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TITLE: I feel like I'm doing most of the work. How do I approach this? [18M with 16F]
POST: My girlfriend and I have been long distance for about 3 weeks now, and dating 8 1/2 months total. Our relationship is amazing when we're with each other, and I love her to death, but since we've been away I feel as though I'm putting most of the work in the relationship. I'm always the one who texts "How was your day?" I'm always the one who asks when would be a good time to skype. She always ends texts conversations at weird times without saying good bye (which is especially bad for me since I have Generalized Anxiety Disorder and not having that closure makes me worry for hours). And just this morning, she said she was going to call me, but she never did. I was too sad to even bring it up with her. I'll be seeing her this weekend, and no, I don't want to end our relationship over this. I love her so much. And no, she's not cheating on me (trust me). I just don't know how to bring this up without making her feel bad or making me look like an overly-obsessive asshole. We've never had a fight, and I don't want to start now. Also, I feel as though if I tell her my concerns, she'll only start doing more because I asked her to. I don't think I should have to tell her to be a little more involved in our relationship. Please help.
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TITLE: I feel like I'm doing most of the work. How do I approach this? [18M with 16F]
POST: My girlfriend and I have been long distance for about 3 weeks now, and dating 8 1/2 months total. Our relationship is amazing when we're with each other, and I love her to death, but since we've been away I feel as though I'm putting most of the work in the relationship. I'm always the one who texts "How was your day?" I'm always the one who asks when would be a good time to skype. She always ends texts conversations at weird times without saying good bye (which is especially bad for me since I have Generalized Anxiety Disorder and not having that closure makes me worry for hours). And just this morning, she said she was going to call me, but she never did. I was too sad to even bring it up with her. I'll be seeing her this weekend, and no, I don't want to end our relationship over this. I love her so much. And no, she's not cheating on me (trust me). I just don't know how to bring this up without making her feel bad or making me look like an overly-obsessive asshole. We've never had a fight, and I don't want to start now. Also, I feel as though if I tell her my concerns, she'll only start doing more because I asked her to. I don't think I should have to tell her to be a little more involved in our relationship. Please help.
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t3_24rex0 | relationships | Me [21 M] with my girlfriend [20 F] of 2.5 years, I forgave her but am now having second thoughts. | My girlfriend and I got into a big argument when I told her we needed to talk about some things. It got to the point where she asked how it's possible she could trust me when I've talked to this and that girl. Talked to as in like, friendly with, not romantic or flirty at all.
Then she whacked me in the chest twice. I mentioned this earlier and reddit flipped out on me and said it's over run away she's abusive etc. Here's the problem:
I'm aware there's some sort of a double standard. I'm a big dude so it didn't hurt much more than bumping into something. It was in the heat of an argument and I let it go after telling her that that's unacceptable. Things calmed down and we ended up having a nice night. Then a couple good days.
Now, after reading comments and thinking about it, I just can't stop thinking about it. I hate that she thought that was okay to do. I wish I asked her what she would think if the roles were reversed and I hit her. I'm not afraid and it didn't leave any physical scars but my image of her is tarnished. We had a few more good days, but this is in the back of my mind. I want her but this hasn't stopped nagging at me.
Please respond with actual reason and not one sentence answers with no explanation. Thanks. | I forgave my girlfriend for whacking me in the middle of an argument but don't feel okay with it now that I've thought about it. | [
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TITLE: Me [21 M] with my girlfriend [20 F] of 2.5 years, I forgave her but am now having second thoughts.
POST: My girlfriend and I got into a big argument when I told her we needed to talk about some things. It got to the point where she asked how it's possible she could trust me when I've talked to this and that girl. Talked to as in like, friendly with, not romantic or flirty at all.
Then she whacked me in the chest twice. I mentioned this earlier and reddit flipped out on me and said it's over run away she's abusive etc. Here's the problem:
I'm aware there's some sort of a double standard. I'm a big dude so it didn't hurt much more than bumping into something. It was in the heat of an argument and I let it go after telling her that that's unacceptable. Things calmed down and we ended up having a nice night. Then a couple good days.
Now, after reading comments and thinking about it, I just can't stop thinking about it. I hate that she thought that was okay to do. I wish I asked her what she would think if the roles were reversed and I hit her. I'm not afraid and it didn't leave any physical scars but my image of her is tarnished. We had a few more good days, but this is in the back of my mind. I want her but this hasn't stopped nagging at me.
Please respond with actual reason and not one sentence answers with no explanation. Thanks.
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TITLE: Me [21 M] with my girlfriend [20 F] of 2.5 years, I forgave her but am now having second thoughts.
POST: My girlfriend and I got into a big argument when I told her we needed to talk about some things. It got to the point where she asked how it's possible she could trust me when I've talked to this and that girl. Talked to as in like, friendly with, not romantic or flirty at all.
Then she whacked me in the chest twice. I mentioned this earlier and reddit flipped out on me and said it's over run away she's abusive etc. Here's the problem:
I'm aware there's some sort of a double standard. I'm a big dude so it didn't hurt much more than bumping into something. It was in the heat of an argument and I let it go after telling her that that's unacceptable. Things calmed down and we ended up having a nice night. Then a couple good days.
Now, after reading comments and thinking about it, I just can't stop thinking about it. I hate that she thought that was okay to do. I wish I asked her what she would think if the roles were reversed and I hit her. I'm not afraid and it didn't leave any physical scars but my image of her is tarnished. We had a few more good days, but this is in the back of my mind. I want her but this hasn't stopped nagging at me.
Please respond with actual reason and not one sentence answers with no explanation. Thanks.
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The situation is this: 6+ months ago, there were a few instances of him having trouble staying hard during sex. Now, we have never had a ton of sex anyway (which is a bummer, because I was under the impression that we had pretty good sex), but it ceased after this. Even though I know it's not about me (or at least I hope so), I can't help but feel rejected and not good enough. It's definitely made me feel somewhat insecure in my appearance, I often wonder if he's still attracted to me or what I can do to be more attractive to him. I've brought it up to him on three separate occasions, basically saying that "you know, we haven't had sex in awhile, it makes me worried, can we work on it" and he's always like "yeah, I know, sorry, we can try" and then nothing changes from either of us because we're both too big of pussies to actually make a move.
He's away on a trip now but I'm planning on bringing this up to him when he returns because, though it's not a deal breaker for me, physicality in a relationship is important, and I think I'm going to have to be the one to initiate any possible progress. Additionally, I want to have a conversation with him about our future a.k.a. getting married, but I think we should figure this out first. | my bf and I are currently not sexually active due to a few failed attempts. I want to talk to him about working together to fix it and move forward, but I don't know how without feeling like a nag. | [
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TITLE: I [24F] need help figuring out how to talk to my BF [24M] about our sex life and our future.
POST: Obligatory "long time lurker, first time poster." So, my bf and I have been together for about three years. The relationship is generally very happy and healthy, but I'll be the first to admit that we're not great at communicating about the big things like sex and the future, and that when it comes down to talking about big things, I always feel like I'm forcing it upon him. It's not that he's reluctant to talk about it, it just only comes up when I bring it up and it makes me feel naggy. Basically, I know communication is the issue here, so I need help improving it.
The situation is this: 6+ months ago, there were a few instances of him having trouble staying hard during sex. Now, we have never had a ton of sex anyway (which is a bummer, because I was under the impression that we had pretty good sex), but it ceased after this. Even though I know it's not about me (or at least I hope so), I can't help but feel rejected and not good enough. It's definitely made me feel somewhat insecure in my appearance, I often wonder if he's still attracted to me or what I can do to be more attractive to him. I've brought it up to him on three separate occasions, basically saying that "you know, we haven't had sex in awhile, it makes me worried, can we work on it" and he's always like "yeah, I know, sorry, we can try" and then nothing changes from either of us because we're both too big of pussies to actually make a move.
He's away on a trip now but I'm planning on bringing this up to him when he returns because, though it's not a deal breaker for me, physicality in a relationship is important, and I think I'm going to have to be the one to initiate any possible progress. Additionally, I want to have a conversation with him about our future a.k.a. getting married, but I think we should figure this out first.
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POST: Obligatory "long time lurker, first time poster." So, my bf and I have been together for about three years. The relationship is generally very happy and healthy, but I'll be the first to admit that we're not great at communicating about the big things like sex and the future, and that when it comes down to talking about big things, I always feel like I'm forcing it upon him. It's not that he's reluctant to talk about it, it just only comes up when I bring it up and it makes me feel naggy. Basically, I know communication is the issue here, so I need help improving it.
The situation is this: 6+ months ago, there were a few instances of him having trouble staying hard during sex. Now, we have never had a ton of sex anyway (which is a bummer, because I was under the impression that we had pretty good sex), but it ceased after this. Even though I know it's not about me (or at least I hope so), I can't help but feel rejected and not good enough. It's definitely made me feel somewhat insecure in my appearance, I often wonder if he's still attracted to me or what I can do to be more attractive to him. I've brought it up to him on three separate occasions, basically saying that "you know, we haven't had sex in awhile, it makes me worried, can we work on it" and he's always like "yeah, I know, sorry, we can try" and then nothing changes from either of us because we're both too big of pussies to actually make a move.
He's away on a trip now but I'm planning on bringing this up to him when he returns because, though it's not a deal breaker for me, physicality in a relationship is important, and I think I'm going to have to be the one to initiate any possible progress. Additionally, I want to have a conversation with him about our future a.k.a. getting married, but I think we should figure this out first.
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Anyway, a bit of backstory, I was prone to having panic (or anxiety if you so choose) attacks back then and would have them maybe once a month, sometimes more. This plays into the fuckup in a big way.
It was blood-drive day at school and like before when the vampire group would show up, I'd happily donate blood. I really had no problem with seeing blood or dealing with needles so I figure might as well donate (plus free candy afterwards and time out of class).
The time comes for my class to give blood and I get up and leave with the rest of my class, girlfriend included. I'm seated and awaiting my bag to be prepped and watching my girlfriend (seated next to me) at the time getting her arm stuck with her needle. Soon after I have my needle put in.
Now, this is where the panic attack bit comes in. I'm sitting in my chair, fucking around with my phone and feeling my blood drain out of me when a familiar sensation crops up, shit. I start having a full blown panic attack out of nowhere and begin to try to get out of my seat. Why? No idea.
During all this, the other students (about 30 of them) became aware of my distress and focused on me. I get freaked out further and proceed to take my arm off the armrest, bad idea. The tube running from my arm to my bag gets caught on the armrest and rips out of my arm, which causes my arm squirt blood everywhere, landing mostly on my girlfriend. Not only her but the whole class starts doing their own thing, laughing, freaking out, throwing up, etc.
The nurses proceed to calm me down, clean me up, and send me the fuck home. I got home with a hefty bruise on my arm and fucking grateful feeling of knowing it was a Friday and that it'd just blow over by Monday. It didn't. It was well into Junior year before people stopped asking if I was "that one guy who fucked up a blood-drive by spraying blood everywhere". | Became a human super-soaker, covered my girlfriend with the wrong kind of fluid, ended an entire blood-drive, and terrified an entire high-school class. Didn't even get candy. | [
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TITLE: TIFU by trying to donate blood.
POST: Obligatory not today, but rather six years ago, during sophomore year of high school.
Anyway, a bit of backstory, I was prone to having panic (or anxiety if you so choose) attacks back then and would have them maybe once a month, sometimes more. This plays into the fuckup in a big way.
It was blood-drive day at school and like before when the vampire group would show up, I'd happily donate blood. I really had no problem with seeing blood or dealing with needles so I figure might as well donate (plus free candy afterwards and time out of class).
The time comes for my class to give blood and I get up and leave with the rest of my class, girlfriend included. I'm seated and awaiting my bag to be prepped and watching my girlfriend (seated next to me) at the time getting her arm stuck with her needle. Soon after I have my needle put in.
Now, this is where the panic attack bit comes in. I'm sitting in my chair, fucking around with my phone and feeling my blood drain out of me when a familiar sensation crops up, shit. I start having a full blown panic attack out of nowhere and begin to try to get out of my seat. Why? No idea.
During all this, the other students (about 30 of them) became aware of my distress and focused on me. I get freaked out further and proceed to take my arm off the armrest, bad idea. The tube running from my arm to my bag gets caught on the armrest and rips out of my arm, which causes my arm squirt blood everywhere, landing mostly on my girlfriend. Not only her but the whole class starts doing their own thing, laughing, freaking out, throwing up, etc.
The nurses proceed to calm me down, clean me up, and send me the fuck home. I got home with a hefty bruise on my arm and fucking grateful feeling of knowing it was a Friday and that it'd just blow over by Monday. It didn't. It was well into Junior year before people stopped asking if I was "that one guy who fucked up a blood-drive by spraying blood everywhere".
TL;DR: | Became a human super-soaker, covered my girlfriend with the wrong kind of fluid, ended an entire blood-drive, and terrified an entire high-school class. Didn't even get candy.<|endoftext|> | [
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TITLE: TIFU by trying to donate blood.
POST: Obligatory not today, but rather six years ago, during sophomore year of high school.
Anyway, a bit of backstory, I was prone to having panic (or anxiety if you so choose) attacks back then and would have them maybe once a month, sometimes more. This plays into the fuckup in a big way.
It was blood-drive day at school and like before when the vampire group would show up, I'd happily donate blood. I really had no problem with seeing blood or dealing with needles so I figure might as well donate (plus free candy afterwards and time out of class).
The time comes for my class to give blood and I get up and leave with the rest of my class, girlfriend included. I'm seated and awaiting my bag to be prepped and watching my girlfriend (seated next to me) at the time getting her arm stuck with her needle. Soon after I have my needle put in.
Now, this is where the panic attack bit comes in. I'm sitting in my chair, fucking around with my phone and feeling my blood drain out of me when a familiar sensation crops up, shit. I start having a full blown panic attack out of nowhere and begin to try to get out of my seat. Why? No idea.
During all this, the other students (about 30 of them) became aware of my distress and focused on me. I get freaked out further and proceed to take my arm off the armrest, bad idea. The tube running from my arm to my bag gets caught on the armrest and rips out of my arm, which causes my arm squirt blood everywhere, landing mostly on my girlfriend. Not only her but the whole class starts doing their own thing, laughing, freaking out, throwing up, etc.
The nurses proceed to calm me down, clean me up, and send me the fuck home. I got home with a hefty bruise on my arm and fucking grateful feeling of knowing it was a Friday and that it'd just blow over by Monday. It didn't. It was well into Junior year before people stopped asking if I was "that one guy who fucked up a blood-drive by spraying blood everywhere".
TL;DR: Became a human super-soaker, covered my girlfriend with the wrong kind of fluid, ended an entire blood-drive, and terrified an entire high-school class. Didn't even get candy.<|endoftext|> | [
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t3_en6hj | self | n00b to Vancouver. | Hey Guys/Girls, I just moved to Van, as in Yesterday. I really don't know anyone or anything about Vancouver, except that I have a feeling I'm using the skytrain wrong.
Any who a 'lil about myself: I am originally from Toronto, but spent the last 8 months in Victoria. In school I took Existential Philosophy at the University level, and Computer Systems Technician at the college level. That and I have studied the dramatic arts independently at Second City and Equity Showcase Theater, I love improv.
I am just looking for new people to chill with and show a newb around. Perhaps I can exchange some information about Toronto. Also it sucks having to take the ferry back to Victoria every time I jones, so some sesh mates would be dope too.
I'll check this thread again in a few hrs, I gotta jump the last ferry to tsawassen for like the 40th time in a week, lol. At least bc ferries have free wifi.
thanks for reading | I just moved to Vancouver and am looking to make new friends, and seeing how reddit is awesome i figured i'd try here, peace! =D | [
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TITLE: n00b to Vancouver.
POST: Hey Guys/Girls, I just moved to Van, as in Yesterday. I really don't know anyone or anything about Vancouver, except that I have a feeling I'm using the skytrain wrong.
Any who a 'lil about myself: I am originally from Toronto, but spent the last 8 months in Victoria. In school I took Existential Philosophy at the University level, and Computer Systems Technician at the college level. That and I have studied the dramatic arts independently at Second City and Equity Showcase Theater, I love improv.
I am just looking for new people to chill with and show a newb around. Perhaps I can exchange some information about Toronto. Also it sucks having to take the ferry back to Victoria every time I jones, so some sesh mates would be dope too.
I'll check this thread again in a few hrs, I gotta jump the last ferry to tsawassen for like the 40th time in a week, lol. At least bc ferries have free wifi.
thanks for reading
TL;DR: | I just moved to Vancouver and am looking to make new friends, and seeing how reddit is awesome i figured i'd try here, peace! =D<|endoftext|> | [
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TITLE: n00b to Vancouver.
POST: Hey Guys/Girls, I just moved to Van, as in Yesterday. I really don't know anyone or anything about Vancouver, except that I have a feeling I'm using the skytrain wrong.
Any who a 'lil about myself: I am originally from Toronto, but spent the last 8 months in Victoria. In school I took Existential Philosophy at the University level, and Computer Systems Technician at the college level. That and I have studied the dramatic arts independently at Second City and Equity Showcase Theater, I love improv.
I am just looking for new people to chill with and show a newb around. Perhaps I can exchange some information about Toronto. Also it sucks having to take the ferry back to Victoria every time I jones, so some sesh mates would be dope too.
I'll check this thread again in a few hrs, I gotta jump the last ferry to tsawassen for like the 40th time in a week, lol. At least bc ferries have free wifi.
thanks for reading
TL;DR: I just moved to Vancouver and am looking to make new friends, and seeing how reddit is awesome i figured i'd try here, peace! =D<|endoftext|> | [
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t3_ofpji | personalfinance | Company i used to work for deposited 2000 in my account by accident. What now? | So i work for this comapny for about a month, it was a total cluster fuck. No communication, nothing organized. I left and found an amazing job. a little while after i left i recieved a paycheck direct deposited in to my account. I called the the owner of the company and told him what happened. He said thanks for letting him knw and he would have it taken out. His wife does the payroll and would be responsible for doing that. that was over a month ago and the money is still there. Will it ever be mine? Hwen i get my W-2 from them and that check is on there can i keep the money since i now have to claim it on my taxes? | former comapny gave me money- i told them bout it- that was over month ago- when will it be mine | [
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TITLE: Company i used to work for deposited 2000 in my account by accident. What now?
POST: So i work for this comapny for about a month, it was a total cluster fuck. No communication, nothing organized. I left and found an amazing job. a little while after i left i recieved a paycheck direct deposited in to my account. I called the the owner of the company and told him what happened. He said thanks for letting him knw and he would have it taken out. His wife does the payroll and would be responsible for doing that. that was over a month ago and the money is still there. Will it ever be mine? Hwen i get my W-2 from them and that check is on there can i keep the money since i now have to claim it on my taxes?
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TITLE: Company i used to work for deposited 2000 in my account by accident. What now?
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t3_3v0ba9 | relationship_advice | 21/m scared to interact with people in general and 0 confidence with girls looking to try rebuild social skills and looking for tips starters etc | Hey can anyone help me out recently ive started useing tinder not for hookups or anything mainly looking for practice talking to people and especialy women because i closed myself off and have been single for 3 years only seeing one or two friends every blue moon since a break down i had.
BACK STORY
when i was younger my mum and dad always use to tell me that women will accuse you of rape and cant do this that and what have you, but further on into my life 2 of my friends actualy got with a girl who cheated on there boyfriends and tried to get out of it by calling rape. this geuninaly scared the last bit of confidence to talk to women out the window i mean i was cautious in the first place but that just destroyed it and also tore away what my understanding of communication and social skills with paranoia anixety and other issues.
MAIN QUESTION THING
i feel like every single thing i go to say do or anything like that is weird wrong bad or some other negative view on my every action. dose anyone know any ways to try break these barriers that ive encountered or any tips on just holding a conversation i try talk about my passions, music animals, games, extreme sports and when i use to go out to big free parties in the middle of nowhere which in all honesty i dont think really sounds to boreing but everything i say to anyone i always question if its acceptable if its right if its normal. Ive just applied as a voulenteer at a animal sanctuary to try get me some brief social interaction inbetween walking and careing for dogs and stuff but im really lonley and im just to scared to actualy interact with the world | i have no social skills anymore, im scared of face to face interaction with people, been isolated for 3 years and want to try get a girlfriend i miss haveing a companion other half but also want some friends again | [
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TITLE: 21/m scared to interact with people in general and 0 confidence with girls looking to try rebuild social skills and looking for tips starters etc
POST: Hey can anyone help me out recently ive started useing tinder not for hookups or anything mainly looking for practice talking to people and especialy women because i closed myself off and have been single for 3 years only seeing one or two friends every blue moon since a break down i had.
BACK STORY
when i was younger my mum and dad always use to tell me that women will accuse you of rape and cant do this that and what have you, but further on into my life 2 of my friends actualy got with a girl who cheated on there boyfriends and tried to get out of it by calling rape. this geuninaly scared the last bit of confidence to talk to women out the window i mean i was cautious in the first place but that just destroyed it and also tore away what my understanding of communication and social skills with paranoia anixety and other issues.
MAIN QUESTION THING
i feel like every single thing i go to say do or anything like that is weird wrong bad or some other negative view on my every action. dose anyone know any ways to try break these barriers that ive encountered or any tips on just holding a conversation i try talk about my passions, music animals, games, extreme sports and when i use to go out to big free parties in the middle of nowhere which in all honesty i dont think really sounds to boreing but everything i say to anyone i always question if its acceptable if its right if its normal. Ive just applied as a voulenteer at a animal sanctuary to try get me some brief social interaction inbetween walking and careing for dogs and stuff but im really lonley and im just to scared to actualy interact with the world
TL;DR: | i have no social skills anymore, im scared of face to face interaction with people, been isolated for 3 years and want to try get a girlfriend i miss haveing a companion other half but also want some friends again<|endoftext|> | [
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TITLE: 21/m scared to interact with people in general and 0 confidence with girls looking to try rebuild social skills and looking for tips starters etc
POST: Hey can anyone help me out recently ive started useing tinder not for hookups or anything mainly looking for practice talking to people and especialy women because i closed myself off and have been single for 3 years only seeing one or two friends every blue moon since a break down i had.
BACK STORY
when i was younger my mum and dad always use to tell me that women will accuse you of rape and cant do this that and what have you, but further on into my life 2 of my friends actualy got with a girl who cheated on there boyfriends and tried to get out of it by calling rape. this geuninaly scared the last bit of confidence to talk to women out the window i mean i was cautious in the first place but that just destroyed it and also tore away what my understanding of communication and social skills with paranoia anixety and other issues.
MAIN QUESTION THING
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t3_23serz | relationships | [20 F]emale friend asked [19 M]e for some porn today, shall i make a move or just be the usual ? | So, i got this really great friend of mine, she texted me this afternoon, asking for some porn, mainly oral stuff.
I have given up watching porn. It was an addiction for me and my life was fucked up. Now that i'm recovering, i try to avoid any possible glimpse of nsfw stuff.
I replied her, "*i'm sorry, i can't give you any. there is none in my hard drive*". She sounded disappointed, but she said it's okay and will try to *steal* some from another friend.
As much as i wanted to help her, i found myself more committed to my abstience from porn.
>**Additional Info :**
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* Oh! And on two ocassions, 6 months ago, she mentioned me as her *bro-iee* (bro, in plain words). I am pretty sure she was casual about that statement.
**Should i advice her something, based on her relationship issue ?** I care about her and i feel really bad 'coz she is often upset.
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**Should i make a move, assuming that she is hinting something ? | Gal-friend asks for porn & later we discuss our likes / dislikes about it. She is in a LDR that is just plain boring. Should i make a move on her or just be a little cocky yet friendly? | [
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TITLE: [20 F]emale friend asked [19 M]e for some porn today, shall i make a move or just be the usual?
POST: So, i got this really great friend of mine, she texted me this afternoon, asking for some porn, mainly oral stuff.
I have given up watching porn. It was an addiction for me and my life was fucked up. Now that i'm recovering, i try to avoid any possible glimpse of nsfw stuff.
I replied her, "*i'm sorry, i can't give you any. there is none in my hard drive*". She sounded disappointed, but she said it's okay and will try to *steal* some from another friend.
As much as i wanted to help her, i found myself more committed to my abstience from porn.
>**Additional Info :**
>
* She is in LDR with a guy who rarely gives her time, barely they talk. Often she is upset about this. She also cried when i tried to help her out. I suppose, she cant find a way to vent her feelings.
* She said that she has never tried fapping. She just said she didn't think it was right thing to do. We live in a country where adultery in society is still a taboo. So, i guess that's why she said so.
* Oh! And on two ocassions, 6 months ago, she mentioned me as her *bro-iee* (bro, in plain words). I am pretty sure she was casual about that statement.
**Should i advice her something, based on her relationship issue?** I care about her and i feel really bad 'coz she is often upset.
OR
**Should i make a move, assuming that she is hinting something?
TL;DR: | Gal-friend asks for porn & later we discuss our likes / dislikes about it. She is in a LDR that is just plain boring. Should i make a move on her or just be a little cocky yet friendly?<|endoftext|> | [
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TITLE: [20 F]emale friend asked [19 M]e for some porn today, shall i make a move or just be the usual?
POST: So, i got this really great friend of mine, she texted me this afternoon, asking for some porn, mainly oral stuff.
I have given up watching porn. It was an addiction for me and my life was fucked up. Now that i'm recovering, i try to avoid any possible glimpse of nsfw stuff.
I replied her, "*i'm sorry, i can't give you any. there is none in my hard drive*". She sounded disappointed, but she said it's okay and will try to *steal* some from another friend.
As much as i wanted to help her, i found myself more committed to my abstience from porn.
>**Additional Info :**
>
* She is in LDR with a guy who rarely gives her time, barely they talk. Often she is upset about this. She also cried when i tried to help her out. I suppose, she cant find a way to vent her feelings.
* She said that she has never tried fapping. She just said she didn't think it was right thing to do. We live in a country where adultery in society is still a taboo. So, i guess that's why she said so.
* Oh! And on two ocassions, 6 months ago, she mentioned me as her *bro-iee* (bro, in plain words). I am pretty sure she was casual about that statement.
**Should i advice her something, based on her relationship issue?** I care about her and i feel really bad 'coz she is often upset.
OR
**Should i make a move, assuming that she is hinting something?
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Lately, I've been trying to branch out, and actually talk to some girls. There is one girl, a friend of a close friend of mine, that I've grown quite friendly with. She's incredibly nice, intelligent, good looking, and, if it's ok with my buddy, I was considering asking her out.
I'm a pretty average looking guy; she's an athlete. She is constantly laughing at my (I think) crappy jokes, and I'll hear her telling people how funny I am. Also, from our talks, she and I seem to have quite similar beliefs, values, etc.
But the biggest problem is this: Over this last weekend, I was out at the movies with some friends, and my close friend and her were both there. Talk began of how they "needed to find me a girlfriend" started up, and she said she was surprised I was single. She then expressed that she'd like to set me up with her roommate. I met the roommate, and I'm not interested in her.
So my question: Should I ask this girl out? I feel conflicted, as one the hand, she finds me very funny and nice, yet she's trying to set me up. And second, how can I express to her that I'm simply not interested in her roommate, yet still maybe have a chance with her? | There's a girl i'm interested in, low confidence, she finds me funny, yet she tries to set me up with another. | [
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POST: Ok, here goes. I'm 19, male, in college. Never had a girlfriend, never been with a girl. I suppose it's because I'm a fairly shy person, and have little confidence.
Lately, I've been trying to branch out, and actually talk to some girls. There is one girl, a friend of a close friend of mine, that I've grown quite friendly with. She's incredibly nice, intelligent, good looking, and, if it's ok with my buddy, I was considering asking her out.
I'm a pretty average looking guy; she's an athlete. She is constantly laughing at my (I think) crappy jokes, and I'll hear her telling people how funny I am. Also, from our talks, she and I seem to have quite similar beliefs, values, etc.
But the biggest problem is this: Over this last weekend, I was out at the movies with some friends, and my close friend and her were both there. Talk began of how they "needed to find me a girlfriend" started up, and she said she was surprised I was single. She then expressed that she'd like to set me up with her roommate. I met the roommate, and I'm not interested in her.
So my question: Should I ask this girl out? I feel conflicted, as one the hand, she finds me very funny and nice, yet she's trying to set me up. And second, how can I express to her that I'm simply not interested in her roommate, yet still maybe have a chance with her?
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TITLE: Not sure how to act, and need some unbiased advice.
POST: Ok, here goes. I'm 19, male, in college. Never had a girlfriend, never been with a girl. I suppose it's because I'm a fairly shy person, and have little confidence.
Lately, I've been trying to branch out, and actually talk to some girls. There is one girl, a friend of a close friend of mine, that I've grown quite friendly with. She's incredibly nice, intelligent, good looking, and, if it's ok with my buddy, I was considering asking her out.
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So my question: Should I ask this girl out? I feel conflicted, as one the hand, she finds me very funny and nice, yet she's trying to set me up. And second, how can I express to her that I'm simply not interested in her roommate, yet still maybe have a chance with her?
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In addition, they already have a Mama, and I would never dream of trying to "usurp" her role by forcing them to use a Mom title on me - but they do know that I am their stepmom, and they are content with that.
Recently, my stepdaughter has been trying to give me a nickname... a variation on my first name. She is doing it to establish a term of endearment, not to try to be disrespectful. However, it makes me feel a little uncomfortable. I have never been a nickname person - I used to throw fits as a child when my sister would use nicknames on me - and it just feels weird. Like she's trying to see me as a friend rather than a parent. It has actually made me question if I do need to go by a title rather than my name. Or, do I just need to tell her in no uncertain terms that she should use my proper name? | Stepkids call me by my name, it has never been a problem. Stepdaughter is now trying to give me a nickname, it makes me uncomfortable. What to do? | [
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TITLE: Stepmom of two, 7 and 8. They call me by my first name and I don't have a problem with this, but recently have been reconsidering.
POST: When I was first introduced to the kids, it wasn't with the intent of marrying their dad and becoming a permanent part of their lives. They called all of their dad's friends by their first names, so that's how I was introduced to them as well. When we did get married several years later, it seemed kind of silly to ask them to change. That's the name they know me by, and they have never been disrespectful with it in any way.
In addition, they already have a Mama, and I would never dream of trying to "usurp" her role by forcing them to use a Mom title on me - but they do know that I am their stepmom, and they are content with that.
Recently, my stepdaughter has been trying to give me a nickname... a variation on my first name. She is doing it to establish a term of endearment, not to try to be disrespectful. However, it makes me feel a little uncomfortable. I have never been a nickname person - I used to throw fits as a child when my sister would use nicknames on me - and it just feels weird. Like she's trying to see me as a friend rather than a parent. It has actually made me question if I do need to go by a title rather than my name. Or, do I just need to tell her in no uncertain terms that she should use my proper name?
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TITLE: My girlfriend wants a break. What do I do? [M/21 | F/22]
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t3_2wxezz | tifu | TIFU by telling an old Cherokee woman at the beer vendor that I was hard for her | So I walk into my regular beer vendor, and there's this super nice maybe 60 year old cherokee woman that I always see there. She works there. And some probably 30 year old gothic chick behind the counter, also very nice. I'm chatting them both up about beer and stuff for a little while and the cherokee women and I were talking and she kept calling me handsome and feeding me compliments, and then she said
> "Ha, he's blushing!",
then I of course told her it was because lovely young women such as herself don't compliment me everyday, smooth as fuck, right? As I was leaving I kept trying to push the door that was clearly labeled pull and I had no idea why I couldn't get the door open until they laughed at me and called me an idiot, to which I responded,
> "I guess the bloods somewhere else right now",
and winked at them, and they burst out laughing as I left. I meant it was in my cheeks instead of my brain... Not my dick...
Now everyone thinks I'm hot for the old Cherokee woman at the beer vendor.
Pretty much copied this verbatim from a text I just sent to a friend, so please excuse the lack of elaborate story. | Old woman at the beer vendor complimented me, I was blushing. Proceeded to push a pull door for several seconds, after which I inadvertently exclaimed that I had an erection, winked at her, and left the establishment. | [
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TITLE: TIFU by telling an old Cherokee woman at the beer vendor that I was hard for her
POST: So I walk into my regular beer vendor, and there's this super nice maybe 60 year old cherokee woman that I always see there. She works there. And some probably 30 year old gothic chick behind the counter, also very nice. I'm chatting them both up about beer and stuff for a little while and the cherokee women and I were talking and she kept calling me handsome and feeding me compliments, and then she said
> "Ha, he's blushing!",
then I of course told her it was because lovely young women such as herself don't compliment me everyday, smooth as fuck, right? As I was leaving I kept trying to push the door that was clearly labeled pull and I had no idea why I couldn't get the door open until they laughed at me and called me an idiot, to which I responded,
> "I guess the bloods somewhere else right now",
and winked at them, and they burst out laughing as I left. I meant it was in my cheeks instead of my brain... Not my dick...
Now everyone thinks I'm hot for the old Cherokee woman at the beer vendor.
Pretty much copied this verbatim from a text I just sent to a friend, so please excuse the lack of elaborate story.
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TITLE: TIFU by telling an old Cherokee woman at the beer vendor that I was hard for her
POST: So I walk into my regular beer vendor, and there's this super nice maybe 60 year old cherokee woman that I always see there. She works there. And some probably 30 year old gothic chick behind the counter, also very nice. I'm chatting them both up about beer and stuff for a little while and the cherokee women and I were talking and she kept calling me handsome and feeding me compliments, and then she said
> "Ha, he's blushing!",
then I of course told her it was because lovely young women such as herself don't compliment me everyday, smooth as fuck, right? As I was leaving I kept trying to push the door that was clearly labeled pull and I had no idea why I couldn't get the door open until they laughed at me and called me an idiot, to which I responded,
> "I guess the bloods somewhere else right now",
and winked at them, and they burst out laughing as I left. I meant it was in my cheeks instead of my brain... Not my dick...
