Prompt:
This happened a while ago but I’m still hearing about it in the family group chat.

Couple months ago my sister in law found out she was pregnant and her views on pregnancy and motherhood (as well as other things) are really strange, at least to me. For instance, the shape of a belly (mild) and how boys and girls should be raised (stereotypes all around). Then as her pregnancy progressed she made her views on birthing very clear: anyone who has a c-section is not fit to be a mother.

I was very confused because I was born via c-section and so was my oldest. I asked her why does she think so, she said that it was the easy way out and a mother should feel the pain for her baby, be one with the baby, and all that. My partner (their sibling) reminded her that I went through a c-section and SIL said, “well, my point still stands, doesn’t it? No offense (my name) but you are a bit absent in your oldest’s life. Is your career really that worth it?”

Me not being a stay at home mom has been a bit of a heated argument with this family for a while. My mil and a couple of the other sister/brother (it’s a big family) in laws haven’t been okay with it. My partner has no issue with it and either do some of the other in laws, and now she’s brought it up again!

So I told her the truth about her pregnancy: she doesn’t know who the father is. She keeps seeing her ex despite being with her current boyfriend of about 2 years. There’s not special about either one of them but she claims that she “just can’t quit him,” the other guy. Honestly wanted to barf.

She got super angry with me and threw a wooden spoon at me. She then stormed out and I got the brunt of it from the others. It’s still happening in the group chat and my father in law is asking if I could just apologize and get it over with since her due date is happening soon. I’m not that interested in apologizing but if you guys think I am I’ll do it. It’s much better to hear about it from a non family member ######

Response:
 NTA

Do not apologise to her, you told her the truth.

Considering how she likes to vocalise her truths about everyone else, it's only right she hears a few about herself. ######


Prompt: My (16f) sister (22f) keeps taking my clothes and wearing them in front of my friends. This wouldn’t bother me if they weren’t BRAND NEW outfits. That makes it so that when I go to wear the clothes everyone thinks I’m wearing HER clothes. I ended up going to my parents for help because no matter how I react she will not stop raiding my wardrobe. She is constantly telling me all the things she does for me (rides to school, dance class etc.) but I do chores to scrounge together the money to buy decent clothes I like, she has a full time job, doesn’t pay rent and can go buy the clothes SHE wants. I don’t see why she should be entitled to my wardrobe especially when I do all my own shopping. Am I the asshole for involving our parents/ not letting her wear my clothes? ######

Response:
 NTA

did your parents help? usually in posts like this the parents tell you to share with siblings and family first and all that bs

but also stop taking favors from her. she thinks you owe her and is taking matters into her own hands to collect her favor debt. ######


Prompt:
I (18F) sometimes like to lounge around in my house with no bra on if I know I won't be going out anywhere for the day. I actually don't mind wearing bras because I'm small enough to where it doesn't really matter either way, but sometimes I just don't feel like putting one on.

My living room faces the street and has a giant window smack dab in the middle of it, and I was sitting on the couch watching TV. Standard faire. Obviously, you can see me from the window, but it's never been an issue until now.

My neighbor, a middle-aged woman who I've barely ever interacted with, knocks on my door, and when I answer it, she starts berating me that young children live in the neighborhood and that me not wearing a bra is perverted.

Apparently, she had been walking past my house and she saw me stand up to get a snack and noticed my boobs were "flying free" which makes no sense to me because I'm a B cup but okay.

I told her I'd do whatever I want in my own house but now I'm starting to feel like maybe that was wrong of me to do. I'm mostly weirded out that she was looking at me so hard that she noticed I'm not wearing a bra, lol. AITA? ######

Response:
 NTA

Did you warn her that being a peeping tom is illegal? ######


Prompt:
One of my closest male friends is pansexual and his parents are not supportive of that, nor would they be supportive of their male-child wearing makeup. He has expressed to me that he wants to paint his nails and wear eyeliner. I am more than willing to buy/teach him how to use eyeliner, but I feel like it would be bitchy of me to do it without his parents knowing about it. So, Reddit, WIBTA if I bought my friend eyeliner without his parents knowing about it?

Edit 1:
For those asking or planning on asking, I am 14 and my friend is 15.

Edit 2: Typo ######

Response:
 NTA

Depending on how “not supportive” his parents are however, please keep in mind the repercussions that could arise (for him) if his parents find out.  If they are the type of trash that would throw their son out if they find out he’s wearing eyeliner and nail polish, please please help him to find ways to safely experiment and express himself, without risking them finding out.  Telling someone they have to suppress who they are, or finding out who they are, as a teenager just to maintain a roof over their head really, really sucks... but unfortunately, in many cases (the ones where it’s not actively physically or mentally abusive) it’s better than the alternative of being homeless at 15 or 16.

Eyeliner is easy, you keep it at your home and he uses it only when he’s with you / around people that it’s safe with.  It’s easy to remove so no worries there.  For nail polish, with traditional stuff it’s harder to hide.  If hiding it is necessary (and you don’t already have some), look up peel off base coats.  Makes removing nail polish super easy and fast (i.e. his parents show up where you guys are hanging, he can quickly run to the bathroom and remove eyeliner and pop off nail polish without taking so long they get suspicious that he wasn’t just using the bathroom when they arrived.)

Thanks for being his support system when he needs it most!  So many kids in sucky situations don't have that.

Edit: Typo ######


Prompt:
I posted that I have a 10g fishtank set up for sale. I’m moving and can’t bring it with.

Someone contacted me asking if it was still available. I say yes. They say great, they want to use it for a ten year old red slider turtle. I let them know that this tank is way too small for a turtle (the tank is too small for a goldfish to be kept properly honestly) and that I can’t, in good conscious, sell them the tank. They go off on me saying it “isn’t up to me” to decide how they house their turtle. True, but it isn’t up to them who I sell my fishtank to. I sent them a link to a 100 gallon tank for sale for only $75 and went about my day.

((For reference, red sliders usually get to be 12” long. The tank itself is only 18” long, 10” wide. The thing wouldn’t even be able to turn around. The recommended tabk size for a single turtle is 10 gallons per inch of length. A full sized turtle would need at least 120 gallons.))

AITA for refusing to sell this person a fishtank? ######

Response:
 NTA

Definitely not. They’re the major asshole for trying to put a turtle in such a small tanks. Good for you for sticking up for something with no voice! ######


Prompt: I (22M) fought multiple times with my highschool friend (23F) because of her disapproval of ‘the homosexual lifestyle.’ I want this time to be the last, because after years of explaining, she still doesn't seem to want to understand. (We are from and live in North Africa.) She often tells me about the guys she likes, but when I do the same, she says she doesn't want to hear about it. This last time was triggered by an IG story where she says she does not support the LGBT community. I sent her a message saying that I, too, do not support some thoughts and practices (like genital mutilation, imposed religious conformity, and far-right political parties) because they put some people in danger. I contrasted with that what she says is used to put the lives of many people in danger, and often leads to fatalities. She answered saying that she doesn't accept my homosexuality and I don't accept her homophobia. Her reasoning looks flawed to me. Am I the asshole here ? ######

Response:
 NTA

Culture aside, that she can somehow bifurcate "Your homosexuality" from you is...weird.  You are who you are, and coincidentally you are gay.  They are one in the same.  That she apparently approves of you and your friendship with her yet disapproves of an essential part of your being is..weird.  And , would reasonably make it intolerable.. ######


Prompt:
I (33/f) was recently dating a guy (29/m) and spending a lot of time at his house. He lives with his brother (33/m) and his brother's girlfriend, K, (28/f) was there quite often.  She and I had quite a bit in common; the biggest thing being we are both in long term recovery from substance abuse ( I go to NA and she goes to AA).  We found each other and Facebook and had quite a few mutual friends. Over the past few months we've gotten really close and I like this woman a lot.

Well, my ex has been struggling with depression and insecurities and broke up with me on Saturday (which just so happened to be my birthday).  I am not sure if we are getting back together or even if I'm interested in getting back together with him at this point. I'm still very much in my feelings about the break up.

Regardless of my feelings towards my ex, I'd like to remain friends with K.  We shared a lot of silly things such as a shared sense of humor, similar style, vaping, and media taste. The biggest thing however was our recovery. Because of the pandemic in person meetings have been cancelled and we now do meetings over Zoom. So she is the only person in recovery that I've seen since early March and the therapeutic value of one addict helping another is unparalleled. This is in our literature, but I've found it especially true in my life.

I'd like to message her on Facebook and let her know that even though my ex and I are no longer together I'd like to remain friends. Possibly get coffee or hit meetings together when we are able to. I have no plans to say anything disparaging about my ex, because I do think he's a good person and care about him, but that doesn't mean things will work out between us.

I do see where this could make things awkward for a lot of parties involved and wonder if I reach out wibta? ######

Response:
 NTA

Could it get awkward? Sure. But nothing that would make you an A.

