Prompt:
Okay so basically my girlfriend (23f) and I (24m) have been dating for just over 4 months it’s been pretty good, little to no arguments about anything.

She came over last Thursday and said she had a gift for me and one for herself too, I thought this was strange as it’s not near any of our birthdays or anything. She handed a box and told me to open it, inside was a baby camera, immediately my heart started racing as I thought she was going to tell me she was pregnant, but to my surprise she wasn’t.

She told me she wants me to put it in my living room so “we can always see each other even when we’re not together” because it is wifi enabled through an app you can get up on your phone.

I spun some story to avoid conflict as she was only going to be at my house for the next hour or so, I told her I was too afraid of hackers getting into it and watching me, but I don’t actually want to be seen at all times by my girlfriend. She called that bluff and got angry with me in which I asked her to leave, she did so in tears.

Please note she doesn’t use reddit and this isn’t a throwaway but I am not cheating and I wouldn’t so that’s not why I’m opting out of it.

I told her I needed a few days to myself and haven’t seen her since (it’s Monday now) I understand we both have feelings but i don’t know if I disregarded hers too much

AITA for not wanting to put a baby monitor in my house? ######

Response: Nta, major invasion of privacy, she has to respect that.  That’s fucking weird. ######


Prompt:
I come from a large family. Everyone is going through a tough time right now. In particular my baby sister (29) who has had her hours drastically cut. She was expecting an unemployment check today but didn’t receive it and is too stressed to call to find out why. I get it, anxiety sucks. She says she’s ok for now but one of my other sisters started a group to try to raise money for her. I said I’ll give her money if she asks for it.

  The shit hit the fan. How dare I force her to ask, I know how proud she is! I do know, I’ve offered her desperately needed money before and she’s refused. So have other family members, pride runs strong in the family. I don’t feel like doing it again. She (any of them) can ask me for money or just not get money from me.

My husband agrees with me. My entire family is calling me a bitch and kicked me out of the texting group.
AITA here?

ETA I think I wasn’t clear enough. The sister who is leading the charge against me offered my underemployed sister money but she said “no” she didn’t need anything right now. Which is why I’m saying “if you need something, just ask. Let me know and I’ll help.

I said “loans” but I never ask my family to pay me back and I make that clear to them. I call it a loan so they can feel better about it. That pride thing again. ######

Response: NTA, like you said, she’s already refused profusely before, so if she’s really desperate and has no other options she’ll come to her family. i honestly think it’ll hurt her pride more if you all were to actively raise money and then give it to her. she’s an adult, and she can figure it out without her family holding her hand financially ######


Prompt:
So my niece (15f, we’ll call her oliva) and I (15f) are really close in age, she’s a month older then I am. My parents had me when they were both 41, and by then my sister was 20 and already had her own kid. Because of our ages, we’ve never really had the typical aunt/niece relationship. We’re more like cousins, but she calls me auntie as a joke.

So I just got a inhaler for some breathing problems I have related to allergies. We were chilling in my room watching tv and she asked to see my inhaler. So I give it to her and for no reason at all, she puts it in her mouth and starts fucking rapidly pressing it over and over again. So I freak out, and wrestle it from her and start yelling at her because man I don’t know if you can overdose on that shit.

And I also only got so many uses in one can and she just used up about 20. So I’m yelling at her asking wtf she just did that for and she just gets up and storms out. I kinda just sat there for a moment before I walked out to find her telling her mom (my sister) on me. My sister got really pissed at me, because ‘she was just curious’.

She said that I had to apologize to oliva, but I laughed at her and said no way. The whole time oliva is just kinda standing there look sheepish. I say no, and she just takes oliva and storms out. My parents are on my side but they said that yelling at her was kinda a asshole move because I really don’t have the right. But she just put her mouth on my medical equipment and used it up.

Was yelling at her really a asshole move? AITA? And does anyone have a idea as to why the hell she thought it was ok to just do that?? ######

Response:
 NTA, like you said, she used your medication. Who tf does that?

My aunt and I are six months apart (I’m older) and the amount of times we’ve yelled at each other for doing something stupid can’t even be counted. If she one day decided to take a bunch of my ADHD meds (no longer on, reasons), I’d flip my shit at her.

Your niece and your sister are assholes. ######


Prompt:
My GF of two years is scared of cats, and I mean REALLY scared of cats. I have had this cat for 7 years. At first when she came to my place I had to take the cat outside, close all windows or doors and make sure my cat didn't sneak up to play with me or something like that. Long story short, she couldn't take it anymore and told me that she feels really uncomfortable knowing that there is a cat lurking around and that she wouldn't come to my place again if I didnt get rid of my cat. We tried therapy but it looks like the therapy is for me to cope with the loss of my pet.,

I don't want to give my cat away so last saturday we talked about this and broke up ..Now I feel like shit for ruining my relationship. AITA?

[Kitty](https://i.imgur.com/oBgaopm.jpg) not knowing what is going on :(

EDIT1:
 HOLLY CRAP! I didn't expect this amount of response! Thank you everyone for taking the time and leave your comment. It is hard to understand that things and plans sometimes doesn't work or go the way we want and that is fine, that is life. It is harder when feelings are involved.  ######

Response:
 NTA, kitty was there first, and gf sounds like she needs the therapy if she is going to freak out about being anywhere near a cat.
Your cat is freakin adorable btw ######


Prompt:
So, my fiancee tore a bunch of pages out of my sketchbook when I let her use it when we played DnD. These were pages she didn't use, and many had drawings on them. I didn't notice she did this until I was given the sketchbook back, and then we had this conversation:

Me: hey, can you be sure to not take any pages out of this next time? Especially if I've drawn on it.

Her: ok?? But you let me use it for dnd

Me: yeah, but I didn't say you could rip out a bunch of pages.

Her: but you said I could have it for dnd.

Me: I never said you could have it, I just told you you could use some of the pages when we play dnd. I even said we should go to walgreens to get more

Her: you shouldn't even be mad about this

Me: its not okay to tell me how to feel

Her: yeah, it is.

Me: no, thats bordering on emotional abuse.

Her: you're being irrationally angry about this, you need to be told how to feel

Me: you started making excuses and then started telling me how to feel, of course Im angry

Her: im not making excuses, you clearly dont know what that word means

It doesn't get any better from there, and ends with her yelling at me that Im always wrong and don't want to admit it. I don't know how to feel or if thats true, so I'm asking you all. Am I the asshole? ######

Response: NTA, Just saying, you've called the bullshit spot on and it's being ignored. 🚩🚩🚩🚩🚩🚩🚩 ######


Prompt: Here's the situation. I've been living in this shared apartment with 2 other poeple for 3 years now. The other two havent always been the same two people but keep constantly changing like every 6-12 months. So I'm not really building a relationship with them here. And for 3 years I've been living there I've bought/brought almost every necessity there can be and I never charged any of the others for it. Practically 95% of the kitchen tools and whatnot is from me. Be it pans, pots, knives, mixers, even a freezer, its all mine. And I plan on taking everything with me when I move in with my gf sometime soon, like in 1-2 years. I paid for it, so why shouldn't I take it? I'm definitely planning on doing so but 10% of me still feels kind of bad to let the other 2 people, whoever they may be until then, sit there with just one shitty ass old pot and no kitchen machines (toaster, mixer, microwave). ######

Response: NTA, just make sure you give them a heads up so they can prepare ######


Prompt:
My sister (38) had a child 3 years ago. I (25) took that child under my wing 3 years ago. Here's a bit about the situation.

My sister  has  drug and alcohol addictions.

My sister give birth to a beautiful little boy. The minute the child was born the social worker where involved as this wasnt my sister 1st child.
She had a child 18 years ago and our mother and father ended up taking the child in when he was 4.

The child born 3 years ago was in the position of going to foster care.  I couldnt let this happen. He's  famiy. so I did everything in my power to kept him in our family

I stept in and took the child under my wing. At 22 this was a big resonabile but I didnt cared. I had to quit my jobs and I had to buy everything for the child as my sister hadn't had anything. She was gifted stuff but the person that gifted it asked for it back. I moved out of my home house to get a house of my own so the child could stay in my care.

My sister  sign and agreed that I cared for the child. I have full guardianship now.

The child calls me mammy. And calls my sister by her first name. In the years to come I am going to tell the child everything. The child knows he has a big brother but is to young to understand yet about his birth mother.

The child sees the mother every week for 2 hours. Due to the covid 19 it had to  be put on hold. However the mother only has two hours once a week and sometimes comes late. She somethings shows up with drink in her (gets turned away the door) and sometimes doesn't even show up at all.

She hasn't seen the child for 3 or months and I was putting the contact back on today. She didn't show. Didnt ring. Nothing. Found our later she slept in.

I'm my opinion I dont think she's that bothered

I'm not sure if I should continue the contact in future as she is unreliable and it's not fair to the child

Would I be the asshole if I stop contact with the birth mother and the child. ######

Response: NTA, just make sure you are legally covered. You can always restart contact later if/when mom cleans up her act. ######


Prompt:
A little background: I am the scapegoat of my family and it has lead to a lot of self hate and a I’ve been trying to unlearn a lot of it recently. A while ago I had a breakdown and confined in my sister that I always feel like people hate me, specially my family but also strangers and friends and we had a talk about it and I completely forgot we ever had that conversation. Today me and her had an argument about something completely unrelated and she said “well atleast I’m not hated by literally everyone around me” and I instantly felt horrible, not only because this is something that I struggle with so much but also because I trusted her and told her my biggest insecurity and she used it against me in front of the rest of my family (who didn’t disagree lolol), we live in the same house unfortunately but I’ve been avoiding her, we haven’t spoken in maybe a week, she tried talking to me today by asking to watch a movie and I told her I don’t feel comfortable hanging out with her, am I the asshole for wanting to completely isolate myself from her after this incident?

