Prompt:
Aita for insisting on using my sister's internet for one hour for a big job interview? Backstory: she had already said yes and it was planned and everything, now she just texted me that her boyfriend is going to be home unexpectedly so I basically need to find somewhere else. Her boyfriend and I have never had an argument or anything, he is just really possessive of her. And before you ask, he was like this before the current situation too. If I was over visiting her (rare occasions) I would have to leave before he got home just because he doesn't like other people there. I don't have any other options for internet for my interview since the city library is closed. Aita for telling her boyfriend to suck it up for an hour so I can get a good job? Edit:I also want to note i live in a very small town. No Starbucks or McDonald's or any other source of internet besides the city library which is closed. I would go somewhere else if I could but that would mean going to the next city (about 40 minutes away). I have very very few options here.

Edit edit: wow I wasnt expecting to get this much response so quickly. So I'm going to add some things.

Yes I had bad vibes about their relationship before this but after reading all the input I definitely realize just how bad it is and will be working harder to try to help her with this any way I can. I've already sat down and we had a heart to heart convo. Thank y'all for opening my eyes to just how bad her situation is.

I do have data to occasionally get on internet, like on Reddit, but it isn't a good enough signal to handle an hour long video conference interview. Luckily everything ended up working out okay. ######

Response: NTA. That is scary, and I am worried for your sister. She can't have guests because he's possessive. Yikes! That is not a healthy relationship. ######


Prompt:
Okay so I am a behavioral therapist for autistic kids. And with COVID and everything going on, sessions have been moved around but haven’t stopped. I have this one kid who we will call John. John is 8 years old and very aggressive. My job with John is to help him understand simple things better like time, patience, social cues, etc. This kid had promise when I started, which was about a month before the pandemic. But as the pandemic continue, his behavior has gotten worse. Session is about 3 1/2 hours. The moment I knock on the door I can hear “I DONT WANT TO DO SESSION!” Now, why doesn’t he want to do session? Because he wants to play roblox and fortnite. That’s all he wants to do. Watch YouTube videos about those games and to play them. It takes about 30-45 minutes to get him to calm down because he doesn’t want therapy. He wants to play roblox and fortnite on his xbox. And when we take it away, he will call his mom a bitch.

Now his poor mother, I feel so bad for her. She just wants what’s best for her kid but all he does is abuse her. She tells me that it’s okay because he doesn’t understand but I can see it’s slowly killing her. She doesn’t sleep at all because every 30 minutes or so, the kid will wake her up in the middle of the night for whatever reasons.

Going through this with the kid every single session has started to get to me. I try my absolute best with all my kids, even my non verbals. I want to help them and make sure they are learning, but this kid. I just don’t know what to do anymore. I’m still doing therapy with him and I will still do what I normally do and try to help him but deep deep down I have given up on him. I feel guilty for feeling like this. So Reddit, AITA? ######

Response: NTA. That is my personal opinion, you care for others and I can see how a determination to do better coming from an autistic kid is iffy ( I say this in a nice way I hope that isn’t misconstrued). You will win some and you lose some. I feel you have to find the people worth your time and help them as best you can. This may sound dumb but Scrubs a TV show kinda had an episode about this and I thought it was really good. Basically this guy was always in and out of the hospital with high blood pressure and the works and didn’t pay attention to what he was told to do so they kinda gave up on him and he died. It is sad that one has to be let go but you can’t help someone if they don’t want help. Best of luck to you. ######


Prompt:
I am one of three siblings. None of us are particularly well off. My parents (early 60s) are reasonably comfortable middle-class. All three siblings have kids. My parents have spent thousands on my two sisters to help them make ends meet for most of their adult lives. I have accepted help from my parents on occasion, but nowhere near the scale of either of my siblings. I've also been left dry when I really needed help, because of them needing it first. Ex, my college fund was spent housing my oldest sis, when I needed help replacing a vehicle that died on me, they couldn't help because they were providing in full for my younger sister. In truth, they've leeched off our parents as much as they could get away with.

Because of this, my folks have decided to leave me a larger share of their estate when they pass, and are firm that they would prefer I don't use mine to do for my sisters. She hasn't given an exact figure but it's going to be around half, with the other half split between my sisters and some of it set aside for their kids (my kids are included in my end). It depends I guess on the span between one parent and the other passing but it's potentially over 250k. I feel funny about it already, but mom's got me on paper as the executor and has started expressing to me what items she wants to go where. I told her I'd honor her wishes, but she needed to make a will because being executor and getting a larger share is going to cause so much tension between all of us. She didn't seem upset, but has since changed the subject abruptly whenever I bring it up. ######

Response: Nta. That is going to cause a lot of problems down the line if there is no will ######


Prompt: Right. So I have spina bifida and use a wheelchair. My sister recently broke her leg and she’s continuously complained about how much crutches hurt. My dad’s solution to this was to tell my sister she can use my wheelchair. I’m not comfortable with this. My dads reasoning is that I just got out of the hospital and am mostly on bed rest (not completely, I’m just supposed to take things easy for a bit) so I ‘don’t really need it anyways’ but I kinda do need it whenever I have to get out of bed. My sister is perfectly capable of using crutches and honestly I think it’s kinda shitty that my dad is letting her use my chair even when I’m not using it. My dad keeps just saying that I’m not using my chair much anyways and so it doesn’t do any harm, but my sister keeps taking my chair and leaving it by her bed so I can’t get it, then screaming at me whenever I ask for it when I need to get up. My dad has also brought up the fact that he paid for the chair and rescued me (I’m adopted) so he gets to choose what to do with it. Honestly idk if I’m in the wrong for not sharing, but at the same time I think it’s kinda bs to be expected to share a piece of necessary medical equipment ######

Response: NTA. That is bordering on abuse that your father is using the fact that he adopted you as a way to justify taking away your wheelchair. You wouldn’t tie someone’s arm behind their back to punish them. You need to get your wheelchair back. That’s so outrageous it kinda makes me mad. ######


Prompt:
So around 4-5 days ago, my (16M) mum got in a nasty argument with my older brother (17M) and as a result, demanded that all of our phones (mine, my younger sister's, 17M and my other older brother's) be confiscated and have the PINs replaced.

(NOTE: She also wanted our fingerprints to be removed as well.)

Although I had nothing to do with their dispute and had no reason to be punished, I didn't say anything and just handed my phone over. My mum was THAT angry. I'd ask my mum to unlock my phone for me to use for a while and that's how things were for the past couple of days.

This morning, I remembered a trick I learnt a while ago to force-reset my phone (no PIN needed) and I decided to pull it off. I forced factory-data reset my phone using the volume up key, lock and home button and after logging back into my Google account and data, I had my phone back - without my mum's PIN on it. I put my phone back in the charger and went to make my own breakfast.

A while later, my mum realised that I had removed her PIN on my phone (I think she might have tried to access it behind my back, but I'm not sure) and she was LIVID. She berated me, saying that this phone is not my money to begin with and going as far as to resetting my phone proves her point of how much of a phone addict I am.

Again, I wanted to bring up the point that she changed our PINs only because of an argument with my brother. But I didn't say anyhing in the hopes of not getting my mum more angry and hoping that everything would blow over (which luckily for me, it did).

Now I'm typing this AITA in secret and I want to get some broad perspective on this. Did I really take things too far? ######

Response: NTA. That is an absolutely ludicrous state of affairs. It is a huge imposition to require her to use your phone and a breech of privacy to boot. Just having bought something for someone doesn't entitle you to whatever you want. There's a difference between letting someone use something you own, and giving them something. Seems clear that the phone is yours to do with as you please. Also, calling someone an addict is quite a serious accusation. To throw it around unwarranted does a disservice to everyone. ######


Prompt: So, just a little backstory. Throughout my entire childhood, my parents have always forced their way into knowing all my secrets. Whenever I refused at first, they would start taking away things I had like my book or playstation. Whenever I asked why their excuse was always, "Because I'm the parent and I say so." Because of this, I don't like telling them anything anymore. I always hide everything because I'm afraid they're gonna force their way into knowing. Recently, I told my dad about a girl I was talking because he didn't force his way into my secrets as much as my mom. When my mom caught word about something between us, she once again asked about it and got pissed off when I told her it was just between me and my dad. She said that my business is her business. This is one of the few times she doesn't force her way in because I already told my dad. I told her that I'm not going to tell her and my mom keeps getting pissed off that I'm not telling my safe guarded secrets. AITA for doing this? ######

Response: NTA. That is a very unhealthy way to raise a child. Everyone has the right to privacy. It's literally the same as if your parents watched you every time you took a shower, took a shit, or slept. Parents have control over what their child does and how they behave at home (to a certain point), but they have absolutely no control over what to say. If you are being punished for not telling secrets then that's just downright shitty parenting skills. Next time they force you to talk about it just make up some bs, and get the hell outta there once you are old enough/have enough money. Best of luck to ya fam ######


Prompt:
This happened last year and I only just found this subreddit. Also first ever post so go easy on me.
Last year one of my colleagues got diagnosed with testicular cancer and needed to go through chemo.
Chemotherapy makes all of your hair fall out in clumps and eventually you wind up bald. Some of my colleagues, both male and female, decided to shave themselves bald to show support.
However, I hardly know this colleague (I had only been with the company 2 months) so while I expressed my support and hope he pulls through, I wouldn't be shaving my head.
When shaving-day came around, both the colleague and a few others that had shaved themselves expressed they were hurt I hadn't shaved bald and asked what was up.
I said I still absolutely support him in every way, but I'm just not shaving myself bald. He seemed offended and the now bald gang said I was being a dick and I might as well laugh in his face. When I asked how come they aren't giving some of the others the same lecture, apparently it was because they were women and "needed" the long hair.
I'm almost certain I am in the right and they're being unreasonable, but I need a sanity check. Am I the asshole? ######

Response:
 Nta. That guy had more shit to worry about than who shaved their head to support him. What is that even doing? I get if my sister felt shit because she had to shave her head because of chemo... I would probably do it then to make her feel better. But shaving your head because someone has cancer is about as affective as changing your profile picture to a fucking ribbon.

