Q: hi. i submitted a long question a while ago about how i am ashamed of having an obsession that makes me only want to listen to music by a certain person. i still feel ashamed, and sad, especially when i'm in a music voice chat, because if i queue the songs i REALLY want to listen to, i fear it will seriously bother people, because the only songs i'll have queued are from .. one single person. i feel like i'm weird for it, or creepy maybe. i'm not sure. you told me if i needed to spend more time with that certain material, then i should spend more time with it. ... i just wish i could stop these guilty feelings from appearing. it's not as bad when i'm just listening to my music alone, but in certain scenarios (like when i want to listen to music when i shower) those guilty thoughts pop up more and more. should i be guilty for this? should i continue to follow your advice and just ignore these feelings? i can't tell anymore. i hope this isn't too stupid of a question, and i hope all of what i said makes sense. thank you so much for doing what you do
A: it will always be difficult to let others to find out about what you listen to, because we all experience the world through our own custom reality tunnels. theirs might be currently oriented much differently from yours, so they might not see/hear things the same as you. but, in the bigger scheme of things, i think if these problems are tearing you apart then it's probably a sign that your life in general is going very very good, especially when compared to the life of the average earth citizen