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4,701 | daddit | Do you post to Daddit, or are you just coming in from r/all? Because I think someone familiar with the sub this was posted in would understand. I'm just a dad sharing an inspiring moment observing my son. And my intent was to possibly get a few replies of other people whose children behave in interesting ways so we ... |
4,702 | daddit | Isn't that the best evidence? |
4,703 | daddit | Your inability to accept the possibility that gender roles are largely part of our evolution is frustrating. There are always going to be outliers and people who are different and they should never be treated with anything but respect, but to say his gender role is forced on him is just ignorant. I guarantee you've nev... |
4,704 | daddit | I'm not entirely sure what that means, to be completely honest. We just raise our children. It's not like I command my boy to wrestle me and then force my girls to go collect flowers. I just come home from work in the evenings and my boy wants to tackle me to the floor and my girls are out by the road making bouquet... |
4,705 | daddit | You're one to talk claiming you are two different genders and 3 different ages |
4,706 | daddit | Stop it. |
4,707 | daddit | I am actually interested in evidence and not here to downvote you. |
4,708 | daddit | Nobody gives a shit |
4,709 | daddit | Fuck you, Y chromosome! |
4,710 | daddit | *Triggered* |
4,711 | daddit | He's a child. Ffs. Wait for puberty at least before spazzing out. |
4,712 | daddit | lol How is this even remotely unbelievable? |
4,713 | daddit | Sure thing, go grab daddy a cold one. |
4,714 | daddit | What picture? |
4,715 | daddit | Reddit comments lately have been a pit of loosely or completely unrelated personal anecdotes. It's pretty irritating TBH. |
4,716 | daddit | That's usually the case on reddit. Comments filled with nothing but personal anecdotes. |
4,717 | daddit | /r/mildlyinteresting |
4,718 | daddit | [removed] |
4,719 | daddit | [That entire video is fascinating. I highly recommend that you guys watch it if you haven't yet -- it's only like 2 minutes.](https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=IFACrIx5SZ0) |
4,720 | daddit | Just look at it like this, for a lot of things YOU get to be the one to introduce something to them. So, if there first experience is going to you and trying to help, even if they are doing a shit job, and you react angerly or badly twoards it...they will not have a good experience. But if you make it a fun learning ... |
4,721 | daddit | Not a lot of choices out there for a 57 Cadillac |
4,722 | daddit | *then |
4,723 | daddit | Just keep them away from the flat screen |
4,724 | daddit | I'm watching the smurfs with my son for the 2nd time today and probably 20th this week. HELP! |
4,725 | daddit | We slipped number 3 past the goalie Don't try and chase the sex of the baby , it isn't worth it |
4,726 | daddit | [deleted] |
4,727 | daddit | > I definitely have a "Tomboy" in the mix, but she's also the one that is obsessed with rainbows and unicorns. And thus Kaylee from Firefly is born! |
4,728 | daddit | My wife is a beautiful woman, but she's far from a traditional girly girl. She doesn't wear dresses or jewelry, she doesn't have 89396 pairs of shoes or do make up every day. I'm a giant bald beast of a man, nothing girlie here. We're both super progressive liberal types. When we had our daughter we consciously did... |
4,729 | daddit | They're just silly. In my college studies we learned about how at around age 5 girls and boys behave in very stereotypical roles and segregate themselves into groups despite experiments trying to prevent it. It's okay to be a girl or a boy, saying otherwise is just dumb. |
4,730 | daddit | Ignore the downvotes, I don't think you're saying that traditional gender roles are better or worse in any way. Or that they're inherent in all children. Kids that conform to traditional gender roles are just as worthy as kids that don't conform at all. |
4,731 | daddit | (I'm a mom) we have two boys. The first 8-9 years of their life their father was a sahd and i was in the Air Force. We've never had cable and they grew up in a pretty gender nyetral environment. They are both very much typical boys. (The only exception being a love of my little pony, which I guess is actually more norm... |
4,732 | daddit | People who don't accept gender roles, generally probably don't have multiple kids to interact with. If you don't think there is a difference in gender and how it affects our personalities go to a kindergarten class and just watch. I have a hard time believing the majority of the girls act the same and the majority of t... |
4,733 | daddit | > I've gotten a few downvotes on my comments I'm surprised you haven't been banned for assuming your children's genders. |
4,734 | daddit | Most societal changes happen too fast at first and then level off. Right now it's all "stop forcing roles on my kids!!" and at times not allowing the kids to actually maybe like what they are being told is forced on them. Sooner or later we will figure it out and have a nice middle road. Look at the 70's. People went n... |
4,735 | daddit | [deleted] |
4,736 | daddit | By stating that your boy's (or any other boy's) behavior is 'natural', it necessarily implies that other behavior is less natural or unnatural. I'm pretty certain that wasn't your intent, but I think that's what people are taking issue with; the word 'natural' is more loaded than saying something like 'how boys tend t... |
4,737 | daddit | oh what a surprise your post set up this little soapbox nice job bro youre a real reddit pro |
