Prompt:
My gf and I live in a 600+ sq ft apartment on a bottom floor with 2 cats. Quite recently, my gf had to make the decision to put down her dog due to liver failure. It was very fast and sudden, because we went in for a upset stomach and expected medication, not a lack of dog.

She immediatly started looking for another dog to adopt. I completly understand this, because getting another dog is part if the grieving process. However, this is where I wonder if I'm the asshole: I told her no.

My gf likes a "beagle/hound" mix that isn't fully housetrained and used to be abused, so the world is still scary for them. I'm very hesitant on getting a dog, because for our last dog, a lot of the walking/training resposibilities fell on me. I would get guilt-tripped into taking the dog out for walks by myself, while my gf would NEED me to be with her. I don't have the patience for dogs and while I like them, I'm more of a cat person anyways. I'm not ready for more financial costs and the emotional/physical responsibility of another adult dog that has problems. We're gone 9 hours a day and we can't always afford dog walking/sitting. However, its really hard to see my gf go through something like this. ######

Response: NTA It’s very soon after the death of her last dog, and you also live in that apartment so you have a say. It’s gonna feel like you’re the asshole for a while, but I do think you guys should sleep in getting a new animal so that she can grieve fully. I just had my family dog die of cancer a couple weeks ago so I get it. ######


Prompt:
My(F22) grandma used to make gorgeous patchwork blankets, and anyone who has made one will know how much time and skill goes into them. As a going away present for university (4years ago) my grandma made and gifted me a massive double sized one, and I love it!  Unfortunately arthritis runs in my family and making something this intense really took a toll on my grandma,  in addition to my grandma getting cataracts, so she has said she will no longer be making anything.

This has proved true over the last 4 years as my grandma has stuck to her guns and not made anything more.

Fast forward to me coming home from uni and my mum seeing the blanket for the first time in 4 years. She has now suggested that it isn't fair that my younger brother (M17) won't receive one and that I SHOULD CUT MINE IN HALF to give him some.

Because of the shape of the blanket it wouldn't even be that simple, I'd have to detach all the squares and rearrange them into two functional shaped single blankets. I know that I could do this, as I have made a point to start learning the skills my grandma had, but WIBTA  if I refuse? I might be tempted if my brother was really sad but he has never mentioned that he even likes the blanket!

TL; DR
My grandma made me a blanket, and it was the last thing she made. Mum wants me to cut it on half so my younger brother gets some. ######

Response: NTA it’s unfortunate that your grandma can’t make them anymore, but I don’t think you should destroy an heirloom to placate your mother. It was a gift, given to you. ######


Prompt:
this happened in February. im 20 years old and in early feb I started having really bad cramps and was spotting. (my period is usually irregular and can hurt, but this was bad). after a day of suffering and my flow getting heavier by bf took me to the ER and called my mom and stepdad. the doctors confirmed i was miscarrying and told me i was around 11 wks and the remaining tissue was removed. my mom found out about the miscarriage and was really sympathetic because she'd had a lot of trouble getting/staying pregnant in the past. but my boyfriend and I don't want kids yet, and we actually have money saved in case we needed an abortion.

so now my mom, step dad, sisters, bf's mom and dad, and grandmother all know about it (idk who told who) they were all very sad and told me how its okay to grieve and mourn, but i wouldnt have kept it anyways, so now i just feel bad about making everyone else feel bad. my mom and stepdad paid for the hospital bills, and my bf's mom even told me a story of her own miscarriage and how hard it was for her.

my mom is esp upset that her "first" grandchild was lost and has been babying me when she can. i dont have the heart to tell them i dont want kids and was gonna get rid of it anyways, and that im relieved not sad. no one but my boyfriend knows about the abortion plans. even like three months later I still have people asking if im okay (mostly my mom). it just makes me feel guilty

im also kinda upset at my bf, cause if he hadnt called my mom she wouldnt know about the pregnancy at all. i get why he did it but still.

aita for being dishonest? ######

Response: NTA it’s ok to mourn an abortion too. Just because you’re not ready for a child, or not in a place to continue a pregnancy, or don’t want a baby, that doesn’t mean you can’t experience the emotions that come with maki g that choice. If you’re not grieving, that’s ok too. But you don’t have to tell yourself that you don’t deserve their sympathy. ######


Prompt:
I know the title sounds absolutely ridiculous and to be honest the situation is actually ridiculous so I’ll try my best to explain.

Me, my sister and her boyfriend are currently renting a house together, we all do our part and we all equally pay the rent.

The house we are renting has a fucking massive backyard.

Well one day, I was sat in the yard drinking my coffee when I had an epiphany.

I want to order a bouncy castle for my 21st birthday in a couple days time.

Yes I’ll be 21 and yes it is incredibly childish of me but god dammit we’re in quarantine and I want to do nothing more than get drunk hop on a bouncy castle and jump to my hearts content.

I am a massive fucking child I know.

I told my sister about the idea and she’s completely against the idea. She told me that it’s  immature and the only person who will get enjoyment out of my birthday will be me and that her and her boyfriend won’t enjoy it

I know for a fact that her boyfriend would love it and she’s a god dam liar.

But every time I look into the garden, all I see is the potential it has to have a wicked bouncy castle in it. My sister also claims that I’ll be embarrassing myself to the neighbours when they look out the window and see a 21 year old girl having the time of her life on a bouncy castle.

Money also isn’t an issue either and we are all thankful to have jobs and I do have the money to spare.

So, will I be the asshole if I go ahead and live my bouncy castle dreams? ######

Response: NTA it’s not hurting anybody. Bounce away. ######


Prompt:
This happened when I was 14 in 2001, but it comes up sometimes.
I was living with my parents and brother, we were pretty broke so we never got gifts.
For my brothers birthday he was giving a CD player/radio boom box thing for his room. For him that meant entertainment and fun and mind expansion etc.
For my birthday I was given an electric razor to shave my legs outside of the shower with no water. My parents said I wasted way too much water shaving and now I was not allowed to shave in the shower ever again. This was my only gift and I was upset and said I’d rather have a gift that stimulated my mind, something I could enjoy, like my brother got.
It ended up in both of them yelling at me and calling me selfish and saying to be grateful I got anything. I said they were sexists and I got grounded.
Discussing this the other day my parents still maintain that I was being a jerk. AITA? ######

Response: NTA It’s not even that it was sexist, it wasn’t even a gift. I was personal grooming equipment to save them money. It’s one thing if they got that for you when they bought you other personal hygiene stuff but it was not what the spirit of a gift should be. ######


Prompt:
So at my job me and “Cindy” have been friends throughout university & when we graduated we both went to this company and have been here for a couple years now. I’m now 27m and she’s 28f and has been in a long term relationship for about 7 years. Her BF “Tim” was a good buddy of mine and we still hang out from time to time. Anyways so their 7th anniversary is today. Cindy’s been excited because she’s been sure that Tim’s gonna propose to her tonight. She was telling the office that he booked dinner at a suuuuper upscale restaurant in our city and some other fun things as well.

I was mentioning this to my GF when I got home and then I was like Tim better propose tonight cause she’s been looking forward to it for SO long. My GF just gave a weird look and didn’t respond. Then later on, Cindy was sending messages in our work group chat and she was saying that she had already gotten drunk and if he proposes then she’ll just be a blubbering mess and won’t even be able to say yes. I started laughing and then my girlfriend asked whats up and I was telling her then she interrupted me and said it’s a bit strange that I’m so invested in their relationship. I said that’s an exaggeration, I have no emotional or otherwise stake in that relationship but I think they’re a great pair and should get married because I know for a fact that both of them want to.

Anyways I tried to explain this to her and she wouldn’t budge on the matter. She’s iced me out for the rest of the day so I just left and went back to my place. AITA? ######

Response: NTA it’s normal to get excited for someone else’s proposal. she’s overreacting ######


Prompt:
This is more of an “Are *We* The Assholes”, because I’m speaking for everyone participating minus the friend in question.

We’re currently in the early stages of planning our trip to Japan for next year (fingers crossed things are safe enough by then). This will be our second group trip to Japan, the first one being last year (which the friend in question chose not to come on, and even openly doubted that we’d be capable of successfully organizing it).

Anyway, now that the planning stage is upon us again, he’s decided that he wants to come this time, and took the liberty of inviting his girlfriend along without consulting any of us first.

This left pretty much all of us with a sour taste; not because we don’t like his girlfriend’s company, but because, like the last trip obviously was, this trip was also conceptualized as a guys trip. So today I volunteered to be the one to speak up about it to him, and he’s not taking it so smoothly.

I tried not to be blatantly confrontational; I said that although this was meant to be a guys trip, we still don’t want to tell anyone they can’t come. So we want to try and find a middle ground, and we think that there should be another Airbnb separate from the guys Airbnb so that everyone’s comfortable. And that we can still plan our outings together etc.

He doesn’t seem to understand that what he wants to do conflicts with our collective intention of having a guys trip, and has objected to all our reasoning. I feel like we’re not in the wrong at the end of the day, but I’m trying to keep an open mind to different perspectives in case there’s somehow something that I’m missing here. Thanks for your time ######

Response: NTA it’s a GUYS trip. As a women myself if I planed a girls trip I wouldn’t want bfs or husband around either, because that defeats the purpose. I hate to sound sexist but for me PERSONALLY there are things I talk more in-depth with my girl friends than my partner. I assume that’s the same with guys. I sure know my bf talks to his friends especially his gamer friends differently than he talk to me. Your friend doesn’t seem to know how to take time away from his gf and it’s not a bad thing when it’s only his time but he’s forcing his gf on you guys which is not right. ######


Prompt:
So this isn't a big problem but both my mother and brother see me as an ass hole for not sharing my PlayStation with my older brother(22) who used to own his own playstation but sold it when he was stuck for money and every day when wake up he is playing it (shared room) and if I am on it and leave the room for 10minutes or more he goes on it and doesn't even ask not only that but he uses my account instead of his own because he stupidly bought things and won't make his own account because he already bought stuff

     AITA!?? ######

Response: NTA it's yours and he is old enough to be working and get his own, he should also know that you ask before using someone else's property. ######


Prompt:
So me and my partner are getting married in August, and we have had RSVPs back from people who say they are coming and add a +1 to the invite, and I have trouble confronting people to tell them no...

