Prompt:
I'm a straight A student and an okay with a B if I know my work clearly reflects it. For this class, I have no grading platform (blackboard, google classroom) to tell me the grades of my assignments. I can partially rely on the professor to return my grades. Now, I've been told that I'm not good with explaining, but bear with me please.

End of semester and I get my final grades, all A's except for one B. This B is in that one class, so I email the professor to ask why I got a B and for advice on how I can do better in future classes. They gave me a break down of my grades and said I didn't turn in a few assignments (Keep in mind that I only know the grades that have been returned). I look through the list and notice they gave me a 0 for an assignment I turned in. It's a grade changer, so I check my emails and bam there it is, emailed to the correct person, turned in on time. I email them back to say I turned in this assignment on this day at this time. They say that they can't take it cause I may have turned it in late. I apologize for bringing this matter up after final grades and reply again with a screenshot and get almost the same answer. I decide to go to the chair to appeal. The chair says if I can provide proof, they can change my grade. I provide proof, they email my professor. Professor emails chair back saying they never got it- checked their spam, trash, everywhere and said some rude comment. Chair declined to change my grade. I debated on whether I should go to the dean of college. After getting some opinions, I email the dean and they decide to change the grade. So now I have an A in the class but I kinda feel like the AH because the professor was very understanding of my situation. I never missed a day in that class and only turned in one assignment late.

I've come up with many situations blaming myself for the B and have learned my lesson.

So AITA? ######

Response: NTA- the teacher didn’t sound understanding at all. With everything going on in the world, online classes and online assignments are bound to have some bugs. You turned in your assignment and deserve credit for it. Your teacher is TA for making you escalate the situation when you had proof from the beginning. ######


Prompt:
Since March 1, we are at home because of the Coronavirus and since the beginning of March that my 17-year-old brother stays up until 8am playing video games and wakes up at 8pm, I understand that there it's nothing to do, it's routine, but he spends the evening eating.

He barely having finished his supper that he opens the fridge and looks for something else to eat, and he does this every 1 hour until that he sleeps. He has gained weight, and does not go out for a short walk or even to do sports in the
house. We all tell him that it is not good for his health but he does not listen to anyone.

I then ordered a lock (luckily our fridge is 2 doors) lock the fridge after the dessert he has eaten after supper. He is very angry and says that it is abuse but I do this for his good, I intend to unlock it after some hours have passed at least.

AITA for doing that?
PS : Sorry for my english. ######

Response: NTA- the bro has an eating problem. ######


Prompt: I live in an apartment complex right next to a creek trail. I walk my dog on it almost every day. It’s really nice, except for the fact that my upstairs neighbor never picks up after her dog. I’ve seen her out the window neglecting to pick it up when her dog poops. It infuriated me because it makes the trail smelly and unpleasant. I know her dog’s size and shape of poop and I have stepped in it multiple times. Now, I might have cut her some slack if she was a nice person, but she is not. She glares at me when I walk by, and is overall very short-tempered. When I asked her about the shit once, she told me to fuck off. Not to mention the fact that she makes an ungodly amount of noise at 12am which often keeps me up. Basically, I had had enough. The next day, before her usual walk time, I made a bunch of little flags using sticks and paper, and put her dog’s name on them. Then, I walked down the trail and put a flag on each of the deposits. I watched from my window as she passed each shit, looking confused and angry. Later, I got a knock on my door, and opened it to find Pam, irate and saying that I had been immature and petty, which I admit I may have been. However, it was very satisfying to see her get what was coming to her. I know it wasn’t very nice, but do the ends justify the means? ######

Response:
 NTA- thats just hilarious. You didnt do anything actually mean ( in my opinion anyways). Now if you picked up the poop and left it at her doorway I might say ur the A. But what you did was not only hilarious but also very creative.

Question...what happen after? Are the poops still there with the flags in them? ######


Prompt: Me (22F) and my boyfriend (22M) were in the middle of foreplay when I pulled back his for skin and saw it was a little bit ( just a little bit ) gross. I asked him if he could clean it before we went any further and he responded by saying “can we not just have sex then go shower?” To which I said that’s unsanitary and I didn’t want to. He then threw a hissy, stated the mood was gone because of me and he didn’t want to have sex anymore. AITA? ######

Response: NTA- that could give you an infection. ######


Prompt:
I’ve lived in this neighborhood for ages now, and we have this cat who wanders around. Thing is, I know that it’s not lost and I know exactly who the cat’s owners are. Almost every day at the same time, when I get off the bus and walk to my house, the cat is waiting there for me and I give it a good scratch and let her snuggle against my feet before I go inside. Sometimes she follows and sometimes show doesn’t. Anyways my gf has become pretty endeared to this feline and has tried to feed it. Idk if it’s the right thing to do to feed it or not, I was always raised not to feed other people’s pets so I’ve stopped her from doing that.

It’s now gotten to the point where my gf is seriously in love with the rascall, even asking me if we should just say fuck it and keep the cat for ourselves and I laughed it off because I thought she was joking. Narrator: *she wasn’t joking*. Next time I saw the cat she had a different collar on and my girlfriend had went out and gotten a collar for “our cat”. I told her to stop being ridiculous as it’s not our cat and she argued that she spends a lot of her time here so she might as well be. I said that’s not our decision to make and told her to put the collar back on the cat and she refused and said she’d already thrown it away. I had to dig through the garbage and get it back and give it a good washing before I exchanged the collar again. Now she’s mad at me because she thinks I’m being controlling but it’s not our goddamn cat. ######

Response: NTA- Tell the owners. She is acting like a dam child. Please leave her. She just refused to not have someone else cat? The hell is wrong with her. ######


Prompt:
I came to live with my parents in Alaska when Universities told their students to go home and I just graduated. Even though I’m on social security, I still managed to save some money for an emergency. I had to leave all of my home goods in the lower 48 and I’m expected to pay for my vehicle and possessions to be driven here. But that’s not the issue.
My sister and her fiancé decided to move back home too because of some hard financial hits and coronavirus cutting her work hours. I asked if I could move in with her when the time comes because generally just want to get a different job and don’t want to live with my parents anymore. I told her I would help pay rent and that we would have strictly roommate relationship rules. She didn’t say anything at first, but a couple days later asked to borrow money from me for the entire deposit, I said yes and that’s when she informed me I wouldn’t be allowed to move with her.

So I’m wanting to know if I would be the asshole if I told her I changed my mind about loaning her the money? I already said I would, I know she’s in a financial situation and I’ll probably never see the money again, but what she did really just... yeah. ######

Response: NTA- tell her you need the money for your own deposit, since you won’t be living with her. ######


Prompt:
I got an IUD in August and told my mom I was getting it, she paid because i’m her daughter and she wanted to.
Fast forward to October and my mom calls me at college and says she has a funny story. Mind you, we both tend to joke about my dad because he’s a character and they’re divorced. She says that my dad found out about the IUD because he saw paperwork that i had in my car that he was cleaning out while i was away. HE WAS FURIOUS. He called me mom and yelled at her over the phone about how i have an IUD and my mom was like “oh yeah i knew about that” and then my dad proceeded to yell at her for not telling him and she was like “she’s 18 and it’s not my place to tell you about her reproductive choices.” My dad is acting as if I needed his permission for this. I didn’t even need to tell my mom in the first place, but i chose to because we’re close like that. Anyways, this was a while ago but it still sits weird with me. He has no say in the matter. I don’t like that my dad felt obligated to know about this personal aspect of my life especially because he’s otherwise a very progressive, liberal man so it doesn’t really make sense as to why he’s trying to police my goddamn uterus. Idk thoughts? ######

Response: NTA- sounds like your dad is having a hard time transitioning seeing you as a child to an adult. He sees you as the little girl and doesn’t want to think about you having sex. He will eventually get over it but was probably shocked that you are even having sex. Give him a bit of a break, at least he didn’t confront you and have a very awkward conversation. Good for you for taking the initiative and getting on birth control. ######


Prompt:
I am a recovering anorexic that has been through treatment and therapy for this disorder however, no one in my family knows anything about that at all.
I am 21 y/o F that has moved back home with my aunt because my university shut down and since I’ve been back every time she seems me eating she teases me about how my backside seems to be getting larger and today she asked if I have “looked in the mirror lately” because I “eat too much”.

To her it’s harmless games and just joking around. I can attest that this is just how her humor is, very crude and often times will cross a line.
She never hesitates to call other people in my family fat or to make “jokes” about random strangers she’ll see when we go out. It’s extremely embarrassing but at this point I’ve accepted that’s how she is and I just have to live with it for the time being. Usually when she’s conversing with other family members about their weight, their conversations are full of laughter and very light hearted.

I’ve been told by her and others that I am overly sensitive to things so I fear I may be over reacting. I know she’s genuinely not being malicious but it doesn’t make me feel good when she teases me every time I am eating around her.

Today I yelled at her for constantly being rude which made her really upset. She apologized and made it known that she was just joking and didn’t mean any offense by it. I feel a little bad for my outburst especially since she does not know that I am a recovering anorexic who gets extremely triggered when people mention my weight or comment on the frequency of which I eat.

AITA? ######

Response: NTA- she's old enough to know how to behave. Feel free to point that out to her next time she gets inappropriate. ######


Prompt:
Me [18M] and my girlfriend [18F] have been dating for 2 and a half years. We trust and love each other a ton. I have nude photos of her on my phone. My twin sister [18F] a few days ago snooped through my phone and found the pictures. I'm angry at her for invading me and my girlfriend's privacy, and feel guilty for not better protecting my phone and thus exposing my girlfriend. I have since put a passlock on my phone as well as the folder with her naked pictures.

