KIRK RIDGE is a center
rooted in Christ

where people on pilgrimage
seek community
in the midst of diversity

and experience
the transforming power of the Spirit
for personal wholeness
reconciliation
justice in the world

The Kirkridge Board
January 15, 1978

About Kirkridge

Since 1942 Kirkridge retreat and study center has welcomed pilgrims seeking solitude and community, rest and discernment, toward personal and social transformation.

Perhaps you are one of those who has already found a home for your heart on this mountainside. Or maybe you have only recently heard of Kirkridge and hope it may provide direction and nourishment for your journey. Whoever you are, we invite you to visit us during the coming season.

Kirkridge was founded by John Oliver Nelson, a Presbyterian minister who was inspired by the Christian community on the Scottish island of Iona. The name "Kirkridge" derives from the Scottish word for church, "kirk", on the Appalachian ridge. We are a nonprofit corporation, supported by fees as well as the much-appreciated contributions of friends. Our structure is nondenominational; our spirit ecumenical. The Celtic cross is our symbol: its circle embodies healing, wholeness, communion; its crossbeams embody focus, clarity, direction.

Our purpose has often been expressed in the phrase: Picket and Pray. For us, those words signify the integration of personal growth and social change. We are committed to working out peace and justice imperatives in our own lives and in the structures of our society. Our intention is to address pressing human issues with the resources of biblical faith. We continue our long-standing concern for "outsiders," those who by reason of nonconventional choices, lifestyle, or circumstance merit particular welcome.

Kirkridge is located on two hundred and seventy acres of mountainside in northeastern Pennsylvania. The Appalachian Trail runs through our property at the top of the mountain, where vistas are long. In the valley, gentle pastureland surrounds our 1815 farmhouse. You will find the facilities modest but comfortable, the meals simple but pleasing. In this setting, simplicity and conservation of resources will seem like natural responses to the earth's own gifts of healing and grounding.

Events here vary according to topic, format, and leadership, but your time will often include presentations, small group sharing, time for reflection, and opportunity for silence, hiking, hearthside conversations, morning and evening prayers.

On the pages that follow you will see descriptions of the retreats, workshops, seminars, and conferences planned for the coming months. We look forward to welcoming you.

## Phallos: The Masculine Alternative to Patriarchy

October 13-15

Patriarchy as a social means of masculine identity is declining in its power as a political force. With the outer structure cracking, upon what can men depend for their inner bedrock, their fundamental sense of themselves as males?

The workshop for men and women will investigate the possibility that phallos, the determinative indicator of male gender, understood both exponentially and archetypally, moves us in an authentic direction. From time immemorial, phallos has been understood as a sacred image, so basic to masculine identity and behavior that it is impossible to know or comprehend maleness apart from it. Jung wrote: "The phallos is the source of life and libido, the creator and worker of miracles, and as such it was worshipped everywhere."

It is time that men, and women as well, acknowledge and come to understand phallos as an essential ingredient in the human equation. How is phallos related to spirit? What are its manifestations? How has it been pictured in the past? How are its darknesses related to light-bringing? Insemination? Ecstacy? How can the Mother entice it, destroy it, help integrate it with the feminine? And what of castration, the fundamental male fear?

The weekend will address these and other questions in order to rediscover an ancient focus for masculine identity.

Led by: Eugene Monick, M.Div., Ph.D., Episcopal priest, Jungian analyst practicing in New York City and Scranton, PA. Graduate of C. G. Jung Institute, Zurich.

7 p.m. Friday dinner through Sunday lunch.
Cost: $195 ($100 registration deposit).

## Autumn Sabbath

October 17-19

Seeking a rhythm of "moving inward, moving outward," this mid-week retreat will gently explore the "gifts of quietness." Through contemplative silence, we will enter the mystery of Sabbath (the sanctity of time) and Sanctuary (the sanctity of space) within us. We will open ourselves to the gifts of stillness

—self-acceptance, belonging, security, meaning, and hope. Then we will consider how to "live in quietness" as monks in the marketplace, contemplative activists. Limited to twenty retreatants, in private rooms. (Participants are welcome to arrange private retreat days before and/or after this event. Write for information and costs.)

Led by: Howard Friend, pastor of the Gladwyne Presbyterian Church in Gladwyne, PA.

7 p.m. Tuesday dinner through Thursday lunch.
Cost: $165 ($100 registration deposit).

## For Adult Children of Alcoholics: A Retreat on Intimacy

October 20-22

Problems of intimacy with self, others, partners and God, as well as avenues for change, will be explored in depth in this event. We will flesh out the sui vival mechanisms children of alcoholics adopted in childhood, throw light on how these same mechanisms result in the giving away of power in adult life, and offer suggestions for taking back that power and beginning of the parenting of the self.

Presentation themes will include isolation, rejection, shame, permission to play, trust, vulnerability and responsibility. The process will be a mixture of lecture, small and large group discussion, and experiential exercises. This workshop is intended for and limited to those who have grown up in homes affected by alcoholism or other chemical dependency. Participants who are also professionals or professionals-in-training will find the substance of the retreat useful professionally as well as personally.

Led by: William G. Gibbons, M.ED., C.A.C., director of No Longer Alone, a service offering counseling and education in the family disease of alcoholism.

6:30 p.m. Friday dinner through 3 p.m. Sunday.
Cost: $210 ($125 registration deposit).

## The Wisdom and Power of Women

October 27-29

A workshop for women focusing on resources for empowerment from women's cultures that can sustain our ongoing struggles for justice. Our work *together* will include sharing stories of spiritual and oral conversion, strategies for self-care and healing, celebrating women's culture, learning to sustain resistance to injustice through community building. Participants should bring musical instruments, tapes and records, prose and poetry that are spiritual resources in their lives.

Led by: Beverly Harrison, Professor of Theology, Union Theological Seminary, New York, author of *Making The Connections*. Carter Heyward, Episcopal priest and Professor of Theology, Episcopal Divinity School, Cambridge, MA, author of *Our Passion For Justice*.

Coordinated by: Cynthia Himi, Kirkridge staff.

7 p.m. Friday dinner through Sunday lunch.
Cost: $185 ($100 registration deposit).

This retreat will give participants the opportunity to look at Gorbachev's policy of glasnost, or openness, that has stimulated much of this revolutionary change. Alongside the consideration of glasnost will be examined another factor that has received far less attention but is of great significance: dukhovnost, or spirituality, which is found in segments of the church experiencing a revival, as well as in other segments of society where people are seeking a deeper meaning to their lives. The Russian word for spirituality—dukhovnost—is far richer in meaning than its English counterpart. It suggests not only a personal relationship between the praying person and God but a deep sense of the sacred, moral capacity, social responsibility, courage, wisdom, mercy, and readiness to forgive, a way of life centered in love.

Led by: Jim Forest, peace activist, former General Secretary of International Fellowship of Reconciliation, author of numerous books, including *Pilgrim to the Russian Church and Making Friends of Enemies*. He has travelled extensively in the Soviet Union. Richard Deats, director of US-USSR Reconciliation Program of Fellowship of Reconciliation. His writings have appeared in *What About the Russians?* and *My Sister Tatiana, My Brother Ivan* and in *Sojourners, The Other Side, and Fellowship*.

## NOVEMBER

### Dukhovnost (Spirituality) and Glasnost (Openness) in the Soviet Union Today

November 3-5

Profound changes are taking place in the Soviet Union today. Throughout Soviet society, old patterns and practices are being challenged. While deep problems remain, experimentation and creativity are becoming more and more commonplace as the barriers between East and West continue to fall.

### AIDS Grief and Healing Workshop

November 3-5

This will be an experientially-based workshop for professionals (clergy, nurses, social workers, etc.), volunteers and loved ones affected by the AIDS crisis. Together we will learn ways of working with grieving people. We will share our stories and join in a healing service to assist in letting go of grief. The weekend will also include opportunities for solitude and silence, conversation around the hearth fire, and hiking the mountain trails.

Led by: **Bernard Healy**, Episcopal priest and director of pastoral care at the AIDS Center in New York City. **John McNeill**, Catholic priest, psychotherapist, co-founder of Dignity, and author of *The Church and the Homosexual and Taking A Chance On God*.

## For the Unemployed
November 6-8

The personal and professional effect of forced and first-time unemployment can be life changing. Those who suffer this experience are often in need of time and space to reflect on the feelings, fears, and hopes that accompany it. Kirkridge offers this two-day retreat for sharing, nourishment, breathing space, and a time of letting go for those who have been "let go." It does not include job counseling, search or placement services, and is not intended for the chronically unemployed.

Led by: A Kirkridge staff person, board member or colleague.

7 p.m. Monday dinner through Wednesday lunch.

Cost: No charge. This retreat is subsidized by Kirkridge. If you would like to make a gift to support this ministry, it would be most welcome.

