Prompt:
Some context: My and my bf are in high school and the girls he’s dated before me have straight hair, I’ve had curly hair my whole life and take after my mom, but she always straightens hers and once I got to 9th grade I used to always straighten mine too because I never really knew how to handle it. A couple months ago though I decided to just let it be natural. I wash/comb it thoroughly it every 3 days, but sometimes it can still get messy and frizzy.

The issue is that I started dating my bf 6 months ago and he never knew that my hair was naturally curly, so once I stopped straightening it he was surprised and asked why I never told him. Now when we’re videocalling he sometimes makes jokes about it being frizzy and “oh is there a bird hiding in it” Eventually I got annoyed and told him to stop. He complained that I deceived him by straightening my hair and not telling him it was actually curly.

I got really mad and told him he was being ridiculous. AITA? ######

Response: NTA. The real world is going to hit him hard when he finds out about hair dyes, lipstick, and eyeshadow. ######


Prompt:
Loaned niece $1000 for her wedding expenses a few years ago; my sister asked for the loan on her behalf because she was too proud/shy... but when I said yes niece thanked me profusely. Niece has never paid any of it back, but sister paid just over half of it for her until I said STOP because it's not her debt (my sister barely makes ends meet).
FFWD to now; no family get togethers lately due to COVID, so no bday gift (usually a card with around $100) for niece back in March. After recently dropping off a gift at sister's for another family member, niece tells her mother "Oh, well, Uncle didn't get me anything for my bday".
I admit that I still think about the money owed -not hurting for it, but just the principle of the thing and that I feel taken for granted ...miffed that not even an attempt has been made by her to pay ANY of it back. So I was thinking 'fuck it' and would skip her $ present this year (maybe she would subtly get why, perhaps?). I'm pretty annoyed that she would bring it up to her mother like that; she is 25 years old now! However, in the interest of not causing a rift with my sister (or possibly the rest of the family), I am debating giving her belated birthday $ at the next family function... thoughts? ######

Response: NTA. The principle is the important thing, but also you should let her know that. Shes an adult, and if she can get married, she can pay back loans. ######


Prompt:
So I'm actually torn about this one. I've been dating Mae for two years, and I'm very close to proposing. She's just amazing but blended families always suck. I have a 10 year old daughter and an 8 year old son who she really makes an effort with. My son is much more receptive then my daughter. She was more effected by the divorce and both kids have been in therapy for it. I'd say for the most part my son likes Mae though he has moments of getting upset that she isn't his mom. She doesn't try to parent them, but he still lashes out sometimes and my daughter doesn't like her very much.

Anyway she put some body lotion on before bed and I guess the kids put itching powder in it. They didn't do the best job because I found the empty packet in the trash. Now it's not the end of the world. I have a little bit of an issue because I don't think it was completely done out of fun, but I asked her how she felt and what she wanted me to do. She was pretty understanding and didn't want me to punish them, but she said we should prank them back so I switched out the sunscreen and the lotion and let the kids use it the next day.

We laughed at them a little, but we weren't assholes about it. I explained that they don't get to be mad because they did the same thing to her. My son apologized. My daughter didn't, but since we pranked them back I didn't push it. Anyway I got an irate call from my ex after they went home and she said my daughter was crying and that we are "bullying" the kids. So AITA? ######

Response: NTA. The prank was not malicious and you simply did the same to them as they did to Mae, so if your ex wants to call it bullying then she needs to speak to the kids about how they started the bullying. Honestly, I think this teaches a better lesson than punishment would- it was harmless regardless if the kids were trying to be mean or not. If you were to punish them, I’d worry they wouldn’t feel comfortable doing silly, harmless pranks in the future out of fear of punishment. Every household should be able to have fun, they just need to know when something becomes too much or disrespectful. You should still have a talk with them to ensure they understand the difference between a prank and straight up bullying. ######


Prompt:
My dad let me borrow his power washer to get my driveway and deck cleaned off. While I was in the middle of spraying my driveway, the guy across the street walked over and asked if he could use it to do his back deck/shed. I have never spoken to him or his family, he’s never even waved or acknowledged me when we’re both outside. I politely just said it wasn’t mine so I wasn’t comfortable and I would be returning it to the person I was borrowing it from when I was done (which is all true).

The neighbor directly next to me came over to me later in the day and told me it was kinda rude (he was bitching to her I guess?) and that I should’ve just let him use it. Maybe irrelevant but I am F (24) and he was well into his 50s. And again, never even spoken to him before! Did I overreact? AITA? ######

Response: NTA. The power washer wasn’t yours to loan so you were simply being courteous to your father by not loaning it out to your neighbour. You were perfectly polite in explaining that, it isn’t your fault that your neighbour decided to be a jerk. You’re good, OP. ######


Prompt:
So my younger sister (19) got engaged to her boyfriend on February 20th. This came as a shock to my whole family because they were only dating about two weeks. That event alone caused a lot of drama and my sister was very upset about the lack of support and excitement. I tried being there for her and gave her a gentle nudge to maybe have a long engagement. Now just last week my (24f) boyfriend (25m) of three years proposed. We waited until last night to tell all of our family members over FaceTime and oh man did shit hit the fan. My sister was livid and accused me of trying to take the spotlight away from her. She claimed her boyfriend obviously loved her more since he proposed before mine and that I was just jealous. She was also pissed at my family for being more supportive of my engagement and was posting all over social media about having toxic family. I guess I didn’t really think about how close our announcements were so I can kind of see her point but I wasn’t thinking how she thinks I was. My fiancé and I have been talking about marriage for a year now and apparently he’s had the ring for months.

AITA? Or maybe just insensitive? ######

Response: NTA. The period between their engagement and yours was significantly longer than her entire pre-engagement relationship. ######


Prompt:
AITA for removing the tip until my things are delivered and then tipping the deliverer?

So, I need a lot of things delivered to me as I can't go out due to chemo and the fact that I'm currently immunocompromised has me needing a lot of things that I pay to have delivered. What I do to get my things delivered faster is add a large tip ($50.00+, I can afford it) and then it's snatched up and I get my things quicker.

Once I have the person who will deliver my things, I change the tip to $0.00, and wait until they arrive and tip them the same amount in cash. The delivery services I use take between 5 and 15% of the tip and I'm not tipping the company, I'm tipping the person who's taken time out of their day to bring me things. I've never stiffed someone, I just prefer to know that the full amount I want to tip them ends up in their pocket and I don't trust the government. I did waitressing and I never got the full tip and I know people are hurting.

I mentioned it to a friend and she got angry and said that I was scamming the company and misleading my delivery people but the way I see it is that the company charges me extra for my groceries and takes a delivery fee from me, then they want to charge the deliverer. I know for a fact from all of my delivery people that they're not charged if they don't get a tip so why should I pay the company an additional amount?

Obviously I'll change if the company policy charges but until then, they're not taking any more from me and paying their drivers scraps. I also believe that cash is better so that's what I do.

AITA for removing the tip until my things are delivered and then tipping the deliverer? ######

Response: NTA. The only way you'd be the A is if you didn't tip at all or tipped substantially lower. Honestly I just always leave tip blank and tip in cash at the end, and have never had a shopper take too long or mess things up. I read an article yesterday that many people are doing the big tip in app thing then totally stiffing the shoppers, which is repugnant. I know you're not doing that - so good on you! ######


Prompt:
I know the title sounds absolutely ridiculous and to be honest the situation is actually ridiculous so I’ll try my best to explain.

Me, my sister and her boyfriend are currently renting a house together, we all do our part and we all equally pay the rent.

The house we are renting has a fucking massive backyard.

Well one day, I was sat in the yard drinking my coffee when I had an epiphany.

I want to order a bouncy castle for my 21st birthday in a couple days time.

Yes I’ll be 21 and yes it is incredibly childish of me but god dammit we’re in quarantine and I want to do nothing more than get drunk hop on a bouncy castle and jump to my hearts content.

I am a massive fucking child I know.

I told my sister about the idea and she’s completely against the idea. She told me that it’s  immature and the only person who will get enjoyment out of my birthday will be me and that her and her boyfriend won’t enjoy it

I know for a fact that her boyfriend would love it and she’s a god dam liar.

But every time I look into the garden, all I see is the potential it has to have a wicked bouncy castle in it. My sister also claims that I’ll be embarrassing myself to the neighbours when they look out the window and see a 21 year old girl having the time of her life on a bouncy castle.

Money also isn’t an issue either and we are all thankful to have jobs and I do have the money to spare.

So, will I be the asshole if I go ahead and live my bouncy castle dreams? ######

Response: NTA. The only person who will get enjoyment out of it? Uh. It’s your birthday. Enjoy the hell out your bouncy house! ######


Prompt:
Ok so I am neither the parent nor the son in this story. This happened between my father and my brother and it’s kind of split the family. It happened a few months ago but still gets brought up so I was hoping to get Reddit’s take on the situation. For the sake of making it easier to read I’ll be writing from my dad’s perspective.
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So I (57M) recently discovered my younger son (24M) has been hiding a snake in his bedroom. My two sons (24M and 27M) both live with my wife and I rent-free in our home. All I ask from them is that they help with household chores and respect me and their mom.
My younger son has wanted a snake ever since he was 6. In that time my sons have had a myriad of pets. Over the 20-some years we have been in this house we’ve had dogs, cats, a turtle, countless fish, and frogs.
The only animal I’ve ever said no to is a snake. I don’t like them. I don’t like how big they get and how potentially dangerous they could be to our other pets if my son isn’t careful — and he has a history of not being careful. My father in law at one point considered letting my son get a snake to keep at their house. Fine, so long as it isn’t in my house.

One day while putting mail in my son’s bedroom I noticed that there was a weird glow coming from the corner. I went to look at it and found that he had an aquarium set up with a ball python.
I had words with my son and within a few hours he had sold it to someone who apparently has a lot of snakes that she raises.