My sister says she snooped cause she was bored, wanted to see my pictures, and accidentally stumbled upon the nudes. I suspect she may have looked for my gf's nudes on purpose but either way its fucked up.  As far as I know, she didn't see my nudes (hopefully yikes). My sister is gay and has a girlfriend [17F] of almost a year. I'll call my sister "M". Since then M has been making a lot of comments on the pictures and my girlfriend to me. This really upsets me and I think its super disrespectful. Things she has said include:

" Damn she's hot, a solid 9"
"Her boobs are almost as nice as mine"
"If I was single, I could get with her"
"She has a nice pussy"
"You don't deserve that body"

I keep telling her to shut the fuck and stop disrespecting my girlfriend but she wouldn't stop. So I told her if she keeps making these comments I'd tell her girlfriend what she's doing but she didn't believe me and didn't stop. So I texted her girlfriend a screenshot of some of the creepy stuff M has texted me about my girlfriend and told her what M was doing.

M is now furious at me because her gf got super mad at her. She says I might have cost her, her relationship.

I didn't and don't want to tell my parents as I didn't want to out my sister as gay to them, and they would flip out if they knew I was exchanging nudes

Did I overreact or go overkill involving her girlfriend? ######

Response: NTA- She's being disgusting to your partner, if I was being spoken about like that, i'd want to know. I think it was a good flag to send to her partner, because comments like that are REALLY signs that there may be some issues that lie in the relationship ######


Prompt:
so basically when i was born, my grandpa set up a bank account for me in my mum’s name (since people under 13 can’t have an account in their name). thing is, my mum stole the money. she was mad at my dad so she took me and my little sister on a holiday using the money from that bank account. i was about 6 at the time and don’t remember much about the trip. i had no idea until last year.

when i first found out about it from my dad, i confronted her and she deflected it back onto me because she paid for a school trip that i went on. the trip was a few thousand dollars so i let it go at the time, but recently my dad told me that the value would have been about $15k by now if it hadn’t been touched. my mum has spent a lot of money on me but i feel a bit cheated

my mum refuses to admit to it. she blames my dad’s family for telling me and says that she’s “hurt i keep bringing it up”. i love my mum but she broke my trust. i think that because i was little she thought i wouldn’t ever find out. i don’t even want the money back at this point, i just want her to apologise and admit that she wronged me. i told her that i wouldn’t see her again until she did so, and that i’m not seeing her on mother’s day.

my step dad thinks i’m being unfair, and my mum will give me money if i just let the apology go. AITA? should i just accept the money and get over it? ######

Response: NTA- she stole from you. It doesn’t matter if it was used on you, she stole it. She broke your and your grandfathers trust. She owes you an apology at a minimum. ######


Prompt:
I am (17F) and I am 173 (5'8) cm and I weigh about 68 kgs (150 pounds). I have struggled with body image issues throughout my life.

My mom cares about my health a lot and has been telling me to lose weight for the past year. First it was mild but now it has become slightly overbearing as she tells me to watch what I eat all the time. I understand, really. Her concern is natural.

I used to go running before but since I can't really do that these days, I am exercising at home. To be honest, our home is not very big and there's not much space so the exercise isn't very fruitful so I decided to follow a diet too.

Normally my mom makes easy to make food which isn't always very healthy as she doesn't really like putting too much effort into our food. Which I was fine with.

Now, my mom flat out refused to cook some healthy alternatives for me as she says that there is no need for me to go on a diet if I just exercise enough. I told her that the exercise isn't being really helpful to me.

Mom said that she can't cook extra healthy food for me as it would be too much work for her. Then I suggested that she can cook the healthy meal for both of us. She flat out refused and said that I was the one who needed to lose weight, not her.

Finally I decided that I should make my own food. My mother said that I have never been near the stove my entire life and that I'll burn the house down. She says if I just exercise enough then I won't have to go on a diet.

Yesterday i refused to eat the food made by her and instead made myself some salad. My mother feels insulted and says that I am being disrespectful.

Am I really being disrespectful?

AITA for making my own food when Mom told me not to? ######

Response: NTA- she sounds controlling her concern doesn't sound like real concern. She got onto you for making a healthy choice to fix your 'issue'. It sounds like she is bullying you. ######


Prompt:
My wife wants us to compete in a weight loss competition, so it can make it easier for her.

The thing is, I can’t healthily lose any weight. I’m just 5 pounds from being underweight. I still do work out to become more fit, but I don’t lose weight.

My wife is slightly overweight. She wants to come down to a healthier level, which I wholeheartedly support. But, I can’t bring myself to compete in something that I can’t possibly win at. My wife thinks that this is unfair, and that is competing will make it easier for her.

So, AITA? ######

Response: NTA- she should consider your health and you're doing the right thing. However, maybe compete, you gain, she loses? ######


Prompt:
I won a national scholarship for excelling in my A levels so my high school had a ceremony honouring the 9 of us from our year who did and also invited the parents of everyone. My mother decided that it's just a small ceremony, wasn't important and no other parent would really bother to go so she just dropped me off and went to the gym.

It turns out that every parent came and I was the only one alone but I just worked with it. When I arrived home she asked if any other parent was there and I said yes. She asked how many and I said all others. She said I made her look bad for not calling her to come. My father said the same thing.

So AITA for not calling and telling her to come to the ceremony ######

Response: NTA- she didn’t want to go just because it was a small ceremony. But in reality it’s a an academic accomplishment she should have been proud of and to be there to support you would have been the proper thing to do as a parent. To get mad at your for not calling her and telling her to come back is just ridiculous. Congratulations btw and NTA NTA NTA! ######


Prompt:
Follow up on my previous post[here](https://www.reddit.com/r/AmItheAsshole/comments/di82hm/aita_told_moms_boyfriend_was_being_a_cnt/?utm_source=share&utm_medium=ios_app&utm_name=iossmf)

Basically I (19m) got into a fight with my mums boyfriend after he berated me for disrespecting my mother for there being clothes pegs on the ground and it ended with him calling me a little asshole and me saying he’s being a c*nt. Realising this blowup would wreck my mums relationship I tried to apologise twice, one of those times in front of my mum to prove I was being sincere.

He broke up with my mother for the second time in a month over this and said they could get back together if she kicks me out of the house immediately. She called up her family and caused all this drama to try and kick me out and although most were sympathetic they said I should leave. So after my semester at uni finished last year I have left home and am living with a flat mate and my sister who’s relationship with my mum is also strained.

My mother never got together with her boyfriend and has met a new guy who is amazing and hates the last boyfriend for what he did.

My mum has pretended like she never kicked me out and we still see each other every week for dinner. She never apologised for choosing her boyfriend over me and it’s always bugged me knowing she doesn’t have my back. My relationship with her side of the family is pretty strained now and although I love my mum and tried to work things out with her it’s been 6 months since I left home and I still kind of resent her.

WIBTA if I cut her off? ######

Response: NTA- she did this to herself not you. By choosing her a-hole of a boyfriend over you and turning her side of the family against you. ######


Prompt:
My ex and I broke up a month ago and we met up to exchange each other’s belongings. I was with her for three years.

One of my things I had left at her’s accidentally was my necklace that belonged to my grandfather, valued around $600. I asked her several times to remember to bring it and she said she would.

We meet up and she completely forgets the necklace and even tells me she lost it. This is heart breaking because it has a lot of sentimental value and I haven’t lost any of her belongings. I beg for her to check her place again but she insists she lost it, it is gone.

I asked her to front me $300 if she lost my necklace to help pay for a new one. I’m not expecting the full cost of the necklace. She says absolutely not, and that it’s tough luck she lost it. She said this makes me seem like a gold digger asking her for the cash. She comes from an extremely wealthy family ($300 is nothing) and I come from a lower middle class household.

AITA for asking her to front the money for a sentimental item of mine SHE lost? ######

Response: NTA- she “lost” something valuable to you, the fact that she refuses to own up to that speaks volumes about her integrity and maturity. I’m glad she’s your ex now ######


Prompt:
So, I have pretty horrendous eyesight. Well, I used to, because I got LASIK pretty recently. Because of this, I have a habit of leaning closer to the TV or laptop screen or whatever while I’m watching TV. When I say leaning I’m just sitting straight upwards and not leaning back into the couch or bed or whatever. Even after my surgery I haven’t lost the habit and I just lean in when I get really into the show. Idk why but it’s always bothered her. First she said that my posture was bad but when I pointed out to her that my posture is great (by virtue of me sitting with my back straight upwards) and the fact that hers is far worse than mine (her back is curved because of this), she backed off of that excuse. But then she never let go of the issue. For the life of me I don’t know why she has such a problem with it. I should also note that I’ve asked her if I’m blocking her from the screen and she says that I don’t. But she just. Won’t. Stop. It’s gotten worse and more frequent because we’re at home more now and we spend a lot of our time watching Netflix together. I’ve asked her to please stop, I’m doing nothing wrong, etc etc.

So today she was doing it again. I asked her to stop and she does for a while. Then I get up to pee and when I come back she grips my shoulder and pulls me backwards and at this point I can’t help myself and yell at her to leave me alone and eff off and I don’t know why it bothers you so much that I’m sitting straight up or leaning forward, it’s not hurting either me or you. She actually burst into tears and said she’s going for a walk and some fresh air. She hasn’t been back for a while and now I’m getting a bit worried. AITA? ######

Response:
 NTA- others on here say you shouldn't have yelled at her and made her cry, but I think that's BS.  People yell at each other, and its sexist to say you should have kept your wits about you when she laid HANDS on you and physically tried to get you to do what she wanted.

