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POST: Hey guys, new here. I broke up with my first gf about 4 months ago, and although at the time it was mutual, but I later found out that she had been cheating on me since pretty much day one. Needless to say, she really wasn't the girl I thought she was.
Shortly (about a month) afterwards, I fell for another girl, and we started talking. Ik for a fact we both liked each other. Recently, last Monday, she told me we could still be friends, but she had no intent to date me anymore. I was going to ask her out the next day.
All this too say, what do I do? I feel like no girl will ever live me for me, and ill be single forever. I get out a lot, but I dont make friends easily. I hang out with my few close friends (and my crush was and still is one).
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All this too say, what do I do? I feel like no girl will ever live me for me, and ill be single forever. I get out a lot, but I dont make friends easily. I hang out with my few close friends (and my crush was and still is one).
TL;DR: Broke up with first girl 4 months ago, found out she was cheating on me since day one. Starting to like another girl, she told me she still liked me and wanted to be friends. What do I do?<|endoftext|> | [
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POST: Hey guys, new here. I broke up with my first gf about 4 months ago, and although at the time it was mutual, but I later found out that she had been cheating on me since pretty much day one. Needless to say, she really wasn't the girl I thought she was.
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All this too say, what do I do? I feel like no girl will ever live me for me, and ill be single forever. I get out a lot, but I dont make friends easily. I hang out with my few close friends (and my crush was and still is one).
TL;DR: I'm a virgin, and I dont know what to do, or how to make friends.<|endoftext|> | [
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Followup to this:
We broke up today and I just need a place to vent a bit. We got to know each other at 16, it was the first relationship for both of us. First everything. Long distance relationship for a whopping 4 years after meeting over the internet, and we even moved in together and gone for 2 more years. I think it's fairly impressive.
I know it's going to suck hard. I know the first relationship is always special.
Right now it hasn't really hit me yet. It feels like there is still hope even though I know deep inside there isn't. We still want to be friends and she's gonna move out once she finds a place, but this is gonna be super hard for me.
One day she just stopped loving me. It just seems so unfair because i did everything for her and never saw it coming. I still love her to death and can't really talk to anyone about this. | girlfriend of 6 years broke up with me, I'm hurting and never saw it coming. | My gf broke up with me after a beautiful 6-year relationship and we still don't know why she stopped loving me. It hurts because she was my world. | [
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TITLE:
POST: Followup to this:
We broke up today and I just need a place to vent a bit. We got to know each other at 16, it was the first relationship for both of us. First everything. Long distance relationship for a whopping 4 years after meeting over the internet, and we even moved in together and gone for 2 more years. I think it's fairly impressive.
I know it's going to suck hard. I know the first relationship is always special.
Right now it hasn't really hit me yet. It feels like there is still hope even though I know deep inside there isn't. We still want to be friends and she's gonna move out once she finds a place, but this is gonna be super hard for me.
One day she just stopped loving me. It just seems so unfair because i did everything for her and never saw it coming. I still love her to death and can't really talk to anyone about this.
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TITLE:
POST: Followup to this:
We broke up today and I just need a place to vent a bit. We got to know each other at 16, it was the first relationship for both of us. First everything. Long distance relationship for a whopping 4 years after meeting over the internet, and we even moved in together and gone for 2 more years. I think it's fairly impressive.
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One day she just stopped loving me. It just seems so unfair because i did everything for her and never saw it coming. I still love her to death and can't really talk to anyone about this.
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POST: Followup to this:
We broke up today and I just need a place to vent a bit. We got to know each other at 16, it was the first relationship for both of us. First everything. Long distance relationship for a whopping 4 years after meeting over the internet, and we even moved in together and gone for 2 more years. I think it's fairly impressive.
I know it's going to suck hard. I know the first relationship is always special.
Right now it hasn't really hit me yet. It feels like there is still hope even though I know deep inside there isn't. We still want to be friends and she's gonna move out once she finds a place, but this is gonna be super hard for me.
One day she just stopped loving me. It just seems so unfair because i did everything for her and never saw it coming. I still love her to death and can't really talk to anyone about this.
TL;DR: My gf broke up with me after a beautiful 6-year relationship and we still don't know why she stopped loving me. It hurts because she was my world.<|endoftext|> | [
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TITLE:
POST: I am unsure of where to start, so I shall start at the beginning. I'm Indian, my parent's have been pretty liberal on the whole until I finished university and started full time work.
They were convinced I was going to end up alone and kept trying to push me to meet men they approved of and wanted me to marry. It was harmless. One of their friends of a friend introduced me a man they thought I'd get on well with.
It turned out that we really did. He'a lovely, he tries and I like him a lot and I appreciate everything he does to make things work. We started parent approved dating and year on he proposed.
I never told anyone that four years ago I'd met someone that I'd fallen in love with. We had an intense, highly charged but messy relationship. I knew that my parent's would never approve and his situation was also very complicated.
We decided to take some time apart and in the mean time all of this happened. I spoke to my ex recently, after months of avoiding him and he told he'd wait for me to figure things out.
It occurred to me just how selfish I was being by starting a marriage knowing that I was still in love with someone else and not fully committing.
I feel awful for being a coward and not saying anything for this long. I feel terrible for involving someone else who is perfect for someone else out there. And I realise I need to say something, before its later than it is (its too late to stop anyone getting hurt, I take responsibility for that).
TL;DR: | I have fallen in love and is looking for a second chance, and I feel like I'm getting married for the wrong reasons.<|endoftext|> | [
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It turned out that we really did. He'a lovely, he tries and I like him a lot and I appreciate everything he does to make things work. We started parent approved dating and year on he proposed.
I never told anyone that four years ago I'd met someone that I'd fallen in love with. We had an intense, highly charged but messy relationship. I knew that my parent's would never approve and his situation was also very complicated.
We decided to take some time apart and in the mean time all of this happened. I spoke to my ex recently, after months of avoiding him and he told he'd wait for me to figure things out.
It occurred to me just how selfish I was being by starting a marriage knowing that I was still in love with someone else and not fully committing.
I feel awful for being a coward and not saying anything for this long. I feel terrible for involving someone else who is perfect for someone else out there. And I realise I need to say something, before its later than it is (its too late to stop anyone getting hurt, I take responsibility for that).
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I feel awful for being a coward and not saying anything for this long. I feel terrible for involving someone else who is perfect for someone else out there. And I realise I need to say something, before its later than it is (its too late to stop anyone getting hurt, I take responsibility for that).
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Dear people on Reddit,
My husband is American and I'm a foreigner so we applied for a K1 visa which is basically " a visa issued to the fiancé or fiancée of a United States citizen to enter the United States. A K-1 visa requires a foreigner to marry his or her U.S. citizen petitioner within 90 days of entry, or depart the United States."
With this visa I need to get married in the USA and I cannot leave USA until I adjust my status, which can takes several months. This means I can't leave USA to go to a honeymoon or to do a second wedding in my home country.
The thing is that I have lived in several countries and have friends and family all around the world so I don't even know how to start planning something. I had several ideas of weddings in the USA but either my fiancé didn't like or it was too expensive. I wanted to get married in a cruise (to Alaska), fiancé agreed but there is something called Jones act that says that every cruise must pass through foreigner ports so even if we go to Alaska, the cruise would go through Canadian waters.
I really do not want a background wedding, although this would be a reasonable choice.
I would like to have some ideas of really small destination wedding because if we get married only with our parents (and fiance's closest friends/family) present, it would be the best option because I wouldn't be happy having huge a wedding where my best friends and family couldn't attend.
Fiancé lives in Mississippi and I would like to go to somewhere snowy (we are planning to get married during xmas holiday)
I feel like I'm going crazy trying to plan something in those circumstances. I always wanted to get married in a lake in Slovenia, in a cruise in Alaska, in a ice chapel in Finland or have an elopement wedding in Icelandic but unfortunately US immigration broke my heart haha | I need some ideas of how to plan a really small destination wedding (with only closest family) in the USA. Visa says I need to get married in the US and cannot leave the US for honeymoon. | I want to get married in my home country, but cannot leave USA until I get a visa. I want to go on a cruise, a cruise would go through Canadian waters. | [
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TITLE:
POST: Dear people on Reddit,
My husband is American and I'm a foreigner so we applied for a K1 visa which is basically " a visa issued to the fiancé or fiancée of a United States citizen to enter the United States. A K-1 visa requires a foreigner to marry his or her U.S. citizen petitioner within 90 days of entry, or depart the United States."
With this visa I need to get married in the USA and I cannot leave USA until I adjust my status, which can takes several months. This means I can't leave USA to go to a honeymoon or to do a second wedding in my home country.
The thing is that I have lived in several countries and have friends and family all around the world so I don't even know how to start planning something. I had several ideas of weddings in the USA but either my fiancé didn't like or it was too expensive. I wanted to get married in a cruise (to Alaska), fiancé agreed but there is something called Jones act that says that every cruise must pass through foreigner ports so even if we go to Alaska, the cruise would go through Canadian waters.
I really do not want a background wedding, although this would be a reasonable choice.
I would like to have some ideas of really small destination wedding because if we get married only with our parents (and fiance's closest friends/family) present, it would be the best option because I wouldn't be happy having huge a wedding where my best friends and family couldn't attend.
Fiancé lives in Mississippi and I would like to go to somewhere snowy (we are planning to get married during xmas holiday)
I feel like I'm going crazy trying to plan something in those circumstances. I always wanted to get married in a lake in Slovenia, in a cruise in Alaska, in a ice chapel in Finland or have an elopement wedding in Icelandic but unfortunately US immigration broke my heart haha
TL;DR: | I need some ideas of how to plan a really small destination wedding (with only closest family) in the USA. Visa says I need to get married in the US and cannot leave the US for honeymoon.<|endoftext|> | [
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TITLE:
POST: Dear people on Reddit,
My husband is American and I'm a foreigner so we applied for a K1 visa which is basically " a visa issued to the fiancé or fiancée of a United States citizen to enter the United States. A K-1 visa requires a foreigner to marry his or her U.S. citizen petitioner within 90 days of entry, or depart the United States."
With this visa I need to get married in the USA and I cannot leave USA until I adjust my status, which can takes several months. This means I can't leave USA to go to a honeymoon or to do a second wedding in my home country.
The thing is that I have lived in several countries and have friends and family all around the world so I don't even know how to start planning something. I had several ideas of weddings in the USA but either my fiancé didn't like or it was too expensive. I wanted to get married in a cruise (to Alaska), fiancé agreed but there is something called Jones act that says that every cruise must pass through foreigner ports so even if we go to Alaska, the cruise would go through Canadian waters.
I really do not want a background wedding, although this would be a reasonable choice.
I would like to have some ideas of really small destination wedding because if we get married only with our parents (and fiance's closest friends/family) present, it would be the best option because I wouldn't be happy having huge a wedding where my best friends and family couldn't attend.
Fiancé lives in Mississippi and I would like to go to somewhere snowy (we are planning to get married during xmas holiday)
I feel like I'm going crazy trying to plan something in those circumstances. I always wanted to get married in a lake in Slovenia, in a cruise in Alaska, in a ice chapel in Finland or have an elopement wedding in Icelandic but unfortunately US immigration broke my heart haha
TL;DR: I need some ideas of how to plan a really small destination wedding (with only closest family) in the USA. Visa says I need to get married in the US and cannot leave the US for honeymoon.<|endoftext|> | [
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POST: Dear people on Reddit,
My husband is American and I'm a foreigner so we applied for a K1 visa which is basically " a visa issued to the fiancé or fiancée of a United States citizen to enter the United States. A K-1 visa requires a foreigner to marry his or her U.S. citizen petitioner within 90 days of entry, or depart the United States."
With this visa I need to get married in the USA and I cannot leave USA until I adjust my status, which can takes several months. This means I can't leave USA to go to a honeymoon or to do a second wedding in my home country.
The thing is that I have lived in several countries and have friends and family all around the world so I don't even know how to start planning something. I had several ideas of weddings in the USA but either my fiancé didn't like or it was too expensive. I wanted to get married in a cruise (to Alaska), fiancé agreed but there is something called Jones act that says that every cruise must pass through foreigner ports so even if we go to Alaska, the cruise would go through Canadian waters.
I really do not want a background wedding, although this would be a reasonable choice.
I would like to have some ideas of really small destination wedding because if we get married only with our parents (and fiance's closest friends/family) present, it would be the best option because I wouldn't be happy having huge a wedding where my best friends and family couldn't attend.
Fiancé lives in Mississippi and I would like to go to somewhere snowy (we are planning to get married during xmas holiday)
I feel like I'm going crazy trying to plan something in those circumstances. I always wanted to get married in a lake in Slovenia, in a cruise in Alaska, in a ice chapel in Finland or have an elopement wedding in Icelandic but unfortunately US immigration broke my heart haha
TL;DR: I want to get married in my home country, but cannot leave USA until I get a visa. I want to go on a cruise, a cruise would go through Canadian waters. <|endoftext|> | [
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Hey,
I dont really want to write a long story, just wana hear more what people think about when you have fallen out of love.
I have been dating the perfect girl for 10 months and i think i have fallen out of love. She is still in love with me, and shes still perfect. I feel like i have been given the choice of breakign up the most perfect relationship ever just because im kinda not into it anymore ("its not you its me") or continuing with her. What if a girl is 98% of what you look for in another person... is that enough?
kisses,
Kev | am i a bitch for falling out of love with the perfect person. Should i just keep dating her because... shes perfect. | I think i'm falling out of love with my gf. i feel like its all about her. i dont know what to do. | [
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I dont really want to write a long story, just wana hear more what people think about when you have fallen out of love.
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kisses,
Kev
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I dont really want to write a long story, just wana hear more what people think about when you have fallen out of love.
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kisses,
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POST: Hey,
I dont really want to write a long story, just wana hear more what people think about when you have fallen out of love.
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kisses,
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I feel stupid that I didn't realize that the fan wasn't on all the way, but to be fair, I never heard it on all the way (its a lot louder when it is on 100%). Because of this, I'm fairly sure that I must have breathed in some fibers. Now, I also know that when you breathe in a fiber, it takes around 30-40 years for it to develop into lung cancer. During this time it just stays in your lungs and your body cannot break it down. They are microscopic pieces of rock.
I don't see a point of living life "healthy" anymore. I really feel like I will die in 30-40 years as a result of lung cancer because of this. I don't feel like a doctor can help me now because I don't have any symptoms, the fiber would just be in my lung.
My question is basically, am i wrong in that a doctor cannot help me? | Worked at an asbestos lab with a fan that wasn't on all the way, I think I breathed in more than one fiber and will die as a result of lung cancer. Can a doctor help me? | I know I may die from lung cancer because I'm convinced I've inhaled fibers, is a doctor wrong in that a doctor cannot do anything for me now? | [
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POST: Last summer I worked at an asbestos lab where my duties were to prep samples and analyze some of them. Specifically, one of the responsibilities was to prepare larger samples that came in petri dishes and put them in tubes. We had vents and set places to work at and I followed procedure all the time. About a month of doing this kind of work (around 3 hours a day) I found out that the fan at the bench I was working on was a bit broken. Apparently, when you turn it on all the way, the fan isn't actually on all the way (barely on) and to turn it on all the way, you had to move the switch about 3/4 of the way. A month of doing this kind of work under a bad fan. This is what scares me. Some of the samples that I dealt with were very dirty and I know that some of them contained fibers because I know that some samples failed the tests.
I feel stupid that I didn't realize that the fan wasn't on all the way, but to be fair, I never heard it on all the way (its a lot louder when it is on 100%). Because of this, I'm fairly sure that I must have breathed in some fibers. Now, I also know that when you breathe in a fiber, it takes around 30-40 years for it to develop into lung cancer. During this time it just stays in your lungs and your body cannot break it down. They are microscopic pieces of rock.
I don't see a point of living life "healthy" anymore. I really feel like I will die in 30-40 years as a result of lung cancer because of this. I don't feel like a doctor can help me now because I don't have any symptoms, the fiber would just be in my lung.
My question is basically, am i wrong in that a doctor cannot help me?
TL;DR: | Worked at an asbestos lab with a fan that wasn't on all the way, I think I breathed in more than one fiber and will die as a result of lung cancer. Can a doctor help me?<|endoftext|> | [
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I feel stupid that I didn't realize that the fan wasn't on all the way, but to be fair, I never heard it on all the way (its a lot louder when it is on 100%). Because of this, I'm fairly sure that I must have breathed in some fibers. Now, I also know that when you breathe in a fiber, it takes around 30-40 years for it to develop into lung cancer. During this time it just stays in your lungs and your body cannot break it down. They are microscopic pieces of rock.
I don't see a point of living life "healthy" anymore. I really feel like I will die in 30-40 years as a result of lung cancer because of this. I don't feel like a doctor can help me now because I don't have any symptoms, the fiber would just be in my lung.
My question is basically, am i wrong in that a doctor cannot help me?
TL;DR: Worked at an asbestos lab with a fan that wasn't on all the way, I think I breathed in more than one fiber and will die as a result of lung cancer. Can a doctor help me?<|endoftext|> | [
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TITLE:
POST: Last summer I worked at an asbestos lab where my duties were to prep samples and analyze some of them. Specifically, one of the responsibilities was to prepare larger samples that came in petri dishes and put them in tubes. We had vents and set places to work at and I followed procedure all the time. About a month of doing this kind of work (around 3 hours a day) I found out that the fan at the bench I was working on was a bit broken. Apparently, when you turn it on all the way, the fan isn't actually on all the way (barely on) and to turn it on all the way, you had to move the switch about 3/4 of the way. A month of doing this kind of work under a bad fan. This is what scares me. Some of the samples that I dealt with were very dirty and I know that some of them contained fibers because I know that some samples failed the tests.
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I don't see a point of living life "healthy" anymore. I really feel like I will die in 30-40 years as a result of lung cancer because of this. I don't feel like a doctor can help me now because I don't have any symptoms, the fiber would just be in my lung.
My question is basically, am i wrong in that a doctor cannot help me?
TL;DR: I know I may die from lung cancer because I'm convinced I've inhaled fibers, is a doctor wrong in that a doctor cannot do anything for me now?<|endoftext|> | [
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In middle school, there was a low tree/shrub thing out in the courtyard by the cafeteria. Everyday I would sit on a low branch (by low I mean three feet off the ground) and eat my lunch or hang with friends. Almost every day, this little brat would tease me and call me "Monkey Girl" and other such names. The names, to be honest, were horrible and unoriginal and I don't know why I got as upset about it as I did.
I didn't really have a lot of friends or confidence, and I had no self-esteem whatsoever. I never got in trouble and would be considered a "teacher's pet" by most. However, one day enough was enough. The bell rang for class and as everyone is crowding the hallways, I see a backpack lying smack dab in the middle of the floor. As I near it, I hear someone running behind me. I look over and its that brat again. He must be late for something. Instead of going around the backpack, he jumps over it. I stick my foot out and trip him mid-air. He lands on his face and whips around to glare at me.
Just my luck the principal's office is RIGHT there.
The principal, seeing the whole thing, brings us into his office and asks what happens. The brat says how I tripped him for no reason at all and he doesn't know why I would do such a thing. At this point I'm crying and snarfing all over myself because I've never been to the principal for anything bad. I buck up and say how the brat has been bullying and teasing me non-stop for weeks.
The principal gives the brat after-school detention, and I only get lunch detention (which means I have to wait thirty extra minutes before going to lunch) | Brat calls me monkey girl. I trip him, and then we call him into the office and get him in trouble for bullying me. | the most popular kid in my grade was a bully and I tripped him for no reason. He got detention, I got less. | [
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TITLE:
POST: In middle school, there was a low tree/shrub thing out in the courtyard by the cafeteria. Everyday I would sit on a low branch (by low I mean three feet off the ground) and eat my lunch or hang with friends. Almost every day, this little brat would tease me and call me "Monkey Girl" and other such names. The names, to be honest, were horrible and unoriginal and I don't know why I got as upset about it as I did.
I didn't really have a lot of friends or confidence, and I had no self-esteem whatsoever. I never got in trouble and would be considered a "teacher's pet" by most. However, one day enough was enough. The bell rang for class and as everyone is crowding the hallways, I see a backpack lying smack dab in the middle of the floor. As I near it, I hear someone running behind me. I look over and its that brat again. He must be late for something. Instead of going around the backpack, he jumps over it. I stick my foot out and trip him mid-air. He lands on his face and whips around to glare at me.
Just my luck the principal's office is RIGHT there.
The principal, seeing the whole thing, brings us into his office and asks what happens. The brat says how I tripped him for no reason at all and he doesn't know why I would do such a thing. At this point I'm crying and snarfing all over myself because I've never been to the principal for anything bad. I buck up and say how the brat has been bullying and teasing me non-stop for weeks.
The principal gives the brat after-school detention, and I only get lunch detention (which means I have to wait thirty extra minutes before going to lunch)
TL;DR: | Brat calls me monkey girl. I trip him, and then we call him into the office and get him in trouble for bullying me.<|endoftext|> | [
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POST: In middle school, there was a low tree/shrub thing out in the courtyard by the cafeteria. Everyday I would sit on a low branch (by low I mean three feet off the ground) and eat my lunch or hang with friends. Almost every day, this little brat would tease me and call me "Monkey Girl" and other such names. The names, to be honest, were horrible and unoriginal and I don't know why I got as upset about it as I did.
I didn't really have a lot of friends or confidence, and I had no self-esteem whatsoever. I never got in trouble and would be considered a "teacher's pet" by most. However, one day enough was enough. The bell rang for class and as everyone is crowding the hallways, I see a backpack lying smack dab in the middle of the floor. As I near it, I hear someone running behind me. I look over and its that brat again. He must be late for something. Instead of going around the backpack, he jumps over it. I stick my foot out and trip him mid-air. He lands on his face and whips around to glare at me.
Just my luck the principal's office is RIGHT there.
The principal, seeing the whole thing, brings us into his office and asks what happens. The brat says how I tripped him for no reason at all and he doesn't know why I would do such a thing. At this point I'm crying and snarfing all over myself because I've never been to the principal for anything bad. I buck up and say how the brat has been bullying and teasing me non-stop for weeks.
The principal gives the brat after-school detention, and I only get lunch detention (which means I have to wait thirty extra minutes before going to lunch)
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POST: In middle school, there was a low tree/shrub thing out in the courtyard by the cafeteria. Everyday I would sit on a low branch (by low I mean three feet off the ground) and eat my lunch or hang with friends. Almost every day, this little brat would tease me and call me "Monkey Girl" and other such names. The names, to be honest, were horrible and unoriginal and I don't know why I got as upset about it as I did.
I didn't really have a lot of friends or confidence, and I had no self-esteem whatsoever. I never got in trouble and would be considered a "teacher's pet" by most. However, one day enough was enough. The bell rang for class and as everyone is crowding the hallways, I see a backpack lying smack dab in the middle of the floor. As I near it, I hear someone running behind me. I look over and its that brat again. He must be late for something. Instead of going around the backpack, he jumps over it. I stick my foot out and trip him mid-air. He lands on his face and whips around to glare at me.
Just my luck the principal's office is RIGHT there.
The principal, seeing the whole thing, brings us into his office and asks what happens. The brat says how I tripped him for no reason at all and he doesn't know why I would do such a thing. At this point I'm crying and snarfing all over myself because I've never been to the principal for anything bad. I buck up and say how the brat has been bullying and teasing me non-stop for weeks.
The principal gives the brat after-school detention, and I only get lunch detention (which means I have to wait thirty extra minutes before going to lunch)
TL;DR: the most popular kid in my grade was a bully and I tripped him for no reason. He got detention, I got less.<|endoftext|> | [
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My Mom and my Aunt got in a small argument a few months ago, nothing major, but Aunt over reacted and chose to stop speaking to mom. Grandma intervened and told Aunt and Mom to stop the fight, Mom apologized but Aunt decided to stop speaking to Gma too! Inviting Gma to Christmas was the first time they spoke in 6 months. My mom has a great relationship with her other siblings, one of her brothers is even temporarily staying at our house right now. They all want to see each other. My family is 15 shades of dysfunctional but no one else would ever dream of breaking up Christmas like this.
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I want to be with my extended family for Christmas. I love em. What can I do (or influence my Mother and Grandmother to do) that will get me to see my extended family for Christmas? Apologies from Mom to Aunt did nothing. I'm not sure if the Uncles all know about this. Would having a whole 2nd Christmas gathering be rude and undermine Aunt? Should we just crash Aunt's party? Please give me some insight on how to fix this fiasco of a holiday. | Aunt invited extended family to Christmas party that will not include me and my family, want to fix the situation. Advice? | Aunt invited everyone to Christmas party, excluding my extended family of 3 parents, 2 children, and dogs. Accidentally snubbed me and Mom. Need to fix Christmas party. | [
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TITLE:
POST: The Aunt in question is my Moms sister. My immediate family is me (F21) sister (F18) mom and dad (50ish). The extended side of the family is huge-there are 2 sisters and 5 brothers and all have minimum 4 kids (most are grown with kids of their own, also invited to this Christmas event). Aunt volunteered to host Christmas this year and invited all the Uncles, wives, kids, and even dogs, but she has stated she will not be inviting my mom, dad, me, or my little sister, whom she is godmother to.
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My Mom and my Aunt got in a small argument a few months ago, nothing major, but Aunt over reacted and chose to stop speaking to mom. Grandma intervened and told Aunt and Mom to stop the fight, Mom apologized but Aunt decided to stop speaking to Gma too! Inviting Gma to Christmas was the first time they spoke in 6 months. My mom has a great relationship with her other siblings, one of her brothers is even temporarily staying at our house right now. They all want to see each other. My family is 15 shades of dysfunctional but no one else would ever dream of breaking up Christmas like this.
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I want to be with my extended family for Christmas. I love em. What can I do (or influence my Mother and Grandmother to do) that will get me to see my extended family for Christmas? Apologies from Mom to Aunt did nothing. I'm not sure if the Uncles all know about this. Would having a whole 2nd Christmas gathering be rude and undermine Aunt? Should we just crash Aunt's party? Please give me some insight on how to fix this fiasco of a holiday.
TL;DR: | Aunt invited extended family to Christmas party that will not include me and my family, want to fix the situation. Advice?<|endoftext|> | [
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POST: The Aunt in question is my Moms sister. My immediate family is me (F21) sister (F18) mom and dad (50ish). The extended side of the family is huge-there are 2 sisters and 5 brothers and all have minimum 4 kids (most are grown with kids of their own, also invited to this Christmas event). Aunt volunteered to host Christmas this year and invited all the Uncles, wives, kids, and even dogs, but she has stated she will not be inviting my mom, dad, me, or my little sister, whom she is godmother to.
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My Mom and my Aunt got in a small argument a few months ago, nothing major, but Aunt over reacted and chose to stop speaking to mom. Grandma intervened and told Aunt and Mom to stop the fight, Mom apologized but Aunt decided to stop speaking to Gma too! Inviting Gma to Christmas was the first time they spoke in 6 months. My mom has a great relationship with her other siblings, one of her brothers is even temporarily staying at our house right now. They all want to see each other. My family is 15 shades of dysfunctional but no one else would ever dream of breaking up Christmas like this.
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I want to be with my extended family for Christmas. I love em. What can I do (or influence my Mother and Grandmother to do) that will get me to see my extended family for Christmas? Apologies from Mom to Aunt did nothing. I'm not sure if the Uncles all know about this. Would having a whole 2nd Christmas gathering be rude and undermine Aunt? Should we just crash Aunt's party? Please give me some insight on how to fix this fiasco of a holiday.
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TITLE:
POST: The Aunt in question is my Moms sister. My immediate family is me (F21) sister (F18) mom and dad (50ish). The extended side of the family is huge-there are 2 sisters and 5 brothers and all have minimum 4 kids (most are grown with kids of their own, also invited to this Christmas event). Aunt volunteered to host Christmas this year and invited all the Uncles, wives, kids, and even dogs, but she has stated she will not be inviting my mom, dad, me, or my little sister, whom she is godmother to.
---
My Mom and my Aunt got in a small argument a few months ago, nothing major, but Aunt over reacted and chose to stop speaking to mom. Grandma intervened and told Aunt and Mom to stop the fight, Mom apologized but Aunt decided to stop speaking to Gma too! Inviting Gma to Christmas was the first time they spoke in 6 months. My mom has a great relationship with her other siblings, one of her brothers is even temporarily staying at our house right now. They all want to see each other. My family is 15 shades of dysfunctional but no one else would ever dream of breaking up Christmas like this.
---
I want to be with my extended family for Christmas. I love em. What can I do (or influence my Mother and Grandmother to do) that will get me to see my extended family for Christmas? Apologies from Mom to Aunt did nothing. I'm not sure if the Uncles all know about this. Would having a whole 2nd Christmas gathering be rude and undermine Aunt? Should we just crash Aunt's party? Please give me some insight on how to fix this fiasco of a holiday.
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I'm pretty hopeless when it comes to judging when things are over. I get the feeling that my boyfriend of a few months has been trying to push me to end things with him because he doesn't have the balls to tell me he's just not that into me. For the most part I really like him, but he just keeps throwing road blocks at me and when I bring them up I get some stock "no baby, you've got it all wrong!" response.
Recently he's been wanting "space"... he's the one making plans to do stuff with me, acting excited to do things with me if I ask him if he wants to do something, ditching out on me, contacting me, telling me he misses me, and as soon as I respond to him he acts like he's suffocating. .___.; I just want him to break it off if he hates me, rather than pushing it on to me when I still like him and I would like to spend time with him if he would also like to. But even though I leave a wide opening for him to tell me if something's up, he doesn't. He only communicates his issues if he thinks he's in trouble and he can use them as a jail free card.
In my head I think "Maybe I'm just misjudging that he doesn't want to be around me and something else is up, so I should give him another chance, and another, just so long as he says he wants it to work." Everyone has their issues and I try to be understanding, and I'd rather not throw away a relationship with someone I like if there's something that can be fixed... But what can I do to find out if this is even resolvable? | My boyfriend says he wants to work through our issues, but only ever gives token effort to resolve them. I still like him but feel like he's just no longer into me and is avoiding me but not even want to admit it to himself. What should my last stand be to ward him away if he's just poison without throwing him away if it's just some stupid little thing that can be fixed? | My boyfriend is putting up roadblocks to me, but I still like him, and I don't want to throw away a relationship just because of it. What can I do to find out if this is even resolvable, or if it's just a one time thing? | [
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POST: I'm pretty hopeless when it comes to judging when things are over. I get the feeling that my boyfriend of a few months has been trying to push me to end things with him because he doesn't have the balls to tell me he's just not that into me. For the most part I really like him, but he just keeps throwing road blocks at me and when I bring them up I get some stock "no baby, you've got it all wrong!" response.
Recently he's been wanting "space"... he's the one making plans to do stuff with me, acting excited to do things with me if I ask him if he wants to do something, ditching out on me, contacting me, telling me he misses me, and as soon as I respond to him he acts like he's suffocating..___.; I just want him to break it off if he hates me, rather than pushing it on to me when I still like him and I would like to spend time with him if he would also like to. But even though I leave a wide opening for him to tell me if something's up, he doesn't. He only communicates his issues if he thinks he's in trouble and he can use them as a jail free card.
In my head I think "Maybe I'm just misjudging that he doesn't want to be around me and something else is up, so I should give him another chance, and another, just so long as he says he wants it to work." Everyone has their issues and I try to be understanding, and I'd rather not throw away a relationship with someone I like if there's something that can be fixed... But what can I do to find out if this is even resolvable?
TL;DR: | My boyfriend says he wants to work through our issues, but only ever gives token effort to resolve them. I still like him but feel like he's just no longer into me and is avoiding me but not even want to admit it to himself. What should my last stand be to ward him away if he's just poison without throwing him away if it's just some stupid little thing that can be fixed?<|endoftext|> | [
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POST: I'm pretty hopeless when it comes to judging when things are over. I get the feeling that my boyfriend of a few months has been trying to push me to end things with him because he doesn't have the balls to tell me he's just not that into me. For the most part I really like him, but he just keeps throwing road blocks at me and when I bring them up I get some stock "no baby, you've got it all wrong!" response.
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TL;DR: My boyfriend says he wants to work through our issues, but only ever gives token effort to resolve them. I still like him but feel like he's just no longer into me and is avoiding me but not even want to admit it to himself. What should my last stand be to ward him away if he's just poison without throwing him away if it's just some stupid little thing that can be fixed?<|endoftext|> | [
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POST: I'm pretty hopeless when it comes to judging when things are over. I get the feeling that my boyfriend of a few months has been trying to push me to end things with him because he doesn't have the balls to tell me he's just not that into me. For the most part I really like him, but he just keeps throwing road blocks at me and when I bring them up I get some stock "no baby, you've got it all wrong!" response.
Recently he's been wanting "space"... he's the one making plans to do stuff with me, acting excited to do things with me if I ask him if he wants to do something, ditching out on me, contacting me, telling me he misses me, and as soon as I respond to him he acts like he's suffocating..___.; I just want him to break it off if he hates me, rather than pushing it on to me when I still like him and I would like to spend time with him if he would also like to. But even though I leave a wide opening for him to tell me if something's up, he doesn't. He only communicates his issues if he thinks he's in trouble and he can use them as a jail free card.
In my head I think "Maybe I'm just misjudging that he doesn't want to be around me and something else is up, so I should give him another chance, and another, just so long as he says he wants it to work." Everyone has their issues and I try to be understanding, and I'd rather not throw away a relationship with someone I like if there's something that can be fixed... But what can I do to find out if this is even resolvable?
TL;DR: My boyfriend is putting up roadblocks to me, but I still like him, and I don't want to throw away a relationship just because of it. What can I do to find out if this is even resolvable, or if it's just a one time thing?<|endoftext|> | [
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Little bit of background; My girlfriend, let's call her Jane for name's sake, and I are in a relationship, but it's not an open one. This means that we don't act like we're in a relationship in school because right now, it's only between us.
Jane and I decided to keep it this way because she currently has a plethora of issues concerning other guys and felt as if being in an open relationship with me would only aggravate the existing ones. I'm completely fine with this as long as she doesn't have to deal with more problems as a result.
Anyways, Jane is a very busy person given all of her responsibilities, and consequently we barely get to see each other.
My issue is not with Jane necessarily, but with myself. I am a very emotional person and tend to overanalyze situations, so this creates a number of problems for me.
For one, when Jane responds late to my texts (understandably because of her busy schedule), I feel as if she doesn't want to talk to me. I feel a little depressed and sad as a result and am stuck in a glum mood until I get a response.
Secondly, whenever she calls or texts me, 80% of the time it's regarding schoolwork or academics. I don't mind the fact that she asks me for help, but I wish schoolwork wasn't the only reason for calling.
Keeping in mind that she warned me that she wouldn't have a lot of time to spend with me, I don't blame her for her actions, but I can't help the fact that I miss her a lot. My question is how do I stop feeling so emotional? I don't think it's healthy to have a person have this effect on another, so how do I mitigate the effects?
Thanks in advance. | How can I stop being so emotional? | I get emotionally attached to my girlfriend, but I am easily distracted by schoolwork and other things. How do I stop being so emotionally attached to her? | [
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POST: Little bit of background; My girlfriend, let's call her Jane for name's sake, and I are in a relationship, but it's not an open one. This means that we don't act like we're in a relationship in school because right now, it's only between us.
Jane and I decided to keep it this way because she currently has a plethora of issues concerning other guys and felt as if being in an open relationship with me would only aggravate the existing ones. I'm completely fine with this as long as she doesn't have to deal with more problems as a result.
Anyways, Jane is a very busy person given all of her responsibilities, and consequently we barely get to see each other.
My issue is not with Jane necessarily, but with myself. I am a very emotional person and tend to overanalyze situations, so this creates a number of problems for me.
For one, when Jane responds late to my texts (understandably because of her busy schedule), I feel as if she doesn't want to talk to me. I feel a little depressed and sad as a result and am stuck in a glum mood until I get a response.
Secondly, whenever she calls or texts me, 80% of the time it's regarding schoolwork or academics. I don't mind the fact that she asks me for help, but I wish schoolwork wasn't the only reason for calling.
Keeping in mind that she warned me that she wouldn't have a lot of time to spend with me, I don't blame her for her actions, but I can't help the fact that I miss her a lot. My question is how do I stop feeling so emotional? I don't think it's healthy to have a person have this effect on another, so how do I mitigate the effects?
Thanks in advance.
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POST: Little bit of background; My girlfriend, let's call her Jane for name's sake, and I are in a relationship, but it's not an open one. This means that we don't act like we're in a relationship in school because right now, it's only between us.
Jane and I decided to keep it this way because she currently has a plethora of issues concerning other guys and felt as if being in an open relationship with me would only aggravate the existing ones. I'm completely fine with this as long as she doesn't have to deal with more problems as a result.
Anyways, Jane is a very busy person given all of her responsibilities, and consequently we barely get to see each other.
My issue is not with Jane necessarily, but with myself. I am a very emotional person and tend to overanalyze situations, so this creates a number of problems for me.
For one, when Jane responds late to my texts (understandably because of her busy schedule), I feel as if she doesn't want to talk to me. I feel a little depressed and sad as a result and am stuck in a glum mood until I get a response.
Secondly, whenever she calls or texts me, 80% of the time it's regarding schoolwork or academics. I don't mind the fact that she asks me for help, but I wish schoolwork wasn't the only reason for calling.
Keeping in mind that she warned me that she wouldn't have a lot of time to spend with me, I don't blame her for her actions, but I can't help the fact that I miss her a lot. My question is how do I stop feeling so emotional? I don't think it's healthy to have a person have this effect on another, so how do I mitigate the effects?
Thanks in advance.
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POST: Little bit of background; My girlfriend, let's call her Jane for name's sake, and I are in a relationship, but it's not an open one. This means that we don't act like we're in a relationship in school because right now, it's only between us.
Jane and I decided to keep it this way because she currently has a plethora of issues concerning other guys and felt as if being in an open relationship with me would only aggravate the existing ones. I'm completely fine with this as long as she doesn't have to deal with more problems as a result.
Anyways, Jane is a very busy person given all of her responsibilities, and consequently we barely get to see each other.
My issue is not with Jane necessarily, but with myself. I am a very emotional person and tend to overanalyze situations, so this creates a number of problems for me.
For one, when Jane responds late to my texts (understandably because of her busy schedule), I feel as if she doesn't want to talk to me. I feel a little depressed and sad as a result and am stuck in a glum mood until I get a response.
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Keeping in mind that she warned me that she wouldn't have a lot of time to spend with me, I don't blame her for her actions, but I can't help the fact that I miss her a lot. My question is how do I stop feeling so emotional? I don't think it's healthy to have a person have this effect on another, so how do I mitigate the effects?
Thanks in advance.
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Hey r/PersonalFinance,
I’m writing here to get some feedback on my financial plan for the next 10 years and my long-term financial goals. On top of that I’d like to ask whether there is anything more I could be doing, or anything I should be doing differently.
So I’m 22, and a fully payed off homeowner in the UK. Currently this home is being rented to 4 students and pulls in about £1500 a month in rental income. On top of this, I work a decent steady job, making £22500 a year before tax. I keep these 2 incomes separate, as my parents frequently need to use some or all of the rental income for the near future. My job income is how I live and all of my current savings are spent on flights to the US to see my girlfriend as often as possible.
So here is the plan; In the next 12 months I plan to move to the USA, this will be by marrying my girlfriend. Once there, I am fairly confident I can get a decent job that can provide for both of us (at that point I’d be a 1 year graduated software engineer). In the next 6 months I plan on buying a house where I work in the UK on a mortgage, living there until I move to the states then renting it out from there, using the rental income to pay off the mortgage, and whatever is left from the student rented property.
Essentially, I’d like to earn my living through property eventually, and for the lifestyle I would like to live, this would mean probably making £150-£200k a year from it. In the meantime I’ll work a job to live and keep rolling property into more property until I have roughly 10 fully payed off. I’ll diversify location and size, but I plan on keeping them mostly in the UK.
So is there anything more or differently I could be doing? Does this sound responsible, or even feasible? Thanks for any replies! | 22 year old in UK, in the next 10 years am looking to earn a decent living through property, starting with a UK house, looking to diversify location and size, and to have my mortgage paid off by the end of the 10 years. | I have a decent steady job and a rental property, I plan on buying a house eventually and living off it for the next 10 years. Is it irresponsible, or even feasible? | [
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POST: Hey r/PersonalFinance,
I’m writing here to get some feedback on my financial plan for the next 10 years and my long-term financial goals. On top of that I’d like to ask whether there is anything more I could be doing, or anything I should be doing differently.
So I’m 22, and a fully payed off homeowner in the UK. Currently this home is being rented to 4 students and pulls in about £1500 a month in rental income. On top of this, I work a decent steady job, making £22500 a year before tax. I keep these 2 incomes separate, as my parents frequently need to use some or all of the rental income for the near future. My job income is how I live and all of my current savings are spent on flights to the US to see my girlfriend as often as possible.
So here is the plan; In the next 12 months I plan to move to the USA, this will be by marrying my girlfriend. Once there, I am fairly confident I can get a decent job that can provide for both of us (at that point I’d be a 1 year graduated software engineer). In the next 6 months I plan on buying a house where I work in the UK on a mortgage, living there until I move to the states then renting it out from there, using the rental income to pay off the mortgage, and whatever is left from the student rented property.
Essentially, I’d like to earn my living through property eventually, and for the lifestyle I would like to live, this would mean probably making £150-£200k a year from it. In the meantime I’ll work a job to live and keep rolling property into more property until I have roughly 10 fully payed off. I’ll diversify location and size, but I plan on keeping them mostly in the UK.
So is there anything more or differently I could be doing? Does this sound responsible, or even feasible? Thanks for any replies!
TL;DR: | 22 year old in UK, in the next 10 years am looking to earn a decent living through property, starting with a UK house, looking to diversify location and size, and to have my mortgage paid off by the end of the 10 years.<|endoftext|> | [
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TITLE:
POST: Hey r/PersonalFinance,
I’m writing here to get some feedback on my financial plan for the next 10 years and my long-term financial goals. On top of that I’d like to ask whether there is anything more I could be doing, or anything I should be doing differently.
So I’m 22, and a fully payed off homeowner in the UK. Currently this home is being rented to 4 students and pulls in about £1500 a month in rental income. On top of this, I work a decent steady job, making £22500 a year before tax. I keep these 2 incomes separate, as my parents frequently need to use some or all of the rental income for the near future. My job income is how I live and all of my current savings are spent on flights to the US to see my girlfriend as often as possible.
So here is the plan; In the next 12 months I plan to move to the USA, this will be by marrying my girlfriend. Once there, I am fairly confident I can get a decent job that can provide for both of us (at that point I’d be a 1 year graduated software engineer). In the next 6 months I plan on buying a house where I work in the UK on a mortgage, living there until I move to the states then renting it out from there, using the rental income to pay off the mortgage, and whatever is left from the student rented property.
Essentially, I’d like to earn my living through property eventually, and for the lifestyle I would like to live, this would mean probably making £150-£200k a year from it. In the meantime I’ll work a job to live and keep rolling property into more property until I have roughly 10 fully payed off. I’ll diversify location and size, but I plan on keeping them mostly in the UK.
So is there anything more or differently I could be doing? Does this sound responsible, or even feasible? Thanks for any replies!
TL;DR: 22 year old in UK, in the next 10 years am looking to earn a decent living through property, starting with a UK house, looking to diversify location and size, and to have my mortgage paid off by the end of the 10 years.<|endoftext|> | [
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TITLE:
POST: Hey r/PersonalFinance,
I’m writing here to get some feedback on my financial plan for the next 10 years and my long-term financial goals. On top of that I’d like to ask whether there is anything more I could be doing, or anything I should be doing differently.
So I’m 22, and a fully payed off homeowner in the UK. Currently this home is being rented to 4 students and pulls in about £1500 a month in rental income. On top of this, I work a decent steady job, making £22500 a year before tax. I keep these 2 incomes separate, as my parents frequently need to use some or all of the rental income for the near future. My job income is how I live and all of my current savings are spent on flights to the US to see my girlfriend as often as possible.
So here is the plan; In the next 12 months I plan to move to the USA, this will be by marrying my girlfriend. Once there, I am fairly confident I can get a decent job that can provide for both of us (at that point I’d be a 1 year graduated software engineer). In the next 6 months I plan on buying a house where I work in the UK on a mortgage, living there until I move to the states then renting it out from there, using the rental income to pay off the mortgage, and whatever is left from the student rented property.
Essentially, I’d like to earn my living through property eventually, and for the lifestyle I would like to live, this would mean probably making £150-£200k a year from it. In the meantime I’ll work a job to live and keep rolling property into more property until I have roughly 10 fully payed off. I’ll diversify location and size, but I plan on keeping them mostly in the UK.
So is there anything more or differently I could be doing? Does this sound responsible, or even feasible? Thanks for any replies!