For the time being, don't do anything with her and the brother. Also, don't take it personally if she doesn't agree. Respect her boundaries. ######


Prompt:
My wife's uncle is Islamophobic. I'm Muslim and my wife is Hindu. Her uncle has always been very friendly to be but also talked about Muslims are ruining the country and should go back. It is wierd but he doesn't see me as Muslim for some reason. I am one of the good ones, but every other friend isn't.

Recently he posted a Facebook message saying that Muslim men are trying to seduce Hindu girls. Apparently the reason is that Hindu girls don't smoke or drink much and have better organs. So Muslims seduce them and then steal their organs. His Facebook is filled with shit like this.

I replied with " I am glad you think I married 'wife's name' so I can steal her organs". He deleted his post a little while later. Anyway here wife's family think I'm an asshole. Apparently I'm rude and that is just the way he is. My justification is that he has been rude to me consistently and I don't need to consider his feelings any more. Unfortunately my wife is stuck in between.

So AITA? ######

Response:
 NTA

Could ALMOST be an r/murderedbywords ######


Prompt:
I attend a university where community building & bonding is extremely important. Everyone is family in a sense and we just love to have fun and help each other out. We have a ton of orgs on campus, and each org has a GroupMe account, so does most classes as students use them to share answers, asks questions and just talk. These GroupMe’s are also used to wish each other good luck, happy holidays and to campaign for on campus elections. For example, when I pledged my sorority I had several people in my GM chats congratulate me even though we’re not necessarily friends. It’s also not normal for people to wish each other a happy holiday. (Happy founders day, happy thanksgiving, happy St. Patty’s day and so forth)

Well, this past Easter we had an issue where a Muslim student was really upset that people in her GroupMe chats had been wishing each other a happy Easter. She said it was extremely disrespectful to her and her religion and that she would leave each and every chat she was in because of it. Then she went on Instagram to further say that anyone who wished a happy Easter in a chat that she was in was disrespectful and should’ve known better. I was confused because while I am Christian I come from a dominantly Islamic family and I had never heard from any of them even the elders that something like this was an issue. She claims that she doesn’t go in her chat wishing a happy Ramadan or other Muslim holidays so we shouldn’t be wishing each other a happy Easter as it was a slap in the face for her. I really just don’t see it that way though. I know that no one would blink an eye if she was to say happy Ramadan or some other Muslim holiday. I wasn’t upset, just more annoyed with the social media and GroupMe tirade she went on.

AITA for not seeing an issue with wishing people a happy Easter on GroupMe? ######

Response:
 NTA

Coming from an Atheist, I do not see the problem with wishing people a happy easter as presumably a large amount of people in your country observe that holiday, whether that be for religious or non-religious reasons. She is in the minority in this case, but no one is attacking her or preventing her from practicing Islam. ######


Prompt:
I'm (27M) a dad to an amazing 3 year old boy, unluckily he is the result of a ONS with a girl (25F) Julie. For the first 7 months I never even knew he existed. One day I got a message on FB from Julie telling me I had a son, I think I passed out there and then on the spot.

I was living with my parents at the time and we arranged for Julie to come by in the next few days with the baby. I'm not going to lie I didn't do much talking that day I was still in shock. Through my mom and her talking it turns out her parents had pressured her into having the baby and raising it, but Julie just couldn't do it anymore and didn't want the baby anymore. After lots of talking and tears my parents and me made a plan of what to do next, lawyer, DNA test and courts. After all that and few months I end up with full time custody of our son, it wasn't easy but with the help of my parents we coped.

For about a year I had a bit of contact with Julie but she never visited, I'd send pictures when she asked how he was doing, but she gradually stopped messaging as time went on. Me and Julie never had a formal child support payment plan in place, call it ego I just didn't want to go that route and she would give me a little bit for food and diapers when she could. But that dried up when the messaging stopped.

There were times when I messaged Julie if she could help out and she always agreed, but she never came through and then stopped replying to me at all. After months of no contact my parents convinced me that I need to go back to court and get a formal order put in, which is what I did.

This is where the shit hit the fan...I just got a flood of messages from Julie telling me how I'm wrecking her life and not letting her move on, how I'm just as bad as her parents trying to force her to be a mom and how she never wanted to be a mom in the first place. I never pushed her to be a mom to our son, I just think that she needs to help out sometimes. AITA for forcing her to pay? ######

Response:
 NTA

Child support is your son's right. Not yours.

It is time for Julie to do the bear minimum, which is to help pay for her child's upbringing. ######


Prompt:
Sup peeps, hope all of you are doing amazing,

Alright well, few years ago my parents were abusive asf. During high school we had this “ag science “ type of science and one of the requirements of the class was raising some type of farm animal. One of said options was a bunny so I’m like “hey bunnies are cute asf” so I went for the bunny. My parents had always hated animals so, then being them, they let my rabbits outside in 105 degree weather in Cali. (In a tiny 1x3foot cage for 2 fully grown rabbits) they started showing symptoms of having heat strokes but again, they wouldn’t let me bring them in or even touch them. Male bunny eventually died that summer from a heat stroke.

Once I moved out I took my bunny with me and got a dog as well.

Well, parents came to visit etc. they started complaining about just having my pets IN the house “that’s disgusting” “how do you live like this?” I’m like “ they’re trained, clean and healthy.” Mom was like “but the hair.?!” “No that’s disgusting, put them outside”

Back when I lived with them they’re excuse for literally everything was, “my house my rules, the rabbit stays outside” “she’s literally panting hard asf....” “I don’t care, don’t bring that thing in here”

So now my house my rules too I guess and was like “you want them outside? Cool, get the fuck out” she’s like “what?” I’m like “I don’t fucking know how you could ever think I’d pick you over them, you don’t like them? They mean a thousand times more than you do, either live with it or get the fuck out”

Entirely logical in my opinion.

TL;DR: kicked parents out of MY house because they didn’t like them being inside the house ######

Response:
 NTA

Can't have one set of rules at their house and expect everyone else to carry them over. Maybe you were a tad harsh with the language, but sometimes that's the only way to get through people's thick heads. ######


Prompt:
Aita for telling people about a "closed" meeting with management?   I work for a national discount retail chain that we will call amilyfa ollarda.  My mum, who lived in europe, passed away three weeks ago from coronavirus.   Trying to give work advanced notice, I told my manager I would need 2 weeks off to go to europe, arrange and attend her funeral, and settle her estate.
   I was called in the office today and told I could only take 48 hours bereavement leave.   I explained that I can not get there and back in 48 hours.   I was told it was their policy and my job would not be held past that.
   I was upset due to the fact that I've been working hard through this pandemic to help my community, while not being given masks, proper gloves, or much in the way of ppe until the past few days.   And they want to replace me for wanting to bury my mum?
  I was told that I'm an a-hole for telling a few close friends about what was said while I was upset.   Being a fairly new immigrant, I'm unused to certain things in my new home, mainly people's aversion to personal time off.  I spoke to my spouse and a few friends to see if this is common in the us.  Aita? ######

Response:
 NTA

Call your boss’s supervisor; the regional manager.  Tell the situation.  Record the call.

If that person is similarly unreasonable, tell your local community press; give them call recording. ######


Prompt:
Background:So I live in a trailer because of family complications and we have 2 two dogs (Chihuahuas)

My dad was working on the plumbing in the back of the trailer because it's an old model and the plumbing was old so we were replacing it.

We have a little fence in our front yard so the dogs can eat and drink out of a fountain that my dad made that has filtered water going through it and we clean it everyday

We had the dogs out at the time so they could do there thing and my dad went around the front and saw the youngest neighbor that is about 6 years old pouring motor oil into the water and splashing onto them and they were drinking it. My dad grabbed the oil out of his hands and immediately thew it away and we tried to call the vet to see what we could do but it's closed. So we researched and found that if you give them hydrogen peroxide in there mouth they  would throw it up so we did that and they only thew up the hydrogen peroxide and nothing else.

We had to clean out the whole filtration system since the oil had clumps in it. We were worried that our cats might drink it since they like to drink it from the fountain so we locked them in since we already had a litter box and everything.

We went to talk to the mother about this and she said she told them to do it since we had called the cops on them for a previous incident.

We threatened to called the cops on them since we were really pissed but I have to ask WIBTA if I called the cops on the mom? ######

Response:
 NTA

CALL THE COPS IMMEDIATELY, it's violence on animals, and FFS, get a restraining order... my gosh the nerve of some people... ######


Prompt:
I, f13, have a 29 year old step mom after my dad cheated on my bio mom and impregnated her. He cheated because of selfish and personal reasons involving me. They now have 5 kids together, Alyviya, who's 9, Madden and Maverick, 7, Alaiya, 5, and Maxx, 4. My mom also has remarried, but I get along with my step dad and his kid. Because of some messed up custody, I spend the school year with my dad and the summer with my mom. I mostly keep to myself, study, and just kinda drift along. My dad and his wife are fine with ignoring me, and it works out fine. They have their kids and their worries, and I'm not one of them.  Anyway,  a couple  nights ago they told me that dad's wife's cousin had passed away and that they would be leaving to a closeby state. I thought they were going that least take the older ones, but no. I have to take care of five kids under 10.  My dad hit me with the usual stupid crap about how they're my siblings and how I'm obliged to take care of them, with wife nodding stupidly along. Then, they just leave. No instructions or anything. I just gave them a refried dinner and let them watxh TV until about 9, told them to go to bed, ad that was it. They refused, of course. I gave up at one point.  At noon, I'm exhausted and I figured that they were just late or stuck in traffic. By 6, I was feeling murderous and checked their vacation. They're halfway across the country at a known vacation spot. I text them, and they just give a little lie and stop answering. When I threatened to call 911 for child neglect, they came back and refused to talk to me for "ruining their vacation." There were some choice words exchanged, and basically I told them I wanted to move to my mom's full time. So, reddit, AITA?

