Prompt:
Ok so I may sound like a total a hole in the title but hear me out

Disclaimer for bad grammar I’m upset and writing this quick.

Ok so for the last 3 years I have been aware that my brother goes in my room while I’m at school (he gets home an hour early as he’s in elementary and I’m in 8 grade middle school).

Now I don’t like the idea that he goes in my room but he also takes my stuff all the time. Wether that be a old toy of mine or my coveted  legos (yes I’m a little old for those go off). The worst part is my parents never tell him to give anything back or try and tell him that it’s not ok. Apparently cause he’s young he is t held responsible.

All this has brought us today where on our couch I found the bottom half of my Isabelle amibo that I was gifted. At this point I was pissed because I had cleaned his room the day prior for him because it was disgusting (I’m talking it took me almost 2 hours and still is not the best).

Now I asked him in front of my dad why he stole it from my room and where the other piece was, and as usual when he gets in trouble he just closed his eyes and stoped responding.

So I gave him an ultimatum, if he doesn’t tell me where the other piece is or I find it before tonight ends I’m taking back everything he’s stolen from me. This includes a significant portion of his LEGO toys.

I don’t think I’m being unfair as I’ve told him to stop a multitude of times and to cut it out and this was my breaking point. I don’t really need many of these things he’s taken so I may just donate them all if I can.

So would I be the asshole here?

Extra info: I’m 14 and he’s 6.
. I still enjoy legos however don’t use the ones he’s stolen as often anymore.
.He’s asked me for things in the past such as       some of my stuffed animals and other bigger things. ######

Response: NTA. You're brother needs to learn some boundaries and your parents need to take your side on this. ######


Prompt:
Backstory. My grandma (64F) has never had her own place and has always lived with someone her whole life. I have a two year old and a five month old and after hearing her complaining about not getting to see family and my mom kicking her out my husband (32M) and I (23F) offered her a place to stay at our house two states away.

So heres my issue. She isn't required to pay anything here. Doesn't help with rent or bills or groceries. All I've asked is for a little help with the kids in the mornings as my husband works nights and I use night to study my courses.

Everything started out great. She was helpful and seemed to be enjoying the few hours in the morning with the greatgrands. Over the past several months she's begun taking three to four days every week and a half to drive three hours away to see her old boyfriend. Ok. No problem there.

Then she's begun to step outside to smoke every hour or so and stays outside for 45mins- a hour. Still no problem.

Now on top of all that she's begun complaining when my husband doesn't wake up at 7am when she normally is up and when the kids are up by 8am. He typically works till 1-2am and I'm up and down all night with the youngest. Like this is mainly the reason she moved in.

So WIBTA if I suggest that it seems the kids are stressing her out to much and she should move in with her boyfriend? Or even suggest she start helping with bills regularly? ######

Response: NTA. You're being very generous and she's taking advantage of you while also trying to control your household. Kicking her out or forcing her to pay rent are reasonable options. ######


Prompt:
My mom was raised in Kashmir. Muslims took over the territory, burned down her house, killed her dad, and they fled to India in the middle of the night. My entire family hateeees Muslims because of this.

So they’re super islamophobic. But also my mom was once robbed by a black person, so she also uses that to say she hates black people.

She says it’s normal. She went through a trauma, and now because of past events she knows to avoid these groups of people.

Well, my friend was attacked by a Poodle. She know says she hates poodles, wants nothing to do with the breed, and now avoids them when she’s out about about.

My mom was like, “Eh, that’s unfair. Any dog can bite. Why hold a grudge against poodles, in general? Just hate the poodle that did the attacking.”

And I was like, “You’re joking, right? That’s so hypocritical. You talk about how you don’t like certain groups of people all the time. It’s the same logic. Why hold a grudge against a whole group of people? Just hate that person.”

She was like, “It’s not the same at all. Poodles aren’t any more likely to attack you than say a Golden Retriever. It’s about the individual.”

I was like, “???? Uh, same for black people. Muslim people. It’s about the individual.”

She was like, “How are you comparing races of people to dog breeds? Not the same. Shut up, you sound dumb.”

But it’s the same logic, right? Literally the same. You’re saying group X is bad, and I hate all of them because of a past experience.

So, who is right here? Is it hypocritical? Obviously my mom is an asshole for being racist, but I’m talking specifically in this argument, is she wrong?

On a side note, there are some dogs that are more dog-aggressive etc because they have been bred to be like that. But we aren’t talking about those breeds. A poodle isn’t anymore likely to attack someone than, like, a Lab or whatever. ######

Response: NTA. You're analogy is solid. She just didn't like being called out on her bull shit ######


Prompt: I guess the question isn’t if I’m an asshole for just being on the site in general. It’s more like, I hold the guys I meet on there accountable for the things they promised. For this not familiar with it, but the site is for younger girls to meet older men who are willing to date in exchange for money. It’s not straight up prostitution, I’ve been on plenty of dates and never had sex. But most of the dates don’t even happen, it’s just talking on the phone and communicating for a bit. The issue I have run into EVERY TIME is that when it’s time to send money or when I ask for a gift, they act like I’m some gold digger. Am I? Probably. But it’s MORE than apparent what my intentions are. I’m 24 years old chatting with 60 year old men and they are shocked that I’m not doing this for free. A couple of them have gone off on me for being “such a slut” when ALL I’m doing is asking for the things they promised, so AITA? ######

Response: NTA. You're an adult. There's very little room for questioning what the purpose of that site is. If the dude is on it, he knows that it's not a standard dating site. The reason you're running into so much push-back is because that website is also full of liars and scam artists. ######


Prompt:
This is my first post on this subreddit so here goes nothing.

Hey I’m a (18M) and never had dated before. Never even kissed a girl. Haha embarrassing right? My mom absolutely forbade me from dating in highschool saying “focus on grades, not girls.” I went along with this notion and did pretty well for myself.

Now I have wrapped up my first year of college and have witnessed three of my crushes end up with boyfriends and can honestly not take the heartache anymore. I want to start dating.

I’m a premed major and my classes take a lot of time and effort but I feel like I can add a girlfriend into the mix and do fine. My mother doesn’t want me to and believes I should keep “close friends “ and after undergrad I could ask one of these “close friends “ if I want to date.

I want to ask out this girl who is in my major but don’t want to be viewed as a “bad son” for having a secret girlfriend.

What makes it worse is that my older sister attends the same small university I do and if she saw me with a girlfriend she would tell my mom about it.

TLDR: WIBTA if I got a girlfriend behind my mother’s back? ######

Response:
 NTA. You're an adult, go have fun but stay safe and be responsible!

Also, keeping "close friends" to date later on will not work. There's no guarantee they'll be single at that point, or view you as more than a friend. ######


Prompt:
My daughter and I are not close anymore and I've been 'cut off' for the past year due to my opinions on her having a second child at 19 when both her and her fiance are still studying and don't have jobs. It was a hardly necessary and drastic decision on her end but it's what she wishes so I backed off and since we haven't spoken.

Last week Wednesday, my sons arrived in town to visit my wife and I. During one of our conversations, the eldest mentioned that they were thinking of driving over to my daughter's apartment for her birthday on Sunday and asked if I wanted to come along. I reminded them that I was still cut off so I doubt she wants me over. They said it was ridiculous that she was still doing this so they won't go anymore till she realizes that. I told them they didn't have to do that solely for me but they still stuck to it. Sunday came and went and the three of them still hadn't changed their minds and didn't visit or call her. My wife was the only one who called and also informed my daughter on why they didn't call when she asked. My wife says she went quiet and didn't talk much for the rest of the call.

This morning I woke up to messages from her fiance telling me how much of an asshole for turning my son's against her. ######

Response: NTA. You're already raising her first child, and she cut you off because you didn't think it was a good idea for her to have another, especially since it sounded like she wanted you to raise the second one as well. That's a bs reason to cut you off and it sounds like your sons know that. ######


Prompt: This one is kinda a confusing situation that happened a while ago but I still sometimes wonder I’m im the AH. I (17m) has a close friend (17f) my junior year and we planned on going to junior prom together. Well it just so happened that later on in the year I had gotten a girlfriend and she had gotten a boyfriend. I asked my girlfriend if she wanted to go to prom with me to my junior prom but she said no and she didn’t want to go to prom with my grade and my friends. My girlfriend at the time was a senior btw. I still decided to go to senior prom with my girlfriend. However I was still planning on going to junior prom with my friend group (mostly guys). Later on my friend from the beginning, her boyfriend couldn’t make it to prom so she asked if I wanted to go with her as friends like we had originally planned on. I first told my girlfriend about it and she seemed okay with it and also I was friends with this girl way before my girlfriend and we never had any intention on dating ever. Prom rolls around the corner and I go with my female friend and my girlfriend and her boyfriend don’t come out of their own choices. After the prom is over my girlfriend is really mad at me and refused to talk to me. Giving off very jealous vibes. She was always very jealous of my friend because my friend was more attractive then her but yet again if me and this friend ever planned on dating it would have happened way before and I reassured my girlfriend many times of this. So I just wanna know AITA for going to junior prom with my friend? ######

Response:
 NTA. You're allowed to go to prom with a friend of the opposite gender, you're allowed to hang out with a friend of the opposite gender.

It would be good to have a talk with your GF, try and reasure her, and get her to understand you and this friend are only friends. Cause being with someone who gets this jealous over this, isn't good nor healthy. Who's to say if it continues, she'll make you chose between her or friend, or make you stop hanging out or talking with friend just to make herself feel better.

That kind of relationship isn't worth it. ######


Prompt:
I have 3 kids; 8, 6, and 4. They love to ride bikes and we live in a relatively safe neighborhood so I let them ride around the(fairly small) block as long as they stick together and do NOT go off track. Around the block only, no crossing the street

The other day they went off track because they found some mysterious cage(turned out snapping turtle eggs that someone put a cage over). It was just across the street, not a huge deal. They were fine

That said, a rule was broken. So I punished them. No going around the block for the rest of the day(and this was at 9:30am so it really was a whole day).

