Q: hey so i commented a while back on wether not i should talk to a certain girl or not and over the months theres been some developments but long story short, 3 months ago she definitely found out, she might have suspected before then but she definitely knew then. not a lot happened over the next bit between us or anything (as if anything had really happened before) but then valentines day rolls around and i think to make her a sort of gift with some contact info and a song playlist i made for her. she hasn't responded or checked the playlist. which she does not have to, she doesn't owe anything to me, but i just feel awful. i honestly would have felt better if she had just flat out told me that she didn't care for me but no, nothing. i had heard many rumors that she may have been interested in me at somepoint earlier on or something like that this year, but now nothing. i dont honestly even care about starting a romantic relationship with her at this point as much as i do just establishing a relationship period, however i feel that my ship has already sailed. do you have any advice bill on what i should do, i she hasnt left my concious in over 2 years and i still want to think i have some sort of chance to maybe get to know her but i fear i may just be floating, or over thinking too much, thoughts?
A: i think the problem is that your feelings for this person (or, the strong feelings you are having whilst looking at them) are way ahead of how well you actually know them. so i would venture to say that a significant portion of your feelings are based on what you have imagined the person to be like, not entirely who they really are. simply because you don't actually know them very much. this can be slightly inconvenient for you when they don't respond in accordance with what you imagined, but can be particularly unsettling for the other person, if they find out how strong your feelings are despite not knowing them