TL;DR: I have a decent steady job and a rental property, I plan on buying a house eventually and living off it for the next 10 years. Is it irresponsible, or even feasible?<|endoftext|> | [
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I’m a 19yo female. I’ve been in a relationship with my best friend (20M) for 3 1/2 years. Its been a long 3 years, don’t want to bore anyone with the details, but we both suffer from crippling panic disorders, and it puts a lot of strain on the relationship, but is also so helpful in dealing with the anxiety. When I’m stressed I have a tendency to feel alone and isolated and having him there is really important. When he gets stressed, he feels overwhelmed and he retreats into isolation.
Lately we’ve both been under a lot of pressure, and he’s twice as distant as usual, and I’m twice as clingy as usual. I’ve told him in every way I can that the lack of intimacy and romance feels neglectful, and he doesn’t seem to get it. I feel like I’ve tried everything. I even went full Linda Belcher and wrote out romantic activities in little envelopes. He hasn’t opened one. Instead of getting upset, I wrote a letter detailing what I was feeling. I gave it to him a week ago, and he hasn’t even mentioned it. It seems like the more I try the more I push him away.
I adore him more than anything, but I feel like this isn’t the same person who was so desperately in love with me at first. Does this mark the end of the honeymoon phase? I feel like I’m too young to be settling into what feels more like a doomed marriage than a college relationship. | Boyfriend of 3 1/2 years is becoming distant and I feel like its the end of the honeymoon phase. | Is it unethical to rely so heavily on someone else for stress relief? Am I suffocating him? | [
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POST: I’m a 19yo female. I’ve been in a relationship with my best friend (20M) for 3 1/2 years. Its been a long 3 years, don’t want to bore anyone with the details, but we both suffer from crippling panic disorders, and it puts a lot of strain on the relationship, but is also so helpful in dealing with the anxiety. When I’m stressed I have a tendency to feel alone and isolated and having him there is really important. When he gets stressed, he feels overwhelmed and he retreats into isolation.
Lately we’ve both been under a lot of pressure, and he’s twice as distant as usual, and I’m twice as clingy as usual. I’ve told him in every way I can that the lack of intimacy and romance feels neglectful, and he doesn’t seem to get it. I feel like I’ve tried everything. I even went full Linda Belcher and wrote out romantic activities in little envelopes. He hasn’t opened one. Instead of getting upset, I wrote a letter detailing what I was feeling. I gave it to him a week ago, and he hasn’t even mentioned it. It seems like the more I try the more I push him away.
I adore him more than anything, but I feel like this isn’t the same person who was so desperately in love with me at first. Does this mark the end of the honeymoon phase? I feel like I’m too young to be settling into what feels more like a doomed marriage than a college relationship.
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POST: I’m a 19yo female. I’ve been in a relationship with my best friend (20M) for 3 1/2 years. Its been a long 3 years, don’t want to bore anyone with the details, but we both suffer from crippling panic disorders, and it puts a lot of strain on the relationship, but is also so helpful in dealing with the anxiety. When I’m stressed I have a tendency to feel alone and isolated and having him there is really important. When he gets stressed, he feels overwhelmed and he retreats into isolation.
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I adore him more than anything, but I feel like this isn’t the same person who was so desperately in love with me at first. Does this mark the end of the honeymoon phase? I feel like I’m too young to be settling into what feels more like a doomed marriage than a college relationship.
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POST: I’m a 19yo female. I’ve been in a relationship with my best friend (20M) for 3 1/2 years. Its been a long 3 years, don’t want to bore anyone with the details, but we both suffer from crippling panic disorders, and it puts a lot of strain on the relationship, but is also so helpful in dealing with the anxiety. When I’m stressed I have a tendency to feel alone and isolated and having him there is really important. When he gets stressed, he feels overwhelmed and he retreats into isolation.
Lately we’ve both been under a lot of pressure, and he’s twice as distant as usual, and I’m twice as clingy as usual. I’ve told him in every way I can that the lack of intimacy and romance feels neglectful, and he doesn’t seem to get it. I feel like I’ve tried everything. I even went full Linda Belcher and wrote out romantic activities in little envelopes. He hasn’t opened one. Instead of getting upset, I wrote a letter detailing what I was feeling. I gave it to him a week ago, and he hasn’t even mentioned it. It seems like the more I try the more I push him away.
I adore him more than anything, but I feel like this isn’t the same person who was so desperately in love with me at first. Does this mark the end of the honeymoon phase? I feel like I’m too young to be settling into what feels more like a doomed marriage than a college relationship.
TL;DR: Is it unethical to rely so heavily on someone else for stress relief? Am I suffocating him?<|endoftext|> | [
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Hello everyone, I am in a major relationship crisis with my girlfriend of 2 years. Around two months ago we had a pretty big fight, (sometimes we do), and my girlfriend broke up with me and told me she doesn't want to do anything with me. 2 days after not talking I was feeling miserable and week so I started writing some random girl on Facebook, nothing flirty or sexual, just normal talk like, name, education, hobbies extra's. I truly thought that my relationship with my girlfriend was over and that we wouldn't get back together, because she told me she doesn't want to. After those 3 days of not talking I wrote my girlfriend and we started talking again, and we were going to meet up for 3 days trip a week after that. In the same time that other girl was still writing me and asking about stuff in my life. I didn't answer so much because I was trying to give her the impression that I wasn't interesting. Now before I went away with my girlfriend I wrote the other girl an honest message that I am sorry but I am not interested in her. Now here comes the stupider part. When I went with my girlfriend to the trip I didn't tell her any of this because I thought it will only hurt her and it didn't mean anything to me and I didn't want anything but for us to be ok. Now after 2 months she found out about that while looking throw my old messages and she broke up with me.
Now my major issue is I honestly don't know if that deserved breaking up over, because she did the same thing almost exactly, she started talking with a guy once when we were broken up, but she told me about it later when we were ok, although she did hide some details about sending pictures and stuff like that. I don't know how to approach this problem, I did something stupid and all I want is for me and my girlfriend to be ok again because I love her and I want nothing but to be with her. | I talked to some other girl while we broke up and I hid it. my girlfriend found out and broke up with me. | Told girlfriend I was just friends when we broke up, then she found out about the other girl messaging me, broke up with me. | [
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TITLE:
POST: Hello everyone, I am in a major relationship crisis with my girlfriend of 2 years. Around two months ago we had a pretty big fight, (sometimes we do), and my girlfriend broke up with me and told me she doesn't want to do anything with me. 2 days after not talking I was feeling miserable and week so I started writing some random girl on Facebook, nothing flirty or sexual, just normal talk like, name, education, hobbies extra's. I truly thought that my relationship with my girlfriend was over and that we wouldn't get back together, because she told me she doesn't want to. After those 3 days of not talking I wrote my girlfriend and we started talking again, and we were going to meet up for 3 days trip a week after that. In the same time that other girl was still writing me and asking about stuff in my life. I didn't answer so much because I was trying to give her the impression that I wasn't interesting. Now before I went away with my girlfriend I wrote the other girl an honest message that I am sorry but I am not interested in her. Now here comes the stupider part. When I went with my girlfriend to the trip I didn't tell her any of this because I thought it will only hurt her and it didn't mean anything to me and I didn't want anything but for us to be ok. Now after 2 months she found out about that while looking throw my old messages and she broke up with me.
Now my major issue is I honestly don't know if that deserved breaking up over, because she did the same thing almost exactly, she started talking with a guy once when we were broken up, but she told me about it later when we were ok, although she did hide some details about sending pictures and stuff like that. I don't know how to approach this problem, I did something stupid and all I want is for me and my girlfriend to be ok again because I love her and I want nothing but to be with her.
TL;DR: | I talked to some other girl while we broke up and I hid it. my girlfriend found out and broke up with me.<|endoftext|> | [
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POST: Hello everyone, I am in a major relationship crisis with my girlfriend of 2 years. Around two months ago we had a pretty big fight, (sometimes we do), and my girlfriend broke up with me and told me she doesn't want to do anything with me. 2 days after not talking I was feeling miserable and week so I started writing some random girl on Facebook, nothing flirty or sexual, just normal talk like, name, education, hobbies extra's. I truly thought that my relationship with my girlfriend was over and that we wouldn't get back together, because she told me she doesn't want to. After those 3 days of not talking I wrote my girlfriend and we started talking again, and we were going to meet up for 3 days trip a week after that. In the same time that other girl was still writing me and asking about stuff in my life. I didn't answer so much because I was trying to give her the impression that I wasn't interesting. Now before I went away with my girlfriend I wrote the other girl an honest message that I am sorry but I am not interested in her. Now here comes the stupider part. When I went with my girlfriend to the trip I didn't tell her any of this because I thought it will only hurt her and it didn't mean anything to me and I didn't want anything but for us to be ok. Now after 2 months she found out about that while looking throw my old messages and she broke up with me.
Now my major issue is I honestly don't know if that deserved breaking up over, because she did the same thing almost exactly, she started talking with a guy once when we were broken up, but she told me about it later when we were ok, although she did hide some details about sending pictures and stuff like that. I don't know how to approach this problem, I did something stupid and all I want is for me and my girlfriend to be ok again because I love her and I want nothing but to be with her.
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POST: Hello everyone, I am in a major relationship crisis with my girlfriend of 2 years. Around two months ago we had a pretty big fight, (sometimes we do), and my girlfriend broke up with me and told me she doesn't want to do anything with me. 2 days after not talking I was feeling miserable and week so I started writing some random girl on Facebook, nothing flirty or sexual, just normal talk like, name, education, hobbies extra's. I truly thought that my relationship with my girlfriend was over and that we wouldn't get back together, because she told me she doesn't want to. After those 3 days of not talking I wrote my girlfriend and we started talking again, and we were going to meet up for 3 days trip a week after that. In the same time that other girl was still writing me and asking about stuff in my life. I didn't answer so much because I was trying to give her the impression that I wasn't interesting. Now before I went away with my girlfriend I wrote the other girl an honest message that I am sorry but I am not interested in her. Now here comes the stupider part. When I went with my girlfriend to the trip I didn't tell her any of this because I thought it will only hurt her and it didn't mean anything to me and I didn't want anything but for us to be ok. Now after 2 months she found out about that while looking throw my old messages and she broke up with me.
Now my major issue is I honestly don't know if that deserved breaking up over, because she did the same thing almost exactly, she started talking with a guy once when we were broken up, but she told me about it later when we were ok, although she did hide some details about sending pictures and stuff like that. I don't know how to approach this problem, I did something stupid and all I want is for me and my girlfriend to be ok again because I love her and I want nothing but to be with her.
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I apologize for the length of this and will try to keep it concise.
I am not sure what I should do. I dated this girl, Shelly, for a year. Shelly was divorcing her husband and has two kids. We were madly in love. The story book feeling, everything you can imagine, etc. She makes me feel like anything is possible.
This all changed when she felt like I had cheated by talking to a friend of mine, who was a female. Shelly is a very jealous girl. We stayed together even though Shelly felt hurt and betrayed. A few months went by and Shelly left me for her ex husband and father of her children. Over the course of this year, Shelly and I have went back and forth about getting back together, but she never could commit to leaving her ex husband now boyfriend(Not sure what you call that). Finally I gave up and began seeing other people and acting single as I was.
I met a girl, Amber, who is very nice and we get along great. It's the start of a new relationship and is going well. This is where it gets complicated. Now Shelly is completely enamored with me again and wants to be with me. I absolutely LOVE the idea of being with Shelly again, but I don't know if I can get past all of the hurt she's caused me this year. Additionally, Amber seems like a great girl on her own. I feel like I'm stuck in the middle and I don't know what to do.
I love Shelly and always will. We are absolutely crazy about each other in every way possible. Emotionally and physically. The problem is she's hurt me like no one else ever has before. Amber is a great girl, but it's too soon to tell how things would really go with her. I know Amber is falling hard for me, and I started falling for her but now I feel emotionally unavailable.
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POST: I apologize for the length of this and will try to keep it concise.
I am not sure what I should do. I dated this girl, Shelly, for a year. Shelly was divorcing her husband and has two kids. We were madly in love. The story book feeling, everything you can imagine, etc. She makes me feel like anything is possible.
This all changed when she felt like I had cheated by talking to a friend of mine, who was a female. Shelly is a very jealous girl. We stayed together even though Shelly felt hurt and betrayed. A few months went by and Shelly left me for her ex husband and father of her children. Over the course of this year, Shelly and I have went back and forth about getting back together, but she never could commit to leaving her ex husband now boyfriend(Not sure what you call that). Finally I gave up and began seeing other people and acting single as I was.
I met a girl, Amber, who is very nice and we get along great. It's the start of a new relationship and is going well. This is where it gets complicated. Now Shelly is completely enamored with me again and wants to be with me. I absolutely LOVE the idea of being with Shelly again, but I don't know if I can get past all of the hurt she's caused me this year. Additionally, Amber seems like a great girl on her own. I feel like I'm stuck in the middle and I don't know what to do.
I love Shelly and always will. We are absolutely crazy about each other in every way possible. Emotionally and physically. The problem is she's hurt me like no one else ever has before. Amber is a great girl, but it's too soon to tell how things would really go with her. I know Amber is falling hard for me, and I started falling for her but now I feel emotionally unavailable.
If you have any questions I can clarify let me know, I may be missing some important info.
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POST: I apologize for the length of this and will try to keep it concise.
I am not sure what I should do. I dated this girl, Shelly, for a year. Shelly was divorcing her husband and has two kids. We were madly in love. The story book feeling, everything you can imagine, etc. She makes me feel like anything is possible.
This all changed when she felt like I had cheated by talking to a friend of mine, who was a female. Shelly is a very jealous girl. We stayed together even though Shelly felt hurt and betrayed. A few months went by and Shelly left me for her ex husband and father of her children. Over the course of this year, Shelly and I have went back and forth about getting back together, but she never could commit to leaving her ex husband now boyfriend(Not sure what you call that). Finally I gave up and began seeing other people and acting single as I was.
I met a girl, Amber, who is very nice and we get along great. It's the start of a new relationship and is going well. This is where it gets complicated. Now Shelly is completely enamored with me again and wants to be with me. I absolutely LOVE the idea of being with Shelly again, but I don't know if I can get past all of the hurt she's caused me this year. Additionally, Amber seems like a great girl on her own. I feel like I'm stuck in the middle and I don't know what to do.
I love Shelly and always will. We are absolutely crazy about each other in every way possible. Emotionally and physically. The problem is she's hurt me like no one else ever has before. Amber is a great girl, but it's too soon to tell how things would really go with her. I know Amber is falling hard for me, and I started falling for her but now I feel emotionally unavailable.
If you have any questions I can clarify let me know, I may be missing some important info.
TL;DR: Ex gf left me for her ex and now wants me back after I start seeing someone else. I'm torn on what to do.<|endoftext|> | [
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TITLE:
POST: I apologize for the length of this and will try to keep it concise.
I am not sure what I should do. I dated this girl, Shelly, for a year. Shelly was divorcing her husband and has two kids. We were madly in love. The story book feeling, everything you can imagine, etc. She makes me feel like anything is possible.
This all changed when she felt like I had cheated by talking to a friend of mine, who was a female. Shelly is a very jealous girl. We stayed together even though Shelly felt hurt and betrayed. A few months went by and Shelly left me for her ex husband and father of her children. Over the course of this year, Shelly and I have went back and forth about getting back together, but she never could commit to leaving her ex husband now boyfriend(Not sure what you call that). Finally I gave up and began seeing other people and acting single as I was.
I met a girl, Amber, who is very nice and we get along great. It's the start of a new relationship and is going well. This is where it gets complicated. Now Shelly is completely enamored with me again and wants to be with me. I absolutely LOVE the idea of being with Shelly again, but I don't know if I can get past all of the hurt she's caused me this year. Additionally, Amber seems like a great girl on her own. I feel like I'm stuck in the middle and I don't know what to do.
I love Shelly and always will. We are absolutely crazy about each other in every way possible. Emotionally and physically. The problem is she's hurt me like no one else ever has before. Amber is a great girl, but it's too soon to tell how things would really go with her. I know Amber is falling hard for me, and I started falling for her but now I feel emotionally unavailable.
If you have any questions I can clarify let me know, I may be missing some important info.
TL;DR: My ex wants me back after I start seeing someone new. I need advice on how to proceed.<|endoftext|> | [
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This story happened when I was 8 years old. Me and my brother, also 8, where walking through the neighbourhood one afternoon and we decided to walk into a section under development with houses being built. I decided to climb to the top of a dirt pile nearly two stories tall with my brother milling around down the bottom. A group of three girls and one boy, maybe 16 or so years old, walked down the street and saw me and my brother derping around the dirt pile, so they approach us. The boy begins harassing us, eventually leading him to threaten, "I'm going to bash you both up."
Now, eight year old me didn't know the first thing about self-defence, so I did the first thing my panic-driven brain thought of. I picked up a rock and threw it at him. The rock descended down in a graceful arc, but unfortunately it landed far too short to hit him... but as fate would have it, this rock happened to land on a flat piece of cement, which then promptly allowed it to be ricochetted upwards, recorrecting its trajectory towards this asshole. It hit him. In the nuts. He groaned and doubled over in front of these girls he was trying to act tough for.
And as awesome as I felt then, it didn't end here. My father, having heard the threats, came around a corner and saw this hormone-driven teenager threatening us. My dad approaches him and, in less than political terms, tells him to never come near me or my brother again.
So, if you are reading this, hormone boy, please comment below because I've always wondered what those girls thought of you afterwards. | Hormone-driven kid bullies me and my brother, father in scene tells him to never come near me or my brother again, and never again bully girls. | I was 8 years old and had an old man's sense of justice. | [
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POST: This story happened when I was 8 years old. Me and my brother, also 8, where walking through the neighbourhood one afternoon and we decided to walk into a section under development with houses being built. I decided to climb to the top of a dirt pile nearly two stories tall with my brother milling around down the bottom. A group of three girls and one boy, maybe 16 or so years old, walked down the street and saw me and my brother derping around the dirt pile, so they approach us. The boy begins harassing us, eventually leading him to threaten, "I'm going to bash you both up."
Now, eight year old me didn't know the first thing about self-defence, so I did the first thing my panic-driven brain thought of. I picked up a rock and threw it at him. The rock descended down in a graceful arc, but unfortunately it landed far too short to hit him... but as fate would have it, this rock happened to land on a flat piece of cement, which then promptly allowed it to be ricochetted upwards, recorrecting its trajectory towards this asshole. It hit him. In the nuts. He groaned and doubled over in front of these girls he was trying to act tough for.
And as awesome as I felt then, it didn't end here. My father, having heard the threats, came around a corner and saw this hormone-driven teenager threatening us. My dad approaches him and, in less than political terms, tells him to never come near me or my brother again.
So, if you are reading this, hormone boy, please comment below because I've always wondered what those girls thought of you afterwards.
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POST: This story happened when I was 8 years old. Me and my brother, also 8, where walking through the neighbourhood one afternoon and we decided to walk into a section under development with houses being built. I decided to climb to the top of a dirt pile nearly two stories tall with my brother milling around down the bottom. A group of three girls and one boy, maybe 16 or so years old, walked down the street and saw me and my brother derping around the dirt pile, so they approach us. The boy begins harassing us, eventually leading him to threaten, "I'm going to bash you both up."
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And as awesome as I felt then, it didn't end here. My father, having heard the threats, came around a corner and saw this hormone-driven teenager threatening us. My dad approaches him and, in less than political terms, tells him to never come near me or my brother again.
So, if you are reading this, hormone boy, please comment below because I've always wondered what those girls thought of you afterwards.
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TITLE:
POST: This story happened when I was 8 years old. Me and my brother, also 8, where walking through the neighbourhood one afternoon and we decided to walk into a section under development with houses being built. I decided to climb to the top of a dirt pile nearly two stories tall with my brother milling around down the bottom. A group of three girls and one boy, maybe 16 or so years old, walked down the street and saw me and my brother derping around the dirt pile, so they approach us. The boy begins harassing us, eventually leading him to threaten, "I'm going to bash you both up."
Now, eight year old me didn't know the first thing about self-defence, so I did the first thing my panic-driven brain thought of. I picked up a rock and threw it at him. The rock descended down in a graceful arc, but unfortunately it landed far too short to hit him... but as fate would have it, this rock happened to land on a flat piece of cement, which then promptly allowed it to be ricochetted upwards, recorrecting its trajectory towards this asshole. It hit him. In the nuts. He groaned and doubled over in front of these girls he was trying to act tough for.
And as awesome as I felt then, it didn't end here. My father, having heard the threats, came around a corner and saw this hormone-driven teenager threatening us. My dad approaches him and, in less than political terms, tells him to never come near me or my brother again.
So, if you are reading this, hormone boy, please comment below because I've always wondered what those girls thought of you afterwards.
TL;DR: I was 8 years old and had an old man's sense of justice.<|endoftext|> | [
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Recently he's been wanting "space"... he's the one making plans to do stuff with me, acting excited to do things with me if I ask him if he wants to do something, ditching out on me, contacting me, telling me he misses me, and as soon as I respond to him he acts like he's suffocating. .___.; I just want him to break it off if he hates me, rather than pushing it on to me when I still like him and I would like to spend time with him if he would also like to. But even though I leave a wide opening for him to tell me if something's up, he doesn't. He only communicates his issues if he thinks he's in trouble and he can use them as a jail free card.
In my head I think "Maybe I'm just misjudging that he doesn't want to be around me and something else is up, so I should give him another chance, and another, just so long as he says he wants it to work." Everyone has their issues and I try to be understanding, and I'd rather not throw away a relationship with someone I like if there's something that can be fixed... But what can I do to find out if this is even resolvable? | I'm not sure if my bf has issues with me or if I'm just being crazy. What should I do? | boyfriend wants space, I want to call it quits, he won't let me. | [
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POST: I'm pretty hopeless when it comes to judging when things are over. I get the feeling that my boyfriend of a few months has been trying to push me to end things with him because he doesn't have the balls to tell me he's just not that into me. For the most part I really like him, but he just keeps throwing road blocks at me and when I bring them up I get some stock "no baby, you've got it all wrong!" response.
Recently he's been wanting "space"... he's the one making plans to do stuff with me, acting excited to do things with me if I ask him if he wants to do something, ditching out on me, contacting me, telling me he misses me, and as soon as I respond to him he acts like he's suffocating..___.; I just want him to break it off if he hates me, rather than pushing it on to me when I still like him and I would like to spend time with him if he would also like to. But even though I leave a wide opening for him to tell me if something's up, he doesn't. He only communicates his issues if he thinks he's in trouble and he can use them as a jail free card.
In my head I think "Maybe I'm just misjudging that he doesn't want to be around me and something else is up, so I should give him another chance, and another, just so long as he says he wants it to work." Everyone has their issues and I try to be understanding, and I'd rather not throw away a relationship with someone I like if there's something that can be fixed... But what can I do to find out if this is even resolvable?
TL;DR: | I'm not sure if my bf has issues with me or if I'm just being crazy. What should I do?<|endoftext|> | [
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POST: I'm pretty hopeless when it comes to judging when things are over. I get the feeling that my boyfriend of a few months has been trying to push me to end things with him because he doesn't have the balls to tell me he's just not that into me. For the most part I really like him, but he just keeps throwing road blocks at me and when I bring them up I get some stock "no baby, you've got it all wrong!" response.
Recently he's been wanting "space"... he's the one making plans to do stuff with me, acting excited to do things with me if I ask him if he wants to do something, ditching out on me, contacting me, telling me he misses me, and as soon as I respond to him he acts like he's suffocating..___.; I just want him to break it off if he hates me, rather than pushing it on to me when I still like him and I would like to spend time with him if he would also like to. But even though I leave a wide opening for him to tell me if something's up, he doesn't. He only communicates his issues if he thinks he's in trouble and he can use them as a jail free card.
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POST: I'm pretty hopeless when it comes to judging when things are over. I get the feeling that my boyfriend of a few months has been trying to push me to end things with him because he doesn't have the balls to tell me he's just not that into me. For the most part I really like him, but he just keeps throwing road blocks at me and when I bring them up I get some stock "no baby, you've got it all wrong!" response.
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I've been talking to this girl[F/16] and we hit it off well and texted for awhile but now she doesnt seem interested whenever we text. I don't want to text her too much because of that now, but I still want to remain relevant because I plan on asking her to meet up with me once I come back home in a few weeks and seeing if she accepts or declines.
I took the advice from a previous thread and now I don't know if I should keep texting her or wait a week or two and ask then, which might be too long. | Talking to a girl, hit it off well texting but now she doesnt seem interested when i text. Wondering if i should keep messaging or wait a week or two and ask her to meet up. | Talking to girl and hit it off well, but now she seemsnt to be interested. Don't know if I should keep trying or wait a week or two to ask her out. | [
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I took the advice from a previous thread and now I don't know if I should keep texting her or wait a week or two and ask then, which might be too long.
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POST: I've been talking to this girl[F/16] and we hit it off well and texted for awhile but now she doesnt seem interested whenever we text. I don't want to text her too much because of that now, but I still want to remain relevant because I plan on asking her to meet up with me once I come back home in a few weeks and seeing if she accepts or declines.
I took the advice from a previous thread and now I don't know if I should keep texting her or wait a week or two and ask then, which might be too long.
TL;DR: Talking to girl and hit it off well, but now she seemsnt to be interested. Don't know if I should keep trying or wait a week or two to ask her out.<|endoftext|> | [
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POST: As a kid I started reading a book series, but I need your help in remembering what it is called.
I was about "magicians" in a post apocalyptic world, who searched city ruins for, what is now, modern technology. However they lost most knowledge of the tech in this great catasptrophy. These magicians were identified by an earring the wore with a blue ball. I remember it started off with some street rat sneaking into a mage's house and getting caught and the mage taking him under his wing after creating some voodoo doll to threaten the boy, then dismantling it. Any help would be appreciated.
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POST: As a kid I started reading a book series, but I need your help in remembering what it is called.
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The other night I received a message from my grandma saying they're travelling across the country and will be passing through my city and wanted to know if we could meet up.
I really don't want to meet with these people.
I'm happy without them in my life, I feel no connection to them, and I have no desire to sit across from each other awkwardly not making eye contact. Also, if they wanted to be in my life they should have taken the chance I offered them for two years.
So, how do I say no? Should I say no? Do you think I could get away with just ignoring the message? | Grandparents never in my life and now want in when I'm quite fine without them. Should I let them in anyways? | Grandparents want to meet up, I want to go but it's awkward. What to do? | [
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POST: I've never been close to my father's side of the family. As a little girl my parents divorced and I lived with my mother. Then due to a family spat (I'm not aware of the particulars) my father denied my grandparents the right to see me. As an teenager I sought them out on my own and while we chatted a couple of times it was always awkward and forced. Eventually it got to the point where I would call them, leave a message and never hear back from them. After two years of this I decided to call it quits and not bother.
The other night I received a message from my grandma saying they're travelling across the country and will be passing through my city and wanted to know if we could meet up.
I really don't want to meet with these people.
I'm happy without them in my life, I feel no connection to them, and I have no desire to sit across from each other awkwardly not making eye contact. Also, if they wanted to be in my life they should have taken the chance I offered them for two years.
So, how do I say no? Should I say no? Do you think I could get away with just ignoring the message?
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I really don't want to meet with these people.
I'm happy without them in my life, I feel no connection to them, and I have no desire to sit across from each other awkwardly not making eye contact. Also, if they wanted to be in my life they should have taken the chance I offered them for two years.
So, how do I say no? Should I say no? Do you think I could get away with just ignoring the message?
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POST: I've never been close to my father's side of the family. As a little girl my parents divorced and I lived with my mother. Then due to a family spat (I'm not aware of the particulars) my father denied my grandparents the right to see me. As an teenager I sought them out on my own and while we chatted a couple of times it was always awkward and forced. Eventually it got to the point where I would call them, leave a message and never hear back from them. After two years of this I decided to call it quits and not bother.
The other night I received a message from my grandma saying they're travelling across the country and will be passing through my city and wanted to know if we could meet up.
I really don't want to meet with these people.
I'm happy without them in my life, I feel no connection to them, and I have no desire to sit across from each other awkwardly not making eye contact. Also, if they wanted to be in my life they should have taken the chance I offered them for two years.
So, how do I say no? Should I say no? Do you think I could get away with just ignoring the message?
TL;DR: Grandparents want to meet up, I want to go but it's awkward. What to do?<|endoftext|> | [
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Throwaway account; personal question.
I've been dating my BF for 3 years. At first we had some pretty unhealthy behaviors (dirty fighting, manipulating, playing games). We've grown out of that together and it's been great for the past 1.5 years.
Lately, I've found we have the same argument over and over. When he is convinced he is 100% correct on a topic, there's no having a discussion about it at all. Sometimes it's motivations for the things I do. Other times it's as stupid as deciding whether to take a certain trip somewhere or not. He's so stubborn and refuses to even talk, ignoring my messages and calls outright.
In all other departments he's super sweet and caring and understanding.
My question is: At what point is a flaw too much to be overlooked? I know I probably won't find my "perfect man," and I know everyone comes with flaws. | Boyfriend of 3 years is too stubborn to communicate with me, when I communicate back, and when he is wrong, and sometimes I am too. When is it time to move on? | BF and I have had some bad times, but I love him. Is there a point when we've grown out of this phase and can just say "this is it."? | [
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POST: Throwaway account; personal question.
I've been dating my BF for 3 years. At first we had some pretty unhealthy behaviors (dirty fighting, manipulating, playing games). We've grown out of that together and it's been great for the past 1.5 years.
Lately, I've found we have the same argument over and over. When he is convinced he is 100% correct on a topic, there's no having a discussion about it at all. Sometimes it's motivations for the things I do. Other times it's as stupid as deciding whether to take a certain trip somewhere or not. He's so stubborn and refuses to even talk, ignoring my messages and calls outright.
In all other departments he's super sweet and caring and understanding.
My question is: At what point is a flaw too much to be overlooked? I know I probably won't find my "perfect man," and I know everyone comes with flaws.
TL;DR: | Boyfriend of 3 years is too stubborn to communicate with me, when I communicate back, and when he is wrong, and sometimes I am too. When is it time to move on?<|endoftext|> | [
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TITLE:
POST: Throwaway account; personal question.
I've been dating my BF for 3 years. At first we had some pretty unhealthy behaviors (dirty fighting, manipulating, playing games). We've grown out of that together and it's been great for the past 1.5 years.
Lately, I've found we have the same argument over and over. When he is convinced he is 100% correct on a topic, there's no having a discussion about it at all. Sometimes it's motivations for the things I do. Other times it's as stupid as deciding whether to take a certain trip somewhere or not. He's so stubborn and refuses to even talk, ignoring my messages and calls outright.
In all other departments he's super sweet and caring and understanding.
My question is: At what point is a flaw too much to be overlooked? I know I probably won't find my "perfect man," and I know everyone comes with flaws.
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TITLE:
POST: Throwaway account; personal question.
I've been dating my BF for 3 years. At first we had some pretty unhealthy behaviors (dirty fighting, manipulating, playing games). We've grown out of that together and it's been great for the past 1.5 years.
Lately, I've found we have the same argument over and over. When he is convinced he is 100% correct on a topic, there's no having a discussion about it at all. Sometimes it's motivations for the things I do. Other times it's as stupid as deciding whether to take a certain trip somewhere or not. He's so stubborn and refuses to even talk, ignoring my messages and calls outright.
In all other departments he's super sweet and caring and understanding.
My question is: At what point is a flaw too much to be overlooked? I know I probably won't find my "perfect man," and I know everyone comes with flaws.
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One of the roommates uses the kitchen for extended periods of time (starting from about 5 p.m. until 11 p.m.) They use it with friends and never seem to leave the kitchen/living space for several hours on end. It prohibits me from using the appliances in the kitchen (since they are using them, plus limited space) and even going out there. They are often playing music too.
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POST: I moved into an apartment this past September with three other roommates. We each have our own bedrooms and bathrooms, and we all share a living room and a kitchen. I am not close with my roommates; One of them I have only seen a couple times and the other two I have never really talked to.
One of the roommates uses the kitchen for extended periods of time (starting from about 5 p.m. until 11 p.m.) They use it with friends and never seem to leave the kitchen/living space for several hours on end. It prohibits me from using the appliances in the kitchen (since they are using them, plus limited space) and even going out there. They are often playing music too.
I have not eaten dinner several nights just because people are constantly out there. I feel like there should be limited time in the kitchen so it is fair to everyone. I would talk to the roommates about this, but I am not social at all and it is hard to find a time to talk to them when they are alone (without their friends over). Plus, it's just awkward since I have probably talked to them only a couple times since September.
TL;DR: | Roommate uses kitchen/living room for extended periods of time, not sure if this is okay.<|endoftext|> | [
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POST: I moved into an apartment this past September with three other roommates. We each have our own bedrooms and bathrooms, and we all share a living room and a kitchen. I am not close with my roommates; One of them I have only seen a couple times and the other two I have never really talked to.
One of the roommates uses the kitchen for extended periods of time (starting from about 5 p.m. until 11 p.m.) They use it with friends and never seem to leave the kitchen/living space for several hours on end. It prohibits me from using the appliances in the kitchen (since they are using them, plus limited space) and even going out there. They are often playing music too.
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TITLE:
POST: I moved into an apartment this past September with three other roommates. We each have our own bedrooms and bathrooms, and we all share a living room and a kitchen. I am not close with my roommates; One of them I have only seen a couple times and the other two I have never really talked to.
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I have not eaten dinner several nights just because people are constantly out there. I feel like there should be limited time in the kitchen so it is fair to everyone. I would talk to the roommates about this, but I am not social at all and it is hard to find a time to talk to them when they are alone (without their friends over). Plus, it's just awkward since I have probably talked to them only a couple times since September.
TL;DR: Roommate is out of control in the kitchen, I am getting frustrated.<|endoftext|> | [
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So last month, my ex girlfriend calls me on the phone and tells me that shes breaking up with me. Her reasons were that her feelings changed about me, and that our relationship had changed too much to keep it going. This is after two and a half years of a very happy and very loving relationship.
At first I was numb, but now its hitting me a lot harder than I had expected. This was my first real relationship, and I've had a really hard time coping with it. I can't concentrate on school work, and none of my previous hobbies are entertaining anymore. I'm hurt, angry, and confused.
What's really messing with my head is how drastically her feelings changed so quickly. Over the summer, we both worked 40+ hour weeks, so we didn't see each other as much as we had liked. I had a feeling that things weren't so good between us, but I was hoping that we could fix that before school started up again.
But instead of giving me time to fix things, she just breaks up with me. She says she needs time to figure out what she wants, and a month later, she still hasn't said anything about getting back together.
I feel extremely jealous when I think about her doing anything with somebody else, because I still have very strong feelings for her. I just don't know how to move on or deal with this, and I could use some advice.
She wants to stay friends because I'm her "best friend", but I really don't believe it since she hasn't showed any effort to talk to me or check on how I'm doing. It seems like a really convenient excuse to me.
Supposedly she still cares about me, and that I still mean something to her, but she has changed from the person I once knew. I don't know how to let her go. | My ex girlfriend broke up with me and just wants to stay friends. I'm not sure how to move on or deal with this.** | Ex girlfriend broke up with me, I feel like a waste of her time and I have no idea how to deal with it. | [
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POST: So last month, my ex girlfriend calls me on the phone and tells me that shes breaking up with me. Her reasons were that her feelings changed about me, and that our relationship had changed too much to keep it going. This is after two and a half years of a very happy and very loving relationship.
At first I was numb, but now its hitting me a lot harder than I had expected. This was my first real relationship, and I've had a really hard time coping with it. I can't concentrate on school work, and none of my previous hobbies are entertaining anymore. I'm hurt, angry, and confused.
What's really messing with my head is how drastically her feelings changed so quickly. Over the summer, we both worked 40+ hour weeks, so we didn't see each other as much as we had liked. I had a feeling that things weren't so good between us, but I was hoping that we could fix that before school started up again.
But instead of giving me time to fix things, she just breaks up with me. She says she needs time to figure out what she wants, and a month later, she still hasn't said anything about getting back together.
I feel extremely jealous when I think about her doing anything with somebody else, because I still have very strong feelings for her. I just don't know how to move on or deal with this, and I could use some advice.
She wants to stay friends because I'm her "best friend", but I really don't believe it since she hasn't showed any effort to talk to me or check on how I'm doing. It seems like a really convenient excuse to me.
Supposedly she still cares about me, and that I still mean something to her, but she has changed from the person I once knew. I don't know how to let her go.
TL;DR: | My ex girlfriend broke up with me and just wants to stay friends. I'm not sure how to move on or deal with this.**<|endoftext|> | [
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POST: So last month, my ex girlfriend calls me on the phone and tells me that shes breaking up with me. Her reasons were that her feelings changed about me, and that our relationship had changed too much to keep it going. This is after two and a half years of a very happy and very loving relationship.
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She wants to stay friends because I'm her "best friend", but I really don't believe it since she hasn't showed any effort to talk to me or check on how I'm doing. It seems like a really convenient excuse to me.
Supposedly she still cares about me, and that I still mean something to her, but she has changed from the person I once knew. I don't know how to let her go.
TL;DR: My ex girlfriend broke up with me and just wants to stay friends. I'm not sure how to move on or deal with this.**<|endoftext|> | [
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POST: So last month, my ex girlfriend calls me on the phone and tells me that shes breaking up with me. Her reasons were that her feelings changed about me, and that our relationship had changed too much to keep it going. This is after two and a half years of a very happy and very loving relationship.
At first I was numb, but now its hitting me a lot harder than I had expected. This was my first real relationship, and I've had a really hard time coping with it. I can't concentrate on school work, and none of my previous hobbies are entertaining anymore. I'm hurt, angry, and confused.
What's really messing with my head is how drastically her feelings changed so quickly. Over the summer, we both worked 40+ hour weeks, so we didn't see each other as much as we had liked. I had a feeling that things weren't so good between us, but I was hoping that we could fix that before school started up again.
But instead of giving me time to fix things, she just breaks up with me. She says she needs time to figure out what she wants, and a month later, she still hasn't said anything about getting back together.
I feel extremely jealous when I think about her doing anything with somebody else, because I still have very strong feelings for her. I just don't know how to move on or deal with this, and I could use some advice.
She wants to stay friends because I'm her "best friend", but I really don't believe it since she hasn't showed any effort to talk to me or check on how I'm doing. It seems like a really convenient excuse to me.
Supposedly she still cares about me, and that I still mean something to her, but she has changed from the person I once knew. I don't know how to let her go.
TL;DR: Ex girlfriend broke up with me, I feel like a waste of her time and I have no idea how to deal with it.<|endoftext|> | [
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At the same time, Matt text me asking about Sarah and whether I was approached by her or if she was at my place (just for visiting nothing more). I did not respond as I felt that there was immense tension since Sarah avoided any contact with Matt since he would continually stalk her. Over the months, she was getting bombarded with text messages about how he loves her or that he threatened to kill he cat. It was very sporadic in what he was trying to say. Anyway, I just wanted to avoid getting in between them, so I just focused on one side rather than mediate. Also, I agreed with her points that the guy had a severe gambling problem (but that's another story).
Getting to the point, I have been invited by another friend (Peter/29M) to his wedding and Matt is going to be attending. Not sure if Peter knows about my falling out with Matt, but I intend to go. I just want to avoid unnecessary conflict given that it was rumoured at first that Sarah left Matt for me (which was entirely false and now has a public relationship with someone else after and I was in a committed relationship even after their breakup). | [Non-Romantic Relationship] - I had a falling out with a friend by siding with another during their divorce. That friend I did not side with is coming to a mutual friend's wedding that I will also be attending. | Friends got divorced, I went to both parties, not sure where to go from there. | [
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POST: This had happened about 6 months ago where I was close friends with a couple (let's call them Matt and Sarah] who eventually married. I was invited to the wedding as well. Anyway, after about a few months, they had a pretty bad divorce where the divorce courts had dragged it on for several more months. When it came down to this, rumors began to spread about who was at fault. Sarah [25F] came to me for support, as she did not have anyone to turn to, which I believed.
At the same time, Matt text me asking about Sarah and whether I was approached by her or if she was at my place (just for visiting nothing more). I did not respond as I felt that there was immense tension since Sarah avoided any contact with Matt since he would continually stalk her. Over the months, she was getting bombarded with text messages about how he loves her or that he threatened to kill he cat. It was very sporadic in what he was trying to say. Anyway, I just wanted to avoid getting in between them, so I just focused on one side rather than mediate. Also, I agreed with her points that the guy had a severe gambling problem (but that's another story).
Getting to the point, I have been invited by another friend (Peter/29M) to his wedding and Matt is going to be attending. Not sure if Peter knows about my falling out with Matt, but I intend to go. I just want to avoid unnecessary conflict given that it was rumoured at first that Sarah left Matt for me (which was entirely false and now has a public relationship with someone else after and I was in a committed relationship even after their breakup).
TL;DR: | [Non-Romantic Relationship] - I had a falling out with a friend by siding with another during their divorce. That friend I did not side with is coming to a mutual friend's wedding that I will also be attending.<|endoftext|> | [
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POST: This had happened about 6 months ago where I was close friends with a couple (let's call them Matt and Sarah] who eventually married. I was invited to the wedding as well. Anyway, after about a few months, they had a pretty bad divorce where the divorce courts had dragged it on for several more months. When it came down to this, rumors began to spread about who was at fault. Sarah [25F] came to me for support, as she did not have anyone to turn to, which I believed.
At the same time, Matt text me asking about Sarah and whether I was approached by her or if she was at my place (just for visiting nothing more). I did not respond as I felt that there was immense tension since Sarah avoided any contact with Matt since he would continually stalk her. Over the months, she was getting bombarded with text messages about how he loves her or that he threatened to kill he cat. It was very sporadic in what he was trying to say. Anyway, I just wanted to avoid getting in between them, so I just focused on one side rather than mediate. Also, I agreed with her points that the guy had a severe gambling problem (but that's another story).
Getting to the point, I have been invited by another friend (Peter/29M) to his wedding and Matt is going to be attending. Not sure if Peter knows about my falling out with Matt, but I intend to go. I just want to avoid unnecessary conflict given that it was rumoured at first that Sarah left Matt for me (which was entirely false and now has a public relationship with someone else after and I was in a committed relationship even after their breakup).
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POST: This had happened about 6 months ago where I was close friends with a couple (let's call them Matt and Sarah] who eventually married. I was invited to the wedding as well. Anyway, after about a few months, they had a pretty bad divorce where the divorce courts had dragged it on for several more months. When it came down to this, rumors began to spread about who was at fault. Sarah [25F] came to me for support, as she did not have anyone to turn to, which I believed.
At the same time, Matt text me asking about Sarah and whether I was approached by her or if she was at my place (just for visiting nothing more). I did not respond as I felt that there was immense tension since Sarah avoided any contact with Matt since he would continually stalk her. Over the months, she was getting bombarded with text messages about how he loves her or that he threatened to kill he cat. It was very sporadic in what he was trying to say. Anyway, I just wanted to avoid getting in between them, so I just focused on one side rather than mediate. Also, I agreed with her points that the guy had a severe gambling problem (but that's another story).
Getting to the point, I have been invited by another friend (Peter/29M) to his wedding and Matt is going to be attending. Not sure if Peter knows about my falling out with Matt, but I intend to go. I just want to avoid unnecessary conflict given that it was rumoured at first that Sarah left Matt for me (which was entirely false and now has a public relationship with someone else after and I was in a committed relationship even after their breakup).
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We both go to the same college. So, we started talking back in March 2013; we hit it off great as friends. I was attracted to her before but in a very superficial sense. Once we became friends I was head over heels.
Summer was coming up and we needed to talk about it. Mutual interest was confirmed but she put on the breaks given the fact that we were on the cusp of summer AND she was studying abroad in the fall. I was like 'that's cool'.
and we stayed in contact. We went to a mutual friend's wedding over the summer and corresponded via snail mail (in addition to a few text/email convos). In the fall we still stayed in touch through facebook and we skyped once, which was awesome.
Now that she's back I'm not sure where things stand. We even went out for drinks just the two of us! but there's honestly no way to read how she feels about it. I could ask her out on more coffee dates or even to the movies but I don't want to mess with this if she's no longer interested in me. What do I do? I see this boiling down three scenarios:
1. do the DTR sooner than later
2. keep on going on these casual dates until things are more clear
3. just steer clear of any certainty in the relationship and it might settle on its own | Girl and I like each other, friendship. She's back but unsure of whether she likes me back. Don't wanna mess up friendship if she's not going to reciprocate. | went out with a girl for a while, now that she's back I'm not sure what to do. Do I keep trying until things are pretty much clear or do I just ignore it and just let it play itself out? | [
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POST: Not asking for advice but maybe this will help me deal with the turmoil going on in my head
We both go to the same college. So, we started talking back in March 2013; we hit it off great as friends. I was attracted to her before but in a very superficial sense. Once we became friends I was head over heels.
