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A | POST: skills + cant function with strangers. i make $631 a month from social security i make 461 from social security retirement (my father) and 170 (social security disability) My mother is my payee. She always has been, she charges me rent, thats reasonable as i am an adult. But she charges me $624 in rent + bills. Knowing im left with $7. I'm struggling to survive and am at a loss of what to do. She could care less. It was a "oh well too bad you're an adult" when i tried to beg her to lower my rent and have mercy on me. Is this legal? If so is there anything i can do on social securities end? I can't live this way. I have called and they informed me they put in a request for me but nothing ever happened from then on. I live off food stamps as well, thats the only thing i can say keeps me afloat, but i go hungry 7-10 days waiting for my next amount. If i had adequate social security benefits i wouldn't starve or live in fear. Any advice or help is appreciated.
RESPONSE A: I'm going to disagree with everyone who says that this is ipso facto financial abuse. OP gets room, board, and utilities (also clothing and other supplies?) for $624 per month, which seems quite reasonable. u/Napalmenator and a few others make the correct point that OP is perfectly free to change the payee and find a different living situation. ·
RESPONSE B: You need to get a hold of social security and tell them you need your money sent to you and deposited in your own account. Once you have a hold of your money you can apply for affordable housing. It's usually called section 8 housing but it's rent based on your income. The waiting list is usually 6-8 months long, so apply now, while you're waiting for housing you can deal with social security. You're an adult, it sounds like you can make decisions by yourself, have you ever signed a paper stating your mother was your guardian? If not you are entitled to all your money and you should be getting it, not her
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B | POST: . I'm struggling to survive and am at a loss of what to do. She could care less. It was a "oh well too bad you're an adult" when i tried to beg her to lower my rent and have mercy on me. Is this legal? If so is there anything i can do on social securities end? I can't live this way. I have called and they informed me they put in a request for me but nothing ever happened from then on. I live off food stamps as well, thats the only thing i can say keeps me afloat, but i go hungry 7-10 days waiting for my next amount. If i had adequate social security benefits i wouldn't starve or live in fear. Any advice or help is appreciated.
RESPONSE A: You need to get a hold of social security and tell them you need your money sent to you and deposited in your own account. Once you have a hold of your money you can apply for affordable housing. It's usually called section 8 housing but it's rent based on your income. The waiting list is usually 6-8 months long, so apply now, while you're waiting for housing you can deal with social security. You're an adult, it sounds like you can make decisions by yourself, have you ever signed a paper stating your mother was your guardian? If not you are entitled to all your money and you should be getting it, not her
RESPONSE B: No it is not legal. Not a lawyer, ,but a disability rights advocate in NC. You are going to need help. Try the organisation below, and the links at the bottom of the page. Disability Rights Texas My wife is the co-payee on my son's ssi account. You having no say is not how it supposed to work, but social security is a very slow organisation. Also University Texas has a disability rights law clinic. This would be free to you. What is happening to you a blatant attempt to both financially exploit you, and to exclude you from your community. I can understand about the fear of new situations and people (my son is an adult with autism) but you have people who want you to be in control of your life. Reach out. Good luck
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A | POST: Mom is withholding important documents for me (my ss card, green card, etc) Location: Wisconsin USA My mom and I got into an argument on thanksgiving, took my car, cut me off the phone plan etc. A week later she had convinced me to have lunch with her, where she asked if I could give her my ss card, green card, passport because she wanted to file for my citizenship. I know it sounds dumb but I agreed. Turns out my permanent residence card expires next year, and filing for citizenship would take about a year. Plus I’m only 19, and I’m broke af and I figured I would trust her to cover it. She also agreed to give me my car back. Anyways, we got into a another fight. She went back on her agreement of giving me my car back (which just fucks me over because I moved out of the city to live in a rural area. Now I can’t really get a job without being able to transport myself). I asked her to give me back my documents and she keeps ignoring me and when she finally replied she said no. What do I do?
RESPONSE A: Go to apartment. Contact police. Tell them you want a civil standby while you retrieve your property. Whose name is the car in?
RESPONSE B: Can you get your documents back without her knowledge?
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B | POST: lane splitting and going twice the speed of everyone else on the freeway as we were merging lanes, blinker on and all. We didn't see or hear him until it was too late and he had hit us, and another car. He seemed fine, as he had dismissed the ambulance when it first arrived, except he had called it back minutes later when, who I think was his girlfriend, arrived and spoke with him. He called back the medics, they put a neck brace on him and placed him on a stretcher, and he took selfies as he was loaded on to the ambulance. This was all noted in the police report, which also states that the motorcyclist is at fault, and we thought everything was settled until a few days ago. My mom's insurance company called her and told her that the motorcyclist's lawyer is asking for a list of my mom's assets. She said that even though the motorcyclist was 99% at fault, because my mom's car was moving she is considered 1% at fault. And because the insurance company only paid for 95% of the man's medical bill, he's seeking out the rest of the money. My mom complied and sent the information to the insurance company, but my mom and I aren't well-off. It's just us two, and we can't afford a lawyer. What little money my mom has saved is to pay for other issues we have going on, and the only asset she has besides that money is the house we live in. We're terrified he's going to try and take the house from us. Should we be worried?
RESPONSE A: It sounds like your insurance is handling this. This is why you pay for insurance. You don't need to hire your own lawyer unless the claim exceeds your liability limit, which I doubt her 1% responsibility of his remaining 5% bills will exceed. But yeah. Just let your insurance cover this. That's why you pay for insurance, so you don't have to worry about this stuff.
RESPONSE B: Unless your insurance has already paid out the policy limits they have to defend you in court. If this guy hasn't filed a lawsuit you have no obligation to disclose anything to him.
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B | POST: me in this position as vengeance for years-old resentments he's held over an argument with my wife. He further stated that he turned the executorship over to me to begin with because I "couldn't do it" (which I believe means bring myself to document with the probate court his misuse of his position). At this point I'm done. I'm done waiting and stalling the Probate court and I'm done trying to rationalize his actions into my problem to fix. Obviously he have our issues but it never occurred to me that his apparent lack of integrity around money was consciously malicious. If he wants to argue or even fight with me he can always do so- he's my brother for chrissake- but to use my inheritance and my mom's last wishes as a weapon to attack me with is just too much. I'm now looking to bring whatever consequences he's earned home to roost and close the Estate along with this embarrassing chapter in our family's history. I'm hoping, but not expecting, that when the dust has settled he may even be willing to give being brothers another go. I'm fairly confident that the way he handled the money in the account while he was Executor is civilly actionable. However, my big questions is this: By accessing the Estate Account and transferring tens of thousands from it into his private account *after* stepping down as Executor/Administrator, did he also cross the line into *criminally* actionable? If so, what crime would this be considered?
RESPONSE A: Lawyer time. This is a lot of money, time, and complication that you don't want to take on by yourself.
RESPONSE B: >I've now spent the last year agonizing over what to do next and feeling as though it's my family duty to protect my brother from the consequences of his actions though it means eating them myself. It is 100% not your "family duty" to keep your felonious brother out of trouble for crimes he committed completely under his own free will. Hell, if anything you'd better throw him under the bus in case the scrutiny comes pointing to YOU.
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A | POST: , what crime would this be considered?
RESPONSE A: (not a lawyer, but I have been an executor). Are there any other heirs besides you and your brother? Now that you're the executor you have a fiduciary duty to all the heirs, which I believe means that you have a duty to them to attempt to recover what your brother stole from the estate. Make sure you get as much detail as possible out of the financial institutions involved. Not just the estate account(s) but if at all possible, her personal accounts before her assets were moved into the estate accounts.
RESPONSE B: Article excerpts (full article linked), similar stealing executor situation, (in MA, and not VT): After Lying and Embezzling from Her Mother’s Estate, Daughter is Jailed >*Ultimately \daughter\] was charged with two counts of larceny, two counts of perjury and two counts of embezzlement.* > >*\[Daughter\] was sentenced to 18 months in jail and five years of probation. She must also pay restitution to other family members for the money she stole. Her husband was sentenced to 18 months in jail, but the majority of that sentence was suspended.* [What Happens When the Executor of the Will Steals the Money? Besides useful information, article mentions state laws specifying "window" during which other heirs can take \legal\] action against executor. Couldn't find what Vermont has to say about a "statute of limitations" on civil suit or criminal charges (if law allows) in such cases. Here's detailed discussion of laws governing misdeeds by executors of Vermont estates: [Living Well on Other People's Money ~~Can he be charged with a criminal act under Vermont statues? Not clear to me.~~ At the very least, consult with an attorney who specializes in probate/estate law, for expert guidance. Too much at stake, and it would be criminal in and of itself for your brother to get away with this egregious behavior. **Edit to add: See separate post re: Vermont statutes** **found later.**
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B | POST: By accessing the Estate Account and transferring tens of thousands from it into his private account *after* stepping down as Executor/Administrator, did he also cross the line into *criminally* actionable? If so, what crime would this be considered?
