Prompt:
I (17 pre everything mtf) have recently realised that I would be comfortable in life as a transgender woman. Unfortunately due to conservative parents I’m going to have to wait until I move out to transition.

When I realised this, the first person I told was my (now ex) girlfriend (17), a little bit of background she is clearly of Asian descent but her parents are white as snow, it’s clear to everyone shes adopted. She seemed supportive at first (using correct pronouns and my chosen name) she even said she would stay with me through my transition, I told her not to spread the word because my Dad could ship me off to conversion therapy if he heard about this.

At first I was happy to have told her but when I woke up I was flooded with messages from literally everybody in my year. Some where nice offering make up tips and the like, but some where calling slurs such as tranny or trap. And then I realised that there is a high likelihood that this is all going to get back to my Dad via people in my year telling their parents about the situation and then I’m royally screwed.

I messaged my ex asking if she told anyone. She claimed to have only told a few. I then asked where literally everybody in my year knows now. She told me to grow up and how accepting people are. I then reminded her of my VERY conservative dad and she responded with an eye roll emoji. That really pissed me off so I said “At least my biological parents give a shit about me and didn’t just sell me out to some random ass family” she left me on read after this and according to her friend she was crying on FaceTime.

In hindsight I could see she meant well by telling her friends but I specifically told her not to because of the consequences that would unfold if the word got around. I feel like an asshole for what I just said but I suppose it’s up for you to decide. ######

Response: NTA, this is horrible. I don’t blame you for reacting the way you did, she clearly doesn’t give a fuck that she put your entire life in danger so she could feel good about herself for 15 minutes. Please feel free to PM me if you need anything at all. ######


Prompt:
A bit of context, my parents are divorced, but they always agreed what they do for one child, they do for the other.

My older sister got a private tutor and also had driving lessons for 2 yrs which my parents split the cost for between them, but my dad refused to do for me because he said that maintence should cover the cost. I ended up not being able to get a tutor, but my mum managed to pay for driving but at a huge financial cost.

While my sister has been at university, my dad has been giving her over £300 a month to help her. But he has told me he won't do the same for me because I was planning on working abroad and I had been told that if I worked abroad after graduating, I don't have to pay off student loans. I have found out since that I was told wrong and I will still have to pay it off and I emailed him telling him, but he never responded.

When he told me he wasn't going to help, I was upset and went up to my room. His girlfriend came up and told me that I was being a brat about it. She also told me that he was probably going to lose his job which was why he wasn't helping me. Which would be a valid reason, except this all happened a few months ago and he's still not lost it, and he would've lost it by now, especially with the current situation, if he was gonna lose it.

My mum emailed my dad after finding out his girlfriend called me a brat saying she didn't want me near her again which he didn't reply to, but she did calling me a liar, and I quote " if she (me) thinks the hat fits, she can wear it". My dad is still with her and it feels like he has chosen both her and my sister over me.

My relatives are telling me that I'm making a big deal out of nothing and it's not his fault that he upsets me because he has aspergers so he doesn't realise that he's upsetting me, but after everything went down, I emailed him specifically telling him why and how it hurt me. Are my relatives right and I'm being an asshole and should just let it go? ######

Response: NTA, this is clear favouritism, if cutting him off makes you happier do it. There’s no point sticking with someone hurting you this much, even your dad. ######


Prompt:
For context: I am 16, mom is 49.

My mother’s grandfather passed away about a month ago. She was super close to him so it’s been really hard on her. She’s finding that she’s really sad (obviously) and having a hard time coping.

My mom usually doesn’t like materialistic gifts so I usually just write her a letter or a card or craft her something but I have a job as a tutor now so I wanted to buy her a little bit. I did write a card for her and got some other stuff but when I was browsing target I saw this thing called a “happy journal.” It basically consists of ideas to do for self care and happiness and a place to record her moods. I thought it was a thoughtful idea because she’s been sad lately and I wanted to acknowledge she was going through a tough time.

However, my friends told me it’s insensitive and I’m just marketing off of her sadness. I truly thought it was a good idea because she hasn’t been seeing her therapist due to quarantine and virtual therapy isn’t cutting it. I feel like a bad daughter and I’m hesitant to give it to her.

AITA? ######

Response: NTA, this is a thoughtful gesture, especially coming from her daughter. I'm so confused why your friends think giving a gift is "marketing" off anything... ######


Prompt:
Backstory : GF and I have been together for 3 years. We have one child aged about 1 years old.
Our relationship has been rocky for the last month or so.

Anyway. About 1 month ago she started snapchating (snaping?) a guy and mutual friend of ours again, nothing strange about that, i don't mind. Then they start sending bitmojis and not long after that they are snapchating all day every day. She even told me "hey, i'm flirting with this guy, lol "  and now for the last few weeks they've been Blowing kisses at eachother etc etc. Something like this : 😂😂😍😘😘 all day everyday. She even stayed awake until 3am snaping this guy when we went to bed at 11 at multiple occasions.

I asked her why she thinks that it's okay to do what she's doing , and she told me that "we're just trolling, why do you care? Don't you trust me?"

I do trust that she doesn't do anything stupid, but when i pointed out that she would hang me for doing the same thing,  she just said "yeah, and?"
I find it extremely annoying that she spends so much time texting and flirting with another guy, even if it's playful and " just for fun."

She thinks i'm the asshole in this situation because she thinks i don't trust her and i'm being jealous.
Meanwhile my whole problem in this situation is the obvious double standards.

Additional info: her and the guy has sent nudes to eachother prior to me getting together with her. Don't know if this is relevant info but i feel like it is.
Also non-native english speaker. Please forgive me. ######

Response: NTA, this is a huge red flag. If this makes you uncomfortable and she’s ignoring it then something needs to change. She’s not respecting your boundaries, and the history with this guy is just the cherry on top of a sh*t sundae. ######


Prompt:
So I have 2 daughters (10f,14f) and I have a son (13m). My son and daughter (10f) aren't really in this situation

My 14 year old daughter has never liked pork. Me and my son love to eat it, so it's on the table a lot of the time. And my daughter would sometimes eat the pork, but never really liked it.

About a few months ago my daughter came up to me and told me she has decided she wants to stop eating pork completely.

And of course I've supported her in her decision. I started buying Turkey pepperoni and I would make a steak ormake some chicken whenever we were having pork. I'm just trying to make her happy.

A few days ago my daughter came up to me and asked if we would stop eating pork around her because she feels like we aren't being supportive of her decision.

I told her I absolutely support her, but I'm going to eat it when I want. She then said that by not supporting her I'm a horrible father. And I told her that I have made sure that she doesn't have to eat any of the pork by cooking other meats instead. She then stormed off and complained to my wife.

My wife says that we should just stop eating it all around. But I told her that's not happening.

So AITA ######

Response: NTA, this is a good opportunity to talk about boundaries, she has control over her body and what she eats, but not what anyone else eats ######


Prompt:
Five of my friends and I are planning a camping trip soon. 3 girls and 3 guys. We're gonna have seperate girls and guys tents.

My friend Joe is dating this girl Meg. And often times I've seen her at a party, she gets trashed... Like puking, too drunk to stand, etc...

Joe said he wasn't sure if he could go because Meg didn't want him camping without her. I said that's all fine, I'd like him to come because we all miss him and want to see him, but if he couldn't go, it's all good.

He asked me later if he could go and bring Meg.

I had some worries, like we're all gonna be drinking on this trip and I don't feel like she can moderate herself. Especially because we're only bringing liquor because that's easier to pack in.

Had a bunch of worries like her falling drunk into the river or campfire, falling and getting hurt in the woods, puking in the tent or otherwise wrecking the tent, etc. Breaking bottles in the woods. Stuff I wouldn't have to worry about with anyone else in the group.

I said I'd rather not invite Meg. I tried to put it nicely and say that she tends to drink more heavily than the rest of us and I'd be worried about her in the woods.

So Joe told Meg no, I think he had a talk with her to say that she wouldn't be able to go but he'd really like to.

And she texted me and blew up at me for trying to take Joe camping but not letting her come, saying that was not appropriate to do with someone in a relationship. Saying some nasty stuff about me and how I'm too childish and selfish to understand what a relationship is like and that you can't just do anything you want.

I haven't said anything back yet, I'm thinking about what to say.

AITA for how I handled the camping invites? ######

Response: NTA, this is a friends camping trip and she’s not in your friend group, she’s just in a relationship with someone in it. To be fair I’m biased because I think any relationship where someone tries to stop you from doing things with your friends is awful but that’s their prerogative ig. But it’s not your relationship and you bear no responsibility to her jealousy issues. You invited your friend, not his gf. You didn’t pressure him to come and not every invite has to include a plus one. ######


Prompt:
So I actually made a reddit account because this has been on my mind a lot lately with the pandemic.  I'm currently quarantined in the house with my parents and younger sister.  I have a couple of food allergies which, while not severe (i.e. I won't go into anaphylactic shock if I accidentally eat a piece of a pecan), I'd rather avoid triggering if I can.  To that end, I usually end up buying snacks and food for myself that don't contain my allergens which I pay for myself.

I've been working from home, and had my snack mix next to me which I'd just closed up because I didn't want it to get stale when my mom comes up beside me.  I turn my head because she might have to ask me something and see her open up my jar, reach her hand in, and take a big handful of snack mix without saying a word to me.  I've always considered helping yourself to someone else's food without asking to be rude, so later, I mentioned to my mom that I wouldn't mind sharing if she at least asked me first since those are snacks that I paid for myself because they don't have my allergens in them.  She got annoyed at me, saying that she guesses she'll keep that in mind next time she does the family grocery run.  This isn't just my mom either, I'd just gotten myself some takeout and turned to grab a plate in time to see my dad open up the container and start eating the contents.  When I got upset, he slunk off pouting.

My sister thinks I'm being selfish and a jerk because I won't share, but AITA for wanting my family to ask before they take my food?