But my real AITA grievance is my mother...

She randomly calls and tells me to add this cousin or that cousin because they are family...

A side of the family I have little to no contact with because after my father passed away (when I was 16) my mother upped and left me about 2 years later to deal with a broken house and no income while she went back to live with her parents.

So AITA here for telling her no and she can't just invite whoever she likes? ######

Response: NTA it's your wedding. It's super rude for people to just tack on a +1 when it's not on their invite. wtf D: ######


Prompt: To be honest she is very lazy and does not train her dog or bring it outside. He shots and pees all over their house and she doesn’t care. She wants to bring the dog because she refuses to put it in a kennel. She asks all the time and makes up a sob story on why she needs to bring him. I told her If she started actually taking care of her dog that he could come. My friend told me I was an asshole for causing a family member to be inconvenienced and that I judged the way she cared for her dog. ######

Response: NTA it's your house, your rules. If she wants to bring her dog she's going to have to make sure it doesn't mess in your home. If not, she can leave it behind or have someone watch it. Just because it's her dog doesn't mean you have to cater to it. ######


Prompt: I (23M) will be turning 24 this Wenesday and my gf (24F) of 3 years wanted to suprise me by taking me away to the outer banks this weekend for 1 day (leave after work thursday and come back friday night).  This is a 3 hour trip one way and the weather is supposed to rain both days with a high chance.  I called her today after she suprised me yesterday with the plans and told her with the virus still rampant and bad weather, that just wasn't how I wanted to spend my day off that i took for my birthday.  This weekend i have to help her parents build a deck so this day off is honestly a short amount of time for me to celebrate which i honestly want to drink beer, play old school runescape and watch movies with her at home where it's safe. After telling her how thoughful the gift was i told her i wanted a raincheck for better conditions when we could really enjoy it, when restaurants reopened and nicer weather. She was hurt and said we still could've had fun and now i feel like AH.  So AITA? ######

Response:
 NTA it's your birthday to spend as you wish.

However nobody should be out socialising right now, being around those outwith those they share a home with.  Or helping their parents or partners parents, build a deck if they don't live there too, which is not at all essential contact... ######


Prompt:
Me (F) and my husband (M) are planning on getting married this August (fingers crossed we dont have to reschedule) and even with the circumstances are still planning it. Recently, I picked my bridal party, and so I face-timed my maid of honour (who will be my cousin) and my bridesmaids (2 close friends). I was originally hoping to include 2 of my other very close friends in the bridal party, but have since decided to exclude them.

The reason for this is they hate each other. They have never really been friends, and since weve been in high school (10 years ago!) they have not gotten along. They constantly talk bad about each other and can barely even be in the same room without getting in a screaming match.

Of course, I still want them to be at my wedding, as they are 2 of my closest friends. However, I decided not to include them in the bridal party because it calls for working so closely together and constantly being with each other. We have to go gown shopping, bridesmaid dress shopping, have my bachelorette party, actually be in the same room for hours on the day of my wedding, etc.

When I told them my reasoning they were understandably upset and they told me they would be able to keep it together. I want to trust them, but they have promised be before to keep it together (on birthdays) and have never been able to, I even have to have individual birthday lunches and dinners with them now instead of a party. I really think theyll fight at my wedding and although its selfish i just feel its better if they arent in the party altogether rather than just picking one. They have even now said they dont want to come to the wedding.

Some friends agree with my decision, however a couple of my others dont, and one of my friends in the bridal party and my mom have told me I am being dramatic. I really dont want to hurt their feelings but I will also be super embarrassed and upset if they fight all the time we do wedding activities.

Edit: Clarity ######

Response: NTA it's your big day you lovely bride to be, it's not dramatic its sensible. ######


Prompt:
My daughter really likes rap music, which while a little strange doesn’t really bother me. She’s 15 and has heard all the things in the songs at school anyway. She listens on her speaker at my house.

She’s with her mom for quarantine, and we’ve fought over the music in the past. Recently her mom called me and told me to stop letting her listen to rap at my house because she’s being difficult about it at hers. I usually uphold her rules and punishments so long as they’re within the realm of reason, but this one seems silly to me.

I told her no and she cussed me out and hung up. AITA? ######

Response: NTA It's silly to bar a person from listening to a style of music. I can understand of some certain songs are banned, but blacklisting something across the board is stupid. Your house, your rules. Her mom is an ex for a reason, she does not control what you allow your children to do while under your roof. ######


Prompt:
I just called security on my neighbor. It was around 830pm today (which is a Friday). They were holding a jam session including a drum set, saxophone, bass and singer. They were playing so loud I could everything clearly through my bedroom walls and my walls were shaking.  He's played loud music in the past but has stopped not long after and it's never been a jam session. So I never called on him until today.

Anyway they decided to leave after security talked to them. The singer called out my apartment and others as they walked away. She called us all a bitch and said that she plays loud music until 3am where she lives.

AITA for calling on them at 830pm on a Friday? I know noise comes with the territory in apartments,  but this just seemed outrageous to me. ######

Response: NTA it's really not cool to have a jam session or band practice in an apartment. I mean maybe all acoustic and in the daytime but not loud enough to shake the walls.  That's just assholery. ######


Prompt:
I’ve lived in this neighborhood for ages now, and we have this cat who wanders around. Thing is, I know that it’s not lost and I know exactly who the cat’s owners are. Almost every day at the same time, when I get off the bus and walk to my house, the cat is waiting there for me and I give it a good scratch and let her snuggle against my feet before I go inside. Sometimes she follows and sometimes show doesn’t. Anyways my gf has become pretty endeared to this feline and has tried to feed it. Idk if it’s the right thing to do to feed it or not, I was always raised not to feed other people’s pets so I’ve stopped her from doing that.

It’s now gotten to the point where my gf is seriously in love with the rascall, even asking me if we should just say fuck it and keep the cat for ourselves and I laughed it off because I thought she was joking. Narrator: *she wasn’t joking*. Next time I saw the cat she had a different collar on and my girlfriend had went out and gotten a collar for “our cat”. I told her to stop being ridiculous as it’s not our cat and she argued that she spends a lot of her time here so she might as well be. I said that’s not our decision to make and told her to put the collar back on the cat and she refused and said she’d already thrown it away. I had to dig through the garbage and get it back and give it a good washing before I exchanged the collar again. Now she’s mad at me because she thinks I’m being controlling but it’s not our goddamn cat. ######

Response: NTA It's not your cat, no matter how much she wants it to be. If she's that serious about it, she needs to go talk to the owners. My ex had an indoor/outdoor cat, and would be devastated if someone stole him like that. ######


Prompt: I'm 18 and was in the kitchen making a tuna fish sandwich. I was spreading tuna but doing it slowly because I was lost in thought. The sandwich was for myself. My dad came in hovering over me. He started lecturing me on how to spread it faster. I said I don't need help. He started sarcastically ranting about "wooow you know how to make a sandwich at 18". He started trying to show me how to spread it faster and I said I don't want help. He got really mad and was yelling about how its his job to show me the right way and I'm disrespecting him. I yelled to leave me alone and he got super angry at me. ######

Response: NTA it's his job to let you spread some fucking tuna ######


Prompt: My grandmother was always very sick, and I was the only one who took care of her. Tbh I’m a medical student so it was easier for me to know what she needed, even if I was just cooking  her food or massaging her. I have 9 uncles but she decided a few days ago to change her testimony and to give me everything, including her big house. My parents found that to be unfair and my uncles keep pressuring me to tell her to change her mind, but she keep telling them that since I was the only one who took care of her, then she wants to give me everything, tbh it’s a big amount of money, but I am afraid that my uncles will hate me, and they even started to gossip that I always knew about her plan, while I didn’t! I know that this money can be beneficial for me and for my student loans but I am afraid that it will split our family, cause I know that my uncles might need that money as much as me. Does it truly makes me an asshole  if I accept take everything? ######

Response: NTA it's her choice and honestly they seem like douchebags for being mad she is giving it to the person who's helping her ######


Prompt:
AITA for cutting off a decade long friendship. I was friends with this guy (“F”) since 9th grade. He was my first high school love because he was such a nice guy even though we never kissed or anything, it took years to get over him. He moved away and I transferred for junior year to another high school but we still kept in touch. I always looked up to him as a nice guy and always told him he’ll find a good woman someday. We used to do this 4-way on the phone with this friend and his girl.  The friend (“P”) is in one of the northern states.

Fast forward to now, I’m now 27 and I was jogging and he called. I answered and he was doing a 3-way with P. P has moved to FL. After the convo he says if he can give P my number, I’m hesitant but I say okay, seeing it would be awkward to say no while the guy is on the line. P text me about how’s I’ve been and how I look like now. I wasn’t too sure where he was going but we exchanged a few text and that’s it.

So a few days later, F calls me and tells me, “P was asking me if he had a chance to hook up with you, I told him take his chances.” I felt so disrespected. 1. Lack of respect for me because I never told him I’m searching for someone to hook up with and 2. I had a bf and I felt he was so disrespectful to him and my relationship. I definitely didn’t hold back she gave him a piece of my mind and told him that we are no longer friends.

Now he constantly calls and when I finally picked up, he said I’m in the wrong because he apologized. I’ll never get over it and I’m not even a little bit  interested in being friends with him again.

