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HgUuGiGtIaEr | Watching Alexi Laiho from Children of Bodom play. I was a metal head for a long time and one day I was just watching stuff on the web (I don't think I knew of or youtube was a thing back then, been playing over 10 years) he did like various instructional videos. I was just like "I want to be able to do that", if anything though learning the instrument has branched out my musical tastes to more than just metal.
TL;DR Wanted to emulate guitar player from a band I listened to growing up. | Watching Alexi Laiho from Children of Bodom play. I was a metal head for a long time and one day I was just watching stuff on the web (I don't think I knew of or youtube was a thing back then, been playing over 10 years) he did like various instructional videos. I was just like "I want to be able to do that", if anything though learning the instrument has branched out my musical tastes to more than just metal.
TL;DR Wanted to emulate guitar player from a band I listened to growing up.
| Guitar | t5_2qi79 | cfvz1jv | Watching Alexi Laiho from Children of Bodom play. I was a metal head for a long time and one day I was just watching stuff on the web (I don't think I knew of or youtube was a thing back then, been playing over 10 years) he did like various instructional videos. I was just like "I want to be able to do that", if anything though learning the instrument has branched out my musical tastes to more than just metal. | Wanted to emulate guitar player from a band I listened to growing up. |
st_gulik | Long Story Short: I'm starting a new campaign of a kick ass game, Houses of the Blooded. I've been re-reading Dune, and also more recently S.M. Stirling's In the Courts of the Crimson Kings, so I've been all into desert style settings.
As I was writing the long intro for the game I had an ice water down the neck moment. I checked one of my player's LJ and sure enough, the campaign he just started in for the same game is a desert setting. DOH!
I don't want to compete with him and want to do something original. The characters are all playing young nobles and the themes for my game are: a rising merchant class, piracy, social castes, intrigue, Technology is almost 100% Organic, and possibly the discovery of a 'New World'. Airships and mountainous archipelago's could work, or some such, but I'm not sure.
Please Help me Out!
tl;dr: Can you help me think of a new kick ass setting that doesn't involve Polynesian archipelagos, deserts, standard European settings, Japan or China, or Greece. | Long Story Short: I'm starting a new campaign of a kick ass game, Houses of the Blooded. I've been re-reading Dune, and also more recently S.M. Stirling's In the Courts of the Crimson Kings, so I've been all into desert style settings.
As I was writing the long intro for the game I had an ice water down the neck moment. I checked one of my player's LJ and sure enough, the campaign he just started in for the same game is a desert setting. DOH!
I don't want to compete with him and want to do something original. The characters are all playing young nobles and the themes for my game are: a rising merchant class, piracy, social castes, intrigue, Technology is almost 100% Organic, and possibly the discovery of a 'New World'. Airships and mountainous archipelago's could work, or some such, but I'm not sure.
Please Help me Out!
tl;dr: Can you help me think of a new kick ass setting that doesn't involve Polynesian archipelagos, deserts, standard European settings, Japan or China, or Greece.
| rpg | t5_2qh2s | c098n8x | Long Story Short: I'm starting a new campaign of a kick ass game, Houses of the Blooded. I've been re-reading Dune, and also more recently S.M. Stirling's In the Courts of the Crimson Kings, so I've been all into desert style settings.
As I was writing the long intro for the game I had an ice water down the neck moment. I checked one of my player's LJ and sure enough, the campaign he just started in for the same game is a desert setting. DOH!
I don't want to compete with him and want to do something original. The characters are all playing young nobles and the themes for my game are: a rising merchant class, piracy, social castes, intrigue, Technology is almost 100% Organic, and possibly the discovery of a 'New World'. Airships and mountainous archipelago's could work, or some such, but I'm not sure.
Please Help me Out! | Can you help me think of a new kick ass setting that doesn't involve Polynesian archipelagos, deserts, standard European settings, Japan or China, or Greece. |
ErusSenex | Commenting here for visibility, unrelated to Dirt 3(although I agree it's an amazing game with shit DLC):
Just tried Grid 2. In its own right, the game is fun, however, if you were looking for something along the lines of sim-racing, look elsewhere. It is INCREDIBLY arcade-y. From the gameplay footage and the first Grid, I expected better driving physics than this. There isn't a cockpit view. Indy cars drift. All cars drift. I use a Fanatec racing wheel, and it just feels like I'm playing those racing games at Chuck-e-cheese.
Unless I missed some type of option in the menu, I can't recommend this game for anyone who's looking for a racing game with the same feel as Dirt3 or NFS:Shift2. If you're not looking for a simracer, then get the game, it's tons of non-serious fun.
TL;DR: Grid 2 is fun, but driving physics don't feel real. Feels like I'm playing Dirt: Showdown, rather than Dirt3. | Commenting here for visibility, unrelated to Dirt 3(although I agree it's an amazing game with shit DLC):
Just tried Grid 2. In its own right, the game is fun, however, if you were looking for something along the lines of sim-racing, look elsewhere. It is INCREDIBLY arcade-y. From the gameplay footage and the first Grid, I expected better driving physics than this. There isn't a cockpit view. Indy cars drift. All cars drift. I use a Fanatec racing wheel, and it just feels like I'm playing those racing games at Chuck-e-cheese.
Unless I missed some type of option in the menu, I can't recommend this game for anyone who's looking for a racing game with the same feel as Dirt3 or NFS:Shift2. If you're not looking for a simracer, then get the game, it's tons of non-serious fun.
TL;DR: Grid 2 is fun, but driving physics don't feel real. Feels like I'm playing Dirt: Showdown, rather than Dirt3.
| GameDeals | t5_2qwx3 | ca7ua25 | Commenting here for visibility, unrelated to Dirt 3(although I agree it's an amazing game with shit DLC):
Just tried Grid 2. In its own right, the game is fun, however, if you were looking for something along the lines of sim-racing, look elsewhere. It is INCREDIBLY arcade-y. From the gameplay footage and the first Grid, I expected better driving physics than this. There isn't a cockpit view. Indy cars drift. All cars drift. I use a Fanatec racing wheel, and it just feels like I'm playing those racing games at Chuck-e-cheese.
Unless I missed some type of option in the menu, I can't recommend this game for anyone who's looking for a racing game with the same feel as Dirt3 or NFS:Shift2. If you're not looking for a simracer, then get the game, it's tons of non-serious fun. | Grid 2 is fun, but driving physics don't feel real. Feels like I'm playing Dirt: Showdown, rather than Dirt3. |
booshyschmoozy | Currently on my 2nd read of all the books, and I just started ASOS yesterday. In Tyrion I, there's a very prominent line spoken by Tywin to Tyrion that we all know foreshadowed the Red Wedding: "Some battles are won with swords and spears. Others with quills and ravens."
 
After reading this, it got me thinking that this may not be the first instance where Tywin Lannister has won himself a battle through means other than sword and spear. The next major battle he's known for (other than the current one with Robb/Stannis) is the Sack of Kings' Landing. Originally I thought there was no way for him to pull this move, he just got lucky. But then another Tyrion chapter from ACOK sprung into my head - Tyrion VI - where he and Shagga break Pycell's door down and take him into custody.
 
In the midst of that piss-soaked ordeal, Pycell is begging for mercy by telling Tryion that everything he's done has been for House Lannister. He even goes as far as telling Tyrion that he was the one who convinced Aerys to open his doors to none other than Tywin Lanninster (sorry I don't have the book with me so I can't give a direct quote). Which made me think why would he have done so? Aside from being strategically placed there by Tywin himself (which seems unlikely), is it possible that Tywin wrote to Pycell (who handles the ravens in KL) in order to use him as a means of bringing his army into KL in the event that the battle is all but won by Bobby B?
 
Yes it would have been a risky move on Tywin's part - we all know how Aerys goes about handing acts of treason. And it could all just be coincidental and Pycell recognizing that Aerys was a complete nut job and wanted to put his reign to an end. Either way, I thought it was a cool idea to share.
 
**TL;DR - Tywin wrote to Pycell during Robert's Rebellion and convinced him to open the gates at KL and effectively creating the "Red Sack of KL."** | Currently on my 2nd read of all the books, and I just started ASOS yesterday. In Tyrion I, there's a very prominent line spoken by Tywin to Tyrion that we all know foreshadowed the Red Wedding: "Some battles are won with swords and spears. Others with quills and ravens."
After reading this, it got me thinking that this may not be the first instance where Tywin Lannister has won himself a battle through means other than sword and spear. The next major battle he's known for (other than the current one with Robb/Stannis) is the Sack of Kings' Landing. Originally I thought there was no way for him to pull this move, he just got lucky. But then another Tyrion chapter from ACOK sprung into my head - Tyrion VI - where he and Shagga break Pycell's door down and take him into custody.
In the midst of that piss-soaked ordeal, Pycell is begging for mercy by telling Tryion that everything he's done has been for House Lannister. He even goes as far as telling Tyrion that he was the one who convinced Aerys to open his doors to none other than Tywin Lanninster (sorry I don't have the book with me so I can't give a direct quote). Which made me think why would he have done so? Aside from being strategically placed there by Tywin himself (which seems unlikely), is it possible that Tywin wrote to Pycell (who handles the ravens in KL) in order to use him as a means of bringing his army into KL in the event that the battle is all but won by Bobby B?
Yes it would have been a risky move on Tywin's part - we all know how Aerys goes about handing acts of treason. And it could all just be coincidental and Pycell recognizing that Aerys was a complete nut job and wanted to put his reign to an end. Either way, I thought it was a cool idea to share.
TL;DR - Tywin wrote to Pycell during Robert's Rebellion and convinced him to open the gates at KL and effectively creating the "Red Sack of KL."
| asoiaf | t5_2r2o9 | t3_2mxaev | Currently on my 2nd read of all the books, and I just started ASOS yesterday. In Tyrion I, there's a very prominent line spoken by Tywin to Tyrion that we all know foreshadowed the Red Wedding: "Some battles are won with swords and spears. Others with quills and ravens."
After reading this, it got me thinking that this may not be the first instance where Tywin Lannister has won himself a battle through means other than sword and spear. The next major battle he's known for (other than the current one with Robb/Stannis) is the Sack of Kings' Landing. Originally I thought there was no way for him to pull this move, he just got lucky. But then another Tyrion chapter from ACOK sprung into my head - Tyrion VI - where he and Shagga break Pycell's door down and take him into custody.
In the midst of that piss-soaked ordeal, Pycell is begging for mercy by telling Tryion that everything he's done has been for House Lannister. He even goes as far as telling Tyrion that he was the one who convinced Aerys to open his doors to none other than Tywin Lanninster (sorry I don't have the book with me so I can't give a direct quote). Which made me think why would he have done so? Aside from being strategically placed there by Tywin himself (which seems unlikely), is it possible that Tywin wrote to Pycell (who handles the ravens in KL) in order to use him as a means of bringing his army into KL in the event that the battle is all but won by Bobby B?
Yes it would have been a risky move on Tywin's part - we all know how Aerys goes about handing acts of treason. And it could all just be coincidental and Pycell recognizing that Aerys was a complete nut job and wanted to put his reign to an end. Either way, I thought it was a cool idea to share.
| Tywin wrote to Pycell during Robert's Rebellion and convinced him to open the gates at KL and effectively creating the "Red Sack of KL." |
[deleted] | He's now a "consultant" for Ambit energy. Simply typing the search term "ambit" in to google and the third suggestion down is "ambit energy scam". My dad made an investment of $400 and pays $30 a month for a page on ambit's website. He told me in confidence that he gets $100 for every 5 people that sign up and that the real money is in the residuals he will receive if he gets other people to work for them.
This worries me because my dad has already lost a lot of money on really stupid investments. He is pretty much the sole provider for our family, my mom makes money but hardly any and she's pretty much burying her head in the sand on this one. I'm just worried about crushing his pride and sending him into another depression/alcohol binge.
I am 20 and he's 50. He calls me retarded and stupid all the time while he thinks he's a genius. I want to tell him its a scam and save him the hurt in his wallet but knowing my dad I could see him hyper-concentrating on it to earn money and proove me wrong and constantly bring it up every single day.
**TL;DR:** My dad is investing time and money into a scam, should I tell him? Even it means I will be mocked and called a fool for doubting his genius method?
**Edit:** Thanks for the responses, I think I'm going to just drop hints like jengi suggested. I wouldn't be worried but since his other business has failed it seems like he is pretty focused on this as his new career. Even though he's a dick some times I can't knowingly let him invest too much into this. | He's now a "consultant" for Ambit energy. Simply typing the search term "ambit" in to google and the third suggestion down is "ambit energy scam". My dad made an investment of $400 and pays $30 a month for a page on ambit's website. He told me in confidence that he gets $100 for every 5 people that sign up and that the real money is in the residuals he will receive if he gets other people to work for them.
This worries me because my dad has already lost a lot of money on really stupid investments. He is pretty much the sole provider for our family, my mom makes money but hardly any and she's pretty much burying her head in the sand on this one. I'm just worried about crushing his pride and sending him into another depression/alcohol binge.
I am 20 and he's 50. He calls me retarded and stupid all the time while he thinks he's a genius. I want to tell him its a scam and save him the hurt in his wallet but knowing my dad I could see him hyper-concentrating on it to earn money and proove me wrong and constantly bring it up every single day.
TL;DR: My dad is investing time and money into a scam, should I tell him? Even it means I will be mocked and called a fool for doubting his genius method?
Edit: Thanks for the responses, I think I'm going to just drop hints like jengi suggested. I wouldn't be worried but since his other business has failed it seems like he is pretty focused on this as his new career. Even though he's a dick some times I can't knowingly let him invest too much into this.
| AskReddit | t5_2qh1i | t3_hjhp8 | He's now a "consultant" for Ambit energy. Simply typing the search term "ambit" in to google and the third suggestion down is "ambit energy scam". My dad made an investment of $400 and pays $30 a month for a page on ambit's website. He told me in confidence that he gets $100 for every 5 people that sign up and that the real money is in the residuals he will receive if he gets other people to work for them.
This worries me because my dad has already lost a lot of money on really stupid investments. He is pretty much the sole provider for our family, my mom makes money but hardly any and she's pretty much burying her head in the sand on this one. I'm just worried about crushing his pride and sending him into another depression/alcohol binge.
I am 20 and he's 50. He calls me retarded and stupid all the time while he thinks he's a genius. I want to tell him its a scam and save him the hurt in his wallet but knowing my dad I could see him hyper-concentrating on it to earn money and proove me wrong and constantly bring it up every single day. | My dad is investing time and money into a scam, should I tell him? Even it means I will be mocked and called a fool for doubting his genius method?
Edit: Thanks for the responses, I think I'm going to just drop hints like jengi suggested. I wouldn't be worried but since his other business has failed it seems like he is pretty focused on this as his new career. Even though he's a dick some times I can't knowingly let him invest too much into this. |
RuthlessRuben | It's like time travel, isn't it? I know how it is, I used to work for the university of Vienna, which was established 1365 and the last time we updated procedures was apparently after the second siege of Vienna by the Ottoman Empire.
The only way to get mail to a certain department which was nestled within the department of Egyptian studies like some sort of academic lamprey was to by taking it there. On foot. Why? Because they didn't have a letterbox. And why didn't they have one? Because they adhered to some original part of the academic code when everything was housed in a single building instead of 50+ buildings erratically scattered all over the city. And why did they still adhere to this? Because they were overlooked when the post box licenses where handed out. In 1897. The last time you needed a license to own a letterbox was before the fall of the old empire in 1918. So why not mail it to the (comparatively) modern department of egyptian studies? Because all the mail gets delivered to the main building and library, four streets away, as the office in question and main building have seperate physical adresses, but the same mailing adress. The postal code is from a time when your mailman knew you by first and last name in an area that now houses 1.75 million people.
So you walk. Or rather, go two stops by tram, and then walk up six flights of stairs. To find out they're not there. But it wasn't possible to call them ahead of time. Because they have no telephone. I never found out why, I was too busy experiencing existential ennui to bother.
TL;DR Working for the Unversity of Vienna is like being stuck in a Kafka novel. | It's like time travel, isn't it? I know how it is, I used to work for the university of Vienna, which was established 1365 and the last time we updated procedures was apparently after the second siege of Vienna by the Ottoman Empire.
The only way to get mail to a certain department which was nestled within the department of Egyptian studies like some sort of academic lamprey was to by taking it there. On foot. Why? Because they didn't have a letterbox. And why didn't they have one? Because they adhered to some original part of the academic code when everything was housed in a single building instead of 50+ buildings erratically scattered all over the city. And why did they still adhere to this? Because they were overlooked when the post box licenses where handed out. In 1897. The last time you needed a license to own a letterbox was before the fall of the old empire in 1918. So why not mail it to the (comparatively) modern department of egyptian studies? Because all the mail gets delivered to the main building and library, four streets away, as the office in question and main building have seperate physical adresses, but the same mailing adress. The postal code is from a time when your mailman knew you by first and last name in an area that now houses 1.75 million people.
So you walk. Or rather, go two stops by tram, and then walk up six flights of stairs. To find out they're not there. But it wasn't possible to call them ahead of time. Because they have no telephone. I never found out why, I was too busy experiencing existential ennui to bother.
TL;DR Working for the Unversity of Vienna is like being stuck in a Kafka novel.
| AskReddit | t5_2qh1i | cebgwdp | It's like time travel, isn't it? I know how it is, I used to work for the university of Vienna, which was established 1365 and the last time we updated procedures was apparently after the second siege of Vienna by the Ottoman Empire.
The only way to get mail to a certain department which was nestled within the department of Egyptian studies like some sort of academic lamprey was to by taking it there. On foot. Why? Because they didn't have a letterbox. And why didn't they have one? Because they adhered to some original part of the academic code when everything was housed in a single building instead of 50+ buildings erratically scattered all over the city. And why did they still adhere to this? Because they were overlooked when the post box licenses where handed out. In 1897. The last time you needed a license to own a letterbox was before the fall of the old empire in 1918. So why not mail it to the (comparatively) modern department of egyptian studies? Because all the mail gets delivered to the main building and library, four streets away, as the office in question and main building have seperate physical adresses, but the same mailing adress. The postal code is from a time when your mailman knew you by first and last name in an area that now houses 1.75 million people.
So you walk. Or rather, go two stops by tram, and then walk up six flights of stairs. To find out they're not there. But it wasn't possible to call them ahead of time. Because they have no telephone. I never found out why, I was too busy experiencing existential ennui to bother. | Working for the Unversity of Vienna is like being stuck in a Kafka novel. |
randomuser4323 | The worst part about it is that I built it myself. Brick by brick, fixing it all in place. I've been surrounding myself with a cold, dark, hard room. I didn't notice how bad it had gotten until I realised I hadn't seen any friends for almost 5 months. I sit at home, alone. I go to class, alone. I come back, alone. Then I sit and watch TV shows or movies on my computer. I don't go anywhere else, don't interact with anyone else. The only thing that stops my chest from feeling tight, stops my hands shaking or stops my head from feeling like I just spun around in a chair for an hour is being able to lose myself in music or a fictional world.
It's gotten to the point that I barely eat anything throughout the day, just staring at a screen, or staring at my roof with headphones on. On the bus or train to class I sit and stare out the window, headphones in, avoiding eye contact. I try sitting by myself, choosing to stand over sitting next to anyone. I was never close with my family (aside from my parents, I don't have any family living in the same country).
The problems have bled in to my studies. It started getting bad about a year and a half ago, I would feel shaky and breathing would get difficult right before an exam. Over the last few months it's gotten worse, I feel that way almost as soon as I hear about the exam or assignment. I was never the most hard working student, but I never really let myself get close to failing. Now I'm worried that I could fail almost half my subjects in one semester. My parents both want me to go on and do a postgrad degree, which I don't think I want to do, and know I wouldn't be able to cope with. I don't have any to talk to about this, and I'm scared of the direction that my thoughts have turned to. The word "useless" echos through my mind everyday, more times than I can count. I can't remember the last day that I didn't think about killing myself.
Ever since high school finished I drifted away from all of my friends. I don't feel like I deserve to have friends. I was always shy and quiet as a kid, it's gotten to a different level recently. Whenever I'm out at class, instead of trying to make new friends, I hide away in my shell until I can come home. Whenever I use to see them I consciously kept them at arms length, "If they really got to know you, they would hate you". Now I actively push them away, don't return calls, ignore messages (not that I get many of either, maybe once a month at most, closer to once every few months). Cannot blame them, who would stay friends with someone that tries to actively avoid them.
I've tried letting out the frustration, but I can't. I can't scream, I can't cry, everything either feels numb or feels like my chest is going to explode. Don't understand why this is happening or why it keeps getting worse every day. I feel weak, then hate myself for my lack of strength. I hate myself when I don't see my friends, yet I hate myself too much to actually think I deserve to see them. It feels like I'm throwing myself against the walls and bars of my own psyche, futily, trying to escape from my thoughts, but just beating myself up even more. I just want to be free from all of this.
Sorry if this is poorly written, I'm just tired, hazy and frustrated. I don't know if it's anxiety, or if it's depression, or if I'm just weak. Just needed to write something.
tl;dr I'm stuck in a cage and I lost the key, how do I get out? | The worst part about it is that I built it myself. Brick by brick, fixing it all in place. I've been surrounding myself with a cold, dark, hard room. I didn't notice how bad it had gotten until I realised I hadn't seen any friends for almost 5 months. I sit at home, alone. I go to class, alone. I come back, alone. Then I sit and watch TV shows or movies on my computer. I don't go anywhere else, don't interact with anyone else. The only thing that stops my chest from feeling tight, stops my hands shaking or stops my head from feeling like I just spun around in a chair for an hour is being able to lose myself in music or a fictional world.
It's gotten to the point that I barely eat anything throughout the day, just staring at a screen, or staring at my roof with headphones on. On the bus or train to class I sit and stare out the window, headphones in, avoiding eye contact. I try sitting by myself, choosing to stand over sitting next to anyone. I was never close with my family (aside from my parents, I don't have any family living in the same country).
The problems have bled in to my studies. It started getting bad about a year and a half ago, I would feel shaky and breathing would get difficult right before an exam. Over the last few months it's gotten worse, I feel that way almost as soon as I hear about the exam or assignment. I was never the most hard working student, but I never really let myself get close to failing. Now I'm worried that I could fail almost half my subjects in one semester. My parents both want me to go on and do a postgrad degree, which I don't think I want to do, and know I wouldn't be able to cope with. I don't have any to talk to about this, and I'm scared of the direction that my thoughts have turned to. The word "useless" echos through my mind everyday, more times than I can count. I can't remember the last day that I didn't think about killing myself.
Ever since high school finished I drifted away from all of my friends. I don't feel like I deserve to have friends. I was always shy and quiet as a kid, it's gotten to a different level recently. Whenever I'm out at class, instead of trying to make new friends, I hide away in my shell until I can come home. Whenever I use to see them I consciously kept them at arms length, "If they really got to know you, they would hate you". Now I actively push them away, don't return calls, ignore messages (not that I get many of either, maybe once a month at most, closer to once every few months). Cannot blame them, who would stay friends with someone that tries to actively avoid them.
I've tried letting out the frustration, but I can't. I can't scream, I can't cry, everything either feels numb or feels like my chest is going to explode. Don't understand why this is happening or why it keeps getting worse every day. I feel weak, then hate myself for my lack of strength. I hate myself when I don't see my friends, yet I hate myself too much to actually think I deserve to see them. It feels like I'm throwing myself against the walls and bars of my own psyche, futily, trying to escape from my thoughts, but just beating myself up even more. I just want to be free from all of this.
Sorry if this is poorly written, I'm just tired, hazy and frustrated. I don't know if it's anxiety, or if it's depression, or if I'm just weak. Just needed to write something.
tl;dr I'm stuck in a cage and I lost the key, how do I get out?
| Anxiety | t5_2qmij | t3_38cggz | The worst part about it is that I built it myself. Brick by brick, fixing it all in place. I've been surrounding myself with a cold, dark, hard room. I didn't notice how bad it had gotten until I realised I hadn't seen any friends for almost 5 months. I sit at home, alone. I go to class, alone. I come back, alone. Then I sit and watch TV shows or movies on my computer. I don't go anywhere else, don't interact with anyone else. The only thing that stops my chest from feeling tight, stops my hands shaking or stops my head from feeling like I just spun around in a chair for an hour is being able to lose myself in music or a fictional world.
It's gotten to the point that I barely eat anything throughout the day, just staring at a screen, or staring at my roof with headphones on. On the bus or train to class I sit and stare out the window, headphones in, avoiding eye contact. I try sitting by myself, choosing to stand over sitting next to anyone. I was never close with my family (aside from my parents, I don't have any family living in the same country).
The problems have bled in to my studies. It started getting bad about a year and a half ago, I would feel shaky and breathing would get difficult right before an exam. Over the last few months it's gotten worse, I feel that way almost as soon as I hear about the exam or assignment. I was never the most hard working student, but I never really let myself get close to failing. Now I'm worried that I could fail almost half my subjects in one semester. My parents both want me to go on and do a postgrad degree, which I don't think I want to do, and know I wouldn't be able to cope with. I don't have any to talk to about this, and I'm scared of the direction that my thoughts have turned to. The word "useless" echos through my mind everyday, more times than I can count. I can't remember the last day that I didn't think about killing myself.
Ever since high school finished I drifted away from all of my friends. I don't feel like I deserve to have friends. I was always shy and quiet as a kid, it's gotten to a different level recently. Whenever I'm out at class, instead of trying to make new friends, I hide away in my shell until I can come home. Whenever I use to see them I consciously kept them at arms length, "If they really got to know you, they would hate you". Now I actively push them away, don't return calls, ignore messages (not that I get many of either, maybe once a month at most, closer to once every few months). Cannot blame them, who would stay friends with someone that tries to actively avoid them.
I've tried letting out the frustration, but I can't. I can't scream, I can't cry, everything either feels numb or feels like my chest is going to explode. Don't understand why this is happening or why it keeps getting worse every day. I feel weak, then hate myself for my lack of strength. I hate myself when I don't see my friends, yet I hate myself too much to actually think I deserve to see them. It feels like I'm throwing myself against the walls and bars of my own psyche, futily, trying to escape from my thoughts, but just beating myself up even more. I just want to be free from all of this.
Sorry if this is poorly written, I'm just tired, hazy and frustrated. I don't know if it's anxiety, or if it's depression, or if I'm just weak. Just needed to write something. | I'm stuck in a cage and I lost the key, how do I get out? |
slammajamma13 | A ton of detail to follow, because the situation is strange. But please help-- I am open to suggestion because i'm tired of wishing that i have a shot with girls. i know i can do better because i am better.
I'm a college student. I've known this girl since i've been at school because I'm a swimmer and she's a diver here. She dated one of the older guys on my team for the first couple years i was here but has been single since then. The attraction for me has always been there, but because of a bro code our team adheres to she has been "off limits". But its been long enough that the bro code doesn't apply, and this girl is a **10** (defined by me as a 9, plus 1 for an x factor). She is short, blonde, stunning, constantly smiling, and (x factor) also has big boobs. She's known me this whole time as a friend of her x boyfriend, but lately since i've had a class with her we have had some deeper talks. On my end, i can say with confidence that i am an attractive person--smart, really tall, really fit, and funny. All i want is guidance on how to shift the power. she is used to guys either drooling over themselves or completely ignoring her bc of her ex boyfriend. The question-- **how do i get her out of her comfort zone with me and build attraction on the low key?** other teammates can't know yet that i am try to build this relationship. i suck mainly at texting, and being forward when i need to be. but i know i have the ability to be whatever i have to be to get this girl. i just want a starting point from you guys
TL;DR: what the best way to get a 9 or a 10 to feel like they are the one chasing, even after knowing you awhile? | A ton of detail to follow, because the situation is strange. But please help-- I am open to suggestion because i'm tired of wishing that i have a shot with girls. i know i can do better because i am better.
I'm a college student. I've known this girl since i've been at school because I'm a swimmer and she's a diver here. She dated one of the older guys on my team for the first couple years i was here but has been single since then. The attraction for me has always been there, but because of a bro code our team adheres to she has been "off limits". But its been long enough that the bro code doesn't apply, and this girl is a 10 (defined by me as a 9, plus 1 for an x factor). She is short, blonde, stunning, constantly smiling, and (x factor) also has big boobs. She's known me this whole time as a friend of her x boyfriend, but lately since i've had a class with her we have had some deeper talks. On my end, i can say with confidence that i am an attractive person--smart, really tall, really fit, and funny. All i want is guidance on how to shift the power. she is used to guys either drooling over themselves or completely ignoring her bc of her ex boyfriend. The question-- how do i get her out of her comfort zone with me and build attraction on the low key? other teammates can't know yet that i am try to build this relationship. i suck mainly at texting, and being forward when i need to be. but i know i have the ability to be whatever i have to be to get this girl. i just want a starting point from you guys
TL;DR: what the best way to get a 9 or a 10 to feel like they are the one chasing, even after knowing you awhile?
| askseddit | t5_2s7xh | t3_qrmrw | A ton of detail to follow, because the situation is strange. But please help-- I am open to suggestion because i'm tired of wishing that i have a shot with girls. i know i can do better because i am better.
I'm a college student. I've known this girl since i've been at school because I'm a swimmer and she's a diver here. She dated one of the older guys on my team for the first couple years i was here but has been single since then. The attraction for me has always been there, but because of a bro code our team adheres to she has been "off limits". But its been long enough that the bro code doesn't apply, and this girl is a 10 (defined by me as a 9, plus 1 for an x factor). She is short, blonde, stunning, constantly smiling, and (x factor) also has big boobs. She's known me this whole time as a friend of her x boyfriend, but lately since i've had a class with her we have had some deeper talks. On my end, i can say with confidence that i am an attractive person--smart, really tall, really fit, and funny. All i want is guidance on how to shift the power. she is used to guys either drooling over themselves or completely ignoring her bc of her ex boyfriend. The question-- how do i get her out of her comfort zone with me and build attraction on the low key? other teammates can't know yet that i am try to build this relationship. i suck mainly at texting, and being forward when i need to be. but i know i have the ability to be whatever i have to be to get this girl. i just want a starting point from you guys | what the best way to get a 9 or a 10 to feel like they are the one chasing, even after knowing you awhile? |
agnosticbeliever138 | I am one of the people who complains about the quality of the "free" monthly games that have been offered for PS4, but that's but to say I don't try them. I have no idea what a "rogue-like" game is but I have to say the initial descriptions I read of this game didn't really make it sound very interesting and honestly I had no idea what they were even referring to when they said as a player I'd be "matching" things. It certainly didn't sound like it would be that fun.
But I downloaded it anyway. I haven't had the money to buy a game since I got Watchdogs and I just wanted to play something new. At first I thought it looked like a really cheesy sort of kids game but as I began to play it I started to understand more and more about what all the reviews for this game were referring to when they talked about matching and your book of secrets to help you remember what combinations work to do special things.
And man...what do you know? This game is really pretty fun. A lot of people say they couldn't play it for long but I have to say I have been playing it for almost 30 hours now and I still keep discovering new objects and secrets. This is a testament to how much I suck partly--I have only made it to day 5 so far!! I can't get past it! It's hard! But I keep trying. Every try is different. Even though I have made virtually zero progress in two days of playing this for hours I am still having fun trying to make it further. I can't tell you anything about the story or any of that. I can just tell you that this game is a giant puzzle that changes every time and it really takes a lot of strategy.
Maybe other people find this game super easy, I don't know. There has to be a few other people out there who find the game as tough to play as I do. Does anybody that finds this game simple have any recommendations for someone who is struggling? There aren't really walkthroughs or tips available for this since it is procedurally generated so it changes every time you play.
The one tip I have found that helps me a little is to throw the kids into the fire. This turns them into "precocious kids" which will follow you instead of having to be carried/thrown. Anyone else have anything they can add?
TL;DR: Road Not Taken is difficult but fun. I would like to hear winning strategies for this game because I can't get past day 5!
**EDIT:** A few other things that may or may not be helpful to people....(please feel free to add your own tips):
I have noticed with bees I can grab them and throw them away real quick and they will chill. 'Coons and moles you can throw in the fire for good food. 3 hives thrown together to make a honey that's worth plus ten.
I don't know what to do with wolves. They will eat deer but I can't figure out how to get rid of them.
I also can't figure out what to do about hawks. Those pesky buggers!
When the black demon thing is in the room I just let it hit me. I don't know how to avoid it, other than running out the door.
**ALSO** In my basement it says I can ban some objects. I have banned bees but they still appear. I wonder what is the point? The other things I can ban don't really pose any sort of threat or difficulty.
| I am one of the people who complains about the quality of the "free" monthly games that have been offered for PS4, but that's but to say I don't try them. I have no idea what a "rogue-like" game is but I have to say the initial descriptions I read of this game didn't really make it sound very interesting and honestly I had no idea what they were even referring to when they said as a player I'd be "matching" things. It certainly didn't sound like it would be that fun.
But I downloaded it anyway. I haven't had the money to buy a game since I got Watchdogs and I just wanted to play something new. At first I thought it looked like a really cheesy sort of kids game but as I began to play it I started to understand more and more about what all the reviews for this game were referring to when they talked about matching and your book of secrets to help you remember what combinations work to do special things.
And man...what do you know? This game is really pretty fun. A lot of people say they couldn't play it for long but I have to say I have been playing it for almost 30 hours now and I still keep discovering new objects and secrets. This is a testament to how much I suck partly--I have only made it to day 5 so far!! I can't get past it! It's hard! But I keep trying. Every try is different. Even though I have made virtually zero progress in two days of playing this for hours I am still having fun trying to make it further. I can't tell you anything about the story or any of that. I can just tell you that this game is a giant puzzle that changes every time and it really takes a lot of strategy.
Maybe other people find this game super easy, I don't know. There has to be a few other people out there who find the game as tough to play as I do. Does anybody that finds this game simple have any recommendations for someone who is struggling? There aren't really walkthroughs or tips available for this since it is procedurally generated so it changes every time you play.
The one tip I have found that helps me a little is to throw the kids into the fire. This turns them into "precocious kids" which will follow you instead of having to be carried/thrown. Anyone else have anything they can add?
TL;DR: Road Not Taken is difficult but fun. I would like to hear winning strategies for this game because I can't get past day 5!
EDIT: A few other things that may or may not be helpful to people....(please feel free to add your own tips):
I have noticed with bees I can grab them and throw them away real quick and they will chill. 'Coons and moles you can throw in the fire for good food. 3 hives thrown together to make a honey that's worth plus ten.
I don't know what to do with wolves. They will eat deer but I can't figure out how to get rid of them.
I also can't figure out what to do about hawks. Those pesky buggers!
When the black demon thing is in the room I just let it hit me. I don't know how to avoid it, other than running out the door.
ALSO In my basement it says I can ban some objects. I have banned bees but they still appear. I wonder what is the point? The other things I can ban don't really pose any sort of threat or difficulty.
| PS4 | t5_2rrlp | t3_2d6hxo | I am one of the people who complains about the quality of the "free" monthly games that have been offered for PS4, but that's but to say I don't try them. I have no idea what a "rogue-like" game is but I have to say the initial descriptions I read of this game didn't really make it sound very interesting and honestly I had no idea what they were even referring to when they said as a player I'd be "matching" things. It certainly didn't sound like it would be that fun.
But I downloaded it anyway. I haven't had the money to buy a game since I got Watchdogs and I just wanted to play something new. At first I thought it looked like a really cheesy sort of kids game but as I began to play it I started to understand more and more about what all the reviews for this game were referring to when they talked about matching and your book of secrets to help you remember what combinations work to do special things.
And man...what do you know? This game is really pretty fun. A lot of people say they couldn't play it for long but I have to say I have been playing it for almost 30 hours now and I still keep discovering new objects and secrets. This is a testament to how much I suck partly--I have only made it to day 5 so far!! I can't get past it! It's hard! But I keep trying. Every try is different. Even though I have made virtually zero progress in two days of playing this for hours I am still having fun trying to make it further. I can't tell you anything about the story or any of that. I can just tell you that this game is a giant puzzle that changes every time and it really takes a lot of strategy.
Maybe other people find this game super easy, I don't know. There has to be a few other people out there who find the game as tough to play as I do. Does anybody that finds this game simple have any recommendations for someone who is struggling? There aren't really walkthroughs or tips available for this since it is procedurally generated so it changes every time you play.
The one tip I have found that helps me a little is to throw the kids into the fire. This turns them into "precocious kids" which will follow you instead of having to be carried/thrown. Anyone else have anything they can add? | Road Not Taken is difficult but fun. I would like to hear winning strategies for this game because I can't get past day 5!
EDIT: A few other things that may or may not be helpful to people....(please feel free to add your own tips):
I have noticed with bees I can grab them and throw them away real quick and they will chill. 'Coons and moles you can throw in the fire for good food. 3 hives thrown together to make a honey that's worth plus ten.
I don't know what to do with wolves. They will eat deer but I can't figure out how to get rid of them.
I also can't figure out what to do about hawks. Those pesky buggers!
When the black demon thing is in the room I just let it hit me. I don't know how to avoid it, other than running out the door.
ALSO In my basement it says I can ban some objects. I have banned bees but they still appear. I wonder what is the point? The other things I can ban don't really pose any sort of threat or difficulty. |
gagaoolala | Have you done in-depth research about doing a local high school? It seems preposterous that it would take you 3 additional years to finish high school when you have (I assume) already completed 3 years. There might be some small requirement differences, but I would be shocked if it took more than 1 year over your normal grad date to complete the requirements.
I know this part won't be easy to hear, but you're not depressed because you're apart from your BF. You might be sad. He might be sad. Neither of you are depressed. You are young people in "love" and you will be sad while you are apart. Nothing will change that, but there is nothing wrong with you in a clinical psychological sense because of this. If you feel the need to write bad poetry, do so (just please don't submit it here). But you will be fine after a few years cool off your teenage genitals.
tl;dr Calm the tits down. You will be fine. Ideally work for a diploma, but a GED is ok in many circumstances. You're not depressed, you're just a teenager. | Have you done in-depth research about doing a local high school? It seems preposterous that it would take you 3 additional years to finish high school when you have (I assume) already completed 3 years. There might be some small requirement differences, but I would be shocked if it took more than 1 year over your normal grad date to complete the requirements.
I know this part won't be easy to hear, but you're not depressed because you're apart from your BF. You might be sad. He might be sad. Neither of you are depressed. You are young people in "love" and you will be sad while you are apart. Nothing will change that, but there is nothing wrong with you in a clinical psychological sense because of this. If you feel the need to write bad poetry, do so (just please don't submit it here). But you will be fine after a few years cool off your teenage genitals.
tl;dr Calm the tits down. You will be fine. Ideally work for a diploma, but a GED is ok in many circumstances. You're not depressed, you're just a teenager.
| lgbt | t5_2qhh7 | c2ogo75 | Have you done in-depth research about doing a local high school? It seems preposterous that it would take you 3 additional years to finish high school when you have (I assume) already completed 3 years. There might be some small requirement differences, but I would be shocked if it took more than 1 year over your normal grad date to complete the requirements.
I know this part won't be easy to hear, but you're not depressed because you're apart from your BF. You might be sad. He might be sad. Neither of you are depressed. You are young people in "love" and you will be sad while you are apart. Nothing will change that, but there is nothing wrong with you in a clinical psychological sense because of this. If you feel the need to write bad poetry, do so (just please don't submit it here). But you will be fine after a few years cool off your teenage genitals. | Calm the tits down. You will be fine. Ideally work for a diploma, but a GED is ok in many circumstances. You're not depressed, you're just a teenager. |
Scoopable | I believe "Our" purpose as a species is to seek truth. Connect the dots and understand why what is, is. Is our universe one of many? is it a cell living within something far bigger than us? (very cool idea a friend of mine was talking about) in our life times, we may never know these answers, but we can lay down the ground works. As a collective, as a species I believe Our purpose is finding answers. We've become an Intellectual species, with natural curiosities, every child I've met has always asked "why?"
As an individual I believe our purpose is one of support for one another, helping everyone achieve their best. In a sense, helping everyone be happy. I've met many individuals with PTSD, Bi-polar, and other various mental disorders, many I've met all had dreams, things they wanted to pursue in order to be happy in life, but walked away from because of how they felt, because the social stigma of saying "I'm not ok." I believe if the individual can be happy in life, they can contribute in a small or big way to helping us all understand the questions around us.
TL;DR I believe as a group our purpose is to understand what is around us, and to find the answers, as an individual our purpose is to be happy, I see it all as going hand in hand. | I believe "Our" purpose as a species is to seek truth. Connect the dots and understand why what is, is. Is our universe one of many? is it a cell living within something far bigger than us? (very cool idea a friend of mine was talking about) in our life times, we may never know these answers, but we can lay down the ground works. As a collective, as a species I believe Our purpose is finding answers. We've become an Intellectual species, with natural curiosities, every child I've met has always asked "why?"
As an individual I believe our purpose is one of support for one another, helping everyone achieve their best. In a sense, helping everyone be happy. I've met many individuals with PTSD, Bi-polar, and other various mental disorders, many I've met all had dreams, things they wanted to pursue in order to be happy in life, but walked away from because of how they felt, because the social stigma of saying "I'm not ok." I believe if the individual can be happy in life, they can contribute in a small or big way to helping us all understand the questions around us.
TL;DR I believe as a group our purpose is to understand what is around us, and to find the answers, as an individual our purpose is to be happy, I see it all as going hand in hand.
| atheism | t5_2qh2p | c8m19vf | I believe "Our" purpose as a species is to seek truth. Connect the dots and understand why what is, is. Is our universe one of many? is it a cell living within something far bigger than us? (very cool idea a friend of mine was talking about) in our life times, we may never know these answers, but we can lay down the ground works. As a collective, as a species I believe Our purpose is finding answers. We've become an Intellectual species, with natural curiosities, every child I've met has always asked "why?"
As an individual I believe our purpose is one of support for one another, helping everyone achieve their best. In a sense, helping everyone be happy. I've met many individuals with PTSD, Bi-polar, and other various mental disorders, many I've met all had dreams, things they wanted to pursue in order to be happy in life, but walked away from because of how they felt, because the social stigma of saying "I'm not ok." I believe if the individual can be happy in life, they can contribute in a small or big way to helping us all understand the questions around us. | I believe as a group our purpose is to understand what is around us, and to find the answers, as an individual our purpose is to be happy, I see it all as going hand in hand. |
Boogada42 | I work at two different locations. One is fun to work at, rather specially themed new hostel, the other is overpriced, old, really boring hotel. About a week and a half ago, there was theft at the hostel. A couple stayed three nights, they were a walk-in, paid cash each day, and when I checked them in, the woman gave me her ID. But then one day the guy broke into someone else's room, stole a set of keys and then the car from the parking lot. We have it all on tape. Police said that the ID was stolen, or at least reported lost or something. But coworkers searched for the name and found a Facebook profile, in the name, with a matching photo even. And another coworker saw them in the city, but they ran.
So this morning I work at the other hotel. Looking at the checkouts I see a familiar name. The same one the woman gave at the hostel?! I look up the registration they filled out. Town matches, different address though, but some of it is written differently and this seems odd. Unfortunately no one of the staff present had seen them. Again, they had been here a few days, walk-in, cash. I pulled up that Facebook photo and sent it to the coworker who had checked them in, and she confirmed it's them! I called the police and they sent two cars. One officer used the elevator while three others took the stairs. Me and the owner wait downstairs. All of a sudden the guy comes down the stairs and bolts out the back door. I followed him a little but then thought better of it. He must have seen the cops and hidden on another floor. The woman got arrested though. There was an extensive search for the man, helicopter etc, but without success. I wonder what else he must have done, or if this extraordinary search was for stealing one car only?
tl;dr: couple who stole a car at one workplace are staying at my other job, cops let one guy escape. | I work at two different locations. One is fun to work at, rather specially themed new hostel, the other is overpriced, old, really boring hotel. About a week and a half ago, there was theft at the hostel. A couple stayed three nights, they were a walk-in, paid cash each day, and when I checked them in, the woman gave me her ID. But then one day the guy broke into someone else's room, stole a set of keys and then the car from the parking lot. We have it all on tape. Police said that the ID was stolen, or at least reported lost or something. But coworkers searched for the name and found a Facebook profile, in the name, with a matching photo even. And another coworker saw them in the city, but they ran.
So this morning I work at the other hotel. Looking at the checkouts I see a familiar name. The same one the woman gave at the hostel?! I look up the registration they filled out. Town matches, different address though, but some of it is written differently and this seems odd. Unfortunately no one of the staff present had seen them. Again, they had been here a few days, walk-in, cash. I pulled up that Facebook photo and sent it to the coworker who had checked them in, and she confirmed it's them! I called the police and they sent two cars. One officer used the elevator while three others took the stairs. Me and the owner wait downstairs. All of a sudden the guy comes down the stairs and bolts out the back door. I followed him a little but then thought better of it. He must have seen the cops and hidden on another floor. The woman got arrested though. There was an extensive search for the man, helicopter etc, but without success. I wonder what else he must have done, or if this extraordinary search was for stealing one car only?
tl;dr: couple who stole a car at one workplace are staying at my other job, cops let one guy escape.
| TalesFromTheFrontDesk | t5_2wlcx | t3_21jaoy | I work at two different locations. One is fun to work at, rather specially themed new hostel, the other is overpriced, old, really boring hotel. About a week and a half ago, there was theft at the hostel. A couple stayed three nights, they were a walk-in, paid cash each day, and when I checked them in, the woman gave me her ID. But then one day the guy broke into someone else's room, stole a set of keys and then the car from the parking lot. We have it all on tape. Police said that the ID was stolen, or at least reported lost or something. But coworkers searched for the name and found a Facebook profile, in the name, with a matching photo even. And another coworker saw them in the city, but they ran.
So this morning I work at the other hotel. Looking at the checkouts I see a familiar name. The same one the woman gave at the hostel?! I look up the registration they filled out. Town matches, different address though, but some of it is written differently and this seems odd. Unfortunately no one of the staff present had seen them. Again, they had been here a few days, walk-in, cash. I pulled up that Facebook photo and sent it to the coworker who had checked them in, and she confirmed it's them! I called the police and they sent two cars. One officer used the elevator while three others took the stairs. Me and the owner wait downstairs. All of a sudden the guy comes down the stairs and bolts out the back door. I followed him a little but then thought better of it. He must have seen the cops and hidden on another floor. The woman got arrested though. There was an extensive search for the man, helicopter etc, but without success. I wonder what else he must have done, or if this extraordinary search was for stealing one car only? | couple who stole a car at one workplace are staying at my other job, cops let one guy escape. |
BeekeepersApprentice | Switch here. I have a dom partner and am dating a sub guy too. So, TL;DR: poly. | Switch here. I have a dom partner and am dating a sub guy too. So, TL;DR: poly.
| BDSMcommunity | t5_2r9tk | crkjgd2 | Switch here. I have a dom partner and am dating a sub guy too. So, | poly. |
shinytoyguns617 | I was sitting in my car, about to pull out of the driveway to head to school at about 6:30 in the morning. It was pretty dark and foggy, so I couldn't see well. I check twice to each side, and let off the brake. All of the sudden a car appears, slams on its brakes, and stops at the same time I stop to let the person go. The guy starts driving to pass in front of me, but he STOPS in front of my car so his face is illuminated, and I can see this death glare. Then he squeals off down the road. I was pretty shaken just from that, but then I forget that the road is a circle, and I go the way that passes where the circle lets out. He's pulling up to the stop sign as I'm almost at the intersection, and seeing as I had right-of-way (no stop sign) I continue at the same speed. Now get this, the guy starts knowingly pulling out, so far that by the time I was passing in front of his car, he almost hit my car. Never in my life have I met a driver who was that fucking mean and threatening. Mind you, this was all before the sun even rose.
