Prompt:
My brother and I are very close. When we need advice or just to talk we turn to each other for support. Same with my sister.

My brother married his wife in April of 2019 and have begun trying to have a baby. My brother called me yesterday and told me that they went to see her doctor and he told them that they should not try to have a biological child. My SIL takes medications that would most likely cause severe birth defects and unfortunately it is too dangerous to take her off the meds because it may kill her.

Obviously we were, and are heartbroken for them. My brother would be an awesome father and he loves my kids like crazy. I told him that it was not the end of the world and that they could always adopt or foster a child. He then told me that they were going to try anyway, despite the doctor telling them both that this was not a good idea because of all the risks.

I got very angry with him and told him they were both being extremely selfish. That even if they were able to conceive the risk of having a child with severe birth defects that may cause them to require constant care or possibly pass away at birth was ludicrous. He said that I wasn’t a doctor and didn’t know what I am talking about; and he’s right. I’m not a doctor, but I do know that I would be so heartbroken for them and for their child if something were to happen.

He says that I wouldn’t understand since I have children, but I do. My second child has permanent brain damage from lack of oxygen at birth. My delivery was complicated and we both almost died. My son will always have developmental delays and I will never forgive myself for it, even though I did nothing wrong nor did the doctors.

My sister and mother completely agree with me that what they are doing is terrible. However, my SILs family has been calling and messaging me and calling me terrible names. I only told my brother the truth because he asked.

So AITA for telling him the truth? ######

Response: NTA. I was expecting a VERY different post from that title than what we got. ######


Prompt:
Throwaway account for obvious reasons.

My “friend” is getting married and asked me to be a bridesmaid about a year ago. There’s been some tension from the get-go and I know she’s wanted to kick me out for various reasons over the past few months. (Some have been direct fights, others I’ve found out through side comments made to other mutual friends.) At this point, I’m fine with it. Also fine ending the friendship. Done with the drama.

I anticipate she will ask to call me in the near future, likely to officially kick me out of her wedding. The question here is: would I be a dick if I recorded the call?

- She says crazy shit on these fighting phone calls. Honestly I’d like to share it with my boyfriend post-call.
- I have no interest in blasting her online or anything, but wouldn’t mind having it as a backup to share privately in case she tries to lie about me to mutual friends.
- My state requires one party to consent to record (so it’s legal).

So, would I be the asshole if I record this call? ######

Response: NTA. I was booted from a wedding party for “looking too gay” and boy I wish I recorded that phone call. ######


Prompt:
A little background info on myself. My half-sister and I have the same father. We grew up apart, we did not meet until adulthood. We are now good friends and treat each other like sisters. My mother died of cancer and one of my biggest regrets was talking her into chemotherapy and radiation treatment. She was happy and relatively healthy even with the cancer, and I made sure that her last few months were miserable and hellish.

My sister sent me a message saying that her mother, who is 85 years old and has severe dementia, was just diagnosed with lung cancer. It has spread to her brain, bones, and liver. The doctors told my sister that she had 3 months to live, maybe, but she could live 6 months with chemotherapy and radiation. I told my sister my experience with my mother, and I recommended that she not push the treatment and just try to enjoy the 3 months she has left with her mother.

I’ve never seen anyone so mad. She actually referred to me as an “attempted murderer,” called me a bastard child, and posted on Facebook about how she is surrounded by poisonous snakes disguised as friends.

Was I being an asshole and over the line here? I was honestly just trying to help and be honest about my personal experience. ######

Response:
 NTA. I was almost willing to give a NAH but that is a lot of reaction.

I almost want to ask what you said verbatim because wow (don't feel like you need to do that, it just crossed my mind.) ######


Prompt: Okay so I know the title sounds like I am the asshole here but hear me out. I have a walk in closet attached to my bathroom you have to go in the bathroom to get to the closet. Currently I moved my work stuff in the walk in (its HUGE) because I needed space I can work in quiet and the area has to be able to lock.  I don't mind being attached to the bathroom most of the time, its our master bathroom so no one really uses it but us. We do have another bathroom across the apartment that is perfectly usable. My boyfriend thinks I am ridiculous that when I am working I ask him to not poop in the bathroom ATTACHED TO THE CLOSET WHERE I HAVE TO WORK. Its not a big deal to go across the apartment and poop in the other one but it causes this BIG thing every time. A few minutes ago he goes to poop in the bathroom again and I reiterate that I don't want to work and have to sniff his shit the whole time and he tells me I am making it a bigger deal than it needs to be. I told him it was a big deal to me and I don't understand why he has to be selfish about it and not just use the other bathroom. He walked away this time shutting both doors and not pooping but I know he's mad I called him selfish about it. As ridiculous as this is, Reddit am I the asshole here? ######

Response: NTA. I was all ready to call you TA and say, "well where else would he go?" But there's literally another bathroom he can use. Why is it such a big deal for him to use the other bathroom? It's completely reasonable for you to not want to smell that while working. Also, is there no other room that you can work in? ######


Prompt:
I just went into the kitchen and saw that my flatmate is using communal mugs to clean her menstrual cup. I know that there are probably no germs etc. left in the mug after sterilization but the thought just grosses me out.

I'm a male and am aware that I might not have full insight into this situation. My flatmates are pretty pro-sexual expression, body acceptance etc. which I have no issue with but I still think it's fair enough to find something like this just gross. It has nothing to do with me finding periods gross, but I mean I would not leave blood-stained plasters or condoms lying around on kitchen plates either.

I have not brought it up yet because I'm expecting some backlash and also I wanted to know the opinion of others especially other females. ######

Response: NTA. I use a cup and would NEVER leave it in anything communal. Even if it has been sterilized, I wouldn’t leave something that goes inside my body to catch blood just out like that in things other people use. ######


Prompt:
About a year or so ago, my wife asked me for advice on how to invest her IRA contributions in the stock market. Note: she was very hesitant to take my advice, and thought investing was like betting, because she thinks it is the same thing as gambling. Without pressuring at all, she took my advice anyways on what to invest in (low to moderate risk stuff). She then proceeded to mention it to me nearly every time the market had a bad day in a very whiny and complaining voice. When I reached my limit in patience after numerous such complaints, I said this is making me feel guilty and responsible, and maybe we shouldn't talk about this, and you do what you want to do with your IRA funds ( i.e. if you want to sell, do what you want.)

She proceeds to get super defensive and say how it "wasn't her intention" to make me feel bad. Fast forward a few months to today, she again raises how she wants some more "tips." I say I don't want to be involved at all. She then proceeds to get angry at me, including for bringing up the past incidents mentioned above, and continues to focus on "I didn't mean to make you feel guilty" as if that's the only thing that matters. I repeatedly say that it's not really about what you intended, it's about how you speak, the context, and how that can make me feel in light of that. Now she's in another room and we aren't talking.

AITA? ######

Response:
 NTA. I understand your wife’s perspective: investing *is* a bit like gambling even if you do it full time, and even if you just put everything into an index fund.

Having said that, you offered advice that wasn’t well received and it is perfectly reasonable to not want to participate again. Your wife should be more understanding of your reluctance to act as a financial advisor, rather than taking it personally. ######


Prompt:
Okay for background information, I’m 18F and just recently lost my virginity a month ago. I’ve been regularly sleeping with the guy since losing it. There was a day where the condom broke and it made me start thinking about getting on birth control so that I’m double protected, I was a little hesitant at first because of all the side effects so I decided to go to the doctor and talk about my options. She ended up prescribing me the pills and I guess my mom’s number is connected to my pharmacy profile because she gets a text saying that the birth control pills have been filled. She starts blowing up my phone asking why I got birth control so I told her...

Now she’s been going off on me saying I’m a disappointment and that I’m stupid for having sex and I just don’t understand? I feel like in my generation sex is just such a normal and talked about thing. I’m 18 and starting college this year.. if I didn’t lose it now I would’ve definitely ended up losing it in college anyways. But she’s starting to make me feel kinda guilty about it.. saying that I’m not the daughter she raised and she expected better of me. Also she’s mad over the fact that I didn’t tell her but I find that kinda weird and an invasion of privacy. I feel like it’s none of her business what I choose to do with my body. But I’ll ask you guys, AITA for having sex and for not telling her about it?

BTW I never brought the guy into our house, I find that disrespectful. ######

Response: NTA. I understand that some parents get upset when their kids become sexually active. However, and feel free to bring this up to your mom, she can’t be mad that you didn’t tell her when you lost your virginity-her reaction now is showing you exactly why she couldn’t be trusted with that. ######


Prompt:
I'm working at home for now and thus doing frequent Zoom meetings. One of my co-workers has started in these meetings whenever she has to state her name and position also stating "my pronouns are she and her" after that. No one really seems to care either way and hasn't acknowledged that, and no one else has started doing so. She also now has them in the signature of her email.

We were recently chatting in the IM app and then she asked me why I or anyone else hasn't done this too. This is likely because we were kind of close in the office. I just told her I don't see a need and everyone already knows I'm a guy and I look like one (I even have a beard.) She got kind of upset and said that's not the point and it's about creating a more inclusive workplace but she's getting frustrated no one else is doing so. She told me it's makes things more inclusive for trans people, but we have no trans employees as far as I can tell and if we do they've transitioned so much and so effectively they are recognizable as such and would probably just want to be treated as normal. So I flat out told her that I won't be stating pronouns anywhere and don't find it necessary. She seemed to take it kind of person and has lately been a bit bitter to me, probably realizing if she can't sway me to it no one else will. I've always found our workplace inclusive and open-minded anyway and don't see how this'll help anyone.