This should be  a non-issue.  She made it an issue.  You arent an asshole. ######


Prompt:
know this sounds horrible but there's background.
I've been married 20 years and I've never been close to her. She skips over our kids on holidays and hasn't acknowledged a birthday, except her own, for about 5 years. My husband, her son, doesn't speak to her because of verbal abuse he had from her growing up. My nieces and nephew (18, 19 and 21) also don't speak to her because she is an awful toxic person.
In Feburary she texted me that she had breast cancer. Being a nurse, I jumped into action and got her set up with a visiting nurse, meals on wheels and a housekeeper. I brought her to her first appt so I could understand what type and the treatment options as she refuses to wear hearing aids and has a 6th grade education. I followed up with her brother who lives nearby and relayed what he needs to do to help her.
Then came her first chemo appointment.  It was 4 and a half hours. She introduced me as "her ride" and "the bitch" to everyone who came in then sat on her phone talking to "her real daughter in law" being my husband's ex that he hadnt seen since they broke up in 1998, about me. Never said thank you. Then I got her home and walked her dog then gave him a bath. Cleaned her house and got her set up with ensure drinks and whatever she needed. Still no thank you.
Now, I'm in the mindset of she has cancer and she can do or say anything she wants right now. My husband is livid. I didnt even tell him half of it. The more I thought about it the more I just want to wash my hands of it and pass the responsibility to her brother (hes nice but equally ignorant).
Would i be a horrible person? I'm just over her ignorant shitty behavior. ######

Response: NTA- omfg woman, you must be an incredibly compassionate nurse because you have already gone so above and beyond for this monster-in-law, it’s crazy!   Use the 4 1/2 hours for a spa day next time, and let her “real” daughter in law take her nasty ass to chemo. You’ve more than earned a break! ######


Prompt:
Long story short: My former roommate and I had a lot of issues. We're friends, but by the end of living together, I almost couldn't stand her. She expected me to be her mom - I bought all the groceries, cleaned, etc. She only paid 1/3 of the rent, and she has the maturity of a  teenager.

Living with her was detrimental to my mental/emotional health, my relationship, and my finances. She moved back in with her parents when the lease was up. I remained at the same apartment.

She's been begging me for the last few weeks to let her move back in because her situation at home isn't great. I've said no.

Today, I found out that she's living in her car, and I feel like an AH but I also don't want her to move back in. ######

Response: NTA- obviously her situation is awful But, at the end of the day, that is not your fault. You don't need to let anyone live with you who causes you more anxiety than joy. Maybe offer her some support in other ways, by visiting her a few times a week, keeping her spirits up, etc etc. But, at the end of the day, you are not obligated to do anything, ######


Prompt:
So this happened maybe 10 min ago at the park, I own a shiba inu, if you know anything about the breed they are not like most dogs in a lot of aspects, I have owned several of them one who I got a little older who had some very bad aggression issues but after years of training and love became one of the best dogs I have ever owned. Also I have worked in humane societies and have a certificate through the AKC to train dogs ( not saying a am the dog whisperer or some crap). This lady walks up to me and asks what kind of dog I have and I tell her a shiba inu and she responds by telling me that is the type of dog her and her husband have been looking into getting and if could tell her anything about the breed? I explained good and bad aspects of the dog for a min or two and asked if she had ever owned dogs before which she replied no and I said I usually wouldn’t suggest someone getting this breed as a first time dog owner which at that point she became noticeably upset and snapped back with telling me that I am extremely rude for telling her she shouldn’t get a certain kind of dog when she doesn’t even know her and walked off.
When I left I wondered if I was being to harsh or not? ######

Response: NTA- Nah, I wish more people gave honest real advice, I hate when people say “Yeah sure get a husky even though you live in an apartment” in an effort to try to be polite. Good for you for being honest it’s not fair to the dog or the person to encourage someone to do something that could end poorly. I couldn’t even handle a dog like that. I wish more people read into the different temperaments of different breeds before getting them and then dumping them when they are to hard to handle. ######


Prompt:
My girlfriend cooks a dish.

I try out the dish as is, and it tastes very good.

I want to try putting hot sauce see how it tastes like.

My girlfriend gets mad and says that it insults her cooking and insinuates that she doesn't know how to cook.

For me, I don't find that it's different from adding cheese or salt/pepper. In no way am I saying her dish was bad, in fact it was amazing. I usually cook and I wouldn't mind at all if she adds extra condiments.

AITA for wanting to add spice? ######

Response: NTA- My friends vietmanese mom will absolutely cut your head of if you do this to her Pho without tasting it. But she knows every one has different tast and as long as your try it the way she intended she has no problem what the hell you do to it. ######


Prompt:
I (22) live in mature student accommodation while I do my Masters. One of my housemates and her husband (early 30s) got pregnant after moving in.

I haven’t slept in weeks and haven’t been able to do my uni work. I am living on this baby’s schedule. I pay a lot to live in this housing and it is against our legal contract to generate noise loud enough to disturb other tenants. I understand that they can’t move out any time soon but I think it’s selfish to have a baby in student housing and they should move out when this is over. WIBTA? ######

Response: NTA- most colleges have the option to switch to family housing if they become a family. ######


Prompt:
So I know it sounds bad but hear me out. I found a used sofa listed online, and I asked the owner if I could come by and check it out. She agreed; she was keeping it in her garage. When I arrived I asked if it was okay if I felt it and generally "checked it out", and she said fine. I looked to see if if the cushions were detachable, looked for stains, that sort of thing. Then I sat on it, and the whole thing collapsed. It seems one of the legs was loose or already broken. (If it matters, I'm 130lbs.)

I said I was sorry, I felt bad about it and embarrassed. She said I would have to buy it now. I was taken aback and replied that all I had done was sit on the couch - if it collapsed obviously there was something wrong with it before I arrived. She said there was nothing wrong with it before I sat down and that she "didn't give me permission to sit on it" and now she couldn't sell to anyone else so I would have to take it.

I said no and left. But now I can't stop thinking about it. In my mind, when she said it was fine if I inspected the couch, this would obviously mean that I could sit in it. Isn't that one of the first things anybody does when checking out a couch?

So what do you think, reddit? AITA? ######

Response: NTA- likely it was already broken and she was trying to scam you ######


Prompt:
Last week my parents and I had a serious discussion concerning life insurance. They are, by no means, expecting to pass anytime soon. However, they felt the need to have this set up now and speak with me about it.

The topic of my younger siblings eventually came up. I’m about 16 years older than both of them and I’m 23 currently. They simply wanted to know who should become their legal guardian should anything unfortunate happen. Unsurprisingly, their first option was myself. Their second option is my aunt whom they both trust immensely.

They explained to me that, if anything should happen to them, that I would have to prepare to care for my two siblings. They phrased it in such a way that I’d most likely have to move, find a different job, and raise them with my fiancé. They also told me that “it would be easy” because this life insurance would be helping me financially.

I declined fairly quick. My mom was completely understanding, which I appreciated. However, my stepdad seemed bothered by my decision. He didn’t say anything beyond “but they’re your brother and sister” and “you should be there for them”. Yeah, I love them unconditionally, but I don’t even want kids of my own! And the idea of my life potentially changing so drastically terrifies me.

They haven’t brought it up again since, but I’m starting to feel a bit guilty about my choice. I definitely feel selfish, but... I feel like it’s my right to say no? On the other hand, my stepdad’s words make me feel like the asshole here. ######

Response:
 NTA- kids are huge responsibility that require a lot of emotional labor and not everyone is meant to raise kids.

There might be a time later in your life where you want to be their guardian, but in your current position in life it's not in the picture. ######


Prompt: One of my best friends is getting married next year, and I agreed to be in the wedding and have bought my bridesmaid dress already. I recently found out that my ex-boyfriend will also be in the wedding. As far as I know, we will not be walking down the aisle together, but who knows? I was a little apprehensive about being in the wedding with him (I’ll get to why in a moment), but, my friend said that I could bring my current boyfriend to the wedding with me, and that made me feel a lot better. Now, I am not normally one to get flustered around an ex-boyfriend, but, after we broke up (about two years ago), and I started dating other men, I realized that he had talked me into doing things I didn’t want to do (namely, sex) on multiple occasions. Yesterday, as I was talking to my current boyfriend, he realized that he would not be able to come because they are getting new software at work the month of the wedding, and no one is allowed to take time off during that month while the staff adjusts. (I should also mention that this wedding is out of state and on a Thursday.) My ex-boyfriend is extremely close with both the bride and groom and especially with the bride’s family, and he and her younger brother are best friends. WIBTA for telling my friend that I would not be comfortable even attending the wedding with my ex there as long as my current boyfriend cannot go? ######

Response: Nta- just tell your friend what happened and that you don’t feel safe being around him so you won’t be attending. Don’t try to make her choose. ######


Prompt:
My friend and l(both 18f) we were always a bit on the heavier side. We would get teased at school but it was nothing malicious. She would always take offence so l asked my classmates to stop it when she was around and they did.

All was well until graduation ( last year) when the girls of the class thought we should arrange a beach holiday for us girls. When we were alone(my friend and l)I joked that we should start getting beach body ready. She took the joke seriously and agreed.

So when 2020 started l changed up my diet and started exercising. The progress was slow but steady but it was paying off. Then when lockdown was in place l started up the old xbox 360 and continued with the routine. I am not at my goal but l am getting there.

Anyways, I was feeling proud of my progress so l put on my status how l may be beach body ready even though we aren't going to the beach.  She sees this and gets mad.

She says l have betrayed her and we agreed to do this together and accused me of hating my body etc things of that nature.

I felt guilty about not informing her but I thought l am not in the wrong.

Reddit, do you agree? ######

Response: NTA- its your body and you dont need to feel guilty for trying to eat better or exercising.  This is not a betrayal. But you can suggest helping her to make some changes too, if she chooses not to, she has no right to be mad at you for doing something positive in your own life. ######


Prompt: I share a house with 4 people, we are all in college. I before we moved in, I bought a new receiver so I could listen to my music through these larger speakers I had recently acquired. The receiver has Bluetooth capability so naturally we all connect to listen to music, which I had no problem with, all I asked is that after they disconnect after they use it so if I want to use it and they’re not, it will connect to my phone, they never do, ever. Yesterday I finally hit a breaking point and told them to disconnect to the Bluetooth because i am never able to connect because one of their phones always is. They start banning me from all their stuff and eventually I just leave because I was so mad. ######

Response: NTA- it’s yours. But they have the right to not let you use their stuff anymore. ######


Prompt:
Some backstory: I (F21) am in my 3rd year of college. Right now I am taking an English Literature class where we read books and analyze them and write essays on them. Since the pandemic my school has been online. So I took this opportunity to go and stay with my parents. They drove 4 hours to pick me up as I don't have a car. My parents are Christians and are very against homosexuals and stuff like that. I am not and I am an atheist, we also have very different political views.