My husband thought it was harsh because it was a harmless move. No one got hurt or kidnapped, they saw something cool/educational, and they only went just across the street for a few minutes.

I thought it was more of a principal rule and figured if we allow this, they’ll push their luck for more later and end up lost or hurt.

I’m open to discussing a bigger biking circle than just around the block but that needs to be discussed, not something they can decide for themselves, especially when their 4 year old sibling is with them. ######

Response: NTA. You're a parent, you made rules, the kids need to know that your rules have to be followed and actions have consequences. That being said, give them an alternative. Like, if they see something cool they come tell you and you go with them/give them one-time permission. And/or sit down with them and explain that, if they feel a rule is unfair or should be amended, they should feel free to come to you with their feelings and you will listen to their arguments and make decisions accordingly. The power is still with you, but teaching them to advocate for themselves is always a good idea. ######


Prompt:
Sorry for the confusing(?) title, I don’t exactly know how to word this.

I’m 21f, my dad was 46m. To make a long story short: When I was 9, my dad cheated on my mom, while she had cancer, and got married immediately after she died. Stepmom, who is 43f, and her daughter, who is 18f, were not nice people, and made growing up a living hell for me. They were constantly reminding me I didn’t have a mom, and would do things like destroy my bedroom, any school stuff I had, and throw any nice thing I had out. My dad knew about most of it and did nothing. When I turned 18, I moved out and refused to contact any of them again.

About a month ago, my dad had a heart attack in the middle of the night and died. I didn’t learn about his passing until two weeks ago, where I also learned he’d left me everything in his will. Not “everything” everything, but he left me what money he had, and several precious objects that are worth a good bit of money. Very little was left to step-mom and step-sister.

I found out he died because they called me to start harassing me about giving them what I was getting from my dad’s will. They told me they would be struggling if they didn’t get it. I ended up telling them that I didn’t care if they were struggling, and that if they really wanted to do this, I would see them in court.

AITA for collecting what I was left from my dad’s will, leaving my step-family to struggle?

Edit:

1: step-mother was left something, yes. She was left with the house, and money from my dad and her’s joint account. I was left money from a separate account that she does not have access to.

2: Yes, I’m looking into getting a lawyer. And a copy of the will. It seems like the will was written about a year ago.

3: Because of the current world issue, the funeral didn’t happen. Dad’s been buried, but they’re going to do a memorial service for him in June, and I’m not invited.

4: please stop telling me this is just like cinderella. I really hate that movie. ######

Response: NTA. You're 21, both your parents are dead, and it sounds like your life from your early years onward has been challenging, to say the least. Your dad presumably realised this, and tried to make up for it by leaving you the bulk of his assets. Was it a wise move on his part? Probably not. He should have foreseen that it would cause conflict. But you're not TA for accepting what is legally yours. ######


Prompt:
I (M 21) am staying with my mom and her boyfriend (M 50) of 2 years at our family home.

This evening, I was being yelled at told “how wrong I am” and how bad my actions are because I simply forgot to put a kitchen appliance away in the cupboard. I usually put it away, but when I was waiting for it to dry, I forgot about it. It was an honest mistake and I genuinely forgot that I had used it. But I was being screamed at and felt like I was a criminal because I honestly forgot to do something. Me forgetting to put it away did not inconvenience anyone, nor did it impact anyone in any way, so I was genuinely confused. I then tried to defend myself by saying it was an honest mistake, but I was told “that’s not right” repeatedly, and that “we need to put things away to keep the house nice” by mom’s boyfriend.  This is where things further escalated. I said that I didn’t think it was a big deal to accidentally forget something, and pointed out that I cleaned my mom’s boyfriends lunch dishes that he left lying out for several hours after work one day, and that we all forget to put things away. According to my mom and boyfriend, this crossed a line and I am “selfish” for telling him that. In my mind, I was just defending myself and pointing out the hypocrisy, trying to show that I thought my mistake was a common mistake that didn’t warrant the scolding I received. Now, since we were all adults here, and my mom’s boyfriend is not responsible for me, I didn’t see any problem in our exchange. But according to them, I was undermining his authority and should never speak to him like that. I didn’t think what I said was mean or ill at all, I was just pointing out that what I did was very minor, and that other people, including my mom’s boyfriend, have done similar things recently. He is not my father, nor do we any relationship like that as I am an adult, and was when my mom started dating him. So, AITA for pointing out my mom’s boyfriend’s hypocrisy? ######

Response: NTA. You're 21 and you're not his kid. I used this on my brother (father of 4) once when we were walking and talking it started to sound a lot like a lecture. I told him "Don't use your dad voice with me. I'm not one of your kids." It brought him up pretty short. ######


Prompt:
My parents have been divorced since I was like a 2 or 3, my mom remarried when I was around 10 but they were dating when I was like 7. I am an only child but my step dad had 4 kids of his own, 3 girls and 1 boy. at the time when I was 7 they were 10, 8, 7 and the boy was 5 (they are 20, 18, 17 and 15).

The blending with that side of the family did not go well at all, me and the 7yo fought A LOT and I also didn't get along with the 10yo, the 8 and 5yo just stayed out of it and I don't got much of a problem with them. Things have always been tense and we've just never gotten along. This has lead to really bad exclusion, I was only there for 3 weeks every month and they never treated me like a full member of the family. Their mom is a dead beat so they call my mom "mom" most of the time but refer to me as "mom's kid" or "step brother" I have referred to them as step siblings also, not in a mean way but that is what they are.

My dad remarried to my step mom when I was around 4 (I don't want to say anything for sure but I'm pretty sure he cheated). I like my step mom and me and my brother (I just call him my brother) are pretty close.

I am at my dad's currently and was thinking that I really don't want to go back there yet.  I am tired of moving around and I want to stay here longer, even switch it so its 3 weeks at his place and 1 week at mom's.  The main reasons I want to stay at my dads more is because:

1. No offense to my mom but I like my dad more
2. I love my brother WAY more than the steps
3. I have a bigger room, plus I like having a smaller family rather than a big one.

WIBTA if I change the custody agreement and stay at my dad's longer? ######

Response: NTA. You're 17 now? That's plenty old enough to decide where you want to stay. ######


Prompt: I (17M) program as a hobby. I've been pulling all nighters working on a project with my friends and on my free time I play CSGO and Hypixel Skyblock. My mom recently put locks on my laptop and blocked certain programs that are essential to my hobby (vscode, unity, etc) Luckily for me I found a loophole that allows me to bypass her locks by creating a new windows account using a throwaway email. She's always been like a helicopter parent and I've gotten used to it but it still pisses me off that she treats me like I'm 12. ######

Response: NTA. You're 17 not 12. She should be less controlling. Also, good on you for bypassing them! Lots of kids suffer under North Korea-style surveillance and strict content restrictions imposed by their parents every day. ######


Prompt:
So my (22F) parents (50+) were in the backyard doing some gardening and planting flowers today and left the garage door open. They have a few extra of certain supplies and made a care package for one of my friends who is struggling and left it on the front porch.

They have security cameras and were surprised when the supplies went missing before my friend had a chance to pick it up. I ended up getting a call (as I do not currently live with them but will be back there in a month) that someone came by, went into their garage for a while, then came out went to the front door, tried the door handle, and then took the package and walked away. Eventually the guy came back went into our garage again for a really long time, and then left again.

I am worried that they may be planning to break into the house or have stolen something and want to post a PSA on Facebook to look out for this sketchy kid (he seems about 17-19). When I told my parents this my mom said no because they don’t want to ruin his life, but I am worried why he would spend so much time in my parents house.

WIBTA if I went against my mother’s wishes and posted the information anyways? ######

Response: NTA. You'd ruin his life anyway by letting him think crime is okay ######


Prompt: Hi everybody! My fiancé and I are expecting a baby in December. I have a lot of bad history with my last name and my fiancé’s family also has a really bad history. For this reason I’ve always wanted my baby to have a new last name to start brand new with no history. We both agree to this and decided this is what we are going to do. However his family does not want that. So are we the assholes for wanting something different and going against his families wishes? ######

Response: NTA. You will likely get some push back from the family, and you have to decide whether or not it’s worth dealing with the fallout from that. Are you both planning on taking a new last name when you get married? If the two of you and your child would all share a totally new last name, that would make sense. ######


Prompt: All my life I've babysat people when it comes to hanging out. I'll ask, they'll say "I'll get back to you" or "sure maybe next week" or some such thing, and then days will go by and I hear nothing up until the last minute or don't hear anything at all. Recently I decided I'm done doing that. If they don't give me concrete plans or even something like "sure I'm free this weekend or "I think I'm free Monday and Tuesday, let me check and make sure" or something specific like that I just assume we're not hanging out and make other plans. Well recently what I've always feared happening happened. Somebody actually did get back to me at the last minute and I had already made plans with someone else who actually gave me specific plans and information to plan my week off of. This person is upset because I was like "I'm sorry but you didn't give me anything specific and you waited till the last minute to let me know". Am I the asshole for for not putting my whole week and life on hold while I wait for someone to get back to me? ######

Response: NTA. You weren’t rude or malicious, you just said it how it is. Hopefully they’ll learn they can’t just leave people waiting on them to make plans. ######


Prompt:
My son is 5 years older and ever since his first word I've been speaking to him in Arabic just as my mother did with me. He's picking the language up pretty quickly and I'm also teaching him French and German as I know it's easier for children to pick up languages. I've also been teaching him about Islam through bed time stories and he's started to copy me when I do my prayers which just melted my heart.

