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### Human: Yeah. And how is your-- you had an infection. Have you been able to play, or how is that all going?### Assistant: That's technically fine because it's healed up.### Human: Because you said Mom got some tests and stuff done.### Assistant: Yeah. Well, it's perfectly fine now, but it was--### Human: n. Oh.### Assistant: But yeah, it's perfectly fine now.### Human: You can see that the skin's-- yeah.### Assistant: Yeah. That's where it was, right under the ankle, and that's all the skin that's all dried off.### Human: It'll slowly grow back.### Assistant: Yeah. I'll always have a flat ankle now. I'll always have a bit of skin missing on the end of my ankle, so it won't be fully-- but yeah, it's healed and it's okay to touch. |
### Human: Because you said Mom got some tests and stuff done.### Assistant: Yeah. Well, it's perfectly fine now, but it was--### Human: n. Oh.### Assistant: But yeah, it's perfectly fine now.### Human: You can see that the skin's-- yeah.### Assistant: Yeah. That's where it was, right under the ankle, and that's all the skin that's all dried off.### Human: It'll slowly grow back.### Assistant: Yeah. I'll always have a flat ankle now. I'll always have a bit of skin missing on the end of my ankle, so it won't be fully-- but yeah, it's healed and it's okay to touch.### Human: That's good because nothing worse than you do that and it really hurts.### Assistant: Oh, but at that stage I couldn't-- this ankle here, that amount of pressure then was absolutely killing because it would spread out over my ankle like that. |
### Human: n. Oh.### Assistant: But yeah, it's perfectly fine now.### Human: You can see that the skin's-- yeah.### Assistant: Yeah. That's where it was, right under the ankle, and that's all the skin that's all dried off.### Human: It'll slowly grow back.### Assistant: Yeah. I'll always have a flat ankle now. I'll always have a bit of skin missing on the end of my ankle, so it won't be fully-- but yeah, it's healed and it's okay to touch.### Human: That's good because nothing worse than you do that and it really hurts.### Assistant: Oh, but at that stage I couldn't-- this ankle here, that amount of pressure then was absolutely killing because it would spread out over my ankle like that.### Human: It'd be very painful.### Assistant: And I couldn't walk for-- I found it hard to walk because I would be walking with my foot like that so the pressure was off the leg. It was all-- |
### Human: You can see that the skin's-- yeah.### Assistant: Yeah. That's where it was, right under the ankle, and that's all the skin that's all dried off.### Human: It'll slowly grow back.### Assistant: Yeah. I'll always have a flat ankle now. I'll always have a bit of skin missing on the end of my ankle, so it won't be fully-- but yeah, it's healed and it's okay to touch.### Human: That's good because nothing worse than you do that and it really hurts.### Assistant: Oh, but at that stage I couldn't-- this ankle here, that amount of pressure then was absolutely killing because it would spread out over my ankle like that.### Human: It'd be very painful.### Assistant: And I couldn't walk for-- I found it hard to walk because I would be walking with my foot like that so the pressure was off the leg. It was all--### Human: Not your usual way of walking.### Assistant: Yeah. So I'd be walking like-- I'd be walking with-- instead of walking like that like you normally do, I'd walk sort of-- |
### Human: It'll slowly grow back.### Assistant: Yeah. I'll always have a flat ankle now. I'll always have a bit of skin missing on the end of my ankle, so it won't be fully-- but yeah, it's healed and it's okay to touch.### Human: That's good because nothing worse than you do that and it really hurts.### Assistant: Oh, but at that stage I couldn't-- this ankle here, that amount of pressure then was absolutely killing because it would spread out over my ankle like that.### Human: It'd be very painful.### Assistant: And I couldn't walk for-- I found it hard to walk because I would be walking with my foot like that so the pressure was off the leg. It was all--### Human: Not your usual way of walking.### Assistant: Yeah. So I'd be walking like-- I'd be walking with-- instead of walking like that like you normally do, I'd walk sort of--### Human: m. Yeah.### Assistant: Invert my foot in so the pressure wasn't exactly on the inside of my shoe. So it was extremely hard with running as well. Now I can run perfectly fine in boots and that sort of stuff. So I guess, yeah, it's gotten a lot better from what it was. |
### Human: That's good because nothing worse than you do that and it really hurts.### Assistant: Oh, but at that stage I couldn't-- this ankle here, that amount of pressure then was absolutely killing because it would spread out over my ankle like that.### Human: It'd be very painful.### Assistant: And I couldn't walk for-- I found it hard to walk because I would be walking with my foot like that so the pressure was off the leg. It was all--### Human: Not your usual way of walking.### Assistant: Yeah. So I'd be walking like-- I'd be walking with-- instead of walking like that like you normally do, I'd walk sort of--### Human: m. Yeah.### Assistant: Invert my foot in so the pressure wasn't exactly on the inside of my shoe. So it was extremely hard with running as well. Now I can run perfectly fine in boots and that sort of stuff. So I guess, yeah, it's gotten a lot better from what it was.### Human: Even in the two weeks we're seeing you, it sounds like it's improved so much.### Assistant: It's improved a heck of a lot, considering when it first happened and the files that Mom had of it. And now, the fact that it's gotten to where you wouldn't even know it was there. |
### Human: It'd be very painful.### Assistant: And I couldn't walk for-- I found it hard to walk because I would be walking with my foot like that so the pressure was off the leg. It was all--### Human: Not your usual way of walking.### Assistant: Yeah. So I'd be walking like-- I'd be walking with-- instead of walking like that like you normally do, I'd walk sort of--### Human: m. Yeah.### Assistant: Invert my foot in so the pressure wasn't exactly on the inside of my shoe. So it was extremely hard with running as well. Now I can run perfectly fine in boots and that sort of stuff. So I guess, yeah, it's gotten a lot better from what it was.### Human: Even in the two weeks we're seeing you, it sounds like it's improved so much.### Assistant: It's improved a heck of a lot, considering when it first happened and the files that Mom had of it. And now, the fact that it's gotten to where you wouldn't even know it was there.### Human: And how are things going with Mom at the moment?### Assistant: All right. |
### Human: Not your usual way of walking.### Assistant: Yeah. So I'd be walking like-- I'd be walking with-- instead of walking like that like you normally do, I'd walk sort of--### Human: m. Yeah.### Assistant: Invert my foot in so the pressure wasn't exactly on the inside of my shoe. So it was extremely hard with running as well. Now I can run perfectly fine in boots and that sort of stuff. So I guess, yeah, it's gotten a lot better from what it was.### Human: Even in the two weeks we're seeing you, it sounds like it's improved so much.### Assistant: It's improved a heck of a lot, considering when it first happened and the files that Mom had of it. And now, the fact that it's gotten to where you wouldn't even know it was there.### Human: And how are things going with Mom at the moment?### Assistant: All right.### Human: All right. What's changed that it's all right?### Assistant: I'm not 100% sure to be honest. I sort of just haven't bothered to-- I sort of just-- when I get home Mom's like-- don't do a lot of stuff with me anymore. It's sort of steering away from her. Not too much. The fact that she feels like we're totally trying to ignore her and not doing anything with her, but sort of keeping her out of-- sort of it's more her and I doing stuff than rather Mom. |
### Human: m. Yeah.### Assistant: Invert my foot in so the pressure wasn't exactly on the inside of my shoe. So it was extremely hard with running as well. Now I can run perfectly fine in boots and that sort of stuff. So I guess, yeah, it's gotten a lot better from what it was.### Human: Even in the two weeks we're seeing you, it sounds like it's improved so much.### Assistant: It's improved a heck of a lot, considering when it first happened and the files that Mom had of it. And now, the fact that it's gotten to where you wouldn't even know it was there.### Human: And how are things going with Mom at the moment?### Assistant: All right.### Human: All right. What's changed that it's all right?### Assistant: I'm not 100% sure to be honest. I sort of just haven't bothered to-- I sort of just-- when I get home Mom's like-- don't do a lot of stuff with me anymore. It's sort of steering away from her. Not too much. The fact that she feels like we're totally trying to ignore her and not doing anything with her, but sort of keeping her out of-- sort of it's more her and I doing stuff than rather Mom.### Human: What do you mean? Just so I'm understanding.### Assistant: So it would just be mom and I on the computers, and it wouldn't be exactly Mom being around us. That sort of thing. So it was only just mom and I sort of not confrontating with Mom as much. So-- |
### Human: Even in the two weeks we're seeing you, it sounds like it's improved so much.### Assistant: It's improved a heck of a lot, considering when it first happened and the files that Mom had of it. And now, the fact that it's gotten to where you wouldn't even know it was there.### Human: And how are things going with Mom at the moment?### Assistant: All right.### Human: All right. What's changed that it's all right?### Assistant: I'm not 100% sure to be honest. I sort of just haven't bothered to-- I sort of just-- when I get home Mom's like-- don't do a lot of stuff with me anymore. It's sort of steering away from her. Not too much. The fact that she feels like we're totally trying to ignore her and not doing anything with her, but sort of keeping her out of-- sort of it's more her and I doing stuff than rather Mom.### Human: What do you mean? Just so I'm understanding.### Assistant: So it would just be mom and I on the computers, and it wouldn't be exactly Mom being around us. That sort of thing. So it was only just mom and I sort of not confrontating with Mom as much. So--### Human: And how are you not confrontating ??### Assistant: By sort of not talking a lot to Mom as I used to. Trying to avoid me saying something, or me getting angry at Mom or something like that. So sort of avoiding that side of things. |
### Human: And how are things going with Mom at the moment?### Assistant: All right.### Human: All right. What's changed that it's all right?### Assistant: I'm not 100% sure to be honest. I sort of just haven't bothered to-- I sort of just-- when I get home Mom's like-- don't do a lot of stuff with me anymore. It's sort of steering away from her. Not too much. The fact that she feels like we're totally trying to ignore her and not doing anything with her, but sort of keeping her out of-- sort of it's more her and I doing stuff than rather Mom.### Human: What do you mean? Just so I'm understanding.### Assistant: So it would just be mom and I on the computers, and it wouldn't be exactly Mom being around us. That sort of thing. So it was only just mom and I sort of not confrontating with Mom as much. So--### Human: And how are you not confrontating ??### Assistant: By sort of not talking a lot to Mom as I used to. Trying to avoid me saying something, or me getting angry at Mom or something like that. So sort of avoiding that side of things.### Human: And is that the way you'd like things to be? Would you like them to be different?### Assistant: At the moment it's working, so, and I'm a lot happier because of it. |
### Human: All right. What's changed that it's all right?### Assistant: I'm not 100% sure to be honest. I sort of just haven't bothered to-- I sort of just-- when I get home Mom's like-- don't do a lot of stuff with me anymore. It's sort of steering away from her. Not too much. The fact that she feels like we're totally trying to ignore her and not doing anything with her, but sort of keeping her out of-- sort of it's more her and I doing stuff than rather Mom.### Human: What do you mean? Just so I'm understanding.### Assistant: So it would just be mom and I on the computers, and it wouldn't be exactly Mom being around us. That sort of thing. So it was only just mom and I sort of not confrontating with Mom as much. So--### Human: And how are you not confrontating ??### Assistant: By sort of not talking a lot to Mom as I used to. Trying to avoid me saying something, or me getting angry at Mom or something like that. So sort of avoiding that side of things.### Human: And is that the way you'd like things to be? Would you like them to be different?### Assistant: At the moment it's working, so, and I'm a lot happier because of it.### Human: Do you think it'll work in the long term, or would you like it to look different?### Assistant: I guess it'll work till the end of the year at least. And then obviously, we've got to address what we do then. Whether or not we keep being with Mom as much as we are because at that stage, things don't exactly get taken to court. |
### Human: What do you mean? Just so I'm understanding.### Assistant: So it would just be mom and I on the computers, and it wouldn't be exactly Mom being around us. That sort of thing. So it was only just mom and I sort of not confrontating with Mom as much. So--### Human: And how are you not confrontating ??### Assistant: By sort of not talking a lot to Mom as I used to. Trying to avoid me saying something, or me getting angry at Mom or something like that. So sort of avoiding that side of things.### Human: And is that the way you'd like things to be? Would you like them to be different?### Assistant: At the moment it's working, so, and I'm a lot happier because of it.### Human: Do you think it'll work in the long term, or would you like it to look different?### Assistant: I guess it'll work till the end of the year at least. And then obviously, we've got to address what we do then. Whether or not we keep being with Mom as much as we are because at that stage, things don't exactly get taken to court.### Human: Yeah. Because you're 16 then. Yeah.### Assistant: Because we're 16. That's my understanding of it at the moment. That and I sort of don't want to take it to court because we're sort of getting to the point where we can make our decisions. That sort of stuff, so. |
### Human: And how are you not confrontating ??### Assistant: By sort of not talking a lot to Mom as I used to. Trying to avoid me saying something, or me getting angry at Mom or something like that. So sort of avoiding that side of things.### Human: And is that the way you'd like things to be? Would you like them to be different?### Assistant: At the moment it's working, so, and I'm a lot happier because of it.### Human: Do you think it'll work in the long term, or would you like it to look different?### Assistant: I guess it'll work till the end of the year at least. And then obviously, we've got to address what we do then. Whether or not we keep being with Mom as much as we are because at that stage, things don't exactly get taken to court.### Human: Yeah. Because you're 16 then. Yeah.### Assistant: Because we're 16. That's my understanding of it at the moment. That and I sort of don't want to take it to court because we're sort of getting to the point where we can make our decisions. That sort of stuff, so.### Human: And how would you like things to look like with Mom? I know that's a big question.