Summer was coming up and we needed to talk about it. Mutual interest was confirmed but she put on the breaks given the fact that we were on the cusp of summer AND she was studying abroad in the fall. I was like 'that's cool'.
and we stayed in contact. We went to a mutual friend's wedding over the summer and corresponded via snail mail (in addition to a few text/email convos). In the fall we still stayed in touch through facebook and we skyped once, which was awesome.
Now that she's back I'm not sure where things stand. We even went out for drinks just the two of us! but there's honestly no way to read how she feels about it. I could ask her out on more coffee dates or even to the movies but I don't want to mess with this if she's no longer interested in me. What do I do? I see this boiling down three scenarios:
1. do the DTR sooner than later
2. keep on going on these casual dates until things are more clear
3. just steer clear of any certainty in the relationship and it might settle on its own
TL;DR: | Girl and I like each other, friendship. She's back but unsure of whether she likes me back. Don't wanna mess up friendship if she's not going to reciprocate.<|endoftext|> | [
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TITLE:
POST: Not asking for advice but maybe this will help me deal with the turmoil going on in my head
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1. do the DTR sooner than later
2. keep on going on these casual dates until things are more clear
3. just steer clear of any certainty in the relationship and it might settle on its own
TL;DR: Girl and I like each other, friendship. She's back but unsure of whether she likes me back. Don't wanna mess up friendship if she's not going to reciprocate.<|endoftext|> | [
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POST: Not asking for advice but maybe this will help me deal with the turmoil going on in my head
We both go to the same college. So, we started talking back in March 2013; we hit it off great as friends. I was attracted to her before but in a very superficial sense. Once we became friends I was head over heels.
Summer was coming up and we needed to talk about it. Mutual interest was confirmed but she put on the breaks given the fact that we were on the cusp of summer AND she was studying abroad in the fall. I was like 'that's cool'.
and we stayed in contact. We went to a mutual friend's wedding over the summer and corresponded via snail mail (in addition to a few text/email convos). In the fall we still stayed in touch through facebook and we skyped once, which was awesome.
Now that she's back I'm not sure where things stand. We even went out for drinks just the two of us! but there's honestly no way to read how she feels about it. I could ask her out on more coffee dates or even to the movies but I don't want to mess with this if she's no longer interested in me. What do I do? I see this boiling down three scenarios:
1. do the DTR sooner than later
2. keep on going on these casual dates until things are more clear
3. just steer clear of any certainty in the relationship and it might settle on its own
TL;DR: went out with a girl for a while, now that she's back I'm not sure what to do. Do I keep trying until things are pretty much clear or do I just ignore it and just let it play itself out?<|endoftext|> | [
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Hi. In 2008 i went to University and i had a student account with NatWest. This account had a £1500 interest free overdraft facility. I finished this course in Summer 2011. I worked for a few months before i was fired. and eventually fell into a deep depression and didn't spend, or even earn anything (or even go outside, but thats a different story)...
In September 2013 i finally managed to gather enough sense and went back to university to study a masters degree. All finances were either spent using the little money i had saved or borrowed from family. Towards the end i opened a HSBC student account. This account also had a £1000 interest free overdraft. After graduating i needed money for travel to interviews etc. So i extended my overdraft facility with NatWest to £2000.
Now this account with NatWest is set to convert to a Select account (i think its called). I am working nowadays, but the money i do earn takes my NatWest account to just about above £0. But by the end of the month i will always end up in an overdraft of more than -£1000 at least.
My NatWest account is set to switch very soon. I thought i could save a lot the last two months and perhaps find another source of income, but alas i will still be in a big overdraft - with interest fees of 20% a month i think on the NatWest one.
Does anyone have any advice please? This is very depressing and stressful for me. I have tried applying for a Zopa loan, but unfortunately i was rejected. I am also in the process of arranging a debt management service, but this may impact my credit score later.
I have a few questions also: Is interest only charged on the account balance at the end of the month? Since i am paid my salary near the end of the month, my account will never be in overdraft at the end of the month. But it will be for a lot of the month in between. Same question for overdraft fees.
Anybody know of any sources for loans (at flexible rates) i can take to help me with these payments. And then i pay the loan off later when my finances are settled? | So to sum up here quickly, i have this NatWest overdraft of at least -£1300, a HSBC overdraft at -£800 and also i still owe my masters university more than £2000 otherwise i cannot get my graduation certificate. My NatWest account is currently interest free but will start charging in the very near future. Advice very much needed. | I have a lot of interest paid on my NatWest account, but i have a lot of money i don't spend or earn. Is this going to stop? | [
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In September 2013 i finally managed to gather enough sense and went back to university to study a masters degree. All finances were either spent using the little money i had saved or borrowed from family. Towards the end i opened a HSBC student account. This account also had a £1000 interest free overdraft. After graduating i needed money for travel to interviews etc. So i extended my overdraft facility with NatWest to £2000.
Now this account with NatWest is set to convert to a Select account (i think its called). I am working nowadays, but the money i do earn takes my NatWest account to just about above £0. But by the end of the month i will always end up in an overdraft of more than -£1000 at least.
My NatWest account is set to switch very soon. I thought i could save a lot the last two months and perhaps find another source of income, but alas i will still be in a big overdraft - with interest fees of 20% a month i think on the NatWest one.
Does anyone have any advice please? This is very depressing and stressful for me. I have tried applying for a Zopa loan, but unfortunately i was rejected. I am also in the process of arranging a debt management service, but this may impact my credit score later.
I have a few questions also: Is interest only charged on the account balance at the end of the month? Since i am paid my salary near the end of the month, my account will never be in overdraft at the end of the month. But it will be for a lot of the month in between. Same question for overdraft fees.
Anybody know of any sources for loans (at flexible rates) i can take to help me with these payments. And then i pay the loan off later when my finances are settled?
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In September 2013 i finally managed to gather enough sense and went back to university to study a masters degree. All finances were either spent using the little money i had saved or borrowed from family. Towards the end i opened a HSBC student account. This account also had a £1000 interest free overdraft. After graduating i needed money for travel to interviews etc. So i extended my overdraft facility with NatWest to £2000.
Now this account with NatWest is set to convert to a Select account (i think its called). I am working nowadays, but the money i do earn takes my NatWest account to just about above £0. But by the end of the month i will always end up in an overdraft of more than -£1000 at least.
My NatWest account is set to switch very soon. I thought i could save a lot the last two months and perhaps find another source of income, but alas i will still be in a big overdraft - with interest fees of 20% a month i think on the NatWest one.
Does anyone have any advice please? This is very depressing and stressful for me. I have tried applying for a Zopa loan, but unfortunately i was rejected. I am also in the process of arranging a debt management service, but this may impact my credit score later.
I have a few questions also: Is interest only charged on the account balance at the end of the month? Since i am paid my salary near the end of the month, my account will never be in overdraft at the end of the month. But it will be for a lot of the month in between. Same question for overdraft fees.
Anybody know of any sources for loans (at flexible rates) i can take to help me with these payments. And then i pay the loan off later when my finances are settled?
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In September 2013 i finally managed to gather enough sense and went back to university to study a masters degree. All finances were either spent using the little money i had saved or borrowed from family. Towards the end i opened a HSBC student account. This account also had a £1000 interest free overdraft. After graduating i needed money for travel to interviews etc. So i extended my overdraft facility with NatWest to £2000.
Now this account with NatWest is set to convert to a Select account (i think its called). I am working nowadays, but the money i do earn takes my NatWest account to just about above £0. But by the end of the month i will always end up in an overdraft of more than -£1000 at least.
My NatWest account is set to switch very soon. I thought i could save a lot the last two months and perhaps find another source of income, but alas i will still be in a big overdraft - with interest fees of 20% a month i think on the NatWest one.
Does anyone have any advice please? This is very depressing and stressful for me. I have tried applying for a Zopa loan, but unfortunately i was rejected. I am also in the process of arranging a debt management service, but this may impact my credit score later.
I have a few questions also: Is interest only charged on the account balance at the end of the month? Since i am paid my salary near the end of the month, my account will never be in overdraft at the end of the month. But it will be for a lot of the month in between. Same question for overdraft fees.
Anybody know of any sources for loans (at flexible rates) i can take to help me with these payments. And then i pay the loan off later when my finances are settled?
TL;DR: I have a lot of interest paid on my NatWest account, but i have a lot of money i don't spend or earn. Is this going to stop?<|endoftext|> | [
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English is not my first language, therefore sry for lot of mistakes etc. . However, I hope it will be still understandable.
I have kinda weird question. I have a friend, we know each other for years (5). I would not definitely call us the best friends during these years. We have lot of mutual friends, so we were meeting each other on different occasions, like parties, sport activities etc. . We texted from time to time and we knew each other quite good, in "friendish" way
She had a boyfriend as long as I know her, therefore I didn't think about her in any other way than just another female friend. Approx 1 month ago, she broke up with her boyfriend. We met on a party few days after it and talked a lot. She was really in bad mood, so I tried to help her to feel better. Still in pure friend-friend way.
After that night, we started to chat a lot, we started going out. And last two weeks we are real couple. So I was thinking about it, and it is really weird experience so far. And I have few questions for you guys, who have experienced something like this.
We know each other for years, but we have never even think about possibility to become a couple. I like her looks, she is smart, funny. We can talk about anything and we can spend hours together without single boring moment. Sexually it is like perfect storm. :D Everything is perfect. And that is the weirdest thing.
Most of the times, when I was with a girl. It was that feeling of, she is girl friend, I have to make lot of compromises and it has never been without flaws. Now, it is more like I am dating, sleeping and spending time with the best friend. | We know each other for years as friends, we are now real couple, kinda weird feeling about it. Wondering if anyone had such experience. | we have fallen in love after knowing each other for 5 years as friends. Kinda weird feeling about it. Wondering how other people feel about it. | [
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POST: Hey there,
English is not my first language, therefore sry for lot of mistakes etc.. However, I hope it will be still understandable.
I have kinda weird question. I have a friend, we know each other for years (5). I would not definitely call us the best friends during these years. We have lot of mutual friends, so we were meeting each other on different occasions, like parties, sport activities etc.. We texted from time to time and we knew each other quite good, in "friendish" way
She had a boyfriend as long as I know her, therefore I didn't think about her in any other way than just another female friend. Approx 1 month ago, she broke up with her boyfriend. We met on a party few days after it and talked a lot. She was really in bad mood, so I tried to help her to feel better. Still in pure friend-friend way.
After that night, we started to chat a lot, we started going out. And last two weeks we are real couple. So I was thinking about it, and it is really weird experience so far. And I have few questions for you guys, who have experienced something like this.
We know each other for years, but we have never even think about possibility to become a couple. I like her looks, she is smart, funny. We can talk about anything and we can spend hours together without single boring moment. Sexually it is like perfect storm. :D Everything is perfect. And that is the weirdest thing.
Most of the times, when I was with a girl. It was that feeling of, she is girl friend, I have to make lot of compromises and it has never been without flaws. Now, it is more like I am dating, sleeping and spending time with the best friend.
TL;DR: | We know each other for years as friends, we are now real couple, kinda weird feeling about it. Wondering if anyone had such experience.<|endoftext|> | [
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TITLE:
POST: Hey there,
English is not my first language, therefore sry for lot of mistakes etc.. However, I hope it will be still understandable.
I have kinda weird question. I have a friend, we know each other for years (5). I would not definitely call us the best friends during these years. We have lot of mutual friends, so we were meeting each other on different occasions, like parties, sport activities etc.. We texted from time to time and we knew each other quite good, in "friendish" way
She had a boyfriend as long as I know her, therefore I didn't think about her in any other way than just another female friend. Approx 1 month ago, she broke up with her boyfriend. We met on a party few days after it and talked a lot. She was really in bad mood, so I tried to help her to feel better. Still in pure friend-friend way.
After that night, we started to chat a lot, we started going out. And last two weeks we are real couple. So I was thinking about it, and it is really weird experience so far. And I have few questions for you guys, who have experienced something like this.
We know each other for years, but we have never even think about possibility to become a couple. I like her looks, she is smart, funny. We can talk about anything and we can spend hours together without single boring moment. Sexually it is like perfect storm. :D Everything is perfect. And that is the weirdest thing.
Most of the times, when I was with a girl. It was that feeling of, she is girl friend, I have to make lot of compromises and it has never been without flaws. Now, it is more like I am dating, sleeping and spending time with the best friend.
TL;DR: We know each other for years as friends, we are now real couple, kinda weird feeling about it. Wondering if anyone had such experience.<|endoftext|> | [
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TITLE:
POST: Hey there,
English is not my first language, therefore sry for lot of mistakes etc.. However, I hope it will be still understandable.
I have kinda weird question. I have a friend, we know each other for years (5). I would not definitely call us the best friends during these years. We have lot of mutual friends, so we were meeting each other on different occasions, like parties, sport activities etc.. We texted from time to time and we knew each other quite good, in "friendish" way
She had a boyfriend as long as I know her, therefore I didn't think about her in any other way than just another female friend. Approx 1 month ago, she broke up with her boyfriend. We met on a party few days after it and talked a lot. She was really in bad mood, so I tried to help her to feel better. Still in pure friend-friend way.
After that night, we started to chat a lot, we started going out. And last two weeks we are real couple. So I was thinking about it, and it is really weird experience so far. And I have few questions for you guys, who have experienced something like this.
We know each other for years, but we have never even think about possibility to become a couple. I like her looks, she is smart, funny. We can talk about anything and we can spend hours together without single boring moment. Sexually it is like perfect storm. :D Everything is perfect. And that is the weirdest thing.
Most of the times, when I was with a girl. It was that feeling of, she is girl friend, I have to make lot of compromises and it has never been without flaws. Now, it is more like I am dating, sleeping and spending time with the best friend.
TL;DR: we have fallen in love after knowing each other for 5 years as friends. Kinda weird feeling about it. Wondering how other people feel about it.<|endoftext|> | [
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I want to start off by saying that I don't have the most experience with women nor the biggest sex drive. We've been dating for six months and I thought things were going pretty well, but last night we got into an argument that may end it all. She's not the most emotionally stable person (fighting depression, had a rough childhood being raised by a single mom who didn't have time for her) but goes to therapy, and she's had a few rough relationships. Right now she student teaches and works part time, I work and go to school full time.
We have plenty of sex, and it's great. But last night she wanted to have sex a few hours after we had both gotten each other off, and I hadn't "recharged" so to speak. A few hours later she got a little mopey about it since my sister (24, lives with me) came home and we don't want things to get awkward. After practically avoiding me for a half hour, I told her "it's not a big deal," which caused her to flip her shit and leave. I was referring to the lack of sex from that day, she thought I was referring to her past.
We got into a phone argument for about an hour after that and she confessed that she's wanted to break up with me from time to time, even though we say we love each other every time we see each other. In the past we've had arguments about time spent together (at the time we worked weird hours but have since been seeing each other at last twice a week and sometimes up to four, we live 30 minutes away so it can be tough sometimes), and also another time when I "snatched" my phone away from her because she thought I was hiding something. Both times she got really emotional and I'm worried of what's going to happen to us if this keeps going.
So I need help from a female on this one. What can I say to fix this? Is this worth fixing or should I break up with her? Is our collective workload too much to handle a relationship? | my girlfriend and I are having a lot of arguments that she keeps taking the wrong way. What can I do to fix it or is it worth fixing? | Girlfriend gets frustrated/upset and wants to break up. What can I say to fix it? | [
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POST: I want to start off by saying that I don't have the most experience with women nor the biggest sex drive. We've been dating for six months and I thought things were going pretty well, but last night we got into an argument that may end it all. She's not the most emotionally stable person (fighting depression, had a rough childhood being raised by a single mom who didn't have time for her) but goes to therapy, and she's had a few rough relationships. Right now she student teaches and works part time, I work and go to school full time.
We have plenty of sex, and it's great. But last night she wanted to have sex a few hours after we had both gotten each other off, and I hadn't "recharged" so to speak. A few hours later she got a little mopey about it since my sister (24, lives with me) came home and we don't want things to get awkward. After practically avoiding me for a half hour, I told her "it's not a big deal," which caused her to flip her shit and leave. I was referring to the lack of sex from that day, she thought I was referring to her past.
We got into a phone argument for about an hour after that and she confessed that she's wanted to break up with me from time to time, even though we say we love each other every time we see each other. In the past we've had arguments about time spent together (at the time we worked weird hours but have since been seeing each other at last twice a week and sometimes up to four, we live 30 minutes away so it can be tough sometimes), and also another time when I "snatched" my phone away from her because she thought I was hiding something. Both times she got really emotional and I'm worried of what's going to happen to us if this keeps going.
So I need help from a female on this one. What can I say to fix this? Is this worth fixing or should I break up with her? Is our collective workload too much to handle a relationship?
TL;DR: | my girlfriend and I are having a lot of arguments that she keeps taking the wrong way. What can I do to fix it or is it worth fixing?<|endoftext|> | [
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POST: I want to start off by saying that I don't have the most experience with women nor the biggest sex drive. We've been dating for six months and I thought things were going pretty well, but last night we got into an argument that may end it all. She's not the most emotionally stable person (fighting depression, had a rough childhood being raised by a single mom who didn't have time for her) but goes to therapy, and she's had a few rough relationships. Right now she student teaches and works part time, I work and go to school full time.
We have plenty of sex, and it's great. But last night she wanted to have sex a few hours after we had both gotten each other off, and I hadn't "recharged" so to speak. A few hours later she got a little mopey about it since my sister (24, lives with me) came home and we don't want things to get awkward. After practically avoiding me for a half hour, I told her "it's not a big deal," which caused her to flip her shit and leave. I was referring to the lack of sex from that day, she thought I was referring to her past.
We got into a phone argument for about an hour after that and she confessed that she's wanted to break up with me from time to time, even though we say we love each other every time we see each other. In the past we've had arguments about time spent together (at the time we worked weird hours but have since been seeing each other at last twice a week and sometimes up to four, we live 30 minutes away so it can be tough sometimes), and also another time when I "snatched" my phone away from her because she thought I was hiding something. Both times she got really emotional and I'm worried of what's going to happen to us if this keeps going.
So I need help from a female on this one. What can I say to fix this? Is this worth fixing or should I break up with her? Is our collective workload too much to handle a relationship?
TL;DR: my girlfriend and I are having a lot of arguments that she keeps taking the wrong way. What can I do to fix it or is it worth fixing?<|endoftext|> | [
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POST: I want to start off by saying that I don't have the most experience with women nor the biggest sex drive. We've been dating for six months and I thought things were going pretty well, but last night we got into an argument that may end it all. She's not the most emotionally stable person (fighting depression, had a rough childhood being raised by a single mom who didn't have time for her) but goes to therapy, and she's had a few rough relationships. Right now she student teaches and works part time, I work and go to school full time.
We have plenty of sex, and it's great. But last night she wanted to have sex a few hours after we had both gotten each other off, and I hadn't "recharged" so to speak. A few hours later she got a little mopey about it since my sister (24, lives with me) came home and we don't want things to get awkward. After practically avoiding me for a half hour, I told her "it's not a big deal," which caused her to flip her shit and leave. I was referring to the lack of sex from that day, she thought I was referring to her past.
We got into a phone argument for about an hour after that and she confessed that she's wanted to break up with me from time to time, even though we say we love each other every time we see each other. In the past we've had arguments about time spent together (at the time we worked weird hours but have since been seeing each other at last twice a week and sometimes up to four, we live 30 minutes away so it can be tough sometimes), and also another time when I "snatched" my phone away from her because she thought I was hiding something. Both times she got really emotional and I'm worried of what's going to happen to us if this keeps going.
So I need help from a female on this one. What can I say to fix this? Is this worth fixing or should I break up with her? Is our collective workload too much to handle a relationship?
TL;DR: Girlfriend gets frustrated/upset and wants to break up. What can I say to fix it?<|endoftext|> | [
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How do I approach him? Would you suggest trying to market it as a one-time idea or get paid a percentage per unit sold? Or maybe just ask for a discount on some things in the store? Should I just give the idea and hope he is nice enough to compensate me? Thanks! | I have an awesome idea for a store that I would like to sell to the owner but I need some advice from you guys on what to do. | I want to get a cool idea from a guy who makes cool stuff but I don't want to come off like a jerk selling him one. How do I approach him? | [
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POST: So I know the owner of a small shop which manufactures some pretty cool things. Now I have an idea that I feel would really sell a lot and I want to approach him about this. I don't want to come off like a jerk selling him an idea, because he's a nice guy and I would also like him to make me one of these. However, I don't just want to hand over the idea and not have any compensation.
How do I approach him? Would you suggest trying to market it as a one-time idea or get paid a percentage per unit sold? Or maybe just ask for a discount on some things in the store? Should I just give the idea and hope he is nice enough to compensate me? Thanks!
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POST: So I know the owner of a small shop which manufactures some pretty cool things. Now I have an idea that I feel would really sell a lot and I want to approach him about this. I don't want to come off like a jerk selling him an idea, because he's a nice guy and I would also like him to make me one of these. However, I don't just want to hand over the idea and not have any compensation.
How do I approach him? Would you suggest trying to market it as a one-time idea or get paid a percentage per unit sold? Or maybe just ask for a discount on some things in the store? Should I just give the idea and hope he is nice enough to compensate me? Thanks!
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POST: So I know the owner of a small shop which manufactures some pretty cool things. Now I have an idea that I feel would really sell a lot and I want to approach him about this. I don't want to come off like a jerk selling him an idea, because he's a nice guy and I would also like him to make me one of these. However, I don't just want to hand over the idea and not have any compensation.
How do I approach him? Would you suggest trying to market it as a one-time idea or get paid a percentage per unit sold? Or maybe just ask for a discount on some things in the store? Should I just give the idea and hope he is nice enough to compensate me? Thanks!
TL;DR: I want to get a cool idea from a guy who makes cool stuff but I don't want to come off like a jerk selling him one. How do I approach him?<|endoftext|> | [
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Hi everyone,
1.5 years ago I moved cities and left everything behind to become an athlete. I have been training with the Olympic coach and for now he has said that we are on the right track to becoming a high level international athlete. But... I feel so lost. Not because of dwindling motivation but I feel like when I'm done with this sport I will have missed so much of my life. I've somewhat put my education on hold. I'm taking online classes to maintain my full funded tuition. I'm seeing my friends graduate and it's getting me worried about what I'm going to do afterwards. I was thinking about applying to a university in this city, but I'm worried about lost credits. I don't want to have to redo 3 years of university.
Financially, I'm not getting anywhere. I have started to teach Tae Kwon Do, but it's for a boss who pays crumbs and it barely gets me by every month. "Get a better job?" I would. But the way the relationship works with my coach/master/myself doesn't allow me to. It'd be like turning on my master and the taekwondo family. It's tough. Right now, I'm chasing my passion, but honestly, unless I open my own martial arts school one day (I don't really like teaching) there isn't money in it afterwards. My boss/master has been telling me about job opportunities in movie business for stunt doubles, but honestly nothing has come up.
On top of that, I used to be a really good student, but I've been slacking lately. I don't know how to pick myself up from this slump. Training has been going well, but everything else seems to be in a decline. I want to stop before I hit rock bottom and start failing my courses. I need help on how to do this.
I know this seems stupid to say, it should be easy. I'm an athlete, I know how to push. But... I don't know. I felt like I've stopped caring and I know I should not feel that way. | moving cities to become an athlete, training well, feeling lost, lack of motivation/care, lack of job opportunities, and general slump. Need words of wisdom to get back on track again. | moved cities to pursue athletic career, feel lost, lack motivation, unsure of how to get back on track. Need advice on how to start improving myself again. | [
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TITLE:
POST: Hi everyone,
1.5 years ago I moved cities and left everything behind to become an athlete. I have been training with the Olympic coach and for now he has said that we are on the right track to becoming a high level international athlete. But... I feel so lost. Not because of dwindling motivation but I feel like when I'm done with this sport I will have missed so much of my life. I've somewhat put my education on hold. I'm taking online classes to maintain my full funded tuition. I'm seeing my friends graduate and it's getting me worried about what I'm going to do afterwards. I was thinking about applying to a university in this city, but I'm worried about lost credits. I don't want to have to redo 3 years of university.
Financially, I'm not getting anywhere. I have started to teach Tae Kwon Do, but it's for a boss who pays crumbs and it barely gets me by every month. "Get a better job?" I would. But the way the relationship works with my coach/master/myself doesn't allow me to. It'd be like turning on my master and the taekwondo family. It's tough. Right now, I'm chasing my passion, but honestly, unless I open my own martial arts school one day (I don't really like teaching) there isn't money in it afterwards. My boss/master has been telling me about job opportunities in movie business for stunt doubles, but honestly nothing has come up.
On top of that, I used to be a really good student, but I've been slacking lately. I don't know how to pick myself up from this slump. Training has been going well, but everything else seems to be in a decline. I want to stop before I hit rock bottom and start failing my courses. I need help on how to do this.
I know this seems stupid to say, it should be easy. I'm an athlete, I know how to push. But... I don't know. I felt like I've stopped caring and I know I should not feel that way.
TL;DR: | moving cities to become an athlete, training well, feeling lost, lack of motivation/care, lack of job opportunities, and general slump. Need words of wisdom to get back on track again.<|endoftext|> | [
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TITLE:
POST: Hi everyone,
1.5 years ago I moved cities and left everything behind to become an athlete. I have been training with the Olympic coach and for now he has said that we are on the right track to becoming a high level international athlete. But... I feel so lost. Not because of dwindling motivation but I feel like when I'm done with this sport I will have missed so much of my life. I've somewhat put my education on hold. I'm taking online classes to maintain my full funded tuition. I'm seeing my friends graduate and it's getting me worried about what I'm going to do afterwards. I was thinking about applying to a university in this city, but I'm worried about lost credits. I don't want to have to redo 3 years of university.
Financially, I'm not getting anywhere. I have started to teach Tae Kwon Do, but it's for a boss who pays crumbs and it barely gets me by every month. "Get a better job?" I would. But the way the relationship works with my coach/master/myself doesn't allow me to. It'd be like turning on my master and the taekwondo family. It's tough. Right now, I'm chasing my passion, but honestly, unless I open my own martial arts school one day (I don't really like teaching) there isn't money in it afterwards. My boss/master has been telling me about job opportunities in movie business for stunt doubles, but honestly nothing has come up.
On top of that, I used to be a really good student, but I've been slacking lately. I don't know how to pick myself up from this slump. Training has been going well, but everything else seems to be in a decline. I want to stop before I hit rock bottom and start failing my courses. I need help on how to do this.
I know this seems stupid to say, it should be easy. I'm an athlete, I know how to push. But... I don't know. I felt like I've stopped caring and I know I should not feel that way.
TL;DR: moving cities to become an athlete, training well, feeling lost, lack of motivation/care, lack of job opportunities, and general slump. Need words of wisdom to get back on track again.<|endoftext|> | [
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POST: Hi everyone,
1.5 years ago I moved cities and left everything behind to become an athlete. I have been training with the Olympic coach and for now he has said that we are on the right track to becoming a high level international athlete. But... I feel so lost. Not because of dwindling motivation but I feel like when I'm done with this sport I will have missed so much of my life. I've somewhat put my education on hold. I'm taking online classes to maintain my full funded tuition. I'm seeing my friends graduate and it's getting me worried about what I'm going to do afterwards. I was thinking about applying to a university in this city, but I'm worried about lost credits. I don't want to have to redo 3 years of university.
Financially, I'm not getting anywhere. I have started to teach Tae Kwon Do, but it's for a boss who pays crumbs and it barely gets me by every month. "Get a better job?" I would. But the way the relationship works with my coach/master/myself doesn't allow me to. It'd be like turning on my master and the taekwondo family. It's tough. Right now, I'm chasing my passion, but honestly, unless I open my own martial arts school one day (I don't really like teaching) there isn't money in it afterwards. My boss/master has been telling me about job opportunities in movie business for stunt doubles, but honestly nothing has come up.
On top of that, I used to be a really good student, but I've been slacking lately. I don't know how to pick myself up from this slump. Training has been going well, but everything else seems to be in a decline. I want to stop before I hit rock bottom and start failing my courses. I need help on how to do this.
I know this seems stupid to say, it should be easy. I'm an athlete, I know how to push. But... I don't know. I felt like I've stopped caring and I know I should not feel that way.
TL;DR: moved cities to pursue athletic career, feel lost, lack motivation, unsure of how to get back on track. Need advice on how to start improving myself again.<|endoftext|> | [
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I have one friend I like to hang out with. We share common interests and similar beliefs. Time with him never goes to waste.
I grew up in an abusive family. Although I appear absolutely normal and healthy, I'm starting to think I may be experiencing aftermath from 18 years of abuse.
Am I turning antisocial?
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POST: I'm 19 M and I hate socializing.
It's not that I'm weird or something, I'm actually somewhat popular. People usually like me, but I don't like them back. I never show it ofc. I hate the way most people think, living like a hedonist in a "beauty-pop" culture. It disgusts me way beyond the point of being introverted. Everyone being fake and always giving a shit what others think.
I have one friend I like to hang out with. We share common interests and similar beliefs. Time with him never goes to waste.
I grew up in an abusive family. Although I appear absolutely normal and healthy, I'm starting to think I may be experiencing aftermath from 18 years of abuse.
Am I turning antisocial?
Is this behaviour normal?
TL;DR: | I'm antisocial, but I like a friend. I don't know if I'm turning into a sociopath or every antisocial person has had a childhood trauma.<|endoftext|> | [
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POST: I'm 19 M and I hate socializing.
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I grew up in an abusive family. Although I appear absolutely normal and healthy, I'm starting to think I may be experiencing aftermath from 18 years of abuse.
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POST: I'm 19 M and I hate socializing.
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I grew up in an abusive family. Although I appear absolutely normal and healthy, I'm starting to think I may be experiencing aftermath from 18 years of abuse.
Am I turning antisocial?
Is this behaviour normal?
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The reason I wanna leave is unemployment. I am not gonna go in many details since this is a throwaway. Here, I can't do the stuff I want to do. I have dreams that can be so much easier to achieve in the other country. Let's leave it at that.
As I said in the title she can't follow. At least not for 6 more years. We have discussed this and we both agree that we could try it without breaking up. But hell, I know all about long distance relationships. There are so many negative things. It almost never works. And I don't wanna lose her. She's family.
I don't have a clear question to you people. I wanna know your perspectives. Thanks in advance you guys. Have a nice day. | I want to leave my country. My SO can't follow. We've discussed it. We both agreed it could work. Do you guys have any good tips for us? And opinions of the other side? | I might leave the country. She can't. Long distance threatens our beautiful relationship. | [
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TITLE:
POST: The reason I wanna leave is unemployment. I am not gonna go in many details since this is a throwaway. Here, I can't do the stuff I want to do. I have dreams that can be so much easier to achieve in the other country. Let's leave it at that.
As I said in the title she can't follow. At least not for 6 more years. We have discussed this and we both agree that we could try it without breaking up. But hell, I know all about long distance relationships. There are so many negative things. It almost never works. And I don't wanna lose her. She's family.
I don't have a clear question to you people. I wanna know your perspectives. Thanks in advance you guys. Have a nice day.
TL;DR: I might leave the country. She can't. Long distance threatens our beautiful relationship.<|endoftext|> | [
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I met Ryan, 4 months ago on OKC. It certainly wasn't love at first sight but after 3 months I started falling for him and he eventually told me he loved me. However within two weeks he had to move to take a job in SE Asia for a year.
The night before he left I cried, and even though he claimed that I should just see other people now, he also said he'd be happy to move to wherever I was in a year. During this time in our relationship, he became increasingly affectionate, telling me he loved me everyday, wanting me to come over, etc. At first, I was into it.
But its been a month since he left and I really don't want to hold on anymore. He Gchats me several times a day (with nothing but hearts) tries to push me to Skype MORE than once a day, becomes increasingly sad when I refuse. He also sends me sappy emails and tells me how much he misses me and loves me and pushes me to come visit him either this summer or in the fall.
I'm growing resentful because while I truly did care for him when he was here, he has grown increasingly clingy and obsessed with me to the point where he'll insist to watch me fall asleep on camera! I would like to pursue other romantic interests.
I really want/need to break up with this boy but I don't want to crush him. He is sensitive and while he told me I was the 2nd girl he slept with, i strongly suspect I was the first. I would just like some tips on how to breakup as unfortunately I've been talked out of breakups in the past. | long distance boyfriend of 4 months has become overly clingy and obsessed with me. need tips on how to breakup with him so I don't hurt him/ruin him emotionally. | broken up with a clingy long distance guy but I don't want to hurt him. How do I do it? | [
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TITLE:
POST: I met Ryan, 4 months ago on OKC. It certainly wasn't love at first sight but after 3 months I started falling for him and he eventually told me he loved me. However within two weeks he had to move to take a job in SE Asia for a year.
The night before he left I cried, and even though he claimed that I should just see other people now, he also said he'd be happy to move to wherever I was in a year. During this time in our relationship, he became increasingly affectionate, telling me he loved me everyday, wanting me to come over, etc. At first, I was into it.
But its been a month since he left and I really don't want to hold on anymore. He Gchats me several times a day (with nothing but hearts) tries to push me to Skype MORE than once a day, becomes increasingly sad when I refuse. He also sends me sappy emails and tells me how much he misses me and loves me and pushes me to come visit him either this summer or in the fall.
I'm growing resentful because while I truly did care for him when he was here, he has grown increasingly clingy and obsessed with me to the point where he'll insist to watch me fall asleep on camera! I would like to pursue other romantic interests.
I really want/need to break up with this boy but I don't want to crush him. He is sensitive and while he told me I was the 2nd girl he slept with, i strongly suspect I was the first. I would just like some tips on how to breakup as unfortunately I've been talked out of breakups in the past.
TL;DR: | long distance boyfriend of 4 months has become overly clingy and obsessed with me. need tips on how to breakup with him so I don't hurt him/ruin him emotionally.<|endoftext|> | [
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POST: I met Ryan, 4 months ago on OKC. It certainly wasn't love at first sight but after 3 months I started falling for him and he eventually told me he loved me. However within two weeks he had to move to take a job in SE Asia for a year.
The night before he left I cried, and even though he claimed that I should just see other people now, he also said he'd be happy to move to wherever I was in a year. During this time in our relationship, he became increasingly affectionate, telling me he loved me everyday, wanting me to come over, etc. At first, I was into it.
But its been a month since he left and I really don't want to hold on anymore. He Gchats me several times a day (with nothing but hearts) tries to push me to Skype MORE than once a day, becomes increasingly sad when I refuse. He also sends me sappy emails and tells me how much he misses me and loves me and pushes me to come visit him either this summer or in the fall.
I'm growing resentful because while I truly did care for him when he was here, he has grown increasingly clingy and obsessed with me to the point where he'll insist to watch me fall asleep on camera! I would like to pursue other romantic interests.
I really want/need to break up with this boy but I don't want to crush him. He is sensitive and while he told me I was the 2nd girl he slept with, i strongly suspect I was the first. I would just like some tips on how to breakup as unfortunately I've been talked out of breakups in the past.
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POST: I met Ryan, 4 months ago on OKC. It certainly wasn't love at first sight but after 3 months I started falling for him and he eventually told me he loved me. However within two weeks he had to move to take a job in SE Asia for a year.
The night before he left I cried, and even though he claimed that I should just see other people now, he also said he'd be happy to move to wherever I was in a year. During this time in our relationship, he became increasingly affectionate, telling me he loved me everyday, wanting me to come over, etc. At first, I was into it.
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I'm growing resentful because while I truly did care for him when he was here, he has grown increasingly clingy and obsessed with me to the point where he'll insist to watch me fall asleep on camera! I would like to pursue other romantic interests.
I really want/need to break up with this boy but I don't want to crush him. He is sensitive and while he told me I was the 2nd girl he slept with, i strongly suspect I was the first. I would just like some tips on how to breakup as unfortunately I've been talked out of breakups in the past.
TL;DR: broken up with a clingy long distance guy but I don't want to hurt him. How do I do it?<|endoftext|> | [
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Location: Orlando, FL
Date: May 2015
1- English is not my first language, so if I sound confusing at any point just let me know and I'll edit it.
2- I'll edit the post providing any additional information needed.
I live in Brazil and rented a car from E-Z while visiting Orlando. I bought the basic insurance for $174.31 and spent the week driving a Nissan Sentra.
I didn't even think that there would be something wrong with the car upon returning, but as I get off the car the lady working for E-Z points out that there's a tiny crack in the windshield of the car.
Now, I now this is stupid, but I didn't even check the windshield when I got the car. So I started to freak out because all of a sudden there's a crack in the windshield that I was never aware of and could have been there before.
So the E-Z lady asks me if I have insurance and tells me to calm down and sign some papers because they would take care of everything. So I do that without questioning and hop on the plane to get back home thinking that I was lucky to have bought insurance.
To my surprise, this week I've got an e-mail from E-Z's risk management department stating that I was responsible for the damage and should send them $848.10.
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POST: Location: Orlando, FL
Date: May 2015
1- English is not my first language, so if I sound confusing at any point just let me know and I'll edit it.
2- I'll edit the post providing any additional information needed.
I live in Brazil and rented a car from E-Z while visiting Orlando. I bought the basic insurance for $174.31 and spent the week driving a Nissan Sentra.
I didn't even think that there would be something wrong with the car upon returning, but as I get off the car the lady working for E-Z points out that there's a tiny crack in the windshield of the car.
Now, I now this is stupid, but I didn't even check the windshield when I got the car. So I started to freak out because all of a sudden there's a crack in the windshield that I was never aware of and could have been there before.
So the E-Z lady asks me if I have insurance and tells me to calm down and sign some papers because they would take care of everything. So I do that without questioning and hop on the plane to get back home thinking that I was lucky to have bought insurance.
To my surprise, this week I've got an e-mail from E-Z's risk management department stating that I was responsible for the damage and should send them $848.10.
Now, I don't live in the US and have no idea what to do or think. I do think it is a fairly high amount to pay for a windshield, but I could be totally wrong, since I don't live there. Also I'm confused because I was led to believe that I was covered by insurance and signed a paper stating that I was responsible for the damage, even though I'm not really sure I was responsible in the first place.
Any input is greatly appreciated, since that amount is going to really hurt me financially (the dollar is not cheap at all for Brazilians right now).
TL;DR: | I rented a car that was new and it has a crack in the windshield because I was not paying attention and didn't check the windshield. Now I have to pay $848.10 for the windshield that I didn't know was damaged.<|endoftext|> | [
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TITLE:
POST: Location: Orlando, FL
Date: May 2015
1- English is not my first language, so if I sound confusing at any point just let me know and I'll edit it.
2- I'll edit the post providing any additional information needed.
I live in Brazil and rented a car from E-Z while visiting Orlando. I bought the basic insurance for $174.31 and spent the week driving a Nissan Sentra.
I didn't even think that there would be something wrong with the car upon returning, but as I get off the car the lady working for E-Z points out that there's a tiny crack in the windshield of the car.
Now, I now this is stupid, but I didn't even check the windshield when I got the car. So I started to freak out because all of a sudden there's a crack in the windshield that I was never aware of and could have been there before.
So the E-Z lady asks me if I have insurance and tells me to calm down and sign some papers because they would take care of everything. So I do that without questioning and hop on the plane to get back home thinking that I was lucky to have bought insurance.
To my surprise, this week I've got an e-mail from E-Z's risk management department stating that I was responsible for the damage and should send them $848.10.
Now, I don't live in the US and have no idea what to do or think. I do think it is a fairly high amount to pay for a windshield, but I could be totally wrong, since I don't live there. Also I'm confused because I was led to believe that I was covered by insurance and signed a paper stating that I was responsible for the damage, even though I'm not really sure I was responsible in the first place.
Any input is greatly appreciated, since that amount is going to really hurt me financially (the dollar is not cheap at all for Brazilians right now).
TL;DR: I rented a car that was new and it has a crack in the windshield because I was not paying attention and didn't check the windshield. Now I have to pay $848.10 for the windshield that I didn't know was damaged.<|endoftext|> | [
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TITLE:
POST: Location: Orlando, FL
Date: May 2015
1- English is not my first language, so if I sound confusing at any point just let me know and I'll edit it.
2- I'll edit the post providing any additional information needed.
I live in Brazil and rented a car from E-Z while visiting Orlando. I bought the basic insurance for $174.31 and spent the week driving a Nissan Sentra.
I didn't even think that there would be something wrong with the car upon returning, but as I get off the car the lady working for E-Z points out that there's a tiny crack in the windshield of the car.
Now, I now this is stupid, but I didn't even check the windshield when I got the car. So I started to freak out because all of a sudden there's a crack in the windshield that I was never aware of and could have been there before.
So the E-Z lady asks me if I have insurance and tells me to calm down and sign some papers because they would take care of everything. So I do that without questioning and hop on the plane to get back home thinking that I was lucky to have bought insurance.
To my surprise, this week I've got an e-mail from E-Z's risk management department stating that I was responsible for the damage and should send them $848.10.
Now, I don't live in the US and have no idea what to do or think. I do think it is a fairly high amount to pay for a windshield, but I could be totally wrong, since I don't live there. Also I'm confused because I was led to believe that I was covered by insurance and signed a paper stating that I was responsible for the damage, even though I'm not really sure I was responsible in the first place.
Any input is greatly appreciated, since that amount is going to really hurt me financially (the dollar is not cheap at all for Brazilians right now).
TL;DR: Rental company is trying to rip me off for $848.10 even though I contacted them a week before the accident saying I'm responsible for the damage.<|endoftext|> | [
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So my ex (22f) and i (22m) were together for nearly 5 years and I thought we would end up together- granted, we each wanted different things in our relationship.
Towards the end, the sex sucked, she was rarely, if ever, into it. It was all about me supporting her over everything- she could have daily breakdowns, and it was like I was not allowed to. It was a bad relationship, but I loved her. Unfortunately, a lot of this was due to her anxiety she never bothered to deal with. We had to do long distance, and she started hanging out with this dude, let's call him Dick, he's kind of a bum.
We broke up 5-6 weeks ago, and I was doing fine- I've been working out like crazy, lost some weight, moving out west to work in film/tv in LA. A few days ago, I got a text from her. She says she needs to tell me something and she needs me not to hate her for it- she's started dating Dick.
I lost it. I cut her out of my life completely even though we agreed to try to stay friends. I've been just depressed for days now. Like, worse than the initial breakup. I don't know what to do.
I joined okcupid, but even the chicks that have a high percentage compatibility with me wont return my friendly messages. It's like I'm completely unattractive- at least that's how I feel. | my ex and i broke up, she's dating someone else, I don't know what to do. | ex dating again after 5 years of no contact. I'm quite depressed. | [
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POST: So my ex (22f) and i (22m) were together for nearly 5 years and I thought we would end up together- granted, we each wanted different things in our relationship.
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We broke up 5-6 weeks ago, and I was doing fine- I've been working out like crazy, lost some weight, moving out west to work in film/tv in LA. A few days ago, I got a text from her. She says she needs to tell me something and she needs me not to hate her for it- she's started dating Dick.
I lost it. I cut her out of my life completely even though we agreed to try to stay friends. I've been just depressed for days now. Like, worse than the initial breakup. I don't know what to do.
I joined okcupid, but even the chicks that have a high percentage compatibility with me wont return my friendly messages. It's like I'm completely unattractive- at least that's how I feel.
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POST: So my ex (22f) and i (22m) were together for nearly 5 years and I thought we would end up together- granted, we each wanted different things in our relationship.
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I lost it. I cut her out of my life completely even though we agreed to try to stay friends. I've been just depressed for days now. Like, worse than the initial breakup. I don't know what to do.
I joined okcupid, but even the chicks that have a high percentage compatibility with me wont return my friendly messages. It's like I'm completely unattractive- at least that's how I feel.
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POST: So my ex (22f) and i (22m) were together for nearly 5 years and I thought we would end up together- granted, we each wanted different things in our relationship.
Towards the end, the sex sucked, she was rarely, if ever, into it. It was all about me supporting her over everything- she could have daily breakdowns, and it was like I was not allowed to. It was a bad relationship, but I loved her. Unfortunately, a lot of this was due to her anxiety she never bothered to deal with. We had to do long distance, and she started hanging out with this dude, let's call him Dick, he's kind of a bum.
We broke up 5-6 weeks ago, and I was doing fine- I've been working out like crazy, lost some weight, moving out west to work in film/tv in LA. A few days ago, I got a text from her. She says she needs to tell me something and she needs me not to hate her for it- she's started dating Dick.
I lost it. I cut her out of my life completely even though we agreed to try to stay friends. I've been just depressed for days now. Like, worse than the initial breakup. I don't know what to do.
