Prompt:
Throwaway account sorry for the formatting on mobile

So some back story my mom was married to my stepdad for almost 15 years. He was like a second dad to me and my step brother and sisters are like siblings to me. Last year out of the blue him and my mom got a divorce. He sat me (19M) down and we had a conversation how nothing between us would change and I was still his son.

So during the pandemic I needed a place to stay after the university I went to shut down. I knew my mom and her boyfriend live in a small apartment so asked if I could stay with my stepdad. Of course he said yes. So now it’s been something like two months. So last week my mom and her boyfriend got engaged after dating for about a year.

After hearing the news a called them to congratulate them. As soon as she answered she tore into me about how inappropriate and disrespectful to her and her fiancé it was for me to be staying with her ex husband and his family.

Now all this week I’ve been getting bombarded with opinions for family and friends about what they think and they are very divided mainly by moms friends and family and everyone else. But AITA ######

Response:
 NTA - you have a relationship with a person who was in your life playing some sort of parental role for 15 years. I don't know what your mum expected, but if it was that you would cut all ties with him simply because she's the one with the biological connection to you that was an unreasonable expectation to have. You needed to move somewhere and it's great that your ex-stepdad is still here for you. She should be pleased that you still have support from him and not flip out at you for it.

On a side note, you're an adult and you can stay wherever you like - neither your mum nor your family and friends should be wading into your decisions like this. ######


Prompt: AITA for reporting my car stolen. A lot of things happened so I'm going to try to summarize. Long story short my brother in law has been in and out of jail most of his life. He has had his driver's license suspended due to multiple running from the law and driving under the influence. He seemed to be wanting to turn a new leaf in his life and has had "bad luck ". I was willing to loan him my car with rules. They are as followed. He was not to drive his girlfriend was to drive him everywhere. They where to help keep up the car. And finally they where to not to smoke in it. They also lived with us for about a year. During this year neither one of them held a job for more than a couple of months. Would isolate themselves until they wanted to "borrow" money. Also the car would reek of cigarettes and the seats be so nasty you couldn't tell what color they were.  It all came to a head when they went MIA in my car for two months. I asked them for my car and It was a lame excuse as why they couldn't have it back I also received in this time tickets from another state over. I told them to have my car back a week ago or I was going to report it. Still nothing. The police called today and my car was on the other side of the state ( three and a half hours away.) Am I the asshole for calling the law  and reporting my car stolen. ######

Response: NTA - you gave him guidelines to follow, which he obviously didn’t follow. Heaven only knows where your car was for the two months it went missing. I would have called it in sooner! ######


Prompt:
My girlfriend and I live together, and she’s usually pretty relaxed and easy to get along with. But today she put on a smaller tank top, and some shorts, looked in the mirror and asked if the top made her look fat.

Now my girlfriend isn’t fat per se, but she’s a little chubby. She’s still attractive, but she’s not a 2% body fat supermodel. Neither am I, but I don’t get upset if someone points it out.

I said she looked great, and she said that I didn’t answer the question. I asked if she really wanted to know the answer and she said yes. I said the top was a little small, and not super flattering. She then got mad and said that was rude and then started crying.

At this point I got annoyed, and said she shouldn’t ask trap questions if she’s going to cry about it afterwards. I gave her a perfectly nice answer in the first place, and she wanted an honest answer.

She claimed she wanted “support”. We’ve been fighting all day about it.

AITA? ######

Response: NTA - You gave her your honest opinion and gave it in the nicest way possible.Don't ask questions you don't want answers to. ######


Prompt:
(24M)

Yesterday afternoon, a new neighbour in our flat knocked on our door. It was a young woman and she asked if we had any sugar at home she could borrow to use for her baby's milk for the day, since she can't go out to buy any and her husband is working.

I told her that I had some sugar left, but it's only enough for the apple pie I was planning to make that evening. She said that she really needs it since her 2 year old baby refuses anything else to eat, and that it would be a kind gesture if I could give up my apple pie for another day.

I kindly refused and I mentioned that if she really needs it, I can go out and buy it for her **(I meant with her money)** but I'm not looking to give my sugar away.

She wasn't happy and sarcastically thanked me as she was leaving. I just closed the door and continued about my day.

I'm always one to doubt my previous actions and I question myself as to whether I was right or wrong, so I told my parents.....and they told me I was selfish for not helping someone out and that they expected better from me as a gentleman.

I'm here for judgement. Was I selfish? Was I the asshole? ######

Response: NTA - you even offered to go out and get sugar for her. I agree with most other people here....why on earth is she putting sugar in a 2-year old's milk??? ######


Prompt:
Over the months, I've finally had time to paint and so I've made money off painting art commissions. I ordered a Switch and its meant to arrive some ime this week, and so I withdrew some cash so I can pay for it (cash on delivery)

Now the problem is, my family has seen the wad of cash and has gradually borrowed money from it that it went from 12k to 2k. It's fine because I'm tracking the package and it wont be here 'til Monday, so I still have time to withdraw more cash and thankfully, I still have enough even if they don't pay me by then if my tracking is correct. And usually they notify me first and ask nicely.

This morning, my brother just casually dropped he took money from my wallet this morning while I was asleep. I got pissed and said "you people aren't entitled to my money". He got pissed too and said I shouldn't be acting like that, that he has been earning far longer and he never got my selfish attitude, and that he at least said she took it right now because she didn't want to wake me up.

AITA for my attitude over my money? ######

Response: NTA - you earned your money - I can't believe they took *10k* from you! That's absolutely ridiculous. Yeah he had been earning for longer, so he should have his own money and not have to take yours! ######


Prompt:
My sister and I have been fighting for a while because she never gets me so much as a card for my birthday, and I always would get her an actual present. When I brought it up to her before my birthday in September she said that it’s because I make more than her so it’s only fair that I “give back”.

So I didn’t get her anything this year, which caused a huge fight in January when it happened. Then we didn’t talk until now, but we recently bought my husband a new car which sparked another argument because she said that if I have enough for a car I have enough for a present for her.

The point isn’t that I can’t afford the presents, it’s that she never does anything for me. She keeps going on and on about how I make more but I’d be happy with a card or a drawing or something cheap.

My mom thinks I should just buy her something to shut her up but I think that would be enabling her.

AITA? ######

Response:
 NTA - you don’t owe her a bday gift just because you make more money.

You can give the gift if you wanted to out of your own kindness, but you shouldn’t be guilted into it. ######


Prompt:
My wife and I just heard from our agent that we received a full price offer on our house within a week of listing.

What should be a happy occasion turned out to be a fight....

We’ve been working furiously to get the house in proper order to ensure a quick/full price sale. We’ve spent nearly $5k on painting, cleaning and upgrades.

Our to do list didn’t get finished by the time we went on the market, and there are a few detail jobs still left to be done. However, that didn’t prevent us from listing, and getting a full price offer quickly.

We were basking in the glow of this news tonight, when my wife told me that she still wanted to get the last few projects done to ‘clear my conscience’. I told her that I thought that was a waste of time, and that we’d already spent enough time/money/effort to get the result we ultimately wanted, which was a quick sale.

Am I the asshole for not wanting to spend more time, money, and effort when we’ve already achieved our goal? ######

Response: NTA - you don’t need to keep running once you finished the race ######


Prompt: I’m a 30 year old male with high functioning autism. The other day my brother told me to stop fucking around and get my shit together so I can get married and have kids. I told him that we already had this conversation. I don’t want kids. I pass for normal but I had difficulty with learning and social interactions growing up. They don’t understand how difficult it really is. If I am going to get married it would be to another autistic person which raises the likelihood of our child having it too. I don’t want to take the chances of my kid being what I am or worse off. I’m also pretty unhealthy. My L5 is messed up and I’m in constant pain. My dad suffered from constant pain from a leg injury he had. He missed out on a lot of my childhood before he died of a heart attack when I was 7. I don’t want to have a kid and have them be without a dad. My past partners have all been autistic and super irresponsible. No one that I would trust raising a child. Similar to my mom who had a everything will work itself out mentality which led to my siblings getting into a lot of trouble. My brother wasn’t happy about this and stormed off because his kids needs cousins. You want the best for your kids and I don’t even see my kids having an ok life so why would I try. The kid would likely be mentally retarded due to both parents having the gene. The person I’m seeing is basically a child in a adult woman’s body. I have no trust in her. Even if I took better care of myself I still have a lot of health issues that could take me out before the kid grows up. Am I the AITA for not wanting to bring a child into a shitty situation? ######

Response: NTA - you don't owe his kids cousins. ######


Prompt:
So I (25m) and my fiance (29f) are renting the house we live in from my mom (51f) with no written rental agreement. My mom wants us to assume the mortgage from her and we live here for the next 17 years until the mortgage is paid off.

The problem is that fiance and I both have to travel an hour or more to work and mom is using the house as her personal storage unit. Also the house needs a lot of work done to it because whoever added the additions to the house did a terrible job. We don't want to live in the house because we don't have room for our stuff and it is causing our relationship to have unnecessary arguments.

We want to live closer to work especially since I have to be to work at 5am. Whenever we say anything to mom about moving she replies "you won't ever find a better deal than what I'm offering, assuming the mortgage is your best option to own your own house." The last time I mentioned moving she said "how can I afford my camper if you move?"

So reddit WIBTA if fiance and I move? ######

Response: NTA - you don't need to be trapped in a house you dont want to live in, just because it's your moms. Let her rent it out to someone else. Get your own place, that suits your needs better, free of her stuff and closer to your work. ######


Prompt:
I live in a 4 bedroom apartment with 3 other guys. I haven’t had any issues with any of them up until now when the roommate on my side started dating this girl and she basically moved. This doesn’t particularly bother me but her kid is living here now. He didn’t ask any of us if this was okay (obviously I would’ve said hell no regardless). Kids are, by nature, noisy. She’s like 6, so she’s gonna play and be a kid. However, I didn’t sign up to live with a kid.

