deplorable fact that the vast majority of men
and women find themselves caught up in the
intimacies and intricacies of marriage with-
out adequate mental or spiritual or physical
backgrounds. It may even be after an in-
cidental and usually uncalculated experience
which has left a deep scar on the spirit even
if none in the flesh. The ideal marriage is
not made possible in a moment of lofty, even
sacred, enthusiasm. It is a crowning con-
summation of a long and growing appreciation
of life's values. And I believe that there is
no more pressing Christian duty that rests
upon parents and competent teachers than
that of leading our children by clean paths
and over the open road, up to that rich gate-
way of experience through which they may
then enter with full knowledge and at least
some preparation for a complete understand-
ing. This means answering the questions of
childhood with honesty and straightforward-
ness. Our boys and girls all come to know
certain facts about life sooner or later, usually
sooner. Question—is it better for them to
learn them from the smutty story and the
coat-room jest, and have the whole beautiful
mystery of their own bodies and their wonder-
ful functions smeared with vulgarity and a
complex of indecency, or to learn from a
father's frankness and a mother's understand-

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ing, the how's and why's of nature's gracious
law? And as they come to maturer years and
feel within themselves the mysterious urge
which is the precourser of adult manhood and
womanhood, shall we turn our backs upon
their problems with harsh prohibitions and
unsympathetic warnings which so often lead
to open revolt and surreptitious experimenta-
tion, or shall we hold their confidence—God
make us worthy of it—and help them to
understand and control and conserve until the
time of beautiful and triumphant and victor-
ous surrender, that supreme endowment which
gives reality and immortality to love?

And now do I hear some say—that is a
beautiful but an impossible ideal. I grant
that it presents a tremendous challenge. It
must be sought with patient devotion and
true art. But it is a frequently realized and
always realizable goal. The truly Christian
life, in any of its phases, is no simple achieve-
ment. And Christ summons individuals and
society not to lower their standards to meet
the easy insistence of human frailty, but
rather resolutely to raise their experience to
the lofty levels of their ideals. And in mar-
riage, the high task of Christians is not to
trim away the institution to fit the less
worthy suggestions of a foolish and selfish
philosophy of mediocrity, but to develop an

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artistry and an appreciation of love that can
rise to grasp the real meaning and validate
the full possibilities of life. For after all,
marriage is like a block of marble, which may
become the burial marker for disappointed
hopes and unrealized potentialities, or out
of which an inspired sculptor may carve a
divinely symbolic figure of radiant and ful-
filled life.

The following books will be found helpful
in supplementing this brief discussion of one
of the major issues of life:

The Fine Art of Living Together

A. W. Beaven, 1930

Marriage— . . O. M. Butterfield, 1929

Marriage— . . . E. R. Groves, 1933

Growing Up— . Karl de Schweinitz, 1928

Personality and the Family— . .

Hornell and Ella Hart, 1935

(This last volume has a very full bibli-
ography covering all phases of the subject.)

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NATIONAL CONFERENCE
ON
FAMILY RELATIONS

Second Annual Meeting

*

Co-operating Philadelphia Organizations

MARRIAGE COUNSEL

PENNSYLVANIA SCHOOL OF SOCIAL WORK
affiliated with the University of Pennsylvania

THE FAMILY SOCIETY OF PHILADELPHIA

THE INSTITUTE OF THE PENNSYLVANIA HOSPITAL

THE JEWISH WELFARE SOCIETY

THE PHILADELPHIA CHILD GUIDANCE CLINIC

*

DECEMBER 26 AND 27

1939

PROGRAM

*

(All meetings, unless otherwise indicated, are in the Auditorium of
the Pennsylvania School of Social Work, 311 Juniper Street)

CENTRAL TOPIC: "*The Role and Functions of the Family in a Democracy*"

Tuesday, December 26

9:00-10:00 A.M.

REGISTRATION: Pennsylvania School of Social Work
311 Juniper Street

10:00 A.M. - 12:00 M.

GENERAL SESSION: FREDERICK H. ALLEN, M.D., Presiding

Introduction

ADOLF MEYER, M.D., Johns Hopkins University, President of
the National Conference on Family Relations

The Family as a Dynamic Factor in American Society

DR. SIDNEY E. GOLDSTEIN, Chairman, New York State Con-
ference on Marriage and the Family

Democracy and the Family

DR. UNA BERNARD SAIT, Claremont College

1:00-4:00 P.M.

MEETINGS OF CONFERENCE COMMITTEES

(Open only to members of committees. Members of the National
Conference planning to attend should apply to the Secretary, Na-
tional Conference on Family Relations, for assignment to commit-
tees, stating first, second, and third choices.)

