety.</p>\n<p>They are only thoughts..and thoughts cannot hurt you.</p>\n<p><br>\n</p>\n<p><br>\n</p></div>", "date": "19-07-2013", "url": "https://forums.beyondblue.org.au/t5/anxiety/does-anyone-else-suffer-from-social-anxiety-or-am-i-alone-in/td-p/74729" }, { "author": "user-id/26116", "content": "<p>Hi Social phobe,</p>\n<p> I can relate! I get anxious in social situations and experience anxiety in other aspects of my life. Over time I have developed bad control and avoidance strategies to cope. When I was younger I tended to rely on alcohol to take the edge away. I also avoid social interaction to some extent, or pretend I'm very busy doing something else as I'm interacting with others. </p>\n<p>I find my anxiety usually gets worse when I am stressed about something in my life, have been sick, or haven't had enough sleep. I have experienced similar physical symptoms that you describe. At times in social situations I have felt unable to take a drink of water from a glass or bring a fork to my mouth without shaking or twitching. My mind is filled with thoughts like: \"I'll say something stupid\"; \"I'm boring\"; \"Careful not to shake or twitch\"; \"Is my fly undone?\"; \"What can I talk about\"; \"Quick break this silence\"; \"There looking at me\"; \"They think I'm odd\"...</p>\n<p>I find that physical exercise helps relieve my anxiety. I am also reading an interesting book at the moment on Acceptance and Commitment Therapy (ACT) [The Happiness Trap, Dr Russ Harris]. The author argues that the biology that gives rise to the thoughts like above and the subsequent anxiety is an evolutionary trait that helped ensure an individual's survival in prehistoric times. Times when being outcast from a group meant death.</p>\n<p>The author goes on to argue that such thoughts can never be controlled but instead must be defused. Perhaps you have heard of this or tried this treatment before. It is new to me and I am finding it helpful. When I get a thought like above I try and defuse the thought by observing and acknowledging it before letting it go. In my mind I'll say: \"Thanks mind. This is the I'm boring thought.\" or \"Ahh, the old they all think I'm odd thought. Thanks mind.\". Sounds a bit silly but I find it does help me break away and not become the thought or obsess over it. I don't argue with it in my mind or try and control it I just recognise the thought and thank my mind for trying to ensure my survival. There are more advanced techniques further in the book that I am yet to get to, maybe I'll come back and share them.</p>\n<p> </p></div>", "date": "19-07-2013", "url": "https://forums.beyondblue.org.au/t5/anxiety/does-anyone-else-suffer-from-social-anxiety-or-am-i-alone-in/td-p/74729" }, { "author": "user-id/11041", "content": "<p>Thanks guys, and I do notice that exercise and sleep do help, but no way near enough! </p>\n<p>TJ80, thanks, I do go shopping alone and things like that but its like I'm always afraid even when I take bigger steps... It's such a struggle!</p>\n<p>I feel so on edge, I hate it!</p>\n<p>How long did it take you to get over it? Also, people that are very loud and confident scare me and make me draw back and I do get those horrible thoughts about myself being not good enough and the fear of embarrassment etc..</p>\n<p>And, Hooper, thanks I have done all of those techniques through therapy, they also lessen the anxiety but to a small extent <span class=\"lia-unicode-emoji\" title=\":disappointed_face:\">😞</span> I would love to hear the more advanced techniques.. </p>\n<p>I do know that social anxiety/anxiety is all in your mind and all about your thoughts and changing those thought patterns, I just wish it wasn't such a big process!</p>\n<p>I have recently discovered a website called 'moodjuice' that has helped me more than anything I've ever tried.</p>\n<p>Thanks guys for your input and its good to know that there are people that have overcome this horrible way of life!</p>\n<p> </p>\n<p> </p>\n<p> </p></div>", "date": "23-07-2013", "url": "https://forums.beyondblue.org.au/t5/anxiety/does-anyone-else-suffer-from-social-anxiety-or-am-i-alone-in/td-p/74729" }, { "author": "user-id/22980", "content": "<p>I still struggle with it, although not at all to the extent it was- took about 2 years for me. There is always that fear in the back of my mind and when I feel the fear coming on, I just keep focussing on whatever I'm doing. Taking note of the things I can see around me etc. I don't run no matter how much I am desperate to. That fear builds but I just stand up to it and eventually it subsides, or you're out in the car on the way home by then anyway. It took a long time for me to get that brave but I was completly over it, as you are. Now it's not so bad. </p>\n<p>When you start getting frightened, ask yourself: In all honesty- what would happen if you did do something silly or embarrassed yourself? Gaurantee the answer is \"not much\", and that always gets me through too. Talk louder than the thoughts you're having. </p>\n<p>I have managed my anxiety through a healthy lifestyle, using food for medicine, which is the best remedy I have found throughout my life. Goodluck, I really do hope you find a solution. </p>\n<p> </p>\n<p> </p></div>", "date": "24-07-2013", "url": "https://forums.beyondblue.org.au/t5/anxiety/does-anyone-else-suffer-from-social-anxiety-or-am-i-alone-in/td-p/74729" }, { "author": "user-id/11041", "content": "Thanks, I just wish there was some kind of quick fix remedy, because there are better days but then there are horrible days, and it's just so depressing! the worst part is knowing that its mostly changing the patterns of the mind, but that is the hardest thing as the mind is so complex! And because there are sooo many techniques out there, it's almost like you try one then another comes along and you forget the last! Would be great if there was just one amazing one that would help!</div>", "date": "05-08-2013", "url": "https://forums.beyondblue.org.au/t5/anxiety/does-anyone-else-suffer-from-social-anxiety-or-am-i-alone-in/td-p/74729" }, { "author": "user-id/40842", "content": "<p>Hi, </p>\n<p>Your definitely not alone. I have been dealing with social anxiety for over 10 years.  I know what you mean when you feel like you have run out of options.  I felt the same way about a month ago.  </p>\n<p>I'm the same with wanting a quick fix.  at the beginning of this year when the medication stopped working, I just wanted to ignore the whole problem because I know there isn't a quick fix.  The only thing that works for me is working with my doctor, psychiatrist and psychologist to find a new medication and changing the way I think.  Which is so difficult!!  </p>\n<p>My psychologist is trying this new technique where if I get a negative thought I have to imagine putting the thought into a bubble and watching it float away.  Its called defusing from the thought.  </p>\n<p>I also really like using this free meditation app called 'Headspace'.  It talks you through coping with mental and physical discomfort.  </p>\n<p>But if you do find that quick fix let me know <span class=\"lia-unicode-emoji\" title=\":slightly_smiling_face:\">🙂</span> </p>\n<p><br>\n</p></div>", "date": "07-08-2013", "url": "https://forums.beyondblue.org.au/t5/anxiety/does-anyone-else-suffer-from-social-anxiety-or-am-i-alone-in/td-p/74729" } ]

[ { "author": "user-id/41579", "content": "<p><span style=\"line-height: 1.38462; font-size: 0.8125em;\">Fear of rejection. Being alone. Failure. Being forgotten. Being disliked. Anxious. This is my brain ticking over, while on the outside I am the ice queen, my cool exterior giving nothing away. </span></p>\n<p>I'm naturally a quiet person, yet growing up I always enjoyed being the centre of attention, dancing on stage, making a fool of myself to make people laugh. But over the past 6 years I've been slowly withdrawing, scared to interact in groups, that what I might say could offend someone or be misunderstood. I've withdrawn so much that I feel like I have very few friends.</p>\n<p>I came to recognise this two years ago. A year later I finally did something about it. I've been to see a psychologist who confirmed what deep down I already knew. I thought that would be enough, that I would start to get better. No change. So I started medication. It's been 8 months and I felt great, most of the time. But yet I still don't get out there, make new friends. When I think about that, I fall into a suffocating depression. It lasts for a few days, then I start to feel ok again.</p>\n<p>Writing this I know I can answer most of my own questions. I need to get out there, be motivated, try new things. One step at a time, right? But where do I start? Where do I go? How do I make small talk? How do I meet new people and make friends without forcing myself on them?</p>\n<p>Desperate to get to the next level...</p></div>", "date": "05-08-2013", "url": "https://forums.beyondblue.org.au/t5/anxiety/one-step-at-a-time/td-p/86465" }, { "author": "user-id/17964", "content": "<p>Hey Mkay,</p>\n<p>I'm in the exact same position as you,Trying to move forward (or at least somewhere) with my life, but don't know where to start.</p>\n<p>Everyone I talk to just says you gotta go out there, talk to people, make friends, (like it's so easy...) I just give them blank stares, people think I don't do/try anything, but the truth is I just get nowhere regardless of what I try.</p>\n<p>I wish I had the answers for you, but I don't, what I do know is that just being posting on BB you've already made a step, and i'm sure there are a bunch of other people in the same position as us.</p>\n<p>But if you ever want to chat just shoot me a message, I'd love having someone to talk to, I've found this helps a lot, but not everyone can just listen or understand.</p>\n<p>Best of luck</p></div>", "date": "06-08-2013", "url": "https://forums.beyondblue.org.au/t5/anxiety/one-step-at-a-time/td-p/86465" }, { "author": "user-id/21739", "content": "<p>Deae Mkay,</p>\n<p>With your personality and good charm what's the problem ?  Be yourself and everyone will approach and talk to you as you won't appear as a threat or a member of the Kardashians.</p>\n<p>Adios, David. </p></div>", "date": "06-08-2013", "url": "https://forums.beyondblue.org.au/t5/anxiety/one-step-at-a-time/td-p/86465" }, { "author": "user-id/8236", "content": " \n<p>dear Mkay, when you, me and anyone else who has depression, it's never easy to face the world again, because we are fragile, and can be nervous, that's understandable, and why shouldn't we be.</p>\n<p>These 'suffocating days of depression' will become shorter for you as time passes, as you have recognised your own diagnosis.</p>\n<p>How about sitting in a mall, people always come up to you and have a chat, and by doing this it will gain your confidence in speaking to others, and this is what you need to do before you face potential friends again. Geoff.</p></div>", "date": "07-08-2013", "url": "https://forums.beyondblue.org.au/t5/anxiety/one-step-at-a-time/td-p/86465" } ]

[ { "author": "user-id/10060", "content": "Originally posted by: <strong>Candice</strong> on <strong>31 December 2011</strong><br><br>I have had anxiety for the past year, it started of with stomach upsets, but now I just seem to get the feeling of dizzyness constantly. I havent fainted - yet, but I have come close many times. Almost for the whole day I feel lightheaded and cant think, as if I have taken a benzodiazepine but I havent. Is this common with anxiety? Or am I going crazy?</div>", "date": "31-12-2011", "url": "https://forums.beyondblue.org.au/t5/anxiety/anxiety-and-dizzyness/td-p/93129" }, { "author": "user-id/10060", "content": "Originally posted by: <strong>karen</strong> on <strong>31 December 2011</strong><br><br>Hi Candice, \nIt may be worth talking to your GP to exclude other things like low blood pressure etc. I hope you're okay. take care karen</div>", "date": "31-12-2011", "url": "https://forums.beyondblue.org.au/t5/anxiety/anxiety-and-dizzyness/td-p/93129" }, { "author": "user-id/10060", "content": "Originally posted by: <strong>stephen</strong> on <strong>1 January 2012</strong><br><br>Hi Candice,\n\nI have done a lot of reading on anxiety in the past and yes dizziness is a classic symptom of anxiety,\n\nIt has a lot to do with not breathing properly when we are stressed.\n\nTouch base with your GP buddy so they can explain what is happening to you .\n\nStephen x</div>", "date": "01-01-2012", "url": "https://forums.beyondblue.org.au/t5/anxiety/anxiety-and-dizzyness/td-p/93129" }, { "author": "user-id/10060", "content": "Originally posted by: <strong>Joey</strong> on <strong>1 January 2012</strong><br><br>Yep definitely think it could be caused be anxiety. I just experienced an episode of dizziness this afternoon. Was walking and thought I might have to lie down on footpath!! Pretty sure was anxiety related and kept walking focussing on breathing and went away after about 20 mins. \n\nI have found midfulness practice very useful for anxiety. \n\nJoey.</div>", "date": "01-01-2012", "url": "https://forums.beyondblue.org.au/t5/anxiety/anxiety-and-dizzyness/td-p/93129" }, { "author": "user-id/10060", "content": "Originally posted by: <strong>geoff</strong> on <strong>3 January 2012</strong><br><br>dear Candice, if you feel as though you are crazy then all of us are, and no we are not 'in the cuckoo's nest', a film with Jack Nicholson. Things to consider are what other medication are you on as side effects may make you feel light headed, also blood pressure needs to be checked, as well as any medication for this, and are you eating enough, not all those potato chips, yummy. Love Geoff. x</div>", "date": "03-01-2012", "url": "https://forums.beyondblue.org.au/t5/anxiety/anxiety-and-dizzyness/td-p/93129" }, { "author": "user-id/21739", "content": "<p>Dear Candice, </p>\n<p>Do we get light headed with anxiety because there are less connections in the brain firing and working to keep us normal ?   A friend of mine started getting vertigo but it was connected to having water in the ear canal (after showering).  There would be times when she's tried to lift her head out of bed and the whole room would be spinning.</p>\n<p>There must be a connection with physicality and anxiety too as putting things away in the wrong place (i.e. the milk in the microwave) seems to require a certain twist of the mind that is struggling to keep the order in our lives.</p>\n<p>Adios, David. </p>\n<p> PS   Old post - 31 Dec 2011.   Archives in operation.</p></div>", "date": "04-08-2013", "url": "https://forums.beyondblue.org.au/t5/anxiety/anxiety-and-dizzyness/td-p/93129" } ]

[ { "author": "user-id/30192", "content": "<p>Today I fell into bed, broke down into tears. I'm a 20 year old male, university student in my final year of my degree, having a growing disinterest towards the degree itself, and an unclear career path, have never been able to successfully find even a simple casual  job, because of my social inabilities. I've realized the only reason I'm still doing the degree now, is to get the degree, which is really upsetting to me, cause I've been quite ambitious in the past, but year by year have lost that ambition, losing interest, and realizing small fish in a big pond with better fish than me.  </p>\n<p>This breakdown was caused by those thoughts and my talk to the my class tutor in front of classmates today. The talk was sort of a explanation of a required major project for my final year, and it made me realize my disinterest even more, but also the fact that I get paranoid over situations and get incredibly embarrassed about them. These memories often pop up randomly and just tires me out, as I haven't been sleeping well. My talk with the tutor, like with most of my public speaking situations, caused me to mix my sentences, slur my words and have moments of random silence, trying to think of what to say next. I find this incredibly embarrassing and constantly think back towards it. I know this should probably be in the university thread or something, and that I should talk to university counselors, but I just don't feel comfortable with talking to strangers about this and that I have always had these sorts of experiences. I just get incredibly nervous around new people. I've had these sorts of breakdowns before but it was in concern family matters. My situation is far more extensive, but it was today that I realized I should speak out about it in some form or another. Till now I come to realize I may have an anxiety issue and a social interaction disorder. </p></div>", "date": "03-08-2013", "url": "https://forums.beyondblue.org.au/t5/anxiety/went-to-bed-and-cried-constantly-worried-and-embarrased/td-p/85117" }, { "author": "user-id/26116", "content": "<p>Everyone gets nervous in social situations and public speaking, many just are good at hiding this or not letting those anxieties consume them. Be careful with labeling yourself with this disorder and that disorder, I've done the same and it made me feel even more anxious. Make an appointment with a GP and/or psychologist and let them worry about the diagnosis.</p>\n<p> </p><blockquote><strong class=\"sfUserQuote\">YourNervousGeek said:</strong><p></p>\n<p> because of my social inabilities.</p>\n<p></p></blockquote><p></p>\n<p>You write well; an important way of communicating with others.</p>\n<p></p><blockquote><strong class=\"sfUserQuote\">YourNervousGeek said:</strong> <p></p>\n<p> realizing small fish in a big pond with better fish than me</p>\n<p> </p></blockquote><p></p>\n<p>They might seem like big fish but they still flounder <span class=\"lia-unicode-emoji\" title=\":grinning_face_with_smiling_eyes:\">😄</span> (I know, bad, right?)</p>\n<p></p><blockquote><strong class=\"sfUserQuote\">YourNervousGeek said:</strong> <p></p>\n<p> moments of random silence</p>\n<p> </p></blockquote><p></p>\n<p>I throw these in on purpose. Makes me seem aloof and deep. Girls love that. </p>\n<p>I have a lot of similar thoughts and reflections over the way I act in social situations and in general. It's my mind warning me of the possibility that I will not be accepted by the group so that I can take action to avoid this possibility. My mind is trying to be helpful, however, most of the time these thoughts just make me feel bad about myself to the point where I need to sleep. </p>\n<p>I have been trying a technique called defusing to lessen the impact these thoughts have on me. When I get a thought like: \"I didn't speak loudly enough\"; \"I fumbled my words\"; \"I'm socially inept\". I observe the thoughts and say in my mind: \"Ahh, this is the 'I'm socially inept thought', thanks mind\". I don't stew over the thought just acknowledge it and move on. Is it true? Is it false? A little of both? Doesn't matter, by observing the thought I don't become the thought, and I try and get on with it.</p>\n<p> Stick with your studies, perhaps you'll finish the degree and realise you don't want that as a career. That's ok. I changed degrees twice initially while studying the first time around then went back to university 10 years later and got another totally different degree and changed careers.</p></div>", "date": "04-08-2013", "url": "https://forums.beyondblue.org.au/t5/anxiety/went-to-bed-and-cried-constantly-worried-and-embarrased/td-p/85117" }, { "author": "user-id/39297", "content": "<p>Hi There,</p>\n<p>I am a mum who has seen four children through uni study. Two of those have come to a header with mental issues en route. I would encourage you to get support. My youngest, the only one still at uni,  is seeing a social worker at her uni and is being placed on an 'educational inclusion plan', so that when she is overwhelmed with assessment pressures, a plan is in place to give her special consideration time wise. Seeing the uni social worker was her first step, the social worker alerted her lecturers to the problem initially. She is also seeing a doctor and a psychologist and has been placed on medication. This is a very recent happening, and she is in her third year of a 4 year degree. Having been an OP2 student we had not expected anything like this but mental illness, like physical illness, affects anybody. With regards to my son, who  found himself depressed to the point of mentioning killing himself, a change in course and direction of career was a major step. He actually dropped out of uni and went to TAFE instead and for 2 years was mentored by 2 lecturers who were aware of his situation (in a class of 6 students), and to whom I will be forever grateful. He has had no further recurrences. BTW , this son is very much a Geek, and even borderline Aspergers with little social skills to speak of, (and I am speaking as a teacher with many years experience); in fact, his Geek skills have landed him in a very high paying position in the world of Electrical Engineering.Hoping all the best for you.</p>\n<p> </p>\n<p> </p></div>", "date": "04-08-2013", "url": "https://forums.beyondblue.org.au/t5/anxiety/went-to-bed-and-cried-constantly-worried-and-embarrased/td-p/85117" } ]

[ { "author": "user-id/30043", "content": "<p>Hi, </p>\n<p>I'm 18 years old and have been suffering from depression and anxiety for the past couple of years. Only two weeks ago I was diagnosed with mild OCD and bipolar. These are affecting my life to a huge degree and I just don't know how to cope. There have been so many times when I have just wanted to commit suicide but for some reason I never do. Last night I was talking to my boyfriend and I was happy. Not 2 minutes later I was basically crying because I thought I was a worthless piece of crap and a waste of life. These mood changes happen probably 5-10 times a day and I can't stand it anymore. Why can't the pain and the voices go away? Why me?</p></div>", "date": "02-08-2013", "url": "https://forums.beyondblue.org.au/t5/anxiety/i-don-t-know-what-to-do-anymore/td-p/84618" }, { "author": "user-id/8236", "content": "<p>dear Eleyne, I am interested as to when you say 'mild OCD' as to how it controls you, and this is important and can you please give us some examples as to whether it's bipolar which is the worse or whether it's the OCD.</p>\n<p>What is happening to you is never a pleasant way to live any sort of a life, and your only 18, I really hate young people suffer from this debilitating illness, so I would like you to please reply back to us. Geoff. x </p></div>", "date": "04-08-2013", "url": "https://forums.beyondblue.org.au/t5/anxiety/i-don-t-know-what-to-do-anymore/td-p/84618" } ]

[ { "author": "user-id/39339", "content": "Have only just registered here on Beyondblue. I have a son with high functioning Autism &amp; adhd, Life for him is tough at the best of times, As a parent you only want the best for your children. But what happens when your best is not enough? when everything you try to do fails? It is difficult to stay positive and keep up with expectations of school and friendships. I don't sleep well. I am anxious almost always. Worrying what people think of us when you are out and about and your child is acting up and everyone staring and judging you. Parents not encouraging relationships with your child, and avoiding you because you don't fit in. Obviously I need change in my life, I want things to be better, I am hoping joining this website is the start of a new beginning of getting my life back and gaining new perspective for brighter days </div>", "date": "02-08-2013", "url": "https://forums.beyondblue.org.au/t5/anxiety/not-sure-how-to-begin/td-p/84796" }, { "author": "user-id/8236", "content": "<p>dear Louie, welcome to this site, and the more you can post the better we know what you are struggling with.</p>\n<p>Your son has Autism and ADHD, what a terrible combination for him, but I'm not sure if he realises that he has these illness's.</p>\n<p>This also makes your job as his father a very extensive as well as exhausting role to fill.</p>\n<p>It is a cruel world that we live in, because other people just stare at the both of you, which would make it unfair for the both of you, and with this glazing it never offers any acceptance nor help only a form of criticism.</p>\n<p>You seem to be a very lonely chap trying to cope with the world on your shoulder, and I am so sorry for this to be as such, you want people who can understand what you are facing with in life, and that's why it's so good to join this site.</p>\n<p>Not only will there be support for you, but your experience and knowledge will definitely help others.</p>\n<p>There are many questions about yourself and your son that we would like to know about, so please reply when it suits you. Take care. Geoff.</p></div>", "date": "04-08-2013", "url": "https://forums.beyondblue.org.au/t5/anxiety/not-sure-how-to-begin/td-p/84796" } ]