I was going to talk to him about it and let him know that it wasn’t cool that the kid lives here. But I think I’m just going to report it to the leasing office. He didn’t give us the decency of asking, so I figure why should I?

For God sakes, he doesn’t know any of us that well and they leave her to sleep in the living room (our common space) and all of her stuff is out there. I would be worried for my kids safety and be super uncomfortable with that - you never know what kind of people you’re around.

Am I the asshole here if I report him? ######

Response: NTA - you don't know each other that well and he didn't ask any of you.  So, IMO, TTA and they should have at least talked to everyone before they moved in. ######


Prompt:
Posting for a friend without Reddit:

I recently attended my child's wedding. His father and I split many years ago when he had an affair and got another woman pregnant. My ex husband has since passed away.

My child has a relationship with this half sibling and the kids that came after them. They attended the wedding.

AITA for not acknowledging them? Another wedding guest called me out for not speaking to them. I don't speak to them because I simply have no relationship with them (didn't recognise them until pointed out) and it is a painful chapter in my life.

Not that I wish them any ill will but I don't care to make small talk with my ex husband's kids. They are adults now and probably also don't want to make small talk with me either. This wedding guest seemed to think I was being rude.

AITA for this? ######

Response: NTA - you don't have to make conversation with people for appearances sake. If the kids aren't going to be hurt by your behaviour then you're not being assholeish. ######


Prompt:
So basically, this blonde girl kept giving me 50% off my Subway. I wasn't sure if it was a glitch or not but I noticed whenever she served me specifically my bank statement would always show my charge as half the price of what I normally pay. I suspect she was doing this purposely and it was meant to be a sweet gesture... And because of this, I avoided mentioning it to her as I thought it would come off as tone-deaf if I pointed out that she was undercharging me (if she was doing it on purpose).

This happened for about a month. And then one day their franchise owner was in the store doing a routine checkup on his staff members. He noticed me and immediately began snapping his fingers at me while calling me buddy sternly in order to get my attention. He asked me if I had come in the day before and then accused me of not paying for my sub the day prior (in front of his staff and customers). He then said he'd let it slide this time and that I could have yesterday's sub for free, but for me not to let it happen again.

I assume he's implying that he thinks I'm a thief. I walked out and checked my bank statements (which all said I had paid). So I can only assume he's alluding to his staff member giving me 50% off.

Am I an asshole for accepting what I presume would be this girl's staff discount?... ######

Response: NTA - you didn’t ask and it’s not your fault the girl did that. That manager was very much out of place. ######


Prompt:
My daughter is home right now from uni. We have a great relationship and we talk about random shit. My sister and her kids are also home right now because her appartement is getting fumigated.

To the story my daughter has known that she has fertility problems since her late teend, due to an illness. Luckily infertility and iron deficiency are the only symptoms.

We were talking while drinking a coffee in the living room where my sister was helping my niece with her homework. And I think we were talking about her last boyfriend or something and we were also watching one of those trashy shows on TV. Along the lines of 16 and pregnant. And she was like "uff imagine if I had done that to you when I was 16!" we laughed and then in a rather serious way I said "if that happened now to you tho, I would help you to raise the child no questions asked. Not even questioning who the father is". And I meant it. My daughter laughed and we moved on with our conversation.

When making dinner my sister comes to the kitchen and starts lecturing me about how I should not project my baby crazyness on my daughter. I was confused and she explained that the comment I made was hyper inappropriate specially seeing as daughter had the fertility problems. I toldy sister to keep her nose out of our business and that we have a good enough relationship that even if it was inappropriate, she would have told me herself.

Daughter is sleeping still and I just wonder if I stepped over a line. I like babies and I would like to be a grandma *some day*, but never in a thousand years would I pressure my daughter to become a mom because I want grand babies. ######

Response:
 NTA - you didn't even bring it up, you indicated that if a hypothetical situation that she brought up was to happen then you would be supportive

I've no idea how that could make you TA

People are strange! ######


Prompt:
I’ll do my best to keep this brief.

Earlier this week my parents came to visit my wife and I because we recently had another child. While they were visiting, my father used a word, which I won’t repeat, but it ends with a hard R, and I told him he can’t use that word in front of my children or in my home. Good time to mention my father and I are both white, my wife and children are not.

After some pretty low powered excuses for why he’s not a racist and how it’s just a word, I eventually said to him “You know, you may not think you’re a racist, but at the very least you’re complicit, so you should really drop the white supremacist bull shit, because your white fucking bloodline dies with me.” This is when he stormed out of the house, and out of the yard slamming every door he came across. I’ll mention, it was also the date on which my older brother would’ve turned 34 had he not passed two years ago.

Broke the latch on my fence gate, which I repaired today, Fathers Day ironically. That was Wednesday. After my mom and dad returned home (about a 6 hour drive), he texted my wife saying he was very sorry he left without saying goodbye to her or my kids. Today he finally texted me to wish me a happy Father’s Day and day he loved me. Honestly, I’m still pissed. My father has a history of pulling crap like this and then pretending nothing happened so that I look like the jerk for not ignoring the fact that he was in the wrong and wants to move forward without apologizing or even acknowledging he has done anything wrong.

There’s plenty of other examples of this kind of behavior from him in my past that I decided to forgive and forget (even though he never apologized) after my only brother died, but I am not going to tolerate racism and if he wants a relationship with his son or grandkids, I think he should apologize and I’m ignoring him until he does. Am I the asshole? ######

Response:
 NTA - you did the right thing.

Plus:
> because your white fucking bloodline dies with me.

Savage!  You hit a racist where it hurts.  Hopefully loving his grand kids can get him to realize that the racist crap is just crap ######


Prompt:
My swimming instructor said I passed all of the requirements for the first part of my course. Then he said the last part of my course required  me to do a practical test at another swimming location the next day. I drove all the way to the new swimming pool about 30 minutes away and went into the swimming centre. I saw my swimming instructor and other swimming classmates. My swimming instructor said “sorry, I forgot that your swimming level (I am doing bronze star) doesn’t require an practical test. The practical test is only for those doing bronze medallion and above.”
So me and my family went home.
Then weeks passed and I still have not received my bronze star certificate in the mail.

I went to the swimming pool and told a staff member I haven’t received my certificate. Then she told me to write my mobile number down so my swimming teacher can contact me. Weeks had passed and I did not get a phone call from the teacher.

I went to the swimming pool one day and happened to see my swimming teacher so I said that I still haven’t received my certificate. He said “that’s not my problem if you haven’t received your certificate”. I’m not the type to argue so I just left it there and came home and told my dad.

My dad said to email the swimming organisation and say that I haven’t received my certificate. They replied back and basically didn’t believe me. Then i had to reply back explaining the whole story, I even included the part where my teacher said “it’s not my problem”. Then finally the swimming organisation replied back and apologised. I received my certificate about two months late.

Then the following year I had that same swimming teacher again to teach me swimming. He basically ignored me the entire time. AITA for going to great lengths to get my certificate? I mean I did pay around $100 for the course. ######

Response: NTA - you deserve your certificate - you paid for the course. ######


Prompt:
My mother has two children, me (28M) and my sister (30F)

I’ve been with my wife for 7 years, she (34F) has a 9 year old son, I picked up the fatherly duties as his dad wasn’t around and he views me as his dad which I’m really happy about.

My mother is obsessed with having grandchildren, I always thought she saw my son as her grandson.

My wife and I Skyped my mother last week for her birthday (my sister and her husband were on the call too) when I mentioned the present I had delivered.

She said, maybe as a joke, “*the only present I want off you is a grand baby*”

I said that she’s already got one, my son- my wife and I are  considering adopting too.

To sum up what she said; he isn’t biologically mine, she wants a child who’s biologically related to her.

It’s literally impossible for me and my wife to have a child together.

I told her to call me when she isn’t so up herself.

Apparently she’s upset and my sister wants me to apologise for being so snappy and ruining our mothers birthday over a harmless comment that didn’t even offend my son.

AITA? ######

Response: NTA - You could say to your sister something along the lines of "A birthday is just one day. My son is going to be my son for the rest of my life. Her comment ruined the day and if she doesn't realise that, it could ruin a lifetime relationship with her grandchild." ######


Prompt:
For context. In 2006, when I was 8, my dad begun an affair with the mother of my best friend, who we’ll call Alison. My mum found out because of something I had said about them spending time together and filed for divorce some time after. My dad moved in with this woman, and although I still saw him three times a week, i was absolutely devastated because I felt he had left me. 2 years after he left, my dad died, creating a massive rift in my life.

Despite my dads will declaring he wanted to leave everything to me and my brothers, Alison practically demanded she keep everything and because my mum was so wrapped up in her own grief, and mine and my brothers, she gave up fighting it. She also paid off the life insurance on the house my dad and Alison had bought, because Alison asked her too. Also, despite my mum paying for the entire funeral cost, Alison planned the entire thing alone, and went against his wishes, we now have no headstone or grave as a result and that kills me every day. My entire family despises Alison, she stressed my dad out a lot and the doctors believed stress contributed to the heart attack which killed him.

Yesterday I was in the local supermarket and saw her, with her daughters. I tried avoiding eye contact with her as I do every time I see her, but instead of just leaving like she usually does when we run into eachother, she came over and tried to talk to me. I just said “not a chance this is happening” and turned around and walked away.

I do feel bad about the encounter as I never intend on being rude but she taunted me with my dads death for years, and a lot of the trauma I have experienced is because of her so I struggle allowing myself to feel bad.

AITA for ignoring her? ######

Response: NTA - You cannot fake being nice to someone you care nothing for.  You were civil. You didn't curse her out or flip her off which by the way are things I would have done. ######


Prompt:
We were stuck in line for a half hour to get into a store and he wouldn’t stop looking over at the pretty woman in a super short dress reading a book called “sex and rage.” He made multiple comments about her book but it was very clear he was looking at her sexually - she was very pretty and showing a lot of skin (no hate, just fact).