RESPONSE A: Article excerpts (full article linked), similar stealing executor situation, (in MA, and not VT): After Lying and Embezzling from Her Mother’s Estate, Daughter is Jailed >*Ultimately \daughter\] was charged with two counts of larceny, two counts of perjury and two counts of embezzlement.* > >*\[Daughter\] was sentenced to 18 months in jail and five years of probation. She must also pay restitution to other family members for the money she stole. Her husband was sentenced to 18 months in jail, but the majority of that sentence was suspended.* [What Happens When the Executor of the Will Steals the Money? Besides useful information, article mentions state laws specifying "window" during which other heirs can take \legal\] action against executor. Couldn't find what Vermont has to say about a "statute of limitations" on civil suit or criminal charges (if law allows) in such cases. Here's detailed discussion of laws governing misdeeds by executors of Vermont estates: [Living Well on Other People's Money ~~Can he be charged with a criminal act under Vermont statues? Not clear to me.~~ At the very least, consult with an attorney who specializes in probate/estate law, for expert guidance. Too much at stake, and it would be criminal in and of itself for your brother to get away with this egregious behavior. **Edit to add: See separate post re: Vermont statutes** **found later.**
RESPONSE B: OP, do you know if your brother was bonded? This will make recovering the money significantly easier, as it will shift the burden to the bond agency to go after him civilly. It's entirely possible, however, that if your mother waived bond in her Will, that he was not bonded.
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A | POST: he was Executor is civilly actionable. However, my big questions is this: By accessing the Estate Account and transferring tens of thousands from it into his private account *after* stepping down as Executor/Administrator, did he also cross the line into *criminally* actionable? If so, what crime would this be considered?
RESPONSE A: > direct depositing 1-3K to what I assume was his personal account every week or two via online transfer. Additionally, doesn't this sound like structuring? Did he do this so it wouldn't have to be reported?
RESPONSE B: Article excerpts (full article linked), similar stealing executor situation, (in MA, and not VT): After Lying and Embezzling from Her Mother’s Estate, Daughter is Jailed >*Ultimately \daughter\] was charged with two counts of larceny, two counts of perjury and two counts of embezzlement.* > >*\[Daughter\] was sentenced to 18 months in jail and five years of probation. She must also pay restitution to other family members for the money she stole. Her husband was sentenced to 18 months in jail, but the majority of that sentence was suspended.* [What Happens When the Executor of the Will Steals the Money? Besides useful information, article mentions state laws specifying "window" during which other heirs can take \legal\] action against executor. Couldn't find what Vermont has to say about a "statute of limitations" on civil suit or criminal charges (if law allows) in such cases. Here's detailed discussion of laws governing misdeeds by executors of Vermont estates: [Living Well on Other People's Money ~~Can he be charged with a criminal act under Vermont statues? Not clear to me.~~ At the very least, consult with an attorney who specializes in probate/estate law, for expert guidance. Too much at stake, and it would be criminal in and of itself for your brother to get away with this egregious behavior. **Edit to add: See separate post re: Vermont statutes** **found later.**
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A | POST: super viral, but had a moderate cult following, which eventually led to me getting work with TV - so for me, it turned out to be super important, and helped me build my career. Lately, my stuff has started to go viral on TikTok though, as lots of people are uploading various clips from my channel, and presenting it as their own stuff. I have no problem with this, as long as they credit me, and in most cases it’s as simple as me asking them to do so, and everything is good. But now there is this one guy, who has become viral almost solely with content I made, and who refuses to credit me and instead insults me, and uses his following to make it look like I had nothing to do with the content. I figure the best way to go about this now, is to make a copyright claim, but this is where it all gets a bit weird, because the stuff I made, is “technically” not my own stuff, because it is made from other peoples material, whom I assume would be considered the “real” copyright owners - but it being public access TV, funded by the state, the rule in Denmark is actually that the actual TV-programs, before I edited them, is public domain - but to my understanding, I would own the rights to the “remix” (being the clips I posted). So yeah, this is where I’m at. I’m pretty sure the rules for copyright on TikTok are the same all over the world, so I was hoping someone here could help me. How do I go about this? Thank you in advance!
RESPONSE A: Regardless of whether or not your work was fair use, you still own any creative work you did on top of the original source. In the same way game youtubers own the content they record of themselves playing without owning the copyright to game content underneath. You can file a copyright claim at https://www.tiktok.com/legal/report/Copyright?lang=en not sure how effective the response is on Tiktok but if it's anything like youtube their channel will suffer for getting copyright claimed.
RESPONSE B: Have you contacted TikTok directly?
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B | POST: super viral, but had a moderate cult following, which eventually led to me getting work with TV - so for me, it turned out to be super important, and helped me build my career. Lately, my stuff has started to go viral on TikTok though, as lots of people are uploading various clips from my channel, and presenting it as their own stuff. I have no problem with this, as long as they credit me, and in most cases it’s as simple as me asking them to do so, and everything is good. But now there is this one guy, who has become viral almost solely with content I made, and who refuses to credit me and instead insults me, and uses his following to make it look like I had nothing to do with the content. I figure the best way to go about this now, is to make a copyright claim, but this is where it all gets a bit weird, because the stuff I made, is “technically” not my own stuff, because it is made from other peoples material, whom I assume would be considered the “real” copyright owners - but it being public access TV, funded by the state, the rule in Denmark is actually that the actual TV-programs, before I edited them, is public domain - but to my understanding, I would own the rights to the “remix” (being the clips I posted). So yeah, this is where I’m at. I’m pretty sure the rules for copyright on TikTok are the same all over the world, so I was hoping someone here could help me. How do I go about this? Thank you in advance!
RESPONSE A: Is this other creator located in the US?
RESPONSE B: Regardless of whether or not your work was fair use, you still own any creative work you did on top of the original source. In the same way game youtubers own the content they record of themselves playing without owning the copyright to game content underneath. You can file a copyright claim at https://www.tiktok.com/legal/report/Copyright?lang=en not sure how effective the response is on Tiktok but if it's anything like youtube their channel will suffer for getting copyright claimed.
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A | POST: Paid a patent attorney a $6500 retainer and, in one month, they went through the entire retainer and almost doubled it - I got a monthly invoice for $12k. Is it normal for law firms not to alert their client once the retainer is depleted? Basically wondering if this is normal or if I should question why I wasn't told to expect to pay double. This is my first time using a patent attorney, so genuinely asking if I should just pay the bill or if I should question this because it is a lot of money, and I kind of didn't expect to get that large of a bill in one month. The invoice did include an FTO search charge for $3000 they had to outsource. Thanks in advance for any opinions/insight.
RESPONSE A: OP, that's not an unusual amount for drafting and filing a nonprovisional utility patent application in the US. I typically quote a flat fee of $12-15k for that, but also set forth how much prosecution is likely to cost and how the fees will occur over time - remember, filing is just the first step, and it typically takes 2-3 years to get a patent, depending on the area of technology and whether you take other steps to expedite it, whether you go to appeal, etc. But if you have any questions about the bill, talk to your attorney and find out what the full estimate will be, what your retainer has covered, etc. The nice thing about patent prosecution, unlike litigation, is that it tends to be relatively predictable - we deal with hundreds of cases simultaneously, so we get very used to how much an "average" bill should be.
RESPONSE B: The retainer isn't the max you'll pay. It's just a way to ensure they can get paid for at least initial required. Things come up and they cost. You're free to question it, but it's rare it's going to be $ back in your pocket. You can have a discussion about the plan nad costs of it.
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A | POST: poorly on them considering this kid's dad is an officer and she's some kind of vicious, vindictive hound dog we all politely keep at arm's length during work related gatherings. What legal avenue can i, or we collectively take to remedy this situation? I feel calling the cops is overkill since he's only a kid (plus the mom will presume who called based on who's door he was knocking on when the cops pull up) and might even encourage him because he seems to love the attention. Hes a known bully and enjoys taunting his vicitims to the point of getting the victim's parents to talk to his mom, only to get her to yell at the victim's parents and he ramps up his verbal abuse towards that kid. There's plenty of video footage of his behavior from multiple houses but, again, his mom has made a huge stink before over seeing her kid's picture online from a family event, she makes a point to tell people taking pictures of their own kids playing at the park they do not have permission to photograph or post online any pictures he might be in, even in the background so idk how "dont film my kid" works with proof of his attention seeking tantrums. What do?
