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### Human: Three kids, wow. Okay.
### Assistant: She's got a fourth, but he doesn't come around a lot.
### Assistant:
### Human: Okay. He doesn't live there?
### Assistant: No, he doesn't live there. Only two live there. Two girls live there, and the two boys live at their dad's. Yeah. That's how things are familywise at the moment. Mom's planning on moving closer to here. dad is in college. So mom wanted to move closer there.
### Assistant:
### Human: Okay. And I understand you're moving out of your family home - is that right? - to move there.
### Assistant: Yeah. So we move out of there, and we move, hopefully, closer to home, maybe a bit further out. I'm not sure. And I think dad stays in there. I'm not 100% sure. I think he will, though. Yeah. I think that's been the past three weeks so far, talking about moving, looking at the house, that sort of stuff.
### Assistant:
### Human: Are you helping your mom look at places and stuff like that?
### Assistant: Well, mom wants to build. And so she's looking at working out our room and what the house is going to look like, all that sort of stuff, what things will look like entertainmentwise like the TV, couches, beds, what bed we want, yeah, all that sort of stuff.
### Assistant:
### Human: Do you like being involved in that process, or how does that feel?
### Assistant: I guess it's a bit-- I don't like to bring it up a lot. Because we're moving out of the house I've been in-- I have no idea. I think I've only been in there for-- I think I've only been in there 15-- I think I've only been in that house for 14 years.
### Assistant:
### Human: 14 years, yep.
### Assistant: I think we lived in it for a year. I'm not 100% sure. Yeah. Yeah. It's all right. But I know that it's just what happens, I guess. I'm not too fazed about it. I guess you don't have to-- the house isn't really something. It's just who lives in the house, I guess. So that's how I look at it.
### Assistant:
### Human: So your home is with your family, as opposed to in that particular house. Is that what you mean?
### Assistant: Sort of the house isn't a part of us, so it's sort of just something that we live in. It's not something that if we move that house, everything is going to-- but things do change, but it's not going to be the end of the world.
### Assistant:
### Human: Yep. Sure.
### Assistant: As long as it's just seeing mom and dad, I don't really care where I live or what I do. So yeah.
### Assistant:
### Human: Yep. So the important thing to you is that you're still spending time with your mom and dad--
### Assistant: Yeah.
### Assistant:
### Human: --regardless of where you're physically living.
### Assistant: Yeah. Where I'm living doesn't really matter. But it's whether or not I see mom and dad all the time. So yeah.
### Assistant:
### Human: Is that a worry at the moment, about whether you will see mom and dad enough, or are you--?
### Assistant: We do go to court soon - I'm not 100% sure - to figure out housing and also living, so how many days we spend with mom, how many days we spend with dad, whether we live at mom's, whether we live at dad's. So we're just going through that sort of stuff. Yeah. I think after that, it'll be a bit easier because we'll finally figure out what to do with the house. And it'll, I guess, become a lot clearer than muddled up like this and what about this and all that sort of stuff, so.
### Assistant:
### Human: It's up in the air at the moment. Is that why it feels a bit muddled? Because you're not sure when you're going to be--
### Assistant: Yeah. The--
### Assistant:
### Human: --back and forth?
### Assistant: --moving and all that sort of stuff has been going on for ages. Ever since, we moved schools. So yeah, it's been sort of there, but I'm not 100% sure when, where, what dad's going to do, that sort of thing. So it's sort of-- we know what mom's going to do. We're just not sure what dad's going to do.
### Assistant:
### Human: In what way do you mean that?
### Assistant: Well, when dad gets the money for the house along with mom, I'm not sure what he's going to do. He's going to move house. That's just a bit, in that way, muddled. We're not 100% sure what will happen, so.
### Assistant:
### Human: Okay. So from, yeah, selling the house, your mom and dad are going to split the money. And you know your mom's plan is to move near your school and maybe build and set up your home again. And then with dad, you're not sure whether he's going to move house or stay where he is or something.