Anyway, I was reading a book called Maurice by E.M Forster. This book is about a homosexual boy in 1910 when he is at Cambridge Uni and after. I only read that book in my room where I sleep and everything as to not upset them and to respect their views until this point. I have been really enjoying this book but I hadn't been reading it fast enough. I had an essay due on it on Sunday and it was already Friday and if I failed this essay or I don't get it in on time I will have to retake the class. So I was reading like crazy wherever and whenever I could to get it done.

I went to go make some lunch and to take a tiny break from my book. My mom picked up my book and read the back and even the page I was on (which happened to be them kissing). She started throwing a tantrum and saying that I shouldn't have brought that stuff into her house and just being overall homophobic. She even threw my book away into the trash so it was ruined. I emailed my professor and he gave me an extra 3 days and even gave me the source to read it online (I have a great professor). My mom has since then threatened to kick me out because of it and stuff. AITA? ######

Response: NTA- it’s not your fault, you cant change someone’s views who won’t open up for change. Your not the asshole though. ######


Prompt: I'm from the rural midwest and my girlfriend is from a highly popuated area in Australia. Growing up I always drank milk with nearly every meal and I never viewed it as strange until I met my girlfriend. She pointed out that drinking milk with certain meals (pizza, spaghetti, etc) is really gross to her and that I was gross for doing it. She argues that when we eat together that I should refrain from doing it and drink something else instead because she is disgusted by it. AITA for drinking milk with meals that I eat with her? ######

Response: NTA- it’s not like you’re drinking piss. It’s a normal beverage drink it whenever you want my dude ######


Prompt:
My sister is only five years old, so you can imagine the excitement when we adopted a cat. She's very handsy with the cat, often carries her despite the cat jumping out of her hands each time. I keep telling her to leave the cat alone but she only listens for like a minute. I keep telling my parents to tell her to stop annoying the cat but they said that I have to let her play with the cat because that was one of the conditions that I agreed to when I asked  for a cat. I don't mind my sister playing with the cat but she always tries to pet her and carry her when the cat is eating or grooming herself. One day my parents and me were watching TV and I hadn't realisedthat my sister had sneaked into my room probably trying to carry the cat. My sister comes back out of my room very quitely. The sleeping cat was also out of the room her back arched and the tail puffed up. She looked something like [this](https://i.pinimg.com/originals/be/2f/5f/be2f5f2707988f33f529150719584276.jpg). We checked on her and the cat has scratched her face, chest and her arm. The scratches weren't very deep but it still bled quite a bit. I asked what happened and she said that the cat was asleep and so she went lift her and then the cat scratched her. My parents said that this could have been avoided if we hadn't gotten the cat. But I said that cats are both prey and predators adn that my sister grabbing her while asleep probably alarmed her. They were still adamant that it was the cat fault but I said they should have told her to stop annoying the cat all the time.

AITA? ######

Response:
 NTA- It's actually your parents' fault she got scratched. Five year olds are smart enough to understand warnings, but they lack the impulse control to follow the warnings consistently. Your parents, being the ones responsible for your sister, should have spent some time with her learning about cats and what cats do and do not like and placing boundaries around the cat with age appropriate consequences. Like, if you try to grab the cat while she's eating, you have to go play in the other room until the cat is done.

I'm sorry your sister got scratched, but chances are, she won't be as grabby with the cat anymore. ######


Prompt:
In this story I am a very introverted person and always been like that from a young age while my family is very extroverted. like to be in my room for awhile I am a 16M.
Backstory
When I was 8 I had door with a lock on it and my favorite thing to do was legos and that was all I would do. One day my one of my two sister now 13 was 5 went to my room and broke all the things I spent awhile on making so when I got home from school I was mad and went in my room and locked the door. My sister wanted to play with me and my  parents told me to play with her and I refuse so they broke down my door. So that how Iost my door and two years ago when I got a new door with no door handle on it. So the door has a hole on the one of the sides that is just big enough for someone to look into.

So during this quaratein I have been forced to hang out with my family more which dosen't bother me to much. There is just one thing my sister 10 is the worst she is the stereotypical entitled child who will cry when anything bad happens or any criticism while also saying she doesn't care.Who will make very high pitched voices and will call everyone child. She dosen't care about anyone's privacy and will just walk into my room and scream in an annoying voice while I'm on call to embarrass me and my friends who is on speaker said can you tell that fat bitch to shut the fuck up and she ran out crying. My friend does not like my sister she is very annoying when he comes over and is the reason he dosen't come over. My parents got mad and said I shouldn't have people on speaker and I said she shouldn't have been in my room and I should have a lock. They said I need to make my friend apologize and I said no and she needed to hear it she is obese and is told constantly she is skinny and any time she is told other wise she cries and is told by my parents she is skinny.
So reddit am I the ass for saying it not my fault my sister heard bad things and I need a lock. ######

Response:
 NTA- It's a bit concerning that you, as a sixteen year old boy, do not have a door that locks in a household full of girls. It's an issue of the healthy amount of privacy and space that teenagers need. I mean you can't always sit behind a locked door, but you should be able to go to your parents and say, "I'm going to talk to my friends for a bit so I will be locking the door since we don't want to be interrupted by my little sisters" or be able to lock the door for a few minutes while you get dressed after a shower.

Anyhow, here's a trick that might work for you, at least temporarily. Do you have a doorstop in your house? (One of those triangle peaces of wood that you wedge under a door to keep it from closing.) If your bedroom door opens inward, whenever you want to prevent your sisters from just barging into your room, close the door and put in the doorstop. Your sister, when they try to get inside, will just push the door further onto the doorstop. So they might be able to crack the door open a little, but they can't just wander in. When they complain that they can't get the door open, tell them to hold on a sec, they pushed the door onto something (clothes) that was on the floor. It's going to take you a minute to get it unstuck. The key is not to let them see the doorstop. This might result in your parents taking away your door again, but it will prevent your sisters from busting into your room while you're naked. ######


Prompt: My (26F) boyfriend (25M) gifted me a pair of expensive headphones he got for free last year. I’ve been using them pretty regularly since, and he’s been away travelling for much of the time. Now he’s home and staying with me because of current circumstances and has been using my headphones quite a bit while I’ve been at work (I’m fine with this). When I got home from work this afternoon he asked if he could have them permanently. I laughed and said no I use them and they were a gift. Now he keeps asking and borderline begging me for them saying he’s “stressed” about not having headphones when he goes back to travelling for work, even though we don’t know when that will be. They’re expensive headphones and I don’t really know why he can’t buy his own cheaper headphones if he doesn’t want to spend that much money right now. I bought his plane ticket home and have been fully paying the rent and most of the groceries while he’s been here. He said he’d buy me cheap ones that have a cord (the ones in question are cordless) in exchange, but I’ve gotten used to having the cordless ones... should I just let it go and give him the headphones? It seems a petty thing to fight over but I think it’s rude to ask for a gift back a year after the fact. AITA?? ######

Response: NTA- it was a gift. period. he doesn’t just get to decide he wants them a year later and take them back. if he’s okay freeloading rent food and basically everything else off of you then he can at least buy his own headphones. sounds like you’re dating a child instead of a grown man tbh. ######


Prompt:
So I know it sounds bad but hear me out. I found a used sofa listed online, and I asked the owner if I could come by and check it out. She agreed; she was keeping it in her garage. When I arrived I asked if it was okay if I felt it and generally "checked it out", and she said fine. I looked to see if if the cushions were detachable, looked for stains, that sort of thing. Then I sat on it, and the whole thing collapsed. It seems one of the legs was loose or already broken. (If it matters, I'm 130lbs.)

I said I was sorry, I felt bad about it and embarrassed. She said I would have to buy it now. I was taken aback and replied that all I had done was sit on the couch - if it collapsed obviously there was something wrong with it before I arrived. She said there was nothing wrong with it before I sat down and that she "didn't give me permission to sit on it" and now she couldn't sell to anyone else so I would have to take it.

I said no and left. But now I can't stop thinking about it. In my mind, when she said it was fine if I inspected the couch, this would obviously mean that I could sit in it. Isn't that one of the first things anybody does when checking out a couch?

So what do you think, reddit? AITA? ######

Response: NTA- it sounds like it was already broken, and the owner was trying to pull a fast one on someone. ######


Prompt:
My gf and I live in a 600+ sq ft apartment on a bottom floor with 2 cats. Quite recently, my gf had to make the decision to put down her dog due to liver failure. It was very fast and sudden, because we went in for a upset stomach and expected medication, not a lack of dog.

She immediatly started looking for another dog to adopt. I completly understand this, because getting another dog is part if the grieving process. However, this is where I wonder if I'm the asshole: I told her no.

My gf likes a "beagle/hound" mix that isn't fully housetrained and used to be abused, so the world is still scary for them. I'm very hesitant on getting a dog, because for our last dog, a lot of the walking/training resposibilities fell on me. I would get guilt-tripped into taking the dog out for walks by myself, while my gf would NEED me to be with her. I don't have the patience for dogs and while I like them, I'm more of a cat person anyways. I'm not ready for more financial costs and the emotional/physical responsibility of another adult dog that has problems. We're gone 9 hours a day and we can't always afford dog walking/sitting. However, its really hard to see my gf go through something like this. ######

Response:
 NTA- it should be a mutual decision to bring a new pet into the house.

If you two didn't live together, then yea, you'd have no say in the matter. But since you do live together you will have responsibilities to the pet. It's not reasonable to be forced into pet ownership.