RESPONSE A: The mom of the tiny terror can go piss herself about the pics and video recording. Anything you record on public or your own property, or that is plainly visible from public property is your property as the photographer and also perfectly legal. I would try calling CPS about the boy. There seem to be some legit behavior problems, ie the little shit banging on your doors incessantly and the bullying, and perhaps a lack of appropriate parental supervision.
RESPONSE B: I am not a lawyer. Does not the military have an internal legal service (think it's called JAG?)? Perhaps you could reach out to them and inform them that the child of one of their service members is causing a nuisance in the neighborhood, and also that the spouse is indifferent to the situation. I'd imagine that the officer getting a talking to from his superior would squanch the kid's behavior really quickly.
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B | POST: Neighbor has torn down shared fence I use to contain livestock without contacting me, to replace it with a concrete wall. Says it will take 1 month to rebuild. Colorado Walked outside to see workers on my property chasing my alpacas after having torn down approximately 500 feet of 8' chain link fence that separate our properties. The neighbor has not spoken with us about any work on our shared shared fence even though they have been working on a wall around their property for months. We have been out of the country for 2 weeks and were notified by our house sitter the neighbor wanted to talk to us 4 days ago, but no contact has been made. There are fence panels piled on our property and there has been damage to some landscaping. We were scheduled to adopt a horse today, but now we have no way to contain our livestock and will likely have to board the horse in the mean time. Other livestock has been confined to our backyard.
RESPONSE A: It depends on whose fence it was, I realize you stated "shared" but at the end of the day it is either your fence or your neighbors. If it is theirs they do not need to ask you before changing it.
RESPONSE B: Colorado has had a developed fence law since the 1880s. It is normally the burden of the landowner to fence out livestock. I am not a lawyer, but: *Colorado fence laws favor the livestock owner and put the duty of protecting property on the landowner.* https://routt.extension.colostate.edu/agriculture/rural-living/colorado-fence-trespass-law/ Start by calling your county extension office and asking for clarification.
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B | POST: Upstairs neighbor keeps flooding our apartment Anything legal I can do Old lady who claims she “forgets” that the water is running in her tub. This is the 20th time this has happened. Honestly happens about once a month. And each time our bathroom and the people underneath us bathroom is flooded. Each time our mats are soaked and we can’t turn on the lights for at least 2 days. I’m sick of this. Legal advice?
RESPONSE A: This is very location specific (tenant laws) and fact specific (habitability issue?). Without knowing more details, my inclination would be to let your insurance company figure out whom-all to sue.
RESPONSE B: Consider calling APS. Advanced age + memory issues could indicate the onset of dementia or other conditions where perhaps your neighbor is no longer safe living unassisted. What if she forgets to turn off the stove, too?
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B | POST: Upstairs neighbor keeps flooding our apartment Anything legal I can do Old lady who claims she “forgets” that the water is running in her tub. This is the 20th time this has happened. Honestly happens about once a month. And each time our bathroom and the people underneath us bathroom is flooded. Each time our mats are soaked and we can’t turn on the lights for at least 2 days. I’m sick of this. Legal advice?
RESPONSE A: Have you spoken with your landlord?
RESPONSE B: Everyone’s talking about mould, but you really need to have the structural integrity and safety checked too.
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A | POST: Upstairs neighbor keeps flooding our apartment Anything legal I can do Old lady who claims she “forgets” that the water is running in her tub. This is the 20th time this has happened. Honestly happens about once a month. And each time our bathroom and the people underneath us bathroom is flooded. Each time our mats are soaked and we can’t turn on the lights for at least 2 days. I’m sick of this. Legal advice?
RESPONSE A: Everyone’s talking about mould, but you really need to have the structural integrity and safety checked too.
RESPONSE B: Make sure to bring up to the landlord, mold. Inquire on where to send the medical bills if he is not taking it seriously.
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B | POST: Upstairs neighbor keeps flooding our apartment Anything legal I can do Old lady who claims she “forgets” that the water is running in her tub. This is the 20th time this has happened. Honestly happens about once a month. And each time our bathroom and the people underneath us bathroom is flooded. Each time our mats are soaked and we can’t turn on the lights for at least 2 days. I’m sick of this. Legal advice?
RESPONSE A: Make sure to bring up to the landlord, mold. Inquire on where to send the medical bills if he is not taking it seriously.
RESPONSE B: Definitely check for mold. This used to happen at my old apartment and I believe it exacerbated my chronic illness. Things got much better when I moved.
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B | POST: Upstairs neighbor keeps flooding our apartment Anything legal I can do Old lady who claims she “forgets” that the water is running in her tub. This is the 20th time this has happened. Honestly happens about once a month. And each time our bathroom and the people underneath us bathroom is flooded. Each time our mats are soaked and we can’t turn on the lights for at least 2 days. I’m sick of this. Legal advice?
RESPONSE A: You should be more worried about black mold growing then your mats getting wet.
RESPONSE B: It's possible you have some liability for the damage in your apartment if you failed to notify the landlord until the 20th occurrence. Familiarize yourself with the lease. Ensure they suitably check for mold.
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A | POST: for one property to drain onto another. If a neighbor redirects their downspouts onto your property, you should perform maintenance on your property to correct any drainage issues." On top of all this, my girlfriends father is on the NC Soil and Erosion board and he wrote the laws that pertain to this situation, he had a very good laugh over it. We also have a dog that we keep in a kennel on the other side of the house from where her property is and this morning we found a letter in our mailbox unaddress and no stamp (illegal!?). The letter was complaining about the dog barking and making threats and saying we are going to have to get rid of the dog. We have asked all the other neighbors and they said he doesn't bark at all. We are afraid she is going to do something while we are work and hurt our dog. We are already planning on putting a privacy fence up so we cant see her house and she cant see ours but she will probably have something to say over that. We do not want this lady even stepping foot on our property but it all this happens while we are at work so there isnt much we can do while away. What can we do to get this lady to stop or what actions can we take to make sure she cant continue to harass us? TL;DR Crazy neighbor continues to harass us over everything we do when it is all perfectly legal. What can be done?
RESPONSE A: I know you're angry, and you have every right to be... but you may want to stop referring to your neighbour as a "bitch". I understand, she certainly sounds like a whole heap of fun. But, thinking it, and writing it out here, may eventually creep in to your daily life and you may say something like that to her face. Which might not turn out all that well for you... just a thought.
RESPONSE B: I kept my dog inside but for an alternative, have you thought about puppy daycare? It isn't cheap but even a couple of days a week is good for socialising them and keeping them away from problem neighbours. Also put up a fence and security camera. Not just for problem neighbour, but also just for general security.
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B | POST: property" and basically the answer to her complaint is found in this segment that she clearly did not read and it says "It is not illegal for one property to drain onto another. If a neighbor redirects their downspouts onto your property, you should perform maintenance on your property to correct any drainage issues." On top of all this, my girlfriends father is on the NC Soil and Erosion board and he wrote the laws that pertain to this situation, he had a very good laugh over it. We also have a dog that we keep in a kennel on the other side of the house from where her property is and this morning we found a letter in our mailbox unaddress and no stamp (illegal!?). The letter was complaining about the dog barking and making threats and saying we are going to have to get rid of the dog. We have asked all the other neighbors and they said he doesn't bark at all. We are afraid she is going to do something while we are work and hurt our dog. We are already planning on putting a privacy fence up so we cant see her house and she cant see ours but she will probably have something to say over that. We do not want this lady even stepping foot on our property but it all this happens while we are at work so there isnt much we can do while away. What can we do to get this lady to stop or what actions can we take to make sure she cant continue to harass us? TL;DR Crazy neighbor continues to harass us over everything we do when it is all perfectly legal. What can be done?
RESPONSE A: surveillance camera. if that bitch does anything illegal you can catch her redhanded. she can make verbal threats all she wants but you'd want to catch her in action if she really does something
RESPONSE B: I know you're angry, and you have every right to be... but you may want to stop referring to your neighbour as a "bitch". I understand, she certainly sounds like a whole heap of fun. But, thinking it, and writing it out here, may eventually creep in to your daily life and you may say something like that to her face. Which might not turn out all that well for you... just a thought.