Before he was born I had a discussion with my wife that I'd like to raise our Children as Muslims but I'm not going to force it upon them and they can choose when they grow up. I did have my son circumcised however, with my wife's consent, for medical reasons as well.

It's currently the month of Ramadan which means I'm fasting from sunrise to sunset, when my son learn this he wanted to copy me. He was having lunch with my wife whilst I was working in my office and asked where I was. He then refused to eat and said he wanted to be like me. I had a talk with him and explained he was too young and he needs to eat so he can be big and strong like me. He still wants to try however so we agreed on him doing half days like we usually do with children.

My wife is very unhappy however and has said that it's unfair we're bonding over so many things and she feels like he's ignoring her. She agreed that languages are useful to him, but she wants me to stop teaching him Arabic and wants me to do my "Muslim stuff" away from him. ######

Response:
 Nta. You weren't forcing your son. You were doing it and like a normal kid, he's copying what his parent is doing

If your son likes it then I don't see why not. Maybe she can learn it as well so that it would be a bonding thing for all of you ######


Prompt:
I’m not a tech guy but I know more than anyone in my family and whenever there is a hiccup I am called to fix it.  I was full on asleep when my oldest brother yelled for me to wake up.  When I got out the WiFi wasn’t working and he basically demanded I fix it’s. I wasn’t looking for a fight and I just humored him.

It wasn’t working and I got more annoyed then my other brother said I’m doing it all wrong and basically pushed me out of the way while he worked on it (he doesn’t know anything about tech) and then my other brother tried to fix it.  They both were struggling and were getting more mad, I told them to just let me deal with it.  But when they were both done trying they both BLAMED ME for not fixing it.

(This is where I maybe TA) I said “I WAS fixing it till you 2 assholes pushed me out of the fucking way.  You know what?  Fuck you both you always pull this shit.”

I then put on my shoes and went for a walk, when I got back the WiFi was working again.  But my brothers were all passive aggressive towards me which really pissed me off but I didn’t say anything cause I didn’t want to start anything.

AITA? ######

Response: NTA. You were woken up and then they prevented you from continuing to help. Cussing at siblings depends on the dynamic but I'd assume more often than not siblings are comfortable enough with one another to handle that language. ######


Prompt:
I (F23) am currently staying at my girlfriend’s (26) apartment and yesterday she wasn’t feeling well. She had really bad cramps, was throwing up and had a really bad headache. We were out of medicine and groceries so I went out to get some.

I picked up the medicine and went into the grocery store, trying to get to the checkout as fast as possible. I was really lucky that there was no line and was already unloading my cart when a pregnant women asked me if I could let her in front of me. Normally, I would have said yes but her cart was bursting and I had to catch the next bus. Maggie has a car but I don’t drive it because of insurance issues. I really didn’t want to wait for the next bus because I didn’t want to leave Maggie alone for too long and I really didn’t have that many items. I wouldn’t have gone grocery shopping in the first place but the pharmacy is right next to the store and we really needed a few things.

I told the lady that my girlfriend was sick at home and I would hurry up packing the groceries into my backpack. The lady started screaming that I shouldn’t treat her like that and that young people nowadays don’t know how to behave. She yelled that she needed to sit down and that I would take to long packing up my things. I ignored her, paid and left. In the moment I felt like I was right, but now I‘m overthinking it. My gf is touched that I was so worried about her and the lady was just plain rude. But what if she was really feeling unwell.

Was I the asshole here ? ######

Response: NTA. You were totally fine.  Don’t think twice about this. ######


Prompt:
This ended up in a breakup and to be honest would have resulted in a break up no matter which way it was handled, and I realized that at the time so I handled it the way I did.

Me and my ex had been together for about four years before this, we adopted a dog together in our first year together and had been raising it. However last November the dog came down with cancer, estimated costs for treatment run 5-10k USD and it's not guaranteed, like maybe 50/50 and even if the dog survives it's not going to live a normal life.

Normally we contribute 50/50 to the dog's expenses. The problem is it wasn't possible for my ex to contribute the 5k because of a recent layoff. As for me, I'd recently purchased a cello (I am a cello player, played for 15 years and am insanely passionate about it) for about 15k, and it was still late in the refund period when our dog came down with its diagnosis. I had almost no savings because it was all spent on the cello.

Refunding the cello would have been the only way to come up with the money for the treatment since we were surviving on only my income for the time being and had no excess funds. Frankly i refused and pointed out everything I said here. In the end our dog passed away and we broke up over it, and my ex moved out of my home. I still have doubts whenever I play my cello, but overall I don't regret my decision.

I wonder how reddit would judge me though? ######

Response:
 NTA. You were put in an impossible situation: try to save the life of your dog (maybe without being 100% sure about the recover) and lose your only income or keeping it but loosing your dog.
I’m sorry about your pet ######


Prompt: I enjoy singing but I am VERY bad at it admittedly.  I have no pitch or tone but I like to sing alone in my room usually to songs or I’ll even do karaoke by myself I know I’m bad but I like doing it, it’s fun and a stress reliever. I moved in with an roommate a couple months ago and he hates my singing (I don’t blame him) but I was singing in my room a few weeks after moving in and he had asked me to stop and not to do it when he’s home, I said sure it seemed like a reasonable request although I don’t sing that loud. Well the other day I thought my roommate was out and was singing some karaoke in my room and didn’t think he’d be home for a couple of hours. He ended up coming back early with a couple of friends and they heard me singing (I’d didn’t hear them come in as I had headphones in). Well he actually sent them home and BLEW up on me saying that I embarrassed him with my terrible singing and that no one should be singing like that unless they’re a professional.  he also doesn’t want me singing at all in the apartment. I apologized and said I didn’t know that they would be home but he’s still mad at me. But I don’t really feel like TA here. What do you guys think AITA? ######

Response: NTA. You were only singing hardly crime of the century. Do what you enjoy! Definite over reaction from your room mate. Maybe look for a new room mate who isn't so weird about you singing to yourself? ######


Prompt:
I am a full time security guard and a full time college student. I work for a private company, that has a strict no trespassing rule. We have a basketball court on the property and during rounds tonight I found two men (Caucasian males earlier 40’s) and two young boys (maybe around 10yrs old) playing basketball. I told them it was private property and asked them to leave(I’m in the security vehicle at this point). One man seems bummed but is like ok. Then this other man starts screaming at me (5ft female) saying he was a long time resident of the town. I said be that as it may this is private property and you need to leave. Still screaming he says your not gonna let me and my kids play basketball? I said no there’s a strict no trespassing rule. The guy aggressively walks towards my security vehicle and screams “you must really like your job huh”. I laughed and told him “it pays my bills”. He got angrier, and I told him if he didn’t leave now I was going to call the local police dept and have him trespassed. He screams “I heard you the first time you fucking loser”. I followed them off the property to make sure they had left.

Some side information, the strict trespassing rule is because if someone that is not an employee is injured there is concern they could sue the company. If something like that we’re to happen and it was discovered I knew people were there that did not belong there, I would be fired.

So AITA? ######

Response: NTA. You were just doing your job. ######


Prompt:
So the other night the girls parents were over at my house and I decided I would be somewhat of a nice person and make everyone a nice dinner even with the rocky past I have with them. (They don’t agree with me traveling for work a month at a time)
Well whenever I would leave the living room to check on things in the kitchen I could hear snarky comments just loud enough for me to hear but quiet enough so they could sound like they’re “trying” not to be heard. After about an hour of it my girlfriend told me what they were saying about me to her. I walked out of the kitchen and told them that they had to leave because I wasn’t going to be disrespected like that in my own home. My girl told me I could’ve handled it in a different way but I just couldn’t tolerate it in my own home aita? ######

Response: NTA. You were giving an olive branch to people who do not respect you or your job. You were attempting to be kind but clearly they are childish. I think you can be kind but firm and ask someone to leave. ######


Prompt:
So today I resigned from my job. I't was apparently a 'graduate position' and my first job out of college. As soon as I joined the company, the head of my department quit and 4 weeks later once she actually left, I was in charge of the department. I was responsible for all the clients accounts and was extremely stressful and I was not well equipped nor trained well enough for the job. I don't even know what I'm doing half the time and no one is around to help. So this affected my mental health badly. I told my boss this and gavethem warning that I was at risk of leaving.

At the start of this month all employees took a 20% wage reduction. As it was still considered a 'graduate position' I was on almost minimum wage. After the 20% cut I was below minimum wage and was given a contract to sign to consent to the reduction. I informed my employer of the potential illegal document and I got scalded for questioning this (she's a lawyer and was very butter that I would accuse her, a lawyer of creating an illegal contract.

I requested my employer to put me on minimum wage which they rejected my request as they couldn't afford it. So I resigned today leaving the whole accounting service team with no members.

Everyone at the firm hates me for it right now and have guilted me and made me feel like an asshole for leaving. Anyway that sums up the story more or less so let me know what you guys think. ######

Response:
 NTA. You were given more responsibility than you had agreed to beforehand without being offered another position or pay raise. On top of that nobody taught you how to do your job. To have the audacity to try and cut your pay to below minimum wage after that is just despicable.

You gave them a fair warning that it was taxing on your mental health and they didn't heed your warning. They brought it on themselves! ######


Prompt:
My gf and I moved out of state in with my dad a few months ago so we can get settled before we move out on our own again. We have a three month old baby.

My baby hasn't been sleeping very good the past few days. She's been colicky. This afternoon, i finally got her to nap while laying on my chest. My dad put left over pizza in the oven for himself for lunch. He said he was going to go shower and asked if I could get it out from the oven if the timer went off before he got out. I told him, "No, I can't because I have the baby sleeping on me." He hesitated, but then he said, "I'll be out in time."

He went to shower. He wasn't out in time and the timer went off. I called for him a few times but he didn't hear me. The baby woke up from me yelling for him but went back to sleep within a few moments. I did not get his pizza from the oven.