WIBTA if I told my bf that that made me uncomfortable today that it was so blatant and for so long and even commented on? I mentioned in line he kept staring and he didn’t say anything in response but I don’t see him responding to this well since he’s not very empathetic or emotionally mature. ######

Response: NTA - you can’t be wrong for expressing how you feel as long as you’re doing it in a good way. That situation would make anybody in a relationship feel uncomfortable/annoyed ######


Prompt:
So my GF and have been discussing getting married and having kids.

However last night we got into an argument over raising our kids.

She doesn't want them wasting away in front of a TV or being unhealthy... Ok that's fine with me.

However then she says that she doesn't really want our kids to do Easter, Halloween, and Christmas. Her reasons are that all they promote is consumerism and bad eating habits.

However I became angry because while yes I can understand that view, at the same time, it would be robbing our children of experiencing something fun of those holidays.

Her upbringing was not a happy one and she doesn't like the idea of lots of candy or spoiling children with gifts. She grew up with a very absent mother and no father. So she didn't have a very good experience with those holidays.

I can understand her stance, but I think about how much fun finding Easter eggs, going trick or treating is, and the magic of Christmas, and missing those or muting them down to just another day, bothers me.

Well I went to bed angry and so did she. I said well I guess we shouldn't have kids then. I woke up this morning feeling terrible for saying that. However I think the damage is done. I don't think this will work out.

It just sucks because I can feel those great memories and get view on those holidays, I can feel those memories being ripped from me.

Anywho that's it. So am I the asshole? ######

Response: NTA - you both have the right, whether people agree or not, to raise your children how you think best. I don’t agree with your wife at all as your children would be deprived growing up and feel excluded from everyone else. But that’s her opinion and if you guys can agree, then it might be time to split ######


Prompt:
My friend (22) was upset his girlfriend (20, still in college) cheated on him with his best friend and broke up with him right before he was going to break up with her.

He showed me his cellphone with about 30 pictures of his now exgf topless and doing other things, mainly oral. He looks at me and laughs, “I’m gonna make this b*tch famous on pornhub. He looked dead serious and said he wasn’t kidding.

I tried to explain to him how illegal this is and even without his face being in any of the pictures he would definitely face charges. I also mentioned how this would ruin her reputation because she goes to school with me and people would definitely find out. He told me she’s a slut so her reputation is already ruined. I took special note of how he didn’t even acknowledge my warning about him facing charges.

So when he went to the bathroom I grabbed his phone  (it was already unlocked) and deleted the pics. I’m pretty sure I got them all. I don’t know if his icloud backed them up but I didn’t go digging around for that. I told him what I did and ran out of his apartment door as he was screaming but unable to chase after me.

AITA for deleting potential revenge porn? ######

Response:
 NTA - you are obviously not the asshole.

Whether the girl cheated or not is irrelevant - revenge porn is cruel and over-the-top response.

Fingers crossed you got all of them.  This girl may never know what you did, but it was a really good thing. ######


Prompt: I have a friend who wanted wall sconce lights made.  He wanted 10 made and had a budget of $250USD.  This means that I would be doing them at a loss but as a favour I agreed.  I did one to his specifications and it was too long, he asked for the remainder to be done shorter.  I made them shorter and tested them in my own home to make sure the proportions were correct.  He harrasses me to finish them quickly (despite being for an airbnb that will get no bookings during a pandemic) and I finish them.  He then takes three weeks to pick them up.  After picking them up he tries them out and they dont work because he is using long lightbulbs that butt into the wood of the lightboxes.  I express that I am sorry that that happened but recommend he jjust buys shorter lightbulbs at $3-$8 a piece instead of making me do work valued at $450 for free because he was incapable of giving me correct measurements.  He is furious and I refuse to budge.  AITA? ######

Response: NTA - you are literally doing him a favor for barely anything. He has an easy fix for it to that'll barely add on to his cost. Instead, he wants you to spend hundreds of dollars fixing his mistake? Drop him as a friend. He takes advantage of your kindness, harrasses you to get it finished only to be too lazy to take the time to pick them up, and they won't be getting any use anyway. You did the job and well if the only complaint is his lightbulbs, which he measured inaccurately, don't fit. ######


Prompt:
On Twitter a video originally posted on tik tok has gone viral of a man building his wife a coffee table. In the video the wife says how she wanted a expensive coffee table but the husband says he will just build it for her.

I liked 2 retweets of the video. The first one says “I want a bob the builder a** husband” and the second one was “men forever asking can we cook, can y’all do this?” because UHM who wouldn’t want a husband who can build coffee tables?!

Here’s the issue! My boyfriend saw that i liked those tweets and accused me of wanting another man who can build me coffee tables. My response was “.... can you not build stuff?” because i thought he was really good at those things. He told me that i didn’t like those tweets because of him and told me to go find a “bob the builder a** dude” since i wanted someone else.

He said i liked the tweets because of the guy in the video.... i’m super confused because the guy is literally building his WIFE a table and i thought it was super cute too! I think every girl whether or not she has a boyfriend would love a husband who can build things. That doesn’t mean she wants someone that isn’t her boyfriend.

He has now blocked me and called me a hoe. So, AITA? ######

Response: NTA - you are allowed to have your own opinion. If boyfriend(now ex?) doesn’t agree, he should be able to have a civil conversation about his feelings towards it. ######


Prompt:
I've been with my gf for a while and we are both 16. Her parents keep asking me to tell my gf to do things. Like they'll tell me to tell her she needs to study, finish her homework, eat less junk food, go on her phone less, wake up earlier, etc. The first few times I told my gf "your parents told me to tell you x" and she would just complain about her parents being annoying. We started joking around about me being her parent and I'd jokingly say things like "take out the trash young woman" or "go to your room".

Her parents kept asking me to tell my gf things. I usually didn't even bring up to my gf what her parents are saying after a while. Then they'd call or text and ask if I told her and if I can ask her again as she still isn't doing what they want. I told them " I'm her partner not her boss. I'm not going to try to parent her. If I'm worried about her I'll talk to her privately but I'm not going to monitor stuff like if she is sleeping in late or not studying enough. It isn't my job to do that." They called me disrespectful and said I should be looking out for my gf. ######

Response:
 NTA - you are acting like a respectful partner. This parent-child relationship sounds incredibly controlling, like they are passing you the torch of "shaping her into a respectable young lady"

creepy to the max.

You are young and I don't know if the relationship will last - not because of her parents, but like normal relationships come and pass - but you ARE looking out for her, by respecting her as her own person and not giving in to her parents pressure.
That is the very best you can do as a partner, so continue to do that ######


Prompt:
I [16M] started dating my girlfriend 2 years ago. I also got super super into baking around that time. I bake a lot. My girlfriend loves desserts. So I've given her a ton of stuff I bake, all kinds of different stuff. I often try to bake something new and then she gets to try something new. I honestly love baking way more than eating it. My girlfriend is the opposite.

Well recently she gave me a scrapbook she made. She had counted every thing I baked her apparently, and she gave me this scrapbook after I baked her, her 100th dessert. It was filled with a picture of every dessert I've baked and pictures of me baking  and her eating. She wrote a paragraph about each item I baked. Each item was dated too. She had been working on this for 2 years. She also wrote a long letter on how proud she is of my baking hobby, thanking me for the sweets, and telling me how much she loves me. It was the sweetest gift I've ever gotten and I honestly cried.

I showed my mom and sister expecting them to think its cute but they were pissed. They were angry I've spent so much time baking for my girlfriend and not them. I just got into this habit and I loved making my girlfriend happy as well since she loves desserts. ######

Response: NTA - you and your girlfriend sound sweet and your family sounds bitter ######


Prompt:
I (15f) am getting tired of my sister (20) constantly stealing my stuff, mostly my art supplies. My supplies was a couple of pallets and paint brushes, I paid for all of these myself, I don’t have a job yet so it’s hard for me to buy new supplies so I use my supplies cautiously.

It started when I was using my paint supplies on a project that I had to finish. My sister was playing with my niece. I left to go to the bathroom and feed my cat and when I came back, she stole one of my pallets and excessively stacked paint all over it. She was also using my most delicate/expensive paint brushes. I quickly grabbed the paint brush away and I got pissed off and yelled at her for grabbing my stuff. She quickly tried to make me a bad person for “ruining her bonding time” with her niece (even though she was the one painting and not my niece).

I left to go clean up my brushes and when I came back, she started painting that same pallet on top of my project and let my niece use a sheet of paper to paint. This time, she took out her own box of paints and brushes. She used her own brushes for her and my niece, but continued to use my paints.

I took away my stuff and put them in my box and my sister tried to make me the bad person by saying that “niece just wanted paint” and “I wouldn’t let niece use my stuff”.
I would have gladly let them paint with my pallets if they just asked, but they didn’t

Note: my sister has her own money to be able to buy her own stuff and has 3x more supplies than I do. ######

Response: NTA - Yes, your sister wanted to paint with your niece, that's cute and fine, but not of they're using your supplies. Those are your belongings, and she should have asked in the first place. (maybe you could win some cool aunt bonus points and get your niece one of those cheap lil paint sets for kids?) ######


Prompt:
This isn’t a shitpost, I’m still reeling and tbh even if I am the asshole I’m so incensed I don’t think I can regret what happened.

However my bf thinks I was indeed the asshole so I’m here for sake good ol’ fashioned judgement.

We have a shared laundry room in my apartments, I was dealing with my basket of clean laundry and was folding as I was going. I had 2 baskets, 1 full of jumbled bedsheets and blanket and 1 for my folded laundry ready to take up.

