Prompt:
Backstory here: I'm Indian, so I wear saris basically everywhere because my parents are really strict about my heritage. Second, I have eczema, so my lower body is covered with scratches, dry skin and scales, and the sari helps cover it up.

So, I'm at my Indian-American cousin (male) to a beautiful American woman's (who we'll call Laura) wedding. Its in India so I pack mostly saris, lehengas and one maxi gown with stockings. (There are a lot of events: mehendi, haldi, thaledivasum, madhereveppu, wedding rehearsal, after party, evening party, two receptions, the ceremony, etc)
So for the haldi, I'm wearing a yellow net sari, which mostly everyone wears for haldi (because they smear turmeric on the bride and the women)
To my shock, the guests were mostly American women wearing short dresses. The bride pulls me aside and asks me to change because she felt MY dress was too gaudy, and hands me a short dress with a diamond pattern. See, I wouldn't have been averse to changing if she had given me a longer dress, but she gave a mini dress which showed off my legs, which were covered in scars, scales, scratches, etc. So, I refused, but I told her that if she could find me a longer dress I would change. She told me I was a bitch for dressing up like that for a haldi, as it obviously was too extravagant for small events.
I left, and that night I was called by a lot of the bride's family members and friends (don't know how they got my number) and told me I was an asshole and things like that because I wouldn't change after the bride had very politely given me a dress and asked me to change, and accused me of trying to upstage her.
So, AITA? ######

Response: NTA and it’s weird of her to hold an event specific to your culture and not want you to wear the clothing that is entirely appropriate and traditional for the event. ######


Prompt: Husband and I have been struggling financially for a while now. I’ve tried making up a budget that lists our income, expenses, due dates, and balances on credit cards, but he won’t use it. We sold his car to pay off some bills a few months ago, used our tax return to pay off more bills, and I assumed that this stimulus money all went towards bills as well (we have separate bank accounts and I don’t have access to his). Well, today, we got a huge package. I had no idea we ordered anything so I was confused. It was a PS4. He bought a PS4 without even talking to me about it. While I’ve been wanting one for years, they cost so much that I’ve just accepted that I wouldn’t be getting one until they came down in price and we were more stable. I asked him how he paid for it and he said he’d put it on the GameStop credit card (that we had JUST paid off a couple of months ago!). He said it was a combination anniversary gift for me and early birthday present for him. He doesn’t understand why I’m mad because I had said I wanted one. Am I the asshole for being mad that he got it? ######

Response: NTA and it wasn't a gift for you. It was for him. ######


Prompt:
Client Refuses to Pay Me for Commission, Says I’m Twisting Her Arm

Can somebody back me up here?

One year ago I was contacted for a commission for voicework. I won’t give the client’s name. She had also separately commissioned a scriptwriter as well. That writer did not produce the script for over 6 months, but once they did I had the recordings done in under a week.

I sent them to the client, and then waited for a response. Of course a lot of big developments started happening in my life shortly thereafter. Proposing, moving to England, having a baby. Up until yesterday I’d forgotten about the commission. But upon remembering I sent an email to the client. I stated that I felt I’d been more than patient and wanted to know why I hadn’t been compensated. I also warned her that if I was not compensated, I would refuse to work with her again and tell my colleagues not to either.

I got a message back this morning stating that I shouldn’t expect the terms of a deal to stay the same after a year of no communication. That she feels uncomfortable that I’m “twisting her arm” like this. Then she goes off on how 2019 was a really rough year for her and criticizes me for “threatening” her after a year.

I  responded stating that I wasn’t trying to threaten her, but that these are are consequences of going back on our agreement.  Am I the asshole here? ######

Response:
 NTA and INFO - Is voice acting your main source of income? This doesn't really matter because you offered a service and she should pay for said service. Its just basic Economics. However, it does clarify a few things like why she didn't pay at first or why a year occured before any action was taken.

I understand you got really busy with marriage, moving, and pregnancy, and that makes her even more of an asshole for her reaction. ######


Prompt: so I rewrote this because the original was hard to understand warning (I’m bad at typing) I been saving up money to get a PS4.i can’t work because of everything going on.i almost have enough to buy the PS4 and my uncle said he would cover the rest(about 80$)my bf is staying with me to use my internet to do online school until school is open again or until school ends.he thinks I should let him take the PS4 that I want to buy to his house.i live with my uncle (I might make post why later)my brother has a PS4 to but he works all day and when he gets home he plays on his PS4.My brother doesn’t like anyone in his room when he’s gone.My boyfriend is worried that people will come into my room all the time or try and take it if I buy it and keep it at my house.he said I could just play it at his house when I go over there.his house is in the other side of town and I hardly go over to his house he comes to mine more.he said that his brothers are bored and they could play on it.i love to game and I been wanting to get a PS4.he thinks I won’t use it because I would just be on Hulu all day.he got upset because I told him it didn’t make since for me to buy it and for him to keep it at his house.i thinking of not buying one now I was going to go tomorrow when my uncle was off to get one.AITA ######

Response: NTA and in fact I'm questioning your boyfriend. You are buying it, it's gonna be yours but he wants it at his house for him and his siblings to play? Yeah red flags. ######


Prompt:
Hello,

I am female and 18 years old. Currently I am working part time as a waitress while attending High School. My sister (20) has depression, epilepsy and a trauma which is causion something called dissociation. Because of this she can't go to College or work anymore. She is living with her boyfriend.

My mother and my father (they aren't together) are giving her money monthly.
My mom always tells me to give my sister money because she can't work and has no income.

Maybe I am just the A but I don't want to give her money. I am not one if her parents and not resposible for her. I work for my own money to afford my clothes, sometimes food, going out with friends and stuff I'd like to buy.

My mom is often mad because of this. Her reason is: "You are working and you have money. She can't work so help her."

My dad doesn't know about this.

AITA? ######

Response: NTA and if the parents are so worried about her having money they should apply and see if she is qualified for disability support if she is so server that she can’t do anything for herself ######


Prompt:
I randomly started flirting with this acquaintance, what started as flirting progressed to sexting, nudes and to eventually hooking up multiple times etc. I was fine with it, until i saw how much of a HYPOCRITE he is.

He’s been posting so much dumb shit on snapchat about girls who send nudes, how hookups are “morally and religiously long as you should devote your body to one person only” and things along those lines. I called him out publicly on snapchat by posting the sexual texts he sends me “i want to see both views when you drop it low” and worse.

He then calls me ranting about how much of a bitch I am, and how unnecessary that was etc. His friends are telling me to delete it, so word doesn’t get around to his religious parents who might disown him because he isn’t abstinent.  I hate hypocrites, but I’m starting to feel bad. AITA? I would be willing to apologize If i’m in the wrong, i just need an unbiased perspective. ######

Response: NTA and if he has a problem direct him to Luke 8:17 ######


Prompt:
Long story short, my fiancé has always been a drinker. He has a drink every night to wind down after working swing shift while he plays video games. His drink consists of a 20oz Yeti cup filled with ice. Then filled 2/3 with Jim Beam followed by Dr. Pepper. He’d typically just have the one drink about 11pm when he got home and come to bed about 2am.

Over the last year, his drinking has gotten crazy. He now drinks 3 of those cups a night, every single night. He stays up past 4am getting wasted while playing his game and yelling the whole time. I get up for work at 5:30 am so it’s very disturbing to sleep in our bed. Many nights I sleep on the couch. After playing and drinking, he goes and wrecks my kitchen heating up food. I used to make allowances because he was still able to get up for work and he’d let me sleep in one weekend day and take care of the kids that morning. And I don’t think I really realized how much he was drinking.

But now we’re both home, his drinking really bothers me. As I watch him fill his cup with liquor I feel repulsed. Because I know that the more he drinks, the more obnoxious and verbally abusive he becomes. Every night I’m called a bitch or a whore. And if I say anything, he says he can’t joke with me. But I don’t find it funny nor do I see how it’s a joke when I’m literally just laying there trying to sleep.

The other night I snapped. My stove was covered in queso. He had kept me up all night with his yelling and all the kitchen noise. I told him it’s us or alcohol. Previous talks asking him to slow down his drinking only made him drink more so I’m at my wits end.

His response was to say he will drink more now and maybe if I got drunk, he’d like me better. So I walked away. And I haven’t spoken to him since unless absolutely necessary. I know alcoholism is a disease and it runs in his family. I’m conflicted with wanting to be happy and feeling guilty for the ultimatum. So AITA? ######

Response: NTA and if he can't see AND acknowledge and DO SOMETHING about his problem, don't feel the least bit bad about walking away from this before you marry him ######


Prompt:
TL;DR — my husband started a YouTube channel, which I fully supported but I asked him to not record me and told him I didn’t want to be in his videos and he flipped out and deleted the whole YouTube channel. AITA?

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My husband started a YouTube channel. He got a wild, hare brained idea that it was a good idea. He told me about it, showed me his first video, I told him it was very funny and I supported him 100%. He said it was going to be a “funny, relatable, YouTube channel for dads”, I told him it was a great idea, and fully supported it. Until he tried to secretly record me and post it. I told him as he was recording me (as soon as I realized he was) that I do consent to being put on videos that are displayed for the public. And it wasn’t a sexual video or anything like that. It was literally a video of me sitting at the kitchen table eating a bowl of lucky charms. I don’t care what it was about, I point blank said I didn’t want to be in his videos. I still supported him making the channel, and told him I could support him without being in the videos. He then said he was going to post it anyway, made a comment about posting videos of our kids. I was adamantly against that — I don’t want our kids displayed for world to see. It’s just nothing something I agree with personally because I don’t want anyone to look at my child in an inappropriate way and unfortunately, the world we live in, the Internet is a child sex offenders hunting grounds. I just don’t want my kids to be out there like that, plain and simple. Anyway, he flipped out. Told me I didn’t support him, he was tired of it always being an issue if it wasn’t my way. Which it’s the complete opposite. He behaves like a child when he doesn’t get his way, always trying to guilt me into things. We fought for a while about it and I finally just walked away. He deleted the entire channel and refused to speak to me the rest of the night. Am I the asshole? ######

Response: NTA and I’m glad to hear you don’t want your kid’s being on YouTube either. Seems like so many family vlogs exploit their kids for views. ######


Prompt:
Hello all! This a quick one:

My husband and I live in predominantly white neighborhood where I, a woman of color, continuously gets stares and whispers whenever I’m out walking without my husband, who is not a person of color.