I'm not sure I agree with your statement that getting a new dog is part of the grieving process. A lot of people do get new dog's when one dies, but many do not. Those that don't still process their grief.

I'm sorry for y'alls loss. ######


Prompt:
I'm the eldest sibling in my family and have always prompted my younger brothers to remember important dates for our parents. Over the past two years, my youngest brother (29) has been living with a woman who has some strong beliefs about death and being in places where people have died. As such, my brother has drifted away from the family.

He has said some very rude and offensive things to me and our other brother and uses our parents as an ATM. I can't blame my parents for helping, as it is always some dire emergency like their power is going to be shut off (the GF has two kids from two other guys who live with them) or not enough money for groceries, etc.

Recently, he has refused leftovers that my mother was bringing to him for his lunch at work as the food has been in her house and is "cursed." These lunch drop offs were the only in person contact my mother had with him. When he cut off the visits, it broke her heart and she cried. My mom is not a crier, so you can imagine the protective outrage throughout my family, though we didn't actually go after my brother.

Today is my Mom's birthday. Usually, I would remind my brothers to wish her a happy birthday, but since every time my youngest brother calls, he asks for money and causes general disappointed heartbreak, WIBTA if I didn't remind him? There is a good chance he'll see that it's her birthday on Facebook and that will remind him to call, but if I don't, WIBTA? ######

Response:
 NTA- it is not your job to remind a 29 yo man of your mothers birthday. He can succeed or fail on his own

I went through the same thing with my older brother, he forgot moms birthday and then got mad at me for not reminding him. I told him to grow up and stop blaming me for his fuck up ######


Prompt:
This happened a few months ago, but my brain won't let this one go.

So I was hanging out with some friends. Two guys, one woman. We're all in our early 20s and have had our fair share of romance in life. The topic of sex popped up and we start talking about some of our past experiences. One guy joked about how having sex only made his dick bigger and bigger. We all laughed and he said that he wished that's how it works. My female friend (let's call her Sarah) piped up and said "Yeah, for women, it's the complete opposite. The more sex you have, the bigger your labia gets and the looser you become." There were some chuckles, but then I asked her if she was serious. She said she was.

Now, this is a big myth. I was surprised a woman who has had some experience actually believes that. I basically told her this, and then she started getting annoyed, asking "how me and my dick knows about that". I said the same way I know anything about female anatomy- I've read up on it. The whole "women get looser" thing is something sexist dudes made up to slut-shame women. My other friends were silent on this. She then just said: "Whatever, I'm not in the mood for this kind of mansplaining."

So I'm at a loss here. AITA for explaining something that I feel like people should just know about? ######

Response: NTA- ignorant friend who wants to make you feel bad for knowing something about anatomy ######


Prompt: Due to my family I had an opportunity to learn multiple languages from a young age.   12 to be exact.   So after I joined the military and learned about FLPP I was making very good pay while basicly living on board a floating city.   Since then I have developed the nickname tongues. Goonies referance im guessing. After 8 years and 3 tours I had to call my military career done.  And transer to a civilian market. I got a simple job working private security.  Drive a nice Benz and am an avid firearms collector.  When i go out with friends they always think since I can afford the tab I should pay.    The way I see it if its my idea then It should be my dime  if I say hey lets all go out to eat then I would offer to pay for everything.    I've done this a few times but they just want to party on my dime.   One night I get invited out and we all started drinking.  I pull the bartender aside and tell them my tab would be separate from the groups  and to keep an eye on us.  After I had my 3rd shot of liquor and maybe my 5th beer I summon an lyft and go home.  An few hours later my cell starts ringing. Its the bartender My friends told the bartender i was supposed to pay,  they managed to run up a nearly 500 dollar tab and if they can't pay the police will have to be called.  I just hung up and went back to sleep. ######

Response:
 NTA- If your friends want to party, they should be responsible to pay for that.

Express that and stay from, don't let them continue to take advantage of your hard work ######


Prompt:
Obligatory backstory: my parents are divorced, me and my brother are respectively 21 and 24. My mom remarried a guy with only adult children (like in their 30s), and my dad is about to marry a woman with many children between the ages of 5-15.

I'm getting married in the fall, so I'm in the process of packing up my childhood bedroom. I noticed my dad has gotten out a lot of my old books and toys for when his future step-kids visit. A lot of my books are very sentimental to me, as I adored reading growing up, and I hope to pass on my books to my kids one day. WIBTA to hide my childhood stuff so that I can get it back for my own kids in the future? I don't want my step siblings to get attached to something and then not be able to get it back when I try to reclaim it.

My mom says it's my right to control my stuff but my fiancé says it might be selfish, since I'm not actively using it right now. I'm really torn because I don't want to be the evil stepsister but I also don't want my dad to see his first kids' treasured items as something he can just give to his new family at his own disposal. ######

Response: NTA- If you care about these things, you should be able to keep them. Especially since you have plans to pass them down eventually. I think it helps everyone in the long run if you separate your stuff out.  And as an added bonus, if there is anything you don't see yourself keeping, you could always leave that behind for them if they want it! ######


Prompt:
Tldr at the end

There's talks about small gatherings being able to happen before my birthday so my parents wanted to invite family over & I told my grandmother if it's possible to come over she can celebrate her birthday as well (There's a week difference between my grandmother & mw while a 9 day  difference me & My cousin)
also i dislike kids because they cause me to break down.

 my auntie was told about this & then she Was saying how great it was that myself, My grandmother & My cousin will be celebrating the same day. My mother said that's not happening, There will be drinking & I can't deal with kids yet my auntie kept demanding her to just ask me.  (legal age of drinking in my country is 16 with Parent supervision & in your own home, 18 for buying)

I have been helping sort out my backgarden to make a makeshift 'bar' & invite few neighbours, My auntie, her 2 kids & My grandparents over. There will be social distancing & also theyll not be there for long periods of time ( & again this is only in talks for now, it all depends on what the rules are)

I avoid voicing myself & never wanted to celebrate my other birthdays but I've been planning to celebrate my 18th for years with my parents so I'm not sure if I'm being an asshole or if what I'm doing is fair

TLDR:

Auntie is trying to convince me to allow her kids birthday  ti be celebrated with my 18th party because I asked my grandmother to celebrate her birthday with me. there will be drinking &  social distancing (Wont  happen if the rules arent allowing small gatherings.)  I feel bad since I don't usually see my birthday as a big deal but Its my only one I ever wanted to celebrate so I'm not sure if I'm actually an AH or being  reasonable ######

Response: NTA- if there’s alcohol, a kid shouldn’t be celebrating their birthday there. Your aunt should do something kid like for your cousins birthday. You and your grandmother are adults. I doubt that your cousin even wants to share the celebration anyways, it’s likely just your aunts doing. ######


Prompt:
At the time I was 18(F). I was doing a Media Make-Up and SFX course, and when I applied I was not aware there would be hairdressing aswell, I wasn’t interested.
I have Afro-carribean hair and was the only mixed-race person in the class. My teacher and the rest of the girls had straight hair. She wanted the girls to be blow-drying/straightening/rollering my hair, which I explained they can’t because my hairs DIFFERENT and it could ruin it (genuinely, as I use African natural products and I never ever use heat - It’s also super super curly?) and she said I had NO CHOICE but to participate, I was extremely upset. She tried to put a fckin brush through my DRY hair which hurt and I flipped out and left, I have to wash my hair wet & conditioned for obvious reasons. And I felt like despite her being a qualified hairdresser, she should either have some knowledge of my type of hair or not go near it at all. My other teachers & the girls then became super bitchy and telling me I’m “acting superior” which caused my anxiety to rocket, and I eventually left. AITA? ######

Response: Nta- if the teacher was worth a shit she would have used it as an opportunity to teach them how to work with your hair type not destroy it. Then to bully you instead of admitting she had no clue what she was doing. She sounds like a dangerous form of idiot. I'd file a complaint and demand my money back. Walking out was the most common sense thing that happened in this whole story. ######


Prompt:
Well this post isn't really about me but my sister wants to know if she's the asshole here

Me(15f) and my sister (22f) recently got a visit from one of our aunts who was about to have a child. She said that she needed a place to stay for a few days.

My sister told her that she couldn't because they don't have any room for her. In reality our aunt has a habit of trashing a house within a day and overstays her welcome.

The next day we find a post on Facebook saying how we're bad people who forced a pregnant lady to sleep in her car. My sister feels really bad about it is she the asshole ######

Response: NTA- if she was bad before, cue using her pregnancy as an excuse why she's awful when she's there. ######


Prompt:
I gave birth January 4th 2018 to the cutest (may be a little biased there) little girl.

My relationship with her father was low contact when we broke up (he wasnt ready to be a father...despite having a second child born in May 2018?)

He would visit every weekend, he didnt want custody and probably wouldn't get anything other than supervised anyway due to his history.

His partner started posting pictures that I sent to him with captions as though it was her baby which was strike 1, I asked him to stop it which led to this huge fight which I wont go into detail about.

Then come to August 2018 he just disappears from her life.

Last week he contacted me out of the blue asking for some pictures of our daughter.

I haven't sent him anything and haven't responded.

But the group I'm in say I'm an AH and should just send at least one picture, be the bigger person.

AITA? ######

Response: NTA- if he’s really interested in seeing his child he can arrange for visitation ######


Prompt:
It was around 1 PM in the afternoon. Wife accidentally called her male college friend when trying to hook her phone up to the charger. We started discussing the prospect of having an afternoon quickie, then I went to wash up quickly before coming back.

Twenty minutes later we finished and found that her friend had hung up the phone right when we were done. He was listening the entire time even during our discussion.

I called him and yelled at him for claiming to be such a devout and religious man then violating our privacy when the call clearly was an accident.