P.S. On mobile, and this is my first reddit post, so formatting may be wonky. ######

Response: NTA, this is a common problem though. Whenever I buy something I don’t want to share I have to keep it in my room because my parents guilt trip me if I don’t willingly share it. ######


Prompt: My son is bisexual. I got no problem with his lifestyle. Before you want to burn me i'm a bisexual male also. But when my son is online with his friends as a joke or a gesture. He makes a slurping noice. I mean i'm not stupid. I know what it insinuates. As his dad it just creeps me out. I told him if anyone of my other kids did it. I would say the same thing. I asked him nicely. I just said hey umm don't you think that would make me a tad uncomfortable? I respect he lives here at home and helps us out. ######

Response:
 NTA, this has nothing to do with his sexual orientation. You are simply asking your son to respect your boundaries as his dad and not make sexual references in front of you. It makes no different what kind of genitalia he is referencing, it is still disrespectful to you.

Edit grammar ######


Prompt:
I (19f) have cousins that all went to boarding school.

My family is very traditional, and have a long history of sending their children to boarding school. Most of my family members get sent to the UK, US and Canada age 8/9.

When I was young, I got very sick. After that, my parents had separation anxiety when it came to me so I got to attend normal day school.

Some of my cousins resent me though. It’s understandable, I got to live with my parents while they didn’t.

I had started getting pressure to attend boarding school from my cousins, grandparents, aunts and uncles at 13 since I was old enough to ‘handle’ myself and I haven’t had any health scares.

My grandparents had want me to uphold the tradition, but I hadn’t wanted to leave my parents and go to a foreign country. They said that I could go to one in my home country, but I still wouldn’t have been able to see my parents as often.

I still get taunted for my refusal to go although I’m done with high school and am currently taking a gap year.

I was at my aunt’s house for a gathering and I heard my cousin say to another cousin how much of a coward I am since I ‘hid behind my mummy’s skirts’ my entire childhood. They then spoke about how spineless my parents are for not forcing me to go.

I come up to them and start arguing. They continue to say that I broke years of family tradition because I couldn’t cope without my parents as a teen when most of them left theirs at a far younger age.

I lost my temper then. I snap back “at least my parents loved me enough to want me around.”

Dead silence. I leave the room. None of my cousins have contacted me but my parents are asking me to apologise. ######

Response: NTA, they were berating you you defended yourself ######


Prompt:
I typed this on my phone, so sorry if I make any mistakes lol.

I do a lot of freelance work through instagram, work that consists of editing photos and videos. I am entering my junior year in high school, so this is how I make my own money. I do get a lot of clients, and I have frequent clients who come back constantly.

I had this one client who started up their youtube channel. I designed their logo, banner, and I edit all of their videos and make all of their thumbnails. I worked with them for almost a year and got paid about 500 dollars or so. Back in March, they asked for me to edit some videos of theirs (they record a couple in advance and upload them as soon as they receive the final version), but the problem was that because of COVID, they didn't have their paycheck yet and they were asking if they could pay later. I usually never do this but I said okay, since I have been working with them for a while now. Then in March, the same problem happened. Me being stupid said sure. In the end I edited about 12 videos, and made 12 thumbnails. I woke up the next day and they blocked me. They stole my work and uploaded it and they didn't pay me.

I was livid. I used to do free work and I stopped because the feeling of not being compensated for hard work is just horrible. One time, their internet was down so they asked me to upload this video I had edited. They gave me their Gmail email and their password that time. So, I turned on my computer and I logged in. They didn't have a 2FA setup, so I linked my phone number and I changed the password. I hid their youtube account (so it's not completely gone), and I sent them fifty cents through CashApp and told them if they didn't pay me what I deserved I would delete it.

Fast forward a few days, I get a notification from my CashApp, that I got paid, and they unblocked me from Instagram, and dm'd me. I disabled 2FA, unhid their youtube channel, and gave them their account back. I blocked them right after. AITA? ######

Response: NTA, they tried to shortchange you and you took control of your work. I think you know it now, but get the payment before handing over finished, publishable work in the future. You might also look into ways of copyrighting your work so you can just go through YouTube and file copyright strikes against them when/if this happens again (I would suggest severing ties after this fiasco) ######


Prompt:
Reddit,

I need a sanity check.

I got someone who bought a AIO pc that's obviously not for gaming, they offered me a lower than asking price, by a lot, and I accepted. WCGW (paid 350 from 600 asking if anyone is curious)

its been less than 12 hours since we exchanged and they are now crying for a refund because... you guessed it, it doesn't play video games.

before anyone decides to be a wiseguy, the PC is completely functional and the display is flawless (no dead pixels). They even admitted over text that they don't want it anymore because it doesn't play any games.

its got an i3, 8gb of ram and a 256gb ssd. On one side, I don't want to because there's no way to prove they didn't tamper with it (ad was deleted off letgo as soon as it was handed off so I can't even prove the original specs I sold it with), on another side, I don't really care about buyers remorse.

AITA if I lowkey don't want to refund the person and .... don't? ######

Response: NTA, they should've done their homework, or straight up asked you if it'd run games. Honestly, had they looked around at all the idea of getting an AIO wouldn't have been an option. ######


Prompt:
My mom and sister have had plans to do stuff this weekend out of town for a while but did not tell me till yesterday. This is fine, they are adults, but they also told me that I would need to watch my twelve and thirteen year old nieces til Monday. I do not get along with my nieces, they feel that they don't need to listen to anyone, not even their mother. I don't need the drama of these girls as I am just starting new meds for my anxiety and bipolar and don't know how they will effect my temperment yet. My mom and sister were not happy that I had told them I would not be watching the girls.

AITAH for not being willing to watch my nieces for the weekend? ######

Response: NTA, they should have planned better. Even if they had told you way more in advance you still have your mental health to consider. ######


Prompt:
For context, I have tritanopia colorblindness and I've been bullied for it my whole life. I recently told my friend about it and the questions started pouring in - stuff like 'what color is this', 'read this', stuff like that. I have no problem with joking around about it, but they took it too far.

They kept laughing at me and belittling me because of it so I started to ignore them, yet they didn't realize how rude they were being. I called them insensitive and they responded with 'no im not' and sent a sarcastic heart. They kept messaging me and a day later I said 'I want an apology' to which they responded 'we all want things we cant get'. I told them how much of a cunt they were being and called them immature and went offline for the day.

I have been contemplating blocking them on everything because they took it a step too far.

AITA ? ######

Response: NTA, they seem like a jerk, no reason to be friends with them is they’re just going to bully you all the time. ######


Prompt: So last month I bought a condo in DC. As I was a nervous first time buyer, I went wayyy overboard in due diligence, reading every document through and through. I move in and I’m happy, but two of my window’s screw cranks for opening up are broken. Now the condo documents clearly state that windows and the main door are the responsibility of the building, not the owner. So I go down to the front desk and the manager gives me a price sheet and says it’ll be about $150/window. When I mention that the documents say the building is responsible, he says to email the association president with the reference and see what happens. After that, I go on the message board and see many previous posts of owners and sublettors who must’ve not been aware of the rules and payed out of pocket. I now wonder if I’d be an asshole for digging out the legalese after so many people just payed out of pocket, but I also have to think that if the situation were flipped, I wouldn’t get much of a break from them. WIBTA for not playing along? ######

Response: NTA, they need to follow the contract they signed. ######


Prompt:
Background:
Last night my kiddo, fiancé and I were talking about household stuff. Started having a bit of fun by using other languages. (Kiddo and I speak some Spanish and French, fiancé doesn’t) we were literally speaking nonsense just to make fiancé laugh.
Kiddo says “casse-toi!” Then gets this weird look on her face and says
“You know, I don’t know if casse-toi means fuck you or good evening...”
Fiancé and I fell over laughing. The combination of kiddos confusion and the look on her face was just too much.

This is where I may have screwed up. I posted her quote on Facebook. Most of my friends thought it was hilarious. But I’ve started getting nasty messages from some people. Essentially the messages all boil down to me being a horrible parent because I let my kid swear at home without punishing her.
I’ve always let my kids swear at home. The rule is basically use the word appropriately, don’t call names and don’t use foul language in front of elders or at school. Kids have always followed the rules without issue.
Amita here? ######

Response: Nta, they don’t like your parenting style and want to shame you for it.  You are the parent not them sooo doesn’t really matter what they think. ######


Prompt:
So my(16f) sister(23f) was studying abroad in Italy but the whole corona virus thing happened and she had to come back. She left all of her stuff with her roommate who lived there, including her computer.

My mom lent her her computer for about a month because she wasn’t really using it, but now she needs it for work so I was the next candidate. My parents were already planning on buying me a new computer since the one that I’m using now is a very old model and cannot stand many programs I may have in school next year (i will use this for all high school and college). So they decided to buy it and immediately give it to my sister. She has been using it for a month now and will use it until she gets her stuff back.

Now, I would be fine if she was just using it for necessary stuff like school or looking up things seeing as she has a TV on her room and a phone. But my mom said that she would use it as she would use it as if it was her own which means watching movies, going on YouTube, etc. This would also be fine if it wasn’t, well.. my sister.

She has a very long past of mistreating all and every electronic device that she’s had and I admit I was very nervous to hand her my computer. When I voiced my concerns to my parents, my mom got mad at me for being an ungrateful child and basically screamed at me for even thinking about it. I wouldn’t really have made this post if that comment didn’t make me so sad.

I kind of already know that I’m in the wrong here, but I’d still like an outsiders opinion. Also this is my first post ever. I hope I didn’t make any mistakes. ######

Response: NTA, they could have given your sister your old computer. They told you something was your and then gifted it to someone else. ######


Prompt:
Okay so this is pretty funny I know
I got fired today from a studio I was working in as a tattoo artist. I did not get a proper reason to why and my boss fired me over text. I'm pretty upset over it and I lashed out on him because he sees me almost everyday yet did not have the guts to do it face to face. He also did not complain about anything I've done (nor my tattoos) and just couldn't seem to give me an actual valid reason so I'm still confused.

