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user: my fiancée passed away on the 1st and she was going to come to my phd program with me. is deferment bad? i'm at a loss and i don't know what i should do anymore. i got into my dream phd program in january and my fiancée and i were making our plans to move there soon. however, my fiancée passed away unexpectedly on the 1st of this month and i've been a total wreck. i can't concentrate on my last semester of undergrad and a huge reason i chose this school was because she would love the area/things to do there. i want to still get my phd but now i'm feeling lost and scared about moving forward. i contacted the school and they said i can defer up to a year and keep my ra-ship offer and everything and my current university is offering me incompletes to finish over the summer, but i don't know what i should do. my parents have taken me back to my childhood home and they are trying to "get me over" the death of the love of my life. they want me to finish my undergrad on time (by may 1st) and start grad school on time (june 1st), but i'm having trouble just typing this let alone thinking about math. my end goal is to become a professor at a pui. would deferment be looked at negatively? does anyone know how i can transition back into my life/school? is it okay to not be able to do any work right now? i'm also feeling guilty to move on with my life without her. does anyone have any advice? i'm only 22 and my lover has already passed away. thank you for any advice. bot: ok - first, my wife died over a decade ago. i understand your pain. it is immense. it's not going away soon. in some ways you will actually do things that others will see as "crazy." there will be times that you cannot function. that's all normal. it took me about 6 months to feel at all consistently functional. but there will also be times when you can do all right and be wanting to move forward. like when you wrote this message to all of us. take whatever time off you have been given. this is not giving up or giving in. your entire psyche has been shocked badly and you cannot function at your best. you need the time to recover, even if all you want to do is bury yourself in work to distract you from the pain of it all. it sounds like both institutions are doing you a solid and giving you the time. take it. you need it. i was trying to finish my dissertation when my wife died. my first draft was completely finished. it actually took me another 2 years until i got to my defense. ok, that's what it took. i simply could not have gone any faster. try to remember that your parents are trying to help even when they're not. you can also say, "no, i don't want that." they might actually hear you after 45 tries. no one you want to work with will look badly at deferment for this reason. when you're ready, you'll know.
user: my fiancée passed away on the 1st and she was going to come to my phd program with me. is deferment bad? i'm at a loss and i don't know what i should do anymore. i got into my dream phd program in january and my fiancée and i were making our plans to move there soon. however, my fiancée passed away unexpectedly on the 1st of this month and i've been a total wreck. i can't concentrate on my last semester of undergrad and a huge reason i chose this school was because she would love the area/things to do there. i want to still get my phd but now i'm feeling lost and scared about moving forward. i contacted the school and they said i can defer up to a year and keep my ra-ship offer and everything and my current university is offering me incompletes to finish over the summer, but i don't know what i should do. my parents have taken me back to my childhood home and they are trying to "get me over" the death of the love of my life. they want me to finish my undergrad on time (by may 1st) and start grad school on time (june 1st), but i'm having trouble just typing this let alone thinking about math. my end goal is to become a professor at a pui. would deferment be looked at negatively? does anyone know how i can transition back into my life/school? is it okay to not be able to do any work right now? i'm also feeling guilty to move on with my life without her. does anyone have any advice? i'm only 22 and my lover has already passed away. thank you for any advice. bot: i’m sorry for your loss. i know it’s not the same, but my roommate took his life while we were living together. my biggest regret wasn’t taking time away from to school to process the event.
user: my fiancée passed away on the 1st and she was going to come to my phd program with me. is deferment bad? i'm at a loss and i don't know what i should do anymore. i got into my dream phd program in january and my fiancée and i were making our plans to move there soon. however, my fiancée passed away unexpectedly on the 1st of this month and i've been a total wreck. i can't concentrate on my last semester of undergrad and a huge reason i chose this school was because she would love the area/things to do there. i want to still get my phd but now i'm feeling lost and scared about moving forward. i contacted the school and they said i can defer up to a year and keep my ra-ship offer and everything and my current university is offering me incompletes to finish over the summer, but i don't know what i should do. my parents have taken me back to my childhood home and they are trying to "get me over" the death of the love of my life. they want me to finish my undergrad on time (by may 1st) and start grad school on time (june 1st), but i'm having trouble just typing this let alone thinking about math. my end goal is to become a professor at a pui. would deferment be looked at negatively? does anyone know how i can transition back into my life/school? is it okay to not be able to do any work right now? i'm also feeling guilty to move on with my life without her. does anyone have any advice? i'm only 22 and my lover has already passed away. thank you for any advice. bot: ok - first, my wife died over a decade ago. i understand your pain. it is immense. it's not going away soon. in some ways you will actually do things that others will see as "crazy." there will be times that you cannot function. that's all normal. it took me about 6 months to feel at all consistently functional. but there will also be times when you can do all right and be wanting to move forward. like when you wrote this message to all of us. take whatever time off you have been given. this is not giving up or giving in. your entire psyche has been shocked badly and you cannot function at your best. you need the time to recover, even if all you want to do is bury yourself in work to distract you from the pain of it all. it sounds like both institutions are doing you a solid and giving you the time. take it. you need it. i was trying to finish my dissertation when my wife died. my first draft was completely finished. it actually took me another 2 years until i got to my defense. ok, that's what it took. i simply could not have gone any faster. try to remember that your parents are trying to help even when they're not. you can also say, "no, i don't want that." they might actually hear you after 45 tries. no one you want to work with will look badly at deferment for this reason. when you're ready, you'll know.
user: my fiancée passed away on the 1st and she was going to come to my phd program with me. is deferment bad? i'm at a loss and i don't know what i should do anymore. i got into my dream phd program in january and my fiancée and i were making our plans to move there soon. however, my fiancée passed away unexpectedly on the 1st of this month and i've been a total wreck. i can't concentrate on my last semester of undergrad and a huge reason i chose this school was because she would love the area/things to do there. i want to still get my phd but now i'm feeling lost and scared about moving forward. i contacted the school and they said i can defer up to a year and keep my ra-ship offer and everything and my current university is offering me incompletes to finish over the summer, but i don't know what i should do. my parents have taken me back to my childhood home and they are trying to "get me over" the death of the love of my life. they want me to finish my undergrad on time (by may 1st) and start grad school on time (june 1st), but i'm having trouble just typing this let alone thinking about math. my end goal is to become a professor at a pui. would deferment be looked at negatively? does anyone know how i can transition back into my life/school? is it okay to not be able to do any work right now? i'm also feeling guilty to move on with my life without her. does anyone have any advice? i'm only 22 and my lover has already passed away. thank you for any advice. bot: your pain and how you're processing it is completely normal, both in the fact that many, many other people react this way to loss and that ultimately whatever you're feeling, however you feel you need to get through this, is fine, even if it's not the "typical." a therapist or grief counselor can help you move through this in a healthy way, which i highly recommend, but know that there are very few "wrong" ways to grieve or "wrong" reactions and there is no timeline. this sort of thing is also *exactly* what deferments are for. take time to take care of yourself. you will of course never "get over" this, but moving through normal life again does become less painful. if you dive headlong into your grad program, you're just going to feel off kilter -- deferments and gap years are normal and acceptable if anyone even notices it in the first place, but nearly failing your first year is going to be much harder to move past. i also want to caution you about this: the world of academics and research can be cutthroat in the sort of stress it makes us put on ourselves. especially now and always in the future, take care of yourself, too.
user: my fiancée passed away on the 1st and she was going to come to my phd program with me. is deferment bad? i'm at a loss and i don't know what i should do anymore. i got into my dream phd program in january and my fiancée and i were making our plans to move there soon. however, my fiancée passed away unexpectedly on the 1st of this month and i've been a total wreck. i can't concentrate on my last semester of undergrad and a huge reason i chose this school was because she would love the area/things to do there. i want to still get my phd but now i'm feeling lost and scared about moving forward. i contacted the school and they said i can defer up to a year and keep my ra-ship offer and everything and my current university is offering me incompletes to finish over the summer, but i don't know what i should do. my parents have taken me back to my childhood home and they are trying to "get me over" the death of the love of my life. they want me to finish my undergrad on time (by may 1st) and start grad school on time (june 1st), but i'm having trouble just typing this let alone thinking about math. my end goal is to become a professor at a pui. would deferment be looked at negatively? does anyone know how i can transition back into my life/school? is it okay to not be able to do any work right now? i'm also feeling guilty to move on with my life without her. does anyone have any advice? i'm only 22 and my lover has already passed away. thank you for any advice. bot: deferment is not a bad idea, in fact, i'd say it's a great option. the only people that would possibly care about this deferment (or a gap year) is a phd program. if you show up to the phd program and are still a mess it is hard (not impossible) to recover from. my dad died unexpectedly two months before my phd program started and i wish i would have deferred for a year. i was a mess and i can only imagine you're worse off.
user: my fiancée passed away on the 1st and she was going to come to my phd program with me. is deferment bad? i'm at a loss and i don't know what i should do anymore. i got into my dream phd program in january and my fiancée and i were making our plans to move there soon. however, my fiancée passed away unexpectedly on the 1st of this month and i've been a total wreck. i can't concentrate on my last semester of undergrad and a huge reason i chose this school was because she would love the area/things to do there. i want to still get my phd but now i'm feeling lost and scared about moving forward. i contacted the school and they said i can defer up to a year and keep my ra-ship offer and everything and my current university is offering me incompletes to finish over the summer, but i don't know what i should do. my parents have taken me back to my childhood home and they are trying to "get me over" the death of the love of my life. they want me to finish my undergrad on time (by may 1st) and start grad school on time (june 1st), but i'm having trouble just typing this let alone thinking about math. my end goal is to become a professor at a pui. would deferment be looked at negatively? does anyone know how i can transition back into my life/school? is it okay to not be able to do any work right now? i'm also feeling guilty to move on with my life without her. does anyone have any advice? i'm only 22 and my lover has already passed away. thank you for any advice. bot: i’m sorry for your loss. i know it’s not the same, but my roommate took his life while we were living together. my biggest regret wasn’t taking time away from to school to process the event.
user: my fiancée passed away on the 1st and she was going to come to my phd program with me. is deferment bad? i'm at a loss and i don't know what i should do anymore. i got into my dream phd program in january and my fiancée and i were making our plans to move there soon. however, my fiancée passed away unexpectedly on the 1st of this month and i've been a total wreck. i can't concentrate on my last semester of undergrad and a huge reason i chose this school was because she would love the area/things to do there. i want to still get my phd but now i'm feeling lost and scared about moving forward. i contacted the school and they said i can defer up to a year and keep my ra-ship offer and everything and my current university is offering me incompletes to finish over the summer, but i don't know what i should do. my parents have taken me back to my childhood home and they are trying to "get me over" the death of the love of my life. they want me to finish my undergrad on time (by may 1st) and start grad school on time (june 1st), but i'm having trouble just typing this let alone thinking about math. my end goal is to become a professor at a pui. would deferment be looked at negatively? does anyone know how i can transition back into my life/school? is it okay to not be able to do any work right now? i'm also feeling guilty to move on with my life without her. does anyone have any advice? i'm only 22 and my lover has already passed away. thank you for any advice. bot: deferment is not a bad idea, in fact, i'd say it's a great option. the only people that would possibly care about this deferment (or a gap year) is a phd program. if you show up to the phd program and are still a mess it is hard (not impossible) to recover from. my dad died unexpectedly two months before my phd program started and i wish i would have deferred for a year. i was a mess and i can only imagine you're worse off.
user: my fiancée passed away on the 1st and she was going to come to my phd program with me. is deferment bad? i'm at a loss and i don't know what i should do anymore. i got into my dream phd program in january and my fiancée and i were making our plans to move there soon. however, my fiancée passed away unexpectedly on the 1st of this month and i've been a total wreck. i can't concentrate on my last semester of undergrad and a huge reason i chose this school was because she would love the area/things to do there. i want to still get my phd but now i'm feeling lost and scared about moving forward. i contacted the school and they said i can defer up to a year and keep my ra-ship offer and everything and my current university is offering me incompletes to finish over the summer, but i don't know what i should do. my parents have taken me back to my childhood home and they are trying to "get me over" the death of the love of my life. they want me to finish my undergrad on time (by may 1st) and start grad school on time (june 1st), but i'm having trouble just typing this let alone thinking about math. my end goal is to become a professor at a pui. would deferment be looked at negatively? does anyone know how i can transition back into my life/school? is it okay to not be able to do any work right now? i'm also feeling guilty to move on with my life without her. does anyone have any advice? i'm only 22 and my lover has already passed away. thank you for any advice. bot: your pain and how you're processing it is completely normal, both in the fact that many, many other people react this way to loss and that ultimately whatever you're feeling, however you feel you need to get through this, is fine, even if it's not the "typical." a therapist or grief counselor can help you move through this in a healthy way, which i highly recommend, but know that there are very few "wrong" ways to grieve or "wrong" reactions and there is no timeline. this sort of thing is also *exactly* what deferments are for. take time to take care of yourself. you will of course never "get over" this, but moving through normal life again does become less painful. if you dive headlong into your grad program, you're just going to feel off kilter -- deferments and gap years are normal and acceptable if anyone even notices it in the first place, but nearly failing your first year is going to be much harder to move past. i also want to caution you about this: the world of academics and research can be cutthroat in the sort of stress it makes us put on ourselves. especially now and always in the future, take care of yourself, too.
user: my fiancée passed away on the 1st and she was going to come to my phd program with me. is deferment bad? i'm at a loss and i don't know what i should do anymore. i got into my dream phd program in january and my fiancée and i were making our plans to move there soon. however, my fiancée passed away unexpectedly on the 1st of this month and i've been a total wreck. i can't concentrate on my last semester of undergrad and a huge reason i chose this school was because she would love the area/things to do there. i want to still get my phd but now i'm feeling lost and scared about moving forward. i contacted the school and they said i can defer up to a year and keep my ra-ship offer and everything and my current university is offering me incompletes to finish over the summer, but i don't know what i should do. my parents have taken me back to my childhood home and they are trying to "get me over" the death of the love of my life. they want me to finish my undergrad on time (by may 1st) and start grad school on time (june 1st), but i'm having trouble just typing this let alone thinking about math. my end goal is to become a professor at a pui. would deferment be looked at negatively? does anyone know how i can transition back into my life/school? is it okay to not be able to do any work right now? i'm also feeling guilty to move on with my life without her. does anyone have any advice? i'm only 22 and my lover has already passed away. thank you for any advice. bot: i’ll tell you what one of the most badass amazing scientists (tenured professor and leader in her field) i know told me, about taking a leave after my mother died last summer: it is seen as strength to know your limits and much better to concede to self care, rather than push forward and 1-not be all in, or worse 2-crash and burn. truly, immense grief is very hard, and grad school is very hard, face one at a time. and last but certainly not least, i am so deeply sorry for your loss. i don’t know how your undergrad institution is, but i hope they could meet you where you’re at and help you during this unimaginatively difficult time <3
user: my fiancée passed away on the 1st and she was going to come to my phd program with me. is deferment bad? i'm at a loss and i don't know what i should do anymore. i got into my dream phd program in january and my fiancée and i were making our plans to move there soon. however, my fiancée passed away unexpectedly on the 1st of this month and i've been a total wreck. i can't concentrate on my last semester of undergrad and a huge reason i chose this school was because she would love the area/things to do there. i want to still get my phd but now i'm feeling lost and scared about moving forward. i contacted the school and they said i can defer up to a year and keep my ra-ship offer and everything and my current university is offering me incompletes to finish over the summer, but i don't know what i should do. my parents have taken me back to my childhood home and they are trying to "get me over" the death of the love of my life. they want me to finish my undergrad on time (by may 1st) and start grad school on time (june 1st), but i'm having trouble just typing this let alone thinking about math. my end goal is to become a professor at a pui. would deferment be looked at negatively? does anyone know how i can transition back into my life/school? is it okay to not be able to do any work right now? i'm also feeling guilty to move on with my life without her. does anyone have any advice? i'm only 22 and my lover has already passed away. thank you for any advice. bot: your pain and how you're processing it is completely normal, both in the fact that many, many other people react this way to loss and that ultimately whatever you're feeling, however you feel you need to get through this, is fine, even if it's not the "typical." a therapist or grief counselor can help you move through this in a healthy way, which i highly recommend, but know that there are very few "wrong" ways to grieve or "wrong" reactions and there is no timeline. this sort of thing is also *exactly* what deferments are for. take time to take care of yourself. you will of course never "get over" this, but moving through normal life again does become less painful. if you dive headlong into your grad program, you're just going to feel off kilter -- deferments and gap years are normal and acceptable if anyone even notices it in the first place, but nearly failing your first year is going to be much harder to move past. i also want to caution you about this: the world of academics and research can be cutthroat in the sort of stress it makes us put on ourselves. especially now and always in the future, take care of yourself, too.
user: successfully defended phd yesterday. covid-positive today. so much to do to submit this paper, but i feel like death. any advice? bot: phd's cause covid, n=1
user: successfully defended phd yesterday. covid-positive today. so much to do to submit this paper, but i feel like death. any advice? bot: take a few days. other than a graduation filing deadline there are few true emergencies in academia. however, be entirely prepared for the graduate school to tell you to pound sand if you are up against one.
user: successfully defended phd yesterday. covid-positive today. so much to do to submit this paper, but i feel like death. any advice? bot: phd's cause covid, n=1
user: successfully defended phd yesterday. covid-positive today. so much to do to submit this paper, but i feel like death. any advice? bot: congratulations! hope for a speedy recovery dr !
user: successfully defended phd yesterday. covid-positive today. so much to do to submit this paper, but i feel like death. any advice? bot: phd's cause covid, n=1
user: successfully defended phd yesterday. covid-positive today. so much to do to submit this paper, but i feel like death. any advice? bot: first, congrats! second, i was incredibly ill when i defended. i forced myself to look over ten pages a day after that (i had almost five weeks and only 300 pages to look over). most days were easy with few revisions. some days required a little more effort. pareling out the work made it easier to get through. i hope you get better soon!!
user: successfully defended phd yesterday. covid-positive today. so much to do to submit this paper, but i feel like death. any advice? bot: phd's cause covid, n=1
user: successfully defended phd yesterday. covid-positive today. so much to do to submit this paper, but i feel like death. any advice? bot: congrats it’s big thing to celebrate!! drink a lot of water and rest up. find some good books or movies to relax as you recover. it’s a lot (really a lot) of physical pain so i’d totally say find some distraction would be nicer. defended feb 13, 2017 but got super ill soon after christmas. major symptoms relieved within a week but never was a day without coughing before i hand in revised thesis. stress makes immune system not working well is so true.
user: successfully defended phd yesterday. covid-positive today. so much to do to submit this paper, but i feel like death. any advice? bot: inform your adviser? that's the first thing i'd personally do. so they'd know i won't be able to submit any revisions or further requirements as quickly as i can under normal circumstances. anyway, congrats op! i hope your case is mild and it goes away fast. take your vitamins and other over the counter medicine for symptom control.
user: successfully defended phd yesterday. covid-positive today. so much to do to submit this paper, but i feel like death. any advice? bot: congratulations! hope for a speedy recovery dr !
user: successfully defended phd yesterday. covid-positive today. so much to do to submit this paper, but i feel like death. any advice? bot: inform your adviser? that's the first thing i'd personally do. so they'd know i won't be able to submit any revisions or further requirements as quickly as i can under normal circumstances. anyway, congrats op! i hope your case is mild and it goes away fast. take your vitamins and other over the counter medicine for symptom control.
user: successfully defended phd yesterday. covid-positive today. so much to do to submit this paper, but i feel like death. any advice? bot: first, congrats! second, i was incredibly ill when i defended. i forced myself to look over ten pages a day after that (i had almost five weeks and only 300 pages to look over). most days were easy with few revisions. some days required a little more effort. pareling out the work made it easier to get through. i hope you get better soon!!
user: successfully defended phd yesterday. covid-positive today. so much to do to submit this paper, but i feel like death. any advice? bot: inform your adviser? that's the first thing i'd personally do. so they'd know i won't be able to submit any revisions or further requirements as quickly as i can under normal circumstances. anyway, congrats op! i hope your case is mild and it goes away fast. take your vitamins and other over the counter medicine for symptom control.
