Q:  2.20.19  3:19 am one solution i have found for this is to turn the question around, which i know you do a lot on the questions page, but you can definitely use in real life as well. like, "what's your favorite food?" "what an interesting question. what's behind the concept of favorites? are we still so invested in rank? surely different things are better and worse at different times and contexts. why are we so fixated on deciding which thing is best in these arbitrary hypotheticals?" "ok, what's your favorite food when you've just gone for a run at 4am and your fridge is empty?" "what made you decide that's the situation i'm in? has this happened to you and you chose the wrong thing to eat?" "no i just wanna hear about what you'd choose" "it depends." "on what?" "on everything. everything has an influence on everything else, and i think that's pretty cool. don't you think that's cool?" "oh i guess so" 
 "like wh
 at if my run took me past 4 restaurants and then i could only think about the time i saw a busboy drop a whole tray full of dishes in the first one and nobody helped him? what if a duck i saw reminded me of a kind of bread my mom used to take me to feed ducks? what if it was raining and i forgot about the idea of eating entirely because i was so excited about water?" "that's weird" "it's weirder to me that we're ruling any of these out and pretending there is a normal way to be hungry or decide what you want at any moment."
A: i was thinking of going with "bees"