My guy wanted to go for an evening stroll before dinner. I thought that sounded like a great idea. He then said he was gonna take a can beer and if I wanted one. I said no thanks, I’ll have it when we come back. He pushed the issue, asks why I won’t have one. I jokingly said because I’ll definitely get some looks and I just want to enjoy my walk. He gets offended and says that no one will look at me it’s fine. I then seriously state I will since I can’t even walk around the neighborhood without getting them. He then says I’m overreacting and no one cares if he does it. I then point out the OBVIOUS difference between us. He was dead silent during our walk and dinner.

AITA? ######

Response: NTA and I'm sorry this happens. A long-time friend of mine is black, married to a white woman. He has always had more white friends (I'm white; I've known him for 25+ years) than people of color, and we all live in predominantly white suburbs. His house is on a corner with a big picture window. Someone called the police on him once because they "saw a black man in a nice house." He's an assistant state's attorney and the police were embarrassed when they stopped by. I was appalled when I heard the story. ######


Prompt:
My husband and I both suffer from depression. For the past few years, I’ve been able to manage mine pretty well with medication and regular therapy. He is on meds and tried therapy once a few years ago but didn’t like his therapist so he stopped and never found a new one. His depression has just gotten worse and worse.

For the past few years, he’s just been miserable. Constantly negative, complaining, etc. I’m empathetic because I’ve been there with my own depression, but now that we’ve been stuck at home with each other and our child 24/7 for the past two months, it’s getting old. I’m frustrated and drained.

Last night, after he complained to me for over an hour about how much he hates his job, I finally got frustrated enough to tell him that he needs to find a therapist, because his constant dumping on me is exhausting. He accused me of being selfish and unsupportive and said that I should be there for him. I tried to make him understand that while I do love and support him, I just don’t have the energy or capacity to be his one and only outlet. He stormed off and hasn’t spoken to me since.

AITA? ######

Response: NTA and I'm going to get down voted big time for this,but I've been there: he's wallowing. No amount of sympathy will be enough. He's almost a psychic vampire feeding off your energy. He needs a wake up call. If not that, you need to go to therapy again to learn to cope with him. There might even be support groups for you. ######


Prompt:
I’m an only child and so is my husband and we have a small house and kids. Our parents often put down our tiny, full house. My in-laws arrived shortly after we bought our house with furniture that didn’t fit in their condo even though our house is barely larger than their condo, I wasn’t consulted. My dad gave us an bunch of his furniture he didn’t want. Ok, free furniture, but there’s stuff I don’t like, like a giant chest filled with my MILs student art that must be kept and a case of ivories. I don’t want to be a person who has ivories. But now it’s starting to really irritate me. His house is at least double the square footage of mine with one person and thee unused rooms! And every time I see him he tells me to take more of my dead mom’s stuff, my dead grandma’s stuff. He pushed a big cross on me even though I’m not Christian and the gave it to my kid when I said no thanks. Today he called me and “offered” a large freestanding mirror that has been at my aunt’s house the decade+ grandma has been dead. “No thanks, I don’t have any space for it” and he gets angry. How it’s nice and “I guess she’ll give it to Goodwill”, sniff sniff. Now we have to provide homes for grandma’s stuff in other people’s houses? He has three unused rooms!
AITA for saying no and if they treasure this crap they can find room for it? ######

Response: NTA and I'm a similar position. I have no room for anything in my house but especially not outdated ugly stuff, sorry. "Sorry, I don't have the space" is a perfect response. You're not obligated to take things just because it has sentimental value for your parents. ######


Prompt:
My swimming instructor said I passed all of the requirements for the first part of my course. Then he said the last part of my course required  me to do a practical test at another swimming location the next day. I drove all the way to the new swimming pool about 30 minutes away and went into the swimming centre. I saw my swimming instructor and other swimming classmates. My swimming instructor said “sorry, I forgot that your swimming level (I am doing bronze star) doesn’t require an practical test. The practical test is only for those doing bronze medallion and above.”
So me and my family went home.
Then weeks passed and I still have not received my bronze star certificate in the mail.

I went to the swimming pool and told a staff member I haven’t received my certificate. Then she told me to write my mobile number down so my swimming teacher can contact me. Weeks had passed and I did not get a phone call from the teacher.

I went to the swimming pool one day and happened to see my swimming teacher so I said that I still haven’t received my certificate. He said “that’s not my problem if you haven’t received your certificate”. I’m not the type to argue so I just left it there and came home and told my dad.

My dad said to email the swimming organisation and say that I haven’t received my certificate. They replied back and basically didn’t believe me. Then i had to reply back explaining the whole story, I even included the part where my teacher said “it’s not my problem”. Then finally the swimming organisation replied back and apologised. I received my certificate about two months late.

Then the following year I had that same swimming teacher again to teach me swimming. He basically ignored me the entire time. AITA for going to great lengths to get my certificate? I mean I did pay around $100 for the course. ######

Response: NTA and I'd even report him again if he's treating you different than the other students. It's not your fault he was a jerk. ######


Prompt:
I (M34) bought my boyfriend (M32) a 2018 Macbook Air on sale a few months ago because he needed a new computer. It did not come with a warranty. Two days ago, he got annoyed at me that I asked him to come to bed (it was 2am), slammed the laptop shut and came.

Then, he discovered the next day that his slamming the laptop shut broke the screen. He started demanding that I pay for it because "I provoked him" and because I was so stupid to buy a laptop without a warranty. I told him he should learn not to have temper tantrums.

He has a stable, salaried job. I understand that he doesn't want to pay to fix it, but I don't see how this is my problem. ######

Response:
 NTA and I would be very wary of staying in a relationship with this person. I am not at all a “throw the whole man away, yes the whole man.” kind of person but him blaming you for his violent reaction and then demeaning you is something that abusers do. He doesn’t have to hit you to be abusive.

I would not pay to fix the laptop and at the very least would require him to talk to someone about anger management. ######


Prompt:
So my wife and I have been married for 5 years. We have two children, a five year and 5 month old. She has acknowledged her alcohol problem in the past, but when she gets to a certain point, she throws caution to the wind and gets completely wasted. She gets mean and absolute hateful.

Tonight, I took time off work to drive her two hours to see her best friend that she hasn’t seen in a year. When we get there, it’s cinco de Mayo, so her friend wanted tacos and margaritas. The margaritas were STRONG. I, knowing I had to drive in three hours, didn’t drink. Our kids were with us. My wife, on the other hand, got shitfaced. Come time to leave, she had another canned margarita in hand about to open it in the car. I took the can and told her it’s illegal to drink in the car. She got pissed. She finally calmed down, but she was still super drunk. She took her frustrations out on our five year old and made him cry his eyes out in the back seat. We got back home and she was about to start up again and get even more drunk.

I had enough of it. I took the can she was about to open and said no. Not tonight. You’ve had enough.

She became belligerent saying she married a dictator. I feel I have a right to keep the peace in the house especially since we’re both responsible for two children. She is still going off on me (going on two hours) and my five year old is in his room screaming. She’s screaming she wants a divorce. My response is that if her abuse of alcohol is that important to her, then fine. She can have her divorce. Am I the asshole? ######

Response: NTA And I hope you can get the child therapy. That sounds like such a stressful situation for a kid to go through, and it sounds like the poor child has had to deal with a lot beyond just this one incident. ######


Prompt:
I'm in an LDR and my gf has been lonely and uncomfortable in her cramped studio apt during COVID lockdown. This woman she goes to grad school with knew that and gave her the key to her place while she's out of town for the summer, but they're not really friends, more like colleagues, and she assumed my gf was only going to stop in from time to time to get some work done in a quiet place. She even asked for a little money to go towards rent, and my gf paid her fifty bucks.

Little does she know, my gf has been sleeping there every night. The place is bigger and nicer than my gf's and she feels safer there because the neighbors don't scream at each other all night. When she first starting going there I thought she was staying at a *friend's* place, but recently she revealed the true situation to me on the phone and then confessed that she also read this woman's diary, which was just sitting right there on her desk. I was shocked; I said it was an invasion of privacy and asked my gf how she would've felt if someone she trusted with her apt key read her diary. She said she wouldn't have cared.

She called me an asshole for judging her, and she later justified the diary thing by saying that she's been so lonely she just needed to see if someone else felt that way. She said I should've taken her side and empathized with her instead of being cold and judgmental, and she's still pissed about it. But I stand by my judgment! Is reading someone's diary just not as bad as I think it is? ######

Response: NTA and I guarantee your girlfriend WOULD be pissed if someone read her private diary. She's just trying to save face. ######


Prompt:
AITA - I ordered takeout, picked up my food, and the resturaunt called as I was pulling into my driveway.  The person from the restaurant told me she gave us an extra bag of food and asked me to drive back and drop it off at the restaurant. I told her that I really didn’t want to drive back and drop the food off and she just hung up on my mid sentence.

Am I the asshole?

