Prompt:
Okay, so some backstory. My parents are pretty well off, and with everything happening have been pretty lucky to have kept their work and consistent pay checks. I (21F) am married, moved out, finished college this semester, and completely financially independent from my parents, although my husband and I still go to their house for dinner about once a week. I have 2 brothers, one older and one younger, and i’m close in age to both of them. Neither are financially independent. My younger brother (20) still lives at home and my older brother (23) still has about a year left in college and my parents pay for his rent and food. They paid for my rent and food until I got married. They paid my tuition all 4 years, and they’ll pay my brothers tuition until he graduates. (we go to a school where tuition is 5-6k/year)

While at their house for dinner, I mentioned that my husband and I got our stimulus checks, and my dad said that we should give him $200 since he would have gotten $500 per kid (or $1500 plus $2400 for he and my mom), to make it “fair”

My husband and I could really use the money, and feel like since i’m not financially dependent on my parents that we shouldn’t have to pay them anything. WIBTA if I told him I won’t pay him?

info: I don’t mean this to sound like I don’t appreciate everything they’ve done for me, because I do and I have told them that. I couldn’t work through college because I had a full course load and my program required 20ish hours/week of unpaid work as a graduation requirement. However, my parents offered to support me through college from the start. ######

Response: NTA Stimulus checks are to help boost the economy and get out of a tight spot. Not a way to have to pay back a father who wasn't forced to pay for a kids living expenses and tuition past 18. ######


Prompt:
I’ll keep it short and sweet. So my friend (I’ll call him Steve) is known as a huge flirt amongst our friends. We call him the bulldog, cause he literally takes every chance he gets to flirt with any female in range, even though he has a girlfriend. From buying girls random stuff to just weird and uncalled for compliments, he’s the ultimate flirt.

So anyway, I was at a small get together with some friends last weekend, and Steve was there, without his girlfriend. Steve was all over my girl, but I let it slide because I trust my girlfriend. (This has nothing to do with her, In not upset with her in the slightest) My girlfriend starts drinking pretty heavily, and begins throwing up halfway through the night. I’m taking care of her, and Steve starts to help as well. At first I was happy for the help, but as soon as I walked away to get some water, Steve swoops in and starts rubbing her back, and holding her neck with his hands. He was REALLY close. I didn’t really care, but it gets weirder. I try to come by her side and hold her hair back, but he kind of blocks me off! He put his arm around her to carry her off to sit in her and my tent.

At this point, I really think there is no point at all for him to be helping. If anything, he’s making it worse for her. I mean if I were puking my guts out I’d rather there be nobody around except for maybe one person. Later that night, my girlfriend told me that Steve kept asking for hugs because he and his girlfriend were not in a good spot and he missed her. What?????!! However, she did say that I shouldn’t be mad and that Steve was genuinely just trying to help out the situation. He CAN be a nice and selfless person, but I was a little too weirded out to tell.

Was he just being nice? Am I just being jealous? ######

Response: NTA Steve was taking advantage of your girlfriend. It is generally considered good to protect a friend or partner who is not sober from people who might take advantage of them in that state. ######


Prompt: I(16m) have two younger brothers. One is 7. And to put it simply he is addicted to the PS4, specifically fortnite. He hounds our parents for money for Vbucks and has to have the PS4 constantly or he throws a fit. Or he sits in the room when someone else is on it and just trash talks. So basically I’m getting the PS5 when it releases for my good grades/Christmas and because he keeps throwing a fit My mother is considering getting him his own PS4. I’m the only one who doesn’t deal with his crap and he knows it. So when I heard she was considering it my first thought was OMFG you can’t be serious. She hates the fact I don’t want to have anything to do with him because of how he treats me and he has lied to cause issues for me and most of the time she takes his side. Yes she takes the word of the 7 year old over the 16 year old. I just don’t know what to do anymore. AITA? ######

Response: NTA start recording this stuff and talk to them. Print out signs of gaming addiction show and highlight behaviors that match say your concerned what's happening and that your brother needs help. ######


Prompt:
I'm an artist and I found a following online. I'm starting to make some serious cash for what I do and it's been helping me save up so I can finally move out of my parent's place.

Due to the quarentine, this has basically become my full time job which means I spend a large portion of the day in my room. I also work well into the night since there are fewer distractions, so I tend to sleep in until 10 each day.

I don't neglect home responsablilties and I do come down for a few hours each day. However my mom wants me to be down as often as she is and wake up much earlier too. No matter how much I tell her about what I do she doesn't understand that I actually work, and that my success hinges on my output.

She says that I'm just neglecting her feelings. That I'm just using this art thing as an excuse to avoid her and be lazy.

AITA? ######

Response: NTA Sounds like your mother needs a hobby and some friends. If she needs you for serious reasons like medical needs, you gotta be available for that but other stuff should be able to wait, as if you were actually away from home and not there to do it. ######


Prompt:
My cousins "James" and "Lydia" have 9 children. They are a wonderful family, and we spend holidays together. My husband and I suspect that their youngest "Grace" has Down syndrome due to very subtle physical features, motor delays, and her mother's age when she had her, but we haven't said anything to anyone else in the family.

When we were over to their house for Thanksgiving, I was fussing over all the kids like usual, and things went wrong when I got to Grace. I did the whole "Wow, you're so big!" thing and asked Lydia, "Is she walking yet?" Lydia very harshly snapped, "No. But nothing is wrong with her." Honestly, it was a little shocking and I was caught off guard. All I said was "Okay. But if there was, you know we would never love her any less." That was the end of that, and I thought everything was okay. Then, we weren't invited to the family Christmas.

I recently was talking on the phone to James and brought up to him that we had gotten all the kids Christmas gifts. He then told me that Lydia is still very upset that I asked if Grace was walking yet and that she expected an apology before we would be welcome over again. I'm planning on apologizing anyway, but I really don't think I did anything wrong. AITA? ######

Response: NTA sounds like your cousin is overly sensitive. It’s a normal question which doesn’t need an apology at all. Unless the baby is three years old, asking “are they walking yet, talking yet, sleeping through the night yet” are all normal questions. ######


Prompt:
So about 5 weeks ago, this girl and I matched on tinder, and we both really liked each other! From then on,  we have been chatting, pretty much nonstop, throughout lockdown over Instagram.

Yesterday, she told me we were too different and she wouldn't be able to date me (crushing). She did say, however, that she really wanted to remain just as close, text as often as we do, and remain friends, to the extent that we hang out irl once lockdown has ended.

Initially, I was quite hurt because I really did like her but accepted that we try and be friends. I did this because I did really like texting her.

 However, throughout the day we've been texting just as much and flirting to the same extent. Although I enjoy it, I don't think its sustainable, because I feel like shit texting her, knowing she doesn't want anything other than friendship. I get pits in my stomach texting her when I think about it.

AITA because I'm throwing away this friendship because it's not leading to something romantic (which is why I started it in the first place) ######

Response: NTA sounds like she's leading you on and keeping you around as a fallback crush. Don't waste your time. ######


Prompt:
My father and his family lost their home and had no place to live. He has a teenage son, my half brother, who is 15 and a known smoker. Because they had nowhere else to go, I offered them to stay at our other house we usually rent out to other people. The house is situated within our property, just next to our home.

Prior to my dad moving in, my mother and my sister moved in with us 6 months ago after my stepdad passed away.

We have many spare bedrooms in our home so them moving in wasn't a problem. .

This is where the conflict arises :

I don't charge rent from my mom. I don't let her cook. I cook for 5 people in our home (my husband, my mom, my toddler and my sister). It's just my way of looking out for my mom because that's what she did for me when I was young and struggling. She raised me as a single mother for years..

My dad has a problem with this because I am charging him and his wife the same rent I charge other tenants (it's a well furnished house). He thinks I'm playing favourites between parents because I don't charge my mom any money. He thinks he should pay less rent as compared to other tenants because I'm his daughter.

 Apparently, he doesn't like to be reminded of the fact that he charged me rent the one time when I was very sick and had to move in with him and his wife when I was in college. I had a part time job, and struggled to pay my bills with my illness. I wasn't shown any consideration.

He also has a problem because my husband doesn't help him out with his groceries. He is older now, 71 and thinks we should be the one getting him his groceries. We don't think so, his wife is 50 and he has a young son. They can be the ones doing the grocery shopping if he's to fragile to move around.

AITA? ######

Response: NTA sounds like a case of “you reap what you sow” ######


Prompt: So my brother is a twitch streamer he isnt huge but he averages around 100 to 150 concurrent viewers during stream. He does it full time while going to college. When he streams I(14M) use it as background noise and normally lurk. Today I decided to say something in chat and he ignored it which whatever streamers ignore messages all the time but I talked in chat every couple minutes. Never brought up any affliction with him never said he was my brother I was just acting like a normal viewer. He then went on a bathroom break for the stream and went and knocked on my door telling me to stop talking in his twitch chat. I asked why and he said becuase my mods on my stream know who you are. I asked why that's a problem I am friends with one of his mods none of them said anything about me being there. Well he went back to his room and went back to streaming. I then said something in chat and he muted me for 48 hours. Am I missing something here? I didnt ask for mod. I didnt bring up that I was his brother so people in his chat would pay attention to me I just watching a stream like i would any other stream. ######

Response: NTA sorry lil dude, idk what the hells  up with your brother. If I ever stream I hope my siblings watch but that’s just me. ######


Prompt: So a coworker of mine and I happen to share a lot of the same friends. Today we were talking about some of our friends, and she starts describing this one friend she has. He sounds familiar so I say that he sounds familiar, I have a similar friend and start describing him thinking it might be the same person. I said he was smart, really funny, black, tall, and sporty. She then looks at me funny and said that she didn't know I was racist. I was really confused I said what? She said that since I said my friend is black that makes me racist. I was so confused and flabbergasted so I just went to do other things. I've been thinking and do I just not know what racism is? Is saying someone is black racist? I am still confused ######

Response: NTA some people are just so scared of being racist they get ridiculous. ######


Prompt:
Hello!
My sister said I could use her throwaway account so I didn’t have ties to my personal one. Also on mobile.