TLDR: told my sister my biggest insecurity and she used it against me in an unrelated argument ######

Response: NTA, just because she's family doesn't mean you owe her any of your time especially with her saying that to you ######


Prompt: My mom has always made the joke "I gave birth to you so this day is actually all about me" all my life, but as I get older, she has been saying it more and more each time. Today she has been saying it every 20 minutes since this morning, when I came to visit for the day. She has been talking about herself all day more than usual, about her life as a kid growing up in Italy, and I'm just tired of it. Am I an asshole for getting mad and just going in a different room trying to avoid her all day? I just feel selfish wanting a little bit of self importance for my birthday, because she keeps making it about her. My mom went on an hour long talk about how amazing she is in front of my girlfriend and I feel embarrassed. ######

Response: NTA, just because she birthed you doesn’t make it “her day”. It’s supposed to be a day to celebrate your life. ######


Prompt: So my father told my grandparents that i got into a wreck for his self entertainment and to stirr drama as he has in the past to put himself in the spotlight, however i chewed him out for it as it went to far, and he is defending himself saying they knew he was playing however it took me 30 minutes on the phone to convince my grandparents (including my grandfather who is recovering from a stroke still) i feel guilty because he honestly not a bad person but damn if he didint piss me off. ######

Response: NTA, joke's are only joke's if people are laughing. That sounds like your dad is a sadist. ######


Prompt:
I’ve been applying to jobs for a bit now. Recently, I had a Zoom interview for a position in my town. The listing said nothing about commuting or going to another office.

During the interview, the interviewer said “So I know the ad said the job was in x town, but it’s really in y town. Would that be a problem?” That town is an hour and a half away from me one way. I would not have applied for the position and have my location range on the job site set for a certain way. I said “Well, yes. I assumed it was for your x office since you put that town on your ad.” They said “Yes but we wanted more applicants. I personally travel between all of our offices often.”

Good for him, but a 3 hour daily commute would not work for me. I told him I could work for x office if there was a position available. Interview ended not long after.

I went to the online job board I applied on and reported the job for being misleading. It was removed the next day. My husband says I overreacted by having it removed. I think it’s unprofessional to do that. Was I an asshole? ######

Response: NTA, jobs shouldn’t advertise as being in a city they aren’t. That’s false advertising. ######


Prompt:
I'm the eldest sibling in my family and have always prompted my younger brothers to remember important dates for our parents. Over the past two years, my youngest brother (29) has been living with a woman who has some strong beliefs about death and being in places where people have died. As such, my brother has drifted away from the family.

He has said some very rude and offensive things to me and our other brother and uses our parents as an ATM. I can't blame my parents for helping, as it is always some dire emergency like their power is going to be shut off (the GF has two kids from two other guys who live with them) or not enough money for groceries, etc.

Recently, he has refused leftovers that my mother was bringing to him for his lunch at work as the food has been in her house and is "cursed." These lunch drop offs were the only in person contact my mother had with him. When he cut off the visits, it broke her heart and she cried. My mom is not a crier, so you can imagine the protective outrage throughout my family, though we didn't actually go after my brother.

Today is my Mom's birthday. Usually, I would remind my brothers to wish her a happy birthday, but since every time my youngest brother calls, he asks for money and causes general disappointed heartbreak, WIBTA if I didn't remind him? There is a good chance he'll see that it's her birthday on Facebook and that will remind him to call, but if I don't, WIBTA? ######

Response: NTA, its not your responsibility. ######


Prompt:
This is kind of weird and I guess NSFW.

I’ve been just chilling in my room naked for these past few days because it’s comfortable. I don’t really do this normally. My mom got really angry at me and told me that I had to put cloths on. I told her I’m just in my room and I put on cloths if I want to leave, it’s her own fault if she comes in without knocking first (I’ve told her a bunch she needs to knock, she’s walked in on me changing one too many times..) and it’s not like I’m walking around the house like this. I feel like my room should be my own space and I shouldn’t have to worry about how appropriate my attire is. She said she doesn’t care and ‘what if there’s an emergency?!’

This is the kicker though: my dad hangs around the house exclusively in his underwear when he’s home. And I’m just like wtf?? It just seems so hypocritical to me lol. She never says a word to him.

I know this is super weird, but I have to know, AITA? ######

Response: NTA, it’s your room you should be able to do what you want, But you should at least put underwear on and that’s what I came to a conclusion to before I even read about your dad ######


Prompt:
I (24f) just left an abusive relationship in the end of February. I moved in with my family because I had nowhere else to go. I just found out that I'm pregnant and told my sister (20) and my mom. I haven't told the rest of my family yet because I want to get a doctor's appointment to confirm and to make sure everything is ok first, but today I decided to tell my brother (22). After I told him, he told me that my sister already told him. I super pissed at her because it wasn't her news to tell. I feel like she violated my trust in so many levels, not to mention stealing a special moment from me. She won't tell me who all she has told about my pregnancy and I'm really hurt. I have a very high risk of losing the baby and I feel like the more people know, the more it will hurt when I lose the baby.

Am I the asshole for being angry at my sister?

I apologise for the bag formatting. I'm on my phone and this is one of my first posts. ######

Response: NTA, it’s your news to tell. You trusted your sister and your mom. I will say that she might not have known it was a big deal to tell him unless you told her not to tell anyone though, so take that into consideration. ######


Prompt:
Pretty simple story.

My sister(23F) recently took my Tesla our for a joyride. I’m pissed for several reasons. She went into my room, and she stole the key. She also took my Tesla for a joyride without my permission. Nothing bad happened to it, but she always does shit like this. She’s absolutely spoiled and has no boundaries.

I was in the process of buying my parent’s house when I had the idea to kick her out since the house was mine. So, I just left her an eviction notice, and after I legally could, I changed the locks.

A couple of our mutual friends think I’m extremely in the wrong, probably because she lives with some of them now. Lol.

So, AITA? ######

Response: NTA, it’s your house and she definitely doesn’t respect you. You have every right to do what you want regarding who lives with you. ######


Prompt:
I(M18) bought a new-ish computer by myself after working my butt off for it, but since I had no desk in my room, I put it downstairs. My family (mom, dad, and brother 15) uses it like a family computer. Now that I have a desk, I want to keep it in my room so I can keep in touch with friends and play games.

I understand that they may need a computer for things like paying the bills and school work, but my dad has a laptop that he has used to do that stuff before. In fact, he was looking to buy a new computer before I bought mine, and stopped after I had expressed that I was saving up for one. My brother has an opportunity to borrow a cromebook for schoolwork from the school district. He has not taken the opportunity and instead uses my computer for it.

I just want to play with my friends and work on my writing in peace without having my family looking over my shoulder, but is it wrong to take it?

Any help would be appreciated, thanks! ######

Response: NTA, it’s your computer. It sounds like your family has other means of accessing the internet and should be fine ######


Prompt:
Just under a week ago my mum's credit card got cloned, meaning she had to cancel it and get a new one. She asked if she could use mine for the time being and I (18f) said sure she can use contactless, there isn't much in it my account and I trust her.

For context, my brother (13m) without going into too much detail has done some very questionable things that have led to him being kicked out of one school and suspended numerous times from another.

The issue comes when my brother needs a new pair of trainers because there is a hole in his old ones. The contactless limit where I live (idk if it's different elsewhere) is £45. My mum and brother are leaving the house when my mum turns to me and says "Can you give me your pin in case the trainers are over that amount". Now I know I'm not supposed to tell anyone my pin but realistically I would probably give my mum the pin, but my brother is standing right there and I really don't want him to hear it because it wouldn't be that hard for him to take my card and use it, so I say no. The amount itself isn't really an issue because there is enough in my account and my mum said she would pay me back, but it isn't really that hard to find a pair of trainers under £45 anyway.

My brother starts going off on one about how I'm selfish and he won't be able to get any trainers now thanks to me. My mum is really not confrontational so she just kinda stands there. In the end they both went and brought a decent enough pair of trainers for like 30 quid or something, but my brother's still not speaking to me and my mum says I should've just told her it.

I mean I'm legally an adult now and I don't feel like I'm obligated to tell her anything but AITA here? ######

Response: NTA, it’s not your responsibility to tell your family private details like your PIN number, and £45 is more than enough to buy a pair of trainers for a teenager. Your brother is just being ridiculous because he didn’t get his own way ######


Prompt: To give some backstory, I was adopted when I was 10 into a single parent household. I was raised primarily by my mom with the help of my grandpa who lives with us. I am now 21 and have always identified as being raised by a single mother. My mom has been dating her bf for close to 5 years now and I am very happy for her. Last year, my mom and I got into an argument because she wanted me to get him a gift for fathers day. I openly opposed since I do not consider him to be my father, nor do I have a close relationship with him. I think he is an amazing person who is good to my mom, but he never helped raised or discipline me. I have barely even spoken to him alone nor have I had a deep conversation with him. In fact I tend to get hyperaware when I do interact with him one on one since I storta want his approval. Although it would be nice to have a deeper relationship, we currently do not have one. I am getting stressed since fathers day is coming up in a month and I know my mom is gonna want me to get him a gift since she has already started to mention it. Last year my mom got angry at me when I just got him a funny/cute card and she tore it up bc she thought I did not take it seriously enough. My grandpa said it would be considerate of me to get him something and I am confused as to why? My mom said that he has always wanted a child but I am honestly confused as to why she feels so strongly about this. In my opinion, I do not consider him to be any sort of father figure. I feel like I should just such it up and get him something, but I just feel like they are not taking my feelings into consideration. Tbh if I should be getting anyone a father's day gift, it should be my grandpa since I actually consider to be a sort of father figure in my life. ######

Response: NTA, it’s Father’s Day, not “mom’s nice boyfriend of five years” day. ######


Prompt:
I'll try to keep this short. Me and my long-time girlfriend live together in Florida. My girlfriend is Irish and I am American. I normally fly an American flag in our lawn because I think it looks nice and ties the house together with a dash of 'murican patriotism. Sometimes I fly the Irish flag below the American flag.