He came out about 5 minutes later. He was mad that the timer was going off. He asked me why I was letting it go off. I said that I told him I wasn't going to get it. He pulled his pizza out and it was kind of burned. Not black burned but it smelled a little toasty.

He saying I was being lazy and rude. I don't think I was because I told him straight up I wasn't going to get his pizza and he said he would be out in time. My dad also told my older brother about it who agrees with my dad.

AITA? ######

Response: NTA. You were doing something important that couldn't be interrupted, and you told him so. I think it's fair, and if he doesn't,  he might to consider what it would be like to spend the rest of the day with a screaming, overtired baby. ######


Prompt:
I (48M) recently won the lottery.  Before you congratulate me too much, it was a local state lottery and certainly not a Mega Millions or Powerball jackpot.  However it is enough to help me buy a moderately priced house and my take care of my debts with enough left over to have an investment account.  I don't plan on quitting my job or anything drastic.

My Ex-GF (45F) broke up with me 6 weeks ago.  We have been separated since February because of the lock-down.  She is in a state with extreme lock-down orders so it is impossible for me to go back.  About 6 weeks ago she called me and said it's over, she can't live like this etc.  I didn't disagree, and we have been civil since.

Through a mutual friend she found out about my win, and when we talked she called me to discuss what 'we' were going to do with this money.  I explained to her I won after we had broken up, and she is mad at me.  She also called me stupid for buying lottery tickets int he first place.

Our mutual friend thinks I am the AH, but my family thinks I am in the right.  AITA? ######

Response: Nta. You were broken up and bought the ticket with your own money!!! Keep all your winnings and stop talking to your ex!! Congratulations on a win!!! ######


Prompt:
My husband and I (early 30s) extended our lease for 6 months back in February, planning to buy a house between then and July. Our landlords are selling our house, so they will not extend further. Unfortunately, my husband was furloughed, so we’ve put the house hunt on hold until he’s landed a new gig.

We live in the same city as our parents. My in-laws own a few different houses/units around our city. My mother in law can be difficult, so over the last 10 years we’ve avoided living in any of their places, despite the savings potential.

When my husband was furloughed, my in-laws offered us a place to move in to for 1/2 of what we’re paying now. We thought it was very generous of them and agreed. We planned to move in July and stay there until we can buy a house. We’ve had this planned for a couple months now.

Last week my MIL called and told me that they rented the unit we were supposed to move in to. She offered to let us move in to their house instead. Their house is huge and beautiful - we would even have our own floor with a separate kitchen, etc. But as I mentioned...my MIL is very overbearing. I’m also working from home full time until at least October.

I mentioned this to my parents, who offered us up their sailboat to move to. It’s moored in the city, has enough space for us, and would be completely free except utilities and moorage. My parents normally sail over the summers, but can’t because of border restrictions, so it’s largely unused at the moment anyway. We decided this was the right option for us and would be fun. I grew up at times on a sailboat so this is not entirely out of my wheelhouse.

We let my in-laws know and they are very upset. They feel as though we “hate” them and would rather live on an old boat than with them. Which I guess is...kinda true, but we don’t hate them. I feel bad for upsetting them, and I can see how this makes us look ungrateful. AITA for living on a sailboat instead of my in-laws very nice home? ######

Response: NTA. You were *never* going to get the unit they origonaly offered, getting you into their house was always their plan. If it wasn't they wouldn't have rented the unit. Well done for not falling for it. ######


Prompt:
Hi Reddit,

I know the title sounds crazy but I just want to know if I’m in the right or wrong.

A couple of months ago, My ex girlfriend came to visit me while I was sick at home. We had been in the breaking up stage for months, with no end in sight <she did not want to let go>. I had moved on emotionally and really wanted nothing to do with her. Ex girlfriend comes to my house, without notice, and proceeds to talk about nonsense and why do I want to leave her, and me being sick and not wanting any drama, asks her to leave. She refuses to leave and i let her know that if she doesn’t leave I will call the police. After that she locks herself in my room, and I proceeded to call. Cops arrive and remove her, but she claims she came to pick up some items (false).

Reddit, AITA? ######

Response: NTA. You warned her that if she didnt leave youd call the police. Actually doing it let her know you're serious for the future if she tries something again. ######


Prompt:
My mom just unexpectedly died from cancer. This has been the most difficult experience of my life, and I really needed my boyfriend to fly home. I voiced that I would pay for his ticket, but he replied that he thought it would be better if I flew to his place on our already planned trip in a week. I have three kids who are devastated and this is really not possible anymore. He also has a flight here for June 6th but didn’t reschedule.

At first, the issue was he needed to be home to rent the open rooms in his house. But that has been mostly resolved and he’s shown no urgency. He has been there for me communicatively but I really just need to be held and cry.

I wanted (needed) him here, and kindly voiced how it would mean a lot to me. However, I am at a point in my life where I won’t beg, nor try to change anyone. If he wanted to be here, he would, right? This is causing me to seriously second guess if we are on the same page. AITA?

He also has traveled home during the pandemic, so respectfully that argument is null.

Edit: Asking for opinions because obviously I want to bring this up, and am considering taking space or ending it if I am not the asshole, and he tries to make me feel like one. ######

Response:
 NTA. You voiced your need and he has dismissed it. That is an awful to have in a partner.

If I was in this position I would honestly tell him that if he can't be there for your most desperate time in need, then he can keep his ass away for that June 6th trip.

I'm so sorry for your loss and I'm sorry your partner is not realizing how they are a massive dick in this situation. ######


Prompt:
We are unemployed due to COVID-19 and trying to save and budget our money.

My girlfriend just excitedly told me she just spent over $300 in house plants for a house we rent expecting me to be happy as well. Needless to say, I got a bit angry and told her that it was a really dumb financial decision at this time.

Now she is mad at me and is calling me a dick for not being excited as well.

Am I the asshole?

Edit because people are asking: we have been in a 10 year committed relationship and share all of our finances. ######

Response: NTA. You two need to have the money talk because if you arent on the same page financially, this relationship is doomed. ######


Prompt:
So this happened before lockdown... normally I hate giving wait staff a hard time because I get that their jobs hard...

So I went to dinner at a tgis with my boyfriend. We ordered starters, mains and drinks all at the same time. Starters and drinks came and it was fine. But slowly we ran out of drinks and we were in a bit of a back corner and no one was coming over...

We just kind of waited for our food but it got to about 40 minutes since we’d had our starters so we tried flagging down a waitress which took another 20 minutes and asked about our food... she was polite, apologised and left to find out about our food.

She didn’t come back... 10 minutes later we asked another waitress, same thing, she apologised then didn’t come back to speak to us... 3rd time we asked a waitress and the same thing happened again.

I was mad at this point and so we left just enough to cover the drinks and starters on the table and started to walk out... a waitress came running at us saying we can’t leave as we hadn’t paid yet. We told her that there was money on the table and she told us we had to pay for the whole meal (which we hadn’t received yet). She called the manager out and as she did this our food finally came out... about 2 hours after our starter.

We got mad as hell picked up the money on the table, gave the manager a chewing out and wrote a letter to corporate....

It’s not that they forgot about us, it’s the fact that we asked for help and they completely ignored us....

So AITA for walking out on the bill? ######

Response: NTA. You tried to pay for the starters and drinks. You weren’t walking out on the bill until they finally gave you attention to flag you down and pay for food you didn’t receive. Thats BS. It was fair to walk away. A good restaurant would have comped your food for the shitty service anyway. ######


Prompt:
I'm married and have a 10yo son and a 11yo step-son. I don't have much of a relationship with my step-son's mom. I don't think she likes me. Fortunately, my son and step-son grew up together so they get along, go to the same school and hang out with the same friends. I went to go pick up my son from the park and my step-son was going to be picked up by his mom for the week. I didn't want to leave my step-son all by himself at the park so I stayed. His mom was suppose to be there at 4PM and it was already 4:30PM with no word from her. I tried calling, texting and emailing. Nothing. My husband on a plane so he wasn't going to pick up.

I ended taking both kids back to our house. Around 5PM, I get a call from my step-son's mom bitching at me over taking her son back home. I explained that we waited an hour and tried to contact her. I didn't want to leave him all by himself at the park. She said I had no right to do that and I should have moved mountains to get my husband on the phone to discuss. There had been a miscommunication between her and my husband as my husband - he was in a different timezone when they coordinated his pickup so he was off by an hour. She used that hour to go to a spa hence her unavailability. My messages got buried under other messages. She said she was scared that something happened to her only child and I should have contacted her again and it was an asshole thing to do. ######

Response: NTA. You tried to get a hold of her many times, and you wanted your step-son to be safe. ######


Prompt:
I live by a strict...rule(?) of confidentiality. You tell me something and tell me not to tell anyone I will take it to my grave. I expect the same thing back in any of my relationships with people. Obviously its discussed and the trust is built and what not. If I hear back something I have shared with you from someone else, I don't care how long we've been friends. I'll drop you as a friend. I'm loving, caring, and supporting to my friends, heck to random strangers on the internet on a daily. But that's the one thing that matters more to me than anything. I'm an over sharer, and I excitedly tell people things about myself, often followed by a want of things to be kept between us. I'm told this comes to get me quite often, but it's only to those I truly feel like I can tell.

As you might've assumed I no longer want to be friends with a close friend of mine, and my family isn't supportive of it because their "so good for me" and I "would be crazy" and a  "asshole to let go of the friendship". The person told three other people of a big secret I was so scared to tell them, I don't understand why and when asked they said they didnt either. It just doesn't quite make sense to me to continue the friendship, if you could easily slip something like that without feeling bad then I shouldn't feel bad about removing you from my life. My family wants me to rekindle this, but I can't. A secret like that is purposely told. It doesn't slip out of your mouth.