AITA? ######

Response: NTA- idk how you can call someone without realising but he was a total asshole and a creep when he didn’t stop listening. Someone said that you violated his privacy by calling back, but I feel like that’s made redundant because it was to cuss him out about *listening in on you two* ######


Prompt:
My roommate and I don't see eye to eye on many things. The only relevant issue here is that I'm a  germaphobe and my roommate is the exact opposite.

 I was cooking myself a meal on the stove for myself. My roommate came out and initiated conversation. I've lately been avoiding interacting with her because of her hygiene issue.  (I've told her politely that her odor makes me nauseated; but she can't help it because of her mental health.) During the conversation she was picking at her nose, teeth, and scratching herself inside her pants. I ignored the hygiene issues during the conversation because I couldn't leave my food half cooked and didn't want her getting angry with me for addressing it.

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After my food was finished, I excused myself to go switch laundry. (This takes me less than two minutes.) The food was off the burner and resting.

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I came back to find my roommate hunched over the food, prodding at it. When she realized I was back, she jumped and shoved it away from her. I asked her what she was doing and she became very defensive insisting she didn't want it to burn, and then that she "just wanted to touch it".

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I told her she can go ahead and eat it because I didn't want it anymore. She called me paranoid and an asshole. She's insisted multiple times that I'm acting like I'm better than her and that she would never do anything bad to my food. But I'm just grossed by the idea of her messing with my food at all, even if she didn't directly touch it. The food is sitting out there right now and no one is eating it.

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TLDR; I'm refusing to eat food my roommate allegedly wanted to help with. AITA? ######

Response: NTA- I’m not even a Germaphobe and find this gross, I wouldn’t eat it either ######


Prompt:
I've been living with my current roommate for about 5 years now, and she has a habit of leaving her shoes (sometimes several pairs) in the middle of the floor in the entryway, right in front of the door.

I've been tripping over these damn shoes for several years now, and about a year ago i was sick and tired of moving them by hand, so i started just kicking them out of the way instead. Several times i've told her to please put them to the side so they aren't in the way, but it's fallen on deaf ears every time.

One day we were out getting groceries together she saw me kicking her her shoes out of the way as we walked in with heavy bags in our hands, and she told me to stop kicking them. I responded with "No, why won't you just put them out of the way instead?".

A few days later, shoes still there, i got fed up. I put her shoes on top the closet, which is too high up for her to reach, just to prove a point. When she finally noticed she got furious and asked why i would do that, and if i did it just to prove a point. She called me an AH, we argued for a couple minutes, and it ended when she went out the door. It's never been brought up since.

Well, it actually worked. The shoes aren't in the way every single time anymore, but i've been wondering if i went about it the wrong way? Frankly, i felt like i was out of options.

So, AITA? ######

Response: NTA- I’d say 5 years is more than enough. ######


Prompt:
Guys, please tell me if I was too harsh with my roommate. I’m going to admit that I find her pretty annoying and slightly racist.

We live in an apartment building that caters to student housing. They rent by the bedroom, so I did not know my roommate before I moved in at the beginning of the semester ( she was there first and has had three other roommates)

Now, either she’s ignorant or racist but there are things that she does that bothers me. She constantly asks me questions about “black” things. Think, “Do black people really....” When she saw me make my dinner one time she said “wow black people really can cook!” And offered to pay me to cook for her. She calls me “boo”. She just seems like an alien that has never met a black person before.

The thing that annoys me most is that she is constantly asking me to teach her how to twerk and shake her ass, or to do it myself. I am actually a ballet dancer, and while I have nothing against ass shaking, it annoys me that it is all that I am boiled down to.

Before this whole lock down mess it was easy to avoid her. Now I’m stuck with her and she’s getting on my nerves.

Last night she busted into my room playing Ass by Big Sean on her phone. I was reading. She had a bit to drink and started asking me to dance with her and show her how to twerk. I told her no. And she begged me, saying “come on I want to learn!” I said “It’ll he hard to learn with no ass...” And she actually got super upset about that y’all! She started yelling about how she was trying to have fun with me, calling me stuck up, and *crying*.

She went to her room and left me alone for the rest of the night, this morning I said hello to her and she’s ignoring me. It seems like I really hurt her feelings. At the same time, maybe it taught her not to bother me. Idk, am I an asshole for saying she has no ass? ######

Response: NTA- I was all ready to asshole you up after reading the headline, but wow. Your room mate is a racist ass with no ass. Good for you for standing up for yourself. I’m sorry you have to live with such blatant ignorance, I hope you can move soon. ######


Prompt:
My mom knows I (17f) can’t stand the taste or smell of teriyaki sauce. I have told her this multiple times, because the smell/taste makes me sick to my stomach. I ask her for a heads up whenever she makes something with teriyaki sauce in it so I can grab something for myself to eat.

I went grocery shopping for my mom today, and when I come back, my mom tells me it’s time for dinner. I go into the kitchen, and the smell hits me. She made beef tips and then covered it in a whole ass layer of teriyaki. I got a bit upset with her and asked her why she didn’t tell me she was making dinner with teriyaki sauce, and she laughs and says that it was just a last minute thing. I told her that maybe she shouldn’t have done that last minute thing, because now I couldn’t go grab something to eat from a restaurant (it was around 7:30, most stores close around 8:00 now, and we live like thirty minutes out from the closest fast food place)

Mom called my brothers “Andy” (16m) and David (13m) into the room and told them that I was “being picky” and refusing to eat. They started giving me shit about it, and I told them if they really wanted me to eat it, they could clean up my puke later.

Apparently I ruined dinner by being picky about food covered in something that makes me sick, and my mom is acting like a 5 year old who got upset (huffing, sighing, refusing to talk, etc.) and Andy told me I should’ve sucked it up and ate it. To sum it up: i basically ruined the entire night for my family by not eating.

AITA for not eating food covered in teriyaki sauce?

EDIT: because I just realized people might be confused about why I can’t just make something in the kitchen: My mom doesn’t like people cooking after dinner’s been made, or even people being in the kitchen afterwords. ######

Response: NTA- I used to hate peas and I literally threw up when my mom kept forcing me to eat them. I feel your pain. Maybe your mom really forgot but instead of telling you to suck it up she should have been more apologetic. ######


Prompt:
Loaned niece $1000 for her wedding expenses a few years ago; my sister asked for the loan on her behalf because she was too proud/shy... but when I said yes niece thanked me profusely. Niece has never paid any of it back, but sister paid just over half of it for her until I said STOP because it's not her debt (my sister barely makes ends meet).
FFWD to now; no family get togethers lately due to COVID, so no bday gift (usually a card with around $100) for niece back in March. After recently dropping off a gift at sister's for another family member, niece tells her mother "Oh, well, Uncle didn't get me anything for my bday".
I admit that I still think about the money owed -not hurting for it, but just the principle of the thing and that I feel taken for granted ...miffed that not even an attempt has been made by her to pay ANY of it back. So I was thinking 'fuck it' and would skip her $ present this year (maybe she would subtly get why, perhaps?). I'm pretty annoyed that she would bring it up to her mother like that; she is 25 years old now! However, in the interest of not causing a rift with my sister (or possibly the rest of the family), I am debating giving her belated birthday $ at the next family function... thoughts? ######

Response: Nta- I suggest a birthday card with a note inside saying £50/£100 has been taken off her debt to you. That way you have both given her a gift and reminded her she owes you money ######


Prompt:
I came to live with my parents in Alaska when Universities told their students to go home and I just graduated. Even though I’m on social security, I still managed to save some money for an emergency. I had to leave all of my home goods in the lower 48 and I’m expected to pay for my vehicle and possessions to be driven here. But that’s not the issue.
My sister and her fiancé decided to move back home too because of some hard financial hits and coronavirus cutting her work hours. I asked if I could move in with her when the time comes because generally just want to get a different job and don’t want to live with my parents anymore. I told her I would help pay rent and that we would have strictly roommate relationship rules. She didn’t say anything at first, but a couple days later asked to borrow money from me for the entire deposit, I said yes and that’s when she informed me I wouldn’t be allowed to move with her.

So I’m wanting to know if I would be the asshole if I told her I changed my mind about loaning her the money? I already said I would, I know she’s in a financial situation and I’ll probably never see the money again, but what she did really just... yeah. ######

Response: NTA- I see people saying get it in writing, but it's still a legal hassle to get the money back if she refuses to repay you upfront. Don't give her anything, use the money for your own deposit. ######


Prompt:
Since the pandemic, I’ve been working from home. I am a Spanish tutor and tutor students by appointment through video chats. Today, I told my boyfriend that I had an appointment, which means to please be quiet and not interrupt me.

I’m in the middle of tutoring this student (she’s older, very well-mannered) and all of a sudden we hear my boyfriend scream “SHUT THE FUCK UP” at one of the dogs followed by “MOTHERFUCKER”. The client sat there mouth agape and then she quickly ended the call.

I texted my boyfriend saying something along the lines of “Can you not yell curse words while I’m on a call? What the fuck?” all the while trying to reconnect with the client. She did not pick up. I’m certain she’s reporting me to my boss, and I will likely get fired.

My boyfriend texted me an apology. I was so pissed and anxious I didn’t respond. Later he came in and said he was sorry again. I told him an apology was not sufficient at all. I’ve been at this job for almost five years, it’s a work-study job through the university which I get food stamps and they work with my nursing school schedule, and it’s the only way I can pay for my bills and medication. I’m also applying to a graduate program and was depending on the supervisor recommendation from my boss. Now that’s all out the window.

It is 100% his fault that I’m getting fired, and he makes more in a day than I do in a week. I can’t get a “normal” job because of my erratic nursing school schedule, and I’ll lose my food stamps and any other income.

WIBTA for demanding he compensate me for my lost job if I’m fired?

Edit: Just received word from my boss that I am suspended from working until further decisions are made. ######

Response:
 NTA- I read some of the comments, OP. Your boyfriend is a dog trainer that screams at dogs? That's highly concerning.

