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13fs3du | The core four from The Good Place.
I was worried they’d all be one dimensional during the first season, but from season 2 onward it was great seeing them as humans rather than good or bad | 0 | False | false | 1 | 0 | 2023-05-13 06:39:06 |
13fs3du | So everyone was thinking Steve Harrington too I guess? | 0 | False | false | 1 | 0 | 2023-05-13 06:45:12 |
13fs3du | Winter from Wings of Fire. He was a dick in book 6 but a tragic hero by book 7. | 0 | False | false | 1 | 0 | 2023-05-13 06:53:37 |
13fs2yz | Because they're desperate for companionship and intimacy | 0 | False | false | 105 | 5 | 2023-05-12 20:50:41 |
13fs2yz | Easy, because it's so rare for us to get any kind of positive attention. We glomp on to those who do, which makes them nervous, which makes them pull away, which sends us plummeting back into the loneliness again. | 0 | False | false | 45 | 7 | 2023-05-12 20:52:15 |
13fs2yz | If people don’t show you any kindness or attention, the tiniest bit will feel like a lot. It can also come from insecurity, attachment issues, loneliness, etc. | 0 | False | false | 23 | 2 | 2023-05-12 20:54:19 |
13fs2yz | When you rarely receive that in life, when you do receive it, it's impact is drastic to your psyche. | 0 | False | false | 9 | 2 | 2023-05-12 20:56:48 |
13fs2yz | Because we're lonely af. | 0 | False | false | 7 | 0 | 2023-05-12 22:43:33 |
13fs2yz | Desperation from being worn out from looking for someone for a long time. As long as they're not viscous to me, no matter who hits on me, I find a way to break it as gently as possible. Because I have been very privileged in relationships not once in my life struggled to find someone. I can't be with everyone, but I can be kind to them, especially if they're being brave and reaching out to try after being rejected so many times. | 0 | False | false | 13 | 1 | 2023-05-12 20:53:42 |
13fs2yz | MFs be starved for attention and affection and someone, for some reason, is kind to them so they want to try and persue that to the furthest possible extent.
I know you can rationalize that people are just being nice, and kind, and sweet for its own sake, but when so few people ever really are it gets difficult to understand why anyone might be and what the difference is between someone just being nice and trying to boost your confidince a little bit, and someone genuinely interested.
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and shit.. tbh that's the other thing. So few people really actually are just nice and kind and sweet for its own sake that it's hard not to like that about a person. | 0 | False | false | 5 | 0 | 2023-05-12 21:50:05 |
13fs2yz | Some people are just lonely and if they even get a bit of a support from someone and cheer them up then they will be thinking about the person everyday. Is you get a kind and supportive partner, then why wouldn't you take the chance? | 0 | False | false | 3 | 1 | 2023-05-12 21:23:43 |
13fs2yz | Could be that they weren't shown much kindness growing up, and latch onto it when they do receive it. | 0 | False | false | 4 | 0 | 2023-05-12 22:41:04 |
13fs2yz | Because it’s like finding water in the desert. | 0 | False | false | 3 | 0 | 2023-05-12 23:10:27 |
13fs2yz | 90% of the times, is because they are starved from affection | 0 | False | false | 7 | 0 | 2023-05-12 22:12:37 |
13fs2yz | Because you feel a residual connection to her from before the memory wiping procedure that the two of you had to erase your relationship, only you regretted the procedure mid-wipe and tricked yourself into going somewhere where you would run into her before it was over. | 0 | False | false | 3 | 3 | 2023-05-12 21:36:18 |
13fs2yz | Because they likely grew up around people who showed them nothing but outright hatred | 0 | False | false | 3 | 0 | 2023-05-12 23:53:54 |
13fs2yz | Because basic human decency is a rare commodity these days | 0 | False | false | 3 | 1 | 2023-05-13 00:20:00 |
13fs2yz | I feel like one of the reason this happens is because those people are the type who feel lonely and unloved since they're either bullied, ignored, or rejected by the people around them. Then a person who treats them well comes along and it's something they've never really felt before so they think it's special. It's sad. | 0 | False | false | 6 | 3 | 2023-05-12 20:55:17 |
13fs2yz | Inexperience and probably poor socialization growing up. | 0 | False | false | 6 | 1 | 2023-05-12 20:52:14 |
13fs2yz | You'd think this quality would be endearing, but in reality, it isn't. And coming off as too clingy or desperate and greatly negatively affect one's chances of finding actual sexual, romantic and long-term partners.