I joined okcupid, but even the chicks that have a high percentage compatibility with me wont return my friendly messages. It's like I'm completely unattractive- at least that's how I feel.
TL;DR: ex dating again after 5 years of no contact. I'm quite depressed.<|endoftext|> | [
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I've had a girlfriend (20 f) for the past 8 months or so and it's been great. but being as young as we are i'm constantly hearing people say that we don't know who we are or what we want yet and that relationships during this age are nearly bound to fail. I know that at some point my girlfriend and i will likely break up, one of us will find a job in one city or graduate school in another. maybe one of us will wake up one day and just decide we want something different. I've been thinking about just ending it with her because why would i want to prolong the inevitable and increase the pain we're both bound to feel?
It's just starting to feel like there's really no point. I think back on my relationships in the past and realize how much harm they truly caused me, and i imagine any number failed relationships in the future to be just as bad. Why even bother putting yourself out there, making yourself vulnerable, when you already know what the end result will be?
I wish this wasn't true, it's really been depressing me lately but i can't help but shake the feeling that the idea of being in a relationship is better than the reality. | Relationships in general seem like they cause more harm than good and i'm starting to think they're pointless. If anyone has some counterpoints to this argument i'd love to hear it because this revelation is depressing | I'm a 20 year old male who is having serious doubts about the value of relationships in general. | [
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POST: /r/relationships, you've been a great help to me for the last couple of years, and I feel that i've learned a lot about what makes a good relationship.
for some reason though, I've lately been feeling like relationships are pointless and ultimately cause a lot more bad than good for people. I see peoples lives been slowly ruined by emotionally unavailable SO's, infidelity and dead bedrooms, etc.
I've had a girlfriend (20 f) for the past 8 months or so and it's been great. but being as young as we are i'm constantly hearing people say that we don't know who we are or what we want yet and that relationships during this age are nearly bound to fail. I know that at some point my girlfriend and i will likely break up, one of us will find a job in one city or graduate school in another. maybe one of us will wake up one day and just decide we want something different. I've been thinking about just ending it with her because why would i want to prolong the inevitable and increase the pain we're both bound to feel?
It's just starting to feel like there's really no point. I think back on my relationships in the past and realize how much harm they truly caused me, and i imagine any number failed relationships in the future to be just as bad. Why even bother putting yourself out there, making yourself vulnerable, when you already know what the end result will be?
I wish this wasn't true, it's really been depressing me lately but i can't help but shake the feeling that the idea of being in a relationship is better than the reality.
TL;DR: | Relationships in general seem like they cause more harm than good and i'm starting to think they're pointless. If anyone has some counterpoints to this argument i'd love to hear it because this revelation is depressing<|endoftext|> | [
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POST: /r/relationships, you've been a great help to me for the last couple of years, and I feel that i've learned a lot about what makes a good relationship.
for some reason though, I've lately been feeling like relationships are pointless and ultimately cause a lot more bad than good for people. I see peoples lives been slowly ruined by emotionally unavailable SO's, infidelity and dead bedrooms, etc.
I've had a girlfriend (20 f) for the past 8 months or so and it's been great. but being as young as we are i'm constantly hearing people say that we don't know who we are or what we want yet and that relationships during this age are nearly bound to fail. I know that at some point my girlfriend and i will likely break up, one of us will find a job in one city or graduate school in another. maybe one of us will wake up one day and just decide we want something different. I've been thinking about just ending it with her because why would i want to prolong the inevitable and increase the pain we're both bound to feel?
It's just starting to feel like there's really no point. I think back on my relationships in the past and realize how much harm they truly caused me, and i imagine any number failed relationships in the future to be just as bad. Why even bother putting yourself out there, making yourself vulnerable, when you already know what the end result will be?
I wish this wasn't true, it's really been depressing me lately but i can't help but shake the feeling that the idea of being in a relationship is better than the reality.
TL;DR: Relationships in general seem like they cause more harm than good and i'm starting to think they're pointless. If anyone has some counterpoints to this argument i'd love to hear it because this revelation is depressing<|endoftext|> | [
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POST: /r/relationships, you've been a great help to me for the last couple of years, and I feel that i've learned a lot about what makes a good relationship.
for some reason though, I've lately been feeling like relationships are pointless and ultimately cause a lot more bad than good for people. I see peoples lives been slowly ruined by emotionally unavailable SO's, infidelity and dead bedrooms, etc.
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It's just starting to feel like there's really no point. I think back on my relationships in the past and realize how much harm they truly caused me, and i imagine any number failed relationships in the future to be just as bad. Why even bother putting yourself out there, making yourself vulnerable, when you already know what the end result will be?
I wish this wasn't true, it's really been depressing me lately but i can't help but shake the feeling that the idea of being in a relationship is better than the reality.
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so my s/o of 7 months i feel has no respect for me what so ever. i feel like i cant do anything right ever. i always feel like if i have a problem i cant go to him or it starts a huge thing, and what makes it hard is that ive known him for years and i never thought this would be so bad.
i am his "dream girl" so why dont i feel like it? i go to counseling and she wants me to realize the "verbally abusive behavior" and the abusive relationship cycle, and that really saddens me because his last girlfriend felt the same way about him and he felt the same way about her, so whys it happening with me? i feel like im a completely different person than her.
but anyways, he always says im too emotional and he doesnt want to hear my emotional crap, but i feel as if its important to use good communication and talk about our feelings. hes always fighting with me and i never know what to do, i always feel like i cant make it right like i would like to but i never know, i really dont. i feel like if i say the wrong thing hes just ready to leave me and call me crazy, i know this isnt very in depth but ive been panicking for the last few days because im realizing the behavior and it hurts me because he used to be the sweetest man on earth to me. i realize the behavior and i want out but its so hard because i love him and its hard to wrap your head around leaving somebody thats no good for you. i feel as if we used to have such a strong bond together but now i dont know what happened, i feel like this is all my fault :( | my s/o of 7 months used to treat me really good but i am noticing the pattern of his last relationship, (verbally & emotionally abusive) she felt the same way i feel about him and he felt as if she was abusive, and everybody in my life wants me to see the abusive behavior and wants me to take action, but i am stuck, reddit i need your advice. | i feel like i cant do anything right and everyone around me says hes abusive. | [
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POST: so my s/o of 7 months i feel has no respect for me what so ever. i feel like i cant do anything right ever. i always feel like if i have a problem i cant go to him or it starts a huge thing, and what makes it hard is that ive known him for years and i never thought this would be so bad.
i am his "dream girl" so why dont i feel like it? i go to counseling and she wants me to realize the "verbally abusive behavior" and the abusive relationship cycle, and that really saddens me because his last girlfriend felt the same way about him and he felt the same way about her, so whys it happening with me? i feel like im a completely different person than her.
but anyways, he always says im too emotional and he doesnt want to hear my emotional crap, but i feel as if its important to use good communication and talk about our feelings. hes always fighting with me and i never know what to do, i always feel like i cant make it right like i would like to but i never know, i really dont. i feel like if i say the wrong thing hes just ready to leave me and call me crazy, i know this isnt very in depth but ive been panicking for the last few days because im realizing the behavior and it hurts me because he used to be the sweetest man on earth to me. i realize the behavior and i want out but its so hard because i love him and its hard to wrap your head around leaving somebody thats no good for you. i feel as if we used to have such a strong bond together but now i dont know what happened, i feel like this is all my fault :(
TL;DR: | my s/o of 7 months used to treat me really good but i am noticing the pattern of his last relationship, (verbally & emotionally abusive) she felt the same way i feel about him and he felt as if she was abusive, and everybody in my life wants me to see the abusive behavior and wants me to take action, but i am stuck, reddit i need your advice.<|endoftext|> | [
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POST: so my s/o of 7 months i feel has no respect for me what so ever. i feel like i cant do anything right ever. i always feel like if i have a problem i cant go to him or it starts a huge thing, and what makes it hard is that ive known him for years and i never thought this would be so bad.
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but anyways, he always says im too emotional and he doesnt want to hear my emotional crap, but i feel as if its important to use good communication and talk about our feelings. hes always fighting with me and i never know what to do, i always feel like i cant make it right like i would like to but i never know, i really dont. i feel like if i say the wrong thing hes just ready to leave me and call me crazy, i know this isnt very in depth but ive been panicking for the last few days because im realizing the behavior and it hurts me because he used to be the sweetest man on earth to me. i realize the behavior and i want out but its so hard because i love him and its hard to wrap your head around leaving somebody thats no good for you. i feel as if we used to have such a strong bond together but now i dont know what happened, i feel like this is all my fault :(
TL;DR: my s/o of 7 months used to treat me really good but i am noticing the pattern of his last relationship, (verbally & emotionally abusive) she felt the same way i feel about him and he felt as if she was abusive, and everybody in my life wants me to see the abusive behavior and wants me to take action, but i am stuck, reddit i need your advice.<|endoftext|> | [
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POST: so my s/o of 7 months i feel has no respect for me what so ever. i feel like i cant do anything right ever. i always feel like if i have a problem i cant go to him or it starts a huge thing, and what makes it hard is that ive known him for years and i never thought this would be so bad.
i am his "dream girl" so why dont i feel like it? i go to counseling and she wants me to realize the "verbally abusive behavior" and the abusive relationship cycle, and that really saddens me because his last girlfriend felt the same way about him and he felt the same way about her, so whys it happening with me? i feel like im a completely different person than her.
but anyways, he always says im too emotional and he doesnt want to hear my emotional crap, but i feel as if its important to use good communication and talk about our feelings. hes always fighting with me and i never know what to do, i always feel like i cant make it right like i would like to but i never know, i really dont. i feel like if i say the wrong thing hes just ready to leave me and call me crazy, i know this isnt very in depth but ive been panicking for the last few days because im realizing the behavior and it hurts me because he used to be the sweetest man on earth to me. i realize the behavior and i want out but its so hard because i love him and its hard to wrap your head around leaving somebody thats no good for you. i feel as if we used to have such a strong bond together but now i dont know what happened, i feel like this is all my fault :(
TL;DR: i feel like i cant do anything right and everyone around me says hes abusive.<|endoftext|> | [
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When I was 16, I had somehow managed to convince my parents to buy me a bimmer that was a few years old. I loved the shit out of that car, it was absolutely beautiful and way too cool for 16 year old me to have.
The thing about this car was that it was stick. Now I had never been training in driving manual transition, so I pretty much taught myself how to do it on that car (Horrible Idea)
Fast forward a month: My friends and I had been recruited by the mother of a girl from a local all girls school to be prom dates for her daughter + her friends. We arrived at the girl's house on gameday only to find out that there were 2 too many people for the Limo. I said its alright, I'll drive my own car. So my buddy and I are driving in my car to the location. **This is where dumbness takes over.**
I figured if we were driving separately, we should have some fun by getting a little speed going. Generally when driving stick, people will shift down a gear to get a little speed increase. I decided 1 wasn't enough, and to shift down 2 gears from 5th to 3rd. However, things get dumber. I make the shift.... and end up going from 5th-1st. You never go from 5th to 1st. Cue intense shaking and loud noises and me thinking "WTF WTF WTF WTF".
In the end, I blew out the transition on this newish bimmer I had just received.
But we made it to the Prom still... | I blew out the stick on my new car.** | Tried to crack into the limo of a girl at the school prom, ended up having a loud sex scene and blowing out the transition on my new car. | [
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POST: When I was 16, I had somehow managed to convince my parents to buy me a bimmer that was a few years old. I loved the shit out of that car, it was absolutely beautiful and way too cool for 16 year old me to have.
The thing about this car was that it was stick. Now I had never been training in driving manual transition, so I pretty much taught myself how to do it on that car (Horrible Idea)
Fast forward a month: My friends and I had been recruited by the mother of a girl from a local all girls school to be prom dates for her daughter + her friends. We arrived at the girl's house on gameday only to find out that there were 2 too many people for the Limo. I said its alright, I'll drive my own car. So my buddy and I are driving in my car to the location. **This is where dumbness takes over.**
I figured if we were driving separately, we should have some fun by getting a little speed going. Generally when driving stick, people will shift down a gear to get a little speed increase. I decided 1 wasn't enough, and to shift down 2 gears from 5th to 3rd. However, things get dumber. I make the shift.... and end up going from 5th-1st. You never go from 5th to 1st. Cue intense shaking and loud noises and me thinking "WTF WTF WTF WTF".
In the end, I blew out the transition on this newish bimmer I had just received.
But we made it to the Prom still...
TL;DR: | I blew out the stick on my new car.**<|endoftext|> | [
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POST: When I was 16, I had somehow managed to convince my parents to buy me a bimmer that was a few years old. I loved the shit out of that car, it was absolutely beautiful and way too cool for 16 year old me to have.
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In the end, I blew out the transition on this newish bimmer I had just received.
But we made it to the Prom still...
TL;DR: I blew out the stick on my new car.**<|endoftext|> | [
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POST: When I was 16, I had somehow managed to convince my parents to buy me a bimmer that was a few years old. I loved the shit out of that car, it was absolutely beautiful and way too cool for 16 year old me to have.
The thing about this car was that it was stick. Now I had never been training in driving manual transition, so I pretty much taught myself how to do it on that car (Horrible Idea)
Fast forward a month: My friends and I had been recruited by the mother of a girl from a local all girls school to be prom dates for her daughter + her friends. We arrived at the girl's house on gameday only to find out that there were 2 too many people for the Limo. I said its alright, I'll drive my own car. So my buddy and I are driving in my car to the location. **This is where dumbness takes over.**
I figured if we were driving separately, we should have some fun by getting a little speed going. Generally when driving stick, people will shift down a gear to get a little speed increase. I decided 1 wasn't enough, and to shift down 2 gears from 5th to 3rd. However, things get dumber. I make the shift.... and end up going from 5th-1st. You never go from 5th to 1st. Cue intense shaking and loud noises and me thinking "WTF WTF WTF WTF".
In the end, I blew out the transition on this newish bimmer I had just received.
But we made it to the Prom still...
TL;DR: Tried to crack into the limo of a girl at the school prom, ended up having a loud sex scene and blowing out the transition on my new car.<|endoftext|> | [
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POST: By "way too late," I mean 4 a.m., 5 a.m., 7 a.m... I have a day job, so this sleep schedule is bad. I don't have insomnia, but I end up on the computer, watching TV, reading, or even cleaning or working. I know all the research about how bad this is for me, and every morning I regret it, but at night, it's like my brain just doesn't make the connection, or doesn't care.
A little background: I've had sleep apnea most of my life. It's under control now, but I suspect that it taught me that sleeping doesn't make me less tired. Also, after living most of my life sleep-deprived, I am really good at pushing through the tiredness and really bad at connecting sleepiness with the need to go to bed.
I've been trying to change this pattern for a couple years. Melatonin and Benadryl don't make me sleepy enough to get me to go to bed. I feel like such an idiot for staying up too late over and over and over. Maybe someone has some useful ideas?
TL;DR: | I stay up way past my bedtime, despite knowing I should be asleep. Tips to help me go to bed and stay asleep?<|endoftext|> | [
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POST: By "way too late," I mean 4 a.m., 5 a.m., 7 a.m... I have a day job, so this sleep schedule is bad. I don't have insomnia, but I end up on the computer, watching TV, reading, or even cleaning or working. I know all the research about how bad this is for me, and every morning I regret it, but at night, it's like my brain just doesn't make the connection, or doesn't care.
A little background: I've had sleep apnea most of my life. It's under control now, but I suspect that it taught me that sleeping doesn't make me less tired. Also, after living most of my life sleep-deprived, I am really good at pushing through the tiredness and really bad at connecting sleepiness with the need to go to bed.
I've been trying to change this pattern for a couple years. Melatonin and Benadryl don't make me sleepy enough to get me to go to bed. I feel like such an idiot for staying up too late over and over and over. Maybe someone has some useful ideas?
TL;DR: I stay up way past my bedtime, despite knowing I should be asleep. Tips to help me go to bed and stay asleep?<|endoftext|> | [
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TITLE:
POST: By "way too late," I mean 4 a.m., 5 a.m., 7 a.m... I have a day job, so this sleep schedule is bad. I don't have insomnia, but I end up on the computer, watching TV, reading, or even cleaning or working. I know all the research about how bad this is for me, and every morning I regret it, but at night, it's like my brain just doesn't make the connection, or doesn't care.
A little background: I've had sleep apnea most of my life. It's under control now, but I suspect that it taught me that sleeping doesn't make me less tired. Also, after living most of my life sleep-deprived, I am really good at pushing through the tiredness and really bad at connecting sleepiness with the need to go to bed.
I've been trying to change this pattern for a couple years. Melatonin and Benadryl don't make me sleepy enough to get me to go to bed. I feel like such an idiot for staying up too late over and over and over. Maybe someone has some useful ideas?
TL;DR: I keep staying up late despite knowing that I should go to bed, and I try to keep up the willpower to do it, but I just don't seem to make the connection.<|endoftext|> | [
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My ex-boyfriend and I broke up mutually about two weeks ago.
We were each others firsts and he wanted to experience what other people were like while I try to create a life for myself outside our relationship.
I lacked a lot of motivation and perseverance toward everything: sports, games, school, work, and life in general. This really hurt our relationship greatly and no matter how much I wanted to fix it, my lack of motivation/discipline kept me from doing so.
However, **almost nothing has really changed**. We both still love each other. We both still hang out with each other every day and we always talk about our problems with each other.
Recently, he met a girl in his class who he wishes to pursue.
Of course, me being the person he talks to the most, he talks to me about how great she is, how different she is from girls he's met, etc. This really gets me jealous, but I do want him to talk to this stuff about me **because he feels like he can't talk to anyone else about it**. I want to help him as much as I can, so that he can be happy and in hopes that it'll help me move on faster.
Every time we talk to each other nowadays, I keep coldly mentioning this girl and saying hurtful things like "Well, why don't you just date her if you find her so interesting?" and stuff like that.
As soon as I say something, I want to take it back right away. Everything I say doesn't help him and I'm just making him feel worse about it. What do I do? | BF and I have broken up two weeks ago and is putting himself out in the dating world almost immediately. Is it bad for me still constantly be hanging out with him and what can I do stop being so cruel to him? | My ex-boyfriend got a girl and I'm jealous as hell and want him to be happy with her. How do I stop being cynical? | [
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TITLE:
POST: My ex-boyfriend and I broke up mutually about two weeks ago.
We were each others firsts and he wanted to experience what other people were like while I try to create a life for myself outside our relationship.
I lacked a lot of motivation and perseverance toward everything: sports, games, school, work, and life in general. This really hurt our relationship greatly and no matter how much I wanted to fix it, my lack of motivation/discipline kept me from doing so.
However, **almost nothing has really changed**. We both still love each other. We both still hang out with each other every day and we always talk about our problems with each other.
Recently, he met a girl in his class who he wishes to pursue.
Of course, me being the person he talks to the most, he talks to me about how great she is, how different she is from girls he's met, etc. This really gets me jealous, but I do want him to talk to this stuff about me **because he feels like he can't talk to anyone else about it**. I want to help him as much as I can, so that he can be happy and in hopes that it'll help me move on faster.
Every time we talk to each other nowadays, I keep coldly mentioning this girl and saying hurtful things like "Well, why don't you just date her if you find her so interesting?" and stuff like that.
As soon as I say something, I want to take it back right away. Everything I say doesn't help him and I'm just making him feel worse about it. What do I do?
TL;DR: | BF and I have broken up two weeks ago and is putting himself out in the dating world almost immediately. Is it bad for me still constantly be hanging out with him and what can I do stop being so cruel to him?<|endoftext|> | [
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TITLE:
POST: My ex-boyfriend and I broke up mutually about two weeks ago.
We were each others firsts and he wanted to experience what other people were like while I try to create a life for myself outside our relationship.
I lacked a lot of motivation and perseverance toward everything: sports, games, school, work, and life in general. This really hurt our relationship greatly and no matter how much I wanted to fix it, my lack of motivation/discipline kept me from doing so.
However, **almost nothing has really changed**. We both still love each other. We both still hang out with each other every day and we always talk about our problems with each other.
Recently, he met a girl in his class who he wishes to pursue.
Of course, me being the person he talks to the most, he talks to me about how great she is, how different she is from girls he's met, etc. This really gets me jealous, but I do want him to talk to this stuff about me **because he feels like he can't talk to anyone else about it**. I want to help him as much as I can, so that he can be happy and in hopes that it'll help me move on faster.
Every time we talk to each other nowadays, I keep coldly mentioning this girl and saying hurtful things like "Well, why don't you just date her if you find her so interesting?" and stuff like that.
As soon as I say something, I want to take it back right away. Everything I say doesn't help him and I'm just making him feel worse about it. What do I do?
TL;DR: BF and I have broken up two weeks ago and is putting himself out in the dating world almost immediately. Is it bad for me still constantly be hanging out with him and what can I do stop being so cruel to him?<|endoftext|> | [
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POST: My ex-boyfriend and I broke up mutually about two weeks ago.
We were each others firsts and he wanted to experience what other people were like while I try to create a life for myself outside our relationship.
I lacked a lot of motivation and perseverance toward everything: sports, games, school, work, and life in general. This really hurt our relationship greatly and no matter how much I wanted to fix it, my lack of motivation/discipline kept me from doing so.
However, **almost nothing has really changed**. We both still love each other. We both still hang out with each other every day and we always talk about our problems with each other.
Recently, he met a girl in his class who he wishes to pursue.
Of course, me being the person he talks to the most, he talks to me about how great she is, how different she is from girls he's met, etc. This really gets me jealous, but I do want him to talk to this stuff about me **because he feels like he can't talk to anyone else about it**. I want to help him as much as I can, so that he can be happy and in hopes that it'll help me move on faster.
Every time we talk to each other nowadays, I keep coldly mentioning this girl and saying hurtful things like "Well, why don't you just date her if you find her so interesting?" and stuff like that.
As soon as I say something, I want to take it back right away. Everything I say doesn't help him and I'm just making him feel worse about it. What do I do?
TL;DR: My ex-boyfriend got a girl and I'm jealous as hell and want him to be happy with her. How do I stop being cynical?<|endoftext|> | [
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I err on the relationship plane though.. and I do it big. Go big or go home, eh?? My problem is neediness.. I get wrapped up in the girl I'm interested in/dating. I completely give 100% and where-as that might normally be ok, it isn't.
I'm insecure in this area.. people have left me my whole life (family, friends for good reasons, lot's of people around me have died, exes) so I get nervous. If I haven't heard from my girl in a few hours, I start to flip. I don't do anything, don't get crazy, my stomach just starts tying into knots. I'm needy, clingy, bah. I need constant reassurance.
Eventually, I think it's been the cause of the last 7 years of girls walking out. They say different things, but they were never dating the fun, confident, charming guy they met.
So Reddit.. help? I know I should see a therapist but I'm barely scraping by as is. I understand it's insecurity.. and that I need to learn to trust. Have any of you got advice from your experience here? | I'm insecure in relationships, I need constant reassurance. What should I do? How do I learn to trust again? | I'm a needy, clingy bastard looking for help to overcome it and be the fun guy I am outside of a relationship. | [
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POST: I'm a regular fellow - not striking by any means, except maybe how considerate of others I am. I get called cute often, so I don't think I'm ugly. Athetic physique.
When I'm not a'courtin someone, I'm confident, relaxed, a couldn't-care-less type. I can be alone and fully happy w/ that for months... in fact, I like to stay home and read or watch movies by myself, eat dinner alone, etc. I'm happy w/ me.
I err on the relationship plane though.. and I do it big. Go big or go home, eh?? My problem is neediness.. I get wrapped up in the girl I'm interested in/dating. I completely give 100% and where-as that might normally be ok, it isn't.
I'm insecure in this area.. people have left me my whole life (family, friends for good reasons, lot's of people around me have died, exes) so I get nervous. If I haven't heard from my girl in a few hours, I start to flip. I don't do anything, don't get crazy, my stomach just starts tying into knots. I'm needy, clingy, bah. I need constant reassurance.
Eventually, I think it's been the cause of the last 7 years of girls walking out. They say different things, but they were never dating the fun, confident, charming guy they met.
So Reddit.. help? I know I should see a therapist but I'm barely scraping by as is. I understand it's insecurity.. and that I need to learn to trust. Have any of you got advice from your experience here?
TL;DR: | I'm insecure in relationships, I need constant reassurance. What should I do? How do I learn to trust again?<|endoftext|> | [
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POST: I'm a regular fellow - not striking by any means, except maybe how considerate of others I am. I get called cute often, so I don't think I'm ugly. Athetic physique.
When I'm not a'courtin someone, I'm confident, relaxed, a couldn't-care-less type. I can be alone and fully happy w/ that for months... in fact, I like to stay home and read or watch movies by myself, eat dinner alone, etc. I'm happy w/ me.
I err on the relationship plane though.. and I do it big. Go big or go home, eh?? My problem is neediness.. I get wrapped up in the girl I'm interested in/dating. I completely give 100% and where-as that might normally be ok, it isn't.
I'm insecure in this area.. people have left me my whole life (family, friends for good reasons, lot's of people around me have died, exes) so I get nervous. If I haven't heard from my girl in a few hours, I start to flip. I don't do anything, don't get crazy, my stomach just starts tying into knots. I'm needy, clingy, bah. I need constant reassurance.
Eventually, I think it's been the cause of the last 7 years of girls walking out. They say different things, but they were never dating the fun, confident, charming guy they met.
So Reddit.. help? I know I should see a therapist but I'm barely scraping by as is. I understand it's insecurity.. and that I need to learn to trust. Have any of you got advice from your experience here?
TL;DR: I'm insecure in relationships, I need constant reassurance. What should I do? How do I learn to trust again?<|endoftext|> | [
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POST: I'm a regular fellow - not striking by any means, except maybe how considerate of others I am. I get called cute often, so I don't think I'm ugly. Athetic physique.
When I'm not a'courtin someone, I'm confident, relaxed, a couldn't-care-less type. I can be alone and fully happy w/ that for months... in fact, I like to stay home and read or watch movies by myself, eat dinner alone, etc. I'm happy w/ me.
I err on the relationship plane though.. and I do it big. Go big or go home, eh?? My problem is neediness.. I get wrapped up in the girl I'm interested in/dating. I completely give 100% and where-as that might normally be ok, it isn't.
I'm insecure in this area.. people have left me my whole life (family, friends for good reasons, lot's of people around me have died, exes) so I get nervous. If I haven't heard from my girl in a few hours, I start to flip. I don't do anything, don't get crazy, my stomach just starts tying into knots. I'm needy, clingy, bah. I need constant reassurance.
Eventually, I think it's been the cause of the last 7 years of girls walking out. They say different things, but they were never dating the fun, confident, charming guy they met.
So Reddit.. help? I know I should see a therapist but I'm barely scraping by as is. I understand it's insecurity.. and that I need to learn to trust. Have any of you got advice from your experience here?
TL;DR: I'm a needy, clingy bastard looking for help to overcome it and be the fun guy I am outside of a relationship.<|endoftext|> | [
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This past summer I lost something that I will never be able to get back. It was a baseball cap from the 1991 world series. My father went to game seven and when the Twins won he came home with a baseball cap for me. I was 8 at the time and didn't quite fit into it but I wore it almost every day of my life until this past summer when the tragic loss happened. I was in a boat on a lake in northern Minnesota. I had taken my hat off while we were swimming near a sand bar after dark. As we sped away back to the dock my hat flew off the boat. I dove in the water while the boat was still moving to try and find it but in the dark there was nothing I could do. When the sun came out we went to look for it but there was nothing to be found.
I have a new hat now that I plan on passing on to my children, I know that it seems trivial for a hat to be so important but the Twins are a great connection I have with my father.
What have you lost that you can never get back? | I lost a hat in a lake with a special connection to my father that I can never get back. | Lost a baseball cap that was irreplaceable but I am holding onto the memory of my father. | [
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I have a new hat now that I plan on passing on to my children, I know that it seems trivial for a hat to be so important but the Twins are a great connection I have with my father.
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POST: This past summer I lost something that I will never be able to get back. It was a baseball cap from the 1991 world series. My father went to game seven and when the Twins won he came home with a baseball cap for me. I was 8 at the time and didn't quite fit into it but I wore it almost every day of my life until this past summer when the tragic loss happened. I was in a boat on a lake in northern Minnesota. I had taken my hat off while we were swimming near a sand bar after dark. As we sped away back to the dock my hat flew off the boat. I dove in the water while the boat was still moving to try and find it but in the dark there was nothing I could do. When the sun came out we went to look for it but there was nothing to be found.
I have a new hat now that I plan on passing on to my children, I know that it seems trivial for a hat to be so important but the Twins are a great connection I have with my father.
What have you lost that you can never get back?
TL;DR: Lost a baseball cap that was irreplaceable but I am holding onto the memory of my father.<|endoftext|> | [
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Hi guys,
I'm currently 16 years old, and i've been trying to find a job over the summer to make money and gain experience but have had no luck so far. Recently, a Dunkin' Donuts store near me has had a "Now Hiring" sign at their door that says that they're hiring bakers, sandwich makers, and cashiers. I was interested in applying to be a cashier, so I went in last Saturday and asked to speak to the manager about applying. The person who was working there said that the manager wasn't there, but she told me that i'd have to apply online first and then come in to talk to the manager. Later that day, I applied on their website, and I decided to give the manager a few days before I go back. I went back yesterday (6 days after applying online) and asked to see the manager (different employee this time), and the person working took my name and phone number and said that the manager wasn't there but would be there tomorrow until 12pm. Because of this, I waited until today, and I just went in less than an hour ago (around 11:45am) to ask to speak to the manager about applying. The person working (same one who spoke to me yesterday) went in the back and came back and told me that the manager said that she was "busy" and that I should call them this Monday sometime between 2pm and 4pm. After that, I just thanked the employee who was helping me and left.
Does anybody else think this is just an excuse that the manager made up so that she doesn't have to speak to me? I feel like, if the manager really did want to interview me, she would have called me already or came out to talk to me when I was at the store, and the whole "she is busy" thing sounds like an excuse. At this point, I feel like I should just not call about the job on Monday and that I should just look elsewhere, but I would just like to get some outside opinions on what other people think about this. | I applied to be a cashier at a Dunkin' Donuts, but the manager said I needed to come in to talk to me, and that she was "busy" so that I should call them on Monday. What do you think about this? | Manager lied to me about when I would have to speak to her about applying for a job. I feel like I should just not call and not even bother looking for a job at all. | [
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POST: Hi guys,
I'm currently 16 years old, and i've been trying to find a job over the summer to make money and gain experience but have had no luck so far. Recently, a Dunkin' Donuts store near me has had a "Now Hiring" sign at their door that says that they're hiring bakers, sandwich makers, and cashiers. I was interested in applying to be a cashier, so I went in last Saturday and asked to speak to the manager about applying. The person who was working there said that the manager wasn't there, but she told me that i'd have to apply online first and then come in to talk to the manager. Later that day, I applied on their website, and I decided to give the manager a few days before I go back. I went back yesterday (6 days after applying online) and asked to see the manager (different employee this time), and the person working took my name and phone number and said that the manager wasn't there but would be there tomorrow until 12pm. Because of this, I waited until today, and I just went in less than an hour ago (around 11:45am) to ask to speak to the manager about applying. The person working (same one who spoke to me yesterday) went in the back and came back and told me that the manager said that she was "busy" and that I should call them this Monday sometime between 2pm and 4pm. After that, I just thanked the employee who was helping me and left.
Does anybody else think this is just an excuse that the manager made up so that she doesn't have to speak to me? I feel like, if the manager really did want to interview me, she would have called me already or came out to talk to me when I was at the store, and the whole "she is busy" thing sounds like an excuse. At this point, I feel like I should just not call about the job on Monday and that I should just look elsewhere, but I would just like to get some outside opinions on what other people think about this.
TL;DR: | I applied to be a cashier at a Dunkin' Donuts, but the manager said I needed to come in to talk to me, and that she was "busy" so that I should call them on Monday. What do you think about this?<|endoftext|> | [
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POST: Hi guys,
I'm currently 16 years old, and i've been trying to find a job over the summer to make money and gain experience but have had no luck so far. Recently, a Dunkin' Donuts store near me has had a "Now Hiring" sign at their door that says that they're hiring bakers, sandwich makers, and cashiers. I was interested in applying to be a cashier, so I went in last Saturday and asked to speak to the manager about applying. The person who was working there said that the manager wasn't there, but she told me that i'd have to apply online first and then come in to talk to the manager. Later that day, I applied on their website, and I decided to give the manager a few days before I go back. I went back yesterday (6 days after applying online) and asked to see the manager (different employee this time), and the person working took my name and phone number and said that the manager wasn't there but would be there tomorrow until 12pm. Because of this, I waited until today, and I just went in less than an hour ago (around 11:45am) to ask to speak to the manager about applying. The person working (same one who spoke to me yesterday) went in the back and came back and told me that the manager said that she was "busy" and that I should call them this Monday sometime between 2pm and 4pm. After that, I just thanked the employee who was helping me and left.
Does anybody else think this is just an excuse that the manager made up so that she doesn't have to speak to me? I feel like, if the manager really did want to interview me, she would have called me already or came out to talk to me when I was at the store, and the whole "she is busy" thing sounds like an excuse. At this point, I feel like I should just not call about the job on Monday and that I should just look elsewhere, but I would just like to get some outside opinions on what other people think about this.
TL;DR: I applied to be a cashier at a Dunkin' Donuts, but the manager said I needed to come in to talk to me, and that she was "busy" so that I should call them on Monday. What do you think about this?<|endoftext|> | [
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POST: Hi guys,
I'm currently 16 years old, and i've been trying to find a job over the summer to make money and gain experience but have had no luck so far. Recently, a Dunkin' Donuts store near me has had a "Now Hiring" sign at their door that says that they're hiring bakers, sandwich makers, and cashiers. I was interested in applying to be a cashier, so I went in last Saturday and asked to speak to the manager about applying. The person who was working there said that the manager wasn't there, but she told me that i'd have to apply online first and then come in to talk to the manager. Later that day, I applied on their website, and I decided to give the manager a few days before I go back. I went back yesterday (6 days after applying online) and asked to see the manager (different employee this time), and the person working took my name and phone number and said that the manager wasn't there but would be there tomorrow until 12pm. Because of this, I waited until today, and I just went in less than an hour ago (around 11:45am) to ask to speak to the manager about applying. The person working (same one who spoke to me yesterday) went in the back and came back and told me that the manager said that she was "busy" and that I should call them this Monday sometime between 2pm and 4pm. After that, I just thanked the employee who was helping me and left.
Does anybody else think this is just an excuse that the manager made up so that she doesn't have to speak to me? I feel like, if the manager really did want to interview me, she would have called me already or came out to talk to me when I was at the store, and the whole "she is busy" thing sounds like an excuse. At this point, I feel like I should just not call about the job on Monday and that I should just look elsewhere, but I would just like to get some outside opinions on what other people think about this.
TL;DR: Manager lied to me about when I would have to speak to her about applying for a job. I feel like I should just not call and not even bother looking for a job at all.<|endoftext|> | [
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I went to traffic court this morning to fight a bunk ticket I got a couple of months back. (One of the two violations were dropped so I guess that's something.) The way my county handles it is everyone showing up for traffic court that day signs in and sits in a big open room and waits for your name to be called and they pull you into a room one by one and addresses your case.
I came into the room and met eyes with a cute redhead with all of the features I love in a woman. It was like getting smacked in the face. It was great. I sat near her and we exchanged smiles and glances during our time in the room but there was no chance to talk because of the environment we were in. It was just this dead silent echoing room and there were three people sitting between us.
Here's the question I guess. I know her name, because they called it out when they called her in for her traffic case. I know she has Facebook because I saw her browsing on her phone while she was waiting. How many lines of creeper would I be crossing by looking her up and attempting contact?
I would have done something as simple as write my name and number on a paper and handed it to her but there wasn't anything available in the area. | Made googly eyes with beautiful girl while waiting for traffic court but couldn't talk to her. I know her name and could contact her on Facebook. Creeper scale 1-10? | How would I go about contacting someone if I knew their name but didn't know their name on a first name basis? | [
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POST: Having been in this sub as long as I have, I probably know the answer to this already but I'm throwing it out there anyway.
I went to traffic court this morning to fight a bunk ticket I got a couple of months back. (One of the two violations were dropped so I guess that's something.) The way my county handles it is everyone showing up for traffic court that day signs in and sits in a big open room and waits for your name to be called and they pull you into a room one by one and addresses your case.
I came into the room and met eyes with a cute redhead with all of the features I love in a woman. It was like getting smacked in the face. It was great. I sat near her and we exchanged smiles and glances during our time in the room but there was no chance to talk because of the environment we were in. It was just this dead silent echoing room and there were three people sitting between us.
Here's the question I guess. I know her name, because they called it out when they called her in for her traffic case. I know she has Facebook because I saw her browsing on her phone while she was waiting. How many lines of creeper would I be crossing by looking her up and attempting contact?
I would have done something as simple as write my name and number on a paper and handed it to her but there wasn't anything available in the area.
TL;DR: | Made googly eyes with beautiful girl while waiting for traffic court but couldn't talk to her. I know her name and could contact her on Facebook. Creeper scale 1-10?<|endoftext|> | [
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TITLE:
POST: Having been in this sub as long as I have, I probably know the answer to this already but I'm throwing it out there anyway.
I went to traffic court this morning to fight a bunk ticket I got a couple of months back. (One of the two violations were dropped so I guess that's something.) The way my county handles it is everyone showing up for traffic court that day signs in and sits in a big open room and waits for your name to be called and they pull you into a room one by one and addresses your case.
I came into the room and met eyes with a cute redhead with all of the features I love in a woman. It was like getting smacked in the face. It was great. I sat near her and we exchanged smiles and glances during our time in the room but there was no chance to talk because of the environment we were in. It was just this dead silent echoing room and there were three people sitting between us.
Here's the question I guess. I know her name, because they called it out when they called her in for her traffic case. I know she has Facebook because I saw her browsing on her phone while she was waiting. How many lines of creeper would I be crossing by looking her up and attempting contact?
I would have done something as simple as write my name and number on a paper and handed it to her but there wasn't anything available in the area.
TL;DR: Made googly eyes with beautiful girl while waiting for traffic court but couldn't talk to her. I know her name and could contact her on Facebook. Creeper scale 1-10?<|endoftext|> | [
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TITLE:
POST: Having been in this sub as long as I have, I probably know the answer to this already but I'm throwing it out there anyway.
I went to traffic court this morning to fight a bunk ticket I got a couple of months back. (One of the two violations were dropped so I guess that's something.) The way my county handles it is everyone showing up for traffic court that day signs in and sits in a big open room and waits for your name to be called and they pull you into a room one by one and addresses your case.
I came into the room and met eyes with a cute redhead with all of the features I love in a woman. It was like getting smacked in the face. It was great. I sat near her and we exchanged smiles and glances during our time in the room but there was no chance to talk because of the environment we were in. It was just this dead silent echoing room and there were three people sitting between us.
Here's the question I guess. I know her name, because they called it out when they called her in for her traffic case. I know she has Facebook because I saw her browsing on her phone while she was waiting. How many lines of creeper would I be crossing by looking her up and attempting contact?
I would have done something as simple as write my name and number on a paper and handed it to her but there wasn't anything available in the area.
TL;DR: How would I go about contacting someone if I knew their name but didn't know their name on a first name basis?<|endoftext|> | [
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So theres this girl ive met up with 4 times who recently got out of an abusive relationship 2 months ago and she normally has confidence issues anyway, but obviously her ex has made things worse. anyway eevery time i talk to her i always get the feeling i end up talking about myself because every time i ask her something she replies with a short answer and even when i try to ask a followup question she answers short, doesnt ask me back a question and so to break the silence i end up talking about myself! she has said a lot that her friends talk about themselves a lot and so because of that she tries to talk about herself as little as possible. so how do i get her to open up more? she sent me a message tonight after seeing me that she really likes spending time with me and i like seeing her too but i want to hear more about her life and her thoughts. | How do i get the girl i have been seeing to open up more and talk more about herself? | Mandatory summary/question! | [
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POST: So theres this girl ive met up with 4 times who recently got out of an abusive relationship 2 months ago and she normally has confidence issues anyway, but obviously her ex has made things worse. anyway eevery time i talk to her i always get the feeling i end up talking about myself because every time i ask her something she replies with a short answer and even when i try to ask a followup question she answers short, doesnt ask me back a question and so to break the silence i end up talking about myself! she has said a lot that her friends talk about themselves a lot and so because of that she tries to talk about herself as little as possible. so how do i get her to open up more? she sent me a message tonight after seeing me that she really likes spending time with me and i like seeing her too but i want to hear more about her life and her thoughts.
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POST: I started dating this girl in January and due to some differences we broke up after two months. About a month ago, we realized how stupid we acted and decided to get back together. We've been dating for 1 month now and the thing that bothers me, is that she messages her FWB a lot. She had a FWB before we started dating. I found that out from her room mate. I didn't go through her phone but I can see every now and then there would be a message popping up from him. We haven't had the exclusivity talk yet. So is this a red flag or am I thinking too much about it?
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POST: I started dating this girl in January and due to some differences we broke up after two months. About a month ago, we realized how stupid we acted and decided to get back together. We've been dating for 1 month now and the thing that bothers me, is that she messages her FWB a lot. She had a FWB before we started dating. I found that out from her room mate. I didn't go through her phone but I can see every now and then there would be a message popping up from him. We haven't had the exclusivity talk yet. So is this a red flag or am I thinking too much about it?
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Ok big edit since people are focusing on things that doesn't really matter to my problem.
My ex and I were together for 14 months and we broke up for various reasons. We were broken up for around a month and during that time, he had a one night stand. He came back to me last Friday, said he missed me and love me so we agreed to try again. I stupidly asked too many questions and now I know too much and I can't stop picturing them having sex in my head and it's driving me nuts. Every thing else is going great between us so far and I don't want to fuck it up. Any advice?
Edit: Please know that I'm not trying to make him look like the bad guy. I know he had every right to do so. I just want tips and tricks on how to stop thinking and picturing them having sex. | Boyfriend slept with someone while we were broken up, I asked too many questions and now I can't stop thinking about them having sex. | Thinking about my ex having sex with another girl and don't want to fuck up our relationship. Advice? | [
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TITLE:
POST: Ok big edit since people are focusing on things that doesn't really matter to my problem.
My ex and I were together for 14 months and we broke up for various reasons. We were broken up for around a month and during that time, he had a one night stand. He came back to me last Friday, said he missed me and love me so we agreed to try again. I stupidly asked too many questions and now I know too much and I can't stop picturing them having sex in my head and it's driving me nuts. Every thing else is going great between us so far and I don't want to fuck it up. Any advice?
Edit: Please know that I'm not trying to make him look like the bad guy. I know he had every right to do so. I just want tips and tricks on how to stop thinking and picturing them having sex.
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TITLE:
POST: Ok big edit since people are focusing on things that doesn't really matter to my problem.
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Edit: Please know that I'm not trying to make him look like the bad guy. I know he had every right to do so. I just want tips and tricks on how to stop thinking and picturing them having sex.
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POST: Ok big edit since people are focusing on things that doesn't really matter to my problem.
My ex and I were together for 14 months and we broke up for various reasons. We were broken up for around a month and during that time, he had a one night stand. He came back to me last Friday, said he missed me and love me so we agreed to try again. I stupidly asked too many questions and now I know too much and I can't stop picturing them having sex in my head and it's driving me nuts. Every thing else is going great between us so far and I don't want to fuck it up. Any advice?
Edit: Please know that I'm not trying to make him look like the bad guy. I know he had every right to do so. I just want tips and tricks on how to stop thinking and picturing them having sex.
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I was pretty sure I had moved past it (many crushes, and another gf during the last 2 years) but every month or so I catch myself really wanting to talk to her/see her again. | got dumped by ex gf of 1 year. still catch myself wanting to see her/talk to her. weird? normal? pls halp | Got dumped by gf of 1 year, not sure if I'm ready to move past it or what normal is/should be. should I still pursue her/see her? | [
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TITLE:
POST: So about two and a half years ago, I (17 at the time) began dating my coworker (21). I got along really well with her, her 9 month old daughter, and her brother who lived with her. Everything went great for about a year, and then right after the new year, she dumps me out of the blue. About a week later, she quits her job and starts going out with a different guy.
I was pretty sure I had moved past it (many crushes, and another gf during the last 2 years) but every month or so I catch myself really wanting to talk to her/see her again.
TL;DR: | got dumped by ex gf of 1 year. still catch myself wanting to see her/talk to her. weird? normal? pls halp<|endoftext|> | [
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So my LDR gf of 7 months told me recently that she thinks she is bisexual - mainly due to having a encounter with a girl at a club that she was really attracted to (she said something might've happened if she was single). She has kissed girls before (including one drunken make out) but I've never really thought about this seriously.