Reddit wise ones, AITA? ######

Response: NTA it's clear he never saw you as friend only as girl to hook up his friends with. ######


Prompt:
First some back story... my sister and I have never been close. I’m a bit older than her but because of life I still love at home with our parents and 2 years ago she moved to the other side of the country with her bf. Because we were never close and now she lives so far are basically just acquaintances at this point. When she does text me most the time she’s being snobby and the few times she’s been home we’ve gotten in huge fights because of her toxic behavior.

Recently I’ve over heard convos she’s had with my mom and she is planning her wedding (she’s not engaged yet but has said they are looking at places and he will propose soon but knowing my sister she is the one pushing the want to get married soon). One of the times they were FaceTime she saw me in the background and told me “One of the dates I’m looking at is your birthday”. Every year since I turned 18 I’ve gone on vacation for my birthday she obviously knows this so I told her “if you do I might not be able to come”. She got mad and my mother told me I’m being selfish and even if she plans her wedding on my birthday I better come. It became a huge fight and she doesn’t even have a date set yet.

Also about my vacation... it is the one time of year I get away. I work 32-40 hours a week on top of taking care of my grandparents. Taking them to the doctor, taking them shopping... etc. and where my sister lives isn’t a place I’d want to vacation.
So am I the asshole for telling her that/ would I be the asshole if it is on my birthday and I don’t go? ######

Response: NTA it would be petty, deliberate and inconsiderate for her to choose your birthday as her wedding date. That just guarantees that her future anniversaries will take attention away from your bday, as well as the big day causing problems for you this year. What an AH move. ######


Prompt:
So a few months ago my Gf had to get a skin lesion cut out. Just removing an infection about the size of a dime then stitching it back up. She asked me about a week before if I would go with her. I told her I don’t think so because I had just started my last semester of college and had class at the time. She said okay, but a few days later made me feel bad for not volunteering to go with her, so I made arrangements to skip class.
Till this day she still shames me for being selfish saying that the fact that I initially didn’t want to skip class is a reflection of my bad character.
AITA ?? ######

Response: NTA it was a very minor operation, and she really shouldn’t be guilting you over this AT ALL. ######


Prompt:
My husband surprised me with a Switch Lite and Animal Crossing. My 11 year old wants to play it also. So I told him I will share it. The first time I played it he hovered over me repeating could he play it. My husband told me to just let him play.
So I did. He has been playing it for the last three days. I asked for it and he said he is busy trying to earn bells. My husband told me to let him play it because he is deep in the game and act like an adult. So I asked my husband to buy him his own game. He said one is enough. He said I can play when he is done and stop being sad over a kids game. Am I the asshole for being sad and mad about not play a silly game ######

Response:
 NTA it was a gift for you not your child

However the way you've told the story makes it sound like you are both the children asking dad for time on the game. You are the parent and you need to explain to your child that the game is not his, and set reasonable time restrictions ######


Prompt:
I (29f) am pregnant with my first child and due to give birth in November. My BIL and his fiancée have planned to have a wedding during this time (roughly 2 weeks after my due date) and I’m super excited for them!

However they have huge plans in place, with over 100 guests. The argument started when each family member was assigned a certain wedding task. Mine was to ensure the guests walked out with their ‘thank-you’ gifts (which is to be segregated by age & gender). This would involve initiating small talks and bidding adieus to guests, coordinating with the gifting committee etc. I said that there is no way I would be able to do this after giving birth only 2 weeks earlier and this sounded ridiculous. I offered to do the excel work- sorting names, addresses and gifts but this idea was also shot down. In a short while, the argument took another direction and my in-laws went off saying that I’m being an impossible woman and exaggerating my pregnancy woes and that there are thousands of women who give birth everyday and go to work right after and this is an excuse to disrespect the family. I said I won’t be attending the wedding if that’s what they think of me. Honestly, I don’t even know how my body would react 2 weeks after giving birth and I’m worried it’s all about the wedding now and not about my health or the child’s. My husband took their side too and I’ve had it with this family!

AITA for not wanting to attend this wedding although I love my BIL and his fiancée? ######

Response:
 NTA It took 4 weeks for me to make enough of a recovery to do any real tasks other than look after our daughter. It took 6 months to make a full recovery.
I was out of hospital 12 hours after she was born and made the stupid decision to have my family come over to see the baby 4 days later. I could hardly walk.

You may be one of the lucky ones who makes a quick recovery however I don't think you wrong here.
You will be exhausted beyond anything you've every felt before and I doubt you'll be in any condition physically or mentally to perform even this simple task.

What if like my daughter, your baby decides to hang in there (my daughter was born a week after she was due) then what?

Your husband and his family need to back off, you've offered an alternative and they dismissed you and your feelings. Seems a little self absorbed and judgemental to me. ######


Prompt:
So for context I had to wake up at damn 8 for online school which sucked ass but had to wake up. I struggled to wake up but finally got up at 7.52.

I got out of my room and went to the kitchen and got a banana quickly before the lesson. I noticed that my (37/39) parents’ door was open on the way to the kitchen but I didn’t look insude because that’s an asshole move.

Well when I had gotten the banana and was walking back I couod hear that they were banging. The creaking and heavy breathing made it 100% clear.

I know it’s a bit weird to not just igbore it but it’s also weird to have sex with the door open in the morning when everyone is waking up. I asked them ”What the fuck are you guys doing? It’s not OK to have sex with the door open when everyone is gonna walk by!” My dad told me to just mind my own business and go back to my room.

I did what he said because I was not gonna argue while they were banging so I just thought whatever. Now I’m attending the lesson while writing this. ######

Response: NTA it sucks to be a parent on occasion, and this is one of them. They should shut the door, it doesn't take that much effort ######


Prompt:
So I'm actually torn about this one. I've been dating Mae for two years, and I'm very close to proposing. She's just amazing but blended families always suck. I have a 10 year old daughter and an 8 year old son who she really makes an effort with. My son is much more receptive then my daughter. She was more effected by the divorce and both kids have been in therapy for it. I'd say for the most part my son likes Mae though he has moments of getting upset that she isn't his mom. She doesn't try to parent them, but he still lashes out sometimes and my daughter doesn't like her very much.

Anyway she put some body lotion on before bed and I guess the kids put itching powder in it. They didn't do the best job because I found the empty packet in the trash. Now it's not the end of the world. I have a little bit of an issue because I don't think it was completely done out of fun, but I asked her how she felt and what she wanted me to do. She was pretty understanding and didn't want me to punish them, but she said we should prank them back so I switched out the sunscreen and the lotion and let the kids use it the next day.

We laughed at them a little, but we weren't assholes about it. I explained that they don't get to be mad because they did the same thing to her. My son apologized. My daughter didn't, but since we pranked them back I didn't push it. Anyway I got an irate call from my ex after they went home and she said my daughter was crying and that we are "bullying" the kids. So AITA? ######

Response: NTA it sounds like your kids learned the age old lesson of what goes around comes around, and it was better than other forms of punishment you could have done. ######


Prompt:
Me (19f) and my sister (21f) haven’t gotten along since we were very young, as when she turned 11 she developed an anxiety disorder and couldn’t go to school. She refused to talk to anyone much less me. She got a therapist and started going back to school, but became rude, spoiled and downright abusive at times to my parents due to them not disciplining har as they were afraid this would trigger her anxiety. This means she is extremely messy, insists on eating in her room and not taking her plates down until they get mouldy, and would occasionally throw objects at people if she got angry.

I also have issues with her as she refused to let me see a therapist (even if they were completely different to hers) until she stopped seeing her therapist. This happened when I was around 16 when I was almost immediately diagnosed with clinical depression, and had to be hospitalised at one point. I have no way of knowing if seeing a therapist earlier would have stopped this, however I had known that mentally something was wrong before this, and it has caused feelings of resentment.

Now both me and my sister are going to College and my family want us to share an apartment that they would be willing to pay for. I refused and said that I would pay for my own apartment. My sister started calling me a selfish AH because of this, and my parents didn’t back me up.

AITA? ######

Response: NTA It sounds like you really need to get away from your sister and your parents for the sake of your mental health. I wish you all the best at university, it's a great experience, join lots of clubs and meet lots of new people, your world will expand so much. ######


Prompt:
OK, here I go. It might be long. My wife and I have been together for 15 years, married for 5, and had our first kid 4 years ago. She's pregnant with our third. Shortly after our first kid's birth, she had a burnout, and I effectively became the sole source of income for our family. She has recently made plans to return to work in a complete different career. I'm self-employed (woodworker), and so  would she (parental counseling). Now today, she tells me that with everything going on, she's thinking of home-schooling the kids. At first, I'm thinking, sure why not? She has a background in education, was a teacher, has a Master in developmental psychology. So, hey, what the hell.
Now, this is where things went awry. I asked her:
'What about your career plans?'
'Oh, I was thinking you could Monday-Wednesday, leave home early and take care of the kids from 6pm so I can take care of my clients/customers/patients (I have no idea what to call them). Then, Thursday and Friday, you'd work mornings only, and I could use those afternoons as well.'
So we got in a fight. I feel she's pressuring me into doing this her way, and leave a job I like (however physically demanding) and I make OK money with, for a dream of a perfect life she has for herself. All the while the kids are enrolled in a private Montessori school I'm paying for and am perfectly satisfied with.
I told her so. But she says success isn't only measured in hours worked. Sure, but it does pay for everything right now. And I'm afraid it won't be enough if things go her way.
So, Reddit, AITA for wanting to keep things going as they are? ######

Response:
 NTA it sounds like she wants you to give up your career or at least cut it back alot so she can both home school the kids and have a full time career herself? Am
I reading that right?