[ { "author": "user-id/11039", "content": "<p>This is the second time I have tried to write this, as my husband came into the room the first time and I quickly shut down the page as I felt embarrassed to admit there's a problem. I know in myself that I experience anxiety all the time with constant fear of failure, worry of embarrassment for no good reason. But am finding it hard to admit because it again feels like I can't even get it right! Seriously! I feel as if I tell people that I have trouble controlling my own head, nobody would take anything I say or do seriously. Even now, as I write, I worry that I am not making sense and that I am putting myself out the to be judged.</p>\n<p> i feel crazy sometimes, in that I know I have an anxiety problem but don't want to address it for fear of... Outcome. </p>\n<p>I have feelings of fear and worthlessness at the idea of having anxiety, I think maybe because of societies views on mental illness, I don't want to be seen as 'mentally ill' . The idea of depression is depressing!</p>\n<p>how do other people go, first in admitting to yourself that there is a problem, but then to others? I know I should see my gp, but I don't even know what to say to him about it, then if I do go, then I have to tell my husband why, it feels easier just to keep pretending I'm not affected. Does anyone else have these crazy confused ideologies too?</p></div>", "date": "02-08-2013", "url": "https://forums.beyondblue.org.au/t5/anxiety/admitting-i-have-anxiety-is-depressing/td-p/84866" }, { "author": "user-id/12824", "content": "<p>Hi Kandipants, You have answered you own question. You can go and see your GP. If your unsure about saying the right thing just jot down the ideas from your post and take that with you. If for some reason you do not want to tell your husband before you go, just don't tell him. Find an odd freckle or something and tell him your worried about that or say you've been feeling tired and need to get your iron levels checked. It probably is not a good idea to try and diagnose yourself. Love yourself and don't be afraid to get the care you need. Best wishes, Chris.</p>\n<p><br>\n</p></div>", "date": "02-08-2013", "url": "https://forums.beyondblue.org.au/t5/anxiety/admitting-i-have-anxiety-is-depressing/td-p/84866" }, { "author": "user-id/38523", "content": "<p>Hi Kandipants.  The fact that you have written your post demonstrates you have insight into your issue.  I've gone through where you are and come out the other side.  I can't tell you what to do.  I can tell you that I tried to pretend everything was \"normal\".  Eventually everything caught up to me and I was hit by the \"perfect storm\" and suffered a severe depressive episode. In my case secrecy fueled the demons and made things worse.  </p>\n<p>If there is a piece of advice I can offer it is to learn to judge yourself by how you cope with adversity.   </p>\n<p>If you get a chance you can watch a short video on my story.  Go to www.mantherapy.org.au and click on \"Tales of Triumph\".  I am the \"David\"  </p>\n<p> </p></div>", "date": "03-08-2013", "url": "https://forums.beyondblue.org.au/t5/anxiety/admitting-i-have-anxiety-is-depressing/td-p/84866" }, { "author": "user-id/8236", "content": "<p>dear Kandipants, wouldn't it be more embarrassing by closing down the page, and your husband saying 'what have been looking at'.</p>\n<p>By feeling the way you do now is nothing to be ashamed of, it's not that we have  leprosy, we have an illness that millions and millions of people have, we can't help it, we didn't ask for it and we never wanted it, but unfortunately we do.</p>\n<p>And as Chris has said you have answered your own question.</p>\n<p>When you go and see your doctor and any excuse can be made, if need be, but your doctor will pick up straight away that you are depressed, a lot of their patients have depression, they know the signs, and they will ask you a question and when you answer them then bingo, they will know.</p>\n<p>They don't have to be highly trained heart surgeons, they can tell by looking at your face, and all you have to do is say 'yes I am having trouble coping', that's all, then he/she will take over the conversion, but be truthful with them, they are there to help you, and eventually you will be able to speak to your husband, at your time.</p>\n<p>Once we have had depression for such a long time even we can pick up if someone is depressed and by the way they talk, it's simply a well trained skill that is learnt from our own depression. Please do yourself a favour and go and see them. L Geoff. x</p></div>", "date": "04-08-2013", "url": "https://forums.beyondblue.org.au/t5/anxiety/admitting-i-have-anxiety-is-depressing/td-p/84866" } ]

[ { "author": "user-id/21737", "content": "Recently I have felt as though I am not in control of anything in my life. I have recently finished uni and I have to make some big decisions, such as finding a new job, where will I live etc and I am feeling alot of pressure from everyone.. I am not sleeping and I continually am feeling anxious and my immune system is down meaning I am also getting sick alot. On top of this I am always tired, and I am starting to become obsessive with an ex who keeps coming in and out of my life who sometimes treats me perfectly and then other times treats me horribly. I don't know what to do and I don't have a regular GP or anyone that I can really talk to about this. I also don't want to go on medication but I just want to stop feeling continually anxious all the time. </div>", "date": "02-08-2013", "url": "https://forums.beyondblue.org.au/t5/anxiety/unsure-of-what-to-do/td-p/84763" }, { "author": "user-id/38137", "content": "<p>Hi,</p>\n<p> I have been through a similar situation in life when I went through uni.  It could be helpful to find a councellor in your area if you aren't comfortable talking with your GP.  They can help work through your worries and get you some practical solutions.</p>\n<p>I know you are feeling tired at the moment but exercise also may assist you at the moment.  It can help relieve nervous tension and some anxiety symptoms it will also be something in your life which you are under control of which may lift you up a little.If you are a little under the weather then exercise can seem like the last thing you want to do.  Give it a go though sometimes I feel a bit yuck and then just get started and feel fabulous after a run or work out.  Try and enlist a firend if you have trouble getting motivated.  Some links below which you may find interesting.</p>\n<p>http://www.fitday.com/fitness-articles/fitness/exercises/4-exercises-that-will-help-you-relieve-anxiety-and-stress.html</p>\n<p> http://www.mayoclinic.com/health/exercise-and-stress/SR00036</p>\n<p> Most of all try not to worry about what everyone else thinks and pleasing other people.  This is your life, you are in charge remember that.</p>\n<p> I hope this information was helpful for you.</p>\n<p> </p>\n<p> </p></div>", "date": "02-08-2013", "url": "https://forums.beyondblue.org.au/t5/anxiety/unsure-of-what-to-do/td-p/84763" }, { "author": "user-id/21737", "content": "<p>Thankyou heaps, I will give exercise a go. I will do anything at this point to stop feeling like this!</p></div>", "date": "03-08-2013", "url": "https://forums.beyondblue.org.au/t5/anxiety/unsure-of-what-to-do/td-p/84763" } ]

[ { "author": "user-id/18727", "content": "I have trust issues and I am nervous around people due to my friends bulling me for being a little bit quirky at my old school last year and it still haunts me. I cry when I'm meant to be sleeping some I'm having trouble coping. I went to a therapist a few times but my Mum thought I was fixed so she stopped taking me. I would really like to go back or do something to help me but I'm really scared to ask my Mum. She's really nice and would never hurt me, I'm just scared. Should I ask her or should I find some other way to feel better?</div>", "date": "30-07-2013", "url": "https://forums.beyondblue.org.au/t5/anxiety/what-should-i-do/td-p/83666" }, { "author": "user-id/22980", "content": "<p>Hi Harriette</p>\n<p>Tell your Mum love. I'm sure she will understand and wants you to be happy and healthy. Your health; mental and physical is so important. Talk to your mum and your Doctor and get on the road to recovery so you can enjoy your life. </p>\n<p>Best of Luck </p></div>", "date": "31-07-2013", "url": "https://forums.beyondblue.org.au/t5/anxiety/what-should-i-do/td-p/83666" } ]

[ { "author": "user-id/26474", "content": "It is a  strange thing anxiety. It's like living in a box.\n<p><br>\n</p>\n<p>Inside the box you are trapped with your thoroughly and they make your body do strange, unerring things. It's as if your the only one there. People around you just don't see any of it. The box is dark but you can still do everything you need to. But it's just not nice and the outlook looks grim. </p>\n<p>Outside the box is a different. Non of this can be seen. You about your day and every one sees a hard working confident person. Some how the box has magic and every makes you look good.</p>\n<p>I've had anxiety in for a few years now. And this is my take on it.</p>\n<p>It really gets to me but it is hard to find help you need. Like I should have been a sleep 3hr a go. But sleeping tablets don't work.</p></div>", "date": "30-07-2013", "url": "https://forums.beyondblue.org.au/t5/anxiety/anxiety-in-a-box/td-p/83824" }, { "author": "user-id/42371", "content": "<p>You said it so perfectly.  It's like no one can see my anxiety but I physically feel it.  Body tremors over and over.... waking me up at night.</p>\n<p> </p>\n<p>I can't wait to feel better, to stop this stupid loop in my head going round n round about do I feel anxious \"no\" but when is it coming back.... oh look it's back. </p></div>", "date": "31-07-2013", "url": "https://forums.beyondblue.org.au/t5/anxiety/anxiety-in-a-box/td-p/83824" } ]

[ { "author": "user-id/7126", "content": "<p>Hi,</p>\n<p>I've recently started having panic attacks and always try to have an \"escape plan\" if I'm going somewhere new and try to divert my attention if I feel like I'm going to start having a panic attack.  My pschologist says this is the wrong thing to do.</p>\n<p>What does everyone else do when they feel an attack coming on?</p></div>", "date": "29-07-2013", "url": "https://forums.beyondblue.org.au/t5/anxiety/panic-attacks-how-to-cope/td-p/83399" }, { "author": "user-id/22980", "content": "<p>Hi Emmy</p>\n<p>I'm sorry to hear about your worries from panic attacks. </p>\n<p>I myself, had a panic disorder and I felt them building for a few days before they hit. Once I had one, I felt great afterwards (like a big release of nervous energy, gone!) So I use to tell myself that if I did have an attack, then it wouldn't be so bad because that build up would be gone. </p>\n<p>I confided in a trusted co-worker about them at work and when the time came and I knew an attack was coming, I simply asked my co-worker to come with me to a room away from anyone else and I would then have the attack. Sometimes when someone is with you, it can make them easier. </p>\n<p>But you pschycologist is right- dont run away, or avoid going places. This snowballs, and you could end up so frightened to leave your house, it could effect your life dramatically.</p>\n<p>I faced my fears and kept on going places, and pushing through the fear (always ensuring I knew where the exits were..just in case) Now I dont have any attacks at all. Even though I kept thinking I would, it turns out, 99% of the time you won't.  </p>\n<p>Keep on going, it'll get better... Best of Luck. </p></div>", "date": "30-07-2013", "url": "https://forums.beyondblue.org.au/t5/anxiety/panic-attacks-how-to-cope/td-p/83399" }, { "author": "user-id/27951", "content": "<p>Hi Emmy</p>\n<p>TJ80 is spot on ... trying to escape from a panic attack or distract yourself could potentially increase your fear of it. Panic attacks are inconvenient and make you feel uncomfortable, but they're not catastrophic or the end of the world.</p>\n<p>I suffer from moderate anxiety and the occasional panic attack myself. What works for me? Firstly, I try to observe the physical symptoms of the attack while it's happening. Being aware of how your body is reacting can potentially give you more control over it. I know from past experience that the panic attack will pass.</p>\n<p>Sometimes wake up abruptly in the middle of the night (or first thing in the morning) with a racing heart, which could potentially be a panic attack. Usually in that waking moment (for me) there's a bit of disorientation, and I can sometimes take advantage of that to disconnect the panic from any thoughts which might be making it happen. I suspect it's the subconscious at work.</p>\n<p>All the best.</p></div>", "date": "30-07-2013", "url": "https://forums.beyondblue.org.au/t5/anxiety/panic-attacks-how-to-cope/td-p/83399" } ]

[ { "author": "user-id/29937", "content": "<p>I saw my psychologist for the first time the other day and walked in feeling good and walked out feeling good. I'm looking forward to recovery. I did a quick survey and I have severe anxiety and moderate depression.</p>\n<p>I have a lot of physical symptoms. How will these physical symptoms go away? I feel like shit a lot and im over it. Does medication help reduce these symptoms? I have at least 20 different symptoms going on and maybe half are physical.</p></div>", "date": "29-07-2013", "url": "https://forums.beyondblue.org.au/t5/anxiety/severe-anxiety/td-p/83168" }, { "author": "user-id/38637", "content": "<p>Hey Lissy ....</p>\n<p>What you state about feeling like shit a lot and over it is exactly like me. I never know how I am gonna feel from one friggen hour to the next. I get a lot of vertigo or feeling like I am going to pass out just out of the blue. I could wake up feeling great..then bang feel like all I wanna do is lay on the friggen couch all day........or go for a walk feeling ok and bang feel like im gonna drop........... they say it is anxiety.......I don't get it....nothing seems to trigger it.......... The other night sitting at dinner with great friends really enjoying myself and bang happens again... Wish I could identify the trigger so I could avoid it .................dunno...seeing a psych soon ....but just started medication two weeks ago and not sure what are bloody side effects or so called anxiety.............. all the best.....</p>\n<p> </p></div>", "date": "29-07-2013", "url": "https://forums.beyondblue.org.au/t5/anxiety/severe-anxiety/td-p/83168" }, { "author": "user-id/27951", "content": "<p>Hi Lissy</p>\n<p>I've just come back from my second session with the psychologist, and I too am feeling very positive about recovery. I suffer from moderate anxiety with the occasional panic attack thrown in for good measure. It sounds like you have a great attitude to your treatment, which by itself should be very helpful in managing anxiety.</p>\n<p>In my experience, anxiety seems to create a lot of physical symptoms which often lead me to ask myself the question \"Is that just anxiety, or am I coming down with something?\" I usually put it down to anxiety, since I don't get \"sick\" that often ... all my recent sick days have been anxiety related. Some of my symptoms include a knot in the chest, cold sweats, neck ache, increased heartbeat, slight nausea and fatigue. </p>\n<p>Just on the fatigue issue (and perhaps blackecho can relate...) I find that severe anxiety can be very mentally and emotionally draining. If I don't get enough sleep, I become more vulnerable to anxiety and less able to function (or I convince myself that I can't function). The only way to get on top of that one (apart from getting more sleep if possible), is to force myself to get some exercise, even if it's just a quick walk around the block.</p>\n<p>All the best to both of you.</p></div>", "date": "30-07-2013", "url": "https://forums.beyondblue.org.au/t5/anxiety/severe-anxiety/td-p/83168" } ]

[ { "author": "user-id/39594", "content": "<span style=\"line-height: normal; font-family: 'Helvetica Neue', Arial, sans-serif; color: #333333;\">Lately, I have been getting a weird feeling in my chest area that feels like a pronounced heart beat over the past week. It has been somewhat frequent, occurring about every 5-15 minutes. My parents think it's a muscle spasm but it feels more like it's coming from my heart, like I'm having an extra heart beat or am skipping one. I also get dizzy often, nausea and tight muscles, as well as hold/cold hands and feet, and I sometimes receive tingling sensations in my hands and feet too. I am also a persistent worrier who gets frightened extremely easily. Some of my friends are saying it could be an anxiety disorder, but they don't know enough to be able to say for sure. One of my friends also believes I could have social anxiety because of how I act in social situations.</span>\n<div><span style=\"line-height: normal; font-family: 'Helvetica Neue', Arial, sans-serif; color: #333333;\"><br>\n</span>\n<p><span style=\"line-height: normal; font-family: 'Helvetica Neue', Arial, sans-serif; color: #333333;\">I've always had very poor self-esteem, found it extremely difficult and stressful to talk in front of the class and even suggest ideas to a small group of friends. I never feel comfortable in any environment. My mind can be very fuzzy and I can't concentrate as easily as I used to be able to. Sometimes I can't keep still and other times I feel like I can't do anything but sit still.</span></p>\n<p><span style=\"line-height: normal; color: #333333;\">I don't have trouble being out of the house, but I do worry about the people around me. I get very stressed if I go to the city or a crowded place because of all the people there. When I am there, I can't stop thinking about strangers coming up and talking to me and it makes me ridiculously anxious.</span></p>\n<p><span style=\"line-height: normal; color: #333333;\">I want to ask my mum about seeing someone to see if I can get any treatment for this or even if it's something, anything at all but I feel guilty about going to the doctors because I feel like I don't have big and important enough problems that deserve any help. My whole family is a very \"get over it\" kind of family and I'm afraid that if it is nothing at all that I'll just look stupid and mum won't like that I wasted her time.</span></p>\n<p><span style=\"line-height: normal; color: #333333;\">I'm a 15 year old female as well, if that means anything.</span></p>\n<p><span style=\"line-height: normal; color: #333333;\">So could I have an anxiety disorder? Does it sound like something else maybe? Anything anyone has to say would be greatly appreciated. Even the slightest idea would mean everything to me. I just want some answers.</span></p>\n</div></div>", "date": "28-07-2013", "url": "https://forums.beyondblue.org.au/t5/anxiety/could-i-have-an-anxiety-disorder-please-help/td-p/78126" }, { "author": "user-id/22980", "content": "<p>Hell</p>\n<p>Good on you for seeking some help to figure out what is going on. </p>\n<p>You might possibly have an anxiety disorder, possibly a socail thing but I would suggest going and seeing your doctor for a health check up and a mental health exam first before self-diagnosing (You and your health are important enough, so dont ever think any different or let anyone make you think its not) Once you know for sure, then you can take the next step.</p>\n<p>This forum is a great place to talk with others who can relate. There is also a quiz on this website which you can take which might assist you in seeing if you have anxiety.</p>\n<p>Dont put your health off though, mental and physical- it is so important and you are worth being able to enjoy your life as a happy, healthy person.  </p></div>", "date": "30-07-2013", "url": "https://forums.beyondblue.org.au/t5/anxiety/could-i-have-an-anxiety-disorder-please-help/td-p/78126" } ]

[ { "author": "user-id/15662", "content": "<p>In December 2012 I made a decision to go and talk to my GP about the way I had been feeling for about a year. I would get very worked up over very small things and find it difficult to calm down. Most of the time I couldn't explain to myself or anyone else what i was really upset about which put a lot of pressure on my family and my partner. </p>\n<p>My GP put me on medication that was supposed to help me feel better and referred me to a psychologist who could assess what was going on and provide me with coping strategies. The psychologist was fantastic, she made me feel like my anxiety wasn't stupid or unnecessary and she asked all the right questions to help me explain what was happening in my head.</p>\n<p>Its hard even now for me to explain exactly what it is I worry about. But basically, I do not get the opportunity to enjoy life very often, because I automatically think of everything that can go wrong in a situation rather than all the positive things about what im doing.</p>\n<p>For example, I recently spent a lot of money on a holiday to new zealand to visit a good friend of mine. I spent 12 days in Christchurch and then went on to Auckland for a weekend and then intended to spend  nights in sydney before returning home. However, after one day in Auckland I started to feel overwhelmed, homesick, panicy and stressed out. I spent a whole afternoon very upset and then spent the next day just wishing to be in Sydney. I hoped that I would feel better being back in Aus. But this didnt happen. By this stage i just wanted to come home and I got myself into such a panic that I changed my flight and flew home after one day. </p>\n<p>I was worried about walking at night, and getting lost, and running out of money, and something happening back home and so many other things.</p>\n<p>I am disgusted in my self for letting my worrying ruin my trip. I have spoken to my psychologist since and I feel somewhat better about it, but I still constantly worry about the possibilities of things going wrong.</p>\n<p>I just wanted to post this and share some of my feelings, I hope that someone can relate to how I am feeling because I feel very confused about everything, I dont trust my decisions and i dont feel like anyone in my life really understands.</p></div>", "date": "26-07-2013", "url": "https://forums.beyondblue.org.au/t5/anxiety/overwhelmed/td-p/77334" }, { "author": "user-id/8005", "content": "HI' this is my first time ever on a forum I'm nervous now because I've never talked about my inner anxiety. I can relate totally to your third paragraph . I can't do anything without seeing negative, which makes me annal about doing things in a certain way or following a set procedure. I particular hate situations from left field, which I feel that I have no control over. This can send me into a panic after which I wish to disappear or cease to exist. I first saw a psychologist about 18 months ago and it really did help for a while after our sessions finished but I'm back there as of today after I was scamed by internet hackers early this month. My trust in people has gone for the time being. I wish that I could laugh like other people at work and not feel depressed by things that I have no control  over. Yes the meds are back too. Thankyou for your time and good luck.</div>", "date": "27-07-2013", "url": "https://forums.beyondblue.org.au/t5/anxiety/overwhelmed/td-p/77334" }, { "author": "user-id/26116", "content": "<p>I have a knack for thinking of every possible horrible scenario that I could ever hope to not find myself in. I've become really good at it and sometimes can be so lost in these thoughts that they provoke a physical response (tense muscle, heart racing, sweaty).</p>\n<p>Recently I discovered that these thoughts are normal. If I went back in time and saw my caveman ancestor he would have been sweating and panicking about all sorts of dangers. It's the reason that my genes and I are here today. If my caveman ancestor hadn't been anxious about being in a strange place [ NZ <span class=\"lia-unicode-emoji\" title=\":winking_face:\">😉</span> ], running out of food, being separated from his group, or having misfortune befall that group then he may have died and failed to pass on his genes.</p>\n<p>FACT: Most of the carefree cavemen got eaten by sabre-tooth tigers in those days.</p>\n<p>Now we live in a less dangerous world and these thoughts are less helpful to my survival. I try and observe and acknowledge the negative thoughts I have and only act on them if they will have a beneficial outcome for me. It can be confusing and I understand when you say you don't trust your decisions. I try and let my rational mind make the decisions whilst the caveman part of my brain acts in an advisory role only.</p></div>", "date": "27-07-2013", "url": "https://forums.beyondblue.org.au/t5/anxiety/overwhelmed/td-p/77334" }, { "author": "user-id/21739", "content": "<p>Dear Natalie 373 &amp; Poppy 2013,</p>\n<p>If it's hard to explain exactly what you worry about (cos it's more of a feeling or situation) then why not write down what you DON'T worry about and celebrate that part of your life ?</p>\n<p>When you don't trust people you're just not trusting yourself.  Which is terrible as you probably know you yourself very well.   It's the anxiety that kicks this self confidence out of kilter.   If only we could learn techiques to nudge it back.  Sometimes some anticipation of a difficult situation will lessen the trauma.</p>\n<p>Adios, David.</p></div>", "date": "28-07-2013", "url": "https://forums.beyondblue.org.au/t5/anxiety/overwhelmed/td-p/77334" }, { "author": "user-id/15662", "content": "<p>Thank you for your advice David and Grumpycat.</p>\n<p>I really do appreciate the different perspectives and advice on my post. I will try both of your techniques and suggestions for ways to challenge my thoughts and open up new opportunites for myself.</p>\n<p>Poppy - I hope that using these forums and expressing how you feel helps you out. Ive found that the more I can share how I feel the easier it is to challenge myself and get myself to think differently. </p>\n<p>I do have moments where i just ant stop panicking and everything just moves too fast. But they are getting fewer and further between.</p>\n<p>I decided that the medication wasnt helping me. I found that being on it was just another worry for me.</p>\n<p>Goodluck and all the Best</p>\n<p>Natalie</p></div>", "date": "29-07-2013", "url": "https://forums.beyondblue.org.au/t5/anxiety/overwhelmed/td-p/77334" } ]