My son was very upset to give up his snake. His girlfriend still won’t talk to me and I think even my wife has doubts about whether we did the right thing. I stand firm that I did what was right. I told him no snakes and he went and got a snake and then tried to hide it from me.
So reddit, AITA? ######

Response:
 NTA. The only animal you've ever said no to is a snake so he goes and gets one and hides it from you?

That's so disrespectful. ######


Prompt:
I (23F) got laid off from my job as of yesterday. Without giving out too much information I was a health care recruiter living in a major city where everything has been hit pretty hard. Naturally, we expected there to be layoffs.

Unfortunately out of about 35-40 people in my company I was considered apart of those layoffs as of 6 PM yesterday. I was upset, as most could imagine because I no longer had an income or a job that I loved.

I intended to go through all my candidates / clients today and transfer them over to a new recruiter, “Mary”(23F), so that they weren’t left without a point of contact and so that they knew what was going on.

Before I had a chance to contact my candidates Mary reached out to them to let them know “ I’d been promoted “ so therefore she’d be “taking over as their recruiter from here on out”. I proceeded to receive over 20 text messages congratulating me on my promotion and wishing me the best.

I had no idea she had done this until the end of day today when Mary said it’d just be an “easier transition” if people thought I was promoted. I told her it was was an asshole move because after getting laid off extremely out of the blue in unprecedented times I had everyone working for me “congratulating” me on my promotion.

My parents think she was just being cautious of my best interests but I’m still really hurt, so AITA ? ######

Response: NTA. The move added insult to injury. Her intentions may have been innocent, but she should have thought about the ramifications of going that route and telling people you had been promoted. ######


Prompt:
So it was my birthday on Friday and my mom gave me £50 because she didn’t know what to get me. So I spent it on clippers, toothbrush, new joggers, vitamin tablets and pumice stones to help get rid of dead skin due to me recently taking up jogging.

So when all my stuff arrived my mom went ape shit. She said “why don’t you buy some clothes instead of wearing the usual stuff you wear. You always look like a tramp.” (Consider were on lockdown and I’m lounging about the house in river island/top man clothes.) she said the clothes that I wear are crap (material often 100% cotton) and trampy. She heavily suggested I go on stores like Nike, Adidas etc where two shirts cost almost £50+ overall.

So I said “no, you gave me money to buy what I wanted for my birthday and I’ve done exactly that. I don’t care about your opinion on my clothes because you never fucking like what I buy anyways so either way I’m fucked.” Then she got even more upset at me. Like, I buy clothes from places where you can often get a pack of 4 t-shirts for £20. She expect me to get TWO FOR £50!!

Am I the asshole for not spending my birthday money as my mom intended? ######

Response: NTA. The money was a gift, and you deserve to spend it however you want. And honestly, you got a lot of practical items that will help your life out. I'm sorry your mom reacted like that, but you seem to be a lot more financially responsible than her. ######


Prompt: My siblings and I all have different fathers.  One is older than me by 4 years and the other is an infant.  I am 20.  My maternal grandmother whom I have never met according to the attorneys felt bad about the way my dad denied me b/c I was a product of an extramarital affair. My fiance who comes from a heap load of money told me not to tell anyone that I have money. I didn't listen I told a friend who told my brother and now he thinks he should have some. I told him no b/c what makes him think he deserves it we are no close never have been and have been estranged for the last 3 years not having spoken maybe once or twice and the last time I saw him he called me a whore b/c my fiance much comes from a well to do family.  Now my mom is saying I owe her for raising me.  I told them both to kiss-off. My mother b/c she wouldn't even buy me things like a winter coat in h.s. (I wore the same ill-fitting one from middle school while she and my brother (the GC) had all the latest everything)til I could get a job and buy my own.  I told my brother he has no claim to the money b/c we don't even have the same father.  He says he thinks it's only fair that I share, I told him if the shoe were on the other foot he would not share.  He said so what, that the amount I got could go around a few times over.  I said my grandmother gave it to me, and I'm saving it for myself and my future children.  My fiance and his family say I'm doing the right thing, AITA? ######

Response:
 NTA. The money is yours, and you don't have to give money to people just because they think they deserve it. But your fiance was right, you never should have told anyone you had it!

Editing to add don't argue with anyone about this, just refuse to discuss it with them. Finances are personal. ######


Prompt:
I've always hated my name because it's really uncommon and my teachers and even some of my friends pronounce it incorrectly (even after several corrections). I eventually got sick of it and researched legal name changes and the procedures and decided to save up for a name change after asking my mum and dad (to which they answered yes).

Last week I told my parents that I'd saved up $300 from chores and my birthday money. I told them that it's more than enough for the name change with post, handling etc. and they told me how proud they were about me being able to handle money like that.

Beginning of this week, I gathered up almost all the ID that I needed and put it in a folder. I couldn't find the envelope with my money so I started asking my parents and they told me they hadn't seen it. I looked all around the house and couldn't find the money. The entire time, my parents just sat there watching me and didn't help look for it when I asked. In the end I just gave up and thought it would turn up some time or another.

This morning my parents took me aside and told me that they needed to tell me something. They said that we'd be going to a ski resort in a few week's time, and that they'd used my money to pay for some of it because "we all need to do our bit because we're a bit tight on money right now". I was furious. I started shouting at them for taking my savings without telling me and using it for something that we didn't even need. They argued that I'm an ungrateful bitch for wanting to change my name that they'd chosen for their little girl and that I'd grown up with it and never complained until now. I left the room and took a walk, during which my parents proceeded to text all our relatives and friends about the incident.

I came back to find my phone blowing up with 200+ messages from my aunts and uncles telling me I should apologise for being so petty and thankless. I have no idea what to do and I haven't talked to my parents since then. So reddit, AITA? ######

Response: NTA. The issue isn’t your name, they knew about that already so that doesn’t excuse them, the issue here is stealing your money. At the end of the day, that’s your savings and taking it for anything you’re not ok with is just wrong. ######


Prompt: I (F 20) just moved in with my boyfriend due to some unstable conditions at home about a month ago. Due to Quarantine, I do my 9-6 job from home. My boyfriend (22) is unemployed and finishing his degree from home. Now when he has class, I do not bother him in the slightest. I stay quiet and respect him. I work so I can support him until he can get a stable job. Recently he’s been done his school work around 12 and has nothing to do so he plays video games until I get off work at 6. I have to work in the same room as him due to the house set up and where my desk is. There is no way around this. I would not care if he was playing video games if he wasn’t screaming and taking to his friends loudly during the game play. I make a lot of phone calls to important clients and I cannot trust him to stay quiet and keep a professional environment in the background. I have asked him multiple times to stay quiet and he just does not. I asked him to do anything besides play video games, like even watch a show or get some house/yard work done. He refuses to and says he should be able to spend his time how he wants. He acts like a child. WIBTA if I put my foot down and demand respect? ######

Response: NTA. The issue isn't that he's playing games, it's the way he disrupts your day while playing. Can you afford to move out on your own, since you're apparently paying his rent? If there's a credible threat of you bouncing and him being stuck unable to pay the bills, maybe he'll take you seriously. ######


Prompt:
My nephew is staying with me for the summer.  My brother is a single parent and I have the summer off work so to help my nephew is staying with me just for the convince and so the 13 year old isn't alone all summer.
My nephew has his own cell phone and I thought the Dad still had it locked at night. So my surprise I caught my nephew on his phone at 1 a.m.  Told him smarten up and go to bed.  Texted his dad just to figure out what is going on.  His dad told me to take the phone away and look threw it.  I am not a parent so I was a bit uncomfortable.
Well I found out my nephew was on discord talking to significantly older people.  There were several inappropriate interactions.   The person he kept messaging tried to voice chat 5 times the frist night I had the phone.
Now my nephew is now pissed cause he banned from discord and his phone.  Saying I had no right to go threw it.
AITA for going threw his phone and enacting the ban. ######

Response:
 NTA. The internet of 2020 is a scary place for a 13 y/o to be. ESPECIALLY discord. There are many predators who use discord to prey on younger kids. It was good you banned him from discord since 1) someone older than him is contacting him and obsessively calling him and 2) you can stop anything harmful that may happen to him. As someone who’s been manipulated by older people on the internet when I was younger, I wish someone banned me from an app older people were contacting me on. There is no reason someone significantly older should be close to a 13 y/o (well expect like close family but you get the idea).

Talk with your brother about his kid’s internet history and send him photos of what the convos are and who he is in contact with so he can be wary. Hope this situation goes well! Much love xx ######


Prompt:
Yesterday my husband told me that he wasn’t feeling that great, his head hurt and his stomach was bothering him. I told him that’s fine, I’d handle the kids, he could rest. But the issue became that he chose to rest on the couch, in the living room. We don’t have a huge house. Our living room is where most of our kids’ toys are, their books, activities, etc. Our kitchen and living room are also open concept so you can see into one another. Keeping the kids cooped up in their rooms all day wasn’t easy so my husband could rest without being disturbed (and he did ask me to make sure they didn’t). But I did it, because it’s one day.

Then this morning, I got up and went into the living room. He was already on the couch and watching TV. I asked how he was feeling and he said not much better, he was debating a doctor’s appointment for Monday. I said that’s fine but if he was going to spend another day laying down, it had to be in our room. We have a TV in there (albeit smaller), and it’s just easier for me to have more room for the kids to run around. He said that he was the sick one, why should he have to be in his room? I said for just that reason, if you’re sick, you should be in bed. I told him I’d still care for him in our room, but for our kids’ sakes, this was easier. He got mad at me, but went back to bed.

All throughout the day I got comments about how loud the kids were being and that he was trying to rest, and this is why he wanted them in their rooms. I tried to keep them as quiet as possible but they’re between the ages of 2-5. It’s not easy on top of everything else I had to do today (like clean the house, cook,etc.) When I dropped off his dinner, he told me I made him feel worse.

