.  The thing is- my friend is military, and tact isn't something they seem to encourage. Harsh bluntness seems to be the order of the day. He spends a lot of time getting talked to like that, and dealing with people who he has to push to get them to do their jobs. I think he forgets that not everyone operates that way, or forgets to turn the "at work" switch off sometimes.  As for my fitness, I suspect he thinks it's my fault for not getting to the gym more often.  