She has bisexual friends who gave her advice, and one of them commented how they had the option to experiment when they had similar discoveries. She told me that she doesn't want to experiment though, and when I asked her whether it was because she wasn't comfortable being with a girl, or whether it was because she was dating me (monogamous relationship), she said she didn't know.
That kind of answer really worries me, combined with the fact that she stated that she didn't want any chance of her parents having to deal with a bisexual (or just non-straight) daughter (she has conservative parents and society). She told me she definitely isn't a lesbian though.
So what I'm struggling with is that i personally don't think I can date someone who is repressing a part of themselves. I would constantly question whether she was thinking of these "what-if" scenarios with her sexuality, or be scared to accept parts of herself. Long distance is already such a big commitment, and I wouldn't be comfortable dating someone who may secretly question our relationship, or may not be as passionate (let me know if I'm just being insecure with this thought).
I want to remain supportive but I also don't want to pretend like she's completely straight just for conveniences' sake, and be unable to talk/ be uncomfortable with this topic.
Thanks for any advice! | gf thinks she might be bi, but is the type to repress it. Not sure how to proceed | Gf might be bisexual, not sure if I can marry someone who is repressing part of themselves. | [
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TITLE:
POST: So my LDR gf of 7 months told me recently that she thinks she is bisexual - mainly due to having a encounter with a girl at a club that she was really attracted to (she said something might've happened if she was single). She has kissed girls before (including one drunken make out) but I've never really thought about this seriously.
She has bisexual friends who gave her advice, and one of them commented how they had the option to experiment when they had similar discoveries. She told me that she doesn't want to experiment though, and when I asked her whether it was because she wasn't comfortable being with a girl, or whether it was because she was dating me (monogamous relationship), she said she didn't know.
That kind of answer really worries me, combined with the fact that she stated that she didn't want any chance of her parents having to deal with a bisexual (or just non-straight) daughter (she has conservative parents and society). She told me she definitely isn't a lesbian though.
So what I'm struggling with is that i personally don't think I can date someone who is repressing a part of themselves. I would constantly question whether she was thinking of these "what-if" scenarios with her sexuality, or be scared to accept parts of herself. Long distance is already such a big commitment, and I wouldn't be comfortable dating someone who may secretly question our relationship, or may not be as passionate (let me know if I'm just being insecure with this thought).
I want to remain supportive but I also don't want to pretend like she's completely straight just for conveniences' sake, and be unable to talk/ be uncomfortable with this topic.
Thanks for any advice!
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TITLE:
POST: So my LDR gf of 7 months told me recently that she thinks she is bisexual - mainly due to having a encounter with a girl at a club that she was really attracted to (she said something might've happened if she was single). She has kissed girls before (including one drunken make out) but I've never really thought about this seriously.
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That kind of answer really worries me, combined with the fact that she stated that she didn't want any chance of her parents having to deal with a bisexual (or just non-straight) daughter (she has conservative parents and society). She told me she definitely isn't a lesbian though.
So what I'm struggling with is that i personally don't think I can date someone who is repressing a part of themselves. I would constantly question whether she was thinking of these "what-if" scenarios with her sexuality, or be scared to accept parts of herself. Long distance is already such a big commitment, and I wouldn't be comfortable dating someone who may secretly question our relationship, or may not be as passionate (let me know if I'm just being insecure with this thought).
I want to remain supportive but I also don't want to pretend like she's completely straight just for conveniences' sake, and be unable to talk/ be uncomfortable with this topic.
Thanks for any advice!
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TITLE:
POST: So my LDR gf of 7 months told me recently that she thinks she is bisexual - mainly due to having a encounter with a girl at a club that she was really attracted to (she said something might've happened if she was single). She has kissed girls before (including one drunken make out) but I've never really thought about this seriously.
She has bisexual friends who gave her advice, and one of them commented how they had the option to experiment when they had similar discoveries. She told me that she doesn't want to experiment though, and when I asked her whether it was because she wasn't comfortable being with a girl, or whether it was because she was dating me (monogamous relationship), she said she didn't know.
That kind of answer really worries me, combined with the fact that she stated that she didn't want any chance of her parents having to deal with a bisexual (or just non-straight) daughter (she has conservative parents and society). She told me she definitely isn't a lesbian though.
So what I'm struggling with is that i personally don't think I can date someone who is repressing a part of themselves. I would constantly question whether she was thinking of these "what-if" scenarios with her sexuality, or be scared to accept parts of herself. Long distance is already such a big commitment, and I wouldn't be comfortable dating someone who may secretly question our relationship, or may not be as passionate (let me know if I'm just being insecure with this thought).
I want to remain supportive but I also don't want to pretend like she's completely straight just for conveniences' sake, and be unable to talk/ be uncomfortable with this topic.
Thanks for any advice!
TL;DR: Gf might be bisexual, not sure if I can marry someone who is repressing part of themselves.<|endoftext|> | [
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I was in happy relationship with my girlfriend for 2,5 years. It was a long-distance relationship, she was about 200km from me during the first year but we have spent every weekend together. During second year she was in foreign country, 900km (one way) from me but I sat in a car once a month and visited her.
About 4 months ago she came back and everything was great, we spend summer holidays together and after that I had to go to the work, and we couldnt see eachother for a month. At the end of this month (it was september) she started to be whiny, conversation (phone) became boring and we couldnt talk longer than 5minutes.
And thats where I did something that I shouldnt - it was not normal me, I dont know why I did it, maybe I didnt feel love or something, I really don't know.
What I did is I started chatting via facebook with two girls from work and I said things like - "You are perfect girl", "I like your ass" (this one is particulary stupid) and something that we should go for a coffee. It was from 13th of september to the end of september. After that - no contact with those girls.
From the first of november my girlfriend finally moved to the city where I work and we were happy. But...
Yasterday when I went running, my girlfriend opened my laptop and cheched my facebook and found out about it. She said that it is over and that I mentaly cheated on her becouse maybe I never did something other than facebook chatting but if we met eventually I would cheat on her.
I know that I'm an asshole but I really would like to make it up to her and really, this was not normal me. | After 2,5 years of relationship I [23M] was chatting via facebook with 2girls from work and saying stupid things that I fancy them and would like to go grab a drink with them. It was month ago, and never happend before of after that 'one week of stupidness' | I did something wrong in a long-distance relationship, girlfriend broke up. Is it as bad as she can say? | [
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POST: I was in happy relationship with my girlfriend for 2,5 years. It was a long-distance relationship, she was about 200km from me during the first year but we have spent every weekend together. During second year she was in foreign country, 900km (one way) from me but I sat in a car once a month and visited her.
About 4 months ago she came back and everything was great, we spend summer holidays together and after that I had to go to the work, and we couldnt see eachother for a month. At the end of this month (it was september) she started to be whiny, conversation (phone) became boring and we couldnt talk longer than 5minutes.
And thats where I did something that I shouldnt - it was not normal me, I dont know why I did it, maybe I didnt feel love or something, I really don't know.
What I did is I started chatting via facebook with two girls from work and I said things like - "You are perfect girl", "I like your ass" (this one is particulary stupid) and something that we should go for a coffee. It was from 13th of september to the end of september. After that - no contact with those girls.
From the first of november my girlfriend finally moved to the city where I work and we were happy. But...
Yasterday when I went running, my girlfriend opened my laptop and cheched my facebook and found out about it. She said that it is over and that I mentaly cheated on her becouse maybe I never did something other than facebook chatting but if we met eventually I would cheat on her.
I know that I'm an asshole but I really would like to make it up to her and really, this was not normal me.
TL;DR: | After 2,5 years of relationship I [23M] was chatting via facebook with 2girls from work and saying stupid things that I fancy them and would like to go grab a drink with them. It was month ago, and never happend before of after that 'one week of stupidness'<|endoftext|> | [
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POST: I was in happy relationship with my girlfriend for 2,5 years. It was a long-distance relationship, she was about 200km from me during the first year but we have spent every weekend together. During second year she was in foreign country, 900km (one way) from me but I sat in a car once a month and visited her.
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And thats where I did something that I shouldnt - it was not normal me, I dont know why I did it, maybe I didnt feel love or something, I really don't know.
What I did is I started chatting via facebook with two girls from work and I said things like - "You are perfect girl", "I like your ass" (this one is particulary stupid) and something that we should go for a coffee. It was from 13th of september to the end of september. After that - no contact with those girls.
From the first of november my girlfriend finally moved to the city where I work and we were happy. But...
Yasterday when I went running, my girlfriend opened my laptop and cheched my facebook and found out about it. She said that it is over and that I mentaly cheated on her becouse maybe I never did something other than facebook chatting but if we met eventually I would cheat on her.
I know that I'm an asshole but I really would like to make it up to her and really, this was not normal me.
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And thats where I did something that I shouldnt - it was not normal me, I dont know why I did it, maybe I didnt feel love or something, I really don't know.
What I did is I started chatting via facebook with two girls from work and I said things like - "You are perfect girl", "I like your ass" (this one is particulary stupid) and something that we should go for a coffee. It was from 13th of september to the end of september. After that - no contact with those girls.
From the first of november my girlfriend finally moved to the city where I work and we were happy. But...
Yasterday when I went running, my girlfriend opened my laptop and cheched my facebook and found out about it. She said that it is over and that I mentaly cheated on her becouse maybe I never did something other than facebook chatting but if we met eventually I would cheat on her.
I know that I'm an asshole but I really would like to make it up to her and really, this was not normal me.
TL;DR: I did something wrong in a long-distance relationship, girlfriend broke up. Is it as bad as she can say?<|endoftext|> | [
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Eventually I kind of got it out of her and she basically told me that she is different when she is high and it's a side of her that she doesn't want me to see. I can see where she's coming from but I worry mainly because we've been in a relationship for this long and there is still part of her that she isn't comfortable with me seeing. The thing is she's always sending me snapchats of her high and it just looks like anybody else when they're high, laughing a lot and eating pizza while watching stupid shows. So she isn't completely shutting me out when it comes to that. It's not like I'm begging to see her high so I know what she's like but I'm just concerned in a way that we have made it to this stage in the relationship and there are still some things that she doesn't want me to see or know. Like I said in the first paragraph she isn't like a stoner or anything so it doesn't happen often enough that it's causing a serious problem in our relationship but it does happen enough to the point that it can't simply be ignored. Just wondering how I should go about this whole thing. | gf won't smoke with me because she doesn't want me to see "that side" of her. Concerned why she isn't comfortable doing it with me despite the fact that we both smoke. | girlfriend smokes weed with her friends but refuses to smoke with me and I'm concerned about how to go about this whole thing. | [
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POST: Now I know the title sounds like a fuckboy first world problem but hear me out. So me and my gf have been going out for a year now and we love each other very much. We drink together all the time but when I brought up smoking weed together she immediately turned it down. Now we both smoke weed, we aren't stoners or anything but occasionally I'll smoke with my friends and she smokes with her friends. I asked her why she wouldn't smoke with me and she kept saying how it would be weird and awkward. I bring up how we drink together without a problem but she insists that this is much different. She said that I have things that I only do with my friends and that she has things she only does with her friends and smoking is one of the things that she does with her friends. Now I would understand this if I didn't smoke, but I do! And who wouldn't want to smoke with their best friend, right?
Eventually I kind of got it out of her and she basically told me that she is different when she is high and it's a side of her that she doesn't want me to see. I can see where she's coming from but I worry mainly because we've been in a relationship for this long and there is still part of her that she isn't comfortable with me seeing. The thing is she's always sending me snapchats of her high and it just looks like anybody else when they're high, laughing a lot and eating pizza while watching stupid shows. So she isn't completely shutting me out when it comes to that. It's not like I'm begging to see her high so I know what she's like but I'm just concerned in a way that we have made it to this stage in the relationship and there are still some things that she doesn't want me to see or know. Like I said in the first paragraph she isn't like a stoner or anything so it doesn't happen often enough that it's causing a serious problem in our relationship but it does happen enough to the point that it can't simply be ignored. Just wondering how I should go about this whole thing.
TL;DR: | gf won't smoke with me because she doesn't want me to see "that side" of her. Concerned why she isn't comfortable doing it with me despite the fact that we both smoke.<|endoftext|> | [
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POST: Now I know the title sounds like a fuckboy first world problem but hear me out. So me and my gf have been going out for a year now and we love each other very much. We drink together all the time but when I brought up smoking weed together she immediately turned it down. Now we both smoke weed, we aren't stoners or anything but occasionally I'll smoke with my friends and she smokes with her friends. I asked her why she wouldn't smoke with me and she kept saying how it would be weird and awkward. I bring up how we drink together without a problem but she insists that this is much different. She said that I have things that I only do with my friends and that she has things she only does with her friends and smoking is one of the things that she does with her friends. Now I would understand this if I didn't smoke, but I do! And who wouldn't want to smoke with their best friend, right?
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TL;DR: gf won't smoke with me because she doesn't want me to see "that side" of her. Concerned why she isn't comfortable doing it with me despite the fact that we both smoke.<|endoftext|> | [
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TITLE:
POST: Now I know the title sounds like a fuckboy first world problem but hear me out. So me and my gf have been going out for a year now and we love each other very much. We drink together all the time but when I brought up smoking weed together she immediately turned it down. Now we both smoke weed, we aren't stoners or anything but occasionally I'll smoke with my friends and she smokes with her friends. I asked her why she wouldn't smoke with me and she kept saying how it would be weird and awkward. I bring up how we drink together without a problem but she insists that this is much different. She said that I have things that I only do with my friends and that she has things she only does with her friends and smoking is one of the things that she does with her friends. Now I would understand this if I didn't smoke, but I do! And who wouldn't want to smoke with their best friend, right?
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TL;DR: girlfriend smokes weed with her friends but refuses to smoke with me and I'm concerned about how to go about this whole thing.<|endoftext|> | [
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Okay so.. I met this girl. I fell for her quite quickly, and she fell for me. We got together. Things were doing great! We were happy, some occasional fighting over stupid things, but we always came back together, even closer than before.
But then she told me she.. doesn't feel anything for me. She only sees me as a friend. Even if we kissed. "I didn't feel anything when we kissed.. no butterflies, nothing.", she said about our first kiss. And.. she basicly lied to me. About everything. "I love you so much.. as a friend.". She dumped her boyfriend just so I could still be her friend because the guy was jealous and wouldn't let her speak to me. So, what the hell am I supposed to do? I love her so much, I just can't look at other girls without thinking about her. I tried getting over it, but Jesus, wherever I go, whatever I do, I get reminded of her. And what bothers me most is that she told me "You're the perfect boyfriend, you're cute, you're pretty, you're nice, you're smart, you're funny but.. I just don't feel anything for you. I only see you as a friend.". At first I thought she was saying that to make me feel better, but she raged at me pretty badly when I disagreed with her about her opinion.
So what in the name of God am I supposed to do? Can I make her fall for me? Or I'll simply never have her and should move on ASAP? | Girl told me she only loves me as a friend after 6 months of relationship. What do I do? Can I make her fall for me? Or I'll simply never have her? | Girl dumped boyfriends just so she could be my best friend. Says she only loves me as a friend but cant fall in love with me. What do I do? | [
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POST: Okay so.. I met this girl. I fell for her quite quickly, and she fell for me. We got together. Things were doing great! We were happy, some occasional fighting over stupid things, but we always came back together, even closer than before.
But then she told me she.. doesn't feel anything for me. She only sees me as a friend. Even if we kissed. "I didn't feel anything when we kissed.. no butterflies, nothing.", she said about our first kiss. And.. she basicly lied to me. About everything. "I love you so much.. as a friend.". She dumped her boyfriend just so I could still be her friend because the guy was jealous and wouldn't let her speak to me. So, what the hell am I supposed to do? I love her so much, I just can't look at other girls without thinking about her. I tried getting over it, but Jesus, wherever I go, whatever I do, I get reminded of her. And what bothers me most is that she told me "You're the perfect boyfriend, you're cute, you're pretty, you're nice, you're smart, you're funny but.. I just don't feel anything for you. I only see you as a friend.". At first I thought she was saying that to make me feel better, but she raged at me pretty badly when I disagreed with her about her opinion.
So what in the name of God am I supposed to do? Can I make her fall for me? Or I'll simply never have her and should move on ASAP?
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POST: Okay so.. I met this girl. I fell for her quite quickly, and she fell for me. We got together. Things were doing great! We were happy, some occasional fighting over stupid things, but we always came back together, even closer than before.
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So what in the name of God am I supposed to do? Can I make her fall for me? Or I'll simply never have her and should move on ASAP?
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POST: Okay so.. I met this girl. I fell for her quite quickly, and she fell for me. We got together. Things were doing great! We were happy, some occasional fighting over stupid things, but we always came back together, even closer than before.
But then she told me she.. doesn't feel anything for me. She only sees me as a friend. Even if we kissed. "I didn't feel anything when we kissed.. no butterflies, nothing.", she said about our first kiss. And.. she basicly lied to me. About everything. "I love you so much.. as a friend.". She dumped her boyfriend just so I could still be her friend because the guy was jealous and wouldn't let her speak to me. So, what the hell am I supposed to do? I love her so much, I just can't look at other girls without thinking about her. I tried getting over it, but Jesus, wherever I go, whatever I do, I get reminded of her. And what bothers me most is that she told me "You're the perfect boyfriend, you're cute, you're pretty, you're nice, you're smart, you're funny but.. I just don't feel anything for you. I only see you as a friend.". At first I thought she was saying that to make me feel better, but she raged at me pretty badly when I disagreed with her about her opinion.
So what in the name of God am I supposed to do? Can I make her fall for me? Or I'll simply never have her and should move on ASAP?
TL;DR: Girl dumped boyfriends just so she could be my best friend. Says she only loves me as a friend but cant fall in love with me. What do I do?<|endoftext|> | [
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Background: I am 22 she is 21 and we live together. We are both female.
Basically, whenever she is in a bad mood, it seems like I am the only one she feels free to be moody around. Initially I thought it was flattering, but now it's grown tiresome to be spoken to curtly and dismissively, even around mutual friends.
Her birthday was recently, and I thought I got her an amazing present, went out with her 2 nights in a row, etc. All I got by way of a thank you was a text message.
She frequently complains of not having many friends. Recently she has started bypassing me and asking my friends to hang out with her. She never invites me, it's usually my friend that gives me the scoop on the plans. I'm honestly glad that we can all be friends now, collectively, but the way she does it seems underhanded and distasteful.
Every time I've tried to ask her something along the lines of "are you mad at me or something," etc. she just shuts down or refuses to talk about it. But the reason why I am conflicted is because on some days she'll be perfectly chipper and seemingly happy to talk to me. And then the next day it's like I had done something to offend her (this is impossible because we are both students and don't necessarily interact every day). | Friend, who I have been platonic with, is becoming more and more distant and has started talking to other people. I am conflicted on whether or not I should help her or just let it be. | My friend seems to be distancing herself from me, should I keep asking friends or should I just leave it be? | [
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TITLE:
POST: Background: I am 22 she is 21 and we live together. We are both female.
Basically, whenever she is in a bad mood, it seems like I am the only one she feels free to be moody around. Initially I thought it was flattering, but now it's grown tiresome to be spoken to curtly and dismissively, even around mutual friends.
Her birthday was recently, and I thought I got her an amazing present, went out with her 2 nights in a row, etc. All I got by way of a thank you was a text message.
She frequently complains of not having many friends. Recently she has started bypassing me and asking my friends to hang out with her. She never invites me, it's usually my friend that gives me the scoop on the plans. I'm honestly glad that we can all be friends now, collectively, but the way she does it seems underhanded and distasteful.
Every time I've tried to ask her something along the lines of "are you mad at me or something," etc. she just shuts down or refuses to talk about it. But the reason why I am conflicted is because on some days she'll be perfectly chipper and seemingly happy to talk to me. And then the next day it's like I had done something to offend her (this is impossible because we are both students and don't necessarily interact every day).
TL;DR: | Friend, who I have been platonic with, is becoming more and more distant and has started talking to other people. I am conflicted on whether or not I should help her or just let it be.<|endoftext|> | [
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POST: Background: I am 22 she is 21 and we live together. We are both female.
Basically, whenever she is in a bad mood, it seems like I am the only one she feels free to be moody around. Initially I thought it was flattering, but now it's grown tiresome to be spoken to curtly and dismissively, even around mutual friends.
Her birthday was recently, and I thought I got her an amazing present, went out with her 2 nights in a row, etc. All I got by way of a thank you was a text message.
She frequently complains of not having many friends. Recently she has started bypassing me and asking my friends to hang out with her. She never invites me, it's usually my friend that gives me the scoop on the plans. I'm honestly glad that we can all be friends now, collectively, but the way she does it seems underhanded and distasteful.
Every time I've tried to ask her something along the lines of "are you mad at me or something," etc. she just shuts down or refuses to talk about it. But the reason why I am conflicted is because on some days she'll be perfectly chipper and seemingly happy to talk to me. And then the next day it's like I had done something to offend her (this is impossible because we are both students and don't necessarily interact every day).
TL;DR: Friend, who I have been platonic with, is becoming more and more distant and has started talking to other people. I am conflicted on whether or not I should help her or just let it be.<|endoftext|> | [
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TITLE:
POST: Background: I am 22 she is 21 and we live together. We are both female.
Basically, whenever she is in a bad mood, it seems like I am the only one she feels free to be moody around. Initially I thought it was flattering, but now it's grown tiresome to be spoken to curtly and dismissively, even around mutual friends.
Her birthday was recently, and I thought I got her an amazing present, went out with her 2 nights in a row, etc. All I got by way of a thank you was a text message.
She frequently complains of not having many friends. Recently she has started bypassing me and asking my friends to hang out with her. She never invites me, it's usually my friend that gives me the scoop on the plans. I'm honestly glad that we can all be friends now, collectively, but the way she does it seems underhanded and distasteful.
Every time I've tried to ask her something along the lines of "are you mad at me or something," etc. she just shuts down or refuses to talk about it. But the reason why I am conflicted is because on some days she'll be perfectly chipper and seemingly happy to talk to me. And then the next day it's like I had done something to offend her (this is impossible because we are both students and don't necessarily interact every day).
TL;DR: My friend seems to be distancing herself from me, should I keep asking friends or should I just leave it be?<|endoftext|> | [
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my crush's phone number. We studied for the test and hung out a
couple of other times after that. In between we texted a lot. Then asked if her she wanted to do a movie night, and she said yes.
A week later I text her asking if she still wanted to do movie night that night, and didn't respond. Text her again and she says that she's really busy and has a lot of homework. Didn't respond because it sounds like an excuse that she made up.
Then I go to dinner in the caf that night with some mutual friends, and she shows up later and sits directly across from me. While we're at dinner we talked a lot and it wasn't really awkward.
I was not going to talk to her for a while and she what she does. But should I just move on, or is she just playing games right now? | She said yes to a movie night, but said she was really busy. Should I move on or is she playing games? | Talking to girl for two weeks, doesn't respond when asked to hang out, then later stops by my place and sits directly across from me. What should I do? | [
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A week later I text her asking if she still wanted to do movie night that night, and didn't respond. Text her again and she says that she's really busy and has a lot of homework. Didn't respond because it sounds like an excuse that she made up.
Then I go to dinner in the caf that night with some mutual friends, and she shows up later and sits directly across from me. While we're at dinner we talked a lot and it wasn't really awkward.
I was not going to talk to her for a while and she what she does. But should I just move on, or is she just playing games right now?
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TITLE:
POST: A couple weeks ago I used the excuse of studying for test to get
my crush's phone number. We studied for the test and hung out a
couple of other times after that. In between we texted a lot. Then asked if her she wanted to do a movie night, and she said yes.
A week later I text her asking if she still wanted to do movie night that night, and didn't respond. Text her again and she says that she's really busy and has a lot of homework. Didn't respond because it sounds like an excuse that she made up.
Then I go to dinner in the caf that night with some mutual friends, and she shows up later and sits directly across from me. While we're at dinner we talked a lot and it wasn't really awkward.
I was not going to talk to her for a while and she what she does. But should I just move on, or is she just playing games right now?
TL;DR: Talking to girl for two weeks, doesn't respond when asked to hang out, then later stops by my place and sits directly across from me. What should I do?<|endoftext|> | [
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I read through this sub daily, and when issues crop up for a relationship of this length the default answer tends to be 'break up'. I'm open to that suggestion but quite frankly - since I can't get an answer from him - I'm just looking for some perspective.
This is the third time so far that he's gone completely silent. The longest duration was about a week; he was dealing with some family stuff a couple weeks ago and outright ignoring calls. Ok, cool. The first time this happened was about a month in - he said something pretty rude, so I let him know exactly what was wrong and why I was upset and he hung up on me mid sentence. I tried to call him back and he told me not to call him. Couple days later, I told him I'd be picking my stuff up from his apt. And started responding, appologized for what he said and things were okay.
This past weekend, he started acting moody the day after a regular date night. He had been texting all night but he keeps in close contact with his friends so it's not a big deal, I'm used to it. I woke up with him pretty much not talking to me, and after a few *hours* of silence, tells me he wants to be alone, so I go home. He has not responded to texts and now, two phone calls since.
I don't get what the problem is. When I ask him if he'd like to slow down or if he's even interested in the rel., he acts like he's offended. He seems likr he cares, but *only* if he's in a good mood. Am I being impatient?
Also, as a side note he tends to walk quickly ahead of me and will sometimes forget entirely that I'm there and walk straight into a store/restaurant without me while I'm still smoking for example. I've told him this is a problem but he continues to do it/forgets. He smokes too so it's not like he's trying to get away from the smell or whatever. | bf has gone silent with no response to texts or phone calls since the last time. Should I just end it or give him some time to cool off? | Bf is acting moody, they're in a good mood, and I'm just looking for perspective or advice. | [
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TITLE:
POST: I read through this sub daily, and when issues crop up for a relationship of this length the default answer tends to be 'break up'. I'm open to that suggestion but quite frankly - since I can't get an answer from him - I'm just looking for some perspective.
This is the third time so far that he's gone completely silent. The longest duration was about a week; he was dealing with some family stuff a couple weeks ago and outright ignoring calls. Ok, cool. The first time this happened was about a month in - he said something pretty rude, so I let him know exactly what was wrong and why I was upset and he hung up on me mid sentence. I tried to call him back and he told me not to call him. Couple days later, I told him I'd be picking my stuff up from his apt. And started responding, appologized for what he said and things were okay.
This past weekend, he started acting moody the day after a regular date night. He had been texting all night but he keeps in close contact with his friends so it's not a big deal, I'm used to it. I woke up with him pretty much not talking to me, and after a few *hours* of silence, tells me he wants to be alone, so I go home. He has not responded to texts and now, two phone calls since.
I don't get what the problem is. When I ask him if he'd like to slow down or if he's even interested in the rel., he acts like he's offended. He seems likr he cares, but *only* if he's in a good mood. Am I being impatient?
Also, as a side note he tends to walk quickly ahead of me and will sometimes forget entirely that I'm there and walk straight into a store/restaurant without me while I'm still smoking for example. I've told him this is a problem but he continues to do it/forgets. He smokes too so it's not like he's trying to get away from the smell or whatever.
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TITLE:
POST: I read through this sub daily, and when issues crop up for a relationship of this length the default answer tends to be 'break up'. I'm open to that suggestion but quite frankly - since I can't get an answer from him - I'm just looking for some perspective.
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I don't get what the problem is. When I ask him if he'd like to slow down or if he's even interested in the rel., he acts like he's offended. He seems likr he cares, but *only* if he's in a good mood. Am I being impatient?
Also, as a side note he tends to walk quickly ahead of me and will sometimes forget entirely that I'm there and walk straight into a store/restaurant without me while I'm still smoking for example. I've told him this is a problem but he continues to do it/forgets. He smokes too so it's not like he's trying to get away from the smell or whatever.
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POST: I read through this sub daily, and when issues crop up for a relationship of this length the default answer tends to be 'break up'. I'm open to that suggestion but quite frankly - since I can't get an answer from him - I'm just looking for some perspective.
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I don't get what the problem is. When I ask him if he'd like to slow down or if he's even interested in the rel., he acts like he's offended. He seems likr he cares, but *only* if he's in a good mood. Am I being impatient?
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I was super shy in high school and I really liked this girl for three years, but never talked to her. I worked up the courage to talk to her at the start of my Senior year, and we became good friends. I asked her out, but she wasn't comfortable dating then for whatever reason (I am her first boyfriend) so we remained very close friends and she actually asked me if I was still interested about two months before we parted ways.
So we've been dating for 2 months, friends for a year, and I've liked her for much longer. She's actually going to my dream school (I didn't get in, I'm trying to do well this year and transfer next year), but her school and mine are only thirty minutes apart. We are both very busy, and finding time to see each other is hard for us. We Skype once a week and every other weekend one of us makes the trip and we go out.
I just can't help but feel fearful and/or jealous. I know she's talking to and texting and hanging out with other guys there. It isn't that I don't trust her, it's that I'm sorta afraid that she will meet a guy at her school and start to see the distance as too much of a hassle and break it off with me. I don't want something as stupid as thirty minutes to break our relationship. But like I said, we're busy, and she's extremely independent and is always doing something so it's hard to visit/Skype more often than once a week or so.
I mean just today she told me she'd joined the ballroom dancing club at her school. I don't know why, but I'm immediately very jealous. Some guy is going to get to (fairly frequently) slow-dance with her and share these pretty intimate moments with her - something I'm not there to do. I don't want to tell her this makes me uncomfortable for fear of reinforcing her "If I have a relationship I won't be able to do my things" mentality she had all her life.
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POST: I was super shy in high school and I really liked this girl for three years, but never talked to her. I worked up the courage to talk to her at the start of my Senior year, and we became good friends. I asked her out, but she wasn't comfortable dating then for whatever reason (I am her first boyfriend) so we remained very close friends and she actually asked me if I was still interested about two months before we parted ways.
So we've been dating for 2 months, friends for a year, and I've liked her for much longer. She's actually going to my dream school (I didn't get in, I'm trying to do well this year and transfer next year), but her school and mine are only thirty minutes apart. We are both very busy, and finding time to see each other is hard for us. We Skype once a week and every other weekend one of us makes the trip and we go out.
I just can't help but feel fearful and/or jealous. I know she's talking to and texting and hanging out with other guys there. It isn't that I don't trust her, it's that I'm sorta afraid that she will meet a guy at her school and start to see the distance as too much of a hassle and break it off with me. I don't want something as stupid as thirty minutes to break our relationship. But like I said, we're busy, and she's extremely independent and is always doing something so it's hard to visit/Skype more often than once a week or so.
I mean just today she told me she'd joined the ballroom dancing club at her school. I don't know why, but I'm immediately very jealous. Some guy is going to get to (fairly frequently) slow-dance with her and share these pretty intimate moments with her - something I'm not there to do. I don't want to tell her this makes me uncomfortable for fear of reinforcing her "If I have a relationship I won't be able to do my things" mentality she had all her life.
Help me, Reddit?
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POST: I was super shy in high school and I really liked this girl for three years, but never talked to her. I worked up the courage to talk to her at the start of my Senior year, and we became good friends. I asked her out, but she wasn't comfortable dating then for whatever reason (I am her first boyfriend) so we remained very close friends and she actually asked me if I was still interested about two months before we parted ways.
So we've been dating for 2 months, friends for a year, and I've liked her for much longer. She's actually going to my dream school (I didn't get in, I'm trying to do well this year and transfer next year), but her school and mine are only thirty minutes apart. We are both very busy, and finding time to see each other is hard for us. We Skype once a week and every other weekend one of us makes the trip and we go out.
I just can't help but feel fearful and/or jealous. I know she's talking to and texting and hanging out with other guys there. It isn't that I don't trust her, it's that I'm sorta afraid that she will meet a guy at her school and start to see the distance as too much of a hassle and break it off with me. I don't want something as stupid as thirty minutes to break our relationship. But like I said, we're busy, and she's extremely independent and is always doing something so it's hard to visit/Skype more often than once a week or so.
I mean just today she told me she'd joined the ballroom dancing club at her school. I don't know why, but I'm immediately very jealous. Some guy is going to get to (fairly frequently) slow-dance with her and share these pretty intimate moments with her - something I'm not there to do. I don't want to tell her this makes me uncomfortable for fear of reinforcing her "If I have a relationship I won't be able to do my things" mentality she had all her life.
Help me, Reddit?
TL;DR: How can I stop being jealous that my girlfriend is going to a different school?<|endoftext|> | [
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TITLE:
POST: I was super shy in high school and I really liked this girl for three years, but never talked to her. I worked up the courage to talk to her at the start of my Senior year, and we became good friends. I asked her out, but she wasn't comfortable dating then for whatever reason (I am her first boyfriend) so we remained very close friends and she actually asked me if I was still interested about two months before we parted ways.
So we've been dating for 2 months, friends for a year, and I've liked her for much longer. She's actually going to my dream school (I didn't get in, I'm trying to do well this year and transfer next year), but her school and mine are only thirty minutes apart. We are both very busy, and finding time to see each other is hard for us. We Skype once a week and every other weekend one of us makes the trip and we go out.
I just can't help but feel fearful and/or jealous. I know she's talking to and texting and hanging out with other guys there. It isn't that I don't trust her, it's that I'm sorta afraid that she will meet a guy at her school and start to see the distance as too much of a hassle and break it off with me. I don't want something as stupid as thirty minutes to break our relationship. But like I said, we're busy, and she's extremely independent and is always doing something so it's hard to visit/Skype more often than once a week or so.
I mean just today she told me she'd joined the ballroom dancing club at her school. I don't know why, but I'm immediately very jealous. Some guy is going to get to (fairly frequently) slow-dance with her and share these pretty intimate moments with her - something I'm not there to do. I don't want to tell her this makes me uncomfortable for fear of reinforcing her "If I have a relationship I won't be able to do my things" mentality she had all her life.
Help me, Reddit?
TL;DR: I'm jealous that my girlfriend is going to a new school and I'm not.<|endoftext|> | [
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Hey reddit, this is my first post so please be gentle :)
So a couple days ago, he (let's called him Jake) approached me as I finished my shift at work. He was really friendly and easy to talk to while he walked me over to my car. Jake ended up giving me his number and I texted him a couple hours later because I wanted to give him a chance since he seemed decent. We were exchanging a few texts here and there and I told him I would text him again later since I had a few things to get done at the moment, and didn't want to leave him hanging. So I texted him again the next day, and we were slowly getting to know each other. He called me and we talked a bit more, and he seems like a really sweet guy.
Now, it's the next day. Nothing. Is this a normal thing you guys do when it comes to picking up girls? Or did I scare him off? I'm new to the dating scene since I got out a long-term relationship, so I don't know if this is the norm or if I did something wrong. A little insight would be nice! | Guy approached me after work and gave me his number. We were talking quite a bit the first two days, and now nothing. Did I scare him off? | Guy I just met is afraid of me picking up girls. Is this normal? or do people do it? | [
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POST: Hey reddit, this is my first post so please be gentle :)
So a couple days ago, he (let's called him Jake) approached me as I finished my shift at work. He was really friendly and easy to talk to while he walked me over to my car. Jake ended up giving me his number and I texted him a couple hours later because I wanted to give him a chance since he seemed decent. We were exchanging a few texts here and there and I told him I would text him again later since I had a few things to get done at the moment, and didn't want to leave him hanging. So I texted him again the next day, and we were slowly getting to know each other. He called me and we talked a bit more, and he seems like a really sweet guy.
Now, it's the next day. Nothing. Is this a normal thing you guys do when it comes to picking up girls? Or did I scare him off? I'm new to the dating scene since I got out a long-term relationship, so I don't know if this is the norm or if I did something wrong. A little insight would be nice!
TL;DR: | Guy approached me after work and gave me his number. We were talking quite a bit the first two days, and now nothing. Did I scare him off?<|endoftext|> | [
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TITLE:
POST: Hey reddit, this is my first post so please be gentle :)
So a couple days ago, he (let's called him Jake) approached me as I finished my shift at work. He was really friendly and easy to talk to while he walked me over to my car. Jake ended up giving me his number and I texted him a couple hours later because I wanted to give him a chance since he seemed decent. We were exchanging a few texts here and there and I told him I would text him again later since I had a few things to get done at the moment, and didn't want to leave him hanging. So I texted him again the next day, and we were slowly getting to know each other. He called me and we talked a bit more, and he seems like a really sweet guy.
Now, it's the next day. Nothing. Is this a normal thing you guys do when it comes to picking up girls? Or did I scare him off? I'm new to the dating scene since I got out a long-term relationship, so I don't know if this is the norm or if I did something wrong. A little insight would be nice!
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POST: Hey reddit, this is my first post so please be gentle :)
So a couple days ago, he (let's called him Jake) approached me as I finished my shift at work. He was really friendly and easy to talk to while he walked me over to my car. Jake ended up giving me his number and I texted him a couple hours later because I wanted to give him a chance since he seemed decent. We were exchanging a few texts here and there and I told him I would text him again later since I had a few things to get done at the moment, and didn't want to leave him hanging. So I texted him again the next day, and we were slowly getting to know each other. He called me and we talked a bit more, and he seems like a really sweet guy.
Now, it's the next day. Nothing. Is this a normal thing you guys do when it comes to picking up girls? Or did I scare him off? I'm new to the dating scene since I got out a long-term relationship, so I don't know if this is the norm or if I did something wrong. A little insight would be nice!
TL;DR: Guy I just met is afraid of me picking up girls. Is this normal? or do people do it?<|endoftext|> | [
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So I've had this problem with my boyfriend for a while now with him going through my phone (I can only assume it's while I'm asleep). He reads all of my conversations and will later try and ask questions about certain conversations or will quote things from those conversations.
I have mixed feelings about it, I have nothing to hide but I feel like he's violating my privacy. I've thought of using the fingerprint lock on my phone but I feel the sudden change will alert him or make him think the worst and start an argument. | My boyfriend is reading my phone and I don't know how to get him to stop. | Boyfriend keeps going through phone, want to avoid lock, need help/advice please! | [
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TITLE:
POST: Hi Reddit, obligatory throw away account.
So I've had this problem with my boyfriend for a while now with him going through my phone (I can only assume it's while I'm asleep). He reads all of my conversations and will later try and ask questions about certain conversations or will quote things from those conversations.
I have mixed feelings about it, I have nothing to hide but I feel like he's violating my privacy. I've thought of using the fingerprint lock on my phone but I feel the sudden change will alert him or make him think the worst and start an argument.
TL;DR: | My boyfriend is reading my phone and I don't know how to get him to stop.<|endoftext|> | [
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POST: Hi Reddit, obligatory throw away account.
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I have mixed feelings about it, I have nothing to hide but I feel like he's violating my privacy. I've thought of using the fingerprint lock on my phone but I feel the sudden change will alert him or make him think the worst and start an argument.
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TITLE:
POST: Hi Reddit, obligatory throw away account.
So I've had this problem with my boyfriend for a while now with him going through my phone (I can only assume it's while I'm asleep). He reads all of my conversations and will later try and ask questions about certain conversations or will quote things from those conversations.
I have mixed feelings about it, I have nothing to hide but I feel like he's violating my privacy. I've thought of using the fingerprint lock on my phone but I feel the sudden change will alert him or make him think the worst and start an argument.
TL;DR: Boyfriend keeps going through phone, want to avoid lock, need help/advice please!<|endoftext|> | [
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So I was out this weekend with a buddy of mine, his girlfriend, and a couple of their friends that I hadn't met before. In particular the above mentioned girl and her boyfriend. We all had a good night drinking, dancing and generally having fun. At one stage I took a picture on my phone and the girl wanted it so I texted it to her.
Later that night after I got home I recieved a text from the girl - "Hey (me), thanks for the photo, really nice meeting you. X"
We sent a few texts back and forth just discussing the night before we feel asleep.
The next day when I woke she had added me on Facebook and we kept the conversation going there for a little bit before I started to wonder what exactly her intentions might be, and feeling a bit guilty talking to her (even though it was all pretty innocent) when she has a boyfriend, I cut the conversation short and haven't been in touch since.
Am I thinking way too much into this and was she just being friendly, or could there be more to this ? I'm not saying I'm going to pursue it, I'm just wondering what other peoples opinion are on it ? | Met girl at the weekend had fun, received confusing text from her later that night, unsure if she just wanted to be friendly/possibly wanted to pursue something. need advice please. | Met girl at weekend. Had fun, get a confusing text from her later that night. Wondering if there could be more to this than innocent chatting. Advice please. | [
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POST: So I was out this weekend with a buddy of mine, his girlfriend, and a couple of their friends that I hadn't met before. In particular the above mentioned girl and her boyfriend. We all had a good night drinking, dancing and generally having fun. At one stage I took a picture on my phone and the girl wanted it so I texted it to her.
Later that night after I got home I recieved a text from the girl - "Hey (me), thanks for the photo, really nice meeting you. X"
We sent a few texts back and forth just discussing the night before we feel asleep.
The next day when I woke she had added me on Facebook and we kept the conversation going there for a little bit before I started to wonder what exactly her intentions might be, and feeling a bit guilty talking to her (even though it was all pretty innocent) when she has a boyfriend, I cut the conversation short and haven't been in touch since.
Am I thinking way too much into this and was she just being friendly, or could there be more to this? I'm not saying I'm going to pursue it, I'm just wondering what other peoples opinion are on it?
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POST: So I was out this weekend with a buddy of mine, his girlfriend, and a couple of their friends that I hadn't met before. In particular the above mentioned girl and her boyfriend. We all had a good night drinking, dancing and generally having fun. At one stage I took a picture on my phone and the girl wanted it so I texted it to her.
Later that night after I got home I recieved a text from the girl - "Hey (me), thanks for the photo, really nice meeting you. X"
We sent a few texts back and forth just discussing the night before we feel asleep.
The next day when I woke she had added me on Facebook and we kept the conversation going there for a little bit before I started to wonder what exactly her intentions might be, and feeling a bit guilty talking to her (even though it was all pretty innocent) when she has a boyfriend, I cut the conversation short and haven't been in touch since.
Am I thinking way too much into this and was she just being friendly, or could there be more to this? I'm not saying I'm going to pursue it, I'm just wondering what other peoples opinion are on it?
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POST: So I was out this weekend with a buddy of mine, his girlfriend, and a couple of their friends that I hadn't met before. In particular the above mentioned girl and her boyfriend. We all had a good night drinking, dancing and generally having fun. At one stage I took a picture on my phone and the girl wanted it so I texted it to her.
Later that night after I got home I recieved a text from the girl - "Hey (me), thanks for the photo, really nice meeting you. X"
We sent a few texts back and forth just discussing the night before we feel asleep.
The next day when I woke she had added me on Facebook and we kept the conversation going there for a little bit before I started to wonder what exactly her intentions might be, and feeling a bit guilty talking to her (even though it was all pretty innocent) when she has a boyfriend, I cut the conversation short and haven't been in touch since.
Am I thinking way too much into this and was she just being friendly, or could there be more to this? I'm not saying I'm going to pursue it, I'm just wondering what other peoples opinion are on it?
TL;DR: Met girl at weekend. Had fun, get a confusing text from her later that night. Wondering if there could be more to this than innocent chatting. Advice please.<|endoftext|> | [
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Okay. It's my first time posting here so lets see how it goes
Here's the story.
I was on Facebook and clicked on my messages. This is rare because I usually just chat with the pop-up thing. Well when I clicked on it, a small tab appeared that says "Other." Curious by it, I clicked on it.
On there I get a message from a guy that says "Dont ever talk to my girlfriend again faggot". I don't know who the guy is so I click on his profile to get some info on him or his girlfriend.
His page is blank, probably some privacy stuff, so here I am wondering what to do with this. I am extremely curious on who it is.
Since I'm on the computer so much, I only talk to friends who do the same or text old friends, so I figured it had to be one of them.
After doing a bit of searches on some of my friends I decide to go back to the message AND WHAT DO YOU KNOW! It has a BING Map thing next to it. I don't know how I didn't notice it before. I took the address and put it on Google maps and it's a home.. from a different state. I now know who his girlfriend is. She is an old friend of mine for about 8 years now.
Now here's my question, what should I do? I already stupidly replied saying "uh, who's this?", but now I feel like sending him a screenshot of the message with a big NO on the end of it. Too much? | Found message on facebook that told me to stop talking to a friend's gf. Don't know who it is. | Guy on facebook told me to stop talking to his girlfriend. Found out who her. | [
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TITLE:
POST: Okay. It's my first time posting here so lets see how it goes
Here's the story.
I was on Facebook and clicked on my messages. This is rare because I usually just chat with the pop-up thing. Well when I clicked on it, a small tab appeared that says "Other." Curious by it, I clicked on it.
On there I get a message from a guy that says "Dont ever talk to my girlfriend again faggot". I don't know who the guy is so I click on his profile to get some info on him or his girlfriend.
His page is blank, probably some privacy stuff, so here I am wondering what to do with this. I am extremely curious on who it is.