Am I an asshole for what I did today? ######

Response: NTA. The identity of the actual two year-old is up for grabs here. ######


Prompt: So last year I moved in to a new apartment with two friends. I was the one who provided most of the essentials such a washing machine, tv and (most importantly to the story) a small fridge that wasn't made for 3 person but that we managed to get by with. Shortly after I realized that I had a different lifestyle than one of my friend and so she decided to move out (I however have 0 problem with my other friend). When she left, she found a guy on a facebook page that was looking for a place to stay and since things were going really fast and I was caught up with school I accepted to let him. So things go by and I don't really like the guy, but I have no specific reason to besides the fact that I'm not too comfortable with living with a complete stranger. He's always using my TV and Switch when I'm not on them and while it's not an offence or anything, it just really gets on my nerves. After a while of him living here, he found a bigger fridge from someone at his work and brought it to the apartment, at the time I thought I'd sell my fridge, but decided to keep it in case I wanna move out so I kept in an open corner of the kitchen. Flash forward to a month ago from right now, I wake up, go to the kitchen an see that my small fridge is missing, after asking around I learn that the guy sold it without even telling me! So I get really angry, confront him about it saying that he shouldn't have done it and he instead replies that I'm in the wrong and that I shouldn't accuse him (he's basically saying that since he cleans more than me and since he brought the bigger fridge he was entitled to it.) I finally got him to pay me back, but things have been really cold between us since and the mood in the apartment changed drasticly (especially with the lockdown!) Since he's not on the papers for the apartment, I decided to tell him to move out cause I don't wanna live with him anymore and I gave him a 2 months time to find a new place to move to. Am I the asshole here? ######

Response: NTA. The guy literally sold your fridge! You gave him two months to leave and his name isn't even on the papers for the apartment, so it's perfectly reasonable. ######


Prompt:
I’m (22F USA) quite embarrassed of this situation and need help finding if I’m the asshole.

I quit my full-time job about a week ago because I am pursuing my bachelors degree and cannot balance my  homework while also working more than 40 hours a week. The financial situation this has caused makes it so I can no longer afford groceries. My boyfriend also lives with me and he is being generous and still makes about 1,500 a month which almost covers everything so we are using my savings so we can keep our car and a roof over our head.

In a desperate need to get food, I started going to my local food bank. I told my dad over the phone and he called me an asshole claiming that if I was less lazy and did not quit my job I wouldn’t be stealing from the poor. Keep in mind my father works for a large corporation making hundreds of thousands a year and does not help me financially in any way since I was 18.

I am starting to feel like TA after that phone call, but my boyfriend keeps telling me he’s an ass. Reddit, AITA? ######

Response:
 NTA. The food bank is there for people who can't afford food, and that's you. you're not stealing from the poor. i worked full time while i put myself through college and it was not sustainable; you made the right decision to prioritize school.

once you're back on your feet again you can donate to the food bank to return the favor :)

 it sounds like your dad has some weird shame around you accessing the food bank but that's his issue, not yours. ######


Prompt:
AITA For Yelling at a Trans Coworker?

I (22F) have been working at a clinic with Samantha (25F) for the past few months. Recently, Samantha came out to me as a Trans woman (male to female for anyone unaware), and has been super close to me ever since. I don’t have any problems being friends with her, and can understand some of her struggles, but her being Trans isn’t what bothers me. What bothers me is that, ever since she came out to me, she’s gotten very touchy.

I was diagnosed with Asperger’s Syndrome as a child. Because of that, I have an aversion to touch. Unless I trust and know you, I don’t want your physical affection. To me, being touched by people is the equivalent to having bugs crawl up your arms. Sometimes, it makes me want to vomit. **I. Don’t. Like. Being. Touched.**

That being said, what Samantha does isn’t exactly bad. She’ll play with my hair, rest her head on top of mine, and just touches me around the head/face area. I guess these are normal behaviors between girls, but it still makes me uncomfortable. I’ve told her several times to stop and that I don’t like it. She just keeps touching me.

Today, she was playing with my ponytail without my permission (again), and I initially told her to stop, to which she replied jokingly, “What are you going to do about it?” I got so mad, I ended up shouting, “Stop touching me, or I’m going to have a fucking panic attack!” She looked really hurt and dejected after I yelled at her, and just left without saying anything.

I know the only reason she feels so comfortable with me is because she knows I’m also LGBT, the only other coworker that is, on top of being the only other female that works there, and that may make her feel safe or give her a sense of belonging. Or maybe other girls were fine with this in the past or it seems like normal social behavior. I don’t know. I just hate being touched.

TL:dr: I snapped at a Trans Coworker for touching my hair, and her feelings got hurt. AITA? ######

Response: NTA. The fact that she is trans is irrelevant. She did not respect your clearly and repeatedly stated personal boundaries. ######


Prompt:
So I dated a YouTuber.

We went out for about a year and it was alright but they were so emotionally invested in their channel that they constantly neglected me and made me feel like I wasn't a priority.

Not really important why we broke up, but we broke up.

Then I get a bunch of messages from friends about 3 months later telling me to go to their channel. I'm pretty much done with them but I do and I realise they made a video about me where they claim I was emotionally abusive.

I continued to get messages from strangers telling me how awful a person I was and how they hoped I died through various means.

So I sued my ex.

It ruined them. I knew they were financially in a bad spot and they likely couldn't afford court fees but the case dragged.

They made a video about not being able to afford court costs and such and how it was going to ruin them.

After which a bunch of friends started telling me to just let it go and move on but I had sunk money into the case as well. It wasn't cheap for me either so I didn't just let it go.

Eventually the judge ruled in my favor and I received a total of nothing from my ex......

But it meant I could link to the result in the comments section of every video she tried to frame me as the bad guy because in our state, court proceedings are public record.

Suddenly her viewership dropped and she blamed me for ruining her life.

A bunch of my friends said I went too far and should've just taken the court win and left her alone.

Was I the asshole? ######

Response: NTA. The ex shouldn't be using a private relationship for youtube views, and deserves everything they got. ######


Prompt:
Still using this account to ask advice I don't want my primary account to see.

I have a cousin who is a very 'pull yourself up by your bootstraps' and 'gumption' kind of guy (despite the fact his parents are well off and he currently works at my uncle's company).

Well my cousin was ranting and raving on facebook about all the people filing for unemployment right now and how they're all just 'welfare queens' trying to game the system. Well I know he received a stimulus check and immediately spent it on a 4X4 because he posted pictures after he did it.

So I responded to his Facebook post by asking when he would be returning his government hand out as he obviously didn't need it. Well my Aunt didn't like that so I was immediately called and told to remove my comment and when I told her no she yelled at me.

Idk times are weird and I'm growing to give less of a flying F**k what do you think AITA? Did I go too far in calling out my cousin? ######

Response: NTA. The dude can delete comments on his own Facebook post. The aunt might be a bigger AH even than him; that’s absolutely ridiculous, especially given he can just delete the comment if he thinks it’s so bad. ######


Prompt:
Even though I live in a wealthy neighbourhood, people seem to not want to bother putting up fences for their dogs or even if they do put their dogs in the front Yard without being leashed to anything.
Usually it’s not that big of a problem but, today it was.

As I was walking my dog, another dog ran out of it yard and came towards us. He wasn’t barking or anything, I think he just wanted to say hello but, I’m very cautious of other dogs and I just kept walking. The dog followed us past a few houses (so for at least a couple minutes), and stopped to pee, we kept walking about a minute later I heard yelling looked back. A man was running frantically at the dog, a car was coming down the way and swerved out of the way. The man (the owner) sternly yelled at the dog, was able to grab it and take it home. To be clear I was down the road by now and while I saw what happened I wasn’t close at all.

I went on with my walk and about an hour later on the way back, passed the house with the dog. As I had passed the house and was halfway passed the next house, the man that opened came out of his house and started calling after me. At first I didn’t realise he was calling after me and kept walking but when he continued to yell “hey” I tried around and said “me?”

He started going off about how it was my fault his dog was almost hit by a car. I should have caught his dog and brought it back to his house.

I countered his argument and said “actually if you had been keeping a close eye on your dog, he wouldn’t have wondered off. It’s your responsibility to watch after your dog and not mine.”

The man huffed at my argument, waved his hand at me and walked away. AITA?

To be clear a lot of the reason I didn’t bother with the dog is because I assumed the owner was close by and would call the dog back to him. Plus it wouldn’t have been easy to grab the dog and walk him back to his house as he didn’t have a leash and I had a dog if my own I was walking ######

Response: NTA. The dog is his responsibility. He should have been extremely apologetic for putting everyone involved in that situation. ######


Prompt:
Basically what it says in the title. My boyfriend made an OnlyFans a couple months ago to make a little extra money. I wasn't crazy about the idea at the time but I figured he's an adult and if he wants to get naked on the internet for money that's his prerogative.

Anyway lately he's been bugging me to subscribe, and I just don't see the point cos I already see him naked all the time plus he shows me everything he posts before he posts it to get my input already... like what's in it for me you know?

So I said all that to him and he basically said I should do it to show my support for his work and endeavors, and then he said how he comes to all my gigs (I'm a musician) to support me and I should do the same thing cos couples support each other. And I said those 2 things aren't the same and he said how exactly are they different? And to be fair to him, I couldn't think of a reason.

But Idk! I still don't really wanna pay 10 bucks a month to subscribe to his only fans. Like I just don't see what's in it for me. Now he's lowkey upset with me and I'm wondering if I'm being selfish or hypocritical for how I feel. Would love an outside perspective...

tl;dr BF wants me to subscribe to his OnlyFans to be supportive and I don't want to. ######

Response: NTA. The difference is that your boyfriend can't experience or give you feedback on your gigs without going to them, whereas you're already seeing and giving him feedback on everything he posts without having a subscription (which, by the way, is a way of showing support for his work). All having a subscription will do is give him $10 a month minus the 20% cut the site takes - it seems like it would be easy to cut out the middleman and just give your boyfriend 10 bucks if he's really that hard up for cash - and make his subscriber count go up by 1, which seems like a really stupid waste of $2 a month. ######


Prompt:
Title pretty much says it all. My friend was checking on my cats while I was on vacation (this was last year). Basically I was supposed to pay her $20/day for the week.