**TL;DR** A guy in the neighborhood was an asshole driver at 6:30 am, with no real justification. | I was sitting in my car, about to pull out of the driveway to head to school at about 6:30 in the morning. It was pretty dark and foggy, so I couldn't see well. I check twice to each side, and let off the brake. All of the sudden a car appears, slams on its brakes, and stops at the same time I stop to let the person go. The guy starts driving to pass in front of me, but he STOPS in front of my car so his face is illuminated, and I can see this death glare. Then he squeals off down the road. I was pretty shaken just from that, but then I forget that the road is a circle, and I go the way that passes where the circle lets out. He's pulling up to the stop sign as I'm almost at the intersection, and seeing as I had right-of-way (no stop sign) I continue at the same speed. Now get this, the guy starts knowingly pulling out, so far that by the time I was passing in front of his car, he almost hit my car. Never in my life have I met a driver who was that fucking mean and threatening. Mind you, this was all before the sun even rose.
TL;DR A guy in the neighborhood was an asshole driver at 6:30 am, with no real justification.
| AskReddit | t5_2qh1i | c3ea3ec | I was sitting in my car, about to pull out of the driveway to head to school at about 6:30 in the morning. It was pretty dark and foggy, so I couldn't see well. I check twice to each side, and let off the brake. All of the sudden a car appears, slams on its brakes, and stops at the same time I stop to let the person go. The guy starts driving to pass in front of me, but he STOPS in front of my car so his face is illuminated, and I can see this death glare. Then he squeals off down the road. I was pretty shaken just from that, but then I forget that the road is a circle, and I go the way that passes where the circle lets out. He's pulling up to the stop sign as I'm almost at the intersection, and seeing as I had right-of-way (no stop sign) I continue at the same speed. Now get this, the guy starts knowingly pulling out, so far that by the time I was passing in front of his car, he almost hit my car. Never in my life have I met a driver who was that fucking mean and threatening. Mind you, this was all before the sun even rose. | A guy in the neighborhood was an asshole driver at 6:30 am, with no real justification. |
inappropriate_input | Technically, I'm an IT spec / Journalist, so first and foremost I use it for a lot of mundane computer stuff. On top of that the system handles video editing and work with large data libraries just fine, and there is the occasional game session.
Tl;dr It's an internet explorer machine. | Technically, I'm an IT spec / Journalist, so first and foremost I use it for a lot of mundane computer stuff. On top of that the system handles video editing and work with large data libraries just fine, and there is the occasional game session.
Tl;dr It's an internet explorer machine.
| battlestations | t5_2rdbn | c433kk1 | Technically, I'm an IT spec / Journalist, so first and foremost I use it for a lot of mundane computer stuff. On top of that the system handles video editing and work with large data libraries just fine, and there is the occasional game session. | It's an internet explorer machine. |
paralyzed2015 | I've been depressed my entire life, and I'm currently in a very shit spot where everything is joyless and I don't give a fuck about anything. I wrote a longer post about things here:
Normally I stay awake half the night with anxiety and other thoughts/worries, but now I haven't slept at all for two days. This is the second day I've taken off work without calling in, and I'm trying to get myself back to the point of going in and facing the music. I don't care if I get canned or not, but I realize that doing so would be bad for me and the people I work with (primarily my dad).
I've been coping by using alcohol for years, and I'm seriously concerned it's going to kill me. Since the beginning of the year I've been getting drunk almost every night and it's butchering my bank account. However, it's the only thing (other than drugs) that lets me feel other emotions and gives me a way to not give a fuck about everything I'm procrastinating on. It lets me feel numb about how I'm letting myself and everyone else down.
I need other alternatives. I've seen a counselor but talking hasn't really helped, and the last antidepressant I was on was Effexor which did nothing, even though the side/withdrawal effects were totally fucked.
I can identify self-defeating or self-destructive behaviour, but I having serious problems stopping or preventing it. I don't want to die. What else can I do?
**TL;DR: I'm looking for coping mechanisms that won't kill me in the process. Suggestions?** | I've been depressed my entire life, and I'm currently in a very shit spot where everything is joyless and I don't give a fuck about anything. I wrote a longer post about things here:
Normally I stay awake half the night with anxiety and other thoughts/worries, but now I haven't slept at all for two days. This is the second day I've taken off work without calling in, and I'm trying to get myself back to the point of going in and facing the music. I don't care if I get canned or not, but I realize that doing so would be bad for me and the people I work with (primarily my dad).
I've been coping by using alcohol for years, and I'm seriously concerned it's going to kill me. Since the beginning of the year I've been getting drunk almost every night and it's butchering my bank account. However, it's the only thing (other than drugs) that lets me feel other emotions and gives me a way to not give a fuck about everything I'm procrastinating on. It lets me feel numb about how I'm letting myself and everyone else down.
I need other alternatives. I've seen a counselor but talking hasn't really helped, and the last antidepressant I was on was Effexor which did nothing, even though the side/withdrawal effects were totally fucked.
I can identify self-defeating or self-destructive behaviour, but I having serious problems stopping or preventing it. I don't want to die. What else can I do?
TL;DR: I'm looking for coping mechanisms that won't kill me in the process. Suggestions?
| depression | t5_2qqqf | t3_34y5o4 | I've been depressed my entire life, and I'm currently in a very shit spot where everything is joyless and I don't give a fuck about anything. I wrote a longer post about things here:
Normally I stay awake half the night with anxiety and other thoughts/worries, but now I haven't slept at all for two days. This is the second day I've taken off work without calling in, and I'm trying to get myself back to the point of going in and facing the music. I don't care if I get canned or not, but I realize that doing so would be bad for me and the people I work with (primarily my dad).
I've been coping by using alcohol for years, and I'm seriously concerned it's going to kill me. Since the beginning of the year I've been getting drunk almost every night and it's butchering my bank account. However, it's the only thing (other than drugs) that lets me feel other emotions and gives me a way to not give a fuck about everything I'm procrastinating on. It lets me feel numb about how I'm letting myself and everyone else down.
I need other alternatives. I've seen a counselor but talking hasn't really helped, and the last antidepressant I was on was Effexor which did nothing, even though the side/withdrawal effects were totally fucked.
I can identify self-defeating or self-destructive behaviour, but I having serious problems stopping or preventing it. I don't want to die. What else can I do? | I'm looking for coping mechanisms that won't kill me in the process. Suggestions? |
atiredturtle | This sounds counter-intuitive, but helped me stop biting my nails after almost 20 years.
Start by biting only your left (or right)
Whenever you feel the urge just bite the fingers on that one hand. With time the other hand's nails will grow.
Then slowly lower the number of fingers on your biting hand that you are allowed to bite.
Eventually having a shorter nail will feel more out of place than a longer nail.
**Tldr: direct your urges instead of suppressing them. Start with biting one hands nails and move it down from there** | This sounds counter-intuitive, but helped me stop biting my nails after almost 20 years.
Start by biting only your left (or right)
Whenever you feel the urge just bite the fingers on that one hand. With time the other hand's nails will grow.
Then slowly lower the number of fingers on your biting hand that you are allowed to bite.
Eventually having a shorter nail will feel more out of place than a longer nail.
Tldr: direct your urges instead of suppressing them. Start with biting one hands nails and move it down from there
| LifeProTips | t5_2s5oq | t3_4nw130 | This sounds counter-intuitive, but helped me stop biting my nails after almost 20 years.
Start by biting only your left (or right)
Whenever you feel the urge just bite the fingers on that one hand. With time the other hand's nails will grow.
Then slowly lower the number of fingers on your biting hand that you are allowed to bite.
Eventually having a shorter nail will feel more out of place than a longer nail. | direct your urges instead of suppressing them. Start with biting one hands nails and move it down from there |
LiTHiUM_Powered | It is not so much geared at you. It is more geared to the sheeple who need to be spoon feed every last bit of thought that goes into how to extrapolate a safe use of those numbers. At the other end of the spectrum your comment was more about the fact that that page of the data sheet is not hard line numbers that are safe to follow, but guides to start to find where safe limits are for personal use. I was making the point that in that one case the original commenters information was not a gude baseline to base things on. They did go on to comment that they were wrong without actually saying so.
**TL;DR:** It is not you, but the general public that needs things to be spelled out in long form because they can't connect the dots. | It is not so much geared at you. It is more geared to the sheeple who need to be spoon feed every last bit of thought that goes into how to extrapolate a safe use of those numbers. At the other end of the spectrum your comment was more about the fact that that page of the data sheet is not hard line numbers that are safe to follow, but guides to start to find where safe limits are for personal use. I was making the point that in that one case the original commenters information was not a gude baseline to base things on. They did go on to comment that they were wrong without actually saying so.
TL;DR: It is not you, but the general public that needs things to be spelled out in long form because they can't connect the dots.
| electronic_cigarette | t5_2qmlu | cio7cl5 | It is not so much geared at you. It is more geared to the sheeple who need to be spoon feed every last bit of thought that goes into how to extrapolate a safe use of those numbers. At the other end of the spectrum your comment was more about the fact that that page of the data sheet is not hard line numbers that are safe to follow, but guides to start to find where safe limits are for personal use. I was making the point that in that one case the original commenters information was not a gude baseline to base things on. They did go on to comment that they were wrong without actually saying so. | It is not you, but the general public that needs things to be spelled out in long form because they can't connect the dots. |
andresmartinez89 | **If you really don’t care that much about decade-old problems, you should start reading this at the fourth paragraph**. The first thing that needs to be taken into account is that this is not a problem limited to 1998-2002. Origins could be traced back all to way back to WWII, but leaving excruciating details aside, the fact is that Argentinean economics after WWII were heavily conditioned by inflation. From 1945 onwards, inflation would reach peaks of up to 113% annually, with an average of 25% from 1945-71, and up to 60% the following years.
This situation was of course worsened by the military dictatorships’ policies, in addition to the economic crisis of 1980, as well as the Falklands war. The last dictatorship fell in 1983 due to (you guessed it!) economic hardship and the first democratic president, Raúl Alfonsín, was elected. He implemented a plan to change the currency by removing zeros and changing its name to the “Austral”, in addition to other structural reforms. To get an idea of the currency’s constant loss of value: by 1945, 4 Argentinean pesos could be exchanged for 1 USD, then by 1985, 1 new Austral was worth 1 billion pesos (1 USD ≈ 1 Austral = 1,000,000,000 m$n).
This “Austral” plan of course failed miserably, since it did nothing to really change the underlying problem of inflation. The Austral started off almost at parity with the US dollar in 1985, but by 1990 you would need 10,000 Australes to buy one dollar, and the percentage of inflation was measured in the thousands. Unsurprisingly, Alfonsín was promptly sacked.
After that, Carlos Menem is elected president and this is when things begin to take shape to create the scenario for the crisis. Menem was a diehard neoliberal heavily influenced by the principles of the Washington consensus. One of the most notable acts of the Menem administration was the privatization of many state owned companies such as Entel or Aerolineas Argentinas, and subsequently companies linked to TV, railways, oil and gas. Also, he dismantled many regulations on the economy such as quotas, duty taxes, restrictions on imports and controlled prices. Lastly, in an attempt to stop hyperinflation, he implemented something that translated roughly to “Convertibility Law”. This law would strictly tie the national currency to the US dollar, and subsequently created a new currency (once again…) called the “Peso convertible”.
From this point on, the exchange rate could not fluctuate; it was a fixed 1 dollar for 1 peso. This obviously meant that the central bank had to guarantee with its own reserves that each peso could be exchanged for a dollar or for its value in gold. This would later turn out to be too heavy of a burden for the government to bear, but for the first years it did drastically stop inflation. Also, Argentina’s GDP began to grow steadily for the first half of the 90’s, although growth was not homogenously distributed among different economic sectors. Some sectors were heavily damaged and unemployment began to be more and more a growing concern. At the end, the legacy of the Menem administration was a huge government budget deficit of 7 billion pesos, an equally huge foreign debt of 145 billion and a burden on the central bank to maintain the Convertibility Law.
So after Menem failed to change the constitution in order to be elected for the 3rd consecutive time, Fernando de la Rúa was elected as the new president in 1999… and this is when shit really starts to go down. The foreign debt was proving to be too big of a burden and it was adding to the already huge government budget deficit. Many big banks were heavily invested in the national government, so there was an increasing fear that the government could default. This fear was exponentially bigger within the general population whose savings were in those banks whose solvency depended on the government being able to pay its debts. So after a failed attempt to calm the market down by injecting 40 billion dollars and by postponing payments farther in the future, **the public finally panicked**. People started to massively withdraw their money from banks, 5 billion US dollars worth of deposits were lost from January to March 2001.
The government then tried to negotiate a package of 29.5 billion dollars with the IMF and some private banks in an attempt to reduce the burden of the foreign debt. However, as it is tradition with the IMF, they only agreed to the package if the Argentinean government implemented unpopular measures that were basically a big fuck-you to its citizens. At the end this served for close to nothing and capital outflow and recession continued at a staggering pace.
At this point, the government imposed heavy restrictions which would later be called **“El Corralito”** or little “corral”. For those of you who don’t know what a corral is, it’s [this]( An enclosed space in which livestock is kept, **a very appropriate term**.
The Corralito consisted on restrictions, both on financial entities and common people, as a last resort to stop deposit outflow and to discourage speculation that the “Convertibility Law” would be dismantled. These restrictions were very harsh; people could only get access to $250 a week, even if you had tens of thousands in your account and had many expenses. So of course this sudden restriction of liquidity halted all economic activity: it paralyzed commerce, froze credit, people and companies could not make payments to other people or companies who subsequently also couldn’t make payments. Ultimately, this created such civil unrest that de la Rúa was deposed.
Then Rodriguez Saá assumed the presidency for two weeks, in which he declared that the government would default, the biggest default in history. However, he refused to leave the Convertibility Law, reason for which he was deposed. Eduardo Duhalde then took office, and the first thing he did was to dismantle the Convertibility Law and to turn all credit to Pesos. With the Convertibility Law, the peso was fixed at one dollar, so even if you could only access $250 a week, theoretically the money you had in the bank would not lose its value. However, after the Law was waived, a new exchange rate was established: 1 USD = 1.40 Pesos. This literary meant that people lost tons of money overnight. However, debt owed to the financial system would still be paid at 1 USD = 1 Peso, this was called “asymmetric pesification”. And then finally, after the damage was done, the end of “The Corralito” was announced in December 2002. The Supreme Court backed the government’s “pesification” at $1.40 for every dollar, plus inflation, and a 4% annual interest rate. At the end, after the deposits were freed, the final result was around 3 pesos for every dollar. So yeah… many people got fucked over.
I understand that I left out many things, like the IMF constant meddling, cold war relations, the Mexican crisis of 1994, military dictatorships, etc. But this turned out pretty long as it is; it’s very hard to properly explain this without writing an actual paper on it. **So please cut me some slack.**
**TL;DR** Argentina has a historical problem with inflation. Many attempts were made stop inflation. These attempts were shit and actually lead to hyperinflation. Inflation was finally stopped with a series of neoliberal reforms and a fixed exchange rate of 1 dollar = 1 peso. The fixed exchange rate was a huge burden on the central bank and the government’s budget. **Menem left a shitstorm after his presidency**. The government’s foreign debt was extremely big, people worried that it could default. Banks were heavily invested in the government, so people worried about their savings. People began to massively withdraw their money from banks. The government followed with it usual ineptitude. People kept withdrawing money. The government stopped playing by the rules and restricted withdrawals, people could not access their money. The government defaulted, biggest default in history. The fixed exchange rate was removed. All debt was turned into Pesos. New exchange rate disfavored the average Joe. People lost tons of money and their faith in humanity. | If you really don’t care that much about decade-old problems, you should start reading this at the fourth paragraph . The first thing that needs to be taken into account is that this is not a problem limited to 1998-2002. Origins could be traced back all to way back to WWII, but leaving excruciating details aside, the fact is that Argentinean economics after WWII were heavily conditioned by inflation. From 1945 onwards, inflation would reach peaks of up to 113% annually, with an average of 25% from 1945-71, and up to 60% the following years.
This situation was of course worsened by the military dictatorships’ policies, in addition to the economic crisis of 1980, as well as the Falklands war. The last dictatorship fell in 1983 due to (you guessed it!) economic hardship and the first democratic president, Raúl Alfonsín, was elected. He implemented a plan to change the currency by removing zeros and changing its name to the “Austral”, in addition to other structural reforms. To get an idea of the currency’s constant loss of value: by 1945, 4 Argentinean pesos could be exchanged for 1 USD, then by 1985, 1 new Austral was worth 1 billion pesos (1 USD ≈ 1 Austral = 1,000,000,000 m$n).
This “Austral” plan of course failed miserably, since it did nothing to really change the underlying problem of inflation. The Austral started off almost at parity with the US dollar in 1985, but by 1990 you would need 10,000 Australes to buy one dollar, and the percentage of inflation was measured in the thousands. Unsurprisingly, Alfonsín was promptly sacked.
After that, Carlos Menem is elected president and this is when things begin to take shape to create the scenario for the crisis. Menem was a diehard neoliberal heavily influenced by the principles of the Washington consensus. One of the most notable acts of the Menem administration was the privatization of many state owned companies such as Entel or Aerolineas Argentinas, and subsequently companies linked to TV, railways, oil and gas. Also, he dismantled many regulations on the economy such as quotas, duty taxes, restrictions on imports and controlled prices. Lastly, in an attempt to stop hyperinflation, he implemented something that translated roughly to “Convertibility Law”. This law would strictly tie the national currency to the US dollar, and subsequently created a new currency (once again…) called the “Peso convertible”.
From this point on, the exchange rate could not fluctuate; it was a fixed 1 dollar for 1 peso. This obviously meant that the central bank had to guarantee with its own reserves that each peso could be exchanged for a dollar or for its value in gold. This would later turn out to be too heavy of a burden for the government to bear, but for the first years it did drastically stop inflation. Also, Argentina’s GDP began to grow steadily for the first half of the 90’s, although growth was not homogenously distributed among different economic sectors. Some sectors were heavily damaged and unemployment began to be more and more a growing concern. At the end, the legacy of the Menem administration was a huge government budget deficit of 7 billion pesos, an equally huge foreign debt of 145 billion and a burden on the central bank to maintain the Convertibility Law.
So after Menem failed to change the constitution in order to be elected for the 3rd consecutive time, Fernando de la Rúa was elected as the new president in 1999… and this is when shit really starts to go down. The foreign debt was proving to be too big of a burden and it was adding to the already huge government budget deficit. Many big banks were heavily invested in the national government, so there was an increasing fear that the government could default. This fear was exponentially bigger within the general population whose savings were in those banks whose solvency depended on the government being able to pay its debts. So after a failed attempt to calm the market down by injecting 40 billion dollars and by postponing payments farther in the future, the public finally panicked . People started to massively withdraw their money from banks, 5 billion US dollars worth of deposits were lost from January to March 2001.
The government then tried to negotiate a package of 29.5 billion dollars with the IMF and some private banks in an attempt to reduce the burden of the foreign debt. However, as it is tradition with the IMF, they only agreed to the package if the Argentinean government implemented unpopular measures that were basically a big fuck-you to its citizens. At the end this served for close to nothing and capital outflow and recession continued at a staggering pace.
At this point, the government imposed heavy restrictions which would later be called “El Corralito” or little “corral”. For those of you who don’t know what a corral is, it’s [this]( An enclosed space in which livestock is kept, a very appropriate term .
The Corralito consisted on restrictions, both on financial entities and common people, as a last resort to stop deposit outflow and to discourage speculation that the “Convertibility Law” would be dismantled. These restrictions were very harsh; people could only get access to $250 a week, even if you had tens of thousands in your account and had many expenses. So of course this sudden restriction of liquidity halted all economic activity: it paralyzed commerce, froze credit, people and companies could not make payments to other people or companies who subsequently also couldn’t make payments. Ultimately, this created such civil unrest that de la Rúa was deposed.
Then Rodriguez Saá assumed the presidency for two weeks, in which he declared that the government would default, the biggest default in history. However, he refused to leave the Convertibility Law, reason for which he was deposed. Eduardo Duhalde then took office, and the first thing he did was to dismantle the Convertibility Law and to turn all credit to Pesos. With the Convertibility Law, the peso was fixed at one dollar, so even if you could only access $250 a week, theoretically the money you had in the bank would not lose its value. However, after the Law was waived, a new exchange rate was established: 1 USD = 1.40 Pesos. This literary meant that people lost tons of money overnight. However, debt owed to the financial system would still be paid at 1 USD = 1 Peso, this was called “asymmetric pesification”. And then finally, after the damage was done, the end of “The Corralito” was announced in December 2002. The Supreme Court backed the government’s “pesification” at $1.40 for every dollar, plus inflation, and a 4% annual interest rate. At the end, after the deposits were freed, the final result was around 3 pesos for every dollar. So yeah… many people got fucked over.
I understand that I left out many things, like the IMF constant meddling, cold war relations, the Mexican crisis of 1994, military dictatorships, etc. But this turned out pretty long as it is; it’s very hard to properly explain this without writing an actual paper on it. So please cut me some slack.
TL;DR Argentina has a historical problem with inflation. Many attempts were made stop inflation. These attempts were shit and actually lead to hyperinflation. Inflation was finally stopped with a series of neoliberal reforms and a fixed exchange rate of 1 dollar = 1 peso. The fixed exchange rate was a huge burden on the central bank and the government’s budget. Menem left a shitstorm after his presidency . The government’s foreign debt was extremely big, people worried that it could default. Banks were heavily invested in the government, so people worried about their savings. People began to massively withdraw their money from banks. The government followed with it usual ineptitude. People kept withdrawing money. The government stopped playing by the rules and restricted withdrawals, people could not access their money. The government defaulted, biggest default in history. The fixed exchange rate was removed. All debt was turned into Pesos. New exchange rate disfavored the average Joe. People lost tons of money and their faith in humanity.
| explainlikeimfive | t5_2sokd | cfd08b1 | If you really don’t care that much about decade-old problems, you should start reading this at the fourth paragraph . The first thing that needs to be taken into account is that this is not a problem limited to 1998-2002. Origins could be traced back all to way back to WWII, but leaving excruciating details aside, the fact is that Argentinean economics after WWII were heavily conditioned by inflation. From 1945 onwards, inflation would reach peaks of up to 113% annually, with an average of 25% from 1945-71, and up to 60% the following years.
This situation was of course worsened by the military dictatorships’ policies, in addition to the economic crisis of 1980, as well as the Falklands war. The last dictatorship fell in 1983 due to (you guessed it!) economic hardship and the first democratic president, Raúl Alfonsín, was elected. He implemented a plan to change the currency by removing zeros and changing its name to the “Austral”, in addition to other structural reforms. To get an idea of the currency’s constant loss of value: by 1945, 4 Argentinean pesos could be exchanged for 1 USD, then by 1985, 1 new Austral was worth 1 billion pesos (1 USD ≈ 1 Austral = 1,000,000,000 m$n).
This “Austral” plan of course failed miserably, since it did nothing to really change the underlying problem of inflation. The Austral started off almost at parity with the US dollar in 1985, but by 1990 you would need 10,000 Australes to buy one dollar, and the percentage of inflation was measured in the thousands. Unsurprisingly, Alfonsín was promptly sacked.
After that, Carlos Menem is elected president and this is when things begin to take shape to create the scenario for the crisis. Menem was a diehard neoliberal heavily influenced by the principles of the Washington consensus. One of the most notable acts of the Menem administration was the privatization of many state owned companies such as Entel or Aerolineas Argentinas, and subsequently companies linked to TV, railways, oil and gas. Also, he dismantled many regulations on the economy such as quotas, duty taxes, restrictions on imports and controlled prices. Lastly, in an attempt to stop hyperinflation, he implemented something that translated roughly to “Convertibility Law”. This law would strictly tie the national currency to the US dollar, and subsequently created a new currency (once again…) called the “Peso convertible”.
From this point on, the exchange rate could not fluctuate; it was a fixed 1 dollar for 1 peso. This obviously meant that the central bank had to guarantee with its own reserves that each peso could be exchanged for a dollar or for its value in gold. This would later turn out to be too heavy of a burden for the government to bear, but for the first years it did drastically stop inflation. Also, Argentina’s GDP began to grow steadily for the first half of the 90’s, although growth was not homogenously distributed among different economic sectors. Some sectors were heavily damaged and unemployment began to be more and more a growing concern. At the end, the legacy of the Menem administration was a huge government budget deficit of 7 billion pesos, an equally huge foreign debt of 145 billion and a burden on the central bank to maintain the Convertibility Law.
So after Menem failed to change the constitution in order to be elected for the 3rd consecutive time, Fernando de la Rúa was elected as the new president in 1999… and this is when shit really starts to go down. The foreign debt was proving to be too big of a burden and it was adding to the already huge government budget deficit. Many big banks were heavily invested in the national government, so there was an increasing fear that the government could default. This fear was exponentially bigger within the general population whose savings were in those banks whose solvency depended on the government being able to pay its debts. So after a failed attempt to calm the market down by injecting 40 billion dollars and by postponing payments farther in the future, the public finally panicked . People started to massively withdraw their money from banks, 5 billion US dollars worth of deposits were lost from January to March 2001.
The government then tried to negotiate a package of 29.5 billion dollars with the IMF and some private banks in an attempt to reduce the burden of the foreign debt. However, as it is tradition with the IMF, they only agreed to the package if the Argentinean government implemented unpopular measures that were basically a big fuck-you to its citizens. At the end this served for close to nothing and capital outflow and recession continued at a staggering pace.
At this point, the government imposed heavy restrictions which would later be called “El Corralito” or little “corral”. For those of you who don’t know what a corral is, it’s [this]( An enclosed space in which livestock is kept, a very appropriate term .
The Corralito consisted on restrictions, both on financial entities and common people, as a last resort to stop deposit outflow and to discourage speculation that the “Convertibility Law” would be dismantled. These restrictions were very harsh; people could only get access to $250 a week, even if you had tens of thousands in your account and had many expenses. So of course this sudden restriction of liquidity halted all economic activity: it paralyzed commerce, froze credit, people and companies could not make payments to other people or companies who subsequently also couldn’t make payments. Ultimately, this created such civil unrest that de la Rúa was deposed.
Then Rodriguez Saá assumed the presidency for two weeks, in which he declared that the government would default, the biggest default in history. However, he refused to leave the Convertibility Law, reason for which he was deposed. Eduardo Duhalde then took office, and the first thing he did was to dismantle the Convertibility Law and to turn all credit to Pesos. With the Convertibility Law, the peso was fixed at one dollar, so even if you could only access $250 a week, theoretically the money you had in the bank would not lose its value. However, after the Law was waived, a new exchange rate was established: 1 USD = 1.40 Pesos. This literary meant that people lost tons of money overnight. However, debt owed to the financial system would still be paid at 1 USD = 1 Peso, this was called “asymmetric pesification”. And then finally, after the damage was done, the end of “The Corralito” was announced in December 2002. The Supreme Court backed the government’s “pesification” at $1.40 for every dollar, plus inflation, and a 4% annual interest rate. At the end, after the deposits were freed, the final result was around 3 pesos for every dollar. So yeah… many people got fucked over.
I understand that I left out many things, like the IMF constant meddling, cold war relations, the Mexican crisis of 1994, military dictatorships, etc. But this turned out pretty long as it is; it’s very hard to properly explain this without writing an actual paper on it. So please cut me some slack. | Argentina has a historical problem with inflation. Many attempts were made stop inflation. These attempts were shit and actually lead to hyperinflation. Inflation was finally stopped with a series of neoliberal reforms and a fixed exchange rate of 1 dollar = 1 peso. The fixed exchange rate was a huge burden on the central bank and the government’s budget. Menem left a shitstorm after his presidency . The government’s foreign debt was extremely big, people worried that it could default. Banks were heavily invested in the government, so people worried about their savings. People began to massively withdraw their money from banks. The government followed with it usual ineptitude. People kept withdrawing money. The government stopped playing by the rules and restricted withdrawals, people could not access their money. The government defaulted, biggest default in history. The fixed exchange rate was removed. All debt was turned into Pesos. New exchange rate disfavored the average Joe. People lost tons of money and their faith in humanity. |
TheFarnell | This isn't something to worry about any more than the Flat Earth Society. It's a bunch of crazies just being crazy. Best thing to do is have a good laugh. For instance, their math is absurd - 10% of the population being male is *far* more than necessary to maintain functional breeding and genetic diversity under the conditions they are describing.
Considering that a man can produce enough genetic material to impregnate easily 100 women per day (with proper application of modern medical technology), and that a sustained population would require each woman to produce only a single offspring over an assumed generational cycle of 25 years, then you would need:
25 years * 365 days per year * 100 women per day = 912 500 women per man. A ratio of about one-to-one-million would be sustainable. Suppose "to be safe" you want 10 times more men than that, it's still a population need of about 0.001% males.
As for genetic diversity, this represents (with current population) about 35 000 men (for 3.5 billion women), which is more than enough to ensure adequate genetic diversity if the men are selected randomly.
**TL;DR - These people are ridiculous, and their poor math skills are one of many reasons to make fun of them.** | This isn't something to worry about any more than the Flat Earth Society. It's a bunch of crazies just being crazy. Best thing to do is have a good laugh. For instance, their math is absurd - 10% of the population being male is far more than necessary to maintain functional breeding and genetic diversity under the conditions they are describing.
Considering that a man can produce enough genetic material to impregnate easily 100 women per day (with proper application of modern medical technology), and that a sustained population would require each woman to produce only a single offspring over an assumed generational cycle of 25 years, then you would need:
25 years 365 days per year 100 women per day = 912 500 women per man. A ratio of about one-to-one-million would be sustainable. Suppose "to be safe" you want 10 times more men than that, it's still a population need of about 0.001% males.
As for genetic diversity, this represents (with current population) about 35 000 men (for 3.5 billion women), which is more than enough to ensure adequate genetic diversity if the men are selected randomly.
TL;DR - These people are ridiculous, and their poor math skills are one of many reasons to make fun of them.
| MensRights | t5_2qhk3 | c8f70qx | This isn't something to worry about any more than the Flat Earth Society. It's a bunch of crazies just being crazy. Best thing to do is have a good laugh. For instance, their math is absurd - 10% of the population being male is far more than necessary to maintain functional breeding and genetic diversity under the conditions they are describing.
Considering that a man can produce enough genetic material to impregnate easily 100 women per day (with proper application of modern medical technology), and that a sustained population would require each woman to produce only a single offspring over an assumed generational cycle of 25 years, then you would need:
25 years 365 days per year 100 women per day = 912 500 women per man. A ratio of about one-to-one-million would be sustainable. Suppose "to be safe" you want 10 times more men than that, it's still a population need of about 0.001% males.
As for genetic diversity, this represents (with current population) about 35 000 men (for 3.5 billion women), which is more than enough to ensure adequate genetic diversity if the men are selected randomly. | These people are ridiculous, and their poor math skills are one of many reasons to make fun of them. |
throwaway438712sdfjh | a few months ago, i got a letter in the mail from an insurance company saying that i was in an auto accident in a nearby city, which was false. the letter was addressed to a made up first name with the same first initial, and my last name (and obviously to my exact address). i emailed the agent at the insurance company, and cc'd the insurance fraud division in my state. the fraud division never replied to this or any further emails.
i eventually heard back from the insurance agent, and she asked for me to scan and email back the letters that SHE had sent me (!). then the DMV sends me a letter saying that my license was about to be suspended because i was not responding to this accident report. well, not me exactly, but the fake me. i replied to the agent with the info, and shortly after, she replied with this:
> Hello,
Thank you for sending copies of the letters sent to you. We have checked our file and these letters were intended for a XYZ who was a driver involved in an accident with our insured. He provided this address (the ones on the letter) to our policy holder at the time of the accident. You may disregard these letters and we will update our claim file to reflect the address we have is incorrect.
Should you have any other questions, please contact us at the number below.
i then replied to the dmv and sent them the whole stack of correspondence, saying they had the wrong person, and i was suspecting possible identity / insurance fraud. the dmv sent back a letter in typical bureaucratic fashion, saying they would check their records to make sure they had the right info, and they would contact the other party, and mentioned nothing about the fraud or identity theft. shortly after, they sent another letter saying the party didn't respond, so this thing was off "my" record... for now.
here comes the good part: i get a letter from the dmv saying "my" vehicle was not registered, and it included the offending car's license plate, and the DRIVER'S LICENSE NUMBER. i was able to look up the plate, after discovering the smog check lookup in this [thread](
so, what's is going on here??
tl;dr got a false accident charge to my address and a fake name similar to mine, string of emails leads to dismissal, but now i have the car and license info of this "fake me" | a few months ago, i got a letter in the mail from an insurance company saying that i was in an auto accident in a nearby city, which was false. the letter was addressed to a made up first name with the same first initial, and my last name (and obviously to my exact address). i emailed the agent at the insurance company, and cc'd the insurance fraud division in my state. the fraud division never replied to this or any further emails.
i eventually heard back from the insurance agent, and she asked for me to scan and email back the letters that SHE had sent me (!). then the DMV sends me a letter saying that my license was about to be suspended because i was not responding to this accident report. well, not me exactly, but the fake me. i replied to the agent with the info, and shortly after, she replied with this:
> Hello,
Thank you for sending copies of the letters sent to you. We have checked our file and these letters were intended for a XYZ who was a driver involved in an accident with our insured. He provided this address (the ones on the letter) to our policy holder at the time of the accident. You may disregard these letters and we will update our claim file to reflect the address we have is incorrect.
Should you have any other questions, please contact us at the number below.
i then replied to the dmv and sent them the whole stack of correspondence, saying they had the wrong person, and i was suspecting possible identity / insurance fraud. the dmv sent back a letter in typical bureaucratic fashion, saying they would check their records to make sure they had the right info, and they would contact the other party, and mentioned nothing about the fraud or identity theft. shortly after, they sent another letter saying the party didn't respond, so this thing was off "my" record... for now.
here comes the good part: i get a letter from the dmv saying "my" vehicle was not registered, and it included the offending car's license plate, and the DRIVER'S LICENSE NUMBER. i was able to look up the plate, after discovering the smog check lookup in this [thread](
so, what's is going on here??
tl;dr got a false accident charge to my address and a fake name similar to mine, string of emails leads to dismissal, but now i have the car and license info of this "fake me"
| AskReddit | t5_2qh1i | t3_u9ypj | a few months ago, i got a letter in the mail from an insurance company saying that i was in an auto accident in a nearby city, which was false. the letter was addressed to a made up first name with the same first initial, and my last name (and obviously to my exact address). i emailed the agent at the insurance company, and cc'd the insurance fraud division in my state. the fraud division never replied to this or any further emails.
i eventually heard back from the insurance agent, and she asked for me to scan and email back the letters that SHE had sent me (!). then the DMV sends me a letter saying that my license was about to be suspended because i was not responding to this accident report. well, not me exactly, but the fake me. i replied to the agent with the info, and shortly after, she replied with this:
> Hello,
Thank you for sending copies of the letters sent to you. We have checked our file and these letters were intended for a XYZ who was a driver involved in an accident with our insured. He provided this address (the ones on the letter) to our policy holder at the time of the accident. You may disregard these letters and we will update our claim file to reflect the address we have is incorrect.
Should you have any other questions, please contact us at the number below.
i then replied to the dmv and sent them the whole stack of correspondence, saying they had the wrong person, and i was suspecting possible identity / insurance fraud. the dmv sent back a letter in typical bureaucratic fashion, saying they would check their records to make sure they had the right info, and they would contact the other party, and mentioned nothing about the fraud or identity theft. shortly after, they sent another letter saying the party didn't respond, so this thing was off "my" record... for now.
here comes the good part: i get a letter from the dmv saying "my" vehicle was not registered, and it included the offending car's license plate, and the DRIVER'S LICENSE NUMBER. i was able to look up the plate, after discovering the smog check lookup in this [thread](
so, what's is going on here?? | got a false accident charge to my address and a fake name similar to mine, string of emails leads to dismissal, but now i have the car and license info of this "fake me" |
Zeppelanoid | Yes - but by catching the baby, we're enabling the gypsies' actions. They are going to do this over and over again. It's a lose-lose situation.
TL;DR I wish I could somehow save the baby and simultaneously beat the baby-throwers so bad they dissolved instantly. | Yes - but by catching the baby, we're enabling the gypsies' actions. They are going to do this over and over again. It's a lose-lose situation.
TL;DR I wish I could somehow save the baby and simultaneously beat the baby-throwers so bad they dissolved instantly.
| WTF | t5_2qh61 | c35277d | Yes - but by catching the baby, we're enabling the gypsies' actions. They are going to do this over and over again. It's a lose-lose situation. | I wish I could somehow save the baby and simultaneously beat the baby-throwers so bad they dissolved instantly. |
Relthrowaway561 | I can't meet her parents because of my lack of spirituality. In fact, she hasn't told them about me for fear of what they'll do, but they're not stupid so they have to know that she's dating someone. What really sucks is that our relationship is fantastic otherwise; she's far and away the best girl I've ever dated and this is our only major roadblock. Every time I bring it up she tells me that she "needs more time" to soften them up, but so far the best she's gotten is that they'll only acknowledge a relationship with a non-Muslim if it leads to marriage (which, of course, it can't if I can't meet or even reveal myself to them). I've met her sister and cousins who are all very accepting, but to me it's impossible to really progress a relationship to its fullest stages if you can't be a part of the other person's immediate family too. I just don't want to put my girlfriend in a situation where at some point she'll have to choose between me or her family.
Has anyone else ever been in a similar situation? How did it turn out?
tl;dr: Title says it all. | I can't meet her parents because of my lack of spirituality. In fact, she hasn't told them about me for fear of what they'll do, but they're not stupid so they have to know that she's dating someone. What really sucks is that our relationship is fantastic otherwise; she's far and away the best girl I've ever dated and this is our only major roadblock. Every time I bring it up she tells me that she "needs more time" to soften them up, but so far the best she's gotten is that they'll only acknowledge a relationship with a non-Muslim if it leads to marriage (which, of course, it can't if I can't meet or even reveal myself to them). I've met her sister and cousins who are all very accepting, but to me it's impossible to really progress a relationship to its fullest stages if you can't be a part of the other person's immediate family too. I just don't want to put my girlfriend in a situation where at some point she'll have to choose between me or her family.
Has anyone else ever been in a similar situation? How did it turn out?
tl;dr: Title says it all.
| relationships | t5_2qjvn | t3_4t5v1y | I can't meet her parents because of my lack of spirituality. In fact, she hasn't told them about me for fear of what they'll do, but they're not stupid so they have to know that she's dating someone. What really sucks is that our relationship is fantastic otherwise; she's far and away the best girl I've ever dated and this is our only major roadblock. Every time I bring it up she tells me that she "needs more time" to soften them up, but so far the best she's gotten is that they'll only acknowledge a relationship with a non-Muslim if it leads to marriage (which, of course, it can't if I can't meet or even reveal myself to them). I've met her sister and cousins who are all very accepting, but to me it's impossible to really progress a relationship to its fullest stages if you can't be a part of the other person's immediate family too. I just don't want to put my girlfriend in a situation where at some point she'll have to choose between me or her family.
Has anyone else ever been in a similar situation? How did it turn out? | Title says it all. |
throwawaytooclose | I love this girl madly. I can't imagine another woman in the world as magnificent as she is, nor can I ever hope to love someone as much as I love her. She loves me and there are no sexual issues, no serious emotional issues, no arguments over anything. We get along like the oldest friends in the world.
We've been in a happy relationship for about 3 and a half years, went through an incredibly difficult and trying graduate school, moved, live together, and began our careers. We still live together and we're pretty isolated from our school friends now.
Now, she is getting concerned that she isn't fulfilling her life's goals and she feels unhappy. Her happiness is tied to long unfulfilled ambitions unrelated to the career she's chosen. I left town for a conference and when I returned, she was totally different. She seemed almost resentful, essentially a full 180 from before I left. She had started talking to a friend of a friend of a friend online and, soon after, could not be separated from her phone. I suspect a bit of an emotional attachment to this guy, who lives across the country and she's never met. I think together her choice to talk to him and his desire to manipulate her to his own ends are poisoning our relationship. I confronted her about it, she shared everything, we talked, and resolved that it would end and that we to continue building a future together. This was just a few days ago.
Cut to today, when we had plans but she backed out on them. She was distant even as of last night. She was distant this morning. She doesn't say I love you. My heart and soul belong to this girl and I can't fathom not spending the rest of our lives together. I feel like our relationship is heading towards the rocks. A friend told me she was thinking about ending it because she's uncertain about her life. I think she's taking it out on me and our relationship because that's how she reacts to uncomfortable situations.
What should I do Reddit? I feel like she's on the verge of leaving me an eviscerated wreck and there's no hope, nothing I can do. How can I save this from what I feel is the end of everything we've planned? Is there anything I can do to prevent this?
TLDR; Love of my life started flirting with some guy, became drastically unhappy, decided everything about her life, her career was wrong, and is now considering jumping ship. How do I prevent being destroyed? | I love this girl madly. I can't imagine another woman in the world as magnificent as she is, nor can I ever hope to love someone as much as I love her. She loves me and there are no sexual issues, no serious emotional issues, no arguments over anything. We get along like the oldest friends in the world.
We've been in a happy relationship for about 3 and a half years, went through an incredibly difficult and trying graduate school, moved, live together, and began our careers. We still live together and we're pretty isolated from our school friends now.
Now, she is getting concerned that she isn't fulfilling her life's goals and she feels unhappy. Her happiness is tied to long unfulfilled ambitions unrelated to the career she's chosen. I left town for a conference and when I returned, she was totally different. She seemed almost resentful, essentially a full 180 from before I left. She had started talking to a friend of a friend of a friend online and, soon after, could not be separated from her phone. I suspect a bit of an emotional attachment to this guy, who lives across the country and she's never met. I think together her choice to talk to him and his desire to manipulate her to his own ends are poisoning our relationship. I confronted her about it, she shared everything, we talked, and resolved that it would end and that we to continue building a future together. This was just a few days ago.
Cut to today, when we had plans but she backed out on them. She was distant even as of last night. She was distant this morning. She doesn't say I love you. My heart and soul belong to this girl and I can't fathom not spending the rest of our lives together. I feel like our relationship is heading towards the rocks. A friend told me she was thinking about ending it because she's uncertain about her life. I think she's taking it out on me and our relationship because that's how she reacts to uncomfortable situations.
What should I do Reddit? I feel like she's on the verge of leaving me an eviscerated wreck and there's no hope, nothing I can do. How can I save this from what I feel is the end of everything we've planned? Is there anything I can do to prevent this?
TLDR; Love of my life started flirting with some guy, became drastically unhappy, decided everything about her life, her career was wrong, and is now considering jumping ship. How do I prevent being destroyed?
| relationships | t5_2qjvn | t3_1j5d7y | I love this girl madly. I can't imagine another woman in the world as magnificent as she is, nor can I ever hope to love someone as much as I love her. She loves me and there are no sexual issues, no serious emotional issues, no arguments over anything. We get along like the oldest friends in the world.
We've been in a happy relationship for about 3 and a half years, went through an incredibly difficult and trying graduate school, moved, live together, and began our careers. We still live together and we're pretty isolated from our school friends now.
Now, she is getting concerned that she isn't fulfilling her life's goals and she feels unhappy. Her happiness is tied to long unfulfilled ambitions unrelated to the career she's chosen. I left town for a conference and when I returned, she was totally different. She seemed almost resentful, essentially a full 180 from before I left. She had started talking to a friend of a friend of a friend online and, soon after, could not be separated from her phone. I suspect a bit of an emotional attachment to this guy, who lives across the country and she's never met. I think together her choice to talk to him and his desire to manipulate her to his own ends are poisoning our relationship. I confronted her about it, she shared everything, we talked, and resolved that it would end and that we to continue building a future together. This was just a few days ago.
Cut to today, when we had plans but she backed out on them. She was distant even as of last night. She was distant this morning. She doesn't say I love you. My heart and soul belong to this girl and I can't fathom not spending the rest of our lives together. I feel like our relationship is heading towards the rocks. A friend told me she was thinking about ending it because she's uncertain about her life. I think she's taking it out on me and our relationship because that's how she reacts to uncomfortable situations.
What should I do Reddit? I feel like she's on the verge of leaving me an eviscerated wreck and there's no hope, nothing I can do. How can I save this from what I feel is the end of everything we've planned? Is there anything I can do to prevent this? | Love of my life started flirting with some guy, became drastically unhappy, decided everything about her life, her career was wrong, and is now considering jumping ship. How do I prevent being destroyed? |
paulwal | <**Facepalm**>
**a)** Stop worrying about, pressuring for, or *talking* about an 'official' label or title. This chick is your girlfriend.
**b)** The reason she wants to have sex with you is not so she can kill herself. You are both being dramatic.
**c)** Don't plan the sex. The weather is awesome. Take her swimming or exploring in the woods or something FUN. Spend the afternoon together. Get a bottle of wine later on. When you are both feeling it, whether in the woods or later that night or whenever, **put your penis in this woman**.
Do not stop for some dramatic, depressing conversation about suicide. Don't even think about her killing herself. In fact, just think about how fucking awesome life is and she'll follow your lead.
TL;DR - Your penis in her. Make it happen. | < Facepalm >
a) Stop worrying about, pressuring for, or talking about an 'official' label or title. This chick is your girlfriend.
b) The reason she wants to have sex with you is not so she can kill herself. You are both being dramatic.
c) Don't plan the sex. The weather is awesome. Take her swimming or exploring in the woods or something FUN. Spend the afternoon together. Get a bottle of wine later on. When you are both feeling it, whether in the woods or later that night or whenever, put your penis in this woman .
Do not stop for some dramatic, depressing conversation about suicide. Don't even think about her killing herself. In fact, just think about how fucking awesome life is and she'll follow your lead.
TL;DR - Your penis in her. Make it happen.
| relationship_advice | t5_2r0cn | c4e9mzn | Facepalm >
a) Stop worrying about, pressuring for, or talking about an 'official' label or title. This chick is your girlfriend.
b) The reason she wants to have sex with you is not so she can kill herself. You are both being dramatic.
c) Don't plan the sex. The weather is awesome. Take her swimming or exploring in the woods or something FUN. Spend the afternoon together. Get a bottle of wine later on. When you are both feeling it, whether in the woods or later that night or whenever, put your penis in this woman .
Do not stop for some dramatic, depressing conversation about suicide. Don't even think about her killing herself. In fact, just think about how fucking awesome life is and she'll follow your lead. | Your penis in her. Make it happen. |
likeafuckingninja | I live in constant paranoia that my friends will leave me behind (despite havign it proven on many occasions they will not) because of the behaviour of the 'popular' kids when i was in highschool.
the worst was when i was about 14, one of the boys in my class who had been a total twat towards me since i was about 7 spent an entire lesson asking me out.
my already heightened sense of paranoia and mistrust had me ignore him and repeatedly refuse.
In the end it got so annoying i made the fatal mistake
'if i say yes will you shut up'
he agreed, i agreed.
sure enough two seconds later he shouts to the whole class
'haha you're dumped, like i'd ever go out with someone like you'
him and the rest of the class spent the next half an hour having a good fucking laugh at my expense, and it was brought up frequently for a good few months after that.
