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### Instruction: Generate a one-sentence summary of this post. ### Input: Today I woke up late and home alone so I decided to make homemade bagels for the upcoming week. They took awhile to make and I was wanting to do something else, but they turned out really hard and horribly stuck on the pan. dammit. So being me I grab a butter knife to pry them off. I spent the next couple minutes stabbing the bottom on the pan and cursing aloud, and eating the leftover bits stuck on the pan. Then the door leading into my house (which is right next to the kitchen) opens and my roommate comes in and finds me yelling and frantically tearing the leftovers off the pan and shoving them into my mouth. He hasn't come out of his room yet, I don't know what to d ### Response:

I was making bagels, they turned out to be hard and stuck on the pan, I was trying to pry them off, I was yelling and eating the leftovers, my roommate came in and found

I was making bagels, they turned out hard and stuck on the pan, I was frantically tearing the leftovers off the pan and shoving them into my mouth, roommate walked in and found me y

### Instruction: Generate a one-sentence summary of this post. ### Input: Been together 3 years, living together for 1.5 years. I'm Persian, he's white. My family will invite me (and him by extension) to family events such as birthdays, Shabbat, etc. My boyfriend (let's call him Z) has been treated disrespectfully by them in the past. Examples include them speaking in Farsi in front of him, turning away when Z was going to shake their hand, etc. Z feels that it is a cultural issue that will resolve itself if we give it time. I want to take action but don't know what action to take. We could not attend any events in silent protest but it's not guaranteed that anyone will ask why we continuously don't attend (my family seems to not care a lot about what I have to say). We could attend most events so that the issue eventually resolves itself but I don't want Z to feel uncomfortable while at the events. So... What's the best option here? Speak up, do nothing, something else entirely? So far we have been attending some events but not all. ### Response:

My family invites me (and my boyfriend by extension) to family events. My boyfriend feels that it is a cultural issue that will resolve itself if we give it time. I want to take action but don't know what

My family doesn't invite me to family events. What's the best option? Should I speak up, do nothing, something else entirely? So far we have been attending some events but not all. Thoughts?

### Instruction: Generate a one-sentence summary of this post. ### Input: My wife went to a pokemon conference thing with a friend while I was away for work for a long amount time, about a month. She told me she was out to dinner. I asked later on if she was with her friend. She said she was and with two other guys. I freaked out a little and called her. She said one was gay and the other was ugly, asian, and nerdy. I still said going out like that felt inappropriately. I admit, I was upset and was a little rude to her. She said I blindsided her and she did not expect me to be upset. I told her I felt uncomfortable with date type situations. She says the atmosphere was not like a date at all. I trust everything she is saying. I still think it was inappropriate. I could just be immature and I am open to what you guys' think. ### Response:

wife went to a pokemon conference, told me she was out to dinner. She said the other guys were gay and nerdy. I still feel uncomfortable with it. She says I was rude and I am imm

wife went to dinner with two guys, one gay and one nerdy. Am I immature or wrong? What would you do? Thoughts and opinions appreciated. Adult opinions only please. Please no rants or offensive

### Instruction: Generate a one-sentence summary of this post. ### Input: Every time I try to give a chance at communicating, he shuts everything out and gets all random with me or he will just make it out to be like I "just want to argue" as if it's a hobby of mine. I believe that some arguments are necessary and there's nothing wrong with having them. It's not like I start yelling and get violent or anything crazy...He considers a calm, assertive discussion as "irrational arguing" and immediately goes into avoidance and victim mode and starts ignoring me. I don't know what to do with him anymore. I'm just trying to make some effort here, but he doesn't seem to look at it that way. :( He makes me out to feel like just some sadistic, argumentative person when I'm just trying to figure things out and work through them. A little background on us: He is diagnosed as severe ADHD. I am diagnosed with anxiety and OCD. I know, that doesn't help the situation at all, but it's our quirks that bring us together (after all, isn't that what brings us all together?). :P ### Response:

BF of 2 years shuts everything out and gets all random when I try to communicate. What do I do?! Help please!?!?!?!?!?!?!?!?!?!?

My boyfriend doesn't want to communicate, and I'm trying to communicate with him, but he shuts everything out and gets all random with me or he will just make it out to be like I "just want to argue

### Instruction: Generate a one-sentence summary of this post. ### Input: First of all, excuse my English, because I'm pretty drunk right now and English is not my native language. Okay, so, I'm originally not from England, but I've lived there for a couple of months and I met a girl there, who is not from my home country, and I totally fell in love with her. I'm now living in Spain and I really thought we could make it work, but for no reason at all she just started ignoring me. She went from all happy, glee and lovely to ignoring me all of a sudden. She didn't give me a response for two days now, which sounds like a short time, but it's killing me on the inside. I like to think that a healthy relationship is about mutual respect and trust and to be honest, I don't really trust her and she doesn't show me any respect as of late. I really liked it with her in England, but now I'm just making myself crazy. Should I break-up with or, or should I wait till she responds? Thank you in advance for the advice. ### Response:

I'm in love with a girl who is not from my home country, we had a great time together, but she suddenly stopped responding to me. She's ignoring me, but I really want to be with her.

I'm in love with a girl who is not from my home country. She started ignoring me and I don't know how to handle it. Should I break up with her or wait till she responds? I really like

### Instruction: Generate a one-sentence summary of this post. ### Input: I dated this guy last year. He impregnated a 20f pretty quickly after we broke up and when I found out, I got extremely sad and jealous, because I wish I was on my way to having a family. We broke up because of infidelity. Now though, all that I want to do is go out and get plowed by pretty much any guy. I don't want a relationship, I just want to go out and have revenge sex. Why is that? I think I'm just so upset, and angry. I don't know what to do, or really how to handle this. ### Response:

I dated a guy, he impregnated a girl, and now I want to go out and have revenge sex with other guys. I'm upset and angry. I don't know how to handle this.

I'm an asshole and I don't know how to deal with it.** EDIT: Thanks for all the advice! I'll definitely be back. I'm still not sure what to do though.**

### Instruction: Generate a one-sentence summary of this post. ### Input: Hi, hoping this is the right sub for my question, apologies if not. I was browsing my account on Credit Karma recently and saw the message that "1 account has gone into collections". I thought this couldn't be right, so I looked and it said I had a $277 balance in collections by an agency called "Enhanced Recovery Company". Around the same time my mom let me know that the company had been leaving messages for me on her home phone. I didn't see any way that this could be a legit debt, as my only debts are my car loan and one credit card. Also, I don't know how they got my mom's phone number, as I haven't used that number as my own in well over a decade. Every lease and agreement I've signed has been using my personal cell phone number. About two months ago I sent the company a debt validation letter via certified mail, and once they received it the phone calls stopped and I haven't heard back from them since. I'm just wondering what my next step should be in getting this removed from my credit report. Thanks for any help you can give me! ### Response:

a collection agency has been contacting me about a debt I don't owe, and I've already sent them a debt validation letter. I'm just wondering what my next step is. Also, how they

I have a $277 balance in collections, but I don't owe that amount and have never owed it. I sent a debt validation letter, but they didn't respond. I'm wondering what my

### Instruction: Generate a one-sentence summary of this post. ### Input: A couple of months ago a friend and I started developing feelings for each other. She had been in a relationship of 3 years and often told me how unhappy she was with the relationship and how poorly he treats her. Things between us started getting serious and their relationship started falling apart. Being college students on winter break, we began hanging out every day for the past month. I could tell she was finally accepting that she could leave him. We make each other very happy and often discussed our own relationship and the future. Just as I thought she was finally mustering up the strength to end it with him, his mother was diagnosed with cancer. Being together with him for 3 years, she is very close with his family and thinks leaving him would be too much for him to handle. She told me she doesn't want to lose me but can't risk hurting him right now. Obviously it's a difficult situation and I'm understanding, but I can't help being upset knowing that she isn't happy. I want to make her happy and I know I can but I'm not sure what to do at this point. And no, I don't want to hear that I shouldn't have gotten involved with her in the first place. ### Response:

started developing feelings for friend's girlfriend. She is close with his family and doesn't want to risk hurting him. What do I do? Should I even try? Help please!?!?!?!?!

I've been hanging out with a friend for the past month and a half. She's been in a relationship for three years and I can tell she's ready to end it. She tells me she can't because

### Instruction: Generate a one-sentence summary of this post. ### Input: First of all, I would like to thank everyone who opened it even if they knew it was only a teen with girl problems. This new girl came to school one week ago and I was in love since the first time I saw here. I talked to her for the first time 3 days ago, but I just introduced myself. 2 days ago I messaged her on facebook and we talked for a little while, it was mostly me asking her questions about herself. Then yesterday we said like 2 sentences to each other! That's all we've talked together! What should I do about this now? When should I message her again, or when should I talk to her in person. She seems really shy in person so I don't know what to do. Any advice is appreciated! ### Response:

I'm in love with a girl who I've only talked to a few times, but I'm not sure if she's in love with me. I'm not sure when to message her or talk to her in

really really really really really like a girl, only talked for a little while, should I message her again, or talk to her in person. What do I do? Any advice would be appreciated!?!?!?!?!

### Instruction: Generate a one-sentence summary of this post. ### Input: We met via okcupid (10/10 would recommend), and I didn't even think to look then about his 'children' preferences. Recently I revisited his page and saw that he had put 'doesn't want kids' on his profile summary. I really, really want kids someday, so seeing this, especially since we have both exchanged "I love you"s, was quite discouraging. Now, there's no saying that we'll even be together when the time comes to start having children. I think, though it might be disastrous to avoid talking about this for too long. So how do I bring this up to him? I don't want to scare him off by bringing it up, but it's imperative to me to have kids. If it becomes clear that he doesn't want children under any circumstances, should we break up, or just acknowledge that we have an expiration date? ### Response:

I'm a girl who wants kids, and I'm not sure if my boyfriend wants kids. I want to bring it up, but I don't want to scare him off. How do I bring it

met guy on okcupid, don't know if we can have children someday, how do I bring this up to him? Should we break up? What's the best course of action?!?!?

### Instruction: Generate a one-sentence summary of this post. ### Input: Long story short...u/andyootoo posted a submission, telling people that he has tickets to a show in SF for sale, but he has to sell them online since he's in NY. The tickets for this show are sold out, so I decide to trust him. After a few back and forth exchanges via email, and seeing proof that he does have the tickets, I decide to send him the money via Amazon gift card. The card's been redeemed, but the tickets that he promised to transfer to me via Ticketmaster never came. I had talked to Amazon, and they can't seem to do anything. The bank's investigating in the meantime as well. ### Response:

Bought tickets from stranger on Reddit, didn't receive them. What do I do?!?!?!?!?!?!?!?!?!?!?!?!?!?!

I sent money to a guy who said he had tickets to a show, but he didn't have them. He promised to give them to me, but didn't. I'm getting scammed. I'm

### Instruction: Generate a one-sentence summary of this post. ### Input: Usually when my bf goes out locally, whether it's drinks after work with colleagues or a night out with the guys, I refrain from blowing up his phone. I think I text about 3 to 4 times that night, just to see how he's doing, if he's having fun, and to wish him a good night (if he's going to be out all night and I'm going to bed). We don't live together and usually see each other on the weekends. He hates texting and so do I, so we don't text each other on the regular anyways. However, when he leaves the country for work I text him way more. I'm curious to know how often you guys text your SO when they are out with their friends partying and getting hammered. Does it vary if they are local or out of the country/state? ### Response:

How often do you text your SO when they are out with their friends partying? Does it vary if they are local or out of the country/state? How much texting do you do? Why? What is your experience? What

I text my bf more when he's out with his friends because he hates texting. Is this normal? How often do you text your SO when they are out partying? Does it vary if they are local or out

### Instruction: Generate a one-sentence summary of this post. ### Input: A little backstory from a post about a month ago So here is what's going on now. About a week ago, she took a break from her boyfriend. She came to my house and we fooled around for about 6 hours. It was amazing, but I feel like a horrible person for doing it. She says she loves me more than anything and wishes we were together, but she's too afraid to leave the position she's in now because it's "too risky". Now she's done with her break and she wants to stay with her boyfriend. I love her so much, I just don't know what to do anymore. I told her that it would be difficult being friends because at the end of the day, she'll be going home to her boyfriend and that's going to break my heart. Sorry guys, I feel like a total bitch looking for advice because I usually stray from this kind of drama that I somehow got sucked into. I just don't know what to do anymore. I guess I'm just hoping that thing don't work out for them, and that makes me feel incredibly selfish. Anyways, thanks for anything. ### Response:

ex and I had a night of passion, but she's scared to leave her boyfriend because it's too risky. Need advice on how to proceed. Please help. Help!?!?!?!?!

friend has break with boyfriend, wants to stay with him. Want advice on what to do. Wondering if it's selfish to stay friends. Help please. Help!?!?!?!?!?!