I can't sue him because we don't have a contract and I'm a freelancer (most tattoo artist in my country are freelancers)

I also had to find another job because he didn't forward any clients to me (I still don't have enough of my own clients to provide for me.) Anyway I didn't really lose any money over this.

Okay to the point-
I had a really great pair of scissors and I brought it to the studio for the staff and for me to use because the studio had only very shitty scissors and no one bothered to buy any new ones. (Also I would bring baked goods and whatnot all the time, made sketches for my boss to tattoo... I did A LOT in that studio)

So my scissors are the most popular ones in the studio right now and i want them back.

I want to take them back without telling anyone.
I know it's pretty passive aggressive of me but I feel like this was really unfair and screw the owner??

So WIBTA if I take them back without anyone knowing? They are used by everyone so they're not really only mine when they're there. ######

Response: NTA, they are your property, it isn't 'stealing'. Super shady circumstances surrounding the firing though, sounds like you're well rid of that (ex) boss. ######


Prompt:
I got custody of my nephews when they were 4 and 6. Their mother and my brother were drug addicts and exposed them to terrible things. I put my life on hold at 30. I'm now 39. I did a damn good job re-raising those boys and they call me "dad." I am very proud of them. The youngest isn't my brother's biological child. They are amazing kids. I occasionally spoke with him, but wouldn't let him contact the boys because it would be too upsetting for them.

Both my brother and his girlfriend caught up in a drug case that went federal. Both got 10 years. Their mother is completely out of the picture. I have no idea where she is or if she is even alive, but supposedly she was released two years ago. My kids don't ask and don't care.

My brother got out this year. I don't keep tabs on him, but he recently reached out to me and asked me if I could send him pictures of the kids when they were younger and happier. He doesn't recognize them now (he saw them on social media). He says he regrets fucking up their early years. I thought about it and said no. They might be happy, funny, healthy, active and social kids but they do have scars because of my brother and his girlfriend. My logic is that as my kids must live with those scars, my brother should have to live with being completely blacked out of their lives. I have pictures and videos of them swimming with dolphins and jumping off waterfalls and scoring soccer goals. But those experiences would have been denied had they stayed with them. Plus I gave up A LOT to become a single dad to two kids at 30. I still sacrifice. ######

Response: NTA, they are your kids. Your opinion is the only one that matters. When they’re older and if want to speak to him, it’s up to them ######


Prompt: I am a 22f living at my parents home due to the state of the world. We live in a nice neighborhood out side of city limits. Each house sits on about three acres so there’s a fair amount of room between houses. Growing up the neighborhood was quiet with very few, if any, disagreements.  Within the last few years a new family moved in with teenagers and money to burn. They have several golf carts, 4wheelers, and motorized bikes the kids and friends like to race up and down the street. Last fall a kid fell off their golf cart and cracked his head open in our front yard. After that the racing stopped.  In the last few weeks it started again. Racing in the dark with out lights, reflective clothes, or even helmets. As the kids are a bit older they’ve added trucks to the mix with kids up and dancing in the bed of the trucks while it’s moving. I have talked to the mom about my concerns, and she said she tells them to stop when she sees it, but she also likes to be a mean girls “cool mom” and allows the kids to basically do whatever. As this is occurring more frequently (at least 3 nights in the last week) I am considering calling the police the next time it happens. I hate to waste the officers time, but I am worried that another kid will wind up severely injured, or worse.  If I call the cops, AITA? ######

Response: NTA, they are in the wrong for not using their vehicles in a safe manner. Please call the police, it's a better lesson than if they learn it from one of the kids dying. ######


Prompt:
My husband is an avid computer gamer - mostly WoW-type games. Approximately five nights of the week, he'll play games online from the time that our son goes to bed at 8:00 or 8:30 to about 12:30, so at least four continuous hours. That in itself is not at all an issue for our relationship. He spends plenty of time with me and our son, and I have my own hobbies that he isn't interested in that I engage in when he's online.

A few nights ago I was doing laundry while he was playing online, and I stepped on a toy that my son had left on the basement stairs. I fell pretty hard and dropped the basket. Luckily because of the way my weight was shifted I fell backwards rather than forwards, resulting in a bruise on my butt but I was otherwise fine. The laundry basket clattered down the stairs, ricocheted off some basement furniture, shot laundry everywhere. It was a huge racket. It woke up my son. My husband, who had his headphones on, heard literally nothing.

It dawned on me that if something really bad happened to me, my husband wouldn't know about it for potentially four hours - like what if I broke my leg falling down the stairs? So I asked if he would be willing, for my peace of mind, to just pop out of his office at the mid-point each night just to check on me. Like literally, just say hi and go back to gaming. He thinks this is a huge overreaction and a waste of time. I know for a fact that he isn't actively playing the entire time and he sometimes takes breaks to go to the bathroom or get a snack or whatever, so how is this different? AITA? ######

Response: Nta, there's a story somewhere on Reddit about a guy upstairs playing games with noise cancelling headphones. People broke in and attacked his wife (possibly sexually assaulted her, I can't remember). This is a totally valid request. ######


Prompt:
So, this kid, we’ll call him michael. He did have special needs, and had a helper teacher with him at all times. One day, he was going through my backpack, looking for my rare Pokémon card binder. I’d always had them with me. I told him to get out of my bag, and he left, but with the binder. When I told his helper teacher to give the cards back she said “he has special needs, just let him have them. You don’t even have proof that they were yours.” I went ballistic. I yelled at her and Michael for god knows how long. I ended up getting in trouble with my teachers for yelling at a boy with special needs. He still has the binder. He took the chance for me to do things with the money I could’ve gotten with them. He made my dreams inaccessible. Am I the asshole for being mad at him?

Edit; this was about three years ago, I no longer go to this school. My parents just say that there’s nothing they can do, and I should move on. ######

Response: Nta, there may be nothing you can do now but you don’t wanna blame yourself for that. I’m guessing they were rare? ######


Prompt:
My dad lost his job and my mom hasn’t worked in 30 years. They’ve been living outside their means since I went to college and unsurprisingly had to move out of their apartment just before covid and anti eviction stuff happened because they didn’t have rent money. They moved in with us since my sister lives in Germany.

Since then they’ve constantly been making these little comments that eat away at me, like my husband doesn’t work hard enough, or I don’t cook enough, etc. I had just been taking it since they’re my parents but yesterday my husband was napping on the sofa and I wanted to watch tv so I had him lay his head on my lap.

Later my mom asked me if I am sure he’s not gay since it was “effeminate” for him to put his head in my lap. The homophobia aside I don’t understand how putting his head in HIS WIFE’S lap, who is a WOMAN, is gay.

I finally had it and sat them both down and said that if they are going to continue to stay with us they would have to stop making comments, and if they didn’t I would make them leave.

They started telling me how I’m a horrible daughter because I would be willing to kick my own parents to the curb over comments that were meant to help me and were made in good faith. I don’t understand how they could have been in good faith but now I feel bad.

AITA? ######

Response: NTA, their comments are despicable. Here you are generously opening your home to them in their time of need, and all they can do is insult you? Wow. I would absolutely kick someone out of my home for behaving like that. ######


Prompt:
I (18F) have been friends with this girl (18F) for a couple of years. She’s always had problems at home and has a lot of trauma from it. I’ve always helped her and stood by her. Last year she started doing a lot of weird things without telling anyone but me. Things that could put her in serious danger, like wanting to meet up with a 38 year old man for example. This stuff put a lot of pressure and stress on me as she can be pretty mean when things are going bad as well. I’ve been trying to get her to talk to a psychologist but I, of course, can’t force her and this lead to me playing her psychologist for a long time.

I was mentally and emotionally drained. It was so bad that I had to go to a therapist myself and eventually she taught me how to set boundaries.

Now that she’s doing bad again and can’t talk maturely about it (but keeps dropping all her problems on me), I told her that I couldn’t do it anymore and I only wanted to deal with her problems if she was able to talk normally about them. I’ve decided not to talk to her until she comes to me.

I feel really guilty about it, as she might need me. But I feel like this is for my own well-being. ######

Response: Nta, the worst is trying to help someone who can't even be bothered to help themselves. ######


Prompt: Let me start of by saying that for those who don’t know the history of the swastika, it has been used in India by Hindus, Buddhists, Sikhs, and Jains for thousands of years as a sacred symbol before it was appropriated by the Nazis for their evil genocidal agenda. As a result, most portraits of Hindu gods and goddesses, a few of which I have hung up in my apartment (I am a Hindu) contain images of the swastika. An acquaintance of mine (not close) entered my apartment a few days ago and seemed shocked: he first accused me of being a Nazi sympathizer! Needless to say, I disabused him of this notion and told him about the history of the symbol in Indian culture. He then told me that I ought to cover up the swastika symbols on my posters because since the Nazis have used the symbol, it is no longer appropriate to display, but I think this is entirely the wrong approach: refusing to display a symbol sacred in my culture for thousands of years because the Nazis used it would be like letting them win. He then said I was being very insensitive and called me a pretentious asshole for expecting everyone to know the history of the swastika. If you go to India, you will see the swastika everywhere and needless to say, the people who display it are not Nazi sympathizers. However, I also know that cultural standards in the US are different from in India and have no desire to be an asshole or pretentious. So, AITA? ######

Response: NTA, the swastika is a traditional symbol in Indian culture appropriated by the Nazis. It is culturally meaningful and should not be covered up. Many people don’t know the history and you have an opportunity to educate them about it if they see the posters and have questions. ######


Prompt:
My sister is pregnant, and she lives with us. She’s 19. My parents have made me her personal care taker. Anything she needs it’s my responsibility to get no matter what. 1 am and she wants ice cream? Guess who’s driving to the store. And that actually happened. It was before quarantine so going to the store for her doesn’t happen anymore but she’s still a bitch about everything.

