Q: i read here that you describe small talk as moving pawns before moving more significant chess pieces. i've never heard a more accurate description. the problem is, i often never get past moving the pawns. it seems I talk to people like once, and it's just standard introductions (or "opening moves" to keep with the chess analogy) and we never meet again. So, how do i meet people and work towards deepening and maintaining a friendship? especially if I'm more of a hermit, lol
A: begin to collaboritavely analyze your immediate surroundings. for example, if you seem to be in a factory, ask them if they know what kind of factory it is. if you both already know that, then maybe you could begin to speculate how long the factory has been there, or how it was built