Sorry for format, on mobile

TL;DR - dad and stepmom left me with their five kids under ten because they said they  had to go to a funeral, when instead they were halfway across the country on vacation. ######

Response:
 NTA

Call and make a report to CPS.  This is neglect.

Also, call your Mom and have her come get you.  Immediately. ######


Prompt:
So my youngest SIL and BIL, husband's brother, moved into my MIL's house after my FIL died. We thought it was a good idea at first.
She'd have help around the house and yard.

Except that's not what happened.

My MIL cooks for them, washes their clothes and dishes. My husband goes over to mow the yard and do yard work.

So, 3 times a week(pre-covid),I'd take  my MIL out. We'd spend most of the day together. My sister in law HATES these days and always tries to get mom to stay.

She needs help with her 3 children after all. They are all still in diapers and she hates leaving them in dirty ones for so long. She refuses to change diapers.

So, I've intentionally put my sister in law out to give mom a break. I also make a point that mom isn't her maid every time I go over ######

Response:
 NTA

By the way, came over here from your other post about the wedding dress, and I gotta say, this just made me hate SIL more.

She’s got three kids and acts this way?? Lord help those kids. Bless that MIL for putting up with this, but she really doesn’t have to, and she shouldn’t just allow this to happen. I know it’s a delicate situation, being the in-law family, but I’d absolutely hold an intervention over this and try to get MIL to make some ultimatums to set for SIL. This is not okay. ######


Prompt:
A few years back, when I was 17, my husband  was 22 and our friend was 24 (I'll call our friend Hannah and husband David, just to avoid confusion these are fake names, we obviously weren't married at this point and had only just started dating)

Hannah and David worked together as cashiers, they grew close and I considered Hannah a friend, not a close friend but someone I could trust.

Everyone moved on in life, we both got  jobs we were both happy in and eventually moved a while away.

It's been 12 years, 2 years ago we were still seeing  Hannah every so often and my husband is still in contact with her - but it was so much more low contact, they saw each other maybe every few weekends but I trust my husband and Hannah.

Well about 7 months ago David told me he offered to start babysitting for her, we had a 2month old at that point that my husband barely looked after so I assumed it was an empty promise.

The baby is here basically every day, I work from home but my husband is currently working - does this mean hes looking after both children? Nope! I'm expected to do everything and work still.

He brings Hannah home cooked meals because she is an essential worker and is tired, it would be decent if he cooked them himself but nope I cook them, he doesnt even cook for me! (Wait, no correction he made me toast for breakfast this morning)

I've told him it has to stop, we are expecting again and I need him to care for OUR children.

He accused me of being controlling and overdramatic since Hannah is a friend , insensitive because she works "more" than I do - how is that comparable? He can look after 3 children and if he wants to do that he can.

Well, my friends agree that maybe I'm letting my pregnancy hormones get in the way and its showing in a lack of trust in David and he has the right to be upset.

AITA? ######

Response:
 NTA

But, this marriage needs to end soon for two reasons. First so you can find someone who supports and loves you. Second , so he can be with Hannah and she can put up with his bullshit. ######


Prompt:
**(I doubt it matters, but this isn't a personal situation. This is my friend's and she asked me to create this since she doesn't have a Reddit and has no interest in one.)**

My son and DIL announced their pregnancy on Mother's Day when she was only a few weeks along. Last week, they went to an appointment only to discover there wasn't a heartbeat. Both my son and DIL were devastated. My DIL's dream is to become a mother, so I can only imagine how much this shook her.

My husband accepted the news pretty quickly. My son is steadily recovering. My DIL is very withdrawn now, but I try to be there whenever she wants/needs someone.

My daughter (29 and childfree) and I were discussing it a few hours ago.  She was pressing for DIL to keep trying and not wait. I explained to her in some cases it's safer to wait and DIL is allowed to grieve as long as she needs, because she in fact had a connection with the child. My daughter sort of blew this off. She kept insisting they need to get back on that horse. She finished with, if she ever had a miscarriage, she would try right away, but that's just because she's headstrong and tough.

I was fuming at her at this point. I told her she's being disgusting, foul and a disrespect b word and while I hope she never endures that, if she has a miscarriage she'll learn quickly it's not something you get over because you're 'headstrong'. She left in tears. I was harsh and maybe more mad at myself for rising someone who could say such horrible things, but I don't think I was over the line. My husband things otherwise. AITA? ######

Response:
 Nta

But your daughter is for judging how someone grieves. ######


Prompt:
Right now, I am the only one who works, albeit from home, but I workover 40 hours a week. My husband is laid off, and we have a 3.5 year old.

BACK STORY: Prior to all of this 3 months ago, my husband was a couch sleeper. He is the type that just falls asleep easy. So 6 days out of 7 I would be the one getting up with our daughter every night, and we take turns with putting her to bed.

Now that I am the only one who works, I told him that he should be getting up with her most nights, because I get up in the AM, and also sleeping downstairs would allow our kid not to wake up to my alarm, and I wouldn't have to wake him up in the AM when I came downstairs to have coffee and start work.

He didnt like that, and thought it is only fair to split nights. Funny he thought it was fair before he was laid, that I got up with her every night.

They sleep in till 8-9am every day.

Now yesterday my dog tried to lunge at another dog going in our driveway and when I pulled her back, I somehow screwed up my back. Can barely walk. It was my night on the couch last night but he didnt want to go to bed so he was downstairs till 1am playing is video games so I didnt fall asleep till after 1am. I would have went upstairs but being in pain, I couldnt. I also had a crappy nights sleep.

So this morning, my daughter woke up at 8am and he told her to leave him and wake me up. I took her and hobbled upstairs and got into bed with him. He got mad that I woke him up, and that I was trying to lay back down. He started yelling at me.

I told him it was 830am, not 630am, and I work all week and so I deserve to be able to sleep in, since they both sleep in every day, and my back hurts and I had a crappy nights sleep.

He isn't speaking to me

AITA? ######

Response:
 NTA

But you already know that.  "He didnt like that, and thought it is only fair to split nights. Funny he thought it was fair before he was laid, that I got up with her every night."

Tell him it's his turn to pull his weight parenting. And tell him it's not okay for him to keep you up because he wants to play video games. ######


Prompt:
I (17m) am the oldest son in my family. I have 4 younger siblings (14f, 8f, 5m and 2f). My mom expects me to watch my siblings when she isn't home. Needless to say, I'm tired of it. I never get to go to parties. Neither do I get to hang out with my friends. In fact, I hardly ever have time for myself. Last time I went on a date with my girlfriend and came home late, my mom got mad at me because I didn't change my youngest sister's diapers.

Today, my mom announced she's going to have another child. It's not that I don't want her to have a child, but I really don't want to watch another sibling. When I told my mom I'm tired of being a "babysitter" and that I won't watch her children, she called me selfish and an asshole for not being happy for her.

My aunt and grandma agrees with me but my dad said I was wrong and that I should be happy for him and my mom. My mom said I "hurt her feelings" and that she's disappointed in me.

But I said it's not my responsibility to watch her children.

That said, AITA? ######

Response:
 NTA

BUT what the fuck is her plan for when you move out? ######


Prompt:
I (18F) sometimes like to lounge around in my house with no bra on if I know I won't be going out anywhere for the day. I actually don't mind wearing bras because I'm small enough to where it doesn't really matter either way, but sometimes I just don't feel like putting one on.

My living room faces the street and has a giant window smack dab in the middle of it, and I was sitting on the couch watching TV. Standard faire. Obviously, you can see me from the window, but it's never been an issue until now.

My neighbor, a middle-aged woman who I've barely ever interacted with, knocks on my door, and when I answer it, she starts berating me that young children live in the neighborhood and that me not wearing a bra is perverted.

Apparently, she had been walking past my house and she saw me stand up to get a snack and noticed my boobs were "flying free" which makes no sense to me because I'm a B cup but okay.

I told her I'd do whatever I want in my own house but now I'm starting to feel like maybe that was wrong of me to do. I'm mostly weirded out that she was looking at me so hard that she noticed I'm not wearing a bra, lol. AITA? ######

Response:
 NTA

But this woman is creepy.