My husband’s sister, my SIL, is due to get married next month. The venue is allowing her wedding but they had to heavily adjust the guest list. My daughter was set to be the flower girl and my husband and I would just be attending as a guest. I was cut from the guest list. I understand as I have never been made to feel welcomed in the family and we’re not that close. Why take up a spot when she has plenty of other people she wants around?

Well due to obvious reasons, and my husband’s job banning travel (the only travel he is allowed is a work related trip here in the near future), he told my SIL they would no longer be able to attend. My SIL then decided that I would be the one to bring my daughter to the wedding but I still wouldn’t be a guest. I would just be driving her 12 hours to another state and hanging out at the grandparents home while everyone else is at the wedding.

Here’s where I feel like TA.
I informed her that I would not be sending or traveling with my daughter because 1- am immune compromised, 2- I have school (online) and a work from home job that demand my time as well, and 3- there are family members who my husband is no contact with and he would not want her around these people without one of us present.
This information caused her to massively flip. She said I was salty because I was cut from the guest list, she now no longer has a flower girl, and I’m ruining a very special family picture she has in mind. She was going to have a family photo taken at my MIL’s grave with everyone in wedding attire. I mentioned that my husband wouldn’t even be in the picture because he wouldn’t be able to attend but she just kept blaming me.

I’m honestly starting to overthink this to where I’m feeling like an asshole and maybe I should find a way to get my daughter there.

So Reddit, AITA? ######

Response: NTA So much not the asshole and she so much is the asshole that I worry that you have to ask this, as you seem to have gotten used to a high degree of assholeness from her. ######


Prompt:
Some years ago I was driving to work when I was struck by another vehicle who... let’s say the other driver (Jackass) should not have been driving at that time. I’ll always remember him laughing his fat ass off as the ambulance pulled away.

Long hospital stay, multiple surgeries, fired from my job, lots of unkind gossip; and my kids/husband/parents and I suffered.

I managed to claw my way into a good job now but went through a lot of shit first.

Although Jackass has never apologized to me, his pastor  (my dad’s stepbrother’s wife’s nephew) reached out to me to express he’s “sorry” and “in a program”. He asked me not to proceed with the lawsuit as it’s not “Biblical”.

Their “church family” harassed and bullied me a ton over the years, to the point that law encirclement & my kids’ schools have had to get involved.

I just settled the lawsuit for max $$ though I have perm scars, PTSD, and physical limitations as a result of my injuries. There are people who refuse to be around me bc of being grossed out by my scars.

Pastor called me again, reiterated Jackass is sorry, and that for his “recovery” I am somehow obligated to forgive him in front of his very large congregation. I told Pastor to go fuck himself and have let everyone know that I’m afraid of Pastor and of Jackass.

Step-uncle (whom I’ve never liked) just called to ask me to reconsider - apparently MY calling the cops and filing the lawsuit has caused both Pastor and Jackass to have trouble at their jobs. Apparently Jackass wants to get his citizenship & Pastor wants to be a foster parent and claim my refusal to forgive blocks both.

Step-uncle’s family never ONCE reached out to see how my family and I were doing. But they organized a meal train and a free lawyer for Jackass.

I maintain that IDGAF, I never heard any compassion or remorse from Jackass or his church; why should I care about their ego now.

Who’s TA here? ######

Response:
 NTA so many times.
I'm very sorry for everything you had and have to go through. ######


Prompt:
A few days ago, a bunch of people had gotten nudes of my girlfriend. I hadn't found out about it until my friend had showed me that he had gotten one. Obviously, I confronted my girlfriend about this, who seemed pretty upset. Apparently she had been trying to send a picture to someone, misclicked, and accidentally sent the nude instead. The person she sent it to in question ended up sharing it with a bunch of people. At least, that was her reasoning for it.

Obviously, I got really angry. First of all, she needs to be more careful, and second of all, why does she even have nudes of herself on her phone?! She never sends me nudes so I feel like the only real explanation was that she was going to send nudes to other people anyway. Admittedly, I lost my cool a little, and I yelled at her and called her a cheater.

She didn't speak to me for two days, until I confronted her again. She told me that she was really upset that I was so angry over a small "mistake". I don't think my reaction was that unreasonable considering she did send nudes to other people but I'd like a second opinion. ######

Response:
 NTA so many people in the comments are turning this into a "you don't own her body she can take nudes of herself as much as she wants" "why aren't you mad at the guy who shared them" *when that clearly isn't the discussion here*. Your girlfriend should file a police report against the guy as it's definitely against the law to share someones naked pictures without their consent.

I find it very VERY suspicious that she accidentally sent a nude to someone, and even more suspicious that that person is a male, and even more suspicious that she didn't tell you right away.

It might be too late now but your first reaction when you found out should have been to tell her to show you the conversation with him. If the messages were flirty then it was obviously on purpose, if the messages were like memes or about work or whatever then maybe not. If she did it on accident then surely the first message after the nude would be something along the lines of “OH MY GOD, I’M SO SORRY I DIDN’T MEAN TO SEND THAT” **The fact that she didn't volunteer to show you her message history with this guy right after she found out you knew tells me she did it on purpose.**

I'm sorry bro but I'm pretty sure she did that shit, and you shouldn't be with someone like that. If you need to be sure then reach out to the guy she sent it to and ask him to screenshot the convo. I know it's fucked up because he's the only 100% established asshole here, but at least you could get some closure.

[EDIT] oh and everyone in this sub, keep this same gullible energy when the next boyfriend is caught sending dick pics to some girl and she exposes him. “babe i swear, it was an accident!!” ######


Prompt:
This happened a while ago but I’m still hearing about it in the family group chat.

Couple months ago my sister in law found out she was pregnant and her views on pregnancy and motherhood (as well as other things) are really strange, at least to me. For instance, the shape of a belly (mild) and how boys and girls should be raised (stereotypes all around). Then as her pregnancy progressed she made her views on birthing very clear: anyone who has a c-section is not fit to be a mother.

I was very confused because I was born via c-section and so was my oldest. I asked her why does she think so, she said that it was the easy way out and a mother should feel the pain for her baby, be one with the baby, and all that. My partner (their sibling) reminded her that I went through a c-section and SIL said, “well, my point still stands, doesn’t it? No offense (my name) but you are a bit absent in your oldest’s life. Is your career really that worth it?”

Me not being a stay at home mom has been a bit of a heated argument with this family for a while. My mil and a couple of the other sister/brother (it’s a big family) in laws haven’t been okay with it. My partner has no issue with it and either do some of the other in laws, and now she’s brought it up again!

So I told her the truth about her pregnancy: she doesn’t know who the father is. She keeps seeing her ex despite being with her current boyfriend of about 2 years. There’s not special about either one of them but she claims that she “just can’t quit him,” the other guy. Honestly wanted to barf.

She got super angry with me and threw a wooden spoon at me. She then stormed out and I got the brunt of it from the others. It’s still happening in the group chat and my father in law is asking if I could just apologize and get it over with since her due date is happening soon. I’m not that interested in apologizing but if you guys think I am I’ll do it. It’s much better to hear about it from a non family member ######

Response: NTA SIL deserves much worse imo. Since the family is pressuring you to apologise, are they also pressuring SIL to apologise? ######


Prompt:
My mom and I had a pretty rocky relationship while I was growing up, but the past 5 years or so has been great and we talk on the phone almost every day.

Yesterday at 4 I called her to wish her a Happy Mother's Day, and she was short with me from the beginning. I asked her how she was and she admitted she was sad that she spent all day waiting for me to call. I explained that I had been busy, and I was worried earlier when I had free time that she would be sleeping. I spent about 5 minutes trying to talk with her, but she just kept giving me one word answers or not responding at all. At the very end when I gave up and asked to speak to my dad, she gave me a sarcastic "Oh, of course you want to talk to dad."

I thought things would be okay with a little time, but late last night I realized that I never updated my relationship status on Facebook. I didn't make a big post. I just changed the status, and even though it's viewable to friends, it's not showing up on everyone's timeline so it has gotten minimal attention. We've been married for months (a small ceremony with just us, our pastor, and the couple that mentored us) and all our close family and friends already know, but it's news to old high school and college friends, for example.

I woke up this morning to multiple messages from my mom written in the middle of the night about how could I be so hurtful, why do I have time for Facebook but not her, why couldn't I send her a card or a gift or do something special for one day, why did Mother's Day have to be the day I made the big announcement, etc.. AITA? ######

Response: NTA shes being ridiculous and is having these lofty exectations. ######


Prompt:
I'm 18 years old, and when I tell people my parents are assholes they usually dismiss me as another spoiled bratty college student.
Except over the past two years I've come to realize how toxic they are.

They're the type that turns me into the black sheep of the family whenever I have a different opinion or value from them. They never talk it out, just fight about how childish I am and how they thought I was better than that (Example: My position on abortion).

They constantly use degrading actions and terms to try to get me to do what they want. I'm 167lbs (75kg) and 5'9" and they constantly call me a pig or say nobody would ever date me because they want me to get thinner. I exercise and I try to eat healthy, but once a month a girl wants a freaking chocolate bar and then if they see it it just turns into a 40 minute speech about how gross I am. It also frustrates me that they don't live up to what they preach.

I can never talk to them for more than 10 minutes without them starting a fight or criticizing me which is why I always stay locked in my room.

But here's the thing, financially they sacrificed so much for me. I'm aware that providing financial support doesn't mean that they're good parents, but they've fed me and given me decent life. My mother bought me a trip to Egypt last summer and it was great. My father paid for my braces for 5 years while he had a broken tooth all that time. But having a relationship with them is eating my mind away, specially since I lost my job  and they use money as way to control me.