[ { "author": "user-id/16895", "content": "<p>hi there,</p>\n<p>i am currently a uni student, having finished year 12 last year, i think it was the trigger to my anxiety. All my life I have had a great group of friends whom i could tell everything to and trust. In the stress of year 12 i noticed myself finding it increasingly difficult to talk to teachers and soon friends. I would get nervous and flustered asking questions, going red and stuttering. After year 12 things were a bit better, seeing friends and having a blast. Now university has started and none of my friends are at the same uni as me. I feel left out and have lost my close friends. I am still a part of the group of friends from school but i am so distanced from them, and a lot of the time left out of small fun things they do. I spend a lot of time in bed sitting on the internet because i feel safe in my own environment. But it only makes me more depressed at the thought of wasting my life away. I am okay in groups but I make life so awkward when it is just me and 1 other friend and my nervousness makes me appear rude and like i dont like the person im talking to. I am also at the age where people go out and drink and I use it as a mask so i can actually talk to my friends and appear more confident and fun than i am. But i hate it and it is no long-term fix. I also get nervous at family events, i cant hold a conversation with my aunty or uncle because i get so nervous for no reason. I get so jealous of my older brother and sister having such a stable group of friends, having them over all the time, seeing them and feeling like i could never just have friends over. </p>\n<p>This has spiralled into a slight depression and i usually feel like crap after most social events ie. family parties, friends birthdays, catchups etc. I also get random bursts of depression when i think about how im losing all those people around me and i cry a lot. The worst part is nobody knows because im too scared to have a normal conversation with anyone let alone talk about something so personal. I have been trying really hard by taking baby steps to build up confidence and social skills. I really hate when there is a lot of attention on me and one BIG thing was my birthday. I made a HUGE step in having a party which i havent done in years because i dont handle having friends over very well. I invited about 30 people and literally i had the worst time of my life but nobody knows. I was really nervous that it would be awkward and it wouldn't be fun and i feel like it lived up to those expectations. When people came over i just couldn't make conversation i kind of just standed there like a weirdo at my OWN party. I felt really bad because my parents made such an effort in helping me set up and when they asked if i enjoyed myself i told everyone i had a great night even though i cried after everyone had left. I felt so undeserving of all my presents. I have screwed things up with a guy i liked because I am too scared to go out with my friends let alone him. I always declined invites from him because despite wanting to go i felt it would be too awkward. I have pushed all the people i want in my life away because i simply can't socialize and express myself naturally. I want so desperately to simply be able to go out with a friend for a 'coffee' but i am too socially awkward. Along with this social phobia I am so confused about my life and what i want to do. My course is not very stable and is artsy so its one of those careers you have to put yourself out there and try and make it big and i feel like i will never have enough confidence to get to where i want to be despite loving the subject. I cant live like this anymore, i want to break free of all insecurities and make an impact on the world but my mind is holding me back. There is so much i want to do and say but i JUST CANT .</p>\n<p>This probably doesn't make sense but truly, my life doesnt make sense right now either! Any help would be much appreciated thanks.</p></div>", "date": "27-07-2013", "url": "https://forums.beyondblue.org.au/t5/anxiety/feeling-alone/td-p/77819" }, { "author": "user-id/21739", "content": "<p>Dear hhalp,</p>\n<p>If you can't feel weird and insecure at your own party then whose party can you feel weird and insecure at ?    Good on you for even trying.   Maybe you did feel like you set yourself up for failure.    So what next ?</p>\n<p>I tend to avoid social situations with my family.    Now, if something happens and I'm not invited I get slightly put out !  But I've set it up like this.   I guess if you can believe that your problem makes perfect sense - anxiety being the factor in your lack of socialisation - then you can move forward.    You wouldn't jump in the bath without checking the temp first, would you ?</p>\n<p>Adios, David.</p>\n<p> </p></div>", "date": "28-07-2013", "url": "https://forums.beyondblue.org.au/t5/anxiety/feeling-alone/td-p/77819" } ]

[ { "author": "user-id/12842", "content": "<p>i have suffered depression and anxiety for many years have tried many medications A and B they work for a while but then stop for some reason i hit a all time low 4 weeks ago at work and felt like i was loosing my mind my GP was away at the time and went to one who was taking her place he told me to go home and rest i couldnt stop crying and had felt let down i found a new gp who i now go to and he put me on C as well as the B that didnt work and i ended up going further down my GP set me up a video link with a psychiatrist as there is none where i live who then changed me back to A and D still no result she now has put me on D and E but i have had to come of the A. i dont know how much more i can take i just want a normal life i start on the E tomorrow morning i sure hope it works as i dont think i can go through another change i only sleep for approx 3 hours at night even though the D is a strong sleeper and i take 4 x 25mg each night it is like i am on a continous high . i have tried everything from excerise to music ,going for walks ,yoga happy to hear from anyone with any ideas i am getting desperate.. </p></div>", "date": "23-07-2013", "url": "https://forums.beyondblue.org.au/t5/anxiety/help/td-p/76123" }, { "author": "user-id/5945", "content": "<p>Hi Maryloo,</p>\n<p>It's been a few days since your post- how have things been going for the last few days? It sounds like you have been on a real rollercoaster of medication trials- we're sorry that it's taking so long to find the right treatment. You mentioned that you have tried lots of medications and lifestyle strategies- have you tried psychological treatments like CBT? If you are interested, you can read more about different treatments for depression and anxiety in the guide books that can be downloaded from the website here:</p>\n<p>http://www.beyondblue.org.au/the-facts/depression/treatments-for-depression/medical-treatments</p>\n<p>We hope things are feeling a bit better on your current medication. Until then, keep checking in with us online as there are many people that have been through similar experiences who will be able to offer other support, understanding and advice.</p>\n<p>With best wishes</p>\n<p>beyondblue moderation team</p></div>", "date": "28-07-2013", "url": "https://forums.beyondblue.org.au/t5/anxiety/help/td-p/76123" } ]

[ { "author": "user-id/21739", "content": "<p>You don't have to seek being anxious.  It just appears.   Is this because anxiety attracts other forms of anxiety ?  Or are anxious people more aware of other anxious triggers ?  Kind of like one of those comical movies \"Stop the world I want to get off\".</p>\n<p>Recently I've nearly been almost run over walking my dog whilst crossing lights legally, been abused by another dog owner for keeping his animal safe from severe mistreatment, lost it with the Post Office for not photocopying my Birth Certificate when applying for a Passport (which led to multiple delays), shouted at a dental assistant for arranging dental work for me through my wife and not confirming my appointment with me but trying to invoice me for not turning up (even though I had no idea about the appt),  cursed my demanding mother in law for wanting me to drop everything and come over to shift a fridge when I was halfway through composing a big band chart for work that night and even had a 4 month ongoing battle with Medicare because they seem unable to renew my card and sometimes send the right card to the wrong address (and old place).</p>\n<p>Or am I just a cranky bastard having recently turned 50 ?  Actually reading this thread back, maybe I'm quite normal.</p>\n<p>Adios, David.</p>\n<p>PS  I heard that, mods. Lol. </p></div>", "date": "25-07-2013", "url": "https://forums.beyondblue.org.au/t5/anxiety/does-anxiety-attract-other-forms-of-anxiety-is-it-contagious/td-p/76966" }, { "author": "user-id/21739", "content": "<p>Dear BB,</p>\n<p>Maybe anxiety should be called \"The Snitch\".  It's the same deal - getting information before it's been acted on and then getting sucked into more anxiety.</p>\n<p>Adios, David.</p></div>", "date": "27-07-2013", "url": "https://forums.beyondblue.org.au/t5/anxiety/does-anxiety-attract-other-forms-of-anxiety-is-it-contagious/td-p/76966" }, { "author": "user-id/26116", "content": "<p>As I was reading your post I was thinking: \"Wow, what a cranky bastard!\". Then I got to the bit about the mother-in-law. No one should have to still put up with a mother-in-law at 50. Modern medicine has a lot to answer for. You are doing remarkably well.</p>\n<p>Anxiety and mother-in-laws have a lot in common.</p>\n<p>* They can cause nausea, headaches, and fatigue.</p>\n<p>* They often rear their ugly head at the worst time and are difficult to get rid of.</p>\n<p>* They are resistant to rational thought.</p>\n<p>* Avoidance strategies can be a tempting coping mechanism but this often makes them more aggressive.</p>\n<p>* They can lead to drug and and alcohol addiction.</p>\n<p>* They can have a negative effect on your relationship with your partner.</p>\n<p>* They are a barrier to living a happy life. </p>\n<p>* Chronic sufferers have to live with them on a daily basis.</p>\n<p>* With the help of a professional they can disappear.</p></div>", "date": "27-07-2013", "url": "https://forums.beyondblue.org.au/t5/anxiety/does-anxiety-attract-other-forms-of-anxiety-is-it-contagious/td-p/76966" } ]

[ { "author": "user-id/38637", "content": "I was diagnosed over two years ago with anxiety/post traumatic stress after a close call with death. I had a few panic attacks but with the help of a great GP nipped it in the bud pretty quickly with some anti depressants/psychologist. I was able to get off the antis and coped pretty well but have developed a fear of ageing or more so become incapacated in some way. Anyways about a  year ago I started feeling faint/weak/dizzy/off balance feelings on and off but became nearly 24/7 feeling like I had just come off a merry go round.  I was tested for BVVP ..ear stuff but this all seemed  ok although I did get tinnitus Was also tested for heart stuff and all good too. I was actually told this is all caused by anxiety. I managed to beat it again but seems in the last few months to   have come back. I don't have any heart pounding....tight chest etc.....I also have been told I have the fight/flight response.  Do these sound like symptoms of anxiety?</div>", "date": "15-07-2013", "url": "https://forums.beyondblue.org.au/t5/anxiety/need-some-information/td-p/72706/page/2" }, { "author": "user-id/38637", "content": "<p>Hey Scotty </p>\n<p>thanks for that ...............yeah its a pain in the proverbial.....I could be feeling perfectly ok...standing having a conversation or walking somewhere out of the blue ...feel like I am going to pass out .................ridiculous.... comes and goes but sometimes to the point I feel like I have knocked back a few too many beers ........... and the fact I never know when its gonna happen puts me on edge all the time ........</p>\n<p>All the best </p></div>", "date": "23-07-2013", "url": "https://forums.beyondblue.org.au/t5/anxiety/need-some-information/td-p/72706/page/2" }, { "author": "user-id/38637", "content": "I was diagnosed over two years ago with anxiety/post traumatic stress after a close call with death. I had a few panic attacks but with the help of a great GP nipped it in the bud pretty quickly with some anti depressants/psychologist. I was able to get off the antis and coped pretty well but have developed a fear of ageing or more so become incapacated in some way. Anyways about a  year ago I started feeling faint/weak/dizzy/off balance feelings on and off but became nearly 24/7 feeling like I had just come off a merry go round.  I was tested for BVVP ..ear stuff but this all seemed  ok although I did get tinnitus Was also tested for heart stuff and all good too. I was actually told this is all caused by anxiety. I managed to beat it again but seems in the last few months to   have come back. I don't have any heart pounding....tight chest etc.....I also have been told I have the fight/flight response.  Do these sound like symptoms of anxiety?</div>", "date": "15-07-2013", "url": "https://forums.beyondblue.org.au/t5/anxiety/need-some-information/td-p/72706" }, { "author": "user-id/5860", "content": "<p>Anxiety comes in many forms, generated by many causes and circumstances, and includes many symptoms. The only common denominator for anxiety that I know of is a fixation on the future. This is consistent with both your fear of ageing and your fear of incapacitation. These fears may be both a cause of anxiety, and a symptom of something else, possibly environmental or social in nature.</p>\n<p>Symptoms like heart pounding and tightness of chest are typical of intense anxiety, but can present in cases of mild anxiety if there are comorbid problems affecting these areas. If anxiety is left untreated, these symptoms may develop over time, and can affect heart health.</p>\n<p>A history of panic attacks, combined with your increasing tendency to feel faint, weak, dizzy and off balance, and any other symptoms you have either failed to mention or don't know about, <strong>may </strong>indicate that you have developed a long term psychological condition which includes anxiety.</p>\n<p>It sounds to me like the act of fearing ageing and incapacitation could result in accelerated ageing and/or incapacitation. Talk about (analogy) shooting yourself in the foot during a hike. I do this to myself all the time, and wish I had asked for help earlier. I suggest going back to your GP, and reading up on how to manage anxiety. Beyond Blue could be a good place to start.</p></div>", "date": "16-07-2013", "url": "https://forums.beyondblue.org.au/t5/anxiety/need-some-information/td-p/72706" }, { "author": "user-id/22980", "content": "<p>Yes! The dizziness can be from the Anxiety. When your nervous system is\" out of whack\", so are you. I found that going to the Chiropractor and having a full adjustment, woke up the nervous system and I saw clearly and focussed for the first time in years. This is a treatment I use to combat the dizziness/un-balanced side of my Anxiety Disorder and it helps. Feeling dizzy increases the Anxiety as it is a frightening sensation. Get enough sleep, do a little exercise, this helps too. </p>\n<p>And always see a Doctor if things get worse. Best of luck..</p></div>", "date": "18-07-2013", "url": "https://forums.beyondblue.org.au/t5/anxiety/need-some-information/td-p/72706" }, { "author": "user-id/38637", "content": "Hey TJ thanks for that ...............gonna make an appointment for the chiro ...makes a lot of sense...  Had this for four months last year ....spent so much time thinking was a physical problem with my ears etc.... they told me it was Phobic Postural Vertigo...I looked it up and yeah I match all the symptoms....Its not that I feel in a panic... or anything ......just yeah unbalanced and gonna faint type of feeling and seems to be most of the time....not just episodes...and naturally the anxiety about feeling like that makes it worse .weird....last year I hid away for four months .........not doing that now.......have appt with psych for some CBT...and a neuro physio to see if they can help......and now the chiro so I am up for the battle lol....and thank god I have a fantastic GP.  Do antidepressants help this sort of anxiety ?................ I have been on one once before........</div>", "date": "18-07-2013", "url": "https://forums.beyondblue.org.au/t5/anxiety/need-some-information/td-p/72706" }, { "author": "user-id/22980", "content": "<p>Goodluck with it- let us know how you get on with the Chiropractor. I know they work wonders for me, so I hope they do the same for you.</p>\n<p>I can't comment on Anti-depressants, as I have chosen a lifestyle without medication. I am sure they have helped many people, but they were not for me. </p>\n<p>Let me know if any of the other treatments are successful for you. You just have to keep trying different things, til you find what works for you. </p>\n<p> </p></div>", "date": "19-07-2013", "url": "https://forums.beyondblue.org.au/t5/anxiety/need-some-information/td-p/72706" }, { "author": "user-id/38637", "content": "<p>Thanks.........I will let you know how it all goes...... I did actually start the anti  depressants but now I am not sure if the light headedness is from them or from anxiety still don't really understand where the anxiety is coming from ..haven't had a lot of sleep this week so maybe that's causing the lighthead........so many maybes lol   .only been on them for four days ...might stop them until I look further into other avenues.............its really the last thing I wanna do ............but I do want this to stop.... </p>\n<p>cheers and thanks</p></div>", "date": "19-07-2013", "url": "https://forums.beyondblue.org.au/t5/anxiety/need-some-information/td-p/72706" }, { "author": "user-id/38637", "content": "Yeah after 5 days on Antis.............am deciding to stop............thick head feeling like need to pop my ears or something and slight nausea..............gonna go with the no meds approach...............not sure if it is the side effects or the bloody anxiety ..I shall see I suppose............</div>", "date": "20-07-2013", "url": "https://forums.beyondblue.org.au/t5/anxiety/need-some-information/td-p/72706" }, { "author": "user-id/22980", "content": "<p>When I looked into anti-anxiety medication, I was told by my doctor that the anxiety can get to the worst its been at the beginning of the course of medication and then slowly starts alleviating the anxiety after about 3 weeks. I had 1 tablet and fainted the next morning, so threw the packet away and realised it was not for me. </p>\n<p>I tested my PH levels this morning (level 7-7.5 is supposed to be where your body needs to be, to be at its healthiest). Mine was slightly acidic (6.5) which can cause fear, stress, anger etc. So I am currently looking at foods to add to my diet to get that level spot on. Just another natural way getting my body to his healthiest. I'm hoping it will have a positive impact.</p></div>", "date": "20-07-2013", "url": "https://forums.beyondblue.org.au/t5/anxiety/need-some-information/td-p/72706" }, { "author": "user-id/38637", "content": "Wow.....you are a wealth of knowledge.....never heard about Ph levels ..another thing I can look into........ cheers ...let me know how u go ...</div>", "date": "21-07-2013", "url": "https://forums.beyondblue.org.au/t5/anxiety/need-some-information/td-p/72706" }, { "author": "user-id/277", "content": "Hi BlackEcho yes it does, Dizziness is a common symptom not nice , I had it very bad at one point for i think a week straight. If i could cut my Adrenal Glands i would, that's how much i hate Anxiety. TC</div>", "date": "22-07-2013", "url": "https://forums.beyondblue.org.au/t5/anxiety/need-some-information/td-p/72706" } ]

[ { "author": "user-id/14991", "content": "<div>10 years ago I was doing many hours of studying and hurt my back from all the time spent sitting. The back pain eventually caused chest pain. I went to my GP and he immediately said that it could be my heart and I was rushed off to tests in the following days. </div>\n<div><br>\n</div>\n<div>That night after the Dr said about my heart I was laying in bed when it suddenly started racing like I had done a marathon. I went through a series of tests over the next few months where they found nothing serious. Only that I get occasional skipped beats which is considered \"normal\". However ever since this time I have almost always been aware of what my heart has been doing. </div>\n<div><br>\n</div>\n<div>I started to ignore it and started full time work. At this stage I started going out to night clubs and drinking lots regularly on weekends. It seemed to almost go away for a number of years, but I always felt something was there. I think it was more I just did not care at this stage in my life. </div>\n<div><br>\n</div>\n<div>As time went on my life circumstances changed. I bought a house, got engaged, and basically stopped drinking. As my life style has become more settled, I care more about myself and care deeply for my partner, my feeling of something wrong has increased dramatically.</div>\n<div><br>\n</div>\n<div>I was having constant neck pains, and my irregular heart beats became even more noticeable. The skipped beats feels like I am being hit from within my chest. I can be sitting watching tv, or at work, totally relaxed, then suddenly bam i get hit. I then am overcome with a feeling that I am about to die.</div>\n<div><br>\n</div>\n<div>I have been back to see Dr's over the years. Most recently I was sent back to a cardiologist and had further tests and comparisons to the previous ones. The cardiologist says that he thinks it's anxiety related. My GP also sent me to a Gastroenterologists about the chest pains. All tests showed nothing. They all agree that it's probably just anxiety and that's where its been left at. </div>\n<div><br>\n</div>\n<div>It has affected me because I find myself worrying about my heart stopping and how an ambulance would get to me if I am somewhere with no easy access. Eg in remote places I start getting chest pains, in crowds I get chest pains, and even areas I am not familiar with. I am not in fear of death, I am in fear of pain, not being in control and leaving people behind.</div>\n<div><br>\n</div>\n<div>I also get periods where I just feel agitated for no reason. I just can't sit still. I think about things lots and sometimes get cold sweats and feeling of passing out. I have constant tension throughout my back and neck which a physio also thinks is anxiety related. </div>\n<div><br>\n</div>\n<div>More recently I have been feeling like I am constantly tired. I can't concentrate at work and lack motivation. I feel like I can no longer perform my job properly anymore. </div>\n<div><br>\n</div>\n<div>I am not sure what to do to make myself feel normal, because I am not sure what is normal anymore, and multiple Dr's just saying \"oh its just anxiety\" doesn't help.</div>\n<div><br>\n</div>\n<div>I am also concerned that if I push to get further help then I will be permanently labeled with anxiety it will be harder to have life and travel insurance.</div></div>", "date": "25-06-2013", "url": "https://forums.beyondblue.org.au/t5/anxiety/10-years-with-no-help/td-p/63765" }, { "author": "user-id/5860", "content": "<p>Search for the following terms:</p>\n<p>Tension headache - a symptom of stress. I figure this is one of your experiences.</p>\n<p>Stress relief - a general search term for finding things I may forget to mention.</p>\n<p>Neck muscle stretching - these are excellent, especially the dorsal stretch!</p>\n<p>These would be a great start. It will take time to research and learn what you need to know to understand how anxiety and stress interact and feed off each other, like a vicious cycle, and how to manage them together and separately.</p>\n<p>tackling this cycle head on may have very little effect at first. Like a freight train, it has built up some momentum, so you'll need to be persistent. Ask the people in your life to give you shoulder massages frequently. Daily vigorous exercise for 30-45 minutes per day will help a lot too; walking is insufficient and doesn't count. Cut back a lot on the coffee and other stimulants. Switching to drinking only herbal tea would be a brilliant move.</p>\n<p>If you do most of these suggestions, and are still experiencing these symptoms in a month, I can suggest more drastic actions, but you won't get them out of me now.</p></div>", "date": "28-06-2013", "url": "https://forums.beyondblue.org.au/t5/anxiety/10-years-with-no-help/td-p/63765" }, { "author": "user-id/14991", "content": "<p>Thanks for your reply.</p>\n<p>The Tension headaches occur at least once a week. <span style=\"line-height: 1.38462; font-size: 0.8125em;\">I do stretches. I have seen numerous physios who have given me exercise routines I do.</span></p>\n<p>I run on a treadmill for at least 30mins as often as I can. Its usually at least 3 nights a week.</p>\n<p>I don't drink coffee. I occasionally have tea, usually white tea, or a Japanese herbal tea.</p>\n<p>Having it for 10 years. I have tried everything I can think of. I have cut out so many foods for periods over the years and tried different things.</p></div>", "date": "28-06-2013", "url": "https://forums.beyondblue.org.au/t5/anxiety/10-years-with-no-help/td-p/63765" }, { "author": "user-id/5860", "content": "<p>Excellent. You're on the right track, now increase the frequency of both the neck/shoulder stretching and the exercise. Don't stick to only running. Running is excellent from the legs, heart and general circulation, but won't do much for the upper body where you feel your tension. Some of the things I recommend for this are:</p>\n<ol>\n <li><span style=\"line-height: 18px;\">Swimming. Any stroke that uses arms.</span></li>\n <li><span style=\"line-height: 18px;\">Massage of the neck and shoulders, as mentioned.</span></li>\n <li><span style=\"line-height: 18px;\">Rock climbing / wall climbing</span></li>\n <li><span style=\"line-height: 18px;\">Nordic walking (with poles)</span></li>\n <li><span style=\"line-height: 18px;\">Children's jungle gyms often have monkey bars, zip lines, and gymnastic style arrangements like parallel and uneven bars for chin ups, etc</span></li>\n</ol>\n<p>As I said, follow these terms and if you're still feeling super tense in a month I'll give you, and anyone else that cares to read this thread, my solution for \"drastic situations.\" WARNING: you'll have to be both desperate and crazy to use it. I certainly was. The moderator may not even allow me to publish it here (relax, it doesn't involve harming self or others), but we'll worry about that in a month if this doesn't help.</p>\n<p>Agreed?</p></div>", "date": "29-06-2013", "url": "https://forums.beyondblue.org.au/t5/anxiety/10-years-with-no-help/td-p/63765" }, { "author": "user-id/40340", "content": "<p>Hey hoz,</p>\n<p>Everyone is different and it sounds like you are\nalready doing everything that is important right? eating healthily,\nexercising etc etc which is great...</p>\n<p>I have an idea on how you might be able to fight back on the onslaught of your anxiety issues (I've had very similar issues when I was a teenager and I was through self control, able to beat them) . It helps if you know somewhere\nyou can walk that has scenery to look at and enjoy.  Look at it as <strong>\"me\ntime\"</strong>.  <strong>Time where you are going to rid yourself of as many thoughts as\nyou can.  About everything.</strong></p>\n<p> Because you suffer from anxiety related\nissues and this sounds like what they are, I\nhave had the same symptoms, an awareness of your heart beat? I\nused to get that. I would also get occasional severe stabs of pain in my\nchest for no apparent reason at all.  I would not be thinking of my\nheart or anything that I thought was stressful and then <strong>BAM!</strong>.  It\nturned out to be anxiety related.  <strong>I had to tell myself it was anxiety related</strong> and\nfound ways to relax myself that helped immensely and the\nawareness of my heart beat and skips went.</p>\n<p>I would walk through the side streets of the scenic hilly area where where I lived as a teenager and this\nhelped to relax me.  Triggers for me would set it off.  Homework was one for me, as well as other things.</p>\n<p>Its hard to start the routine, and to form a healthy\nrelationship between the importance of walking for relaxation, but\nit is a wonderful thing when you can learn to have control over the thoughts you have when you start out on\nyour walk, to when things start to pop into your head like may be for\nexample \"I wonder how my heart is going to go on this walk?\" or \"I've\ngot so much going on at the moment\" or to think about daily routine\nstresses that fill your head on a usual busy day.</p>\n<p>What you need\nto say to yourself when you commence your walk, when things start to\npop into your head is \"I'm sorry but this walk is a no thought\nwalk\".  As you walk, try to look at things that distract your thoughts,\nlike the scenery around you, or go to a beach near you and walk along it\nor if you aren't near any of this,  get a ipod or something and when you feel those thoughts creeping in, just say to yourself \"this is a no thought walk\" and smile and think of ways to distract yourself from the cycle of thinking about the things that cause you your anxiety.  Only you know exactly what they are.  If you don't, don't worry, the walking should get rid of em anyway, or certainly lessen them a great deal.  </p>\n<p>Walking is a great way to <strong>relax</strong>, not just to get fit.  I walk for about 30-40 minutes each way, 3 times a week.  Lately I power-walk if I'm stressed, but otherwise just a healthy reasonably paced walk   You don't have to start on that, 25mins as a minimum, each way is a good amount of walking time and this is what I started on. </p>\n<p><strong>You don't have to push yourself, remember its about relaxing, call it a form of meditation if you like, your me time.</strong> <strong> In a way it is for me I guess, even if it is an \"odd\" form. </strong></p>\n<p><strong>Try it out for a fortnight</strong> (as it may take this long to start to have the desired effect) and if it hasn't helped by then, I will be surprised to hear it.  I hope it does.  </p>\n<p>Remember, <strong>walking to relax</strong> is just as important and benificial to the mind, as it is to the heart <span class=\"lia-unicode-emoji\" title=\":slightly_smiling_face:\">🙂</span> like the play on words? </p>\n<p>hope this post helps Hoz,</p>\n<p>Mark </p>\n<p>        </p></div>", "date": "30-06-2013", "url": "https://forums.beyondblue.org.au/t5/anxiety/10-years-with-no-help/td-p/63765" } ]