### Instruction: Generate a one-sentence summary of this post. ### Input: We've been "together" for over a year, and about 6 months ago went through a really rough patch. Both of us did things we regret, and he went a little wild with some girls at parties (nothing beyond nudity). Now we're pretty much back on track, though he's not really ready to make any promises or commitments. Tomorrow night he's going to be at a party at the same house and I think with some of the same people.. it just makes me kinda icky inside and feel a little of the self loathe I did in the past. Any suggestions on how I can enjoy my weekend knowing and trusting he's enjoying his? I really love and care deeply for him, I just have a lot of preservation for my own happiness and health. And I want to make sure these fleeting worries don't get in the way of the immense progress we've made together and individually. ### Response:

My boyfriend and I had a rough patch, and now we're back on track. He's going to a party at the same house and I'm feeling a little bit of the self loathing I did in the

my boyfriend is going to a party at the same house as some of the same people. He's not ready to make any promises or commitments. I want to make sure I can enjoy my weekend knowing and trusting he

### Instruction: Generate a one-sentence summary of this post. ### Input: So I was talking about Napoleon with my students and of course this leads to a talk\rant about personal budgeting\etc. I've had a few students talk to me afterwards, them being curious about budgeting and person finance. I saw the post about the cue card and thought... man, I should have a poster or something up in my room as a quick reference or something. But with the cue card there are two issues - 1) they won't know what many of those things are - I do teach some lower stream kids 2) I teach in Canada, so we have different systems and such. ### Response:

talk about personal finance, students ask questions, I want to have a poster or something up on my wall as a quick reference, but with the cue card there are two issues - 1) they won't know what many

what budgeting/personal finance cue card do you use in your classroom? What do you teach? What system do you use? Why? Seeking ideas and opinions. Thanks. Also looking for suggestions for other budget

### Instruction: Generate a one-sentence summary of this post. ### Input: Birthdays have always been hard on my girlfriend. She's had a few parties as a child where no one showed up, and since moving states in the middle of high school she hasn't made close friends. Here at college, she tries hard to make friends. She talks well to people on a superficial basis but doesn't have any real friends. She's never been invited to a college party and has often missed out on many typical activities. We've been together for 3 years, since freshman orientation. I don't have friends but I'm happy that way. I like keeping to myself if I'm not spending time with her. Since she's naturally extroverted, she spends her free time with me, or at club meetings trying to connect to people. She's asked if I could put together a small party so I invited some acquaintances, my roommates, etc. everyone said no. I gave the invites well in advance too. I don't know how to break the news to my girlfriend, she's been so excited. She thought providing free food and drink would be a great way to make friends. But people don't want to come for even that. What can I do? ### Response:

girlfriend has never had a successful birthday party and wants me to try to make one for her. I have no friends to do this. What do? Help?!?!?!?!?!?!

girlfriend's birthday plans failed due to lack of friends. I provided food and drink but nobody showed up. What can I do? Help?!?!?!?!?!?!?!?

### Instruction: Generate a one-sentence summary of this post. ### Input: I go to college and I work on the school paper. I get some money from it, which is why I called it my job, but I don't really need it. I met her while working there, and we're both supposed to go back to the paper next year to work on it for the school year then. The problem is that we just broke up a couple of weeks ago, and I don't feel like seeing her again. She dumped me, and for some strange reason, I really hate her right now, and I don't think I would be able to stand seeing her. The problem is I don't really have many friends outside of the people I know on the school paper. So if I left the newspaper because of her, I feel like I could be alienated by the others for quitting before the school year start. Do you think I should still quit though? Am I being immature for not wanting to see her and work with her for an entire year? We were together for a year, by the way. ### Response:

Mandatory summary/question! Whether or not I should quit the school paper because of a break up with the girl I met there?!?!?!?!?!?!?!?!?!?!?!

broke up with gf of a year due to mutual feelings, don't want to see her anymore, should I still quit the school paper with her? Am I being immature? What should I do?!?!?

### Instruction: Generate a one-sentence summary of this post. ### Input: I hope I am posting in the right subreddit for this. Lately I have been feeling....anomalous(?) regarding what I want out of a relationship. Another fling of mine was recently ended because he 21M did not want to "marginalize his friendships." When I am in a relationship, I want a Tabula Rasa -- a complete clean slate. I don't want my significant other to be facebook friends or have any contact whatsoever with previous ex-girlfriends and/or people he has slept with. I provide the same respect. I am accepting of friends of the opposite sex as long as there is not a sexual or romantic past. It would make me uncomfortable if they were to hang out independently though, and I would prefer a group setting. It's as if my ideals are from another planet. All of the men I have met seem to think my relationship expectations are absolutely ludicrous. I, on the other hand, do not think it is expecting too much of a person. I am feeling lonely and as if there is something wrong with me. Am I being overbearing? I would really appreciate some objective opinions. ### Response:

Is it unreasonable to expect a relationship to be completely isolated from the person's past? Am I being overbearing? What should I do? Is it wrong? Should I? Shouldn't I? Where'

feeling strange about relationship expectations of current and former boyfriends. Am I being overbearing? What is wrong with me? Opinions please. Am in need of some objective opinions. Am in need of some objective opinion

### Instruction: Generate a one-sentence summary of this post. ### Input: Towards the end of our relationship it just seemed like she was always mad at me. It got to the point where we would argue about literally everything. Her birthday just passed and I spent close to $400 on it, and yet she still had an attitude and gave me the hardest time and that when I realized that maybe we just are not on the same page anymore. Its been about 2-3 weeks since we split and at first I was okay but now I don't know anymore. The past 2 years of our relationship have been long distance since we both have gone away to college and I'm sure that has some affect on everything. Part of me desperately wants to get back with her but the other part of me knows how she acts and idk...there's more fish in the sea...but i love this fish. ### Response:

long distance relationship split up due to attitude and hard time getting along. Want to get back with ex but not sure if I should. Need advice. Please help! :) I'm not sure what to do after a breakup

Broke up with my girlfriend of three years and I don't know how to move on. Any advice would be appreciated. Thanks! :) I'm just gonna say it, I think I'm over her.

### Instruction: Generate a one-sentence summary of this post. ### Input: So I am living with 3 girl roommates and in the summer me and their best friend had sex and hooked up a bunch. I loved her but she did not feel the same way back. I kind of ended our friendship because it was not fair to me. The problem is that they are her best friends and she comes over all the time and I dont want to stop her from seeing her best friends but I hate seeing her. It makes me miss her so much and I want to be with her so bad and I know I need to get over her for good. Also me and her are ont he same sports team in university and we see each to her everyday at practice so there is no getting away from her. How do I get over someone who I see everyday and have to be around at practice and even at my home. I need help because I do not want to feel this way anymore. help am miserabl ### Response:

Me and my ex hooked up. We broke up but I still see her all the time. She is her best friends and they come over all the time. I want to get over her but I have to see her and she i

I fucked my best friends best friends best friend. She did not feel the same way back and I broke up with her. She comes over all the time and I have to see her and I miss her and want to be with

### Instruction: Generate a one-sentence summary of this post. ### Input: Last weekend, my ex was in town for a party i was at as well. I spent the whole night helping him because he drank too much, and he ended up passing out at my house. We hooked up in the morning, completely sober, and acting like we were dating again. We talked yesterday, but just trivial conversation. I know he's avoiding talking to me because we didn't speak for so long and this is so sudden. I know it brought up old feelings for me, but i'm not sure about him. The way he acted, i figured it was a possibility and that's why he is so awkward. He's a naturally awkward person though, i was thinking, should i wait for exams to be finished and to see him in person to bring it up and see where it goes? There will be a party next month we will both be at. or should i just leave it to him to bring up? i know he avoids "feelings" discussions, so idk what to do. I really do want to continue things with him, but honestly this is driving me insane. ### Response:

Should i initiate a relationship with my ex? or should i wait for him to bring it up? how should i go about it?!?!?!?!?!?!?!?!?!?!?

Mandatory summary/question! How should i bring up the topic of our relationship again? Should i leave it to him? Or should i just leave it alone? Any ideas would be greatly appreciated! :) Thanks in advance! :) :) :)

### Instruction: Generate a one-sentence summary of this post. ### Input: The past couple of years have revealed a pattern I'm finding a little concerning - I date a guy for a while and hold myself back from gestures or being too forward, then I get a little relaxed (which can be anything from a few weeks to a few months) and within days of me being nicer (texting him first, planning a date, settling for going round to his apartment if he's feeling tired, etc.) then suddenly he loses interest. I once baked cookies on Valentine's Day when we'd been together a few months and the guy freaked out. So now I have been dating a guy for a month and he's lovely, but I'm just waiting for it to end - and I feel as soon as I relax or, heaven forbid give him a compliment or say I like him, he's going to bolt. The big problem is that he's picking me up from the airport after the Christmas break, and I can't be so ungrateful as to just say thank you, but I'm afraid if I do anything nice he'll run. So how can I be affectionate and kind to a guy without him losing interest? ### Response:

dating guy for a month, afraid to be affectionate for fear of losing interest. Am I being a bitch? How do I be kind? Any ideas? Thanks in advance. Advice needed! :( Please help! :(

I'm afraid to be too nice to a guy because I'm afraid he'll lose interest. I'm picking him up from the airport and I don't want to be ungrateful, but I

### Instruction: Generate a one-sentence summary of this post. ### Input: My boyfriend and I are both 19. My boyfriend's mother is the only draw back to my relationship with him and I'm not sure how to handle her. She claims to be fond of me, but I know she's lying. She never even gave me a chance, even after a year of being together. My boyfriend got me a promise ring because we know we want to be together forever. While pretty much everyone else was happy for us, his mom lost her shit and said nasty things about our relationship. She then got her current husband involved. His dad wasn't exactly nice about it either, but regardless, respected the decision. I understand them being concerned since we are young and they married young only to end up unhappy and divorced. However, this woman is one of the biggest hypocrites I have ever met and is essentially a 40-something child. I can't stand her and am not prepared to deal with her for the rest of my life. I have never followed the "respect your elders" thing simply because of you give me no respect and are rude to me, I won't respect you, regardless of age. Any advice on how to handle this monster of a woman? I can give examples if need be, it's just a lot to type out a year's worth of hypocrisy. ### Response:

Mandatory summary/question! How do you deal with a controlling mother? What's the best way to handle her? Is there any way to fix this? What's the best way to fix this? What's the

How do you deal with a controlling mother who is also a grandmother?!?!?!?!?!?!?!?!?!?!?!?!?!?!?!?!

### Instruction: Generate a one-sentence summary of this post. ### Input: My girlfriends dog, who I used to love, has seemingly forgotten that he can't poop in the house. He was completely housebroken and then started to have really runny poops in the house so we just figured he was sick (we accidentally bought the wrong food) and didn't yell at or scold him because it wasn't really his fault. After he has gotten better he just thinks he can poop in the house now. For instance, not 20 minutes ago my girlfriend took him for a walk and he did not poop because there was other dogs outside and he gets distracted amazingly easily, then she brought him inside, left him in the bedroom where I was sleeping and he pooped. I noticed about 5 minutes after she left when I rolled out of bed. He was so excited when I got out of bed too; he didn't even act guilty like he knew he did something wrong. This is just frustrating me so much because he used to go to the door and everything when he had to go and now it's just a free for all. Help. Please. ### Response:

My dog poops in the house and I can't get him to stop. He used to go to the door when he had to go and now he just does whatever. He doesn't seem to care. He is a good

My dog has been pooping in the house for the last six months and we just thought it was because he was sick. He was housebroken and now he just poops in the house and doesn't seem to care.

### Instruction: Generate a one-sentence summary of this post. ### Input: Not dating anyone right now, but a hypothetical future person as I'm getting back into the dating game. A little more about me: I'm bisexual and very sexually fluid. Sometimes I even feel asexual. I'm also a virgin, but I'm really ready to not be. My only problem is I reeeeaalllly hate kissing. I hate the way my mouth feels and tastes. I hate the sounds, the smells, everything pretty much. I *might* like kissing someone I'm in love or infatuated with, but I have yet to experience that. (Most people like to kiss to eventually experience those feelings.) I've had some dating experience, and I even really liked a guy once who I was seeing. But once we became intimate and made out, I got really weird and I think I scared him off a bit. (I also divulged that I was a virgin, oh well.) He stopped talking to me after that, obviously he was not someone I would've wanted to be with anyway. So what do I do? When do I bring this up? And don't tell me I'll eventually like it when I find a good kisser, because I've kissed good kissers and I still hated it. ### Response:

21F, really hate kissing and don't know when/how to tell a future bf that. I'm a virgin too. What do I do? Help!?!?!?!?!

I hate kissing. Is it possible to not like kissing someone you like? When do I bring it up? And what do I do about it? Am I crazy? Help!?!?!?!?!?

