Marni: Yes, there you go. I like it. Wait, so what are they showing you on Twitter? What they bought? Kristen: I can’t remember exactly but there was a Tweet. Someone had a Tweet like they took a screenshot and it was the Ask Women thing… Marni: Why am I not seeing these? Haely: I saw that. That’s awesome. Kristen: Yes, you could see a little cursor clicking on the Ask Women banner and then someone sent a picture of the items that they bought. Marni: What? I am on all the time. How did I not see this stuff? Haely: We love you guys! Well, you’re not looking hard enough. Mo: Well how this? We do a contest now and will do it for the month of September. The person that spends the most through this could come on the show and all four of us will give them advice. Kristen: I love that! I like that. You could even have an alias if you want. Mo: Yes. Marni: But this is not a take away from the initial contest of “We have to beat Mo” on Twitter. Kristen: No! Marni: Don`t get too confused with all the contests being thrown at you! Mo: Yes. For my men out there who want to support me at @MoDarwiche, come on boys.
Kristen: Follow us on Twitter, follow me @kristencarney and follow Marni @winggirlmethod. I don’t know why I always do it for you too but … Marni: I know well it’s very nice of you. Adam, you’re spreading the HPV. Okay, thank you so much for being on the show Adam, you’re fantastic, you’re bold. Kristen: So much great information. Adam: So much fun. Kristen: And super sexy and full of STDs. Adam: Just one of them. Marni: Okay we’ll see you next time guys, thanks for listening. Go Listen or Download The Podcast Here: - Episode #61 MEHOW: Boobs! And Mehow Guest: Dating and attraction coach for men and women, Mehow (Pick-Up Artist). To find out more on Mehow go to What’s Covered: How to be a gentleman Air Date: 10/31/13 Haely: Hey guys, welcome to the Ask Women Podcast where you get advice straight from the source. I’m your host, Haely and I am here with my lovely co-host, bestselling author and relationship expert, Marni Kinrys.
Marni: Perfect. Alright, well after the break, we have… who we actually didn’t announce at the beginning of the show! That’s what we always forget! Haely: Dang it! Marni: Is it pickup artist, Mehow? Not Asian. Marni: Not Asian. Haely: By the way. Marni: Big shocker. Kristen: The name I’m really upset with, I have to discuss it with him, I had a total image, you know, of him in my head… Haely: Me too! Mo: Kristen: …all of a sudden, I see this YouTube video and they have this cartoon character of a blond guy, I’m thinking, “That can’t be Mehow!” Marni: That can’t be him. Haely: What happened with his ads? Mo: I pictured him as the guy on The Hangover. Kristen: Yes, me too. Marni: Yes, but he’s not. Mo: Like Mr. Chao.
Haely: I was playing Kristen in that scene. We’re also warming here. We’re still getting to know each other. Mehow: So that’s like a little one where you’re like, “Okay now he’s thinking slightly sexually about me,” and now you have a choice -- you can escalate that… Haely: Right. Mehow: Or you can sort of shut it down and the thing that guys have got to understand is that it already worked if you’re just cool with it. If you’ve accepted it and you didn’t freak out, we’re good. Haely: Yeah, he’s in. Mehow: Right, because now you’re like, “Okay he said something a little edgy and it was a little sexual and I’m not freaking out so part of me is accepting this,” right? Haely: Exactly Mehow: So that’s a really simple, you know, phrase you can pretty much use anytime she gives you a compliment. Haely: I like that. Marni: Interesting. Haely: Nice. Marni: Okay. And so when do guys become creepy? ‘Cause I know when guys become creepy, but I can’t really pinpoint what it is. I know that if I’m talking to a guy and right away it goes to overt sexuality, I’m just like, “Wait where is this coming from? I feel uncomfortable.” Mehow: Well usually it happens when you’re unconsciously IOD-ing him, so you’re like kind of looking away… Haely: Sorry, IOD?