Unless you're conveniently leaving out that you were topless as well as braless. ######


Prompt:
My(F25) boyfriend (M33)  and I have been together for about two months. Prior to that though, we had been together for 3 years, broke up, and got back together after a year.

We live across the county from our family. Last year, him and I actually moved here together. After a month of living together we broke up, he went home back across the country... and I stayed here. We were still exes when he decided to move back here after 7ish months, he got a job and moved back. I urged him not to, but he did anyway.

So shortly after he moved back we started hanging out and are back in a relationship. I’m still living in the place that me and him initially moved into... it’s a great house, albeit, further away from work. He lives 20 minutes away and has for the winter. Just like almost everyone in our area, he’s lost his job. I am very grateful to still have one.

His lease is up this coming month, and a couple months ago we talked about him possibly moving back with me. After a couple weeks of thinking about it, I absolutely panicked. I value my alone time in my space and I freaked out at the idea of a SO living with me sooner than later. I let him know with adequate time for him how I felt and my decision. He was very sad. Sad at me, I felt like. Sad at my decision.

He has still not looked for a place to live, and he only has a couple more weeks at the place he lives at now. I guess we have different outlooks on this because I would have probably started looking for housing a month ago.

I don’t know if he’s relying on me to change my mind, or what is going on.

I can’t lie I feel like a total piece of shit, please tell me if I’m an asshole or not. ######

Response:
 NTA

but this is probably going to end the relationship. ######


Prompt:
I (36M) have a 17 year old son, “Trent.” He’s a really kind and bright kid, but he’s been making some bad choices this year. Last fall, he got ISS for smoking a blunt with his friend in the schools’ maintenance shed. They apparently broke in, damaging the door.

Now, my son has a used Sentra that I bought for him. He pays a little bit towards the insurance and gas, and he takes it to school in the mornings. Back in late February before the lockdown, I was cleaning out my car and decided to vacuum his too. I found a large bag of weed and some gummies in his truck under some dirty clothes. There was also a pipe.

I was pretty pissed, and I disposed of them and took back his car until I could trust him again. He kicked up a fuss about getting to school, but I told him to walk. The school is only two miles and my state has mild winters.

Well, the virus shut down his school soon after, so he only really walked to school for a couple times. I told him I’d consider giving the car back once life resumes, but if i find drugs again, I’m calling the police and considering an inpatient facility.

AITA? Some might say I was too harsh, but I just want my son to be safe. I got his mom pregnant when we were 18, and I want him to have a chance at a better life then I had. ######

Response:
 NTA

But the idea of inpatient treatment for weed is hilarious. ######


Prompt:
I (F) and my Bf (M) have been dating for a year and a half and he’s had this female bestfriend for a few years now, her and I have hung out and we’ve been to each other’s houses before, I trusted her with my issues and as did she.

On April 10th 2020 she sent my boyfriend a long letter confessing her love for him that she’s had for years and neither of them wanted to tell me or let me see the letter, I have since seen it and know about this.

He has had feelings for her in the past and they’ve gotten closer since the letter and cuddle when they’re alone.

I’ve expressed my feelings on this matter and he always says it’s not a big deal and that I need to get over myself and he leaves me all the time for her and has secret calls with her.

AITA for wanting him to stop talking to her, I feel extremely uncomfortable with her being alone with him and I’m constantly worried somethings going to happen. I also don’t believe I can stay with him much longer if they continue as friends ######

Response:
 NTA

But sweet girl, you're being played. You can fight this, all you want, and I totally get being in love and wanting to fight for the relationship. However, this is going to happen, no matter what you do.

He got a love letter from someone else, and as a result he decided to get *closer* to that person. The writing's on the wall. He keeps you on the back burner, while he's "testing the waters" with his friend.

The question is just how much pain you wanna go through before you decide to cut your losses. From one internet stranger to another: you deserve better. ######


Prompt:
Recently I've been having trouble sleeping. I only get around 3-4 hours of sleep a night. I think it's because of stress from work, Corona, and a ton of other stuff going on right now. My wife on the other hand is sleeping 10 hours a day.

Because of this I'm up when she's sleeping and she is constantly telling me I'm making noise when I'm not. At first she was texting me saying needed to turn the volume down on the TV or my phone and I would. Soon I figured that I shouldn't use electronics while she's sleeping and stopped, but she still kept texting me. I told her I had turned electronics off and she said I was lying.

A few days ago she came into the living room yelling that I wasn't responding to her texts and that I needed to turn the volume on my phone down. I informed her that my phone had died and was currently charging. She accused me of gas lighting her even after I showed her the phone off and charging at less than 5% battery life.

Tonight I started getting texts again saying I was listening to music on my phone too loud. I told her she was lying and that she couldn't hear anything. She started saying that I was an asshole and I was has lighting her and that she knew I was listening to music on my phone. I told her that I was indeed listening to music on my phone, and I had it at full volume. I'm only saying that she couldn't hear it.

She went on for probably 4 or 5 more texts before I sent her a pin of my location 4 miles away and said, "I'm on a late night run through the park. You cannot hear my music."

She says I'm the AH for letting her go on for so long without telling her how I knew she couldn't hear it and that I was only trying to embarrass her. I say that it was necessary for her to finally see the problem and stop.

I'll leave it to you guys. AITA? ######

Response:
 NTA

But she is either being an asshole here or she is having auditory hallucinations. You should talk to her and if she honestly was hearing stuff while you weren't even around it may be time to go see a doctor. ######


Prompt:
My daughter and I are on the same medication, same dosage. We take it at the same time every day (early afternoon) because of side effects. She is too young to carry it with her or remember to take it herself, so I carry it.

I don't particularly enjoy carrying a purse, so on days when I know we will be out when it's time to take meds, I will just bring one of the bottles (because I can fit one in my pocket comfortably), either mine or hers. I then add an extra pill from the other bottle when I get home to keep them even.

However, when I went to drop off my daughter at her dad's house, I accidentally brought the pill bottle with my name on it instead of hers. I told him that he could just use mine, no big deal, and that we both take pills from either bottle because again, it's the exact same medication and the exact same dosage. I would understand if he wasn't comfortable using my pill bottle because it isn't technically her prescription, but he lost it at me and accused me of stealing her meds and shuffling pills around to hide it. He thinks there is more of a risk for me to give her the wrong dose because I'm not keeping the pills separate. I think he's being ridiculous. One pill is one pill coming from either prescription bottle. I'm not going to somehow give her extra pills. Am I the asshole for having this system and for continuing with it because it makes my life easier? ######

Response:
 NTa

BUT on a side note, I would make sure you always take her bottle. Not because of mixing stuff up but because if there is any kind of emergency and your husband has to take medication with her to the hospital then having your bottle would be a big problem. ######


Prompt:
Okay I know this sounds really gross, but she says its 100% normal for programmers, and gamers to have.

She has these large tea bottles, that she presses against her urethra, and pees into instead of going to the bathroom.

She leaves these on desks, and I think its disgusting, I told her to stop it but she just wont listen.

She says shes an adult and she can pee where ever she wants.

I told her its my apartment, and she is forbidden from having these jugs.

AITA? ######

Response:
 NTA

But more importantly OP, this sounds like a mental disorder. This behavior is beyond extreme. ######


Prompt:
My wife and I have never really gotten along with our neighbors on one side of us.

My wife says the origin story is that when they came to our housewarming, I was cold to them and didn’t chat enough (in my defense I was with like ten people playing a board game).

Anyway, there is no fence between our yards and their dog constantly poops in my yard. I like dogs, but the biggest reason I don’t own one is because of the cleanup.

So I would mow the lawn, and gently kick the poop into their yard as I went. I thought this was a fair compromise between cleaning it for them and doing something silly like putting on their doorstep.

Because of this, we heard them loudly shit talking us with another neighbor right in our backyard. I was the bad guy for kicking the poo over.

One morning I was driving to work with my wife and baby son in the dark. All of a sudden, again, in the dark, the neighbor comes flying from the sidewalk into the street with his dog and yells “SLOWWW DOWWWN.”

Last winter I saw that his car was stuck in the driveway. I put on my snow gear and asked if he needed a push. He just said “nope” and kept revving his engine. Ok.

There’s more but this post is already getting long.

So fast forward to today, we get a used playset with a slide, swings etc. Now all the sudden they are in the backyard with their toddlers near our yard and saying “no we can’t go on there,” etc.

We basically haven’t spoken in six years since we lived here. We never see them in the yard just playing like that.

My wife thinks we should let their toddlers play on there, because they are just kids.

This guy has been a real jerk to me for six years, I know it’s not the kids fault but I just feel like there needs to be an apology or olive branch from their end as opposed to pretending it didn’t happen.