1. The Economic Basis of Family Life (Room 1003)

WILLIAM HODSON, Commissioner of Public Welfare, New
York City, Chairman

2. Education for Marriage and Family Living (Room 904)

ERNEST R. GROVES, University of North Carolina, Chairman; DONALD KLAISS, University of North Carolina, Vice-Chairman; OLIVE STONE, William and Mary School of Social Work, Secretary

3. Eugenics and the Family (Seminar Room 1000, Library)

FREDERICK OSBORN, American Eugenics Society, Chairman

4. Marriage and Family Counselling (Room 903)

MRS. STUART MUDD, Marriage Counsel, Philadelphia,
Chairman; ROBERT G. FOSTER, Merrill-Palmer School, Secretary

5. Marriage and Family Law and Its Administration
(Room 1008)

HARRIET S. DAGGETT, Louisiana State University, Secretary

6. Marriage and Family Research (Room 1006)

LEONARD S. COTTRELL, JR., Cornell University, Chairman

7. Youth and Its Problems (Room 1009)

4:00-5:00 P.M.
BUSINESS MEETING

8:00-10:00 P.M.

GENERAL SESSION: PRESIDENT ADOLF MEYER, *Presiding*

The Family in Different Types of Societies: Totalitarian,
Communist, and Democratic

DR. CARLE C. ZIMMERMAN, Harvard University

The Family as Cultural Agent

LAWRENCE K. FRANK, New York City

The Family, the State, and the Law

DR. MAX RHEINSTEIN, University of Chicago Law School

Wednesday, December 27

9:00 A.M.-12:00 M.

12:15-2:15 P.M.

LUNCHEON SESSION: Luncheon Meeting of the Phila-
delphia Marriage Counsel, Warwick Hotel

(Members and guests of the National Conference are invited to attend. Make reservation for luncheon tickets at $1.25 each with the Chairman of the Committee on Local Arrangements, Mrs. Stuart Mudd, Marriage Counsel, 253 South 15th Street, Philadelphia, Pennsylvania.)

Enslavement in Marriage

KAREN HORNEY, M.D., New York City

2:30-4:00 P.M.

GENERAL SESSION: To receive reports of Conference
Committees; PRESIDENT ADOLF MEYER, *Presiding*

4:00-5:30 P.M.

4:00-5:30 P.M.

Meeting of presidents, chairmen, and other official repre-
sentatives of regional and state conferences (Room 1009)

8:00-10:00 P.M.

GENERAL SESSION: DR. GEOFFREY MAY, *Presiding*

The Biological Basis of the Family

CARL G. HARTMAN, M.D., Johns Hopkins University

KATHARINE F. LENROOT, Chief, Children's Bureau, United
States Department of Labor

The Family as Unity

ADOLF MEYER, M.D., President, National Conference on
Family Relations

# National Conference on Family Relations

## Officers

ADOLF MEYER, M.D., *President*

HUNTINGTON CAIRNS, *Vice-President*

E. W. BURGESS, *Secretary*

## Committee on Local Arrangements

MRS. STUART MUDD, Marriage Counsel, *Chairman*

J. S. BURGESS, Temple University

RICHMOND PAGE, Pennsylvania School of Social Work

KARL DE SCHWEINITZ, Pennsylvania School
of Social Work

FRANK D. WATSON, Haverford College

W. WALLACE WEAVER, University of Pennsylvania

OSCAR WESLEY, Drexel Institute

## Membership in the National Conference

Membership is open both to specialists working in the different fields of the family and to representative citizens interested in a better understanding of family living and the advancement of its cultural values. The annual dues are two dollars, which entitle a member without further charge to receive the magazine *Living* and to attend national, regional, and state conferences. Applications for membership should be addressed to the Secretary, National Conference on Family Relations, 1126 E. 59th Street, Chicago, Illinois.

## Philadelphia Meeting

General Sessions are open without charge to members of the National Conference on Family Relations. To those not desiring membership, the registration fee of one dollar entitles the registrant to attend all general sessions. Admission to single sessions is fifty cents.

## Hotel Headquarters

For room reservations write to the Hotel Sylvania, Locust at Juniper, Philadelphia, Pennsylvania.

Single rooms (private bath and shower), $2.50 per day.

Double rooms (twin beds, bath and shower), $4.00 per day.

Suites (parlor, bedroom, and bath), $7.50 per day.

To aid those who are called upon
to Lead, Advise, or Instruct others,
in dealing with their personal and
family Problems,

THE INSTITUTE OF FAMILY
RELATIONS

Offers an Individual
Correspondence Course in the
Principles, Techniques
and
Most Effective Methods of
Counselling Service.

