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SUBREDDIT: r/relationships
TITLE: Me [19 M] with my Ex/Notex/Whateverthefuckishappening [17 F] met yesterday the first time after the breakup
POST: Hey guys!
i have a problem.
PROLOG:
about Three weeks ago my girlfriend with which i had a 11 month relationship broke up with me because she will move away,and cause of her psychological Problems and because she dont know why.
she was for about 3 month in a mental hospital until last week because she has depression and now she will move for 3 month in a Hospital in 2 other cities here in Germany and after that for 3 Month to Iceland
2 days ago i decided to have sex again with an other girl and it was really bad (physical and emotionally)
THE MEETING FROM YESTERDAY
we didnt contact each other since the breakup and she wrote me
via Facebook that she wants to meet me to discuss everything
so we met in my home and discussed a bit and she found out that i had sex with someone else because i had a teared open condom package and there where cigarette fags with red lipstick in my ashtray(i wanted to tell it her later,but whatever) after that she telled me that she also had sex a week before with a friend of her. Then i was jealous and she was also jealous but tried to act like she is not jealous (she confessed it later)
We talked about our future and she meant that she dont know but she cannot be without me and that she cant be in a relationship with me.
After that we spend the day with cuddling,having Sex and watching The X-Files and she said the whole day long that she missed this
THE PROBLEM
Now i dont have any clue how i should react to it and i could think about our future or how i could heal my jealousy, it seems that she cannot be in a relationship with me,but she also cannot be not in a relationship with me.
TL;DR: | Met ex around Three weeks after the breakup with which i had a 11 month relationship by having sex and performed again the same sexual act with another girl,shes having another sexual problem but doesnt have the same problem with being in a relationship with me now i dont have any clue what i should do from here and how i should heal my jealousy.<|endoftext|> | my girl with whom i had a 11 month relationship broke up last week due to psychological problems and now met yesterday the first time after the breakup and things seemed ok but i still have doubts about our future or how i can heal my jealousy and can handle the situation<|endoftext|> | 0.692642 | 0.307358 |
SUBREDDIT: r/personalfinance
TITLE: Stuck with a used car that I am making payments on that is constantly breaking down. What should I do? Trade it in for something newer/more reliable, or continuing repairing and pay off/own the car in 3.5 more years? I don't have anyone really to ask... A bad move on my part.
POST: Hi everyone,
I bought my first non-Craigslist car, a 2005 Honda Civic SI with 79,000 miles on it, from a Honda dealer back in February 2013 for $10,000 + taxes, fees, a shitty warranty that I wish I did not purchase, etc. Everything came out to around $15,000. I put $5,000 down and financed the other $10,000 over the course of 5 years at a 10.9% interest rate. My monthly payment is around $240.
Prior to this I owned a 2003 Toyota Matrix XR which I paid cash for an owned. I should have kept this.
My Civic so far, over the past year, has cost me almost $2,500 in repairs. I've replaced the fuel pump, knock sensor (happening now), rotors, brakes, belts, rack and pinion, and the clutch now has about 107,000 miles on it and is starting to slip pretty bad. It is in the shop as we speak having the knock sensor replaced, and there is also a moaning/squeaking noise when I come out of first gear that I'm sure will be another problem. I feel like the car is going to continue breaking down and unfortunately my warranty does not cover any of this since it is considered "normal wear" on the car.
I think that money could have gone towards payments and I feel kind of dumb for even buying the car (still completely stock, but I wanted something faster than my Martix (idiot move)). My question comes to this. Should I trade it in for something newer (I have pretty good credit of about 750) or pay off the remaining $7,500 I have left and then own the car while I continue to pay for repairs?
TL;DR: | Used 2005 Honda Civic SI from real estate source that recently started breaking down with horribly worn out parts that I really do not want, what to do with I have around $7,500 left on credit that could have been invested or paid off to own. <|endoftext|> | Used 2005 Honda Civic Si with 79,000 miles on it, broken down recently and owe $7,500 repairs. Stuck with the car and don't really have anyone to ask for assistance. What should I do? Trading or continuing repairing?<|endoftext|> | 0.787931 | 0.212069 |
SUBREDDIT: r/AskReddit
TITLE: What's your best example of beginner's luck?
POST: Could be your own beginner's luck, or beginner's luck from someone else at your expense.
For me, it was about 2 months ago. I was invited to play some poker with a friend and some of his other buddies. Up until that point, I'd never played a single hand of poker in my life but knew the hierarchy of hands and that was about it.
I turned up late and missed the beginning of the game and they'd replaced me with someone else, but I stuck around to hang out. To be honest, I was pretty pleased I wouldn't have to lose any money anyway. Eventually, as people started dropping out, a side game started while the big game went on in the next room. It was a $10 buy-in and I started playing poker for the first time in my life.
I came away with a $37 profit an hour or so later. I think the fact I wasn't experience enough to figure out strategy actually helped me. The others didn't know my style and I didn't know theirs (or mine). I made some dumb mistakes and I got really lucky on some hands, but I just used common sense and tried to weigh up my options as best I could and it worked out. I haven't played since but I'm positive it won't turn out like that next time!
TL;DR: | used my first hand of poker as an example of beginner's luck when others started dropping out. It turned out pretty well! What's your best previous experience with beginner's luck ? And again, how did you weigh your options?<|endoftext|> | Attracted party game player to play some poker with friends that didn't have much experience and didn't have much skill at all. Luckily won money she never had before.<|endoftext|> | 0.72487 | 0.27513 |
SUBREDDIT: r/relationships
TITLE: 21/F UPDATE. I confronted his fiancé.
POST: Link to original post.
First, I just wanted to say thank you to all that replied and sent me personal messages regarding this issue of mine. You all gave me the courage I needed to message her.
After I made the original post I gave him one more opportunity to come clean to his fiancée. I confronted him and told him that the games had to stop. Either he told her or I did. He responded that I was bluffing, a bitch, and she wouldn't believe me.
So I sent her the screenshots of our conversations, and my phone number. I told her to call me if she had any questions regarding what I sent her.
The evidence was on my side, 90% of our recent conversation were filled with "Are you sure you don't have a fiancée?" and him denying it and calling her *crazy*, *obsessed*, and that she needed to *let go*.
I took a huge risk giving her my number. But the news I gave her needed to be discussed over the phone or in person. She called me an hour later. I expected her to be angry with me, possibly cuss me out. Call me a whore perhaps but she didn't. She cried for a long time and when she was able to speak she thanked me.
We talked for awhile about their relationship and about how she caught him talking to another girl in the past but let that one slide for the sake of her childern. This apparently was the icing on the cake. She added me on Facebook and when she broke up with him she went on Facebook and wrote about how she almost made the biggest mistake of her life. She personally tagged me and thanked me again that status. Felt a little weird about that but I rolled with it.
It wasn't two hours after that status was posted his messaged me and called me a stupid cunt. I was delusional and he never liked me. I ruined his relationship.. A load of bullshit. I sent her those messages and we laughed about it.
We may have met through weird circumstances but I may have made a new friend.
TL;DR: | I confronted my fiancée's fiancés past gaming days hobby with video evidence. She loved the internet message I sent her and she added me on facebook shortly after the drama started. She loves internet and follows me. I ruined her relationship. What do and should I do next?<|endoftext|> | confronted ex fiancée for seemingly cheating online. She stopped talking the day after its made news. She sent screenshots and my phone number was rediffused but damn did I screw up. We've never met through weird circumstances but probably should have.<|endoftext|> | 0.694303 | 0.305697 |
SUBREDDIT: r/tifu
TITLE: TIFU by pissing on my friend at an EDM festival [NSFW-ish]
POST: This wasn't today but ill post about it anyways. Last saturday, I was at this EDM festival called Waterzonic with a few mates. I was having a great time, there was water splashing everywhere, I was drinking the whole night and getting high in the parking lot. By around 10 pm I was piss drunk, I was hooking up with this cute girl, seems like a great night so far. Then my drunk brain thought it would be funny to piss on my friend. So I unzipped by shorts and whipped out my donger and started pissing on my friend a little. He got a bit pissed and started punching me in return. I was trying to block his punches cos he was drunk and was punching pretty hard. After he stopped, I was complaining about the punches and shit then I went back to raving and grinding with the girl I was hooking up with. The thing is that I forgot to put my donger back in my shorts so he was raving with me. All my mates were laughing, the girl I was with turned around and laughed too but I was too drunk to care and continued for a while until 10-15 minutes later this stranger came up with me and pointed at my donger. I shoved it back in whilst everyone was still laughing. Again I was too drunk to give a fuck so I just raved on. The girl was cool with it and stayed with me still. But the thing is that my donger was flying and raving with me when probably everyone around saw it.
TL;DR: | was partying at EDM festival with cute girl who seemed really cool and very drunk, my donger was flying with me towards someone who noticed during raveing and knocked my stuff over accidentally.<|endoftext|> | Was having a great night at EDM music festival with funky girl I was hooking up with while drunk, started pissing on my friend whilst raving with it and people nearby thought I had used my dongerApparently Even more awesome then I thought earlier.<|endoftext|> | 0.715424 | 0.284576 |
SUBREDDIT: r/needadvice
TITLE: My 13 year old brother killed our bird out of anger. What can we do to help him?
POST: Here's how it happened:
My mother was scolding him for his mess and told him to do fold some towels. Before there are any suspicions, my mom wasn't scolding him in a demeaning or abusing way; she is just tired of telling him over and over again to pick up after himself. Next thing I hear, he is calling for me from our family room and tells me our sun conure is "sick". When I get to the birdcage I see that our bird is lying on the top of the cage, bleeding from his nose, and clearly struggling to breathe. I ask my brother what happened and he tells me the bird "fell from his cage". I call desperately for my mom and she tells me he is dying. The next two minutes are complete agony as I watch my bird, *who has been one of my best friends for the last 11 years*, die by suffocating on his blood. At this point I'm in tears, and I ask my brother exactly what happened since there is no way falling from his cage would have caused such severe injuries. He finally confesses that he smacked the bird with a towel. There was no point in asking 'why' since he does this kind of stuff all the time.
Our dilemma:
TL;DR: | My 13 year old brother killed our backyard parrot while complaining about our messy house last night through anger. What can we do to help him?<|endoftext|> | My 13 year old brother smashed our birdcare loving sun conure's nose while complaining that he was suffering from suffocating pain while folding towels. What can we do to help him?<|endoftext|> | 0.749087 | 0.250913 |
SUBREDDIT: r/relationships
TITLE: [m24] Arranged a date and it was postponed. Am I wasting my time?
POST: A few weeks ago I met a girl, got a kiss in, got her number and arranged to meet up with her. The day before I was supposed to see her, I realised I'd neglected to give/ask for a time so I messaged her to find out.
Got a reply hours later asking if it's ok to postpone because she had an exam she needed to study for the next week. I said sure, let me know when you're free and she said she had exams for another couple of weeks (now finished)
On Saturday night, I was out and texted her saying if she's in the city we should catch up. She said she was staying in, maybe next week. Replied to say ok, will arrange something during the week.
That's where I am now. I will arrange something during the week but does this seem like a waste of time?
What's confusing me is the list of possible outcomes in my head when I messaged her:
1. no reply
2. no
3. yes
4. no, but... (which is what I got)
If she wasn't interested, would she bother replying or saying no, but...
TL;DR: | Arranged a date with a girl, she postponed it because she left an exam she needed to study for that week. I am now very annoyed at the possibilities in my head when I send texts hoping she is interested. <|endoftext|> | Arrived to meet a girl on Saturday night, went ahead with arrange to meet up, didn't mention we'd have exams for the following week. Is it worth wasting my time by attempting to arrange something during the week?<|endoftext|> | 0.793106 | 0.206894 |
SUBREDDIT: r/relationships
TITLE: Me [15 M] with a girl I kissed [15 F] about a week ago, do I want a relationship with her?
POST: Hello folks,
Let's jump right in. I kissed this girl at a party a week ago. I really fancied her and the day before I really made clear at another party that I liked her. It was the first kiss for both of us, bit misplaced it felt like but it was alright. Before the kiss there was a bit of flirting and we were becoming pretty close friends.
Do I want a relationship with her? I feel like that asking myself that automatically gives an answer (that I do not). She has send signals that she wants to date a bit. So I asked her to do so, but also mainly because friends are pushing me to. I don't feel like I love her, and don't really know if I have to. Maybe that is supposed to come with the dating. I am new to all this and don't really know how relationships work. Also I am having fear of commitment (I think), this because I have had a rough time with losing people around me that I have loved so dearly. Maybe it is not the right time for me to get into a relationship if I am having these issues.
All in all I am a bit confused, don't know what to do. I don't want to hurt her feelings and also don't want her out of my life.
Thanks in advance!
TL;DR: | Kissed girl at party a week ago, fancy her and really fancied her closely. Do I really want a relationship with her? That depends partly on whether commitment is involved.<|endoftext|> | I kissed a girl around a party a week ago, liked her but became somewhat distant afterwards and I am feeling somewhat insecure about commitment. I don't know if I should try to become more involved with her or just stay alone.<|endoftext|> | 0.83762 | 0.16238 |
SUBREDDIT: r/tifu
TITLE: TIFU by saying "anal cakes"
POST: I was in my grade 11 English class today and the girl beside me said
"Hey does this eraser smell like cotton candy to you?"
So I took a good whiff and it smells like a urinal cake. So I tell her that and my English teacher overhears and says
"What smells like a urinal cake??"
So I tell him about the eraser and he says
"No I have a cold. Can't smell anything"
To which my brain replies
"Don't worry. You'll smell it. Its a very penetrative anal cake!"
Silence.
Every eye in the room and the lizard in the tank is focused on me.. All I can think to say is
"Anal as in....annoying.. Penetratingly annoying"
TL;DR: | I was in my grade 11 English class today saying anal cake and my teacher overhears and says "No I have a cold". Everyone is focused on me saying anal cake.<|endoftext|> | Girl beside me told my English teacher that I smelled an anal cake, my teacher overhears and says anal as anal cake to me. I fail to explain why...<|endoftext|> | 0.519521 | 0.480479 |
SUBREDDIT: r/relationships
TITLE: My [20F] boyfriend [21M] likes to piss me off?
POST: So I'm currently pregnant so its possible I'm reading too much into this but he seems to enjoy making me angry? For example, today we were talking and his best friend has recently started dating a girl that he has a history with. Even though she is dating his friend and we're about to have a baby she is still over him and has tried to hook up with him in the past months. He's told her no but it hasn't stopped her from trying. Recently she's backed off a little and is trying to be more of a friend to him and he says that I need to just "get over it and get along with her." I don't start fights with her or yell at her I just refuse to be her friend or be around her as I have no desire to keep her company. He mentioned that she invited him to come to some child expo with her (while I'm at work) and he said he didn't want to go without me (for fear that she would try something). And I said that was probably for the best because it would've upset me if he went. Then he responded and said that made him want to go with her just to piss me off because I have no right to get upset. I don't understand why he would want to do something like that to intentionally hurt me. It wasn't like I lost it and "forbid" him from going, I just said it would upset me. Am I overreacting and shouldn't have said that or is he just being an asshole because with my hormones I cant tell anymore.
TL;DR: | My boyfriend likes to piss me off by trying to hook up with a girl he has a history with who has recently started dating his best friend and I say I really don't need my support anymore. I don't agree with it because I said it wouldn't upset me and he said that made him want to go with her just to piss me off. I truly do not have the right to judge his actions. I do value our relationship so much.<|endoftext|> | Boyfriend likes to make me mad at girl recently hooked up with he said she invited him to go to some child expo with but says he doesn't have right to get upset w/snoozing around w/my emotional baggage. What do I do? <|endoftext|> | 0.737158 | 0.262842 |
SUBREDDIT: r/relationships
TITLE: Me [21 M] with my GF [21 M/F] of 5 months, says "I love you" to me, I feel bad cause I never say it back.
POST: My GF and I have been dating for 5 months now. We were friends for a few months before that. Initially she got a crush on me, and asked me out. The first month or two we dated, our relationship wasn't that great tbh. Mainly because I didn't treat her like a girlfriend. I'd leave and go home after we fucked, showed up over an hour late to our first date, ditch her during out hangouts to go get high with my friends, etc... we had some good times, but overall I felt nothing towards her so I was kind of an asshole.
After some time though, I started to like her and act a lot better and more like her boyfriend and we started having even more fun, and she started to REALLY like me, I know cause she'd tell me that she "really really really liked me" multiple times, and that "I was the best guy she ever dated"
Heres the thing though, she told me she "loves me" but she said that she wasn't "in love" with me. I didn't know how to react so I was just like "ok". But now she always says "I love you" before we go to sleep, or I leave or something.
I never say it back because I still only kinda like her, I'm no where close to feeling like I love her or being able to say it back to her, and honestly, I feel kinda bad about it. I'm afraid that she expects me to say it back sometime soon, and I know that its not gonna come for a while, and I don't wanna hurt her, but everytime she says it I just kiss her or awkwardly nod my head....how should I handle this? Do you think I should tell her to stop saying it to me until I feel I'm ready to say it back, or should I just keep doing what I'm doing?
TL;DR: | Girlfriend of 5 months recently started saying she loves me back to our beginning relationship, and I don't know if I should say it back because I still really like her but don't think its going anywhere anytime soon....I guess I should just keep doing what I do.<|endoftext|> | Started dating my GF who constantly says she loves me, I always say it back and then snap dances when I do....how should I handle this?<|endoftext|> | 0.542863 | 0.457137 |
SUBREDDIT: r/tifu
TITLE: TIFU by breaking up with the best thing that's ever happened to me.
POST: My boyfriend cheated on me a couple months ago and I found out right before Christmas. We had an unspoken break up and I thought that was the end of it.
Last Thursday we both ended up at the same bar where he ended up getting in a fight with a boy for touching me in a way that bothered him. I got scared and embarrassed so I left. A couple hours later he found his way back to my dorm where he cried to me and poured his heart out. We spent the next 4 hours together crying until we fell asleep. And i decided to give him a second chance.
This past Thursday I went to a party with my cousin where I watched her cheat on her boyfriend that she claims to be in love with. This sent me over the edge and my drunk mind decided that if she was capable of cheating then I can't trust anybody. Stupid I know. So I went home and called my boyfriend over at 2am and ended it. I told him I wasn't mad and he didn't do anything wrong. It was a very civil break up and we spent about 2 hours just talking and joking around like we always did.
Now I regret that decision more than anything. I can't sleep, I can't eat. I've just been drinking myself into a coma every night since then. I keep trying to text him but he won't answer. I know I hurt him, but I think I hurt myself even more.
TL;DR: | drank too drunk badly during my relationship with boyfriend cheats on us and we ended up at the same bar last Thursday. We spent 4 hours cuddling and joking about nothing really but I regret breaking up with the best thing that ever happened to me.<|endoftext|> | decided to break up with my boyfriend of 2+ years by hitting on a boy at a party. Really hurt myself afterward. Not proud of myself.<|endoftext|> | 0.546738 | 0.453262 |
SUBREDDIT: r/relationship_advice
TITLE: I (30/f) turned down a friend (29/m) who asked me out, but we remained friends. Now he's (innocently) ruining my attempts to meet/hang out with other guys. Advice?