Now everyone thinks I'm hot for the old Cherokee woman at the beer vendor.
Pretty much copied this verbatim from a text I just sent to a friend, so please excuse the lack of elaborate story.
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t3_2vcfmb | relationships | Me [24M] with my [24F] for 2 years. Want to get a Chlamydia test but how to approach situation? | So, basically, we've been together 2 years and both assured one another when we started the relationship that we were STD free. She was in a long term relationship before me, and I had been tested before sleeping with her (except for one sexual partner beforehand in a one off, completely protected situation).
Only thing is I get a burning sensation when I pee now and then. I know this is quite common and could be un-STD related but I want to get a chlamydia test JUST to get that worry out of my head, but don't know how to approach this with the gf.
Just for clarification, I have not cheated and I know her well enough to know she hasn't either, but I fear that in bringing it up it may make her think 'Why now after 2 years would he want to get a test done?' and could put unnecessary doubts in her head. The other option is to just get the test done and not say anything, but then if it DOES come up with something then obvssss I have to tell her and then it seems even MORE suspicious that I hadn't mentioned anything beforehand.
What's the best way to approach this situation? | Want to get a Chlamydia test done just for peace of mind, but don't know how to approach telling gf without it raising unnecessary doubts about cheating (which hasn't happened). | [
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TITLE: Me [24M] with my [24F] for 2 years. Want to get a Chlamydia test but how to approach situation?
POST: So, basically, we've been together 2 years and both assured one another when we started the relationship that we were STD free. She was in a long term relationship before me, and I had been tested before sleeping with her (except for one sexual partner beforehand in a one off, completely protected situation).
Only thing is I get a burning sensation when I pee now and then. I know this is quite common and could be un-STD related but I want to get a chlamydia test JUST to get that worry out of my head, but don't know how to approach this with the gf.
Just for clarification, I have not cheated and I know her well enough to know she hasn't either, but I fear that in bringing it up it may make her think 'Why now after 2 years would he want to get a test done?' and could put unnecessary doubts in her head. The other option is to just get the test done and not say anything, but then if it DOES come up with something then obvssss I have to tell her and then it seems even MORE suspicious that I hadn't mentioned anything beforehand.
What's the best way to approach this situation?
TL;DR: | Want to get a Chlamydia test done just for peace of mind, but don't know how to approach telling gf without it raising unnecessary doubts about cheating (which hasn't happened).<|endoftext|> | [
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TITLE: Me [24M] with my [24F] for 2 years. Want to get a Chlamydia test but how to approach situation?
POST: So, basically, we've been together 2 years and both assured one another when we started the relationship that we were STD free. She was in a long term relationship before me, and I had been tested before sleeping with her (except for one sexual partner beforehand in a one off, completely protected situation).
Only thing is I get a burning sensation when I pee now and then. I know this is quite common and could be un-STD related but I want to get a chlamydia test JUST to get that worry out of my head, but don't know how to approach this with the gf.
Just for clarification, I have not cheated and I know her well enough to know she hasn't either, but I fear that in bringing it up it may make her think 'Why now after 2 years would he want to get a test done?' and could put unnecessary doubts in her head. The other option is to just get the test done and not say anything, but then if it DOES come up with something then obvssss I have to tell her and then it seems even MORE suspicious that I hadn't mentioned anything beforehand.
What's the best way to approach this situation?
TL;DR: Want to get a Chlamydia test done just for peace of mind, but don't know how to approach telling gf without it raising unnecessary doubts about cheating (which hasn't happened).<|endoftext|> | [
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t3_1ipwga | relationships | Me[23M] dating [26F] for about two weeks, just want to know a simple question. | So I met this amazing woman Online, we have been dating for about two weeks. I disabled my online account and asked her to do the same. She said that sounds fair. All is going well but I get the feeling that she is seeing other guys besides me.
I know we haven't become official so it really is anyone's game, but at the same time. I am more of a date only 1 person at a time, and if it doesn't work, then I move on. Should I tell her that I want us to be exclusive or some form, or is it because she doesn't know what she wants is probably a sign for just dropping myself out of the equation and move on to the next person?
I guess I ask because I never done online dating and I feel that when you do everyone becomes accessible that people may or may not care as much about you because the grass is always greener on the other side (at least they might always see it that way).
Again, I know that I probably am just asking this at the wrong time but personally I don't know what is the 'right' time to ask that simple question. The first date has been amazing and I am seeing her tomorrow. | Went on amazing date with woman, need help if I should be asking to be exclusive/advice. I'm dumb at this. =/ | [
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TITLE: Me[23M] dating [26F] for about two weeks, just want to know a simple question.
POST: So I met this amazing woman Online, we have been dating for about two weeks. I disabled my online account and asked her to do the same. She said that sounds fair. All is going well but I get the feeling that she is seeing other guys besides me.
I know we haven't become official so it really is anyone's game, but at the same time. I am more of a date only 1 person at a time, and if it doesn't work, then I move on. Should I tell her that I want us to be exclusive or some form, or is it because she doesn't know what she wants is probably a sign for just dropping myself out of the equation and move on to the next person?
I guess I ask because I never done online dating and I feel that when you do everyone becomes accessible that people may or may not care as much about you because the grass is always greener on the other side (at least they might always see it that way).
Again, I know that I probably am just asking this at the wrong time but personally I don't know what is the 'right' time to ask that simple question. The first date has been amazing and I am seeing her tomorrow.
TL;DR: | Went on amazing date with woman, need help if I should be asking to be exclusive/advice. I'm dumb at this. =/<|endoftext|> | [
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TITLE: Me[23M] dating [26F] for about two weeks, just want to know a simple question.
POST: So I met this amazing woman Online, we have been dating for about two weeks. I disabled my online account and asked her to do the same. She said that sounds fair. All is going well but I get the feeling that she is seeing other guys besides me.
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t3_2z376k | relationships | I [24M] always felt a little abandoned when my ex-SO [26F] got extremely excited about something, and it helped doom our relationship...I want to stop these feelings. | I never had close friends, and my parents and sibling were distant as well, so I grew up in an emotional desert in a way. When I found my girlfriend, I was thrilled with the attention but quickly realized how hurt I got when she would get excited about something, especially since she is an extremely expressive (read: exaggerates a lot) person. I was hurt because I felt like her love/attention was a zero-sum game, and the more she loved her job/pet/hobby/etc. the less attention she'd give me. We had many, many open conversations about this, and rationally I understand how crazy my feelings are, but ultimately my emotional whole-ness never matured enough for the fear of abandonment to disappear.
Now that we are broken up (in part because she was starting a new job, which again made me afraid of 'losing' her as I was unemployed), I still feel deep pangs of hurt when I think about how great things are going for her, how much she loves her job, etc. even though I know it's far from all roses. I myself am now happily employed and have a social life. That doesn't affect how I feel.
I just want to stop these feelings, in all things, period, because I know I'll never be ready for a truly committed relationship until I can do this. I have seen therapists, and am in a group therapy program.
To be honest, I don't think anybody who hasn't experienced this deep insecurity can offer much. I have tried internalizing every rational message I could, but ultimately deep-seated emotions have won. I'm hoping to at least hear from people who have recovered from emotional deficiencies in their childhood environment to maturely handle their adult relationships. I can't seem to find much about overcoming a fear of abandonment.
Does anyone have personal advice? Thank you. | An irrational fear of abandonment dooms me to codependent feelings that destroy the intimacy I seek. I want to change. | [
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TITLE: I [24M] always felt a little abandoned when my ex-SO [26F] got extremely excited about something, and it helped doom our relationship...I want to stop these feelings.
POST: I never had close friends, and my parents and sibling were distant as well, so I grew up in an emotional desert in a way. When I found my girlfriend, I was thrilled with the attention but quickly realized how hurt I got when she would get excited about something, especially since she is an extremely expressive (read: exaggerates a lot) person. I was hurt because I felt like her love/attention was a zero-sum game, and the more she loved her job/pet/hobby/etc. the less attention she'd give me. We had many, many open conversations about this, and rationally I understand how crazy my feelings are, but ultimately my emotional whole-ness never matured enough for the fear of abandonment to disappear.
Now that we are broken up (in part because she was starting a new job, which again made me afraid of 'losing' her as I was unemployed), I still feel deep pangs of hurt when I think about how great things are going for her, how much she loves her job, etc. even though I know it's far from all roses. I myself am now happily employed and have a social life. That doesn't affect how I feel.
I just want to stop these feelings, in all things, period, because I know I'll never be ready for a truly committed relationship until I can do this. I have seen therapists, and am in a group therapy program.
To be honest, I don't think anybody who hasn't experienced this deep insecurity can offer much. I have tried internalizing every rational message I could, but ultimately deep-seated emotions have won. I'm hoping to at least hear from people who have recovered from emotional deficiencies in their childhood environment to maturely handle their adult relationships. I can't seem to find much about overcoming a fear of abandonment.
Does anyone have personal advice? Thank you.
TL;DR: | An irrational fear of abandonment dooms me to codependent feelings that destroy the intimacy I seek. I want to change.<|endoftext|> | [
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TITLE: I [24M] always felt a little abandoned when my ex-SO [26F] got extremely excited about something, and it helped doom our relationship...I want to stop these feelings.
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Flash forward to this recent visit, and we're about to play a board game where the goal is to destroy the other player's army. I've got all my pieces set up, and am boasting about how I'm going to totally wreck him in the game. He looks at my pieces and says "All I see are a bunch of corpses!" Without thinking, I reply, "Your mom's a corpse!" Instantly, I felt absolutely terrible. The somewhat odd thing is that he actually found it funny, and laughed it off, while I apologized numerous times. | My friend and I always used to make jokes about each other's mom until his passed away, I made one by accident. | [
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TITLE: TIFU By making a "your mom" joke
POST: I recently met up with a friend of mine who I hadn't seen much of in the last few years. We've known each other since Middle School, and one of our greatest activities when hanging out was making "your mom" jokes to one another. However, I halted this grand tradition a few years back, when his mother passed away unexpectedly, and I tried really hard any time we talked on the phone or visited to NOT give into that impulse that had lasted many years.
Flash forward to this recent visit, and we're about to play a board game where the goal is to destroy the other player's army. I've got all my pieces set up, and am boasting about how I'm going to totally wreck him in the game. He looks at my pieces and says "All I see are a bunch of corpses!" Without thinking, I reply, "Your mom's a corpse!" Instantly, I felt absolutely terrible. The somewhat odd thing is that he actually found it funny, and laughed it off, while I apologized numerous times.
TL;DR: | My friend and I always used to make jokes about each other's mom until his passed away, I made one by accident.<|endoftext|> | [
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TITLE: TIFU By making a "your mom" joke
POST: I recently met up with a friend of mine who I hadn't seen much of in the last few years. We've known each other since Middle School, and one of our greatest activities when hanging out was making "your mom" jokes to one another. However, I halted this grand tradition a few years back, when his mother passed away unexpectedly, and I tried really hard any time we talked on the phone or visited to NOT give into that impulse that had lasted many years.
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t3_3iiwpg | relationships | am I [26 F] getting into his [29 M] culture too quickly? | I met a guy while on vacation in Canada last month, and he and I hooked up and then connected on Facebook so we could stay in touch. Some of our messages have been flirty, others more steamy, and we're planning on having him come to visit me in a couple of months. Clearly, we like each other.
But here's the thing, he's French. I don't mean French Canadian, French-French. He's from France, and French is his first language, and while I was only mildly intrigued by French culture before meeting him, us getting involved has definitely sparked an interest in me. I've been sending him messages in French when possible, I've taken an interest in learning how to speak the language, even got a Babbel account although I haven't paid for a subscription yet; and I learned how to make crepes over the weekend! Well, started learning . . .
But here's the thing, we've seen each other once and we've only known each other for a month and a half, so . . . is this too much, at this point? If I surprised him with some French when he comes to visit, will he appreciate it or be mildly . . . creped out?
And I don't want to get to a point where we've been involved for a while and serious about each other, and have people start giving me a hard time for not bothering to learn his language. "What, you say you love him but can't learn French for him? *Americans* . . ." It takes a while to learn a new language, so that's part of why it may be good to start now. At least, that's my justification. | met a really great guy last month and I've taken an interest in his culture, but is it too much too soon? | [
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TITLE: am I [26 F] getting into his [29 M] culture too quickly?
POST: I met a guy while on vacation in Canada last month, and he and I hooked up and then connected on Facebook so we could stay in touch. Some of our messages have been flirty, others more steamy, and we're planning on having him come to visit me in a couple of months. Clearly, we like each other.
But here's the thing, he's French. I don't mean French Canadian, French-French. He's from France, and French is his first language, and while I was only mildly intrigued by French culture before meeting him, us getting involved has definitely sparked an interest in me. I've been sending him messages in French when possible, I've taken an interest in learning how to speak the language, even got a Babbel account although I haven't paid for a subscription yet; and I learned how to make crepes over the weekend! Well, started learning...
But here's the thing, we've seen each other once and we've only known each other for a month and a half, so... is this too much, at this point? If I surprised him with some French when he comes to visit, will he appreciate it or be mildly... creped out?
And I don't want to get to a point where we've been involved for a while and serious about each other, and have people start giving me a hard time for not bothering to learn his language. "What, you say you love him but can't learn French for him? *Americans*..." It takes a while to learn a new language, so that's part of why it may be good to start now. At least, that's my justification.
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TITLE: am I [26 F] getting into his [29 M] culture too quickly?
POST: I met a guy while on vacation in Canada last month, and he and I hooked up and then connected on Facebook so we could stay in touch. Some of our messages have been flirty, others more steamy, and we're planning on having him come to visit me in a couple of months. Clearly, we like each other.
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But here's the thing, we've seen each other once and we've only known each other for a month and a half, so... is this too much, at this point? If I surprised him with some French when he comes to visit, will he appreciate it or be mildly... creped out?
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TITLE: Do I break up with him now to save heartache for both of us later even though I'm madly in love with him? :(
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t3_23hxpp | relationships | My girlfriend [F21] wants to go on a 2-3 week vacation in China with her male friend, without me [M20]. Is this okay, or am I being irrational? | I am 20 and my girlfriend is 21. We've been dating for 3 years now, and have been best friends for about 8. She told me that her male friend (who she's known longer than me) asked her to come to China with him for 2 to 3 weeks over the summer, and I am extremely uncomfortable about it.
They hang out every once in a while, and casually keep in touch. I've known him through high school and after, and he's always been nice and has never shown any interest in her (from what I know). But the thought of her being in a different country with another single guy for 3 weeks and having those experiences without me makes me feel sick. I totally trust her, but things can easily change when you spend that amount of time with one person like that, and this frightens me. We are both still so young, and anything can happen, especially if alcohol comes into play.
Am I being selfish here? She can't seem to see why I would have a problem with it, and tells me my worries are irrational. She's making me feel like I am barring her from certain experiences if they aren't with me. I want her to have experiences with her friends, because if you do everything with one person, things can get stale. I completely understand that. But I feel like this is a big deal, and I don't think it's okay.
I am in no position to tell her what she can and can't do, but I really don't want her to go.
How can I express this to her without coming off as the controlling/worrying boyfriend? | My girlfriend got invited by a male friend to go on vacation in another country for 3 weeks, and I have extremely mixed feelings about it. | [
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TITLE: My girlfriend [F21] wants to go on a 2-3 week vacation in China with her male friend, without me [M20]. Is this okay, or am I being irrational?
POST: I am 20 and my girlfriend is 21. We've been dating for 3 years now, and have been best friends for about 8. She told me that her male friend (who she's known longer than me) asked her to come to China with him for 2 to 3 weeks over the summer, and I am extremely uncomfortable about it.
They hang out every once in a while, and casually keep in touch. I've known him through high school and after, and he's always been nice and has never shown any interest in her (from what I know). But the thought of her being in a different country with another single guy for 3 weeks and having those experiences without me makes me feel sick. I totally trust her, but things can easily change when you spend that amount of time with one person like that, and this frightens me. We are both still so young, and anything can happen, especially if alcohol comes into play.
Am I being selfish here? She can't seem to see why I would have a problem with it, and tells me my worries are irrational. She's making me feel like I am barring her from certain experiences if they aren't with me. I want her to have experiences with her friends, because if you do everything with one person, things can get stale. I completely understand that. But I feel like this is a big deal, and I don't think it's okay.
I am in no position to tell her what she can and can't do, but I really don't want her to go.
How can I express this to her without coming off as the controlling/worrying boyfriend?
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TITLE: My girlfriend [F21] wants to go on a 2-3 week vacation in China with her male friend, without me [M20]. Is this okay, or am I being irrational?
POST: I am 20 and my girlfriend is 21. We've been dating for 3 years now, and have been best friends for about 8. She told me that her male friend (who she's known longer than me) asked her to come to China with him for 2 to 3 weeks over the summer, and I am extremely uncomfortable about it.
They hang out every once in a while, and casually keep in touch. I've known him through high school and after, and he's always been nice and has never shown any interest in her (from what I know). But the thought of her being in a different country with another single guy for 3 weeks and having those experiences without me makes me feel sick. I totally trust her, but things can easily change when you spend that amount of time with one person like that, and this frightens me. We are both still so young, and anything can happen, especially if alcohol comes into play.
Am I being selfish here? She can't seem to see why I would have a problem with it, and tells me my worries are irrational. She's making me feel like I am barring her from certain experiences if they aren't with me. I want her to have experiences with her friends, because if you do everything with one person, things can get stale. I completely understand that. But I feel like this is a big deal, and I don't think it's okay.
I am in no position to tell her what she can and can't do, but I really don't want her to go.
How can I express this to her without coming off as the controlling/worrying boyfriend?
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Short background: I'm 27, 5'4'' and last time I was weighed I was 158lbs. I don't feel I need to lose as much as I just need to get in shape. Over the last few years, I spent a long time so depressed I literally didn't move, or get out of bed. Frankly, I'm surprised I'm still alive. I'd spend days without food and then binge on crap, then repeat the cycle. I got out of my unhealthy relationship with my alcoholic partner last year. I don't have health insurance, so I'm paranoid that i'll stress my body out if I just jump into heavy exercise. How do I ease into a routine? Sounds like a dumb question, but I don't want to hurt myself, or burn myself out mentally. Also, I don't have a gym membership, are there any good websites for home workouts? | Feel weak and out of shape after years of barely moving, now I want to get in shape. Thanks for your help in advance! | [
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t3_2kuqng | relationships | Me [23M] with my [24F] of 8 months, wondering if I should be with this girl considering her questionable behaviour and comments... | So I am madly in love with this girl and everything has been going great but at the back of my mind is she goes on a night out without me I'm at the least slightly concerned. She's never done anything to me but when she went travelling away from her boyfriend of 2 years she cheated on him at least 4 times, I was the 4th. We then ended up being together.
A few weeks ago she went to a wedding that I wasn't invited to and when I called her asking why she was leaving early she said 'well, we all know what happens at weddings, so i thought i should leave'. When I asked what she meant she said ' Well everyones so happy, so horny, you know, I just thought I should leave'.
She then went to another wedding abroad which she did come back late from and met a guy called mr x. I don't know what happened there but I saw in her messages after that he came to our hometown whilst I was away and that he wanted to meet up, she says to me that she wanted to introduce him to her sister but in her text messages from just before she met him she says to another friend ' I feel flustered and is it not bad that I haven't told him I have a boyfriend'? I asked her about this and she said nothing happened.
She also lies about tiny things a lot and says she doesn't do the same to me but lies to her friends about where she is/what she's doing to avoid plans with them all the time.
I love this girl to pieces but should I be with her?
She always says Im the first guy she can imagine having kids with but should I be careful before I become even more emotionally attached to her or am I overthinking things | Don't want to be looking in too deep to this but wondering if I should be concerned with this behaviour as I absolutely love this girl? | [
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TITLE: Me [23M] with my [24F] of 8 months, wondering if I should be with this girl considering her questionable behaviour and comments...
POST: So I am madly in love with this girl and everything has been going great but at the back of my mind is she goes on a night out without me I'm at the least slightly concerned. She's never done anything to me but when she went travelling away from her boyfriend of 2 years she cheated on him at least 4 times, I was the 4th. We then ended up being together.
A few weeks ago she went to a wedding that I wasn't invited to and when I called her asking why she was leaving early she said 'well, we all know what happens at weddings, so i thought i should leave'. When I asked what she meant she said'Well everyones so happy, so horny, you know, I just thought I should leave'.
She then went to another wedding abroad which she did come back late from and met a guy called mr x. I don't know what happened there but I saw in her messages after that he came to our hometown whilst I was away and that he wanted to meet up, she says to me that she wanted to introduce him to her sister but in her text messages from just before she met him she says to another friend'I feel flustered and is it not bad that I haven't told him I have a boyfriend'? I asked her about this and she said nothing happened.
She also lies about tiny things a lot and says she doesn't do the same to me but lies to her friends about where she is/what she's doing to avoid plans with them all the time.
I love this girl to pieces but should I be with her?
She always says Im the first guy she can imagine having kids with but should I be careful before I become even more emotionally attached to her or am I overthinking things
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TITLE: Me [23M] with my [24F] of 8 months, wondering if I should be with this girl considering her questionable behaviour and comments...
POST: So I am madly in love with this girl and everything has been going great but at the back of my mind is she goes on a night out without me I'm at the least slightly concerned. She's never done anything to me but when she went travelling away from her boyfriend of 2 years she cheated on him at least 4 times, I was the 4th. We then ended up being together.
A few weeks ago she went to a wedding that I wasn't invited to and when I called her asking why she was leaving early she said 'well, we all know what happens at weddings, so i thought i should leave'. When I asked what she meant she said'Well everyones so happy, so horny, you know, I just thought I should leave'.
She then went to another wedding abroad which she did come back late from and met a guy called mr x. I don't know what happened there but I saw in her messages after that he came to our hometown whilst I was away and that he wanted to meet up, she says to me that she wanted to introduce him to her sister but in her text messages from just before she met him she says to another friend'I feel flustered and is it not bad that I haven't told him I have a boyfriend'? I asked her about this and she said nothing happened.
She also lies about tiny things a lot and says she doesn't do the same to me but lies to her friends about where she is/what she's doing to avoid plans with them all the time.
I love this girl to pieces but should I be with her?
She always says Im the first guy she can imagine having kids with but should I be careful before I become even more emotionally attached to her or am I overthinking things
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t3_3ugm9v | tifu | TIFU by taking a piss at work | So a little bit of backstory - I work in a fairly large IT company who provides data storage etc. Anyways I work in the IT section of our offices as a 2nd line support engineer. Now I usually don't have a problem with using the office toilets, but being the shy individual I am I don't like to use it when others are also using/around.
Anyways I go to use the toilets, and I'm enjoying my slightly longer than usual piss, when I hear footsteps outside, in my blind state of panic i decide to hold my my stream of piss and put my dick back in my pants. The boss of the company, who rarely has ever seen me due to my job role, comes striding in and looks me with a look of disgust and continues to the toilet stools.
Confused I decide to wash my hands and get ready to haul arse out of there. That's when I looked down and saw that in my attempt to tuck my dick back in, I pissed all over my shirt, the wall by the urinal and left a trail to my feet. on top of this i had left my trousers completely undone. | Heard footsteps while peeing, tucked dick in pants because i'm shy while using toilets, boss comes in and sees that I pissed all over my shirt and the wall in an attempt to put my dick in my pants | [
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TITLE: TIFU by taking a piss at work
POST: So a little bit of backstory - I work in a fairly large IT company who provides data storage etc. Anyways I work in the IT section of our offices as a 2nd line support engineer. Now I usually don't have a problem with using the office toilets, but being the shy individual I am I don't like to use it when others are also using/around.
Anyways I go to use the toilets, and I'm enjoying my slightly longer than usual piss, when I hear footsteps outside, in my blind state of panic i decide to hold my my stream of piss and put my dick back in my pants. The boss of the company, who rarely has ever seen me due to my job role, comes striding in and looks me with a look of disgust and continues to the toilet stools.
Confused I decide to wash my hands and get ready to haul arse out of there. That's when I looked down and saw that in my attempt to tuck my dick back in, I pissed all over my shirt, the wall by the urinal and left a trail to my feet. on top of this i had left my trousers completely undone.
TL;DR: | Heard footsteps while peeing, tucked dick in pants because i'm shy while using toilets, boss comes in and sees that I pissed all over my shirt and the wall in an attempt to put my dick in my pants<|endoftext|> | [
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TITLE: TIFU by taking a piss at work
POST: So a little bit of backstory - I work in a fairly large IT company who provides data storage etc. Anyways I work in the IT section of our offices as a 2nd line support engineer. Now I usually don't have a problem with using the office toilets, but being the shy individual I am I don't like to use it when others are also using/around.
Anyways I go to use the toilets, and I'm enjoying my slightly longer than usual piss, when I hear footsteps outside, in my blind state of panic i decide to hold my my stream of piss and put my dick back in my pants. The boss of the company, who rarely has ever seen me due to my job role, comes striding in and looks me with a look of disgust and continues to the toilet stools.
Confused I decide to wash my hands and get ready to haul arse out of there. That's when I looked down and saw that in my attempt to tuck my dick back in, I pissed all over my shirt, the wall by the urinal and left a trail to my feet. on top of this i had left my trousers completely undone.
TL;DR: Heard footsteps while peeing, tucked dick in pants because i'm shy while using toilets, boss comes in and sees that I pissed all over my shirt and the wall in an attempt to put my dick in my pants<|endoftext|> | [
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t3_3l98js | relationships | I [16 M] am having serious problems with my 3 school mates [all 16 F]. They treat me so badly I cry. | Hey reddit. Ive just been having a lot of trouble the past 3 years with some of my schoolmates. These 3 girls everyday I see them kick me in the shins or right in the family jewels and insult me calling me fat, stupid, useless, a benchwarmer, and other things.
On a occasional basis this wouldnt normally mess with me but it has been going on for the past 3 years and I just am at my wits end. What do I do to stop them? Ive seen teachers all of which do nothing, my parents say just to ignore them (easier said than done), and when I confront them they just kick and hit me and run off while I try and stop them. also even if i wanted to I couldnt hit back because they would lie till I was found at fault and suspended or expelled. Its gotten to the point some nights if the days been really bad with them I just go and cry which I have never done before in my life.
Ive always tried to be a nice person to everybody I meet and when I ask why they do it they just walk off or say they think im a dick or that they just dont like me. I dont even get a specific reason for why they dont like me!
The worst part is that I am friends with all of their friends so I see them at every party from birthdays to prom. It seems i cant escape. To try and deflect or deal with their rude comments ive resorted to trying to make everything they say a joke so they just get annoyed and leave but this is giving me a bad reputation as someone who isnt serious and is a class clown.
I hope I posted this in the right place but i didnt know where else to post. Thanks for reading! | Girls in my school kicking and demoralizing me for past 2 years and I dont know what to do anymore. I have had to change to try and deal with them and its making me really sad. | [
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TITLE: I [16 M] am having serious problems with my 3 school mates [all 16 F]. They treat me so badly I cry.
POST: Hey reddit. Ive just been having a lot of trouble the past 3 years with some of my schoolmates. These 3 girls everyday I see them kick me in the shins or right in the family jewels and insult me calling me fat, stupid, useless, a benchwarmer, and other things.
On a occasional basis this wouldnt normally mess with me but it has been going on for the past 3 years and I just am at my wits end. What do I do to stop them? Ive seen teachers all of which do nothing, my parents say just to ignore them (easier said than done), and when I confront them they just kick and hit me and run off while I try and stop them. also even if i wanted to I couldnt hit back because they would lie till I was found at fault and suspended or expelled. Its gotten to the point some nights if the days been really bad with them I just go and cry which I have never done before in my life.
Ive always tried to be a nice person to everybody I meet and when I ask why they do it they just walk off or say they think im a dick or that they just dont like me. I dont even get a specific reason for why they dont like me!
The worst part is that I am friends with all of their friends so I see them at every party from birthdays to prom. It seems i cant escape. To try and deflect or deal with their rude comments ive resorted to trying to make everything they say a joke so they just get annoyed and leave but this is giving me a bad reputation as someone who isnt serious and is a class clown.
I hope I posted this in the right place but i didnt know where else to post. Thanks for reading!
TL;DR: | Girls in my school kicking and demoralizing me for past 2 years and I dont know what to do anymore. I have had to change to try and deal with them and its making me really sad.<|endoftext|> | [
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TITLE: I [16 M] am having serious problems with my 3 school mates [all 16 F]. They treat me so badly I cry.
POST: Hey reddit. Ive just been having a lot of trouble the past 3 years with some of my schoolmates. These 3 girls everyday I see them kick me in the shins or right in the family jewels and insult me calling me fat, stupid, useless, a benchwarmer, and other things.
On a occasional basis this wouldnt normally mess with me but it has been going on for the past 3 years and I just am at my wits end. What do I do to stop them? Ive seen teachers all of which do nothing, my parents say just to ignore them (easier said than done), and when I confront them they just kick and hit me and run off while I try and stop them. also even if i wanted to I couldnt hit back because they would lie till I was found at fault and suspended or expelled. Its gotten to the point some nights if the days been really bad with them I just go and cry which I have never done before in my life.
Ive always tried to be a nice person to everybody I meet and when I ask why they do it they just walk off or say they think im a dick or that they just dont like me. I dont even get a specific reason for why they dont like me!
The worst part is that I am friends with all of their friends so I see them at every party from birthdays to prom. It seems i cant escape. To try and deflect or deal with their rude comments ive resorted to trying to make everything they say a joke so they just get annoyed and leave but this is giving me a bad reputation as someone who isnt serious and is a class clown.
I hope I posted this in the right place but i didnt know where else to post. Thanks for reading!
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t3_2lhzi0 | relationships | Me [22 M] with my s.o. [21 F] 3 months, how often should I tell her I love her? | I've been seeing a girl for about 3 months and just recently I dropped the big "L" word, she said it back too! I know it's early to say it, but eveything about our lives and personalities intersect and we've just sort of clicked on every level.
We're not officially in a relationship because we go to colleges that are fairly far away and I had a really bad experience in a previous long distance relationship. However, our hometowns are very close and we're both graduating after this year. After graduation, we're hopeful that we'll end up geographically close enough to start putting a label on it.
My question though is now that I've told her I love her, how often should I tell her since we're still not technically in a relationship. I feel like when you say it too much it kind of loses it's meaning a little bit, but I also don't want her to think I don't feel that way. | How often should I tell my s.o. I love her so that it doesn't wear out, but she still knows I do? | [
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TITLE: Me [22 M] with my s.o. [21 F] 3 months, how often should I tell her I love her?
POST: I've been seeing a girl for about 3 months and just recently I dropped the big "L" word, she said it back too! I know it's early to say it, but eveything about our lives and personalities intersect and we've just sort of clicked on every level.
We're not officially in a relationship because we go to colleges that are fairly far away and I had a really bad experience in a previous long distance relationship. However, our hometowns are very close and we're both graduating after this year. After graduation, we're hopeful that we'll end up geographically close enough to start putting a label on it.
My question though is now that I've told her I love her, how often should I tell her since we're still not technically in a relationship. I feel like when you say it too much it kind of loses it's meaning a little bit, but I also don't want her to think I don't feel that way.
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TITLE: Me [22 M] with my s.o. [21 F] 3 months, how often should I tell her I love her?
POST: I've been seeing a girl for about 3 months and just recently I dropped the big "L" word, she said it back too! I know it's early to say it, but eveything about our lives and personalities intersect and we've just sort of clicked on every level.
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t3_38z7i4 | relationships | Me [21 F] broke up with my BF of over a year. How soon can I start using Tinder? | We just broke up this past Friday and it was pretty bad. He's done a lot of fucked up shit to me, and I stuck around. But now we're broken up and I've never been more sure that it needs to stay this way.
Anyway, I'm so disconnected socially... I don't have any friends (he was really my only friend I had that didn't already graduate and leave town), and I am honestly looking for a way to get my mind off of things. I was thinking about joining Tinder again, which I haven't used since the last time I was single.
We both live in a college town, so there a definite possibility that his friends on Tinder would see me on there. I mean, I know I shouldn't care what he thinks about me being on there, but do you guys think it's too soon? Like I said, we JUST broke up this past Friday... But our relationship has been bad for the past few months and very on and off... However, this time it's really over with and I know we can both agree with that. What are the possible repercussions I may face from doing this?
I really have no good reason for going on there. I'm not anticipating finding a "rebound" relationship, and I just think it would be a nice way to talk to guys just for the hell of it... Nothing else. | Me and my douche ex BF just broke up this past Friday, and I am socially deprived/bored and was wondering if it would be too soon to join Tinder. | [
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TITLE: Me [21 F] broke up with my BF of over a year. How soon can I start using Tinder?
POST: We just broke up this past Friday and it was pretty bad. He's done a lot of fucked up shit to me, and I stuck around. But now we're broken up and I've never been more sure that it needs to stay this way.
Anyway, I'm so disconnected socially... I don't have any friends (he was really my only friend I had that didn't already graduate and leave town), and I am honestly looking for a way to get my mind off of things. I was thinking about joining Tinder again, which I haven't used since the last time I was single.