So am I being any type of asshole? ######

Response: NTA. I understand stating pronouns at like the start of a college class or something but in the workplace when you have already been interacting with each other frequently this is just weird. It's especially weird coming from someone who I assume is cis and does not get misgendered. ######


Prompt:
My(25) boyfriend(23) was still an art student when we got together, so he used to have me be his model to practice drawing, sometimes nudes even. I am quite okay with it as long as he doesn't show them around to other people and he respected that.

For my birthday he used one of his old sketches of me, one with me completely bare, and recreated them as a full coloured digital painting and gave it to me. He did a wonderful job, it was so much better in comparison to his previous sketch and he added more details to it and even added flowers and some light orbs(sorry, not sure how to describe)to make it better.

We have come to a disagreement however when he wanted to put that painting in his portfolio.

I told him that I am not comfortable to have a painting of me completely bare to be out there in public. His painting is so life like that I am sure people who know me can tell by its face that it is me. Furthermore, it a birthday gift for me and it feels bad to have it up in for public view

My boyfriend said that the painting is one of his best, his masterpiece even. It would be a shame if he cannot use it for advertising, especially since he wanted others to have him do commissions. also said that while it is a painting of me, it is not really me, it is a painting, an artwork of his.

While we argued my boyfriend came to say that people wouldn't recognize it as me since I don't have the same body I had before(I gained weight recently). This set me off and I threw him out of the room. I am writing this while he is outside apologising. ######

Response:
 NTA. I understand him wanting to put it in his portfolio if it’s one of his best, but if you have expressed that a nude of YOU in his portfolio makes you uncomfortable, that should be the end of discussion. If he is good enough to make that, he can put the time and effort into another piece.

Edit: I need to touch on the last part of your post. Him saying that it “doesn’t even look like you anymore” is him trying to manipulate you, and he is also being extremely rude because he’s butt hurt. This is not cool and boundaries need to be set. ######


Prompt:
So my mom and I share my YouTube account on our TV. However, I find it rather annoying and would prefer to keep it all to myself. Not because I have anything to hide, but it's just nice to me. It's nice not to have your recommendations butchered by other people's viewing habits, it's nice not to have your watch history clogged up by things somebody else has watched, and it's just nice to have something of your own, you know?

I told her I could *easily* set up her own profile in 5 minutes where she can watch whatever she want whenever she wants on her *own* account. She refused, though, because apparently that's "too much of a hassle" and "oh, you want to take away the last thing that we have together?" (which is both bullshit, by the way), and after an entire argument she finally decided to "let me set up her account on the 1st of August"

Now, I am wondering, am I the asshole for requesting that she stops using my account, and that I'll help her get her own account, instead? We came to a compromise I *guess*, and of course it is not the end of the world if we share an account but she kept insisting I am being cruel and rude for this. ######

Response:
 NTA. I understand fully, I regret putting my youtube account on the main TV because of how weird it makes my recommendations, YET it doesn't even sync the watch history with my other youtube devices, so I can't finish up an episode on a different screen without searching for it and fast forwarding to where I left off.

Change your password, and put a new account for her on the TV today, she doesn't need to babying through it lol. ######


Prompt:
A friend was just complaining that he got an Amber Alert close to 3 in the morning. I just casually showed him that you could switch it off. He thanked me, and I guess he showed it to a bunch of people.

Eventually that spread until my girlfriend found out that I switched off my Amber Alerts and confronted me about it. She said that I didn’t care about little kids being stolen, and that the reason why Amber Alerts work is because the entire community gets them. “It’s the price we pay to live on a society”. Yeah, no, I pay my taxes. My reasoning was that it’s my phone, and I get to modify it however I want. This has caused a big rift in our relationship.

So, AITA? ######

Response: NTA. I turned them off too after being woken up in the middle of the night by one. It nearly gave me a heart attack. What was I going to do? Jump in my car and go hunt them down? Besides, most of the time it’s another family member who has taken the child and they usually have a pretty good idea of where they’re headed and will catch them before anyone who got an amber alert will. ######


Prompt:
I (45F) left my husband (40m) a few days ago, took my kids and went to a hotel. I was hoping to work things out but needed some time to think. We had a big fight but what it comes down to is that he doesn’t feel like I am a good mother since I got cancer. I don’t do enough around the house after being sick and having surgery and chemo. I will admit it has been hard and it’s been a long road to recovery. I started back to work 8 months ago but I still take care of my children when they aren’t at school. He has done the bulk of the housework and I appreciate everything he’s done but I’m just so tired of him telling me that I’m not a good mom, and “not even a parent”. I just had to get out of there. I just can’t accept how cruel his is to me anymore. So I gathered the kids things and left.
One of the things I took was my husbands iPad so that my son can do his schoolwork. I didn’t realize I could also see his messages until a notification came up while we were doing school. He was talking to my cousin (29m) who has lived with us for almost a decade. He was saying that he wished I had died from
cancer. He said fact that I lived is the worst thing to ever happen to him. My cousin just said, “yea, I hear ya bro” and things like that. They had a long conversation and the opinion that I should have died was stated four times. Not once did my cousin, who I helped raise, defend me.
I have not returned home because of what I saw. My husband wants to work things out, but even if I do, I don’t want my cousin in my home anymore. I am so hurt that my so called family would not defend me and would just agree that I should have died. My husband has rage issues that he needs to address and I won’t be going anywhere near him until he does, but aita to say I never want to see my cousin again either? ######

Response:
 NTA. I think your cousin is the least of your problems. Your husband is such an AH for saying all that. He is toxic. Please think carefully before working things out with him.

I hope you have a speedy recovery. And you are not a bad mom at all!! ######


Prompt:
I have four children: 5M, 7F, 8M, and 10M. They are very close and best friends and they all love to play together. We live in a rural area and a woods is basically in our backyard. The kids love to run around in there. I’m working from home and my husband was laid off his job so husband has been sitting in the backyard and keeping an eye on them. I like to let them have free rein a little, but I can’t really trust the 10 yo to take care of the 5 yo in an emergency.

I finished my work early and came out to be with my husband and kids. I notice kids are playing this game and they keep calling each other “gay”. I pull 7 yo aside and ask them what they’re playing. She explains that they’re playing that “gay game”. Basically you have to do some physical thing (cartwheel, sprint, crazy acrobatics, etc.) and whoever can’t do it or whoever does it the worst is gay. I ask husband how long they’d been playing that game and he said a few weeks. I asked him why he hadn’t stopped them and he said it was harmless.

I kind of understand what he means. They probably picked it up at school or at the playground or something and they aren’t intending to offend anyone or something. I’m pretty sure they don’t even know what “gay” means. Husband says he played a game like that as a kid and I know I definitely did. I just feel like what was acceptable 40 years is not acceptable today. We have gay neighbors and this kind of negative connotation gay use is harmful in the world. I told the kids that they have to find a new game to play. They asked why and I told them that what they were playing was hurtful. I don’t think they’re taking it too hard.

Husband thinks that I’m overreacting and that they’ll grow out of it. I just can’t get over the fact that he heard them playing for weeks and didn’t address it. AITA? ######

Response:
 NTA. I think you’re doing the right thing in encouraging your kids to be considerate and empathetic towards others. I’ve chipped my kids (9M and 11M) for using ‘gay’ as an insult. They know what it means in the context of someone being attracted to people of their own sex, and they are OK with it. I’ve explained to my kids that using the word ‘gay’ as an insult tells people that being gay is a bad thing and is hurtful to people who are actually gay.

Maybe they could call it the “lame game” instead? ######


Prompt:
So I'm new to this sub and I apologize in advance for any formatting mistakes.

My friend (22f) texted me a video of this good looking dude she saw at a restaurant. I noticed that she seemed to be recording over someone's shoulder so  I texted her about it and she told me she was on a date with her boyfriend.

Her boyfriend (23m) is extremely caring and kind. He treats her really nicely and they've been dating for around 5 mo. He's really kind to her, nice to her friends and has good manners, keeps their apartment clean, etc. He's a really good guy and I'm really happy for her.

Anyway I texted her as a joke "did you really take this video of a handsome guy while you were on a date with BF name?" and she told me she did because he was "So fine".

So I was like "WTF?" I thought this was really disrespectful of her to do, especially right in front of her own boyfriend. So I tried to tell her that, but she told me that she only recorded it because the other guy was really hot and she wanted to show me.

So it seemed like she was dodging my questions so I just outright told her "Taking a video of a hot guy while you're on a date with your boyfriend is really disrespectful to him." She got really upset and told me that I shouldn't be meddling in their relationship and that she only took the video to show me.

AITA for doing this? ... ######

Response: NTA. I think you’re a good friend for calling out her inappropriate behavior, something that a lot of people aren’t so keen on doing. I think that sometimes being called out by someone close to you helps you really realize that what you did may be wrong. Props to you for being real with her, hopefully she’ll come to her senses. ######


Prompt:
My boyfriend \[29M\] and I \[23F\] have been together for 4 months but known each other a few years. He earns roughly double what I do and lives in a nice apartment by himself, I have a nice enough apartment with 2 housemates. His apartment is a lot closer to our respective workplaces than mine and as a result of this we've always tended to spend more time at his place.

Last night he was in a fairly irritable mood anyway, then later on in the evening he suddenly told me rent is due next week and I need to transfer him half. This really took me aback as although we have briefly discussed moving in together in the past we've never spoken about me moving into his place or paying him rent. I thought it was an unspoken understanding that I absolutely **cannot** afford half his rent and so if we were to move in together we'd both have to move.

I thought about it and I admit I have been back to my own place only twice in the past two weeks but I've never received any impression from him that I've overstayed my welcome, and we've hung out together in that time when we're not working. In the past when he's mentioned he's having friends over I've stayed away unless he's invited me into those plans. Also, I do the majority of the cooking for us and tend to buy the groceries for that, and we take it in turns paying for dates but he probably does pay more in total.