There was a lady there with her kid,she was sitting completely ignoring her kid on her phone. The kid was running around and pulling things, pushing buttons, twisting settings on random machines etc.

She didn’t once stop to tell her daughter to behave. At one point she crawled on her belly halfway under some benches and when she came back out she was covered in dust and filth.

I carried on with my folding giving the girl death glares cuz she kept looking over to my basket and asking her mom if she could ‘touch the blankie cuz it’s pink’

Her mom kept grunting without looking up. I turned around to sweep in the dryer to make sure I hadn’t forgotten anything and lo and behold when I turned around the kid had handfuls of my blanket in her grimy ass hands.

I yelled (didn’t mean to, I just said loudly ‘WHAT are you doing??’) and the mom *immediately* got up and started to cuss me out. I was pretty pissed cuz I only have 1 blanket to sleep with (everything in storage elsewhere rn) and so I snapped back that she was a bad parent and negligent.

The kid literally wasn’t bothered, she was back to crawling and the mom literally looked like she was gonna throw hands so I left. I told my bf this on the phone fuming and he said I acted like an asshole and a Karen. ######

Response: NTA - yes it is hard being a parent but the mother should have at least been paying some attention to her daughter, and shouldn't have shouted at you for your reaction. It also isn't just your clothes she has messed up. If she was letting the daughter turn the washing machine dials she could easily have changed the settings of an ongoing wash to a higher temperature making colours run, or off sensitive to something that could damage the clothes. ######


Prompt:
This one is pretty straightforward. My husband and I have been married for two years. Ever since our wedding night, my MIL has been talking about grandchildren. Nonstop. I understand she’s excited. It’s a thing mother in laws do. Whatever. Up until December, I would just shrug it off. I wasn’t ready for a baby and neither was my husband. We were happy building our careers, and - sure - having a baby was a definite long-term plan of ours, but we just weren’t ready. Not yet.

Well, in December, I found out I can’t have children. My husband and I were pretty crushed. After that, my MIL’s small remarks about “grand babies” made my heart sink. Around the new year, my husband and I asked her to (please.) stop asking and making comments about us having children because it made us uncomfortable. And she did! It was great.

Then corona hit and, well, up until very recently, I hadn’t seen anyone but my husband in months. He and I have started to accept the fact that we may never have a biological child,  and we’ve even discussed adoption/other options at length. It’s been a process, but we’ve been communicating about it. It’s been really good for us.

The first time I saw my MIL post-quarantine, last week, she immediately made a comment about how since my husband and I have spent so much time together, she’s bound to have a grand baby for the new year. Before I could even think, I snapped, “no, and you probably never will because I’m infertile.”

She looked crestfallen and was mortified. I didn’t mean to snap at her like that, but it just came out of me. Initially, my husband was super supportive and kept telling me that this was on her, and we had asked her to stop asking. Now, he wants ME to apologize, saying his mother keeps crying on the phone with him because she thinks I hate her. So... I have to apologize? I know what I did was abrupt. I own that. But, I don’t think I should apologize.

Am I the asshole? ######

Response: NTA - yeah you snapped, but she was pushing it by constantly going on about grandkids. I don't think you should have to apologise but it's also not a cut all contact type of moment.  If you're able to have a conversation with her and allow her to apologise maybe you can all move past this. ######


Prompt:
So a little back story my boyfriend and I have been together for 2 years. I stay at his house 5 days a week and mine 2. I am renting to own my place and he owns his. I have 3 kids from a previous marriage. Now my prior marriage ended when my child’s father had a year long affair and then kicked myself and our children out of our home and moved his mistress in resulting in my and my children being homeless and sleeping in our car in the Walmart parking lot.

Now my boyfriend and I were having a talk about our relationship and the future and I asked about moving in someday since I stay there 5 days a week and he said yeah you probably can’t live here because I don’t want to give you half of what I own if you decided to leave. Then I asked what if we stayed together for 50 years and he said that his house would go to his sister and that she would probably let me still live here if I needed to but he wanted his stuff to stay in his family.

Now that terrifies me because I never want to be homeless. Then I told him that I wanted another child and he said “why do you can put me on child support when you leave and still get the house because it will go to my kids and then you’ll be here and probably sell it out from under him”

Now at this point I’m really questioning why he’s giving me such rude answers because we’ve been together awhile and I just want to know if we have a future together and he’s calling me a gold digger. I haven’t spoke to him in a few days and he’s left several mean voicemails saying I’m overreacting and that “this proves it to him how I am” AITA here? ######

Response:
 NTA - wtf? You sure you want to live with him OP?

Have you discussed i dunno a possible prenup?

Your boyfriend sounds like a child tbh. ######


Prompt: Me, my son, and my daughter go swimming in my pool a lot together. Their mother is MIA. Its been pretty hot here lately so its a good way to cool down as well and we do it very often. My daughter said she wanted to start swimming in the pool topless since me and my son do and its hot. She said it'd be unfair and sexist to let my son and myself swim topless but not her. Obviously girls have boobs but I still take her point so I agreed to let her. So now she swims topless always. Sometimes she swims alone, but we usually all swim at the same time. Her twin brother doesn't mind either. Its also impossible for anyone outside the house to see us when we are swimmimg. My parents said its inappropriate for us to see her breasts when I mentioned it and made a fuss about it. ######

Response:
 NTA - wow, a father that doesn’t sexualise his daughters breasts

You might be the first one I have ever seen on this sub ######


Prompt:
I am 22 and a dude, my coworker who is retiring is 67 and a woman. I’ve been working for my current company for around eight months now, she’s done such a great job of mentoring me and giving me the tools, and the mentality, to succeed in my career.  We’ve never had any sort of relationship that could even remotely be considered inappropriate, if you go through my texts we only communicate on work related matters and I’ve never even seen her outside of work or work related events. Today was her last day of work, she’s got around a year of PTO built up and so she’s taking it all starting today. I admittedly procrastinated on getting her a retirement gift, I was always planning on getting her a nice bottle of red wine and a card because wine’s her favorite thing in the world.

So I was gonna leave early before work so I could stop by the liquor store, my girlfriend asked where I was going, I told her I was going to the winery and I said it’s Dianne’s last day cause she’s retiring and I was gonna get her some wine. She questioned that and said it’s not appropriate and I asked why not, and she said she’s just not comfortable with it. Again I asked why not, and she said that that’s supposed to be a gift for lovers or close relations and not coworkers. I just shrugged and said that’s your opinion but I don’t feel that way and neither does anyone at my workplace. She said she’s uncomfortable with it and I said I get that, and I understand your fears and you’re entitled to feel that way but I’m still going to do it regardless.

I got her the wine, and for what it’s worth my gift paled in comparison to everyone else’s so it was definitely appropriate, but my girlfriend is mad and is refusing to speak to me, which is a bit childish because I don’t feel like I’ve done anything wrong. ######

Response: NTA - wine is a totally neutral and appropriate gift to give someone retiring. It’s super nice you wanted to thank her for her work and helping you.  It’s extremely odd your girlfriend is acting jealous of an older woman at your job . ######


Prompt:
I came to live with my parents in Alaska when Universities told their students to go home and I just graduated. Even though I’m on social security, I still managed to save some money for an emergency. I had to leave all of my home goods in the lower 48 and I’m expected to pay for my vehicle and possessions to be driven here. But that’s not the issue.
My sister and her fiancé decided to move back home too because of some hard financial hits and coronavirus cutting her work hours. I asked if I could move in with her when the time comes because generally just want to get a different job and don’t want to live with my parents anymore. I told her I would help pay rent and that we would have strictly roommate relationship rules. She didn’t say anything at first, but a couple days later asked to borrow money from me for the entire deposit, I said yes and that’s when she informed me I wouldn’t be allowed to move with her.

So I’m wanting to know if I would be the asshole if I told her I changed my mind about loaning her the money? I already said I would, I know she’s in a financial situation and I’ll probably never see the money again, but what she did really just... yeah. ######

Response: NTA - why would you put a deposit on a place you won’t be living, when you’ll need a deposit yourself to move into your own place?  She’s being unrealistically selfish. ######


Prompt:
I heard you are asshole aficionados here, and this is tangentially related to a literal one.

I work at a welding shop in the midwest.  It's hot, I sweat.  The toilet paper supplied by work is tough-guy TP: don't take crap off nobody, and you'll bleed if you try.

The last thing I need is a mud problem on a hot summer day.

So I be a little proactive, bring some brand name stuff here.  I don't have a locker, so I leave at my desk.  Do my business, have a fresh rest of my day.

Work is 24 hours, 7 days a week, divided into three shifts.  I come in, the damn thing is near empty.  Off shift workers took turns with my TP to their anuses like a three dollar hooker.