They don't care for themselves and choose to care for me and I don't want to dishonor all they've given me, but they've been one of the main reasond I've had intense panic attacks and developed Depersonalization Disorder. AITA for planning on moving far away from them and then cutting off contact completely? ######

Response: NTA shelter and food is what they signed up for when they chose to make you,they had to do that, don't let them verbally abuse you for that ######


Prompt:
I’m pregnant with my fourth baby. My older sister and her partner who aren’t pregnant yet (not trying yet either) but plan to fall pregnant at some point this yr asked me tonight if I have any baby names. I said not really yet, because I don’t want opinions. My sister jokingly said “yeh ok, you never tell me anything” so I reluctantly said “well I do have a boys name chosen, it’s Henry”

Straight away her fiancé said “no can’t have that one, that’s my dads name” his dad past a few yrs ago. I get it, that name means something to them but I don’t think that means he can tell me I can’t use it. I said “ well sorry it’s the only name we like”
I even said that they can both be Henry. My sister said “don’t worry I think she is having a girl anyway”

I have two boys already. I struggled badly to find names for them- my oldest wasn’t named for two weeks. This time I fell in love with the name Henry almost immediately. I will be finding out my NIPT results in a few days. I feel like I’m likely to have a boy more so than another girl as I have two boys.

After his comment I overheard them talking about it- made me feel so awkward and if I’m honest- pissed off! This is why I didn’t want to tell them names. I also should add that my little sister is also pregnant. She has found out she is having a girl and when she told my older sister that they are thinking they will call her Frankie. My older sister apparently said “oh that’s my name for a girl” she told my little sister that she could “have” the name.

WIBTA if I name my baby Henry? ######

Response: NTA she’s not even pregnant and they can’t guarantee it’s going to be a boy. Also, that’s very strange how this sister somehow has names picked out that both you and your little sister want to use.... ######


Prompt:
So my cousin and I(both 22F) are only 6 months apart and her birthday was in early March. A few days ago in the family group chat she sent her cashapp and asked for family to send their birthday gifts there. 1) once you then 18 in my family it’s very rare to get a birthday gift from everyone. 2) she’s 22 with a job and her birthday was almost 3 months ago. I didn’t respond and she messaged me privately asking why I haven’t sent her anything since I have cashapp. I told her I don’t get a birthday present from that side of the and don’t beg them for it way past my birthday. She then brought up the fact that I get an “extra gift” at Christmas from my uncle. Which yes is true but it’s not actually from him, it’s from my “dad” since my uncle was the one who inherited his estate after he passed. I didn’t respond and she replied that she KNOWS I have enough money to spare to send her a birthday gift. While yes I have received SOME of my inheritance my husband and I are about to close on a house and the money is going towards that and for furniture. I did not receive enough to just go around handing out money. I also know that any money she gets will be spent on drugs. She lives with her boyfriend and his family rent and bill free.
So AITA? I felt bad after it all went down but I feel like it was a low blow bringing up my dads money. ######

Response: NTA she’s honestly being greedy, asking months later is also petty as fuck. My uncle makes more money than the rest of our family but he gives regular gifts and I’m just grateful for anything I’d never pull a “I know you have cash give me some! You owe me for my birthday” ######


Prompt: My friend "bought" my knock off apple pen for $20, she still hasn't given me the money for it yet. I never used the pen to draw as I thought I would when I bought it from eBay but I used the magnetic cap as a fidget type of stress reliever and really miss it. I have avoided giving her the charger till she pays me but my friend found a charger that works with it. I keep asking her to pay me and now she just keeps saying that I need to wait. If I don't get the money by the end of June will I be a bad person if I ask her mum to get her to give it back to me? Also I'm sorry if this sounds childish I just want to know if I'm in the right or wrong for it. ######

Response: NTA she’s a theif ######


Prompt: I had no idea she was a single mother. Even still, her snide daily remarks in the office were getting on my nerves, so good riddance. For two years I rode a bicycle to my office. I'm talking full gear, spandex, elbow guards, helmet, just the works. After locking my bike I walk into my office, still in full bike gear, and change clothes in the men's bathroom. A forty nine year old woman with a rat-like swarthy face and cuntish demeanor never misses her morning opportunity to comment on my man buns, which I find enraging but it's impossible to avoid her wrath because her cubicle is adjacent to the hall in which the only men's bathrooms are located. The whole office hears her squawking but because I also have a man bun style of haircut, it was always ambiguous enough not to draw heat since NICE MAN BUNS could be referring to my hair because she also has a stupid foreign accent and a rather fat unshapely bottom herself. Well, since March we've been working remotely for obvious reasons, and she posted a snide comment in our Skype for Office group chat in a team meeting. She outlined that she misses my steaming man buns strutting around the office, still sweaty from my morning bike ride. I instantly sent a screenshot of her words along with the wink 😉 face to the HR department filing a sexual harassment claim, and she was gone from the group chat the next day and I couldn't look her up in the internal Microsoft Outlook company directory, and then someone told me she was terminated and can't find a job, and also that she's a single mother. Woops. Am I an asshole for getting this woman fired for commenting on my ass cheeks? ######

Response: NTA She’s a grown woman who needs to learn how to conduct herself in the workplace. You didn’t get her fired, she got herself fired. ######


Prompt:
For my birthday I wanted to have dinner just with the two of us, no other family members were invited.

So on the night he picks me up and on our way to dinner we get a call from her. She has been out drinking with a friend and wants a ride. She could have asked her friend for a ride home or easily gotten a taxi as it wouldn't have cost much. She then over speaker phone starts saying I was the one who told you to call her (me) and make plans. My dad goes yeah but I was planning on ringing her anyway. She then starts saying about her kids (all of which are adults) that they wouldn't do that to him. Which is false because her kids did that many times when they started dating because they didn't like my dad.

So we arrive to pick her up and I am sitting in the front seat. She opens up the door and tells me to sit in the back. Nothing else was said like happy birthday or even hello. I didn't want to start an argument so I just moved to the backseat.

She then complains about how she told her friend she was out with that she was doing dinner with us and of course she couldn't then ask for a ride home.
This was untrue as he had let her know that it would just be the two of us. Then she turns to me and is all like so what's so wrong with me coming out to dinner with you guys. I repeat that I just want to spend time with my dad as we don't get to see each other very often. She then repeats about her kids and that it is super hurtful that we wouldn't invite her.

On the rest of the drive to drop her off she continues to try guilt us into letting her come with us. Luckily my dad refuses and says that she is not coming.

For context they have been together 3 years and it is a very rocky relationship. Neither myself or my brother (both adults) get on that great with her. She tolerates me but will not even talk about my brother and hates it when my dad talks about him. ######

Response: NTA she's probably just jealous of your relationship with your dad. ######


Prompt:
I (15f) am getting tired of my sister (20) constantly stealing my stuff, mostly my art supplies. My supplies was a couple of pallets and paint brushes, I paid for all of these myself, I don’t have a job yet so it’s hard for me to buy new supplies so I use my supplies cautiously.

It started when I was using my paint supplies on a project that I had to finish. My sister was playing with my niece. I left to go to the bathroom and feed my cat and when I came back, she stole one of my pallets and excessively stacked paint all over it. She was also using my most delicate/expensive paint brushes. I quickly grabbed the paint brush away and I got pissed off and yelled at her for grabbing my stuff. She quickly tried to make me a bad person for “ruining her bonding time” with her niece (even though she was the one painting and not my niece).

I left to go clean up my brushes and when I came back, she started painting that same pallet on top of my project and let my niece use a sheet of paper to paint. This time, she took out her own box of paints and brushes. She used her own brushes for her and my niece, but continued to use my paints.

I took away my stuff and put them in my box and my sister tried to make me the bad person by saying that “niece just wanted paint” and “I wouldn’t let niece use my stuff”.
I would have gladly let them paint with my pallets if they just asked, but they didn’t

Note: my sister has her own money to be able to buy her own stuff and has 3x more supplies than I do. ######

Response: NTA She's perfectly allowed to share her own art supplies with anybody she wants. She does not get to claim yours are community property. ######


Prompt:
My (25M) girlfriend (25F) of a year and a half just moved into my apartment two or three weeks ago.

She usually orders takeout, but last night she decided she wanted to start cooking for herself.

I walk into the kitchen and see she has a piece of raw chicken in the sink, so I ask her not to do that since it'll get bacteria on the sink and anything else that goes in there. Instead of taking it out and using the bowl I sat next to her, she picks it up and turns on the faucet trying to wash it, as I saw my life flashing before my eyes, splashing water all over the place, and I say you're not supposed to wash chicken because it spreads bacteria, as she says "what bacteria?". She then takes one hand off of the chicken and uses it to turn off the faucet, the whole time I'm saying she could have gotten salmonella all over the sink/counter/faucet as she takes the chicken to my cutting board table I use to cut fruit, places the chicken down, and walks over to the fridge (without washing her hands), opens it with her still wet hand, as she starts rummaging through the fruit/vegi drawer.  I tell her she's going to have to wash the handle now and any think else she touched because that could become a breeding ground for bacteria as she yells "stop pissing me off and just leave me alone, I guarantee you any chicken you've eating at a restaurant was made the same way ". So I did.

I went to the bedroom and an hour later I hear her eating and talking on facetime when she tells the person how "I went psycho over some f\*cking chicken", "followed her around telling her how to cook her own dinner" and how I "need a reality check".

I feel like ass for bringing it up since she was only trying to cook herself dinner, and I'm not generally a germaphobe, but this is just one of those things.

AITA/a germaphobe psycho who needs to chill? ######

Response: NTA She's going to get food poisoning or give it to both of you. ######


Prompt:
I have a tiny hole in my wall right above my bed. My girlfriend (17, im 18) absent-mindedly was scratching it and i jokingly said "haha don't scratch my wall off" thinking she'd stop. She didn't. She kept scratching it and i said something like "im serious please don't break my wall" as the hole was getting bigger. She kept on doing it though so I was a little upset because like ?? its my wall lol and i directly asked her to stop breaking it. Then she got defensive and completely shut me out and is now sulking on her phone. AITA?