POST: A good friend of mine asked me out recently, but I made it clear that I did not have romantic feelings for him and would like to remain friends. He seemed to understand, handled it well, and we remained good friends.
The thing is, he has basically become my unwelcome "guardian angel." For example, the other night we were at a bar with a group of our friends, and any time I started to talk to a guy he was right there, including when I would go outside for a cigarette with another guy (he doesn't smoke). This happened throughout the night, and has happened at other bar outings.
He's a very kind guy, if a bit socially clueless sometimes, so I don't think it's malicious. I also know that I need to talk to him, but I'm having trouble figuring out how to handle this tactfully and without making him feel bad. What should I say to him?
TL;DR: | turned down good friend of mine who asked me out, remain good friends but became unwelcome guardian angel when meeting new peoples when drinking. How do I handle the situation diplomatically without making my friend feel bad? <|endoftext|> | turned down good friend who offered romantic feelings for, remained good friends. Now he's ruining attempts to meet new people and is annoying my attempts to remain friendly. What do I say?<|endoftext|> | 0.692642 | 0.307358 |
SUBREDDIT: r/GetMotivated
TITLE: Anyone else feel a lack of clear direction? How does /getmotivated choose?
POST: Okay, physical fitness and diet are excellent! No argument, these are wonderful things to strive for.
The problem that I have been experiencing is this: my brain is constantly switching between dreams, and each one feels as genuine and real as the other. I don't have 10 lifetimes to try them all, especially since I believe in the virtues of passion and mastery and focus. All these videos and quotes promote a simple (and excellent) message of doing what you love and working insanely hard at it.
Perhaps it's because of the constant exposure to new information and ideas (TED Talks, twitter, etc.) and inspirational videos from a wide variety of people, but I keep beating myself up trying to figure out what to focus on and it's starting to drive me crazy.
* Teach
* Learn to code.
* Promote childhood learning of programming.
* Learning Japanese
* Hone my skills at drawing.
* Getting in shape. Learning a martial art.
* Make video games that push forward the medium.
* Improving education in the deep south where I grew up.
* Become and animator or storyboard artist for Pixar.
* Get involved in technology that helps humanity.
to name a few...
Can anyone else relate to this? Passion and motivation are not the issue for me, it's the feeling of an enormous amount of different options, and so I keep running through this loop of thought:
* I don't want to spend my life sitting at a computer, I want to use my body and encourage others to use their bodies and form real human connections.
* Physical fitness only effects me, and technology and sociology is where it's at for helping the world.
TL;DR: | My brain continually switches between dreams of doing what I love and great things found on the virtual spectrum, and it's really distracting me from doing my best to be clear about priorities. <|endoftext|> | I constantly switch between dreams of physical fitness and great ideas for improving lives, what gives it meaning? Can anyone share some clear direction that inspires them or something they've tried that they found lacking?<|endoftext|> | 0.596433 | 0.403567 |
SUBREDDIT: r/relationships
TITLE: my boyfriend [28m] of 7mo. has a wandering eye and tends to flirt with girls in front of me [23f]
POST: my boyfriend and I have been together for 7 months. we both love each other very much and have talked about marriage/moving in/ect (he is very amazing besides these short comings) but I am get really uncomfortable and doubt him because he looks at girls all the time in front of me and is very obvious about it (double take) he has also tends to flirt with girls frequently in front of me. during these times he treats me like I don't exist. he doesn't seem to understand why I'm upset about it. I know men naturally look at other women. but I still find these actions unacceptable and so disrespectful. it is really taking a toll on the way I feel about myself. I don't really know what to do.
we have talked about it a few times. he's promised to be more aware of his actions and make changes to make me feel better. I haven't really seen much of a change.
TL;DR: | my boyfriend tends to flirt with girls constantly while seemingly disregarding the fact that I feel unattractive around them. it has taken a toll on my perception of myself. I don't really know what I should do.<|endoftext|> | my boyfriend tends to flirt with girls randomly while staring at them in front of me very obviously. I find these actions offensive and disrespectful. I don't know if I should break up with him or work on my relationship.<|endoftext|> | 0.52342 | 0.47658 |
SUBREDDIT: r/AskReddit
TITLE: How do I cope with being ugly? It's making life so hard
POST: I'm posting this because I feel like crap. I am really just trying to reach out for help so I am going to try here.
(Paragraph describing appearance removed for privacy)
I fake confidence really well. I can hold a conversation decently well and can make people laugh. I feel as though I have a good personality. No matter how funny or confident I am when talking to a girl she is never interested. I don't know how to improve. **I know the only thing I can do is have a good personality, but I already do.** I am always joking and happy with people and never show my depression. I've even been told I am fun to hang out with by the few people that actually hangout with me.
I crave attention from a girl so bad but it will never happen. No matter how good my personality is I will never find someone who is mutually attracted to me as I am with them. It's so hard see my "friends" getting attention from girls, invited to parties, being social and popular, having an actual use for facebook, and and generally living there lives. I don't even know if I'm going to go to my own prom. **I feel like I've just been left behind. Forgotten by the world.
TL;DR: | I fake confidence very well (I can hold conversations well) but rarely find attractive girls in my social circles that actually like me. I feel terrible about myself. <|endoftext|> | am very confident and beautiful, can hold a conversation decently well, make people laugh with my personality, really enjoy attention from girls, will never find enjoyment from a prom, feeling awful for failing by being ugly. I even worked as a rock musician (actually pretty good at that too) for so long I feel like I've basically been left behind.<|endoftext|> | 0.531209 | 0.468791 |
SUBREDDIT: r/dating_advice
TITLE: I (21,M) need help getting a girl (22) who used to like me interested again...
POST: Without getting into too much detail.. I (21, M) have recently started messaging this girl (22) i knew from high school, and it seemed to be going some where but a couple bad decisions on my part and me not being honest enough with my replies have lead me into a rut of sorts. She seems to have lost her interest in messaging me and only replies in response to what I say or have asked her. How do I get from that to a position where I can ask her out?
Fun Facts:
* She sort of asked me out in high school but i rejected respectfully, because i was close to someone at the time
* I used to go out with her best friend
* She is more outgoing than I am
* She usually dates older people, and I am a year younger than her
* Several things have happened these past few years and have decreased my mojo significantly.. but there are signs of it returning
I hope that is enough info to make a sort of clear picture.
I would really appreciate any suggestions or comments
TL;DR: | Met the girl my high school girl used to like back then once bad decisions have led me into rut of sorts and am trying to get her interested again. I need specific advice or references to help my now more outgoing personality with girls from a different background.<|endoftext|> | I started messaging a girl that used to like back in high school that i have started referring to often but failed to put myself much further into those relationships and now have lost my mojo. I would like to still try again but what do I look for in an attractive girl that she used to like back in high school? <|endoftext|> | 0.531209 | 0.468791 |
SUBREDDIT: r/Parenting
TITLE: Asking for 1 year old bed time and nap advice
POST: Our daughter, just over 1 year old, won't go to sleep in her crib. She'll sleep in it for a couple of hours if my wife nurses her and cuddles her until she falls asleep. Because she won't stay asleep in the crib, we've resorted to co sleeping with her for both naps and bedtime. I'm a stay at home dad, and can get her to nap in our bed during, but have to fight with her most of the time to get her to finally relax and stop getting up and trying to explore. In our bed, she'll sleep through the night, which is why we've resorted to co sleeping. The main problem at this point, is that even though there's enough room in bed for the 3 of us, my wife and I don't sleep as well because of partner disturbance, and having to be extra careful not to disturb our precious time bomb. I've ended up sleeping on a spare bed outside of the room. We know we need to get her to sleep alone in her crib, but every time we try, it results in sleepless nights for all 3 of us, and by 3 or 4 in the morning, the little one ends up in bed anyway.
We've had suggestions to put the crib in a different room, let her cry and fuss, and we're willing to try that, but I was wondering if anyone here has had a similar circumstance and could offer some advice.
TL;DR: | Our 1 year old willn't go to sleep in crib, we rely on co sleeping we sleep through most nights, but lately swap rooms to sleep in differently so sleepless nights occur.<|endoftext|> | 1 year old girl who won't go to sleep in crib, insist on using a spare bed outside of room to accommodate other nighttime activities, yet struggle to fall asleep. More experienced here, any advice appreciated.<|endoftext|> | 0.542863 | 0.457137 |
SUBREDDIT: r/AskReddit
TITLE: Reddit, What Is One Thing That You Deem Absolutely Necessary in Your Life That, If Others Don't Do It/Use It, You Can't Imagine How They Survive Day To Day? I'll Start.
POST: MUSIC. For the love of all that is holy, music. I mean, I can't understand when I hear people say they only listen to what's on the radio or they don't buy/download any kind of music they like. Further, there's also people who just get singles from artists that are on the radio and never discover the other tracks these people release. I listen to music every single day and I can't begin to describe the countless situations in which it has made my life better, saved me from a dark place or inspired me to do something great. Music is the one thing I could never give up and I enjoy almost every kind that's out there. I can't stop searching for new music and cataloging my library so I'll always be able to enjoy the greatest artists that have shared their talents with the world. I feel like if you don't listen to different kinds of music or hear legends like Bob Marley, Ray Charles, Michael Jackson, The Eagles, Elton John, etc. then you're missing out on a huge part of your life on this planet. I can't be alone in this and I'm sure there are others who have something besides this that they feel is crucial for everyone to experience.
TL;DR: | There are countless situations in which music enables countless people to overcome and advance their lives. Come up with one thing that you deem essential that others don't do or use. I mean, you can't live without it. What do?<|endoftext|> | You don't necessarily like listening to music that's out on the radio or discovering bands that have shared their talents with the world, what is one thing you absolutely do absolutely need in your life that all others don't do and can never replace?<|endoftext|> | 0.831143 | 0.168857 |
SUBREDDIT: r/tifu
TITLE: TIFU By Wandering Around Town With Drunk Girls
POST: Last night I went to a party with lots of drinking and possibly drugs. Considering the fact that most people there drinking were underage, I wasn't so keen to be there. After about 45 minutes, a mom of a kid who was EXTREMELY drunk showed up along with our schools consuler. Many of us intoxicated, this was scary and the word that the cops were coming got around. Everyone left running and these two VERY drunk girls grab onto me and tell us we have to help them. Having no cars, we had to wander around town and into parks trying to keep these girls upright. Me and my friend ended up baby sitting them for three hours. We saw so many cops, they puked everywhere. Overall it was a shitty night. I'm mostly writing this on their behalf. Both have VERY strict parents and I'm pretty sure they got in huge trouble.
TL;DR: | went to a night where many drunk people went wandering around town with our school consroller, bizarre encounter results in at least three hours baby sitting some girls.<|endoftext|> | went to a party with lots of drinking and possibly drugs, two very intoxicated girls try to help ourselves at being in town wrecks themselves and police come to drool all over us.<|endoftext|> | 0.715424 | 0.284576 |
SUBREDDIT: r/personalfinance
TITLE: How much to keep liquid for grad school?
POST: I am applying to grad school for fall 2016 and I want to make sure I am being as smart with my money as possible.
Right now I currently have about $30k sitting in my savings account, (I know, I know, that's why I'm here asking!) about $7k in Vanguard index funds that I contribute ~$1000 to over the course of each year, and I just became eligible to get matching contributions to my 403(b) at my job. (They match 5% if I contribute 3% or more)
I've wanted to keep a lot of my funds liquid because I'm not sure what the future will hold. Ideally I will get into a fully funded phd program and get a 25k/year or so stipend, but there is a chance I will do an in-state not-funded masters first. I still have enough in my college fund to cover the pretty inexpensive in-state tuition for 4 semesters, but I would either have to have enough savings to live on for 2 years, or take out loans.
So now the question is how much I should contribute to the 403(b). On one hand, I could max it out ($16,500) and not feel a thing even though I only make 30k pretax at that job, because I could just start supplementing my significantly reduced paycheck with savings. Or I could throw in like 5-7k just to get retirement savings started, but still keep more liquid. When I go to grad school, I can either keep it in the 403(b) or roll it over to an IRA.
I know having 30k in savings is not the best use of that money, but will the compound interest on putting a big chunk of it in the 403(b) outweigh potentially having to take out loans for grad school?
TL;DR: | I am applying to grad school for fall 2016 and have around $7k in Vanguard index funds that I contribute some money to over the course of each year. I want to make sure I still have enough liquid funds to pay my school stipend. Now how much should I contribute to the 403(b)?<|endoftext|> | I am applying to grad school for fall 2016, with $7k in Vanguard indexed funds that I contribute 5% of each year. I am looking to keep liquid investments on hand so I don't feel overwhelmed financially by the credit card debt I place on my credit score. (Also some thought about building an IRA or 401(k) for my modest income)<|endoftext|> | 0.847968 | 0.152032 |
SUBREDDIT: r/AskReddit
TITLE: Why do we have to pay for Internet usage?
POST: The Internet is going to be there whether we use it or not. It's not a utility like water is(the water company distributes the water and you buy it from them) and it's self-managed(websites are run by the companies that set them up, they gain money either by subscription fees or ads). I can understand a fee for setup, but why pay for data allowance? If it's to keep the satellites up, surely the money from phone services should take care of that. If it's for maintenance and repair of the lines, the phone thing should work on that too right? Why should we have to pay for something that technically, no-one owns?
TL;DR: | Internet is going to be there whether we use it or not, why don't we have to pay for data allowance? And why do we have to support satellite terminals when other things we can use online must do? (except maybe supporting wireless networks)<|endoftext|> | Internet is going to be there whether we use it or not, why pay for data allowance if you actually own the equipment itself?<|endoftext|> | 0.585101 | 0.414899 |
SUBREDDIT: r/AskReddit
TITLE: Do you vividly remember your first experience with the internet?
POST: Mine was about 17 years ago now, I was in grade three and had this fascination with sharks. My teacher decided to send me down to the library so I could pursue my research. The librarian sat me down in front of the computer and opened up Internet Explorer.
Now, I don't come from a well-off family, and at the time we didn't even have a computer at home so I was a little in over my head. She told me to type what I want into the address bar and fucking left me.
So me being next to clueless typed in something like, "Information about sharks and blah blah ocean killers" into the address bar and of course it didn't work. I ended up saying the grade three equivalent of "fuck this" and went back to class.
TL;DR: | Attracted towards the internet from the age of 17, was told internet explorer didn't work for internet browsing. Doesn't really recall the experience today.<|endoftext|> | Went to library looking for internet explorer to research sharks and actually did the same thing it didn't work with internet explorer. Don't even come from wealthy family. Can vivid memory of first internet experience. <|endoftext|> | 0.718594 | 0.281406 |
SUBREDDIT: r/relationships
TITLE: Me [24 M] with my GF [24 F] have been dating for 6 months and still no sex because she is a virgin
POST: Details are important to get a good understanding for guidance thank you very much for reading.
I'm a 24 year old male going to be 25 soon and my girlfriend is the same age as me. I met her 6 months ago and is she is the total package. Smart, sexy, career driven, etc. My friends are all super jealous and my parents and sister love her and the feeling is mutual with her family. I've been through a lot of bad tumultuous relationships in the past and this one is a lot more relaxing and the trust is there. Here's the catch. She's a VIRGIN and I knew that on the 2nd date so its not like I was uninformed and got bait and switched. Its just so rare to find a smoking hot virgin with the total package (in my eyes) and happens to also be the same ethnicity as me (Greek) which definitely is another super plus. She is wife material.
But 6 months and still no sex. She gives me oral though but our relationship lacks that crazy passion and I am constantly tempted to cheat not because I don't love her but because what I want she is not willing to give (at least not in the last 6 months).
What do I do?
TL;DR: | Met girl 6 months ago that is amazing sexually gorgeous and great match ethnicity wise. Have been dating sweet and trusty for 6 months and still no sex. What do?<|endoftext|> | My SO of 6 months met while dating the sexiest woman you can imagine with the perfect run of our entire dating relationship. Still no sexual experience however old is our relationship and I am tempted to cheat but have no experience. What do?<|endoftext|> | 0.831143 | 0.168857 |
SUBREDDIT: r/Parenting
TITLE: Really need advice regarding single parenting / joint custody
POST: Me and my Gf have been together for over 5 years, we have recently had a Son who is now 6 months old. First off I don't want to pose this question to r/relationships because all I got was to try couples therapy and when I even suggest that we need a mediator she gets defensive, takes offence to the idea.
We are both extremely stressed with each other, 24/7 fighting. I feel as though this will always continue because arguing over almost any issue was a constant even before our Son was born.
I'm considering that this relationship is a lost cause but I love them both and do not know what to do going forward. Is he too young to subject this too? financially we depend heavily on one another and most of are finances are joined.
If anyone who has a had a similar situation could share some advice, I know my son will be loved no matter what, I just don't know where to go from here or if there is ever a right time to talk about it. Was considering trying a break to feel out how we both do individually. Thanks I can answer what I can!
TL;DR: | My relationship with my sweet little son who is 6 months old is a lost cause, I like my relationship immensely and struggle with finances. Now we are considering getting a mediator that we might need to talk about separate spending it wise. I love both my boys very much, and don't know if I should pursue that again even though having kids is important to me.<|endoftext|> | Our relationship has been strained recently by arguments over most issues and I feel that if we ever go into marriage that things will continue, need some advice to decide if we should approach it as a lost cause or potential viable option.<|endoftext|> | 0.699254 | 0.300746 |
SUBREDDIT: r/relationships
TITLE: I (23m) need some advice on breaking up with my gf(24f) of 2 years
POST: I've been on the fence about this but have decided its something I have to do.
We have discussed most of our issues to some length over the past year or so but I don't believe she finds them as problematic as I do.
This will be the first serious relationship I will have to end and don't really know how to go about it. Particularly before and after (i have a fair idea of what I should say during). I'm unsure how to handle the "before" because I don't think she will have much warning I do t want it to be a surprise bit at the same time I feel our relationship should be indicative of itself but my friends and family have told me they don't think she will see it coming at all. The "after" I think is tricky because we met in university and she didn't have any close friends until I pulled her in to my group of friends, when I leave I believe they will all take my side and she'll have no one. I also don't know what to do in terms of no contact.
I still care about her a great deal and want this to go as smooth as possible.
Issues: (you can skip this if its unnecessary I know its getting lengthy)
She wants to get married and start a family asap... And I want to focus on my career and getting my life on track, I'm not sure if we're even right together to be married. sometimes I think she's so set on getting married it blinds her to our relationship issues. As far as my career goes I plan to open my own engineering firm and this takes a lot of capital which I don't think could be feasible with the lifestyle she wants.
She is very argumentative, little things normally, I pick my battles but lately I haven't had the patience.
Our sex drives are polar opposites, basically the passion has been gone for over a year now and she only does it to placate me... Which is not so much emasculating as it is infuriating.