I've since requested a locker but told them it wasn't ok (stern, not yelling) and I have since started keeping the TP in my car, which is a three minute walk from the shop, so any emergencies I am shit creek.  The off shift now thinks I'm an asshole - so let me ask: AM I the asshole here? ######

Response: NTA - why should you buy tp for everyone else at work? ######


Prompt: My dad forced me (age 15 male) into the dual enrollment program at only 15 (if you don’t know what that is, it’s where you go to college and high school at the same time). I have gone to the same small town private school with about 100 students since kindergarten. I’ve never had to try at this school. Everyone gets all As. The curriculum is super easy and everything is pretty much busy work. My dad thinks I’m a super genius and holds me up to crazy standards even though I’ve never really had to try in my whole school career. But college is a whole different world. I worked my ass off and I’m talking about I seriously worked my ass off to get an 87 in a class full of 20 year olds and I just turned 15. My dad learns about this and he absolutely flips. Yelling at me about how I’m going to be a failure in life and that he’s grounding me for the whole summer and how I’m a disappointment and a disgrace to the family. He told me if I didn’t make all As I would never be accepted to a college after high school. This has been going on for a week now. He’s been emailing all my high school teachers and apologizing for my “laziness” and “irresponsibleness” and that he will “discipline me accordingly” even though I make all As in high school. I lashed out on him and told him he can’t speak and told him he was a failure himself because of all of his failed marriages, his kids that he has never even met, the fact he can’t keep a job just to name a few. And now my grandparents and my dad have been pissed of at me for a week now and I don’t know what to do. AITA? ######

Response: NTA - why is he e-mailing your teachers in HS when he's upset about your grades in college? Dude has some crazy high unrealistic views of how he wants your life to be. I don't blame you for lashing out at him, he seems obsessed ######


Prompt:
yea yea i know we’re all sick of leg shaving posts here but i need a second opinion.

i’m currently living with my dad for various reasons after not living with him for a few years. he’s been dropping hints the past day or two that he wants me to shave my legs (ex. commenting on it, offering me a fresh razor) but i don’t want to for various reasons like razor burn. and also we’re not going anywhere where i’d show my legs so why does it matter?

today when i got out of the shower he asked me if i finally shaved my legs and i said no. he said that he thought my legs were “unsightly” (i have dark thick hair and pale skin so i admit the hair does show up quite a bit). i told him about razor burn and ingrown hairs. he replied that “i’ve never met a woman before who didn’t shave their legs”. i answered that most women do not shave their legs when they don’t need to for the aforementioned reasons. he just repeated the same thing. then i started to get mad and i said “i don’t like seeing your arm hair but i don’t ask you to shave it so why do you keep asking me” and he said “don’t get on my case”.

i was really upset at this point, because it felt like he was valuing his aesthetic preference over my comfort. i told him that and once again he said i’m the only girl he’s ever seen who doesn’t shave my legs. i went to my room and now i’m sitting here alone, and i wonder if i was too harsh on him or could i have explained it better. he sounded really exasperated which admittedly made me more upset so i was yelling a bit. maybe i am an asshole but i think he’s one too for not listening to me. i even said “go look online about reasons why women don’t like constantly shaving their legs” and he said “i’m not doing that.” or maybe i’m just making excuses. i don’t know, i’m so frustrated. that’s why i want second opinion(s).

so reddit AITA? and what do i do if i am or am not? ######

Response: NTA - why does your dad care? It's your body and you should be able to chose whether you shave or not. ######


Prompt:
This is so stupid I can't even believe I am typing it out on my mobile but here it is folks cabin fever maybe getting to me so I need some nonbias perspective on this.

So my BF and I are gamers, currently, both of us are WFH. Now, normally gaming time is limited for both of us because of long hours at work and weekends are reserved for downtime. We each have our own systems I have a ps4 pro he has an Xbox one. I personally don't like the Xbox platform (I have my reasons) while he is a lot more versatile. So I will stick to gaming on my ps4 while he bounces in between the two.

Usually, he will every once in a great while play on the ps4. But lately, he's been playing only been playing it for the last two weeks it's to the point where I don't even get a chance to play. Plus the ps4 is in our bedroom he will play into the wee hours of the morning while I'm trying to sleep (I never do this to him). He knows I don't like the Xbox, I also am not into the type of he has for it I like RPGs and buy these, while he buys more strategic games or MMO first-person shooter games which admittedly I hate lol. Idk why but I get very disoriented while playing them. Not only this but he's gone in and beat some of the games I was playing so now I have to start all over.

When I've hinted I would like to play on the ps4 he will say oh just a bit longer, or why don't you go play a game on the Xbox. Basically just brushing me off and it's starting to really aggravate the piss out of me. WIBTA if I told him he needs to stop playing on my ps4 constantly and finishing my games? And also that he's being rude playing at night in the bedroom when I am trying to sleep? ######

Response:
 NTA - Why can't he just play his Xbox, he knows well enough that you don't like that system and only want to play yours. If it's the type of game, then for now a timetable needs to be established for when and how long he can play the PS4. Ultimately, the PS4 is yours, so you have full control over who plays it.

Also he doesn't have his own save files? He doesn't have his own profile either? I know a few games that only use one but he's an adult familiar with gaming so, he definitely should be playing his own saves. If the game only has one, then make a rule that you get to finish the game first if you started it. Right now, he's being extremely inconsiderate. ######


Prompt: Hello all, first time poster. Today (well, yesterday 33 minutes ago) was my 29th birthday and my girlfriend of 4 years raised a point I honestly hadn't considered until now. When I was 3, my mother and father divorced and split custody until I was 18, with them both being remarried when I was in 3rd and 5th grade respectively. My dad has since passed on (2010) at 58 and my stepmother remarried again, so my mother and stepfather are the extent of my family (no siblings, distant extended family, all grandparents deceased). Anyhow, when I was 8, my mother and stepfather got remarried and I treated the whole process as normal until I actually started developing a little emotional intelligence and had someone who I trust ask how I felt about it. As a kid and young adult, I was very much a people pleaser and more or less assumed it was just something it was my responsibility to accept. As an adult of 29, it was a little irritating to see my stepfather post endless pictures of his anniversary celebration and I haven't heard from him yet. I know I shouldn't care but it's particularly irritating because I make a point of calling him on his birthday AND father's day every year, in contrast to several years where his own kids from his previous marriage (3, early 40s to late 30s) forgot. Anyhow, I appreciate any input as I process this for the first time in my life. ######

Response: NTA - who plans a wedding for your own child's birthday?! That is really weird. ######


Prompt:
We had a staff meeting via zoom few hours ago.

One of our coworkers was in the “protests” and was joining the meeting from there, I tried to ignore the loud noises behind him.

Then in the middle of the meeting, he turned off the front camera and switched it to the back camera and started streaming what was going on behind him in the protest.

I told him this was very unprofessional and he will be getting into big trouble and let’s hope he doesn’t lose his job for what he did and then kicked him out.

AITA reddit? ######

Response: NTA - Who joins a work meeting while in the middle of a protest? Not exactly professional. ######


Prompt:
Title says most of it. I will preface and say that I am angry typing right now.

So I have today off work. One glorious day. I am 18 weeks pregnant, so my body is already starting to hurt, but I am a nurse- so my feet are pounding from 16 hour shifts.

I usually get up at 345 to get ready to be at work by 430. I leave the house quietly, after packing lunch for husband +2 kids, making sure everything is in order, and feeding/letting dogs out. I’ve always been the person who sees the sun and thinks “oh hey- time to get up!” Sometimes I can fall back asleep, but it’s rare.

So husbands alarms start going off at 5a. Automatically, I’m up. He lets the dogs out, and gets back in bed. Alarms continue to go off. I swear this man can sleep through anything. But please- tell me why the fuck your alarms are set at 5 when you don’t have to be at work until 10, and you don’t even work today?! Most days he doesn’t even think about getting up until around 8.

I asked him to please let the dogs in so that I could sleep a little longer. Kids are still asleep, no worry there. Just please let the dogs in so that they’ll stop barking at the neighbors rooster. Didn’t ask him to feed them, nothing.

And that’s when I go hit with “why are you so lazy in the morning? Some of us want to sleep too!!”

Now I’m wondering if I truly am TA, because I wanted to sleep a little. Or if he’s TA who refuses to get his ass up and help out a little. ######

Response: NTA - who has alarms set when everyone has a day off? And then does only half of the job that needs to be done early in the morning? Sleep is critical, especially when you are growing a teacup human. Your body needs time to catch up. ######


Prompt:
My parents wanted me to become a doctor since I was a kid. Even though I had always made it very obvious that I'm not interested at all in studying medicine. I want to study business administration.

I finished high school this year, and have to choose between what career path to choose. My parents died in a car accident over a month ago, and now my family is pressuring me to fulfill their wish.

I've been told that I'm a narcissist, and that I'm self-centered, egoistic and insensitive for not considering their wishes for my future since their death.

AITA for still wanting to pursue the career path that I chose for myself? ######

Response: NTA - while your parents might wanted you to become a doctor, I do think they wanted you to be happy more than this. But the real assholes here the people (I assume relatives) calling you narcissist because what the hell do they know. And how dare they assume they know what your parents wanted. I would be infuriated at them. ######


Prompt:
So I met with a friend this past weekend to chat. We're both 21M white guys and go to the same college, but live about 45 minutes away. We decide to meet halfway at this one cafe.

Anyways, we're chatting about various life topics and the discussion of haircuts come up. He says that not being able to get a haircut is good because he can "blend in" with everyone having bad haircuts (or something along those lines.) Now I've gone to places such as Great Clips my whole life, and started going to a local black barbershop about 3 years ago. The difference was night and day in terms of both the experience and quality of haircut.

So I said to him, "You should try going to a black barbershop. They always get you right" and told him about how good my hair always is, and how the barbers make you feel at home. He responded with a simple "yeah I understand." And we changed the conversation and everything was good I thought.

Today I texted him and asked if he wanted to meet again and he texted back saying he'd be happy to but added "don't bring up weird topics again" I asked him what he meant and he brought up what I told him and said I was borderline racist?? I don't understand what exactly I did wrong in this situation and confused on how it could be racist.

AITA? ######

Response: NTA - Whether or not it's a "stereotype", I'm almost positive this is a real thing. I'm white and I have typically gotten my hair cut by black barbers. It's not racist - it's a different style in terms of how they go about cutting your hair. I feel like he definitely overreacted and frankly, I'm not a fan of people deciding to get offended for other ethnic groups that they aren't a part of, with the exception being clear-cut and/or egregious offenses. ######


Prompt:
Our son(16) had bulimia, he’s recovering. Almost every time he goes to bathroom, my wife follows him and stands right by the door. I understand that she’s really worried, I am too, but I think she’s doing too much here. Our son has asked her to stop, she stops for 2-3 days and then does the same.

Yesterday I had a talk with her and asked her to stop doing it because it makes our son really uncomfortable. She got upset and said that I’m being insensitive and not considering her feeling. We haven’t talked about it more and she’s giving me cold shoulder. ######

Response:
 NTA - what your wife is doing to make *herself* feel better, is making your son (the one battling an eating disorder) feel *much much worse*.

As a parent, you don’t get to make yourself feel better to the detriment of your sick child like this - no offense, but it’s disgusting.

I know what all of you are going through is crazy right now, but if your wife isn’t part of the solution (love, support), she is part of the problem (contributing to anxiety).

Don’t let your wife be part of the problem.  Protect your son. ######


Prompt:
When my wife was younger she lived off takeaways or she didn't eat, her dad would buy her 2litre bottles  of coke when she was 6+ so she never really had that healthy relationship with food, she also never got to leave the house unless it was for school.

She is obsessed with eating healthy and exercising, this became worse when we had children (13F,11F,4M)

The children love exercise and that's great, our eldest is in football and track and our other daughter is in gymnastics and ballet.

My wife loves making them eat healthy too, their breakfast this morning was a spinach and tuna wrap with a fruit salad on side

Their lunch is going to be Shaved Carrot and Radish Salad.

They're allowed one cheat snack a week but the rest of the time they're only allowed fruit or vegetables and that's great but they should be allowed stuff like biscuits in my opinion.

This is where the problem has started, I'm a little frustrated at the food because let them be kids and stop taking your own issues out on them,  then while they're playing video games in the study she comes in trying to get our eldest to come out and play football in the garden with her and the youngest.

Her; hey *eldest* come play football with me and your brother? Better than sitting around all day and not being productive!

Me; babe, kids are allowed to have some lazy days it's fine!

Her; no it isn't! They should be out exercising, getting fresh air, NOT getting eye strain on the console

(Their screen time used to be 2hrs a week on xbox)

I may have snapped and told her to leave the children alone.

She got all teary eyed and we haven't spoken since.

I thought I was in the right but after speaking to my sister she says I was the AH
AITA? ######

Response: NTA - What your wife is doing is also not creating healthy options with exercise and eating. What is going to happen as these kids get more independent? They're going to discover some stuff and have to develop their own method of self-control when they don't have it because your wife has been over the top. ######


Prompt:
So, to preface, I'm a guy who works as a bagger in a grocery store whose name rhymes with ogre. Management is pretty anal about phones, so occasionally when I'm in the bathroom sitting down to do my business i'll check my phone. Most of my coworkers do this. I don't stay in there an overly long time and once I'm done i don't linger, so i doubt this affects my productivity.

This morning my boss saw me on my phone through the crack in the stall, and called me out on it. Fine, i was in the wrong there. But it makes my skin crawl to think someone's watching me do my business regardless of intent, and I'm pretty sure if I was a girl that would be grounds for a harassment lawsuit. ######

Response:
 NTA - what is it about low level management and their obsession with thier employees bathroom habits?  I had this many years ago when I worked in a call centre. Every bathroom break was timed and we would be interrogated if we were “off the dialler” for more than 4 minutes.

“What were you doing in there? The guys manage to stay under 4 minutes”

“I was unzipping, sitting down, doing my stuff, wiping, changing my tampon, standing up, zipping myself back up, walking out of the stall and washing my hands”

“Ok ok TMI!!” ######


Prompt: Not too much to say, but she wants to lose weight and I keep telling her not eating isnt the way to go, she needs to just eat the right type of foods and exercise. But shes really mad that I dont want her to only have water for 20 days to lose weight. AITA? ######

Response:
 NTA - water fasting is not recommended for more than 72hrs without medical supervision.

Tell her if she's serious, she should consult with her primary doctor (who will tell her hell no). ######


Prompt:
My boyfriend (22M) and I (22F) bought an ounce of weed together and split the cost in half and then divided it in two. We don’t live together so I figured when he’d come to mine, we’d smoke my half and when I’d go to his, we’d smoke his half. So basically, he smoked all of his and I’ve been giving him some of mine or bringing mine over to his place. This is where I get mad...

We work together and we headed straight to work from his place so I had my bag full of the things I brought to his place the night before in the break room. At the end of the night, he drove me home and we said goodnight to each other. I figured he’d ask me for some weed, but he didn’t which I thought was strange.

I get inside, go to get my weed so I can pack my bong after a double shift of work. I get to the bag and see that my pax and most of the weed I had is gone. I was really bothered by this because he went through my purse behind my back, didn’t even mention it to me. I called him and asked if he went through my purse and he just starts saying my name over and over again in a monotone and tired voice talking to me like he did nothing wrong and that I’m freaking out for no reason. I told him that I don’t care about the weed I care that he was being sneaky. He started saying that he didn’t think it was a big deal and he just wanted a relaxing night to himself. I admit I was getting angry and I said I just don’t know why you have to be sneaky about it. He said he’d talk to me tomorrow after I calmed down a little and hung up when I was about to defend my position.

This isn’t a unique situation where my boyfriend has got into things that I have not given him permission to go into.

So, AITA? Sometimes after we have a disagreement, he has a way of convincing me that what I’m feeling isn’t correct and I may be a little off emotionally. ######

Response:
 NTA - Though I think the bigger issue here is why he didn't simply ask you?

I'm not one of those "omg druuuugs!" people, but if your boyfriend is that anxious for weed he thinks it's okay to steal yours, he might have a problem. Either way though, even if it's not about a possible substance problem, what you've described, especially in your last sentence, is gaslighting. ######


Prompt:
Throwaway account, on mobile, first time poster, etc.

My partner (20M) “Jack” and I (20F) recently decided to get married. We have been starting to plan some broad aspects of our wedding so we’ll know more of what we’re looking for when we set them in stone. One thing we’ve started looking at is the number of guests we’re going to be inviting, since we want it to be as small of an affair as it can be with our large families.

This has me a little concerned about two guests I really want to invite: my ex best friend “Lindy”’s (20F) parents. Lindy and I were friends for about 15 years, but she basically ghosted me and told me I wasn’t her friend and she didn’t want me to contact her ever again. However, I have maintained some contact with her parents, who actually took my side and apologized for her. We have met in public a few times (I live in a different city now so not often) and they have met Jack. I sent them a card when they went through a tragedy, whenever we run into each other they are always so happy to see me. Overall I would say my relationship with them is great, and if they were not her parents there would be no question that we would invite them to the wedding.

I don’t know if I’d be an asshole for inviting them, since I have zero interest in inviting Lindy. If I invited them, I’m concerned it would look like I was still bitter toward Lindy. Also, I feel bad for probably putting them in a tough position, having to choose between myself and their daughter.

I asked Jack what he thought about it, and he said that if I would invite them if Lindy wasn’t their daughter, it shouldn’t make a difference that she is their daughter, especially since she was the one who ended the friendship and not me. I am still unsure, but I want to sort this out ASAP so that it doesn’t become a major stresser for me later.

WIBTA if I invited them even though I’m not inviting their daughter? ######

Response:
 NTA - This would be no different if you knew an older couple that had a daughter that you didn’t know. You would invite the people you like and know.

Your former friend might be upset. And honestly she should be.  People shouldn’t treat their friends in such a fashion. Friendships end, but to declare it over - is immature. ######


Prompt: I just found out that my husband agreed to be written into his sister's will saying we will adopt her two daughters if anything happens to her and her husband. This has never been discussed. He works away all the time so it would actually be me looking after them. I know it's a 'hopefully it'll never happen' thing but still I feel I should have been consulted. And none of my OH family can understand why I'm pissed off about this. I want it removed but they say it'll never come to that anyway. AITA? ######

Response: NTA - This was a complete violation for your husband to make this promise on your behalf. Don't worry about the larger family, *he's* the one who should realize his (huge) mistake and fix things. ######


Prompt:
A little background info; we just had a baby five months ago, I’m working from home juggling everything and he just sits around and stares at his phone when he’s home from work. His only contributions to the house are taking out the garbage and scooping cat litter. I make double what he makes, pay the majority of the bills and pay for 98% of the expenses for our child.

So since the baby has been born, my husband loves to ask stupid questions he can obviously see the answers to, like the bottle is in my baby’s mouth and she’s sucking, and he’s asking “is she eating?” (This happens every feeding he’s home to see) if I’m making dinner, he’ll walk into the kitchen and ask if I’m making dinner, when all he has to do is look and he’ll see I am. It’s incessant, and I’m actually more tired answering him all day than I am from working and the baby.

Today the baby woke up earlier than normal, due to a poopy diaper. She’s a pretty happy girl, but can be a handful. He came in while I was mid poop cleaning and asked if she pooped. 20 minutes later, she spit up on me, it got on my shirt, so I stripped it off and went with her to the closet to put a new one on. “Are you changing your shirt?” I lost it.

I’m not sure if I’m TA or not, because after 5 months of this, I cannot take it anymore. I asked him why he’s constantly asking questions he can observe and see the responses to, and how obvious they are, and he said “I don’t care what you do” Well, you obviously do if you’re up my ass all day long.

So, Reddit, AITA for asking him to stop? ######

Response:
 NTA - This scene between Summer and Jerry, on Rick & Morty, comes to mind...

https://m.youtube.com/watch?v=Si-s4xLZU5w

Jerry walks into the living room where the TV is on, and Summer is on her phone...

“Jerry: What' you doing? Watching some tv, playing on your phone?

Summer: Is that a real question?

Jerry: Just making conversation.

Summer: Are you? What part of that gives me anything to work with? My choice is to: say nothing, be sarcastic, or bark "yes" like a trained animal. It's not a conversation; you're holding me verbally hostage.” ######


Prompt:
My great-great-grandmother’s engagement ring has been in our family for generations and is traditionally given to the oldest son to propose to his future wife with. Per that tradition the ring should go to my older brother Jake, who is gay and wants to propose to his partner of four years, Ben. However my mom refused and said that the ring should go to my younger brother Mike instead because Ben is not a woman and gay marriage is not legal in our country. She suggested having another ring made for Ben using some of the other jewelry that belonged to my grandmother.

I’m the middle child and I’m female so the ring won’t go to me either way, (not that I want it because I’m not a fan of the vintage look) and I’ve tried to stay out of the discussion. Jake asked me to help him convince our mom that she’s being homophobic and she should give the ring to Jake to propose to Ben with in accordance to the family tradition. When I told him that I don’t really want to get involved in their argument, he accused me of being homophobic.

For the record, I’m fine with Jake’s sexual orientation and I fully accept Ben as his partner. I just don’t want to back anyone because I think they both have a point and I’m not even sure who’s ‘more’ right. My parents are very traditional but they’ve done their best to accept Jake and Ben. We invite Ben to all of our family’s events, my mom tries to bond with him by teaching him how to cook Jake’s favorite foods growing up, and my dad gifted Ben with a gold necklace engraved with Jake’s name on his last birthday.

Am I the asshole for wanting to stay out of this instead of taking Jake's side? ######

Response:
 NTA - This really has 0 to do with you.
The fight is between them. ######


Prompt:
She hasn't bathed, changed clothes, or done any household things since Animal crossing/doom released. I pre-ordered both and a few more things for her as a semi early anniversary gift and she absolutely loves them... Too much.

I didn't say a word the first few days, I understand excitement but once it got close to a week I made a bath for her and she said she'd get to it later. Later as in 2 hours when the water was cold so she was no longer interested. After that I'd remind her every other day before work but no luck. I'd come home and she'd still be in the same clothes, playing something, and "starving" half the time because she'd get too into the game and forget to eat. I'd cook supper and hear about her day which would always be game accomplishments.

 She has no known mental health problems and it's definitely not depression, in fact it feels quite the opposite. She gets super happy and excited about almost anything and bad news is always faced with optimism. I knew she'd cling to the games but I would have never imagined it being this bad.

Today she was able to start playing a new one I pre-ordered and admitted she's probably not leaving the room for a day or so. I outright asked that she takes a shower before she starts paying but that didn't go well because she's really looking forward to it. I had had enough. It's gross and I already moved to the couch a week ago so I explained that if she wants to live that way fine, I'll be moving to our shed (it has AC and power so it's not bad at all) until she bathes and that upset her because she felt like she was being treated like a child and being forced to do things. I told her she was acting like a child and started packing my shit. She swears I'm being "a jerk" and I personally feel I was slightly over dramatic but I was pushed to this point.

Bonus info. We're both in our mid 20s, no kids, no intent on kids, and I have a halfway decent job so she stayed at home long before the current situation. ######

Response:
 NTA - this isn’t normal behaviour - it’s compulsive behaviour and almost seems like addiction. It’s interrupting her normal life - which presumably would usually involve showering - so this isn’t normal.

However it might be worth talking to her about why she has abandoned her normal life and taking care of herself for these games.

You say she doesn’t have mental health issues but she’s putting *feeding herself* as a lower priority than these games. Something is going on. ######


Prompt:
13 F here. I've got 4 close friends, all 13. And, like 13 year olds, we like to be play videogames together. The problem is, I'm the only one with a pc, and enough controllers to play all 5.

None of my friends have anything to play on, so they all wanna visit me when we wanna do something together. That's fine, I like them, and I love playing with them. We always have a lot of fun. But every time we're at my place, they screech, scream, yell, curse, and make huge messes. I have a brother, who's room is right next to mine, and he always lends me enough controllers to play, as I only have one. And I repay him with 4 hours of non-stop screaming.

I'm not saying I don't scream too, I'm no better than them. But my parents are beginning to grow tired of it.

On top of the noise, they make huge messes. A girl brings popcorn, and they fight about it until the floors covered. Another girl makes coffee, and there's coffee grounds everywhere. Another girl makes hot chocolate, and she drips chocolate all the way from the machine to the bin. Another girl gets impatient, and begins looking through my stuff, and completely covers my bed with random stuff from my shelves "to look at it"

I spend hours after they leave, my parents give me a lecture about visiting someone else next time, and I ask them to maybe go visit someone else next time?

They all get a no.

I'm just so fucking tired of dealing with this shit like 3 times a month. But I don't want to say no.

WIBTA? ######

Response: NTA - This isn't the way friends hang out in other friends' homes. They're supposed to respect your family/ whoever lives in your house. They're also supposed to  clean after themselves. You talk with your parents and ask them if it's okay to use them as an excuse to tell your friends that they don't want anyone over cuz of social distancing. No is one complete sentence. If they said, "Hey let's go to your house.""Sorry, no can do." "Why?"" Just can't have anyone over." Leave it at that. Another way to get them not interested is by telling them that the computer now belongs to a family member and no one can use it cuz of work. It's better to have an honest chat with your parents and see which excuse holds best for you and for them to back up. ######


Prompt:
So, I have a larger SUV that I absolutely love, but I’m trading it for something bigger.

My dad suggested that I let my stepmom buy my car for my payoff. I am in a bunch of positive equity because we put quite a bit down, doubled a lot of payments, and it doesn’t have very many miles.

So for example, my trade in value is $32,000. My payoff is $19,000. I told my dad that I would absolutely not sell it to him for that because though that’s what I owe, I’ve paid a lot on it and it’s worth way more than that.

He said “family doesn’t try to make money off of one another” okay but I’m not making any money off because I’ve already paid that towards the car? And I have to pay it off? So I didn’t get invited to Father’s Day and I don’t know which of us is the asshole but I think it’s him. ######

Response:
 NTA - This is your vehicle. From what I understand, you purchased this vehicle on your own. You can get $32k for it, of which you must pay back $19k, putting you $13k in the black, which is remarkable for a leased vehicle.

It's just... Why the hell wouldn't you do that? If she has $19k for purchasing a vehicle, she could get a certified pre-owned to suit her needs easily.

The only way I'd see an argument otherwise is if your dad had been helping you with payments. ######


Prompt:
My Mother Smashed My Phone

Okay so the people in this story are me (Me) and my mother (Mom). This whole thing started because she felt like I wasn’t spending enough time with her, so she wanted me to play a game with her. I said yes, and so we started playing Euchre, a card game for those who don’t know.

Mom: God you look so funny.

Me: Well I mean it is quarantine so I can’t get a haircut right now, maybe that’s why.

Mom: You’re such a jerk, why are you always so mean to me?

Me: Mom that wasn’t mean, I-

Mom: Oh shut up, I don’t want to deal with you anymore.

Me: Okay I think I’m going to be done playing for now, I’m going to bed.

I then went down to my room and was texting when she sent me a nasty text, telling me to “f__k off” and that she “didn’t want to see me anymore.”

This next part is texting.

Me: What did I do exactly?

Mom: You’re hurting everyone in this family. You’re so mean to everyone and no one likes you. Why do you never want to spend time with me?

Me: Well maybe if your weren’t so mean I would want to. Besides, when you get mad you throw things around then storm off too your room.

Mom: F__k you. You’re so f__king disrespectful.

At this point I turned off my phone and was going to go to bed, when she stormed into my room and took my phone. As she was walking away she slammed it into the hardwood floor several times, then threw it against a brick wall we have. This shattered my phone and ruined it. I wouldn’t be mad except I paid for it, and this is the second time it happened. I am typing this from my brother’s phone. I already apologized for the rude thing I said, but she still hasn’t apologized for the things she said. AITA? ######

Response: NTA - this is very wrong. Can you leave? might be worth a crosspost to r/insaneparents for extra advice as well. ######


Prompt:
Throw away account. Okay so I’m at a crossroad atm. A friend and I moved in together last year, but now we’re going to separate apartments. We got along really well, and moved out due to the fact that she got a boyfriend and wanted to move in with him.

Anyways, when it came to the security deposit, I offered to help her clean it since we split the security deposit. My friend insisted that her and her mom clean it since her mom is a professional cleaner and would clean better than me. Once again, I offered to help but they said that they don’t mind doing it.

A few days later, I get a text from my friend, asking if I could give her an extra $200 from my portion of the deposit since her and her mom spent five hours cleaning the place. The conversation went like this

Her: Hey! So mom and I were talking and think it’d be fair if you gave us $200 for cleaning the apartment

Me: Wait, what? Uhh no. I offered to help clean it. Had I known you were gunna charge me, I wouldn’t have had your mom clean it...

Her: Wtf, it took us five hours. My mom has a $80 an hour rate to clean houses.... we spent five hours cleaning it. $200 from the deposit is a steal.

Me: Like I said, no. I’m sorry but if you brought up that you were gunna charge me, I would have cleaned the house myself.

Now my friend is mad at me because to her, I’m being unfair. I told her she was being unfair because she should have told me that they were gunna charge me in the beginning. Also, the deposit was $1,000 so I’d only get $500. If they took $200, then I’d only get $300.

Tl;dr- Would I be the asshole if I didn’t pay my friend and her mom to professionally clean the apartment? ######

Response: NTA - this is the equivalent of scummy business up charging you for doing things that you didn’t ask for without your permission. ######


Prompt:
Basically, we both agreed it was not the time to have a child, as we’re both still in college, and not financially stable yet for a child. However, despite his immediate suggestion we not tell anyone, when the pregnancy was confirmed (his fear that a friend/family member of mine will convince me to keep it) I later found out he told his parents and brother. I am angry, as I am still coming to terms with accepting what I have done and I feel like he has broken my trust by telling this private matter to anyone. He believes he has a right to tell his family, but it doesn’t make sense to me why because he was more than eager for me to get the abortion and for me not tell my family.

Am the the asshole for being upset, and saying he doesn’t have the right to tell?

Had the procedure approx. 3 weeks ago

Edit: In addition to this, he is constantly saying I’m pregnant, commenting on my body, which not only makes me feel like there’s something wrong with me, as I gained about 20 pounds, which I felt like I have since lost. Almost daily he says he’s stressed or anxious I’m pregnant. Today I finally gave in and took another pregnancy test, (I am on birth control pills and we have not had sex). This for some reason caused me to get extremely upset, and feelings of guilt about the abortion.

AITA for getting upset about taking another pregnancy test? Is there something wrong with me

Edit: he has since told me he told them, because he needed money. (The abortion was already paid). ######

Response: NTA - This is an extremely sensitive matter. Quite honestly it was none of his family's business. I hope you are recovering well and stay emotionally strong despite the circumstances. Might be time to invest in a new boyfriend. ######


Prompt:
So at my job me and “Cindy” have been friends throughout university & when we graduated we both went to this company and have been here for a couple years now. I’m now 27m and she’s 28f and has been in a long term relationship for about 7 years. Her BF “Tim” was a good buddy of mine and we still hang out from time to time. Anyways so their 7th anniversary is today. Cindy’s been excited because she’s been sure that Tim’s gonna propose to her tonight. She was telling the office that he booked dinner at a suuuuper upscale restaurant in our city and some other fun things as well.

I was mentioning this to my GF when I got home and then I was like Tim better propose tonight cause she’s been looking forward to it for SO long. My GF just gave a weird look and didn’t respond. Then later on, Cindy was sending messages in our work group chat and she was saying that she had already gotten drunk and if he proposes then she’ll just be a blubbering mess and won’t even be able to say yes. I started laughing and then my girlfriend asked whats up and I was telling her then she interrupted me and said it’s a bit strange that I’m so invested in their relationship. I said that’s an exaggeration, I have no emotional or otherwise stake in that relationship but I think they’re a great pair and should get married because I know for a fact that both of them want to.

Anyways I tried to explain this to her and she wouldn’t budge on the matter. She’s iced me out for the rest of the day so I just left and went back to my place. AITA? ######

Response: NTA - this doesn’t even seem like you’re invested in her relationship. Your coworker shared something with the office that you decided was interesting enough to share with your girlfriend. If it’s unusual for her to act like this maybe something else is going on with her. Is she maybe hoping for a proposal from you? ######


Prompt:
Today, I was biking on a relatively popular trail. It's usually shared between bikers and walkers. I have a relatively old bike (made in 2013) and the gear changing click is quite loud. At one point, the was a pretty steep hill I had to ride up. I downshifted to make it easier to climb, and almost immediately, a woman in her mid-thirties with a baby stroller suddenly yelled "HEY!" at me. Thinking it was for somebody else, I kept riding; she kept yelling, so I stopped. She began berating me for waking up her toddler (who was in the baby stroller) and I can't just go around making noise and disturbing people. Confused, I asked what she meant; she said "your bike is really loud, you should've passed me further away and not woken [toddler] up, etc." Even though I'm pretty sure it was her yelling that woke up the toddler, I apologized and kept riding. AITA?
Tl;dr Woman thinks I woke up her toddler in a baby stroller by changing gears with a loud gear changer. ######

Response: NTA - this could go straight to r/entitledparents ######


Prompt:
This isn't just me, it includes my twin brother. My brother and I (17m) were an accidental pregnancy. For context, our oldest sibling is 37 and has a kid who goes to our high school. Our nearest sibling in age is 28.

My parents always made it clear that we weren't supposed to exist. They were never abusive or neglectful or anything, but they were kid of cold our whole childhood.

My brother and I will graduate high school in about a week, and will be 18 in two weeks. My parents have told us that as soon has we turn 18, we will have to pay rent. Neither of us have jobs, and we probably won't be able to get jobs right now.

I confided in my sister that I'm really stressed about this, and she offered to let my brother and I stay with her while we're in University, completely free of charge. I'm really grateful for this, and we're planning on accepting her offer.

I told my parents about this, and they freaked out. I guess my mom was planning to move to part time work and they needed rent from my brother and I to keep up with rent. They said that they have provided for us our whole lives, and we should pay them back now that we're almost adults.

I mean, it's true. They have given us everything we needed for 18 years, and I really don't want them to be homeless if they can't afford the rent, but I don't know how I would even afford to live with them.

AITA? ######

Response: NTA - They’re truing to take advantage of you. When I turned 18, my parents would have let me stay with them for free, if that was what I needed while going to school. They shouldn’t be using you and your brother for extra income. Live with your sister. ######


Prompt: A girl from my high school posted a video of herself screaming the n word with her mother. Another girl posted a picture of herself with blackface and calling herself a n word on her Snapchat story. She also happened to have a VSCO account where she posts pictures of her weed and alcohol. I emailed my principal and my state’s athletic association that manages my school’s sports. My friends thought that I did the right thing, but my parents got mad at me when I told them what I did. They said that I was ruining the girls’ lives and that they didn’t deserve to be kicked out of school since they were young. Now I think it wasn’t my place to report them. So Reddit, AITA? ######

Response: NTA - they're in high school, they're old enough to not be racist pricks. ######


Prompt:
Despite social distancing guide lines, my mom seems to want to invite a new person over every other day. Not only that she tends to have a bad habit of asking me to take on much of the hosting responsabilities like cooking, catering, and entertaining.

Today mom invited some of her friends and their gaggle of kids to play in the pool. She was doing most of the catering this time which was nice sense I wasn't interested in being there. this was partially because I was tired from all these social gatherings but also because I'm trying to do my own things in my room.

They all went to the backyard so I went to my room and started setting up my art project. Minutes later mom starts calling my name. I go to see what's wrong. It turns out she's tired. She wants me to come downstairs so she can take a nap in her room. I *really* didn't want to hang out with them.

She said, *"Oh come on. you can just stay here in the living room. It's just in case they need anything. You can even bring you art stuff down here."*

Here's the kicker: We have a macaw who is bonded to me. When other people are around she's relatively quiet but if I'm there she flips out and tries her darndest to get me to pick her up. I have ADHD. I *cannot* consentrate on my work when she's clinging to me. I just can't. I need piece and quiet.

I put my foot down and told mom that I did not want to be downstairs right now. She got really annoyed but didn't fight it any further. Moments later I heard her tell her friends that she was going to sleep on the couch instead.

Now I feel bad that I refused to help. AITA? ######

Response: NTA - they were your mother's guests not yours.  And she could have told them she was tired and asked them to leave. ######


Prompt: My (26F) boyfriend (25M) gifted me a pair of expensive headphones he got for free last year. I’ve been using them pretty regularly since, and he’s been away travelling for much of the time. Now he’s home and staying with me because of current circumstances and has been using my headphones quite a bit while I’ve been at work (I’m fine with this). When I got home from work this afternoon he asked if he could have them permanently. I laughed and said no I use them and they were a gift. Now he keeps asking and borderline begging me for them saying he’s “stressed” about not having headphones when he goes back to travelling for work, even though we don’t know when that will be. They’re expensive headphones and I don’t really know why he can’t buy his own cheaper headphones if he doesn’t want to spend that much money right now. I bought his plane ticket home and have been fully paying the rent and most of the groceries while he’s been here. He said he’d buy me cheap ones that have a cord (the ones in question are cordless) in exchange, but I’ve gotten used to having the cordless ones... should I just let it go and give him the headphones? It seems a petty thing to fight over but I think it’s rude to ask for a gift back a year after the fact. AITA?? ######

Response: NTA - they were a gift, full stop. Grown people don't sulk like 6-year-olds who traded away their favorite baseball card. ######


Prompt:
Hi. So.

My full name is Elizabeth. I have gone by Elizabeth since I was very small. Of course, throughout the course of my life, people have wanted to shorten it. I have no issue with most nicknames so it doesnt bother me, though I do prefer the full version.

There is one nickname that bothers me, though, and that nickname is Liz.

I HATE that nickname. I'm okay with Lizzy, Ellie, Eliza, Lily, Tess, Libby, any of the million and one nicknames that go with Elizabeth, but I cant STAND LIZ. The reason why is a whole other story.

And everyone, of course, calls me Liz and refuses to stop. Even one of my best friends calls me Liz. I've asked her multiple times to quit, both politely and less politely. She just does it out of habit at this point.

Some of my coworkers recently caught wind of the fact that I hate being called Liz. So of course, the freaking nickname is all they refer to me as. They think its funny.

I know it's just teasing and maybe I'm getting a little too upset, but this is a lifelong annoyance. It's not that hard to use literally any other nickname except for Liz. It's not that hard to just use the full version. I dont feel like I'm asking that much.

I've tried to laugh it off and politely correct them but it never changes. Some people have told me to just ignore them until they call me by my name but I feel like that's really rude and besides this, we are on good terms.

So now I turn to strangers on the Internet. WIBTA if I ignored my coworkers calling me until they call me literally anything other than Liz? ######

Response: NTA - they should respect you enough to stop making you feel uncomfortable. _They_ are the assholes. I hope your strategy works and they stop calling you by that nickname. ######


Prompt: So back in March when schools moved to online, my neighbor (who’s very old fashioned) asked me for my wifi password so her middle school daughter could use it for her schoolwork. She told me she was on a waiting list for charter spectrum and they would get it set up in April. She offered to pay me for the time being, which I declined. Fast forward to July, I figured the daughter doesn’t need it for school anymore since it’s summer and I was experiencing slower speeds. I decided to change the password. That night the mom “randomly” comes over with a gift card and asked if it is ok to still be on the WiFi. I asked her if her daughter already started school again or was taking summer classes and she dodged the question a few times. We ended the conversation pretty awkwardly and I’m not sure what to do now. ######

Response: NTA - they said they were using it for school. Middle schoolers don’t have summer assignments. It’s clear they were using it for other things and when they noticed it wasn’t working, tried bribing you. They should definitely have their own internet set up by now. ######