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Response: NTA she's an asshole who doesn't respect you or your home ######


Prompt:
My [18M] close friend [18F] is someone I have always found attractive (in addition to being fun to hangout with). I didn't think I had a chance with her and didn't want to ruin the friendship so I hadn't made any moves.

She sent me a picture of herself completely naked on snapchat captioned "I want you". I was stunned and super excited. I took a picture of myself naked. After the picture was taken but before I sent it, I saw she had sent another message to me. I sent the picture before reading the message.

The message said " Omg that was obviously meant for the girl I've been talking to". She then opened my picture. She then called me a pervert saying she didn't want to see that. She said its disrespectful. I explained I thought she wanted me but she said that picture was obviously not meant for me. Now she is mad and is "taking a step back" from the friendship. ######

Response: NTA she was the one that sent a completely unsolicited nude, you were under the impression from that that that's what you guys were doing ######


Prompt:
Alright, context before you guys hate me: my parents are quite wealthy but I (F24) left home when I was 17 because they didn't agree with my career/life choices and I worked a lot to support myself for a few years until they recently accepted my choices and started helping me as I went back to school to pursue my dream degree and only work part time. I still pay for most of my expenses because I have a nice job where I've been for three years but my parents now do give me a small sum of money to cover school expenses. I am aware that I am very privileged but the money my parents give me is only for school things only and everything else I pay with the money I earn myself.

Now, tonight we were at a house party and it was getting late (about 3am) and I decided I'd take a cab home because I was wearing a rather short dress and didn't feel safe walking home although it was only a 20 minute walk to my place. My friend said that I was a spoiled rich b\*tch because I could afford to take a cab home while she had to walk longer to her place.

It did piss me off because she doesn't work although I did already offer her to get a position at my job after she dropped out of university and now pretty much lives of social welfare.

So I told her that if she had a job, she could afford to take a cab home and she got really pissed. A few of our friends also thought I was really rude while some others said I was right but probably shouldn't have said that in front of everyone.

I felt that I was justified as she did try to embarrass me in front of everyone and is constantly criticizing how much money I spend on things every time we got out and complaining about how she can't do the same while she's not even trying to better her life. So, was I the asshole? ######

Response: NTA she was nasty to you first. Don't dish it if you can't take it. ######


Prompt:
 My daughter (20F) started a diet a few weeks ago where she doesn’t eat after 7PM. I’ve read mixed things on this, but nothing dangerous. She is active, eats healthy on the regular. So, she’s not starving herself. So, I didn’t say anything on it.

Then she got into a fight with her dad yesterday. This whole “no one can leave the house” is great for relationships I tell you. She’s refused to talk to him or be in the same room as him for days. She took a nap today and woke up at like 6:30 PM. My husband was in the kitchen cooking. Now, I was not downstairs at the time but I guess he stayed in there for an hour cooking dinner. She could’ve easily gone in there and gotten something to eat for herself and gone back to her room (he was using the stove but the microwave and counter space was still available). My husband has also been cordial and trying to work out their fight. He also says he didn’t stay in the kitchen on purpose, he didn’t know she was refusing to go in there because he was. He was simply making dinner for himself, me and our youngest (my daughter never eats what we do, she always eats her own thing by her own choosing).

Anyway, my daughter comes upstairs around 8, whining that she’s “starving” and that it’s her dad’s fault she can’t eat. And how dare he be in the kitchen. I told her that she was being ridiculous. I said she could’ve gone in there while he was or if she really is that averse to him right now, for one night, she can eat after 7. It’s okay. She won’t fall apart. She said I don’t understand dieting. I said maybe not, but this diet sounds stupid if you can’t break it once so you don’t starve. She then got mad and I said she was being childish. She went to her room and hasn’t come out. She texted her little sister, who showed me and apparently I’m an asshole.

So Reddit, am I an asshole here? ######

Response: NTA she was just hangry. ######


Prompt: This was years ago. I was a server and one of my fellow servers left his book with 100-ish dollars cash in it and forgot about it, pregnant server found it (in front of me) and decided to keep the cash and cut me in. Being friends with the server who left his book, i yanked his chain about "forgetting something" and eventually just told him what happened, and returned the money I had. I also told him about the entire situation. The pregnant server had apparently meant to keep her share for herself, and was promptly fired based on my testimony. I thought it was all in good fun, honestly. Had no intention to steal, was just messing with my friend. I definitely had no intention of having a coworker fired, but I think in some ways this is my fault. AITA? ######

Response: NTA she stole and there were consequences. You had nothing to do with it. Her pregnancy doesn’t make it your fault ######


Prompt:
A little background: I am the scapegoat of my family and it has lead to a lot of self hate and a I’ve been trying to unlearn a lot of it recently. A while ago I had a breakdown and confined in my sister that I always feel like people hate me, specially my family but also strangers and friends and we had a talk about it and I completely forgot we ever had that conversation. Today me and her had an argument about something completely unrelated and she said “well atleast I’m not hated by literally everyone around me” and I instantly felt horrible, not only because this is something that I struggle with so much but also because I trusted her and told her my biggest insecurity and she used it against me in front of the rest of my family (who didn’t disagree lolol), we live in the same house unfortunately but I’ve been avoiding her, we haven’t spoken in maybe a week, she tried talking to me today by asking to watch a movie and I told her I don’t feel comfortable hanging out with her, am I the asshole for wanting to completely isolate myself from her after this incident?

TLDR: told my sister my biggest insecurity and she used it against me in an unrelated argument ######

Response: Nta she picked the sharpest knife to stab you with. You will struggle to ever be able to open up to her again. ######


Prompt:
I'm going on a six month deployment with the military and will be exiting my current lease with roommates.  This is something I have been planning so I can save money while I am away and have storage figured out with my family for the items I will be keeping.

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My girlfriend has been having worries about her roommate moving out as she only comes home maybe once a week.  The roommate has been staying at her boyfriends house and only comes home when my girlfriend works a night shift.  She has also been pressuring her boyfriend for marriage.  This has led her to believe marriage may be soon and the roommate will move out.

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When I return I would like to have as much money saved as possible and purchase a home.  Recently my girlfriend asked what I would do if her roommate moved out.  This question caught me off guard and I asked what she meant.  The gist of it is that she is unwilling to get another roommate, but would like to stay there by herself.  She can't afford rent on her own and asked for me to help pay.  The logic is that I will no longer be paying rent so I can help her out.

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Before I leave I had asked if I could stay at her house for about 3 weeks before my orders begin.  Both her and her roommate are fine with this although it will be tight.  During this period I've said I would pay my share and contribute any way I could.  They both shrugged it off at the time and didn't seem concerned.

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We've been together 3 years with a breakup after the first year.  She is amazing and I would like to help her if possible.  If it comes down to it and she can't afford rent then I wouldn't let her go homeless.  She has a large savings fund, has the ability to move, and could find another roommate for six months while I'm gone.

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I think it's unreasonable for her to not make an effort and expect me to pay but AITA? ######

Response:
 NTA she needs to work this out herself and live within her means.

Her expecting you to bail her out when there are realistic other options is a red flag and something you should consider moving forward.

Good luck on your deployment. ######


Prompt:
So hi Reddit, I already people are gonna hate on me for this and yeah but let's just get to the backstory of the story (and yes I'm on a throwaway).

So I'm 15 and ESS (entitled step-sister) is 10, ESM (Entitled stepmom).

So my little sister loves playing basketball and I was visiting my dad the other day (they live close by, not too far). My little sister has such an attitude that all the other entitled children would cower in fear when she gets to them, she expects everything to be done for her and ONLY for her, she loves making snarky and harsh comments but hates constructive criticisms and hates losing.

That's Where I come in, see in a fat tall kid, not that fit, but I'm tall enough to where I can hold the ball high enough so she cant get it, whenever we play basketball I let her win because I don't wanna deal with a brat crying and ESM raging at me after. So during the visit my ESS wanted to play basketball and gave the usual " I'm gonna beat you so bad you're gonna cry and cry" and me not dealing with this stuff anymore said  "sure" with a smirk on my face. we usually go to 20 points (10 baskets) but today I wanted to finally win so I said " I'll do 20 to win and you do 10 baskets okay?" and she lit up thinking she could win again.

Long story short I beat her 40-2

She ran inside and started to cry and ESM came outside and yelled at me until I just told her to shut up and told my dad what really happened, he was on my side but my ESM says that I'm an asshole

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So Reddit AITA ######

Response: NTA she needs to learn ######


Prompt: I (18F) live with my mom, dad, eldest sister(26F), her husband (23M) and their three little girls(9,7,1) I have spinal problems due to a stair incident in 7th grade. Blah blah blah pandemic keeps me from doctors blah blah losing mobility in hips down blah blah need cane and constant medication to walk normally. I’m upstairs doing my coursework and my cane is hanging on the chair next to me. My sister comes up to feed the baby and moves my cane. Which usually is, like, whatever, i move it to my lap or on the back of my chair. But this time she moves it a few feet out of reach near the kitchen counter. Still whatever, I just point out that I can’t reach my cane from there and she says ‘well it’s not like your going anywhere anyways’ which, rude, but fair enough I’m working at that moment so it’s whatever. I pause my work and play with the baby. I help feed her, everything is fine, I’m getting tired and my sister takes the baby when she’s done eating. She’s in the kitchen and I need to get up so I can go and rest but my cane’s too far. My sisters husband comes upstairs with a sippy cup and before he passes me I ask ‘Hey (HISNAME), can you pass me my cane? (SISTER) put it too far’. Cue sister getting huffy and her husband rolling eyes asking how I could be blaming her. I’m tired, I just want to nap. He hands me my cane I bid them adieu and leave to take my nap. Sister is offended by this whole interaction. Am I the asshole? ######

Response: NTA She moved it out of reach and got mad at you for pointing it out? Makes no sense. ######


Prompt: So, my mum called me and asked me if I wanted to have some Sparkling/fizzy water from the supermarket. I’d have to go with her since her arm is injured and she isn’t strong enough to carry a sixpack. I told her I’m fine and I don’t need any. She said ok, and then came home from work in a fussy mood. I asked her if she’s ok and she said how she wanted fizzy water. She hardly ever drinks it. I told her that if SHE wanted some, she should have told me since I would have gone to the shop with her to get some. I go to my room, and my mum is still upset. I go to her room like an hour later and ask if everything’s ok. She says “I’m thirsty” , while theres a massive glass of water next to her. I point it out to her. She proceeds to say “it’s not the same”. I again tell her how, if SHE wanted sparkling water, she should just tell me up front “ I would also like some sparkling water” and I’d happily go to the shop with her. Now she is acting like I’m an AH. AITA? ######

Response:
 NTA she is being passive aggressive, ignore her.
She is an adult and can express what she wants when she wants it, it she doesn’t too bad. ######


Prompt:
My wife and I have been married for 3 years, together for 5. She is currently 20 weeks pregnant with our first child and we have been excited.