We both live in a college town, so there a definite possibility that his friends on Tinder would see me on there. I mean, I know I shouldn't care what he thinks about me being on there, but do you guys think it's too soon? Like I said, we JUST broke up this past Friday... But our relationship has been bad for the past few months and very on and off... However, this time it's really over with and I know we can both agree with that. What are the possible repercussions I may face from doing this?
I really have no good reason for going on there. I'm not anticipating finding a "rebound" relationship, and I just think it would be a nice way to talk to guys just for the hell of it... Nothing else.
TL;DR: | Me and my douche ex BF just broke up this past Friday, and I am socially deprived/bored and was wondering if it would be too soon to join Tinder.<|endoftext|> | [
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TITLE: Me [21 F] broke up with my BF of over a year. How soon can I start using Tinder?
POST: We just broke up this past Friday and it was pretty bad. He's done a lot of fucked up shit to me, and I stuck around. But now we're broken up and I've never been more sure that it needs to stay this way.
Anyway, I'm so disconnected socially... I don't have any friends (he was really my only friend I had that didn't already graduate and leave town), and I am honestly looking for a way to get my mind off of things. I was thinking about joining Tinder again, which I haven't used since the last time I was single.
We both live in a college town, so there a definite possibility that his friends on Tinder would see me on there. I mean, I know I shouldn't care what he thinks about me being on there, but do you guys think it's too soon? Like I said, we JUST broke up this past Friday... But our relationship has been bad for the past few months and very on and off... However, this time it's really over with and I know we can both agree with that. What are the possible repercussions I may face from doing this?
I really have no good reason for going on there. I'm not anticipating finding a "rebound" relationship, and I just think it would be a nice way to talk to guys just for the hell of it... Nothing else.
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TITLE: TIFU by finally having sex with my girlfriend
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Now fast forward one day from our first time. We're horny and ready for round 2. We are ready to get it going hot and fast, we're going and going and it seems like forever. It's amazing but hey, when you're done you're done. I look down to realize that, lo and behold, the condom broke! We went and got plan B and she started her period so we know that we were lucky, but I have never seen her this sad. I feel horrible about the whole thing and I feel that it's my fault she is so down on herself and even though I know it will pass, It just sucks.
TL;DR: | Girlfriend and I had sex for second time, worst fear realized, girlfriend can't look at herself the same, I feel terrible.<|endoftext|> | [
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TITLE: TIFU by finally having sex with my girlfriend
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t3_g48c7 | AskReddit | Share your funny/embarrassing/regret filled stories of introducing friends to each other | I live in university accommodation, and share a floor with 10 other people that I only met a few months ago. I invited two of my best friends over for drinks tonight. This was only the second time my best friends had met the people I'd been living with.
Everyone got pretty wasted, and by the end of the night one of my friends had lit his pubes on fire and made my kitchen smell like so bad it made me gag, and the other thought it would be hilarious to wipe his ass on our table (which 10 others and I share), and left a fucking shit stain on top of it (don't ask... apparently he wasn't taught how wipe his ass)
I had left them in the kitchen and I was in my room at this point. The people I live with were smashing my door and telling me to get my friends the fuck out of the house haha. As disgusting as it was, it was fucking hilarious (mostly because we were all so drunk).
Oh and the first time (few months ago) I introduced the guy who let his pubes on fire to my floor, he got naked and woke my entire floor up by screaming and running into peoples bedrooms he doesn't even know. Fuck, I love my friends, but they are such embarrassing assholes haha. | I invited some friends over to my house to meet other (new) friends, and one left shit stains on my kitchen table whilst the other burnt his pubes off. | [
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POST: I live in university accommodation, and share a floor with 10 other people that I only met a few months ago. I invited two of my best friends over for drinks tonight. This was only the second time my best friends had met the people I'd been living with.
Everyone got pretty wasted, and by the end of the night one of my friends had lit his pubes on fire and made my kitchen smell like so bad it made me gag, and the other thought it would be hilarious to wipe his ass on our table (which 10 others and I share), and left a fucking shit stain on top of it (don't ask... apparently he wasn't taught how wipe his ass)
I had left them in the kitchen and I was in my room at this point. The people I live with were smashing my door and telling me to get my friends the fuck out of the house haha. As disgusting as it was, it was fucking hilarious (mostly because we were all so drunk).
Oh and the first time (few months ago) I introduced the guy who let his pubes on fire to my floor, he got naked and woke my entire floor up by screaming and running into peoples bedrooms he doesn't even know. Fuck, I love my friends, but they are such embarrassing assholes haha.
TL;DR: | I invited some friends over to my house to meet other (new) friends, and one left shit stains on my kitchen table whilst the other burnt his pubes off.<|endoftext|> | [
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TITLE: Share your funny/embarrassing/regret filled stories of introducing friends to each other
POST: I live in university accommodation, and share a floor with 10 other people that I only met a few months ago. I invited two of my best friends over for drinks tonight. This was only the second time my best friends had met the people I'd been living with.
Everyone got pretty wasted, and by the end of the night one of my friends had lit his pubes on fire and made my kitchen smell like so bad it made me gag, and the other thought it would be hilarious to wipe his ass on our table (which 10 others and I share), and left a fucking shit stain on top of it (don't ask... apparently he wasn't taught how wipe his ass)
I had left them in the kitchen and I was in my room at this point. The people I live with were smashing my door and telling me to get my friends the fuck out of the house haha. As disgusting as it was, it was fucking hilarious (mostly because we were all so drunk).
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t3_26fot2 | relationship_advice | Am I [20/F] asking too much of my boyfriend [25/M] before boys' night? | Every Saturday my boyfriend of two years goes over to his buddy's house to play cards out night. It's no biggie (most of the time), but I'm frustrated because I feel like I don't see him enough during the week (he works, comes home and naps, then gets on the computer for hours). I really wish he would devote half as much time to me as he does to boys' night. I would give almost anything for him to come home from work and spend the evening with me (no computer or video games involved), without having to ask him to like he does with cards.
We do spend time together, but it's usually at family functions, driving to said family functions, running errands, or right before bed (for that whole five minutes before he passes out). We try to do one date night a week, but I would really appreciate a little more (especially because as soon as we walk in the door after dinner or whatever, he goes straight to the computer). When we do spend time together, things are great and we get along well and have fun. Besides our disagreement on how time is spent, we have a pretty solid relationship. However, this is something that bothers me and I don't know how to get him to do something about it.
I love him a lot, but it frustrates me that he will play video games with the guys every night, but doesn't understand why I get so upset when he doesn't use that time with me instead for one night a week (he's going to see them the next day!). I've explained time and time again that it makes me feel less important than his games and friends and he promises to make it up the next day but just ends up sleeping it off. I know he uses games as an escape (our living situation is horrible right now), but that doesn't mean I don't want to see him. I really don't want to nag, but I'm getting to the end of my rope with all of this. How do I get him to understand that I need to see him for a bit before he goes? Am I asking for too much? Thanks in advance! | I wish my boyfriend would spend time with me before his boys' nights. He plays video games with them every night, but I wish he would take a break once a week for me before he goes. | [
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TITLE: Am I [20/F] asking too much of my boyfriend [25/M] before boys' night?
POST: Every Saturday my boyfriend of two years goes over to his buddy's house to play cards out night. It's no biggie (most of the time), but I'm frustrated because I feel like I don't see him enough during the week (he works, comes home and naps, then gets on the computer for hours). I really wish he would devote half as much time to me as he does to boys' night. I would give almost anything for him to come home from work and spend the evening with me (no computer or video games involved), without having to ask him to like he does with cards.
We do spend time together, but it's usually at family functions, driving to said family functions, running errands, or right before bed (for that whole five minutes before he passes out). We try to do one date night a week, but I would really appreciate a little more (especially because as soon as we walk in the door after dinner or whatever, he goes straight to the computer). When we do spend time together, things are great and we get along well and have fun. Besides our disagreement on how time is spent, we have a pretty solid relationship. However, this is something that bothers me and I don't know how to get him to do something about it.
I love him a lot, but it frustrates me that he will play video games with the guys every night, but doesn't understand why I get so upset when he doesn't use that time with me instead for one night a week (he's going to see them the next day!). I've explained time and time again that it makes me feel less important than his games and friends and he promises to make it up the next day but just ends up sleeping it off. I know he uses games as an escape (our living situation is horrible right now), but that doesn't mean I don't want to see him. I really don't want to nag, but I'm getting to the end of my rope with all of this. How do I get him to understand that I need to see him for a bit before he goes? Am I asking for too much? Thanks in advance!
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TITLE: Am I [20/F] asking too much of my boyfriend [25/M] before boys' night?
POST: Every Saturday my boyfriend of two years goes over to his buddy's house to play cards out night. It's no biggie (most of the time), but I'm frustrated because I feel like I don't see him enough during the week (he works, comes home and naps, then gets on the computer for hours). I really wish he would devote half as much time to me as he does to boys' night. I would give almost anything for him to come home from work and spend the evening with me (no computer or video games involved), without having to ask him to like he does with cards.
We do spend time together, but it's usually at family functions, driving to said family functions, running errands, or right before bed (for that whole five minutes before he passes out). We try to do one date night a week, but I would really appreciate a little more (especially because as soon as we walk in the door after dinner or whatever, he goes straight to the computer). When we do spend time together, things are great and we get along well and have fun. Besides our disagreement on how time is spent, we have a pretty solid relationship. However, this is something that bothers me and I don't know how to get him to do something about it.
I love him a lot, but it frustrates me that he will play video games with the guys every night, but doesn't understand why I get so upset when he doesn't use that time with me instead for one night a week (he's going to see them the next day!). I've explained time and time again that it makes me feel less important than his games and friends and he promises to make it up the next day but just ends up sleeping it off. I know he uses games as an escape (our living situation is horrible right now), but that doesn't mean I don't want to see him. I really don't want to nag, but I'm getting to the end of my rope with all of this. How do I get him to understand that I need to see him for a bit before he goes? Am I asking for too much? Thanks in advance!
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t3_3unqi9 | relationships | Me [27 M] with my gf [27 F] 6 months, Drunkenly read my GF's text messages. She doesn't know if we'll work out because I'm not sexy. | I got really drunk (I'm not excusing it, merely explaining why I would even consider violating her privacy) and read her messages. I'm overweight, and she hasn't been as interested in sex or kissing lately.
Now every time we have an opportunity to eat I'm extra insecure about not eating properly. Understand that I was already exercising and eating better before I discovered this. But, I do have quite a lot to go before I'm there. I'm feeling ridiculously unattractive right now and I don't know what to do. Do I confess that I looked through her messages, or do I ask why she's not as interested in sex even though I feel like I just read the answer?
I don't know what to do. I feel like a complete scumbag for looking through her messages. | Got drunk and read Gf's phone, says she isn't sure we'll work out long term because she feels she might be shallow and I am not sexy (I'm overweight). | [
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TITLE: Me [27 M] with my gf [27 F] 6 months, Drunkenly read my GF's text messages. She doesn't know if we'll work out because I'm not sexy.
POST: I got really drunk (I'm not excusing it, merely explaining why I would even consider violating her privacy) and read her messages. I'm overweight, and she hasn't been as interested in sex or kissing lately.
Now every time we have an opportunity to eat I'm extra insecure about not eating properly. Understand that I was already exercising and eating better before I discovered this. But, I do have quite a lot to go before I'm there. I'm feeling ridiculously unattractive right now and I don't know what to do. Do I confess that I looked through her messages, or do I ask why she's not as interested in sex even though I feel like I just read the answer?
I don't know what to do. I feel like a complete scumbag for looking through her messages.
TL;DR: | Got drunk and read Gf's phone, says she isn't sure we'll work out long term because she feels she might be shallow and I am not sexy (I'm overweight).<|endoftext|> | [
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TITLE: Me [27 M] with my gf [27 F] 6 months, Drunkenly read my GF's text messages. She doesn't know if we'll work out because I'm not sexy.
POST: I got really drunk (I'm not excusing it, merely explaining why I would even consider violating her privacy) and read her messages. I'm overweight, and she hasn't been as interested in sex or kissing lately.
Now every time we have an opportunity to eat I'm extra insecure about not eating properly. Understand that I was already exercising and eating better before I discovered this. But, I do have quite a lot to go before I'm there. I'm feeling ridiculously unattractive right now and I don't know what to do. Do I confess that I looked through her messages, or do I ask why she's not as interested in sex even though I feel like I just read the answer?
I don't know what to do. I feel like a complete scumbag for looking through her messages.
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t3_32t7ky | loseit | Questions about exercising. | Hey there, not sure if this is the place to ask this but I have been trying to diet on and off (I know, I need to just keep at it and excuses are not a reason.) But lately I have been going to the gym with my friend which has helped me quite a bit getting exercise in. However, yesterday I noticed something.
When I started 2 or 3 weeks ago, my squat max was quite pathetic on what it was compared to in high school. In high school I was maxing out at 285lb when I weighed 115lb. I think my squat max 2 weeks ago was somewhere around 180. But yesterday, I somehow manage to get that up to 240 pounds. Which makes me think that I don't have any fat in my legs, which also made me conclude that I don't have much fat in my arms either.
I think all of my fat resides in my belly and on my back. I currently weigh 165 pounds (I'm 5'3" so I am short) and I am attempting to get down to at least 130 by the end of the year. I know it's not much to lose, but with my eating habits and my love for video games doesn't help much, it also doesn't help that my friends and family live so far away so I can't play any soccer with anyone around.
Anyways, so my question to you guys is do I keep going to the gym and weight lift? Or should I be doing more cardio with dieting on top of that? Any help would be greatly appreciated. | Started weight lifting with friend, realized I only have fat in stomach and back, need to know if I need to change exercise to cardio and dieting. | [
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TITLE: Questions about exercising.
POST: Hey there, not sure if this is the place to ask this but I have been trying to diet on and off (I know, I need to just keep at it and excuses are not a reason.) But lately I have been going to the gym with my friend which has helped me quite a bit getting exercise in. However, yesterday I noticed something.
When I started 2 or 3 weeks ago, my squat max was quite pathetic on what it was compared to in high school. In high school I was maxing out at 285lb when I weighed 115lb. I think my squat max 2 weeks ago was somewhere around 180. But yesterday, I somehow manage to get that up to 240 pounds. Which makes me think that I don't have any fat in my legs, which also made me conclude that I don't have much fat in my arms either.
I think all of my fat resides in my belly and on my back. I currently weigh 165 pounds (I'm 5'3" so I am short) and I am attempting to get down to at least 130 by the end of the year. I know it's not much to lose, but with my eating habits and my love for video games doesn't help much, it also doesn't help that my friends and family live so far away so I can't play any soccer with anyone around.
Anyways, so my question to you guys is do I keep going to the gym and weight lift? Or should I be doing more cardio with dieting on top of that? Any help would be greatly appreciated.
TL;DR: | Started weight lifting with friend, realized I only have fat in stomach and back, need to know if I need to change exercise to cardio and dieting.<|endoftext|> | [
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TITLE: Questions about exercising.
POST: Hey there, not sure if this is the place to ask this but I have been trying to diet on and off (I know, I need to just keep at it and excuses are not a reason.) But lately I have been going to the gym with my friend which has helped me quite a bit getting exercise in. However, yesterday I noticed something.
When I started 2 or 3 weeks ago, my squat max was quite pathetic on what it was compared to in high school. In high school I was maxing out at 285lb when I weighed 115lb. I think my squat max 2 weeks ago was somewhere around 180. But yesterday, I somehow manage to get that up to 240 pounds. Which makes me think that I don't have any fat in my legs, which also made me conclude that I don't have much fat in my arms either.
I think all of my fat resides in my belly and on my back. I currently weigh 165 pounds (I'm 5'3" so I am short) and I am attempting to get down to at least 130 by the end of the year. I know it's not much to lose, but with my eating habits and my love for video games doesn't help much, it also doesn't help that my friends and family live so far away so I can't play any soccer with anyone around.
Anyways, so my question to you guys is do I keep going to the gym and weight lift? Or should I be doing more cardio with dieting on top of that? Any help would be greatly appreciated.
TL;DR: Started weight lifting with friend, realized I only have fat in stomach and back, need to know if I need to change exercise to cardio and dieting.<|endoftext|> | [
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t3_2vndjf | relationships | How do I [21F] break off my open relationship with my boyfriend [23M] whom I'm madly in love with? | We've been together for around 18 months to varying degrees of seriousness; we started off as FWBs before becoming a titled 'boyfriend and girlfriend' event. We've always been open, which has exponentially enhanced the quality of our relationship in comparison to those of our monogamous friends, and we've discussed at length the greatness of the love lives that we have as a consequence of being open.
However, recently, neither of us have really engaged with anyone else beyond drunken kissing etc., and I think that I've become too comfortable in what is *de facto* monogamy. We went to a dating event together this week and as a result, my boyfriend is going to meet up with another girl again. Since finding out, I've been experiencing real pangs of jealousy that I'm increasingly struggling to rationalise away and I can't seem to make myself come to terms with 'sharing' him. We've argued a lot this week (mostly due to my underlying resistance to the situation) and I think that it's time to wake up, smell the coffee and end it.
He's explicitly expressed that he wouldn't enter into another monogamous relationship so that isn't an option. Along with that, I don't think that enforced monogamy would suit us at all anyway. Give me some advice as to how to break up with someone that I am ultimately in love with! | Boyfriend and I are open - I'm now crazily jealous when he wants to meet up with other girls. How do I end it although I love him? | [
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TITLE: How do I [21F] break off my open relationship with my boyfriend [23M] whom I'm madly in love with?
POST: We've been together for around 18 months to varying degrees of seriousness; we started off as FWBs before becoming a titled 'boyfriend and girlfriend' event. We've always been open, which has exponentially enhanced the quality of our relationship in comparison to those of our monogamous friends, and we've discussed at length the greatness of the love lives that we have as a consequence of being open.
However, recently, neither of us have really engaged with anyone else beyond drunken kissing etc., and I think that I've become too comfortable in what is *de facto* monogamy. We went to a dating event together this week and as a result, my boyfriend is going to meet up with another girl again. Since finding out, I've been experiencing real pangs of jealousy that I'm increasingly struggling to rationalise away and I can't seem to make myself come to terms with'sharing' him. We've argued a lot this week (mostly due to my underlying resistance to the situation) and I think that it's time to wake up, smell the coffee and end it.
He's explicitly expressed that he wouldn't enter into another monogamous relationship so that isn't an option. Along with that, I don't think that enforced monogamy would suit us at all anyway. Give me some advice as to how to break up with someone that I am ultimately in love with!
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TITLE: How do I [21F] break off my open relationship with my boyfriend [23M] whom I'm madly in love with?
POST: We've been together for around 18 months to varying degrees of seriousness; we started off as FWBs before becoming a titled 'boyfriend and girlfriend' event. We've always been open, which has exponentially enhanced the quality of our relationship in comparison to those of our monogamous friends, and we've discussed at length the greatness of the love lives that we have as a consequence of being open.
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He's explicitly expressed that he wouldn't enter into another monogamous relationship so that isn't an option. Along with that, I don't think that enforced monogamy would suit us at all anyway. Give me some advice as to how to break up with someone that I am ultimately in love with!
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t3_38pk46 | relationships | [17F] This Girl [17F] is Mad at me for Talking to her Boyfriend [17M] | We all go to the same school, and they've been dating for like 6 months. I'm kind of friends with him, we talk at school and stuff but we don't hang out outside of school or anything. We were texting and some of the texts I sent were kind of flirtatious and I told him that I liked him, his girlfriend ended up seeing these texts, I'm not sure if she showed her in the first place or if she went through his phone and found it. Anyways then today at school she confronted me about these texts, she asked why I'd tell a guy I like him if I know he has a girlfriend, and I was just really nervous and caught off guard and I just said I didn't do it, and she said I was lying and stuff, she was talking in a really intimidating way and I'm not a confrontational person so I was nervous and I just said okay I'm sorry if you interpreted it that way, and she was like kay well I'd rather you not talk to my boyfriend ever again. And now I don't know what to do, I have a crush on him and I do also like him as a friend and I don't want to not be able to talk to him anymore, do you think she's over reacting? What should I do? | This girl is mad at me for talking to her boyfriend, she confronted me at school and I denied it and now I'm nervous. | [
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TITLE: [17F] This Girl [17F] is Mad at me for Talking to her Boyfriend [17M]
POST: We all go to the same school, and they've been dating for like 6 months. I'm kind of friends with him, we talk at school and stuff but we don't hang out outside of school or anything. We were texting and some of the texts I sent were kind of flirtatious and I told him that I liked him, his girlfriend ended up seeing these texts, I'm not sure if she showed her in the first place or if she went through his phone and found it. Anyways then today at school she confronted me about these texts, she asked why I'd tell a guy I like him if I know he has a girlfriend, and I was just really nervous and caught off guard and I just said I didn't do it, and she said I was lying and stuff, she was talking in a really intimidating way and I'm not a confrontational person so I was nervous and I just said okay I'm sorry if you interpreted it that way, and she was like kay well I'd rather you not talk to my boyfriend ever again. And now I don't know what to do, I have a crush on him and I do also like him as a friend and I don't want to not be able to talk to him anymore, do you think she's over reacting? What should I do?
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TITLE: [17F] This Girl [17F] is Mad at me for Talking to her Boyfriend [17M]
POST: We all go to the same school, and they've been dating for like 6 months. I'm kind of friends with him, we talk at school and stuff but we don't hang out outside of school or anything. We were texting and some of the texts I sent were kind of flirtatious and I told him that I liked him, his girlfriend ended up seeing these texts, I'm not sure if she showed her in the first place or if she went through his phone and found it. Anyways then today at school she confronted me about these texts, she asked why I'd tell a guy I like him if I know he has a girlfriend, and I was just really nervous and caught off guard and I just said I didn't do it, and she said I was lying and stuff, she was talking in a really intimidating way and I'm not a confrontational person so I was nervous and I just said okay I'm sorry if you interpreted it that way, and she was like kay well I'd rather you not talk to my boyfriend ever again. And now I don't know what to do, I have a crush on him and I do also like him as a friend and I don't want to not be able to talk to him anymore, do you think she's over reacting? What should I do?
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t3_4y20y7 | relationships | How do I [22 M] deal with my gf's numerous "guy" friends [22 F]? | We've been together for almsot a year now, and everything is going great! There has been one thing that has been bothering me a little bit and wanted to ask reddit. My girlfriend had an admittedly tomboy phase in her life and from this, she had more guy friends. She talks to guys a lot and she has a lot of close guy friends and sometimes it makes me uncomfortable.
Sometimes, when we're together I see her texting other guys, and I know it's nothing -- I trust her and I love her, but it just bothers me a little bit. I wanted to thus, ask reddit myself how to go about dealing with this problem. I know it's on my end, but how do other people cope with this?
She sometimes go on 1 on 1 lunches or dinners with guys. I know those guys too and I know they're just friends of hers, but does this feeling of discomfort normal? | GF has a lot of guy friends and are very close w/ them sometimes eating with them just them two. Should I be worried. | [
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TITLE: How do I [22 M] deal with my gf's numerous "guy" friends [22 F]?
POST: We've been together for almsot a year now, and everything is going great! There has been one thing that has been bothering me a little bit and wanted to ask reddit. My girlfriend had an admittedly tomboy phase in her life and from this, she had more guy friends. She talks to guys a lot and she has a lot of close guy friends and sometimes it makes me uncomfortable.
Sometimes, when we're together I see her texting other guys, and I know it's nothing -- I trust her and I love her, but it just bothers me a little bit. I wanted to thus, ask reddit myself how to go about dealing with this problem. I know it's on my end, but how do other people cope with this?
She sometimes go on 1 on 1 lunches or dinners with guys. I know those guys too and I know they're just friends of hers, but does this feeling of discomfort normal?
TL;DR: | GF has a lot of guy friends and are very close w/ them sometimes eating with them just them two. Should I be worried.<|endoftext|> | [
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TITLE: How do I [22 M] deal with my gf's numerous "guy" friends [22 F]?
POST: We've been together for almsot a year now, and everything is going great! There has been one thing that has been bothering me a little bit and wanted to ask reddit. My girlfriend had an admittedly tomboy phase in her life and from this, she had more guy friends. She talks to guys a lot and she has a lot of close guy friends and sometimes it makes me uncomfortable.
Sometimes, when we're together I see her texting other guys, and I know it's nothing -- I trust her and I love her, but it just bothers me a little bit. I wanted to thus, ask reddit myself how to go about dealing with this problem. I know it's on my end, but how do other people cope with this?
She sometimes go on 1 on 1 lunches or dinners with guys. I know those guys too and I know they're just friends of hers, but does this feeling of discomfort normal?
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POST: Let me start by giving you some background information. I have been dating the same guy for two years, since my last semester of my senior year of high school. He's was first and only boyfriend, my first kiss, my first everything, so I have never broken up with anyone before. Our relationship has for the most part been long distance with the exception of summers, seeing as we go to different colleges, about 2 hours apart. There have been some pretty blatant red flags in our relationship, but I am ashamed to say I let them go for so long because I was desperate to be in a relationship, and I was afraid of being alone. He holds me to a double standard about hanging out with the opposite gender, where I can't hang out with guys without him getting upset and making me feel guilty, while he frequently hangs out with girls. He resists any attempt at having a serious, adult conversation, talking to me in almost exclusively cutesy talk (calling me cute, cutie, and playing the "I love you", "I love you more" game). He also gets upset if I don't constantly give him kisses or let him grab my butt, and has complained about it multiple times. I've tried talking to him about all of these things and more, but every time I try he gets angry and claims that I hate him and other terrible things (he has a really bad temper). Overall, I feel like we no longer have much in common, and I'm done turning a blind eye to these red flags and have accepted that he's not capable of being in a mature relationship. I don't hate him, there's no bad blood between us, but I do not want to spend the rest of my life with him. I don't know how to end this or any relationship, and I know he doesn't want it to end- he thinks that everything is fine, and tells me he wants to marry me someday. I want to break up with him sooner rather than later to spare us both some pain, but I honestly don't know how to go about it if the feeling's not mutual. I'd like to stay friends, but with his temper I feel like that is never going to happen if I end it
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POST: Let me start by giving you some background information. I have been dating the same guy for two years, since my last semester of my senior year of high school. He's was first and only boyfriend, my first kiss, my first everything, so I have never broken up with anyone before. Our relationship has for the most part been long distance with the exception of summers, seeing as we go to different colleges, about 2 hours apart. There have been some pretty blatant red flags in our relationship, but I am ashamed to say I let them go for so long because I was desperate to be in a relationship, and I was afraid of being alone. He holds me to a double standard about hanging out with the opposite gender, where I can't hang out with guys without him getting upset and making me feel guilty, while he frequently hangs out with girls. He resists any attempt at having a serious, adult conversation, talking to me in almost exclusively cutesy talk (calling me cute, cutie, and playing the "I love you", "I love you more" game). He also gets upset if I don't constantly give him kisses or let him grab my butt, and has complained about it multiple times. I've tried talking to him about all of these things and more, but every time I try he gets angry and claims that I hate him and other terrible things (he has a really bad temper). Overall, I feel like we no longer have much in common, and I'm done turning a blind eye to these red flags and have accepted that he's not capable of being in a mature relationship. I don't hate him, there's no bad blood between us, but I do not want to spend the rest of my life with him. I don't know how to end this or any relationship, and I know he doesn't want it to end- he thinks that everything is fine, and tells me he wants to marry me someday. I want to break up with him sooner rather than later to spare us both some pain, but I honestly don't know how to go about it if the feeling's not mutual. I'd like to stay friends, but with his temper I feel like that is never going to happen if I end it
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POST: We've been seeing/dating/hanging out for the past couple months after being friends for about 2 years. Nothing super serious, but it's definitely not casual...there's a connection.
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Just need some advice.
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t3_1jfvec | relationships | Me[27/m] with my Girlfriend [25/f] of 2 years, communication problems | Hi r/relationships. I'm going to try to keep this quick without going too much into detail.
My girlfriend and I have been dating for around 2 years and have been relatively good at communicating. We have minor arguments and always make up in usually less than a day.
There have been two different occasions however, where we'll have a very simple argument that's most likely just a snide comment, or something taken the wrong way, where she kind of goes off and does her own thing, and we don't talk for a night. The next day (we live together) she kind of explodes with everything she's been frustrated about with us for, for the last 4 or 5 months. Things I'm doing wrong, or that I'm not listening to her, or she does more than I do etc. But when I ask her to bring up specific events, she can't, so and it really bothers me because I feel like I'm under attack without the ability to defend myself.
I don't think I'm a bad communicator, if something bothers me I try to talk about it shortly after it happens and resolve it, this normally goes well.
I've told her before that I dislike when she does this, especially because of an argument that has nothing to do with what she's going off about, and that if she has an issue, she needs to bring it up in a calm manor when we're both feeling okay and ready to have a discussion, not when we're still lingering onto something that has us angry.
Can I get some help? We're not talking to each other right now and tbh I'm really frustrated. Is there something I can be doing better, or can someone help me with explaining why this bothers me? (I've told her this before). | gf of 2 years can't communicate properly, bottles things up and explodes when we have fights that have nothing to do with anything that she's upset about in the first place. What can I do to fix this? | [
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TITLE: Me[27/m] with my Girlfriend [25/f] of 2 years, communication problems
POST: Hi r/relationships. I'm going to try to keep this quick without going too much into detail.
My girlfriend and I have been dating for around 2 years and have been relatively good at communicating. We have minor arguments and always make up in usually less than a day.
There have been two different occasions however, where we'll have a very simple argument that's most likely just a snide comment, or something taken the wrong way, where she kind of goes off and does her own thing, and we don't talk for a night. The next day (we live together) she kind of explodes with everything she's been frustrated about with us for, for the last 4 or 5 months. Things I'm doing wrong, or that I'm not listening to her, or she does more than I do etc. But when I ask her to bring up specific events, she can't, so and it really bothers me because I feel like I'm under attack without the ability to defend myself.
I don't think I'm a bad communicator, if something bothers me I try to talk about it shortly after it happens and resolve it, this normally goes well.
I've told her before that I dislike when she does this, especially because of an argument that has nothing to do with what she's going off about, and that if she has an issue, she needs to bring it up in a calm manor when we're both feeling okay and ready to have a discussion, not when we're still lingering onto something that has us angry.
Can I get some help? We're not talking to each other right now and tbh I'm really frustrated. Is there something I can be doing better, or can someone help me with explaining why this bothers me? (I've told her this before).
TL;DR: | gf of 2 years can't communicate properly, bottles things up and explodes when we have fights that have nothing to do with anything that she's upset about in the first place. What can I do to fix this?<|endoftext|> | [
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TITLE: Me[27/m] with my Girlfriend [25/f] of 2 years, communication problems
POST: Hi r/relationships. I'm going to try to keep this quick without going too much into detail.
My girlfriend and I have been dating for around 2 years and have been relatively good at communicating. We have minor arguments and always make up in usually less than a day.
There have been two different occasions however, where we'll have a very simple argument that's most likely just a snide comment, or something taken the wrong way, where she kind of goes off and does her own thing, and we don't talk for a night. The next day (we live together) she kind of explodes with everything she's been frustrated about with us for, for the last 4 or 5 months. Things I'm doing wrong, or that I'm not listening to her, or she does more than I do etc. But when I ask her to bring up specific events, she can't, so and it really bothers me because I feel like I'm under attack without the ability to defend myself.
I don't think I'm a bad communicator, if something bothers me I try to talk about it shortly after it happens and resolve it, this normally goes well.
I've told her before that I dislike when she does this, especially because of an argument that has nothing to do with what she's going off about, and that if she has an issue, she needs to bring it up in a calm manor when we're both feeling okay and ready to have a discussion, not when we're still lingering onto something that has us angry.
Can I get some help? We're not talking to each other right now and tbh I'm really frustrated. Is there something I can be doing better, or can someone help me with explaining why this bothers me? (I've told her this before).
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t3_3cuc07 | relationships | Me [27 F] with my bf [28 M] broke up after 4 years of relationship and I still cannot get intimate with another man | Dated with my ex-boyfriend for almost 4 years. During our relationship, he was the one that told me he loved me and wanted a familly with me. I was the one acting really distant and he always complained that I am emotionally detached and that I don't love him.
So, about 3 months ago we broke up. He started sleeping with and eventually dating another girl in less than 2 weeks after we broke up. I am not exactly jealous, but I feel hurt and misled.
Since our break up I had several opportunities to sleep with other guys but I could not get myself to doing it. For some reason, it felt wrong to me. It felt that I cannot touch, kiss or be close with another man.
It has been already 3 month and I still can not get over this particular feeling.
Any advice? | Me [27 F] with my bf [28 M] broke up after 4 years of relationship and I still cannot get intimate with another man / Any advice? | [
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TITLE: Me [27 F] with my bf [28 M] broke up after 4 years of relationship and I still cannot get intimate with another man
POST: Dated with my ex-boyfriend for almost 4 years. During our relationship, he was the one that told me he loved me and wanted a familly with me. I was the one acting really distant and he always complained that I am emotionally detached and that I don't love him.
So, about 3 months ago we broke up. He started sleeping with and eventually dating another girl in less than 2 weeks after we broke up. I am not exactly jealous, but I feel hurt and misled.
Since our break up I had several opportunities to sleep with other guys but I could not get myself to doing it. For some reason, it felt wrong to me. It felt that I cannot touch, kiss or be close with another man.
It has been already 3 month and I still can not get over this particular feeling.
Any advice?
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TITLE: Me [27 F] with my bf [28 M] broke up after 4 years of relationship and I still cannot get intimate with another man
POST: Dated with my ex-boyfriend for almost 4 years. During our relationship, he was the one that told me he loved me and wanted a familly with me. I was the one acting really distant and he always complained that I am emotionally detached and that I don't love him.