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A | POST: there was anything we could do to work things out and settle any future problems. She told me to "F*ck off" and to kill myself. She also said she will continue to call the cops on me because she's "old and doesn't care". Im having a soundproof contractor come out to soundproof my house, however, he said that he's seen cases like this before and he says the neighbor will keep calling. At this point it seems like a form of harassment to me. This lady is being completely unreasonable. I have 60 neighbors that are closer to me and not once have I EVER received a single complaint from them. Can someone please tell me what I can do to fix this problem. Ive kindly reached out to me and she clearly is not right in the mind nor does she want to talk to me. All she does is scream fuck you and kill yourself to me. I am trying to file a restraining order or and injection on her but the police say that she needs to call multiple times without there being a citation written, and they will see that she is actually being unreasonable. I am going to write down every instance that the police come. Is there anything else I can do to fix this situation. I have tried everything.
RESPONSE A: Evil neighbors are the worst. It might not do anything, but you could get a decibel meter and a camera that records with a timestamp. That way you could at least show *exactly* what the sound levels were at the time of the complaint.
RESPONSE B: You can move. You can get a lawyer next time you're cited. Since she's filing police reports and the police are upholding them, there's not much else to be done, though - this isn't a situation where she's bringing suits against you herself. You can work with your city or state to modify the noise bylaws so that what you are doing - which does sound reasonable, but I'm not there - is no longer subject to a citation. If there's some sign that she's unwell, rather than just angry, you could talk to adult protective services. You could talk to her family, if she has any.
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B | POST: any music playing and the police have come once before when that happened. I went to her house with a handwritten apology letter asking if there was anything we could do to work things out and settle any future problems. She told me to "F*ck off" and to kill myself. She also said she will continue to call the cops on me because she's "old and doesn't care". Im having a soundproof contractor come out to soundproof my house, however, he said that he's seen cases like this before and he says the neighbor will keep calling. At this point it seems like a form of harassment to me. This lady is being completely unreasonable. I have 60 neighbors that are closer to me and not once have I EVER received a single complaint from them. Can someone please tell me what I can do to fix this problem. Ive kindly reached out to me and she clearly is not right in the mind nor does she want to talk to me. All she does is scream fuck you and kill yourself to me. I am trying to file a restraining order or and injection on her but the police say that she needs to call multiple times without there being a citation written, and they will see that she is actually being unreasonable. I am going to write down every instance that the police come. Is there anything else I can do to fix this situation. I have tried everything.
RESPONSE A: You can move. You can get a lawyer next time you're cited. Since she's filing police reports and the police are upholding them, there's not much else to be done, though - this isn't a situation where she's bringing suits against you herself. You can work with your city or state to modify the noise bylaws so that what you are doing - which does sound reasonable, but I'm not there - is no longer subject to a citation. If there's some sign that she's unwell, rather than just angry, you could talk to adult protective services. You could talk to her family, if she has any.
RESPONSE B: AZ is a one-party consent state. A recording of her psycho rantings might go a long way, next time.
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A | POST: touching" which took place last summer. He asked if my son and I would like to meet with him so that my son could give his side of the story, which I politely declined. I promise that we will absolutely, positively not speak to the police without a lawyer. My question is, would there be any benefit to getting a lawyer *now* and meeting with the detective at this point in the process? Or is it better to do nothing unless/until my son is legally obligated to come in for questioning? And follow-up question, at what point IS he legally obligated to come in for questioning? Fwiw, I don't believe the allegations are true, but I don't think that has any bearing on how we should proceed. Thank you so much for any guidance you can provide.
RESPONSE A: I'm sure you are already on top of it, but I want to stress that you need to be very clear with your son that he is not to discuss anything related to *any* of this with any friends, classmates, teachers, school staff, police (in case they try to contact him without you present), or even you or other family members, really. And most definitely, he should not make any contact with the girl making the allegations. He should not do anything with any potential evidence until and unless instructed by the attorney - text messages, voicemails, emails, photos, etc.
RESPONSE B: >Fwiw, I don't believe the allegations are true, but I don't think that has any bearing on how we should proceed. You are correct. >My question is, would there be any benefit to getting a lawyer \*now\* and meeting with the detective at this point in the process? Or is it better to do nothing unless/until my son is legally obligated to come in for questioning? There will either be a benefit of consulting with an attorney now or there won't be. The challenge is that if there is a benefit you'd find that out by consulting with an attorney now or you'd find that out by not consulting with an attorney now and later learning your son would have been better off had you consulted with an attorney. Consider that before you decide.
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B | POST: follow up, gather any available information, and then forward that to the Juvenile Prosecutor who will determine the next steps, if any. The detective said that he is looking into three incidents of what he described as "inappropriate touching" which took place last summer. He asked if my son and I would like to meet with him so that my son could give his side of the story, which I politely declined. I promise that we will absolutely, positively not speak to the police without a lawyer. My question is, would there be any benefit to getting a lawyer *now* and meeting with the detective at this point in the process? Or is it better to do nothing unless/until my son is legally obligated to come in for questioning? And follow-up question, at what point IS he legally obligated to come in for questioning? Fwiw, I don't believe the allegations are true, but I don't think that has any bearing on how we should proceed. Thank you so much for any guidance you can provide.
RESPONSE A: Not a lawyer but spent the last 2 years going through something similar with my husband. 100% go get a consultation with a lawyer who specializes in defense of the accused in sexual assault cases. They do exist. We went to two different consultations to see which one would work for him. His lawyer was amazing. We never went to trial. She took care of the police for us and walked us through what had to be done after the investigation. It did take 2 years of the detective avoiding her calls and a lot of other craziness. But it is done now.
RESPONSE B: I'm sure you are already on top of it, but I want to stress that you need to be very clear with your son that he is not to discuss anything related to *any* of this with any friends, classmates, teachers, school staff, police (in case they try to contact him without you present), or even you or other family members, really. And most definitely, he should not make any contact with the girl making the allegations. He should not do anything with any potential evidence until and unless instructed by the attorney - text messages, voicemails, emails, photos, etc.
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B | POST: was 14. Last week, a girl from my son's school told one of her teachers something regarding my son and some sort of unwanted contact. I don't know what she said, but the teacher reported it to Children's Services (as mandated), and Children's Services referred it to the police (also mandated). A detective contacted me and explained that *they* are now mandated to follow up, gather any available information, and then forward that to the Juvenile Prosecutor who will determine the next steps, if any. The detective said that he is looking into three incidents of what he described as "inappropriate touching" which took place last summer. He asked if my son and I would like to meet with him so that my son could give his side of the story, which I politely declined. I promise that we will absolutely, positively not speak to the police without a lawyer. My question is, would there be any benefit to getting a lawyer *now* and meeting with the detective at this point in the process? Or is it better to do nothing unless/until my son is legally obligated to come in for questioning? And follow-up question, at what point IS he legally obligated to come in for questioning? Fwiw, I don't believe the allegations are true, but I don't think that has any bearing on how we should proceed. Thank you so much for any guidance you can provide.
RESPONSE A: As someone who's worked in a law office the more time to prepare the better. Should this go somewhere your lawyer won't be scrambling.
RESPONSE B: I'm sure you are already on top of it, but I want to stress that you need to be very clear with your son that he is not to discuss anything related to *any* of this with any friends, classmates, teachers, school staff, police (in case they try to contact him without you present), or even you or other family members, really. And most definitely, he should not make any contact with the girl making the allegations. He should not do anything with any potential evidence until and unless instructed by the attorney - text messages, voicemails, emails, photos, etc.
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A | POST: son is 15 and the alleged incidents would have occurred when he was 14. Last week, a girl from my son's school told one of her teachers something regarding my son and some sort of unwanted contact. I don't know what she said, but the teacher reported it to Children's Services (as mandated), and Children's Services referred it to the police (also mandated). A detective contacted me and explained that *they* are now mandated to follow up, gather any available information, and then forward that to the Juvenile Prosecutor who will determine the next steps, if any. The detective said that he is looking into three incidents of what he described as "inappropriate touching" which took place last summer. He asked if my son and I would like to meet with him so that my son could give his side of the story, which I politely declined. I promise that we will absolutely, positively not speak to the police without a lawyer. My question is, would there be any benefit to getting a lawyer *now* and meeting with the detective at this point in the process? Or is it better to do nothing unless/until my son is legally obligated to come in for questioning? And follow-up question, at what point IS he legally obligated to come in for questioning? Fwiw, I don't believe the allegations are true, but I don't think that has any bearing on how we should proceed. Thank you so much for any guidance you can provide.