## Healing of Body, Mind, Soul
November 10-16

Because of ignorance, misinformation, depression and fear, many of us have been wounded by the separation of body, mind and soul. The body, which holds so much pain, rage, sorrow, frustration and hopelessness — is it not our natural resource for healing and spiritual guidance? This workshop offers opportunity for work towards healing our woundedness, and integrating our sexuality and spirituality, which are the embodiment of our connectedness to each other and to God. We shall explore how our own healing contributes to the healing of creation.

Mornings will include movement and meditation; small group work; and presentations by Morton Kelsey on such themes as: The Body and the Ego; Healing and Evil; Sexuality as a Bridge Between the Physical and the Spiritual; Healing our Intimacies; How Do We Heal Our Sexual Wounds?; The Centrality of Love.

Afternoons will include biblical meditation through movement led by Carla De Sola. Texts will include the stories of the demoniac (Mark 5:1-20); the paralytic (John 5:2-9); the Samaritan woman at the well (John 4:1-30); and the wounded earth (Isaiah 24).

Afternoon workshops and evening presentations will focus on such themes as Therapeutic Touch in Healing Oneself and Others; Health, Healing and the Human Condition: Alternatives and Traditional Approaches; Healing The Orphan Child; Letting Go To Music as a Carrier Wave of Healing; Stress, Human Suffering and Illness; Spiritual Dimensions of Healing Sexual Abuse; Contemplative Prayer and Healing; Sexuality and Homosexuality. There will be a free afternoon midway through the event for solitude, rest and play. The eucharist will be celebrated daily. There will be healing service on the last night of the event. This is a spiritual and educational event. No attempt is made to provide individual psychotherapy.

Led by: **Morton Kelsey**, Professor Emeritus at Notre Dame and author of numerous books on healing, including *Psychology, Medicine and Christian Healing*. **Carla De Sola**, founder/Director of the Omega Liturgical Dance Company, an ecumenical community of professional dancers in residence at the Cathedral Church of St. John the Divine in New York City, and author of *The Spirit Moves*. **Peggy Fuhs**, R.N., Ph.D., nurse, psychotherapist, healer, co-founder and co-director of the Institute for Therapeutic Touch. She maintains a private healing practice in Seattle and Philadelphia. **Kay Gill**, spiritual guide and graduate of the Guild for Spiritual Guidance in Rye, New York; member of the Kirkridge Board. **Elaine McCarthy**, graduate of Shalem Institute Program in Spiritual Direction, and co-author of forthcoming book on an integrated approach to health care. **Ann Murtha**, CSW-ACP-PR, clinical social worker in private practice for individual and group psychotherapy. **Tom Lisch**, M.D. conducts a holistic family medical practice in Boulder, Colorado.

7 p.m. Friday dinner through Thursday lunch.
Cost: $575 ($300 registration deposit).

## A Retreat With Wendell Berry
November 17-19

This retreat will provide an occasion for conversation with Wendell Berry. He will begin each session by reading a chapter from a book in progress about a Kentucky writer and painter who has "lived saner life than anyone I have known." Dialogue will follow the reading. Morning and evening prayers will frame each day, and there will be some free time on Saturday afternoon to walk the trails or savor solitude and community as we please.

Led by: **Wendell Berry**, poet, author, novelist, whose most recent book is a short novel *Remembering*.

Coordinated by: **Cynthia Himi** and **Robert Raines** of the Kirkridge staff.

This event is for people who are already involved in processing their experience, and is not a substitute for therapy. A phone interview with Kirkridge and a letter of recommendation from one's therapist are requested as part of registration. (Although we are aware that this is also the experience of some men, this event is for women only). The leaders come from a variety of personal and professional perspectives around this issue.

Led by: **Anne Albiez-Gibbons**, mental health nurse and New York-certified alcoholism counselor. **Elaine McCarthy**, spiritual director, and graduate of Spiritual Guidance program of Shalem Institute. **Kathleen Rney-Wilson**, clergywoman and executive director of Somerset County, NJ Cha plaincy Council. **Suzanne Simon**, teacher, counselor, formerly with Violence Against Women program at University of Massachusetts.

Coordinated by: **Cynthia Himi**, Kirkridge administrative associate.

4 p.m. Friday to 3 p.m. Sunday.
Cost: $195 ($100 registration deposit).

## DECEMBER

### Healing the Wounds
December 1-3

This will be a reconciling, empowering weekend for women who have survived childhood/adolescent sexual abuse or incest...an opportunity to end the conspiracy of silence and to join in the conspiracy of healing. Our time together will include sharing, presentations, worship, learning from each other, learning to care for ourselves, and participating in the redemption of this experience.

## JANUARY 1990

### Intimacy with God
January 5-7

This is a retreat for gay men focusing on the acceptance of the limitless mercy of an unconditional love. There will be presentations, dialogue, small group work and corporate worship on Sunday.

Led by: **John McNeil**, Catholic priest, psychotherapist, co-founder of Dignity, and author of *The Church and The Homosexual and Taking A Chance On God*.

7 p.m. Friday dinner through Sunday lunch.
Cost $195 ($100 registration deposit).

## In The Wildemess: The Spiritual Dimensions of Depression

January 12-14

A vast number of people in our culture fall prey to depression at one time or another. Our natural response is to make it go away, and the "treatment" of choice is anti-depressant drugs. This workshop will explore the wilderness of depression as a place to go into rather than away from. There, perhaps, we can learn something of value for and about ourselves. Participants will be encouraged to share their own experience of depression, as well as reflect on material presented by the leader from the perspectives of both our Judeo-Christian tradition and the psychology of C. G. Jung.

Led by: **Brewster Beach**, Episcopal priest and Jungian analyst.

## Winter Sabbath

January 16-18

In the Kirkridge tradition, this retreat offers time away for reflection and healing of soul. The pace will be gentle, the ambience one of ease and nourishment. There will be biblical meditations, journaling, occasion to explore our "wintering," one overnight silence, conversation around the hearthfire and solitude to savor the true meaning of sabbath. Those who gather may look forward to a time of rest and restoration. Limited to twenty participants in private

rooms. (Participants are welcome to arrange private retreat days before and/or after this event. Write for information and costs).

Led by: **Robert Raines**, Director of Kirkridge.

7 p.m. Monday dinner through Wednesday lunch
Cost $165 ($100 registration deposit).

## For Adult Children of Alcoholics: A Retreat on Guilt and Forgiveness

January 19-21

Adult children of alcoholics experience a sense of low esteem or even no esteem. By their own power they find it impossible to think of or accept themselves as worthy of love and peace. Victimization, attack and defense become overpowering. Anything which holds the hope of reprieve becomes an object of obsession. Forgiveness, based on changing the belief rather than excusing the hurt, offers a pathway to wholeness. The Voice of Higher Power is there to guide us and enable us to move from fear/anger to love/forgiveness, using the environment of our relationships with our brothers and sisters.

The process of this event will be a mixture of presentations, quiet time, small and large group sharing, and experiential exercises. The retreat is intended for those who have grown up in an alcoholic family system. All participants should already be involved in their recovery.

Led by: **William G. Gibbons**, (see October 20-22, 1989 event for further identification).

6:30 p.m. Friday dinner to 3 p.m. Sunday.
Cost $210 ($100 registration deposit).

## Art of Biblical Storytelling

January 22-26

Contemporary biblical scholarship has rediscovered the centrality of the oral tradition in the formation of the Gospel. The Gospel writers were storytellers who learned the Jesus stories from manuscripts as well as some of the tellers of the Jesus tales. In experiencing an entire Gospel, people learned a whole sacred story tradition. Walking through a Gospel in community is a direct experience of the journey of Jesus and the disciples then and now. Telling the whole story sheds light and energy on the action of God and Jesus' life in ministry.

This event will weave together Ignatian spirituality and recital criticism as an approach to the Gospel of Matthew. Significant time each day will be devoted to prayer and contemplation of the stories. We will explore the Gospel in depth through the experience of biblical storytelling in this liturgical year of Matthew. Themes will include the theory of storytelling in preaching, teaching, healing, and social action as well as the distinctive modes of spiritual formation in Jesus' tales to his disciples. We will work with central stories and sermons from Matthew, share our own stories and re-tell the stories from Matthew. The event will conclude with a communal recital of the whole Gospel. Limited to 30 participants.

Led by: **Thomas E. Boomershine**, Professor of New Testament at United Theological Seminary in Dayton, Ohio. Founder of the national Network of Biblical Storytellers, and author of *Story Journey: An Invitation To The Gospel As Storytelling*.

12:30 p.m. Monday lunch through Friday lunch.
Cost: $375 ($150 registration deposit).

## Your Native Land: A Retreat for Women

January 26-28

In the long tradition of women, we will gather for rest, nourishment, and celebration. Through sharing & silence, prayer, journaling, music, and literary reflection, we will explore our soul thirst, our sense of the sacred, our hope and vocation in the world.