[ { "author": "user-id/6414", "content": "<p>I'm 17 and I'm worried about spending the rest of my life in fear of being sick (vomiting/gastro being my upmost biggest fear, feels like death to me) and the embarrassment and frustration of my OCD. I've been dealing with this for about 2 years now and have seen two psychologist and group therapy which was very insightful and my psychologists did help me but i still love day to day worrying about getting sick and germs and constantly washing my hands. I suffer from panic attacks and spontaneous bursts of anxiety for not real trigger. I'm in VCE and don't want this to affect my schooling and goals for the future and i do not want to live the rest of my life like this. How can i achieve a normal life with normal feeligns and knowing the differece between normal real feelings and anxiety?!</p></div>", "date": "17-06-2013", "url": "https://forums.beyondblue.org.au/t5/anxiety/health-anxiety-ruining-my-life/td-p/56619" }, { "author": "user-id/5860", "content": "<p>I had to google this. I'm guessing by VCE you mean Victorian Certificate of Education program. If wrong plz correct. if right, please explain what this means for you.</p>\n<p>Continue seeing your psychologist(s). If they're earning what they're paid they should be using conditioning and shaping to alter your behaviour. It is a very good thing to catch this now and overcome it as quickly as possible before it takes hold of you. Ask them to give you tasks that you can do with friends and  family to overcome it more quickly. It won't be a cure, and you might have OCD for the rest of your life, but it will be manageable and you'll be able to, as you say, \"knowing the difference between normal real feelings and anxiety\" much better. </p>\n<p>You might be a candidate for CBT. check it out.</p></div>", "date": "30-06-2013", "url": "https://forums.beyondblue.org.au/t5/anxiety/health-anxiety-ruining-my-life/td-p/56619" } ]

[ { "author": "user-id/39308", "content": "<p>Hi all,</p>\n<p>A month ago I was made redundant from state government and ever since then I have been a complete mess. I have suffered from anxiety from a young age and so did my mother.  The redundancy experience was so demoralizing and completely horrible that I just want to block it out from my memory. Since the redundancy, I can do nothing but cry, shake, panic. I feel so incapable of being in control every again. I am well qualified but feel useless at everything even though people tell me that I am good at what I do. I am so scared ALL the time. I think that I will NEVER get a job again, I am too old (51). No one will want me. I have chosen to go back to Uni again as it is my 'safe place'. The trouble is I just think about who will give me a job when I finish? Did I choose the right degree? What is the point? Should I just walk in front of a bus. I have been to a doctor and taking medication for anxiety. It has stopped the physical panic reactions but not the dreadfully negative thoughts. </p>\n<p>I have never had trouble getting a job before, but now I feel like there is no hope. Has anyone else felt like this? I keep getting told I am very employable and that the age thing is just in my mind.</p>\n<p><br>\n</p></div>", "date": "25-06-2013", "url": "https://forums.beyondblue.org.au/t5/anxiety/made-redundant/td-p/63568" }, { "author": "user-id/21739", "content": "<p>Dear Jasmin,</p>\n<p>Forgive my brevity but.............bugger !  Bloody State Government.</p>\n<p>I'm 50 and lost work in 1997.   Since then I've composed for a big band and my wife takes all the legal and managing responsibilities.  If you think a uni course will be good for you then do it.   Jobs are changing all the time.   Only a small % of today's jobs will be around when someone who is in Kindy today, 2013,  will eventually leave in Yr 12 in 2025.   Your attitude would be more important and you sound very balanced.  Your track record of getting work is good - no trouble.</p>\n<p>I tried the standing in front of a bus once and it took so long for the Night Bus to come around the blind corner that I gave up and went home to have a cup of tea.   It seems you need some support and a bit of TLC.   Are you living on your own ?  Family near by ?      Friendly area ?</p>\n<p>That uni you are applying for will have a big Careers Dept.  You could go and do an aptitude test and get an amazing amount of info on courser/jobs/prospects without being put on the spot.  It might even be the case that you change you course preference.   I think you owe it to yourself and skills to get some heads up advice.</p>\n<p>Adios, David. </p>\n<p> PS <strong>\"No one will want me\"</strong>.   That's possible.  But you might to try first.</p></div>", "date": "26-06-2013", "url": "https://forums.beyondblue.org.au/t5/anxiety/made-redundant/td-p/63568" }, { "author": "user-id/5860", "content": "<p>Great advice from David there.</p>\n<p>You seem to be lacking confidence. As you spend more time at uni this feeling will pass. You will achieve great things at school and this sense of achievement will restore your confidence. Immerse yourself in the course, and as you learn you will gradually see opportunities for how you can use what you've learned.</p>\n<p>All in time. Relax, trust in yourself, and be patient. All in time.</p>\n<p>The ONLY path to success is through failure. Even the ones that seem to get it first go failed at some point previously, possibly in private, and probably several times. We are not perfect, and the stigma around making mistakes has gotta go. We can't function under such pressure. If anyone ostracises you for making a mistake, apologise for being human and promise to summon Superman next time they need something done. Oh, oops, I forgot, even superman makes mistakes. LOL</p></div>", "date": "30-06-2013", "url": "https://forums.beyondblue.org.au/t5/anxiety/made-redundant/td-p/63568" } ]

[ { "author": "user-id/17874", "content": "When i was younger i was outgoing, had plenty of friends, and was a very active person.<br>\nI lived with my mother as my parents were divorced, i had quite an abusive father who along with bullying at school, shattered my self confidence. At the age of 16 I had a fallout with my father over sport and trying to make time for him, i was never invited around to his house to seem him again. <br>\nI still have not spoken to him in 11 years.<br>\nWhen i was 19 my mother was diagnosed and died from cancer, my sister and i had to grow up quickly.<br>\n<br>\nHow i dealt with it all is i turned to computers. I stopped socializing with friends, i stopped my active lifestyle and i started eating unhealthy. My weight went up and down but it never got to the point where it was an issue. After completing a course i was studying, i went to get a job in computers. It got me out of the house but i found myself sticking to the same lifestyle as it was still an indoor job, and i was in a bad place.<br>\n<br>\nAt the time i had a supporting cousin who would try get me out of the house, and thankfully i did. I went to a party where i met a person i hadn't seen in years, and they asked what i had done with my life. I told them i had gotten into computers, and i heard their disappointment that i hadn't followed my childhood dream of becoming a \"_\". This reignited an interest back in it and i decided to get into the industry. I got a job that involved quite a large crew of both girls and guys, and all of a sudden i felt thrown into the deep end sociably. It's like i had forgotten how to interact properly, and i was scared of awkward silences or situations(particularly around girls). I had developed anxiety, and began to worry what others thought.<br>\n<br>\nI took some time off to go on a holiday with a friend to a party destination. I felt the need to drink in order to be calm around others(i still do) and so when one night when i was not up to drinking i decided to do something stupid... I tried a drug in order to put me to somewhere where i thought i would be more comfortable, but it had the opposite reaction. It made me notice everyone's eyes, and i thought everyone was looking at me. It made me panic, and this is when i thought i had an anxiety attack and couldn't breathe properly.<br>\n<br>\nUpon coming back home i found my anxiety issues were flared up even more, i was even nervous talking to my closest friends - people i lived with!<br>\nI was diagnosed with anxiety and saw a psychologist. It helped me calm down quite a bit but i still found the need to drink every time i went out to get over the nervousness. After a year or so i stopped taking the medication as i thought i could deal with it on my own. Now it's just a certain people that i get nervous around, always those who i \"care\" about what they think of me.<br>\n<br>\nSo in pursuit of this new career i went overseas to study(i had been told it was a great avenue to go down). I had a good friend who was meant to come over with me but pulled out at the last minute. He said he could not handle it financially. I was in a position i could not pull out of, i had sent over my furniture and i had to go. <br>\nI had a caring girlfriend who would come over and visit, but i found the isolation and dealing with the coming and going all too much. I was getting down.<br>\nIt started to effect my study, my brain wouldn't shut down at night(i thought it was a sinus/breathing issue i had been suffering from) and i was then struggling in class. It was a vicious cycle.<br>\nSo one day i went to a hospital and after multiple tests and a HUGE bill, they thought it was a relapse of anxiety issues and prescribed me with the same medication. That night after taking it i woke up sick as a dog, and i knew enough was enough, i needed to return home to see doctors at a more affordable rate.<br>\n<br>\nThe doctors at home found my white blood count to be abnormally low, as if my body was fighting something. But after many many tests they could not find out what it was. Another doctor decided i was depressed, and prescribed me medication to deal with my sleep. I got back to running and getting fit and after a few months the doctors released with my \"levels starting to go back up\", and said i could go back to study, of which i felt i needed to do. The sleeping issues were fixed for the time being(helped with medication and nasal decongestants).<br>\nBut because of all of the problems i was getting fed up with myself and my ongoing issues, and it took a toll on the relationship with my girlfriend which ended.<br>\n<br>\nI completed my course overseas with flying colors, i was committed and focused. I was happy with how i went.<br>\nBut the biggest challenge for me is still a challenge i face, it is the return home and seeing friends and family.<br>\nThere's the expectations i feel from everyone, that i should \"show\" i am happy to see them. I \"care\" too much what other people think. It has started to get to me that much that even when watching TV i put myself in other peoples shoes and dwell on negative thoughts.<br>\n*My biggest concerns are \"not showing emotion\" to those i care about, and/or worrying about \"looking nervous\".<br>\nI am constantly thinking of situations where i would probably be nervous in. It eats me up. <br>\nIt makes the situation that i may be facing all that harder.<br>\n<br>\nI think the aspect of showing emotional happiness would come with genuine happiness. I have not felt good or healthy for a long time, and given that i was released with levels on their way up i thought it was important to be tested as soon as i had returned. Thankfully they are ok, still on the low side but not at dangerous levels. Furthermore i had tests for my breathing/nasal issues. The doctors said i am highly allergic to something but they can't determine what. They said i would need to go on a 2 year study to determine what it is, but the profession that i have chosen will not allow me to spend 2 years getting tested. I thought my breathing issues could also be leading to my anxiety.<br>\nI am heavily medicated taking allergy decongestants and nasal sprays, and combined with plenty of exercise i am hoping that they could fix itself. But i have had a sinus/breathing problem for years, so i am doubtful - i worry it is a far more serious issue.<br>\n<br>\nI have considered seeing a Psychologist to help me with my anxiety issues. I am sick to death of caring what other people think. I just want to live my life and not worry about it. It is important going into the career i have chosen not to have these issues. This is why i have also opted to avoid the medicare rebate as i do not want anxiety on my medical records, it would not fare well when looking for a job. This is why i am also trying to phase out the depression medication.<br>\n<br>\nAre there ways to combat the anxiety regarding \"showing emotion\"?<br>\nAnd avoiding being worried about \"looking nervous\"?<br>\n<br>\nLike i said these only really effect me when seeing friends/family/girls that i care what they think of me. There's that expectation of when having not seen alot of these people in a long time that i should \"look happy\" to see them. Even when i do i struggle to show it. Even a smile to a complete stranger becomes a struggle sometimes.</div>", "date": "26-06-2013", "url": "https://forums.beyondblue.org.au/t5/anxiety/emotional-anxiety/td-p/65196" }, { "author": "user-id/5860", "content": "<div>Hello CareFactor,</div>\n<div><br>\n</div>\n<div>Thanks for the detail. Helps a lot.</div>\n<div><br>\n</div>\n<p>I am in a similar place. Read some of my other posts in other threads to confirm. It feels like a diagnostic black hole, and I’m slipping through the cracks. I’m taking extreme measures towards getting healthy, and I suggest you do the same. Your career will be waiting for you when you’re done. </p>\n<p><strong>Adapt.</strong> Your health is the most important thing. Don’t take their word for it about the 2 year time frame. Get a second opinion about allergy testing or whatever. You might be able to spread it out over instalments of time or participate remotely by performing the procedure on yourself and sending them the results for analysis. Ask them if they have any overseas consultations centres they're partnered with. Usually they don't mind the whole sharing information thing.</p>\n<div><br>\n</div>\n<div><br>\n</div></div>", "date": "27-06-2013", "url": "https://forums.beyondblue.org.au/t5/anxiety/emotional-anxiety/td-p/65196" } ]

[ { "author": "user-id/10060", "content": "Originally posted by: <strong>Chris</strong> on <strong>3 March 2013</strong><br><br>I discovered this over the weekend that the version of ocd thats been affecting me actually has a name.Its called:\nFunctional Impairment.It just means your ability to take of your everyday groooming and hygiene needs are getting done.The ocd has prevented you from doing anything that you after you get out of bed to the moment you leave your home.Anything and everything can be affected.Trimming your hair,trimming your finger nails and toenails,shaving,brushing your teeth,showering,etc.\n\nI'm trying to find other who have this problem so I can offer them support.\n\nChris.</div>", "date": "03-03-2013", "url": "https://forums.beyondblue.org.au/t5/anxiety/ocd-lack-of-self-care-hygeine-it-has-a-name/td-p/93797/page/2" }, { "author": "user-id/35815", "content": "<p>Thanks for the response, it does help to know that I am not alone. I am fortunate enough to have a loving boyfriend who is very supportive and encouraging. I went to see the psychologist on Saturday and she was able to recommend a few OCD specialists. I feel uncomfortable about venturing into unfamiliar surroundings. I feel that slowly but surely things will improve, I am always trying to break habits and compulsions. Some days are harder than others. I think I make myself worse sometimes because I know I can't afford to take weeks off work so I feel anxious because I'm trying to rush the process as a result I stress myself out more. Such a vicious cycle.</p>\n<p>I'm curious about self help methods used, anything anyone can recommend?</p></div>", "date": "26-06-2013", "url": "https://forums.beyondblue.org.au/t5/anxiety/ocd-lack-of-self-care-hygeine-it-has-a-name/td-p/93797/page/2" }, { "author": "user-id/10060", "content": "Originally posted by: <strong>Chris</strong> on <strong>3 March 2013</strong><br><br>I discovered this over the weekend that the version of ocd thats been affecting me actually has a name.Its called:\nFunctional Impairment.It just means your ability to take of your everyday groooming and hygiene needs are getting done.The ocd has prevented you from doing anything that you after you get out of bed to the moment you leave your home.Anything and everything can be affected.Trimming your hair,trimming your finger nails and toenails,shaving,brushing your teeth,showering,etc.\n\nI'm trying to find other who have this problem so I can offer them support.\n\nChris.</div>", "date": "03-03-2013", "url": "https://forums.beyondblue.org.au/t5/anxiety/ocd-lack-of-self-care-hygeine-it-has-a-name/td-p/93797" }, { "author": "user-id/10060", "content": "Originally posted by: <strong>scotty</strong> on <strong>3 March 2013</strong><br><br>Hey Chris havn't seen you about in a while here, I would imagine this would common to in Bipolar, Perhaps David will have some input to <span class=\"lia-unicode-emoji\" title=\":slightly_smiling_face:\">🙂</span></div>", "date": "03-03-2013", "url": "https://forums.beyondblue.org.au/t5/anxiety/ocd-lack-of-self-care-hygeine-it-has-a-name/td-p/93797" }, { "author": "user-id/10060", "content": "Originally posted by: <strong>Chris </strong> on <strong>4 March 2013</strong><br><br>Hi Scotty.Nice to catch up.Its sad we cant get in contact.It would be nice if other who have this problem could realize that this form of ocd has a name.Its about time.I posted on many forums to share that information.I hope to be able to support them..I started my own support group specifically for it.Those sufferers need support.\n\nHope you're going okay,mate.Thank for your reply.\n\nChris.</div>", "date": "04-03-2013", "url": "https://forums.beyondblue.org.au/t5/anxiety/ocd-lack-of-self-care-hygeine-it-has-a-name/td-p/93797" }, { "author": "user-id/10060", "content": "Originally posted by: <strong>geoff</strong> on <strong>6 March 2013</strong><br><br>dear Chris, fortunately I don't have functional Impairment but there is an elderly chap who wanders around my town, and I'm sure that his coat hasn't been washed for at least seven years, he's on the prowl for cigarette buts, but I don't have any contact with him. Your support group would be interesting to get involved with, but I'm not sure that BB would allow for it to be mentioned, however if you can give me a general clue I will try and find it. Geoff.</div>", "date": "06-03-2013", "url": "https://forums.beyondblue.org.au/t5/anxiety/ocd-lack-of-self-care-hygeine-it-has-a-name/td-p/93797" }, { "author": "user-id/10060", "content": "Originally posted by: <strong>Chris</strong> on <strong>16 March 2013</strong><br><br>Hi Geoff.\n\nI ended up find 2 others who have got it too.I even started up my own email support group.I figured that while I'm making great progress with ocd I can help others.I know what it did to me so I just want to be there for others who have the same thing.\n\nI hope this forum expends by setting up a better forum that we can access and go about supporting everyone the way forums are meant to be.\n\nI guess I can only help people online until there's a forum that puts people in contact with others.\n\nChris.</div>", "date": "16-03-2013", "url": "https://forums.beyondblue.org.au/t5/anxiety/ocd-lack-of-self-care-hygeine-it-has-a-name/td-p/93797" }, { "author": "user-id/10060", "content": "Originally posted by: <strong>geoff</strong> on <strong>17 March 2013</strong><br><br>dear Chris, I am sure your list will grow, and it's a great that you are doing this for these people with OCD. Each particular illness that falls under the umbrella of depression has it's own specific ramifications which are capable of destroying the lives of anyone struggling with depression, either forever or for a short period, and by saying short this could be years. Geoff.</div>", "date": "17-03-2013", "url": "https://forums.beyondblue.org.au/t5/anxiety/ocd-lack-of-self-care-hygeine-it-has-a-name/td-p/93797" }, { "author": "user-id/10060", "content": "Originally posted by: <strong>Chris</strong> on <strong>17 March 2013</strong><br><br>I think the ocd version, \" Functional Impairment\" might not be something that affects Bipolar in general but no matter what its such a horrible way to live.I survived and recovering from it.I made sure it had to go.I think anyone can get it.I saw someone years ago who had it.It took me to get it to realise what was happening to them.\n\nI didnt get depression.Thats a miracle right there.I won the battle against such a life destroying mongrel of a disorder.Its a cancer of the self.It eats away at one's own self.I looked like a caveman,pain and all.Grooming and hygiene routines destroyed.Stuff that.\nI won.No bumper stickers that says \"I love my disorder\". \n\nIf you have this form of ocd or know someone who has help them get help online.</div>", "date": "17-03-2013", "url": "https://forums.beyondblue.org.au/t5/anxiety/ocd-lack-of-self-care-hygeine-it-has-a-name/td-p/93797" }, { "author": "user-id/35815", "content": "<p>I am now dealing with this aswell as other OCD based problems. I have gone from taking pride in my appearance, daily showering and teeth brush aswell as general grooming to giving up on everything. Everything is hard and I can't do it right. I haven't left the house in over a week and have had to take time off work. I don't know what to do.</p></div>", "date": "21-06-2013", "url": "https://forums.beyondblue.org.au/t5/anxiety/ocd-lack-of-self-care-hygeine-it-has-a-name/td-p/93797" }, { "author": "user-id/647", "content": "<p>Dear Hopeful13. Things have really got tough, it sounds as if you are  strugglling with terrible symptoms at the moment. Good on you for posting to the forum.  It must be hard to post when you are feeling so overwhelmed.There are others who have OCD symptoms on the forum who have experienced really tough time like you are at the moment. You are not alone with this.</p>\n<p>If things are so bad that you can't leave the house it is important that you contact somebody for some help. It sounds as if this is a dramatic change for you, and that this intensity of symptoms has happened  quickly.  </p>\n<p>If you can muster up the ability  to make an appointment with your GP and attend it that would be great. At least call the GP and give yourself a chance to make that appointment and get there. If  you don't think you can leave the house call your local mental health service, ask to speak to the triage service. Be sure and tell them your symptoms are stopping you from leaving the house at the moment. They may be able to come and see you.</p>\n<p>With treatment things do not have to continue like they are at the moment, your symptoms can improve.</p>\n<p>Please let us know how you are going. Keep in touch with the forum.</p>\n<p>Remember you are not alone with this.</p>\n<p>the moderators</p></div>", "date": "25-06-2013", "url": "https://forums.beyondblue.org.au/t5/anxiety/ocd-lack-of-self-care-hygeine-it-has-a-name/td-p/93797" }, { "author": "user-id/21739", "content": "<p>Dear hopeful13</p>\n<p>I'm bipolar and did a day at the Black Dog Institute a while back - answering questions, being interviewed by students, wondering why it took 20mins to make a cup of tea...........  I ended up staying from 10am to 2pm.  I wanted to \"help\".</p>\n<p>One of the areas of research was hygiene.    Basically, the trend from research was that mental health sufferers tend to neglect their appearance and wear dishevelled clothing.  LIke we become tramps.    Lack of self esteem.    A fair bit of time to iron a shirt but no motivation.    I don't even buy many new clothes.   Basically, it was wonderful for the research centre to calibrate my input into this theory but I gotta admit it didn't do much for my own focus.  Infact, it felt a bit like they had just said \"You're tall\" adding \"You can go now - thanks for coming\".</p>\n<p>I don't actually agree with this research.   If you take any professional and stick them into a long weekend by Sunday they are sleeping in and by Bank Holiday Monday they are wearing trackies cos they can't be bothered to dress up on a non work day.   So, maybe with mental health, which is totally uncomfortable, we seek to wear clothing which is totally comfortable.    And so on.  It's no big deal.   You don't need an institute called the Black Dog Institute to research that stuff.  And where the hell is that cup of tea ?  You've got no milk and you're a research institute ?  Maybe there's a line of mental health research right there.  Touche.</p>\n<p>Adios, David. </p>\n<p> PS  One form on mental health had 240 questions.  It's challenging.   They still send me requests to re-attend but I got more depressed after my involvement.  The lab test rat must feel the same.</p></div>", "date": "26-06-2013", "url": "https://forums.beyondblue.org.au/t5/anxiety/ocd-lack-of-self-care-hygeine-it-has-a-name/td-p/93797" } ]