My MIL and wife have been always been close, MIL raised my wife as a single mom. MIL was also raised by a single mom. MIL actually didn’t tell my wife’s dad that she existed and to this day, he doesn’t know. My wife has no interest in knowing her dad so she says it’s just not a huge deal. I respect her wishes, but it has lead to issues with the pregnancy. MIL and I had a decent relationship until my wife got pregnant. Even before she got pregnant, MIL would always say, “When (wife) gets pregnant, if you leave, I will be there for her.” And since we told her, it’s been a reoccurring theme. It has been made clear by MIL if I can’t take it  and leave her daughter, she will take my place and parent my child. I have no plans on leaving my wife or my child.

And really, the whole thing has driven me crazy. My wife has said “I know you’re not leaving” but she says her mom feels that they know best with pregnancy and child rearing. I am worried about being pushed out of this child’s life and that it’s a wish of MIL that I will just up and leave, so she can swoop in and be the child’s dad. I have told MIL I’ll never leave but she says “you don’t know how hard it’ll be”.

Recently, we were on Zoom and MIL said something to the effect of her being the dad if I left. I told her no, I’m not and she needs to cut it out. She said, I won’t get how hard it is until the baby’s born, etc, etc. I said “yes and that’s just what you want, for your daughter to be abandoned and sad, that’s pretty sadistic.” This offended MIL and apparently my wife too. Apparently I don’t understand that MIL has abandonment issues because her dad left her. I said I sympathize but she cut one man out of knowing his kid (my wife’s dad and her) and now is doing the same. They are painting me as the devil here.

Am I being the asshole? ######

Response:
 NTA she is assuming that you are leaving, if this is a recurring pattern. And this is not okay. It undemines your and your wifes thinking. And it doenst matter if she is doing that on purpose or not.

Also what is when the child is born and she will constantly tells the child that she will be there if you are not. Maybe she will go so far to blame you for everything you do wrong with the child. A lot of potential for future drama here ######


Prompt: This is my first time ever asking my mom (or anyone) to babysit. on Friday I asked my mom to watch my 4month old daughter for 2 hours on Saturday so me and hubby could get yard work done, she agreed then an hour later called to inform me she was going for a day trip Saturday with her friend and if the trip didn’t go through she could baby sit for me. Alright I was a little annoyed but left it at that. Saturday evening I talked to her and found out she didn’t actually go but also decided to not babysit. She told me she would come over in the morning, this morning she called to tell me that she was out at her friends until 3am and that she was too tired to babysit so she would come over next Weekend. I told her it’s fine and that Ill just look for someone else to watch her next time. She called me crying ”how could I do that to her” I’m actually pissEd. AITA for not wanting to ask her to babysit again? ######

Response: NTA She is a liar.  You cannot count on her. ######


Prompt:
Ok so backstory here
I live with my friend in his house and rent from him, due to lots of previous personal experiences his ex dosen't like me, one bit, she despises me. He and his ex are kinda friends, they hang out every once in awhile while I'm at work. I don't really care, I don't talk to her, I don't associate with her. She is literally insane, broke down when she saw my fish in the living room, insisted I don't belong in the house, etc. My friend had to defend me. She has stalked my social media for months and put together a whole notebook of my posts, she has gone around spreading lies and rumors about me and cost me a lot of close relationships and loved ones who turned on me. I've gotten over all of this through much pain and forgiveness.

So I log onto my switch me and my friend both split half and half, we each paid half for it. I see a new profile with her name. I think "ok whatever", I go to log onto animal crossing to play with my friend for a bit. I see a random new tent, I think it's a new little resident at first. My friend points out it has a mailbox and is pink on the map. I read the username. Its my friends ex who has now set up her tent on my animal crossing island. Neither of them asked me, I bought that game 100% myself.

So I deleted her account off the switch and from my ac game. AITA? I don't want her in my life, I don't want to see her, talk to her or hear about her. My friend can hang out with her if he chooses, it's his life. But I don't need her in mine. ######

Response: NTA she hates you but is happy to use your things? Also it takes like 1 hour to upgrade from the tent so it's not like you ruined a lot of progress ######


Prompt:
Well, this is a long one, but I'll try to make it short. I and my family are dog breeders ( Akita inu) and because of this, we have met many people, who do the same thing or just loves animals all together.

My parents have been doing this for 25+ years, and have made plenty of friends, but one always stuck out. My mom has known her for around 10 years or so. I'll call her friend E.

E is a proper hippie (antivaxx, 5g will kill you , you get the deal) she lives in a huge farm , without running water or electricity ( she willingly chose this)

At first she had 6 akitas, they were all healthy and beautiful, but as the time went on she started to rescue animals.  She was telling everyone who was listening how good she is to them, how she uses better methods with them than everyone else and how we should learn from her.

She adopted two parrots from an old lady, they were killed by her cat.

She adopted 10+ stray dogs, who are fighting constantly

She adopted a baby deer, because it was sick, and needed feeding, she left her in the garden and THE DOGS ATE the poor thing.

She had 3 litters despite knowing there was parvo virus in her land and around 20+ puppies died.

The list is endless, you probably get the deal.

Well, today she called us crying, that she forgot to lock her front gate, one of her older akitas, who she loved dearly ran away, and was hit by a car, she died. And I lost it.

I raised my voice tbh. at her , how she is the worst of all pet owners I've ever known in my life, and more animals have died by her hand, than she has saved.

Well, she started crying even more and hung up. My parents want me to apologize to het, but to be honest I feel like I was telling the truth.

So Reddit, was I the asshole here and should I apologize? ######

Response: NTA she has an animal hoarding problem, you need to call someone to save what's left of those poor animals. She will just keep collecting animals and they'll keep dying in her care. ######


Prompt:
Before covid, still a problem.

My daughter (15F) barely misses school, she always goes. She's barely sick, she's very healthy, and she has excellent grades so I'm very lenient and free on whatever she does, and me and her go to the movies a lot when the report cards come out as celebration.

Anyway my husband works and he comes home at night sometines, sometimes early.

When I woke up my daughter that day , she said that she had this big headache and couldn't go. She's never made an excuse like that, and sometimes she has a runny nose or a small headache she still goes so I assumed this was bigger and let her stay home.

We had fun that day, watched movies etc.and after 3 hours she become better. My husband came early and freaked out and asked me why she was here that early, and said that just because she had a headache doesn't mean she can miss out on education and that she probably exaggerated the headache yada, yada.

Then he said that she doesn't get a free pass and we got into a small fight which was later resolved.

Aita? ######

Response: NTA She had a headache. And even if she was exaggerating, what’s the problem if she hardly misses school? Honestly sometimes I let mine stay home just because they don’t feel going to school that day. Kids need a break sometimes. ######


Prompt:
So my younger sister (19) got engaged to her boyfriend on February 20th. This came as a shock to my whole family because they were only dating about two weeks. That event alone caused a lot of drama and my sister was very upset about the lack of support and excitement. I tried being there for her and gave her a gentle nudge to maybe have a long engagement. Now just last week my (24f) boyfriend (25m) of three years proposed. We waited until last night to tell all of our family members over FaceTime and oh man did shit hit the fan. My sister was livid and accused me of trying to take the spotlight away from her. She claimed her boyfriend obviously loved her more since he proposed before mine and that I was just jealous. She was also pissed at my family for being more supportive of my engagement and was posting all over social media about having toxic family. I guess I didn’t really think about how close our announcements were so I can kind of see her point but I wasn’t thinking how she thinks I was. My fiancé and I have been talking about marriage for a year now and apparently he’s had the ring for months.

AITA? Or maybe just insensitive? ######

Response:
 NTA she got engaged a month and a half ago. Thats more than enough time to have passed to announce your engagement

Your family isn’t supportive of her relationship because its dumb to get engaged after two weeks together. ######


Prompt:
I've (23M) have been dating my girlfriend (23M) for 3 years. She is Muslim, and I am from a Hindu household, but I do not really practice my religion at all. I haven't seen her practice her religion too much, but who am I to ask her about her spirituality but one thing she definitely does abide by is not eating pork. I'm pretty respectful about ordering pork when I'm eating with my girlfriend. Normally is we are eating out, we will always get dishes with no pork, or ask to remove any pork products from our meals. Even if I eat pork when I'm not with her, I will brush my teeth before we hang out (she does know I eat pork when I'm not with her). I'm not super into pork so it's not often and really isn't a big deal for me. However, I do love pepperoni on my pizza. But, if I am eating pizza with her we will not order pepperoni. Recently, we went to MOD pizza where you can customize your pizza with unlimited toppings. We had 2 buy-one-get-one-free coupons, and I suggested we get two pizza each and have a bunch of leftover pizza for the next couple days. She customized two for herself, and I customized two for myself. On one-half of one of my pizzas, I got pepperoni because it's one of my favorite toppings thinking I can eat that half of the pizza when I'm just at home by myself. During dinner, she seemed really off so I asked her what was going on, and she starting calling me an AH for ordering pepperoni while I'm with her. Now she is giving me the cold shoulder and telling me I need to apologize for not respecting her.