Personally I don't think I'm an asshole at all, reddit? ######

Response: NTA. You told them something important to you in confidence, and they told others. That is extremely toxic behavior. You were right to drop them as a friend. Don't listen to others who say you are wrong. They aren't you. You were the one this happened to, and it was your choice to make. ######


Prompt:
Some days ago one of my long term “friends” called my mother a cow for no reason in our group chat. He had been saying that to me and some other friends some for some days prior and we told him he was going too far and to stop because it was rude. He kept doing it and I once again told him to stop and that I’d fight him if he ever did it again.

So a couple of days later we were talking about Bernie Sanders dropping and I asked who they were planning on voting now. He said “ur mom” then in another message added “who happens to be a cow” so I told him off, told him I’d fight him if I ever saw him again, and kicked him out of the chat. I later asked him if he had a problem with me or why he was saying that about my mother and he said he was doing it because he thought it was funny and apologized but I didn’t accept his apology as I had already told him to stop and he had crossed the line for being unnecessarily rude.

Now the rest of my “friends” are defending him saying he was just joking and they invited him back and now they are treating me like I am the asshole for not forgiving him. I then left the group chat and I haven’t talked to any of them since. Honestly I think I can’t be friends with anyone who can’t respect my mom especially after she did nothing but be super nice to all my friends. ######

Response: NTA. You told him to stop. He did not. It's not just insulting your mom here, he clearly doesn't respect **you**. ######


Prompt:
Weeks ago my friend Paul, who is a first time dog owner, told me that his puppy seemed a bit sad and didn’t want to play. I told him to go to the vet and have it checked because it could be something. He said he would do it that weekend. The next Monday I asked him how his dog is doing and what the vet’s diagnosis is. He said he didn’t get take the dog to the vet because he and his family had a cook out. I told him to make time because it’s one of his responsibilities as a pet owner, and he said he would.

The next week he told me that his dog threw up and asked what he should do to make it feel better. I said that it’s not uncommon for dogs to throw up, but he should really go to the vet because the last time my dog was lethargic, it turned out that he had ehrlichia which can be fatal if untreated, and vomiting is also a symptom of that disease. He said he would take his dog to the vet that weekend, but when Sunday came around and I asked him about his dog, he hadn’t taken it to the vet.

Today he called me sounding very anxious and said that his dog didn’t want to eat so he finally took him to the vet the tests showed that his dog does have ehrlichia. He said he remembers me saying that it’s fatal, and he said he's really worried and he doesn’t know if he can take it if his dog dies.

I told him and said that it’s rich for him to say that now, considering that his dog has been showing symptoms for weeks and I’ve been telling him to take it to the vet for weeks but he kept on putting it off. He needed only one hour in the past three weeks to go to the vet but he waited until things got worse. So now if anything happens to his dog, I think he can definitely ‘take it’ since he didn’t seemed concerned about it even though it hadn’t been itself for weeks.

He got angry at me and said that he was already feeling low and he just wanted my support as a friend and as someone who has been in this situation before but all I’m doing is blaming him.

Am I the asshole? ######

Response: NTA. You told him repeatedly what he should be doing and the potential consequences... He didn't listen. ######


Prompt:
My fiancé has been jobless for almost an entire year now. I am currently working two jobs (roughly 65 hours a week) and am frequently exhausted when I get home. With our current situation, I have asked that she do most of the cleaning because I usually don’t have the time to do it properly and I don’t want to live in a pig sty.

I don’t ask her to do everything and I don’t ask her to clean up after me. I do my own dishes and what is in the sink while I’m doing my own, I take out the trash on my way out, and I do a load (or more) of laundry every day. I leave at 6am most mornings and don’t get home until around 7-8 every night.

With this being said, I’ve talk to her and ask her to do a few things here and there to get things together. She always argues with me that she shouldn’t be doing all the cleaning and normally I would agree. HOWEVER, she sits at home all day and does nothing but watch tv or play games while I am working my ass off to support the both of us until she can find a job! When she gets one I can loosen my hours so I’m not working so much and it will go back to equal amounts of chores. AITA??

Also for clarification, this isn’t some sexist bs, we are both female.

Tl;Dr my unemployed (not COVID-19 related) fiancée complains about having to do most of the cleaning while I’m working two jobs to support the both of us. ######

Response: NTA. You think it's bad now, it's only going to get worse later. You'll be happier with a hires cleaner minus a gf. ######


Prompt:
I live with a sibling, we have been roommates for a while. Their luggage broke down years ago, not long before I bought a set for myself for a little over a $110.  Since then every time they go out of town they insist on using mine. I personally don't use them often whereas they go out of town a several times a year.

I don't like lending out my luggage in general because I know luggage breaks down the more the suitcases are used. Plus whatever unexpected things may happen beyond the person's control. The set itself was cheap altogether, which makes makes me think they aren't the best of quality in the first place and  therefore aren't expected to last long.

I bought the set so that I'd always have them incase I needed them, which sometimes is unexpected. The fact that another person is putting all the miles on something I bought and could wear or break down before I even get my money's worth out of them doesn't sit well with me.

As for the sibling, we share a lot of mutual stuff as "house stuff" but luggage has never been one of them.

AITA for putting my foot down and telling them they can't use luggage on this trip and to get their own. ######

Response: NTA. You spent a lot of money on it. They should buy their own. ######


Prompt:
Hi. So my whole life I (f16) have loved the taste of coffee but I have a sensitivity to caffeine. Normally I order decaf because it's so little caffeine it doesn't really negatively affect me. Today I went to a local chain coffee shop and ordered a decaf coffee. I was careful to mention my caffeine sensitivity and double-check that it was decaf. About an hour later I realized it wasn't decaf. I ended up shaking, having multiple panic-attacks, being incredibly nauseous, and unable to take my asthma medication because it is a stimulant.

I sent a video to my friend freaking out because I haven't had an episode like this in years and she got really upset with me. She kept calling me a Karen and telling me I was being ungrateful and rude and that service workers mess up some times and I have to cut them some slack. I never said it was the service worker's fault and never even informed the worker of what happened. She isn't a service worker and has never had a job, but she seems to be taking this very personally and I don't know why.

I could totally be in the wrong here so I just need to know, am I the asshole? ######

Response: NTA. You specifically mentioned you have a caffeine sensitivity and ordered decaf. Your friend is an AH for downplaying it and not taking your health seriously. Honestly she sounds like a bad friend. ######


Prompt:
Recently broke up with my gf because she was super abusive. Her sister is also abusive towards her fiancé and it comes from their abusive dad. A couple days after we broke up, the sisters fiancé texted me and asked what happened. I told him how abusive my ex was and I gave him examples of why. Less than a week later, his engagement was called off suddenly for unknown reasons. He then told me he realized that he was in the same shoes as me and didn’t notice that his relationship was toxic. He said he was happy and thanked me for opening his eyes.

The rest of the family found out and are blaming me for breaking apart the couple. I’ve been accused of ruining the sisters life. I told them it was the fiancés decision and I’m not responsible. They disagree and accused me of spreading lies to get back at my ex. I don’t feel bad at all but my friends tell me that I should have stayed out of it and that I’m an asshole.

BTW both the sisters and the dad are in denial that they are abusive and manipulative. So they truly believe that I fucked everything up.

AITA? ######

Response: NTA. You spared him from a horrible marriage. No one should be in a relationship like that. ######


Prompt:
AMITA

This might be a long post, so bear with me.

So my step dad works remotely due to COVID, but because of the significance of his position, he has to go into work Monday and Tuesday. I work 6 days a week, I'm up by 5:30 and out by 6:15ish, he's meant to be out at the same time.

The first time my mom asked me to wake him up, I went with it, thinking nothing of it. Then, the next week, she didn't ask me to wake him, so I didn't. I got a passive aggressive phone call from her later that day saying that he was late for work since I didn't wake him.

 I asked her why he needed someone to wake him up, she says he sleeps over his alarm. As a 62 year old man, and having such an important job, one would think he would get himself out of bed to get to work, but apparently not.

I've known people that say they set multiple alarms, and still manage to sleep over them. I myself don't get it. I kinda feel like it's the person's responsibility to wake themselves up for work. I don't like being woken up by anything but my alarm clock, myself.

I recently started leaving the house earlier, so I wouldn't be obligated to wake up a grown man so he can make it to work on time.

AMITA for not wanting to be responsible for a grown ass man? ######

Response: NTA. You shouldn’t be EXPECTED to do it. He should set multiple alarms if he can’t get up or use one of those super loud alarms or something. I’m so perturbed by the idea of a grown man expecting someone else to wake them up. ######


Prompt:
Hello!
My sister said I could use her throwaway account so I didn’t have ties to my personal one. Also on mobile.

My husband’s sister, my SIL, is due to get married next month. The venue is allowing her wedding but they had to heavily adjust the guest list. My daughter was set to be the flower girl and my husband and I would just be attending as a guest. I was cut from the guest list. I understand as I have never been made to feel welcomed in the family and we’re not that close. Why take up a spot when she has plenty of other people she wants around?

Well due to obvious reasons, and my husband’s job banning travel (the only travel he is allowed is a work related trip here in the near future), he told my SIL they would no longer be able to attend. My SIL then decided that I would be the one to bring my daughter to the wedding but I still wouldn’t be a guest. I would just be driving her 12 hours to another state and hanging out at the grandparents home while everyone else is at the wedding.

Here’s where I feel like TA.
I informed her that I would not be sending or traveling with my daughter because 1- am immune compromised, 2- I have school (online) and a work from home job that demand my time as well, and 3- there are family members who my husband is no contact with and he would not want her around these people without one of us present.
This information caused her to massively flip. She said I was salty because I was cut from the guest list, she now no longer has a flower girl, and I’m ruining a very special family picture she has in mind. She was going to have a family photo taken at my MIL’s grave with everyone in wedding attire. I mentioned that my husband wouldn’t even be in the picture because he wouldn’t be able to attend but she just kept blaming me.