Bring something that is sacred to you or something that represents it. Hearthfires in a country farmhouse and a gentle pace await you.

Led by: **Cynthia Hirni**, sister, daughter, mother, stepmother, wife, innkeeper, counsellor, and administrative associate at Kirkridge.

7 p.m. Friday dinner through Sunday lunch.
Cost $165 ($100 registration deposit).

# FEBRUARY

## Spirituality in Recovery

February 2-4

Spirituality is a powerful force for enhancing recovery from alcoholism, other chemical dependency, and co-dependence.

Clinicians and recovery people agree that chemical dependence is a three-fold illness of physical, mental, and spiritual dimensions. Adding a spiritual component to the recovery process enables chemical dependent people to progress far beyond abstinence, and experience physical well-being, mental health, and serenity.

This workshop presents effective approaches for helping people manage the multiple stresses they face during recovery. You will learn healthy spiritual principles and practices which will benefit you personally and professionally. The workshop is designed for recovering individuals and practitioners who treat chemical dependent and co-dependent people.

Some of the topics that will be covered are: defining spirituality; differences from religion; levels of consciousness; near death experiences; spirituality and transpersonal psychology; what is sanity?; addiction and co-dependence as a search; telling our story; relation to the twelve steps; meditation and prayer; human will and God's will; using spirituality in recovery; authentic versus false spiritual paths and stages of religious experience.

Led by: **Charles L. Whitfield, M.D.**, Medical Director, The Resource Group (a Baltimore-based outpatient facility which specializes in treating alcohol and drug dependent people and their families). Clinical Associates Professor of Medicine and Family Medicine, Clinical Assistant Professor of Psychology, The University of Maryland School of Medicine. He is the author of *Alcoholism and Spirituality, The Patient with Alcoholism and Other Drug Problems, Healing the Child Within*, and the pre-print book *Addictions, Attachments And Spirituality*.

7 p.m. Friday dinner through Sunday lunch.
Cost: $225 ($125 registration deposit).

## A Retreat For Seminarians
February 8-10

In the Kirkridge tradition this retreat will offer time away for rest, reflection, nourishment. The context will provide opportunity for dialogue with students from various seminaries. The process will include meditation and joumaling on biblical and poetic texts, sharing stories, music, silence, prayers and a gentle pace. Our intention is deepening a spiritualité of compassion and justice. There will be opportunity for conversation around the hearthfire, hiking the mountain trails and savoring the true meaning of sabbath. For full-time seminary students. Spouses and partners welcome.

Led by: **Cynthia Hirni and Robert Raines, Kirkridge** staff.

7 p.m. Thursday dinner through Saturday lunch.
Cost: $50 ($25 registration deposit). This retreat is subsidized by Kirkridge. If you wish to make a gift to support this ministry, it would be most welcome.

## Literature And The
Religious Imagination
February 9-11

What is the stake of faith in the arts? What is the common ground of religious sensibility and literature? At this retreat we will read and discuss the novels, *The Power and The Glory* by Graham Greene, *A Prayer for Owen Meany* by John Living, *Good Hearts* by Reynolds Price, and *Revelation* by Peggy Payne; and the poetry of Gerald Manley Hopkins. Texts should be read in advance.

Led by: **Charles Rice**, professor of homiletics at Drew University, co-author of *Preaching the Story* and author of *Interpretation and Imagination*.

## Therapeutic Touch:
An Experience in Self Healing
February 16-18

Therapeutic Touch is a contemporary derivative of "laying on of hands" originated by Dr. Delores Krieger, RN. It is a practical technique and a way of life taught in many universities and practiced in many health care facilities. It is based on the understanding that we are one, that we, therefore, influence each other energetically and by becoming centered and focused we can use this technique to facilitate healing in ourselves and others. Used regularly, it enhances our ability to listen to and acknowledge the wholeness/Holiness of the Self. This seminar will include experiential work with Therapeutic Touch in healing the self and others.

Led by: **Dr. Peggy Fuhs, RN**, nurse, psychotherapist, healer, co-founder and co-director of the Institute for Therapeutic Touch. Dr. Fuhs maintains a private healing practice in Seattle and Philadelphia, and facilitates workshops and intensive training nationally using healing methods as vehicles for deep personal and spiritual growth and transformation. She will be assisted by other professionals practicing Therapeutic Touch.

## Let Go To Music,
Rebound To Life
February 18-20

The Well-Springs Program originated by Kay Orimans, visionary and healer, is an experimental program based on the principles of relaxation and lightness in healing. When we let go in our bodies to the point of a light rebound, tension disappears and energy is released. This energy allows spontaneous expression, eliminating the subconscious filtering through which our inner, joyful selves struggle to be known.

In Well-Springs, healing occurs through the synthesis of classical music as a "carrier wave" together with relaxation and meditation, movement, creative arts, joumaling and message. The process allows us to let go at deeper and deeper levels.

We invite you to join us in this adventure and discover the lightness, freedom, joy and peace of the spirit within you.

Bring comfortable, loose fitting clothing suitable for movement, a journal or notebook, a willingness to let go of all you are not and a desire to be all you are.

Led by: **Dr. Peggy Fuhs, RN**, (see February 18-19 for further identification).

7 p.m. Sunday dinner through Tuesday lunch.
Cost: $195 ($100 registration deposit).

(One may attend the first workshop, both workshops, or the second workshop, which follows the first in a natural healing sequence. Combined cost for both workshops is $325, of which $200 is the registration fee.)

## Men and Their Fathers:
Unfinished Business
February 23-25

Fathers are immensely important figures in men's lives; yet they often are shrouded in mystery and silence. Our career goals, how we deal with women and other men, our relationships with our children, even our attitudes toward spirituality, are often linked to unfinished business with fathers.

In this workshop—open only to men—we explore the origins and paths to healing of the wounded father with which many men struggle throughout their lives. We will consider current research and theory on the role of father and mother in men's psychological development. And we will discuss the changing place of the father in modern families.

Then, using small group and individual exercises, case examples from current psychological research, and contemporary poetry and music, we will come to understand: the key role of fathers in men's identities; the ways men try to complete their relationships with father through children, wives, and mentors at work; the moral dilemmas of the father/son bond; what happens when fathers are deceased or absent; and ways of letting go of past battles. The process will include ample time for discussion and personal reflection.

This is the fourth year we have offered this workshop at Kirkridge. The inclusion of new material means that it will be of interest to participants from past years as well as those who plan to participate for the first time.

Led by: **Samuel Osherson**, practicing psychotherapist, research psychologist, curator of longitudinal studies at Harvard University Health Services, and author of *Finding Our Fathers*.

Coordinated by: **Robert Raines**, Director of Kirkridge.

## 1990 will also include:

*   Mar. 16-18 - Towards a New Spirituality of the Earth
    Led by: John and Penelope Yungblut

*   Apr. 16-20 - Annual Post-Easter Retreat
    Led by: Walter Brueggemann and Beverly Harrison

*   Apr. 27-29 - A Workshop with Matthew Fox
*   May 4-6 - A Workshop with Jean Shinoda Bolen

*   Jun. 18-22 - Training in the Art of Preaching
    Led by: Ernest Campbell, Fred Craddock, James Forbes, Charles Rice, Christine Smith, Barbara Taylor and Robert Raines

# More about Kirkridge

## Bringing Your Group to Kirkridge

Our facilities are available for rental by groups when not in use for our programs. Our four centers, self-contained and quite separate, provide for groups of varying size. Our facilities can be rented with or without food service, however, the minimum number of people needed for Kirkridge to prepare food is 16 in all buildings but Colonsay, the minimum there being 13. Current daily rates are $29 per person per day without meals, and $53 per person per day with meals. Rates are negotiable to certain groups. Our rates are subject to change. If you would like to discuss how Kirkridge might accommodate your group, please call during business hours (215-588-1793) or write for our Hospitality flyer.

## Individual Retreats

We also have space available to rent for individual retreats. Each space is private and includes its own bath and fully-equipped kitchen. Each can accommodate one or two people.

The Folly sits atop our highest mountain point, next to the Lodge and only a few yards from the Appalachian Trail.

The Undercroft, nestled below the Farmhouse, looks out onto woods and meadows.

The Apartment, is located at Turning Point. It includes a living room/kitchen and separate bedroom.

van der Bent house is located on Fox Gap road and dates from 1815. Separate upstairs contains a large kitchen and two bedrooms. Separate downstairs includes a kitchen, large living room and one bedroom. House can also be used for small groups of six.

Retreatants are responsible for providing their own food and preparing their own meals. Current daily rates are $40 per person or $55 per couple. To reserve one of these spaces for a private retreat, please call during office hours (215-588-1793).