TL;DR logic doesn't work on 14 yr old boys and teenagers will mock you for something you haven't even done and isn't even that funny. | I live in constant paranoia that my friends will leave me behind (despite havign it proven on many occasions they will not) because of the behaviour of the 'popular' kids when i was in highschool.
the worst was when i was about 14, one of the boys in my class who had been a total twat towards me since i was about 7 spent an entire lesson asking me out.
my already heightened sense of paranoia and mistrust had me ignore him and repeatedly refuse.
In the end it got so annoying i made the fatal mistake
'if i say yes will you shut up'
he agreed, i agreed.
sure enough two seconds later he shouts to the whole class
'haha you're dumped, like i'd ever go out with someone like you'
him and the rest of the class spent the next half an hour having a good fucking laugh at my expense, and it was brought up frequently for a good few months after that.
TL;DR logic doesn't work on 14 yr old boys and teenagers will mock you for something you haven't even done and isn't even that funny.
| AskReddit | t5_2qh1i | c5i27r0 | I live in constant paranoia that my friends will leave me behind (despite havign it proven on many occasions they will not) because of the behaviour of the 'popular' kids when i was in highschool.
the worst was when i was about 14, one of the boys in my class who had been a total twat towards me since i was about 7 spent an entire lesson asking me out.
my already heightened sense of paranoia and mistrust had me ignore him and repeatedly refuse.
In the end it got so annoying i made the fatal mistake
'if i say yes will you shut up'
he agreed, i agreed.
sure enough two seconds later he shouts to the whole class
'haha you're dumped, like i'd ever go out with someone like you'
him and the rest of the class spent the next half an hour having a good fucking laugh at my expense, and it was brought up frequently for a good few months after that. | logic doesn't work on 14 yr old boys and teenagers will mock you for something you haven't even done and isn't even that funny. |
f14tomcat | My buddy, when setting up a wireless router, was asking me why he couldn't connect. I kept telling him to restart his laptop and he didn't listen but told me he had. After ten minutes of me trying to figure out what the problem was and failing I gave up. He texted me later saying he restarted his computer and it worked fine.
tl:dr restart your device | My buddy, when setting up a wireless router, was asking me why he couldn't connect. I kept telling him to restart his laptop and he didn't listen but told me he had. After ten minutes of me trying to figure out what the problem was and failing I gave up. He texted me later saying he restarted his computer and it worked fine.
tl:dr restart your device
| AskReddit | t5_2qh1i | c95207m | My buddy, when setting up a wireless router, was asking me why he couldn't connect. I kept telling him to restart his laptop and he didn't listen but told me he had. After ten minutes of me trying to figure out what the problem was and failing I gave up. He texted me later saying he restarted his computer and it worked fine. | restart your device |
trs802013 | I understand that there is a process to create nano particles that involves some work / energy input such as that found in flame spray pyrolysis. But is it that energy / cost intensive that it would increase the price 3 to 10 times that of raw silver?
For clarification, I state the following:
The current price of silver as of this writing 2014.09.26 is approximately $560 / kg (as per I understand that the market spot price of Ag is not the final price a manufacturer will assume when buying raw Ag.
Prices for silver NP vary depending on quantity / quality from as low as approximately $800 / kg ( to as much as $2500 - $4000 per kg (
TL;DR; Why is Ag nano particles 3x to 10x more expensive than the raw price of Ag by weight. | I understand that there is a process to create nano particles that involves some work / energy input such as that found in flame spray pyrolysis. But is it that energy / cost intensive that it would increase the price 3 to 10 times that of raw silver?
For clarification, I state the following:
The current price of silver as of this writing 2014.09.26 is approximately $560 / kg (as per I understand that the market spot price of Ag is not the final price a manufacturer will assume when buying raw Ag.
Prices for silver NP vary depending on quantity / quality from as low as approximately $800 / kg ( to as much as $2500 - $4000 per kg (
TL;DR; Why is Ag nano particles 3x to 10x more expensive than the raw price of Ag by weight.
| askscience | t5_2qm4e | t3_2hirpz | I understand that there is a process to create nano particles that involves some work / energy input such as that found in flame spray pyrolysis. But is it that energy / cost intensive that it would increase the price 3 to 10 times that of raw silver?
For clarification, I state the following:
The current price of silver as of this writing 2014.09.26 is approximately $560 / kg (as per I understand that the market spot price of Ag is not the final price a manufacturer will assume when buying raw Ag.
Prices for silver NP vary depending on quantity / quality from as low as approximately $800 / kg ( to as much as $2500 - $4000 per kg ( | Why is Ag nano particles 3x to 10x more expensive than the raw price of Ag by weight. |
brohio11 | One summer when I was in high school I worked for a moving company. We had a special job from the city to move everyone out of one set of projects and into another so renovations could be done. Lots of bad conditions in many of those homes but one definitely sticks out in my head above all the others...
We were supposed to call before arriving at each house so the residents knew we were coming. We could not reach this one guy and finally just decided to show up. He answers the door and his girlfriend is sitting on the couch right behind him smoking a crack pipe. She sees us and quickly leaves the room. The guy just stares at us. Eventually one of the guys on my team explains what we were there to do and we get to work. It was weird but not our first encounter with walking in on drug use so we just let it go. The living room had the nicest furniture we had seen in any of the houses so far...massive leather couches, a huge tv, etc. We ask what was upstairs. He says his room's the first door and his kids rooms are at the end of the hall. We go in his room and its as loaded as the living room was...another big ass tv, a sweet bed, everything. Then we go down the hall. There are 2 rooms for 3 kids...absolutely no fucking furniture in either room. They slept on some blankets on the floor and everything else was just bare. When we walked in all the children were sitting on the floor doing nothing and would not speak to us. It was thoroughly depressing and still gives me the chills to this day...
Note: we did the move as we were told and then let our boss know about the place afterwards. He said he would talk to the city about it and that's the last I heard. I hope those kids ended up in a better situation.
TL;DR - Moved a guy out of his house in the projects. Caught him smoking crack in his decked out living room only to find his 3 kids slept on the floor upstairs. | One summer when I was in high school I worked for a moving company. We had a special job from the city to move everyone out of one set of projects and into another so renovations could be done. Lots of bad conditions in many of those homes but one definitely sticks out in my head above all the others...
We were supposed to call before arriving at each house so the residents knew we were coming. We could not reach this one guy and finally just decided to show up. He answers the door and his girlfriend is sitting on the couch right behind him smoking a crack pipe. She sees us and quickly leaves the room. The guy just stares at us. Eventually one of the guys on my team explains what we were there to do and we get to work. It was weird but not our first encounter with walking in on drug use so we just let it go. The living room had the nicest furniture we had seen in any of the houses so far...massive leather couches, a huge tv, etc. We ask what was upstairs. He says his room's the first door and his kids rooms are at the end of the hall. We go in his room and its as loaded as the living room was...another big ass tv, a sweet bed, everything. Then we go down the hall. There are 2 rooms for 3 kids...absolutely no fucking furniture in either room. They slept on some blankets on the floor and everything else was just bare. When we walked in all the children were sitting on the floor doing nothing and would not speak to us. It was thoroughly depressing and still gives me the chills to this day...
Note: we did the move as we were told and then let our boss know about the place afterwards. He said he would talk to the city about it and that's the last I heard. I hope those kids ended up in a better situation.
TL;DR - Moved a guy out of his house in the projects. Caught him smoking crack in his decked out living room only to find his 3 kids slept on the floor upstairs.
| AskReddit | t5_2qh1i | cfnygke | One summer when I was in high school I worked for a moving company. We had a special job from the city to move everyone out of one set of projects and into another so renovations could be done. Lots of bad conditions in many of those homes but one definitely sticks out in my head above all the others...
We were supposed to call before arriving at each house so the residents knew we were coming. We could not reach this one guy and finally just decided to show up. He answers the door and his girlfriend is sitting on the couch right behind him smoking a crack pipe. She sees us and quickly leaves the room. The guy just stares at us. Eventually one of the guys on my team explains what we were there to do and we get to work. It was weird but not our first encounter with walking in on drug use so we just let it go. The living room had the nicest furniture we had seen in any of the houses so far...massive leather couches, a huge tv, etc. We ask what was upstairs. He says his room's the first door and his kids rooms are at the end of the hall. We go in his room and its as loaded as the living room was...another big ass tv, a sweet bed, everything. Then we go down the hall. There are 2 rooms for 3 kids...absolutely no fucking furniture in either room. They slept on some blankets on the floor and everything else was just bare. When we walked in all the children were sitting on the floor doing nothing and would not speak to us. It was thoroughly depressing and still gives me the chills to this day...
Note: we did the move as we were told and then let our boss know about the place afterwards. He said he would talk to the city about it and that's the last I heard. I hope those kids ended up in a better situation. | Moved a guy out of his house in the projects. Caught him smoking crack in his decked out living room only to find his 3 kids slept on the floor upstairs. |
throw-away25 | Hey y'all. So I am currently borrowing an Avatar 4x10 and a GK Backline 600 head from a friend indefinitely, however I would ideally like to have a setup of my own.
I currently play in an incredibly heavy-yet melodic- band that drop tunes down to A. However ideally I would like something versatile as I generally like to play alternative rock/ indie at times.
As far as the cabinet goes, does the brand really matter since most of them are using the same drivers? Be it Neo, "custom" eminence speakers, etc. I feel like most cabs are almost identical in tone and anything 4x10/6x10 is preferred. 4x10 is definitely loud enough, but the 6x10 being a bit taller makes it easier to transport.
As far as heads go, I'm in somewhat of a dilemma. I'm currently using a Darkglass B7K and love the tone. Would pairing it with a power amp be enough? When I run it through GK head and bypass the preamp it sounds thin with just the Darkglass preamp.
Ideally, one of those mini heads/ or a solid state head would be great, and or something ~500w or more.
TL,DR: Rock/ Metal bassist. Drop tunings (A). 4x10 or 6x10 cabinet recommendations. Mini amp head recommendations, or just preamp + Darkglass B7k. | Hey y'all. So I am currently borrowing an Avatar 4x10 and a GK Backline 600 head from a friend indefinitely, however I would ideally like to have a setup of my own.
I currently play in an incredibly heavy-yet melodic- band that drop tunes down to A. However ideally I would like something versatile as I generally like to play alternative rock/ indie at times.
As far as the cabinet goes, does the brand really matter since most of them are using the same drivers? Be it Neo, "custom" eminence speakers, etc. I feel like most cabs are almost identical in tone and anything 4x10/6x10 is preferred. 4x10 is definitely loud enough, but the 6x10 being a bit taller makes it easier to transport.
As far as heads go, I'm in somewhat of a dilemma. I'm currently using a Darkglass B7K and love the tone. Would pairing it with a power amp be enough? When I run it through GK head and bypass the preamp it sounds thin with just the Darkglass preamp.
Ideally, one of those mini heads/ or a solid state head would be great, and or something ~500w or more.
TL,DR: Rock/ Metal bassist. Drop tunings (A). 4x10 or 6x10 cabinet recommendations. Mini amp head recommendations, or just preamp + Darkglass B7k.
| Bass | t5_2qpc3 | t3_552d8s | Hey y'all. So I am currently borrowing an Avatar 4x10 and a GK Backline 600 head from a friend indefinitely, however I would ideally like to have a setup of my own.
I currently play in an incredibly heavy-yet melodic- band that drop tunes down to A. However ideally I would like something versatile as I generally like to play alternative rock/ indie at times.
As far as the cabinet goes, does the brand really matter since most of them are using the same drivers? Be it Neo, "custom" eminence speakers, etc. I feel like most cabs are almost identical in tone and anything 4x10/6x10 is preferred. 4x10 is definitely loud enough, but the 6x10 being a bit taller makes it easier to transport.
As far as heads go, I'm in somewhat of a dilemma. I'm currently using a Darkglass B7K and love the tone. Would pairing it with a power amp be enough? When I run it through GK head and bypass the preamp it sounds thin with just the Darkglass preamp.
Ideally, one of those mini heads/ or a solid state head would be great, and or something ~500w or more. | Rock/ Metal bassist. Drop tunings (A). 4x10 or 6x10 cabinet recommendations. Mini amp head recommendations, or just preamp + Darkglass B7k. |
[deleted] | My ex [21F] and I broke up a year ago. We dated for almost 4 years and she was manipulative, borderline uncaring, and cheated on me, which ended the relationship. I lost my virginity to her, which I regret. I have no idea why we stayed together. There was this deep attraction to each despite how terrible we were as a couple. I don't understand.
Fast forward to today. I've been dating my new girlfriend for about 7 months and I have never been happier. She's everything I could ever have hoped for. She's beautiful and funny and we completely click. I'm madly in love and unless something drastically changes for either of us, I could see us getting married somewhere down the road.
So my question is why the hell do I still think about my ex all the time. We broke up a long time ago and the relationship I'm in now is better in every way possible. I have absolutely no regrets breaking up with my ex. It's one of the best decisions I've ever made. I suppose I should also put in here that we tried staying in touch for a little while, but that we haven't spoken in several months. When I think about her all I think is stuff like "I hope she realizes what she let go." Crap like that. I don't get it.
TL;DR: Got out of a crappy 4 year relationship last year, in a new one for 7 months now and it's a million times better, but I still think about my ex all the time. Why? | My ex [21F] and I broke up a year ago. We dated for almost 4 years and she was manipulative, borderline uncaring, and cheated on me, which ended the relationship. I lost my virginity to her, which I regret. I have no idea why we stayed together. There was this deep attraction to each despite how terrible we were as a couple. I don't understand.
Fast forward to today. I've been dating my new girlfriend for about 7 months and I have never been happier. She's everything I could ever have hoped for. She's beautiful and funny and we completely click. I'm madly in love and unless something drastically changes for either of us, I could see us getting married somewhere down the road.
So my question is why the hell do I still think about my ex all the time. We broke up a long time ago and the relationship I'm in now is better in every way possible. I have absolutely no regrets breaking up with my ex. It's one of the best decisions I've ever made. I suppose I should also put in here that we tried staying in touch for a little while, but that we haven't spoken in several months. When I think about her all I think is stuff like "I hope she realizes what she let go." Crap like that. I don't get it.
TL;DR: Got out of a crappy 4 year relationship last year, in a new one for 7 months now and it's a million times better, but I still think about my ex all the time. Why?
| relationships | t5_2qjvn | t3_17t5lz | My ex [21F] and I broke up a year ago. We dated for almost 4 years and she was manipulative, borderline uncaring, and cheated on me, which ended the relationship. I lost my virginity to her, which I regret. I have no idea why we stayed together. There was this deep attraction to each despite how terrible we were as a couple. I don't understand.
Fast forward to today. I've been dating my new girlfriend for about 7 months and I have never been happier. She's everything I could ever have hoped for. She's beautiful and funny and we completely click. I'm madly in love and unless something drastically changes for either of us, I could see us getting married somewhere down the road.
So my question is why the hell do I still think about my ex all the time. We broke up a long time ago and the relationship I'm in now is better in every way possible. I have absolutely no regrets breaking up with my ex. It's one of the best decisions I've ever made. I suppose I should also put in here that we tried staying in touch for a little while, but that we haven't spoken in several months. When I think about her all I think is stuff like "I hope she realizes what she let go." Crap like that. I don't get it. | Got out of a crappy 4 year relationship last year, in a new one for 7 months now and it's a million times better, but I still think about my ex all the time. Why? |
Wooden_hampster | That most people are in the relationship for personal gains and that people run from good things.
First gf was fucking awesome. Up until she dropped me. Went from hanging out everyday and being madly in love to two text conversations and ultimately her pulling all the way out of my life.
A few of the reasons she did this was because she had (self-diagnosed) chronic stress and when we got 'intimate' she would feel sick (is this a symptom?) Also because I didn't have a job and was unsure I would ever get one..we were fucking sophomores, you can't expect me to have my life planned out ahead of me Lauren!
TLDR: she's a cunt. | That most people are in the relationship for personal gains and that people run from good things.
First gf was fucking awesome. Up until she dropped me. Went from hanging out everyday and being madly in love to two text conversations and ultimately her pulling all the way out of my life.
A few of the reasons she did this was because she had (self-diagnosed) chronic stress and when we got 'intimate' she would feel sick (is this a symptom?) Also because I didn't have a job and was unsure I would ever get one..we were fucking sophomores, you can't expect me to have my life planned out ahead of me Lauren!
TLDR: she's a cunt.
| AskReddit | t5_2qh1i | cn1h1g8 | That most people are in the relationship for personal gains and that people run from good things.
First gf was fucking awesome. Up until she dropped me. Went from hanging out everyday and being madly in love to two text conversations and ultimately her pulling all the way out of my life.
A few of the reasons she did this was because she had (self-diagnosed) chronic stress and when we got 'intimate' she would feel sick (is this a symptom?) Also because I didn't have a job and was unsure I would ever get one..we were fucking sophomores, you can't expect me to have my life planned out ahead of me Lauren! | she's a cunt. |
Babboon7 | I have black widows all over my backyard. I let the ones in the trees live but once they start making webs near the ground I torch them. This way I know they wont harm my doggies.
tl;dr I kill black widows with a flamethrower. | I have black widows all over my backyard. I let the ones in the trees live but once they start making webs near the ground I torch them. This way I know they wont harm my doggies.
tl;dr I kill black widows with a flamethrower.
| AskReddit | t5_2qh1i | c2b5t6b | I have black widows all over my backyard. I let the ones in the trees live but once they start making webs near the ground I torch them. This way I know they wont harm my doggies. | I kill black widows with a flamethrower. |
[deleted] | I've been dating my boyfriend for two years, Andrew. Before me, he dated a girl for six years, Alexa Smith. They are from the same small town and started dating in high school. Both his and her family all lives in that town.
I don't know much about her from him. He doesn't talk about her unless I directly ask, and I haven't much asked. He's never even mentioned her name to me. However, before we were even official, I happened to come across her Facebook accidentally and I browed it out of curiosity. I realized it was her based on pictures and statuses. I am 100% positive it is her.
She has her family listed on Facebook. I trust that all of it is right and she doesn't have friends listed as relatives or anything because they all look alike and there are plenty of family pictures. Her mother's name is Nancy King Miller. Alexa has her own last name, Smith, so I assume Nancy has been divorced.
The thing is, King is Andrew's mom's maiden name. It's not a terribly common name, but also not terribly uncommon. It's unique enough that if you knew two people in the same town with that last name, you might assume they were related, but wouldn't be surprised if they weren't. I assumed I was being stupid and let it go.
A few months ago we were at his church in his hometown. I realized there was a man with the last name King. I asked if he was related to his mom. Andrew said yes, they are cousins.
About a week ago we ran into a woman Andrew knew. He introduced me and she said her name was Penny Burns. They chatted for a while and when we walked away I asked how he knew her. He said she was his ex's aunt. Later, I saw she liked one of his statuses. I thought it was a little weird that they were still friends on Facebook, since he broke up with Alexa almost three years ago now. I clicked on her page and noticed she is Penny King Burns. Her maiden name is the same as Andrew and Alexa's mom's maiden names. I also noticed that a man she has listed as her cousin is the man from Andrew's church, the one Andrew said is his mom's cousin. If that is the case, then Andrew's mom and Alexa's mom are cousins.
I shook it off until last night. Andrew jokingly said "What about it, cuz?" I said "I hope you're not my cousin." Andrew went into one of those joking "what if" scenarios. I laughed and made a face. Then he said "what if it was a far off cousin, like second." I said "That's not too far off" and he rolled his eyes and said "That's the joke." Then he said "What if our moms were cousins?" I said "Are you trying to tell me something?" He just laughed and said no and that was that.
After that I just kind of felt sick. I know it's not that big of a deal, I guess, but I just want to know. It doesn't affect me at all, I know. He's done with her, we're not related, that should be that. But it just keeps eating at me. Did my boyfriend date his not-really-that-distant relative before me? For six years??
I'm torn between asking him about it because 1) I don't know if I want to know 2) I don't want him knowing I'm going through her/her (his?) relatives' Facebooks.
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TL;DR My boyfriend's mom and his ex's mom have the same maiden name. Due to Facebook listings and a few known relatives, I'm pretty sure their moms are cousins. Should I just forget about it? Ask him about it? Do something else about it? How do I deal with this? | I've been dating my boyfriend for two years, Andrew. Before me, he dated a girl for six years, Alexa Smith. They are from the same small town and started dating in high school. Both his and her family all lives in that town.
I don't know much about her from him. He doesn't talk about her unless I directly ask, and I haven't much asked. He's never even mentioned her name to me. However, before we were even official, I happened to come across her Facebook accidentally and I browed it out of curiosity. I realized it was her based on pictures and statuses. I am 100% positive it is her.
She has her family listed on Facebook. I trust that all of it is right and she doesn't have friends listed as relatives or anything because they all look alike and there are plenty of family pictures. Her mother's name is Nancy King Miller. Alexa has her own last name, Smith, so I assume Nancy has been divorced.
The thing is, King is Andrew's mom's maiden name. It's not a terribly common name, but also not terribly uncommon. It's unique enough that if you knew two people in the same town with that last name, you might assume they were related, but wouldn't be surprised if they weren't. I assumed I was being stupid and let it go.
A few months ago we were at his church in his hometown. I realized there was a man with the last name King. I asked if he was related to his mom. Andrew said yes, they are cousins.
About a week ago we ran into a woman Andrew knew. He introduced me and she said her name was Penny Burns. They chatted for a while and when we walked away I asked how he knew her. He said she was his ex's aunt. Later, I saw she liked one of his statuses. I thought it was a little weird that they were still friends on Facebook, since he broke up with Alexa almost three years ago now. I clicked on her page and noticed she is Penny King Burns. Her maiden name is the same as Andrew and Alexa's mom's maiden names. I also noticed that a man she has listed as her cousin is the man from Andrew's church, the one Andrew said is his mom's cousin. If that is the case, then Andrew's mom and Alexa's mom are cousins.
I shook it off until last night. Andrew jokingly said "What about it, cuz?" I said "I hope you're not my cousin." Andrew went into one of those joking "what if" scenarios. I laughed and made a face. Then he said "what if it was a far off cousin, like second." I said "That's not too far off" and he rolled his eyes and said "That's the joke." Then he said "What if our moms were cousins?" I said "Are you trying to tell me something?" He just laughed and said no and that was that.
After that I just kind of felt sick. I know it's not that big of a deal, I guess, but I just want to know. It doesn't affect me at all, I know. He's done with her, we're not related, that should be that. But it just keeps eating at me. Did my boyfriend date his not-really-that-distant relative before me? For six years??
I'm torn between asking him about it because 1) I don't know if I want to know 2) I don't want him knowing I'm going through her/her (his?) relatives' Facebooks.
TL;DR My boyfriend's mom and his ex's mom have the same maiden name. Due to Facebook listings and a few known relatives, I'm pretty sure their moms are cousins. Should I just forget about it? Ask him about it? Do something else about it? How do I deal with this?
| relationships | t5_2qjvn | t3_2r8gzf | I've been dating my boyfriend for two years, Andrew. Before me, he dated a girl for six years, Alexa Smith. They are from the same small town and started dating in high school. Both his and her family all lives in that town.
I don't know much about her from him. He doesn't talk about her unless I directly ask, and I haven't much asked. He's never even mentioned her name to me. However, before we were even official, I happened to come across her Facebook accidentally and I browed it out of curiosity. I realized it was her based on pictures and statuses. I am 100% positive it is her.
She has her family listed on Facebook. I trust that all of it is right and she doesn't have friends listed as relatives or anything because they all look alike and there are plenty of family pictures. Her mother's name is Nancy King Miller. Alexa has her own last name, Smith, so I assume Nancy has been divorced.
The thing is, King is Andrew's mom's maiden name. It's not a terribly common name, but also not terribly uncommon. It's unique enough that if you knew two people in the same town with that last name, you might assume they were related, but wouldn't be surprised if they weren't. I assumed I was being stupid and let it go.
A few months ago we were at his church in his hometown. I realized there was a man with the last name King. I asked if he was related to his mom. Andrew said yes, they are cousins.
About a week ago we ran into a woman Andrew knew. He introduced me and she said her name was Penny Burns. They chatted for a while and when we walked away I asked how he knew her. He said she was his ex's aunt. Later, I saw she liked one of his statuses. I thought it was a little weird that they were still friends on Facebook, since he broke up with Alexa almost three years ago now. I clicked on her page and noticed she is Penny King Burns. Her maiden name is the same as Andrew and Alexa's mom's maiden names. I also noticed that a man she has listed as her cousin is the man from Andrew's church, the one Andrew said is his mom's cousin. If that is the case, then Andrew's mom and Alexa's mom are cousins.
I shook it off until last night. Andrew jokingly said "What about it, cuz?" I said "I hope you're not my cousin." Andrew went into one of those joking "what if" scenarios. I laughed and made a face. Then he said "what if it was a far off cousin, like second." I said "That's not too far off" and he rolled his eyes and said "That's the joke." Then he said "What if our moms were cousins?" I said "Are you trying to tell me something?" He just laughed and said no and that was that.
After that I just kind of felt sick. I know it's not that big of a deal, I guess, but I just want to know. It doesn't affect me at all, I know. He's done with her, we're not related, that should be that. But it just keeps eating at me. Did my boyfriend date his not-really-that-distant relative before me? For six years??
I'm torn between asking him about it because 1) I don't know if I want to know 2) I don't want him knowing I'm going through her/her (his?) relatives' Facebooks. | My boyfriend's mom and his ex's mom have the same maiden name. Due to Facebook listings and a few known relatives, I'm pretty sure their moms are cousins. Should I just forget about it? Ask him about it? Do something else about it? How do I deal with this? |
AppleSpicer | I've gotten so sick of this that I've made up some copypasta to dump every time I see that same old uninformed racism justification.
Edit: Due to popular demand here is my copypasta! I've posted several variations of the text below when people start talking race, intelligence, and IQ.
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IQ measures a type of social coherence. In the US, many of the questions rely on the test taker's prior general knowledge which ends up being things that middle class and wealthy white suburban Americans teach their children. IQ may not be an accurate test for intelligence and intellectual capability may be strongly dependent on socialization and what you were taught/encouraged to learn.
“One of the best examples of how cultural differences can make people score differently on math tests involved a question about a cul-de-sac. It had to do with two people living on cul-de-sacs and their back yards touching or something, but kids in urban areas had never heard of a cul-de-sac and had no idea what the question was asking. Statistic-wise, minorities live in urban areas, so statistically, they did worse. That was how cultural differences made them do worse on math. Even if they knew math just as well as the suburban kids, they got it wrong because there's no cul-de-sacs in the city.” Example reposted without permission from /u/illuminutcase
The fundamental intent of IQ tests are to examine the relative intelligence of localized groups, and is not at all intended to be a measure of intelligence between all test takers. It's used as an initial step in highlighting potential extreme cases of mental impairment or disability. [Here's an article by the American Psychological Association]( that states that intelligence differs across groups and cultures and that the IQ test is based on the biased, US-centric experiences and culture of the top academics of the APA.
Also, IQ tests are a debated field in psychology, and there is no standard agreed upon test. There's the Wechsler Adult Intelligence Scale for adults, the Wechsler Intelligence Scale for Children, Stanford-Binet, Woodcock-Johnson Tests of Cognitive Abilities, Kaufman Assessment Battery for Children, Cognitive Assessment System, and the Differential Ability Scales. Some of these tests don't even label their results as "Intelligence Quotient" but are included under this umbrella field of psychology.
APA again: ["A recent report of the President's Commission on Excellence in Special Education (PCESE)...suggests that the use of intelligence tests to diagnose learning disabilities should be discontinued."](
And Kaufman, one of the leading academics in the field of IQ testing, said that they are **["irrelevant to non-white subcultures".](
**TL;DR**The APA does not consider IQ tests approximations of intelligence. Leading academics consider them proven irrelevant to other cultures. IQ tests’ purpose is simply to identify extremes within comparable cultural groups.
| I've gotten so sick of this that I've made up some copypasta to dump every time I see that same old uninformed racism justification.
Edit: Due to popular demand here is my copypasta! I've posted several variations of the text below when people start talking race, intelligence, and IQ.
IQ measures a type of social coherence. In the US, many of the questions rely on the test taker's prior general knowledge which ends up being things that middle class and wealthy white suburban Americans teach their children. IQ may not be an accurate test for intelligence and intellectual capability may be strongly dependent on socialization and what you were taught/encouraged to learn.
“One of the best examples of how cultural differences can make people score differently on math tests involved a question about a cul-de-sac. It had to do with two people living on cul-de-sacs and their back yards touching or something, but kids in urban areas had never heard of a cul-de-sac and had no idea what the question was asking. Statistic-wise, minorities live in urban areas, so statistically, they did worse. That was how cultural differences made them do worse on math. Even if they knew math just as well as the suburban kids, they got it wrong because there's no cul-de-sacs in the city.” Example reposted without permission from /u/illuminutcase
The fundamental intent of IQ tests are to examine the relative intelligence of localized groups, and is not at all intended to be a measure of intelligence between all test takers. It's used as an initial step in highlighting potential extreme cases of mental impairment or disability. [Here's an article by the American Psychological Association]( that states that intelligence differs across groups and cultures and that the IQ test is based on the biased, US-centric experiences and culture of the top academics of the APA.
Also, IQ tests are a debated field in psychology, and there is no standard agreed upon test. There's the Wechsler Adult Intelligence Scale for adults, the Wechsler Intelligence Scale for Children, Stanford-Binet, Woodcock-Johnson Tests of Cognitive Abilities, Kaufman Assessment Battery for Children, Cognitive Assessment System, and the Differential Ability Scales. Some of these tests don't even label their results as "Intelligence Quotient" but are included under this umbrella field of psychology.
APA again: ["A recent report of the President's Commission on Excellence in Special Education (PCESE)...suggests that the use of intelligence tests to diagnose learning disabilities should be discontinued."](
And Kaufman, one of the leading academics in the field of IQ testing, said that they are **["irrelevant to non-white subcultures".](
TL;DR The APA does not consider IQ tests approximations of intelligence. Leading academics consider them proven irrelevant to other cultures. IQ tests’ purpose is simply to identify extremes within comparable cultural groups.
| SubredditDrama | t5_2ss5b | chs20qb | I've gotten so sick of this that I've made up some copypasta to dump every time I see that same old uninformed racism justification.
Edit: Due to popular demand here is my copypasta! I've posted several variations of the text below when people start talking race, intelligence, and IQ.
IQ measures a type of social coherence. In the US, many of the questions rely on the test taker's prior general knowledge which ends up being things that middle class and wealthy white suburban Americans teach their children. IQ may not be an accurate test for intelligence and intellectual capability may be strongly dependent on socialization and what you were taught/encouraged to learn.
“One of the best examples of how cultural differences can make people score differently on math tests involved a question about a cul-de-sac. It had to do with two people living on cul-de-sacs and their back yards touching or something, but kids in urban areas had never heard of a cul-de-sac and had no idea what the question was asking. Statistic-wise, minorities live in urban areas, so statistically, they did worse. That was how cultural differences made them do worse on math. Even if they knew math just as well as the suburban kids, they got it wrong because there's no cul-de-sacs in the city.” Example reposted without permission from /u/illuminutcase
The fundamental intent of IQ tests are to examine the relative intelligence of localized groups, and is not at all intended to be a measure of intelligence between all test takers. It's used as an initial step in highlighting potential extreme cases of mental impairment or disability. [Here's an article by the American Psychological Association]( that states that intelligence differs across groups and cultures and that the IQ test is based on the biased, US-centric experiences and culture of the top academics of the APA.
Also, IQ tests are a debated field in psychology, and there is no standard agreed upon test. There's the Wechsler Adult Intelligence Scale for adults, the Wechsler Intelligence Scale for Children, Stanford-Binet, Woodcock-Johnson Tests of Cognitive Abilities, Kaufman Assessment Battery for Children, Cognitive Assessment System, and the Differential Ability Scales. Some of these tests don't even label their results as "Intelligence Quotient" but are included under this umbrella field of psychology.
APA again: ["A recent report of the President's Commission on Excellence in Special Education (PCESE)...suggests that the use of intelligence tests to diagnose learning disabilities should be discontinued."](
And Kaufman, one of the leading academics in the field of IQ testing, said that they are **["irrelevant to non-white subcultures".]( | The APA does not consider IQ tests approximations of intelligence. Leading academics consider them proven irrelevant to other cultures. IQ tests’ purpose is simply to identify extremes within comparable cultural groups. |
HunterIrked | I was a kid when that album came out, and my dad was always playing it. He told me it was "Snap my picture".
tl;dr: I may be your friend. | I was a kid when that album came out, and my dad was always playing it. He told me it was "Snap my picture".
tl;dr: I may be your friend.
| AskReddit | t5_2qh1i | c1u7i7m | I was a kid when that album came out, and my dad was always playing it. He told me it was "Snap my picture". | I may be your friend. |
Clint99 | Hey there, I'm new to this subreddit (just stumbled upon it). I have taken a look at the format page, and those are my info:
**Budget:** €130, $160 +- 30
**Source:** OnePlus One, Android based phone.
**Requirements for Isolation:** I'm not too worried about isolation, read on to understand. I would use this pair of headphones during my 2h trips everyday on the bus, and during the small walking way to school.
**Preferred Type of Headphone:** I've used on-ears for a while, and I'd like to try out over-ear, or circumaural. On-ear are fine as well, provided they are comfortable.
**Preferred tonal balance:** Not too sure, I've only ever listened to System of a Down and some dubstep occasionally. Neutral should be good, even though I enjoy bass.
**Past headphones:** I've owned a pair of AKG K518LE, and they worked decently for me, until I broke the right pad accidentally. They were on-ear, but they isolated me quite well from outside, and there was absolutely no leak of audio, nobody would hear my music. That's a feature I'd like to keep.
**Preferred Music:** Already answered before, mainly hard rock, metal, dubstep and occasionally some electro.
**Location:** Italy, I usually buy from amazon.it and prices there are quite good.
**Summary (tl;dr):** Basically, I'd need a good pair of headphones, which need to be comfortable to wear for medium-long periods of time (2 hours most of the time), for outdoor use and public transport, so they need to be closed so music doesn't leak out, either on-ear or circumaural because I hate IEMs and earbuds with all my heart. Neutral sound would be optimal for me. Since I'm using those with my phone, a microphone would be great to have, doesn't matter if it has buttons; if it does have buttons though, they'd need to be compatible with Android, since I own a OnePlus One.
**Last words:** So yeah! This is basically it. I know it's a lot to ask, but I really have no clue! I had my eyes on the Sennheiser Momentum, and I saw some sites recommending the AKG451, but I think those are outdated. Can you please help a newcomer to audio choose his pair of headphones? Thanks in advance. | Hey there, I'm new to this subreddit (just stumbled upon it). I have taken a look at the format page, and those are my info:
Budget: €130, $160 +- 30
Source: OnePlus One, Android based phone.
Requirements for Isolation: I'm not too worried about isolation, read on to understand. I would use this pair of headphones during my 2h trips everyday on the bus, and during the small walking way to school.
Preferred Type of Headphone: I've used on-ears for a while, and I'd like to try out over-ear, or circumaural. On-ear are fine as well, provided they are comfortable.
Preferred tonal balance: Not too sure, I've only ever listened to System of a Down and some dubstep occasionally. Neutral should be good, even though I enjoy bass.
Past headphones: I've owned a pair of AKG K518LE, and they worked decently for me, until I broke the right pad accidentally. They were on-ear, but they isolated me quite well from outside, and there was absolutely no leak of audio, nobody would hear my music. That's a feature I'd like to keep.
Preferred Music: Already answered before, mainly hard rock, metal, dubstep and occasionally some electro.
Location: Italy, I usually buy from amazon.it and prices there are quite good.
Summary (tl;dr): Basically, I'd need a good pair of headphones, which need to be comfortable to wear for medium-long periods of time (2 hours most of the time), for outdoor use and public transport, so they need to be closed so music doesn't leak out, either on-ear or circumaural because I hate IEMs and earbuds with all my heart. Neutral sound would be optimal for me. Since I'm using those with my phone, a microphone would be great to have, doesn't matter if it has buttons; if it does have buttons though, they'd need to be compatible with Android, since I own a OnePlus One.
Last words: So yeah! This is basically it. I know it's a lot to ask, but I really have no clue! I had my eyes on the Sennheiser Momentum, and I saw some sites recommending the AKG451, but I think those are outdated. Can you please help a newcomer to audio choose his pair of headphones? Thanks in advance.
| headphones | t5_2rcyx | ckycvb3 | Hey there, I'm new to this subreddit (just stumbled upon it). I have taken a look at the format page, and those are my info:
Budget: €130, $160 +- 30
Source: OnePlus One, Android based phone.
Requirements for Isolation: I'm not too worried about isolation, read on to understand. I would use this pair of headphones during my 2h trips everyday on the bus, and during the small walking way to school.
Preferred Type of Headphone: I've used on-ears for a while, and I'd like to try out over-ear, or circumaural. On-ear are fine as well, provided they are comfortable.
Preferred tonal balance: Not too sure, I've only ever listened to System of a Down and some dubstep occasionally. Neutral should be good, even though I enjoy bass.
Past headphones: I've owned a pair of AKG K518LE, and they worked decently for me, until I broke the right pad accidentally. They were on-ear, but they isolated me quite well from outside, and there was absolutely no leak of audio, nobody would hear my music. That's a feature I'd like to keep.
Preferred Music: Already answered before, mainly hard rock, metal, dubstep and occasionally some electro.
Location: Italy, I usually buy from amazon.it and prices there are quite good.
Summary ( | Basically, I'd need a good pair of headphones, which need to be comfortable to wear for medium-long periods of time (2 hours most of the time), for outdoor use and public transport, so they need to be closed so music doesn't leak out, either on-ear or circumaural because I hate IEMs and earbuds with all my heart. Neutral sound would be optimal for me. Since I'm using those with my phone, a microphone would be great to have, doesn't matter if it has buttons; if it does have buttons though, they'd need to be compatible with Android, since I own a OnePlus One.
Last words: So yeah! This is basically it. I know it's a lot to ask, but I really have no clue! I had my eyes on the Sennheiser Momentum, and I saw some sites recommending the AKG451, but I think those are outdated. Can you please help a newcomer to audio choose his pair of headphones? Thanks in advance. |
clsuburbs | Rockstar did not promise these things upon release. They talked about 4 DLC packs coming out. If you simply look at how they speak about them you can see the order. First was beach bum, then content creator, then "their version of capture the flag", AND THEN HEISTS. It was always planned to be last. and i can guarantee IT WILL BE LAST. It will probably take at least another month for us to see this though i believe we will be in 2014 when we actually do.
I know its annoying as furk, especially when thats all we really want to do but you have to trust a company when they have something as big as this. Watch this video and you will see they have had a lot planned for a long time.
gambling and other add ons would make this game even crazier..who knows maybe they are planning some of these for in between now and the heists.
TL;DR - They were always going to be last, you save the best for last.
Edit: this is from a post they did on 9/25/13 on news-wire
"Just to be clear, all of these updates will be free. We’ll have more info on this and much more additional content as our plans develop through the launch period"
Much more additional content. That has me excited enough to turn on the game everyday. Plus, do you really have a better game to play right now for last gen systems?
| Rockstar did not promise these things upon release. They talked about 4 DLC packs coming out. If you simply look at how they speak about them you can see the order. First was beach bum, then content creator, then "their version of capture the flag", AND THEN HEISTS. It was always planned to be last. and i can guarantee IT WILL BE LAST. It will probably take at least another month for us to see this though i believe we will be in 2014 when we actually do.
I know its annoying as furk, especially when thats all we really want to do but you have to trust a company when they have something as big as this. Watch this video and you will see they have had a lot planned for a long time.
gambling and other add ons would make this game even crazier..who knows maybe they are planning some of these for in between now and the heists.
TL;DR - They were always going to be last, you save the best for last.
Edit: this is from a post they did on 9/25/13 on news-wire
"Just to be clear, all of these updates will be free. We’ll have more info on this and much more additional content as our plans develop through the launch period"
Much more additional content. That has me excited enough to turn on the game everyday. Plus, do you really have a better game to play right now for last gen systems?
| GrandTheftAutoV | t5_2t0xk | cdltmcn | Rockstar did not promise these things upon release. They talked about 4 DLC packs coming out. If you simply look at how they speak about them you can see the order. First was beach bum, then content creator, then "their version of capture the flag", AND THEN HEISTS. It was always planned to be last. and i can guarantee IT WILL BE LAST. It will probably take at least another month for us to see this though i believe we will be in 2014 when we actually do.
I know its annoying as furk, especially when thats all we really want to do but you have to trust a company when they have something as big as this. Watch this video and you will see they have had a lot planned for a long time.
gambling and other add ons would make this game even crazier..who knows maybe they are planning some of these for in between now and the heists. | They were always going to be last, you save the best for last.
Edit: this is from a post they did on 9/25/13 on news-wire
"Just to be clear, all of these updates will be free. We’ll have more info on this and much more additional content as our plans develop through the launch period"
Much more additional content. That has me excited enough to turn on the game everyday. Plus, do you really have a better game to play right now for last gen systems? |
bysam | First of all, im not very experienced at all with copyright, so try to keep it, you know, "eli5-style".
Anyway, I run a non-commercial gaming youtube channel and there are a few songs id like to use, but obviously, I dont want to get a copyright strike or whatever. So, I thought a good idea would be to email the label of the song, but. When I had the email open and was ready to start writing, I had no idea what to write. Do I need to sing some contract? Is a written email saying its okay enough? What exacty do I need, and how am I going to ask it?
Thanks people
TL;DR: What do I need from a label/artist to be able to use their music in non-commercial videos and how do I ask it?
Oh, and also. Im from Sweden. | First of all, im not very experienced at all with copyright, so try to keep it, you know, "eli5-style".
Anyway, I run a non-commercial gaming youtube channel and there are a few songs id like to use, but obviously, I dont want to get a copyright strike or whatever. So, I thought a good idea would be to email the label of the song, but. When I had the email open and was ready to start writing, I had no idea what to write. Do I need to sing some contract? Is a written email saying its okay enough? What exacty do I need, and how am I going to ask it?
Thanks people
TL;DR: What do I need from a label/artist to be able to use their music in non-commercial videos and how do I ask it?
Oh, and also. Im from Sweden.
| COPYRIGHT | t5_2qp5r | t3_2iu0uv | First of all, im not very experienced at all with copyright, so try to keep it, you know, "eli5-style".
Anyway, I run a non-commercial gaming youtube channel and there are a few songs id like to use, but obviously, I dont want to get a copyright strike or whatever. So, I thought a good idea would be to email the label of the song, but. When I had the email open and was ready to start writing, I had no idea what to write. Do I need to sing some contract? Is a written email saying its okay enough? What exacty do I need, and how am I going to ask it?
Thanks people | What do I need from a label/artist to be able to use their music in non-commercial videos and how do I ask it?
Oh, and also. Im from Sweden. |
mrmunkey | The guy was really nice, and even stopped by my workplace over lunch. He told me about where and when he picked up all the stuff (original owner). He also mentioned he found the plastic protective bag that the Advance originally came in, so he put it all back together.
He mentioned doesn't play it anymore, but was hoping for it to go to a good home. He obviously took really good care of the stuff. I talked a bit about collecting, and he seemed a lot more relaxed after that. He even gave me his cell in case there was anything wrong.
TL;DR: Really chill dude was glad to send his games off to someone who would appreciate how much care he gave them over the years. | The guy was really nice, and even stopped by my workplace over lunch. He told me about where and when he picked up all the stuff (original owner). He also mentioned he found the plastic protective bag that the Advance originally came in, so he put it all back together.
He mentioned doesn't play it anymore, but was hoping for it to go to a good home. He obviously took really good care of the stuff. I talked a bit about collecting, and he seemed a lot more relaxed after that. He even gave me his cell in case there was anything wrong.
TL;DR: Really chill dude was glad to send his games off to someone who would appreciate how much care he gave them over the years.
| gamecollecting | t5_2s8fe | c9msjw8 | The guy was really nice, and even stopped by my workplace over lunch. He told me about where and when he picked up all the stuff (original owner). He also mentioned he found the plastic protective bag that the Advance originally came in, so he put it all back together.
He mentioned doesn't play it anymore, but was hoping for it to go to a good home. He obviously took really good care of the stuff. I talked a bit about collecting, and he seemed a lot more relaxed after that. He even gave me his cell in case there was anything wrong. | Really chill dude was glad to send his games off to someone who would appreciate how much care he gave them over the years. |
Enriquelegnar | I don't know why I'm posting this here. But pretty much long story short I have a real close friend that recently told me on a drunk confession that the real reason her and her boyfriend broke up was she got raped. She is in a sorority so drinking is a given and so is heavy drinking. And what ended up happening is that she drank a little too much and she woke up naked in someone else bed.
The issue is she cant forgive herself she still has a thing for her ex (whom she told everything and then he promptly left her). I don't know what exactly I'm looking for right now. I just don't want my friend to feel shitty, like she is a bad person because of a drunk mistake. We are all humans right? I don't exactly know what I'm looking for I just want her to be happy, cause its not fair she has to have this over her head when we all make mistakes.
Tl;DR A friend told me that while she was blacked out she ended up cheating on her boyfriend. She told him everything and he broke up with her. Now she has super low self esteem, doesn't like herself, and thinks everyone doesn't like her, I don't want her to feel that way. What can I do to help her? | I don't know why I'm posting this here. But pretty much long story short I have a real close friend that recently told me on a drunk confession that the real reason her and her boyfriend broke up was she got raped. She is in a sorority so drinking is a given and so is heavy drinking. And what ended up happening is that she drank a little too much and she woke up naked in someone else bed.
The issue is she cant forgive herself she still has a thing for her ex (whom she told everything and then he promptly left her). I don't know what exactly I'm looking for right now. I just don't want my friend to feel shitty, like she is a bad person because of a drunk mistake. We are all humans right? I don't exactly know what I'm looking for I just want her to be happy, cause its not fair she has to have this over her head when we all make mistakes.
Tl;DR A friend told me that while she was blacked out she ended up cheating on her boyfriend. She told him everything and he broke up with her. Now she has super low self esteem, doesn't like herself, and thinks everyone doesn't like her, I don't want her to feel that way. What can I do to help her?
| relationships | t5_2qjvn | t3_2b4g63 | I don't know why I'm posting this here. But pretty much long story short I have a real close friend that recently told me on a drunk confession that the real reason her and her boyfriend broke up was she got raped. She is in a sorority so drinking is a given and so is heavy drinking. And what ended up happening is that she drank a little too much and she woke up naked in someone else bed.
The issue is she cant forgive herself she still has a thing for her ex (whom she told everything and then he promptly left her). I don't know what exactly I'm looking for right now. I just don't want my friend to feel shitty, like she is a bad person because of a drunk mistake. We are all humans right? I don't exactly know what I'm looking for I just want her to be happy, cause its not fair she has to have this over her head when we all make mistakes. | A friend told me that while she was blacked out she ended up cheating on her boyfriend. She told him everything and he broke up with her. Now she has super low self esteem, doesn't like herself, and thinks everyone doesn't like her, I don't want her to feel that way. What can I do to help her? |
ilynia | It's absolutely horrible to lie like this. You destroy any and all trust, you ruin your credibility, and you make it so the child will never be able to enjoy anything in his/her life, because every time you tell him/her that you are doing something fun they will have a shock and fear response to it.
