.  __________________If I had my way we'd sleep every night all wrapped around each other like hibernating rattlesnakes.  If anyone ever makes a joke about "paranoia" or "the good ol' days" or is anything less than 000 percent behind what-the-fuck-ever hesitation I express due to my own safety concerns, that's setting off an alert at the back of my mind.  Now it may be a "just kidding"  (Take this as general rant, not specifically directed at you, Netzach.)  One of the reasons why I have learned to hate internet dating with a passion are women chickening out. I really wish I would own a copy of the Point of View Gun. It's always us guys that are supposed to understand the position of the weak, innocent, endangered females - I wish we would deserve this very same treatment and that at least once a woman tries to understand the point of view of a man. It just plain sucks to get stood up over and over and over again. It sucks and frustrates and why shouldn't we express this frustration? It scares you? So what, we are spending most of the time trying to figure out if we are chasing a Fata Morgana, because 00% of the time we are.  We have spent days, weeks, nights chatting with you, sharing our secrets, learning yours and tried our best to fawn over you. And then we aren't even worth half an hour of your real life and a coffee _we_ will pay for. The bum two blocks from you has spent more time with you in real life than we did - you walked past after all.  So, while you picture yourself already as Norman Bates next victim when you just leave your apartment and ponder, whether this date is worth the risk, it really merely comes down to the question, whether you have the decency to have a date with your date or not.  Thank god I'm married and past all this.  So, no, I don't think he was just kidding. I don't think either that it makes him more or less creepier. It just shows that you are not the first person he tried to date (and no, this doesn't make a guy creepier either.) Yes, Norman Bates might say something like this to entice his victim. But worrying about whether he is dangerous or not because of this is about as useful as worrying about whether you have a car accident on the way or not and if this shouldn't be reason enough to cancel the whole idea of meeting someone. Seriously, please...  __________________ "Gemini-born men are intellectual, energetic, enthusiastic and fun to be with, but they are stunningly unpredictable. Are they fully reliable? Well, it is doubtful. Itís not because they are deceitful, disloyal or dishonest, itís because they are so prone to change their minds and shift to newer, more exciting things that it is very difficult to know what they are up to."  I