So, learn to keep it together, people. | 0 | False | false | 4 | 0 | 2023-05-12 22:47:01 |
13fs2yz | being deprived of such affection in even the slightest form | 0 | False | false | 2 | 3 | 2023-05-12 21:00:08 |
13fs2yz | Usually stems from childhood. When kids don't get attention they look for it outside. There is vulnerability so any kind gesture makes the person attractive. | 0 | False | false | 2 | 2 | 2023-05-12 21:05:44 |
13fs2yz | Because many men are chronically touch starved and not shown any affection or tenderness by the world at large. It's a fact of life that will never change. Consider it a motivation to go find a girlfriend. You won't get it anywhere else. | 0 | False | false | 2 | 0 | 2023-05-13 00:52:11 |
13fs2yz | Because if you're someone who's undergone numerous injustices inflicted on you, everyone thinks you're an asshole through gossip and rumor, people online tend to treat you as a joke and your actual friends tend to shelve you despite you know, being a friend.
To get treated even a tiny bit of some positivity, it's kind of hard not to see that as a sign of something. | 0 | False | false | 2 | 1 | 2023-05-13 04:43:30 |
13fs2yz | Desperation. Loneliness. Poor boundaries. Magical thinking. Immaturity. History of abuse/abandonment. Many, many reasons. None of them good and all avoidable.
Edit: sorry for the poor wording. I meant that these traits are identifiable and avoidable in a potential partner. Not that people who were abused had any choice in it. | 0 | 1683932826.0 | false | 2 | 1 | 2023-05-12 21:07:37 |
13fs2yz | [deleted] | 1 | 1683917574.0 | false | -2 | 3 | 2023-05-12 20:50:01 |
13fs2yz | It's the thrill. When someone is into you, and it's not your mom, you might be doing something right. And heck, you might get your piece wet. | 0 | False | false | 0 | 0 | 2023-05-12 21:35:26 |
13fs2yz | because societal structure dictates to only show kindness to people you care about.
it's the whole "Master" / "Slave" mentality that exists in most types of "relationships",
you "pay" someone for something that they do, you "groom" someone you're fancying.
so much people are damaged from this type of "hear nothing, see nothing, say nothing" mentality,
it's the mentality of "EVERYONE has a price" - it's the mentality of "NOTHING is free"
so when someone, somewhere, starts to treat people "Good" for no apparent reason,
people automatically assume that they're being "groomed" or "conditioned" in some way.
Thanks to these societal traditions of giving others "tough love", you're the TOXIC one for showing compassion and kindness..
[This Song](https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=RXZumpbHOVA) comes to mind | 0 | 1683924216.0 | false | 0 | 0 | 2023-05-12 23:38:41 |
13fs2yz | Stupidity | 0 | False | false | 0 | 0 | 2023-05-13 02:10:14 |
13fs2yz | Sexual attraction combined with any expression of interest in the form of kindness. | 0 | False | false | 1 | 4 | 2023-05-12 21:17:01 |
13fs2yz | they where nice to me once.... WHAT IF THEY COULD BE NICE TO ME EVERY DAY!!! | 0 | False | false | 1 | 1 | 2023-05-12 21:28:02 |
13fs2yz | It’s normally the other way around | 0 | False | false | 1 | 0 | 2023-05-12 21:38:30 |
13fs2yz | Probably because they aren't used to that treatment, so it's a big deal for them if someone does the bare minimum. | 0 | False | false | 1 | 0 | 2023-05-12 23:08:08 |
13fs2yz | They dont know many kind people | 0 | False | false | 1 | 0 | 2023-05-12 23:49:51 |
13fs2yz | I'm saying this as a person who was abused and was constantly belittled as a child. I never felt loved when someone is mad at me.and I constantly tried to seek validation when the person who hurt me showed me affection I start to feel more confident and then or if some random person said Im proud of you | 0 | False | false | 1 | 0 | 2023-05-13 00:29:40 |
