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I fucked up and its my fault. I just need to get this out because there’s no one I can talk to.\n\nMy wife and I were having issues. Just the usual issues the struggle and strain of life, raising a family etc. We were struggling and nothing was getting better and I felt like I wasn’t good enough. That I never would be.\n\nAnd then I met ‘Carly’ online. She was much younger than me so we just talked but then she started flirting with me and it made me feel good. I didn’t tell her I was married, didn’t want her to stop flirting.\n\nI told myself it wouldn’t go anywhere. I was just enjoying the attention. And we were just talking. She lived the other side of the world there was no chance of us meeting. And then we had cybersex. I felt better than I had in ages. Cybersex then became video and phone sex anytime my wife was out. 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I fucked up and its my fault. I just need to get this out because there’s no one I can talk to.</p>\n\n<p>My wife and I were having issues. Just the usual issues the struggle and strain of life, raising a family etc. We were struggling and nothing was getting better and I felt like I wasn’t good enough. That I never would be.</p>\n\n<p>And then I met ‘Carly’ online. She was much younger than me so we just talked but then she started flirting with me and it made me feel good. I didn’t tell her I was married, didn’t want her to stop flirting.</p>\n\n<p>I told myself it wouldn’t go anywhere. I was just enjoying the attention. And we were just talking. She lived the other side of the world there was no chance of us meeting. And then we had cybersex. I felt better than I had in ages. Cybersex then became video and phone sex anytime my wife was out. We sent photos and videos every day.</p>\n\n<p>The more I spent time with Carly, the more I couldn’t stand being with my wife so I broke up with her.</p>\n\n<p>I didn’t tell my wife about the affair, I gave other excuses but my wife knew something was up and found out about the affair.</p>\n\n<p>It broke her. She didn’t eat, didn’t sleep, she cried all the time. I justified it by telling myself my wife is a strong woman she’ll get over it. I hate myself for thinking that way. But I did.</p>\n\n<p>My wife went to therapy. Stopped crying. Started eating and sleeping again. Started smiling again. Stopped begging me not to leave. And I thought great. See I was right. I stopped feeling guilty. I felt relieved.</p>\n\n<p>My wife and I had to live together for a while until I found a place but I barely saw her and she barely spoke to me. 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Even if it meant not talking to Carly.</p>\n\n<p>And then one time I passed a perfume shop and smelled my wife’s perfume and I don’t know why but I broke down. In that moment I didn’t want to talk to Carly. I wanted my wife.</p>\n\n<p>Carly and I broke up. I thought I’d miss her. I didn’t. I missed things my wife did. Small things. Big things. I didn’t miss a single thing Carly did.</p>\n\n<p>During handover of our daughter one day I blurted out that Carly and I broke up. I don’t know why, I didn’t even mean to, it just came out. My wife nodded and said I’m sorry to hear that. And I don’t know why but that stung. She didn’t say it spitefully, she was calm and pleasant, like we were just talking about the weather or something. I almost wish she did say it with some spite or glee or something. But she didn’t.</p>\n\n<p>Any time I try to talk about us or what happened, my wife shuts the conversation down.</p>\n\n<p>She’s civil but she looks at me like I’m a stranger. 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This is an alt account because my parents follow my main. \n\nThis all started about 10 years ago! \n\nI (36F) downloaded an app off of the Playstore that promised to give you cash if you watched ads. To my shock, it actually did! And I started winning big when I gambled my points from watching ads to the point where I had about 14 million points. You could use the points for gift cards. So I started grabbing $25 Starbucks cards. Before you ask, the app doesn't exist in the same format any more. :( All good things must come to an end. Anyway! 14 million points translates to about $700 worth of gift cards. But the catch was that they only restocked cards like 3 times per day, and it was first come, first serve. It took about 2 years of everyday ads to get money like that, but I stuck with it. The rewards were sweet. I claimed many $25 Starbucks cards! And yes, it's really was valid. It was awesome. Was. Eventually, the restocks got few and far between, and then just stopped. But to be fair, I had it real good for like 6 years. \n\nNow comes the secret. I always used those gift cards to treat my parents to Starbucks. My mom (67F) and my dad (73M). I told them about the app and how I had an insane amount of cash on there, and we were able to get Starbucks basically once a week for many years. All