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Well I didn't know where else to turn. Throwaway since some of my family uses reddit (not often, but who knows..) My dad's parents are both 90. They live within 5 minutes from us but in their own condo. My grandfather smoked his whole life and now has been on oxygen for the past few years. Now for the past year my grandmother's health has severly declined. She has had severe back problems, foot problems, among other things. She was bedridden for 2 months because of her back. Nothing seems to be helping her get better, but that's expected at her age. She uses a walker, but she struggles with that. She even is showing some signs of Alzheimer's and that's only adding to the situation. The thing that is killing me is that my dad doesn't think anything needs to be done. He is so stubborn. My mother truly tries to help out, from taking my grandmother to get her shots to grocery shopping for them to cooking for them. But she always gets it shoved in her face because both my dad and his dad are so stubborn. They had a live in nurse for 2 weeks before my grandpa fired her, even though they desperately need the help.My mom gets frustrated when she is told to leave by my grandpa. There was even a time when my grandparents agreed to be put into assisted living (the one where they move into the community, idk if that's what its called). There was a $2600 deposit that was paid for a reservation for a place. When the time came and there was room, my grandparents changed their minds and cancelled without telling my parents. Now they aren't allowed back and cost my parents the deposit. This is where I need help. I cannot do anything for them as I live 4 hours from home for college. My mom is ready to give up and I don't blame her. My dad thinks everything will get better with time but there's no way that's possible. My grandpa is so stubborn and my grandma is only getting worse. They need help and I don't know what I can do. I honestly think she won't make it another 6 months, and if she passes away, my grandpa won't have anyone left. Something needs to be done, but I need help figuring out what.

I love my grandparents dearly. My grandma isn't getting any better from her conditions and my grandpa (along with my dad) do not want to take any action with it. What can I do reddit? Thank you for reading :)

Freshman year, when my roommate (a good friend from high school) and I shared one tiny room, her boyfriend practically lived with us. We weren't supposed to have overnight visitors during the week. Not that I minded breaking the rules, but this kid would hide out in our room between the hours of midnight and 10 am almost every night. They would have sex while I was sleeping. And sometimes while they just assumed I was sleeping, and I actually wasn't. She would leave for class on days that I didn't have class for another few hours, and he would just lay up watching TV and eating my food while I was trying to sleep. And then, when I got up to get ready, he wouldn't even leave the room. I had to leave my own room to change clothes. He was whiny and insecure, jealous, and constantly went through my roommate's belongings to find validation for his distrust. For instance, while she was in class he would read her diary and by the time she got back, he would have worked himself into a frenzy over the guys she wrote about having crushes on in middle and high school. He constantly checked her Facebook and email for correspondence with other guys. And if a guy, even a long time friend, so much as commented on one of her pictures, he would take the liberty of deleting said guy from her friend list. Eventually he made her delete her Facebook altogether. She was a theatre major, and she loved it, but he would get pissed off if she left him long enough to go to auditions or rehearsals for shows. After the semester (in which she accomplished nothing, because he wouldn't let her participate in anything that had other guys involved), she transferred to his school and changed her major. The final straw was one day when, for at least the fourth or fifth time, he was texting her freaking out about a guy she used to like in eleventh grade, and how he couldn't trust her because she had written about him in her diary. I was in class, and she had the nerve to ask me (for the fourth or fifth time) to text him and tell him she didn't like this guy anymore and it was nothing to worry about. So, I told him to stop being immature and grow the fuck up, because he was getting pissed about things that happened before they even met , and... he made her "choose" between us. She chose him, and to this day she is not allowed to have friends aside from him and the people he hangs out with.

My freshman roommate's insecure, whiny, jealous bitch of a boyfriend treated her terribly all semester and made her choose between him and her life. Edit: Wow that's long. It's been awhile since I've vented, I suppose.

You just described my last three relationships. I knew all their passwords to phone, email, voicemail, etcetera, yet not once did I ever feel the need to go snooping through their shit. I didn't give a shit whether they went through mine or not; there was nothing to find because I'm not a cheater - never have been, never will be. On a slightly related note, had a friend a few years back who found a text on his gf's phone, thought it was "sketchy" from a dude, flipped shit at her about it and only then found out the message was actually from her female college roommate trying to comfort her after her grandfather had passed away. Neither was a lesbian or bi, and I'd met Max when she was in town a year before the couple had become a couple - she was just a nice girl being kind to her friend. He felt pretty stupid, but the damage was done. She couldn't trust him anymore, and no amount of apologies could bandage the situation. Broke up over something stupid and totally avoidable.

Don't go looking through your partner's private shit. If you look until you find something, you'll find something alright, but you may very well be dead wrong and unknowingly allow your jealousy to misinterpret something that fucks you out of a relationship.

My boyfriend and I met in college last year and have been together, on and off, for a little more than a year. We are long distance during semester breaks because he lives two and a half hours away. We've been on semester break for a bit more than a week now, and in that time we have only texted intermittently, and spoken on the phone once on Christmas Eve, when he was angry with me for feeling dissatisfied with the way our communication has been. Last night, I had asked him if he would have liked to finish out his Christmas playing video games and skyping with me, he agreed and said he was excited for it. However, in a fashion I've grown very accustomed to, he became distant and then when I said we shouldn't text anymore, he replied, "Soeey, busy". As it turns out, after he had agreed to spend time hanging out with me, two of his older sister's friends had come over and he wanted to drink with them. Of course, I was upset - mostly because there was complete abandon for my feelings. Something similar had transpired two days prior wherein I was attempting to communicate my dissatisfaction in the way communication had been going over the break. His friend came over and so the issues in the relationship had to go on hold. I feel like I'm falling out of love with him; I feel like he wants to be my boyfriend only during the semester. He insists that's not true, and that he loves me very much but I just don't feel like he's acting that way. I'm not asking for every second of every day, but at the very least make SOME time for me, and our relationship. Even though he keeps agreeing, I am consistently blown off. He continually cites the fact that he plans on picking me up on New Years Eve for a party at his house as proof of his dedication to the relationship. I feel like that may be true, but it isn't enough. As soon as I bring this up, however, I get accused of thinking he's hiding something from me. Although he HAS cheated, and emotionally so as recently as November, I've placed my trust in him and don't think that's what's going on here. I just think he would rather spend time hanging out with his friends than spend any time with me. What do I do Reddit? Do I just end things?

Feel like my long distance boyfriend doesn't care about spending time with me, and that the relationship is only important when it's convenient for him.

Keeping this short. A bit about me. I'm 24, and I've been looking to start a relationship, but I can't find anyone who is interested in me. I've tried online dating apps, and haven't ever received a message back. I've gone out with my guy friends, and they all seem to find someone worth talking to, and no one seems to want to talk to me. I do very much try to initiate the conversation as I know women for the most part prefer it like so. I know this is coming off as if I'm desperate/lonely/no confidence. I'm pretty happy, and have no issues in general. Just curious as to why I can't seem to do well in this area. Background: 24, 6'4", middle eastern, 180 lbs, take care of myself, some acne but nothing that I would think would be a deal breaker could be totally wrong on this Am I doing something wrong, or is simply just out of my hands at this point?

24, and I can't ever find anyone who is remotely interested in me. Tried multiple ways to find people/interact with them. People around me seem to do very well when we're out, and I'm just sitting there like..... ye.

Similar in theme to the OP's post, but my parents weren't rich in the traditional sense (they were effectively working class) and it's not quite as impressive a tale. The original PlayStation hadn't long been out and my folks said they'd do what they could to get me one for Christmas; I must have been about 10-11 at the time, so naturally, I assumed it was a given. (Because kids are stupid.) Having overheard me essentially bragging to friends that I was "totally getting one for this seasons reason to be jolly," for the next x months, they decided to teach me a lesson in humility. So come Christmas day, no PlayStation. (For the public record, I actually took it quite well. No tantrums or hissy fit!) Instead, my parents gave it to me on Boxing Day morning, having "discovered" a gift missed under their bed. It was my N64 kid moment amplified. Tears of salty joy exploded from prepubescent tear ducts -- and they tasted delicious! Ma and Pa had kept up the pretence for the whole festive day prior, explaining that “I should never take things for granted,” and other valuable life lessons taken from an after school special, painted as effective excuses. (Apparently, if I had reacted poorly, there were plans to return it, but I’m not sure that would have been as effective. Unless somebody lost an arm on the way to the store!) While not as impressive or moving a tale as some of the other responses in this thread, that short lived ‘comeuppance’ left an impression on me, and is something I will never forget. Should I ever have kids, I plan on using that same technique on them.

Spotting the early warning signs, my parents tricked me AT CHRISTMAS with an expected – but considerably late – present to end all presents; preventing me from ever growing up into some spoilt douche bag. (Just a verbose one.)

Honestly i'm here just to get some insight on the events that led up to my decision to end it with her once and for all and if I did it properly. Be prepared for a complicated story. I will try to condense as much as possible. So we started dating Freshman year of high school and we were going very steady till the end of senior year. We were accepted to two different universities in different states. We doubted our ability to maintain the long distance relationship so we decided to maintain communication but end the relationship. Eventually communication died out to non-existent until we both arrived back in our home town for Christmas break. Here everything picked back up like we were in a relationship again until we left for college. The cycle basically held its way all through freshman year and sophomore year. It changed this summer. She found a boyfriend and now they are going steady, so we try to just be friends and see how it went. I tried but it became very tense between us. I still had feelings for her, never stopped caring/loving her, but she says she didn't feel the same way but still wanted me in her life. 3 days into this we get into a heated argument and end the night with really wild sex. SHIT. She claims it was a freak accident and it will never happen again. Several weeks she starts "falling back in love with me" but we still can't do anything. A week past this date we start having physical relations and emotional relations. A month or so passes like this and she thinks she could see us living together for the rest of our lives after college, and I agree. The one problem is that she spends 8 months of the year in a different state and has a boyfriend there. I try to pretend that I am ok with this and that I can wait out the storm till after college. Tonight I burst, I was tired of her having a boyfriend and her telling me that she loves me and misses me and wishes she was with me. I told her i'm done talking to her. She claims that this will ruin our chances of being together after college and I said the fact that you have a boyfriend has ruined our chances after college.

Finally ended all communication with my high school sweetheart cause she was seeing me and another guy(that I knew about) while she was at college.

Depending on where you live, I might not be a great example. I attended college outside of Washington D.C. and my mother, God bless her, sent applications to like every government agency for me to become a summer student worker. I worked really hard and they liked me a lot and since I was local, they asked me to stay on board. I think it was 2004 or 2005 and I was making $16/hr or so; more than twice the minimum wage at the time. I moved all my classes to Tuesdays and Thursdays and went into the office 3 days a week. At one point I had 18 credits, a government job and an internship. I cried every day and was extremely stressed. Not many 22 year-olds worked so hard. After I graduated, I worked full-time but it wasn't in my field. During evenings and weekends, I volunteered and worked part-time in my field to keep myself competitive in my job search (I'm in marketing & PR). After a few years of cubicle life, I was over it. I realized that it was a death trap and NO ONE got out. People were literally DYING at their desks! I found my dream job on Craigslist. I perfected my cover letter, aced my interview and got a job working as a social media manager for a tech startup. We folded. I'm now Marketing Manager. I run my own department and hate my job-- but that's a story for another day. My parents are just impressed that I make "so much money" which doesn't go far because I live in DC and the cost of living is crazy high!

Get an office job, do good at it and they'll ask you to stay on board. Don't lose track of your career goals. Volunteer/Intern/work part-time in your field if you can. Have an awesome mom.

My boyfriend and I have recently moved in together after having only dated for 8 months, and this is the first night we've spent away from each other since the beginning of this month. As a gift, my boyfriend made me GIFs of a sexual nature and sent them to me in an imgur album. It was highly appreciated on my end, but the only thing that sort of bothered me was the date the album was made and the view count at the bottom of the screen. Imgur says the album was made 5 days ago, and the album already has 16 views. My boyfriend says he made the GIFs and the album just today, and it's a private album so we should be the only ones moving the view count up. This leads me to believe that he has sent these images to other girls online. Is it wrong for me to believe Imgur over my boyfriend? He has, for the most part, been honest with me, I think. He's sort of easy to read, so I can tell when he's lying when we're face to face, but now that we're apart again, it's different. He's also made it a recent habit to talk to girls on skype who post naked GIFs of themselves on 4chan. I've discussed this with him, and he got upset over it because I demeaned the effort he put into making this present, and as a result it makes him feel undesirable.

My boyfriend sent me a photo album of sexy pics, but there's (kind of) proof he may have shown them to other people already. Do I believe him when he says he didn't or do I go with the proof?

If it was deliberate theft, then you would be able to run a debit card as credit. At least in places where I've worked, bank cards can only be used for debit - as in, it's physically impossible to run it as credit in the POS system. Most banks give out debit/check cards now, which are supposed to be run as credit since a lot of banks will charge you per transaction if you make too many debit purchases or ATM withdrawals in a given month.

If a bank card has a credit card logo on it, it's a check card and it's supposed to be used primarily as credit. If there's no logo, it's impossible to run as credit in a lot of POS systems.

So we dated for 8 months and it was great, lots of love and support, I even helped her recover from an illness that left her hospitalized. Then we both go on separate trips for a month and the day I return she breaks up with me because her "career" involves lots of travel and it would be too difficult to maintain a relationship. This was four months ago, we hadn't spoken since then until today. Today she reaches out to check in and say she misses me. We talk on the phone for an hour and a half and I explain that I miss her too (I really did love the girl), but I cannot forgive her for leaving me during the most difficult time in my life (that's another story) and for questioning the integrity of my father. Part of me wants to tell her to go kick rocks because she bailed on me; I never felt her career and our relationship were mutually exclusive so I view the breakup as abandonment and if she regrets that decision tough shit go suffer(I realize that's spiteful, but still satisfying). Plus the comment about my father, at the time it was so infuriating I had no response, I had to just walk away too angry to make words. Unfortunately, i do love and legitimately miss her and would be glad to reconcile, but then she's not feeling the full consequence of her decision. I really really want to be spiteful, the only reasons I've been cordial is I'm afraid to burn that bridge, I know how satisfying spiteful ess would be, but I can't assess how much regret and doubt I'd carry after that. In fact that was my first instinct today, it took amazing self control to have a deeper reaction then spite. How can I deal with conflicting feelings of anger and love? Right now I have to power to dictate the terms and can either tell her to piss off or can recover a friendship maybe a relationship. I know I would enjoy rejecting her and letting her continue to regret her decision, but I cant decide if the pleasure I'd get out of spite outweighs the regret I'd have for not seeing this relationship through. Has anyone faced a similar situation? Were you spiteful or did you reconcile? **

GF left me 4 months ago and now regrets that decision; I can't decide if the satisfaction of reacting with spite outweighs the regret I'd have rejecting someone I love.

If the people who are making you feel uncomfortable about expressing what you really want are your friends....it might be time to find some new friends. If it is family, well, that can be a little more tricky. For example, maybe your friends don't want to go with you to a show because they don't appreciate that type of music. Well, go to the show anyway, and maybe you'll end up meeting someone there who DOES appreciate that genre. Then maybe that person would want to invite you to go to other shows together in the future with their friends who all like that type of music. Or, maybe you don't meet anyone new. You are still living your life in the way you see fit, not what someone else tells you is right. As far as your taste in women, honestly fuck what anyone else thinks. Nobody has any right to police your relationships like that. However, what it really boils down to is that this is your life. You only get one shot at this, and you should really pursue the things that make you happy. In the end, you might have to make some hard choices, but why waste time settling for second best when you know that you could feel more fulfilled with something else? I understand how hard this can be though, and I'm still struggling with it in some respects.