13fs2yz | I grew up in a very cold but loving family with a strong father figure and i am married butyet, whenever someone shows me the slightest affection, i feel overwhelemed and i have to repay it doubly. And i thought of it bedore, i think its because im such a people pleaser ( started when i wanted to please my parent like many first children out there) that i took it a habit of always giving so when im on the receiving end, its unnatural and incredibly satisfying and heartwarming. | 0 | False | false | 1 | 0 | 2023-05-13 00:52:24 |
13fs2yz | I’ll probably get downvoted for this, but I hear the “starved for affection” line all the time when it comes to this topic. While I’m sure that’s true for some, I think that there are just as many people who do this because they only show kindness to members of the opposite sex who the want to date/have sex with, so in their mind if someone is kind to them it means they are interested romantically and latch onto it. Then they feel like they are entitled to some sort of relationship because that person ‘led them on’ simply by being nice. | 0 | False | false | 1 | 0 | 2023-05-13 01:08:49 |
13fs2yz | Because thats how our brains are wired. | 0 | False | false | 1 | 0 | 2023-05-13 01:44:37 |
13fs2yz | It is due to the unfortunate state of only rarely ever receiving kindness. I gave someone a "you're not worthless" once and they took it as flirting...it's sad that kindness is so rare in many people's lives. | 0 | False | false | 1 | 0 | 2023-05-13 02:06:28 |
13fs2yz | Being kind is an attractive quality in a person. | 0 | False | false | 1 | 0 | 2023-05-13 02:29:17 |
13fs2yz | It’s probably the most amount of kindness and attention they have ever received and are just excited. | 0 | False | false | 1 | 0 | 2023-05-13 02:34:53 |
13fs2yz | People who've experienced very authoritarian rule from their parents as kids and showed their love through micromanagement rather than actually saying it. Therefore, those kids did anything to get some form of attention or love like getting good grades, doing chores, etc, which shouldn't determine whether a parents gives their child love or not.
So when a stranger shows them the tiniest of kindness, it's almost hard to believe. | 0 | False | false | 1 | 0 | 2023-05-13 03:07:49 |
13fs2yz | Because they never learned how to make normal, healthy connections with other people and they can only think of it in terms of leaping straight to a romantic relationship. Ironically, this same inability to socialize is what turns people away from them, which loops into a cycle.
The solution is therapy. | 0 | False | false | 1 | 0 | 2023-05-13 03:20:37 |
13fs2yz | You kinda get used to it as you get older. I remember being around 10 when it popped in my head that I was invisible if I was doing nothing wrong. That hasn't changed but it is has gotten so much easier to deal with.
You haven't made peace with this yet deep down so the moment you get even a bit you do whatever you can to get more. | 0 | False | false | 1 | 0 | 2023-05-13 03:24:07 |
13fs2yz | Don’t women hate simps? | 0 | False | false | 1 | 0 | 2023-05-13 04:00:35 |
13fs2yz | They might need some therapy. And hugs. | 0 | False | false | 1 | 0 | 2023-05-13 04:12:23 |
13fs2yz | They're starved for any bit of kindness, so as soon as someone shows it, it goes a long way | 0 | False | false | 1 | 0 | 2023-05-13 05:02:22 |
13fs2yz | Trauma and neglect | 0 | False | false | 1 | 0 | 2023-05-13 05:22:04 |