I just kept quiet when he mentioned it last night (it was already pretty late so I didn't go home) as he was already in a bad mood and I felt like he was pushing for an argument, then I went back to my own place after work today.

I realise that he obviously feels that I have overstepped a boundary in the amount of time I've spent at his but I honestly did not realise before now. AITA for not feeling like I should have to pay half his rent this month? This is the first I've heard of the issue, and also I would *really* struggle to do so. ######

Response: NTA. I think you two should sit down and try to have a serious discussion about why he thinks you should be paying for his rent. If it’s because you have been staying at his place lately, then he needs to let you know if that’s bothering him, like an adult would. But he can’t just expect you to pay rent out of nowhere. ######


Prompt:
 My (22m) dad (49m) just got home with his girlfriend. As soon as they walk in all I hear is him yelling and calling her some fucked up names. Then they start arguing out in the front yard. Fyi my dad was 100% the aggressor and his girlfriend was just crying and trying to talk to him while he was screaming at her.

 He came inside and locked the door leaving her outside. I heard her saying she needs her keys. (She doesn't live with us). My dad told her she wasn't getting them. This is when I decide to step in.

 I confronted my dad and we got into a heated argument. He said I'm a bastard for getting into his business and a traitor for taking her side. I told him that I watched him treat my mom like shit for their entire marriage and I wasn't about to watch him verbally abuse another woman. That really pissed him off. He bowed up to me then told me I "wasn't worth it" then went into his bedroom.

 I saw his girlfriend's purse on the table and walked out front and gave it to her and she left. My dad found out I helped her and told me to get out of his house because I took her side. Really though I just wanted her to be able to leave. I took nobody's side.

Am I the asshole for helping her because now I feel like I betrayed him. ######

Response: NTA. I think you handled this about as well as a person could. Good for you for standing up for someone in need of your help. ######


Prompt:
My older sister and I share the house we grew up in as part of our inheritance. To keep this as concise as possible, my sister’s boyfriend and I absolutely do not get along. I genuinely do not think he’s a good person and have no problem going out of my way to avoid him. My sister is well aware of the fact that we don’t like each other, but is constantly setting up scenarios for us to get together and hash out our differences.

Although I don’t like him, I don’t care if she brings him over as long as she lets me know when he’s coming, which she normally does. I got off work yesterday and found him in the living room, and when I asked how he got in he said he used a spare key. To my knowledge we don’t have a spare, just the two keys that both my sister and I have, but I shrugged it off and went to my room. When my sister came home, I asked when we got a spare key and she said she copied her key and gave him one so he could come and go since he stays over often. I was furious, because this was never discussed with me. When they went to bed, I took the key off the ring and I have no plans on giving it back. She’s upset with me because she says that the house is just as much hers as it is mine and I don’t have the right to take things that “aren’t mine”. ######

Response: NTA. I think since you're both owners of the house, things like that should definitely be discussed and decided between both of you. ######


Prompt:
For context: I am 16, mom is 49.

My mother’s grandfather passed away about a month ago. She was super close to him so it’s been really hard on her. She’s finding that she’s really sad (obviously) and having a hard time coping.

My mom usually doesn’t like materialistic gifts so I usually just write her a letter or a card or craft her something but I have a job as a tutor now so I wanted to buy her a little bit. I did write a card for her and got some other stuff but when I was browsing target I saw this thing called a “happy journal.” It basically consists of ideas to do for self care and happiness and a place to record her moods. I thought it was a thoughtful idea because she’s been sad lately and I wanted to acknowledge she was going through a tough time.

However, my friends told me it’s insensitive and I’m just marketing off of her sadness. I truly thought it was a good idea because she hasn’t been seeing her therapist due to quarantine and virtual therapy isn’t cutting it. I feel like a bad daughter and I’m hesitant to give it to her.

AITA? ######

Response: NTA. I think it’s sweet and I bet your mom will too. You’re not “marketing off her sadness”, you’re trying to help her find little ways to feel better throughout the day. Ignore your friends and give your mom the journal, and tell her why you thought of it. ######


Prompt:
For context, I’m a 16M and have an iPad Pro, which is quite pricy, and I don’t want to have it broken or scratched up. This is why I prefer to watch him with my tablet if he wants to use it, because I can stop him if he gets too rough. Not only that but I have personal shit on there that I don’t want to be shown to my family. It’s **PASSWORD LOCKED** for a reason!

My parents are almost always great, a little strict but never too overbearing.

What happened was that I was upstairs, playing with friends online, and I come downstairs afterwards and look for my tablet as I wanted to watch videos or just do anything on it.

To my surprise my brother was playing a dinosaur game on it, which was frustrating purely because I had not been asked if it was ok for him to do so. I saved up so much money for the tablet and it’s annoying to have it used without my permission. I ask my parents about it, and say I would have liked for them to ask first and they state:

Mum: “You must share your tablet”

Me: “I’m happy to do that but I would like to be asked beforehand so I can watch him”

Mum: “You’re being ridiculous, we bought it so we choose what to do with it.”

Me: “But thats not fair, it’s my tablet, so I choose of he can play on it”

Mum:”No, it’s to be shared, he will play on it if he wants”

This led to it being confiscated. I’ve already decided to change the password on it so only I can open the tablet.

Am I overreacting? Help me Reddit ######

Response:
 NTA. I think it's lovely that you're willing to share your tablet with your brother under supervision. Honestly, it *is* an expensive piece of tech, and toddlers can and do easily break things without meaning to.

But you're right. *You* saved up to buy something expensive and delicate. It's a lot of money at any age, but especially as a teenager, and something that will cost a lot to repair or replace should it be damaged. Not to mention how genuinely distressing it can be when something you saved up for breaks. You shouldn't be obligated to share your property. Again, I think it's lovely that you willingly do so, but you should be asked every single time.

I'd definitely change the passwords (you're entitled to your privacy), and calmly explain that you're happy to let your baby brother use the tablet as long as you're aware of the fact and you're able to supervise ######


Prompt:
AITA? My Niece, 9, is addicted to her smart phone. Everyday whenever I see her, she is I glued to it (tiktok and games) for hours.
We are very close, she lives next door, and we do a ton of stuff together (kayaking, Minecraft). We are good friends, and I try to be the cool uncle but I often take a father role as well, as hers sadly is a pos that has 0 to do with her life.

Today, was the same of her hiding inside on her phone while everyone else is outside. I asked my sister if she wants me to set a screen time limit. She said yes, and told me 3 hours. I did.
My Niece is upset at this and is pouting in silence.
I tell her it’s no big deal, 3 hours is plenty of time, and it means more time for fun and doing real stuff. She then gives me the nastiest glare I’ve ever seen from her and lunges her head forward almost threatening.
At this moment, I took her phone and said, “excuse me? I don’t think so. Maybe you need this taken away for awhile.”
Well then she immediately bursts into tears and my grandmother says to me “you’re a bully”.
She admittedly did not see the glare. My sister who also did not see it piles on, and consoles her daughter while telling me I’m out of line.
For clarity I pay for and supply the phone.
I then tell them they are reinforcing negative behavior, undermining me and that taking away a phone is not cruel. Well I died on that hill, and I’m still pulling of chunks of tar and feathers. AITA? ######

Response:
 NTA. I think especially at a young age of 9, there should be limits. In my eyes, it's good to prevent a reliance of entertainment on devices! It's hard to get away from an addicting thing like the media, but it's really needed especially at a point like that.
I bet she's got a lot of creativity down there if she can get past only being on a phone.

Just need to make sure you give her the reasons why after that when you're both in a calm mood. ######


Prompt:
My cousin is being confirmed next year, and she's talking about a sponsor now, as is required in Catholic Confirmation. My aunt has told me that she's actually talking about me. She thinks I'm really cool (I know that) and knows that I'm way more of a practicing Christian than most of the cousins in our family. However I'm not Catholic anymore. I left almost as soon after I was confirmed and I go to a liberal church now. So I actually don't meet the requirement that the sponsor be a Catholic.

I told this to my parents, and they said that's not really a big deal: since I as confirmed I'm still eligible, the church doesn't know that I left or that I go to a different one now or that I haven't been to a Catholic Mass in about 5 years. While that is true, I don't feel comfortable lying about that, or that I'd have to state things agreeing to support my cousin as Catholic, because frankly I won't, if she ever asks me about anything of the nature I'd also encourage her to leave the church and join a different one. My family is seeing this more as a generic rite of passage thing than a religious thing as I do. My mom also thinks it's not a big deal because I'm still Christian, I said that doesn't matter to the Catholic church's rules, but she thinks that can be just overlooked. She asked if I would be the sponsor if it was in a different church and I said yes. So she thinks I'm being unreasonable and discriminatory and that I should just support my cousin. The reason though is that most other churches don't require the sponsor to be that specific denomination. I feel like I'd be lying and taking a vow to things I don't agree or support if I did so. It's not a slight to my cousin, that's not why.

So am I being unreasonable? ######

Response:
 NTA. I think an important distinction to make to your mom is that you aren’t being discriminatory, you’re actually being quite respectful. Your family’s laissez-faire attitude about the rules of the Catholic Church might work for them, but that’s not how all Catholics feel.

I remember growing up, my cousin’s dad was Catholic and I went to church with them every other Sunday and they made me take Communion. In college, a class discussion about Catholicism came up, and people were upset *for* me and upset *with* my family — nonCatholics aren’t just supposed to take communion like that, and apparently it was pretty disrespectful to the whole faith. This feels a lot like that. ######


Prompt:
We need social work credits to continue our studies. I used to go to an autism centre every week to help around, and everything was ok until the pandemic started.

Having no way to access the usual centers, and school being online, the teacher that is in charge of the social work decided that instead of postponing some stuff, or even extending our second year’s social work a bit, we should all donate a pantry each.