RESPONSE A: I am a lawyer, and have dealt with similar cases in the civil context. Of course, I am not your lawyer and will not give you legal advice. Yes, you should talk to a lawyer immediately. This can get out of hand very, very quickly, and you need someone on board from the outset. I know it sucks and will be expensive, but the alternative can be exponentially worse. Interview multiple lawyers and see who you're comfortable with, but sign one up and direct all communications to him/her.
RESPONSE B: As someone who's worked in a law office the more time to prepare the better. Should this go somewhere your lawyer won't be scrambling.
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B | POST: , I find out she's been the one picking up the packages this whole time- it's never been a rental agency associate. I'm really irritated at the fact that this woman has been coming to the property and feels the right to go through the mail in the mailbox and retrieve mail when I am unaware. I now am not sure of how many times she has been here unannounced, or how many times she has gone through my mailbox or taken packages from the porch. Which leads me to my questions. Is she legally allowed to do continue to send mail here and pickup anytime she wants? Is she allowed to go through my mailbox without me present to take whatever she wants? Do I have any legal responsibility for these packages? They have been in her name, but my address. Additionally- can she evict me for this verbal disagreement? I was startled, had no idea who she was an genuinely thought she was crazy/stealing mail. Is this normal behavior for property owners? Really looking for any assistance on how I can protect my sense of safety/privacy as well as protect my family from eviction for not allowing owner to take what they want from the mail. TLDR: renting a house for 2 years, home owner regularly visits at their leisure to go through mail or retrieve packages they have sent here without my knowledge/consent
RESPONSE A: Check if the lease mentions any of this. Then, decide if you want to keep living there or not. If yes, call the agency and ask them to put up and mailbox, name both correctly, and ignore it. If not, be a dick and put up a locking mail box, return any and all mail not for you back to sender marked that the person does not live there. Note that the owner may be comitting some sort of fraud, since they are recieving mail at your address, which is odd.
RESPONSE B: Stop being nice. If a letter or package shows up that isn't yours, don't contact anybody, write "not at this address" across the address field and take it to the post office (don't put it back into your mailbox) A couple of cycles of this, she won't be receiving mail at your house anymore.
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B | POST: and after describing the woman I am confronted with the information that this woman IS the owner of the house. In addition to that, I find out she's been the one picking up the packages this whole time- it's never been a rental agency associate. I'm really irritated at the fact that this woman has been coming to the property and feels the right to go through the mail in the mailbox and retrieve mail when I am unaware. I now am not sure of how many times she has been here unannounced, or how many times she has gone through my mailbox or taken packages from the porch. Which leads me to my questions. Is she legally allowed to do continue to send mail here and pickup anytime she wants? Is she allowed to go through my mailbox without me present to take whatever she wants? Do I have any legal responsibility for these packages? They have been in her name, but my address. Additionally- can she evict me for this verbal disagreement? I was startled, had no idea who she was an genuinely thought she was crazy/stealing mail. Is this normal behavior for property owners? Really looking for any assistance on how I can protect my sense of safety/privacy as well as protect my family from eviction for not allowing owner to take what they want from the mail. TLDR: renting a house for 2 years, home owner regularly visits at their leisure to go through mail or retrieve packages they have sent here without my knowledge/consent
RESPONSE A: 1. Check your contract 2. Maybe try to get in touch with her via the rental company. I am unfamiliar with rental laws in California because I am based in Switzerland. However, common sense suggests that "your" mailbox is part of the rental. 3. Common sense approach imho would be that the rental company /owner installs a second mailbox if the owner insists on getting mail/packets delivered to your address.
RESPONSE B: Stop being nice. If a letter or package shows up that isn't yours, don't contact anybody, write "not at this address" across the address field and take it to the post office (don't put it back into your mailbox) A couple of cycles of this, she won't be receiving mail at your house anymore.
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A | POST: - it's never been a rental agency associate. I'm really irritated at the fact that this woman has been coming to the property and feels the right to go through the mail in the mailbox and retrieve mail when I am unaware. I now am not sure of how many times she has been here unannounced, or how many times she has gone through my mailbox or taken packages from the porch. Which leads me to my questions. Is she legally allowed to do continue to send mail here and pickup anytime she wants? Is she allowed to go through my mailbox without me present to take whatever she wants? Do I have any legal responsibility for these packages? They have been in her name, but my address. Additionally- can she evict me for this verbal disagreement? I was startled, had no idea who she was an genuinely thought she was crazy/stealing mail. Is this normal behavior for property owners? Really looking for any assistance on how I can protect my sense of safety/privacy as well as protect my family from eviction for not allowing owner to take what they want from the mail. TLDR: renting a house for 2 years, home owner regularly visits at their leisure to go through mail or retrieve packages they have sent here without my knowledge/consent
RESPONSE A: Check if the lease mentions any of this. Then, decide if you want to keep living there or not. If yes, call the agency and ask them to put up and mailbox, name both correctly, and ignore it. If not, be a dick and put up a locking mail box, return any and all mail not for you back to sender marked that the person does not live there. Note that the owner may be comitting some sort of fraud, since they are recieving mail at your address, which is odd.
RESPONSE B: 1. Check your contract 2. Maybe try to get in touch with her via the rental company. I am unfamiliar with rental laws in California because I am based in Switzerland. However, common sense suggests that "your" mailbox is part of the rental. 3. Common sense approach imho would be that the rental company /owner installs a second mailbox if the owner insists on getting mail/packets delivered to your address.
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B | POST: " and I was no longer responsible for the bill. Cool, no big deal errors happen and they cleared it right up. Then I start getting more, and more and more and they no longer clear it up that I owe them money. Only issue is my "plates" are on this other car that is not mine. I've never had my plates stolen. So someone, somewhere made replica plates or in some mistake with the DMV issued the same plates?? Whoever started doing this drives the toll road twice a day and for two months that adds up. I'm 100% sure no one on the phone believes me anymore and think I'm trying to scam the toll roads. I went to the DMV to try and clear it up and even if need be pay extra for vanity plates just to get new tags, issue is when there is outstanding Tolls they won't let you get new plates or anything else. I filed a police report and went yesterday after work to get a copy of the report so I can use that to start getting the ball rolling but the incident number I received and finally got copies of is two sentences "Responded to non emergency call at XXX address, met caller XXX. Report of copied license plate, XXX reports his license plate was copied or reproduced and used for another vehicle" and that's it. Do I call and try to get a better report put in that actually says anything I said to try and get it cleared up or what?
RESPONSE A: If no one at the DMV will help you, try reaching out to your state-level senators or representative. They all have staffers whose job it is to help constituents solve difficult government bureaucratic problems. It’s amazing how fast a call from their office will solve something like a DMV issue.
RESPONSE B: It may be reading plates from another state. My sister just told me the other day she’s received bills from EZ Pass for a car that wasn’t hers, they just went by the Letters/Numbers on the plate and didn’t check the state. She called and once they realized the issue, it was fixed. They have people checking them by hand, have they sent you a picture of the plate?
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B | POST: (IL) Post office scribbles over our "return to sender" notes and keeps giving us mail that isn't ours Since we moved into our apartment 2 years ago we've been getting mail sent by the military for a guy who doesn't live here. As the title says, we consistently write RTS and "wrong address" on the envelopes, in addition to talking face to face with the postmen and post office about it but they keep sticking it back in our mailbox. Now it's at the point where they are marking out our RTS notes and putting the envelopes back in. I doubt we can just throw this mail away but we're sick of getting it. What is the proper legal action when even the post office won't do anything?
RESPONSE A: Are you dropping them back into your mail box, or a regular mail box? I had this issue and started dropping them into the pick up mail box on the corner and the issue went away.
RESPONSE B: Another helpful tip -- There's a bar code somewhere on the envelope -- usually on the bottom. If you take a marker and black it out, when it gets sent back, it'll be "rejected" and someone will have to manually look at it. They'll see the mark-ups that you have on the letter. Right now, someone is just sending it back to the processing plant where it's dumped back into the "regular mail" and the machine is just reading the bar code, sending it back to you.
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A | POST: (IL) Post office scribbles over our "return to sender" notes and keeps giving us mail that isn't ours Since we moved into our apartment 2 years ago we've been getting mail sent by the military for a guy who doesn't live here. As the title says, we consistently write RTS and "wrong address" on the envelopes, in addition to talking face to face with the postmen and post office about it but they keep sticking it back in our mailbox. Now it's at the point where they are marking out our RTS notes and putting the envelopes back in. I doubt we can just throw this mail away but we're sick of getting it. What is the proper legal action when even the post office won't do anything?