user: successfully defended phd yesterday. covid-positive today. so much to do to submit this paper, but i feel like death. any advice? bot: congrats it’s big thing to celebrate!! drink a lot of water and rest up. find some good books or movies to relax as you recover. it’s a lot (really a lot) of physical pain so i’d totally say find some distraction would be nicer. defended feb 13, 2017 but got super ill soon after christmas. major symptoms relieved within a week but never was a day without coughing before i hand in revised thesis. stress makes immune system not working well is so true.
user: successfully defended phd yesterday. covid-positive today. so much to do to submit this paper, but i feel like death. any advice? bot: take a few days. other than a graduation filing deadline there are few true emergencies in academia. however, be entirely prepared for the graduate school to tell you to pound sand if you are up against one.
user: successfully defended phd yesterday. covid-positive today. so much to do to submit this paper, but i feel like death. any advice? bot: congrats it’s big thing to celebrate!! drink a lot of water and rest up. find some good books or movies to relax as you recover. it’s a lot (really a lot) of physical pain so i’d totally say find some distraction would be nicer. defended feb 13, 2017 but got super ill soon after christmas. major symptoms relieved within a week but never was a day without coughing before i hand in revised thesis. stress makes immune system not working well is so true.
user: successfully defended phd yesterday. covid-positive today. so much to do to submit this paper, but i feel like death. any advice? bot: first, you need to tell your committee for two reasons: first, so they know they were exposed (assuming it wasn't a zoom defense) and can react accordingly and second, so they know you might submit revisions late. if you are ill, don't power through it--- make sure you rest. according to the la times, doctors are warning that not resting when sick with covid may increase your chances of getting long covid. if i find a pre-print or paper on this, i'll update my comment with it.
user: successfully defended phd yesterday. covid-positive today. so much to do to submit this paper, but i feel like death. any advice? bot: congrats it’s big thing to celebrate!! drink a lot of water and rest up. find some good books or movies to relax as you recover. it’s a lot (really a lot) of physical pain so i’d totally say find some distraction would be nicer. defended feb 13, 2017 but got super ill soon after christmas. major symptoms relieved within a week but never was a day without coughing before i hand in revised thesis. stress makes immune system not working well is so true.
user: successfully defended phd yesterday. covid-positive today. so much to do to submit this paper, but i feel like death. any advice? bot: first, you need to tell your committee for two reasons: first, so they know they were exposed (assuming it wasn't a zoom defense) and can react accordingly and second, so they know you might submit revisions late. if you are ill, don't power through it--- make sure you rest. according to the la times, doctors are warning that not resting when sick with covid may increase your chances of getting long covid. if i find a pre-print or paper on this, i'll update my comment with it.
user: successfully defended phd yesterday. covid-positive today. so much to do to submit this paper, but i feel like death. any advice? bot: i was covid-19 positive when i gave my final honors presentation in undergrad, but didn’t know it till the next day. just assumed it was a really bad cold, but ended up in quarantine the next day.
user: successfully defended phd yesterday. covid-positive today. so much to do to submit this paper, but i feel like death. any advice? bot: first, you need to tell your committee for two reasons: first, so they know they were exposed (assuming it wasn't a zoom defense) and can react accordingly and second, so they know you might submit revisions late. if you are ill, don't power through it--- make sure you rest. according to the la times, doctors are warning that not resting when sick with covid may increase your chances of getting long covid. if i find a pre-print or paper on this, i'll update my comment with it.
user: successfully defended phd yesterday. covid-positive today. so much to do to submit this paper, but i feel like death. any advice? bot: rest…!!
user: successfully defended phd yesterday. covid-positive today. so much to do to submit this paper, but i feel like death. any advice? bot: first of all: congratulations! please inform everyone you have met yesterday and days prior to that that they should get tested! speedy recovery!
user: successfully defended phd yesterday. covid-positive today. so much to do to submit this paper, but i feel like death. any advice? bot: congrats it’s big thing to celebrate!! drink a lot of water and rest up. find some good books or movies to relax as you recover. it’s a lot (really a lot) of physical pain so i’d totally say find some distraction would be nicer. defended feb 13, 2017 but got super ill soon after christmas. major symptoms relieved within a week but never was a day without coughing before i hand in revised thesis. stress makes immune system not working well is so true.
user: successfully defended phd yesterday. covid-positive today. so much to do to submit this paper, but i feel like death. any advice? bot: first of all: congratulations! please inform everyone you have met yesterday and days prior to that that they should get tested! speedy recovery!
user: successfully defended phd yesterday. covid-positive today. so much to do to submit this paper, but i feel like death. any advice? bot: i was covid-19 positive when i gave my final honors presentation in undergrad, but didn’t know it till the next day. just assumed it was a really bad cold, but ended up in quarantine the next day.
user: successfully defended phd yesterday. covid-positive today. so much to do to submit this paper, but i feel like death. any advice? bot: first of all: congratulations! please inform everyone you have met yesterday and days prior to that that they should get tested! speedy recovery!
user: successfully defended phd yesterday. covid-positive today. so much to do to submit this paper, but i feel like death. any advice? bot: rest…!!
user: successfully defended phd yesterday. covid-positive today. so much to do to submit this paper, but i feel like death. any advice? bot: take your time. allot a certain amount of time each day. make sure everyone in your life respects what you've got to do. when i was finishing up, i was already teaching full-time and had some administrative responsibilities. in those days it was impractical to work from home. i put a sign on my door that read: i am working on my dissertation. before knocking on my door, ask yourself, "do i feel lucky?" one of my students got the "dirty harry" reference and added, "well, do ya, punk?"
user: successfully defended phd yesterday. covid-positive today. so much to do to submit this paper, but i feel like death. any advice? bot: congrats it’s big thing to celebrate!! drink a lot of water and rest up. find some good books or movies to relax as you recover. it’s a lot (really a lot) of physical pain so i’d totally say find some distraction would be nicer. defended feb 13, 2017 but got super ill soon after christmas. major symptoms relieved within a week but never was a day without coughing before i hand in revised thesis. stress makes immune system not working well is so true.
user: successfully defended phd yesterday. covid-positive today. so much to do to submit this paper, but i feel like death. any advice? bot: did you tell everyone at your viva that you exposed them?
user: successfully defended phd yesterday. covid-positive today. so much to do to submit this paper, but i feel like death. any advice? bot: congrats it’s big thing to celebrate!! drink a lot of water and rest up. find some good books or movies to relax as you recover. it’s a lot (really a lot) of physical pain so i’d totally say find some distraction would be nicer. defended feb 13, 2017 but got super ill soon after christmas. major symptoms relieved within a week but never was a day without coughing before i hand in revised thesis. stress makes immune system not working well is so true.
user: successfully defended phd yesterday. covid-positive today. so much to do to submit this paper, but i feel like death. any advice? bot: did you tell everyone at your viva that you exposed them?
user: successfully defended phd yesterday. covid-positive today. so much to do to submit this paper, but i feel like death. any advice? bot: i was covid-19 positive when i gave my final honors presentation in undergrad, but didn’t know it till the next day. just assumed it was a really bad cold, but ended up in quarantine the next day.
user: successfully defended phd yesterday. covid-positive today. so much to do to submit this paper, but i feel like death. any advice? bot: did you tell everyone at your viva that you exposed them?
user: successfully defended phd yesterday. covid-positive today. so much to do to submit this paper, but i feel like death. any advice? bot: rest…!!
user: successful defense! today i defended my phd dissertation, and it was accepted by committee with revisions. i'm so relieved i could cry. i'm so glad this stage is over. to be honest, i had been worried the pandemic was going to affect my defense process negatively, and i'm so relieved it's done with. bot: congrats, dr! i guess no one is showing you the secret handshake, what with social distancing and all.
user: successful defense! today i defended my phd dissertation, and it was accepted by committee with revisions. i'm so relieved i could cry. i'm so glad this stage is over. to be honest, i had been worried the pandemic was going to affect my defense process negatively, and i'm so relieved it's done with. bot: congrats! stay healthy
user: successful defense! today i defended my phd dissertation, and it was accepted by committee with revisions. i'm so relieved i could cry. i'm so glad this stage is over. to be honest, i had been worried the pandemic was going to affect my defense process negatively, and i'm so relieved it's done with. bot: congrats, dr! i guess no one is showing you the secret handshake, what with social distancing and all.
user: successful defense! today i defended my phd dissertation, and it was accepted by committee with revisions. i'm so relieved i could cry. i'm so glad this stage is over. to be honest, i had been worried the pandemic was going to affect my defense process negatively, and i'm so relieved it's done with. bot: congratulations! mine is two weeks from today (via video)!
user: successful defense! today i defended my phd dissertation, and it was accepted by committee with revisions. i'm so relieved i could cry. i'm so glad this stage is over. to be honest, i had been worried the pandemic was going to affect my defense process negatively, and i'm so relieved it's done with. bot: congrats, dr! i guess no one is showing you the secret handshake, what with social distancing and all.
user: successful defense! today i defended my phd dissertation, and it was accepted by committee with revisions. i'm so relieved i could cry. i'm so glad this stage is over. to be honest, i had been worried the pandemic was going to affect my defense process negatively, and i'm so relieved it's done with. bot: congratulations! savor it.
user: successful defense! today i defended my phd dissertation, and it was accepted by committee with revisions. i'm so relieved i could cry. i'm so glad this stage is over. to be honest, i had been worried the pandemic was going to affect my defense process negatively, and i'm so relieved it's done with. bot: congrats, dr! i guess no one is showing you the secret handshake, what with social distancing and all.
user: successful defense! today i defended my phd dissertation, and it was accepted by committee with revisions. i'm so relieved i could cry. i'm so glad this stage is over. to be honest, i had been worried the pandemic was going to affect my defense process negatively, and i'm so relieved it's done with. bot: congratulations!
user: successful defense! today i defended my phd dissertation, and it was accepted by committee with revisions. i'm so relieved i could cry. i'm so glad this stage is over. to be honest, i had been worried the pandemic was going to affect my defense process negatively, and i'm so relieved it's done with. bot: congrats, dr! i guess no one is showing you the secret handshake, what with social distancing and all.
user: successful defense! today i defended my phd dissertation, and it was accepted by committee with revisions. i'm so relieved i could cry. i'm so glad this stage is over. to be honest, i had been worried the pandemic was going to affect my defense process negatively, and i'm so relieved it's done with. bot: congrats!!!
user: successful defense! today i defended my phd dissertation, and it was accepted by committee with revisions. i'm so relieved i could cry. i'm so glad this stage is over. to be honest, i had been worried the pandemic was going to affect my defense process negatively, and i'm so relieved it's done with. bot: congrats, dr! i guess no one is showing you the secret handshake, what with social distancing and all.
user: successful defense! today i defended my phd dissertation, and it was accepted by committee with revisions. i'm so relieved i could cry. i'm so glad this stage is over. to be honest, i had been worried the pandemic was going to affect my defense process negatively, and i'm so relieved it's done with. bot: congrats doc
user: does anyone else get really sleepy about 20 minutes into any zoom call? i find it's impossible for me to stay alert during colloquiums or presentations, and sometimes even for more dynamic conversations where i'm actually participating, for more than about 20 minutes into a video call. i feel like my brain gets exhausted very quickly by the low-quality, compressed audio/video. i'll have a coffee during these events and that still doesn't help. has anyone else suffered from this, and do you have any tricks for remaining alert? bot: yes.i’m the professor so it’s a problem.
user: does anyone else get really sleepy about 20 minutes into any zoom call? i find it's impossible for me to stay alert during colloquiums or presentations, and sometimes even for more dynamic conversations where i'm actually participating, for more than about 20 minutes into a video call. i feel like my brain gets exhausted very quickly by the low-quality, compressed audio/video. i'll have a coffee during these events and that still doesn't help. has anyone else suffered from this, and do you have any tricks for remaining alert? bot: all the time. writing notes during the call definitely helps me stay focused.
user: does anyone else get really sleepy about 20 minutes into any zoom call? i find it's impossible for me to stay alert during colloquiums or presentations, and sometimes even for more dynamic conversations where i'm actually participating, for more than about 20 minutes into a video call. i feel like my brain gets exhausted very quickly by the low-quality, compressed audio/video. i'll have a coffee during these events and that still doesn't help. has anyone else suffered from this, and do you have any tricks for remaining alert? bot: yes.i’m the professor so it’s a problem.
user: does anyone else get really sleepy about 20 minutes into any zoom call? i find it's impossible for me to stay alert during colloquiums or presentations, and sometimes even for more dynamic conversations where i'm actually participating, for more than about 20 minutes into a video call. i feel like my brain gets exhausted very quickly by the low-quality, compressed audio/video. i'll have a coffee during these events and that still doesn't help. has anyone else suffered from this, and do you have any tricks for remaining alert? bot: yeah :/ it’s rly hard for me to go to talks and symposiums now, especially when they’re webinar format and i cant even discuss things or see others’ responses
user: does anyone else get really sleepy about 20 minutes into any zoom call? i find it's impossible for me to stay alert during colloquiums or presentations, and sometimes even for more dynamic conversations where i'm actually participating, for more than about 20 minutes into a video call. i feel like my brain gets exhausted very quickly by the low-quality, compressed audio/video. i'll have a coffee during these events and that still doesn't help. has anyone else suffered from this, and do you have any tricks for remaining alert? bot: absolutely... and the ny times had a great article on this about 6 months ago as to why. it turns out that, when we engage with people in real life, our brains are absorbing a *massive* amount of almost-imperceptible information (small gestures, posture, foot-shuffling, smells, pheromones, etc.), most of it subliminally. (because our lizard-brains need to know: is this person about to attack me? is this person a potential mate? is this person a member of my in-group? and our civilized-brains are constantly-evaluating on every level, from the utilitarian to the social to the abstract.) but even on a high-quality, non-lagging zoom call, practically none of this information is being captured by the software or otherwise conveyed. you can't see their posture; you can't smell their pheromones, etc. so, your brain starts revving up to try to pick up the signals... and this is exhausting. (it's sort of like how your cell phone battery drains faster when you're in an area of poor coverage, as it tries to grasp onto a useable signal.) it goes the other way, too: when i was zoom-lecturing, i quickly learned to "over-emote"... to exaggerate the facial expressions emotions i was trying to get across, because the students seemed to respond much better when i did. but this itself was exhausting... a 50 minute zoom "lecture" felt as exhausting as giving a 2-hour in-person lecture.
user: does anyone else get really sleepy about 20 minutes into any zoom call? i find it's impossible for me to stay alert during colloquiums or presentations, and sometimes even for more dynamic conversations where i'm actually participating, for more than about 20 minutes into a video call. i feel like my brain gets exhausted very quickly by the low-quality, compressed audio/video. i'll have a coffee during these events and that still doesn't help. has anyone else suffered from this, and do you have any tricks for remaining alert? bot: yeah :/ it’s rly hard for me to go to talks and symposiums now, especially when they’re webinar format and i cant even discuss things or see others’ responses
user: does anyone else get really sleepy about 20 minutes into any zoom call? i find it's impossible for me to stay alert during colloquiums or presentations, and sometimes even for more dynamic conversations where i'm actually participating, for more than about 20 minutes into a video call. i feel like my brain gets exhausted very quickly by the low-quality, compressed audio/video. i'll have a coffee during these events and that still doesn't help. has anyone else suffered from this, and do you have any tricks for remaining alert? bot: absolutely... and the ny times had a great article on this about 6 months ago as to why. it turns out that, when we engage with people in real life, our brains are absorbing a *massive* amount of almost-imperceptible information (small gestures, posture, foot-shuffling, smells, pheromones, etc.), most of it subliminally. (because our lizard-brains need to know: is this person about to attack me? is this person a potential mate? is this person a member of my in-group? and our civilized-brains are constantly-evaluating on every level, from the utilitarian to the social to the abstract.) but even on a high-quality, non-lagging zoom call, practically none of this information is being captured by the software or otherwise conveyed. you can't see their posture; you can't smell their pheromones, etc. so, your brain starts revving up to try to pick up the signals... and this is exhausting. (it's sort of like how your cell phone battery drains faster when you're in an area of poor coverage, as it tries to grasp onto a useable signal.) it goes the other way, too: when i was zoom-lecturing, i quickly learned to "over-emote"... to exaggerate the facial expressions emotions i was trying to get across, because the students seemed to respond much better when i did. but this itself was exhausting... a 50 minute zoom "lecture" felt as exhausting as giving a 2-hour in-person lecture.
user: does anyone else get really sleepy about 20 minutes into any zoom call? i find it's impossible for me to stay alert during colloquiums or presentations, and sometimes even for more dynamic conversations where i'm actually participating, for more than about 20 minutes into a video call. i feel like my brain gets exhausted very quickly by the low-quality, compressed audio/video. i'll have a coffee during these events and that still doesn't help. has anyone else suffered from this, and do you have any tricks for remaining alert? bot: every time i'm on a call.
user: does anyone else get really sleepy about 20 minutes into any zoom call? i find it's impossible for me to stay alert during colloquiums or presentations, and sometimes even for more dynamic conversations where i'm actually participating, for more than about 20 minutes into a video call. i feel like my brain gets exhausted very quickly by the low-quality, compressed audio/video. i'll have a coffee during these events and that still doesn't help. has anyone else suffered from this, and do you have any tricks for remaining alert? bot: for me, vitamin d deficiency was the culprit.
user: does anyone else get really sleepy about 20 minutes into any zoom call? i find it's impossible for me to stay alert during colloquiums or presentations, and sometimes even for more dynamic conversations where i'm actually participating, for more than about 20 minutes into a video call. i feel like my brain gets exhausted very quickly by the low-quality, compressed audio/video. i'll have a coffee during these events and that still doesn't help. has anyone else suffered from this, and do you have any tricks for remaining alert? bot: every time i'm on a call.
user: does anyone else get really sleepy about 20 minutes into any zoom call? i find it's impossible for me to stay alert during colloquiums or presentations, and sometimes even for more dynamic conversations where i'm actually participating, for more than about 20 minutes into a video call. i feel like my brain gets exhausted very quickly by the low-quality, compressed audio/video. i'll have a coffee during these events and that still doesn't help. has anyone else suffered from this, and do you have any tricks for remaining alert? bot: yes - i started shortening my own lectures into smaller chunks when i realized that listening to anyone on zoom for more than 20 minutes straight is mentally exhausting. i don’t have a short attention span, either, so i don’t know why i find it so draining.
user: does anyone else get really sleepy about 20 minutes into any zoom call? i find it's impossible for me to stay alert during colloquiums or presentations, and sometimes even for more dynamic conversations where i'm actually participating, for more than about 20 minutes into a video call. i feel like my brain gets exhausted very quickly by the low-quality, compressed audio/video. i'll have a coffee during these events and that still doesn't help. has anyone else suffered from this, and do you have any tricks for remaining alert? bot: every time i'm on a call.
user: people who write scientific research papers quickly, what’s your secret? for academic research papers, what are your best tips and tricks for being both efficient and doing high quality work? what order do you write the paper in, and how do you keep from going off on too many tangents? how do you deal efficiently with co-authors? bot: i write while i do the research. even if things change, there is still a draft of the related work, methods and results that i can go to immediately when finished and continue writing. i write all over the place on the paper because of this strategy.
user: people who write scientific research papers quickly, what’s your secret? for academic research papers, what are your best tips and tricks for being both efficient and doing high quality work? what order do you write the paper in, and how do you keep from going off on too many tangents? how do you deal efficiently with co-authors? bot: i try to write really good notes as i work on the project. why we decided to do it (incl relevant papers it's building on), what our goal/question is, all the details about the method & analysis, etc. the first draft is just making that into full sentences and then you're just editing.
user: people who write scientific research papers quickly, what’s your secret? for academic research papers, what are your best tips and tricks for being both efficient and doing high quality work? what order do you write the paper in, and how do you keep from going off on too many tangents? how do you deal efficiently with co-authors? bot: i write while i do the research. even if things change, there is still a draft of the related work, methods and results that i can go to immediately when finished and continue writing. i write all over the place on the paper because of this strategy.