### Instruction: Generate a one-sentence summary of this post. ### Input: Long story short -- We dated for about a year and 1/2 I moved for my job we couldn't handle the distance and we end our relationship. Months go by, I see him Friday night and he is very poliet and nice and after we started drinking he started pouring his heart out to me. The next day he calls me twice in the morning and I missed the calls, try to call him back. Doesnt answer, wait a few days, send him a long message, and it said he read it, and has still said nothing. Should I pretend like it never happen? ### Response:

Ex boyfriend and I had a drink and he told me he loved me and I said I loved him back, now he won't respond to any of my texts. Should I pretend like it never happened? I really want to

Mandatory summary/question! Should I pretend like it never happen? Why? What should I do?!?!?!?!?!?!?!?!?!?!?!?!?!?

### Instruction: Generate a one-sentence summary of this post. ### Input: I'm in my early 20s and live in the southern United States. I've had the same friends for forever and have had lots of great experiences with them in the past. In the last 2-3 years though they've become increasingly negative towards me. I'll often see a few of them individually and things will be fine, but in a group setting I'm often excluded, the only one chided, etc. Some of the things they say go out of bounds or they're things that apply to more than just me but I'm the only one who gets shit on for it. In the past I've said things, but I'm told I'm just too sensitive or they're joking. When I decide not to participate when everyone is chatting online or in-person, they'll use that as an excuse to exclude me. When I make fun of someone, I'm either ignored or basically told to shut it. I'm not sure what to do. It's become increasingly stressful and these are my only 'friends'. Other people I know don't have friends like mine. We still have good times, but I feel like everything I do I'm being judged. ### Response:

My group of friends has become increasingly negative towards me over the past few years. I'm not sure what to do. Am I overreacting? Should I just move on? What should I do? Any advice is appreciated.

long-time friends become increasingly negative towards me in groups and individually, not sure what to do to make it stop/change it. am being judged/excluded for almost everything i do. am lonely. need advice please

### Instruction: Generate a one-sentence summary of this post. ### Input: My friend moved across the country 5 months ago for work, leaving his other friends and family, and I'm the only person he knows here. We met on a forum online and have been friends for about 3 years. He's a very sensitive person and very shy, which means he hasn't made new friends here and gets offended when I say I'd rather hang out with other people over him. He is my best friend, but I'm starting to feel suffocated. I feel like I have to walk on eggshells around him and constantly make excuses and explain myself. I don't like making plans because I'd rather just do a thing when I feel like it, but he needs things to be very planned and gets upset if something falls through or doesn't turn out the way he expected. I end up apologizing for things I don't believe warrant an apology, and just give in because I don't like to argue. I really like the guy, but I'm starting to wish he'd move away again so I could stop feeling so responsible for his happiness. Because it's stressing me out very much. Besides friend breaking up with him, what can I do? ### Response:

I'm starting to feel like I have to walk on eggshells around my friend because he gets upset when things don't go his way. He's my best friend, but I'm starting to wish he'

very close friend moved across country, feeling like I have to walk on eggshells around him and constantly make excuses and apologize for things I don't believe warrant an apology. What can I do? Help please!

### Instruction: Generate a one-sentence summary of this post. ### Input: Mine is simple, my kids. I will always remember the one day my daughter made me feel like the best dad in the world. I sometimes have to go back to work late at night to attend meetings (I work for a place with offices around the world) and one day I was home before my family was done with school. I decided to make some dinner and leave it for them and while I was making it I spotted some cookie dough in the fridge. I thought it would be nice to leave them cookies. So when my wife picks the kids up from daycare she said my daughter seemed to have a rough day (as rough as a 5 year old can have, I guess) and was very grumpy/sad. When they got home my son smelled the curry I had made and got very excited and then my daughter found the cookies. I had left a little note saying to enjoy the cookies and sorry for having to work late. My daughter started to cry and said she was so happy. My wife took a short video and sent it to me at work. I have never felt more needed and counted upon, then that. I know that these kids will cause me all kinds of worry throughout our lives, but I wouldn't trade that feeling of unconditional love for anything. ### Response:

left some cookies for my kids, daughter was very sad and grumpy, wife sent me a video of my daughter being happy and my son smelling the cookies. My wife and I felt loved and needed. I know it sound

left some cookies for my kids, daughter was very sad and grumpy. Wife sent me a video of my daughter being happy and my son was excited. She sent it to me at work and I felt like I was the

### Instruction: Generate a one-sentence summary of this post. ### Input: Hello redditers, First topic post on Reddit. So, I went to study abroad in the United States for 5 months. My GF is coming after 4 months of us being separated(we met in the same town and spent a lot of time together, before I left). Today I spoke with her over the phone, and she told me she was very excited, but also nervous and afraid. She was afraid that maybe one of us didn't feel the same after such a long time. We haven't had any major fights while we've been apart, and we've talked every day and tried to do everything to let the other one feel loved. Am I overreacting when I think she might leave me? I must admit I'm afraid too. It feels like a vague memory, since I haven't seen her for so long. ### Response:

GF is coming after 4 months of separation, afraid of possible breakup. What should I do? Am I overreacting? Any advice is appreciated. Thanks! :) I'm afraid of possible breakup when I see

I'm afraid of my gf leaving me because she's afraid of leaving me. Am I overreacting? What should I do? Is it even possible? Please help! Thanks. :D :D :D :

### Instruction: Generate a one-sentence summary of this post. ### Input: I'm the type that usually goes from long-term relationship to long-term relationship without much dating in between. I'm trying out the casual dating thing for a while. I am 26f, above average attractiveness (in my opinion, but i still have pretty low confidence). So, someone told this guy (pretty much a stranger to me, we only met in passing), that i thought he was cute and he gave my friend his phone number to give to me. So the next day I texted him, and we have texted a couple of times for a few days. Seems like we have some things in common. After the 3rd day, I asked him if he wanted to grab a drink sometime...no response. I find it hard to believe that in 24 hours he hadn't used his phone. Why would he give me his number, have good back and forth texts, then leave me hanging when I ask to chat in person? Just not that into me? ### Response:

I'm a girl who usually goes from long-term relationship to long-term relationship without much dating in between. I'm trying out the casual dating thing for a while. He gave me his number, and we

Guy gave me his number, we had good text banter, but when I asked to meet in person, he didn't respond. I find it hard to believe that he didn't want to meet after giving me his number.

### Instruction: Generate a one-sentence summary of this post. ### Input: We've been FWB for over a year, and we have started to develop feelings. I eventually said this wasn't going to work anymore, because one of us is going to get really hurt (probably me). He agreed, but a week later he said we should "try dating" because he doesn't "want to lose me." My thoughts are this--don't you start a relationship based on what you WANT as opposed to what you DON'T want? Like, I enter a relationship hoping to build a future with someone, not because I am afraid of the alternative (no longer getting to sleep with them/losing the intimacy/seeing them date someone else). I know he cares about me, but the fact that I haven't seen this side of him at all until I said we had to stop is a little irritating/confusing. ### Response:

started a FWB relationship, developed feelings, decided to stop because we both knew it wasn't going to work out, a week later he says we should "try dating" because he doesn't "want to lose

I said we had to stop seeing each other because I was afraid of the pain of a relationship, and now he is trying to "date" me because he doesn't want to lose me. I don't want to date him

### Instruction: Generate a one-sentence summary of this post. ### Input: Today I woke up late and home alone so I decided to make homemade bagels for the upcoming week. They took awhile to make and I was wanting to do something else, but they turned out really hard and horribly stuck on the pan. dammit. So being me I grab a butter knife to pry them off. I spent the next couple minutes stabbing the bottom on the pan and cursing aloud, and eating the leftover bits stuck on the pan. Then the door leading into my house (which is right next to the kitchen) opens and my roommate comes in and finds me yelling and frantically tearing the leftovers off the pan and shoving them into my mouth. He hasn't come out of his room yet, I don't know what to d ### Response:

I was making bagels, they turned out hard and stuck on the pan. I was frantically trying to pry them off, my roommate walked in and saw me tearing the leftovers off the pan and

I was making bagels, they turned out hard and stuck on the pan, I grabbed a butter knife and started stabbing the bottom on the pan, my roommate walked in and saw me eating the

### Instruction: Generate a one-sentence summary of this post. ### Input: Been together 3 years, living together for 1.5 years. I'm Persian, he's white. My family will invite me (and him by extension) to family events such as birthdays, Shabbat, etc. My boyfriend (let's call him Z) has been treated disrespectfully by them in the past. Examples include them speaking in Farsi in front of him, turning away when Z was going to shake their hand, etc. Z feels that it is a cultural issue that will resolve itself if we give it time. I want to take action but don't know what action to take. We could not attend any events in silent protest but it's not guaranteed that anyone will ask why we continuously don't attend (my family seems to not care a lot about what I have to say). We could attend most events so that the issue eventually resolves itself but I don't want Z to feel uncomfortable while at the events. So... What's the best option here? Speak up, do nothing, something else entirely? So far we have been attending some events but not all. ### Response:

family won't invite me/boyfriend to family events, what's the best option? Speak up, do nothing, something else entirely? So far we have attended some events but not all. What's the best

My family doesn't invite me and my boyfriend to family events. My boyfriend thinks it's a cultural issue and it will resolve itself if we give it time. I want to take action but don't know what

### Instruction: Generate a one-sentence summary of this post. ### Input: My wife went to a pokemon conference thing with a friend while I was away for work for a long amount time, about a month. She told me she was out to dinner. I asked later on if she was with her friend. She said she was and with two other guys. I freaked out a little and called her. She said one was gay and the other was ugly, asian, and nerdy. I still said going out like that felt inappropriately. I admit, I was upset and was a little rude to her. She said I blindsided her and she did not expect me to be upset. I told her I felt uncomfortable with date type situations. She says the atmosphere was not like a date at all. I trust everything she is saying. I still think it was inappropriate. I could just be immature and I am open to what you guys' think. ### Response:

wife went to dinner with two guys, one was gay and the other was nerdy, feel uncomfortable with date type situations. Am I being immature or am I right?!?!?!?!?!

wife went to a pokemon conference with two guys. She said one was gay and the other was ugly and nerdy. I still feel uncomfortable with date type situations. She says the atmosphere was not like a date at

### Instruction: Generate a one-sentence summary of this post. ### Input: Every time I try to give a chance at communicating, he shuts everything out and gets all random with me or he will just make it out to be like I "just want to argue" as if it's a hobby of mine. I believe that some arguments are necessary and there's nothing wrong with having them. It's not like I start yelling and get violent or anything crazy...He considers a calm, assertive discussion as "irrational arguing" and immediately goes into avoidance and victim mode and starts ignoring me. I don't know what to do with him anymore. I'm just trying to make some effort here, but he doesn't seem to look at it that way. :( He makes me out to feel like just some sadistic, argumentative person when I'm just trying to figure things out and work through them. A little background on us: He is diagnosed as severe ADHD. I am diagnosed with anxiety and OCD. I know, that doesn't help the situation at all, but it's our quirks that bring us together (after all, isn't that what brings us all together?). :P ### Response:

my boyfriend doesn't want to communicate with me and it's making me feel like I'm just some "argumentative person" when I'm just trying to figure things out and work through them. He makes me out

He won't communicate with me and I don't know what to do. He's diagnosed with ADHD and I'm diagnosed with anxiety and OCD. I don't know what to do. I

### Instruction: Generate a one-sentence summary of this post. ### Input: First of all, excuse my English, because I'm pretty drunk right now and English is not my native language. Okay, so, I'm originally not from England, but I've lived there for a couple of months and I met a girl there, who is not from my home country, and I totally fell in love with her. I'm now living in Spain and I really thought we could make it work, but for no reason at all she just started ignoring me. She went from all happy, glee and lovely to ignoring me all of a sudden. She didn't give me a response for two days now, which sounds like a short time, but it's killing me on the inside. I like to think that a healthy relationship is about mutual respect and trust and to be honest, I don't really trust her and she doesn't show me any respect as of late. I really liked it with her in England, but now I'm just making myself crazy. Should I break-up with or, or should I wait till she responds? Thank you in advance for the advice. ### Response:

girl I was dating suddenly started ignoring me, I'm now in Spain and I'm making myself crazy, should I break up or wait till she responds? Help! :( :( :( :( :( :( :( :( :(

girlfriend suddenly stopped responding to me, should I break-up or wait till she does? I really like her, but I'm making myself crazy now. Should I? What should I do? Help!?!?

### Instruction: Generate a one-sentence summary of this post. ### Input: I dated this guy last year. He impregnated a 20f pretty quickly after we broke up and when I found out, I got extremely sad and jealous, because I wish I was on my way to having a family. We broke up because of infidelity. Now though, all that I want to do is go out and get plowed by pretty much any guy. I don't want a relationship, I just want to go out and have revenge sex. Why is that? I think I'm just so upset, and angry. I don't know what to do, or really how to handle this. ### Response:

ex impregnated a girl, I'm jealous because I want a family, but I just want to go out and have revenge sex. I'm just so upset and angry. I don't know what

broke up with guy, now want revenge sex and don't know why. Am I being irrational? What should I do? Help please!?!?!?!?!?!?!?!?