13fs2yz | I always think it’s because they’re settling, either with or without knowing it. They rather be with someone, anyone… even a crappy person than be alone. | 0 | False | false | 1 | 0 | 2023-05-13 05:38:37 |
13fs2yz | Because they want more from them | 0 | False | false | 1 | 0 | 2023-05-13 05:44:23 |
13fs2yz | Because some people never have someone be kind to them. | 0 | False | false | 1 | 0 | 2023-05-13 06:23:35 |
13fs2o9 | Go to a shared space like a WeWork or similar. Or a coffee shop. Or get together a bunch of likeminded friends and turn one of your homes into a workspace. | 0 | False | false | 2 | 2 | 2023-05-12 20:57:03 |
13fs2o9 | A lot of people get on Omegle and masturbate. Never tried it but it’s a thing | 0 | False | false | 0 | 0 | 2023-05-12 20:51:31 |
13fs252 | I’ll start. Hot air balloon noose. Nuff’ said. | 0 | False | true | 2 | 0 | 2023-05-12 20:49:16 |
13fs252 | Make sure it’s a week before they find you with the heat set to 90. | 0 | False | false | 2 | 1 | 2023-05-12 20:50:52 |
13fs252 | Pack you full of dynamite and blow you up. | 0 | False | false | 2 | 1 | 2023-05-12 20:51:07 |
13fs252 | Jet turbine | 0 | False | false | 2 | 1 | 2023-05-12 20:51:50 |
13fs252 | Necrophilia | 0 | False | false | 2 | 1 | 2023-05-12 20:57:42 |
13fs252 | Tibetan sky burial | 0 | False | false | 2 | 0 | 2023-05-12 21:39:42 |
13fs237 | Thank you everyone… bunch of new music to check out. | 0 | False | true | 1 | 0 | 2023-05-13 01:31:09 |
13fs237 | BLP Kosher
I thought he was a meme rapper but I can't stop listening to that dudes wordplay | 0 | False | false | 1 | 0 | 2023-05-12 20:50:24 |
13fs237 | This Song is Called it’s Called What it’s Called - Hot Mulligan | 0 | False | false | 1 | 0 | 2023-05-12 20:52:30 |
13fs237 | Dolly Parton's, she's such a pro | 0 | False | false | 1 | 0 | 2023-05-12 20:52:44 |
13fs237 | Tapeworm -Fading | 0 | False | false | 1 | 0 | 2023-05-12 20:54:37 |
13fs237 | Aqua Regia by Sleep Token | 0 | False | false | 1 | 0 | 2023-05-12 21:28:32 |
13fs237 | Ring of Fire by Eric Burdon and The Animals. Perhaps the last hot single of the group before their second dissolution in 1968, and his last song of the 1960s before hooking up with War in 1970 | 0 | False | false | 1 | 0 | 2023-05-12 21:34:16 |
13fs237 | Aespa’s Thirsty (and Spicy), i feel like i time travelled as a teenager. (even tho im only turning 21) | 0 | False | false | 1 | 0 | 2023-05-12 21:40:27 |
13fs237 | 1001 - Art Nation | 0 | False | false | 1 | 0 | 2023-05-13 00:48:03 |
13fs19d | More because of the sound but the curb scene in American history x. | 0 | False | false | 209 | 16 | 2023-05-12 20:52:50 |
13fs19d | When Gregor Clegane kills Oberyn Martell in S4 of Game of Thrones.
I read the books before and it was pretty grim. I did not expect it to be so real when watching the show. I was speechless. | 0 | False | false | 155 | 12 | 2023-05-12 21:13:32 |
13fs19d | Opie getting beat in son's of anarchy. It's still a tough watch for me. | 0 | False | false | 55 | 8 | 2023-05-12 21:13:45 |
13fs19d | Casino - Baseball bats in the corn field. Being forced to watch your brother beaten to a pulp, then being beaten to a pulp yourself and buried alive. Making me uncomfortable just typing it. | 0 | False | false | 56 | 4 | 2023-05-12 21:35:22 |
13fs19d | Little known movie, Bone Tomahawk. Guy gets killed in a cave by some cannibals in pretty much the worst possible way I could imagine going. | 0 | False | false | 101 | 14 | 2023-05-12 22:22:19 |
13fs19d | THAT scene in S3 Ep1 of the boys, you know the one because holy crap, it’s gruesome | 0 | False | false | 66 | 14 | 2023-05-12 20:51:40 |
13fs19d | The end of the story line for all 4 main characters in Requiem for a Dream | 0 | False | false | 63 | 7 | 2023-05-12 21:33:09 |