You are creating problems that will affect that child into adulthood.
What you SHOULD be doing is being HONEST to that child and teaching them that not everything is ice-cream and candy, but we need to face problems head on and deal with them. It may be difficult, but your child will learn to lean on you and trust you and will be equipped to deal with problems better. They will appreciate that you treated them with respect rather than lying like an asshole and traumatising them badly.
TL;DR Don't ever have kids, you would be a terrible, terrible parent. | It's absolutely horrible to lie like this. You destroy any and all trust, you ruin your credibility, and you make it so the child will never be able to enjoy anything in his/her life, because every time you tell him/her that you are doing something fun they will have a shock and fear response to it.
You are creating problems that will affect that child into adulthood.
What you SHOULD be doing is being HONEST to that child and teaching them that not everything is ice-cream and candy, but we need to face problems head on and deal with them. It may be difficult, but your child will learn to lean on you and trust you and will be equipped to deal with problems better. They will appreciate that you treated them with respect rather than lying like an asshole and traumatising them badly.
TL;DR Don't ever have kids, you would be a terrible, terrible parent.
| AskReddit | t5_2qh1i | c6c8u01 | It's absolutely horrible to lie like this. You destroy any and all trust, you ruin your credibility, and you make it so the child will never be able to enjoy anything in his/her life, because every time you tell him/her that you are doing something fun they will have a shock and fear response to it.
You are creating problems that will affect that child into adulthood.
What you SHOULD be doing is being HONEST to that child and teaching them that not everything is ice-cream and candy, but we need to face problems head on and deal with them. It may be difficult, but your child will learn to lean on you and trust you and will be equipped to deal with problems better. They will appreciate that you treated them with respect rather than lying like an asshole and traumatising them badly. | Don't ever have kids, you would be a terrible, terrible parent. |
Christian627 | Recreational user here. Have been for almost seven years.
When I was a teenager, we took ecstasy(tablets/pills). Nowadays, the kids are "Popping Mollies". I might be the only one bothered by this, but I needed to vent. It seems like the whole "Molly" thing is becoming a fad...
MDMA needs to be respected and used in moderation. I'm gettin real sick of hearing about how people are just "Popping Molly" because it's readily available...
Use it. Don't abuse it.
***Edit:*** I think some of you misinterpreted my initial post. I love MDMA and I think it's great that people all over the world have it readily available to them. Everybody should be able to experience MDMA if they desire to. I'm not trying to say that the drug belongs solely to me or a specific subculture of human beings.
What I'm saying is that the whole "Molly" thing irritates me.
* "I'm looking for Molly."
* "Have you seen Molly"?
* "I'm trying to find Molly."
* "I popped a Molly" or "I popped some Mollies"
TL;DR - Everybody should be able to experience MDMA. (Assuming they have a desire to) But the negative stigma surrounding MDMA as of late because of constant attention from artists/famous people/media bothers me. | Recreational user here. Have been for almost seven years.
When I was a teenager, we took ecstasy(tablets/pills). Nowadays, the kids are "Popping Mollies". I might be the only one bothered by this, but I needed to vent. It seems like the whole "Molly" thing is becoming a fad...
MDMA needs to be respected and used in moderation. I'm gettin real sick of hearing about how people are just "Popping Molly" because it's readily available...
Use it. Don't abuse it.
Edit: I think some of you misinterpreted my initial post. I love MDMA and I think it's great that people all over the world have it readily available to them. Everybody should be able to experience MDMA if they desire to. I'm not trying to say that the drug belongs solely to me or a specific subculture of human beings.
What I'm saying is that the whole "Molly" thing irritates me.
"I'm looking for Molly."
"Have you seen Molly"?
"I'm trying to find Molly."
"I popped a Molly" or "I popped some Mollies"
TL;DR - Everybody should be able to experience MDMA. (Assuming they have a desire to) But the negative stigma surrounding MDMA as of late because of constant attention from artists/famous people/media bothers me.
| MDMA | t5_2qwvg | t3_1lkw11 | Recreational user here. Have been for almost seven years.
When I was a teenager, we took ecstasy(tablets/pills). Nowadays, the kids are "Popping Mollies". I might be the only one bothered by this, but I needed to vent. It seems like the whole "Molly" thing is becoming a fad...
MDMA needs to be respected and used in moderation. I'm gettin real sick of hearing about how people are just "Popping Molly" because it's readily available...
Use it. Don't abuse it.
Edit: I think some of you misinterpreted my initial post. I love MDMA and I think it's great that people all over the world have it readily available to them. Everybody should be able to experience MDMA if they desire to. I'm not trying to say that the drug belongs solely to me or a specific subculture of human beings.
What I'm saying is that the whole "Molly" thing irritates me.
"I'm looking for Molly."
"Have you seen Molly"?
"I'm trying to find Molly."
"I popped a Molly" or "I popped some Mollies" | Everybody should be able to experience MDMA. (Assuming they have a desire to) But the negative stigma surrounding MDMA as of late because of constant attention from artists/famous people/media bothers me. |
Nahtanos | Hey guys. So I last night in Manhattan, I was out with my friends at a soul/funk show. The music was really good and I made it a point to not drink during. Anyone ever feel like they go to shows and they're so bothered by all the other external stimuli that they barely listen to the music? I decided that wouldn't happen, so I made it a point to focus on the music and have fun! Didn't look at other people to make sure that it was "ok" to have fun. Had a blast. Show soon lets out into a bar area.
I float around for a little bit, trying to scope out. Spot a HB8 talking to a friend. I wasn't brave enough to deal with both of them at the same time (any tips you guys?) but luckily, the cuter one goes to do something with her purse and I approach.
Nahtanos: (using RSD Tyler's approach) Hey! Who are you? (By the way, this opener tends to get the, what? what fuck? reaction. You just have to stick with it, look dead in the eyes and own it. I said this deadpan, with a flat inflection in my voice.)
Tracy: Hi, um, I'm Tracy?
N: *super big smile* Hi, I'm Jonathan, cheers! *clink* (if you actually know how to smile and are happy about it, people will always smile back. My smile is so good its infectious.) *She smiles back and cheers* What did you think of the show?
Tracy: It was good! What did you think?
N: It was awesome! I LOVE motown! *I start dancing in place, twirling* Hahahaha
Tracy: hahaha, who do you know in the band?
N: My friend's brother is the front man. I came for moral support. (ok so that past two exchanges were a good example of like being fun and then qualifying yourself.)
Tracy: oh cool.
N: How's your weekend?
Tracy: It's ok, how's yours?
N: It's good, I was bartending today at the brunch shift. I don't know who decided it brunch was thing in Manhattan, but it's SUCH a thing. (All of this is done with lots and lots of enthusiasm. It's not a strategy I adopted, it's just who I am. I'm high energy, and again, it's infectious. People get wrapped up in it.)
Tracy: Yeah, but it's the perfect solution for being hungover!
N: haha I suppose. If waiting in the cold for 20 mins and then paying 14 bucks for eggs is a hangover cure, I'd do it I guess. (< not afraid to disagree, to say what I think)
So we begin to talk about who comes into my restaurant. This qualifies me again. We talk about actors, I learn she's a producer. We fluff and fluff. I do this thing where I say, hey you'd look good in glasses and then I hand the chick my glasses and I take a picture of her and show it to her. It's really comforting to the girl. We talk about fifty shades of grey and why so many women read that book. I tell her she probably likes it when guys slap her on the ass and stuff her face in the pillow. *btw, her reaction to that is the wtf?what?wow! kind of thing, and again you just gotta own it* I just laugh at her and say wow you just got really uncomfortable. Then I change the subject. I tell her my dream is to become the president of the United States, and I grab her shoulders when I do this. Slight kino. More fluff, more slight kino, pushing her away, punching her lightly on the arm. So it's going well. I'm making her laugh, I'm qualifying myself by showing her I have a fucking life and fucking dreams. I'm kino-ing slightly, trying to push-pull.
Unfortunately, her friend comes back and asks if she wants a beer. She offers to buy me one so I say yeah. We get the beer and there's three of us at the bar and we're all bantering and stuff. We talk about 3-D printers, etc. We talk about my becoming future President and how I'd have to appeal to "their humanity" in order to get their vote or some bullshit like that. The friend leaves and i'm starting to get a buzz and she starts talking about politics. Because I've just been going where the interaction takes me, I unfortunately let her go on and on about it. I mean on the one hand, it was natural, but she was floundering cause she didn't know what the fuck she was talking about. I let it happen cause I didn't want to have a jarring shift in convo. Anyways, my brain is starting to panic a little. She's not having as MUCH fun as earlier and I'm wondering how i can amp the conversation a little more. (As a progress note, this is like 10 minutes into the interaction. If her emotional level was at a 0 when I approached, she was at a 5 now, out of 10) But I didn't know how to really amp up anymore.
More unfortuantely, her friend comes back and tells us they're gonna move on to the next bar. I say im gonna stay with my friends, so I say;
N: Have coffee with me on Monday
Tracy: ehh, I work on Monday.
N: (FUCK!) Alright. (So I kinda sulk off a little, like face the bar, and not her. She turns to her friend, fluff with her. I'm thinking about what I could possibly say to recover. I'm not sure what to do, I wait a few seconds.)
N: When are we gonna hang out.
Tracy: Nahtanos, how old are you?
N: you really wanna know? I'm 23.
Tracy: i'm 32, This is not gonna happen.
N: Oh my God!! I asked if you wanted to hang out, not fuck me!(hahahahahhaha, dunno why i said that, cause i totally wanted to fuck her)
Tracy: Ok i just wanted to make sure my intention was clear. (hahaha i guess that's good, because it showed that my intent was fucking clear the whole time. she knew wassup)
She gives me some shit about how at women, post 28 years old, something clicks and like SO much shit has already happened that they're in a completely different place in life and all this shit. I say sure sure sure.
N: Do you have any single friends?
T: I know a 19 year old at NYU. She's cute.
N: Awesome, we're all gonna hang and you're gonna introduce me to her.
T: cool! See yah!
SO! Lessons learned. I dunno. I know for SURE that:
TL;DR:
1) I owned the approach. You gotta. The interaction will flow so naturally after that
2) It is natural to qualify yourself in between showing attraction. LoveSystems posits this as a linear stage from attraction--> qualification --> comfort --> seduction. It's not necessarily linear, but you have to solidify one before you get to the next. Comprende?
3) I was successfully able to move to comfort stage. However, I could've amped the interaction a lot more. I was afraid, and I wanted to look like a normal human being. I didn't call her a DOG and stare her down, but alas, she only stayed at a 5 out of 10 on the emotional scale. AMP MORE AMP MORE!!!
Thanks guys. This was my first post. Keep at it! | Hey guys. So I last night in Manhattan, I was out with my friends at a soul/funk show. The music was really good and I made it a point to not drink during. Anyone ever feel like they go to shows and they're so bothered by all the other external stimuli that they barely listen to the music? I decided that wouldn't happen, so I made it a point to focus on the music and have fun! Didn't look at other people to make sure that it was "ok" to have fun. Had a blast. Show soon lets out into a bar area.
I float around for a little bit, trying to scope out. Spot a HB8 talking to a friend. I wasn't brave enough to deal with both of them at the same time (any tips you guys?) but luckily, the cuter one goes to do something with her purse and I approach.
Nahtanos: (using RSD Tyler's approach) Hey! Who are you? (By the way, this opener tends to get the, what? what fuck? reaction. You just have to stick with it, look dead in the eyes and own it. I said this deadpan, with a flat inflection in my voice.)
Tracy: Hi, um, I'm Tracy?
N: super big smile Hi, I'm Jonathan, cheers! clink (if you actually know how to smile and are happy about it, people will always smile back. My smile is so good its infectious.) She smiles back and cheers What did you think of the show?
Tracy: It was good! What did you think?
N: It was awesome! I LOVE motown! I start dancing in place, twirling Hahahaha
Tracy: hahaha, who do you know in the band?
N: My friend's brother is the front man. I came for moral support. (ok so that past two exchanges were a good example of like being fun and then qualifying yourself.)
Tracy: oh cool.
N: How's your weekend?
Tracy: It's ok, how's yours?
N: It's good, I was bartending today at the brunch shift. I don't know who decided it brunch was thing in Manhattan, but it's SUCH a thing. (All of this is done with lots and lots of enthusiasm. It's not a strategy I adopted, it's just who I am. I'm high energy, and again, it's infectious. People get wrapped up in it.)
Tracy: Yeah, but it's the perfect solution for being hungover!
N: haha I suppose. If waiting in the cold for 20 mins and then paying 14 bucks for eggs is a hangover cure, I'd do it I guess. (< not afraid to disagree, to say what I think)
So we begin to talk about who comes into my restaurant. This qualifies me again. We talk about actors, I learn she's a producer. We fluff and fluff. I do this thing where I say, hey you'd look good in glasses and then I hand the chick my glasses and I take a picture of her and show it to her. It's really comforting to the girl. We talk about fifty shades of grey and why so many women read that book. I tell her she probably likes it when guys slap her on the ass and stuff her face in the pillow. btw, her reaction to that is the wtf?what?wow! kind of thing, and again you just gotta own it I just laugh at her and say wow you just got really uncomfortable. Then I change the subject. I tell her my dream is to become the president of the United States, and I grab her shoulders when I do this. Slight kino. More fluff, more slight kino, pushing her away, punching her lightly on the arm. So it's going well. I'm making her laugh, I'm qualifying myself by showing her I have a fucking life and fucking dreams. I'm kino-ing slightly, trying to push-pull.
Unfortunately, her friend comes back and asks if she wants a beer. She offers to buy me one so I say yeah. We get the beer and there's three of us at the bar and we're all bantering and stuff. We talk about 3-D printers, etc. We talk about my becoming future President and how I'd have to appeal to "their humanity" in order to get their vote or some bullshit like that. The friend leaves and i'm starting to get a buzz and she starts talking about politics. Because I've just been going where the interaction takes me, I unfortunately let her go on and on about it. I mean on the one hand, it was natural, but she was floundering cause she didn't know what the fuck she was talking about. I let it happen cause I didn't want to have a jarring shift in convo. Anyways, my brain is starting to panic a little. She's not having as MUCH fun as earlier and I'm wondering how i can amp the conversation a little more. (As a progress note, this is like 10 minutes into the interaction. If her emotional level was at a 0 when I approached, she was at a 5 now, out of 10) But I didn't know how to really amp up anymore.
More unfortuantely, her friend comes back and tells us they're gonna move on to the next bar. I say im gonna stay with my friends, so I say;
N: Have coffee with me on Monday
Tracy: ehh, I work on Monday.
N: (FUCK!) Alright. (So I kinda sulk off a little, like face the bar, and not her. She turns to her friend, fluff with her. I'm thinking about what I could possibly say to recover. I'm not sure what to do, I wait a few seconds.)
N: When are we gonna hang out.
Tracy: Nahtanos, how old are you?
N: you really wanna know? I'm 23.
Tracy: i'm 32, This is not gonna happen.
N: Oh my God!! I asked if you wanted to hang out, not fuck me!(hahahahahhaha, dunno why i said that, cause i totally wanted to fuck her)
Tracy: Ok i just wanted to make sure my intention was clear. (hahaha i guess that's good, because it showed that my intent was fucking clear the whole time. she knew wassup)
She gives me some shit about how at women, post 28 years old, something clicks and like SO much shit has already happened that they're in a completely different place in life and all this shit. I say sure sure sure.
N: Do you have any single friends?
T: I know a 19 year old at NYU. She's cute.
N: Awesome, we're all gonna hang and you're gonna introduce me to her.
T: cool! See yah!
SO! Lessons learned. I dunno. I know for SURE that:
TL;DR:
1) I owned the approach. You gotta. The interaction will flow so naturally after that
2) It is natural to qualify yourself in between showing attraction. LoveSystems posits this as a linear stage from attraction--> qualification --> comfort --> seduction. It's not necessarily linear, but you have to solidify one before you get to the next. Comprende?
3) I was successfully able to move to comfort stage. However, I could've amped the interaction a lot more. I was afraid, and I wanted to look like a normal human being. I didn't call her a DOG and stare her down, but alas, she only stayed at a 5 out of 10 on the emotional scale. AMP MORE AMP MORE!!!
Thanks guys. This was my first post. Keep at it!
| seduction | t5_2qhrv | t3_17eb7e | Hey guys. So I last night in Manhattan, I was out with my friends at a soul/funk show. The music was really good and I made it a point to not drink during. Anyone ever feel like they go to shows and they're so bothered by all the other external stimuli that they barely listen to the music? I decided that wouldn't happen, so I made it a point to focus on the music and have fun! Didn't look at other people to make sure that it was "ok" to have fun. Had a blast. Show soon lets out into a bar area.
I float around for a little bit, trying to scope out. Spot a HB8 talking to a friend. I wasn't brave enough to deal with both of them at the same time (any tips you guys?) but luckily, the cuter one goes to do something with her purse and I approach.
Nahtanos: (using RSD Tyler's approach) Hey! Who are you? (By the way, this opener tends to get the, what? what fuck? reaction. You just have to stick with it, look dead in the eyes and own it. I said this deadpan, with a flat inflection in my voice.)
Tracy: Hi, um, I'm Tracy?
N: super big smile Hi, I'm Jonathan, cheers! clink (if you actually know how to smile and are happy about it, people will always smile back. My smile is so good its infectious.) She smiles back and cheers What did you think of the show?
Tracy: It was good! What did you think?
N: It was awesome! I LOVE motown! I start dancing in place, twirling Hahahaha
Tracy: hahaha, who do you know in the band?
N: My friend's brother is the front man. I came for moral support. (ok so that past two exchanges were a good example of like being fun and then qualifying yourself.)
Tracy: oh cool.
N: How's your weekend?
Tracy: It's ok, how's yours?
N: It's good, I was bartending today at the brunch shift. I don't know who decided it brunch was thing in Manhattan, but it's SUCH a thing. (All of this is done with lots and lots of enthusiasm. It's not a strategy I adopted, it's just who I am. I'm high energy, and again, it's infectious. People get wrapped up in it.)
Tracy: Yeah, but it's the perfect solution for being hungover!
N: haha I suppose. If waiting in the cold for 20 mins and then paying 14 bucks for eggs is a hangover cure, I'd do it I guess. (< not afraid to disagree, to say what I think)
So we begin to talk about who comes into my restaurant. This qualifies me again. We talk about actors, I learn she's a producer. We fluff and fluff. I do this thing where I say, hey you'd look good in glasses and then I hand the chick my glasses and I take a picture of her and show it to her. It's really comforting to the girl. We talk about fifty shades of grey and why so many women read that book. I tell her she probably likes it when guys slap her on the ass and stuff her face in the pillow. btw, her reaction to that is the wtf?what?wow! kind of thing, and again you just gotta own it I just laugh at her and say wow you just got really uncomfortable. Then I change the subject. I tell her my dream is to become the president of the United States, and I grab her shoulders when I do this. Slight kino. More fluff, more slight kino, pushing her away, punching her lightly on the arm. So it's going well. I'm making her laugh, I'm qualifying myself by showing her I have a fucking life and fucking dreams. I'm kino-ing slightly, trying to push-pull.
Unfortunately, her friend comes back and asks if she wants a beer. She offers to buy me one so I say yeah. We get the beer and there's three of us at the bar and we're all bantering and stuff. We talk about 3-D printers, etc. We talk about my becoming future President and how I'd have to appeal to "their humanity" in order to get their vote or some bullshit like that. The friend leaves and i'm starting to get a buzz and she starts talking about politics. Because I've just been going where the interaction takes me, I unfortunately let her go on and on about it. I mean on the one hand, it was natural, but she was floundering cause she didn't know what the fuck she was talking about. I let it happen cause I didn't want to have a jarring shift in convo. Anyways, my brain is starting to panic a little. She's not having as MUCH fun as earlier and I'm wondering how i can amp the conversation a little more. (As a progress note, this is like 10 minutes into the interaction. If her emotional level was at a 0 when I approached, she was at a 5 now, out of 10) But I didn't know how to really amp up anymore.
More unfortuantely, her friend comes back and tells us they're gonna move on to the next bar. I say im gonna stay with my friends, so I say;
N: Have coffee with me on Monday
Tracy: ehh, I work on Monday.
N: (FUCK!) Alright. (So I kinda sulk off a little, like face the bar, and not her. She turns to her friend, fluff with her. I'm thinking about what I could possibly say to recover. I'm not sure what to do, I wait a few seconds.)
N: When are we gonna hang out.
Tracy: Nahtanos, how old are you?
N: you really wanna know? I'm 23.
Tracy: i'm 32, This is not gonna happen.
N: Oh my God!! I asked if you wanted to hang out, not fuck me!(hahahahahhaha, dunno why i said that, cause i totally wanted to fuck her)
Tracy: Ok i just wanted to make sure my intention was clear. (hahaha i guess that's good, because it showed that my intent was fucking clear the whole time. she knew wassup)
She gives me some shit about how at women, post 28 years old, something clicks and like SO much shit has already happened that they're in a completely different place in life and all this shit. I say sure sure sure.
N: Do you have any single friends?
T: I know a 19 year old at NYU. She's cute.
N: Awesome, we're all gonna hang and you're gonna introduce me to her.
T: cool! See yah!
SO! Lessons learned. I dunno. I know for SURE that: | 1) I owned the approach. You gotta. The interaction will flow so naturally after that
2) It is natural to qualify yourself in between showing attraction. LoveSystems posits this as a linear stage from attraction--> qualification --> comfort --> seduction. It's not necessarily linear, but you have to solidify one before you get to the next. Comprende?
3) I was successfully able to move to comfort stage. However, I could've amped the interaction a lot more. I was afraid, and I wanted to look like a normal human being. I didn't call her a DOG and stare her down, but alas, she only stayed at a 5 out of 10 on the emotional scale. AMP MORE AMP MORE!!!
Thanks guys. This was my first post. Keep at it! |
BigRedCandle | I hope this works. If it does we will have a decent/good beginning of the order. Hopefully he regains some if not all of his former self. He's got to have more confidence this year already being named starting 3rd baseman and the lead-off hitter. If he does well and we're not in contention we can finally get rid of the contract, but if he doesn't we can either DFA him or leave him on the bench/make up an injury. One point of interest in this is that Ichiro batted mostly 3rd in Japan in his 7 years there, while winning 7 straight batting titles.
TL:DR If it works decent lineup. Ichiro batted 3rd mostly in Japan. | I hope this works. If it does we will have a decent/good beginning of the order. Hopefully he regains some if not all of his former self. He's got to have more confidence this year already being named starting 3rd baseman and the lead-off hitter. If he does well and we're not in contention we can finally get rid of the contract, but if he doesn't we can either DFA him or leave him on the bench/make up an injury. One point of interest in this is that Ichiro batted mostly 3rd in Japan in his 7 years there, while winning 7 straight batting titles.
TL:DR If it works decent lineup. Ichiro batted 3rd mostly in Japan.
| Mariners | t5_2rylc | c3tvcb6 | I hope this works. If it does we will have a decent/good beginning of the order. Hopefully he regains some if not all of his former self. He's got to have more confidence this year already being named starting 3rd baseman and the lead-off hitter. If he does well and we're not in contention we can finally get rid of the contract, but if he doesn't we can either DFA him or leave him on the bench/make up an injury. One point of interest in this is that Ichiro batted mostly 3rd in Japan in his 7 years there, while winning 7 straight batting titles. | If it works decent lineup. Ichiro batted 3rd mostly in Japan. |
Toalettfitta | I feel that you guys are giving way too much hate about russians. Everytime I get into a match and a russian opens his mouth, everyone goes bananas and mock him. If he chokes and fails to kill one, everyone put blames on him. Always complain the russians.
I've met countless russians who have been very cooperative, some can be ragey and some can be very very ignorant.
A couple of weeks ago, I was playing nuke and I had 3 russians and 1 dude(forgot the name of the country). It was 6-0 to the enemy team and this dude was sure angry about the russians because they barely got any kills and they haven't said a single thing, he sure complained a lot to the enemy team, then he asked me how I felt about them, I told him "I don't dislike russians but I dislike people who won't communicate". All the russians started to communicate we won the match easily, the dude never said a single bad word about them.
If you guys always complain and put the blame on the russians, of course they will perform super bad, they get frustrated every match and no one is willing to give them a chance. This way they will never improve.
It's not only the russians, this whole rage, toxic thing applies to everyone. Some people screams/mock them because they can't speak english. For fuck sake people, give them a fucking chance because they're trying at least. This will only destroy their confident and they will never try to talk in english again.
tl;dr give eveyone a fucking chance and don't be a butthurt. If they are being ignorant, just ignore them.
| I feel that you guys are giving way too much hate about russians. Everytime I get into a match and a russian opens his mouth, everyone goes bananas and mock him. If he chokes and fails to kill one, everyone put blames on him. Always complain the russians.
I've met countless russians who have been very cooperative, some can be ragey and some can be very very ignorant.
A couple of weeks ago, I was playing nuke and I had 3 russians and 1 dude(forgot the name of the country). It was 6-0 to the enemy team and this dude was sure angry about the russians because they barely got any kills and they haven't said a single thing, he sure complained a lot to the enemy team, then he asked me how I felt about them, I told him "I don't dislike russians but I dislike people who won't communicate". All the russians started to communicate we won the match easily, the dude never said a single bad word about them.
If you guys always complain and put the blame on the russians, of course they will perform super bad, they get frustrated every match and no one is willing to give them a chance. This way they will never improve.
It's not only the russians, this whole rage, toxic thing applies to everyone. Some people screams/mock them because they can't speak english. For fuck sake people, give them a fucking chance because they're trying at least. This will only destroy their confident and they will never try to talk in english again.
tl;dr give eveyone a fucking chance and don't be a butthurt. If they are being ignorant, just ignore them.
| GlobalOffensive | t5_2sqho | chq1j33 | I feel that you guys are giving way too much hate about russians. Everytime I get into a match and a russian opens his mouth, everyone goes bananas and mock him. If he chokes and fails to kill one, everyone put blames on him. Always complain the russians.
I've met countless russians who have been very cooperative, some can be ragey and some can be very very ignorant.
A couple of weeks ago, I was playing nuke and I had 3 russians and 1 dude(forgot the name of the country). It was 6-0 to the enemy team and this dude was sure angry about the russians because they barely got any kills and they haven't said a single thing, he sure complained a lot to the enemy team, then he asked me how I felt about them, I told him "I don't dislike russians but I dislike people who won't communicate". All the russians started to communicate we won the match easily, the dude never said a single bad word about them.
If you guys always complain and put the blame on the russians, of course they will perform super bad, they get frustrated every match and no one is willing to give them a chance. This way they will never improve.
It's not only the russians, this whole rage, toxic thing applies to everyone. Some people screams/mock them because they can't speak english. For fuck sake people, give them a fucking chance because they're trying at least. This will only destroy their confident and they will never try to talk in english again. | give eveyone a fucking chance and don't be a butthurt. If they are being ignorant, just ignore them. |
LePeache | Hey everyone, I'm a completely fresh 55 with maxed ranked comms, and nearly maxed normal comms with two weapons saved up and ready to be sold back. I've tried digging around to try and see what the best use of all of the commendations would be for myself. Now that the left side (implants, ear, relics) also need the Conqueror version to be upgraded to Obroan, I'm completely at a loss (especially as most information I found is pre-2.4).
I've thought about trading my ranked comms back into normal comms, and just flat out get a near full set of Conqueror gear, and work on min-maxing that before going to Obroan. I've got a full set of orange gear ready to be augmented, so I'm not too worried about that.
Should I:
1) Convert ranked to normal and buy a full set of Conqueror gear and begin min-maxing that.
2) Buy what I can of Conqueror relics, ears, and implants, and convert (I think 2-3) of those into Obroan?
I feel that option 1 would put me in an overall more comfortable situation, but I have mixed feelings about "wasting" all of the ranked comms on normal gear.
TL;DR: Should I convert my ranked comms into normal comms, and buy a whole bunch of Conqueror stuff, or is it a terrible idea to do so? | Hey everyone, I'm a completely fresh 55 with maxed ranked comms, and nearly maxed normal comms with two weapons saved up and ready to be sold back. I've tried digging around to try and see what the best use of all of the commendations would be for myself. Now that the left side (implants, ear, relics) also need the Conqueror version to be upgraded to Obroan, I'm completely at a loss (especially as most information I found is pre-2.4).
I've thought about trading my ranked comms back into normal comms, and just flat out get a near full set of Conqueror gear, and work on min-maxing that before going to Obroan. I've got a full set of orange gear ready to be augmented, so I'm not too worried about that.
Should I:
1) Convert ranked to normal and buy a full set of Conqueror gear and begin min-maxing that.
2) Buy what I can of Conqueror relics, ears, and implants, and convert (I think 2-3) of those into Obroan?
I feel that option 1 would put me in an overall more comfortable situation, but I have mixed feelings about "wasting" all of the ranked comms on normal gear.
TL;DR: Should I convert my ranked comms into normal comms, and buy a whole bunch of Conqueror stuff, or is it a terrible idea to do so?
| swtor | t5_2qxih | t3_1qhtds | Hey everyone, I'm a completely fresh 55 with maxed ranked comms, and nearly maxed normal comms with two weapons saved up and ready to be sold back. I've tried digging around to try and see what the best use of all of the commendations would be for myself. Now that the left side (implants, ear, relics) also need the Conqueror version to be upgraded to Obroan, I'm completely at a loss (especially as most information I found is pre-2.4).
I've thought about trading my ranked comms back into normal comms, and just flat out get a near full set of Conqueror gear, and work on min-maxing that before going to Obroan. I've got a full set of orange gear ready to be augmented, so I'm not too worried about that.
Should I:
1) Convert ranked to normal and buy a full set of Conqueror gear and begin min-maxing that.
2) Buy what I can of Conqueror relics, ears, and implants, and convert (I think 2-3) of those into Obroan?
I feel that option 1 would put me in an overall more comfortable situation, but I have mixed feelings about "wasting" all of the ranked comms on normal gear. | Should I convert my ranked comms into normal comms, and buy a whole bunch of Conqueror stuff, or is it a terrible idea to do so? |
call_me_cthulhu_ | ugh. this is a gross one and TMI but I had a baby last year. A couple of months after I got my first post partum period. My OB said it would probably be lighter and it was. So I set out for a trip to the mall. Now I should probably say that I was at least 20lbs heavier than I am now, holding a baby because she refused to sleep in her stroller, and I was sweating my balls off in a poorly chosen outfit (I was dressed for 50 degrees and it was more like 70). So I'm sweating and noticing a large amount of ...for lack of a better phrase... swamp ass. Not really thinking much of it I decide to leave and head into the parking lot. I start noticing more and more wetness but Im thinking, okay im walking pretty quickly in the hot sun. I put baby in the car, get in and go WTF. Red all the way down to my knees. Yep. OB was wrong, my period was super heavy.
TL;DR: had a baby. Was told to expect a light period and instead got a super heavy one. Walking around the mall, parking lot, various stores for well over an hour with blood down to my knees and no one said a word. | ugh. this is a gross one and TMI but I had a baby last year. A couple of months after I got my first post partum period. My OB said it would probably be lighter and it was. So I set out for a trip to the mall. Now I should probably say that I was at least 20lbs heavier than I am now, holding a baby because she refused to sleep in her stroller, and I was sweating my balls off in a poorly chosen outfit (I was dressed for 50 degrees and it was more like 70). So I'm sweating and noticing a large amount of ...for lack of a better phrase... swamp ass. Not really thinking much of it I decide to leave and head into the parking lot. I start noticing more and more wetness but Im thinking, okay im walking pretty quickly in the hot sun. I put baby in the car, get in and go WTF. Red all the way down to my knees. Yep. OB was wrong, my period was super heavy.
TL;DR: had a baby. Was told to expect a light period and instead got a super heavy one. Walking around the mall, parking lot, various stores for well over an hour with blood down to my knees and no one said a word.
| Random_Acts_Of_Amazon | t5_2tx47 | crdlgnf | ugh. this is a gross one and TMI but I had a baby last year. A couple of months after I got my first post partum period. My OB said it would probably be lighter and it was. So I set out for a trip to the mall. Now I should probably say that I was at least 20lbs heavier than I am now, holding a baby because she refused to sleep in her stroller, and I was sweating my balls off in a poorly chosen outfit (I was dressed for 50 degrees and it was more like 70). So I'm sweating and noticing a large amount of ...for lack of a better phrase... swamp ass. Not really thinking much of it I decide to leave and head into the parking lot. I start noticing more and more wetness but Im thinking, okay im walking pretty quickly in the hot sun. I put baby in the car, get in and go WTF. Red all the way down to my knees. Yep. OB was wrong, my period was super heavy. | had a baby. Was told to expect a light period and instead got a super heavy one. Walking around the mall, parking lot, various stores for well over an hour with blood down to my knees and no one said a word. |
Loopbot75 |
It's an awesome email site that creates an inbox for an email address whenever it receives email for that address. It also allows you to enter the name of an email address and see all the email for that address. Email is stored for about 3-4 hours. What this means is when some sketchy site asks you for an email address that you know they're going to dump with spam give them &amp;lt;made up username>@mailinator.com, enter you recently made email in mailinator, and deal with whatever email confirmation they give you. I'm currently using it to spam unlimited free 14-day trials of wolframalpha pro.
TL;DR: Let them eat spam | It's an awesome email site that creates an inbox for an email address whenever it receives email for that address. It also allows you to enter the name of an email address and see all the email for that address. Email is stored for about 3-4 hours. What this means is when some sketchy site asks you for an email address that you know they're going to dump with spam give them &lt;made up username>@mailinator.com, enter you recently made email in mailinator, and deal with whatever email confirmation they give you. I'm currently using it to spam unlimited free 14-day trials of wolframalpha pro.
TL;DR: Let them eat spam
| AskReddit | t5_2qh1i | c5kah6v | It's an awesome email site that creates an inbox for an email address whenever it receives email for that address. It also allows you to enter the name of an email address and see all the email for that address. Email is stored for about 3-4 hours. What this means is when some sketchy site asks you for an email address that you know they're going to dump with spam give them &lt;made up username>@mailinator.com, enter you recently made email in mailinator, and deal with whatever email confirmation they give you. I'm currently using it to spam unlimited free 14-day trials of wolframalpha pro. | Let them eat spam |
[deleted] | Maybe I'm bat shit crazy, maybe I am over analyzing. Obama was given my state, OH, and my county wasn't even finished being counted when they gave him the electoral votes..
Now this may sound simply RETARDED, but I love south park. They always have a message behind a lot of their episodes. The recent one got me thinking, I mean.. all the votes weren't even finished counting, and they gave him the presidency. Am I just taking this too far? I feel like the way the world is nowadays, no one even cares that there could be voter fraud. I don't mean to again, sound retarded or get you guys all riled up over a south park episode. But it made me think.
Both candidates weren't that great, and honestly it could be a puppet show, but I feel Romney got shafted. What if the only conspiracy here is on the Obama side, and Romney was hit so hard from the media out of context, he could have actually SAVED the country? I mean, he wanted to get tough on China, which obviously they wouldn't like..
I don't know guys, it just got me thinking. Nothing really adds up to me. Thoughts?
TL;DR - From what i'm seeing with the recent election, it was rushed and Obama was given the win, although not all votes weren't counted. It doesn't seem to add up for me. | Maybe I'm bat shit crazy, maybe I am over analyzing. Obama was given my state, OH, and my county wasn't even finished being counted when they gave him the electoral votes..
Now this may sound simply RETARDED, but I love south park. They always have a message behind a lot of their episodes. The recent one got me thinking, I mean.. all the votes weren't even finished counting, and they gave him the presidency. Am I just taking this too far? I feel like the way the world is nowadays, no one even cares that there could be voter fraud. I don't mean to again, sound retarded or get you guys all riled up over a south park episode. But it made me think.
Both candidates weren't that great, and honestly it could be a puppet show, but I feel Romney got shafted. What if the only conspiracy here is on the Obama side, and Romney was hit so hard from the media out of context, he could have actually SAVED the country? I mean, he wanted to get tough on China, which obviously they wouldn't like..
I don't know guys, it just got me thinking. Nothing really adds up to me. Thoughts?
TL;DR - From what i'm seeing with the recent election, it was rushed and Obama was given the win, although not all votes weren't counted. It doesn't seem to add up for me.
| conspiracy | t5_2qh4r | t3_12y6in | Maybe I'm bat shit crazy, maybe I am over analyzing. Obama was given my state, OH, and my county wasn't even finished being counted when they gave him the electoral votes..
Now this may sound simply RETARDED, but I love south park. They always have a message behind a lot of their episodes. The recent one got me thinking, I mean.. all the votes weren't even finished counting, and they gave him the presidency. Am I just taking this too far? I feel like the way the world is nowadays, no one even cares that there could be voter fraud. I don't mean to again, sound retarded or get you guys all riled up over a south park episode. But it made me think.
Both candidates weren't that great, and honestly it could be a puppet show, but I feel Romney got shafted. What if the only conspiracy here is on the Obama side, and Romney was hit so hard from the media out of context, he could have actually SAVED the country? I mean, he wanted to get tough on China, which obviously they wouldn't like..
I don't know guys, it just got me thinking. Nothing really adds up to me. Thoughts? | From what i'm seeing with the recent election, it was rushed and Obama was given the win, although not all votes weren't counted. It doesn't seem to add up for me. |
razzark666 | So I recently finished my program in Biochemistry and my last exam was for Organic Chemistry 3. While studying for that exam I noticed this gem of a question:
**19-57** (A true story.) A drug user responded to an ad placed by a DEA informant in a drug-culture magazine. He later flew from Colorado to Maryland, where he ought some 1-phenyl-2-propanone (P2P) from the informant. The police waited nearly a month for the suspect to synthesize something, then obtained a search warrant and searched the residence. They found the unopened bottle of P2P; apparently the suspect was not a good chemist and was unable to follow the instructions the informant gave him. They also found pipes and bongs with residues of marijuana and cocaine, plus a bottle of methylamine hydrochloride, some muriatic acid (dilute HCl), zinc strips, flasks, and other equipment.
**(a)** Assume you are consulting for the police. Show what synthesis the suspect was prepared to carry out, to provide probable cause for the charge of attempting to manufacture a controlled substance.
**(b)** Assume you are a member of the jury. Would you convict the defendant of attempting to manufacture a controlled substance?
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For those of you that don’t know here is a [sketch of P2P and methylamine hydrochloride]( Here is [the solution to **part (a)**](
The answer to **part (b)** from the solutions manual read like this:
The Jury acquitted the defendant on the charge of attempted manufacture of methamphetamine. There were legal problems with possible entrapment, plus the fact that he had never opened the bottle of the starting material. The defendant was convicted on several possession charges, however, and was awarded four years of institutional time to study organic chemistry.
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After looking at Wikipedia pages for other drugs I realized many are quite easy to synthesize and that if pursuing a legitimate carrier in Biochemistry doesn’t pan out at least my degree has carved a spot in the criminal world for me.
**tl;dr** My Organic Chemistry Textbook has a Question that tells you how to synthesize Meth.
edit: I made a mistake in the answer to **part (a)** and now fixed it... | So I recently finished my program in Biochemistry and my last exam was for Organic Chemistry 3. While studying for that exam I noticed this gem of a question:
19-57 (A true story.) A drug user responded to an ad placed by a DEA informant in a drug-culture magazine. He later flew from Colorado to Maryland, where he ought some 1-phenyl-2-propanone (P2P) from the informant. The police waited nearly a month for the suspect to synthesize something, then obtained a search warrant and searched the residence. They found the unopened bottle of P2P; apparently the suspect was not a good chemist and was unable to follow the instructions the informant gave him. They also found pipes and bongs with residues of marijuana and cocaine, plus a bottle of methylamine hydrochloride, some muriatic acid (dilute HCl), zinc strips, flasks, and other equipment.
(a) Assume you are consulting for the police. Show what synthesis the suspect was prepared to carry out, to provide probable cause for the charge of attempting to manufacture a controlled substance.
(b) Assume you are a member of the jury. Would you convict the defendant of attempting to manufacture a controlled substance?
For those of you that don’t know here is a sketch of P2P and methylamine hydrochloride **](
The answer to part (b) from the solutions manual read like this:
The Jury acquitted the defendant on the charge of attempted manufacture of methamphetamine. There were legal problems with possible entrapment, plus the fact that he had never opened the bottle of the starting material. The defendant was convicted on several possession charges, however, and was awarded four years of institutional time to study organic chemistry.
After looking at Wikipedia pages for other drugs I realized many are quite easy to synthesize and that if pursuing a legitimate carrier in Biochemistry doesn’t pan out at least my degree has carved a spot in the criminal world for me.
tl;dr My Organic Chemistry Textbook has a Question that tells you how to synthesize Meth.
edit: I made a mistake in the answer to part (a) and now fixed it...
| funny | t5_2qh33 | t3_bt35c | So I recently finished my program in Biochemistry and my last exam was for Organic Chemistry 3. While studying for that exam I noticed this gem of a question:
19-57 (A true story.) A drug user responded to an ad placed by a DEA informant in a drug-culture magazine. He later flew from Colorado to Maryland, where he ought some 1-phenyl-2-propanone (P2P) from the informant. The police waited nearly a month for the suspect to synthesize something, then obtained a search warrant and searched the residence. They found the unopened bottle of P2P; apparently the suspect was not a good chemist and was unable to follow the instructions the informant gave him. They also found pipes and bongs with residues of marijuana and cocaine, plus a bottle of methylamine hydrochloride, some muriatic acid (dilute HCl), zinc strips, flasks, and other equipment.
(a) Assume you are consulting for the police. Show what synthesis the suspect was prepared to carry out, to provide probable cause for the charge of attempting to manufacture a controlled substance.
(b) Assume you are a member of the jury. Would you convict the defendant of attempting to manufacture a controlled substance?
For those of you that don’t know here is a sketch of P2P and methylamine hydrochloride **](
The answer to part (b) from the solutions manual read like this:
The Jury acquitted the defendant on the charge of attempted manufacture of methamphetamine. There were legal problems with possible entrapment, plus the fact that he had never opened the bottle of the starting material. The defendant was convicted on several possession charges, however, and was awarded four years of institutional time to study organic chemistry.
After looking at Wikipedia pages for other drugs I realized many are quite easy to synthesize and that if pursuing a legitimate carrier in Biochemistry doesn’t pan out at least my degree has carved a spot in the criminal world for me. | My Organic Chemistry Textbook has a Question that tells you how to synthesize Meth.
edit: I made a mistake in the answer to part (a) and now fixed it... |
That_One_Thing11 | I started dating "Steven" a year ago. He was working around 60 hours a week then, bartending. I don't know exactly what happened, but he was let go from that job. He can have a very dry sense of humor which I suspect had something to do with it.
It really tore him up. He was very abused as a child, and had it drilled into his head that he was lazy and useless, and this was confirmation for him. Bear in mind that he has a muscle disability that makes it extremely difficult to stand for more than a few hours at a time, and he was working so much that he would literally crawl back to his house sometimes (unknown to me at the time). He became depressed, rarely leaving his room unless we were together, and applying for a few jobs.
After a month his uncle "Andrew" (from whom he was renting the room) told him that he needed to get his act together, and stop being lazy. Andrew told him how he was throwing away his opportunity (andrew and his wife chose to get a place with an extra room for him, and Steven moved to my town to get a job in the culinary industry there). Andrew said if he was going to fail, not to do it in front of him.
This bride Steven's heart, as Andrew was the only member of his family he felt really liked him and believed in him. Distraught, Steven packed his bags and moved two states away back to his hometown.
There he got a job at a video store and rented a room from a friend, while continuing to send rent money back to andrew. He hoped to work for a while and build up his confidence, figuring this wad a pretty difficult job to screw up.
A few weeks later he was fired again.
He has been in pretty bad shape ever since. I moved down with him for a few months, and when I moved to start school again he came with me. I'm happy he's in a place where he can have a fresh start, but now he also misses his best friend and is lonely.
I don't know what to do. I've helped him find a counselor in town, and I try to tell him I love him and be specific about why he is so wonderful and important. He believes that he is lazy, and will never ever amount to anything. He has been surviving off of his disability, but he hates feeling like he isn't contributing. He has been very down, which keeps him from making any steps to figure out some kind of plan. It tears me up to see him sad, but every time he sees it get to me I just makes him feel guilty, and then feel worse. I don't know what to do. I can't really even suggest he work at fast food because of his disability in his legs, especially since he never really healed from working so much bartending. Any thought and advice would be appreciated. Thanks!
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tl;dr : My boyfriend, who his entire life has been golf he is lazy and worthless, was fired from two jobs in a row. He is incredibly depressed and I don't know how else to help. | I started dating "Steven" a year ago. He was working around 60 hours a week then, bartending. I don't know exactly what happened, but he was let go from that job. He can have a very dry sense of humor which I suspect had something to do with it.
It really tore him up. He was very abused as a child, and had it drilled into his head that he was lazy and useless, and this was confirmation for him. Bear in mind that he has a muscle disability that makes it extremely difficult to stand for more than a few hours at a time, and he was working so much that he would literally crawl back to his house sometimes (unknown to me at the time). He became depressed, rarely leaving his room unless we were together, and applying for a few jobs.
After a month his uncle "Andrew" (from whom he was renting the room) told him that he needed to get his act together, and stop being lazy. Andrew told him how he was throwing away his opportunity (andrew and his wife chose to get a place with an extra room for him, and Steven moved to my town to get a job in the culinary industry there). Andrew said if he was going to fail, not to do it in front of him.
This bride Steven's heart, as Andrew was the only member of his family he felt really liked him and believed in him. Distraught, Steven packed his bags and moved two states away back to his hometown.
There he got a job at a video store and rented a room from a friend, while continuing to send rent money back to andrew. He hoped to work for a while and build up his confidence, figuring this wad a pretty difficult job to screw up.
A few weeks later he was fired again.
He has been in pretty bad shape ever since. I moved down with him for a few months, and when I moved to start school again he came with me. I'm happy he's in a place where he can have a fresh start, but now he also misses his best friend and is lonely.
I don't know what to do. I've helped him find a counselor in town, and I try to tell him I love him and be specific about why he is so wonderful and important. He believes that he is lazy, and will never ever amount to anything. He has been surviving off of his disability, but he hates feeling like he isn't contributing. He has been very down, which keeps him from making any steps to figure out some kind of plan. It tears me up to see him sad, but every time he sees it get to me I just makes him feel guilty, and then feel worse. I don't know what to do. I can't really even suggest he work at fast food because of his disability in his legs, especially since he never really healed from working so much bartending. Any thought and advice would be appreciated. Thanks!
tl;dr : My boyfriend, who his entire life has been golf he is lazy and worthless, was fired from two jobs in a row. He is incredibly depressed and I don't know how else to help.
| relationships | t5_2qjvn | t3_3eznji | I started dating "Steven" a year ago. He was working around 60 hours a week then, bartending. I don't know exactly what happened, but he was let go from that job. He can have a very dry sense of humor which I suspect had something to do with it.
It really tore him up. He was very abused as a child, and had it drilled into his head that he was lazy and useless, and this was confirmation for him. Bear in mind that he has a muscle disability that makes it extremely difficult to stand for more than a few hours at a time, and he was working so much that he would literally crawl back to his house sometimes (unknown to me at the time). He became depressed, rarely leaving his room unless we were together, and applying for a few jobs.