While it may not be the easiest thing, do what makes you happy and not necessarily what is expected of you. You will thank yourself later.

Im hoping someone can help me out. Last night, I came home from my girlfriend's and found a note on my door from my dad, asking me how dare I not say hi to him when he walked in a few days ago. I sent my girlfriend the summary of the note he wrote me and a we were talking about it, my dad came downstairs and yelled at me for what we were talking about(meaning he hacked into my facebook account and was reading my private messages) He told me for all he has done for me I should treat him better and that he works hard to help pay for my college and car insurance and I should listen to what he says because he works so hard for me. (I thank him regularly for paying and pay him what i can for both) After saying many things like I shouldnt say bad things about him(on facebook I was saying he was manipulative and child like) he ended it with telling me I have until tuesday to get new license plates and insurance, and I am paying for college myself from now on. Now I have accepted this, as he uses almost anything he buys/does for me as leverage to make me do things for him. The last things he said to me are "Youre just like your mother" and "Id be fine never talking to you again" How can I basically fix things so he isnt so mad anymore? So it wont be so tense around the house.

Had a fight with my dad over messages he read on facebook, and now its tense in the house and I want to fix that; how do i?

I just found about a week ago that my girlfriend of five years is pregnant. I know the kid is mine. I love my girlfriend and I am excited about her being pregnant. I am really looking forward to being a dad, we have the resources to raise a child ( I think), and I know she'd be a great parent. I am absolutely 100% excited and ready for this. The only problem that my girlfriend is 100% certain that she wants to be married when this happens. We have been together for 5 years and we have lived together for 4 years in a house we purchased together. I am not entirely sure I want to get married at this exact moment. It isn't that I don't want to marry her. I proposed, she has the ring, she said yes, we have future plans for it, but I want to make sure it is the right time. The pregnancy thing was an accident. We took some standard precautions but I don't think either of us took it too seriously ( I have a problem producing active sperm). She said she'd like us to get an abortion if we aren't getting married before the child is born. She comes from a family where being married before having kids the norm; I do too so I can understand her point. And I agree that it seems like the next logical step. We have the money, the support, I am sure she is one, but I suddenly and just in this very moment feel pressured. I mean, I want to marry her and I'd love to be married before the baby comes but I want it to develop naturally. She says she doesn't want to be a single mom and would prefer we enter parenthood as a "legal married entity". She talked to her sister, a lawyer, who told her all this stuff about how paperwork is easier, etc. if you are married. Anyway, she doesn't want me to tell any of our family or friends until 13 weeks because she has miscarried a few times but she is pretty certain she wants us to get an abortion (we have until 21 months in my state) and try again after we are married, if I am not ready yet. I am not sure what to do? Is it okay for me to ask her to keep this baby and we can get married later when things naturally progress there? She says if I am not ready yet I won't ever be but I really hate feeling that pressure. kinda hurt she isn't letting me have a little more say in this.

girlfriend wants me to marry her or us get an abortion and try again after we are married. I am not cool with the pressure.

I've been with a software consulting company for about 15 months now, I've been progressing steadily and gaining more responsibility, including a new hire that one other individual and I delegate tasks to. I was recently assessed for a raise, to which I received a 10% raise, bringing my salary from $70k annual to $77k annual. I recently just found out that the company reviewed their policy for new hires, so all new hires including my subordinate are all starting at $80k annual. I was happy with my salary until yesterday when I found out this information. It appears that the company values their new hires more than they value me. I am in-fact training my subordinate on how to do my job, when he is earning more than I! When it comes to skills, I have more seniority, more business and more technical experience. The boss (one of five partners in this 700-person company) I know somewhat personally, but he is at a completely different site and really is never available to talk over the phone. In a recent team meeting, he mentioned that any issues occurring with salary adjustments should be emailed to him, and I'm hoping to draft up that email tonight and send it in the morning. My big worry, as has been brought up by a coworker is that he will try to deflect the question to who told me their salary in an attempt to skirt my inquiry. I found out simply through other new hires not realizing that they are starting at a higher rate than I. What do I say in an email? I don't want to make myself out as a victim, but I don't want to give an ultimatum either. This really isn't the job for me in the long run, but I don't want to feel forced to get a new job immediately.

Looking for advice on what to say in an email to my boss, who is starting new hires at a salary higher than my own, and I'm their supervisor.

It's not that I don't feel I know my fiancé; I know that throughout our lives together we will always be growing and learning about one another. But we've never really talked about deeper subjects, like world view, philosophies, ideologies, etc. Over the course of three and half years, many thing shave come up naturally, but it's always out of necessity, not curiosity. It's natural for me to wonder what people think about these things, especially someone I'm close to. I've always thought it weird that he doesn't seem interested in what I think about these things. I've grown to realize that he's just not that type of person. I've always been interested in these topics, and I'll talk to anyone anywhere about the "what ifs" and my thoughts in life and the universe, and the world we live in. What scares me is that every once in a while, my fiancé will say something that startles me, and scares me. Often these are things so far from my thoughts, that I feel a complete disconnect from him. I like that we are different people, and we certainly don't have to agree on everything, but there are certain topics I would think life partners should be relatively close on. He's just not really a talker, but I think it's important that we breech some bigger topics that reveal core aspects of ourselves. Questions being: 1) How important do you think it is that we talk about these things? 2) How do I encourage these discussions without it being too unnatural, and with him being comfortable and interested. (Yes, that may be asking too much) Any other thoughts or advice is welcome! Thanks.

Fiancé doesn't care to talk about topics that I find important and I'm worried we don't know each other in a deep way that life partners ought to.

So my girlfriend has told me repeatedly she doesn't want to go to prom, she's more of the shy type and less outgoing so I understand. I'm more social and I think that prom is a very important experience for a first world teenager so I most definitely want to go. In addition, I wouldn't want to go alone so I told my girlfriend that I would go with a female friend. She instantly got very offended and didn't speak to me for a while. Afterwards I apologized for being "unreasonable", and she said she forgave me. We haven't addressed this issue since. Am I actually being unreasonable? What should I do to readdress this issue?

Girlfriend doesnt want to go to prom, but is extremely offended when I suggest going with another female friend because i don't want to go alone. What do I do?

My uncle and his wife and kids are a bunch of greedy ass attention seeking twatburgers. When my grandmother passed all we could hear about was them wondering who got what in her will. Their daughter wasn't near as upset as I was until she saw people comforting me because I was devastated. That's when she started acting upset too. Before she was running around, laughing, and being a total spaz. My family and I went to visit last summer and I was so done with him. He had been being a royal dick all day. I got a tattoo last April for my grandmother, the one who passed, who I am technically not even related to(I'm half adopted) and my Grandpa was asking to see it. So I show him and the minute I do, my uncle is shoving his new, irrelevant, stupid tattoo in his face. And whenever my grandpa would try to ask me about mine, he'd start talking about his before I could even answer. And then my grandpa asked about college and we got to hear all about my uncle's college experience and the college he works at now. And then my other grandmother(my grandma who passed divorced my grandpa and they both remarried) started asking me about boys and so we got to hear about my cousin's lack of a love life from my uncle. Finally, the last straw, my parents brought graduation pictures of me and were showing my grandparents when what does Uncle Jon do? He whips out his iPhone and shows them pictures of my cousin graduating middle school, which they saw her graduate middle school. Finally, I looked at him and said, "Your daughter's got four years to go before she really graduates. This was a real graduation" in the most bitchy tone I could. He shut up.

My uncle is an asshole and I put him in his place after he spent the day making everything about him when my grandparents were asking about me.

I've been dating this girl for almost a year now and I'm coming to realize she's not the right one. We have different values, morals, backgrounds and beliefs. This is a problem for us because we're not on the same page about a lot of things, yet we just seem to over look them. She thinks that we can work things out forever. I know that we can't because you can't change a person forever.I've met her family and I don't want to be involved in their drama and my parent surely don't want to accept her as we're culturally total opposites. I thought I loved her, but the more I realized how different we were, the less I started to believe we were right for each other. I want to end things peacefully because I still care about her and I don't want her to fall into depression. Her heart isn't strong as mine and I know breaking up with her would tear her apart (I'm her first bf). She will likely need to withdraw from school and quit her job if I break up. How can I end things properly to make things peaceful? I'm trying to think of ways for her to break up with me, but I can't.

I want to break up with my gf, but want to do it in a way where she won't fall into depression and hurt herself.

Hey, 25 year old male here. Just a few hours back, I've had the worst phonecall I've ever had to endure. My SO for 7 years, my best friend and the love of my life (I always thought of her like this) decided to break up with me. To make things worse, she did it on the phone. When I bursted out in tears, she hung up on me. She called me back a few minutes later but I physically shut down and couldn't utter a single word. I hung up aswel, fell down to my knees and cried. After that emotional outburst, I tried calling her back, texting her and emailing her for me to atleast get some closure. I feel like after atleast 7 years, she owed me this much. I've got told she couldn't because it would be too hard for her to talk to me. I felt even worse that I've been denied an explanation after being dumped. I've just told one friend and I haven't even told him the specifics. I've been drinking heavily since then and I've been sitting behind my pc ever since. I'll give you some additional information. She is 23, I am 25. I decided not to persue my lifelong dream of becoming a doctor because she was pressuring me into living together. So this September, I decided to not enroll in medicine and start looking for a job, after finishing a professional bachelor. I've started with deleting facebook and all of our pictures together. It doesn't matter how much I loved this person, in the end it destroys me inside and it can't keep looking into those eyes if I want to get over her. Please, /r/BreakUps, I beg of you, give me some tips. I want to get over her, I want to feel better soon. Realistically soon, that is.

Got dumped after 7 years by (now) my ex girlfriend. Over the phone. EDIT 1 : I just found out she's been talking to her ex boyfriend and they have made plans to meet up. I feel so stupid. I'm so stupid.

I worked for a steel foundry. We built major parts for CAT. Well, if anyone knows what a Quarry truck is, we casted the drive train wheels. These bad boys were around 5 tons. They cost $50,000 a piece. I had the privilege over 6 months to, work on them not only in Grinding and Molding, but inspection as well. Every time I would work on one I am talking 3 hours of grinding for one. So many cracks, and sand pockets from the molds. They were horrendous. Well, to shorten the story. I was moved to inspection do to my grinding ability ( good eye ). I was their for 2 months, in that two months I sent back more parts than any inspector has since the factory opened. I refused to allow a defect through. Something my Shift super didn't like. So he ends up asking me if I want to try out the poor deck. I say yes, we had a fight a few nights before when he confronted me on making "him look bad". I had informed another shift super that he was trying to make me push through bad parts because he said " the machine shop will fix the problems". If anyone here has worked on these types of things, you'd know a pin hole could be a baseball size hole under the surface. So shortening again. It comes out that this shift super has been doing this. Cat comes in to inspect and a bunch of stuff happens. Turns out of the 500,000 wheels produced, all 500,000 were bad. Do the math, 500,000 at $50,000 apiece. That's a $25,000,000,000 fuck up for those who were wondering. All because of a jackass wanting to look good by having high tonnage numbers.

I had a dumbass supervisor that pushed through bad parts to look good for higher tonnage numbers. This caused 500,000 parts at $50,000 a piece to be recalled. $25,000,000,000 fuck up

Most people I know seem to have a feeling like they don't really know what they are doing, even the ones doing the best. It's kinda odd to think that the whole world is just winging it. At 16 I had a similar life plan to what I have now at 24, go to college, get a degree in Computer Science(or something similar), work in software development(or something similar), have at least a few friends after college, find a wife and have some kids. I'm at the "find a wife" part now and doing ok. So my ambitions and goals haven't changed much. I think I had some "pie in the sky" kind of dreams that I wasn't planning on achieving like being in the NFL or an astronaut, but those were pure fantasy even then. What I hadn't thought about at 16 is the level at which you really are on your own once you aren't in school or living with your parents. Bills, food, medical care, rent, and every other expense must be covered by you or you'll lose what you have. Responsibility is something most people learn by force, not by choice. You'll see a fair amount of people have to grow up and mature extra quick because of financial troubles, legal troubles, surprise kids, etc, try not to be one of them. You'll also see a fair amount of people refuse to accept personal responsibility and leach off parents and friends. The first big, "Oh shit, this is the real deal" moment for people can be a trying moment. One problem you won't see immediately, because it takes years to get severely out of control, is financial mismanagement and debt. Lots of younger people really have no concept of how quickly credit cards and loans can bury you in debt. Even the "responsible" debt like student loans will bury you if you let it. I have some friends who just barely scrape by, some even only by the virtue of public assistance. Nobody that isn't close to you gives a shit about you, and the ones that are close need to take care of themselves. On the upside, you really are the one controlling yourself at that point. Don't like where you live? Move! Don't like your job? Start looking for a new one! Don't like religion? Stop practicing! Wanna eat sweets, go vegan, or eat bacon every day? Sure, go for it! Want 1000 channels and the fastest internet? Call and have it set up! Want to date that crazy looking girl with the tats and piercings? Sure, why not!? Want a new car? Fuck it, where do I sign!? Nobody can really tell you no. You make your own decisions. Sure, a lot of these choices can break you and fuck up your life, but the right ones can make life seem great.

The world can be tough. Decisions have real consequences. On the upside, you make the decisions as an adult and can shape your own life completely.

When you're in a deep sleep, to you, it feels like minutes or seconds have passed Actually, if you're referring to dreamless or coma-like sleep, it feels like an instant. Other than that, I share the exact same belief as you do. >

you die then wake up as a cat. What if there is/was/will be a civilization out there that instead of making babies, they create adult beings with cultural knowledge already stored in their memory? Imagine waking up as that.

So me and my girlfriend have been with each other for over two years and were both each others first serious partners. We lost our virginity to each other and we have been with each other through every major event of our lives in recent memory. I being a highschool senior will be attending a university roughly four hours from where me and my gf live so not super close but not far compared to where some people go. Deciding to go away has been hard enough on me and sometimes I feel overwhelmed by stress and my girlfriend just makes the situation so much worse. As the school year comes to a close she cries more and more frequently and wants to talk about it. The problem is all she does when we "talk about it" is cry and make me feel like shit for going away. I understand that she is going to miss me and this is harder for her than me but I can't handle all the negativity. I feel like she is going to ruin college for me because of her constant negative comments. We are almost never happy anymore because she can't go a day without bringing up how miserable she is going to be and I don't handle it well. I'm always losing sleep over it and I get angry at her (possibly unjustifiably) for always getting us both worked up about it. I don't think I can handle her doing this much longer but any time I ask her to tone down to college talk she complains that I'm being selfish and she NEEDS to talk about it. I honestly think she is unknowingly sabatoging our relationships because I would be much more inclined to make it work if she was reasonable about me going away. I'm still going to try to make it work but it's so difficult with her panicking about it all the time. Well Reddit I need your help because I don't know how to address this issue without my girlfriend feeling like I am disregarding her feelings but I don't know how to handle this.

my girlfriend provides nothing but negativity about me going to college and it is adding to my massive amount of stress. Want to stay together but don't know how to get her to calm down.