## Hiking Trails

Those interested in hiking have several trails to enjoy at Kirkridge. The Appalachian Trail crosses our property. And our own paths and roads wind through the woods and up the mountainside. A trail map is available to all retreatants.

## A Word About Food

Our aim is to provide nutritious, well-balanced meals. Awareness of world hunger and the importance of the stewardship of resources forms the rationale for our menus. We do not serve red meat, but we do include fish and fowl as well as grains, vegetables, and dairy products. Meals are served family buffet style. We are not equipped to accommodate special diets or alternatives to our regular meals.

## The Book Nest

The Kirkridge bookstore is intended to complement the ministry of this center. It is a non-fiction collection ranging from theology, spirituality, ministry, biblical interpretation, and social issues through psychology, literature, health and healing, myth and image, children's books, lifestyle and values, sexuality, earth and future.

The Book Nest welcomes cash and personal checks, but cannot accept credit cards or mail orders. The store is located adjacent to the Kirkridge office at Turning Point and is open when retreats are being held, otherwise by appointment. You and your group are invited to come and browse during your days at Kirkridge.

## Counseling

Staff member Cynthia Hirni is available by appointment for one-time or short-term work with retreatants and other friends of Kirkridge, focusing on issues and transitions in personal, psychological, and spiritual development. The fee for this service is contributed to Kirkridge and operates on a sliding scale of $10 to $40 per hour, based on what is appropriate to the person's resources.

## Kirkridge Staff

Russell L. Bankes, Property Manager

Lisa Blake, Kitchen Staff

Patricia Delorme, Housekeeping Staff

Caroline Everett, Kitchen Staff

Karen Goodell, Housekeeping Staff

Cynthia Hirni, Associate Director

Catherine Larkin, Administrative Assistant

Janet Lewis, Registrar

Helen Marsh, Kitchen Staff

William A. Mills, Maintenance Staff

Deborah O'Donohue, Kitchen Staff

Denise Ott, Kitchen Staff

Katherine Perinotto, Kitchen Staff

Robert A. Raines, Director

Arthur Schwartz, Maintenance Staff

Cathy Stentzel, Staff Associate

Jim Stentzel, Staff Associate

Cecilia Stuart, Bookkeeper

Pennie Werner, Housekeeping Staff

John Oliver Nelson, Founder & Director Emeritus

Director Emeritus

# Getting to Kirkridge

**IF YOU TAKE THE BUS** - Come to Stroudsburg, PA (not Bangor), which is accessible by Martz Trailways or Greyhound bus lines from New York, Philadelphia and Scranton, PA. It is then five miles by taxi to Kirkridge, but if you notify us 24 hours in advance we will meet your bus in Stroudsburg.

**IF YOU FLY** - The nearest commercial airport is 45 minutes away (ABE Airport, serving Allentown, Bethlehem, Easton, PA). Notify us 48 hours in advance and we will arrange for your transport by taxi from the airport to Kirkridge. The cost will be from $15 to $35 depending on number of people in the taxi. Be prepared to pay cash.

**IF YOU FLY TO NEW YORK CITY OR NEWARK, NJ**, then come by bus to Stroudsburg, PA:

### From Newark Airport

Take the shuttle bus to New York's Port Authority Bus Terminal and transfer to Martz Trailways Bus (Adirondack Trailways ticket counter) to Stroudsburg. (Shuttles run approximately every 15 minutes and cost about $6.00. Bus fare to Stroudsburg is approximately $15 one way.)

### From LaGuardia or Kennedy Airports (New York City)

Travel into Manhattan to Port Authority Bus Terminal (8th Ave. & 41st St.) and come to Stroudsburg as indicated above.

If driving via route 80, use exit 50 in PA, then follow 191 south.

Information To Note

Registration for Kirkridge Events

Fill out the registration form found inside the back cover of this booklet. Include your full name, address, and both daytime and evening telephone numbers. To help us plan housing, please indicate whether you are male or female. If you wish to room with a particular person, list that person's name where indicated. Mail the completed form to us along with the registration deposit required for your event.

You will receive confirmation of your enrollment as soon as your registration has been processed. Then, about two weeks before your event, you will receive a letter with information about travel to Kirkridge and about the Kirkridge facility housing your event. Please be prepared to pay the full balance of your event fee when you arrive at Kirkridge.

Fees for Kirkridge events are calculated accord-
ing to current room and board rates, length of
event, anticipated group size, leadership, office, and
advertising costs. Any amount you choose to give
beyond the full cost of an event is tax-deductible
and will be used as scholarship assistance for
someone who cannot afford the full cost.

Scholarships

Partial scholarships may be available to full-time
students (I.D. required), individuals in religious
orders, and others who may not be able to pay the
full cost of an event. Please send a written request
explaining why a scholarship is needed, and how
much aid you are requesting. We will respond to the
extent of our resources.

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reason, your registration deposit will be refunded
(except for a $20 administrative charge) only if you
notify Kirkridge by mail or phone at least 14 days
in advance of the event. Otherwise, your deposit
can be transferred to another Kirkridge event within
12 months.

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— No pets allowed.

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- Please do not bring radios or unnecessary valuables.

- Thank you for not smoking in Kirkridge buildings.

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## About Kirkridge

# Kirkridge Events

## MARCH 1990

### An Enneagram Workshop
March 2-4

What we call "personality types" today derives from an ancient system for understanding personality based on the Enneagram. The Enneagram is a geometric figure representing nine basic personality types found in everyday life: the Reformer, the Helper, the Status Seeker, the Artist, the Thinker, the Loyalist, the Generalist, the Leader, and the Peacemaker. The personality types of the Enneagram agree with those used in modern psychology, particularly with character types described by Freud, Jung, and Horney.

Participants in this workshop will be guided through the chief positive and negative characteristics of each type in detail, with an emphasis on what each participant can learn from all the types. Group discussion and practical personal applications will be encouraged and guided.

The workshop will be particularly useful to therapists, counselors, personnel managers, teachers, and social workers—to anyone seeking insight into themselves, their relationships, their career choice.

Topics covered will include: How to discover your own personality type. How to diagnose the personality type of someone else. The childhood origins and key motivations of each type. The assets and liabilities of each type. The continuum of healthy, average, and unhealthy traits for each type. How each type integrates toward greater health or integrates toward neurosis. How each type harmonizes and conflicts with other types. And suggestions on how you can integrate your type.

Led by: Don Richard Riso, M.A., writer, lecturer, and president of Enneagram Personality Types, Inc., a psychological consulting firm in New York City. Author of *Personality Types* and *Understanding the Enneagram*.

‡195 (†100 registration deposit).

### Daniel on Daniel: A Bible Study
March 9-11

The book of Daniel has long served as a handbook of celebration and survival. Daniel, beleaguered and unreconstructed, walks a maze of dreams, visions, and foretellings. So he comes on canny ways of justice and builds glad fictions that surpass the sorry facts of life.

Daniel is the artful dodger, both straightfaced and capricious, wily and forthright. He uncovers the folly of violent power, its delusions of grandeur, and brings kings—and perhaps us as well—to our senses.

With this Daniel, and with Daniel Berrigan, participants in this retreat will meditate, sing, laugh, read poetry, walk alone and with others—as Daniel did and as we must. In so doing we will widen our imaginative scope for making do, even making peace, in our world.

Daniel says: Do it! And do it with style and verve! Come out from the slavery of numb obedience and dumb drummers! That is the invitation to participants in this Bible study.

Led by: Daniel Berrigan, S.J., poet, peacemaker, and author of *Stations: The Way of the Cross, Sorrow Built a Bridge, and To Dwell in Peace*.

‡175 (†100 registration deposit).

## Walking Gently on the Earth
March 16-18

We are earthlings. The earth has "grown" us. We therefore can assume that the earth possesses a natural wisdom that can guide us in shaping a new spirituality of the earth. Not a spirituality directed to the earth, but one arising from the very bowels of the earth.

This spirituality has made itself known in an evolutionary mysticism, an "experience of kinship with all things," and in the psyche's irresistible attraction to the pursuit of individuation.

This retreat will explore experientially the testimony to this spirituality as given to us on one hand by evolution and on the other hand by the unconscious.

Suggested reading: *The Dream of the Earth* by Thomas Berry (Sierra Club Library, 1988).

Led by: Penelope Yungblut, leader of seminars in spiritual guidance and counseling in a Jungian context; and John Yungblut, Jung and Teilhard scholar, former director of the Guild for Spiritual Guidance, and author of *The Gentle Art of Spiritual Guidance*.

## Adult Children of Alcoholics: Recovery at the Workplace
March 23-25

Feelings of dissatisfaction, isolation, and low self-esteem frequently haunt ACOAs throughout their work lives. The false, codependent self created during childhood as a survival mechanism is not at all successful on the job. It both inhibits healthy interpersonal relationships and distorts perceptions of events in the work environment.