After a month his uncle "Andrew" (from whom he was renting the room) told him that he needed to get his act together, and stop being lazy. Andrew told him how he was throwing away his opportunity (andrew and his wife chose to get a place with an extra room for him, and Steven moved to my town to get a job in the culinary industry there). Andrew said if he was going to fail, not to do it in front of him.
This bride Steven's heart, as Andrew was the only member of his family he felt really liked him and believed in him. Distraught, Steven packed his bags and moved two states away back to his hometown.
There he got a job at a video store and rented a room from a friend, while continuing to send rent money back to andrew. He hoped to work for a while and build up his confidence, figuring this wad a pretty difficult job to screw up.
A few weeks later he was fired again.
He has been in pretty bad shape ever since. I moved down with him for a few months, and when I moved to start school again he came with me. I'm happy he's in a place where he can have a fresh start, but now he also misses his best friend and is lonely.
I don't know what to do. I've helped him find a counselor in town, and I try to tell him I love him and be specific about why he is so wonderful and important. He believes that he is lazy, and will never ever amount to anything. He has been surviving off of his disability, but he hates feeling like he isn't contributing. He has been very down, which keeps him from making any steps to figure out some kind of plan. It tears me up to see him sad, but every time he sees it get to me I just makes him feel guilty, and then feel worse. I don't know what to do. I can't really even suggest he work at fast food because of his disability in his legs, especially since he never really healed from working so much bartending. Any thought and advice would be appreciated. Thanks! | My boyfriend, who his entire life has been golf he is lazy and worthless, was fired from two jobs in a row. He is incredibly depressed and I don't know how else to help. |
Fife_ | im working on an intentionally stupid cube with all the morph creatures, multiplayer matters cards from commander and conspiracy sets and 'un' non-creature spells.
My question isn't whether this will be good (because I know it won't be) but rather how would people go around drafting a 360 card cube with usually 4-5 people, to play one multiplayer game? Do you draft the whole thing even if it takes ages or just miss some random cards out.
I want to make it 360 because I want the option to draft with & and have two multiplayer games split off and also because of how many morph creatures there are (around 177 actually).
Any answers and advice on the questions would be great fully received!
tldr;
How do you draft a 360 card, multiplayer cube with about 5 people? | im working on an intentionally stupid cube with all the morph creatures, multiplayer matters cards from commander and conspiracy sets and 'un' non-creature spells.
My question isn't whether this will be good (because I know it won't be) but rather how would people go around drafting a 360 card cube with usually 4-5 people, to play one multiplayer game? Do you draft the whole thing even if it takes ages or just miss some random cards out.
I want to make it 360 because I want the option to draft with & and have two multiplayer games split off and also because of how many morph creatures there are (around 177 actually).
Any answers and advice on the questions would be great fully received!
tldr;
How do you draft a 360 card, multiplayer cube with about 5 people?
| mtgcube | t5_2smkx | t3_525zgj | im working on an intentionally stupid cube with all the morph creatures, multiplayer matters cards from commander and conspiracy sets and 'un' non-creature spells.
My question isn't whether this will be good (because I know it won't be) but rather how would people go around drafting a 360 card cube with usually 4-5 people, to play one multiplayer game? Do you draft the whole thing even if it takes ages or just miss some random cards out.
I want to make it 360 because I want the option to draft with & and have two multiplayer games split off and also because of how many morph creatures there are (around 177 actually).
Any answers and advice on the questions would be great fully received! | How do you draft a 360 card, multiplayer cube with about 5 people? |
ManMadeHuman | I've always done this. Even before Steam. If there was a game I was interested in, I would wait until it came down price before buying. The only time I would dish out full price for a game was if it was a game I was actually waiting on to come out.
I do no different now. If it is one I'm just not that excited about, I'll wait for a steam sale if I buy it all. If it is one I really wanted (Skyrim for example) I bought it as soon as it was out.
It's just about how long you want to patient.
TLDR: The people who wait are most likely the same people who waited for the retail cost to come down before Steam started doing their thing. | I've always done this. Even before Steam. If there was a game I was interested in, I would wait until it came down price before buying. The only time I would dish out full price for a game was if it was a game I was actually waiting on to come out.
I do no different now. If it is one I'm just not that excited about, I'll wait for a steam sale if I buy it all. If it is one I really wanted (Skyrim for example) I bought it as soon as it was out.
It's just about how long you want to patient.
TLDR: The people who wait are most likely the same people who waited for the retail cost to come down before Steam started doing their thing.
| technology | t5_2qh16 | c4z7e9v | I've always done this. Even before Steam. If there was a game I was interested in, I would wait until it came down price before buying. The only time I would dish out full price for a game was if it was a game I was actually waiting on to come out.
I do no different now. If it is one I'm just not that excited about, I'll wait for a steam sale if I buy it all. If it is one I really wanted (Skyrim for example) I bought it as soon as it was out.
It's just about how long you want to patient. | The people who wait are most likely the same people who waited for the retail cost to come down before Steam started doing their thing. |
[deleted] | Alright, this coming Saturday my friends and I are having an anti-winter formal. We are dressing up like superheros and plan to make pot brownies and hang out, play music, etc.
There will be about 10 of us who will all pitch in to buy and I am trying to figure out if brownies are the best way to go? I've heard the high is different, how so?
If this seems like a good route, I've looked around the internet and there are soo many different answers on how we should go about making them but I would prefer to hear it from you guys! Thank you ahead of time!
**TLDR;Have any tips and instructions for making pot brownies? Do you prefer it over smoking?** | Alright, this coming Saturday my friends and I are having an anti-winter formal. We are dressing up like superheros and plan to make pot brownies and hang out, play music, etc.
There will be about 10 of us who will all pitch in to buy and I am trying to figure out if brownies are the best way to go? I've heard the high is different, how so?
If this seems like a good route, I've looked around the internet and there are soo many different answers on how we should go about making them but I would prefer to hear it from you guys! Thank you ahead of time!
TLDR;Have any tips and instructions for making pot brownies? Do you prefer it over smoking?
| trees | t5_2r9vp | t3_18u4at | Alright, this coming Saturday my friends and I are having an anti-winter formal. We are dressing up like superheros and plan to make pot brownies and hang out, play music, etc.
There will be about 10 of us who will all pitch in to buy and I am trying to figure out if brownies are the best way to go? I've heard the high is different, how so?
If this seems like a good route, I've looked around the internet and there are soo many different answers on how we should go about making them but I would prefer to hear it from you guys! Thank you ahead of time! | Have any tips and instructions for making pot brownies? Do you prefer it over smoking? |
COFFEE_IS_4_CLOSERS | I honestly believe that the process of going through a pledging process that involves hazing is not as harmful as the effects it has on the person once he/she is initiated into the fraternity/sorority.
At least with the organization I was apart of what tended to happen was 1) "brotherhood" closeness was only really present among pledge class members rather than throughout the whole frat (though by the time I left college, this was getting better), and 2) there was a constant perpetuation of the hazing with each new pledge class.
There's a lot of ways to describe #2 but in a nut shell the mentality was "if we had to go through this for our pledging, then so with the new guy." It was just frustrating for me to be continually butting heads with people who adamantly wanted to continue these practices for the sake of tradition despite the fact the amount of flack the frat could have received had the administration gotten word.
The worst part-we weren't even your stereotypical frat. In the frat system, there are two types: social (stereotypical) and professional (think the engineering frat). We hazed with quizzes, 24.7 scavenger hunts, and "character building." My friend in a social sorority said that one time when their pledges screwed up, they "punished" them with a night of girly drinks and the Victoria Secret fashion show with the other sisters.
Maybe I'm just jealous.
**TL:DR-my hazing didn't involve cosmos or fashion shows.** | I honestly believe that the process of going through a pledging process that involves hazing is not as harmful as the effects it has on the person once he/she is initiated into the fraternity/sorority.
At least with the organization I was apart of what tended to happen was 1) "brotherhood" closeness was only really present among pledge class members rather than throughout the whole frat (though by the time I left college, this was getting better), and 2) there was a constant perpetuation of the hazing with each new pledge class.
There's a lot of ways to describe #2 but in a nut shell the mentality was "if we had to go through this for our pledging, then so with the new guy." It was just frustrating for me to be continually butting heads with people who adamantly wanted to continue these practices for the sake of tradition despite the fact the amount of flack the frat could have received had the administration gotten word.
The worst part-we weren't even your stereotypical frat. In the frat system, there are two types: social (stereotypical) and professional (think the engineering frat). We hazed with quizzes, 24.7 scavenger hunts, and "character building." My friend in a social sorority said that one time when their pledges screwed up, they "punished" them with a night of girly drinks and the Victoria Secret fashion show with the other sisters.
Maybe I'm just jealous.
TL:DR-my hazing didn't involve cosmos or fashion shows.
| AskReddit | t5_2qh1i | c7vlu61 | I honestly believe that the process of going through a pledging process that involves hazing is not as harmful as the effects it has on the person once he/she is initiated into the fraternity/sorority.
At least with the organization I was apart of what tended to happen was 1) "brotherhood" closeness was only really present among pledge class members rather than throughout the whole frat (though by the time I left college, this was getting better), and 2) there was a constant perpetuation of the hazing with each new pledge class.
There's a lot of ways to describe #2 but in a nut shell the mentality was "if we had to go through this for our pledging, then so with the new guy." It was just frustrating for me to be continually butting heads with people who adamantly wanted to continue these practices for the sake of tradition despite the fact the amount of flack the frat could have received had the administration gotten word.
The worst part-we weren't even your stereotypical frat. In the frat system, there are two types: social (stereotypical) and professional (think the engineering frat). We hazed with quizzes, 24.7 scavenger hunts, and "character building." My friend in a social sorority said that one time when their pledges screwed up, they "punished" them with a night of girly drinks and the Victoria Secret fashion show with the other sisters.
Maybe I'm just jealous. | my hazing didn't involve cosmos or fashion shows. |
magnetsforbreakfast | I came home from work yesterday with not one, but two of those stuffed in the crack of my front door. When I opened the door they had fallen out. I didn't see the second flyer and slipped on it. Great practical joke, Jehovah's Witnesses. You win this time.
tl;dr: Jehovah's Witness flyers are equally effective as banana peels. | I came home from work yesterday with not one, but two of those stuffed in the crack of my front door. When I opened the door they had fallen out. I didn't see the second flyer and slipped on it. Great practical joke, Jehovah's Witnesses. You win this time.
tl;dr: Jehovah's Witness flyers are equally effective as banana peels.
| funny | t5_2qh33 | cdqj7do | I came home from work yesterday with not one, but two of those stuffed in the crack of my front door. When I opened the door they had fallen out. I didn't see the second flyer and slipped on it. Great practical joke, Jehovah's Witnesses. You win this time. | Jehovah's Witness flyers are equally effective as banana peels. |
shaneo632 | I've worked on and off in a professional capacity for various sites here and there. The main thing I would tell most people is that finding a job that pays you a livable weekly wage to review 5-6 movies per week is just not going to happen unless you end up writing for a newspaper, which is ridiculously competitive, and of course, once someone has a position they will try and stick with it until they die.
I got paid for my film reviewing by "packaging" it with feature work, which is much-less inspired, churned out work. The problem with the film reviewing economy is that these types of articles are always going to earn 10-20x the number of hits/revenue that a review will, so often it seems that the smartest way to earn cash from reviews is by proposing it to editors in the form of a feature-type article (possibly with multiple pages to enhance the click rate).
The overwhelming majority of people who attend screenings either do it part time or in a lot of cases work for free. There's a sad contradiction that as long as people are willing to work for free, websites making hundreds of thousands of pounds/dollars per year won't actually pay their staff for reviews, which is of course totally ridiculous.
In short: most websites outside of the biggies don't perceive reviews as worthy enough to pay their staff, so simply push the idea of seeing the film early and MAYBE getting to schmooze with a few stars during interviews/at the red carpet as payment enough (when of course, this costs more train fare in of itself, as press junkets are often on different days to the screening).
TLDR; getting paid to review movies is incredibly difficult, you likely won't be able to do it full-time, may have to make journalistic compromises...but if it's your true passion, I recommend pursuing it part-time after your day-job. Press screenings are typically after work hours, which was rather helpful for me when I was doing the circuit. | I've worked on and off in a professional capacity for various sites here and there. The main thing I would tell most people is that finding a job that pays you a livable weekly wage to review 5-6 movies per week is just not going to happen unless you end up writing for a newspaper, which is ridiculously competitive, and of course, once someone has a position they will try and stick with it until they die.
I got paid for my film reviewing by "packaging" it with feature work, which is much-less inspired, churned out work. The problem with the film reviewing economy is that these types of articles are always going to earn 10-20x the number of hits/revenue that a review will, so often it seems that the smartest way to earn cash from reviews is by proposing it to editors in the form of a feature-type article (possibly with multiple pages to enhance the click rate).
The overwhelming majority of people who attend screenings either do it part time or in a lot of cases work for free. There's a sad contradiction that as long as people are willing to work for free, websites making hundreds of thousands of pounds/dollars per year won't actually pay their staff for reviews, which is of course totally ridiculous.
In short: most websites outside of the biggies don't perceive reviews as worthy enough to pay their staff, so simply push the idea of seeing the film early and MAYBE getting to schmooze with a few stars during interviews/at the red carpet as payment enough (when of course, this costs more train fare in of itself, as press junkets are often on different days to the screening).
TLDR; getting paid to review movies is incredibly difficult, you likely won't be able to do it full-time, may have to make journalistic compromises...but if it's your true passion, I recommend pursuing it part-time after your day-job. Press screenings are typically after work hours, which was rather helpful for me when I was doing the circuit.
| movies | t5_2qh3s | clzvpca | I've worked on and off in a professional capacity for various sites here and there. The main thing I would tell most people is that finding a job that pays you a livable weekly wage to review 5-6 movies per week is just not going to happen unless you end up writing for a newspaper, which is ridiculously competitive, and of course, once someone has a position they will try and stick with it until they die.
I got paid for my film reviewing by "packaging" it with feature work, which is much-less inspired, churned out work. The problem with the film reviewing economy is that these types of articles are always going to earn 10-20x the number of hits/revenue that a review will, so often it seems that the smartest way to earn cash from reviews is by proposing it to editors in the form of a feature-type article (possibly with multiple pages to enhance the click rate).
The overwhelming majority of people who attend screenings either do it part time or in a lot of cases work for free. There's a sad contradiction that as long as people are willing to work for free, websites making hundreds of thousands of pounds/dollars per year won't actually pay their staff for reviews, which is of course totally ridiculous.
In short: most websites outside of the biggies don't perceive reviews as worthy enough to pay their staff, so simply push the idea of seeing the film early and MAYBE getting to schmooze with a few stars during interviews/at the red carpet as payment enough (when of course, this costs more train fare in of itself, as press junkets are often on different days to the screening). | getting paid to review movies is incredibly difficult, you likely won't be able to do it full-time, may have to make journalistic compromises...but if it's your true passion, I recommend pursuing it part-time after your day-job. Press screenings are typically after work hours, which was rather helpful for me when I was doing the circuit. |
Expert_on_all_topics | Chickens and eggs taste biologically the same, however as the egg grows up and becomes a chicken it is riddled with impurities which is what gives chicken an alternative taste.
tldr: Chickens and eggs taste the same, other parts on the chicken doesn't | Chickens and eggs taste biologically the same, however as the egg grows up and becomes a chicken it is riddled with impurities which is what gives chicken an alternative taste.
tldr: Chickens and eggs taste the same, other parts on the chicken doesn't
| shittyaskscience | t5_2sw51 | ccbg1bi | Chickens and eggs taste biologically the same, however as the egg grows up and becomes a chicken it is riddled with impurities which is what gives chicken an alternative taste. | Chickens and eggs taste the same, other parts on the chicken doesn't |
Beastmode101 | I didn't think it was a waste of money.
I don't agree with everything in his book, but I think it's decent.
I'm running the program right now, or did day 1 at least. I'm a full time student so I don't have 2-3 hours to spend in the gym. I need to go in, do shit, and get out. I used to spend 2-3 hours cause my volume was so high (pro- I developed high work capacity and can handle a ton of volume and still recover) so this program was different.
I got in, lifted, got out in under 50 mins. I'd say if you don't want to look like a bottom heavy person, e.g. those coming off of SS, then pick this up. It's a nice change of pace.
I'm modifying the program by adding more sets and reps, as well as some more accessory work (bodybuilder type stuff).
tldr- pick it up if you're tired of the SS approach of only training legs. the book has some ideas that I don't agree with (decrease volume, volume doesn't really matter) so I don't follow it and I add more volume. | I didn't think it was a waste of money.
I don't agree with everything in his book, but I think it's decent.
I'm running the program right now, or did day 1 at least. I'm a full time student so I don't have 2-3 hours to spend in the gym. I need to go in, do shit, and get out. I used to spend 2-3 hours cause my volume was so high (pro- I developed high work capacity and can handle a ton of volume and still recover) so this program was different.
I got in, lifted, got out in under 50 mins. I'd say if you don't want to look like a bottom heavy person, e.g. those coming off of SS, then pick this up. It's a nice change of pace.
I'm modifying the program by adding more sets and reps, as well as some more accessory work (bodybuilder type stuff).
tldr- pick it up if you're tired of the SS approach of only training legs. the book has some ideas that I don't agree with (decrease volume, volume doesn't really matter) so I don't follow it and I add more volume.
| weightroom | t5_2ssmu | covbt4i | I didn't think it was a waste of money.
I don't agree with everything in his book, but I think it's decent.
I'm running the program right now, or did day 1 at least. I'm a full time student so I don't have 2-3 hours to spend in the gym. I need to go in, do shit, and get out. I used to spend 2-3 hours cause my volume was so high (pro- I developed high work capacity and can handle a ton of volume and still recover) so this program was different.
I got in, lifted, got out in under 50 mins. I'd say if you don't want to look like a bottom heavy person, e.g. those coming off of SS, then pick this up. It's a nice change of pace.
I'm modifying the program by adding more sets and reps, as well as some more accessory work (bodybuilder type stuff). | pick it up if you're tired of the SS approach of only training legs. the book has some ideas that I don't agree with (decrease volume, volume doesn't really matter) so I don't follow it and I add more volume. |
Throwawayflight4555 | So my girlfriend lives abroad and I had bought flight tickets to be able to be with her. Already before the flight she lacked interaction with me on skype, the only place where we could talk and I didn't feel okay with this. Well I traveled to her place, met her and she was just a zombie, probably because of her allnighter. We sleep at her place and I thought it would be better the next day.
Next day. She has school so I wonder around the city for approx 7 hours just waitinf for her. When her school ended and we met, she felt so distant. We had a deeptalk about the situation, told her how I've thought about breaking up with her but we ended in a solution to try. She promised to give me more attention. She did a all nighter so I was alone that night...
Yesterday. We went out after I met some of her friends. Did later together food (us two and the friends) and then we proceeded to watch a movie. Not a single time when we were around her friends, did she give any signal of me being her boyfriend, e.g. hugging or somethinf. Absolutely nothing. She neither did that when we were outside earlier. So it's time to go to sleep. She asks if it's okay that we just sleep and I say it's okay. Well she proceeda to chat with one of the mates we made food with 5 minutes on. I asked her if it can wait till morning but no. After she quitted, she said nothing. Got pissed, put on somd clothes and went to sleep to the sofa. Sent her a few messages about the situation that I'm mad but she wouldnt wake up. Went to get a pillow and woke her up by poking her with her iphone. When she woke up I said "read" and went to the sofa. Couldnt sleep and 1.5h later while grabbing my waterbottle from the room, she was gone. I just wanted to get the thing solved so I tried calling her. She had gone to her friends place to sleep. Slept in the bed this night.
Today. Waking up, no msg or sound of her, in her bed typing this thing to you guys. What should I do?
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**tl;dr**: Girlfriend doesnt seem like girlfriend anymore, putting her friend she meeta everyday ahead of me. | So my girlfriend lives abroad and I had bought flight tickets to be able to be with her. Already before the flight she lacked interaction with me on skype, the only place where we could talk and I didn't feel okay with this. Well I traveled to her place, met her and she was just a zombie, probably because of her allnighter. We sleep at her place and I thought it would be better the next day.
Next day. She has school so I wonder around the city for approx 7 hours just waitinf for her. When her school ended and we met, she felt so distant. We had a deeptalk about the situation, told her how I've thought about breaking up with her but we ended in a solution to try. She promised to give me more attention. She did a all nighter so I was alone that night...
Yesterday. We went out after I met some of her friends. Did later together food (us two and the friends) and then we proceeded to watch a movie. Not a single time when we were around her friends, did she give any signal of me being her boyfriend, e.g. hugging or somethinf. Absolutely nothing. She neither did that when we were outside earlier. So it's time to go to sleep. She asks if it's okay that we just sleep and I say it's okay. Well she proceeda to chat with one of the mates we made food with 5 minutes on. I asked her if it can wait till morning but no. After she quitted, she said nothing. Got pissed, put on somd clothes and went to sleep to the sofa. Sent her a few messages about the situation that I'm mad but she wouldnt wake up. Went to get a pillow and woke her up by poking her with her iphone. When she woke up I said "read" and went to the sofa. Couldnt sleep and 1.5h later while grabbing my waterbottle from the room, she was gone. I just wanted to get the thing solved so I tried calling her. She had gone to her friends place to sleep. Slept in the bed this night.
Today. Waking up, no msg or sound of her, in her bed typing this thing to you guys. What should I do?
tl;dr : Girlfriend doesnt seem like girlfriend anymore, putting her friend she meeta everyday ahead of me.
| relationships | t5_2qjvn | t3_1pazms | So my girlfriend lives abroad and I had bought flight tickets to be able to be with her. Already before the flight she lacked interaction with me on skype, the only place where we could talk and I didn't feel okay with this. Well I traveled to her place, met her and she was just a zombie, probably because of her allnighter. We sleep at her place and I thought it would be better the next day.
Next day. She has school so I wonder around the city for approx 7 hours just waitinf for her. When her school ended and we met, she felt so distant. We had a deeptalk about the situation, told her how I've thought about breaking up with her but we ended in a solution to try. She promised to give me more attention. She did a all nighter so I was alone that night...
Yesterday. We went out after I met some of her friends. Did later together food (us two and the friends) and then we proceeded to watch a movie. Not a single time when we were around her friends, did she give any signal of me being her boyfriend, e.g. hugging or somethinf. Absolutely nothing. She neither did that when we were outside earlier. So it's time to go to sleep. She asks if it's okay that we just sleep and I say it's okay. Well she proceeda to chat with one of the mates we made food with 5 minutes on. I asked her if it can wait till morning but no. After she quitted, she said nothing. Got pissed, put on somd clothes and went to sleep to the sofa. Sent her a few messages about the situation that I'm mad but she wouldnt wake up. Went to get a pillow and woke her up by poking her with her iphone. When she woke up I said "read" and went to the sofa. Couldnt sleep and 1.5h later while grabbing my waterbottle from the room, she was gone. I just wanted to get the thing solved so I tried calling her. She had gone to her friends place to sleep. Slept in the bed this night.
Today. Waking up, no msg or sound of her, in her bed typing this thing to you guys. What should I do? | Girlfriend doesnt seem like girlfriend anymore, putting her friend she meeta everyday ahead of me. |
squidboots | In my workplace, relatively few calls to support have to do with hardware knowledge issues. Most have to do with software usability or hardware reliability. Letting people use their own hardware will not directly address these issues, but it will create a nightmare for compatibility, especially in mobile environments. It's hard enough of those of us working in user experience getting stuff to play nice with each other AND get users to understand it without throwing hardware and OS compatibility issues into the mix. Not to mention the front line support staff training would have to be completely-reworked and new documentation developed for each new OS environment and major hardware platform adapted. There's very good reasons why we standardize where we can.
TL;DR - this article is completely divorced from the reality of enterprise-level IT support. | In my workplace, relatively few calls to support have to do with hardware knowledge issues. Most have to do with software usability or hardware reliability. Letting people use their own hardware will not directly address these issues, but it will create a nightmare for compatibility, especially in mobile environments. It's hard enough of those of us working in user experience getting stuff to play nice with each other AND get users to understand it without throwing hardware and OS compatibility issues into the mix. Not to mention the front line support staff training would have to be completely-reworked and new documentation developed for each new OS environment and major hardware platform adapted. There's very good reasons why we standardize where we can.
TL;DR - this article is completely divorced from the reality of enterprise-level IT support.
| business | t5_2qgzg | ce2f7py | In my workplace, relatively few calls to support have to do with hardware knowledge issues. Most have to do with software usability or hardware reliability. Letting people use their own hardware will not directly address these issues, but it will create a nightmare for compatibility, especially in mobile environments. It's hard enough of those of us working in user experience getting stuff to play nice with each other AND get users to understand it without throwing hardware and OS compatibility issues into the mix. Not to mention the front line support staff training would have to be completely-reworked and new documentation developed for each new OS environment and major hardware platform adapted. There's very good reasons why we standardize where we can. | this article is completely divorced from the reality of enterprise-level IT support. |
[deleted] | I originally posted this at r/polyamory, because I didn't realize this subreddit existed.
My husband and I - we are both men - are not sexually exclusive. Lately we have been hanging out with this new gentleman. It's our typical arrangement with third parties, which is basically friends-with-benefits. Except, I'm running into a problem. The dude seems to like my husband a lot more than me.
The first night we hooked up, we were all drunk and he was very possessive of my husband and dismissive of me. Kissed my husband deeply, passionately then would give me a peck and go back to my husband. Pushed me away a couple of times. While I *hate* when this happens and how awkward it becomes, I rolled with it because, well, we're not new to this and I know it's not always ideal.
However, the next time we were planning to hang out, I gently mentioned what we'd observed and that if he was only interested in my husband that was totally fine, but that he should let us know. I understand that right here may be one of the biggest variables. He was on the spot and may have not felt comfortable saying what he actually felt. That said, I really think I did a good job of making it clear that it was not a problem to say he preferred my husband, but he needed to say that if it was the case. Maybe he really wanted to but couldn't in that moment. I don't know. But he did say that he was interested in *both* of us, so we tried to proceed as normal.The other two times we've had sex have been sober and a bit more... egalitarian, but still he obviously leans towards my husband. When we all snuggle in bed, he only really tries to snuggle my husband. And lately we both realized that he never responds to my texts, calls, IMs or anything but responds to everything my husband sends him.
So now I'm unsure of how to proceed. I don't have a problem with my husband having solo encounters with guys, so if that was what this person wanted, I might be okay with it. But he specifically said he didn't want that. However, his actions tell a different story and now I'm left confused and more than a little annoyed. They've now established this kind of bond, and I feel on the outside of it. My husband isn't pleased about this either, but doesn't know how to proceed. Wile I want to hang out with this guy, I feel uncomfortable about the idea, because I don't want to feel like a third wheel in my own relationship and I'm also kind of annoyed that he has ignored all my attempts at communication. It just seems kind of rude and unfriendly.
I will admit that this is all made difficult by the fact that it seems like every person we know either loves us both equally or very obviously likes my husband better. Mostly it's equal, but there have been multiple people - friends, family and a bunch of sexual partners - who have obviously gravitated towards him over me. The opposite has never happened. No one has every showed a preference in me. Rationally, I understand that this doesn't matter and I try not to let it get to me. In five years, it really hasn't. But this one was just the straw that broke the camels back and it just bummed me out a bunch.
My question is: how have you guys dealt with an imbalance like this? Further, have you had a third party claim interest in both of you but then behave like he is into only one of you? I really like this dude and would love to be his friend and/or fuckbuddy but I don't want to feel like a third wheel in my own relationship. I know my husband wants to hang out with him again in theory but is also really bothered by what's going on. Any thoughts would be very appreciated.
tl;dr - A third/friend says he likes both of us but behaves like he only really likes my husband. What do? | I originally posted this at r/polyamory, because I didn't realize this subreddit existed.
My husband and I - we are both men - are not sexually exclusive. Lately we have been hanging out with this new gentleman. It's our typical arrangement with third parties, which is basically friends-with-benefits. Except, I'm running into a problem. The dude seems to like my husband a lot more than me.
The first night we hooked up, we were all drunk and he was very possessive of my husband and dismissive of me. Kissed my husband deeply, passionately then would give me a peck and go back to my husband. Pushed me away a couple of times. While I hate when this happens and how awkward it becomes, I rolled with it because, well, we're not new to this and I know it's not always ideal.
However, the next time we were planning to hang out, I gently mentioned what we'd observed and that if he was only interested in my husband that was totally fine, but that he should let us know. I understand that right here may be one of the biggest variables. He was on the spot and may have not felt comfortable saying what he actually felt. That said, I really think I did a good job of making it clear that it was not a problem to say he preferred my husband, but he needed to say that if it was the case. Maybe he really wanted to but couldn't in that moment. I don't know. But he did say that he was interested in both of us, so we tried to proceed as normal.The other two times we've had sex have been sober and a bit more... egalitarian, but still he obviously leans towards my husband. When we all snuggle in bed, he only really tries to snuggle my husband. And lately we both realized that he never responds to my texts, calls, IMs or anything but responds to everything my husband sends him.
So now I'm unsure of how to proceed. I don't have a problem with my husband having solo encounters with guys, so if that was what this person wanted, I might be okay with it. But he specifically said he didn't want that. However, his actions tell a different story and now I'm left confused and more than a little annoyed. They've now established this kind of bond, and I feel on the outside of it. My husband isn't pleased about this either, but doesn't know how to proceed. Wile I want to hang out with this guy, I feel uncomfortable about the idea, because I don't want to feel like a third wheel in my own relationship and I'm also kind of annoyed that he has ignored all my attempts at communication. It just seems kind of rude and unfriendly.
I will admit that this is all made difficult by the fact that it seems like every person we know either loves us both equally or very obviously likes my husband better. Mostly it's equal, but there have been multiple people - friends, family and a bunch of sexual partners - who have obviously gravitated towards him over me. The opposite has never happened. No one has every showed a preference in me. Rationally, I understand that this doesn't matter and I try not to let it get to me. In five years, it really hasn't. But this one was just the straw that broke the camels back and it just bummed me out a bunch.
My question is: how have you guys dealt with an imbalance like this? Further, have you had a third party claim interest in both of you but then behave like he is into only one of you? I really like this dude and would love to be his friend and/or fuckbuddy but I don't want to feel like a third wheel in my own relationship. I know my husband wants to hang out with him again in theory but is also really bothered by what's going on. Any thoughts would be very appreciated.
tl;dr - A third/friend says he likes both of us but behaves like he only really likes my husband. What do?
| nonmonogamy | t5_2rc24 | t3_163ahw | I originally posted this at r/polyamory, because I didn't realize this subreddit existed.
My husband and I - we are both men - are not sexually exclusive. Lately we have been hanging out with this new gentleman. It's our typical arrangement with third parties, which is basically friends-with-benefits. Except, I'm running into a problem. The dude seems to like my husband a lot more than me.
The first night we hooked up, we were all drunk and he was very possessive of my husband and dismissive of me. Kissed my husband deeply, passionately then would give me a peck and go back to my husband. Pushed me away a couple of times. While I hate when this happens and how awkward it becomes, I rolled with it because, well, we're not new to this and I know it's not always ideal.
However, the next time we were planning to hang out, I gently mentioned what we'd observed and that if he was only interested in my husband that was totally fine, but that he should let us know. I understand that right here may be one of the biggest variables. He was on the spot and may have not felt comfortable saying what he actually felt. That said, I really think I did a good job of making it clear that it was not a problem to say he preferred my husband, but he needed to say that if it was the case. Maybe he really wanted to but couldn't in that moment. I don't know. But he did say that he was interested in both of us, so we tried to proceed as normal.The other two times we've had sex have been sober and a bit more... egalitarian, but still he obviously leans towards my husband. When we all snuggle in bed, he only really tries to snuggle my husband. And lately we both realized that he never responds to my texts, calls, IMs or anything but responds to everything my husband sends him.
So now I'm unsure of how to proceed. I don't have a problem with my husband having solo encounters with guys, so if that was what this person wanted, I might be okay with it. But he specifically said he didn't want that. However, his actions tell a different story and now I'm left confused and more than a little annoyed. They've now established this kind of bond, and I feel on the outside of it. My husband isn't pleased about this either, but doesn't know how to proceed. Wile I want to hang out with this guy, I feel uncomfortable about the idea, because I don't want to feel like a third wheel in my own relationship and I'm also kind of annoyed that he has ignored all my attempts at communication. It just seems kind of rude and unfriendly.
I will admit that this is all made difficult by the fact that it seems like every person we know either loves us both equally or very obviously likes my husband better. Mostly it's equal, but there have been multiple people - friends, family and a bunch of sexual partners - who have obviously gravitated towards him over me. The opposite has never happened. No one has every showed a preference in me. Rationally, I understand that this doesn't matter and I try not to let it get to me. In five years, it really hasn't. But this one was just the straw that broke the camels back and it just bummed me out a bunch.
My question is: how have you guys dealt with an imbalance like this? Further, have you had a third party claim interest in both of you but then behave like he is into only one of you? I really like this dude and would love to be his friend and/or fuckbuddy but I don't want to feel like a third wheel in my own relationship. I know my husband wants to hang out with him again in theory but is also really bothered by what's going on. Any thoughts would be very appreciated. | A third/friend says he likes both of us but behaves like he only really likes my husband. What do? |
Journalisto | It did but, to be honest, it was nothing compared to breaking my hand and getting surgery there. Overall, I would recommend surgery to anybody who has a displaced clavicle fracture. The biggest pain was mental for me. My shoulder was noticeably shorter for a whole year. I have broad, manly shoulders and one was gimped by the bad healing. I was also considerably weaker. I let it get to me - hating the way it looked (this coming from a guy who usually never gives a shit about appearance). I also hated the way it felt - tense all the time. I'm glad the doctor fixed it, but now it feels really spongy after working out and it gets tired when I type for long periods which is a bummer because I am a newspaper journalist.
TL;DR: On a physical pain scale, I've felt much worse, but the mental pain was a nightmare. | It did but, to be honest, it was nothing compared to breaking my hand and getting surgery there. Overall, I would recommend surgery to anybody who has a displaced clavicle fracture. The biggest pain was mental for me. My shoulder was noticeably shorter for a whole year. I have broad, manly shoulders and one was gimped by the bad healing. I was also considerably weaker. I let it get to me - hating the way it looked (this coming from a guy who usually never gives a shit about appearance). I also hated the way it felt - tense all the time. I'm glad the doctor fixed it, but now it feels really spongy after working out and it gets tired when I type for long periods which is a bummer because I am a newspaper journalist.
TL;DR: On a physical pain scale, I've felt much worse, but the mental pain was a nightmare.
| WTF | t5_2qh61 | c4joiy3 | It did but, to be honest, it was nothing compared to breaking my hand and getting surgery there. Overall, I would recommend surgery to anybody who has a displaced clavicle fracture. The biggest pain was mental for me. My shoulder was noticeably shorter for a whole year. I have broad, manly shoulders and one was gimped by the bad healing. I was also considerably weaker. I let it get to me - hating the way it looked (this coming from a guy who usually never gives a shit about appearance). I also hated the way it felt - tense all the time. I'm glad the doctor fixed it, but now it feels really spongy after working out and it gets tired when I type for long periods which is a bummer because I am a newspaper journalist. | On a physical pain scale, I've felt much worse, but the mental pain was a nightmare. |
BlizzardFenrir | Mareep, Flaaffy and Ampharos are based on sheep. Each evolution, it loses more and more of its wool. So apparently, the Mega Evolution of Ampharos gains back its wool for extra power and fluffyness.
tl;dr: it's wool. | Mareep, Flaaffy and Ampharos are based on sheep. Each evolution, it loses more and more of its wool. So apparently, the Mega Evolution of Ampharos gains back its wool for extra power and fluffyness.
tl;dr: it's wool.
| pokemon | t5_2qmeb | cbn39xw | Mareep, Flaaffy and Ampharos are based on sheep. Each evolution, it loses more and more of its wool. So apparently, the Mega Evolution of Ampharos gains back its wool for extra power and fluffyness. | it's wool. |
Senpai_Noo | I have a fiverr account where i charge $5 per 20 words in a song. Since i started i have grown a lot and gotten a lot better at it. Shout i keep charging this amount or am i being underpaid?
**Also fiverr takes 20% of the total price off the top** and they also leave the funds sitting in their account to gain interest for **2 weeks** before they're released to me.
Are there any other platforms i can sale my talents that are better than fiverr? I just don't know what to do I'm getting so frustrated with fiverr.
**tl;dr I fell like I'm being underpaid and fiverr sucks.** | I have a fiverr account where i charge $5 per 20 words in a song. Since i started i have grown a lot and gotten a lot better at it. Shout i keep charging this amount or am i being underpaid?
Also fiverr takes 20% of the total price off the top and they also leave the funds sitting in their account to gain interest for 2 weeks before they're released to me.
Are there any other platforms i can sale my talents that are better than fiverr? I just don't know what to do I'm getting so frustrated with fiverr.
tl;dr I fell like I'm being underpaid and fiverr sucks.
| motiongraphics | t5_2qi3l | t3_476ko9 | I have a fiverr account where i charge $5 per 20 words in a song. Since i started i have grown a lot and gotten a lot better at it. Shout i keep charging this amount or am i being underpaid?
Also fiverr takes 20% of the total price off the top and they also leave the funds sitting in their account to gain interest for 2 weeks before they're released to me.
Are there any other platforms i can sale my talents that are better than fiverr? I just don't know what to do I'm getting so frustrated with fiverr. | I fell like I'm being underpaid and fiverr sucks. |
YT_WhyAmISoBadAtThis | The game is great, but nothing gets my blood pumping like fighting the "BOSS". Let's get some mini bosses in the game? Some varying boss mechanics (one boss that can only be melee'd, one boss that is invisible, one boss that you have to shoot from behind, etc....)
tl;dr, bosses are cool, let's get some more. | The game is great, but nothing gets my blood pumping like fighting the "BOSS". Let's get some mini bosses in the game? Some varying boss mechanics (one boss that can only be melee'd, one boss that is invisible, one boss that you have to shoot from behind, etc....)
tl;dr, bosses are cool, let's get some more.
| killingfloor | t5_2rf65 | t3_33w7wk | The game is great, but nothing gets my blood pumping like fighting the "BOSS". Let's get some mini bosses in the game? Some varying boss mechanics (one boss that can only be melee'd, one boss that is invisible, one boss that you have to shoot from behind, etc....) | bosses are cool, let's get some more. |
TacoTweets | Hockey player here.
Regulation hockey nets are 4 ft. tall x 6 ft. wide. Regardless of how obese this person is, it's incredibly unlikely any human being would be 6 feet wide at any part of their body.
With this in mind, realize that hockey pucks consistently travel anywhere between 70 to 100mph, entirely too fast for even some of the most agile human beings on the planet to react to.
Even if a goalie tried to stay still and use his body mass as a wall, he would be at the mercy of world class athletes reaching speeds of nearly 30 mph.
At said speeds, these men are able to expertly remain in control of a vulcanized rubber disc that is barely more than an inch thick and three inches wide. They are able to move the puck in several directions, all in milliseconds.
Hockey goalies are arguably the most skilled athletes in the world, considering the position is one of the most difficult in all of team sport.
**tl;dr** World class athletes>fat people | Hockey player here.
Regulation hockey nets are 4 ft. tall x 6 ft. wide. Regardless of how obese this person is, it's incredibly unlikely any human being would be 6 feet wide at any part of their body.
With this in mind, realize that hockey pucks consistently travel anywhere between 70 to 100mph, entirely too fast for even some of the most agile human beings on the planet to react to.
Even if a goalie tried to stay still and use his body mass as a wall, he would be at the mercy of world class athletes reaching speeds of nearly 30 mph.
At said speeds, these men are able to expertly remain in control of a vulcanized rubber disc that is barely more than an inch thick and three inches wide. They are able to move the puck in several directions, all in milliseconds.
Hockey goalies are arguably the most skilled athletes in the world, considering the position is one of the most difficult in all of team sport.
tl;dr World class athletes>fat people
| AskReddit | t5_2qh1i | c12xsfw | Hockey player here.
Regulation hockey nets are 4 ft. tall x 6 ft. wide. Regardless of how obese this person is, it's incredibly unlikely any human being would be 6 feet wide at any part of their body.
With this in mind, realize that hockey pucks consistently travel anywhere between 70 to 100mph, entirely too fast for even some of the most agile human beings on the planet to react to.
Even if a goalie tried to stay still and use his body mass as a wall, he would be at the mercy of world class athletes reaching speeds of nearly 30 mph.
At said speeds, these men are able to expertly remain in control of a vulcanized rubber disc that is barely more than an inch thick and three inches wide. They are able to move the puck in several directions, all in milliseconds.
Hockey goalies are arguably the most skilled athletes in the world, considering the position is one of the most difficult in all of team sport. | World class athletes>fat people |
TheWight | So this happened nearly seven months ago now, I'm starting to see my life in a kind of BC/AD way with regards to this event.
So I went interrailing with a couple of friends of mine last summer. For the unaware, "interrailing" is a wonderful system that Europeans such as myself (UK) have enjoyed for half a century now. Essentially you dish out a large amount of cash for a ticket that allows you to board any train in the EU for a month. My mother did it in the seventies and now it was my turn.
Many teenage kicks ensued.
Towards the end of the trip we found ourselves in Rome, at almost 4am wandering the streets drunkenly realising that we probably *weren't* going to find any clubs open at this time. So we opted in stead for a peregrination to an establishment bearing the crest of "McDonalds". And it was during this quest for grotesquely processed produce that my lovely fuck-up occurred.
Yes, I was very drunk. Not the most drunk I had been that trip, not by far, but certainly very inebriated. Fuelled by near a full month of adolescent romps my ego was concerned that I prove that I was most certainly, a wild one. Yes, I was one of the cool kids. Look, I just climbed to the top of this ladder! Look, I just climbed to the top of this wall!
Ah, how do I get down again? The voice of my friend, next to me, who also scaled the fence like a horny squirrel, is now anxiously encouraging me to jump down, quick. I look down. Pavement. Well, I'll have to get over my fear of heights some time, why not now?
This is going to hurt, isn't it?
Yes.
S is convinced I'm just being a massive puss again but calls an ambulance for me just to make sure. C later revealed he, too, thought I was overreacting when he heard the first scream, but then I kept screaming. And screaming. I stopped screaming, they went to get McDonalds. I'm alone. I feel like I'm dying. It hurts like hell, but even more I'm the thirstiest I've ever been. I'm so thirsty. Everything starts spinning. I can't breath. I'm dying, oh shit. I remember some breathing excercises. I practice them. Sanity reasserts itself. The friends return, and soon an ambulance arrives. C forgot to pick up my fuckin water. I didn't care much at the time. I kept thinking how nice all the staff were in spite of being clearly exhausted. Agua, por favore. Grazie.
Broken calcaneus. Lover's fracture. I fucked up my heel bone. The rest of my summer was pretty boring after I got home a few days later. It took so fucking long to walk again. All the muscles in my right leg wasted while I was in the cast, they're still not back yet, quite. Life is good, university is cool, if a bit lonely. But the doctor said I might never feel normal again. Walking. I should avoid "high impact training". Like what? Running?
Fucking running?
I run everywhere. I used to. In secondary school I was that weird kid who runs everywhere. It's a part of me in a big way, I've always done it. I still can't run now, in mid-february. I've mostly got my physical confidence back, I even went to Poland and learnt how to snowboard last week (I know, I'm fucking lucky), but I can't run and I still limp. My life is fucking awesome, objectively, but a piece is missing. It sucks. I don't mind getting arthritis when I'm old so much, but I want to be able to be young. I didn't feel regretful at the time, jumping off that wall felt like an inevitability, but I thought my young body would bounce back in a couple of months. I didn't even consider it could be permanent.
I still think I will be able to run again, but I hope you can agree this is fucking annoying.
HELLO ALL YOUNG PEOPLE. You are not indestructible. Not only can you die, but your body is actually very fragile. You're probably imagining I jumped off some giant wall. Nope. Dude, it was about eight feet. I really didn't think that height could permanently fuck you up, but yeah, it can. Be careful out there, have fun, be rad and break the rules but don't ever think you have something to prove by jumping off shit. Don't drink and climb.
Uhh yeah, love u reddit xxx
TL;DR: Jumped off wall bc drunk, permanent heel damage. I am forever cast as a lover. | So this happened nearly seven months ago now, I'm starting to see my life in a kind of BC/AD way with regards to this event.
So I went interrailing with a couple of friends of mine last summer. For the unaware, "interrailing" is a wonderful system that Europeans such as myself (UK) have enjoyed for half a century now. Essentially you dish out a large amount of cash for a ticket that allows you to board any train in the EU for a month. My mother did it in the seventies and now it was my turn.
Many teenage kicks ensued.
Towards the end of the trip we found ourselves in Rome, at almost 4am wandering the streets drunkenly realising that we probably weren't going to find any clubs open at this time. So we opted in stead for a peregrination to an establishment bearing the crest of "McDonalds". And it was during this quest for grotesquely processed produce that my lovely fuck-up occurred.
Yes, I was very drunk. Not the most drunk I had been that trip, not by far, but certainly very inebriated. Fuelled by near a full month of adolescent romps my ego was concerned that I prove that I was most certainly, a wild one. Yes, I was one of the cool kids. Look, I just climbed to the top of this ladder! Look, I just climbed to the top of this wall!
Ah, how do I get down again? The voice of my friend, next to me, who also scaled the fence like a horny squirrel, is now anxiously encouraging me to jump down, quick. I look down. Pavement. Well, I'll have to get over my fear of heights some time, why not now?
This is going to hurt, isn't it?
Yes.
S is convinced I'm just being a massive puss again but calls an ambulance for me just to make sure. C later revealed he, too, thought I was overreacting when he heard the first scream, but then I kept screaming. And screaming. I stopped screaming, they went to get McDonalds. I'm alone. I feel like I'm dying. It hurts like hell, but even more I'm the thirstiest I've ever been. I'm so thirsty. Everything starts spinning. I can't breath. I'm dying, oh shit. I remember some breathing excercises. I practice them. Sanity reasserts itself. The friends return, and soon an ambulance arrives. C forgot to pick up my fuckin water. I didn't care much at the time. I kept thinking how nice all the staff were in spite of being clearly exhausted. Agua, por favore. Grazie.
Broken calcaneus. Lover's fracture. I fucked up my heel bone. The rest of my summer was pretty boring after I got home a few days later. It took so fucking long to walk again. All the muscles in my right leg wasted while I was in the cast, they're still not back yet, quite. Life is good, university is cool, if a bit lonely. But the doctor said I might never feel normal again. Walking. I should avoid "high impact training". Like what? Running?
Fucking running?
I run everywhere. I used to. In secondary school I was that weird kid who runs everywhere. It's a part of me in a big way, I've always done it. I still can't run now, in mid-february. I've mostly got my physical confidence back, I even went to Poland and learnt how to snowboard last week (I know, I'm fucking lucky), but I can't run and I still limp. My life is fucking awesome, objectively, but a piece is missing. It sucks. I don't mind getting arthritis when I'm old so much, but I want to be able to be young. I didn't feel regretful at the time, jumping off that wall felt like an inevitability, but I thought my young body would bounce back in a couple of months. I didn't even consider it could be permanent.
I still think I will be able to run again, but I hope you can agree this is fucking annoying.