I’m honestly starting to overthink this to where I’m feeling like an asshole and maybe I should find a way to get my daughter there.

So Reddit, AITA? ######

Response: NTA. you shouldn't have to chauffer your daughter 12 hours over to a wedding you won't be attending, immunocompromised during a pandemic or not! they know she's a child and will want her parent after being at a wedding for hours, right? SIL is insane. ######


Prompt:
My (16m) mom is registered as a foster mom for emergencies. We've had many kids stay at our house for short periods of time. Usually it would be one kid at a time. However, last year, my mom was asked to temporarily let 3 kids stay with us. The mother of the 3 kids recently had a psychosis and the kids had no other family members living in the country. We were all a bit more emotionally connected to these kids, because they were the youngest we ever housed (6,7 and 10). Good news, after three months their mom recovered and they were allowed to go live with her again, but it only lasted shortly as their mom quickly relapsed again. Now my mom has just been asked if she wants to care for the children indefinetly, as their mom's current situation is not very promising.

My mom just asked me and my siblings about our opinion, but I was the only one who didn't want it. I told my mom my primary reason was because of the lack of space, and also because my parents are already quite old (my mom is 59 and my dad is 65) So I can't imagine that they'll be able to raise these young kids until they reach the age of 18.

some more info: I live in a 4 bedroom house with 3 other siblings and my parents. I have always had to share a room with my younger brother but my sister is leaving for college next year and I would finally have my own room. If the 3 kids come live with us, they will have to share one room, and my brother and I will have to share a room until I go to college. Especially now  it's very stressful being around so many people and I can't imagine always living like this. ######

Response: NTA. You shouldn't have 8 people living in a four bedroom house. Obviously it's depending on who you ask. But they're already near/in their sixties and will not be able to properly take care of these three children plus your siblings at that age. That also depends on who they are but it seems like you're concerned for their state of health AND the lack of space. ######


Prompt:
Hi, I had to get this off of my chest because I’m still stewing about it. This happened yesterday.

My state is slowly lifting covid sanctions so my parents decided to drag me and my brother to a plant nursery. Afterward, we stopped by my parents’ friend’s house to drop off some trees we had bought for them. We were only supposed to stay for five minutes but parents never mean it when they say that.

For context, I’m in my twenties and I am lucky enough to live with my parents so I can aggressively pay off my student loans. I have a full time job that is about 14 hours a day and an hour commute one way. I’m writing this before work. So since I get up at 3am and have a long day ahead of me, I’m very strict with my sleep and aim to go to bed around 8pm. If I get less than 7 hours, I crash in the middle of the day.

Basically what it boils down to is my parents were having a great time shooting the shit and getting drunk and I was anxious about everything I had to do the night before work. So when it got to be 6pm and they had been telling me we were leaving soon for the last two hours, and they were pouring more wine I said “please, no more wine, can we go home?”

This turned into a whole thing and I almost called an Uber but they ended up getting motivated to leave at around 6:30. So all the way home, for 30 minutes, I got lectured about how selfish I am and how I can’t make sacrifices for my family. I was so angry because the argument made no sense to me. Yeah, I do think my sleep is more important than you getting drunk with friends, do that on your own time without dragging me and my brother along. And I don’t care that you haven’t seen your friends in months, we’re in a pandemic, no one has seen their friends. But apparently I embarrassed them, ruined the mood, and need to relax about work.

So tell me reddit, which one of us is overreacting? ######

Response: NTA. You should've driven off and told them to get an Uber if they want to stay. ######


Prompt:
I’ll try to keep this short and simple. I have 2 kids, 5 grandkids.

Carlie—has 2 kids, lives with me and has always lived close by. I’m very involved in my grandkids lives. I’ve always been the main childcare provider and as stated above, they live with me for the time being so I’m around them a lot.

Meg—has 3 kids and has lived in another state since she went away to college 10 years ago. I see her and my grandkids roughly 3-4x a year.

For Easter I bought Carlie’s kids window paint and let them paint on the house and car windows. I also made bunny shaped pancakes.

For Meg’s kids I sent gifts—paw patrol figurine set, Jojo siwa craft set, and a lego set(1 gift for each kid) + a bubble gun for each kid + extra sand for their new sandbox.

Carlie saw that I sent all this stuff to Meg’s kids(via Facebook) and started making passive aggressive comments about how her kids didn’t even get actual toys from me for Easter but my other grandkids did.

It later escalated to her saying that I am spoiling my other grandkids to punish her kids because they live with me(?? Not true at all). I have my reasons for gifting them so much—1) I buy random stuff for Carlie’s kids consistently throughout the year, when they go to the store with me or I happen to see something they’d like 2) I had plans to go visit Meg’s kids for spring break and would’ve bought them stuff then but that got canceled ######

Response:
 NTA. You should tell Carlie that if she's concerned her kids are being shortchanged she should remember how much professional childcare is.

Also the time you spend with the kids is way more valuable than chocolate and plastic. Carlie sounds entitled, you  sound like a fantastic grandmother. ######


Prompt:
A year ago, my grandfather passed away. He was the family patriarch and it was hard on all of us, but especially myself and my sister who he pretty much raised after our father passed.

At the funeral, I was most focused on my mom, my sister and making sure everything went as planned. I guess my sister noticed what people wore. A lot of people showed up and a few did show up in jeans. Others wore sneakers. My grandfather would not have cared. He went to church every Sunday and dressed up for grandma, but then changed as soon as we left service. Is it appropriate funeral attire? No. But it wasn’t like they wore bright colors or disrupted the service in my opinion. To my sister, it did and she feels it was the epitome of disrespect to not wear slacks and dress shoes. Everyone who went probably had nice clothes in their closet, but maybe didn’t want to wear them. Maybe they thought they were paying homage to Grandpa. I don’t know. Some are family members, some family friends.

But a year later and my sister is still pissed. She won’t talk to these family members and when before lockdown, we had my daughter’s communion. She refused to talk to these people. Recently, she went on a rant about it again. I told her she needed to get over it. She told me I was as insensitive as them and hung up. I wore a dress and stockings!

Am I being an ass by thinking she needs to let it go and that it’s no big deal? ######

Response: NTA. You should probably refer her to a therapist. This is a strange fixation to have that could have been triggered by grief. ######


Prompt:
Hello all. I'm on mobile, so sorry for any formatting errors on my part.

Me (30M) and my girlfriend (28F) have been together for 3 years and we have a baby girl that will soon be turning 2 this summer. My girlfriend wants to get our baby baptized and I am fully on board with this.

I am an atheist now but I grew up Catholic. At first I was on the fence about baptizing our baby but after some thought I said I was totally fine with it. So my girlfriend starting looking into churches to get this done at (before the lockdown). She told me about a few places but we would have to join the church our baby gets baptized at. I'm not ok with joining a church.

Some background: As before, I grew up Catholic but no longer a believer. As a child, I was not treated well in the church. I won't go into details but my girlfriend knows about my experiences and is insisting that I join the church with her to get our baby baptized.

I told her I'm happy to support our baby getting baptized at the church but I do not want to join one or attend one, except for the baptizing ceremony. I said if she wants to go to church, she is free to do so as it's not my right to stop her. I said my experiences really left a sour taste in my mouth and I don't want to go back to the source of a childhood trauma.

My girlfriend said I'm being selfish and I'm not thinking of our baby. We haven't spoken about this since the lockdown started.
I'm starting to wonder if I'm out of line here and if I'm being a jerk.

So reddit, AITA? ######

Response: NTA. You should never be forced to go somewhere that makes you feel uncomfortable and unsafe ######


Prompt:
Title pretty much says it all. My friend was checking on my cats while I was on vacation (this was last year). Basically I was supposed to pay her $20/day for the week.

Then (while I was on vacation), apparently she somehow ran over the light post in my yard. It broke in half and she tore out some of the underground electrical, along with one of my most beloved plants. Thankfully I was able to save my plant. I know that sounds dumb but it took me forever to actually get this thing to thrive.

My friend offered to pay for it, so I had some electricians come out and look at it and they all recommended I use my home owners deductible to get it fixed, which is $500. I believe the cheapest contractor was $800. After she heard the estimate, she spazzed and said she couldn’t pay that. So I said I would keep the money I owed her for cat-sitting and pay the rest of the deductible. She got upset and said that wasn’t our agreement, but I don’t really want to pay her after needing to pay this deductible for something that was blatantly her fault.

AITA here? ######

Response: NTA. You should file a claim against her auto insurer to recover the cost of your deductible. If she is insured, her auto insurance should cover property damage she does with her vehicle. ######


Prompt:
I ordered some food from UberEats and receive a message stating that it should be delivered in no later than 30 minutes. Sounds good.

I leave a note stating that I would prefer to have the food left in front of my door. I live in an apartment complex, and not all couriers are familiar with the layout, so I include instructions detailing how to find my building and unit.

30 minutes go by and I receive a message stating that my food was delivered. I check outside my door and notice that it isn't there. I investigate further and eventually find out that it was left on the front porch of the leasing office, which was closed and unoccupied at the time.

I ended up having to drive a few minutes out in the rain to obtain my food, which could have easily been stolen by an animal or other person within that timeframe.

Given that I left specific instructions detailing how to find my apartment and there were no attempts by the courier to contact me and confirm that they left the food in the right location, I got frustrated with his failure to pay attention to detail and follow instructions and decided to leave the courier a 1-star review and no tip.

In my mind, tips should only be awarded for good or better service and no one is entitled to them.

AITA here? ######

Response: NTA. You should contact Uber Eats and get a refund. ######


Prompt:
So we were all at dinner once and my brother asked why we didn’t say grace, because his girlfriends family said grace.