Way to use cancer to make people feel bad. Shame on them and the person who had it for also joining in.

Also, people usually shave their head for Leukaemia. There are so many more ways to show support to those who have cancer like ummm donating to cancer charities and hospitals and you know, being there for that person.

This post has triggered me. ######


Prompt:
So a little bit of context; I (14M) live in NYC and have 2 siblings: my sister (23F) and my brother (8M).  We live in a brownstone where my parents have the biggest bedroom, I have the second largest, my brother has the third largest, and the other 2 bedrooms function as guest bedrooms.  My sister lives in a college dorm, and only spends breaks at home.

So until my sister went to college she lived in the second biggest bedroom (where I currently stay in), I stayed in the third largest (where my little brother currently lives in), etc.  However, once she went to college we all 'moved up a bedroom'' I guess, and now when she visits she usually stays in one of the guest bedrooms.  One thing to note is that my bedroom is quite a bit bigger than the guest room.

Until now there's never been a problem with that arrangement.  Recently though my sister had to come home due to current events, and it looks like she's going to stay until summer break ends.  In light of this she wants her old bedroom back.

My parents agree with her, and say since she's "older" she should have more space, and I ought to be more understanding and whatnot.

I absolutely refuse.  All my stuff are in this room, I've stayed here for the past 5 years, and frankly, IDGAF that this was originally her bedroom.  However, my parents are basically making me, and in reality there's not much I can do about it.  So reddit, for my peace of mind, AITA for not wanting to give up my bedroom for my older sister? ######

Response: NTA. That doesnt make sense for you to move all your stuff now then again when she leaves. ######


Prompt:
I'm(19f) in college and due to some circumstances I got a decent amount of money. My sister(23f) is out of college and living on her own now. She is extremely bothered that I have money. But when she asked for a small amount I gave it to her without another thought even though she still owed me money from a different time.

 I decided to build a PC with my money because I have never had a new computer before. I was excited so I talked about it with her but in no way was I doing it immodestly. This was when she told me she didn't like that I had so much money and she didn't want to talk about it or know what I'm doing with it. I told her "ok, that's fair but if you're gonna pretend the money doesnt exist then don't ask for money or borrow money from me". I also told her that I have never had a new computer before where as she has gotten 2 brand new mac books in her lifetime. She said it wasn't comparable because she got into a program in highschool so that's why she got it. She got the other laptop in college. So basically, she is saying I don't deserve new things because I never achieved the same things (that's the way I see it).

AITA for telling my sister that she shouldnt ask for money or to borrow money if she wants to pretend that it doesn't exist? ######

Response: NTA. That comeback was great! Seriously, unless you did something illegal/ immoral to get said money, I don't get why she's mad at your good fortune. I may be a pretty big asshole, but I would never be mad at my younger sibling for their success/ good fortune, that's just cold. ######


Prompt:
Today when my sister in law came over (she's also our neighbour) her 10 year old son also came along and instantly started tellimg me about his tik tok account which has many followers.Initially, I was happy for him but then he asked me if he could download tik tok on my phone, so that i can like his videos. I told him that he can just send me his ID and I'll like his videos later since my phone might not have enough storage rn. He just forced me to download it and even started to seize it from me..since i didn't look forward to any kind of arguements or fights i told him I'll download the lite version. He agreed but my phone didn't have enough space for that either coz online school is going on and phone storage is full of notes, pdfs and stuff like that. I told him I'll download later and he started throwing a tanrtum demanding i delete some of my stuff rn i said everything i have on my phone is needed and nothing is unnecessary so i won't delete anything. He went through my gallery and started selecting my friends' pictures to delete them.. i was furious at this point coz i don't click much photos it's just a couple or three at special times. So i grabbed my phone and went in my room. My sister in law saw this and was furious at me for ruining her son's day. I told her I'll definitely like his tik toks later and i have some  assignments on my phone and I'll install tiktok as soon as I'm done with them..she was mad at me for lying about assignments and not giving importance to her son's wishes and went home without having lunch :( Am i the asshole for this?

Edit - Thank you everyone for telling me I'm not the asshole. I was really frustrated about this since my sister in law also misbehaved with my mom when it wasn't even her fault. ######

Response: NTA. That child sounds like a monster. ######


Prompt:
I have lived with my roommate for about a year now. We’re both women. We get along fairly well, but have a recurring issue with her eating my food.

I recently went grocery shopping. I asked her if she wanted me to pick her up anything, and she said no. Now because we have had issues with her eating my food in the past, I have resorted to putting post-it-notes on my items to label them so there’s no confusion.

Last week, I had leftovers from dinner that I had been planning on eating the next day and when I woke up, they were gone. I questioned her about it, and got non-answers. I had extra time on my hands, so I decided to make a recipe and use a large amount of ghost peppers in it. I’ll be honest- I didn’t eat any. It was specifically for the purpose of catching her.

I was in my room and all of a sudden I hear her screaming, saying “what the FUCK” and trying to drink milk to calm the effects. I came out and said “How did this happen? I labeled the tray so you wouldn’t confuse it for yours” and long story short, she obviously caught on that I did it on purpose. She called me a bitch and will not speak to me. I’ve told some of my family what happened with mixed reactions, so AITA? ######

Response: NTA. Thanks, i got a chuckle out of this one. You caught her in the act whilst she was stealing your property, maybe now she’ll take the hint. ######


Prompt:
My friend (22) was upset his girlfriend (20, still in college) cheated on him with his best friend and broke up with him right before he was going to break up with her.

He showed me his cellphone with about 30 pictures of his now exgf topless and doing other things, mainly oral. He looks at me and laughs, “I’m gonna make this b*tch famous on pornhub. He looked dead serious and said he wasn’t kidding.

I tried to explain to him how illegal this is and even without his face being in any of the pictures he would definitely face charges. I also mentioned how this would ruin her reputation because she goes to school with me and people would definitely find out. He told me she’s a slut so her reputation is already ruined. I took special note of how he didn’t even acknowledge my warning about him facing charges.

So when he went to the bathroom I grabbed his phone  (it was already unlocked) and deleted the pics. I’m pretty sure I got them all. I don’t know if his icloud backed them up but I didn’t go digging around for that. I told him what I did and ran out of his apartment door as he was screaming but unable to chase after me.

AITA for deleting potential revenge porn? ######

Response: NTA. Thank you for doing that ######


Prompt: Ok so my son never had a girlfriend, never had a crush on one. By the age of 16 he still hadn't got a girlfriend even tho he was a handsome guy. I talked to my wife about what her reaction would be if he turned out gay, she said that he will be dead to her if he is. come next year and our son turns out gay. I comfort him and tell him its OK. My wife on the other hand freaks out and storms off to her parents' house and is still there, her side of the family cut contact with us and we will be getting a divorce soon. My side of the family is completely OK with it. AITA for supporting my son? ######

Response: Nta. Tell your homophobic wife to move back to the 1800s bc thats where her ignorant ideas belong ######


Prompt:
Sorry guys about the poor grammar and format. I'm just shaken up and I really need to vent.

(I am Asian and my bf's family is black)

I have been living at my boyfriends house since quarantine and instead of cleaning or watching TV together we decided to play UNO. I placed a +4 card and he had to add four additional cards to his 20-something deck. I called him "loser-kun" (I don't watch a lot of anime but he is a big weeb. He calls me "apollo-chan" or "something-chan" and says things like "baka" or "nani." He did this since we have been dating in high school.) His dad looked surprised and his mom looked extremely angry. They thought I called him a "loser coon" (I didn't know what that word meant until I looked it up, but it is racist.) She got extremely angry at me and started screaming at me. I told her I didn't understand what I did wrong. She called me a "Ching Chong Yellow Bitch" (lol) and then told me to "Get the f*ck out!" I tried to tell her I don't understand what I did wrong but I'm sorry, but she said "Ching Ching Chong, do you f*cking understand now? Get the f*ck out!" I just left my clothes there and went to my mothers house. My bf called me about a few hours later saying that his mother will let me go back home once """""I"""" apologize. I just hung up. What do I need to apologize for? I tried to explain myself but she just wouldn't listen and started saying racist stuff about me. She said we wouldn't be in this lockdown if it wasn't for "retards like you eating f*cking bats" She was honestly so mean to me. Anytime someone slightly raises there voice at me I wanna cry. I know I should apologize for my boyfriend. But he didn't even stick up for me. Should I call him back and just apologize? I love him but I'm starting to think it isn't worth it. I did say something she thought was racist but she called me so many racist things back. I just don't know what to do. ######

Response: NTA. Tell your boyfriend you'll apologize for her mishearing you when she apologizes for actually being racist. Or skip that and just break up with him. He clearly doesn't respect you if he'll let his mother be so blatantly racist. ######


Prompt:
My sister is pregnant, and she lives with us. She’s 19. My parents have made me her personal care taker. Anything she needs it’s my responsibility to get no matter what. 1 am and she wants ice cream? Guess who’s driving to the store. And that actually happened. It was before quarantine so going to the store for her doesn’t happen anymore but she’s still a bitch about everything.

When she threw up I had to hold her hair, if she wanted a drink she couldn’t be bothered to get up, I have to get it. She’s pregnant not quadriplegic, she can get her own fucking drink.

If I ever complain about it my parents lecture me about caring for loved ones when they need it and threaten to take away my computer. I paid for the computer by the way, I worked an actual job for it, none of the money came from them.

I finally lost it yesterday when she asked me to give her a foot rub. I told her I wasn’t doing that and she cried to our parents who started lecturing me. I told them to fuck off and take the computer because I didn’t care, and they called me a spoiled brat and grounded me. Not like I can go anyway, because of the virus. My sister is now demanding foot rubs again or she’ll go to my parents.