HELLO ALL YOUNG PEOPLE. You are not indestructible. Not only can you die, but your body is actually very fragile. You're probably imagining I jumped off some giant wall. Nope. Dude, it was about eight feet. I really didn't think that height could permanently fuck you up, but yeah, it can. Be careful out there, have fun, be rad and break the rules but don't ever think you have something to prove by jumping off shit. Don't drink and climb.
Uhh yeah, love u reddit xxx
TL;DR: Jumped off wall bc drunk, permanent heel damage. I am forever cast as a lover.
| tifu | t5_2to41 | t3_4771q3 | So this happened nearly seven months ago now, I'm starting to see my life in a kind of BC/AD way with regards to this event.
So I went interrailing with a couple of friends of mine last summer. For the unaware, "interrailing" is a wonderful system that Europeans such as myself (UK) have enjoyed for half a century now. Essentially you dish out a large amount of cash for a ticket that allows you to board any train in the EU for a month. My mother did it in the seventies and now it was my turn.
Many teenage kicks ensued.
Towards the end of the trip we found ourselves in Rome, at almost 4am wandering the streets drunkenly realising that we probably weren't going to find any clubs open at this time. So we opted in stead for a peregrination to an establishment bearing the crest of "McDonalds". And it was during this quest for grotesquely processed produce that my lovely fuck-up occurred.
Yes, I was very drunk. Not the most drunk I had been that trip, not by far, but certainly very inebriated. Fuelled by near a full month of adolescent romps my ego was concerned that I prove that I was most certainly, a wild one. Yes, I was one of the cool kids. Look, I just climbed to the top of this ladder! Look, I just climbed to the top of this wall!
Ah, how do I get down again? The voice of my friend, next to me, who also scaled the fence like a horny squirrel, is now anxiously encouraging me to jump down, quick. I look down. Pavement. Well, I'll have to get over my fear of heights some time, why not now?
This is going to hurt, isn't it?
Yes.
S is convinced I'm just being a massive puss again but calls an ambulance for me just to make sure. C later revealed he, too, thought I was overreacting when he heard the first scream, but then I kept screaming. And screaming. I stopped screaming, they went to get McDonalds. I'm alone. I feel like I'm dying. It hurts like hell, but even more I'm the thirstiest I've ever been. I'm so thirsty. Everything starts spinning. I can't breath. I'm dying, oh shit. I remember some breathing excercises. I practice them. Sanity reasserts itself. The friends return, and soon an ambulance arrives. C forgot to pick up my fuckin water. I didn't care much at the time. I kept thinking how nice all the staff were in spite of being clearly exhausted. Agua, por favore. Grazie.
Broken calcaneus. Lover's fracture. I fucked up my heel bone. The rest of my summer was pretty boring after I got home a few days later. It took so fucking long to walk again. All the muscles in my right leg wasted while I was in the cast, they're still not back yet, quite. Life is good, university is cool, if a bit lonely. But the doctor said I might never feel normal again. Walking. I should avoid "high impact training". Like what? Running?
Fucking running?
I run everywhere. I used to. In secondary school I was that weird kid who runs everywhere. It's a part of me in a big way, I've always done it. I still can't run now, in mid-february. I've mostly got my physical confidence back, I even went to Poland and learnt how to snowboard last week (I know, I'm fucking lucky), but I can't run and I still limp. My life is fucking awesome, objectively, but a piece is missing. It sucks. I don't mind getting arthritis when I'm old so much, but I want to be able to be young. I didn't feel regretful at the time, jumping off that wall felt like an inevitability, but I thought my young body would bounce back in a couple of months. I didn't even consider it could be permanent.
I still think I will be able to run again, but I hope you can agree this is fucking annoying.
HELLO ALL YOUNG PEOPLE. You are not indestructible. Not only can you die, but your body is actually very fragile. You're probably imagining I jumped off some giant wall. Nope. Dude, it was about eight feet. I really didn't think that height could permanently fuck you up, but yeah, it can. Be careful out there, have fun, be rad and break the rules but don't ever think you have something to prove by jumping off shit. Don't drink and climb.
Uhh yeah, love u reddit xxx | Jumped off wall bc drunk, permanent heel damage. I am forever cast as a lover. |
redditKad | I'm currently the owner of these two consumer grade watches that I received as gifts :
* [**Swatch** irony]( (40mm, stainless steal case)
* [**Roots**]( (41mm, stainless steal case)
Now that I'm done with school (*and therefore make money*), I would like to buy a watch that suits my preferences. With a budget of 150-250$, shopping online for consumer grade brands I found a few watches from **Akribos xxiv** that interested me. I never heard of this brand before and have a difficult time finding information about it. Although I already know it's a consumer brand, I would like to know how it compares with Swatch. Considering mine went through hell (beach, rock climbing, multiple hits on metal, etc.) and is still in very good shape, I don't know if it's just about luck or it's standard robustness.
___
I was mostly interested by those two watches (Leather bands, stainless steal case, water resistant, 22 mm bands, quartz, 46 and 44 mm cases.)
* [AKR664SSB](
* [AKR618BR](
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*I'm making a new thread because I couldn't find information about Akribos as /r/watches/ and I find it hard to compare watches in the same category (consumer grade)*
**TL;DR: Will I see a downgrade in quality and robustness by moving from [Swatch] to [Akribos xxiv]?** | I'm currently the owner of these two consumer grade watches that I received as gifts :
Swatch irony
Roots
Now that I'm done with school ( and therefore make money ), I would like to buy a watch that suits my preferences. With a budget of 150-250$, shopping online for consumer grade brands I found a few watches from Akribos xxiv that interested me. I never heard of this brand before and have a difficult time finding information about it. Although I already know it's a consumer brand, I would like to know how it compares with Swatch. Considering mine went through hell (beach, rock climbing, multiple hits on metal, etc.) and is still in very good shape, I don't know if it's just about luck or it's standard robustness.
I was mostly interested by those two watches (Leather bands, stainless steal case, water resistant, 22 mm bands, quartz, 46 and 44 mm cases.)
[AKR664SSB](
[AKR618BR](
I'm making a new thread because I couldn't find information about Akribos as /r/watches/ and I find it hard to compare watches in the same category (consumer grade)
TL;DR: Will I see a downgrade in quality and robustness by moving from [Swatch] to [Akribos xxiv]?
| Watches | t5_2qls5 | t3_2d8nqs | I'm currently the owner of these two consumer grade watches that I received as gifts :
Swatch irony
Roots
Now that I'm done with school ( and therefore make money ), I would like to buy a watch that suits my preferences. With a budget of 150-250$, shopping online for consumer grade brands I found a few watches from Akribos xxiv that interested me. I never heard of this brand before and have a difficult time finding information about it. Although I already know it's a consumer brand, I would like to know how it compares with Swatch. Considering mine went through hell (beach, rock climbing, multiple hits on metal, etc.) and is still in very good shape, I don't know if it's just about luck or it's standard robustness.
I was mostly interested by those two watches (Leather bands, stainless steal case, water resistant, 22 mm bands, quartz, 46 and 44 mm cases.)
[AKR664SSB](
[AKR618BR](
I'm making a new thread because I couldn't find information about Akribos as /r/watches/ and I find it hard to compare watches in the same category (consumer grade) | Will I see a downgrade in quality and robustness by moving from [Swatch] to [Akribos xxiv]? |
Brass818 |
Just some insight to what it's been like:
==========================
We knew each other for the first year, we became good friends. For a week she became distant and didn't talk much. She started working where I work, so we'd see one another alot. One day she came in, and she had a mad look on her face. Didn't look at me when I spoke to her and I asked if she was ok. She said she was fine, just not feeling that good.
I tried changing the subject to something we spoke about a week ago, and she barely answered. She started working on something I was working on(putting together an item to sell). I helped, and I knocked over something by mistake, and she's like "Dude, come on..". I stopped and just looked at her. She didn't look up, just stayed quiet and ignored me. I just quietly said bye and walked away.
I did not speak to her until she started speaking to me again. We became cool again. She tried to get me into her Bible studies class. I'm not really all that religious but she insisted I go. So I spent a summer going with her every Thursday. She was inspired by it, and even though we didn't share the same beliefs, I admired how passionate she was in what she believed. We became better friends after that.
At one point it was ruined because a few idiots made a rumor about us. She was mad at me, didn't speak to me. Then we spoke again and she just wanted some space, and I agreed. She did not want to talk about it though. Before we agreed to give one another space, she just hated the idea of talking it out. She pointed it out to another friend that if there's something she's mad about, she does not like to talk about it. She'd rather read her bible and pray.
She came back around and for over a year we've been great. She was more of my wing-woman. I did like her but the fact that I'm not as religious as her makes me feel like it cant work out. She was also always there to give me advice when I had problems with someone I was seeing as well.
But she's been a big inspiration to me. She use to call me out on being pessimistic. Said I need to be less negative and focus on positive things. And the fact that I could be more social. So she made me wanna be a better person. I started losing weight and being more outgoing. This was at a time when she was with someone. But she would message me sometimes to see how I was doing. Eventually she broke up and we would go out and eat sometimes and I'd help her with homework and sometimes take her home. I'd always make time to help her if needed. Either to cover her, or even let her borrow my car when her's was broken down. She'd bring me food sometimes, or a coffee. I'd do the same for her. At one point I was away and she asked if I was at work. Told her no, and found out she brought me food. Felt bad, but also felt happy that she thought to do that. For her Birthday I got her a blank leather book to write in, and a card telling her she's the most inspiring person I've ever met and I'm thankful to know someone as amazing as her. She loved it and gave me a big hug. Felt like our friendship was stronger than ever.
The situation:
==================
As of recent, last week, everything was good. We talked about helping her finish a t-shirt design for a fundraiser and I made time to help her out. She didn't call me on Tuesday. So in the morning when I saw her, she was happy to see me. So I asked what happened the day before. She told me she went running.
I said "oh ok, that's cool, hey next time let me know and I'll run with you". She said "no it's ok".
I asked "Why not?"
She replied "Because.. I kind-of don't wanna run with you"
I said "oh ok"
It made things awkward. And recently she flaked out on a few things we planned. And I asked her why she kept flaking out last minute. Said to her "why is it when we plan something, you back out thr last minute like "nah Im good."" She interrupted me by replying "You want me to start saying no from now on?". I realized it upset her. Wasn't suppose to be that serious. She walked away, I walked up to her, and she said she did not want to talk about it anymore, because she would get annoyed.
I took a deep breath and decided to change the subject. She was reading notes and made jokes with me from some things she was reading. So for the rest of the day, things were good again.. Somewhat. I felt bad for what I said to her, so I felt some shame as to how awkward I made things. Also a customer went off on me because he felt the price of his purchase was too high so he started insulting me. I felt upset. I told her and she reassured me to just let it go. She made a joke to bring the mood up. Later she left.
I spent the whole weekend in Vegas. Still feeling bad over the situation. I wanted to see her so i can apologize for it.
Saw her on Friday. She looked mad. I asked if she was ok. She told me because of what I did, the friendship cant be the same. I was puzzled and asked what happened. She did not answer. I told her that whatever I did, if it's over what I said, i'm sorry for that. She didn't seem to listen.
She did agree to talk later.
Next day she was working directly with me. Not a word was said. She was just quiet and in a bad mood. What hurt me most was she'd joke with others but it felt like she held a big grudge. I asked if we cant talk, she said "NO".
I was like "Why are acti.."
"Don't bother me!". She interrupted.
"Look I just wann cle.."
"Your bothering me!"..
I just stopped and walked away. My heart dropped and I was so confused. So yeah. I'm on my way out from that workplace. What hurts the most is, this is how she will remember me.
And I just want her to know that whatever I did, if it's about that morning. I feel terrible.
=========================
TL;DR:
Very good friendship I had with someone has gone sour over something I said. Just need help on what I should say, or if I should not say anything at all.
We became co workers when she started working with me, and she's been someone that helped me out through tough times. I care about her alot, and I would never go out of my way to hurt her or make her feel bad. I messed up, called her out on flaking out alot and now i feel like I became her worst enemy and she refuses to speak.
How bad did I screw up?
Also messed up by speaking to a good friend about the situation. Not mentioning her name. But She figured whom it was and apparently spoke to her. So now Im not only an asshole but also shady.
I did not say anything bad about her. Just trying to seek advice on what to do.
I cant sleep and I spent all day at work yesterday not speaking to her.
All this because of something stupid I said. | Just some insight to what it's been like:
We knew each other for the first year, we became good friends. For a week she became distant and didn't talk much. She started working where I work, so we'd see one another alot. One day she came in, and she had a mad look on her face. Didn't look at me when I spoke to her and I asked if she was ok. She said she was fine, just not feeling that good.
I tried changing the subject to something we spoke about a week ago, and she barely answered. She started working on something I was working on(putting together an item to sell). I helped, and I knocked over something by mistake, and she's like "Dude, come on..". I stopped and just looked at her. She didn't look up, just stayed quiet and ignored me. I just quietly said bye and walked away.
I did not speak to her until she started speaking to me again. We became cool again. She tried to get me into her Bible studies class. I'm not really all that religious but she insisted I go. So I spent a summer going with her every Thursday. She was inspired by it, and even though we didn't share the same beliefs, I admired how passionate she was in what she believed. We became better friends after that.
At one point it was ruined because a few idiots made a rumor about us. She was mad at me, didn't speak to me. Then we spoke again and she just wanted some space, and I agreed. She did not want to talk about it though. Before we agreed to give one another space, she just hated the idea of talking it out. She pointed it out to another friend that if there's something she's mad about, she does not like to talk about it. She'd rather read her bible and pray.
She came back around and for over a year we've been great. She was more of my wing-woman. I did like her but the fact that I'm not as religious as her makes me feel like it cant work out. She was also always there to give me advice when I had problems with someone I was seeing as well.
But she's been a big inspiration to me. She use to call me out on being pessimistic. Said I need to be less negative and focus on positive things. And the fact that I could be more social. So she made me wanna be a better person. I started losing weight and being more outgoing. This was at a time when she was with someone. But she would message me sometimes to see how I was doing. Eventually she broke up and we would go out and eat sometimes and I'd help her with homework and sometimes take her home. I'd always make time to help her if needed. Either to cover her, or even let her borrow my car when her's was broken down. She'd bring me food sometimes, or a coffee. I'd do the same for her. At one point I was away and she asked if I was at work. Told her no, and found out she brought me food. Felt bad, but also felt happy that she thought to do that. For her Birthday I got her a blank leather book to write in, and a card telling her she's the most inspiring person I've ever met and I'm thankful to know someone as amazing as her. She loved it and gave me a big hug. Felt like our friendship was stronger than ever.
The situation:
As of recent, last week, everything was good. We talked about helping her finish a t-shirt design for a fundraiser and I made time to help her out. She didn't call me on Tuesday. So in the morning when I saw her, she was happy to see me. So I asked what happened the day before. She told me she went running.
I said "oh ok, that's cool, hey next time let me know and I'll run with you". She said "no it's ok".
I asked "Why not?"
She replied "Because.. I kind-of don't wanna run with you"
I said "oh ok"
It made things awkward. And recently she flaked out on a few things we planned. And I asked her why she kept flaking out last minute. Said to her "why is it when we plan something, you back out thr last minute like "nah Im good."" She interrupted me by replying "You want me to start saying no from now on?". I realized it upset her. Wasn't suppose to be that serious. She walked away, I walked up to her, and she said she did not want to talk about it anymore, because she would get annoyed.
I took a deep breath and decided to change the subject. She was reading notes and made jokes with me from some things she was reading. So for the rest of the day, things were good again.. Somewhat. I felt bad for what I said to her, so I felt some shame as to how awkward I made things. Also a customer went off on me because he felt the price of his purchase was too high so he started insulting me. I felt upset. I told her and she reassured me to just let it go. She made a joke to bring the mood up. Later she left.
I spent the whole weekend in Vegas. Still feeling bad over the situation. I wanted to see her so i can apologize for it.
Saw her on Friday. She looked mad. I asked if she was ok. She told me because of what I did, the friendship cant be the same. I was puzzled and asked what happened. She did not answer. I told her that whatever I did, if it's over what I said, i'm sorry for that. She didn't seem to listen.
She did agree to talk later.
Next day she was working directly with me. Not a word was said. She was just quiet and in a bad mood. What hurt me most was she'd joke with others but it felt like she held a big grudge. I asked if we cant talk, she said "NO".
I was like "Why are acti.."
"Don't bother me!". She interrupted.
"Look I just wann cle.."
"Your bothering me!"..
I just stopped and walked away. My heart dropped and I was so confused. So yeah. I'm on my way out from that workplace. What hurts the most is, this is how she will remember me.
And I just want her to know that whatever I did, if it's about that morning. I feel terrible.
=========================
TL;DR:
Very good friendship I had with someone has gone sour over something I said. Just need help on what I should say, or if I should not say anything at all.
We became co workers when she started working with me, and she's been someone that helped me out through tough times. I care about her alot, and I would never go out of my way to hurt her or make her feel bad. I messed up, called her out on flaking out alot and now i feel like I became her worst enemy and she refuses to speak.
How bad did I screw up?
Also messed up by speaking to a good friend about the situation. Not mentioning her name. But She figured whom it was and apparently spoke to her. So now Im not only an asshole but also shady.
I did not say anything bad about her. Just trying to seek advice on what to do.
I cant sleep and I spent all day at work yesterday not speaking to her.
All this because of something stupid I said.
| confession | t5_2qo2a | t3_5268qr | Just some insight to what it's been like:
We knew each other for the first year, we became good friends. For a week she became distant and didn't talk much. She started working where I work, so we'd see one another alot. One day she came in, and she had a mad look on her face. Didn't look at me when I spoke to her and I asked if she was ok. She said she was fine, just not feeling that good.
I tried changing the subject to something we spoke about a week ago, and she barely answered. She started working on something I was working on(putting together an item to sell). I helped, and I knocked over something by mistake, and she's like "Dude, come on..". I stopped and just looked at her. She didn't look up, just stayed quiet and ignored me. I just quietly said bye and walked away.
I did not speak to her until she started speaking to me again. We became cool again. She tried to get me into her Bible studies class. I'm not really all that religious but she insisted I go. So I spent a summer going with her every Thursday. She was inspired by it, and even though we didn't share the same beliefs, I admired how passionate she was in what she believed. We became better friends after that.
At one point it was ruined because a few idiots made a rumor about us. She was mad at me, didn't speak to me. Then we spoke again and she just wanted some space, and I agreed. She did not want to talk about it though. Before we agreed to give one another space, she just hated the idea of talking it out. She pointed it out to another friend that if there's something she's mad about, she does not like to talk about it. She'd rather read her bible and pray.
She came back around and for over a year we've been great. She was more of my wing-woman. I did like her but the fact that I'm not as religious as her makes me feel like it cant work out. She was also always there to give me advice when I had problems with someone I was seeing as well.
But she's been a big inspiration to me. She use to call me out on being pessimistic. Said I need to be less negative and focus on positive things. And the fact that I could be more social. So she made me wanna be a better person. I started losing weight and being more outgoing. This was at a time when she was with someone. But she would message me sometimes to see how I was doing. Eventually she broke up and we would go out and eat sometimes and I'd help her with homework and sometimes take her home. I'd always make time to help her if needed. Either to cover her, or even let her borrow my car when her's was broken down. She'd bring me food sometimes, or a coffee. I'd do the same for her. At one point I was away and she asked if I was at work. Told her no, and found out she brought me food. Felt bad, but also felt happy that she thought to do that. For her Birthday I got her a blank leather book to write in, and a card telling her she's the most inspiring person I've ever met and I'm thankful to know someone as amazing as her. She loved it and gave me a big hug. Felt like our friendship was stronger than ever.
The situation:
As of recent, last week, everything was good. We talked about helping her finish a t-shirt design for a fundraiser and I made time to help her out. She didn't call me on Tuesday. So in the morning when I saw her, she was happy to see me. So I asked what happened the day before. She told me she went running.
I said "oh ok, that's cool, hey next time let me know and I'll run with you". She said "no it's ok".
I asked "Why not?"
She replied "Because.. I kind-of don't wanna run with you"
I said "oh ok"
It made things awkward. And recently she flaked out on a few things we planned. And I asked her why she kept flaking out last minute. Said to her "why is it when we plan something, you back out thr last minute like "nah Im good."" She interrupted me by replying "You want me to start saying no from now on?". I realized it upset her. Wasn't suppose to be that serious. She walked away, I walked up to her, and she said she did not want to talk about it anymore, because she would get annoyed.
I took a deep breath and decided to change the subject. She was reading notes and made jokes with me from some things she was reading. So for the rest of the day, things were good again.. Somewhat. I felt bad for what I said to her, so I felt some shame as to how awkward I made things. Also a customer went off on me because he felt the price of his purchase was too high so he started insulting me. I felt upset. I told her and she reassured me to just let it go. She made a joke to bring the mood up. Later she left.
I spent the whole weekend in Vegas. Still feeling bad over the situation. I wanted to see her so i can apologize for it.
Saw her on Friday. She looked mad. I asked if she was ok. She told me because of what I did, the friendship cant be the same. I was puzzled and asked what happened. She did not answer. I told her that whatever I did, if it's over what I said, i'm sorry for that. She didn't seem to listen.
She did agree to talk later.
Next day she was working directly with me. Not a word was said. She was just quiet and in a bad mood. What hurt me most was she'd joke with others but it felt like she held a big grudge. I asked if we cant talk, she said "NO".
I was like "Why are acti.."
"Don't bother me!". She interrupted.
"Look I just wann cle.."
"Your bothering me!"..
I just stopped and walked away. My heart dropped and I was so confused. So yeah. I'm on my way out from that workplace. What hurts the most is, this is how she will remember me.
And I just want her to know that whatever I did, if it's about that morning. I feel terrible.
========================= | Very good friendship I had with someone has gone sour over something I said. Just need help on what I should say, or if I should not say anything at all.
We became co workers when she started working with me, and she's been someone that helped me out through tough times. I care about her alot, and I would never go out of my way to hurt her or make her feel bad. I messed up, called her out on flaking out alot and now i feel like I became her worst enemy and she refuses to speak.
How bad did I screw up?
Also messed up by speaking to a good friend about the situation. Not mentioning her name. But She figured whom it was and apparently spoke to her. So now Im not only an asshole but also shady.
I did not say anything bad about her. Just trying to seek advice on what to do.
I cant sleep and I spent all day at work yesterday not speaking to her.
All this because of something stupid I said. |
redlaWw | Physics didn't really take off as an independent area of study until Newton, and it was Newton's calculus that made it so powerful. Calculus is inextricable from the nature of physics because one of the most basic ideas in physics is that reality is smooth (i.e. differentiable multiple times).
**TL;DR** There should be calculus in A-level physics. | Physics didn't really take off as an independent area of study until Newton, and it was Newton's calculus that made it so powerful. Calculus is inextricable from the nature of physics because one of the most basic ideas in physics is that reality is smooth (i.e. differentiable multiple times).
TL;DR There should be calculus in A-level physics.
| AskReddit | t5_2qh1i | ch5l7ds | Physics didn't really take off as an independent area of study until Newton, and it was Newton's calculus that made it so powerful. Calculus is inextricable from the nature of physics because one of the most basic ideas in physics is that reality is smooth (i.e. differentiable multiple times). | There should be calculus in A-level physics. |
Cykuta | The thing about Tomb Raider was that we were to find out Lara's origins - just as you say the game describes them. But we *know* she turns out badass, because we've seen her being basically the first big badass action girl in video games.
So, if we're to learn her origins, and it looks like they include being raped, then this is a very big problem. Because there is a distressing tendency to inflict sexual violence on female characters to "toughen them up," to make women strong and resourceful in response to having been raped and sexually exploited.
And it's really disgusting, because a woman does not need "toughening up." A woman can be tough without any horrifying experiences making her so. Yet in most works of fiction, women are made to "pay" for their badassitude with horrifying things that are related to their sexuality, most often rape. Indeed, most of the time it almost looks like they are preemptively punished for it: overstepping the meek boundaries, "entering the man's world" means a woman must suffer.
Would you want James Bond to have a backstory of a pedophile adoptive father who raped him, which meant young James got very cunning and good at escaping an unwanted dick up his arse? No, because you would have felt the dignity of the character was taken away. And you would be right.
**TL:DR - The outrage about Tomb Rider "rape" scene was the outrage with the idea that women have to pay for their strength and badassitude with sexual suffering, that it can't be innate and not related to either vaginas or penises.** | The thing about Tomb Raider was that we were to find out Lara's origins - just as you say the game describes them. But we know she turns out badass, because we've seen her being basically the first big badass action girl in video games.
So, if we're to learn her origins, and it looks like they include being raped, then this is a very big problem. Because there is a distressing tendency to inflict sexual violence on female characters to "toughen them up," to make women strong and resourceful in response to having been raped and sexually exploited.
And it's really disgusting, because a woman does not need "toughening up." A woman can be tough without any horrifying experiences making her so. Yet in most works of fiction, women are made to "pay" for their badassitude with horrifying things that are related to their sexuality, most often rape. Indeed, most of the time it almost looks like they are preemptively punished for it: overstepping the meek boundaries, "entering the man's world" means a woman must suffer.
Would you want James Bond to have a backstory of a pedophile adoptive father who raped him, which meant young James got very cunning and good at escaping an unwanted dick up his arse? No, because you would have felt the dignity of the character was taken away. And you would be right.
TL:DR - The outrage about Tomb Rider "rape" scene was the outrage with the idea that women have to pay for their strength and badassitude with sexual suffering, that it can't be innate and not related to either vaginas or penises.
| IAmA | t5_2qzb6 | cr1lzi2 | The thing about Tomb Raider was that we were to find out Lara's origins - just as you say the game describes them. But we know she turns out badass, because we've seen her being basically the first big badass action girl in video games.
So, if we're to learn her origins, and it looks like they include being raped, then this is a very big problem. Because there is a distressing tendency to inflict sexual violence on female characters to "toughen them up," to make women strong and resourceful in response to having been raped and sexually exploited.
And it's really disgusting, because a woman does not need "toughening up." A woman can be tough without any horrifying experiences making her so. Yet in most works of fiction, women are made to "pay" for their badassitude with horrifying things that are related to their sexuality, most often rape. Indeed, most of the time it almost looks like they are preemptively punished for it: overstepping the meek boundaries, "entering the man's world" means a woman must suffer.
Would you want James Bond to have a backstory of a pedophile adoptive father who raped him, which meant young James got very cunning and good at escaping an unwanted dick up his arse? No, because you would have felt the dignity of the character was taken away. And you would be right. | The outrage about Tomb Rider "rape" scene was the outrage with the idea that women have to pay for their strength and badassitude with sexual suffering, that it can't be innate and not related to either vaginas or penises. |
Tario70 | First off, don't tell me what to do.
I preorder for reasons that are my own. Sometimes I do want whatever bonus (Grunt Funeral Skull baby!) they're giving, other times I just buy the game early. THERE IS NOTHING WRONG WITH THAT.
Also this guy is an idiot. Wait until the day the game comes out to buy it? That will solve NOTHING. Preorder sales count the same a day one sales. This is idiotic.
Next up he says they're releasing these game "half-finished" on purpose. Who in their right fucking mind could believe that? Does he think this kind of horrible PR is good for any company?
Also, this asshat talks about multiplayer infrastructure as if they can just go flip a damned switch & boom it will be fixed, but damn it 343 just won't go flip that switch.
He also states that the same people that worked on MCC are working on Halo 5. Do we even know that? While I'm sure there is crossover from each time, I'd find it way more likely that they were for the most part separate teams (but that's just my opinion).
Then he goes on about reputation, the EXACT reason they wouldn't release something half finished on purpose. This sullies everything about 343 BUT, we've had Halo 4 that launched without issues on the multi-side & then we have MCC which is a MUCH bigger game with different netcode utilized by different engines that will be DIFFICULT AS HELL to get working. There's a reason this is a pain in the ass. So we've had a 1 & 1 in good & bad. "so much of the base work was done for them" what utter horseshit. Thanks for showing you know absolutely nothing about a project of this scale.
This isn't an attachment issue. This is realistic issue. Whether they didn't get to test as long as they would have liked or their testers didn't find the issues that we all experienced. It's disingenuous to claim "they knew they were releasing crap". "It's impossible not to notice them", whatever man, shit sometimes happens. Stop the conspiracy theories. It's ridiculous.
"People sacrificed a days wages to play this game at launch" Hyperbole much?
This guy sounds like a petulant child. "They abuse our faith" What the hell?
"the preorder is designed to screw you over" Really? what about, I don't know, returning it to the store? Refunds are easily done. This guy is bitching to bitch. "We must punish them!" really? What hell are you going on about it.
"Halo won because of Preorders" wait, so Far Cry 4 & other games didn't have preorders? Oh wait they did because I preordered it & got a preorder bonus. This guy is just full of it.
"I have no idea why anyone is waiting at midnight because it's an exercise in self defeating pointlessness" it's called community dumb ass. I've met a few of my Xbox Live friends this way. Standing in line shooting the shit about the game we're about to pick up, bam swap gamertags. It's fun & some of the places do events, contests, or giveaways during these launches. Some of us enjoy the event of it. Ugh.
"What games have lived up to the hype?" Very few, over all of gaming history. Fine dude, don't preorder, I'll do whatever the fuck I want.
Based on what I've seen, this botched launch will HELP 343. Does anyone here think the Xbox One would be where it is today if not for the botched introduction? Microsoft listening to the community, pushing out updates & getting things right? That happened from a failed introduction. So the track record is there.
Does this excuse this eff up? Nope. But 343 has probably been quiet due to the death threats & general attitudes like this video. They've admitted they fucked up & are working hard to fix things. Everyone's voice has been heard, we've seen that they're working to fix stuff, but like children on a road trip asking "are we there yet" gamers expect monumental feats of coding & troubleshooting to happen overnight. Stop being unrealistic.
This got way too long...
Edit: **tl;dr** Preorder or don't, it's up to you. It won't send a message. Final sales will. Most of us can easily return games. Also, quit uselessly bitching & give constructive explanations of the bugs so the devs can figure out where to look & fix the problem. | First off, don't tell me what to do.
I preorder for reasons that are my own. Sometimes I do want whatever bonus (Grunt Funeral Skull baby!) they're giving, other times I just buy the game early. THERE IS NOTHING WRONG WITH THAT.
Also this guy is an idiot. Wait until the day the game comes out to buy it? That will solve NOTHING. Preorder sales count the same a day one sales. This is idiotic.
Next up he says they're releasing these game "half-finished" on purpose. Who in their right fucking mind could believe that? Does he think this kind of horrible PR is good for any company?
Also, this asshat talks about multiplayer infrastructure as if they can just go flip a damned switch & boom it will be fixed, but damn it 343 just won't go flip that switch.
He also states that the same people that worked on MCC are working on Halo 5. Do we even know that? While I'm sure there is crossover from each time, I'd find it way more likely that they were for the most part separate teams (but that's just my opinion).
Then he goes on about reputation, the EXACT reason they wouldn't release something half finished on purpose. This sullies everything about 343 BUT, we've had Halo 4 that launched without issues on the multi-side & then we have MCC which is a MUCH bigger game with different netcode utilized by different engines that will be DIFFICULT AS HELL to get working. There's a reason this is a pain in the ass. So we've had a 1 & 1 in good & bad. "so much of the base work was done for them" what utter horseshit. Thanks for showing you know absolutely nothing about a project of this scale.
This isn't an attachment issue. This is realistic issue. Whether they didn't get to test as long as they would have liked or their testers didn't find the issues that we all experienced. It's disingenuous to claim "they knew they were releasing crap". "It's impossible not to notice them", whatever man, shit sometimes happens. Stop the conspiracy theories. It's ridiculous.
"People sacrificed a days wages to play this game at launch" Hyperbole much?
This guy sounds like a petulant child. "They abuse our faith" What the hell?
"the preorder is designed to screw you over" Really? what about, I don't know, returning it to the store? Refunds are easily done. This guy is bitching to bitch. "We must punish them!" really? What hell are you going on about it.
"Halo won because of Preorders" wait, so Far Cry 4 & other games didn't have preorders? Oh wait they did because I preordered it & got a preorder bonus. This guy is just full of it.
"I have no idea why anyone is waiting at midnight because it's an exercise in self defeating pointlessness" it's called community dumb ass. I've met a few of my Xbox Live friends this way. Standing in line shooting the shit about the game we're about to pick up, bam swap gamertags. It's fun & some of the places do events, contests, or giveaways during these launches. Some of us enjoy the event of it. Ugh.
"What games have lived up to the hype?" Very few, over all of gaming history. Fine dude, don't preorder, I'll do whatever the fuck I want.
Based on what I've seen, this botched launch will HELP 343. Does anyone here think the Xbox One would be where it is today if not for the botched introduction? Microsoft listening to the community, pushing out updates & getting things right? That happened from a failed introduction. So the track record is there.
Does this excuse this eff up? Nope. But 343 has probably been quiet due to the death threats & general attitudes like this video. They've admitted they fucked up & are working hard to fix things. Everyone's voice has been heard, we've seen that they're working to fix stuff, but like children on a road trip asking "are we there yet" gamers expect monumental feats of coding & troubleshooting to happen overnight. Stop being unrealistic.
This got way too long...
Edit: tl;dr Preorder or don't, it's up to you. It won't send a message. Final sales will. Most of us can easily return games. Also, quit uselessly bitching & give constructive explanations of the bugs so the devs can figure out where to look & fix the problem.
| halo | t5_2qixk | cmmexx4 | First off, don't tell me what to do.
I preorder for reasons that are my own. Sometimes I do want whatever bonus (Grunt Funeral Skull baby!) they're giving, other times I just buy the game early. THERE IS NOTHING WRONG WITH THAT.
Also this guy is an idiot. Wait until the day the game comes out to buy it? That will solve NOTHING. Preorder sales count the same a day one sales. This is idiotic.
Next up he says they're releasing these game "half-finished" on purpose. Who in their right fucking mind could believe that? Does he think this kind of horrible PR is good for any company?
Also, this asshat talks about multiplayer infrastructure as if they can just go flip a damned switch & boom it will be fixed, but damn it 343 just won't go flip that switch.
He also states that the same people that worked on MCC are working on Halo 5. Do we even know that? While I'm sure there is crossover from each time, I'd find it way more likely that they were for the most part separate teams (but that's just my opinion).
Then he goes on about reputation, the EXACT reason they wouldn't release something half finished on purpose. This sullies everything about 343 BUT, we've had Halo 4 that launched without issues on the multi-side & then we have MCC which is a MUCH bigger game with different netcode utilized by different engines that will be DIFFICULT AS HELL to get working. There's a reason this is a pain in the ass. So we've had a 1 & 1 in good & bad. "so much of the base work was done for them" what utter horseshit. Thanks for showing you know absolutely nothing about a project of this scale.
This isn't an attachment issue. This is realistic issue. Whether they didn't get to test as long as they would have liked or their testers didn't find the issues that we all experienced. It's disingenuous to claim "they knew they were releasing crap". "It's impossible not to notice them", whatever man, shit sometimes happens. Stop the conspiracy theories. It's ridiculous.
"People sacrificed a days wages to play this game at launch" Hyperbole much?
This guy sounds like a petulant child. "They abuse our faith" What the hell?
"the preorder is designed to screw you over" Really? what about, I don't know, returning it to the store? Refunds are easily done. This guy is bitching to bitch. "We must punish them!" really? What hell are you going on about it.
"Halo won because of Preorders" wait, so Far Cry 4 & other games didn't have preorders? Oh wait they did because I preordered it & got a preorder bonus. This guy is just full of it.
"I have no idea why anyone is waiting at midnight because it's an exercise in self defeating pointlessness" it's called community dumb ass. I've met a few of my Xbox Live friends this way. Standing in line shooting the shit about the game we're about to pick up, bam swap gamertags. It's fun & some of the places do events, contests, or giveaways during these launches. Some of us enjoy the event of it. Ugh.
"What games have lived up to the hype?" Very few, over all of gaming history. Fine dude, don't preorder, I'll do whatever the fuck I want.
Based on what I've seen, this botched launch will HELP 343. Does anyone here think the Xbox One would be where it is today if not for the botched introduction? Microsoft listening to the community, pushing out updates & getting things right? That happened from a failed introduction. So the track record is there.
Does this excuse this eff up? Nope. But 343 has probably been quiet due to the death threats & general attitudes like this video. They've admitted they fucked up & are working hard to fix things. Everyone's voice has been heard, we've seen that they're working to fix stuff, but like children on a road trip asking "are we there yet" gamers expect monumental feats of coding & troubleshooting to happen overnight. Stop being unrealistic.
This got way too long...
Edit: | Preorder or don't, it's up to you. It won't send a message. Final sales will. Most of us can easily return games. Also, quit uselessly bitching & give constructive explanations of the bugs so the devs can figure out where to look & fix the problem. |
Xincify | Hello! I just reached lvl 70 for the first time, and, apparently, I unlocked the Kharazan raid. Now, I know that to use raid finder I need to be lvl85, however, I read that you can do raids by yourself, if you are higher level. So, I ventured to the Molten Core, did the teleporter guy's quest, and entered the raid. At first all went well, I was, for some reason, doing ridiculous amounts of damage and easily killed most of the bosses. Unfortunately, some were not there, specifically the two guys in magmadar caverns and one boss in some kind of plateau. Of course, this prevented Majordomo from spawning, and I could not kill Ragnaros. I went out of the raid, reset all instances, reentered-all in vain. Is there some other prerequisite to find all of the bosses?
Also, am I actually supposed to have 4k gold for artisan riding at this point, it's driving me crazy!
Thanks!
__TL;DR: In Molten Core some of the bosses were not appearing. Am I doing something wrong? Also, am I supposed to have 4000 gold for artisan riding at this point?__ | Hello! I just reached lvl 70 for the first time, and, apparently, I unlocked the Kharazan raid. Now, I know that to use raid finder I need to be lvl85, however, I read that you can do raids by yourself, if you are higher level. So, I ventured to the Molten Core, did the teleporter guy's quest, and entered the raid. At first all went well, I was, for some reason, doing ridiculous amounts of damage and easily killed most of the bosses. Unfortunately, some were not there, specifically the two guys in magmadar caverns and one boss in some kind of plateau. Of course, this prevented Majordomo from spawning, and I could not kill Ragnaros. I went out of the raid, reset all instances, reentered-all in vain. Is there some other prerequisite to find all of the bosses?
Also, am I actually supposed to have 4k gold for artisan riding at this point, it's driving me crazy!
Thanks!
TL;DR: In Molten Core some of the bosses were not appearing. Am I doing something wrong? Also, am I supposed to have 4000 gold for artisan riding at this point?
| wownoob | t5_35idp | t3_4qkrg9 | Hello! I just reached lvl 70 for the first time, and, apparently, I unlocked the Kharazan raid. Now, I know that to use raid finder I need to be lvl85, however, I read that you can do raids by yourself, if you are higher level. So, I ventured to the Molten Core, did the teleporter guy's quest, and entered the raid. At first all went well, I was, for some reason, doing ridiculous amounts of damage and easily killed most of the bosses. Unfortunately, some were not there, specifically the two guys in magmadar caverns and one boss in some kind of plateau. Of course, this prevented Majordomo from spawning, and I could not kill Ragnaros. I went out of the raid, reset all instances, reentered-all in vain. Is there some other prerequisite to find all of the bosses?
Also, am I actually supposed to have 4k gold for artisan riding at this point, it's driving me crazy!
Thanks! | In Molten Core some of the bosses were not appearing. Am I doing something wrong? Also, am I supposed to have 4000 gold for artisan riding at this point? |
ghostmelon | So, my sister is getting married on the weekend of the 17th of Jan coming up. I am in the wedding so it's kind of important for me to be there, plus it's my sister. I have a room booked and paid for the first night, I was promised and assured that my second night would be covered by my mom who was splitting the cost of the room on the second night with my aunt who is also sharing our room. Because of that, I decided to use said room money for the second night to help throw my sisters wedding shower this past weekend instead and as I make very little as it is, I cannot afford to shell out the cost of the second night without time to save and with two weeks to the wedding have no time to do so anyways.
This morning I wake up and receive a message from my mom saying that she cannot pay the second nights room fees and will be now leaving shortly after the reception with my aunt. The hotel is two hours from her apt and I live two hours in the opposite direction (She in Monterey, I in Bakersfield). I made plans to ride up with family who are also staying two nights and now will be left with no room and no way to get home. (My vehicle cannot be trusted to make the trip, hence the carpool). So it's either try and get my own room with the help of some lovely Redditor, or try and find either a way home or a room I can crash in with family, which may prove difficult.
The wedding and original room reservation is at the Madonna Inn hotel for anyone who wants to look it up. The room I have my reservation in is $189 plus taxes and fees. I'm asking for $275 for incidentals just in case. I will be willing to pay back asap in small increments until I get my tax returns back in which I will pay in full $300 or whatever the remainder happens to be.
I file my taxes the first week of February every year and I'm estimating around $1300+ back so I know I can pay by end of February when I get my tax refund. (I've already begun the process of filing so it's an accurate estimate).
I live in Bakersfield, CA
Will provide any additional information as needed, Thank you in advance.
**tl;dr** Got screwed over for my second hotel night last minute of my sisters wedding and need help or risk sleeping in the back seat of someone's car.
**Edit: Via paypal thanks** | So, my sister is getting married on the weekend of the 17th of Jan coming up. I am in the wedding so it's kind of important for me to be there, plus it's my sister. I have a room booked and paid for the first night, I was promised and assured that my second night would be covered by my mom who was splitting the cost of the room on the second night with my aunt who is also sharing our room. Because of that, I decided to use said room money for the second night to help throw my sisters wedding shower this past weekend instead and as I make very little as it is, I cannot afford to shell out the cost of the second night without time to save and with two weeks to the wedding have no time to do so anyways.
This morning I wake up and receive a message from my mom saying that she cannot pay the second nights room fees and will be now leaving shortly after the reception with my aunt. The hotel is two hours from her apt and I live two hours in the opposite direction (She in Monterey, I in Bakersfield). I made plans to ride up with family who are also staying two nights and now will be left with no room and no way to get home. (My vehicle cannot be trusted to make the trip, hence the carpool). So it's either try and get my own room with the help of some lovely Redditor, or try and find either a way home or a room I can crash in with family, which may prove difficult.
The wedding and original room reservation is at the Madonna Inn hotel for anyone who wants to look it up. The room I have my reservation in is $189 plus taxes and fees. I'm asking for $275 for incidentals just in case. I will be willing to pay back asap in small increments until I get my tax returns back in which I will pay in full $300 or whatever the remainder happens to be.
I file my taxes the first week of February every year and I'm estimating around $1300+ back so I know I can pay by end of February when I get my tax refund. (I've already begun the process of filing so it's an accurate estimate).
I live in Bakersfield, CA
Will provide any additional information as needed, Thank you in advance.
tl;dr Got screwed over for my second hotel night last minute of my sisters wedding and need help or risk sleeping in the back seat of someone's car.
Edit: Via paypal thanks
| borrow | t5_33lr0 | t3_2rjn1p | So, my sister is getting married on the weekend of the 17th of Jan coming up. I am in the wedding so it's kind of important for me to be there, plus it's my sister. I have a room booked and paid for the first night, I was promised and assured that my second night would be covered by my mom who was splitting the cost of the room on the second night with my aunt who is also sharing our room. Because of that, I decided to use said room money for the second night to help throw my sisters wedding shower this past weekend instead and as I make very little as it is, I cannot afford to shell out the cost of the second night without time to save and with two weeks to the wedding have no time to do so anyways.
This morning I wake up and receive a message from my mom saying that she cannot pay the second nights room fees and will be now leaving shortly after the reception with my aunt. The hotel is two hours from her apt and I live two hours in the opposite direction (She in Monterey, I in Bakersfield). I made plans to ride up with family who are also staying two nights and now will be left with no room and no way to get home. (My vehicle cannot be trusted to make the trip, hence the carpool). So it's either try and get my own room with the help of some lovely Redditor, or try and find either a way home or a room I can crash in with family, which may prove difficult.
The wedding and original room reservation is at the Madonna Inn hotel for anyone who wants to look it up. The room I have my reservation in is $189 plus taxes and fees. I'm asking for $275 for incidentals just in case. I will be willing to pay back asap in small increments until I get my tax returns back in which I will pay in full $300 or whatever the remainder happens to be.
I file my taxes the first week of February every year and I'm estimating around $1300+ back so I know I can pay by end of February when I get my tax refund. (I've already begun the process of filing so it's an accurate estimate).
I live in Bakersfield, CA
Will provide any additional information as needed, Thank you in advance. | Got screwed over for my second hotel night last minute of my sisters wedding and need help or risk sleeping in the back seat of someone's car.
Edit: Via paypal thanks |
GundamWang | You know, just a short 2 months ago, I probably would've laughed at this. But in that short time, my younger sister had her first manic episode, and subsequently diagnosed as bipolar. Since then, she's come and gone. Mostly gone. Her mental illness/disorder means she isn't always herself.
It's a frightening and altogether indescribable feeling and level of pain and sadness to see someone you grew up with and spent so much time with lose their mind. They become a different person, but at the same time still maintain small bits and pieces of who they truly are. She was such a happy, fun, and kind person to be around, and always made me laugh. I'd call her after a crappy day at work and just talk for a while, and she'd make me feel better. Like many siblings, we have our stupid in-jokes and "short-hand" gestures. Her school yearbook was filled with people telling her to never stop smiling and laughing. It's like being ripped away from your loved ones over and over, and you never get used to it. At least, I haven't yet.
Now, she is nearly always angry and depressed. Having a conversation with her is like walking on eggshells, always careful not to say the wrong thing to set her off. I've visited her in the mental hospital during her, fortunately, short stay there, and witnessed the still inhumane way they treat patients. I've seen the number of pills she takes just to remain somewhat calm and "normal", and, for the relevant part of this post, I've seen the things she posts online. None of those posts reflect who she truly is.
It's unfortunate that society doesn't treat mental health patients the same way we treat patients with other illnesses. Like I implied in the first sentence, I'm every bit as guilty as everyone else. But as her, I assume, current boyfriend, stay with her or break up with her, it's your life and neither choice is wrong. But if she is truly mentally ill, at least treat her with some dignity. I know how upset I'd be if my sister's current boyfriend treated her terribly and made fun of her behind her back, or to her face.
TL;DR - If she's mentally ill, she's still a human being. Treat her with dignity.
edit:spelling
edit2: Thanks for all the kind words. To those who are also experiencing something similar, or have experienced it for far longer, hopefully one day there will be a discovery that 'cures' them completely. Until then, /hug. | You know, just a short 2 months ago, I probably would've laughed at this. But in that short time, my younger sister had her first manic episode, and subsequently diagnosed as bipolar. Since then, she's come and gone. Mostly gone. Her mental illness/disorder means she isn't always herself.
It's a frightening and altogether indescribable feeling and level of pain and sadness to see someone you grew up with and spent so much time with lose their mind. They become a different person, but at the same time still maintain small bits and pieces of who they truly are. She was such a happy, fun, and kind person to be around, and always made me laugh. I'd call her after a crappy day at work and just talk for a while, and she'd make me feel better. Like many siblings, we have our stupid in-jokes and "short-hand" gestures. Her school yearbook was filled with people telling her to never stop smiling and laughing. It's like being ripped away from your loved ones over and over, and you never get used to it. At least, I haven't yet.