### Assistant: Sort of seeing her for a few days, and spending that time without-- I guess, without it being annoying or getting annoyed by Mom. |
### Human: And is that the way you'd like things to be? Would you like them to be different?### Assistant: At the moment it's working, so, and I'm a lot happier because of it.### Human: Do you think it'll work in the long term, or would you like it to look different?### Assistant: I guess it'll work till the end of the year at least. And then obviously, we've got to address what we do then. Whether or not we keep being with Mom as much as we are because at that stage, things don't exactly get taken to court.### Human: Yeah. Because you're 16 then. Yeah.### Assistant: Because we're 16. That's my understanding of it at the moment. That and I sort of don't want to take it to court because we're sort of getting to the point where we can make our decisions. That sort of stuff, so.### Human: And how would you like things to look like with Mom? I know that's a big question.### Assistant: Sort of seeing her for a few days, and spending that time without-- I guess, without it being annoying or getting annoyed by Mom.### Human: Without being annoyed by Mom. Yeah.### Assistant: So being happy while we're there, instead of being miserable. That sort of stuff. |
### Human: Do you think it'll work in the long term, or would you like it to look different?### Assistant: I guess it'll work till the end of the year at least. And then obviously, we've got to address what we do then. Whether or not we keep being with Mom as much as we are because at that stage, things don't exactly get taken to court.### Human: Yeah. Because you're 16 then. Yeah.### Assistant: Because we're 16. That's my understanding of it at the moment. That and I sort of don't want to take it to court because we're sort of getting to the point where we can make our decisions. That sort of stuff, so.### Human: And how would you like things to look like with Mom? I know that's a big question.### Assistant: Sort of seeing her for a few days, and spending that time without-- I guess, without it being annoying or getting annoyed by Mom.### Human: Without being annoyed by Mom. Yeah.### Assistant: So being happy while we're there, instead of being miserable. That sort of stuff.### Human: That sounds like a really lovely thing that you'd want. Are you planning to have the family session this week?### Assistant: I have no idea. Mom still hasn't spoken to me about the family session at all. So I don't know if it's happening at all. |
### Human: Yeah. Because you're 16 then. Yeah.### Assistant: Because we're 16. That's my understanding of it at the moment. That and I sort of don't want to take it to court because we're sort of getting to the point where we can make our decisions. That sort of stuff, so.### Human: And how would you like things to look like with Mom? I know that's a big question.### Assistant: Sort of seeing her for a few days, and spending that time without-- I guess, without it being annoying or getting annoyed by Mom.### Human: Without being annoyed by Mom. Yeah.### Assistant: So being happy while we're there, instead of being miserable. That sort of stuff.### Human: That sounds like a really lovely thing that you'd want. Are you planning to have the family session this week?### Assistant: I have no idea. Mom still hasn't spoken to me about the family session at all. So I don't know if it's happening at all.### Human: What are your thoughts about it? I can definitely check if it's still on.### Assistant: I'm not exactly keen on it. |
### Human: And how would you like things to look like with Mom? I know that's a big question.### Assistant: Sort of seeing her for a few days, and spending that time without-- I guess, without it being annoying or getting annoyed by Mom.### Human: Without being annoyed by Mom. Yeah.### Assistant: So being happy while we're there, instead of being miserable. That sort of stuff.### Human: That sounds like a really lovely thing that you'd want. Are you planning to have the family session this week?### Assistant: I have no idea. Mom still hasn't spoken to me about the family session at all. So I don't know if it's happening at all.### Human: What are your thoughts about it? I can definitely check if it's still on.### Assistant: I'm not exactly keen on it.### Human: Yeah. What makes you not keen on it?### Assistant: Because I know she won't listen because we've done a lot of stuff in the past with Mom and Dad, and she hasn't exactly listened. |
### Human: Without being annoyed by Mom. Yeah.### Assistant: So being happy while we're there, instead of being miserable. That sort of stuff.### Human: That sounds like a really lovely thing that you'd want. Are you planning to have the family session this week?### Assistant: I have no idea. Mom still hasn't spoken to me about the family session at all. So I don't know if it's happening at all.### Human: What are your thoughts about it? I can definitely check if it's still on.### Assistant: I'm not exactly keen on it.### Human: Yeah. What makes you not keen on it?### Assistant: Because I know she won't listen because we've done a lot of stuff in the past with Mom and Dad, and she hasn't exactly listened.### Human: And how has she--### Assistant: She doesn't because that's just Mom. And our uncle, which is Mom's brother, knows that she's never going to-- she's never going to listen because if something is her idea, she's used to it. So that's what-- |
### Human: That sounds like a really lovely thing that you'd want. Are you planning to have the family session this week?### Assistant: I have no idea. Mom still hasn't spoken to me about the family session at all. So I don't know if it's happening at all.### Human: What are your thoughts about it? I can definitely check if it's still on.### Assistant: I'm not exactly keen on it.### Human: Yeah. What makes you not keen on it?### Assistant: Because I know she won't listen because we've done a lot of stuff in the past with Mom and Dad, and she hasn't exactly listened.### Human: And how has she--### Assistant: She doesn't because that's just Mom. And our uncle, which is Mom's brother, knows that she's never going to-- she's never going to listen because if something is her idea, she's used to it. So that's what--### Human: She died.### Assistant: That's just her, and he said that she's not going to change for a very, very long time, until she ends up losing something that-- - or us going in different direction away from them. She may end up listening or figuring out. But she said at the moment she may only realize that until she's a lot older, when she looks back at what happened. |
### Human: What are your thoughts about it? I can definitely check if it's still on.### Assistant: I'm not exactly keen on it.### Human: Yeah. What makes you not keen on it?### Assistant: Because I know she won't listen because we've done a lot of stuff in the past with Mom and Dad, and she hasn't exactly listened.### Human: And how has she--### Assistant: She doesn't because that's just Mom. And our uncle, which is Mom's brother, knows that she's never going to-- she's never going to listen because if something is her idea, she's used to it. So that's what--### Human: She died.### Assistant: That's just her, and he said that she's not going to change for a very, very long time, until she ends up losing something that-- - or us going in different direction away from them. She may end up listening or figuring out. But she said at the moment she may only realize that until she's a lot older, when she looks back at what happened.### Human: And would it be helpful too if you had the session on Thursday, to plan together what you'd like to say?### Assistant: : I'm just not keen on talking to Mom. |
### Human: Yeah. What makes you not keen on it?### Assistant: Because I know she won't listen because we've done a lot of stuff in the past with Mom and Dad, and she hasn't exactly listened.### Human: And how has she--### Assistant: She doesn't because that's just Mom. And our uncle, which is Mom's brother, knows that she's never going to-- she's never going to listen because if something is her idea, she's used to it. So that's what--### Human: She died.### Assistant: That's just her, and he said that she's not going to change for a very, very long time, until she ends up losing something that-- - or us going in different direction away from them. She may end up listening or figuring out. But she said at the moment she may only realize that until she's a lot older, when she looks back at what happened.### Human: And would it be helpful too if you had the session on Thursday, to plan together what you'd like to say?### Assistant: : I'm just not keen on talking to Mom.### Human: Yeah. Because you're saying Mom won't listen. Is that--### Assistant: Yeah. And just sort of I don't like having these sorts of conversations with Mom. |
### Human: And how has she--### Assistant: She doesn't because that's just Mom. And our uncle, which is Mom's brother, knows that she's never going to-- she's never going to listen because if something is her idea, she's used to it. So that's what--### Human: She died.### Assistant: That's just her, and he said that she's not going to change for a very, very long time, until she ends up losing something that-- - or us going in different direction away from them. She may end up listening or figuring out. But she said at the moment she may only realize that until she's a lot older, when she looks back at what happened.### Human: And would it be helpful too if you had the session on Thursday, to plan together what you'd like to say?### Assistant: : I'm just not keen on talking to Mom.### Human: Yeah. Because you're saying Mom won't listen. Is that--### Assistant: Yeah. And just sort of I don't like having these sorts of conversations with Mom.### Human: Would it be--### Assistant: Because it always ends here. |
### Human: She died.### Assistant: That's just her, and he said that she's not going to change for a very, very long time, until she ends up losing something that-- - or us going in different direction away from them. She may end up listening or figuring out. But she said at the moment she may only realize that until she's a lot older, when she looks back at what happened.### Human: And would it be helpful too if you had the session on Thursday, to plan together what you'd like to say?### Assistant: : I'm just not keen on talking to Mom.### Human: Yeah. Because you're saying Mom won't listen. Is that--### Assistant: Yeah. And just sort of I don't like having these sorts of conversations with Mom.### Human: Would it be--### Assistant: Because it always ends here.### Human: --helpful to say that's the topic of conversation? To go, "I'm really not comfortable because I feel nothing's going to change." Is that something you could say?### Assistant: To be honest, I don't know. |
### Human: And would it be helpful too if you had the session on Thursday, to plan together what you'd like to say?### Assistant: : I'm just not keen on talking to Mom.### Human: Yeah. Because you're saying Mom won't listen. Is that--### Assistant: Yeah. And just sort of I don't like having these sorts of conversations with Mom.### Human: Would it be--### Assistant: Because it always ends here.### Human: --helpful to say that's the topic of conversation? To go, "I'm really not comfortable because I feel nothing's going to change." Is that something you could say?### Assistant: To be honest, I don't know.### Human: Because that says a lot to me, you saying that will-- "I currently don't know if there's any point in talking because I don't feel things can change." That's a really hard thing to say. Totally your choice of what you will say, but I thought we could use the space to practice that to see what you feel comfortable-- how it sounds.### Assistant: Yeah. It's just at the moment I might rethink it. It's just at the moment I sort of just want to keep going because I know that we'll start talking about stuff, and I'll either get angry or-- and then I'll end up being unhappy. And that's what sort of happens-- |
### Human: Yeah. Because you're saying Mom won't listen. Is that--### Assistant: Yeah. And just sort of I don't like having these sorts of conversations with Mom.### Human: Would it be--### Assistant: Because it always ends here.### Human: --helpful to say that's the topic of conversation? To go, "I'm really not comfortable because I feel nothing's going to change." Is that something you could say?### Assistant: To be honest, I don't know.### Human: Because that says a lot to me, you saying that will-- "I currently don't know if there's any point in talking because I don't feel things can change." That's a really hard thing to say. Totally your choice of what you will say, but I thought we could use the space to practice that to see what you feel comfortable-- how it sounds.### Assistant: Yeah. It's just at the moment I might rethink it. It's just at the moment I sort of just want to keep going because I know that we'll start talking about stuff, and I'll either get angry or-- and then I'll end up being unhappy. And that's what sort of happens--### Human: As in here right now, or in a session with Mom?### Assistant: In a session with Mom because I've spoken to Mom in the past, and it's taken me weeks, even longer to get over it because I-- |
### Human: Would it be--### Assistant: Because it always ends here.### Human: --helpful to say that's the topic of conversation? To go, "I'm really not comfortable because I feel nothing's going to change." Is that something you could say?### Assistant: To be honest, I don't know.### Human: Because that says a lot to me, you saying that will-- "I currently don't know if there's any point in talking because I don't feel things can change." That's a really hard thing to say. Totally your choice of what you will say, but I thought we could use the space to practice that to see what you feel comfortable-- how it sounds.### Assistant: Yeah. It's just at the moment I might rethink it. It's just at the moment I sort of just want to keep going because I know that we'll start talking about stuff, and I'll either get angry or-- and then I'll end up being unhappy. And that's what sort of happens--### Human: As in here right now, or in a session with Mom?### Assistant: In a session with Mom because I've spoken to Mom in the past, and it's taken me weeks, even longer to get over it because I--### Human: So--### Assistant: --get so angry, or-- |
### Human: --helpful to say that's the topic of conversation? To go, "I'm really not comfortable because I feel nothing's going to change." Is that something you could say?### Assistant: To be honest, I don't know.### Human: Because that says a lot to me, you saying that will-- "I currently don't know if there's any point in talking because I don't feel things can change." That's a really hard thing to say. Totally your choice of what you will say, but I thought we could use the space to practice that to see what you feel comfortable-- how it sounds.### Assistant: Yeah. It's just at the moment I might rethink it. It's just at the moment I sort of just want to keep going because I know that we'll start talking about stuff, and I'll either get angry or-- and then I'll end up being unhappy. And that's what sort of happens--### Human: As in here right now, or in a session with Mom?### Assistant: In a session with Mom because I've spoken to Mom in the past, and it's taken me weeks, even longer to get over it because I--### Human: So--### Assistant: --get so angry, or--### Human: Can we do a hypothetical? If you have the session on Thursday, you start feeling angry, what can you do? Because I'm hearing that's what you don't want to happen. So if those feelings-- what happens in your body when you start feeling angry? Because that's the first step to recognize.