13fs19d | The hobbling scene from Misery. I watched it once. That was enough and I'll never revisit the scene. | 0 | False | false | 30 | 3 | 2023-05-13 00:50:52 |
13fs19d | Pan's Labyrinth. Killing the son in front of the father in such a way. | 0 | False | false | 26 | 1 | 2023-05-12 22:37:49 |
13fs19d | The Red Wedding comes to mind... | 0 | False | false | 56 | 4 | 2023-05-12 20:50:35 |
13fs19d | Probably doesn't hold up as well anymore but when I was a kid I watched 13 Ghosts and the scene where one dude gets cut in half by a vertical glass door...that will stay with me forever. | 0 | False | false | 39 | 8 | 2023-05-12 20:53:23 |
13fs19d | Glenns death in The Walking Dead is definitely way up there. Especially for a main character | 0 | False | false | 59 | 9 | 2023-05-12 22:39:09 |
13fs19d | The rape scene in part one of The Girl With The Dragon Tattoo. The panicked tiny kicks and her screaming were fucking haunting. | 0 | False | false | 15 | 2 | 2023-05-12 23:55:50 |
13fs19d | The ending of the very first episode of Invincible. That scene has stuck with me ever since I first saw it. | 0 | False | false | 12 | 1 | 2023-05-12 22:42:00 |
13fs19d | Omni-Man killing the Guardians of the Globe. | 0 | False | false | 46 | 0 | 2023-05-12 20:52:01 |
13fs19d | Outlander. Where Jamie basically gives himself to Blackjack Randall. Had a hard time watching that one. It was brutal. | 0 | False | false | 11 | 1 | 2023-05-13 01:08:47 |
13fs19d | Buffy's mom dying. If you didn't cry that whole episode you have no soul | 0 | False | false | 12 | 2 | 2023-05-13 01:43:02 |
13fs19d | The rape scene in Irreversible. | 0 | False | false | 27 | 5 | 2023-05-12 23:06:58 |
13fs19d | The wood chipper scene from Fargo comes to mind. | 0 | False | false | 10 | 0 | 2023-05-12 22:53:47 |
13fs19d | "Achoo."
The Boys, Season 3 | 0 | False | false | 11 | 0 | 2023-05-13 01:13:29 |
13fs19d | Irreversible - the camera shakes and angles make it that much more jarring | 0 | False | false | 22 | 5 | 2023-05-12 21:22:57 |
13fs19d | The last scene in The Mist. Fuck that whole scene. The book didn't end that brutally. | 0 | False | false | 21 | 2 | 2023-05-13 00:17:58 |
13fs19d | The punisher season 1, last episode... In the carousel.
Not just the act, but the history behind the people involved | 0 | False | false | 16 | 1 | 2023-05-12 20:59:03 |
13fs19d | Dan vs the Captain in Deadwood.
Burton be Nola in Banshee | 0 | False | false | 8 | 2 | 2023-05-13 01:12:31 |
13fs19d | In more recent media, the C-section scene in the House of the Dragon pilot was pretty brutal. | 0 | False | false | 15 | 0 | 2023-05-13 01:13:59 |
13fs19d | Hodor, and you can’t just go to YouTube and watch it. It won’t make sense. 6 seasons to build such a beautiful character the. To screw him over like that. Solid gut punch. | 0 | False | false | 13 | 1 | 2023-05-13 00:43:32 |
13fs19d | The rape scene in Goblin Slayer, or the sexual torture of Peña’s informants in Narcos S1, E2 | 0 | False | false | 6 | 0 | 2023-05-12 21:21:33 |
13fs19d | Man Behind the Sun. The scene starting at about 00.00.10 and finishes right before the end credits. | 0 | False | false | 6 | 0 | 2023-05-12 22:01:53 |
13fs19d | The ending of “Megan is Missing”. | 0 | False | false | 6 | 1 | 2023-05-12 22:44:02 |
13fs19d | Soprano's.. Adriana, Silvio , the demise of a much loved character, who knew what was coming | 0 | False | false | 7 | 1 | 2023-05-13 01:07:20 |
13fs19d | The "Stuck In The Middle With You" scene from Reservoir Dogs. | 0 | False | false | 6 | 1 | 2023-05-13 03:33:22 |
13fs19d | The Blood Eagle scene in Vikings | 0 | False | false | 6 | 0 | 2023-05-13 04:07:17 |