TL;DR: | I have boyfriend that has serious issues with relationship issues, we've discussed and decided to end soon, my gf is very argumentative very often but recently has taken things way to far toward getting married and starting a family. I don't think our relationship is perfect but i don't think she will ever see our issues as insurmountable. We broke up long ago but I still care about her a lot and want this to go smooth.<|endoftext|> | gf says our relationship is extremely important and serious but we have a lot of compatibility issues and I don't really think the relationship really will last after 2 years. Should I break up and just move on?<|endoftext|> | 0.872347 | 0.127653 |
SUBREDDIT: r/tifu
TITLE: TIFU by trying to give my number to a guy
POST: So this actually happened two years ago when i was a sophomore in high school but I thought why not share it.
So my friends and I were standing in the commons of my school and I always had a crush on this one guy that was in the commons as well. Cue my friends with great ideas; "You should give him your number!" After discussing how I would give it to him we decided that it would be cute if I asked him if I could give him something then write my number on his hand. Cute right?...wrong. I ended up walking up to him and asking him and then going to grab his hand to write my number on it. He jerked his hand away from me and goes "no" with a stern look on his face. For a good awkward 30 seconds I tried to decide what to do. I ended up kinda mumbling "okay" and walked away defeated. To make it worse he was in a huge group with his friends. Now my friends and I laugh about it but it was probably one of the most awkward moments of my life.
TL;DR: | was a crushy on a guy in the commons two years ago, tried to give him my number but instead ended up walking up to him and asking him with a stern look on his face for 30 seconds after awkward awkward moment.<|endoftext|> | tried to give my good friend nice idea to give him his number online when we were drunk chatting about awkward awkward awkward moments and ended up accidentally giving poor stolen hand gesture<|endoftext|> | 0.888759 | 0.111241 |
SUBREDDIT: r/legaladvice
TITLE: Hospital Bills, they keep sending me new bills and charges. Am I actually legally responsible?
POST: Hey lawyers and legal experts of reddit,
So basically my child had a surgery on an ankle, I got an estimate for my portion of the procedure for $900. Obviously physicians orders and actual operating time can adjust that and they came back with $1000 actual cost. After setting up a payment plan with them I received a new bill with an additional amount charged and even a bill from a separate group for Anesthesia. My insurance company keeps paying part of these charges. ***Am I liable to pay an adjusted bill after all the costs were already calculated and billed?*** I have a feeling that because the hospital is the only one for children and they must take uninsured patients they realized that I have insurance and money so they are trying to squeeze out the most of it. Please help me!
TL;DR: | I had an ankle surgery an insurance company keeps shooting up bill after the procedure was already calculated and billed. I am pretty sure I have insurance so I might be legally responsible?<|endoftext|> | My child was scheduled for ankle surgery with adjusted estimate of $900. My insurance company keeps adding charges and monthly expenses. Is my debt legally responsible for that expense? Or should I just ignore it until the bill is reduced?<|endoftext|> | 0.629775 | 0.370225 |
SUBREDDIT: r/relationships
TITLE: Caught boyfriend [M25] in the act this morning. Extremely embarrassed. What can I [F26] do?
POST: One year relationship.
So I stayed the night at my boyfriend's last night and woke up this morning with the great idea of going to the bakery for breakfast. I wanted to be cute and surprise him with donuts before he woke up.
Well, I ended up leaving and coming back within 20 minutes. When I got back to his place, I went to the bedroom to wake him up and that's when I walked in on him. He had his laptop open and was masturbating to a bikini pic of me from this summer. Needless to say, he was extremely embarrassed and wouldn't even look at me when we were eating breakfast. lol.
I feel bad. I told him it was totally fine, but things have been a little awkward today. Has anyone else gone through this before? What can I do to fix this?
TL;DR: | Had good idea to surprise boyfriend this morning with donuts. He masturbated during the day while doing so online. Accidentally showed I was wearing a bikini during breakfast. Very embarrassed. What can I do?<|endoftext|> | Had wonderful idea of surprise my boyfriend at last night's last night of stay at someone else's place with a bikini pic of me last summer. He slightly embarrassed himself today. What can I do to fix it?<|endoftext|> | 0.754915 | 0.245085 |
SUBREDDIT: r/relationships
TITLE: Me [27F] only value romantic relationships. Friendships don't make me happy.
POST: I feel really, really sad when I'm single. And over the moon happy when I'm in love and have a boyfriend.
Now that I'm single (it's been about 7 weeks), I find myself crying almost everyday. I've been forcing myself to go out and be social but ONLY because I'm hoping to meet someone. Friendships just do not give me the joy that a romantic partner does.
I like time with my family too (and I'm very close with my mom, see her a lot), but I'm just so badly seeking a BF, and feel super lonely and sad when I don't have one.
I workout in a group fitness class 3 times a week in the mornings before work. I thought that would keep me happy, but it hasn't. I keep busy. I just... want a bf so badly, and feel very sad without one... and even if I occupy free time with friends and social activities, I go back home feeling sad because I don't have a SO.
Is this normal?
TL;DR: | Only value romantic relationships, friendships don't make me happy. I miss seeing my BF very much, and almost constantly feel sad. Don't like my busy lifestyle. I'm single but held up by many friendships to be fulfilled.<|endoftext|> | only value romantic relationships when single. Friends don't make me happy. I crave a BF, but don't have one around. I feel sad when I don't have one. Was hoping to meet someone but haven't had time to date for long. What does love do for all people?<|endoftext|> | 0.749087 | 0.250913 |
SUBREDDIT: r/relationships
TITLE: [23M] met [23F] on Tinder. Been talking non-stop for three weeks. How do I go about sorting a meet up out?
POST: After coming out of a long-term relationship I thought I would try and get myself back in the game.
A friend recommended Tinder, so I thought why not? Ended up matching with a girl about half an hour away and we hit it off really well. We've got a lot in common in terms of music tastes and travelling and the like.
After talking for two weeks in Tinder she gave me her number and we've continued to speak via text message.
She has told me that she would like to meet up and we've been flirting on and off too. She said the other night that if she didn't want to speak to me she wouldn't and that I'm now stuck with her. I told her she wouldn't be a bad person to be stuck with, and she said I'm not too bad myself - the standard lines etc.
How can I get a meet up locked down. We've said a couple of times that we would like to meet up but haven't organised anything yet - even just for a drink or something like that. She works 13 hour shifts three days a week and I work 9-5 monday to friday.
Do I leave her to make the move and suggest a proper time to meet up, or do I keep making the suggestion?
TL;DR: | Met on Tinder with girl three weeks ago that we hit it really well and have been chatting more everyday. She recently mentioned meeting up but hasn't set anything up yet. Should I keep making the suggestion that we meet up sometime this week?<|endoftext|> | met someone online from Tinder who gave me her number and we've been chatting ever since on the basis that we both like similar music tastes. We've met up twice so far and things are getting serious. How can I get a meeting booked up for tinder without having set too much precedent?<|endoftext|> | 0.812867 | 0.187133 |
SUBREDDIT: r/relationships
TITLE: Should I (35/F) distance myself from a friend (35/M) I have a crush on?
POST: Throwaway because my husband knows my username. I'm pretty sure I'm over thinking this situation but thought some outside opinions would be useful.
I've been friends with Eric since high school. He's a genuinely great person. We have always just kind of clicked, our first couple of years in college in particular he was one of my best friends. I always had a HUGE crush on him, but he always had a girlfriend so I never acted on it. Crush feels kind of inadequate describing it to be honest, I think I was as close to being in love with him as you can be with someone you don't actually have a romantic relationship with. After college I moved out of state and we lost touch, I met my husband and we have been together almost 10 years and have three kids. We have a wonderful relationship.
About a year ago we moved back to my hometown together and I've gradually started reconnecting with some high school friends, including Eric. He is married now and we double date and all have a great time together. He has a lot in common with my husband, including some hobbies that I don't share with them, so they are starting to form a genuine friendship outside of my friendship with him.
The problem I'm having is that when I hang out with Eric I still feel like I have a crush on him. We just get along so well, we didn't talk for 8 years but have been able to pick right back up when we left off. I feel guilty about this sometimes, like it's disrespectful to my husband (although nothing remotely inappropriate has ever happened, I would never risk my relationship with my husband). I am a little worried that talking to my husband about it might make it awkward between him and Eric, and I would hate for him to lose a potential friend when he just moved across the country with me and doesn't know many people here yet. So…am I over thinking all of this? I know crushes happen but I can't help but wonder if maybe I should try to distance myself from Eric and just encourage my husband to go out and do stuff with him without me. Or should I talk to my husband and let him decide?
TL;DR: | Have been best friends with very good sounding heart friend Eric over the last 10 years. Althought recently moved across country to my hometown with three kids we have a great relationship and talk very well. There is a really strong romantic connection between us and I sometimes have a crush, don't know if distance is actually worrisome. Should I distance myself and encourage my husband to do stuff with his best friends without me?<|endoftext|> | I became good friends with my current best friend who at some point became married and has a great friendship with my husband. I like being around Eric and are interested in trying to distance myself from the friendship because it appears my crush on him still exists. I sometimes think my husband might lose a potential friend because of our recent move. Are my concerns valid?<|endoftext|> | 0.851953 | 0.148047 |
SUBREDDIT: r/AskReddit
TITLE: Reddit, a nursing manager made my girlfriend cry. Help me plot Revenge!
POST: To make a long story short, my girlfriend who was new to the medicine floor, left her coffee mug in an area that she shouldn't have, and the nursing manager threw it away. To be fair, people leave thermoses and coffee cups in that area all the time without problem. AND, this was a $30 super nice vacuum-insulated mug that I bought as a bday gift. AND, the nursing manager threw away everyone's items/mugs without telling anyone, while they were standing not 10 feet away doing rounds (she was in a back room so they couldnt see what she was doing, and weren't really paying attention). Nobody ever explained that you cannot leave items in that area, and when questioned the manager yelled at my girlfriend for not knowing the rules (as I said, they were never explained) and threatened to call the hospital CMO.
TL;DR: | My girlfriend left some nice coffee mug on an area we shouldn't have within our nursing facility, nursing manager threw it away with no warning, nobody ever explained anything about leaving items there, I'm stuck with regrets.<|endoftext|> | worked night shift nursing manager threw coffee mug that my girlfriend left in vacuum-insulated unit from 10 feet away doing rounds with no warning or explanation. Nobody ever questioned the rule. What should I do?<|endoftext|> | 0.874077 | 0.125923 |
SUBREDDIT: r/relationships
TITLE: EX Wife hates my current partner - we have kids and it's becoming a problem
POST: I'm 28 and my ex wife is 29. We were married for 4 years (together 6) before splitting up over 18 months ago, we also have 2 gorgeous girls (aged 5 and 3). Things were really messy during our split but have settled down. Neither of us were particularly happy in the marriage and it just exploded. I feel like we're both happier people now and we actually get along and have a laugh and can share special events with the kids (birthdays/random beach outings etc) - it's really nice.
Problem is I've been seeing someone for the last 6 months or so, and she is someone my ex-wife was friends with in highschool but fell out with not long afterwards. This is causing huge problems as my ex wife does not want her around our children, or to even meet her again or have her at events. My new SO has 2 children of her own as well around the same age so it makes things hard when they are excluded from events with my children. The way my ex wife was during our breakup (she lost the plot, used the kids as ammo etc) makes me cautious about how to approach this, but I'm really at a loss as to what to do. It would be nice if we could all hang out and get along (ex wife has been seeing someone as well) but I know that will never happen as my ex wife hates this person. I'm not asking for us to be one big happy family but it would be nice if we could all just get along. She's even said "if it was anyone else I wouldn't have a problem with it."
I'm not about to give into my ex wifes demands here, but I hate that this may turn into a huge problem in the future. Do I tell my ex wife to stick it, or just suck it up and realise it will always be this way?
TL;DR: | Ex-wife hates my current partner who was later involved while married at highschool. They now clash and cause problems to other aspects of our lives, I'm just looking for an easy solution to ease the pain. Do I tell my ex wife to stick around or just suck it up and realise it will always be this way?<|endoftext|> | divorced 28/ex wife 29 has 2 amazing children, ex spouse hates new partner who is visiting us lately. I need advice on how to approach the situation that might upset the children.<|endoftext|> | 0.712232 | 0.287768 |
SUBREDDIT: r/weddingplanning
TITLE: Elopers: When/Where did you get your dress?
POST: FH and I have decided to elope because after nearly a year of trying to plan something that we both want in a little mining town, I've given up. Anything nice that I want has to come from the city or interstate (I was DIY'ing what I could but I'm unfortunately artsy in my heart, not my bones) and with every question I asked FH, he realised that it was getting more and more stressful for me, so he suggested we elope. YAY!!
Now the only stress is my dress. I'm scared of buying something online and getting ripped off, I'm short and curvy so I'm scared that anything I try on will need to be altered and that could take too long depending on where I end up buying it, I don't want to spend a fortune on a dress like they seem to be in stores, but I'd rather see it and try it on and know that it's a nice quality before I pay money for it. I don't really have anyone to go with either. I don't have any close friends really and I'm not all that close with my MIL or step-mum.
TL;DR: | decided to elope after having considered DIY shopping around for pretty dresses; when did you get your dress from the city or interstate (needless to say expensive), and how did you find good quality?<|endoftext|> | FH suggested elopers get their dress online from a good online store, now when I asked about how much trouble it would take getting alterations while shopping online, his answer was I'd rather see the dress before I spend money, how do I know the dress is good enough when I look at it?<|endoftext|> | 0.805632 | 0.194368 |
SUBREDDIT: r/relationships
TITLE: My[24F] friend [24F] sent bad pictures of me to my fiance[28M]. Am i right to be upset?
POST: My[24F] friend and I did a trial makeup session for my wedding yesterday. She took some really goofy pictures of me and we had a lot of fun. My fiancé lives in another city and he asked me to send some pictures. I told him that my friend had the pictures and I would send them later.
What I didn't know was he asked my friend for the pictures and she sent him terrible absolutely terrible pictures to him and they laughed about it. I found out later when he sent the pictures to me laughing. Am I right to be mad at him for asking her pictures behind my back? And at her for sending all the terrible pictures? She also sent the pictures in our Whatsapp group and they made jokes about me there too. Am I being oversensitive?? I was actually close to tears when I found out they were laughing about me. What should I do now?
TL;DR: | my friend sent really bad pictures of our trial makeup session at my wedding yesterday and they made jokes about me there too. I found out later when my fiance asked for them from Whatsapp. I'm mad at her for asking my friend for the pictures behind my back and actually laughing about them. She also sent bad pictures of herself and made jokes about me there too. What should I do now?<|endoftext|> | My friend sent really bad pictures of me at our makeup session yesterday, my fiance was amused (but did nothing inappropriate), should I be upset if she sent worse pictures of me to his?<|endoftext|> | 0.658418 | 0.341583 |
SUBREDDIT: r/relationships
TITLE: Would it be bad for me [23M] to ask my friend [23F] why she is still dating her boyfriend?
POST: I see her a lot but I hardly ever talk to her about him because I hate everything about him with a burning passion. We went to undergrad and are in med school together and he is a college fail out who began dealing drugs and is now on probation. She does complain about being with him and how she wishes he'd do something with his life, but doesn't seem to have any intention of leaving him.
For the record I am seeing someone else and I do not have feelings for my friend, but I do really wonder why she is still dating her high school sweetheart of 5 years. I don't want to sound condescending, but rather maybe "are you still dating chris?" and see if she talks about it.
TL;DR: | saw my friend with boyfriend that struggled with drugs and now dating but she does seem absolutely fine with him and hasn't had any intention of leaving him. Would it be bad for me to ask why she still hangs out with sweet old chris?<|endoftext|> | saw 23 year old friends girl who has been with her high school sweetheart for 5 years for drug and relapse reasons. Wonder if she talks about it. Not sure if its bad or important.<|endoftext|> | 0.779993 | 0.220007 |
SUBREDDIT: r/tifu
TITLE: TIFU by driving home from school [NSFWish]
POST: This happened about 15 mins ago, and it was such a terrible experience I feel the need to share it. Throwaway because real life.
So I was driving home from school on one of the busy streets in my city when I noticed my balls were stuck to the inside of my leg. Driving in this position is FUCKING AWFUL, because every time you change pedals you run the risk of pinching a nut.
Being the daft mother fucker that I am, I thought to myself, 'hey! I can just reach in my pants, unstick myself, and no one around me will have any clue about what I've done!'
So I commenced my grand scheme at a particularly long red light. I was in the left lane and the lane to my right was sailing by. No one would even notice. And if anyone pulled up next to me, they wouldn't be able to see in.
I reached in my pants and unstuck my sac from the inside of my leg. However, while I was down there I realized that I had to scratch. So I began scratching. I started scratching like my life depended on it.
This is when I fucked up.
I looked up and to my right to realize that the righthand lane had come to a halt. This wouldn't have been a problem had the car that stopped next to me been a honda or some small vehicle. But that wasn't the case. What stopped next to me was a FUCKING BUS. This bus' angle let everyone on the left side of the bus to see into my car.
I looked up and made eye contact with probably one of the most attractive females I'd ever seen, hands still in my pants. I stopped my scratching and pulled my hand out.
She just looked at me with this look. One I will never forget. One that said, 'WHAT KIND OF PERSON ARE YOU.'
I wanted to leave. I waned to get the fuck out of there so bad. But my light was still red. So I had to sit there, music playing and this girl staring at me like I was some sort of pervert.
TL;DR: | Had to scratch my balls while changing pedals on dangerous street in the city while driving home from school, went completely mad when I looked up and saw attractive women staring at me with that look at which said 'what kind of person are you'.<|endoftext|> | drove home from school from strange leaning and scratched my balls while changing pedals which caused everyone on the left lane to see into my car.<|endoftext|> | 0.531209 | 0.468791 |
SUBREDDIT: r/relationships
TITLE: Me [18 M] asking a girl [17 F] I never officially met out on a date
POST: Note: I have never been in a relationship nor have I ever made an attempt to ask someone out.
For the past few months I have been picking up my brother [17 M] from school almost everyday. Occasionally, people would ask for rides or my brother would offer rides. There have been few times when a have given a ride to two girls. The first girl I have met in the past in high school, let's call her "Jenny". The second girl, let's call her "Nicole", and I never met previously and we have not been introduced to each other. Jenny and Nicole are best friends and every time I gave them a ride I always dropped them both off at Jenny's house, as requested.
I think Nicole is very beautiful and I find myself attracted to her. I do plan on asking her out, but in this situation I do not know whether I should just get straight to the point or if I should take small steps.
Here is the plan I had previously thought of: When I drop them off at Jenny's house I will let them take a few steps towards the house before I get out of the car and interrupt them. I call out to Nicole "Hey, wait! Nicole, right? I know this may be a little strange since we barely know each other but, (complement about how I think she is pretty) and I would like to take you out on a date sometime".
My previous thoughts was that it is completely normal for two complete strangers going out on a date. But recently I have been thinking more about it and I started considering finding a way for a group of us (me, Jenny, Nicole, and couple of their friends) to hangout as a way for Nicole and I to get to know each other.
How do you think I should approach this situation?