Because that’s extremely unreasonable of her. You’re willing to support her pursuing a new career path or homeschooling your children. Doing both isn’t feasible and expecting you to give up your career so she can do both isn’t fair ######


Prompt:
Sounds weird, I know. So this happened a few years ago but it gets brought up once in a while. My wife and I (28 M) were having some financial difficulties. We had a bill due and didn't have the money to pay for it. We were getting a check on the following Monday and didn't want to accrue any late fees or get a ding on our credit.

My sister (20 F) was regularly talking about having extra income, buying stuff. Basically I knew she was fine in the money department. I asked her if we could borrow $50 until Monday. It was Friday when I asked. Her response was "What's in it for me?"

I got really pissed off. I had explained to her the situation and that was her response. I told her to forget it and walked out.

Fast forward about a month. My wife and I were going to the grocery store, my sister asked if she could tag along. Yeah, sure. (We both lived in my mom's house at the time.) She said she didn't need anything, just wanted to hang out.

As we're shopping she kept seeing things she wanted and grabbing them. Pretty soon her arms were pretty full. She asked if she could put them in the shopping cart. Normally I'd have said yeah, but I was still a little pissed about the money thing so I said "Whats in it for me?".

She turned bright red and stormed off. Came back with her own cart and refused to talk to me the rest of the day.

My wife said I was being petty and an ass. I know it was petty, but I was trying to show her how it felt to have someone say that.

So AITA? ######

Response:
 NTA it must have taken a lot of courage and swallowing of pride to approach your sister to borrow money and she should have realised that, for her to respond the way she did was an asshole move.

Fast forward and you were right to bring it back up, petty maybe but must have felt good. ######


Prompt:
My parents pay for my undergraduate degree and also pay for my brother’s masters. He graduated from his undergraduate 4 years ago, and I’m finishing mine this year, I literally am just missing one more period and I finish my classes. I really want to finish my undergraduate and have my graduation with my friends.

COVID-19 has had an economic impact on my family, fortunately we have everything we need, but it has come to the point where my parents believe they cannot have us both enrolled in university, just one of us. Either way, one of us would have to pause their studies so the other can continue. He wants to continue even though he’s not close to finishing his studies yet and he already has his undergraduate degree. I want to continue because I’m so close to finishing, i just have one more period to go and I’m done.

So, am I the asshole?? ######

Response: NTA it makes way more sense for you to finish your Bachelor’s next semester while he works, and then switch off after you graduate. ######


Prompt: Hello all, first time poster. Today (well, yesterday 33 minutes ago) was my 29th birthday and my girlfriend of 4 years raised a point I honestly hadn't considered until now. When I was 3, my mother and father divorced and split custody until I was 18, with them both being remarried when I was in 3rd and 5th grade respectively. My dad has since passed on (2010) at 58 and my stepmother remarried again, so my mother and stepfather are the extent of my family (no siblings, distant extended family, all grandparents deceased). Anyhow, when I was 8, my mother and stepfather got remarried and I treated the whole process as normal until I actually started developing a little emotional intelligence and had someone who I trust ask how I felt about it. As a kid and young adult, I was very much a people pleaser and more or less assumed it was just something it was my responsibility to accept. As an adult of 29, it was a little irritating to see my stepfather post endless pictures of his anniversary celebration and I haven't heard from him yet. I know I shouldn't care but it's particularly irritating because I make a point of calling him on his birthday AND father's day every year, in contrast to several years where his own kids from his previous marriage (3, early 40s to late 30s) forgot. Anyhow, I appreciate any input as I process this for the first time in my life. ######

Response: NTA it is weird af to choose your child’s birthday to remarry... what is wrong with the other 364 days in the year? ######


Prompt:
I live by a strict...rule(?) of confidentiality. You tell me something and tell me not to tell anyone I will take it to my grave. I expect the same thing back in any of my relationships with people. Obviously its discussed and the trust is built and what not. If I hear back something I have shared with you from someone else, I don't care how long we've been friends. I'll drop you as a friend. I'm loving, caring, and supporting to my friends, heck to random strangers on the internet on a daily. But that's the one thing that matters more to me than anything. I'm an over sharer, and I excitedly tell people things about myself, often followed by a want of things to be kept between us. I'm told this comes to get me quite often, but it's only to those I truly feel like I can tell.

As you might've assumed I no longer want to be friends with a close friend of mine, and my family isn't supportive of it because their "so good for me" and I "would be crazy" and a  "asshole to let go of the friendship". The person told three other people of a big secret I was so scared to tell them, I don't understand why and when asked they said they didnt either. It just doesn't quite make sense to me to continue the friendship, if you could easily slip something like that without feeling bad then I shouldn't feel bad about removing you from my life. My family wants me to rekindle this, but I can't. A secret like that is purposely told. It doesn't slip out of your mouth.

Personally I don't think I'm an asshole at all, reddit? ######

Response: NTA It is totally up to you who you're friends with. In the future though, it'd probably be good to change from following secrets with an "oh keep that secret please" to beginning with "can I tell you something in confidence?" Just, give people an out to say they don't want to hold your secrets and you'll save everybody some heartbreak ######


Prompt:
I’ve been with my girlfriend coming up to 1 year now. Her best friend has been having a 3 month affair with a married man. She knows he is married.

She found out she was pregnant a month back and he has completely disappeared into thin air. He has blocked or deleted her from tinder and she never got his real name (they both went by aliases) and now she is desperately searching for him on Facebook but nothing even in the ballpark has come up.

The guy offered her abortion money and offered to go with her. She refused because she has a 3 y/o and she wants a sibling for her baby.

I can’t say I didn’t see him disappearing. He’s a piece of shit coward for having an affair in the first place and so of course he’s gonna abscond from a pregnancy from his side chick too. From my perspective it’s fairly obvious he was using my girlfriends friend and she should have either known that or have been prepared to deal with the consequences.

My girlfriend is very worried about her friend and keeps talking to me about it and asking what I think even though I’ve made it clear I don’t approve of either of their trashy behavior. I told her ‘well what did she expect?’ She keeps asking me if I think ‘as a man’ is it possible he will come back. I said hell no. Sometimes especially within the context of a couple talking let’s be frank we won’t always be politically correct.

She flipped her shit and said that my attitude towards her pregnant friend is misogynistic and I’m being heartless. I don’t think I am and I feel I’m allowed to have an obvious opinion such as that. ######

Response: NTA it doesn't take a man to see that he's not coming back. What did she expect him to do? Leave his partner for her when they didn't even tell each other their actual names? I think him offering to pay for an abortion was a clear not very subtle hint that he wants nothing to do with a child and in extension her if she has the child. ######


Prompt:
TW; some sensitive topics mentioned!

I considered, briefly not posting but decided to go ahead on a throw away.

My ex’s mother was very controlling, if she didn’t get her way then it was hell, she very often threw it in my ex’s face that he was aggressive (my ex was the calmest man you’d meet, he hated raised voices and would very frequently back down if he saw a fight oncoming)

We moved in together and this made life hell, she’d text him at the early hours drunk out of her mind and tell him nasty manipulative things, about him or his father.

When I found out I was pregnant she said the nastiest thing I could ever imagine, I guess after a while my ex believed her because we buried him not too long after.

I fully believe it was her fault.

Four weeks ago I gave birth to a beautiful baby boy.

I guess MIL figured it was around my due date since I haven’t posted anything so she couldn’t have found anything out over social media.

She tells me she’s back on her meds and she broke down sobbing, in the almost 10 years I knew my ex we’ve never seen that woman cry, she asked to at least know the babies name and gender - I refused, told her to ask her son for our babies name and hung up.

I told my mother who claims I was overly harsh and she can’t believe I’d say something like that to someone who is mentally unwell and that it’s just spiteful to not do the bare minimum.

My ex would’ve backed down, so I don’t know what he would’ve wanted.

AITA? ######

Response: NTA It doesn't sound like she's safe for you to be around & I don't think you should communicate with her at all. From the sound of it you feel like her abuse drove him to his grave & that's more than enough reason to cut ties. ######


Prompt:
My sister and I are both staying with our mother, because she’s very sick and needs help, and we both want to be there with her before she passes. We’ve both been here about a month now. My husband and I are here with our daughter and she is here alone.

We’ve been watching a movie every night for the past week or so. Last night we watched John Wick, I guess spoilers if you haven’t seen it. My husband cried a little during the part when they kill his dog, not like full out sobbing, just a little bit. Afterwards he told me it was because he was thinking about living without me, which I thought was really sweet. Anyway, after the movie my husband put our daughter to bed, and did something else. My sister and I were just talking and she made a comment where she said something like: I can’t believe you married that baby. I was pretty annoyed at the comment but gave her the benefit of the doubt and asked what she meant.

She pointed out that he was crying at the beginning of the movie. I asked why that meant he’s a baby and she said crying at a movie, especially when it’s not even sad is childish. I told her that I didn’t appreciate comments like that, and she basically blew me off and said it was a joke.

I didn’t talk to her much today, and she finally around 4 said she was sorry in the most unapologetic, sarcastic tone. I acknowledged it but then skipped the movie tonight. She then told me that I’m overreacting and it was a one joke and to calm down. That we should be friendly with each other before our mom dies. I think that if she wants to be friendly she should apologize for real. AITA? ######

Response:
 NTA is she even a human being??? That puppy scene fucking wrecked me, is she joking with "not even sad"? What does she consider sad!?? I shudder to think. Your husband is 100% correct in his reaction to this scenario.

Side note though, even if his emotional reaction to a movie was any of her business, she was rude to comment on it and demean him in such a way. Men are allowed to express emotions other than anger now and again. She can take several seats. I wouldn't necessarily hold out for a sincere apology, as that seems unlikely, but you're not wrong here. ######


Prompt:
My [18M] close friend [18F] is someone I have always found attractive (in addition to being fun to hangout with). I didn't think I had a chance with her and didn't want to ruin the friendship so I hadn't made any moves.