AITH for ordering pepperoni on my personal pizza? ######

Response: NTA she gets to dictate what she eats, not what you eat. You seem very respectful, but she doesn't. Why does it matter if your the one eating it? She should respect your right to make decisions for yourself, just as you have done for her. Also it isn't like you tried to get her to eat it! ######


Prompt:
This is a bit of a complicated one I think, but I will accept my judgment.

I love and have always had cats, and I recently got engaged to a wonderful man. We've lived with a roommate who had a cat for a while and my fiance encouraged me to leave when the situation got toxic, telling me we could get a cat when we moved.

We're in the final stages of adopting a cat and his father is upset with us because his older sister is extremely allergic to cats and has a history of allergies and asthma attacks.

She does, however, also have a history of lying about allergic reactions as an excuse to get out of social situations (and lies quite often about her health to get out of other things), so we're not sure how bad her allergies really are.

I guess we're just wondering if it would be wrong to bring an cat into our own home if we take steps to avoid it? We're extremely conflicted. We're not opposed to showering and washing our clothes before seeing her, but she would be extremely offended if we brought cats into our home. She's allergic to most animals so we'd struggle to adopt a dog or bird either..

Idk. Please pass your judgment :(this is hard ######

Response: NTA she doesnt live with you, adopt a kitty :) ######


Prompt:
After I was born, my parents, who were drug addicts and have been arrested prior for petty crimes, we're seemed unfit parents and when I was an infant my grandparents were awarded full custody.
I'm sixteen years old and my grandparents are practically my whole world. They have told me many times that if I wanted to reconnect with my mother and father that it was my decision and that they'd support me 100%, but I never wanted to.

My Mother recently reconnected with my grandparents (I've refused to talk to her) and she said she wanted to have at least partial custody of me. She also threatened that if my grandparents didn't help her resolve the situation peacefully, she was going to take them to court, and that's what ended up happening. Fortunately, since it was found that she wasn't in the position to care for me, and since I didn't want to live with her (my birth father, apparently, died a few years ago) she didn't get any custody or visitation.

Right when we were leaving the courthouse, the last time I saw her, she told me I was selfish for not letting my grandparents live the rest of their lives son peace without having to care for an ungrateful grandson. It hurt and so I stormed off, but I've been thinking about it ever since- am I TA for not letting my grandparents enjoy their silver years? ######

Response:
 NTA she doesn’t just get to roll up into your life and demand to be your ‘mother’. She chose her path many years ago.

If your ‘mother’ was so concerned about her parents living in peace she wouldn’t be dragging them to court to get custody of a child she conveniently remembers she has and wants custody of after 16 years ######


Prompt:
So here's the thing. We're out of quarantine but the rules are still strict. If you enter transportation without a mask you'll get fined. Another way to distance each other in buses, methods etc. is that they forbid us from sitting next to each other. They have put a sign on every two seats to remind people.

Another problem is that is young people stay in home to protect the elderly, yet in my country the elderly refuse to stay home and it's extremely annoying.

Today I had a group meeting with some other students to talk about a team project. I had to carry many things with me, like A1 papers and my designer.

When I finally sat on the bus, my back and hands ached like crazy. It didn't help the fact that today we had a heatwave. I managed to let my backpack to the seat next to me.

Now she enters. An old entitled Lady (around 60 or so). She is loud and she's not wearing a mask which is illegal. She comes to me(I was close to the door) and tells me to pick up my bag so she can see. I showed her the sign and told her that she can't sit here.

She responded, that I'm a rude bitch, I don't respect the elderpy, I steal all the space etc.

Once again I told her she's not allowed to sit next to anyone. She then proceeds to call me an asshole.
The thing that got me was that other people in the bus told me I was rude and didn't respect the elderly.  I really didn't want to be a Karen, but I was tired, achy and followed the law.

I'm writing this from my phone, and on the bus. Please tell me if I made any mistakes (English is not my first language)

AITA? ######

Response: NTA she doesn't just get her way because she's old. There are rules that need to be followed and no one is allowed to sit there anyways. On a normal day I'd say let the lady sit down but this isn't a normal time in the world. You protected yourself and her even if she didn't like it. ######


Prompt:
 I have a 16 year old daughter, who has recently begun her first real relationship. He’s a nice boy and I like him a lot, though I get the impression his family is much more conservative than I am. His parents wanted to meet my husband and I so we had them over for dinner last night and I did get some judgy vibes from the mother at least. My daughter is not my husband’s child. We went on vacation once with my former best friend and after a night of drinking we decided to switch partners. My husband had a vasectomy before I met him, so when I got pregnant I knew who the father was.

My daughter does know her bio dad, but he choses not to be a big part of her life. She has a great relationship with my husband, but she calls him by his first name. He never wanted kids and I was afraid he’d leave me, so out compromise was that I don’t ever expect him to be a real parent to her. I’m just glad they bonded. It’s a little unconventional, but we’re all happy.

Anyway dinner was going alright, but I mentioned something about how the pandemic had forced us to cancel our plans for our twentieth anniversary, and I didn’t think of it at the time, but obviously they did the math and the mother asked me about it, so I was honest. She looked very uncomfortable, but I guess a lot of people would be, and then she asked how I could say it in front of my daughter. I asked if I was supposed to lie to her, and the woman said she didn’t understand how I could be so upfront about cheating on my husband. That really pissed me off, because obviously I didn’t cheat so I told her to get out.

My daughter is mad at me, because she’s 16 and everything I do is mortifying, and because she is worried about her relationship, but I tried to explain it nicely to this woman. Also I feel like I’m not an asshole because she shouldn’t have asked in the first place, but I’ll let you decide. ######

Response: NTA she disrespected you in your own home. Also she was the one who started asking questions and you tried to politely answer. Besides what business is it of hers? It doesn't affect her in any way ######


Prompt:
So I had gotten a ridgeback/Rottweiler mixed pup. All the other pups looked like Rottweilers with ridges on their backs, but one who looked like a RB with no ridge.
I saw him, black sheep i thought, so am i.
Loved the stuffing out this pup.
We did mostly everything together.
Even on weekends we would go the practice together, and my team mates loved him.

Fast forward to 6 years later.
I got home from school. First things first, go hang out with Brutus.
No Brutus, no chain, no bowl.
WTF is going on i thought.
Me: Mom. Where is Brutus?
Mom: oh. So you know or elderly neighbour X, someone stole their dog. So I gave them Brutus for protection.
Me: what the fuck did you just say? You gave away my dog, without my permission?
Mom: Yes, they needed him more than we did. We have another dog.
Me: he was not yours to give away you fucking cunt. Fuck off.

Me being to young or stupid at the time to go take back my dog.

Soon after I left home and found out he was depressed, stopped eating and he died.
I never forgave here for this.

Am I the asshole for this? ######

Response: NTA she did give away your dog without your permission and also made him die for that youre defenitly not the ahole ######


Prompt:
I have a tiny hole in my wall right above my bed. My girlfriend (17, im 18) absent-mindedly was scratching it and i jokingly said "haha don't scratch my wall off" thinking she'd stop. She didn't. She kept scratching it and i said something like "im serious please don't break my wall" as the hole was getting bigger. She kept on doing it though so I was a little upset because like ?? its my wall lol and i directly asked her to stop breaking it. Then she got defensive and completely shut me out and is now sulking on her phone. AITA?

edit: misspelled a word ######

Response: NTA She deliberately broke your wall.  And now she's apparently shutting you out for being upset that she caused harm to your property. That's doubly asshole. ######


Prompt:
I don’t see my family very often and my sister posted a picture of her BF a few days ago. He gets tattoos a lot and I had never seen the one on his arm.

I zoomed in and just thought ‘hay that’s looks like my younger sister’ I didn’t think anything of it other than what a strange coincidence it was. I screenshot the photo and do a side by side comparison of another photo with my younger sister and send it to my sister.

I wrote ‘his tattoo looks just like such and such!’

She replied back the next day asking what my game was? What was I trying to say?
I was a bit shocked so replied ‘nothing, I just thought it was strange that’s all.’ To which she starts asking why I would feel the need to point out anyone’s tattoo mistakes. I said I wasn’t and she said I was trying to imply something. Of course I joked this off and explained no of course I don’t think he has a tattoo of our younger sister! Because I didn’t, just thought it was a mad coincidence how similar they are.

She got quite mad, started saying mum had pointed this out too, I had no right, why would I put it into his head about the tattoo etc etc.

I’ve not even replied because I don’t see why she’s taken it so personally/why she would tell him about a random similarity I noticed or why she jumped straight to anger. ######

Response: NTA she definitely noticed too and is self conscious about it. Does your younger sister know? ######


Prompt:
Due to current global circumstances all our staff meetings are through a zoom like platform.

While we were waiting for the office manager to get on, everyone was showing off their pets and then the moms in there group started to talk about their kids, etc.

My coworker (35F), lets call her Z, was talking her daughter (7) being stubborn and “unwilling to do anything she doesn’t want.” Ya know. It’s whatever, nobody cared cause this meeting wasn’t about people’s children or their parenting. I basically forgot she said anything about her kid.

This is where I may have been an ass:
At the end of our meeting Z grabbed her daughter walking by and shoved her in front of the camera and said “here’s miss brat who never listens!” and I just got annoyed and said “we love strong women, don’t change!”

It’s just a personal annoyance of mine when people talk down about their kids, but I’m not a parent. So I really can’t say whether or not that’s normal, but as someone who came from an abusive home growing up, it rubbed me the wrong way.