I'm not trying to politicize this post so suffice it to say that recent events have prompted me to think it was a good idea to maybe just fly the Irish flag for a little while. So I did, Irish flag goes up and our neighbor from a few houses down knocks on our door in the late afternoon. He inquires about the lack of American flag on my pole and tell him I just feel a little bit Irish today, trying to keep things lighthearted.

We've had a few minor run-ins before. He's made some questionable comments about having a threesome since me and my girlfriend are both women and we've used the non-emergency line a few times on him when he gets drunk and starts hollering and making a racket in the wee hours of the morning. Minor mutual dislike on both ends here.

Bob (neighbor) tells me that it's disrespectful to fly any other flag on the top of the staff other than the American flag while on American soil. I tell him that this is my property and any flag I like will fly on the top of the staff whilst on my soil. He huffs away. Our neighborhood is nosy so I got 2 other visits from neighbors that day. One lady who accused me of being "insubordinate" and fake-politely asking me to put the American flag back up and one of my friends who decided to come over and tell me how me and my girlfriend were essentially the juicy new gossip. Fantastic.

Honestly I think this is all pretty stupid and I'm surprised it's become as big of a deal as it has. I suspect that our neighbors are getting bored. Obviously me and my girlfriend have one view of the situation but I'm curious to know what Reddit thinks about all this. AITA? ######

Response: NTA, it's your garden. Hardly like its an ISIS flag is it ######


Prompt:
For clarity, I live in the UK. In the UK we are allowed to apply for five universities based on predicted grades, then narrow it down to two later on depending on your offers. If you meet the required grades for those offers, then you choose the university.
I'm at the phase just before applying. I've been lucky enough to get the predicted grades to apply wherever I want. The problem comes with outside influence. I want particularly to go to a specific uni in Scotland; the buildings and town and course all seem like exactly what I want. Truly, this place is WONDERFUL and I haven't seen any information that would prevent me for choosing it. Also, the distance would allow me to remove myself from toxic friends and mean I don't have to listen to four siblings and two parents yelling at each other whilst I work.
 However, my parents don't want me to apply at all. I live in London so whenever I mention this university they always talk about how selfish I am for wanting to move so far away, how I'd be throwing my future away and how I'm severly limiting myself. Furthermore, I'd like to add that the universities they want me to apply to has the exact same grade requirements as where I want to go, but it has more 'reputation'. They're also all in commuting distance of my house. I haven't said that I wouldn't apply to my parents choice, but I know if I get in it will basically be constant pressure until I accept.
I've assured my family that I'll come home in the holidays, that I'll facetime them all the time and that I find the course there really fascinating, but they refuse to listen.
AITA? ######

Response: NTA, it's your future. University is a long commitment, and you don't want to go somewhere which won't make you happy. ######


Prompt:
For context: my laptop was originally given to my mother but she had no interest in it so she gave it to me. I've had it for almost 8 or 9 years. My sister was gifted the laptop she has when she was a teenager and has had it for over a decade. She is also older by 9 years, so 26rn and i'm 17.

A month in quarantine, my sister had asked me to borrow my laptop. I agreed, as long as she gave it back by X hour so i could watch a movie (MHA for those interested). Giving national exams this June, it was extremely hard to find some free time and that was my first day off. I had planned this night for a week!

I had assumed that it was something related to her college since she insisted on not telling me, my bad on this one. That's why i had agreed as hers is old. But NOPE. Turns out, she wanted was to check the size of SIMS so she could download it to her own laptop later. fine. I didn't like it but she said that's all she wanted so again i kept my cool

But her PC couldn't hold the game. she then turned to me and claimed my laptop as her gaming one. I instantly told her that she can't do that and grabbed my laptop from her and procceeded to yell at her.

When mom intervened, to my shock, she tried to defend my sister!! I have to spend long hours on my computer for classes and studying. I barely have any time off and those rare moments of free time; i want to spend them doing something i like! My sister was literally throwing a tantrum over it.

I was furious with both of them. Had i done something like this, they would have cut my head off yet my mom wasn't on my side when she would have for my sister! My mom is a great, but she sometimes pulls this stuff. I wouldn't even care about giving my sister my laptop to play, Had she asked me first!

So AITA? Still not giving it for those wondering ######

Response: NTA, it's your computer. She is not entitled to use it. If she wants to play the Sims, she can but a new one herself. You need yours for school. ######


Prompt:
It's not a big deal at all and it has been resolved since but it left me unsure if I'm in the wrong.

My girlfriend and I both had our own Spotify premium accounts to begin with, but at one point she decided she didn't want to pay for it anymore, even though she listens to music a lot.
I felt bad for her, as free Spotify has these annoying ads every so many songs.
Therefore, I gave her the login to my account, under the condition that she listens offline when I'm also using it. You can't have two people online on the same Spotify Premium account, unless you buy the family package (which I didn't have).

Now today she started saying how I should just go offline whenever she's listening, too.
By going offline though, I can't go on social media either while listening to music, as you have to turn both your wifi and data off for Spotify to see you as 'offline'. My gf on the other hand also has an iPad that she could just use to listen to music offline on while still using her phone.

So, I told her no. I'm not going to have the discomfort of not being able to use my phone for other stuff while listening to music on my account that I pay for.

Am I the asshole for that? ######

Response: NTA, it's you account. But I think she means the offline mode on Spotify, not going generally offline ######


Prompt:
I'm (28,m) gay, and my friend, Sara (23,f) is a good friend of mine. She's pretty and quite popular etc etc and it got to a point where she had to file restraining order for TWO stalkers. I've known her for a while now and she's a good friend in general. One day she asked me about my type of man I'm attracted to. I told her that I'm attracted to people who's shorter than me, confident and funny. She said "oh! Just like me but with penis." we laughed it off for a while, but for couple of weeks, she keeps repeating that my type is basically her but as a man, and I'd totally date her if she's a man, which got me uncomfortable. I see her as my sister.

And during a dinner (this was months ago) with my other friends, we talked about our dating life and she told my friends that " OP won't be so lonely if she's a guy because I'm his type". I texted her when we got back home and told her that all of these "you're my type" thingy kinda makes me uncomfortable. She was confused and asked why, and insisted that it's true, she has all of the trait that I would get attracted to if she's a man.

I told her even if it's true its weird for you to repeat it. She said that its weird for me to get weirded out by this and asked me to stop assuming things and just see it as a joke. She later got pissy because "she can't even joke around anymore" and ended the chat.
We never speak about it again.

I talked about this with my siblings if I did something wrong and I missed it. Sister #1 told me that I'm overreacting and it left a bad taste in Sara's mouth while sister #2 agreed with me that she would feel uncomfortable too and there's a possibility Sara liked me. Sister #1 told me that I should probably apologize and just get over it if I value the friendship while sister #2 said that I did nothing wrong at all.

AITA? ######

Response:
 NTA, it's weird that she keeps bringing it up. It seems like she's either uncomfortable with your sexuality or trying to convince herself that you're interested in her but the only reason you're not is because you're not attracted to women..

Either way it's not wrong of you to shut her down over it. She sounds kind of self involved. ######


Prompt:
Ok, here's the story. My grandparents have 5 grandkids. Me and my younger brother and my 3 cousins who are siblings. The eldest cousin, we will call him Johnny \[30\], is a bit of a jerk. Since puberty, he has sort of blown off my family, never really came around for events - birthdays, holidays, etc. Even when he is there, he just sort of does his own thing and cuts out early.

Anyways, my grandparents are fed up with him and his attitude. He's not a bad person, just more interested in his friends / hobbies than his extended family. My grandparents are getting up there in age \[late 80s\] and decided to dole out inheritance money for the 5 kids grandkids - 10k each! However, Johnny isn't getting any, because they feel like he never cared about them or our family.

Now this is when it gets complicated. Johnny is a bit of an "alpha" personality and he's convinced his younger siblings \[26 and 21\] DON'T accept the 10k from our grandparents because they're just giving it to them in spite of him, to show that they don't like him and he's the black sheep of the family.

Johnny is now texting my brother \[25\] the same thing, who is easily manipulated and trying to decide if he's going to go along with his cousins and not take the money. Johnny hasn't spoken to me yet, probably because he knows I will tell him to take a hike.

I for one will be taking the money because Johnny is a jerk. I agree our grandparents tend to be petty and this act is probably more to prove a point, but why would I deny myself my inheritance?

So anyways, Johnny is not getting an inheritance, his siblings supposedly are not accepting it and my brother may not be either. But I am happily taking it.

AITA? ######

Response: NTA, it's their money. Johnny can fuck right off. It's his choice to not be involved in their lives, he has no reasonable expectation of getting a cent. Johnny sounds like he is just trying to bully his way into a cut. You should take it and be vocal to your relatives, your brother especially, about their right to the money. They made the choice to treat their grandparents well, Johnny did not. ######


Prompt:
I'm one of 6 product managers at a 300 person Silicon Valley tech company, and am the only one on the team with an engineering education (masters and undergrad in CEng). The others have degrees in business or the humanities.

Everyone in my office is currently working remotely. I was one of the last people to log into the morning stand-up video call today and for the first time since the remote work policy was put in effect, I was taking the call from my desk. (Usually I do my meetings from the kitchen where I can spread my work out at the much larger dining table).

My desk is tiny and crammed into my condo's little "den". Displayed directly behind me and right over my shoulder are my 2 engineering degrees and a few other framed design awards and certificates. I don't want to show a screenshot of the wall for privacy reasons, [but here's a diagram I painted of what they would have seen on their screens](https://i.imgur.com/O8OVfLv.png).

After saying our good mornings, one of my PM coworkers loudly said "WoOoOoOoOh, *somebody* is trying to show off all their big fancy credentials". Everybody chuckled, so I just laughed along with them and continued with the meeting. Later on though after I had made some input to the ongoing discussion topic, he said again "good point there from the man with *all the fancy degrees to show us*".