### Assistant: I end up don't listening. Not-- |
### Human: Because that says a lot to me, you saying that will-- "I currently don't know if there's any point in talking because I don't feel things can change." That's a really hard thing to say. Totally your choice of what you will say, but I thought we could use the space to practice that to see what you feel comfortable-- how it sounds.### Assistant: Yeah. It's just at the moment I might rethink it. It's just at the moment I sort of just want to keep going because I know that we'll start talking about stuff, and I'll either get angry or-- and then I'll end up being unhappy. And that's what sort of happens--### Human: As in here right now, or in a session with Mom?### Assistant: In a session with Mom because I've spoken to Mom in the past, and it's taken me weeks, even longer to get over it because I--### Human: So--### Assistant: --get so angry, or--### Human: Can we do a hypothetical? If you have the session on Thursday, you start feeling angry, what can you do? Because I'm hearing that's what you don't want to happen. So if those feelings-- what happens in your body when you start feeling angry? Because that's the first step to recognize.### Assistant: I end up don't listening. Not--### Human: Yeah. Not listening. Yeah. Is there anything that goes on in your body?### Assistant: Sort of just bottle it up. |
### Human: As in here right now, or in a session with Mom?### Assistant: In a session with Mom because I've spoken to Mom in the past, and it's taken me weeks, even longer to get over it because I--### Human: So--### Assistant: --get so angry, or--### Human: Can we do a hypothetical? If you have the session on Thursday, you start feeling angry, what can you do? Because I'm hearing that's what you don't want to happen. So if those feelings-- what happens in your body when you start feeling angry? Because that's the first step to recognize.### Assistant: I end up don't listening. Not--### Human: Yeah. Not listening. Yeah. Is there anything that goes on in your body?### Assistant: Sort of just bottle it up.### Human: Yeah. So if you start feeling you're bottling it up, what can you do in that situation?### Assistant: I don't know. |
### Human: So--### Assistant: --get so angry, or--### Human: Can we do a hypothetical? If you have the session on Thursday, you start feeling angry, what can you do? Because I'm hearing that's what you don't want to happen. So if those feelings-- what happens in your body when you start feeling angry? Because that's the first step to recognize.### Assistant: I end up don't listening. Not--### Human: Yeah. Not listening. Yeah. Is there anything that goes on in your body?### Assistant: Sort of just bottle it up.### Human: Yeah. So if you start feeling you're bottling it up, what can you do in that situation?### Assistant: I don't know.### Human: What do you think would be helpful? So what's important for me is that you can feel that you're okay in a session so that you're not feeling then not okay for a few weeks. And I can pass this information on to her also, so she knows. So I can throw out a few ideas if that'll be helpful.### Assistant: Yeah. |
### Human: Can we do a hypothetical? If you have the session on Thursday, you start feeling angry, what can you do? Because I'm hearing that's what you don't want to happen. So if those feelings-- what happens in your body when you start feeling angry? Because that's the first step to recognize.### Assistant: I end up don't listening. Not--### Human: Yeah. Not listening. Yeah. Is there anything that goes on in your body?### Assistant: Sort of just bottle it up.### Human: Yeah. So if you start feeling you're bottling it up, what can you do in that situation?### Assistant: I don't know.### Human: What do you think would be helpful? So what's important for me is that you can feel that you're okay in a session so that you're not feeling then not okay for a few weeks. And I can pass this information on to her also, so she knows. So I can throw out a few ideas if that'll be helpful.### Assistant: Yeah.### Human: Yeah. So it could be you go, "I'm not feeling okay. I'm going to walk out for a break." You could have a system of a word or a card that you put down, saying, "I need a break," or, "I'm not feeling comfortable." What do you think could work?### Assistant: I don't know. |
### Human: Yeah. Not listening. Yeah. Is there anything that goes on in your body?### Assistant: Sort of just bottle it up.### Human: Yeah. So if you start feeling you're bottling it up, what can you do in that situation?### Assistant: I don't know.### Human: What do you think would be helpful? So what's important for me is that you can feel that you're okay in a session so that you're not feeling then not okay for a few weeks. And I can pass this information on to her also, so she knows. So I can throw out a few ideas if that'll be helpful.### Assistant: Yeah.### Human: Yeah. So it could be you go, "I'm not feeling okay. I'm going to walk out for a break." You could have a system of a word or a card that you put down, saying, "I need a break," or, "I'm not feeling comfortable." What do you think could work?### Assistant: I don't know.### Human: I can see in your face now, "I'm really not comfortable with this session," and I'm pretty sure it is booked in. It'd be good to either chat to Mom about it, or if you are coming in here-- because I want you to feel okay in the session.### Assistant: Yeah. Mom at the moment is the fact that she doesn't see harm. She sees it as something wrong with us, not with her, and she sort of does this sort of stuff helping us, but the fact that she actually should be getting help for herself. The reason why we did headspace was to get help for us from all that sort of stuff, and yeah, but she never did anything for her. And that's what was really-- the problem was the fact that the way she was dealing with stuff when we spoke about Dad when we were |
### Human: Yeah. So if you start feeling you're bottling it up, what can you do in that situation?### Assistant: I don't know.### Human: What do you think would be helpful? So what's important for me is that you can feel that you're okay in a session so that you're not feeling then not okay for a few weeks. And I can pass this information on to her also, so she knows. So I can throw out a few ideas if that'll be helpful.### Assistant: Yeah.### Human: Yeah. So it could be you go, "I'm not feeling okay. I'm going to walk out for a break." You could have a system of a word or a card that you put down, saying, "I need a break," or, "I'm not feeling comfortable." What do you think could work?### Assistant: I don't know.### Human: I can see in your face now, "I'm really not comfortable with this session," and I'm pretty sure it is booked in. It'd be good to either chat to Mom about it, or if you are coming in here-- because I want you to feel okay in the session.### Assistant: Yeah. Mom at the moment is the fact that she doesn't see harm. She sees it as something wrong with us, not with her, and she sort of does this sort of stuff helping us, but the fact that she actually should be getting help for herself. The reason why we did headspace was to get help for us from all that sort of stuff, and yeah, but she never did anything for her. And that's what was really-- the problem was the fact that the way she was dealing with stuff when we spoke about Dad when we were### Human: ### Assistant: |
### Human: What do you think would be helpful? So what's important for me is that you can feel that you're okay in a session so that you're not feeling then not okay for a few weeks. And I can pass this information on to her also, so she knows. So I can throw out a few ideas if that'll be helpful.### Assistant: Yeah.### Human: Yeah. So it could be you go, "I'm not feeling okay. I'm going to walk out for a break." You could have a system of a word or a card that you put down, saying, "I need a break," or, "I'm not feeling comfortable." What do you think could work?### Assistant: I don't know.### Human: I can see in your face now, "I'm really not comfortable with this session," and I'm pretty sure it is booked in. It'd be good to either chat to Mom about it, or if you are coming in here-- because I want you to feel okay in the session.### Assistant: Yeah. Mom at the moment is the fact that she doesn't see harm. She sees it as something wrong with us, not with her, and she sort of does this sort of stuff helping us, but the fact that she actually should be getting help for herself. The reason why we did headspace was to get help for us from all that sort of stuff, and yeah, but she never did anything for her. And that's what was really-- the problem was the fact that the way she was dealing with stuff when we spoke about Dad when we were### Human: ### Assistant: ### Human: ### Assistant: |
### Human: Yeah. So it could be you go, "I'm not feeling okay. I'm going to walk out for a break." You could have a system of a word or a card that you put down, saying, "I need a break," or, "I'm not feeling comfortable." What do you think could work?### Assistant: I don't know.### Human: I can see in your face now, "I'm really not comfortable with this session," and I'm pretty sure it is booked in. It'd be good to either chat to Mom about it, or if you are coming in here-- because I want you to feel okay in the session.### Assistant: Yeah. Mom at the moment is the fact that she doesn't see harm. She sees it as something wrong with us, not with her, and she sort of does this sort of stuff helping us, but the fact that she actually should be getting help for herself. The reason why we did headspace was to get help for us from all that sort of stuff, and yeah, but she never did anything for her. And that's what was really-- the problem was the fact that the way she was dealing with stuff when we spoke about Dad when we were### Human: ### Assistant: ### Human: ### Assistant: ### Human: ### Assistant: Yeah. So it sounds like the way they parent is very different. |
### Human: I can see in your face now, "I'm really not comfortable with this session," and I'm pretty sure it is booked in. It'd be good to either chat to Mom about it, or if you are coming in here-- because I want you to feel okay in the session.### Assistant: Yeah. Mom at the moment is the fact that she doesn't see harm. She sees it as something wrong with us, not with her, and she sort of does this sort of stuff helping us, but the fact that she actually should be getting help for herself. The reason why we did headspace was to get help for us from all that sort of stuff, and yeah, but she never did anything for her. And that's what was really-- the problem was the fact that the way she was dealing with stuff when we spoke about Dad when we were### Human: ### Assistant: ### Human: ### Assistant: ### Human: ### Assistant: Yeah. So it sounds like the way they parent is very different.### Human: Yeah. Dad was always the fact that yelling or talking would be a better option than hitting or with force, and that's how Mom grew up, and that's how she-- and that's how she's had it, so that's how she does it. And Dad grew up with being spoken to or yelled or that sort of thing instead of being hit, and that's what he didn't agree with. And the fact that he said that Mom's always been like that, and her uncle said that she's always been like that because when she gets an idea in her head,### Assistant: Would it be helpful to talk to Mom about cutting the session? |
### Human: And do you think you have a problem?### Assistant: I don't see myself as having an attitude problem whenever-- all that sort of stuff that she says that I do. She says I have an attitude problem, or it's because of someone--### Human: What do you mean--### Assistant: --else, but she doesn't accept that it's not the way-- she always saw it as the fact that she is doing no wrong, and that she's not hurting anyone by doing anything, and the fact that she's doing the best. She may be doing the best, but in her eyes it's-- in my eyes especially, she's not--### Human: So I'm hearing that in her eyes she's doing the best she can, and to you it's why I'd like Mom to do a few things differently, but that's really hard to say to Mom because you feel she won't listen to what you say.### Assistant: Well, she doesn't because she has an idea in her head, and she doesn't-- she'll have an idea in her head, and she'll pretend she is listening to someone else, but really, she knows what she's going to do, and that's whatever she wants to do, and that's how she's always been. And I was speaking to Dad, and when we used to be annoying when we were kids, she used to punish us by hitting us with a wooden spoon, and Dad said that he didn't want that. Yelling at us was something. So that is someth### Human: ### Assistant: And then I found out that she'd gone out and already bought a computer. She said she had no idea what she was doing, I had a better idea, and the fact that I said to Mom-- she spent $600 for it, and I said that it would have been-- they would have A, lasted longer, it would have been a lot better than the one she'd gotten. For $700 I could have gotten something that's three times as better as what we have and would last a lot longer because it's second hand. And our computers alread### Human: ### Assistant: |
### Human: What do you mean--### Assistant: --else, but she doesn't accept that it's not the way-- she always saw it as the fact that she is doing no wrong, and that she's not hurting anyone by doing anything, and the fact that she's doing the best. She may be doing the best, but in her eyes it's-- in my eyes especially, she's not--### Human: So I'm hearing that in her eyes she's doing the best she can, and to you it's why I'd like Mom to do a few things differently, but that's really hard to say to Mom because you feel she won't listen to what you say.### Assistant: Well, she doesn't because she has an idea in her head, and she doesn't-- she'll have an idea in her head, and she'll pretend she is listening to someone else, but really, she knows what she's going to do, and that's whatever she wants to do, and that's how she's always been. And I was speaking to Dad, and when we used to be annoying when we were kids, she used to punish us by hitting us with a wooden spoon, and Dad said that he didn't want that. Yelling at us was something. So that is someth### Human: ### Assistant: And then I found out that she'd gone out and already bought a computer. She said she had no idea what she was doing, I had a better idea, and the fact that I said to Mom-- she spent $600 for it, and I said that it would have been-- they would have A, lasted longer, it would have been a lot better than the one she'd gotten. For $700 I could have gotten something that's three times as better as what we have and would last a lot longer because it's second hand. And our computers alread### Human: ### Assistant: ### Human: ### Assistant: |
### Human: So I'm hearing that in her eyes she's doing the best she can, and to you it's why I'd like Mom to do a few things differently, but that's really hard to say to Mom because you feel she won't listen to what you say.### Assistant: Well, she doesn't because she has an idea in her head, and she doesn't-- she'll have an idea in her head, and she'll pretend she is listening to someone else, but really, she knows what she's going to do, and that's whatever she wants to do, and that's how she's always been. And I was speaking to Dad, and when we used to be annoying when we were kids, she used to punish us by hitting us with a wooden spoon, and Dad said that he didn't want that. Yelling at us was something. So that is someth### Human: ### Assistant: And then I found out that she'd gone out and already bought a computer. She said she had no idea what she was doing, I had a better idea, and the fact that I said to Mom-- she spent $600 for it, and I said that it would have been-- they would have A, lasted longer, it would have been a lot better than the one she'd gotten. For $700 I could have gotten something that's three times as better as what we have and would last a lot longer because it's second hand. And our computers alread### Human: ### Assistant: ### Human: ### Assistant: ### Human: ### Assistant: |
### Human: Yeah. So it sounds like the way they parent is very different.