[ { "author": "user-id/27621", "content": "<p>Hi everyone,</p>\n<p>I have suffered from anxiety on and off since my teenage years but have always seen someone for it and have never been on medication. I am a perfectionist and over the past years, my various stresses in my work life have often sent me into short bursts of anxiety.</p>\n<p>However I met someone about 18 months ago, we immediately hit if off and he was an amazing support to me in the early days while I dealt with work stresses. We have an amazing relationship, have lived together for 12 months and are planning a future together, including children.</p>\n<p>2 months ago he told me he had a dream of moving to the country (we currently live in the city and I love it here). I have tried to be supportive of this, and over the past two months have tried to engage in his enthusiasm, however last week I totally broke down and couldn't even talk about it without crying.</p>\n<p>The process of making this dream a reality has gone from a seed of an idea to talking to mortgage brokers and I feel like its all moving way too fast. We are also moving house in the next few weeks, and as I work for myself, I don't have a schedule and stability in my day to day which is making it that much harder to deal with.</p>\n<p>On top of this, my overactive thinking is now wondering whether I love him at all (while he is at work during the day) and I tear my hair out trying to work this out, until he comes home and we spend the evenings and weekends together and I'm fine. He really is the most wonderful man who loves me very very much and he is being so supportive while I deal with this anxiety but the whole country dream continues to loom and every time he brings it up, I can't help but wonder if it is what I really want and I can make it work with more time to get used to it. The thought that I don't love him makes me even more anxious.</p>\n<p>Am I just in a rut of anxiety where my own brain is my own worst enemy? Has anyone else questioned their own feelings while experiencing a bout of anxiety?</p>\n<p>Thanks</p>\n<p>SL</p></div>", "date": "18-06-2013", "url": "https://forums.beyondblue.org.au/t5/anxiety/all-you-need-is-love/td-p/59226" }, { "author": "user-id/22880", "content": "<p>Hi Sarah</p>\n<p>For me, anxiety comes hand in hand with change. I constantly second guess myself about all the what-ifs. Is it really whether you love him that is causing the anxiety? Or is it more like \"what if we move to the country and it doesn't work out?\" 2 months is a pretty short amount of time to wrap your head around it. Maybe tell your partner you are feeling anxious about acting on a life descision so quickly after it was made?</p>\n<p>I've done this multiple times when purchasing land with my partner, moving cities together etc etc. </p>\n<p>Only you know in your heart whether you love him or not, and if you do and he treats you right,  it would be a shame to throw away a good thing for fear of all the \"what-ifs\"</p>\n<p>I hope this message finds you. </p>\n<p>Kady</p></div>", "date": "23-06-2013", "url": "https://forums.beyondblue.org.au/t5/anxiety/all-you-need-is-love/td-p/59226" }, { "author": "user-id/5860", "content": "<div>Hello Sarahl,</div>\n<div><br>\n</div>\n<div>Credit where credit is due: The response from Kady (21/6) is <strong>brilliant</strong>, and as an anxious person I completely agree … with … every … word! </div>\n<div><br>\n</div>\n<div>I worry constantly that the advice I give, or the advice others give, may be misunderstood, so I usually go into more detail than is necessary. On the other hand, I still get misunderstood despite these precautions, so I can’t seem to win. I’m either too wordy or I’m trying to explain something too complex. Because of this, the <strong>best </strong>thing you can do for me is ask me to explain in more detail anything you don’t understand, and in return I’ll try to keep this brief.</div>\n<div><br>\n</div>\n<div>So, to elaborate on Kady’s advice, there are significant positives and negatives to raising children in a country environment, and the same goes for cities. As anxious people we tend to place more emphasis on the negatives and generate a psychological internal conflict between the bad things we want to avoid on each side. The most common suburban parental behaviour with this kind of avoidance conflict is observational limitations. Kids are given strict rules which they must follow or be punished. This is designed to keep them safe from harms, but it is having undesirable side effects, mostly psychological. Children have a biological imperative to establish a sense of <strong>autonomy</strong>, which is in direct oppositional violation with the enforcement of rules and western disciplinary action. This leads to all the things that we wish youths didn’t do, and I know you know many of them.</div>\n<div><br>\n</div>\n<div>On the plus side, a high density population means that children have a large pool of potential friends, which can provide them with another biological imperative: <strong>nurturance </strong>and <strong>belonging</strong>. It also means that infrastructures like hospitals, shops and schools are close and convenient.</div>\n<div><br>\n</div>\n<div>In a country environment kids have more <strong>freedom</strong>, which is so extremely important. There are also much fewer dangers, attitudes are more <strong>relax</strong>ed, and people are generally friendlier. For someone with anxiety, living in the country can go one of 2 ways: you can feel isolated, disconnected from the reality you know, or it could foster <strong>calm</strong>ing and soothing attitudes; stronger, long lasting friendships with other local country folk, and you’ll learn to handle the stresses of life more effectively. Also, you’re more likely to provide your children with the <strong>nurturance </strong>I mentioned before, like <strong>incentives and encouragement</strong> and most country schools have a bus service that will pick up and drop off your kids every day.</div>\n<div><br>\n</div>\n<div>Your partner is trying to do something for both of you that is very <strong>positive</strong> and <strong>healthy</strong>. I suggest travelling to the area that your partner is trying to buy into, and visiting the locals. Make friends with them, tell them you’re moving there and that you want children. Have a good long chin wag about hobbies and interests. Ask what they do for fun. If they have kids, or adults that grew up there, ask them what they did when they were growing up. How does that compare to playing video games, watching TV, and visiting the cinema?</div>\n<div><br>\n</div>\n<div>Speaking of cinema, may I suggest going to watch After Earth, starring Will Smith, with your partner. The central theme is about controlling anxiety, and there is a beautiful quote that goes:</div>\n<div><br>\n</div>\n<div>“Fear is not real. The <strong>only</strong> place that fear can exist is in our thoughts of the future. It is a product of our <strong>imagination</strong>, causing us to fear things that do not at present, <strong>and may not ever</strong>, exist. That is near insanity, Kitai. Now do not misunderstand me. Danger is very real; But fear is a choice.”</div>\n<div><br>\n</div>\n<div>Do you see what I’m saying? There is much less danger in the country. Generally, with less danger comes less anxiety. I firmly believe your partner knows this too. If so, he loves you so much he is willing to give up everything to help you. That is a man who knows exactly where his priorities lie. Do you know what your priorities are? <strong>What do you want</strong> more than anything in the whole world?</div>\n<div><br>\n</div></div>", "date": "24-06-2013", "url": "https://forums.beyondblue.org.au/t5/anxiety/all-you-need-is-love/td-p/59226" } ]

[ { "author": "user-id/29214", "content": "<p>Hi whoever see's this.</p>\n<p>So, I've never really done anything like this before. I've been struggling with this for a while now, but not really sure how to talk to people about it. I am 20 years old, currently studying to be a youth worker. When I was 16 and 17, I smoked alot of Marijuana, which, when I went cold turkey and quit, I had a first stage psychotic episode. After I was treated and came back to reality, I spoke with a counsellor for about 4 sessions and on the final one she told me I was back to normal and fine again. I was taken off the medication I was on and I have not encountered any symptoms directing to a Psychotic Episode again. However, since then I think I have struggled with anxiety. I'm scared to go back to a counsellor about mental health issues, because last time was such a crazy experience, I just don't want to be in that catogory again <span class=\"lia-unicode-emoji\" title=\":disappointed_face:\">😞</span> but I want help. It effects me in my studies, I've been making class presentations and doing role plays in front of our small lecture group and I get hot and cold flushes before standing up to talk, I get sweaty and can sometimes hear my heart beat. I hate it. This also happens at the strangest of times in public (check out registers, meetings, bumping into old friends). Also, I have become a very angry person at home with my parents. They will say something to me and it triggers off my anger and I snap, cry and go over the top yelling and my heart starts pounding and I can feel my body shaking and I get extremely anxious amidst my anger. I hate the person I am becoming. I'm also engaged to be married in December this year, the stresses of planning that, studying plus running my own business are all getting the better of me. My relationship with my family is crap and I don't feel like I can talk to them about this without them catagorizing me as being psychotic; Mum actually said something related to that the other day and I got very upset about it. Any advice or response would be great, I feel so down about it all.</p>\n<p>Thanks, </p>\n<p>Emily.</p></div>", "date": "21-06-2013", "url": "https://forums.beyondblue.org.au/t5/anxiety/this-is-my-first-step-help/td-p/61290" }, { "author": "user-id/17014", "content": "<p>I had/Have Exactly the same thing, Weed is the worst thing for it i know you said that you used to smoke and i went through the exact same situation as you, i have been struggling with Anxiety for about 15 years now and it feels like the worst thing to live with, Exercise, Not drinking (hang overs are the worst of anxiety) meditation. and also look in to CBT  (cognitive behavior therapy) That did work for me....Also after all these years just talking your self out of it does help. </p>\n<p>Sorry i cant be more of use!!  </p></div>", "date": "21-06-2013", "url": "https://forums.beyondblue.org.au/t5/anxiety/this-is-my-first-step-help/td-p/61290" }, { "author": "user-id/22880", "content": "<p>Hi Emily</p>\n<p>I have had similar experiences with anxiety brought on by marajuana use as a teen. I have read and am continuing to read a book which is about the CBT as mentioned by Shifte. If you look up \"Change Your Thinking\" on google you should find it. It was reccomended to a friend of mind by a counsellor and I have found it very useful aswell. It was about $30 and was just at my local bookshop.</p>\n<p>Best wishes</p>\n<p>kady</p></div>", "date": "23-06-2013", "url": "https://forums.beyondblue.org.au/t5/anxiety/this-is-my-first-step-help/td-p/61290" } ]

[ { "author": "user-id/5091", "content": "<p>Hi all im new here and seeking advice i have been diagnosed with anxiety for about 8 years and been on meds ever since.I have been having problems sticking to a goal like consistent exercise and have been putting on weight for years.I was a good trainer and was very athletic prior to 1. glandular fever 2. chronic fatigue 3. Depression then 4. anxiety,i still seem to be a good trainer but i cant seem to stick to it.If i look back over a few years i have started many types of exercise programs and clubs and always start strong but just seem to slowly back out.This alone makes me anxious.Is this just me or is this common with people with anxiety.</p>\n<p>I also have a job that is quite stressful and find when the pressure is on i become withdrawn very tired and loose interest in most things, hopefully someone on here can help.</p></div>", "date": "13-06-2013", "url": "https://forums.beyondblue.org.au/t5/anxiety/new-to-site-need-some-advice/td-p/54681" }, { "author": "user-id/27951", "content": "<p>Hey there</p>\n<p>Sorry to hear about your struggles. I hope you can find the strength and motivation to carry on, in spite of everything.</p>\n<p>As a fellow anxiety sufferer, I use the gym as a means of keeping my mental health in check. Ironically enough, late last year the gym itself became a cause of my anxiety. My trainer gave me a new fitness program which I slowly began to realise was beyond me, but I couldn't find the courage to tell him so. Most of the time I ended up lying on the floor of the toilet cubicles at the gym gasping for breath, fighting nausea and the urge to throw up. I convinced myself that my only options were to keep doing the program or quit the gym altogether. </p>\n<p>Eventually I got my program changed, and alternated my gym routine with other types of exercise, like shooting basketball hoops and going for long walks. At the moment I'm on a very simple cardio program which I've put together myself. It's far less stressful and I only do as much as I can, while still trying to push myself so I get the exercise I need. It's about finding balance I guess. </p>\n<p>I'm sure you can relate to the fact that sometimes it's incredibly hard to get motivated to do exercise. I catch the bus to and from work, and the gym is about 4 stops away from the stop closest to my house. So many times I have almost talked myself out of getting off at the \"gym stop\", running through excuses in my head. Often it's a case of just dragging myself off the bus and up to the gym. Most of the time, no matter how exhausted I am, a workout gives me the strength an alertness to get through the evening, do what I have to do before bed and then wind down before sleeping.</p>\n<p>So ... maybe the normal types of exercise programs and clubs aren't really for you? Have you tried/considered a team sport (basketball, soccer, touch footy, etc), or maybe tennis or squash? Or perhaps jogging with a friend or mountain biking?</p>\n<p>Hope this has been at least somewhat helpful. All the best.</p></div>", "date": "18-06-2013", "url": "https://forums.beyondblue.org.au/t5/anxiety/new-to-site-need-some-advice/td-p/54681" }, { "author": "user-id/5860", "content": "<p>Hello Adman,</p>\n<p>Yes this process of gradual withdrawal is very common, and it's correlated with anxiety and depression, but they may not be the cause. </p>\n<p>Thereis a reward process in the brain that runs on dopamine. When we achieve something that shows obvious and immediate benefits, we feel good about it and are motivated to repeat it in the future. Exercise does have many benefits, but they are neither obvious nor immediate, so there's no dopamine and no motivation. </p>\n<p>Ask someone to use \"classical conditioning\" on you, pairing exercise with something you love which offers obvious and immediate rewards. As long as that conditioning is maintained you'll be fitter than ever in no time.</p>\n<p>For research purposes, Wikipedia or web search for \"Pavlov's Dogs\".</p></div>", "date": "18-06-2013", "url": "https://forums.beyondblue.org.au/t5/anxiety/new-to-site-need-some-advice/td-p/54681" }, { "author": "user-id/21948", "content": "<p>Stay strong friend, believe in Yourself as hard as that might feel! I found exposing my vulnerability to loved ones made a huge difference.</p></div>", "date": "19-06-2013", "url": "https://forums.beyondblue.org.au/t5/anxiety/new-to-site-need-some-advice/td-p/54681" } ]

[ { "author": "user-id/10060", "content": "Originally posted by: <strong>Chris </strong> on <strong>31 January 2013</strong><br><br>I've had ocd for several years.I've also got chronic fatigue syndrome (cfs) that keeps me at home and I'm agoraphobic.I'm being treated for all my health problems by an alternative health practitioner.I'm almost cured of ocd but I'm bored and lonely.\n\nHere's how ocd was affecting me:\nunable to change into clean/ or new clothes.\nunable to move things around my home\nunable to remove recyclables and rubbish from my home..\nunable to prepare food/cook food and eat food when I'm on my own.\nunable to clean out my fridge/freezer of all foods that have been there since ocd started.\nunable to shave my beard(I forgot to mention I'm a guy),trim my finger nails,trim my toenails,trim my hair (usual grooming\")\nunable to wash my clothes,linen,etc.\n\nThats the worst of ocd.(Now you know why I'm here.)\n\nThe good news is,the cfs has eased off a little,the ocd is almost gone and I feel better in my mind than I have for years.My overall wellbeing is very good considering I'm bored and lonely.I can do almost all of the things that ocd stopped me doing.\n\nEven though I've posted here a few times before I still havent found new friends. I'd really like some suggestions.\n\nThanks .\n\nChris.</div>", "date": "31-01-2013", "url": "https://forums.beyondblue.org.au/t5/anxiety/ocd-it-prevented-me-from-doing-things-here-s-my-story/td-p/55868/page/2" }, { "author": "user-id/35815", "content": "Thought I would add the fact that my latest issue is with the washing machine. my mother in-law purchased second hand clothes from an op-shop. She used the machine to wash these clothes and since then I am unable to go near the machine fearing the second hand clothes she bought may have touched the sides of the machine before hitting the bowl, or the lid, or any part of the machine potentially spreading an infectious disease ie: HIV ad Hepatitis.<br>\n<br>\nCan anyone offer at home therpay I can attept before my sessions begin?</div>", "date": "16-06-2013", "url": "https://forums.beyondblue.org.au/t5/anxiety/ocd-it-prevented-me-from-doing-things-here-s-my-story/td-p/55868/page/2" }, { "author": "user-id/10060", "content": "Originally posted by: <strong>Chris </strong> on <strong>31 January 2013</strong><br><br>I've had ocd for several years.I've also got chronic fatigue syndrome (cfs) that keeps me at home and I'm agoraphobic.I'm being treated for all my health problems by an alternative health practitioner.I'm almost cured of ocd but I'm bored and lonely.\n\nHere's how ocd was affecting me:\nunable to change into clean/ or new clothes.\nunable to move things around my home\nunable to remove recyclables and rubbish from my home..\nunable to prepare food/cook food and eat food when I'm on my own.\nunable to clean out my fridge/freezer of all foods that have been there since ocd started.\nunable to shave my beard(I forgot to mention I'm a guy),trim my finger nails,trim my toenails,trim my hair (usual grooming\")\nunable to wash my clothes,linen,etc.\n\nThats the worst of ocd.(Now you know why I'm here.)\n\nThe good news is,the cfs has eased off a little,the ocd is almost gone and I feel better in my mind than I have for years.My overall wellbeing is very good considering I'm bored and lonely.I can do almost all of the things that ocd stopped me doing.\n\nEven though I've posted here a few times before I still havent found new friends. I'd really like some suggestions.\n\nThanks .\n\nChris.</div>", "date": "31-01-2013", "url": "https://forums.beyondblue.org.au/t5/anxiety/ocd-it-prevented-me-from-doing-things-here-s-my-story/td-p/55868" }, { "author": "user-id/10060", "content": "Originally posted by: <strong>stephen</strong> on <strong>1 February 2013</strong><br><br>Hi Chris,\n\nI too suffer from OCD.\n\nWhat alternative treatments have you been trying? I am interested to hear as I haven't had much luck with anti-depressants.\n\nStephen</div>", "date": "01-02-2013", "url": "https://forums.beyondblue.org.au/t5/anxiety/ocd-it-prevented-me-from-doing-things-here-s-my-story/td-p/55868" }, { "author": "user-id/10060", "content": "Originally posted by: <strong>geoff</strong> on <strong>1 February 2013</strong><br><br>dear Chris, I know all the ramifications of how OCD controls our lives and how exhausting it is. I am wondering on whether meeting new friends is part of your OCD and also curious as to whether any other traits have now developed. Like if I try and stop a habit or ritual it has to be replaced by another one. I also understand that people who don't have OCD must think that we are crazy, well no we aren't it's just an illness that we have, and our thinking is the same as those that don't have it. If we are caught out they say 'you know that the door is locked, so why check on it again, it's stupid', or ' are you mental or something', that's why I hide it when doing it.\nHave a look at www.OCfoundation.org this may give you sites on where to meet people, or this one ' http://understanding_ocd.tripod.com/ocd_supportgroups.html.' I am also curious as to which one is the worst for you the OCD or the chronic fatigue syndrome, or are they on a par. Have alook at these sites and it give you some ideas. Good luck. Geoff.</div>", "date": "01-02-2013", "url": "https://forums.beyondblue.org.au/t5/anxiety/ocd-it-prevented-me-from-doing-things-here-s-my-story/td-p/55868" }, { "author": "user-id/10060", "content": "Originally posted by: <strong>Kathy</strong> on <strong>1 February 2013</strong><br><br>Hello Chris, do you suffer from Hoarding, the reason i ask is because you mention you are unable to remove recyclable items from the home. I think i have a touch of this also, I do not like letting go of my items, it is very cluttered in here, i need to spring clean. Best of luck Kathy</div>", "date": "01-02-2013", "url": "https://forums.beyondblue.org.au/t5/anxiety/ocd-it-prevented-me-from-doing-things-here-s-my-story/td-p/55868" }, { "author": "user-id/6342", "content": "<p>Hi Geoff and Kathy.</p>\n<p>This new forum makes it easier to see whats going on here.</p>\n<p> Wanting to meet new friends is something I need to do.I need new friends in my life.I'm alone too often.That in itself is causing me problems.Its not an ocd ritual or anything,its just life and its what I need. </p>\n<p>Kathy,the hoarding thing was a nightmare.I've since made progress and my home has been emptied of all rubbish and recyclables. Its very clean.</p>\n<p>Ocd seems like the computer virus for humans:its stops us doing things we want/need to do and makes us do things we dont want to do..Those rituals are a pain.</p>\n<p>I'll have a look at the ocdfoundation site you suggested.</p>\n<p>The ocd and what it did for me is the worst for me.Its all about lack of self care and hygiene.It cost a lot of money to live like that.I'm glad I've got a non medical practitioner as most of the ocd has gone.Still got some little things though.</p>\n<p>The chronic fatigue just means I lack real energy to do anything.I get puffed out easily if I'm not carefull.Cant go anywhere though.I'm at home at all times.Boredom and lonelyness are 2 major problems.</p>\n<p>Chris.</p></div>", "date": "03-04-2013", "url": "https://forums.beyondblue.org.au/t5/anxiety/ocd-it-prevented-me-from-doing-things-here-s-my-story/td-p/55868" }, { "author": "user-id/8236", "content": "<p>hi Chris, firstly I'm not too happy with this new profile, and I still believe that Beyond Blue should have asked the responders for helpful tips , there are some good points added but there are problems with it. I know that they have gone to a lot of trouble and that responders change all the time, but it's not as easy as the previous site.</p>\n<p>I like your comment that OCD is like a computer virus and how true that is. You seem to be progressing pretty well, especially by cleaning out your rubbish and that would have been exceptionally difficult to achieve. Practice some desensitisation  with regards to going out, like walk to the letterbox a few times until you feel comfortable, then walk to the end of the street, and slowly make yourself learn on how to progress, there's no time limit, just take your time. Once you can do this then teach yourself to go to the park, either early in the morning when no one is about, and then gradually change your time to when people maybe at the park. It's just a slow process and you do it until you feel OK. Geoff.</p></div>", "date": "04-04-2013", "url": "https://forums.beyondblue.org.au/t5/anxiety/ocd-it-prevented-me-from-doing-things-here-s-my-story/td-p/55868" }, { "author": "user-id/6342", "content": "Hi Geoff.Chronic fatigue syndrome isnt a fear thing.Its not an anxiety disorder.Its a seperate illness.It doesnt work the way you think.You dont desensitise to it.I wont explain it here.I'll save that for when I'm in the various cfs/me support groups.Those of us with it understand it.</div>", "date": "13-04-2013", "url": "https://forums.beyondblue.org.au/t5/anxiety/ocd-it-prevented-me-from-doing-things-here-s-my-story/td-p/55868" }, { "author": "user-id/8236", "content": "dear Denv12, I know that it's a seperate illness, I was only referring to whether Chris's OCD was as bad as his chronic fatigue syndrome, that is 50% for OCD and 50% for chronic fatigue syndrome thus making it a par an equal amount and the desenitisation certainly won't work for CFS, but it can possibly work for OCD. Geoff.</div>", "date": "15-04-2013", "url": "https://forums.beyondblue.org.au/t5/anxiety/ocd-it-prevented-me-from-doing-things-here-s-my-story/td-p/55868" }, { "author": "user-id/32175", "content": "<p>Hi Chris,</p>\n<p>You mentioned you have made progress on the hoarding (Well Done!!).  How did you manage this, do you have any tips for someone who is feeling completely over whelmed?  </p>\n<p> </p></div>", "date": "25-04-2013", "url": "https://forums.beyondblue.org.au/t5/anxiety/ocd-it-prevented-me-from-doing-things-here-s-my-story/td-p/55868" }, { "author": "user-id/35815", "content": "<p>Hello, everybody. I am a 23 year old woman who has experienced OCD as a child and brief hoarding. Looking back I should have known I would be prone to difficulties as an adult. Although I never paid too much attention to rituals as they didn't affect my everyday life until a month ago. I started battling anxiety about 2.5 years ago and experienced a real rough patch for about 4 months these concerns mostly surrounded health. I did seek therapy without medication and eventually I overcame most of the issues that prevented me from functioning properly. </p>\n<p> </p>\n<p>About 4 weeks ago OCD proved it was here to stay. Chris, I am experiencing everything you described with my biggest issue being contamination. I go days without eating and drinking. I can’t wash my clothes because I just can’t get it right.</p>\n<p> My fears surround HIV and Hepatitis. Logically I am at no risk for either, based on the fact that I am in a long term monogamous, stable relationship, I do not do drugs and I am not a part of the party scene. It’s affecting my relationship with my partner because I am unable to do certain things I used to do, so he’s left with all the tasks to run the household. We’re both very unhappy. </p>\n<p>I used to take pride in my appearance and the cleanliness of my home. Due to a lack of motivation I don’t bother with anything anymore. I spend my days stressing about which clothes I can and can’t wear, I just can’t wear certain clothes because that little voice in my head won’t let me. I fear that if I walk through the street or a park I will step on a syringe and spend hours checking the bottom of my shoes and soles. </p>\n<p>I know OCD is considered the ‘doubters disease’ and I don’t think any description could be truer. I second guess everything, even though my eyes see one thing, my mind will not accept any attempts to convince myself. As a result I have become depressed. I cry every day. </p>\n<p>I’ve distanced myself from my family and I am not seeing them as regularly. Good news is therapy will commence this weekend. I cried as I read your post, for a brief minute I was happy knowing that somebody who had doubts like me has been able to better himself. It helps me believe there’s a chance for recovery. </p>\n<p>Thank you.  I really hope therapy will help me. I’m losing the will to live, it’s too much to handle. </p></div>", "date": "13-06-2013", "url": "https://forums.beyondblue.org.au/t5/anxiety/ocd-it-prevented-me-from-doing-things-here-s-my-story/td-p/55868" } ]