And I know it could help a lot of people. 100 pantries are a nice help... but many people can’t even afford their own food, their families not having a job because of quarantine. It doesn’t affect me as much, but it’s still quite a lot of money that is going out of my wallet, money which I could really use this quarantine.

They didn’t even consider other options for a second. They just stated that we had to do it, and if we don’t, good luck working for the school if you want to graduate.

Oh, also? It isn’t even as if they made the announcement and gave us some time to sort things out. They simply dropped in, told us to go to school to give the pantries on Monday, and it’s been complete radio silence since then. ######

Response: NTA. I suggest that you speak to the principal about this.  Some of the students' families may be using food banks themselves.  Talk about socially inept, what a teacher! ######


Prompt:
Fiancée has had an eating disorder for a looooong time (more than half her life) but recovered and has been doing amazing for about a year now. This is the longest she has ever been okay for.

Recently she’s been falling into old behaviours and started eating less. A lot less. She’ll fill her bowl 3/4 of the way and leave about half of her food untouched.

She’s drinking a lot of sugar free sodas and energy drinks because they make her feel full and keeps the hunger away.

She doesn’t want to eat after 7pm which is an old resurfaced behaviour as we usually have dinner around 8pm.

Yesterday she admitted she was starving at around 10pm but didn’t want to eat because it was after 7pm.

One of her accounts is one I set up and connected to an email we both have access to as she doesn’t have access to her old accounts and asked me to set it up. I think she’s forgotten by now about the connection because this morning I got an email saying “congratulations on your new weight goal” from a fitness app.

The “goal” would put her BMI at around around 16 which is obviously very low but not critical. Not yet.

She has a habit of falling and falling hard because then she reached that and she’s technically fine so wants to go lower and lower and lower.

Last relapsed ended her in the ICU.

We have an agreement that I don’t comment on her food because it makes her worse and worsens her relationship with food.

She made me promise that if she ever reaches a very specific weight to call professionals in to help her.

Would I be the asshole for actually doing that if she gets to that weight? I can monitor her weight which she agreed on when we set it up but I believe she has since forgotten about. ######

Response:
 NTA. I suggest calling professionals well before she reaches that weight. You've already noticed a bunch of signs, there is no need to wait for her be to a particular weight or BMI.

Eating disorder sufferers have this twisted idea that they can't get help until they are at a low enough weight because until that point, they think they "aren't sick enough to need help".

ED's can take twice the amount of time to recover as what the person actually experienced the Ed. Meaning if you had an Ed for 5yrs, you could still see someone struggling even 10yrs after beginning recovery. Recovery isn't just a quick thing. It's a life time of caring for yourself and making sure you keep yourself safe. She isn't keeping herself safe. It's up to you to help her. ######


Prompt:
Throwaway account. My 14yr old sister still uses a pacifier nightly. My mother has never taken it away from her. When my sister was in kindergarten my mom asked her uncle who “was a doctor” when will she get rid of it, because apparently my mom could not be bothered with that task, and he told her that she will grow out of it on her own. To this day my mom says “he lied to me” to place blame.
I am in my thirties and do not live with them. I have a very close relationship with my sister but she will not listen to me when I talk about how it needs to go. I do not believe it to be my sisters fault, i think it’s my moms fault for not doing it herself. I asked my mom about it A couple times and she just says it was too difficult listening to my sister cry. Which I call bs on.
 I only want what’s best for my sister as she already has had consequences from using it for so long. I don’t mean to pressure her so much but I just cannot for the life of me figure out why my mom thinks this is ok. My sister understands the issue but I think at this point the only way she will let it go is if someone takes it away.
So, AITA or is my mom TA? Do you have any advice on this? My mom won’t do anything in regards to getting rid of it and I cannot convince her.

EDIT: she is going to need braces now because of this, it has created a gap longwise in her mouth. Also, the pacifier does not get changed regularly. My sister does wash it regularly than goodness but has probably had her current one for a few years.

EDIT: my sister and I are best friends. I would do absolutely anything for that kid. We have the exact same sense of humor and can talk about anything. I am never pressuring her rudely. ######

Response:
 NTA. I sucked my thumb until I was about her age and it really did a number on my teeth. Like the amount of dental work I’ve had done is ridiculous and it was often painful. However, I honestly I think by 14 you’ve largely missed the boat on stopping her yourself. It’s a comfort thing, I doubt she’s crying over it, but it is genuinely difficult to stop. I only stopped after I had braces as I knew I didn’t want to go through all the issues I had with my teeth again.

So, no you’re not an asshole, but I think it’s a little too late and you need to let her figure out how to stop on her own. All you can really do is inform her of the possible consequences of continuing. ######


Prompt:
My GFs family is pretty "high class" or whatever you want to call it, they're basically the opposite of my family in many ways both financially and socially. My mum smokes and drinks a lot and is a single mother who has been married twice, while my GFs mum is the opposite. My mum and my family are not educated and most of them have not gone to university but my GFs family are all educated and really value education which my GF does as well. They're just more "well off" if you can say so and compared to my girlfriend I feel a bit stupid in many ways because she literally knows everything and can hold a conversation about anything while I'm just a simple car guy who is a welder.

So yesterday we were talking about the future and she just popped up "when will you get an education? I mean you can't be a welder forever can you"? I told her I don't know... i might go into a specialised field or something which requires education but then she said "it's still not very academic" She joked about how our kids will have one dad who works as a welder and a mum who works in something that is seen as "better". She was being very sarcastic about it and tried to make it seem as if it was not a mean thing to say. She went on and said "if you don't get an education then our kids will probably do the same, they probably want to be welders as well etc" she has previously "talked bad" about people who work in physical field where your body is required and she says that those people are stupid.

She has previously pointed out some things I do and joked about how "white trash" it is such as me smoking weed or liking cars. I have had a long day so I snapped at her and called her a "pretentious bitch". In return I was called an asshole and that she was only trying to help me but she was so rude about it. She is not talking to me right now.

AITA? ######

Response:
 NTA. I say this as a high school teacher -- not everybody needs to go to college. I'm not saying they aren't capable or don't deserve the chance if that's what they want. What I mean is, we have this glorified view of degrees, and while in some fields they are certainly valuable and necessary, in other fields they really aren't.

I have a master's degree, but I don't know how to weld. You HAVE an education; it simply isn't in academia. That does not make it less valuable, and it does not make you a lesser member of society. I can't condone partners calling each other names, but she does have a pretentious attitude about this and is clearly disrespecting you. Nobody deserves that from their partner. ######


Prompt:
where im from,the wifi is generally trash. to get the good wifi,you need to pay more. my family decided to get the better one,which is still pretty bad,because we live outside the city.we moved here 2 years ago when our house was finished.our neighbors are really nice,as they let us use their electricity when we were constructing our house.we share the gas to,but the bill is shared.i should mention that when they need the gas,they shut OUR gas down so they get more gas.other than that,theyre cool i guess.about two weeks ago,they asked one of my sisters if they could get the password for the wifi,because their wifi is down.sis didnt reply and kept the other convo going,whatever it was (i wasnt there).the neighbors girl asked again,and being the non confrontational weirdo that my sister is,she gave them the password. now,i wouldnt really mind if it was one person using it,but their whole SEVEN person family is using it,which really kills the speed for us.i recently downloaded brawlhalla,and i cant even play it.i get like 100-200 kbps,which really doesnt help me play.i've considered changing the password but my sister and mother think i shouldnt,as theyre "helping us by sharing the gas".

WIBTA if i change the password for my wifi which i pay for so i can play games ######

Response:
 NTA. I saw in the comments that you were the one paying for the wifi. If that's the case then you are absolutely in the right to change the password.

This is actual hilarious as I was in this same predicament a few years ago. I had online classes but due to my neighbors entire family being connected to the wifi as well, the internet would run really slow which was hampering my school work. I ended up offering to take over the internet bill (my mom was paying it before. It was supposed to be used by my 2 sisters and I for school work but we were all experiencing this same situation). Immediately after taking over the bill I changed the password. Nobody else knew it and I would be the one to input the password into their devices so there would be no chance of them sharing it to anyone else.

This may be a bit extreme but our neighbors were actually our uncle and his family which is why my mom had felt the need to give them the password. I however did not feel the same as I considered my uncle to be a freeloader. ######


Prompt:
I(20f) have been using this system since I was 18. I google pictures of penises and just send them one back.

Ignoring means they think they can escalate it to things like soft porn, or begging me for my nudes cause they sent one first so it's only fair.

Blocking has often resulted in them making new accounts to send me dick pics on or finding me on other social media.

This is the only what I have found that works to make them stop. I feel bad for it, but I can't think of anything else to do. ######

Response: NTA. I read a story once where she would look up their info and send screenshots to their mothers. 🤔 ######


Prompt:
I’m pretty sure I am in the right because my intention is solely to keep her healthy...but I feel terrible about it sometimes.

My grandma is 72 with Alzheimer’s. She does not understand that Advil, Motrin, Bayer, etc...are all essentially the same thing. She will take a couple Motrin for her headache, then 30 min later take Advil for her back pain. Sometimes she will forget when she took them and take them too close together.

This only came to my attention when she had stomach pain and was then diagnosed with gastritis, and me being home all day due to the shutdown. So I told her I’m hiding all those pills because she abuses them and everyday she comes to me asking for more for some new pain she has.

I ask now because I just found like 15 pills god around the house.

Am I being the asshole by not giving her access to subdue her pains? ######

Response:
 NTA. I only worked with dementia patients for a short time, but came to understand that they don't always know if they are in pain. We had a lady that always told us her leg was sore and we couldn't touch it during personal care; not to say she wasn't in pain but long story short, the doctor who her daughter discussed a poss hip replacement basically said those with dementia might just be saying it because they remember it being sore at one point - if that makes sense?