I want to believe this was a joke, but I'm nervously second guessing myself now and I feel like I might have come off as a pompous ass? Does having them all displayed directly behind me genuinely make me look like a showoff? That's totally not what I was going for. I mean, I didn't bring them to the my office for that reason. Tbh, I didn't even register that they were there.

I don't want to show them off again if it makes me look like a braggart, but I don't want to take them down if I don't need to because I'll look like I fell to peer pressure. I'll probably just end up using the kitchen table from now on.

Thoughts? ######

Response: NTA, it's not uncommon to have degrees in your office or working area, but more importantly this diagram is taking me out ######


Prompt:
I was supposed to go on a trip with my best friend next year, just the two of us and we'd both been saving for it. I have a credit card that rewards me airmiles and I've been using it exclusively for the past year to get a free ticket and airmiles.

We now get to travel for the price of 1 ticket instead of 2 and we get to go business class so we've saved about £1,000 each. He's suddenly decided to invite his GF, knowing full well then we don't get along. This was annoying enough and made me not want to go on the trip but now he's expecting me to use my free ticket and airmiles to make it cheaper for her as well.

I don't like her in the slightest and want to go o a trip with my best friend. As that's not happening I told him I'm not going to use my airmiles for him and her and will travel solo if she's coming. She's an awful person and being in the same car as her is bad enough, let alone a 12+ hour flight and then 10 days on holiday.

Now he's calling me an asshole because I'm making him choose between a cheap trip together, or her. ######

Response: NTA, it's not cool to change your plans last minute, without talking about it first, especially with something that big... ######


Prompt:
My husband and I are relatively well off and bought a house a few months ago. We decided to rent out our second room to help pay off school debt.  We rented it for a few months and our tenant asked to move out and buying his own house. We're sad to see him go but it is a better situation for him.

My parents are very well off. But my dad works in events has been furloughed to part time and they are bored. When I told my parents we were going to start looking for another roomate they (I know this is extra) asked to rent the room out from us so they wouldn't have to find a hotel when they visit. I guess one of their friends is doing this with their kids. They could actually probably save money on hotels. Since we live in a big city, and my dad and I love doing home projects they will not get bored and I get to see them more. They said they would ask first before they visit (which they will they are very polite) We both have great relationships with both our parents and everyone gets along. My husband loves the idea of basically getting our house to ourselves again and not getting a full time roomate.

My husband was talking to his parents today and basically offered the room to them when they visit. I basically told him we cannot do that on the account of

1. My parents are going to furnish the room and I don't know if they want other people in their bed

2. It's now my parents rental and therefore their space that they pay for and we should treat it as if they own it

3. I do not feel comfortable asking my parents to let other people stay, or asking my in-laws to ask my parents permission. I feel like they have to offer it to us. I wouldn't expect that of a roommate either so why would I expect that of my parents.

I love my in laws and I love to have them visit but I do not want to take my parents for granted. ######

Response: NTA, it's not a spare room anymore. ######


Prompt:
My fiancé (32M) has guardianship of his 13 year old sister. When we get married, we plan for me to have guardianship of her as well. I live with them and parent her for all intents and purposes. I check homework, take her to school (or right now, make sure she’s doing online schooling), make the two of them meals, do her laundry, talk to her about things, etc. Her mom died when she was little and she has said I’m like a mother figure to her.

Recently, we were talking about makeup and such. She brought it up. She asked me if she could get makeup. I didn’t see a big deal in it and got her some neutral lip glosses, lipsticks and mascaras. It was nothing wild and all went with her skin tones. I taught her how to apply it and she seemed to be happy with it.

My fiancé, however, is not happy. He says this wasn’t my choice to make and I should’ve asked him first. I’ve bought stuff for her in the past without asking him and it’s never been an issue. He’s had me deal with “girl stuff” when it comes to her, such as taking her bra and regular clothes shopping, dealing with her first period, etc. I didn’t think makeup would be any different. He says that he can’t tell her to not wear it now,because I already gave it to her. I said it was just lip gloss and some mascara and he was still upset. He said “he’s her guardian, it’s up to her”. To me, I’m more than just the fiancé.

Am I in the wrong here? ######

Response: NTA, it's normal for teenagers to want to play with makeup. I'm really not sure why your fiance has such an issue with it. ######


Prompt: I have a pair of leopard print vans I don’t wear much but they are new, I let my mum wear them because it matches with her cougar style lol but today it’s her birthday and I spotted her wearing my vans without socks I asked her to put socks on because they were my shoes and I didn’t want them to smell, now she is yelling at me and super annoyed, threatening to kick me out, saying I’m ruining her birthday and she gives everything to us and that I’m selfish. I’m shocked but also kinda feel bad now because it’s her birthday but who wants smelly shoes? ######

Response: NTA, it's just good hygiene to wear socks when borrowing shoes. I honestly don't know how people can comfortably wear sneakers without socks, anyway. ######


Prompt:
Our dog had to have surgery to remove some cysts. She has incisions on her belly and at the base of her tail which required stitches and staples. The vet gave us a cone to keep on her so that she will not chew on her stitches and staples. He said even licking them may cause infection so encouraged us to keep the cone on as much as possible. He did say we can take it off of her when we are in the room with her and can watch her but said the more we keep it on the more she will get used to it.

The dog hates the cone and when we first got her home she tried to pull it off and then refused to lay down, just stood by her bed for 20 minutes looking pissed off. My wife felt really sorry for her so took it off and said she would watch her, I  want to keep it on as much as possible. I put it on her and go on about my day and every time I come back my wife has taken it off because she feels bad.

Day 3, I come down from my office (working from home), my wife is in the shower, the dog is coneless and bleeding from pulling out some stiches. I lost it, yelled at my wife for being irresponsible and not doing the dog any favors. I told her she was being the exact opposite of loving and kind to the dog. Sometimes being tough is the kind thing to do. I really went off. My wife was crying that she didn't do it on purpose, she was just taking a quick shower, she thought it would be OK. I am really pissed off. The dog is back at the vets under anesthesia getting stitched up. More money & putting the dog under more stress.

Am I the asshole for making the wife feel like shit? ######

Response:
 NTA, it's infuriating when owners can't be bothered to follow post-op care instructions.

And goddamn I can't STAND when people pull the excuse of, "Ok I know I did exactly what everyone told me I must absolutely NOT do, but in my defense, I thought I could just get away with doing it anyway." ######


Prompt:
Last summer, I signed a one-year lease on a three-bedroom apartment along with two of my friends. All was well for two weeks until one of these friends accepted a job offer in another city and wanted out of the lease.

Myself and the other friend managed to find another temporary roommate for 8 months but this temporary roommate is now returning home. The friend who bailed on us, whose name is still on the lease (but whose rent was essentially being covered by the temporary roommate) is now claiming he is unable to pay his share of the rent and wants us to pay for him until the lease is up. He has not spoken to me directly but has been pleading with the other friend to a great extent and just tonight, this other friend called me a “bitch” for not having empathy for this guy who bailed. She feels that her and I should indeed cover his rent until the lease is up.

We are looking for another roommate to circumvent this problem but, in the meantime, AITA for taking the stance that neither of us is responsible for his share of the rent? ######

Response:
 NTA, it's his problem to find a way to cover HIS part of the rent.

(Also, by your roomates logic, she should be totallt cool with you moving out as well and then pay the entire rent of the apartment herself.) ######


Prompt:
I live in a house with 4 other guys. Most of us prefer a temperature of around 70-72 degrees. I myself like it to be 68 which isn't that far lower.
We have one roommate however who like it in the low-mid 80's. When we moved in we fought over the temperature. We decided to have a discussion and we agreed that we would set the thermostat (it's a smart ecobee thermostat) to a range of 72-74. But we made the rule if other roommates were gone for the day, working or spending the night with a girlfriend, that as long as the others in the house agree, it could be changed until the one person gone comes back, and then they need to set it back to the range (it's a simple tap on the screen, takes no more than a second)

As I said, i like it cooler, and am currently furloughed from work because of everything going on. So I ask if it's ok to turn the temp down during the day when the individual who likes it warmer is gone at work.

However, when he get's home, he gets upset that it's so cold even though we agreed that we can change it if the other roommates agree.

Well it came to a head today, when he got home early in the morning because he stayed with his girlfriend, he got home and it was 68 degrees. Instead of turning it back to the agreed upon range, he changes the settings so it wasn't a range and set it so we couldn't turn it below 73 without changing the settings again. (it's a smart thermostat, you can do that)

I bought this thermostat myself because no one wanted to spend more money. So, when I saw that he did this, I decided to lock it.

Now the settings can no longer be changed, only the temperature can.

TLDR:
Roomate changes temp to warmer than agreed upon temp and sets the settings up so we can't change it back lower. So I locked the thermostat (I also paid for the thermostat myself)
Am I the asshole for putting a passcode on the thermostat? ######

Response: NTA, it's easier to put on warmer clothing. ######


Prompt:
My SO has two kids and I’ve been with him for 3 years.  Recently moved in with him back in January.  Before I moved in I had a lot more time to myself and got really into an online game that has a commitment to be online and play with a group of people 2 days a week.  My real life friends play this game, which is how we spend time together these days.

My SO hates that I game.  Sometimes he is chill with it, but times like yesterday where I played an extra hour Monday night when he was going to bed (he sleeps at 8 PM) or if he’s just in a bad mood he starts making comments about how I’m “cracked out on games” or that games are obviously more important than him and nothing gets done around the house unless he does it (he was upset his kids made messes around the house), or that I put a group of random dudes over him.  He also said that he might as well go out to a bar and hang out with a bunch of chicks because it’s the same thing.