Then (while I was on vacation), apparently she somehow ran over the light post in my yard. It broke in half and she tore out some of the underground electrical, along with one of my most beloved plants. Thankfully I was able to save my plant. I know that sounds dumb but it took me forever to actually get this thing to thrive.

My friend offered to pay for it, so I had some electricians come out and look at it and they all recommended I use my home owners deductible to get it fixed, which is $500. I believe the cheapest contractor was $800. After she heard the estimate, she spazzed and said she couldn’t pay that. So I said I would keep the money I owed her for cat-sitting and pay the rest of the deductible. She got upset and said that wasn’t our agreement, but I don’t really want to pay her after needing to pay this deductible for something that was blatantly her fault.

AITA here? ######

Response: NTA. The damage she caused is worth more than the sum you were going to pay her. It may have been an accident, but it’s an accident you have to pay for. It’s only right that she take some responsibility. ######


Prompt:
So I work in a local bookstore, it’s pretty small so has been open over the past few weeks, with restrictions of course. With it being pride month, my manager wanted us to do a window display of gay authors and books with gay protagonists etc, with rainbow flags across it, and we’ve had a lot of praise. It’s a small town but pretty inclusive.

Yesterday morning a woman comes bounding over looking like she’s about to pop a blood vessel and practically shouts at me demanding to speak to someone. I asked her how I could help and she points to our display and says that we’re evil for putting that display up as there was children around. My coworker and I thought this was hysterical as my coworker is bisexual and this 2020, like who gives a fuck. Also want to add that none of these books are erotica or anything offensive, some of them are even children’s books.

I decided I wanted to have a little bit of fun with her so I gasped and asked how we could be so inconsiderate and asked her how we could think of the children. So I took a pile of books behind the window display that were clearly focused on same sex parents and gay relationships, and started putting them in front of the books in the front row of the store, telling her that if she wasn’t happy she could simply leave the store.

She didn’t understand what was going on for a few seconds but when she did she demanded (yet again, clearly hasn’t gotten laid in a while) that one of us go and get our manager. My coworker did and my manager diffused the situation but is now telling me that as much as he agrees with me standing up for what I believe in, the customer is always right and I shouldn’t be intentionally provoking them. He’s now considering taking down the display in case it happens again and telling me if it does happen again I’ll be let go. AITA? ######

Response: NTA. The customer ISN'T always right. You were sarcastic, sure, but not outright insulting. ######


Prompt:
So we had a cat appear around our house eating the food we put out for the jack rabbits and magpies. I noticed her and put a little extra out and over the course of four or five days, I realized that she was eating all the food as fast as possible. After a week, she let me get near and feed her all she could eat which was a truly shocking amount of food. I suspected she was young and pregnant. Got her into the house that night. Took photos and posted Found Cat ads.

Took her to the Vet next morning to check for a microchip. Cat has no ID, and no one has reported a lost cat matching her description. Vet checked her over and cat was very young, pregnant and starving. The outcome for her the kittens was grim. The Vet didn't expect her to survive the birthing process, and kittens had been starved since she became pregnant, if they survived labour they would most likely starve because the cat was too thin to produce milk.

I was offered a variety of solutions to deal with the cat including trying to find an open shelter to take her; abandoning her; hope her owners appear before labour; et cetra. I chose the final option, claim her as mine and have the termination spay done. The Sassy Princess was last spotted doing the algebraic calculation of how to spread out her tiny body to take over the largest amount of space on a queen size bed possible.

I have had several friends outraged that I took a potential owner's right to choose whether their cat has the right to have kittens away. Someone else accused me of not caring about the kittens and not wanting them and being a kitten killer. I have argued that if the owners did show up, I would return the cat if the paid the hefty vet bill. As for being a kitten killer - yep I chose one life over that of her babies because it was the life I knew I could possibly save. AITA ######

Response: NTA. The cat needed the operation to survive. She has a home and a human to love her. You did good. ######


Prompt:
My apartment complex just repaved and repainted the parking lot. They added one more parking spot to our area for our building and by doing so, the spots are much smaller.

A person who lives here and has advertisements for his $59 DUI school/drivers ed company(oh the irony), hit my fiancee's brand new Honda CRV while parking last night. He parked so close she had to use the passenger side door to get in this morning so she didn't see the damage until she got home at 5pm today. He didn't leave a note or acknowledge it at all. We took pictures of his car and our car and I had to decide what to do.

The damage is minimal, but damage nonetheless. I called my insurance and they said to get a police report. So I called the police and they came, inspected the damage, confirmed the damage matches both cars. The owner of the other vehicle came out and asked what was happening, just as I was walking back to my apartment to wait for the police to review everything. They came to my apartment and told me he denied it but still gave his insurance information.

The police told me that I need to file my own report online and enter the information he gave me. So I filed a report and a claim with my insurance. Unfortunately we both have Geico, not sure what will happen.

My fiancee said I took it too far and potentially put us in danger since he might know where we live and what car we drive. I figured it would teach this guy and potentially bring it to the complex's attention that the spaces are too close. I also called them to let them know. AITA? ######

Response:
 NTA. The car was damaged and needed repair. You were doing your due diligence to get it fixed.

As far as being in danger, I doubt it. The guy has a business and there is now a police report with his name in it. If anything happens to you guys, the police will look at him first. If he were a criminal, he would know he can’t go after you guys. He would also not do anything if he’s a decent human being. He’s obviously a liar, but it doesn’t make him a psycho. You shouldn’t worry about him unless there’s another reason to. ######


Prompt: AITA if I ask my neighbors to keep their kids from bouncing the basketball so early in the morning. They start about 6:30-7 am. I work nights as a nurse so this is the time I’m getting in bed. I’ve tried everything even earplugs,not the harming 3m ones lol, but I swear I can still hear it. Idk. Their screaming at top of lungs is another post. 😂. ######

Response: NTA. The art is in the delivery. ######


Prompt:
My best friend is getting married at the end of summer and he wants to do a haka to celebrate as a part of the ceremony. I am not Polynesian, Maori, Samoan, Tongan, Australian, Kiwi, etc, etc and my friend isn’t either. We said that if we did DNA tests and if either of us turned up anything from that area, we’d do it, but we both came up without anything there. AITA for this or am I being sensitive or too PC?

Edit: Neither bride or groom have heritage from there. ######

Response:
 NTA. Thats very strange. Why does that person want to do that?? They shouldn’t force you to do anything you’re not comfortable with.

Edit: is your friend or his wife a Maori dancer? because that’s the only real reason from what you’ve told us that they want to do this. ######


Prompt:
So this actually happened when I was 16 (I’m 20M currently), but it still makes me mad and I just want to know if I was the asshole.

I’m the oldest of 10 kids (I only lived with 8 of them the 9th was born after) and I have always looked after my siblings. The oldest 4 are 13+ and the youngest 6 are 8 and below. My family is a blended family consisting of me, two full siblings, 3 half sisters, 1 step brother, two adopted sisters, and a “step” sister.

So my stepmom routinely liked to perform whole house checks if someone pissed her off. Kind of like how you see in those prison shows when they rip the prisoners bunks apart except she did that with the whole house. Now my stepmom and I used to get along until these became a regular thing. She would constantly invade our space and then make us clean up the mess.

As a teenager I kept multiple journals diaries and notebooks. Like I could fill a medium sized duffel bag with how many I had. And instead of voicing how I felt when I was upset I would right it down. I will admit, there were nasty things in there. But kids think of nasty things in the moment when they’re mad.

I’m not sure what had originally set her off but my stepmother was livid. We were all supposed to head downstairs so she could search the upstairs. I hid my diary knowing that she would ground me until I graduated if she saw it. Of course she found it, read it, and was even more angry. So angry that she sat me down and just exploded on me. Calling me all sorts of names saying how I’m ungrateful for everything.

The thing is though, what I wrote about her was true. She didn’t parent more than one kid. Ever. I’ve been a parent since I was 11 and that didn’t stop when my dad married her. She was also super controlling the whole time I lived there. She still claims that she did nothing wrong and that’s just parenting, but I strongly disagree. We aren’t on good terms now and my dad tries to stay out of it. So reddit.    AITA? ######

Response: NTA. That’s your private diary that she has no right to go through. She also sounds nasty to be reacting like that, especially to kids who aren’t even her own and has never looked after properly. ######


Prompt: AITA if I ask my neighbors to keep their kids from bouncing the basketball so early in the morning. They start about 6:30-7 am. I work nights as a nurse so this is the time I’m getting in bed. I’ve tried everything even earplugs,not the harming 3m ones lol, but I swear I can still hear it. Idk. Their screaming at top of lungs is another post. 😂. ######

Response: NTA. That’s too damn early. ######


Prompt:
Okay so, this might be a little weird so I’ll try and explain it.

Basically, out of all of my family I am the only one who has thick curly hair.

I mother swears up and down that she never cheated on my dad (although I’m pretty sure he still doesn’t believe it)

And because of my curly hair, I can’t tell you the amount of times I’ve had people come squealing up to me going “OMG YOUR HAAAAAIR” and the proceeding to literally fist my hair and pull on my curls just to watch them bounce back up

It’s really fucking irritating. There is no need for a grown ass woman to come up to me and start feeling up my hair with no warning. It’s a little more understanding when a child does, but not a grown fucking adult.

The amount of times I’ve had to tell people to keep their hands to themselves is astonishing.

So I’m hatching a plan that the next time someone touches my hair, I’m gonna touch them right back. An eye for an eye.

If they think it’s okay to touch me without permission, then I’m just gonna assume I can do the same.

My mother says it’s not worth it and quite frankly childish. It may very well be true, but this is my personal space god dammit.