So I met this girl around four weeks ago. We hit it off immediately and I got her number. We started texting each other, and Skyping from time to time, and I can honestly say I really like her. We quickly became extremely good friends and have actually started dating as of this past Monday. She told me when we first met that she had a boyfriend who moved away around five months ago. They have been together for ten months. He has a form of mental problem where he has severe anxiety attacks, and was on heavy medication when I met her. At some point after he moved away, he vanished for two months without a trace. She couldn't contact him and just gave up. She said he was in a hospital for that period of time. She moved on and started seeing other guys. When he came back she told him about her seeing other guys, and he forgave her. They were together once again. She also has some form of..issue. If she gets upset she can barely breath and has to take a while to calm down. I've had family members that have had similar things happen to them, so I know how to calm her down decently fast. With that all said, I really like her and she admitted to really liking me as well. I told her before we started dating, that if we were going to be together, she had to break up with her current boyfriend. Only problem with that is that he vanished off the face of the earth a week ago. Last night, she told me that she still had very strong feelings for him. She also told me that she had fallen in love with me. I told her that I loved her too, and also said that she needed to make up her mind on who she wanted to be with. I do love her, but I also wouldn't be very surprised if she chooses him over me. If she does, I don't want to stick around at all. I don't really want to set her off, but there isn't really a way to just exit someones life without it hurting. Maybe I'm thinking too far ahead.. I just care what happens to her, and I don't want her to go through me just up and leaving.

GF has a long distance BF that vanished for 2 months, came back and now he is gone again. She doesn't know who to choose, and I don't know if I am entirely comfortable with her picking him.

You aren't missing out on much. High School is where you go to make mistakes, and you can be forgiven for all your mistakes until you're 18 (legal adult). I spent most of my time riding my bmx bike between towns smoking pot. ~5 miles between each town. I lived in a rural area, and there was always beer to drink and pot to smoke. I never did anything meaningful, except maybe make forts out of the local abandoned trailers. Which were eventually taken down, because we would consolidate all the good and useful things and occupy one room. I played a shit ton of video games. I did party a bit, but I got bored of some of the big "bangers". I much preferred hanging out with a few friends sitting around a camp fire. Like I said, I lived in a very rural area, the local cops never ran us in for underage drinking. But to more thoroughly answer your High School question, I didn't have many friends until my freshman year. But it seemed to me that every friend you make, there are two people that are your enemy. It's mostly bullshit drama. I never did my homework, and was twice as smart as half the kids who landed honor roll. I'm not an intellect by any means, though. I was always in trouble, and I was always talking my way out of trouble. My principal told me I should be a lawyer, because I was getting out of trouble just as much as I was getting into it. Don't worry about making friends, people cling to their "groups". I was part of a phenomena in school. All the floaters from every different group slowly started to correlate, it grew from maybe 8 of us who were really tight but all from different social, and economic backgrounds, to a few hundred strong. We were probably considered the weird kids, or punk kids by my guess. Most of the people you know in High School aren't going to account for shit in the real life.

I was a loner, had very few close friends. Didn't care about school work, or being successful. High School = Drama. Drama = Bullshit. Smoked pot on a daily basis, drank frequently, rode my bike hundreds, maybe thousands of miles.

A few days ago, my roommate and his girlfriend went to visit a park and came home to tell me the following: They were at Rising Park (Lancaster, OH) enjoying a nice date. The park is the most notable feature of the entire town, and is essentially a mountain (or hill) with a trail to the top (10 minute walk). Nothing big. When they got to the top of the hill they were looking out over the town when the old man approached them. He was with his dog, and carried a camera as well. My roommate told me the man was very awkward and timid. He simply asked to take their photos (creepy as hell, right?) because it was his favorite hobby to do in the park. All the photos he took would be uploaded onto his website, and if they wanted them for Facebook or whatever, they could access them free of charge. He took their picture and he and his dog parted ways down the hill. Then... Once my roommate got home, we checked out his website ( My heart dropped. At the bottom of the webpage, he tells his life story and his connection with the park once he lost his wife and only person he ever cared about. Here's an excerpt: >"I return to the same places of business. It must make me feel connected. I think I am driving em bonkers. When I go to a store or to get gas, I have to pay to talk to some one for a few seconds but there are lots of people at the park. I love it there, it is full of people having fun, being nice to strangers and puppies getting lots of pets." His entire story is beautiful and heartwarming. If you have the time, give all his stuff a look. I've never met the man in my life before, but there is an urgency that I do something this summer to simply bring some more joy into what is seemingly a "boring life." So, fellow Redditors, what do you suggest? I'm young and broke. I can't offer any material things. Coordinating things is my strong suit, and I can network very well. Does anyone have any suggestions for how me and some friends could brighten his day?

Man lost wife and finds only connection to his "old life" in the joy that a park brings him. Most people are afraid of him, but he's just misunderstood. I want others to see how wonderful he really is, and want to be around him.

When I was fifteen my abusive mother tried to break my TV and Super NES. When I stopped her she took the doorknob off my door. When I pushed her out and held the door shut she took the pins out of the hinges. When I wedged the door into the frame so it would stick, she started hitting me in the ribcage with a stick through the hole where the doorknob had been. The whole ordeal had taken about three hours and I was trying to hold out until my Dad got there. They were divorced and seeing my Dad was the highlight of my life. Unfortunately, I turned into the fucking angel of wrath when she started hitting me. I yanked the stick away, shattered the door into pieces as I came through it to get at her and I struck her once on her ample left buttock with the same stick she'd hit me with. I didn't think to call the police for child abuse, but she called to report an assault. I was arrested by two condescending cockholes and charged with Battery Second. This happened on a Friday, spent Easter weekend in lockdown at Juvy. When Dad got there he screamed at the entire family for several hours and I think he heavily implied that if they didn't get that shit cleared up there'd be an unending wrath leveled on them. When my hearing came, it took the judge about twenty seconds to figure out the problem. He ordered a psych eval of both myself and my mother, ordered us both into counseling. I had one year probation, at the end of which he dismissed the charges and "wiped them." The aftermath of this event is what taught me that my mother's IQ is 50 points lower than mine, and she lacks the wherewithal to understand the world. And I will hate her until the day I die.

When I was fifteen my mother assaulted me with tree branch, I hit back and she called the cops. Spent Easter in lockdown. Battery Second. Punishment included psych evals that showed a 50-IQ-point gap between mother and I, which likely led to the conflict.

To keep a long story short, my [20f] first love [24m] broke up with me 8 months ago. We stayed friends after the break-up, but I feel that may end soon because he has been acting distant towards me. As if he doesn't care for my company. He's been playing around on tinder for awhile now and went on a date with a beautiful, smart, and apparently really cool girl and I think that is the cause of his change of attitude maybe. Recently we were together and he briefly mentioned the date and said "I don't know how much I want a girlfriend, but if I start to really like this girl we won't be able to hang out anymore. I'm just letting you know." He said it like it was nothing. I pretended to understand and not care but of course it bothered me. I understand us being friends is not helping the healing process at all, but the fact that we are neighbors and have mutual friends makes ignoring him somewhat difficult. Also it's hard because he is honestly the only person in this town that knows me the best. I made mistakes in the relationship I wish I hadn't, but I have grown from them and know to not make them again in future relationships. If I even have any. Anyway, my biggest problem is the pedestal I have always had him on. He is easily the most intelligent guy I have ever known. He's in medical school currently. Not only that but he's incredibly funny, outspoken, kind hearted, and good looking. Not to mention the sex was amazing. I'm so convinced that I will never find anyone better than him ever and it really brings me down. I feel like he was the peak of what I will ever get and I hate it. I guess I'm just looking for some comfort/input.

Have kept my first love that I kept a friendship with on a pedestal ever since we broke up and am pretty sure I will never get anyone better than him in my life.

Every 3 months I get a $3,750 bonus and all the rest of my paychecks are $990 (net) every 2 weeks. I provide the net amount because I have child support taken out and gross amount is $1730 but I don't see a lot of it. Really my question is what percentage of my income should be spent on rent? And should I include my bonuses as part of that income for budgeting purposes? Also, I make commission but I want to save all commission money.

I make 990 net every 2 weeks but 1490 net every 2 weeks if you include quarterly bonus. How much should I spend on rent?

Probably not going to get read, but in 11th grade I really fucking hated my history teacher and her class. It was honestly terrible, we just got hand outs and were expected to fill them out off the top of our heads all class, then go home and read the chapter so we could do it all again the next day. So I went to class every day until the last month of class, when I started using up my skips. Once you go past 27 you fail the class, so i waited until the 28th to last day of school and just stopped going, figuring i'd go to class at least 2 more days for the rest of the year. This is where it starts to get retarded. Two weeks in, my teacher notices I haven't been in for a while, and thinks this apparently is a drastic change in behavior (which in all fairness, it is, and though technically allowed, just isn't done) and decided to call my mom about it. Instead of saying I havent been to class in 2 weeks, she tells my mom that she's pretty sure I've been dealing drugs. Why she thought drugs, I have no idea. I had barely done any drugs in my life at this point, and it was a complete shock when I came home to an intervention. She also told my mom I was in danger of failing the state test (Spoiler: I got a 99%) so my mom ended up trying to get me a tutor, which I flatly refused. When I decided it was time for me to get those last 2 classes in so I wouldn't lose credit for the course, the teacher kicked me out saying she doesn't want me to be able to skip almost 4 weeks straight and still get credit for this class. Turns out, it's not up to her if I'm entitled to an education (WEIRD) and so I went to the principal and took a detention for skipping classes, and was actually allowed to finish the year.

Skipped 2 weeks of classes, teacher jumps to crazy conclusions, tries to make me fail the course, I finish the course with a 97 average.

I found that my ex-SO whom I have moved state/province for, and breaking up 6months later, has listed herself as available on online dating sites within a week after we broke up. I took the initiative and created a profile that I thought she'd might be in to, and I have her interest. Now that I have her hooked, all I want to do is catch the surprise on her face when I get to arrange the first meeting where I show up. We didn't leave on the best terms, so I feel this might be an angle to shock and surprise her into facing me and talking things over face to face. How bad can this get?

Found my ex-SO online dating profile a week after breaking up and got her interest in a fake profile, not sure how the date will go...

No idea if this will help me at all - feeling like what is the lowest point of my god damn life right now. Currently sat here drinking beer alone after what is potentially the lowest weekend of my life (and its only Friday/Saturday Morning). Currently mulling over the urge of just destroying my room in a fit of rage or whatever the hell I feel like, just because am that damn low right now. My situation is this: 21 year old virgin, who goes out all the time to improve my social skills (been doing this for 3+ years). Have read all the pickup nonsense that exists on the internet (rsdnation mofo's!) to a point where I don't think reading anymore advice will actually do me any good. No matter how many times I try an go out, I simply cannot approach any girls and thus suck when those 'few' chances come my way just through lack of experience. Through my early teenagehood I was very shy, and didn't think of self-development and social skills at all, until I was around 17 when I released my lifestyle (mainly consisting of WoW herp derp) wasn't going anywhere and since that day I have been fighting a constant battle against a voiding depression while trying in vain to improve myself. My small social circle sometimes involves a few girls, and despite myself being aware of the common error of mistaking neediness for love (mainly through experience) I still cannot get over the neediness and pain I get when a girl who originally shows interest in me, decides to go elsewhere. In the case of tonight that elsewhere is one of my best friends, who has gone to fuck her tonight. (A note: Even though i'm fucking convinced i'm "Cooler" than this friend, but what does it fucking matter) Though logically I would love to have the abundance that successful pickup skills have to offer I simply don't have that and am thus susceptible to these kind of heart-wrenching emotions that come with these situations, especially after hearing about these facts early on in the night, and then going on to do nothing 'in field' so to speak, which is low enough to reflect on without the plight of another opportunity in my social circle flying just over my god-damn head. I have no idea what i'm expecting to get from this post, mainly just some words to stop me from destroying my currently rather nice room. I guess after so much time constantly feeling this way i'm kind of at an end point where i'm drinking on my own (never done this before) and posting on Reddit. I thank you with all my heart for reading :)

Been working on my social skills for 3 years, no progress. Still getting really hung up over the odd girl who shows interest in me then moves on. Really fucking depressed right now.

ok so i had massive life epiphany about 4 months ago that resulted in me [27yo] deciding to quit my job (electrical engineer) and roam around the world for a new place to live (particularly somewhere i can learn and speak Spanish). although keeping on the downlow my one true love of my life who is my best mates sister finds out (she picked up and moved to paris just over a year ago). Now background on this relationship: we are fucking amazing together. we dated when we were younger for 2.5 years and always circled around each other since. we have hooked up few times before and she has previously thrown water on everything. she is the one girl i measure all others by and she said i am the one guy she measures all other guys too. SO! while preping to quit and move away she starts msg saying all this stuff about how we are connected (which is true and to which i totally agreed to) and i promise to meet her while she is holidaying in sth of france and go back up to paris for a while after. nervous as a motherfucker at the airport we see each other for the first time in years and litrally can not let each other go. we spend the night talking and making out (totally cliche ay!) and admit that we are in love with each other. id say about 3 days pass in this great state before things start getting strange, the thing about being so close to someone is that you can tell when things are up, but no one likes feeling exposed like that. so she basically starts subtly pushing me away.. pretty upsetting. we go back up to the city of lights and things just get even stranger. she just keeps pushing me away in what she thinks is very subtle way. so sat her down last night and had "the conversation". basically agreeing that we are each others soulmates (i know she wasnt lying) but she says that she doesnt feel the feelings of a lover/relationship. she says i am her perfect man and she doesnt know why she is not feeling it and hates that she is not. i want her so bad this crushes me. So i am in Paris having been fatally friendzoned, im staying somewhere else and all i can think to do is run, to leave this forsaken city. i have replied to a few msgs and she wants to see me again before i leave on saturday for some big light show outside of the city. I dont know what to do. stick around, be sympathetic in the hope that once the dust settles (in a few months maybe) she might find these feelings. or run- cut contact and run. not even do groomsman duties for her brothers wedding later this year...

fatally friendzoned in paris by the girl i love [m27, f25]. i want to run, she wants to see me again. do i cut all ties and run, do i stay; not cut sick in the hope of things eventually working out??

Background info: As part of my job I've been staying in a different country for the past 5 years. My relationship with my brother has watered down quite a lot during this time. I've not spent as much time with his girlfriend as the rest of my family, so I'm a bit of an outsider to the situation. Story: I have one brother, David, who has been in a relationship with his girlfriend Alyse for around 4 years now. Their relationship has been throughout this time quite tumultuous and included a fair amount of drama. Because of this drama, the relationship between my family and Alyse is not that great. Moreso because Alyse also had some heavy arguments with my parents. Because of the fights between her and my family, he is not so close anymore to my parents. And since I'm not around we're not that close either. I've tried to improve contact with my brother at different points, but to no avail. My brother and Alyse just had another big fight and as a result 'they' decided that my brother David will remove all his social media accounts - which happen to be my main way of contacting him. This means that I won't be able to directly contact my brother anymore, other than through Alyse, because she still keeps hers. I believe she is trying to control him, and I've seen her get upset when even the slightest things don't go her way. When I'm around I also notice that she is constantly putting my brother down. From my point of view I find their relationship to be really toxic, but I think telling him wouldn't help anything. I'm afraid that this latest happening is just another step of isolating my brother more and more from the world and I really don't know what to do. Please help.

I suspect that my brother's girlfriend is isolating him from the world and I'm afraid I lose complete touch with him. I live in another country so I don't see him much. What can I do?