[ { "author": "user-id/22226", "content": "<p>Hi my name is Heather and I am new to the site.  I have suffered with anxiety and had a number of Panic attacks during the past seven years - and prior to Fridays attack, it was a year and a half ago since my last attack, and I thought I was doing so well.  I managed to control this recent attack but today I am feeling severe weakness and experiencing strong chest pain and jitters... I really hate this.  </p>\n<p>It has affected my life... my marriage - it has controlled me... I am claustrophobic, afraid of lifts and at the moment planes etc etc. </p>\n<p>Over the years I have attended a mindfulness course and counselling which has supported me and has taught me how my mind works and how to deal, how to meditate and how to recover.  I am so happy to find this site - thank you Beyondblue -  I am not alone.</p>\n<p>I am desperately seeking a way to overcome these attacks and to live a normal life again.  </p>\n<p>I really look forward to sharing experiences and achievements.</p>\n<p>Heather </p></div>", "date": "09-06-2013", "url": "https://forums.beyondblue.org.au/t5/anxiety/anxiety-panic-attacks-is-this-condition-curable/td-p/52108" }, { "author": "user-id/8236", "content": "<p>dear Heather, feeling claustrophobic is a scary illness, I am just wondering whether or not you have other OCD tendencies, and these mindfulness courses can try and control these thoughts.</p>\n<p>Anxiety does cause this OCD, but not everybody develops this illness from it, and I would be very interested in these courses if you do have this illness. L Geoff. x</p></div>", "date": "11-06-2013", "url": "https://forums.beyondblue.org.au/t5/anxiety/anxiety-panic-attacks-is-this-condition-curable/td-p/52108" }, { "author": "user-id/22226", "content": "<p>Thank you for your feedback Geoff,</p>\n<p>Its kind of strange, I have had claustrophobia all of my life - I encountered this initial\nfear when I was a young child after being locked in cupboard by the\nbabysitter, followed by a another event of being locked behind the main\nschool entry door a few years later.  </p>\n<p>I have done lots of researching and reading over the weekend, and on reflection, I do now believe that I suffer from anxiety and that I am at times highly strung, so to speak - instead of having the 'odd panic attack'.  I kind of found it impossible to accept, until now that I have suffered from anxiety for most of my life.  I felt that my life has been closing in on me over the past seven years due to a frozen shoulder that took over four years to heal, caused by a traumatic experience where I had to fight to get out, this is when the fear really developed and my OCD has taken over.  I never realized that claustrophobia was an OCD. </p>\n<p>I realize now that this has just brought everything to the surface and I now have to learn how to overcome it and become in control of it.</p>\n<p>Thank you for your support regarding mindfulness, I do know that it is very effective - you just have to be persistent and aware of what is happening and have an action plan in place.  I have gone through life believing that nothing can ever cure my claustrophobia... I am now starting to believe that there is hope.</p>\n<p>My husband wants us to sell up everything and travel Australia by motor-home within the next 12 to 18 months for an unlimited period of time, but I get butterflies when I think about it in detail, leaving everything behind and taking risks.  I mean - what a wonderful way to experience Life - and I am so scared of it!  I am embarrassed to tell him right now because I dont want to affect his life.</p>\n<p>Thank you </p></div>", "date": "11-06-2013", "url": "https://forums.beyondblue.org.au/t5/anxiety/anxiety-panic-attacks-is-this-condition-curable/td-p/52108" }, { "author": "user-id/8236", "content": "<p>dear Heather, there is a possible way to overcome claustrophobia, which would be good for you, because not every part of OCD can be cured, it may improve if you do courses, the problem is once this course stops we just go back to our old ways, it's like a magnetic.</p>\n<p>The way to overcome claustrophobia is by using the word I love, desensitization, and if you google it it will explain on methods of how to do it, but I think that you would the assistance from a psychologist to achieve this.</p>\n<p>I have seen 'friends' who have been terrified of spiders, couldn't go into the house if they knew one was in there, now they have have no problem, out with the mortein can and spray away. </p>\n<p>The fear of leaving home and leaving everything behind in your case is another OCD trait, because I have exactly the same feeling.</p>\n<p>There are other people who have the same fear, and they don't have OCD, but in your case as well as mine it's related to this illness, doesn't seem to make sense does it, but I know myself it's my OCD. L Geoff. x</p></div>", "date": "12-06-2013", "url": "https://forums.beyondblue.org.au/t5/anxiety/anxiety-panic-attacks-is-this-condition-curable/td-p/52108" } ]

[ { "author": "user-id/15001", "content": "<p>Really often in the week, I get these chest stricken feeling that I need to get home or I desperately need to be home. The thing is that I get these feelings when I AM at home.</p>\n<p>Sometimes I get it so strongly, that I get teary, stumble around and find it hard to breathe. Thoughts that 'I'm getting this feeling because something bad's going to happen' pass through my mind.</p>\n<p>I never get homesick when I am overseas or anything, so it's really weird. When I get it in the mornings, I feel so shitty for the rest of the day. My problems become more worrying to me and I can't concentrate on anything. </p>\n<p>I've tried googling this, and many people say its a panic attack, or an anxiety attack, or possibly a heartburn? <br>\nI really don't want to go to a GP or anything, because I don't want to make this a big deal for family and friends. I have school and work as well.. I don't know what to do</p></div>", "date": "15-07-2013", "url": "https://forums.beyondblue.org.au/t5/anxiety/homesick-at-home/td-p/72600" }, { "author": "user-id/39444", "content": "<p>Definitely sounds like a panic/anxiety attack to me.  It might be possible for heartburn to induce \"something bad's going to happen\" and \"I need to get home\" feelings, but that sounds much less likely to me than a panic attack.  And actually, the hypothetical example that comes to mind for heartburn inducing those feelings is that of the person already having some anxiety issue in the first place.</p>\n<p>If there's no obvious recent stressor that's appeared in your life that you can point to, I sure would consider the GP.  I think it's only a big deal if someone makes it a big deal.  You surely know at least a few people who've been to a psych, although it might not be public knowledge.  You go to Bunnings to buy some screws, a bird bath, and some WD40.  It's not a big deal.  You simply can't manufacture your own bird baths as easily as you can go to Bunnings.  Same with buying tomatoes from the grocery store for use in dinner tonight, instead of the much more involved process of starting a garden, waiting for the tomatoes to grow, and inventing a time machine so you can come back to tonight with the tomatoes.  Similarly, you go to a doctor or psych or whatever to figure out this kind of stuff.  Stuff often becomes a bigger deal when you leave it and pretend it'll fix itself.<br>\n<br>\nThere are breathing exercises, lines of internal dialogue you can have with yourself, and other techniques that can help while you're in the middle of an attack.  Google will have these.</p></div>", "date": "15-07-2013", "url": "https://forums.beyondblue.org.au/t5/anxiety/homesick-at-home/td-p/72600" }, { "author": "user-id/22980", "content": "<p>Hi Thaolam</p>\n<p>You may be suffering Anxiety, it certainly sounds that way anyway.</p>\n<p>As a lifelong sufferer myself, I know first hand how frightening it is, but I also know it can be managed. Go and have a talk to someone. No-one else needs to know, other than yourself until you feel comfortable enough to seek added support from family and friends. It really will help, or at the very least, help you understand what you are dealing with. Best of luck.</p></div>", "date": "19-07-2013", "url": "https://forums.beyondblue.org.au/t5/anxiety/homesick-at-home/td-p/72600" }, { "author": "user-id/21739", "content": "<p><strong>\"I really don't want to go to a GP\".  =  I am not important.<br>\n</strong></p>\n<p>Dear thaolam,</p>\n<p>Anxiety is a legitimate illness.   It can lead to depression or other mental health conditons, even, if everything spirals out of control, suicide.</p>\n<p>I would say a GP can advise or give you some meds to assist short term.  If it's a long term problem then some counselling to look at your life situation and stresses would be desirable.  For work and sick days the word \"stress\" is often used to avoid triggering the Spanish Inquisition about being \"mental\".    The way you want to keep up the work and school seems to indicate you want to minimise the problems with your health.   This is just human bloody mindedness !</p>\n<p>It's commendable to \"soldier on\" but, really, your body is telling you something so I wouldn't play it down.   You are allowed to make this <strong>\"a big deal for family and friends\"</strong>.   That's what they are there for.   You don't think someone close to you has noticed a change ?   People are pretty perceptive these days.   I can even tell when my wife's been to the hairdressers.  Lol.  The catch cry \"Why didn't you say something ?\" can be heard across Australia as family play catch up with seriously ill members.  Unless you are lucky enough to have parents that work in the psychic business you probably have to spell it out for them.</p>\n<p>Adios, David.</p></div>", "date": "20-07-2013", "url": "https://forums.beyondblue.org.au/t5/anxiety/homesick-at-home/td-p/72600" } ]

[ { "author": "user-id/6190", "content": "<p>I am anxious about so much, my work, my relation with my partner (even though we're fine, great actually) how much I want to change my mother because she is where all this anxiety has built up from. 21 years of total anxiety. But now that anxiety has turned to me just getting angry, I'm furious about stupid things these days. For example, when I'm eating and the cat reaches its paw close to my food, I flip out, screaming and get so desperate to kill the cat. All because he put his paw near my food. It's cant be normal. I don't know what going on, I'm so confused. I feel angry all the time and anxious that everything will fall to pieces if I don't have control.</p>\n<p>what do you think?</p></div>", "date": "17-07-2013", "url": "https://forums.beyondblue.org.au/t5/anxiety/confused/td-p/73392" }, { "author": "user-id/8236", "content": "<p>dear Shannon, something tells me that you may have OCD which is developed through anxiety.</p>\n<p>Your last sentence which says ' I feel angry all the time and anxious that everything will fall to pieces if I don't have control.'</p>\n<p>If I am wrong then I will approach it from another angle. Geoff. </p>\n<p> </p></div>", "date": "18-07-2013", "url": "https://forums.beyondblue.org.au/t5/anxiety/confused/td-p/73392" } ]

[ { "author": "user-id/41043", "content": "<p>I'm recently going thru a stressful time medically. I've had to have surgery. And of course it takes time to heal! My anxiety and depression has gone. Thru the roof ! I'm stressing and freaking out I have stressful thoughtsvthat it won't heal although my doctors have reassured me that the tissue will take time! But I'm suffering from all this anxiety I'm having trouble trying to control it I just dnt know what to do where to turn to help me thru this' on top of ll this my bf has decided he needs a break and isn't hear to support me! How so I stop my mind from all these negative thoughts? I've ha depression for 8 years or so on and off <span class=\"lia-unicode-emoji\" title=\":disappointed_face:\">😞</span></p></div>", "date": "15-07-2013", "url": "https://forums.beyondblue.org.au/t5/anxiety/need-to-be-positive-help/td-p/72665" }, { "author": "user-id/5860", "content": "Post-surgical therapy should be available through the medical service you have used, and should have hand-picked specialists for their field to help people recover psychologically from the trauma of surgery.</div>", "date": "16-07-2013", "url": "https://forums.beyondblue.org.au/t5/anxiety/need-to-be-positive-help/td-p/72665" }, { "author": "user-id/38637", "content": "<p>Hi Jen Jen ..</p>\n<p>Can totally relate to what you feeling...... I had never had surgery or even bot een to hospital for 47 years until I decided to have sleep apnoea surgery..Although I had it wll thoroughly explained to me.... I took it very lightly not really expecting a big deal............until I woke up. They had taken my tonsils out....trimmed my uvula...and took a piece out of the back of my tongue.... I woke up after 24 hours in an induced coma in agony and sat in high dependence for 5 days with even sipping water agony.... Anyway kiddo ....I thought the same .....never gonna heal...its gonna swell and I wont breathe..what made it worse was I couldn't see what was happening so was sure it wasn't healing /I even took myself to the ER as sure something was wrong but there never was...I had a torch down my throat all the time tryin to see what was happening.....anyway .... as sure as I was it was never gonna heal ...was gonna get worse ................. IT DID..  Yes ........ contact the medical service ..Pandora is absolutely right they have people that can help you. I was also lucky to have a great GP who would ring me regularly to see how I was going....he contacted the surgeon to tell him of my anxiety who then made an appt for me to see him and he put a camera down showing me how well it was healing etc. Just wanted to share that even though you sure just as I was ... it heals....and definitely follow Pandoras advice...........contact your GP / Surgeon and they can point you in right direction.</p></div>", "date": "17-07-2013", "url": "https://forums.beyondblue.org.au/t5/anxiety/need-to-be-positive-help/td-p/72665" }, { "author": "user-id/41043", "content": "<p>Hi thanks for replying ! I wasn't aware of that I am going to my doctors tonight shortly I will ask more info then ! I am also seeig my specialist on Monday ! This experience has really brought me to my knees I am usually alot stronger when facing hurdles in life ! Sometimes I think ending my life would be a easier option but then how is that a positive move?</p></div>", "date": "17-07-2013", "url": "https://forums.beyondblue.org.au/t5/anxiety/need-to-be-positive-help/td-p/72665" }, { "author": "user-id/41043", "content": "<p>Thank you for replying , yes it was also explained to me but yeah as I woke up and started post op recovery the pain has been intense and at the hospital I wasn't given all the info of what happened I was only told it went well and it healed ! I've been in touch with with specialist a few days later after my surgery and explained that he did a bit more work than initially needed!  I'm glad someone else has has has a similar experience e win tho it hasn't been a pleasant one !  I guess I mentally need to untie the knots! A few times  I wanted to go to the Er but I know they prob just sent me home with pain killers I'm seeing our family doctor tonight and hoping he can ease my mind and help with a direction  !  Because honestly I have never felt so weak in my life x</p></div>", "date": "17-07-2013", "url": "https://forums.beyondblue.org.au/t5/anxiety/need-to-be-positive-help/td-p/72665" } ]

[ { "author": "user-id/11436", "content": "<p>I'm 16 years old and I'm scared. Of what, I have no idea. </p>\n<p>The anxiety started in around October last year. The panic attacks and depression came later. I don't know what started it, the whole thing was sudden. I remember waking up one morning and feeling like I could barely breathe. I honestly thought I was having a heart attack and that I was dying. This didn't stop for another two weeks and during that time I think I made around 4 or 5 trips to the doctor and I went home from school early twice. I was so scared, especially since I'd heard that a 15 year old boy had died from a random breathing problem just a week before. </p>\n<p>The next two week period was better but I still had trouble breathing. The symptoms of barely being able to breathe came back for another two week after that. Ever since then, I've had a constant 'heavy' feeling in my chest. I started getting panic attacks in around February this year, and that's also when I started becoming depressed, mainly about school. I hate feeling depressed, I know there are so many other people out there that have nothing and yet they still smile, but I can't help it. </p>\n<p>A few of my teachers started to notice me getting distressed in class (when I'd have panic attacks) and told me to go see the councilor but I only get to see her once every 2 or 3 weeks because there's other girls that need to see her and she's only in on Mondays.</p>\n<p>Because my stress levels rise as it gets later at night, I find it really difficult to do my homework. I'm starting to fall behind in my VCE and I wish I could just leave, I hate it. If anything, I just want to be home schooled so I can get away from the people that go to my school. I feel invisible there and like I'm worthless.<span style=\"line-height: 1.38462; font-size: 0.8125em;\"> </span></p>\n<p>I just want my old life back. I used to be so carefree and now I feel like I'm trapped in my own body. </p>\n<p>Sorry, I know I write a lot but I really just needed to get this out.</p></div>", "date": "11-07-2013", "url": "https://forums.beyondblue.org.au/t5/anxiety/anxiety-is-taking-over-my-life/td-p/71245" }, { "author": "user-id/2248", "content": "<p>Hi I'm Scared,</p>\n<p>I won't pretend to be an expert on anxiety and depression, however I feel as though I can offer a bit of support because I am in a similar kind of situation. I am 16 as well and I have anxiety. I haven't had it as long as you, and I don't think I have depression, so I don't know exactly how you feel, but I do know, and can sympathise to a certain extent.</p>\n<p>I'll talk more about the anxiety part of it, because thats what I know more about. It is difficult! Very difficult! It is great that you are seeing a school counsellor, in fact it is good that you are hanging in there and you are still going to school. If you feel as though you're not able to see the school counsellor often enough, I think you should try and make an appointment to see a counsellor/occupational therapist or psychologist outside of school. I am currently seeing an occupational therapist and I've only had 2 sessions but I think it has helped a little, I certainly feel more comfortable going out, as I have a few techniques that I could try to help me get through anxiety/panic attacks. Out of those 3 options for people to see, I'm not sure which one would be able to give you the most help, that may be something to discuss with your GP.</p>\n<p>As for school, don't give up! I know just how hard it can be but just try your best. Don't give yourself too high expectations, just try your best. I posted something a few weeks ago and I'll share some of the advice I got. One was to see the movie \"After Earth\". I don't know whether you've seen it or not, but the underlying message of the movie is to control your fears and anxieties. It is a hidden message, and most people probably wouldn't have picked up on that unless they were told about it before hand or were looking for that message, but even if you have watched it, I think you should try watching it again. In one sense it won't help, because you don't have to literally run away from a monster chasing you and trying to kill you like Jaden Smith does, but you have to try and control your anxiety like he does, and while it's a movie, it shows that this is possible to achieve.</p>\n<p>Another piece of advice I got was to see someone, which you are doing, and that is great! As I mentioned earlier, consider seeing someone outside of school as well if you think thats right.</p>\n<p>And thirdly, you may have the option to split your VCE into 2 years. I'm not sure about that, as I'm from NSW so we do the HSC, but apparently we legally have up to 5 years to complete the HSC, so there may be something similar for you and your VCE.</p>\n<p>I know what you're going through and so do many others. I have panic/anxiety attacks as well. For me, I get extremely bad stomach aches/cramps, headaches, dizziness and my chest tightens up big time and my heart starts thumping very hard. I find it a little harder to breathe, and even if I'm starving I won't be able to eat.</p>\n<p>Just try not to give up. As clichy as that may sound, thats the best advice I can give. Whatever you decide you want to do with your life, just think that your future success will be even sweeter after you have overcome these problems! Just please hang in there. You seem like a very brave person to be able to come on here and share your story, so I believe in you! <span class=\"lia-unicode-emoji\" title=\":slightly_smiling_face:\">🙂</span></p></div>", "date": "14-07-2013", "url": "https://forums.beyondblue.org.au/t5/anxiety/anxiety-is-taking-over-my-life/td-p/71245" }, { "author": "user-id/6489", "content": "<p>I know where you are coming from, sweetie. This stuff can come from no where, you don't need something bad to happen to cause anxiety. The last reply you got bothered me for the simple fact that it is so far from that easy just to go to school, do your best and be ok. Because you're not ok, you're scared, and you're lost in a world you don't understand. It's impossible to concerntrate with all these thoughts of being affraid, of your class mates, and yourself. I am NOT going to tell you that things are going to get better soon and to keep going and hang in there, because it's not going to be easy and it's going to suck. But there is always a spark of hope. I truly believe that, though it may take a really freaking long time, that anxiety can be over come. You'll still get scared, and be worried about things, but there are coping devices that CAMHS and BB teach you to take yourself away from those thoughts and find ones that make you feel safer. Next time you're in class, and having an attack, try to think about something else, put your hand on the deck and feel that it's cold, smooth and just think about how it feels. Be mindful of things around you and notice things you wouldn't usually notice because you are stressed out about other things. Take yourself away from whats happening. It might not work instantly and you have to be open to thinking differently. All i can say to you is that, me? i can't leave the house on my own, i can't even go to woolies without getting nervous and having to leave. I know it's really scary and i know how terrifying it can get... but seriously, the best thing to do is the know that, even though i know it's hard to see in the short term, you WILL reclaim those days when you were free and happy.</p></div>", "date": "15-07-2013", "url": "https://forums.beyondblue.org.au/t5/anxiety/anxiety-is-taking-over-my-life/td-p/71245" }, { "author": "user-id/34029", "content": "I seriously when reading this felt like i wrote it myself! Im 16 as well in VCE and I'm sinking but im seeing a counsellor, but I am considering putting my VCE into two years because I dont want to blow it. I hope you feel better soon! <span class=\"lia-unicode-emoji\" title=\":slightly_smiling_face:\">🙂</span> I believe in you too</div>", "date": "15-07-2013", "url": "https://forums.beyondblue.org.au/t5/anxiety/anxiety-is-taking-over-my-life/td-p/71245" }, { "author": "user-id/31408", "content": "Hi,hang in there i'm 62 and have been suffering anxiety attacks for over  20 years it does get better at the moment i'm having a relapse so it's nice to talk to like minded people and I've made an appointment to see a health professional to get me back on track,don't do what I did and let the anxiety lay under the surface and think it's ok because doing nothing will only delay the inevitable and resurface when you least expect it so hang in there with your counsellor and good luck. </div>", "date": "16-07-2013", "url": "https://forums.beyondblue.org.au/t5/anxiety/anxiety-is-taking-over-my-life/td-p/71245" } ]