This presents thoroughly scientific
material not available elsewhere.
It has been boiled down, and organized with a view to its practical
usefulness in meeting everday
problems, and put in terms that can
readily be understood. It embodies
the results of five years' experience
at the Institute. The conclusions
and procedures here offered have
been tested in thousands of cases
in all parts of the United States.

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The course is as follows:

1. Analysis of the subscribers own personality, through standard tests of emotional maturity, neurotic tendencies, introversion or extroversion, self sufficiency, dominance and the like. This gives the counsellor a much better understanding of his own strengths and weaknesses, and enables him to plan his counselling intelligently.

2. Selected reading lists, and personal advice and information on useful reading in this field.

3. Provision of suitable record forms and history blanks for the subscriber's use in counselling.

4. Instruction in use and interpretation of standard tests of personality and emotional traits, that are most valuable in effective procedures.

5. Aid to subscriber in dealing with his own cases, and answering of questions any time within one year from date of subscription.

6. A series of unique lessons, sent one at a time, and giving the necessary techniques and information. Each is compressed into brief space to save the subscriber's time. Each is accompanied by a list of review questions. When these questions are answered and sent back to the Institute, the next assignment is forwarded.

The lessons are as follows:

1. Introduction to Counselling.

2. General Principles of Counselling.

3. Special Procedures in Counselling.

4. The Psychology of the Male Sex.

5. The Psychology of the Female Sex.

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6. Problems of Sex in Adolescence.

7. Premarital Sexual Experimentation.

8. Discussion of the New Morality.

9. Helping Y. P. to Prepare for Marriage.

10. How to Handle Inferiority Complexes.

11. Growing Up Emotionally.

12. Special Problems in the Field of Sex.

13. Counselling in Family Adjustment.

14. Problems of Heredity.

15. The Meaning of Life.

It is expected that the course will be completed in from six to twelve months, depending upon the amount of time available. Subscribers are encouraged to write fully concerning their own problems in particular cases, and to seek necessary help in dealing with them in the light of the lessons. At the conclusion of the course a certificate of completion is sent to the subscriber.

The expense of the course is payable as you study. The registration fee of $10 is payable at the start. Tests are then sent for the analysis of the subscriber's personality, and he is furnished with reading lists and record forms. When he is ready for the first of the lessons, or within one month from date of subscription, the second payment of $5 is due, and each succeeding month until a total of $15 shall have been paid in addition to the registration fee, making the total cost of the course including all materials, $25.

The Institute reserves the right to refuse this service to any applicant, without assigning any reason. If the personal history and personality tests of the applicant indicate unfitness for counselling, it will refund the registration fee and cancel the registration.

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The Institute of Family Relations has be-
come the American leader in the move-
ment to build up a sound family life on the
basis of knowledge and experience, rather
than on the basis of fear, ignorance, or
imagination. In the past four and a half
years it has helped over 13,000 people. It
represents the first organized attempt in the
U. S. to bring all the resources of science
to bear on the promotion of successful
family life.

Its work consists of public education, personal service, and research. In addition to continuous public education through lectures, conferences, and discussion groups, it conducts a seminar in Consultation procedures in Personality Problems. As a result of demand from those who were not able to attend the Seminar, the correspondence course in Counselling herein described, was instituted. The Institute also offers a personal correspondence course in Family Adjustment for those who want to increase the efficiency and happiness of the home, or straighten out marital difficulties, and who cannot or who do not desire to get individual help in Counselling service at the Institute's office.

Through its department of personal serv-
ice it also prepares young people for marri-
age, including necessary information, anal-
ysis of personality, and physical examina-
tion. It is intended that this service, in so
far as possible, may also be made avail-
able by correspondence.

All the services of the Institute are avail-
able to the public at a minimum cost, the
organization being incorporated by a group
of California men and women as a non-
profit enterprise for public service.

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DIRECTORS AND COUNSELLORS

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PSYCHOLOGICAL SERVICE

In cooperation with the Southern California Society
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Kate Brousseau, Ph.D. - - - - - Director

MEDICAL COUNSELLORS

A. Elmer Belt, M.D. Dorothy Franklin, M.D.

Kendal Frost, M.D.

PSYCHOLOGICAL COUNSELLORS

Barbara S. Burks, Ph.D. Jessie Chase Fenton, M.A.

Joseph H. Coffin, Ph.D. Donald McLean

J. Harold Williams, Ph.D. V. E. Wilson, M.A.

EXTENSION SERVICE

Luther T. Hoffman, Field Representative

Office Hours: 9 a.m. to 4 p.m. daily except Saturday and Sunday.