My mom said that we could say grace if he wanted to, and so we did. Now she wants us to do it every night before dinner, but I just refuse to. She always seems annoyed when I refuse to join the family.

Just a little background - I’m not religious, I could care less if there was a god or not, I just don’t have any reason to believe there is. My parents took us to church like twice in our entire lives, and they’re somehow surprised I’m not religious.

Sorry if this is rushed, if you need more info feel free to ask :) ######

Response: NTA. You should be allowed to just bow your head and think about other things while the rest of the family takes part. ######


Prompt:
A few days ago, my (16F) mom (50) told me that she recorded me singing in the shower from outside the door. Later, one of her friends was over and asked me if I would sing. My mom said that she showed him the video. I didn't say much then, but today, I brought it up and told her she shouldn't record me without my permission or send it to other people.

She almost immediately started screaming at me, saying she never said anything about showing someone else, and that she recorded it for herself because I never sing for her when she asks. It seems like a pretty big deal to her. I get the feeling now she's going to be mad at me for the next few weeks. AITA? ######

Response: NTA. You should be allowed to have your boundaries without being shamed/yelled at for it. ######


Prompt:
So for context I (16F) live with my mother and two younger brothers.

My mom sometimes enters the bathroom while I’m occupied in it. This doesn’t happen every single time i’m in there, but over the years she has done it quite a lot.

I take around 30 minute showers. Sometimes she needs to use the restroom or she needs to apply her makeup and she just doesn’t wait for me to finish showering. She shouts at on the other side of the door and says, “I’m going to go in!” I shout back no, yet she does it anyways. To do this she gets a fork and picks at the door lock she can open the door.

The thing is I’m not comfortable with her just walking in when I’m taking a shower. I’m uncomfortable with her seeing me naked at this age honestly. When I told her this she said, “Why? You’re a girl and besides, I saw you naked all the time when you were very young.” I retort that she never goes into the bathroom when my younger brothers are taking a shower and she just says “that’s because they are boys. I can’t do that.”

At this point I’m beyond frustrated so I just walk away. The next day while I’m taking a shower the same thing is about to happen and I just lose it. I yelled “You are so fucking annoying” and my mom is so angry. I’ve never sweared or said anything that aggressive like that towards her before.

When I finish showering she goes on a 15 minute rant saying things like how I disrespected her and that she can do whatever she wants because she owns the house.

I am currently grounded. She took my old tablet, she doesn’t let me watch TV, and I’m not allowed to use the house computer. However, I hid my phone away from her and I only use it while not near me and I’m in my room. She’s very angry at me and says that I will stay grounded until I give her my phone. I’m honestly not going to do that and my phone is the only device I use anyways so I don’t really care.

So Reddit, AITA? ######

Response: NTA. You should be able to shower in peace ######


Prompt:
My dad passed away last year on my birthday, I was very close with him and am still getting through this loss. I had told my husband and family that the only thing I want for my birthday this year is to just be left alone and mourn if I need to or to relax and have some time to myself. I don’t want to fake being happy and social that day.

My brother in law and his wife are having their second child in early June and live about 1,700 miles away. My husband and his parents now want to go visit my bil the first week of July (which is when my birthday is) if all of the travel bans are lifted and if Coronavirus seems to be less of a threat.

I said I would prefer if we waited for the week after my birthday to go, or if they can’t wait, that I’m fine if they go without me and I can go at a later time. My in laws think I’m being unreasonable and that I should just push aside how I’m feeling. Also that I should use seeing the new baby and being social as a distraction to my sadness to “get over it faster.” AITA for not wanting to follow along with their travel plans? ######

Response: NTA. You set a reasonable boundary. You do not need to cross the line in the sand. I am sorry for your loss. ######


Prompt:
I (21F) had a friend who constantly meets random men online, which is ok but many of the guys she's met have ended up threatening her or stealing from her. We were talking about dating apps when I said the guys she meets make me uncomfortable and I don't really want to be around them. She seemed to understand and was ok with it.

One day later, we were going to hang out and I was going to drive us to another city about an hour away. She showed up with a guy she'd just met online. I was kind of mad because we'd literally just had this conversation and she didn't even tell me she was bringing him. It was kind of a long trip and I'd never met the guy, so I said I didn't want to go with him and we should go another day. She went home and we haven't talked since. If she would have asked me, I might have gone anyway even though I was extremely uncomfortable, but I felt a little disrespected as a friend and afraid for our safety.

AITA? ######

Response: NTA. You set a boundary that she agreed to, then crossed it knowing you were uncomfortable. It would be different if she'd been going out with the guy for a while, but not a stranger. You're in the right. ######


Prompt:
I (24f) have a 6 year old son. I’m a highschool dropout and my family cut me off when I was pregnant with him. when I was kicked out my friend took me in so I wouldn‘t be homeless. I started working on retail and got back on my feet ,I‘ve been renting an apartmant for 2 years now and got a better job

I started doing drugs at 17 and sleeping around at 16. Two years after my son was born he was taken away,my sister got custody of him, because I was niglecting him and my friend had to work,so she couldn‘t take care of him. She was the one who called CPS. she was also the one to convince me to go to rehab.I’m forever thankful for her

I‘ve been clean for almost 3 years and won custody of my son back a little after I started living by myself.I know I screwdup REAL BAD and I try to make up for it everyday. I love my son more than I ever loved anyone,I hate myself for what i did to him. He gets good grades and I do my best to help him in everyway I can. I don‘t know if he remembers what happened but it breaks my heart everytime he does something that is a consaquence of what I did to him

My family recently started trying to reconsile with me because they want to be apart of my sons life and I gave them a chance. But their telling me all the time that my son should of been raised by my sister. My sister is on my side and she knows I’m taking care of him but all the other relatives think he isn‘t in good hands .My mom thinks I don‘t deserve him because of what I did. I‘m not going to give up custody of him but I want to know am I wrong for getting him back? ######

Response: NTA. You screwed up, but you did what you needed to do in order to get your life together and get your son back. You deserve to raise your son and he deserves to be raised by his mother if that’s the healthiest situation for both of you. Fuck what your family says. If they can’t be supportive, cut them out. Your son doesn’t need to be around people who are disrespectful of his mother. ######


Prompt:
I (20F) have been dating my boyfriend (24M) for about 4 months now. This is our only real problem right now.

The small arguments we had, he refused to talk about it and 'solved' it by getting me flowers and chocolates, or another gift. The first time I thought he was maybe nervous, or wanted to keep the peace since this was our first argument. But it's happened several times.

I told him it makes me uncomfortable, that instead of learning how to navigate problems together and communicate effectively it feels like he just wants to 'buy forgiveness' and move on.

He said something pretty offensive about my family last week, I explained why I didn't like what he said and asked if we could talk about it. He told me he didn't want to fight and hung up, and showed up the next day with a pretty expensive necklace. I told him it's a nice gesture, but I don't want a necklace, I want us to be able to talk about these things. He got frustrated and left, calling me ungrateful.

The next day he sent a bouquet of flowers. We're both getting frustrated at this point. But I don't think we can just keep doing this, we have an argument, he buys me something, we move on and never talk about it? That doesn't seem healthy.

AITA for not just forgiving him? ######

Response:
 NTA. You say this is your only issue, but it is a BIG one. It's an indicator that he has no intention of facing his own flaws or learning how to communicate with you in a healthy or productive way, especially about important things like respecting your family.

It's really sad that he has developed a belief that money will let him get away with whatever he wants. Maybe one day he'll meet someone who only wants him for his money, and he'll have found his perfect match. ######


Prompt:
I've been saving up in order to move out in order to escape my mother for my own sanity. While checking my online statements with my bank app I found out my mom has taken over $700 out of my account, not counting the 200 i loaned to her.

To say I was pissed is an understatement but I'm too afraid to confront her, so I just decided to move all my money into a new account without her knowledge.

Yesterday our dog got hurt and now she's limping, my mom took her to the vet and came home around thirty minutes later, demanding to know where all my money is.

I asked her what she was talking about and she started yelling at me, saying that 'you need to put the money back' and 'i need it in case of emergencies like this!' I tried telling her that if she needed money I would loan it to her and she just needed to ask but all I got back was 'You live under my roof, the least you can do is help me without me having to ask for it.'

My family is devided, they know cuz afterwards my mom called my relatives to complain about me, on if I'm an asshole or not for moving the money without my mother's knowledge.

AITA?

(Edit: I am currently 18 and work full time. I pay rent and part of our phone bill while having chores. I told her I'd pay for the dogs appointment but my mom is refusing until i put the money back) ######

Response: NTA. You saved up the money for yourself and it's your money. Nobody has the right to use it without asking you first ######


Prompt:
It takes 2 people 2 hours to open the store properly. My teammate wasn’t there at 9. I texted him at 9:15 asking if he was on his way. No answer. I went into solo mode in case he didn’t show up. He finally responds almost 2 hours later saying he was distraught over his childhood friend getting killed in a car crash. I told him to take care of himself & I’d see him next week. I’ve dealt with death of a loved one enough to have sympathy, which is why I didn’t fire him on the spot. He’s good at the job & easy to work with. On his next shift I had him sign a write up. He got upset, he shuts down when he’s mad & becomes passive aggressive. I wrote on the sheet that because of his track record I wouldn’t suggest dismissal. I told him it was policy to be fired but since I had authority to waive that, it was just a formality. I just had another employee do a no call/no show because she read the schedule wrong. I also gave her a second chance with just a write up because it inconvenienced no one but me. Different circumstances but I can’t write one up & not the other.