So, about 3 months ago we broke up. He started sleeping with and eventually dating another girl in less than 2 weeks after we broke up. I am not exactly jealous, but I feel hurt and misled.
Since our break up I had several opportunities to sleep with other guys but I could not get myself to doing it. For some reason, it felt wrong to me. It felt that I cannot touch, kiss or be close with another man.
It has been already 3 month and I still can not get over this particular feeling.
Any advice?
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t3_2g1dmc | Dogtraining | Not sure this is the right place, but looking for toys or other ideas for keeping my pups busy throughout the day. | We have two pups (a cocker mix who is about 7 and a boston that is about 2) and live in an apartment. We have always lived in homes with a yard which made it much easier to play ball and let the dogs burn energy outside, but about a year an a half ago we moved into an apartment and don't feel our dogs minds are being stimulated enough.
My wife and I both work 9-5's (well she's 9-5, I'm 10-7) so they get out in the morning and the evening on a regular schedule and we walk them 3 times a day. I give them a 30 minute walk in the morning, my wife takes them out when she gets home and I take them out again when I get home from work. I play ball and tug of war with them inside so they are getting lots of play time, but I feel they need some stimulation while we are out during the day.
The cocker has some separation anxiety from being pampered as a pup and also gets very vocal when he sees other pooches on the street. Our boston terrier is very active, she is smart but she also seems to have some energy we can never seem to burn (this could of course be attributed to the breed). I feel this behavior could be somewhat curbed if they were not just "sitting around" through out the day.
Do you have any recommendations for toys or different things we can do to help with this? | My dogs are left alone during the day while my wife and I go to work. Are there any toys or products on the market that would keep them busy throughout the day? | [
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TITLE: Not sure this is the right place, but looking for toys or other ideas for keeping my pups busy throughout the day.
POST: We have two pups (a cocker mix who is about 7 and a boston that is about 2) and live in an apartment. We have always lived in homes with a yard which made it much easier to play ball and let the dogs burn energy outside, but about a year an a half ago we moved into an apartment and don't feel our dogs minds are being stimulated enough.
My wife and I both work 9-5's (well she's 9-5, I'm 10-7) so they get out in the morning and the evening on a regular schedule and we walk them 3 times a day. I give them a 30 minute walk in the morning, my wife takes them out when she gets home and I take them out again when I get home from work. I play ball and tug of war with them inside so they are getting lots of play time, but I feel they need some stimulation while we are out during the day.
The cocker has some separation anxiety from being pampered as a pup and also gets very vocal when he sees other pooches on the street. Our boston terrier is very active, she is smart but she also seems to have some energy we can never seem to burn (this could of course be attributed to the breed). I feel this behavior could be somewhat curbed if they were not just "sitting around" through out the day.
Do you have any recommendations for toys or different things we can do to help with this?
TL;DR: | My dogs are left alone during the day while my wife and I go to work. Are there any toys or products on the market that would keep them busy throughout the day?<|endoftext|> | [
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TITLE: Not sure this is the right place, but looking for toys or other ideas for keeping my pups busy throughout the day.
POST: We have two pups (a cocker mix who is about 7 and a boston that is about 2) and live in an apartment. We have always lived in homes with a yard which made it much easier to play ball and let the dogs burn energy outside, but about a year an a half ago we moved into an apartment and don't feel our dogs minds are being stimulated enough.
My wife and I both work 9-5's (well she's 9-5, I'm 10-7) so they get out in the morning and the evening on a regular schedule and we walk them 3 times a day. I give them a 30 minute walk in the morning, my wife takes them out when she gets home and I take them out again when I get home from work. I play ball and tug of war with them inside so they are getting lots of play time, but I feel they need some stimulation while we are out during the day.
The cocker has some separation anxiety from being pampered as a pup and also gets very vocal when he sees other pooches on the street. Our boston terrier is very active, she is smart but she also seems to have some energy we can never seem to burn (this could of course be attributed to the breed). I feel this behavior could be somewhat curbed if they were not just "sitting around" through out the day.
Do you have any recommendations for toys or different things we can do to help with this?
TL;DR: My dogs are left alone during the day while my wife and I go to work. Are there any toys or products on the market that would keep them busy throughout the day?<|endoftext|> | [
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t3_3143i6 | relationships | Ex[21F] broke up with me[21M] 6 months into relationship, i don't know what to do with myself | She left me because i got jealous over instagram, then a few weeks later i was stressed out because of job/ school related issues.
We had never fought, and i asked her for her input on the instagram issue and if she thought i was in the wrong (she did) and lied to me about how she was feeling.
She called me randomly one morning and told me she knew where this was going because she had been through it before and didn't want to be together anymore. (She also fed me the classic "you deserve better/ i have to work on me" bullshit)
A day later we talk again and she flat out tells me "I don't see a future with you" and refuses to come get any of her things.
After that i hung up and text her thanking her for the closure, in which she thanked me because she said she didn't know how much she needed it (ffs).
It needs to be said that I've never been in a relationship like this before. I loved this girl more than anything(i still do) and our relationship was amazing besides the TWO discussions we had about her on instagram. I've known her most of my life. She talked about having children with me and moving out with me and then all of the sudden one day decides it meant nothing and leaves me.
The reason i decided to post here is because I'm not doing well at all.
It's been a few weeks, i was devastated at first. After the first week i thought i was getting better. I got a gym membership, started focusing on myself, doing all the cliche things and following all the normal advice everyone's given me, but now i seem to be getting worse.
I can't stop thinking about it no matter how hard i try, and have randomly started crying a couple times out of nowhere. Nothing is helping me, and i can't help but miss her. | ex girlfriend left me for seemingly pointless/fixable reason(or found someone else, possbile/not sure). I'm depressed and need someone to smack some sense into me. | [
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TITLE: Ex[21F] broke up with me[21M] 6 months into relationship, i don't know what to do with myself
POST: She left me because i got jealous over instagram, then a few weeks later i was stressed out because of job/ school related issues.
We had never fought, and i asked her for her input on the instagram issue and if she thought i was in the wrong (she did) and lied to me about how she was feeling.
She called me randomly one morning and told me she knew where this was going because she had been through it before and didn't want to be together anymore. (She also fed me the classic "you deserve better/ i have to work on me" bullshit)
A day later we talk again and she flat out tells me "I don't see a future with you" and refuses to come get any of her things.
After that i hung up and text her thanking her for the closure, in which she thanked me because she said she didn't know how much she needed it (ffs).
It needs to be said that I've never been in a relationship like this before. I loved this girl more than anything(i still do) and our relationship was amazing besides the TWO discussions we had about her on instagram. I've known her most of my life. She talked about having children with me and moving out with me and then all of the sudden one day decides it meant nothing and leaves me.
The reason i decided to post here is because I'm not doing well at all.
It's been a few weeks, i was devastated at first. After the first week i thought i was getting better. I got a gym membership, started focusing on myself, doing all the cliche things and following all the normal advice everyone's given me, but now i seem to be getting worse.
I can't stop thinking about it no matter how hard i try, and have randomly started crying a couple times out of nowhere. Nothing is helping me, and i can't help but miss her.
TL;DR: | ex girlfriend left me for seemingly pointless/fixable reason(or found someone else, possbile/not sure). I'm depressed and need someone to smack some sense into me.<|endoftext|> | [
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TITLE: Ex[21F] broke up with me[21M] 6 months into relationship, i don't know what to do with myself
POST: She left me because i got jealous over instagram, then a few weeks later i was stressed out because of job/ school related issues.
We had never fought, and i asked her for her input on the instagram issue and if she thought i was in the wrong (she did) and lied to me about how she was feeling.
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A day later we talk again and she flat out tells me "I don't see a future with you" and refuses to come get any of her things.
After that i hung up and text her thanking her for the closure, in which she thanked me because she said she didn't know how much she needed it (ffs).
It needs to be said that I've never been in a relationship like this before. I loved this girl more than anything(i still do) and our relationship was amazing besides the TWO discussions we had about her on instagram. I've known her most of my life. She talked about having children with me and moving out with me and then all of the sudden one day decides it meant nothing and leaves me.
The reason i decided to post here is because I'm not doing well at all.
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t3_q4p0h | AskReddit | How do I go about telling my boyfriend of 3 years I know he cheated and the person he did it with is living with me... | A few days ago, I found out my boyfriend of three years cheated on me with my "best" friend. Usually, this situation would be easy to handle and I would just dump him no problem. The issue is though is that he just left for basic training for the army a month ago and the only way to contact him is through letters. Call me a chicken, but I would rather not tell him while he's there and through a letter, I'd feel heartless, but at the same time I don't want anything to do with him anymore. Should I wait for him to come back or just stop replying?
Another issue is that my best friend moved in with me a couple months back and we were driving and she told me the truth. She didn't seem like it mattered that it happened though, and failed to tell me for months because she "forgot". I can't even look her in the eye anymore and try to avoid her at all costs even in my own house. Every time I try to confront her about it she becomes defensive and makes me feel like the bad guy and it has happened so often that I'm starting to feel like I am. | Boyfriend of three years cheated on me with best friend, but he left for basic training, and only way to contact is through letters. Best friend is living with me, but is indifferent to the whole situation. | [
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TITLE: How do I go about telling my boyfriend of 3 years I know he cheated and the person he did it with is living with me...
POST: A few days ago, I found out my boyfriend of three years cheated on me with my "best" friend. Usually, this situation would be easy to handle and I would just dump him no problem. The issue is though is that he just left for basic training for the army a month ago and the only way to contact him is through letters. Call me a chicken, but I would rather not tell him while he's there and through a letter, I'd feel heartless, but at the same time I don't want anything to do with him anymore. Should I wait for him to come back or just stop replying?
Another issue is that my best friend moved in with me a couple months back and we were driving and she told me the truth. She didn't seem like it mattered that it happened though, and failed to tell me for months because she "forgot". I can't even look her in the eye anymore and try to avoid her at all costs even in my own house. Every time I try to confront her about it she becomes defensive and makes me feel like the bad guy and it has happened so often that I'm starting to feel like I am.
TL;DR: | Boyfriend of three years cheated on me with best friend, but he left for basic training, and only way to contact is through letters. Best friend is living with me, but is indifferent to the whole situation.<|endoftext|> | [
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TITLE: How do I go about telling my boyfriend of 3 years I know he cheated and the person he did it with is living with me...
POST: A few days ago, I found out my boyfriend of three years cheated on me with my "best" friend. Usually, this situation would be easy to handle and I would just dump him no problem. The issue is though is that he just left for basic training for the army a month ago and the only way to contact him is through letters. Call me a chicken, but I would rather not tell him while he's there and through a letter, I'd feel heartless, but at the same time I don't want anything to do with him anymore. Should I wait for him to come back or just stop replying?
Another issue is that my best friend moved in with me a couple months back and we were driving and she told me the truth. She didn't seem like it mattered that it happened though, and failed to tell me for months because she "forgot". I can't even look her in the eye anymore and try to avoid her at all costs even in my own house. Every time I try to confront her about it she becomes defensive and makes me feel like the bad guy and it has happened so often that I'm starting to feel like I am.
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t3_1vprd6 | relationships | I'm [24M] the one who broke up with my girlfriend [23F] and devastated her a few days ago and now I'm feeling awful and miss her to the point that it hurts. | I broke up with my girlfriend of two years because I was feeling like I wasn't doing things because of the relationship and there were things about it that I wasn't crazy about.
It's been a few days and we've spoken briefly and she's pretty devastated. To her, our relationship was fantastic and saw us settling down together eventually. I want to travel this year and intend to move soon for work and I felt like she was restricting me a bit, probably unconsciously but still preventing me doing things I want to do at this age. I'm still really young and the thought of being in the same relationship for the rest of my life didn't sit well with me.
I was fine for the first day but last night I couldn't sleep or eat and now I feel like crying. I feel like if I say her name I will burst into tears. I've always felt pretty resilient mentally but this has hit me hard. I'm realising now that although I was only content with the relationship, it was safe and normal for two years. She was a great girl and now I don't have her I realise how much I appreciated being able to chat and see her whenever I wanted. I think that now I'm on the other side I'm only remembering the good things, not the bad aspects that made me want to end it.
Another complication, her mother emailed me yesterday saying how selfish I was, and that she wasn't sorry to see me go. One of the issues I had was that she was too dependant on her mother and that relationship had constrained her. I wasn't a fan of her family and didn't enjoy spending time with them.
I want to get over this and feel good again but I miss her terribly. | Broke up with gf of 2 years for what I knew before to be legitimate reasons and now feel awful and miss her. | [
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TITLE: I'm [24M] the one who broke up with my girlfriend [23F] and devastated her a few days ago and now I'm feeling awful and miss her to the point that it hurts.
POST: I broke up with my girlfriend of two years because I was feeling like I wasn't doing things because of the relationship and there were things about it that I wasn't crazy about.
It's been a few days and we've spoken briefly and she's pretty devastated. To her, our relationship was fantastic and saw us settling down together eventually. I want to travel this year and intend to move soon for work and I felt like she was restricting me a bit, probably unconsciously but still preventing me doing things I want to do at this age. I'm still really young and the thought of being in the same relationship for the rest of my life didn't sit well with me.
I was fine for the first day but last night I couldn't sleep or eat and now I feel like crying. I feel like if I say her name I will burst into tears. I've always felt pretty resilient mentally but this has hit me hard. I'm realising now that although I was only content with the relationship, it was safe and normal for two years. She was a great girl and now I don't have her I realise how much I appreciated being able to chat and see her whenever I wanted. I think that now I'm on the other side I'm only remembering the good things, not the bad aspects that made me want to end it.
Another complication, her mother emailed me yesterday saying how selfish I was, and that she wasn't sorry to see me go. One of the issues I had was that she was too dependant on her mother and that relationship had constrained her. I wasn't a fan of her family and didn't enjoy spending time with them.
I want to get over this and feel good again but I miss her terribly.
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TITLE: I'm [24M] the one who broke up with my girlfriend [23F] and devastated her a few days ago and now I'm feeling awful and miss her to the point that it hurts.
POST: I broke up with my girlfriend of two years because I was feeling like I wasn't doing things because of the relationship and there were things about it that I wasn't crazy about.
It's been a few days and we've spoken briefly and she's pretty devastated. To her, our relationship was fantastic and saw us settling down together eventually. I want to travel this year and intend to move soon for work and I felt like she was restricting me a bit, probably unconsciously but still preventing me doing things I want to do at this age. I'm still really young and the thought of being in the same relationship for the rest of my life didn't sit well with me.
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I want to get over this and feel good again but I miss her terribly.
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As mentioned in the title, a few friends and I graduated this past May and are looking to have a reunion of sorts sometime next Spring / Summer 2016 by traveling for a 7-10 day trip together. Because of work and student loans (fun!), we thought a budget of $1500-2000/person could be reasonable. Beyond that, our only other "requirement" is that we want to go somewhere not in North America (aka no Canada, USA, Mexico).
We've been looking into flights and Airbnbs for random places in South America/Europe/Asia and figured we could keep those costs in the range of 750-900 per person, depending on where we go. We've been on trips across America and in Mexico together and have been able to do so on minimalistic budgets, so we're not too woried about trying to live minimalistic/cheap when traveling abroad (even more important in countries with non-favorable fx rates). Aka we're fine eating cheap home cooked meals and enjoy walking around sight seeing; we don't need to spend a bunch of money on fancy tours or excessive expensive cuisine. For example -we get that the point of traveling is to experience new cultures so eating out will be a portion of the costs obviously, but we're fine having 1 meal out a day instead of all 3 meals.
Based off that info, does anyone have any suggestions on where to go on a cheap budget? Has anyone here done a cheap trip like this in the same timeframe? Alternatively, if you don't think it could be done on this budget, what kind of budget do you think is reasonable? We're trying to plan ahead so we can set up a savings schedule. Sorry for the long post, thanks in advanced! | For $1500 per person, where would you recommend a group of 5 new grads to travel that is not in North America? | [
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POST: Hi All,
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We've been looking into flights and Airbnbs for random places in South America/Europe/Asia and figured we could keep those costs in the range of 750-900 per person, depending on where we go. We've been on trips across America and in Mexico together and have been able to do so on minimalistic budgets, so we're not too woried about trying to live minimalistic/cheap when traveling abroad (even more important in countries with non-favorable fx rates). Aka we're fine eating cheap home cooked meals and enjoy walking around sight seeing; we don't need to spend a bunch of money on fancy tours or excessive expensive cuisine. For example -we get that the point of traveling is to experience new cultures so eating out will be a portion of the costs obviously, but we're fine having 1 meal out a day instead of all 3 meals.
Based off that info, does anyone have any suggestions on where to go on a cheap budget? Has anyone here done a cheap trip like this in the same timeframe? Alternatively, if you don't think it could be done on this budget, what kind of budget do you think is reasonable? We're trying to plan ahead so we can set up a savings schedule. Sorry for the long post, thanks in advanced!
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TITLE: 5 College Grads Planning a 1 Week Trip out of USA w/ Budget of $1500/person - Any Advice Reddit?
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Based off that info, does anyone have any suggestions on where to go on a cheap budget? Has anyone here done a cheap trip like this in the same timeframe? Alternatively, if you don't think it could be done on this budget, what kind of budget do you think is reasonable? We're trying to plan ahead so we can set up a savings schedule. Sorry for the long post, thanks in advanced!
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Out of all cancer types there are, everyone is reassuring us that Hodgkin's is considered curable at about 70% and that he should have no worries being healthy and young otherwise.
Right now our biggest fears are weight loss, and finances. He is usually around 150-160lbs and 6'1. Currently he has already dropped to 134lbs. I am constantly reminding him to eat, but it is so difficult when he has lost his appetite and can't eat big like he used to. Again we start chemo tomorrow, and I am highly concerned because he cannot afford to lose any more weight.
Of course since we are not married I am not financially responsible for him, nor can I get him added to my insurance. The most I am trying to do right now is make sure he has an abundance of food available at all times. I worry too about the bills, but the hospital told us not to worry that they wouldn't turn him away from treatment even though he can't pay. Worst case scenario he can claim medical bankruptcy. I am trying to see what else he can apply for any grants or funds for people in situations like him but I am having trouble. I was thinking of doing a fundraiser as well, but no clue where to even begin, my head has been spinning for the past few months. | Boyfriend is 25, unemployed, uninsured, underweight, and has been diagnosed with Hodgkin's lymphoma. Scared. Please share stories and experiences, we would love to learn from others! | [
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POST: My boyfriend had a really bad cough for 6 months going on, unemployed and with no insurance he was reluctant to be checked out. We finally went in and after a series of doctor visits it turns out he has Hodgkin's Lymphoma. The largest mass is growing in his chest in between his heart and lungs, and has started spreading inside the lung as well (thus the cough) and another enlarged lymph node on his neck. He is starting chemotherapy tomorrow and we are both really scared.
Out of all cancer types there are, everyone is reassuring us that Hodgkin's is considered curable at about 70% and that he should have no worries being healthy and young otherwise.
Right now our biggest fears are weight loss, and finances. He is usually around 150-160lbs and 6'1. Currently he has already dropped to 134lbs. I am constantly reminding him to eat, but it is so difficult when he has lost his appetite and can't eat big like he used to. Again we start chemo tomorrow, and I am highly concerned because he cannot afford to lose any more weight.
Of course since we are not married I am not financially responsible for him, nor can I get him added to my insurance. The most I am trying to do right now is make sure he has an abundance of food available at all times. I worry too about the bills, but the hospital told us not to worry that they wouldn't turn him away from treatment even though he can't pay. Worst case scenario he can claim medical bankruptcy. I am trying to see what else he can apply for any grants or funds for people in situations like him but I am having trouble. I was thinking of doing a fundraiser as well, but no clue where to even begin, my head has been spinning for the past few months.
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Out of all cancer types there are, everyone is reassuring us that Hodgkin's is considered curable at about 70% and that he should have no worries being healthy and young otherwise.
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Of course since we are not married I am not financially responsible for him, nor can I get him added to my insurance. The most I am trying to do right now is make sure he has an abundance of food available at all times. I worry too about the bills, but the hospital told us not to worry that they wouldn't turn him away from treatment even though he can't pay. Worst case scenario he can claim medical bankruptcy. I am trying to see what else he can apply for any grants or funds for people in situations like him but I am having trouble. I was thinking of doing a fundraiser as well, but no clue where to even begin, my head has been spinning for the past few months.
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t3_3nqa1b | relationships | My [20 M] girlfriend [20 F] came out to me last night. Need advice | Update from a previous post of mine. My idea of what was going on was right.
Background:A few months ago my girlfriend of three years told me she was bisexual. She told me all of her life she has felt different and shes known she was different from everybody else. She was scared this would push me away but I understand that being bisexual doesn't mean you're not monogamous it means you have a larger pool of people you could be with.
What Happened: A few days ago she tells me she had a lot on her mind, she kept saying she is confused and she doesn't know how to say it or how to feel. I assured her to take her time and talk to me when she was absolutely ready. Last night we were texting as we are LDR at the moment. She tells me shes always been confused about herself and shes always just wanted to fit in. That is when she told me shes gay.
I assured her that everyone who she is worried will care, loves her and will not think any different of her. She told me she still loves me but she wants the best for me. she wants me to be with an amazing girl and have a great relationship she said she wants the same for herself. I can't imagine the pressure shes been feeling all of her life.
The advice i'm asking for is how can i support her? what can i do to make her not feel so worried about her family or anyone else? I really do love her and care for her. I'm not angry or upset with her. I'm happy that i could the person she could turn to. I'm just not sure how i can be the person who helps her out while not letting the idea that we're never going have the completely same relationship get to me. Thank You | Girlfriend of 3 years came out to me last night. How can i support her without being too bothered by the idea of us breaking up | [
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TITLE: My [20 M] girlfriend [20 F] came out to me last night. Need advice
POST: Update from a previous post of mine. My idea of what was going on was right.
Background:A few months ago my girlfriend of three years told me she was bisexual. She told me all of her life she has felt different and shes known she was different from everybody else. She was scared this would push me away but I understand that being bisexual doesn't mean you're not monogamous it means you have a larger pool of people you could be with.
What Happened: A few days ago she tells me she had a lot on her mind, she kept saying she is confused and she doesn't know how to say it or how to feel. I assured her to take her time and talk to me when she was absolutely ready. Last night we were texting as we are LDR at the moment. She tells me shes always been confused about herself and shes always just wanted to fit in. That is when she told me shes gay.
I assured her that everyone who she is worried will care, loves her and will not think any different of her. She told me she still loves me but she wants the best for me. she wants me to be with an amazing girl and have a great relationship she said she wants the same for herself. I can't imagine the pressure shes been feeling all of her life.
The advice i'm asking for is how can i support her? what can i do to make her not feel so worried about her family or anyone else? I really do love her and care for her. I'm not angry or upset with her. I'm happy that i could the person she could turn to. I'm just not sure how i can be the person who helps her out while not letting the idea that we're never going have the completely same relationship get to me. Thank You
TL;DR: | Girlfriend of 3 years came out to me last night. How can i support her without being too bothered by the idea of us breaking up<|endoftext|> | [
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TITLE: My [20 M] girlfriend [20 F] came out to me last night. Need advice
POST: Update from a previous post of mine. My idea of what was going on was right.
Background:A few months ago my girlfriend of three years told me she was bisexual. She told me all of her life she has felt different and shes known she was different from everybody else. She was scared this would push me away but I understand that being bisexual doesn't mean you're not monogamous it means you have a larger pool of people you could be with.
What Happened: A few days ago she tells me she had a lot on her mind, she kept saying she is confused and she doesn't know how to say it or how to feel. I assured her to take her time and talk to me when she was absolutely ready. Last night we were texting as we are LDR at the moment. She tells me shes always been confused about herself and shes always just wanted to fit in. That is when she told me shes gay.
I assured her that everyone who she is worried will care, loves her and will not think any different of her. She told me she still loves me but she wants the best for me. she wants me to be with an amazing girl and have a great relationship she said she wants the same for herself. I can't imagine the pressure shes been feeling all of her life.
The advice i'm asking for is how can i support her? what can i do to make her not feel so worried about her family or anyone else? I really do love her and care for her. I'm not angry or upset with her. I'm happy that i could the person she could turn to. I'm just not sure how i can be the person who helps her out while not letting the idea that we're never going have the completely same relationship get to me. Thank You
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Essentially, I gave up a perfect (as perfect as I could get right now) job to a friend "A" because I thought she deserved it more than me. The job was offered by a mutual friend "M" with his business, in conversation with me, where M brought it up in reference to our friend A's and, indirectly, my job searching efforts. M offered it to me at the same time after our friend wasn't immediately contactable, even going so far as to sell me all the perks and get excited about it all. A has been comfortably unemployed (not to downplay it), living with parents etc., for a couple of months and searching for a good job part-time, and since she and I recently spoke and technically the job was brought up with her in mind first, I decided in the heat of the moment that it was the right thing to do to make sure that A heard the job offer first, even though I knew that she would take it. She got in touch with mutual friend M as soon as I warned her and my heart immediately sank after I realized what I'd done. While A had been living with her parents and job searching for a couple months, I have been working a dead-end, minimum-wage job for the past 2 years with no real friends or prospects. This job would have been exactly what I need, and yet here I am, life as sucky as ever. I now understand that sometimes you need to be "selfish" and grab opportunities to get anywhere in life. Would it have been a dick move? I don't know, but it feels awful right now, and as much as I still love A, I wish I would have just been a dick. Sorry that wasn't quite as concise as I'd hoped. | Let a friend at a great job offer first on a technicality and because I'm a "good" person. Immediately realized that I needed it more and wished I would have just taken it. | [
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TITLE: What's something you did because you're a good person, only to regret it immediately and wish you were an asshole?
POST: I'm going to try and keep mine short because it still makes me want to cry, and I don't even feel a tiny bit good about being a nice person yet.
Essentially, I gave up a perfect (as perfect as I could get right now) job to a friend "A" because I thought she deserved it more than me. The job was offered by a mutual friend "M" with his business, in conversation with me, where M brought it up in reference to our friend A's and, indirectly, my job searching efforts. M offered it to me at the same time after our friend wasn't immediately contactable, even going so far as to sell me all the perks and get excited about it all. A has been comfortably unemployed (not to downplay it), living with parents etc., for a couple of months and searching for a good job part-time, and since she and I recently spoke and technically the job was brought up with her in mind first, I decided in the heat of the moment that it was the right thing to do to make sure that A heard the job offer first, even though I knew that she would take it. She got in touch with mutual friend M as soon as I warned her and my heart immediately sank after I realized what I'd done. While A had been living with her parents and job searching for a couple months, I have been working a dead-end, minimum-wage job for the past 2 years with no real friends or prospects. This job would have been exactly what I need, and yet here I am, life as sucky as ever. I now understand that sometimes you need to be "selfish" and grab opportunities to get anywhere in life. Would it have been a dick move? I don't know, but it feels awful right now, and as much as I still love A, I wish I would have just been a dick. Sorry that wasn't quite as concise as I'd hoped.
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TITLE: What's something you did because you're a good person, only to regret it immediately and wish you were an asshole?
POST: I'm going to try and keep mine short because it still makes me want to cry, and I don't even feel a tiny bit good about being a nice person yet.
Essentially, I gave up a perfect (as perfect as I could get right now) job to a friend "A" because I thought she deserved it more than me. The job was offered by a mutual friend "M" with his business, in conversation with me, where M brought it up in reference to our friend A's and, indirectly, my job searching efforts. M offered it to me at the same time after our friend wasn't immediately contactable, even going so far as to sell me all the perks and get excited about it all. A has been comfortably unemployed (not to downplay it), living with parents etc., for a couple of months and searching for a good job part-time, and since she and I recently spoke and technically the job was brought up with her in mind first, I decided in the heat of the moment that it was the right thing to do to make sure that A heard the job offer first, even though I knew that she would take it. She got in touch with mutual friend M as soon as I warned her and my heart immediately sank after I realized what I'd done. While A had been living with her parents and job searching for a couple months, I have been working a dead-end, minimum-wage job for the past 2 years with no real friends or prospects. This job would have been exactly what I need, and yet here I am, life as sucky as ever. I now understand that sometimes you need to be "selfish" and grab opportunities to get anywhere in life. Would it have been a dick move? I don't know, but it feels awful right now, and as much as I still love A, I wish I would have just been a dick. Sorry that wasn't quite as concise as I'd hoped.
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t3_1762ll | pettyrevenge | Roommate makes me do her nasty dishes, I subtly undermine her New Years resolution. | Some background, my roommate is a bit of a slob, but what bothers me most is how she won't do dishes for days at a time, and has on occasion, left chunks of food in the sink to sit and putrefy, either stuck to the plates or caught in the drain trap (we have no garbage disposal). The worst though is when she left for winter holiday and left a dozen dishes in varying stages of decomposition in the kitchen.
Anyways, I had a friend over today who brought pizza and a tuxedo mousse cake (inb4 the cake is a lie, you bastards) for a horror movie marathon and to make up a past wrong. My roommate wanted to join us, grabbed some cake, but infuriatingly talks through most of the first movie (The Bay) before getting grossed out and decides to leave.
Roommate then proceeds to volunteer to "get the dishes" and goes and stacks her dish, with only half the cake eaten, under the other dishes. She then washes the top dish, claiming she did her share, and leaves, letting the half-eaten cake get watery and disgusting under the other dishes.
I go to clean the dishes and find the cake stuck under the dishes 4 hours later and decide it's finally time for some petty revenge. As good as that cake is, I'm not touching the remaining 3/4 of it; instead I left a post-it note on it saying "Help yourself :)"
Best part is, I know she has a horrible weakness for sweets and last week, she decided she was going to get on a diet and start eating healthier. | Roommate left delicious cake to rot in the sink for the hundredth time, I sabotage her diet by tempting her weak mental fortitude with the rest of the cake. | [
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] | SUBREDDIT: r/pettyrevenge
TITLE: Roommate makes me do her nasty dishes, I subtly undermine her New Years resolution.
POST: Some background, my roommate is a bit of a slob, but what bothers me most is how she won't do dishes for days at a time, and has on occasion, left chunks of food in the sink to sit and putrefy, either stuck to the plates or caught in the drain trap (we have no garbage disposal). The worst though is when she left for winter holiday and left a dozen dishes in varying stages of decomposition in the kitchen.
Anyways, I had a friend over today who brought pizza and a tuxedo mousse cake (inb4 the cake is a lie, you bastards) for a horror movie marathon and to make up a past wrong. My roommate wanted to join us, grabbed some cake, but infuriatingly talks through most of the first movie (The Bay) before getting grossed out and decides to leave.
Roommate then proceeds to volunteer to "get the dishes" and goes and stacks her dish, with only half the cake eaten, under the other dishes. She then washes the top dish, claiming she did her share, and leaves, letting the half-eaten cake get watery and disgusting under the other dishes.
I go to clean the dishes and find the cake stuck under the dishes 4 hours later and decide it's finally time for some petty revenge. As good as that cake is, I'm not touching the remaining 3/4 of it; instead I left a post-it note on it saying "Help yourself :)"
Best part is, I know she has a horrible weakness for sweets and last week, she decided she was going to get on a diet and start eating healthier.
TL;DR: | Roommate left delicious cake to rot in the sink for the hundredth time, I sabotage her diet by tempting her weak mental fortitude with the rest of the cake.<|endoftext|> | [
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TITLE: Roommate makes me do her nasty dishes, I subtly undermine her New Years resolution.
POST: Some background, my roommate is a bit of a slob, but what bothers me most is how she won't do dishes for days at a time, and has on occasion, left chunks of food in the sink to sit and putrefy, either stuck to the plates or caught in the drain trap (we have no garbage disposal). The worst though is when she left for winter holiday and left a dozen dishes in varying stages of decomposition in the kitchen.
Anyways, I had a friend over today who brought pizza and a tuxedo mousse cake (inb4 the cake is a lie, you bastards) for a horror movie marathon and to make up a past wrong. My roommate wanted to join us, grabbed some cake, but infuriatingly talks through most of the first movie (The Bay) before getting grossed out and decides to leave.
Roommate then proceeds to volunteer to "get the dishes" and goes and stacks her dish, with only half the cake eaten, under the other dishes. She then washes the top dish, claiming she did her share, and leaves, letting the half-eaten cake get watery and disgusting under the other dishes.
I go to clean the dishes and find the cake stuck under the dishes 4 hours later and decide it's finally time for some petty revenge. As good as that cake is, I'm not touching the remaining 3/4 of it; instead I left a post-it note on it saying "Help yourself :)"
Best part is, I know she has a horrible weakness for sweets and last week, she decided she was going to get on a diet and start eating healthier.
TL;DR: Roommate left delicious cake to rot in the sink for the hundredth time, I sabotage her diet by tempting her weak mental fortitude with the rest of the cake.<|endoftext|> | [
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t3_3ef6u8 | Advice | Can't decide on which College to attend.. | So starting in September I have the opportunity to go back to school for video game design, which is great, but I'm stricken with a difficult decision. Essentially I have narrowed my choices down to two separate schools.
Pro's:
-Cheaper tuition
-Placement opportunities
-good reviews
Con's:
-Living is expensive (Toronto)
-The programming I have done in the past wasn't something I was overly interested in
-Longer course
Pro's:
-Private college with smaller class sizes
-compressed course (74 weeks straight)
-interesting content
-I am already in the city that offers this program
-living is cheaper
Con's:
-It's a private college (Tuition is through the roof)
-I am not an artist (they say you don't need to be)
-it will double my student debt (bringing it 50k+)
Other notes:
-A big factor that is weighing my decision is that I am also in a long term relationship that very well may turn into a long distance one if I decide to go to Humber. Currently i Have been living with her for the past 2 year, and if I move to Toronto, I would be doing it alone; whereas if is go to Trillium, I would continue living with her (sharing expenses)
-Something else worth noting is the private college gives you all the tools you need to do the program (tablet, programs, books). This is all included with your tuition.