### Assistant: Yeah. Dad was always the fact that yelling or talking would be a better option than hitting or with force, and that's how Mom grew up, and that's how she-- and that's how she's had it, so that's how she does it. And Dad grew up with being spoken to or yelled or that sort of thing instead of being hit, and that's what he didn't agree with. And the fact that he said that Mom's always been like that, and her uncle said that she's always been like that because when she gets an idea in her head,### Human: Would it be helpful to talk to Mom about cutting the session?### Assistant: So I've sort of given up on talking to her, and--### Human: Is that something where you feel you go, "At the moment I feel it's really hard to talk to you because I feel you dismiss me"?### Assistant: Well, I think it makes me a lot happier when I don't talk about that sort of stuff. I sort of try to push that stuff aside so I can be close enough to a kid with a normal life because obviously, it's never going to be normal.### Human: What is a normal life?### Assistant: Having two parents that live together with their kids in one house. That sort of thing.### Human: And why is that a normal life?### Assistant: Because that's what most kids have. |
### Human: Would it be helpful to talk to Mom about cutting the session?### Assistant: So I've sort of given up on talking to her, and--### Human: Is that something where you feel you go, "At the moment I feel it's really hard to talk to you because I feel you dismiss me"?### Assistant: Well, I think it makes me a lot happier when I don't talk about that sort of stuff. I sort of try to push that stuff aside so I can be close enough to a kid with a normal life because obviously, it's never going to be normal.### Human: What is a normal life?### Assistant: Having two parents that live together with their kids in one house. That sort of thing.### Human: And why is that a normal life?### Assistant: Because that's what most kids have.### Human: Is that what most kids have though?### Assistant: Most kids do. |
### Human: Is that something where you feel you go, "At the moment I feel it's really hard to talk to you because I feel you dismiss me"?### Assistant: Well, I think it makes me a lot happier when I don't talk about that sort of stuff. I sort of try to push that stuff aside so I can be close enough to a kid with a normal life because obviously, it's never going to be normal.### Human: What is a normal life?### Assistant: Having two parents that live together with their kids in one house. That sort of thing.### Human: And why is that a normal life?### Assistant: Because that's what most kids have.### Human: Is that what most kids have though?### Assistant: Most kids do.### Human: Well, I would say--### Assistant: Some kids have other lives, where they either don't have a dad, they don't a mom, or they don't have parents at all, and I see that as the fact that they don't exactly have-- yeah. They don't have something that every kid is born into, where they have a mom and a dad, and they both live together, and they both are in some sort of building. |
### Human: What is a normal life?### Assistant: Having two parents that live together with their kids in one house. That sort of thing.### Human: And why is that a normal life?### Assistant: Because that's what most kids have.### Human: Is that what most kids have though?### Assistant: Most kids do.### Human: Well, I would say--### Assistant: Some kids have other lives, where they either don't have a dad, they don't a mom, or they don't have parents at all, and I see that as the fact that they don't exactly have-- yeah. They don't have something that every kid is born into, where they have a mom and a dad, and they both live together, and they both are in some sort of building.### Human: And that is ,--### Assistant: A house or-- |
### Human: And why is that a normal life?### Assistant: Because that's what most kids have.### Human: Is that what most kids have though?### Assistant: Most kids do.### Human: Well, I would say--### Assistant: Some kids have other lives, where they either don't have a dad, they don't a mom, or they don't have parents at all, and I see that as the fact that they don't exactly have-- yeah. They don't have something that every kid is born into, where they have a mom and a dad, and they both live together, and they both are in some sort of building.### Human: And that is ,--### Assistant: A house or--### Human: So ---### Assistant: --apartment. That sort of stuff. |
### Human: Is that what most kids have though?### Assistant: Most kids do.### Human: Well, I would say--### Assistant: Some kids have other lives, where they either don't have a dad, they don't a mom, or they don't have parents at all, and I see that as the fact that they don't exactly have-- yeah. They don't have something that every kid is born into, where they have a mom and a dad, and they both live together, and they both are in some sort of building.### Human: And that is ,--### Assistant: A house or--### Human: So ---### Assistant: --apartment. That sort of stuff.### Human: Which is society's expectations because there's a lot of people, Mom and Dad aren't together, some people have two moms or two dads. It's not necessary that it's a mom or dad, and things can happen, and things can change, but I can understand you've grown up for 14 years, roughly, with Mom and Dad.### Assistant: Yeah. I grew for a long time with me knowing that, and then I've considered that-- now, looking back at it, I considered that that was my normal life, and it's changed, and I've found myself a lot happier when I was back there. So I sort of push that sort of side of stuff away. All the things to do with court. Stuff to do with Mom and Dad-- |
### Human: Well, I would say--### Assistant: Some kids have other lives, where they either don't have a dad, they don't a mom, or they don't have parents at all, and I see that as the fact that they don't exactly have-- yeah. They don't have something that every kid is born into, where they have a mom and a dad, and they both live together, and they both are in some sort of building.### Human: And that is ,--### Assistant: A house or--### Human: So ---### Assistant: --apartment. That sort of stuff.### Human: Which is society's expectations because there's a lot of people, Mom and Dad aren't together, some people have two moms or two dads. It's not necessary that it's a mom or dad, and things can happen, and things can change, but I can understand you've grown up for 14 years, roughly, with Mom and Dad.### Assistant: Yeah. I grew for a long time with me knowing that, and then I've considered that-- now, looking back at it, I considered that that was my normal life, and it's changed, and I've found myself a lot happier when I was back there. So I sort of push that sort of side of stuff away. All the things to do with court. Stuff to do with Mom and Dad--### Human: Because that's--### Assistant: --away, and sort of focused on friends, socializing, sport, that sort of stuff, and sort of tried to get it as close to what it was like before it all happened. |
### Human: And that is ,--### Assistant: A house or--### Human: So ---### Assistant: --apartment. That sort of stuff.### Human: Which is society's expectations because there's a lot of people, Mom and Dad aren't together, some people have two moms or two dads. It's not necessary that it's a mom or dad, and things can happen, and things can change, but I can understand you've grown up for 14 years, roughly, with Mom and Dad.### Assistant: Yeah. I grew for a long time with me knowing that, and then I've considered that-- now, looking back at it, I considered that that was my normal life, and it's changed, and I've found myself a lot happier when I was back there. So I sort of push that sort of side of stuff away. All the things to do with court. Stuff to do with Mom and Dad--### Human: Because that's--### Assistant: --away, and sort of focused on friends, socializing, sport, that sort of stuff, and sort of tried to get it as close to what it was like before it all happened.### Human: And these are the things that I can feel you have control over. Your friends, sport, but with family, you haven't had a lot of control over. Am I hearing?### Assistant: Yeah. And I've spoken to a friend about that, and he said that he doesn't really bother about his mom and dad at all, not being together. He sort of focuses on the fact before that. And-- |
### Human: So ---### Assistant: --apartment. That sort of stuff.### Human: Which is society's expectations because there's a lot of people, Mom and Dad aren't together, some people have two moms or two dads. It's not necessary that it's a mom or dad, and things can happen, and things can change, but I can understand you've grown up for 14 years, roughly, with Mom and Dad.### Assistant: Yeah. I grew for a long time with me knowing that, and then I've considered that-- now, looking back at it, I considered that that was my normal life, and it's changed, and I've found myself a lot happier when I was back there. So I sort of push that sort of side of stuff away. All the things to do with court. Stuff to do with Mom and Dad--### Human: Because that's--### Assistant: --away, and sort of focused on friends, socializing, sport, that sort of stuff, and sort of tried to get it as close to what it was like before it all happened.### Human: And these are the things that I can feel you have control over. Your friends, sport, but with family, you haven't had a lot of control over. Am I hearing?### Assistant: Yeah. And I've spoken to a friend about that, and he said that he doesn't really bother about his mom and dad at all, not being together. He sort of focuses on the fact before that. And--### Human: So those things that were there before parents separated. Is that right?### Assistant: Yeah. |
### Human: Which is society's expectations because there's a lot of people, Mom and Dad aren't together, some people have two moms or two dads. It's not necessary that it's a mom or dad, and things can happen, and things can change, but I can understand you've grown up for 14 years, roughly, with Mom and Dad.### Assistant: Yeah. I grew for a long time with me knowing that, and then I've considered that-- now, looking back at it, I considered that that was my normal life, and it's changed, and I've found myself a lot happier when I was back there. So I sort of push that sort of side of stuff away. All the things to do with court. Stuff to do with Mom and Dad--### Human: Because that's--### Assistant: --away, and sort of focused on friends, socializing, sport, that sort of stuff, and sort of tried to get it as close to what it was like before it all happened.### Human: And these are the things that I can feel you have control over. Your friends, sport, but with family, you haven't had a lot of control over. Am I hearing?### Assistant: Yeah. And I've spoken to a friend about that, and he said that he doesn't really bother about his mom and dad at all, not being together. He sort of focuses on the fact before that. And--### Human: So those things that were there before parents separated. Is that right?### Assistant: Yeah.### Human: I'm thinking I'm getting it.### Assistant: Because he's got stepsisters as well. He's got a stepsister and a stepbrother, and he also has his real brother, and he also has a real sister. And he sort of focused on before that, and he said that it helped him a lot, and it still does. So I've sort of done that, and have found myself to be a lot happier because it's been the fact that I've gone back to before it even happened, the most happiest memory I had, and that's, I guess-- I sort of found that out, and I've tried to focus, and it' |
### Human: Because that's--### Assistant: --away, and sort of focused on friends, socializing, sport, that sort of stuff, and sort of tried to get it as close to what it was like before it all happened.### Human: And these are the things that I can feel you have control over. Your friends, sport, but with family, you haven't had a lot of control over. Am I hearing?### Assistant: Yeah. And I've spoken to a friend about that, and he said that he doesn't really bother about his mom and dad at all, not being together. He sort of focuses on the fact before that. And--### Human: So those things that were there before parents separated. Is that right?### Assistant: Yeah.### Human: I'm thinking I'm getting it.### Assistant: Because he's got stepsisters as well. He's got a stepsister and a stepbrother, and he also has his real brother, and he also has a real sister. And he sort of focused on before that, and he said that it helped him a lot, and it still does. So I've sort of done that, and have found myself to be a lot happier because it's been the fact that I've gone back to before it even happened, the most happiest memory I had, and that's, I guess-- I sort of found that out, and I've tried to focus, and it'### Human: ### Assistant: |
### Human: And these are the things that I can feel you have control over. Your friends, sport, but with family, you haven't had a lot of control over. Am I hearing?### Assistant: Yeah. And I've spoken to a friend about that, and he said that he doesn't really bother about his mom and dad at all, not being together. He sort of focuses on the fact before that. And--### Human: So those things that were there before parents separated. Is that right?### Assistant: Yeah.### Human: I'm thinking I'm getting it.### Assistant: Because he's got stepsisters as well. He's got a stepsister and a stepbrother, and he also has his real brother, and he also has a real sister. And he sort of focused on before that, and he said that it helped him a lot, and it still does. So I've sort of done that, and have found myself to be a lot happier because it's been the fact that I've gone back to before it even happened, the most happiest memory I had, and that's, I guess-- I sort of found that out, and I've tried to focus, and it'### Human: ### Assistant: ### Human: Because sport and friends haven't-- yeah. Recently, friends have changed, but I still have my old friends, and I still have football, and I see that it's always going to be like that, and that's what I had before this, and I still do have it. And that's what I focus on. That's why sport and friends are a big part in my life, because that was what it was like before Mom and Dad separated.### Assistant: And do you feel you still have Mom and Dad? |
### Human: So those things that were there before parents separated. Is that right?### Assistant: Yeah.### Human: I'm thinking I'm getting it.### Assistant: Because he's got stepsisters as well. He's got a stepsister and a stepbrother, and he also has his real brother, and he also has a real sister. And he sort of focused on before that, and he said that it helped him a lot, and it still does. So I've sort of done that, and have found myself to be a lot happier because it's been the fact that I've gone back to before it even happened, the most happiest memory I had, and that's, I guess-- I sort of found that out, and I've tried to focus, and it'### Human: ### Assistant: ### Human: Because sport and friends haven't-- yeah. Recently, friends have changed, but I still have my old friends, and I still have football, and I see that it's always going to be like that, and that's what I had before this, and I still do have it. And that's what I focus on. That's why sport and friends are a big part in my life, because that was what it was like before Mom and Dad separated.