So, Am I the Asshole? He’s been sulky & talking shit about me. In my professional mind I know I had no choice but my heart hurts because of it. ######

Response: NTA. You saved him from getting fired, and is now mad he got written up. ######


Prompt:
Okay for background information, I’m 18F and just recently lost my virginity a month ago. I’ve been regularly sleeping with the guy since losing it. There was a day where the condom broke and it made me start thinking about getting on birth control so that I’m double protected, I was a little hesitant at first because of all the side effects so I decided to go to the doctor and talk about my options. She ended up prescribing me the pills and I guess my mom’s number is connected to my pharmacy profile because she gets a text saying that the birth control pills have been filled. She starts blowing up my phone asking why I got birth control so I told her...

Now she’s been going off on me saying I’m a disappointment and that I’m stupid for having sex and I just don’t understand? I feel like in my generation sex is just such a normal and talked about thing. I’m 18 and starting college this year.. if I didn’t lose it now I would’ve definitely ended up losing it in college anyways. But she’s starting to make me feel kinda guilty about it.. saying that I’m not the daughter she raised and she expected better of me. Also she’s mad over the fact that I didn’t tell her but I find that kinda weird and an invasion of privacy. I feel like it’s none of her business what I choose to do with my body. But I’ll ask you guys, AITA for having sex and for not telling her about it?

BTW I never brought the guy into our house, I find that disrespectful. ######

Response: NTA. You said it, sis. It’s really none of her business, and you’re doing the right thing by not bringing the person over if your mom doesn’t allow it. Being on birth control (or alternatives) is a good thought too. But no, it’s absolutely normal to be having sex and her making you feel guilty about it is probably just her projecting her own insecurities on you, and that’s absolutely not fair. ######


Prompt:
My bf of 2 years went on a camping trip right before all the lockdowns and quarantine measures started. He went with 2 girls from his college outdoorsy club that he doesn't know very well and who I've never met. I'm not gonna lie, I wasn't super thrilled about that, but I didn't say anything cause I know that was just my own insecurities getting to me.

On the trip, we didn't talk much but he did call me once and told me the trip was going well. He came back from the trip, said it was fun and they just hiked and fished and stuff, and I was glad he had a good time. Yesterday we were cleaning the apartment and reorganizing and I pulled his sleeping bag from a closet and noticed there was a small rip in it. A hole maybe like 2 or 3 inches across. I asked if he wanted me to try to fix it. He kinda dismissively said "oh I'll just buy another, I didn't even use it on the trip" and so I asked, "then how did you sleep?"

He looked like a deer caught in headlights and tried to backtrack, but then eventually admitted he ended up sharing a bag with one of the other girls. Not one of those fancy double bags either, just a regular one. I'm pretty pissed because he got mad at me for sharing a king bed with my gay male friend once, which I apologized for and we agreed that bedsharing was a boundary for us. We live in a warm area and it wasn't cold the weekend he went, certainly not cold enough to necessitate sharing a bag for "body heat" like he says. If his bag was completely destroyed I would've understood, but imo it was still usable and NOT bad enough to break a boundary we had established. And then he lied about it and hid it from me. Am I overreacting? He says nothing happened and I guess I believe him but I still feel like he broke my trust somehow. Or is this not a big deal? Is this normal for camping? AITA for being angry with him? ######

Response:
 NTA. You said it yourself, he has already established that bed sharing is a boundary for him, and you agreed. Violation number 1.

Then, he gets a deer in the headlights look when you question him about his sleeping arrangement, indicating he didn't intend to tell you about the issue and instead meant to lie and keep it from you. Violation number 2.

He is an AH. Big time. ######


Prompt:
My friends and I (20M, we all around 20) go into a group facetime call and just chill and talk on it. Sometimes we play games, but we mainly just talk, we usually call for literal hours.

Theres this one girl in our group call, that has recently started learning how to play the ukulele.

It's great and all, but its really annoying to hear it over the mic, shes not bad, but she makes alot of mistakes, she keeps plucking strings until she finally hits the right one, which is what makes it such an annoyance.

I've literally asked her a handful of times to stop because its really loud over the mic, whenever I do she just starts singing to drown me out.

When were playing games, all I hear in the background is a shitty ukulele and a decent voice.

This past monday, she joined the call and she was holding her stupid ukulele. I clicked on her icon, and muted it. Since then I've muted her during all the calls because it seems like all she wants to do is just play the ukulele, I've realized that she doesnt even notice because she never talks. Not one of my friends in the call said a word about me muting her because I assumed they all agreed it was annoying as fuck.

Today she found out that I was muting her without her knowledge and she bitched and cried about how much of a dick move it was to do something like that, and now everyone is acting like I'm a POS. If everyone had such a huge problem with it, then they should have said something. AITA? ######

Response: NTA. You requested several times that she stop and she literally *sang over you*. So you muted her and kept the peace. I don't see a problem. ######


Prompt:
At a family vacation right now, and I can't stand eating around infants. I'm aware it's not their fault because they aren't capable of learning good eating habits yet, but them getting pieces of food all over their face and their hands, spitting their food and getting it everywhere- just generally being sloppy with their food, which my niece is especially good at- easily disgusts me and being around her immediately spoils my appetite.
For this whole trip, I've either been eating in another room from my family or going out by myself. They think I'm being rude by doing this and they've been on my back and they think my reasoning isn't valid- but ridiculous. I try to make it clear that it personally has nothing to do with her, and that I'd be perfectly fine eating around her when she's older and can be more clean. It's also not like I haven't triend eating around her before, but it's a lot easier said than done. Usually ends up with me taking two bites then giving up as a tornado of mashed potatoes, chewed up hamburger and baby saliva is brewing across the table.
This is getting to the point that I think I'm wrong, because nobody else in my family seems fazed by her messiness. ######

Response: NTA. You recognize that your aversion to eating around infants is your own thing and you try to handle it without inconveniencing anyone else. I could see your family thinking you were weird/unusual, but not rude. You can't help your reaction and you're trying to handle it without blaming anyone else. Why is that a problem? ######


Prompt:
Growing up, my sister had never been supportive of me. We were never very close. I ended moving out very early because we got into a yelling match about her not picking me up from the airport because she got drunk.

A year ago, I moved to a different state for a job and broke up with my then bf. When she came down to help me move, she told me I was a bitch for not letting my ex move in with me because he "loved me". When she went back home, I learned through said ex that she had invited him to dinner and he was going to go. I texted her and told her I was really disappointed that she did that and as my sister she should be supporting my decision to leave a toxic relationship. She then told me I was a disrespect brat and she couldn't believe how entitled I was and that she was disgusted I would even say something like that to her. She then called me a stuck up bitch for shoving it in her face that I'm more successful than she is... When all I did was tell her I felt disrespected.

I decided to cut ties with her and deleted her off social media. When I come visit, I steer clear of her as much as I can. But when I tell people I don't talk to her, they all tell me I'm a brat and need to keep her in my life and forgive everything she does BECAUSE she's my sister... So AITA for cutting ties with her? ######

Response: NTA. You really need to stop hanging around toxic people in general, because that's not a normal mindset. I'll say as rslash said once: "it's not on you to forgive her just because she's your sister, it's on her to fix her attitude in order to deserve forgiveness." ######


Prompt:
I (23F) help my brother (34M) with running his business. Often, this requires me to learn new skills such as marketing software, writing up proposals, applying for loans, interacting with customers, etc. I do all of this is my own free time and I have never been paid. This has been something I have done for a couple of years, but since stay-at-home orders, he has relied on me even more with an average of 2-3 hours per night. Often, he will sit next to me while I do his work and he plays on his phone with excuses such as "You just make forms so much better!"

Last night, he decided to pay me $25 for doing an online interview for him. I did extensive research and thought it sounded pretty good so I was content with it. My Mother saw that he paid me and she flipped out on me for being spoiled and taking his money. I tried to give him back the money previously and said not to worry about it 4 times (I even left the room with the money on the table). But, a part of me wanted the money. I have sacrificed so much of my time to help him succeed and have never gotten paid.

My Mother says I'm money-hungry and looking to profit, but isn't my time worth money? Considering how much time I have given him, I feel like a one-time payment of $25 is not too much. I'm not asking to be put on payroll or even have a weekly income from his business. AITA? Thanks! ######

Response: NTA. You put in the work, you get the rewards. Your brother is lucky you are not asking to be out of payroll and that you take the time to help him out. He would have to pay a lot more to find someone else to do it for him. Your mother isn’t the one paying you so why should she care? Ignore her ######


Prompt:
So I actually made a reddit account because this has been on my mind a lot lately with the pandemic.  I'm currently quarantined in the house with my parents and younger sister.  I have a couple of food allergies which, while not severe (i.e. I won't go into anaphylactic shock if I accidentally eat a piece of a pecan), I'd rather avoid triggering if I can.  To that end, I usually end up buying snacks and food for myself that don't contain my allergens which I pay for myself.

I've been working from home, and had my snack mix next to me which I'd just closed up because I didn't want it to get stale when my mom comes up beside me.  I turn my head because she might have to ask me something and see her open up my jar, reach her hand in, and take a big handful of snack mix without saying a word to me.  I've always considered helping yourself to someone else's food without asking to be rude, so later, I mentioned to my mom that I wouldn't mind sharing if she at least asked me first since those are snacks that I paid for myself because they don't have my allergens in them.  She got annoyed at me, saying that she guesses she'll keep that in mind next time she does the family grocery run.  This isn't just my mom either, I'd just gotten myself some takeout and turned to grab a plate in time to see my dad open up the container and start eating the contents.  When I got upset, he slunk off pouting.

My sister thinks I'm being selfish and a jerk because I won't share, but AITA for wanting my family to ask before they take my food?

P.S. On mobile, and this is my first reddit post, so formatting may be wonky. ######

Response: NTA. You purchased food specifically to avoid allergens. The absolute least your family could do is ask permission before they help themselves to your food. If they purchased snacks that were allergen-free themselves, it would be a different story. ######