it took was about an hour of ads every day. Sweet deal. It was nice to give my parents something. We were never a rich family, and they took care of me. But, as I said... The app stopped being that awesome. Eventually, my points were useless because they stopped restocking. However, I enjoyed how happy it made my parents and how they'd light up when I brought them their favourite orders. The time we've spent just having a little lunch all together is precious to me. So even though I was no longer getting gift cards, I decided to not tell them that the app closed down. Because I know that if I ever told them I was paying for all of it, they would refuse because they know I barely scrape by. They only allow me to treat them so frequently because it's supposed to be free.\n\nThey continue to brag about how I get the gift cards. Every single time, they laugh and smile and are so excited that they get free Starbucks. When they call or we just talk, they always ask if I've watched my ads for today yet. I always tell them of course! My dad loves to know how many points I have now. Which is 0 because I uninstalled the app, but he doesn't need to know! They both thank me all the time and it's a little slice of joy once a month, or sometimes once a week. \n\nI am never going to tell them that I have been paying for it for about 5 years now. I have no plans to stop. I still buy them Starbucks every time I see them, or we are out for errands or something. This secret will go to the grave with me. :) I just wanted to tell someone without it getting back to them. Today, I surprised them with lunch because they're going through a hard time, so it's fresh in my mind, and I had to make a post! It will always bring a smile to my face. I'm the type who never lies if I can help it, so I always get that OCD itch that I'm lying, but giving them Starbucks makes us so happy. It's cute that it's such a point of excitement for them, and I always want it to be that way. ♡\n\nThanks for reading my little secret. Don't tell anyone! ;P \n\nTL;DR: \nAd app gave me tons of $25 Starbucks gift cards. Treated my parents to Starbucks for years once a weekish, they always got so excited it was free and still do, except it's not free any more. My secret is that the app is long gone, and I've been paying for it for about 5 years now. My parents have so much fun, asking me if I've watched my ads today. They light up when I drop by and surprise them. I know they'd refuse if they knew I was paying, so I am never going to tell them. 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This is an alt account because my parents follow my main. </p>\n\n<p>This all started about 10 years ago! </p>\n\n<p>I (36F) downloaded an app off of the Playstore that promised to give you cash if you watched ads. To my shock, it actually did! And I started winning big when I gambled my points from watching ads to the point where I had about 14 million points. You could use the points for gift cards. So I started grabbing $25 Starbucks cards. Before you ask, the app doesn&#39;t exist in the same format any more. :( All good things must come to an end. Anyway! 14 million points translates to about $700 worth of gift cards. But the catch was that they only restocked cards like 3 times per day, and it was first come, first serve. It took about 2 years of everyday ads to get money like that, but I stuck with it. The rewards were sweet. I claimed many $25 Starbucks cards! And yes, it&#39;s really was valid. It was awesome. Was. Eventually, the restocks got few and far between, and then just stopped. But to be fair, I had it real good for like 6 years. </p>\n\n<p>Now comes the secret. I always used those gift cards to treat my parents to Starbucks. My mom (67F) and my dad (73M). I told them about the app and how I had an insane amount of cash on there, and we were able to get Starbucks basically once a week for many years. All it took was about an hour of ads every day. Sweet deal. It was nice to give my parents something. We were never a rich family, and they took care of me. But, as I said... The app stopped being that awesome. Eventually, my points were useless because they stopped restocking. However, I enjoyed how happy it made my parents and how they&#39;d light up when I brought them their favourite orders. The time we&#39;ve spent just having a little lunch all together is precious to me. So even though I was no longer getting gift cards, I decided to not tell them that the app closed down. Because I know that if I ever told them I was paying for all of it, they would refuse because they know I barely scrape by. They only allow me to treat them so frequently because it&#39;s supposed to be free.