I know I wouldn’t want food that someone took away from the restaurant and brought back. ######

Response: NTA And I cannot believe they would take a good bag that had been in your possession and now a different temp and hand it back out again. I’d go so far as to call the health department to find out if that is even allowable. ######


Prompt: I might be the Ah for putting up with it for so long. Anyways, I work for a landscaping company. For the past year, we've been getting paid late, and when we do get paid the checks often bounce. At first we would start getting paid a couple days late, then it went to a week late, and then almost a month late. One of the managers went 2 months without getting paid. One time one if my coworkers asked my boss "are we getting paid today?", and my boss replied "is everyone gonna ask me that..." wtf? To the main story. Last friday, he gives me my check. I got to the bank to cash it on sunday. It bounces. I could have called him, but didnt have the energy to deal with it. Monday comes around. Hes in a good mood, and says "howd everyone's weekend go!" I said "would have gone food if the check you gave me was good" he stared at me, and said "if your check bounces, then you can call me, and I'll take care of it" I snapped. And said "dont act like you didnt know that check wasnt gonna bounce. You knew damn well it would. I'm getting paid a month late. I expect my check not to bounce everytime I want to cash it" he threw his arms in the air, and said "if your not happy with how things are going, then you can quit!", so I got in my truck, and left. He called me when I was half way home, and apologized, and sad I'm a good employee, and he cant lose me. Idk, I love my co workers. That's one of the main reasons I've stayed as long as I have. I could get another job pretty easily, but idk. ######

Response: NTA and i absolutely would not go back. And make sure you get paid for all the time your boss hasnt paid you for yet ######


Prompt:
So I basically (17f) had been diagnosed with ADHD a year ago . I'm pretty school smart but I don't notice many Things around me and I have a problem with sitting or doing the same thing for more then 30 minutes . After I got the diagnosis from my therapist . I wanted to proceed to book other sessions to see what I can do to help minimise the issue . It started affecting my studies . My mother didn't believe me and told me I was doing this for attention and not to tell anyone about it . ( In our culture mental health is a taboo topic ) I wasn't happy about it I tried to retaliate anything . But it was no use and my father whose a doctor tried to convince her but nothing .
So suddenly today she heard one of her friends had a daughter with ADHD so she told her about and proceeded to tell all her colleagues like it's something to flaunt I guess . And now she believes I have it .
I was pretty furious since she had forbidden to go my therapist for almost half a year and continued to call me an attention seeker whenever I braught it up .
The fight was bad I was screaming at the top of my lungs in the end and shut myself in my room . Now she's acting like she's the victim and all she did was try to help .

So reddit AITA ???

Sorry for the grammar mistakes ######

Response: NTA and honestly, your mother should grow up. At 17, you’re more mature than her and I hope you will be able to get help, maybe through your father. ######


Prompt:
Hi, everyone.

So I live with a roommate, and we’re both grad students, so constantly busy. This summer is going to be particularly busy for me, because I have two classes, an intensive German workshop, and am working on both PhD and Fulbright applications. Because of this, I don’t foresee me leaving my desk this summer. My roommate is also taking two classes. The other day, my roommate told me that her boyfriend would be coming up from Florida to visit for 5 days. She also told me that I would need to be gone from the apartment for at least one night so they could have sex, and asked if I could go stay with my boyfriend. I told her no, because I was busy and had class and would feel more comfortable doing my classes and schoolwork at home. She told me I was an asshole, and has gotten her friends and parents to also tell me I’m an asshole.

AITA for telling her no? ######

Response: NTA and honestly kind of funny that she thinks you should leave so they can have sex. I assume this apartment has walls so thats all the privacy you’re entitled to when you have roommates. ######


Prompt:
Some background. My wife’s siblings are incredibly entitled along with her stepdad and sometimes her mother.

Sadly my pug (Otis) passes away last week. My wife and I are pretty torn up. He was an amazing dog who loved just about anyone, who’d give him food. Word soon got around to my In-Laws who at first felt sorry, but then after learning how he died (he had chronic heart problems) were saying we were stupid to trust modern medicine and if an animal is born weak it should die. The final stray was when me and my wife were in a zoom call with my SIL, and she said the following, I can’t believe you guys are hung up over your dumb dog. He was a dumb bitch who deserved to die. I. Saw. Red. I told her to shut the FUCK up and that she needs to stop being such a bitch all the time. It’s been a couple of days and my wife wants me to apologize for causing “drama” in the family. The way I see it is they’re the ones being inconsiderate assholes. So reddit, AITA ######

Response: NTA and honestly fuck them. Pets are quite often family members too and it sucks to lose them. I think your response was 100% warranted. ######


Prompt:
So basically what happened is that last night I was talking to my boyfriend on the phone in a discord call and then he started cuddling his dog, which he's had for a long time. I don't hate his dog or anything and I understand he loves his dog and I'm completely okay with that. But then I was talking to him and he ignored me and was talking to his dog and said "I love you more than *insert my name here*.

I never had a dog, so I can't say that I understand the strong love between a human and an animal, especially one he's had since he was a kid and that his dog is important to him. But since he was already ignoring me it just annoyed me and was uncalled for because there's a lot of times I feel like he doesn't love me at all. He just told me not to leave the call but I left anyway.

about two hours later I call him back and he asks why I left because he didn't remember and I told him.  He thought I was being ridiculous because it was just a joke. But he sounded serious and just told me not to leave which tells me he knew exactly what he said would upset me. He then told his mom about how I was upset and she agreed that I was being stupid about getting jealous over a dog and was just being insecure, which honestly embarrassed me. My boyfriend then started calling me crazy, so I left the call again and he texted me saying "there you go being crazy again.

Was I in the wrong here? I feel stupid about it after I got some sleep but I just want to know if I was being an asshole. ######

Response: NTA and he is so toxic and immature. First he says something pointless just to hurt you, then he pretends not to remember, then he brings his fucking *mom* in to invalidate your feelings. You weren't "jealous of a dog," you were hurt because he intentionally said something to make you feel unloved. Being single is better than being treated like this. ######


Prompt: I pay for my own Hulu account and I let my mom watch tv on it which is fine because that’s my mom. I was at my boyfriends and signed in on my account on the tv in his room, but his sister took the tv into her room and has been using my account. I found out because I was looking at my watch history and there were a bunch of shows I don’t watch on it. I asked my boyfriend and he said she took the tv today. Am I the asshole for removing the tv from my device history? She’s been complaining and texting me to let her use it again. Calling me selfish and how she just wants to watch tv because she’s bored. Mind you she’s 17 with no job and always is asking me for favors. I don’t feel bad but she texted me a long message about how the tv went out while she was in the middle of the show. This happened once before on the downstairs tv and his mom wanted me to sign in for her so she could finish her show because she didn’t want to pay for her own account...I didn’t. I don’t feel like an asshole and my boyfriend said it’s not a big deal, but she keeps bugging me to let her back on. I don’t think I’m selfish or stingy. I work my own job and can afford it. ######

Response: NTA and good on you for not enabling that behavior. ######


Prompt:
This is pretty self-explanatory. I was working out in my living room when I heard something on my back porch knock over. Thinking an animal was getting to some of the vegetables I had in pots out there, I quickly ran outside without thinking to put a shirt on (since I've been working out at home, I don't feel the need to put on a shirt and I'm more comfortable that way).

Found an overturned pot, put it back up, made sure everything was good and went back inside to finish my workout. I wasn't outside for more than five minutes. Well my next-door neighbor saw me out there, and I guess it made him uncomfortable. He complained to my mom, and she told me just to try not to do it again. I still think thats unfair. Even though I usually wear a shirt, its my back yard and I should be comfortable. I'm not walking around the neighborhood or anything. Plus, I'm sure he's taken off his shirt while mowing his lawn or doing yard work. My mom says to just let it go, but I'm pretty pissed about being told what to do in my own yard.

AITA?

ETA: Not that it makes it less creepy, but our yards are only separated by low bushes, so we can both see each others yard pretty clearly ######

Response: NTA and good for you for standing up for yourself. A sports bra is more covering than a bikini. Thank goodness you haven't taken up sunbathing /s. Do not ever let a man's discomfort with you doing perfectly normal things keep you from doing it and shame on your mom for trying to toe the line in 2020. ######


Prompt:
My roommate and I were close friends when we first moved in together a year and a half ago. Not long after we signed our 2nd year lease, the friendship went downhill and a big argument led us to agreeing we would end our friendship but continue living together until the lease was up.

Most of the time we function well as roommates only. Other times, like today, she gets emotional about something or other and picks a fight with me, which usually ends up with me trying to remove myself from the situation and her following me around the house yelling about how no one cares about her feelings, I treat her like shit, she helps everyone out but no one supports her when she needs it, etc.

She doesn't have any friends besides her mom. She was laid off in March and hasn't seen anyone except for me since then. Due to our proximity and years of familiarity, she sometimes slips back into acting like we're friends again, but I would rather we didn't. I know she's very lonely.

The thing is...she's right. I don't care about her feelings. Not anymore. I wish her well in life but she is and always has been an emotionally draining person and I am done being the one that's drained. When she directs her frustration at me, I don't have the capacity to do anything except stare at her blankly until she wears herself out. That's what makes me feel like an asshole. Her social/life situation sucks, but we BOTH agreed to end the friendship and I don't feel it's my responsibility anymore to make her feel better. ######

Response: NTA and good for you for setting boundaries in your friendships! It’s not an easy thing to do. ######


Prompt:
I’m pretty sure I already know the answer to this, but here it goes anyway:

After 20 years of being a content screw-up, I finally decided to better myself and finish college. After earning my bachelor’s, I immediately went to grad school and earned my MBA this May.

Anyway, around the same time I initially decided to go back to school, my bro-in-law also decided to go back. He decided to pursue an associate’s degree in a trade.

Seeing as how he wasn’t working while he was going to school, he finished in two years. However, I was working full-time so it took me 7 years to finish both my bachelor’s and my MBA (I had finished most of my generals my first go-around 20 years earlier). I only say this because he would always make comments about how I’m ‘sure taking my time’ and how he finished way before me.