Now, she is nearly always angry and depressed. Having a conversation with her is like walking on eggshells, always careful not to say the wrong thing to set her off. I've visited her in the mental hospital during her, fortunately, short stay there, and witnessed the still inhumane way they treat patients. I've seen the number of pills she takes just to remain somewhat calm and "normal", and, for the relevant part of this post, I've seen the things she posts online. None of those posts reflect who she truly is.
It's unfortunate that society doesn't treat mental health patients the same way we treat patients with other illnesses. Like I implied in the first sentence, I'm every bit as guilty as everyone else. But as her, I assume, current boyfriend, stay with her or break up with her, it's your life and neither choice is wrong. But if she is truly mentally ill, at least treat her with some dignity. I know how upset I'd be if my sister's current boyfriend treated her terribly and made fun of her behind her back, or to her face.
TL;DR - If she's mentally ill, she's still a human being. Treat her with dignity.
edit:spelling
edit2: Thanks for all the kind words. To those who are also experiencing something similar, or have experienced it for far longer, hopefully one day there will be a discovery that 'cures' them completely. Until then, /hug.
| funny | t5_2qh33 | c34soyw | You know, just a short 2 months ago, I probably would've laughed at this. But in that short time, my younger sister had her first manic episode, and subsequently diagnosed as bipolar. Since then, she's come and gone. Mostly gone. Her mental illness/disorder means she isn't always herself.
It's a frightening and altogether indescribable feeling and level of pain and sadness to see someone you grew up with and spent so much time with lose their mind. They become a different person, but at the same time still maintain small bits and pieces of who they truly are. She was such a happy, fun, and kind person to be around, and always made me laugh. I'd call her after a crappy day at work and just talk for a while, and she'd make me feel better. Like many siblings, we have our stupid in-jokes and "short-hand" gestures. Her school yearbook was filled with people telling her to never stop smiling and laughing. It's like being ripped away from your loved ones over and over, and you never get used to it. At least, I haven't yet.
Now, she is nearly always angry and depressed. Having a conversation with her is like walking on eggshells, always careful not to say the wrong thing to set her off. I've visited her in the mental hospital during her, fortunately, short stay there, and witnessed the still inhumane way they treat patients. I've seen the number of pills she takes just to remain somewhat calm and "normal", and, for the relevant part of this post, I've seen the things she posts online. None of those posts reflect who she truly is.
It's unfortunate that society doesn't treat mental health patients the same way we treat patients with other illnesses. Like I implied in the first sentence, I'm every bit as guilty as everyone else. But as her, I assume, current boyfriend, stay with her or break up with her, it's your life and neither choice is wrong. But if she is truly mentally ill, at least treat her with some dignity. I know how upset I'd be if my sister's current boyfriend treated her terribly and made fun of her behind her back, or to her face. | If she's mentally ill, she's still a human being. Treat her with dignity.
edit:spelling
edit2: Thanks for all the kind words. To those who are also experiencing something similar, or have experienced it for far longer, hopefully one day there will be a discovery that 'cures' them completely. Until then, /hug. |
Accujack | I'd say it's less personal and more institutional. The law is written so that the agency involved collects money whenever it can because otherwise handing out support payments would become a huge drain on the state.
The people who wrote the law don't want revenue streams they will use for other purposes impacted by little things like unwed mothers and deadbeat dads so the law is written in sloppy fashion to let the agencies collect.
tl, dr; It's less important to the people writing the laws that justice is served than that the state stays in the black while providing welfare.
| I'd say it's less personal and more institutional. The law is written so that the agency involved collects money whenever it can because otherwise handing out support payments would become a huge drain on the state.
The people who wrote the law don't want revenue streams they will use for other purposes impacted by little things like unwed mothers and deadbeat dads so the law is written in sloppy fashion to let the agencies collect.
tl, dr; It's less important to the people writing the laws that justice is served than that the state stays in the black while providing welfare.
| news | t5_2qh3l | clm3l94 | I'd say it's less personal and more institutional. The law is written so that the agency involved collects money whenever it can because otherwise handing out support payments would become a huge drain on the state.
The people who wrote the law don't want revenue streams they will use for other purposes impacted by little things like unwed mothers and deadbeat dads so the law is written in sloppy fashion to let the agencies collect. | It's less important to the people writing the laws that justice is served than that the state stays in the black while providing welfare. |
BmoreCareFool | I completely agree. If you had/have a loved one currently fighting in an active war or has fought in a war and you're watching footage of combat on the internet, especially on reddit, than I would say that's your fault for being so stupid. Pretty much every place you would find footage like that is a breeding ground for idiotic comments full of bad puns, the full spectrum of opinions, and an extreme lack of sympathy. Of course /r/combatfootage is not my sub, I didn't start it or make the rules and i have no say when it comes to that sub so all that's only my opinion for what it's worth.
TL;DR
if you know someone fighting in Syria, don't watch war footage from Syria. | I completely agree. If you had/have a loved one currently fighting in an active war or has fought in a war and you're watching footage of combat on the internet, especially on reddit, than I would say that's your fault for being so stupid. Pretty much every place you would find footage like that is a breeding ground for idiotic comments full of bad puns, the full spectrum of opinions, and an extreme lack of sympathy. Of course /r/combatfootage is not my sub, I didn't start it or make the rules and i have no say when it comes to that sub so all that's only my opinion for what it's worth.
TL;DR
if you know someone fighting in Syria, don't watch war footage from Syria.
| ImGoingToHellForThis | t5_2s7yq | ccjx1jo | I completely agree. If you had/have a loved one currently fighting in an active war or has fought in a war and you're watching footage of combat on the internet, especially on reddit, than I would say that's your fault for being so stupid. Pretty much every place you would find footage like that is a breeding ground for idiotic comments full of bad puns, the full spectrum of opinions, and an extreme lack of sympathy. Of course /r/combatfootage is not my sub, I didn't start it or make the rules and i have no say when it comes to that sub so all that's only my opinion for what it's worth. | if you know someone fighting in Syria, don't watch war footage from Syria. |
weissna | My college had a career fair a couple of weeks ago, and while talking to a company, they decided to ask me a couple "technical questions". It was at this time that I realized I don't know the definition of many common Java terms such as Constructor and Polymorphism. I can program pretty well, but the theory sometimes escapes me. But now, a company has been showing some interest in me, and I don't want a repeat embarrassing performance. So I was just wondering, what are some key Java terms that would be beneficial to know how to define and use.
Thanks!
TL;DR: What are some Java terms everyone should know? | My college had a career fair a couple of weeks ago, and while talking to a company, they decided to ask me a couple "technical questions". It was at this time that I realized I don't know the definition of many common Java terms such as Constructor and Polymorphism. I can program pretty well, but the theory sometimes escapes me. But now, a company has been showing some interest in me, and I don't want a repeat embarrassing performance. So I was just wondering, what are some key Java terms that would be beneficial to know how to define and use.
Thanks!
TL;DR: What are some Java terms everyone should know?
| java | t5_2qhd7 | t3_181t2s | My college had a career fair a couple of weeks ago, and while talking to a company, they decided to ask me a couple "technical questions". It was at this time that I realized I don't know the definition of many common Java terms such as Constructor and Polymorphism. I can program pretty well, but the theory sometimes escapes me. But now, a company has been showing some interest in me, and I don't want a repeat embarrassing performance. So I was just wondering, what are some key Java terms that would be beneficial to know how to define and use.
Thanks! | What are some Java terms everyone should know? |
homopathy | Men have hormonal cycles, that is, there are times during the day when hormone levels like testosterone or estrogen are present in higher or lower levels in your bloodstream. Since you're getting the erection at the same time every day, it may be tied to a other parts of your daily ritual, like what you ate for breakfast or an increased blood pressure from a long walk across campus, or just from a natural ebb and flow related to the time you wake up on the days you have accounting class.
Alternatively, you might have something called a 'fetish' related to a particular sight, sound, or smell present in the environment of your accounting class. A fetish is when your brain sexualizes something that isn't necessarily sexual. For example, some people have latex fetishes, so the particular feeling of that material on their skin causes pathways in the brain related to sexual arousal to activate and cause happy sexual feelings.
Although why people have fetishes is unknown, popular theories suggest that when a person, especially biological males, are young, the parts of their brain that allow for awareness of sexuality 'turn on' at some point. This is probably a gradual process, so that as connections making it possible to get aroused start forming around genitalia or sexual acts, sometimes something about the smell of accounting textbooks or the sound of a person erasing a chalkboard get accidentally wired into the sexy sex circuiting as these connections form. Maybe a person has a hormonally produced erection for the first time while hiding under a table looking at bare feet. All the sudden, their brain starts associating feet with erections, and so seeing feet triggers arousal.
TL;DR: Your hormones spike, or you got your first boner while reading about accounting. Or both. | Men have hormonal cycles, that is, there are times during the day when hormone levels like testosterone or estrogen are present in higher or lower levels in your bloodstream. Since you're getting the erection at the same time every day, it may be tied to a other parts of your daily ritual, like what you ate for breakfast or an increased blood pressure from a long walk across campus, or just from a natural ebb and flow related to the time you wake up on the days you have accounting class.
Alternatively, you might have something called a 'fetish' related to a particular sight, sound, or smell present in the environment of your accounting class. A fetish is when your brain sexualizes something that isn't necessarily sexual. For example, some people have latex fetishes, so the particular feeling of that material on their skin causes pathways in the brain related to sexual arousal to activate and cause happy sexual feelings.
Although why people have fetishes is unknown, popular theories suggest that when a person, especially biological males, are young, the parts of their brain that allow for awareness of sexuality 'turn on' at some point. This is probably a gradual process, so that as connections making it possible to get aroused start forming around genitalia or sexual acts, sometimes something about the smell of accounting textbooks or the sound of a person erasing a chalkboard get accidentally wired into the sexy sex circuiting as these connections form. Maybe a person has a hormonally produced erection for the first time while hiding under a table looking at bare feet. All the sudden, their brain starts associating feet with erections, and so seeing feet triggers arousal.
TL;DR: Your hormones spike, or you got your first boner while reading about accounting. Or both.
| explainlikeimfive | t5_2sokd | cm2j4m5 | Men have hormonal cycles, that is, there are times during the day when hormone levels like testosterone or estrogen are present in higher or lower levels in your bloodstream. Since you're getting the erection at the same time every day, it may be tied to a other parts of your daily ritual, like what you ate for breakfast or an increased blood pressure from a long walk across campus, or just from a natural ebb and flow related to the time you wake up on the days you have accounting class.
Alternatively, you might have something called a 'fetish' related to a particular sight, sound, or smell present in the environment of your accounting class. A fetish is when your brain sexualizes something that isn't necessarily sexual. For example, some people have latex fetishes, so the particular feeling of that material on their skin causes pathways in the brain related to sexual arousal to activate and cause happy sexual feelings.
Although why people have fetishes is unknown, popular theories suggest that when a person, especially biological males, are young, the parts of their brain that allow for awareness of sexuality 'turn on' at some point. This is probably a gradual process, so that as connections making it possible to get aroused start forming around genitalia or sexual acts, sometimes something about the smell of accounting textbooks or the sound of a person erasing a chalkboard get accidentally wired into the sexy sex circuiting as these connections form. Maybe a person has a hormonally produced erection for the first time while hiding under a table looking at bare feet. All the sudden, their brain starts associating feet with erections, and so seeing feet triggers arousal. | Your hormones spike, or you got your first boner while reading about accounting. Or both. |
aletsi | My mother, who is from europe bear in mind, she doesn't understand a word from english but she likes the trappy beats(she says they are groovy and make her wanna move) and loves some frank ocean, oh she does!!ahah
tl;dr: my mother likes gucci and waka SQUAAAAAAD | My mother, who is from europe bear in mind, she doesn't understand a word from english but she likes the trappy beats(she says they are groovy and make her wanna move) and loves some frank ocean, oh she does!!ahah
tl;dr: my mother likes gucci and waka SQUAAAAAAD
| hiphopheads | t5_2rh4c | cfzc33w | My mother, who is from europe bear in mind, she doesn't understand a word from english but she likes the trappy beats(she says they are groovy and make her wanna move) and loves some frank ocean, oh she does!!ahah | my mother likes gucci and waka SQUAAAAAAD |
BasicUserAccount42 | So my Toyota Corolla gets about 42 miles/UK gallon. That's solid, and realistically about some of the best milage you can expect to get out of any traditional gasoline-powered car. Of course, you can make the car much smaller, but that would never be accepted in the US.
The rest of the efficiency on milage per gallon you can attribute to diesel engines. In Europe, diesel prices often are lower than gasoline prices. This is due to wonderful policies that were put in place to promote diesel engines that placed a higher tax burden on gasoline compared to diesel. Good job, Europe.
Gasoline engines do have some advantages over diesel: fewer emission, quieter, and running at colder temperatures to name a few. Back in the olden-days, before people were concerned about energy conservation, these were much more desirable characteristics. Hell, gasoline is a cleaner burning fuel which theoretically makes it more environmentally friendly, right?
Conclusion: If the US adopted policy to push for more diesel vehicles (we are starting to see some), then we could talk about awesome fuel economies too.
tl;dr: Ditch the car, get a bicycle. | So my Toyota Corolla gets about 42 miles/UK gallon. That's solid, and realistically about some of the best milage you can expect to get out of any traditional gasoline-powered car. Of course, you can make the car much smaller, but that would never be accepted in the US.
The rest of the efficiency on milage per gallon you can attribute to diesel engines. In Europe, diesel prices often are lower than gasoline prices. This is due to wonderful policies that were put in place to promote diesel engines that placed a higher tax burden on gasoline compared to diesel. Good job, Europe.
Gasoline engines do have some advantages over diesel: fewer emission, quieter, and running at colder temperatures to name a few. Back in the olden-days, before people were concerned about energy conservation, these were much more desirable characteristics. Hell, gasoline is a cleaner burning fuel which theoretically makes it more environmentally friendly, right?
Conclusion: If the US adopted policy to push for more diesel vehicles (we are starting to see some), then we could talk about awesome fuel economies too.
tl;dr: Ditch the car, get a bicycle.
| AskReddit | t5_2qh1i | c1omqfk | So my Toyota Corolla gets about 42 miles/UK gallon. That's solid, and realistically about some of the best milage you can expect to get out of any traditional gasoline-powered car. Of course, you can make the car much smaller, but that would never be accepted in the US.
The rest of the efficiency on milage per gallon you can attribute to diesel engines. In Europe, diesel prices often are lower than gasoline prices. This is due to wonderful policies that were put in place to promote diesel engines that placed a higher tax burden on gasoline compared to diesel. Good job, Europe.
Gasoline engines do have some advantages over diesel: fewer emission, quieter, and running at colder temperatures to name a few. Back in the olden-days, before people were concerned about energy conservation, these were much more desirable characteristics. Hell, gasoline is a cleaner burning fuel which theoretically makes it more environmentally friendly, right?
Conclusion: If the US adopted policy to push for more diesel vehicles (we are starting to see some), then we could talk about awesome fuel economies too. | Ditch the car, get a bicycle. |
Skeetronic | I went out one night and invited a long-term buddy (let's say Hans). He showed up with a guy none of our usual group knew (let's say Kevin). Kevin kept hitting on my girlfriend and I tried to play it cool and redirect attention elsewhere. Fast forward 3 hours, I (and my SO) get tired of the relentless passes made by Kevin and end up in a scuffle. I knocked him out in front of ~6 cops (busy, bar-side of town). He comes to, I'm in hand cuffs, he decides to "let it slide" and we all go home after a miserable night out.
This is where the story of friendship goes full retard.
One hour after we got home, Hans shows up with Kevin to my house (complete opposite side of the tracks from his/their house) where Kevin proceeds to scream obscenities, threatening to kill me and waving a gun around. At that moment I realized my long-time buddy had terrible decision making skills. We say hi if we end up in the same place (mutual friends and shit).
**TL;DR** Best bud delivered potential psychopath (who wanted to revenge) to my house. | I went out one night and invited a long-term buddy (let's say Hans). He showed up with a guy none of our usual group knew (let's say Kevin). Kevin kept hitting on my girlfriend and I tried to play it cool and redirect attention elsewhere. Fast forward 3 hours, I (and my SO) get tired of the relentless passes made by Kevin and end up in a scuffle. I knocked him out in front of ~6 cops (busy, bar-side of town). He comes to, I'm in hand cuffs, he decides to "let it slide" and we all go home after a miserable night out.
This is where the story of friendship goes full retard.
One hour after we got home, Hans shows up with Kevin to my house (complete opposite side of the tracks from his/their house) where Kevin proceeds to scream obscenities, threatening to kill me and waving a gun around. At that moment I realized my long-time buddy had terrible decision making skills. We say hi if we end up in the same place (mutual friends and shit).
TL;DR Best bud delivered potential psychopath (who wanted to revenge) to my house.
| AskReddit | t5_2qh1i | c8b212u | I went out one night and invited a long-term buddy (let's say Hans). He showed up with a guy none of our usual group knew (let's say Kevin). Kevin kept hitting on my girlfriend and I tried to play it cool and redirect attention elsewhere. Fast forward 3 hours, I (and my SO) get tired of the relentless passes made by Kevin and end up in a scuffle. I knocked him out in front of ~6 cops (busy, bar-side of town). He comes to, I'm in hand cuffs, he decides to "let it slide" and we all go home after a miserable night out.
This is where the story of friendship goes full retard.
One hour after we got home, Hans shows up with Kevin to my house (complete opposite side of the tracks from his/their house) where Kevin proceeds to scream obscenities, threatening to kill me and waving a gun around. At that moment I realized my long-time buddy had terrible decision making skills. We say hi if we end up in the same place (mutual friends and shit). | Best bud delivered potential psychopath (who wanted to revenge) to my house. |
PugLuv | I was living on a boat in Hawaii and worked at a boating supply store across town which involved a 10 minute walk to the bus stop at least an hour on the bus and a 10 minute walk to the store. As I was walking to the bus stop in the rain one day a man pulled up and offered to give me a ride to the store. I didn't really know this man but I had seen him around the marina as well as the store and was slightly reluctant to get in, but i did accept the ride. He turned out to be a very nice man and ended up offering to take me and my father up in his Cessna that weekend to fly around the islands (I would have been super sketched out but the offer seemed to only be valid if my father came along).
That weekend he picked us up and flew us around the islands giving us an incredible tour. We even landed in Molokai because we had never been there, but there isn't anything there so we didn't stay long) I can't imagine what it cost him in gas and wouldn't except any money my dad offered to pitch in for anything.
**tl;dr** A man we didn't know flew me and my father around the Hawaiian islands just 'cuz and wouldn't let us pitch in for gas. | I was living on a boat in Hawaii and worked at a boating supply store across town which involved a 10 minute walk to the bus stop at least an hour on the bus and a 10 minute walk to the store. As I was walking to the bus stop in the rain one day a man pulled up and offered to give me a ride to the store. I didn't really know this man but I had seen him around the marina as well as the store and was slightly reluctant to get in, but i did accept the ride. He turned out to be a very nice man and ended up offering to take me and my father up in his Cessna that weekend to fly around the islands (I would have been super sketched out but the offer seemed to only be valid if my father came along).
That weekend he picked us up and flew us around the islands giving us an incredible tour. We even landed in Molokai because we had never been there, but there isn't anything there so we didn't stay long) I can't imagine what it cost him in gas and wouldn't except any money my dad offered to pitch in for anything.
tl;dr A man we didn't know flew me and my father around the Hawaiian islands just 'cuz and wouldn't let us pitch in for gas.
| AskReddit | t5_2qh1i | c1j886d | I was living on a boat in Hawaii and worked at a boating supply store across town which involved a 10 minute walk to the bus stop at least an hour on the bus and a 10 minute walk to the store. As I was walking to the bus stop in the rain one day a man pulled up and offered to give me a ride to the store. I didn't really know this man but I had seen him around the marina as well as the store and was slightly reluctant to get in, but i did accept the ride. He turned out to be a very nice man and ended up offering to take me and my father up in his Cessna that weekend to fly around the islands (I would have been super sketched out but the offer seemed to only be valid if my father came along).
That weekend he picked us up and flew us around the islands giving us an incredible tour. We even landed in Molokai because we had never been there, but there isn't anything there so we didn't stay long) I can't imagine what it cost him in gas and wouldn't except any money my dad offered to pitch in for anything. | A man we didn't know flew me and my father around the Hawaiian islands just 'cuz and wouldn't let us pitch in for gas. |
StonesCutSoPrecise | It's not absurd. It's a matter of principle. Do you think when Empire Strikes Back came out, it'd be okay to run down the streets yelling "VADER IS LUKE'S FATHER!! HAHA!"? The answer is no.
As viewers that have the luxury of keeping up to date with shows/movies, we should respect other people that don't have this luxury. You can be excited all you want, but in the Prof's case, instead of posting this shit to the entire class, why not go ask, "Oh hey, have you seen last week's episode of BB? Yeah? Cool! Let's discuss our excitement!" - IMO, this is what the teacher should be doing, instead of literally, ruining the show for, potentially, many people.
The feelings that we had when watching that episode were immense; they were great; they were what us humans love to feel in our lives. Do you really want to prevent another person from feeling these awesome things by spoiling shit for them? Your mentality is no better than the trolls that lurk through Reddit and post random spoilers in the most random of thread.
So, to avoid you saying "but again, what's the timeframe?",
TL;DR It's a matter of respect, why ruin the goodness you felt for someone else? And i can't believe I am going to actually answer you, but just give it like a week, Christ. | It's not absurd. It's a matter of principle. Do you think when Empire Strikes Back came out, it'd be okay to run down the streets yelling "VADER IS LUKE'S FATHER!! HAHA!"? The answer is no.
As viewers that have the luxury of keeping up to date with shows/movies, we should respect other people that don't have this luxury. You can be excited all you want, but in the Prof's case, instead of posting this shit to the entire class, why not go ask, "Oh hey, have you seen last week's episode of BB? Yeah? Cool! Let's discuss our excitement!" - IMO, this is what the teacher should be doing, instead of literally, ruining the show for, potentially, many people.
The feelings that we had when watching that episode were immense; they were great; they were what us humans love to feel in our lives. Do you really want to prevent another person from feeling these awesome things by spoiling shit for them? Your mentality is no better than the trolls that lurk through Reddit and post random spoilers in the most random of thread.
So, to avoid you saying "but again, what's the timeframe?",
TL;DR It's a matter of respect, why ruin the goodness you felt for someone else? And i can't believe I am going to actually answer you, but just give it like a week, Christ.
| breakingbad | t5_2rlw4 | ccassdj | It's not absurd. It's a matter of principle. Do you think when Empire Strikes Back came out, it'd be okay to run down the streets yelling "VADER IS LUKE'S FATHER!! HAHA!"? The answer is no.
As viewers that have the luxury of keeping up to date with shows/movies, we should respect other people that don't have this luxury. You can be excited all you want, but in the Prof's case, instead of posting this shit to the entire class, why not go ask, "Oh hey, have you seen last week's episode of BB? Yeah? Cool! Let's discuss our excitement!" - IMO, this is what the teacher should be doing, instead of literally, ruining the show for, potentially, many people.
The feelings that we had when watching that episode were immense; they were great; they were what us humans love to feel in our lives. Do you really want to prevent another person from feeling these awesome things by spoiling shit for them? Your mentality is no better than the trolls that lurk through Reddit and post random spoilers in the most random of thread.
So, to avoid you saying "but again, what's the timeframe?", | It's a matter of respect, why ruin the goodness you felt for someone else? And i can't believe I am going to actually answer you, but just give it like a week, Christ. |
dsblue55 | Wow... just wow... Thank you. You have captured almost entirely how I feel.
I've also recently been diagnosed, as an adult, with ADHD-PI. I always had issues throughout school and now in university. I was quite capable of doing the work so generally speaking didn't have any problems. But when the work became harder and more involved.. things continually were left to the last minute. I couldn't bring myself to re-read things. Couldn't pay attention and just kept procrastinating. I always just put it down to me not being a good student. Being lazy. I'd have resolutions to 'turn a new leaf', and that would always fall apart.
Then I stumbled across information on adult ADHD/ADD, found this subreddit and from then on it was just lightbulbs going off in my head. I read stories that just really fitted in with what I'd experienced, not just in schooling but also at work and at home or socialising. A lot of the textbook symptoms fit. Not being able to concentrate in training at work, not being able to focus on conversations with my partner or with other people, which I found less interesting...
I too started to want it to be ADHD. Because suddenly there was an explanation for all these things that I'd just accepted as flaws about myself that I struggled to overcome. It felt like it actually made sense all of a sudden.
But then I read other stories on here and some things don't fit. Like you, I'm not distracted by the thought of how a doorknob works, but I am constantly in my own mind and have issues paying attention to what people say. I have issues reading things, books, textbooks. I skim over things or just look at the words without reading them (I actually started replying to this before I fully read your post, had to stop and force myself two or three times to read it properly and entirely).
After working out how to even approach getting help I finally was able to see a doctor who referred me to my psychiatrist. He started me on dexamphetamine (dexedrine, though it's unbranded here). Where I live in order to prescribe ongoing treatment with that sort medication the diagnosis must be backed up by another psychiatrist's diagnosis. So you essentially need two psychiatrists to diagnose you and agree.
But even with two professional diagnoses, I still have this anxiety in me - constantly self-doubting and making me think the same thoughts you described.
*Maybe I should just be able to do better. Maybe I'm just exaggerating. Is the medication even helping? Maybe that shows I'm not ADHD*
I fully respect and have confidence in the professional abilities of both doctors, but the anxiety is there and I just feel like a fraud. I feel like I'm using ADHD as an excuse. I even sometimes getting thoughts like 'maybe you exaggerated things in the sessions to make it seem like you have ADHD', though I don't actually believe that to be true.
It doesn't take much for the anxiety to appear: reading another person's experiences or description of ADHD that doesn't fit with mine; when medication isn't working as well as I expected it to, thinking about other people experiencing these issues or other non-ADHD people saying they have similar issues. It's frustrating and upsetting.
This has turned into a bit of a long rant sorry. But seeing your post really clicked with me and I was just so excited that it isn't just me that feels like this. I think even that in itself makes me feel more confident. I don't really have any advice other than to suggest raising these feelings with your doctor. I intend to with mine at my next appointment.
Looking back this has turned into a huge response despite constant editing and culling - apologies... no doubt if I was someone else reading this I probably wouldn't be able to.
**tl;dr: YES ME TOO! You're not alone!** | Wow... just wow... Thank you. You have captured almost entirely how I feel.
I've also recently been diagnosed, as an adult, with ADHD-PI. I always had issues throughout school and now in university. I was quite capable of doing the work so generally speaking didn't have any problems. But when the work became harder and more involved.. things continually were left to the last minute. I couldn't bring myself to re-read things. Couldn't pay attention and just kept procrastinating. I always just put it down to me not being a good student. Being lazy. I'd have resolutions to 'turn a new leaf', and that would always fall apart.
Then I stumbled across information on adult ADHD/ADD, found this subreddit and from then on it was just lightbulbs going off in my head. I read stories that just really fitted in with what I'd experienced, not just in schooling but also at work and at home or socialising. A lot of the textbook symptoms fit. Not being able to concentrate in training at work, not being able to focus on conversations with my partner or with other people, which I found less interesting...
I too started to want it to be ADHD. Because suddenly there was an explanation for all these things that I'd just accepted as flaws about myself that I struggled to overcome. It felt like it actually made sense all of a sudden.
But then I read other stories on here and some things don't fit. Like you, I'm not distracted by the thought of how a doorknob works, but I am constantly in my own mind and have issues paying attention to what people say. I have issues reading things, books, textbooks. I skim over things or just look at the words without reading them (I actually started replying to this before I fully read your post, had to stop and force myself two or three times to read it properly and entirely).
After working out how to even approach getting help I finally was able to see a doctor who referred me to my psychiatrist. He started me on dexamphetamine (dexedrine, though it's unbranded here). Where I live in order to prescribe ongoing treatment with that sort medication the diagnosis must be backed up by another psychiatrist's diagnosis. So you essentially need two psychiatrists to diagnose you and agree.
But even with two professional diagnoses, I still have this anxiety in me - constantly self-doubting and making me think the same thoughts you described.
Maybe I should just be able to do better. Maybe I'm just exaggerating. Is the medication even helping? Maybe that shows I'm not ADHD
I fully respect and have confidence in the professional abilities of both doctors, but the anxiety is there and I just feel like a fraud. I feel like I'm using ADHD as an excuse. I even sometimes getting thoughts like 'maybe you exaggerated things in the sessions to make it seem like you have ADHD', though I don't actually believe that to be true.
It doesn't take much for the anxiety to appear: reading another person's experiences or description of ADHD that doesn't fit with mine; when medication isn't working as well as I expected it to, thinking about other people experiencing these issues or other non-ADHD people saying they have similar issues. It's frustrating and upsetting.
This has turned into a bit of a long rant sorry. But seeing your post really clicked with me and I was just so excited that it isn't just me that feels like this. I think even that in itself makes me feel more confident. I don't really have any advice other than to suggest raising these feelings with your doctor. I intend to with mine at my next appointment.
Looking back this has turned into a huge response despite constant editing and culling - apologies... no doubt if I was someone else reading this I probably wouldn't be able to.
tl;dr: YES ME TOO! You're not alone!
| ADHD | t5_2qnwb | cav85q9 | Wow... just wow... Thank you. You have captured almost entirely how I feel.
I've also recently been diagnosed, as an adult, with ADHD-PI. I always had issues throughout school and now in university. I was quite capable of doing the work so generally speaking didn't have any problems. But when the work became harder and more involved.. things continually were left to the last minute. I couldn't bring myself to re-read things. Couldn't pay attention and just kept procrastinating. I always just put it down to me not being a good student. Being lazy. I'd have resolutions to 'turn a new leaf', and that would always fall apart.
Then I stumbled across information on adult ADHD/ADD, found this subreddit and from then on it was just lightbulbs going off in my head. I read stories that just really fitted in with what I'd experienced, not just in schooling but also at work and at home or socialising. A lot of the textbook symptoms fit. Not being able to concentrate in training at work, not being able to focus on conversations with my partner or with other people, which I found less interesting...
I too started to want it to be ADHD. Because suddenly there was an explanation for all these things that I'd just accepted as flaws about myself that I struggled to overcome. It felt like it actually made sense all of a sudden.
But then I read other stories on here and some things don't fit. Like you, I'm not distracted by the thought of how a doorknob works, but I am constantly in my own mind and have issues paying attention to what people say. I have issues reading things, books, textbooks. I skim over things or just look at the words without reading them (I actually started replying to this before I fully read your post, had to stop and force myself two or three times to read it properly and entirely).
After working out how to even approach getting help I finally was able to see a doctor who referred me to my psychiatrist. He started me on dexamphetamine (dexedrine, though it's unbranded here). Where I live in order to prescribe ongoing treatment with that sort medication the diagnosis must be backed up by another psychiatrist's diagnosis. So you essentially need two psychiatrists to diagnose you and agree.
But even with two professional diagnoses, I still have this anxiety in me - constantly self-doubting and making me think the same thoughts you described.
Maybe I should just be able to do better. Maybe I'm just exaggerating. Is the medication even helping? Maybe that shows I'm not ADHD
I fully respect and have confidence in the professional abilities of both doctors, but the anxiety is there and I just feel like a fraud. I feel like I'm using ADHD as an excuse. I even sometimes getting thoughts like 'maybe you exaggerated things in the sessions to make it seem like you have ADHD', though I don't actually believe that to be true.
It doesn't take much for the anxiety to appear: reading another person's experiences or description of ADHD that doesn't fit with mine; when medication isn't working as well as I expected it to, thinking about other people experiencing these issues or other non-ADHD people saying they have similar issues. It's frustrating and upsetting.
This has turned into a bit of a long rant sorry. But seeing your post really clicked with me and I was just so excited that it isn't just me that feels like this. I think even that in itself makes me feel more confident. I don't really have any advice other than to suggest raising these feelings with your doctor. I intend to with mine at my next appointment.
Looking back this has turned into a huge response despite constant editing and culling - apologies... no doubt if I was someone else reading this I probably wouldn't be able to. | YES ME TOO! You're not alone! |
[deleted] | year and 3 months. half of it was online (long distance relationship), the other half we lived together. we had arguments from time to time but infinite number of happy moments. he took me down the road less taken, he showed me the world painted in beautiful colors, he raised me up, he made me invincible and he made me the happiest person on the planet. when he was next to me, I felt like I was on the top of the world.
I was far from perfect but I made it clear that I want to change. and I tried, and I did. im still not perfect but so help me god I want to be. he deserves it. I want to see the smile in his eyes, I want to make him feel the same way he makes me feel every day
I thought I did a good job, until yesterday when we had a small argument on the phone . we haven't seen eachother for 4 months and he was supposed to come in a week. a week. 4 most painful months of my life . I got a job and I found us an apartment here and he was supposed to come in a week and also get a job, and stay forever. I made lots of little gifts and put them everywhere in the apartment so he would be surprised when he accidentally stumbles upon them. I planned to buy him a new bike today so when he comes, we could go on rides together. I planned a surprise vacation for us when he comes.
basically 90% of my thoughts in the past 4 months while we were separated, were about us and how much fun we will have when he finally comes to live with me. the other 10% I was crying cause at times it became physically unbearable for me to be strong and endure long distance (I literally mean it, he probably doesn't know but the way my body reacts when my mind is trapped within bad thoughts is horrible. I throw up all the time, I have arrhythmia, headaches, I stop eating for days, my hands are shaking, I don't talk to friends or family or anyone).
when I would finish with work, when I would finish having a wonderful conversation with him, when I would finish all chores, I would end up alone with no distractions, and my mind would start thinking about the fact that hes not here, and I would literally go crazy. I forced myself to work 12h a day (including weekends) and to do silliest things (singing outloud, meditating, drawing, even cooking (and i hate cooking), getting lost in this new city on purpose just so it would take me hours to get back to my empty apartment)).
yesterday we had a small argument about "me going to a party even tho I was crying cause I missed him a minute before that" (party with my colleagues, of which 2 are professors (40 and 50 years old) and other two are best friends that ive known for 10 years and my bf is ok with them). I thought he overreact and he thought I acted immature and probably did some thing stupid (no, I would never cheat on him, id rather hang myself and he knows that (I hope)).
I tried explaining myself but he didn't accept it. at one point I asked him "do you love me", he said no. he never said that before, even when he was really angry. and I have his messages from a week ago where he tells me how much he misses me and how much he loves me and how we will have fun 24/7 when he comes. how can it be that a person stops loving another person in a matter of minutes? how can it be that we practically built a whole future together here, and he leaves just like that?
most likely I fucked up (and honestly I dont care if I never go to any party till the rest of my life, cause time I spend with him is infinite times better than time I spend with any other person). I love him and I would never do anything directly to hurt him, but I might do smth hurtful in my ignorance. even if I did, WAS IT ENOUGH FOR HIM TO STOP LOVING ME ALL OF A SUDDEN? Was I completely out of line? even if I was, aren't people supposed to talk about problems and solve them (especially cause I made it clear that I am willing to change EVERYTHING annoying in my behavior/logic) . I called him 100 times yesterday and today, I sent 30 messages, I apologized for what I did, I cried my eyes out. this morning, he finally went online and said "its over". just like that.
I don't understand. someone help me understand, please. please. im stuck in this big apartment alone, staring at my phone and Skype, I got sick cause I didn't eat anything and I throw up everything I try to eat. i need to see him and I need to talk to him but he doesn't want to talk. the worst part is that I cant just travel to his country, otherwise id pack now and go to the airport (hes in middle east, id need someone to accompany me or to be at the airport to vouch for me, otherwise they might not let me pass). and I cant just wait for another week and see if he might change his mind and show up. I am literally clueless. If I have a problem, I always seek help from him. and now what?
this is unbearable. worst of all, it doesn't make any sense. I thought I was smart person until today, cause fuck all my knowledge and experience and logic and iq, its all useless. I DONT UNDERSTAND. he loves me, im sure, and I love him more than anything . we are so happy when we are together. why would he do that? are there any guys here reading this topic, who felt the same way? if yes, PLEASE I am begging you,make me understand so Id know what to do to fix this
And please don't say bad words about him. hes the most wonderful and caring person ive met, hes really smart and mature, he is everything to me. rather trashtalk me, just dont mention him in a bad way. thank you all...
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**tl;dr**: my soulmate left and I don't know why... | year and 3 months. half of it was online (long distance relationship), the other half we lived together. we had arguments from time to time but infinite number of happy moments. he took me down the road less taken, he showed me the world painted in beautiful colors, he raised me up, he made me invincible and he made me the happiest person on the planet. when he was next to me, I felt like I was on the top of the world.
I was far from perfect but I made it clear that I want to change. and I tried, and I did. im still not perfect but so help me god I want to be. he deserves it. I want to see the smile in his eyes, I want to make him feel the same way he makes me feel every day
I thought I did a good job, until yesterday when we had a small argument on the phone . we haven't seen eachother for 4 months and he was supposed to come in a week. a week. 4 most painful months of my life . I got a job and I found us an apartment here and he was supposed to come in a week and also get a job, and stay forever. I made lots of little gifts and put them everywhere in the apartment so he would be surprised when he accidentally stumbles upon them. I planned to buy him a new bike today so when he comes, we could go on rides together. I planned a surprise vacation for us when he comes.
basically 90% of my thoughts in the past 4 months while we were separated, were about us and how much fun we will have when he finally comes to live with me. the other 10% I was crying cause at times it became physically unbearable for me to be strong and endure long distance (I literally mean it, he probably doesn't know but the way my body reacts when my mind is trapped within bad thoughts is horrible. I throw up all the time, I have arrhythmia, headaches, I stop eating for days, my hands are shaking, I don't talk to friends or family or anyone).
when I would finish with work, when I would finish having a wonderful conversation with him, when I would finish all chores, I would end up alone with no distractions, and my mind would start thinking about the fact that hes not here, and I would literally go crazy. I forced myself to work 12h a day (including weekends) and to do silliest things (singing outloud, meditating, drawing, even cooking (and i hate cooking), getting lost in this new city on purpose just so it would take me hours to get back to my empty apartment)).
yesterday we had a small argument about "me going to a party even tho I was crying cause I missed him a minute before that" (party with my colleagues, of which 2 are professors (40 and 50 years old) and other two are best friends that ive known for 10 years and my bf is ok with them). I thought he overreact and he thought I acted immature and probably did some thing stupid (no, I would never cheat on him, id rather hang myself and he knows that (I hope)).
I tried explaining myself but he didn't accept it. at one point I asked him "do you love me", he said no. he never said that before, even when he was really angry. and I have his messages from a week ago where he tells me how much he misses me and how much he loves me and how we will have fun 24/7 when he comes. how can it be that a person stops loving another person in a matter of minutes? how can it be that we practically built a whole future together here, and he leaves just like that?
most likely I fucked up (and honestly I dont care if I never go to any party till the rest of my life, cause time I spend with him is infinite times better than time I spend with any other person). I love him and I would never do anything directly to hurt him, but I might do smth hurtful in my ignorance. even if I did, WAS IT ENOUGH FOR HIM TO STOP LOVING ME ALL OF A SUDDEN? Was I completely out of line? even if I was, aren't people supposed to talk about problems and solve them (especially cause I made it clear that I am willing to change EVERYTHING annoying in my behavior/logic) . I called him 100 times yesterday and today, I sent 30 messages, I apologized for what I did, I cried my eyes out. this morning, he finally went online and said "its over". just like that.
I don't understand. someone help me understand, please. please. im stuck in this big apartment alone, staring at my phone and Skype, I got sick cause I didn't eat anything and I throw up everything I try to eat. i need to see him and I need to talk to him but he doesn't want to talk. the worst part is that I cant just travel to his country, otherwise id pack now and go to the airport (hes in middle east, id need someone to accompany me or to be at the airport to vouch for me, otherwise they might not let me pass). and I cant just wait for another week and see if he might change his mind and show up. I am literally clueless. If I have a problem, I always seek help from him. and now what?
this is unbearable. worst of all, it doesn't make any sense. I thought I was smart person until today, cause fuck all my knowledge and experience and logic and iq, its all useless. I DONT UNDERSTAND. he loves me, im sure, and I love him more than anything . we are so happy when we are together. why would he do that? are there any guys here reading this topic, who felt the same way? if yes, PLEASE I am begging you,make me understand so Id know what to do to fix this
And please don't say bad words about him. hes the most wonderful and caring person ive met, hes really smart and mature, he is everything to me. rather trashtalk me, just dont mention him in a bad way. thank you all...
tl;dr : my soulmate left and I don't know why...
| relationships | t5_2qjvn | t3_1w6rf4 | year and 3 months. half of it was online (long distance relationship), the other half we lived together. we had arguments from time to time but infinite number of happy moments. he took me down the road less taken, he showed me the world painted in beautiful colors, he raised me up, he made me invincible and he made me the happiest person on the planet. when he was next to me, I felt like I was on the top of the world.
I was far from perfect but I made it clear that I want to change. and I tried, and I did. im still not perfect but so help me god I want to be. he deserves it. I want to see the smile in his eyes, I want to make him feel the same way he makes me feel every day
I thought I did a good job, until yesterday when we had a small argument on the phone . we haven't seen eachother for 4 months and he was supposed to come in a week. a week. 4 most painful months of my life . I got a job and I found us an apartment here and he was supposed to come in a week and also get a job, and stay forever. I made lots of little gifts and put them everywhere in the apartment so he would be surprised when he accidentally stumbles upon them. I planned to buy him a new bike today so when he comes, we could go on rides together. I planned a surprise vacation for us when he comes.
basically 90% of my thoughts in the past 4 months while we were separated, were about us and how much fun we will have when he finally comes to live with me. the other 10% I was crying cause at times it became physically unbearable for me to be strong and endure long distance (I literally mean it, he probably doesn't know but the way my body reacts when my mind is trapped within bad thoughts is horrible. I throw up all the time, I have arrhythmia, headaches, I stop eating for days, my hands are shaking, I don't talk to friends or family or anyone).
when I would finish with work, when I would finish having a wonderful conversation with him, when I would finish all chores, I would end up alone with no distractions, and my mind would start thinking about the fact that hes not here, and I would literally go crazy. I forced myself to work 12h a day (including weekends) and to do silliest things (singing outloud, meditating, drawing, even cooking (and i hate cooking), getting lost in this new city on purpose just so it would take me hours to get back to my empty apartment)).
yesterday we had a small argument about "me going to a party even tho I was crying cause I missed him a minute before that" (party with my colleagues, of which 2 are professors (40 and 50 years old) and other two are best friends that ive known for 10 years and my bf is ok with them). I thought he overreact and he thought I acted immature and probably did some thing stupid (no, I would never cheat on him, id rather hang myself and he knows that (I hope)).
I tried explaining myself but he didn't accept it. at one point I asked him "do you love me", he said no. he never said that before, even when he was really angry. and I have his messages from a week ago where he tells me how much he misses me and how much he loves me and how we will have fun 24/7 when he comes. how can it be that a person stops loving another person in a matter of minutes? how can it be that we practically built a whole future together here, and he leaves just like that?
most likely I fucked up (and honestly I dont care if I never go to any party till the rest of my life, cause time I spend with him is infinite times better than time I spend with any other person). I love him and I would never do anything directly to hurt him, but I might do smth hurtful in my ignorance. even if I did, WAS IT ENOUGH FOR HIM TO STOP LOVING ME ALL OF A SUDDEN? Was I completely out of line? even if I was, aren't people supposed to talk about problems and solve them (especially cause I made it clear that I am willing to change EVERYTHING annoying in my behavior/logic) . I called him 100 times yesterday and today, I sent 30 messages, I apologized for what I did, I cried my eyes out. this morning, he finally went online and said "its over". just like that.
I don't understand. someone help me understand, please. please. im stuck in this big apartment alone, staring at my phone and Skype, I got sick cause I didn't eat anything and I throw up everything I try to eat. i need to see him and I need to talk to him but he doesn't want to talk. the worst part is that I cant just travel to his country, otherwise id pack now and go to the airport (hes in middle east, id need someone to accompany me or to be at the airport to vouch for me, otherwise they might not let me pass). and I cant just wait for another week and see if he might change his mind and show up. I am literally clueless. If I have a problem, I always seek help from him. and now what?
this is unbearable. worst of all, it doesn't make any sense. I thought I was smart person until today, cause fuck all my knowledge and experience and logic and iq, its all useless. I DONT UNDERSTAND. he loves me, im sure, and I love him more than anything . we are so happy when we are together. why would he do that? are there any guys here reading this topic, who felt the same way? if yes, PLEASE I am begging you,make me understand so Id know what to do to fix this
And please don't say bad words about him. hes the most wonderful and caring person ive met, hes really smart and mature, he is everything to me. rather trashtalk me, just dont mention him in a bad way. thank you all... | my soulmate left and I don't know why... |
twinducks | Okay so I've just gotten a real job for the first time in probably 2 or 3 years and 2 days into it I'm about ready to quit. Yes it is quite physically demanding, but the pay is decent, and I have done labor jobs in the past. I get to work and all I think about is not being there and how I should just quit. Also, at least lately, I feel like I have anxiety when I sleep even though I'm exhausted and should just pass out. Ill go to bed at a reasonable 11pm and wake up at like 4 or something and just dread work in the morning.
TLDR: Hate new job, and have bad sleeps. Want to not hate job | Okay so I've just gotten a real job for the first time in probably 2 or 3 years and 2 days into it I'm about ready to quit. Yes it is quite physically demanding, but the pay is decent, and I have done labor jobs in the past. I get to work and all I think about is not being there and how I should just quit. Also, at least lately, I feel like I have anxiety when I sleep even though I'm exhausted and should just pass out. Ill go to bed at a reasonable 11pm and wake up at like 4 or something and just dread work in the morning.
TLDR: Hate new job, and have bad sleeps. Want to not hate job
| IWantToLearn | t5_2rjo5 | t3_lgr34 | Okay so I've just gotten a real job for the first time in probably 2 or 3 years and 2 days into it I'm about ready to quit. Yes it is quite physically demanding, but the pay is decent, and I have done labor jobs in the past. I get to work and all I think about is not being there and how I should just quit. Also, at least lately, I feel like I have anxiety when I sleep even though I'm exhausted and should just pass out. Ill go to bed at a reasonable 11pm and wake up at like 4 or something and just dread work in the morning. | Hate new job, and have bad sleeps. Want to not hate job |
irish_shindig | Just very pleased with myself (big ego incoming), that's all. I got to the finish line at 7:19 and the woman there (who I assume was in charge of the event) said she was very worried about letting me participate because of my age, but she was glad to see I'd finished!
Here is the [elevation map](
Like u/Georgebob suggested, I ended up walking all of the uphills except the first (which I sorely regretted later).
The race started at 6am, when it was cloudy & sprinkling, about 50 degrees. If nobody has seen 120 headlamps bobbing up and down across switchbacks, I highly recommend going out and watching a similar event sometime in your life - it's an incredibly cool sight to see. [Here's]( a poor photograph of the start, but you get the idea. Everyone was very supportive and friendly on this race.
In the first 30-45 minutes of the race both of my feet went numb - the left foot was worse than the right. This happens to me every time I run/walk up hills - I've read that it could be compartment syndrome(?). In any case, it stopped after a while, per usual, and I continued. By the first aid station (6.5 miles) it was starting to get lighter, and I began to run with a very friendly woman who helped me pace myself over the next 6 miles. At the 2nd aid station (11.5 miles - apparently the previous year they served beer at this station) we were 3,000 feet higher than the start, and it was absolutely frigid & densely packed with fog. My hands & arms were bright red because I had left my arm-warmers at the car.