### Assistant: Yeah. Because they're renting at the moment. So whether or not he buys a house or he waits until his girlfriend gets the money for her house, we're not 100% sure yet. So all things are a bit muddled up at the moment. So what happens with dad, we don't know a lot. But with mom, we know a fair bit of what she wants to do, which I guess makes it easier because you know what's happening with mom. It's just finding out what dad wants to do. I don't know what dad-- I don't even know if dad know
### Assistant:
### Human: Okay. Yeah. Have you talked to him about it, or are you just kind of waiting to see what happens, or is it easy to talk to him about that stuff or not really?
### Assistant: I was going to wait until it comes around to selling the house. So when mom's organized, time to put the house up for auction, all that sort of stuff, I guess I'd speak to him about-- speak to him about it then, what he's doing, what his plans are, that sort of stuff, so.
### Assistant:
### Human: Yep. So you're waiting till then?
### Assistant: Yeah.
### Assistant:
### Human: Yep. Yeah. Do you kind of-- it sounds like it's much easier to know the plan. And with mom, it is a bit clearer. And with dad, you're kind of working out when it's best to talk to him about it and that kind of thing. Does that kind of stress you out, not knowing what's going to happen?
### Assistant: Just a bit, not a lot. I know when things become a bit clearer, we'll get a bit more of an understanding of what's happening with mom and dad. But at the moment, it's not exactly clear what's happening. Yeah. When things start happening and that sort of stuff, I guess, yeah, we'll end up finding out what happens then, hopefully.
### Assistant:
### Human: Yep. Okay. Yeah. Yeah. You seem quite calm. You've got a pretty mature-- you're looking at how that's going to unfold. Is that how you feel?
### Assistant: I just know that--
### Assistant:
### Human: . patiently.
### Assistant: --things were not working out in the end. There are things I don't know, whether it's going to be the way it is, so. But things never can be the way it is. It would always be different. Yeah. Things won't always be muddled up and not knowing that sort of stuff. It'll end up becoming a bit clearer. And things change, and they don't always go very well, so.
### Assistant:
### Human: Yep. So you kind of-- yeah. A lot of people don't kind of realize that. If they're going through a challenging time with things going on, lots of people feel like that might last forever. But it sounds like, yeah, you've got this insight that you know it is quite muddled at the moment, but it'll settle. It sounds like you're quite confident that it'll be okay. It'll settle in a way that it'll be okay kind of thing.
### Assistant: Yeah. I guess when mom and dad are happy, things will start getting a bit happier. And I think when dad finds a place, when mom builds and all that sort of stuff and finds a place to live, all that sort of stuff, things will start becoming happier, and people won't be so flat like it has been. Some days, you get dad. He's really flat and happy. And mom, you get days that mom's flat and happy. And it'll be a lot clearer, I guess, when we go to dad's, when we go to mom's, that sort of thing, s
### Assistant:
### Human: The schedule.
### Assistant: --what happens there. And that'll make things happier as well. So when we know where we're living, if we're going to live at mom's or dad's-- I guess what I'm trying to aim for is to get-- looking fortnight, get one week with mom, one week with dad.
### Assistant:
### Human: Yep. That's what you'd like to do?
### Assistant: Yeah. And I'd like to live with mom. But I guess it's up to-- dad and I have different reasons where we want to live and that sort of stuff, so. But it'll work out in the end. Actually, I know it's all going to work out. Because when we end up moving house, that means that mom can move on. And then when dad gets the money from the house-- yeah. When dad gets some money from the house, he'll end up going around-- we've got to start looking at where we can-- if he wants to buy or he jus
### Assistant:
### Human: So do you feel that the house thing, that all would make a big difference for your mom because she'll feel like she can move on from what's happened? Is that what you mean?
### Assistant: Yeah. When mom moves house, she'll sort of go-- she'll sort of move on, start at the new house. And when dad gets the money, and where we're going to live, what are we going to do with the money, that sort of thing, so. Yeah.
### Assistant:
### Human: So you think, yeah, things will get better when those things happen, kind of.
### Assistant: Yeah.
### Assistant:
### Human: Yep, yep. And I didn't quite catch what you were saying about your aim to have a week with mom, a week with dad. But then you were also saying you wanted to live with mom. Did you mean full time, or? I didn't quite catch that.
### Assistant: Well, I was looking at a fortnight that I'd be at mom's for the first week and the second. So I would be living with at mom's and alternating between dad's, not living at dad's, alternating between mom's.