When she threw up I had to hold her hair, if she wanted a drink she couldn’t be bothered to get up, I have to get it. She’s pregnant not quadriplegic, she can get her own fucking drink.

If I ever complain about it my parents lecture me about caring for loved ones when they need it and threaten to take away my computer. I paid for the computer by the way, I worked an actual job for it, none of the money came from them.

I finally lost it yesterday when she asked me to give her a foot rub. I told her I wasn’t doing that and she cried to our parents who started lecturing me. I told them to fuck off and take the computer because I didn’t care, and they called me a spoiled brat and grounded me. Not like I can go anyway, because of the virus. My sister is now demanding foot rubs again or she’ll go to my parents.

AITA? ######

Response: NTA, the only thing your parents are doing are enabling learned helplessness. Where is the expected father? ######


Prompt:
Throwaway and on mobile

So my dad recently passed away from cancer and in his will, he clearly stated that I am to inherit everything, and my 3 younger siblings get nothing, the reasoning behind my father's decision is because my siblings had cut contact from him when he divorced my mum, (it was a mutual divorce but my mum had manipulated them into thinking he had an affair) and only talked to him when they needed money, despite that he always sent texts trying to check in their lives but they wouldn’t respond.

My father had left a letter explaining that he was hurt and disappointed that they had left him and why they wouldn’t be receiving anything, his last wish to me was to ensure that I never gave a dime to my siblings.  So I don’t know if I should carry out with my father’s wish.

I believe that the fair route would be to donate it all to charity but my siblings are calling me the asshole because I’m not giving the money to them.

Edit: Thank you guys for your opinions. Means a lot. ######

Response: NTA, the money is yours as stated in your father's will. Your siblings treated your father poorly after the divorce despite his attempts to keep in touch with them. Don't give them any money, follow your father's last wish. As for giving it to charity, the money is yours and you can do whatever you want with it ######


Prompt:
I )f27) have been with my fiancé (m34) for about 4 years now and we’re getting married this winter. My fiancé has two kids from a previous relationship, whom I love dearly. I’ve been teaching his eldest child piano for about three years now. We have our first dance song picked out to be When You Say You Love Me by Josh Groban, and I thought it would be a lovely surprise for my fiancé if his daughter played the song on piano for us as a surprise. She’s super excited about the idea and can’t wait to surprise her daddy with this.

So because she’s going to perform this at the wedding, she’s been practicing it a lot. Apparently her mom asked her why she kept playing it on piano all the time (can’t practice at our place as easily in order to preserve the surprise). She told her mom what we had planned for our wedding, and her mom was surprisingly pretty mad about this.

I got a text from her telling me how inappropriate it was to have their daughter play a song like this (like, hello?! It’s an innocent love song at our wedding for crying out loud) and that she wants me to put an end to this idea immediately. I’m at a loss for words. I’ve met her a handful of times, but I don’t really know her as I’ve always left the parenting between my fiancé and his ex, as I figured it wasn’t my place. We’ve always been civil though, so I don’t know what to make of this.

AITA here, for wanting my soon to be step daughter to play this at our wedding? I just thought it was a great idea, but her mom is adamant that I don’t allow this. ######

Response: NTA, the biomom is probably having a hard time dealing with the fact that you're bonding with her daughter and that you two have something you share now (piano). Biomom feels excluded from her daughter's life and her ex is moving on, she took it out on you. Not very mature, hopefully she'll find a better way of handling this ######


Prompt:
This was a good while ago but I just realized maybe I could confirm what I thought.

My Context: I wrote a story and it was one of the best I had written in a good long while. My mom loved it and wanted to post it to Facebook. I was excited, I love sharing my stories! So she posts it and then later I go on Facebook for the first time in a while to see my story with no credit. All of the comments are telling my mom how amazing of a writer she is. I wrote it, not her, it really hurt my feelings. It felt like she took credit for my work. So I told her she needs to credit me. She argued that she wanted genuine reactions without credit or context. But that's not how it came off.
Also during this time, she tried to get me to make a big piece of art for no money. I'm her family, I dont need money.

Her context (to the best of my ability)(im still using I for myself and she for my mom): I wrote a good story, she wanted to share it. She wanted a genuine reaction so she posted it without credit but then I got mad. To her, it feels like I dont trust her. Do I really think she would take credit for my work? Why would I think that? She just doesn't get it. Even after I changed it to give myself credit, she was still offended because I "accused" her of stealing my work.
And why should she have to pay for artwork I made, it's for a friend and a family member! Why do I demand to get paid?

The story context doesn't matter and the artwork was a T-shirt design for a retiring coworker (who I have never met). I didn't have the proper programs to draw what she wanted so that's why I raised the price even higher.

I hope I gave enough context, if we need more I can come back and edit it. ######

Response: NTA, Thats shitty and gross of her to snatch your story and refuse to credit. & side note- you have every right to charge adequately for your work, that doesnt make you an asshole either. Sorry you're having to deal with that, man :,/ ######


Prompt:
Ok so before i go into to much detail my boyfriend texted me that he’s looking for a transfer 10 hours away and wants to get an apartment. This aspired with a fight he had with his dad... my boyfriend is always trying to help and his father never appreciates what he dose it is defiantly a toxic environment he should get out of. I just didn’t think it would be 10 hours away.

So now a little background of us we are college sweethearts been together for over 5 years gone on so many adventures together. no we are not engaged lol we are both ok with that. We always talk about the future and when we have our own place what we will do with it. Currently we are both still living with our parents. I personally have a great relationship with my parents and we are very chill with each other my boyfriend can come over when ever he wants however I am not aloud to stay over at his house the parents don’t approve.

So here’s the difference, I pay rent I split the mortgage and house hold bills In half with my parents I pay for my own car and insurance. I have worked in the same field for over 6 years starting as a part-timer and have had a full time job for 2 years. I am now a manager and I feel stable in my life to start something. My boyfriend does not pay bills or rent however he helps his parents out a-lot he cares for them since they are older and more on the frail side. He has not had a full time job for more than 6 months since I’ve known him. The field he wants to work in is very hard to get a job and currently he is an on call during the slow time he works about 15 hours a week.

So here is my question am I the asshole for explaining that before we move in together I’d like him to have a full time job for at lest 6 months to a year? If we are starting our life together I want us both to be stable. And to be honest I think he needs to live on his own for a while to realize what it’s like to own his own place he can control. :/

Am I the asshole? ######

Response: NTA, that’s very reasonable. It’s also a lot for you to give up, and no one could/should blame you for wanting to proceed with caution. ######


Prompt:
He wants me to drive his family member to the airport tomorrow at 5:30 am.

Here's how that conversation went:

Me: What time does Jim leave tomorrow?

Bf: 6:45.

Me: WOW that's early.

Bf: Yeah you're going to need to get up at 5.

Me: What? Me? What are you talking about?

Bf: I have to work at 7:30, so you need to drive him.

I had no idea that any of this was going on. My boyfriend didn't ask me. He just *informed* me that this was happening. Also, maybe I'm mistaken, but if my bf went to sleep at 9:30 and woke at 5, that's 7.5 hours of sleep and totally fine. The airport is like 15 minutes away and he'd get to see his family member off.

I really don't want to do it because I'm pissed that he wouldn't even ask me. I'm big on asking permission, out of respect. If he had asked me, I'd gladly do it. I'm a person. Not an extension of himself. I'm not *obligated* to do anything for him. He doesn't think he should have asked, apparently. I told him why I was mad, and he thinks it not a big deal and I still need to do it.

So, AITA? ######

Response: NTA, that’s very presumptuous of him. And if he doesn’t have to be at work until 7:30 he can drive him. Also there’s taxi and Uber. ######


Prompt:
As the title suggests, I can't believe I'm actually making this post. Throwaway account obviously.

I (23F) have always disagreed with my mother (60F) on various things politically, but I'm not going to detail them here because I don't think they are very relevant to the discussion at hand. She's just a really conservative woman is the background I'm trying to provide here. We are not religious.

Anyways, today I walked downstairs to make breakfast for both of us in my nightgown (just a plain one, nothing funky, not see-through obviously) and shorts. My entire chest was covered to the neck nor was I showing shoulders. She stared at me for a while, and commented that I should not walk down like "I'm not wearing anything underneath" as my dad (63M, we have an ordinary relationship) may see it and get ideas. I was shocked and said, 1 I am wearing nothing revealing (not a bikini suit) and 2 it's very disturbing that she would suggest my dad would get incestuous thoughts from looking at his damn daughter. She got defensive and backtracked saying it's just not in accordance with her views and "men would be men" and to which point I had enough and blew up at her, saying I couldn't believe she would suggest her husband and daughter would have such thoughts just because I wore something that is as short to my thighs. I said "If it bothers you SO MUCH I'll just go change into long pants and a shirt in this 40 C summer weather". Now she's saying I over-reacted and put words in her mouth and think I'm the AH. My dad is not home yet and I am honestly way too embarrassed to bring this up and hope that she doesn't either. AITA? ######

Response: NTA, that’s super creepy. I hope your dad and you have continued to have a normal relationship. ######


Prompt:
Me and my Bf been together for 4 years we have our own place but the funny thing is 2 of his friends are roommates who live right next to us. My sister came by last week so I could watch my niece (7 months) while she went to work but my Bf came out the room in nothing but his underwear my sister was rightly embarrassed and left quickly I told him that he can't do that and he should at least wear pants and doesn't have to wear a shirt. He told me he refused to be uncomfortable in his own house. I tried to talk it out but he brushed it for fine. His friends come over in the living room just talk I come out the room with the tighest shirt i own and his favorite pair of panties he likes me to wear and fix a PP & J sandwich (you can still see the kitchen from the living room) I can feel the death glare in the back of my hard and walked back to our room. After that he sent to boys home and hell broke lose

AITA?? ######

Response: NTA, that’s hilarious and I’m so glad you were brave enough to pull that off. Double standards suck and he’s a hypocrite. Great way to teach him lol ######


Prompt:
My (F32) husband (M45) and I have been together for 9 years. The entire course of our relationship he has obsessively cleared his search history, text messages, emails, Instagram, etc. It has always bothered me but he has always insisted he has nothing to hide he just has bad OCD and prefers everything to be clear. In hindsight, I wish I had pushed a bit more, but knowing him and knowing how bad his OCD can be, I believed him. We share finances, I have access to his email (both our emails are linked on Gmail sign in), etc. For the longest time, he made me feel that any suspicion was just in my head and that I have trust issues, etc. Additionally - though we have an active sex life, I have a higher libido than he does and generally I feel we lack a sense of intimacy.