Maybe you could make a chart with the meds and times with grandma? Explain to her that whenever she has a pill for pain (maybe list them?) you'll mark it off and make sure she does it with you. You may have to repeat yourself each time but it may be a way of reducing her intake further and you could even just keep only one brand, and tell her they're different? I'm not sure what they are exactly as I'm UK ... because she could also remember you're keeping them from her and she may start accusing you of stealing them and other things, you're abusing her, you don't care etc...

These are only based on examples I have learned over the years from friend with relatives who have this awful disease, and I'm aware it varies wildly from person to person.

Speak to her doctor too before you do anything else.

I hope you get this sorted and that you and your Grandma are otherwise safe and well x ######


Prompt:
Basically I recently moved to America from Ireland in the last few months working in an IT. Now despite always finding Americans who say they're Irish or "plastic paddies" as we call them back in Ireland annoying, I knew when people say that in America, they just mean their heritage so "when in Rome, do as Romans do". So on occasion, when I tell people i'm Irish, i'd get the odd American saying "Oh cool i'm Irish too cause my great great great granddaddy was from Ireland" followed by cringey questions like "did you know we Irish were slaves too?" I'd let this slide, smile and nod and just to try to change the subject as soon as possible.

Now in the IT where I work, there's this woman (lets call her Julie) who claims to be Irish because of a grandparent I think and she was basically the plastic paddy stereotype e.g. "I have an Irish temper" and "I had too many Irish car bombs last night". Once again, I let it go because when in Rome. Then one day during a group meeting, when people asked me what its like in Ireland, she kept interrupting me and basically took over the conversation about what its like in Ireland despite admitting to never being. It got to the point where I was becoming visibly irritated but once again said nothing because when in Rome. Then when she went to the bathroom, people started laughing saying "you looked so annoyed there" and I made one comment saying to them "just because your great great grandfather once had a Guinness in Cork doesn't make you Irish" which all but one woman laughed at. That one woman turned out to be one of her closest friends.

Then Julie confronted me about mocking her because obviously her friend grassed. I then just told her straight up she's not Irish and to not speak over me when it comes to experiences in Ireland, and to "stay in your lane". She then went off in a huff and hasn't talked to me since. AITA? ######

Response: NTA. I once had an Irish-American woman have a whole blow up row with me for calling the language Irish instead of Gaelic. The fact that I live in Ireland and have spoken Irish since I was 4 did nothing to dissuade her. It's incredible draining ######


Prompt:
First-time poster, long-time lurker.
For some context, I have a Dog and Two Cats, all of whom I love, and about a year ago, I started dating this woman who knew about my pets and how devoted I am to them beforehand. When this all started, we decided to isolate together, since we both work from home. This happened about five days ago.

My Girlfriend asked me to sit down so we could have a talk. I obliged, thinking the worst, and listened as she proceeded to launch into a rant about how she couldn't take living with animals anymore. The litter box smelled, the dog food smelled, the animals were annoying, ect. Everything under the sun was apparently a problem of epic proportions, and she couldn't handle having to live with them any longer.

At first, I thought she wanted to go back to her own house, but I was deadly mistaken. Instead, she told me that I had to make a choice - I could either have her and get rid of the animals, or never see her again and keep the pets.

I chose the pets. She left shortly afterwards.

Was I a jerk to choose them over her? Could we have worked something out? Her sister called a while later and called me an a##hole, and I just want opinions that are unbiased. ######

Response: NTA. I mean, what would happen if you got rid of your pets and you two broke up afterwards? Sounds to me like she didn't think living with animals would be as different or as cool as she thought... That or the novelty ran out so she wanted you to make her more comfortable. ######


Prompt: AITA - I live in a rental house that the owners used to live in before moving so it's pretty nice. There is an in-ground pool that has a heat function, but because of electricity cost my roommate and I rarely use it. I normally swim year around at my gym, but due to the current situation I have started swimming at home using the heat pump. When I told my roommate that I wanted to start using the heat pump he complained about cost and I agreed to pay for any increases to the electrical bill (based on the average of this month last year). Since then he has been swimming every day. I told him if he was going to swim then we needed to split the bill evenly. He refused saying that whether he swims or not I would be using the pump and heating the pool and that I agreed to pay for it. I think if he's getting benefit from it, he should contribute. I'm tempted to just turn the heat off, but swimming is such a good low-impact exercise that I've relied on since injuring my knee last year. ######

Response: NTA. I mean, practically speaking, i'm not sure exactly what your options are, but he should definitely be paying if he wants to benefit from it. Your housemate is a huge asshole. ######


Prompt:
So my dad started a small business, and it grew to be pretty big. We have a few locations in our area. I’m going to be pretty vague about it for anonymity.

He and I always worked together on it, when I was little he would teach me about it, and in high school I helped work there, and I worked there throughout my 20s. He transferred ownership to me a few years ago because he was diagnosed with cancer, and couldn’t take the stress of running it full time, but he really still helped make all the big decisions.

He passed a few months ago, and I’ve recently gotten a call from my sister, who I haven’t talked to in a long time(probably 5 years now?). She never showed any interest in the business when she was young, and then after college moved away and hardly even called my parents. She’s lost her job and wants to work for me because it’s the “last memory of our dad”. I think she’s bullshitting and just wants a job where she’s not going to get fired because it’s family.

I told her no, and if she had any interest in it she would have shown it in the time our dad was still alive. My mom is telling me I should at least let her try to show she cares, but I don’t think I have any obligation to someone who left without so much as a visit to our dying dad, who now just wants the rewards for what we worked on.

AITA? ######

Response:
 NTA. I mean, its your business, you can hire whoever you want.

While it'd be nice if you could hook her up with a job, you are under no obligation to do so. ######


Prompt: (TW: miscarriage) This is my third pregnancy. Multiples run very strongly in my family so I always knew there was the potential for more than one. I was shocked though when my first ultrasound revealed triplets. I wasn’t exactly thrilled as this was to be our last baby and I was going for three kids not five but I came around to the idea. However at the next ultrasound we lost two of the three triplets. Neither my SO or I were really that sad. We still had one baby, it was still very early and we both know if you miscarry there is a reason those babies were not compatible with life so we kinda just moved on. However when it came up with different family members and friends they are absolutely appalled that we are not spiraling into depression. They think it is so weird and AHish that we “don’t care”. We just figured it’s how it was meant to be and there’s nothing we could have done anyways. So AITA? ######

Response: NTA. I mean, it's not like you really had the time to get attached to them, plus everyone processes loss differently. I can think of a lot more jerkish behavior than moving on from something you couldn't do anything about. ######


Prompt: I’m a 22 year old girl and a couple days ago my bfs cousin who’s 6 had a birthday party. It was hot so I came in a tank and short jean shorts. When I got there my bf told me he wanted to me to go home and change he thought my outfit was inappropriate for a children’s party. I didn’t believe it was at all. I got pretty angry with him and instead I just left and stayed home. He told me I blew it out of proportion and easily could’ve just changed. Now I’m just sitting here wondering if I handled it the right way or if I should’ve done anything different. AITA? ######

Response: NTA. I mean, I doubt you're super close to your boyfriend's 6 year old cousin, so it's not like your absence ruined the party for the kid or anything. Also, does he let you pick his outfits for him? No? Then I don't see what right he has to tell you what to wear. ######


Prompt:
My mom was raised in Kashmir. Muslims took over the territory, burned down her house, killed her dad, and they fled to India in the middle of the night. My entire family hateeees Muslims because of this.

So they’re super islamophobic. But also my mom was once robbed by a black person, so she also uses that to say she hates black people.

She says it’s normal. She went through a trauma, and now because of past events she knows to avoid these groups of people.

Well, my friend was attacked by a Poodle. She know says she hates poodles, wants nothing to do with the breed, and now avoids them when she’s out about about.

My mom was like, “Eh, that’s unfair. Any dog can bite. Why hold a grudge against poodles, in general? Just hate the poodle that did the attacking.”

And I was like, “You’re joking, right? That’s so hypocritical. You talk about how you don’t like certain groups of people all the time. It’s the same logic. Why hold a grudge against a whole group of people? Just hate that person.”

She was like, “It’s not the same at all. Poodles aren’t any more likely to attack you than say a Golden Retriever. It’s about the individual.”

I was like, “???? Uh, same for black people. Muslim people. It’s about the individual.”

She was like, “How are you comparing races of people to dog breeds? Not the same. Shut up, you sound dumb.”

But it’s the same logic, right? Literally the same. You’re saying group X is bad, and I hate all of them because of a past experience.

So, who is right here? Is it hypocritical? Obviously my mom is an asshole for being racist, but I’m talking specifically in this argument, is she wrong?

On a side note, there are some dogs that are more dog-aggressive etc because they have been bred to be like that. But we aren’t talking about those breeds. A poodle isn’t anymore likely to attack someone than, like, a Lab or whatever. ######

Response: NTA. I love this analogy. Sounds like she hasn't worked through her trauma enough to accept that she's wrong. Serious kudos to you for not accepting the racism you were raised in. ######


Prompt:
My family owns a successful property development firm. I reluctantly took a position with them because my father wants to take a less active role and my younger brothers aren't ready. While I work with my brothers and fathers, everyone is treated equally and it is very harmonious.

Lately, my SIL has been bouncing ideas off us and showing up to "help out" I'm not okay with either of that. I sarcastically asked my brother if she was looking for a job and he said she wasn't because she was happy being a SAHM. I told him that was good because no one's spouse is going to work here. That will bring too much drama. Then I told him she needs to stop hanging out like she has nothing better to do as he's no different than any other employee.

Not only does she float around but she's helping him his admin work even though we already have paid people to do that and now she's questioning business moves or offering her own. This has gone beyond a spouse showing up to go out to lunch but my brother disagrees.