My family had a little celebration for me a few weeks ago and he kept making comments about how I’m finally his equal (emphasis on finally) and joined the ranks as a college graduate.

I didn’t say anything (nor would I) because I don’t want to diminish his accomplishment. At the same time, I can’t help but feel annoyed that he doesn’t seem to get that I had to put in a lot more work to get my degrees.

I guess it bothers me that I feel this way. After all, to him, his associate’s degree is a huge deal (and it is).

So, AIT(elitist)A?

TLDR: My bro-in-law keeps equating his associate’s degree to my master’s, and it bothers me. ######

Response:
 NTA and good for you for not bothering to push back or try to put him down. Take the high road and let his insecurity/self-ego-boost go unchallenged for the sake of family harmony.

Well-done on earning two degrees while working full time, that’s a commitment and a lot of work. Wishing you both success in your fields! ######


Prompt:
Okay, so I (15F) know the title sounds misleading, but please read through the whole post.

My aunt (we'll call her Sarah, 54F) is a very sweet person. She's been a "cool aunt", the one who gives us candy while we were kids, etc.

But as we grew up we kinda saw all her toxic traits, like holding children to unexpectable levels, bossing us around, being a bit racist (she wants my sister, who is a gorgeous brown black colour to put on a lot of whitening things, doesn't want anyone in our family to marry a guy/girl who is black, etc.)

So during quarantine, around the beginning of summer, we found that she had a non malignant tumor in her small intestine, and she underwent surgery in the area where I'm staying. She normally stays in another state, but now stays with us for some time.

Now, there's a kinda miraculous thing: there was no tumor, just a growth, which they scraped out, but now she's resting at home.

Now, most of the time I like having her around, and I love her, but she's bossing me around, making me clean every place, over feeding me (actually overfeeding me) and that was all kinds okay, but the last straw was when she would keep calling me to clean, to study (it's summer vacation) and when I complained of back pain (I'm having my periods) she completely brushed me off, saying little kids don't have anything like that, I'm [Sarah] the one who has pain, etc.
I felt really bad because she was invalidating my pain.

So I told her that even teenagers feel pain and things like that. I was actually yelling, and then my mom screamed at me because she says that Sarah is a patient and things like that. I don't really feel terrible, because each and every second of the first two months of summer were spent in taking care of Sarah and my dad (who's diabetic and has trunkal neuropathy.) I just feel like I don't get a second to myself. Also, I cook the meals along with my sister here.

AITA? ######

Response: NTA and from what you’ve described it sounds like the adults in your home need to start acting like adults ######


Prompt:
So a month ago my husband and I moved into our current house that we are renting from this guy. He also lives with us in the third bedroom. This was supposed to be a short term thing but because of obvious reasons we don't know how long we're going to be here. Neither of us has had a roommate before, we were both the first person we lived with other than family.

Anyway this morning I woke up earlier than usual so I made my husband and I breakfast. I made us eggs with toast. I used a total of 6 eggs and 2 pieces of bread. Our roommate came downstairs just as I was putting it on the table and was about to get my husband, and asked why he wasn't getting any. I was kind of surprised because I don't know why he would expect any. But he then got mad and said that he's paying for 1/3 of the groceries so he should be kept in mind if we're making something. The past month my husband and I have just been eating small stuff for lunch and dinner, no big cooking of meals or anything, mostly sandwiches and whatever we can scrounge up so it just hadn't come up yet.

I told him that I didn't make him any and if he wanted eggs there were more and he could make some himself. He said he should get some of what I made because he's paying for it and I should keep him in mind. I told him that what I used isn't more than 2/3 of what we had so it doesn't matter and I'm not going to cook a meal for him, I was just doing something nice for my husband. He said he was going to have to rethink our payment agreement for groceries.

Neither of us have ever had a roommate before as I said, so we don't know whether this guy is just strange or if I was really supposed to make him eggs.

AITA ######

Response: NTA and don’t share groceries with a roommate that’s a recipe for discord. ######


Prompt:
Aita for not wanting to live with my “dad”

Sorry for bad formatting
For some background: my mom left my dad when she was pregnant with my brother and i was 1 years old for many reasons. My dad has never been a caring father and i barely know him. He has been abusi ve in the past but not as bad as other kids but still physical ab use. He has a wife and a stepson (13) and two infants. Im 15 and im always blamed when they do anything bad or anything bad happens to my stepbro and biological brother (14)which sucks since they bully me and if i say anything to him about them im a “whiny snitch”.

I have lived with my mom and younger brother all my life but somehow my dad got custody of me for a school year. I was forced to move to a new town and get new friends which is very hard for me and i ended up just being lonely.  And finally this school year ended and i just moved back. My dad never respects my decisions or anything like that. He always trusts fake news and took away my electronic so i wouldnt be a school shooter. When i broke my leg he took away my crutches so i had to jump on one leg for a whole weekend. The only reason i had ever went to his house in the past is because legally they have 50/50 custody.

My grandma asked me if i have enjoyed spending more time with my dad but i was honest and told her no and he isnt even spending time with me i just live there. I woke up to angry text messages from my dad and aunt. My friends tell me that he is my father and that family is family aita? ######

Response: NTA and don’t believe that “family is family” crap. If people hurt you, you shouldn’t be forced to be around them. If you really don’t want to be around your father, ask your grandma or mother to put you in touch with their attorney. Any decent judge that hears the story with the crutches won’t make you go back there. ######


Prompt:
I have a friend who has owed me $2,300 since mid March. Her dog needed emergency surgery, I put it on a credit card since he needed immediate treatment. I am not wealthy and it's a lot of money to me. Things have been tough for her financially and personally lately, so I haven't mentioned it. She just kicked out her boyfriend a couple weeks ago, so she's in a very fragile place.

However, she just got all of her backpay unemployment (finally.) I didn't ask the exact number, but I'm pretty sure it's somewhere around 15k. She's gone on a crazy shopping spree and bought a MacBook, Camera, etc. She's been wanting to start a YouTube channel for a while, and I'm happy she's finally doing it. She needs a hobby.

She hasn't mentioned paying me back yet, and I hate to bring it up. I know she is already having a difficult enough time, and she is a good friend that I don't want to make her life worse, but I have been stressing over this debt for months.

WIBTA If I told her I need to be paid back now? ######

Response: NTA and do it before she squanders the rest of the money. And think twice about loaning money in the future. Maybe say something like “hey I notice you have gotten your back pay. Let’s work out a repayment plan now for the money I loaned you” ######


Prompt:
My girlfriend (27 y/o) and I (30 y/o) have been dating for about 2 years now. We agreed that we would live together after one year of meeting each other and getting to know one another. When we moved in, we brought some of our valuables. She brought her favorite painting from college and a signed volleyball from all her teammates back in college. I brought my mom's vase and my grandma's urn. I respected her stuff and she respected my stuff. I put my grandma's urn in a nice place to show that every time I pass it I pay respect to what she has done for me in the past.

Fast forward to yesterday. She went out with a couple of her friends and she came back a little too drunk. She started to talk to me about why my grandma was "in a vase" and not in the cemetery. I told her that I wanted to spread her ashes at Nadi (beach in Fiji) because that is where she had her honeymoon with my grandfather. So my girlfriend, not thinking at all, said "Oh, she wants to be at the ocean does she?" and took the urn and tired to pour the ashes into the toilet.

I don't want to share my emotions because it was such a shitty 15 seconds but I felt immense rage and anger. I screamed at her to get out and don't speak to me for a bit. She quickly packed up her suitcase and I showed her the door.

Things to add: I pay 3/4s of the rent, and I do half of the house work around (cleaning dishes, vacuuming, laundry). I do love my girlfriend but what she did to my grandma's urn/ashes was very upsetting to me. ######

Response: NTA and did she succeed in putting them in the toilet? Please say no. ######


Prompt:
Please excuse me for my English.

I am 13 year Male and I moved from my home country of south Korea to Canada when I was 11. It is almost 2 years since I have moved. My English isnt the best but it is getting very better. My name is Jaehyeong it is a very hard name for native English people to pronouns because of that they almost always get it wrong and I correct them. Normally when I correct them I just repeat my name instead of saying that not my name. I feel this is easier since it maybe would make people mad. I let a select people call me jae but I just find it disrespecting to call someone you arent close to a shorten name.  we had a different teacher on the online classes and when he called my name it was so miss pronouns I didnt hear it correctly one of my friends had to say something to me to tell me that this man called my name. So I said here and the teacher said I am going to call you jae form now on. I said can you please learn. My name instead and he didnt say anything. When he then called on me again he mis pronouns it again so I didnt know he called on me. It is still hard for me to keep track of everything in calls. So once i answered the question he said he is going to call me jae because he cant pronouns my name and I cant understand his miss pronunciation. I agreed. After the class I got my grade and it said I got 10 points taken off of professional because of my ask for him to say my full name and then not answering to it. Am I the asshole ######

Response: NTA and contact the department head. You have a right to ask to not be called a random nickname assigned by the teacher. ######


Prompt:
Some background: FIL is a man who doesn't get along with his wife and children. He barks and snaps at everyone but is cordial to me and eats out of my daughter's hand.

During this stay home period, MIL started cleaning out stuff that's been sitting around the house. Yesterday she found in a seldom-used drawer, a wooden box with a handkerchief wrapped around a picture of FIL in his younger times and my daughter's recent picture he cut out from her year book.

When she asked him about it, he threw a fit and said she had no right to defile pictures of people he loved most. An upset MIL called and told me about it.

He has 3 grandsons and 3 granddaughters. While I'm happy he dotes on my daughter most, I found this really creepy and said this to hubby. Hubby is now upset that I think his dad is creepy and his childless sister sides with him, while the other sister who has 3 kids thinks FIL is crazy.