### Instruction: Generate a one-sentence summary of this post. ### Input: Hi, hoping this is the right sub for my question, apologies if not. I was browsing my account on Credit Karma recently and saw the message that "1 account has gone into collections". I thought this couldn't be right, so I looked and it said I had a $277 balance in collections by an agency called "Enhanced Recovery Company". Around the same time my mom let me know that the company had been leaving messages for me on her home phone. I didn't see any way that this could be a legit debt, as my only debts are my car loan and one credit card. Also, I don't know how they got my mom's phone number, as I haven't used that number as my own in well over a decade. Every lease and agreement I've signed has been using my personal cell phone number. About two months ago I sent the company a debt validation letter via certified mail, and once they received it the phone calls stopped and I haven't heard back from them since. I'm just wondering what my next step should be in getting this removed from my credit report. Thanks for any help you can give me! ### Response:

How do I get a collection agency to stop harassing me? Should I even bother trying? What are my options? What can I do? What can I do? What can I do? What can I do? What can

one of my debts has been sent to collections and I'm not sure how to get it removed from my credit report. Am I being targeted by a debt collector? What should I do? Help please!?!

### Instruction: Generate a one-sentence summary of this post. ### Input: A couple of months ago a friend and I started developing feelings for each other. She had been in a relationship of 3 years and often told me how unhappy she was with the relationship and how poorly he treats her. Things between us started getting serious and their relationship started falling apart. Being college students on winter break, we began hanging out every day for the past month. I could tell she was finally accepting that she could leave him. We make each other very happy and often discussed our own relationship and the future. Just as I thought she was finally mustering up the strength to end it with him, his mother was diagnosed with cancer. Being together with him for 3 years, she is very close with his family and thinks leaving him would be too much for him to handle. She told me she doesn't want to lose me but can't risk hurting him right now. Obviously it's a difficult situation and I'm understanding, but I can't help being upset knowing that she isn't happy. I want to make her happy and I know I can but I'm not sure what to do at this point. And no, I don't want to hear that I shouldn't have gotten involved with her in the first place. ### Response:

Mandatory summary/question! What should I do?! Help!?!?!?!?!?!?!?!?!?!?!?!?!?!?!?!?!?!

girl and I were starting to get serious, she has a boyfriend and is very close with him. She told me she doesn't want to lose me but can't risk hurting him right now. I want to make her

### Instruction: Generate a one-sentence summary of this post. ### Input: First of all, I would like to thank everyone who opened it even if they knew it was only a teen with girl problems. This new girl came to school one week ago and I was in love since the first time I saw here. I talked to her for the first time 3 days ago, but I just introduced myself. 2 days ago I messaged her on facebook and we talked for a little while, it was mostly me asking her questions about herself. Then yesterday we said like 2 sentences to each other! That's all we've talked together! What should I do about this now? When should I message her again, or when should I talk to her in person. She seems really shy in person so I don't know what to do. Any advice is appreciated! ### Response:

really really really really really into a girl that I barely know, what should I do? When should I message her again? Any advice would be great! What should I do if I'm really really really really really in love

was in love at first site, talked to her for 3 days, should I message her again? How to get closer to her? Any advice is appreciated! Don't know what to do! Help!?!?!?

### Instruction: Generate a one-sentence summary of this post. ### Input: We met via okcupid (10/10 would recommend), and I didn't even think to look then about his 'children' preferences. Recently I revisited his page and saw that he had put 'doesn't want kids' on his profile summary. I really, really want kids someday, so seeing this, especially since we have both exchanged "I love you"s, was quite discouraging. Now, there's no saying that we'll even be together when the time comes to start having children. I think, though it might be disastrous to avoid talking about this for too long. So how do I bring this up to him? I don't want to scare him off by bringing it up, but it's imperative to me to have kids. If it becomes clear that he doesn't want children under any circumstances, should we break up, or just acknowledge that we have an expiration date? ### Response:

met ideal man, don't know how to bring up children topic, or even if we should break up. what do I do?!?!?!?!?!?!?!?!?!?!?

I'm a child-free person and I want to know how to bring it up to him. I don't want to scare him off by bringing it up, but it's imperative to me to have kid

### Instruction: Generate a one-sentence summary of this post. ### Input: Long story short...u/andyootoo posted a submission, telling people that he has tickets to a show in SF for sale, but he has to sell them online since he's in NY. The tickets for this show are sold out, so I decide to trust him. After a few back and forth exchanges via email, and seeing proof that he does have the tickets, I decide to send him the money via Amazon gift card. The card's been redeemed, but the tickets that he promised to transfer to me via Ticketmaster never came. I had talked to Amazon, and they can't seem to do anything. The bank's investigating in the meantime as well. ### Response:

got scammed out of tickets, and money is being investigated. What can I do? Reddit, help!?!?!?!?!?!?!?!?!?!?!?!?

Someone I trusted on Reddit ended up not having the tickets I was promised. Is there anything I can do? Should I just give up on getting my money back? What should I do with the gift card?!?

### Instruction: Generate a one-sentence summary of this post. ### Input: Usually when my bf goes out locally, whether it's drinks after work with colleagues or a night out with the guys, I refrain from blowing up his phone. I think I text about 3 to 4 times that night, just to see how he's doing, if he's having fun, and to wish him a good night (if he's going to be out all night and I'm going to bed). We don't live together and usually see each other on the weekends. He hates texting and so do I, so we don't text each other on the regular anyways. However, when he leaves the country for work I text him way more. I'm curious to know how often you guys text your SO when they are out with their friends partying and getting hammered. Does it vary if they are local or out of the country/state? ### Response:

How often do you text your SO when they are out with their friends partying? Does it vary if they are local or out of the country/state? Why? How often do you text your SO when they are out with their friend

when my bf is out with his friends I text him more when he's out of the country. Is this normal? What's your experience? Why do you think this is? What's your opinion? What'

### Instruction: Generate a one-sentence summary of this post. ### Input: A little backstory from a post about a month ago So here is what's going on now. About a week ago, she took a break from her boyfriend. She came to my house and we fooled around for about 6 hours. It was amazing, but I feel like a horrible person for doing it. She says she loves me more than anything and wishes we were together, but she's too afraid to leave the position she's in now because it's "too risky". Now she's done with her break and she wants to stay with her boyfriend. I love her so much, I just don't know what to do anymore. I told her that it would be difficult being friends because at the end of the day, she'll be going home to her boyfriend and that's going to break my heart. Sorry guys, I feel like a total bitch looking for advice because I usually stray from this kind of drama that I somehow got sucked into. I just don't know what to do anymore. I guess I'm just hoping that thing don't work out for them, and that makes me feel incredibly selfish. Anyways, thanks for anything. ### Response:

ex-girlfriend and I had a night of amazing sex, but she's scared to leave her boyfriend because it's too risky. She wants to stay with him, and I'm not sure what

friend has boyfriend fears and is possibly headed for another broken heart. Wondering what to do to salvage friendship/prevent further heartbreak. Help plz. Plz. Help. Advice please. Help. She

### Instruction: Generate a one-sentence summary of this post. ### Input: We've been "together" for over a year, and about 6 months ago went through a really rough patch. Both of us did things we regret, and he went a little wild with some girls at parties (nothing beyond nudity). Now we're pretty much back on track, though he's not really ready to make any promises or commitments. Tomorrow night he's going to be at a party at the same house and I think with some of the same people.. it just makes me kinda icky inside and feel a little of the self loathe I did in the past. Any suggestions on how I can enjoy my weekend knowing and trusting he's enjoying his? I really love and care deeply for him, I just have a lot of preservation for my own happiness and health. And I want to make sure these fleeting worries don't get in the way of the immense progress we've made together and individually. ### Response:

my boyfriend and I had a rough patch, now we're back on track, but I'm still super sensitive about the subject and it's going to be brought up at a party tomorrow. He's not ready

worried about past mistakes and potential future relationship hurts due to going to party with some of the same people tomorrow. Need advice/suggestions on how to cope/enjoy my weekend. Any help would be

### Instruction: Generate a one-sentence summary of this post. ### Input: So I was talking about Napoleon with my students and of course this leads to a talk\rant about personal budgeting\etc. I've had a few students talk to me afterwards, them being curious about budgeting and person finance. I saw the post about the cue card and thought... man, I should have a poster or something up in my room as a quick reference or something. But with the cue card there are two issues - 1) they won't know what many of those things are - I do teach some lower stream kids 2) I teach in Canada, so we have different systems and such. ### Response:

what are some good quick references for a Canadian to use to explain the U.S. financial system to a lower stream student? (I.e. two things the student doesn't know) Any other good reference sheets? I

talking about personal budgeting with students, thought about having a quick reference poster up in my room, two problems with the cue card - won't know what many of those things are and teach lower stream kids in Canada. What

### Instruction: Generate a one-sentence summary of this post. ### Input: Birthdays have always been hard on my girlfriend. She's had a few parties as a child where no one showed up, and since moving states in the middle of high school she hasn't made close friends. Here at college, she tries hard to make friends. She talks well to people on a superficial basis but doesn't have any real friends. She's never been invited to a college party and has often missed out on many typical activities. We've been together for 3 years, since freshman orientation. I don't have friends but I'm happy that way. I like keeping to myself if I'm not spending time with her. Since she's naturally extroverted, she spends her free time with me, or at club meetings trying to connect to people. She's asked if I could put together a small party so I invited some acquaintances, my roommates, etc. everyone said no. I gave the invites well in advance too. I don't know how to break the news to my girlfriend, she's been so excited. She thought providing free food and drink would be a great way to make friends. But people don't want to come for even that. What can I do? ### Response:

My girlfriend has been trying to make friends for years, but she's never been invited to a party and has often missed out on many typical activities. I'm not friends with anyone, but I'm happy with my

My girlfriend is an extrovert and I'm an introvert. She's been trying to make friends for years and hasn't. I've invited a few people and they said no. What can

### Instruction: Generate a one-sentence summary of this post. ### Input: I go to college and I work on the school paper. I get some money from it, which is why I called it my job, but I don't really need it. I met her while working there, and we're both supposed to go back to the paper next year to work on it for the school year then. The problem is that we just broke up a couple of weeks ago, and I don't feel like seeing her again. She dumped me, and for some strange reason, I really hate her right now, and I don't think I would be able to stand seeing her. The problem is I don't really have many friends outside of the people I know on the school paper. So if I left the newspaper because of her, I feel like I could be alienated by the others for quitting before the school year start. Do you think I should still quit though? Am I being immature for not wanting to see her and work with her for an entire year? We were together for a year, by the way. ### Response:

I want to quit the school paper because I don't want to see my ex, but I don't want to be alienated by the others. She dumped me. Do I still quit? Am I being immature

broke up with gf of a year due to mutual feelings, don't want to see her anymore, but don't have many friends outside of school paper, should I still quit? Am I being immature? Any idea

### Instruction: Generate a one-sentence summary of this post. ### Input: I hope I am posting in the right subreddit for this. Lately I have been feeling....anomalous(?) regarding what I want out of a relationship. Another fling of mine was recently ended because he 21M did not want to "marginalize his friendships." When I am in a relationship, I want a Tabula Rasa -- a complete clean slate. I don't want my significant other to be facebook friends or have any contact whatsoever with previous ex-girlfriends and/or people he has slept with. I provide the same respect. I am accepting of friends of the opposite sex as long as there is not a sexual or romantic past. It would make me uncomfortable if they were to hang out independently though, and I would prefer a group setting. It's as if my ideals are from another planet. All of the men I have met seem to think my relationship expectations are absolutely ludicrous. I, on the other hand, do not think it is expecting too much of a person. I am feeling lonely and as if there is something wrong with me. Am I being overbearing? I would really appreciate some objective opinions. ### Response:

recently ended fling due to significant others unwillingness to marginalize his friendships. thinking abnormal regarding relationship expectations. need opinions on where to draw the line between what is acceptable and what is not. am feeling lonely

recently ended fling due to significant others unwillingness to marginalize his friendships. thinking abnormal regarding relationship expectations. need objective opinions from people in healthy relationships. am i being overbearing? what do you

### Instruction: Generate a one-sentence summary of this post. ### Input: Towards the end of our relationship it just seemed like she was always mad at me. It got to the point where we would argue about literally everything. Her birthday just passed and I spent close to $400 on it, and yet she still had an attitude and gave me the hardest time and that when I realized that maybe we just are not on the same page anymore. Its been about 2-3 weeks since we split and at first I was okay but now I don't know anymore. The past 2 years of our relationship have been long distance since we both have gone away to college and I'm sure that has some affect on everything. Part of me desperately wants to get back with her but the other part of me knows how she acts and idk...there's more fish in the sea...but i love this fish. ### Response:

Broke up with girlfriend, long distance, still mad. Feeling depressed and lost. Don't know what to do. Am I crazy? Should I get back with her? Help please!?!?!?