I pretty much refuse to stop gaming at this point as this is my major point of contact with my friends (we live far away and we have shelter in place).  I’ve cut down time significantly already to 2-3 hours in the evening 2 days a week. Everything else I do with him 100% - I have no other hobbies outside of this relationship.  I also pay 3/4 of the rent, work full time (although I work from home and he has to physically work 12 hrs a day), cook every night and do some of the cleaning, although most of the cleaning is admittedly on him (laundry/mopping/dishes).  I help his older kid with homework every day he is here and have been the primary driver of making sure his kids are behaving, going to bed on time, etc.

I feel like I have a right to have some “me time” a couple hours a night for a couple days a week.  So AITA for refusing to give up gaming? ######

Response: NTA, it's cool to have a hobby. I dunno what he expects you to do. Not have any? He's probably just insecure, but I bet he watches shows or hangs on his phone in the spare time, so what's the problem? ######


Prompt:
Some background: I'm a trans guy. Deadname means the name I do not use anymore.

About a month ago my friend made an Instagram post about how much she misses everyone and dedicated a little section in the comments for specific friends saying what she missed about them.

In my section she puts my deadname in parentheses next to my preferred one. She obviously did not have to do this and her reason behind it was she had a friend with the same name as me so she had to specify. I tried to tell her she could've put my last initial instead.

She has lots of friends/followers who could've seen the post and that makes me very uncomfortable. I don't want people knowing my deadname at all.

She kept telling me no one cares and that most of her friends that saw it were LGBT+ which still does not make it right. ######

Response: NTA, it's called a deadname for a reason, it doesn't matter if most of her friends are LGBT+, queer folk can still be transphobic.  Not to mention it's blatantly disrespectful and transphobic to use someone's deadname, as it invalidates their identity. ######


Prompt: I enjoy singing but I am VERY bad at it admittedly.  I have no pitch or tone but I like to sing alone in my room usually to songs or I’ll even do karaoke by myself I know I’m bad but I like doing it, it’s fun and a stress reliever. I moved in with an roommate a couple months ago and he hates my singing (I don’t blame him) but I was singing in my room a few weeks after moving in and he had asked me to stop and not to do it when he’s home, I said sure it seemed like a reasonable request although I don’t sing that loud. Well the other day I thought my roommate was out and was singing some karaoke in my room and didn’t think he’d be home for a couple of hours. He ended up coming back early with a couple of friends and they heard me singing (I’d didn’t hear them come in as I had headphones in). Well he actually sent them home and BLEW up on me saying that I embarrassed him with my terrible singing and that no one should be singing like that unless they’re a professional.  he also doesn’t want me singing at all in the apartment. I apologized and said I didn’t know that they would be home but he’s still mad at me. But I don’t really feel like TA here. What do you guys think AITA? ######

Response:
 NTA, it's a form of expression and freedom. It brings you happiness and stress relief. You are in your own home, and deserve to have all of that. You already compromised to not do it when he is home, and if he comes home early and hears it, he should give you respect and let you know.

It takes two seconds to send a message and let you know, that way you are respecting his request, and keeping the peace.

Dude needs to learn how to live with other people before he blows up on you. ######


Prompt:
My family owns a successful property development firm. I reluctantly took a position with them because my father wants to take a less active role and my younger brothers aren't ready. While I work with my brothers and fathers, everyone is treated equally and it is very harmonious.

Lately, my SIL has been bouncing ideas off us and showing up to "help out" I'm not okay with either of that. I sarcastically asked my brother if she was looking for a job and he said she wasn't because she was happy being a SAHM. I told him that was good because no one's spouse is going to work here. That will bring too much drama. Then I told him she needs to stop hanging out like she has nothing better to do as he's no different than any other employee.

Not only does she float around but she's helping him his admin work even though we already have paid people to do that and now she's questioning business moves or offering her own. This has gone beyond a spouse showing up to go out to lunch but my brother disagrees.

I finally emailed her on my own and told her that this wasn't her business, she knows nothing about it and her ideas and showing up to help my brother was not wanted. This wasn't a family-issue. This was a business issue. I told her she's his wife, but in no way a member, stakeholder or employee.

Of course she cried to my brother that I "attacked" her when she was trying to be helpful and he has heat with me. ######

Response: NTA, it's a business to be run by the owners . She is not an owner. This would be no different if your brother worked in a bank and she kept going in to offer them financial advice. You guys, as part of the business, need to hold a meeting and set distinct parameters about spousal involvement, what is permitted and what isn't. There needs to be consequences in place for infractions. Set up a rule like no spouses in the office, meet outside the building or go for lunch. Or no spouses past the lobby. Something specific and some kind of deterrent to prevent her from overstepping her boundaries and your brother for allowing it. I understand he might be getting an earful at home, but that's on him. ######


Prompt:
I'm the middle of three. I have a younger sister (25) and an older brother (30). I'm 27. My parents, over the years, saved up 30k to be split between my sister and I for when we eventually got married, which would be 15k each.

My sister got engaged before me, and they planned their wedding for April 2020. As you can imagine, this couldn't happen. They'd picked an all inclusive venue and spent the entire 15k. Unfortunately, their venue has been horrible, denied any refund. Wedding insurance doesn't cover pandemics and they're now going under anyway. The 15k is just...gone.

My sister now wants to elope, which my parents and other family are absolutely horrified by. She and her fiance say they can't afford to pay for a wedding themselves because of their job situations. The only thing she has from the first wedding that she could take to a second is her wedding dress, which would still need to be altered.

The women in the family have been crying about it in every conversation I've had with them and begging my sister to not elope, they'll figure it out. My parents now want to take the other 15k and give my sister another wedding, obviously at a different venue.

It ended up being a huge fight of accusing me of blaming my sister for causing the pandemic, wanting her to elope and not get "her wedding" because I'm jealous, and why save it when I'm still single and will be for years now anyway. I'm 27! I'm not an old maid. I'm not jealous of my sister, I was happy for her before all this, but it would have been nice to know that when I got married, my parents could help me out too. I'm not saying it's her fault that the first one didn't happen, but factually she would be getting two weddings paid for and I'll be getting zero.

It's probably happening regardless of what I say, but am I wrong to be a little angry about it? ######

Response:
 NTA, it was appropriate to state your position, but I hope you didn't do it in an angry way or it just makes you look bad.

If your sister has any class she'll just elope and let all the women in the family be upset.  Your sister knows she spent her share, and apparently is aware that anything more would come out of your hide.  You might have better luck lobbying your sister than your mother.

Covid cost me a fully paid cruise package for 3, I had trip insurance but the pandemic wasn't covered.  It bothered me for weeks but I've decided to just let it go.  It's nobody's fault.  I'm sorry you are dealing with this. ######


Prompt:
My parents are divorced. They've really been fighting a lot, and they fight a lot about material possessions.

Try and one up each other getting me things, but also try to force me to leave them behind when I go to the other's houses, like they want their houses to be the best ones with the best things. Argue if I come home from the others house with things dirty or misplaced accusing the other of purposely stealing or destroying things.

It's ridiculous and it seems like a power play between them. And I'm sick of fighting over THINGS. Damn pieces of plastic or metal or whatever should not have this power over us.

So I told both my parents that THINGS that they fight about don't bring me happiness, they bring me sadness. And if there's any fighting or petty anger about a thing, I'm gonna give it away or throw it away because I'm sick of my life being ruled by stuff.

I won't take gifts anymore because they always come with terms and drama

And I have been doing it. I've gotten rid of most of what I own because of this pettiness. I really just have the bare minimum at each house. Both my parents had banned me from giving or throwing anything else away so now I've just picked a closet in each house that things go into, and once they're in they don't come out. If my parents try and take them out I put them back.

It's made me happier. No more fights about which parent "stole" a thing when that thing is gone. I don't have to remember as much about what I can take from house to house and what has to stay at one house so I won't start a fight

But both my parents are resentful of me for my switch in attitude. My mom is mad that I don't do some of my hobbies anymore and my dad is mad that I gave away things that he paid for.

AITA for giving up as many possessions as I can? ######

Response:
 NTA, it sounds more like your parents are trying to use you as a pawn to keep hurting each other instead of being mature adults about their divorce. The way you are going about it wont work though you may have to try to sit them down together and try to get through to them.

If all else fails pull the parental alienation card and say its emotionally abusive. But this is only for extreme situations ######


Prompt:
I have a pretty old but reliable Lenovo laptop that is worth 300$,maybe less.(I got the laptop as a  birthday gift from a family friend)

My father decided to build a new computer for the family to use,which he spent 1250$ on,a computer that is used 99% by my brother,because he plays Fortnite and Roblox and he doesnt want to play those games on his phone.

Today,my mother had some work to do on the PC and my brother was angry that he couldn't stream idk what game.(that he also had on his phone ).

He of course started whining and mom told me to get  off my laptop to let him do what he wanted to.

I of course refused. He smashed my laptop's  screen to its keyboard multiple times. My mother also did that when I was playing and she almost broke my fingers since they got cought betwwen the screen and the keyboard.

She called me an ungrateful brat and took away my laptop.

So,Reddit,am I the asshole? ######

Response: NTA, it sounds like your mother doesn’t want to parent your brother and deal with his anger issues and potential gaming addiction (based on his reaction to not being able to game for a while). ######


Prompt:
Me (19f) and my sister (21f) haven’t gotten along since we were very young, as when she turned 11 she developed an anxiety disorder and couldn’t go to school. She refused to talk to anyone much less me. She got a therapist and started going back to school, but became rude, spoiled and downright abusive at times to my parents due to them not disciplining har as they were afraid this would trigger her anxiety. This means she is extremely messy, insists on eating in her room and not taking her plates down until they get mouldy, and would occasionally throw objects at people if she got angry.

I also have issues with her as she refused to let me see a therapist (even if they were completely different to hers) until she stopped seeing her therapist. This happened when I was around 16 when I was almost immediately diagnosed with clinical depression, and had to be hospitalised at one point. I have no way of knowing if seeing a therapist earlier would have stopped this, however I had known that mentally something was wrong before this, and it has caused feelings of resentment.