I finally emailed her on my own and told her that this wasn't her business, she knows nothing about it and her ideas and showing up to help my brother was not wanted. This wasn't a family-issue. This was a business issue. I told her she's his wife, but in no way a member, stakeholder or employee.

Of course she cried to my brother that I "attacked" her when she was trying to be helpful and he has heat with me. ######

Response:
 NTA. I love people who think that because this is a family business she needs to be able to give an opinion. You already spoke to your brother but he most likely either ignored you or his wife ignored him. Or he did not get what you were saying.

Either way she can’t show up and “help”.  Either she works here or she does not. She is disrupting the office ######


Prompt:
Me and my roommates just moved into a new place. We are musical people and people give away old pianos for free all the time on FB marketplace and apps like Letgo. We found one we liked and enlisted the help of a friend with a truck to go pick it up. I asked the person on the app if 1pm was okay to pick it up and she said yes and said her house was located across from a post office in a specific town and that she'd give me the address when I was getting close. No biggie, logical enough.

As we got closer I messaged several times to try and get the address. No response. We get to the post office and wait a while for a response but dont get one. We knock on some doors of the houses across the street and ask if they knew the person on the app but no one did. We waited almost an hour. The app gives a general location of the seller, which was about a mile from where the post office was, so we drive that direction and miraculously we see the piano from the street in the garage if a house. We pull into the driveway and I go knock on the door, but the house seems abandoned.

The neighbors approach and we say are there to pick up the piano and they say to go ahead and watch as we put it in the truck. We go home, with the piano, get it in the house and settle in. The seller messages me on Letgo at 6pm absolutely furious that we took it. 5 hours after the agreed upon time, for a free item you could see from the road. She was not happy we found the address without her giving it to us proclaiming we could have taken anything even after I explained that her neighbors were there and we wouldnt have taken it if no one was there. ######

Response: NTA. I likely would have done the same thing. It was logically presumed that you could grab the piano. Besides, pianos aren't just sitting outside of houses on a regular day. Why were they furious? But if it came down to a legal matter, I think you'd likely lose. ######


Prompt:
This is the stupidest thing I've ever heard, and I'm still pissed from work. I'm a girl.

My new job is a very labor intensive job, moving heavy objects, pushing carts, packing shipping boxes. It's summer in the south on top of that, so it's hell hot. So of course I'm sweating with all the manual labor and the lack of ventilation in a metal sweatshop for 8+ hours a day.

I have a 'normal' type of deodorant, a 24 hours active sense one. Though, due to circumstances I can't get to the store and I ran out. I have a backup, a men's old spice one, I bought it because I like the smell. Very pine woodsy. It's a good cover all, and no matter how much I swear it works wherever my normal one I use when I know I am not going to be sweating alot, because I don't want to force people to smell my body odor of onion bagels.

So because of how much I sweat, I've been using the old spice one.  No more B.O! Everything was fine, my male co-workers, I work with mostly teenage boys, never noticed. Until today where do to an absence in the second shift I got to work in the less labor intensive area.

Today I sat down with the girls to unwrap CDs , and one of them commented how it smells like a guys here.

Me: oh yeah, I used old spice. I'd rather you not smell me, lol.

This girl, we'll call her Anna, freaked the fuck out. A few  seemed bothered and one of them told me it reminds her of her dad.

Things were said such as 'its unnatural, there's perfectly good girls deodorant!" And " are you gay?" And basically how I was a bitch because normal girls use floral deodorant and things designed for women and men had their own things made for them.

To me, it's fucking deodorant. I've know a few girls to do use ax, so why is this a thing? Still, I can't help but wonder if I'm a minority here.

AITA for using the 'wrong' deodorant? ######

Response:
 NTA. I laughed at “it’s unnatural”. You know what is actually natural?  Being sweaty and stinky because you don’t use deodorant at all.

I swear they put something in men’s deodorant that is stronger than women’s. ######


Prompt:
So my little sister is 7 and has a mild form of autism which makes her maturity level about a year or 2 behind where she is supposed to be.  I usually tuck her in for bed most nights cause she doesn’t really like my mom or dad doing it.

I do food delivery as a job right now, and I was working a lot lik from 8-8.  When I got home my sister was already in bed (her bedtime is 8:00 on school nights 8:30 on weekends) and I got home around 9 so she was asleep.

My mom told me that she was pissy when growing to bed cause I didn’t tuck her in, and my mom said I should have scheduled my hours earlier to be home.

Am I the Asshole? ######

Response: NTA. I know it could be difficult for your sister to be tucked in by different people, but since she was able to fall asleep soon after it, it doesn't look like it was much of a problem. Some parents would be proud of you for working hard, good job! ######


Prompt: So, my (23f) sisters (22f, 20f, 18f) are all home from college right now. So there are a lot of girls in the house and a lot of periods. I mostly use cloth pads, but when I have to use a disposable (mainly if I'm traveling or out of the house for a whole day, I hate carrying used pads in my purse) I have to use an expensive natural brand (7th Generation) because I have sensitive skin. If I try to use Always or store brands... it's not good. My sisters keep taking my expensive pads. I've asked them nicely 1-3 times each to please not take my pads. They said okay, sorry and continued to take them. So today when I was at the dollar store for groceries I went ahead and picked up some of the cheapest pads. 10 for a buck. These are one of the few cheap brands I can use and they work just fine, they are just bulky so I would rather not. I went ahead and hid my pads in my room. I put the pads in a basket that said "PADS FOR MOOCHERS". When my middle sister saw it she got mad. She said the sign was insulting and the pads I got were "horrific garbage". My other sisters and mom agreed. They want me to put my pads back in the bathroom because I "don't use them that much anyway". I said sure if they chip in for the cost but they said no because their student jobs closed down when the colleges did. So for some reason I should have to pay for their pads even though my job is closed too. I do have some savings but my parents were able to keep working from home and would gladly give them a bit of spending money if they asked nicely. I think maybe I should have just put the pads out without a sign but was I really the asshole here? ######

Response:
 NTA. I know from experience that 7th Generation is pricey. My mother is literally allergic to most pads (and sadly, 7th Gen doesn't pass the mark because I think it uses wood instead, and she's allergic to pine), and I just finished my period and have a rash myself.

If I were you, I'd keep your 7th Gen pads in your dresser or somewhere not in the bathroom. It isn't an adequate solution, but clearly your other period-having family members are not willing to conform for your needs. ######


Prompt:
I've had this phone number for 3 years. Since then, I receive many texts from the guy asking for verification codes and security codes sent to my number. The verification codes have started to seem scammy, including Google verification codes from non-Google numbers. And he asks me to send the code so he can verify his identity.

For years, I've been okay with it because I figure it can't hurt to help this guy out. But now, after years, I'm fed up and I'm starting to think my own identity is in danger from this guy still using my cell phone number.

After the most recent suspicious interaction I've had (the various Google verification codes) I decided to just block him. I feel bad, AITA? Should I unblock him and continue to help him unlock his accounts? ######

Response: NTA. I know 0 about whether or not your identity is actually at risk, but this situation is super sketchy. Clearly, he has a new phone. He can use that number. You've had the patience of saint for even putting up with it this long. ######


Prompt:
A friend was just complaining that he got an Amber Alert close to 3 in the morning. I just casually showed him that you could switch it off. He thanked me, and I guess he showed it to a bunch of people.

Eventually that spread until my girlfriend found out that I switched off my Amber Alerts and confronted me about it. She said that I didn’t care about little kids being stolen, and that the reason why Amber Alerts work is because the entire community gets them. “It’s the price we pay to live on a society”. Yeah, no, I pay my taxes. My reasoning was that it’s my phone, and I get to modify it however I want. This has caused a big rift in our relationship.

So, AITA? ######

Response: NTA. I just wish I could shut off that frickin' "Presidential Alert". ######


Prompt:
An old friend I knew from AA 15 years ago reached out  for money saying she and her husband were broke due to covid and she had already exhausted family and friends. I said I would paypal her 100 bucks. No problem.

When she got the money she then texted, thanks and by the way she was still “ bouncing” (a term meaning unable to stay clean/sober and her drugs of choice is opiates).

So of course I started texting her asking if she was ok and if she was using. I said don’t worry about the money, I just want to make sure you are ok!!!

No response.. i tried again later that night and twice the next day. No response.

I reached out to a mutual acquaintance who informed me she “got me” and was using and had almost died from an overdose last year.

I texted her one more time and said I was sending the police to do a wellness check if she didn’t respond. I was freaking out she was going to OD on money I gave her. No response.

I called the non emergency number for local police in her town and told them I was concerned about her. They asked why and I said she may have relapsed. I didn’t say on what.

So they went to her house and she was fine and then my phone blew up with indignation and threats and profanity. Blocked.

So..  AITA?? ######

Response: NTA. I have had to call the police for 2 wellness checks in the past. Its not easy. I hope your friend can learn to forgive you and understand that you did it for them. ######


Prompt:
This is pretty fucking embarrassing but my girlfriend is insisting I write on here to get judgement so here we go.

I’ve got a bit of a dodgy belly pretty much always. I’m not sure why, doctor has never really paid attention to it when I bring it up other than changing my diet (which I’ve done a million times but doesn’t help) and basically every morning and evening like clockwork I need to go and use the shitter. It’s painful, embarrassing, and idk why it happens to me but there we go.

My girlfriend of 4 years knows this and she often laughs at me because I disappear for long bouts of time. It isn’t fun, my stomach fucking cramps and hurts and I ain’t going for the fun of it.

Anyway yesterday evening my girlfriend decided to set herself up a nice bath including candles, wine, etc. I told her I might need the bathroom but she said I should be fine since I hadn’t eaten all day.

