defend his views vehemently, but when a decision was made he
would execute it with ability and total discretion. His
mission was to help America to live up to its promise.

A powerful man, Tom was touchingly gentle. A seemingly
assertive personality, Tom was also strangely shy. I never
succeeded in getting him to call me anything but Mr.
Secretary, and yet I knew that I had in him a caring,
trusting, reliable friend who would always be there when
needed and yet would never obtrude himself. Nancy and I had
dinner with him at the end of January. Ravaged, he still
would not talk of his illness. What concerned him that
evening was the future of America's relations with the
Western Hemisphere. A few weeks later he called me while I
was on vacation in Mexico. He was reconsidering a point he
had argued, he said. He had not yet made up his mind about
the alternative but he wanted me to know his thinking, so

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that I would not be unduly influenced by views which he was
not longer sure he held.

Nancy and I have a short list of people with whom we
have promised ourselves we would see more as we get older
and time becomes more precious. Tom was high on the list.
It was not to be. Nancy and I will never forget our friend
who left us so much too soon and who enhanced our lives
whenever he touched them. And still in our grief we
consider ourselves fortunate that our lives were permitted
to intersect his.

Paradoxically, the very precision of Tom's presentation conveyed a deep commitment to a better world, and his extraordinary analytical skill was in the service of a great passion. Though he made not the slightest effort to ingratiate himself, I decided then and there that I would need Tom as a close advisor.

[Asked of others only what he asked of himself -]

For some months he was obliged to stay in Phnom Penh, where after the Paris Agreement, it was on the front line, and in the vortex of a domestic controversy as well. Tom flinched from neither--and the horrible genocide that followed after the fall of Phnom Penh in 1975 is the best testimony to what was at stake and for what he committed himself.

As soon as I became Secretary of State, I brought Tom to Washington as Assistant Secretary of State for Economic

and Business Affairs in the Ford Administration. There he
was again on the front line of a different kind of battle.

In the wake of Watergate, the October Mideast War and
energy shocks, a conflict was looming between a demoralized
West and a radicalized Third World. A strategy was needed
of which Tom became a principal architect--to bolster the
solidarity of the industrial democracies, to offer the
developing world a conciliatory message of cooperation, to
defuse radicalism, to isolate OPEC, to build and strengthen
institutions of global economic cooperation in a common
interest.

There were many forums where he acted indefatigably--
while he helped limit the impact of the
the International Energy Agency (IEA), the UN Conference on
Trade and Development (UNCTAD), the Organization for
Economic Cooperation and Development (OECD), and Special
Sessions of the UN General Assembly. The issues, too, were

many--the supply and price of energy and other commodities;
trade; development assistance; financial flaws.

But transcending all this the United States, in the
midst of Watergate and the energy crisis, embarked on a
typically American endeavor--to bring hope out of despair,
harmony out of chaos, conciliation out of conflict.

Tom was a bulldog. There was an epic bureaucratic
struggle between the State Department and the Treasury
Department over what U.S. policy should be. Tom was my
point man for presenting to the world a humane and
constructive vision of the future. How many times did Bill
Simon call me in a rage at the insistent behavior of my
Assistant Secretary in the interagency process that was
formulating U.S. policy. I promised to <del>relax</del> Tom in--and
then called Tom to tell him what a great job he was doing!

[Central America]

5

A tower of integrity and courage, a fount of sage advice and judgment, Tom was the best of America--confident and decent, a champion of humane values, strong and principled. Nancy and I will never forget our friend who left us so much too soon and who enhanced our lives whenever he touched them. And still, in our grief we consider ourselves fortunate that our lives were permitted to intersect his.

No
Tom fought for his principles but never for his career. He was as loyal as he was brilliant. He would defend his views vehemently, but when a decision was made he would execute it with ability and total discretion. Like the sun in a knightly order of yore, he tried to protect the weak, uplift the hopeless and help America to live up to its promise.

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I knew no better foreign service officer than Tom, few
who were his equals. I admired his public service. I shall
miss terribly his understated, unassuming, unfailing
friendship.

The Foreign Service of the United States is an
extraordinary institution. It represents a country without
a tradition of foreign policy as other nations understand
foreign policy. It serves a society oscillating between a
craving for withdrawal and a yen for missionary conversion.
It is periodically subordinated to political requirements of
incumbents.

Through it all, the Foreign Service is the repository
of continuity, the vindicator of the permanent values(?).
Its best representatives serve as the conscience of the
national interest.