RESPONSE A: Another helpful tip -- There's a bar code somewhere on the envelope -- usually on the bottom. If you take a marker and black it out, when it gets sent back, it'll be "rejected" and someone will have to manually look at it. They'll see the mark-ups that you have on the letter. Right now, someone is just sending it back to the processing plant where it's dumped back into the "regular mail" and the machine is just reading the bar code, sending it back to you.
RESPONSE B: > we've been getting mail sent by the military for a guy who doesn't live here. I would try contacting the military department which is sending the mail. If the post office won't stop delivering it to you, maybe you can get the military to stop mailing it to you.
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A | POST: (IL) Post office scribbles over our "return to sender" notes and keeps giving us mail that isn't ours Since we moved into our apartment 2 years ago we've been getting mail sent by the military for a guy who doesn't live here. As the title says, we consistently write RTS and "wrong address" on the envelopes, in addition to talking face to face with the postmen and post office about it but they keep sticking it back in our mailbox. Now it's at the point where they are marking out our RTS notes and putting the envelopes back in. I doubt we can just throw this mail away but we're sick of getting it. What is the proper legal action when even the post office won't do anything?
RESPONSE A: Another helpful tip -- There's a bar code somewhere on the envelope -- usually on the bottom. If you take a marker and black it out, when it gets sent back, it'll be "rejected" and someone will have to manually look at it. They'll see the mark-ups that you have on the letter. Right now, someone is just sending it back to the processing plant where it's dumped back into the "regular mail" and the machine is just reading the bar code, sending it back to you.
RESPONSE B: Would it be illegal for this person to throw the mail away if it keeps getting delivered to them and they accumulated a lot of it?
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A | POST: (IL) Post office scribbles over our "return to sender" notes and keeps giving us mail that isn't ours Since we moved into our apartment 2 years ago we've been getting mail sent by the military for a guy who doesn't live here. As the title says, we consistently write RTS and "wrong address" on the envelopes, in addition to talking face to face with the postmen and post office about it but they keep sticking it back in our mailbox. Now it's at the point where they are marking out our RTS notes and putting the envelopes back in. I doubt we can just throw this mail away but we're sick of getting it. What is the proper legal action when even the post office won't do anything?
RESPONSE A: Another helpful tip -- There's a bar code somewhere on the envelope -- usually on the bottom. If you take a marker and black it out, when it gets sent back, it'll be "rejected" and someone will have to manually look at it. They'll see the mark-ups that you have on the letter. Right now, someone is just sending it back to the processing plant where it's dumped back into the "regular mail" and the machine is just reading the bar code, sending it back to you.
RESPONSE B: Not a lawyer but have been receiving my ex-downstairs-neighbor's mail for 2 years, lmk what works?
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B | POST: (IL) Post office scribbles over our "return to sender" notes and keeps giving us mail that isn't ours Since we moved into our apartment 2 years ago we've been getting mail sent by the military for a guy who doesn't live here. As the title says, we consistently write RTS and "wrong address" on the envelopes, in addition to talking face to face with the postmen and post office about it but they keep sticking it back in our mailbox. Now it's at the point where they are marking out our RTS notes and putting the envelopes back in. I doubt we can just throw this mail away but we're sick of getting it. What is the proper legal action when even the post office won't do anything?
RESPONSE A: Can you ask your apartment complex if he left a forwarding address? When this happened to me (house not apartment though), my landlord took the mail and forwarded it to the old tenant.
RESPONSE B: Another helpful tip -- There's a bar code somewhere on the envelope -- usually on the bottom. If you take a marker and black it out, when it gets sent back, it'll be "rejected" and someone will have to manually look at it. They'll see the mark-ups that you have on the letter. Right now, someone is just sending it back to the processing plant where it's dumped back into the "regular mail" and the machine is just reading the bar code, sending it back to you.
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B | POST: [AK] My landlord isn't providing an option for me to receive mail? I am a disabled veteran and I am not allowed to drive due to my conditions. I just moved into a new apartment and asked the landlord where is the mailbox/how do I pick up my packages because I have my medicines from the VA being mailed to me. She responded saying "You need to open a PO Box at the post office". And I'm not sure this is legal? How am I supposed to get to the post office??? It's a rural town in Alaska) and there's 1 Uber driver (guy name Christopher... Everyone knows him, really nice guy) but he isn't always driving.
RESPONSE A: There is a possibility the landlord does not own the land from the curb 4ft in and you may have a right to install a mailbox. Thats how it is in CT here because I use a PO Box and I brought this up to the postmaster. Luckily, I live near the PO.
RESPONSE B: If there is carrier delivery in your zip code you might qualify for a hardship delivery. That means the carrier will bring the mail to your door. You will need a drs note to prove you need the service.
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A | POST: [AK] My landlord isn't providing an option for me to receive mail? I am a disabled veteran and I am not allowed to drive due to my conditions. I just moved into a new apartment and asked the landlord where is the mailbox/how do I pick up my packages because I have my medicines from the VA being mailed to me. She responded saying "You need to open a PO Box at the post office". And I'm not sure this is legal? How am I supposed to get to the post office??? It's a rural town in Alaska) and there's 1 Uber driver (guy name Christopher... Everyone knows him, really nice guy) but he isn't always driving.
RESPONSE A: If there is carrier delivery in your zip code you might qualify for a hardship delivery. That means the carrier will bring the mail to your door. You will need a drs note to prove you need the service.
RESPONSE B: Do you know for a fact mail is delivered to the apartment. Not familiar with your area but where I live many of the small towns USPS only has rural carriers so if you live in town you have to have a PO box
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A | POST: [OH] My girlfriend's youngest daughter (4) has talked about her father (living in VA) multiple times of abusing her. He "checks" her privates for hair, he tells her, to make sure she's growing up, etc. The local child protection agency has done multiple "investigations" which consisted entirely of calling him and asking, "Did you do molest your children?" and him saying, "No. In fact, I want to report that her mother is molesting them." At that, they dismiss everything as a sour divorce tit-for-tat. One of the investigations was even triggered by the girl's counselor who was concerned the abuse was real and not something the girl was making up. THAT investigation also resulted in the agency conducting an interview over the phone with the accused and reporting back to her mother, "He denied it. End of investigation." This past week the little girl has started to talk about it again. Both her and her brother know sexual things way beyond their years that their mother did not teach them and I know that's one of the signs of abuse. My question is, where do we turn to now?! The "child protection" agency in our county has completely written off the allegations that the child has made and continues to make, in very vivid detail. Their mother is distraught, and has practically given up because she doesn't know where to turn, and decided that maybe the best thing is to get her on birth control as early as she can be if no agency is going to do anything about it. The father has made false allegations against members of her family (which got FULL investigations for some reason) and they determined that the father had coached the kids on what to say. He has threatened to make more accusations against her family and anyone she dates in order to make her life hell. She has told the agency this and they do nothing. We don't know what to do. Help!
RESPONSE A: You have evidence that a serious felony is occurring. Run, don't walk, to the police. The end.
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B | POST: [OH] My girlfriend's youngest daughter (4) has talked about her father (living in VA) multiple times of abusing her. He "checks" her privates for hair, he tells her, to make sure she's growing up, etc. The local child protection agency has done multiple "investigations" which consisted entirely of calling him and asking, "Did you do molest your children?" and him saying, "No. In fact, I want to report that her mother is molesting them." At that, they dismiss everything as a sour divorce tit-for-tat. One of the investigations was even triggered by the girl's counselor who was concerned the abuse was real and not something the girl was making up. THAT investigation also resulted in the agency conducting an interview over the phone with the accused and reporting back to her mother, "He denied it. End of investigation." This past week the little girl has started to talk about it again. Both her and her brother know sexual things way beyond their years that their mother did not teach them and I know that's one of the signs of abuse. My question is, where do we turn to now?! The "child protection" agency in our county has completely written off the allegations that the child has made and continues to make, in very vivid detail. Their mother is distraught, and has practically given up because she doesn't know where to turn, and decided that maybe the best thing is to get her on birth control as early as she can be if no agency is going to do anything about it. The father has made false allegations against members of her family (which got FULL investigations for some reason) and they determined that the father had coached the kids on what to say. He has threatened to make more accusations against her family and anyone she dates in order to make her life hell. She has told the agency this and they do nothing. We don't know what to do. Help!