AITA? ######

Response: NTA. Tell them they both can fuck off for me too alright? ######


Prompt:
So I live in a small flat with just one other roommate (female). Three months ago, she started dating this new guy and recently he's been staying over just about every night and staying through the day as well (sometimes even while my roommate is at work). He works ridiculous hours and often finishes work past midnight and wakes me up almost every time he gets home. My roommate has also given him his own key, so that he can come and go when his shifts start and finish.

I recently confronted my roommate about this, stating that I shouldn't have to deal with him waking me up when he doesn't live here. She told me that he's too tired to drive back to his house, which is over 30 mins away, and that it makes more sense for him to crash at our place and to stay throughout the day until his next shift the following night. Also, given that they both work so much, the only way they get to see each other (in her eyes) is for him to come to our place, rather than for her to go to his.

I don't necessarily have a problem with him sleeping at my place if he feels it's too dangerous to drive home. I don't want him to get in a car crash. And I definitely don't have a problem with the boyfriend as a person, as he seems like a really friendly, respectful guy. My only concern is that he's basically living here when he isn't contributing to any bills. I asked my roommate if she would consider limiting his visits to 4 days/nights at the most, but she refused to consider it.

Am I being unreasonable and should I just let them be happy? Or is my roommate being selfish?

So in summary, AITA for asking my roommate to stop inviting her boyfriend over so much? ######

Response: NTA. Tell roomie that you're splitting the rent and bills three ways until you can get the boy on the lease on make everything official. ######


Prompt:
I have 3 kids, one is 7, the other is 9 and the oldest is 17, for mothers day my wife wanted me to make breakfast for the family.  So I made waffles for everyone, my wife doesn't eat a lot so she got 1, and the younger ones get 1 as well.  My older one is a pretty big guy for a 17yo he is 6'3 and 205 right now, Its a nightmare to get him full so I made him 2 full waffles for himself and I made myself just one.

We all eat at the dinner table and the 9yo was complaining about not getting 2 also, my oldest told him that when he gets big and strong too then he can have 2 like him.  My 9 year old got really pouty and refused to eat his food till he gets 2, cause he's a kid he got over it cause the smell of syrup was too much and ate it all up.

After breakfast my wife pulled me aside and said I couldn't just humor him by making a full one and splitting it with him and the youngest.  I told her that we can't give in when they are pouty, and while she agrees she said I should have at least waited till the younger one were gone to make the older one more.  AITA? ######

Response: NTA. Tell him to finish the one he's got and then you'll talk about seconds. Why let the kid waste food, in addition to thinking he gets his way if he just pitches a fit? ######


Prompt:
Ok so this happened years ago and apparently I am still dark on the subject so good people of Reddit let me know AITA?

I lived in a share house where all flat mates paid equal rent. One flat mate used the garage on the property to store his motorcycle (the rest of us had cars so parked on the road or in the driveway). Anyway one weekend I had organised a party and not wanting to create mess in the house told my flat mates me and my friends would drink in the garage... they agreed that was fine (and were invited to join the festivities) anyway the one flat mate who had the motorcycle in the garage said ‘I’ll move my bike out for the night so it doesn’t get knocked over”. All good wouldn’t really have been in danger but I get it. So he goes to wheel his bike out of the garage and while doing so smashes the brake light. He then says I need to pay for it as it’s my fault he had to move it. If I hadn’t organised a party he would not have had to move it so it’s on me to pay to replace the brake light.

I disagreed as we all pay equal rent so I have as much right to use the garage as he does and it was his decision to move the bike out for the night. He wasn’t happy with that and after talking to my Dad (I was only 19 at the time) I reluctantly agreed to pay for a new brake light.

Years later I still think he was a total dick about it and I shouldn’t have had to pay up. So reddit AITA for thinking he was totally unreasonable and taking advantage of the situation? ######

Response: NTA. Tell him he needs to learn how to not even drive an automobile, but literally back one up. He offered to do it anyway, it was his choice. ######


Prompt:
Some context: My and my bf are in high school and the girls he’s dated before me have straight hair, I’ve had curly hair my whole life and take after my mom, but she always straightens hers and once I got to 9th grade I used to always straighten mine too because I never really knew how to handle it. A couple months ago though I decided to just let it be natural. I wash/comb it thoroughly it every 3 days, but sometimes it can still get messy and frizzy.

The issue is that I started dating my bf 6 months ago and he never knew that my hair was naturally curly, so once I stopped straightening it he was surprised and asked why I never told him. Now when we’re videocalling he sometimes makes jokes about it being frizzy and “oh is there a bird hiding in it” Eventually I got annoyed and told him to stop. He complained that I deceived him by straightening my hair and not telling him it was actually curly.

I got really mad and told him he was being ridiculous. AITA? ######

Response: NTA. Tell him he decieved you by not telling you he was an idiot. ######


Prompt: Today is my (24) birthday, I just got done with work and was watching tv when my girlfriend of 4 years came in the room to tell me she made my favorite kind of pie. She then asked me if I would rather kiss her for $100 dollars or kiss the hottest girl I know for $700. Not thinking much about it I said I would kiss her for $100. She got upset that I didn’t say she was the hottest girl I knew. She stormed off to our room and won’t talk to me. To me it seems like a trick question and I don’t get why she is so mad. AITA? ######

Response: NTA. Tell her to spend less time on  tiktok ######


Prompt: My sister is getting married a year from now and is going crazy on her wedding plans.  She knows I'm only working part-time while going through cancer treatment and am struggling financially.  She's picked out $400 designer bridesmaids dresses for us plus alterations, shoes, jewelry, etc. and wants us to buy them right away.  I asked if we could look at very similar, less expensive options and she hasn't spoken to me in 2 weeks. ######

Response: NTA. Tell her that if she pays, you will wear anything she chooses. If you are paying, then you decide the amount to spend. ######


Prompt:
We broke up recently, it was a toxic breakup, we lived together for two years... Well she jumped ship and moved in with her mom to a different state. She sends me a list of all the stuff she wants me to ship her, we are talking hundreds of pounds worth of stuff, including 3 guitars and a mountain bike. None of these things have boxes already BTW, and guitars are in soft cases.

She calls and says that they will pay me back for all shipping. I immediately get defensive and told her that I will not ship anything unless it is paid for ahead of time. I will not risk my own money to send her 3- 400 dollars worth of shipments to her.

Well she was obviously very mad and hung up the phone. She told me later that her mom doesn't trust me to send her back the difference of cost... Given I have never lied or done anything dishonest at all in this relationship.

AITA? I feel like I shouldn't take personal risk on this... ######

Response:
 NTA. Tell her she needs to pay a company to box the stuff appropriately & pick them up. Moving companies will do this or even the UPS store will package stuff (it costs more but that’s her problem not yours).

I wouldn’t ship the stuff yourself. You don’t want her to hold you responsible if things break in transit. ######


Prompt:
For some context, my girlfriend and I have recently had a son, yay!! But every time my mom sees him she acts like he is her boy. This has been going on every time that she talks about him since he was born on March 21st. So, would I be the asshole for telling her that my son is not specifically her gradbaby, and is my and my gfs son?
Edit(adding info):
It stresses the wifey out a lot as my mom is constantly trying to take over caring of him. She is also almost constantly complaining that she doesn't get to spend much time with him as we dont leave her alone with him much. She also refers to him as "My baby".
Edit2(behavioral stuff??):
My mom is almost constantly hovering, just informed of this through wifey, and she has on a couple occasions told the wifey that she is changing his diaper wrong in a very condescending tone. Then whenever the wifey and I are trying to do something, like make him a new bottle, she will come in and pick him up then complain that we don't take care of him well or that she is the only one taking care of him. ######

Response: NTA. Tell her now and make it clear or you'll be dealing with entitled grandma crap for years. ######


Prompt: This happened today and I feel like it was justified. So I’m standing in line at the supermarket, and this bigger guy is behind me. There’s a really long line, and I was up next to put the groceries down after about 10 minutes of waiting. The entire time I’m waiting, I hear him complaining about how long the line is and how everything is taking so long. Once the guy in front of me gets done and there’s room to put up my groceries, I finally get ahead to put my stuff down. I’m trying to do it quickly so this guy can finally have enough room to put his stuff on conveyer belt. I dropped a few things on the ground as I was doing this, and I hear him say pretty loudly, “You’ve got to be fucking kidding me.” I gave him the death stare, pointed at him and said; “I’m trying to do this shit quickly to get out of here so I don’t have to listen to your fat fucking mouth complain every 36 seconds.” He looked stunned, and didn’t say a thing after that. The cashier chuckled a bit after I said that, and I finally got out of there. Listening to that guy complain the entire time I was there was driving me nuts, and his comment lit the match for me. Was this justified, or AITA? ######

Response: NTA. Technically what you said was shitty but honestly, he had it coming. If he can't contain his annoyance for a couple minutes then neither should you. Him complaining about the line being too long probably made the cashier anxious about their work performance even though it wasn't their fault. Keep on being awesome OP! ######


Prompt:
 First post, bear with me.

I don't know if I'd classify my dad as a full-on Karen, but he definitely toes the line. The classic leave-the-mess-because-it's-their-job, ask-for-the-manager-if-the-food-is-late type. What really annoys me is that he never says please or thank you. I know it's not a big deal per se, but I think it's just basic manners and I call him out on it sometimes. I don't do it in front of the waiter, so it's not like I'm publicly humiliating him or anything, but he still gets very defensive.

Most recently, I reminded him again to say please after ordering (probably not in the most respectful tone, I'll admit) and he just glared at me and said, "I don't understand why you have to criticize me on everything I do." I assume he said that because earlier in the meal I had asked him to not chew with his mouth open (which is another thing I've asked of him to not do a thousand times before, but that's a post for another day).  Am I being unreasonable? Should I just give up? AITA? ######

Response: NTA. Teaching your dad to what I believe are good manners is a good thing and that he should treat them as people and not just workers. ######


Prompt:
So my girlfriend and I can’t see each other in person so we’ve been doing video chats during dinner and stuff like that. We have a words with friends game going and also she’ll sometimes play me at chess online. The thing is with chess is she’s one of those chess nuts who spends a ton of time practicing and reading moves and stuff. I mean it’s good for her and what she enjoys sure. But it’s not terribly fun for me, because I only know the rules, never practiced, don’t know what a queens gambit is or any of the other ridiculous move sets chess wizzes memorize. I lose completely and totally every time. She doesn’t go easy on me, so I could just press random buttons and do about as well as I do now.