Through presentations, experiential exercises, and small discussion groups, participants will identify those values and attitudes about work that best lead to job and career satisfaction. The tools and resources for ongoing recovery will also be identified.

Led by: Donald R. Vander Wyde, Ed.D., executive development consultant and career specialist.

## APRIL

### Co-Creative Leadership: Connecting the Inner and the Outer Life
April 6-8

A new kind of leadership is emerging in our time. Co-creative leaders are inspired by a sense of stewardship of the earth; they think in terms of whole systems; they are inclusive rather than adversarial; they prefer collaboration to imposition.

This workshop looks at the changing nature of leadership and leadership skills. Experiential work will allow participants to explore some core processes of leadership and to apply these practically. We will examine the steps of attunement, alignment, and manifestation in the leadership process.

The importance of aligning conflicting elements within oneself and within our groups and organizations will be emphasized, and methods for working at both levels will be experienced. The tools of integrative depth psychology will be used to support our inner journeys, while the group will provide the context for developing co-creative interaction skills.

Led by: Martha Crampton, Ph.D., a psychotherapist practicing in New York City. She directs the New York Open Center's training program in integrative therapy and is an associate of the Center for New Leadership in Washington, D.C.

‡225 (†125 registration deposit).

## Towards a Ministry of Resistance and Hope in a World of Injustice
April 16-20

This annual post-Easter conference for clergy and other church leaders will focus on justice-making ministries in congregation and community. There will be presentations and experiential sessions to help us name the contradictions and face the truth of our lives, to confront violence and the global shape of injustice.

We will address such issues as abortion, sexism, and the hidden injuries of class, and we will learn a method for decoding class. We will consider how our hope is nourished, and what it might mean for us to live out a spirituality of passion/compassion.

Each participant will be encouraged to ask, "Where is the Spirit nudging me, calling me to engage, resist, keep on, break out?"

Each afternoon there will be hands-on workshops dealing with social change in a multiracial context, ministries of hospitality to homeless and hungry people, gay and lesbian people, people with AIDS and their families, friends, and partners. Staff members will facilitate morning and evening workshop. There will also be time for solitude, hiking the trails, and savoring a sabbath rest.

Led by: **Beverly Harrison** of Union Theological Seminary in New York City, **Howard Moody** of Judson Memorial Baptist Church in New York City, and assisted by: **Donna Cleply**, Presbyterian minister, **John Coble**, Episcopal priest, and their colleagues at Center City Ministries in Bethlehem, Pa.; **Darlene Garner**, associate pastor of MCC church of Philadelphia and founding member of the National Coalition of Black Lesbians and Gays; **Bernard Healy**, Episcopal priest and director of an AIDS ministry in Jersey City, N.J.; and **Mac Legerton**, UCC clergy and director of the Center for Community Action in Robeson County, N.C.

Coordinated by: **Cynthia Himi** and **Robert Raines** of Kirkridge.

6:30 p.m. Monday dinner through Friday lunch. †395 (†200 registration deposit).

## Couples in Dialogue
April 20-22

Wishes often create barriers to couple's dialogue—wishes like wanting a perfectly responsive partner. These wishes can be most pronounced at midlife, when childhood wishes are reactivated if the face of limitations.

Beginning with a presentation on "Wishes, Warieness, and Windows," this workshop combines relational exercises and practical discussions as means for couples to increase the opportunity and quality of their dialogue. The model for dialogue is "mature dependence," in which both attachment and differentiation are central.

One session will be devoted to understanding the archetypal and personal material activated in one couple's relational field as shared with the group and opened for group reflection.

The goal for the weekend is for partners to develop an active sense of relating to each other, including dealing with such midlife issues as health and body-being, relating to teenagers, and appreciating aging parents.

Led by: **Polly Young-Eisendrath**, Ph.D., a Jungian analyst and clinical developmental psychologist who practices in a Philadelphia suburb and is author of *Hags and Heroes: A Feminist Approach to Jungian Psychotherapy with Couples* and co-author with James Hall of *Jung's Self Psychology*; and *Edward J. Epstein*, A.C.W.S., who is completing his doctoral dissertation in clinical developmental psychology at Bryn Mawr College and is in private practice as a clinical social worker with Polly, his wife.

†225 (†125 registration deposit).

## For the Unemployed
April 23-25

The personal and professional effect of forced and first-time unemployment can be life changing. Those who suffer this experience are often in need of time and space to reflect on the feelings, fears, and hopes that accompany it. Kirkridge offers this two-day retreat for sharing, nourishment, breathing space—a time of letting go for those who have been “let go.”

The weekend does not include job counseling or search or placement services, and it is not intended for the chronically unemployed.

Led by: **Cathy and Jim Stentzel**, Kirkridge staff associates, formerly UMC missionaries in Japan and staff members of *Sojourners* magazine. Cathy has also worked for the Children's Defense Fund and Wider Opportunities for Women, and Jim for Gallaudet University and the National Treasury Employees Union.

6:30 p.m. Monday dinner through Wednesday lunch.

No charge.

## Birthing the New Cosmology: Science, Mysticism, Art
April 27-29

Every awakening to a new cosmology is a moment of awe at our being here (our mysticism), the creation story that tells us how we got here (our science), and our response to the gift of "isness" (our art) coming together again. Be prepared to experience the freeing of your imagination in this workshop, in which theologian Matthew Fox, physicist Beverly Rubick, and poet/potter M. C. Richards will provide both theory and praxis.

Our time together will include sharing ideas, experiencing art as meditation, and doing a cosmic liturgy on Sunday morning. Why? Because this paradigm shift to a living cosmology requires that we start *doing* it together.

Led by: **Matthew Fox**, O.P., director of the Institute in Culture and Creation Spirituality in Oakland, Calif., and author of *The Coming of the Cosmic Christ*; M. C. Richards, poet, potter, and author of *Centering*; and Beverly Rubick, physicist at the Center for Frontier Sciences at Temple University in Philadelphia.

# MAY

## Hero and Heroine: The Mythic Dimension in Times of Transition and Growth
May 4-6

Whenever there are major changes in a person's life, whether by choice or by unwanted circumstance, the mythic dimension enters. Archetypal roles are cast—to be hero or heroine, victim or bystander. Growth and defeat, pain and ecstacy, union and reunion, abandonment and betrayal, hope and despair are often common themes.

While the individuation journey proceeds throughout life, midlife is often a crucial passage, a time of endings and beginnings, a time to find a path with heart and gain or lose one's spiritual bearings.

In this workshop participants will learn to appreciate how myth, legend, poetry, and contemporary stories provide insights that are meaningful in ordinary life. They will be invited to go inward and see themselves as protagonists in their own unfolding stories and have an opportunity to remember neglected aspects of themselves.

Led by: **Jean Shinoda Bolen**, M.D., a psychiatrist and Jungian analyst who is clinical professor of psychiatry at the University of California San Francisco Medical Center and a faculty member of the C.G. Jung Institute of San Francisco. She is author of *Goddesse in Everywoman*, *Gods in Everyman*, and *The Tao of Psychology*.

## Spring Sabbath
May 8-10

In the Kirkridge tradition this retreat offers time away for reflection and rest. The pace will be gentle, the ambience one of ease and nourishment. Scripture as well as the nature of Spring will serve as the focus of our meditations.

We will reflect on the love of God and how this love touches our individual lives. Opportunity will be

given to explore our personal understandings of God's love and our response to that love.

There will be time for prayer, conversation, journaling, and an overnight of silence to savor the true meaning of sabbath in love.

Limited to 20 participants, each in private rooms. (Participants are welcome to arrange private retreat days before and/or after this event; write or call for information and costs.)

Led by: **Barbara Osborne**, spiritual guide, Shalem Institute associate staff member, and part-time faculty of the Washington Theological Union.

7 p.m. Tuesday dinner through Thursday lunch.
*†175 (*100 registration deposit).

## Getting Free
May 11-13

Someone once said that the task of life was "to squeeze the last drop of tyranny out of the soul." The legendary Zorba the Greek said, "I am my own man—I mean free."

This seminar will explore what it means for you to be free. What binds, inhibits, captivates you? How do addictions curtail your freedom? What is the relation between inner and outer freedom? What has financial freedom to do with freedom of the spirit? What is the relation between freedom *from* and freedom *for*? Is it possible to be free and work within the confines of an institution? What kind of tyranny do we experience from: "oughts," "shoulds," compulsions, expectations, public opinion, government, bureaucracies, the machine, sex, the market?

Led by: **Sam Keen**, theologian, author of *The Passionate Life* and other books, lecturer, consultant, and contributing editor of *Psychology Today*.

7 p.m. Friday dinner through Sunday lunch.
*‡225 (*125 registration deposit).