AITA for not inviting the kids? ######

Response:
 NTA

but if you don’t have a fence, what’s stopping them from playing in it when you’re not looking? these neighbours seem like the type to just wait until you’re not home and let their kids do whatever they want ######


Prompt: My younger sister has been assigned loads of school work, one of the subjects being art. They have her do drawings then colour them in. Now she doesn’t have any of her own markers, so she uses mine that I got for christmas. I wouldn’t mind if they were cheap Crayola Markers, but these ones are expensive, especially the skin tone ones that are a good 35$. And it’s not like shes been using them for small assignments, she uses them for drawings on a much larger scale. If it was once or twice I wouldn’t mind, but she’s been using them constantly and some of them are starting to dry out. I keep telling her to stop using them as they are my markers. She tells me that markers are meant to be used that I barely use them. I tell her that it’s none of her business how often I use them and that they are meant to be used by me. She will not budge with her, “they are meant to be used“ excuse and refuses to stop using them or acknowledge that they still belong to me. Now she’s all huffy at me because of it. Most people have sided with me but a few have said I’m in the wrong. Am I the A-hole for not letting her use my expensive markers for her constant art assignments? ######

Response:
 NTA

But can't you/your parents get her some cheap ones? Then she won't need yours. ######


Prompt:
My 16 year old son got a tattoo without telling me. I saw it accidentally few days ago. He told me he got it an year ago.

 I was pretty mad. Not because of the tattoo itself necessarily. It’s a small one that says “I met him by chance”. He told me that it was lyrics of the song he likes. I’m mad that he didn’t ask me about it and got it secretly. I told him that if he asked, I’d think about it and maybe I’d let him get it, but since he went behind my back he’d face the consequences now.

He was supposed to meet up with his friends and have a sleepover(Lockdown is starting to lift slowly where we live)I told him he couldn’t do it anymore and he’d have to put it off for now. He was absolutely pissed. He’s completely ignoring me now. His brother(19) thinks that I’m being too harsh and it’s not that big of a deal. ######

Response:
 NTA

But be mad because he got a tattoo done under age and that any place he could have gone to is not a reputable tattoo place. If he's not getting his tattoos done by reputable people who will do a good and safe job then he's not old enough or mature enough to get tattoos. ######


Prompt:
She decided to put away a bottle of edibles in the pantry, then they somehow were moved to the dinner table. It's a pastel pink colored bottle. The kids could easily mistake them for candy. I have pre teens and 2 younger kids.

My one year old was able to open the bottle with ease. Thankfully none of the kids consumed any.

I yelled at her quite harshly because I'm exhausted from work all week and am very irritable when sleepy. I told her they need to be in the medicine cabinet or somewhere more secure. You don't just leave any kind of drug just accessible to kids.

She's now mad at me for yelling at her....... Simple as that. ######

Response:
 NTA

But also please note that "flipping out" on your spouse in front of your children being potentially traumatizing (or at least just scary and not good) and your spouse making a scary choice that needed to be bluntly addressed can both be true at the same time.

Still NTA vote instead of everyone shitty because I think it's unfortunate but true that safety issues can make is behave in ways we wouldn't normally. ######


Prompt:
I'm 21 and he is 26; however, I am much further into my professional career than he is. He wanted to move it of our mothers house at the beginning of this year so I let him move in with me. The deal was he's give me 150 every check to help with rent and food and I'd cover everything else. We also said that he should be saving atleast half of the rest of his money every month so that he can get a place if his own soon.
In the last few months, he started paying me less and this month he didn't give me anything despite the fact that he is still working. He told me that since I work from home I should just work more hours and get paid more.

Yesterday, several packages came to the door for him that all together cost about $300 dollars. I told him that if he could afford to pay that he can afford a studio apartment and kicked him out.

He called our mom and she is telling me I should let him come back because he doesn't know how to be smart with money yet so we need to be patient with him.

In my opinion, he should've learned how to be smart with money a long time ago

AITA? ######

Response:
 NTA

Best way he can learn to be smart with money is to actually need to be smart with it. ######


Prompt:
I am an atheist and my last roommate was a devout muslim. She used to be very regular with her prayers and practices and was a pleasant person to be around overall. I never interfered with her religious beliefs, and in fact, used to co-operate with her to assist her with it, eg I took down the poster of an actor near my table, since she said she couldn’t have that in the direction and same room she prayed, fasting along with her (i just did it for health reasons/fun), going with her to festival celebration events etc.
Things were fine for a while, but few months she started to berate my lifestyle as an atheist and started saying how much more meaningful life as a religious person is. May be she misunderstood my involvement with her to my interest in her religion, but she seemed to always bring the conversation to why being religious, and particularly muslim is the right way of life. Eg, getting upset if I drink, or commenting on how my dress one time was too short, or how ‘good and virtuous women’ should be covered up, or how I’m stupid to be an atheist. I guess she said all of that frankly when we were better friends. She made me grudgingly watch the movie ‘the message’ and I sat through it, and tried to ‘preach’ how good it was. Basically this preaching became a regular thing, even though I never has asked for it.
So one time when I got fed up of the religion talks, I told her off saying “ I don’t care about your religion and what it stands for, I chose to be an atheist and I don’t want you to tell how good your religion is because frankly I think all religions are baseless and so is yours. So please back off”. She seems to think my anger was misplaced and comments on her religion was uncalled for.
Since then she moved out after a few cold days, and has been telling people that I’m islamophobic. AITA? ######

Response:
 NTA

Atheism is the belief in no God. Meaning that by trashing you for being an atheist, she is trashing your beliefs. At that point, it's fair game for you to trash her beliefs if you want. There was certainly a better way you could've said that to her, but she can't be mad when she's done the same thing to you. ######


Prompt:
This is so stupid I know, but here it goes. Background: I (27F) have wanted to get matching tattoos with my husband (33M) for years. We have been together for 9 years now. Not like each other’s names or anything crazy, but something that symbolizes our relationship. Every idea I’ve had he’s shot down, and he hasn’t put forth any ideas.

Fast forward to today, when he says that he wants to get a tattoo of a rubber duck with 2 guys that he works with. I’m sure it’s an inside joke or something. One of the guys he has known less than a year, and the other he’s worked with for a few years. So it’s not like they’re best friends or anything.

I told him it bothered me that I’ve been trying to plan a tattoo with him for years, but he decides at the drop of a hat he wants to get a random tattoo with 2 guys he really doesn’t know all that well. He got mad and said I “just don’t understand”, which apparently he’s right because I don’t. Admittedly I feel a bit left out, almost jealous.

I know that it his body, he is an adult and it is his choice. I’m not trying to tell him not to get a tattoo with them, or to force him to get just any tattoo with me. That’s ridiculous. I just wonder if I’m making something out of nothing here. AITA? ######

Response:
 NTA

At this point, it's not about the physical tattoo itself. It's about the principle of leading someone on about an idea they're actually passionate about. It's even worse because you're his wife and you'd expect that he'd at least be able to communicate with you if he didn't want to do the tattoo idea with you.

He doesn't sound very empathetic about how you feel to be left out of an idea that you've asked for, for so long, that he's instead executing with some people he pretty much just met. ######


Prompt:
i am a f15 and they just asked me and hour before we were meant to go.
i don’t have plans but i just finished my second week back at school and i’m exhausted- i feel bad for not wanting to do it as “ i have nothing better to do” but that’s kinda the point..
they were not planning to pay me either.
i’m not even good with kids, they just expect me to do it because i’m old enough. ######

Response:
 NTA

Asking that way is super shitty because it makes it very hard for you to say no. You are never obligated to babysit for someone you don't want to. And you s shouldn't do work for someone that's not going to pay you.

Just say no. No explanation given. No, I do not 2wnt to babysit your kids.

They're being cheap assholes. ######


Prompt:
This is my first post on this sub, however, I'm kinda nervous about posting this, since I do know that some friends have reddit and may rat me out if they ever find this...

Anyway, today is the beginning of July, meaning that my birthday falls this month. I had everything planned out for my birthday party: dates, events (which can still work out since restrictions are at ease) and most importantly, guests.

I wanted to invite a specific group of people as they are my close friends and they have been there for me for years. But do you ever have that friend that wants to go to every outing you go to and ask why they aren't invited? Those people irk me...

One of my friends found out that my birthday was this month and asked if we were going out for drinks. I told him that he wasn't invited since everything was all planned out. Other than him not being close to me, he wants me to get super drunk one night to the point where I can't walk and my liver gets fucked and perhaps want me to embarrass myself in public.

I was pretty straightforward with telling him that he wasn't one of my guests. However, other friends just ganged up against me saying that I'm dogging them.

I just felt that it is my party and I can invite who I'd like to. I just want it to be a chill party with a small group of friends and I could perhaps have a drink or two and not something super rowdy with a large group where I just can't walk the next day.

Kind of feel like the asshole, but I feel that Reddit should debate this based on my situation...

TLDR: Planned a party, friend finds out about birthday, told him that he wasn't invited, other friends accused me of "dogging the boys" ######

Response:
 NTA

As you said, it‘s your party and you decide who to invite. Also, you said that the two of you aren‘t close, plus the fact that he said he wants you to do stuff that embarasses you when drunk is a massive no go. ######


Prompt:
I'll try to keep this short. Me and my long-time girlfriend live together in Florida. My girlfriend is Irish and I am American. I normally fly an American flag in our lawn because I think it looks nice and ties the house together with a dash of 'murican patriotism. Sometimes I fly the Irish flag below the American flag.