Today I declined her invite to a game and texted her that I’d rather not play chess anymore. She immediately called me a sore loser and asked if I was just scared I’m going to lose. I responded that I’m not scared, I know I’m going to lose and it’s not fun.

She said “aw is the little baby going to cry”. I just didn’t respond to that and didn’t talk to her until dinner. When I called she was mad that I never responded to her. I said she was being rude and it was better that I not respond than she see what my response would have been.

She got mad again and said she’s not the one that declined “bonding time” because I’m afraid of losing. I again said I’m not afraid, but playing a game where moving randomly and trying to win yields the same result isn’t fun. She said it’s because I’m bad that happens, and I just hung up.

She blew up my phone with texts saying that it was rude to hang up in the middle of a conversation. But the way she’s acting is like if I arm wrestled her and when I won I ripped my shirt off and poured Gatorade all over myself. Or if I played basketball with her and then posted her up and dunked every possession.

AITA? ######

Response:
 NTA. Teach her a lesson by getting one of those chess games for the pc. When she asks you to play her on the phone, set the pc to grand Master difficulty, and input her moves on the phone as yours on the pc. Use the grand Master moves as yours on the phone. When she gets crushed, treat her like she did to you.  "aw is the little baby going to cry?" see how she likes it.

She had to go first for this to work, obviously ######


Prompt:
I (18F) have been friends with this girl (18F) for a couple of years. She’s always had problems at home and has a lot of trauma from it. I’ve always helped her and stood by her. Last year she started doing a lot of weird things without telling anyone but me. Things that could put her in serious danger, like wanting to meet up with a 38 year old man for example. This stuff put a lot of pressure and stress on me as she can be pretty mean when things are going bad as well. I’ve been trying to get her to talk to a psychologist but I, of course, can’t force her and this lead to me playing her psychologist for a long time.

I was mentally and emotionally drained. It was so bad that I had to go to a therapist myself and eventually she taught me how to set boundaries.

Now that she’s doing bad again and can’t talk maturely about it (but keeps dropping all her problems on me), I told her that I couldn’t do it anymore and I only wanted to deal with her problems if she was able to talk normally about them. I’ve decided not to talk to her until she comes to me.

I feel really guilty about it, as she might need me. But I feel like this is for my own well-being. ######

Response: NTA. Take care of yourself first. ######


Prompt:
I was in a video call with people from school there was 34 of us. I was wearing my hair in two braids it’s a traditional hairstyle from my tribe (I’m Native American) a couple of the African kids started say I was appropriating black culture by having braids. I tried to explain to them why I had it like that it’s part of our creation story. They started talking shit about it. I got mad at them and said “a lot of different people throughout history wore braids” I was accused of being a racist and appropriating black culture.

None of the people in the call defended me I’m the only native kid at the school. They called me a redskin and other slurs and my funny of my religion I was threatened if I had my hair like that I quote
 “we will cut those shit braids out of your hair and burn them you racist pile of shit”

I left the call, I thought someone would stand up for me. But apparently it was okay for the African kids too act horrible because they were oppressed ######

Response:
 NTA. Swedish women wear their hair in braids, too.

Statues of ancient women "Venuses" show hair in braids.

Braids are not the cultural property of any one group. The *style* of braid, however, might be strongly connected with a group or culture.

I suggest you report that incident to a trusted teacher. I don't know the laws where you are, but there may be some sort of protection because you are forced to associate with those people by attending the same school. ######


Prompt:
I have a 26 year old daughter who can be kind of a bitch. I’m not trying to insult her because I know she got it from me but she isn’t the nicest person. I met my wife when my daughter, Ava, was 14 and her daughter, Riley, was 13. They hated each other and no amount of counseling or family bonding could fix it so we broke up for a while. We saw other people on and off but kept up the sexual component of the relationship. We both agreed that the girls came first until they were 18 and then they didn’t get a say in our relationship.

We got married when Riley left for college and they still hated each other but could suck it up for holiday dinners. Ava got married two years ago than extremely wealthy man. Riley has always been jealous of Ava but that was a tipping point. Ava lives a pretty amazing life now. She doesn’t have to work and they travel a lot. Ava has invited us on some trips or to events like concerts, high end restaurants, she got my wife Hamilton tickets during the big craze when they were hard to get.

The issue is she will not invite Riley anywhere. They are civil but that’s it. I asked her one time if she would consider including Riley and she said that person is not my family, do not bring it up again. Ava is pretty cold and standoffish and when she says something like that she means it. My wife wants me to push Ava harder to include Riley because Riley is having a difficult time right now and is extremely jealous. Ava is talking about a pretty amazing trip when the pandemic is over and she invited my wife and I but my wife asked me again to broach the topic of Riley to Ava. My wife thinks I’m an asshole but I think I’m respecting my daughter. ######

Response: NTA. Sure they might technically be step-sisters, but they definitely are not *sisters* by what you posted. They didn't grow up at all together and they clearly both do not like each other. Why should Ava have to include someone she doesn't like, and who doesn't like her, out of marital obligation? You 100% are respecting your daughter and good on you ######


Prompt:
Basically my sister (14F) and I (20F) wanted a Nintendo Switch, but it costs a lot of money to get one so we decided to split the cost. Overall the switch + games + accessories cost about $420 (ayyy) and as I have a job and I’m older, I agreed to paying for most of it ($300).

We gave ourselves about 3 months to save up money, but by the end of it, my sister didn’t have enough for her $120 share (she was always spending money and hanging out with her friends.)

But I still wanted a Switch so I said I would cover her as long as she paid me back via artwork and drawings. She’s a great artist and she does do commissions, so we agreed that I would pay for her and in exchange, she would create 3-4 drawings for me.

So we bought the switch back in January and we both use it. Anyhow, I asked her to draw me a portrait of my friend for her birthday, nothing too strenuous, asked her 3 weeks in advance and gave her all the info she needed. She never delivered and i was angry, but I just bought my friend another present last minute so I wasn’t too upset.

Anyhow fast forward to February and she did the same thing. Then more recently, I asked if she could draw a character I liked from a TV show and she just straight up told me that she didn’t want to, that she never wanted to, that she didn’t know why I kept asking her to draw shit and that I was not entitled to her drawings.

I reminded her that her drawing for me was literally apart of the deal we had on the Nintendo switch but she said it’s been months since we got it so we should just drop it.

So I did just that and now I’m refusing to let her play the switch, of course she’s angry but I said it was technically my Switch now since I paid for it 100%. I brought it up to my mom and she said I need to be the bigger person here (figuratively and literally) and share it with my sister. AITA in this situation? ######

Response:
 NTA. Sure she's 14 but that doesn't mean she's entitled to your stuff where you've spent the time and effort to earn and save.

There was an agreement, and she failed to keep it. You tried to compromise, and she threw it back in your face. 14 is a good time to start learning about saving money, keeping to your promises etc.

She could have saved money via allowances and spent less money on going out, but she chose not to. ######


Prompt:
Title sounds kinda confusing. Also sorry for any grammar mistakes, I’m french, English isn’t first language.

So right now I’m(15F) living with my brother(27) and his boyfriend(24). It’s temporary tho, I’ll be back with my parents in 2 weeks. I’ve been with them for a week, everything was going great.

Yesterday I got up early and I was bored,  I thought I’d make something. I found easy mug brownie recipe so I made it. I found some powered sugar and there was a tiny bit left, so I sprinkled it on top of the brownie. As I was doing that my brother’s boyfriend walked in the kitchen and saw me. He got angry and asked me what I was doing. He told me that the sugar was expired and made me throw the brownie out. He told me that they were just keeping it because of memories because they got it while traveling. My brother was kinda mad too and told me that I should’ve asked him first before cooking something.

I haven’t apologized and I don’t think it’s my fault. They could’ve kept it anywhere other than kitchen if it’s just a decoration and not actually edible. ######

Response: NTA. Sugar doesn't really expire. And nobody keeps powdered sugar "because of memories because they got it while traveling," and if they did, they wouldn't keep it in the kitchen with all the other ingredients that people use regularly. ######


Prompt:
I'm new here, so please forgive any mistakes I may make.
I have two boys with my now ex wife, who decided that after the birth of our second son that she didn't want to be involved anymore. She divorced me, and I was stranded full custody since she didn't want anything to do with our kids anymore. It was certainly an adjustment, but I found that both myself and our sons, after the initial shock, were both dealing great without My wife, who, to be clear, didn't settle for anything less than perfection.
Fast forward fourteen years. Both of my sons are doing amazing, and so was I. We never moved from the house we lived in with my wife, so it shouldn't have been so surprising when My wife showed up at the door, claiming that she wanted to be Part of our lives again, in her own words.
I, of course, refused to have much to do with her, but if Our sons wanted to know her, then I wouldn't stop them. so I agreed to talk with them, privately, that night. I made sure not to involve my feelings, just that if they wanted to, they could have a relationship with their mom. And they didn't. No much what I tried to say, they refused. I told them to sleep on it, And they agreed. And came to the same conclusion.
When I told my wife about their decision, and, by extension, mine, she got angry. She accused me of 'poisoning ' their minds and told me that she'd take it to court if I still refused to let her see them. I said that I couldn't make them, And that she relinquished her parenting rights years ago. She got angry and hung up, but not before telling me that that I better be expecting a call soon.
I really don't believe her, but still, i appreciate any opinions, And if I'm being too harsh. ######

Response: NTA. Sue her for child support for fourteen years. That'll probably get rid of her. ######


Prompt:
Awhile back, I (18F) had a doctor's appointment regarding some issues about my period. I hadn't had a period for about year, and I was getting worried, because I'm not sexually active.