My other coworker after the meeting said that was a dick move but I don’t think I was being an ass, just trying to make light of a weird way to describe and then show off your child. AITA?

If I am an asshole, I’ll say sorry to Z but she hasn’t said anything to me directly but I could tell it annoyed her.
(Also, I’m 25F to make it more clear) ######

Response: NTA saying stuff like that to kids at such a young age is just disgusting, it can affect children a lot when they grow up. I had this one teacher that always called me names and telling me that I was stupid and that I was a brat even though I was one of the most quiet and nice kids in the class, she was my teacher for four years and I have anxiety because of it. It must be way worse when your own parent does something like this, I really feel bad for the kid and I appreciate that you called the mom out, she deserved it. ######


Prompt:
I have a rat with a mammary tumor, and I decided that I need to get it removed. She is otherwise healthy but it's growing fast and getting in the way of her movement. Unfortunately even after shopping around the cost is going to end up being almost $600.

I pay for everything with these rats and I'm even ready to pay for this bill. However I was scared of telling mom the price when I came home today so I lied and said it was going to be about $250.

Even with that amount She was shocked and started lecturing me about how unnecissary this whole thing was.

*"It's just a rat. Why do you waste your money on something like that? Just get a new one!"*

I felt really awful because I know it seems unnecissary to go to all this trouble for something that will only live another maybe 1-2 years. I just hate seeing her in such an uncomfortable possition.

AITA? ######

Response: NTA s/he’s your pet and you care for her, she makes you happy. It doesn’t matter what species it is, she’s important to you! that’s like saying “aw darn my puppy is growing up, time to get a new one!” It’s your finances and clearly you’re responsible about it. Your mom needs to not be so one-track minded ######


Prompt:
A few years ago a friend of mine was given the whole set of a manga collection (around 20 books or so) from a family friend. She wasn't overly interested in manga so decided to gift them to me for my birthday.

I LOVE this series; it's one of my favourites and I was planning on taking this set to university with me in a few months. However earlier today this friend messaged me, in a group chat mind not PM, asking if she could have the books back. She claimed that the original owner wanted them back, so she wanted them back to return to the owner.

To be honest I don't want to give them back; they were originally a present to my friend who gifted them to me, and I feel that both my friend and the original owner are being rude to ask for them back.

WIBTA if I said I want to keep them?

Quick Update: I talked to my friend about it and she had never wanted to ask for them back in the first place. Her family is rather strict and believes that "you should always help your family no matter what". The original owner (her family friend) had been harassing my friend to get the books back, and only asked me to get them to stop nagging her. ######

Response:
 NTA reply  “are you talking about the books you gave me years ago? I thought that was a birthday present. You want my birthday present back?” Make her look like the asshole here.

Edit: also your friend probably wants them back because she doesn’t want to tell the original owner that she gave them away. ######


Prompt:
I (33/f) was recently dating a guy (29/m) and spending a lot of time at his house. He lives with his brother (33/m) and his brother's girlfriend, K, (28/f) was there quite often.  She and I had quite a bit in common; the biggest thing being we are both in long term recovery from substance abuse ( I go to NA and she goes to AA).  We found each other and Facebook and had quite a few mutual friends. Over the past few months we've gotten really close and I like this woman a lot.

Well, my ex has been struggling with depression and insecurities and broke up with me on Saturday (which just so happened to be my birthday).  I am not sure if we are getting back together or even if I'm interested in getting back together with him at this point. I'm still very much in my feelings about the break up.

Regardless of my feelings towards my ex, I'd like to remain friends with K.  We shared a lot of silly things such as a shared sense of humor, similar style, vaping, and media taste. The biggest thing however was our recovery. Because of the pandemic in person meetings have been cancelled and we now do meetings over Zoom. So she is the only person in recovery that I've seen since early March and the therapeutic value of one addict helping another is unparalleled. This is in our literature, but I've found it especially true in my life.

I'd like to message her on Facebook and let her know that even though my ex and I are no longer together I'd like to remain friends. Possibly get coffee or hit meetings together when we are able to. I have no plans to say anything disparaging about my ex, because I do think he's a good person and care about him, but that doesn't mean things will work out between us.

I do see where this could make things awkward for a lot of parties involved and wonder if I reach out wibta? ######

Response:
 NTA Remaining friends with people you made from within the relationship is absolutely fine.

I can possibly see how your ex may not like it, if he is insecure etc he may get paranoid about you speaking about him.

I had a similar issue, my ex got more and more insistent I stop being friends with his friends gf because it was hurting him - took me a little while to realise that that was HIS problem. NOT being her friend would have hurt me... it sounds like losing her would hurt you.

Its great that you are considering your ex's feelings but dont put them above yours. He broke up with you.

Also to add in - the decision on if you are friends or not is ultimately down to you and her, any other outside voices weighing in would be 'disrespectful'*3 to the relationship you have built together. Talk to her, see how she feels.

(Said by somebody with anxiety and clinical depression so I do have an understanding of what he is experiencing)

Disrespectful *3 isn't quite what I mean but couldn't think of a better word. ######


Prompt: My girlfriend is pretty pissed at me. She likes playing Tiktok videos out loud on her phone constantly. It is honestly a really big petpeeve of mine when people play videos out loud on their phone, I can't really explain why. It just always feels obnoxious. I asked her if she could wear headphones or earbuds or play it somewhere else. She felt this was unfair, and that I was being controlling. To me it felt like a simple compromise. I know this doesnt seem like an important issue, but it caused a big argument. Am I being unfair by letting my petpeeve get in the way of her entertainment, or should she consider my sanity when playing videos out loud? ######

Response: NTA Relationships are about compromise. Have you considered losing your hearing? ######


Prompt:
My brother in law (wife’s sister’s husband)is a rehabilitated meth abuser. It seems like my sister in law will be moving back in with him and my MIL would like us to start planning the upcoming post-pandemic holidays.

I’m considering putting down a firm, “Absolutely not.” My daughter is 1 and I just don’t trust him.

He was caught with meth in his golf bag a year ago and begrudgingly went to rehab. He has been clean for about six months. Before this he was just a general jerk. He was exhausting to be around. He would make a scene about anything to get attention. IE: How his drink was prepared, how much crab was in his crab cake, etc. His racism became such a norm that I felt myself becoming desensitized. IE: “I’ve never met a met a Maria who wasn’t a maid”. His range of obnoxious and immature behavior had a wide scope and could go on for paragraphs.

We never bonded before drugs came into the picture. He would take cheap shots and come up with odd blatant lies when my wife and I would make any effort to bond with him over the last 12 years. For example, I told him about some things from infantry training and he interrupted me to go on about a time he went skiing from a helicopter. That story he interrupted me to tell had never happened. He has this odd habit of being shitty and/or lying in public but then apologizing/confessing in private when he gets you alone.

In short, I didn’t want this immature jerk around my daughter before I found out he was a drug abuser.  Now I’m drawing a strict rule but it will have an adverse effect on my In laws who understandably want the entire family together.

AITA and being too harsh or do I have a leg to stand on? I would also appreciate hearing from rehabilitated people who were on the receiving end of being cut out by family members. ######

Response:
 NTA Regardless of the relatively new rehabilitation, which is absolutely enough of a reason, literally everything else you've said about him makes me want to keep MY kids away from him!

Let your daughter and in-laws have special times when he isn't around, that's a completely acceptable compromise, but keep that racist asshat away from your precious babe! ######


Prompt:
So, my mom doesn't really do boundaries.  I was assigned female at birth but identify as male.  Because of the pandemic I haven't been able to start things that I planned to start.  Ever since I started puberty she does this thing where she is in the bathroom while I shower.

It started with her coming in and going to the bathroom while I'm showering.  But now that I'm out of the closet, she tends to come in right after I've started my shower.  She will not only go to the bathroom while I'm showering, but also brush her teeth and complain at me about my dad, who is her ex-husband.

I end up having to tell her to get out most of the time.  She doesn't seem to understand why I won't dry off in the shower while she keeps talking at me.  I feel like she's waiting to see me naked so that she can see if I've done anything to "damage" my body, as she puts it.  It makes me really uncomfortable.

She insists it's perfectly normal for mothers to be in the bathroom while their kids are showering but I'm 21 now.  And she thinks it's fine for her to be in there because she "grew me inside of her".  She can't see my reasoning for why it makes me uncomfortable, no matter how many times I try to explain it to her.

AITA for not wanting her to come into the bathroom while I'm showering? ######

Response: NTA regardless of gender or identity or any of that. You're not comfortable being naked in the same room as her. That's it. That's all that is required for her to be an asshole for intruding. Doesn't matter that it's her house or that she birthed you. She is being not only disrespectful but also a bit creepy. ######


Prompt:
Throwaway because my sister knows my main. I am 20F and she is 30. I live at home with my parents and she and her boyfriend live about a half an hour away in an apartment.

So the backstory is I have suffered from disordered eating and eating disorders since I was 15. It was really bad in my last year of high school but when I started college I told my family about my struggles and started to get help. I was doing alright for a while although I am still slightly underweight (5’4, 100 lbs) - it’s not as bad as I once was (at my lowest I hovered between 79 and 80lbs).

My sister knows about my struggles. She is not overweight but at the high end of a healthy weight looking to lose some pounds. She always talks to me about how much weight she’s lost or how she’s “good” for not drinking any alcohol or eating treats. I have told her I am proud of her for getting healthy and that I am always up to talking about cooking healthy foods and things like that with her I don’t want to talk about weight, numbers, dieting, cutting out foods with her.  She does not listen.

Finally yesterday she was going on about how she was down 6 lbs and it was thanks to not eating the Oreos she’d bought and pawing them off on me cuz she didn’t need those calories (my favourites tbh). I was annoyed she was disregarding my feelings about weight and calories and numbers. Finally I said “Amos told me he’s up 4 lbs. Poor guy. Not enough exercise for him!” Amos is her dog.