So am I TA for reading too much into his 'innocent' action? ######

Response: NTA and be careful with your daughter. It’s a huge red flag that all the mother in your family think it’s weird. Trust your gut instinct! ######


Prompt: I 16(M) was playing video games with friends, one of the people who plays with us regularly is a my friends girlfriend 16(f). She does not like me and has made it clear in the past. I try to put it aside while we all hang out just so it stays civil. Well last night everybody was talking about relationship problems. The two people dating in the group gave advice. Mine was struggling to even find a person who I had a chance with. As soon as the words left my mouth, she snickered and brought up how I'm short and that's why. At first I thought she was joking and shrugged it off but after she kept drilling it in. Finally I had enough and brought up how she didn't have a boyfriend until a year ago because she refused to lose weight. After that everyone went quiet. Soon everyone started laying into me and she started crying. I tried to apologize because I didn't mean to hurt her that bad, but I got drowned out under every one yelling at me. I know I probably am the asshole but I just wanted to hear someone outside the situations opinion. ######

Response: NTA and all those white knights in your ‘friendship’ group ganging up on you after as well need to go take a leap. You need better friends. ######


Prompt:
So as this isn’t a relationships subreddit I’ll keep this part brief, I’m specifically asking whether I’m the asshole for ‘blackmailing’ (her words) or ‘giving an ultimatum’ (my words) to my friend.

She lost her job and made an onlyfans. Her fiancé doesn’t know. She knows he would consider that cheating and her fiancé is a very close friend of mine and I know it would destroy him.

My friend has not been discreet about this and is telling all of our friends for the clout because she’s got a lot of ‘yaaassss girl you get that coin’ sort of messages to the few people she opened up to and now word has spread and *guys we mutually know including her fiancé* are aware and paying for her content.

I told her she needs to tell him or I will. She considers this blackmail. I’m trying to protect my friend who I know is a very good person and who would be devastated.

My own best friend has told me to stay out of all of this and to mind my business. My best friend doesn’t know these people at all so she is not invested emotionally. I am autistic and think it’s very clear I need to tell my friends fiancé but she is saying that if my friend lost her job she needs to do what she needs to do to survive. ######

Response: NTA and all these people saying Y T A because “you need to mind your own business” need to realize that she’s made it your business when she decided to flaunt it to everyone but her fiancé. He’s your friend just as much as she is, and if I was him I’d feel seriously betrayed by not only her but also my “friends” for not telling me. He’s going to need people in his corner when he finds out - and he WILL find out - so be that person for him. You’re gonna be TA in her eyes but she’s not a friend to you for asking you to keep this a secret in the first place. ######


Prompt:
This morning, my mom asked for 500 (I am not going to state the currency, because I want to stay anonymous). I was happy to give it to her, but I only had 1000. I gave her that amount and asked when she was going to give it back. "I don't know." That seemed like a red flag to me.
But then I realized I had a 500 bill in my wallet, so I said I had the amout she wanted and I was willing to give it to her. Suddenly, she didn't want it anymore and said that it was not enough. Like, what? That's the amount you initially asked for!! Then she got very defensive and insisted on the 1000. I found that extremely sketchy so I told her that I wasn't going to give her any money. Am I the asshole for not giving her the money? ######

Response: Nta and absolutely do not give her any money unless you fully expect not to ever give it back, because she won’t ######


Prompt:
I’ll try to keep it short.

My (27F) brother (38M) is currently living in a different part of the state than the rest of his family (Wife and 2 kids). He called me the other day to tell me he’s interested in buying a house. I felt it coming that he would ask but I really didn’t expect the guilt trip.

He was approved for a loan of 150k but he would have to move further away to be able to afford a house in that range. He wants me to co-sign on a house and receive a loan in MY name for another 150k so he could buy a house closer to the family.

I’m not all that close with my family to begin with so that factor doesn’t really affect me. However, our kids are close in age and were close before the initial move so he said it would be in the best interest of them and the family to have him move closer.

My mom is 25k in debt, my father has a foreclosure on his record, and my brother declared bankruptcy a few years back. Everyone has some kind of huge negative record which is prohibiting them from assisting my brother, im the only one with a somewhat clean record. I do have some debt but not nearly as much as the rest of my family. I’ve already told him based on my income and credit I don’t think I would qualify but he’s a real estate agent so he sucked me into believing maybe I could.

My issue is I’m a single mom who is only now finding herself in the beginnings of financial stability. The idea of 150k being under my name towards a house I won’t even use is making me nauseous. I’ve always struggled with telling my family no and I know the wave of guilt is going to engulf me eventually. I don’t want the kids to be split but I also don’t want to risk my financial future. Tell me reddit, would I be an asshole in telling him absolutely not?

TL;DR: my brother wants me to co-sign 150k towards a house I wouldn’t even live in for the sake of the family. ######

Response: NTA and a huge fuck that! There's no way you could even be CONSIDERED TA in this situation, and please for the sake of your own financial future do not co-sign anything for him, either. He's already got a bankruptcy under his belt, there's no way this is going to end well for you. ######


Prompt:
I (28F) will be getting married this July. We were going to have a large standard wedding but due to recent events, that celebration has been postponed and we will be having a very small family celebration instead.

My brother Steve (27M) has had a revolving door of girlfriends for most of his life, with the average relationship length lasting around 2 months. He is currently dating a very sweet girl (that we've only met via Zoom) and they've been together for around 3 months, since recent events started.

He's asked to invite her to the wedding and I and my fiance have no problem with that and would love to have her. The issue is, on the chance that they end up not lasting, I would prefer if all my wedding photos did not include her. Obviously, we'll have some with my fiance's family that would omit her, but I would like some shots with my family that didn't have her in them just in case.

WIBTA if I asked to take family pictures with and without her? Should I exclude her from all of them? ######

Response: NTA always do some with and without non-married/common law partners. I believe most people would understand. ######


Prompt:
So for context, I (20M) came out as gay to my parents in February last year. My mum was very accepting and kind but my stepdad was very much not so. He hates everyone that isn't straight and white, so me coming out as gay made me a disappointment in his eyes.

Fast forward a couple of months and my mum wanted to meet my boyfriend (now ex) so I did the ~300 mile round trip to drive me and my bf to meet my parents. My stepdad decided to send me a list of instructions on how to behave, which in short was basically "no PDA and no signs at all you're dating", which really hurt but we went along with it.

My mental health declined sharply over the next 7-8 months as everything for me went wrong. I broke up with my bf, got hit in a car crash and couldn't take the stress from work anymore. To say the least, my stepdad was not happy about me moving back in after losing my job and being unable to live in another town.

My mental health is improving now, but my relationship with my stepdad is heavily stained. We barely talk and I avoid him as much as I can.

Anyway, on topic - since I'm now living with my parents again I've been forced to spend time with my stepdad, much to both of our annoyance. Since I know he's a massive homophobe and hates me for it I decided to add some colour to my room. I have pinned up a 4×2 ft pride flag on my wall and replaced the strings on my guitar with multi-coloured ones. To say the least, he hates it. He has gotten worse with not just me but my mum and brother. Him and my mum have gotten into arguments over his disapproval of my sexuality and I hate that they are getting into arguments over me.

My mum has said that it was bad of me to put this stuff up as I knew it would annoy him, especially as he has gotten worse for everyone and I am refusing to remove the pride stuff from my room.

Reddit, AITA? ######

Response: NTA Although it's not your home, so if your mum insists, you will have to remove things. But she should stick by you, not the asshole bigot who is hurting her and her kids. ######


Prompt:
There’s this girl I know who is moving apartments; however, there is a 4 day difference between the end of her current lease and the start of her new one.

She said she was looking for a place to stay (I think money is tight so a hotel is not ideal), so I offered to let her spend those nights at my apartment on my sofa. She said no and that it was fine. Over the next few days she kept bringing up her problem again so I kept offering in total, I offered ~5 times. The last time, I specifically told her that would be the final offer and of she said no and later changed her mind, I’d say no.

Well now she’s gone and changed her mind and is asking again. It really isn’t an inconvenience for me, but I continually offered it to her, and she rejected knowing full well that I would say know if she asked. So I told her no.

I mentioned this to a friend of mine who says I’m being an asshole.

So uh AITA? I guess if I am then I’ll offer it again... ######

Response: NTA altho not gonn lie, based on the title I thought it'd be something completely different lol ######


Prompt:
Since my wife and I are both doctors we still have to work and to avoid anything happening, our kids are staying with my mother in law except for our oldest daughter whose staying with a friend. We're friends with the parents and they asked for her to stay since their daughter is an only child i
and gets bored on her own.

On Wednesday my daughter called and asked if she could get a tatoo (her friend has the machine). I didn't feel comfortable with this so I told her no but she can possibly get one for her birthday in a few months. She surprisingly was fine with it and was still in a good mood. I found it suspicious but didn't want to cause problems where there weren't any.

Today while I'm talking to my son he mentions that he also wants a tatoo like his sister's but a dragon. I obviously ask what he's talking about and he tells me that she posted a picture of herself with a shoulder tatoo on her story. He sent me a screeenshot of it and I was livid. I tried calling her but only got voicemail so I called the parents and spoke to them. They thought I said yes when she called. They gave her the phone and while I was talking she hung up. I called them again and asked them to take her phone away indefinitely. They understood and agreed.

My brother says she's angry at me for 'embarrassing' her in front of her friend. My wife agrees with me but another perspective is always appreciated. AITA? ######

Response: Nta also who tattoos a kid without talking to the parent first?? ######


Prompt:
My mom (55F) has been slowly starting to pry at me (25F) about when I’m planning on having kids, how many, and if I plan on marrying my on and off again boyfriend. It’s annoying but I just ignore her or tell her to drop it most days. I’m not even done with college, I don’t feel like I’m even old enough for that. Ive never been interested in kids or marriage either and she knows this!!