There was no better Foreign Service officer than Tom.
Brilliant, resilient, tough, uncomplaining, dedicated,

patriotic, Tom was a pillar of strength for Secretaries of State and Presidents. He insisted on high standards, above all of himself, because he thought that his country mattered and was on the whole a force for good. And he expressed his convictions in his conduct, in his single-minded pursuit of his calling, not in rhetoric.

I met Tom in October 1972, never having known of his existence before. As the war in Vietnam was drawing to a close, at a moment suspended between hope and premonition, I tried to determine whether and above all how Cambodia could survive. Tom made a brilliant and incisive presentation which moved me above all, because, transcending the slogans of that self-righteous period, it was permeated with a deep compassion and concern for the people who, in reliance on America's word, had thrown in their lot with us. He talked of reconstruction, not arms; of civil society not civil war.

For some months he was obliged to stay in Phnom Penh. For after the Paris Agreement, it was on the front line, and in the vortex of a domestic controversy as well. Tom flinched from neither--and the horrible genocide that ensued after the fall of Phnom Penh in 1975 is the best testimony to what was at stake.

There were many forums where he acted indefatigably--
the International Energy Agency (IEA), the UN Conference on
Trade and Development (UNCTAD), the Organization for
Economic Cooperation and Development (OECD), and Special
Sessions of the UN General Assembly. The issues, too, were

4

Tom was a bulldog. There was an epic bureaucratic
struggle between the State Department and the Treasury
Department over what U.S. policy should be. Tom was my
point man for presenting to the world a humane and
constructive vision of the future. How many times did Bill
Simon call me in a rage at the insistent behavior of my
Assistant Secretary in the interagency process that was
formulating U.S. policy. I promised to reign Tom in--and
then called Tom to tell him what a great job he was doing!

[Central America -]

5

A tower of integrity and courage, a fount of sage advice and judgment, Tom was the best of America--confident and decent, a champion of humane values, strong and principled. Nancy and I will never forget our friend who left us so much too soon and who enhanced our lives whenever he touched them. In our grief we consider ourselves fortunate that our lives were permitted to intersect his.

Tom fought for his principles but never for his career. He was as loyal as he was brilliant. He would defend his views vehemently, but when a decision was made he would execute it with ability and total discretion. Like the knightly order of yore, he tried to protect the weak, uplift the hopeless and help America to live up to its promise.

6

Last conversation - heartwrenching

Nancy and I have a short list of people with whom we
have promised ourselves we would spend more of our time as
we get older. Tom was high on the list. It was not to be.

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conflict was looming between a demoralized West and a radicalized Third World. Into this breach we stepped with a strategy of which Tom was a principal architect -- to bolster the solidarity of the industrial democracies, to offer the developing world a conciliatory message of cooperation, to defuse radicalism, to isolate OPEC, to build and strengthen institutions of global economic cooperation in a common interest.

where he acted indefinitely

-- There were many forums -- the International Energy Agency (IEA), the UN Conference on Trade and Development (UNCTAD), the Organization for Economic Cooperation and Development (OECD), and Special Sessions of the UN General Assembly. The issues, too, were many -- the supply and price of energy and other commodities; trade; development assistance, financial flows

happening all the time, in addition to

But at bottom the United States, demoralized as it was by not only the energy crisis but Vietnam and Watergate, was embarked on a typically American endeavor -- to bring hope out of despair, harmony out of chaos, conciliation out of conflict.

Tom was a bulldog. There was an epic bureaucratic struggle between the State Department and the Treasury Department over what U.S. policy should be. Tom was my point man. How many times did Bill Simon call me in a rage at the aggressive behavior of my Assistant Secretary in the interagency process that was formulating U.S. policy. Of course, I disclaimed responsibility -- and then called Tom to tell him

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Thomas Ostrom Enders

1931 — 1996

*Funeral Mass*

MARCH 20, 1996

CHURCH OF ST. VINCENT FERRER
New York

THE MOST REVEREND RENATO MARTINO,
Apostolic Nuncio - Permanent Observer of the Holy See
to the United Nations,
Presiding

THE MOST REVEREND JOSEPH AURELE PLOURDE, O.P.,
Archbishop Emeritus of Ottawa,
In attendance

FATHER BONIFACE RAMSEY, O.P.,
Pastor of the Church of St. Vincent Ferrer,
Officiating

DR. MARK BANI, Organist

# THE ORDER OF MASS
## INTRODUCTORY RITES

*Choral Prelude* .................... "Beim Schlafengehen", Die Letzen Lieder,
Richard Strauss

*(Tr.)* *Time To Sleep*

Now the day has wearied me,
all my gain and all my longing,
like a heavy child's, shall be night
whose many stars are thronging.