### Assistant: And do you feel you still have Mom and Dad?### Human: Yeah. I just don't think of them as Mom and Dad. I think of them as Mom and Dad--### Assistant: Yeah. I get what you mean. Yeah. |
### Human: I'm thinking I'm getting it.### Assistant: Because he's got stepsisters as well. He's got a stepsister and a stepbrother, and he also has his real brother, and he also has a real sister. And he sort of focused on before that, and he said that it helped him a lot, and it still does. So I've sort of done that, and have found myself to be a lot happier because it's been the fact that I've gone back to before it even happened, the most happiest memory I had, and that's, I guess-- I sort of found that out, and I've tried to focus, and it'### Human: ### Assistant: ### Human: Because sport and friends haven't-- yeah. Recently, friends have changed, but I still have my old friends, and I still have football, and I see that it's always going to be like that, and that's what I had before this, and I still do have it. And that's what I focus on. That's why sport and friends are a big part in my life, because that was what it was like before Mom and Dad separated.### Assistant: And do you feel you still have Mom and Dad?### Human: Yeah. I just don't think of them as Mom and Dad. I think of them as Mom and Dad--### Assistant: Yeah. I get what you mean. Yeah.### Human: Yeah. I don't think of them as Mom and Dad.### Assistant: Mom and Dad. Yeah. |
### Human: And totally understandable.### Assistant: Yeah. And yeah, it's what could have gotten happier and not talking about this sort of stuff and not bothering about the sort of problems and trying to focus on-- yeah. Trying to focus on what happened before.### Human: And if you want to talk about that stuff, this is where we can talk about it. It's a safe place to talk about that kind of stuff. Because sometimes if we put a lot of things aside one day, they can all come up and become overwhelming, for some people. But it's really important to find those things that you can find you do have control over because you've gone through a lot in the past year. A lot of changes. So it makes sense that your friends and your sport are things you're focusing on bec### Assistant: ### Human: ### Assistant: ### Human: ### Assistant: ### Human: ### Assistant: |
### Human: And if you want to talk about that stuff, this is where we can talk about it. It's a safe place to talk about that kind of stuff. Because sometimes if we put a lot of things aside one day, they can all come up and become overwhelming, for some people. But it's really important to find those things that you can find you do have control over because you've gone through a lot in the past year. A lot of changes. So it makes sense that your friends and your sport are things you're focusing on bec### Assistant: ### Human: ### Assistant: ### Human: ### Assistant: ### Human: ### Assistant: ### Human: ### Assistant: |
### Human: And do you feel you still have Mom and Dad?### Assistant: Yeah. I just don't think of them as Mom and Dad. I think of them as Mom and Dad--### Human: Yeah. I get what you mean. Yeah.### Assistant: Yeah. I don't think of them as Mom and Dad.### Human: Mom and Dad. Yeah.### Assistant: I think, yeah, they're still Mom and Dad, but I think before they were Mom and Dad.### Human: Yeah. So now you think of it as Mom--### Assistant: I think of them as Mom and Dad.### Human: Mom, Dad, and it was Mom and Dad. That, yeah?### Assistant: Yeah. So instead of having Mom here and Dad there, I see them as, yeah, they're there, but I still have Mom and Dad. |
### Human: Yeah. I get what you mean. Yeah.### Assistant: Yeah. I don't think of them as Mom and Dad.### Human: Mom and Dad. Yeah.### Assistant: I think, yeah, they're still Mom and Dad, but I think before they were Mom and Dad.### Human: Yeah. So now you think of it as Mom--### Assistant: I think of them as Mom and Dad.### Human: Mom, Dad, and it was Mom and Dad. That, yeah?### Assistant: Yeah. So instead of having Mom here and Dad there, I see them as, yeah, they're there, but I still have Mom and Dad.### Human: Yeah. We're on the same page. We're wording it in the way it processes in our head on the same page, and that's really important to remember, that you do have-- Mom's still there and Dad's still there.### Assistant: It's just they're not there if you know what I mean. They're not always there. Dad's not always going to be there every single day, Mom's not always going to be there every single day, but I still have Mom and Dad. |
### Human: Mom and Dad. Yeah.### Assistant: I think, yeah, they're still Mom and Dad, but I think before they were Mom and Dad.### Human: Yeah. So now you think of it as Mom--### Assistant: I think of them as Mom and Dad.### Human: Mom, Dad, and it was Mom and Dad. That, yeah?### Assistant: Yeah. So instead of having Mom here and Dad there, I see them as, yeah, they're there, but I still have Mom and Dad.### Human: Yeah. We're on the same page. We're wording it in the way it processes in our head on the same page, and that's really important to remember, that you do have-- Mom's still there and Dad's still there.### Assistant: It's just they're not there if you know what I mean. They're not always there. Dad's not always going to be there every single day, Mom's not always going to be there every single day, but I still have Mom and Dad.### Human: And that's really important to remember, and they would care about you just as much as they did before they were separated, but it'd be very hard, I'd imagine, to process that it's not Mom and Dad under the same roof. "--### Assistant: Yeah. And I've tried to focus on the fact that, yeah, Dad's not with us every single day. He's not coming home. We don't see him in the morning every single day. But yet, we still see Dad and we still see Mom. |
### Human: Yeah. So now you think of it as Mom--### Assistant: I think of them as Mom and Dad.### Human: Mom, Dad, and it was Mom and Dad. That, yeah?### Assistant: Yeah. So instead of having Mom here and Dad there, I see them as, yeah, they're there, but I still have Mom and Dad.### Human: Yeah. We're on the same page. We're wording it in the way it processes in our head on the same page, and that's really important to remember, that you do have-- Mom's still there and Dad's still there.### Assistant: It's just they're not there if you know what I mean. They're not always there. Dad's not always going to be there every single day, Mom's not always going to be there every single day, but I still have Mom and Dad.### Human: And that's really important to remember, and they would care about you just as much as they did before they were separated, but it'd be very hard, I'd imagine, to process that it's not Mom and Dad under the same roof. "--### Assistant: Yeah. And I've tried to focus on the fact that, yeah, Dad's not with us every single day. He's not coming home. We don't see him in the morning every single day. But yet, we still see Dad and we still see Mom.### Human: Yeah. That's exactly right. And it sounds like it's been hard with now understanding how things work with Mom because you feel that she dismisses a lot of what you say, yeah? Was that like that before?### Assistant: It still was. |
### Human: Mom, Dad, and it was Mom and Dad. That, yeah?### Assistant: Yeah. So instead of having Mom here and Dad there, I see them as, yeah, they're there, but I still have Mom and Dad.### Human: Yeah. We're on the same page. We're wording it in the way it processes in our head on the same page, and that's really important to remember, that you do have-- Mom's still there and Dad's still there.### Assistant: It's just they're not there if you know what I mean. They're not always there. Dad's not always going to be there every single day, Mom's not always going to be there every single day, but I still have Mom and Dad.### Human: And that's really important to remember, and they would care about you just as much as they did before they were separated, but it'd be very hard, I'd imagine, to process that it's not Mom and Dad under the same roof. "--### Assistant: Yeah. And I've tried to focus on the fact that, yeah, Dad's not with us every single day. He's not coming home. We don't see him in the morning every single day. But yet, we still see Dad and we still see Mom.### Human: Yeah. That's exactly right. And it sounds like it's been hard with now understanding how things work with Mom because you feel that she dismisses a lot of what you say, yeah? Was that like that before?### Assistant: It still was.### Human: Was. Yeah.### Assistant: It was just Mom, and I sort of figured out that that's always been Mom, and recently speaking to her uncle, he said that Mom's always been like that, even when she was-- yeah. Even before this, she was always like that, and he says-- |
### Human: Yeah. We're on the same page. We're wording it in the way it processes in our head on the same page, and that's really important to remember, that you do have-- Mom's still there and Dad's still there.### Assistant: It's just they're not there if you know what I mean. They're not always there. Dad's not always going to be there every single day, Mom's not always going to be there every single day, but I still have Mom and Dad.### Human: And that's really important to remember, and they would care about you just as much as they did before they were separated, but it'd be very hard, I'd imagine, to process that it's not Mom and Dad under the same roof. "--### Assistant: Yeah. And I've tried to focus on the fact that, yeah, Dad's not with us every single day. He's not coming home. We don't see him in the morning every single day. But yet, we still see Dad and we still see Mom.### Human: Yeah. That's exactly right. And it sounds like it's been hard with now understanding how things work with Mom because you feel that she dismisses a lot of what you say, yeah? Was that like that before?### Assistant: It still was.### Human: Was. Yeah.### Assistant: It was just Mom, and I sort of figured out that that's always been Mom, and recently speaking to her uncle, he said that Mom's always been like that, even when she was-- yeah. Even before this, she was always like that, and he says--### Human: And I--### Assistant: --she's not going to change for a very long time. |
### Human: And that's really important to remember, and they would care about you just as much as they did before they were separated, but it'd be very hard, I'd imagine, to process that it's not Mom and Dad under the same roof. "--### Assistant: Yeah. And I've tried to focus on the fact that, yeah, Dad's not with us every single day. He's not coming home. We don't see him in the morning every single day. But yet, we still see Dad and we still see Mom.### Human: Yeah. That's exactly right. And it sounds like it's been hard with now understanding how things work with Mom because you feel that she dismisses a lot of what you say, yeah? Was that like that before?### Assistant: It still was.### Human: Was. Yeah.### Assistant: It was just Mom, and I sort of figured out that that's always been Mom, and recently speaking to her uncle, he said that Mom's always been like that, even when she was-- yeah. Even before this, she was always like that, and he says--### Human: And I--### Assistant: --she's not going to change for a very long time.### Human: And I wonder if she doesn't even realize that she does this because it's just automatic.### Assistant: Because it's just her. |
### Human: Yeah. That's exactly right. And it sounds like it's been hard with now understanding how things work with Mom because you feel that she dismisses a lot of what you say, yeah? Was that like that before?### Assistant: It still was.### Human: Was. Yeah.### Assistant: It was just Mom, and I sort of figured out that that's always been Mom, and recently speaking to her uncle, he said that Mom's always been like that, even when she was-- yeah. Even before this, she was always like that, and he says--### Human: And I--### Assistant: --she's not going to change for a very long time.### Human: And I wonder if she doesn't even realize that she does this because it's just automatic.### Assistant: Because it's just her.### Human: Yeah. So it could be helpful for you to mention this goes on in a gentle way, but I get that would be--### Assistant: Yeah. I guess, just sort of calm. If that's always been her, you sort of can't say to someone, "Oh, that's your personality, but I don't like it, so can you change it?" So I see that as that's Mom's personality, and it is Mom's personality. No, not her personally. That's what she does, and saying, "All right. You're doing this, but I want you to totally, completely scrap that and take on this." I see that as the fact that it may take an extremely long time, and I don't see that as-- |
### Human: Was. Yeah.### Assistant: It was just Mom, and I sort of figured out that that's always been Mom, and recently speaking to her uncle, he said that Mom's always been like that, even when she was-- yeah. Even before this, she was always like that, and he says--### Human: And I--### Assistant: --she's not going to change for a very long time.### Human: And I wonder if she doesn't even realize that she does this because it's just automatic.### Assistant: Because it's just her.### Human: Yeah. So it could be helpful for you to mention this goes on in a gentle way, but I get that would be--### Assistant: Yeah. I guess, just sort of calm. If that's always been her, you sort of can't say to someone, "Oh, that's your personality, but I don't like it, so can you change it?" So I see that as that's Mom's personality, and it is Mom's personality. No, not her personally. That's what she does, and saying, "All right. You're doing this, but I want you to totally, completely scrap that and take on this." I see that as the fact that it may take an extremely long time, and I don't see that as--### Human: Is it something that you think would be helpful for you?### Assistant: That over time. I reckon that it would take her more than a few months. I reckon it'll take up to two, three years for her to figure out-- |
### Human: And I--### Assistant: --she's not going to change for a very long time.### Human: And I wonder if she doesn't even realize that she does this because it's just automatic.### Assistant: Because it's just her.### Human: Yeah. So it could be helpful for you to mention this goes on in a gentle way, but I get that would be--### Assistant: Yeah. I guess, just sort of calm. If that's always been her, you sort of can't say to someone, "Oh, that's your personality, but I don't like it, so can you change it?" So I see that as that's Mom's personality, and it is Mom's personality. No, not her personally. That's what she does, and saying, "All right. You're doing this, but I want you to totally, completely scrap that and take on this." I see that as the fact that it may take an extremely long time, and I don't see that as--### Human: Is it something that you think would be helpful for you?### Assistant: That over time. I reckon that it would take her more than a few months. I reckon it'll take up to two, three years for her to figure out--### Human: Yeah. And you're right. It could take--### Assistant: --or change little things. Even to change one little thing, it may take her a year and a half, or it may even take her longer. I see that as sort of a very-- |
### Human: And I wonder if she doesn't even realize that she does this because it's just automatic.### Assistant: Because it's just her.