For context, my older brother has two kids with his girlfriend. So now she’s looking at me the middle child for her next grand baby. She’s even gone so far as calling me by my boyfriends last name, knowing full well I don’t believe in that and do not plan on ever changing my name.

It came to a head last week when I was visiting. Everything was normal and then she just says “so when do you plan on settling down. You aren’t getting any younger.” And I LOST it. I just screamed “mind your own god damn business.” My dad yelled at me, I yelled at him, then my older brother yelled at me. It was a mess.

My friend picked me up and when I told her what happened she said I was the asshole for yelling at my mom when she’s asking normal “mom things.” Both my brothers think I was an asshole but my boyfriend doesn’t. My mom hasn’t called or texted since this happened. ######

Response: NTA after reading the edit.  Your mom is being TA majorly by not respecting what you are telling her.  She thinks that if she keeps bugging you about what she wants you to do, that you'll cave eventually so that she can get what she wants out of it. ######


Prompt:
My grandpa is old and need constant care and my family (mom, dad, sister and brother) are over to help him out, also my cousin's family is here (aunt, uncle and cousin).  We don't live there but we kind of do right now, my grandpa has a pool in his backyard and I LOVE to swim.  I do competitive swimming so I am a very good swimmer and I am almost always in the pool and swimming around or near the pool or just in the back yard.

I lost track of time and while I was swimming it was time for dinner (he eats around 5 and likes he whole family at the table).  I was still swimming and so I put on a quick hoodie and a pair of sweats and ate dinner.  I didn't notice but the bikini straps were showing and I had no idea after dinner.

Me and my sister share a room right now and she said that my straps were showing, I was embarrassed but didn't really see anything too wrong.  She got annoyed and said I should dress more "modestly" in front of the rest of the family, I told her to calm down and it was a mistake.  She said that its still bad and I should be more mindful of the rest of the family.  AITA? ######

Response: NTA a) you were covered up for dinner so idk how that could be seen as not dressing modestly  b) they probably didn’t notice anything and c) even if they had seen something that is also completely fine because this isn’t the 16th century ######


Prompt:
Over the last couple weeks, I’ve seen chalk drawings pop up on the sidewalks. Nothing wrong with that and some of the “art” is encouraging like little “obstical courses”.

However. This afternoon I came outside to see someone drew a huge cross in chalk on my driveway along with #HeIsRisen and Happy Easter. I took out my hose and washed the away the chalk drawing and then took my dog for a walk.

When I came back, as I was walking up my driveway, one of my neighbours came out and said “excuse me, is there a reason you ruined my daughters drawing?” I clarified wether or not she was talking about the chalk drawing on my driveway and she said yes and that she daughter spent almost an hour on the drawing and was just trying to spread positivity and celebrate Jesus.

I said that I was sorry that I upset her daughter but that it was my driveway and I didn’t agree to have someone draw on it especially when it was a religious holiday I Don’t celebrate (I’m Jewish but don’t consider myself religious).

She then went off an started calling me things like “anti religious, a miserable asshole and a horrible person.” I tried to tell her to calm down and stop verbally assaulting me. She then told me that I will regret washing away her daughters picture, flipped me off and walked away.”

was I the asshole here for washing away the chalk?

Edit: just found out she has two daughters 13-15 so neither of them are “little” girls. ######

Response: NTA a lot of Christians like to forget that not everyone practices their faith, or wants to be exposed to it (freedom of religion also means freedom from religion) if she wants to draw religious iconography she can do so on her own property, not yours. ######


Prompt:
I have grown a peach tree from seed. A lot of care and planning had gone into this tree, from genetic planning to training and now I have gotten my first harvest(6lbs of fruit- dwarf tree)

A few days after harvest, my mother asked me when I’m going to distribute some along the neighbourhood to which I said I wasn’t planning on doing so. She says that’s mean as people have noticed the tree and are expecting something and I said yea well tough luck.

I intend on eating a good chunk of it myself fresh and then preserving the rest by pickling them with honey.

Note: all care towards this tree was performed by me alone and it’s on MY private property and not a communal area. ######

Response: NTA 6 lbs of fruit is what maybe 20 peaches? If you just give one to each person on the street that’s most of your fruit. That’s nuts that your mom expects you to distribute peaches like some sort of peach fairy. They sell peaches in the store. Your neighbors can go buy some ######


Prompt:
Throwaway

I am a 55 year old man and my wife is 56. My wife recently got a job in it building I worked at for the past 5 years. I make more than my wife for the same job and I am in a hire position than her and I work longer hours than my wife. My wife thinks that it's sexist that I get payed more than her for the same job and asked me to quit or complain about the sexist pay.

I refused and told her if I quit my job we won't be able to afford the house and we would be homeless and that we won't be able to get grocery plus I told my wife that I have years more experience than her. My wife yelled at me saying it's sexist and asked me if I am supporting sexism in the  work place.

 I told her no I am not but I am not quitting my job. My wife became furious and left and is not talking to me.I feel that my wife is right and I am the asshole hear. So I want to know if I am the bad guy who supports sexism ######

Response:
 NTA 5 more years of experience in the same job should amount to a higher pay.

You could work with your wife help her attain the same pay as you over time. ######


Prompt:
So, I (17M) was just relaxing at home with my little brother (11) and my mother’s girlfriend’s son (7). My mom and her girlfriend left the house without any warning and didn’t tell me or the two little ones where they were going. This is pretty normal, they usually will come back with grocery’s or tell me they went to go run some errands when they get back.

I had ordered lunch for pickup and when it was ready I left the two children to go grab my lunch. I told them I’d be right back and where I was going, and also told them to call me if something went wrong and if something REALLY serious went wrong, call 911 first and not me.

When I got back home with my food, the car my mom and her girlfriend took for the day was in the driveway. I walked in the door and immediately started getting questioned by my mom’s girlfriend about why I left the kids there. My mom was fine with it, my little brother has stayed home alone for short periods of time before and it’s not a problem. My mom’s girlfriend was upset because her son is only 7 and something really bad could’ve happened.

I told her that her child isn’t my responsibility, especially when she hasn’t notified me or even asked me to watch after him while she was gone, and that she should find a babysitter if she’s that worried about me leaving for 5 minutes.

So, am I the asshole for leaving her son alone without proper supervision or is she just being irresponsible by leaving her child with me without telling me? ######

Response: NTA 11 is old enough to watch a 7 year old for a short period of time. Also, not your kid, not your responsibility, especially if she didn't ask. ######


Prompt:
little backstory here: I (28F) have a little sister (14F) who we'll call Lily, who is extremely afraid of dogs. Her dog phobia happens only with big dogs, after a Rottweiler knocked her to the ground when she was 10. Also, my sister is living with me as my parents have gone abroad, and we both are extremely close. We live in a big house which can easily accommodate 3 people.

This happened a week ago.
My aunt was going through a messy divorce, so she moved in with me, and asked me if she could bring her dog with her. Now, this dog is extremely large, and tends to get overexcited with children, and taking in account Lily's fear of dogs, I refused.
At first my aunt took it well, and gave the dog to my cousin (her daughter), who lives 3 hours away and says she'll look after it. So a week ago, my aunt asks me if she can bring the dog for visits outside our house. I agree, as long it's in the backyard, and the dog is on a leash. I reminded her not to let him inside the house. Lily agreed, and said that she has no problem as long as the dog does not come close to her.
My aunt brought the dog over, and Lily just stayed inside. I played with the dog a bit, and then I went to the kitchen to cook dinner. Suddenly I hear Lily screaming at the top of her lungs, and I go to the living room. She's climbed on top of the sofa, and the dog is at the bottom of it, barking at her. My aunt is telling Lily to come down and it's just a silly fear, the dog won't hurt you, etc. I was furious. I immediately took the dog outside, and screamed at my aunt for what she had just done. I kicked her out, and now she's staying with her daughter.
My mom called me yesterday and told me that I had no authority to do that. I told her I did, and that any sane person would do the same thing. My cousins all called me and told me that I did a heartless thing, that my aunt's daughter doesn't have space for my aunt, and that she needs a home.
I don't feel like I'm the asshole.

So, Reddit, AITA? ######

Response:
 NTA 100% Your aunt knew how your sister reacts to dogs and AGREED to not let her dog inside. Then she broke that promise.
Also, no it's not a silly fear and wtf ######


Prompt:
It's another day at my gym where I work out everyday, The customer service  there is excellent the atmosphere is really good and even the drinks  don't disappoint even though I carry water with me all the time.

However there was this incident that started on February, it carried on for 3 exhausting days. You can get your own personal trainer you obviously  know what that means you can also receive a massage from him if you wish  to pay. He massaged me for several sessions and I became close pals  with him however one guy took a photo out of context as he was passing  by the locker rooms (because that's where the massage takes place) Took a  photo where I wasn't wearing a bra and the personal trainer was looking  away. I didn't notice the photo being taken as I was looking the other way

He then tried to frame it as "She flashed her breasts at him that's a harassment" The photo was  blurry so the managers believed he was pulling it out of his ass. The  manager then came up to me the other day told me about it I audibly  gasped, the dude who framed it was at the gym at the time and I went up to his face and almost had a breakdown on him. we shortly got seperated and I filled a report at him for being unprofessional and that he harassed me.

He got banned from ever having a subscription to that gym ever again, the  managers asked other women about this and if he tried to frame them as  well but they explained that it didn't happen but his behavior was  off-putting compared to other guys, he wasn't sociable sometimes glanced  at a few asses but he wasn't "Alarming" according to their experience

I  thought about it day after day, we even joke about it now, but AITA from getting him banned in the first place, could he actually saw it as a coincidence or did he had a gripe with Women.