Buried, I'm sure, but back in high school when I was a junior, there was a freshman girl who joined the fencing team that I was on. I had always seen her around before she joined, and honestly, just like everyone else, I just thought she was really awkward and strange. Once the season started, people on the team would make fun of her but I typically kept my mouth shut. After a while, I found out that she was having trouble in History class, something that I had gone through when I was a freshman as well. I knew how to get through history, so I offered to tutor her. To keep it short, after I started, she was getting As on all the coursework, and she started being more relatable to other people. She came out of her shell and learned to be herself, and she ended up with a lot of good friends. One day when I was at my locker, pretty much alone, our dean of students came up to me and said something along the lines of, "I just wanted to thank you for how much you've helped Elizabeth. Ever since you took her under your wing, she has made so many more new friends and she's excelling in all her classes." I nearly cried. I had always been my own person, and had a few close friends, but never many good friends at my high school. I felt pretty useless there, to be honest. I never knew I would have so much of an impact on her, and she's now one of my best friends. She's still quite quirky, but people love her for it. She and her family also really appreciated everything to the highest degree. I'm glad I could help her learn to be herself and help her go against the reputation she had as the "awkward, socially challenged, weird one." I love her to death and I'm proud of everything she's done. Wrote my college essay on her over three years ago, I can't explain how much it meant to me.

Tutored a weirdo freshman who had very few friends, she came out of her shell and people started liking her and she aced all her classes. I was thanked by the dean of students for being there for the girl and helping her become more accepted.

Here's the deal. I dont really know the guy but he used to go to the same highschool as me. Today I was looking on my phone and his BBM (BlackBerry Messenger) picture was him posing with two assault rifles and a handgun. His status was "99 Days <3 - Fuck shit up" and on his Facebook he has a bunch of shit like "Fuck my life" and other stuff which for the most part wouldn't be that bad but the fact hes only like 16 years old and has guns freaks me out. I'm not sure what to do because he claims the guns are his and that he has a lot of shit to fuck up yet I dont know if he's just trying to play some cruel joke or something... Please let me know how I should approach this... (Doesnt really concern me, I just dont want another Columbine or Virginia Tech incident where hundreds die because of some kid with teen angst)

Strange kid has guns and I have reason to believe he might use them on people If more proof is needed, let me know, I'm not trolling...

Few month ago I started a relationship with one ex-gf. Now she said me that she love me, but I think I just like her. I think it is nor fair for her so few weeks ago I think broke with her, obiously I want to do it face to face because last time she broke with me she did it by sms. The problem was that we just met 3 times since I thonk this, one the day before christmas, the other the first of january and the last the day we had our aniversary. I had no courage to broke with her in one of this days and we will met tonigth (here are 4:26pm) I want to broke with her in the best way that is possible if it exist, and do it before we go to our diferent islands in 3 days. I can tell her the truth or tell her something about the distance.

Tell her that I don't fell the same, excuse with something about the distance, other options Sorry for my english, if you don't undertand something ask and I will write it in other way

My mother died when I was nine. She used to read me a book which contained two poems. One was a poem a mother said to her son as he grew old. The second poem is the grown son's response to his dying mother. As soon as I turned 18 I got the second poem in my own handwriting. It makes me happy.

tattoo for dead mom It is my only tattoo but I have several more planned including a steampunk cyber-organic power switch, a Black-Eyed Susan sleeve, and both of my parents names.

I believe a totally different theory about FF8's apparent plotholes. This is not a simplified theory, it is a story which for me, has filled in most or all of the blanks in the FFVIII storyline, particularly those surrounding Griever and Ultimecia and sorceresses in general. Part of it is very NSFW, and there is even a sequal that's important to the complete theory. [here is the link]( It's one of my favorite fanfictions ever. In fact, my internet name, Noddwyd, comes from one of the stories in this series. I love it that much. Also really like the author, Larathia. if you'll probably never have the time to read it, here is a piss poor

It is basically about the metaphysical connection between Sorceress and Knight, and how that can eventually grow to them becoming a trinity type consciousness that forms a Guardian Force, and that all GFs are and were created this way.

I'm 17 and working on finishing my last quarter of high school. I graduate May 21 and I'm not prepared for the rest of my life. I don't have a job, as my parents advised not to have one while in high school. That was bad advice, imo because now I'm nearly a legal adult and don't know how to get a job or what that's even like. I'm incredibly terrified of driving. I turned 16 almost two years ago and still don't have my license. I took my driver's test a couple weeks ago and failed. I'm set to take it again May 4. Hopefully I don't fail to yield and nearly hit someone in an intersection again. Other than that, I'm coping with some serious depression. Or maybe it's light depression and I just can't take it. I spend a lot of time laying in my bed watching movies on my phone. But I also try and hang out with my friends when possible, so I should be okay. I want to be a screenwriter or filmmaker or comic book writer. I try to write as much as possible, but I don't think I'm very good at it right now. It can feel like I'll never get better which is discouraging, but I try to remember I've still got college to help me prepare for a career. So that's it.

I'm graduating and I'm scared. I need a job. I'm scared to get my driver's license. I'm depressed. I want to write movies/TV shows/comic books.

I work in one of those new-fangled Food Trucks like you see on TV (eat street, that sorta thang). There was this fundie bitch wearing a "jesus saves" shirt, and she grudgingly asked me for a veggie dog. Paid in quarters, nickels, and dimes, despite tax being included in the prices (veggie dog was exactly $3- price jacked up because we were at an event). My dad was gone away for about 10 minutes, and left me to tend to the food and counter with a line building. This monster of a woman had me count out her $3.15 in small change. I kept the 15 cents and gave her a regular all-beef hot dog.

Woman orders a veggie dog, makes me count out small change while busy and working by myself, I give her a regular beef hot dog

I met this guy on tinder and we clicked so well that its incredible! we like the same music, movies and everything. After a bad break up I had earlier this year, I feel like when I saw this guy on tinder I was instantly attracted to and hes pretty into me as well. The only problem is that I guess he was passing through for me to have been able to see him on tinder since he lives about 250 miles away from me in a different state. Thats a 5 hour drive from each other, so my question is would you pursue a person that far from you after clicking so well? We havent met yet but it really bums me out that he could actually be a great match for me but the drive kills me.

Guy I met on tinder really clicks with me and we are much in common, hes attractive and sweet but the only problem is that we live 5 hours apart. Would you pursue someone youve never met this far a distance?

This dates back to mid 2011 or so. I was evicted from an apartment with a then boyfriend for nonpayment of rent. The short of the story is that he stole my money, didn't pay the rent, and dumped me when I was in another state via text. He did eventually return it to me but only after eviction. I'd like to pay the debt off as I'm in a financial position to do so now. When I do this, is it possible to have it removed from public record before a ten year mark I seem to keep seeing pop up? The apartment complex originally told me if the debt was settled, they would make the eviction go away. But, I'm not sure how that's possible on their part considering there was an actual court judgement against me. I realize that I most definitely will need to contract an attorney, but I'm wondering if it's possible to have the record expunged, what I should be looking for in legal counsel that I hire [who specializes in this business], and the time I should expect this to take. I'm trying to give myself a financial timeline for solving this problem.

Help, I got evicted because of bad life choices a few years ago. Can I get it expunged? What kind of lawyer do I need?

My boyfriend and I have been together for a little over two years now. We've been through hell and all the troubles relationships can bring but I find myself stuck at this problem we've continually had over the course of our relationship.. Constantly saving nudes of other girls, whether it's porn stars, webcam girls, models, celebs, random girls snapchat nude leaks on the internet.. I get it, guys watch porn and have fantasies, that's fine, I don't mind the porn as much, we've even watched it together before too. But it just really bothers me, constantly Ive seen him having nudes of other girls.. I think it mainly stems from this one situation we had, we were constantly fighting for a few months and I foundout he was saving snapchats (even saving their videos) of his friends that are girls', pictures of them if they were in biknis or showing off their cleavage. He said he did it to spite me or to feel guilty about something, but he's confessed to masturbating to his friend's selfies and pictures before. He said he doesn't do it anymore but I just don't understand why he has to save all these random girl's nudes when he knows it bothers me. We've been alot better than ever before too, traveling more, we have sex alot and it's great too. We fight here and there but its quickly resolved after. I know it might be insecurities too just seeing him save picture of girls more attractive than I am, having huge boobs and perfect bodies. He knows and "understands" how much this hurts me but he still continues to do it.. I dont know what to think anymore. Im trying to not give a fuck and not get into his privacy but it just bothers me.

Is it normal for guys to save other nudes of girls? Why do you do it? Would you stop if it really bothered your significant other?

I bought Taco Bell through the drive thru and drove to a parking lot to eat it, because I just moved in with new roommates and I don't want to be "that guy" who brings home Taco Bell and stinks up the whole house. Now I want to find a parking spot in between two cars, to remain hidden from the public and not be seen as "that guy" eating Taco Bell in a random parking lot. Alas, I pull right in behind an occupied sedan, a middle-aged brunette sitting in the front seat. "Fuck," I say, and hope she leaves soon. She doesn't. I don't want to get out and walk into the store, as I don't need anything from Home Depot, I just want to eat my Taco Bell. "Fuck it," I say, and pull out one of my two still-hot Dorito Loco Taco Supremes. I sit there four four minutes eating the taco, occasionally glancing at the woman's rear view mirror to see if she is watching me. Not that I can tell. But I crumple up the wrapper and drive off, saving my remaining taco and burrito for a new parking spot.

Unintentionally creeped on a woman in a Home Depot parking lot while munching on a Dorito Loco Taco Supreme that I wanted to eat in secret.

I have a brother who is about ten years older than me. This happened when I was fourteen at the time, and didn't learn about the full extent of the events that happened until a few years later, when I was older and had a better understanding of things. My brother was one of the groomsmen at a friend's wedding. Typical college sweetheat story, the bride and groom had dated all through college and he had proposed on their graduation day. Everything was all set for a beautiful summer wedding. However, the bride to be was having doubts. She had only ever had sex with one man, her fiance, and knew that the groom to be was in the same situation. One lover his whole life, his fiance. Apparently she had been reading a lot "Sex and your Marriage" self help books and she had come to the conclusion that lack of sexual experience was the number one destroyer of marriages. So she came to my brother's friend (the groom to be) with this idea that they participate in a foursome, or a partner-swap with the best man and maid of honor, their two best friends, the night before the wedding. Brilliant, right? I swear you can't make this shit up. The groom to be fights the idea for a while, but his fiance threatens to call off the wedding if he doesn't go through with this. He talks with his best friend, he reluctantly agrees. She talks with her best friend, she reluctantly agrees. Everybody's in (no pun intended). So the night before the wedding comes, and the four are getting plastered at the happy couple-to-be's apartment. Here's where shit goes down. Apparently the groom drinks too much and can't get it up (at least that's what he says happened) and what essentially occurs that night is a threesome between the maid of honor, the bride to be, and the best man. The groom to be, humiliated and distraught, leaves the apartment in the middle of the trio's lovemaking and drunk drives his car straight into a freeway median. The wedding's called off due to the accident, and the groom ends up paralyzed from the waist down. Great guy, the paralyzed wood-be groom. My brother and I play pick up with him once or twice a month at the local rec center. My brother was not the best man, FYI. The paralyzed groom doesn't like to talk about anything that happened, and I'm pretty sure he and his would be best man don't talk anymore. I saw the bride at an xmas party my parents threw a few years ago, her parents are family friends. I think she's married and has shat out a kid or two.

Couple planned foursome night prior to getting hitched, didn't work out as planned, groom got in car accident and is paralyzed. Wedding was called off, bride ended up marrying someone else, still see groom from time to time.

Ok so my car was towed from a shopping center yesterday. My car was parked for less than an hour and it was towed. I arrived at the shopping center and noon and left before 1PM. For this reason I thought my car was stolen so I called the police and came to write up a report. After the cop was about to leave after writing the report they were informed that it was towed. It was not parked illegally nor where there any other issues. I had to pay for my car to be released and I lost half of my day. So I started to do some research and tried to figure out why my car was towed. I called the property management at the shopping center. The shopping center consists of 6 small shops/restaurants and one large store that has locations all over CA NV and TX so there is a property manager that rents the store location space and deals with security and parking. After talking to the property manager he informs me that the security company that authorized to tow my car is not the one that he works with nor does the tow company. He also let me know that they never tow during the day and only do it at night times. I talked to the manager at the large store and he knows nothing about the company that towed my car. So after calling the property manager for the shopping center he informs me that it looks like the assistant manager for the large store signed a contract with some security company to patrol the parking lots. He said that he had no prior knowledge and he did not authorized this to happen. The property manager was some what outraged that they took it upon themselves to do this without his authorization. I have tried contacting the large company's corporate office and after being transferred about 20 times I have not been able to get a word with them. What should I do? How can I go about getting my money back since it wasnt cheap to get my car out of the tow company. Here is a copy of paper the person signed to have my car towed I also have the time that was written on the the tow notice and the time I called the police to show how long the car was parked for.

Car was towed while parked legally from Noon-1PM at shopping center. Security company that towed my car was not authorized to work at this shopping center. Now I'm out of the money I paid to have my car released.

I was driving down a three-lane road, and, as I wasn't passing anybody, I moved over a lane. About ten seconds later, I'm just pulling up to a stoplight, and there's a woman in an SUV right next to me (in the lane I would have been in). The semi behind her didn't stop. Crashed right into her car, shoving her all the way across the intersection. She got clipped by another car in oncoming traffic that just couldn't stop in time. Surprisingly, she wasn't badly hurt (whiplash probably, and a few minor bumps/scrapes), but she was up and walking and calling the cops. Not sure what happened to the semi driver, but her SUV was definitely totaled. Shook me up the whole day.

I arbitrarily changed lanes just before a stoplight; woman who took my previous spot was hit from behind by a semi about ten seconds later.

This seems crazy to probably everyone. I get people telling me it'll never work and to just break up. Like it's that easy. My SO wants kids very badly, and I, being only in my twenties, don't know if I'll ever want them, but I'm not officially ruling them out. He says he'll be miserable and there will always be something missing from his life without kids. I would happy just being with him, married. I've tried numerous times to tell my fiance to break up with me, because I want him to be happy and not end up resenting me. He says it's not about having kids, it's about having kids with the woman he loves. Namely, me. He says he doesn't just want to have a child, he wants to be married to me and create something with me, and build a family. He told me that if he didn't have kids with me and marry me, he wouldn't be married to anyone, or have kids. It's about having them with ME. I've tried, trust me. I've tried to tell him that he could find someone he loves just as much, but he refuses, and says, "If you think I could find someone else to love, then so could you." But I say no, I don't want anyone else, and we both agree that without each other we would feel miserable and unhappy, and like something was missing from our lives. I'm not trying to get him to stay with me, I really just want him to have happiness, but I can't just give him kids if my heart isn't in it. I don't know what to do. I love him and want to marry him, and he feels the same, even though he says he can't live without kids. But if he marries me, he's taking the chance of being childless. What on earth am I supposed to do, then? We want to be married, we love each other, we've been best friends since childhood and loved each other since we were teenagers. Ask any questions you like. Try not to judge. Try to remember that breaking up with someone you've planned to marry is easier said than done and doesn't feel like an option that will make either of us happy.

Fiance and I are having problems over having kids, he wants them, I don't think I do but am not sure. He refuses to separate, and we want to be together no matter what, but I can't stand to see him miserable.