-on a final note, due to financial issues, transitioning to Toronto would be a difficult one. On top of moving fees as well as starting rent, I owe $1050 to Humber before I could get in. The same can be said for Trillium, but I would only owe $545, and it would be cheaper to move. | Can't decide on what school to attend. Public college is cheaper and has a well credit program, but cost of living is more. Private college is expensive, but cost of living is cheaper and more convenient to attend. | [
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TITLE: Can't decide on which College to attend..
POST: So starting in September I have the opportunity to go back to school for video game design, which is great, but I'm stricken with a difficult decision. Essentially I have narrowed my choices down to two separate schools.
Pro's:
-Cheaper tuition
-Placement opportunities
-good reviews
Con's:
-Living is expensive (Toronto)
-The programming I have done in the past wasn't something I was overly interested in
-Longer course
Pro's:
-Private college with smaller class sizes
-compressed course (74 weeks straight)
-interesting content
-I am already in the city that offers this program
-living is cheaper
Con's:
-It's a private college (Tuition is through the roof)
-I am not an artist (they say you don't need to be)
-it will double my student debt (bringing it 50k+)
Other notes:
-A big factor that is weighing my decision is that I am also in a long term relationship that very well may turn into a long distance one if I decide to go to Humber. Currently i Have been living with her for the past 2 year, and if I move to Toronto, I would be doing it alone; whereas if is go to Trillium, I would continue living with her (sharing expenses)
-Something else worth noting is the private college gives you all the tools you need to do the program (tablet, programs, books). This is all included with your tuition.
-on a final note, due to financial issues, transitioning to Toronto would be a difficult one. On top of moving fees as well as starting rent, I owe $1050 to Humber before I could get in. The same can be said for Trillium, but I would only owe $545, and it would be cheaper to move.
TL;DR: | Can't decide on what school to attend. Public college is cheaper and has a well credit program, but cost of living is more. Private college is expensive, but cost of living is cheaper and more convenient to attend.<|endoftext|> | [
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TITLE: Can't decide on which College to attend..
POST: So starting in September I have the opportunity to go back to school for video game design, which is great, but I'm stricken with a difficult decision. Essentially I have narrowed my choices down to two separate schools.
Pro's:
-Cheaper tuition
-Placement opportunities
-good reviews
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-Living is expensive (Toronto)
-The programming I have done in the past wasn't something I was overly interested in
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-I am already in the city that offers this program
-living is cheaper
Con's:
-It's a private college (Tuition is through the roof)
-I am not an artist (they say you don't need to be)
-it will double my student debt (bringing it 50k+)
Other notes:
-A big factor that is weighing my decision is that I am also in a long term relationship that very well may turn into a long distance one if I decide to go to Humber. Currently i Have been living with her for the past 2 year, and if I move to Toronto, I would be doing it alone; whereas if is go to Trillium, I would continue living with her (sharing expenses)
-Something else worth noting is the private college gives you all the tools you need to do the program (tablet, programs, books). This is all included with your tuition.
-on a final note, due to financial issues, transitioning to Toronto would be a difficult one. On top of moving fees as well as starting rent, I owe $1050 to Humber before I could get in. The same can be said for Trillium, but I would only owe $545, and it would be cheaper to move.
TL;DR: Can't decide on what school to attend. Public college is cheaper and has a well credit program, but cost of living is more. Private college is expensive, but cost of living is cheaper and more convenient to attend.<|endoftext|> | [
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t3_4wzwvt | relationships | I [22/F] have social anxiety and find it extremely difficult to be around my [23/M] boyfriends parents | I have severe social anxiety. When I met my boyfriend 3 years ago, I was happy to find someone who loved me for who I am. We moved in together a year ago. I haven't spent much time with his family, which I am ok with to an extent. While I want to get to know them, I get really nervous around them. We live in different cities and they rarely come to visit. I visited them at their house last year and had an anxiety attack over it the night before, but it was fine once I got there.
His mom invited us to a festival at the end of August. It is only about 10 minutes from where we live and since I'm currently unemployed, I feel like I pretty much have to go since I don't have an excuse not to. I am dreading going and I get anxiety every time I think about it. His mom is usually pretty friendly with me, but I find it hard to make conversation and just ending up feeling awkward. Then, afterwards I overthink what I said/didn't say to her. We are also going out for dinner.
I really want to tell my boyfriend I dont want to go. However, I haven't seen his parents in almost a year so I don't want to insult him, and I dont think he would understand how anxious it actually makes me feel. He also has a tendency to skip out on me and spend a ridiculous amount of time in the bathroom when hanging out with his parents. I don't know what I should do in a situation like this. Should I just suck it up and go anyway and hope that it ends up going well? | Boyfriends mom invited us to a festival event and dinner at a restaurant and due to my severe social anxiety, I don't want to go. I haven't told my BF yet. | [
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TITLE: I [22/F] have social anxiety and find it extremely difficult to be around my [23/M] boyfriends parents
POST: I have severe social anxiety. When I met my boyfriend 3 years ago, I was happy to find someone who loved me for who I am. We moved in together a year ago. I haven't spent much time with his family, which I am ok with to an extent. While I want to get to know them, I get really nervous around them. We live in different cities and they rarely come to visit. I visited them at their house last year and had an anxiety attack over it the night before, but it was fine once I got there.
His mom invited us to a festival at the end of August. It is only about 10 minutes from where we live and since I'm currently unemployed, I feel like I pretty much have to go since I don't have an excuse not to. I am dreading going and I get anxiety every time I think about it. His mom is usually pretty friendly with me, but I find it hard to make conversation and just ending up feeling awkward. Then, afterwards I overthink what I said/didn't say to her. We are also going out for dinner.
I really want to tell my boyfriend I dont want to go. However, I haven't seen his parents in almost a year so I don't want to insult him, and I dont think he would understand how anxious it actually makes me feel. He also has a tendency to skip out on me and spend a ridiculous amount of time in the bathroom when hanging out with his parents. I don't know what I should do in a situation like this. Should I just suck it up and go anyway and hope that it ends up going well?
TL;DR: | Boyfriends mom invited us to a festival event and dinner at a restaurant and due to my severe social anxiety, I don't want to go. I haven't told my BF yet.<|endoftext|> | [
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TITLE: I [22/F] have social anxiety and find it extremely difficult to be around my [23/M] boyfriends parents
POST: I have severe social anxiety. When I met my boyfriend 3 years ago, I was happy to find someone who loved me for who I am. We moved in together a year ago. I haven't spent much time with his family, which I am ok with to an extent. While I want to get to know them, I get really nervous around them. We live in different cities and they rarely come to visit. I visited them at their house last year and had an anxiety attack over it the night before, but it was fine once I got there.
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t3_1lyogg | relationships | How would you define "a date"? | My girlfriend of six years [21F] and I [22M] just got in a discussion about what qualifies as a date.
She says a date only can happen when I initiate the outing by asking her out specifically on a date ("Hey let's go on a date tomorrow.) or if I specifically label the outing a date ("Hungry? Let's eat and make it a date.").
While I say that anytime I pay for the whole meal or outing, makes it a date, whether or not I--or anyone for that matter--qualifies it as a date. Two people going somewhere together, who love each other romantically and then one person pays for everything, automatically makes it a date, with or without the label.
Eventually, we asked her roommate and roommate's SO and they ended up agreeing with her, but I'm still feeling a bit shafted unfairly so mostly, I'm posting because I want to get other views of what defines "a date."
For some background, the reason this came up was because I felt frustrated at the fact that I would pay for meals on all occasions when we would go out yet she would still be wanting "a date" by her definition, so I felt unappreciated and confused as to what all these other times were. Apparently, they just didn't count as dates... | SO says dates are specifically labeled - I say dates are when I pay for everything; what do You say qualifies or defines a date? | [
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TITLE: How would you define "a date"?
POST: My girlfriend of six years [21F] and I [22M] just got in a discussion about what qualifies as a date.
She says a date only can happen when I initiate the outing by asking her out specifically on a date ("Hey let's go on a date tomorrow.) or if I specifically label the outing a date ("Hungry? Let's eat and make it a date.").
While I say that anytime I pay for the whole meal or outing, makes it a date, whether or not I--or anyone for that matter--qualifies it as a date. Two people going somewhere together, who love each other romantically and then one person pays for everything, automatically makes it a date, with or without the label.
Eventually, we asked her roommate and roommate's SO and they ended up agreeing with her, but I'm still feeling a bit shafted unfairly so mostly, I'm posting because I want to get other views of what defines "a date."
For some background, the reason this came up was because I felt frustrated at the fact that I would pay for meals on all occasions when we would go out yet she would still be wanting "a date" by her definition, so I felt unappreciated and confused as to what all these other times were. Apparently, they just didn't count as dates...
TL;DR: | SO says dates are specifically labeled - I say dates are when I pay for everything; what do You say qualifies or defines a date?<|endoftext|> | [
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TITLE: How would you define "a date"?
POST: My girlfriend of six years [21F] and I [22M] just got in a discussion about what qualifies as a date.
She says a date only can happen when I initiate the outing by asking her out specifically on a date ("Hey let's go on a date tomorrow.) or if I specifically label the outing a date ("Hungry? Let's eat and make it a date.").
While I say that anytime I pay for the whole meal or outing, makes it a date, whether or not I--or anyone for that matter--qualifies it as a date. Two people going somewhere together, who love each other romantically and then one person pays for everything, automatically makes it a date, with or without the label.
Eventually, we asked her roommate and roommate's SO and they ended up agreeing with her, but I'm still feeling a bit shafted unfairly so mostly, I'm posting because I want to get other views of what defines "a date."
For some background, the reason this came up was because I felt frustrated at the fact that I would pay for meals on all occasions when we would go out yet she would still be wanting "a date" by her definition, so I felt unappreciated and confused as to what all these other times were. Apparently, they just didn't count as dates...
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t3_3ycu3a | tifu | TIFU while serving a child. | As per usual, this fuck up didn't happen today, it happened on Monday at work.
I work as a cashier at a major grocery store in a pretty big city. Since it was a few days before Christmas, it was super busy, and I was on auto-pilot, trying to get as many customers served as possible.
It's a common occurrence for parents to give the change from their grocery orders to their kids to buy some candy from the storefront. After I serve a lady and her husband, she gives the change to her child, who looked to be around 8 years old. They wore a grey sweater and jeans and had really nice, long hair. She chose 2 packs of gum from the shelf and I ranf them in.
The total of the transaction was $3.80, but the kid only had $3.25. When I ask for more change, the mom comes up and asks, "What's wrong?"
I tell her, "She doesn't have enough money for the gum."
...
"He."
I felt my whole body get hot as I realized that her child was a boy, not a girl. Being on auto-pilot and not entirely paying attention, I saw the long hair and I assumed the lady's child was a girl.
I'm pretty sure I said something along the lines of "Are you shitting me?" because another cashier turned around and laughed.
I apologized profusely while hiding my face in shame. I served all of the customers in my line and closed my till off as soon as I was customer free. I went up to the other cashier to tell her what happened and she informed me that my face was still burning red. It took a few minutes for the initial shock of the interaction to go away before I could go back to work.
Long story short, I hate gender norms and I hate working retail. | Served a small child with long hair at my work. They didn't have enough money, so I told the mom her daughter was a little short on change. Turns out the child was a boy. | [
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TITLE: TIFU while serving a child.
POST: As per usual, this fuck up didn't happen today, it happened on Monday at work.
I work as a cashier at a major grocery store in a pretty big city. Since it was a few days before Christmas, it was super busy, and I was on auto-pilot, trying to get as many customers served as possible.
It's a common occurrence for parents to give the change from their grocery orders to their kids to buy some candy from the storefront. After I serve a lady and her husband, she gives the change to her child, who looked to be around 8 years old. They wore a grey sweater and jeans and had really nice, long hair. She chose 2 packs of gum from the shelf and I ranf them in.
The total of the transaction was $3.80, but the kid only had $3.25. When I ask for more change, the mom comes up and asks, "What's wrong?"
I tell her, "She doesn't have enough money for the gum."
...
"He."
I felt my whole body get hot as I realized that her child was a boy, not a girl. Being on auto-pilot and not entirely paying attention, I saw the long hair and I assumed the lady's child was a girl.
I'm pretty sure I said something along the lines of "Are you shitting me?" because another cashier turned around and laughed.
I apologized profusely while hiding my face in shame. I served all of the customers in my line and closed my till off as soon as I was customer free. I went up to the other cashier to tell her what happened and she informed me that my face was still burning red. It took a few minutes for the initial shock of the interaction to go away before I could go back to work.
Long story short, I hate gender norms and I hate working retail.
TL;DR: | Served a small child with long hair at my work. They didn't have enough money, so I told the mom her daughter was a little short on change. Turns out the child was a boy.<|endoftext|> | [
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TITLE: TIFU while serving a child.
POST: As per usual, this fuck up didn't happen today, it happened on Monday at work.
I work as a cashier at a major grocery store in a pretty big city. Since it was a few days before Christmas, it was super busy, and I was on auto-pilot, trying to get as many customers served as possible.
It's a common occurrence for parents to give the change from their grocery orders to their kids to buy some candy from the storefront. After I serve a lady and her husband, she gives the change to her child, who looked to be around 8 years old. They wore a grey sweater and jeans and had really nice, long hair. She chose 2 packs of gum from the shelf and I ranf them in.
The total of the transaction was $3.80, but the kid only had $3.25. When I ask for more change, the mom comes up and asks, "What's wrong?"
I tell her, "She doesn't have enough money for the gum."
...
"He."
I felt my whole body get hot as I realized that her child was a boy, not a girl. Being on auto-pilot and not entirely paying attention, I saw the long hair and I assumed the lady's child was a girl.
I'm pretty sure I said something along the lines of "Are you shitting me?" because another cashier turned around and laughed.
I apologized profusely while hiding my face in shame. I served all of the customers in my line and closed my till off as soon as I was customer free. I went up to the other cashier to tell her what happened and she informed me that my face was still burning red. It took a few minutes for the initial shock of the interaction to go away before I could go back to work.
Long story short, I hate gender norms and I hate working retail.
TL;DR: Served a small child with long hair at my work. They didn't have enough money, so I told the mom her daughter was a little short on change. Turns out the child was a boy.<|endoftext|> | [
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I recently confronted her very politely about our success so far and she mumbled and said not to lose hope. I questioned her about the funding and she said she 'just' received it and that others are in the same boat I am.
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TITLE: How to tell my mom I don't want to travel to visit my relatives?
POST: My mom is currently planning on going on a month long trip to Europe to visit our relatives(her parents and brothers/sisters). My dad and sister can't go because of their work and I'm still in school so I have the summer off. My mother doesn't speak English fluently and at times relies on myself and my sister to translate what other people are saying so she can understand, but she can speak English Ok just struggles with understanding other people. She can't go on her own because my entire family would worry for her every night and it would cause so much unneeded stress. I don't want to go because where my relatives live there is no Internet, it's all very farmland-ish and I would be spending a month in a situation I don't desire. I wasn't born in that country so in don't really even know my relatives all too well. Sorry for the long post, been thinking about this for a while now and can't come up with any reasonable ideas that don't break my mom's heart. She hasn't seen her family in 5 years.
TL;DR: | mom needs me to go with her on trip, I have no desire/will to want to go. How to tell her without breaking her heart?<|endoftext|> | [
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TITLE: How to tell my mom I don't want to travel to visit my relatives?
POST: My mom is currently planning on going on a month long trip to Europe to visit our relatives(her parents and brothers/sisters). My dad and sister can't go because of their work and I'm still in school so I have the summer off. My mother doesn't speak English fluently and at times relies on myself and my sister to translate what other people are saying so she can understand, but she can speak English Ok just struggles with understanding other people. She can't go on her own because my entire family would worry for her every night and it would cause so much unneeded stress. I don't want to go because where my relatives live there is no Internet, it's all very farmland-ish and I would be spending a month in a situation I don't desire. I wasn't born in that country so in don't really even know my relatives all too well. Sorry for the long post, been thinking about this for a while now and can't come up with any reasonable ideas that don't break my mom's heart. She hasn't seen her family in 5 years.
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Two years later, I'm now in a serious relationship again and we are moving in together shortly. While packing, I realized I still have my late boyfriend's robe in my closet and am worried that my current boyfriend, though understanding, might be concerned that I am still holding on to it. Even though my late boyfriend will always be special to me, I feel like it is time for me to let go of his robe. However, it almost feels cruel to give something that was so special to him away to Goodwill, as silly as that might sound. I feel obligated to ask his mother if she wants his robe back, seeing that she wanted to keep everything he owned, but I'm not sure if that would be rude or awkward to ask her that. Should I feel so guilty? Please help. | Years ago a boyfriend passed away and I kept his robe with me. Now that I am in a new relationship, I feel that I need to get rid of it but feel guilty about doing so. | [
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TITLE: [25f] Moving in with new boyfriend [27m] soon, but feel guilty about disposing of late boyfriend's robe.
POST: A little bit of background, my first long term boyfriend passed away very unexpectedly a couple of years ago. After this happened, I ended up moving across the country to be with my family. His mother ended up keeping most of his belongings, however I brought with me his robe as it was something he wore almost every day. It was comforting to have something of his with me during the grieving process.
Two years later, I'm now in a serious relationship again and we are moving in together shortly. While packing, I realized I still have my late boyfriend's robe in my closet and am worried that my current boyfriend, though understanding, might be concerned that I am still holding on to it. Even though my late boyfriend will always be special to me, I feel like it is time for me to let go of his robe. However, it almost feels cruel to give something that was so special to him away to Goodwill, as silly as that might sound. I feel obligated to ask his mother if she wants his robe back, seeing that she wanted to keep everything he owned, but I'm not sure if that would be rude or awkward to ask her that. Should I feel so guilty? Please help.
TL;DR: | Years ago a boyfriend passed away and I kept his robe with me. Now that I am in a new relationship, I feel that I need to get rid of it but feel guilty about doing so.<|endoftext|> | [
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TITLE: [25f] Moving in with new boyfriend [27m] soon, but feel guilty about disposing of late boyfriend's robe.
POST: A little bit of background, my first long term boyfriend passed away very unexpectedly a couple of years ago. After this happened, I ended up moving across the country to be with my family. His mother ended up keeping most of his belongings, however I brought with me his robe as it was something he wore almost every day. It was comforting to have something of his with me during the grieving process.
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t3_fx10l | relationships | I want to cheer up about this relationship!! | I (18/f) have been seeing a guy (20/m) for 2.5 months and I think he's lost interest. This isn't me whining about that in particular... or even trying to whine at all. I just feel sorta sad about it. I wasn't in love with him and I wasn't particularly 'physically' attached, it just felt like it could go somewhere nice.
Things were going really well but we hardly saw each other so it was hard to 'keep up'. I think it might be done. On the other hand, he could call tomorrow and want to say hi again. I don't know, that's how it has been for a while. Basically I'm in a weird limbo and I'm not sure if it would be better just to discontinue things with him even though I like him a lot. I feel a little clingy/chasing-him at this point too.
I'm not sure at this point if I keep calling/waiting for him to call. He seemed genuinely sad that we couldn't hang out but who knows through texts/phone.
Who knows guys. Anyway, regardless of what I do next, which you can feel free to give me advice on, HOW DO I CHEER UP ABOUT ALL OF THIS?
I am not as near-sighted as all this b.s. makes me seem; I understand that in the near future I will probably not care that much about all of this but damn it hurts right now.
How do YOU ease your mind about someone? I don't necessarily want to refocus. This is the first crush I've had in a looong time and not for lack of trying.
So I came to reddit because I love you guys.
Throwaway account obviously because it's on this subreddit but I am a frequent user so treat me well please! | Like a boy, not sure if I should keep going for it, but honestly **just want to know what you do to keep everything in perspective!** | [
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TITLE: I want to cheer up about this relationship!!
POST: I (18/f) have been seeing a guy (20/m) for 2.5 months and I think he's lost interest. This isn't me whining about that in particular... or even trying to whine at all. I just feel sorta sad about it. I wasn't in love with him and I wasn't particularly 'physically' attached, it just felt like it could go somewhere nice.
Things were going really well but we hardly saw each other so it was hard to 'keep up'. I think it might be done. On the other hand, he could call tomorrow and want to say hi again. I don't know, that's how it has been for a while. Basically I'm in a weird limbo and I'm not sure if it would be better just to discontinue things with him even though I like him a lot. I feel a little clingy/chasing-him at this point too.
I'm not sure at this point if I keep calling/waiting for him to call. He seemed genuinely sad that we couldn't hang out but who knows through texts/phone.
Who knows guys. Anyway, regardless of what I do next, which you can feel free to give me advice on, HOW DO I CHEER UP ABOUT ALL OF THIS?
I am not as near-sighted as all this b.s. makes me seem; I understand that in the near future I will probably not care that much about all of this but damn it hurts right now.
How do YOU ease your mind about someone? I don't necessarily want to refocus. This is the first crush I've had in a looong time and not for lack of trying.
So I came to reddit because I love you guys.
Throwaway account obviously because it's on this subreddit but I am a frequent user so treat me well please!
TL;DR: | Like a boy, not sure if I should keep going for it, but honestly **just want to know what you do to keep everything in perspective!**<|endoftext|> | [
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TITLE: I want to cheer up about this relationship!!
POST: I (18/f) have been seeing a guy (20/m) for 2.5 months and I think he's lost interest. This isn't me whining about that in particular... or even trying to whine at all. I just feel sorta sad about it. I wasn't in love with him and I wasn't particularly 'physically' attached, it just felt like it could go somewhere nice.
Things were going really well but we hardly saw each other so it was hard to 'keep up'. I think it might be done. On the other hand, he could call tomorrow and want to say hi again. I don't know, that's how it has been for a while. Basically I'm in a weird limbo and I'm not sure if it would be better just to discontinue things with him even though I like him a lot. I feel a little clingy/chasing-him at this point too.
I'm not sure at this point if I keep calling/waiting for him to call. He seemed genuinely sad that we couldn't hang out but who knows through texts/phone.
Who knows guys. Anyway, regardless of what I do next, which you can feel free to give me advice on, HOW DO I CHEER UP ABOUT ALL OF THIS?
I am not as near-sighted as all this b.s. makes me seem; I understand that in the near future I will probably not care that much about all of this but damn it hurts right now.
How do YOU ease your mind about someone? I don't necessarily want to refocus. This is the first crush I've had in a looong time and not for lack of trying.
So I came to reddit because I love you guys.
Throwaway account obviously because it's on this subreddit but I am a frequent user so treat me well please!
TL;DR: Like a boy, not sure if I should keep going for it, but honestly **just want to know what you do to keep everything in perspective!**<|endoftext|> | [
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t3_2e5b52 | relationship_advice | [23/male], been in love, and never had a GF | Hello folks, first time on this sub, and I have to say it's very comforting to read everyone advice and stories. I'm a 23yr old man Just graduated from school working a job in the city making good money, and I've never had a gf. All throughout HS i was fairly goofy and geeky. I wasnt socially awkward, I just found it more interesting to get into ANime, art, and videogames. I liked a couple girls, and asked a few out, but alway got the "aw you're so sweet, but I'm not into you" Skip to college, get first kiss and loose my virginity freshman year, but I'm new to this whole college thing and want to stay single. Skip to 4th year, been with about girls by now, only 1 of which was relationship worthy, but she fucked that up. I start dating this girl I've been working with who just got out of a relationship. Things are going great until valentines day, and she realizes that shes "not into me like that". Now enter the next year of heartbreak. Revised that I loved the girl, and unfortunately I work with her, so we have to see each other every day. It was a painful year. BUT i did a few heartbreaking myself, that year with another girl, and that really put things into perspective (I'm typing this fast and void of details, but i do want to note that I wasn't proud of the way I treated the rebound girl). Now I'm a grown ass man surrounded by all these women who are either A. looking for older more established men, B. Young and looking for the wrong things, or C. already set and primed to get married at 23-24. So, it really hit me, **WHY HELL HAVE I NEVER HAD A GF?** Any outside advice based on my story thus far? (also, i'm still getting over the heartbreak a bit, I think about her at least once a day, even if just for a second, but I dont think thats ever going away). Oh last note, I'm a mixed guy, graphic designer, lives in the south, and has only ever dated/been with white women. If that helps at all. | 23 Male, slept with many women, slightly still heartbroken from love unrequited, has job, has future, but has not ever had a GF. Why??? | [
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TITLE: [23/male], been in love, and never had a GF
POST: Hello folks, first time on this sub, and I have to say it's very comforting to read everyone advice and stories. I'm a 23yr old man Just graduated from school working a job in the city making good money, and I've never had a gf. All throughout HS i was fairly goofy and geeky. I wasnt socially awkward, I just found it more interesting to get into ANime, art, and videogames. I liked a couple girls, and asked a few out, but alway got the "aw you're so sweet, but I'm not into you" Skip to college, get first kiss and loose my virginity freshman year, but I'm new to this whole college thing and want to stay single. Skip to 4th year, been with about girls by now, only 1 of which was relationship worthy, but she fucked that up. I start dating this girl I've been working with who just got out of a relationship. Things are going great until valentines day, and she realizes that shes "not into me like that". Now enter the next year of heartbreak. Revised that I loved the girl, and unfortunately I work with her, so we have to see each other every day. It was a painful year. BUT i did a few heartbreaking myself, that year with another girl, and that really put things into perspective (I'm typing this fast and void of details, but i do want to note that I wasn't proud of the way I treated the rebound girl). Now I'm a grown ass man surrounded by all these women who are either A. looking for older more established men, B. Young and looking for the wrong things, or C. already set and primed to get married at 23-24. So, it really hit me, **WHY HELL HAVE I NEVER HAD A GF?** Any outside advice based on my story thus far? (also, i'm still getting over the heartbreak a bit, I think about her at least once a day, even if just for a second, but I dont think thats ever going away). Oh last note, I'm a mixed guy, graphic designer, lives in the south, and has only ever dated/been with white women. If that helps at all.
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TITLE: [23/male], been in love, and never had a GF
POST: Hello folks, first time on this sub, and I have to say it's very comforting to read everyone advice and stories. I'm a 23yr old man Just graduated from school working a job in the city making good money, and I've never had a gf. All throughout HS i was fairly goofy and geeky. I wasnt socially awkward, I just found it more interesting to get into ANime, art, and videogames. I liked a couple girls, and asked a few out, but alway got the "aw you're so sweet, but I'm not into you" Skip to college, get first kiss and loose my virginity freshman year, but I'm new to this whole college thing and want to stay single. Skip to 4th year, been with about girls by now, only 1 of which was relationship worthy, but she fucked that up. I start dating this girl I've been working with who just got out of a relationship. Things are going great until valentines day, and she realizes that shes "not into me like that". Now enter the next year of heartbreak. Revised that I loved the girl, and unfortunately I work with her, so we have to see each other every day. It was a painful year. BUT i did a few heartbreaking myself, that year with another girl, and that really put things into perspective (I'm typing this fast and void of details, but i do want to note that I wasn't proud of the way I treated the rebound girl). Now I'm a grown ass man surrounded by all these women who are either A. looking for older more established men, B. Young and looking for the wrong things, or C. already set and primed to get married at 23-24. So, it really hit me, **WHY HELL HAVE I NEVER HAD A GF?** Any outside advice based on my story thus far? (also, i'm still getting over the heartbreak a bit, I think about her at least once a day, even if just for a second, but I dont think thats ever going away). Oh last note, I'm a mixed guy, graphic designer, lives in the south, and has only ever dated/been with white women. If that helps at all.
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t3_4bzj6i | relationships | Me [22F] do not want to have my DAD [50s] move me into my first apt | I live on the east coast, and am graduating college soon and moving across the country to the west coast to start a job.
My dad and I don't have a great relationship. I have to be the adult in the relationship, which is still hard to grasp. He is a lot of emotional issues with his family, so he is constantly a wreck and trying to take it out on someone. I don't really need his help moving in, but my mother was going to come because she is a logistics master. My dad used to work for a company in the area and wants to relive his glory days. He also would mostly get in the way and not really help.
My dad currently assumes he will be helping and be joining as I move across the country, however, I'd rather neither of my parents come if it means my dad comes.
So how do I tell my dad that I don't want him to move me in without tearing him to shreds. | Moving across country and don't want my dad to help move me in. How do I tell him this without completely destroying our relationship. | [
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TITLE: Me [22F] do not want to have my DAD [50s] move me into my first apt
POST: I live on the east coast, and am graduating college soon and moving across the country to the west coast to start a job.
My dad and I don't have a great relationship. I have to be the adult in the relationship, which is still hard to grasp. He is a lot of emotional issues with his family, so he is constantly a wreck and trying to take it out on someone. I don't really need his help moving in, but my mother was going to come because she is a logistics master. My dad used to work for a company in the area and wants to relive his glory days. He also would mostly get in the way and not really help.
My dad currently assumes he will be helping and be joining as I move across the country, however, I'd rather neither of my parents come if it means my dad comes.
So how do I tell my dad that I don't want him to move me in without tearing him to shreds.
TL;DR: | Moving across country and don't want my dad to help move me in. How do I tell him this without completely destroying our relationship.<|endoftext|> | [
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TITLE: Me [22F] do not want to have my DAD [50s] move me into my first apt
POST: I live on the east coast, and am graduating college soon and moving across the country to the west coast to start a job.
My dad and I don't have a great relationship. I have to be the adult in the relationship, which is still hard to grasp. He is a lot of emotional issues with his family, so he is constantly a wreck and trying to take it out on someone. I don't really need his help moving in, but my mother was going to come because she is a logistics master. My dad used to work for a company in the area and wants to relive his glory days. He also would mostly get in the way and not really help.
My dad currently assumes he will be helping and be joining as I move across the country, however, I'd rather neither of my parents come if it means my dad comes.
So how do I tell my dad that I don't want him to move me in without tearing him to shreds.
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t3_3iyzon | tifu | TIFU by laughing at my daughters mischief | This happened a few days ago but bodily discharge has to wait until the weekends so...
My potty training 2 year old daughter has this new thing she likes to do when she has pee in her diaper. She likes to rip off the diaper and throw it up in the air. We laugh at this because no harm no foul, right? Nope.
Well fast forward to Wednesday night. I am in the hall downstairs peeling wallpaper off so that I can paint. My wife and daughter took a shower and are now getting ready for bed upstairs. I am enjoying a beer while working on the wallpaper when all of a sudden I hear shrieks of "/u/cichlidsaremyjam, come QUICK, hurry hurry hurry!!" I am thinking there is a spider in the room which my wife likes to make a much bigger deal than it ever is. Well I get upstairs and my daughter is standing in the middle of room smiling. I love over to my wife (6 months pregnant by the way) on the bed and she has her hands up frozen in fear. I look around the bed and there are little brown spots here and there. Then I notice the open diaper at my feet. That is when I put two and two together. Not only was that my daughter's most recent diaper that she flung up in the air. It also at one point contained a poop. Now there is poop on my wife, the bed, my pillow and a big piece on the edge of the bed resting against the wall.
You think this would be the end of the story. Oh no we are just getting started. My wife is now surround without much option to get herself out of this situation. So she starts to laugh, cry and turn red all at the same time. She works herself up to the point where she starts to gag. I am thinking, don't you dare throw up... and then it happened. Right in the middle of our bed. Holding nothing back. At the sight of this my daughter burst into tears. I am left just standing there wondering "what in the hell just happened and how do I even start to clean this?" | Daughter thought she was witty, decided to throw a diaper that was shitty which made my wife take my bed to puke city. | [
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TITLE: TIFU by laughing at my daughters mischief
POST: This happened a few days ago but bodily discharge has to wait until the weekends so...
My potty training 2 year old daughter has this new thing she likes to do when she has pee in her diaper. She likes to rip off the diaper and throw it up in the air. We laugh at this because no harm no foul, right? Nope.
Well fast forward to Wednesday night. I am in the hall downstairs peeling wallpaper off so that I can paint. My wife and daughter took a shower and are now getting ready for bed upstairs. I am enjoying a beer while working on the wallpaper when all of a sudden I hear shrieks of "/u/cichlidsaremyjam, come QUICK, hurry hurry hurry!!" I am thinking there is a spider in the room which my wife likes to make a much bigger deal than it ever is. Well I get upstairs and my daughter is standing in the middle of room smiling. I love over to my wife (6 months pregnant by the way) on the bed and she has her hands up frozen in fear. I look around the bed and there are little brown spots here and there. Then I notice the open diaper at my feet. That is when I put two and two together. Not only was that my daughter's most recent diaper that she flung up in the air. It also at one point contained a poop. Now there is poop on my wife, the bed, my pillow and a big piece on the edge of the bed resting against the wall.
You think this would be the end of the story. Oh no we are just getting started. My wife is now surround without much option to get herself out of this situation. So she starts to laugh, cry and turn red all at the same time. She works herself up to the point where she starts to gag. I am thinking, don't you dare throw up... and then it happened. Right in the middle of our bed. Holding nothing back. At the sight of this my daughter burst into tears. I am left just standing there wondering "what in the hell just happened and how do I even start to clean this?"
TL;DR: | Daughter thought she was witty, decided to throw a diaper that was shitty which made my wife take my bed to puke city.<|endoftext|> | [
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TITLE: TIFU by laughing at my daughters mischief
POST: This happened a few days ago but bodily discharge has to wait until the weekends so...