TL;DR: | Was picking up my older brother from school several times on trips where people asked for rides and I never really met any one else around. I consider hanging out with a group of friends that goes out on dates to meet some nice women. I should go about conducting small steps in doing so.<|endoftext|> | Best friends of different years go out on best friend date all the time. I have never met in person before, but may consider exchanging dates with someone outside the immediate circle. Don't know whether I should just go ahead and just meet someone online to experience a date with someone else or do some small things to see if we can get to know one another better. <|endoftext|> | 0.52342 | 0.47658 |
SUBREDDIT: r/relationships
TITLE: Me [24 M] with my girlfriend [21 F] of 2 years, just stopped living together - should I call it quits?
POST: My girlfriend and I recently stopped living together after 1.5 years. We've been together a total of 2.
Things were great at the start until about 5 months in, where we started having problems. I had some old baggage that I had to resolve myself, so I started going to therapy and working things out. She threatened to move out because of my problems, and actually did for a few days, but came back. We resolved our problems, but they arose again a year later (about a month ago). Not the same problems, but this time it was some problems she was having. The household became really toxic and she decided that she didn't want us to live together anymore. I pleaded for her to stay and work on it together as a family, but she decided that we should live apart and work on ourselves.
We've been living apart for about 2 weeks now, but I haven't seen her at all since she went on a family trip. She's back now and wants us to "work on our relationship." I'm wondering if I should even bother because I feel a sense of resentment toward her for breaking us up (in terms of our living situation.) I also don't feel like I can trust her - I look toward the future and imagine us having kids, going through a difficult time, and then her deciding to break our family apart again.
What should I do?
TL;DR: | My girlfriend and I stopped living together after having some problems early in our relationship (some years back), wound up becoming toxic and now we want to move apart and try to work things out. I don't really feel reciprocated love towards her anymore as I look toward the future with plans to have kids and our relationship will change greatly. Do I have any grounds to believe that we should continue living apart? I do trust her, but I still feel resentment towards her breaking our law-abiding relationship early in our relationship.<|endoftext|> | Girlfriend broke our living arrangement after 1.5 years of dating, now wants us to work on our relationship. I don't really think I can trust her. Should I bother anymore?<|endoftext|> | 0.857768 | 0.142232 |
SUBREDDIT: r/relationships
TITLE: I (f22) am trying to cope with breakup with first love (m26)
POST: So I know when we started seeing each other in February 2007 it was a little wrong because I was 15 and he was 19. We were bf/gf but didn't begin our sexual relationship until I turned 16. We broke up for a little bit and got back together when I was 17 and our relationship was legal. We both had infidelities and he decided it was best we broke up at the end of 2009. I was devastated, heartbroken. Wanted another chance... We went no contact until 2011 when we hooked up once and we mutually went back to no contact.
Then in January 2013 we start seeing each other again. He wanted it to be a secret from any mutual friends and I agreed. After almost a year I told him I couldn't take it anymore because we were living a lie and we broke the news to our friends, apologized for hiding it so long. He started telling me he loved me again in July of last year. I was so happy to finally have my first love back...
Well our relationship has never been all that great. He holds the past against me, accuses me of cheating and lying constantly. We're both extremely jealous and our relationship was toxic from the beginning. None the less this man, no matter what he says or does has my unconditional love.
Right now we are broken up and have been for a little over a week now but have talked nearly everyday. He broke up with me because he didn't want a closed relationship with me and I wasn't willing to open it. Now I wish I would have agreed because we're broken up and I still plan on continuing our sexual relationship once a week... He basically gets his cake and eats it too while I get to feel used and unwanted. I'm so distraught over this.
TL;DR: | I broke up with first love when we initially dated sexually, newly started dating again and our relationship has been toxic from the beginning. I still look fondly on the person I once loved, but I wish I had agreed more so I could have continued our sexual relationship once a week. It really does hurt nonetheless.<|endoftext|> | Broke up with first love at the end of last year after cheating and lied about our sex life. Now we are broken up and share our self-denial and jealousy but would continue our sexual relationship occasionally. Now I wish I'd have agreed cause we were broken up but at the same time I still plan on continuing our relationship.<|endoftext|> | 0.941654 | 0.058346 |
SUBREDDIT: r/GetMotivated
TITLE: Finding the Energy...
POST: I always think that I'm pretty motivated myself. These are the things currently on my plate:
-grad school (4.0 gpa in Secondary English Education)
-two jobs (full time program assistant, part-time tutor for an adult with CP)
-raising my 14 yr old brother (granted permanent custody)
My friends are in awe of my schedule and my adherence to it. The only thing is that when it comes to more leisurely pursuits, like reading, writing, playing guitar, or taking up a new hobby, I feel too spent in terms of energy to be creative or to experiment with anything. I have entered a slump in finding new music, something I used to enjoy, I keep saying I need to get to these projects that involve fixing my bike up to tour around the state, starting a garden, and get into woodworking. But every day I'm being pulled by something enough to where I'm ready to fall asleep, or I feel like I need to reward myself and relax.
TL;DR: | I spend most of my time with school, full time program assistant job, and some recreational activity that requires effort, I'm not really motivated enough to create new things like new music or do woodworking. Any suggestions for energy-tripping activities around my busy schedule would be helpful.<|endoftext|> | I have very modest work schedules and incredible enthusiasm for relaxing with new hobbies and adventures but my computers and bikes are way too old and used up to be creative and do much more leisurely pursuits that I really enjoy. I try to ask my friends for motivation outside of work but every day I'm pulled by something too heavy to relax and do more productive activities. I wonder if I should try new hobbies before settling down further to learn more about them, or do I try to reward myself with something more enjoyable when things otherwise seem too intense?<|endoftext|> | 0.867036 | 0.132964 |
SUBREDDIT: r/AskReddit
TITLE: Thinking about starting my own business as a CAD designer, does anyone have any advice?
POST: Hi there,
My name is Simon and I live in Sweden. I'm currently 20 years old. I graduated from industrial-collage about half a year ago. I've been searching for a real job while doing small construction jobs for my family since then.
I'm pretty good at working in CAD and I've been playing with the thoughts of starting my own business drawing stuff for companies and for private individuals. I guess I can pretty much draw anything but my forté is in mechanical parts. But I'm also good at Visio so making drawings of layout in houses and gardens etc shouldn't be a problem.
Is there anyone that has any experience in stuff like this and could give me some advice and input about this?
TL;DR: | 20+ year old software developer has recently been looking for a real job doing small-scale CAD work, can draw anything, is very good with Visio and doesn't have any experience with such things. Is there anyone that has done this sort of stuff and can give me some advice?<|endoftext|> | I recently started my own CAD contractor job doing small construction on houses and gardens and I have some nice drawing skills but don't really know how to make my own designs with the software offered. Has anyone been successful?<|endoftext|> | 0.51562 | 0.48438 |
SUBREDDIT: r/relationships
TITLE: :( My [27 M] ex-girlfriend [29 F] broke up with me. Post-breakup behaviour is odd. WOULD LIKE ADVICE
POST: So my girlfriend and I called it quits a little under 2 weeks ago. Big fight in public with her rehashing things from the past. In the end it broke down to communication issues, nothing particularly harmful that was done to one another. She said it's not longer worth the fight and wanted to break up. I disagreed a few times and tried to get her to change her mind, but she didn't and so I simply caved and agreed. We parted ways and that was that.
Last week she was supposed to attend a meeting for a group that we are both a part of. Even during the break up, she said that she would see me at the meeting and we need to be civil in order to avoid awkwardness. I agreed, and told her I have no problem with civility and being professional in such a setting. Anyway, she no-showed.
I left a note on her desk, basically saying that I couldn't help but notice her absence and that I hope she's getting some much needed rest after working hard the last few weeks. Nothing mushy, simply caring. I wasn't expecting a reply; I actually prepared myself for the silent treatment. As I suspected, she ignored it completely.
Ever since the break-up however, she's posted multiple quotes or "quotestagrams" on her social media. My news feed constantly pops up with quotes she's liked. Each about relationships and more bitter than the next. A lot of them are direct responses to issues we had. I'm definitely not reading into them, there's no such thing as that much of a coincidence.
I'd like to understand why this is being done. If breaking up was her idea and she said she was 100% sure that it's no longer worth the fight, then why keep posting and liking these things to get my attention? Is it simply to get my attention? Or is she actually hurt? I don't understand how someone can be so bitter over something they wanted themselves. On top of that, why not just reach out to me like I reached out with a simple caring note on her desk?
LADIES HELP ME UNDERSTAND lol
TL;DR: | My ex-girlfriend had stated during the break-up that she was 100% certain that it was no longer worth fighting, posts many quotes online bragging about relationships and being hurt. I don't understand why, nor do I believe those things are responsible. I do believe her hurtiness stems from issues we had in the past.<|endoftext|> | My ex broke up with me unexpectedly after we had a rocky past and she posted messages of love and progress posts while being distant from me. She seems genuinely hurt. I'd like to understand why she keeps posting those quotes and likes them even though she said no-shows the last meeting.<|endoftext|> | 0.699254 | 0.300746 |
SUBREDDIT: r/AskReddit
TITLE: Is it better to withdraw from a class or fail it? (College)
POST: I am currently halfway through the semester and the last day that you can withdraw from a class is coming up. I am currently enrolled as a business student but found that it is not for me, instead i want to follow my dream and become a mechanical engineer. I am in a Microeconomics class and have been avidly studying the past week for the midterm that we took today. I did very poorly on the mid term and am questioning what i should do. My student advisor is all book up until after the withdraw date and wont talk to be about it. So i could use the help do i stay in the class and potentially fail it or do i take a WD on my transcript. I am also looking to transfer out of my college asap since they do not offer mechanical engineering here.
TL;DR: | I am halfway through semester studying business m & microeconomics and failed the midterm on yesterday and all my advisor says is book up until after withdrawal date. Is there anyway i should stay in the class or fail the transcript?<|endoftext|> | Im halfway through the semester studying in Microeconomics with mediocre midterm, looking to fail midterm or withdraw from the class now?<|endoftext|> | 0.7773 | 0.2227 |
SUBREDDIT: r/college
TITLE: Did I screw up my FAFSA by supplying half my parents joint income for my separated mother?
POST: I'm currently a high-school senior, and am planning on attending a four year university this fall. I am worried I might have made a mistake submitting my FAFSA.
Context: My parents are separated but not legally divorced, hence, although living pretty-much separate lives, they still file taxes jointly. I live with my mom, who has been my primary source of financial support since my parents separated. She makes less than half of what my father makes.
When filling out my fafsa, I was unsure how to handle this situation, but after researching online, it seemed that every source I could find (except for official government sites, which were silent on the issue) said the same thing: I should just report one parents income, unless I live in a community property state (which I do, Texas), in which case I should report half of the joint income. This was exactly what I did. In hindsight, I realize I should have checked with a counselor or something before submitting.
Today, I was contacted by my school's automated system, and they want me to submit verification of the information I entered. I'm realizing now that if I was mistaken about how to fill out the FAFSA in my situation, halving all the information from my parents tax returns might look like fraud, particularly given that I won't have the opportunity to explain what I did.
With this is in mind I have two questions:
1. Did I screw up when submitting my fafsa?
2. When I submit my parents' tax return for verification will I get in trouble with the school and/or the federal government? If so, is there anything I could do to prevent this, by say, forfeiting federal aid?
Thanks in advance to anyone who takes the time to reply.
TL;DR: | I incorrectly filled out my fafsa application when my parents were legally separated, half their joint income was supplied, did I screw up? No big deal, should I forfeit federal aid?<|endoftext|> | My four year old high school student is expected to simultaneously report half of her parents income on FAFSA, when used correctly, to the IRS. Did I screw up, and if so what legal repercussions might I face?<|endoftext|> | 0.7773 | 0.2227 |
SUBREDDIT: r/relationships
TITLE: Is it a normal thing for me (F23) and my best friend (M27) to sleep in the same bed all the time?
POST: Does anyone else have a *platonic* friend that they stay and sleep with? He and I are very close and almost instantly became that way about a year ago. To the point that people don't understand why we aren't dating. While we do spend a lot of time together, we've never crossed into that romantic plane. We've discussed the issue, but neither of us have ever made a move. We've also been involved with other people on a somewhat casual level. However, despite that fact, I have drunkenly suggested that we cross the line and recently spewed to him that *maybe everyone else was right and we should be together and that he should kiss me*. He didn't. He told me that since I was drunk that I'd regret it the next day. Well, I felt like an ass. I also felt that things would be awkward, he didn't allow that though. And we're still staying with each other. I'm having a very hard time figuring out/accepting that I have those sort of feelings for him, especially considering that he may not return those feelings. He did say though that he had a hundred things going through his head when it came to his past love, his current crush, and myself. I think we both need to just sort things out, but back to my main question, are we really that peculiar in how close we are or are there other people out there with friendships like ours?
TL;DR: | Best friend of ours sometimes sleeps with another person at home almost constantly. Is there anyone else with similar experiences that share a similar sort of romantic relationship? <|endoftext|> | Best friend and I spend a lot of time together sexually and slept in the same bed all the time. I think we have romantic feelings for each other, but might be wrong with our sexual habits.<|endoftext|> | 0.558327 | 0.441673 |
SUBREDDIT: r/relationships
TITLE: Me [42 M] with my wife [51 F] married for 4 years, together for 11, just confessed emotional affair
POST: My wife and I have been together for 11 years, and last weekend she admitted to having an inappropriate emotional relationship with a co-worker. She's broken it off, but she still has to interact with him.
She's started to go to 12-step meetings for Sex/Love addicts, which is sort of a surprise to me, as I didn't really see this.
My wife and I have had to overcome a lot of issues, I myself am a recovering alcoholic, sober for 8 years.
I am really struggling with this, though. In all the time we've been together, no matter what, I have never been worried about her cheating. We have our problems, but I have always felt that at least I could trust her in this area. Now I feel like I can't, and I don't know really how to process this.
TL;DR: | Wife confessed emotional affair with co-worker, has trouble moving forward with our marriage after overcoming a lot of issues. I still have trust issues. I didn't really think either of us would cheat before but after last weekend I feel like I can't trust how seriously she takes this activity. What do I do?<|endoftext|> | Wife and I have been happily married for 11 years, have an inappropriate emotional relationship with a co-worker, have overcome many issues, do not trust each other anymore, but still have our problems, how do I process this?<|endoftext|> | 0.805632 | 0.194368 |
SUBREDDIT: r/relationships
TITLE: [25/M] Pushed a lot of awesome friends away with my negativity/drama. Any way to gain them back?
POST: I don't know why I do this, but I always have sense a young age. Sometimes when I'm at my lowest, I tend to start thinking really hyperbolic and dramatic. Ie: Calling myself worthless, a loser, etc. Or doing something small and start texting shit like "Omg. I'm sorry. Are we cool? How can I redeem myself?" etc etc. I'm working on my depression/social skills/etc And since I've been catching up on sleep and doing good things with my time, I've been feeling better about myself recently.
None of my friends have "written me off" persay. Like if I reach out to them, they tend to reply most of the time. However, I don't get invited to social events with them anymore. And I miss that. I'm really introverted/awkward/etc and I have a hard time making friends. So the friends I do have I like to cherish and keep a hold. But I feel like since the bridge isn't 100% burned, I can build it back somehow. I just don't know how to gain the trust back. Any ideas?
If you have any questions, let me know. The friends that I speak of I've known for 7 years. I've known them for 7 years, but been close with them from 2010-2014 but drifted apart recently.
TL;DR: | Positive negativity, bad social skills, old friends constantly calling me worthless, always stuck trying to build bridges back online, any way I can instill trust over old friendships?<|endoftext|> | Start simple negativity in my social circles and suddenly develop friendships with old friends that I like but no longer see. Any way to keep strong relationships and gain former friends back.<|endoftext|> | 0.810479 | 0.189521 |
SUBREDDIT: r/AskReddit
TITLE: Reddit, how can I address Congress in person?
POST: Recent events have led me to believe that no matter what America says, Congress will not listen. My belief is they are far too busy acting like toddlers to give a single shit about anything that doesn't advance their personal agenda (what with the endless name-calling and blatant sabotage of anything "the other side" proposes), and are consequently damaging the country beyond repair.
Every day I hear or see something in the news that actually makes me feel physically sick with frustration. Statistics show I'm not alone in my frustration, but the powers that be seem to be a tad out of touch with the feelings of the general population.
Everybody is sick of Washington's bullshit, and I think it's time somebody marched into the House of Representatives and told our public servants to, essentially, stop being a bag of dicks (perhaps with slightly more eloquent phrasing).
So my question to you is, how do I go about telling Congress to get its act together right to its slimy, slimy, slimy face, preferably without being shot in the face by security in the process? I feel as though bursting into the chamber and asking, as somebody who helps pay all of their salaries, to use the podium is the best way to draw attention to what I have to say, but (and please correct me if I'm wrong) I'm thinking that waltzing into important federal buildings and making demands is not the best way to go about this.
TL;DR: | My personal belief that Congress is too busy acting like toddlers to give a shit about anything important that isn't advancing their political agenda has left me feeling physically sick with frustration. I want to speak directly to Congress about what I have to say by using the podium rather than waltzing into an empty House building.<|endoftext|> | Recent events have led me to believe that no matter what America says, Congress will not listen to its individual interests. How can I approach the House of Representatives that have irreparably damaged the country in the past with demands like "use the podium", without being personally shot in the face?<|endoftext|> | 0.679179 | 0.320821 |
SUBREDDIT: r/offmychest
TITLE: /relationships said this belongs here
POST: I've been dating the same girl for about a year and a half. At this point, I can still say truthfully that I love her, but we have been distant, in part because she is finishing up her last year(ish) of school, and I am already working in the city. We see each other once every 2-3 weeks.
However, there is another girl at my work who I have known for some time, that I am starting to develop feelings for, although I have never cheated on my gf with her.
Here is the kicker. My gf is going to study abroad for her final semester (4 months), and the non gf "friend" is moving away in August.
I feel like I am losing some very important people in my life, and there is nothing I can do. I really feel like I can't tell either girl the extent of the situation, because then I risk losing them both entirely.
Another issue is my pot use. I find that it helps with my depression, which I think is in part caused by the fairly consistent lack of female contact, and no means to get it without cheating. I normally like smoking, but I want to save the money instead.
I've told my gf that I need a break this fall, as I can't do 4-5 months of NO female contact whatsoever. She was upset, but asked if we could still keep in contact and I was thrilled and said of course.
I just feel really confused. Just typing this sort of helped, but I'm scared that I am going to lose people I care about.
TL;DR: | I have been dating one girl for almost a year, and have recently started developing feelings for another girl who is moving away in August. I need space due to significant personal issues in my life. I am also worried that possible cheating may extend my stigma from my relationship. <|endoftext|> | date with great female gf that will go abroad soon attending college doing research, has shallowimately developed feelings for other girl, have no idea if I can keep intimate relationship with any other women while she is away.<|endoftext|> | 0.577495 | 0.422505 |
SUBREDDIT: r/loseit
TITLE: Running on a track or running on an elliptical?
POST: Hello friends! It's been a long while since I posted. About a year ago, I was just starting my weight loss lifestyle change and going strong, only to be slightly derailed around last Christmas.
