Q: how do you tell the people around you that you completely failed at a major task in your life when you didn't tell them you were even struggling
A: maybe you don't have to tell them at all. but if you do, then you can explain that the reason you didn't tell them anything before was because you really didn't want them to be unhappy with you. almost everyone has been in this situaion before in some way, so i'm sure they will be able to relate to this