My potty training 2 year old daughter has this new thing she likes to do when she has pee in her diaper. She likes to rip off the diaper and throw it up in the air. We laugh at this because no harm no foul, right? Nope.
Well fast forward to Wednesday night. I am in the hall downstairs peeling wallpaper off so that I can paint. My wife and daughter took a shower and are now getting ready for bed upstairs. I am enjoying a beer while working on the wallpaper when all of a sudden I hear shrieks of "/u/cichlidsaremyjam, come QUICK, hurry hurry hurry!!" I am thinking there is a spider in the room which my wife likes to make a much bigger deal than it ever is. Well I get upstairs and my daughter is standing in the middle of room smiling. I love over to my wife (6 months pregnant by the way) on the bed and she has her hands up frozen in fear. I look around the bed and there are little brown spots here and there. Then I notice the open diaper at my feet. That is when I put two and two together. Not only was that my daughter's most recent diaper that she flung up in the air. It also at one point contained a poop. Now there is poop on my wife, the bed, my pillow and a big piece on the edge of the bed resting against the wall.
You think this would be the end of the story. Oh no we are just getting started. My wife is now surround without much option to get herself out of this situation. So she starts to laugh, cry and turn red all at the same time. She works herself up to the point where she starts to gag. I am thinking, don't you dare throw up... and then it happened. Right in the middle of our bed. Holding nothing back. At the sight of this my daughter burst into tears. I am left just standing there wondering "what in the hell just happened and how do I even start to clean this?"
TL;DR: Daughter thought she was witty, decided to throw a diaper that was shitty which made my wife take my bed to puke city.<|endoftext|> | [
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TITLE: I get these weird pains on the lower inside of my legs just a bit above the ankle, but only ever hurt on impact. What exactly is it?
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Side note. My friend knows her from college and said she's very shy but a great girl. I got out of a shitty relationship and says I should do whatever I can to win this girl over because she's a real down to earth girl and I deserve it. I'm a stand up guy and been fucked over by ex gfs who mistake my kindness and openness as weakness. | talking to a girl but don't know if she is looking for the same thing I am. Over thinking her signs. | [
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TITLE: How do I find out what this girl is thinking? [M/25, F/24]
POST: So I've been talking to this girl for a month or so now and gone on 2 dates. When trying to get a 3rd it feels like pulling teeth. I'm gone for work 2 weeks then back for 1. She work for a sports team that has a daily schedule plus has to work nights during game days so she is also busy. When we do have free time we spend it with our friends and haven't got to the point or felt comfortable bringing the other around our friends. This is where I'm stuck. Idk how to interpret what she is thinking/feeling about me. Idk is she really is busy, pretending to be busy to make her hard to get, or just making excuses to get me to stop. When I text her she text me back. We joke around, tease, talk about our days, etc. what can I say or ask her to find out where we stand without making her uncomfortable or sounding overly committed this early.
Side note. My friend knows her from college and said she's very shy but a great girl. I got out of a shitty relationship and says I should do whatever I can to win this girl over because she's a real down to earth girl and I deserve it. I'm a stand up guy and been fucked over by ex gfs who mistake my kindness and openness as weakness.
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TITLE: How do I find out what this girl is thinking? [M/25, F/24]
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t3_3en1wo | relationships | Me [29/m] happy with current gf[29/f] when suddenly ex-gf[27/f] makes contact and kinda ruins everything. | Had a girlfriend for about 4 years, it all started when she came to visit my country - I was sure she was going to leave in a few months but she stayed because of me (for about 4 years). We broke up about a year ago and I did whatever i could with the "no contact rule" to get over everything.
She kept sending me messages every few days or so.
I met a new girl - which is fun and great. - thats when the ex started sending msgs again - she was very hurt due to me dating someone new. - I wanted to protect her so I ignored most of them, but also tried to explain we didn't have a good match and that we should stop talking.
those msgs pretty much ruined my overseas trip with the current gf - i couldn't stop thinking about how bad my ex probably felt.
on top of everything - even thu i didn't go 'online stalking' on the ex - i did eventually look at her fb page to see she has someone new.
All of a sudden i feel as if my emotions to the current gf has gone significantly down - she is perfect for me in every way but now I can't get my ex-gf out of my head. (even though it was about a year ago(!).
I would love to hear some advice about how to get over this - im very confused. There is no way to go back to the ex and i don't know i would like to, even if i could.
I love my current gf and we spend a lot of time together.
Why do I feel such "jealousy" and "sadness" to see my ex with someone new?
When i was with my ex-gf, I didn't feel like I really want to be there.
p.s
I know my ex loved me very much and did everything she could for us to stay together. but I just didn't feel the same way. | Had a great time with new gf, ex-gf suddenly makes contact - I see she has someone new and this makes me less emotional to my current girlfriend. | [
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TITLE: Me [29/m] happy with current gf[29/f] when suddenly ex-gf[27/f] makes contact and kinda ruins everything.
POST: Had a girlfriend for about 4 years, it all started when she came to visit my country - I was sure she was going to leave in a few months but she stayed because of me (for about 4 years). We broke up about a year ago and I did whatever i could with the "no contact rule" to get over everything.
She kept sending me messages every few days or so.
I met a new girl - which is fun and great. - thats when the ex started sending msgs again - she was very hurt due to me dating someone new. - I wanted to protect her so I ignored most of them, but also tried to explain we didn't have a good match and that we should stop talking.
those msgs pretty much ruined my overseas trip with the current gf - i couldn't stop thinking about how bad my ex probably felt.
on top of everything - even thu i didn't go 'online stalking' on the ex - i did eventually look at her fb page to see she has someone new.
All of a sudden i feel as if my emotions to the current gf has gone significantly down - she is perfect for me in every way but now I can't get my ex-gf out of my head. (even though it was about a year ago(!).
I would love to hear some advice about how to get over this - im very confused. There is no way to go back to the ex and i don't know i would like to, even if i could.
I love my current gf and we spend a lot of time together.
Why do I feel such "jealousy" and "sadness" to see my ex with someone new?
When i was with my ex-gf, I didn't feel like I really want to be there.
p.s
I know my ex loved me very much and did everything she could for us to stay together. but I just didn't feel the same way.
TL;DR: | Had a great time with new gf, ex-gf suddenly makes contact - I see she has someone new and this makes me less emotional to my current girlfriend.<|endoftext|> | [
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TITLE: Me [29/m] happy with current gf[29/f] when suddenly ex-gf[27/f] makes contact and kinda ruins everything.
POST: Had a girlfriend for about 4 years, it all started when she came to visit my country - I was sure she was going to leave in a few months but she stayed because of me (for about 4 years). We broke up about a year ago and I did whatever i could with the "no contact rule" to get over everything.
She kept sending me messages every few days or so.
I met a new girl - which is fun and great. - thats when the ex started sending msgs again - she was very hurt due to me dating someone new. - I wanted to protect her so I ignored most of them, but also tried to explain we didn't have a good match and that we should stop talking.
those msgs pretty much ruined my overseas trip with the current gf - i couldn't stop thinking about how bad my ex probably felt.
on top of everything - even thu i didn't go 'online stalking' on the ex - i did eventually look at her fb page to see she has someone new.
All of a sudden i feel as if my emotions to the current gf has gone significantly down - she is perfect for me in every way but now I can't get my ex-gf out of my head. (even though it was about a year ago(!).
I would love to hear some advice about how to get over this - im very confused. There is no way to go back to the ex and i don't know i would like to, even if i could.
I love my current gf and we spend a lot of time together.
Why do I feel such "jealousy" and "sadness" to see my ex with someone new?
When i was with my ex-gf, I didn't feel like I really want to be there.
p.s
I know my ex loved me very much and did everything she could for us to stay together. but I just didn't feel the same way.
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Of corse these celebrities might have at one point said Anonymous is stupid or something, but why let that get to you? It's as if a part of Anonymous is run by teenaged boys who once someone mentions they're "gay" they fart blood and pout and whine about it on the internet. It's immaturity (and in some cases hilarity) at it's finest.
Okay, maybe it's for teh lulz. But I think now that Anonymous has really stepped out into more serious things like protesting a congress that doesn't give two ducks about it's people it's time to move on. But maybe I'm wrong, maybe teh lulz does have an underlying purpose. . .
I'm not hating on Anonymous, they run a good team over there and are able to get the attention of the 1%, I just feel like they can set their minds on more interesting things. | Seems like Anonymous is wasting time bashing celebrities who don't matter when they could do something that might make a difference. What do you think? | [
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TITLE: Why do Anonymous hate celebrities like Justin Bieber, Lady GaGa, Kim Kardashian, and Taylor Swift? Is it for "teh lulz"?
POST: I agree with the folks over at Anonymous with most of their stances on politics. Stuff like regulating the banks, making sure Americans are represented in congress, that's all great stuff. But what's with this fight on celebrities? According to the research I've done none of the celebrities endorse SOPA, I would be surprised if they even knew what SOPA is (except for Justin Bieber, who said he is opposed to the bill). And why hate Lady GaGa? I mean, her music doesn't appeal to everyone, but she sends out good messages like "be yourself" and "love yourself" which is all fine and dandy (even if she does it to sell records, not saying she does, but money does things to people...). Okay, Kim Kardashian seems like an annoying person, but who cares? If you don't like her, ignore her. And what's wrong with Taylor Swift? Sure her music is generic, but again, why does Anonymous care so much?
Of corse these celebrities might have at one point said Anonymous is stupid or something, but why let that get to you? It's as if a part of Anonymous is run by teenaged boys who once someone mentions they're "gay" they fart blood and pout and whine about it on the internet. It's immaturity (and in some cases hilarity) at it's finest.
Okay, maybe it's for teh lulz. But I think now that Anonymous has really stepped out into more serious things like protesting a congress that doesn't give two ducks about it's people it's time to move on. But maybe I'm wrong, maybe teh lulz does have an underlying purpose...
I'm not hating on Anonymous, they run a good team over there and are able to get the attention of the 1%, I just feel like they can set their minds on more interesting things.
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TITLE: Why do Anonymous hate celebrities like Justin Bieber, Lady GaGa, Kim Kardashian, and Taylor Swift? Is it for "teh lulz"?
POST: I agree with the folks over at Anonymous with most of their stances on politics. Stuff like regulating the banks, making sure Americans are represented in congress, that's all great stuff. But what's with this fight on celebrities? According to the research I've done none of the celebrities endorse SOPA, I would be surprised if they even knew what SOPA is (except for Justin Bieber, who said he is opposed to the bill). And why hate Lady GaGa? I mean, her music doesn't appeal to everyone, but she sends out good messages like "be yourself" and "love yourself" which is all fine and dandy (even if she does it to sell records, not saying she does, but money does things to people...). Okay, Kim Kardashian seems like an annoying person, but who cares? If you don't like her, ignore her. And what's wrong with Taylor Swift? Sure her music is generic, but again, why does Anonymous care so much?
Of corse these celebrities might have at one point said Anonymous is stupid or something, but why let that get to you? It's as if a part of Anonymous is run by teenaged boys who once someone mentions they're "gay" they fart blood and pout and whine about it on the internet. It's immaturity (and in some cases hilarity) at it's finest.
Okay, maybe it's for teh lulz. But I think now that Anonymous has really stepped out into more serious things like protesting a congress that doesn't give two ducks about it's people it's time to move on. But maybe I'm wrong, maybe teh lulz does have an underlying purpose...
I'm not hating on Anonymous, they run a good team over there and are able to get the attention of the 1%, I just feel like they can set their minds on more interesting things.
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t3_yw314 | AskReddit | Am I in the wrong? | Hello people,
I have been married to my wife for almost 3 years now and we have a beautiful baby girl together. She is stuck at home almost 24/7 because we only have one car right now. She never has any real desire to go out with friends though because of our parental obligations and the distance between our friends and us. She never really even wants to go out to a movie with me because of the cost and the nearest theater is over 45 minutes away. Aside from that stuff we have a great relationship and love each other with all of our hearts, truly.
Right now I am away on a business trip and I noticed one of her ex's posted on a post of hers on FB. Now this ex of hers was actually a friend of mine in a past life, until he went off on me and my wife when we got together 3 years after they ended their 6 month (long distance) relationship.
Anyway, I have told my wife in the past that I would prefer she not talk to her ex. She told me she would not ask me to do that, so I dropped it. I am not one to hold my tongue though and tonight I let her know how her talking to him was disrespectful to me as he husband. She got upset and said we should be past the jealousy in our marriage. I told her I am not jealous, but a guy that went off on me and erased me from his life, and later on apologized to her was not someone I am okay with her speaking to.
I told her I stopped talking to my best friends sister just because she told me she didn't like me talking to her. My friends sister liked me at one time.
This ex of hers also told me before her and I got together that he still loved her. | Anyway, long ass story short. Is it okay for me to ask my wife to remove an ex of hers from her facebook and her life? | [
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TITLE: Am I in the wrong?
POST: Hello people,
I have been married to my wife for almost 3 years now and we have a beautiful baby girl together. She is stuck at home almost 24/7 because we only have one car right now. She never has any real desire to go out with friends though because of our parental obligations and the distance between our friends and us. She never really even wants to go out to a movie with me because of the cost and the nearest theater is over 45 minutes away. Aside from that stuff we have a great relationship and love each other with all of our hearts, truly.
Right now I am away on a business trip and I noticed one of her ex's posted on a post of hers on FB. Now this ex of hers was actually a friend of mine in a past life, until he went off on me and my wife when we got together 3 years after they ended their 6 month (long distance) relationship.
Anyway, I have told my wife in the past that I would prefer she not talk to her ex. She told me she would not ask me to do that, so I dropped it. I am not one to hold my tongue though and tonight I let her know how her talking to him was disrespectful to me as he husband. She got upset and said we should be past the jealousy in our marriage. I told her I am not jealous, but a guy that went off on me and erased me from his life, and later on apologized to her was not someone I am okay with her speaking to.
I told her I stopped talking to my best friends sister just because she told me she didn't like me talking to her. My friends sister liked me at one time.
This ex of hers also told me before her and I got together that he still loved her.
TL;DR: | Anyway, long ass story short. Is it okay for me to ask my wife to remove an ex of hers from her facebook and her life?<|endoftext|> | [
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TITLE: Am I in the wrong?
POST: Hello people,
I have been married to my wife for almost 3 years now and we have a beautiful baby girl together. She is stuck at home almost 24/7 because we only have one car right now. She never has any real desire to go out with friends though because of our parental obligations and the distance between our friends and us. She never really even wants to go out to a movie with me because of the cost and the nearest theater is over 45 minutes away. Aside from that stuff we have a great relationship and love each other with all of our hearts, truly.
Right now I am away on a business trip and I noticed one of her ex's posted on a post of hers on FB. Now this ex of hers was actually a friend of mine in a past life, until he went off on me and my wife when we got together 3 years after they ended their 6 month (long distance) relationship.
Anyway, I have told my wife in the past that I would prefer she not talk to her ex. She told me she would not ask me to do that, so I dropped it. I am not one to hold my tongue though and tonight I let her know how her talking to him was disrespectful to me as he husband. She got upset and said we should be past the jealousy in our marriage. I told her I am not jealous, but a guy that went off on me and erased me from his life, and later on apologized to her was not someone I am okay with her speaking to.
I told her I stopped talking to my best friends sister just because she told me she didn't like me talking to her. My friends sister liked me at one time.
This ex of hers also told me before her and I got together that he still loved her.
TL;DR: Anyway, long ass story short. Is it okay for me to ask my wife to remove an ex of hers from her facebook and her life?<|endoftext|> | [
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t3_3ft05v | relationships | I've [24m] been seeing a girl [21f] for 09 months now, but she'll be going away for a year soon. | Hey there!
I've met this girl at a halloween party last year and I enjoy dating her a lot. Thing is, she's studying to become an engineer and, as custom, will be living abroad for one year, starting July 2016.
Couple months ago, she sent me the following message: "You seem to be content with just seeing each other once a week, and I'm actually looking for something more meaningful. The fuck is up dude?"
Well, I told her that I really like her, but I'm not comfortable starting a relationship with an expiration date, considering she'll leave and also considering I'm not fond of distance relationships.
Also mentioned that I'd be super thrilled to keep seeing her meanwhile, but if a serious thing is what she seeks, then we should stop seeing each other.
She mentioned she understood and we still see each other once a week.
Recently, I am becoming more and more infatuated with (by? for?) her, to the point where I regret shutting her off when she mentioned she wanted serious stuff. And yet, I do believe I have a point when I think about the expiration date stuff.
What the hell do I do, then? Should I just let it go? Should I date her and try to forget the pain of an eventual breakup?
Please consider that going with her is not a possibility for me, and that she will be gone for one year - waiting her return is kinda bummy for both of us, I suppose, so that is also not an option.
What are your thoughts, people? Thank you in advance! | i be in love with bae but bae be leaving and not returnin' for a damn year, should we become serious yes or no | [
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TITLE: I've [24m] been seeing a girl [21f] for 09 months now, but she'll be going away for a year soon.
POST: Hey there!
I've met this girl at a halloween party last year and I enjoy dating her a lot. Thing is, she's studying to become an engineer and, as custom, will be living abroad for one year, starting July 2016.
Couple months ago, she sent me the following message: "You seem to be content with just seeing each other once a week, and I'm actually looking for something more meaningful. The fuck is up dude?"
Well, I told her that I really like her, but I'm not comfortable starting a relationship with an expiration date, considering she'll leave and also considering I'm not fond of distance relationships.
Also mentioned that I'd be super thrilled to keep seeing her meanwhile, but if a serious thing is what she seeks, then we should stop seeing each other.
She mentioned she understood and we still see each other once a week.
Recently, I am becoming more and more infatuated with (by? for?) her, to the point where I regret shutting her off when she mentioned she wanted serious stuff. And yet, I do believe I have a point when I think about the expiration date stuff.
What the hell do I do, then? Should I just let it go? Should I date her and try to forget the pain of an eventual breakup?
Please consider that going with her is not a possibility for me, and that she will be gone for one year - waiting her return is kinda bummy for both of us, I suppose, so that is also not an option.
What are your thoughts, people? Thank you in advance!
TL;DR: | i be in love with bae but bae be leaving and not returnin' for a damn year, should we become serious yes or no<|endoftext|> | [
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TITLE: I've [24m] been seeing a girl [21f] for 09 months now, but she'll be going away for a year soon.
POST: Hey there!
I've met this girl at a halloween party last year and I enjoy dating her a lot. Thing is, she's studying to become an engineer and, as custom, will be living abroad for one year, starting July 2016.
Couple months ago, she sent me the following message: "You seem to be content with just seeing each other once a week, and I'm actually looking for something more meaningful. The fuck is up dude?"
Well, I told her that I really like her, but I'm not comfortable starting a relationship with an expiration date, considering she'll leave and also considering I'm not fond of distance relationships.
Also mentioned that I'd be super thrilled to keep seeing her meanwhile, but if a serious thing is what she seeks, then we should stop seeing each other.
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What the hell do I do, then? Should I just let it go? Should I date her and try to forget the pain of an eventual breakup?
Please consider that going with her is not a possibility for me, and that she will be gone for one year - waiting her return is kinda bummy for both of us, I suppose, so that is also not an option.
What are your thoughts, people? Thank you in advance!
TL;DR: i be in love with bae but bae be leaving and not returnin' for a damn year, should we become serious yes or no<|endoftext|> | [
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t3_4n31xc | relationships | What should i [19 m] do? I haven't spoken to her [19 f] in like 2 weeks | It seemed like everything was great between us. Even if she doesn't feel the same, i feel like we still could be talking to each other like friends. She warmed up to me a lot more after i got her number, she seemed more outgoing whenever we talked.
I feel like i wrecked things after i asked her to a movie, she said yes. the day after i asked her i got kind of awkward in not knowing what to talk about and over time it seemed like she became more distant. We ended up not going.
so i tried texting her just to talk about anything, but no response, that was days ago. and now i'm more afraid i was overly persistent (thought with the amount of time i had, i felt like i had to be) and scared her off. I want to text her to say i'm sorry if i made her uncomfortable or feel pressured if i did at all. But like the last text i sent her, i feel like she'll see it and think nothing of it. I really wouldn't know what's going on in her life, for all i know she hasn't seen it, but i seriously doubt it.
I still like her a lot, i fear that i'll never see her again since we're in college, and so far i haven't had a class with someone in consecutive semesters. And to be honest she's the only nenw person i've met that i can actually talk to about anything.
i don't want to never see her again that's all i know. deep down i know i'll get over her at some point, but the feelings i have for her make me not want to. | I texted her but she never texted back, i'm afraid i've messed something up and i'm not sure what to do. i like her a lot and i don't know what to do. | [
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TITLE: What should i [19 m] do? I haven't spoken to her [19 f] in like 2 weeks
POST: It seemed like everything was great between us. Even if she doesn't feel the same, i feel like we still could be talking to each other like friends. She warmed up to me a lot more after i got her number, she seemed more outgoing whenever we talked.
I feel like i wrecked things after i asked her to a movie, she said yes. the day after i asked her i got kind of awkward in not knowing what to talk about and over time it seemed like she became more distant. We ended up not going.
so i tried texting her just to talk about anything, but no response, that was days ago. and now i'm more afraid i was overly persistent (thought with the amount of time i had, i felt like i had to be) and scared her off. I want to text her to say i'm sorry if i made her uncomfortable or feel pressured if i did at all. But like the last text i sent her, i feel like she'll see it and think nothing of it. I really wouldn't know what's going on in her life, for all i know she hasn't seen it, but i seriously doubt it.
I still like her a lot, i fear that i'll never see her again since we're in college, and so far i haven't had a class with someone in consecutive semesters. And to be honest she's the only nenw person i've met that i can actually talk to about anything.
i don't want to never see her again that's all i know. deep down i know i'll get over her at some point, but the feelings i have for her make me not want to.
TL;DR: | I texted her but she never texted back, i'm afraid i've messed something up and i'm not sure what to do. i like her a lot and i don't know what to do.<|endoftext|> | [
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TITLE: What should i [19 m] do? I haven't spoken to her [19 f] in like 2 weeks
POST: It seemed like everything was great between us. Even if she doesn't feel the same, i feel like we still could be talking to each other like friends. She warmed up to me a lot more after i got her number, she seemed more outgoing whenever we talked.
I feel like i wrecked things after i asked her to a movie, she said yes. the day after i asked her i got kind of awkward in not knowing what to talk about and over time it seemed like she became more distant. We ended up not going.
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i don't want to never see her again that's all i know. deep down i know i'll get over her at some point, but the feelings i have for her make me not want to.
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Sunday evening, it was the birthday party of my grandmother, who is also his mom. With a number of medical issues, she is mostly asleep, nearly blind, immobile and although her mind is supposedly still fully functional, she can only rarely talk.
I had spent the entire weekend with the family (elsewhere, ending close to where she lives), and wanted to go home (3+h drive) and get a good start on the week instead of attending yet another dinner with the same faces and getting home **super** late. Therefore, I visited with gramps in private before leaving in the late afternoon.
I don't know if she was actually carted to the dinner or not, but if she was, i probably wouldn't have been able to eat anything. **I cannot express my grief at seeing a functional human trapped in an entirely non-functional body and somehow still be "alive".** (And if she wasn't, what's the point
Now I've gotten a text from my uncle:
> You're sending a very bad signal when you don't have "time" to stay and eat at what will most likely be [gramps'] last family event.
I want to tell him to fuck off and play with his own crap. And I have no problem doing it.
But I should be cordial. Because it's the grown-up thing to do. And he's family.
I have a beginning:
> I celebrated [gramps] birthday with [gramps].
But I am not sure how best to continue. | My uncle is disappointed that I did not attend a certain family dinner. Need to tell him to GTFO of my life in a nice way. | [
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TITLE: My [30s M] uncle [60s M] is (as usual) expecting people to do things his way. Need help responding.
POST: Since I was a teenager I've always been at odds with my controlling uncle who thinks he can tell other people how to run their lives. Not suggest, tell. His social skills/calibration is like watching a Rhino in a china shop. For the last few years we've been cordial, but distanced.
Sunday evening, it was the birthday party of my grandmother, who is also his mom. With a number of medical issues, she is mostly asleep, nearly blind, immobile and although her mind is supposedly still fully functional, she can only rarely talk.
I had spent the entire weekend with the family (elsewhere, ending close to where she lives), and wanted to go home (3+h drive) and get a good start on the week instead of attending yet another dinner with the same faces and getting home **super** late. Therefore, I visited with gramps in private before leaving in the late afternoon.
I don't know if she was actually carted to the dinner or not, but if she was, i probably wouldn't have been able to eat anything. **I cannot express my grief at seeing a functional human trapped in an entirely non-functional body and somehow still be "alive".** (And if she wasn't, what's the point
Now I've gotten a text from my uncle:
> You're sending a very bad signal when you don't have "time" to stay and eat at what will most likely be [gramps'] last family event.
I want to tell him to fuck off and play with his own crap. And I have no problem doing it.
But I should be cordial. Because it's the grown-up thing to do. And he's family.
I have a beginning:
> I celebrated [gramps] birthday with [gramps].
But I am not sure how best to continue.
TL;DR: | My uncle is disappointed that I did not attend a certain family dinner. Need to tell him to GTFO of my life in a nice way.<|endoftext|> | [
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TITLE: My [30s M] uncle [60s M] is (as usual) expecting people to do things his way. Need help responding.
POST: Since I was a teenager I've always been at odds with my controlling uncle who thinks he can tell other people how to run their lives. Not suggest, tell. His social skills/calibration is like watching a Rhino in a china shop. For the last few years we've been cordial, but distanced.
Sunday evening, it was the birthday party of my grandmother, who is also his mom. With a number of medical issues, she is mostly asleep, nearly blind, immobile and although her mind is supposedly still fully functional, she can only rarely talk.
I had spent the entire weekend with the family (elsewhere, ending close to where she lives), and wanted to go home (3+h drive) and get a good start on the week instead of attending yet another dinner with the same faces and getting home **super** late. Therefore, I visited with gramps in private before leaving in the late afternoon.
I don't know if she was actually carted to the dinner or not, but if she was, i probably wouldn't have been able to eat anything. **I cannot express my grief at seeing a functional human trapped in an entirely non-functional body and somehow still be "alive".** (And if she wasn't, what's the point
Now I've gotten a text from my uncle:
> You're sending a very bad signal when you don't have "time" to stay and eat at what will most likely be [gramps'] last family event.
I want to tell him to fuck off and play with his own crap. And I have no problem doing it.
But I should be cordial. Because it's the grown-up thing to do. And he's family.
I have a beginning:
> I celebrated [gramps] birthday with [gramps].
But I am not sure how best to continue.
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t3_3hddah | relationships | Me [21M] with my gf [20F] of a year and my parents, I'm looking for graduate jobs for next year and I'm not sure whether I'm doing the right thing! | Hi everyone.
I think I just need some advice and insight into the situation.
I've been with my current girlfriend for about a year. She's a bit of a free spirit and I'm more focussed on getting a job to support a future family when I leave university. That said, we have a lot of plans of adventures we want to go in in our lives together and I am really excited about these ideas.
I've been looking for graduate jobs as I'm in my last year of university and I managed to get one with my dads firm. However the placement takes place in a city I really don't want to work in. I've spoken to people in the company about changing location and they have said it's no problem, but my dad thinks that my salary and promotion chances will be much worse anywhere else.
This isn't what bothers me particularly, I'm not a career junkie, I want to be able to support a family and have some freedom in my working, which this provides. However he has taken a big issue with it on my behalf.
The issue starts here. My gf suggested that I take a position in her home city so we can be close while I'm working, as she wants to stay with her parents for a while after university. I have no issues with being further from my parents as her family is awesome and the city she lives in is beautiful.
My mom has expressed that she is Upset that I will possibly start a family closer to my gfs family than my own and how she doesn't think this is fair. (It's about 2 hours away for them) personally I hadn't thought this far ahead but any insight would be appreciated.
Secondly, I am worried that this decision might be premature given the length of our relationship so far. Is it too soon to be thinking about things like this? I love her and our relationship has been perfect so far, and I can't foresee any reason for us to breakup any time soon but I am stuck with these worries.
Thanks guys | want to take a job in my gfs home city to be close to her. Is it too soon? Do my parents have a right to be upset that I am moving closer to her family? | [
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TITLE: Me [21M] with my gf [20F] of a year and my parents, I'm looking for graduate jobs for next year and I'm not sure whether I'm doing the right thing!
POST: Hi everyone.
I think I just need some advice and insight into the situation.
I've been with my current girlfriend for about a year. She's a bit of a free spirit and I'm more focussed on getting a job to support a future family when I leave university. That said, we have a lot of plans of adventures we want to go in in our lives together and I am really excited about these ideas.
I've been looking for graduate jobs as I'm in my last year of university and I managed to get one with my dads firm. However the placement takes place in a city I really don't want to work in. I've spoken to people in the company about changing location and they have said it's no problem, but my dad thinks that my salary and promotion chances will be much worse anywhere else.
This isn't what bothers me particularly, I'm not a career junkie, I want to be able to support a family and have some freedom in my working, which this provides. However he has taken a big issue with it on my behalf.
The issue starts here. My gf suggested that I take a position in her home city so we can be close while I'm working, as she wants to stay with her parents for a while after university. I have no issues with being further from my parents as her family is awesome and the city she lives in is beautiful.
My mom has expressed that she is Upset that I will possibly start a family closer to my gfs family than my own and how she doesn't think this is fair. (It's about 2 hours away for them) personally I hadn't thought this far ahead but any insight would be appreciated.
Secondly, I am worried that this decision might be premature given the length of our relationship so far. Is it too soon to be thinking about things like this? I love her and our relationship has been perfect so far, and I can't foresee any reason for us to breakup any time soon but I am stuck with these worries.
Thanks guys
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TITLE: Me [21M] with my gf [20F] of a year and my parents, I'm looking for graduate jobs for next year and I'm not sure whether I'm doing the right thing!
POST: Hi everyone.
I think I just need some advice and insight into the situation.
I've been with my current girlfriend for about a year. She's a bit of a free spirit and I'm more focussed on getting a job to support a future family when I leave university. That said, we have a lot of plans of adventures we want to go in in our lives together and I am really excited about these ideas.
I've been looking for graduate jobs as I'm in my last year of university and I managed to get one with my dads firm. However the placement takes place in a city I really don't want to work in. I've spoken to people in the company about changing location and they have said it's no problem, but my dad thinks that my salary and promotion chances will be much worse anywhere else.
This isn't what bothers me particularly, I'm not a career junkie, I want to be able to support a family and have some freedom in my working, which this provides. However he has taken a big issue with it on my behalf.
The issue starts here. My gf suggested that I take a position in her home city so we can be close while I'm working, as she wants to stay with her parents for a while after university. I have no issues with being further from my parents as her family is awesome and the city she lives in is beautiful.
My mom has expressed that she is Upset that I will possibly start a family closer to my gfs family than my own and how she doesn't think this is fair. (It's about 2 hours away for them) personally I hadn't thought this far ahead but any insight would be appreciated.
Secondly, I am worried that this decision might be premature given the length of our relationship so far. Is it too soon to be thinking about things like this? I love her and our relationship has been perfect so far, and I can't foresee any reason for us to breakup any time soon but I am stuck with these worries.
Thanks guys
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This is my first time finding books on my own, and it is the first time that I disliked a series after reading it.
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This is my first time finding books on my own, and it is the first time that I disliked a series after reading it.
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TITLE: I (m20) don't talk to my family anymore.
POST: Me and my parents fought a lot. We were never really close at all. My dad drinks all the time and my Mom doesn't do anything about it. Whenever my dad was drunk he would always tell me to move out and go find my own place and stop eating all their food and that they can't afford me living there and I'm a lazy shit. My mom wouldn't really do anything about his drinking at all except tell him to stop yelling and that drinking is killing him but she would never follow through with doing anything and he would continue to drink. Me and my mom have never really had the ideal relationship either, she was always mad at me for something. We would argue all the time over little things. So about 8 months ago we all had a huge fight and I finally packed all my stuff and moved out. So far, over about 8 months, I've made it all the way to Ohio and I left my parents back in California, I'm kinda proud of myself. I haven't seen them since or talked to them. My plan is to go to New York City (find my fortune in the big city sorta thing). I've been living out of motel rooms and hitch hiking so far. I been living off of money I saved up before I left my parents but I'm almost out. Has anyone else Been in this kind of situation? How did you manage? How did you starting making money? This is the first time I've been on my own. But I'm excited and optimistic. I don't really care to see my parents again. Fuck em. I'm 20 years old.
TL;DR: | Me and my shitty parents fought, I moved out, and I'm on my own for the first time with little money.<|endoftext|> | [
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TITLE: I (m20) don't talk to my family anymore.
POST: Me and my parents fought a lot. We were never really close at all. My dad drinks all the time and my Mom doesn't do anything about it. Whenever my dad was drunk he would always tell me to move out and go find my own place and stop eating all their food and that they can't afford me living there and I'm a lazy shit. My mom wouldn't really do anything about his drinking at all except tell him to stop yelling and that drinking is killing him but she would never follow through with doing anything and he would continue to drink. Me and my mom have never really had the ideal relationship either, she was always mad at me for something. We would argue all the time over little things. So about 8 months ago we all had a huge fight and I finally packed all my stuff and moved out. So far, over about 8 months, I've made it all the way to Ohio and I left my parents back in California, I'm kinda proud of myself. I haven't seen them since or talked to them. My plan is to go to New York City (find my fortune in the big city sorta thing). I've been living out of motel rooms and hitch hiking so far. I been living off of money I saved up before I left my parents but I'm almost out. Has anyone else Been in this kind of situation? How did you manage? How did you starting making money? This is the first time I've been on my own. But I'm excited and optimistic. I don't really care to see my parents again. Fuck em. I'm 20 years old.