At 90+ pounds lost so far and still more to go, I'm getting back into the game hardcore mode. I had not too long ago stopped counting calories and just mentally tallying, but I'm pretty sure I am a big fat fibber to myself when it comes to portions, so no more of that. In addition, despite my legs' protests, I am starting the C25k program (well, a variation of it) at home in addition to running the same variant on the track at my gym.
My question is, as the title hints, would running on the track be better for calorie burning than the elliptical, or should I do both (such as elliptical at the gym, running at home)? I understand the importance of cross-training, although elliptical running isn't very different imo from the track, but "free" running is far more taxing on me and I feel as if I get a better workout than on the elliptical. The only real exception I guess is that I do intervals while free-running, and I'm at a constant speed (most likely higher than my average running/walking track speed) on the elliptical. So what do you think?
TL;DR: | was at lower weight loss for the year relying heavily on counting calories but began running track and elliptical vigorously. Shall running better than elliptical on the track? Or just using both at home and at the gym?<|endoftext|> | exaltered weightlifting lifestyle to become more calorie-burning, decided running on track was better than elliptical for calories burned, any other exceptions?<|endoftext|> | 0.503906 | 0.496094 |
SUBREDDIT: r/relationships
TITLE: I [19 M] have a crush for one of my friends [19 F] who is in a relationship
POST: Hi Reddit,
so a few days back i met a beatiful girl on a seminar i was on. We liked each other from the beginning and started to talk a lot during the 5 days we were there. I really liked her from the beginning and know i just can't stop thinking about her. She seems to be perfect for me. We have the same hobbies, love the same music etc.. I will also meet her again in a few days and just knowing that makes me so happy. I would really be the luckiest person on this planet and in the entire galaxy if she would be my gf but the problem about this is that she is in a relationship with her boyfriend for nearly 2 years which makes everything so difficult.
During the seminar we were on it also came to a moment when we were tickling each other a bit and then our foreheads touched. We looked us both in the eyes for a couple of seconds but I didn't know what to do. I would have maybe gone for a kiss there if she wouldn't have been in a relationship. But most of the time we spent together or with the people we liked. We also sang Karaoke together danced a bit and talked for like an hour about the problems we have/had. It felt like she is the one for me.
She even lives together with her bf since a few months which makes it even more difficult for me to date her or something like that. It seems to me that waiting for them to break-up is my only possible way to even get her to date me which makes me sad
TL;DR: | Met pretty amazing girl on seminar who seemed perfect for me throughout the trip and things went really well despite being in a relationship. Now that we might meet again I really fancy her but the problem keeps piling up with relationships between her and boyfriend and it makes dating impossible. I really like that person but i just can't seem to date her because of the problems she is having with their relationship.<|endoftext|> | met someone amazing during my seminar trip whom i really like very much and date afterwards who is in a relationship. Now that we are tickling each other really often during our conversations and kissing each other feels like i may be in love with her. One of my closest friends is in a relationship and the other things about her relationship make it impossible for me to date her.<|endoftext|> | 0.826712 | 0.173288 |
SUBREDDIT: r/relationships
TITLE: My gf[23 F] is depressed over career decisions and I[23 M] want to help but don't know where to begin.
POST: My girlfriend is cheery and happy whenever she's with me. She smiles, laughs and enjoys life to the fullest during our time together or when with her friends.
She's recently lost her job (a job she enjoyed very much) and has been working part time at a coffee shop. I work 9-5 so during the days off, she's alone in the apartment and not doing much. This has been beating down on her for months especially because her friends are doing the jobs they love and being wildly successful. This resulted in a couple calls with crying on my lunch break or just breakdowns on her not going anywhere with her life.
I'm trying my best to tell her we'll work on it together. She tells me that she's just gonna end up working a mediocre job that she doesn't love because she turned down or missed out on larger opportunities through the years. She didn't finish university and feels bad seeing her friends graduate as well.
She had a couple chances to do really extravagant jobs through the years. Due to circumstances (parents preventing her, unwillingness to move to another country), she had to turn them down. There are more factors for why she turned them down but the fact that she missed out on them burns her deep.
I'm not sure where to start because she's normally so strong and seeing her this low and sad triggers me to try and help the best I can. I want to help her get a successful job she loves and get her happy again. I personally don't care much for extreme careers. I just like working and being paid a decent wage. But I want her to have a job she can be proud of. I just want to see her happy.
So, my girlfriend is feeling low and embarrassed over turning down possible dream jobs, not having a stable job at the moment, possibly working a mediocre job she wouldn't like and not finishing school. As her boyfriend, how do I help?
TL;DR: | My girlfriend lost a job she loves through circumstances but was happy during previous years. She recently turned down fancy jobs that most people would love and now feels very down on her self about herself. We both want her happy and do our best to ease tension but don't know where to begin.<|endoftext|> | My girlfriend has lost her job and is unhappy with her current career choices. She is distant when with me but really happy whenever we're together even though she misses out on more exciting opportunities through the years. I want her to have a job she can be proud of. I don't care much for extreme careers. Any suggestions?<|endoftext|> | 0.718594 | 0.281406 |
SUBREDDIT: r/relationships
TITLE: I [23F] am having trouble feeling like my [26M] boyfriend has given up.
POST: We have been dating for a year now. Things were good at the beginning of our relationship and he'd do sweet things like buying me flowers or taking me out on dates that we'd plan together.
Since we moved in all that has stopped. Completely. It was as if a switch was flipped. I try to suggest things that we could do together and I cook and clean and give him massages and try to flirt with him to make him feel special but he never wants to do anything except smoke pot and play video games all day. (I should say I'm not against those things I don't smoke but I'm an avid gamer too but there's a point where it's too much!) I've tried and tried to explain that I don't feel wanted or desired by him anymore and he puts more effort in for a day or so and then nothing. I feel like I'm nagging and controlling to ask so often that it's driving me nuts!
It's gotten to the point where I'm not really sexually attracted to him anymore. I work out and I've tried to motivate him to go to the gym with me but he says his anxiety won't let him. I love him and I know it's shallow but he's put on so much weight since we moved in that I just... don't feel attracted to him. It also doesn't help that he won't try to romance me or put me in the mood and that's causing more tension for the both of us.
What can I do to save this??
TL;DR: | Boyfriend suddenly stopped doing many things we used to enjoy together despite having put a lot more effort in for dating and flirting over the past year. I try to justify why he's put less effort but it just doesn't seem satisfying anymore. I feel unattractive. <|endoftext|> | We've been dating for a year now and things have stopped completely around housework and smoking. My boyfriend says his anxiety won't let him do anything around the house; I love him and would like to be sexual but just don't feel attractive or sexually attracted anymore. <|endoftext|> | 0.771843 | 0.228156 |
SUBREDDIT: r/relationships
TITLE: (25 m)needs advice on complicated situation with (24 f)
POST: Ok so here's the back story. I'm 25m, my wife is 24 f. We were married 3 years ago. Been together another 2. We separated about 3 months ago (stress over money led to infidelity on her part and that led to several fights between us). We both started seeing someone else after separating.
Today we met up to discuss the impending divorce and after a long(I'm talking 6 hours or so) talk we realized that we still love each other and that both of us have grown up a lot in the last few months. (Basically forced to because of living situations)
Now my question. Should we try to give it another shot? I'm thinking of basically dating and not jumping back into full fledged married life right away. Also, is the fact that we have both now been with someone else while we were separated going to cause problems down the road?
TL;DR: | 25m married 3yrs ago with complex complicated situation with 24f. We still love each other very much and are both very grown up recently we decided to start dating and no jumping back into married life. Is this going too far? Should we try again?<|endoftext|> | married 3 years ago after both getting divorced and now 3 years later we still love each other and have grown up a lot online but have slept only once after trying to move things along mentally. Should we try again? Is the fact that we have now been with someone else while we were separated going to cause problems down the road?<|endoftext|> | 0.531209 | 0.468791 |
SUBREDDIT: r/relationship_advice
TITLE: I cannot get over my best friend/ex, please help, RA
POST: I dated my best friend one an off for about 4 years. I was always the doting one in the relationship and he was generally emotionally unavailable, but I loved and cared for him deeply. After our last official break up we continued to spend all of our time together and occasionally hook-up, but it was really basic, unromantic sex. More than anything, i would call him my closest, dearest friend.
After about 2 years of this, I met someone else and my Ex was devastated. He called and emailed all the time and all of a sudden wanted to be this caring, romantic boyfriend. But at that point, I only saw him as my best friend. This went on for 6 months (during which I was very caring, understanding and patient), until he met someone else. He wanted to break-off contact, which I understood completely.
After about 2 months, I emailed him just to check in and he wrote back saying he missed me. 2 months after that, I called him (I shouldn't have, I know)--I knew he wouldn't pick up and I didn't leave a voicemail. He called back and left a voicemail that was unbelievably vitriolic and said, among other things, that he said he never wanted to speak to me again.
That was 6 months ago, Reddit, and I'm still unbelievably upset. I don't know if it's just jealousy or a true longing, but I just miss my best friend so much. I can't get over it and I think about him every day. I would not, however, try to contact him again for fear of his response or lack thereof. But I thought I would be over it by now and I'm still just so upset. It's making me truly miserable. What can I do?
TL;DR: | My best friend ditched me shortly after our last official relationship and now has a girl who wants to be my romantic boyfriend. I miss him terribly and just can't get over it. I don't know if its jealousy or a true longing. What can I do?<|endoftext|> | Dated best friend 6+ years but couldn't really get over ex that we still spent all our time together, now dating new person. Don't know if I should contact him again. Anything I should do?<|endoftext|> | 0.843895 | 0.156105 |
SUBREDDIT: r/relationships
TITLE: Boyfriend is going to start traveling 4-5 days a week for work...
POST: My boyfriend (mid 20's) and I (also mid 20's) have known each other for over a year, but just started dating 3ish weeks ago.
He has a great opportunity at work, but this will cause him to be traveling 4-5 days week, pretty much Monday - Thursday for the next 2 months. I know travel can be a strain on relationships, especially new ones, but I'm really excited for him. This is a great opportunity at work, and he's going somewhere I love so hopefully I can visit while he's there. So my question for you RA is if any of you have/had any experience with these situations or have any suggestions that I can use to keep things moving along.
TL;DR: | My boyfriend starts traveling 4-5 days a week for work, I know traveling can be a strain on relationships but I'm extremely excited for him. Need suggestions to keep things moving along.<|endoftext|> | Bf traveling 4-5 days a week for work (potential great opportunity), I really love visiting with my absolutely wonderful family, any experience to keep things moving along?<|endoftext|> | 0.887205 | 0.112795 |
SUBREDDIT: r/AskReddit
TITLE: Why aren't we up in arm about McCain-Levin the way we are about SOPA when McCain-Levin is potentially so much more destructive to our liberties?
POST: I've been reading the many posts about SOPA on Reddit. I've also been reading the relatively few posts about McCain-Levin. I noticed that as SOPA has waxed and waned Redditors posted links about who to call, were giving updates on the volume of calls going into Congress about the bill, and giving blow-by-blow descriptions of how the fight was going.
McCain-Levin is potentially much more destructive to our civil liberties. It allows for indefinite military detention of Americans on American soil. If/when the bill takes effect, the government could declare Occupy a terrorist movement, like the UK has flirted with, and allow the military to lock folks up for as long as they like. This is much more devastating to our civil liberties than SOPA. It allows dictator-style "disappearances" and such.
I am in my mid-40s, so I am a little older than many of you, but I am in the tech industry and I see a lot of young folks coming through. I do not buy into the things many older folks say about the youth being lazy, etc. I have a positive impression of the people coming out of college today. But I see the difference in response to these two bills, and I say WHAT? It makes me wonder if what I am hearing from the older generations is right: that the youth really only care about being able to pirate porn over the Internet and that the larger more important issues elude them. I don't want to believe this, but this situation makes me wonder.
So, the youth have proven themselves to be a force to reckon with in the SOPA debate and Occupy. Why did you not turn that power to do battle with the McCain-Levin bill, which challenges rights far more important than downloading LOTR from Pirate Bay.
TL;DR: | Why are Internet users so up in arms about SOPA when McCain-Levin could potentially be more destructive to our liberties?<|endoftext|> | Why is our political discussion of SOPA so divided about the mind-numbing harsher legal restrictions against indefinite military detention of Americans abroad on the Internet compared to the more important issue of online piracy, and why is the younger generation less interested in that side of politics than those more important issues?<|endoftext|> | 0.705785 | 0.294215 |
SUBREDDIT: r/AskReddit
TITLE: Is a mobile phone contract, performed over the phone, binding the company to what was agreed upon?
POST: My contract with Vodafone Australia is nearly up, and I tried to upgrade my phone to a Samsung Galaxy S4. I called the necessary phone number to do the upgrade, and started speaking to a guy about what plans I could get it on.
I asked if I could remain on my current plan (The new ones are quite expensive) and the VF sales rep said that I could, and amazingly, the phone was turning up as $0 per month extra!
I happily accepted this offer, and the rep went through all the terms and conditions. I agreed to everything he said, and thanked him for the awesome deal.
The conversation ended and we both went on our happy ways.
About 45 minutes later however, the same rep called me back and said there was a mistake. I could not get the phone on my old plan for $0, it would be $35 p/m instead.
He also added that there was an extra charge of $270 left on my account (even though I was in my free upgrade period). There was a whole bunch of transfers between departments, and a lot of "only that other department can answer that question."
What I really want to know though, is whether the first agreement that we came to was (even though it might have been an error) legal and binding.
The final person I spoke to said they would get back to me with a final answer within a maximum of 48 hours, this was 72 hours ago.
TL;DR: | Vodafone contract meeting online, agreed to upgrades to new phone, choice turned up exactly how they said, online sales rep says the additional charges were fine, I accepted the offer. What I really want to know is whether it really was binding and legal.<|endoftext|> | Vodafone Australia offered me a great package for upgrading through mobile phone, my contract was nearly up, they said the phone was turning up at a fair price. I accepted, and they said there was extra charge left on my account, 72 hours later. What I really want to know is whether the initial agreement worked legal and binding.<|endoftext|> | 0.562177 | 0.437824 |
SUBREDDIT: r/needadvice
TITLE: Help! My Dad is leaving our Family after visiting non-licensed psychiatric help. Hates things he used to love.
POST: My Dad is walking out on our Family. Brief: He is 50 and was going through what we considered a mild mid-life crisis. It began with vivid dreams that he was making connections to in his waking life. He is an engineer/scientific mind who now believes he can no longer live in our home if he wants to be the person he was always meant to be. He is even saying things like we are all critical and he can't stand our negative energy. He also wants to go live in the forest alone to concentrate on his inner self.
Even more alarming, he sought guidance from a non-licensed psychiatrist with an MA in Pastoral Counseling, and an interest in Reiki (she is an Advanced Pranic Healer) in recent years she has become an Integrated Energy® Therapy Master-Instructor. She has what I would call "recruited" him to pay a lot of money to go to a persons house once a month and seek counseling over skype with a Kabbalah instructor in California. He is also attending the Interfaith Spiritual Church on weekends.
This stuff is fundamentally changing him, and he no longer enjoys the things in life that he once loved (Hockey, Meat, Friends). He can't stand criticism and takes any questioning of these spiritual healers as negative energy he doesn't want to be around. He left tonight and doesn't plan on coming back anytime soon. Anyone have any guidance?
TL;DR: | Boy Loved Non-Licensed Psychiatric Healing as a Mid-Life Crisis. Implications for Dad are Changing. He now hates things he once loved. Anyone have any advice?<|endoftext|> | Dad moved through a mild mid-life crisis with non-licensed psych services that have helped him alter his lifestyle. He hates things that used to love that he once did. Anyone have any guide to help him move on?<|endoftext|> | 0.622459 | 0.377541 |
SUBREDDIT: r/relationship_advice
TITLE: Me[19/F] got dumpped bymy boyfriend my [20M/] after a year and 2 months of dating and 2 years of being best friends.
POST: My Boyfriend and I were best friends for 2 years before we started dating.
My ex and I had a strange friend affair. While I was dating my first boyfriend, he(my recent ex) claimed to be in love with me and would show up at my door at all hours of the night to console me while being in love with me. My recent ex then started dating this girl for a year and a half. He claimed he was going to marry this woman and that he was the happiest man of all. Since we were both in relationships he(recent ex) confessed how he did have feelings for me before his girlfriend. I then break up with my boyfriend at the time and realize that i'd really rather be dating my recent ex.
We eventually reached a point where we were both single. ( I had left another man for him) and we start dating. I lose my virginity to him which was a MASSIVE deal to me and I'm convinced that this man is going to be my husband
Slowly the man I love slowly began to die. He stopped caring about my feelings, he stopped saying thank you, he stopped showing me he loved me, he started smoking more weed, started ditching me for his new friends. It hurt
Reddit i gave this man everything, i cooked, i cleaned, i did his chores, i helped pay his bills and payed for dinner, i supported everything he ever wanted to do because i just loved him so much
He then left me. I wanted to take a break because I was so tired of his selfishness and I wanted him to realize what life would be like without me. He ended up saying how he, "couldn't do it any longer" and that a break up is whats needed.
He hasn't msged me or called me or even spoken to his friends about our break up. He has gotten over me and its only been 2 weeks.
I guess I'm asking why it is i've been so easily forgotten. My ego is really hurt and I want to know what to do next.
TL;DR: | My best friend dumped my boyfriend after a year and 2 months of dating and 2 years of being best friends. He has now stopped caring about my feelings and is no longer showing my appreciation for our relationship. I lost my virginity to him and have become quite hurt. What do I do? I feel utterly forgotten. <|endoftext|> | Best friends with former ex now divorced after 2 years of dating and 2 years of being best friends. My old boyfriend suddenly died suddenly of alcoholism. I lost my virginity long before our relationship and I'm very hurt. I want to move on and try something new.<|endoftext|> | 0.865224 | 0.134776 |
SUBREDDIT: r/legaladvice
TITLE: Can I confront my employer about unfair pay/ discrimination? (Southern California)
POST: For the last three years I've been working for a small biotech company getting paid a really low wage. About six months ago I asked for a new position and to transfer departments (they needed help). My transfer was approved but I did not receive a raise. I thought huhhh, this is in no way a lateral transfer but I'll give it a few months, maybe I need to prove myself first.
Over the past six months I had far exceeded my department director's expectations by developing a new product in addition to several other projects. My annual review was fantastic (5/5) and he recommended me for a "significant" raise. I asked for a 30% raise because that would place me on the low side of my new position's pay range.
Now about a two months ago the small biotech company I'm working for was bought out by a huge biotech company. About a week ago I asked if my raise had been approved. It was not... surprise! I was told I asked for too much and that I might be able to get a 10% raise. Now in my opinion what I'm currently getting paid is a joke and I believe it to be unethical on this company's part. Based on my research (glassdoor & salary.com), I should be making $15,000 a year more than I'm currently making. I'm pretty certain this large biotech company pays that much or more for people with my job description.