My mom went with me to the doctor's appointment and into the room with me for the exam. When the doctor was having me lie down to listen to my breathing, she told the doctor that "you know, she has a lot of stretch marks". I didn't bring anything up about that at all during the exam, and it was quiet when she brought it up.

It was really embarrassing, and I tried not to cry, because I didn't want to cause issues at the doctor's office.

It wasn't until yesterday that I brought it up during a talk with her. I told her that I thought it was very rude to bring something up like that and it was mean. I told her that I don't go to her doctor's appointments and tell them about her stretch marks. She told me that she thought that the doctor should know about it. I told her angrily that if I thought it was important I would tell the doctor or the doctor would ask me about it.

My dad was nearby while we were talking and said that I was being rude to my mom who had good intentions and that I shouldn't have said that to her and should also apologize. AITA? ######

Response: NTA. stretch marks are so irrelevant to the whole situation? i cant even fathom why she thought it was relevant. ######


Prompt:
Hello,

So I run a shop with a big window in a very busy street. For the last month, a dog has been pooping around the area of my shop, and the owners do not pick up after it. I've had my suspicions about who it was, and got visual confirmation last week.

The day after I got visual confirmation, I caught them again in the act, and snapped a picture of them. I then confronted them about it, and they basically told me to mind my own business.

So I got their picture blown up and printed with the title THESE PEOPLE DON'T PICK UP THEIR DOG'S POOP, IF YOU'VE WALKED IN POOP THEY ARE TO THANK, and stuck the poster in the window of my shop.

I've been having a lot of amused comments by my customers, but the people in the picture have gone insane, and have come by the shop many times to scream at me. I told them untill they change their attitude the poster is staying up.

Regarding the law, I'm not too sure what side I'm on, but not picking up their dog's poop is def illegal and can carry a hefty fine where I live (France), so I dobt they'll pursue legal action.

Some of my friends have said i'm an AH for publicaly shaming them. The way I see it they brought this upon themselves.

So reddit, AITA ? ######

Response: NTA. Stores do this all the time when they post photos of shoplifters. Public shaming is a strong deterrent. I don’t know France’s specific laws on public photography, but most places allow you to photograph someone in public without their consent, so they can’t even get you there. ######


Prompt:
I’ll keep it short and sweet. So my friend (I’ll call him Steve) is known as a huge flirt amongst our friends. We call him the bulldog, cause he literally takes every chance he gets to flirt with any female in range, even though he has a girlfriend. From buying girls random stuff to just weird and uncalled for compliments, he’s the ultimate flirt.

So anyway, I was at a small get together with some friends last weekend, and Steve was there, without his girlfriend. Steve was all over my girl, but I let it slide because I trust my girlfriend. (This has nothing to do with her, In not upset with her in the slightest) My girlfriend starts drinking pretty heavily, and begins throwing up halfway through the night. I’m taking care of her, and Steve starts to help as well. At first I was happy for the help, but as soon as I walked away to get some water, Steve swoops in and starts rubbing her back, and holding her neck with his hands. He was REALLY close. I didn’t really care, but it gets weirder. I try to come by her side and hold her hair back, but he kind of blocks me off! He put his arm around her to carry her off to sit in her and my tent.

At this point, I really think there is no point at all for him to be helping. If anything, he’s making it worse for her. I mean if I were puking my guts out I’d rather there be nobody around except for maybe one person. Later that night, my girlfriend told me that Steve kept asking for hugs because he and his girlfriend were not in a good spot and he missed her. What?????!! However, she did say that I shouldn’t be mad and that Steve was genuinely just trying to help out the situation. He CAN be a nice and selfless person, but I was a little too weirded out to tell.

Was he just being nice? Am I just being jealous? ######

Response:
 NTA. Steve is a handsy, horny guy, and so long as his target is consenting, whatever. But you, the boyfriend, were at the ready to help out your girlfriend, and he blocked you off to guide her into a private area, confess to her that he was in a bad spot in his relationship, and he needed her physical touch (via hugs) to give him comfort? It's weird to me.

I wouldn't say you're jealous, as you trust your partner. I would say you're suspicious of Steve's intentions, and I think anyone would be. I don't want to make a leap and maybe I am, but it sounds like Steve is trying to groom your girlfriend for some intimacy. Build trust, confess vulnerability, get her comfortable with physical contact, slowly lift boundaries. Steve is a friend that's not really so friendly, as I view it. ######


Prompt:
I’m 22F. Boyfriend “Joe” 22M. BF’s brother “Dan” 25M.

I’ve been living with Joe for 2 years now, and we’ve been dating for 4. Dan is Joe’s maternal half brother and he’s been living with their mom for his entire life—he’s never moved out, until now he has to because their mom finally got sick of him and kicked him out.

I don’t dislike Dan, but I know he’s a slob. He’s getting kicked out of their mom’s house because he never does anything for himself or the house (no cooking, no cleaning—not even after himself, no buying groceries, no paying bills, etc.). Basically he just acts like he’s still a kid who has no responsibility to himself or his home and spends all the money he makes at his job on weed and new stuff for himself.

When Joe came to me about possibly renting one of our spare rooms to Dan for awhile, I told him my reasoning above and said I wasn’t okay with it. I thing Dan is nice to hang out with, but I refuse to live with him. I don’t trust him to pay his rent or supplement any of the other expenses in the house like groceries/internet/cable/etc. I don’t trust him to help out around the house or not smoke weed inside. I don’t expect him (or Joe) to cook, because I do all the cooking and I like it, but if he’s not going to help out at all he’s not living with me and eating the food I cook and (mostly) pay for myself.

Joe was upset. He can understand my reasoning, but he thinks we should let Dan move in because he can’t afford to rent a house on his own, and he doesn’t want his brother to be homeless. I still firmly say no and believe Dan should try moving in with his girlfriend or one of his friends.

Joe is now proposing we do a trial run and let Dan move in for a month, and if he doesn’t meet my expectations we have him move out. I told him I’d think about it, but honestly I don’t think it’s worth the hassle because I strongly doubt he’d meet my expectations.

AITA if I say no to Dan moving in, even for a month long “trial run”? ######

Response: NTA. Stand your ground on this one. If you’ve been dating for 4 years, you and Joe are a team. You can evaluate ideas (like this one) on whether or not they would be good for the team. Having Dan move in would definitely not be good for the team! You’d have more stress and less privacy! Once he moved in he probably wouldn’t leave, so a trial is a no go. Can Joe offer to help him with the apartment hunting process instead? ######


Prompt:
I pay for a spotify premium account. My boyfriend and I shared it, until we broke up. When we broke up, I changed my password because he never made any payments on it.

He says I am in the wrong because he has mental health issues and the music is the only way to calm him down.

I dont think I should have to share because I pay for it with my own money, that I work for. I'm currently an out of work waitress so I'm doing odd jobs for my few bills.

So, AITA? ######

Response: NTA. Spotify has a free version. He'll just have to cope with the ads. ######


Prompt:
Growing up we were not close with my dad’s family at all. All holidays and special occasions were done with my mom’s family and it was clear as I got older that there was some tension between my mother and my dad’s side of the family. As a teen, I had resentment towards my mom because I felt like she was keeping us from my dad’s family.

Once I became an adult, my mom told me how poorly she was treated by my dad’s family, mainly his sister. It was bad. My dad’s mom passed away a few years ago (she was a single parent) and my dad really does not have much living family left.

I got engaged at the beginning of the year. My dad must have told my aunt because she immediately called me to congratulate us. I had not spoken to her since my grandmother’s funeral years ago. I then received a friend request from her on FB and was very surprised, because that means at one point she had to have unfriended me. (It wasn’t a new account and we definitely were FB friends a few years ago.) Once I accepted her request she took our engagement photos from my FB and posted them on her page for all her friends to ooh and ahh over.  She is one of those people that always has to show off and needs attention and validation from others. She even asked me to send her a close up of my ring, to which I said no.

My fiancé and I are paying for our wedding ourselves. We are currently working on our guest list and I really don’t want to invite her. I feel like she would be there for all the wrong reasons. I also don’t want my mom to be uncomfortable, even though she would never tell me if she was. My mom is a saint. I do feel bad because that is my dad’s sister and I know it would mean a lot to him if she was there.

AITA for not wanting my aunt at my wedding? ######

Response: NTA. Sounds more like the aunt wants to be there for selfish reasons. Your dad might be happier, but if she's treated your mom poorly and y'all aren't close, I don't see a reason for you inviting her to the wedding. ######


Prompt:
My daughter is home right now from uni. We have a great relationship and we talk about random shit. My sister and her kids are also home right now because her appartement is getting fumigated.

To the story my daughter has known that she has fertility problems since her late teend, due to an illness. Luckily infertility and iron deficiency are the only symptoms.

We were talking while drinking a coffee in the living room where my sister was helping my niece with her homework. And I think we were talking about her last boyfriend or something and we were also watching one of those trashy shows on TV. Along the lines of 16 and pregnant. And she was like "uff imagine if I had done that to you when I was 16!" we laughed and then in a rather serious way I said "if that happened now to you tho, I would help you to raise the child no questions asked. Not even questioning who the father is". And I meant it. My daughter laughed and we moved on with our conversation.

When making dinner my sister comes to the kitchen and starts lecturing me about how I should not project my baby crazyness on my daughter. I was confused and she explained that the comment I made was hyper inappropriate specially seeing as daughter had the fertility problems. I toldy sister to keep her nose out of our business and that we have a good enough relationship that even if it was inappropriate, she would have told me herself.