</p>\n\n<p>They continue to brag about how I get the gift cards. Every single time, they laugh and smile and are so excited that they get free Starbucks. When they call or we just talk, they always ask if I&#39;ve watched my ads for today yet. I always tell them of course! My dad loves to know how many points I have now. Which is 0 because I uninstalled the app, but he doesn&#39;t need to know! They both thank me all the time and it&#39;s a little slice of joy once a month, or sometimes once a week. </p>\n\n<p>I am never going to tell them that I have been paying for it for about 5 years now. I have no plans to stop. I still buy them Starbucks every time I see them, or we are out for errands or something. This secret will go to the grave with me. :) I just wanted to tell someone without it getting back to them. Today, I surprised them with lunch because they&#39;re going through a hard time, so it&#39;s fresh in my mind, and I had to make a post! It will always bring a smile to my face. I&#39;m the type who never lies if I can help it, so I always get that OCD itch that I&#39;m lying, but giving them Starbucks makes us so happy. It&#39;s cute that it&#39;s such a point of excitement for them, and I always want it to be that way. ♡</p>\n\n<p>Thanks for reading my little secret. Don&#39;t tell anyone! ;P </p>\n\n<p>TL;DR: \nAd app gave me tons of $25 Starbucks gift cards. Treated my parents to Starbucks for years once a weekish, they always got so excited it was free and still do, except it&#39;s not free any more. My secret is that the app is long gone, and I&#39;ve been paying for it for about 5 years now. My parents have so much fun, asking me if I&#39;ve watched my ads today. 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That was very nice, although I did start of by sending something less confrontational. \n\nTo answer the most common questions: \n\nThe school had documentation to call my husband, or his mother ever since we enrolled there. I double checked our computer portal with the school website and it's still listed that way, including that I can't be contacted for anything that might be time sensitive. \n\nI cannot have my phone on my person while I'm working, period. \n\nMy work place has an automatic answering machine for public calls, so even if the school did call them I wouldn't get the message for probably another half hour at absolute best. Even then, I work about 30-40 minutes away if traffic is good. \n\nYes, I am in a more traditional area, although its never been too huge of a deal before besides having to commute to the city for work. \n\nThis is not going to be the super dramatic update I'm sure a lot of people were hoping for. Sorry? \n\nFirst off, I did not jump straight to getting an attorney to threaten them. I did call and ask a local family law firm and the person I spoke to told me if we did have to go as far as suing it would look better to try to exhaust options on my own before threatening legal action, but they would be happy to look over any communications between us and we could CC them on any emails and asked me to get any information on the potential neglect/abandonment case I could while they looked into it as well. \n\nI started by sending a follow up email to the principal, and CC'd the superintendent and LawPerson on it asking for confirmation that they had checked our file for who to call, more details on who exactly was spoken to at CPS, any case numbers, and the name of the person who was sitting alone with my sick daughter and did not speak to my husband or identify themselves. Unfortunately(or maybe fortunately?) the principal was out of town for several days with some family emergency. \n\nAfter a day with no reply the superintendent emailed me directly asking for more details, and I sent them an email outlining exactly what had happened from our perspective, screen shots from my phone, my husband's phone, and his mother's phone showing the phone calls and the lack of them. \n\nMonday the principal finally got back to us and we got some answers. \n\nThe woman sitting with our daughter was one of the school councilors, just not the one assigned to her. \n\nNo one actually contacted CPS, there is no case open against us, that was just a straight up lie. The woman who told me she had, had actually called the schools social worker(not CPS), who then sent the counselor to sit with her. Instead of, you know, telling her that was ridiculous or going himself. 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That was very nice, although I did start of by sending something less confrontational. </p>\n\n<p>To answer the most common questions: </p>\n\n<p>The school had documentation to call my husband, or his mother ever since we enrolled there. I double checked our computer portal with the school website and it&#39;s still listed that way, including that I can&#39;t be contacted for anything that might be time sensitive. </p>\n\n<p>I cannot have my phone on my person while I&#39;m working, period. </p>\n\n<p>My work place has an automatic answering machine for public calls, so even if the school did call them I wouldn&#39;t get the message for probably another half hour at absolute best. 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We went to marriage therapists 4 times and everytime we thought we were healed and I felt good at myself and our marriage.