I'm not trying to politicize this post so suffice it to say that recent events have prompted me to think it was a good idea to maybe just fly the Irish flag for a little while. So I did, Irish flag goes up and our neighbor from a few houses down knocks on our door in the late afternoon. He inquires about the lack of American flag on my pole and tell him I just feel a little bit Irish today, trying to keep things lighthearted.

We've had a few minor run-ins before. He's made some questionable comments about having a threesome since me and my girlfriend are both women and we've used the non-emergency line a few times on him when he gets drunk and starts hollering and making a racket in the wee hours of the morning. Minor mutual dislike on both ends here.

Bob (neighbor) tells me that it's disrespectful to fly any other flag on the top of the staff other than the American flag while on American soil. I tell him that this is my property and any flag I like will fly on the top of the staff whilst on my soil. He huffs away. Our neighborhood is nosy so I got 2 other visits from neighbors that day. One lady who accused me of being "insubordinate" and fake-politely asking me to put the American flag back up and one of my friends who decided to come over and tell me how me and my girlfriend were essentially the juicy new gossip. Fantastic.

Honestly I think this is all pretty stupid and I'm surprised it's become as big of a deal as it has. I suspect that our neighbors are getting bored. Obviously me and my girlfriend have one view of the situation but I'm curious to know what Reddit thinks about all this. AITA? ######

Response:
 NTA

As long as you aren’t flying something like a nazi flag I don’t see what it matters what’s on your flag pole in your yard on your property. ######


Prompt:
I'm (m35) close best friends/ soul mates with this guy (M39), and we live together. We've both been friends since i was 17 and he was 22. We meet in a book club when i was in high school.

We moved in because of not many houses being avalibale and i though it was awesome to move in with my best friend. We share a bed and sometimes fuck because we both have a high libdio and have a connection. And since hes at home now, we fuck like 5 days a week and its amazing lol.He takes care of me and works a office job and i'm currently unemployed so i cook for him and do laundry etc. He treats me like a prince and protects me. He's gay, and i don't give a shit but like being taken care of. I love that i can live with my best friend, and don't have to live alone.

He has health issues (asthma, and heart disease runs in his family) and is overweight and i didn't want anything to happen to him so about a month ago we got "married" (just went to the courthouse, no wedding.) so can get my health insurance if he gets sick or i die.

I don't talk to my family, since they don't like me. I'm a athiest stoner, and the oldest son in family. My family are all italian catholics, and want me to marry a girl from another family i don't know.

one day he was going to pay the taxes before everything closes down, and i smoked a little to relax. My mother calls me, and starts talking about how i should i be thinking about babies and marriage since we're all die soon.

She doesn't know about me and his "marriage" or "relationship", and i don't want her to know.

But since i was high, i was very relaxed and stopped thinking it was my mom talking. I told her about that i got "married", and she became furious. She started talking about it's wrong or whatever. Now they won't let me talk to my lil brothers or cousins.

AITA for "marrying" my best friend? ######

Response:
 NTA

Are you sure married should be in ""? Sounds like you got a pretty good relationship. ######


Prompt:
My friend was ranting to me about his tinder experience to me, how no one responds to his messages, how his he has been ghosted in the past, women on the app only swipe right on super hot guys, etc. He is generally a laid back person so I was taken aback. I said that he displaying some incel-esque tendencies and should rethink and take better pics. He called me douche and said he could trust me.

He posted this on friend group chat and now people are calling me out. "broke the bro code", "check my privilege" amoung other messages. People are saying that he was just ranting about tinder and took it too far. According to me, my friend was blaming his lack of success on "shallow tinder girls".

Aita? ######

Response:
 NTA

App dating is a numbers game, and frankly he's picked the worse one, outside of Grindr for gender representation. It's something like for every 10 or 20 profiles that are men, there's one woman.

So yeah, women can be a lot more picky on tinder. If he wants better odds he should opt for a different one that's not primarily used for hookups. Or he better improve his profile to stand out more. ######


Prompt:
My SIL and I do not get along. Weeks prior to the wedding, I told her that she shouldn't do anything to mess up my day. My wedding has already been downsized and I'm not having it with her and her actions.

My wedding comes, I walk down the "aisle" and lo and behold, she is wearing the whitest dress I have ever seen. It's whiter than my own.

I reach the end, my family joins around me to take photos. I grab my brother and have my SIL get kicked out of the photoshoot. I made sure she isn't in any of my wedding photos.

She started crying. My other brother comes to her defense. I know for a fact she has other dresses. She claims none of them were formal enough. I would have rather her come in a halter dress than a white dress. It was dilberate and I was having none of it.

My mother said I was too harsh. Honestly, if it were up to me, she wouldn't have come to the wedding at all. My husband agrees, he knows how much of pain SIL is. The rest of my family just kept silent thank God.

Note: My family and I decided to hold my wedding at our house instead of postponing it. In my country, it's not unusual for the whole extended family to live together so we thought it was practical to just hold the wedding at home since most of the family is there. ######

Response:
 NTA

Any woman wearing white to a wedding is automatically the asshole. It's a thing. It has been for ages.

She had time to get another dress if she needed to, so she CHOSE to wear this specifically.

(EDIT: Any woman except the bride/if it's been agreed on beforehand) ######


Prompt:
Title is pretty self explanatory.

He works with men 90% of the time, but sometimes their wives come out to the property, and then he has a social worker that visits 1-2x a week, as it is an inpatient facility he works at- and she comes to do work ups on some of the patients.

Anyway- several months ago I asked about the SW. His words were “she’s fat and not attractive at all. You have nothing to worry about.”

Lo and behold, we run into this gal at the store a couple of weeks ago. She’s drop dead gorgeous, her body is a 10, and she has an infectious smile. Does he introduce me? Nope.

So after I throw a pregnant bitch fit, I finally shut up. He tells me that they’re never in his office alone, people are always around, blah blah blah.

So here we are- and he has another broad hitting him up with “time flies when you’re having fun” messages online, kissy winky faces, you name it. Once again- I ask about her.

“Oh- she’s XYZ’s wife. Nothing to worry about.”

I am firm in the belief that if you don’t set boundaries with someone- that they will try to push the line, more times than not.

It’s been 2 days, and I’m still upset. I’m pregnant, and getting bigger by the day. He blames it on my hormones, and I blame it on the fact that he won’t set any fucking boundaries in his work life, which in my mind will eventually lead to an affair- emotional or physical.

That being said- AITA for wanting him to set boundaries with these women and remind them that he is in fact- very married? ######

Response:
 NTA

And this is very telling to me:

>several months ago I asked about the SW. His words were “she’s fat and not attractive at all. You have nothing to worry about.”

If the first thing out of his mouth is "you have nothing to worry about," then you should probably start worrying.  It's like when you call your kid's name, and the first words out of their mouth are, "I didn't do it!" ######


Prompt:
My roommate got pregnant and asked me to move out so her bf could move in and they could turn my bedroom into a nursery for the baby.

That made sense to me and I had absolutely no problem moving out. My paychecks have been a little unstable anyway, so I had been using my savings to pay rent. So ending the lease early was actually really helpful for me so I can build up my savings again.

I thought I would just go live at parents house for awhile. They are staying at another house they have in different part of the country. They’ve said I can stay there for free as long as I take care of the place and do all the basic upkeep.

The plan was that I would officially move out at the end of this month.

Two weeks ago though my  roommate and her boyfriend got into a big fight and broke up. I don’t know the details. I just know that he doesn’t want to live here with her anymore.

After that my roommate asked If I wanted to stay. I said no because with a baby around the corner (her due date is in early July) I don’t think it will be a pleasant living situation. So since then she has been trying to get a new roommate by posting all over online, but so far no one contacted her about it.

Earlier today she came up to me very seriously and sort of pleaded with me to stay. She said she hasn’t been able to find anyone interested in moving in and she won’t be able to afford rent next month unless someone moves in and doesn’t know what else to do.

I totally get she is in a very tough and scary position now and I do feel sorry for her, but staying at my parents just makes more financial sense for me. It would only hurt me financially to continue to stay here and pay rent. ######

Response:
 NTA

and keep in mind, if you decided to stay for her, in 3 weeks she could turn around and tell you "hey we made up and I need you out of here so we can start our family". ######


Prompt:
Long story short, I recently won a considerable amount of money from a $20 scratch ticket. As I don’t want to give away my identity, I won’t say how much but its enough for my girlfriend and I to quit our jobs and pay down all our debts which includes a hefty mortgage.

Initially i wanted to keep this a secret since i know how winning a large sum of money can potentially ruin families and relationships through greed and jealousy.. but after speaking with my girlfriend, she convinced me to tell my parents since they were old and have always struggled with money. Not because they don’t earn enough (they own a thriving pizza business, well not so much with COVID recently) but because they have crazy spending habits.