Broke up with girlfriend due to constant attitude, wondering if there's any hope of getting back together or should just move on. am confused. what do i do? help plz. :/!?!?!?

### Instruction: Generate a one-sentence summary of this post. ### Input: So I am living with 3 girl roommates and in the summer me and their best friend had sex and hooked up a bunch. I loved her but she did not feel the same way back. I kind of ended our friendship because it was not fair to me. The problem is that they are her best friends and she comes over all the time and I dont want to stop her from seeing her best friends but I hate seeing her. It makes me miss her so much and I want to be with her so bad and I know I need to get over her for good. Also me and her are ont he same sports team in university and we see each to her everyday at practice so there is no getting away from her. How do I get over someone who I see everyday and have to be around at practice and even at my home. I need help because I do not want to feel this way anymore. help am miserabl ### Response:

have to see ex all the time and miss her and want to be with her again need help to get over her. Help me. Please. Help. Help. Help. Help. Help. Help. Help. Help. designated for help

I need help getting over my ex because I see her everyday and I miss her so much and I want to be with her. I need help because I do not want to feel this way anymore. Help me!?!?!

### Instruction: Generate a one-sentence summary of this post. ### Input: Last weekend, my ex was in town for a party i was at as well. I spent the whole night helping him because he drank too much, and he ended up passing out at my house. We hooked up in the morning, completely sober, and acting like we were dating again. We talked yesterday, but just trivial conversation. I know he's avoiding talking to me because we didn't speak for so long and this is so sudden. I know it brought up old feelings for me, but i'm not sure about him. The way he acted, i figured it was a possibility and that's why he is so awkward. He's a naturally awkward person though, i was thinking, should i wait for exams to be finished and to see him in person to bring it up and see where it goes? There will be a party next month we will both be at. or should i just leave it to him to bring up? i know he avoids "feelings" discussions, so idk what to do. I really do want to continue things with him, but honestly this is driving me insane. ### Response:

hooked up with ex last weekend, acted like we were dating again, but he's avoiding talking about it. Should i leave it to him to bring up? Or should i wait until exams are finished? Any

Mandatory summary/question! How should i proceed with this?!?!?!?!?!?!?!?!?!?!?!?!?!?!?!?!?!?!

### Instruction: Generate a one-sentence summary of this post. ### Input: The past couple of years have revealed a pattern I'm finding a little concerning - I date a guy for a while and hold myself back from gestures or being too forward, then I get a little relaxed (which can be anything from a few weeks to a few months) and within days of me being nicer (texting him first, planning a date, settling for going round to his apartment if he's feeling tired, etc.) then suddenly he loses interest. I once baked cookies on Valentine's Day when we'd been together a few months and the guy freaked out. So now I have been dating a guy for a month and he's lovely, but I'm just waiting for it to end - and I feel as soon as I relax or, heaven forbid give him a compliment or say I like him, he's going to bolt. The big problem is that he's picking me up from the airport after the Christmas break, and I can't be so ungrateful as to just say thank you, but I'm afraid if I do anything nice he'll run. So how can I be affectionate and kind to a guy without him losing interest? ### Response:

I'm afraid if I show any affection to a guy I'm dating he'll lose interest. I'm also afraid of being seen as a bad girlfriend. What should I do? How can I be nice

I'm afraid that if I'm nice to a guy he'll lose interest, but I want to be nice to him. How can I be affectionate and kind to a guy without him losing interest? EDIT

### Instruction: Generate a one-sentence summary of this post. ### Input: My boyfriend and I are both 19. My boyfriend's mother is the only draw back to my relationship with him and I'm not sure how to handle her. She claims to be fond of me, but I know she's lying. She never even gave me a chance, even after a year of being together. My boyfriend got me a promise ring because we know we want to be together forever. While pretty much everyone else was happy for us, his mom lost her shit and said nasty things about our relationship. She then got her current husband involved. His dad wasn't exactly nice about it either, but regardless, respected the decision. I understand them being concerned since we are young and they married young only to end up unhappy and divorced. However, this woman is one of the biggest hypocrites I have ever met and is essentially a 40-something child. I can't stand her and am not prepared to deal with her for the rest of my life. I have never followed the "respect your elders" thing simply because of you give me no respect and are rude to me, I won't respect you, regardless of age. Any advice on how to handle this monster of a woman? I can give examples if need be, it's just a lot to type out a year's worth of hypocrisy. ### Response:

My boyfriend's mom is a cunt and I'm not sure how to handle her. She's a cunt, she's a mother, and she's a mother-in-law. I'm

my boyfriend's mother is a horrible human being and I'm not sure how to handle her. Am I overreacting? What should I do? Any advice is appreciated. Thanks! My boyfriend's mother

### Instruction: Generate a one-sentence summary of this post. ### Input: My girlfriends dog, who I used to love, has seemingly forgotten that he can't poop in the house. He was completely housebroken and then started to have really runny poops in the house so we just figured he was sick (we accidentally bought the wrong food) and didn't yell at or scold him because it wasn't really his fault. After he has gotten better he just thinks he can poop in the house now. For instance, not 20 minutes ago my girlfriend took him for a walk and he did not poop because there was other dogs outside and he gets distracted amazingly easily, then she brought him inside, left him in the bedroom where I was sleeping and he pooped. I noticed about 5 minutes after she left when I rolled out of bed. He was so excited when I got out of bed too; he didn't even act guilty like he knew he did something wrong. This is just frustrating me so much because he used to go to the door and everything when he had to go and now it's just a free for all. Help. Please. ### Response:

How do I get my dog to stop pooping in the house?!?!?!?!?!?!?!?!?!?!?!?!?!?!?!?!?!

my girlfriend's dog has forgotten that he can't poop in the house and is pooping all over the place. He used to go to the door when he had to go and now just does his business wherever.

### Instruction: Generate a one-sentence summary of this post. ### Input: Not dating anyone right now, but a hypothetical future person as I'm getting back into the dating game. A little more about me: I'm bisexual and very sexually fluid. Sometimes I even feel asexual. I'm also a virgin, but I'm really ready to not be. My only problem is I reeeeaalllly hate kissing. I hate the way my mouth feels and tastes. I hate the sounds, the smells, everything pretty much. I *might* like kissing someone I'm in love or infatuated with, but I have yet to experience that. (Most people like to kiss to eventually experience those feelings.) I've had some dating experience, and I even really liked a guy once who I was seeing. But once we became intimate and made out, I got really weird and I think I scared him off a bit. (I also divulged that I was a virgin, oh well.) He stopped talking to me after that, obviously he was not someone I would've wanted to be with anyway. So what do I do? When do I bring this up? And don't tell me I'll eventually like it when I find a good kisser, because I've kissed good kissers and I still hated it. ### Response:

I hate kissing, but I know I'll have to do it eventually if I want to find someone. I'm a virgin, but I'm ready to not be. I'm also bisexual and sex

I hate kissing, but I'm willing to try it. What do I do? When do I bring it up? And how do I find a good kisser?!?!?!?!?!?!?

### Instruction: Generate a one-sentence summary of this post. ### Input: Long story short -- We dated for about a year and 1/2 I moved for my job we couldn't handle the distance and we end our relationship. Months go by, I see him Friday night and he is very poliet and nice and after we started drinking he started pouring his heart out to me. The next day he calls me twice in the morning and I missed the calls, try to call him back. Doesnt answer, wait a few days, send him a long message, and it said he read it, and has still said nothing. Should I pretend like it never happen? ### Response:

ex of almost 3 years confessed his feelings for me while drunk, should I pretend like it never happen? Or should I play hard to get? What would you do?!?!?!?!?!?

ex boyfriend of a year and 1/2 is being a little polite and then starts talking to me about how he feels and I don't know how to respond. He hasnt said anything back. I'm not

### Instruction: Generate a one-sentence summary of this post. ### Input: I'm in my early 20s and live in the southern United States. I've had the same friends for forever and have had lots of great experiences with them in the past. In the last 2-3 years though they've become increasingly negative towards me. I'll often see a few of them individually and things will be fine, but in a group setting I'm often excluded, the only one chided, etc. Some of the things they say go out of bounds or they're things that apply to more than just me but I'm the only one who gets shit on for it. In the past I've said things, but I'm told I'm just too sensitive or they're joking. When I decide not to participate when everyone is chatting online or in-person, they'll use that as an excuse to exclude me. When I make fun of someone, I'm either ignored or basically told to shut it. I'm not sure what to do. It's become increasingly stressful and these are my only 'friends'. Other people I know don't have friends like mine. We still have good times, but I feel like everything I do I'm being judged. ### Response:

what do you do when you're excluded from the group? What can be done to improve the situation? Is it worth it? Anyone have any experience with this? What's the best way to approach this? Is there any

My "friends" are making fun of me and excluding me from things. I'm not sure what to do. Am I overreacting? What should I do? Is this normal? Anyone have any experience with this?

### Instruction: Generate a one-sentence summary of this post. ### Input: My friend moved across the country 5 months ago for work, leaving his other friends and family, and I'm the only person he knows here. We met on a forum online and have been friends for about 3 years. He's a very sensitive person and very shy, which means he hasn't made new friends here and gets offended when I say I'd rather hang out with other people over him. He is my best friend, but I'm starting to feel suffocated. I feel like I have to walk on eggshells around him and constantly make excuses and explain myself. I don't like making plans because I'd rather just do a thing when I feel like it, but he needs things to be very planned and gets upset if something falls through or doesn't turn out the way he expected. I end up apologizing for things I don't believe warrant an apology, and just give in because I don't like to argue. I really like the guy, but I'm starting to wish he'd move away again so I could stop feeling so responsible for his happiness. Because it's stressing me out very much. Besides friend breaking up with him, what can I do? ### Response:

my best friend lives across the country, and I feel like I have to walk on eggshells around him and constantly make excuses and apologize for things I don't believe warrant an apology. He's very sensitive

I'm my best friend's only friend, and he's very sensitive and shy. He gets upset when I say I'd rather hang out with other people, and I feel like I have to make excuse

### Instruction: Generate a one-sentence summary of this post. ### Input: Mine is simple, my kids. I will always remember the one day my daughter made me feel like the best dad in the world. I sometimes have to go back to work late at night to attend meetings (I work for a place with offices around the world) and one day I was home before my family was done with school. I decided to make some dinner and leave it for them and while I was making it I spotted some cookie dough in the fridge. I thought it would be nice to leave them cookies. So when my wife picks the kids up from daycare she said my daughter seemed to have a rough day (as rough as a 5 year old can have, I guess) and was very grumpy/sad. When they got home my son smelled the curry I had made and got very excited and then my daughter found the cookies. I had left a little note saying to enjoy the cookies and sorry for having to work late. My daughter started to cry and said she was so happy. My wife took a short video and sent it to me at work. I have never felt more needed and counted upon, then that. I know that these kids will cause me all kinds of worry throughout our lives, but I wouldn't trade that feeling of unconditional love for anything. ### Response:

daughter made me feel like the best dad in the world. Wife captured moment on video and sent to me at work. Unconditional love from kids. No regrets. Worth any risk. Worth any sacrifice.

My daughter made me feel like the best dad in the world. She made me feel like I was the only one. She made me feel like I was the only one. She made me feel like I was the only one. She

### Instruction: Generate a one-sentence summary of this post. ### Input: Hello redditers, First topic post on Reddit. So, I went to study abroad in the United States for 5 months. My GF is coming after 4 months of us being separated(we met in the same town and spent a lot of time together, before I left). Today I spoke with her over the phone, and she told me she was very excited, but also nervous and afraid. She was afraid that maybe one of us didn't feel the same after such a long time. We haven't had any major fights while we've been apart, and we've talked every day and tried to do everything to let the other one feel loved. Am I overreacting when I think she might leave me? I must admit I'm afraid too. It feels like a vague memory, since I haven't seen her for so long. ### Response:

How do you know if your partner is still in love with you after a long time? Is it possible to be still in love with someone? What are the signs? What are the most common signs? What are the most common signs?