Luckily it isn’t that much of an issue as of right now, but I know damn well it’s gonna start back up again once everything has calmed down. ######

Response: NTA. That’s petty for sure but that’s the point right? It’s similar to people groping the stomachs of pregnant women without their permission. Don’t touch people unless you want to be touched back. ######


Prompt:
This is a throwaway account. Also this story happened a while ago.

My friend and I went to see a movie. Before that, we got some churros for $10, she said she'd pay for it and I can pay later when we buy something after the movie. I said ok. We shared the churros. After the movie, she wanted to get hot chocolate but I didn't want any so she can get a cup and I'll pay for it. And because just the hot chocolate by itself, it didn't add up to $10 so she added in a cookie to rake up $10, I said it was ok. I paid for the hot chocolate and the cookie.

It was pretty late at night so I'm assuming the worker must've been pretty tired because although he charged us $10, he accidentally made us two cups of hot chocolate. He gave it to us for free because it's already made and we were the only two there.

The next morning, she texted asking me to transfer the money I owe her back. I was confused because I didn't owe her anything, I paid $10. She said it was because it wasn't $10 that I paid since I also got something out of it, it made the value of her drink decreased. Even as I typed this out, I still don't understand her reasoning. I said that I paid $10 fair and square, the hot chocolate I got was just an added bonus for us. We debated back and forth about this and she said she told her mom about the story, and her mom also thinks that I should pay back. We dropped it after a while but I'm still confused. Since her mom also agreed, I don't know if she dropped it because I was being an asshole and she didn't wanna keep arguing or if it was because I was right.

AITA? ######

Response: NTA. That’s not how that works at all. You bought her $10 worth of stuff as she did for you. You getting a free one has no impact on that. ######


Prompt: So, my mum called me and asked me if I wanted to have some Sparkling/fizzy water from the supermarket. I’d have to go with her since her arm is injured and she isn’t strong enough to carry a sixpack. I told her I’m fine and I don’t need any. She said ok, and then came home from work in a fussy mood. I asked her if she’s ok and she said how she wanted fizzy water. She hardly ever drinks it. I told her that if SHE wanted some, she should have told me since I would have gone to the shop with her to get some. I go to my room, and my mum is still upset. I go to her room like an hour later and ask if everything’s ok. She says “I’m thirsty” , while theres a massive glass of water next to her. I point it out to her. She proceeds to say “it’s not the same”. I again tell her how, if SHE wanted sparkling water, she should just tell me up front “ I would also like some sparkling water” and I’d happily go to the shop with her. Now she is acting like I’m an AH. AITA? ######

Response: NTA. That’s like the childish shit my mother does. I suggested we clean the fridge since we’re home all day. She keeps putting it off all day then later at night I’m chilling in my room and hear her making noise in the kitchen (small apartment). I ask her from my room what she is doing, and she say nothing just cleaning the fridge out. I said oh do you need some help, and she tells me no. In response I told oh ok. Not ten minutes later I hear her scoff “I wish I had some help around here”. I literally offered her help and she says no, I’m not a fucking mind reader. I am not going to waste my time and energy wondering if your lying to me/ have alternative feelings to a situation that you just aren’t telling me. ######


Prompt:
I have a gluten intolerance, which I was diagnosed with last year. I get quite sick if I eat a lot of gluten. As a result of this, I tend to buy gluten free snacks out of my own pocket, as I'm the only one in the house who has this. I tend to buy gluten free bread/pittas, crackers, cakes and pasta, enough to last me a couple of weeks usually.

The problem is, if I store it in the kitchen, even if it's on my own shelf, it gets eaten by my stepmum or brothers without them asking me. A week's supply will be gone in a day. I've tried explaining that this stuff is my supply for the week and they're gluten free, please could they not be eaten. I was ignored, and the bread I'd brought was gone when I went to make lunch during my working from home break.

I bought a little mini fridge, and kept the bread, cakes and pasta in that for my use. I'm being called selfish for doing this, as they should be for all of us. I've also been told that the smell could attract rats, which seems silly since they're in a fridge. My point is that these are specific foods for my allergies, paid for out of my own pocket, and I put in money for rent and food for the family too. I consider these my own food items as I purchased them myself.

AITA? ######

Response: NTA. That’s just childish behavior and honestly it’s really weird. Not to be rude but honestly a lot of gf versions of foods tend to not be as good(although that might not be true for your fam) so why would they purposefully go after your food in the first place. You should get one of those fridge lockers lol ######


Prompt:
My ex and his wife has a Life360 group including my kids (16 and 20) and her kids. Although I pay for one of my kids' phones, they are not allowed to take Life360 off the phone.

Essentially this means he can track what they're doing when they're with me (and me, by proxy). He's made comments to them in the past about where we've gone, if I've sped or if we didn't do anything at all.

He even has my family members set up as alerts (I think this means he'd get an alert if we visited them?)

WIBTA if I told the kids to turn the stupid app off while they're with me? However, doing that would likely cause them to get flack from their father (he won't confront or talk to me about it -- if I even call to ask him nicely, he'll give them crap) and make their time with him more stressful. Do I suck it up or take a stand and start to show them that these types of apps are invasive and not "safety" based. ######

Response:
 NTA. That’s invasive as hell of your ex in a way that goes beyond “rules at your dad’s house are different” sort of way. But you need to tell your ex what you’re doing first. You’re right that he’s going to give you and the kids crap but he’s definitely going to notice if they turn it off and it’s not fair that they’re the ones who will have to bear the brunt of it when he confronts them.

You mention paying for one phone but not the other. If your finances allow it, see if you can take over payment for that one. That way he’ll have less of a leg to stand on if he insists on keeping the app. ######


Prompt: I recently saw a post on fb about a friend who made a face mask that said “I can’t breathe” and her caption said “I love making these they’re so much fun” AITA for wanting to say something? She gets upset if ppl try to copyright her for some stickers she does but she makes bootleg clothes and now “I can’t breathe” masks in all honesty I wouldn’t profit off a movement or someone’s dying words. If I were to make these I would donate them to protestors. Should I just leave it or be the asshole and say something ######

Response: NTA. that’s incredibly tacky and gross, not to mention disrespectful. ######


Prompt:
For context, I have tritanopia colorblindness and I've been bullied for it my whole life. I recently told my friend about it and the questions started pouring in - stuff like 'what color is this', 'read this', stuff like that. I have no problem with joking around about it, but they took it too far.

They kept laughing at me and belittling me because of it so I started to ignore them, yet they didn't realize how rude they were being. I called them insensitive and they responded with 'no im not' and sent a sarcastic heart. They kept messaging me and a day later I said 'I want an apology' to which they responded 'we all want things we cant get'. I told them how much of a cunt they were being and called them immature and went offline for the day.

I have been contemplating blocking them on everything because they took it a step too far.

AITA ? ######

Response: NTA. That’s awful. I have a friend who won’t apologize for anything no matter how rude or insensitive he is. Those people will never take accountability. You don’t need that person in your life, they’re not your real friend. ######


Prompt:
I really like to crochet and knit, and it's best to have specific yarn scissors. Mine are really good and I love them, it's so satisfying to snip the yarn. Because they are made specifically for yarn, if you use them on other materials, like paper, cardboard, etc, it will damage and blunt them.

Me and my two brothers (who actively ensure they know nothing of fibercrafts) were sat watching a film together. I like to crochet while watching TV as it keeps my hands occupied, while my brother prefers to fiddle with whatever's around. My bag crochet equipment was on the sofa next to us, and he took my scissors out to fiddle with. I told him not to because they are very sharp and he could hurt someone or damage them. He gave them back and I put them in the bag.

Later on, I needed the loo so left the room. When I came back, he had taken the scissors out of the bag, and was cutting up a piece of cardboard (a tetley's tea box, if anyone's interested). I was really annoyed and told him to stop and give me my scissors. Even after me explaining that yarn scissors are not for cardboard or paper, he is adamant that he didn't do anything wrong. I think he's in the wrong because they're my scissors, I specifically asked him not to use them, the cardboard did not need cutting up, and him doing so damaged my property! Both my brothers think I'm overreacting and that he didn't do anything wrong. He is now winding me up by saying that he will use my scissors to cut some cardboard again. I just want him to apologise and not do it again! ######

Response: NTA. That’s a good way to destroy fabric scissors ######


Prompt:
Backstory : GF and I have been together for 3 years. We have one child aged about 1 years old.
Our relationship has been rocky for the last month or so.

Anyway. About 1 month ago she started snapchating (snaping?) a guy and mutual friend of ours again, nothing strange about that, i don't mind. Then they start sending bitmojis and not long after that they are snapchating all day every day. She even told me "hey, i'm flirting with this guy, lol "  and now for the last few weeks they've been Blowing kisses at eachother etc etc. Something like this : 😂😂😍😘😘 all day everyday. She even stayed awake until 3am snaping this guy when we went to bed at 11 at multiple occasions.

I asked her why she thinks that it's okay to do what she's doing , and she told me that "we're just trolling, why do you care? Don't you trust me?"

I do trust that she doesn't do anything stupid, but when i pointed out that she would hang me for doing the same thing,  she just said "yeah, and?"
I find it extremely annoying that she spends so much time texting and flirting with another guy, even if it's playful and " just for fun."

She thinks i'm the asshole in this situation because she thinks i don't trust her and i'm being jealous.
Meanwhile my whole problem in this situation is the obvious double standards.

Additional info: her and the guy has sent nudes to eachother prior to me getting together with her. Don't know if this is relevant info but i feel like it is.
Also non-native english speaker. Please forgive me. ######

Response: NTA. That’s a big red flag to me. She could just say it’s  for fun and all but  instead of reassuring you she’s just blowing you off and making it seem like you’re the bad guy. If it bothers you and you’ve tried to bring it up and she still continues then does she really care? I say let them rekindle what they had just get yourself a loyal one. ######


Prompt:
My bf of 2 years went on a camping trip right before all the lockdowns and quarantine measures started. He went with 2 girls from his college outdoorsy club that he doesn't know very well and who I've never met. I'm not gonna lie, I wasn't super thrilled about that, but I didn't say anything cause I know that was just my own insecurities getting to me.