So yesterday, i called them and i told them that i had won a large amount of money and  could pay for all their future expenses and even pay for them to travel which they love doing.

In that call, I made it clear to them to not tell anyone. Not even family. I didn’t plan to live lavishly so i thought i could keep it a secret.
Well, long story short, they told my entire extended family which includes my two brothers brothers, one sister, and 6 nieces and nephews. Everyone wants a piece of my money now. Somehow word even got around to one of my old high school friends and he asked me if i could loan him some cash to pay rent and that he’d “hit me up next month fo sho”.

I called my parents and i blew up at them. I told them i wouldn’t be paying for any of their expenses and they could say goodbye to any vacation plans. In my view, if i buy them something, everyone will expect that of me and so the only solution is to not buy anything for anyone.

Everyone says i’m a greedy asshole. ######

Response:
 NTA

And a funfact I learned on Youtube: Being open on winning the lottery increases your chances to get murdered/mugged drastically. Have fun with this tidbit. ######


Prompt:
This incident happened some time ago.

We’re both in university. This semester she went on exchange to Australia. She left Canada Feb 2nd, but went to her hometown on Dec 22nd after final exams because she wanted to spend that time with her family until she left. For that reason we did our Christmas gift exchange early. I got her a really nice necklace in Morse code, a designer hoodie, and a pair of Beats headphones. I ordered the beats Dec 6th but the shipping was delayed big time (I think there was a postal strike? can’t remember) and so I didn’t get the headphones in time for her to have it. When I told her that, she asked what color the headphones are and I got them in blue because that’s her favourite color. She seemed a bit disappointed and and when I asked her what’s wrong she said she’d have preferred the grey.

Fast forward a few weeks. The headphones finally came in around Jan 20th and I went to Best Buy to return them. I did this because **I found the exact same pair on Amazon, brand new, in the color she wanted, and a much cheaper price**. Plus I have Amazon prime so I had 2 day shipping. I pulled the trigger and ordered it right to her house on Jan 21st.

When I told her about this she was pissed off at me because i Didn’t disclose that I was doing all that. She was also afraid that the Beats wouldn’t come in before she left on Feb 2nd. For the life of me I still can’t understand why she was mad. I mean yeah I suppose I didn’t tell her, but I got what she wanted, for a better price. I should also note that the headphones were delivered way before she left so that wasn’t an issue but she said she still didn’t appreciate it. Was I the asshole here? I thought I was being thoughtful and now I feel a bit unappreciated. ######

Response:
 NTA

Am I understanding correctly that the reason she was upset is because she wanted the Beats that absolutely arrived on time (and you could have sent to her at her house) versus potentially NOT getting the pair you ordered from Amazon on time?

I can understand why she might be anxious about not having the headphones before her trip and maybe hoped you would send the blue pair anyway just to make sure (and let her return the ones she didn’t keep to you), but that doesn’t make you an asshole. ######


Prompt:
I'm(19f) in college and due to some circumstances I got a decent amount of money. My sister(23f) is out of college and living on her own now. She is extremely bothered that I have money. But when she asked for a small amount I gave it to her without another thought even though she still owed me money from a different time.

 I decided to build a PC with my money because I have never had a new computer before. I was excited so I talked about it with her but in no way was I doing it immodestly. This was when she told me she didn't like that I had so much money and she didn't want to talk about it or know what I'm doing with it. I told her "ok, that's fair but if you're gonna pretend the money doesnt exist then don't ask for money or borrow money from me". I also told her that I have never had a new computer before where as she has gotten 2 brand new mac books in her lifetime. She said it wasn't comparable because she got into a program in highschool so that's why she got it. She got the other laptop in college. So basically, she is saying I don't deserve new things because I never achieved the same things (that's the way I see it).

AITA for telling my sister that she shouldnt ask for money or to borrow money if she wants to pretend that it doesn't exist? ######

Response:
 NTA

Also, stop giving your sister any money, even if it's loans.  She's an adult and living on her own.  She needs to butt out of your business and take care of herself. ######


Prompt:
So before the quarantine my grandma had declared that my mom (her only child) would get all the money and property and later could decide to split between me and my sister however she wanted. I’m fine with this. I don’t really care considering I figured inheritance should always go to the next in line.

Due to this quarantine, my mom says no one can go out. My grandma, mom and sister all live under the same roof. We all have our own rooms so no one talks to each other that much. My grandma recently had a falling out with my mom because my mom refuses to do any groceries and my grandma needs food. My grandma is a vegetarian and everything my mom has made or brought is non-veg. She also never gets her prescriptions refilled on time. My grandma has to have my moms friend deliver prescriptions. My mom recently had a different falling out with this friend so now he no longer delivers my grandmas prescriptions. During this whole thing I’ve been picking up the slack, paying for and picking up meds and food for my grandma and keeping her company overall.

A couple weeks ago my grandma had it. She decided that my mom wasn’t getting the whole will and that my mom had to split it with me since I am old enough(21) and since she thinks my mom hasn’t helped at all.  After hearing about this my mom is upset with me and my grandma saying I conspired with her and that my grandma is being unfair. She says because she lets her live with us, she does enough and since she pays for essentials she’s doing enough. Again I really don’t care about the inheritance but my grandma says it’s making a statement and I guess my mom did see that I was excited to be in the will. Aita for going along with my grandma? ######

Response:
 NTA

Also, if your mum knows that Grandma is vegetarian but doesn't buy it make any vegetarian food, she's actually not trying and I'd even argue that she's doing it on purpose and then plays victim that "she tries so hard and then it's worthless".

Have a good, hard look at your mother's behaviour. Including not filling the prescriptions for Grandma on time as well. ######


Prompt: Six months ago my now boyfriend broke up with his ex and immediately started dating me. We moved in together and really started going hard in our relationship.  Throughout these past six months he has been in contact with his ex. He says it’s to make sure she’s okay and not in a horrible mindset after their breakup. He talks to her about once a week and I have tried to tell him it’s not letting her heal or get over their breakup. She has asked him multiple times if he’s currently dating anyone and he tells her no. (Trying to not hurt her feelings or self esteem.) She recently found out about me (via social media) and that we were dating and lost it. I’ve now been asked not to post anything as to keep her from being even more upset. I feel as if her emotions are being prioritized over mine? AITA for still wanting to post pictures of MY life on my social media platforms? AITA for not feeling comfortable in this situation? ######

Response:
 NTA

Also your boyfriend is definitely not over her. ######


Prompt:
Hello. I bought my parents a house and specified that it was for both of them when I was giving it to them. I told them they could either live there together, or vacation there, or visit separately, I don’t care. But I promised them both half.

I just found out that my father lives there with his mistress and my mother doesn’t know but he makes her not feel comfortable when she brings up the idea to visit. By the way, they’re still married. Would I be the asshole if I gave him a warning and if he didn’t comply, kick him out?

To specify, I STRONGLY think it would be an asshole move which is why I haven’t done it yet. But I love my mum and I think she deserves to be able to visit whenever she wants, or at least half the time. ######

Response:
 NTA

Absolutely and totally.

You have not bought the house as a love nest to your father and his mistress, you bought the house for your parents and your mother can't use it because of your asshole father. ######


Prompt:
so my whole family and my neighbours whole family are calling me rude and insensitive but i personally don't see it that way. a bit of background: currently everyone in my family works during the day so i am the only one home during the day as i work at night.

for the past week everyday my neighbours toddler aged child has come to our house and continuously banged on the door for at least 10 minutes until i get up and answer it, usually his mum will not even be with him as he has just ran out of their house or she will be at the end of the drive way, she is never actually with him at the door to stop him from banging on it, and even when i tell him my mum isn't home (thats who he wants to see) he wont stop banging, screaming or trying to come inside. usually i'll have to either let him inside to show him that no one is here or i just close the door and let him sit there screaming and crying until his mum decides to do something about it. personally if i wasn't working i wouldn't care like okay just let the kid in show him no one is home and then let him leave without a problem. but now everyday without a doubt he wakes me up and then i find it hard to go back to sleep so i'm not getting any sleep all because of this situation. i've asked nicely if the neighbour can get the kid to come down earlier in the morning so ill still be awake or in the evening so ill be up but she just says that at around midday he gets really upset from having to stay inside and he wont stop screaming until he comes down to my house, but personally i don't see why i should have to sacrifice my sleep because she cant get her kid to stop screaming unless he comes down to my house.

so AITA for being frustrated that my neighbours child bangs on our door everyday ######

Response:
 NtA

A toddler walking to your home everyday and banging on your door and screaming while the mother knowingly does nothing to stop him tells me she's a very neglectful parent. You've talked with her about it and her response is that the kid gets riled up around midday and won't stop screaming until he comes to your house. WTF? There's no middle ground here. Call CPS. ######


Prompt: Throwaway account for obvious reasons. Here’s a backstory: My brother (16M) and I (18F) have a horrible relationship. We live in the same house with my parents, and we rarely speak to each other. I’ve never ever touched any of his belongings because frankly why would I want to. He has nothing that I want to do with. Lately, he’s been touching my belongings and has went in my room twice to do God knows what. I haven’t noticed anything off in my room, however when we were younger he would tell me how he used to put deodorant (and who knows what else) on my toothbrush if I got on his nerves or made him mad. This resonates with me as he has slammed my bedroom door shut and I’ve seen him leave my room and ignore me when I ask what he wants. I’ve told my parents about this and they talked to him, but he told them I was being annoying and left. They haven’t tried again after that. So recently, I bought a keypad to hook on my door, but I told my parents to pay for it as they can’t seem teach him to respect other people’s belongings and that I shouldn’t have to resort to this if everyone just minds their own. So WIBTA for making them pay for my lock on my door? ######

Response:
 NTA

A lot of people have such an issue with how “adult children should know their place” 🙄

Look, you’re not an asshole for asking, especially since you pay rent. They also wouldn’t be assholes for saying no, although you really should have gotten them to choose the lock so it could match the door (property value).