My question is what can I do? I'm a female and I live in CA. A new fair pay law recently passed that says females and males in similar roles need to be making similar wages. I want to know if I can confidently approach my boss/HR with this law? Any advice would be appreciated! I know I should probably quit but I've been boned for too long to just roll over.
TL;DR: | worked for small biotech company getting unfair pay, recently was bought out by huge biotech company. Now concerned about fair pay law I should be making significantly more than before I started working. I live in Southern California and used fair pay law to argue I was unfair. Any advice?<|endoftext|> | I asked my small biotech company for a raise after gaining new responsibilities, was approved but my raise was way too high and unattractive. Now about two months later I have been making significantly more money than previously I was. What can I do to confront my employer with unfair pay and discrimination claims?<|endoftext|> | 0.782663 | 0.217338 |
SUBREDDIT: r/relationships
TITLE: Me [19 M] with my gf [21 F] wondering If she should talk to her cousin about how she felt about her wedding.
POST: Okay so a little context here I have been dating my gf for 1.5 years now and we talk about everything. Last summer we attended a wedding of her cousin, which i'll call Shelly for this stories sake. Now Shelly and my gf are/were very close growing up and were best friends until Shelly went away for college. This is understandable as Shelly is a decent bit older.
When talking to my gf she stated that she was a little salty about the wedding itself as when they were younger Shelly promised her she would be in the bridal party due to how close they were. Come the wedding time she is told by her mom from the aunt (Shelly's mom) that there is going to be no bridal party just about S and her fiance. Normally only her family would have gone, but her younger sister was going to be on a trip to Europe so she would be more or less alone is terms of age group at the wedding. A few weeks before the wedding Shelly messages her on FB and tells her that she can bring a guest to the wedding if she would like, thats where I came in here.
Once the wedding day itself comes and we are all seated we look up to the alter and what do you know three groomsmen and three bridesmaids. She didnt say much at the time towards it, but now has expressed her anger towards the situation to me in private. She feels like she is over it and being able to bring me was a compensation from Shelly for not having her in the bridal party. I told her I feel like she should tell Shelly how she feels/felt to get it off her chest and let her know that it wasnt right in her book and that she felt decently hurt by the lie/deceit that happened. Not saying she should atone for the actions in place, but at least apologize and talk out their feelings so there is no long term resentment from her. What do you guys think about this, am I right should she talk with Shelly, or should I drop it and allow her to be "over it" in her words?
TL;DR: | Got great gf's close relationship with older relative to attend wedding at which she pledged bridal party but later finds out the reason she was not included at all is based on the truth that her sister was going away for europe trip. Now upset about the situation she might have brought up to meet groomsmen and bridesmaid and seems really hurt by the lie. Should i drop it or let her know how she feels?<|endoftext|> | gf of year wedding went with her cousin three groomsmen, bridal party, had social event happy with their choices, she feels pretty hurt that her bridal party didn't include her so she mentioned at the last minute that she feels was decently hurt about her false promise that she would be in the bridal party. Should she talk to her cousin about it?<|endoftext|> | 0.828939 | 0.171061 |
SUBREDDIT: r/relationship_advice
TITLE: There's a guy who is really obviously moving in on my girlfriend, and it's making me uncomfortable.
POST: She and I have been dating for nearly six months now, and she's just as obviously into me as I'm into her. The guy in question is one of a group of friends she's been hanging out with since she moved away for college. She already has more guy friends than girl friends by far, but up until now they've all been very respectful of the fact that she and I are definitely in a relationship that's pretty rock solid.
The guy I'm worried about (we'll call him Jim) talks to her online constantly, and in one of their more recent conversations, he expressed his feelings for her. She rejected him outright, but he's still been talking to her a lot, telling her things about his life that most people wouldn't tell someone they met a month or so ago. (She told me all of this herself, by the way -- I didn't find out by checking her IM history or anything.)
I'm not worried that my girlfriend is going to be unfaithful, and Jim hasn't done anything to suggest that he might be unstable enough to try and force her into doing anything. Still, though, his (verbal) intimacy with her is putting me on edge. I don't like it.
I don't want to be the asshole boyfriend who chooses who his girlfriend can or cannot hang out with, but barring asking her to stop replying to his IMs, I'm not sure what to do in this situation.
TL;DR: | Girlfriend seems very much into someone who's been hanging around online recently that seems extremely possessive of her and often posts things that imply he's emotionally unstable. I'm paranoid and don't want to be the asshole boyfriend who chooses who our girl can or cannot hang out with.<|endoftext|> | There's a guy with apparent trust issues who is really clearly hanging out with my girlfriend online, and it's making me uncomfortable. What can I do about it? Should I stay my ground or end it?<|endoftext|> | 0.847968 | 0.152032 |
SUBREDDIT: r/BreakUps
TITLE: My girlfriend [19f] and I [20m] recently broke up and I'm not sure what to do.
POST: Never really done this type of thing before but I'm at my wits end with this situation and it's make me feel like shit.
My girlfriend [19f] and I [20m] recently broke up after 10 months because she felt that it wasn't like we were boyfriend and girlfriend anymore.
I've been feeling really stressed the past month or so and didn't really feel like I could talk to her and I'm imagining got a lot more distant than usual. I felt like I couldn't really talk to her as I'm her first boyfriend she would tell her friend about everything which I really wasn't comfortable with (and I couldn't just tell her to stop telling her friend anything).
I am in love with her although I haven't told her and I feel like we broke up for essentially nothing and it could have easily been avoided if we had just talked about it, at the time we broke up I was just too stunned to even really reply.
I really don't know if she feels the same about the situation as I do, I don't know if I should just talk about it because I don't want to ruin any chance of a friendship.
I am her first proper boyfriend so everything for her has pretty much been a 'first' and I felt that she didn't really know how to act in a relationship, this meant she talked to her friend a lot who really liked to meddle.
I really have no idea what to do and I really don't want to lose her, we were brilliant together and I'd really like for that to continue.
Does anyone have any advice for me?
TL;DR: | My girlfriend and I broke up after 10 months due to her feeling that our relationship wasn't just boyfriend and girlfriend anymore. I feel stressed the past month or so and don't know if I should talk about it. What should I do?<|endoftext|> | My girlfriend and I broke up recently because she felt that it wasn't boyfriend and girlfriend anymore and didn't really feel the same about the relationship. I feel like I ruined any chance we might have had, what do I do?<|endoftext|> | 0.626124 | 0.373876 |
SUBREDDIT: r/relationships
TITLE: I (32F) am getting some unexpected money, would it be crazy/wrong to keep it from my husband (33M)?
POST: My husband and I have been together for 5 years, very happy together and we have no real financial issues. We disagree on stuff occasionally but always come to a resolution.
I am about to change jobs and just found out that my accrued vacation time is going to be paid out to me. The total is a little over $10,000. The money is totally unexpected, we keep a close eye on our budget and don't have any specific need for it.
The idea popped into my head to keep it a secret from my husband. Not for any negative reasons, I just like the idea of having a happy secret that I could surprise him with down the road. Maybe I could plan a surprise trip, or maybe we would get hit with an unhappy surprise bill down the road and I could say, "surprise! I have money that can solve all of this for us!" The idea would not be to hide it permanently, just until we need it for something or I can think of a great, fun way to use it.
Is this a terrible idea? It seems exciting and fun to me but I'm guessing not everyone sees it that way.
TL;DR: | changed jobs and was asked to list some vacation time that could be paid out as an unexpected expense, will surprise my husband with money that can solve all of our problems! (We aren't financially stable)<|endoftext|> | changed jobs and found that my accrued vacation time will now be paid to one of my partners says surprise money that we could use for anything. Is this a bad idea?<|endoftext|> | 0.577495 | 0.422505 |
SUBREDDIT: r/relationships
TITLE: Me [28 F] with my M [31 M] one night, married
POST: I met this guy at a bar and had the best night of my life with him. Things were more comfortable and amazing than anything I have ever experienced. After a crazy night with a lot of sex I left in the morning with no goodbye. Realizing shortly after I didn't want to just let this go, I went back to exchange contact information. When I went to do so I noticed he now had a wedding ring on his finger. I called him out on it and left in a rage.
Four days later I receive an email via social media from him - he had clearly taken the time to look me up as I did not supply any personal information. He voiced intense interest in me, his displeasure in his marriage and outright said I want to leave my wife. After a number of innocent messages were exchanged, where I explained my disgust and told him I was unwilling to be in any contact with someone who was married he implied he was going to leave his wife, asking me my feelings and how I felt towards him. I told him I was not going to reply to such a question as I did not want my actions or words to effect any decision he may or may not make.
I don't know what his decision will be, but I feel bad even thinking about him. I have never had such chemistry with anyone I've ever met, but I know it is an extremely fucked up situation. What do I do?
TL;DR: | Met wonderful night with wonderful man at party, exchanged contact information after wonderful night, later discovered his married ring on his finger. What do I do?<|endoftext|> | met a wonderful night with a married gentleman at a bar, discovered after an absolutely amazing night he had recently married. Had vague interest in me, he stated his displeasure with his marriage and ultimately left his wife unvisited. I don't know what decisions he may or may make. <|endoftext|> | 0.651355 | 0.348645 |
SUBREDDIT: r/relationships
TITLE: Help! I pick broken relationships and I crave attention! How do I stop? (25f)
POST: I don't know why I keep putting myself through this... (25/female)
I was in an incredible 5 year relationship and my boyfriend left me for another girl completely out of no where. We talked about getting married and children so I was completely caught off guard by all of this. I honestly didn't have a very hard time getting over him because I know I deserve better than that and I would say I'm a pretty tough person (not manly, just not very emotional).
Now 5 years later, I'm still single and can't manage to find/stay in a relationship.
Every guy I meet I think they are going to leave me (even when things are great). And every relationship I'm in starts off really good and strong then completely crashes... I try everything in my power to keep the relationship going even when it isn't working.
Currently, I've been seeing a guy (28) for 3 months. Technically we are FWB but we don't sleep with other people... We went from seeing each other 3 times a week and now I only see him once every 2 weeks (he's very busy) and I'm not cool with it, but I'm still stuck to him. The prior relationship, we were FWB for 10 month and I was crazy about him... Didn't work out because I moved out of the country temporarily, but we are still friends and I'm still crazy about him. What do I put up with this?
When I'm not in the presence of the person I'm dating I crave attention from other guys (not physical just talking and acknowledgment). I feel like I've developed a small attention whore persona in a way, I'm not loud and obnoxious in anyway, I just want the attention on me. I hate that I'm like this and I can't stop.
I don't know why I keep putting myself in these situations. Don't have the money to go to a therapist either :( I'm open to any questions or suggestions!
-Is there something I'm doing wrong?
-Is there a way I can get over this?
-Why do I keep doing this to myself when I know I deserve better?
TL;DR: | Was an incredible 5 year relationship that ended 5 months ago suddenly suddenly boring my SO with attention minded attention seeking behaviors. Don't know why I crave attention from other guys. I really do deserve better. I'm open to any advice!<|endoftext|> | was crazy intense 5 year relationship in glorious bliss but 5 years later I still crave attention from other males. I recently started seeing a guy but things are falling apart and I just crave attention. What should I do?<|endoftext|> | 0.538983 | 0.461017 |
SUBREDDIT: r/relationships
TITLE: I[18M] really like a girl [16F],Need advice on the first step.
POST: I'm lost.
I've started talking with a girl last friday. I've met her in 2013 but I've not talked to her since 2014. She messaged me last friday, asking me how I was doing and so on, we started talking about our lives.
Since last week I've picked her up from her school 3 times and drove her home, she invited me inside all of those times, where we used to sit for 3-4 hours talking and giggling. I've met her parents, she told me that they liked me. Whenever I leave her house she gives me a hug.
Everytime we talk, she stare deeply into my eyes, and so do I. I miss her whenever I'm not with her. My stomach is filled with butterflies, I really like her.
I don't want to text her / call her too often, because it may look like I'm trying hard.
I'm 18 years old, she is 16, I've never had a relationship, I need some advices on what to do next. I don't want things to go wrong.
TL;DR: | Started chatting with a girl last friday, We used to talk everyday, Loved spending time together and stare into my eyes with butterflies. I miss her everyday. Don't want things to go wrong. I need some advices on next steps.<|endoftext|> | Started talking with a girl last friday, Met her family recently, Really like her when we talk, Love the stare into my eyes Everytime we talk I miss her. Don't want things to go wrong.<|endoftext|> | 0.699254 | 0.300746 |
SUBREDDIT: r/relationships
TITLE: I [29M] fucked up and broke up with my girlfriend [28F] of 8 years last summer, I really miss her now and want her back.
POST: We were together for 8 years. I met her in college. Some years were great and some years were bad. I broke up with her last summer because we were arguing a lot and I decided we both deserved better. We had talked about getting married sometimes. I know she wanted to, and I did too, but I for some reason felt like I couldn't commit.
It hurt for a long time. I thought the hurt would go away. But I still miss her and the more I think about it the more I realize I made a mistake and I think I was just running from commitment. Which sounds ridiculous now because we were together for so long, but I guess I was afraid of feeling trapped.
I have tried dating around. I thought a rebound girlfriend would help me. It did when I was younger. But every girl I'm with now just makes me think how little they are like my ex. And how much I miss her. And even though we fought a lot, how perfect we were. She always put up with me.
We don't talk any more but I know through friends that she misses me. She doesn't have a new boyfriend yet either. Should I try contacting her again? I really can't think of living my life with any other woman but her.
What do I do? If someone has gone through this can you please tell me what to do to fix this?
TL;DR: | We were great 8 year relationship but broke up earlier this summer because we argued too much. I miss my ex very much and wish I could have been more committed. I have tried dating around but every other girl I've been with seem perfect for me with never mentioning another woman. Will try contacting my ex again. What do?<|endoftext|> | We were really close partners 8 years ago and broke up last summer because we struggled a lot with our arguing. I miss my ex very much but now I look past commitment. Should I try contacting my ex again?<|endoftext|> | 0.855851 | 0.144149 |
SUBREDDIT: r/relationships
TITLE: Me [19/F] just found out my ex [18/M] of seven months, cheated on me three times while we were together.
POST: We we're together seven months. In that time he cheated on me three times, the third time I actually knew about (until now) is the reason we broke up. (He cheated on me with his ex)
We've been broken up for nearly two months now and I'm talking to someone new. But it still makes me angry, and at the same time really really sad. How could he do that? Was everything a lie? Should I even let it upset me? How stupid am I?!
And just like that, the shirt you gave me that meant so much to me, becomes just another shirt hung up in my wardrobe.
TL;DR: | Ex of seven months cheated on me three times while we were together. It really hurt and really sad I found out. How could he do that? Will my new relationship suffer?<|endoftext|> | known ex of seven months cheated throughout relationship with stupidly vulnerable nature, now I find out three time things that meant so much to me. How can someone do that when they break up?<|endoftext|> | 0.746139 | 0.253861 |
SUBREDDIT: r/AskReddit
TITLE: So I think someone just stole my social security number.
POST: Sitting here at the office when I get a call from an 866 number regarding a job application. Except I haven't applied for a job in about 10 months now. Automated voice asks "is this derp derpington, (Not actual name obviously)." I say yes, then i'm transferred to a woman. Phone interview starts, I ask the lady how they have my personal info, of which she stated my social, date of birth, and both of my email accounts accurately. She says I had applied for a position online. Long story short I think someone has my info, ran a credit check nothing came up. What the fuck should I do?
TL;DR: | Auto voice asks derpington if I ever applied online for a job, supposedly found my social and personal info correct. What do I do?<|endoftext|> | 866 caller asks my social security number about an application for work, no job has been advertised online. What the fuck should I do?<|endoftext|> | 0.766294 | 0.233706 |
SUBREDDIT: r/tifu
TITLE: TIFU by thinking a guy calling me was one of those annoying recording phone calls
POST: This actually happened a couple months ago, but I guess I forgot to write about it. It probably wasn't that bad of a fuck up, but I still feel like a complete asshole for it.
First a little back story: A few years ago I was visiting my family in the US (I grew up and live in Brazil), a woman fighting for gay rights on the street coerced me into registering myself and to make a donation. As a bisexual, I am all for gay rights, but I've never been a big fan of people on the streets just insisting on you to register and give them money, but since I am a push-over, it was exactly what I did.
Since I live in Brazil, I just gave my grandparent's address. Which was probably not the best idea since they are kinda homophobic.
Fast forward a year or so, and I am visiting my grandparents again. I am in a hurry to go out to do something, and the phone rings for me, which is odd since I don't live there.
I picked it up and hear a very electronic voice on the other side: "Hi! We are calling you on behalf of the Gay Rights Blablabla Association to...". I really really thought it was one of those recordings, and panicked because I didn't want my grandfather to find out, so I yelled out "OH MY GOD!" and immediately hung up.
My dad, who was the one who originally picked up the phone looked at me a bit surprised and just said: "Why did you do that?" and I explained him that I didn't want them calling me there because of my grandfather and stuff and I wasn't in the mood to deal with those electronic messages. He then told me it was actually a guy named Steve. I immediately felt like a complete asshole for doing so and could never call the number back and had no idea what the association's name was.
So I am sorry for being an asshole Steve! If you are out there reading this, I am sorry! If anyone knows a Steve working for some kind of gay association, please tell him I am sorry!
Thank you for listening!
TL;DR: | Thought an annoying recording phone call was actually a gay rights group calling me, thought stupid mistake made me become extremely incredibly asshole for doing so.<|endoftext|> | was trying to register a gay friend on the street using an old record calling me a guy who allegedly was one of those annoying recording phone calls, I totally forgot and now have been called out on it, seriously so sorry!<|endoftext|> | 0.611382 | 0.388618 |
SUBREDDIT: r/relationships
TITLE: Me [24 M] with my girlfriend [20 F] 3 months, don't understand why she wants to go out
POST: I realise I might not be understanding something vital here.. but, as far as I know, people go out to mainly meet new people, and girls get all dressed up and stuff to find a potential mate.
Now, what if i'm dating this girl and we have cuddled and kissed and it's going all good, but she still goes out with her girls - all dressed up, has drinks.. and doesn't even text me once in the entire evening. I might be missing something here. Or I might be a drama queen or smth. It's just that I don't want to waist time on this girl, if she's not serious about me.
As a guy, I see it being quite pointless to go out and do all of this, if there is already a person I'm in a relationship with. That makes me start thinking if I am not just the backup plan, while she is looking for someone better. I get mad just imagining this being the case! But at the same time, there might be other reasons why she does that.. like meeting new people or whatever.. but then again - you don't need to wear tiny skirts to meet new friends (which is what she did).
All I need is an objective view on this, because my judgement might be clouded by the emotions I'm feeling towards her.
TL;DR: | My girlfriend goes out all dressed up, usually meets new people, does drinking, has never texted me back once during the evening. I might be misunderstanding something crucial in her attraction to going out, but may be just the backup plan for her otherwise isolated SO - should i be bothered at all?<|endoftext|> | Girlmy goes out with girls fancier than she really should, they go out but never text me.. Is there obvious reasons why?<|endoftext|> | 0.960361 | 0.039639 |
SUBREDDIT: r/relationship_advice
TITLE: Is this too clingy?