I don't know what came over me, but a few days ago I snooped on his Instagram while he was in the shower. I found a message with a user I don't know (private account, clearly a throwaway username) where they had been sending hot models back and forth to each other. In the last message, my husband sent the user a link to a model's Patreon and asked him to send her $ and he would reimburse. (I presume so a charge to Patreon wouldn't appear on our cc statement).

I sat on the information for a few days, trying to process and talk myself off the ledge. Ultimately, I confronted him. I felt betrayed, hurt, confused...I feel like I've been gaslit our entire marriage and I don't know how I will ever trust him again. He thinks I am overreacting to the Nth degree, that "everybody" does this (this is what Instagram is for, apparently), etc.

He really wants me to move on and is sulking, feeling hurt by my snooping on his phone. I am heartbroken, unable to look him in the eye, feeling like we won't be able to come back from this since I don't know how I can trust him again.

AITA?? ######

Response:
 NTA, that’s called cheating. He very clearly has been doing it for a long time, and I know it’s a Crap situation. But he doesn’t care as much as you want him to. Right now, he’s fussy because you’ve caught him-the guy clearly thinks he’s entitled to talking to whoever he wanted for very clearly distrustful reasons.

In fact, he was actively covering it up. For a long, long time. Constantly gaslighting you and manipulating you along the way. I am honestly, truly sorry. I know reddit has a habit of going straight to divorce papers-but you’ve gotta do some more digging. And breaking apart is honestly sounding like it’s the best option for you. You’re not a side fling for him to pull along while he rattles away at his other options. ######


Prompt:
So it’s about 1:15 AM and I check my Instagram before bed. I watch my girlfriend’s story and say something about it to her.  She says “you’re just watching my story now?” To which I say, yes. It’s the only story I’ve watched today.

“I post very relevant things.  Sometimes to the point where I can’t believe you haven’t watched...”

I told her that I care more about the in person relationships I have and that it bothers me that we even value social media to the extent we do. I’m your partner, not your #1 fucking insta-follower.  Sorry I moved across the country and got a job here so we could be together and NOT have to only communicate over social media... and if were still across the world, I wouldn’t want your insta story to be my main sense of connection to you.  Goddamn, we’re fucking 30 years old. How is this an issue?  This is the primary thing she ever gets mad at me about.  Am I the asshole here for not giving a shit about Instagram stories or am I missing something? ######

Response: NTA, that’s a very odd reaction to that. ######


Prompt:
I am a 16 year old male. I live with my joint family which consists of my mom (40) and dad (41) grandfather (68) grandmother (68) great grandmother (91) and also my great grand father who passed away last year at the age of 96.
We live in a very small house with respect to the number of my family members.

Hence, I dont have my own room in my own house.
My grandfather has a liver disease since a year and a half after a bypass surgery. My grandmother had a knee surgery recently and also has another one this year. My great grandmother does not have any diseases but is quite old. My mother has to take care of them and so she does not work. My father owns a business that is not doing that well currently thanks to covid-19. I was studying for an extremely important exam this year which I had to ace to get into a good college. And because of that exam I could not even go anywhere for some fun because I had to STUDY. For reference the last movie I went to see with my friends was about 3 years ago.

When the day of my final exam came, our nation went into quarantine and my 2.5 month holidays went down the drain. I now am looking after my grandparents and helping my mother in housework alongside studying for my 1st college year. Everyday I have to sit infront of my grandfather for hours just to be there if he needs anything. I havent met my friends since months and my privacy is literally 0.

I am completely fed up of everyone in my house. They feel that it is my obligation that I should look after my family. I literally have to sleep in my grand parents' room beacuse there is no room for me. I have 0hours to myself alone and the only time I get to think about myself is in the bathroom.

STILL MY FAMILY THINKS THAT I AM LIVING A LUXORIOUS LIFE AND THAT I AM UNGRATEFUL AND I AM LAZY AND UNHELPFUL BRAT.

AITA? ######

Response: NTA, that's rough buddy ######


Prompt:
This happened about a year ago:

I'm female artist, and my niece (6yo) absolutely loves me. One time I let her come into my bedroom when she was visiting and I forgot about the tasteful nude I had pinned to the wall behind my door. It was of a middle-aged naked woman lounging. I created it in a figure drawing class.

My niece saw it and very innocently asked. "Why is she naked?"

 I'd didn't think it was a big deal because I'm pretty desensitized to nudity, so I anwered very plainly.

*"oh yeah. That was a drawing I did. Most artists have to learn how draw naked people. Even if they're gonna wear clothes over top."*

She seemed amused by that.

Well a few weeks later my family all go to a free art musium near by. My niece and I break off and are walking around the rooms, and at one point my niece stops me at a few portraits. She has me lean in and not so quietly whispers. "did- did this artist draw these people naked too?"

I chuckle and say, "yeah, probably."
My niece chuckles with me.

At that point I hear a 'tsk' from a woman near me. I glance over and this older woman is glarring right at me. She speaks under her breath, *"That's disgusting..."* and walks away.

I felt really bad after that. Was it too soon for me to tell my niece that stuff about this aspect of art? ######

Response: NTA, that's kind of endearing actually ######


Prompt:
Okay, hear me out. I live in a complex that is built in a circle so its like a track. A lot of people use it to run, walk, etc. I've always used it to run/walk as well. I live in Florida so I usually wear leggings and a sports bra or a tank top. I literally only wear it because it's insanely hot here.

This woman always gave me dirty looks when I'd walk by her apartment (she'd be sitting on her porch.) There are a few maintenance guys (not sure if that is the correct title for them - but that is what everyone calls them) that walk and ride around on golf carts throughout the day. I soon realized that the dirty look woman is married to one of the maintenance workers. I am always polite to them, but have never talked to them by any means.

So, yesterday I was working out on the tennis court which is near their apartment. Her and her husband were sitting on the porch. She is giving me the dirtiest looks and is making me pretty uncomfortable but I try to ignore it. Before I leave she says, "Do you like get off on having the maintenance men check you out all day?" To which I replied, "Actually yes it makes me super wet. They are what keeps my sex drive high." She looked shocked and her husband starting laughing and then she smacked him on the arm.

I came back and told my mom this story and she said I should be more sensitive and obviously the woman is insecure. Now I kinda feel bad. AITA? ######

Response:
 NTA, that's hilarious. Yes, she is insecure, and that's sad. But she tried to made that insecurity your problem, so you have every right to hand it back to her and make her deal with it herself.

Sometimes I think that women like that really want to control their partners, but they can't so instead try to control all the women around their partners. They are both controlling and deluded. ######


Prompt:
So imagine this: my mom comes into my room, flops on my teddy bear and just falls asleep. I sit there, letting her sleep and minding my own business for two hours. Then it's time for me to go to sleep.

So at this point I've tried to wake her up twice already but she only complains and goes back to sleep before I can say anything else. Since it's my mom, I left it be. But now it's time for me to sleep so surely she'd understand that she has to go right?

But she doesn't go, instead she tells me to just sleep in bed with her. For context, my family lives in a small house so when I was younger, I slept with my parents, before eventually moving into my own room. My mom is a very clingy person and tends to barge into my room very often, for very weird reasons. (Won't say more, but it's nothing bad on my end. Just super weird.)

She wasn't there when I was younger so I think she tries to amend that by doing things like this. Normally I understand, but I can't lie and say it's not uncomfortable for me.

This time I stood my ground, told her again I didn't want her sleeping with me. Eventually she left without a word. And I feel fucking bad about it.

AITA? ######

Response: NTA, that's a very reasonable boundary to set. ######


Prompt:
This has been on my mind for quite some time now, so I decided to get an outsiders opinion.

Some backstory:
I don’t know how to write this out without sounding arrogant so I’m just gonna be straightforward - my family is a bit wealthier than my best friends. I don’t mean anything drastically, we both live comfortable lives, but my mom can give me and my siblings some extra joys of lifes. This has become a bit of a friction point between me and my friend, she’d throw some remarks here and there but never responded, because I don’t even know what I could say.

Recently, I found out that my grandpa, who I am extremely close to, has cancer. It’s stage two and treatable, but it felt like getting punched in the throat when I heard.
A week ago he started chemotherapy, and I been very concerned, because on the phone he sounds very weak.
So, when I was talking to my friend about it, she said “well, at least if he dies, you’ll get even more money” .
I was speechless... My grandpa is battling cancer and her mind is still on money. I asked her if she could please stop focusing on that for just a minute, to which she responded that I wouldn’t get it, cause I am not poor. ( Again, her  family is not poor, her parents have average incomes) She then called me a bitch for being so insensitive and hung up.

I felt like I am not the AH in this, but the more I think about it, the more I feel like one.
AITA? ######

Response: NTA, that was very much not the right response to hearing someone has cancer. ######


Prompt:
For the past 2 years me and my gf have been dating, she has never known what she wants to eat. Me or her sister can ask her what she wants and she will respond with "I'm not sure, what sounds good to you?" Then I'll begin listing off all the options around us fast food wise. She will proceed to tell me no on everything I say, to which I then start naming things we can buy at Walmart and she starts saying no to those things as we would have to "wait forever for them to cook" or she doesn't "feel like X meat"

This morning I'm going over the options again, and of course things play out about like this and she calls me mean for pointing out that she never knows what she wants.