So I took an aptitude test a couple of months ago, and after one section of the test, the lady doing the test said to me "I bet your personal space - your room and your desk at work - is pretty cluttered, isn't it?" To which I said WTF.. how can you possibly know that? Apparently, if your problem isn't that you're just lazy about cleaning, it could be that if you tend to keep things organized very well in your mind, you won't find the need to keep your physical space as tidy. You won't need it, because you'll know exactly where everything is if you ever need to find it. This described my problem perfectly, and does make it harder to find some motivation to keep things cleaned. If you think the reason that your space is messy is because of this, then you need to think of other reasons to keep it clean. I didn't seem to care much through college and the first few years afterwards, but now I've decided it's just embarrassing to have a messy room. I don't keep it clean for my own needs anymore, my desk is still slightly cluttered, I tend to sleep with a lot of books on my bed, I don't even own a dresser, etc. But, it's good enough that my roommate had a friend come over from out of town last weekend, and when she was getting a tour of the house, she said "oh, you keep your room really clean, good job!" I think that's the first time I ever received such a compliment, and it'll keep me motivated to keep my space a little cleaner.

Find something that does motivate you to keep your space clean. I don't know what that reason is, but you do. You posted here, after all. You don't need to go overboard with neatness, but a general picking up a bit can go a long way.

In short, I've been feeling lately like I should break up with my boyfriend. It's not that we're fighting or having any sort of actual trouble, it's just a lingering doubt in the back of my mind that he isn't the one for me. At the same time, he's the perfect boyfriend. He's incredibly thoughtful and kind and sweet (but a bit prideful to a fault which I'll mention in a moment) - I'm scared I would never find anyone else as nice as he is. He's a really decent person. We don't have serious "fights", but we do have quite a lot of miscommunication that leads us to arguing with each other moderately frequently. I find myself being annoyed with how he acts sometimes, especially when he will not listen during the aforementioned arguments. He refuses 99% to be in the wrong when something causes conflict between us. We've talked through this many times, but it never seems to change. I really, really enjoy spending time with him. He's made me happier than I've ever been, and we always have a good time even when we're just laying around not doing anything. I'm not that great at connecting with people, and I don't really have other close friends, so I feel like if I break up with him, I'll be completely alone. I do love him, but I just don't know if my love for him is the right kind. It's really confusing. I get jealous and sad thinking of him being with another girl if I break up with him, but I don't know if that's just because I feel like I would be losing him as a friend if he found someone else... I don't find him unattractive at all, but I don't really have the urge to have sex with him anymore. I've never been a very sexual person, especially when I'm stressed out as I have been thinking about all this... and I also have some pretty bad self-esteem issues that make me very nervous to let him see my body and probably affects my performance and such... but I might just be making excuses for myself. Basically, the relationship is really comfortable and nice, but it doesn't feel passionate and amazing. But maybe I've seen too many rom-coms? I really don't know what to do. Just looking for some opinions from people who have been in this kind of situation before or have any ideas about it.

Doubting my relationship with my boyfriend, but scared I might regret breaking up with him/be making the wrong decision since there doesn't seem to be anything really wrong.

I had met a friend that I met online over " Dota 2 " that friend lives in a location a few hours away from me, I was on a ferry boat arriving to the mainland when my other friend stopped replying to me as soon as the boat was docking.... It was the last boat, It's 11pm.... I'm in a big city alone I've never been there, it was a complete unknown area for me ): It's rather terrifying... This " online dota 2 " friend .. He gave me his number few weeks before to keep contact since he had to rush out early in the morning to school... I messaged him to help me out with this situation...... He's a complete stranger, (skyped once) I regret nothing (: as of today I consider him one of my best friends, took the chance. Worth! Crashed at his place/gamed the night away/ordered food, couldn't ask for anything better than an online stranger helping me.

Online stranger from a game, I got ditched by a so called "friend" nearly midnight, clueless of area that I'm traveling to... Stranger helped me out at the last second, became my best friend.

Before I talk about the PERFECT GUY, here's some context! I have constantly fallen for guys who are not the most ambitious in life. Lately I have fallen for someone who is a little bit more ambitious but is content in simply being a high school history teacher and living a simple humble life. I let him go because he is not ready for a relationship because he got out of a 6 year long relationship earlier this year. I respect that but knew that waiting around was not the best idea especially because he does not have big dreams like I do. Ok now the PERFECT GUY has been gaga over me for a while. He's perfect in ways like he is very caring, has helped me in my endeavors, has big dreams, is going to make a lot of money soon, he's extremely intelligent, will change the world with his theories(big nerdgasm). Recently we had a date day in Chicago that he planned out, the last thing we did was have cocktails in the Hancock lounge. Then we go to our hotel room, we were in Chicago for a convention that was going to start the next day. And he keeps trying to cuddle with me but I felt nothing. I haven't felt much for him from the get go. He's a great friend and has helped me with school and even offers to fund my future endeavors. We have very complex conversations with one another and discuss our big dreams, but I just don't feel that spark with him. I feel stupid and crazy for not feeling anything for someone who does so much and cares so much for me. I still would rather be with the History Teacher guy. He on the other hand is very sweet and it's so easy to laugh and get along with him. History Teacher and me never started dating but we would cuddle and watch movies, and spend simple days together and it would still be super fun and relaxing. I do not want to regret rejecting the PERFECT GUY but I am afraid I won't find anyone else who is also ambitious but still I feel immediate sparks for like History Teacher guy. I am afraid if I reject the PERFECT GUY he will go on to make millions and change the world and I let it all go because I didn't feel an initial spark for him. I have a weird theory that I could force myself to like him and eventually I will. Should I do this? For older people in relationships, what do you think? Lend me your wisdom please.

This guy is very much in love with me and seems to be the perfect match for me! But I feel no immediate chemistry! :(

Men and women are different in why they communicate. Men communicate to convey information, women communicate to build an emotional connection. When my wife starts telling a story and goes off on all sorts of tangents, includes fairly irrelevant details, etc, my mind starts going "come on, get to the action point". I want actionable tasks, important information, etc. My wife on the other hand, doesn't necessarily want action items the same way I do. For example, if she tells me about a problem she had at work, she doesn't want me to fix it for her, she wants me to listen. In the end, I think that this situation requires understanding and compromise on both parts. Men and women alike need to realize that the other gender communicates differently than them and attempt to communicate in ways that will work well for the other side, and to understand that the other side communicates differently from them. So, yes, by all means talk with your man, and he should listen and understand that's how you communicate. But understand that it's likely not how he communicates and exercise discretion sometimes.

There's a middle ground between "shut up" and "say everything". EDIT: This is a generalization. Duh. Also, I provided sources in a comment farther down: EDIT 2: Fixed rather egregious spelling error

I went on a date with her roommate - it had gone ok but it was obvious nothing serious would develop. We had gone back to her apt (which was right across the street from mine) and were chilling in the living room when she came up and started baking. She caught my eye immediately and then offered me muffins - how could I not be smitten? A few days later, she, the roommate, and my younger sister were drinking and ended up at my apt because (a) my sister wanted to steal booze and (b) she knew that I could always be suckered into cooking for people. I ended up chatting mostly with my girl as we were the only sober people around. Sister started playing with my girl's hair and I mentioned that I liked playing with hair also. After a couple hours everyone ended up across the street as my sister and coffee-girl wanted to go dancing. My girl and I were sitting on opposite ends of the couch, and as my sister left she said "I want to see that gap close by the time I get back" (she likes to make my life as awkward as possible, although I certainly don't need any help on that front). We kept chatting and I kept edging closer to her. Eventually I said "I just can't resist any longer, can I play with your hair?" She did not demur so I did and we cuddled and I played with her hair. Not only was she sweet, gorgeous, and offered me muffins, but she smelled incredible as well. At this point she was working on her thesis, and was extremely stressed out so I offered to come hang out and do my own work there while she was working on it so she could bounce ideas off me and get me to proofread. I ended up being there until about 3am one night and decided to just sleep there, and slept on the floor - she was surprised by my not expecting to share her bed. A couple days later we were hanging out and once her roommates left, she pretty much jumped me. That was that, and she came to meet my parents for my birthday a couple days later. We have been dating for two and a half years now, and marriage is probably in the not-too-distant future. Unfortunately she has gotten work over half the country away (in Alberta, I live in NS), so we are going to have to do long distance for the time being :( Sorry for the wall of text, this ended up longer than I expected!

Went on a coffee date, didnt go well, met roommate who was cute, smelled nice, and offered me muffins, been dating roommate for 2.5 years.

Growing up, it was just me and my mom, she's my best friend. So needless to say, I am a severe momma's girl. I always wanted to be in the WNBA when I was younger, so around 7th grade, I really started buckling down and practicing crazy hours. People in my family would tell me that playing basketball wasn't a good career path and I was wasting my time, blah blah blah. Not my mom tho, every game, front row center, cheering me on. She was my everything. Anyways, after playing in high school, I received some offers from some schools around the state and a couple out of state. After mulling everything over, I decided to just go to the local community college for two years and get use to being away from home, and then transfer to a university and finish two years on that team. Seems so infantile now, that I didn't want to leave my mom, but that was the best decision I've ever made in my life. When my 2 years were up, I looked over my offers and talked about it with my mom. That is when she told me she needed to get a surgery later in the year, and was wondering if I would be able I take a few weeks off school to help her out and help take care if my little brother. I decided to take the year off and help her and then go back to school the following year. During the surgery there was a lot of complications and after 6 months of her fighting hard to recover, she passed away. If I was not home, or had went away to school, I wouldn't have had those last years with her. Those last years were when we got the closest and I thank God everyday that I made the right decision.

sorry its so long. Had the chance to go to a University to play basketball, decided to stay home with mother. My mom passed away last year from complications from a surgery.

So this literally happened 5 minutes ago, I'm still kicking myself. So I worked in a oil field shop, have my own office and every once in a awhile I see the new hires getting orientation done and we don't often have many women hired here and if they do they're often older or women who just don't give a damn on how they look, until today. Today I noticed this really hot red head in the boardroom for orientation which was a nice change in scenery. I go back to work for a bit and I saw the project manager that was giving the orientation and was making small talk about the 5 new guys he hired and his response was "4 guys and 1 girl" and my response was "I noticed, she was a pretty looking chic, nice change in scenery." he then motioned to the hot red headed girl who was sitting in the lobby 10 ft from me. I looked over more embarrassed than I've been since I started dating my wife, and wasn't sure whether the look was flattery or disgust so in my embarrassment I figured I should say something to ease the tension, so I thought most reasonable thing to do was give her a thumbs up and said "keep up the good work", realized that I'm a idiot and even more embarrassed and quickly went to my office and closed the door. The pm will never let me live this one down.....

made small talk with project manager, comment on the good looking new hire, was sitting 10ft from me and heard the whole thing,got embarrassed like a kid in Jr. High, made it worse, locked myself in office, looking for new job.

OK, so I've been doing a lot of research after I found out that a lot of protein powders have heavy metals, like lead, arsenic, cadmium, etc. I have only tried two types of protein supplements: muscletech nitro-tech hardcore and cytosport muscle milk. Reviews on multiple sites have very different views and this issue is definitely split down the middle from what I have seen. I just read that the body can only break down 5 to 9 grams of protein an hour and I also read that someone like me (6'2 180 lbs) needs about 130-150 grams of protein a day. I fancy myself a man who is familiar with exercise and nutrition, but I have no idea what the hell to think about protein powders. I want to get the most out of my workouts, but it's not worth health problems to me. (also, what is the deal with creatine monohydrate?)

I need clarification on the pros and cons of protein powders Note: I posted this on fitness, but nobody responded - I'm not doing this for karma, but because I want to know the health implications THANKS!

I have tried numerous times through various mediums to get a hold of one of my very best friends from high school, with no avail. He doesn't really use Facebook, and I have his outdated Skype. A friend of mine suggested adding him on Steam, which I tried and he rejected (though I think he doesn't recognize my username, which is fair). Recently, I ran into his incredibly kind mother and told her I miss interacting with him and want to see what he's up to. She gave me his phone number and told me that he is getting better at being social and usually answers. She also said she would say hi to him for me (he's home over the summer, apparently). I waited 5 or 6 days before texting him something along the lines of "hey (friend) it's frickenheck just saying hi. your mom gave me your number hope that's cool." and he never replied (this was about 3 weeks ago). Part of me wants to double text him but right now I just want to respect the fact he doesn't want to talk to me. Neither of us are very social people, and I hear from a mutual friend of ours that he doesn't go out much. We go to the same college, but I haven't seen him since we were both in the dorms over three years ago. All I wanna do is catch up and see how he's doing, since we were such good friends. I have asked many mutual friends of ours asking if he has perhaps mentioned being upset at me for whatever reason, and everyone seems to be as perplexed as I am. The only reason I can imagine him not wanting to talk to me is the fact I got engaged to my fiance [31M] shortly after high school. I am fairly certain he had feelings for me in HS, as I did for him, but nothing really came out of it. My fear is that he resents me for finding someone else, which really hurts my feelings, and makes me question our entire friendship we had. ("was he only trying to get in my pants?" "am I not worthy of being a friend if the possibility of dating/sex is out?") I guess my question is what do you think? All I want to do is catch up, but if the case is he is avoiding me for his own good (past feelings), than I'll respect that. I am pretty upset at him though for at least not saying hi. Can someone with his similar point of view give any input? Should I text him again, or just leave him alone?

Old friend of many years refuses to respond to any contact from me. I suspect it's because of old romantic feelings. Am I wrong for resenting his silence? Should I try to continue to contact him or leave him be?

Don't you get it? When I see a policeman abusing their power, acting arrogantly or generally being a dick to someone who doesn't deserve it, I "bash on cops and law enforcement", sure - because they're not doing their job properly. When I'm being mugged in broad daylight and there is a policeman standing nearby I "expect law enforcement to protect [me]" because that IS them doing their job properly.

cop doesn't do his job = bitch about cops, cop does his job = expected and relatively unpraised event. Just like 99% of other jobs.

Me: 20/f Ex-boyfriend: 20/m Length of relationship: 10 months, known each other for a year. Technically together for 10 months, but we’ve been on and off since we’ve broken up. First serious relationship. My ex and I broke up in late September. We broke up because he started questioning being in a relationship due to his emotional/mental issues. He’s been having emotional/mental issues that went undiagnosed up until now. He has issues with anxiety (he will sometimes throw up if nervous/upset, get terrible stomach/head aches, obsessive thoughts, he has peed the bed once), low self-esteem, depression and now he’s suicidal. He has ADD. All these things he had in high school in varying degrees, but they didn’t come back up until recently and they are worse than ever. Up until now, we’ve been very on and off after our original breakup. We love each other, but then he would get upset, physically ill and start questioning whether or not he wanted to be with me. Our breakups were messy, but never ended up in too much anger. Mostly sadness. I assume this is mostly due to his issues rather than our actual relationship, but you never know. I realize we can’t be together despite the fact that I love him and he loves me. He had far too many things to deal with and is not dealing with stress well. Despite this, he says I cheer him up and make him feel “normal.” Now, he’s been put in a psych ward and I am so scared. I don’t know what to do. I’ve been trying to stay positive, but I just don’t know how I can help him or if I’m part of the cause. I’m so distracted, hurt from the breakup and confused about how I can help him. I can’t tell if our relationship failing is a cause or effect of his mental instability and question whether I should try to support him. I don’t want to make him worse. I love him so much, but I want to do what is best for him. He really wants me to visit, but I’m so nervous that I’ll end up crying and freaking out. I feel guilty for us not working out although I tried my hardest for us to work. I feel like he depends on me for possibly too much emotional support and I don't know how healthy that is. Basically, what can I do? How can I help him? Should I stay involved? I’m having difficulty separating myself from being his girlfriend and being a friend and knowing what role I should play in this. Right now, out of all his friends, I know he’s been communicating with me the most and asking me to tell the others news about him. I don’t know what to do.