Hands, now leave your work alone;
brow, forget your idle thinking,
all my thoughts, their labor done,
softly into sleep are sinking.

High the soul will rise in flight,
freely gliding, softly swaying,
in the magic realm of night,
deeper laws of life obeying.

### Reception of the Body

Entrance Song (All) .................... "Abide with Me", H.F. Lyte

Abide with me; fast falls the eventide:
the darkness deepens; Lord, with me abide!
When other helpers fail, and comforts flee,
help of the helpless, O abide with me.

Swift to its close ebbs out life's little day;
earth's joys grow dim, its glories pass away;
change and decay in all around I see;
O thou who changest not, abide with me.

I need thy presence every passing hour;
what but thy grace can foil the tempter's power?
Who like thyself my guide and stay can be?
Through cloud and sunshine, O abide with me.

I fear no foe with thee at hand to bless;
ills have no weight, and tears no bitterness.
Where is death's sting? Where, grave, thy victory?
I triumph still, if thou abide with me.

He who wins the victory shall inherit these gifts;
I will be his God and he shall be my son."

The Word of the Lord.

**People:** Thanks be to God.

## Gospel Acclamation

**Cantor:** Happy are those who have died in the Lord;
let them rest from their labors,
for their good deeds go with them.

Gospel ... John 14, 1-6, by Father Ramsey

**Priest:** The Lord be with you.

**People:** And also with you.

**Priest:** A reading from the holy gospel according to John.

**People:** Glory to you, Lord.

**Priest:** Jesus said to his disciples:
"Do not let your hearts be troubled.
Have faith in God and faith in me.

In my Father's house there are many dwelling places;
otherwise, how could I have told you
that I was going to prepare a place for you?
I am indeed going to prepare a place for you,
and then I shall come back to take you with me,
that where I am you also may be. You know the way that
leads where I go."

"Lord," said Thomas, "we do not know where you are going.
How can we know the way?"

Jesus told him:
"I am the way, and the truth, and the life;
no one comes to the Father but through me."

The gospel of the Lord.

**People:** Praise to you, Lord Jesus Christ.

Homily ... by Father Ramsey

## Prayer of the Faithful

Response to each petition: Lord, hear our prayer.

Sanctus

**All:** Holy, holy, holy Lord, God of power and might, heaven and earth are full of your glory.
Hosanna in the highest.
Blessed is he who comes in the name of the Lord.
Hosanna in the highest.

Eucharistic Acclamation

Great Amen

COMMUNION RITE

Lord's Prayer

**All:** Our Father, who art in heaven,
hallowed be thy name;
thy kingdom come;
thy will be done on earth as it is in heaven.
Give us this day our daily bread;
and forgive us our trespasses
as we forgive those who trespass against us;
and lead us not into temptation,
but deliver us from evil.

**Priest:** Deliver us, Lord, from every evil, and grant us peace in our day. In your mercy keep us free from sin and protect us from all anxiety as we wait in joyful hope for the coming of our Saviour, Jesus Christ.

**People:** For the kingdom, the power, and the glory are yours, now and for ever.

Sign of Peace

**Priest:** Lord Jesus Christ, you said to your apostles: I leave you peace, my peace I give you. Look not on our sins, but on the faith of your Church, and grant us the peace and unity of your kingdom where you live for ever and ever.

**All:** Amen.

**Priest:** The peace of the Lord be with you always.

**Priest:** Let us offer each other the sign of peace.

Thy grief and bitter passion
were all for sinners' gain;
mine, mine was the transgression,
but thine the deadly pain.
O agony and dying,
O love to sinners free;
Jesu, all grace supplying,
turn thou thy face on me!

My days are few, O fail not,
with thine immortal power,
to hold me that I quail not
in death's most fearful hour;
that I may fight befriended,
and see in my last strife
to me thine arms extended
upon the Cross of life.

*Placement of the Flag by Gaetana Enders*

*Appreciation of Tom by Friends and Family*

Ambassador Amalia Lacroze de Fortabat

Dr. Henry Kissinger

Mr. David Rockefeller

Mr. Deryck Maughan

Domitilla, Alice, Claire and Thomas Ostrom Enders

*Prayer after Communion*

**Priest:** Let us pray....

**People:** Amen.

## CONCLUDING RITE

*Closing Prayers by Archbishop Martino*

*National Anthem (All). . . "The Star Spangled Banner", Francis Scott Key*

Oh, say can you see, by the dawn's early light,
what so proudly we hailed at the twilight's last gleaming?
Whose broad stripes and bright stars, through
the perilous fight,
o'er the ramparts we watched, were so gallantly streaming?