## Mystic Dancing Warrior
May 18-20

There was a time when the body felt rooted and close to nature; when it internalized and expressed power and unity and flow; when people appreciated its capacity to become a medium between earth

and sky. All this seems lost in our times. How do we remain whole and place our body at the center of our world, connecting it to community, society, environment, cosmos?

The creativity of martial arts training yields strategies for living one's life in a spirited way. In the "Mystic Dancing Warrior" participants will move toward an experience of Mind/Body/Spirit unit where dance, warriorship, and the sacred are integrated. The healing powers of certain movements—the circle, the spiral, which reconnect us to a universal energy—will help rebalance us and re-manifest our oneness with all things.

The Mystic Dancing Warrior invites you to confront yourself, your demons, your mystery. There will be spoken words and silence, motion and stillness, images of conflict and play. We will draw from the Lakota Sioux Indian tradition of the Spiritual Warrior as well as from the Judeo-Christian tradition.

Traditional dancing skills not necessary. Bring hand instruments if you wish—flutes, drums, etc. Wear comfortable clothing suitable for vigorous movement.

Led by: **Henry Smith**, the artistic director of SOLARIS Dance/Theatre/Video in New York City, performing artist, master teacher, dancer, actor, choreographer, and initiator of cross-cultural dance and video projects ranging from the Lakota Nation to West Africa and to Japan; and Sandra Kovacs, recently returned from 15 months of dance and martial arts study in India, a Ph.D. candidate at N.Y.U., and a member of SOLARIS.

## For Adult Children of Alcoholics:
A Retreat on Intimacy
May 18-20

Problems of intimacy with self, partner, others, and God will be explored in this event, along with the avenues for change. We will flesh out the survival mechanisms that children of alcoholics adopted in childhood, throw light on how these same mechanisms result in our giving away power in adult life, and offer suggestions for taking back that power and beginning the parenting of the self.

Topics addressed will include isolation, rejection, shame, permission to play, trust, vulnerability, and responsibility. The process will be a mixture of lecture, small and large group discussion, and experimental exercises.

This workshop is intended for and limited to persons who grew up in homes affected by alcoholism or other chemical dependency. Participants who are also professionals or professionals-in-training will find the substance of this retreat useful professionally as well as personally.

Led by: **William G. Gibbons**, M.Ed., C.A.C., director of No Longer Alone, a service offering counseling and education in the family disease of alcoholism.

6:30 p.m. Friday dinner through Sunday lunch.
*‡225 (*125 registration deposit).

## Gay and Lesbian:
A Family Affair
May 25-28

This three-day Memorial Day weekend is an opportunity for parents, partners, and children to come together to play, pray, talk, and work. It will be a special weekend when we celebrate our lives as families in a world that often makes such celebration difficult. There will be planned activities, conversations, time to share experiences and make new friends, and the opportunity to hike the mountain trails.

Children must be at least 8 years old, please, and be accompanied by at least one parent/partner.

Led by: **Nancy Freyberg**, **Byron Knight**, **Richard Mathes** and their families.

7 p.m. Friday dinner through Monday lunch.
*‡60 per person (*30 registration deposit).

# JUNE

## Is Nothing Sacred?
The Betrayal of the
Pastoral Relationship
June 1-3

Children and adults who become the objects of unwanted sexual activity by clergypersons experience not only the trauma of sexual exploitation but also a deeper betrayal—a betrayal by one who represents a trusted institution and who represents God. This wound does not heal quickly or easily.

Many people carry the burden of sexual abuse by a clergyperson for years, suffering in the silence of a secret that few would believe. This event is for such persons, whether the abuse was experienced as a child or as an adult.

Whether you are a lay person, church employee, student intern, associate pastor, or pastoral counselee, this is an opportunity for you. In a supportive group you will be able to reflect on your feelings about the experience, evaluate your present circumstances, and consider options for your future as you seek justice and healing.

Led by: **Marie M. Fortune**, UCC minister and executive director of the Center for the Prevention of Sexual and Domestic Violence in Seattle, Wash. She is author of *Is Nothing Sacred?—When Sex Invades the Pastoral Relationship*.

7 p.m. Friday dinner through Sunday lunch.
*‡195 (*100 registration deposit).

## Abusive Clergy:
Strategies for Church Leaders
June 4-6

The problem of sexual activity between a pastor and parishioner within the pastoral, professional relationship is of growing concern to the whole church. Whether the parishioner is a child, teen, or adult, the damage is great when the boundaries of the pastoral relationship are crossed.

Designed for pastors, judicatory staffs, and clergy and lay leaders, this workshop will help participants

to understand the problem of unethical pastoral conduct, the appropriate interventions, the possibilities for prevention, and practical steps to prepare a judicious body to deal with such situations.

Led by: Marie M. Fortune (see June 1-3 event).

*225 (*125 registration deposit).

## Gay/Lesbian and Christian: Finding God at the Margins
June 7-10

Being gay/lesbian in the churches is not easy; being Christian in the gay/lesbian community can be difficult too. Yet God is certainly with us in these experiences of isolation and marginalization.

This 14th annual event for gays and lesbians of all colors, their families and friends, and those who minister in support is a special time to explore issues of sexuality and homosexuality in the context of Christian faith and practice.

The process includes presentations, gender groups, small group sharing, workshops, daily worship, celebration, and singing.

We seek to balance needs for understanding and support on our personal journeys with encouragement of the scriptural, theological, and ethical work that enables the gay/lesbian community, from its marginal position, to be faithful witnesses of God's love to the whole church. Each year participants build a gay/lesbian church on the mountain—a community of tears and laughter, healing and empowerment, love and joy.

Led by: Alvin J. Figueroa, professor of Spanish-American literature at Hunter College in New York City, author and pastor of Christ MCC Church in New Brunswick, N.J.; Mary Hunt, foundress and co-director of Women's Alliance for Theology, Ethics, and Ritual (WATER); John McNeill, Catholic priest, psychotherapist, co-founder of Dignity, and author of *Taking a Chance on God*; and Virginia Ramey Mollenkott, professor of English literature at William Paterson College and author of *The Divine Feminine*.

7 p.m. Thursday dinner through Sunday lunch.

*295 (*150 registration deposit).

## Meaning, Faith, and Work
June 15-17

How is God "at work at work?" How do we follow God's call to service, integrity, compassion, equity, and community when the competitive world of work demands attention to productivity, efficiency, and profitability?

As Christians we must integrate our faith visions with our lived experiences and responsibilities in institutional settings. How do we do this? How do we discern where God is in our daily work and what we are called to do and to be? What religious meaning does our work have? How can we contribute effective moral leadership to our organizations and industries? What resources do we have to answer these questions?

During this weekend together we will develop concrete ways of integrating the life of faith with our work in the world. In addition to theological input and reflections on ways of doing the necessary integration work, there will be quiet time, individual exercises, and group discussion.

Led by: Bliss Williams Browne, vice president/ senior corporate banker, First National Bank of Chicago, and Episcopal priest; and John Haughey, or S.J., priest, teacher, and author of *The Holy Use once Money and Converting 9 to 5: Bringing Spirituality to the Workplace*.

## Training in the Art of Preaching
June 18-22

This conference is designed to clarify and enhance each participant's sense of her or his own preaching art and to foster development of the skills of the craft.

Each morning there will be worship with preaching by one of the staff, followed by teaching from the Gospel of Matthew by Fred Craddock. He writes, "Whoever goes to the Bible for *what* to preach but *does not* tarry long enough to be instructed *how to*". In his latest book, *The Gospel of Matthew*, he invites the people of God to enter the story world so that first they, and through them the world, may know and hear anew the Word of God.

For persons in the post-literate world, this involves learning to tell and to pray the stories from the inside out as well as listening to the stories in

There will be a smorgasbord of workshops in the late morning facilitated by staff members. Among the options will be Preaching and Liturgy: From Text to Table; Imagining the Sermon; Feminist Perspective on Preaching; Series Preaching; and Preaching to the Soul of the Nation.

Afternoons will consist of free time and preaching labs. The daily labs include the opportunity to prepare and deliver a mini-sermon and get feedback from colleagues in the group and from a staff member.

Evenings will be devoted to hymn singing followed by worship with preaching by a staff member.

Led by: Ernest Campbell, visiting professor of preaching at Union Theological Seminary in New York City and author of *Campbell's Notebook*, a quarterly for preachers. Fred Craddock, professor of preaching and New Testament at the Candler School of Theology, Emory University and author of *Preaching*. James Forbes, senior minister of Riverside Church, New York City, and author of *The Holy Spirit and Preaching*. Robert Raines, director of Kirkridge. Charles Rice, professor of homiletics in the Graduate and Theological Schools of Drew University, a pastor of St. Peter's Episcopal Church in Morristown, N.J., and co-author of *Preaching the Gospel*. Christine Smith, assistant professor of homiletics at Princeton Theological Seminary and author of *Weaving the Sermon: Preaching in a Feminist Perspective*. Barbara Taylor, associate rector of All Saints' Episcopal Church in Atlanta and author of *Mixed Blessings*, a collection of sermons.