I'd make him pay since he made you lose the job.  Or suspended according to your edit? What are chances you'll lose your job? Jw? ######


Prompt:
So my close friend (Q) & her bf (W) are getting engaged this weekend. They’ve been dating for 4 years but when they announced their intention to marry, Q’s family was completely against it & said some vile things to W, who is a lovely, wonderful guy. It hurt them both deeply, but they’ve decided to proceed anyways.

In the process of planning (& hiding) the engagement, but I’ve told off 2 people (both girls):

1. A, Q’s other friend who is working with me for deco. She said we should get guests to print their pictures with Q, write cute notes & scatter it around the tables. I thought it was a nice idea until I clarified with her if she meant the guests & THE COUPLE. She said either way was fine, but it was better if it’s just the guests & Q. I told her it wasn’t Q’s birthday, and unless Q’s marrying herself, shouldn’t we be celebrating the couple? She FINALLY got it after multiple times of me repeating it & agreed that we should plan it to surprise the couple.

2. B, another friend who blurted out the idea mentioned above in the group chat with W. When I told her it was meant to be a surprise for both Q & W, B said ‘oh it’s okay, engagements are for the girl anyway’. I was LIVID. B knew how Q’s family treated W & how W has been affected. & she’s just disregarding him? I told B the same thing I told A, & it took a while before she got it.

So yes, my bf said I was harsh but I wanted to know what you guys think. Should I have let them completely ignore W on his engagement day? ######

Response: NTA- I personally feel like a lot of people try to say it’s just for the girl, but that’s not true. Weddings are about two people coming together and literally merging everything. It’s a big deal for both parties. Regardless of how Q’s family treated W, it’s still his big day too. ######


Prompt:
Some background. My wife’s siblings are incredibly entitled along with her stepdad and sometimes her mother.

Sadly my pug (Otis) passes away last week. My wife and I are pretty torn up. He was an amazing dog who loved just about anyone, who’d give him food. Word soon got around to my In-Laws who at first felt sorry, but then after learning how he died (he had chronic heart problems) were saying we were stupid to trust modern medicine and if an animal is born weak it should die. The final stray was when me and my wife were in a zoom call with my SIL, and she said the following, I can’t believe you guys are hung up over your dumb dog. He was a dumb bitch who deserved to die. I. Saw. Red. I told her to shut the FUCK up and that she needs to stop being such a bitch all the time. It’s been a couple of days and my wife wants me to apologize for causing “drama” in the family. The way I see it is they’re the ones being inconsiderate assholes. So reddit, AITA ######

Response:
 NTA- I hope your SIL never wants to see you again so you can be rid of that insufferable woman.

I am very sorry for your loss, Otis was probably a great little guy. I’d love to see your favorite photo of him or maybe hear a story about him if you want to share some good memories. I have a 12 year old dog who is showing signs of brain cancer and I am genuinely afraid of what I would do to a person who said something like that about her. ######


Prompt:
(This happened a while ago, no big weddings during a pandemic for me, dw!)

I (24F) was the maid of honour at the wedding of my brother and his wife (my sister in law).

While we were planning the wedding, my SIL mentioned how overbearing her mom can be, and how she always feels bad asking her to stop being an attention hog. I told my SIL that on the wedding day, I'd take care of her, no matter what.

Sure enough, MIL pulls up to the wedding wearing a WHITE dress (something my SIL guessed she'd do). I saw her get out of her car and start walking towards the venue, so I pulled her aside before anyone could see her and brought her in through a side entrance.

I told her that it was inappropriate to wear white at someone else's wedding, and that if she wanted to attend, she'd have to change. I had my SIL give me some of MIL's nice dresses, so I had a few for her to chose from.

MIL flipped out on me. She told me I had no right to ask her to change and that I was being a pain in the ass on an emotional day. She started crying and went to look for her husband, so I updated SIL & she told me if MIL would rather miss her own daughter's wedding rather than just change her dress, she could miss it.

MIL ended up changing, but made a HUGE deal out of it and went home early during the reception because she "didn't feel welcome". She still maintains that I was out of line. I don't think I did anything wrong, but I do feel really shitty for potentially being the reason my SIL wasn't able to enjoy her wedding fully with her mother (even though SIL still had crazy amounts of fun). AITA? ######

Response: NTA- I can't believe the mom would try to take away her own daughter's spotlight. You did the right thing (especially since SIL previously mentioned how it bothered her) ######


Prompt: Yeah I now it sounds weird. My daughter is 2 and currently her favorite thing to do is to strip all her clothes off, take off her diaper, and pee everywhere while laughing maniacally. Partly because she hates the wet diaper, and while we are working on potty training, she is not quite physically ready, despite being mentally ready. Anyways, I’ve started referring to her as “the goblin” whenever she does this, and my husband thinks it’s hilarious and now whenever she’s covered in pudding/peanut butter/ takes off her diaper and pees while laughing maniacally, he also refers to her as “the goblin.” Usually it’s “the goblin needs a bath.” That kind of thing. Anyways, some of friends think it’s mean to call our daughter a goblin. Are we the assholes here? ######

Response: NTA- I call my sister an evil demon because of her very weird but still adorable laugh. Also because she can be evil. Kids are weird. Your kid just happens to act like a goblin. Hence the name goblin. ######


Prompt:
Before everyone judges me as an asshole, let me give a little backstory.

My brother in law got me a pair of really awesome boots 3 Christmases ago. I loved them. However, he got me the wrong size. I literally could not fit my foot into them. I asked my husband to ask my brother in law if he could exchange the shoes for the right size...and it just never happened. This pair of shoes has been sitting in my garage for over 3 years now because my brother in law has said he just doesn't have the time or the receipt anymore to get the right size.

So, today, I sold them. Money has been really tight with both my husband and I laid off and not receiving unemployment/stimulus yet. I made a pretty profit too because they are high end shoes that have literally never been worn.

My husband is really angry at me for. Called me ungrateful and that I should be "ashamed of myself" for selling them. Even though now we will be able to pay the light bill and get a few groceries after selling these shoes.

So AITA? I do understand where my husband is coming from - they were a gift, even though I've never been able to wear the shoes. My own BIL told him to chill out when he called BIL up to tell him how "ungrateful" I am. I just didn't see a reason to keep a pair of shoes around that I am never going to wear. :/ ######

Response: NTA- how is it better to leave them sitting in a closet to literally never be worn because they are the wrong size and you never got the exchange you asked for?? ######


Prompt:
I know this sounds bad.  I feel bad about it but I don't think I should pay them more.

Here's why:

- I was never on the lease
- I didn't pay any bond
- I was sub renting
- I gave them 10 workdays notice,  then paid for another 2,5 weeks to make it a month.
- I communicated everything with them that they need to find another person
- I made all the ads and pictures of the pace
- I made a letter to the landlord stating due to xyz I cannot be in this country anymore and if the rent could be lowered.

I was in this place for 3 months.  All went fine but then hell broke loose. I had to get back home since my family needed me.
When my roommates (24 f & m) heard this, they pushed me to get on the lease.

Furthermore they were understanding, helping me by just talking and I made ads to find someone new.  I had several people coming by the place but they didn't get my room since they wanted someone long term (year+) and between 20-30.

I had to catch a plane and put most of my stuff into storage.

They couldn't find anyone after 2 weeks and they asked me to transfer rent.  I told them I need to pay for 2 places now so I'll only do 2 weeks for you guys to find someone new.  They were grateful.

2 weeks later they explode and expect me to keep on paying since they haven't found someone new. It would be my responsibility and they are calling me names now saying they might have to move now etc.

I feel horrible for them but to be fair why would I pay for a place I haven't lived in for 3 weeks and I don't have any responsibility for?

One side I'm like maybe I should help them out even more.  But I'm out of a job and stuff is bad in my hometown now too.
I need the money myself. ######

Response: NTA- honestly this is a risk your roommates opened themselves up to when they let you move in without putting you on the lease. It sounds like you gave them plenty of warning and even worked to help them find a new roommate. Honestly, it's not hard to find a sublease, and it's not up to you to find one since you don't live in that space anymore. ######


Prompt:
So, basically, for the past month, I've been planning a cross country move back to my college town. I had some plans to stay with friends, and get there on July first so I can move in.

When I told my mom I was moving out, she was somewhat upset with me with how sudden it was, and was upset I didn't give her enough time to make plans for her to take time off work so she could come with me.

So I decided to post pone my move in date to a later date - about a week off. But this also means not staying with some of my friends along the way, and means me sitting around for another week extra while I wait.

I'm considering telling her tomorrow that it might be better if I go earlier and by myself so I can stick to my original plan. I know this is probably going to upset her and she won't like it....but would I really be the asshole? ######

Response: NTA- honestly just go. It can be really hard for parents to let go. ######


Prompt:
This is a short story, I live in England, born and raised, a friend of mine who I've known for years since we were in primary school once asked me if he could use my debit card to buy the DLCs for Grand Theft Auto IV on his XBOX 360, I agreed for him to do it He then returned my card to me and said he would pay be back. e didn't. He left my card details on his xbox for a couple of months making unauthorised purchases, to the point when my bank statement came in and it showed tonnes of money being poured out from my account, I then confronted him showing him the bank statements, I then went on his XBOX and I found my card details still there. I was pissed off at him for doing this as in REALLY PISSED I then removed my card, I then called up Microsoft asking them to refund my money and they kindly did, I then cutoff contact with him and never saw him again.
Last I heard of him was when I tried to contact me i then blocked him. Haven't heard of him in ages.

Am I the asshole? ######

Response: NTA- he’s a little thief. ######


Prompt:
I’ll keep this short.

I’ve worked at a restaurant for a while and there’s this one guy that usually comes. We’ve casually chatted a bit and have a casual relationship. He’s hot. I’m not. He usually comes really late, I’ve talked to him twice in the parking lot after my shift ended. He also initiates and carries on these conversations, I’m not harassing him.