Well after around 10 mins as she’s running her bath, all of a sudden the urge comes and I’ve learned not to fucking question the urge because otherwise it’s bad news for me and my underpants. I ran past her to go to the loo shouting sorry I need to go, and it was all I could do to slam the door shut let alone anything else.

She’s absolutely furious with me and thinks that I’m the arsehole because I didn’t take time to cover her wine or anything, I’m bloody pissed off with her because it’s not like I can help it and she’s making me feel stupid for not ‘holding on’ like I should have in her opinion. ######

Response: NTA. I have friends with IBS and when they need to go they need to GO. Yeah, it would have been nice to have gotten her wine out of there first, but it is what it is. She knows your situation and is being unreasonable. ######


Prompt:
Okay, so a bit of a backstory here: I’m a teenager, so naturally i still live with my mom (my parents are divorced). I tend to have problems sleeping that result in me staying up until like three am. This doesn’t affect my energy throughout the day or anything, it’s just what I need to do to actually be able to sleep. Sleeping medication doesn’t work for me. So I’m always awake whenever the following occurs.

My mom doesn’t usually have trouble sleeping, but she does sometimes. And when she does, she thinks that the best thing for her to do is to crawl into my bed and try to snuggle with me. This makes me wildly uncomfortable because I dislike being touched like that unless I’m the one initiating. It’s also very uncomfortable for me physically because she tends to have warm skin and I absolutely hate heat when I sleep. I sleep without covers and with the fan on as high as I can set it. It’s also just really weird to me. I’m sixteen, and I feel as if she isn’t respecting my personal space and boundaries. I’ve brought the fact that I dislike this up to her and she still continues to do this. I have no idea why.

Today, I was up late, as I typically am, and she came in to try to get in my bed. I literally scooted as far away from her as I possibly could and kept shaking her off and asking her stuff like “why are you in my bed” and whatnot. She eventually left after a few minutes ( she usually stays for longer ). I know for a fact that in the morning, she’s going to make a comment about how it was rude of me to not let her cuddle with me in bed. But it genuinely makes me so uncomfortable and I hate it, and I’ve brought this up with her.

AITA for not letting her stay in my bed? ######

Response: NTA. I have children your age, and I would never crawl into bed with them. Your mom has a problem with boundaries. If it's a continuing problem and she won't listen to you, perhaps discuss with your other parent or an aunt/uncle? Best wishes. ######


Prompt:
So Let me start off by saying that I am in the 8th grade and my sister is in the 11th

Since online class has started I have been struggling with the work load, combined with other tutoring lessons I usually have to work into the weekend which does not please my parents at all, which I understand because then I can’t do other stuff like hiking or doing walks with them.

It was all fine until they sat me down one afternoon to tell me that I was not meeting my expectations that they have set for me and that I should be working harder like my sister. Who has her work done in the first 3 days of getting the assignment. They carried on repeating themselves about how I should be more like my sister and all that.

This occurred about 1 month ago and since then they have been constantly telling me to work harder like my sister. Until I finally just snapped yesterday, I started to break down with tears forming in my eyes and I started saying
“ Stop fucking comparing me to my sister, please!”.

I know I probably went overboard for that but it was all the emotion that I had built up over this time and I know I probably am the ass hole , but I just want more opinions on this.

Currently I have still not had another long interaction since yesterday but I hope we can settle since soon.

Also sorry I know formatting is bad, sorry for that I’m on phone. Also I know it’s not as good as the others on here but I just needed to talk,
Thank you for reading. ######

Response: NTA. I have been compared to my siblings during a long time (they are both very hard workers) and it feels terrible. Your sister probably love online classes and you’re struggling a little and that’s fine. Your parents should understand that instead of constantly comparing they should help you with your work (help you planning, answer some questions you have, help you if you have pc problems,...) ######


Prompt: One of my high school best friend is getting married and it’s a big deal for her we’ve talked about this as long as I can remember. I’m really happy for her but I am a full time college student and I work on top of volunteer work for my major. I would really like to help but if I’m being realistic it’s an extra thing I can’t really deal with at the moment. She is very upset with me and doesn’t understand why I don’t have time to help. Yesterday she texted me that if I can’t start helping more she no longer wants me to be one of her bridesmaids. I told her I completely understand and to be honest I was upset but I can’t promise her time I don’t really have at the moment. Me saying I understand if she doesn’t want me to be a bridesmaid anymore apparently upset her more and my friends are now all upset with me and want me to basically beg her to be a bridesmaid. I would like to be apart of her wedding but I don’t want to beg her for it and promise to help her when I honestly don’t have the time so AITA? ######

Response: NTA. I have been a bridesmaid over 20 times (big, big, big extended family and lots of friends) and I’ve seen this exact scene play out 25% of the time. Sometimes, women who have been planning their weddings for a long time forget that it is not the focus of other people’s lives as well. You cannot commit the time or money she wants out of you for this, so you were honest and accepted her decision. Asking you to beg for it is just some drama bs, don’t do it. She’ll be fine again a couple weeks after her wedding, or she’ll lose her entire mind and you’ll never have to speak to her again, but neither of those outcomes are under your control. ######


Prompt:
Will provide more context if needed, it's a lot to fit in to 3000 characters. Using my throwaway since this is quite personal.

My mother died around 2.5 years ago. I now live with my father, and two of my three brothers. My youngest brother is very high functioning autistic (Please excuse my language here, I know the term high functioning isn't the best but I'm not sure what the appropriate term is, please feel free to correct me and I'll change it in an edit). He's 13 now, very keep-to-himself, just likes to play on the computer, go to the shops, and go for walks. He does have some behavioural issues, such as having huge meltdowns whilst watching TV because he doesn't like what happens on it. None of us are very close with my dad since he was the breadwinner, and he wasn't a huge part of our lives until our mum passed. Obviously now we see him all the time.

After my mum passed, my dad told me that in the will, I will get my youngest brother's share of the inheritance and be financially responsible for him. In my understanding, this means he goes into my care. I was never asked if I was okay with this, I was just told about it. I believe this was decided because since he was born I was actively helping out, and I started babysitting semi-regularly when I was about 10. Whenever my mum would worry herself about who would look after him in the future, I'd chip in with "It's okay, I'll do it!", because 10 year old's don't really think about consequences. I continued saying I'd take him on until I was around 16 because secondary school brought on some strong depressive episodes and I genuinely didn't think I'd be around past age 18, so again, a non-adult not thinking about the consequences.

Me and my brothers discuss it regularly because we know even if we all pool money together, we can't afford a care home, but I don't know what options we have really. I guess I just want to know, AITA for not wanting to become a carer? ######

Response: NTA. I have a similar situation with a severly mentally and physically handicapped sister. Tell your dad that you don't want to be a carer. You don't have to do this, but my siblings and I agreed to give up our inheritance so that it could go into a trust to take care of our handicapped sister. You do not have to be a carer for your brother. But tell your dad so that he can prepare ######


Prompt: My boyfriend is allergic to shellfish. His throat closes up within an few hours if we don’t get to the emergency room on time. He doesn’t need an epipen but he does need to get to the emergency room to take a methyl prednisone pill. I am aware of these allergies and always do my best to accommodate them. I would never want him to be hurt. However, we disagree on the severity of his allergy. I’ve been with my boyfriend for almost 4 years now. I have seen him have allergy attacks, but they’ve never been immediate and always took 8-2 hours before bothering him. Recently my boyfriend has had allergy attacks due to him and other people being negligent (never me!), this has caused my boyfriend to be extremely anxious about his allergy. When we first started dating we would go our for Chinese food all the time (my favorite food, yes this is the most important problem we’re having right now). He would tell people he had an allergy and has NEVER had an allergic reaction from these outings. Due to recent events, he doesn’t want to go anymore, which is understandable. However, now he won’t let ME eat it either! Just to be clear, I don’t eat shellfish or anything fried when I order, I always say I have an allergy as well so it’ll be safe, AND I brush my teeth, rinse my mouth, wash my face and wash my hands, sometimes I’ll even change my shirt if I’m worried. Again, he has never had an allergic reaction because of me. I am very careful. Every time I order I also make sure he is in the mood for something I don’t want so he doesn’t feel left out. AITA for wanting to eat Chinese food? ######

Response:
 NTA. I have a gluten allergy (and some other foods) which sucks but I would never ever tell my SO they can’t have that stuff!

(They take precautions for me.) ######


Prompt:
My friend (M 20) frequently complains about  his lack of  men to date.  He isn't unattractive but he is no male model.  He however has very narrow tastes when it comes to men.  He wants a tall,  ripped male model who isn't feminine in any way. Which I've  always found  pretty shallow.

Yesterday,  while he was complaining about how he must be so ugly because none of these 10 /10 men would date him and that he will never find a decent guy to date,  i told him that  he needed to have more realistic expectations.  Most people aren't  perfect models  and the epitome  of masculinity so he needs  to be open to dating less attractive  people  and not be so shallow because he is also not a 10/10

He accused me of attacking  his self-esteem and not being a good friend for telling  him he's  unattractive and ridiculing him for having standards. I feel justified  in what i said because i he needs a wakeup call but maybe i shouldn't have told  him he's not that attractive (he has had issues with  self-esteem in the past so i feel guilty for bringing up his looks) ######

Response: NTA. I have a friend who’s also extraordinarily like your friend, and it’s to the point where it’s obnoxious. Even if they DID meet a person who lived up to their physical standards, it’s unlikely that person will also meet their other standards too. Personally, I would much rather a partner who I can chat with and has similar likes as me, over them being my 10/10. ######


Prompt:
Hey There.

