.  This may be a mildly paranoid tactic, but if I were at all suspicious that I might be meeting a crazy, I'd opt for a coffee place that does not provide refills. That just puts a natural end point on the conversation if you want it to. And if you're enjoying the conversation, you can always suggest a second cup or a walk to someplace else, like a park for more talk.  This may be a mildly paranoid tactic, but if I were at all suspicious that I might be meeting a crazy, I'd opt for a coffee place that does not provide refills. That just puts a natural end point on the conversation if you want it to. And if you're enjoying the conversation, you can always suggest a second cup or a walk to someplace else, like a park for more talk.  That's a good thing to consider, and I wouldn't consider it paranoid, I consider it appropriately cautious.  Luckily very few places in Australia offer free refill and they are not the type of place I'd pick for a first meeting. I'm also not a coffee drinker, so I need to be somewhere that does a good hot chocolate... oooh actually a chocolate milkshake. It's too hot for hot chocolate.  That's a good thing to consider, and I wouldn't consider it paranoid, I consider it appropriately cautious.  Luckily very few places in Australia offer free refill and they are not the type of place I'd pick for a first meeting. I'm also not a coffee drinker, so I need to be somewhere that does a good hot chocolate... oooh actually a chocolate milkshake. It's too hot for hot chocolate.  