user: people who write scientific research papers quickly, what’s your secret? for academic research papers, what are your best tips and tricks for being both efficient and doing high quality work? what order do you write the paper in, and how do you keep from going off on too many tangents? how do you deal efficiently with co-authors? bot: a solid formula for the structure
user: people who write scientific research papers quickly, what’s your secret? for academic research papers, what are your best tips and tricks for being both efficient and doing high quality work? what order do you write the paper in, and how do you keep from going off on too many tangents? how do you deal efficiently with co-authors? bot: this may not work for everyone, but i have a big love for presenting. so i’ll make my figures and get them all nailed down, write my methods like normal, and basically set up a presentation outline. then, i’ll stream-of-consciousness word vomit on to the page as if i were talking to an audience. i take a day or more away, come back, and read it out loud to myself to identify any gaps in information or illogical jumps, to edit grammar and spelling, and just generally clean up. it makes for really speedy writing and gets you to practice “presenting” as well.
user: people who write scientific research papers quickly, what’s your secret? for academic research papers, what are your best tips and tricks for being both efficient and doing high quality work? what order do you write the paper in, and how do you keep from going off on too many tangents? how do you deal efficiently with co-authors? bot: i start with the research questions/hypothesis then literature review to show the gaps that highlight my research questions. then i move to the methodology and results, making sure the research questions are addressed well in those sections. from my experience writing and reviewing papers, these are what will drive the decision to accept/revise/reject the paper, so i work on them first to make sure rest fo the sections align with these sections. intro/motivation is next and then i work on discussions and limitations. conclusions and abstract are the last things i write because these are probably what reviewers will read first and you want these to highlight everything on your paper . i feel that this sequence helps me focus more on the contributions of my work and keeps that chain of thought throughout the paper.
user: people who write scientific research papers quickly, what’s your secret? for academic research papers, what are your best tips and tricks for being both efficient and doing high quality work? what order do you write the paper in, and how do you keep from going off on too many tangents? how do you deal efficiently with co-authors? bot: this may not work for everyone, but i have a big love for presenting. so i’ll make my figures and get them all nailed down, write my methods like normal, and basically set up a presentation outline. then, i’ll stream-of-consciousness word vomit on to the page as if i were talking to an audience. i take a day or more away, come back, and read it out loud to myself to identify any gaps in information or illogical jumps, to edit grammar and spelling, and just generally clean up. it makes for really speedy writing and gets you to practice “presenting” as well.
user: people who write scientific research papers quickly, what’s your secret? for academic research papers, what are your best tips and tricks for being both efficient and doing high quality work? what order do you write the paper in, and how do you keep from going off on too many tangents? how do you deal efficiently with co-authors? bot: i make a powerpoint slide deck. it creates a lot of clarity on how to frame the story and identify weak points, providing direction for additional experiments to strengthen the case.
user: people who write scientific research papers quickly, what’s your secret? for academic research papers, what are your best tips and tricks for being both efficient and doing high quality work? what order do you write the paper in, and how do you keep from going off on too many tangents? how do you deal efficiently with co-authors? bot: this may not work for everyone, but i have a big love for presenting. so i’ll make my figures and get them all nailed down, write my methods like normal, and basically set up a presentation outline. then, i’ll stream-of-consciousness word vomit on to the page as if i were talking to an audience. i take a day or more away, come back, and read it out loud to myself to identify any gaps in information or illogical jumps, to edit grammar and spelling, and just generally clean up. it makes for really speedy writing and gets you to practice “presenting” as well.
user: people who write scientific research papers quickly, what’s your secret? for academic research papers, what are your best tips and tricks for being both efficient and doing high quality work? what order do you write the paper in, and how do you keep from going off on too many tangents? how do you deal efficiently with co-authors? bot: i try to write really good notes as i work on the project. why we decided to do it (incl relevant papers it's building on), what our goal/question is, all the details about the method & analysis, etc. the first draft is just making that into full sentences and then you're just editing.
user: people who write scientific research papers quickly, what’s your secret? for academic research papers, what are your best tips and tricks for being both efficient and doing high quality work? what order do you write the paper in, and how do you keep from going off on too many tangents? how do you deal efficiently with co-authors? bot: this may not work for everyone, but i have a big love for presenting. so i’ll make my figures and get them all nailed down, write my methods like normal, and basically set up a presentation outline. then, i’ll stream-of-consciousness word vomit on to the page as if i were talking to an audience. i take a day or more away, come back, and read it out loud to myself to identify any gaps in information or illogical jumps, to edit grammar and spelling, and just generally clean up. it makes for really speedy writing and gets you to practice “presenting” as well.
user: people who write scientific research papers quickly, what’s your secret? for academic research papers, what are your best tips and tricks for being both efficient and doing high quality work? what order do you write the paper in, and how do you keep from going off on too many tangents? how do you deal efficiently with co-authors? bot: a solid formula for the structure
user: people who write scientific research papers quickly, what’s your secret? for academic research papers, what are your best tips and tricks for being both efficient and doing high quality work? what order do you write the paper in, and how do you keep from going off on too many tangents? how do you deal efficiently with co-authors? bot: this may not work for everyone, but i have a big love for presenting. so i’ll make my figures and get them all nailed down, write my methods like normal, and basically set up a presentation outline. then, i’ll stream-of-consciousness word vomit on to the page as if i were talking to an audience. i take a day or more away, come back, and read it out loud to myself to identify any gaps in information or illogical jumps, to edit grammar and spelling, and just generally clean up. it makes for really speedy writing and gets you to practice “presenting” as well.
user: people who write scientific research papers quickly, what’s your secret? for academic research papers, what are your best tips and tricks for being both efficient and doing high quality work? what order do you write the paper in, and how do you keep from going off on too many tangents? how do you deal efficiently with co-authors? bot: saving this post!
user: people who write scientific research papers quickly, what’s your secret? for academic research papers, what are your best tips and tricks for being both efficient and doing high quality work? what order do you write the paper in, and how do you keep from going off on too many tangents? how do you deal efficiently with co-authors? bot: always figures first. figures tell the story. if you feel like you're missing a panel of a figure because you don't have that data, put a white box as a placeholder. then, do that experiment (and hope that the data agrees with your other data). repeat until all figures are finished. then write the other parts. and you should start this process when you feel like your story is 50 - 75% done.
user: people who write scientific research papers quickly, what’s your secret? for academic research papers, what are your best tips and tricks for being both efficient and doing high quality work? what order do you write the paper in, and how do you keep from going off on too many tangents? how do you deal efficiently with co-authors? bot: i try to write really good notes as i work on the project. why we decided to do it (incl relevant papers it's building on), what our goal/question is, all the details about the method & analysis, etc. the first draft is just making that into full sentences and then you're just editing.
user: people who write scientific research papers quickly, what’s your secret? for academic research papers, what are your best tips and tricks for being both efficient and doing high quality work? what order do you write the paper in, and how do you keep from going off on too many tangents? how do you deal efficiently with co-authors? bot: always figures first. figures tell the story. if you feel like you're missing a panel of a figure because you don't have that data, put a white box as a placeholder. then, do that experiment (and hope that the data agrees with your other data). repeat until all figures are finished. then write the other parts. and you should start this process when you feel like your story is 50 - 75% done.
user: people who write scientific research papers quickly, what’s your secret? for academic research papers, what are your best tips and tricks for being both efficient and doing high quality work? what order do you write the paper in, and how do you keep from going off on too many tangents? how do you deal efficiently with co-authors? bot: a solid formula for the structure
user: people who write scientific research papers quickly, what’s your secret? for academic research papers, what are your best tips and tricks for being both efficient and doing high quality work? what order do you write the paper in, and how do you keep from going off on too many tangents? how do you deal efficiently with co-authors? bot: i'm an ecr (postdoc) so i'm still polishing my writing. i was lucky to work with very prolific co-authors who taught me this approach and so far it's the best for me. i always find it daunting to begin a paper. 3 key points: 1) break everything down to the smallest task, 2) start writing and annotating as early as you can and try to be consistent, and 3) set clear goals with your co-authors early on, i find turn-over is more important than "perfection". starting from scratch is always daunting for me, so i have a word template with the classic imrad structure (see below). this gives me a skeleton and feels more "manageable" than a white page, even though i don't know which will be the target journal. i scribble down the methods section and add relevant publications for the intro and discussion as soon as i start the project. once i have the results and i know the target journal, i change my template to the journal's structure. having a couple of examples is useful to identify the overall length of each section (e.g., some journals prefer 3 paragraphs in the introduction, others 4 or even 5; same with the discussion, some use 1 closing paragraph \[conclusion\] other journals just 3 paragraphs). then, i create subsections with "*paragraph topic*" which i remove after a couple of draft versions. this approach helps me to keep in mind the logical progression of the paper. i also use "*sentence topic*", just in my words not worrying about grammar nor style to start putting words on the page. i usually write 5-6 sentences for each paragraph. then i add the figures. figures are super important, so i usually have a powerpoint with several iterations of the same analysis but presented in different ways. so, i begin with the methods section, then results, intro, discussion, and finally the abstract. the abstract is just a well-thought summary of your publication so i find it easier to write once i have the other sections ready (writing the abstract is just another way of writing your paper in 250 words, it has its own structure). after that, it is just a matter of polishing and working with your co-authors. one issue i constantly have is to know when the manuscript is "good enough" to be submitted, this is when senior co-authors are key to just tell you to stop and submit it. i'm a veterinarian, so papers aren't a big task during your undergrad. i had to learn from scratch when i started my phd, don't be afraid of bad reviews and try to maximise the times your co-authors provide feedback, i learnt a lot even though it was kinda painful and discouraging in the beginning. i hope this is useful :) this is how my template looks: **target journal info:** type and length of the article **title1**: \[the title i prefer\] **title2/3/4:** \[alternatives\] **abstract:** \[number of words\] **1. introduction** * paragraph1: intro to the field * paragraph2: specific field details and intro to the project * paragraph3: why's the project relevant to the field? * paragraph4: closing and the relevance of the study **2. methods (begin as soon as you can with this)** * paragraph1: general description * paragraph2: location/case study * paragraph3: data collection * paragraph4: data analysis **3. results (id key results and keep it to the point)** * paragraph1: main result * paragraph2: result2 * paragraph3: any extras **4. discussion (3 arguments max)** * paragraph1: general recap and key results in context * paragraph2: result2 in context * paragraph3: the project in the field's context * paragraph4: caveats/issues/what's next? * paragraph5: closing **extras (or in a different document):** * co-author details (not in order) * funding details * acknowledgements i always have 3 documents by the end of the project: 1. the word doc with the manuscript 2. a powerpoint with figures 3. a word document with all the paragraphs we removed
user: people who write scientific research papers quickly, what’s your secret? for academic research papers, what are your best tips and tricks for being both efficient and doing high quality work? what order do you write the paper in, and how do you keep from going off on too many tangents? how do you deal efficiently with co-authors? bot: i'm not in stem but like stem my field uses latex which i've found extremely useful for paper writing. i often think of bits of language that work in different parts of the paper and keep them along with notes and possible sources commented out so they can be incorporated later. with word i felt more pressure to write in order instead of letting my mind go all over the place, since there's no hiding content.
user: people who write scientific research papers quickly, what’s your secret? for academic research papers, what are your best tips and tricks for being both efficient and doing high quality work? what order do you write the paper in, and how do you keep from going off on too many tangents? how do you deal efficiently with co-authors? bot: i'm an ecr (postdoc) so i'm still polishing my writing. i was lucky to work with very prolific co-authors who taught me this approach and so far it's the best for me. i always find it daunting to begin a paper. 3 key points: 1) break everything down to the smallest task, 2) start writing and annotating as early as you can and try to be consistent, and 3) set clear goals with your co-authors early on, i find turn-over is more important than "perfection". starting from scratch is always daunting for me, so i have a word template with the classic imrad structure (see below). this gives me a skeleton and feels more "manageable" than a white page, even though i don't know which will be the target journal. i scribble down the methods section and add relevant publications for the intro and discussion as soon as i start the project. once i have the results and i know the target journal, i change my template to the journal's structure. having a couple of examples is useful to identify the overall length of each section (e.g., some journals prefer 3 paragraphs in the introduction, others 4 or even 5; same with the discussion, some use 1 closing paragraph \[conclusion\] other journals just 3 paragraphs). then, i create subsections with "*paragraph topic*" which i remove after a couple of draft versions. this approach helps me to keep in mind the logical progression of the paper. i also use "*sentence topic*", just in my words not worrying about grammar nor style to start putting words on the page. i usually write 5-6 sentences for each paragraph. then i add the figures. figures are super important, so i usually have a powerpoint with several iterations of the same analysis but presented in different ways. so, i begin with the methods section, then results, intro, discussion, and finally the abstract. the abstract is just a well-thought summary of your publication so i find it easier to write once i have the other sections ready (writing the abstract is just another way of writing your paper in 250 words, it has its own structure). after that, it is just a matter of polishing and working with your co-authors. one issue i constantly have is to know when the manuscript is "good enough" to be submitted, this is when senior co-authors are key to just tell you to stop and submit it. i'm a veterinarian, so papers aren't a big task during your undergrad. i had to learn from scratch when i started my phd, don't be afraid of bad reviews and try to maximise the times your co-authors provide feedback, i learnt a lot even though it was kinda painful and discouraging in the beginning. i hope this is useful :) this is how my template looks: **target journal info:** type and length of the article **title1**: \[the title i prefer\] **title2/3/4:** \[alternatives\] **abstract:** \[number of words\] **1. introduction** * paragraph1: intro to the field * paragraph2: specific field details and intro to the project * paragraph3: why's the project relevant to the field? * paragraph4: closing and the relevance of the study **2. methods (begin as soon as you can with this)** * paragraph1: general description * paragraph2: location/case study * paragraph3: data collection * paragraph4: data analysis **3. results (id key results and keep it to the point)** * paragraph1: main result * paragraph2: result2 * paragraph3: any extras **4. discussion (3 arguments max)** * paragraph1: general recap and key results in context * paragraph2: result2 in context * paragraph3: the project in the field's context * paragraph4: caveats/issues/what's next? * paragraph5: closing **extras (or in a different document):** * co-author details (not in order) * funding details * acknowledgements i always have 3 documents by the end of the project: 1. the word doc with the manuscript 2. a powerpoint with figures 3. a word document with all the paragraphs we removed
user: people who write scientific research papers quickly, what’s your secret? for academic research papers, what are your best tips and tricks for being both efficient and doing high quality work? what order do you write the paper in, and how do you keep from going off on too many tangents? how do you deal efficiently with co-authors? bot: lab meetings are your friend here. i have the advantage of being a member of a lab where people work on pretty different projects and are unafraid to ask candid and hard-hitting questions. in my experience, preparing the data i'd like to publish for a 20 minute lab meeting forces you to 1. structure your presentation in a way that can quickly be ported to paper when the time comes, 2. assemble the bare minimum background knowledge required to make the audience understand the relevance of the work, and 3. receive valuable feedback on how data/figures are presented. basically this minimizes both the time spent organizing thoughts as well as the length of the paper (the exception is materials and methods which nobody reads anyways). basically, think of a scientific research paper as being the readable version of your talk, not the other way around.
user: people who write scientific research papers quickly, what’s your secret? for academic research papers, what are your best tips and tricks for being both efficient and doing high quality work? what order do you write the paper in, and how do you keep from going off on too many tangents? how do you deal efficiently with co-authors? bot: lots of good comments here already but adding a few because why not: * schedule 3-5 days when you are literally doing nothing else other than the paper. no meetings, no experiments, just figures/writing. it usually takes me hours to get "in the zone" but once i'm there, the paper gets done super quickly. i've never had a manuscript take more than a week to write when i set it up this way and tell everyone to go away, block email, etc. * bullet point the main idea of any paragraph before writing it. also, please no more than 5 sentences per paragraph and no more than one or two commas/"and"s per sentence. if you need more than that, you're probably rambling. * secret magic trick: once you finish writing a paragraph, take the last sentence and move it to the beginning of the paragraph. your paper is now 100% more skimmable = better! * whatever order works best for you, but i do results (figures, bullet points for each paragraph, then text), discussion, intro, methods. * definitely use latex. use overleaf if you don't want to set up the compiler on your computer. * coauthors - give definite deadlines, and send many reminders. but in practice, just do all their work for them and coauthor them anyways. almost all coauthors are dead weight at the writing stage. the few who aren't are gold. * proofreading - have some text-to-speech software read the paper to you. it takes some time but its worth doing once. you'll immediately notice typos and cringe-bad sections :)
user: people who write scientific research papers quickly, what’s your secret? for academic research papers, what are your best tips and tricks for being both efficient and doing high quality work? what order do you write the paper in, and how do you keep from going off on too many tangents? how do you deal efficiently with co-authors? bot: how long does it take to write an academic paper on average? curious ug student here
user: people who write scientific research papers quickly, what’s your secret? for academic research papers, what are your best tips and tricks for being both efficient and doing high quality work? what order do you write the paper in, and how do you keep from going off on too many tangents? how do you deal efficiently with co-authors? bot: lots of good comments here already but adding a few because why not: * schedule 3-5 days when you are literally doing nothing else other than the paper. no meetings, no experiments, just figures/writing. it usually takes me hours to get "in the zone" but once i'm there, the paper gets done super quickly. i've never had a manuscript take more than a week to write when i set it up this way and tell everyone to go away, block email, etc. * bullet point the main idea of any paragraph before writing it. also, please no more than 5 sentences per paragraph and no more than one or two commas/"and"s per sentence. if you need more than that, you're probably rambling. * secret magic trick: once you finish writing a paragraph, take the last sentence and move it to the beginning of the paragraph. your paper is now 100% more skimmable = better! * whatever order works best for you, but i do results (figures, bullet points for each paragraph, then text), discussion, intro, methods. * definitely use latex. use overleaf if you don't want to set up the compiler on your computer. * coauthors - give definite deadlines, and send many reminders. but in practice, just do all their work for them and coauthor them anyways. almost all coauthors are dead weight at the writing stage. the few who aren't are gold. * proofreading - have some text-to-speech software read the paper to you. it takes some time but its worth doing once. you'll immediately notice typos and cringe-bad sections :)
user: people who write scientific research papers quickly, what’s your secret? for academic research papers, what are your best tips and tricks for being both efficient and doing high quality work? what order do you write the paper in, and how do you keep from going off on too many tangents? how do you deal efficiently with co-authors? bot: i am far more productive now that i’ve hit my stride as a postdoc than i was during my phd years (or first year of postdoc), and it’s for two reasons: 1) i have my methods down pat so the research part is far shorter. no writing code from scratch and minor modifications to get plots how i like them, so what took me months before is now just a few weeks. 2) my supervisor now is the type to make small edits/ change phrases as he goes in the document. my phd one made me do everything myself (which honestly your phd adviser should), and i’m still doing the majority of work, but not doing 100% of it is amazing and lets me focus on more gnarly edits.
user: people who write scientific research papers quickly, what’s your secret? for academic research papers, what are your best tips and tricks for being both efficient and doing high quality work? what order do you write the paper in, and how do you keep from going off on too many tangents? how do you deal efficiently with co-authors? bot: lots of good comments here already but adding a few because why not: * schedule 3-5 days when you are literally doing nothing else other than the paper. no meetings, no experiments, just figures/writing. it usually takes me hours to get "in the zone" but once i'm there, the paper gets done super quickly. i've never had a manuscript take more than a week to write when i set it up this way and tell everyone to go away, block email, etc. * bullet point the main idea of any paragraph before writing it. also, please no more than 5 sentences per paragraph and no more than one or two commas/"and"s per sentence. if you need more than that, you're probably rambling. * secret magic trick: once you finish writing a paragraph, take the last sentence and move it to the beginning of the paragraph. your paper is now 100% more skimmable = better! * whatever order works best for you, but i do results (figures, bullet points for each paragraph, then text), discussion, intro, methods. * definitely use latex. use overleaf if you don't want to set up the compiler on your computer. * coauthors - give definite deadlines, and send many reminders. but in practice, just do all their work for them and coauthor them anyways. almost all coauthors are dead weight at the writing stage. the few who aren't are gold. * proofreading - have some text-to-speech software read the paper to you. it takes some time but its worth doing once. you'll immediately notice typos and cringe-bad sections :)
user: people who write scientific research papers quickly, what’s your secret? for academic research papers, what are your best tips and tricks for being both efficient and doing high quality work? what order do you write the paper in, and how do you keep from going off on too many tangents? how do you deal efficiently with co-authors? bot: lots of great advice here, but what i think hasn't been stressed enough is language. be concise, but comprehensible!!! most reviewers have very limited time, so making the reading experience as easy as possible will put them in a good mood and increase your chances of getting accepted.