### Assistant:
### Human: Okay. So your home base is more at mom's and then a week at dad's.
### Assistant: Yeah. My home base would be more at mom's house, and I'd be going to dad's.
### Assistant:
### Human: Yep. Yep. And you and i have different opinions about that.
### Assistant: Yeah. He wants to go and live with dad. He can't do that at the moment. So yeah, we're just going to have to see, I guess.
### Assistant:
### Human: Yep. Okay. Yeah. And how you were saying about people feeling a bit flat and stuff, I was just curious. How have you been feeling?
### Assistant: I have days where I really can't be bothered. But that's rarely. Also, with mom and dad and me, sometimes they get days that they really get angry. They get tense, or they get sad. And they just get flat, or they don't want to talk at all. I get a few days like that where I just can't be bothered talking to anyone. I just want to do my own thing. Yeah. My paranoia sort of plays off a bit. So I'm always tired. I guess I'm never flat and unhappy. It's just I'm always tired, which may c
### Assistant:
### Human: Yep. Okay. So yeah, you don't feel flat or unhappy, but you just feel tired?
### Assistant: Yeah.
### Assistant:
### Human: Yep. Okay. Okay. And what you were saying about the paranoia, is that what you've been speaking to me about, worrying about going out and being attacked or that sort of thing?
### Assistant: Yeah. Things have just been going on for ages. I haven't really taken a lot of notice of it. I can't sit outside. I see shadows. I can't go outside at night. Noises at night inside the house really scare me. And I go to bed when I physically can't keep my eyes open, which is normally about 2:00 or 3:00 in the morning and waking up at 6:00 in the morning. So I don't get a lot of sleep.
### Assistant:
### Human: Oh, not enough sleep at all, yeah.
### Assistant: So I think one time, I stayed up all night because I couldn't go to sleep.
### Assistant:
### Human: And was that because of the worries about the noises in the house, that sort of thing?
### Assistant: Yeah. Yeah. I have a big worry. I make sure doors are locked, make sure windows are closed, that sort of stuff so no one-- I have a big fear of someone being inside the house. It's just something that I've had for a while and the shadows and the noises. I feel like people are touching me. I feel like someone's breathing on the back of my neck, all that sort of stuff. Yeah. It really, really plays off a lot. So yeah, it just makes me tired. I'm falling asleep in class. So yeah, it drains me a
### Assistant:
### Human: Yep. Is that easy because it's daytime, sleeping on the bus?
### Assistant: I can sleep during the day. Noises during the day-- I just can't be alone outside.
### Assistant:
### Human: Okay. In the day as well?
### Assistant: Yeah. But otherwise, I can walk with anyone. I can go outside if someone else is outside and can see me. I can do a lot more in the day. I can sleep during the day. Noises, I don't really take much notice of. It's more at night which I really struggle to get to sleep.
### Assistant:
### Human: Yeah. Sure. Yep. And you said that's been going on for ages. How old were you were when it started?
### Assistant: Jeez. I think it's been going on for five, six years.
### Assistant:
### Human: Five or six years?
### Assistant: 15. Maybe at nine.
### Assistant:
### Human: Since age nine?
### Assistant: Yeah. I think so. That'd be six, seven years, maybe. At least six years, it's been going on for.
### Assistant:
### Human: Yeah, way long.
### Assistant: I haven't really taken a lot of notice of it, so. It's gotten worse as I've gone on. It started off with shadows and then went further on to not being able to sleep, and the noises really frighten me, and it's gotten to the point where I cannot go to sleep. Sometimes I'd just be able to ignore the noise. I'd be able to ignore it and just go to sleep. And that happened for a while. And it's been, I think, past three and a half years that it's been really bad, the fact that I have to be physic
### Assistant:
### Human: In class and class?
### Assistant: Yeah.
### Assistant:
### Human: Yeah. That's a bit rough. What if you fall asleep in class? Does that cause problems? Do you get in trouble or anything?
