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### Human: We--### Assistant: But also, the other thing is the fact that I don't want her parents to be there - so her nana and granddad - because that's also-- the fact that they side with her because obviously, that's their-- |
### Human: It's their daughter. Yeah.### Assistant: That's their daughter. So they're going to say also sort of like, "Well, Mom's doing the best for it," and like I said, she is probably doing the best, but in our eyes, and especially in mine-- I know that , on the same page. To us it feels like she isn't trying hard enough, and they're going to see-- |
### Human: What would you like her to do? What would her trying hard enough look like for you?### Assistant: The biggest part of her trying her hardest is giving us a bit of independence to do whatever. To jump between houses. So let's say I had my football stuff at Dad's, and I have it there as well. I had my football stuff at Dad's, and I texted her and said, "Look. I was planning on going back to Dad's. I was going to get changed there, walk to football training," because it's literally only a two-minute walk. " over the road, "and go to football training, and you can take me hom |
### Human: Yeah. And I'm hearing--### Assistant: And Mom didn't see that as-- Mom saw that as me going there and spending more time with Dad, which she doesn't like, when she's meant to have us. So she went, "No," and the fact that she would drop me-- she dropped me off there, go and grab my stuff, go back, get changed, and then I could relax at home, and I wasn't relaxed because I was agitated. The fact that Mom didn't let me do it, and that there was no-- I didn't see it as being practical. |
### Human: Yeah. What I'm hearing from Mom's point of view, "It's my day with you. I want to have as much time with you."### Assistant: To Mom, that was a good idea, but that was her idea, so she stuck with it, and that's, again, going back to the fact that that's how Mom's brain works. And I saw that as not very practical. Saves Mom less time, and saves me less mucking around because obviously, if let's say, I had forgotten something, I'd have to then go back and get it. So if I would have been there, I could spend time to go, "All right. This is what I need. This is what I need." But Mom said no. In and out. Two minutes th |
### Human: So I'm hearing what you'd like is for Mom to be a little bit calmer around-- sometimes things don't go to plan, and it's not--### Assistant: Yeah. And to give a bit more freedom, and the fact that I can go there, and she'll go, "All right. thanks, but I'll drive you back home." Like, "How sweet." |
### Human: But I'm hearing at the moment, that's too hard for Mom to do because it's that day she's meant to see you.### Assistant: And again, she-- I guess, yeah, it's her day to see us, yeah, but I would prefer her to go-- instead of the fact that that's her day, to go over a fortnight, we can see Mom as much as we want, and Dad as much as we want. We might spend a week at Mom's and a week at Dad's, and we might spend two days with Mom and the rest with Dad, or we might spend two days with Dad and the rest with Mom. I want her to see the fact that that's not her allocated time. I don't want that to be her allocated tim |
### Human: So I'm hearing you want to have more of a choice in it.### Assistant: Yeah. And that's what the-- again, going back to our birthday. That's when we get to because we're officially 16 years old, and we can then really-- and go, "Yeah. That's what I want to do." |
### Human: And maybe the take home message from today is having to think about now and for the next six months, are there any small things that you can do to be more independent?### Assistant: Or is there any other things that would help me get closer to being independent. That's what I've got to figure out. If I can find little things that may draw her closer to-- |
### Human: And is--### Assistant: --sort of geting rid of the fact that taking our opinions on board, or what we want on board, and actually talking through it instead of her going, "Yeah. I'll take it on board," but just going , and just chucking it straight away. |
### Human: So Mom actually listening. Yeah.### Assistant: So she's listening, but she's not hearing. So it's going in, she's listened to it-- |
### Human: ##h. Yeah.### Assistant: She's listened, but she hasn't heard what we're trying to say. I guess that's a better way of explaining that's how her brain works. I think that's, I guess, a better way of saying it. It's the fact that she's heard. So she's listened, but she hasn't heard. At the moment, the independence is one of my biggest things. At the moment is the fact that-- so we can see Dad when there's no allocated times to see Mom and Dad because-- |
### Human: But it sounds like--### Assistant: I guess if we want to get away from Mom, if we've had a fight, we can go, "Oh," and we can walk down to Dad's, and we won't get in trouble for it because we don't have allocated times. But if we're angry at Mom or angry at Dad, we can't go anywhere because that's allocated times. But I know if we were angry at Dad and we wanted to go back to Mom's, he'd obviously, "Yeah," but he'd want us to think about it and see if we wanted to stay there, or he goes, "All right. If you want to go back, yo |