She got really mad at me for disregarding her hard work and comparing her weight loss to the hypothetical weight gain of a dog. I reminded her she disrespected my feelings about weight loss and calorie talk and reminded her I had disordered eating which made it for me to hear those things.

She hasn’t talked to me since. Maybe I overstepped. AITA? ######

Response:
 NTA recovery from an eating disorder can be a long and hard path. It can takes years to fully recover and it still doesn't stop it being triggered again in the future.

Your sister is either incredibly ignorant, or worse, just doesn't care.

She was a major asshole talking about things that can potentially trigger a relapse, it's ok to be proud of being healthy, but there was no need to go onto details and mention the things she did.

Is she in the habit of being so thoughtless and/or playing the victim?

Congratulations on your recovery, that's not easy, but it sounds like you're doing great, despite your sister being an insensitive ass. ######


Prompt:
I am Asian, and live in an Asian community where everyone in town know each other. We gather once every 2-3 months.

A was my classmate in university. We're not really close, just somewhat between acquantance and friend. After graduation we haven't talked much, as she got married to her long time Muslim boyfriend, being busy with the family, and I started working hard. She is known for being godly, adopts Muslim diet and doesn't miss prayer time since uni.

2 months ago, she moved to our neighborhood and we both think the gathering is a good way to get to know people. This time it was held in our place. Now you may know that most of Chinese dishes contain pork, which is prohibited in Islam. I asked several Muslim-Chinese about what do they eat, and got to know that they still make the same dishes, but replace pork by either lamb/chicken. So I made normal Chinese food with pork, and halal-dupes for A. Her husband had night shift, so she joined the party alone, and didn't look pleased when I noticed her about the food. She just didn't speak much and was keeping distance from me, so after that I had to messaged her about how did things go. Finally, she said she feels being discriminated because I served her different foods, and told me that I could always make pork-free food at first and that people wouldn't mind.

My original intention was only to respect her religion, but I feel like she has her point. So AITA? ######

Response:
 NTA quite the opposite you researched halal food for her you respected her religious choices and catered for that.

Imagine if you hadn't provided halal food for her she would have kicked up a fuss about it saying you were discriminating against Muslims

Deffo NTA ######


Prompt: So me (m18) and my ex girlfriend (f18) of a little over 8 months broke up about two weeks ago. For context, the breakup was pretty mutual and peaceful because we are both getting ready to go to college and didn’t think we could do long distance. Since then, she made a tik tok with several pictures and videos of me followed by some videos of her crying as a way for her to “cope” apparently. So far it has over 1700 views (I know it’s not a lot for tik tok but still wow) and it has been growing everyday. I have had over 20 people, from friends to people I barely talk to, send it to me asking if I had seen it and told me how inappropriate they thought it was. I totally agree and I asked her, with an emphasis on this, POLITELY, to take it down, and she doesn’t want to. I talked to a mutual friend of ours about it and I could not seem to reason with her, or my ex, that she should take down the video, and they kept turning it back on me as if I was the jerk and should let her do what she wants even though I do not feel comfortable with the video being up. AITA for wanting her to take it down? ######

Response: NTA Putting your image online without your consent is just uncalled for and for what seems like just for internet points is kinda scummy. I'm sure you can contact tic tok and ask for them to take it down if you explain that it uses your image without your consent. ######


Prompt:
AITA for not wanting to my brother to move in with me?

I (f24) rent a house from my parents with my husband and my daughter(6 years old) my brother(26years old) is being discharged from the navy for some mental issues (extreme depression and substance abuse issues) we have an extra room in our house that my parents offered to him without talking to me.
 The reason I dont want him here is because I was abused by him for a long time as a child, I have just started going to therapy to finally face that trauma since nothing was ever done for me as a child when I finally told my parents. My parents didn’t even let me put a lock on my door since he’d usually come in while I was sleeping I thought it was a reasonably measure. My dad still claims he was never told until I was an adult. I dont want my brother around my daughter and I dont want to be around him while I am finally working on dealing with this.
AITA if I tell him and my parents that I dont want him here? ######

Response: NTA Protect yourself from this person at all costs. ######


Prompt:
My cat, [Vader](https://www.flickr.com/photos/69228620@N03/49833377478/in/dateposted-public/), loves to stare at people in the bathroom.

He gets into his cat loaf position and just watches, creepily and unblinking.

It drives my husband crazy.

The other day he forgot to close the door and Vader was doing his creepy watch. He asked me to close the door. Instead I joined Vader on the floor and creepily watched him until he threw toilet paper at me

He says it wasn't funny but I disagree ######

Response: NTA probably one of the funniest things I've read. ######


Prompt:
I'm a 17 year old male but I enjoy doing some things that are traditionally feminine, such as painting my nails or letting my sister do my makeup sometimes. I simply like doing it and that's how I've always been.

So anyways, our church is opening this sunday and my parents want to go to watch my cousin get baptistised. I don't mind going at all but today my dad told me that I need to take the nail polish off before sunday.

It's just plain black nail polish so I don't understand why it's such an issue. Nobody is going to be looking at my nails.

My sister told me that I should just leave it and let our parents fuck themselves and that's what I did. My dad saw that I hadn't taken it off and asked why. I told him I wasn't going to take it off and that I didn't care what he thought.-

I told him that I'm not going if I can't wear what I want and he said that I'm being stubborn and childish. He said that I'm "ruining my cousins event" but I honestly doubt that he'll care if I'm there or not.

AITA for not going to church? ######

Response: NTA pretty nails shouldn’t be a feminine thing. Rock your beautiful cuticles my friend. ######


Prompt:
I’ve been seeing this guy for about a month know. We have gotten very emotionally close and slept together one time.
Last night he texted me that he had something serious to tell me, something he should have told me before. I reassured him that he could trust me, and this exchange went back and forth for about half an hour. My heart was racing because I had no idea what he was going to tell me.

He finally tells me that he was born intersex, and his parents decided for him to have surgery as baby. He said he has felt a lot of insecurity around it and was afraid I wouldn’t accept him. I was surprised and a little hurt that he wouldn’t have told me that before we slept together, but I was very kind and understanding in return because I have a friend who is intersex. It didn’t change how I felt about him.

Finally he asks if he can call me. When he does he asks if he call tell me one more thing, “April fools”. I was pissed and told him that it’s not something funny to joke about. He has apologized in a genuine way, but I’m not over it. I feel like it was tasteless to joke about that, and he really made me have empathy for him and the joke crossed a line(especially since we have slept together). AITA for not getting over his joke? ######

Response:
 NTA pranks are suppose to be funny, whats funny about some elaborate lie over their gender identity and the way he played it out

Its emotionally manipulative ######


Prompt:
13M.

My Dad’s girlfriend, let’s call her Jess, started spending the night recently. Before he met her, every night, I’d lay in my dad’s bed with my head on his chest. He’d stroke my hair and we’d talk for about an hour before I went to bed. I did this the first few days and she didn’t say anything until about an hour ago. She asked me to please stop doing it when she’s around because the affection should go to her when she’s here, but it’s okay to do it when she’s gone. She told me that I made her feel like she wasn’t even there and my dad didn’t care about her. AITA? ######

Response: NTA PLEASE TELL YOUR DAD ######


Prompt:
Well, today is mother's day at least in my country anyways.( I am sure I just reminded some of you) It's also my mother's birthday today. So its super special.

Because she's turning 50 I thought l would plan something. So from last month I have been texting my brother (23M) to make sure that he is available this weekend and to home so we could celebrate. ( he lives far away due to school) I started a month in advance because l knew that he must be nagged to do certain things.

I ordered the cake and paid for it with my own money. I even booked a restaurant reservation( but due to COVID that failed)

I bought Lillys for her( they are her favourite) and helped my little brother ( 7) to make a card for her.

Finally after a whole month of begging and nagging my brother agreed to stay over. He kept saying things like he is super busy and may not be able to make it.

So on the day( today) my little brother and l woke up super early to make her her favourite meal. We tried waking up my big brother but he wouldn't budge.

When my mother woke up she was so happy. The problem arose when during breakfast, my mother asked who planned all this. I was in the process of saying it was a group effort, even though my big brother did nothing but show up. My big brother cut me off and started taking credit for the whole thing. He even said he paid for the cake!

I said nothing then because my mother was super happy and the moment was about her. Later on however, when my brother and l were alone, l confronted him.

When l expressed how I didn't appreciate his stunt at breakfast,  he started saying the way l was being selfish because the moment was about our mother.

So AITA for getting mad or just petty?
I am (18F) for context? ######

Response: NTA please let your mother privately know how much effort you put into it. I’m honestly mad for you. ######


Prompt:
Sorry for format, on mobile.
I’ll try to keep it short. This has been an ongoing argument mostly between myself (19f) and my mom (50f). I want kids, but I don’t want to carry them myself. Part of my problem is that I’m having difficulty explaining EXACTLY why, it’s just not something I’m comfortable doing with my body. I’m a lesbian, so eventually I’ll (hopefully) end up marrying another woman. When it comes to kids, I’ve said that either my future wife can be pregnant if she wants and it comfortable with it, or we can adopt. I am completely fine with either option, I’ll love my kid(s) all the same. Family is made by choice, not blood in my eyes.
  My mom says this makes me self-centered and wimpy because I’m “expecting someone else to do all the hard work for me,” and “I’m pushing aside women who are incapable of having babies/have not other options and not allowing them to adopt.” Also on her side, it means “I have no respect for anyone who gives birth.”
  I feel like I’m living in the handmaid’s tale, she feels like I’m a self centered prick. Honestly she’s been railing against so much it’s just making me doubt myself and whether I’m really valid, because I do (as far as I know) have a perfectly functioning reproductive system, and some killer looks to pass down, so who am I to deny the world more? ######

Response: NTA please don't let your mom -- or *anyone --* make you feel bad about this. It's completely your decision whether you carry a child, and you really don't need any explanation for it beyond simply not feeling comfortable ######