Daughter is sleeping still and I just wonder if I stepped over a line. I like babies and I would like to be a grandma *some day*, but never in a thousand years would I pressure my daughter to become a mom because I want grand babies. ######

Response: NTA. Sounds like your sister is trying to sound super “woke” and sensitive over something that has absolutely nothing to do with her. Your comment was appropriate to the conversation you were having. ######


Prompt:
My granddad was a huge influence in my life. My relationship with my mother was rocky at the best of times and whenever she kicked me out (which was often) he let me stay with him. When I turned 18 I went low (but not a complete lack of) contact with mum and lived with granddad for a while before going to uni, and he made clear that I'd always have a home with him. He passed when I was 22 and left me the lion's share of his estate. My family were upset with this and tried to get the will overturned, and failed, but this is when I went full no contact with them.

Granddad's name was Charles, and when I found out I was pregnant I asked my husband how he felt about using Charles for a boy or Charlie for a girl (fake names but same concept of using the gender neutral version of granddad's name). He said he loved it. So my daughter is called Charlie after granddad. I don't know how granddad would have felt about it, but I hope he'd have liked it.

My siblings reached out, asking me if I would be willing to catch up and maybe stay in touch. I agreed. Many of them hadn't met Charlie yet so introducing her was part of catching up. Hearing Charlie's name caused a pause and then "as in granddad Charles?" and I confirmed it.

My sister, who has a son named Charles, also after granddad, is not happy. She's said it's disrespectful to change the gender of the name and that I should have asked someone for permission because she knew Charlie was born over 5 years after granddad passed away. She said she'd asked granddad for permission before he passed and now we have a Charles and a Charlie. She's started calling Charlie by her middle name as a sign of respect to granddad.

AITA? ######

Response:
 NTA. Sounds like your sister has picked up some tricks from your mom! This is a ridiculous thing to fight about, and only someone looking for a reason to peck at other people to establish some sort of control or dominance would complain about it.

My mom lost her oldest brother when she was young. Between her and her several siblings, there are at least three kids with his name as their first or middle name. Everyone just smiles and remembers how much they loved him.

ETA: the idea that she's calling your daughter a different name as "a sign of respect for grandad" is complete BS. Grandad left you most of his estate and frequently took you in. Clearly he loved you and would have been delighted that you named your daughter for him. This is a power move by your sister to show that she can control you. ######


Prompt:
My grandparents took me and my siblings out on a bike ride. And when we got back we made lunch. And I made a sandwich with ham and cheese with mayonoise on the bread. And my grandma procceds to throw away the sandwich I made and said. “You won’t like that” and I said. “Yes I will” she then makes me a new sandwich with what she likes. And tried to give it to me. And i said no thanks I can make my sandwich how i want it” she then gies in a tyrant about how I’m ungrateful. And I just left to go sit in the porch that they have.

Reddit AITA here? ######

Response: NTA. Sounds like your grandma is either a control freak or has mental issues. Getting upset over a ham and cheese sandwich with mayo is not normal. ######


Prompt:
I have a special tequila I got as a gift. I really like tequila and it’s my only alcohol that I drink.

My boyfriend drank the entire bottle.... i was upset and asked why the fuck he always has to drink any alcohol if it’s in the house.

He was nice and proceeded to go to multiple stores to find the tequila to replace it but was unable to so he found an equivalent.

Two days later the tequila is gone. He drank the second replacement bottle.

AITA for being upset and concerned? He did buy this second bottle ######

Response: Nta. Sounds like your boyfriends an alcoholic who doesn’t respect you or your things. ######


Prompt: Ok so my son never had a girlfriend, never had a crush on one. By the age of 16 he still hadn't got a girlfriend even tho he was a handsome guy. I talked to my wife about what her reaction would be if he turned out gay, she said that he will be dead to her if he is. come next year and our son turns out gay. I comfort him and tell him its OK. My wife on the other hand freaks out and storms off to her parents' house and is still there, her side of the family cut contact with us and we will be getting a divorce soon. My side of the family is completely OK with it. AITA for supporting my son? ######

Response: NTA. Sounds like you've kept a wonderful son and lost a rotten wife. Best of luck to the both of you! ######


Prompt:
I (19f) have cousins that all went to boarding school.

My family is very traditional, and have a long history of sending their children to boarding school. Most of my family members get sent to the UK, US and Canada age 8/9.

When I was young, I got very sick. After that, my parents had separation anxiety when it came to me so I got to attend normal day school.

Some of my cousins resent me though. It’s understandable, I got to live with my parents while they didn’t.

I had started getting pressure to attend boarding school from my cousins, grandparents, aunts and uncles at 13 since I was old enough to ‘handle’ myself and I haven’t had any health scares.

My grandparents had want me to uphold the tradition, but I hadn’t wanted to leave my parents and go to a foreign country. They said that I could go to one in my home country, but I still wouldn’t have been able to see my parents as often.

I still get taunted for my refusal to go although I’m done with high school and am currently taking a gap year.

I was at my aunt’s house for a gathering and I heard my cousin say to another cousin how much of a coward I am since I ‘hid behind my mummy’s skirts’ my entire childhood. They then spoke about how spineless my parents are for not forcing me to go.

I come up to them and start arguing. They continue to say that I broke years of family tradition because I couldn’t cope without my parents as a teen when most of them left theirs at a far younger age.

I lost my temper then. I snap back “at least my parents loved me enough to want me around.”

Dead silence. I leave the room. None of my cousins have contacted me but my parents are asking me to apologise. ######

Response: NTA. Sounds like you touched a nerve with them lol, but those that live in glass houses shouldn't throw stones, am I right? ######


Prompt:
I've had a sinus infection the last few days. Mild fever, congestion, light sensitivity, vomiting, etc. Told him I was going to bed early since I wasn't feeling well, 30 minutes later baby starts crying. "Damn, I don't want to get up." So, husband got up, picked up baby, and handed him to me and sat back down. I glared for about a minute, then got up and changed him, made a bottle (cursing rather profusely the entire time), fed him, burped him, put him back to bed and started crying. Husband asked what was wrong and I said that I felt he was no help and it just hurts when I'm not feeling well. He said he didn't know and "isn't a mind reader" and didn't see or hear me get up to change him and feed him and would have done it if I had asked.

Am I the asshole for feeling that he should be more observant and thoughtful? Or should I just constantly tell him what to do? ######

Response:
 NTA. Sounds like you are shouldering more of the "mental load" in the relationship, even if he does help out when directly instructed to. Having to be the one in charge of assigning tasks (remembering appointments, feedings...the critical but monotonous minutia of life) is exhausting and often thankless work. Definitely worth a longer conversation with your husband.

You can't expect him to read minds, no, but you can expect him to have common sense. ######


Prompt:
Last year I (28F) decided to go back to school and my fiance (30M) supported me.

When his mom found out I was starting (we decided not to say anything until it was official) she flipped out.

Why? Because I wouldn't be around to do anything they (I drive his mom, sister, 6 nieces, and his foster brothers where they need to go because she won't drive) wanted me to at random times.

"It's inconvenient". I quit my last job because it was an inconvenience to them! Once she starts complaining, my fiance is usually guilted into agreeing with her. I'm just glad he makes enough so I don't have to work but, the problem is, I WANT TO!

I refuse to give up my future because nobody wants to drive!

I'm just waiting for them to learn that I start my internship in the fall! All hell's gonna break loose!

So AITA for "not caring about them and their feelings and needs" because I want to have a better future for my kids?? ######

Response: NTA. Sounds like they need some bus passes. ######


Prompt:
(shit title - sorry)

Four years ago our neighbour said she was looking for land to rent- her kids wanted a trampoline. Wife and I offered our yard because a) we had the space and weren’t using it for anything and b) why not be a good neighbour?

And they’ve been good. The kids don’t bounce if we’re outside having a barbecue or have guests over, for example, and only a few times have I seen a horde of neighbourhood kids all bouncing in there. Normally it’s just the two kids and every winter it all gets dismantled and removed.

Last week I arrived home from work and saw that the trampoline had been replaced with a new one. It’s gigantic. Takes up a lot more space than the old one did.

I waited a few days for the neighbour(s) to come and explain but they didn’t so when I saw them I mentioned that it would have been nice if they’d asked me first if it’d be ok to have something that big in the yard.

They think I’m overreacting because I was fine with the last one and this should be no different. I’m annoyed they didn’t ask before moving in this monster, which swallows considerably more yard than the last one.

I'm happy the kids are having fun, but I think I should have been asked, even if I would have okayed it.

Am I the asshole here? ######

Response: NTA. Sounds like they are taking advantage of your generous nature. ######


Prompt:
My (18M) sister (19F) today has worked a shift at work (6AM-11:15AM). She works in a supermarket, stacking shelves and transporting large amount of items. Of course, when she gets home, she’s really tired (as well as a complication from mono earlier this year, she gets tired easier than a normal person). Our mum comes home at 15:00, (finishing work at 14:00 and looking around the shops for an hour). She comes home and complains at my sister for having ‘tired eyes’, which she explained that she had just woke up from a nap. She then complained at us both, saying we are ‘lazy’ and ‘just like our father’ (who works 12 hour Manual labour shifts daily, so he isn’t lazy). So I defended my sister, and said I am lazy, and I’ll admit that, as I don’t do much, but she shouldn’t call my sister lazy, after being tired after working  a 6 hour shift, doing heavy exercise. After this she said she was sick of how we are treating her and left the house??
So are we the assholes? ######

Response: NTA. Sounds like there’s more going on there with your mother. ######


Prompt:
So I bought a pair of shoes that cost £120, when they arrived they had black marks on them (they're red shoes). The shoes normally come with a card that has the shoemaker sign them as a quality control measure. This pair did not come with that so I imagine this process was skipped, or they were shipped hoping no-one would notice.

I emailed the company straight away no response. I emailed them again a few days later. No response. I emailed them the week later again no response. I finally opened a PayPal case. I suggested a further discount to account for the defect. Now they finally replied to my email roughly 3 weeks later and stated that their email system was done. They suggested that they could collect the shoes and offer me a replacement. However this was only if the shoes were still in a salable condition, however I had tried the shoes on a few times in the house and the bottom of the shoes weren't in a salable condition (I've not worn these outside but there were still marks on the sole). Again they stopped replying when I showed them a picture of the sole.