She sent me a picture of herself completely naked on snapchat captioned "I want you". I was stunned and super excited. I took a picture of myself naked. After the picture was taken but before I sent it, I saw she had sent another message to me. I sent the picture before reading the message.

The message said " Omg that was obviously meant for the girl I've been talking to". She then opened my picture. She then called me a pervert saying she didn't want to see that. She said its disrespectful. I explained I thought she wanted me but she said that picture was obviously not meant for me. Now she is mad and is "taking a step back" from the friendship. ######

Response: NTA in this case. You didn't know that it wasn't for you. I mean apparently if she does it it's an oopsie, but if you do it it's disrespectful? It was a mistake both times. ######


Prompt: I recently saw a post on fb about a friend who made a face mask that said “I can’t breathe” and her caption said “I love making these they’re so much fun” AITA for wanting to say something? She gets upset if ppl try to copyright her for some stickers she does but she makes bootleg clothes and now “I can’t breathe” masks in all honesty I wouldn’t profit off a movement or someone’s dying words. If I were to make these I would donate them to protestors. Should I just leave it or be the asshole and say something ######

Response:
 NTA in this case. Making things in support of a movement and selling it isn’t always an issue, but holy hell, those masks are in *very* questionable taste.

Putting “I can’t breathe” on a mask seems to be a joke for people complaining about wearing masks, which is a very childish thing to use someones dying words for. ######


Prompt:
My mother was no saint. She had her demons like the rest of us but hers put up more of a fight. In her previous marriage she went through a bad drug addiction and did a lot of damage to her ex husband and their kids, Duncan (36M) and John (34M), who were still teenagers at the time.

Long story short she ran off with another addict (my father) and had me. Wasn't an easy childhood but soon enough my mother picked herself up again and started working on being better. When I was 9, she finally built up the strength to leave my and take me with her. We were broke and homeless so she went to ask Duncan and John for help. I remember her going on her knees asking Duncan to take us in and John throwing us out. Calling her a slut and an addict. That night we slept in the streets but still my mother tried another three times to reconcile and mend things but they never cared.

Last year my mother got a heart attack and almost died. She was diagnosed with CAD. I messaged my *brothers* about her condition. Their response? "We're not giving you any money. Stop contacting us". Well she died earlier this year from after a period of rapid heart attacks. I told myself fuck them and I buried my mother at an intimate gathering with her close friends and my wife.

Recently my wife had been asking me to send them a letter so they at least know she's no longer with us. So I did. Well now the both of them have completely lost their shit sending me dozens of messages about how fucked up I am from keeping their mother's death from them and sending threats about how they're going to take 'legal action' against me so I should be prepared. My wife says she wouldn't go as far as calling me an asshole but I probably should have told them sooner. So AITA? ######

Response:
 NTA in the least. The last time you contacted them about her health they said,
> "We're not giving you any money. Stop contacting us"

Block them and bid good riddance. I understand they have a completely different history with her than what yours was, but you don't deserve the abuse. ######


Prompt:
Throwaway and title sounds bad.

This was last year

I have a 25 year old adult daughter who got pregnant and decided to keep the child. I told her to get an abortion. I am my daughters father.  On Christmas last year my daughter called me and told her I have to adopt her child as she can't take care of it because of college.  I told her no I don't want to adopt a child and have another 18 years of my life wasted.

My daughter became angry at me for not caring about my grand children. I told her I won't sacrifice my lifestyle because of her mistake. I then told her she can deal with the consequence of having the child herself. My daughter told me she won't talk to me unless I adopt her kid. It's been over a year now and my daughter has not talked to me. So now I am wondering if I am an asshole.

So aita for refusing to adopt my daughter's bio kid because it would sacrifice my new life style ######

Response: NTA in regards to not adopting the child but Jesus Christ you are for the way you talk to and about your daughter. ######


Prompt:
##### First of all, I really don't want to offend or disrespect anyone with this question. English isn't my first language so really doing my best here.

###### Long story short:
I'm 25 years old, I was born in China and adopted by white Canadian parents when I was 7 months old. I've been living in a big city since then. My origins and my adoption have never tormented me, and to be honest, I sometimes forget that I am not Caucasian like most of my friends.

###### The situation:
People often make comments related to my origins. When the comments are disrespectful, I will react. But most of the times, I have the impression that there is no bad intention, just a lack of education. 3 very common examples:

> Clients that I've exchanged many emails with (they know my very "Canadian" name) and talked over the phone who see me physically for the first time will say "ah I didn't expect that" (refering to my looks vs. my very non asian name).

Or
> People who end up saying "it's impressive you don't have an accent" (wondering why I don't have a Mandarin accent).
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Or
> Other random example just so you understand how insignificant it often is: this weekend at the grocery store, a lady stopped me and asked me which was the best ramen noodles brand while I was walking in the "asian products' aisle.

I am always surprised when I get these types of comments (1-2 x a month), but my first reaction is to feel sorry for people saying that, thinking it's sad they did not get the education I had a chance to have, and that they've never been exposed to diversity and they must be stuck in a very sad world.

###### AITA for not answering these types of comments?
Should I be more offended and say something? Does my lack of intervention makes me part of the whole racism problem? ######

Response: NTA in my opinion you just seem to be extremely understanding and level headed. Most would fly off the hand but honestly in predominately white areas most are not exposed to diversity and really all it takes is a moment of education to help them understand. Those comment seem to have no malicious intent to me so it’s fine but when you sense disrespect or intentional ignorance you should take the chance to respectfully educate. It’s not your job to educate other about diversity but it can be a big help in fight against racism and ignorance. After you’ve give your 2 cents to the person it’s now on them to further educate themselves. The internet is only a click away. ######


Prompt:
So I'm typing this on the hospital and I haven't actually asked him to split the bill yet. We were at a beach earlier and he tackled my when I wasn't looking (basically a boys will be boys incident except it was totally random. I didn't instigate him. I was sober. He was drunk. He tackled me from behind so I didn't have a chance to react. Compound fracture. Surgery tomorrow.

The pain is excruciating and he texted me saying that he was sorry and if there was anything he could do then ask. I have insurance through work but there's a copay that will likely cost $3,700. AITA if I ask him to split the bill? ######

Response: NTA in my opinion asking for only half is extremely generous. He's liable for all of it surely? ######


Prompt:
I have a ten year old dog named Max. I’ve had him since he was a puppy and ever since I got him I’ve called him ‘baby’ when I talk to him. For example when I get home from work I greet him by saying “Where’s my baby?” or if he’s just been from the groomers I tell him “Look at this cute baby” and stuff like that.

Just to make it clear, it’s a term of endearment that I use when talking to him. But I don’t think that Max is equivalent to a human baby and I never thought that I was a mom just because I have him for a pet. When I tell other people about him I say “Max is a shih tzu” or “Max eats potatoes”.

Now I have a one year old daughter, Mia. I never call her ‘baby’ when I talk to her, I usually just use her name. I say “It’s time to eat, Mia” or I tell my husband “Can you get Mia’s shoes?” and not “It’s time to eat, baby” or “Can you get my baby’s shoes”. When other people ask me questions like “How is your baby?” I know that they’re referring to Mia so I tell them “Mia’s doing great”.

At a get together at our house my SIL caught me telling Max “No, baby you can’t eat that” and was horrified that I call my dog ‘baby’, saying it might confuse my actual baby. When I told her that I always call Mia by her name she got upset and said that I am basically telling Mia that I consider Max to be my child more than her and I should think about my parenting before I traumatize her.

As far as I’m concerned I’m not neglecting Mia, I’m taking care of her well and it seems over the top to jump to the conclusion that I will scar her for life just because I don’t call her ‘baby’ and I use that term to refer to Max when talking to him instead. But I know I might be biased because I do love my dog to bits.

Am I the asshole here? ######

Response: NTA in fact you could look at it completely differently. Your dog gets a pet name, because he's a pet. Your child gets her proper name, because she's a human being deserving of having her proper name used. ######


Prompt: I (25f) have recently gotten engaged to my girlfriend (24f) and both of us are very excited. We have been dating since college and have a house and have adopted a child together. We are both very excited to get married and are planning on doing so as soon a Coronavirus is over. Recently I got some messages on Facebook from my family. Now, I’m not really that close with my family as when they found out that I was a lesbian they kicked me out and pretty much disowned me. They heard that I had gotten engaged from a family friend who I am still close with and messaged me asking why I hadn’t told them about my engagement, who was the lucky man and when was the wedding. I haven’t spoken to them for 6 years so I am very shocked that they reached out to me. I messaged them back saying that I’m engaged to a woman and that they could come as long as they didn’t make a fuss about me marrying a woman. They agreed and at the time I thought the discussion was over.   Yesterday my fiancé came crying to me and showed me the messages that she’d gotten. My family had found her on the internet and had sent her hateful messages saying that she’s a whore and she’s going to hell for marrying a woman. Naturally I was furious and immediately messaged them to tell them that they had no right to treat her in that way and that they should get their heads out of their asses and understand that I have every right to marry who I want to. The responses that I got to this were horrible and both me and my fiancé are very upset. I responded to them saying that they’re banned from the wedding until they start treating my fiancé with some respect. I got messages of my aunts and cousins saying that I’m being to harsh here and that I just need to suck it up. All my friends are in agreement with my cousins. AITA here? ######

Response:
 NTA in any way. You were kind enough to invite them after what they did when they first found out you were lesbian. They’re T/As because they:
1) assumed you were marrying a man, even though you had already been out as lesbian
2) agreed to not say hateful shit, then turned around and did it. ######


Prompt:
This happened last November when we went somewhere very cold and dry for a vacation. It was supposed to be kept a secret but since my brother spilled the beans my mother is now angry at me.