4,738 | daddit | Our jobs as parents is to help our children become the best versions of their selves. My girls do play with cars and planes, my boy does play dolls with his sisters. I have no issue with either. But the girls will look at dolls at the store and the boy goes for hot wheels. |
4,739 | daddit | As a "manly" man who likes guns, trucks and motorcycles. Who grew up on a farm and fixes all the broken shit in my house. I can say confidently it's fucking awesome watching my daughter grow into a person and I can't wait to have a son if it's in my cards. I am fine with however they turn out, gender roles or not, but ... |
4,740 | daddit | > he came up with it entirely in a vacuum So you don't let him watch TV? Or leave the house? |
4,741 | daddit | The best reason to know him. |
4,742 | daddit | I think he looks more like Craig t Nelson |
4,743 | daddit | I know him from early seasons of Criminal Minds. He was great on that show. |
4,744 | daddit | With that facial expression, he kinda looks like Robert De Niro |
4,745 | daddit | I miss Gideon. He was the truth. |
4,746 | daddit | We do this also! breakable, dangerous things are in two locked cabinets, but the rest of the kitchen is free range. It has so far been a success. Well except for the incident involving the beaters and the cat... Well there was also the rice bag that came open.. Well and.....Never mind. It's has not been as good as I t... |
4,747 | daddit | Whoa, never heard that about soap. Any source on that? A few weeks ago my son got into some liquid hand soap and ate it (which could not have tasted good). From the googling I did at the time, it didn't seem like a huge deal. He never had any symptoms, but I'm pretty sure I caught him right as he was getting into i... |
4,748 | daddit | Good luck for the next few days. |
4,749 | daddit | I'm sure others have told you and I wish I took the advice of other moms but make sure you sleep whenever the baby sleeps. I know that you'll want to have your "me time" especially if you're breastfeeding but take that time to sleep. You'll heal a lot quicker and not be as miserable. |
4,750 | daddit | They're too busy fighting the patriarchy, obviously. |
4,751 | daddit | My anecdote should come with a trigger warning then, I guess. My three year old son is in the four year old pre-K program at daycare, and he is the only boy out of the nine kids in the class. Last week they were learning about different occupations, and Wednesday they did construction workers. The teacher lays out thes... |
4,752 | daddit | I'm married to a super-duper feminist (god it's fucking exhausting, by the way) and yet she loves to cook and clean, but is completely useless when it comes to technology or fixing *anything* around the house. I doesn't seem to want it any other way. Some of us happen to reflect gender norms. I'm a manly man and I som... |
4,753 | daddit | damn straight Why boys can't be boys and girls can't be girls anymore is well beyond me and why parents are critized for (encouraging) it. |
4,754 | daddit | never let yourself be shamed. it is subtle control |
4,755 | daddit | I'd upvote this more if I could :) Our youngest (1 year old) is like yours. He *loves* the dishwasher haha -- but at the moment he's not quite old enough to help fixing it, he's more into closing it for me, or helping me take dishes (and occasionally knives, erk!) out, and bringing them to set the table. It will actua... |
4,756 | daddit | Well, in people's defense, I think it's actually the opposite. I think people are taking issue with my use of the word "naturally", and are taking it to mean that kids are born a certain way and not shaped by their environment. I think. I honestly, am a little lost, both in regards to what I was actually saying, and... |
4,757 | daddit | They are, but not by the home environment. |
4,758 | daddit | two girls and a boy also, all different, would describe my youngest daughter as "dramatic". |
4,759 | daddit | >cringe Why? |
4,760 | daddit | I agree. Besides, I enjoy the bonding time I get with her pretending to tighten up the bolts on her little tykes car. Maybe she will be a mechanic or engineer or something haha. |
4,761 | daddit | I don't think it's unusual to expect that some of that behavior is learned. EDIT: and I now have two hilariously stupid, and yet diametrically opposing, responses: one accusing me of indoctrinating my son subconsciously with masculinity, and the other telling me I'm a hippie and that hippies are dumb. God dammit, Red... |
4,762 | daddit | > I had nightmares of coming home and finding my son wearing one of their pink tutus. Why? |
4,763 | daddit | Sorry but I think he meant it the other way |
4,764 | daddit | [deleted] |
4,765 | daddit | Oh come on, have you even *met* most little boys? |
4,766 | daddit | Brother I tell you it’s hard, when his dad is around enough for him to still be a part of his life but not enough that he disappoints the kid. I have a picture somewhere, I was putting up a light on the outside of my girlfriends moms garage and he climbed up the ladder behind me and cried when I had him come down, him ... |
4,767 | daddit | There are absolutely no absolutes. My wife enjoys the outdoors and there are plenty of girls who enjoy poking dead things with sticks. But as a general rule of thumb... |
4,768 | daddit | FYI - I don't care about this topic of conversation one way or the other and I'm not the right person to get into it with you or anyone else, but 'Science Daily' is not a credible source for information. The single source they list is also not too terrific, which is often the problem with 'professional business blog' s... |