### Assistant: I get behind.
### Assistant:
### Human: Get behind, yeah.
### Assistant: I sort of miss out on the information that I need. If I'm feeling tired during a class we're not doing a lot, I sort of tend to-- yeah. I sort of tend to write slowly and sort of really-- I can't be bothered. I hate that sort of stuff. It really makes me feel even more tired. So yeah, it doesn't happen a lot anymore because of how much sport I'm doing. It sort of wakes me up a lot or keeping me awake because I'm doing a lot. Yeah. So we'll eventually find a way to, hopefully, get rid of i
### Assistant:
### Human: Yeah, to be able to sleep and--
### Assistant: Yeah, to be able to sleep and that sort of stuff, be able to go out at night without all the fears like coming down a dark alleyway. I couldn't even step down a dark alleyway, that sort of thing. Even alleyways during the day, I can't do. Even with someone there, it's just-- yeah. Yeah. It's just those sort of things that sort of-- I can't walk home at night if I was from somewhere, from my friend's home. From my friend's house, I need to walk home. I couldn't, that's sort of thing. So it so
### Assistant:
### Human: Yep. So yeah, that limits your independence and, yeah, just being able to do stuff that you want to in a more carefree way, kind of.
### Assistant: Yeah.
### Assistant:
### Human: Yep. Okay. Thanks for telling me a lot about what's been going on. Yeah. I feel like I got a lot better understanding from talking to you than just from reading notes and stuff from other sessions. Yeah. So it sounds like there's kind of working out or waiting for things to kind of clear up at home and managing with mom and dad and your brother, feeling a bit flat or in different moods at times, and then also managing your whole lot of sport that you're doing. And then there's this sort of p
### Assistant:
### Assistant:
### Human: You were looking forward to it, moving.
### Assistant: Yeah. Yeah. There are a lot of minor things that I don't tend to worry about, so. Yeah. Dad living with his girlfriend, that sort of stuff, they're minor things that I can live with. I've gotten used to it. So I'm not as skeptical and that sort of stuff. It was a bit weird at the start, but I've gotten used to it. Yeah. I just have to live with it because I don't want it to happen. It's going to happen maybe with mom. I'm not 100% sure. But it was eventually going to happen with either both
### Assistant:
### Human: Yep. Okay. So you feel like you're kind of getting more used to your dad's partner. It felt a bit inevitable that maybe one or both your parents might find a new partner?
### Assistant: Yeah.
### Assistant:
### Human: Yep. Okay. And was that something that-- how did you feel, initially, about that idea?
### Assistant: A bit weird. Someone else coming to your life, sort of getting used to them, it's very different, whether or not you're going to get along with them or not. I know a really close friend. His mom met someone else, and it's been absolute hell for him. So I was coming to that-- because his mom and dad split before my mom and dad split up. So you're going to their house. It's like, "Jeez, is that going to happen to me?"
### Assistant:
### Human: You're worried about that. Yeah.
### Assistant: Yeah. It got better. I sort of got to know her a bit more. We went to school with her kids. We know them. They're local too, so. Yeah.
### Assistant:
### Human: So that's settled for him. So is that part of why you are like, "Oh, things will settle for me as well," or is that just quite a positive view on life, it sounds like? Is that more generally?
### Assistant: Yeah. I think it's more of a positive view.
### Assistant:
### Human: Yeah. Cool. Cool. I just looked at the time. It's a little bit past 5:00. So I should probably let you go for the day. You probably already had a long day at school as well.
### Assistant: Yeah. No, it's all right. We did a lot of sport today. We're going to Sovereign Hill on Monday.
### Assistant:
### Human: Oh, that'll be fun.
### Assistant: Yeah. So we get--
### Assistant:
### Human: Have you been before?
### Assistant: --to look at how food, sweets, and candy and lots of stuff are-
### Assistant:
### Human: Oh, yeah. That is fun.
### Assistant: --made and refrigeration over the years, what people ate because we're doing it for food science. So we're looking at the science behind food and what kind of fats you need, all that sort of stuff. So that's where we're going. We get to buy a few souvenirs. up there, which will be cool.
### Assistant:
### Human: Are you panning for gold as well?
### Assistant: I'm not sure. I'd like to. If we don't, I'd like to go back up there again. And I think we do get time to do that sort of stuff. I think there's a mine that you can go down, and you find little nuggets. I'm not sure. But we don't get to do that. But I think we do get to do things. But if we don't get to do that, I can always go up with mom or dad and all that stuff. So yeah, I'm looking forward to it.