Since I'm on the computer so much, I only talk to friends who do the same or text old friends, so I figured it had to be one of them.
After doing a bit of searches on some of my friends I decide to go back to the message AND WHAT DO YOU KNOW! It has a BING Map thing next to it. I don't know how I didn't notice it before. I took the address and put it on Google maps and it's a home.. from a different state. I now know who his girlfriend is. She is an old friend of mine for about 8 years now.
Now here's my question, what should I do? I already stupidly replied saying "uh, who's this?", but now I feel like sending him a screenshot of the message with a big NO on the end of it. Too much?
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TITLE:
POST: Okay. It's my first time posting here so lets see how it goes
Here's the story.
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Now here's my question, what should I do? I already stupidly replied saying "uh, who's this?", but now I feel like sending him a screenshot of the message with a big NO on the end of it. Too much?
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TITLE:
POST: Okay. It's my first time posting here so lets see how it goes
Here's the story.
I was on Facebook and clicked on my messages. This is rare because I usually just chat with the pop-up thing. Well when I clicked on it, a small tab appeared that says "Other." Curious by it, I clicked on it.
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Since I'm on the computer so much, I only talk to friends who do the same or text old friends, so I figured it had to be one of them.
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Now here's my question, what should I do? I already stupidly replied saying "uh, who's this?", but now I feel like sending him a screenshot of the message with a big NO on the end of it. Too much?
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TITLE:
POST: The title says the bulk of it, really.
It's never really come up between us, it's an LDR (met in person, one of us moved away for school) and when we do see each other it's not that physically intimate. There's never been an explicit discussion of "do you want to have sex with me?" from either one of us, we pretty much stop at calling each other cute. But I'm very conscious of him looking a me in certain ways, and things getting heated when we make out. I know there's probably nothing I can do about it, but for the most part I really don't want him to think about me sexually.
It's not that I don't find him attractive, and I do have a sex drive. There have definitely been times where I've been pretty turned on while we're together, just from kissing. But I'm not comfortable doing any more than that. Even thinking about one of us being shirtless makes me feel awkward and embarrassed. In my mind, I feel like I'm too young still to do sexual things, so it's possible I'm just not mature enough or something like that.
I'm mostly fine with waiting until it comes up - this is both of our first relationship, so it's possible he feels similar. Either way it's not urgent, but I do worry about giving him the wrong impression or letting him expect or hope that sex is going to happen.
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POST: The title says the bulk of it, really.
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hi everyone, thank you for reading this.
I have a friend, which I'm not sure is a friend. It's a woman who lives a few doors down from me, and she's basically planted herself in our lives (my husband and I). I should add, I'm autistic and miss many social cues, and I'm pretty certain she preys on that.
Yesterday she sent me a text saying that she'd been dreaming of my husband tearing around on a jet ski with her youngest son. Frankly, that pissed me off, and Im assuming she's working some kind of angle. I told my husband about her comment and he told me to tell her to knock it off - that the thought of her dreaming of him creeps him out.
So here's the the main question; how do I deal with someone who constantly disregards boundaries, talks about sex a lot (when I've told her I don't want to talk about that stuff with her), and she freaks out when I call her out on weird shit? | Have a friend who I am pretty sure is trying to endear herself to my husband by saying she dreams of him with her kids; how do I deal with her knowing she does not respect boundaries? | friend is a sexual freak who won't listen to boundaries and is working some kind of a sexual angle. What should I do? | [
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TITLE:
POST: hi everyone, thank you for reading this.
I have a friend, which I'm not sure is a friend. It's a woman who lives a few doors down from me, and she's basically planted herself in our lives (my husband and I). I should add, I'm autistic and miss many social cues, and I'm pretty certain she preys on that.
Yesterday she sent me a text saying that she'd been dreaming of my husband tearing around on a jet ski with her youngest son. Frankly, that pissed me off, and Im assuming she's working some kind of angle. I told my husband about her comment and he told me to tell her to knock it off - that the thought of her dreaming of him creeps him out.
So here's the the main question; how do I deal with someone who constantly disregards boundaries, talks about sex a lot (when I've told her I don't want to talk about that stuff with her), and she freaks out when I call her out on weird shit?
TL;DR: | Have a friend who I am pretty sure is trying to endear herself to my husband by saying she dreams of him with her kids; how do I deal with her knowing she does not respect boundaries?<|endoftext|> | [
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TITLE:
POST: hi everyone, thank you for reading this.
I have a friend, which I'm not sure is a friend. It's a woman who lives a few doors down from me, and she's basically planted herself in our lives (my husband and I). I should add, I'm autistic and miss many social cues, and I'm pretty certain she preys on that.
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So here's the the main question; how do I deal with someone who constantly disregards boundaries, talks about sex a lot (when I've told her I don't want to talk about that stuff with her), and she freaks out when I call her out on weird shit?
TL;DR: Have a friend who I am pretty sure is trying to endear herself to my husband by saying she dreams of him with her kids; how do I deal with her knowing she does not respect boundaries?<|endoftext|> | [
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POST: hi everyone, thank you for reading this.
I have a friend, which I'm not sure is a friend. It's a woman who lives a few doors down from me, and she's basically planted herself in our lives (my husband and I). I should add, I'm autistic and miss many social cues, and I'm pretty certain she preys on that.
Yesterday she sent me a text saying that she'd been dreaming of my husband tearing around on a jet ski with her youngest son. Frankly, that pissed me off, and Im assuming she's working some kind of angle. I told my husband about her comment and he told me to tell her to knock it off - that the thought of her dreaming of him creeps him out.
So here's the the main question; how do I deal with someone who constantly disregards boundaries, talks about sex a lot (when I've told her I don't want to talk about that stuff with her), and she freaks out when I call her out on weird shit?
TL;DR: friend is a sexual freak who won't listen to boundaries and is working some kind of a sexual angle. What should I do?<|endoftext|> | [
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I've been trying to organize a second time out but the thing is she has two jobs and is working every single day. I've sent a text about once a week for the past two or three weeks asking when she's available and our schedules just haven't worked out yet. I don't really want to push it though. I sort of feel like I'm "stealing" valuable downtime from her if I try to get her to go out with me somewhere. I also worry that if I do this enough times without getting a date planned I'll just start to annoy her and she'll lose interest.
I really hate the early phase of dating. Maybe it's just the bad taste in my mouth from my online dating stint, but I feel like if I even make one tiny mistake at this point she'll break it off. What's the best way to plan a date with someone this busy without pestering? | I'm trying to arrange a second date with a woman that works seven days a week. She has two jobs and is working every single day. I've been trying to organize a second date but it hasn't worked out yet. I feel like I'm annoying her and I'm scared that if I do this enough times without getting a date planned I'll just start to annoy her and she'll lose interest. What's the best way to plan a date with someone this busy without pestering? | She's super busy and I don't want to bother her too much, but I still would like a date at some point. | [
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POST: She's a friend of a friend and so we bump into each other once in a blue moon. I invited her for a couple drinks at a pub. We had a great time and we sort of agreed to say it was a date as we were heading back.
I've been trying to organize a second time out but the thing is she has two jobs and is working every single day. I've sent a text about once a week for the past two or three weeks asking when she's available and our schedules just haven't worked out yet. I don't really want to push it though. I sort of feel like I'm "stealing" valuable downtime from her if I try to get her to go out with me somewhere. I also worry that if I do this enough times without getting a date planned I'll just start to annoy her and she'll lose interest.
I really hate the early phase of dating. Maybe it's just the bad taste in my mouth from my online dating stint, but I feel like if I even make one tiny mistake at this point she'll break it off. What's the best way to plan a date with someone this busy without pestering?
TL;DR: | I'm trying to arrange a second date with a woman that works seven days a week. She has two jobs and is working every single day. I've been trying to organize a second date but it hasn't worked out yet. I feel like I'm annoying her and I'm scared that if I do this enough times without getting a date planned I'll just start to annoy her and she'll lose interest. What's the best way to plan a date with someone this busy without pestering?<|endoftext|> | [
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I've been trying to organize a second time out but the thing is she has two jobs and is working every single day. I've sent a text about once a week for the past two or three weeks asking when she's available and our schedules just haven't worked out yet. I don't really want to push it though. I sort of feel like I'm "stealing" valuable downtime from her if I try to get her to go out with me somewhere. I also worry that if I do this enough times without getting a date planned I'll just start to annoy her and she'll lose interest.
I really hate the early phase of dating. Maybe it's just the bad taste in my mouth from my online dating stint, but I feel like if I even make one tiny mistake at this point she'll break it off. What's the best way to plan a date with someone this busy without pestering?
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I've been trying to organize a second time out but the thing is she has two jobs and is working every single day. I've sent a text about once a week for the past two or three weeks asking when she's available and our schedules just haven't worked out yet. I don't really want to push it though. I sort of feel like I'm "stealing" valuable downtime from her if I try to get her to go out with me somewhere. I also worry that if I do this enough times without getting a date planned I'll just start to annoy her and she'll lose interest.
I really hate the early phase of dating. Maybe it's just the bad taste in my mouth from my online dating stint, but I feel like if I even make one tiny mistake at this point she'll break it off. What's the best way to plan a date with someone this busy without pestering?
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So, obviously, I'm a recently new Redditor. I was exploring through the lists of sub-reddits, adding ones I found interesting as I went along, when I stumbled upon /r/gonewild. Naturally, I started browsing and ended up finding a post by a girl that I knew. And I know that I know who she is because she included her face.
I have known her for several years now. We went to high school together, went to the same college, and saw her every now and then. There wasn't much conversation between us, just the normal "Hello" and "How are you doing?"
I've never thought of her as more than a friend/acquaintance, but seeing those pictures kind of made me a bit more attracted to her. It's probably nothing, but the thing is though, is I don't think anything would work out between us. Not an age difference (I'm 22, she's 20) but just because I barely talk to her. If I ever saw her, it would always be a casual conversation, which is fine.
I'm just wondering though, do I say something to her about it all? Say that I saw her pictures, that they looked good? Or do I just keep my mouth shut. I don't really want anything to get awkward, although I don't think she'd be THAT weirded out that I saw her considering she put them on Reddit. But I can't imagine she expected any of her friends, especially not me, to see them. I'm pretty sure she has no idea I'm a Redditor.
It's kind of a conflicting ordeal. And obviously, I'm not using a throwaway account. If this somehow makes it to the front page and she sees that it's me, then I won't have to say anything anyways.
What's the consensus from the great Reddit community? | Saw a friend on /r/gonewild. Don't know if I should say anything to her, or just keep quiet. | Saw a friend on /r/gonewild, haven't really thought of her as much as a friend. Do I say something or keep my mouth shut? | [
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I'm just wondering though, do I say something to her about it all? Say that I saw her pictures, that they looked good? Or do I just keep my mouth shut. I don't really want anything to get awkward, although I don't think she'd be THAT weirded out that I saw her considering she put them on Reddit. But I can't imagine she expected any of her friends, especially not me, to see them. I'm pretty sure she has no idea I'm a Redditor.
It's kind of a conflicting ordeal. And obviously, I'm not using a throwaway account. If this somehow makes it to the front page and she sees that it's me, then I won't have to say anything anyways.
What's the consensus from the great Reddit community?
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It's kind of a conflicting ordeal. And obviously, I'm not using a throwaway account. If this somehow makes it to the front page and she sees that it's me, then I won't have to say anything anyways.
What's the consensus from the great Reddit community?
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POST: So, obviously, I'm a recently new Redditor. I was exploring through the lists of sub-reddits, adding ones I found interesting as I went along, when I stumbled upon /r/gonewild. Naturally, I started browsing and ended up finding a post by a girl that I knew. And I know that I know who she is because she included her face.
I have known her for several years now. We went to high school together, went to the same college, and saw her every now and then. There wasn't much conversation between us, just the normal "Hello" and "How are you doing?"
I've never thought of her as more than a friend/acquaintance, but seeing those pictures kind of made me a bit more attracted to her. It's probably nothing, but the thing is though, is I don't think anything would work out between us. Not an age difference (I'm 22, she's 20) but just because I barely talk to her. If I ever saw her, it would always be a casual conversation, which is fine.
I'm just wondering though, do I say something to her about it all? Say that I saw her pictures, that they looked good? Or do I just keep my mouth shut. I don't really want anything to get awkward, although I don't think she'd be THAT weirded out that I saw her considering she put them on Reddit. But I can't imagine she expected any of her friends, especially not me, to see them. I'm pretty sure she has no idea I'm a Redditor.
It's kind of a conflicting ordeal. And obviously, I'm not using a throwaway account. If this somehow makes it to the front page and she sees that it's me, then I won't have to say anything anyways.
What's the consensus from the great Reddit community?
TL;DR: Saw a friend on /r/gonewild, haven't really thought of her as much as a friend. Do I say something or keep my mouth shut?<|endoftext|> | [
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I'm a 21 year old planning to graduate in 2016 and have a job lined up (bonuses in all ~100k). I've made my mind up that I'm going back to SF and it's a matter of deciding where to live.
1) I could commute from home and that would a little less than 2 hours round trip. There would be no rent, no food cost just eating out, gas, and parking (200/month)
2) I could live in a tiny apartment with roommates probably and have a shorter 10-20min commute no parking fee cause I'd metro (subsidized). Max rent I'd probably pay is $1000/ month.
My long term plan is to work 3-4 years at this firm and go get my master's so I'd like to save up some money for that though that degree will also be subsidized.
Is it really worth saving that money for the extra commute?
4 weeks, 20 days of work, 40 hours a month, $800/month -> $20/hr which is pretty dang good for just driving and listening to podcasts.. but I've never done this before so just want some insights into is it worth it.
I'm not a person that values his time immensely, I eat, workout, read emails, facebook, I'm not a hardcore gamer or anything that would gain infinite utility from the added marginal time. All my friends will be in downtown. | I'm 21, do I commute or live in a tiny apartment? | I'm going back to SF and I'm not sure if its worth it to commute 2 hours. | [
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POST: I'm a 21 year old planning to graduate in 2016 and have a job lined up (bonuses in all ~100k). I've made my mind up that I'm going back to SF and it's a matter of deciding where to live.
1) I could commute from home and that would a little less than 2 hours round trip. There would be no rent, no food cost just eating out, gas, and parking (200/month)
2) I could live in a tiny apartment with roommates probably and have a shorter 10-20min commute no parking fee cause I'd metro (subsidized). Max rent I'd probably pay is $1000/ month.
My long term plan is to work 3-4 years at this firm and go get my master's so I'd like to save up some money for that though that degree will also be subsidized.
Is it really worth saving that money for the extra commute?
4 weeks, 20 days of work, 40 hours a month, $800/month -> $20/hr which is pretty dang good for just driving and listening to podcasts.. but I've never done this before so just want some insights into is it worth it.
I'm not a person that values his time immensely, I eat, workout, read emails, facebook, I'm not a hardcore gamer or anything that would gain infinite utility from the added marginal time. All my friends will be in downtown.
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POST: I'm a 21 year old planning to graduate in 2016 and have a job lined up (bonuses in all ~100k). I've made my mind up that I'm going back to SF and it's a matter of deciding where to live.
1) I could commute from home and that would a little less than 2 hours round trip. There would be no rent, no food cost just eating out, gas, and parking (200/month)
2) I could live in a tiny apartment with roommates probably and have a shorter 10-20min commute no parking fee cause I'd metro (subsidized). Max rent I'd probably pay is $1000/ month.
My long term plan is to work 3-4 years at this firm and go get my master's so I'd like to save up some money for that though that degree will also be subsidized.
Is it really worth saving that money for the extra commute?
4 weeks, 20 days of work, 40 hours a month, $800/month -> $20/hr which is pretty dang good for just driving and listening to podcasts.. but I've never done this before so just want some insights into is it worth it.
I'm not a person that values his time immensely, I eat, workout, read emails, facebook, I'm not a hardcore gamer or anything that would gain infinite utility from the added marginal time. All my friends will be in downtown.
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POST: I'm a 21 year old planning to graduate in 2016 and have a job lined up (bonuses in all ~100k). I've made my mind up that I'm going back to SF and it's a matter of deciding where to live.
1) I could commute from home and that would a little less than 2 hours round trip. There would be no rent, no food cost just eating out, gas, and parking (200/month)
2) I could live in a tiny apartment with roommates probably and have a shorter 10-20min commute no parking fee cause I'd metro (subsidized). Max rent I'd probably pay is $1000/ month.
My long term plan is to work 3-4 years at this firm and go get my master's so I'd like to save up some money for that though that degree will also be subsidized.
Is it really worth saving that money for the extra commute?
4 weeks, 20 days of work, 40 hours a month, $800/month -> $20/hr which is pretty dang good for just driving and listening to podcasts.. but I've never done this before so just want some insights into is it worth it.
I'm not a person that values his time immensely, I eat, workout, read emails, facebook, I'm not a hardcore gamer or anything that would gain infinite utility from the added marginal time. All my friends will be in downtown.
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POST: I have been dating this girl for one month now and it has been perfect. We always have fun together, she seems super into me and often tells me how attracted she is to me. The sex is great and our chemistry is very strong.
With that said, I am concerned I am being used as a rebound, or as a temporary means to comfort her. She ended her engagement a few months ago with her ex of 4 years (they were engaged for 1 year).
Here's the first red flag I noticed: For the first 3 weeks of dating her, she never told me she was engaged to this guy, she only referred to him as her "ex boyfriend". I didn't find out they were engaged until I looked at her Facebook page and where she still has dozens of photos of them together and all her friends congratulating her on the engagement. I found this odd because she had talked about him alot but intentionally hid the fact that they were engaged, only ever referring to him as her "ex boyfriend". I asked her why she never told me and her response was that "she didn't want to scare me away". Her ex bought a dog with her, so they take turns sharing the dog for a week. So they are still in touch with each other and she still talks to his parents about logistical things as well.
I have no problem with her talking to her ex fiance about logistics, because we aren't in an exclusive relationship. However, this girl keeps telling me how much she likes me, but when I asked her what she thought "about us" she sounded confused and responded "well... I like hanging out with you" which was strange considering how much she professes her feelings for me. I like this girl alot. My concern is that I'm a rebound and she will ditch me when she gets bored or finds someone better. Should I be concerned about anything here or am I overthinking?
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With that said, I am concerned I am being used as a rebound, or as a temporary means to comfort her. She ended her engagement a few months ago with her ex of 4 years (they were engaged for 1 year).
Here's the first red flag I noticed: For the first 3 weeks of dating her, she never told me she was engaged to this guy, she only referred to him as her "ex boyfriend". I didn't find out they were engaged until I looked at her Facebook page and where she still has dozens of photos of them together and all her friends congratulating her on the engagement. I found this odd because she had talked about him alot but intentionally hid the fact that they were engaged, only ever referring to him as her "ex boyfriend". I asked her why she never told me and her response was that "she didn't want to scare me away". Her ex bought a dog with her, so they take turns sharing the dog for a week. So they are still in touch with each other and she still talks to his parents about logistical things as well.
I have no problem with her talking to her ex fiance about logistics, because we aren't in an exclusive relationship. However, this girl keeps telling me how much she likes me, but when I asked her what she thought "about us" she sounded confused and responded "well... I like hanging out with you" which was strange considering how much she professes her feelings for me. I like this girl alot. My concern is that I'm a rebound and she will ditch me when she gets bored or finds someone better. Should I be concerned about anything here or am I overthinking?
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POST: I have been dating this girl for one month now and it has been perfect. We always have fun together, she seems super into me and often tells me how attracted she is to me. The sex is great and our chemistry is very strong.
With that said, I am concerned I am being used as a rebound, or as a temporary means to comfort her. She ended her engagement a few months ago with her ex of 4 years (they were engaged for 1 year).
Here's the first red flag I noticed: For the first 3 weeks of dating her, she never told me she was engaged to this guy, she only referred to him as her "ex boyfriend". I didn't find out they were engaged until I looked at her Facebook page and where she still has dozens of photos of them together and all her friends congratulating her on the engagement. I found this odd because she had talked about him alot but intentionally hid the fact that they were engaged, only ever referring to him as her "ex boyfriend". I asked her why she never told me and her response was that "she didn't want to scare me away". Her ex bought a dog with her, so they take turns sharing the dog for a week. So they are still in touch with each other and she still talks to his parents about logistical things as well.
I have no problem with her talking to her ex fiance about logistics, because we aren't in an exclusive relationship. However, this girl keeps telling me how much she likes me, but when I asked her what she thought "about us" she sounded confused and responded "well... I like hanging out with you" which was strange considering how much she professes her feelings for me. I like this girl alot. My concern is that I'm a rebound and she will ditch me when she gets bored or finds someone better. Should I be concerned about anything here or am I overthinking?
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My fiance's ex-girlfriend, with whom he has a child, lives in his parents house as their tenant. We have the child 70% of the time, she has him 30%, although this part is largely irrelevant. Basically, his parents charge her a fraction of what they could really get for the apartment, and they also help her with other bills.. They remain in touch with her despite the fact that her and my fiance have struggled in court over the last year; she used to threaten to withhold her son from my fiance; she harassed me via text at points; she didn't bring her child to school on ANY of her days last year (which is why they went to court and we now have more custody)... She causes a TON of problems in our lives, and yet his family continues to subsidize her. It feels very disrespectful as we are trying to create a new family together (including their grandson). Am I overreacting, or this is totally inappropriate? | fiance's ex lives with his parents, they have their son 70% of the time, and they don't get anything for it. They continue to financially support her despite her bad behavior and we have a child together. Am I overreacting? | Fiance's ex lives with his parents and they are giving her a free ride. This is wrong? | [
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TITLE:
POST: My fiance's ex-girlfriend, with whom he has a child, lives in his parents house as their tenant. We have the child 70% of the time, she has him 30%, although this part is largely irrelevant. Basically, his parents charge her a fraction of what they could really get for the apartment, and they also help her with other bills.. They remain in touch with her despite the fact that her and my fiance have struggled in court over the last year; she used to threaten to withhold her son from my fiance; she harassed me via text at points; she didn't bring her child to school on ANY of her days last year (which is why they went to court and we now have more custody)... She causes a TON of problems in our lives, and yet his family continues to subsidize her. It feels very disrespectful as we are trying to create a new family together (including their grandson). Am I overreacting, or this is totally inappropriate?
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TITLE:
POST: My fiance's ex-girlfriend, with whom he has a child, lives in his parents house as their tenant. We have the child 70% of the time, she has him 30%, although this part is largely irrelevant. Basically, his parents charge her a fraction of what they could really get for the apartment, and they also help her with other bills.. They remain in touch with her despite the fact that her and my fiance have struggled in court over the last year; she used to threaten to withhold her son from my fiance; she harassed me via text at points; she didn't bring her child to school on ANY of her days last year (which is why they went to court and we now have more custody)... She causes a TON of problems in our lives, and yet his family continues to subsidize her. It feels very disrespectful as we are trying to create a new family together (including their grandson). Am I overreacting, or this is totally inappropriate?
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POST: My fiance's ex-girlfriend, with whom he has a child, lives in his parents house as their tenant. We have the child 70% of the time, she has him 30%, although this part is largely irrelevant. Basically, his parents charge her a fraction of what they could really get for the apartment, and they also help her with other bills.. They remain in touch with her despite the fact that her and my fiance have struggled in court over the last year; she used to threaten to withhold her son from my fiance; she harassed me via text at points; she didn't bring her child to school on ANY of her days last year (which is why they went to court and we now have more custody)... She causes a TON of problems in our lives, and yet his family continues to subsidize her. It feels very disrespectful as we are trying to create a new family together (including their grandson). Am I overreacting, or this is totally inappropriate?
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The marriage had been rocky for years and I now realise there relationship was a significant catalyst for the anxiety I had been battling since a young child. ( I can say hand on heart that a positive out of this situation is that I have been able to develop a greater understanding of my mental health etc)
Anyway, what are your experiences of being an adult child of divorce?
I am unable to really know who to trust. My mother is understandably highly emotional and bitter, my dad is almost to calm and collected.....but they always seem to been telling a different story, or deny knowing something obvious about the other etc
Although I live a good few miles away from them both with my boyfriend, every time I have contact with either of them it always hits home really hard; and can put me in emotional turmoil.
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POST: It's been 8 months since my dad announced he was no longer in love with my mum, had found another woman and wanted a divorce. It came completely out of the blue to both me and my mum.
The marriage had been rocky for years and I now realise there relationship was a significant catalyst for the anxiety I had been battling since a young child. ( I can say hand on heart that a positive out of this situation is that I have been able to develop a greater understanding of my mental health etc)
Anyway, what are your experiences of being an adult child of divorce?
I am unable to really know who to trust. My mother is understandably highly emotional and bitter, my dad is almost to calm and collected.....but they always seem to been telling a different story, or deny knowing something obvious about the other etc
Although I live a good few miles away from them both with my boyfriend, every time I have contact with either of them it always hits home really hard; and can put me in emotional turmoil.
I know it's not my fault there marriage has broken down, I don't blame myself or feel I should some how be helping them work things out, it's just that everything has changed and it's an emotional roller coaster for all involved!
TL;DR: | only child of divorce living miles away from parents, parents are divorcing abruptly. having severe emotional roller coaster every time contact arises, need advice on how to cope.<|endoftext|> | [
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POST: It's been 8 months since my dad announced he was no longer in love with my mum, had found another woman and wanted a divorce. It came completely out of the blue to both me and my mum.
The marriage had been rocky for years and I now realise there relationship was a significant catalyst for the anxiety I had been battling since a young child. ( I can say hand on heart that a positive out of this situation is that I have been able to develop a greater understanding of my mental health etc)
Anyway, what are your experiences of being an adult child of divorce?
I am unable to really know who to trust. My mother is understandably highly emotional and bitter, my dad is almost to calm and collected.....but they always seem to been telling a different story, or deny knowing something obvious about the other etc
Although I live a good few miles away from them both with my boyfriend, every time I have contact with either of them it always hits home really hard; and can put me in emotional turmoil.
I know it's not my fault there marriage has broken down, I don't blame myself or feel I should some how be helping them work things out, it's just that everything has changed and it's an emotional roller coaster for all involved!
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POST: It's been 8 months since my dad announced he was no longer in love with my mum, had found another woman and wanted a divorce. It came completely out of the blue to both me and my mum.
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I am unable to really know who to trust. My mother is understandably highly emotional and bitter, my dad is almost to calm and collected.....but they always seem to been telling a different story, or deny knowing something obvious about the other etc
Although I live a good few miles away from them both with my boyfriend, every time I have contact with either of them it always hits home really hard; and can put me in emotional turmoil.
I know it's not my fault there marriage has broken down, I don't blame myself or feel I should some how be helping them work things out, it's just that everything has changed and it's an emotional roller coaster for all involved!
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This is my first time posting here, so please bear with me.
Recently, my best friend has been obsessing over my girlfriend. He constantly sends pictures of her to his friends and asking about our sex life to the point where it's made my gf and I very uncomfortable.
Some background info, my girlfriend and my best friend used to date, but it ended after he treated her horribly and denied that the relationship ever even existed. My best friend has also had a history of treating his SO's like shit and just ending the relationship. I was hesitant at first to even pursue her, but he told me that it wouldn't affect our friendship and that he was fine with it, so I did.
Now, my gf and I are in a very loving relationship and we both decided that we aren't going to try sex now as we feel we're too young. Things are essentially perfect between us. However, when he says things like "have you given him a BJ yet?" or "just fuck him already" to her, it makes both of us very uncomfortable. But, my girlfriend doesn't want to tell him to stop as he is my best friend so she feels she has to act nice towards him.
He hasn't always acted like this, and I'm not sure if he's jealous or doing this to somehow get back at me, but I'm not sure what to do and I need some advice, thanks! | My best friend is obsessed with my gf and is making me uncomfortable. He's not interested in sex and I'm not sure what to do. | My best friend obsesses over my girlfriend and we're in a very loving relationship but he has told her to get over him, which makes both of us very uncomfortable. | [
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TITLE:
POST: This is my first time posting here, so please bear with me.
Recently, my best friend has been obsessing over my girlfriend. He constantly sends pictures of her to his friends and asking about our sex life to the point where it's made my gf and I very uncomfortable.
Some background info, my girlfriend and my best friend used to date, but it ended after he treated her horribly and denied that the relationship ever even existed. My best friend has also had a history of treating his SO's like shit and just ending the relationship. I was hesitant at first to even pursue her, but he told me that it wouldn't affect our friendship and that he was fine with it, so I did.
Now, my gf and I are in a very loving relationship and we both decided that we aren't going to try sex now as we feel we're too young. Things are essentially perfect between us. However, when he says things like "have you given him a BJ yet?" or "just fuck him already" to her, it makes both of us very uncomfortable. But, my girlfriend doesn't want to tell him to stop as he is my best friend so she feels she has to act nice towards him.
He hasn't always acted like this, and I'm not sure if he's jealous or doing this to somehow get back at me, but I'm not sure what to do and I need some advice, thanks!
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TITLE:
POST: This is my first time posting here, so please bear with me.
Recently, my best friend has been obsessing over my girlfriend. He constantly sends pictures of her to his friends and asking about our sex life to the point where it's made my gf and I very uncomfortable.
Some background info, my girlfriend and my best friend used to date, but it ended after he treated her horribly and denied that the relationship ever even existed. My best friend has also had a history of treating his SO's like shit and just ending the relationship. I was hesitant at first to even pursue her, but he told me that it wouldn't affect our friendship and that he was fine with it, so I did.
Now, my gf and I are in a very loving relationship and we both decided that we aren't going to try sex now as we feel we're too young. Things are essentially perfect between us. However, when he says things like "have you given him a BJ yet?" or "just fuck him already" to her, it makes both of us very uncomfortable. But, my girlfriend doesn't want to tell him to stop as he is my best friend so she feels she has to act nice towards him.
He hasn't always acted like this, and I'm not sure if he's jealous or doing this to somehow get back at me, but I'm not sure what to do and I need some advice, thanks!
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TITLE:
POST: This is my first time posting here, so please bear with me.
Recently, my best friend has been obsessing over my girlfriend. He constantly sends pictures of her to his friends and asking about our sex life to the point where it's made my gf and I very uncomfortable.
Some background info, my girlfriend and my best friend used to date, but it ended after he treated her horribly and denied that the relationship ever even existed. My best friend has also had a history of treating his SO's like shit and just ending the relationship. I was hesitant at first to even pursue her, but he told me that it wouldn't affect our friendship and that he was fine with it, so I did.
Now, my gf and I are in a very loving relationship and we both decided that we aren't going to try sex now as we feel we're too young. Things are essentially perfect between us. However, when he says things like "have you given him a BJ yet?" or "just fuck him already" to her, it makes both of us very uncomfortable. But, my girlfriend doesn't want to tell him to stop as he is my best friend so she feels she has to act nice towards him.
He hasn't always acted like this, and I'm not sure if he's jealous or doing this to somehow get back at me, but I'm not sure what to do and I need some advice, thanks!
TL;DR: My best friend obsesses over my girlfriend and we're in a very loving relationship but he has told her to get over him, which makes both of us very uncomfortable.<|endoftext|> | [
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We've been together for almost 2 years, and are making plans for moving in together, getting engaged, etc., etc.
Due to our mutual career paths, I'm on track to be making CONSIDERABLY more money than she will. Which I'm 100% fine with, I knew that when we met, it's never been a problem for me, she loves what she does, and I would never, ever want her to work a job that makes her miserable solely to earn us more money.
Last night we were talking about how stressed we are right now with our finances, and what we need to do financially, to take forward steps. The conversation, direct quotes:
>"I'm aware that you're making about as much as you'll ever make, and that's fine. Nearly all of our financial future is my burden to carry. It's on my mind constantly, and it's scary."
.
>"Sorry. Didn't know I was a burden. Ouch."
I certainly didn't mean that SHE is a burden, in hindsight I can see how it could read that way. Now she's just hurt and pissed and won't listen to me try to explain myself. I kept trying to explain, but she's so hung up on the word "burden." Later she said, "Please refrain from using the word burden when we're discussing my part in your future."
I feel awful. But at the same time, the fact is, I do have the larger earning potential, and I'm fine with that...but sometimes I DO get overwhelmed, and I do think I should be able to talk to her about that. ESPECIALLY once we are living together/married and our finances are way more intertwined than they are now.
I want to figure the money issue out sooner rather than later...before it becomes a huge issue. I need to apologize AND have a constructive conversation about our money/finances in the future. | insinuated that my girlfriend is a burden due to finances; hurt and frustrated that I might have insinuated that; need a constructive conversation about finances/what's best for us moving forward. | Might have insinuated that girlfriend is a burden due to my higher earning potential, need to figure out how to talk about finances/financial future before it turns into huge issue...again. Help pls? | [
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POST: We've been together for almost 2 years, and are making plans for moving in together, getting engaged, etc., etc.
Due to our mutual career paths, I'm on track to be making CONSIDERABLY more money than she will. Which I'm 100% fine with, I knew that when we met, it's never been a problem for me, she loves what she does, and I would never, ever want her to work a job that makes her miserable solely to earn us more money.
Last night we were talking about how stressed we are right now with our finances, and what we need to do financially, to take forward steps. The conversation, direct quotes:
>"I'm aware that you're making about as much as you'll ever make, and that's fine. Nearly all of our financial future is my burden to carry. It's on my mind constantly, and it's scary."
.
>"Sorry. Didn't know I was a burden. Ouch."
I certainly didn't mean that SHE is a burden, in hindsight I can see how it could read that way. Now she's just hurt and pissed and won't listen to me try to explain myself. I kept trying to explain, but she's so hung up on the word "burden." Later she said, "Please refrain from using the word burden when we're discussing my part in your future."
I feel awful. But at the same time, the fact is, I do have the larger earning potential, and I'm fine with that...but sometimes I DO get overwhelmed, and I do think I should be able to talk to her about that. ESPECIALLY once we are living together/married and our finances are way more intertwined than they are now.
I want to figure the money issue out sooner rather than later...before it becomes a huge issue. I need to apologize AND have a constructive conversation about our money/finances in the future.
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TITLE:
POST: We've been together for almost 2 years, and are making plans for moving in together, getting engaged, etc., etc.
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I feel awful. But at the same time, the fact is, I do have the larger earning potential, and I'm fine with that...but sometimes I DO get overwhelmed, and I do think I should be able to talk to her about that. ESPECIALLY once we are living together/married and our finances are way more intertwined than they are now.
I want to figure the money issue out sooner rather than later...before it becomes a huge issue. I need to apologize AND have a constructive conversation about our money/finances in the future.
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POST: We've been together for almost 2 years, and are making plans for moving in together, getting engaged, etc., etc.
Due to our mutual career paths, I'm on track to be making CONSIDERABLY more money than she will. Which I'm 100% fine with, I knew that when we met, it's never been a problem for me, she loves what she does, and I would never, ever want her to work a job that makes her miserable solely to earn us more money.
Last night we were talking about how stressed we are right now with our finances, and what we need to do financially, to take forward steps. The conversation, direct quotes:
>"I'm aware that you're making about as much as you'll ever make, and that's fine. Nearly all of our financial future is my burden to carry. It's on my mind constantly, and it's scary."
.
>"Sorry. Didn't know I was a burden. Ouch."
I certainly didn't mean that SHE is a burden, in hindsight I can see how it could read that way. Now she's just hurt and pissed and won't listen to me try to explain myself. I kept trying to explain, but she's so hung up on the word "burden." Later she said, "Please refrain from using the word burden when we're discussing my part in your future."
I feel awful. But at the same time, the fact is, I do have the larger earning potential, and I'm fine with that...but sometimes I DO get overwhelmed, and I do think I should be able to talk to her about that. ESPECIALLY once we are living together/married and our finances are way more intertwined than they are now.
I want to figure the money issue out sooner rather than later...before it becomes a huge issue. I need to apologize AND have a constructive conversation about our money/finances in the future.
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EDIT: We've been together for almost 7 months now and have been living together for 2 months. Just FYI | My boyfriend doesn't invite me to his friends' hangouts, is this normal? | My bf doesn't invite me to the parties that he attends to, is that normal? | [
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POST: Hi, Im just a little bit curious and want your opinion on this. My boyfriend and I are living together. He's french, Im Asian. He's a model and I work in an office, we have different group of friends. The first time he went out he asked me "Is it really okay that I go out?" and I told him yes of course, I made him understand that we need time for our friends too and not only for each other. so now he sees them every week, once a week. the question is, is it normal that he doesn't invite me? I mean, he doesn't even ask if I want to join (I will say NO anyways). His group of friends are a bunch of models, girls and boys. They always hang out in this bar. I don't really have an issue with this. I always give him time. Just want to ask if this is normal?
EDIT: We've been together for almost 7 months now and have been living together for 2 months. Just FYI
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POST: Hi, Im just a little bit curious and want your opinion on this. My boyfriend and I are living together. He's french, Im Asian. He's a model and I work in an office, we have different group of friends. The first time he went out he asked me "Is it really okay that I go out?" and I told him yes of course, I made him understand that we need time for our friends too and not only for each other. so now he sees them every week, once a week. the question is, is it normal that he doesn't invite me? I mean, he doesn't even ask if I want to join (I will say NO anyways). His group of friends are a bunch of models, girls and boys. They always hang out in this bar. I don't really have an issue with this. I always give him time. Just want to ask if this is normal?
EDIT: We've been together for almost 7 months now and have been living together for 2 months. Just FYI
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TITLE:
POST: Hi, Im just a little bit curious and want your opinion on this. My boyfriend and I are living together. He's french, Im Asian. He's a model and I work in an office, we have different group of friends. The first time he went out he asked me "Is it really okay that I go out?" and I told him yes of course, I made him understand that we need time for our friends too and not only for each other. so now he sees them every week, once a week. the question is, is it normal that he doesn't invite me? I mean, he doesn't even ask if I want to join (I will say NO anyways). His group of friends are a bunch of models, girls and boys. They always hang out in this bar. I don't really have an issue with this. I always give him time. Just want to ask if this is normal?
EDIT: We've been together for almost 7 months now and have been living together for 2 months. Just FYI
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OK here's my plan,
So basically, I've had a bad case of the flu for the past week, and in doing so, have done no exercise, I'm a very fit 21 year old male, I rock climb a lot and my general motto on fitness is to be as fit as humanely possible for the activities I do.
What I want to try for this week is the following:
I will be training every day, give me hard out ridiculous challenges to complete. Think of some ridiculous work out or circuit and I'll write down all the ones I feel are not insane and do them this week to get back into the swing of things. Rest days will be me in the climbing gym, most likely Tuesday and Thursday.
I don't know if this will work, depends how many people want to get behind it. | I am a fit guy who wants to get back in shape, I will be training for a week and using ridiculous out of the ordinary exercises to get back in the gym. | Help me get back into shape, force me to workout hard, and push me to complete any ridiculous challenges I can. | [
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TITLE:
POST: OK here's my plan,
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I don't know if this will work, depends how many people want to get behind it.
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TITLE:
POST: OK here's my plan,
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POST: OK here's my plan,
So basically, I've had a bad case of the flu for the past week, and in doing so, have done no exercise, I'm a very fit 21 year old male, I rock climb a lot and my general motto on fitness is to be as fit as humanely possible for the activities I do.
What I want to try for this week is the following:
I will be training every day, give me hard out ridiculous challenges to complete. Think of some ridiculous work out or circuit and I'll write down all the ones I feel are not insane and do them this week to get back into the swing of things. Rest days will be me in the climbing gym, most likely Tuesday and Thursday.
I don't know if this will work, depends how many people want to get behind it.
TL;DR: Help me get back into shape, force me to workout hard, and push me to complete any ridiculous challenges I can.<|endoftext|> | [
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I feel like this is the problem, but I'd like someone to back me up first. The model number of the power supply is PA-1650-02. | I have a Gateway laptop that has a power supply that fluctuates from 19v to 5v while unplugged. Someone please support my theory. Thanks. | I'm looking for someone to test their Gateway power supply and confirm if the problem is the power supply or the AC charging cable. | [
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TITLE:
POST: Someone gave me a Gateway laptop to fix for them. Based on the symptoms of the problem, it made sense to test the power supply's voltage. I'm talking about the brick on the AC charging cable.
I plug it in, it outputs 19v DC (which matches the rating printed on the brick). I unplug it and voltage goes to 4v, back up to 18v, 6v, 15v, then finally to 5v and then slowly dissipates to 0v...all while unplugged. The fluctuation from 19v to 5v is maybe over seven seconds or so, then it takes a full 45 seconds to dissipate to 0v.
I feel like this is the problem, but I'd like someone to back me up first. The model number of the power supply is PA-1650-02.
TL;DR: | I have a Gateway laptop that has a power supply that fluctuates from 19v to 5v while unplugged. Someone please support my theory. Thanks.<|endoftext|> | [
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TITLE:
POST: Someone gave me a Gateway laptop to fix for them. Based on the symptoms of the problem, it made sense to test the power supply's voltage. I'm talking about the brick on the AC charging cable.
I plug it in, it outputs 19v DC (which matches the rating printed on the brick). I unplug it and voltage goes to 4v, back up to 18v, 6v, 15v, then finally to 5v and then slowly dissipates to 0v...all while unplugged. The fluctuation from 19v to 5v is maybe over seven seconds or so, then it takes a full 45 seconds to dissipate to 0v.
I feel like this is the problem, but I'd like someone to back me up first. The model number of the power supply is PA-1650-02.
TL;DR: I have a Gateway laptop that has a power supply that fluctuates from 19v to 5v while unplugged. Someone please support my theory. Thanks.<|endoftext|> | [
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TITLE:
POST: Someone gave me a Gateway laptop to fix for them. Based on the symptoms of the problem, it made sense to test the power supply's voltage. I'm talking about the brick on the AC charging cable.
I plug it in, it outputs 19v DC (which matches the rating printed on the brick). I unplug it and voltage goes to 4v, back up to 18v, 6v, 15v, then finally to 5v and then slowly dissipates to 0v...all while unplugged. The fluctuation from 19v to 5v is maybe over seven seconds or so, then it takes a full 45 seconds to dissipate to 0v.
I feel like this is the problem, but I'd like someone to back me up first. The model number of the power supply is PA-1650-02.
TL;DR: I'm looking for someone to test their Gateway power supply and confirm if the problem is the power supply or the AC charging cable.<|endoftext|> | [
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-She still lives with her ex boyfriend and his two friends, and she broke up with him in December.
-We have been dating for almost 3 months.
-The past few days she has not been responding to me at all.
-Last I saw her was on her birthday, which was last Wednesday and she said she was going to take a train back home to visit her mom until Sunday.
-She has reverted back to emailing, and is not accepting any phone calls, text or responding to snapchats...really all out of the blue.
"______ you are so right, I really have been disrupting your life so much. You don't disturb me At All, every time we spend together is amazing and I'm perfectly happy and content. Me thinking I could do this with you in the living situation I have has just been impossible though. Honestly I missed my train on my birthday because my ex admit to me he still had feelings for me and it just freaked me out so I've been staying at my friend _____'s house form my kickboxing class since Wednesday. I felt too guilty to talk to you when that happened. it's only been with you, but every time I know your annoyed with me, for some reason I just can't get myself to talk to you. I'm just too worry about it too much because you are such a good person and deserve to be happy 100% of the time." | Girlfriend of three months still lives with her ex boyfriend and his two friends. | ex girlfriend that still lives with her ex, wants me to neglect her and do everything I can to make her happy. | [
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POST: Be sure to explain in detail with line breaks.
-She still lives with her ex boyfriend and his two friends, and she broke up with him in December.
-We have been dating for almost 3 months.
-The past few days she has not been responding to me at all.
-Last I saw her was on her birthday, which was last Wednesday and she said she was going to take a train back home to visit her mom until Sunday.
-She has reverted back to emailing, and is not accepting any phone calls, text or responding to snapchats...really all out of the blue.
"______ you are so right, I really have been disrupting your life so much. You don't disturb me At All, every time we spend together is amazing and I'm perfectly happy and content. Me thinking I could do this with you in the living situation I have has just been impossible though. Honestly I missed my train on my birthday because my ex admit to me he still had feelings for me and it just freaked me out so I've been staying at my friend _____'s house form my kickboxing class since Wednesday. I felt too guilty to talk to you when that happened. it's only been with you, but every time I know your annoyed with me, for some reason I just can't get myself to talk to you. I'm just too worry about it too much because you are such a good person and deserve to be happy 100% of the time."
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TITLE:
POST: Be sure to explain in detail with line breaks.
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POST: Be sure to explain in detail with line breaks.
-She still lives with her ex boyfriend and his two friends, and she broke up with him in December.
-We have been dating for almost 3 months.
-The past few days she has not been responding to me at all.
-Last I saw her was on her birthday, which was last Wednesday and she said she was going to take a train back home to visit her mom until Sunday.
-She has reverted back to emailing, and is not accepting any phone calls, text or responding to snapchats...really all out of the blue.