Still in love with ex, he's still in love with me. He's got a lot of issues right now and in a psych ward. Don't know how to help support him.

IMHO, I can understand and agree with this statement when comparing this to a chronic gossiper. It is usually easy to spot these types of personalities anyway. I do disagree with the quote as a whole because it implies that you are "bad" if you speak about others. We are social creatures and communication about relationships are just a part of life. It does not make you a bad person because you are not able to deal with social conflicts on your own. Some people function better when they can open up to others about their problems. There is nothing wrong with that. Friends and family are there to listen to your problems so that you can evaluate your own emotions. I think it makes more sense to be wary of who you open up to and trust with your feelings because for those who don't know you will judge your character. The quote assumes that everyone has the intrinsic ability to deal with conflicts by dealing with it internally and holding it inside, which may be true for a few lucky ones but does not apply to most.

It is a part of human nature to solve social issues by communicating to those we trust and does not imply that you are inherently a "negative" person.

In high school, I had a friend who always liked to do stupid shit. One day in history class, he decides to climb out the window (we were on the second floor, a good ~10m (33ft) drop) and hang on the ledge with the curtains closed in front of him so he could surprise the history teacher. The ledge he was standing on was barely 10 cm wide but he was skinny so he managed to hang on. Cue idiot #2, another one of my friends who is watching from below. As soon as idiot #1 climbs out the window and hangs on the ledge, idiot #2 decides to throw a frisbee at idiot #1, which idiot #1 saw and managed to duck his head just in time. It missed the back of his head by an inch or two at the max and hit the window with a crack so loud that our history teacher comes in. Idiot #1 decides that to come back inside right as our teacher enters the door. He sees my friend half-in the window and half-in the classroom and sends him to the office. He waits there for an hour before the vice-principal came to talk to him. My friend told him what happened and the vice-principal simply chuckled and called him "Spiderman" and let him go.

Friend #1 hangs from a window ledge 10m above ground while Friend #2 throws frisbee at him, nearly hitting his head. Vice-Principal laughs and calls Friend #1 Spiderman and lets him go.

So, I was dating 23F for several weeks but she ended it a couple of days before Christmas. Saying she was not ready for a new relationship. I was hurt because I thought we had something special and we felt the way (She showed me a text she her friend saying something similar). I went on facebook today and my top story was her being a relationship. Anyway, I asked an ex, that I talk to once in a blue moon, today what is/was my flaw? She said I was not emotionally.

23F dumped me, she is a relationship three weeks later, another ex told me today my flaw was not being there emotionally and I do not know what that really means.

8th Grade. I "went out" with a few girls, meaning we held hands at recess and hugged each other before leaving for school. One of these girls that I "went out" with was a total psycho at the time. Yet for some reason, I could never get it in me to dump her. Finally, I decided the best way to go about this would be to dump her on MySpace. Via comments. Oh yeah. It gets better, though. Later, another girl I "went out" with I saw for a while and it was Valentine's Day. I told her there was something important I had to tell her after school and to meet me by the entrance. With a straight face, I'm just like "Yeahhh, this isn't really working out and we're done." sort of Bill Lumbergh/Office Space style. I then turned around and walked to my mom's car as if nothing had happened. I was that girl's "first love" so to speak, and I'm pretty sure that shattered her and that's why she turned into a slut in high school. I was that asshole in middle school.

In 8th grade I went out with a few girls, dumped on via MySpace comments, and the other on Valentines Day when she thought I had a gift or something for her.

My husband and I have been married for six years now. We worked, went to school, husband has recently graduated with a bachelors degree this past June and just received his dream job. I am going to school full time and am looking to transfer to a four year institution next fall. Now, I have always wanted babies since we have been married. But we were very young and decided to wait. The plan was to wait until my husband graduated from school and then we would discuss it further. He graduated and we decided that we would try when he got a job. Yay! A month after graduation, he got his dream job. Now he wants to wait until I finish school. I was heartbroken. He had changed his mind and I was so looking forward to trying. We moved closer to his new job and I met with a counselor at a community college today to see how many more classes I need to transfer. I don't need much more and I can transfer by next fall. I want to bring the conversation up again simply because I feel it needs to be discussed further. Only issue is, he works M-F and he is extremely exhausted and tired from his workday. He also is stressed out so I feel bringing it up during the week would be insensitive of me to add more onto his plate. But this is really weighing on my mind. Should I just bring it up because it is eating away at me or wait until the weekend?

Husband and I want children, we decided on a timeframe, he changed his mind and wants to wait a few more years. I want to bring up the conversation again but not entirely sure how to.

So there is this girl I have talk to over a game on the internet for about four or five months now. I feel she is so perfect, and we have a ton in common. Personally, shes something I’ve always hoped for. I feel confident she feels the same way. Over a while now though, we’ve spent a lot of time together and her dad started to suspect us, hence he stopped us from private messaging so we it was slightly harder for us to have conversations.. But we got around it and we are still able to have fun with each other.. until today. Basically, he’s seen all of our conversations. Today he tells me he wants to make sure that everything stays friends from now on, and that he wants to make sure she focuses more on school work. He’s also watching her 24/7 to make sure nothing fishy was going on while we talked, which I can understand, I guess. But my concern is that it will be very long though before we can have any possibility of being with each other, hence her perhaps falling out of love with me. I also want to put out there that I think he records everything we say.. I’m not sure how he does it, he wouldn’t tell me. I feel like my privacy is at risk here though, and I’m not really sure what I should do. Any advice would be wonderful. Also if there is any detail I left out, which I’m sure there's some (I’m terrible at writing, sorry) please let me know.

Dad doesn't want me to be with his daughter because he wants her to focus more on school work. Seems to be disrespecting both of our more private conversations, and won't tell me how he gets them.

I knew a very intelligent girl in middle school and high school who I considered a friend. In fact, I considered myself as smart as she was and figured that's why she liked me. I thought she was fascinating; she had the best stories and knew how to lipread and wrote great poetry. I imagined she felt the same way about me. I ran into her when we were both college students. I said hello and struck up a conversation about old times, how she used to lipread and tell me what people were saying across the room, etc. She looked a little embarrassed and a little amused, and said "Actually I can't lipread. I, uh, I used to lie a lot back then. I'm sorry."

I thought I was the smartest kid in my class but I got trolled for 8 solid years by a girl who was smarter than me.

Hi r/relationships, I'm trying to interpret what I feel are mixed signals from a guy. We met on OkCupid, then had a fabulous first date on Friday. Met for lunch, hit it off, it went way longer than I was expecting. He sent me signals of interests (I thought): eye contact, smiling, trying to impress me. He picked up the $100 tab even though I offered to split twice (to be fair I drove an hour to meet him). I really liked the chemistry so I agreed to go back to his apartment and hang out, I had a drink (he didn't), and luckily he leaned in for the kiss and we fooled around and got naked (let's just say no pregnancy risk but everything else). It was perfect. He had a meetup with some other person/people (possibly another date, who knows), so I left abruptly. Within hours he said "Wow what a lunch!" and asked if I got back safely. I agreed that it was great. Next day I texted him (a little toned down because I didn't want to seem too clingy after getting physical), saying "I had a great time hanging out with you! Thanks for meeting up." He said "Me too!" and asked what I did after the date (I had to sober up before driving home), and I said I went back to the restaurant and made some friends at the bar (it's near Venice beach so people are wacky and interesting) without asking him a further question. That was Saturday afternoon, and it's noon on Monday and I haven't heard a peep. My thoughts are: Is he busy? Is he just not that into me? (my worried suspicion) Is he giving me space for some reason? Of course you guys don't know him. I'm more concerned with modern day texting etiquette and how to interpret the silence. My mom said the last comment implied that the date wasn't enough, but I told him during the date that I really was glad to find someone who was intelligent, attractive, and nice, and that I'd like to see him again. He brought up that on my dating profile my upper age limit was 39 and he's over that by a few years, but I said that it didn't matter. I feel like I have two options: my friends (gay male) say not to play games and just text him a casual question. My mom says "Let him chase you! If you sent the last text and he doesn't text you, he's just not that into you."

Had a great first date. He texted within three hours and the next day, but then radio silence for two days. What's the timeline on these things? How do I interpret this?

Basically I was able to set up a few function dates with a girl (friend of my little sister) over the course of 2 months. We drunkenly made out in bed for one night and then after that she texted me non stop. I decided to go along with it and reciprocated affection in the form of hand holding/touching her shoulders/general physical contact at my next function. Things seemed ok still... I ignored her for a few days after what felt like a bombardment of text messages. during this time she started talking to another guy behind my back and ended up inviting him to a function of her own. In the meanwhile I was oblivious and the next day and bought us tickets to see a concert where i drunkenly held her the whole time... Toward the end of the night where I dropped her off her apartment she said she had just gotten off a really long distance relationship and asked if I could give her more time/space in order to get over it...I get mad and tell her I'm not about to play the sideline game while she works things out with her other guy... 2.5 months have passed and I'm on the verge of texting her back again to see how things are going. Part of me still wants to see if I could date this chick but the other is telling me I'm being too clingy... I just want to know once and for all but am not convinced if I'm thinking about this too much....Thoughts?

Got told by a girl that she needed more time from her long term breakup before thinking about a new relationship with me...thinking about texting her after 2.5 months of no contact

Well... throwaway time. I was in seventh grade, and my brother was in ninth. I really had no clue what masturbation actually was, like I had heard the word, but never actually knew what it meant. Well my brother sure did. It started off as innocent, he would "help" me. And by that, he would basically give a hand job, but not to the point where I would come, he left that up to me. In exchange for him showing me, I had to help him. I didn't really want to, but I thought it was fine/there was nothing really wrong with it. It only escalated from there. Eventually, he would suck my dick, of course in exchange for me sucking his. Again I didn't really want to, but I felt like I would have to. I didn't really enjoy any of it, but my brother sure did. He would love it when I gave him a bj, or if he got to give me one. Neither of us came, although he did shortly thereafter. Other times he would really encourage me to, or offer to help. He would sometimes "force" me to jackoff in front of him, I say force lightly because if I actually complained he would have stopped. That all continued on for probably about 6 months, and eventually I just wanted to do that in private, but he would always ask me if I jacked off lately, and be really happy, "for me" if I did. Oddly enough, my brother has become quite the manwhore, (he is straight though), and we have NEVER talked about it since. I have never told anyone. I wouldn't want my brother to get in trouble for something he did when he was so young and seemingly innocent. I just truly thought that it was normal at the time. However, and I don't know if this is because of what he did, I am questioning my own sexuality, whether or not I am gay or straight, or anything at all. So,

My brother sexually abused me when I was in seventh grade, and I haven't told anybody, and we have never brought it up. Edit: Typo's

Well to begin with, me and my sister have an excellent relationship and often so things together as we find each other to be the only people within the house we find tolerable, as we share the house with our parents and other siblings, despite our age gap me being 18 and her being 21. now the awkward thing is that lately ive been talking to this girl and its been getting very flirty using Snap chat, basically to put it bluntly she ended up sending me nude pictures, now because i wanted to snapshot them without her knowing i decided to go get my iPod which I had lent to my sister a while ago and saved the pictures on there. (i opened them on my phone and took a picture of my phone screen, in order to not getting caught screenshot them). however i didn't realize that she was logged in and the photos may have went straight to her photo stream, being the idiot i am i fumbled and logged her account so i wouldn't be able to delete, them 5 mins later i ended up going to her and explained extremely awkwardly what had happened in which she was understanding but it was awkward and i got rid of the photos eventually, turns out they weren't even on her photo stream so the issue could have been entirely avoided. and i was basically wondering if anyone had any advice for med in order to make it less awkward with my sister in the future. sorry for the wall of text.

got nudes from girl, screenshot them on sisters apple account to photo stream by accident, wanna make it less awkward with her after i deleted them.

I've always been close with my SIL. Everytime i was there she would sit with me the entire time and tell me how happy she was that her brother found someone like me. Husband and her talk everyday on facetime and their friendship has always made me a bit jealous ( It's bad, i know ). She know we're trying to have children and she's (i think) happy for us. One week ago i had to use her washing machine while ours was broken. She was at work the whole time. Here comes the weird part. This morning we were having breakfast with her, my husband and their parents. SIL was quiet the whole time. After maybe an hour i asked her what was wrong, to wich she replied; Oh! You know exactly what's wrong! She then went on her purse, grabbed a plastic back with a used condom in it. I knew it was an accusation. I asked her if she was trying to make a joke. She said something like; sure, because i like breaking people happiness! Laundry my ass. She claim that i was the only person coming in her house since 2 month(Except her girlfriend). Husband just left. Didn't even tried to get some explainations or anything. I followed him. 16 hours later here i am, on the couch crying like a b*tch. Husband is locked in our bedroom since we came back. I don't know what to do. If he want a divorce i have nowhere to go. No friends except him and his family. My family doesn't talk to me anymore and i'm broke af. How can i convince my husband that his sister is lying? He's closer to her than anyone. Sorry if all of this was a bit hard to understand. English isn't my first language.

SIL made up a story, showing my husband and all his family a used condom that she claim was used by me (cheating). How do i convince my husband that his sister is lying ?

You speak of business owners as "they" like it's some abstract class of evil assholes. It's simply not the case. Business owners want to make a profit, yes. But few of them are trying to become as rich as possible while shitting on every person that works for them. You can not get very far by shitting on people. Now, some do shit on people, but they get away with it because there's nowhere else for anyone to go. In a vibrant economy, where there are plenty of options, a man that treats his employees like shit will end up with the lowest quality workers working for him. You're going to think I'm insane, but in an economy with zero government interference (including corporate personhood and other laws that make corporations legal entities), a business, in most cases would end up being run very similar to the way socialists would want it to be run. There would be so much competition for employees, that owners would not make that much more than the employees. If they didn't pay their employees enough, they'd just leave and find work elsewhere.

It's not that they squeeze every drop out of employees, it's just that if they don't start losing employees because of shitty practice, then there's no incentive to change their business practice.

My brother's 18F friend has recently told my friend that she has a crush on me. We went to the same high school and we share mutual friends. I asked if she would like to go out sometime and she said she would love to. I got her number and texted her a bit over the course of about 4 days and now she seems really distant. She never initiates conversation and it's making me feel like I'm being played with. I admitted to having a slight crush on her as well and now she hasn't been responding to my texts. What should I do?

Asked out a girl who had a crush on me. Told her I have a slight crush on her. Now she's being distant. What do?

Hello guys, I've been lurking around this sub for a while now and I see that there are a lot of knowledgeable here. I don't really have anyone to talk to for advice so I'm hoping to get some here. Some background: My parents are 1st generation Chinese immigrants who came to Canada. For roughly ~10 years now. I've seen them fight many times ever since I was 4. The arguments are never pretty. Always ending in huge shouting battles and very often physical violence. It's really scary honestly. I try to lock myself in my room and let them settle things by themselves. But I always get pulled right into the heat of things when things get physical. Things like hair grabbing, choking, punches. My mom is constantly crying and at the receiving end of it. I try my best to break it up. It's happened to me too. One time he grabbed me by the neck and called me a fucking failure. Every year the fights escalate more and more, always with both sides yelling divorce. A big part of it is because my dad has cheated on my mom several times throughout their marriage. Once in China during their 2nd year together, another time 5 years ago and the latest being 2 years ago. These are the ones we know of for sure at least. My dad always mocks and yells at my mom with all kinds of nasty shit. I don't think he even thinks of her as human at this point. He won't listen to reason either. Every time we're tried to peacely talk about the issues each of us are facing he shuts down and doesn't listen. I even begged and cried during one of the conversations I had with my dad because I told him that I felt unsafe and tense in my own home. He shrugged it off and blamed me and my mom. I know he won't change. He's in his 40s now and his personality is already set in stone. I fucking regret any hope I had in him to do so. Yesterday was my breaking point. My mom was asking why he didn't answer her calls yesterday to look at some mattresses. He fucking blew out and immediately started yelling at the top of his lungs and instigated violence. They fought for hours. I locked myself in my room and cried myself to sleep. Every time this happens it breaks my heart. My friends tell me that I look sick. Is all I can do is to wait until I graduate? Please help me.