My parents are divorced and my bio-dad died soon after. It all happend when I was around 3 so i never knew him. My mom remarried a year after their divorce so I grew up with him as my father. My bio-father was an onlychild from my grandparents with who I had no coontact with due to my mother not wanting me to do so. They passed away two months ago an I was the only person in their will. They left me their estate (the house they lived in and some multi storage houses in a city nearby) and quiete a large sum of money as well as a letter in which they wrte that they were sorry for not being part of my life but they accepted my mothers wish. That was news to me my mom told me that they didnt want contact with me beacause they had prblems with her and abandoned me beacause of that. I am legally an adult at 19 and still live at home with my parents and my little sister. She is really spoiled and always gets what she wants because she is the family baby. When i told my parents aboout my inheritance and what all i have got and that i am planning to put 50000 in a saving account for my sister they got mad at me for not splitting it evenly. I was shocked and they tld me that i was an selfish and spoiled brat for not sharing. Honestly i dont mind sharing but now I thing I wont. As i told my parents that they threw me out like litually forced me to left the house i grew up in and threw all my stuff out the window. I was shocked. I picked up my clothes put them in my car and drove too my grandparents house where I an sitting now in shock and writing this post hoping someone can give me advise on this situation because i dont know what to do.

Sorry for spelling and grammar english isnt my first language. Thanks for your time. ######

Response: NTA. I have a feeling your mom is lying about why you didn’t have contact with them. Just because you have money doesn’t mean other people have a right to it. $50k is a ton of money and they should be grateful for that. You might just want to wait until she’s an adult, so there is no chance of your mom spending the money. Also, if this aren’t her grandparents in any way, why should she be entitled to benefit off of it? ######


Prompt:
Earlier today, me and my mom had an argument about me not liking dogs, I told her my reasons but as it seemed, she refused to accept it. I went back to my room and thought that it is all over. Few hours later, she called me to help her with the laundry, I wasn't thinking much about it and went to help her, however, she started telling me that persons who don't like dogs are in fact horrible people and have problems with their inner selves, I asked why she thinks so and she just said ,,I have 45 years of an experience and that's more than you have" and now, she don't want to talk to me until I change my view on dogs..

Am I the asshole?

(Sorry for my English, not a native English speaker) ######

Response: NTA. I have 46 years of life experience so I know better than your mom: your mom is wrong - you are completely normal. I don’t like dogs either; they are one of the most annoying pets. So don’t worry about what your mom said, she clearly has problems with her inner self and is projecting onto you. ######


Prompt:
Hello fellow assholes, first off thank you for giving my some perspective on my previous post about me and my wife. It helped us start a conversation and reach a better position in our marriage.

My wives cousin let’s call her Sara wants to move in with us because she recently had her second baby and wants more room to raise her family. Both me and my wife were the first people to marry outside our races and we came from very different backgrounds. My wife is huge on family and I’m not so much.

My wives family has lived with us before her aunt lived with us lived with us for two years when she fell on hard times till she got a good job and moved out. Her other cousin lived with us for a year after getting out of prison until he also got a job and moved out, I was fine with all of this.

I am not ok with Sara moving in with us, Sara is a single mother of two kids who lives completely off government assistance, government housing, utilities, food stamps you name it. Tax dollars provide her entire life. She has been doing this for 7 years, has no job and does not intend to get one. I fully believe she just wants to live with us to have a bigger and better house and lifestyle. If she moves in she will never move out. She lives in low income New Jersey housing we live in a 6 bedroom in Minnesota.

She says he have the room and it’s our duty to help out family, I told her I’m not willing to help a grown woman who doesn’t want to help herself. So am I the asshole? ######

Response: NTA. I hate to say it but if entitled family in-law are a common issue for you, you might want to downsize. ######


Prompt:
I had recently had a huge falling out with my family. Long story short, my siblings and parents wanted me to leave all my money to my nieces and nephews, I told them where they could go and threatened to stop paying for my parents' assisted living if they kept this nonsense up. I think the possibility of loosing their cushy lifestyle spooked my parents, because suddenly their tune had changed from "You're so selfish" to "aww! we didn't mean it. Lets talk". So, after they kept pestering me have a word with them in person,  I invited them over.

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Now my parents know damn well that chocolate is bad for dogs, but my mom has tried to give them some on many occasions. When I tell her off she always comes back with "but maybe they like it" and "I was just being nice". This time when they came over, I left them in the living room and went to the kitchen to get some refreshments. While I was there, one of my dogs came over to greet them. I could see them from the kitchen. My mom petted him for a while, then reached into her purse and pulled out a bar of chocolate. She broke off a piece and was about to give it to him when I stormed over and knocked it out of her hands.

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My parents looked shocked. I was enraged. Even after being told repeatedly that chocolate is bad for dogs, they just didn't get it. When I asked my mom what the hell she was doing, my dad actually started yelling at me and told me I was being rude. I told them either they were complete morons or they were intentionally trying to hurt my dog. I told them I was sick of their BS and that they were on very thin ice with me. When they tried to argue back, I grabbed my dad by the arm and walked him out the door. My mom followed, crying.

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My sister has sent me a text, berating me and calling me cruel for trying to protect my dog.

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I think my reaction was appropriate. But I'd like to know what you think. AITA? ######

Response: NTA. I hate to say it but I think you mom might have been giving the chocolate on purpose. Don't ever let them near the dogs again. They're horrible people it seems. ######


Prompt:
In have this new coworker, 22F.  She has been here less than a year and comes with a limited amount of experience.  Nonetheless she is a very Type-A coworker and has identified herself a future manager.  As such she is very directive in talking and often points at people when addressing them, snaps her fingers when requesting information or asking/telling someone to do a job.  We all take turns in the position of “workload supervisor” and she is a little overbearing when it’s her turn.

A while ago I told her immediately after a finger snapping incident (she was requesting information and was snapping to get my attention and  was quite persistent) that she needs to stop.  She sort of agreed but really just defended her actions as she said she just wants to make sure things are done right. I told her no, never again, it’s disrespectful.  I have since told her on 2 more separate occasions to stop.  She persists.

AITA for wanting to make her stop snapping?  (Hey, flipnsip. *snap* I need this done. *snap* *snap* Now. ** )

For the record, manager is aware of her type-a leanings and just believes that is how she is.  Most coworkers hope she grows up and stops.  They find her irritating and immature but hope she is either going to improve or go on maternity leave.  At no point is her work anything other than average no matter her own perceived level of importance. I honestly try to avoid her but cannot stand the *snapping*. Not at me or any other coworker. ######

Response: NTA. I hate that crap, you're not a dog, you're a human being. If she has such an issue where she feels constantly compelled to do it, tell her to put her hands in her pockets or something. Ik it's usually not an intentional kinda thing so just be nice about it ######


Prompt:
So I met with a friend this past weekend to chat. We're both 21M white guys and go to the same college, but live about 45 minutes away. We decide to meet halfway at this one cafe.

Anyways, we're chatting about various life topics and the discussion of haircuts come up. He says that not being able to get a haircut is good because he can "blend in" with everyone having bad haircuts (or something along those lines.) Now I've gone to places such as Great Clips my whole life, and started going to a local black barbershop about 3 years ago. The difference was night and day in terms of both the experience and quality of haircut.

So I said to him, "You should try going to a black barbershop. They always get you right" and told him about how good my hair always is, and how the barbers make you feel at home. He responded with a simple "yeah I understand." And we changed the conversation and everything was good I thought.

Today I texted him and asked if he wanted to meet again and he texted back saying he'd be happy to but added "don't bring up weird topics again" I asked him what he meant and he brought up what I told him and said I was borderline racist?? I don't understand what exactly I did wrong in this situation and confused on how it could be racist.

AITA? ######

Response:
 NTA. I go to an African-American owned hair salon with African-American barbers and hairstylists and with majority African-American customers. I am not black. I go there because I feel the owner is the absolute best hairstylist in my entire city. I send people of all races to her salon. I always have great haircuts and a great time there.

There is nothing racist about supporting any locally owned small business. ######


Prompt: A few days ago I (20m) was out at the supermarket getting a few things when a girl came up to me and asked for my number saying I look "cute". Problem is I'm gay as you can probably guess from my name. Me never experience this before tried to be as polite as possible and told her "thank you I'm flattered but I'm gay, sorry about that". I thought all would be good after that but she got upset and started ranting about how all the guys are turning gay and proceeded to call me a f_g and tr_nny for some reason (I'm not trans at all so that was confusing. I having the true blue potty mouth I have called her a c_nt and told her good luck finding a guy who wants to put up with c_nt like you. When i got home I told my sister what happened and she called me TA saying that I have no right to call a woman a c_nt and that I should consider myself lucky she would even ask me for my number. So I'm here getting the opinion of the people, AITA? ######

Response: NTA. I get that word is a lot more offensive in the US than it is here, and you shouldn't engage with people who have a poor IQ for a glass of water, but i mean, if the shoe fits. ######


Prompt:
Ok.

So I drive trucks for a living and I'm not home all the time to fix things when they break down or mess up.

We have a dwindling rat problem that's slowly being taken care of by the exterminator that I pay to come to my house once a month.

So the rats that are remaining in the house decided to crawl up into the backside of my washer and chew holes into the drain hose of the washer letting water either leak out or shoot out depending on if the washer is running or not.

My wife called to tell me that the rats have chewed a hole in the drain line and that it needed to be fixed. I told her that I would be home in a few days and that's when I'd be able to fix it. The part including shipping is roughly $30. The washer itself is only 3 years old. Still works great.

She calls me back a few hours later and tells me that she spent over a $1000 for a new washer and gets mad at me for getting pissed that she would waste over 30x the amount it would take to fix the old one, proceeds to yell at me and call me a asshole for getting pissed while she's stating that she needs to be able to do laundry for the next few days until I get home.

Edit: Wife and kids at home with no washer for 2 days. ######

Response: NTA. I get not wanting to go without a washer for days, but why didn't she just *call a repairman?!* ######