Chloe: Then I pay. Kristen: Really? Chloe: Yeah. Then I offer to pay. Kristen: You know what that’s like? When you call someone and they pick up and you just go “Hey,” and then you it in their ballpark to start the conversation and they’re thinking, but you called me? But that’s the same thing with approaching too. A lot of guys approach women and they spit out their first line, and then they’re like, “Okay I’m done. It’s your turn to carry the conversation.” So that’s interesting. I like that rule – the one who invites is the one who pays. Chloe: See, I always think of splitting the bill. I sent a tweet the other night, “Three words women never want to hear … let’s split it.” Kristen: Unless they’re talking your jeans. Splitting the bill is not going to get a woman’s legs to split. Emily: It’s not hot. Marni: But I hate saying that because people always ask me and I’m like, “Yes guys should pay for the first few dates,” it just feels so unfair for the guys! Emily: They just should, that’s how we all feel; I’m an independent woman and I make my own money, but it’s not hot to sit and talk about money on the first date. Eventually I’ll take you to dinner, you’ll take me, and we’ll have a balance. It’s not like I’m a gold digger. Also, take her somewhere you can afford so that when the bill comes, you’re not freaked out about it. Chloe: And make sure you leave a good tip. Honestly, I think that leaving a bad tip (or no tip) is a huge turnoff. I always peek to see what kind of tip he leaves.
on four dates a week. I’m a fan of riding the large roller coasters; they may take longer to get to the top but once you do the ride … it’s oh so much more fun. Marni: So last night she picked an ex that she dated this last summer up at the airport, before she did we went for lunch. About 30 minutes after lunch ended and we parted ways, she had to return to work, I get a text thanking me for a wonderful time. That text was immediately followed by this text, ‘So I have to be really honest with you, I’m not dating other people or talking to other guys anymore, after a week she’s quit other men. But I do plan on spending time with a guy I dated this summer while he’s in town for Christmas. Seems like a totally unfair position for me to put you in but please tell me if you’re okay with continuing to see me knowing I’ll be seeing him for a few weeks as well.’ I replied-and it’s honest, that is really freaking honest. I replied with, ‘enjoyed seeing you this afternoon too, while we’re being open and honest with each other, there is something I need to tell you, it’s perfectly okay. You two dated over the summer I figure you’d be spending some time with him while he visits, feelings may come back and the second he steps out off the plane, I can’t control that. What I do know I have control over is that I like you and I’ve really been enjoying getting to know you this past week. You’re probably well aware of it already but you’re pretty awesome.’ Oh, I like that. She replied back with, ‘you really say all the right things’. My question is was that a good response and what should I do the next week or two while this ex of hers is around? Kristen: I think these two people should have children right now because they would be the most logical, sensible human beings ever. Marni: I know it’s only been a week, but I really like this girl and I want to pursue her; Jordan from Portland. Kristen: Oh, of course you’re from Portland, they’re very smart. Mo: You should pursue her because this guy is not to be around… Marni: But while this guy is in town?
Marni: I know; it was so creepy. But it was a turn-on for us and so I totally get them. So to answer, yes, the female orgasm is true, Clay, who wrote this question in. And the question: do women really make those sounds; I don’t think we’ve really found an answer because none of us seemed to make those sounds, but…I don’t know. Kristen: No, they don’t make the sounds, but they want to because it makes their experience better. Justine: Yeah, but sometimes you do. Mo: Sometimes you do. Marni: Alright I’m going to ask one more question, I’m trying to find a short one for you guys. Okay actually I want to read a comment on bad boys that was written in by somebody. So I’m listening to an episode, episode nine and I thought I might add something to the bad boy discussion. I’m a 52 year old male; a clean cut squared away former toolmaker of an engineer. Kristen: Sexy. Marni: And I’m in very good shape, not too hard to look at, reasonably intelligent-I’m totally into him-well educated and well read or one of those guys that looks good on paper but I think my strongest asset with women is that I like women, I honestly enjoy spending time with women, I like how women think and relate and a like a woman’s civilizing influence on my environment. I think I first noticed this was different year ago when my garage buddies were talking about their garage or shop spaces being a refuge apart from their women. My garage and shop are Girls Allowed zones and if whoever I’m seeing has her own friends around, there’s a really good chance that they’ll scatter my crew and abandon the shop or whatever else I’m doing to be closer to those chattering women. I won’t interfere, women need their own time with their friends. Seriously, I like women. Women have called me a bad boy for decades and until a couple of years ago, I never really understood why. I take my career seriously and I do well, I have a nice home and keep it that way, I’m a close cropped buttoned down guy that drive a Beemer for crying out loud, a