At the 3rd aid station (18 miles) I was greeted by my [Mom, Dad, Brother and Dog]( It was just starting to get warm.
[4th aid station (22 miles)]( - I had an intense pain in my right knee from running downhill so much, and my left calf had just spasmed for the first time.
This was the place where I had to decide whether to drop out or not - I was absolutely exhausted, but figured I'd probably not forgive myself if I didn't try to finish.
After the 5th aid station at 24 miles my right knee really started to hurt. It was a very steep downhill for the next 3.5 miles, and I had to walk the majority of it.
The rest of the race was a blur of pain & muscle spasms. I tried to run the flats, but ended up walking a ton. [WHO CARES, I FINISHED A 50K!!!](
TL;DR - Very sore, very stiff, still happy. | Just very pleased with myself (big ego incoming), that's all. I got to the finish line at 7:19 and the woman there (who I assume was in charge of the event) said she was very worried about letting me participate because of my age, but she was glad to see I'd finished!
Here is the [elevation map](
Like u/Georgebob suggested, I ended up walking all of the uphills except the first (which I sorely regretted later).
The race started at 6am, when it was cloudy & sprinkling, about 50 degrees. If nobody has seen 120 headlamps bobbing up and down across switchbacks, I highly recommend going out and watching a similar event sometime in your life - it's an incredibly cool sight to see. [Here's]( a poor photograph of the start, but you get the idea. Everyone was very supportive and friendly on this race.
In the first 30-45 minutes of the race both of my feet went numb - the left foot was worse than the right. This happens to me every time I run/walk up hills - I've read that it could be compartment syndrome(?). In any case, it stopped after a while, per usual, and I continued. By the first aid station (6.5 miles) it was starting to get lighter, and I began to run with a very friendly woman who helped me pace myself over the next 6 miles. At the 2nd aid station (11.5 miles - apparently the previous year they served beer at this station) we were 3,000 feet higher than the start, and it was absolutely frigid & densely packed with fog. My hands & arms were bright red because I had left my arm-warmers at the car.
At the 3rd aid station (18 miles) I was greeted by my [Mom, Dad, Brother and Dog]( It was just starting to get warm.
[4th aid station (22 miles)]( - I had an intense pain in my right knee from running downhill so much, and my left calf had just spasmed for the first time.
This was the place where I had to decide whether to drop out or not - I was absolutely exhausted, but figured I'd probably not forgive myself if I didn't try to finish.
After the 5th aid station at 24 miles my right knee really started to hurt. It was a very steep downhill for the next 3.5 miles, and I had to walk the majority of it.
The rest of the race was a blur of pain & muscle spasms. I tried to run the flats, but ended up walking a ton. [WHO CARES, I FINISHED A 50K!!!](
TL;DR - Very sore, very stiff, still happy.
| running | t5_2qlit | t3_11v1ab | Just very pleased with myself (big ego incoming), that's all. I got to the finish line at 7:19 and the woman there (who I assume was in charge of the event) said she was very worried about letting me participate because of my age, but she was glad to see I'd finished!
Here is the [elevation map](
Like u/Georgebob suggested, I ended up walking all of the uphills except the first (which I sorely regretted later).
The race started at 6am, when it was cloudy & sprinkling, about 50 degrees. If nobody has seen 120 headlamps bobbing up and down across switchbacks, I highly recommend going out and watching a similar event sometime in your life - it's an incredibly cool sight to see. [Here's]( a poor photograph of the start, but you get the idea. Everyone was very supportive and friendly on this race.
In the first 30-45 minutes of the race both of my feet went numb - the left foot was worse than the right. This happens to me every time I run/walk up hills - I've read that it could be compartment syndrome(?). In any case, it stopped after a while, per usual, and I continued. By the first aid station (6.5 miles) it was starting to get lighter, and I began to run with a very friendly woman who helped me pace myself over the next 6 miles. At the 2nd aid station (11.5 miles - apparently the previous year they served beer at this station) we were 3,000 feet higher than the start, and it was absolutely frigid & densely packed with fog. My hands & arms were bright red because I had left my arm-warmers at the car.
At the 3rd aid station (18 miles) I was greeted by my [Mom, Dad, Brother and Dog]( It was just starting to get warm.
[4th aid station (22 miles)]( - I had an intense pain in my right knee from running downhill so much, and my left calf had just spasmed for the first time.
This was the place where I had to decide whether to drop out or not - I was absolutely exhausted, but figured I'd probably not forgive myself if I didn't try to finish.
After the 5th aid station at 24 miles my right knee really started to hurt. It was a very steep downhill for the next 3.5 miles, and I had to walk the majority of it.
The rest of the race was a blur of pain & muscle spasms. I tried to run the flats, but ended up walking a ton. [WHO CARES, I FINISHED A 50K!!!]( | Very sore, very stiff, still happy. |
JamesM_ | My argument and general stance on this issue revolves around the definition of marriage, and its distinction from civil partnership.
More specifically, I am of the understanding that *legally*, there is no difference between civil parnership and marriage, in that a couple getting married has the same final rights under the legal system as those getting a civil parnership.
Now, if that understanding is false, then my view is to revamp civil parnership such that it holds. But if it is true, then:
> The fact that religious people feel that marriage is a religious thing is no more valid than secular people feeling that it isn't religious.
No. Marriage under the law is different to marriage under God, and the fact that the same term is used to mean different things is clouding the fact. "Marriage" as to which Christians refer is a superset of marriage as referred to by law, in that you get legally married and also make a commitment to each other under the eyes of God.
> If anyone gets priority for their beliefs it should be the people who found them with reason and logic instead of childish fairy tales.
Spoken like a true atheist. Does it not occur to you that others see things differently?
> You brought up the idea of cold hard logic and cold hard logic says that creation myths and intelligent design are nonsense, they are not appropriate for basing societal norms and laws on.
No, I gave a set of assumptions and a conclusion based on those assumptions. That is using logic. That does not therefore imply that the assumptions upon which the predicate was based had to have been logically deduced. I was providing a logical reasoning for the behaviour of a group, based upon views held by that group.
> We have much better ways to explain the 'complementarity' of female and male bodies and it doesn't say anything about who should be allowed to marry who.
Yet, the bible does, and that is what religious people follow to make their definition of marriage. Therefore, again, legal and religious marriage is separate. This also goes to your saying that marriage is a human-social construct - no, for some it is a human-social-religious construct.
> In most societies the rules about who can marry whom typically come about from what works at the time,
I really think you're taking your atheism and applying it retroactively, erasing all sign of religion throughout history and explaining it all in terms of base instincts.
Like it or not, humans do not solely base their actions on their base instincts, and while they may certainly (and are likely to) have been to do with how society functioned until organised religion came along, once it was there there was doctrine which explicitly stated how one should behave. Mass hysteria and mob mentality enforced that to a large degree.
> Gay couples who want to marry could also argue that they are complementary to each other and god made them so. And they too might want to raise children.
They can certainly argue that. But they won't get anywhere with the religious types, and as fucked up as our politically correct culture is nowadays there's still no way you can force them to.
> Actually I don't know if it's right to say that most religious people find homosexuality to be wrong,
I think it's right, but I don't have any quantitative evidence so I'll leave it.
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TL;DR: Why all this clamouring, all over a word? "Marriage" is a word to many people, and if it is the same legally as civil partnership, why not just leave the word to the religious who care so much about it, and roll the tanks off their lawn? | My argument and general stance on this issue revolves around the definition of marriage, and its distinction from civil partnership.
More specifically, I am of the understanding that legally , there is no difference between civil parnership and marriage, in that a couple getting married has the same final rights under the legal system as those getting a civil parnership.
Now, if that understanding is false, then my view is to revamp civil parnership such that it holds. But if it is true, then:
> The fact that religious people feel that marriage is a religious thing is no more valid than secular people feeling that it isn't religious.
No. Marriage under the law is different to marriage under God, and the fact that the same term is used to mean different things is clouding the fact. "Marriage" as to which Christians refer is a superset of marriage as referred to by law, in that you get legally married and also make a commitment to each other under the eyes of God.
> If anyone gets priority for their beliefs it should be the people who found them with reason and logic instead of childish fairy tales.
Spoken like a true atheist. Does it not occur to you that others see things differently?
> You brought up the idea of cold hard logic and cold hard logic says that creation myths and intelligent design are nonsense, they are not appropriate for basing societal norms and laws on.
No, I gave a set of assumptions and a conclusion based on those assumptions. That is using logic. That does not therefore imply that the assumptions upon which the predicate was based had to have been logically deduced. I was providing a logical reasoning for the behaviour of a group, based upon views held by that group.
> We have much better ways to explain the 'complementarity' of female and male bodies and it doesn't say anything about who should be allowed to marry who.
Yet, the bible does, and that is what religious people follow to make their definition of marriage. Therefore, again, legal and religious marriage is separate. This also goes to your saying that marriage is a human-social construct - no, for some it is a human-social-religious construct.
> In most societies the rules about who can marry whom typically come about from what works at the time,
I really think you're taking your atheism and applying it retroactively, erasing all sign of religion throughout history and explaining it all in terms of base instincts.
Like it or not, humans do not solely base their actions on their base instincts, and while they may certainly (and are likely to) have been to do with how society functioned until organised religion came along, once it was there there was doctrine which explicitly stated how one should behave. Mass hysteria and mob mentality enforced that to a large degree.
> Gay couples who want to marry could also argue that they are complementary to each other and god made them so. And they too might want to raise children.
They can certainly argue that. But they won't get anywhere with the religious types, and as fucked up as our politically correct culture is nowadays there's still no way you can force them to.
> Actually I don't know if it's right to say that most religious people find homosexuality to be wrong,
I think it's right, but I don't have any quantitative evidence so I'll leave it.
TL;DR: Why all this clamouring, all over a word? "Marriage" is a word to many people, and if it is the same legally as civil partnership, why not just leave the word to the religious who care so much about it, and roll the tanks off their lawn?
| unitedkingdom | t5_2qhqb | c405boy | My argument and general stance on this issue revolves around the definition of marriage, and its distinction from civil partnership.
More specifically, I am of the understanding that legally , there is no difference between civil parnership and marriage, in that a couple getting married has the same final rights under the legal system as those getting a civil parnership.
Now, if that understanding is false, then my view is to revamp civil parnership such that it holds. But if it is true, then:
> The fact that religious people feel that marriage is a religious thing is no more valid than secular people feeling that it isn't religious.
No. Marriage under the law is different to marriage under God, and the fact that the same term is used to mean different things is clouding the fact. "Marriage" as to which Christians refer is a superset of marriage as referred to by law, in that you get legally married and also make a commitment to each other under the eyes of God.
> If anyone gets priority for their beliefs it should be the people who found them with reason and logic instead of childish fairy tales.
Spoken like a true atheist. Does it not occur to you that others see things differently?
> You brought up the idea of cold hard logic and cold hard logic says that creation myths and intelligent design are nonsense, they are not appropriate for basing societal norms and laws on.
No, I gave a set of assumptions and a conclusion based on those assumptions. That is using logic. That does not therefore imply that the assumptions upon which the predicate was based had to have been logically deduced. I was providing a logical reasoning for the behaviour of a group, based upon views held by that group.
> We have much better ways to explain the 'complementarity' of female and male bodies and it doesn't say anything about who should be allowed to marry who.
Yet, the bible does, and that is what religious people follow to make their definition of marriage. Therefore, again, legal and religious marriage is separate. This also goes to your saying that marriage is a human-social construct - no, for some it is a human-social-religious construct.
> In most societies the rules about who can marry whom typically come about from what works at the time,
I really think you're taking your atheism and applying it retroactively, erasing all sign of religion throughout history and explaining it all in terms of base instincts.
Like it or not, humans do not solely base their actions on their base instincts, and while they may certainly (and are likely to) have been to do with how society functioned until organised religion came along, once it was there there was doctrine which explicitly stated how one should behave. Mass hysteria and mob mentality enforced that to a large degree.
> Gay couples who want to marry could also argue that they are complementary to each other and god made them so. And they too might want to raise children.
They can certainly argue that. But they won't get anywhere with the religious types, and as fucked up as our politically correct culture is nowadays there's still no way you can force them to.
> Actually I don't know if it's right to say that most religious people find homosexuality to be wrong,
I think it's right, but I don't have any quantitative evidence so I'll leave it. | Why all this clamouring, all over a word? "Marriage" is a word to many people, and if it is the same legally as civil partnership, why not just leave the word to the religious who care so much about it, and roll the tanks off their lawn? |
ogSPLICE | Im sorry, $170?!?!?!?! with the asurion insurance to get a new phone? HOLY FUCKING CHRIST, They really fucking rob you now a days
My blackberry storm used to cost me $50 to replace everytime it shit the bed with Asurion. Then They charted me $80 to replace my Droid X because the camera button broke. I never filed a claim on my Gnex, but my sister paid $80 to have her Moto Razor X replaced (I think that was the model, claimed to be the best android battery lifed phone at the time ) after she cracked the screen..
Now they want $170 deductible? Just cancel that fucking shit, man what a rip off. I cancelled mine. All that money you pay them you could just buy a new phone, plus its water resistant and with the $20 tempered glass protector, you dont really need them anymore.
Jesus, $170 to get a phone that verizon charges you $99 for is **INSANE**
**TL;DR** FUCK ASURION INSURANCE, FUCKING CROOKS | Im sorry, $170?!?!?!?! with the asurion insurance to get a new phone? HOLY FUCKING CHRIST, They really fucking rob you now a days
My blackberry storm used to cost me $50 to replace everytime it shit the bed with Asurion. Then They charted me $80 to replace my Droid X because the camera button broke. I never filed a claim on my Gnex, but my sister paid $80 to have her Moto Razor X replaced (I think that was the model, claimed to be the best android battery lifed phone at the time ) after she cracked the screen..
Now they want $170 deductible? Just cancel that fucking shit, man what a rip off. I cancelled mine. All that money you pay them you could just buy a new phone, plus its water resistant and with the $20 tempered glass protector, you dont really need them anymore.
Jesus, $170 to get a phone that verizon charges you $99 for is INSANE
TL;DR FUCK ASURION INSURANCE, FUCKING CROOKS
| galaxys5 | t5_2v73m | cj5i2o8 | Im sorry, $170?!?!?!?! with the asurion insurance to get a new phone? HOLY FUCKING CHRIST, They really fucking rob you now a days
My blackberry storm used to cost me $50 to replace everytime it shit the bed with Asurion. Then They charted me $80 to replace my Droid X because the camera button broke. I never filed a claim on my Gnex, but my sister paid $80 to have her Moto Razor X replaced (I think that was the model, claimed to be the best android battery lifed phone at the time ) after she cracked the screen..
Now they want $170 deductible? Just cancel that fucking shit, man what a rip off. I cancelled mine. All that money you pay them you could just buy a new phone, plus its water resistant and with the $20 tempered glass protector, you dont really need them anymore.
Jesus, $170 to get a phone that verizon charges you $99 for is INSANE | FUCK ASURION INSURANCE, FUCKING CROOKS |
Coriluvstosmile | I was at Walmart a couple weeks ago (Black Friday) and there were a couple fights over televisions and such, but these two women in about their early 30's fought over a $1.50 hand towel. It was insane, they were both arrested.
TL;DR: Crazy bitches fought over 1.50 towel, were arrested. | I was at Walmart a couple weeks ago (Black Friday) and there were a couple fights over televisions and such, but these two women in about their early 30's fought over a $1.50 hand towel. It was insane, they were both arrested.
TL;DR: Crazy bitches fought over 1.50 towel, were arrested.
| AskReddit | t5_2qh1i | c372vl3 | I was at Walmart a couple weeks ago (Black Friday) and there were a couple fights over televisions and such, but these two women in about their early 30's fought over a $1.50 hand towel. It was insane, they were both arrested. | Crazy bitches fought over 1.50 towel, were arrested. |
Triplesteel | Disclosure: I'm one of the primary coders behind SynGaming and because I work behind the scenes I have no idea what actually happened here
Phin can be quick to anger because of the sheer amount of players he deals with on a day to day basis. I actually couldn't handle it myself and dropped down from admin after only a day of dealing with the stuff they have to deal with.That's pretty much the only defense I have for someone *cursing* at you, which I'm entirely surprised that one of the admins would do that.
I can tell you that all of our donation packages we use to keep the servers running were all discussed at length and voted on by the entire community before the Avalon server was created. Days of thought and prep by dozens of people went into the Avalon servers donation process alone.
In addition to Avalon server we also run Camelot server. That one does not have donation packages and is actually older then Avalon. The donation packages were presented as a solution to the fact that we were running out of money to keep our servers online and voluntary player donations weren't meeting server costs. I can attest that 100% of the money is being used to keep the servers online and none of it is being pocketed by any of the admins or founders of Syngaming.
The reason players may of been ganging up on you is because most of them have had this discussion a million times. There's no reason to argue it anymore. We offer a server that does not have donation packages if anyone has a problem with them. With 792 unique logins on Avalon since creation (20 days ago) you can imagine we get a lot of new players who don't like this or don't like that. I know we try our best to help each and ever player that walks through our gates, and Phin / Carrot do a hell of a job, but it's hard to make that many people all happy.
TL;DR I'm sorry you had a bad experience
| Disclosure: I'm one of the primary coders behind SynGaming and because I work behind the scenes I have no idea what actually happened here
Phin can be quick to anger because of the sheer amount of players he deals with on a day to day basis. I actually couldn't handle it myself and dropped down from admin after only a day of dealing with the stuff they have to deal with.That's pretty much the only defense I have for someone cursing at you, which I'm entirely surprised that one of the admins would do that.
I can tell you that all of our donation packages we use to keep the servers running were all discussed at length and voted on by the entire community before the Avalon server was created. Days of thought and prep by dozens of people went into the Avalon servers donation process alone.
In addition to Avalon server we also run Camelot server. That one does not have donation packages and is actually older then Avalon. The donation packages were presented as a solution to the fact that we were running out of money to keep our servers online and voluntary player donations weren't meeting server costs. I can attest that 100% of the money is being used to keep the servers online and none of it is being pocketed by any of the admins or founders of Syngaming.
The reason players may of been ganging up on you is because most of them have had this discussion a million times. There's no reason to argue it anymore. We offer a server that does not have donation packages if anyone has a problem with them. With 792 unique logins on Avalon since creation (20 days ago) you can imagine we get a lot of new players who don't like this or don't like that. I know we try our best to help each and ever player that walks through our gates, and Phin / Carrot do a hell of a job, but it's hard to make that many people all happy.
TL;DR I'm sorry you had a bad experience
| LifeIsFeudal | t5_2yxdl | co4moyk | Disclosure: I'm one of the primary coders behind SynGaming and because I work behind the scenes I have no idea what actually happened here
Phin can be quick to anger because of the sheer amount of players he deals with on a day to day basis. I actually couldn't handle it myself and dropped down from admin after only a day of dealing with the stuff they have to deal with.That's pretty much the only defense I have for someone cursing at you, which I'm entirely surprised that one of the admins would do that.
I can tell you that all of our donation packages we use to keep the servers running were all discussed at length and voted on by the entire community before the Avalon server was created. Days of thought and prep by dozens of people went into the Avalon servers donation process alone.
In addition to Avalon server we also run Camelot server. That one does not have donation packages and is actually older then Avalon. The donation packages were presented as a solution to the fact that we were running out of money to keep our servers online and voluntary player donations weren't meeting server costs. I can attest that 100% of the money is being used to keep the servers online and none of it is being pocketed by any of the admins or founders of Syngaming.
The reason players may of been ganging up on you is because most of them have had this discussion a million times. There's no reason to argue it anymore. We offer a server that does not have donation packages if anyone has a problem with them. With 792 unique logins on Avalon since creation (20 days ago) you can imagine we get a lot of new players who don't like this or don't like that. I know we try our best to help each and ever player that walks through our gates, and Phin / Carrot do a hell of a job, but it's hard to make that many people all happy. | I'm sorry you had a bad experience |
Blackgold86 | Just wanted to say thank you to this forum in general. I have been keto-ing since the end of May (CKD and then switched to SKD when I found this forum)... Now into week 3 of no refeeds and have been struggling with a PERSISTENT headaches and foggyness. Thought my body was struggling without the refeeds, was about to plan one for this weekend!
Tried Gatorade Zero, Tried adding salt, tried fat bombs... Nothing worked until this morning..
I usually have a coffee when I get to work with a small amount of butter and coconut oil and salt in it. Then today, I doubled the amounts of it all, and now I have no headache and more energy than I know what to do with.
TL;DR : I came THIS close to doing another refeed because I thought it was my body telling me I needed carbs. Took your advice about fats and feel better already... THANK YOU! | Just wanted to say thank you to this forum in general. I have been keto-ing since the end of May (CKD and then switched to SKD when I found this forum)... Now into week 3 of no refeeds and have been struggling with a PERSISTENT headaches and foggyness. Thought my body was struggling without the refeeds, was about to plan one for this weekend!
Tried Gatorade Zero, Tried adding salt, tried fat bombs... Nothing worked until this morning..
I usually have a coffee when I get to work with a small amount of butter and coconut oil and salt in it. Then today, I doubled the amounts of it all, and now I have no headache and more energy than I know what to do with.
TL;DR : I came THIS close to doing another refeed because I thought it was my body telling me I needed carbs. Took your advice about fats and feel better already... THANK YOU!
| keto | t5_2rske | t3_1kucrk | Just wanted to say thank you to this forum in general. I have been keto-ing since the end of May (CKD and then switched to SKD when I found this forum)... Now into week 3 of no refeeds and have been struggling with a PERSISTENT headaches and foggyness. Thought my body was struggling without the refeeds, was about to plan one for this weekend!
Tried Gatorade Zero, Tried adding salt, tried fat bombs... Nothing worked until this morning..
I usually have a coffee when I get to work with a small amount of butter and coconut oil and salt in it. Then today, I doubled the amounts of it all, and now I have no headache and more energy than I know what to do with. | I came THIS close to doing another refeed because I thought it was my body telling me I needed carbs. Took your advice about fats and feel better already... THANK YOU! |
Lyucit | Something which I've found a giant barrier to G+ is that it's a social network which people associate with facebook, yet it's much, much more content driven- more like reddit or twitter. The experience varies so much depending on who you circle.
My IRL friends barely post anything, but they use G+ a lot for hangouts and google talk- google+ hangouts really allows you to connect with people on a more intimate level than facebook does, I think.
Then there's next level up- the people I don't know really well. There are some facebook-style status update posts, but they do generate a lot of content, and the interaction is mostly limited to the posts themselves.
Then there's the people you follow- celebrities, artists, people you generally are interested in- I often find myself looking through their individual streams, and this is the level where G+ imitates a twitter-style interaction. It's not entirely focused on the content, because while it's public it's expected everyone has some level of familiarity with the poster, which distinguishes it from absolute strangers.
I've only added a small portion of the redditor's list, but a reddit circle of about 100 people kept my stream incredibly active. One of the greatest things about G+ is the sheer quality of most of the posts. I spend almost as much time on G+ than on reddit now because of all of the great things shared by absolute strangers that show up in my stream. I recently added [Robert Scoble]( shared circles, and there is so much amazing content flooding my stream.
One of the biggest weaknesses of google+ at the moment is it's being used on so many levels, but there isn't much in the way of helping you manage all the content, like selective filtering. Google+ isn't anything like facebook- the sharing model changes absolutely everything about it. G+ is a community as much as it is a tool- so circle some strangers, follow some celebrities and join a few hangouts with the friends who came along with you!
Here's scoble's shared circles, to get you started:
[Artsy people](
[Social media folk](
[The 1%](
Geeks [3]( [2]( [1](
TL;DR: Google+ is a community as well as a social network. Circle ALL THE THINGS. | Something which I've found a giant barrier to G+ is that it's a social network which people associate with facebook, yet it's much, much more content driven- more like reddit or twitter. The experience varies so much depending on who you circle.
My IRL friends barely post anything, but they use G+ a lot for hangouts and google talk- google+ hangouts really allows you to connect with people on a more intimate level than facebook does, I think.
Then there's next level up- the people I don't know really well. There are some facebook-style status update posts, but they do generate a lot of content, and the interaction is mostly limited to the posts themselves.
Then there's the people you follow- celebrities, artists, people you generally are interested in- I often find myself looking through their individual streams, and this is the level where G+ imitates a twitter-style interaction. It's not entirely focused on the content, because while it's public it's expected everyone has some level of familiarity with the poster, which distinguishes it from absolute strangers.
I've only added a small portion of the redditor's list, but a reddit circle of about 100 people kept my stream incredibly active. One of the greatest things about G+ is the sheer quality of most of the posts. I spend almost as much time on G+ than on reddit now because of all of the great things shared by absolute strangers that show up in my stream. I recently added [Robert Scoble]( shared circles, and there is so much amazing content flooding my stream.
One of the biggest weaknesses of google+ at the moment is it's being used on so many levels, but there isn't much in the way of helping you manage all the content, like selective filtering. Google+ isn't anything like facebook- the sharing model changes absolutely everything about it. G+ is a community as much as it is a tool- so circle some strangers, follow some celebrities and join a few hangouts with the friends who came along with you!
Here's scoble's shared circles, to get you started:
[Artsy people](
[Social media folk](
[The 1%](
Geeks [3]( [2]( [1](
TL;DR: Google+ is a community as well as a social network. Circle ALL THE THINGS.
| googleplus | t5_2slj1 | c2rg27k | Something which I've found a giant barrier to G+ is that it's a social network which people associate with facebook, yet it's much, much more content driven- more like reddit or twitter. The experience varies so much depending on who you circle.
My IRL friends barely post anything, but they use G+ a lot for hangouts and google talk- google+ hangouts really allows you to connect with people on a more intimate level than facebook does, I think.
Then there's next level up- the people I don't know really well. There are some facebook-style status update posts, but they do generate a lot of content, and the interaction is mostly limited to the posts themselves.
Then there's the people you follow- celebrities, artists, people you generally are interested in- I often find myself looking through their individual streams, and this is the level where G+ imitates a twitter-style interaction. It's not entirely focused on the content, because while it's public it's expected everyone has some level of familiarity with the poster, which distinguishes it from absolute strangers.
I've only added a small portion of the redditor's list, but a reddit circle of about 100 people kept my stream incredibly active. One of the greatest things about G+ is the sheer quality of most of the posts. I spend almost as much time on G+ than on reddit now because of all of the great things shared by absolute strangers that show up in my stream. I recently added [Robert Scoble]( shared circles, and there is so much amazing content flooding my stream.
One of the biggest weaknesses of google+ at the moment is it's being used on so many levels, but there isn't much in the way of helping you manage all the content, like selective filtering. Google+ isn't anything like facebook- the sharing model changes absolutely everything about it. G+ is a community as much as it is a tool- so circle some strangers, follow some celebrities and join a few hangouts with the friends who came along with you!
Here's scoble's shared circles, to get you started:
[Artsy people](
[Social media folk](
[The 1%](
Geeks [3]( [2]( [1]( | Google+ is a community as well as a social network. Circle ALL THE THINGS. |
RamenRain | My girlfriend[19F] of a year and a half broke up with me[18M] after three months of long distance summer relationship. It wasn't because I was a bad bf or anything, it's because she fell in love with her best friend[18F]. We never had sex and for about 8 months before the break up we had no time to fit any intimate interactions into our schedule (ex: foreplay, oral..) We did however go on dates and she always was amazingly happy after the dates.
I'm part of their friend group and I still talk to my ex since we were amazing friends and still have similar interests. Just yesterday, she wanted to talk to me about the sex she's having with her new girlfriend and possibly tips to make them comfortable since I was so great with foreplay(when we actually did it) and a lot of lesbian sex is foreplay. This not only made me uncomfortable but jealous af. How is it fair that we were together for more than a year and never had sex but they've been together for a month and they do it everyday(they live together btw so woo jealously). I gave her all the tips but I just feel so sexually frustrated and horny af
When she said she really wanted to see me(before break up) I thought we were going to do some intimate stuff. No one was home, she just got back from her long distance trip and I was ready to get down(even if it was just going to be foreplay and oral). Instead she broke up with me and I'm bursting with sexual frustration. Masterbation isn't working because all I think of is her. I can't seem to cum without thinking about her and that really fucks up my mind since we're broken up. I've been trying to talk to other girls and get out but I just can't connect with someone the way I did with her. I started lifting and eating healthier too to try to let out some of that frustration but I'm finding it to be even stronger than before
What are some ways to keep my mind off her when I masterbate? ways to release sexually frustration?
TL;DR: bisexual gf broke up with me for her best friend(female). they've had sex all the time. I'm sexually frustrated, jealous, and horny all the time and can't see to stop it or release it. I think of her when I masterbate too and it's fucking with my mind cause I just want to be friends now.
(lol while typing this I just imagined having a fmf threesome with them and I'm going major nuts about it in my mind rn) | My girlfriend[19F] of a year and a half broke up with me[18M] after three months of long distance summer relationship. It wasn't because I was a bad bf or anything, it's because she fell in love with her best friend[18F]. We never had sex and for about 8 months before the break up we had no time to fit any intimate interactions into our schedule (ex: foreplay, oral..) We did however go on dates and she always was amazingly happy after the dates.
I'm part of their friend group and I still talk to my ex since we were amazing friends and still have similar interests. Just yesterday, she wanted to talk to me about the sex she's having with her new girlfriend and possibly tips to make them comfortable since I was so great with foreplay(when we actually did it) and a lot of lesbian sex is foreplay. This not only made me uncomfortable but jealous af. How is it fair that we were together for more than a year and never had sex but they've been together for a month and they do it everyday(they live together btw so woo jealously). I gave her all the tips but I just feel so sexually frustrated and horny af
When she said she really wanted to see me(before break up) I thought we were going to do some intimate stuff. No one was home, she just got back from her long distance trip and I was ready to get down(even if it was just going to be foreplay and oral). Instead she broke up with me and I'm bursting with sexual frustration. Masterbation isn't working because all I think of is her. I can't seem to cum without thinking about her and that really fucks up my mind since we're broken up. I've been trying to talk to other girls and get out but I just can't connect with someone the way I did with her. I started lifting and eating healthier too to try to let out some of that frustration but I'm finding it to be even stronger than before
What are some ways to keep my mind off her when I masterbate? ways to release sexually frustration?
TL;DR: bisexual gf broke up with me for her best friend(female). they've had sex all the time. I'm sexually frustrated, jealous, and horny all the time and can't see to stop it or release it. I think of her when I masterbate too and it's fucking with my mind cause I just want to be friends now.
(lol while typing this I just imagined having a fmf threesome with them and I'm going major nuts about it in my mind rn)
| sex | t5_2qh3p | t3_52hqld | My girlfriend[19F] of a year and a half broke up with me[18M] after three months of long distance summer relationship. It wasn't because I was a bad bf or anything, it's because she fell in love with her best friend[18F]. We never had sex and for about 8 months before the break up we had no time to fit any intimate interactions into our schedule (ex: foreplay, oral..) We did however go on dates and she always was amazingly happy after the dates.
I'm part of their friend group and I still talk to my ex since we were amazing friends and still have similar interests. Just yesterday, she wanted to talk to me about the sex she's having with her new girlfriend and possibly tips to make them comfortable since I was so great with foreplay(when we actually did it) and a lot of lesbian sex is foreplay. This not only made me uncomfortable but jealous af. How is it fair that we were together for more than a year and never had sex but they've been together for a month and they do it everyday(they live together btw so woo jealously). I gave her all the tips but I just feel so sexually frustrated and horny af
When she said she really wanted to see me(before break up) I thought we were going to do some intimate stuff. No one was home, she just got back from her long distance trip and I was ready to get down(even if it was just going to be foreplay and oral). Instead she broke up with me and I'm bursting with sexual frustration. Masterbation isn't working because all I think of is her. I can't seem to cum without thinking about her and that really fucks up my mind since we're broken up. I've been trying to talk to other girls and get out but I just can't connect with someone the way I did with her. I started lifting and eating healthier too to try to let out some of that frustration but I'm finding it to be even stronger than before
What are some ways to keep my mind off her when I masterbate? ways to release sexually frustration? | bisexual gf broke up with me for her best friend(female). they've had sex all the time. I'm sexually frustrated, jealous, and horny all the time and can't see to stop it or release it. I think of her when I masterbate too and it's fucking with my mind cause I just want to be friends now.
(lol while typing this I just imagined having a fmf threesome with them and I'm going major nuts about it in my mind rn) |
SavageCake | So I went to a birthday party with some friends and met alot of old school buddies from 3rd-10th grade. We all had a good time, then there were only 4 people left, her [20F] and me [21M] being amongst them.
She got really imtimate with me, pulled us away from the other two, and told me that she had lost some interest in her current boyfriend [20M] (which she have been with for almost 5 years) because she had realized she was in love with me. She then proceeded to try to kiss me while I told her not to. This was hard because I was pretty drunk too, and actually find her really attractive.
We've known each other for at least 11 years, and there have never been anything romantic between us, as we've both only looked at one another as a good friend. But the more I think about it the more I want it to be us. I talked to her yesterday and she said she didn't remember. That may be for the best because her current boyfriend and me have become good friends.
I have little to no idea how to handle this situation as she doesn't want to know what happened, but not telling her makes it hard for me to carry on. I know it might've been the alcohol talking, but at the same time, it could've been her subconcious. Telling her has a high chance to ruin her current relationship.
What can/should I do in my current situation?
**Edit**: I shoul've mentioned that me [21M] and the girl [20F] have been friends for over a decade, and have been and are still in the same clique. It's believable that she could possess feelings for me seeing how close we've been with eachother thoughout half of our lifes, and do have many of the same interests.
We've been to several parties with the same clique and have always had a good time together, and she'd often ask me about how I was doing in my life (mostly my love life). So I doubt she would play with my feelings, although I'm not saying it is impossible.
Also, thanks for the help so far, even though it didn't bring any closure.
**tl;dr**: Girl drunkenly confesses love for me, whilst having a boyfriend. I had subcouncious feelings for her. She forgets, I'm stuck witch remembering. | So I went to a birthday party with some friends and met alot of old school buddies from 3rd-10th grade. We all had a good time, then there were only 4 people left, her [20F] and me [21M] being amongst them.
She got really imtimate with me, pulled us away from the other two, and told me that she had lost some interest in her current boyfriend [20M] (which she have been with for almost 5 years) because she had realized she was in love with me. She then proceeded to try to kiss me while I told her not to. This was hard because I was pretty drunk too, and actually find her really attractive.
We've known each other for at least 11 years, and there have never been anything romantic between us, as we've both only looked at one another as a good friend. But the more I think about it the more I want it to be us. I talked to her yesterday and she said she didn't remember. That may be for the best because her current boyfriend and me have become good friends.
I have little to no idea how to handle this situation as she doesn't want to know what happened, but not telling her makes it hard for me to carry on. I know it might've been the alcohol talking, but at the same time, it could've been her subconcious. Telling her has a high chance to ruin her current relationship.
What can/should I do in my current situation?
Edit : I shoul've mentioned that me [21M] and the girl [20F] have been friends for over a decade, and have been and are still in the same clique. It's believable that she could possess feelings for me seeing how close we've been with eachother thoughout half of our lifes, and do have many of the same interests.
We've been to several parties with the same clique and have always had a good time together, and she'd often ask me about how I was doing in my life (mostly my love life). So I doubt she would play with my feelings, although I'm not saying it is impossible.
Also, thanks for the help so far, even though it didn't bring any closure.
tl;dr : Girl drunkenly confesses love for me, whilst having a boyfriend. I had subcouncious feelings for her. She forgets, I'm stuck witch remembering.
| relationships | t5_2qjvn | t3_4cg4b5 | So I went to a birthday party with some friends and met alot of old school buddies from 3rd-10th grade. We all had a good time, then there were only 4 people left, her [20F] and me [21M] being amongst them.
She got really imtimate with me, pulled us away from the other two, and told me that she had lost some interest in her current boyfriend [20M] (which she have been with for almost 5 years) because she had realized she was in love with me. She then proceeded to try to kiss me while I told her not to. This was hard because I was pretty drunk too, and actually find her really attractive.
We've known each other for at least 11 years, and there have never been anything romantic between us, as we've both only looked at one another as a good friend. But the more I think about it the more I want it to be us. I talked to her yesterday and she said she didn't remember. That may be for the best because her current boyfriend and me have become good friends.
I have little to no idea how to handle this situation as she doesn't want to know what happened, but not telling her makes it hard for me to carry on. I know it might've been the alcohol talking, but at the same time, it could've been her subconcious. Telling her has a high chance to ruin her current relationship.
What can/should I do in my current situation?
Edit : I shoul've mentioned that me [21M] and the girl [20F] have been friends for over a decade, and have been and are still in the same clique. It's believable that she could possess feelings for me seeing how close we've been with eachother thoughout half of our lifes, and do have many of the same interests.
We've been to several parties with the same clique and have always had a good time together, and she'd often ask me about how I was doing in my life (mostly my love life). So I doubt she would play with my feelings, although I'm not saying it is impossible.
Also, thanks for the help so far, even though it didn't bring any closure. | Girl drunkenly confesses love for me, whilst having a boyfriend. I had subcouncious feelings for her. She forgets, I'm stuck witch remembering. |
boogybren | Please pardon my ignorance here as I have either traded with a US broker using JForex which permited some behind the scenes magic that obfuscated the FIFO rules or traded with a foreign broker which doesn't force FIFO rules.
My current broker (FinFX) has decided not to service US customers anymore and Tallinex is adopting all of their US accounts. I'm not terribly thrilled to move my account to a broker whose bank is sourced in the Caribbean and operated from Estonia so I am entertaining the idea of coming back to a US broker.
With regards to FIFO, does it only affect multiple trades on the SAME currency pair? Or will it be enforced if I have one trade on one pair and another trade on a different pair?
**TL;DR:** With FIFO, can I trade multiple currency pairs concurrently and close any trades at any time as long I don't have more than one trade on any single currency pair? | Please pardon my ignorance here as I have either traded with a US broker using JForex which permited some behind the scenes magic that obfuscated the FIFO rules or traded with a foreign broker which doesn't force FIFO rules.
My current broker (FinFX) has decided not to service US customers anymore and Tallinex is adopting all of their US accounts. I'm not terribly thrilled to move my account to a broker whose bank is sourced in the Caribbean and operated from Estonia so I am entertaining the idea of coming back to a US broker.
With regards to FIFO, does it only affect multiple trades on the SAME currency pair? Or will it be enforced if I have one trade on one pair and another trade on a different pair?
TL;DR: With FIFO, can I trade multiple currency pairs concurrently and close any trades at any time as long I don't have more than one trade on any single currency pair?
| Forex | t5_2qhmq | t3_2soh59 | Please pardon my ignorance here as I have either traded with a US broker using JForex which permited some behind the scenes magic that obfuscated the FIFO rules or traded with a foreign broker which doesn't force FIFO rules.
My current broker (FinFX) has decided not to service US customers anymore and Tallinex is adopting all of their US accounts. I'm not terribly thrilled to move my account to a broker whose bank is sourced in the Caribbean and operated from Estonia so I am entertaining the idea of coming back to a US broker.
With regards to FIFO, does it only affect multiple trades on the SAME currency pair? Or will it be enforced if I have one trade on one pair and another trade on a different pair? | With FIFO, can I trade multiple currency pairs concurrently and close any trades at any time as long I don't have more than one trade on any single currency pair? |
throwaway24422442 | He's 25 and I'm 20f. We've been together almost a year and for the past couple of months we've had an on-off relationship. Until a few months ago he was an amazing boyfriend, seemed happy with me but he would often confide in me how he felt stuck in a rut of just working a dead-end job and not bettering himself. I've always tried to just listen, and encourage him. Just generally be as supportive as I could be.
Now he goes back and forth a lot, he'll say he loves me and wants to be with me and make things work, we'll get back together and things will be great for a while until he eventually starts acting very apathetic; he seems uninterested in pretty much everything, it's like nothing really makes him happy anymore and he starts neglecting our relationship which leads to another break up. He recently quit his job without even having another one lined up. When I asked why he quit, he had no reason at all. He said he just didn't want to work there anymore. He hasn't been applying for jobs at all, he doesn't go to school and he's moving back into his parents' house next week. Now he just sleeps until the late afternoon and plays video games. He's been neglecting his friendships as well. The last time we saw each other, we got into an argument and he broke up with me. He said he didn't want to 'deal' with anything anymore, he's sick of being stressed. He got really angry with me and told me he didn't want to hear from me again. I told him not to say something he couldn't take back, he apologized and told me to just give him some time to himself. He was still really mad and it's pretty clear he doesn't want to speak to me for a while.
I really think he's either depressed or bipolar. I could be wrong, maybe I'm just trying to find a reason why he's given up on us... I don't know. I know I should just leave him alone, I just need some support and maybe some advice? Has anyone else been in this kind of situation? Does he sound depressed or did he just fall out of love or something? I've asked him numerous times why he keeps alternating between being an awesome bf to a shitty bf and he says he honestly doesn't know. I've frequently asked point-blank if he just isn't that into me or if he just doesn't want a relationship and he promises that he loves me and is very into me, and wants to be with me etc... But then he neglects the relationship and one of us ends up breaking it off again. I've told him over and over again that if he just isn't in love with me anymore to tell me and he still insists that that isn't it and that he doesn't know what's wrong with him but he does want to try and he 'absolutely' wants to be with me and treat me the way I deserve. I've also asked him before if he thinks he's depressed and he kinda got defensive and said he probably is before he changed the subject and told me to drop it. Depression also runs in his family, and one of his close relatives had severe depression and committed suicide a couple years ago.
I feel crazy, I know I should walk away but I love him very much and I'm so worried about him. Even if we're not together I want to be there for him if he really has some kind of disorder or depression... now I'm just rambling... Anyone have any advice?
**TL;DR: BF seems to be depressed and throwing his life and our relationship away. Not sure if I'm just making up an excuse to feel better about being dumped. Feel like I need to give up on him but if he is depressed I don't want to abandon him. Help?** | He's 25 and I'm 20f. We've been together almost a year and for the past couple of months we've had an on-off relationship. Until a few months ago he was an amazing boyfriend, seemed happy with me but he would often confide in me how he felt stuck in a rut of just working a dead-end job and not bettering himself. I've always tried to just listen, and encourage him. Just generally be as supportive as I could be.
Now he goes back and forth a lot, he'll say he loves me and wants to be with me and make things work, we'll get back together and things will be great for a while until he eventually starts acting very apathetic; he seems uninterested in pretty much everything, it's like nothing really makes him happy anymore and he starts neglecting our relationship which leads to another break up. He recently quit his job without even having another one lined up. When I asked why he quit, he had no reason at all. He said he just didn't want to work there anymore. He hasn't been applying for jobs at all, he doesn't go to school and he's moving back into his parents' house next week. Now he just sleeps until the late afternoon and plays video games. He's been neglecting his friendships as well. The last time we saw each other, we got into an argument and he broke up with me. He said he didn't want to 'deal' with anything anymore, he's sick of being stressed. He got really angry with me and told me he didn't want to hear from me again. I told him not to say something he couldn't take back, he apologized and told me to just give him some time to himself. He was still really mad and it's pretty clear he doesn't want to speak to me for a while.
I really think he's either depressed or bipolar. I could be wrong, maybe I'm just trying to find a reason why he's given up on us... I don't know. I know I should just leave him alone, I just need some support and maybe some advice? Has anyone else been in this kind of situation? Does he sound depressed or did he just fall out of love or something? I've asked him numerous times why he keeps alternating between being an awesome bf to a shitty bf and he says he honestly doesn't know. I've frequently asked point-blank if he just isn't that into me or if he just doesn't want a relationship and he promises that he loves me and is very into me, and wants to be with me etc... But then he neglects the relationship and one of us ends up breaking it off again. I've told him over and over again that if he just isn't in love with me anymore to tell me and he still insists that that isn't it and that he doesn't know what's wrong with him but he does want to try and he 'absolutely' wants to be with me and treat me the way I deserve. I've also asked him before if he thinks he's depressed and he kinda got defensive and said he probably is before he changed the subject and told me to drop it. Depression also runs in his family, and one of his close relatives had severe depression and committed suicide a couple years ago.
I feel crazy, I know I should walk away but I love him very much and I'm so worried about him. Even if we're not together I want to be there for him if he really has some kind of disorder or depression... now I'm just rambling... Anyone have any advice?
TL;DR: BF seems to be depressed and throwing his life and our relationship away. Not sure if I'm just making up an excuse to feel better about being dumped. Feel like I need to give up on him but if he is depressed I don't want to abandon him. Help?
| relationships | t5_2qjvn | t3_tlb74 | He's 25 and I'm 20f. We've been together almost a year and for the past couple of months we've had an on-off relationship. Until a few months ago he was an amazing boyfriend, seemed happy with me but he would often confide in me how he felt stuck in a rut of just working a dead-end job and not bettering himself. I've always tried to just listen, and encourage him. Just generally be as supportive as I could be.
Now he goes back and forth a lot, he'll say he loves me and wants to be with me and make things work, we'll get back together and things will be great for a while until he eventually starts acting very apathetic; he seems uninterested in pretty much everything, it's like nothing really makes him happy anymore and he starts neglecting our relationship which leads to another break up. He recently quit his job without even having another one lined up. When I asked why he quit, he had no reason at all. He said he just didn't want to work there anymore. He hasn't been applying for jobs at all, he doesn't go to school and he's moving back into his parents' house next week. Now he just sleeps until the late afternoon and plays video games. He's been neglecting his friendships as well. The last time we saw each other, we got into an argument and he broke up with me. He said he didn't want to 'deal' with anything anymore, he's sick of being stressed. He got really angry with me and told me he didn't want to hear from me again. I told him not to say something he couldn't take back, he apologized and told me to just give him some time to himself. He was still really mad and it's pretty clear he doesn't want to speak to me for a while.
I really think he's either depressed or bipolar. I could be wrong, maybe I'm just trying to find a reason why he's given up on us... I don't know. I know I should just leave him alone, I just need some support and maybe some advice? Has anyone else been in this kind of situation? Does he sound depressed or did he just fall out of love or something? I've asked him numerous times why he keeps alternating between being an awesome bf to a shitty bf and he says he honestly doesn't know. I've frequently asked point-blank if he just isn't that into me or if he just doesn't want a relationship and he promises that he loves me and is very into me, and wants to be with me etc... But then he neglects the relationship and one of us ends up breaking it off again. I've told him over and over again that if he just isn't in love with me anymore to tell me and he still insists that that isn't it and that he doesn't know what's wrong with him but he does want to try and he 'absolutely' wants to be with me and treat me the way I deserve. I've also asked him before if he thinks he's depressed and he kinda got defensive and said he probably is before he changed the subject and told me to drop it. Depression also runs in his family, and one of his close relatives had severe depression and committed suicide a couple years ago.
I feel crazy, I know I should walk away but I love him very much and I'm so worried about him. Even if we're not together I want to be there for him if he really has some kind of disorder or depression... now I'm just rambling... Anyone have any advice? | BF seems to be depressed and throwing his life and our relationship away. Not sure if I'm just making up an excuse to feel better about being dumped. Feel like I need to give up on him but if he is depressed I don't want to abandon him. Help? |