Q: hey bill,  i have this problem where i don't know who i am. i really want to know what i want to do with my life and who i want to be, but i feel like it changes from one day to the next. i'm just about to graduate from college with a major in physics, and some days i love science and other days i'm sick of it and all i want to do is be creative and write songs. i keep switching between so many things and i can't make up my mind. i also struggle with my personality and what kind of person i want to be. i got married so young and i feel like i haven't been able to be myself and take on the world as an individual. i feel as if my personality is clouded by my husband and who he wants me to be, not who i really want to be. i guess i'm just stuck in this never ending cycle of wanting to try new things and be myself, and i don't know what thing i want to stick with or who myself is. i think it might be that i want to be someone that my husband an
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  don't want me to be, but is it worth being myself and risking losing them? how do i even do that when i have no support? how do i try to be myself when i don't really know who that is? sorry if this is rambly. i have no one to talk to about this and you are full of so much wisdom.  thanks
A: step 1 is to find a place or time where you can think about this for at least 30 minutes with no one to interfere