"______ you are so right, I really have been disrupting your life so much. You don't disturb me At All, every time we spend together is amazing and I'm perfectly happy and content. Me thinking I could do this with you in the living situation I have has just been impossible though. Honestly I missed my train on my birthday because my ex admit to me he still had feelings for me and it just freaked me out so I've been staying at my friend _____'s house form my kickboxing class since Wednesday. I felt too guilty to talk to you when that happened. it's only been with you, but every time I know your annoyed with me, for some reason I just can't get myself to talk to you. I'm just too worry about it too much because you are such a good person and deserve to be happy 100% of the time."
TL;DR: ex girlfriend that still lives with her ex, wants me to neglect her and do everything I can to make her happy.<|endoftext|> | [
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This is when the fuck up happened. We were so happy that we had something ready we were not paying attention to what the video was saying and showing, until the teacher stops it halfway though and she asked us if we knew what the video was about and we just sat there in confusion. The whole class was shocked because the video had God beating up children and narration of some guy saying how bad God is. I still remember the faces of my peers and the teacher and also the head of religious education. | had no assignment to show to Christian foundations class, accidentally ended up showing an antichrist video to about 20-30 people. | I showed an antichrist video in front of a class of a Christian school and the teacher didn't know what it was. | [
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POST: Ok so the fuck up Happened last year. (First of all my school is a very proud Christian school which makes it worse)My friend and I were given an assignment to do a presentation on the Old Testament (I can't remember so it could be the New Testament) and my friend had the genius plan that if he missed out every lesson we would not have to present. I ran with the idea even though I knew that it wasn't gonna work. On the last day of presentations he arrives because his mum finds out and we had nothing for the teacher, she almost forgot about us until one of my peers told her that my friend and I hadn't gone, we asked for 5 minutes to get ready and we just went online and found a video about it, the video was 10-15 minutes long (we watched the first 2 minutes)and it was animated. We were just happy to hand something in so at least we couldn't get detentions.
This is when the fuck up happened. We were so happy that we had something ready we were not paying attention to what the video was saying and showing, until the teacher stops it halfway though and she asked us if we knew what the video was about and we just sat there in confusion. The whole class was shocked because the video had God beating up children and narration of some guy saying how bad God is. I still remember the faces of my peers and the teacher and also the head of religious education.
TL;DR: | had no assignment to show to Christian foundations class, accidentally ended up showing an antichrist video to about 20-30 people.<|endoftext|> | [
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POST: Ok so the fuck up Happened last year. (First of all my school is a very proud Christian school which makes it worse)My friend and I were given an assignment to do a presentation on the Old Testament (I can't remember so it could be the New Testament) and my friend had the genius plan that if he missed out every lesson we would not have to present. I ran with the idea even though I knew that it wasn't gonna work. On the last day of presentations he arrives because his mum finds out and we had nothing for the teacher, she almost forgot about us until one of my peers told her that my friend and I hadn't gone, we asked for 5 minutes to get ready and we just went online and found a video about it, the video was 10-15 minutes long (we watched the first 2 minutes)and it was animated. We were just happy to hand something in so at least we couldn't get detentions.
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POST: Ok so the fuck up Happened last year. (First of all my school is a very proud Christian school which makes it worse)My friend and I were given an assignment to do a presentation on the Old Testament (I can't remember so it could be the New Testament) and my friend had the genius plan that if he missed out every lesson we would not have to present. I ran with the idea even though I knew that it wasn't gonna work. On the last day of presentations he arrives because his mum finds out and we had nothing for the teacher, she almost forgot about us until one of my peers told her that my friend and I hadn't gone, we asked for 5 minutes to get ready and we just went online and found a video about it, the video was 10-15 minutes long (we watched the first 2 minutes)and it was animated. We were just happy to hand something in so at least we couldn't get detentions.
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My brother recently attend a 16th birthday party his friends had. Let's not pretend all teenagers follow the no alcohol until 21 rule. These kids were drinking underage and I am sure most of us did. Our brother (he is staying with my sister 23F) until mom comes back from her business trip. He did not drink as part of the condition of letting him go in the first place.
For as long as I can remember he has talked about this crush he had on this Dayna girl. Well at this party he had a golden chance to have sex with her and he stopped because he did not have a condom. This Dayna girl actually sent him a really heartfelt message on Facebook and thanked him for being thoughtful for them both, when she was caught in the moment. He showed it to me and my sister.
My younger brother recently went and had a phone conversation with our older brother. I now understand why every girl our older brother has been with has left him, he is a grade A dick. Our brother lives in Vegas and we normally communicate via Facebook or phone.
He called our brother and asked for advice on how to proceed and our older brother did the unthinkable. He went and he posted the story on Facebook making fun of it and our younger brother has been getting crap for it. His friends 95% male (not all guys are ass-holes, but these guys are). They have messaged him saying he is never going to get laid and a whole bunch of other things. He has deleted his Facebook it got that bad.
Funny enough he made a status bitching about how a portion of the girls on his Facebook have blocked him. But how do we deal with this situation, he is extremely upset. Would we be right in telling mom what happened when she returns to Michigan? Then cutting all contact with the older brother and only keeping in touch our younger brother?
How do we deal with this? | Brother has publicly made fun of our little brother for turning down sex when he did not have a condom | friend's 16th birthday party, brother did not have condom, sister and I helped him. Brother has made fun of his crush, brother is upset, brother is not our friend, how do we deal with this? | [
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TITLE:
POST: **Little brother is 16**
My brother recently attend a 16th birthday party his friends had. Let's not pretend all teenagers follow the no alcohol until 21 rule. These kids were drinking underage and I am sure most of us did. Our brother (he is staying with my sister 23F) until mom comes back from her business trip. He did not drink as part of the condition of letting him go in the first place.
For as long as I can remember he has talked about this crush he had on this Dayna girl. Well at this party he had a golden chance to have sex with her and he stopped because he did not have a condom. This Dayna girl actually sent him a really heartfelt message on Facebook and thanked him for being thoughtful for them both, when she was caught in the moment. He showed it to me and my sister.
My younger brother recently went and had a phone conversation with our older brother. I now understand why every girl our older brother has been with has left him, he is a grade A dick. Our brother lives in Vegas and we normally communicate via Facebook or phone.
He called our brother and asked for advice on how to proceed and our older brother did the unthinkable. He went and he posted the story on Facebook making fun of it and our younger brother has been getting crap for it. His friends 95% male (not all guys are ass-holes, but these guys are). They have messaged him saying he is never going to get laid and a whole bunch of other things. He has deleted his Facebook it got that bad.
Funny enough he made a status bitching about how a portion of the girls on his Facebook have blocked him. But how do we deal with this situation, he is extremely upset. Would we be right in telling mom what happened when she returns to Michigan? Then cutting all contact with the older brother and only keeping in touch our younger brother?
How do we deal with this?
TL;DR: | Brother has publicly made fun of our little brother for turning down sex when he did not have a condom<|endoftext|> | [
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TITLE:
POST: **Little brother is 16**
My brother recently attend a 16th birthday party his friends had. Let's not pretend all teenagers follow the no alcohol until 21 rule. These kids were drinking underage and I am sure most of us did. Our brother (he is staying with my sister 23F) until mom comes back from her business trip. He did not drink as part of the condition of letting him go in the first place.
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My younger brother recently went and had a phone conversation with our older brother. I now understand why every girl our older brother has been with has left him, he is a grade A dick. Our brother lives in Vegas and we normally communicate via Facebook or phone.
He called our brother and asked for advice on how to proceed and our older brother did the unthinkable. He went and he posted the story on Facebook making fun of it and our younger brother has been getting crap for it. His friends 95% male (not all guys are ass-holes, but these guys are). They have messaged him saying he is never going to get laid and a whole bunch of other things. He has deleted his Facebook it got that bad.
Funny enough he made a status bitching about how a portion of the girls on his Facebook have blocked him. But how do we deal with this situation, he is extremely upset. Would we be right in telling mom what happened when she returns to Michigan? Then cutting all contact with the older brother and only keeping in touch our younger brother?
How do we deal with this?
TL;DR: Brother has publicly made fun of our little brother for turning down sex when he did not have a condom<|endoftext|> | [
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POST: **Little brother is 16**
My brother recently attend a 16th birthday party his friends had. Let's not pretend all teenagers follow the no alcohol until 21 rule. These kids were drinking underage and I am sure most of us did. Our brother (he is staying with my sister 23F) until mom comes back from her business trip. He did not drink as part of the condition of letting him go in the first place.
For as long as I can remember he has talked about this crush he had on this Dayna girl. Well at this party he had a golden chance to have sex with her and he stopped because he did not have a condom. This Dayna girl actually sent him a really heartfelt message on Facebook and thanked him for being thoughtful for them both, when she was caught in the moment. He showed it to me and my sister.
My younger brother recently went and had a phone conversation with our older brother. I now understand why every girl our older brother has been with has left him, he is a grade A dick. Our brother lives in Vegas and we normally communicate via Facebook or phone.
He called our brother and asked for advice on how to proceed and our older brother did the unthinkable. He went and he posted the story on Facebook making fun of it and our younger brother has been getting crap for it. His friends 95% male (not all guys are ass-holes, but these guys are). They have messaged him saying he is never going to get laid and a whole bunch of other things. He has deleted his Facebook it got that bad.
Funny enough he made a status bitching about how a portion of the girls on his Facebook have blocked him. But how do we deal with this situation, he is extremely upset. Would we be right in telling mom what happened when she returns to Michigan? Then cutting all contact with the older brother and only keeping in touch our younger brother?
How do we deal with this?
TL;DR: friend's 16th birthday party, brother did not have condom, sister and I helped him. Brother has made fun of his crush, brother is upset, brother is not our friend, how do we deal with this?<|endoftext|> | [
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My girlfriend and I have been in a relationship for 8 months. I really like her, in fact I love her (a lot). We get along extremely well and I see her deep into my future.
We recently talked about her travel aspirations. She absolutely loves traveling. Her family has moved place to place every 3-4 years of her life. She even studied abroad while at college and got to visit a ton of countries in Europe.
She told me she is interested in doing a program that would place her in South America for 6-12 months, which worries me. Even more so, she wants to live in other states and other countries.
Personally, I think she is being too ambitious. Moving every 3-4 years is not healthy for a relationship in my opinion. Her family did it out of necessity (military), not for leisure. While I do think traveling is nice, and a wonderful lifestyle for someone single, I think constantly moving your home after a couple of years is too difficult. I am worried about housing costs, living costs, finding a new job (one that I like and am qualified for). She isn't worried about that at all. She thinks we would be fine. I am absolutely in favor of going on plenty of vacations all over the globe, but I think moving residences every 3-4 years is too much.
I feel extremely nervous that I might lose her to her love of travel. I think the main reason why I am not on board is that I have always lived in NYC, all my family is here. I believe NYC is the optimal because of the proximity to my family and the career opportunities it presents. If I get bored of NYC, there are plenty of places I can visit on vacation. | girlfriend wants to live abroad/move frequently despite me being against it. I am worried about housing costs, living costs, finding a new job etc. Please advise! | Girlfriend wants to live abroad/move frequently. I don't. Unsure if I will keep her because of cost/housing issues. What should I do/say to keep her? | [
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POST: My girlfriend and I have been in a relationship for 8 months. I really like her, in fact I love her (a lot). We get along extremely well and I see her deep into my future.
We recently talked about her travel aspirations. She absolutely loves traveling. Her family has moved place to place every 3-4 years of her life. She even studied abroad while at college and got to visit a ton of countries in Europe.
She told me she is interested in doing a program that would place her in South America for 6-12 months, which worries me. Even more so, she wants to live in other states and other countries.
Personally, I think she is being too ambitious. Moving every 3-4 years is not healthy for a relationship in my opinion. Her family did it out of necessity (military), not for leisure. While I do think traveling is nice, and a wonderful lifestyle for someone single, I think constantly moving your home after a couple of years is too difficult. I am worried about housing costs, living costs, finding a new job (one that I like and am qualified for). She isn't worried about that at all. She thinks we would be fine. I am absolutely in favor of going on plenty of vacations all over the globe, but I think moving residences every 3-4 years is too much.
I feel extremely nervous that I might lose her to her love of travel. I think the main reason why I am not on board is that I have always lived in NYC, all my family is here. I believe NYC is the optimal because of the proximity to my family and the career opportunities it presents. If I get bored of NYC, there are plenty of places I can visit on vacation.
TL;DR: | girlfriend wants to live abroad/move frequently despite me being against it. I am worried about housing costs, living costs, finding a new job etc. Please advise!<|endoftext|> | [
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POST: My girlfriend and I have been in a relationship for 8 months. I really like her, in fact I love her (a lot). We get along extremely well and I see her deep into my future.
We recently talked about her travel aspirations. She absolutely loves traveling. Her family has moved place to place every 3-4 years of her life. She even studied abroad while at college and got to visit a ton of countries in Europe.
She told me she is interested in doing a program that would place her in South America for 6-12 months, which worries me. Even more so, she wants to live in other states and other countries.
Personally, I think she is being too ambitious. Moving every 3-4 years is not healthy for a relationship in my opinion. Her family did it out of necessity (military), not for leisure. While I do think traveling is nice, and a wonderful lifestyle for someone single, I think constantly moving your home after a couple of years is too difficult. I am worried about housing costs, living costs, finding a new job (one that I like and am qualified for). She isn't worried about that at all. She thinks we would be fine. I am absolutely in favor of going on plenty of vacations all over the globe, but I think moving residences every 3-4 years is too much.
I feel extremely nervous that I might lose her to her love of travel. I think the main reason why I am not on board is that I have always lived in NYC, all my family is here. I believe NYC is the optimal because of the proximity to my family and the career opportunities it presents. If I get bored of NYC, there are plenty of places I can visit on vacation.
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POST: My girlfriend and I have been in a relationship for 8 months. I really like her, in fact I love her (a lot). We get along extremely well and I see her deep into my future.
We recently talked about her travel aspirations. She absolutely loves traveling. Her family has moved place to place every 3-4 years of her life. She even studied abroad while at college and got to visit a ton of countries in Europe.
She told me she is interested in doing a program that would place her in South America for 6-12 months, which worries me. Even more so, she wants to live in other states and other countries.
Personally, I think she is being too ambitious. Moving every 3-4 years is not healthy for a relationship in my opinion. Her family did it out of necessity (military), not for leisure. While I do think traveling is nice, and a wonderful lifestyle for someone single, I think constantly moving your home after a couple of years is too difficult. I am worried about housing costs, living costs, finding a new job (one that I like and am qualified for). She isn't worried about that at all. She thinks we would be fine. I am absolutely in favor of going on plenty of vacations all over the globe, but I think moving residences every 3-4 years is too much.
I feel extremely nervous that I might lose her to her love of travel. I think the main reason why I am not on board is that I have always lived in NYC, all my family is here. I believe NYC is the optimal because of the proximity to my family and the career opportunities it presents. If I get bored of NYC, there are plenty of places I can visit on vacation.
TL;DR: Girlfriend wants to live abroad/move frequently. I don't. Unsure if I will keep her because of cost/housing issues. What should I do/say to keep her?<|endoftext|> | [
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We never really fought in 4 years but we did talk about things when there was any issues - only now I realize that she had a couple concerns brewing under the surface.
Our relationship was very strong overall and we shared a love and appreciation for each other with the shared goal of becoming engaged in a few years, and later getting married and having a family.
Then everything ended abruptly when she stopped by and told me we were breaking up. It felt so harsh and sudden. I was in shock, and even now it is still sinking in a few days later. She gave a few vague reasons as to why, which I didn't fully understand but I'm reflecting and I think I'm gaining clarity. She had been questioning things for a week or so and decided the night before, without ever expressing it to me. I feel we could have worked past her concerns or at least tried to.
My emotions are all over the place all at once. I don't know what to do. There's so much I want to say that I wasn't able to say at the time because I was caught so off guard by it all. But we haven't contacted each other since. I want to know she's alright.
What should I do folks? We were in love and best friends and now we are going to be nothing just like that? Is this kind of breakup normal? (Not saying it's easy to breakup with someone but it just seemed so sudden and cold.) | I'm in love with a girl who broke up with me out of the blue. No warning signs between us. She had a couple issues she was worried about. I feel like this could have been worked out, but we didn't. Now I'm confused. What should I do? | Bf and I had 4 year relationship, she broke it off suddenly due to some concerns that didn't come up until a few days after the breakup. We broke up because she stopped by unexpectedly and told me we were breaking up. She's fine now but I'm still heartbroken and confused. What should I | [
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POST: There were no fights, no warning signs, and no issues communicated between us leading up to the breakup. We just had a really good 2 days together. (We had summer plans. We had sex. Etc. It was smooth sailing as usual)
We never really fought in 4 years but we did talk about things when there was any issues - only now I realize that she had a couple concerns brewing under the surface.
Our relationship was very strong overall and we shared a love and appreciation for each other with the shared goal of becoming engaged in a few years, and later getting married and having a family.
Then everything ended abruptly when she stopped by and told me we were breaking up. It felt so harsh and sudden. I was in shock, and even now it is still sinking in a few days later. She gave a few vague reasons as to why, which I didn't fully understand but I'm reflecting and I think I'm gaining clarity. She had been questioning things for a week or so and decided the night before, without ever expressing it to me. I feel we could have worked past her concerns or at least tried to.
My emotions are all over the place all at once. I don't know what to do. There's so much I want to say that I wasn't able to say at the time because I was caught so off guard by it all. But we haven't contacted each other since. I want to know she's alright.
What should I do folks? We were in love and best friends and now we are going to be nothing just like that? Is this kind of breakup normal? (Not saying it's easy to breakup with someone but it just seemed so sudden and cold.)
TL;DR: | I'm in love with a girl who broke up with me out of the blue. No warning signs between us. She had a couple issues she was worried about. I feel like this could have been worked out, but we didn't. Now I'm confused. What should I do?<|endoftext|> | [
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POST: There were no fights, no warning signs, and no issues communicated between us leading up to the breakup. We just had a really good 2 days together. (We had summer plans. We had sex. Etc. It was smooth sailing as usual)
We never really fought in 4 years but we did talk about things when there was any issues - only now I realize that she had a couple concerns brewing under the surface.
Our relationship was very strong overall and we shared a love and appreciation for each other with the shared goal of becoming engaged in a few years, and later getting married and having a family.
Then everything ended abruptly when she stopped by and told me we were breaking up. It felt so harsh and sudden. I was in shock, and even now it is still sinking in a few days later. She gave a few vague reasons as to why, which I didn't fully understand but I'm reflecting and I think I'm gaining clarity. She had been questioning things for a week or so and decided the night before, without ever expressing it to me. I feel we could have worked past her concerns or at least tried to.
My emotions are all over the place all at once. I don't know what to do. There's so much I want to say that I wasn't able to say at the time because I was caught so off guard by it all. But we haven't contacted each other since. I want to know she's alright.
What should I do folks? We were in love and best friends and now we are going to be nothing just like that? Is this kind of breakup normal? (Not saying it's easy to breakup with someone but it just seemed so sudden and cold.)
TL;DR: I'm in love with a girl who broke up with me out of the blue. No warning signs between us. She had a couple issues she was worried about. I feel like this could have been worked out, but we didn't. Now I'm confused. What should I do?<|endoftext|> | [
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POST: There were no fights, no warning signs, and no issues communicated between us leading up to the breakup. We just had a really good 2 days together. (We had summer plans. We had sex. Etc. It was smooth sailing as usual)
We never really fought in 4 years but we did talk about things when there was any issues - only now I realize that she had a couple concerns brewing under the surface.
Our relationship was very strong overall and we shared a love and appreciation for each other with the shared goal of becoming engaged in a few years, and later getting married and having a family.
Then everything ended abruptly when she stopped by and told me we were breaking up. It felt so harsh and sudden. I was in shock, and even now it is still sinking in a few days later. She gave a few vague reasons as to why, which I didn't fully understand but I'm reflecting and I think I'm gaining clarity. She had been questioning things for a week or so and decided the night before, without ever expressing it to me. I feel we could have worked past her concerns or at least tried to.
My emotions are all over the place all at once. I don't know what to do. There's so much I want to say that I wasn't able to say at the time because I was caught so off guard by it all. But we haven't contacted each other since. I want to know she's alright.
What should I do folks? We were in love and best friends and now we are going to be nothing just like that? Is this kind of breakup normal? (Not saying it's easy to breakup with someone but it just seemed so sudden and cold.)
TL;DR: Bf and I had 4 year relationship, she broke it off suddenly due to some concerns that didn't come up until a few days after the breakup. We broke up because she stopped by unexpectedly and told me we were breaking up. She's fine now but I'm still heartbroken and confused. What should I<|endoftext|> | [
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Me and Girlfriend have been involved for 2 years now, and have been very involved and for the majority very happy spending our time together.
In March however, with stress from university and confusion about what i truly could cope with i broke up with her. For me this was the biggest mistake i ever made, and she knows that and so do i. To cut a long story short, after 3 months we finally got back together and have been great. Apart from one thing, I read her messages and I dont seem to be able to stop..
I know i shouldnt yet i do, and it genuinely isnt that i dont trust her! because i whole heartedly do, i can swear on that. However, i still find myself taking the opportunity occasuionally. Nearly every time i have done i have been caught (as i am very sloppy with covering my tracks and she is too clever for me). She has said that she isnt going to break up with me, and she is just going to change her passwords (which i think is a great idea).
Basically, I'm a very insecure person on the interior and I KNOW that this cant carry on as it is causing me to check her messages.i need to be proactive. Any suggestions on how to feel better about myself and not doubt that im enough anymore? | I find myself checking up on gf messages, despite fully trusting her. Im an insecure male who needs advice on how to become more confident in the relationship - any suggestions? | I'm insecure and I need to get out of it or i will suffer from anxiety. | [
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In March however, with stress from university and confusion about what i truly could cope with i broke up with her. For me this was the biggest mistake i ever made, and she knows that and so do i. To cut a long story short, after 3 months we finally got back together and have been great. Apart from one thing, I read her messages and I dont seem to be able to stop..
I know i shouldnt yet i do, and it genuinely isnt that i dont trust her! because i whole heartedly do, i can swear on that. However, i still find myself taking the opportunity occasuionally. Nearly every time i have done i have been caught (as i am very sloppy with covering my tracks and she is too clever for me). She has said that she isnt going to break up with me, and she is just going to change her passwords (which i think is a great idea).
Basically, I'm a very insecure person on the interior and I KNOW that this cant carry on as it is causing me to check her messages.i need to be proactive. Any suggestions on how to feel better about myself and not doubt that im enough anymore?
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Basically, I'm a very insecure person on the interior and I KNOW that this cant carry on as it is causing me to check her messages.i need to be proactive. Any suggestions on how to feel better about myself and not doubt that im enough anymore?
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POST: Me and Girlfriend have been involved for 2 years now, and have been very involved and for the majority very happy spending our time together.
In March however, with stress from university and confusion about what i truly could cope with i broke up with her. For me this was the biggest mistake i ever made, and she knows that and so do i. To cut a long story short, after 3 months we finally got back together and have been great. Apart from one thing, I read her messages and I dont seem to be able to stop..
I know i shouldnt yet i do, and it genuinely isnt that i dont trust her! because i whole heartedly do, i can swear on that. However, i still find myself taking the opportunity occasuionally. Nearly every time i have done i have been caught (as i am very sloppy with covering my tracks and she is too clever for me). She has said that she isnt going to break up with me, and she is just going to change her passwords (which i think is a great idea).
Basically, I'm a very insecure person on the interior and I KNOW that this cant carry on as it is causing me to check her messages.i need to be proactive. Any suggestions on how to feel better about myself and not doubt that im enough anymore?
TL;DR: I'm insecure and I need to get out of it or i will suffer from anxiety.<|endoftext|> | [
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My boyfriend and I met just over a year ago. We got on like a house on fire, and after a short few months we became a couple. The relationship had been really great in almost every way since then - we bounce off each other, we went on regular dates etc. Since we met though, I'd always been aware that he was going to be studying abroad for a year from October. This was brought up near the start and was always something that we planned on talking about later on if things looked like they'd last until the time came.
About a month ago we discussed our options, and decided that we'd try and give long distance a go, and if it wasn't working for either of us during the year then we would talk about it again.
A couple of weeks though, he flew out for a week to the country he'll be staying in I'm order to find somewhere to live, and we found that week pretty difficult, even though we spoke on Skype every night. When he returned, we decided that it would probably be for the best if we didn't do long distance. Our logic was that if we had trouble doing it for a week then a year would be impossible.
So yeah, a well thought out decision for the most part. Except now I'm wondering what to do with myself. One minute I'm I'm an almost perfect relationship with a guy I talk to all day every day, and all of a sudden it's just not there anymore. I don't know whether to keep talking to him, or to go cold turkey. Whether to talk about a possibility of getting back together or whether to just move on. It's been quite a disorientating experience and I'm just not sure how to handle the situation now! Any advice would be appreciated. | Me and my boyfriend of nearly a year have been planning on long distance for a while, but we decided that long distance is probably best avoided. Now we are broken up after that decision was made. What do I do now? | Great relationship broke off due to boyfriend moving to anothet country. Not sure how to deal with suddenly being single. | [
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POST: My boyfriend and I met just over a year ago. We got on like a house on fire, and after a short few months we became a couple. The relationship had been really great in almost every way since then - we bounce off each other, we went on regular dates etc. Since we met though, I'd always been aware that he was going to be studying abroad for a year from October. This was brought up near the start and was always something that we planned on talking about later on if things looked like they'd last until the time came.
About a month ago we discussed our options, and decided that we'd try and give long distance a go, and if it wasn't working for either of us during the year then we would talk about it again.
A couple of weeks though, he flew out for a week to the country he'll be staying in I'm order to find somewhere to live, and we found that week pretty difficult, even though we spoke on Skype every night. When he returned, we decided that it would probably be for the best if we didn't do long distance. Our logic was that if we had trouble doing it for a week then a year would be impossible.
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POST: My boyfriend and I met just over a year ago. We got on like a house on fire, and after a short few months we became a couple. The relationship had been really great in almost every way since then - we bounce off each other, we went on regular dates etc. Since we met though, I'd always been aware that he was going to be studying abroad for a year from October. This was brought up near the start and was always something that we planned on talking about later on if things looked like they'd last until the time came.
About a month ago we discussed our options, and decided that we'd try and give long distance a go, and if it wasn't working for either of us during the year then we would talk about it again.
A couple of weeks though, he flew out for a week to the country he'll be staying in I'm order to find somewhere to live, and we found that week pretty difficult, even though we spoke on Skype every night. When he returned, we decided that it would probably be for the best if we didn't do long distance. Our logic was that if we had trouble doing it for a week then a year would be impossible.
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However, without me knowing earlier, he just announced that he was bringing his girlfriend, and her sister (F 15), with whom the two of them are trying to set me up with.
Her sister intoroduced her to me about two weeks ago, and all we ever did since, was exchange a few "Hi's" when we walked past each other.
Apparently she has a huge crush on me, and can't wait to get some alone time with me tonight.
However, I *do not* wish to have any kind of relationship or have anything happen tonight with a 15 year old girl. Even though she looks older, I can't help but feel she is still 15 in her mind.
I'm having worries about damaging her self respect if I just straight up tell her nothing's gonna happen because she's too young. I also don't want to just not show up and make her be a third wheel.
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POST: Me and one another (M 18) friend like to every now and then get on the roof of a local building to have a drink or two and just chat into the night. We agreed we'd go tonight too.
However, without me knowing earlier, he just announced that he was bringing his girlfriend, and her sister (F 15), with whom the two of them are trying to set me up with.
Her sister intoroduced her to me about two weeks ago, and all we ever did since, was exchange a few "Hi's" when we walked past each other.
Apparently she has a huge crush on me, and can't wait to get some alone time with me tonight.
However, I *do not* wish to have any kind of relationship or have anything happen tonight with a 15 year old girl. Even though she looks older, I can't help but feel she is still 15 in her mind.
I'm having worries about damaging her self respect if I just straight up tell her nothing's gonna happen because she's too young. I also don't want to just not show up and make her be a third wheel.
Any advice is welcome.
TL;DR: | Me and friend agree to meet tonight, he brings GF and sister with whom he's trying to set me up with. Don't want any kind of relationship or anything happening tonight with a 15 year old girl<|endoftext|> | [
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TITLE:
POST: Me and one another (M 18) friend like to every now and then get on the roof of a local building to have a drink or two and just chat into the night. We agreed we'd go tonight too.
However, without me knowing earlier, he just announced that he was bringing his girlfriend, and her sister (F 15), with whom the two of them are trying to set me up with.
Her sister intoroduced her to me about two weeks ago, and all we ever did since, was exchange a few "Hi's" when we walked past each other.
Apparently she has a huge crush on me, and can't wait to get some alone time with me tonight.
However, I *do not* wish to have any kind of relationship or have anything happen tonight with a 15 year old girl. Even though she looks older, I can't help but feel she is still 15 in her mind.
I'm having worries about damaging her self respect if I just straight up tell her nothing's gonna happen because she's too young. I also don't want to just not show up and make her be a third wheel.
Any advice is welcome.
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TITLE:
POST: Me and one another (M 18) friend like to every now and then get on the roof of a local building to have a drink or two and just chat into the night. We agreed we'd go tonight too.
However, without me knowing earlier, he just announced that he was bringing his girlfriend, and her sister (F 15), with whom the two of them are trying to set me up with.
Her sister intoroduced her to me about two weeks ago, and all we ever did since, was exchange a few "Hi's" when we walked past each other.
Apparently she has a huge crush on me, and can't wait to get some alone time with me tonight.
However, I *do not* wish to have any kind of relationship or have anything happen tonight with a 15 year old girl. Even though she looks older, I can't help but feel she is still 15 in her mind.
I'm having worries about damaging her self respect if I just straight up tell her nothing's gonna happen because she's too young. I also don't want to just not show up and make her be a third wheel.
Any advice is welcome.
TL;DR: Friend and I agree to go roof top for a drink. Turns out he's bringing his girlfriend and her sister along. Not sure how to politely decline them without upsetting her or ruining our plans.<|endoftext|> | [
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I'm an apprentice right now in my company and my boss leaves for another job at the end of the month so my bosses boss has asked me to take over the guy who's leavings job.
It's great and all and i could see myself doing it but the plan has always been to do greater things in my life, so engineer was the obvious choice.
The only thing that is stopping me from ending it right now is doing something great, leaving an imprint on the world.
i know this will require A LOT of work because the only way i can add something new to the world is by learning everything the people in my field knew before me, and only then will i have a chance. | How can i learn up on this and leave a mark, maybe just create something new?
THANKS! | Whats the best way to learn that one thing that will make an impact on the world?
THANKS! | [
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POST: I'm an apprentice right now in my company and my boss leaves for another job at the end of the month so my bosses boss has asked me to take over the guy who's leavings job.
It's great and all and i could see myself doing it but the plan has always been to do greater things in my life, so engineer was the obvious choice.
The only thing that is stopping me from ending it right now is doing something great, leaving an imprint on the world.
i know this will require A LOT of work because the only way i can add something new to the world is by learning everything the people in my field knew before me, and only then will i have a chance.
TL;DR: Whats the best way to learn that one thing that will make an impact on the world?
THANKS!<|endoftext|> | [
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But I also don't want to be treated like I'm subhuman. Maybe I need some things repeated or written down but I don't think that qualifies me as less than. Every bit of information she grabs about me because ammo in a gun of put downs.
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POST: I'm almost entirely deaf in one ear and I have a speech impediment due to a ton of concussions.
I work in a pharmacy and one of the pharmacists is the type who believes that disabled people should be locked up and put away or culled. Tiger mom, survival of the fittest, sent her 16 year old to UMASS to become a pharmacist too. So she doesn't know I am HOH because I see how she treats HOH patients and I can barely tolerate her treating me like I don't even know what cough syrup is and telling me shit like its good my mom died because obviously she was a bad mother (which was HAHA FAHNNY JOEK when I called her on it). I don't want that.
But I also don't want to be treated like I'm subhuman. Maybe I need some things repeated or written down but I don't think that qualifies me as less than. Every bit of information she grabs about me because ammo in a gun of put downs.
I don't know how much longer I can deal with the constant verbal abuse and hostility. It's a new job so I'm in 0 position to make any complaint. I'm just in a very tough spot because I'm in hell with this boss already but I'd be in more hell if she knew. :( I don't know what to do.
TL;DR: | I am hard of hearing and boss lady thinks I'm mentally disabled as a result and harasses me what do<|endoftext|> | [
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TITLE:
POST: I'm almost entirely deaf in one ear and I have a speech impediment due to a ton of concussions.
I work in a pharmacy and one of the pharmacists is the type who believes that disabled people should be locked up and put away or culled. Tiger mom, survival of the fittest, sent her 16 year old to UMASS to become a pharmacist too. So she doesn't know I am HOH because I see how she treats HOH patients and I can barely tolerate her treating me like I don't even know what cough syrup is and telling me shit like its good my mom died because obviously she was a bad mother (which was HAHA FAHNNY JOEK when I called her on it). I don't want that.
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I am 21 years old and I actually have never had a girlfriend. I am NOT desperate and I am willing to wait for the right girl, but I would have hoped for some relationship experience. I am not a virgin however I had one fling that lasted for a few months late last year and early into this year. In high school I didn't talk to a lot of girls because a majority of them were typical of high school girls who cared more about looks rather than personality and plus I focused more on becoming a better musician(I'm a guitar player BTW). My confidence is improving. I have a nice circle of friends some of whom I have known my whole life and others I've gotten to know in recent times. I am a bit awkward at times, but overall a cool person. Today a friend of mine helped me a person that works with a talent agency that would help me get guitar playing jobs whether it be live or for studio recording and I would be getting paid for it. I am going to a community college at the moment. I am a bit shy around girls, but I have improved on this quite a bit in the last few years. I've tried dating websites like POF and Meetme and currently on OkCupid which I'm really close to deleting my account because I send good thoughtful messages to girls linking some common interests and a good majority of the women on there are not even that attractive and they're just as superficial as women that would be a 9 or 10 on scale claiming they want the perfect man and all that other bullshit. I enjoy sports both playing and watching them.
My hobbies includes guitar playing(10 years), fishing, and roller hockey.
I would really like to know what places I can meet more women and how I can truly improve my chances of getting to know them better and maybe something might happen, but who knows | I'm 21 and I have never had a girlfriend(but have had flings) and I would like to know what to do to improve my chances of finding a girlfriend. | I am 21 and never had a girlfriend and I need advice for how I can improve my chances of finding a girlfriend, and perhaps something might happen | [
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POST: I am 21 years old and I actually have never had a girlfriend. I am NOT desperate and I am willing to wait for the right girl, but I would have hoped for some relationship experience. I am not a virgin however I had one fling that lasted for a few months late last year and early into this year. In high school I didn't talk to a lot of girls because a majority of them were typical of high school girls who cared more about looks rather than personality and plus I focused more on becoming a better musician(I'm a guitar player BTW). My confidence is improving. I have a nice circle of friends some of whom I have known my whole life and others I've gotten to know in recent times. I am a bit awkward at times, but overall a cool person. Today a friend of mine helped me a person that works with a talent agency that would help me get guitar playing jobs whether it be live or for studio recording and I would be getting paid for it. I am going to a community college at the moment. I am a bit shy around girls, but I have improved on this quite a bit in the last few years. I've tried dating websites like POF and Meetme and currently on OkCupid which I'm really close to deleting my account because I send good thoughtful messages to girls linking some common interests and a good majority of the women on there are not even that attractive and they're just as superficial as women that would be a 9 or 10 on scale claiming they want the perfect man and all that other bullshit. I enjoy sports both playing and watching them.
My hobbies includes guitar playing(10 years), fishing, and roller hockey.
I would really like to know what places I can meet more women and how I can truly improve my chances of getting to know them better and maybe something might happen, but who knows
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My hobbies includes guitar playing(10 years), fishing, and roller hockey.
I would really like to know what places I can meet more women and how I can truly improve my chances of getting to know them better and maybe something might happen, but who knows
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POST: I am 21 years old and I actually have never had a girlfriend. I am NOT desperate and I am willing to wait for the right girl, but I would have hoped for some relationship experience. I am not a virgin however I had one fling that lasted for a few months late last year and early into this year. In high school I didn't talk to a lot of girls because a majority of them were typical of high school girls who cared more about looks rather than personality and plus I focused more on becoming a better musician(I'm a guitar player BTW). My confidence is improving. I have a nice circle of friends some of whom I have known my whole life and others I've gotten to know in recent times. I am a bit awkward at times, but overall a cool person. Today a friend of mine helped me a person that works with a talent agency that would help me get guitar playing jobs whether it be live or for studio recording and I would be getting paid for it. I am going to a community college at the moment. I am a bit shy around girls, but I have improved on this quite a bit in the last few years. I've tried dating websites like POF and Meetme and currently on OkCupid which I'm really close to deleting my account because I send good thoughtful messages to girls linking some common interests and a good majority of the women on there are not even that attractive and they're just as superficial as women that would be a 9 or 10 on scale claiming they want the perfect man and all that other bullshit. I enjoy sports both playing and watching them.
My hobbies includes guitar playing(10 years), fishing, and roller hockey.
I would really like to know what places I can meet more women and how I can truly improve my chances of getting to know them better and maybe something might happen, but who knows
TL;DR: I am 21 and never had a girlfriend and I need advice for how I can improve my chances of finding a girlfriend, and perhaps something might happen<|endoftext|> | [
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So basically, we broke up, I started seeing another girl. We fooled around a little but never went all the way, just because, I don't know why. I just wasn't feeling it.
Meanwhile my ex slept with two other men. One was just a one night stand. But the other was a reoccurring affair with a guy in a relationship. This guy is kind of notorious for sleeping around on his girlfriend, but she claims she didn't know that at the time. I showed up at a party one night and she just happened to be there. We talked for awhile, I knew what was going on but had kind of accepted it. It all kind of blew up when he showed up, with another girl, and tried to call my then-ex out for being upset and embarrass her. I instinctively stuck up for her, almost started a fight, and made him leave. Which led to a series of events that ended with us getting back together.
Now that we're together, I can't seem to get over the fact that she's slept with other people. I feel so immature. I find myself getting mad out of nowhere and bringing it up. I think about during sex with her. I think about it while I jack off. I think about it at work. Here's the kicker though, I think it might just be that he has a bigger dick than I do. No shit. I'm that low and immature. I had heard from a girl friend that had been with him that he was "hung" and I made a joke about it to my girlfriend while she was my ex. She told me that "yeah it's big but you're still better than he is at it." while we were broken up. So I don't think she had any reason to patronize me, as we weren't together and I wasn't bothered by it at the time. I just want to know how to get over this. I feel stupid. | Girlfriend and I broke up, she slept with another guy. I can't get over it. I think just because his dick is bigger than mine. I feel very immature. How do I get over it? | Ex cheated. I was the one who found out, but the only reason we got back together was because I had a crush on her. I can't get over her dick size. | [
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POST: So basically, we broke up, I started seeing another girl. We fooled around a little but never went all the way, just because, I don't know why. I just wasn't feeling it.
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Now that we're together, I can't seem to get over the fact that she's slept with other people. I feel so immature. I find myself getting mad out of nowhere and bringing it up. I think about during sex with her. I think about it while I jack off. I think about it at work. Here's the kicker though, I think it might just be that he has a bigger dick than I do. No shit. I'm that low and immature. I had heard from a girl friend that had been with him that he was "hung" and I made a joke about it to my girlfriend while she was my ex. She told me that "yeah it's big but you're still better than he is at it." while we were broken up. So I don't think she had any reason to patronize me, as we weren't together and I wasn't bothered by it at the time. I just want to know how to get over this. I feel stupid.
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POST: Welcome to college, right? I'm 23/f and I have a crush on my 22-25/m TA. I haven't made any big moves yet as the semester just ended, but I'm pretty sure he's into me. We exchanged emails (though always initiated by me) on non-school topics occasionally and after the final I sent him an "I like you. Let's be friends." situation. Insert some nerd-related banter and his "and now we're friends" and you're up to date. Nothing particular to make me think he's interested except a feeling. He's initiated conversation with me irl, though I have avoided eye-contact/him in general during the semester because I am awkward and didn't want to put him in a weird situation, etc. I want to ask him to coffee, but I'm not sure how. I'm nervous about actually having coffee with him as that will mean eye-contact and conversation. I only have his email. To me it seems obvious that I'm interested, so should I wait to see if he makes a move?
TL;DR: | I like my TA, I have his email, and we've been emailing non-school-related stuff. How should I communicate my interest/like/want to ask him out?<|endoftext|> | [
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POST: Welcome to college, right? I'm 23/f and I have a crush on my 22-25/m TA. I haven't made any big moves yet as the semester just ended, but I'm pretty sure he's into me. We exchanged emails (though always initiated by me) on non-school topics occasionally and after the final I sent him an "I like you. Let's be friends." situation. Insert some nerd-related banter and his "and now we're friends" and you're up to date. Nothing particular to make me think he's interested except a feeling. He's initiated conversation with me irl, though I have avoided eye-contact/him in general during the semester because I am awkward and didn't want to put him in a weird situation, etc. I want to ask him to coffee, but I'm not sure how. I'm nervous about actually having coffee with him as that will mean eye-contact and conversation. I only have his email. To me it seems obvious that I'm interested, so should I wait to see if he makes a move?
TL;DR: ? crush on my TA, he might feel the same. want to ask him to coffee but am not sure how, or if I should wait<|endoftext|> | [
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We were together for about 2 years, and he was my first true love. I've had boyfriends before but this was the first guy i truly fell in love with. The past 2 years weren't easy, I'm in university full time and he works full time so it was hard a lot to see each other. On top of that, I have some really bad anxiety issues which caused some stress in our relationship. Lately things weren't great and we were fighting quite a bit, but I still loved him more then I thought I ever could. Today he told me that he didn't think things we working, and I begged him to give me a chance, to not give up on us, but he had made up his mind. I see where he is coming from, and if he isn't happy then I don't want to force him to be with me.
My problem is that I'm realizing now everything that I will never have again. I'll never get to kiss him, to hug him, to tell him I love him, or even hold his hand. My friends are all telling me that it will get better, and I know they are right, but at the moment I'm having a hard time imagining my life without him. My heart has never really been broken before, and I just don't know to deal with it all. | Boyfriend broke up with me because he doesn't think we can make it anymore, I don't know how to handle the emotions. | My boyfriend broke up with me because of my anxiety and I don't know how to cope with it. | [
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POST: We were together for about 2 years, and he was my first true love. I've had boyfriends before but this was the first guy i truly fell in love with. The past 2 years weren't easy, I'm in university full time and he works full time so it was hard a lot to see each other. On top of that, I have some really bad anxiety issues which caused some stress in our relationship. Lately things weren't great and we were fighting quite a bit, but I still loved him more then I thought I ever could. Today he told me that he didn't think things we working, and I begged him to give me a chance, to not give up on us, but he had made up his mind. I see where he is coming from, and if he isn't happy then I don't want to force him to be with me.
My problem is that I'm realizing now everything that I will never have again. I'll never get to kiss him, to hug him, to tell him I love him, or even hold his hand. My friends are all telling me that it will get better, and I know they are right, but at the moment I'm having a hard time imagining my life without him. My heart has never really been broken before, and I just don't know to deal with it all.
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However, I have been feeling very insecure about myself in the relationship. I have previously been bullied and have had issues with my self-confidence.
We are both attractive people and when we go out in clubs my boyfriend gets attention quite a lot. I feel very uncomfortable about this and have also some trust issues. It's all down to my low self-esteem and insecurity about my looks.
I just don't feel like I'm enough and that my boyfriend would prefer the other girls. I take it very heavily when he refuses sex when I initiate it, that seems to happen quite often and I have talked to him about this a little but I'm not sure if he really understod how big of an issue this is for me and how often he does that and how it makes me feel very rejected and unattractive. He also looks at girls online sometimes and seems to get turned on by them, and watches porn. I sometimes feel he prefers them over having sex with me.
I know it's very silly as he's obviously chosen me for a reason, but this bothers me daily and the last thing to do is to cause problems in our relationships because of this. I hate being insecure and teary all the time, and I really like being with my boyfriend so I want to make myself and him happy.
Please Reddit, if you have any advice or comments how I should solve this issue, please share. Big thanks. | 25/f has insecurity and trust issues in a 3 months old relationship with bf (m/24), doesn't feel attractive or good enough for boyfriend who gets lots of attention and enjoys watching porn/attractive girls online and often refuses sex when I initiate. Please give your best advice! | I have low self-esteem and feel insecure in relationship with my boyfriend and don't know how to solve it. | [
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POST: Me (25/f) and my boyfriend (24/m) have been together for 3 months now. It has been a very intensive and happy relationship so far and we have a lot of fun together.