Also I'm just friends with the masseuse for now, I'm single and 30 years old. (He's 32) ######

Response: NTA 100% He was gross and I'd feel very unsafe if he was at my gym. What's stopping him from 'accidentaly' peeking inside the womens locker room? You did the right thing! ######


Prompt:
I (M16) really don't like kids and they usually don't like me. I don't have any experience with them and I think in general it's better if I'm just not around them. I always make this clear.

My sister (F24) has two kids (F4 and M6). Yesterday she wanted to go do some activity with her friends so she stopped by my house (I was home alone) and asked if she could leave them. I said absolutely not because I had homework and didn't want to spend my afternoon taking care of two little kids. After some arguing back and forth she said that she was just leaving them, and I said I would in no way watch them besides making sure they didn't die.

She eventually just drove off because she was going to be late and left them there with me. I kept my promise and I did nothing with them. I just did what I wanted to while I watched them.

All I did was play video games and listen to some music (100 gecs) that happened to be fairly explicit. I thought that was that and eventually my sister came and got her kids.

However today I got an angry call from my sister. Apparently the kids have been repeating some of the explicit lines from the music I was listening to. My sister was pissed off and asked for an apology but I refused. She then talked to my parents and they've grounded me and told me I was an asshole to let kids listen to that kind of music. AITA? ######

Response: NTA 100 Gecs slap. ######


Prompt:
The wife has a strong passion for cooking. She cooks every night, with the exception of Friday where we go out to eat (or order in right now because of the current situation)

We have two daughters, who are 13 and 17. Usually as a family we clear the table, put the dishes in the sink, put leftovers in the Tubberware, and wipe down any spills or messes. The girls tend to make a mess at dinner so it teaches them responsibility, and me and my wife can’t do it all by ourselves.

Last night, wifey made lasagna with garlic bread and some Italian salad. She rarely cooks lasagna since it is a mess to clean up. Anyways we finish dinner, and the girls disappear out of nowhere and head to their rooms, which left me and the wife to clean up everything.

My wife was particularly upset because she had spent to much time cooking (she could have made one of those Stouffer’s frozen lasagnas and a bagged salad kit) and was tired and had to do twice the work we would usually do.

So tonight we decided to put our daughters to work and cook dinner for everyone. We printed out instructions for them, my 17 year old was handling the stovetop and the 13 year old handled the oven. They had no help whatsoever (except for small tips here and there)

As we were eating, they seemed cold and didn’t want to talk to us. The 13 year old thinks we overreacted and “her friends never have to help clean the table” We were originally planning to make the girls clean the table by themselves but felt bad and cleaned it as a family.

I honestly feel bad now, maybe we should have just made them clear the table by themselves instead of having them cook, put my wife thinks I was fair since the girls now know how much effort their mom puts into cooking and how tedious it is. ######

Response: NTA “my friends parents never make them cook” well you’re not their friends parents are you?? Oh god... I’ve become old... ######


Prompt:
I have been living with my roomate for 6 months and shes asian, I'm not. I have one spoon that I got from a Asian market (it's the Japanese style deep spoon for soup). I freaken LOVE soup and use that spoon all the time, I've had it for a good year now and I have just the one. My roomate has been using my spoon nonstop for herself and NEVER cleans it. I dont mind sharing but shes starting to use it more often now since we have been stuck inside, I've been making a lot of miso soup and she keeps taking the spoon. I brought it up a couple days ago that its my spoon and I should be able to have first choice to use it when I make soups. She got kinda mad about it and told me that I shouldn't even be using that spoon because I'm not asian ??? Like I didn't know that I had to be asian to use a certain type of silverware. I told her that I would be happy to buy her one so she could stop using mine and this made her more upset for some reason. The conversation went along the lines of "it's my spoon, you never clean it , we have plenty of other spoons!" I let her use my spoon that night but after whe went to bed, I washed it and put the spoon in my room. The next day she was looking for it and asked me where it was and I told her I put it away so she cant use it anymore. She called me a asshole and hasn't talked to me since. So AITA?

TLDR: My roomate kept using my soup spoon and would hardly let me use it and never cleaned it so I hid it in my room, AITA? ######

Response: NTA — your roommate can buy her own soup spoon ######


Prompt:
I had this friend (I’ll call her Ellie) and for the last months or so if our friendship she was very open to me about her concerns about her mental health. I am no expert and I told her that, but I always gave her places and recourses that would help her more than I could (I obviously would help in any way I could)

One night I get a message from her, and she is freaking out, full blown panic. She messages me vague things such as ‘I don’t know why I’ve done this’ and ‘this is your fault’ and then she says ‘I’ve slit my wrists’. I’m in complete shock, I’m frantically messaging her saying apply pressure. She goes quiet for a couple minutes. I’m panicking. I’m telling my dad I don’t know what to do.

I get a photo sent to me from her of her wrists. They don’t look cut, it looks like she used a pencil to draw on her arm. I didn’t want to be insensitive and I assumed I seen the photo wrong so I just replied; ‘get help and apply pressure’. She replies ‘ahah you’re so fucking stupid, it’s pencil marks, I wouldn’t cut myself’.

The next day we were all going out with friends and I told her how it made me feel, helpless and panicked. She laughed in my face and said I don’t care.

I’ve not messaged her in a while, and our mutual friends think I over reacted. Did I? ######

Response: NTA — thats not something to joke about. She needs help. ######


Prompt:
Hey folks, so I'm at a fork in the road here and have to make a decision. \[Re-phrasing some things so this post doesn't get removed again\]

My brother is in his mid-30s and recently applied to become a police officer. I'm not going to say where since this would be a dead give-away of who I am. When he first told my family and I that he was applying to become a police officer, we were skeptical, but I didn't think anything of it, assuming he'd never make it past the initial testing phase. He has extreme anger issues (he has been in court a few times but my father has paid lawyers to get these incidences expunged from his record), he still lives with my mom, and has addiction issues. His current job has nothing to do with law enforcement either. To my utter shock, he's somehow made it to the final phase before he's admitted to the academy, which is background checks/character references. I have no idea why he put me down as someone to provide him a character reference since we've never had a good relationship. But I recently received an email from the police department asking me to fill out a character reference for him.

I absolutely do not feel comfortable with the idea of him being in a position of power within the community for obvious reasons. That being said, I am the godparent to his only child (who I love and adore) and my brother's current job is not exactly a career that will give his child a great life. I fully support my brother's ambition to have a better career, I'm just not sure if he's the best fit for law enforcement.

WIBTA if I was truthful on the reference form and potentially ruin my relationship with both him and subsequently my godchild? Should I just not fill out the form at all and hope for the best? Or should I withhold certain details for the sake of their future? ######

Response:
 NTA — police with anger issues can kill.

You’re doing the right thing. ######


Prompt:
I ordered some food from UberEats and receive a message stating that it should be delivered in no later than 30 minutes. Sounds good.

I leave a note stating that I would prefer to have the food left in front of my door. I live in an apartment complex, and not all couriers are familiar with the layout, so I include instructions detailing how to find my building and unit.

30 minutes go by and I receive a message stating that my food was delivered. I check outside my door and notice that it isn't there. I investigate further and eventually find out that it was left on the front porch of the leasing office, which was closed and unoccupied at the time.

I ended up having to drive a few minutes out in the rain to obtain my food, which could have easily been stolen by an animal or other person within that timeframe.

Given that I left specific instructions detailing how to find my apartment and there were no attempts by the courier to contact me and confirm that they left the food in the right location, I got frustrated with his failure to pay attention to detail and follow instructions and decided to leave the courier a 1-star review and no tip.

In my mind, tips should only be awarded for good or better service and no one is entitled to them.

AITA here? ######

Response: NTA — following directions and instructions is part of the job description ######


Prompt: I recently saw a post on fb about a friend who made a face mask that said “I can’t breathe” and her caption said “I love making these they’re so much fun” AITA for wanting to say something? She gets upset if ppl try to copyright her for some stickers she does but she makes bootleg clothes and now “I can’t breathe” masks in all honesty I wouldn’t profit off a movement or someone’s dying words. If I were to make these I would donate them to protestors. Should I just leave it or be the asshole and say something ######

Response:
 NTA
You have a very valid reason to say something. No one should be taking Floyd's last words in a manner like that. You're right, she is trying to profit off of a movement. In all honesty between the COVID hysteria and now this, I'm done with people rn. You should at least stand up for it because to me she's contributing to more escalation. GFY for actually using common sense. ######


Prompt:
I (31F) live with my husband (28M) for now. Back in December we visited his family for Christmas. Our twins were 1yo. I found them in an unsafe sleeping situation. They were in an indoor dog gate with pillows and a very fluffy blanket. I told him I didn't feel comfortable with that and he asked if I had to be such a "Fucking cunt". I told his grandmother why I was leaving and walked back to his mom's house.

We agreed on a divorce and finally I saved enough money for an apartment. His mom decided to come and visit for the holiday (she lives two states away) so I stayed in order for her to see her grandchildren. After their nap their dad wants to take them to his Aunt's/Uncle's. I just found out I'm no longer allowed in their house. They've never babysat and even got mad at me when I refused to let them in the delivery room.

I told him I'm not leaving my kids for the holiday and he accused me of being spiteful and unamerican (I'm American but grew up overseas), that I prostituted myself to him and got pregnant on purpose (I wasn't suppose to be able to get pregnant), and that I'm being selfish for not letting them go to a 4th of July party without me.

Only problem is, he rarely hangs out with the kids. He'll drink a bottle of vodka or a 12pack of beer in a day. He plays on his computer none stop. He hasn't watched the babies overnight in over a month because he screams at them and throws open doors. I've found him passed randomly on the floor. Found him looking through tinder while at a baby be well appointment. He's screamed at the babies when they were crying because "if they get to make noise I get to make noise too". They don't really like him. Essentially, my kids are always around me and I take care of them 98% of the time.