\n\nMy husband's latest infidelity put us right back into marriage therapy. The difference was that this time it was a man and his usual psychopathic charms didn't work on him. Now I think about it, all our previous marriage therapists were very pretty women he chose because I told him to choose. He charmed them and they always sided with him and he would comfort me by telling me that he think they are biased against me.\n\nThis marriage therapist was different, I choose him because he was very renowned, every appointment made me feel like shit. Then it got better, turns out he changed his tactics and figured a way to charm this man. But he caught on to it and called him out.\n\nHe started by praising my husband for how intelligent and perceptive he is. Then he explained to me how he manipulated poeple around him including me and therapists. How he changed his tactics just because his usual tricks didn't work on him.\n\nIt was like I was in the Twilight zone. He is a plumber by trade, I am a lawyer. I honestly didn't knew he was this smart. I thought I could read people. I guess he hid it from me all along.\n\nI do get flashbacks of times when he was actually very insightful when I was stuck. But it was few and far between so I thought it was dumb luck. He acts so clueless in day to day life, but he always gets what he want.\n\nHow stupid I was. I have very smart kids and I thought they got their intelligence from me. Turns out they got it from their father. \n\nIts very traumatizjng to be manipulated for so long. I just want to pretend like it never happened and move on with my life. He always knew what to say to mske me happy and content. 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We went to marriage therapists 4 times and everytime we thought we were healed and I felt good at myself and our marriage.</p>\n\n<p>My husband&#39;s latest infidelity put us right back into marriage therapy. The difference was that this time it was a man and his usual psychopathic charms didn&#39;t work on him. Now I think about it, all our previous marriage therapists were very pretty women he chose because I told him to choose. He charmed them and they always sided with him and he would comfort me by telling me that he think they are biased against me.</p>\n\n<p>This marriage therapist was different, I choose him because he was very renowned, every appointment made me feel like shit. Then it got better, turns out he changed his tactics and figured a way to charm this man. But he caught on to it and called him out.</p>\n\n<p>He started by praising my husband for how intelligent and perceptive he is. 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Our relationship was not good, I was 16 when we met online and he was 24. I'm a bigger woman, always have been due to health issues I've had my entire life. My ex emotionally and financially abused me, and when he started emotionally abusing our son (now 15) I finally found the courage to ask him for a separation and tell him to move out. He never moved out, I did in 2019, into a 3-bedroom apartment with my son, mother, and her husband. His girlfriend (26) moved in with him from another country. \n\nOur divorce was finalized in 2019 and I've worked hard to make my life better. In the past almost 6 years, I'm in therapy, I've purchased my own house, have 2 cars (still being paid off), graduated with my Bachelor's, and working towards my Master's (about 48% done!). I still have a long way to go but I'm proud of how far I've come. \n\nAbout a month ago, I was talking to my son about what (if anything) we were inviting his father to this year. While they started out with a good relationship, my son and his dad's girlfriend no longer get along and my son wants nothing to do with her. If she comes to things, he refuses to interact with his dad. She yells at him, screams, and breaks things. I've given my son the option to stay home and he wants to go over still.\n\nMy son told me he wanted to invite his dad to everything this year, as they were getting 'divorced ' (never married, but claim to be). I was surprised, even more so when my son told me the reason: she thinks I've sought out someone skilled in dark magic and cursed her. She's had a lot of health issues the past few years, and apparently feels that it's my fault because of this curse I put on her. She thinks that if she leaves him, I'll drop this curse and she'll be healed. \n\nI don't knew why she feels this way. I thought we had an okay relationship until I pulled away - that started when my son started confiding in me about how she treats him. 