On the trip, we didn't talk much but he did call me once and told me the trip was going well. He came back from the trip, said it was fun and they just hiked and fished and stuff, and I was glad he had a good time. Yesterday we were cleaning the apartment and reorganizing and I pulled his sleeping bag from a closet and noticed there was a small rip in it. A hole maybe like 2 or 3 inches across. I asked if he wanted me to try to fix it. He kinda dismissively said "oh I'll just buy another, I didn't even use it on the trip" and so I asked, "then how did you sleep?"

He looked like a deer caught in headlights and tried to backtrack, but then eventually admitted he ended up sharing a bag with one of the other girls. Not one of those fancy double bags either, just a regular one. I'm pretty pissed because he got mad at me for sharing a king bed with my gay male friend once, which I apologized for and we agreed that bedsharing was a boundary for us. We live in a warm area and it wasn't cold the weekend he went, certainly not cold enough to necessitate sharing a bag for "body heat" like he says. If his bag was completely destroyed I would've understood, but imo it was still usable and NOT bad enough to break a boundary we had established. And then he lied about it and hid it from me. Am I overreacting? He says nothing happened and I guess I believe him but I still feel like he broke my trust somehow. Or is this not a big deal? Is this normal for camping? AITA for being angry with him? ######

Response: NTA. That’s 100% not normal for camping. In fact it’s incredibly uncomfortable sleeping in one alone, just imagine two people. I honestly wouldn’t buy his story. And the fact he hid it is even more shady. I’m sorry but it sounds like he may have cheated and just got caught. ######


Prompt:
I (18F) got into an accident and totaled my car. Keep in mind that I bought myself that car and paid for my own insurance. The accident was my fault but not entirely. I ran a stop sign that was covered by trees and hit a parked car to avoid hitting a moving one. The house owner at the corner said that I’m the fourth person to get into an accident because of the same stop sign in under 3 months. Thankfully, no one was hurt.

My insurance decided to buy off my totaled car for $2000. I gave the money to my parents to put away to get myself a new car. On top of that, I also gave them $3000 from my savings for my car (I give them my money to put away because I don’t trust myself to not spend it). My parents were livid that I got into an accident. Although nothing came out of their pockets other than my insurance rising that I pay for, they decided to punish me and use the money that my insurance gave me AND my savings to buy my brother (23M) an new car.

I told them that it was my money and that they had no right to do that. All they said was that if I hadn’t gotten into an accident, the car they bought for my brother would’ve been mine. Now my insurance is a lot more expensive than what it was before and they said that with a new car, it’s going to be more expensive. I said that it was my car that I bought and I was paying for insurance and that there was no need to punish me for something that didn’t affect them financially. They don’t care and gave the car to my brother anyway, saying this is what I get for not being careful when driving a car, I don’t get one at all.

AITA for getting upset? ######

Response:
 NTA. That's your money. Simple as that. BUT.

>I give them my money to put away because I don’t trust myself to not spend it

You're an adult. Time to act like an adult. Take care of your money. ######


Prompt:
My friend (we'll call her Mindy) planned a bachelorette party trip that cost each of us $1200. The trip has now been canceled because of COVID, but there's a problem. My friend had this other friend (we'll call her Jane) of hers purchase the trip as a group trip on her credit card. So, Jane is getting a full refund on her credit card for everyone's money. Jane, however, is now hard up for money and is saying that she won't give anyone their money back with a myriad of excuses, including she can't get cash back as it's a credit card refund. I asked that she just buy me a travel gift card then for my balance and that still seems to be a no.

Here's the thing... Mindy seems angry that we want our money back from Jane. She seems to think that we should all be ok with taking a loss, which I could understand if Jane wasn't getting a full refund...but she is. None of us, except Mindy, are actually friends with Jane. AITA for thinking that Mindy should stand up for her friends and make Jane do the right thing? There are 8 people who paid Jane for this trip, meaning she's going to make a pretty hefty profit off this :( ######

Response: NTA. That's worth going to court over ######


Prompt:
I have a trainwreck sister. She has one daughter who is 13. They live in a small house. My sister does not work and refuses to get a job. She's on welfare and I occasionally buy them groceries, She's fucked up from years and years of meth. My niece was turning into my sister 2.0 and was recently taken away and is now in foster care. Too many calls to the cops and CPS visits.

My sister is devastated. She's been crying and sunk into depression. Her daughter refuses to speak with her. The plan is for her to live with her (loser) father. I felt bad for my sister and dropped off some bagels and cream cheese. She spent about 20 minutes saying that she was a horrible mother, her daughter hates her, etc. I could tell she was waiting for me to assure her that it was untrue, but I didn't because it's true - my sister is a horrible mother and her daughter does hate her for good reason.

I finally couldn't hold it in any longer and asked her why she was even sad? Nothing good was ever going to come from her place and her daughter was clearly on the wrong path. Foster care is better than living in what she was living in.

I could tell that it hurt her, but I was keeping it real. ######

Response: NTA. That's what she needed to hear, even if it wasn't what she wanted to hear. ######


Prompt: My girlfriend asked me if she could access my Facebook to untag me from old photos. I said no then asked why. She showed an example it was a photo from about 10 years ago with me in a club with a girl hugging me and leaning on my shoulder. It was an ex but she didn't know that. I don't take many photos so I value people tagging me in theirs. ######

Response: NTA. That's super possessive and potentially a red flag. ######


Prompt:
I’m in a group chat with 8 other people. We all go to the same grad school. John said: “Hi everyone. I received a diagnosis.” He never even announced he was sick or seeing a doctor, at least to me, so I was afraid that he had cancer or something similarly serious.  Another friend responded: “Oh no, is everything okay?”  After a two-hour long pause, John said, “I will be okay...now. I have been diagnosed with ADHD.”

As a person with ADHD, this struck me as obviously being much less serious than a terminal diagnosis, and not worth the drama. I said, “Man, I thought you were dying or something, that was really dramatic!” He didn’t respond to me and the conversation moved on. A mutual friend of me and John messaged me and told me that John was very offended by what I said. John thinks that I was minimizing his very serious diagnosis, a diagnosis he sees as a revelation and the reason he’s always struggled to succeed in work/school.  Since this was told to me in a covert way, I didn’t see a space to apologize or explain myself.  I don’t even know what I would say...That I still think that saying “I received a diagnosis” in a group chat and announcing an ADHD diagnosis is overdramatic?

Am I being an asshole here? ######

Response: NTA. That's someone creating drama. A 2 hour pause? Good lord. ######


Prompt:
My (F23) and my boyfriend (M24) have been dating for four years and we currently live together. We usually have a great relationship but recently we've been at each other's throats over this. I can't tell if this is a real problem or if it's just because we're cooped up.

The problem is that I eat a lot of foods my boyfriend considers gross. Some of these are foods everybody considers gross, and others are things just he does.

Things he thinks are gross: melted cheese, shredded cheese, hummus, chickpeas, fries in milkshakes, this Indian yogurt I eat, and peanut butter with nothing else.

Things probably everyone thinks are gross: pickles in milkshakes, ketchup in rice, capers and their juice, and mangoes and cheese. There are probably others I'm forgetting.

Anyways I like these foods and I get that others think it's gross, but I don't really think it's hurting anybody.

Recently though I've been eating them more, and as both my boyfriend and I are home all the time in a small studio, he's been seeing it a lot more. At first he just told me what I was doing was nasty and moved on, but now he's started getting angry at me when he sees me eating these things and others he thinks are gross.

Today we got into a fight over it. He wants me to stop eating all these foods he thinks are gross. I think he's being ridiculous. I always clean up after myself, and it's not like I'm rubbing it in his face that I'm eating these. He thinks it's inconsiderate for me to keep doing something that I know bothers him.

We're currently not talking over this. AITA? ######

Response: NTA. That's some controlling behavior, OP. Maybe thank this quarantine for showing his true colors and lay out the ultimatum of "let me eat whatever the fuck I want or gtfo". ######


Prompt: I'm 18, living with my mom through the summer until I move away for college across the country. I offered to pay for dinner if my mom wanted to go out to eat now that my state has lifted most restrictions. I suggested we go out to eat at a local vietnamese place (because they have amazing pho and the owners are a super kind older couple and I know their business has been struggling lately). Immediately my mom bursts out with "Why should we go there when they made the virus?" and snickered. I told my mom to take me back home and that I wasnt going to go to dinner with her. She threw a huge fit and went on a rant about how i need to learn to take a joke and that I was being a brat. ######

Response: NTA. That's rude, inaccurate and uncalled for. ######


Prompt:
\*my wife has approved this description of events, so it is less biased\*

My wife and I spend a lot of time at her Aunt and Uncle (aged 80+) cabin in Colorado. We come up to help them take care of the house and yard, and we are both pretty handy so we help fix things that inevitably break around the place. We typically spend 3-4 days of the week here during the spring/summer months, and 1-2x/month during the fall/winter (we can both work remotely so no issues there).  The small cabin has 2 spare rooms, as well as a loft with no bathroom. There isn't a guest bath that's unattached to a bedroom.

This weekend her parents and sister are coming up to the cabin. They come up rarely, and her sister comes up maybe once year.  Her sister is single. She's been told she's selfish in past relationships, and from the outside looking in, I have to agree. We've stayed at her place when visiting her, and she told us to bring our own bedding, towels, food, etc. My wife also had to bring her own cleaning supplies to make the room decent.

We arrived at the cabin last night and slept in the bedroom we always stay in. This afternoon, we got a call from my MIL telling us to move our things up to the loft (which has 2 twin beds and is above/open to the living room) so my SIL can stay in the bedroom. I don't think this is fair given that we come up more often, do more work, are married, and were already here this weekend. There is also not a bathroom to use that doesn't involve us walking into in-laws bedrooms. When my wife told her mother that she didn't think this was completely fair, her mother yelled and told her to deal with it because the sister never comes up and doesn't feel welcome. To be fair, we have always prioritized going there because we know how much help the Aunt/Uncle need.