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RESPONSE B: Police are the next step. The children need forensic interviews done.
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A | POST: punctures. They won’t pay for tires or street sweeping, what can we do? I live in a new community right outside of Austin, all built by the same builder. Over the past few months, folks who live here have had to replace numerous tires due to nail punctures. When I take my daughter on walks around the neighborhood, we collect nails from the streets! They are coming off of trucks that come and go from the sites still under construction. Various neighbors have tried to be compensated for tires or asked them to pay for street sweeping. The builder says he won’t do anything, it’s not his problem. Our HOA says it’s not something they can make the builder do. Do we have any chance at getting to them if we hire legal representation? We’re also a bit rural, outside of the incorporated town limits of an Austin suburb. So I’m not sure if the town would even send a street sweeper. We’re talking 30+ new tires and countless patches. Im trying to collect an actual count from neighbors.
RESPONSE A: I'm going to take a different tack. Call the DOT, not the police. There are consequences for commercial vehicles with unsecured loads, I have seen trucks towed for allowing dirt/stones to blow off them.
RESPONSE B: The builder will not change their behavior until they suffer consequences for their actions. You need to collect evidence and reach out to institutions that have leverage over them in order to force them to change their behavior. They need permits from the city in order to build, so reach out to the city and inform them of what's going on. Talk to your neighbors and perhaps get a group to go together to a city hall meeting. Contact the police and see if dropping nails from a vehicle constitutes a traffic offense. And get a consultation with a lawyer to see about going after the builder in court. As far as getting money out of them in court, you'll have to prove that they dropped the nails and that you could not have reasonably prevented yourself from running over them. I can't really give you a percentage estimate of the chances of winning - that question would be best asked of your lawyer. But you should definitely reach out to one.
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A | POST: [TX] Local home builder drops nails all over our roads, leaving us with constant tire punctures. They won’t pay for tires or street sweeping, what can we do? I live in a new community right outside of Austin, all built by the same builder. Over the past few months, folks who live here have had to replace numerous tires due to nail punctures. When I take my daughter on walks around the neighborhood, we collect nails from the streets! They are coming off of trucks that come and go from the sites still under construction. Various neighbors have tried to be compensated for tires or asked them to pay for street sweeping. The builder says he won’t do anything, it’s not his problem. Our HOA says it’s not something they can make the builder do. Do we have any chance at getting to them if we hire legal representation? We’re also a bit rural, outside of the incorporated town limits of an Austin suburb. So I’m not sure if the town would even send a street sweeper. We’re talking 30+ new tires and countless patches. Im trying to collect an actual count from neighbors.
RESPONSE A: I'm going to take a different tack. Call the DOT, not the police. There are consequences for commercial vehicles with unsecured loads, I have seen trucks towed for allowing dirt/stones to blow off them.
RESPONSE B: We've dealt with this twice and it is difficult to prove who dropped the nails unless you have video proof. I do suggest purchasing a magnetic sweeper to carry with you as you walk- it's a large bar magnet with a handle- they are reasonably priced and catch far more metal fragments and nails than by just eyesight alone. I also used one at a horse stable because of horseshoe nails puncturing tires. I filled buckets using the magnetic sweeper.
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A | POST: [TX] Local home builder drops nails all over our roads, leaving us with constant tire punctures. They won’t pay for tires or street sweeping, what can we do? I live in a new community right outside of Austin, all built by the same builder. Over the past few months, folks who live here have had to replace numerous tires due to nail punctures. When I take my daughter on walks around the neighborhood, we collect nails from the streets! They are coming off of trucks that come and go from the sites still under construction. Various neighbors have tried to be compensated for tires or asked them to pay for street sweeping. The builder says he won’t do anything, it’s not his problem. Our HOA says it’s not something they can make the builder do. Do we have any chance at getting to them if we hire legal representation? We’re also a bit rural, outside of the incorporated town limits of an Austin suburb. So I’m not sure if the town would even send a street sweeper. We’re talking 30+ new tires and countless patches. Im trying to collect an actual count from neighbors.
RESPONSE A: I'm going to take a different tack. Call the DOT, not the police. There are consequences for commercial vehicles with unsecured loads, I have seen trucks towed for allowing dirt/stones to blow off them.
RESPONSE B: If the streets are private, the HOA may be able to restrict the builder's use of them. If he were faced with the prospect of parking blocks away and hand carrying stuff, he'd be a lot more careful about nails.
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A | POST: outside of Austin, all built by the same builder. Over the past few months, folks who live here have had to replace numerous tires due to nail punctures. When I take my daughter on walks around the neighborhood, we collect nails from the streets! They are coming off of trucks that come and go from the sites still under construction. Various neighbors have tried to be compensated for tires or asked them to pay for street sweeping. The builder says he won’t do anything, it’s not his problem. Our HOA says it’s not something they can make the builder do. Do we have any chance at getting to them if we hire legal representation? We’re also a bit rural, outside of the incorporated town limits of an Austin suburb. So I’m not sure if the town would even send a street sweeper. We’re talking 30+ new tires and countless patches. Im trying to collect an actual count from neighbors.
RESPONSE A: I'm going to take a different tack. Call the DOT, not the police. There are consequences for commercial vehicles with unsecured loads, I have seen trucks towed for allowing dirt/stones to blow off them.
RESPONSE B: I am not a lawyer so take everything with a grain of salt. You can sue anybody for anything. That doesnt mean it will stick in court. You say the nails are falling off the back of trucks. Are the roads public or private roads. If they are Public the DOT (Not sure if TX has or Austin but look it up) may be very interested. Also if you can get video or dashcam footage of the nails falling off the backs of trucks. It only helps your position and you may want to contact your insurance or a lawyer at that point. The HOA could theoretically do something but it isn't the HOA's job or issue as it affects individual residents. I would speak with others who have their tires punctured and gather evidence that it is the builders trucks dropping nails. Then you can all chip in for a lawyer and sue the Builder if the lawyer believes you have a case. If you got tires replaced through insurance your insurance may be interested as this will allow them to recoup the money.
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B | POST: rural, outside of the incorporated town limits of an Austin suburb. So I’m not sure if the town would even send a street sweeper. We’re talking 30+ new tires and countless patches. Im trying to collect an actual count from neighbors.
RESPONSE A: I am not a lawyer so take everything with a grain of salt. You can sue anybody for anything. That doesnt mean it will stick in court. You say the nails are falling off the back of trucks. Are the roads public or private roads. If they are Public the DOT (Not sure if TX has or Austin but look it up) may be very interested. Also if you can get video or dashcam footage of the nails falling off the backs of trucks. It only helps your position and you may want to contact your insurance or a lawyer at that point. The HOA could theoretically do something but it isn't the HOA's job or issue as it affects individual residents. I would speak with others who have their tires punctured and gather evidence that it is the builders trucks dropping nails. Then you can all chip in for a lawyer and sue the Builder if the lawyer believes you have a case. If you got tires replaced through insurance your insurance may be interested as this will allow them to recoup the money.
RESPONSE B: The builder will not change their behavior until they suffer consequences for their actions. You need to collect evidence and reach out to institutions that have leverage over them in order to force them to change their behavior. They need permits from the city in order to build, so reach out to the city and inform them of what's going on. Talk to your neighbors and perhaps get a group to go together to a city hall meeting. Contact the police and see if dropping nails from a vehicle constitutes a traffic offense. And get a consultation with a lawyer to see about going after the builder in court. As far as getting money out of them in court, you'll have to prove that they dropped the nails and that you could not have reasonably prevented yourself from running over them. I can't really give you a percentage estimate of the chances of winning - that question would be best asked of your lawyer. But you should definitely reach out to one.
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A | POST: d won’t fix the heat and it’s-6 degrees outside No heat: I live in an apartment complex that shares heat and we have our own digital dial to control our heat. We put a maintenance request about 3 weeks ago, because we haven’t heard the heat turn on. So we were out of heat for longer than 3 weeks. At the time we were transitioning from 50 degree weather to now-6degree weather here in Minnesota in the last 3 weeks. When maintenance came in they told us our heater compressor needed to be replaced that’s why our heat hasn’t worked. We have sent emails asking for a time frame because we feel like it hasn’t been done in a timely manner. Temperature have came down to 67 degrees in our units (probably getting heat from other units) so not sure what to do next or what options we have? How cold is too cold to be ok without heat if other units are keeping heat at least at 67 degrees. We also pay heat for our unit but it’s shared by all the residents and what ever the heat bill is for the whole building it’s equally distributed to the residents based on square footage
RESPONSE A: This is very specific to your city ordinances. Minnesota only has a general requirement of habitability. In general most cities that have an applicable ordinance it states that heating systems must be capable of heating to at least 68 degrees when required (notice the ordinances don’t typically say maintain the heat at this temperature). Need to figure out if your city has an ordinance and if so what temperature it requires. If the temperature is within 1-2 degrees of the ordinance may or may not be worth reporting -would be up to your judgement.