AITA for not wanting my (18mo) kids to go somewhere where I'm not welcomed? ######

Response:
 NTA
What the fuck??? Why are you even letting this man in your kids life ? He sounds like the typical American wife beater. Get out of that situation. He will be in jail soon anyway with that sort of personality. ######


Prompt:
Tonight I ordered in food from DD.

My building is a bit hard to find because the number is on the side facing away from the parking lot. In my instructions I have written detailed directions to find the building as well as which door to use since only one has a call box.

About 15 minutes after the app texts saying my dasher 'Deborah' is near, I get call. No big deal, occasionally people get confused and need extra help. Instead of being a female as expected, it is an irate man. He proceeds to complain about wasting time and gas driving around for 15 minutes to find my apartment. I ask if he read the driver instructions and where he was so I could guide him to the building. He avoids answering and raises his voice further saying I've wasted $5 of gas money, he deserves a better tip ($5 on a $17 order is what I had already set up) and next time I should go pick it up myself and not be lazy. I tell him to give me the number of the building he is at leave the food and I will come get it.

Getting outside, there is only one car with a female driver who got out of the car and handed me my food without a word. No guy was insight.

Typcially I do not complain about drivers or leave poor ratings (don't think I've left below a 3). However it's unprofessional and threatening to have a male call and berate me over finding my building. I left the driver 1 star and lodged a complaint with the app. It automatically offered me a credit in the amount of the tip left.
Honestly I do not know if it removes
the tip, which was not my intent.

It's been an hour and now I'm starting to second guess if I overreacted by reporting the driver for being unprofessional and communication issues. Should I have just left with the low rating and not complained? I know tough it's right now for everyone and don't want cause someone to lose their income. ######

Response:
 NTA
What she did was entirely unprofessional and should have called you herself. ######


Prompt: I love kids but I want a kid free night. My family won’t stop asking if they can bring there kids and I say no kids allowed every time. My cousins are calling me an asshole and selfish for not letting them come. They said they should be allowed to bring there kids because they are well behaved and don’t want to pay for a babysitter. I don’t have kids but I don’t think I would ever assume I could bring my kids to someone else’s wedding. ######

Response:
 NTA
The cousins who don’t want to pay for a sitter don’t have to come, problem solved ######


Prompt: I(16m) live with my dad and grandfather. My older brother lived with us until he turned 18 last year and moved it to our moms. My dad and grandfather make me go to bed at 8pm and also take my phone and every electronic regardless if they bought it for me or not. I also do all the daily and weekly house chores(Dishes, mowing the lawn, vacuuming the house, etc) and I’m tired of doing it and having my stuff taken. My dad was upset when my brother moved out because they did the same thing to him until he left and my dad doesn’t want me to move out at 18. AITA? ######

Response:
 NTA
Save money now. Don’t tell you dad anything so he can’t try and prevent you and on your 18th just leave. ######


Prompt:
know this sounds horrible but there's background.
I've been married 20 years and I've never been close to her. She skips over our kids on holidays and hasn't acknowledged a birthday, except her own, for about 5 years. My husband, her son, doesn't speak to her because of verbal abuse he had from her growing up. My nieces and nephew (18, 19 and 21) also don't speak to her because she is an awful toxic person.
In Feburary she texted me that she had breast cancer. Being a nurse, I jumped into action and got her set up with a visiting nurse, meals on wheels and a housekeeper. I brought her to her first appt so I could understand what type and the treatment options as she refuses to wear hearing aids and has a 6th grade education. I followed up with her brother who lives nearby and relayed what he needs to do to help her.
Then came her first chemo appointment.  It was 4 and a half hours. She introduced me as "her ride" and "the bitch" to everyone who came in then sat on her phone talking to "her real daughter in law" being my husband's ex that he hadnt seen since they broke up in 1998, about me. Never said thank you. Then I got her home and walked her dog then gave him a bath. Cleaned her house and got her set up with ensure drinks and whatever she needed. Still no thank you.
Now, I'm in the mindset of she has cancer and she can do or say anything she wants right now. My husband is livid. I didnt even tell him half of it. The more I thought about it the more I just want to wash my hands of it and pass the responsibility to her brother (hes nice but equally ignorant).
Would i be a horrible person? I'm just over her ignorant shitty behavior. ######

Response:
 NTA
My son had leukemia and while we gave him tons of leeway it definitely wasn’t a do or say anything you want. You still have to be a decent human being to others who’s are trying to help you.
She can get her “real daughter in law” to take her. ######


Prompt:
I (22) live in mature student accommodation while I do my Masters. One of my housemates and her husband (early 30s) got pregnant after moving in.

I haven’t slept in weeks and haven’t been able to do my uni work. I am living on this baby’s schedule. I pay a lot to live in this housing and it is against our legal contract to generate noise loud enough to disturb other tenants. I understand that they can’t move out any time soon but I think it’s selfish to have a baby in student housing and they should move out when this is over. WIBTA? ######

Response:
 NTA
It’s student housing, not family housing. They need to go ######


Prompt: So this happned a few months ago but my brother still wont talk to me about it. Basically here's the story, I moved away for college and obviously school is expensive so like most students I was struggling financially. One of my classmates who I got along with worked at a strip club and told me I should try it out because the money is good and she could recommend me. Fast forward a bit and I'm working at the club, money is great, hours are nice and best of all it's basically paying for my schooling and then some. I ended up telling my brother this one day and he went on to tell our mom that I work as a waitress which is whatever. Except that since then she kept talking about how they should come visit me and stop by the restaurant I work at, my brother kept making up excuses why they shouldn't do that and finally I had enough of playing this game of pretend and just told her. My mom wasn't thrilled but she seems to be more understanding. My brother though was furious with me and basically has not spoken to me since then. So AITA? ######

Response:
 NTA
It wasn't your brothers place to tell your mom anything about your job from the get go. Your mom is okay with your job. And it seems it is only your brother who has a problem with you being a stripper (which btw might I add is nothing to be ashamed about), so it's his problem to overcome ######


Prompt:
I was talking to my 7 year old yesterday when she told me that she fell down a flight of stairs last week. She was not hurt however, because if that were the case I would have known and I did not know about it til she told me.

I gave her teacher a call and she conformed that it was true. According to the teacher daughter she was trying to sneak upstairs during break time and was caught by a school prefect. She tried to run but lost her balance and fell down a flight of stairs.

The prefect went to a teacher who found my daughter crying at the bottom of the stairs. She was taken to the school nurse and was found to be completely fine, not hurt in any way. The teachers then decided that it wasn't an issue and this incident went as if it never happened.

I was livid. The fact that my child fell down a flight of stairs, which could normally end up badly, was hidden from me just because she was miraculously unhurt? I don't know, this sounds wrong in so many ways. I should have the right to know if anything happened to my child in school out of the ordinary.

I posted this incident on social media while demanding an explanation from the school. I was told by the school  that they hope that I could put it down because I am giving my daugher unnecessary attention. At the end of the day she was not hurt and I should just move on like she did. True to that, my daughter seems to be over it and doesn't seems to care. Should I drop this? Am I being the selfish AH for blowing this up? ######

Response:
 NTA
injuries can show up later and it's important to know the cause. I'm sure they didn't do anything to check for internal damage in a School nurse's office. They totally should have told you so you could keep an eye out for concussion or other delayed reactions. She's 7!
When I was in elementary school I fell off the monkey bars and the principal himself drove me home and told my parents! ######


Prompt:
At a family vacation right now, and I can't stand eating around infants. I'm aware it's not their fault because they aren't capable of learning good eating habits yet, but them getting pieces of food all over their face and their hands, spitting their food and getting it everywhere- just generally being sloppy with their food, which my niece is especially good at- easily disgusts me and being around her immediately spoils my appetite.
For this whole trip, I've either been eating in another room from my family or going out by myself. They think I'm being rude by doing this and they've been on my back and they think my reasoning isn't valid- but ridiculous. I try to make it clear that it personally has nothing to do with her, and that I'd be perfectly fine eating around her when she's older and can be more clean. It's also not like I haven't triend eating around her before, but it's a lot easier said than done. Usually ends up with me taking two bites then giving up as a tornado of mashed potatoes, chewed up hamburger and baby saliva is brewing across the table.
This is getting to the point that I think I'm wrong, because nobody else in my family seems fazed by her messiness. ######

Response:
 NTA
I’m the exact same way. ######


Prompt: I live on a private paved road (no question about this) that I share with 4 other homes on a private cul-de-sac, that is about 250' long, we each have a wide frontage on the road.  The road goes through each of our properties consecutively, and there are 3 signs that say "private road" or "no trespassing".  Every day we have multiple people from other neighborhoods walk past our houses to the end of the cul-de-sac, where they turn around and walk back out, right past all the signs.  We have had several break-ins in our neighborhood (all 5 houses have been hit over the past 4 years), mail stolen from mail boxes, constant litter (doubtful produced by those who live here), dog poop from people who don't live on this road, etc.  I feel i am a nice person and pretty neighborly to those around me, but I really don't like all these people walking on our road.  This paved road wasn't cheap split between only 4 houses, and we have to maintain the road, as well as pick up the litter and dog poop.   Just today, a couple of young mothers were walking with their 3-4 year-olds, 2 which were riding bikes down the road.  One of the small kids wrecked their bike on the pavement and rolled down the road about 10' or so.  Now I just realized i have to also be concerned about liability!  My wife says to let it go, she doesn't like to make waves, but for all the reasons above, I just don't want these folks trespassing.  To me, this is no different than me just walking across their front yard.  I moved here because I wanted some privacy and not a lot of traffic.  AITA? ######

Response:
 NTA
I was think for most of it that you were, until you mentioned liability. You *should* be in the clear if your signs are posted and clearly visible, but someone could still try legal action and cost you money.

Also bear in mind I’m not a lawyer ######