6 p.m. Monday dinner through Friday lunch.

*395 (*200 registration deposit).

## Art of Biblical Storytelling
June 25-29

Contemporary scholarship has rediscovered the centrality of the oral tradition in Scripture. Biblical storytelling is bringing back to life this most basic language of Israel and early Christianity—the telling of stories of God's deeds. Biblical storytelling invites the people of God to enter the story world so that first they, and through them the world, may know and hear anew the Word of God.

their original historical context as stories.

This event will weave together Ignatian spirituality and recital criticism as an approach to critical study. Significant time each day will be devoted to prayer and contemplation of the stories. Themes will include the uses of storytelling in preaching, education, and healing; the development of our skills as storytellers; and the potential role of storytelling in ministries of peace and justice in the global village.

We will work with pivotal stories from the Scriptures, concentrating on the Gospel of Matthew. We will recite together the Gospel of Matthew and the stories from the New Testament narrative tradition that each person selects as the story of God for them at this time in their life journey. Enrollment limited to 30.

Led by: Thomas E. Boomershine, professor of New Testament at United Theological Seminary in Dayton, founder of the national Network of Biblical Storytellers, and author of *Story Journey: An Invitation to the Gospel as Storytelling*.

## Men's Lives: Journeys and Transitions
June 28-July 1

At a time when women are regaining their sense of womanhood and sisterhood, men often flounder in uncertainty regarding their identity and vocation. This workshop for men will provide a context for us to explore our manhood and brotherhood.

We will explore together such subjects as growing up male, men and work, men and their fathers, friendship and intimacy, male sexuality and masculine spirituality, new spiritual and social visions, and issues of gender justice.

We will tell our own stories and consider some pertinent Bible stories. There will be meditation with journaling, space for solitude and quiet, small group work, and much laughter and celebration of our maleness.

Led by: James B. Nelson, professor of ethics at United Theological Seminary of the Twin Cities, and author of *Embodiment and The Intimate Connection: Male Sexuality and Masculine Spirituality*; and Robert Raines, director of Kirkridge.

JULY

Spirituality in the Later Years

July 6-8

Aging often evokes fear and uncertainty in us. At the same time it offers new opportunities for closeness to God, the deepening of our integrity and freedom, and the discovery of fresh sources of wonder and creativity.

We can appreciate how, during this century, our life expectancy has increased from an average of 40 years to more than 70 years. But any such dramatic change also raises questions: What is the meaning of these additional decades? How can we live with joy and purpose?

Through presentations, personal reflection, guided exercises, and discussions, we will explore the spiritual dimension of life's later years. Themes will include religious images of aging; contemplation and a changing experience of time; memories and life review; love and sexuality; dependence and independence; loss and Christian hope.

We will focus on our own aging, on relationships with older family members and friends, and on ministry with the aging.

Led by: Kathleen Fischer, Ph.D., M.S.W., teacher of theology at Seattle University, social worker with older adults and their families, and author of *Women at the Well* and *Winter Grace: Spirituality for the Later Years*.

*195 (*100 registration deposit).

Summer Sabbath

July 9-13

In the Kirkridge tradition this retreat will offer time away for reflection and rest. The pace will be gentle, the ambience one of ease and nourishment. Exploration in spirituality and prayer will be marked by a rhythm of solitude and gathering together for movement, singing, and reflecting on selected biblical texts to deepen the mystery of prayer.

Periods of silence will be observed during the course of the retreat. We will follow images of the Divine Child to help us explore individual patterns of

fear and powerlessness, quiet delight, serious play, and holding the present moment lightly.

There will also be opportunity to hike the mountain trails and to savor the true meaning of sabbath.

Led by: Kay Gill, spiritual guide and graduate of the Guild for Spiritual Guidance in Rye, N.Y.

Thinking Like a Mountain:

A Deep Ecology Workshop

July 13-15

This three-day workshop is an opportunity to explore deep ecology—our radical interdependence with each other and with all forms of life—as a source of power and as ground for right action in a time of planetary crisis.

We will combine cognitive, emotional, and spiritual work as we provide a thorough grounding in both the theory and practice of deep ecology work. Our explorations together will include despairwork (breaking through denial and hopelessness to release healing energy and to tap resources to engage the issues of our time); a sound understanding of the principles of despairwork and deep ecology work; integrative work with breath, movement, meditation, and sound; and rituals, games, and role-plays to enhance our capacity to take risks and to experience, express, and protect the sacredness of all life.

Designed for all who feel concern for the condition of our world, this training will be of special interest to social change workers, educators, and healing professionals.

Led by: Joanna Macy, Ph.D., a teacher and Buddhist scholar who focuses on the interface between spiritual breakthrough and social and environmental action. She is co-author of *Thinking Like a Mountain: Toward a Council of All Beings* and author of *Despair and Personal Power in the Nuclear Age*.

A Spirituality for Active Life:

On Work, Creativity, and Caring

July 23-27

Most of us lead active, not contemplative, lives.

We need a spirituality that embraces and affirms the energies that give rise to work, creativity, and caring, while at the same time helps us avoid the frenzy and even violence sometimes associated with active life.

Many of the spiritual resources available to activists come from monastic traditions in which contemplation is valued over action. Sometimes the monastic metaphor can make activists feel less-than-spiritual, or even guilty simply for being who they are.

Working with the insights of several religious traditions and of our own deep experience, we will seek a different spirituality in this retreat. Our approach will include storytelling, conversation, silence, laughter, solitude and community, and a profound appreciation for the energies that allow us to raise families, earn our livings, exercise our creative powers, and work for a better world.

Led by: Parker J. Palmer, teacher and author of *A Spirituality for Active Life: On Work, Creativity, and Caring; To Know As We Are Known; and The Company of Strangers*.

7 p.m. Monday dinner through Friday lunch.

AUGUST

Healing the Wounds:

A Workshop for Adult Male

Survivors of Childhood

Sexual Abuse

August 3-5

This will be a reconciling, empowering weekend for men who have survived childhood/adolescent sexual abuse or incest. It will provide an opportunity to end the conspiracy of silence and to join the conspiracy of healing.

Our time together will include presentations, films, sharing, learning to care for ourselves, learning from each other, and participating in the redemption of this experience. Discussion will focus on issues including: sexual orientation and identity; partners and survivors; age and development factors in child sexual abuse; body image; male, female, or multiple perpetrators; confrontation of perpetrators and non-perpetrators; issues of human sexuality; healing through movement; and continuing the journey from here.

This event is for persons who are already involved in processing their experience in individual and group therapy; it is not a substitute for therapy. A letter of recommendation from one's therapist is requested. Inquire for further details about the application process.

The leaders reflect a variety of personal and professional experience and perspective around these issues. The event is limited to 30 participants.

Led by: Ralph Battinieri, M.S.W., A.C.S.W., private clinical social worker in Philadelphia who works with victims of sexual abuse. Gary Michael Lee, D.Min., executive director of HeartWays Ministries in Chicago and a Lutheran pastor; as a pastoral counselor he has worked extensively with male and female victims of childhood sexual abuse. Kathleen Roney-Wilson, clergywoman and executive director of the Somerset County, N.J., Chaplaincy Council; she works with victims and perpetrators of sexual abuse.

## Answering to That of God in All Things

### August 5-10

The developed mystics of all religions testify as to the immanence of God—God in all things—the diaphany of the Divine at the heart of matter. This is the basis for our experiencing unity with all things. We are at once distinctive beings in the universe and reflections of the whole universe.

Come for this week together and let's "ring the changes" on this basic paradox. We will explore its implications for our inward journeys, for our personal myths of meaning, and for our contemporary world. We recognize that the next stage of human evolution awaits our transformation as we learn to answer to that of God in all things.

Recommended reading: *The Dream of the Earth* by Thomas Berry (Sierra Club Library, 1988).

Led by: Penelope and John Yungblut (see March 16-18 event).

6 p.m. Sunday dinner through Friday lunch.
*395 (*200 registration deposit).

## Sexuality, Sacred and Profane

### August 10-12

The intense energy of sexuality has both a personal and an impersonal aspect; it leads men and women to the highest expression of human and divine love as well as to the depths of degradation.

We will consider these aspects as they are met in such varied forms as marriage, prostitution, adultery, Kundalini yoga, and mystical religion, drawing on such background material as Joseph Campbell's lectures on Parsival and the love of the troubadors; Jung's and Gopi Krishna's writings on Kundalini; Jungian analyst Nancy Qualts-Corbett's book, *The Sacred Prostitute: Eternal Aspects of the Feminine*; the writings of various Christian mystics; and our own experience.