user: if i have 6 hours of zoom meetings everyday, can i really be expected to get anything else done? postdoc in stem completely overburdened with meetings at the moment. i'm (co-)supervising 15 student projects, spanning the bachelor to phd level with students in 4 different countries, on top of which i have all of my normal collaborations that i should make progress on. on top of that, there's seminars and journal clubs everyday. it's just impossible to get anything done at the moment! /rant bot: cut the meeting times in half, move others to email or slide updates and meeting every other week, have a conversation with your pi about overburdening, and start blocking time on your calendar for your priorities.
user: if i have 6 hours of zoom meetings everyday, can i really be expected to get anything else done? postdoc in stem completely overburdened with meetings at the moment. i'm (co-)supervising 15 student projects, spanning the bachelor to phd level with students in 4 different countries, on top of which i have all of my normal collaborations that i should make progress on. on top of that, there's seminars and journal clubs everyday. it's just impossible to get anything done at the moment! /rant bot: no. :)
user: if i have 6 hours of zoom meetings everyday, can i really be expected to get anything else done? postdoc in stem completely overburdened with meetings at the moment. i'm (co-)supervising 15 student projects, spanning the bachelor to phd level with students in 4 different countries, on top of which i have all of my normal collaborations that i should make progress on. on top of that, there's seminars and journal clubs everyday. it's just impossible to get anything done at the moment! /rant bot: also how could you possibly mentor 15 students well? this sounds like a bad situation for everyone involved.
user: if i have 6 hours of zoom meetings everyday, can i really be expected to get anything else done? postdoc in stem completely overburdened with meetings at the moment. i'm (co-)supervising 15 student projects, spanning the bachelor to phd level with students in 4 different countries, on top of which i have all of my normal collaborations that i should make progress on. on top of that, there's seminars and journal clubs everyday. it's just impossible to get anything done at the moment! /rant bot: no. :)
user: if i have 6 hours of zoom meetings everyday, can i really be expected to get anything else done? postdoc in stem completely overburdened with meetings at the moment. i'm (co-)supervising 15 student projects, spanning the bachelor to phd level with students in 4 different countries, on top of which i have all of my normal collaborations that i should make progress on. on top of that, there's seminars and journal clubs everyday. it's just impossible to get anything done at the moment! /rant bot: solution: you need to start saying no to a lot of things.
user: if i have 6 hours of zoom meetings everyday, can i really be expected to get anything else done? postdoc in stem completely overburdened with meetings at the moment. i'm (co-)supervising 15 student projects, spanning the bachelor to phd level with students in 4 different countries, on top of which i have all of my normal collaborations that i should make progress on. on top of that, there's seminars and journal clubs everyday. it's just impossible to get anything done at the moment! /rant bot: no. :)
user: if i have 6 hours of zoom meetings everyday, can i really be expected to get anything else done? postdoc in stem completely overburdened with meetings at the moment. i'm (co-)supervising 15 student projects, spanning the bachelor to phd level with students in 4 different countries, on top of which i have all of my normal collaborations that i should make progress on. on top of that, there's seminars and journal clubs everyday. it's just impossible to get anything done at the moment! /rant bot: i only read the title. absolutely no is the answer... meetings are a plague on productivity... edit: typo
user: if i have 6 hours of zoom meetings everyday, can i really be expected to get anything else done? postdoc in stem completely overburdened with meetings at the moment. i'm (co-)supervising 15 student projects, spanning the bachelor to phd level with students in 4 different countries, on top of which i have all of my normal collaborations that i should make progress on. on top of that, there's seminars and journal clubs everyday. it's just impossible to get anything done at the moment! /rant bot: no. :)
user: for us average people in academia: when in your academic career did you realize that you weren't going to be a star and what prompted it? now, if you are a star in your field or are on track to be one, congratulations! but this question isn't for you. i've spent my entire academic career at "highly-ranked" r1s, which means that i'm around a lot of people from undergrad students through early professors who have the expectation that they're going to be the stars of their field, and the environment promotes that. this is especially true at the university where i am currently. most people, even from big-name r1s, do not end up being stars in their field. that's not a bad thing at all and is not even necessarily their fault - it's largely the nature of how reputations in academia are developed. i've also noticed that some are able to adjust to that change in expectation of themselves very easily, while others have a really hard time letting that go. i'm just curious for all of us non-stars, when in your career did you start to recognize that you weren't going to be a star in your field? what prompted you to realize that and what did you do to adjust your frame of mind to be content with it? i'm just interested in what others' experiences are and am not looking for advice or anything - i'm well past the point of being okay with not being on a path to be a big name in my field and am content with where i am (as long as i don't run out of funding!). bot: when i worked with a real star. i saw what it really took. it wasn't putting in a lot of hours or being ruthless or looking out for oneself. it was a real core type of competency and mastery over the field that few have. he was my mentor during one of my postdocs and he was by far the most successful scientist i had ever worked with other than my extremely famous doctoral advisor (who, tellingly, openly admired this other guy - probably 30 years his junior). he didn't play games with his students, he knew how to be supportive and kind without doing their work for them, and he knew which students to carry for a bit and when. he was there at every coffee break in they just chatting with whomever, he always ate with us in the canteen and it never felt like "the boss" was there. he's everyone's favorite colleague because he is open, honest, insightful and can see the right thing to do very quickly. people line up to collaborate with him and he is on so many papers it's ridiculous. and he's just great to be around. he has a really dry wit but is not cynical. he has a lot of interests and knows a lot about art and literature, and many other topics. he neither only talks about work nor avoids the topic. he almost never works in the evenings or weekends, only a bit on sunday nights, and never before the kids go to bed. he takes a month off every august, just to be with his family on some british isle where he he doesn't have good cell phone service and doesn't bother to get internet access. he has a wonderful marriage, great kids, and seems to really like life, in a british sort of way - meaning, not exuberant, but you can tell. he keeps himself fresh and doesn't burn out. he works efficiently because he keeps work confined to one part of his life. this makes him happier and more productive. when i saw how effortless it was for him, and how people were throwing money and titles his way, i could see what it was to be a star. and it couldn't have happened to a nicer guy.
user: for us average people in academia: when in your academic career did you realize that you weren't going to be a star and what prompted it? now, if you are a star in your field or are on track to be one, congratulations! but this question isn't for you. i've spent my entire academic career at "highly-ranked" r1s, which means that i'm around a lot of people from undergrad students through early professors who have the expectation that they're going to be the stars of their field, and the environment promotes that. this is especially true at the university where i am currently. most people, even from big-name r1s, do not end up being stars in their field. that's not a bad thing at all and is not even necessarily their fault - it's largely the nature of how reputations in academia are developed. i've also noticed that some are able to adjust to that change in expectation of themselves very easily, while others have a really hard time letting that go. i'm just curious for all of us non-stars, when in your career did you start to recognize that you weren't going to be a star in your field? what prompted you to realize that and what did you do to adjust your frame of mind to be content with it? i'm just interested in what others' experiences are and am not looking for advice or anything - i'm well past the point of being okay with not being on a path to be a big name in my field and am content with where i am (as long as i don't run out of funding!). bot: haven’t given up yet! (jk—i never really believed i would be a “star”) i think it’s kind of funny/interesting how many comments and upvotes attribute not being a star to a choice—not a personal limitation, as if they could have been a star, but are average only because they made a choice to be average. seems delusional. i accept my mediocrity!
user: for us average people in academia: when in your academic career did you realize that you weren't going to be a star and what prompted it? now, if you are a star in your field or are on track to be one, congratulations! but this question isn't for you. i've spent my entire academic career at "highly-ranked" r1s, which means that i'm around a lot of people from undergrad students through early professors who have the expectation that they're going to be the stars of their field, and the environment promotes that. this is especially true at the university where i am currently. most people, even from big-name r1s, do not end up being stars in their field. that's not a bad thing at all and is not even necessarily their fault - it's largely the nature of how reputations in academia are developed. i've also noticed that some are able to adjust to that change in expectation of themselves very easily, while others have a really hard time letting that go. i'm just curious for all of us non-stars, when in your career did you start to recognize that you weren't going to be a star in your field? what prompted you to realize that and what did you do to adjust your frame of mind to be content with it? i'm just interested in what others' experiences are and am not looking for advice or anything - i'm well past the point of being okay with not being on a path to be a big name in my field and am content with where i am (as long as i don't run out of funding!). bot: when i worked with a real star. i saw what it really took. it wasn't putting in a lot of hours or being ruthless or looking out for oneself. it was a real core type of competency and mastery over the field that few have. he was my mentor during one of my postdocs and he was by far the most successful scientist i had ever worked with other than my extremely famous doctoral advisor (who, tellingly, openly admired this other guy - probably 30 years his junior). he didn't play games with his students, he knew how to be supportive and kind without doing their work for them, and he knew which students to carry for a bit and when. he was there at every coffee break in they just chatting with whomever, he always ate with us in the canteen and it never felt like "the boss" was there. he's everyone's favorite colleague because he is open, honest, insightful and can see the right thing to do very quickly. people line up to collaborate with him and he is on so many papers it's ridiculous. and he's just great to be around. he has a really dry wit but is not cynical. he has a lot of interests and knows a lot about art and literature, and many other topics. he neither only talks about work nor avoids the topic. he almost never works in the evenings or weekends, only a bit on sunday nights, and never before the kids go to bed. he takes a month off every august, just to be with his family on some british isle where he he doesn't have good cell phone service and doesn't bother to get internet access. he has a wonderful marriage, great kids, and seems to really like life, in a british sort of way - meaning, not exuberant, but you can tell. he keeps himself fresh and doesn't burn out. he works efficiently because he keeps work confined to one part of his life. this makes him happier and more productive. when i saw how effortless it was for him, and how people were throwing money and titles his way, i could see what it was to be a star. and it couldn't have happened to a nicer guy.
user: for us average people in academia: when in your academic career did you realize that you weren't going to be a star and what prompted it? now, if you are a star in your field or are on track to be one, congratulations! but this question isn't for you. i've spent my entire academic career at "highly-ranked" r1s, which means that i'm around a lot of people from undergrad students through early professors who have the expectation that they're going to be the stars of their field, and the environment promotes that. this is especially true at the university where i am currently. most people, even from big-name r1s, do not end up being stars in their field. that's not a bad thing at all and is not even necessarily their fault - it's largely the nature of how reputations in academia are developed. i've also noticed that some are able to adjust to that change in expectation of themselves very easily, while others have a really hard time letting that go. i'm just curious for all of us non-stars, when in your career did you start to recognize that you weren't going to be a star in your field? what prompted you to realize that and what did you do to adjust your frame of mind to be content with it? i'm just interested in what others' experiences are and am not looking for advice or anything - i'm well past the point of being okay with not being on a path to be a big name in my field and am content with where i am (as long as i don't run out of funding!). bot: i question the premise of your question. no matter how high you rise, you will pretty much always find yourself in the company of peers. as a faculty member, i was more educated than most, more successful than most, paid better than most, and had more secure employment than most, and surrounded by others who were just like me. was i a star? when i earned full professor and later got an endowed chair, i was still one of many. was i a star then? as a vice president, i find myself in exactly the same position. am i a star now? i guess i think it’s all a matter of perspective, and at this point in my career i personally consider anyone who makes it through a phd and goes on to an academic career to be a star. few of us ever reach the height of glory that we perhaps imagined when we were younger, but that’s true of pretty much everyone everywhere and all of us have accomplished far more than most.
user: for us average people in academia: when in your academic career did you realize that you weren't going to be a star and what prompted it? now, if you are a star in your field or are on track to be one, congratulations! but this question isn't for you. i've spent my entire academic career at "highly-ranked" r1s, which means that i'm around a lot of people from undergrad students through early professors who have the expectation that they're going to be the stars of their field, and the environment promotes that. this is especially true at the university where i am currently. most people, even from big-name r1s, do not end up being stars in their field. that's not a bad thing at all and is not even necessarily their fault - it's largely the nature of how reputations in academia are developed. i've also noticed that some are able to adjust to that change in expectation of themselves very easily, while others have a really hard time letting that go. i'm just curious for all of us non-stars, when in your career did you start to recognize that you weren't going to be a star in your field? what prompted you to realize that and what did you do to adjust your frame of mind to be content with it? i'm just interested in what others' experiences are and am not looking for advice or anything - i'm well past the point of being okay with not being on a path to be a big name in my field and am content with where i am (as long as i don't run out of funding!). bot: when i worked with a real star. i saw what it really took. it wasn't putting in a lot of hours or being ruthless or looking out for oneself. it was a real core type of competency and mastery over the field that few have. he was my mentor during one of my postdocs and he was by far the most successful scientist i had ever worked with other than my extremely famous doctoral advisor (who, tellingly, openly admired this other guy - probably 30 years his junior). he didn't play games with his students, he knew how to be supportive and kind without doing their work for them, and he knew which students to carry for a bit and when. he was there at every coffee break in they just chatting with whomever, he always ate with us in the canteen and it never felt like "the boss" was there. he's everyone's favorite colleague because he is open, honest, insightful and can see the right thing to do very quickly. people line up to collaborate with him and he is on so many papers it's ridiculous. and he's just great to be around. he has a really dry wit but is not cynical. he has a lot of interests and knows a lot about art and literature, and many other topics. he neither only talks about work nor avoids the topic. he almost never works in the evenings or weekends, only a bit on sunday nights, and never before the kids go to bed. he takes a month off every august, just to be with his family on some british isle where he he doesn't have good cell phone service and doesn't bother to get internet access. he has a wonderful marriage, great kids, and seems to really like life, in a british sort of way - meaning, not exuberant, but you can tell. he keeps himself fresh and doesn't burn out. he works efficiently because he keeps work confined to one part of his life. this makes him happier and more productive. when i saw how effortless it was for him, and how people were throwing money and titles his way, i could see what it was to be a star. and it couldn't have happened to a nicer guy.
user: for us average people in academia: when in your academic career did you realize that you weren't going to be a star and what prompted it? now, if you are a star in your field or are on track to be one, congratulations! but this question isn't for you. i've spent my entire academic career at "highly-ranked" r1s, which means that i'm around a lot of people from undergrad students through early professors who have the expectation that they're going to be the stars of their field, and the environment promotes that. this is especially true at the university where i am currently. most people, even from big-name r1s, do not end up being stars in their field. that's not a bad thing at all and is not even necessarily their fault - it's largely the nature of how reputations in academia are developed. i've also noticed that some are able to adjust to that change in expectation of themselves very easily, while others have a really hard time letting that go. i'm just curious for all of us non-stars, when in your career did you start to recognize that you weren't going to be a star in your field? what prompted you to realize that and what did you do to adjust your frame of mind to be content with it? i'm just interested in what others' experiences are and am not looking for advice or anything - i'm well past the point of being okay with not being on a path to be a big name in my field and am content with where i am (as long as i don't run out of funding!). bot: maybe i'm just a pessimist, but i honestly never thought i'd be one. my parents are phds that didn't get tenure, much less become stars. i'm just trying to hold on and find a career i enjoy (either within or outside academia).
user: for us average people in academia: when in your academic career did you realize that you weren't going to be a star and what prompted it? now, if you are a star in your field or are on track to be one, congratulations! but this question isn't for you. i've spent my entire academic career at "highly-ranked" r1s, which means that i'm around a lot of people from undergrad students through early professors who have the expectation that they're going to be the stars of their field, and the environment promotes that. this is especially true at the university where i am currently. most people, even from big-name r1s, do not end up being stars in their field. that's not a bad thing at all and is not even necessarily their fault - it's largely the nature of how reputations in academia are developed. i've also noticed that some are able to adjust to that change in expectation of themselves very easily, while others have a really hard time letting that go. i'm just curious for all of us non-stars, when in your career did you start to recognize that you weren't going to be a star in your field? what prompted you to realize that and what did you do to adjust your frame of mind to be content with it? i'm just interested in what others' experiences are and am not looking for advice or anything - i'm well past the point of being okay with not being on a path to be a big name in my field and am content with where i am (as long as i don't run out of funding!). bot: when i worked with a real star. i saw what it really took. it wasn't putting in a lot of hours or being ruthless or looking out for oneself. it was a real core type of competency and mastery over the field that few have. he was my mentor during one of my postdocs and he was by far the most successful scientist i had ever worked with other than my extremely famous doctoral advisor (who, tellingly, openly admired this other guy - probably 30 years his junior). he didn't play games with his students, he knew how to be supportive and kind without doing their work for them, and he knew which students to carry for a bit and when. he was there at every coffee break in they just chatting with whomever, he always ate with us in the canteen and it never felt like "the boss" was there. he's everyone's favorite colleague because he is open, honest, insightful and can see the right thing to do very quickly. people line up to collaborate with him and he is on so many papers it's ridiculous. and he's just great to be around. he has a really dry wit but is not cynical. he has a lot of interests and knows a lot about art and literature, and many other topics. he neither only talks about work nor avoids the topic. he almost never works in the evenings or weekends, only a bit on sunday nights, and never before the kids go to bed. he takes a month off every august, just to be with his family on some british isle where he he doesn't have good cell phone service and doesn't bother to get internet access. he has a wonderful marriage, great kids, and seems to really like life, in a british sort of way - meaning, not exuberant, but you can tell. he keeps himself fresh and doesn't burn out. he works efficiently because he keeps work confined to one part of his life. this makes him happier and more productive. when i saw how effortless it was for him, and how people were throwing money and titles his way, i could see what it was to be a star. and it couldn't have happened to a nicer guy.
user: for us average people in academia: when in your academic career did you realize that you weren't going to be a star and what prompted it? now, if you are a star in your field or are on track to be one, congratulations! but this question isn't for you. i've spent my entire academic career at "highly-ranked" r1s, which means that i'm around a lot of people from undergrad students through early professors who have the expectation that they're going to be the stars of their field, and the environment promotes that. this is especially true at the university where i am currently. most people, even from big-name r1s, do not end up being stars in their field. that's not a bad thing at all and is not even necessarily their fault - it's largely the nature of how reputations in academia are developed. i've also noticed that some are able to adjust to that change in expectation of themselves very easily, while others have a really hard time letting that go. i'm just curious for all of us non-stars, when in your career did you start to recognize that you weren't going to be a star in your field? what prompted you to realize that and what did you do to adjust your frame of mind to be content with it? i'm just interested in what others' experiences are and am not looking for advice or anything - i'm well past the point of being okay with not being on a path to be a big name in my field and am content with where i am (as long as i don't run out of funding!). bot: i never expected to be a star, but about halfway through my phd program is when i realized that i was making myself sick with how stressed i was about everything and i decided to just chill out. plus, my advisors did nothing but put obstacles in my way of doing the research i actually wanted and so... that sort of out a damper on my plans, too.
user: for us average people in academia: when in your academic career did you realize that you weren't going to be a star and what prompted it? now, if you are a star in your field or are on track to be one, congratulations! but this question isn't for you. i've spent my entire academic career at "highly-ranked" r1s, which means that i'm around a lot of people from undergrad students through early professors who have the expectation that they're going to be the stars of their field, and the environment promotes that. this is especially true at the university where i am currently. most people, even from big-name r1s, do not end up being stars in their field. that's not a bad thing at all and is not even necessarily their fault - it's largely the nature of how reputations in academia are developed. i've also noticed that some are able to adjust to that change in expectation of themselves very easily, while others have a really hard time letting that go. i'm just curious for all of us non-stars, when in your career did you start to recognize that you weren't going to be a star in your field? what prompted you to realize that and what did you do to adjust your frame of mind to be content with it? i'm just interested in what others' experiences are and am not looking for advice or anything - i'm well past the point of being okay with not being on a path to be a big name in my field and am content with where i am (as long as i don't run out of funding!). bot: when i worked with a real star. i saw what it really took. it wasn't putting in a lot of hours or being ruthless or looking out for oneself. it was a real core type of competency and mastery over the field that few have. he was my mentor during one of my postdocs and he was by far the most successful scientist i had ever worked with other than my extremely famous doctoral advisor (who, tellingly, openly admired this other guy - probably 30 years his junior). he didn't play games with his students, he knew how to be supportive and kind without doing their work for them, and he knew which students to carry for a bit and when. he was there at every coffee break in they just chatting with whomever, he always ate with us in the canteen and it never felt like "the boss" was there. he's everyone's favorite colleague because he is open, honest, insightful and can see the right thing to do very quickly. people line up to collaborate with him and he is on so many papers it's ridiculous. and he's just great to be around. he has a really dry wit but is not cynical. he has a lot of interests and knows a lot about art and literature, and many other topics. he neither only talks about work nor avoids the topic. he almost never works in the evenings or weekends, only a bit on sunday nights, and never before the kids go to bed. he takes a month off every august, just to be with his family on some british isle where he he doesn't have good cell phone service and doesn't bother to get internet access. he has a wonderful marriage, great kids, and seems to really like life, in a british sort of way - meaning, not exuberant, but you can tell. he keeps himself fresh and doesn't burn out. he works efficiently because he keeps work confined to one part of his life. this makes him happier and more productive. when i saw how effortless it was for him, and how people were throwing money and titles his way, i could see what it was to be a star. and it couldn't have happened to a nicer guy.