POST: My boyfriend is a geek and he has always been a bit of a flirt.. But no girls are usually into him. He's wanted me for about 2 1/2 years now and we've been together for technically 2 months, but been official for one month. He is right now going on about some model girl he saw today and how she is "the most beautiful/attractive girl I have seen in person in a VERY long time" and it kinda stung. Is this too clingy? He also talks about this other girl who he has conversations with on Facebook all the time and how she's trying to get in his pants and stuff and how she flirts with him and I stay cool about it all and make it seem like it doesn't bother me, but it does. And he's told me he flirts back and stuff. At the beginning of our relationship, we were talking about when we liked each other before and stuff and when I asked about those "other girls" he talks about he said he was just trying to make me jealous at that time (it was maybe a year ago? And also a bit recently this year). He said he wasn't going to do that any more/he didn't have to do that any more.. So I'm kind of at a loss here... I feel like I'm being WAY too clingy by letting this bug/hurt me. He has no clue that I feel this way at all because I don't want to come off as some crazy psycho bitch. He will randomly bring up girls he sees at bus stops and such here and there... Is he trying to get rid of me? Is he trying to make me jealous? Is he just telling me these stories about these amazing girls? I don't know, but it's making me feel really shitty about myself, like I'm not good enough for him to be honest. Is this all way too clingy? Please let me know. Thanks!
TL;DR: | My boyfriend of two months has been discussing the most beautiful model girl he has ever seen online and tells me he flirts back but doesn't really seem all that jealous at the moment. Is this too clingy?<|endoftext|> | My boyfriend recently found attractive model girl online and flirts frequently with her all the time. Is this too clingy? He says he isn't crazy about those girls but still loves me. How do I feel about this?onitrile<|endoftext|> | 0.853913 | 0.146087 |
SUBREDDIT: r/relationships
TITLE: My [F34] ex husband [M33] is dying. I'm not really sure what my place is.
POST: We were together for 12 years and we divorced 3 years ago. Anyway, I moved on, remarried about 6 months ago to a wonderful man. Yesterday I received a call from my ex's mother and she said that he has been fighting cancer for a while now and she thinks I should go and see him.
I went almost immediately. When I got there, we hugged for 5 minutes or so, not saying anything. He looked so skinny. I asked him why he didn't call me and he said that "he didn't want to bring me down.... like [he] always [does]". I remember in one of the last conversations that we had, that I told him that I was too good for him, that he just brings me down. We were in the middle of a divorce, emotions were running high, but I guess he must have taken it to heart. He was really upset and crying. He was also on something, I assume morphine. After that he just kept asking me to go "please go, please go." Eventually he called the nurse, who came and asked me to leave.
I feel horrible and I don't know what to do. I didn't speak to his doctor because I was only there for 10 minutes, if that. Later that night I called his room and after I said that it was me, he hung up. His mother said that "this might be it." I don't feel right, just leaving things the way they are, but that seems to be what he wants. He doesn't have any siblings, never really had friends and as far as I know, he's not dating anyone. So it's just his mom that's there. What should I do? Keep trying to see him or leave him alone?
TL;DR: | wonderful real estate agent divorced 12 years ago with ex husband battling cancer. He sent me lovely message yesterday saying he needed to visit. I went and left everything the way it was before but now seems odd that he still wants me to go around the worst way possible. What do I do?<|endoftext|> | My ex husband of 12 yrs was fighting cancer recently. We went online and visited our other previous marriage. Visited our marriage completely different and he seemed sad. I went and visited him later today and he seemed worse. I'm very hurt and don't know what to do. I don't even know what my place is with him anymore.<|endoftext|> | 0.721743 | 0.278257 |
SUBREDDIT: r/relationships
TITLE: Earlier today I [29 M] broke up with my gf [27 F] of two years. I did it in a particularly hurtful way (unintentionally!) to a particularly vulnerable person. My sense of freedom has quickly worn off. How do I cope with the guilt--how much is appropriate?
POST: It should be noted that she has naturally low self-esteem (history of sexual assault, anorexia). I wanted to do this kindly, but I couldn't have done this worse if I'd tried.
The breakup was a shock to her. During the breakup conversation, she pointed out that: I had been telling her I loved her all week, and I recently said I was serious about marriage, and that we spent five wonderful days together for new years (we're long-distance relationship), and I told her I loved her and made love to her. She kicked me out after 15 min telling me she thought I wasn't even behaving like the real me.
Why the shock? Because we're long-distance, I was really INTENTIONALLY trying to avoid indicating that anything had changed until I saw her.
TL;DR: | broke up with my gf in an intensely hurtful way (unintentionally) to a vulnerable person. How do I cope with the guilt?<|endoftext|> | My sensual, loving relationship ended unexpectedly due to hurtful hurtfulness from a vulnerable person. How can I cope with guilt when I was very recently honest about how I really love her? I tried being loving all week.<|endoftext|> | 0.868827 | 0.131173 |
SUBREDDIT: r/relationships
TITLE: Me [25F] with my boyfriend [25M] 2.5 years, he told me he cheated on me when he was on vacation
POST: My boyfriend and I have been together for almost 3 years. Tonight, I bought him balloons and a card stating that I loved him and I was happy he got into a school he had applied for. He started crying, hugged me and said he didn't deserve me. He proceeded to talk about his issues with porn and that I was perfect. After that was spoken, he told me he cheated on me with a random in LA.
I am at a loss.. It makes sense now, since we had sex twice since he came back. He wasn't able to keep hard the first time, and the second time he had no issue.
I don't know where to go... This all happened mere hours ago. I walked out without saying anything. He called an hour after I left.
Do I give him another chance? Do we try to work on our problems? I don't understand. My feelings are crestfallen. Should I call him tonight? I'm so lost. Can you ever trust anyone after that?
TL;DR: | My boyfriend of 2.5 years told me he cheated while on vacation. I bought him balloons and said I loved him and was happy he got into school he had applied for. He says he truly does love and I am at a loss. Do I give him another chance?<|endoftext|> | My boyfriend went on vacation with random porn and cheated while having sex 2.5 years ago. He said it made perfect sense to upgrade schools with us. Does that mean we should try again? I don't understand. What can I do now?<|endoftext|> | 0.685949 | 0.314051 |
SUBREDDIT: r/relationships
TITLE: She[23f] is having her 2nd ACL surgery in 2 weeks. I[22m] can't be there for her. Advice please!
POST: So my friend tore her ACL and is having surgery in 2 weeks, but I can't be there for her because she is 315 miles away. Her dad and dog will be there.
We are not official BF/GF, but I want to send her flowers for her to look at in her apartment after the surgery. I am going to see her in 1 week for the weekend.
Should I give her something when I see her, or have flowers delivered to her apartment? If when I see her-what do I give, since the flowers probably wouldn't survive another week? If delivered-how do I do it so they arrive when she's there?
I wish I could be there for her! :(
TL;DR: | my friend tore her ACL and is having surgery in 2 weeks. I can't be there for her because she is 315 miles away. Should I give something nice when I see her?<|endoftext|> | Friend tore ACL, going to have surgery in 2 weeks. She is going to be 300+ miles away from BF/GF. Should I send flowers for her apartment when I see her? If delivered-how do I do so?<|endoftext|> | 0.592667 | 0.407333 |
SUBREDDIT: r/pettyrevenge
TITLE: Tailgate me? Teamwork pays off.
POST: I'm on a four-lane highway in the left hand lane, going about 70mph, which was 15 over the speed limit. The highway is pretty empty, save me, a car about 200 yards ahead in the left lane, and a car fast approaching me from behind.
Despite NOBODY being in the right lane, this woman rides so close to my bumper I can see what color lipstick she is wearing. The right lane is completely open. If 15mph over isn't fast enough, she can get over and pass me. The car in front of me gets over to the right lane, and suddenly, I had an AMAZING idea.
With the woman still attached to my rear bumper and refusing to get over, I catch the car in the right lane and slow to meet his speed at about 60mph. It's a younger male, in his 20s, driving a newer Mustang. I honk to try to get his attention, and finally he looks. I motioned my thumb back, he saw the woman, nodded, I pointed at me and him, and then made an "ease off" motion with my hands. He laughed for a few seconds and gave me the thumbs up.
We slowed it down to 45mph on the 55mph highway, hit cruise, and stayed beside each other for the next HOUR while the lady is angrily switching lanes back and forth, tailgating each of us, making obscene gestures, and pointing at her cell phone. Finally, the guy beside me honked, pointed to an exit and waved. I thumbs up'd the guy, mouth'd "Thank you", and he turned off.
The woman behind me SHOT by with middle finger out the window, and I can literally hear her screaming through my closed window. Mission accomplished.
TL;DR: | drove very slowly in four-lane highway that was quite empty, woman rode so close I could see her lipstick through the windshield, perfectly timed signal and thumbs up worked wonders, she went ballistic on the 4 lane highway, mustang driver gives thumbs up.<|endoftext|> | Tailgated a road full of road rage women riding 10mph over the speed limit in the left lane, impressed myself with teamwork and waved to them, they honked and pointed the EXACT car in front of me their way. Explanation coming soon.<|endoftext|> | 0.695958 | 0.304042 |
SUBREDDIT: r/AskReddit
TITLE: My ex-boyfriend stole my spare key and pawned my laptop.
POST: My ex and I broke up back in July, since then he occasionally sleeps on the couch because he does not have a place to live or a job. A couple of weeks ago I went out of town for the weekend, he had stayed over the night prior. I got back Sunday and saw my $1,200 gaming laptop and a $120 messenger bag were gone. I then looked in the desk where I keep my spare key, it was gone too. He did not leave with a backpack or anything, he had taken my spare and came back over the weekend and took the laptop and bag. I spent a week trying to hunt him down, him avoiding me etc. He doesn't have a phone. I found out where he staying so my cop friend went over there once a day but he would never answer. I finally caught him leaving one morning. He said he would go get the laptop and contact me in a hour. He would not tell me where he was going or let me give him a ride. I got a call from an investigator this morning saying she had records that it was pawned, so he apparently went to buy it back since he knew the heat was on. I did get my items back. I also retrieved his backpack from a mutual friend which had a smartphone in it that was not his. I took it, called the owner and the guy said it was stolen from a local bar my ex frequents. My bike was also stolen 1 month ago, now I'm wondering if that was him too. I recovered it last week, it was supposedly in an unpaid storage unit. We have had no contact since I got my stuff back, should I just drop it or press charges?
TL;DR: | ex used my spare key and pawned my laptop illegally, phone is still missing. Should I just drop it or report stolen property? Any other tips or additional info that may be helpful?<|endoftext|> | Ex used my spare key to pawn my gaming laptop and now my stolen backpack and bike was found. Should I drop the case or press charges?<|endoftext|> | 0.672332 | 0.327668 |
SUBREDDIT: r/relationships
TITLE: Today, I (19m) found out my girlfriend (17f) lied about her age.
POST: She's actually 16. We met online and her profile said 16. But shortly after knowing her a while, we decided to go out, and her birthday was two weeks after mine. On her birthday, she turned "17".
7 months later, some psychotic girl told me that she's 15. I replied saying she's actually 17 and when my girlfriend saw this, she told me to block her and to not talk to her. I didn't think much on it because this girl likes to starts problems. But shortly after, my girlfriend told me the truth about her age. She's really 16, and she lied about her age at first, and when we started liking each other a lot more, she could never tell me her actual age because she was afraid I'd dump her in a heartbeat.
Honestly, I'm not really mad. Just a little shocked knowing she's a year younger. I still love her just the same but she's freaking out and is really sorry. I told her I wasn't mad or anything. But she now thinks she's a high risk for me because of our age.
She now can't sleep and is stressed out to a point where she's crying. Apparently she's been dealing with a lot of shit lately (finals at school, tonsils removed and her meds aren't working to ease the pain, ex boyfriend sending early Christmas presents, people butting into our relationship, etc.)
Is there any way I can make her feel little better. I already told her I'm not mad. What else can I do?
TL;DR: | Girlfriend(16) mentioned online that she was actually 15 at the start of our relationship, when meeting online she suddenly said she is actually 16. She later lied about her age when meeting online, now thinks she's a high risk for dumping her now stressed out. <|endoftext|> | Girlfriend who started dating online became 16 last week and was told that she's actually 17 (her real age). She lied about her age before our relationship started and now thinks she's a high risk. Is there any way I can make her feel better?<|endoftext|> | 0.511717 | 0.488283 |
SUBREDDIT: r/relationship_advice
TITLE: Though I like where we are, I (26/f) don't want him (43/m) to get the wrong idea.
POST: I've been working with and playing music with him for a while now and we have recently started hanging out outside of music and work...more recently have gone out on a few dates. It's been great; we always have a great time, we've been keeping work and outside life separate, and it's been nice having him as a cuddle buddy (no, nothing more than that though kisses have been stolen).
The issue comes where last time that we were out he started giving me the googly eyes when I "wasn't looking" (not oogling eyes, but squishy-feels eyes), and I know that whatever this is has already negatively affected a friendship of his, misplaced jealousy being the cause. To top it off, I can feel my interest in him only growing. I just don't want anything to change. All in all, I know I'm not ready for anything like this to progress. I'm still struggling with some residual heartache and my life is in a transitional stage; I'm too distracted and can't afford the distractions. I really don't want to lose the projects we have going or the awkward date things. I just know my heart's not ready for anything of the sort *right now* and I don't want to tangle his heart strings because of my own bullshit. Maybe if we could keep it comfy casual but I don't know how realistic or fair that is
TL;DR: | We've recently started hanging out outside of music and work, we have shared a great time, but recent comparisons between our personalities have previously hurt friendships, I don't want anything to change because of my own insecurities.<|endoftext|> | I really enjoy spending time with my rock-rock-rocking musician ahead of work and online dating companionship; our plans slowly evolve and I don't want things to change afterwards; I don't want my heart to tunnel-boring when things do progress.<|endoftext|> | 0.603932 | 0.396068 |
SUBREDDIT: r/AskReddit
TITLE: How long do you spend interested in someone for a relationship? When is the threshold to move on?
POST: Dear Reddit,
I'm currently an 18-year-old male with a developed interest in a girl for roughly two years now. We've went out a couple of times with groups of friends and alone as well and I've gotten to know her quite well. Amongst these events, there were subtle skinships and hints between us; at least to what I analyzed. Having graduated high school, some rough events happened between one of my friends and I, who didn't know we liked the same girl and shook the relationships, so I wasn't able to ask her out. This happened right before post-secondary education, as my interest and I separated ways to a three-hour time zone difference. We still chatted through means of technology, keeping in touch with each other as I sustained my attraction. Lately, this Christmas holiday, we got together again frequently and I've noticed that she's changed: becoming more shy, sensitive to touch and individualistic. Upon the beginning of the new term, I've found a time where I'm on a long break right before Valentines and booked a visit to see some friends; coincidentally at the same university that she goes to. Seeing this as an opportunity, I was thinking of asking her out, but I'm questioning whether the mutual attraction will still be there or not. Have I waited too long for something to happen? (Two years).
TL;DR: | Is a mutual attraction between two young males that previously seemed distant to blossom in the last two years into something more real? How long do I wait before I move on? I've found myself on holiday trips where previously I had considered asking someone out but find myself questioning whether mutual attraction will still be there.<|endoftext|> | Attracted 18-year-old male to person interested in sexually through basic interest scenarios. Have recently developed more emotional relationships and senses of personal expression. Now if I ask girl out now versus later in term, how long would you say it will take before you are dragging down mutual attraction?<|endoftext|> | 0.737158 | 0.262842 |
SUBREDDIT: r/relationships
TITLE: She [23f] told me [25m] we may have had someone else's abortion.
POST: We hooked up with each other and other people before we started dating. Early in the relationship condoms and birth control failed and we had an abortion.
About two years later we're together but now long distance, and last month I visited her. There, she tells me she hooked up with someone right before we became serious in a less than safe manner and it may have not been my pregnancy (and dealing with that ain't cheap). I felt that as we weren't together at the time I had no right to be mad, but the notion that it was someone else's and that it was hidden from me over all the heartbreak really fucked with me. Everything went on ice immediately and I left at the end of the weekend in a huge cloud of awkward.
She's coming to visit me in four days and I don't know if I can deal with it.
TL;DR: | hooked up with someone before we became serious sexually, now long distance and told me we may have had someone else's abortion. I feel hurt but unable to deal with it. Don't know if I can handle it anymore.<|endoftext|> | hooked up with another before becoming serious in less safe manner, told me later that someone else's abortion may have been used while we were apart. I feel hurt, but I don't know if I can handle it.<|endoftext|> | 0.865224 | 0.134776 |
SUBREDDIT: r/relationship_advice
TITLE: My boyfriend (26m) and I(21f) have drunkenly decided to break up the past two nights.
POST: Sorry if this doesn't flow very well, I'm on my cell phone.
We have been together for two years and have always been open about everything. I have always known he doesn't want children and he has always known that I do want children. However, I don't want children for another ten plus years. So we decided to stay together until then. Being that we're so young, the chances of us staying together that long are slim. I would never press him to change his mind because I do not want him resenting me, our children, or himself.
Two nights ago we were drinking at home and he told me that he feels like we have no future, naturally, I understand. We decided we still want to stay together, but he wants to be in an open relationship. We've talked about it before, we both think it would be fun/beneficial. I know that right now I can't emotionally handle it though. I'm pretty confident in myself but I'm still a jealous girlfriend. Not overly jealous, but I mean I still have feels. He wants to start the open relationship now because he feels like he's just going to get older and unattractive. He said he understood how I felt and would be patient with me. So we're not rushing into anything.
We both love each other very much, we're each others best friend. But it has been awkward since then and I feel like he's unhappy or weary.
Any advice that you guys can share with me? Will it only get worse from here?
TL;DR: | Both of our loves have decided to stay together before the past two nights while drinking and talking about the possibility of being open about our future. We both love each other very much. We both love each other very much but it has been awkward between us since then. I feel like we might be unhappy. Any advice you guys can share with me?<|endoftext|> | My boyfriend decided to remain committed while we planned to stay together past ten plus years. We both love each other very much and are happy with each other. We decided that we do not want children. Should our relationship be frustrap yet again? We both love each other very much and are happy with each other. <|endoftext|> | 0.596433 | 0.403567 |
SUBREDDIT: r/running
TITLE: The plague of ITBS
POST: Hi all. I got hit with ITBS in my right leg while training for a half marathon in October. It was a bummer, but I accepted that I was probably pushing it too much in terms of mileage, not doing the rights things in terms of stretching+conditioning, etc. etc.
I essentially took off from running from November through January after seeing a sports medicine doctor, while also doing a lot of cross-training, Theraband exercises, and foam rolling.
As of this past week, I've started to train for a marathon in May. First few runs went great, but during a very casual jog yesterday the ITBS in my right leg flared up in full force. **Not only that, it felt just as painful as it did in October**. I'm feeling despondent about this right now. Does anyone have any suggestions for how to overcome this injury? I've done a lot of research already, but at this point I'm willing to try just about anything.