My Chinese parents have argued for the past 10 years. My father has cheated on my mother several times and controls all the money in our household. He's abusive and controlling to everyone in our family. Help?

My ex-boyfriend broke up with me about 12 days ago. I did not want this, it was not mutual. I also want to get back together. We got in a pretty big fight around a move. He told me he didn't see a future with me anymore and he didn't want to lie to himself anymore. He also said we did not relate (I am going to graduate college, he never went) and that when I lived with him I took advantage of him (he said it would be OK for me to live there with him while he paid rent). He never clearly communicated that he was upset about the money situation, except for some jabs at me. He said he was afraid to communicate with me. He is also working a lot as his job and was very stressed out. I am about to finish college and set-up my whole situation to be with him in a different state. I got an internship for the summer there. It is about a 10 hour drive from where I am from. So it looks like I have to go back to finish my degree in time. He said I was too sensitive for his tastes as well. In reality I think he was pulling away from me and I could sense it and got upset. He said I always assumed the worst. He was also upset because I made him stop talking to an ex-girlfriend of his. It was a girl from high-school that took his virginity that he would contact to talk about our issues. Anyway, since we broke up I really have not been reaching out to him at all. He sent me a few messages saying he wished me the best, and that he knows I am strong and I will move on a succeed in my life. Later he sent me a message saying he was thinking of me, and that he hopes all is well. I reached out to him to tell him I might be moving back soon because of extenuating circumstances. He uses this to lead into a conversation about how he doesn't hate me or "really have negative feelings" towards me, and that he really wants to be friends. I don't know what to do. On one hand I may very well be back up there again. On the other hand I don't really want to be "friend-zoned" so to speak. I must add we were friends for about 6 years before this, when I was in another relationship. He actually told me he loved me years ago when I was with someone else. What is my best move?

Boyfriend broke up with me. He wants to be friends because he doesn't have negative feelings towards me. I want him back and don't want to be friend-zoned. What is my best move?

Hi there, I'm not entirely sure if this is my business to be in but I need any help that I can to see if it's something I can help fix. My cousin Emma [25 F] is getting married this summer to her long-term boyfriend. We were very excited, as it's the first of my dad's brothers to have a child getting married and our first cousin getting married. My sister and I [16/19 F] are invited to the wedding. A couple of years ago, my mom found out that my dad had been cheating on her with another married woman (Rachel) for many years. They separated and divorced and my mom still harbours VERY hurt feelings towards this woman, completely understandably. She's mature about it and would never confront them, but she feels uncomfortable being in the same room as her. Ever since my dad started dating Rachel, he brings her along to every family gathering knowing that EVERYBODY there knows about how their relationship started. He brings her on every family trip, every thanksgiving dinner, even when she isn't invited or without anybody's permission- he just assumes that she can come. Now, she isn't a mean woman. She's polite and personally, I don't mind her. But since my cousin Emma has only known her for a year or two (they've met maybe once), and she's known my mom her entire life, she decided to invite my mom to the wedding and to leave Rachel out of the invitations; not as anything malicious against her uncle (my dad) or Rachel, but she wanted my mother there and for her to be as comfortable as possible. My dad and Rachel aren't married, and there's no reason why he can't attend the wedding without Rachel. It's a short, private ceremony and reception and will be very intimate and family/close friends only. My dad was LIVID when he found out that Rachel wasn't invited. He emailed Emma's mom back and forth, arguing with her until she gave in and told Emma to invite Rachel to the wedding. Now my mom is upset because she doesn't want to go, Emma is upset because it's a person at her wedding that she didn't want, and I am upset because I want Emma's wedding to be perfect for her- it's HER day and she should decide who she wants there, it's not ANYBODY else's choice. Help, what should I do? Do I just ignore it and let them all sort it out since none of them know that I'm aware what's going on? Do I try and talk my mom into coming anyways, or try and talk my dad out of bringing Rachel? I'm not incredibly close with Emma or her mom and we don't spontaneously email or text back and forth- we generally only talk at family gatherings, but they're still important to me. I think my dad is being incredibly selfish. Any help at ALL is appreciated.

My dad invited his new girlfriend (the woman he cheated on my mom with) to my cousins wedding, my cousin wants my mom there and not the new girlfriend but won't stand up for it and say anything, and I'm stuck in the middle.

So one night maybe 8 years ago. myself and a few friends are killing time at a local bar. My buddy decides this chick across the way is hot. (she wasn't) So he goes over and starts chatting her up. Comes to find out she is deaf so they start communicating via typing texts and writing. Comes to the end of the night he takes her out to his car they drive to a secluded spot to do the deed. As they're getting to the spot. He gets pulled over. So he proceeds to tell the cop that he's doing this poor deaf girl a favor by taking her home. She can't say any different. And was probably too hammered to notice the conversation was even happening. So cop being apparently nicer than any cop probably should be let's them on their way. He proceeds to aforementioned spot and they get down to business. Next time we get together he proceeds to show us the texts she sent to him during sex. And describing the odd grunting sounds she would make. We all laughed. As the girl is sitting across the table not knowing what we're cracking up about. Wrong I know. But it's still a story that gets told over a drink or two. how many guys can say they picked up and proceeded to bang a deaf girl.

buddy picked up and banged a deaf girl we all laughed about it in front of her. And no one was arrested because of it.

So I notice that this ridiculously gorgeous girl I work with (who is half Egyptian half Czech and an actual model who got paid very well for said modelling) has been shamelessly flirting with me for weeks while her fiance was back home in Egypt. One night after a late shift she invites me out for a drink after work. I agree obviously. We share a few pitchers and she asks me to walk her home, as we are downtown and the neighborhood is not good. Again, I obviously agree. Fast forward about an hour and we are doing the nasty at her place. Now before the whole too drunk to consent thing comes up she had about 3 pints to my 8, was not visibly drunk in any way and initiated absolutely everything. So me and my trusty whisky dick make her come numerous times causing her to state that she has never felt anything like this (something that made sense a little later). It's been about an hour and I come to terms with the fact that there is no way I am going to finish regardless of tantric concentration or the fact that this women is so fine she could melt stone with a bat of her of her green eyes. So I pull out and she shyly asks "what about you"? I respond with "it's ok I'm good". She then proceeds to burst into tears partly because of the alcohol I assume at the time. Buuuuut it turns out that she was a virgin, something I failed to notice and she failed to mention, and took my lack of finishing as a soul crushing blow to her mammoth ego. Not knowing what to do, and too drunk to adequately sooth her I call a cab and go home. Anticipating all the hours of cringe-worthy awkwardness in the days ahead I crash at home. The next day she doesn't show up for her scheduled shift, or the next one. I attempt to text her get no response, call her and find that her line had been cut. Not knowing what to think at this point I find out from a mutual friend that she had told her twin sister about the experience, who in turn told her mother, who told her ultra conservative father. Turns out that upon finding out about the encounter her father snaps and immediatly puts her on a plane back to the Czech Republic. I never hear from her again.

I had sex with a model, who turned out to be a virgin, who took my lack of finishing as a soul crushing blow. Her conservative father found out and shipped her out of country

It comes down to the way words are formed and used in language and how the mechanics of singing work. There are two types of sounds that we can make with our body (in general) these are voiced and fricatives or voiceless (consonants). If you listen top someone's accent you'll notice that the consonants sound exactly the same as yours, this is because there is only one way to make these sounds. Vowels and voiced sounds are where accents come from, as well as the pronunciation of words, length, stresses etc. The reason accents seem to go away is because music influences how these sounds are produced to match our preferences, reference common meter. Because of this, the parts of everyday speech that create accents lose influence to match a musical form. This is due to the fact that the only sounds that can be changed to sound lyrical are vowels. You may argue that if the word "butt" was elongated to "Buuuuuutt" that the consonant "B" is being elongated as it is voiced, but it is really the short "U" sound. So, to summarize: vowels and timing create accents, lyrical sounds are created by manipulating vowels and timing is manipulated by rhythm. In a sense, each song creates its own accent, that's what makes it musical.

vowels and timing create accents, lyrical sounds are created by manipulating vowels and timing is manipulated by rhythm. In a sense, each song creates its own accent, that's what makes it musical.

Long time reader, first time poster. So, in my days working as a sales assistant at the Mediamarkt (Target / Wallmart like store) in the TV section we had this hot air balloon give-away action for people buying a certain model of TV. As was customary there was always 1 spot saved for a sales assistant who had done well the last month. I was picked and I went flying in the hot air balloon with my dads camera. A couple who seemed really nice wanted a photo as well so I took it, got their email adres and thought nothing of it. Few weeks later I see their faces on a really crappy security photo in our cantine because they had been stealing navigators from the store. The next day I handed in the high res picture of the couple and their email adres. Police couldn't help us, it wasn't enough to go on, but atleast security now had a very clear picture of who to watch. Sure enough, 2 weeks later, there are two children crying in the store because they can't find mommy and daddy. Turns out, mommy and daddy were being loaded in a cop car right about then. They came back and tried to take even more navigators and were caught red handed. The security guy also handed them their high res picture, I would have loved to see their faces. [b]

b] Couple wins a hot air balloon trip in store, let a store employee take their picture and come back to the store to steal stuff. Idiots.

At my school it was mostly learning all the facts about it in an objective way. What happened during the war, on the fron in the land, what war crimes were done by every party and all that. We also visited a concentration camp and learned in detail how life was in there and how poorly the prisoners were treated. Nobody goes like "Fuck, why didn't we win". I actually think if you say that you get your ass beaten the same day if you say it around the wrong persons. The reaction was pretty excited because we wanted to learn about the topic .we were about 12-13 years old when it got taught for the first time, the older we got the more depth got the lessons on the topic. Nobody really likes our past and people never really say they wish we would've won. We are pretty open about our past. We acknowledge it and we try our hardest not to repeat said mistakes. At least I do. There are still nazis in germany but they aren't even enough to get their own party more than 5% of the votes to pass the hurdle.

We learn all the facts about the wars in an objective way. We learn a lot about it and do not deny our past. also sorry for bad english :/

I'm a guy, but I have a couple Tiny Penis stories and they're pretty sad. In the gay community, especially the sluttier circles we often joke about how the well-endowed men are always bottoms. The first time I'd ever seen a dick that was pathetically small, it was on a guy who was 6'8. It was really embarrassing and awkward. I'm 5'5 and his dick was smaller than mine. It looked even smaller because of how tall and beefy he was. I had sex with him, and while it wasn't awful, it certainly wasn't that good either. He's had over 100 partners and I later found out he's got some psychological issues. I think his tiny dick is a big part of that. Second time was when I got wasted with a friend of mine and we ended up fucking. His dick was tiny, and he came in 2 minutes. It was up there with the worst sex I'd ever had. He later told people I was a bad lay and my dick was small. That's when I knew that guys who talk shit about the people they've slept with are trying to protect themselves.

If a guy or girl makes a point of discussing how good they are, or how bad their exes were at at sexual acts, they are almost always compensating for something. Also, height often has no correlation to size.

This just recently happened. I work at a family owned gym where the owners know everyone's name, and I consider them like my parents. I go away to school and when I come home for breaks/holidays, they give me work. So over my Christmas break, some random guy shows up. The owners take him in, give him work, and allow him to take several clients for training. At first I thought this guy was a bit suspicious, but everyone seemed to really like him. Another guy I train/work with said things were staring to go missing... Cash, supplements, ect. He was setting his druggie "Friends" up with free memberships, and taking advantage of the owners. He started driving people away, people who had been at the gym from the beginning. So fast forward to my summer break... The owners leave for a week to compete for a body building show across the country, and leave him in charge of opening the gym. The very first day they are gone, I come in to find him passed out on the couch, drunk off his ass, and at least $400 missing from the register... Every day that week he was drunk off his ass, he missed his training sessions with his clients, and tried to actually fight a few of the gym members. Upon the return of the owners, this guy is fired, immediately. But through the goodness of their hearts, they paid for him to go to a beautiful rehab facility, but will never allow him back in they gym.

An alcoholic co-worker took advantage of a situation, almost ruined the gym. I also have many more stories about this guy that are pretty interesting if anyone is interested.

She did NOT suggest an alternative. You're right, a person who is experienced in dating would normally offer an alternative if they were interested. This girl is 18. She probably doesn't know to do that yet. I'm dating a girl RIGHT NOW who did the same thing. She asked me out first. We went out a few times and the dates went really well. I was pretty sure things would continue that direction into something serious. I asked her out a few more times after that, and she said she couldn't make it. Didn't offer a reason or alternative. I took this as she had lost interest. I was sad, but moved on. A month later she texted me and asked how I was doing and why I stopped talking to her. I was honest, and flat out said I thought she wasn't interested because she didn't offer a reason or alternative after declining when I asked out her. I said usually I'd expect her to offer an alternative if she wanted to see me. She said she definitely wants to see me, etc. We have a date this Saturday.

some people aren't familiar with the offer alternative date etiquette. Ask her out again, if she says no and doesn't offer a counter-date again, just be honest and ask what's up.

We dated for about 6 months, short I know. But during this time I fell in love and I know he was leaning towards it too. We broke up about 8 months ago due to me being going through A LOT of personal crap (I did the dumping :( ). He knew the whole time I still cared for him and I wanted him back. We have had very little contact but some since the break up. He has always expressed that he would be here for me whenever i needed him. He would also confuse me, because he would text me and then stop. A couple weeks later again he would do the same thing. My birthday he sent me a REALLY long message saying he hopes my day is incredible etc. About a month ago I added him back on fb and snapchat because he deleted me because he wanted me back. That probably doesn't make much sense because earlier I said he wouldn't take me back but he was kind of strange in a way that he felt that since we broke up it was for a reason and we could not be together again.. Well this whole summer he has been in Spain for school. He recently came back and we started snap chatting. I initiated because I sent it to everyone and put it on my story. To my surprise, he snapped me back and we started talking. (This was yesterday) I asked him about Spain and he said he has a lot of pictures if I wanted to see. AND THEN later in the day I asked him to send me a recipe and he said "Or I can teach you how to make it" Totally caught me off guard, so I said "Yeah you should because it's really good" then he continued saying "let me know when you move back in [to school]" I'm not sure what his intentions are and I am honestly too afraid to ask just because I don't want it to turn awkward and I feel like I should just see how this meet up goes but I just want to know what to expect and others' views. I'm in love with this kid and breaking up with him made me realize how much I cared for him. I did tell him once that he pursued me the wrong way and we went too fast and that we should have been friends first. So I am taking this as a friendship right now but I REALLY am trying not to get my hopes up. I know he still cares but he is so stubborn I don't know if he is wanting to rekindle the relationship.

My ex of 8 months who I broke up with suggested dinner in a very very casual way. Not sure what to think. I am still in love with him.