I've been away for 5 months, my gf is coming to visit me after 4 months of us being apart. She told me she was excited, but also nervous and afraid. She's afraid that maybe one

### Instruction: Generate a one-sentence summary of this post. ### Input: I'm the type that usually goes from long-term relationship to long-term relationship without much dating in between. I'm trying out the casual dating thing for a while. I am 26f, above average attractiveness (in my opinion, but i still have pretty low confidence). So, someone told this guy (pretty much a stranger to me, we only met in passing), that i thought he was cute and he gave my friend his phone number to give to me. So the next day I texted him, and we have texted a couple of times for a few days. Seems like we have some things in common. After the 3rd day, I asked him if he wanted to grab a drink sometime...no response. I find it hard to believe that in 24 hours he hadn't used his phone. Why would he give me his number, have good back and forth texts, then leave me hanging when I ask to chat in person? Just not that into me? ### Response:

guy gave random guys number to try casual dating, not sure why he wouldn't respond when asked to meet in person. Wondering if anyone has any thoughts on the matter. Advice please!?!?!?

guy I've only met once gave me his phone number, but when I ask to meet in person, he doesn't respond. Why would he give me his number and have good back and forth texts if he didn't

### Instruction: Generate a one-sentence summary of this post. ### Input: We've been FWB for over a year, and we have started to develop feelings. I eventually said this wasn't going to work anymore, because one of us is going to get really hurt (probably me). He agreed, but a week later he said we should "try dating" because he doesn't "want to lose me." My thoughts are this--don't you start a relationship based on what you WANT as opposed to what you DON'T want? Like, I enter a relationship hoping to build a future with someone, not because I am afraid of the alternative (no longer getting to sleep with them/losing the intimacy/seeing them date someone else). I know he cares about me, but the fact that I haven't seen this side of him at all until I said we had to stop is a little irritating/confusing. ### Response:

been FWB for over a year, developed feelings, decided to stop, a week later he says we should date because he doesn't want to lose me. Not sure if I should be happy or irritated. Am I

Should I be expecting this side of him to develop or should I just be happy with the fact that he is a little scared of the alternative? Also, how do I approach this with him? I am a little confused. Advice

### Instruction: Generate a one-sentence summary of this post. ### Input: Today I woke up late and home alone so I decided to make homemade bagels for the upcoming week. They took awhile to make and I was wanting to do something else, but they turned out really hard and horribly stuck on the pan. dammit. So being me I grab a butter knife to pry them off. I spent the next couple minutes stabbing the bottom on the pan and cursing aloud, and eating the leftover bits stuck on the pan. Then the door leading into my house (which is right next to the kitchen) opens and my roommate comes in and finds me yelling and frantically tearing the leftovers off the pan and shoving them into my mouth. He hasn't come out of his room yet, I don't know what to d ### Response:

I was making bagels, they turned out to be hard and stuck on the pan, I was yelling and tearing the leftovers off the pan, and my roommate came in and found me yelling and te

I was trying to make bagels, they turned out to be hard and stuck on the pan, I was yelling and cursing, and my roommate came in and found me tearing the leftovers off the pan

### Instruction: Generate a one-sentence summary of this post. ### Input: Been together 3 years, living together for 1.5 years. I'm Persian, he's white. My family will invite me (and him by extension) to family events such as birthdays, Shabbat, etc. My boyfriend (let's call him Z) has been treated disrespectfully by them in the past. Examples include them speaking in Farsi in front of him, turning away when Z was going to shake their hand, etc. Z feels that it is a cultural issue that will resolve itself if we give it time. I want to take action but don't know what action to take. We could not attend any events in silent protest but it's not guaranteed that anyone will ask why we continuously don't attend (my family seems to not care a lot about what I have to say). We could attend most events so that the issue eventually resolves itself but I don't want Z to feel uncomfortable while at the events. So... What's the best option here? Speak up, do nothing, something else entirely? So far we have been attending some events but not all. ### Response:

My family doesn't invite me to family events because they feel that my boyfriend is not respected. What's the best option? Speak up, do nothing, something else entirely? So far we have been attending

My family will invite me to family events but my boyfriend feels that it is a cultural issue that will resolve itself if we give it time. We have been attending some events but not all. I want to take action but don

### Instruction: Generate a one-sentence summary of this post. ### Input: My wife went to a pokemon conference thing with a friend while I was away for work for a long amount time, about a month. She told me she was out to dinner. I asked later on if she was with her friend. She said she was and with two other guys. I freaked out a little and called her. She said one was gay and the other was ugly, asian, and nerdy. I still said going out like that felt inappropriately. I admit, I was upset and was a little rude to her. She said I blindsided her and she did not expect me to be upset. I told her I felt uncomfortable with date type situations. She says the atmosphere was not like a date at all. I trust everything she is saying. I still think it was inappropriate. I could just be immature and I am open to what you guys' think. ### Response:

My wife went to a pokemon conference, told me she was with two guys, one was gay, and the other was ugly. She said it was not a date. She said it was inappropriate. She said she did

wife went out with two guys, one gay and one nerdy, I feel uncomfortable with date type situations. Thoughts? Immature? Any opinions?!?!?!?!?!?!

### Instruction: Generate a one-sentence summary of this post. ### Input: Every time I try to give a chance at communicating, he shuts everything out and gets all random with me or he will just make it out to be like I "just want to argue" as if it's a hobby of mine. I believe that some arguments are necessary and there's nothing wrong with having them. It's not like I start yelling and get violent or anything crazy...He considers a calm, assertive discussion as "irrational arguing" and immediately goes into avoidance and victim mode and starts ignoring me. I don't know what to do with him anymore. I'm just trying to make some effort here, but he doesn't seem to look at it that way. :( He makes me out to feel like just some sadistic, argumentative person when I'm just trying to figure things out and work through them. A little background on us: He is diagnosed as severe ADHD. I am diagnosed with anxiety and OCD. I know, that doesn't help the situation at all, but it's our quirks that bring us together (after all, isn't that what brings us all together?). :P ### Response:

BF of 2 years avoids any form of communication, including just talking, and shuts everything out. What can I do? I'm at a loss here. Help! Please! :( :( :( :( :( :( :( :(

My boyfriend doesn't want to communicate, and I'm trying to give him a chance, but he shuts everything out and gets all random with me or he will just make it out to be like I "just want to

### Instruction: Generate a one-sentence summary of this post. ### Input: First of all, excuse my English, because I'm pretty drunk right now and English is not my native language. Okay, so, I'm originally not from England, but I've lived there for a couple of months and I met a girl there, who is not from my home country, and I totally fell in love with her. I'm now living in Spain and I really thought we could make it work, but for no reason at all she just started ignoring me. She went from all happy, glee and lovely to ignoring me all of a sudden. She didn't give me a response for two days now, which sounds like a short time, but it's killing me on the inside. I like to think that a healthy relationship is about mutual respect and trust and to be honest, I don't really trust her and she doesn't show me any respect as of late. I really liked it with her in England, but now I'm just making myself crazy. Should I break-up with or, or should I wait till she responds? Thank you in advance for the advice. ### Response:

I'm in love with a girl who is not from my home country, we had a great time together, but she started ignoring me, I don't know what to do. I really like her, but I don'

girl I was dating stopped responding to me, should I break-up or wait till she responds? I really like her, but I'm making myself crazy. Should I wait? Any advice is appreciated. Thanks!

### Instruction: Generate a one-sentence summary of this post. ### Input: I dated this guy last year. He impregnated a 20f pretty quickly after we broke up and when I found out, I got extremely sad and jealous, because I wish I was on my way to having a family. We broke up because of infidelity. Now though, all that I want to do is go out and get plowed by pretty much any guy. I don't want a relationship, I just want to go out and have revenge sex. Why is that? I think I'm just so upset, and angry. I don't know what to do, or really how to handle this. ### Response:

ex impregnated a girl, I'm jealous because I want to be in a relationship. I'm just upset and angry. I don't know what to do.** EDIT: I'm not

I'm upset and angry about my ex's infidelity. How do I deal with this? What should I do? Or am I overthinking this? Help!?!?!?!?!?!

### Instruction: Generate a one-sentence summary of this post. ### Input: Hi, hoping this is the right sub for my question, apologies if not. I was browsing my account on Credit Karma recently and saw the message that "1 account has gone into collections". I thought this couldn't be right, so I looked and it said I had a $277 balance in collections by an agency called "Enhanced Recovery Company". Around the same time my mom let me know that the company had been leaving messages for me on her home phone. I didn't see any way that this could be a legit debt, as my only debts are my car loan and one credit card. Also, I don't know how they got my mom's phone number, as I haven't used that number as my own in well over a decade. Every lease and agreement I've signed has been using my personal cell phone number. About two months ago I sent the company a debt validation letter via certified mail, and once they received it the phone calls stopped and I haven't heard back from them since. I'm just wondering what my next step should be in getting this removed from my credit report. Thanks for any help you can give me! ### Response:

one of my debts has been sent to collections, but I don't think it's a legit debt. Am I owed any more money by the company? How can I get it removed from my credit report? Please

a collection agency is claiming I owe them $277 and I don't owe them anything. I've sent them a debt validation letter and they haven't responded. I'm wondering what

### Instruction: Generate a one-sentence summary of this post. ### Input: A couple of months ago a friend and I started developing feelings for each other. She had been in a relationship of 3 years and often told me how unhappy she was with the relationship and how poorly he treats her. Things between us started getting serious and their relationship started falling apart. Being college students on winter break, we began hanging out every day for the past month. I could tell she was finally accepting that she could leave him. We make each other very happy and often discussed our own relationship and the future. Just as I thought she was finally mustering up the strength to end it with him, his mother was diagnosed with cancer. Being together with him for 3 years, she is very close with his family and thinks leaving him would be too much for him to handle. She told me she doesn't want to lose me but can't risk hurting him right now. Obviously it's a difficult situation and I'm understanding, but I can't help being upset knowing that she isn't happy. I want to make her happy and I know I can but I'm not sure what to do at this point. And no, I don't want to hear that I shouldn't have gotten involved with her in the first place. ### Response:

Friend and I developed feelings for each other but her family suffering with cancer keeps her from leaving him. Not sure what to do. Am I overreacting? Should I continue trying to make her happy? What should I do? Help!

Mandatory summary/question! What should I do? Is there anything I can do to help her? Should I even try? Any advice is appreciated! Thank you! :) Edit: I'm not sure if I should add more

### Instruction: Generate a one-sentence summary of this post. ### Input: First of all, I would like to thank everyone who opened it even if they knew it was only a teen with girl problems. This new girl came to school one week ago and I was in love since the first time I saw here. I talked to her for the first time 3 days ago, but I just introduced myself. 2 days ago I messaged her on facebook and we talked for a little while, it was mostly me asking her questions about herself. Then yesterday we said like 2 sentences to each other! That's all we've talked together! What should I do about this now? When should I message her again, or when should I talk to her in person. She seems really shy in person so I don't know what to do. Any advice is appreciated! ### Response:

15 year old girl crazy about new girl in school, not sure how to approach her or if she even wants to talk to me. Need advice! Help please! What do I do when I fall in love with someone

I am in love with a girl who I barely know, but I know she is interested in me. She is really shy, so I don't know how to talk to her. What should I do? EDIT:

### Instruction: Generate a one-sentence summary of this post. ### Input: We met via okcupid (10/10 would recommend), and I didn't even think to look then about his 'children' preferences. Recently I revisited his page and saw that he had put 'doesn't want kids' on his profile summary. I really, really want kids someday, so seeing this, especially since we have both exchanged "I love you"s, was quite discouraging. Now, there's no saying that we'll even be together when the time comes to start having children. I think, though it might be disastrous to avoid talking about this for too long. So how do I bring this up to him? I don't want to scare him off by bringing it up, but it's imperative to me to have kids. If it becomes clear that he doesn't want children under any circumstances, should we break up, or just acknowledge that we have an expiration date? ### Response:

I'm ready to have kids, but he doesn't want kids. How do I bring it up to him? Or is it a lost cause? EDIT: I'm not sure if I should have mentioned that

I want kids, but he doesn't want kids. How do I bring this up to him? Or should we just break up?** EDIT: I'm not sure if I should be upset with him for

### Instruction: Generate a one-sentence summary of this post. ### Input: Long story short...u/andyootoo posted a submission, telling people that he has tickets to a show in SF for sale, but he has to sell them online since he's in NY. The tickets for this show are sold out, so I decide to trust him. After a few back and forth exchanges via email, and seeing proof that he does have the tickets, I decide to send him the money via Amazon gift card. The card's been redeemed, but the tickets that he promised to transfer to me via Ticketmaster never came. I had talked to Amazon, and they can't seem to do anything. The bank's investigating in the meantime as well. ### Response:

Be careful when buying tickets online. Don't trust anyone who says they have tickets for sale. Don't trust anyone who says they have tickets for sale on a popular website. Don't trust anyone who say

I sent money to a guy who said he had tickets to a show, but he didn't. He's in NY, and I'm in CA. I've been told that he can't get the

### Instruction: Generate a one-sentence summary of this post. ### Input: Usually when my bf goes out locally, whether it's drinks after work with colleagues or a night out with the guys, I refrain from blowing up his phone. I think I text about 3 to 4 times that night, just to see how he's doing, if he's having fun, and to wish him a good night (if he's going to be out all night and I'm going to bed). We don't live together and usually see each other on the weekends. He hates texting and so do I, so we don't text each other on the regular anyways. However, when he leaves the country for work I text him way more. I'm curious to know how often you guys text your SO when they are out with their friends partying and getting hammered. Does it vary if they are local or out of the country/state? ### Response:

bf goes out with friends, I text him more when he's out of the country. Does it vary if they are local or out of the country/state? Wondering how other people text their SO when they are out part

I text my bf a lot more when he's out with his friends than when he's out with his friends. He doesn't like texting and I don't either. Is this normal? What do you guy

### Instruction: Generate a one-sentence summary of this post. ### Input: A little backstory from a post about a month ago So here is what's going on now. About a week ago, she took a break from her boyfriend. She came to my house and we fooled around for about 6 hours. It was amazing, but I feel like a horrible person for doing it. She says she loves me more than anything and wishes we were together, but she's too afraid to leave the position she's in now because it's "too risky". Now she's done with her break and she wants to stay with her boyfriend. I love her so much, I just don't know what to do anymore. I told her that it would be difficult being friends because at the end of the day, she'll be going home to her boyfriend and that's going to break my heart. Sorry guys, I feel like a total bitch looking for advice because I usually stray from this kind of drama that I somehow got sucked into. I just don't know what to do anymore. I guess I'm just hoping that thing don't work out for them, and that makes me feel incredibly selfish. Anyways, thanks for anything. ### Response:

friend leaves boyfriend for another chance. Unsure of what to do. Don't know what to do. Help pls. Help!?!?!?!?!?!?!?!?!?!