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Our relationship was not good, I was 16 when we met online and he was 24. I&#39;m a bigger woman, always have been due to health issues I&#39;ve had my entire life. My ex emotionally and financially abused me, and when he started emotionally abusing our son (now 15) I finally found the courage to ask him for a separation and tell him to move out. He never moved out, I did in 2019, into a 3-bedroom apartment with my son, mother, and her husband. His girlfriend (26) moved in with him from another country. </p>\n\n<p>Our divorce was finalized in 2019 and I&#39;ve worked hard to make my life better. In the past almost 6 years, I&#39;m in therapy, I&#39;ve purchased my own house, have 2 cars (still being paid off), graduated with my Bachelor&#39;s, and working towards my Master&#39;s (about 48% done!). 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I needed a photo that my dad took of a document and he kept forgetting to send it to me even though I asked multiple times. I got tired of waiting and reminding him so when I got to his house and found his phone laying on the kitchen table I decided to just go to his gallery and send the picture to myself. He has never really hid his phone or acted sneaky so I literally didn’t think anything of it. When I went to his gallery, my heart sank. It was full of naked women. I know most men watch prn so it didn’t faze me all that much but it caught me off guard and disgusted me because hes my dad. I just scoffed and was about to click out when I seen something very disturbing in the bottom middle of his gallery. It was a video of what very early looked like two pre-teen girls walking on the beach in skimpy swimsuits. It was soft CP. It was very suggestive, and having the context of what he was doing with the pictures of the naked women, I just felt sick to my stomach seeing that. I cleared off his phone and since then I can’t stop thinking about it. Now I can’t even look him in the face or talk to him. I mean, a video of little girls? It’s disgusting and I don’t even know what to make of him or it. I feel like I can’t ever bring it up to anyone but I can’t even pretend like I didn’t see what I seen. I just feel so disgusted and confused. What should I do if anything?", + "author_fullname": "t2_d7frbi9n4", + "saved": false, + "mod_reason_title": null, + "gilded": 0, + "clicked": false, + "title": "found something disturbing on my dads phone and idk what to do", + "link_flair_richtext": [], + "subreddit_name_prefixed": "r/TrueOffMyChest", + "hidden": false, + "pwls": 7, + "link_flair_css_class": null, + "downs": 0, + "thumbnail_height": null, + "top_awarded_type": null, + "hide_score": false, + "name": "t3_1njq9kq", + "quarantine": false, + "link_flair_text_color": "dark", + "upvote_ratio": 0.95, + "author_flair_background_color": null, + "subreddit_type": "public", + "ups": 2035, + "total_awards_received": 0, + "media_embed": {}, + "thumbnail_width": null, + "author_flair_template_id": null, + "is_original_content": false, + "user_reports": [], + "secure_media": null, + "is_reddit_media_domain": false, + "is_meta": false, + "category": null, + "secure_media_embed": {}, + "link_flair_text": null, + "can_mod_post": false, + "score": 2035, + "approved_by": null, + "is_created_from_ads_ui": false, + "author_premium": false, + "thumbnail": "nsfw", + "edited": false, + "author_flair_css_class": null, + "author_flair_richtext": [], + "gildings": {}, + "content_categories": null, + "is_self": true, + "mod_note": null, + "created": 1758145530.0, + "link_flair_type": "text", + "wls": 7, + "removed_by_category": null, + "banned_by": null, + "author_flair_type": "text", + "domain": "self.TrueOffMyChest", + "allow_live_comments": false, + "selftext_html": "<!-- SC_OFF --><div class=\"md\"><p>F18 and i really just need to get this off my chest or find some advice on what to even do.</p>\n\n<p>This happened earlier this morning. I needed a photo that my dad took of a document and he kept forgetting to send it to me even though I asked multiple times. I got tired of waiting and reminding him so when I got to his house and found his phone laying on the kitchen table I decided to just go to his gallery and send the picture to myself. He has never really hid his phone or acted sneaky so I literally didn’t think anything of it. When I went to his gallery, my heart sank. It was full of naked women. I know most men watch prn so it didn’t faze me all that much but it caught me off guard and disgusted me because hes my dad. I just scoffed and was about to click out when I seen something very disturbing in the bottom middle of his gallery. It was a video of what very early looked like two pre-teen girls walking on the beach in skimpy swimsuits. It was soft CP. It was very suggestive, and having the context of what he was doing with the pictures of the naked women, I just felt sick to my stomach seeing that. I cleared off his phone and since then I can’t stop thinking about it. Now I can’t even look him in the face or talk to him. I mean, a video of little girls? It’s disgusting and I don’t even know what to make of him or it. I feel like I can’t ever bring it up to anyone but I can’t even pretend like I didn’t see what I seen. I just feel so disgusted and confused. 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