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A | POST: neighbor, on the other hand has a huge Live Oak and some other tree that has enormous fricken leaves. First off, he doesn’t take good care of his own yard so the leaves just pile up and eventually come into my yard, which is something I have always dealt with without making a big deal about it until a month or so ago. I came home a little early to eat lunch and he happened to be blowing off his driveway, straight into my yard. I didn’t say anything but I waited until he went inside and got my backpack blower(I own lawn service) and gave him his leaves back. Since then we have had a sort of silent war of leaves and yesterday I went outside and there were leaves literally covering my front porch and his yard was freshly cut. Not only did his mower blow the leaves in my yard but he then proceeded to blow the rest into my yard. He was outside so I asked him what his issue was and he said he had no issue and that the wind must have blown them in my yard. Bullshit, there was absolutely zero wind. So, once again, I waited until he went in and I did my thing, only this time his truck was in the driveway so it got covered and his azaleas and front porch had their fair share. He came outside and threatened to sue me, to which I asked him to please call the police if he felt that he had been done wrong in any way, and he said he was going to, but never did. My question is if it is illegal to give him his leaves back without it being considered litter or anything? I know it sounds stupid but my wife is paranoid because she just doesn’t want to deal with any BS. Thanks Tl; dr neighbor tried to give his leaves to me so I gave them back.
RESPONSE A: Just don't go onto his property. You may also want to setup a security camera to see if he is coming onto yours. That is if you are trying to get him in legal trouble.
RESPONSE B: I’d consider getting/renting an industrial blower and let it blow towards his house, his little leaf blower won’t stand a chance ;)
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B | POST: except that my neighbor is an asshole. My yard has no big trees in it and the small Crepe Myrtles I have make very little mess. My neighbor, on the other hand has a huge Live Oak and some other tree that has enormous fricken leaves. First off, he doesn’t take good care of his own yard so the leaves just pile up and eventually come into my yard, which is something I have always dealt with without making a big deal about it until a month or so ago. I came home a little early to eat lunch and he happened to be blowing off his driveway, straight into my yard. I didn’t say anything but I waited until he went inside and got my backpack blower(I own lawn service) and gave him his leaves back. Since then we have had a sort of silent war of leaves and yesterday I went outside and there were leaves literally covering my front porch and his yard was freshly cut. Not only did his mower blow the leaves in my yard but he then proceeded to blow the rest into my yard. He was outside so I asked him what his issue was and he said he had no issue and that the wind must have blown them in my yard. Bullshit, there was absolutely zero wind. So, once again, I waited until he went in and I did my thing, only this time his truck was in the driveway so it got covered and his azaleas and front porch had their fair share. He came outside and threatened to sue me, to which I asked him to please call the police if he felt that he had been done wrong in any way, and he said he was going to, but never did. My question is if it is illegal to give him his leaves back without it being considered litter or anything? I know it sounds stupid but my wife is paranoid because she just doesn’t want to deal with any BS. Thanks Tl; dr neighbor tried to give his leaves to me so I gave them back.
RESPONSE A: Are you Rand Paul's neighbor? https://www.gq.com/story/inside-rand-pauls-neighborhood-fight
RESPONSE B: Two households, both alike in dignity..
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A | POST: love it, except that my neighbor is an asshole. My yard has no big trees in it and the small Crepe Myrtles I have make very little mess. My neighbor, on the other hand has a huge Live Oak and some other tree that has enormous fricken leaves. First off, he doesn’t take good care of his own yard so the leaves just pile up and eventually come into my yard, which is something I have always dealt with without making a big deal about it until a month or so ago. I came home a little early to eat lunch and he happened to be blowing off his driveway, straight into my yard. I didn’t say anything but I waited until he went inside and got my backpack blower(I own lawn service) and gave him his leaves back. Since then we have had a sort of silent war of leaves and yesterday I went outside and there were leaves literally covering my front porch and his yard was freshly cut. Not only did his mower blow the leaves in my yard but he then proceeded to blow the rest into my yard. He was outside so I asked him what his issue was and he said he had no issue and that the wind must have blown them in my yard. Bullshit, there was absolutely zero wind. So, once again, I waited until he went in and I did my thing, only this time his truck was in the driveway so it got covered and his azaleas and front porch had their fair share. He came outside and threatened to sue me, to which I asked him to please call the police if he felt that he had been done wrong in any way, and he said he was going to, but never did. My question is if it is illegal to give him his leaves back without it being considered litter or anything? I know it sounds stupid but my wife is paranoid because she just doesn’t want to deal with any BS. Thanks Tl; dr neighbor tried to give his leaves to me so I gave them back.
RESPONSE A: Two households, both alike in dignity..
RESPONSE B: Just put up a fence. Legally he isn't responsible for leaves that end up naturally in your side, and this will only escalate further.
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A | POST: war of leaves and yesterday I went outside and there were leaves literally covering my front porch and his yard was freshly cut. Not only did his mower blow the leaves in my yard but he then proceeded to blow the rest into my yard. He was outside so I asked him what his issue was and he said he had no issue and that the wind must have blown them in my yard. Bullshit, there was absolutely zero wind. So, once again, I waited until he went in and I did my thing, only this time his truck was in the driveway so it got covered and his azaleas and front porch had their fair share. He came outside and threatened to sue me, to which I asked him to please call the police if he felt that he had been done wrong in any way, and he said he was going to, but never did. My question is if it is illegal to give him his leaves back without it being considered litter or anything? I know it sounds stupid but my wife is paranoid because she just doesn’t want to deal with any BS. Thanks Tl; dr neighbor tried to give his leaves to me so I gave them back.
RESPONSE A: Sounds like what you are doing is legal, and hilarious. As long as no damage occurs from flying debris contained in the leaves. I lived this same war for several years. Both ours and our neighbors 1/4 acre lots were heavily wooded, so we both had to clean up a lot of leaves. Neighbor would wait until we were not at home and then blow leaves onto ours and his other neighbors lots. My husband & I finally caught him outside one day and asked what he was doing. Guy actually responded “but they’re from YOUR trees!” I asked how he could tell which were his and which were ours, and why he was blowing leaves on the other neighbors yard that had no trees? No response. We started mowing a line down the property line. Cleaning up every leaf on our side and telling him to take care of what was on his side. He moved shortly after.
RESPONSE B: Just put up a fence. Legally he isn't responsible for leaves that end up naturally in your side, and this will only escalate further.
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B | POST: thing, only this time his truck was in the driveway so it got covered and his azaleas and front porch had their fair share. He came outside and threatened to sue me, to which I asked him to please call the police if he felt that he had been done wrong in any way, and he said he was going to, but never did. My question is if it is illegal to give him his leaves back without it being considered litter or anything? I know it sounds stupid but my wife is paranoid because she just doesn’t want to deal with any BS. Thanks Tl; dr neighbor tried to give his leaves to me so I gave them back.
RESPONSE A: My observation is that both of you are idiots and deserve to be living next to each other so the rest of the world can mock this stupid feud you have going on. Not just about who the leaves belong to (which is ridiculous) but the fact that neither of you have the balls to properly address each other as human beings and resolve this conflict properly. Instead falling back on petty passive aggressive behavior of blowing leaves back and forth. According to your story he started it by blowing it into your property and you should have gone and spoken to him at that very moment. Instead you escalated it by blowing leaves back into his property. That being said, the leaves belong to the property where they fall. They are not his leaves or your leaves. Unless your neighbor is not following a statute in your town that mandates leaf cleanup, you have no recourse about him not cleaning his yard as often as you. The fact that he has huge oaks and you have small to no trees is meaningless. This is autumn and leaves fall from trees. The only complaint you both have against EACH OTHER (because at this point both of you are guilty of the same offense) is to stop blowing leaves into each other's properties. You lost your high ground when you sank to his level and blew the leaves onto his property. Blowing leaves onto your neighbor's property is not a proper cleanup method and is disrespectful. Both of you need to learn how to clean up your own properties properly and without impact to each other.
RESPONSE B: Whatever you do, don't cut his trees down.
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