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I just recently moved to a new state for work and have been using dating sites in order to find someone. After searching for about a month and going on several failed or just plain awful dates, I finally found this girl that I'm at least into. We've been on one date but were talking online since.
The issue at hand here is that her schedule is the complete opposite of mine and I can't ever seem to get in touch with her after several different attempts. She works nights, I work days, and theres no overlap between when I would get off of work and she would leave for work where we can see each other or really even talk. I shoot her a text to say hi at least once a day but she doesn't get home until midnight which is when I'm getting ready for bed, and even then I receive no response from her. It makes me feel like I'm not important enough to her to send a simple 2 second text message. In fact we had to reschedule the first date because she missed it since she got back from work late the day before and stood me up. I gave her a second chance though.
I've noticed that she responds better when I send her messages over the dating site we use. She says that she keeps her phone on silent when shes at work but that doesn't excuse why she isn't checking her phone throughout the work day. I get that some people aren't attached at the hip to their phones but the lack of ability to get in touch with her is concerning to say the least. We have another date scheduled for this weekend and I was finally able to get in touch with her last night to arrange this. | Woman I've been dating doesn't respond very frequently to my text messages. We went 2 days between the last conversation. Making me feel like I'm not important to her. What do? | [
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TITLE: Me[24M] and this woman [25F] Just started dating. Shes incredibly hard to get in touch with, not sure what to do.
POST: Full story:
I just recently moved to a new state for work and have been using dating sites in order to find someone. After searching for about a month and going on several failed or just plain awful dates, I finally found this girl that I'm at least into. We've been on one date but were talking online since.
The issue at hand here is that her schedule is the complete opposite of mine and I can't ever seem to get in touch with her after several different attempts. She works nights, I work days, and theres no overlap between when I would get off of work and she would leave for work where we can see each other or really even talk. I shoot her a text to say hi at least once a day but she doesn't get home until midnight which is when I'm getting ready for bed, and even then I receive no response from her. It makes me feel like I'm not important enough to her to send a simple 2 second text message. In fact we had to reschedule the first date because she missed it since she got back from work late the day before and stood me up. I gave her a second chance though.
I've noticed that she responds better when I send her messages over the dating site we use. She says that she keeps her phone on silent when shes at work but that doesn't excuse why she isn't checking her phone throughout the work day. I get that some people aren't attached at the hip to their phones but the lack of ability to get in touch with her is concerning to say the least. We have another date scheduled for this weekend and I was finally able to get in touch with her last night to arrange this.
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TITLE: Me[24M] and this woman [25F] Just started dating. Shes incredibly hard to get in touch with, not sure what to do.
POST: Full story:
I just recently moved to a new state for work and have been using dating sites in order to find someone. After searching for about a month and going on several failed or just plain awful dates, I finally found this girl that I'm at least into. We've been on one date but were talking online since.
The issue at hand here is that her schedule is the complete opposite of mine and I can't ever seem to get in touch with her after several different attempts. She works nights, I work days, and theres no overlap between when I would get off of work and she would leave for work where we can see each other or really even talk. I shoot her a text to say hi at least once a day but she doesn't get home until midnight which is when I'm getting ready for bed, and even then I receive no response from her. It makes me feel like I'm not important enough to her to send a simple 2 second text message. In fact we had to reschedule the first date because she missed it since she got back from work late the day before and stood me up. I gave her a second chance though.
I've noticed that she responds better when I send her messages over the dating site we use. She says that she keeps her phone on silent when shes at work but that doesn't excuse why she isn't checking her phone throughout the work day. I get that some people aren't attached at the hip to their phones but the lack of ability to get in touch with her is concerning to say the least. We have another date scheduled for this weekend and I was finally able to get in touch with her last night to arrange this.
TL;DR: Woman I've been dating doesn't respond very frequently to my text messages. We went 2 days between the last conversation. Making me feel like I'm not important to her. What do?<|endoftext|> | [
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t3_3mxgcy | relationships | Me [24F] with my BF [25M] found something through snooping and now I'm worried [NOT cheating] | Alright so we've been dating for 3 and a half years, and we've had a pretty good relationship. There've been a lot of bumps along the way, but we're more or less very happy now. So, I guess some backstory about him. He's a partier. Always has been. This summer, I got a full time job at my university, and he just worked his part-time job. He started going to this bar [I've been there a couple of times and it's a shit bar, total dump] every single weekend, and every weekend he'd get drunk and party super late. He also loves getting high [weed mostly] which I don't mind, but around mid-summer he admitted that he tried cocaine with his best friend at this bar. I got pretty upset with him over it because he said he'd never do hard stuff. He assured me that it made him feel disgusting and he never wanted to do it again [he was very sluggish/tired/etc. so I believed him]
Fast forward to now; he left his Facebook message open to this guy he's become friends with at that bar talking about how he was at a private party and there was loads of coke and everything, and my BF replied saying it sounded like a sick party. Scrolling through other messages, I saw hints that maybe he's been doing more than just drinking.
I have zero idea how to ask him about this. I don't want to tell him I was going through his Facebook messages, but I'm scared he's going to get too far into this and ruin his life or something. I have no idea how to bring it up, and if I do, how do I know he isn't lying if he says he isn't doing it? [I got pissed the first time he told me, so naturally I assume he wouldn;t want to tell me again]
How do I bring this up? Should I bring it up? What the **** do I do? | I think my BF might be doing hard drugs every now and then but I don't know how to confront him without admitting I snooped. How do I bring this up with him? | [
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TITLE: Me [24F] with my BF [25M] found something through snooping and now I'm worried [NOT cheating]
POST: Alright so we've been dating for 3 and a half years, and we've had a pretty good relationship. There've been a lot of bumps along the way, but we're more or less very happy now. So, I guess some backstory about him. He's a partier. Always has been. This summer, I got a full time job at my university, and he just worked his part-time job. He started going to this bar [I've been there a couple of times and it's a shit bar, total dump] every single weekend, and every weekend he'd get drunk and party super late. He also loves getting high [weed mostly] which I don't mind, but around mid-summer he admitted that he tried cocaine with his best friend at this bar. I got pretty upset with him over it because he said he'd never do hard stuff. He assured me that it made him feel disgusting and he never wanted to do it again [he was very sluggish/tired/etc. so I believed him]
Fast forward to now; he left his Facebook message open to this guy he's become friends with at that bar talking about how he was at a private party and there was loads of coke and everything, and my BF replied saying it sounded like a sick party. Scrolling through other messages, I saw hints that maybe he's been doing more than just drinking.
I have zero idea how to ask him about this. I don't want to tell him I was going through his Facebook messages, but I'm scared he's going to get too far into this and ruin his life or something. I have no idea how to bring it up, and if I do, how do I know he isn't lying if he says he isn't doing it? [I got pissed the first time he told me, so naturally I assume he wouldn;t want to tell me again]
How do I bring this up? Should I bring it up? What the **** do I do?
TL;DR: | I think my BF might be doing hard drugs every now and then but I don't know how to confront him without admitting I snooped. How do I bring this up with him?<|endoftext|> | [
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TITLE: Me [24F] with my BF [25M] found something through snooping and now I'm worried [NOT cheating]
POST: Alright so we've been dating for 3 and a half years, and we've had a pretty good relationship. There've been a lot of bumps along the way, but we're more or less very happy now. So, I guess some backstory about him. He's a partier. Always has been. This summer, I got a full time job at my university, and he just worked his part-time job. He started going to this bar [I've been there a couple of times and it's a shit bar, total dump] every single weekend, and every weekend he'd get drunk and party super late. He also loves getting high [weed mostly] which I don't mind, but around mid-summer he admitted that he tried cocaine with his best friend at this bar. I got pretty upset with him over it because he said he'd never do hard stuff. He assured me that it made him feel disgusting and he never wanted to do it again [he was very sluggish/tired/etc. so I believed him]
Fast forward to now; he left his Facebook message open to this guy he's become friends with at that bar talking about how he was at a private party and there was loads of coke and everything, and my BF replied saying it sounded like a sick party. Scrolling through other messages, I saw hints that maybe he's been doing more than just drinking.
I have zero idea how to ask him about this. I don't want to tell him I was going through his Facebook messages, but I'm scared he's going to get too far into this and ruin his life or something. I have no idea how to bring it up, and if I do, how do I know he isn't lying if he says he isn't doing it? [I got pissed the first time he told me, so naturally I assume he wouldn;t want to tell me again]
How do I bring this up? Should I bring it up? What the **** do I do?
TL;DR: I think my BF might be doing hard drugs every now and then but I don't know how to confront him without admitting I snooped. How do I bring this up with him?<|endoftext|> | [
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TITLE: I [18 M] am having a difficult time with a tough situation involving someone close [18 F].
POST: I have been close friends with a girl for almost 6 years now, and we've always had feelings for each other, but easily found a way to get into other engagements. I have a friend who is the same age as me, and also has been involved with her, but has consistently disappointed and hurt her. Recently, she opened up to me in a way she hasn't before, and gave me a weekend that I'd been waiting for forever. Now, she's away, and not only am I missing her, but I'm unsure on where we stand, because she stated that she wanted me but felt obligated to give my friend the light of day, and I don't want to bother her. I don't know what to do or say (if anything) and any advice would be wonderful.
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TITLE: I [18 M] am having a difficult time with a tough situation involving someone close [18 F].
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t3_4er8ka | relationships | My (21f) employer (35f) is wanting to lower my rate when I come back from having my baby | First time poster, sorry if jumbled and not formatted right. I'm on my phone.
So I (21f) am a nanny of 3 kids (1.5f,4f&6m) the 6m is in school 830 to 230, 4f has preschool 9 to 1130 3 days a week and the 1.5f is with me all day. I am currently pregnant and due in a few months and have told my employer (35f). I said I would go on leave end of school year(end of may) and come back September.
She was casually speaking with me the other morning about them finding someone etc and mentioned how when I come back there would be only the 1 during the day(plus my own) so she'd have to "figure that out too" which I'm assuming meant rate wise. Now here's the deal, I only make $300/weekly for watching them regardless if they are all home or not and if it's a half day I get half pay(when I first accepted the job I swear she said only way I wouldn't get paid is if I wasn't here). I knew taking the job I would be underpaid but figured it would be fine. So it really comes out to $6 an hour. I have other side jobs where I work less and make more but that's another story. So for our zip I should be making $15.50 an hour when all 3 kids are home and $13.00 for just 1 but since I'd be bringing my own, naturally i would split that $13.00 which means $.50 more than what I'm making now.. I'm not sure how to approach this. I wouldn't ask for more $ but not sure it's worth my time if the rate drops.
My husband has a good job and can financially support us for me to be able to stay home and stay with just our baby but it feels weird to me not having a job.. I've had a job since I was 12 and I like having the extra money etc..
Reddit what should I do? Do I ask her what her plans are in terms of rates? Do I just leave it and say I won't be returning? | My (21f) employer (35f) is wanting to lower my nanny rate when I come back from having my own child. | [
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TITLE: My (21f) employer (35f) is wanting to lower my rate when I come back from having my baby
POST: First time poster, sorry if jumbled and not formatted right. I'm on my phone.
So I (21f) am a nanny of 3 kids (1.5f,4f&6m) the 6m is in school 830 to 230, 4f has preschool 9 to 1130 3 days a week and the 1.5f is with me all day. I am currently pregnant and due in a few months and have told my employer (35f). I said I would go on leave end of school year(end of may) and come back September.
She was casually speaking with me the other morning about them finding someone etc and mentioned how when I come back there would be only the 1 during the day(plus my own) so she'd have to "figure that out too" which I'm assuming meant rate wise. Now here's the deal, I only make $300/weekly for watching them regardless if they are all home or not and if it's a half day I get half pay(when I first accepted the job I swear she said only way I wouldn't get paid is if I wasn't here). I knew taking the job I would be underpaid but figured it would be fine. So it really comes out to $6 an hour. I have other side jobs where I work less and make more but that's another story. So for our zip I should be making $15.50 an hour when all 3 kids are home and $13.00 for just 1 but since I'd be bringing my own, naturally i would split that $13.00 which means $.50 more than what I'm making now.. I'm not sure how to approach this. I wouldn't ask for more $ but not sure it's worth my time if the rate drops.
My husband has a good job and can financially support us for me to be able to stay home and stay with just our baby but it feels weird to me not having a job.. I've had a job since I was 12 and I like having the extra money etc..
Reddit what should I do? Do I ask her what her plans are in terms of rates? Do I just leave it and say I won't be returning?
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TITLE: My (21f) employer (35f) is wanting to lower my rate when I come back from having my baby
POST: First time poster, sorry if jumbled and not formatted right. I'm on my phone.
So I (21f) am a nanny of 3 kids (1.5f,4f&6m) the 6m is in school 830 to 230, 4f has preschool 9 to 1130 3 days a week and the 1.5f is with me all day. I am currently pregnant and due in a few months and have told my employer (35f). I said I would go on leave end of school year(end of may) and come back September.
She was casually speaking with me the other morning about them finding someone etc and mentioned how when I come back there would be only the 1 during the day(plus my own) so she'd have to "figure that out too" which I'm assuming meant rate wise. Now here's the deal, I only make $300/weekly for watching them regardless if they are all home or not and if it's a half day I get half pay(when I first accepted the job I swear she said only way I wouldn't get paid is if I wasn't here). I knew taking the job I would be underpaid but figured it would be fine. So it really comes out to $6 an hour. I have other side jobs where I work less and make more but that's another story. So for our zip I should be making $15.50 an hour when all 3 kids are home and $13.00 for just 1 but since I'd be bringing my own, naturally i would split that $13.00 which means $.50 more than what I'm making now.. I'm not sure how to approach this. I wouldn't ask for more $ but not sure it's worth my time if the rate drops.
My husband has a good job and can financially support us for me to be able to stay home and stay with just our baby but it feels weird to me not having a job.. I've had a job since I was 12 and I like having the extra money etc..
Reddit what should I do? Do I ask her what her plans are in terms of rates? Do I just leave it and say I won't be returning?
TL;DR: My (21f) employer (35f) is wanting to lower my nanny rate when I come back from having my own child.<|endoftext|> | [
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t3_14jor5 | relationships | Urgent! [19m] Found a chat between my gf [18f] and a new guy [17/18?m] Going to go to her work when she finishes in a few hours to confront her! Need advice! | [for the mods we have been dating for one year]
So I just logged on facebook on my ipad and without realising i opened an inbox thinking it was for me. Now I only realised it was for my gf after i had opened it. It was from a new guy who she had been speaking too since my birthday. (wednesday) Now these two have really hit it off by the looks of it and in the messages they keep going on about wanting to meet up and how they're so glad they're talking.
if anyone cares there is a short screencap of the convo.
Now instantly this has made me pissed. My girlfriend has been constantly ignoring me and spending a lot of time at home recently cause she is "too tired" and enjoys been with her parents and dogs. But what has annoyed me is that she is sad when he seems to "ignore her" when she constantly ignores me! They want to go for drives together to chill and now it feels as though i'm being put 2nd. I've had enough and when she finishes work in a few hours time I'm going to be waiting outside to ask wtf this is all about. Please help with what would be the best way to talk to her about this and how I should end it. (this is my first serious relationship so I'm a little bit of a novice) | accidentally found a very flirtatious chat between my gf and a new lad. Planning to confront her in a couple of hours when she finishes work. Need urgent help please! | [
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TITLE: Urgent! [19m] Found a chat between my gf [18f] and a new guy [17/18?m] Going to go to her work when she finishes in a few hours to confront her! Need advice!
POST: [for the mods we have been dating for one year]
So I just logged on facebook on my ipad and without realising i opened an inbox thinking it was for me. Now I only realised it was for my gf after i had opened it. It was from a new guy who she had been speaking too since my birthday. (wednesday) Now these two have really hit it off by the looks of it and in the messages they keep going on about wanting to meet up and how they're so glad they're talking.
if anyone cares there is a short screencap of the convo.
Now instantly this has made me pissed. My girlfriend has been constantly ignoring me and spending a lot of time at home recently cause she is "too tired" and enjoys been with her parents and dogs. But what has annoyed me is that she is sad when he seems to "ignore her" when she constantly ignores me! They want to go for drives together to chill and now it feels as though i'm being put 2nd. I've had enough and when she finishes work in a few hours time I'm going to be waiting outside to ask wtf this is all about. Please help with what would be the best way to talk to her about this and how I should end it. (this is my first serious relationship so I'm a little bit of a novice)
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TITLE: Urgent! [19m] Found a chat between my gf [18f] and a new guy [17/18?m] Going to go to her work when she finishes in a few hours to confront her! Need advice!
POST: [for the mods we have been dating for one year]
So I just logged on facebook on my ipad and without realising i opened an inbox thinking it was for me. Now I only realised it was for my gf after i had opened it. It was from a new guy who she had been speaking too since my birthday. (wednesday) Now these two have really hit it off by the looks of it and in the messages they keep going on about wanting to meet up and how they're so glad they're talking.
if anyone cares there is a short screencap of the convo.
Now instantly this has made me pissed. My girlfriend has been constantly ignoring me and spending a lot of time at home recently cause she is "too tired" and enjoys been with her parents and dogs. But what has annoyed me is that she is sad when he seems to "ignore her" when she constantly ignores me! They want to go for drives together to chill and now it feels as though i'm being put 2nd. I've had enough and when she finishes work in a few hours time I'm going to be waiting outside to ask wtf this is all about. Please help with what would be the best way to talk to her about this and how I should end it. (this is my first serious relationship so I'm a little bit of a novice)
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TITLE: I (21F) recently broke up with my partner (21M) and I don't really know how to move on.
POST: So, I never really thought I'd be here. I've never had a relationship that messed me up as much as this one, or had a scenario where I couldn't bounce back quickly.
---
I ended up falling fast and hard for a guy I met. It was incredibly unlike me, and though the relationship was short, I end up crying every day. I don't know how to get over him and move on, because I've never went through anything this difficult. I find myself constantly wanting to talk to him, and since we still want to remain friends, it's hard to get closure. I feel lost when I don't talk to him, since he used to be such a big part of my day. We were good friends before this, and I don't want to lose that, but I'm not really sure if the friends thing is doing me any favors.
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TITLE: I (21F) recently broke up with my partner (21M) and I don't really know how to move on.
POST: So, I never really thought I'd be here. I've never had a relationship that messed me up as much as this one, or had a scenario where I couldn't bounce back quickly.
---
I ended up falling fast and hard for a guy I met. It was incredibly unlike me, and though the relationship was short, I end up crying every day. I don't know how to get over him and move on, because I've never went through anything this difficult. I find myself constantly wanting to talk to him, and since we still want to remain friends, it's hard to get closure. I feel lost when I don't talk to him, since he used to be such a big part of my day. We were good friends before this, and I don't want to lose that, but I'm not really sure if the friends thing is doing me any favors.
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POST: From what I have found at you can soak gummi bears in vodka for 3-5 days and they will swell up and be gelatinous like jello shots. Now, I want to incorporate that same idea with mixed drinks. I am taking a vacation to visit the in-laws and I plan on getting cupcake trays and putting a different mixed drink or hard liquor in each cup/bowl. This should let me try gummi bears for each flavor. One suggestion I am definitely trying will be cinnamon gummi bears and Goldschlager. What suggestions does Reddit have for mixed drinks! I will do a follow up with the results if people like the idea. Top comment drink I'll make especcially for Reddit, but please make it edible because I will still be with family members.
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TITLE: Help me for science! Gummi bear jello shots. What drinks to use?
POST: From what I have found at you can soak gummi bears in vodka for 3-5 days and they will swell up and be gelatinous like jello shots. Now, I want to incorporate that same idea with mixed drinks. I am taking a vacation to visit the in-laws and I plan on getting cupcake trays and putting a different mixed drink or hard liquor in each cup/bowl. This should let me try gummi bears for each flavor. One suggestion I am definitely trying will be cinnamon gummi bears and Goldschlager. What suggestions does Reddit have for mixed drinks! I will do a follow up with the results if people like the idea. Top comment drink I'll make especcially for Reddit, but please make it edible because I will still be with family members.
TL;DR: Making gummi bear vodka jello shots. What mixed drinks does Reddit suggest? Top comment mixed drink(if it be edible and suitable for around family members) will be made especcially for Reddit.<|endoftext|> | [
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t3_11w81k | relationships | I [F18] do not know where my relationship with my best friend [M18] is going and I don't know what to do. | I started dating my best friend about four months ago. Everything was fine, we were happy and I had zero regrets about crossing the just friends line. Lately, we seem to be having a fall out or something. In the past month or so, the amount that we talk has greatly decreased. He used to be excited to talk to me and want to talk to me, but now if I even try to start a conversation I just feel like I'm annoying him, but if I don't talk to him first I feel like we'd ever talk. It hurts a lot because I still look at him as my best friend and I still feel how I did in the beginning. Except, I'm often sad or disappointed with him and I can't help but be moody. Just 2 days ago he told me he thinks I'm too sad in this relationship and that maybe we need to take a break. I don't even know what taking a break means, but I think taking a break is honestly the last thing I want to do. I am sad, but it's not my fault, I just feel like he doesn't give a shit about me anymore and don't know what to do about it. He promised me we'd talk about it and when I tried to he brushed it off, then proceeded to ignore me all day. This was yesterday. Today we're at school and he saw me first thing. He waved to me and then left. Without one word, which isn't normal for us. I'm so upset and don't know what to say to him or what to do with this and I can't talk to him because I just feel annoying. I just need some help or something. | dating my best friend, he doesn't seem to care about me anymore and it makes me upset. He thinks I'm too sad for this relationship and suggested a break. I don't know what to do. | [
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t3_wo991 | AskReddit | I moved into a new apartment yesterday and the previous owners said that we could keep some of the things they didn't want to move. While I was at work they came back and took the things without asking. Does this count as theft? | So before moving in the previous residents had 3 couches, a coffee table, and a dining room table with chairs they did not want. They offered to sell them to us but they were all in pretty poor condition (except for the table and chairs) so we declined but said we would keep them because we are on the second floor and they did not want to move them. They decided to take the table and chairs but leave the rest. On the day I moved in they came by to get the table. I left for work but the landlord was there. While I was at work they decided to take everything without asking or informing me.
The landlord told me all of this when I got home to my empty apartment. I wouldn't be too upset over this except I found out that the mother of the previous renters was angry we didn't offer to buy the furniture and convinced her son to put it in storage. My question is does this count as theft because when they took the furniture it was in my apartment? | Old rentees came back to apartment and took furniture they said we could have without asking. I'm petty and want to do something about it. | [
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TITLE: I moved into a new apartment yesterday and the previous owners said that we could keep some of the things they didn't want to move. While I was at work they came back and took the things without asking. Does this count as theft?
POST: So before moving in the previous residents had 3 couches, a coffee table, and a dining room table with chairs they did not want. They offered to sell them to us but they were all in pretty poor condition (except for the table and chairs) so we declined but said we would keep them because we are on the second floor and they did not want to move them. They decided to take the table and chairs but leave the rest. On the day I moved in they came by to get the table. I left for work but the landlord was there. While I was at work they decided to take everything without asking or informing me.
The landlord told me all of this when I got home to my empty apartment. I wouldn't be too upset over this except I found out that the mother of the previous renters was angry we didn't offer to buy the furniture and convinced her son to put it in storage. My question is does this count as theft because when they took the furniture it was in my apartment?
TL;DR: | Old rentees came back to apartment and took furniture they said we could have without asking. I'm petty and want to do something about it.<|endoftext|> | [
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TITLE: I moved into a new apartment yesterday and the previous owners said that we could keep some of the things they didn't want to move. While I was at work they came back and took the things without asking. Does this count as theft?
POST: So before moving in the previous residents had 3 couches, a coffee table, and a dining room table with chairs they did not want. They offered to sell them to us but they were all in pretty poor condition (except for the table and chairs) so we declined but said we would keep them because we are on the second floor and they did not want to move them. They decided to take the table and chairs but leave the rest. On the day I moved in they came by to get the table. I left for work but the landlord was there. While I was at work they decided to take everything without asking or informing me.
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t3_mpb6e | AskReddit | Reddit, my friend was fired from his job unfairly. What can he do? | My 22 year old friend has been working at the local Goodwill for almost a year now. He moved up from a sales associate to an assistant manager in the span of several months due to his exceptional work ethic. Because of this, several older employees complained to the manager because they thought he was giving my friend an unfair advantage (my friend is black). About two months ago, my friend came down with a bad kidney infection and had to stay in the hospital for over a week. Just yesterday, his old manager moved cities and was replaced with a new one, who promptly fired him over his tardies during the time in which he stayed at the hospital, as well as a tardy he received in the first month of working at Goodwill. So basically, he got fired for being tardy in the past, on the new manager's first day of work at this Goodwill. Were his grounds for being fired reasonable/just, and if not, is there anything he can do about it? Any and all advice would be very helpful reddit. | Friend got fired from his job on the first day of the new manager's shift for tardies that occurred months ago. | [
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TITLE: Reddit, my friend was fired from his job unfairly. What can he do?
POST: My 22 year old friend has been working at the local Goodwill for almost a year now. He moved up from a sales associate to an assistant manager in the span of several months due to his exceptional work ethic. Because of this, several older employees complained to the manager because they thought he was giving my friend an unfair advantage (my friend is black). About two months ago, my friend came down with a bad kidney infection and had to stay in the hospital for over a week. Just yesterday, his old manager moved cities and was replaced with a new one, who promptly fired him over his tardies during the time in which he stayed at the hospital, as well as a tardy he received in the first month of working at Goodwill. So basically, he got fired for being tardy in the past, on the new manager's first day of work at this Goodwill. Were his grounds for being fired reasonable/just, and if not, is there anything he can do about it? Any and all advice would be very helpful reddit.
TL;DR: | Friend got fired from his job on the first day of the new manager's shift for tardies that occurred months ago.<|endoftext|> | [
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TITLE: Reddit, my friend was fired from his job unfairly. What can he do?
POST: My 22 year old friend has been working at the local Goodwill for almost a year now. He moved up from a sales associate to an assistant manager in the span of several months due to his exceptional work ethic. Because of this, several older employees complained to the manager because they thought he was giving my friend an unfair advantage (my friend is black). About two months ago, my friend came down with a bad kidney infection and had to stay in the hospital for over a week. Just yesterday, his old manager moved cities and was replaced with a new one, who promptly fired him over his tardies during the time in which he stayed at the hospital, as well as a tardy he received in the first month of working at Goodwill. So basically, he got fired for being tardy in the past, on the new manager's first day of work at this Goodwill. Were his grounds for being fired reasonable/just, and if not, is there anything he can do about it? Any and all advice would be very helpful reddit.
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TITLE: Why do I (20F) always seem to be "the other woman"?
POST: I am a 20-year-old girl who's had very little experience with serious relationships. I have some issues with commitment and I'm just generally not very emotional. This combination, though, has made it possible for me to enjoy plenty of casual sex since I was 16, when I discovered that I really liked hooking up... a lot. Mostly with older men who were in college or even older. One thing that bothered me is that they often had girlfriends, especially the ones that I had on-going sexual relationships with for months on end.
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TITLE: Why do I (20F) always seem to be "the other woman"?
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TITLE: My gf [19 F] broke up with me [19m] because she thinks I was just in it for sex. We were together about 7 months
POST: At first she told me she wasn't happy and she needed a change. I left her alone after she said that. I was devastated all day yesterday.
Then at almost 1am she texted me, probably not expecting me to be awake, saying that if I'm sad about anything it's because she was letting me fuck her(her words). And I'm a boy and I got what I wanted. She doesn't want me, and that she won't be accepting my calls or texts anymore (even though I hadn't talked to her sense she broke up with me earlier yesterday).
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I can't have her think like that. If she's not happy, do be it, but it's not fair for her to put me through all this and then convince herself I'm an asshole who doesn't even care.
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TITLE: My gf [19 F] broke up with me [19m] because she thinks I was just in it for sex. We were together about 7 months
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t3_32h46t | relationships | Me [32 M] with my SOish [22 M] of 2 years, how to tell him good bye when he leaves after college | Summer 2014 after being together for over a year, we break up in a fight when he reminds me he's leaving the country in 10 months (when he graduates) and then says he doesn't want to continue a relationship when that happens so we should just end it now.
2 months go by and we start dating again but he insists he isn't trying to get back into a relationship, so we won't call ourselves boyfriends.
Cut to now. He's been asking if I'm going to visit and mentioning staying in touch. Which I would be all for if we were going to continue having a relationship, but the reason he broke up with me was he wanted to 'leave everything behind' and start fresh. So, my guess is that we would be friends when he leaves. I would like to visit him, but my plan was just to date him until he leaves. Say good bye and move on. Of course I would *like* to go visit him, but I don't think I'm ready for 'just friends' and visiting him as the ex is somewhat odd to me. I would like to have the option open though because it's always nice to have someone you know in another country.
But I'm not really ok with this flip flop about not wanting to continue and then yet wanting me to visit. How do I tell him I don't have plans on visiting him or being in contact with him once he leaves? Or should I just leave it be and let it fade out like it inevitably will anyway? My preference would definitely be to continue a relationship, but I'm 90% sure he's not interested in that anymore. | Guy I'm dating is leaving the country. He wanted to not stay in touch, now he does, and I'm not sure I'm cool with that. What do? | [
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TITLE: Me [32 M] with my SOish [22 M] of 2 years, how to tell him good bye when he leaves after college
POST: Summer 2014 after being together for over a year, we break up in a fight when he reminds me he's leaving the country in 10 months (when he graduates) and then says he doesn't want to continue a relationship when that happens so we should just end it now.
2 months go by and we start dating again but he insists he isn't trying to get back into a relationship, so we won't call ourselves boyfriends.
Cut to now. He's been asking if I'm going to visit and mentioning staying in touch. Which I would be all for if we were going to continue having a relationship, but the reason he broke up with me was he wanted to 'leave everything behind' and start fresh. So, my guess is that we would be friends when he leaves. I would like to visit him, but my plan was just to date him until he leaves. Say good bye and move on. Of course I would *like* to go visit him, but I don't think I'm ready for 'just friends' and visiting him as the ex is somewhat odd to me. I would like to have the option open though because it's always nice to have someone you know in another country.
But I'm not really ok with this flip flop about not wanting to continue and then yet wanting me to visit. How do I tell him I don't have plans on visiting him or being in contact with him once he leaves? Or should I just leave it be and let it fade out like it inevitably will anyway? My preference would definitely be to continue a relationship, but I'm 90% sure he's not interested in that anymore.
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TITLE: Me [32 M] with my SOish [22 M] of 2 years, how to tell him good bye when he leaves after college
POST: Summer 2014 after being together for over a year, we break up in a fight when he reminds me he's leaving the country in 10 months (when he graduates) and then says he doesn't want to continue a relationship when that happens so we should just end it now.
2 months go by and we start dating again but he insists he isn't trying to get back into a relationship, so we won't call ourselves boyfriends.
Cut to now. He's been asking if I'm going to visit and mentioning staying in touch. Which I would be all for if we were going to continue having a relationship, but the reason he broke up with me was he wanted to 'leave everything behind' and start fresh. So, my guess is that we would be friends when he leaves. I would like to visit him, but my plan was just to date him until he leaves. Say good bye and move on. Of course I would *like* to go visit him, but I don't think I'm ready for 'just friends' and visiting him as the ex is somewhat odd to me. I would like to have the option open though because it's always nice to have someone you know in another country.
But I'm not really ok with this flip flop about not wanting to continue and then yet wanting me to visit. How do I tell him I don't have plans on visiting him or being in contact with him once he leaves? Or should I just leave it be and let it fade out like it inevitably will anyway? My preference would definitely be to continue a relationship, but I'm 90% sure he's not interested in that anymore.
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I feel awful for that, obviously. She's amazingly devoted and always kind, but too future-oriented for me. I feel bad for not meeting her levels of commitment, but also feel that if I'm only doing it out of obligation, it might have been better to call it off instead. I know marriage isn't on the table for me, and she has been very clear that it's important to her.
I tried to break up with her, but I didn't handle her reaction well. She compromised to not talk about the future, but I know that that's something that's important to her, and I can't give it to her. I don't know how to explain to her that I love and care for her, but I don't think we're right for each other.
That was about a week ago, and she's terrified I'm going to break up with her and is desperately trying to avoid it. So now the pressure is on, and I'm not sure how to approach the situation. | How do I get across the point that I love and care for her, but I don't want to be in this relationship anymore? | [
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TITLE: I [21M] am struggling to call it off with her [21F].
POST: We've been together just over a year, and things have been pretty great. We mostly stayed together for the past six months and it actually worked really well. A month ago, I moved into a better living arrangement and am staying at my place more. I've also gotten back into classes, and have in general seen a lot of big changes in my life lately. I find myself craving to see what this life would be like single.
I feel awful for that, obviously. She's amazingly devoted and always kind, but too future-oriented for me. I feel bad for not meeting her levels of commitment, but also feel that if I'm only doing it out of obligation, it might have been better to call it off instead. I know marriage isn't on the table for me, and she has been very clear that it's important to her.
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That was about a week ago, and she's terrified I'm going to break up with her and is desperately trying to avoid it. So now the pressure is on, and I'm not sure how to approach the situation.
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TITLE: I [21M] am struggling to call it off with her [21F].