### Assistant:
### Human: Yeah. That sounds really fun. I'll be interested to hear about that. Cool. Yeah. Maybe next session, we can have a think about maybe-- because we'd start with like, "Cool. Why do we focus on so much?" And I feel you'll give me a pretty good picture to start off with at least. Maybe we can decide on where we want to start next week as well in terms of some of that problem-solving if you want to or whatever. How does that sound?
### Assistant: It sounds good.
### Assistant:
### Human: Yeah. Cool. All right. Thanks so much for coming in and being so open to chat with me today. You did very well. All right. Well, shall we head back out? And did your mom bring you today, or?
### Assistant: Yeah, mom brought me today.
### Assistant:
### Human: Okay. Cool. Yeah. All right.
### Assistant: I think I've got to wait for him. I think he might be--
### Assistant:
### Human: Oh, what time does he finish?
### Assistant: I have no idea.
### Assistant:
### Human: I'll find out soon.
### Assistant: I think he finishes later than me. I'm not 100% sure, but I'll find out.
### Assistant:
### Human: You all good? Hopefully, I don't get the background music.
### Assistant: I think it was on last time.
### Assistant:
### Human: Yeah. The soundproofing isn't the greatest between the two walls, and sometimes I can completely block it out, and it's not there. Other times, you can really hear-- depending on the sound--
### Assistant: It's not you--
### Assistant:
### Human: --probably.
### Assistant: --can't hear it out the door, so--
### Assistant:
### Human: No. You can't. no. You go, "Where's the sound coming from"? because you've got some--
### Assistant: I thought it was coming from next door last time.
### Assistant:
### Human: No, definitely straight from behind from the gym.
### Assistant: Wow. It's just the fact you can be down there-- in some of those rooms there, and you can't hear it at all, and you get up here, and you're like, "Whoa, jeez, that's actually really."
### Assistant:
### Human: Well, it's quite loud, so I can't imagine how loud it is in the actual gym if we're hearing it.
### Assistant: And it's sort of soft. Sort of like it's coming from next door--
### Assistant:
### Human: Yeah.
### Assistant: --where you're playing it at a normal tone.
### Assistant:
### Human: Yes. And it's coming.
### Assistant: But normally, gyms do have really loud music.
### Assistant:
### Human: They do like to have loud music, and sometimes it's okay. Other times, it's-- personally, I feel it's questionable sometimes.
### Assistant: Kind of place does not have-- it's not bad music, at least.
### Assistant:
### Human: It's not bad, yeah.
### Assistant: Places enjoyable to listen to instead of having really bad stuff in the background talking.
### Assistant:
### Human: We don't want really bad stuff.
### Assistant: Yeah.
### Assistant:
### Human: What would you like to chat about today?
### Assistant: I think I'd go forward with the homework situation. That's where we'll start.
### Assistant:
### Human: Yes, yeah, just wanted to check if that's still wanted to do or if you wanted to do something different. I brought the timetable we wrote out last time to check if it's the same, or if things have changed in two weeks. And then--
### Assistant: Yeah.
### Assistant:
### Human: --I've got two options to see what you would prefer more. Do you prefer that way or that way? Hour, or just morning, afternoon, evening.
### Assistant: The hour one looks--
### Assistant:
### Human: The hour one? Yep.
### Assistant: --a bit late, so.
### Assistant:
### Human: Some young people prefer this one and not this one-- that one, so I thought I'd run it by you. And we can start that.
### Assistant: Sweet.
### Assistant:
### Human: All right. I think it might be an American one because it starts on a Monday, which sometimes I find is easier anyway because then the weekend is together.
### Assistant: Yeah, because it goes down with the-- I can't remember how old I was when I first looked at the calendar. I looked at it and said, "Why does it start with Sunday?" That's a bit weird. And you get older, and sort of you look at it, and you go, "Oh, Monday," and thinking that you always need it for as a school day Monday was the start of the week.