user: for us average people in academia: when in your academic career did you realize that you weren't going to be a star and what prompted it? now, if you are a star in your field or are on track to be one, congratulations! but this question isn't for you. i've spent my entire academic career at "highly-ranked" r1s, which means that i'm around a lot of people from undergrad students through early professors who have the expectation that they're going to be the stars of their field, and the environment promotes that. this is especially true at the university where i am currently. most people, even from big-name r1s, do not end up being stars in their field. that's not a bad thing at all and is not even necessarily their fault - it's largely the nature of how reputations in academia are developed. i've also noticed that some are able to adjust to that change in expectation of themselves very easily, while others have a really hard time letting that go. i'm just curious for all of us non-stars, when in your career did you start to recognize that you weren't going to be a star in your field? what prompted you to realize that and what did you do to adjust your frame of mind to be content with it? i'm just interested in what others' experiences are and am not looking for advice or anything - i'm well past the point of being okay with not being on a path to be a big name in my field and am content with where i am (as long as i don't run out of funding!). bot: i always find the "academic star" thing odd. compare to "stars" in other areas - pop music, films - and they are usually fashionable but often critically panned. those we see as "academic stars" are usually a combination of privilege, nepotism, marketing, work-life balance sacrifice, as well as research excellence.
user: for us average people in academia: when in your academic career did you realize that you weren't going to be a star and what prompted it? now, if you are a star in your field or are on track to be one, congratulations! but this question isn't for you. i've spent my entire academic career at "highly-ranked" r1s, which means that i'm around a lot of people from undergrad students through early professors who have the expectation that they're going to be the stars of their field, and the environment promotes that. this is especially true at the university where i am currently. most people, even from big-name r1s, do not end up being stars in their field. that's not a bad thing at all and is not even necessarily their fault - it's largely the nature of how reputations in academia are developed. i've also noticed that some are able to adjust to that change in expectation of themselves very easily, while others have a really hard time letting that go. i'm just curious for all of us non-stars, when in your career did you start to recognize that you weren't going to be a star in your field? what prompted you to realize that and what did you do to adjust your frame of mind to be content with it? i'm just interested in what others' experiences are and am not looking for advice or anything - i'm well past the point of being okay with not being on a path to be a big name in my field and am content with where i am (as long as i don't run out of funding!). bot: when i took a permanent contract at a mid level university, looked at my objectives and the promotion criteria and realised i could have a decent albeit unremarkable career and a life outside work. i do good work, stars in my field have said nice things about my papers but i write three of those a year, they write 9. but then i realised that the answer to 'when do they sleep' is they dont.
user: for us average people in academia: when in your academic career did you realize that you weren't going to be a star and what prompted it? now, if you are a star in your field or are on track to be one, congratulations! but this question isn't for you. i've spent my entire academic career at "highly-ranked" r1s, which means that i'm around a lot of people from undergrad students through early professors who have the expectation that they're going to be the stars of their field, and the environment promotes that. this is especially true at the university where i am currently. most people, even from big-name r1s, do not end up being stars in their field. that's not a bad thing at all and is not even necessarily their fault - it's largely the nature of how reputations in academia are developed. i've also noticed that some are able to adjust to that change in expectation of themselves very easily, while others have a really hard time letting that go. i'm just curious for all of us non-stars, when in your career did you start to recognize that you weren't going to be a star in your field? what prompted you to realize that and what did you do to adjust your frame of mind to be content with it? i'm just interested in what others' experiences are and am not looking for advice or anything - i'm well past the point of being okay with not being on a path to be a big name in my field and am content with where i am (as long as i don't run out of funding!). bot: i never expected to be a star, but about halfway through my phd program is when i realized that i was making myself sick with how stressed i was about everything and i decided to just chill out. plus, my advisors did nothing but put obstacles in my way of doing the research i actually wanted and so... that sort of out a damper on my plans, too.
user: for us average people in academia: when in your academic career did you realize that you weren't going to be a star and what prompted it? now, if you are a star in your field or are on track to be one, congratulations! but this question isn't for you. i've spent my entire academic career at "highly-ranked" r1s, which means that i'm around a lot of people from undergrad students through early professors who have the expectation that they're going to be the stars of their field, and the environment promotes that. this is especially true at the university where i am currently. most people, even from big-name r1s, do not end up being stars in their field. that's not a bad thing at all and is not even necessarily their fault - it's largely the nature of how reputations in academia are developed. i've also noticed that some are able to adjust to that change in expectation of themselves very easily, while others have a really hard time letting that go. i'm just curious for all of us non-stars, when in your career did you start to recognize that you weren't going to be a star in your field? what prompted you to realize that and what did you do to adjust your frame of mind to be content with it? i'm just interested in what others' experiences are and am not looking for advice or anything - i'm well past the point of being okay with not being on a path to be a big name in my field and am content with where i am (as long as i don't run out of funding!). bot: but what does academic stardom even mean? some people might think of it as being highly cited, but more and more we've realized that citations tend to be more a popularity game rather than a metric of success. maybe it's having a ton of patents? then again, patenting something can be very basic, and tons of people in industry have patents without being academics. is it maybe coming up with a novel or breakthrough idea or method? i'd say plenty of academics have done this, but it hasn't been the right time or place to successfully get their innovation recognized. is it having your own research project? getting a lot of grants, or really big money grants? more and more stardom just sounds like a game of networking and being in the right place at the right time. a lot of it is luck. i'd doubt jonas salk thought of himself as a star, and people were giving up their seats on the bus for him. i'm genuinely curious about all of this, because even while i've worked with a number of different fields, i wouldn't say i've met any stars.
user: for us average people in academia: when in your academic career did you realize that you weren't going to be a star and what prompted it? now, if you are a star in your field or are on track to be one, congratulations! but this question isn't for you. i've spent my entire academic career at "highly-ranked" r1s, which means that i'm around a lot of people from undergrad students through early professors who have the expectation that they're going to be the stars of their field, and the environment promotes that. this is especially true at the university where i am currently. most people, even from big-name r1s, do not end up being stars in their field. that's not a bad thing at all and is not even necessarily their fault - it's largely the nature of how reputations in academia are developed. i've also noticed that some are able to adjust to that change in expectation of themselves very easily, while others have a really hard time letting that go. i'm just curious for all of us non-stars, when in your career did you start to recognize that you weren't going to be a star in your field? what prompted you to realize that and what did you do to adjust your frame of mind to be content with it? i'm just interested in what others' experiences are and am not looking for advice or anything - i'm well past the point of being okay with not being on a path to be a big name in my field and am content with where i am (as long as i don't run out of funding!). bot: i never expected to be a star, but about halfway through my phd program is when i realized that i was making myself sick with how stressed i was about everything and i decided to just chill out. plus, my advisors did nothing but put obstacles in my way of doing the research i actually wanted and so... that sort of out a damper on my plans, too.
user: for us average people in academia: when in your academic career did you realize that you weren't going to be a star and what prompted it? now, if you are a star in your field or are on track to be one, congratulations! but this question isn't for you. i've spent my entire academic career at "highly-ranked" r1s, which means that i'm around a lot of people from undergrad students through early professors who have the expectation that they're going to be the stars of their field, and the environment promotes that. this is especially true at the university where i am currently. most people, even from big-name r1s, do not end up being stars in their field. that's not a bad thing at all and is not even necessarily their fault - it's largely the nature of how reputations in academia are developed. i've also noticed that some are able to adjust to that change in expectation of themselves very easily, while others have a really hard time letting that go. i'm just curious for all of us non-stars, when in your career did you start to recognize that you weren't going to be a star in your field? what prompted you to realize that and what did you do to adjust your frame of mind to be content with it? i'm just interested in what others' experiences are and am not looking for advice or anything - i'm well past the point of being okay with not being on a path to be a big name in my field and am content with where i am (as long as i don't run out of funding!). bot: i don't think being a star ever crossed my mind. it's pretty obvious that even if you are very smart and hard working, there's a lot of luck involved and the competition is fierce. i just wanted to do something meaningful with my life.
user: for us average people in academia: when in your academic career did you realize that you weren't going to be a star and what prompted it? now, if you are a star in your field or are on track to be one, congratulations! but this question isn't for you. i've spent my entire academic career at "highly-ranked" r1s, which means that i'm around a lot of people from undergrad students through early professors who have the expectation that they're going to be the stars of their field, and the environment promotes that. this is especially true at the university where i am currently. most people, even from big-name r1s, do not end up being stars in their field. that's not a bad thing at all and is not even necessarily their fault - it's largely the nature of how reputations in academia are developed. i've also noticed that some are able to adjust to that change in expectation of themselves very easily, while others have a really hard time letting that go. i'm just curious for all of us non-stars, when in your career did you start to recognize that you weren't going to be a star in your field? what prompted you to realize that and what did you do to adjust your frame of mind to be content with it? i'm just interested in what others' experiences are and am not looking for advice or anything - i'm well past the point of being okay with not being on a path to be a big name in my field and am content with where i am (as long as i don't run out of funding!). bot: maybe i'm just a pessimist, but i honestly never thought i'd be one. my parents are phds that didn't get tenure, much less become stars. i'm just trying to hold on and find a career i enjoy (either within or outside academia).
user: for us average people in academia: when in your academic career did you realize that you weren't going to be a star and what prompted it? now, if you are a star in your field or are on track to be one, congratulations! but this question isn't for you. i've spent my entire academic career at "highly-ranked" r1s, which means that i'm around a lot of people from undergrad students through early professors who have the expectation that they're going to be the stars of their field, and the environment promotes that. this is especially true at the university where i am currently. most people, even from big-name r1s, do not end up being stars in their field. that's not a bad thing at all and is not even necessarily their fault - it's largely the nature of how reputations in academia are developed. i've also noticed that some are able to adjust to that change in expectation of themselves very easily, while others have a really hard time letting that go. i'm just curious for all of us non-stars, when in your career did you start to recognize that you weren't going to be a star in your field? what prompted you to realize that and what did you do to adjust your frame of mind to be content with it? i'm just interested in what others' experiences are and am not looking for advice or anything - i'm well past the point of being okay with not being on a path to be a big name in my field and am content with where i am (as long as i don't run out of funding!). bot: i don't think being a star ever crossed my mind. it's pretty obvious that even if you are very smart and hard working, there's a lot of luck involved and the competition is fierce. i just wanted to do something meaningful with my life.
user: for us average people in academia: when in your academic career did you realize that you weren't going to be a star and what prompted it? now, if you are a star in your field or are on track to be one, congratulations! but this question isn't for you. i've spent my entire academic career at "highly-ranked" r1s, which means that i'm around a lot of people from undergrad students through early professors who have the expectation that they're going to be the stars of their field, and the environment promotes that. this is especially true at the university where i am currently. most people, even from big-name r1s, do not end up being stars in their field. that's not a bad thing at all and is not even necessarily their fault - it's largely the nature of how reputations in academia are developed. i've also noticed that some are able to adjust to that change in expectation of themselves very easily, while others have a really hard time letting that go. i'm just curious for all of us non-stars, when in your career did you start to recognize that you weren't going to be a star in your field? what prompted you to realize that and what did you do to adjust your frame of mind to be content with it? i'm just interested in what others' experiences are and am not looking for advice or anything - i'm well past the point of being okay with not being on a path to be a big name in my field and am content with where i am (as long as i don't run out of funding!). bot: i never expected to be a star, but about halfway through my phd program is when i realized that i was making myself sick with how stressed i was about everything and i decided to just chill out. plus, my advisors did nothing but put obstacles in my way of doing the research i actually wanted and so... that sort of out a damper on my plans, too.
user: phd defense in a few hours just getting this off my chest. i'll defend in a few hours and genuinely think there is a big probability that i will fail. my thesis is an embarrassment to myself, my pi, and the field. data is limited, analysis is very simple, conclusions are unclear. i could train a master student and the whole data collection could be completed in 2 months. the analysis approach is like the ones done in the 70s or 80s, product of a bygone era. i don't belong on the modern, cutting edge area of science. i have made peace (slightly) that it's ok if i fail. i will go back to my home country this weekend (will be expensive but i don't care anymore), leave science forever (imagine wanting to understand the brain lol, what a nerd), and start my life anew. i just don't want my family and closest friends see me differently if i fail. bot: if there was a chance you'd fail, your supervisor wouldn't allow you to defend
user: phd defense in a few hours just getting this off my chest. i'll defend in a few hours and genuinely think there is a big probability that i will fail. my thesis is an embarrassment to myself, my pi, and the field. data is limited, analysis is very simple, conclusions are unclear. i could train a master student and the whole data collection could be completed in 2 months. the analysis approach is like the ones done in the 70s or 80s, product of a bygone era. i don't belong on the modern, cutting edge area of science. i have made peace (slightly) that it's ok if i fail. i will go back to my home country this weekend (will be expensive but i don't care anymore), leave science forever (imagine wanting to understand the brain lol, what a nerd), and start my life anew. i just don't want my family and closest friends see me differently if i fail. bot: good luck!!!!! please have hope and remember that failing is part of our journey. do your best as there’s nothing else that could be done today. you never know how things might turn out as you’re just nervous..
user: phd defense in a few hours just getting this off my chest. i'll defend in a few hours and genuinely think there is a big probability that i will fail. my thesis is an embarrassment to myself, my pi, and the field. data is limited, analysis is very simple, conclusions are unclear. i could train a master student and the whole data collection could be completed in 2 months. the analysis approach is like the ones done in the 70s or 80s, product of a bygone era. i don't belong on the modern, cutting edge area of science. i have made peace (slightly) that it's ok if i fail. i will go back to my home country this weekend (will be expensive but i don't care anymore), leave science forever (imagine wanting to understand the brain lol, what a nerd), and start my life anew. i just don't want my family and closest friends see me differently if i fail. bot: if there was a chance you'd fail, your supervisor wouldn't allow you to defend
user: phd defense in a few hours just getting this off my chest. i'll defend in a few hours and genuinely think there is a big probability that i will fail. my thesis is an embarrassment to myself, my pi, and the field. data is limited, analysis is very simple, conclusions are unclear. i could train a master student and the whole data collection could be completed in 2 months. the analysis approach is like the ones done in the 70s or 80s, product of a bygone era. i don't belong on the modern, cutting edge area of science. i have made peace (slightly) that it's ok if i fail. i will go back to my home country this weekend (will be expensive but i don't care anymore), leave science forever (imagine wanting to understand the brain lol, what a nerd), and start my life anew. i just don't want my family and closest friends see me differently if i fail. bot: all the best
user: phd defense in a few hours just getting this off my chest. i'll defend in a few hours and genuinely think there is a big probability that i will fail. my thesis is an embarrassment to myself, my pi, and the field. data is limited, analysis is very simple, conclusions are unclear. i could train a master student and the whole data collection could be completed in 2 months. the analysis approach is like the ones done in the 70s or 80s, product of a bygone era. i don't belong on the modern, cutting edge area of science. i have made peace (slightly) that it's ok if i fail. i will go back to my home country this weekend (will be expensive but i don't care anymore), leave science forever (imagine wanting to understand the brain lol, what a nerd), and start my life anew. i just don't want my family and closest friends see me differently if i fail. bot: please check back in this thread and tell us how it went. good luck!
user: phd defense in a few hours just getting this off my chest. i'll defend in a few hours and genuinely think there is a big probability that i will fail. my thesis is an embarrassment to myself, my pi, and the field. data is limited, analysis is very simple, conclusions are unclear. i could train a master student and the whole data collection could be completed in 2 months. the analysis approach is like the ones done in the 70s or 80s, product of a bygone era. i don't belong on the modern, cutting edge area of science. i have made peace (slightly) that it's ok if i fail. i will go back to my home country this weekend (will be expensive but i don't care anymore), leave science forever (imagine wanting to understand the brain lol, what a nerd), and start my life anew. i just don't want my family and closest friends see me differently if i fail. bot: good luck!!!!! please have hope and remember that failing is part of our journey. do your best as there’s nothing else that could be done today. you never know how things might turn out as you’re just nervous..
user: phd defense in a few hours just getting this off my chest. i'll defend in a few hours and genuinely think there is a big probability that i will fail. my thesis is an embarrassment to myself, my pi, and the field. data is limited, analysis is very simple, conclusions are unclear. i could train a master student and the whole data collection could be completed in 2 months. the analysis approach is like the ones done in the 70s or 80s, product of a bygone era. i don't belong on the modern, cutting edge area of science. i have made peace (slightly) that it's ok if i fail. i will go back to my home country this weekend (will be expensive but i don't care anymore), leave science forever (imagine wanting to understand the brain lol, what a nerd), and start my life anew. i just don't want my family and closest friends see me differently if i fail. bot: please check back in this thread and tell us how it went. good luck!
user: phd defense in a few hours just getting this off my chest. i'll defend in a few hours and genuinely think there is a big probability that i will fail. my thesis is an embarrassment to myself, my pi, and the field. data is limited, analysis is very simple, conclusions are unclear. i could train a master student and the whole data collection could be completed in 2 months. the analysis approach is like the ones done in the 70s or 80s, product of a bygone era. i don't belong on the modern, cutting edge area of science. i have made peace (slightly) that it's ok if i fail. i will go back to my home country this weekend (will be expensive but i don't care anymore), leave science forever (imagine wanting to understand the brain lol, what a nerd), and start my life anew. i just don't want my family and closest friends see me differently if i fail. bot: all the best
user: phd defense in a few hours just getting this off my chest. i'll defend in a few hours and genuinely think there is a big probability that i will fail. my thesis is an embarrassment to myself, my pi, and the field. data is limited, analysis is very simple, conclusions are unclear. i could train a master student and the whole data collection could be completed in 2 months. the analysis approach is like the ones done in the 70s or 80s, product of a bygone era. i don't belong on the modern, cutting edge area of science. i have made peace (slightly) that it's ok if i fail. i will go back to my home country this weekend (will be expensive but i don't care anymore), leave science forever (imagine wanting to understand the brain lol, what a nerd), and start my life anew. i just don't want my family and closest friends see me differently if i fail. bot: i don't know if it helps, but we all felt that way before the defense: i knw i did, and it went great. best of luck to you. edit: i don't know the american system very well, i'm french and teach in france, but there are no reason to fail you if your supervisor has allowed you to defend: this would be seen as a direct attack on them, and a default to the rules of collegiality. if they had confidence in you, confident enough they would their name on your work, it means your thesis is not the failure you think it is.
user: phd defense in a few hours just getting this off my chest. i'll defend in a few hours and genuinely think there is a big probability that i will fail. my thesis is an embarrassment to myself, my pi, and the field. data is limited, analysis is very simple, conclusions are unclear. i could train a master student and the whole data collection could be completed in 2 months. the analysis approach is like the ones done in the 70s or 80s, product of a bygone era. i don't belong on the modern, cutting edge area of science. i have made peace (slightly) that it's ok if i fail. i will go back to my home country this weekend (will be expensive but i don't care anymore), leave science forever (imagine wanting to understand the brain lol, what a nerd), and start my life anew. i just don't want my family and closest friends see me differently if i fail. bot: good luck!!!!! please have hope and remember that failing is part of our journey. do your best as there’s nothing else that could be done today. you never know how things might turn out as you’re just nervous..