Well... my boyfriend[M25] and I[F24] have had a difficult time the last few months, but we love eachother so we want this to work. We have been together for over 5 years. He has been very open with his deepest thoughts during the last weeks. And I have been hearing things that you don't want to hear. Things like his dream is to make kids with different womans. We have to kids of our own. He says that it wouldn't work out since we already have av monogamous relationchip. But if we don't work out he want to woman in a relationchip next time. Until know we have had a typically monogamous relationchip where we includes only the two of us. The sex life has always been good, and I think that I am a typically superwoman. I work hard, deliver and pick up the kids from kindergarden every day, making delicous dinner, take the most of the housework by myself and blablabla.. He has always said that he want it to be us till the end. That he wants only me. But know he also says that he would want a treesome. That it wouldnt work out actually doing all this. But it is in his head.

I feel stupid, not worthy and especially not a superwoman. If I was that for him, why would he have these thoughts? Why would he want more, and I'm not enough.

I've been seeing this girl in a long distance sort of deal for the past three months, and we've been on a few dates, exchange emails, talk on facebook, etc. however over the past fortnight or so things have ramped up a little since I'll be moving much closer for work. The relationship seems to be moving ahead, but I'm still slow in terms of building trust because I've had two very serious relationships in the past year (one of which was incredibly emotionally abusive) which both had pretty fuzzy edges and never quite got closure. I'm comfortable with the girl I'm seeing now... But that's it. It's not a strong connection, it's not head over heels, it's just... nice? She knows this, but I'm just not sure what to do about it all. I'm afraid that I'm going to hurt her because of all the jagged edges I have from my past relationships.

Should I "play it safe" and stick with this girl that makes me happy in the short term, or is it not fair to her since I know that it won't last indefinitely?

My husband and I have been together since college. I was going through old pictures on our computer and I found this one naked picture of him from years ago. It's a picture of him standing there, dick in one hand, trying to grab the camera with the other, in the middle of saying something. It was obviously taken by someone. I can't figure out where it is because the flash was on the the room behind him in the pictures is dark. I know that we were together when the photo was taken because he wasn't that muscular before we started dating. I asked him about it and he swears that I took the picture and it was taken in our old apartment. I know it was a long time ago but I am certain that I didn't take the picture. There's no metadata for me to see what kind of camera it was taken on or anything so it's just his word against mine. From the size of the photo I can assume it was taken on his old digital camera because it matches up with other pictures he has from then. I also barely ever used his camera because I liked mine more. It's been bothering me a lot and I can't stop thinking about it. I asked him last night if it's possible anyone saw him naked and took a picture and he said no at first but later said that maybe his old college friend (who is a woman) took it when he was changing, but he doesn't remember if he was ever naked around her. It seems very clear to me that he wasn't changing in that photo, he has a huge boner and is holding it. And even if he was just changing, why would he be doing that in front of her? I used to be so insecure about their friendship because she seemed like she was really into him but he swore nothing ever happened between them so I eventually learned to live with it. They don't talk anymore because we moved away. Everything is telling me that something is off here but I have no way of finding out so I'm really upset. Does this seem off to anyone else?

I found a naked picture of my husband on our computer that I didn't take, he swears I did and said its possible that his "friend" took it when he was changing.

Ok, so a little bit of back story as to what happened just before i got the detention. One of the other guys in my class had brought a page from some porn magazine in to class (some asian lady shoving a dildo in her ass). He puts it on the floor and starts going "ms look!! what is she doing?! what is she putting into herself?!" The whole class is obviously cracking up and the teacher is rather flustered. Anyway she takes the page and puts it into the bin. So anyway about twenty minutes later i want to put something in the bin, so i decide to be stealthy and do commando rolls down the side of the class to avoid detection and dump my trash. I get caught, she thinks im trying to salvage the porn and i get a detention. Whole class thought i was trying to grab it too, but honestly, the thought hadn't even crossed my mind.

Commando rolled to the rubbish bin to avoid being seen by the teacher, get suspected of trying to retrieve porn from the bin and get a detention.

I think the title is clear. I shall begin though. Please excuse any grammar mistakes, as I am not a native english speaker. Three years ago, I had this summer job, when I had to make some money for school and other stuff. The pay was not the best, but from what I was told, it shouldn't be such a effort. The job was for one advertising agency, which also does several other things, like designing and creating various packaging, boxes for things, gift items and other shit. My job was packing boxes of teapacks into a bigger box and put a gift mug in it, then wrap it and put it in warehouse for later shipping. Everyone had his own job in this "assembly line", just done by humans. There were two shifts (morning and afternoon) by 8 ppl each. People from different shifts almost never met. I was on the afternoon one (from 3pm to 11pm). That was first stressful bummer. In the end of shift, when its dark outside already, you get tired and work slowly. But it was cool for first week. We had a daily goal though. The daily goal was set around 2000 boxes per shift. Each shift had a supervisor and we were told, if we fall behind the other shift in daily productivity by 20%, the shift is dismissed. Also dismissed if we fall back in 3 consecutive days. I seriously needed that money and job is quite precious thing for a student to give up. So, that was cool, we managed to do the goal quite easily, as the morning shift was just bunch of senior women, supervised by other much older woman. But one day, they managed to do 500 more boxes of tea than usually. So we wanted to catch up, which put us in bigger pressure, but we still did it in quite good time, just had shorter break. Well, since then, the hyperactive and too much ambitious granny in morning shift tortured employers to do much more boxes a day, since she hated our younger generation and wanted our shift dismissed. After 1 month, we were stable on around 4500 boxes a day. No breaks, no slowdowns, we just raced to make it in time. It was the most stressful two months in my life and I couldnt bear it any longer, when one of the seniors in morning shift got an heart attack, because they were also running to their own set goal. The morning supervisor was fired for the shit she did to all of us.The problem is, we had the same income all the time (2€ / hour / person). I left then, because when they set new supervisor who lead the shift, the goal was the same and it just wasnt worth the money.

Two work shifts of manual job. One shift all old women and one crazy senior supervisor made us work like dogs for really low money and under pressure. One old women got heart attack from rush and I left.

So my apartment had some minor flooding from hurricane Irene and the rain after. We lost a couple personal possessions and I had to take off 3 days from work to fight the flooding and keep us from losing anymore. The landlord even offered us a rent reduction to pay us back for lost income and property(though its spread out over a long period of time). The problem is now we are finding mold growing on the wall of our bedroom (basement apartment). We even had a couple mushroom sprout between the floor and the baseboard on the wall. Our superintendent has been very helpful. He has twice sprayed the parts of our apartment where the mold was growing. But we have no idea how bad the situation is behind any of the walls. The management company offered us another room in the building, but it is significantly smaller and the same price. They said they can't do any mold investigation or removal while we are still in the apartment. They won't let us occupy another apartment while ours is being fixed. This is all in Bergen County, NJ. Is there anything we can do? We love our apartment and don't want to move out, but of course we can't live with mold.

Bergen County, NJ. Mold in our apartment. Landlord won't do major fix without us moving out/downgrading to another apartment. What can we do? Thanks in advance to anyone who answers.

Forgot about this one: Power outage following a flood an hour south of our location brought a power supply company to our resort. These were the people in charge of supplying supplimental power to the super bowl in the case of an outage (you can see how well they did) well anyway, the workers were working 24 hours a day so there were numerous shifts... One of the shifts ended early in the morning, just after we opened our lounge. So we would have people getting shitty at 10am some mornings. One particular morning a fella took it a bit too far. I got a call that there was water leaking into an office on the 1st floor, i went to check, and realized quickly that there was a leak coming from the floor above. Went to the next floor, (floor 2) its around 10am, and the room is occupied, I knock and the couple is just waking up and they come to the door, i inform them of the leak, and ask to check their suite, as they wipe the crust from their eyes, and i enter, we see together, that there is actually water running down the walls, not a torrent, but enough to see from a few feet away...i called security, and proceeded to the third floor.... Third floor suite over the leaking 2nd floor room was unoccupied, and I entered to find a wonderful torrent of water coming down the wall in a similar location as I found on the 2nd. By then security and the GM had met me and we were all freaking out...TO FOUR! Fourth floor...we find ourselves banging on the door, we know someone's in there, we can hear the bath running...o shit...the bath is running...no one is coming to the door...open the damn door! Door is opened, in a mad rush, we try to barge in but find our way blocked, and can only open the door about a foot, water rushes into the hallway and we are looking at each bewildered... PUSH!!! We force the door open, to find a very overweight naked man behind the door, the water in the bathroom in the tub is running full blast, the tub is full, and the suite in the corner of the bathroom/entrance area is completely flooded. I turn the water off, and begin draining the tub while the GM and security try to wake the man who is sleeping in 2 inches of water/carpet.

Turns out the very drunk man staying on business started the tub, and then obviously passed out flooding 4 floors of a $40,000,000 resort resulting in $58,000 in damages.

I am a bit late, but I feel the need to add a horrid smell. During college I took a class which involved a group of students to travel around Europe for a few weeks, which was fantastic, saw a lot of great shit, drank lots of beer and ate some amazing foods. On one particular night while staying in Munich, having had already visited the Hofbrauhaus, a few of us decided to try another famous, but small, beer house. Beer was great, as was the food, but good friend of mine, and roommate for the trip, decided to try Pork Knuckles for dinner which apparently was all he had hoped for. So good for him. Fast forward to morning. Keep in mind this kid had a solid liter of dark beer on top of a massive Pork Knuckle inside his gut. Feeling a bit hungover I proceed to our hotel balcony for some fresh air and a morning smoke as he is getting ready for the day inside the room. After a while I eventually turn around to see he is getting dressed, just coming from the bathroom. Cool. Walk in, grab some supplies for the bathroom and head for the closed bathroom door. I open the door and am immediately punched even so gently in the face with the hot, post roommates shower, steam. But oh dear god, this was no soap scent infused steam, this was infact the hot air from Lucifer's own asshole. My roommate had expelled the Pork Knuckle and beer dinner from the night before and had lingered around the bathroom long enough to mix in with the steam from his shower. This was the smell of drunk pig throwing up his own shit and then repeating that process. I immediately began to gag and nearly added the stench of vomit to the already shit steamed bathroom. It was horrible. Hands down the worst smell I have ever encountered to date.

The morning in Munich when my roommate shit out his Pork Knuckle and beer dinner, that turned into shit steam, that smelled like Lucifer's asshole.

Second point My girlfriend recently got a new job at a restaurant in the city she now lives in. It is a big, chain restaurant. This is some extraneous information, but originally both me and my girlfriend were supposed to come home to our hometown for the summer to enjoy summer together with each other and our families. However, to be able to afford her new living place and the expenses of school, she was forced to move back to her school's city to work at her job for the remainder of the summer. My girlfriend follows most of her co-workers on Instagram. I, being the all-too-curious man that I know myself to be, decided to lurk through her followers to see this new guy, we'll call him "Scott". Scott's profile is public, so I decide to look through his pictures to find he is a tall, attractive looking man. Looking through the likers of his recent photos, I see that my girlfriend has liked almost every single photo that he has posted since the time she started following him... strange. It could just me being super paranoid, but whatever... Recently, my girlfriend had said that her co-workers apparently planned a movie night to see the new X-Men. However, their planned date was flubbed due to the fact that most of them could not make it. Only one of her co-workers could make it and wanted to go, and it was Scott. She said she didn't want to go because it seemed date-ish and wrong, so she hoped to go next week with a larger group of people, and not just Zack. Here's my infamous paranoia kicking in. I am super proud of my girlfriend for not wanting to go with just this one guy, and you may be thinking why I am complaining about this and are probably thinking to yourselves that I am some paranoid freak who should calm down and seek help. You think I don't already know that, haha? -- But, they had to have talked about it outside of work to reschedule this event. That means that both she and Scott have each other's number. You know the more I type about this shit, the better I feel about it and realize how stupid I am really making this out to be. I'm just worried my girlfriend may develop a crush on this Scott kid judging by how she has liked every single one of his pictures on Instagram, even the ones that are just boring and not even of his face. I know, because she did that with me on my Instagram before we started dating. She would like everything, even if it wasn't even remotely interesting.

I'm worried my girlfriend may develop a crush on one of her co-workers. Should I just fucking trust her? Edit: I am a paranoid fuck, please just help me.

Hi Reddit, today I will do a quick text about my fuck up. I am 18, I left school in May of 2014 and had two months of unemployment before getting my first job as a temporary retail worker (Hip-hip-hooray for me!) After having my first job for 5 weeks i became unemployed again (boo-hoo for me) I moved to a different store as a Christmas temp in mid October and continued to do what I had always done. In January I was made permanent and worked with this company until the end of May 2015. Come the 1st of April I moved to a new location (500miles from my old home) with my family and started applying for jobs. I revamped my CV, added all the necessary dates and fired my CV out to about 8 recruitment agencies. I went to the interviews and spoke with the people, all of them mentioned to me that I had a year of un-employment and had done nothing. I bullshitted my way through. I made the excuse that I wanted a break as my education had worn me out, I didn't travel, I didn't work, I didn't do anything. But I played along with it because I never actually took a step back and thought "well, that isn't right because I got a job and made money". I didn't even have any recollection of a year of doing nothing. After 5 weeks pass, I get a job in the career field I want and I'm all happy about it. I'm filling in all the pre-screening forms and filling out the information, taking notes from my CV so that all the questions are accurate and consistent. Then I realise. I am challenged mentally. I looked at the dates, I have told 8 recruitment agencies that I done bugger all for a year and sat on my lardy arse playing ps4 and masturbating furiously with my tears. I agreed that, and i quote, "in hindsight, it wasn't the right thing to do". I NEVER HAD A YEAR OF DOING BUGGER ALL. My fuck up is that I now look like a lazy bastard to all these people and my new employer. Moral of the story kids, always make sure that before you and out your CV, ensure that every single millimetre of it is correct and how you want it. It is effectively a catalog that employers will browse before 'buying' you and you do not want to look bad.

I fucked up my dates of employment and leaving school! I now look lazy to my employer and will most likely be watched like a hawk.

Hello, quick background my ex and I were together for 2 years and then I went to college. We made the long distance work, but it took its toll and by the end the year we were struggling to cope with not having the freedom to see each other. I broke up with him, hoping that doing so I was salvaging any possible friendship/relationship that might be in the future. But If i'm being completely honest I was young and scared that when he too went to college he would cheat on me or meet someone else. Its been a year or so, and I've got on with my life but I still think about him constantly, just wondering if on a day to day he's okay. We still chat but very rarely, which I think has been good for us to get some space. Since we broke up he's become more involved in drugs and slept around. But I don't blame him for it we're not together. But all my friends thinks he has hit rock bottom since we broke up, and the majority try laughing with me about how I dodged a bullet. I don't know what to do, I still love him. I can see what he's become and he's not the same man but I can't change how I feel. The way I see it telling him how I feel is a lose-lose, he still loves me but we're different people now and it won't work or he doesn't feel the same and I'm heartbroken all over again.

in love with my ex, but scared telling him how I feel will end badly either way and the alternative is biting my tongue which is hard enough

I just went into ms word, and started writing exactly my thoughts. It was weird, I guess I understand writers now. I would write my thoughts put them in words and just rearrange the thoughts by using different colors, sizes, or bold or italic words. I had awesome music on and just did it for an hour. It was the most weight I've felt off my shoulders in a long time. I highly recommend it, ( I'm not even like a super sad kid today I just missed a lot of people in my life ya know).

I went on ms word and got shit figured out I was curious as to what unique self medicating techniques you have that you use when you are down?