I decided to shoot my shot, after work today we were talking again and I asked him out. He said no. I was fine with this. I was about to accept that and leave, but after the initial rejection he went on about how he just couldn’t force himself to be attracted to me physically, “you’re a very nice girl but . . .” and all that jazz. I felt a little hurt by this because he could’ve just aid no, there was no reason to go off on my appearance, I already knew he wasn’t physically attracted to me after the first no. I felt he was being kind of condescending. He continued to “comfort” me afterwards, saying he was sure I would find a good guy, looks aren’t everything, to keep my head up, etc. It was also really embarrassing because his friend was there and could hear everything going on. He looked really awkward and uncomfortable.

I went home and was obviously pretty bummed. My brother noticed and asked why so I told him and he told me the guy was TA. I kind of ranted about it to to three of my friends in a group chat and they agreed there was no need to list the reasons why he wouldn’t date me. At the end I calmed down and said I was over it, we talked about other stuff.

I guess one of my friends must have told friends and apparently he found out, he reached out to me on social media and said I was a bitter bitch. AITA ######

Response: NTA- He was insensitive for listing the reasons why hes not attracted to you, and it's completely understandable for you to be upset and vent with trusted friends. He shouldn't have contacted you and called you a bitch. ######


Prompt:
Throwaway because he uses reddit.

My fiancée (21M) and I (22F) have been together for 2 years, living together for most our relationship.

At first he moved into the apartment I already owned. He solely cleaned litter boxes as I tend to be allergic to litter dust, but other than that we both always did all of the other chores around the house.

After around 6 months of us both living in my small studio apartment, we decided to try to find a bigger place owned by the same landlady as she's been amazing. I preferred a 1 bedroom apartment that was on the third floor, had a dishwasher (important), central heating and air, and on site laundry. He preferred a one bedroom on the first floor (I hate living on the first floor), no dishwasher (and no room to have one installed), no on site laundry, and a wallunit that didn't flow any air into the bedroom. I could compromise on everything but the dishwasher as I couldn't stand doing dishes by hand. He said if that was the only thing I didn't like, then he would just always to do the dishes. I agreed and we live there now.

Its been a little over a year living here, at first he had no problem with being the only one doing the dishes. I've always put up the clean dishes, as long as he washes them, and other than that and of course litters boxes, we split all the other chores evenly. But I feel that since the excitement of the new place has worn off and now he refuses to do any dishes, letting them pile up up and up until I have nagged him enough and helped him put them all up. Rather than do them as they came into the sink everyday, he now will wait weeks to do it.

But now he's saying it's unfair that he has to do the dishes. Like I said, it's not like I don't help at all with the dishes, and it's not like he does all the chores in the house and I do none.

So reddit, AITA for holding my fiancée up to his promise of doing the dishes? ######

Response: NTA- he made the promise. You’re also compromising on so much he should be willing to keep up his one commitment he made to you. ######


Prompt:
My daughter is 3. My next door neighbor has a 3 year old son. My neighbor is an essential worker so I watch her son during the day. He and my daughter are very good friends and tell me often that they are married. It’s obviously innocent and cute.

Since I’m still working, I’ve been letting them watch a lot of tv so I can get my work done. They like to cuddle up together under a blanket while they watch. Sometimes they even fall asleep (which is a total bonus for me.)

They were knocked out under the blanket together one afternoon and I didn’t want to wake them up by moving them. My daughters father FaceTimed me and asked to see her. I told him she wasn’t sleeping but I turned the camera around and showed her napping with her friend. Her father hung up and later called me and yelled at me for allowing her to cuddle with a boy. He said it was inappropriate and that I was encouraging an unhealthy relationship. I told him he was being creepy and they’re 3. He got very angry and is telling people that I am wrongly calling him names. Am I the asshole for calling him a creep? ######

Response: NTA- He had those thoughts in his head. 3 year olds snuggin on the couch is perfectly harmless. ######


Prompt:
I f16 and my brother m29 usually get along well but since i was about 10 years old all responability of his daughter f8 has fallen on me. I love my niece so much, shes always been the sweetest kid and i love to play with her, shes like my mini me, but for 2 weeks straight its just like  havinv my own kid.
My brother and his ex have split custody and we have my niece 2 weeks out of the month and while shes in i do everything! Getting her ready in the morning, cooking for her, doing her hair, helping her wash her hair in the bath, doing all homework and bedtime reading and playing ALL DAY. I dont mind helping out with her but its expected of me and it can get really Frustrating, especially when i have to stay home from plans and babysit without pay so he can go out. So WITBA if i told him its not my job to raise his child? ######

Response: NTA- he can go out the two weeks he doesn’t have her, or once in awhile. It’s extremely important to set a boundary, that you are not her nanny, and he needs to do his job as a father. ######


Prompt:
Basically, my bf has a friend or two over about once a week. When they come over, these guys will drink a full case of beer and eat so much (like what one of them eats for one meal would be three meals for me). I don’t mind them eating and drinking all this but me and my bf split groceries 50/50. My bf’s friends never pay for anything - they don’t even bring over a 6pack when they hang out. I’m sick of buying a 24 case of beer for it to be gone in two days because of my bf’s friends and for buying a weeks worth of groceries only for half of it to disappear in one night.

So WIBTA if I tell my bf that he has to pay for the alcohol and food that him and his friends consume? ######

Response: NTA- have a conversation with your bf. Tell him he needs to start going to the store for his “party” food and drinks before his buddies come over. That the shared groceries are off limits now. He may stop having them over so often if he has to financially support that burden by himself ######


Prompt:
35(f) here who met an amazing lady back in February. I'm mom to cool cat 9 year old daughter. Lady moved in relatively quickly, partially in due to that old lesbian stereotype, and also because 'Rona.

For the most part the transition went smoothly. Daughter's dad and I share 50/50 custody and have great friendship. Every Friday my daughter and I like to have a "girls night" of just her and I doing stupid shit.

We've been including girlfriend in these Friday night romps and she's been mindful of letting us have our space. Until last night. Daughter wanted to watch movies and sleep on pull out couch with me.

Girlfriend was pissed. She said she wanted to sleep next to her person, which is me. Well I'm that little person's person too. I told her I loved her and that one night of me sleeping on pull out watching movies with my kid shouldn't be an issue. I sleep in bed with GF every night of the week.

Today I'm getting the silent treatment.

AITA? ######

Response: NTA- hate to say it but this should be a huge red flag and sign of problems to come. She needs to respect your relationship with your daughter. ######


Prompt: I (16) was on a call with my girlfriend (16) when my little sister (6) entered the room. She was being loud so I told her to leave and my girlfriend says "oh my god, I hate her", then I said "excuse me?" and she repeated "shes just annoying I don't like her.". I told her to knock it off and she got defensive. She said "I wasn't being disrespectful I didn't call her a bitch or a slut or call her any names". I hung up on her. We have been dating for about 1.25 years and my little sister has always loved her and I thought she loved my little sister too, but I guess not. And she keeps telling me im acting like a child and being disrespectful. Then she goes and talks to my friend, lets call him Brad. And brad messages me and says how I'm gonna lose her because I don't "have my shit in order" and I'm exaggerating. Now everyone is pissed at me because my girlfriend is saying shit about my little sister. AITA for being mad at my girlfriend? ######

Response: NTA- good on you for sticking up for your defenseless sister ######


Prompt: My sisters plays sports. Whenever she gets home from a game or practice she just comes in and lays on the couch for awhile. She never showers immediately. That’s a personal choice. The problem is that for days afterwards when you sit where she was sitting or attempt to use the blanket she did, it smells like straight BO. IMO if she’s not going to be hygienic and shower afterwards, she shouldn’t be allowed to be on the couch. Obviously, I’m not talking about sitting down to take her shoes off or anything, I mean for a decent amount of time. If she wants to lay or sit on her bed and blankets and they smell like BO, fine, go ahead. I just don’t think it’s fair that we all have to sit somewhere that is covered in her dry sweat and odors. It’s a shared space. I think I may be the asshole for asking her because it might come off as bossy or over controlling. I’m worried it’s not actually a big enough deal to bring up. I just think it’s unhygienic and inconsiderate. ######

Response: Nta- fabrics soak up the sweat and now she’s making stuff that’s not hers smelly and isn’t cleaning it, just let her know ######


Prompt:
Myself and my husband are due in october, after two miscarriages last year due to (now resolved) issues with my heart and kidneys and the surrounding treatment.

Everything is good this time around, and part of the journey of recovery for us is buying things for the baby, keeping things we bought for the last 2, and trying to enjoy my pregnancy instead of being very scared something is going to happen.

Me and husband have not great relationships with our families and no contact with some, for a lot of reasons, but are doing by far the best emotionally and financially, which can cause tension.

They have all rang insisting on giving us all their second hand stuff, I mean, piles and piles of it. My sister had a child with someone from a family with hygiene and smoking issues and we especially do not want clothes from them.

I spoke generally to everyone that we would like to buy our own stuff and gave our reasons (they know our m/c history) and also that as its our first child we would like to buy stuff new that we have chosen.

 Also that if they want to buy anything new the money would probably be more useful so we can get the stuff we need.

I've been called ungrateful, money grabbing, childish, been told that just because we are well off we think we are too good for their stuff.

I've spoke to friends who think that a baby is a "family event" and I'm excluding my family from the joy of preparing. But we have almost no relationship anyway, and had no plans in them being involved with the child.

Aita ? Am I ungrateful and excluding ? :(

*edit* just to add that a lot of them have issues with hoarding, over buying and spending too much. We are the opposite and as zero waste as possible and are determined to buy as little as we need ######

Response:
 NTA- even though it's pretty normal to keep the baby stuff for someone else and giving it to them, they're in no position to tell you how to handle this. If you want to buy everything new, that's on you. You don't have take presents you wouldn't be grateful for, or maybe even throw away. But that's always an option. Take everything, fake smile, trash can.

Edit: donation is probably a better solution than a trash can. But I like to exaggerate. And you do understand what I want to say. ######