AITA for not wanting to cater to my SIL? ######

Response: NTA. That's ridiculous, and I would continue to push back on that request. Also, sister sounds like she sucks. ######


Prompt:
Okay, this is kind of of a weird one. I have been dating my girlfriend for 7 months now. I want to preface all of this by saying that I love her and that this post makes her sound worse than she is. She is one of the most genuine, sweetest, and hardworking people I have ever met. But, this whole situation has been so off putting to me and I don’t know what to do about it.

My girlfriend can be a bit clingy in general which, frankly, I have always found a bit cute. But, when she goes to the bathroom she always wants me to join her. At first I thought it was cute she wanted to spend time with me so much but I didn’t realize it was something she was going to expect every time. It started as just sitting on the side of the tub while she peed. Which could be inconvenient depending on if I was in the middle of something but I didn’t mind too much. But, starting a few months ago she started going number two and also dealing with her period stuff in front of me too. I’ve tried to excuse myself because the sights and smells. But, it hurts her feeling when I do and it always ends up in a fight about something unrelated. So, I’ve been dealing with it to keep the peace. She doesn’t mind if I go on my phone or do something else in the bathroom. But, even so, I just don’t want to witness/smell/hear those moments and it’s starting to impact my attraction towards her. I’ve tried talking with her but it seems to be really important to her for whatever reason. WIBTA if I stopped doing this? ######

Response: NTA. that's not normal or cute, and is 100% reasonable boundary to have. ######


Prompt:
Some years ago I was driving to work when I was struck by another vehicle who... let’s say the other driver (Jackass) should not have been driving at that time. I’ll always remember him laughing his fat ass off as the ambulance pulled away.

Long hospital stay, multiple surgeries, fired from my job, lots of unkind gossip; and my kids/husband/parents and I suffered.

I managed to claw my way into a good job now but went through a lot of shit first.

Although Jackass has never apologized to me, his pastor  (my dad’s stepbrother’s wife’s nephew) reached out to me to express he’s “sorry” and “in a program”. He asked me not to proceed with the lawsuit as it’s not “Biblical”.

Their “church family” harassed and bullied me a ton over the years, to the point that law encirclement & my kids’ schools have had to get involved.

I just settled the lawsuit for max $$ though I have perm scars, PTSD, and physical limitations as a result of my injuries. There are people who refuse to be around me bc of being grossed out by my scars.

Pastor called me again, reiterated Jackass is sorry, and that for his “recovery” I am somehow obligated to forgive him in front of his very large congregation. I told Pastor to go fuck himself and have let everyone know that I’m afraid of Pastor and of Jackass.

Step-uncle (whom I’ve never liked) just called to ask me to reconsider - apparently MY calling the cops and filing the lawsuit has caused both Pastor and Jackass to have trouble at their jobs. Apparently Jackass wants to get his citizenship & Pastor wants to be a foster parent and claim my refusal to forgive blocks both.

Step-uncle’s family never ONCE reached out to see how my family and I were doing. But they organized a meal train and a free lawyer for Jackass.

I maintain that IDGAF, I never heard any compassion or remorse from Jackass or his church; why should I care about their ego now.

Who’s TA here? ######

Response: NTA. That's not how that works. They don't even actually want forgiveness. They just want you to put on a show to help them fix the damage they did to themselves. ######


Prompt: Quarantine woes. I (28F) work upstairs and my husband (35M) works from our kitchen counter. Every morning he refuses to put the kettle on or help make the coffee. He says, "I don't want coffee but if you make it I'll have some." When I make it he then wants a full cup! As of late I take the entire french press with me back to my work station and refuse to share with him since he can't be bothered to even turn the knob on the stove for the kettle. AITA? ######

Response: NTA. That's annoying. If he wants coffee he can contribute to making it. ######


Prompt:
Hi! Second time posting here.

Okay so basically– I really really dislike taking photos or videos of myself, and I hate it when others do that too. It might just be an insecurity issue. I just don't feel comfortable when people do it, but even though I tell others that often, I still get dragged in for photos very now and then.

My sister’s a streamer on Facebook. She’s not  INSANELY popular or famous but she definitely has a sort of big following.

A few hours ago she decided to take videos of me and uploaded it onto her Instagram story where her fans could see it. I didn't notice that she did that until she told me about it, and obviously I grew kind of irritated.

I've told her multiple times that I really just don't like when others take pictures of videos of me ( or call me cute, because it makes me uncomfortable ) but she continues to do it anyways. When I told her I really didn't appreciate that and showed that I was kinda annoyed, she teased me ( which she does, a lot, because she says she loves to annoy me ) and laughed, before asking me if I was going to cry about it (for some reason whenever I get annoyed she always asks me if I'm going to cry about it. I guess it's because she thinks I'm a crybaby?)

I feel like I was kind of being a jerk when I got pissed off. After that I sort of thought and felt like I was overreacting because it's just a short video, and there was nothing for me to get mad about but I dunno. ######

Response: NTA. That's an invasion of privacy and depending on where you are, illegal. And she's doing it for her benefit, not yours. ######


Prompt:
We have been married for 4 years, with two kids ages 3 and under 1. I’ve been a stay at home mom by day, uni student by night and my husband was working full time but was furloughed back in March. Ever since having kids, and if I’m honest even before that, most of the housework has fallen on me. I’ve been saying things to him for years that I don’t feel he contributes equally and I’m tired of never having a break while he gets to come home from work and relax. Every conversation like this goes south because he takes it extremely personally and says I’m making him out to be a terrible husband and parent. I’ve told him that’s not what I’m saying but I *do* need more help around here. It’s been a very very slow progress.

 Since we’ve both been home these last few months the difference in work is glaringly obvious. It’s not that he does **nothing** because he definitely does help out, I just do a lot more. Again I try to have the talk, again I’m met with anger. So I told him I’m buying a chore chart. He was on board with it. Then when I put it up and he saw how I organized it he got mad. I put every single little tedious thing I do (“wash bathroom sink”, “wash toilet”, “wash kitchen sink”, “sweep x room”, “mop x room”, “towel laundry”, “bedsheet laundry”, “bathe kids”, etc etc) and color coded it so my husband and I each have a color and we initial the chores we do every day. He said it seemed petty, annoying, and like it’s just adding more work but I just don’t know how to get through to him exactly how much I do that he doesn’t do. AITA? ######

Response: NTA. That's a great solution. It's in fact already proving your point: He said it was "adding more work". Well apparently only to him, because this is stuff you already do. ######


Prompt:
A little backstory:

I (15) was very close with my great grandmother, Gram Joe. We were both avid gardeners and artists, and she taught me everything I know about painting. Gram Joe had blood cancer, and was running a bit slow in her last few months. My brother (11), on the other hand, never went to visit her. He would only come with if Gma, grams daughter, was getting us lunch after. And even then, he would sit on his phone and ignore her.

She passed away last November, and I miss her like hell. My biggest regret is I never got to come out to her.

Her will specifically stated that I was to get all her supplies, which were incredibly expensive and well worth the money (30$ brushes, 150$ oil paint sets, canvasses, pencils, everything), which I was very grateful for.

Then comes my father. He took half of the stuff I was supposed to get and gave it to my brother, who already had his things she set aside. Expensive oil paints, brushes, colored pencils, all to the boy who doesn’t like drawing. I was, of course, incredibly upset.

My dad said it was only to be fair since brother didn’t get much, but that’s because she didn’t know what to give! He never payed attention to her, he never went to visit. She didn’t know what he would want. My brother ended up throwing away his stuff. Except for the brushes, which he didn’t take care of properly and are now mangled beyond belief. Thankfully my brother and I are close so he secretly gave me the stuff while throwing away the packaging, but the rage was still there. My brother is very obviously my dads favorite

Most of the rage was because he did that to Grams. I’m a religious person (paganism) and I know damm well Grams knew what he was doing. He violated her will for fucks sakes, that’s not ok!

TL:DR. Favorite grandmother left me all her art and gardening supplies in the will, father then gave half of everything to brother (favorite son) “to be fair”, violating the will. Grounded me for being angry about it ######

Response: NTA. that was your stuff that your grandma gave to you! dose your brother even like to paint? sorry for your loose. ######


Prompt:
This week restrictions lifted in my area for the virus and my sister’s boyfriend visited my family for the first time for dinner. He knew who I was, but apparently my sister never mentioned that I’m disabled. When I meet new people, I’m fine with certain questions. I pretty much expect it. But the first thing that exited his mouth as he saw me was “Shit, what happened to you?” And phrased like that it’s just a bit disrespectful. Oh well, some people have weird reactions and I figured he was just surprised.

After that, the pre-dinner conversation goes smoothly. He’s respectful and polite to my parents. Then dinner comes out. I use a special grip for utensils because my grip strength is pretty weak. Sister’s bf immediately questions it, asking “Can you not do anything normally?” Which, again, is just not a particularly respectful way to ask. I respond by saying that I still managed to graduate high school and have a boyfriend of my own. Sister’s boyfriend nodded and went back to dinner. Then everything was fine until dessert. My mom and sister went back to get things from the kitchen, my dad went to use the bathroom, and sister’s boyfriend looked at me and asked if I “can still fuck”. At that point I was pretty fed up. I’m fine with questions but there’s a time and a place, and a level of appropriateness and respect that’s good to maintain imo. And at that point I was incredibly annoyed so I left the table and went to my room, staying there until he left.

Afterwards, I explained what happened to my sister but she told me I ruined the night by abandoning them and claimed that he wouldn’t ever say anything like that. She’s now refusing to speak to me, saying I completely ruined his first impression. But honestly I think he ruined it by himself. Still, I understand why just up and leaving could be considered inconsiderate. ######

Response: NTA. That was rude, and you are not required to suffer fools. More “considerate” to remove yourself than to start a fight. ######


Prompt:
I am 14 and my stepbrother is 12. Me and my stepbrother wanted some dinner and my stepmom and dad were both at work (doctors) and they told us they had made us dinner before they left.