### Human: Yeah. So it could be helpful for you to mention this goes on in a gentle way, but I get that would be--### Assistant: Yeah. I guess, just sort of calm. If that's always been her, you sort of can't say to someone, "Oh, that's your personality, but I don't like it, so can you change it?" So I see that as that's Mom's personality, and it is Mom's personality. No, not her personally. That's what she does, and saying, "All right. You're doing this, but I want you to totally, completely scrap that and take on this." I see that as the fact that it may take an extremely long time, and I don't see that as--### Human: Is it something that you think would be helpful for you?### Assistant: That over time. I reckon that it would take her more than a few months. I reckon it'll take up to two, three years for her to figure out--### Human: Yeah. And you're right. It could take--### Assistant: --or change little things. Even to change one little thing, it may take her a year and a half, or it may even take her longer. I see that as sort of a very--### Human: Long term.### Assistant: Something that goes for a long time. Something that goes for a long time, but with very-- |
### Human: Yeah. So it could be helpful for you to mention this goes on in a gentle way, but I get that would be--### Assistant: Yeah. I guess, just sort of calm. If that's always been her, you sort of can't say to someone, "Oh, that's your personality, but I don't like it, so can you change it?" So I see that as that's Mom's personality, and it is Mom's personality. No, not her personally. That's what she does, and saying, "All right. You're doing this, but I want you to totally, completely scrap that and take on this." I see that as the fact that it may take an extremely long time, and I don't see that as--### Human: Is it something that you think would be helpful for you?### Assistant: That over time. I reckon that it would take her more than a few months. I reckon it'll take up to two, three years for her to figure out--### Human: Yeah. And you're right. It could take--### Assistant: --or change little things. Even to change one little thing, it may take her a year and a half, or it may even take her longer. I see that as sort of a very--### Human: Long term.### Assistant: Something that goes for a long time. Something that goes for a long time, but with very--### Human: No. You're making sense. Yeah.### Assistant: I'm trying to figure out a word. For something that goes on and someone that is trying to change that goes on for a very long time, you only get little bits every time. So it's sort of like over four or five years, but you only get tiny bits. |
### Human: Is it something that you think would be helpful for you?### Assistant: That over time. I reckon that it would take her more than a few months. I reckon it'll take up to two, three years for her to figure out--### Human: Yeah. And you're right. It could take--### Assistant: --or change little things. Even to change one little thing, it may take her a year and a half, or it may even take her longer. I see that as sort of a very--### Human: Long term.### Assistant: Something that goes for a long time. Something that goes for a long time, but with very--### Human: No. You're making sense. Yeah.### Assistant: I'm trying to figure out a word. For something that goes on and someone that is trying to change that goes on for a very long time, you only get little bits every time. So it's sort of like over four or five years, but you only get tiny bits.### Human: So slowly, slowly over four and five years.### Assistant: But yet the fact that if, I guess-- I'm finding it hard to work. I'm trying to find the right words. I guess if you sort of-- I guess dismiss that. I guess you can sort of figure out ways to get around it, and that's what I don't have at the moment, and that's ways of getting around how Mom works. Not her personality. It's how she works. |
### Human: Yeah. And you're right. It could take--### Assistant: --or change little things. Even to change one little thing, it may take her a year and a half, or it may even take her longer. I see that as sort of a very--### Human: Long term.### Assistant: Something that goes for a long time. Something that goes for a long time, but with very--### Human: No. You're making sense. Yeah.### Assistant: I'm trying to figure out a word. For something that goes on and someone that is trying to change that goes on for a very long time, you only get little bits every time. So it's sort of like over four or five years, but you only get tiny bits.### Human: So slowly, slowly over four and five years.### Assistant: But yet the fact that if, I guess-- I'm finding it hard to work. I'm trying to find the right words. I guess if you sort of-- I guess dismiss that. I guess you can sort of figure out ways to get around it, and that's what I don't have at the moment, and that's ways of getting around how Mom works. Not her personality. It's how she works.### Human: What do you mean by that because I think I 80% understand what you mean?### Assistant: So how she has parented us for our whole lives, and that's how when she-- I'm trying to-- that's how her brain-- that's how her brain works. |
### Human: Long term.### Assistant: Something that goes for a long time. Something that goes for a long time, but with very--### Human: No. You're making sense. Yeah.### Assistant: I'm trying to figure out a word. For something that goes on and someone that is trying to change that goes on for a very long time, you only get little bits every time. So it's sort of like over four or five years, but you only get tiny bits.### Human: So slowly, slowly over four and five years.### Assistant: But yet the fact that if, I guess-- I'm finding it hard to work. I'm trying to find the right words. I guess if you sort of-- I guess dismiss that. I guess you can sort of figure out ways to get around it, and that's what I don't have at the moment, and that's ways of getting around how Mom works. Not her personality. It's how she works.### Human: What do you mean by that because I think I 80% understand what you mean?### Assistant: So how she has parented us for our whole lives, and that's how when she-- I'm trying to-- that's how her brain-- that's how her brain works.### Human: Yeah. Because that's the way it's always been.### Assistant: So when she has-- yeah. This is the way it's always been because when she has an idea in her head, her brain goes, "All right. That's what I'm going to do." And she's done that for her whole life, and it's something that you've done. So I haven't liked lamb and pork for a very long time, and trying to eat those sort of things, it sort of goes, "No. I don't like that. I'm not going to eat it." And it takes a long time to get back to eat it because it's taking me a long time to even start eati |
### Human: No. You're making sense. Yeah.### Assistant: I'm trying to figure out a word. For something that goes on and someone that is trying to change that goes on for a very long time, you only get little bits every time. So it's sort of like over four or five years, but you only get tiny bits.### Human: So slowly, slowly over four and five years.### Assistant: But yet the fact that if, I guess-- I'm finding it hard to work. I'm trying to find the right words. I guess if you sort of-- I guess dismiss that. I guess you can sort of figure out ways to get around it, and that's what I don't have at the moment, and that's ways of getting around how Mom works. Not her personality. It's how she works.### Human: What do you mean by that because I think I 80% understand what you mean?### Assistant: So how she has parented us for our whole lives, and that's how when she-- I'm trying to-- that's how her brain-- that's how her brain works.### Human: Yeah. Because that's the way it's always been.### Assistant: So when she has-- yeah. This is the way it's always been because when she has an idea in her head, her brain goes, "All right. That's what I'm going to do." And she's done that for her whole life, and it's something that you've done. So I haven't liked lamb and pork for a very long time, and trying to eat those sort of things, it sort of goes, "No. I don't like that. I'm not going to eat it." And it takes a long time to get back to eat it because it's taking me a long time to even start eati### Human: ### Assistant: Was it worth it? |
### Human: So slowly, slowly over four and five years.### Assistant: But yet the fact that if, I guess-- I'm finding it hard to work. I'm trying to find the right words. I guess if you sort of-- I guess dismiss that. I guess you can sort of figure out ways to get around it, and that's what I don't have at the moment, and that's ways of getting around how Mom works. Not her personality. It's how she works.### Human: What do you mean by that because I think I 80% understand what you mean?### Assistant: So how she has parented us for our whole lives, and that's how when she-- I'm trying to-- that's how her brain-- that's how her brain works.### Human: Yeah. Because that's the way it's always been.### Assistant: So when she has-- yeah. This is the way it's always been because when she has an idea in her head, her brain goes, "All right. That's what I'm going to do." And she's done that for her whole life, and it's something that you've done. So I haven't liked lamb and pork for a very long time, and trying to eat those sort of things, it sort of goes, "No. I don't like that. I'm not going to eat it." And it takes a long time to get back to eat it because it's taking me a long time to even start eati### Human: ### Assistant: Was it worth it?### Human: It was.### Assistant: So-- |
### Human: What do you mean by that because I think I 80% understand what you mean?### Assistant: So how she has parented us for our whole lives, and that's how when she-- I'm trying to-- that's how her brain-- that's how her brain works.### Human: Yeah. Because that's the way it's always been.### Assistant: So when she has-- yeah. This is the way it's always been because when she has an idea in her head, her brain goes, "All right. That's what I'm going to do." And she's done that for her whole life, and it's something that you've done. So I haven't liked lamb and pork for a very long time, and trying to eat those sort of things, it sort of goes, "No. I don't like that. I'm not going to eat it." And it takes a long time to get back to eat it because it's taking me a long time to even start eati### Human: ### Assistant: Was it worth it?### Human: It was.### Assistant: So--### Human: But it took me a very-- it took me an extremely long time, and I succeeded, yeah, but for me, just to eat tiny cubes of bacon, and I spent three years trying to eat tiny cubes of bacon. I see that as the fact that for the amount of effort you put in, it's only tiny.### Assistant: But you told me it was worth it. |
### Human: Yeah. Because that's the way it's always been.### Assistant: So when she has-- yeah. This is the way it's always been because when she has an idea in her head, her brain goes, "All right. That's what I'm going to do." And she's done that for her whole life, and it's something that you've done. So I haven't liked lamb and pork for a very long time, and trying to eat those sort of things, it sort of goes, "No. I don't like that. I'm not going to eat it." And it takes a long time to get back to eat it because it's taking me a long time to even start eati### Human: ### Assistant: Was it worth it?### Human: It was.### Assistant: So--### Human: But it took me a very-- it took me an extremely long time, and I succeeded, yeah, but for me, just to eat tiny cubes of bacon, and I spent three years trying to eat tiny cubes of bacon. I see that as the fact that for the amount of effort you put in, it's only tiny.### Assistant: But you told me it was worth it.### Human: Yeah. It was, but over a long period of time. Yeah. It may be worth it, but I think maybe when I have a bit more freedom-- this is important for next year because we're almost adults, we have more freedom. We can do more things because I don't have to wait until Wednesday when we go back to Dad's, or I don't have to wait until Sunday. Sorry. I don't have to wait till Friday to get back to Dad's.### Assistant: What's freedom look like? |
### Human: Yeah. You're telling me that change is possible there.### Assistant: But over a very long time. When it happened, I wasn't eating any pork, any lamb, and hardly any beef. I was only eating sausages. Things that I really enjoyed. And it's taken me four or five years to get back into eating a lot more meats and eating a lot more parts of beef. Eating a bit more pork. It's taken me something like three years to eat little cubes of bacon. Even though they're tiny, little things, it's taking me so long, and it's had a lot of effort from me. Something that yo### Human: ### Assistant: ### Human: ### Assistant: ### Human: ### Assistant: ### Human: ### Assistant: |
### Human: Was it worth it?### Assistant: It was.### Human: So--### Assistant: But it took me a very-- it took me an extremely long time, and I succeeded, yeah, but for me, just to eat tiny cubes of bacon, and I spent three years trying to eat tiny cubes of bacon. I see that as the fact that for the amount of effort you put in, it's only tiny.### Human: But you told me it was worth it.### Assistant: Yeah. It was, but over a long period of time. Yeah. It may be worth it, but I think maybe when I have a bit more freedom-- this is important for next year because we're almost adults, we have more freedom. We can do more things because I don't have to wait until Wednesday when we go back to Dad's, or I don't have to wait until Sunday. Sorry. I don't have to wait till Friday to get back to Dad's.### Human: What's freedom look like?### Assistant: Me being able to stay at Mom and Dad's whenever I want. So I might have Monday, Tuesday, Wednesdays for an example with Dad, and I might spend Thursday, Friday, Saturday, Sunday, Monday, Tuesday, Wednesday, Thursday, Friday, Saturday, Sunday with Mom if I feel like it. Or I can jump between Mom and Dad's place without getting in trouble for it.### Human: Well, I can go to Mom and Dad's. What other things?### Assistant: That's what I see as freedom, and then to go down the street, or getting to do things with Dad, and not seeing Dad-- so Mom not having a go at how Dad parents. That's how I see it as. |
### Human: So--### Assistant: But it took me a very-- it took me an extremely long time, and I succeeded, yeah, but for me, just to eat tiny cubes of bacon, and I spent three years trying to eat tiny cubes of bacon. I see that as the fact that for the amount of effort you put in, it's only tiny.### Human: But you told me it was worth it.### Assistant: Yeah. It was, but over a long period of time. Yeah. It may be worth it, but I think maybe when I have a bit more freedom-- this is important for next year because we're almost adults, we have more freedom. We can do more things because I don't have to wait until Wednesday when we go back to Dad's, or I don't have to wait until Sunday. Sorry. I don't have to wait till Friday to get back to Dad's.### Human: What's freedom look like?### Assistant: Me being able to stay at Mom and Dad's whenever I want. So I might have Monday, Tuesday, Wednesdays for an example with Dad, and I might spend Thursday, Friday, Saturday, Sunday, Monday, Tuesday, Wednesday, Thursday, Friday, Saturday, Sunday with Mom if I feel like it. Or I can jump between Mom and Dad's place without getting in trouble for it.### Human: Well, I can go to Mom and Dad's. What other things?### Assistant: That's what I see as freedom, and then to go down the street, or getting to do things with Dad, and not seeing Dad-- so Mom not having a go at how Dad parents. That's how I see it as.### Human: Yeah. Because it's your choice where you want to go.### Assistant: Yeah. But Mom has always seen it as Dad's doing. So if we went to Dad's after Mom and-- dad and I used to fight with Mom. We went to Dad's a few times. Mom saw that as Dad getting us to come here when it was out of hours, and that's what we found as us being in this little box where we can just be moved and moved and moved wherever we want. So my freedom is to be able to go between Mom and Dad's house and being able to be more independent. Being able to choose what I want to do and wh |
### Human: But you told me it was worth it.