user: phd defense in a few hours just getting this off my chest. i'll defend in a few hours and genuinely think there is a big probability that i will fail. my thesis is an embarrassment to myself, my pi, and the field. data is limited, analysis is very simple, conclusions are unclear. i could train a master student and the whole data collection could be completed in 2 months. the analysis approach is like the ones done in the 70s or 80s, product of a bygone era. i don't belong on the modern, cutting edge area of science. i have made peace (slightly) that it's ok if i fail. i will go back to my home country this weekend (will be expensive but i don't care anymore), leave science forever (imagine wanting to understand the brain lol, what a nerd), and start my life anew. i just don't want my family and closest friends see me differently if i fail. bot: i don't know if it helps, but we all felt that way before the defense: i knw i did, and it went great. best of luck to you. edit: i don't know the american system very well, i'm french and teach in france, but there are no reason to fail you if your supervisor has allowed you to defend: this would be seen as a direct attack on them, and a default to the rules of collegiality. if they had confidence in you, confident enough they would their name on your work, it means your thesis is not the failure you think it is.
user: phd defense in a few hours just getting this off my chest. i'll defend in a few hours and genuinely think there is a big probability that i will fail. my thesis is an embarrassment to myself, my pi, and the field. data is limited, analysis is very simple, conclusions are unclear. i could train a master student and the whole data collection could be completed in 2 months. the analysis approach is like the ones done in the 70s or 80s, product of a bygone era. i don't belong on the modern, cutting edge area of science. i have made peace (slightly) that it's ok if i fail. i will go back to my home country this weekend (will be expensive but i don't care anymore), leave science forever (imagine wanting to understand the brain lol, what a nerd), and start my life anew. i just don't want my family and closest friends see me differently if i fail. bot: all the best
user: phd defense in a few hours just getting this off my chest. i'll defend in a few hours and genuinely think there is a big probability that i will fail. my thesis is an embarrassment to myself, my pi, and the field. data is limited, analysis is very simple, conclusions are unclear. i could train a master student and the whole data collection could be completed in 2 months. the analysis approach is like the ones done in the 70s or 80s, product of a bygone era. i don't belong on the modern, cutting edge area of science. i have made peace (slightly) that it's ok if i fail. i will go back to my home country this weekend (will be expensive but i don't care anymore), leave science forever (imagine wanting to understand the brain lol, what a nerd), and start my life anew. i just don't want my family and closest friends see me differently if i fail. bot: hey op give us an update, are you not just of of these people who always think they will fail their exams and have a big impostor syndrom? in many countries and us as well i guess if the manuscript is accepted for the defense there is no way to fail. you basically have your phd already, you just need to show that you know what i inside and why it's done this way. if you were not ready for that and the manuscript was not good enough it would not be accepted for defense.
user: phd defense in a few hours just getting this off my chest. i'll defend in a few hours and genuinely think there is a big probability that i will fail. my thesis is an embarrassment to myself, my pi, and the field. data is limited, analysis is very simple, conclusions are unclear. i could train a master student and the whole data collection could be completed in 2 months. the analysis approach is like the ones done in the 70s or 80s, product of a bygone era. i don't belong on the modern, cutting edge area of science. i have made peace (slightly) that it's ok if i fail. i will go back to my home country this weekend (will be expensive but i don't care anymore), leave science forever (imagine wanting to understand the brain lol, what a nerd), and start my life anew. i just don't want my family and closest friends see me differently if i fail. bot: good luck!!!!! please have hope and remember that failing is part of our journey. do your best as there’s nothing else that could be done today. you never know how things might turn out as you’re just nervous..
user: phd defense in a few hours just getting this off my chest. i'll defend in a few hours and genuinely think there is a big probability that i will fail. my thesis is an embarrassment to myself, my pi, and the field. data is limited, analysis is very simple, conclusions are unclear. i could train a master student and the whole data collection could be completed in 2 months. the analysis approach is like the ones done in the 70s or 80s, product of a bygone era. i don't belong on the modern, cutting edge area of science. i have made peace (slightly) that it's ok if i fail. i will go back to my home country this weekend (will be expensive but i don't care anymore), leave science forever (imagine wanting to understand the brain lol, what a nerd), and start my life anew. i just don't want my family and closest friends see me differently if i fail. bot: hey op give us an update, are you not just of of these people who always think they will fail their exams and have a big impostor syndrom? in many countries and us as well i guess if the manuscript is accepted for the defense there is no way to fail. you basically have your phd already, you just need to show that you know what i inside and why it's done this way. if you were not ready for that and the manuscript was not good enough it would not be accepted for defense.
user: phd defense in a few hours just getting this off my chest. i'll defend in a few hours and genuinely think there is a big probability that i will fail. my thesis is an embarrassment to myself, my pi, and the field. data is limited, analysis is very simple, conclusions are unclear. i could train a master student and the whole data collection could be completed in 2 months. the analysis approach is like the ones done in the 70s or 80s, product of a bygone era. i don't belong on the modern, cutting edge area of science. i have made peace (slightly) that it's ok if i fail. i will go back to my home country this weekend (will be expensive but i don't care anymore), leave science forever (imagine wanting to understand the brain lol, what a nerd), and start my life anew. i just don't want my family and closest friends see me differently if i fail. bot: all the best
user: phd defense in a few hours just getting this off my chest. i'll defend in a few hours and genuinely think there is a big probability that i will fail. my thesis is an embarrassment to myself, my pi, and the field. data is limited, analysis is very simple, conclusions are unclear. i could train a master student and the whole data collection could be completed in 2 months. the analysis approach is like the ones done in the 70s or 80s, product of a bygone era. i don't belong on the modern, cutting edge area of science. i have made peace (slightly) that it's ok if i fail. i will go back to my home country this weekend (will be expensive but i don't care anymore), leave science forever (imagine wanting to understand the brain lol, what a nerd), and start my life anew. i just don't want my family and closest friends see me differently if i fail. bot: hey op give us an update, are you not just of of these people who always think they will fail their exams and have a big impostor syndrom? in many countries and us as well i guess if the manuscript is accepted for the defense there is no way to fail. you basically have your phd already, you just need to show that you know what i inside and why it's done this way. if you were not ready for that and the manuscript was not good enough it would not be accepted for defense.
user: phd defense in a few hours just getting this off my chest. i'll defend in a few hours and genuinely think there is a big probability that i will fail. my thesis is an embarrassment to myself, my pi, and the field. data is limited, analysis is very simple, conclusions are unclear. i could train a master student and the whole data collection could be completed in 2 months. the analysis approach is like the ones done in the 70s or 80s, product of a bygone era. i don't belong on the modern, cutting edge area of science. i have made peace (slightly) that it's ok if i fail. i will go back to my home country this weekend (will be expensive but i don't care anymore), leave science forever (imagine wanting to understand the brain lol, what a nerd), and start my life anew. i just don't want my family and closest friends see me differently if i fail. bot: you'll be highly valued in many industries beyond your current subject. good luck with the defense and i hope it's a relief to have it finished.
user: phd defense in a few hours just getting this off my chest. i'll defend in a few hours and genuinely think there is a big probability that i will fail. my thesis is an embarrassment to myself, my pi, and the field. data is limited, analysis is very simple, conclusions are unclear. i could train a master student and the whole data collection could be completed in 2 months. the analysis approach is like the ones done in the 70s or 80s, product of a bygone era. i don't belong on the modern, cutting edge area of science. i have made peace (slightly) that it's ok if i fail. i will go back to my home country this weekend (will be expensive but i don't care anymore), leave science forever (imagine wanting to understand the brain lol, what a nerd), and start my life anew. i just don't want my family and closest friends see me differently if i fail. bot: op: if what you’re saying about your work were true, they wouldn’t have allowed you to get to the defence stage. that’s what the whole process is there for.
user: phd defense in a few hours just getting this off my chest. i'll defend in a few hours and genuinely think there is a big probability that i will fail. my thesis is an embarrassment to myself, my pi, and the field. data is limited, analysis is very simple, conclusions are unclear. i could train a master student and the whole data collection could be completed in 2 months. the analysis approach is like the ones done in the 70s or 80s, product of a bygone era. i don't belong on the modern, cutting edge area of science. i have made peace (slightly) that it's ok if i fail. i will go back to my home country this weekend (will be expensive but i don't care anymore), leave science forever (imagine wanting to understand the brain lol, what a nerd), and start my life anew. i just don't want my family and closest friends see me differently if i fail. bot: good luck!!!!! please have hope and remember that failing is part of our journey. do your best as there’s nothing else that could be done today. you never know how things might turn out as you’re just nervous..
user: phd defense in a few hours just getting this off my chest. i'll defend in a few hours and genuinely think there is a big probability that i will fail. my thesis is an embarrassment to myself, my pi, and the field. data is limited, analysis is very simple, conclusions are unclear. i could train a master student and the whole data collection could be completed in 2 months. the analysis approach is like the ones done in the 70s or 80s, product of a bygone era. i don't belong on the modern, cutting edge area of science. i have made peace (slightly) that it's ok if i fail. i will go back to my home country this weekend (will be expensive but i don't care anymore), leave science forever (imagine wanting to understand the brain lol, what a nerd), and start my life anew. i just don't want my family and closest friends see me differently if i fail. bot: op: if what you’re saying about your work were true, they wouldn’t have allowed you to get to the defence stage. that’s what the whole process is there for.
user: phd defense in a few hours just getting this off my chest. i'll defend in a few hours and genuinely think there is a big probability that i will fail. my thesis is an embarrassment to myself, my pi, and the field. data is limited, analysis is very simple, conclusions are unclear. i could train a master student and the whole data collection could be completed in 2 months. the analysis approach is like the ones done in the 70s or 80s, product of a bygone era. i don't belong on the modern, cutting edge area of science. i have made peace (slightly) that it's ok if i fail. i will go back to my home country this weekend (will be expensive but i don't care anymore), leave science forever (imagine wanting to understand the brain lol, what a nerd), and start my life anew. i just don't want my family and closest friends see me differently if i fail. bot: all the best
user: phd defense in a few hours just getting this off my chest. i'll defend in a few hours and genuinely think there is a big probability that i will fail. my thesis is an embarrassment to myself, my pi, and the field. data is limited, analysis is very simple, conclusions are unclear. i could train a master student and the whole data collection could be completed in 2 months. the analysis approach is like the ones done in the 70s or 80s, product of a bygone era. i don't belong on the modern, cutting edge area of science. i have made peace (slightly) that it's ok if i fail. i will go back to my home country this weekend (will be expensive but i don't care anymore), leave science forever (imagine wanting to understand the brain lol, what a nerd), and start my life anew. i just don't want my family and closest friends see me differently if i fail. bot: op: if what you’re saying about your work were true, they wouldn’t have allowed you to get to the defence stage. that’s what the whole process is there for.
user: phd defense in a few hours just getting this off my chest. i'll defend in a few hours and genuinely think there is a big probability that i will fail. my thesis is an embarrassment to myself, my pi, and the field. data is limited, analysis is very simple, conclusions are unclear. i could train a master student and the whole data collection could be completed in 2 months. the analysis approach is like the ones done in the 70s or 80s, product of a bygone era. i don't belong on the modern, cutting edge area of science. i have made peace (slightly) that it's ok if i fail. i will go back to my home country this weekend (will be expensive but i don't care anymore), leave science forever (imagine wanting to understand the brain lol, what a nerd), and start my life anew. i just don't want my family and closest friends see me differently if i fail. bot: you'll be highly valued in many industries beyond your current subject. good luck with the defense and i hope it's a relief to have it finished.
user: phd defense in a few hours just getting this off my chest. i'll defend in a few hours and genuinely think there is a big probability that i will fail. my thesis is an embarrassment to myself, my pi, and the field. data is limited, analysis is very simple, conclusions are unclear. i could train a master student and the whole data collection could be completed in 2 months. the analysis approach is like the ones done in the 70s or 80s, product of a bygone era. i don't belong on the modern, cutting edge area of science. i have made peace (slightly) that it's ok if i fail. i will go back to my home country this weekend (will be expensive but i don't care anymore), leave science forever (imagine wanting to understand the brain lol, what a nerd), and start my life anew. i just don't want my family and closest friends see me differently if i fail. bot: i hated my data…. and all turned out okay. gosh…been there done that during my abd time…. you are an expert of your data…. of what your have. don’t sell yourself short hope for a pass with revisions…. even if extensive…. you’d have passed…. yes good luck and if willing, update us!
user: phd defense in a few hours just getting this off my chest. i'll defend in a few hours and genuinely think there is a big probability that i will fail. my thesis is an embarrassment to myself, my pi, and the field. data is limited, analysis is very simple, conclusions are unclear. i could train a master student and the whole data collection could be completed in 2 months. the analysis approach is like the ones done in the 70s or 80s, product of a bygone era. i don't belong on the modern, cutting edge area of science. i have made peace (slightly) that it's ok if i fail. i will go back to my home country this weekend (will be expensive but i don't care anymore), leave science forever (imagine wanting to understand the brain lol, what a nerd), and start my life anew. i just don't want my family and closest friends see me differently if i fail. bot: all the best
user: phd defense in a few hours just getting this off my chest. i'll defend in a few hours and genuinely think there is a big probability that i will fail. my thesis is an embarrassment to myself, my pi, and the field. data is limited, analysis is very simple, conclusions are unclear. i could train a master student and the whole data collection could be completed in 2 months. the analysis approach is like the ones done in the 70s or 80s, product of a bygone era. i don't belong on the modern, cutting edge area of science. i have made peace (slightly) that it's ok if i fail. i will go back to my home country this weekend (will be expensive but i don't care anymore), leave science forever (imagine wanting to understand the brain lol, what a nerd), and start my life anew. i just don't want my family and closest friends see me differently if i fail. bot: i hated my data…. and all turned out okay. gosh…been there done that during my abd time…. you are an expert of your data…. of what your have. don’t sell yourself short hope for a pass with revisions…. even if extensive…. you’d have passed…. yes good luck and if willing, update us!
user: phd defense in a few hours just getting this off my chest. i'll defend in a few hours and genuinely think there is a big probability that i will fail. my thesis is an embarrassment to myself, my pi, and the field. data is limited, analysis is very simple, conclusions are unclear. i could train a master student and the whole data collection could be completed in 2 months. the analysis approach is like the ones done in the 70s or 80s, product of a bygone era. i don't belong on the modern, cutting edge area of science. i have made peace (slightly) that it's ok if i fail. i will go back to my home country this weekend (will be expensive but i don't care anymore), leave science forever (imagine wanting to understand the brain lol, what a nerd), and start my life anew. i just don't want my family and closest friends see me differently if i fail. bot: you'll be highly valued in many industries beyond your current subject. good luck with the defense and i hope it's a relief to have it finished.
user: phd defense in a few hours just getting this off my chest. i'll defend in a few hours and genuinely think there is a big probability that i will fail. my thesis is an embarrassment to myself, my pi, and the field. data is limited, analysis is very simple, conclusions are unclear. i could train a master student and the whole data collection could be completed in 2 months. the analysis approach is like the ones done in the 70s or 80s, product of a bygone era. i don't belong on the modern, cutting edge area of science. i have made peace (slightly) that it's ok if i fail. i will go back to my home country this weekend (will be expensive but i don't care anymore), leave science forever (imagine wanting to understand the brain lol, what a nerd), and start my life anew. i just don't want my family and closest friends see me differently if i fail. bot: that’s just the imposter syndrome talking. make sure that you get a good night’s sleep before your defense. i like the idea that you are thinking that push comes to shove, you will go back to your country. that removes some of the nervousness. but i’m sure you will pass, if your guide has allowed you to defend. good luck and see you on the other side!
user: phd defense in a few hours just getting this off my chest. i'll defend in a few hours and genuinely think there is a big probability that i will fail. my thesis is an embarrassment to myself, my pi, and the field. data is limited, analysis is very simple, conclusions are unclear. i could train a master student and the whole data collection could be completed in 2 months. the analysis approach is like the ones done in the 70s or 80s, product of a bygone era. i don't belong on the modern, cutting edge area of science. i have made peace (slightly) that it's ok if i fail. i will go back to my home country this weekend (will be expensive but i don't care anymore), leave science forever (imagine wanting to understand the brain lol, what a nerd), and start my life anew. i just don't want my family and closest friends see me differently if i fail. bot: all the best
user: phd defense in a few hours just getting this off my chest. i'll defend in a few hours and genuinely think there is a big probability that i will fail. my thesis is an embarrassment to myself, my pi, and the field. data is limited, analysis is very simple, conclusions are unclear. i could train a master student and the whole data collection could be completed in 2 months. the analysis approach is like the ones done in the 70s or 80s, product of a bygone era. i don't belong on the modern, cutting edge area of science. i have made peace (slightly) that it's ok if i fail. i will go back to my home country this weekend (will be expensive but i don't care anymore), leave science forever (imagine wanting to understand the brain lol, what a nerd), and start my life anew. i just don't want my family and closest friends see me differently if i fail. bot: that’s just the imposter syndrome talking. make sure that you get a good night’s sleep before your defense. i like the idea that you are thinking that push comes to shove, you will go back to your country. that removes some of the nervousness. but i’m sure you will pass, if your guide has allowed you to defend. good luck and see you on the other side!
user: phd defense in a few hours just getting this off my chest. i'll defend in a few hours and genuinely think there is a big probability that i will fail. my thesis is an embarrassment to myself, my pi, and the field. data is limited, analysis is very simple, conclusions are unclear. i could train a master student and the whole data collection could be completed in 2 months. the analysis approach is like the ones done in the 70s or 80s, product of a bygone era. i don't belong on the modern, cutting edge area of science. i have made peace (slightly) that it's ok if i fail. i will go back to my home country this weekend (will be expensive but i don't care anymore), leave science forever (imagine wanting to understand the brain lol, what a nerd), and start my life anew. i just don't want my family and closest friends see me differently if i fail. bot: you'll be highly valued in many industries beyond your current subject. good luck with the defense and i hope it's a relief to have it finished.
user: phd defense in a few hours just getting this off my chest. i'll defend in a few hours and genuinely think there is a big probability that i will fail. my thesis is an embarrassment to myself, my pi, and the field. data is limited, analysis is very simple, conclusions are unclear. i could train a master student and the whole data collection could be completed in 2 months. the analysis approach is like the ones done in the 70s or 80s, product of a bygone era. i don't belong on the modern, cutting edge area of science. i have made peace (slightly) that it's ok if i fail. i will go back to my home country this weekend (will be expensive but i don't care anymore), leave science forever (imagine wanting to understand the brain lol, what a nerd), and start my life anew. i just don't want my family and closest friends see me differently if i fail. bot: i see you posted 5h ago so this might be too late, but the absolute worst thing you can do is go in there with this attitude. if the thesis is really truly that terrible you should never have submitted it. however, more likely it's fine and you're having a wobble. but if you go in there and create the impression you think it's shit and has no merit then you're going to undermine their confidence in the work and it will become a self-fulfilling prophecy. how can you expect them to believe in something you don't? how can you expect them to place any value in something you aren't willing to stand by? you chose to submit this work so you have to own it and defend it now. that's a fundamental part of being an academic and if you aren't willing to defend your work, your career options become limited to roles that require no skill, expertise or intellectual input. lastly, people who love and value you won't judge you for failing at something but only if you truly gave it your best shot. you will never earn people's respect being defeatist and negative and deciding you've failed before you even gave it a go. so if you go in and give it your all, you will be respected and people will be sympathetic. if you think it's better to declare it's a failure so you don't risk trying and then failing, no one will respect you.
user: phd defense in a few hours just getting this off my chest. i'll defend in a few hours and genuinely think there is a big probability that i will fail. my thesis is an embarrassment to myself, my pi, and the field. data is limited, analysis is very simple, conclusions are unclear. i could train a master student and the whole data collection could be completed in 2 months. the analysis approach is like the ones done in the 70s or 80s, product of a bygone era. i don't belong on the modern, cutting edge area of science. i have made peace (slightly) that it's ok if i fail. i will go back to my home country this weekend (will be expensive but i don't care anymore), leave science forever (imagine wanting to understand the brain lol, what a nerd), and start my life anew. i just don't want my family and closest friends see me differently if i fail. bot: all the best
user: phd defense in a few hours just getting this off my chest. i'll defend in a few hours and genuinely think there is a big probability that i will fail. my thesis is an embarrassment to myself, my pi, and the field. data is limited, analysis is very simple, conclusions are unclear. i could train a master student and the whole data collection could be completed in 2 months. the analysis approach is like the ones done in the 70s or 80s, product of a bygone era. i don't belong on the modern, cutting edge area of science. i have made peace (slightly) that it's ok if i fail. i will go back to my home country this weekend (will be expensive but i don't care anymore), leave science forever (imagine wanting to understand the brain lol, what a nerd), and start my life anew. i just don't want my family and closest friends see me differently if i fail. bot: i see you posted 5h ago so this might be too late, but the absolute worst thing you can do is go in there with this attitude. if the thesis is really truly that terrible you should never have submitted it. however, more likely it's fine and you're having a wobble. but if you go in there and create the impression you think it's shit and has no merit then you're going to undermine their confidence in the work and it will become a self-fulfilling prophecy. how can you expect them to believe in something you don't? how can you expect them to place any value in something you aren't willing to stand by? you chose to submit this work so you have to own it and defend it now. that's a fundamental part of being an academic and if you aren't willing to defend your work, your career options become limited to roles that require no skill, expertise or intellectual input. lastly, people who love and value you won't judge you for failing at something but only if you truly gave it your best shot. you will never earn people's respect being defeatist and negative and deciding you've failed before you even gave it a go. so if you go in and give it your all, you will be respected and people will be sympathetic. if you think it's better to declare it's a failure so you don't risk trying and then failing, no one will respect you.