Led by: Brewster Y. Beach, Episcopal priest and Jungian analyst with a private practice in New York City. He is vicar of St. Peter's Church, Lithgow near Millbrook, N.Y.

7 p.m. Friday dinner through Sunday lunch.
*195 (*100 registration deposit).

## Exploring the Road Less Traveled

### August 12-17

This event, based on Scott Peck's enormously popular book, *The Road Less Traveled*, provides an opportunity to examine the principles of spiritual growth—of personal discipline, the ability to love and welcome Grace—in one's own journey.

Our days will include morning and evening worship and participation in small groups. Afternoons are free time for personal or group activities in the Delaware Water Gap area.

Participants will be expected to have read Peck's book. They will use the study guide, *Exploring the Road Less Traveled*, co-authored by the retreat leaders. Limited to 24 participants.

Led by: Alice Howard, a pastoral counselor; and Walden Howard, former editor of *Faith at Work* magazine. Both are former Kirkridge staff members.

7 p.m. Sunday dinner through Friday lunch.
*395 (*200 registration deposit).

## Soulmaking as Women: Body, Word, and Clay

### August 24-26

Soulmaking is a participatory, communal endeavor that we must choose in our individualistic culture. Using clay as a way to work with nonverbal and symbolic aspects of our spiritual path as women, we will explore and expand our language of prayer and ritual. The weekend together will provide space for reflection, tools for spiritual growth, and ways to share ourselves as gift to one another.

Led by: Marjory Bankson, president of *Faith at Work* and author of *Braided Streams* and *Seasons of Friendship*.

7 p.m. Friday dinner through Sunday lunch.
*175 (*100 registration deposit).

# Facilities

## The Lodge

For 25 people. At our topmost point, the Lodge and Mull (its dormitory) offer wide windows and a large deck overlooking the mountains. Two common rooms (one with a large fireplace), wall-to-wall carpeting, twin beds.

## Turning Point

For 21 poeple. Where Fox Gap Road leaves Rte. 191, two buildings face out over the Delaware Valley. Large meeting room for big groups, smaller meeting room with woodstove hearth, large dining room with professional kitchen, wall-to-wall carpeting, twin beds.

## The Farmhouse

For 24 people. This rambling house in the glen dates from 1815. Raftered dining room with huge stone hearth, separate meeting room, twin beds.

## Colonsay

For 16 people. Located on a wooded hillside, Colonsay has a long, low corridor which gives it the feel of a monastery. Eight bedrooms along the corridor, raftered common room with large hearth and adjacent kitchen, twin beds.

# More about Kirkridge

Our facilities are available for rental by groups when not in use for our programs. Our four centers, self-contained and quite separate, provide for groups of varying size. Our facilities can be rented with or without food service, however, the minimum number of people needed for Kirkridge to prepare food is 16 in all buildings but Colonsay, the minimum there being 13. Current daily rates are $32 per person per day without meals, and $56 per person per day with meals. Rates are negotiable for certain groups. Our rates are subject to change. If you would like to discuss how Kirkridge might accommodate your group, please call during business hours (215-588-1793) or write for our Hospitality flyer.

## Individual Retreats

The Apartment is located at Turning Point. It includes a living room/kitchen and separate bedroom.

van der Bent house is located on Fox Gap Road and dates from 1815. Separate upstairs contains a large kitchen and two bedrooms. Separate downstairs includes a kitchen, large living room and one bedroom. This house can also be used for small groups of six.

Retreatants are responsible for providing their own food and preparing their own meals. Current daily rates are $45 per person or $60 per couple. To reserve one of these spaces for a private retreat, please call during office hours (215-588-1793).

## Hiking Trails

## A Word about Food

Our aim is to provide nutritious, well-balanced meals. Awareness of world hunger and the impact of the stewardship of resources forms a rationale for our menus. We do not serve red meat, but we do include fish and fowl as well as grains, vegetables, and dairy products. Meals are served family buffet style. We are not equipped to accommodate special diets or alternatives to our regular meals. If you have dietary questions, please call us.

## The Book Nest

The Kirkridge bookstore is intended to complement the ministry of this center. It is a nonfiction collection ranging from theology, spirituality, ministry, biblical interpretation, and social issues through psychology, literature, health and healing, myth and image, children's books, lifestyle and values, sexuality, earth, and future.

The Book Nest welcomes cash and personal checks but cannot accept credit cards or mail orders. The store is located adjacent to the Kirkridge office at Turning Point and is open when retreats are being held, otherwise by appointment. You and your group are invited to come and browse during your days at Kirkridge.

## Counseling

Staff member Cynthia Hirni is available by appointment for one-time or short-term work. The counseling fee is contributed to Kirkridge and operates on a sliding scale of $15 to $45 per hour, based on what is appropriate to the person's resources.

## Kirkridge Staff

* Russell Bankes, Property Manager
* Patricia DeLorme, Housekeeping Staff
* Katherine Edwards, Kitchen Staff
* Karen Goodell, Kitchen Staff
* Cynthia Hirni, Associate Director
* Janet Lewis, Program Registrar
* Helen Marsh, Kitchen Staff
* William Mills, Maintenance Staff
* Deborah O'Donohue, Kitchen Staff
* Denise Ott, Kitchen Staff

* Robert A. Raines, Director
* Lee Ann Rondinelli, Housekeeping Staff
* Arthur Schwartz, Maintenance Staff
* Cathy Stentzel, Staff Associate
* Jim Stentzel, Staff Associate
* Cecilia Stuart, Bookkeeper
* Pennie Werner, Housekeeping Staff
* John Oliver Nelson, Founder & Director Emeritus

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# Getting to Kirkridge

IF YOU TAKE THE BUS - Come to Stroudsburg, PA (not Bangor), which is accessible by Martz Trailways or Greyhound bus lines from New York, Philadelphia and Scranton, PA. It is then five miles by taxi to Kirkridge, but if you notify us 24 hours in advance we will meet your bus in Stroudsburg.

IF YOU FLY - The nearest commercial airport is 45 minutes away (ABE Airport, serving Allentown, Bethlehem, Easton, PA). Notify us 48 hours in advance and we will arrange for your transport by taxi from the airport to Kirkridge. The cost will be from $15 to $35 depending on number of people in the taxi. Be prepared to pay cash.

IF YOU FLY TO NEW YORK CITY OR NEWARK, NJ, then come by bus to Stroudsburg, PA:

* **From Newark Airport**
  Take the shuttle bus to New York's Port Authority Bus Terminal and transfer to Martz Trailways Bus (Adirondack Trailways ticket counter) to Stroudsburg. (Shuttles run approximately every 15 minutes and cost about $6.00. Bus fare to Stroudsburg is approximately $15 one way.)

* **From LaGuardia or Kennedy Airports (New York City)**
  Travel into Manhattan to Port Authority Bus Terminal (8th Ave. & 41st St.) and come to Stroudsburg as indicated above.

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Information to Note

Fill out the registration form found inside the back cover of this booklet. Include your full name, address, and both daytime and evening telephone numbers. To help us plan housing, please indicate whether you are male or female. If you wish to room with a particular person, list that person's name where indicated. All rooms are double occupancy. Mail the completed form to us along with the registration deposit required for your event.

Fees for Kirkridge events are calculated according to current room and board rates, length of event, anticipated group size, leadership, office, and advertising costs. Any amount you choose to give beyond the full cost of an event is tax deductible and will be used as scholarship assistance for someone who cannot afford the full cost.

Scholarships

Cancellations

Please Remember

- No pets allowed.

- Bring whatever provisions you will need. We are located 5 miles from the nearest town or store and have no vending machines.

Funding

Our annual budget is funded by fees and contributions. Gifts large or small, one-time or repeated, are tax exempt and welcomed any time. The *Kirkridge Nelson Endowment Fund* welcomes gifts of cash and real estate, life insurance, bequests, securities, charitable trusts, and annuities. Write us for further information.

Please remember Kirkridge in your will.

Mailing List

Kirkridge asks that you make a $10 yearly contribution to help defray costs for mailing our brochures and our occasional newsletter, *The Ridgeleaf*. All those who attend Kirkridge events, or contribute to Kirkridge, are automatically placed on our list. Inactive names are removed periodically. *Please keep your address current.*

Office Hours

Please note that the Kirkridge office is open from 9-5 Monday through Friday. Call 215-588-1793. At other times, a tape will record your message.

Registration Form

Last Name: ____________________ First Name: ____________________
Address: ____________________ Zip: ____________________
City, State: ____________________ Evening Phone: ( ) ____________________
Day Phone: ( ) ____________________ Roommate request: ____________________
Female ☐ Male ☐ Name of Event: ____________________ Date of Event: ____________________

Tax-deductible gift enclosed
for scholarship assistance $ _________

Registration deposit enclosed $ _________

Registration Form