[Off-topic] jhendrickson:
I've seen posts like this before. If you want good advice don't make your entire paragraph one sentence. Use punctuation. Otherwise you don't get taken seriously.

And yes, having played the dating game for a long time and being married now I do have experience to speak from. So, here's my advice.

I understand being nervous, I've been there. I've had my fair share of awkward dating moments, and I'm not entirely sure what the OP is trying to ask. You can appear to be a little nervous, because she is nervous too, but you have to act as though you aren't as best as you can.

Girls like confidence. You can't act like you're desperate. You were doing just fine before you met this girl, and you'll be fine even if you two aren't dating. Don't act like you need her this early in the game. And yes, it is a game. You need to play hardball to get anywhere.

Girls like nice guys, as friends. You ever notice how all the hot chicks date a$$holes? I'm not saying be a complete jerk, but being the sweetest guy in the world doesn't get you very far 99% of the time.

If she shuts you down when you ask her to dance or you offer her your jacket, move on. There are way too many women out there to waste your time on one.

You went through your friends to get this girl to add you to her friends list on a chat program it sounds like. Going through friends to get a girls attention makes her think you lack confidence. You may not be 100% confident in yourself, but you have to hide that. If you like a girl and want to talk to her, then do just that, go up and talk to her. It's just like the first time you dive into the water head first when you are a kid. It might have been scary at the time, but once you do it a few times it's not scary at all. The same thing applies with women. If you approach one and she is not receptive, let it go, she isn't interested. Big deal though. She isn't the last one on Earth.

Man up. Boo hoo'ing about a chick is a waste of time. You don't need her. If you act like you don't care, and she likes you, she will work harder to keep your attention because she wants you to need her. Do not make yourself available to a girl all the time. If you don't answer ever single time she calls, even if you are sitting on your a$$ playing video games at home alone, she'll sit there and wonder what you are doing. This will cause all sorts of thoughts to go through her head like "Is he with another girl?". This is good, because she is thinking about you and makes her want you to need her even more.

This advice is given for the first stages of dating. Once you are in a relationship for a longer period of time you don't want be as hard nosed.

Would you have take the time to read this if it was formatted like it is below?

Ive seen posts like this before If you want good advice don't make your entire paragraph one sentence Use punctuation Otherwise you don't get taken seriously And yes having played the dating game for a long time and being married now I do have experience to speak from So heres my advice I understand being nervous Ive been there Ive had my fair share of awkward dating moments and Im not entirely sure what the OP is trying to ask You can appear to be a little nervous because she is nervous too but you have to act as though you arent as best as you can Girls like confidence You cant act like youre desperate You were doing just fine before you met this girl and youll be fine even if you two arent dating Dont act like you need her this early in the game And yes it is a game You need to play hardball to get anywhere Girls like nice guys as friends You ever notice how all the hot chicks date a$$holes Im not saying be a complete jerk but being the sweetest guy in the world doesnt get you very far 99% of the time If she shuts you down when you ask her to dance or you offer her your jacket move on There are way too many women out there to waste your time on one You went through your friends to get this girl to add you to her friends list on a chat program it sounds like Going through friends to get a girls attention makes her think you lack confidence You may not be 100% confident in yourself but you have to hide that If you like a girl and want to talk to her then do just that go up and talk to her Its just like the first time you dive into the water head first when you are a kid It might have been scary at the time but once you do it a few times its not scary at all The same thing applies with women If you approach one and she is not receptive let it go she isnt interested Big deal though She isnt the last one on Earth Man up Boo hooing about a chick is a waste of time You dont need her If you act like you dont care and she likes you she will work harder to keep your attention because she wants you to need her Do not make yourself available to a girl all the time If you dont answer ever single time she calls even if you are sitting on your a$$ playing video games at home alone shell sit there and wonder what you are doing This will cause all sorts of thoughts to go through her head like Is he with another girl This is good because she is thinking about you and makes her want you to need her even more This advice is given for the first stages of dating Once you are in a relationship for a longer period of time you dont want be as hard nosed