4,769 | daddit | for shits and giggles I went through 3 random people who didn't seem to be regulars... yup. Not dads. Never posted here before. Funny that. I guess they randomly came across this title... :/ |
4,770 | daddit | Don't forget that we "teach" kids constantly, no matter whether we are intentionally doing it or not. If your favorite things were watching Ellen and wearing princess dresses, what do you think he'd gravitate toward? |
4,771 | daddit | Oh, I agree completely. Of course this will probably never be known fully because how the heck would we test it? "Clean slate" is probably a bit extreme of a term to use but I do think that 99.9% of "nature" is subsumed by "nurture." |
4,772 | daddit | Until there's physical proof otherwise, it is. Which does not imply it's changeable through willpower no matter what Mike Spence says. |
4,773 | daddit | [deleted] |
4,774 | daddit | Source? |
4,775 | daddit | That's.... a strange citation. Why the heck would male chimps identify with cars? That's part of human culture, not an inherently male object. Edit: were the scientists Saudi Arabian? |
4,776 | daddit | [deleted] |
4,777 | daddit | You can only conclude his *sex* from what you see when you change his diaper, not his gender. A person's gender is a social characteristic, not a biological one. Anyway, it's cool that your son is a born handyman, and I absolutely agree with your assumption that, for whatever reason, boys are far more likely than girl... |
4,778 | daddit | Oh yeah, you're right I did come from r/all. Makes more sense in context. And now that I've reconsidered I've realised I'm wrong in saying that this happening shouldn't be significant to you because he's a young child trying to help with something he knows absolutely nothing about and that's purely adorable. Sorry for ... |
4,779 | daddit | We have the best anecdotes. |
4,780 | daddit | Yes many boys and girls do act differently from one another. Because they are raised differently and their environment helps shape their unique personality. Society communicates to different genders in a certain way and children will pick up on that. On top of that boys tend to more attention to their fathers and fol... |
4,781 | daddit | I was just curious because I've become very aware of gender roles now that I have a daughter. I don't want her to be girly unless she wants to be. I don't want to treat her in any way because of her gender; like how people will let a boy fall and pick himself up because he's a boy, but may dote on a girl more.. "poor... |
4,782 | daddit | [deleted] |
4,783 | daddit | How is this even remotely believable? (See how this game works?) |
4,784 | daddit | Doesn't look like anything to me. |
4,785 | daddit | thank you for sharing your feelings |
4,786 | daddit | On a scale from 0 to America, how irritated are you |
4,787 | daddit | You made a great deal of generalizations about me and my life based solely on a caption to a picture. You seem to have taken very little information and filled in the voids with the very thing that you dislike most. Why not assume something better? Maybe we have more in common than you think, and I'm not someone you... |
4,788 | daddit | Is this sarcasm? |
4,789 | daddit | I was surprised you took this long to get here. 16 comments in before you showed up. and look at how defensive to got the OP after playing that gender card? He's freaking out trying to explain something why boys like fixing things to you before you label him an "ism" and smear his whole post. |
4,790 | daddit | The "two minutes" was actually a great selling point. |
4,791 | daddit | I learned how to fix a lot of stuff while getting yelled at. |
4,792 | daddit | That makes sense. |
4,793 | daddit | Relevant username |
4,794 | daddit | *Life doesn't need you |
4,795 | daddit | We need more people like you here on reddit, I remember a time when a post with a grammatical error would be downvoted to hell, don't listen to the other guy |
4,796 | daddit | > People definitely do not like the idea that sexes have any non socially caused gender differences. This is a huge part of the problem. Some little girls like pink things and ponies. Others, like my 6-year-old niece, love military aircraft - Uncle Cow_Launcher [supports and facilitates this](http://i.imgur.com/R2HdDk... |
4,797 | daddit | > Our daughter is only a few months but I am very curious to see how she ends up. This is the strangest sentence I've read today, and I can't explain why. For some reason I'm picturing her off in a corner with you just standing there with your arms crossed impatiently waiting for her to be older. |
4,798 | daddit | Kids like what kids like. My daughter loves dress up, dolls and ponies, but she also loves getting dirty, playing ball, motorcycles and tools. I think exposing them to all sorts of things can never be a bad thing, just helps them become a well rounded individual. |
4,799 | daddit | Yep, we see this with our son. When he was very young he lived with us full time (we're two women, co-parenting with a gay couple but living in separate homes). Neither my wife nor I care much for cars or soccer and we never pushed any specific toys towards him. We let him figure out what he wanted. Even his dads (wh... |
4,800 | daddit | > People definitely do not like the idea that sexes have any non socially caused gender differences I think many people readily accept that, but also understand that determining whether a particular behavior has a physiological basis is *very* difficult. Social cues are pervasive and don't necessarily work in a strai... |
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