We lived in humid tropical climate so this new environment had our skin having "scales" due to the dryness in the air. That was not the worst, the worst was having our lips dry and chapped so bad that drinking water hurts.

I realized somewhere that applying lip balm helps a lot, brought a small tube of it for the trip. I applied it on my brother's lips after feeling its effects, with his permission ofcourse.

My mother wiped it off him after seeing me applying it for him, saying that boys shouldn't apply anything on his lips, and that he should drink more water instead.

Well, I still applied lip balm on him after that, in secret, after telling him not to tell. He agreed to it because he likes its effect too, since chapped lips were really painful.

We kind of brought this up earlier over some casual conversation and my dear brother probably felt that after such a long time passed, it was okay to tell. Despite being history already, my mother still got angry and said that I shouldn't have challenge her authority like that.

All I know was that the lip balm helped my brother's lips from hurting, isn't it all that matters? Plus it was not like my mother actually noticed that I applied it for him, so AITA? ######

Response: NTA in any way- your mum literally asked you not to do something that helped your brother ease his pain she's clearly the asshole, especially considering her reason for such was based on sexism and absolutely stupid. You may have questioned her authority but she proved that her authority was questionable ######


Prompt:
(Reposted and edited due to previous issues)

Yesterday, while I (19F) was on a walk with my little brother (10M) and I told him that he has ADHD. My parents got him diagnosed last year and while they have been making efforts to help succeed in school, they get mad at him for exhibiting textbook symptoms of ADHD. I moved away for college last fall and haven't seen the full scope of things, but since I've moved back home, my parents have been yelling at my brother for not being able to finish tasks, calling him stupid, and grounding him for weeks over trivial issues. I talked to my brother about it and he's told me that while I'm away the yelling is more frequent. I decided that I would give him an explanation behind what was going on, mainly because I feel like he deserves to know, and it would explain things to him, rather that keep him thinking that "mom and dad hate me and I don't know why". I explained to him that having ADHD doesn't make you a bad person, it just makes your thinking process a bit different.

Fast forward to today,  and while I was out on a walk, my brother confided  to our parents about what  we talked about on our walk yesterday. My dad told me that I was selfish for telling him and undermining their parenting and yelled at me for half an hour, and my mom won't come out of her room to even talk to me. So AITA?

TLDR; I told my brother that he has ADHD after my parents have been mistreating him because of his symptoms. ######

Response: NTA in any shape, way, or form. What on God’s green Earth is wrong with your parents? Why did they even bother having him tested if they didn’t want to accept the apparently very obvious fact that he has ADHD? ######


Prompt:
I’m 25 and have been with my SO for 2 years. I knew she was into polyamory before we started dating but agreed to be monogamous while in the relationship.

Occasionally my SO would ask me what I thought about being poly and I told her I support other people doing it but wasn’t into the idea for us. One month ago she said how it bothered her that we were monogamous and that her being poly is “just who she was.” Eventually I agreed that we could try it in the future.

Before this, she made a new friend and spent a lot of time together. Hanging out at each other’s house and talking and texting on the phone for hours. At first I was happy that she was making a friend not putting 2 and 2 together but last week she revealed that she had feelings for him and vice versa.

I know I agreed to being polyamorous but I can’t help but to feel loss. I feel like my self-defense mechanisms are going to make me stop loving her to deal with the pain of imagining her being embraced by someone else. I was also thinking that if we broke up now we could at least have our memories and be in good terms instead of developing pent up resentment and eventual hatred for an ex. If I could just press a button to be okay with all of this I would. Am I the asshole? ######

Response: NTA in a relationship you shouldn't feel pressured to be something that you aren't, the whole thing with being Poly (I may be wrong) is that everyone in the relationship is comfortable with it. If you aren't comfortable with it and she knows that, she shouldn't be pressuring you into being something that you are not. ######


Prompt:
Little back story here. 8 months ago my wife asked if her sister could come stay with us for a week or two. I  agreed. Now 8 months later after asking my wife several times When is she leaving? Today was the day.
She does not work, her daughter eats all of my children's food and she never stops crying. I know this was important to my wife and she is furious with me. Am I the asshole for not wanting to support someone else and their child?

Edit: more info.

She enrolled her daughter in school after changing her address to my home with out my knowledge. She does help around the house but there is no financial help. I did consult with my wife before acting. Unfortunately  my requests seem to fall on deaf ears...

She will not be homeless she has a place to go. ######

Response:
 NTA IMHO, a "week or two" guest is always on the verge of being told to GTFO.

And honestly, she should have left LONG before this. I'm not sure why you and your wife put up with this, but I'm also not sure why this woman thought staying 8 months, not working, etc. with her and her child being supported by you in your home was in any way appropriate without a sit down with you requesting permission to do so and offering rent, grocery money, etc. ######


Prompt:
My roommate works late night shifts, so she often sleeps during the day. Me, I am doing online classes, but for various reasons my schedule tends to be unpredictable - sometimes I'm nocturnal, sometimes I'm not. This is well known.

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My roommate's boyfriend likes to come over while she's sleeping and cuddle with her while she's asleep. She knows it, she's fine with it, it's happened before. She thinks it's romantic.

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Usually, I don't care one way or the other what they do. But the one thing I requested was some warning before he comes over. I've let him in while she's sleeping before, but that's when he texts me first to say he's coming and gives me time to at least make sure I have pants on.

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A few minutes ago, the buzzer went off. I ignored it because we don't usually let people in without notice and the people down the hall tend to have parties where they ring the wrong door anyway. I didn't realize it was the boyfriend until he starts trying to call me on messenger. I didn't answer, because I'm "asleep." So he keeps buzzing, which is setting the dog off, which is going to wake my roommate, which I think is pretty fucking thoughtless of him since she works at night.

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I \*could\* have gone to open the door anyway, as it's not his fault my schedule is erratic and I don't wear many clothes in my own room. I could have done it just so she wouldn't be woken up. But all I asked for was warning and I didn't get any warning.

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AITA for not letting him in? ######

Response: NTA if your roommates bf wants to come over your roommate can wake up and let him in. ######


Prompt:
Recently I have been playing a well known mobile game that, among many other things, allows you to befriend other characters in the game and even marry one of them. This game is played entirely offline - i.e. these are not other people or players that you interact with, just non-playable characters within the game.

Well, when I mentioned this to my spouse, they were quite upset about it - think yelling at me, threatening to take my phone away from me if I continue to play it, telling me that I "should have known" that this would upset them (I did not know this, I swear!), etc. No matter how I tried to explain that it's just a game, it's a non-playable character (not another online player), etc., they were quite adamant - I am not to be playing this game anymore.

The thing is... this game is quite relaxing, as it allows a lot of freedom in what you can do - farming, exploring forests, caves, deserts, and other environments, fishing, etc. With everything that's going on in the world right now, it's nice to have a quiet little game that I can spend a little while playing on my own sometimes. And I should add that it's not like I'm ignoring my spouse to play this game (we spend lots of time together), or playing it to excess (I play it exclusively during downtime like when I'm putting the kids to bed, waiting in a long line, or finishing my coffee when I'm the first one up in the morning).

So I'm still playing the game during those times, but just not telling them about it. AITA? ######

Response: NTA if your husband is jealous of a NPC character in a video game he needs help that's overly controlling and insane. ######


Prompt:
My fiancé’s dad provided for the majority of his life: house, clothes, condo, school, everything he needed. That being said, he was a horrible father. He would beat and abuse my fiancé and restrict him of a lot of freedom growing up. Once he made my fiancé sleep outside their house as a punishment and in turn he got the flu and had to be hospitalized. He even invalidated our relationship for a long time saying that “it will pass and you’ll regret ever getting married.”

Having heard all the stories and witnessed how uncomfortable my fiancé is whenever he’s around his dad, I decided to not invite him to our wedding (with the approval of my fiancé of course.)

As we were setting up the guest list, his mom noticed his dad isn’t there. I didn’t think this would matter because they’ve been separated for a while due to him cheating and housing a “sugar baby” in a condo for years. I thought she’d rather him not be there too, but apparently not because she told me that he’s family and that he should be at his son’s wedding.

She told this to her sisters and they all agreed that my fiancé’s father should be able to see him get married after “raising him to be the man that he is.” That it’s the least we can do for him seeing as he paid for my fiancé’s entire life until he became independent.

They knew this was my initial decision because my fiancé wouldn’t be brave enough to do it so they’re now calling me selfish and not recognizing my reasons for not inviting him. I don’t owe him anything, he will just make my fiancé feel terrible the whole time, and it’s OUR day. But I’m starting to see their point so IDK if I’m an asshole here or what.

AITA? ######

Response:
 NTA if your fiance doesn't want him there then that's the end if it!

From what you've said this man was abusive to finance growing up, he was not supportive of your relationship and is an all round A hole.

Who cares what your MIL thinks? It's not her wedding and you're doing the right thing in ensuring that only the family you and your fiance love and care about attend. ######


Prompt:
I’m getting married next year. My fiancé and I were chatting about the wedding, and he asked me who my bridesmaids are going to be. So I list them off, and he just stares at me. So I ask what’s the matter and he says “well what about L(his sister)?” And I told him that she wasn’t going to be one. He gets PISSED. And he’s like “well if so and so can be a bridesmaid then L should be too! She’s going to cause a scene if she’s not one!”