Now both me and my sister are going to College and my family want us to share an apartment that they would be willing to pay for. I refused and said that I would pay for my own apartment. My sister started calling me a selfish AH because of this, and my parents didn’t back me up.

AITA? ######

Response: NTA, it sounds like your family is focused on your sister at your expense and its damaged your health and happiness. Maybe someday you can reconcile with your sister, but living together right now seems like one of the worst possible ideas. If you can afford it, get your own place and take the time and space you need to be happy. ######


Prompt: Six months ago my now boyfriend broke up with his ex and immediately started dating me. We moved in together and really started going hard in our relationship.  Throughout these past six months he has been in contact with his ex. He says it’s to make sure she’s okay and not in a horrible mindset after their breakup. He talks to her about once a week and I have tried to tell him it’s not letting her heal or get over their breakup. She has asked him multiple times if he’s currently dating anyone and he tells her no. (Trying to not hurt her feelings or self esteem.) She recently found out about me (via social media) and that we were dating and lost it. I’ve now been asked not to post anything as to keep her from being even more upset. I feel as if her emotions are being prioritized over mine? AITA for still wanting to post pictures of MY life on my social media platforms? AITA for not feeling comfortable in this situation? ######

Response:
 NTA, it sounds like he isn't completely over his ex.

Why did you move in with this guy so early if he is still in that kind of contact with his ex, against your wishes? ######


Prompt:
Ok so during Quarantine, I (15M) get on a Discord call with a few ok my friends every night for about an hour or two.

Last night my Mom asked my to help her find her phone. So I muted myself and went to help her find it. Around 5 minutes of looking in a different room, my Mom had put ok my headphones and listened to the call.

She had made up the missing phone just so she could listen to the call. I was angry and shutdown my PC immediately and angrily, but not yelling, to give me my headphones.

She started yelling about how she was my Mother and was entitled to listen to my conversations. So this one Subreddit who likes to judge people AITA? ######

Response: NTA, it sounds like an invasion of privacy to me. ######


Prompt:
My(F25) boyfriend (M33)  and I have been together for about two months. Prior to that though, we had been together for 3 years, broke up, and got back together after a year.

We live across the county from our family. Last year, him and I actually moved here together. After a month of living together we broke up, he went home back across the country... and I stayed here. We were still exes when he decided to move back here after 7ish months, he got a job and moved back. I urged him not to, but he did anyway.

So shortly after he moved back we started hanging out and are back in a relationship. I’m still living in the place that me and him initially moved into... it’s a great house, albeit, further away from work. He lives 20 minutes away and has for the winter. Just like almost everyone in our area, he’s lost his job. I am very grateful to still have one.

His lease is up this coming month, and a couple months ago we talked about him possibly moving back with me. After a couple weeks of thinking about it, I absolutely panicked. I value my alone time in my space and I freaked out at the idea of a SO living with me sooner than later. I let him know with adequate time for him how I felt and my decision. He was very sad. Sad at me, I felt like. Sad at my decision.

He has still not looked for a place to live, and he only has a couple more weeks at the place he lives at now. I guess we have different outlooks on this because I would have probably started looking for housing a month ago.

I don’t know if he’s relying on me to change my mind, or what is going on.

I can’t lie I feel like a total piece of shit, please tell me if I’m an asshole or not. ######

Response: NTA, it seems wise.  Your history with him is very rocky.  It seems he has a history of cutting and running when there's a difficulty, and I bet that is what happens in two weeks when he has to leave his current place. ######


Prompt: There's this candle company that makes candles based on different locations and the majority of them are jokes. The one for Ohio is unscented and says something to the effect of the state being boring and uninteresting. I decided to share it with my family, especially my sister, S, because she lives there. When S saw it she immediately went into a long paragraph about how Ohio was a great state and how the meme was offensive to her and her girlfriend's family. I tried to laugh it off and say it was just a joke and that she shouldn't take it so personally, but then she quotes Until Dawn at me: "It was just a prank, Han." Like seriously? Over a candle? I told her to stop being so melodramatic and get over herself. She comes at me with how she found it offensive and I should apologize. I didn't even make the candle and people make fun of other states all the time. I don't think I should have to apologize for this, but idk. AITA? ######

Response: NTA, it is just a joke your sister is overreacting ######


Prompt:
To start with, both my parents and grandparents are now dead. But while my grandma was alive, she told me she wanted me and my brother to have our mums share of their house when she went. Her reasoning being, her other children, my aunts and uncle, would all be giving their children, my cousins money from the house, and as our mum wasn't alive, we wouldn't benefit as much as the others.

She also saw me more as a daughter than a granddaughter as my parents were pretty useless, and she raised us more as her own children. We are also at least 20 years older than the other cousins, so are much nearer in age my aunts and uncle rather than our cousins.

I then found out, that my aunt D, had persuaded my grandma to change her will so we didn't get anything from her, as in her words, we had already had our inheritance from our parents, (£30'000 from my mums pension, nothing from my dad) so we didn't deserve any more than that. My mum had been given £120'000 from an ex husband a little while before she died, but she spent it all on heroin, so we didn't see any of that.

So am I being the arsehole and being greedy for just wanting the money my grandma wanted me to have? Or am I in the right? I feel very betrayed by them, and can't seem to get over it. ######

Response: NTA, it doesn't sound like being greedy, your grandma wanted you to have this money. The fact that aunt pressured her to chwnge her decision is dodgy af. I'd seek legal advice maybe on r/legaladvice im not sure if it would help but this aunt sounds like shes being greedy. ######


Prompt: So I wake up on my birthday. The doorbell rings and my husband walks in the bedroom and screams "YOU can get up and answer that, it's YOUR friend, I'm not dealing with that shit." The neighbor came over to drop her son (7) off to play with our kids. I literally just woke up. I'm the type that needs some coffee in me and my brain is fuzzy and can't focus on anything until my brain "turns on". We just moved here and getting to know some neighbors. I know this person just as much as he does. He says he doesn't like her because she is annoying and obnoxious. I don't care because her kids and my kids like eachother and play and are good to eachother. Also, he does this shit all the time. He gets pissy when anyone stops by. He gets pissed off at random people at stores. He gets pissed when people on the phone aren't saying what he wants to hear and hangs up. He is short tempered. I always have to deal with everything and everyone because he doesn't like dealing with other people. Unless they're getting stoned with him. So back to the beginning. I'm waking up and getting yelled at by my husband to answer the door. On my birthday. And I'm pissed. Cuz I can't even wake up and start a good day now cuz he's being a complete dick cuz of this. AITA for getting "emotional and upset" for him waking me up because he wants to be a selfish dick and can't give me ONE fucking day out of the year? ######

Response:
 NTA, it does not matter if it is your birthday or not, your husband should never scream at you to get the door. Repeat your husband should never scream at you to get the door. That is abusive behavior. Put a stop to it right now.

Your husband getting pissy when anyone stops over sounds like he is trying to isolate you. That is not good. He does not have to socialize with the people who stopover.

Your husband should be able to deal with the neighbor who dropped off her kid. He can cut the conversation short by thanking her for bringing her kid over and then saying he was in the middle of doing something.

Your husband sounds like an authoritarian. ,It always has to be his way. He needs to learn that he is not the ruler of his own little world. He needs to learn that things will not get resolved his way all of the time. He needs to learn give and take.

Your husband does not have a short temper, he has anger management issues. He needs to learn how to act like an adult. ######


Prompt:
My sibling has a small dog that they want to register an an emotional support animal (ESA) by using this website that states it is a legitimate site for registering your pet as an ESA. I had made a comment saying that if they wanted to do that, they needed to do it properly and get approval from a therapist as most websites like that are total scams and just end up with people printing off a piece of paper to ‘certify’ they have an ESA.

They got upset and continued to argue it was a legitimate website. I then asked why they wanted the certification as I hadn’t known they were struggling with any mental health issues (I was genuinely curious). Here’s where I got mad. They said they only want the dog certified so it can fly on planes without being in a cage!!!

As someone who has a mental illness and is in therapy for it and struggles everyday, I found that offensive in a way. They were abusing a system created to help those with legit illnesses just so their dog could fly in their lap. I told them that wasn’t a smart idea and it took away from legitimate ESAs and just perpetuated the problem of falsified ESAs and service dogs. They got upset and said it was fine because everyone else does it and they don’t want the dog to be in a carrier for hours on a flight. I continued to explain why that wasn’t smart and was bad for the people who really need these type of certifications. My parent stepped in and agreed with my sibling as well saying that they weren’t directly harming anyone. I just left the conversation and it hasn’t been brought up since but I know they still plan on doing that anyways.

AITA here? ######

Response:
 NTA, it absolutely does harm to those who actually need ESAs and it's also just a bad idea to fly with an animal in general unless it's necessary.

You might convince her otherwise by mentioning it's a crime in many states to fake service animal credentials (sorry for the long post)

ARIZONA. House Bill 2588 introduced in 2018 states those who "fraudulently misrepresent" service animals can be fined $250.

CALIFORNIA. Penal Code 365.7 introduced back in 1995. Those pretending to be an owner of a service dog is a criminal misdemeanor punishable by a fine of up to $1,000 and/or up to six months’ imprisonment.

COLORADO. House Bill 16-1426 passed in 2017 states it is a class 2 petty offense to intentionally misrepresent an animal as a service animal in the state. Violators of this new law will be hit with a fine of $25 for their first offense, $50-100 for a second offense and $100-500 for a third or subsequent offense.

FLORIDA. CS/SB 414 This law passed in 2015 classifies misrepresenting a dog as a service animal as a second-degree misdemeanor. Those who are caught breaking the law face a $500 fine and up to 60 days in jail.

IOWA. Senate File 2365 Passed this year in 2018, an offender can face 30 days in jail, a fine, or possibly both.