[ { "author": "user-id/32529", "content": "<p>I have always had personal space issues, even with my partner and daughter. I tend to get panicky if someone is in close or holds me and won't let go straight away....I don't go out of my way to touch people affectionately, unless I have had a few drinks. I worry about my daughter all the time and worry about who my partner talks to...insecurity at its best!</p></div>", "date": "14-07-2013", "url": "https://forums.beyondblue.org.au/t5/anxiety/are-personal-space-issues-part-of-anxiety/td-p/72090" }, { "author": "user-id/5860", "content": "Personal space issues are usually an aspect of insecurity, and insecurity is one of many types of anxiety.</div>", "date": "16-07-2013", "url": "https://forums.beyondblue.org.au/t5/anxiety/are-personal-space-issues-part-of-anxiety/td-p/72090" } ]

[ { "author": "user-id/40688", "content": "<p>At Easter, I finally came off an antidepressant after a number of years treatment of depression. I have a history of anxiety &amp; depression. Felt fine for over 2 months [I'd been reducing my dose from 3 mths previous to stopping], then, in  <strong><span style=\"line-height: 1.38462; font-size: 0.8125em;\">late July , </span><span style=\"line-height: 1.38462; font-size: 0.8125em;\">2 weeks  of a few abnormal stresses &amp; I feel like I've crashed. My symptoms are much more from Anxiety than depression, but what absolutely puzzles me is how I wake up with anxiety symptoms, struggle through the morning, but by early/mid afternoon they DISAPPEAR completely?!?!? </span></strong></p>\n<p>Overnight, when waking up in the middle of the night and from 6/7am to about 2/3pm daily, the tiniest thought will set off horrible anxiety for me. I also have the general buzz of anxiety going on constantly during this time too. After that time,eg; from 3 -11/12 pm I'm fine; I couldnt trigger any anxiety then if I tried.</p>\n<p>I know some people will read this &amp; think, 'wow, I wish I could guarantee an anxiety-free part of the day for me.' I have been there before myself, but my nights &amp; mornings are hell at the moment.</p>\n<p>Does anyone else suffer anxiety in this way/ or know [any links?] what the best way is to treat this type of anxiety?</p></div>", "date": "11-07-2013", "url": "https://forums.beyondblue.org.au/t5/anxiety/puzzling-timing-of-anxiety-symptoms/td-p/71188" }, { "author": "user-id/19477", "content": "<p class=\"MsoNormal\">Hi 1963,</p>\n<p class=\"MsoNormal\"> </p>\n<p class=\"MsoNormal\">My thoughts are that you could possibly be experiencing\nreflux that is triggering your anxiety. The symptoms of reflex vary but a tight\nchest and stomach pains similar to anxiety are common. I have reflux and\nanxiety so can speak from experience. My wife who does not suffer from anxiety\nstarted waking up in the middle of the night feeling anxious for no reason. She\nhas since been diagnosed with reflux and is using medicine now and the anxious wakings\nhave stopped.</p>\n<p class=\"MsoNormal\"> </p>\n<p class=\"MsoNormal\"><span> </span>Reflux is worse at\nnight because you are laying down and gastric fluid moves up the oesophagus\ncausing irritation. You don’t need to be experiencing acidic taste in your\nmouth to have reflux. Even if you are not waking at night reflux can effect\nyour quality of sleep. Being tired is one trigger for my anxiety. </p>\n<p class=\"MsoNormal\"> </p>\n<p class=\"MsoNormal\">When you get up in the morning gravity helps control the\nreflux and the symptoms slowly go away. This seems to fit in with the pattern <span> </span>you describe. <span> </span>By the end of the day you are fine but when\nyou go to bed the process starts over again.</p>\n<p class=\"MsoNormal\"> </p>\n<p class=\"MsoNormal\">Reflux is more common as people get older. From your loggin\n(1963) I’m guessing it you are 50 years old. I noticed my reflux around that\nage. Eating late at nigh and caffeine are also triggers. Reflux can be triggered\nby stress and anxiety. It can be a vicious circle. Get reflux wake up anxious.\nThe anxiety triggers more reflux and so on. One reinforces the other starting\nin either direction. </p>\n<p class=\"MsoNormal\"> </p>\n<p class=\"MsoNormal\">If you think this may be happening to you<span>  </span>I can only suggest you see your GP to have it\nsorted. They may also do blood tests for other things that can make you feel\nanxious. This will help rule out a physical cause for your anxious feelings.</p>\n<p class=\"MsoNormal\"> </p>\n<p class=\"MsoNormal\">I can only say that from my experience with anxiety getting\nprofessional (physiological or medical) help early is the way to go. If you are\nstruggling there is no point suffering any longer than is absolutely necessary.\nSometimes you can’t do it on your own.</p>\n<p class=\"MsoNormal\"> </p>\n<p class=\"MsoNormal\">Good Luck I hope you get things sorted out soon.</p>\n<p class=\"MsoNormal\"> </p>\n<p class=\"MsoNormal\">Cheers</p>\n<p class=\"MsoNormal\"> </p>\n<p class=\"MsoNormal\">Dean007</p></div>", "date": "12-07-2013", "url": "https://forums.beyondblue.org.au/t5/anxiety/puzzling-timing-of-anxiety-symptoms/td-p/71188" } ]

[ { "author": "user-id/40356", "content": "<p>I didnt think it was possible to have panic attacks 5 or 6 times daily...mine have always been maybe once a week or fortnight.</p>\n<p>Dont get me wrong Im very anxious most days at some point...</p>\n<p>I have been having panic attacks where I feel like a cant breath,or that its hard to breath...I take too many deep breaths as I feel like Im not getting enough oxygen ,then I start feeling dizzy or course..and then my chest starts feeling tight.</p>\n<p>I have allot going on in my life that I'm trying to work through...but these panic attacks are really scaring me.</p>\n<p>Does anyone else have troubled breathing when having panicking?</p>\n<p>It helps me knowing other people go though what I do.</p>\n<p>xxx</p></div>", "date": "02-07-2013", "url": "https://forums.beyondblue.org.au/t5/anxiety/panic-attacks-5-6-times-daily/td-p/67746" }, { "author": "user-id/5860", "content": "<p>Worriedrachael,</p>\n<p>breathing difficulties are among the top of the list of diagnostic criteria for panic attacks. </p>\n<p>This means that not all panic attacks include breathing difficulty, and not all breathing difficulty is because of panic attacks. It also means that breathing difficulty alone does not mean one is having a panic attack, or that a panic attack can be identified by the presence of breathing difficulty alone.</p>\n<p>Having said that, the presence of breathing difficulty strongly suggests a panic attack if no other obvious reasons present themselves. A very high percentage of panic attacks include breathing difficulty, and breathing difficulty can be used as an indicator of a panic attack in people who have had panic attacks in the past that include breathing difficulty.</p>\n<p>Your claim that the panic attacks are increasing in frequency is a concern. I would strongly suggest you consult your GP or psychologist ASAP to discuss changes to your medication and/or coping strategies for stress and anxiety. I would also suggest you ask them about the health risks associated with panic attacks, particularly heart health.</p></div>", "date": "04-07-2013", "url": "https://forums.beyondblue.org.au/t5/anxiety/panic-attacks-5-6-times-daily/td-p/67746" }, { "author": "user-id/30254", "content": "<p>Hello Rachael,</p>\n<p>I don't often have panic attacks, in fact I have probably had four in my entire course of Anxiety disorder (which is now a ten year epic, happy anniversary me!).  But when I am \"anxious\", or \"Anxious\" since it's not normal worry, I do have trouble breathing. </p>\n<p>I am the bloke in the \"My Name Is Anxiety\" campaign video who talks about \"the tightening of your chest\".  I feel as though I breathing only from my tubes, not my lungs, and even when I am not stressed or \"up\" I still don't feel as though I'm getting my money's worth from the air around me.</p>\n<p>It's really scary!  But yes, what you describe is \"normal\" in a panic attack or even in underlying anxiety (which I have).  Still, it's worth seeing your GP about it just to make sure it is panic and not something pulmonary and dangerous.  If you're not already doing it you might be able to see a Psychologist who can teach you some relaxation exercises to help you get your breathing back in order when you are panicked.</p>\n<p>It's not just you, and there are things you can do about it. <strong> <span class=\"lia-unicode-emoji\" title=\":slightly_smiling_face:\">🙂</span></strong></p>\n<p>Bless.</p></div>", "date": "04-07-2013", "url": "https://forums.beyondblue.org.au/t5/anxiety/panic-attacks-5-6-times-daily/td-p/67746" }, { "author": "user-id/39363", "content": "<p>Hello worried,  I have suffered from panic attacks from childhood, 60+ years.</p>\n<p>By doing my family history I discovered the illness was in my Maternal Grandmothers line. The trigger for me is an unexpected shock, a sever attack is very much like the heart attacks one sees on television, but as I have never had a heart attack I can't really compare. I actually faint because of the tightness in my chest &amp; the body just wont respond because the fear within is so great. (I have always called it a rigamortise attack because that is the effect of a full on attack for me)  What I found is a slight anxiety attack can bring about another then another &amp; within a couple of days one is becoming scared &amp; anxious of having another, shortness of breath is a symptom only, just as a headache is a symptom of a migraine but maybe a symptom of stroke or just lack of sleep. I know 3 people who when they become nervous have mild asthma attacks, then of course the asthma brings about a panic attack, so please follow up on your symptoms, find a GP who has time to listen &amp; is prepared to refer you on until an accurate diagnosis can be made, as a simple remedy will give you the freedom you deserve.   </p></div>", "date": "04-07-2013", "url": "https://forums.beyondblue.org.au/t5/anxiety/panic-attacks-5-6-times-daily/td-p/67746" } ]