Let me give you guys some background. I met this girl maybe a month after my fiancé and I started dating. She’s studying to be a cosmetologist so I was being friendly and offered to let her do my hair and she was so excited. And so she and I are sitting in a room and she’s doing my hair and she goes “it’s crazy that you guys have been together for a month, because there’s been like 10 other girls that come to the house at night, so I figured you guys weren’t serious”. So I’m thinking this girl has no reason to lie to me, and I’m cool with his brother so I ask him. He says that it’s not true and L will lie about anything to stir up some drama. Since that night that girl has lied to me about stuff from crazy nights she’s had to being the one who found my dead cousin (yeah, she’s kinda horrible). But not only is she a liar, but a theif! She steals my stuff all the time and claims that she just found it, which my fiancé believes. And the biggest thing, is she puts me down at every opportunity. She tells me that I look stupid in my new clothes or my haircut is ugly, or my makeup is shitty. Just constantly putting me down. And that’s not the energy I want around me on my big day!

I love her to death bc at the end of the day she’s my sister now. But I don’t trust her, and I don’t like her. But my fiancé is furious that his cousins can be bridesmaids but not his sister. AITA? ######

Response: NTA If your fiancé really wants her as part of the bridal party then she can stand up with him as his best woman, there’s no law that says you have to have your future in-laws in your wedding party, the same as there’s no rule about having the opposite sex in the bridal party and it’s acceptable and accepted that a male may have a female in his best woman, then same as its acceptable to have a male in a bridal party. ######


Prompt:
I work in a supply warehouse and was given the option to buy medical grade masks for personal use. The only restriction is that we were only allowed to buy 1 mask per person living in the same house as you.
I live with my parents, so that meant that I could buy 3 masks. I gave one mask to my dad (who is 65 years old, diabetic and still working full time) one mask to my sister (who works part time buying groceries/picking up prescriptions and provides household assistance for the elderly. She also has an asthmatic son and a diabetic daughter) and kept one mask for myself because I am working full time and have been the person going grocery shopping for our household.

When my mom found out that I didn't have a mask for her, she blew up. Yelling at me for being selfish because I didn't get her a mask. I explained about the limit on how many masks I could buy, and reasoned that since she was laid off and hadn't left the house in 3 weeks, she didn't need a mask. Also I would be able to purchase 3 more masks in 2 weeks, so I would be able to buy her one then.

My dad has sided with my mom, and said that since the limit was for each member of the household, then I shouldn't have given my mom's mask to my sister. ######

Response: NTA if your father is siding with your mother then he should give his to her if anything. Dont feel guilty you did what you could with a shitty situation. ######


Prompt:
So I (F20) currently share an apartment with my brother (M21). My boyfriend (M26) has been staying with me during the pandemic. I've had an apartment with my brother for two years and I'll be moving out in a few days. Over the course of the two years we've lived together, my parents have come up many times and have stayed the night. This wouldn't really bother me if they ever bothered to talk to me about it first. They always discuss coming over with my brother and I'll get told a few days before they arrive if I'm lucky (there have been multiple times I've figured out because my dad has called me telling me to get ready to pack their stuff up to my third floor apartment). At one point I had to start threatening to lock them out for hours until my brother came home to even get told a few days in advance again.
Now my boyfriend tries to get along with my family. Early on my parents decided they didn't like him based on my brother deciding he's "off-putting" before having a conversation with him. My brother had decided that because my boyfriend is the awkward quiet type and he's not usually very confident.
So everytime my parents come over, they expect my boyfriend to go somewhere else (which has caused a lot of unnecessary spending on hotels). Today, my brother and my parents decided they'd be coming up tomorrow and spending a few nights at my apartment and my brother told me that my boyfriend needs to find somewhere to stay while they're up here.
It should be noted that my boyfriend has never spent the night around my family and he wasn't very against staying time at hotels so he didn't have to listen to my dad tell us that he essentially can control what goes on in my apartment as my guarantor (I checked the lease and the law and he has 0 rights). But we don't want to spend more money than we have to since we're trying to start a life together.
So, Reddit, WIBTA if I ignored my family and decided to keep my boyfriend with me at my apartment? ######

Response: NTA If your bf lives there with you, it's super rude for them to expect him to go rent a hotel last minute for the duration of their stay. If it were me, I'd either insist the bf stay or if he wasn't comfortable with that, I'd go stay with him at the hotel and not visit with the parent while they're there. They need to learn to not be so entitled in your apartment. And not be such a dick to your bf ######


Prompt:
So maybe I needn't have been so direct, but we have a really old fence that has significantly misaligned slats. While it's mostly never a problem and they think some bushes near these gaps give them some privacy, I've noticed that if I sit at the far end of my patio, I can not only see comfortably into their backyard, but on one occasion caught an ample glance of his wife tanning nude by their pool. Granted, it's not terrible, but I still felt like they ought to know.

His response? He told me to stop perving on his wife and mind my own business. Now I regret telling him and my wife tells me I should've let her tell his wife. AITA here? I'm just trying to inform them of something that costs them more than it does to us. ######

Response:
 NTA if you're telling them as a courtesy. I get the feeling a few people might reply here and say 'then just don't look' but that's missing the point.

Well, you told them which was good, nothing more you can do now except cover your side of the fence so you can't see them as much. Maybe they're okay with not having a ton of privacy ######


Prompt:
 Last night I (24) did chores for my boyfriend (30). He was cleaning out pens and told me to leave when I was done with chores;after I finished I helped him move a feeder and said goodbye. He told me that he was going to come back to the apartment once he was done.

I woke up at 5 am and he wasn’t back yet. I texted me asking where he was and he said that was just got out of the ER. He flipped over the skid-steer. I first asked him if he was okay and than asked why he didn’t call or text me, or even his mother, and he said because I was sleeping.

I went to do chores at 5:30 and him and his mom just got back. He said I was making a big deal over him not letting me know about going to the ER. I said a simple “hey this happened but I am fine. I’ll call you when I leave” but I didn’t get anything.

Am I the asshole of being upset? Keep in mind he posted a Snapchat story about being in the ER before he told me. ######

Response: NTA If you're in a relationship,  you tell your partner when you go to the hospital. ######


Prompt:
My gf moved in with me shortly after the pandemic began for financial reasons mostly

She hates that i let my 2 rabbits free roam my house. She’s a neat freak and she hates the hair, hay, and the fact they occasionally drop a turd out of their litter box (which is picked up by my automated vaccuum quickly)

AITA for wanting them to continue to live their lives as is and not forcing them to give up their freedoms because my gf can’t handle what amounts to a RARE tiny rabbit pellet, some hay near their litter box, and their hair. It is my house afterall. ######

Response: NTA if you put them in a cage now they'll go crazy. I have an outdoor freeroamer and if she has to be put away for safety reasons, she'll immediately try to escape ######


Prompt: So back in March when schools moved to online, my neighbor (who’s very old fashioned) asked me for my wifi password so her middle school daughter could use it for her schoolwork. She told me she was on a waiting list for charter spectrum and they would get it set up in April. She offered to pay me for the time being, which I declined. Fast forward to July, I figured the daughter doesn’t need it for school anymore since it’s summer and I was experiencing slower speeds. I decided to change the password. That night the mom “randomly” comes over with a gift card and asked if it is ok to still be on the WiFi. I asked her if her daughter already started school again or was taking summer classes and she dodged the question a few times. We ended the conversation pretty awkwardly and I’m not sure what to do now. ######

Response: NTA if you pay for it, and its slowing your internet down, you have every right to preserve what you pay for ######


Prompt:
My neighbors have an active 2 year old who is outside constantly. They often supervise him but he runs away pretty fast and sometimes evade their views. He is constantly playing on my front porch and flower bed. Moving my rocks and flower bed coverings etc. They sometimes catch him quickly enough and move him away but sometimes they also just let him continue playing there.  I feel petty because it sounds like not a big deal but there are 3 issues that I have with this.

1) I have a motion doorbell so when he plays in my porch area, it goes off on my alerts constantly. Yes I can turn off the notifications but then I wouldn’t get notifications for when I actually have visitor which is what it’s there for.

2) it riles my dog up like crazy so him to see a little toddler outside playing so close. So my dog ends up barking like crazy for the duration of his play

3) I have a fairly large window well to the basement window which is about 2.5-3ft deep. It is completely uncovered and fully open in the flower bed.

This is my biggest concern that the kid will run into the flower bed and fall in the window well. Now I have no kids and I don’t want to put a grate on it bc it obstructs my view in the basement. And in general, no adults would step in there but since this kid keeps playing in there, I’m worried that I’m liable for any injuries!

So today, he was playing with in the flower bed again with his caregiver watching. I went up to my front window to gesture like what are you doing?? And the caregiver pulled the kid away while looking disgusted at me. Reddit: AITA here?? ######

Response: NTA if you haven't already, warn them about the danger of the kid falling into the window well. Let them know you have them on camera. Like someone already suggested, tell them you see cats using the flower bed as a litter box. That should work as a good deterrent. ######


Prompt:
I just moved to my current apartment about six months ago. It comes with its own covered parking behind the apartments which are all clearly labeled and it's common knowledge that covered parking at apartments is usually reserved.

To be honest, I hadn't used the reserved covered parking for the first two or three months because there are a lot of one way roads and I didn't have the time to try and find my way. Eventually I figured it out and started using my spot. Someone parked there once about two weeks after I started using it so I put a note that said "Please don't park here again. It's reserved." I was able to find other parking and that was it. Lately, though, it's happening more often. I leave a friendly note and go about my day.

Today, I'm pissed. I come home and my spot is taken again. I leave a note saying, "Please don't park here. Covered parking is reserved." My neighborhood is SO congested that there is almost literally nowhere else to legally park. Plus, I pay a stupid amount in rent so I should be able to have my own freaking spot. I grab my dog and we take off to the dog park for about two hours. I come back and the car is still there. The note isn't in the same spot so I know someone read it.

I've emailed my landlord about it and they just brushed it off saying "We're put of the office at 5. There's nothing we can do" but there are signs saying reserved parking your car will be towed.