Now fast forward to today, turns out they didn't respond to PayPal either. The case closed in my favour and I got a full refund. No instructions to return the shoes either. Just a full refund. Something I didn't ask for, I only suggested to PayPal that they give a partial refund.

My brother and gf are telling me to keep the shoes and the refund, and say that I shouldnt waste more time in emails etc. I was thinking of emailing the business and returning part of the refund.

WIBTA if I keep the shoes and the refund without trying to give some payment back? ######

Response: NTA. Sounds like the company was too lazy to provide decent customer service and the price they paid was the Paypal reimbursement. You tried; they didn't. Keep your cash. That said, if you truly can't get past your guilt, then instead of giving the money back (to this foolish corporation) you could instead donate to a charity that speaks to your values. ######


Prompt:
To start with, both my parents and grandparents are now dead. But while my grandma was alive, she told me she wanted me and my brother to have our mums share of their house when she went. Her reasoning being, her other children, my aunts and uncle, would all be giving their children, my cousins money from the house, and as our mum wasn't alive, we wouldn't benefit as much as the others.

She also saw me more as a daughter than a granddaughter as my parents were pretty useless, and she raised us more as her own children. We are also at least 20 years older than the other cousins, so are much nearer in age my aunts and uncle rather than our cousins.

I then found out, that my aunt D, had persuaded my grandma to change her will so we didn't get anything from her, as in her words, we had already had our inheritance from our parents, (£30'000 from my mums pension, nothing from my dad) so we didn't deserve any more than that. My mum had been given £120'000 from an ex husband a little while before she died, but she spent it all on heroin, so we didn't see any of that.

So am I being the arsehole and being greedy for just wanting the money my grandma wanted me to have? Or am I in the right? I feel very betrayed by them, and can't seem to get over it. ######

Response:
 NTA. Sounds like someone needs to be cut out. Your aunt wants to be greedy then she can be greedy without you in her life.

Sorry, these stories irk me. Greedy people irk me. ######


Prompt:
My friend gave me his old Nintendo switch. I know my daughter, Jessie, has been wanting a regular switch for awhile. She just has a switch lite.

Right away her eyes lit up and said she would give her old switch to her cousin, Kelsie. Kelsie had to share one with her brother so the girls weren’t able to play online together often. Giving the switch to Kelsie made a lot of sense to me because she and Jessie are best friends and now they don’t get to hang out together at all.

So we thought it all worked out great, except my brother. He thinks by letting my daughter choose who to give the switch to I am helping the girls exclude his new stepdaughter.

My brother got married last summer and his wife had a little girl named Rachel. Rachel is a nice, but sometimes Jessie and Kelsie prefer to play alone just the two of them. My brother doesn’t like that. He wants them to be as close with Rachel as they are with each other. He would try to get them to do activities together and have play dates all the time.

When the lock down happened he was pretty bummed out because we had to cancel all that, but he tried to keep everyone in contact with phone calls and that’s how Rachel found out about the switches and that they were still playing without her.

He says that unlike Kelsie Rachel doesn’t have access to a switch at all since they are sold out everywhere. He thinks I really should have thought of Rachel right away and encouraged my daughter to give her old switch to her so she could play and be included.

Then he went into how I am setting up my daughter to make these choices that exclude because our other sister (Kelsies mom) and I do the exact same thing with his wife. He said she’s very disappointed we don’t invite her out with us more often. If I’m being honest my sister and I also prefer to hang out just the two of us most of the time, but we do invite our sil out sometimes.

￼ ######

Response: NTA. Sounds like some serious projection from your Brother because of other issues. Unfortunately your daughter only had 1 Switch to give, so she naturally gave it to her best friend, someone that she wants to play games with. It is what it is. Not everyone gets what they want. ######


Prompt: For a little bit of context I understand it's not a bit deal we all have those dreams and I am over reacting on my part by just wanting to be alone for a little bit. My wife tells me she had a dream where we were all at my best friends house and i had to walk outside to do something. During this time she initiates having sex with my best friend. Come to find out I had my head taken off by a semi. When she brings it up she gets a big old smile and says "yes I had sex with him". The smile is what hurt me the most. So I go downstairs and after about 5 minutes she come down and starts hugging me so I push her away (Not violently or using any force or anything, I'm not an abuser). Then she goes upstairs cussing up a storm stars slamming doors and everything. I'm still currently downstairs becuase even though it's a dream it doesnt mean it doesnt hurt especially since it's with my best friend who I've known since kindergarten. Thank you for your time. ######

Response: NTA. Sounds like she was trying to get a reaction out of you. It’s one thing to have a sex dream but to wake up and rub it in your SO’s face? Weird, man. If I were her, I would’ve kept that to myself. ######


Prompt:
I’m getting married next year and will be going dress shopping (once out of lock down) my mother has decided she also wants to try on wedding dresses along side me.
I’ve told her no because it’s my big day and I want the attention and fun to be on me as it’s the only time I’d buy a dress of such importance.
She’s said I’m being unfair and unreasonable and it’s just a bit of fun. ######

Response: NTA. Sorry, but if she's not going to let the focus be on you during the dress shopping is she going to let it be on you on your big day? ######


Prompt:
Throwaway ‘cuz I have older kids on reddit.

So my 10 year old is suuuuuper into his iPad gaming. Roblox, Minecraft, Fortnite.... you get the picture. Anyway, one of his favorites has those app subscription services where they give you “points” and allow you to sell your stuff in exchange for $5/month.

This sounded like a great idea to kiddo, as he has over 1000 things in his inventory that he doesn’t really use anymore. He set out to ask for permission, to which I immediately said “no”. I explained how those things tend to be kinda scammy, from making it hard to cancel, to making it hard to use the benefits, etc. 10 was sure that this game is one of the good guys and he wouldn’t have any issues.

So then mom mode kicked in. I told him if he wanted to even try to change my mind, he’d have to work for it... and even then the answer would probably be no. After three revisions and a whole week of effort, he gave us an extremely good persuasive essay, complete with research, facts, etc. it was so good that hubs and I were actually convinced to let him try.

Signed him up this morning. Yeah, it’s a scam. Because of some fine print he can’t sell ANY of his 1000+ inventory. He is crushed, so so so so upset. We did send a message to their customer service, but chances of getting money back is low.

I know it would help him feel better if I just gave him his $5 back out of my own wallet, but I really feel like this is a learning moment. So, Reddit, AITA?

Update: so I probably used “scam” improperly... the app in question is Roblox, and basically the ads seem to just say “you can sell your items with membership”, but the limitations aren’t super clear, at all. So it is not a true scam, just misleading fine print, imho. Also, I was estimating his number of items, he seems to have nearly 100 hats alone! (Sorry for the estimation, I’ll be more precise next time I can get my hands on the iPad again.) He’s spent hundreds of dollars on Roblox over the years, mostly on items. ######

Response:
 NTA. Sometimes kids need to learn first hand about crap like this. Especially in this day and age where scams are legit everywhere. Now he'll think twice about tossing his unwavering loyalty to a company that doesn't care about him.

All he lost was $5 and the rose colored glasses he had on for this app/company. No harm done really tbh but I bet he learned something that'll stick with him.

And to the people saying not the A... y'all know you can't coddle and shield kids from their dumb actions forever right? Ya gotta let kids learn stuff. :/ ######


Prompt:
My (23F) lecturer (40sM) is a nice man - he genuinely cares about our wellbeing and wants us to do well, however he is an absolutely TERRIBLE teacher in every other aspect.

He drastically changed our most recent assignment the WEEK before it was due. It was worth 50% of our grade. I was the top of the class...I’ve never received below a Distinction on any of my assignments. I struggled through his “updated” assignment for days on end - I spent a good 3 hours on the day of submission crying because I simply didn’t understand what he was expecting us to achieve (I also experienced what I can only describe as a panic attack, it was scary and not something I think Uni should cause). I received a P1 on that assignment. It’s going to pull my grade and my GPA down. I’m beyond upset - I genuinely tried my hardest to fulfil his vague guidelines.

My friend whipped her assignment together the day of submission and got a Distinction. My entire group is convinced that he knows my previous grades and decided to be harsher when marking my work. I sent an email asking for more detailed feedback as I couldn’t understand what I did wrong, however he has not replied.

We have been given our next assignment - it is beyond vague. I have not spoken to a single person who actually understands what is expected. I’m extremely anxious about what is going to happen during marking. I have told him I’m nervous as I do not feel like the assignment is clear - he told me that if he manages to please me then he’ll know he’s done well as I’m the hardest to please within my year. He made this comment in front of 6 other students. I was embarrassed and hurt by this.

I want to contact our head of school and make a formal complaint, however I also don’t want my Lecturer to hate me even more and completely sabotage my future grades. WIBTA for complaining, or is it justified? ######

Response: NTA. Something similar happened in uni, but in my case a lot of people reported the professor and eventually she was replaced. If you're not learning then might as well report him. ######


Prompt:
My roommate and his girlfriend have been on and off for quite some time. When they fight and break up, she gets drunk and messages me about how much she hates him, and he tells me how much he hates her. When I dont respond to her, she gets upset and starts disrespecting me with insults. He has told me that she is very vindictive and has stolen jewelry amongst other things from him, and has even made false reports to the police about him abusing her. I've over heard them arguing before and heard her say things like, "I will ruin your fucking life".

After learning what kind of person she is, I don't feel comfortable being around her. I cannot tell him who he can and cant have over, but if he is not in the apartment, I do not want to be alone with her.

Now that they're back together again, she only comes over on weekends. He sometimes leaves around 330am and she will stay until about 7-8am instead of leaving when he leaves. I have talked to him about this, and he has continued to ignore me and shrug it off. I find it disrespectful.