### Assistant: Yeah. It was, but over a long period of time. Yeah. It may be worth it, but I think maybe when I have a bit more freedom-- this is important for next year because we're almost adults, we have more freedom. We can do more things because I don't have to wait until Wednesday when we go back to Dad's, or I don't have to wait until Sunday. Sorry. I don't have to wait till Friday to get back to Dad's.### Human: What's freedom look like?### Assistant: Me being able to stay at Mom and Dad's whenever I want. So I might have Monday, Tuesday, Wednesdays for an example with Dad, and I might spend Thursday, Friday, Saturday, Sunday, Monday, Tuesday, Wednesday, Thursday, Friday, Saturday, Sunday with Mom if I feel like it. Or I can jump between Mom and Dad's place without getting in trouble for it.### Human: Well, I can go to Mom and Dad's. What other things?### Assistant: That's what I see as freedom, and then to go down the street, or getting to do things with Dad, and not seeing Dad-- so Mom not having a go at how Dad parents. That's how I see it as.### Human: Yeah. Because it's your choice where you want to go.### Assistant: Yeah. But Mom has always seen it as Dad's doing. So if we went to Dad's after Mom and-- dad and I used to fight with Mom. We went to Dad's a few times. Mom saw that as Dad getting us to come here when it was out of hours, and that's what we found as us being in this little box where we can just be moved and moved and moved wherever we want. So my freedom is to be able to go between Mom and Dad's house and being able to be more independent. Being able to choose what I want to do and wh### Human: ### Assistant: |
### Human: What's freedom look like?### Assistant: Me being able to stay at Mom and Dad's whenever I want. So I might have Monday, Tuesday, Wednesdays for an example with Dad, and I might spend Thursday, Friday, Saturday, Sunday, Monday, Tuesday, Wednesday, Thursday, Friday, Saturday, Sunday with Mom if I feel like it. Or I can jump between Mom and Dad's place without getting in trouble for it.### Human: Well, I can go to Mom and Dad's. What other things?### Assistant: That's what I see as freedom, and then to go down the street, or getting to do things with Dad, and not seeing Dad-- so Mom not having a go at how Dad parents. That's how I see it as.### Human: Yeah. Because it's your choice where you want to go.### Assistant: Yeah. But Mom has always seen it as Dad's doing. So if we went to Dad's after Mom and-- dad and I used to fight with Mom. We went to Dad's a few times. Mom saw that as Dad getting us to come here when it was out of hours, and that's what we found as us being in this little box where we can just be moved and moved and moved wherever we want. So my freedom is to be able to go between Mom and Dad's house and being able to be more independent. Being able to choose what I want to do and wh### Human: ### Assistant: ### Human: ### Assistant: |
### Human: Well, I can go to Mom and Dad's. What other things?### Assistant: That's what I see as freedom, and then to go down the street, or getting to do things with Dad, and not seeing Dad-- so Mom not having a go at how Dad parents. That's how I see it as.### Human: Yeah. Because it's your choice where you want to go.### Assistant: Yeah. But Mom has always seen it as Dad's doing. So if we went to Dad's after Mom and-- dad and I used to fight with Mom. We went to Dad's a few times. Mom saw that as Dad getting us to come here when it was out of hours, and that's what we found as us being in this little box where we can just be moved and moved and moved wherever we want. So my freedom is to be able to go between Mom and Dad's house and being able to be more independent. Being able to choose what I want to do and wh### Human: ### Assistant: ### Human: ### Assistant: ### Human: ### Assistant: And is that something reasonable right now, or is that something you feel in six months' time? |
### Human: Yeah. Because it's your choice where you want to go.### Assistant: Yeah. But Mom has always seen it as Dad's doing. So if we went to Dad's after Mom and-- dad and I used to fight with Mom. We went to Dad's a few times. Mom saw that as Dad getting us to come here when it was out of hours, and that's what we found as us being in this little box where we can just be moved and moved and moved wherever we want. So my freedom is to be able to go between Mom and Dad's house and being able to be more independent. Being able to choose what I want to do and wh### Human: ### Assistant: ### Human: ### Assistant: ### Human: ### Assistant: And is that something reasonable right now, or is that something you feel in six months' time?### Human: I feel in six months' time would be a lot more easier because A, with 16 you get to decide, and we can jump between houses, but we can sort of, I think, explain to Mom that's why we did it. Just the fact that-- I just lost what I was about to say then. Sorry.### Assistant: The can. I've written it down. The have to, the can. What is it-- |
### Human: Is that something that you could talk to Mom about in a session with dad, around wanting more independence? What can that look like for the next six months?### Assistant: Mostly, again, the fact that that's how Mom's always done stuff because she wasn't allowed to do that sort of stuff. That's how she sees as what we should be brought up as. That's how she was brought up. So she's like, "Well, it worked, so I'm going to do it." And--### Human: Do you think there's any smaller ways that work that maybe you can have a little bit more freedom? Because you are turning 16. So that makes sense you want more independence. And I'm wondering if you were to--### Assistant: Especially your driving. You're learning to drive. That's a stack of independence in itself.### Human: Is that a way we can word in the session? So not saying, "Mom, I feel dismissed by you." It's, "Mom, I would like more independence. What can we do about that so that I'm feeling happier?"### Assistant: At the moment because of the court orders and all that sort of stuff, we have set days. And that's what I don't want is set days where you have to be here, you have to be here. I want sort of days you can be here, and you can be here. You don't have to be here, and you don't have to be here. Have to and can is what I want to change. Is the fact that you have to be at Mom's on these days. You have to be at Dad's on these days. Otherwise, you get in trouble. It's not that you can be at Dad's o### Human: ### Assistant: ### Human: ### Assistant: |
### Human: Do you think there's any smaller ways that work that maybe you can have a little bit more freedom? Because you are turning 16. So that makes sense you want more independence. And I'm wondering if you were to--### Assistant: Especially your driving. You're learning to drive. That's a stack of independence in itself.### Human: Is that a way we can word in the session? So not saying, "Mom, I feel dismissed by you." It's, "Mom, I would like more independence. What can we do about that so that I'm feeling happier?"### Assistant: At the moment because of the court orders and all that sort of stuff, we have set days. And that's what I don't want is set days where you have to be here, you have to be here. I want sort of days you can be here, and you can be here. You don't have to be here, and you don't have to be here. Have to and can is what I want to change. Is the fact that you have to be at Mom's on these days. You have to be at Dad's on these days. Otherwise, you get in trouble. It's not that you can be at Dad's o### Human: ### Assistant: ### Human: ### Assistant: ### Human: ### Assistant: |
### Human: Is that a way we can word in the session? So not saying, "Mom, I feel dismissed by you." It's, "Mom, I would like more independence. What can we do about that so that I'm feeling happier?"### Assistant: At the moment because of the court orders and all that sort of stuff, we have set days. And that's what I don't want is set days where you have to be here, you have to be here. I want sort of days you can be here, and you can be here. You don't have to be here, and you don't have to be here. Have to and can is what I want to change. Is the fact that you have to be at Mom's on these days. You have to be at Dad's on these days. Otherwise, you get in trouble. It's not that you can be at Dad's o### Human: ### Assistant: ### Human: ### Assistant: ### Human: ### Assistant: ### Human: ### Assistant: |
### Human: And is that something reasonable right now, or is that something you feel in six months' time?### Assistant: I feel in six months' time would be a lot more easier because A, with 16 you get to decide, and we can jump between houses, but we can sort of, I think, explain to Mom that's why we did it. Just the fact that-- I just lost what I was about to say then. Sorry.### Human: The can. I've written it down. The have to, the can. What is it--### Assistant: Because that's what we wanted to do. So we saw that as a fact because now we've got that tiny bit of freedom to bounce between houses. I guess we can build up the fact that that's why we did it, was to get that.### Human: Maybe it's also around Mom because you said going down the street's hard for Mom. Is there a way that she can feel more comfortable for you to do that? Say, during the day. You've got your phone on. You're somewhere. She can build trust with you.### Assistant: She sort of sees that as people hanging around the shops or going to the shops by themselves. It's just kids. She says that is thuggish. So all the kids that muck around or cause trouble. That sort of stuff. That's what she sees that as. And--### Human: Is there a middle ground do you think you can come up with that? Because I think that'll be good for her to know something important to you is to be more independent.### Assistant: Yeah. I don't really know to be honest.### Human: And maybe that's why we need Mom in the room to go, "Well, what is okay?" What isn't okay to Mom? What can she find as a middle ground?### Assistant: The other side of it is the fact that I don't exactly want to be in there with Mom. That's the other side of it, yeah, if we were to have it, but I don't exactly want to be in there when it happens. Yeah. Mom goes in, and then she comes in and speaks to us, and then goes back in. Swap in and out and that sort of thing. But I don't exactly want to be in there with Mom. |
### Human: The can. I've written it down. The have to, the can. What is it--### Assistant: Because that's what we wanted to do. So we saw that as a fact because now we've got that tiny bit of freedom to bounce between houses. I guess we can build up the fact that that's why we did it, was to get that.### Human: Maybe it's also around Mom because you said going down the street's hard for Mom. Is there a way that she can feel more comfortable for you to do that? Say, during the day. You've got your phone on. You're somewhere. She can build trust with you.### Assistant: She sort of sees that as people hanging around the shops or going to the shops by themselves. It's just kids. She says that is thuggish. So all the kids that muck around or cause trouble. That sort of stuff. That's what she sees that as. And--### Human: Is there a middle ground do you think you can come up with that? Because I think that'll be good for her to know something important to you is to be more independent.### Assistant: Yeah. I don't really know to be honest.### Human: And maybe that's why we need Mom in the room to go, "Well, what is okay?" What isn't okay to Mom? What can she find as a middle ground?### Assistant: The other side of it is the fact that I don't exactly want to be in there with Mom. That's the other side of it, yeah, if we were to have it, but I don't exactly want to be in there when it happens. Yeah. Mom goes in, and then she comes in and speaks to us, and then goes back in. Swap in and out and that sort of thing. But I don't exactly want to be in there with Mom.### Human: And it's your choice if you want to have the session. As I said last time, I'm not forcing you, that you need to go or whatnot. That opportunity is there. If you don't want to do it, that's okay too. And I didn't mention last time because I know it's you and me because I could sit in with you also, but then I know he doesn't have someone else sitting in with him. So I wasn't sure what you would think about that too because I want it to be even for both of you too.### Assistant: Yeah. I guess I'm going to speak to dad about it, and I know he's probably going to go no, but I'll speak to him anyway. And I reckon at a later stage it would be a lot easier, like I said because when we had that bit of freedom, where the fact that we can go between houses, and if Mom doesn't like it, she's not exactly going to get looked at at court. That's the thing that I want Mom to get out of her head, that if we want to do something, if we want to stay at Dad's for that sort of |
### Human: Maybe it's also around Mom because you said going down the street's hard for Mom. Is there a way that she can feel more comfortable for you to do that? Say, during the day. You've got your phone on. You're somewhere. She can build trust with you.### Assistant: She sort of sees that as people hanging around the shops or going to the shops by themselves. It's just kids. She says that is thuggish. So all the kids that muck around or cause trouble. That sort of stuff. That's what she sees that as. And--### Human: Is there a middle ground do you think you can come up with that? Because I think that'll be good for her to know something important to you is to be more independent.### Assistant: Yeah. I don't really know to be honest.### Human: And maybe that's why we need Mom in the room to go, "Well, what is okay?" What isn't okay to Mom? What can she find as a middle ground?### Assistant: The other side of it is the fact that I don't exactly want to be in there with Mom. That's the other side of it, yeah, if we were to have it, but I don't exactly want to be in there when it happens. Yeah. Mom goes in, and then she comes in and speaks to us, and then goes back in. Swap in and out and that sort of thing. But I don't exactly want to be in there with Mom.### Human: And it's your choice if you want to have the session. As I said last time, I'm not forcing you, that you need to go or whatnot. That opportunity is there. If you don't want to do it, that's okay too. And I didn't mention last time because I know it's you and me because I could sit in with you also, but then I know he doesn't have someone else sitting in with him. So I wasn't sure what you would think about that too because I want it to be even for both of you too.### Assistant: Yeah. I guess I'm going to speak to dad about it, and I know he's probably going to go no, but I'll speak to him anyway. And I reckon at a later stage it would be a lot easier, like I said because when we had that bit of freedom, where the fact that we can go between houses, and if Mom doesn't like it, she's not exactly going to get looked at at court. That's the thing that I want Mom to get out of her head, that if we want to do something, if we want to stay at Dad's for that sort of### Human: ### Assistant: |
### Human: Is there a middle ground do you think you can come up with that? Because I think that'll be good for her to know something important to you is to be more independent.### Assistant: Yeah. I don't really know to be honest.### Human: And maybe that's why we need Mom in the room to go, "Well, what is okay?" What isn't okay to Mom? What can she find as a middle ground?