Love (காமத்துப்பால்) — The Post-marital love (கற்பியல்) — Expostulation with Oneself (நெஞ்சொடுபுலத்தல்)

Kural 1291:
அவர்நெஞ்சு அவர்க்காதல் கண்டும் எவன்நெஞ்சே
நீஎமக்கு ஆகா தது.
avarnenju avarkkaadhal kandum evannenjae
nee-emakku aakaa thadhu
English couplet:
You see his heart is his alone
O heart, why not be all my own?.
Explanation: O my soul! although you have seen how his soul stands by him, how is it you do not stand by me?

Kural 1292:
உறாஅ தவர்க்கண்ட கண்ணும் அவரைச்
செறாஅரெனச் சேறியென் நெஞ்சு.
uraaa thavarkkanda kannum avaraich
cheraa-arenach chaeriyen nenju
English couplet:
'Tis plain, my heart, that he 's estranged from thee;
Why go to him as though he were not enemy?.
Explanation: my soul! although you have known him who does not love me, still do you go to him, saying "he will not be displeased.".

Kural 1293:
கெட்டார்க்கு நட்டார்இல் என்பதோ நெஞ்சேநீ
பெட்டாங்கு அவர்பின் செலல்.
kettaarkku nattaar-il enpadho nenjaenee
pettaangu avarpin selal
English couplet:
'The ruined have no friends, 'they say; and so, my heart,
To follow him, at thy desire, from me thou dost depart.
Explanation: O my soul! do you follow him at pleasure under the belief that the ruined have no friends?.

Kural 1294:
இனிஅன்ன நின்னொடு சூழ்வார்யார் நெஞ்சே
துனிசெய்து துவ்வாய்காண் மற்று.
ini-anna ninnodu soozhvaaryaar nenjae
thuniseydhu thuvvaaikaan matru
English couplet:
'See, thou first show offended pride, and then submit,' I bade;
Henceforth such council who will share with thee my heart?.
Explanation: O my soul! you would not first seem sulky and then enjoy (him); who then would in future consult you about such things?.

Kural 1295:
பெறாஅமை அஞ்சும் பெறின்பிரிவு அஞ்சும்
அறாஅ இடும்பைத்தென் நெஞ்சு.
peraaamai anjum perinpirivu anjum
araaa idumpaiththen nenju
English couplet:
I fear I shall not gain, I fear to lose him when I gain;
And thus my heart endures unceasing pain.
Explanation: My soul fears when it is without him; it also fears when it is with him; it is subject to incessant sorrow.

Kural 1296:
தனியே இருந்து நினைத்தக்கால் என்னைத்
தினிய இருந்ததென் நெஞ்சு.
thaniye irundhu ninaiththakkaal ennaith
thiniya irundhadhen nenju
English couplet:
My heart consumes me when I ponder lone,
And all my lover's cruelty bemoan.
Explanation: My mind has been (here) in order to eat me up (as it were) whenever I think of him in my solitude.

Kural 1297:
நாணும் மறந்தேன் அவர்மறக் கல்லாஎன்
மாணா மடநெஞ்சிற் பட்டு.
naanum marandhaen avarmarak kallaaen
maanaa madanenjir pattu
English couplet:
Fall'n 'neath the sway of this ignoble foolish heart,
Which will not him forget, I have forgotten shame.
Explanation: I have even forgotten my modesty, having been caught in my foolish mind which is not dignified enough to forget him.

Kural 1298:
எள்ளின் இளிவாம்என்று எண்ணி அவர்திறம்
உள்ளும் உயிர்க்காதல் நெஞ்சு.
ellin ilivaam-endru enni avarthiram
ullum uyirkkaadhal nenju
English couplet:
If I contemn him, then disgrace awaits me evermore;
My soul that seeks to live his virtues numbers o'er.
Explanation: My soul which clings to life thinks only of his (own) gain in the belief that it would be disgraceful for it to despise him.

Kural 1299:
துன்பத்திற்கு யாரே துணையாவார் தாமுடைய
நெஞ்சந் துணையல் வழி.
thunpaththirku yaarae thunaiyaavaar thaamudaiya
nenjan thunaiyal vazhi
English couplet:
And who will aid me in my hour of grief,
If my own heart comes not to my relief?.
Explanation: Who would help me out of one's distress, when one's own soul refuses help to one? .

Kural 1300:
தஞ்சம் தமரல்லர் ஏதிலார் தாமுடைய
நெஞ்சம் தமரல் வழி.
thanjam thamarallar aedhilaar thaamudaiya
nenjam thamaral vazhi
English couplet:
A trifle is unfriendliness by aliens shown,
When our own heart itself is not our own!.
Explanation: It is hardly possible for strangers to behave like relations, when one's own soul acts like a stranger.