[ { "author": "user-id/2248", "content": "<p>Hi, I'm Dan and I'm 16 years old.</p>\n<p>For as long as I can remember, my mum has been horrible towards me. She doesn't like me, she picks on me, she yells at me for literally no reason and blames me for everything. Basically, I cannot say anything around her (good or bad) without getting a negative reaction. I think she has depression and she sometimes admits it to try and get sympathy but when we encourage her to get help she says she's fine. My younger brother has autism and it has always been hard living with that. Up until about 7 or 8 weeks ago I had been fine. I had thought about seeing a counsellor but decided against it because I was coping well. Doing fairly well in school and in sport, and enjoying life. However I got sick and had to have an extended period of time off school. We were finally able to find part of the problem, but we think another part of my sickness was me having anxiety. I have always been kind of a perfectionist, and have worked hard at school. Its in my personality to worry a lot and be constantly thinking and I have tended to get nervous often in the past but have been able to keep myself calm. I think any anxiety I have, got a lot worse during the 6 or so weeks I was away from school as I had to stay home, with my awful mother, abusing me all the time. Sometimes I randomly get nasty headaches and even become dizzy. These can last anywhere between 60 seconds to all day. I get extremely sore stomachs, sometimes my whole abdomen area and again, that can be very up and down and come when I'm least expecting it. Also, over the last 3 days, I've felt at times my chest tightening up, my heart beating harder (I could really feel it pumping in my chest) and having a feeling in my throat as if I have to vomit. Sometimes I can be sitting there and not feel stressed out, not feel nervous or anxious about anything, yet I will still experience these pains. I'm not sure if any of them have been panic or anxiety attacks, its not as if I have fainted or anything like that. I am struggling to get back to school, I have been for 2 periods at a time for 3 days last week but even that is hard. Apart from my mum, and my brother and the problems I have to deal with there, school is always stressful as I'm in year 11 and I have missed a lot of school so catching up is going to be very hard. I am booked in to see a counsellor this Friday and have also told my year coordinator at school that I need to see the school counsellor, and I believe that I will be able to. Is there anything I can do in the meantime to help? I am considering using these \"rescue pastills\" that my younger sister uses as she gets nervous about catching the bus. For anyone that may not know, they are similar to a lolly and you chew them. Apparently they calm you down and have worked in my sister's opinion, but I wouldn't want to become dependent on them. Does anyone have any advice on this or other things to take or treatments to have to help? Any help is much appreciated and I thank you so much if you have read all of this!</p></div>", "date": "23-06-2013", "url": "https://forums.beyondblue.org.au/t5/anxiety/how-to-cope-with-anxiety/td-p/63102/page/2" }, { "author": "user-id/21739", "content": "<p>Dear Facetious,</p>\n<p>Being acknowledged or thanked is great ! Specially by old time responder Geoff.</p>\n<p> I guess high standards are only good for the ones setting them.   You know, even if you were seleced to be Superman in \"Man of Steel II\" the <strong>\"people in my [your] life\"</strong> would still be narky.</p>\n<p>Even if you saved the world.</p>\n<p>Adios, David.</p></div>", "date": "28-06-2013", "url": "https://forums.beyondblue.org.au/t5/anxiety/how-to-cope-with-anxiety/td-p/63102/page/2" }, { "author": "user-id/5860", "content": "<p>Unfortunately I believe you're point has an unacceptably high degree of accuracy. That may have read like an oxymoron. Sorry.</p>\n<p>I feel delusional. I know that, statistically speaking, it is virtually impossible for those people to accept me as I am. They have proven this point to me so many times, yet I resist. Why? Is it hope? I don't know.</p>\n<p>I already have trust issues. If I give up hope that my immediate family will one day accept me, it will set a dangerous precedent. I would most likely get healthier, building trust and confidence in the people left in my life, but would I feel regret and guilt for having rejected their attitudinal eccentricities as \"too hard.\" How can I expect to receive help and support despite my bad attitude if I won't tolerate theirs? How can I expect to receive, or accept in good conscience, support from anyone ever again?</p></div>", "date": "28-06-2013", "url": "https://forums.beyondblue.org.au/t5/anxiety/how-to-cope-with-anxiety/td-p/63102/page/2" }, { "author": "user-id/2248", "content": "<p>Hi Facetious,</p>\n<p>I agree with The Real David Charles, try not to worry too much about what others think, especially if they are always negative. I kinda feel like a hypocrite when<em> </em>I write that because I do the same sometimes. I think your post was great, it gave a lot of great information, and I will be taking your advice on the movie, as I'm going to see it tomorrow evening! </p>\n<p>I saw a counsellor yesterday, and it was the first session so it was more of a \"getting to know the problem\" kind of session, but my next one is in just under two weeks. I did get a bit of advice, to try and be physically active and to practice \"letting things go\" which I will try to work on. Thanks again to everyone for your help and support! Much appreciated <span class=\"lia-unicode-emoji\" title=\":slightly_smiling_face:\">🙂</span></p></div>", "date": "29-06-2013", "url": "https://forums.beyondblue.org.au/t5/anxiety/how-to-cope-with-anxiety/td-p/63102/page/2" }, { "author": "user-id/21739", "content": "Unconditioinal Love.</div>", "date": "29-06-2013", "url": "https://forums.beyondblue.org.au/t5/anxiety/how-to-cope-with-anxiety/td-p/63102/page/2" }, { "author": "user-id/5860", "content": "<p>This issue of peer pressure is a bulging can of worms. It seems small and simple and manageable, but yank that lid and snakes go flying in all directions.</p>\n<p>If one person says something one time that is negative, I can shrug it off. Easy.</p>\n<p>If one person is repeatedly negative, I can avoid or unfriend them. Easy.</p>\n<p>If an immediate family member says something repeatedly negative, I feel torn between keeping them as part of my support network for those times when they are helpful, and cutting them loose to avoid the times when they hurt me. It's a confusing internal conflict.</p>\n<p>If several people, including some family members, repeatedly say negative things, and they're all pretty much as helpful and harmful as each other, I get frustrated and angry. Who can I rely on to help me under which circumstances without causing more harm than help?</p>\n<p>You thought that would be a nightmare, right? now I'll introduce you to my world ...</p>\n<p>If almost everyone you know (excluding your psychologist, GP, and a few kind people here), were seriously mentally ill, most with undiagnosed conditions and a large dose of denial, and some were demanding of help with constant complaining, and others cope by becoming OCD control freaks, and others are all about isolation and helping/hating from a distance, and this plethora of beasts from Pandora's Box represented your support network, what would you do? This is EVERY member of my extended family that I know worldwide, and most of the people brave enough to be a Facebook friend till I post something that offends them. I can't trust anyone with anything because it's so confusing, but I've written it all down and had my psych read it and the only thing he keeps telling me is that I'm an excellent writer. I write because I have a poor memory, which comes from my mother's genetic side of the family, so half my family are really forgetful and feel ashamed. The other half expect brilliance, most have failed to achieve such standards which lowers confidence, and the few who succeed have a superiority complex which reinforces everyone else with disgust and inferiority.</p>\n<p>Ready for the Vaudeville moment? I am the only person in my family that freely admits mental illness. Their shame is so strong, and constantly negatively reinforced between them, that I have been alienated for admitting my weakness. Their denial is so strong that they don't want to know someone, even their own son, that reminds them that they are also ill.</p>\n<p>Now you know why I chose my screen name Facetious. The situation is so absurdly dysfunctional whenever I think of this I am at first depressed, but then I see the humour, and I realise how easily I could become an assistant scriptwriter for Home and Away or Neighbours.</p>\n<p>You're thinking it couldn't possibly get any worse than this, right? The source of my anxiety is completely unrelated and unconnected to any of this, and I've written 50 pages on it (which wouldn't fit on here). In short, things are going to get much harder, and they will continue to get harder till I won't have to worry about how to commit suicide. This is a rare form of paranoia which isn't even covered in the DSM-V. What happens when a conspiracy theorist broadcasts finding a real, genuine conspiracy? They have no credibility so, even if they present irrefutable evidence, it is usually ignored.</p>\n<p>Welcome to hell. Jump right in, the water is warm.</p></div>", "date": "29-06-2013", "url": "https://forums.beyondblue.org.au/t5/anxiety/how-to-cope-with-anxiety/td-p/63102/page/2" }, { "author": "user-id/2248", "content": "<p>Hi Facetious,</p>\n<p>I am extremely sorry to hear that. I thought my life was hard, and I suppose to a certain extent, and in comparison to what society expects as \"normal\", my life is hard. But I couldn't even begin to imagine, let alone understand what you are going through. All I can tell is that saying life is hard for you in an under-statement. You are going through hell, and by the sounds of it, have been for a very long time. I am only 16, and I certainly wont pretend to be an expert in the field of mental health, and therefore I'm sorry, I cannot give you any advice, certainly no advice that the psychologist wouldn't have already given you.</p>\n<p>From some of your other posts, you seem like a pretty intelligent person, you know a lot of information and you are a very good writer. It is good that you can see you are a good writer as well. These two qualities mean that you definitely can have a bright career, as being a good writer and being very knowledgable would surely have to be two qualities well sort after. I'm not sure if you are employed, and if so what your occupation is or what your interests are, but you can be a success!</p>\n<p>You also seem like a very kind and caring person. You care about those closest to you, even when they hurt you, and you also care so much about complete strangers on this website. </p>\n<p>Your situation is very very very very hard, but all I'm going to say is please don't give up. I believe there is always hope, and there is no exceptions to that. You are not alone! You may think no one understands, and no one else feels what you do, but there are people that care about you and want you to be okay. I'm sure your family, despite their mental illnesses, care for you, they just can't always show it. Please don't give up, and try not to get to a suicidal stage. You seem like an incredible person, and indeed you are, if not for anything else, than just for putting up with what you have to in life. Plus you have talents, and you're a nice person! Please hang in there, things will get better! <span class=\"lia-unicode-emoji\" title=\":slightly_smiling_face:\">🙂</span></p>\n<p> </p></div>", "date": "30-06-2013", "url": "https://forums.beyondblue.org.au/t5/anxiety/how-to-cope-with-anxiety/td-p/63102/page/2" }, { "author": "user-id/2248", "content": "<p>Hi Facetious,</p>\n<p>I am so sorry to hear that. I thought my life was hard, and to a certain extent it is, but I can't begin to imagine, let alone understand what life must be like for you. I am not an expert in the field of mental health and I won't pretend to be, and therefore I'm sorry, I can't give you any advice, certainly no better advice than what your GP or Psychologist would be able to give you.</p>\n<p>However, I can observe from your post and other posts that you are an intelligent person. You are very knowledgable and smart. You are also a good writer, that is clear, and it is good that you know that as well. You are also a very kind and caring person. Despite all of your problems and everything that you have to put up with, you still care about not hurting those closest to you, and you also try to help lots of complete strangers on this website. </p>\n<p>I believe you have 3 very very good qualities, and if anyone can get through these hard times and live a life in which they are content, than it would be someone like you, with the qualities you possess. </p>\n<p>I believe that there is always a chance things will get better. Please never ever ever give up. A grim and distressing situation would be an understatement, and while you may believe that no one truly understands your situation, that doesn't mean that there aren't people that care and want to help. I'm sure your family do care about you, they just can't always show it, and your GP and Psychologist will do everything in their power and ability to help you. As well as that, you have the support of everyone on these forums on this website. </p>\n<p>I'm not going to pretend I know everything, and I'm not in a position to give you advice, but all I'll say is please just hang in there! Never give up! <span class=\"lia-unicode-emoji\" title=\":slightly_smiling_face:\">🙂</span></p></div>", "date": "01-07-2013", "url": "https://forums.beyondblue.org.au/t5/anxiety/how-to-cope-with-anxiety/td-p/63102/page/2" }, { "author": "user-id/5860", "content": "<p>Thanks Dan. I'm trying. Hey you too, eh? Hang in there mate.</p></div>", "date": "01-07-2013", "url": "https://forums.beyondblue.org.au/t5/anxiety/how-to-cope-with-anxiety/td-p/63102/page/2" }, { "author": "user-id/2248", "content": "<p>Sorry about the double post, I posted the original one last night and checked it earlier today but it wasn't up so I didn't think it went through and I wrote another one trying to remember what I'd said lol</p></div>", "date": "01-07-2013", "url": "https://forums.beyondblue.org.au/t5/anxiety/how-to-cope-with-anxiety/td-p/63102/page/2" }, { "author": "user-id/5860", "content": "<p>No worries mate. We live and learn, and all that jazz. Our stupid western culture has made making a mistake into a big deal, like \"how could you be so ignorant?\" and I'm always like \"Well if I don't know that I don't know, how could I possibly do otherwise than what I did?\" </p>\n<p>Usually shuts them up LOL</p></div>", "date": "02-07-2013", "url": "https://forums.beyondblue.org.au/t5/anxiety/how-to-cope-with-anxiety/td-p/63102/page/2" }, { "author": "user-id/2248", "content": "<p>Hi, I'm Dan and I'm 16 years old.</p>\n<p>For as long as I can remember, my mum has been horrible towards me. She doesn't like me, she picks on me, she yells at me for literally no reason and blames me for everything. Basically, I cannot say anything around her (good or bad) without getting a negative reaction. I think she has depression and she sometimes admits it to try and get sympathy but when we encourage her to get help she says she's fine. My younger brother has autism and it has always been hard living with that. Up until about 7 or 8 weeks ago I had been fine. I had thought about seeing a counsellor but decided against it because I was coping well. Doing fairly well in school and in sport, and enjoying life. However I got sick and had to have an extended period of time off school. We were finally able to find part of the problem, but we think another part of my sickness was me having anxiety. I have always been kind of a perfectionist, and have worked hard at school. Its in my personality to worry a lot and be constantly thinking and I have tended to get nervous often in the past but have been able to keep myself calm. I think any anxiety I have, got a lot worse during the 6 or so weeks I was away from school as I had to stay home, with my awful mother, abusing me all the time. Sometimes I randomly get nasty headaches and even become dizzy. These can last anywhere between 60 seconds to all day. I get extremely sore stomachs, sometimes my whole abdomen area and again, that can be very up and down and come when I'm least expecting it. Also, over the last 3 days, I've felt at times my chest tightening up, my heart beating harder (I could really feel it pumping in my chest) and having a feeling in my throat as if I have to vomit. Sometimes I can be sitting there and not feel stressed out, not feel nervous or anxious about anything, yet I will still experience these pains. I'm not sure if any of them have been panic or anxiety attacks, its not as if I have fainted or anything like that. I am struggling to get back to school, I have been for 2 periods at a time for 3 days last week but even that is hard. Apart from my mum, and my brother and the problems I have to deal with there, school is always stressful as I'm in year 11 and I have missed a lot of school so catching up is going to be very hard. I am booked in to see a counsellor this Friday and have also told my year coordinator at school that I need to see the school counsellor, and I believe that I will be able to. Is there anything I can do in the meantime to help? I am considering using these \"rescue pastills\" that my younger sister uses as she gets nervous about catching the bus. For anyone that may not know, they are similar to a lolly and you chew them. Apparently they calm you down and have worked in my sister's opinion, but I wouldn't want to become dependent on them. Does anyone have any advice on this or other things to take or treatments to have to help? Any help is much appreciated and I thank you so much if you have read all of this!</p></div>", "date": "23-06-2013", "url": "https://forums.beyondblue.org.au/t5/anxiety/how-to-cope-with-anxiety/td-p/63102" }, { "author": "user-id/25024", "content": "<p>Hey Dan,</p>\n<p>Thank you for sharing your story with us... You are an amazing young man who has enormous courage to seek help and advice not only for yourself but also for your family.  There is a whole lot going on with you right now and I know it must be very difficult to get your head around... YOU ARE NOT ALONE!</p>\n<p>Mum loves you... I know that may seem hard to believe at times, but she does despite her perceived negativity towards you.  Sometimes we lash out at the ones closest to us not to hurt them necessarily but simply because they are physically present.  I think it is great that you have suggested to Mum that she seeks a professional to explore whether there is depression, anxiety or some other mental health issue that may explain her behaviour.  Dan, you need to pursue this further... Are there other family members or friends of your Mum that could influence her to seek professional help?</p>\n<p>It is never easy when you are forced to take an extended period of time off school...You sound like you enjoy school and have worked hard - YOU SHOULD BE PROUD OF YOUR EFFORTS &amp; ACHIEVEMENTS!  I am a perfectionist myself so I fully understand what that's like but given your circumstances, don't be too hard on yourself!  I know that Yr 11 is an important year but remember that getting better is just as important.  Everyone experiences anxiety in some form throughout life... the symptoms you have described are not out of the ordinary for someone who is under stress or experiencing anxiety... The school counsellor may be able to provide you with some advice on different techniques that you can use just to relax particularly when you feel these symptoms coming on.  He/she will also be a great support for you as you return to school.  Remember to just be as open &amp; honest with the counsellor regarding what you're thinking and feeling because they're there to support you and help get you back on deck &amp; feel in control again.  Friends at school, trusted teacher/s or coaches can also be part of your support network...don't be afraid to let them in because they too care about you.</p>\n<p>Dan, you will get there... I BELIEVE IN YOU! A POSITIVE ATTITUDE &amp; OPEN COMMUNICATION WITH THE PEOPLE YOU TRUST IS GOING TO HELP YOU GET THERE!  Good luck buddy <span class=\"lia-unicode-emoji\" title=\":slightly_smiling_face:\">🙂</span></p>\n<p>Cheers BB13</p></div>", "date": "23-06-2013", "url": "https://forums.beyondblue.org.au/t5/anxiety/how-to-cope-with-anxiety/td-p/63102" }, { "author": "user-id/5860", "content": "<p>anxiety is in your mind. Rescue pastells are a form of homeopathy, and much like a placebo they will work if you believe they work.</p>\n<p>I strongly suggest going to the cinema ASAP. There is a film by M. Night Shyamalan and Will Smith called After Earth. The central concept of the film is about controlling anxieties. In the film there is a beautiful quote:</p>\n<p>\"Fear is not real. The <strong>only </strong>place that fear can exist is in our thoughts of the future. It is a product of <strong>our imagination</strong>, causing us to fear things that do not at present, and <strong>may not ever</strong>, exist. That is near insanity, Kitai. Now do not misunderstand me. Danger is very real; But fear is a choice.\"</p>\n<p><span style=\"line-height: 1.38462; font-size: 0.8125em;\">From the way you describe her, your mother represents a clear and present danger. Fear of a threat is not anxiety, it is danger, and abuse. Talk to your school counsellor, and <strong>record </strong>the conversation. Tell them everything and show them your post above, at the very least!! If they do nothing, take the recording to the police or child protective services. Ask your counsellor to help you with this. If they refuse they are in breach of several laws.</span></p>\n<p><span style=\"line-height: 14px; font-size: 11px;\">We are here to help you. If you run into ANY problem, come to us or call any of the numbers below:</span></p>\n<h3 style=\"font-size: 1.2em; color: #804000; margin-bottom: 0.5em; font-family: verdana, helvetica, arial, sans-serif;\" id=\"toc-hId-1158874937\">New South Wales</h3>\n<h4 style=\"font-size: 12px; color: #804000; margin-bottom: 0.5em; font-family: verdana, helvetica, arial, sans-serif;\" id=\"toc-hId-238924155\">Department of Family &amp; Community Services</h4>\n<p style=\"color: #332e29; font-family: verdana, helvetica, arial, sans-serif; font-size: 12px;\">Tel. 132 111</p>\n<p style=\"color: #332e29; font-family: verdana, helvetica, arial, sans-serif; font-size: 12px;\"><span style=\"line-height: 1.38462; font-size: 1.23077em; color: #009bc9;\">Victoria</span></p>\n<h4 style=\"font-size: 12px; color: #804000; margin-bottom: 0.5em; font-family: verdana, helvetica, arial, sans-serif;\" id=\"toc-hId-1126427836\">Department of Human Services</h4>\n<p style=\"color: #332e29; font-family: verdana, helvetica, arial, sans-serif; font-size: 12px;\">Tel. 131 278 (after hours emergency)</p>\n<p style=\"color: #332e29; font-family: verdana, helvetica, arial, sans-serif; font-size: 12px;\"><span style=\"line-height: 1.38462; font-size: 1.23077em; color: #009bc9;\">Queensland</span></p>\n<h4 style=\"font-size: 12px; color: #804000; margin-bottom: 0.5em; font-family: verdana, helvetica, arial, sans-serif;\" id=\"toc-hId-2013931517\">Department of Communities, Child Safety and Disability Services</h4>\n<p style=\"color: #332e29; font-family: verdana, helvetica, arial, sans-serif; font-size: 12px;\">Tel. (07) 3235 9999 or 1800 177 135 (after hours and weekends)</p>\n<p style=\"color: #332e29; font-family: verdana, helvetica, arial, sans-serif; font-size: 12px;\"><span style=\"line-height: 1.38462; font-size: 1.23077em; color: #009bc9;\">Western Australia</span></p>\n<h4 style=\"font-size: 12px; color: #804000; margin-bottom: 0.5em; font-family: verdana, helvetica, arial, sans-serif;\" id=\"toc-hId--1393532098\">Department for Child Protection</h4>\n<p style=\"color: #332e29; font-family: verdana, helvetica, arial, sans-serif; font-size: 12px;\">Tel. 1800 622 258<br>\na/h: (08) 9223 1111 or 1800 199 008</p>\n<p style=\"color: #332e29; font-family: verdana, helvetica, arial, sans-serif; font-size: 12px;\"><span style=\"line-height: 1.38462; font-size: 1.23077em; color: #009bc9;\">South Australia</span></p>\n<h4 style=\"font-size: 12px; color: #804000; margin-bottom: 0.5em; font-family: verdana, helvetica, arial, sans-serif;\" id=\"toc-hId--506028417\">\n</h4><p><strong>Department for Education and Child Development</strong></p>\n\n<p style=\"color: #332e29; font-family: verdana, helvetica, arial, sans-serif; font-size: 12px;\">Tel. 131 478 </p>\n<p style=\"color: #332e29; font-family: verdana, helvetica, arial, sans-serif; font-size: 12px;\"><span style=\"line-height: 1.38462; font-size: 1.23077em; color: #009bc9;\">Tasmania</span></p>\n<h4 style=\"font-size: 12px; color: #804000; margin-bottom: 0.5em; font-family: verdana, helvetica, arial, sans-serif;\" id=\"toc-hId-381475264\">Department of Health and Human Services</h4>\n<p style=\"color: #332e29; font-family: verdana, helvetica, arial, sans-serif; font-size: 12px;\">Tel. 1300 737 639</p>\n<p style=\"color: #332e29; font-family: verdana, helvetica, arial, sans-serif; font-size: 12px;\"><span style=\"line-height: 1.38462; font-size: 1.23077em; color: #009bc9;\">Australian Capital Territory</span></p>\n<h4 style=\"font-size: 12px; color: #804000; margin-bottom: 0.5em; font-family: verdana, helvetica, arial, sans-serif;\" id=\"toc-hId-1268978945\"><strong>Community Services Directorate</strong> </h4>\n<p style=\"color: #332e29; font-family: verdana, helvetica, arial, sans-serif; font-size: 12px;\">Tel. 1300 556 729</p>\n<p style=\"color: #332e29; font-family: verdana, helvetica, arial, sans-serif; font-size: 12px;\"><span style=\"line-height: 1.38462; font-size: 1.23077em; color: #009bc9;\">Northern Territory </span></p>\n<h4 style=\"font-size: 12px; color: #804000; margin-bottom: 0.5em; font-family: verdana, helvetica, arial, sans-serif;\" id=\"toc-hId--2138484670\"><strong>Office of Children and Families</strong></h4>\n<p style=\"color: #332e29; font-family: verdana, helvetica, arial, sans-serif; font-size: 12px;\">Tel. 1800 700 250</p>\n<p><span style=\"line-height: 14px; font-size: 11px;\">Beyond Blue: 1300 224 636</span></p>\n<p><span style=\"line-height: 14px; font-size: 11px;\">Police: 131 444</span></p>\n<p><span style=\"line-height: 14px; font-size: 11px;\">In a life threatening emergency, call 000. Do NOT hesitate!!!</span></p></div>", "date": "24-06-2013", "url": "https://forums.beyondblue.org.au/t5/anxiety/how-to-cope-with-anxiety/td-p/63102" }, { "author": "user-id/2248", "content": "<p>Thanks both of you for reading and your responses! I will definitely try to act upon the suggestions you've given and keep everything you've said in mind. Thanks!</p></div>", "date": "24-06-2013", "url": "https://forums.beyondblue.org.au/t5/anxiety/how-to-cope-with-anxiety/td-p/63102" }, { "author": "user-id/21739", "content": "<p>Dear Dan,</p>\n<p>Did anyone at school ever suggest splitting yr 12 over 2 years ?   My depressed son did this and the stress reduced considerably.   The only drawback being that friends move on (job / college / State member of Parliament / etc) and you don't get much social unless it's on the internet.   But it's a way to cope better.</p>\n<p>Legally, you have up to 5 years to complete HSC.</p>\n<p>You're doing well to cope with mum and an autistic brother whilst going through the HSC.   This is probably  a more valuable experience in life that any exam can offer.  Your skills for tolerance are pretty amazing for one so young. Add girls, sex interest, peer pressure and all your physical discomfort in the equation and I'm slightly amazed at the leisured pace of your post.    </p>\n<p>Today's Wed so you might read this update by Thur - a day before the School Counsellor session on Fri.  Do yourself a big favour and write down a couple of important things you want to discuss and take that to the school counsellor.  That way if you get anxious talking about your anxiety you will have something to fall back on (apart from all the contact details that helpful Facetious has given you).</p>\n<p>Being a perfectionist is great for creating art and music and spending 10,000 hrs, like Edison did, working on Electricity and where to put all those packed sandwiches his wife did for him with cheese and tuna in them.   Your anxiety might give you a pain in the stomach but unless you find a way to capitalise on these feelings and strive for the best result for yourself you will find it hard to be truly successful and therefore, in true Aussie mocking, be a brilliant pain in the neck.</p>\n<p>You are your choices [Satre].   There's another 70 years to embrace.</p>\n<p>Adios, David.</p>\n<p> </p></div>", "date": "25-06-2013", "url": "https://forums.beyondblue.org.au/t5/anxiety/how-to-cope-with-anxiety/td-p/63102" }, { "author": "user-id/2248", "content": "<p>Thanks for that David! I didn't actually know you had 5 years to do the HSC and I will definitely keep in mind the possibility of splitting it if the need arises. I've still got next term before my HSC officially starts. And I'll keep the rest of your advice in mind too, you're very helpful, thanks!</p></div>", "date": "26-06-2013", "url": "https://forums.beyondblue.org.au/t5/anxiety/how-to-cope-with-anxiety/td-p/63102" }, { "author": "user-id/21739", "content": "<p>Dear Dan,</p>\n<p>That 2 year split had a particular name and I tried asking my son to check it out but he is depressed at the moment and not 100%.   Look, even if you split 4 main subjects into 2 a year it's gonna give you some brain space.  Your Year Co-ordinator only has to fill in a form and explain it to your parents.   If you get into trouble try and make a comprehensive decision.  If you don't get into trouble then try dating Mary Anne instead of Sabrina.   Have a laugh my man.  Be crazy.</p>\n<p>Let's go into the future and place you as 25 yrs old, married to Taylor Swift and you've just won a contract to handle the Branson Mars Day Trip programme.  Do you really think your HSC mark will matter at that stage ?   That anyone will say \"mmm, Dan,  I see you only got 92.5% on the ATAR instead of the required 92.8%\".  Off with your head.   Cos, the long term perspective on life will greatly reduce you anxiety.  Even if being married to Taylor Swift won't.</p>\n<p>Adios, David.</p>\n<p>PS   You should be fine as you have the balls to communicate.  Try not to get caught up in the importance of HSC.    You want to do well but you want to enjoy your life too.   Tell your parent the BB advice is to let yourself get drunk at least ONCE before the big exam.   This was my college professors advice when I was studying music at London University back in 81-84.    Enter the dinosaur..........the point is you need some balance.  All work and no play means Jack is a Tax Accountant.  You are very, very young.  Don't lose that energy on worry.</p></div>", "date": "26-06-2013", "url": "https://forums.beyondblue.org.au/t5/anxiety/how-to-cope-with-anxiety/td-p/63102" }, { "author": "user-id/12596", "content": "<p>Hi Dan</p>\n<p>you described what sound like panic/anxiety attacks to me and the stomach upsets can definitely be related to anxiety as well. I struggled for many years with stomach upsets and it was not until I got help for my anxiety that they settled down too. It is great that you are so proactive about seeing the school counsellor and another counsellor too, this will help you a lot. </p>\n<p><span style=\"line-height: 1.38462; font-size: 0.8125em;\">Good luck and do let us know how you get on <span class=\"lia-unicode-emoji\" title=\":slightly_smiling_face:\">🙂</span></span></p></div>", "date": "27-06-2013", "url": "https://forums.beyondblue.org.au/t5/anxiety/how-to-cope-with-anxiety/td-p/63102" }, { "author": "user-id/8236", "content": "<p>dear Facetious, great post with all this information.</p>\n<p>I wonder whether all of this could be put under 'get support', well done for all of your trouble. Geoff. </p></div>", "date": "27-06-2013", "url": "https://forums.beyondblue.org.au/t5/anxiety/how-to-cope-with-anxiety/td-p/63102" }, { "author": "user-id/5860", "content": "<p>G'day Geoff,</p>\n<p>Once again I am pleasantly surprised by how caring, encouraging, and appreciative some certain individuals can be in a place like this. I am extremely unfamiliar with being the recipient of such attention, and I'm feeling guilty for accepting it. I worry that I don't deserve such praise. The people in my life all have such high standards, and frequently tell me I'm letting them down, hurting them, disappointing them. </p>\n<p>I'm not worthy.</p>\n<p>I hate writing stuff like this, because I know it's not true. The perspective is completely irrational, purely emotional. The two sides are in conflict, and are generating tension between wanting to express how badly people have hurt me, but not wanting to hurt them in the process.</p>\n<p>I don't know how ....</p></div>", "date": "27-06-2013", "url": "https://forums.beyondblue.org.au/t5/anxiety/how-to-cope-with-anxiety/td-p/63102" } ]

[ { "author": "user-id/22593", "content": "<p>Hi everyone. </p>\n<p>i have posted before on here but i really just need to get something off my chest and need your advice. these last few years i have had these so called memories come to me of when i was young. They are not happy ones. i have a feeling i could have been possibly sexually abused when i was younger but i'm not 100% sure and i don't know what to do. in recent weeks i cannot stop thinking about it. it makes me sick to my stomach that it is a possibility and due to this my anxiety and depression have become a lot worse. i spent all day crying yesterday just thinking about how much easier it would be if i just went to sleep and never woke up. </p>\n<p>the more i think about it the more i feel it happened. i have these memories and i have always hated people touching me, i cant stand to look people in the eye. I've never had a boyfriend and i struggle with intimacy. i get distracted and cannot concentrate. i have had anxiety/depression for the last 7 years with no real trigger. it is effecting my life massively. i feel that i am always going to be alone and it really scares me. Please HELP!! i am going crazy.</p>\n<p> </p></div>", "date": "12-06-2013", "url": "https://forums.beyondblue.org.au/t5/anxiety/someone-please-help-me-feeling-trapped/td-p/54049" }, { "author": "user-id/5945", "content": "<p>Hi there,</p>\n<p>Thanks for your post and for sharing so bravely about what you are experiencing. You sound really distressed- have you talked to anyone about what is happening for you? If not, we'd really recommend finding a counsellor that you connect with. This would offer you a space to explore these memories and fears and the impact it is currently having on you with someone who can help you to do so in a way that feels manageable, safe, and contained. If you don't have a counsellor/therapist, you can ask for a referral from your GP. You can also call the beyondblue Support Line to find out about recommended services in your area: 1300 22 46 36. They are also really good to chat to if you are feeling particularly down and need some support to get through the day. We hope this helps- keep us posted with how you get on. </p>\n<p>Best wishes</p>\n<p>beyondblue moderation team</p></div>", "date": "16-06-2013", "url": "https://forums.beyondblue.org.au/t5/anxiety/someone-please-help-me-feeling-trapped/td-p/54049" }, { "author": "user-id/5860", "content": "<p>Try hypnotic regression therapy. Worked for me.</p></div>", "date": "01-07-2013", "url": "https://forums.beyondblue.org.au/t5/anxiety/someone-please-help-me-feeling-trapped/td-p/54049" } ]

[ { "author": "user-id/11706", "content": "<p>I'm going to keep it as simple as possible, because it even confuses me at times.</p>\n<p><br>\n</p>\n<p>I first started to have anxiety/depression when I went into year 8 (first year high school). I had little understanding of what a mental health problem was. I met my first ever person who has depression, and I'll admit that I was jealous because of all the sympathy and attention. I didn't understand this wasn't something he could control. I then started to retaliate back and show the same symptoms he did and tried to win some of the sympathy and attention he got. 2 years later, I was diagnosed with extremes anxiety and depression. Because I forced myself to have this. I didn't realise that thinking like that all the time would ever had such a negative impact and I did all this to myself.</p>\n<p>I know now (and some years ago) that I was completely in the wrong, but I do not beat myself up for this. It was a silly mistake that I was un-educated about.</p>\n<p>My question is,though, is to ask anyone,at all, if they have discovered they have too done this to themselves, or know of anyone that has? And if so, how was the best way they coped with it? I mean, surely if the mind is strong enough to get me into it, it could get me,out, right? </p>\n<p><br>\n</p>\n<p>Thanks</p>\n<p><br>\n</p>\n<p><br>\n</p></div>", "date": "12-06-2013", "url": "https://forums.beyondblue.org.au/t5/anxiety/just-a-quick-question/td-p/53729" }, { "author": "user-id/41098", "content": "My situation as to my depression and PTSD are completely different, but your last question struck a cord with me. Yes the mind gets us into it and should be able to get us out. But this is a big but, you have to really want the change, not just say to yourself you want the change but to cognitively want the change to occur, and if you have formed your sense of self around having depression etc then this change wont happen. I dont know your complete history, but maybe this change is something you should talk about with your counsellor or psychologist or even dr. As well even if you cognitively want change your depression could also be caused by chemical imbalances, so no amount of thinking of wanting to change would help.</div>", "date": "20-06-2013", "url": "https://forums.beyondblue.org.au/t5/anxiety/just-a-quick-question/td-p/53729" }, { "author": "user-id/5860", "content": "<p>This is an example of a self-fulfilling prophesy scenario. This is not just a matter of your mental state any more. You've generated an attitude toward you from the people you know. They treat you differently know, which reinforces your new state. There are other barriers too. It's not a switch you can turn on and off. It's a lifestyle. very few that enter can ever find their way out.</p></div>", "date": "01-07-2013", "url": "https://forums.beyondblue.org.au/t5/anxiety/just-a-quick-question/td-p/53729" } ]