### Assistant: The other side of it is the fact that I don't exactly want to be in there with Mom. That's the other side of it, yeah, if we were to have it, but I don't exactly want to be in there when it happens. Yeah. Mom goes in, and then she comes in and speaks to us, and then goes back in. Swap in and out and that sort of thing. But I don't exactly want to be in there with Mom.### Human: And it's your choice if you want to have the session. As I said last time, I'm not forcing you, that you need to go or whatnot. That opportunity is there. If you don't want to do it, that's okay too. And I didn't mention last time because I know it's you and me because I could sit in with you also, but then I know he doesn't have someone else sitting in with him. So I wasn't sure what you would think about that too because I want it to be even for both of you too.### Assistant: Yeah. I guess I'm going to speak to dad about it, and I know he's probably going to go no, but I'll speak to him anyway. And I reckon at a later stage it would be a lot easier, like I said because when we had that bit of freedom, where the fact that we can go between houses, and if Mom doesn't like it, she's not exactly going to get looked at at court. That's the thing that I want Mom to get out of her head, that if we want to do something, if we want to stay at Dad's for that sort of### Human: ### Assistant: ### Human: ### Assistant: |
### Human: And maybe that's why we need Mom in the room to go, "Well, what is okay?" What isn't okay to Mom? What can she find as a middle ground?### Assistant: The other side of it is the fact that I don't exactly want to be in there with Mom. That's the other side of it, yeah, if we were to have it, but I don't exactly want to be in there when it happens. Yeah. Mom goes in, and then she comes in and speaks to us, and then goes back in. Swap in and out and that sort of thing. But I don't exactly want to be in there with Mom.### Human: And it's your choice if you want to have the session. As I said last time, I'm not forcing you, that you need to go or whatnot. That opportunity is there. If you don't want to do it, that's okay too. And I didn't mention last time because I know it's you and me because I could sit in with you also, but then I know he doesn't have someone else sitting in with him. So I wasn't sure what you would think about that too because I want it to be even for both of you too.### Assistant: Yeah. I guess I'm going to speak to dad about it, and I know he's probably going to go no, but I'll speak to him anyway. And I reckon at a later stage it would be a lot easier, like I said because when we had that bit of freedom, where the fact that we can go between houses, and if Mom doesn't like it, she's not exactly going to get looked at at court. That's the thing that I want Mom to get out of her head, that if we want to do something, if we want to stay at Dad's for that sort of### Human: ### Assistant: ### Human: ### Assistant: ### Human: ### Assistant: |
### Human: And it's your choice if you want to have the session. As I said last time, I'm not forcing you, that you need to go or whatnot. That opportunity is there. If you don't want to do it, that's okay too. And I didn't mention last time because I know it's you and me because I could sit in with you also, but then I know he doesn't have someone else sitting in with him. So I wasn't sure what you would think about that too because I want it to be even for both of you too.### Assistant: Yeah. I guess I'm going to speak to dad about it, and I know he's probably going to go no, but I'll speak to him anyway. And I reckon at a later stage it would be a lot easier, like I said because when we had that bit of freedom, where the fact that we can go between houses, and if Mom doesn't like it, she's not exactly going to get looked at at court. That's the thing that I want Mom to get out of her head, that if we want to do something, if we want to stay at Dad's for that sort of### Human: ### Assistant: ### Human: ### Assistant: ### Human: ### Assistant: ### Human: ### Assistant: So she decided to take different action, and court, she saw, was the only option in doing that, was to getting her way because she saw that worry over Dad because she saw Dad as not being a stable parent, was drinking all the time because that's what she saw Dad before he left, and he's changed for us. He's perfectly fine. But she knew that the court would overlook Dad because she saw him as not being a stable parent, and I want her to realize the fact that you can't always fall back o |
### Human: And I'm hearing--### Assistant: --and a half. The fact that she's relied on court has been the fact-- you can't just buy court orders. When something's put in-- something. Something is put in-- my tongue's getting a bit lazy. It's been like this all day.### Human: You're right. End of the day.### Assistant: It's slurry. My voice gets extremely slurry when it gets to the end of the day. In the morning and close to the end of the day.### Human: You've been good when we've had other afternoon appointments.### Assistant: Yeah. It's just I have no idea why, but the past few weeks I've had an extremely slurry voice. It's--### Human: I wonder what that's about.### Assistant: I have no idea. It's just I can't find the words. Anyway. So it's just I wanted to stop relying-- the fact that, yeah, because as a citizen of Australia, you can't really disobey the court orders because you're here and the court's there. So they're higher, and the waiver they put in place is-- obviously, you have to obey it, like you have to pay a parking fine. You have to pay a speeding ticket. You have to do this. If you kill someone, that's your sentence. You have to do it. So I sort of### Human: And it could be a good idea to speak about it sooner, so you know this is what I'm thinking. How we can we find that middle ground? And I know that's a really hard thing to do with Mom, and if you're feeling it's something you want the two of us with Mom to say in the future, we can do that too because I want to work with you. I don't want you to feel I'm telling you what to do because you are an independent young man, and that's so important to you, to be independent. And if you ever feel I### Assistant: |
### Human: You're right. End of the day.### Assistant: It's slurry. My voice gets extremely slurry when it gets to the end of the day. In the morning and close to the end of the day.### Human: You've been good when we've had other afternoon appointments.### Assistant: Yeah. It's just I have no idea why, but the past few weeks I've had an extremely slurry voice. It's--### Human: I wonder what that's about.### Assistant: I have no idea. It's just I can't find the words. Anyway. So it's just I wanted to stop relying-- the fact that, yeah, because as a citizen of Australia, you can't really disobey the court orders because you're here and the court's there. So they're higher, and the waiver they put in place is-- obviously, you have to obey it, like you have to pay a parking fine. You have to pay a speeding ticket. You have to do this. If you kill someone, that's your sentence. You have to do it. So I sort of### Human: And it could be a good idea to speak about it sooner, so you know this is what I'm thinking. How we can we find that middle ground? And I know that's a really hard thing to do with Mom, and if you're feeling it's something you want the two of us with Mom to say in the future, we can do that too because I want to work with you. I don't want you to feel I'm telling you what to do because you are an independent young man, and that's so important to you, to be independent. And if you ever feel I### Assistant: ### Human: ### Assistant: |
### Human: You've been good when we've had other afternoon appointments.### Assistant: Yeah. It's just I have no idea why, but the past few weeks I've had an extremely slurry voice. It's--### Human: I wonder what that's about.### Assistant: I have no idea. It's just I can't find the words. Anyway. So it's just I wanted to stop relying-- the fact that, yeah, because as a citizen of Australia, you can't really disobey the court orders because you're here and the court's there. So they're higher, and the waiver they put in place is-- obviously, you have to obey it, like you have to pay a parking fine. You have to pay a speeding ticket. You have to do this. If you kill someone, that's your sentence. You have to do it. So I sort of### Human: And it could be a good idea to speak about it sooner, so you know this is what I'm thinking. How we can we find that middle ground? And I know that's a really hard thing to do with Mom, and if you're feeling it's something you want the two of us with Mom to say in the future, we can do that too because I want to work with you. I don't want you to feel I'm telling you what to do because you are an independent young man, and that's so important to you, to be independent. And if you ever feel I### Assistant: ### Human: ### Assistant: ### Human: ### Assistant: So I'm hearing you'd like something to be put in place without the courts involved. |
### Human: I wonder what that's about.### Assistant: I have no idea. It's just I can't find the words. Anyway. So it's just I wanted to stop relying-- the fact that, yeah, because as a citizen of Australia, you can't really disobey the court orders because you're here and the court's there. So they're higher, and the waiver they put in place is-- obviously, you have to obey it, like you have to pay a parking fine. You have to pay a speeding ticket. You have to do this. If you kill someone, that's your sentence. You have to do it. So I sort of### Human: And it could be a good idea to speak about it sooner, so you know this is what I'm thinking. How we can we find that middle ground? And I know that's a really hard thing to do with Mom, and if you're feeling it's something you want the two of us with Mom to say in the future, we can do that too because I want to work with you. I don't want you to feel I'm telling you what to do because you are an independent young man, and that's so important to you, to be independent. And if you ever feel I### Assistant: ### Human: ### Assistant: ### Human: ### Assistant: So I'm hearing you'd like something to be put in place without the courts involved.### Human: Yes. So I see the fact that giving her notice, but not enough for her to make action to it. If that sort of makes sense.### Assistant: Yeah, no. That makes sense. |
### Human: And it could be a good idea to speak about it sooner, so you know this is what I'm thinking. How we can we find that middle ground? And I know that's a really hard thing to do with Mom, and if you're feeling it's something you want the two of us with Mom to say in the future, we can do that too because I want to work with you. I don't want you to feel I'm telling you what to do because you are an independent young man, and that's so important to you, to be independent. And if you ever feel I### Assistant: ### Human: ### Assistant: ### Human: ### Assistant: So I'm hearing you'd like something to be put in place without the courts involved.### Human: Yes. So I see the fact that giving her notice, but not enough for her to make action to it. If that sort of makes sense.### Assistant: Yeah, no. That makes sense.### Human: So she has time to think on it like, "I don't want them to, so what can I do?" or, "We can talk." So we can maybe talk for two or three days.### Assistant: We-- |
### Human: Would it be better to do it a little bit sooner, so Mom has a bit of a heads-up too? Your choice.### Assistant: I was sort of aiming to do it before January. Our birthday's on the way. So she at least has-- I was going to say something. Then I lost it again. Second time.### Human: So you can kind of-- get back together?### Assistant: So she has that time to sort of say, "All right. Well, instead of doing this or--" Because I know if we say it now, I know she's going to-- I know exactly what she's going to do, and she's going to go straight to court with it, and I just fear the fact that the courts will stop us from doing it. That's why I don't want-- I want to give her enough time to comprehend it, but not enough time to organize something to go with court because I know that she-- now, she may not or she may, but I don'### Human: ### Assistant: ### Human: ### Assistant: ### Human: ### Assistant: |
### Human: So you can kind of-- get back together?### Assistant: So she has that time to sort of say, "All right. Well, instead of doing this or--" Because I know if we say it now, I know she's going to-- I know exactly what she's going to do, and she's going to go straight to court with it, and I just fear the fact that the courts will stop us from doing it. That's why I don't want-- I want to give her enough time to comprehend it, but not enough time to organize something to go with court because I know that she-- now, she may not or she may, but I don'### Human: ### Assistant: ### Human: ### Assistant: ### Human: ### Assistant: ### Human: ### Assistant: |
### Human: So I'm hearing you'd like something to be put in place without the courts involved.### Assistant: Yes. So I see the fact that giving her notice, but not enough for her to make action to it. If that sort of makes sense.### Human: Yeah, no. That makes sense.### Assistant: So she has time to think on it like, "I don't want them to, so what can I do?" or, "We can talk." So we can maybe talk for two or three days.### Human: We--### Assistant: But also, the other thing is the fact that I don't want her parents to be there - so her nana and granddad - because that's also-- the fact that they side with her because obviously, that's their--### Human: It's their daughter. Yeah.### Assistant: That's their daughter. So they're going to say also sort of like, "Well, Mom's doing the best for it," and like I said, she is probably doing the best, but in our eyes, and especially in mine-- I know that , on the same page. To us it feels like she isn't trying hard enough, and they're going to see--### Human: What would you like her to do? What would her trying hard enough look like for you?### Assistant: The biggest part of her trying her hardest is giving us a bit of independence to do whatever. To jump between houses. So let's say I had my football stuff at Dad's, and I have it there as well. I had my football stuff at Dad's, and I texted her and said, "Look. I was planning on going back to Dad's. I was going to get changed there, walk to football training," because it's literally only a two-minute walk. " over the road, "and go to football training, and you can take me hom |
### Human: Yeah, no. That makes sense.### Assistant: So she has time to think on it like, "I don't want them to, so what can I do?" or, "We can talk." So we can maybe talk for two or three days.### Human: We--### Assistant: But also, the other thing is the fact that I don't want her parents to be there - so her nana and granddad - because that's also-- the fact that they side with her because obviously, that's their--### Human: It's their daughter. Yeah.### Assistant: That's their daughter. So they're going to say also sort of like, "Well, Mom's doing the best for it," and like I said, she is probably doing the best, but in our eyes, and especially in mine-- I know that , on the same page. To us it feels like she isn't trying hard enough, and they're going to see--### Human: What would you like her to do? What would her trying hard enough look like for you?### Assistant: The biggest part of her trying her hardest is giving us a bit of independence to do whatever. To jump between houses. So let's say I had my football stuff at Dad's, and I have it there as well. I had my football stuff at Dad's, and I texted her and said, "Look. I was planning on going back to Dad's. I was going to get changed there, walk to football training," because it's literally only a two-minute walk. " over the road, "and go to football training, and you can take me hom### Human: ### Assistant: |