IDAHO. § 18-5811A Since 1997 in Idaho, any person, not being a disabled person or being trained to assist disabled persons, who use an assistance device or assistance dog to gain treatment or benefits as a disabled person, is guilty of a misdemeanor. (No specific punitive measures stipulated e.g. fine or imprisonment)

KANSAS. K 39-1112 Introduced in 2015, this is a class A Misdemeanor: No fines or penalties specifically indicated.

MAINE. 17 M. R. S. A. § 1314-A Passed in 2015, any person who commits a civil violation for which a fine of not more than $1000 may be adjudged for each occurrence.

MICHIGAN. MCL 752.61 - 63 Passed in 2016 a violation is a misdemeanor punishable by 1 or more of the following: imprisonment for not more than 90 days, a fine of not more than $500.00, community service for not more than 30 days

MISSOURI. V. A. M. S. 209.204 Introduced in 2017 any person found in breach of this law is guilty of a class C misdemeanor and shall also be civilly liable for the amount of any actual damages resulting from such impersonation. Any second or subsequent violation of this section is a class B misdemeanor.

MINNESOTA. HF3157*/SF2646/CH106 This year in 2018 an offender will be subject to a $100 fine 1st offense, and a misdemeanor charge for a 2nd offense which can include $1000 fine and/or 90 days in prison.

NEBRASKA. Neb. Rev. St. § 28-1313 A person commits unlawfully using a white cane or guide dog if not blind as defined by law and carries, displays, or otherwise makes use of a white cane or guide dog. Unlawful use of a white cane or guide dog is a Class III misdemeanor. Passed in 2008.

NEVADA. N.R.S. 426.805 Since 2005, a person is guilty of a misdemeanor and shall be punished by a fine of not more than $500.

NEW HAMPSHIRE. N.H. Rev. Stat. § 167-D:10 Passed in 2015 any offender shall be guilty of a misdemeanor and subject to enhanced penalties in paragraphs II and III. (fines and penalties not stipulated)

NEW JERSEY. N. J. S. A. 10:5-29.5 Introduced in 2013 an offender shall be fined not less than $100 and not more than $500.

NEW MEXICO. N. M. S. A. 1978, § 28-11-6 Violations dating back to 1978 is a misdemeanor. (fines and penalties not stipulated but referred to as misdemeanor under NM Common Law) ######


Prompt: I was at a party with my friends and everyone was either drunk or high. It was a good time, one thing led to another and a lot of us girls were topless. There is a male friend in our group who takes candid pictures of us everytime we hang out because he likes to capture the moment. And that's what he did when we were topless. I think I was the only one who noticed so I went up to him later in the night and asked him to delete them. He was not sober at all so he says he doesnt remember this conversation. Basically, I asked him to delete the photos and he straight up said no. I'm not a confrontational person so I let it go. He went to bed and while i was sitting with everyone else, I told them what had happened. They got absolutely enraged and grabbed his phone while he was asleep to delete the pictures off of it. The next day, the guy who took the pictures found out what had happened and messaged me and basically told me that I should have asked him directly instead of making a huge deal out of it. I told him that I did and he said he didnt remember and I should've waited till he was sober and asked him again before dragging his name through the mad. I feel absolutely horrible because maybe he's right and I made a big deal about it for no reason. In the moment, I just wanted the photos deleted because it was stressing me out and as a girl, something like that could ruin my life. Am I the asshole for not asking him a second time and going directly to my friends? ######

Response: NTA, inebriation isn't an excuse for being an asshole. ######


Prompt: When I was a baby my grandmother used to hand sew me a birthday dress every year, and a matching one for my favourite doll. The dresses were beautifully smocked and must have taken weeks to sew. It was a bit of a tradition. I’ve been keeping these dresses (left with my mother in my childhood home) for the last 30 odd years thinking that one day I’ll pass them down to my own daughter. Well today is my nieces first birthday and my mom sends me a picture of niece in my dress that I was keeping. I’m fuming! My mom doesn’t think it’s a big deal and refuses to apologise for giving it to her. She says she’ll get the dress back when my niece outgrows it. But I can’t help think that the dress will be torn or stained , and also it’s my dress that I’ve been keeping for my own child and I don’t want my niece to wear it. AITA? ######

Response: NTA, incredibly rude of your mother to give your belongings to your niece. I hope you can get the dress back in a civil manner. ######


Prompt:
I have been saving money for my niece and nephew since their birth as I thought I wouldn't be having children of my own. Since then I've saved 10K$ for each kid. It's not a lot of money but enough to pay for a few semesters of college.

My nephew is extremely bright and he managed to get a full ride scholarship to a really good school. He chose to buy a second hand car and save the rest of the money. He said he's going to use it as emergency cushion and I think that's responsible.

When my niece turned 18 I also gave her the money which she has used to fund three semesters of college. Now she is asking for more money because she thinks it's unfair that I also gave her brother the same amount when he has a scholarship. In my view it's fair to give them both the same amount of money. Not giving her brother money feels like punishing him for getting the scholarship. I told her that I would not be funding any more of her education. It's up to her to fund the rest of her semesters. She didn't try to argue but she went to complain to her dad. Now my brother is saying the same thing that I'm favoring my nephew over my niece.

AITA? I feel that they are being ridiculous. I'm not giving niece any more money as I'm saving for my own children as well and I can't ask my nephew for the money back. It's not fair to him. ######

Response:
 NTA, in fact you would be the asshole if you gave her more.

Your brother is so entitled for even arguing. Your nephew shouldn't be punished for getting a scholarship! You are 100% right in your thinking, stand your ground!

Edit: you are also a really great aunty ######


Prompt:
I have a rat with a mammary tumor, and I decided that I need to get it removed. She is otherwise healthy but it's growing fast and getting in the way of her movement. Unfortunately even after shopping around the cost is going to end up being almost $600.

I pay for everything with these rats and I'm even ready to pay for this bill. However I was scared of telling mom the price when I came home today so I lied and said it was going to be about $250.

Even with that amount She was shocked and started lecturing me about how unnecissary this whole thing was.

*"It's just a rat. Why do you waste your money on something like that? Just get a new one!"*

I felt really awful because I know it seems unnecissary to go to all this trouble for something that will only live another maybe 1-2 years. I just hate seeing her in such an uncomfortable possition.

AITA? ######

Response: NTA, in fact you sound like a really nice person, besides it's your money ######


Prompt: A little backstory, I’ve (23m) been in a very great, loving relationship with my boyfriend (24m) for almost 3 years now. My parents and I already have a pretty bad past, including kicking me out of the house when they found out I was in a same-sex relationship. They claim it’s not because they’re homophobic and instead believe that my bf is abusive, manipulative and is keeping track of how much money he spends on me so I’m stuck in this relationship trying to pay my way out. In 3 years, my parents and boyfriend have been in the same room under 10 times and my parents have spoken to him maybe 5 times, if that. We haven’t been in contact much since I was kicked out, and in a few months, my bf and I plan on getting engaged. I don’t feel as though they deserve to attend my wedding because they haven’t been supportive most of my life and they definitely haven’t supported my relationship. My sister and other extended family think I’m the asshole for even contemplating This idea. Their thought process is “they’re your parents and your elders and you’d be so selfish to take this day away from them. They deserve this just as much as you think you do.” My parents aren’t paying for a single thing and they still refuse to even acknowledge my bf as part of my life. My bf has been extremely supportive and even though they’ve treated him with so much disrespect, he said they’d still be welcome if I want them to be there. At this point, I just don’t know what to do. Am I wrong for not wanting to invite them? ######

Response: NTA, im also am not inviting certain family members because of drama to my wedding. Ultimately its your day to be happy and if your happier without them then do it, you do you OP i hope its wonderful for you ######


Prompt:
My sister is the executor of my grandma's estate. Me, my sister and our cousin are the only beneficiaries of the estate. Me and my cousin live out of state. My sister took advantage of the opportunity to mismanage the estate and steal a lot of money. For example:

* She lived in my grandma's house rent-free with her boyfriend for 2 years. She paid the mortgage and utilities out of the estate account. The estate also paid for improvements on the property which benefited her.
* She kept many valuable things like my grandma's expensive collectible figurines. She pocketed at least $10,000 cash instead of putting it into the estate account.
* The house was on the market for at least 3 years. She threw many parties and failed to maintain the property when she was living there and I think that it hurt the house's chances of being sold. She ended up selling the house at a big loss because she wanted to move somewhere else.
* The will said that the estate was to be split evenly between me, my sister and our cousin. My sister kept $57,000 and gave me and my cousin only $700 each. Her excuse was that she paid many out-of-pocket expenses and she had to compensate herself for being executor. She wouldn't provide any documentation that supported her claims. She raided the estate account and now there's only $700 left which is my share that I won't cash.

There's more to the story but I hired a lawyer to fix this situation. My sister should have been paying rent to the estate and she should have done many things differently. My cousin wants nothing to do with this lawsuit. The rest of my family is angry with me for dragging my sister through this. They're telling me that my sister did everything right. They called me greedy and begged me to drop the lawsuit. Literally no one is on my side except my husband. AITA? ######

Response:
 NTA, IF, and this is a big, important IF, you’re absolutely positive that what you’ve lined out here is a true and unbiased accounting of events. If you sue her, you will be required to explain and document these statements to the satisfaction of some pretty high standards.