AITA?

Edit: to respond to the person asking what I said, all I said was "you never know what you want to eat". I never get an attitude with her about it, and she knows I'm not mad. Or atleast I hope she does lol

Edit 2: it's a Christmas miracle, she said she wants pizza ######

Response: NTA, that sounds incredibly annoying. Stop giving her a million options and just pick without her if she refuses to weigh in with ideas. ######


Prompt:
Residential zoned area, less than .5 acre property, zoning ordinance  limits max of 4 dogs, noise ordinance specific for dogs.

 Neighbor moved in with 3 dogs, now has 11 (all ages, diff breeds).  Dogs barking from 5am-11:30pm.

 We told her nicely about the noise but she refuses to do anything.  Smell from feces is unbearable.

We filed complaint with Zoning Dept.  Neighbor now is mad that she has to give up some of her dogs.

Are we assholes because we don't want a 'kennel' next door to our home with 11 dogs that bark constantly all day? ######

Response: NTA, that sounds a lot like animal hoarding, so she might have other issues to contend with. I wish you luck but from my experience with living next to a neighbor with that condition you're in for a long, bumpy ride. ######


Prompt: Where to begin? So at the age of 16 my parents forced me to get a job and i was excited to earn money but when my first check came my parents demanded that i give them my whole check, so i did. This went on for 2 years. Along the way i would ask my parents for money to buy things such as games and clothes and was always told that it was used either for paying bills or buying food. Mid way through the second year i accepted that i would never see a dime of my work and became content knowing that at 18 i would move out and keep working. Along the way i got so fustrated with my parents that i would hardly talk to them when i turned 18 i moved out without telling my parents where. They called me a month after moving out and asked me if by them giving me my money if it would fix things but i told them that i did not want my money and that they were dead to me. Im 32 years old now and havent spoken to them since i was 18. Mind you i worked 4 hrs a day 6 days a week at night while going to school for 2 years and in the summer it was full time. AITA? ######

Response: NTA, That said if you’re thinking about it 14 years later and asking this question on reddit, we all know it’s not about you not wanting your own money. ######


Prompt:
I’m a closeted lesbian, since my family is Christian and since I live in an asian country I keep it to myself. I’m not ashamed about who I am but I am afraid of people’s reactions.
Anyway I told one person, a friend (let’s call her Lana).When I told her she was surprised but eventually accepted me.
A few months later I had a work party to celebrate a new employee joining. I invited Lana to join. We were having a good time, then I got up to go to the bathroom. When I returned to the group, I heard her loudly telling my coworkers and my boss that I was a lesbian and she even used the “F word “to describe me. When she saw me walking towards the group she changed the subject.
Not wanting to cause a bigger scene I waited until after the party to confront her. She told me that I was “hearing things” and that I shouldn’t trust my own eyes and ears because I was probably drunk.  I wasn’t.
So I stopped talking to her. A few days later she called me and admitted she said it but said that she won’t apologize for telling people the truth.
After that day I reflected on our friendship and realized how toxic she was. And her l
narcissistic tendencies.
But some of our mutual friends that she told the story to said that I overreacted, that I am an asshole for not accepting her “apology”. ######

Response: NTA, that person is not your friend!! ######


Prompt:
I was married to Jason for thirteen years and we shared two children, Hannah is twelve and Noah is nine. Our marriage ended rather abruptly but it didn’t come as a big surprise. We hadn’t been happy for years.

Jason began dating Emily who is fifteen years his junior shortly after the divorce. They’ve been married now for three years and she’s thirty so it’s not like he married some college kid but I still have an issue with her lack of maturity sometimes.

This was all very hard on Hannah. She doesn’t like Emily and is in counseling to deal with her jealousy towards her. The truth is I don’t like Emily very much either but I do expect my kids to be respectful.

Hannah came to me crying last night and told me that when she was at her dads this weekend she put Emily’s toothbrush in the toilet. I guess Jason found her doing this and he said it was really funny and to let him see the toothbrush. He scrubbed the toilet and I guess she thought they were going to prank Emily together but when he was done he told Hannah to brush her teeth with it.

Now I fully understand how wrong Hannah was but I can’t get the image of her crying and gagging while being forced to use the toothbrush out of my head. He then made her tell Emily what she had done and do chores to earn money to buy a new toothbrush. I’m fine with that but actually making her out it in her mouth pissed me off.

I’ll admit I don’t know if this was all about Hannah. Jason’s been a different person since he met Emily and it’s hard to watch him fawn over his gorgeous thirty year old wife. I called at one in the morning and I could tell I woke him and I went off on him. I told him how selfish he is and how he puts Emily before our kids. Still I feel like some of this was motivated by my own feelings so AITA? ######

Response: NTA, that is just horrifying. What she did was wrong, but HE is the adult and the punishment doesn't fit the crime. ######


Prompt:
I don’t know how I’m the asshole. But, hey.

My fiancée and I had a small fight. I wanted her to sleep earlier because she usually sleeps at 3. I wanted that because I really want to cuddle with her when I sleep.

I’m not really religious or superstitious, but she wanted us to go to this Chinese restaurant that has pretty weird and “true” fortunes. She begged me to go just for the fortunes, and we went today. When she read her fortune, I just laughed. It just said “Lose your next argument, and then you shall be more free”. I mean, it’s pretty funny and ironic.

She got mad at me laughing somehow. That I was being demeaning to her. Idk

So, AITA? ######

Response: NTA, that is funny and ironic. And if all you did was chuckle then I think she may be overreacting ######


Prompt:
So my gf and I have been live together for about 6 months, she moved a few hours away from her home to live with me. This was her moms first visit here this weekend.

I’m currently on night shift for a few weeks, I work 7pm to 7am with 2 hours drive time to and from. I went to bed around 11 and the gf’s mom was coming that day, she got here around 12. My gf told her to be quiet since I’m working nights so sleeping during the day.

At around 12:30 she comes in my room, wakes me up and tells me “stop being so lazy, you don’t need to sleep all day, now help carry my bags from my car”. I flipped out, told her to fuck off and grab her own bags and stay out of my room. I had about 1.5h of sleep so far so not in a good mood. Well let’s just say she turned into a miserable cunt all weekend.

So aita here? Did I go too far ######

Response:
 NTA, telling you you’re being lazy after you’ve only been at home a few hours and had less than 2 hours of sleep is totally disrespectful to you in your own home.

I am not at all following anyone who says you’re the ass hole after she verbally attacked you without provocation in this way, that’s utterly fucked - the only  more appropriate response that jumps to mind would have been something like “How dare you speak to me in that way, who do you think you are, this is my home, I worked all night, leave here this instant and do not come back, you are not welcome.” ######


Prompt:
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now I am in a bit of a tricky situation and don’t know how to handle it. My GF borrowed my almost new drone, because she wanted to make some short videos of her new sport activities for me.

I had previously given her a very detailed instruction on what to do and what NEVER to do at all like disabling the automated Anti-Crash system. Well, she disabled it, because with it on the drone will never go lover then 0,5m and she needed it to follow low.

While following her, the drone hit a bench at Full Speed, repair impossible, about 3.200€ to replace it.
Now here is the thing: She is not included in my drone Insurance and has non herself so she has to pay it from her own money. While her Job is not bad, that Money would take her savings of almost 2 years while my job pays way better and I save the sum up in 2-3 month depending on Workload.

I feel bad for having her loose all her hard earned money while it’s kinda nothing for me to pay it but on the other hand I don’t feel like I should have to pay for the damage I did not do.

I will probably decide by your answers what to do. ######

Response:
 NTA, technically she should do the right thing and reimburse you, but maybe offer to let her pay you back in installments?
If the money really is "nothing" for you to pay out of pocket and you wanted to be nice and not take all her savings she'd probably appreciate it but it really depends on whether you'd be comfortable with that. ######


Prompt: I am trying to save a good emergency fund so I can move out of my parent’s house. My brother is 8 years old than me and more established in his career and everything—he wants to buy a house to live in with his fiancée. He knows I have an emergency fund saved (our family is pretty open about money + finances) and he came to me and he asked for $5,000 so he could have enough to make the down payment. I said it was an emergency fund and I didn’t want to delay moving out because it took a while to save up that money. He said it’s not a big deal and he can pay it back in two months. I said no again and he went and told our parents, and they said that I’m living in their house so I should pay my brother the $5,000 as rent to them back-dated. I said that we’d never talked about rent and this was being sprung on me and I don’t understand, if they want me to move out, why they want me to give up my emergency fund. I said that if he can’t afford the down payment then how is he going to pay for the house and they all groaned and rolled their eyes, my dad said “what have you been reading, money self help books?” And pointed out family helps each other. I would be happy to help if I thought I could give it up without missing it but I think I would, if he took the $5,000 I wouldn’t be able to afford to even pay my deductible for health insurance if I got hurt and my parents definitely aren’t paying for that. So AITA ######

Response:
 NTA, Take care of yourself first, really. The fact that they all groaned and rolled their eyes and  mocked you for being fiscally responsible shows that you need to keep your money. Don't let them guilt you into it.

Especially if they aren't willing to help him themselves. ######


Prompt:
Throwaway because he knows my reddit. I (20M) and my boyfriend (21M) have been together for about a year now. I love him to death, but he never takes off sweatpants. He wore sweatpants to my best friend's wedding, to Easter, to Christmas, to meet my parents, to meet my grandparents, and he wears them for every date night out. It makes me feel crappy because I try to put effort into my appearance when we go out, and he never does the same. Every time I bring that up he gets angry at me.