user: phd defense in a few hours just getting this off my chest. i'll defend in a few hours and genuinely think there is a big probability that i will fail. my thesis is an embarrassment to myself, my pi, and the field. data is limited, analysis is very simple, conclusions are unclear. i could train a master student and the whole data collection could be completed in 2 months. the analysis approach is like the ones done in the 70s or 80s, product of a bygone era. i don't belong on the modern, cutting edge area of science. i have made peace (slightly) that it's ok if i fail. i will go back to my home country this weekend (will be expensive but i don't care anymore), leave science forever (imagine wanting to understand the brain lol, what a nerd), and start my life anew. i just don't want my family and closest friends see me differently if i fail. bot: you'll be highly valued in many industries beyond your current subject. good luck with the defense and i hope it's a relief to have it finished.
user: phd defense in a few hours just getting this off my chest. i'll defend in a few hours and genuinely think there is a big probability that i will fail. my thesis is an embarrassment to myself, my pi, and the field. data is limited, analysis is very simple, conclusions are unclear. i could train a master student and the whole data collection could be completed in 2 months. the analysis approach is like the ones done in the 70s or 80s, product of a bygone era. i don't belong on the modern, cutting edge area of science. i have made peace (slightly) that it's ok if i fail. i will go back to my home country this weekend (will be expensive but i don't care anymore), leave science forever (imagine wanting to understand the brain lol, what a nerd), and start my life anew. i just don't want my family and closest friends see me differently if i fail. bot: i see you posted 5h ago so this might be too late, but the absolute worst thing you can do is go in there with this attitude. if the thesis is really truly that terrible you should never have submitted it. however, more likely it's fine and you're having a wobble. but if you go in there and create the impression you think it's shit and has no merit then you're going to undermine their confidence in the work and it will become a self-fulfilling prophecy. how can you expect them to believe in something you don't? how can you expect them to place any value in something you aren't willing to stand by? you chose to submit this work so you have to own it and defend it now. that's a fundamental part of being an academic and if you aren't willing to defend your work, your career options become limited to roles that require no skill, expertise or intellectual input. lastly, people who love and value you won't judge you for failing at something but only if you truly gave it your best shot. you will never earn people's respect being defeatist and negative and deciding you've failed before you even gave it a go. so if you go in and give it your all, you will be respected and people will be sympathetic. if you think it's better to declare it's a failure so you don't risk trying and then failing, no one will respect you.
user: phd defense in a few hours just getting this off my chest. i'll defend in a few hours and genuinely think there is a big probability that i will fail. my thesis is an embarrassment to myself, my pi, and the field. data is limited, analysis is very simple, conclusions are unclear. i could train a master student and the whole data collection could be completed in 2 months. the analysis approach is like the ones done in the 70s or 80s, product of a bygone era. i don't belong on the modern, cutting edge area of science. i have made peace (slightly) that it's ok if i fail. i will go back to my home country this weekend (will be expensive but i don't care anymore), leave science forever (imagine wanting to understand the brain lol, what a nerd), and start my life anew. i just don't want my family and closest friends see me differently if i fail. bot: good luck
user: how do you turn off the “academic” portion of your brain and just be a normal person? i’m always “on” and it’s not helping my relationships. or is this just an occupational hazard? bot: i just had a major surgery and the medication they give to ensure you don’t form memories is fat soluble. so i’m a week out and still wouldn’t be able to give an undergrad mechanics lecture, let alone explain my research. so i guess what i’m saying is go get an organ removed. or at least take the drugs.
user: how do you turn off the “academic” portion of your brain and just be a normal person? i’m always “on” and it’s not helping my relationships. or is this just an occupational hazard? bot: i often tell myself after a conversation "you didn't need to explain it like that". i still laugh about it though.
user: how do you turn off the “academic” portion of your brain and just be a normal person? i’m always “on” and it’s not helping my relationships. or is this just an occupational hazard? bot: i just had a major surgery and the medication they give to ensure you don’t form memories is fat soluble. so i’m a week out and still wouldn’t be able to give an undergrad mechanics lecture, let alone explain my research. so i guess what i’m saying is go get an organ removed. or at least take the drugs.
user: how do you turn off the “academic” portion of your brain and just be a normal person? i’m always “on” and it’s not helping my relationships. or is this just an occupational hazard? bot: this might be a bit of a faux pas but... w\*\*d helps
user: how do you turn off the “academic” portion of your brain and just be a normal person? i’m always “on” and it’s not helping my relationships. or is this just an occupational hazard? bot: this is the struggle of an academic. i very regularly cannot sleep at night because i thought of a new study idea or that perfect opening sentence for my grant. i have a few tidbits of advice that have worked for me. 1. keep a notebook with you at all times and when you have that idea write it down immediately or as soon as convenient. 2. read for fun. i know this sounds silly, but it is so helpful for me to do some reading that isn’t on the subject i study or even better isn’t science at all. 3. set and try to maintain specific boundaries on time. it’s important to have time dedicated to you, your partner, your friends, your family etc. 4. and in my experience most helpful, avoid talking about your academic pursuits. keep it super short, unless the other person is super engaged in the conversation.
user: how do you turn off the “academic” portion of your brain and just be a normal person? i’m always “on” and it’s not helping my relationships. or is this just an occupational hazard? bot: this might be a bit of a faux pas but... w\*\*d helps
user: how do you turn off the “academic” portion of your brain and just be a normal person? i’m always “on” and it’s not helping my relationships. or is this just an occupational hazard? bot: this is the struggle of an academic. i very regularly cannot sleep at night because i thought of a new study idea or that perfect opening sentence for my grant. i have a few tidbits of advice that have worked for me. 1. keep a notebook with you at all times and when you have that idea write it down immediately or as soon as convenient. 2. read for fun. i know this sounds silly, but it is so helpful for me to do some reading that isn’t on the subject i study or even better isn’t science at all. 3. set and try to maintain specific boundaries on time. it’s important to have time dedicated to you, your partner, your friends, your family etc. 4. and in my experience most helpful, avoid talking about your academic pursuits. keep it super short, unless the other person is super engaged in the conversation.
user: how do you turn off the “academic” portion of your brain and just be a normal person? i’m always “on” and it’s not helping my relationships. or is this just an occupational hazard? bot: embrace it
user: how do you turn off the “academic” portion of your brain and just be a normal person? i’m always “on” and it’s not helping my relationships. or is this just an occupational hazard? bot: you don't. you find someone just like you and become that weird couple who alienate all your friends
user: how do you turn off the “academic” portion of your brain and just be a normal person? i’m always “on” and it’s not helping my relationships. or is this just an occupational hazard? bot: code switching.
user: how do you turn off the “academic” portion of your brain and just be a normal person? i’m always “on” and it’s not helping my relationships. or is this just an occupational hazard? bot: you don't. you find someone just like you and become that weird couple who alienate all your friends
user: how do you turn off the “academic” portion of your brain and just be a normal person? i’m always “on” and it’s not helping my relationships. or is this just an occupational hazard? bot: embrace it
user: how do you turn off the “academic” portion of your brain and just be a normal person? i’m always “on” and it’s not helping my relationships. or is this just an occupational hazard? bot: you don't. you find someone just like you and become that weird couple who alienate all your friends
user: how do you turn off the “academic” portion of your brain and just be a normal person? i’m always “on” and it’s not helping my relationships. or is this just an occupational hazard? bot: mood altering chemicals.
user: how do you turn off the “academic” portion of your brain and just be a normal person? i’m always “on” and it’s not helping my relationships. or is this just an occupational hazard? bot: i like lifting weights and watching football. neither are things most of my friends and basically none of my colleagues do. it helps clear my mind, it’s fun, and it puts you in contact with a whole other subset of the population.
user: how do you turn off the “academic” portion of your brain and just be a normal person? i’m always “on” and it’s not helping my relationships. or is this just an occupational hazard? bot: embrace it
user: how do you turn off the “academic” portion of your brain and just be a normal person? i’m always “on” and it’s not helping my relationships. or is this just an occupational hazard? bot: i like lifting weights and watching football. neither are things most of my friends and basically none of my colleagues do. it helps clear my mind, it’s fun, and it puts you in contact with a whole other subset of the population.
user: how do you turn off the “academic” portion of your brain and just be a normal person? i’m always “on” and it’s not helping my relationships. or is this just an occupational hazard? bot: mood altering chemicals.
user: how to be happy for getting accepted in phd when it seems like family and friends can't relate? hi guys, so i'm a first year phd in the social sciences and i've been struggling to be happy for myself and celebrate my accomplishments without the enthusiastic support of my family and some friends? being the first phd in my family from an inner city and female and african american, i feel like none of my inner family can relate and are so busy trying to get by the don't have the bandwidth to be truly happy for me and express support. personally, i am proud of myself as i am fully funded and received additional external fellowship, but i am truly disappointed. it seems lonely at the "top". i worked so hard to get in and stay in during the pandemic but my family just doesn't seem to care and i want to be able to celebrate with them and feel loved/support. this is just not what i expected. it feels like the further along i move in my education the more i alienate or distinguish myself from "normal" non academic peers and family/friends. do you all have any advice on this subject? bot: you are not alone. keep in mind that there *are* families and communities who see success as an academic professional to be a great accomplishment. so what you're experiencing is not universal. it's probably uncommon. many of your colleagues will be consistently affirmed for what they do, because they already come from the academic/professional class. this is the part of changing your economic class that nobody tells you about: the people we care about don't know how to interpret our work lives anymore. in my experience, this also never goes away. from graduate school, to dissertation, to phd, to becoming a professor, to publishing a book, the people who affirm you will be the people who have grown up or adapted to the economic class that already affirms those things as accomplishments. so you'll get that from your teachers, colleagues, and eventually your students, but never from the community you grew up in, not really. i don't have good advice, since it still disappoints me. about a month before my grandpa died i was hired for a great, rare tenure track job at a well-known prestigious college. when i tried to talk to my grandpa about it, he hadn't heard of it and didn't know what tenure was. he just asked if it was union work. it made me profoundly sad that i couldn't really convey to him why he should be proud. and it's not that he wasn't proud, he just had no frame of reference to understand what i had done. ok, i do have advice. for me, this experience makes me kind to students. i know why it's easy for some students to keep their shit together at college; their whole community is expecting them to and affirming them when they do. and more importantly: i know just how hard it is to keep up when you don't come from a community like that. but for both sides of that struggle, students are all just caught in the brittle, barely-visible class hierarchy of our societies. so: let this struggle make you kind.
user: how to be happy for getting accepted in phd when it seems like family and friends can't relate? hi guys, so i'm a first year phd in the social sciences and i've been struggling to be happy for myself and celebrate my accomplishments without the enthusiastic support of my family and some friends? being the first phd in my family from an inner city and female and african american, i feel like none of my inner family can relate and are so busy trying to get by the don't have the bandwidth to be truly happy for me and express support. personally, i am proud of myself as i am fully funded and received additional external fellowship, but i am truly disappointed. it seems lonely at the "top". i worked so hard to get in and stay in during the pandemic but my family just doesn't seem to care and i want to be able to celebrate with them and feel loved/support. this is just not what i expected. it feels like the further along i move in my education the more i alienate or distinguish myself from "normal" non academic peers and family/friends. do you all have any advice on this subject? bot: congratulations! i would make sure not to lose your roots! you are where you are from! your perspective will be that much more valuable in the academy. try not to elevate yourself above your family for simply having a degree — it is a great accomplishment, but pride leads to jealousy!
user: how to be happy for getting accepted in phd when it seems like family and friends can't relate? hi guys, so i'm a first year phd in the social sciences and i've been struggling to be happy for myself and celebrate my accomplishments without the enthusiastic support of my family and some friends? being the first phd in my family from an inner city and female and african american, i feel like none of my inner family can relate and are so busy trying to get by the don't have the bandwidth to be truly happy for me and express support. personally, i am proud of myself as i am fully funded and received additional external fellowship, but i am truly disappointed. it seems lonely at the "top". i worked so hard to get in and stay in during the pandemic but my family just doesn't seem to care and i want to be able to celebrate with them and feel loved/support. this is just not what i expected. it feels like the further along i move in my education the more i alienate or distinguish myself from "normal" non academic peers and family/friends. do you all have any advice on this subject? bot: feel this deeply. i am a first generation mixed race woman with a stem phd. on the white side of my family, two of my male cousins have gone on to phd programs in social sciences. they are the family geniuses and the family is so proud and in to what they do, but for me the response was “there’s no way i could understand that stuff” and never wanted to talk about my work or ideas. my advice is first to never let your academics be your identity. phd students and early career academics are so entangled with their studies and work that it is sometimes more than just part of them and it’s so unhealthy. take your families disinterest in your work as disinterest in the subject, not in you. highlight your accomplishments to them - i won an award, i got funding for a big project, i published an article, i was invited to get a talk. focusing on the tangibles helps people outside of academia understand what’s a win and keeps the mind numbing jargon away from them. the second potentially helpful thing you can do is get involved with groups or clubs for first gen students or other affinity groups. they can’t replace your family, but sharing successes and gripes with people who just get it is grounding. last but not least, find yourself a mentor in your field. it could be your advisor, someone in your sub field or just some professor you connect with. one good mentor can add immeasurable value to your phd experience. the phd for anyone is tough, but it can be even worse for someone who isn’t getting support. it sucks that your family just can’t give you what you need right now, but i promise you, you can and will find it! good luck and congrats on one year down!
user: how to be happy for getting accepted in phd when it seems like family and friends can't relate? hi guys, so i'm a first year phd in the social sciences and i've been struggling to be happy for myself and celebrate my accomplishments without the enthusiastic support of my family and some friends? being the first phd in my family from an inner city and female and african american, i feel like none of my inner family can relate and are so busy trying to get by the don't have the bandwidth to be truly happy for me and express support. personally, i am proud of myself as i am fully funded and received additional external fellowship, but i am truly disappointed. it seems lonely at the "top". i worked so hard to get in and stay in during the pandemic but my family just doesn't seem to care and i want to be able to celebrate with them and feel loved/support. this is just not what i expected. it feels like the further along i move in my education the more i alienate or distinguish myself from "normal" non academic peers and family/friends. do you all have any advice on this subject? bot: congratulations!!! one good piece of advice i’ve heard is when you show up, prioritize finding people at your university with a similar background (ideally department but that might be tough if it’s small). for times when your family don’t get it, finding a network elsewhere is really important for both the lows and the highs (it can be demoralizing when you publish your first paper and no one in your family gets excited, but less of a sting if you have friends who do). good luck!
user: how to be happy for getting accepted in phd when it seems like family and friends can't relate? hi guys, so i'm a first year phd in the social sciences and i've been struggling to be happy for myself and celebrate my accomplishments without the enthusiastic support of my family and some friends? being the first phd in my family from an inner city and female and african american, i feel like none of my inner family can relate and are so busy trying to get by the don't have the bandwidth to be truly happy for me and express support. personally, i am proud of myself as i am fully funded and received additional external fellowship, but i am truly disappointed. it seems lonely at the "top". i worked so hard to get in and stay in during the pandemic but my family just doesn't seem to care and i want to be able to celebrate with them and feel loved/support. this is just not what i expected. it feels like the further along i move in my education the more i alienate or distinguish myself from "normal" non academic peers and family/friends. do you all have any advice on this subject? bot: first off, huge congratulations!! seriously, it's fucking awesome (in every sense of the word). i'm a first gen college graduate. male, white, working-class background from the middle of nowhere ky, raised in a fundamentalist household. i did my bachelor's > master's > double phd with no break. my family never seemed impressed or expressed genuine happiness for my advances in life. the more education i received, the more alienated i felt from family/home. when i received my bachelor's degree, i was told the entire family wanted to chip in to purchase a handmade guitar for me (i played and taught guitar lessons all through hs and undergrad). they didn't do that. in fact, they never even bothered to try (we were poor, but they also constantly overspent, were financially unstable, and had 4-5 car loans, despite only needing 2 cars, etc., etc.). instead, my mother bought me cheese fries at long horn (a fancy meal for us) and my father made fun of the phrase "summa cum laude when my name was called for graduation. for my master's...we ate at burger king. i celebrated my dissertation defense completely alone in an airbnb w/ a pizza. it was lonely. i hope your experience is better (celebrate with friends). i clearly articulated that i wanted some sort of support to my family, but they don't really "do emotions" outside of the context of speaking in tongues in church and the like. anyway, all this to say, i've experienced something similar on my educational/career trajectory. it can be extremely lonely and alienating, as you said. i will add this though, in hindsight, i wish i had celebrated and been proud of myself/my accomplishments more (i was indoctrinated to be celebration was sort of sinful/conceited). congratulations on all of your accomplishments thus far.
user: how to be happy for getting accepted in phd when it seems like family and friends can't relate? hi guys, so i'm a first year phd in the social sciences and i've been struggling to be happy for myself and celebrate my accomplishments without the enthusiastic support of my family and some friends? being the first phd in my family from an inner city and female and african american, i feel like none of my inner family can relate and are so busy trying to get by the don't have the bandwidth to be truly happy for me and express support. personally, i am proud of myself as i am fully funded and received additional external fellowship, but i am truly disappointed. it seems lonely at the "top". i worked so hard to get in and stay in during the pandemic but my family just doesn't seem to care and i want to be able to celebrate with them and feel loved/support. this is just not what i expected. it feels like the further along i move in my education the more i alienate or distinguish myself from "normal" non academic peers and family/friends. do you all have any advice on this subject? bot: i am sorry that you're in this position. i don't have any specific advice but all i can say is that at the end of the day, it's your happiness that matters the most. it sucks when you're not able to share your happiness with friends and families but sometimes that's how it is. it's ok to outgrow your friends and families. in your case, if you really want them to be feel happy and be proud of you, perhaps you can talk to them. very often people don't understand how academia and phd work, and tend to think that it's just a few more years of taking classes instead of getting an actual job. maybe you can try explaining to them (if you haven't already) how much you've achieved and how much their support means to you, then maybe things will take a turn.
user: how to be happy for getting accepted in phd when it seems like family and friends can't relate? hi guys, so i'm a first year phd in the social sciences and i've been struggling to be happy for myself and celebrate my accomplishments without the enthusiastic support of my family and some friends? being the first phd in my family from an inner city and female and african american, i feel like none of my inner family can relate and are so busy trying to get by the don't have the bandwidth to be truly happy for me and express support. personally, i am proud of myself as i am fully funded and received additional external fellowship, but i am truly disappointed. it seems lonely at the "top". i worked so hard to get in and stay in during the pandemic but my family just doesn't seem to care and i want to be able to celebrate with them and feel loved/support. this is just not what i expected. it feels like the further along i move in my education the more i alienate or distinguish myself from "normal" non academic peers and family/friends. do you all have any advice on this subject? bot: first off, huge congratulations!! seriously, it's fucking awesome (in every sense of the word). i'm a first gen college graduate. male, white, working-class background from the middle of nowhere ky, raised in a fundamentalist household. i did my bachelor's > master's > double phd with no break. my family never seemed impressed or expressed genuine happiness for my advances in life. the more education i received, the more alienated i felt from family/home. when i received my bachelor's degree, i was told the entire family wanted to chip in to purchase a handmade guitar for me (i played and taught guitar lessons all through hs and undergrad). they didn't do that. in fact, they never even bothered to try (we were poor, but they also constantly overspent, were financially unstable, and had 4-5 car loans, despite only needing 2 cars, etc., etc.). instead, my mother bought me cheese fries at long horn (a fancy meal for us) and my father made fun of the phrase "summa cum laude when my name was called for graduation. for my master's...we ate at burger king. i celebrated my dissertation defense completely alone in an airbnb w/ a pizza. it was lonely. i hope your experience is better (celebrate with friends). i clearly articulated that i wanted some sort of support to my family, but they don't really "do emotions" outside of the context of speaking in tongues in church and the like. anyway, all this to say, i've experienced something similar on my educational/career trajectory. it can be extremely lonely and alienating, as you said. i will add this though, in hindsight, i wish i had celebrated and been proud of myself/my accomplishments more (i was indoctrinated to be celebration was sort of sinful/conceited). congratulations on all of your accomplishments thus far.