I want to be with my best friend, but she's too scared to leave her boyfriend. She's afraid that if she does, she'll be stuck in a relationship that she doesn't want to be in

### Instruction: Generate a one-sentence summary of this post. ### Input: We've been "together" for over a year, and about 6 months ago went through a really rough patch. Both of us did things we regret, and he went a little wild with some girls at parties (nothing beyond nudity). Now we're pretty much back on track, though he's not really ready to make any promises or commitments. Tomorrow night he's going to be at a party at the same house and I think with some of the same people.. it just makes me kinda icky inside and feel a little of the self loathe I did in the past. Any suggestions on how I can enjoy my weekend knowing and trusting he's enjoying his? I really love and care deeply for him, I just have a lot of preservation for my own happiness and health. And I want to make sure these fleeting worries don't get in the way of the immense progress we've made together and individually. ### Response:

My boyfriend is going to a party at the same house as some of the girls he was wild with. He's not ready to make any promises or commitments, and I'm worried it's going to make me

I'm a little worried about my boyfriend's party, and I'm not ready to make any promises or commitments. He's been really good to me and I want to make sure I'm not letting

### Instruction: Generate a one-sentence summary of this post. ### Input: So I was talking about Napoleon with my students and of course this leads to a talk\rant about personal budgeting\etc. I've had a few students talk to me afterwards, them being curious about budgeting and person finance. I saw the post about the cue card and thought... man, I should have a poster or something up in my room as a quick reference or something. But with the cue card there are two issues - 1) they won't know what many of those things are - I do teach some lower stream kids 2) I teach in Canada, so we have different systems and such. ### Response:

talking about Napoleon, talk about personal finance, students want to know what some of the things are, I teach in Canada, they won't know what some of the things are, I want a quick reference poster or something. I

I teach high school and I want to have a poster in my room with a list of things on it, but I want it to be quick and easy for the kids to look at. I want them to be able to say "

### Instruction: Generate a one-sentence summary of this post. ### Input: Birthdays have always been hard on my girlfriend. She's had a few parties as a child where no one showed up, and since moving states in the middle of high school she hasn't made close friends. Here at college, she tries hard to make friends. She talks well to people on a superficial basis but doesn't have any real friends. She's never been invited to a college party and has often missed out on many typical activities. We've been together for 3 years, since freshman orientation. I don't have friends but I'm happy that way. I like keeping to myself if I'm not spending time with her. Since she's naturally extroverted, she spends her free time with me, or at club meetings trying to connect to people. She's asked if I could put together a small party so I invited some acquaintances, my roommates, etc. everyone said no. I gave the invites well in advance too. I don't know how to break the news to my girlfriend, she's been so excited. She thought providing free food and drink would be a great way to make friends. But people don't want to come for even that. What can I do? ### Response:

My girlfriend has always had trouble making friends. I don't have any friends but I'm happy that way. I want to make a party for her birthday but none of my friends are willing to help.

How do I tell my gf her birthday plans failed? What would you do? What would you do? What's your opinion? What would you do? What's your opinion? What would

### Instruction: Generate a one-sentence summary of this post. ### Input: I go to college and I work on the school paper. I get some money from it, which is why I called it my job, but I don't really need it. I met her while working there, and we're both supposed to go back to the paper next year to work on it for the school year then. The problem is that we just broke up a couple of weeks ago, and I don't feel like seeing her again. She dumped me, and for some strange reason, I really hate her right now, and I don't think I would be able to stand seeing her. The problem is I don't really have many friends outside of the people I know on the school paper. So if I left the newspaper because of her, I feel like I could be alienated by the others for quitting before the school year start. Do you think I should still quit though? Am I being immature for not wanting to see her and work with her for an entire year? We were together for a year, by the way. ### Response:

Do you think I should quit working on the school paper with my ex-gf for the summer? Or am I being immature for not wanting to see her? What would you do? Thoughts? Opinions? Cont

broke up with girlfriend, don't know if I should quit school paper with her because of it. Am I being immature? Should I? What should I do? Help please!?!?!?!?!?

### Instruction: Generate a one-sentence summary of this post. ### Input: I hope I am posting in the right subreddit for this. Lately I have been feeling....anomalous(?) regarding what I want out of a relationship. Another fling of mine was recently ended because he 21M did not want to "marginalize his friendships." When I am in a relationship, I want a Tabula Rasa -- a complete clean slate. I don't want my significant other to be facebook friends or have any contact whatsoever with previous ex-girlfriends and/or people he has slept with. I provide the same respect. I am accepting of friends of the opposite sex as long as there is not a sexual or romantic past. It would make me uncomfortable if they were to hang out independently though, and I would prefer a group setting. It's as if my ideals are from another planet. All of the men I have met seem to think my relationship expectations are absolutely ludicrous. I, on the other hand, do not think it is expecting too much of a person. I am feeling lonely and as if there is something wrong with me. Am I being overbearing? I would really appreciate some objective opinions. ### Response:

Is it unreasonable to expect a relationship to be completely free of any past sexual contacts whatsoever? Am I being overbearing? What is wrong with me? Could I be wrong? What is the deal with this?

25F wants complete separation between romantic and platonic relationships. Am I being unrealistic? What is wrong with me? Reddit, help!?!?!?!?!?!?!?!?

### Instruction: Generate a one-sentence summary of this post. ### Input: Towards the end of our relationship it just seemed like she was always mad at me. It got to the point where we would argue about literally everything. Her birthday just passed and I spent close to $400 on it, and yet she still had an attitude and gave me the hardest time and that when I realized that maybe we just are not on the same page anymore. Its been about 2-3 weeks since we split and at first I was okay but now I don't know anymore. The past 2 years of our relationship have been long distance since we both have gone away to college and I'm sure that has some affect on everything. Part of me desperately wants to get back with her but the other part of me knows how she acts and idk...there's more fish in the sea...but i love this fish. ### Response:

ex and I split up, I'm still not over it but I know that there are better fish in the sea. We've been long distance for 2 years and I think that has something to do with it. I don

spent lots of money on girlfriend's birthday, still mad. am I crazy for breaking up with her? should I try and get back together? what do I do?!?!?!?!?!?

### Instruction: Generate a one-sentence summary of this post. ### Input: So I am living with 3 girl roommates and in the summer me and their best friend had sex and hooked up a bunch. I loved her but she did not feel the same way back. I kind of ended our friendship because it was not fair to me. The problem is that they are her best friends and she comes over all the time and I dont want to stop her from seeing her best friends but I hate seeing her. It makes me miss her so much and I want to be with her so bad and I know I need to get over her for good. Also me and her are ont he same sports team in university and we see each to her everyday at practice so there is no getting away from her. How do I get over someone who I see everyday and have to be around at practice and even at my home. I need help because I do not want to feel this way anymore. help am miserabl ### Response:

had sex with best friend's best friends best friend. she comes over all the time and i miss her so much and need to get over her. HELP!?!?!?!?!?!?!?

broke up with girlfriend but still see her everyday and miss her terribly, need advice on how to get over her. Help please. Help. Help?!?!?!?!?!?!?!?

### Instruction: Generate a one-sentence summary of this post. ### Input: Last weekend, my ex was in town for a party i was at as well. I spent the whole night helping him because he drank too much, and he ended up passing out at my house. We hooked up in the morning, completely sober, and acting like we were dating again. We talked yesterday, but just trivial conversation. I know he's avoiding talking to me because we didn't speak for so long and this is so sudden. I know it brought up old feelings for me, but i'm not sure about him. The way he acted, i figured it was a possibility and that's why he is so awkward. He's a naturally awkward person though, i was thinking, should i wait for exams to be finished and to see him in person to bring it up and see where it goes? There will be a party next month we will both be at. or should i just leave it to him to bring up? i know he avoids "feelings" discussions, so idk what to do. I really do want to continue things with him, but honestly this is driving me insane. ### Response:

How should i approach this situation? Should i leave it to him to bring up? Or should i just leave it to him to see where it goes? What should i do?!?!?!?!?!?!?

hooked up with my ex last weekend, and we're both acting like we're dating again. He's avoiding talking to me, and i'm not sure if i should wait for exams to be

### Instruction: Generate a one-sentence summary of this post. ### Input: The past couple of years have revealed a pattern I'm finding a little concerning - I date a guy for a while and hold myself back from gestures or being too forward, then I get a little relaxed (which can be anything from a few weeks to a few months) and within days of me being nicer (texting him first, planning a date, settling for going round to his apartment if he's feeling tired, etc.) then suddenly he loses interest. I once baked cookies on Valentine's Day when we'd been together a few months and the guy freaked out. So now I have been dating a guy for a month and he's lovely, but I'm just waiting for it to end - and I feel as soon as I relax or, heaven forbid give him a compliment or say I like him, he's going to bolt. The big problem is that he's picking me up from the airport after the Christmas break, and I can't be so ungrateful as to just say thank you, but I'm afraid if I do anything nice he'll run. So how can I be affectionate and kind to a guy without him losing interest? ### Response:

I'm afraid I'm going to be too nice to a guy and he'll lose interest. How can I be more affectionate and kind? Thanks! EDIT: Thanks for all the advice, I'll

I'm afraid if I'm too nice to a guy he'll run, but I want to be nice to him. How can I be affectionate and kind to a guy without him losing interest? Thanks in

### Instruction: Generate a one-sentence summary of this post. ### Input: My boyfriend and I are both 19. My boyfriend's mother is the only draw back to my relationship with him and I'm not sure how to handle her. She claims to be fond of me, but I know she's lying. She never even gave me a chance, even after a year of being together. My boyfriend got me a promise ring because we know we want to be together forever. While pretty much everyone else was happy for us, his mom lost her shit and said nasty things about our relationship. She then got her current husband involved. His dad wasn't exactly nice about it either, but regardless, respected the decision. I understand them being concerned since we are young and they married young only to end up unhappy and divorced. However, this woman is one of the biggest hypocrites I have ever met and is essentially a 40-something child. I can't stand her and am not prepared to deal with her for the rest of my life. I have never followed the "respect your elders" thing simply because of you give me no respect and are rude to me, I won't respect you, regardless of age. Any advice on how to handle this monster of a woman? I can give examples if need be, it's just a lot to type out a year's worth of hypocrisy. ### Response:

How do you deal with a mother who is a monster? Can you ever forgive her for her actions? What would you do? How do you handle this situation? Is there any way to fix this? What would you do?

boyfriend's mother is the only negative in our relationship, how do I handle her? Any advice would be greatly appreciated. Am I overreacting? What should I do?!?!?!?!?!?!

### Instruction: Generate a one-sentence summary of this post. ### Input: My girlfriends dog, who I used to love, has seemingly forgotten that he can't poop in the house. He was completely housebroken and then started to have really runny poops in the house so we just figured he was sick (we accidentally bought the wrong food) and didn't yell at or scold him because it wasn't really his fault. After he has gotten better he just thinks he can poop in the house now. For instance, not 20 minutes ago my girlfriend took him for a walk and he did not poop because there was other dogs outside and he gets distracted amazingly easily, then she brought him inside, left him in the bedroom where I was sleeping and he pooped. I noticed about 5 minutes after she left when I rolled out of bed. He was so excited when I got out of bed too; he didn't even act guilty like he knew he did something wrong. This is just frustrating me so much because he used to go to the door and everything when he had to go and now it's just a free for all. Help. Please. ### Response:

How do I get my dog to stop pooping in the house?!?!?!?!?!?!?!?!?!?!?!?!?!?!?!?!?!