They make us eat boring food that we don’t even like and half the time it doesn’t even fill us up. It’s either salad with low fat dressing (no cheese or bacon not even a little bit to make it tasty) and fish or it’s baked sweet potato and chicken. Like seriously we can’t eat anything else and because they meal prep it’s the same food every day. They are NOT very good cooks.

They used to basically get takeout every night (pretty nice healthy and delicious stuff) but they stopped that lately because of hygiene reasons.

They are super into health and fitness so I guess they make us eat healthy too. We have some ramen noodles but we are hardly ever allowed to eat them. My stepbro is a bit fat so she makes him eat even less than me.

Anyway me and my stepbrother were watching tv and we decided we were hungry AND bored cuz we’ve been at home for so long we watched some videos on YouTube for food ideas and we decided we wanted ramen.

I made the noodles and we enjoyed them, when our parents came home they saw we didn’t eat dinner so we told them I made noodles. My stepmom got real mad and said that I know I’m not supposed to let my stepbro eat bad food cuz it doesn’t fit into his macros. She was talking about sugar spikes and blah blah because it’s unhealthy.

I feel kinda bad because she’s stressed about his weight but I didn’t think 1 meal of noodles was gonna be the end of the world. ######

Response: NTA. That was really cool of you to take care of and feed your brother. There are so many delicious foods out there besides fish, salad, sweet potatoes. This is a good opportunity for you to learn about nutrition and cooking. Are you able to get involved and help with the meals a bit more and experiment in the kitchen? Ask your mom what the macros are and use Reddit to find suitable recipes. Then you can teach your little bro. I wish someone would have taught me how to cook or take care of myself. My mom raised us on canned pasta and McDonald's. I'm 30 and only now learning how fun cooking is and how delicious healthy food can be. Good luck! ######


Prompt:
I (19m) ordered a gift for my mom online a couple days ago. Knowing she loves this brand Rituals (a shower gel and beauty kind of thing), i got her a gift box with multiple items in it. Now the website i ordered this on had this gift box listed under "mother's day gift ideas". Without any second thoughts i ordered it thinking she would love it.

Now this gift box arrived the day before mother's day and when it got here i noticed that it looked quite masculine, it had shaving cream in it and the name of the scent was something with a samurai or something. I looked it up and it was actually for men. I felt stupid because it was too late to return it.

I decided to just give it to my mom and explain the situation, i told her she could smell the soaps (without actually taking any soap out of the container) to see if she liked the scents regardless and if not i could return it and she could pick another set. She then opened the soap container, at this point i couldn't return it, and then she posted a picture of it on Facebook making fun of me. She commented "the point of having three kids is that if one of them gets you a bad mother's day gift, the other two can still fix it". Obviously this made me feel upset because I didn't know when I ordered it and i was the only one of her kids to buy her a gift.

AITA? ######

Response:
 NTA. That was mean. I'm sure you were embarrassed enough already, and publicly humiliating you was uncalled for.

You probably should have given a gift for your mother a "second thought," but it was nice of you to remember what brand she likes. ######


Prompt:
Throw away account. Okay so I’m at a crossroad atm. A friend and I moved in together last year, but now we’re going to separate apartments. We got along really well, and moved out due to the fact that she got a boyfriend and wanted to move in with him.

Anyways, when it came to the security deposit, I offered to help her clean it since we split the security deposit. My friend insisted that her and her mom clean it since her mom is a professional cleaner and would clean better than me. Once again, I offered to help but they said that they don’t mind doing it.

A few days later, I get a text from my friend, asking if I could give her an extra $200 from my portion of the deposit since her and her mom spent five hours cleaning the place. The conversation went like this

Her: Hey! So mom and I were talking and think it’d be fair if you gave us $200 for cleaning the apartment

Me: Wait, what? Uhh no. I offered to help clean it. Had I known you were gunna charge me, I wouldn’t have had your mom clean it...

Her: Wtf, it took us five hours. My mom has a $80 an hour rate to clean houses.... we spent five hours cleaning it. $200 from the deposit is a steal.

Me: Like I said, no. I’m sorry but if you brought up that you were gunna charge me, I would have cleaned the house myself.

Now my friend is mad at me because to her, I’m being unfair. I told her she was being unfair because she should have told me that they were gunna charge me in the beginning. Also, the deposit was $1,000 so I’d only get $500. If they took $200, then I’d only get $300.

Tl;dr- Would I be the asshole if I didn’t pay my friend and her mom to professionally clean the apartment? ######

Response: NTA. That was an unpleasant bait and switch on her part and sounds like a way for her to get paid to clean her own apartment. ######


Prompt:
I know this sounds bad.  I feel bad about it but I don't think I should pay them more.

Here's why:

- I was never on the lease
- I didn't pay any bond
- I was sub renting
- I gave them 10 workdays notice,  then paid for another 2,5 weeks to make it a month.
- I communicated everything with them that they need to find another person
- I made all the ads and pictures of the pace
- I made a letter to the landlord stating due to xyz I cannot be in this country anymore and if the rent could be lowered.

I was in this place for 3 months.  All went fine but then hell broke loose. I had to get back home since my family needed me.
When my roommates (24 f & m) heard this, they pushed me to get on the lease.

Furthermore they were understanding, helping me by just talking and I made ads to find someone new.  I had several people coming by the place but they didn't get my room since they wanted someone long term (year+) and between 20-30.

I had to catch a plane and put most of my stuff into storage.

They couldn't find anyone after 2 weeks and they asked me to transfer rent.  I told them I need to pay for 2 places now so I'll only do 2 weeks for you guys to find someone new.  They were grateful.

2 weeks later they explode and expect me to keep on paying since they haven't found someone new. It would be my responsibility and they are calling me names now saying they might have to move now etc.

I feel horrible for them but to be fair why would I pay for a place I haven't lived in for 3 weeks and I don't have any responsibility for?

One side I'm like maybe I should help them out even more.  But I'm out of a job and stuff is bad in my hometown now too.
I need the money myself. ######

Response:
 NTA. That was a risk they assumed when they let you sublet and not sign a lease.

You even paid for 2 extra weeks and helped them find prospects. Their pickiness is what ultimately led them to being stuck in their current predicament. They should have found someone short term until they could find someone for the long term. ######


Prompt:
Obligatory backstory: my parents are divorced, me and my brother are respectively 21 and 24. My mom remarried a guy with only adult children (like in their 30s), and my dad is about to marry a woman with many children between the ages of 5-15.

I'm getting married in the fall, so I'm in the process of packing up my childhood bedroom. I noticed my dad has gotten out a lot of my old books and toys for when his future step-kids visit. A lot of my books are very sentimental to me, as I adored reading growing up, and I hope to pass on my books to my kids one day. WIBTA to hide my childhood stuff so that I can get it back for my own kids in the future? I don't want my step siblings to get attached to something and then not be able to get it back when I try to reclaim it.

My mom says it's my right to control my stuff but my fiancé says it might be selfish, since I'm not actively using it right now. I'm really torn because I don't want to be the evil stepsister but I also don't want my dad to see his first kids' treasured items as something he can just give to his new family at his own disposal. ######

Response: NTA. That is your stuff. Other people don’t get to inherit it by default. Take it with you. ######


Prompt:
Hey There.

My parents are divorced and my bio-dad died soon after. It all happend when I was around 3 so i never knew him. My mom remarried a year after their divorce so I grew up with him as my father. My bio-father was an onlychild from my grandparents with who I had no coontact with due to my mother not wanting me to do so. They passed away two months ago an I was the only person in their will. They left me their estate (the house they lived in and some multi storage houses in a city nearby) and quiete a large sum of money as well as a letter in which they wrte that they were sorry for not being part of my life but they accepted my mothers wish. That was news to me my mom told me that they didnt want contact with me beacause they had prblems with her and abandoned me beacause of that. I am legally an adult at 19 and still live at home with my parents and my little sister. She is really spoiled and always gets what she wants because she is the family baby. When i told my parents aboout my inheritance and what all i have got and that i am planning to put 50000 in a saving account for my sister they got mad at me for not splitting it evenly. I was shocked and they tld me that i was an selfish and spoiled brat for not sharing. Honestly i dont mind sharing but now I thing I wont. As i told my parents that they threw me out like litually forced me to left the house i grew up in and threw all my stuff out the window. I was shocked. I picked up my clothes put them in my car and drove too my grandparents house where I an sitting now in shock and writing this post hoping someone can give me advise on this situation because i dont know what to do.

Sorry for spelling and grammar english isnt my first language. Thanks for your time. ######

Response:
 NTA. That is your inheritance and it's up to you what you want to do with it.

Word of advice, get in touch with a lawyer to cover your bases. Never know when your own family can turn out to be petty enough to take you to court over inheritance. ######


Prompt:
So me and my fiancé are doing some work in our backyard, so for the past week or so I’ve had to take our dogs for walks through the neighborhood about 4 times a day, always walking past the same house right across the street from us.

The first few times, i noticed a dog barking when i walked by, but didn’t think much of it. But it happened every single time I walked by, so it started to catch my attention. Listening closer, I can tell that the dog is barking from the neighbors garage - the bark echoes and can clearly be identified as coming from the garage.

If this happened once, I wouldn’t think too much of it, but it’s every time I walk by from about 7am until the last time I take my dogs out around 9pm every night. I think they are keeping this dog in the garage all day most days.

I live in a very warm area approaching summer, and the high temperatures are starting to approach/exceed 90F daily here. I don’t feel like it’s safe to keep a dog in a closed up garage all day in the middle of the summer, but i also don’t want to approach my neighbors myself. The type of people who leave a dog sitting in hot garage all day probably wouldn’t listen to me or would get hostile with me, and then if i did end up calling someone on them they’d know it’s me, which I’d prefer they don’t.

So, WIBTA if I call animal control to check this out? ######

Response: NTA. That is unsafe. ######