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I still realized that this wasnt working out and tried a few roommate mediations but ultimately i decided i needed to switch units, because i was trying to accomodate but like I said, mental health issues. They were nice about it because they could see I was trying but im sure they were glad to see me gone.
The next unit i transferred to was actually worse because the other roommates werent as nice as the previous ones and there was a lot of backstabbing etc, and i called the police one time when things came to a head. One girl tried to get me arrested. We got into a fight. We all legit tried to get each other kicked out, it was a crazy house. I was still engaging in my previous bad roommate behaviors...
I switched units again(within the same complex) and it was a lot better with the new roommates we got along for the most part. I had to get pulled out to the hospital and get professional help then and thats how i got better and not crazy.
Havent contacted with anyone since i moved out.
Basically this is a very small college town and im going to run into one/some of them again eventually . One is in a similar major as me. i feel like what i did/that time was way too traumatizing to apologize and that everyone would like to rather forget about it. I do feel badly abot it. No one deserved the mess that i was. I dont know how I should proceed as I'm also rather worried abot bumping into them. | basically how do i deal with having been a horrible person and what happens when i inevitably run into an ex roommate I treated horribly? Do i apologize? | [
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TITLE: I [21 F] was a terrible human being, treated ex roommates [21 F] very badly, how to move on?
POST: Last year I roomed with multiple other girls my age(we did not know each other beforehand) and I was the worst roommate. I had mental health and drug issues that werent treated at the time and I was erratic and psycho. I stole food, came home high out of my mind daily, sold drugs, broke things(like plates) and couldnt remember breaking them. And i was horribly messy. And i denied most of it and got yelled at frequently.
I still realized that this wasnt working out and tried a few roommate mediations but ultimately i decided i needed to switch units, because i was trying to accomodate but like I said, mental health issues. They were nice about it because they could see I was trying but im sure they were glad to see me gone.
The next unit i transferred to was actually worse because the other roommates werent as nice as the previous ones and there was a lot of backstabbing etc, and i called the police one time when things came to a head. One girl tried to get me arrested. We got into a fight. We all legit tried to get each other kicked out, it was a crazy house. I was still engaging in my previous bad roommate behaviors...
I switched units again(within the same complex) and it was a lot better with the new roommates we got along for the most part. I had to get pulled out to the hospital and get professional help then and thats how i got better and not crazy.
Havent contacted with anyone since i moved out.
Basically this is a very small college town and im going to run into one/some of them again eventually. One is in a similar major as me. i feel like what i did/that time was way too traumatizing to apologize and that everyone would like to rather forget about it. I do feel badly abot it. No one deserved the mess that i was. I dont know how I should proceed as I'm also rather worried abot bumping into them.
TL;DR: | basically how do i deal with having been a horrible person and what happens when i inevitably run into an ex roommate I treated horribly? Do i apologize?<|endoftext|> | [
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TITLE: I [21 F] was a terrible human being, treated ex roommates [21 F] very badly, how to move on?
POST: Last year I roomed with multiple other girls my age(we did not know each other beforehand) and I was the worst roommate. I had mental health and drug issues that werent treated at the time and I was erratic and psycho. I stole food, came home high out of my mind daily, sold drugs, broke things(like plates) and couldnt remember breaking them. And i was horribly messy. And i denied most of it and got yelled at frequently.
I still realized that this wasnt working out and tried a few roommate mediations but ultimately i decided i needed to switch units, because i was trying to accomodate but like I said, mental health issues. They were nice about it because they could see I was trying but im sure they were glad to see me gone.
The next unit i transferred to was actually worse because the other roommates werent as nice as the previous ones and there was a lot of backstabbing etc, and i called the police one time when things came to a head. One girl tried to get me arrested. We got into a fight. We all legit tried to get each other kicked out, it was a crazy house. I was still engaging in my previous bad roommate behaviors...
I switched units again(within the same complex) and it was a lot better with the new roommates we got along for the most part. I had to get pulled out to the hospital and get professional help then and thats how i got better and not crazy.
Havent contacted with anyone since i moved out.
Basically this is a very small college town and im going to run into one/some of them again eventually. One is in a similar major as me. i feel like what i did/that time was way too traumatizing to apologize and that everyone would like to rather forget about it. I do feel badly abot it. No one deserved the mess that i was. I dont know how I should proceed as I'm also rather worried abot bumping into them.
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t3_f0kti | AskReddit | My new HDTV has darks spots should I return it or have it fixed and get a 20% refund? | I bought a 40" Samsung LCD TV from Amazon 2 weeks ago for $650. Got it home set it up watched one movie on it, looked fine. I was going to start calibrating it. The first thing I did was grab a white JPG image, put it on a USB drive, and viewed it full screen on my TV. I find out I have 10-12 little black spots on my screen. So I grab my microfiber cloth and try to wipe it off, no go. So it's a screen problem I assume. It's not dead pixels though, they are little 1/8" dark spots.
I called Samsung first they said they can send someone out to fix it, I decide to call Amazon because I know I have a 30 day return/price match policy. Amazon doesn't have the TV in stock anymore (LN40C630) so their options are return for a full refund or keep it, have Samsung fix it, and they will refund 20% of the price which comes out to $130. | Do I save $130 and have to deal with the headache of getting my brand new TV fixed or return it for a full refund? | [
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TITLE: My new HDTV has darks spots should I return it or have it fixed and get a 20% refund?
POST: I bought a 40" Samsung LCD TV from Amazon 2 weeks ago for $650. Got it home set it up watched one movie on it, looked fine. I was going to start calibrating it. The first thing I did was grab a white JPG image, put it on a USB drive, and viewed it full screen on my TV. I find out I have 10-12 little black spots on my screen. So I grab my microfiber cloth and try to wipe it off, no go. So it's a screen problem I assume. It's not dead pixels though, they are little 1/8" dark spots.
I called Samsung first they said they can send someone out to fix it, I decide to call Amazon because I know I have a 30 day return/price match policy. Amazon doesn't have the TV in stock anymore (LN40C630) so their options are return for a full refund or keep it, have Samsung fix it, and they will refund 20% of the price which comes out to $130.
TL;DR: | Do I save $130 and have to deal with the headache of getting my brand new TV fixed or return it for a full refund?<|endoftext|> | [
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TITLE: My new HDTV has darks spots should I return it or have it fixed and get a 20% refund?
POST: I bought a 40" Samsung LCD TV from Amazon 2 weeks ago for $650. Got it home set it up watched one movie on it, looked fine. I was going to start calibrating it. The first thing I did was grab a white JPG image, put it on a USB drive, and viewed it full screen on my TV. I find out I have 10-12 little black spots on my screen. So I grab my microfiber cloth and try to wipe it off, no go. So it's a screen problem I assume. It's not dead pixels though, they are little 1/8" dark spots.
I called Samsung first they said they can send someone out to fix it, I decide to call Amazon because I know I have a 30 day return/price match policy. Amazon doesn't have the TV in stock anymore (LN40C630) so their options are return for a full refund or keep it, have Samsung fix it, and they will refund 20% of the price which comes out to $130.
TL;DR: Do I save $130 and have to deal with the headache of getting my brand new TV fixed or return it for a full refund?<|endoftext|> | [
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t3_34v9pf | relationships | How to approach sex after a breakup? | I [23M] broke up with my [22F] girlfriend about 3 weeks ago for a multitude of different reasons (relationship wasn't working, we have become different people, lifestyles don't coordinate). At first it was not mutual but I was talking to her last night over coffee and it's becoming more mutual and she is seeing that the breakup was a good thing.
One of the issues in our relationship was I was never really satisfied sexually. I slept with a girl that I was friends with last week. I'm not really sure how to feel about everything.
Over the weekend we talked about what we want this to be and I made it clear I was looking for nothing serious. She was okay with that especially since we both might be moving out of the city this summer to attend different universities.
I still care about my ex deeply but we both know the relationship hasn't, and won't work.
I can feel myself getting a little attached to this other girl but I'm cautious enough to know when to distance myself because I don't want to run from my emotions. Should I just break it off or would it be okay to continue to casually see each other? | Broke up with ex 3 weeks ago, slept with different girl last week, don't want to run from emotions, should i break it off or is casual sex okay as long as I'm honest with myself? | [
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TITLE: How to approach sex after a breakup?
POST: I [23M] broke up with my [22F] girlfriend about 3 weeks ago for a multitude of different reasons (relationship wasn't working, we have become different people, lifestyles don't coordinate). At first it was not mutual but I was talking to her last night over coffee and it's becoming more mutual and she is seeing that the breakup was a good thing.
One of the issues in our relationship was I was never really satisfied sexually. I slept with a girl that I was friends with last week. I'm not really sure how to feel about everything.
Over the weekend we talked about what we want this to be and I made it clear I was looking for nothing serious. She was okay with that especially since we both might be moving out of the city this summer to attend different universities.
I still care about my ex deeply but we both know the relationship hasn't, and won't work.
I can feel myself getting a little attached to this other girl but I'm cautious enough to know when to distance myself because I don't want to run from my emotions. Should I just break it off or would it be okay to continue to casually see each other?
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TITLE: How to approach sex after a breakup?
POST: I [23M] broke up with my [22F] girlfriend about 3 weeks ago for a multitude of different reasons (relationship wasn't working, we have become different people, lifestyles don't coordinate). At first it was not mutual but I was talking to her last night over coffee and it's becoming more mutual and she is seeing that the breakup was a good thing.
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TL;DR: Broke up with ex 3 weeks ago, slept with different girl last week, don't want to run from emotions, should i break it off or is casual sex okay as long as I'm honest with myself?<|endoftext|> | [
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t3_4gahma | relationships | I [16M] am struggling moving forward romantically with my [15F] girlfriend of 3 months | I have been with my girlfriend for over 3 months and it feels like we are stuck in a rut in our relationship, I don't know how to get things moving.
We live in a small town, so there isn't much to do outside of hanging out at home. For the past 5 months or so we have been doing so around once a week (sometimes less, things come up). This ends up pretty uneventful, us watching TV or netflix and cuddling. A decent kiss on the way out and thats all.
While this is alright, we have been doing the same for so long it's starting to get old and I think its time do more (making out more, maybe move on to something sexual, which she has showed interest in).
The issue is that she gets nervous and shy whenever we try to anything more, and always stays quiet which makes things tough. I think she may have some self confidence issues that may affect this, which I know is very common for anyone our age. I try to help her out, complement her and make her feel better about herself.
However she still gets nervous, which makes me think I'm doing something wrong in our relationship and this gives me some internal conflict and I end up overthinking things whenever I'm with her.
We have talked about these things before, although not a whole lot and it didn't seem to make any difference. This leads me to believe that I have to take it upon myself and make a change very soon. | I really need to start making both of us more comfortable to do anything with each other, I just don't know where to start and how to initiate things such as making out and whatnot. | [
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TITLE: I [16M] am struggling moving forward romantically with my [15F] girlfriend of 3 months
POST: I have been with my girlfriend for over 3 months and it feels like we are stuck in a rut in our relationship, I don't know how to get things moving.
We live in a small town, so there isn't much to do outside of hanging out at home. For the past 5 months or so we have been doing so around once a week (sometimes less, things come up). This ends up pretty uneventful, us watching TV or netflix and cuddling. A decent kiss on the way out and thats all.
While this is alright, we have been doing the same for so long it's starting to get old and I think its time do more (making out more, maybe move on to something sexual, which she has showed interest in).
The issue is that she gets nervous and shy whenever we try to anything more, and always stays quiet which makes things tough. I think she may have some self confidence issues that may affect this, which I know is very common for anyone our age. I try to help her out, complement her and make her feel better about herself.
However she still gets nervous, which makes me think I'm doing something wrong in our relationship and this gives me some internal conflict and I end up overthinking things whenever I'm with her.
We have talked about these things before, although not a whole lot and it didn't seem to make any difference. This leads me to believe that I have to take it upon myself and make a change very soon.
TL;DR: | I really need to start making both of us more comfortable to do anything with each other, I just don't know where to start and how to initiate things such as making out and whatnot.<|endoftext|> | [
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TITLE: I [16M] am struggling moving forward romantically with my [15F] girlfriend of 3 months
POST: I have been with my girlfriend for over 3 months and it feels like we are stuck in a rut in our relationship, I don't know how to get things moving.
We live in a small town, so there isn't much to do outside of hanging out at home. For the past 5 months or so we have been doing so around once a week (sometimes less, things come up). This ends up pretty uneventful, us watching TV or netflix and cuddling. A decent kiss on the way out and thats all.
While this is alright, we have been doing the same for so long it's starting to get old and I think its time do more (making out more, maybe move on to something sexual, which she has showed interest in).
The issue is that she gets nervous and shy whenever we try to anything more, and always stays quiet which makes things tough. I think she may have some self confidence issues that may affect this, which I know is very common for anyone our age. I try to help her out, complement her and make her feel better about herself.
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We have talked about these things before, although not a whole lot and it didn't seem to make any difference. This leads me to believe that I have to take it upon myself and make a change very soon.
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t3_1zr8p8 | relationship_advice | Me [m/22] with my gf [f/20] for a year. We went on a break and I want to see her again... | Went on a break for general reasons, mainly that we'd become heavily reliant on each other and thought time apart would make us appreciate each other more. Problem is its only been 2 weeks and I miss her to the point where I'm finding it hard to focus on other things, just wondering if anyone here has been in a similar situation and can advise me how to start things up again. Is it best to ask her when she wants to meet? Do I set the date? and if she thinks its too soon, do I back down or do I stick to what I want? I'm pretty sure she still wants more time but I've genuinely hated these last weeks, so maybe it means the relationship is doomed if we both need very different amounts of contact? I've got friends telling me I may as well end it now and save myself the hurt in the long run and I've got friends telling me no relationship exists without work every now and then... | me and gf had time apart, I cant stand it any more but does the fact that she can/that she wants this mean I may as well end the relationship now? | [
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TITLE: Me [m/22] with my gf [f/20] for a year. We went on a break and I want to see her again...
POST: Went on a break for general reasons, mainly that we'd become heavily reliant on each other and thought time apart would make us appreciate each other more. Problem is its only been 2 weeks and I miss her to the point where I'm finding it hard to focus on other things, just wondering if anyone here has been in a similar situation and can advise me how to start things up again. Is it best to ask her when she wants to meet? Do I set the date? and if she thinks its too soon, do I back down or do I stick to what I want? I'm pretty sure she still wants more time but I've genuinely hated these last weeks, so maybe it means the relationship is doomed if we both need very different amounts of contact? I've got friends telling me I may as well end it now and save myself the hurt in the long run and I've got friends telling me no relationship exists without work every now and then...
TL;DR: | me and gf had time apart, I cant stand it any more but does the fact that she can/that she wants this mean I may as well end the relationship now?<|endoftext|> | [
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TITLE: Me [m/22] with my gf [f/20] for a year. We went on a break and I want to see her again...
POST: Went on a break for general reasons, mainly that we'd become heavily reliant on each other and thought time apart would make us appreciate each other more. Problem is its only been 2 weeks and I miss her to the point where I'm finding it hard to focus on other things, just wondering if anyone here has been in a similar situation and can advise me how to start things up again. Is it best to ask her when she wants to meet? Do I set the date? and if she thinks its too soon, do I back down or do I stick to what I want? I'm pretty sure she still wants more time but I've genuinely hated these last weeks, so maybe it means the relationship is doomed if we both need very different amounts of contact? I've got friends telling me I may as well end it now and save myself the hurt in the long run and I've got friends telling me no relationship exists without work every now and then...
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I can see an accomodation for a sick or disabled person who can't physically stand in line. But, based on the article, it sounds like anyone in a wheelchair, or even a fatass in a hover-round, gets to move to the front of the line. Thats not an accomodation, it is a perk!
With all the political correctness- "don't ask if a handicapped person needs help, ask if they want help", "Differently abled", "handi-capable", etc. etc. etc. Shouldn't we assume a handicapped person can do everything a non-handicapped person can do (Including waiting in line) unless an exception or accomodation is specifically requested?? | Shouldn't Disney automatically treat handicapped people like everyone else (including making them wait in line), unless they request a special accomodation? | [
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TITLE: to the men out there. my boyfriend and i just went through an abortion. any words of hope/ wisdom from other guys who have dealt with this?
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TITLE: to the men out there. my boyfriend and i just went through an abortion. any words of hope/ wisdom from other guys who have dealt with this?
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t3_40m12r | tifu | TIFU by closing over 100 accounts of active staff in my company | This fuck up happened today, as a matter of fact, it happened about 15 minutes ago.
I work in the IT department of a University, doing both the IT Helpdesk and DBA (database administrator). Today I was tasked with maintaining the database of staff memebers, specifically checking if accounts are still active and deleting those which are not, for retired teachers, staff etc..
Instead of doing it manually, I decided to put my skills at test and created a tiny program which checks all the usernames from a text file I created and automatically flags inside the database those which have an expired mandate or that haven't been used in over 2 years. Genuinely, I tested it out with my own account and others I knew for sure were active and inactive. Very nice, great success!
Following the beta stage, I proceed to select about 100 accounts, create the text file and use my program, then I delete the flagged ones in bulk (all at once). About 5 minutes later, I realise I had in fact 100 account deleted out of a 100 input, which highly unlikely seeing as there should only be about 5%.... This is when the realisation of my fuck-up hit me like a swift kick in the nuts: I added an extra comma by mistake in next to the username variable. Hence, every username the program checked had a comma following it, which is why it didn't match with anything in the database.
Of course, there are backups and I directly proceeded to put things back in their place. However, account activation is done by the user, so the 100 users (mainly people over 50) have to re-activate their account and chose a password which seems to be somehow impossible for anyone over the age of 40.
So while waiting for a flooding of phone calls from people asking if they are about to get fired, I decided to share with you guys today's monumental fuck up. I want to say I'll keep this updated, but I might not get the chance to breath in the next few hours, not to talk of the fact that I might be unemployed soon. | Being lazy, I created a program which lead to me deleting about 100 account of active users which will all call me soon and probably block the Helpdesk line for the whole day. | [
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TITLE: TIFU by closing over 100 accounts of active staff in my company
POST: This fuck up happened today, as a matter of fact, it happened about 15 minutes ago.
I work in the IT department of a University, doing both the IT Helpdesk and DBA (database administrator). Today I was tasked with maintaining the database of staff memebers, specifically checking if accounts are still active and deleting those which are not, for retired teachers, staff etc..
Instead of doing it manually, I decided to put my skills at test and created a tiny program which checks all the usernames from a text file I created and automatically flags inside the database those which have an expired mandate or that haven't been used in over 2 years. Genuinely, I tested it out with my own account and others I knew for sure were active and inactive. Very nice, great success!
Following the beta stage, I proceed to select about 100 accounts, create the text file and use my program, then I delete the flagged ones in bulk (all at once). About 5 minutes later, I realise I had in fact 100 account deleted out of a 100 input, which highly unlikely seeing as there should only be about 5%.... This is when the realisation of my fuck-up hit me like a swift kick in the nuts: I added an extra comma by mistake in next to the username variable. Hence, every username the program checked had a comma following it, which is why it didn't match with anything in the database.
Of course, there are backups and I directly proceeded to put things back in their place. However, account activation is done by the user, so the 100 users (mainly people over 50) have to re-activate their account and chose a password which seems to be somehow impossible for anyone over the age of 40.
So while waiting for a flooding of phone calls from people asking if they are about to get fired, I decided to share with you guys today's monumental fuck up. I want to say I'll keep this updated, but I might not get the chance to breath in the next few hours, not to talk of the fact that I might be unemployed soon.
TL;DR: | Being lazy, I created a program which lead to me deleting about 100 account of active users which will all call me soon and probably block the Helpdesk line for the whole day. <|endoftext|> | [
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TITLE: TIFU by closing over 100 accounts of active staff in my company
POST: This fuck up happened today, as a matter of fact, it happened about 15 minutes ago.
I work in the IT department of a University, doing both the IT Helpdesk and DBA (database administrator). Today I was tasked with maintaining the database of staff memebers, specifically checking if accounts are still active and deleting those which are not, for retired teachers, staff etc..
Instead of doing it manually, I decided to put my skills at test and created a tiny program which checks all the usernames from a text file I created and automatically flags inside the database those which have an expired mandate or that haven't been used in over 2 years. Genuinely, I tested it out with my own account and others I knew for sure were active and inactive. Very nice, great success!
Following the beta stage, I proceed to select about 100 accounts, create the text file and use my program, then I delete the flagged ones in bulk (all at once). About 5 minutes later, I realise I had in fact 100 account deleted out of a 100 input, which highly unlikely seeing as there should only be about 5%.... This is when the realisation of my fuck-up hit me like a swift kick in the nuts: I added an extra comma by mistake in next to the username variable. Hence, every username the program checked had a comma following it, which is why it didn't match with anything in the database.
Of course, there are backups and I directly proceeded to put things back in their place. However, account activation is done by the user, so the 100 users (mainly people over 50) have to re-activate their account and chose a password which seems to be somehow impossible for anyone over the age of 40.
So while waiting for a flooding of phone calls from people asking if they are about to get fired, I decided to share with you guys today's monumental fuck up. I want to say I'll keep this updated, but I might not get the chance to breath in the next few hours, not to talk of the fact that I might be unemployed soon.
TL;DR: Being lazy, I created a program which lead to me deleting about 100 account of active users which will all call me soon and probably block the Helpdesk line for the whole day. <|endoftext|> | [
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Been living at this apartment (**NJ**) for a little over a year now, just resigned my lease with the landlord a month or so ago. Last night, SO and I found a huge growth of mold in a side room that is used for mostly storage purposes, though we also keep our liquor cabinet there. Now, we live in a garden-level apartment (AKA half of our living space is located in a former basement). Mold is on everything, to the point that some of our property is a total loss. Thankfully, our renters' insurance will cover some of the loss. However, after talking to the upstairs tenant, I discovered that the previous tenant in our apartment (who had been here for 10 years) had moved out due to severe mold growth. The landlords then "replaced" everything and redid the apartment. Upon signing the initial lease or recently resigning it, none of this was disclosed to us. I've never had problems with mold in the basements of past residencies so I wasn't necessarily expecting it here. There is nothing in the lease about liability for mold or loss of property beyond that the renter is required to have insurance (which we do).
What, if anything, can we do about this? Is there a reasonable expectation for them to clean up this issue and resolve it completely? | Our apartment has had issues of mold that were never disclosed to us, now we're having similar problems. What can I do? | [
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TITLE: Do I have have any recourse against my landlord?
POST: Hey guys--sent here by /r/askreddit.
Been living at this apartment (**NJ**) for a little over a year now, just resigned my lease with the landlord a month or so ago. Last night, SO and I found a huge growth of mold in a side room that is used for mostly storage purposes, though we also keep our liquor cabinet there. Now, we live in a garden-level apartment (AKA half of our living space is located in a former basement). Mold is on everything, to the point that some of our property is a total loss. Thankfully, our renters' insurance will cover some of the loss. However, after talking to the upstairs tenant, I discovered that the previous tenant in our apartment (who had been here for 10 years) had moved out due to severe mold growth. The landlords then "replaced" everything and redid the apartment. Upon signing the initial lease or recently resigning it, none of this was disclosed to us. I've never had problems with mold in the basements of past residencies so I wasn't necessarily expecting it here. There is nothing in the lease about liability for mold or loss of property beyond that the renter is required to have insurance (which we do).
What, if anything, can we do about this? Is there a reasonable expectation for them to clean up this issue and resolve it completely?
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TITLE: Do I have have any recourse against my landlord?
POST: Hey guys--sent here by /r/askreddit.
Been living at this apartment (**NJ**) for a little over a year now, just resigned my lease with the landlord a month or so ago. Last night, SO and I found a huge growth of mold in a side room that is used for mostly storage purposes, though we also keep our liquor cabinet there. Now, we live in a garden-level apartment (AKA half of our living space is located in a former basement). Mold is on everything, to the point that some of our property is a total loss. Thankfully, our renters' insurance will cover some of the loss. However, after talking to the upstairs tenant, I discovered that the previous tenant in our apartment (who had been here for 10 years) had moved out due to severe mold growth. The landlords then "replaced" everything and redid the apartment. Upon signing the initial lease or recently resigning it, none of this was disclosed to us. I've never had problems with mold in the basements of past residencies so I wasn't necessarily expecting it here. There is nothing in the lease about liability for mold or loss of property beyond that the renter is required to have insurance (which we do).
What, if anything, can we do about this? Is there a reasonable expectation for them to clean up this issue and resolve it completely?
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TITLE: My friend was fired for being "inappropriate to a minor" Can legal action be taken against him?
POST: So when he first told me the story I laughed pretty hard about it until he got to part where he was fired. A week ago today he was on break and was just sitting by himself eating when his manager gave him a dollar and said he needs to give it to some other girl at work. So after he's done eating he goes up to the girl and she is busy making pizzas so her hands are covered in dough and stuff. He gently taps the dollar into her front pocket and jokingly says "last night was great." Everyone laughed thought it was funny even the girl did. Only problem is that my friend is 19 and the girl was 16. The rest of the day goes by and nothing. All of Saturday goes by and nothing. On his break on Sunday another manager comes up to him and says I need to talk to you. He goes to her office and she asks him what happened on Friday. He says he has no idea what she's talking about. His manager says that the girls parents contacted her and wanted him fired because of sexual harassment of a minor. He's worried that even though he was fired that the family could still take legal action. How worried should he be?
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TITLE: My friend was fired for being "inappropriate to a minor" Can legal action be taken against him?
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t3_1t2qcy | relationships | I [23/M] want to know how to motivate myself to be social. | I have never been a social butterfly of any kind. My friendships are few and distant now, but made of stone (I believe) and my relationships can be counted on one hand without using all the fingers, yet they've been fairly positive experiences. I have been on a travelling spree of sorts for the past few years and during this period of nomadic adventure I've found it few hard to put roots down and, in thus, have focused less and less on making connections with others. Where I reside now will not be where I reside the same time next year and knowing this my motivation to "go out and make friends" exists as a void. I go to work, I come home. I know this isn't healthy, yet I care little. It doesn't hurt. There's a nagging in the back of my mind, a little voice telling me I should go out and make some friends, find a girl I like and pursue a relationship, but what for? I will not be here long enough to nurture these relationships should I build them before begin my meandering again. Forget not the awkwardness my social anxiety afford me. Forget not that I have no idea where to go looking for people I want to make these connections with. Forget not that I have work the next day or that its cold out. It would be so much easier to just stay inside. It would be so much easier to just fall off the face of the earth here in my room. But this little voice protests. So I make more excuses and the more I make the more legitimate they become. What is one to do? | Help me, Im fading away and I do not care. What is wrong with me, how do I fix it? | [
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TITLE: I [23/M] want to know how to motivate myself to be social.
POST: I have never been a social butterfly of any kind. My friendships are few and distant now, but made of stone (I believe) and my relationships can be counted on one hand without using all the fingers, yet they've been fairly positive experiences. I have been on a travelling spree of sorts for the past few years and during this period of nomadic adventure I've found it few hard to put roots down and, in thus, have focused less and less on making connections with others. Where I reside now will not be where I reside the same time next year and knowing this my motivation to "go out and make friends" exists as a void. I go to work, I come home. I know this isn't healthy, yet I care little. It doesn't hurt. There's a nagging in the back of my mind, a little voice telling me I should go out and make some friends, find a girl I like and pursue a relationship, but what for? I will not be here long enough to nurture these relationships should I build them before begin my meandering again. Forget not the awkwardness my social anxiety afford me. Forget not that I have no idea where to go looking for people I want to make these connections with. Forget not that I have work the next day or that its cold out. It would be so much easier to just stay inside. It would be so much easier to just fall off the face of the earth here in my room. But this little voice protests. So I make more excuses and the more I make the more legitimate they become. What is one to do?
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TITLE: I [23/M] want to know how to motivate myself to be social.
POST: I have never been a social butterfly of any kind. My friendships are few and distant now, but made of stone (I believe) and my relationships can be counted on one hand without using all the fingers, yet they've been fairly positive experiences. I have been on a travelling spree of sorts for the past few years and during this period of nomadic adventure I've found it few hard to put roots down and, in thus, have focused less and less on making connections with others. Where I reside now will not be where I reside the same time next year and knowing this my motivation to "go out and make friends" exists as a void. I go to work, I come home. I know this isn't healthy, yet I care little. It doesn't hurt. There's a nagging in the back of my mind, a little voice telling me I should go out and make some friends, find a girl I like and pursue a relationship, but what for? I will not be here long enough to nurture these relationships should I build them before begin my meandering again. Forget not the awkwardness my social anxiety afford me. Forget not that I have no idea where to go looking for people I want to make these connections with. Forget not that I have work the next day or that its cold out. It would be so much easier to just stay inside. It would be so much easier to just fall off the face of the earth here in my room. But this little voice protests. So I make more excuses and the more I make the more legitimate they become. What is one to do?
TL;DR: Help me, Im fading away and I do not care. What is wrong with me, how do I fix it?<|endoftext|> | [
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t3_yww4k | relationships | Husband (M 20) cheated on me (F 19). I need advice. | I always thought we had the perfect relationship. We really got along well. I would say we were in a very loving relationship and that that we both loved each other very much. I know this sounds cheesy, but I would even say that this man was my soul mate. So I just don't understand what happened.
He emotionally cheated on me with his 'best friend' (F 19). He also promised that they were just friends but he would hide his phone from me. I became suspicious and went through his texts while he was sleeping one day. They were calling each other babe and telling each other that they missed each other. They'd make kissing faces at each other and just pretty much acted like a couple. One of the text said you should come spend the day with me again ((: That's how I found out that he had driven two hours away to go visit her while I was at my parents. He claims he didn't do anything with her. Just hung out with his 'best friend'.
I just wanna know what to do. He acted like he was really sorry about what he did the first two days. Now he gets mad when I mention it and just brushes off how I feel. He's even saying that emotional cheating isn't cheating at all. So I don't know. I'm crushed and am just looking for advice. | My husband emotionally cheated on me with his 'best friend'. I just want advice. Also, do you believe that emotional cheating is just as bad as physically cheating? | [
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TITLE: Husband (M 20) cheated on me (F 19). I need advice.
POST: I always thought we had the perfect relationship. We really got along well. I would say we were in a very loving relationship and that that we both loved each other very much. I know this sounds cheesy, but I would even say that this man was my soul mate. So I just don't understand what happened.
He emotionally cheated on me with his 'best friend' (F 19). He also promised that they were just friends but he would hide his phone from me. I became suspicious and went through his texts while he was sleeping one day. They were calling each other babe and telling each other that they missed each other. They'd make kissing faces at each other and just pretty much acted like a couple. One of the text said you should come spend the day with me again ((: That's how I found out that he had driven two hours away to go visit her while I was at my parents. He claims he didn't do anything with her. Just hung out with his 'best friend'.
I just wanna know what to do. He acted like he was really sorry about what he did the first two days. Now he gets mad when I mention it and just brushes off how I feel. He's even saying that emotional cheating isn't cheating at all. So I don't know. I'm crushed and am just looking for advice.
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TITLE: Husband (M 20) cheated on me (F 19). I need advice.
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t3_g31kp | AskReddit | I've been unmotivated and I think it's a social thing.. help me out here? | My den is a total mess, I have plans for a business that I really need to work on and I have so much that I could and should be doing.. and I really want to do it, but I just can't get myself to do it.
I've discovered something about my motivation though... Wednesday and Thursday I hung out with people and both days AND Friday I was totally active, I cleaned out my den closet, reorganized all my old papers and files and crap, did the dishes and the laundry.. it was awesome. Today? All I can do is refresh Askreddit and watch for orangereds...
I suddenly realized that I'm a SIM... I'm that asshole SIM that has to have constant contact with people every damn day or I refuse to do anything because my mood bar is red.
It all makes sense now. I've been depressed as hell and totally useless ever since I moved - I don't have any friends here. | My motivation is directly related to how much social interaction I've had. Is anyone else like this? How can I overcome this, or make more friends so that I can be more motivated? | [
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TITLE: I've been unmotivated and I think it's a social thing.. help me out here?
POST: My den is a total mess, I have plans for a business that I really need to work on and I have so much that I could and should be doing.. and I really want to do it, but I just can't get myself to do it.
I've discovered something about my motivation though... Wednesday and Thursday I hung out with people and both days AND Friday I was totally active, I cleaned out my den closet, reorganized all my old papers and files and crap, did the dishes and the laundry.. it was awesome. Today? All I can do is refresh Askreddit and watch for orangereds...
I suddenly realized that I'm a SIM... I'm that asshole SIM that has to have constant contact with people every damn day or I refuse to do anything because my mood bar is red.
It all makes sense now. I've been depressed as hell and totally useless ever since I moved - I don't have any friends here.
TL;DR: | My motivation is directly related to how much social interaction I've had. Is anyone else like this? How can I overcome this, or make more friends so that I can be more motivated?<|endoftext|> | [
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TITLE: I've been unmotivated and I think it's a social thing.. help me out here?
POST: My den is a total mess, I have plans for a business that I really need to work on and I have so much that I could and should be doing.. and I really want to do it, but I just can't get myself to do it.
I've discovered something about my motivation though... Wednesday and Thursday I hung out with people and both days AND Friday I was totally active, I cleaned out my den closet, reorganized all my old papers and files and crap, did the dishes and the laundry.. it was awesome. Today? All I can do is refresh Askreddit and watch for orangereds...
I suddenly realized that I'm a SIM... I'm that asshole SIM that has to have constant contact with people every damn day or I refuse to do anything because my mood bar is red.
It all makes sense now. I've been depressed as hell and totally useless ever since I moved - I don't have any friends here.
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