user: how to be happy for getting accepted in phd when it seems like family and friends can't relate? hi guys, so i'm a first year phd in the social sciences and i've been struggling to be happy for myself and celebrate my accomplishments without the enthusiastic support of my family and some friends? being the first phd in my family from an inner city and female and african american, i feel like none of my inner family can relate and are so busy trying to get by the don't have the bandwidth to be truly happy for me and express support. personally, i am proud of myself as i am fully funded and received additional external fellowship, but i am truly disappointed. it seems lonely at the "top". i worked so hard to get in and stay in during the pandemic but my family just doesn't seem to care and i want to be able to celebrate with them and feel loved/support. this is just not what i expected. it feels like the further along i move in my education the more i alienate or distinguish myself from "normal" non academic peers and family/friends. do you all have any advice on this subject? bot: i’m proud of you! congrats!!!
user: anyone so frustrated they literally start to cry? i am so frustrated with my self for not being able to focus on my online assignments that i literally feel like i’m going to cry. my house is loud and i can’t find anywhere where it’s completely silent even with noise cancelling headphones. i have so much work to do but even with my medication i just couldn’t do it. my medication usually helps but it’s not doing anything except making it hard for me to eat. i hate this. i feel like i’m on the verge of a breakdown bot: i totally get it! a few things from a fellow medication user who still frequently copes with focusing issues... (1) exercise! i know there are studies out there to back it up, but i'm not going to go down a rabbit hole to find them since i only have a few minutes left on my pomodoro timer. i find that i am ***so*** much more focused when i go for a run/bike ride in the morning. there are days when i convince myself i "don't have time" to exercise for 20 minutes and then spend the day kicking myself because i waste waaaay more than 20 minutes trying to find focus. (2) pomodoro timer 25 minutes of intense, focused studying/5 minute break. there are plenty of apps for this (i use focus keeper but also occasionally seconds pro which is actually a timer for hiit exercise lol). play around with the time intervals and see what works for you, then stick to it and treat it like it's a law you can't break. the minute that break ends, get back to work. (3) foam ear plugs underneath noise cancelling headphones if you have over-the-ear noise cancelling headphones, invest in a large container of foam earplugs. this + noise cancelling + brown noise (personally find it way more tolerable than white noise...buy a track of your choice and play it on repeat) are a must. covid has seriously screwed up my finely honed work habits, but this helped immensely. (4) freedom app i found this really useful as well. there are days where no matter how much i tried, i could not get myself off time-wasting websites. there's a free version you can try, but it basically blocks whatever apps and websites you want on all your devices and there's an option you can choose so that there's no way to un-do it until the session is over. i have these set up for repeating sessions throughout the day, which helps keep me focused. (5) positive talk ok, ok, this one might sound cheesy but it's real. tell yourself over and over that you are good at working from home/with distraction/etc until you believe it. take it from someone who had a few breakdowns early on in the pandemic... you have to acknowledge what you're feeling and how crummy the situation is, but then decide that you're stronger than that, and get back to work. (6) stick with a schedule this one is another crucial one. set boundaries for yourself. working from home has made it difficult for everyone...now all of a sudden you're expected to be available via email/zoom/etc at all hours because they know you haven't gone anywhere. i stick with a schedule of when i'm going to work, and when i'm going to call it quits. there is always more work to be done, so don't fool yourself into thinking that you have to work for just one more hour. you could work forever and you probably wouldn't be done/caught up. (7) know when to take a break if you set up a schedule and get into a rhythm, but then find that there are days when you **just can't focus** no matter what you do? call it quits. trying to force yourself to do work is going to make you miserable, and is just going to cause you to burn out more/be less efficient/repeat the cycle. take the day off, do something you find truly relaxing and enjoyable, get some exercise, then start again the next day. it's probably a good practice to do this once a week or so....as you go, you'll start to figure out what time span you need between days off. for me, it's around the 9 day mark that i start to crack and know i need to take a day off, so i just build it into my schedule one day before that happens. . . i hope that some of this is helpful. i apologize for writing a post a third the length of moby dick, but i totally know the feeling of being miserable because you so desperately want to work but can't. i sincerely hope you (and everyone else feeling this way!) can find some ways to work effectively in these crummy times, while simultaneously taking care of yourself. wishing you good mental health and a good day.
user: anyone so frustrated they literally start to cry? i am so frustrated with my self for not being able to focus on my online assignments that i literally feel like i’m going to cry. my house is loud and i can’t find anywhere where it’s completely silent even with noise cancelling headphones. i have so much work to do but even with my medication i just couldn’t do it. my medication usually helps but it’s not doing anything except making it hard for me to eat. i hate this. i feel like i’m on the verge of a breakdown bot: this is a suuuper common reaction for me when i get overwhelmed. it’s like the emotions are trying to escape my body via my eyes lol. i agree with the above advice, plus i highly recommend the strategy of breaking down bigger tasks into smaller ones. even if that means watching a lectures in chunks. you watched 10 mins? that’s a win! take it slow, and be forgiving of yourself :) you got this!
user: anyone so frustrated they literally start to cry? i am so frustrated with my self for not being able to focus on my online assignments that i literally feel like i’m going to cry. my house is loud and i can’t find anywhere where it’s completely silent even with noise cancelling headphones. i have so much work to do but even with my medication i just couldn’t do it. my medication usually helps but it’s not doing anything except making it hard for me to eat. i hate this. i feel like i’m on the verge of a breakdown bot: i totally get it! a few things from a fellow medication user who still frequently copes with focusing issues... (1) exercise! i know there are studies out there to back it up, but i'm not going to go down a rabbit hole to find them since i only have a few minutes left on my pomodoro timer. i find that i am ***so*** much more focused when i go for a run/bike ride in the morning. there are days when i convince myself i "don't have time" to exercise for 20 minutes and then spend the day kicking myself because i waste waaaay more than 20 minutes trying to find focus. (2) pomodoro timer 25 minutes of intense, focused studying/5 minute break. there are plenty of apps for this (i use focus keeper but also occasionally seconds pro which is actually a timer for hiit exercise lol). play around with the time intervals and see what works for you, then stick to it and treat it like it's a law you can't break. the minute that break ends, get back to work. (3) foam ear plugs underneath noise cancelling headphones if you have over-the-ear noise cancelling headphones, invest in a large container of foam earplugs. this + noise cancelling + brown noise (personally find it way more tolerable than white noise...buy a track of your choice and play it on repeat) are a must. covid has seriously screwed up my finely honed work habits, but this helped immensely. (4) freedom app i found this really useful as well. there are days where no matter how much i tried, i could not get myself off time-wasting websites. there's a free version you can try, but it basically blocks whatever apps and websites you want on all your devices and there's an option you can choose so that there's no way to un-do it until the session is over. i have these set up for repeating sessions throughout the day, which helps keep me focused. (5) positive talk ok, ok, this one might sound cheesy but it's real. tell yourself over and over that you are good at working from home/with distraction/etc until you believe it. take it from someone who had a few breakdowns early on in the pandemic... you have to acknowledge what you're feeling and how crummy the situation is, but then decide that you're stronger than that, and get back to work. (6) stick with a schedule this one is another crucial one. set boundaries for yourself. working from home has made it difficult for everyone...now all of a sudden you're expected to be available via email/zoom/etc at all hours because they know you haven't gone anywhere. i stick with a schedule of when i'm going to work, and when i'm going to call it quits. there is always more work to be done, so don't fool yourself into thinking that you have to work for just one more hour. you could work forever and you probably wouldn't be done/caught up. (7) know when to take a break if you set up a schedule and get into a rhythm, but then find that there are days when you **just can't focus** no matter what you do? call it quits. trying to force yourself to do work is going to make you miserable, and is just going to cause you to burn out more/be less efficient/repeat the cycle. take the day off, do something you find truly relaxing and enjoyable, get some exercise, then start again the next day. it's probably a good practice to do this once a week or so....as you go, you'll start to figure out what time span you need between days off. for me, it's around the 9 day mark that i start to crack and know i need to take a day off, so i just build it into my schedule one day before that happens. . . i hope that some of this is helpful. i apologize for writing a post a third the length of moby dick, but i totally know the feeling of being miserable because you so desperately want to work but can't. i sincerely hope you (and everyone else feeling this way!) can find some ways to work effectively in these crummy times, while simultaneously taking care of yourself. wishing you good mental health and a good day.
user: anyone so frustrated they literally start to cry? i am so frustrated with my self for not being able to focus on my online assignments that i literally feel like i’m going to cry. my house is loud and i can’t find anywhere where it’s completely silent even with noise cancelling headphones. i have so much work to do but even with my medication i just couldn’t do it. my medication usually helps but it’s not doing anything except making it hard for me to eat. i hate this. i feel like i’m on the verge of a breakdown bot: omg, i just went through this saturday. i took a day off..well, two. starting back today feeling fresh. ugh. i empathize with you. hang in there.
user: anyone so frustrated they literally start to cry? i am so frustrated with my self for not being able to focus on my online assignments that i literally feel like i’m going to cry. my house is loud and i can’t find anywhere where it’s completely silent even with noise cancelling headphones. i have so much work to do but even with my medication i just couldn’t do it. my medication usually helps but it’s not doing anything except making it hard for me to eat. i hate this. i feel like i’m on the verge of a breakdown bot: i totally get it! a few things from a fellow medication user who still frequently copes with focusing issues... (1) exercise! i know there are studies out there to back it up, but i'm not going to go down a rabbit hole to find them since i only have a few minutes left on my pomodoro timer. i find that i am ***so*** much more focused when i go for a run/bike ride in the morning. there are days when i convince myself i "don't have time" to exercise for 20 minutes and then spend the day kicking myself because i waste waaaay more than 20 minutes trying to find focus. (2) pomodoro timer 25 minutes of intense, focused studying/5 minute break. there are plenty of apps for this (i use focus keeper but also occasionally seconds pro which is actually a timer for hiit exercise lol). play around with the time intervals and see what works for you, then stick to it and treat it like it's a law you can't break. the minute that break ends, get back to work. (3) foam ear plugs underneath noise cancelling headphones if you have over-the-ear noise cancelling headphones, invest in a large container of foam earplugs. this + noise cancelling + brown noise (personally find it way more tolerable than white noise...buy a track of your choice and play it on repeat) are a must. covid has seriously screwed up my finely honed work habits, but this helped immensely. (4) freedom app i found this really useful as well. there are days where no matter how much i tried, i could not get myself off time-wasting websites. there's a free version you can try, but it basically blocks whatever apps and websites you want on all your devices and there's an option you can choose so that there's no way to un-do it until the session is over. i have these set up for repeating sessions throughout the day, which helps keep me focused. (5) positive talk ok, ok, this one might sound cheesy but it's real. tell yourself over and over that you are good at working from home/with distraction/etc until you believe it. take it from someone who had a few breakdowns early on in the pandemic... you have to acknowledge what you're feeling and how crummy the situation is, but then decide that you're stronger than that, and get back to work. (6) stick with a schedule this one is another crucial one. set boundaries for yourself. working from home has made it difficult for everyone...now all of a sudden you're expected to be available via email/zoom/etc at all hours because they know you haven't gone anywhere. i stick with a schedule of when i'm going to work, and when i'm going to call it quits. there is always more work to be done, so don't fool yourself into thinking that you have to work for just one more hour. you could work forever and you probably wouldn't be done/caught up. (7) know when to take a break if you set up a schedule and get into a rhythm, but then find that there are days when you **just can't focus** no matter what you do? call it quits. trying to force yourself to do work is going to make you miserable, and is just going to cause you to burn out more/be less efficient/repeat the cycle. take the day off, do something you find truly relaxing and enjoyable, get some exercise, then start again the next day. it's probably a good practice to do this once a week or so....as you go, you'll start to figure out what time span you need between days off. for me, it's around the 9 day mark that i start to crack and know i need to take a day off, so i just build it into my schedule one day before that happens. . . i hope that some of this is helpful. i apologize for writing a post a third the length of moby dick, but i totally know the feeling of being miserable because you so desperately want to work but can't. i sincerely hope you (and everyone else feeling this way!) can find some ways to work effectively in these crummy times, while simultaneously taking care of yourself. wishing you good mental health and a good day.
user: anyone so frustrated they literally start to cry? i am so frustrated with my self for not being able to focus on my online assignments that i literally feel like i’m going to cry. my house is loud and i can’t find anywhere where it’s completely silent even with noise cancelling headphones. i have so much work to do but even with my medication i just couldn’t do it. my medication usually helps but it’s not doing anything except making it hard for me to eat. i hate this. i feel like i’m on the verge of a breakdown bot: is your school's library open? or perhaps another building on campus? if your campus is anything like ours (i.e. a ghost town) then there are plenty of quiet places where you can study while maintaining social distance.
user: anyone so frustrated they literally start to cry? i am so frustrated with my self for not being able to focus on my online assignments that i literally feel like i’m going to cry. my house is loud and i can’t find anywhere where it’s completely silent even with noise cancelling headphones. i have so much work to do but even with my medication i just couldn’t do it. my medication usually helps but it’s not doing anything except making it hard for me to eat. i hate this. i feel like i’m on the verge of a breakdown bot: i totally get it! a few things from a fellow medication user who still frequently copes with focusing issues... (1) exercise! i know there are studies out there to back it up, but i'm not going to go down a rabbit hole to find them since i only have a few minutes left on my pomodoro timer. i find that i am ***so*** much more focused when i go for a run/bike ride in the morning. there are days when i convince myself i "don't have time" to exercise for 20 minutes and then spend the day kicking myself because i waste waaaay more than 20 minutes trying to find focus. (2) pomodoro timer 25 minutes of intense, focused studying/5 minute break. there are plenty of apps for this (i use focus keeper but also occasionally seconds pro which is actually a timer for hiit exercise lol). play around with the time intervals and see what works for you, then stick to it and treat it like it's a law you can't break. the minute that break ends, get back to work. (3) foam ear plugs underneath noise cancelling headphones if you have over-the-ear noise cancelling headphones, invest in a large container of foam earplugs. this + noise cancelling + brown noise (personally find it way more tolerable than white noise...buy a track of your choice and play it on repeat) are a must. covid has seriously screwed up my finely honed work habits, but this helped immensely. (4) freedom app i found this really useful as well. there are days where no matter how much i tried, i could not get myself off time-wasting websites. there's a free version you can try, but it basically blocks whatever apps and websites you want on all your devices and there's an option you can choose so that there's no way to un-do it until the session is over. i have these set up for repeating sessions throughout the day, which helps keep me focused. (5) positive talk ok, ok, this one might sound cheesy but it's real. tell yourself over and over that you are good at working from home/with distraction/etc until you believe it. take it from someone who had a few breakdowns early on in the pandemic... you have to acknowledge what you're feeling and how crummy the situation is, but then decide that you're stronger than that, and get back to work. (6) stick with a schedule this one is another crucial one. set boundaries for yourself. working from home has made it difficult for everyone...now all of a sudden you're expected to be available via email/zoom/etc at all hours because they know you haven't gone anywhere. i stick with a schedule of when i'm going to work, and when i'm going to call it quits. there is always more work to be done, so don't fool yourself into thinking that you have to work for just one more hour. you could work forever and you probably wouldn't be done/caught up. (7) know when to take a break if you set up a schedule and get into a rhythm, but then find that there are days when you **just can't focus** no matter what you do? call it quits. trying to force yourself to do work is going to make you miserable, and is just going to cause you to burn out more/be less efficient/repeat the cycle. take the day off, do something you find truly relaxing and enjoyable, get some exercise, then start again the next day. it's probably a good practice to do this once a week or so....as you go, you'll start to figure out what time span you need between days off. for me, it's around the 9 day mark that i start to crack and know i need to take a day off, so i just build it into my schedule one day before that happens. . . i hope that some of this is helpful. i apologize for writing a post a third the length of moby dick, but i totally know the feeling of being miserable because you so desperately want to work but can't. i sincerely hope you (and everyone else feeling this way!) can find some ways to work effectively in these crummy times, while simultaneously taking care of yourself. wishing you good mental health and a good day.
user: anyone so frustrated they literally start to cry? i am so frustrated with my self for not being able to focus on my online assignments that i literally feel like i’m going to cry. my house is loud and i can’t find anywhere where it’s completely silent even with noise cancelling headphones. i have so much work to do but even with my medication i just couldn’t do it. my medication usually helps but it’s not doing anything except making it hard for me to eat. i hate this. i feel like i’m on the verge of a breakdown bot: i had two weeks of covid classes this semester. i dreaded them. my heart wasn’t in it and it didn’t feel right. i was hoping that seeing my students face to face (due to the flex schedule) would make things real and then kick my ass in gear. then the hurricane hit. and we haven’t had class this entire time. i know it’s shitty of me, but it was such a huge relief. now, we’ve been out of school longer than we’ve been in it. classes start up again this friday even though most people back in our town have no electricity (and sometimes no water). i ended up moving two hours away. i feel even more disconnected from my duties. then, on top of that, i’m still trying to pack, move, clean, and setup the place while still dealing with the garbage-fire that was my previous home. i don’t wanna do anything :| i don’t think i’ve cried yet about this in particular, but it’s because the void inside me won’t let me 🙃 but yeah, i’m so distracted by all the shit that needs to be done. and everything is compounded by not having a room of my own, so to speak. maybe you need to focus on creating your own space? for example, my wife and i were originally living with my parents for a bit after grad school. once we were kicked out of our officers for covid, i was lost. we ended up deciding to change our bedroom closet into a mini office for me. it still had some of our clothes, but we squeezed in a desk, a lamp, and a powerstrip. worth a shot!
user: anyone so frustrated they literally start to cry? i am so frustrated with my self for not being able to focus on my online assignments that i literally feel like i’m going to cry. my house is loud and i can’t find anywhere where it’s completely silent even with noise cancelling headphones. i have so much work to do but even with my medication i just couldn’t do it. my medication usually helps but it’s not doing anything except making it hard for me to eat. i hate this. i feel like i’m on the verge of a breakdown bot: i cry all the time lol.
user: anyone so frustrated they literally start to cry? i am so frustrated with my self for not being able to focus on my online assignments that i literally feel like i’m going to cry. my house is loud and i can’t find anywhere where it’s completely silent even with noise cancelling headphones. i have so much work to do but even with my medication i just couldn’t do it. my medication usually helps but it’s not doing anything except making it hard for me to eat. i hate this. i feel like i’m on the verge of a breakdown bot: omg, i just went through this saturday. i took a day off..well, two. starting back today feeling fresh. ugh. i empathize with you. hang in there.
user: anyone so frustrated they literally start to cry? i am so frustrated with my self for not being able to focus on my online assignments that i literally feel like i’m going to cry. my house is loud and i can’t find anywhere where it’s completely silent even with noise cancelling headphones. i have so much work to do but even with my medication i just couldn’t do it. my medication usually helps but it’s not doing anything except making it hard for me to eat. i hate this. i feel like i’m on the verge of a breakdown bot: i cry all the time lol.
user: anyone so frustrated they literally start to cry? i am so frustrated with my self for not being able to focus on my online assignments that i literally feel like i’m going to cry. my house is loud and i can’t find anywhere where it’s completely silent even with noise cancelling headphones. i have so much work to do but even with my medication i just couldn’t do it. my medication usually helps but it’s not doing anything except making it hard for me to eat. i hate this. i feel like i’m on the verge of a breakdown bot: is your school's library open? or perhaps another building on campus? if your campus is anything like ours (i.e. a ghost town) then there are plenty of quiet places where you can study while maintaining social distance.