However, I have been feeling very insecure about myself in the relationship. I have previously been bullied and have had issues with my self-confidence.
We are both attractive people and when we go out in clubs my boyfriend gets attention quite a lot. I feel very uncomfortable about this and have also some trust issues. It's all down to my low self-esteem and insecurity about my looks.
I just don't feel like I'm enough and that my boyfriend would prefer the other girls. I take it very heavily when he refuses sex when I initiate it, that seems to happen quite often and I have talked to him about this a little but I'm not sure if he really understod how big of an issue this is for me and how often he does that and how it makes me feel very rejected and unattractive. He also looks at girls online sometimes and seems to get turned on by them, and watches porn. I sometimes feel he prefers them over having sex with me.
I know it's very silly as he's obviously chosen me for a reason, but this bothers me daily and the last thing to do is to cause problems in our relationships because of this. I hate being insecure and teary all the time, and I really like being with my boyfriend so I want to make myself and him happy.
Please Reddit, if you have any advice or comments how I should solve this issue, please share. Big thanks.
TL;DR: | 25/f has insecurity and trust issues in a 3 months old relationship with bf (m/24), doesn't feel attractive or good enough for boyfriend who gets lots of attention and enjoys watching porn/attractive girls online and often refuses sex when I initiate. Please give your best advice!<|endoftext|> | [
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POST: Me (25/f) and my boyfriend (24/m) have been together for 3 months now. It has been a very intensive and happy relationship so far and we have a lot of fun together.
However, I have been feeling very insecure about myself in the relationship. I have previously been bullied and have had issues with my self-confidence.
We are both attractive people and when we go out in clubs my boyfriend gets attention quite a lot. I feel very uncomfortable about this and have also some trust issues. It's all down to my low self-esteem and insecurity about my looks.
I just don't feel like I'm enough and that my boyfriend would prefer the other girls. I take it very heavily when he refuses sex when I initiate it, that seems to happen quite often and I have talked to him about this a little but I'm not sure if he really understod how big of an issue this is for me and how often he does that and how it makes me feel very rejected and unattractive. He also looks at girls online sometimes and seems to get turned on by them, and watches porn. I sometimes feel he prefers them over having sex with me.
I know it's very silly as he's obviously chosen me for a reason, but this bothers me daily and the last thing to do is to cause problems in our relationships because of this. I hate being insecure and teary all the time, and I really like being with my boyfriend so I want to make myself and him happy.
Please Reddit, if you have any advice or comments how I should solve this issue, please share. Big thanks.
TL;DR: 25/f has insecurity and trust issues in a 3 months old relationship with bf (m/24), doesn't feel attractive or good enough for boyfriend who gets lots of attention and enjoys watching porn/attractive girls online and often refuses sex when I initiate. Please give your best advice!<|endoftext|> | [
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TITLE:
POST: Me (25/f) and my boyfriend (24/m) have been together for 3 months now. It has been a very intensive and happy relationship so far and we have a lot of fun together.
However, I have been feeling very insecure about myself in the relationship. I have previously been bullied and have had issues with my self-confidence.
We are both attractive people and when we go out in clubs my boyfriend gets attention quite a lot. I feel very uncomfortable about this and have also some trust issues. It's all down to my low self-esteem and insecurity about my looks.
I just don't feel like I'm enough and that my boyfriend would prefer the other girls. I take it very heavily when he refuses sex when I initiate it, that seems to happen quite often and I have talked to him about this a little but I'm not sure if he really understod how big of an issue this is for me and how often he does that and how it makes me feel very rejected and unattractive. He also looks at girls online sometimes and seems to get turned on by them, and watches porn. I sometimes feel he prefers them over having sex with me.
I know it's very silly as he's obviously chosen me for a reason, but this bothers me daily and the last thing to do is to cause problems in our relationships because of this. I hate being insecure and teary all the time, and I really like being with my boyfriend so I want to make myself and him happy.
Please Reddit, if you have any advice or comments how I should solve this issue, please share. Big thanks.
TL;DR: I have low self-esteem and feel insecure in relationship with my boyfriend and don't know how to solve it.<|endoftext|> | [
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Years later (now) I saw a urologist and he knew of my prior condition but had me do a semen analasys as well as get an ultrasound. Well I got a letter today saying they found abnormalities that could lead to me not being able to have kids. I can't find out results for 2 weeks when my apt. is. He already knew about my vericocele, now I'm worried it could be something else, or my existing condition is more severe than thought?
What does Reddit think, advice, similiar stories? I don't know what I'll do if I can't have kids.. that's my biggest goal in life. Class and work started back today so right after reading that letter I'm now super stressed.. I just needed to vent a little and I dont want to tell anyone I personally know yet. | I might not be able to have kids, wont know for 2 weeks (or longer) and I don't know who to tell, if anyone. I'm freakin' out. | got a letter from urologist today saying my situation is a threat to my future child. What can I do? | [
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What does Reddit think, advice, similiar stories? I don't know what I'll do if I can't have kids.. that's my biggest goal in life. Class and work started back today so right after reading that letter I'm now super stressed.. I just needed to vent a little and I dont want to tell anyone I personally know yet.
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POST: I've always been a very skinny guy growing up, I've also always felt I had a disadvantage as far as the ability to gain weight and felt less masculine than others. This lead me to a local small town Dr who said I had vericocele on one side; however, it shouldn't be a problem with anything, especially testosterone.
Years later (now) I saw a urologist and he knew of my prior condition but had me do a semen analasys as well as get an ultrasound. Well I got a letter today saying they found abnormalities that could lead to me not being able to have kids. I can't find out results for 2 weeks when my apt. is. He already knew about my vericocele, now I'm worried it could be something else, or my existing condition is more severe than thought?
What does Reddit think, advice, similiar stories? I don't know what I'll do if I can't have kids.. that's my biggest goal in life. Class and work started back today so right after reading that letter I'm now super stressed.. I just needed to vent a little and I dont want to tell anyone I personally know yet.
TL;DR: got a letter from urologist today saying my situation is a threat to my future child. What can I do?<|endoftext|> | [
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Hello /r/legal advice.
My SO's company is in dire times, they filed for bankruptcy and things are going downhill quickly.
Earlier this year, before they filed for bankruptcy, she asked for a raise. They agreed to give her a raise, but she would keep her old salary until July, in which they would start to back pay her what they owe her for her new salary. (She has this signed in writing)
July came and went, she never saw her back pay or higher salary. Then the company filed for bankruptcy and things are still going downhill fast.
Does she have a shot to get her money back? Should we Lawyer up and see what our options are? How do you get money from a company with no money?
[ | ] SO's company filed for bankruptcy and they owe her back pay they don't have money for. How do we get her money back? | SO got a raise, never saw the money, now company is filing for bankruptcy] | [
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TITLE:
POST: Hello /r/legal advice.
My SO's company is in dire times, they filed for bankruptcy and things are going downhill quickly.
Earlier this year, before they filed for bankruptcy, she asked for a raise. They agreed to give her a raise, but she would keep her old salary until July, in which they would start to back pay her what they owe her for her new salary. (She has this signed in writing)
July came and went, she never saw her back pay or higher salary. Then the company filed for bankruptcy and things are still going downhill fast.
Does she have a shot to get her money back? Should we Lawyer up and see what our options are? How do you get money from a company with no money?
[
TL;DR: | ] SO's company filed for bankruptcy and they owe her back pay they don't have money for. How do we get her money back?<|endoftext|> | [
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POST: Hello /r/legal advice.
My SO's company is in dire times, they filed for bankruptcy and things are going downhill quickly.
Earlier this year, before they filed for bankruptcy, she asked for a raise. They agreed to give her a raise, but she would keep her old salary until July, in which they would start to back pay her what they owe her for her new salary. (She has this signed in writing)
July came and went, she never saw her back pay or higher salary. Then the company filed for bankruptcy and things are still going downhill fast.
Does she have a shot to get her money back? Should we Lawyer up and see what our options are? How do you get money from a company with no money?
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TITLE:
POST: Hello /r/legal advice.
My SO's company is in dire times, they filed for bankruptcy and things are going downhill quickly.
Earlier this year, before they filed for bankruptcy, she asked for a raise. They agreed to give her a raise, but she would keep her old salary until July, in which they would start to back pay her what they owe her for her new salary. (She has this signed in writing)
July came and went, she never saw her back pay or higher salary. Then the company filed for bankruptcy and things are still going downhill fast.
Does she have a shot to get her money back? Should we Lawyer up and see what our options are? How do you get money from a company with no money?
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POST: I have been diagnosed with Bipolar disorder and receive VA compensation for it for quite some time. So I had a job that required an insane amount of attention to detail, I wasn't doing a terrible job, but I did forget some thing, and get mixed up. A few months ago I got unofficially written up for errors, poor work product est... Things got better I found some solutions. Even though I have had this diagnosis for some time I did some research and found that it is common for people with bipolar to have issues with concentration. Well I get a little help with some ADHD meds from my doc, it helps...some. Mind you I am not a complete f#@k up, they did keep me around for about a year. So yesterday I finished some paperwork and it was wrong, I overwrote a file, just stupid stuff. Well I get an official write up. After I have a one-on-one with the head guy (its a small office) after my supervisor leaves. While talking about the issues and how it can be resolved I disclose that I have bipolar disorder and I think that the meds may be making things harder, brain fog and the like, I say I am changing medication adding the ADHD stuff, he is ok with it, says he takes some medication too, and suggests that I talk to my doctor and adjust my medication. Well this morning rolls around and I go and talk to my immediate supervisor and thing of solutions. Day goes on and the head guy calls me in and the HR lady is there. They tell me they are letting me go because I am on medication, and the work they do is safety critical. I had no chance to make any personal changes, I did not explicitly say that I needed reasonable accommodation, but I did say that I think the medication because of the Bipolar is causing issues. Noted that the job was to program control systems for the railroad, the work needs to be very safe and all that, but I am just a low level employee and my work gets checked three or more times.
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POST: I have been diagnosed with Bipolar disorder and receive VA compensation for it for quite some time. So I had a job that required an insane amount of attention to detail, I wasn't doing a terrible job, but I did forget some thing, and get mixed up. A few months ago I got unofficially written up for errors, poor work product est... Things got better I found some solutions. Even though I have had this diagnosis for some time I did some research and found that it is common for people with bipolar to have issues with concentration. Well I get a little help with some ADHD meds from my doc, it helps...some. Mind you I am not a complete f#@k up, they did keep me around for about a year. So yesterday I finished some paperwork and it was wrong, I overwrote a file, just stupid stuff. Well I get an official write up. After I have a one-on-one with the head guy (its a small office) after my supervisor leaves. While talking about the issues and how it can be resolved I disclose that I have bipolar disorder and I think that the meds may be making things harder, brain fog and the like, I say I am changing medication adding the ADHD stuff, he is ok with it, says he takes some medication too, and suggests that I talk to my doctor and adjust my medication. Well this morning rolls around and I go and talk to my immediate supervisor and thing of solutions. Day goes on and the head guy calls me in and the HR lady is there. They tell me they are letting me go because I am on medication, and the work they do is safety critical. I had no chance to make any personal changes, I did not explicitly say that I needed reasonable accommodation, but I did say that I think the medication because of the Bipolar is causing issues. Noted that the job was to program control systems for the railroad, the work needs to be very safe and all that, but I am just a low level employee and my work gets checked three or more times.
TL;DR: Had an issue with paperwork, disclose I have bipolar disorder, fired today bc of that, think its the meds though. What should i do?<|endoftext|> | [
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Not 100% sure if this is the right place but here we go.
Okay so Last week I (M21) met a girl (23) while riding a bus home from hanging out with some friends. We hit it off and she asks me if I have a girlfriend, I say no and eventually ask if she has a boyfriend, also no.
So we keep talking, I get to my stop and ask for her number, she had told me earlier that she had lost her phone, so she gave me her facebook. I send her a friend request, we talk a little more, and on Teusday I asked her if she would want to see a movie sometime, the nothing.
So my question is, should I wait a little longer to start trying to talk to her again, say something now, or just give up as a lost cause? | met a girl, asked her out, she said no, asked her out again, no response. | Met a girl who doesn't have a boyfriend, asked her out, she said no, but still wants to see me. | [
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TITLE:
POST: Not 100% sure if this is the right place but here we go.
Okay so Last week I (M21) met a girl (23) while riding a bus home from hanging out with some friends. We hit it off and she asks me if I have a girlfriend, I say no and eventually ask if she has a boyfriend, also no.
So we keep talking, I get to my stop and ask for her number, she had told me earlier that she had lost her phone, so she gave me her facebook. I send her a friend request, we talk a little more, and on Teusday I asked her if she would want to see a movie sometime, the nothing.
So my question is, should I wait a little longer to start trying to talk to her again, say something now, or just give up as a lost cause?
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TITLE:
POST: Not 100% sure if this is the right place but here we go.
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POST: Not 100% sure if this is the right place but here we go.
Okay so Last week I (M21) met a girl (23) while riding a bus home from hanging out with some friends. We hit it off and she asks me if I have a girlfriend, I say no and eventually ask if she has a boyfriend, also no.
So we keep talking, I get to my stop and ask for her number, she had told me earlier that she had lost her phone, so she gave me her facebook. I send her a friend request, we talk a little more, and on Teusday I asked her if she would want to see a movie sometime, the nothing.
So my question is, should I wait a little longer to start trying to talk to her again, say something now, or just give up as a lost cause?
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Here's where it gets tricky. After only a few weeks of school/dating, she leaves at the request of her family to take the semester off. She had suffered abuse from her mom after her parents got divorced and was still very effected by it. She went to live with her sister a while in a city that's 9 hours away from where I go to school. We decided to keep things long distance since we really had a good thing going.
After about a week of being away and texting/talking every day. She says that she/her family decided she will be transferring and not coming back to school here. Along with that, she needs to focus on herself (therapy for the abuse), so we can't be in a relationship.
I handled it very well. I let her know that I still very much cared about her and that I would still be here for her. She was very pleased at this, told me that she still had a lot of feelings for me and said we should keep in touch.
I haven't talked to her in two days, and its killing me. I miss her a lot, but want to give her space so she can figure out what she needs (and also maybe miss me).
So, what do I do? My plan is to wait about a week and then talk to her and see how she's doing. We had made a lot of plans to see each other while were apart. Should I try to do this? What should my course of action be? | Girlfriend left school to focus on her own issues (abuse) and not be with me anymore. Need advice on how to handle the situation/not give up on us. | Girlfriend of 5 months left school to focus on herself. Want to hang out/talk but don't know if i should take a break due to wounds still lingering. | [
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POST: I'm a senior in college. Last school year I was hooking up with this girl who was a freshman and we both liked each other. We kept talking over the summer and when we got back to school we started dating. We fell for each other... hard. There is definitely a special chemistry between us that's better than any I've felt in the past (and she felt it too).
Here's where it gets tricky. After only a few weeks of school/dating, she leaves at the request of her family to take the semester off. She had suffered abuse from her mom after her parents got divorced and was still very effected by it. She went to live with her sister a while in a city that's 9 hours away from where I go to school. We decided to keep things long distance since we really had a good thing going.
After about a week of being away and texting/talking every day. She says that she/her family decided she will be transferring and not coming back to school here. Along with that, she needs to focus on herself (therapy for the abuse), so we can't be in a relationship.
I handled it very well. I let her know that I still very much cared about her and that I would still be here for her. She was very pleased at this, told me that she still had a lot of feelings for me and said we should keep in touch.
I haven't talked to her in two days, and its killing me. I miss her a lot, but want to give her space so she can figure out what she needs (and also maybe miss me).
So, what do I do? My plan is to wait about a week and then talk to her and see how she's doing. We had made a lot of plans to see each other while were apart. Should I try to do this? What should my course of action be?
TL;DR: | Girlfriend left school to focus on her own issues (abuse) and not be with me anymore. Need advice on how to handle the situation/not give up on us.<|endoftext|> | [
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POST: I'm a senior in college. Last school year I was hooking up with this girl who was a freshman and we both liked each other. We kept talking over the summer and when we got back to school we started dating. We fell for each other... hard. There is definitely a special chemistry between us that's better than any I've felt in the past (and she felt it too).
Here's where it gets tricky. After only a few weeks of school/dating, she leaves at the request of her family to take the semester off. She had suffered abuse from her mom after her parents got divorced and was still very effected by it. She went to live with her sister a while in a city that's 9 hours away from where I go to school. We decided to keep things long distance since we really had a good thing going.
After about a week of being away and texting/talking every day. She says that she/her family decided she will be transferring and not coming back to school here. Along with that, she needs to focus on herself (therapy for the abuse), so we can't be in a relationship.
I handled it very well. I let her know that I still very much cared about her and that I would still be here for her. She was very pleased at this, told me that she still had a lot of feelings for me and said we should keep in touch.
I haven't talked to her in two days, and its killing me. I miss her a lot, but want to give her space so she can figure out what she needs (and also maybe miss me).
So, what do I do? My plan is to wait about a week and then talk to her and see how she's doing. We had made a lot of plans to see each other while were apart. Should I try to do this? What should my course of action be?
TL;DR: Girlfriend left school to focus on her own issues (abuse) and not be with me anymore. Need advice on how to handle the situation/not give up on us.<|endoftext|> | [
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POST: I'm a senior in college. Last school year I was hooking up with this girl who was a freshman and we both liked each other. We kept talking over the summer and when we got back to school we started dating. We fell for each other... hard. There is definitely a special chemistry between us that's better than any I've felt in the past (and she felt it too).
Here's where it gets tricky. After only a few weeks of school/dating, she leaves at the request of her family to take the semester off. She had suffered abuse from her mom after her parents got divorced and was still very effected by it. She went to live with her sister a while in a city that's 9 hours away from where I go to school. We decided to keep things long distance since we really had a good thing going.
After about a week of being away and texting/talking every day. She says that she/her family decided she will be transferring and not coming back to school here. Along with that, she needs to focus on herself (therapy for the abuse), so we can't be in a relationship.
I handled it very well. I let her know that I still very much cared about her and that I would still be here for her. She was very pleased at this, told me that she still had a lot of feelings for me and said we should keep in touch.
I haven't talked to her in two days, and its killing me. I miss her a lot, but want to give her space so she can figure out what she needs (and also maybe miss me).
So, what do I do? My plan is to wait about a week and then talk to her and see how she's doing. We had made a lot of plans to see each other while were apart. Should I try to do this? What should my course of action be?
TL;DR: Girlfriend of 5 months left school to focus on herself. Want to hang out/talk but don't know if i should take a break due to wounds still lingering.<|endoftext|> | [
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Apologies for formatting issues, I'm on my phone.
I've never been the jealous type before. I usually have complete trust in my partners so I've never had an issue with jealousy before. Which has led to me being burned before with multiple partners having cheated.
I've been with my SO for almost a year and friends long before that. We bonded over a love of reddit. About a month ago, she mentioned a slight crush on a redditor in a sub we both frequent. She's mentioned the user before but I've never really thought much of it.
A few days ago I found out they have been messaging and talking outside reddit. I instantly felt panic? Anger? Fear? Jealousy?
I jokingly asked if I should be worried to which she replied that the redditor was taken. Not that she loves me. Not that she's not interested. Not that I have nothing to worry about. I didn't reply and we didn't discuss it further now things are awkward between us.
I know my SO loves me and wouldn't do anything to hurt me. I don't think she would ever cheat. I completely trust her though I guess my judgement has never been 20/20.
Am I right to feel jealous? Is that what this feeling is? Am I over-reacting? Or is this normal and I should just let her make a new 'friend' | SO has a crush on someone who is taken. I'm feeling jealous for the first time. Should I be? | My gf has a crush on another redditor, didn't deny she's interested when I ask if I should be worried. Now I feel jealous for the first time ever. | [
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TITLE:
POST: Apologies for formatting issues, I'm on my phone.
I've never been the jealous type before. I usually have complete trust in my partners so I've never had an issue with jealousy before. Which has led to me being burned before with multiple partners having cheated.
I've been with my SO for almost a year and friends long before that. We bonded over a love of reddit. About a month ago, she mentioned a slight crush on a redditor in a sub we both frequent. She's mentioned the user before but I've never really thought much of it.
A few days ago I found out they have been messaging and talking outside reddit. I instantly felt panic? Anger? Fear? Jealousy?
I jokingly asked if I should be worried to which she replied that the redditor was taken. Not that she loves me. Not that she's not interested. Not that I have nothing to worry about. I didn't reply and we didn't discuss it further now things are awkward between us.
I know my SO loves me and wouldn't do anything to hurt me. I don't think she would ever cheat. I completely trust her though I guess my judgement has never been 20/20.
Am I right to feel jealous? Is that what this feeling is? Am I over-reacting? Or is this normal and I should just let her make a new 'friend'
TL;DR: | SO has a crush on someone who is taken. I'm feeling jealous for the first time. Should I be?<|endoftext|> | [
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TITLE:
POST: Apologies for formatting issues, I'm on my phone.
I've never been the jealous type before. I usually have complete trust in my partners so I've never had an issue with jealousy before. Which has led to me being burned before with multiple partners having cheated.
I've been with my SO for almost a year and friends long before that. We bonded over a love of reddit. About a month ago, she mentioned a slight crush on a redditor in a sub we both frequent. She's mentioned the user before but I've never really thought much of it.
A few days ago I found out they have been messaging and talking outside reddit. I instantly felt panic? Anger? Fear? Jealousy?
I jokingly asked if I should be worried to which she replied that the redditor was taken. Not that she loves me. Not that she's not interested. Not that I have nothing to worry about. I didn't reply and we didn't discuss it further now things are awkward between us.
I know my SO loves me and wouldn't do anything to hurt me. I don't think she would ever cheat. I completely trust her though I guess my judgement has never been 20/20.
Am I right to feel jealous? Is that what this feeling is? Am I over-reacting? Or is this normal and I should just let her make a new 'friend'
TL;DR: SO has a crush on someone who is taken. I'm feeling jealous for the first time. Should I be?<|endoftext|> | [
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TITLE:
POST: Apologies for formatting issues, I'm on my phone.
I've never been the jealous type before. I usually have complete trust in my partners so I've never had an issue with jealousy before. Which has led to me being burned before with multiple partners having cheated.
I've been with my SO for almost a year and friends long before that. We bonded over a love of reddit. About a month ago, she mentioned a slight crush on a redditor in a sub we both frequent. She's mentioned the user before but I've never really thought much of it.
A few days ago I found out they have been messaging and talking outside reddit. I instantly felt panic? Anger? Fear? Jealousy?
I jokingly asked if I should be worried to which she replied that the redditor was taken. Not that she loves me. Not that she's not interested. Not that I have nothing to worry about. I didn't reply and we didn't discuss it further now things are awkward between us.
I know my SO loves me and wouldn't do anything to hurt me. I don't think she would ever cheat. I completely trust her though I guess my judgement has never been 20/20.
Am I right to feel jealous? Is that what this feeling is? Am I over-reacting? Or is this normal and I should just let her make a new 'friend'
TL;DR: My gf has a crush on another redditor, didn't deny she's interested when I ask if I should be worried. Now I feel jealous for the first time ever.<|endoftext|> | [
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I'm really close with my girlfirend and we usually see each other every day. She took a job as a medical attendant at a summer camp until the middle of August and stays there 6 days a week; I'm feeling lonely and a little jealous.
I've been away from my girlfriend for longish periods (around a month) when we've gone on separate vacations with our families, but this times a little different. She rarely has time to chat, and is engaged with a whole new group of friends who are counselors at the camp. I'm so used to chatting with her, the separation is making me lonely, and I hate it, but I can't help feeling a little jealous of her new friends.
I work early hours, 6:30-3:00, as a fabricator/welder with a good group of guys, but who are all older and have families to go home to, so I don't do much with coworkers. My good friends are all mostly unavailable because they all work afternoon shifts late into the evening, so I don't have many people to hang out with. My one day a week with my girl is amazing, but each week makes me miss her more with each parting.
I'm trying to fill my days up with exercise and any time with friends I can get, but it's not doing much. Hearing about how much fun my girlfriends having with her work makes me happy, but I can't help but feeling a little jealous at the same time.
So reddit, how can I make my next few weeks more entertaining? | Girlfriend took a new job drastically cutting down our time together, and I'm feeling mostly jealous. How can I make the time spend more enjoyable? | girlfriend took new job significantly cutting down our time together, making time to myself and hanging out with friends not possible, need help making it more enjoyable. | [
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POST: I'm really close with my girlfirend and we usually see each other every day. She took a job as a medical attendant at a summer camp until the middle of August and stays there 6 days a week; I'm feeling lonely and a little jealous.
I've been away from my girlfriend for longish periods (around a month) when we've gone on separate vacations with our families, but this times a little different. She rarely has time to chat, and is engaged with a whole new group of friends who are counselors at the camp. I'm so used to chatting with her, the separation is making me lonely, and I hate it, but I can't help feeling a little jealous of her new friends.
I work early hours, 6:30-3:00, as a fabricator/welder with a good group of guys, but who are all older and have families to go home to, so I don't do much with coworkers. My good friends are all mostly unavailable because they all work afternoon shifts late into the evening, so I don't have many people to hang out with. My one day a week with my girl is amazing, but each week makes me miss her more with each parting.
I'm trying to fill my days up with exercise and any time with friends I can get, but it's not doing much. Hearing about how much fun my girlfriends having with her work makes me happy, but I can't help but feeling a little jealous at the same time.
So reddit, how can I make my next few weeks more entertaining?
TL;DR: | Girlfriend took a new job drastically cutting down our time together, and I'm feeling mostly jealous. How can I make the time spend more enjoyable?<|endoftext|> | [
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POST: I'm really close with my girlfirend and we usually see each other every day. She took a job as a medical attendant at a summer camp until the middle of August and stays there 6 days a week; I'm feeling lonely and a little jealous.
I've been away from my girlfriend for longish periods (around a month) when we've gone on separate vacations with our families, but this times a little different. She rarely has time to chat, and is engaged with a whole new group of friends who are counselors at the camp. I'm so used to chatting with her, the separation is making me lonely, and I hate it, but I can't help feeling a little jealous of her new friends.
I work early hours, 6:30-3:00, as a fabricator/welder with a good group of guys, but who are all older and have families to go home to, so I don't do much with coworkers. My good friends are all mostly unavailable because they all work afternoon shifts late into the evening, so I don't have many people to hang out with. My one day a week with my girl is amazing, but each week makes me miss her more with each parting.
I'm trying to fill my days up with exercise and any time with friends I can get, but it's not doing much. Hearing about how much fun my girlfriends having with her work makes me happy, but I can't help but feeling a little jealous at the same time.
So reddit, how can I make my next few weeks more entertaining?
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POST: I'm really close with my girlfirend and we usually see each other every day. She took a job as a medical attendant at a summer camp until the middle of August and stays there 6 days a week; I'm feeling lonely and a little jealous.
I've been away from my girlfriend for longish periods (around a month) when we've gone on separate vacations with our families, but this times a little different. She rarely has time to chat, and is engaged with a whole new group of friends who are counselors at the camp. I'm so used to chatting with her, the separation is making me lonely, and I hate it, but I can't help feeling a little jealous of her new friends.
I work early hours, 6:30-3:00, as a fabricator/welder with a good group of guys, but who are all older and have families to go home to, so I don't do much with coworkers. My good friends are all mostly unavailable because they all work afternoon shifts late into the evening, so I don't have many people to hang out with. My one day a week with my girl is amazing, but each week makes me miss her more with each parting.
I'm trying to fill my days up with exercise and any time with friends I can get, but it's not doing much. Hearing about how much fun my girlfriends having with her work makes me happy, but I can't help but feeling a little jealous at the same time.
So reddit, how can I make my next few weeks more entertaining?
TL;DR: girlfriend took new job significantly cutting down our time together, making time to myself and hanging out with friends not possible, need help making it more enjoyable.<|endoftext|> | [
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POST: I'm getting married abroad next April 19th, just been to order my dress today :) (slight hiccup and changed my mind on a previous one!). We've had a lot of back and forth with the travel agents as well as the hotel and are struggling to pin down any details of our actual reception through, but we are hoping to have a beach bbq and a steel band. I feel like I'm leaving out all the finer details? Like cake toppers, table decorations, favours, etc.? The problem is I can't even get an answer on the layout of the day (I. E. I know what time we get married, but after that no clue when our wedding breakfast will be, or where, or what to do before or after). I'm not very good at sorting details and tying things together neatly, do you think I need to add some little details? Or do you think the beach setting (ceremony will also take place on the beach front) will be enough? Does anyone have any ideas for things I could encorporate to make it a little more personal? I'm even stumped on cake toppers! Thought that might be a good personal touch and I'm just not....interested? in any of them that I've seen so far.
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POST: I'm getting married abroad next April 19th, just been to order my dress today :) (slight hiccup and changed my mind on a previous one!). We've had a lot of back and forth with the travel agents as well as the hotel and are struggling to pin down any details of our actual reception through, but we are hoping to have a beach bbq and a steel band. I feel like I'm leaving out all the finer details? Like cake toppers, table decorations, favours, etc.? The problem is I can't even get an answer on the layout of the day (I. E. I know what time we get married, but after that no clue when our wedding breakfast will be, or where, or what to do before or after). I'm not very good at sorting details and tying things together neatly, do you think I need to add some little details? Or do you think the beach setting (ceremony will also take place on the beach front) will be enough? Does anyone have any ideas for things I could encorporate to make it a little more personal? I'm even stumped on cake toppers! Thought that might be a good personal touch and I'm just not....interested? in any of them that I've seen so far.
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Over the years I found out that she knew that I have liked her a lot but we both never brought it up as our timing just never worked out. Basically when she was single, I'd be dating, and vise versa, plus there was that distance thing going on when we were in college. We've always kept in touch and through a mutual friend have heard that she does find me attractive and have definitely considered the possibility. Well, I was in the middle of a 2+ year long relationship at the time which actually ended on a good note a little over 5 months ago. Now I'm single...but she's in a middle of a 7 month long relationship which isn't going very well according to her close friend.
Throughout these past 7 years she's always been lingering in the back of my mind. I honestly don't know how to describe it, it just feels like she's always been the one since the beginning. Now that I'm closer to her and ready to date again, the feelings have come back. The only problem is she's with her current bf who neglects her and seems the only reason she's still with him is to not feel alone. But despite that, we've been hanging out every other week for the past 2 months and now starting to see each other more frequently and comfortably.
I feel that it's time I talk to her about my feelings directly (even if she already knows) but I don't know how to time it. I feel guilty that I'm continuously seeing her while she's still dating, yet I wonder if she needs some sort of confirmation for her to end her current relationship? But I don't want to be the cause of the breakup and get labeled as a homewrecker... I can definitely sense that she's interested in me to some degree (since she's happy to hang out and we genuinely have a good time together) but I'm also afraid that bringing it up before they end the relationship could get me perma friendzoned. Such dilemma, what to do? | Friend of 7 years is with current bf. I know she's interested but don't know how/when to bring up feelings for her. | In love with longtime friend who is now dating her current bf, but the relationship isn't working and I'm not sure how to talk to her about it. | [
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POST: Over the years I found out that she knew that I have liked her a lot but we both never brought it up as our timing just never worked out. Basically when she was single, I'd be dating, and vise versa, plus there was that distance thing going on when we were in college. We've always kept in touch and through a mutual friend have heard that she does find me attractive and have definitely considered the possibility. Well, I was in the middle of a 2+ year long relationship at the time which actually ended on a good note a little over 5 months ago. Now I'm single...but she's in a middle of a 7 month long relationship which isn't going very well according to her close friend.
Throughout these past 7 years she's always been lingering in the back of my mind. I honestly don't know how to describe it, it just feels like she's always been the one since the beginning. Now that I'm closer to her and ready to date again, the feelings have come back. The only problem is she's with her current bf who neglects her and seems the only reason she's still with him is to not feel alone. But despite that, we've been hanging out every other week for the past 2 months and now starting to see each other more frequently and comfortably.
I feel that it's time I talk to her about my feelings directly (even if she already knows) but I don't know how to time it. I feel guilty that I'm continuously seeing her while she's still dating, yet I wonder if she needs some sort of confirmation for her to end her current relationship? But I don't want to be the cause of the breakup and get labeled as a homewrecker... I can definitely sense that she's interested in me to some degree (since she's happy to hang out and we genuinely have a good time together) but I'm also afraid that bringing it up before they end the relationship could get me perma friendzoned. Such dilemma, what to do?
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POST: Over the years I found out that she knew that I have liked her a lot but we both never brought it up as our timing just never worked out. Basically when she was single, I'd be dating, and vise versa, plus there was that distance thing going on when we were in college. We've always kept in touch and through a mutual friend have heard that she does find me attractive and have definitely considered the possibility. Well, I was in the middle of a 2+ year long relationship at the time which actually ended on a good note a little over 5 months ago. Now I'm single...but she's in a middle of a 7 month long relationship which isn't going very well according to her close friend.
Throughout these past 7 years she's always been lingering in the back of my mind. I honestly don't know how to describe it, it just feels like she's always been the one since the beginning. Now that I'm closer to her and ready to date again, the feelings have come back. The only problem is she's with her current bf who neglects her and seems the only reason she's still with him is to not feel alone. But despite that, we've been hanging out every other week for the past 2 months and now starting to see each other more frequently and comfortably.
I feel that it's time I talk to her about my feelings directly (even if she already knows) but I don't know how to time it. I feel guilty that I'm continuously seeing her while she's still dating, yet I wonder if she needs some sort of confirmation for her to end her current relationship? But I don't want to be the cause of the breakup and get labeled as a homewrecker... I can definitely sense that she's interested in me to some degree (since she's happy to hang out and we genuinely have a good time together) but I'm also afraid that bringing it up before they end the relationship could get me perma friendzoned. Such dilemma, what to do?
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POST: Over the years I found out that she knew that I have liked her a lot but we both never brought it up as our timing just never worked out. Basically when she was single, I'd be dating, and vise versa, plus there was that distance thing going on when we were in college. We've always kept in touch and through a mutual friend have heard that she does find me attractive and have definitely considered the possibility. Well, I was in the middle of a 2+ year long relationship at the time which actually ended on a good note a little over 5 months ago. Now I'm single...but she's in a middle of a 7 month long relationship which isn't going very well according to her close friend.
Throughout these past 7 years she's always been lingering in the back of my mind. I honestly don't know how to describe it, it just feels like she's always been the one since the beginning. Now that I'm closer to her and ready to date again, the feelings have come back. The only problem is she's with her current bf who neglects her and seems the only reason she's still with him is to not feel alone. But despite that, we've been hanging out every other week for the past 2 months and now starting to see each other more frequently and comfortably.
I feel that it's time I talk to her about my feelings directly (even if she already knows) but I don't know how to time it. I feel guilty that I'm continuously seeing her while she's still dating, yet I wonder if she needs some sort of confirmation for her to end her current relationship? But I don't want to be the cause of the breakup and get labeled as a homewrecker... I can definitely sense that she's interested in me to some degree (since she's happy to hang out and we genuinely have a good time together) but I'm also afraid that bringing it up before they end the relationship could get me perma friendzoned. Such dilemma, what to do?
TL;DR: In love with longtime friend who is now dating her current bf, but the relationship isn't working and I'm not sure how to talk to her about it.<|endoftext|> | [
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So, I just accepted a new job position today, and I leave for a 2 week training course in two weeks. Originally, my roommate was going to watch my daughter during the week, and I just needed to find someone to watch her on weekends. I have a sister that lives about 3 hours away and agreed to take her for the full time I am gone. My sister has 3 kids, a nice house and is willing to watch my daughter free of charge. I would just have to drop her off and then pick her up later. They live about an hour outside of a very large city, and requently take trips to visit zoos, muesums and the like.
I explained the new arrangment to my roommate and she flipped her fucking lid. She is begging me to let my daughter stay with her. Stating that she doesnt want to be left all alone for the two weeks I am gone. She said she would use her vacation and sick days for the weekends and such. She doesnt have a car, so she would have to get up extra early in the mornings to catch a bus to drop my daughter off at the daycare she goes to, then would have to grab another bus to get to work. She is usually the one to pick her up in the afternoons, since I used to work nights.
The real issue lies in the fact that I already made this deal with my sister, who is now really looking forward to taking care of my kid. Things with my roommate and I have been very stresful lately as both of us have been working at jobs we hate, plus other personal issues.
How do I make it clear to my roommate that I would rather my kid stay with my sister? I've told her that I am not doing this as some sort of "punishment" to her. Just that this new job and training are very important to me, and I would worry less if I knew my child was in capable hands. | Roommate freaked out when I said I wanted my child to stay with my sister who lives 3 hours away while I go down south for job training. | Roommate and I have a 2 week gap in our lives, she wants to take care of my kid for the two weeks. I've already made the deal with my sister. She is now also looking forward to taking care of my kid for the two weeks. What do? | [
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POST: So, I just accepted a new job position today, and I leave for a 2 week training course in two weeks. Originally, my roommate was going to watch my daughter during the week, and I just needed to find someone to watch her on weekends. I have a sister that lives about 3 hours away and agreed to take her for the full time I am gone. My sister has 3 kids, a nice house and is willing to watch my daughter free of charge. I would just have to drop her off and then pick her up later. They live about an hour outside of a very large city, and requently take trips to visit zoos, muesums and the like.
I explained the new arrangment to my roommate and she flipped her fucking lid. She is begging me to let my daughter stay with her. Stating that she doesnt want to be left all alone for the two weeks I am gone. She said she would use her vacation and sick days for the weekends and such. She doesnt have a car, so she would have to get up extra early in the mornings to catch a bus to drop my daughter off at the daycare she goes to, then would have to grab another bus to get to work. She is usually the one to pick her up in the afternoons, since I used to work nights.
The real issue lies in the fact that I already made this deal with my sister, who is now really looking forward to taking care of my kid. Things with my roommate and I have been very stresful lately as both of us have been working at jobs we hate, plus other personal issues.
How do I make it clear to my roommate that I would rather my kid stay with my sister? I've told her that I am not doing this as some sort of "punishment" to her. Just that this new job and training are very important to me, and I would worry less if I knew my child was in capable hands.
TL;DR: | Roommate freaked out when I said I wanted my child to stay with my sister who lives 3 hours away while I go down south for job training.<|endoftext|> | [
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POST: So, I just accepted a new job position today, and I leave for a 2 week training course in two weeks. Originally, my roommate was going to watch my daughter during the week, and I just needed to find someone to watch her on weekends. I have a sister that lives about 3 hours away and agreed to take her for the full time I am gone. My sister has 3 kids, a nice house and is willing to watch my daughter free of charge. I would just have to drop her off and then pick her up later. They live about an hour outside of a very large city, and requently take trips to visit zoos, muesums and the like.
I explained the new arrangment to my roommate and she flipped her fucking lid. She is begging me to let my daughter stay with her. Stating that she doesnt want to be left all alone for the two weeks I am gone. She said she would use her vacation and sick days for the weekends and such. She doesnt have a car, so she would have to get up extra early in the mornings to catch a bus to drop my daughter off at the daycare she goes to, then would have to grab another bus to get to work. She is usually the one to pick her up in the afternoons, since I used to work nights.
The real issue lies in the fact that I already made this deal with my sister, who is now really looking forward to taking care of my kid. Things with my roommate and I have been very stresful lately as both of us have been working at jobs we hate, plus other personal issues.
How do I make it clear to my roommate that I would rather my kid stay with my sister? I've told her that I am not doing this as some sort of "punishment" to her. Just that this new job and training are very important to me, and I would worry less if I knew my child was in capable hands.
TL;DR: Roommate freaked out when I said I wanted my child to stay with my sister who lives 3 hours away while I go down south for job training.<|endoftext|> | [
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TITLE:
POST: So, I just accepted a new job position today, and I leave for a 2 week training course in two weeks. Originally, my roommate was going to watch my daughter during the week, and I just needed to find someone to watch her on weekends. I have a sister that lives about 3 hours away and agreed to take her for the full time I am gone. My sister has 3 kids, a nice house and is willing to watch my daughter free of charge. I would just have to drop her off and then pick her up later. They live about an hour outside of a very large city, and requently take trips to visit zoos, muesums and the like.
I explained the new arrangment to my roommate and she flipped her fucking lid. She is begging me to let my daughter stay with her. Stating that she doesnt want to be left all alone for the two weeks I am gone. She said she would use her vacation and sick days for the weekends and such. She doesnt have a car, so she would have to get up extra early in the mornings to catch a bus to drop my daughter off at the daycare she goes to, then would have to grab another bus to get to work. She is usually the one to pick her up in the afternoons, since I used to work nights.
The real issue lies in the fact that I already made this deal with my sister, who is now really looking forward to taking care of my kid. Things with my roommate and I have been very stresful lately as both of us have been working at jobs we hate, plus other personal issues.
How do I make it clear to my roommate that I would rather my kid stay with my sister? I've told her that I am not doing this as some sort of "punishment" to her. Just that this new job and training are very important to me, and I would worry less if I knew my child was in capable hands.
TL;DR: Roommate and I have a 2 week gap in our lives, she wants to take care of my kid for the two weeks. I've already made the deal with my sister. She is now also looking forward to taking care of my kid for the two weeks. What do?<|endoftext|> | [
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I'll try and make this quick. This all happened when I was 17 in senior year of high school. Basically what happened is I had never done anything with a girl, and I was feeling both depressed about it and worried I'd have no experience. I had a friend who really gets around and he, trying to help me out, had this girl come over who also gets around who he knew I was attracted to and she ended up having sex with both of us. At the time I was all for it cause I was desperate and wanted to know what it was like, but I feel like I'm the kind of guy who values relationships and not gross casual hookups like that. And now I have like no self-respect for myself in other areas. Like I'm in the process of starting a career that stereotypically is very family oriented and I feel like all of my coworkers would be disgusted if they knew and like now I'm not a good fit for the culture of this career. I understand some of these feelings are probably unfounded but I have no idea how to get over them. Any advice for me? | Had no experience with girls so lost my virginity to a friend who gets around and ended up having sex with both of us. Now feel lost and disgusted with myself. Need advice. | I lost my virginity to a girl who I was also having sex with at the time and now I don't know how to get over it. | [
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POST: I'll try and make this quick. This all happened when I was 17 in senior year of high school. Basically what happened is I had never done anything with a girl, and I was feeling both depressed about it and worried I'd have no experience. I had a friend who really gets around and he, trying to help me out, had this girl come over who also gets around who he knew I was attracted to and she ended up having sex with both of us. At the time I was all for it cause I was desperate and wanted to know what it was like, but I feel like I'm the kind of guy who values relationships and not gross casual hookups like that. And now I have like no self-respect for myself in other areas. Like I'm in the process of starting a career that stereotypically is very family oriented and I feel like all of my coworkers would be disgusted if they knew and like now I'm not a good fit for the culture of this career. I understand some of these feelings are probably unfounded but I have no idea how to get over them. Any advice for me?
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POST: I'll try and make this quick. This all happened when I was 17 in senior year of high school. Basically what happened is I had never done anything with a girl, and I was feeling both depressed about it and worried I'd have no experience. I had a friend who really gets around and he, trying to help me out, had this girl come over who also gets around who he knew I was attracted to and she ended up having sex with both of us. At the time I was all for it cause I was desperate and wanted to know what it was like, but I feel like I'm the kind of guy who values relationships and not gross casual hookups like that. And now I have like no self-respect for myself in other areas. Like I'm in the process of starting a career that stereotypically is very family oriented and I feel like all of my coworkers would be disgusted if they knew and like now I'm not a good fit for the culture of this career. I understand some of these feelings are probably unfounded but I have no idea how to get over them. Any advice for me?
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POST: I'll try and make this quick. This all happened when I was 17 in senior year of high school. Basically what happened is I had never done anything with a girl, and I was feeling both depressed about it and worried I'd have no experience. I had a friend who really gets around and he, trying to help me out, had this girl come over who also gets around who he knew I was attracted to and she ended up having sex with both of us. At the time I was all for it cause I was desperate and wanted to know what it was like, but I feel like I'm the kind of guy who values relationships and not gross casual hookups like that. And now I have like no self-respect for myself in other areas. Like I'm in the process of starting a career that stereotypically is very family oriented and I feel like all of my coworkers would be disgusted if they knew and like now I'm not a good fit for the culture of this career. I understand some of these feelings are probably unfounded but I have no idea how to get over them. Any advice for me?
TL;DR: I lost my virginity to a girl who I was also having sex with at the time and now I don't know how to get over it. <|endoftext|> | [
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Since he's on a nine day cruise with a few of his friends, I want to take this time to plan a big romantic gesture for him. I want to know either what I should do for him, or some components of grand romantic gestures, so I can work on it on my own. | What is a grand romantic gesture I can do for my boyfriend? Or what are the main components, so I can plan something for him? | I want to surprise my boyfriend with a grand romantic gesture, and I need help. | [
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