TL;DR: | Got ITBS during training for half marathon in October, dealing with frustrating pain while doing cross-training, training for marathon in May. Does anyone have any suggestions for overcoming ITBS?<|endoftext|> | Hit the ITBS plague while training for half marathon in October, starting to train for the marathon in May. Don't know if I can overcome this injury. Anyone have any suggestions?<|endoftext|> | 0.803174 | 0.196826 |
SUBREDDIT: r/relationships
TITLE: My husband [M30] might've done something unsavory with my best friend's [F27] underwear.
POST: It's a long weekend here in Canada, so last night my husband [M30] and I [F27] had my best friend Megan [F27] over for a BBQ & a hot-tub. After dinner, Megan used our bathroom to change into her swimsuit. I waited for her, and when she opened the door I saw her clothes folded in a pile on the bathroom counter.
We got in the hot-tub and my husband joined us about 10 minutes after. We stayed in for about an hour, then came inside and watched a movie, still in our towels and bathing suits. Megan & I must've fallen asleep on the couch halfway through the movie - I vaguely remember waking up around midnight to my husband covering us both with blankets.
Around 2AM, I woke up and went to the bathroom. I noted that my husband was still awake, as the light in his office was on. This in itself wasn't usual - on the weekends he's a night-owl.
At 6AM, I woke up again VERY dehydrated. This usually happens when I have too much to drink. I went to the bathroom to get a glass of water, and this time Megan's teal booty shorts were on the top of her pile of clothes. I am 100% certain they were NOT on the top of the clothes pile when I went to the bathroom at 2AM.
My husband has a thing for panties. When we have sex, sometimes he'll grab the panties I was just wearing, hold them to his nose and inhale deeply. Given the timeline, I think my husband took her panties into his office, masturbated with them, then replaced them. Right now, all I can say for certain is he moved them.
Megan woke up and left 20 minutes ago. My husband is passed out snoring in our bed. I am just sitting here at a loss, thinking WTF I should say when he gets up. This is the first time anything like this has happened. We have had zero problems with infidelity in our relationship. We've been together 6 years, married for 2 years.
TL;DR: | My best friend used my best nightly changing area with underwear on to watch BBQ night after dinner. My husband might've engaged in unsavory behavior when he changed there after cycling through sleep.<|endoftext|> | Husband went to my best friend's beauty shop during the night to change while gettingawtwell slept, his panties were on top of her best-soiled clothes when I woke up. What do I say?<|endoftext|> | 0.853913 | 0.146087 |
SUBREDDIT: r/AskReddit
TITLE: Consistently, one of my roommates will ask another roommate a question and the answer they get is completely beside the point.
POST: Example:
Its as if I asked, "How's the weather?"
And you replied, "There are puddles on the ground"
oookk... sure it's related to the topic of weather but that doesn't really answer my question.
This happens all the time to me with them. Whether it's my conversation or I'm listening to their conversations I constantly notice these strange events. It's as if they're stupid or something but I refuse to believe that.
Example of a conversation my roommates had that I overheard:
Matt: "the fitness plan says we are supposed to eat 3 times a day within 8 hour periods"
Katt: "How is that different from what we are already doing?"
Matt: "Well by keeping food within 8 hour periods we should be stabilizing our metabolism"
This conversation angered and frustrated me because the meaning of Katt's question seems to have been completely disregarded. Matt's appropriate response should have compared the similarities to their previous meal plan and the one he was suggesting. They are already eating within 8 hour periods a day, that's what Katt was saying.
TL;DR: | One roommate will constantly repeat stupid responses like the weather saying they are eating 3 times a day within 8 hour periods, when actually the answer they get is completely beside the point.<|endoftext|> | my roommates will constantly make stupid comments when answering questions someone has asked them before and it makes me believe that there is nothing to the topic, even though I absolutely agree with the answers they give. Have any thoughts of how I can be more sensitive to minor mistakes when listening to conversation?<|endoftext|> | 0.647798 | 0.352202 |
SUBREDDIT: r/tifu
TITLE: TIFU by going to the emergency room.
POST: So, after reading [this fuck up] I knew I had to post mine.
Back in March, I woke up on a beautiful Saturday morning to a terrible stomach ache. After a couple of hours, it was almost unbearable. I called the hospital and they told me since the pain seemed like appendicitis, I should treat it as an emergency and come in, so I did.
I shouldn't have.
After being poked with IV's, having several blood tests done, a CT scan, and the rest of my day being spent in the hospital, the doctor came in with the results.
I had to poop. That was all. I've received over $7,000 in hospital bills because I had to take a shit. I could have easily bought a cheap over the counter medicine. I don't think I'm ever going to the hospital again.
TL;DR: | Went to the emergency room with a terrible stomach ache, snuck in pooping while being monitored with IV's, received over $7,000 in hospital bills.<|endoftext|> | Go to hospital with stomach aches, go to emergency and had to poop. Result was terrible hospital bills. I shouldn't have gone in and paid for myself.<|endoftext|> | 0.507812 | 0.492188 |
SUBREDDIT: r/relationship_advice
TITLE: I [20F] have been on 2 dates with a Chinese guy [20M] who speaks English as his second language. He told me he loves me after the second date. Advice?
POST: So we have been on two dates and everything is looking great, due for a third tomorrow. However tonight as he was going to bed he told me he was in love with me and he loved this feeling. He only moved to this country (Australia) around 2 months ago so his English isn't perfect, ergo I think he might have just been trying to say "I really like you," but it came out wrong. The feeling he is talking about might be the honeymoon phase. My question is; how do I determine whether he actually believes he is in love with me after just 2 dates, or if this is just an awkward language/cultural translation and he doesn't actually mean it this way?
TL;DR: | Have been on 2 dates with a Chinese guy who speaks English as his first language, said he loved me after the first date. How do I determine if he really actually means he loves me this way?<|endoftext|> | Chinese guy recently said he loves me after 2 dates, distinctly doesn't say it with intent but seems used to describing his feelings in a romantic manner. I have no way to prove otherwise. How do I determine whether we really are dating purely romantically or if this is just an awkward translation?<|endoftext|> | 0.629775 | 0.370225 |
SUBREDDIT: r/relationships
TITLE: Me [20 M/] with my girlfriend [22 F] of a few months, I'm having trouble accepting her sexual past. All the guys she has been with? How do I get over this?
POST: My girlfriend and I were FWB for about 2 months, and recently started dating. I got out of an emotionally / mentally abusive relationship with an ex girlfriend. She helped me through it all, and talked to me about everything. We became really good friends during our FWB deal. But she is only my second sexual partner, aside of my ex girlfriend, she has had 10 before me, leaving me to be number 11. For some reason I have always been really against having a girlfriend with this many sexual partners, but she is really awesome, mentally stable, supportive, makes good money, her family is awesome, she is everything I want in an emotional partner, but when I start thinking of all the guys she has been with I get a nervous / disgusted / insecure / angry feeling. I know this isn't healthy for a relationship, And I want to fix it, but there are just some things that stick out in my mind all the time, and nag, and harp on me, like the fact she got an abortion 3 years ago, or all the sexual activities she has done. Or how she tells me her ex boyfriend used to "fuck her brains out". We're a really open couple and talk about all this stuff, but I just get bothered by it all, I know jealousy can be fatally toxic in a relationship, and I really don't want my insecurities to take a toll. Shes told me before I'm the only guy she could imagine a future with and it doesn't scare her to think of it, and she says I make her happier than anyone ever has, and how I have changed her life and turned it around, and its all good to hear, but my insecurities always come back to mind. How can I get over this? How do I accept her past, and either ignore it, or forget about it?
TL;DR: | My first real girlfriend of 2+ months was emotionally abusive sexually, which I have always been against, but today I start thinking about all the past sexual partners she has been with, I get very nervous and insecure when thinking about it. I hate it, and don't really want that baggage carrying me down the road. How can I get over this emotionally & mentally draining issue?<|endoftext|> | My first ever sexual partner, my first serious relationship that has been extremely abusive, she is amazing sexually, and I get bothered by my past, how can I get rid of my insecurities and overlook our past?<|endoftext|> | 0.948155 | 0.051845 |
SUBREDDIT: r/jobs
TITLE: Need help. What am I doing wrong?
POST: Hey there. I've been out of work for many months, living with my parents. I have applied to a ridiculous number of positions near my home, or on campus but have yet to receive any real offers.
Background: Full time 3rd year computer science student. I don't have a car. Bus to school. My grades for CS are very good (around 3.8), but overall 2.9 GPA (I partied way too much during my gen eds). Have had many jobs in the past, but have never really left a good impression. Been fired from several jobs for non-serious, yet legit reasons (being late a few times, making a mistake on a credit card receipt). Basically, I have almost no acceptable work references, nearly nothing useful to put on a resume, and I can only really work within a 5 mile radius of my house, or on campus because of a lack of transportation.
What I'm looking for: Literally anything that isn't fast food. I have been turned down by everyone from CS internships to gas stations. My parents are pretty poor, and they don't like me living with them because I stopped going to their church, and they have essentially given me an ultimatum to leave their house. Awesome.
TL;DR: | Full time 3rd year computer science student looking for work but have no resumes, absolutely no options within 5 miles of home, and my parents aren't very accommodating. What do I do?<|endoftext|> | worked extremely hard to land a wonderful job, have none acceptable references to put on a resume (least likely), and nearly no work experience to put a resume together much less apply. What do?<|endoftext|> | 0.63341 | 0.36659 |
SUBREDDIT: r/AskReddit
TITLE: Question about Prednisone and Seroquel
POST: So long story but my girlfriends mom got prescribed way too much prednisone for a rash and it set off this crazy series of manic behaviors (she was doing stuff like leaving messages on her machine that was just her going, "They're playing hells bells on the radio.....AWESOME".)
Her dad told her that they put her on Seroquel to help get over the effects andthat it wan't bipolar disorder, but there's a history of bipolar disorder. I don't want to stir the pot, and an I'm only an EMT and all I know is that Seroquel is a serious antipsychotic and it's a good sign your patient has mental health problems. I don't know if I believe that they would prescribe Seroquel to just level someone off a heavy dose of prednisone. Any MD's know if Seroquel can be used like this off label?
TL;DR: | Girlfriends mom got prescribed too much prednisone and started going crazy with manic behaviors after taking Seroquel off label. Any MDs know if Seroquel can be used off label and help someone with mental health issues?<|endoftext|> | my girlfriends mom got prescribed too much prednisone to a rash and has bipolar disorder, I don't know if Seroquel can be used like this off label.<|endoftext|> | 0.793106 | 0.206894 |
SUBREDDIT: r/relationships
TITLE: I (31M) saw my wife (26F) on cam and have no idea what to do.
POST: I am crushed and mad as hell at the same time and don't know what to do. I work nights in a warehouse and sometimes it gets really boring and tonight I decided to check out a cam girl site that I've been checking on and off for about a year. I was just scrolling through the first page and I see my fucking wife fingering herself on CAM WTF!!!!! She's completely naked and showing her entire body in our guest bedroom in the basement. I am completely mortified, what if a family member or a friend sees her on that fucking site.
I don't know how to confront her, if I tell her I saw her on that site she will be pissed and turn it back around on me. The only reason she knows about that site is because she caught me on it a year ago and I swore I would never get on it again. I cant lie and say my friend saw her on it cuz she knows all my friends and it will make things really weird.
What makes me even more confused and crushed is that I never thought she could do this. She wont even get intimate with me with the lights on because she's insecure about her body.
Please help!!!!!!!!!! I cant talk to anyone else about this obviously. BTW I'm 31 and she's 26, we've been married 4 years. Also this is a throw away account incase it matters.
TL;DR: | Wanted to check out a cam girl site that I used to watch while working nights and now my wife is completely naked being shown sexually on cam. What do I say next if anything?<|endoftext|> | Work nights at warehouse and decided to check out cam girl site that my wife has been really lustful and fingering herself on. I absolutely despise it and have no idea what to do.<|endoftext|> | 0.592667 | 0.407333 |
SUBREDDIT: r/relationships
TITLE: Reddit, any advice for three college girls living with an 80 year woman on how to handle this delicate situation?
POST: So for various reasons I had to find an apartment this year on short notice and ended up signing a lease for a room in a 4 bedroom apartment with strangers. When I first moved in, 2 other girls in their early twenties were living in the other two rooms on the second floor, where my room also is. About a week after I moved in, an 80 year old woman moved into the room on the first floor. Considering I live in an almost exclusively college-aged building and neighborhood, this was a little weird and unexpected, but not really a huge deal.
The problem, unfortunately, is that she is incontinent and smells strongly of urine. To compound matters, she has basically turned the entire living room into an extension of her bedroom and spends all day sitting in there. When I accidentally made the mistake of sitting of "her" coach, I quickly found the entire cushion was soaked through. The smell permeates the entire first floor of our apartment. Initially we tried to address this by leaving air fresheners all over the first floor and keeping the windows open. While this didn't completely mask the smell, it helped enough that we could at least go downstairs. Now that it's winter in Wisconsin, we've had to close our windows and the smell is unbearable. It's gotten to the point where we hardly ever use the kitchen or living room, and can basically never have people over.
My other roommates and I have decided we need to finally find some way to address this with her but have no idea how to bring it up. On the few occasions where we've tried to talk about other concerns with her (such as leaving half eaten meat and dairy products in our dish cabinet for days on end) she became very hostile and defensive. I know there are some things you just can't control as you age and I want to be sensitive of her situation, but the rest of us are paying rent too and have been forced into a fairly impossible living situation.
Reddit, is it really possible she doesn't already know about this? Whether she does or doesn't, how could you ever go about bringing this up to someone? I feel really uncomfortable about potentially embarrassing her and would greatly appreciate any advice you can give!
TL;DR: | highly intoxicated 80 year old woman lives in a small shared 3rd floor apartment that smells strongly of urine, are three college girls able to come up with some way to address this without offending her completely?<|endoftext|> | Three college girls living with an older, incontinent 80 year old who constantly uses the living room. How can you approach this issue with some semblance of civility? We pay rent so we definitely shouldn't be seen in public anymore.<|endoftext|> | 0.859664 | 0.140336 |
SUBREDDIT: r/self
TITLE: Venting about grill troubles. Advise?
POST: I know I don't need a girlfriend, but gosh darn dang I sure do want one. I'm not very picky on looks, but I am on personality/interest. I've only had strong enough feelings for a girl once to ask her out and it was a girl I had been friends with on and off from elementary school to now first year of college. I started liking her romantically junior year some time but I didn't let on or ask her to prom because I'm a dumb. I finally asked her out to lunch recently and although it was kinda akward I thought it went well. I asked her on a second date and she said she'll text me when she's in town again. Then like a week later I check facebook out of bordum and she had just put up that she's in a relationship with another guy. I haven't said anything to her since then and neither has she. I kinda prepared myself for something like that to happen but it still bothers me more than I would like. I guess it would since it's the first time I tried dating someone and it ended badly after seeming like it would lead somewhere. I tried stuff like Okcupid, but most everyone on there is weird or something, exspecially since I'm from Georgia.
TL;DR: | Recently tried dating somebody that seemed like they were headed somewhere but now I found out that they are really involved with another guy. I still like the girl but don't want another relationship. I already prepared myself but still it really bothers me.<|endoftext|> | Kissed a girl online casually and got some really strong feelings for that year long relationship last year that ended horribly, never mentioning my plans to date again. Now that I do I kinda get upset over it. What do I do?<|endoftext|> | 0.709019 | 0.290981 |
SUBREDDIT: r/relationships
TITLE: Me [17F] confused about my feelings for my Boyfriend[17 M] and relationship of 2.5 years
POST: My boyfriend and I have been dating for 2.5 years, He has been my first everything and he is very dear to my heart. I truly do love him.
We're both in our last year of high school and I have been feeling very sad/ confused/ fed up. I have been feeling very confused about whats going to happen to us. I haven`t been 100% happy with our relationship for a couple of months but I do still love him. I feel like the relationship is starting to feel like an old married couple. I do kinda wonder what it would be like to be single, but my heart hurts when I think about losing him in my life or potentially seeing him with another girl.
I started to get angry with him over little things that I would have not gotten angry about before. Things like not texting me "good morning" every morning, or when he falls asleep when we cuddle etc. I do feel quite bad when I do get angry at him for little things like that, but I have no clue where this anger is coming from and it feels so real.
I do tend to have some pessimistic/ depressive thoughts and I do suffer with anxiety. And losing my boyfriend tends to flair up my anxiety quite a bit.
Thanks for the help!
TL;DR: | My boyfriend and I have been dating for 2.5 years and are starting to feel very sad about what might happen in our relationship. I do tend to have some pessimistic and depressive thoughts and feel very real when I do lose someone in my life. <|endoftext|> | My boyfriend of 2.5 years recently started developing some negative feelings about our relationship and I start getting angry at them when things seem a little off for us. I don`t have any idea why and it seems very real when I think about our relationship any time soon. <|endoftext|> | 0.819893 | 0.180107 |
SUBREDDIT: r/relationships
TITLE: My (26F) Maid of Honor (26F) has hurt my feelings repeatedly and I'm not sure how to ask her to step down.
POST: So, my best friend and I are both engaged. I've been dating my fiancé for three+ years and have known him my whole life; she has known her fiancé for about 7mths. This is mildly important later on.
Her and I have had some problems, basically her putting guys ahead of me (cancelling plans, never responds, not setting boundaries, letting her guys talk to me negatively, etc). Since we both got engaged, I honestly didn't know if I wanted her as my MoH because we seem to be growing apart and her fiancé has been so negative towards me and my fiancé. But she has been my best friend for 10 years and I consider her and her family MY family. I wouldn't know who else could fill her role.
I view her fiancé as very controlling, which is a completely different topic- but as a result I hardly talk to her/see her. Since they began dating I've only seen her once alone, and she was on her phone with him nearly the whole time.
She hasn't been involved in my wedding planning at all, nor has asked about it. Her wedding isn't going to be for another year and a half- so she doesn't want to start planning yet even though I make sure to ask if she needs anything (she also asked me to be her MOH).
I bought my dress yesterday and sent her a picture. I was very self conscious about the fit in the tummy- but my aunt and mom assured me that it only looked that way because of it being cinched to stay up. And I plan on losing some weight and wearing spanx. Instead of telling me I looked nice, or anything positive- she basically mirrored all my self criticisms and added "I hope your ordered a bigger size". Then the conversation moved to her wedding and her life again. All of the joy I felt about finding my dress was squished by her negative comment.
A lot of other stuff has happened to make me reconsider her place in this wedding, but this is already stupid long. Has anyone else had this issue, and how did you handle it tactfully?
TL;DR: | best friend and I have some major differences in personal style and we occasionally disagree over decisions made through our engagement, my spiraling struggle to make the best possible impression on our best moH has hurt my feelings and I'm not sure how I can respectfully ask her to step down.<|endoftext|> | My best friend and I have had some problems lately, where my fiancé has been very controlling in our wedding planning and I can't seem to make up my mind about whether or not I need her to step down.onitrile- I really like her and feel strongly about our relationship, but I have bad self-criticism about her current job when compared to my fiancé.<|endoftext|> | 0.763484 | 0.236516 |