### Assistant:
### Human: Yeah.
### Assistant: I thought when you looked on a calendar it's Sunday, Monday. So when you're looking at it, you should go, "Ah, it's Sunday." And you look, and you go, "There's no date on that," because sometimes--
### Assistant:
### Human: That's right.
### Assistant: --it has Sunday blank, and then Monday would be the first.
### Assistant:
### Human: Yes, yes.
### Assistant: You look at it, and you look at Sunday and go, "Why doesn't that have a number on it?" And then you look around and, "Ah, that's Monday."
### Assistant:
### Human: That's right, yes.
### Assistant: I could get used to the fact that Sunday's the start of the week instead of Monday? And that's sometimes when I'm writing down stuff, I always go Monday, Tuesday, Wednesday Thursday, Friday, Saturday, Sunday.
### Assistant:
### Human: It kind of makes more sense because it's school days, workdays, and then weekend together.
### Assistant: Yeah. School day and working and lots of stuff, and then Saturday and Sunday's the end of the week where you sort of relax. But it's actually the fact that Saturday, Sunday-- it goes that Sunday's the start of the week--
### Assistant:
### Human: That's right.
### Assistant: --which I find confusing. Why wouldn't they make Friday a weekend? I'm like, Friday, Saturday, and then Sunday, and school day Monday because you're looking forward--
### Assistant:
### Human: Oh, yeah, yeah.
### Assistant: --to those days.
### Assistant:
### Human: That would make more sense.
### Assistant: Or we'd keep Friday, Saturday, Sunday the weekend, and that's for all--
### Assistant:
### Human: There's nothing wrong with that, three-day weekend.
### Assistant: --and you just do more during the week. I'd find that cool because--
### Assistant:
### Human: You'd prefer that?
### Assistant: --that means I've got-- because I've got three days where I have to wear a sport uniform, and only wear-- have formal uniform once.
### Assistant:
### Human: Because I think I've only seen you in your sport uniform, yep.
### Assistant: I have it on Tuesday, Wednesday, and Thursday, so.
### Assistant:
### Human: Yep. That would've been the days I've seen you.
### Assistant: Yeah.
### Assistant:
### Human: Thursday, I think, was the last time, yeah?
### Assistant: Mom don't tend to go with Mondays and Fridays. She finds it easier to do Tuesdays and Wednesdays, and that's just how-- see, I'm always in my sport uniform on Tuesday, Wednesday, and Thursday. I think I've only came here on a school day with my sport uniform on. I can't remember.
### Assistant:
### Human: I think so. I don't remember seeing you unless you've seen me.
### Assistant: I can't remember. I think I've seen you on sport uniform as well. I don't think I've ever-- I think I've probably come here once when I'm in formal uniform. I don't know who--
### Assistant:
### Human: Sport uniform is more comfy?
### Assistant: --yeah. You don't have to wear the school socks, and there's--
### Assistant:
### Human: Yep.
### Assistant: --better shoes and lots of stuff. And the T-shirts where you move around, and you have a--
### Assistant:
### Human: They're sticky, yeah?
### Assistant: --and so it feels like it's sticking, or it's hard to move.
### Assistant:
### Human: And you put a tie that you wear too.
### Assistant: We wear that in winter, or it's just getting close to winter. And you have to wear long pants. And you have to wear that in pants, heavier shorts, lots of stuff, so. Yeah. It's getting close--
### Assistant:
### Human: It is.
### Assistant: --close to winter. It doesn't feel like winter, though, but.
### Assistant:
### Human: No. It doesn't even feel-- we've had a summer, but it doesn't really feel like we've had a summer.
### Assistant: It did sort of-- I actually think this year winter took longer to finish, and then summer kicks in, and then summer's starting to take--
### Assistant:
### Human: That's right, yeah.
### Assistant: --ages to wear off because it's been really hot some days. I know every single time we played school hockey on a Wednesday, yeah. Every time on a Wednesday-- every single time you'd go and be--
### Assistant:
### Human: It's been really hot.
### Assistant: --really, really hot.
### Assistant:
### Human: And it's usually 30 degrees on a Wednesday. That's the day it just happens to be hot.
### Assistant: I remember it was-- Monday was all right in heat, and then Tuesday was cold--
### Assistant: