Prompt:
I know how I might be wrong. Calling my wife out  in public, adhering to a sexist stereotype, etc. I know hoe she might be in the wrong, lying and adhering to a sexist stereotype.

So, let’s start the story. Yesterday, a couple of my friends, my wife and I were video chatting. Casually, someone asked who was the breadwinner in our relationship. She full on lies and says that she’s the breadwinner. I think she expected for me to say nothing. I just mentioned that she was lying and that I actually earned more than her

The thing is I wouldn’t’ve cared if she didn’t answer or if she said that was sexist. I honestly wouldn’t’ve. But she falsely said that she did earn more than me. That’s entirely wrong, I earn more than twice than she does.

My wife is pretty mad and won’t talk to me because “I called her out” and “I was being a sexy(st) jerk”

So, AITA? ######

Response: NTA. Why is her friend asking about her finances and why is she lying about them? ######


Prompt:
Last summer, I signed a one-year lease on a three-bedroom apartment along with two of my friends. All was well for two weeks until one of these friends accepted a job offer in another city and wanted out of the lease.

Myself and the other friend managed to find another temporary roommate for 8 months but this temporary roommate is now returning home. The friend who bailed on us, whose name is still on the lease (but whose rent was essentially being covered by the temporary roommate) is now claiming he is unable to pay his share of the rent and wants us to pay for him until the lease is up. He has not spoken to me directly but has been pleading with the other friend to a great extent and just tonight, this other friend called me a “bitch” for not having empathy for this guy who bailed. She feels that her and I should indeed cover his rent until the lease is up.

We are looking for another roommate to circumvent this problem but, in the meantime, AITA for taking the stance that neither of us is responsible for his share of the rent? ######

Response: NTA. Why is he not sympathetic for your side? He caused the problem, it's his problem, he should be solving the problem. ######


Prompt:
Hi, I had to get this off of my chest because I’m still stewing about it. This happened yesterday.

My state is slowly lifting covid sanctions so my parents decided to drag me and my brother to a plant nursery. Afterward, we stopped by my parents’ friend’s house to drop off some trees we had bought for them. We were only supposed to stay for five minutes but parents never mean it when they say that.

For context, I’m in my twenties and I am lucky enough to live with my parents so I can aggressively pay off my student loans. I have a full time job that is about 14 hours a day and an hour commute one way. I’m writing this before work. So since I get up at 3am and have a long day ahead of me, I’m very strict with my sleep and aim to go to bed around 8pm. If I get less than 7 hours, I crash in the middle of the day.

Basically what it boils down to is my parents were having a great time shooting the shit and getting drunk and I was anxious about everything I had to do the night before work. So when it got to be 6pm and they had been telling me we were leaving soon for the last two hours, and they were pouring more wine I said “please, no more wine, can we go home?”

This turned into a whole thing and I almost called an Uber but they ended up getting motivated to leave at around 6:30. So all the way home, for 30 minutes, I got lectured about how selfish I am and how I can’t make sacrifices for my family. I was so angry because the argument made no sense to me. Yeah, I do think my sleep is more important than you getting drunk with friends, do that on your own time without dragging me and my brother along. And I don’t care that you haven’t seen your friends in months, we’re in a pandemic, no one has seen their friends. But apparently I embarrassed them, ruined the mood, and need to relax about work.

So tell me reddit, which one of us is overreacting? ######

Response: NTA. Why drag you along and leave you no way to get back when you have to work the next day? They could have dropped you off and returned, rather than keeping you stranded there *for hours*. ######


Prompt:
So me and a friend rent an apartment together. Her mom recently just came to stay for a little bit because her water is off in her house. Recently I found out that her mom has been using my things.

For example: My spray on deodorant, toothpaste, bodywash, shampoo, towels, loofah, etc.
 It grossed me out because I don't know this woman very well and I'm not comfortable with the idea of her using my things. I wasnt trying to start any conflict, so I kindly asked my roommate to buy her mom some of her own stuff to use.

Her response was that since I let her use my stuff sometimes, I should let her mom as well. Plus apparently her mom likes my stuff better since it's more expensive. We went back and forth for a bit until she finally gave in and said she'd tell her mom to stop.

The final straw came when I went into the bathroom yesterday morning and her mom was using my curling iron. After that, I moved all the stuff I paid for into my room. My roommate confronted me, saying her mom was upset because none of the stuff she used was there anymore. I told her until her mom can  buy her own stuff to use, I wont be putting any of mine back in the bathroom. We havent talked since.

Was I being too rash with my decision? Or selfish? ######

Response: NTA. Why does she not have her own stuff to use? That is just weird. ######


Prompt:
I (16f) found out a few days ago from doing an ancestry kit that my dad isn’t my real dad . That wouldn’t have bothered me that much but it turns out that my biological father was my mother’s ex boyfriend who my mum cheated on with my dad.

Bio dad didn’t know my mum was pregnant until after I was born as she ended it with him when he found out about the affair. She told him he wasn’t the father. She refused to do a dna test because her parents preferred her new boyfriend and I’m pretty sure she tried to get a restraining order.

Aita for getting angry at my mum after my aunt told me the story ? ######

Response: NTA. Why do parents even lie about this stuff? It's only going to lead to drama down the line... ######


Prompt:
My f17, Brother in law m37,
He has been violating my privacy lately, :going into my room without my premission, taking my phone without premission, he's been all around bossy and asshole.
When he found out about me posting about him online, he said he'd tell on me to my sister, but he didn't.
After what happened I set a password on my phone, didn't get the chance to get a lock for my door yet.

Today, He was snooping around looking for something, I didn't know what it was cause i didn't ask.

I just secretly followed him, while video recording to show to my sister that he's been walking into my room/taking my stuff without premission.

My door was half open, he walked in and started looking around my desk.
He went through half my drawers.
Mumbling something.

Anyways, I got closer, I basically stood near the door to get this on camera, he turned around and caught me and asked what I was doing.

I told him to get out of my room right then, he walked up to me, snatched my phone and saw That I was video recording him.
He asked "what is this? You're posting a video about me online?"

I told him"no, give me back my phone" he said that this is what it is, and that just cause he let the "shit talking" about him on the internet go, doesn't mean I can go far as to post videos online, he said he was gonna tell my sister this time, and my parents to about this behavior.
I deleted the video quickly, so that he won't have proof and went out to my friend's place.

I'm super worried, he'd make up some story about me doing this to post it online, I was just trying to get proof of him going into my room where he shouldn't. ######

Response:
 NTA. Why did you delete the video? You WANTED proof of what he was doing, right?

The antidote to lies is not fear, it is the truth. ######


Prompt:
I was a vegetarian for 3 years, and since been a vegan short over 3 years. My old sister a vegetarian for around 6 years and my youngest sister a vegetarian for around 4 years.

My parents are divorced and my sisters and I live with my dad and see my mom probably once a week. My dad has been a vegetarian for as long as I know, probably since I was 8, around 12 years but mom still eats meat (which is completely fine).

My youngest sister and I were going to my moms cottage for a week and she meal prepped us some veggie meals to bring because the meals she was planning to eat throughout the week all had meat. Probably on our third or fourth day at the cottage, my mom was making chili for dinner. My sister and I both assumed that my mother was preparing us the meal prepped chili she made us, which she told us she was. As we began eating it, we saw and tasted ground beef. We confronted her causing a huge fight to break out. Since then we haven’t talked to my mom, it’s been about 3 weeks. ######

Response: NTA. Why are people like this, it’s not cute. ######


Prompt:
So I sometimes make desserts, majority cakes, but I haven’t really been able to do so in the past few months because of school and work. However, because of the things currently going on in the world, I’m not working at the moment so I’ve had a lot of free time recently. Just two weeks ago, I was finishing decorating a two tier cake i had made when my cousin suddenly showed up at my house. She was instantly amazed at the cake i just made and starting making comments  like “hurry up and finish so i can post it on my Instagram.” Well, when I finished she proceeded to take a picture and post it. After that my family and I all ate the cake together and called it a day. Well apparently after she posted the picture, one of her friends responded to it asking if i would be able to make a cake for her sons birthday, which is today. The thing is my cousin not only didn’t ask me before saying yes, but she also didn’t let me know of this whole situation until 9a.m this morning! The boy’s “party” started at 3 today and I absolutely refused to make the cake after my cousin called me frantic on the phone claiming she forgot to tell me. Well because of this the boy didn’t have a cake for his birthday today and my cousin went around telling the whole family I refused to make a cake for a little boy, making me look like the bad guy.

AITA for not making the cake? ######

Response: NTA. Who volunteers somebody else’s time without even talking to them? And then your cousin has the nerve to badmouth you about it? The level of entitlement here is insane. Your cousin should have realized she messed up not asking you before, and went and bought a cake to fix her own mess. ######


Prompt:
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My brother decided to propose and had me help pick it out. We decided to get her one with a middle stone that was 2.5 carats, with a baguette on each side that was about 1 carat each. Brother proposed she said yes but she was upset, saying she expected a bigger ring since he makes enough to buy her 5k ring, and that she can't handle him acting cheap all the time. He was really upset about this because this ring cost about 40k and was amazing clarity, colour etc. and he researched it excessively and made sure that it was the exact design ring she wanted. He called me and got mad at me because I was the one who said he should get the main stone to be 2.5k because bigger than that looks a little tacky and showy. I told him that this is probably God waving a red flag and giving him a chance to get out. I told him that someone who can't appreciate that 40k (esp since thats how much she makes a year), is a lot to spend on a ring. She didn't care about how hard he tried to please her, just about the money. He thought it over and agreed and broke it off. She called me after he asked her to move out and told me I was a meddling bitch and my brother will never get married when his family is so nosey. I asked my friends about it and they agreed, they said that you only get one engagement ring and she should get the ring she wants. So reddit AITA? ######

Response:
 NTA. Who the hell turns their nose up at a 40k ring? Shit. If anything she should have protested that he spent that much!

You just saved him some heartache. ######


Prompt:
My dad’s friend, “Carla,” recently lost her appartement due to the virus. We had a spare bedroom so my dad asked me (16m) and his girlfriend if Carla could move in and we both said sure. No one had any symptoms but just in case we disinfected the whole house before and after she moved in and she took a shower as soon as she walked in.

At first Carla was really polite and she even bought us gifts for allowing her to stay with us, but after a few days she got kinda pushy. At 10 she would try and tell me to go to bed, even though I don’t have a bed time I just need to be in my room relaxing by 11. Every so often she would barge into my room and demand that I clean it. I admit that my room isn’t the cleanest but most of the mess is just art supplies because I work better in (reasonable) chaos and eventually I do clean up. She also kept demanding that I shower everyday when I’ve explained to her that I can’t do more then every other day because I have dry and sensitive skin and every soap I’ve tried irritates my skin, even the ones marketed to sensitive skin, but she refuses to listen. I’m not a confrontational person so I was just being passive aggressive with her and hoping she would pick up on it. She didn’t.

The thing that made me snap though was when she started calling herself my mother figure. My mom hasn’t always been in the picture (she got involved with drugs) but she’s been trying. Yesterday Carla said she considered herself to be my mom and wanted to treat me like her son, despite only knowing me for a few weeks, when I told her I have a mom she laughed and said I shouldn’t count on her. I don’t remember exactly what I said because I was so angry but I remember calling her a bitch and telling her to fuck off.

My dad scolded me for cussing at a person and says I should’ve talked to her about it before blowing up and that I owe her an apology but I don’t think I need to. I’ll accept my judgement though and apologize if I’m in the wrong. ######

Response: NTA. Who tf does Carla think she is? ######


Prompt:
This guy I worked with asked for a ride home after our shift, we both live in the same town, so I said sure. He said after work he had to get somethings at a store close by.

work ends we get in my car and I needed to stop for gas. I get to the gas station and fill my tank, I paid by CC at the pump. After I am done filling my tank I hit the yes button for a receipt and the machine says must go inside for one. I go inside and get my receipt.

I get back in the car and I drive to the store, when I get to the store the co-worker gets out and says he will be a few minutes. After a few minutes of waiting I notice my cup holder of loose changes is empty. I am pissed and think who does he think he is to steal from me after I was doing him a favor. I think screw him, he can find his own way home and I drive off.

Next day at work he confronts me and calls me an asshole for ditching him like that cause he had to wait five hours to get picked up. I say to him, hope the five hour wait was worth the three dollars in change he stole from me.

He ends up telling all our co-workers I ditched him for stealing three dollars from me. The co-workers all gave me crap for it so I ended up quitting the job a week later.

I really don't think I did anything wrong. ######

Response: NTA. Who steals from someone doing them a favor? Assholes, that's who. ######


Prompt:
This is another of those super low stakes situations that we both find hilarious but also feel so correct on.

Several years ago (yes years), I was toasting myself a bagel. I asked my wife in the other room if she would like one and she said yes. So I made two. I asked her what she would like on her bagel. She said jam. I put jam on her bagel and brought it. She thought it was disgusting.

The important caveat is that it was an "everything" bagel (with seeds and such). This was the only type of bagel we had at the time. She feels that I should have questioned her choice of jam topping. I feel that if the bagel type was required information to decide her topping then she should have asked. At the time it wasn't a thought out malicious compliance, I just wasn't second guessing her... but given the chance I would totally do it again maliciously.

This is affectionately referred to as "the bagel incident" ######

Response:
 NTA. Who knew? I like jam on an everything bagel haha, so frankly my mind is being opened as we speak.

Edit: how on earth did this comment get so many upvotes haha ######


Prompt: My MIL (mother in law) is coming in 2 weeks and staying with us for 2 days while she visits the Eye Hospital...which I was completely fine with. However, she called today and wants to bring 3 of the grandchildren and extend her stay for 4 nights. We already have a 15 month old and 2 children from my husband's previous marriage that we will also have the same week. My husband is stoked but I'm not so keen. AITA for saying no? ######

Response: NTA. Who is supposed to watch the extra kids while MIL is visiting the hospital? Unless the answer is your husband than the other kids can visit another time. ######


Prompt:
So me and a friend rent an apartment together. Her mom recently just came to stay for a little bit because her water is off in her house. Recently I found out that her mom has been using my things.

For example: My spray on deodorant, toothpaste, bodywash, shampoo, towels, loofah, etc.
 It grossed me out because I don't know this woman very well and I'm not comfortable with the idea of her using my things. I wasnt trying to start any conflict, so I kindly asked my roommate to buy her mom some of her own stuff to use.

Her response was that since I let her use my stuff sometimes, I should let her mom as well. Plus apparently her mom likes my stuff better since it's more expensive. We went back and forth for a bit until she finally gave in and said she'd tell her mom to stop.

The final straw came when I went into the bathroom yesterday morning and her mom was using my curling iron. After that, I moved all the stuff I paid for into my room. My roommate confronted me, saying her mom was upset because none of the stuff she used was there anymore. I told her until her mom can  buy her own stuff to use, I wont be putting any of mine back in the bathroom. We havent talked since.

Was I being too rash with my decision? Or selfish? ######

Response: NTA. Who in their right mind uses someone else's towel and loofah?! 🤢 ######


Prompt:
Me and my husband are trying for a baby right now and his parents know about it. They told my sister in law I guess, we don’t have a bad relationship even tho we live far away, we still talk. She called me and brought up the baby topic, asked me if we were really trying and I told her yes. She asked “why now? There’s a huge pandemic going on and it’s kinda selfish bringing baby into all of this mess”, I told her that we have been trying for months already. She sarcastically asked why couldn’t we wait for a year or two and why was having a baby right now so fucking important. I just told her to kind her own business and hung up.

Of course 2 days later there’s a post on her Facebook about “selfish people not caring about anything other than their stupid wants and needs.” She told her parents about it too and they’re telling me that I was a bit too harsh and I need to apologize. ######

Response: NTA. Who does she think she is to tell you when you can have YOUR baby? Smh some people. ######


Prompt:
my partner when they were younger had issues with some older men saying they hoped they shaved their genitals. My partner mentioned something today about how bare female genitals make them uncomfy and said anyone who wants to be with someone who shaves is a creep. I asked what purpose pubic hair served, cause I honestly didnt know, guess its hygenic or somethin' cool. My partner then began to say people shouldnt shave, and it was weird if they did. I argued that if someone wants to do something to themselves like shave they can, its the individuals choice.

This was a bad thing to say. I was being accused of supporting something very gross and accused of being one. I denied and tried to clarify that i simply supported ones choice over their own hair situation and nothing beyond that. This went back and forth for a good while. And my partner asked if i would prefer if they shaved, to which i responded "I dont care, its your choice."

Again the wrong move. I am now disgusting and dont love my partner. They asked why i didnt stand with them on this, i told them it was because theyre advovating for social norms to be that we tell people to NOT shave instead of letting them make their own choice. As of this moment in time thats where we stand.

AITA for not siding with my partner, even though I disagree with what theyre saying? ######

Response: NTA. While I understand your partners troubles you are not obligated to stand with them. Also I agree that wether you shave or not isn’t anyone’s business but your own. Of course people can have preferences but it remains your choice. ######


Prompt:
I imagine this is going to be a bit of an ESH, but here's the context:

I have a nonbinary coworker, I'll call Ash, who unfortunately had their deadname printed on our weekly schedule for the first few weeks of their employment. They made it very clear to everyone they don't like to be referred to by it, and go by they/them pronouns. I myself am trans (though not entirely out at work), so I'm pretty sensitive to people using the wrong name/pronouns for someone.

Another coworker (Jessica) thought it was a great joke to annoy Ash by referring to them as their deadname and the wrong pronouns. Ash, as well as some others, had asked her to stop multiple times, she didn't. I got fed up, and started referring to Jessica as he/him and by the wrong name. She was visibly annoyed whenever I did it, but nothing ever came of it and she has since been fired for unrelated reasons.

Thining back on it, I do feel kinda shitty about it as one of my positions is that a person doesn't need to *earn* the right to be referred to by the correct name/pronoun, and I feel like I compromised my ethics on this. ######

Response: NTA. While I get why you feel guilty about it, it was done to prove a point. And sometimes things like this are the only thing bigots understand. Good for you for standing up! ######


Prompt:
My sister been addicted to drugs for about 3 years now, she’s addicted to Heroin and Fentanyl and just start using something called Purple down.

She has down a lot of awful things to get her fixed, like steal money from her family and sell her body, she claims now that she got everything under control which I don’t really believe.

Recently I found out that her soon to be husband doesn’t know that she’s an addict, My sister was acting odd when I brought up the monthly cost of it, she nervously laughed and said “you’re such a weirdo talking about that, are you into drugs now” so when her husband left I asked about it and she confessed that he doesn’t know I got super angry at her and told her she needs to tell him especially when you guys are trying for a baby and she said “I got everything under control so he doesn’t need to know” I got so upset that I left because I knew I couldn’t have at productive conversation at that time

A week later, I called my sister and tried to convince her that she should tell her fiancé about her drug problem and she said “I can’t do that, I will get off them soon” and when I asked her if she was gonna go to rehab she said “no” I then asked if she not going to rehab then how will you get off them and she claimed she was gonna do it by herself

Now I heard her claim she was gonna get off the drugs by herself for 2 years now so at this point I was frustrated and decided to call her fiancé and tell him, he was super upset and hurt that she didn’t tell him sooner but my sister was super Angry at me and threatened to disown me and never let me see my future nieces and nephews

AITA for telling my sister Fiancé ######

Response: NTA. While I dont think rehab is always the solution for addiction, if your sister has been telling you she will quit on her own for this long, it's time for her to face facts and get some help. If her fiance has been blind to her addiction for this long, you did the right thing telling him. It wouldn't be right to let her string him along like that. She may be angry now, but you have to remember that it's not her, it's the addiction. ######


Prompt:
We had a staff meeting via zoom few hours ago.

One of our coworkers was in the “protests” and was joining the meeting from there, I tried to ignore the loud noises behind him.

Then in the middle of the meeting, he turned off the front camera and switched it to the back camera and started streaming what was going on behind him in the protest.

I told him this was very unprofessional and he will be getting into big trouble and let’s hope he doesn’t lose his job for what he did and then kicked him out.

AITA reddit? ######

Response: NTA. Whether you agree with the protests or not it's extremely inappropriate to join a meeting in the middle of one. ######


Prompt:
A couple days ago my wife mentioned that our daughter wanting her ears pierced for her upcoming 7th birthday.

I was caught by surprised with this conversation as my daughter had gotten her ears pierced just the year before. My wife proceeded to clarify that our daughter wanted 3 piercings in each earlobe like herself. What surprised me even more that my wife mentioned that she had already told our daughter she would take her to get them done for her birthday.

I explained to my wife that I did not think it was a good idea for our daughter to have that many piercings so young. My wife disagreed and said she doesn't understand how it is different to getting the first holes which I was o.k with. She said that if I did not want our daughter to get them done then I would have to be the one to tell her no given she doesn't want to rescind on her gift.

I was not pleased with the move my wife pulled and don't see why I have to be the bad guy in all of this by being the one to tell our daughter she can't get her ears pierced when in my opinion it shouldn't have been agreed in the first place. AITA here for saying no or is my reaction warranted? ######

Response: NTA. Whether or not a 7-year old should have three piercings in each ear isn’t really the issue here. Your wife made a parenting decision, and communicated that decision to a child (thus raising her hopes for her birthday fun) without consulting you first for discussion. So you get no say, and then have to be the bad guy. Lose-lose on your end and a bit messed up. Change up the conversation with your wife to focus on the fact that you weren’t consulted on your child’s birthday wishes, and that you should be making decisions regarding your child’s body together. That’s the crux of the issue here. ######


Prompt:
So two weeks ago, my husband asked my opinion on cosigning a loan for his sister. I told him that honestly, I didn't like the idea at all and to please not do it, for consideration of our financial future.
His sister had her last car impounded twice for whatever reasons. The prior one to that, she wrecked and was then sued by the finance company for the remainder of the note. She's constantly asking him for money, all the while she has yet to ever pay him back.
She called last week and told me that he had, in fact, cosigned for her. Not only that, but it was a new enough car, she would be getting some sort of rebate check that one of us needed to take to her. I told her if she wanted it, that she was apparently free to drive herself to our house to get it.
I then confronted my husband and asked why he did ask my opinion if it didn't matter. His response was to tell me that he thought I would be okay with it, and when I wasn't, he thought I would get over it. AITA for being upset that he completely disregarded how I felt about this whole thing? ######

Response: NTA. When you’re married financial decisions should be made together. He asked your opinion and you gave it, then he co-signed the loan anyway, knowing that she has a poor payment history. ######


Prompt:
To preface this I'm 23 (m) and she's 20 (f), I quit smoking cigarettes for her when we started dating 2 years ago. That was a deal breaker for her and I respected that and chose her over my vice. Fast forward 2 years and now she's coming into her own and finding herself and wants to "go wild instead of being responsible" (her words). She started vaping with nicotine and sneaking alcohol into her parents house and wants to experience all types of drugs and not have restraints or feel obligated to not do stuff because of someone, which is likely me and her parents. We live in Tennessee which has harsh drug laws and I'm staunchly against drug use, which I've made clear.

I told her that her starting vaping upset me because of the stink she made about me smoking and telling me to quit, which I did. I told her about my experiences being addicted to nicotine and how I don't want to see her go through that. She says by all means start smoking again because it wouldn't be fair. However I think she helped me by taking that stand and it really pains me to see her start an addiction (which she admits shes addicted) especially to something that is supposed to help smokers quit. She said sorry, but blew me off. I didn't tell her to quit I just told her how I felt. I've also told her that doing drugs is a deal breaker for me to which she didn't really respond. I've just pretty much told her to do what she wants at this point and whatever happens, happens. I don't want to be the controlling guy or tell her what to do. But deep down I want her to choose me. Am I the asshole in this situation. ######

Response: NTA. When you’re in a relationship, you’re entitled to expressing your feelings on issues like this. If it’s a dealbreaker for you, so be it. ######


Prompt: Hey everyone, I’m a 22 yo girl living in Florida with my parents. I’m the oldest of 3. My parents are very strict asian parents. Lately, my mental health has been slipping from the current events. I find happiness with taking long drives, walking around parks, and being outside in nature. I do so with safety precautions (mask and such). My parents have always made it a rule to announce when and where we are going when we leave the house. Lately, they have been prohibiting me from trying to leave the house. I practically have to fight, scream, and shout to go to a park or drive myself to the grocery store and buy fruits. If I say that I am going anyway, they yell at me, call me names like slut, stupid, bitch. I told them that I wanted to find a job so I can pay my bills and save enough to move out. I’ve sort of rebelled by coming back home in the early mornings for the past few days. They threaten to kick me out for not doing what they want. I’m getting so tired of this. I don’t have a job right now(laid off from covid), but I’m trying to look for one just so I can save enough to move out. My mental health is just plummeting. I have been thinking of joining the army in a few months. They also told me not to go. AITA for all of this? ######

Response:
 NTA. When you have strict parents, sometimes the *only* way to live your *own* life is to go low/no contact.

They’ll only get stricter, since you’re no longer a child that they legally have control over.

They’re gonna get stricter because they have to convince you, an adult, that their word is law. ######


Prompt:
For context : My brother and sister in law have a one year old. I have a one and a half year old.  I am a stay at home mom. My husband is doing online nursing classes and the majority of his time is filled with studying. My sister in law is working from home since the lock down (she has a desk job that is primarily done on the computer) and my brother has been staying home for the most part to watch the baby. He still works, but his hours have been cut dramatically.

Today I get a text from my brother asking if I can watch my nephew for an hour at the most while my sister in law works at home. He has a mandatory work meeting he must attend. To me, an hour doesn’t seem like a significant amount of time to watch a toddler and do your work.  Lots of people do it on a daily basis. She mainly looks at spreadsheets all day. I used to work along side her so I know what her job entails more or less. Annoyed, I indicated I thought an hour was silly, but that I would watch my nephew if he dropped him off at my house. My brothers route to work requires him to pass right by house anyways. I do not receive a response.

Befor long, my mother calls to tell me my sister in law is throwing a fit and will not allow my brother to drop my nephew off at my house.  My brother was fine with it, but she is not. She wants me to come to their house. As a result, my brother misses his mandatory work meeting so that he can stay home and watch the baby while she works from home.

My mom said she feels bad for my brother and since he is family I probably should have just gone over there. My sister in law has always been a very selfish my-way-or-the-highway type of person and I feel I should not have to accommodate her every request. If she really needed me, I offered to watch him at my own house alongside my own child.

So reddit, AITA? ######

Response: NTA. When someone asks you for a favor it is on your terms. Why should you pack up your own kid twice to watch her kid while she sits right there?  Doesn't even make sense. ######


Prompt:
 ***Happened in October and recently came up in conversation***

I made a reservation at a nice restaurant for my anniversary. Our reservation was for 8:30 p.m. but the hostess said they were running a little behind. After 20 minutes of waiting, a couple walked in behind us and asked for a table. They didn’t have reservations and the hostess said they were looking at a 45-minute wait. The couple stood behind us discussing options, then five minutes later the hostess said our table was ready. The woman pointed out that she was seven months pregnant and would really appreciate if she could sit before us. I said no because we had a reservation and they did not, then suggested two places across the street that always have seats available. The couple was visibly annoyed and said something under their breath about how rude I was.

Had they made a reservation I would have gladly switched so they could sit a few minutes early, but they were basically asking for our reservation. We were looking at having to wait another 45 minutes.

There were multiple restaurants in the area so there were options. There was also bar seating available and they could have gotten food there. ######

Response: NTA. When I was pregnant I wouldn't have asked someone to give up a reservation. I wouldn't have expected special treatment for something like that... I don't think I even made a big deal about needing a seat in crowded places. ######


Prompt:
So to start with, me (20F) and a guy (19M) we'll call him kai, have been dating for a few weeks, but friends for well over a year. Not a full relationship but definitely on the path. For context I've always interpreted the saying "dont threaten me with a good time" as a sarcastic way of saying "that wouldn't be so bad". It isnt only sexual, it can be used in a sarcastic way. If I'm wrong please correct me. So me and kai were on the phone (quarentine and all), and I was referencing a conversation from earlier. I'll paraphrase said conversation, it was with my mum and dad.

MUM - *makes sex joke*

ME- ewww

DAD - well if me and *mum* didnt have sex you wouldnt be here

ME - dont threaten me with a good time (joking that I didnt exist it would be brill)

Kai then proceeds to say that I made a sexual advance on my dad? When I say that's disgusting and explain my understanding of the saying, nd that it was in no way sexual, he hangs up and now isnt talking to me. I dont know if I over reacted by being disgusted, or if my understanding of the saying is wrong. Am I the asshole for being angry at his understanding? Is he the asshole for still hanging up after I explained what I mean? :( ######

Response: NTA. When I read this, I laughed because I knew you were saying that "Don't threaten me with not being on this earth because I'd gladly take it!". Comedy gold. I can understand the shock value, and him wanting clarification, but after explaining your interpretation and he still hangs up, is a bit childish. You're obviously not making a sexual advance on your father. ######


Prompt:
So yesterday was my boyfriend's birthday and we had a small lunch celebration with his family. My boyfriend doesn't like chocolate cake while his family and I love it. He likes ube cake, which no one else in his family likes. So I decided to bake two cakes, a larger 10 inch chocolate cake for me and his family and a smaller 6 inch ube cake since he's the only one who's going to eat it.

He didn't say anything when his family was there but after they left he told me that he felt like I cared more about his family than making him feel special on his birthday because the main cake was something that they liked and not what he liked. He also said that for his birthday it wouldn't have hurt for all of us to eat ube cake since we know that it's what he likes instead of making him feel like the odd one out.

I was just trying to please everyone since I knew that his family doesn't like ube cake and they like chocolate cake instead. And I think it was a good compromise to have a smaller lemon cake for him so he can still enjoy the cake he likes while the rest of us eat the cake we like. AITA? ######

Response: NTA. When I read the title, I thought you ONLY made a cake he wouldn’t like. But you didn’t—you went to the extra effort of making a dessert you knew he liked, and another that you knew others would enjoy as well. I would never expect people to eat food they expressly disliked on my birthday, it’s honestly pretty immature. ######


Prompt:
So this literally just happened and I personally don't feel I am the asshole but apparently According to everyone else I am.

So here's the story.

My brother has 3 kids all under the age of 5. They have had head lice atleast 4 times, this time I think makes the 5th time they've had it.

We ALL know EXACTLY where it comes from but my brother and his gf refuse to stop sending their kids over there because this is the only person who will baby sit all 3 kids for cheap.

When the 3 youngest kids got head lice the last time me and my mom spent HOURS trying pick their heads clean because they were 2yrs old, hand no idea what was going on, fought, screamed, cried, and we're over all miserable.

After that time I swore I would never do it again because it's so freaking easy for them to prevent their kids getting lice and why should me and my mom be the ones who have to do the clean up of their mess.

Literally EVERY SINGLE TIME they've gotten lice, everyone BUT my brother and his gf have done the clean up. They have never had to do it themselves.

This time was the first time they ever had to, and the rushed it. Because they rushed it they did not get all the lice and the day care called them saying they need to check their heads again.

My mom and brother asked me to come help. I said No. I don't feel is should have to because they finally need to clean up their own damn mess.

But apparently now I'm a bitch because I don't want to and I should help them because my brothers GF is at work and he's the only one working on them.

Tldr: my brothers kids always get lice because they keep sending them back to the source. I refuse to help clear the kids heads because my bro and his gf have never had to do the clean up and I think they should do it on their own. ######

Response:
 NTA. What. The. Fuck.

They're assholes for sending their kids to head-lice place.

They're assholes for making someone else clean up.

They're assholes for thinking you're an asshole for not cleaning up for them.

They're mega assholes for sending their kids to head-lice place more than once.

God this is making me angry. Who sends their kids to a place they know has head lice? ######


Prompt:
My nearly 12yo daughter has developed an interest all things beauty related. She is constantly going on about changing her hair colour, getting her nails done, makeup and even piercings.

At first I was accommodating to her wanting to experiment with her appearance. I allowed her to get blonde highlights done, bought her nail polish and also took her to get her ears pierced on a few occasions. She now has 4 holes on each lobe and any further will be cartilage.

 Unfortunately it seems that whatever I allow is never enough. My daughter constantly nags to dye her hair bright colours and wants even more piercings. Not just on her ears but also nose. I have reached my limits and am now saying no. The main reason is that I feel like I am being taken for a ride but also I heard that one of the other parent's at my daughter's school make a comment about my daughter being a bad influence and should put my foot down.

Unfortunately saying no has resulted in tantrums and constant nagging. It got so bad that I actually took away her makeup, nail polish and told her no more piercings until she is 18.

Am I being unreasonable here? Part of me thinks is justified but my daughter seems to think I am a total ass hole for this. ######

Response:
 NTA. What you’re doing is parenting and it is your job not to give in to all your daughter’s demands, particularly when they permanently affect her body. You’ve already allowed her to get away with a lot (as is your right) but now you’ve given her a boundary, you need to stick to it.

And who knows, when she is 18 or older, she may regret what she did at 12. You are (IMO) correct to stop her from having more piercings etc right now.

Edited: clarification ######


Prompt:
For the first time in ages (because of corona) me and my girlfriend went to a VERY nice fancy restaurant. This is important because normally I woudn’t make a fuss but since the food was so nice and very expensive i made an exception.

We go to the restaurant (she is driving). When get there they are about to close, they say we can’t dine, but we can take food away. We order similarly 1 starter, 1 main each. We split the bill 50/50.

We take the food to the car and while she is leaving the car park i check they got our order right. Her starter and main are there. But only my starter is their and my main is missing. I tell her they got the order wrong, while checking to see if they charged for us for the missing main: they did.

I ask her to go back and get my main. Keep in mind we are 1 min drive away from restaurant. Yet she said she can’t be bothered and i should deal with it. We argued for about a minute and then i said ‘ ok but then i get half your main’. She said no and i gave up.

Then when we got home she went for a shower. So i eat my starter and half her main. When she found out she got annoyed and told me to leave her house.  I said ok fine, it is late anyway.

Next morning she text ‘how am i going to make it up to her’.

So aita and should i have to make it up to her? ######

Response: NTA. What the hell, she just wanted you to not have dinner because she couldn't be bothered to turn around? And now she's mad at YOU? Is this a major anomaly or is she always this awful and selfish? ######


Prompt:
30 years ago my grandfather dug a well. It supplies our home and has a pump to supply water to a mini water tower thing to give our homes water pressure.

Another person built a house nearby and there was an agreement for them to plumb into our fresh water supply for limited domestic use: Cooking, cleaning, toilets etc. This agreement has stood for 10 years without any problems.

So what's been going wrong?

The house next door was sold.

It's now starting to get hot. So the next door neighbour has been filling a swimming pool. I don't see a problem with this. What I do see a problem is they fill the pool and drain it EVERY SINGLE DAY.

Based on my calculations they're wasting close to 400,000 litres of water every single day.

When I told them they can't waste water like this. They told me to f*** myself because the water is free and nobody owns it.

So I gave them a warning showing that the water supply belonged to us and it wasn't free at all. I was told to f*** off again. I watched as they filled their pool again AND drained it again.

I simply turned off their turned off the valve supplying their home which is on our land. They now have no water whatsoever as they tried to fill their pool again this morning.

They're now complaining and whining about not having any water. I told them they can get a tanker to come and fill their pool and supply them.

AITA about this? ######

Response: NTA. What the heck is the point of filling and emptying the pool? Is this some pool maintenance strategy I’m not aware of? ######


Prompt:
My (34f) husband (33m) has terrible allergies. This time of year his nose is always running. This is not his fault. However, what he uses to blow his nose blows -my- mind. Bathroom and hand towels (his and mine), kitchen towels, shirts, my sweaters, socks (both clean and used)- anything. And on top of this, he leaves whatever he’s been using laying around because he might need it again later.
After a few nasty surprises and a few instances of having nothing to dry my hands with in the kitchen, I bought him a big pack of handkerchiefs from Amazon, and a big pack of new dish towels. I asked him if he could please just use the new handkerchiefs and the -old- dish towels and spare the other household fabrics, and put the designated nose-blowers in their own spot.
He snapped “You know you can wash all of this stuff right??” and implied I’m being judgy and making him feel bad just because he has allergies. This feels crazy to me but.... AITA? ######

Response: NTA. What the fuck? Seriously? Wipe your nose in a hanky or a tissue and literally nothing else why did you even need to ask this question? Your husband is disgusting. ######


Prompt:
Throwaway, because SIL knows my main account.

My (36F) SIL (32F)  is an extremely unlikable person.
She often takes advantage of her disability and eating disorders. As in, if you were arguing with her, she would pull that card on you. Or if she was being extremely rude and mean to you, she'd end the conversation with, "I'm disabled and anorexic, you can't be mean to me." Her disability has always been shrouded by her, even if you asked her what it was she'd change the topic.
Also, this will be relevant while you are reading this: I had a miscarriage a week ago, and my belly is still quite swollen.

This has caused me to stop attending any of my husband's family functions, because my SIL, who we'll call Dani, would always be there, and also resulted in me avoiding her everywhere.

But yesterday my husband forced me to partake in a video call with his entire family, including his extended relatives, and his direct family (Dani, my FIL, and my MIL)

Dani was being a bit quiet during the conversation, so I asked her what was wrong and she replied with "you're bloody nosy, no wonder the baby died, it wouldn't have wanted a mother like you."

I was really shocked and sad, and I revealed something that I'm now deeply ashamed of: the fact that Dani cheated on her husband with her 'friend' while she and her now husband were still dating.
Her husband was on the call, and she promptly disconnected.

Now her entire family knows that she was a cheater, and I was feeling really bad, because Dani and her husband apparently got into a huge fight, and are now seperated.
My husband told me that it was a low belt blow, and I should have calmed down, and that she's anorexic and disabled and was having one of her episode where she feels extremely bad.

This has now made me feel kinda bad.
AITA? ######

Response:
 NTA. What she said, only a week after your miscarriage, is inexcusable. Also, it’s not b/c she’s anorexic or disabled, it’s because she’s a crap person. If her husband separated from her b/c she cheated, that’s on her for cheating.

Also, what’s up with your husband defending HER after what she said to you (and knowing she betrayed his brother)? ######


Prompt:
First time poster, standard on mobile disclaimer.

I am not close to my mom. I am the scapegoat child and she dismisses my thoughts as if they don't matter. She is also a fundamentalist Christian, doesn't believe in COVID and thinks the government lies to her all the time.

She told me yesterday she had close contact to a person who got COVID positive results back. We have universal healthcare in my country, but we are having a spike on cases, so lines are to be expected.

She whined and said she left the line and will try to get tested tomorrow, but she has no symptoms... Except for a couch from "eating dry toast this morning" and a headache "for eating chocolate"..., but a friend who lives next door said that she has been coughing since yesterday and went on a drive yesterday to visit friends.

I know my mother. She is incredibly immature and won't stop going out and probably avoid getting tested unless she gets really sick and doesn't care about possibly being asymptomatic and potentially infecting others. I was planning on holding her out to her plan of getting tested and my friend will keep an eye out for her to make sure she does. If she doesn't, I would call the Health Department hotline and put an anonymous tip.

Reddit, WIBTA if I did this? ######

Response: NTA. What she is doing is dangerous. If she was any simpler, she would be sold in the produce section. ######


Prompt:
I want to start by saying my sister and I don't have the BEST relationship.

She didn't meet me until she was 18 because my mom had her has a teenager and put her up for adoption. Her adoptive family provided for her but even though her adoption was an open adoption they hate that she has a relationship with her birth family. They are an upper class family that offers to pay for anything she wants if she does exactly what they say, so she often does.

About 3 years ago my sister got engaged to a wonderful man, and she asked me to be a brides maid. I was only 23 at the time, a college student with no money. But I bought the dress, paid for my way for her shower and Bachelorette party, single handedly decorated her entire reception location.... and the day before the wedding her adoptive mom told my sister she didn't want her bio family at the wedding she was paying for. (I also had already booked off work and told my professors I'd be missing a week of school to be the primary care giver for her THREE children while she went on her honeymoon)

So. The day before her wedding, after putting out money I needed for groceries and supporting myself, she uninvited me from her wedding. I am her sister and she removed me with out hesitation or good reason from the most important day in her life. I still watched the kids of course because they were innocent in all her issues.

But now I'm engaged, and planning my wedding, and I don't want to invite her, I don't want to have someone at my wedding that reminds me how disposable I am if she's getting some cash in return. My fiance says I'm not the asshole, but my mother and brother do.

I don't really know what to do and to be honest I'm not sure if I'm the asshole  or if she is. Help! ######

Response:
 NTA. What she did was pretty shitty. A day before the wedding like seriously?!
I suggest you dont call her at all for your own sanity. She didnt hesitate then why are you hesitating. ######


Prompt:
This happened some time ago but I haven't mentally resolved this yet, so now I am asking Reddit to hopefully give me some closure!

I (M) once hosted a home party for my best (guy) friend and about five girls that came along. I know all of these people so I was fine with it, But during the party, some of the girls asked me if it was okay for some other friends to come along (people that I didn't know), so I complied since I didn't want to be a buzz kill. Fast forward a few weeks and they're asking me again if we could have a party at my place (they want to party at my place because I own a pretty neat sound system) and I said yeah sure.

Unbeknownst to me, my friend said "yeah two guy friends of mine will also come, you don't know them but they're cool people". That's where I have had enough and told them that it was okay for the girls to come but I do **not** want some strangers coming to my place. I don't want them to have access to my personal belongings and other private things that they have no business knowing about, period. Good for you if you think you can "trust" these people that you met ONCE or twice at a night club, but I certainly don't trust them or anybody for that matter. I don't know who tf those people are and I don't care to find out who they are if the first time I meet them will be at MY place.

So they cancelled on me, saying that I have trust issues and that I am being irrational for not trusting THEM because they wouldn't invite sketchy people, but I stand by my choice. I personally believe they are being petty and narcissistic because they are butthurt that they can't take advantage of me and my sound system. So they hosted the party at one of the girls' place and I wasn't invited.

AITA? ######

Response: NTA. What kind of jackass thinks he can just invite strangers to a friends house? ######


Prompt: My husband and I (24m and 21f) are expecting a baby boy in August and a lot of the family wants to come visit us once he’s born to see him. One family member is my cousin, Nicky (21f). Nicky and I are close in age and pretty much grew up together. She’s always been a very entitled and mean spirited person because her parents never disciplined her, and we even grew apart as we got older because of it. At our family get together yesterday, Nicky started making rude remarks to her boyfriend and parents. I ignored most of what she said until I heard her say something about how I married an “ugly, fat guy” because I was desperate. I told Nicky that was extremely hurtful to my husband and that her boyfriend was no prize either. She then went off about the baby, saying he was going to be ugly and that she hoped he was going to be born with various disabilities. She even said something about shaking him if she ever got her hands on him. This was the last straw for me and I told her that she’s not allowed anywhere near our baby when he’s born and that she can go ‘F’ herself for saying such a terrible thing. My aunt, Nicky’s mom, said that’s extremely selfish of me and that Nicky was just kidding and deserves a relationship with my son. I refuse to change my mind about this and never want her to see my baby if I can help it. Am I the asshole for deciding this? ######

Response:
 NTA. What kind of a person threatens to shake an infant? Your family are the AH for tolerating that and saying it was just a joke.

You are doing the right thing. ######


Prompt:
I'll try to keep this short. Me and my long-time girlfriend live together in Florida. My girlfriend is Irish and I am American. I normally fly an American flag in our lawn because I think it looks nice and ties the house together with a dash of 'murican patriotism. Sometimes I fly the Irish flag below the American flag.

I'm not trying to politicize this post so suffice it to say that recent events have prompted me to think it was a good idea to maybe just fly the Irish flag for a little while. So I did, Irish flag goes up and our neighbor from a few houses down knocks on our door in the late afternoon. He inquires about the lack of American flag on my pole and tell him I just feel a little bit Irish today, trying to keep things lighthearted.

We've had a few minor run-ins before. He's made some questionable comments about having a threesome since me and my girlfriend are both women and we've used the non-emergency line a few times on him when he gets drunk and starts hollering and making a racket in the wee hours of the morning. Minor mutual dislike on both ends here.

Bob (neighbor) tells me that it's disrespectful to fly any other flag on the top of the staff other than the American flag while on American soil. I tell him that this is my property and any flag I like will fly on the top of the staff whilst on my soil. He huffs away. Our neighborhood is nosy so I got 2 other visits from neighbors that day. One lady who accused me of being "insubordinate" and fake-politely asking me to put the American flag back up and one of my friends who decided to come over and tell me how me and my girlfriend were essentially the juicy new gossip. Fantastic.

Honestly I think this is all pretty stupid and I'm surprised it's become as big of a deal as it has. I suspect that our neighbors are getting bored. Obviously me and my girlfriend have one view of the situation but I'm curious to know what Reddit thinks about all this. AITA? ######

Response: NTA. What happened to land land of the free and freedom of expression. You fly your flag ######


Prompt:
I'm the middle of three. I have a younger sister (25) and an older brother (30). I'm 27. My parents, over the years, saved up 30k to be split between my sister and I for when we eventually got married, which would be 15k each.

My sister got engaged before me, and they planned their wedding for April 2020. As you can imagine, this couldn't happen. They'd picked an all inclusive venue and spent the entire 15k. Unfortunately, their venue has been horrible, denied any refund. Wedding insurance doesn't cover pandemics and they're now going under anyway. The 15k is just...gone.

My sister now wants to elope, which my parents and other family are absolutely horrified by. She and her fiance say they can't afford to pay for a wedding themselves because of their job situations. The only thing she has from the first wedding that she could take to a second is her wedding dress, which would still need to be altered.

The women in the family have been crying about it in every conversation I've had with them and begging my sister to not elope, they'll figure it out. My parents now want to take the other 15k and give my sister another wedding, obviously at a different venue.

It ended up being a huge fight of accusing me of blaming my sister for causing the pandemic, wanting her to elope and not get "her wedding" because I'm jealous, and why save it when I'm still single and will be for years now anyway. I'm 27! I'm not an old maid. I'm not jealous of my sister, I was happy for her before all this, but it would have been nice to know that when I got married, my parents could help me out too. I'm not saying it's her fault that the first one didn't happen, but factually she would be getting two weddings paid for and I'll be getting zero.

It's probably happening regardless of what I say, but am I wrong to be a little angry about it? ######

Response: NTA. What happened sucks, but no, you aren’t wrong for being upset about it. Being told that you have $15k waiting for your wedding and then having it taken away would upset most people. ######


Prompt:
 I had two sons from my first marriage that are now teenagers. I’m remarried and 6 months ago we had a baby girl. This baby is my wife’s first. I totally get what it’s like to be a worried first time parent and it’s not like I’m not worried about certain things, but with others, it’s my third time around. I’ve been there. When the baby projectile vomits, I’m not gonna panic. I don’t judge her for being so, but I think it bothers her that I’m not and she worries that I’m not going to do things right.

When the baby was born, she kept reminding me to support the head. I told her I know, don’t worry, she’s okay. Then as she got older, she kept rattling off facts about temperatures for bath water, how to put her to bed, etc. I was really being as patient as possible and listening.

When all this stuff with the world started going on, things got a bit worse. Things came to a head yesterday when I was trying to feed the baby and she was trying to tell me how to make a bottle. I gently turned to her and said “I know why you’re panicked, but I’ve done all this before, I know what I’m doing.” She for really upset and said that I was trying to say I was better at this and undermining her fears, which I’m not. I’m just saying I have parented before,so I know what to do. She then said it was wrong for me to say that because I shouldn’t remind her of my past like that and I should be supportive. Things have been strained since.

Was I wrong here? ######

Response: NTA. What does she mean you shouldn’t “remind her of your past”? You have two other kids. You’re a grown up. You had a life before her and that’s a fact she has to accept. It sounds like she’s insecure about her own parenting skills and projecting onto you. ######


Prompt:
Okay, hear me out. I live in a complex that is built in a circle so its like a track. A lot of people use it to run, walk, etc. I've always used it to run/walk as well. I live in Florida so I usually wear leggings and a sports bra or a tank top. I literally only wear it because it's insanely hot here.

This woman always gave me dirty looks when I'd walk by her apartment (she'd be sitting on her porch.) There are a few maintenance guys (not sure if that is the correct title for them - but that is what everyone calls them) that walk and ride around on golf carts throughout the day. I soon realized that the dirty look woman is married to one of the maintenance workers. I am always polite to them, but have never talked to them by any means.

So, yesterday I was working out on the tennis court which is near their apartment. Her and her husband were sitting on the porch. She is giving me the dirtiest looks and is making me pretty uncomfortable but I try to ignore it. Before I leave she says, "Do you like get off on having the maintenance men check you out all day?" To which I replied, "Actually yes it makes me super wet. They are what keeps my sex drive high." She looked shocked and her husband starting laughing and then she smacked him on the arm.

I came back and told my mom this story and she said I should be more sensitive and obviously the woman is insecure. Now I kinda feel bad. AITA? ######

Response: NTA. What did she expect? Her goal was to make you feel like crap. You don't have to accept that. Good for you. Mayne she'll think twice in the future. ######


Prompt:
So, I had this big pot with menstrual cups in it on the stove. The pot was sort of covered with a lid and when I left the kitchen for a few minutes my roommates  boyfriend (34) apparently walked in and checked what was inside the pot. He gave me a weird look when I returned, but I didn't think anything of it.

Later, roommate (Jade, 28) came up to me and told me not to do that again. I asked 'do what?' and she said 'you know what, dont play dumb, boyfriend was so embrarassed'. When I realised what she was talking about, I sort of laughed and said something like 'he knows what periods are, right? '

She got offended and said i was the one being weird, the cups were like underwear and it was basic courtesy to not have them out where anyone could see them. Also, she isnt 'banning' boiling the cups, but I have to do it in a private space.
I just told her that it was my house too and I can use the kitchen for whatever I need but she didn't take that well and said that I wouldn't understand because I dont have a bf??? Now she's being all cold and only talking to me when she needs something .
I told my sis and she said I needed to grow up and realise that people were weird about certain things and I should humour her because its such a small thing. Which, ok, Jade is generally pretty cool but this seems so ridiculous. Also, I have no idea how I'm supposed to boil the cups in the bathroom? Dont they need to be at boiling temp for a bit?AITA? ######

Response: NTA. What business has your roommate's boyfriend looking into pots that aren't his? If he can't handle seeing a clean piece of silicone swimming in boiling water, then he shouldn't snoop. ######


Prompt:
A friend was just complaining that he got an Amber Alert close to 3 in the morning. I just casually showed him that you could switch it off. He thanked me, and I guess he showed it to a bunch of people.

Eventually that spread until my girlfriend found out that I switched off my Amber Alerts and confronted me about it. She said that I didn’t care about little kids being stolen, and that the reason why Amber Alerts work is because the entire community gets them. “It’s the price we pay to live on a society”. Yeah, no, I pay my taxes. My reasoning was that it’s my phone, and I get to modify it however I want. This has caused a big rift in our relationship.

So, AITA? ######

Response:
 NTA. What are you supposed to do if you get an alert at 3 AM?

No, the missing person is not in my bedroom. I don't intend to get dressed, get into my car, and drive around aimlessly. Thank you for waking me for no purpose whatsoever. ######


Prompt:
Okay I know this is weird. Me and my SO just moved into a new 2 bedroom apartment. We planned to make the second smaller room an office. One of our neighbors from the apartment next door introduced herself as we were moving our stuff in. She’s very chatty and outgoing and we hit it off right away.

She says we seem cool and she wants to ask us a favor: if we could make the east bedroom our master bedroom and make the master bedroom our office. She says this is because the walls are super thin and her room is right on the other side and she could always hear the previous tenants having sex. She said she put up with it then but now that we’re new here and haven’t moved anything in yet, it wouldn’t be a big deal for us to use the other bedroom. That way she wouldn’t be bothered and we wouldn’t have to feel like our privacy was being violated by knowing someone can hear. “Win-win,” she said.

But the thing is the master bedroom is obviously larger than the second bedroom and has two closets. In the smaller room we wouldn’t even be able to fit half of our bedroom furniture. But I’m super non-confrontational and i hate feeling like someone would be mad at me, and don’t want to make an enemy out of our neighbor right off the bat. My SO thinks she’s overstepping and should mind her own business.

Would we be assholes if we moved our bedroom into the master bedroom anyway, even though she asked us politely not to? ######

Response: NTA. What an extremely bizarre request. Why doesn't she move HER room or bed? Or invest in some sound dampening stuff for the wall? Or get a white noise machine? She has a lot of nerve trying to tell you where to sleep and bang in your own apartment. ######


Prompt:
This happened a couple years ago, but I recently remembered that it happened and can't stop thinking about if I was in the wrong.

I (20F) had just finished work and decided to grab a drink at Starbucks before catching my train home. Two girls (I'm assuming college age) walked in right after me, and as I was waiting in line I noticed that one of the girls was looking at me.

She noticed me look back her at her and she asked "What's your name?"

I was already a little bit uncomfortable with her looking at me and my name is a bit unique - which would make me easier to find online so I instead of answering I asked "Why?"

She started telling me about how I kinda looked like someone in her class at one of the nearby colleges. I explained that I didn't attend that college so it couldn't be me and I thought that would be the end of the conversation.

Instead she started saying I was being rude by not telling her my name and that giving someone your name when they ask is common decency. I told her I was sorry, but continued to not tell her my name. At this point her friend, who had been on the phone the entire time, finished her call and this girl started telling her about how rude I was being.

Meanwhile, it was my turn to order (I ended up using a random name for my order) and I managed to escape with my drink.

So AITA? Was I being rude? ######

Response: NTA. What a strange encounter! You are definitely not obligated to tell any stranger your name. No is a complete sentence. The only person acting contrary to typical social decorum was HER. ######


Prompt:
For context, I have tritanopia colorblindness and I've been bullied for it my whole life. I recently told my friend about it and the questions started pouring in - stuff like 'what color is this', 'read this', stuff like that. I have no problem with joking around about it, but they took it too far.

They kept laughing at me and belittling me because of it so I started to ignore them, yet they didn't realize how rude they were being. I called them insensitive and they responded with 'no im not' and sent a sarcastic heart. They kept messaging me and a day later I said 'I want an apology' to which they responded 'we all want things we cant get'. I told them how much of a cunt they were being and called them immature and went offline for the day.

I have been contemplating blocking them on everything because they took it a step too far.

AITA ? ######

Response: NTA. Weird thing for someone to make fun of and also not okay of them. The best part of having friends is we get to choose who are friends are and it sounds like they’re not much of one. Surround yourself with people who care about you, don’t waste time on those who don’t ######


Prompt:
Me - (29M) my wife - Laura (26F) old friend - Shawn (31M)

So my wife and I actually got married in December 2016 so this situation is really fucking bizarre.

An old friend of mine recently got in touch with me after we lost contact many years ago and he saw that I’m married. I didn’t tell him this because we weren’t talking at the time and he got really offended that he wasn’t invited to my wedding.

I told him that there wasn’t a wedding. My wife and I were only engaged for 6 months and took our daughter who was 6 months old at that time and eloped. The only people there were us; our kid and our witnesses were the registry office people. We literally got married on our own terms as we didn’t want a huge reception.

Shawn has used the argument that we used to be really close and that I’m an AH for not considering him as a witness even though joke of my family or friends or Laura’s were there. He also said were assholes for just eloping meaning our marriage must be shit. He then brought my now 3 year old daughter into this and I swiftly blocked him.

I’ve recently brought up this bizarre exchange with my mom and she thinks that Laura and I should have had a proper wedding instead of the registry office reception with our daughter that we wanted. A few others have agreed with her but Laura says they’re idiots for dictating what they think a “real wedding” is and her family and our friends are on our side.

Who’s the AH here? ######

Response: NTA. Weddings are fun and great and I love going to them but they are not about me or anyone who is not one of the people actually getting married! This is your life! You're allowed to do whatever the hell you want! You wanted a quiet and sudden courthouse wedding, you got one. Done and done. ######


Prompt:
I (16M) and my brother (12M) live with joint custody between my mom (51F) and dad (53M).

My brother used to have a friend (we’ll call him A) in elementary school. They were never super close and I have never liked A because he is really whiny and spoiled because his parents are very rich. A has a college age brother named N but we never really talk because we don’t have a lot to talk about and he is not home a ton.

A year or two ago my brother stopped hanging out with A because of aforementioned reasons. By this time the dad of A (AD) and my dad had become friends. My brother never formally broke off his friendship with A in the interest of maintaining good will.

Unfortunately, A can’t take a hint. My brother has refused to hang out countless times but A still thinks they are on good terms.

Between this and my dads friendship with AD we go over there sometimes

I do not enjoy being with A’s family because I don’t have any friends over there & A acts bratty and spoiled a lot. My brother does not enjoy it either.

AD and my dad have talked about going camping this summer a lot but when I asked my dad he had always dismissed it as speculation. My dad knows very well that me and my brother do not want to go camping with A. We told him many times over the months but he has not listened.

Tonight my dad told us that he KNEW that we didn’t want to go camping with A’s family but we are going anyway for 4 days. Me and my brother put our feet down between disdain for A and concern for getting COVID (my dad has not been taking COVID-19 as seriously as we would like).

This is not something me and my brother have ever done so adamantly before and we are very serious about it.

My dad passive aggressively uninvited us and called us spoiled, bratty, and disrespectful. I think the real issue here is how he ignored our wishes for months and essentially chose AD over us.

So AITA for not just going or was it the right thing to tell our dad no? ######

Response: Nta. We’re supposed to be social distancing and even if we didn’t have to, why should you have to go camping with people that you don’t like? ######


Prompt:
My sister is a single mom, and is also unemployed. She has a 1 month old and just before she gave birth she asked to move in with me because she couldn’t pay her rent anymore and her landlord wasn’t going to let her renew her lease. Now I don’t really like my sister, she’s always gotten preferential treatment by our parents, she had her college tuition paid by them, I had to get a loan, they paid her rent until she was 25, I got a job like a normal human being. Now my mother can’t let her move in because when our dad died she moved into one of those assisted living places. She doesn’t need assistance but it’s kind of like a college dorm for old people I guess. But I’m not a monster so I said okay and let her move in, can’t have a newborn living on the street.

But holy hell its so annoying. All he does is cry all day. I’m trying to work in my office and I just hear him crying away. And then whenever I leave to use the bathroom she’s breastfeeding on the sofa. I’m sick of it. I’d kick her out today if she didn’t have a kid.

I told her yesterday to go upstairs when he cries or she’s going to feed him. I don’t want to see her breastfeeding, and I don’t want to hear crying all day. She got mad and said she doesn’t want to lock herself in her bedroom all day, and I reminded her that she’s living in my house rent free. But then today when I called my mom for Mother’s Day she told me off for making her stay upstairs, saying I can’t lock my sister in her room. Apparently my sister complained to her.

AITA?

Edit: I know what newborns do, but that doesn’t mean she has to do it in the main rooms all the time. I didn’t really have a choice letting her move in. ######

Response: NTA. We pay taxes so that people like your sister have access to women’s shelters. It’s not “my house or she’ll starve on the street” if you live in any country with a social welfare system. She needs to apply for welfare benefits and social housing because this situation is unsustainable and you think you’re helping but you’re not, you’re enabling her. ######


Prompt:
I know he automatically sounds like TA, but hear me out. I may be TA.

I (30f) found out today my uncle died. My mom was trying to get a hold of him, couldn't, had police do a wellness check, and it appears he died several days ago.

My mom is beyond devastated, and I'm very sad too. My uncle had a hard life, but was a very good man. I won't bore you with the details, but between an evil ex wife and estranged children due to ex wife, he deserved more.

My bf(30 m) has been trying to be kind and supportive-- he even brought me home all my favourite food.

I had gone through facebook seeing if I could find more info on my uncle's death and only came up on my dad's Facebook. My dad died suddenly at 65 back in 2016. I loved him dearly but I hadn't seen him in 3 years as we live in different provinces... So I have a lot of guilt there. My very beloved aunt also died the night of my dad's funeral.it was a long and sad battle with cancer and I was worried she would pass away while I was burying my dad. And she did... I out while I was writing my dad's eulogy... and .It. Broke. My. Heart.

So this evening while i got teary-eyed and upset about my uncle, I said ' first my dad, then my aunt, now my uncle' to remark on the pain that their deaths caused. Other family members have died, but these ones greatly impacted me.

After saying that, my boyfriend says " ya. that's life" a little dismissively.

I snapped and said " uhhh, fucking thank you? I know that's life? But it doesnt make it any less sad".

Needless to say I got pretty short with him and told him he was being insensitive. He told me I snapped at him and he just wont say anything and will stop talking.

Now I'm grieving AND have this arguement on my hands.

AITA?

I should also note-- my bf is normally extremely kind and sweet. He's a very empathetic person. Which is why I'm wondering if IATA or if he kind of sucks for this right now. ######

Response:
 NTA. We all handle grief in different ways. He was out of line for dismissing your feelings. Grieve however you need to and for some, the grief never ends; it just gets easier to process. Look up grief button on google and it details really well how grief affects us as an ongoing thing. You’ve had 3 people who you were close to pass on fairly close together. I do think however, it may be worth it to try and talk to your boyfriend about how his statement came off and hurt.

Edit: here’s the  [grief button](https://www.mamamia.com.au/ball-in-the-box-grief/) ######


Prompt:
So I created a throwaway cause Ill be reveling some facts that would me easy to dox if I used my normal reddit account.

Im a Civilian and I work for the US Army in Korea. Recently due to COVID19 I was put under what they call a Public Health Emergency which has placed restrictions on what Im allowed to do. One of those restrictions is Im not allowed to go to any bars. If I do so and get caught I get banned from all US Military bases which translates into me getting fired.

In addition to that the US Military has undercover military police patroling popular areas looking for violators and people are losing their careers over this. To add to this my job involves me working with the military police so Im confident if I broke the rules and someone saw me id be reported.

My girlfriend of 2 yrs is a Korean citizen and also she lives with me. The rules do not apply to her.

She went out drinking with her girlfriends. She got drunk and told me I needed to come pick her up from the bar. She was in a popular area and its very likely undercover police were watching the bar she was at. I didnt think it was a good idea to risk my career to get her. I told her to take a taxi.

Apparently im the asshole for refusing to pick her up. What do you think?

O she wasnt stranded. She ended up getting a taxi home just fine. ######

Response: NTA. Was she aware about this rule for you? Either way, the taxi seemed to have gotten her home just fine. ######


Prompt:
My (F23) cousin (F28) got married a few weeks ago. She paid for flights so my parents and I could be there. They were around 200€ each. She decided I could bring a +1 but she wouldn’t pay for their flight. A few months before I got the invite I started dating my girlfriend Maggie. I asked her if she wanted to be my +1 and she agreed. I‘m bisexual and my cousin didn’t know we were dating as we don’t have the best relationship and don’t talk that much.

However, she knows that I‘m bisexual so my +1 could have either been a male or a female. She never made any homophobic comments before but when I told her I would bring Maggie she was upset. My whole family knows about my sexuality and they are very supportive so it wouldn’t be me outing myself at her wedding. She thinks differently and doesn’t want me to steal her spotlight and be the talk of the wedding. Maybe her friends are against same- sex relationships?.

I‘ve decided not to go to the wedding because I was really hurt and I of course I didn’t want to ruin her day. Even though we’re not that close I didn’t want to be the reason she couldn’t enjoy her special day. Luckily we hadn‘t booked a flight for Maggie yet but my cousin had already booked the flight for my parents and I. I didn‘t bring it up to her beforehand that Maggie would be my +1 because I simply thought it wouldn’t be a problem. My cousin was very angry and upset that I wasn‘t coming and wanted me to pay for my flight which I refused.

It caused a huge family drama and I got quite a few messages from my family that I should have just gone to the wedding without my SO or should have paid her back the money. My cousin now demands an apology and still asks for her money. My friends are conflicted because I could have asked my cousin beforehand if she was okay with me bringing a girl, but when I came out to my family she never voiced that she wasn’t okay with this.

AITA for not paying and should just suck it up ?. ######

Response: NTA. Was fully prepared to call you an asshole but your reason for cancelling is that your cousin is being a biphobic asshole. She invited you with a guest and offered to pay for your flight, then revoked your guest because it was too gay for her. No reason you should pay for the privilege of not attending her wedding because she's decided to be a giant asshole. ######


Prompt: I went over to this guys house to hook up. I am 19 years old, female, and live with my parents while I attend college. They are strict Christians. I do not have enough to move out as rent is a minimum of 1k a month where I live and minimum wage is 8 an hour. Anyway I got back and my mother took my car and has grounded me. Which was whatever. My mother said no hookups in her house or some bullshit so it’s whatever. Well, I made the fucking mistake of going to the grocery store with her. And, I forgot I still had a super super faint hickey mark. She screamed at me in the middle of the store and got home and told my fucking dad. I am BEYOND EMBARRASSED right now and extremely angry. I understand their house their rules but my sex life is not their business!! AITA? ######

Response: NTA. Wait, they grounded you and took your car? Um, no, if the car is in your name they can not take that away from you. Do you have a friend you can stay with to get away from them? Your mother sounds like an absolute asshole though, yelling at you in a store for something that is none of her business. ######


Prompt:
Two days ago my(22F) dad (52) accidentally found out that I‘m gay. I was listening to music and was on Tinder and didn’t notice that he was in the room. He came up behind me and saw what I was doing. There was no point in denying it (he knows how the app works) and I thought that this might be the time to finally get the truth out.

Judging by the title you can already guess that it didn’t go well. He started yelling that I was throwing my life away, how disgusting same-sex relationships are and the list goes on. He didn’t let me explain myself at all and left me crying in the room but not before calling me a waste of space. That hurt so much I can‘t even explain it. He had made a few homophobic comments before and I wasn’t sure how he would take my coming out. But I guess I’ve always thought he would be somewhat supportive of his own daughter. I called a friend who picked me up that night and she lets me stay at her place for as long as I need. He reached out yesterday and said he wanted to talk and apologized saying he said all that on the spur of the moment. I haven’t answered yet and don’t really feel like talking. My friends say I don’t owe him anything but he‘s practically all the family I have left and maybe he will come around. ######

Response: NTA. wait until you're ready. ######


Prompt:
It’s my boyfriends adult sons birthday next week. My boyfriend volunteered me without my permission to clean his entire house. I told him no and he got very mad at me. He has volunteered me to clean other relatives/friends houses too.  He said I was being selfish and lazy. I know it’s his birthday, but I’m certain he can clean his house.

***Edit- I live in a country that wasn’t hit hard by the virus so parties under 10 are allowed.*** ######

Response: NTA. Volunteering someone *else's* time and effort isn't a call anyone but the person themselves should be making so casually. If he was so set on getting the house cleaned for his son's birthday, he should've offered himself or *asked* and gone from there. ######


Prompt:
I will try to keep this as concise as possible.

My wife and I have been together for going on 27 years. We met at a pretty low point in both of our lives, coming from broken homes and an unhealthy dependency on food. We both probably weighed around 300lbs, and though our weight has fluctuated over the years we both currently sit at around 350lbs and 450lbs respectively, with her being the latter.

I cook all the food that we eat as my wife is unable to be on her feet long enough to make meals. I am completely okay with this, as I’ve really been able to hone in on my cooking skills over the years and can essentially throw down in the kitchen. When my oldest daughter told us she was pregnant a few months back, it really made me reevaluate our lifestyle choices. I wanna be able to run around with my grandkids, but I can’t do that in my current situation. Over the course of several months I’ve been looking into healthier alternatives of our favorite foods and trying to exercise more, slowly implementing both into our lives and my wife was initially on board.

More recently she’s stopped wanting to workout with me which I respected, but I’ve continued to cook healthier meals and she no longer wants to eat them. I’ve stopped buying junk and with a suspended license she can’t drive to get fast food, so I assumed she would just eat what I made like she always has. She feels like I’m forcing a lifestyle into her that she never agreed to, but I’m not pushing her to eat what I’ve made or workout. I suggested she could learn to cook what she wants and I would even help her, but I won’t continue to cook foods I no longer want to eat. Does this make me TA? ######

Response: NTA. Versions of this scenario are posted here all the time from both sides; judgement is still the same, she’s an adult, she can either get food for herself or eat what the person who is cooking for the house is making. You aren’t obligated to cook something you don’t want just to appease her. ######


Prompt:
I’m gonna keep this short because I’m getting madder by the second.

So me and my boyfriend plan to move in together after New Years. We both live at home with our families right now and we’re just too old for this and need our privacy. The big problem per the title is that his high school age sister has a dog that she got last year. Now I advised them that she shouldn’t get a dog because she’s always out with friends and will be going to college in 2 years anyways and won’t be able to take him since she’ll be so busy.

Now fast forward to now and he’s telling me in-a-matter-of-fact way that he is going to take over the dog when she leaves for college next year, when we will be living together. I do not want a dog. I don’t want to pay the deposit on having a dog at the apartment. I have had a dog my entire life and I know they cost time and money that we won’t have. Mostly him because he works long hours and all the responsibilities will fall on me. Neither of them are experienced pet owners. He’s a big dog, which I had from experience and I loved them but it kinda sucks. He’s also loud every time someone moves. I’m mad. I’m mad that this was just decided upon and I’m supposed to go along with it. I want to tell him that I don’t want to live with him if he’s bringing this dog that was never my responsibility to begin with. Is that rude?

Like I get it’s his sister’s dog and he doesn’t want the dog to be alone but there’s 3 more people in the house who can take care of him, who currently take care of him! He just volunteered! ######

Response: NTA. Usually when this topic comes up it's someone wanting their partner to get rid of a preexisting pet to accommodate them. But it sounds like you were planning to move in together prior to him accepting this dog, in which case he definitely should be consulting you and have it be a joint decision. You didn't agree to have a dog when you decided to move in together, it's not fair of him to just expect you to go along with this especially if you'll be the one expected to care for it most of the time. ######


Prompt:
Last night my partner had a uni exam that went quite late. I cooked dinner and we ate it upstairs in bed.

This morning I saw that he peed into one of the tupperware containers we keep food in after finishing his dinner. I told him it was absolutely repulsive because that's where we keep food. He said it shouldn't matter because it's just salt water and hed wash it out. I told him it was disgusting and he should throw out the container or mark it because I dont want to use it anymore.

He BLEW UP and told me I was overreacting and using anger to get my way. He then scrubbed the container and mixed it in with the other Tupperware so I couldnt mark it.

Now we aren't speaking. He says my reaction was way over the top and all guys do this. I say its gross that he peed in the container and even grosser for trying to hide it from me so that I have to use it.

So internet people, AITA? ######

Response:
 NTA. Urinating in food containers was a thing you expressed to be gross, then he mixed the tupperware containers up so you have to perpetually wonder which one's the pisserware? Yikes.

Can he hold his bladder to get to the cold, far-away bathroom, does he have a medical issue or is he a sloth? Good god, what else is he pissing in. What else. Set it all on fire.

Edit: Thanks for the awards and upvotes! ######


Prompt:
My mom made the decision on her own to allow my aunt (her sister) and my cousin to move in with us after she lost her job, her home, and essentially became homeless. She never mentioned it to me and I'm not heartless.. I understand what's going on, but they have been here for two weeks now and I cannot stand it.

The reasons I am losing my mind is because my aunt doesn't do anything but drink and watch tv in the living room all day, where they sleep, and my cousin who is 29 is literally a couch potato. He has never held a job in his life and has no plans too, on top of that his hygiene is fucking terrible. He refuses to take a shower and it's fucking gross. He wakes up at 7AM and immediately gets on his laptop until 11PM, no joke. While this occurs he demands my aunt to wait on him. He's useless. I almost throw up in my own home because he stinks so bad. My mom ignores this all by locking herself in her room and it's fucked up because it's not just us four. My boyfriend, my brother, his girlfriend, and their baby live here too.

In conclusion we’re all fucking sick of it, but my mom doesn't want to kick her out because it's her sister but I think sometimes even though shit hurts it has to be done. AITA?

TL;DR living in an uncomfortable situation with aunt and cousin, we’re sick of it but nothing’s being done. ######

Response: NTA. Unplug the internet until he has a shower..If he doesn't like it then simply change the password until he does start to like it. ######


Prompt:
Basically I went out on my lunch break and left my AirPods on my desk, keep in mind I work in a very small office with 7 other people who I trust.

When I got back to my desk I looked for my AirPods and I was certain I’d left them on my mouse pad as I always do I checked my draws and on the floor in case I’d knocked them down without noticing, meanwhile my co worker walks over and asks if I was okay and I tell them I was just looking for my AirPods and then they walked off.

15 mins later the same coworker comes up to me and puts my AirPods on my desk and says I shouldn’t leave things like that around and says he did it to teach me a lesson.

I snapped and told him not to take my stuff again, I’m not sure if I over reacted but I don’t like my stuff being taken to “teach me a lesson”

AITA ######

Response: Nta. Unless you work with your father and you’re 15, this person has no business trying to teach you a lesson. ######


Prompt:
I am not English so sorry for any mistakes or missunderstandings ahead of time. I am 27M if that is relevant and the woman was in her early 20's.

2 days ago on Saturday I woke up at like 2 AM(So technically sunday morning I guess) by what I can only describe as weird moans outside my window. When I looked outside there was a young woman rolling around in my front yard so I figured she must have been hit by a car or something and ran outside to help.

Nope, she was drunk, like really fucking drunk, weird noises, puking, halfnaked it was pretty damn disgusting to be honest.

So I tried to communicate with her and after like 5 minutes she literally tossed her phone in my general direction afterwhich I used her finger to unlock it and called someone marked as "Sister". After several tries she answered with as extremely pissed of voice(2 AM so makes sense lol)

Well I explained the situation and she told me she'd be like 20 minutes and to take her sister inside and put her on the couch or something. I said no because I am not putting someone who is literally laying in her own puke on my couch.

Well after like 15 minutes of me trying to give this girl coffee without her spilling it allover herself her sister arrived and immefiatly begun yelling at me for "Not helping her sister" and "Being an asshole for not putting her inside and cleaning her up asnow her car will be ruined."

I was pretty damn stunned but I got a bit of a temper myself(Mom is Serbian lol) and told her to take her sister and get the F out of here before I call the police on her sorry ass for trespassing, flipped her off and walked back inside.

Now I was pretty sure I was not TA but when I told my girlfriend on the phone the next day she said I was because the girl might have been freezing outside and that it was dangerous to not take her inside. So now I am confused, was I TA? ######

Response: NTA. Unless you were ankle deep in snow she wasn't freezing any time soon. You did a wonderful thing by getting up and helping her by getting her sister there and making sure she was not actually hit by a car or anything. The sister was awful, I would have been so grateful and apologetic if I was in her shoes. You did good, her being a puking mess isn't your responsibility - keeping her alive and getting help is as a fellow human being. That's what you did and that's fine. ######


Prompt:
For starters, he uses my car because his is wrecked (not a car accident, he didn't do repairs when needed and eventually everything started failing). I only have my temps because of the lockdown, and I'm giving it another week or so until the lines are short enough for me to be willing to take the driving test. Since I cant drive as much as him, I've been letting him drive mine. Before his car ultimately died, I helped him clean it out. It was like a goddamn hoarder's house it was so disgusting. Moldy food in fast food bags, dozens if not a hundred half empty bottles of drinks, and god knows what embedded in the seat fabric. I had completely vacuumed and deep cleaned every inch of my car when I bought it (2004 grandpa-mobile so it was in need of a good clean, and I treat it like my child because I paid for it by myself as my first vehicle). Within a week of him driving it, there were crumbs on the floor and not a single cupholder was empty. Not only this, but he accidentally left a bag of buns under the seat. I told him to take it out when I found it, he left for work, and I realized it was still there weeks later because he forgot about it again. Moldy af. I had to clean everything again myself, and snapped saying that the next time I find so much as a straw wrapper left in the car he wont be allowed to drive it anymore. He is saving up for a down payment on a nice car so I've been patient with him, but he's starting to make messes again.

WIBTA if I finally stop letting him drive it? He would have to take uber everywhere which would slow down his buildup of savings. ######

Response: NTA. Unless you want to potentially live with a slob in the future you should make it very clear you won’t tolerate that going forward. ######


Prompt:
Me and my wife split when our son was around 4ish, I don't want to go in-depth but she got married almost 3 months after our divorce.  We split custody 50/50 so I got him 2 weeks every month and summer while she got him for easter and christmas.

My ex's husband brought 4 kids together with my ex and my son, I don't have any other kids so it was just him.  My son changed the custody when he was 13 to where he spends summers, christmas and 3 weeks at my place with 1 week at their.  I know the divorce was hard and we did put him in therapy but he stopped after awhile cause he didn't feel anything was really changing and he seems better.

He texted me that he was coming over, and my ex called me and she was very mad at me.  She said that I am poisoning our son, cause she said that he NEVER talks to his step dad or step siblings.  She said thinks like he calls himself an only child, never talks to his step siblings at all, never talks to his dad and said that if he could would live with me full time.  She got mad and told me to have a talk with him cause this isn't right or fair to her husband or kids.

I told my ex that if he has having troubles at her house that is her business and not mine.  She hung up the second I said that and I didn't bring it up with my son.  AITA? ######

Response: NTA. Unless you are poisoning your son, but it sounds more like he doesn't like his step siblings or step father. You don't have to solve their problems, but it wouldn't hurt to talk to your son about why he doesn't like spending time there. Maybe there are some easily solveable issues that would make things better for him. ######