Now that restrictions in our country are being lifted, we can go out to see friends and family again. Today, we were going to my parents' house to have lunch, and he, as usual, put on sweats. I pulled him aside, and said,
"Babe, can you please wear something nice to see my parents? I put in effort to my appearance to leave the house, and it would be nice if you did the same."

He then went off at me, calling me an asshole for trying to control how he looks, and says if I can't accept his "grunge aesthetic" then we can't be together.

I have nothing against sweatpants, but in my culture, it is considered taboo and inappropriate to wear sweatpants in most social situations (except the gym). Am I the asshole for wanting him to just put some effort into his appearance when we leave the house together? ######

Response: NTA, sweatpants just aren’t appropriate for some occasions. Like who the hell wears sweatpants to a wedding? ######


Prompt:
Alright so. Within the span of a few months of moving into our new house, with a generous three toilets for each family member, my mother has clogged her own toilet. And refused to unclog it. Or even make an attempt. She insists it's too far gone for her to deal with, but refuses to accept any help in fixing it, mine or a professional's.

Instead, she's been using my toilet. And clogging it. And then leaving it for me to find.

Today, at a wonderous 1:30 A.M, I attempted to use my toilet. Only to be abruptly snapped out of my sleepy daze when I felt toilet water rise and brush my asschecks. This is the fifth time she has done this and left it unattended for me to find, usually at some ungodly hour of the morning, not to mention stomping in and out of my room unannounced at all hours to use my toilet.

So, out of anger, I stomped into her room unannounced and had a pretty heated argument with her. She said she felt humiliated about clogging the toilet. I said she should grow up (which might have been a bit uncalled for, especially considering the hour.) She tried to insist I should just go downstairs and use my dad's toilet. Which he never cleans. And he cannot aim. There are sticky piss puddles down there. The cat's litterbox is in there too. It reeks.

I told her she picked a man who can't aim his own piss and if she needs to shit so bad she should be the one braving his pig-sty.

She's been telling all her friends about how I humiliated her in the middle of the night/berated her/etcetra as well as going on her guilt-trippy rants about how she's ""Apparently such a pig, wah wah wah, my son doesn't love me."" Despite me never having said anything of that sort. I just want to be able to pee without worrying about my mother's feces gently caressing my butthole

I'm aware this is really, really petty but quarantine has driven me insane, especially since my mother and father and I have such different views on what's considered clean. ######

Response: NTA, start locking your bathroom, tbh. But leave her access to a plunger and put a plumber's business card on the fridge. That shits gross, what the hell. Congratulations on being a more put together adult than your parents. ######


Prompt:
So my brother has been seeing this girl for about 5/6 years. For the past 4 they’ve lived with my parents and I’ve had the ~absolute pleasure~ of bearing witness to every single fight.

She buys the wrong brand of toilet paper? Screaming match where he berates her and calls her stupid. She forgets to tell him she picked up an extra shift? He calls her repeatedly at work and yells about what a lying cheating terrible person she is. And he cheats, anything walks by, he sleeps with it.

Well today she had enough. She left him saying that she makes him miserable (something he tells her even though she’s the most amazing sweet person ever) and she can’t do it anymore.

My parents don’t know the depth to the terrible entitled monster they raised, and said it was both of their faults and she could continue to live in the hues bedroom if she wanted. I pointed out to my mom that she doesn’t do any of the things he’s said and told her she could start apartment hunting with me.

Now my parents are telling me I should back up my brother and I shouldn’t be backing her, that I should support my brother and try to help him feel better. He’s a terrible monster, he degraded her and made her feel worthless. And on top of everything, he started her on coke.

So AITA for telling my parents he deserves what he’s getting and I hope he learns his lesson?

Edit: they support the apartment hunting idea, but think I should still do more to console my brother and make him feel like he didn’t do anything wrong, when in reality it was literally his fault. ######

Response: NTA, sounds like your brother got what he deserved. Good on you for recognizing his shitty behavior and calling him out on it ######


Prompt:
I'm married and have a 10yo son and a 11yo step-son. I don't have much of a relationship with my step-son's mom. I don't think she likes me. Fortunately, my son and step-son grew up together so they get along, go to the same school and hang out with the same friends. I went to go pick up my son from the park and my step-son was going to be picked up by his mom for the week. I didn't want to leave my step-son all by himself at the park so I stayed. His mom was suppose to be there at 4PM and it was already 4:30PM with no word from her. I tried calling, texting and emailing. Nothing. My husband on a plane so he wasn't going to pick up.

I ended taking both kids back to our house. Around 5PM, I get a call from my step-son's mom bitching at me over taking her son back home. I explained that we waited an hour and tried to contact her. I didn't want to leave him all by himself at the park. She said I had no right to do that and I should have moved mountains to get my husband on the phone to discuss. There had been a miscommunication between her and my husband as my husband - he was in a different timezone when they coordinated his pickup so he was off by an hour. She used that hour to go to a spa hence her unavailability. My messages got buried under other messages. She said she was scared that something happened to her only child and I should have contacted her again and it was an asshole thing to do. ######

Response: Nta, sounds like she’s unreasonably mad over a miscommunication ######


Prompt:
I have an old highschool friend who hasn't talked to me in a few years but one morning out of the blue he calls me. It's great and all, I was glad to hear from him and was wanting to catch up, but he seemed against catching up and was more focused on wanting to meet up and talk to me about his new job as a "financial advisor". This really stuck a nerve with me as the first thing after years of not talking, he wants to ensure that "this isn't a job pitch or anything".

I mentioned we should get food sometime and shoot the shit but he again seemed hesitant to accept, told me he would send me an email, and we'd get the times in order as we agreed a certain day a week out would work. I never get an email, he never tries to catch up, and texts me on the day of of how hes "excited for our meeting at 1" so he's choosing the time without contacting.

AITA for just saying "no, sorry but I can't do it anymore" now? As a friend I used to know i feel bad for canceling, but also I feel like the first person in his contact book he called and didn't want to deal with excess. ######

Response:
 NTA, sounds like one of thode World Financial Group "Financial advisors" which is just a glorified MLM.

Same thing happened to me, i just told him off. ######


Prompt:
I've been laid off and have spent a lot of time at home cleaning and organizing. Husband is working from home and mentioned that its nice that everything is so clean and we can actually enjoy our days off instead of always having something to do. So we tossed around the idea of hiring a cleaning service once a week or once every other week to catch up on the cleaning we miss. Mostly vacuuming, dusting, and occasional deep cleaning in the kitchen. We work opposite schedules and find it hard to do this cleaning because we either have our toddler or one of us is asleep.

Apparently this was just hypothetical to him because I did some research and he was surprised when I brought him numbers. (Any cleaning service would be after the current situation). He barely looked at the sheet, handed it back and said he thought we would just hire his mom if we ever needed.

What?

I said no, because we used to live with his parents and his mom is nosey, she has a full time job, and his family has a tendency to over stay their welcome. Husband looked taken aback and asked me to explain. I brought up all the times she would take it upon herself to do our laundry that was in our bedroom with our door closed. "Cleaned" my work spaces, and generally disregarded implied boundaries. I also tacked on that his dad follows his mom everywhere and has a similar disregard for boundaries. He agreed about his dad but seems miffed that I don't want his mom in our home, hired and unsupervised. AITA? ######

Response: NTA, sounds like him and his mom have poor boundaries if he assumes she will do it. He’s a grown adult mommy shouldn’t be cleaning up after him. ######


Prompt:
I f16 and my brother m29 usually get along well but since i was about 10 years old all responability of his daughter f8 has fallen on me. I love my niece so much, shes always been the sweetest kid and i love to play with her, shes like my mini me, but for 2 weeks straight its just like  havinv my own kid.
My brother and his ex have split custody and we have my niece 2 weeks out of the month and while shes in i do everything! Getting her ready in the morning, cooking for her, doing her hair, helping her wash her hair in the bath, doing all homework and bedtime reading and playing ALL DAY. I dont mind helping out with her but its expected of me and it can get really Frustrating, especially when i have to stay home from plans and babysit without pay so he can go out. So WITBA if i told him its not my job to raise his child? ######

Response: Nta, sounds like hes taking advantage of your kindness, tbh. ######


Prompt:
Quarentine is making us pathetic y'all.

I have a killer headache and was laying on the couch watching something on Disney plus with the only tv in our house.

My SO asks me if he can play on the PS4 with his friend. I was in the middle of an episode and told him no, I was watching something.

Some quick background here, he plays this game with his friend every night for several hours, and even plays all day sometimes (on the one tv in the house). 99% of the time, I don't care and will stop what I'm doing so he can play. I have other things to do and even like watching sometimes. But this time I didn't feel good and just wanted to watch tv.

I honestly feel like it was unfair of him to try to demand the tv while I was in the middle of something. He'll have all night and his friend will be there later too. He ended up telling me I was being selfish and didn't know how to compromise, which he knew would upset me, and now he has the damn tv because he made me feel bad. He says I should have just given him the tv and watched something on the computer instead. The point wasn't that I wanted to watch something, it was that I wanted to use the tv and don't think I should have had to stop what I was doing just so he could play, since he'll play later too.

AITA for not wanting to stop in the middle of my episode and give him the tv? ######

Response: NTA, sounds like he needs to learn how to share. It's funny that he called you selfish and unable to compromise since that's exactly how he behaved. ######


Prompt:
So the background to this is that I'm pretty sure I have IBS-mixed type, basically I swing from constipated to diarrhea frequently. Nothing is normal, everything hurts and sometimes the urge to go comes on suddenly and painfully. I am in the middle of getting tests started but it's slow going due to covid.

My husband's generally supportive as long as it doesn't inconvenience him personally. The other day, however, was a real surprise. We were on our way to visit at a park with guests, which we can do where we are. Before we entered the park, I received the signal to go, abruptly and painfully, and asked if we could detour slightly to a gas station.

