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discovered that in mixed martial arts the fighter who smiles less during the weighin is more
likely to win the match However the researchers in both cases were indiscriminate about the
type of smile they looked forthey didnt distinguish between healthy assertive smiles and
sheepish startled submissive ones An assertive optimal smile is highly attractive and would
likely predict victory in a fight Smiling indicates social weakness only if the smiling muscles are
strained and if smiling automatically recruits distressed breathing Retraining your smile by
pairing it with diaphragmatic breathing will make it so that your smile does not drain you but is
instead effortless and empowering
Smile Exercises
When was a very young child my grandmother told my mother that she was concerned about
me because she could not perceive any joy in my smile Some early experiences had caused me
to pair smiling with shallow breathing and my smile always appeared puny melancholy and
forced Chimps from the same group will show great variation in their capacity for smiling
Some smile feebly and yet other demonstrate gingival smiles showing their gums In my
twenties started working toward that healthy smile decided to spend time smiling intensely
to build up my smiling muscles would go on long walks or watch entire movies smiling widely
the whole time Most of the time was also squinting and breathing shallowly but even so
achieved noticeable results within a few weeks After ten cumulative hours of smiling widely
my face looked bigger and stronger my cheeks were more muscular and my smile was more
believable
Two close friends on separate occasions commented on the increased size of my smile
Then they told me to smile more widely still When tried they each said No smile up
higher couldnt They made a disappointed face and dropped the subject They were
disappointed because even though was able to build lower sections of my smiling muscles the
section closest to the tendon that anchors into the cheekbone the section with the biggest
potential for growth had not grown This higher section where the zygomatic muscle attaches
to the cheek didnt respond to the exercise because it was dormant After diligently practicing
the facial massage Exercise from the last chapter was able to smile up into my
cheekbones The before and after pictures below illustrate the difference
PROGRAM PEACE Self Care Exercises to Reprogram Your Mind and Body
Figure A My smile at age looks sour and unsustainable have rings under my eyes thick lower eyelids
upturned nostrils deep marionette lines heavy sneering and the bulk of the smile is located around my nose
rather than on my cheekbones B By each of those patterns has been reversed The change resulted from
gradually massaging away the tension and pain and strengthening the smiling muscles using firm contractions and
deep breathing
The massage of your zygomatic muscles described in Chapter is complemented by the
following musclebuilding exercise
Smiling Exercise Smiling Big with Calm Breathing
Smile as widely as you can Keep your face expressionless beyond the contractions involved in smiling
and carefully check that you arent squinting or raising your eyebrows There should be no hint of
apology or embarrassment in your smile Practice paced breathing throughout the exercise noting
when the smile makes you want to breathe shallowly You should notice that at first smiling big
practically takes your breath away Also notice how as you impose diaphragmatic breathing over the
smile for several minutes you can relax into a larger and larger smile
You should feel your smiling muscles quiver and falter but if you can smile through this it will
become more enduring and invariable This will tone enlarge and strengthen the muscles and help
them contract effortlessly without provoking your sympathetic nervous system When your muscles
reach exhaustion and start to burn allow them to rest for at least a minute In addition massaging
them after they reach exhaustion is a great way to stimulate regeneration recovery and growth
Smiling as wide as could stretched my lips so much that they would become chapped or
even crack after doing the exercise above Dont get discouraged by this Gentle smiling for
a few minutes a day will stretch your lips back to their optimal length over a few weeks
Smiling Activity Waxing and Waning a Smile
A genuine smile grows gradually and evenly Sit in front of a mirror and practice growing a smile Start
with a very small smile and expand it over for five to seconds until you have the biggest smile you
can muster Then over the same period practice letting the smile fade until your expression is
Chapter Strengthen and Tone Your Smile
neutral again You will notice discontinuities where the expansion and relaxation jump in a jerky
fashion Focus on ironing out those irregularities in the movement making the progression as smooth
as possible Most people find a steady slowgrowing smile captivating
Smiling Activity Variants of Diaphragmatic Smiling
Normally every time we smile it follows the same inflexible pattern To vary the dynamics of your
smile practice the following
Smile as widely as you can with and without showing your teeth
Smile with your teeth lightly clenched
Smile with your top teeth visible and your bottom lip placed against them
Smile with both sets of teeth fully revealed and your mouth slightly open
Smile with both sets of teeth fully revealed and with your mouth wide open
Smile while gradually squinting the eyes into a full squint then gradually release them to wide
eyes Repeat
Smile while slowly raising the eyebrows all the way then slowly lower them until they are
fully relaxed Repeat
Smile while chewing
Smiling Exercise Smiling While Reading Out Loud
Some people can smile comfortably while they talk but most cannot The ability to do it convincingly
is so rare and so striking that its practically a superpower If you have not been acclimated it is very
awkward Read a few pages of a book out loud while smiling Practice diaphragmatic breathing
inhaling completely and reading aloud until you are out of breath The ability to smile while speaking
is easily attained and improved in this way After a total of five hours of practice all your friends will
notice the difference
Smiling Activity Eye Contact with a Smile
Sit in front of a mirror and use your reflection to model prolonged eye contact with another person
Smile Keep your smile wide and your expression open It will feel incredibly goofy but only for the
first few minutes
You can also model the initiation of smiling eye contact To do this start by looking away at or above
your eye line Make the calmest face you can and then look yourself in the eyes for a second while
keeping your expression neutral Over the next few seconds gradually grow a heartfelt smile while
continuing to make eye contact Hold both your gaze and your smile for several seconds Repeat
After you have practiced this exercise in a mirror try it with a friend
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Isolate Your Smile
One of the rewards of maintaining a smile for several minutes while breathing
diaphragmatically is the involuntary relaxation of muscles you dont need but that you normally
tense up while smiling Within a minute or two youll feel the tension in muscles all around
your face head and neck start to ease The process will gradually isolate your actual smile from
the facial contortions that typically accompany it That isolation has significant benefits Usually
some different muscles are involved in smiling when you stop smiling many of those
muscles remain tense because the smile forced latent trigger points within them to become
active This is part of why smiling causes many people to lose their composure quickly which
can make them reluctant to smile at all