Really, really think about the way this story would look written by someone outside your family who doesn’t know or care about any of you, because that’s the kind of person you need to convince if you go down this path. ######


Prompt:
My brother asked for divorce Then proceeded a 4 month campaign to gaslight her about why. My SIL was blindsided. My SIL is not English fluent and has no real friends or family here and hadn’t worked. Over the four months after he demanded divorce he sweet talked her into meeting his lawyer in the hopes to have her sign papers with out offering fair terms for separation or representation. She was going to do it. My brother cheated on my SIL and only admitted to the affair after lying to everyone and learning that my SIL has proof. Then COVID shut down now she’s ‘trapped’ here. I chose to help her cause no one else in my family would. My other siblings agree he did some thing wrong but they are on his side. They are all narcissistic in their own way and my older sibling is actually going through the same situation with her SO but in reverse. (ie they are the cheater) my brother spent his life telling us he’d never be like our dad, cheating lying, and victimizing women over money. That used to be the biggest insult you could call him. Now when my SIL points that out he laughs in her face. Now my selfish siblings have sided with him andI think it will break our family entirely.
I never felt My siblings ever treated me with respect or regard. They are all childless and  do better than me financially, abandoned me to take care of my aging parents alone, and only call to hear about how ‘shitty’ my life is cause (I’m not rich and raising kids is hard sometimes) or unload their emotional baggage when they feel bad. When the line got drawn in the sand I chose to help. I resolved that I’ll have to be ok with putting this final nail in the coffin of our relationship. But I chose to help the vulnerable over family. When it’s all done and she moves out of my house and flies home. I will have an empty bedroom and my children will have no aunts and uncles. AITA ######

Response: NTA, if your siblings actually had a great life, then they wouldn’t need to pump themselves up by insulting you. ######


Prompt:
Despite social distancing guide lines, my mom seems to want to invite a new person over every other day. Not only that she tends to have a bad habit of asking me to take on much of the hosting responsabilities like cooking, catering, and entertaining.

Today mom invited some of her friends and their gaggle of kids to play in the pool. She was doing most of the catering this time which was nice sense I wasn't interested in being there. this was partially because I was tired from all these social gatherings but also because I'm trying to do my own things in my room.

They all went to the backyard so I went to my room and started setting up my art project. Minutes later mom starts calling my name. I go to see what's wrong. It turns out she's tired. She wants me to come downstairs so she can take a nap in her room. I *really* didn't want to hang out with them.

She said, *"Oh come on. you can just stay here in the living room. It's just in case they need anything. You can even bring you art stuff down here."*

Here's the kicker: We have a macaw who is bonded to me. When other people are around she's relatively quiet but if I'm there she flips out and tries her darndest to get me to pick her up. I have ADHD. I *cannot* consentrate on my work when she's clinging to me. I just can't. I need piece and quiet.

I put my foot down and told mom that I did not want to be downstairs right now. She got really annoyed but didn't fight it any further. Moments later I heard her tell her friends that she was going to sleep on the couch instead.

Now I feel bad that I refused to help. AITA? ######

Response: NTA, if your mom has guests over that you are not familiar with and then expects for you to play host(ess?) while she sleeps then she is being selfish. It's not like she's asking you to take out the trash or get her something, it's being the go-to person for an indeterminate amount of time. ######


Prompt:
Posting from mobile so please excuse formatting.

My dog has multiple health issues, specifically hypertension and an autoimmune disease in one eye. Daily, she needs to receive a pill in the morning and four drops, two in the morning and two at night. She has gotten used to the drops and pills and doesn't fight you, just dislikes it.

For the past two months, I have been administrating my dogs drops in the morning. My parents said they'd handle the pills and nightly drops. Two weeks ago I mentioned the pills and found out my dad wasn't giving them to her. I talked to him and so far he's been better.

For the past two weeks, I've found the drop containers in the same place I leave them every morning. I've told my parents this multiple times and they always have an excuse. Yesterday, I told my mom how annoyed I was and she said she'd set alarms and give drops every night.

This morning I came downstairs to find the drops where I left them. My mom said "Hey, how are you?" And I said "I'm disappointed that even after our conversation yesterday you still couldn't be bothered to give the dog her drops." My mom blew up at me, cited the 'I am the parent and you are the child' and, as always, had numerous issues that prevented her from giving drops yesterday.

She tried to relate it to me not taking out the garbage. We didn't have a long conversation about the garbage.

AITA? ######

Response: NTA, if your mom can't take care of a dog you are lucky to be alive. ######


Prompt:
 so my younger sister (11) has a habit of stealing from people. if anything goes missing, the chance of you finding it in my sister's room is 80%. i have this red jumper that i love and i didn't get it back from the wash. i knew it had been washed because it saw it on the line outside. i had a hunch it was my sister who had taken it. she went with my mum to walk the dog and while they were gone, i raided her room and found not only my jumper, but an entire box of stuff she had stolen from me including my inhalers which i need for my asthma. i was furious and took a few pictures and took the box back to my room. i'll admit, i was a little sloppy and had left some signs that i had been in there so when my sister came back, she was upset. i told her not to take my stuff again and she began to cry because i had 'invaded her privacy'.

my mum is on both sides, saying i should have asked her about my jumper (which i do. when things go missing, i ask my sister if she's seen them and she says no) but my stepdad is on my sister's side.

AITA?? ######

Response: NTA, if you're known as a thief, you don't get privacy lol. Your parents should do something about this behaviour now, because she'll end up in jail when she's older. ######


Prompt:
I have a tiny hole in my wall right above my bed. My girlfriend (17, im 18) absent-mindedly was scratching it and i jokingly said "haha don't scratch my wall off" thinking she'd stop. She didn't. She kept scratching it and i said something like "im serious please don't break my wall" as the hole was getting bigger. She kept on doing it though so I was a little upset because like ?? its my wall lol and i directly asked her to stop breaking it. Then she got defensive and completely shut me out and is now sulking on her phone. AITA?

edit: misspelled a word ######

Response: NTA, if you had only told her jokingly at first then maybe she could have played it off as no big deal. But the fact that you asked her once again in a serious manner and she continued to pick at the wall shows that she realized you wanted her to stop, but continued to do so. ######


Prompt: So my (20F) sister (18F) doesn’t have any kids however we were discussing trans kids and my sister said that if her kid came out to her as trans, she wouldn’t accept them. My sister has not always been the best but recently she gotten worse. Using the word f*ggot, using gay as a synonym for shitty, fake throwing up at gay sex scenes on tv (note: this isn’t a twelve year old being disgusted by any sex scene, she only does this with gay sex scenes). As a bisexual this has been really hard for me to put up with so after she made the trans comment, I turned round and said ‘you shouldn’t have kids then and if she did that, that’s how she would lose her kid’ (as in the kid would stop talking to her once they could). My mum just told us to stop having this conversation. AITA for telling my sister to not have kids? ######

Response: NTA, if you can’t accept that your future child may not be cis and straight, don’t have kids. ######


Prompt:
Fiancé (24M) and I (24F) recently got engaged. We are in the very early planning stages.

Recently the topic of dress shopping came up. Fiancé asked if his mom would be invited. I said no. I’ve always envisioned it with my mom and maybe an aunt or two, especially the one that is my godmother and has no daughters. Fiancé seemed offended and thinks his mom will be too. I don’t want to hurt anyone’s feelings but his mom is pretty blunt and I don’t want any harsh opinions on that day. I don’t want to be one of those brides like on Say Yes to the Dress who brings too many people with her and they all have different opinions and then it’s really hard to get a dress. I don’t even plan on inviting my maid of honor.

Everything else about wedding planning involves making sure everyone else is happy and having fun, as it should be, so  I think this one thing should be special and just for me. I think who I bring should be my choice.

So AITA?

TLDR: fiancé wants me to invite his mom to go wedding dress shopping. I said no, I’ve always thought it would just be me and my mom and maybe an aunt or two. I think this should be my choice. He’s offended. AITA? ######

Response: NTA, if you aren't inviting your maid of honor there is definitely no obligation to invite your MIL. A small group of people you are close to is best and your partner and his mother should respect that. ######


Prompt:
I feel like a dick so that's why im asking the impartial internet.

So my boyfriend and I (F17 and M16) fall asleep on the phone every night. I work mornings most of the time so I go to bed relatively early while he stays up all night and sleeps through the day. I tend to go to bed around 10:30pm or so, but I normally call him about 45 minutes before I go to bed so we can talk.

The problem is, we don't talk. He's always playing Warzone with his friends and I've gotten yelled at if I unmute to tell him I love him. I always get a hurried " Love you too, not now Potato" which he only ever calls me in front of his friends.

I always end up staying up later then I should so we can talk for a little bit and say goodnight. Right now its almost 12am and I have to get up at 8am.

When I brought up how I feel ignored when we call he just says that the only time he can play with his friends is 9pm-11pm because one of them has to work all day.

I don't want to be controlling or make him feel bad for enjoying himself but I do feel like it doesn't make sense to be on a call if we're not talking.

AITA? ######

Response: NTA, if you are on the phone, you should be talking or its a waste of time. Why can't he tell them he needs to take 5 or 10 to talk to you? He knows you have to get up early. ######


Prompt: My sister asked me to babysit her kids (2,4,4,7). I agreed but I told her that she’s going to need to give me food to feed them because I’m fasting and I don’t have anything but oatmeal ramen, and protein in my house. My sister said buy whatever and she’ll pay me back. I asked the kids and they wanted McDonald’s. I bought them McDonald’s. I knew my sister didn’t eat McDonald’s but I didn’t know it extended to her kids. She freaked out and tried to make her kids throw up the food. She yelled at me and isnt paying me back. I’m a poor college student and that $18 is my grocery bill for a week. AITA? ######

Response: NTA, if there were food restrictions for the kids, she should have given you them upfront. ######


Prompt:
I occasionally buy an ice cream that's about double the cost of regular ice cream. It has more rich, creamy texture and is by far my favorite. My wife has some significantly younger siblings and cousins who are at our house fairly often (6-7 year olds). I don't want them to eat the expensive stuff because they would be just as happy with a cheap or store brand version of the same flavor. My wife gets irritated by it occasionally, but I dont think the kids can tell the difference.
AITA? ######

Response: NTA, if there is other ice cream available, why the heck should it matter to your wife? Be real now, kids dont care. They're just happy to get ice cream. ######