My dog has a history of pooping in the house, we gave him a different food and now he poops in the house all the time. He doesn't seem to care. He used to go to the door and everything

### Instruction: Generate a one-sentence summary of this post. ### Input: Not dating anyone right now, but a hypothetical future person as I'm getting back into the dating game. A little more about me: I'm bisexual and very sexually fluid. Sometimes I even feel asexual. I'm also a virgin, but I'm really ready to not be. My only problem is I reeeeaalllly hate kissing. I hate the way my mouth feels and tastes. I hate the sounds, the smells, everything pretty much. I *might* like kissing someone I'm in love or infatuated with, but I have yet to experience that. (Most people like to kiss to eventually experience those feelings.) I've had some dating experience, and I even really liked a guy once who I was seeing. But once we became intimate and made out, I got really weird and I think I scared him off a bit. (I also divulged that I was a virgin, oh well.) He stopped talking to me after that, obviously he was not someone I would've wanted to be with anyway. So what do I do? When do I bring this up? And don't tell me I'll eventually like it when I find a good kisser, because I've kissed good kissers and I still hated it. ### Response:

I'm a virgin and I hate kissing. I've tried to like it, but I just can't. I'm starting to think I'll never like it. And I don't want to be

20 something bisexual virgin who hates kissing and will probably not like it when I find someone I like.** What do? When? How?** Help!?!?!?!?!?!

### Instruction: Generate a one-sentence summary of this post. ### Input: Long story short -- We dated for about a year and 1/2 I moved for my job we couldn't handle the distance and we end our relationship. Months go by, I see him Friday night and he is very poliet and nice and after we started drinking he started pouring his heart out to me. The next day he calls me twice in the morning and I missed the calls, try to call him back. Doesnt answer, wait a few days, send him a long message, and it said he read it, and has still said nothing. Should I pretend like it never happen? ### Response:

Ex boyfriend of a year and 1/2 told me he loved me after we broke up, I tried to call him back but he didn't answer. Didn't respond to my message. Should I pretend like

Mandatory summary/question! Should I pretend like it never happened? If so, why? And if not, what should I do?!?!?!?!?!?!?!?!?!?!

### Instruction: Generate a one-sentence summary of this post. ### Input: I'm in my early 20s and live in the southern United States. I've had the same friends for forever and have had lots of great experiences with them in the past. In the last 2-3 years though they've become increasingly negative towards me. I'll often see a few of them individually and things will be fine, but in a group setting I'm often excluded, the only one chided, etc. Some of the things they say go out of bounds or they're things that apply to more than just me but I'm the only one who gets shit on for it. In the past I've said things, but I'm told I'm just too sensitive or they're joking. When I decide not to participate when everyone is chatting online or in-person, they'll use that as an excuse to exclude me. When I make fun of someone, I'm either ignored or basically told to shut it. I'm not sure what to do. It's become increasingly stressful and these are my only 'friends'. Other people I know don't have friends like mine. We still have good times, but I feel like everything I do I'm being judged. ### Response:

My friends have become increasingly negative towards me in the last few years. I'm excluded from most things they do, and when I'm not, I'm the only one who gets shit on. I've

long-time friends become increasingly negative towards me in group settings and over the last few years I've been excluded/made fun of for it. Not sure what to do. Am I overreacting? Should I try to

### Instruction: Generate a one-sentence summary of this post. ### Input: My friend moved across the country 5 months ago for work, leaving his other friends and family, and I'm the only person he knows here. We met on a forum online and have been friends for about 3 years. He's a very sensitive person and very shy, which means he hasn't made new friends here and gets offended when I say I'd rather hang out with other people over him. He is my best friend, but I'm starting to feel suffocated. I feel like I have to walk on eggshells around him and constantly make excuses and explain myself. I don't like making plans because I'd rather just do a thing when I feel like it, but he needs things to be very planned and gets upset if something falls through or doesn't turn out the way he expected. I end up apologizing for things I don't believe warrant an apology, and just give in because I don't like to argue. I really like the guy, but I'm starting to wish he'd move away again so I could stop feeling so responsible for his happiness. Because it's stressing me out very much. Besides friend breaking up with him, what can I do? ### Response:

friend moved across country, I'm the only person he knows here. He's very sensitive and shy, I feel like I have to walk on eggshells around him and constantly make excuses and explain myself. I don

I feel like I have to make excuses for my friend's behavior around other people. What can I do to stop this? Is there any way to get him to move away? Is there any way to get him to stop being

### Instruction: Generate a one-sentence summary of this post. ### Input: Mine is simple, my kids. I will always remember the one day my daughter made me feel like the best dad in the world. I sometimes have to go back to work late at night to attend meetings (I work for a place with offices around the world) and one day I was home before my family was done with school. I decided to make some dinner and leave it for them and while I was making it I spotted some cookie dough in the fridge. I thought it would be nice to leave them cookies. So when my wife picks the kids up from daycare she said my daughter seemed to have a rough day (as rough as a 5 year old can have, I guess) and was very grumpy/sad. When they got home my son smelled the curry I had made and got very excited and then my daughter found the cookies. I had left a little note saying to enjoy the cookies and sorry for having to work late. My daughter started to cry and said she was so happy. My wife took a short video and sent it to me at work. I have never felt more needed and counted upon, then that. I know that these kids will cause me all kinds of worry throughout our lives, but I wouldn't trade that feeling of unconditional love for anything. ### Response:

left cookies for kids, daughter was extremely happy and told me how much she loves me. Watermelon helmet by the way. The best. Unconditional love. Thoughts? Feelings? Storie

Left cookies for kids when I was home late, daughter seemed to have rough day, found the cookies and was very happy, sent video to me at work. Words can't describe the feeling. Unconditional love. Need

### Instruction: Generate a one-sentence summary of this post. ### Input: Hello redditers, First topic post on Reddit. So, I went to study abroad in the United States for 5 months. My GF is coming after 4 months of us being separated(we met in the same town and spent a lot of time together, before I left). Today I spoke with her over the phone, and she told me she was very excited, but also nervous and afraid. She was afraid that maybe one of us didn't feel the same after such a long time. We haven't had any major fights while we've been apart, and we've talked every day and tried to do everything to let the other one feel loved. Am I overreacting when I think she might leave me? I must admit I'm afraid too. It feels like a vague memory, since I haven't seen her for so long. ### Response:

Mandatory summary/question! How should I react to my gf's fear of being left?!?!?!?!?!?!?!?!?!?!?!?!?!?!

How do I convince my gf to stay? What should I do? Is it possible? What are some tips? What are some tricks? What are some tricks? What are some tricks? What are some trick

### Instruction: Generate a one-sentence summary of this post. ### Input: I'm the type that usually goes from long-term relationship to long-term relationship without much dating in between. I'm trying out the casual dating thing for a while. I am 26f, above average attractiveness (in my opinion, but i still have pretty low confidence). So, someone told this guy (pretty much a stranger to me, we only met in passing), that i thought he was cute and he gave my friend his phone number to give to me. So the next day I texted him, and we have texted a couple of times for a few days. Seems like we have some things in common. After the 3rd day, I asked him if he wanted to grab a drink sometime...no response. I find it hard to believe that in 24 hours he hadn't used his phone. Why would he give me his number, have good back and forth texts, then leave me hanging when I ask to chat in person? Just not that into me? ### Response:

I'm a girl who usually dates guys for a long time, and I'm trying to casually date a guy I met at a bar. He gave me his phone number and we have good back and forth texts, but

guy gave me his number, I asked to meet in person, no response. Why would he give me his number and have good text banter, then leave me hanging? Any ideas? Any help is appreciated. Thanks! :)

### Instruction: Generate a one-sentence summary of this post. ### Input: We've been FWB for over a year, and we have started to develop feelings. I eventually said this wasn't going to work anymore, because one of us is going to get really hurt (probably me). He agreed, but a week later he said we should "try dating" because he doesn't "want to lose me." My thoughts are this--don't you start a relationship based on what you WANT as opposed to what you DON'T want? Like, I enter a relationship hoping to build a future with someone, not because I am afraid of the alternative (no longer getting to sleep with them/losing the intimacy/seeing them date someone else). I know he cares about me, but the fact that I haven't seen this side of him at all until I said we had to stop is a little irritating/confusing. ### Response:

Is it possible to start a relationship based on what you WANT as opposed to what you DON't WANT? Or am I just being a little irrational? I don't know. Help?!?!?

started a FWB relationship, developed feelings, agreed to date but a week later said we should try dating because he doesn't want to lose me. am confused/irritated by this. i don't want to

### Instruction: Generate a one-sentence summary of this post. ### Input: Today I woke up late and home alone so I decided to make homemade bagels for the upcoming week. They took awhile to make and I was wanting to do something else, but they turned out really hard and horribly stuck on the pan. dammit. So being me I grab a butter knife to pry them off. I spent the next couple minutes stabbing the bottom on the pan and cursing aloud, and eating the leftover bits stuck on the pan. Then the door leading into my house (which is right next to the kitchen) opens and my roommate comes in and finds me yelling and frantically tearing the leftovers off the pan and shoving them into my mouth. He hasn't come out of his room yet, I don't know what to d ### Response:

roommate walked in on me stabbing my bagels and shoving the leftovers in my mouth. What do I do?!?!?!?!?!?!?!?!?!?

made bagels, roommate walked in on me eating the leftovers, do not know what to do. Am I in trouble? What is the worst that can happen?!?!?!?!?!

### Instruction: Generate a one-sentence summary of this post. ### Input: Been together 3 years, living together for 1.5 years. I'm Persian, he's white. My family will invite me (and him by extension) to family events such as birthdays, Shabbat, etc. My boyfriend (let's call him Z) has been treated disrespectfully by them in the past. Examples include them speaking in Farsi in front of him, turning away when Z was going to shake their hand, etc. Z feels that it is a cultural issue that will resolve itself if we give it time. I want to take action but don't know what action to take. We could not attend any events in silent protest but it's not guaranteed that anyone will ask why we continuously don't attend (my family seems to not care a lot about what I have to say). We could attend most events so that the issue eventually resolves itself but I don't want Z to feel uncomfortable while at the events. So... What's the best option here? Speak up, do nothing, something else entirely? So far we have been attending some events but not all. ### Response:

My family doesn't invite me to events because they don't like my boyfriend. I want to take action but don't know what action to take. We could attend some events but not all. So... What'

family disrespects boyfriend, not sure what to do. Am I being unreasonable expecting them to treat him respectfully? What's the best option? Speak up, do nothing, something else entirely? Any other

### Instruction: Generate a one-sentence summary of this post. ### Input: My wife went to a pokemon conference thing with a friend while I was away for work for a long amount time, about a month. She told me she was out to dinner. I asked later on if she was with her friend. She said she was and with two other guys. I freaked out a little and called her. She said one was gay and the other was ugly, asian, and nerdy. I still said going out like that felt inappropriately. I admit, I was upset and was a little rude to her. She said I blindsided her and she did not expect me to be upset. I told her I felt uncomfortable with date type situations. She says the atmosphere was not like a date at all. I trust everything she is saying. I still think it was inappropriate. I could just be immature and I am open to what you guys' think. ### Response:

wife went to pokemon conference with two guys, not sure if it was inappropriate or immature. Am I wrong? What do you guys think?!?!?!?!?!?!?!?!

My wife went to a pokemon conference with a friend. She told me she was with two guys. I was upset. She said it was not a date. She said it was inappropriate. I am open to any

### Instruction: Generate a one-sentence summary of this post. ### Input: Every time I try to give a chance at communicating, he shuts everything out and gets all random with me or he will just make it out to be like I "just want to argue" as if it's a hobby of mine. I believe that some arguments are necessary and there's nothing wrong with having them. It's not like I start yelling and get violent or anything crazy...He considers a calm, assertive discussion as "irrational arguing" and immediately goes into avoidance and victim mode and starts ignoring me. I don't know what to do with him anymore. I'm just trying to make some effort here, but he doesn't seem to look at it that way. :( He makes me out to feel like just some sadistic, argumentative person when I'm just trying to figure things out and work through them. A little background on us: He is diagnosed as severe ADHD. I am diagnosed with anxiety and OCD. I know, that doesn't help the situation at all, but it's our quirks that bring us together (after all, isn't that what brings us all together?). :P ### Response:

How can you communicate effectively with someone who refuses to communicate? Or is this a lost cause? What's the best way to approach this? Any and all advice is appreciated. Thanks! :) How can you communicate effectively with someone

BF of 2 years shuts everything out and gets all random when I try to communicate. What do I do? I'm losing my mind! Help please!?!?!?!?!?!?!?