He flipped his lid, yelled that I needed to get my s*** together, pun intended, and then ignored me until we were face to face with our friends. Then he proceeded to give me crap for being on the phone and dangled chocolate at me before snatching it back and saying "you're not hungry, are you?"

I ended up excusing myself, leaving the park on foot and walking about 0.8 km to the bathroom and back. When I got back, our guests were in the middle of leaving. I apologized for leaving and was assured it was totally understandable. After they left, we had a fight. He says I'm TA for being a problem all the time and that I was rude to leave, and I say he's TA for not stopping when it was urgent and that nobody should have to apologize for having to emergency poop. This is the first time he's really been an ass about this in 4 years, but it really stuck with me.

Am I the asshole? ######

Response:
 NTA, sound alike your husband is manipulative and controlling. Who treats their partner this way for something they have no control over. Your husband is TA here and you should not be treated like that

As for the IBS can I offer a small piece of advice while your waiting for tests......keep a food journal which you document everything you eat in and the days your IBS flares up. Also IBS can be exacerbated by stress so that may be something to keep track of in the diary also. This may give you a better handle on it as it's a painful and embarrassing condition ######


Prompt:
My ex girlfriend and I officially ended things this January after a long drawn out break. Things had been on the rocks for a while. We were initially FWB but decided to be serious after about 2.5 years of doing so. The transition to serious relationship didn’t go well and she wanted an open relationship. She insisted it was more for me as she has a low sex drive and didn’t like feeling pressured to sleep with me more now that we were exclusive.

She works as a waitress and everyone knows the situation the world is in right now. While we were a thing i would cover her rent/phone bill and usually some other things because I’m a dumb ass.

Anyways, she’s baffled I no longer want to help her with her bills given the state of things and her career.

I told her that it is no longer my problem if we are not together. She is accusing me of “forcing” her to prostitute herself to me to pay her bills. I told her if that’s how she saw out relationship then it’s best to stay separated.

AITA? ######

Response: NTA, sorry you lost a friend in this but she's totally in the wrong here. You were supporting her because you thought you were in a committed relationship. It's pretty clear now that wasn't the case ######


Prompt:
I (21f) work at a store with a lot of vendors who bring in their own product. A lot of these vendors are white men in their 60s+, who borderline sexually harass me and the other female staff, are racist, homophobic, rude to service staff, pretty much every negative white conservative baby boomer thing you can think of. They will sit in the store and talk loudly about pro gun rights the day after mass shootings, and pin blame on other races. Ex) “its usually the muslims who do the shooting”

They aren’t even supposed to stay in the store. We sell their product for them, all they do is bring it in.

I’m pretty tired of the rude and condescending behaviour towards me, especially since I have been a supervisor for a year now and worked there for a few years. When they come to pick up their cheques, a lot of them will bark at me and interrupt me helping customers to demand their money, or not say anything but just rub their fingers together and stare at me. I’ve also gotten comments like “oh I looove being handed money from a woman” when I give it to them.

Now when vendors approach me impolitely, I’ve gotten in the habit of saying “what’s the magic word?” and smiling while I hold their cheque. I make eye contact and patiently wait for them to say “please” before I give it to them. It puts them on the spot for being rude, but its also extra and unnecessary. Although there’s nothing else I can do about their inappropriate behaviour. AITA? ######

Response: NTA, sometimes it’s the little victories that gets us through the day. ######


Prompt:
I (m17) have a fungal infection around inner thigh and genital area. I apply my anti-fungal cream before I fall asleep. Because of lockdown my step-sister's University closed and she (19) moved back in the house. Her Mac's charger broke, and recently she has been using my charger. After having dinner she left her laptop in my room to charge and we watched an episode of Witcher in Netflix together and then I went to bed.

As usual I started to apply my anti fungal cream around my genital. I usually get erection while rubbing the cream. Suddenly my step-sister walks in(without knocking) and I froze like a deer caught in headlights, with an erection and pants down. My step-sister screamed and my parents came and she told that I made her feel uncomfortable. In my defense I said I was applying anti fungal cream and she should have knocked. Now, my parents want me to apologize to my step-sister and promise that it won't happen again. I have refused to apologize because it was her fault for not respecting my privacy.

So, AITA for not apologizing to my step-sister when she caught me with an erection and pants down.

PS: sorry in advance if there are any typos, typing from mobile ######

Response: NTA, someone doesn’t knock. It’s all them. ######


Prompt:
So, I own 3 houses that I had bought with an inheritance that my grandad left me and I rent these houses out. This enables me to have a steady income even without having a job so I have quite a bit of money to save and put away.

I rented one of the 3 properties out to my sister and her boyfriend for not a large sum at all.

The first few months they paid every time on the dot and I had no issues. However in the past 3 months I had received no payments and false promises of money that I was never going to receive.

So I removed them from the house and moved in a tenant who was willing to pay. My mother is furious that I kicked them both out and wants me to kick out the tenant who I moved in and move them back in AITA? ######

Response:
 NTA, so they were squatters in your house and you have to keep them there?

Owning an "investment property" is not about charity.. Its about gaining back what you paid for and then setting up for your own retirement.

Question though - how come you received an inheritance from your grandad so that you could purchase property and your sister did not?  Your mum may also feel that you should be supporting your sister given you have had this money come through. ######


Prompt:
I know, this title is ridiculous. How on earth could I be an asshole when seeking medical attention? I’m not sure but my coworker seems to think I’m the world’s biggest asshole.

So around 11pm yesterday I started having trouble breathing, I chalked it up to asthma. Well I then got sick to my stomach. At 7am I called the Covid screening and they sent me over to healthlinks and they sent me to the ER. By this point I could barely speak.

I contacted my bosses and hr to let them know what’s up as I had a 10:00 shift. I had messaged everyone around 8:30am what was up.

It took three hours before I could breath on my own. I see I have a Snapchat from a coworker I used to consider a friend. I opened it and it was a wall of text about how selfish I am for not showing up and how all I do is sit at the desk (that’s my job)

What’s important to know is that I was off work from February until June 1st because of health issues and I’ve only been back working for a week.

I tried to explain the situation not that it was any of her business and she went off more, I won’t repeat what was said because character limit. But I sent screenshots to HR because they were nasty texts.

I could see why she’d be upset if I was home with the sniffles, but I couldn’t breath, I was throwing up, those are corona symptoms and I would have been sent home anyway even if I did show up. ######

Response: NTA, Shes not upset because you had trouble breathing shes upset because she thinks you're lying. Assuming you haven't lied before since you didn't mention that in your post, shes an asshole. ######


Prompt: Like I said in the title she totaled my car during Christmas break she gave me some money for the car but I was able to buy a decent car with my insurance money, (5,000 for the new car). The new car that I bought, I drove that up until last week when the transmission failed and the cost to fix it would be more than the car was worth, so I said screw it and I leased a new 2020 Honda Civic so I would have a reliable car and she's upset because I won't let her drive it. And with this coronavirus going on it's fairly difficult because the bus only runs at certain times, we dont live by any family and most of our friends live in different towns so they cant pick her up. I offered to pay for her to get an Uber or asked her to try to get a ride from a coworker. I drive her into work at 7am on my way to work, but she gets out at 4pm , I usually and dont get out of work until 6 or 7.  Am I the asshole in this situation? ######

Response: Nta, she’s proved herself to be unreliable behind the wheel. Tell her to save up and get her own car. Someone always has to take public transport sometime when a household only has one car. ######


Prompt:
Here's a little backstory. My boyfriend dated his now best friend 3 or 4 years ago. They shared some traumatic experiences together and he says he feels like they recovered together. He also says that they're happy as just friends and haven't fooled around since they were together.

So the best friend's brother was having a destination wedding in Mexico this week, but its been pushed back to July due to the (bad thing). The best friend's parents are freakin loaded and offered to pay for her and a guest to attend the wedding. When the invitations were sent out at the beginning of the year, she asked my boyfriend to go with her. He obviously said yes. They were both single at the time. They paid for his flight and he'd share her hotel room.

When the wedding was pushed back, the parents reached out to him to tell them they'll figure out new flight times once a new date was confirmed. I think it might be inappropriate for him to go now. We've been dating for a few months and she just started seeing a new guy. I brought it up to my boyfriend and he said that she usually waits a long time before someone she is dating to meet her family and he still wants to go. He's excited for the beaches and the open bar. He acts like I'm just jealous and its totally fine for him to be his best friend's date. I want to trust my boyfriend, but this just feels like a lot of red flags.

AITA for asking him not to go? ######

Response: NTA, she’s his ex and it’d be disrespectful to your relationship ######


Prompt:
My girlfriend and I have been living together for a while now. She loves baking bread, I'd say it's safe to say that it's one of her hobbies/passions. As a result we always have delicious bread in our home. I think it's amazing and I'm really lucky.

For the sake of this post I feel like I have to include that I never bake bread. We both cook but I never bake. I never ask her to either she just does it because she enjoys it. She usually bakes bread once or twice a week.

We live in a country where people have been stock piling idiots so supermarkets have been out of toilet paper pasta and apparently also yeast. About a week ago my girlfriend told me that she's out of yeast. She seemed to be bummed because she started being more experimental with her bread baking since we went into lockdown. So I made it my mission to get her yeast. I called every supermarket and finally found a bakery that was happy to sell me some. I picked it up yesterday and wrapped it up as a little present. I wanted to give it to my girlfriend tonight but when I told one of my mates about it today he said that it would be an insulting present. He said it's sexist and my girlfriend might think I want to imply that I expect her to make me bread. He also said it's a bit like gifting her a gym membership when she didn't ask for one.

I'm really unsure now because I DO NOT expect her to bake for me. I genuinely thought she'd like it but I absolutely do not want to offend her.

WIBTA if I give her the yeast wrapped up as a present? ######

Response: Nta, she's said she's out of yeast and not happy about it. You've listened, thought and hunted down some yeast for her. I think she'll be fairly pleased. ######