So, my question. Would I be the asshole if I called to have the person towed who keeps parking in my spot? ######

Response: NTA if you get it towed.  Is it always the same car, or is it different offenders?  Either way, the fact that they read the note and didn't correct the behaviour is way more justification than you actually need.  Tow away to your heart's content. ######


Prompt:
Pretty simple story.

So, we ordered from Dominos for lunch. She said she just wanted those breadstick and wings. I confirmed if that was all she wanted a couple times.

When the pizza came, she asked for a slice. I refused. She already ate probably around 12 wings, and 2 bread sticks. She also specifically said that she didn’t want pizza. She can’t have her cake and eat it too, or I guess eat her cake and have it too!

So, AITA? ######

Response:
 NTA if you dont want pizza you arent getting pizza. Some of these replies dont make any sense. They basically want you to be some mind reader and do the opposite of what she says. If anyone thinks the GFs way of communicating is mature and reasonable you should rethink things.

Be an adult and use your words to say what you mean so there is no miscommunication. ######


Prompt:
My fiancé (32M) has guardianship of his 13 year old sister. When we get married, we plan for me to have guardianship of her as well. I live with them and parent her for all intents and purposes. I check homework, take her to school (or right now, make sure she’s doing online schooling), make the two of them meals, do her laundry, talk to her about things, etc. Her mom died when she was little and she has said I’m like a mother figure to her.

Recently, we were talking about makeup and such. She brought it up. She asked me if she could get makeup. I didn’t see a big deal in it and got her some neutral lip glosses, lipsticks and mascaras. It was nothing wild and all went with her skin tones. I taught her how to apply it and she seemed to be happy with it.

My fiancé, however, is not happy. He says this wasn’t my choice to make and I should’ve asked him first. I’ve bought stuff for her in the past without asking him and it’s never been an issue. He’s had me deal with “girl stuff” when it comes to her, such as taking her bra and regular clothes shopping, dealing with her first period, etc. I didn’t think makeup would be any different. He says that he can’t tell her to not wear it now,because I already gave it to her. I said it was just lip gloss and some mascara and he was still upset. He said “he’s her guardian, it’s up to her”. To me, I’m more than just the fiancé.

Am I in the wrong here? ######

Response: NTA if you buy her bras and feminine hygiene products, buying makeup would seem to be a natural extension. ######


Prompt:
Girlfriend and I have been dating for 3 years, living together for 2, she's 20F and I'm 21F

From what I've been told she was raised in a household where it was very "waste not want not"(?) And anything that so much as touched your plate got ate, no matter how full you are.

My girlfriend lives by that, she physically can't help it, I once watched her eat an entire plate of food, despite saying she was full less than half way and then be sick and continue to eat because she didnt want food wasted.

She has been getting counselling for the last 3-4 months but progress takes time.

Her mother recently came to visit us, we told her the issue and what we're doing is very small plates.

So, she insists on cooking and dishing up and every time it's been huge plates.

Her argument is that my girlfriend is an adult, obviously true, but she can't help it.

We've talked and argued several times.

I had enough and asked her to leave, she left after arguing about how my girlfriends an adult etc.

My girlfriend is fine with it, she never had a relationship with her mother anyway.

My mother said I was an AH and said that MIL was right, we should've set boundaries and not let her cook and I shouldn't have been involved.

We tried not to let her cook and it didnt work.

AITA? ######

Response: NTA if you asked her to stop and she wouldn't. ######


Prompt:
My maternal grandmother passed way because of throat cancer when I was in the seventh grade. She left all of her granddaughters a necklace that she has custom made for them (she asked us which was our favorite gem). At the time I was crazy about rubies and she actually got me a custom made necklace with rubies. It was beautiful and something that I wanted to treasure as an heirloom because it was my grandmother's last gift to me.

Fast forward a couple of years, I was in Grade 12 when my eldest cousin sister was getting married. I couldn't attend the wedding cause I live in a different country and it was too close to my final exams. My narcissistic mother however attended. After she came back, and my exams were over. I asked her what she gave my cousin for her wedding present. (I was so stressed about exams that I wasn't involved in the wedding discussions at all). She told me she gave her that ruby necklace.

She gave my cousin sister my ruby necklace without even asking me because according to her it would be a waste of money to buy something when she already had that.

I was devasted. But I couldn't do anything apart from cry and get angry.

It's been years now. And I have been thinking about asking my cousin for the necklace back after explaining the situation.

WIBTA if I demanded the necklace back? ######

Response: NTA if you asked but YWBTA if you demanded. If you explained and she was understand, she would more than likely gift it back (I know I would and apologise even though it's not her fault for not knowing!). Hopefully it won't come to the point where you have to demand. In this situation, neither of you are in the wrong (yet) and all fault lies with your mum. ######


Prompt:
For context, my two friends (20F) and myself (19F) are all queer. This happened a while ago, but it still bothers me.

I’ve only been in two serious relationships and both of them have been with cis men. Still, I identify as a pansexual as their gender doesn’t matter to me.

In my first relationship, I didn’t really notice that my friends were acting any different from when I was single. After a while, things become more obvious. They’d stop talking about girls when I joined the conversation and switch topics. They didn’t want to tell me about their crushes, but I didn’t really mind, it’s up to them whether they want to tell me or not. But then it got more serious, I couldn’t talk about any issues concerning LGBTQ+, because apparently I couldn’t relate to them.

Now on to the main story. Pride is celebrated in my country and it’s a big deal for the community. We’ve wanted to go for years, but there was always a reason we couldn’t go. Except for this year, all three of us were free and I was really excited about it. I had noticed though, that they hadn’t brought it up for a while, so I asked them about it. They didn’t think I intended on going, because ‘I’d been living the straight life’. I told them that I still identified as pan and wanted to be treated that way. They answered that to be treated as pan I should be acting as pan.

That made me so angry. I thought our community was inclusive and I at least expected that from my own friends. I told them they were being biphobic/panphobic and that I didn’t even wanna go with them anymore. Basically they didn’t think you could be biphobic/panphobic when you’re queer. I said that they should be ashamed of themselves and I walked away. We’re still friends, but they still believe that I was an asshole for saying that, but I don’t know, am I? ######

Response: NTA if you are in a straight cis passing relationship that doesn't make you valid to a lot of lgbt people which is 100 percent wrong... you're still valid as a pan person and I say go without them. They AH. ######


Prompt:
My dad is, to put it mildly, pretty selfish when it comes to food. If there are, for example, a pepperoni and a BBQ chicken pizza in the fridge he'll eat the latter purely because he knows it's the one meant for my tea.

More than once I've gone to make myself something to eat, only to realise that my dad has eaten his way through the things we both like and only left the things I _don't_. It's deliberate.

He is, however, differently picky about food than I am. Among other things, he won't eat pasta, spinach, or anything explicitly labelled as vegetarian or vegan.

So to prevent him from eating my food before his own I often buy things I _know_ he doesn't like. Tortellini, spinach and ricotta pizza, veggie chilli, etc. This means I have a stock of "easy" foods, without having to worry if they're going to be eaten before I want them.

He then complains there's nothing to eat. The fridge, freezer, and cupboards can be rammed full...but if everything of mine is stuff he won't eat, then there's "nothing".

AITA for depriving my dad of the ability to eat everything that's meant for my meals? ######

Response: NTA if you are buying the food yourself and he is eating it. ######


Prompt:
For context - I'm back in my hometown, staying with my parents, grandfather and sister in a small apartment which has only two bedrooms. Needless to say, this has led to cabin fever.

Today, my sister came to me with some news related to her job offer (they have delayed the joining date and reduced the salary) and I wasn't properly sympathetic because I was in the middle of some work (total asshole here, I agree).

Later, when talking to her and my mother things got heated because I hadn't displayed proper empathy to my sister. My mother got angry, and when she gets angry she starts screaming. She started telling me off and complaining about how much my sister and I fight.

Now, my parents have a very contentious marriage. I have grown up witnessing bitter fights every day, and my mother's constant complaining of my dad not living up to her expectations.

Back to the situation - I got fed up with my mother's screaming and I said well you shouldn't complain about us, you and dad fight too so how is this different.

Me saying this was unforgivable, and I have no right to comment on their marriage.

AITA? ######

Response: NTA if this is all there really is to it; it just seems like a really small hill for your mom to die on. If their fighting is so severe then it might just be a particularly sore spot for her. I was leaning a bit N / A / H for that reason but honestly, her getting so offended by that is probably because she was rightfully called out. ######


Prompt: I have a medically fragile kid (genetic condition/feeding tube/just home after 2+ months in the hospital). Our neighbors know all of this. They have always just let their 8 year old walk into our driveway and yard without permission. I asked them nicely via Facebook yesterday if they could keep him out of our space and my son and my medically fragile child deserve to be able to safely go out in our front yard. She told me I was being completely unreasonable and because our houses are fairly close together, it is silly for me to expect her son to not walk through our yard. ######

Response:
 NTA if this continues that is considered trespassing. Make sure she knows that

Edit: I suck at grammar sometimes ######


Prompt:
They have no yard, and we have a huge one. I guess they feel entitled because of that and that they own while we rent.

So they've always trespassed in our yard the past few years, but it was every once in a while. And we didn't want to ruin a kid enjoying the outdoors. Well, since the quarantine it's been every damn day for hours. Which again, we tried to just put up with. But then the kid starts the death-shrieks. And that is very disturbing. And then they start hitting the house.

So I want to talk with them about not playing in our yard, but thanks to social distancing, a text will have to do. Well, the adult/parent threw an absolute fit and personally attacked me and accused me of damaging their property in the past but they were "too nice to say anything."

I just cannot believe it. They trespass, and we assert our rights....and they say I'm the asshole. So...am I? ######

Response: NTA if they start hitting the house, take pictures and inform the owner, your landlord.  you don’t want to get accused of damage when it’s not your fault.  Keep texts as proof and next time, video it! ######