Recently, he got a second job delivering pizza. He left for his shift about a half an hour ago, leaving his girlfriend here. I told him I do not want her here, but he ignore me again.

Fed up, I told him I was going to have the police remove her, or I would stop paying my part of the rent.

She is gone now.

My friends agree with me, but sometimes I feel like they just agree because we are friends. I need some non bias opinions.

Am I the asshole? ######

Response: Nta. Someone who steals and makes false allegations isn’t someone you should have to deal with in your home. You need to move out and find a new roommate ASAP. ######


Prompt:
About 6 weeks ago as we were leaving our house we saw a pet rabbit on the road outside our house. It was already dark out. We get home 2 hours later and it's still there.

We park the car and I go onto the road to see if I can catch it - it runs right up to me so I pick it up and take it inside. It's late now so I decide to look for the owner the next day.

We ask around our neighbours. No one knows who's it is.

So we just keep it.

Last Friday my partner was talking to a little girl outside our house, he was playing with our cat and she said she used to have a rabbit that's the same colour but she lost him. This is the rabbit we found.. Identical colouring.

So she runs off to get her mum to ask if she can have the rabbit back. Mum turns up and says yes so I hand over the rabbit and the food I'd bought for it.

This morning at about 5.30am I wake up early and go sit in my garden. Suddenly the rabbit runs up and sits next to me. I pick it up and take it inside. I hadn't tidied up its food dish yet (yes I am lazy for that one) and it just ate and ate like it hadn't eaten in days. I gave them the food!!

Also it was still dark. I went out on to the street and no lights are on in the houses (I didn't look to see exactly which one they lived in but I know the rough area.. All lights off in all of them) so they've obviously let the rabbit out all night.

WIBTA if I keep the rabbit and if they ask tell them I haven't seen it. I feel bad for the little girl but I'm really angry at the mum. My feelings towards the mum don't matter though, just want to keep the rabbit safe. ######

Response: NTA. Someone in that house is releasing that rabbit intentionally but couldn't outright admit it.  Glad it found you! ######


Prompt:
My stepson is 11 and at his school they have these annual events (father-son camping, mother-daughter cooking etc). Late last year they held a mother and son race where the mother had to run across the field and piggy back their sons back to the other side and then tie our legs together and just sprint back across.

A week prior my stepson Dylan was talking about it and how he thought it was ridiculous and embarrassing. When I looked at their poster for it, it looked fun so I convinced him to sign up for it. Later that day I called his mother Julie but she didn't pick up so I left a voicemail talking about the event and asking her to get back to us if she is available. Five days past and still no word from her. Being honest when she didn't respond, I saw it as an opportunity for Dylan and I to bond but since I respect Julie as his mother I sent her an email (doesn't use social media) with the poster and talking about how Dylan has signed up for it. Two days passed and still nothing. So I went to Dylan and told him that his mother hadn't gotten back to me but if he was okay with it, I was willing to step in since it was too late to pull out. He was a bit disappointed but still fine.

The day came and it was a blast. Tiresome but definitely worth it. It was just so much fun and I made a few friends there who were also stepmothers. And obviously we won 1st place and got two medals. Dylan also enjoyed it and feels way more comfortable with me now.

While I was browsing the school's website last week, I saw a picture from that day with me running and Dylan cheering on my back. It was a cute picture so I downloaded it and made it my profile picture. Turns out one of Julie's friends showed her the picture and now she's going on a rant about how I shouldn't have done that and how I've overstepped my mark as his step mother. When I told her I called her and sent an email she went on saying that I should've sent her a text or called her again instead of just once. AITA? ######

Response: NTA. Someone has to act like a Mother if she's not going to. ######


Prompt:
Someone in my Facebook friendlist has been posting abhorrent racist contents against black people ever since the movement started (posts that implying black people have a lower IQ than other races, using dehumanizing curse words in our native language to describe black people as a whole, etc...).

WIBTA if I screenshot his posts and send them to his employer (which would likely end his career)?

For more context, I have no personal bad history with the guy, so it's purely because I think what he has been posting is very very wrong, and not because of personal revenge or something. ######

Response: NTA. Some people just need to learn the hard way. I'd do it if I were you too, anonymously. ######


Prompt:
Right now, I am the only one who works, albeit from home, but I workover 40 hours a week. My husband is laid off, and we have a 3.5 year old.

BACK STORY: Prior to all of this 3 months ago, my husband was a couch sleeper. He is the type that just falls asleep easy. So 6 days out of 7 I would be the one getting up with our daughter every night, and we take turns with putting her to bed.

Now that I am the only one who works, I told him that he should be getting up with her most nights, because I get up in the AM, and also sleeping downstairs would allow our kid not to wake up to my alarm, and I wouldn't have to wake him up in the AM when I came downstairs to have coffee and start work.

He didnt like that, and thought it is only fair to split nights. Funny he thought it was fair before he was laid, that I got up with her every night.

They sleep in till 8-9am every day.

Now yesterday my dog tried to lunge at another dog going in our driveway and when I pulled her back, I somehow screwed up my back. Can barely walk. It was my night on the couch last night but he didnt want to go to bed so he was downstairs till 1am playing is video games so I didnt fall asleep till after 1am. I would have went upstairs but being in pain, I couldnt. I also had a crappy nights sleep.

So this morning, my daughter woke up at 8am and he told her to leave him and wake me up. I took her and hobbled upstairs and got into bed with him. He got mad that I woke him up, and that I was trying to lay back down. He started yelling at me.

I told him it was 830am, not 630am, and I work all week and so I deserve to be able to sleep in, since they both sleep in every day, and my back hurts and I had a crappy nights sleep.

He isn't speaking to me

AITA? ######

Response: NTA. Some dads need to get past the idea that they babysit their kids when its convenient to them. Parenting is 24/7. ######


Prompt:
Trying to keep it short as I'm on mobile and typos galore, plus keep to the main points.

Been with my partner about a year. Stayed at his parent's house a few times. His sister is in another country so his nephews stay with his parents. They've also stayed with us during school holidays.

Everytime we are under the same roof the 7 year old nephew wants to sleep in our bed. It leads to an almost daily argument.

Just went to bed just now and the nephew appeared with his blanket. I took his blanket and put it back outside so he could take it to his own bed. A few minutes later my partner appears saying the nephew is going to sleep with us tonight. Sometimes I give in so I just said up to you, but my face must have said otherwise as partner directed nephew to the nephew's own bed but looked upset at me about it.

A few nights ago this during the daily argument I was really stressed I just went off, not shouting, but stating it is REALLY weird in my culture for kids that age to sleep with non blood relatives, plus at his age even with parents. I asked my partner should I make a Facebook post to ask if it's okay and show him all the comments that will say "no that's weird as hell" etc. That's when he said OK and dropped it for that night.

Selfishly I admit I want some time away from him, and sleep is the only time.

But more than selfishly, in my opinion it's just REALLY REALLY weird.

I'm 32F, partner 35M (we are in a serious relationship),kid 7M. I'm European and he's South East Asian. Just to add more facts.

I play with his nephew all day. We take him on trips. I buy him treats. I'm not being mean to him but I don't want him in my bed.

This happens everynight and makes me feel like an absolute devil woman though.

So AITA? ######

Response: NTA. Societal norms aside, it's not kind of your partner to not take your comfort into account in a pattern like this. ######


Prompt:
It’s a really nice day out so my mom said she was going to sit outside.

I have been excited about tie dying some old clothes as a fun craft. My mom is not creative at all and never really likes things like that so she just didn’t take any interest. I had all my equipment and was getting ready to roll up the clothes, she came out yelling at me because I’m gonna get dye everywhere - I tell her that I’m not dyeing it yet, I’m just rolling it. I have a separate container for dyeing. Then she starts getting angry about the water from the dye going down the drain, even though I told her I was gonna rinse everything in the bathroom. After a while, I just dropped the whole thing and didn’t dye anything. Just went to my room. My mom is now pissed at me for leaving her to sit outside by herself but I was trying to do my own thing and she kept getting me down about it. ######

Response: NTA. So your mom expects you to drop what you're doing to sit outside with her, because she doesn't have any interest in your hobby? She probably started that argument to get you to lose interest in tie dying and sit by her ######


Prompt:
So, I’m a teacher at a smallish school in a big(ger) city. I teach junior high, mostly 8th grade classes, and we all know that that’s the age kids start to find themselves and forge their own paths. I had a student this past year, let’s call them Jack. Jack is a young man who was born a girl. One day, he came to me with his best friend after school, and tearfully confessed he wanted to change his gender and go by “Jack,” and not his given name (one thing to note is while “Jack” isn’t the name he actually picked, the situation is similar to changing his name from “Jacqueline” to a shorter nickname, Jack). It very feasibly could have been a regular nickname, and in fact he’d been going by that name at home for a few years now.

The problem starts when I notified admin. I told my principal that Jack wanted to go by this “new” name and new pronouns, and at first, everyone agreed. Then, I guess Jack’s dad threw a fit (mom was okay with it though), and so ya teachers were told to stop referring to him as Jack and by he/him pronouns - one teacher went so far as to send a mass email to the entire staff claiming this was “just a fad” and Jack would regret it down the road. I didn’t stop calling him Jack, nor did I stop referring to him as he/him, but when I contacted parents, I was VERY careful to avoid pronouns, but I still referred to him as “Jack” in our conversations, which they never seemed to even notice.

While in the teachers’ lounge, I slipped and called him “him” in conversation, and was berated by coworkers, then talked to by admin for being “disrespectful.” I feel like I didn’t do anything wrong by continuing to call him by his preferred pronouns and an already established nickname, especially since I never did it in front of any other students or staff, and to lessen the blow to Jack’s mental health/self-identity. So I’m wondering, I’m I the asshole here? ######

Response: NTA. So what if is a fad? Let the kid explore the identity during youth. If it just a fad it will pass like any other fad, as long as no life changing decisions are made kid will be fine, and if it isn't, they are just being people the child cannot count on. ######