They *are* assholes for not raising your brother better and your brother is an asshole too. ######


Prompt:
So I was randomly added to a mom group on Facebook even though I'm not a mom. I saw a bunch of these moms posting that they wanted to gather their kids together for "playdates" and their intentions are similar to that of pox parties. The idea is to build immunity.

I made a post that it is cruel to intentionally expose your kids to make them sick. I didn't expect the responses I got which were mainly along the lines of "my kid my choice" or "don't tell me how to parent my kid". I told these moms that their kids deserved better.

Then I got banned for "insulting different parenting techniques and shaming moms"

I dont think I did or said anything wrong but, at least 50 moms disagree. AITA for telling these moms not to make their kids sick? ######

Response:
 NTA

A covid19 party for kids!

FFS what is any of them had undiagnosed medical issues and died as a result.

What if the kid carried the virus to someone who was immune compromised or had underlying medical issues.

You'd be risking their lives and the lives of others. ######


Prompt:
My spouse and I have a recurring argument that revolves around their desire to have our 5 year old sleep in our bed. If it were an emergency situation, my child wasn’t feeling well or there was a severe storm or something like that I am fine with them sleeping in our bed. Also, as a compromise I let our child sleep in our bed once a week, typically on a Friday night when it isn’t a work/school night and it’s not that big a deal if we all don’t get a great night’s rest.

Lately, my spouse has been asking for our child to sleep in our bed at least one additional evening without much reasoning. I protest because I feel it’s unnecessary to disrupt our child’s sleep pattern (which is otherwise very good & normal!) and I personally do not sleep as well with less space in the bed, fighting over blankets and repeatedly getting woken up, etc. I put my foot down and refuse (at least once a week) causing a fight with my spouse who inevitably goes up to sleep with my child in their bed. They think I am controlling and think it is unfair my “vote” counts more than theirs in that I get the “final decision.” AITA? ######

Response:
 NTA

A child that age should sleep by themselves but perhaps your SO is using your child as a security blanket given the current situation. Perhaps it's a coping mechanism of knowing the child is close and safe ######


Prompt:
Me and my partner relocated temporarily for work due to COVID-19 to a regional town and continue to pay rent on our city house for us to return to which will be a week today.
My partners sister and boyfriend were offered the house to stay in for the duration of our absence under the terms they needed to be ready to leave when we return (is giving them updates on news of our return so they could prepare to leave by the time we come back) because they had nowhere to go even though they both have $50,000 saved and regular government money coming in. During the whole three months they have not answered one of my call but have answered my partners . It came to a head today when a week ago my partner queried why they aren’t answering my calls to which she said for me to call anytime, I tried calling her again today and low and behold she didn’t answer. My partner called them to inform them we would be back soon and to check in about how ready they are to leave and it appears they have only just started looking for accomodation and work and I’ve blown my top. I feel disrespected and I demanded that my partner tell them they have two days after we come back to leave or I would leave myself now my partner is upset with me.

Have I acted irrationally? ######

Response:
 NTA

400$ for three months is NOTHING. Make those squatters find a new place. ######


Prompt:
So my sister is 25f I am 20f, I currently go to college and my sister is a house wife.

Recently my sister found out she could not have children. For the longest time she wanted kids so I obviously felt bad for her. Well about 2 weeks ago she came to me and asked if I could be her surrogate and that she would pay for all the expenses including an apartment so I wouldn't have to live with my parents.

I told her no immediately because i'm in college and I know how my sister gets when she doesn't get her way. She basically called me a bitch and how I wasn't going to let her be a mom and other bullshit. I just told her that if she wants to be a mom, adopt a kid because there are so many children in the world that need a family. She said she didn't want a used kid she wanted someone who was related to her.

After I told this to my parents my dad was on my side completely and told me that I was too young to even be asked that question. But my mother blew up at me saying that I was a bitch because i'm preventing her and my sister for being a mother and a grandmother. I have received messages from family members and friends of my sister saying that I was being completely unreasonable and how they wouldn't talk to me again unless I apologized to my sister.

I sort of get why I could be the asshole because my sister wanted to be a mom for so long, but if I was graduated from college and at a steady place I would have said yes to her.

Am I the asshole here? ######

Response:
 NTA

1) No doctor in their right mind would let you be a surrogate in your current situation

2) They can pay for someone else to be a surrogate if they really want it. ######


Prompt:
So a little backstory
My parents are split up but not fully divorced so they haven’t filled out all the paperwork. My dad (d) is a lawyer so he is quite well payed and and my mum (m) works in a nutrition company so she makes medium wage. Because of how boring life is right now I’m trying to save up to buy an xbox. My parents won’t let me sell any of my current items so I obviously have to do chores (I’m not old enough to get a job.) I’ve done stuff like walk my dog, clean the windows and vacuum at m’s house all for £5 or less each. D paid £10 for just the windows (£1 per window) so obviously I wanted to do the chores at his but m has a huge shed that hasn’t been entered in years! So the words m gave me were “if you can empty this shed and sort the items i will give £10” i thought this was an ok price so i cleared the shed and sorted the items (25 min work) I ask m for the money but she says not until i wash the items (the shed was filled with cobwebs and insects.) I was annoyed but i asked for the cleaning products but she said she didn’t have any. So i had to buy the hose... with the money I hadn’t earnt yet. Plus bug killer, scrubs and new bin bags! i was losing money so i said no. M then said she wasn’t paying me until i did. So i was practically paying her £2.49 to clean out, sort and wash HER shed. I have a natural phobia of bugs so I already hated it but this was ridiculous. I refused and now m has taken all the money i earnt as a punishment plus my ps3 (i prefer xbox but this was all we could get.) D is taking M’s side but I think he’s scared which I don’t blame him for. So Reddit am i the ahole? Also this is my first story on here so sorry if it isn’t good for this subreddit. ######

Response:
 NTA

1. Why the fuck you feel the need to shorten the words Mon and Dad?

2. Your mother was looking for an excuse and never meant to pay you.  The lesson you should take from it is that some people (like your Mom) will steal from you and most people (like your Dad) are too chicken/selfish   to do help.   So always have collateral/ downpayment ######


Prompt:
This happened in March before bars got shut down. It was the night of my staff party. I (25f) had invited my cousin (18f) a month before and she said she will come. Day of she cancelled. So I went with my brother (23) instead. We arrived and were having a good time when she showed up. The event coordinator talked to me about only being allowed one guest. It was embarrassing, but the coordinator let my cousin stay.
It was an open bar, and around 11pm my brother and I were a bit tipsy. Our cousin doesnt drink. She informed me she wanted to come home with me and sleep over.
My brother and I got into a disagreement. We didnt cause a scene or anything. We went to the lobby. I started crying and said I'm leaving. My cousin knew I was leaving. I went to the sidewalk and called a cab. The lobby was all glass so she could see me waiting at the curb. But she was talking to my brother so I assumed she wanted to stay with him.
I got home and fell asleep. The next morning I woke up to angry texts from my sister, my gramma, and my cousins dad accusing me of abandoning my cousin downtown at night. They were mean text messages. She had told them I abandoned her downtown at night.
1. She knew I was leaving and didnt come with me.
2. I waited 15 mins for a cab to come (Friday night) and she never came outside to wait with me.
3. She had money for a cab
4. She was with my brother who lives close to her.
5. There was an underground train station a block away from the bar that would've taken her practically all the way home. Which I understand is dangerous for a young girl at night. See number 3.
6. Her dad is overprotective, and would've 100% picked her up if she asked.
7. If my older sister did this to me when I was 18, none of my family members would care.
She ended up sharing a taxi with my brother. Her dad hasnt spoke to me since this happened and my gramma and sister havent forgiven me. AITA? ######

Response:
 NTA

1. Cousin doesnt drink.
2. Cousin knew I was leaving.
3. She had money for a cab.

If she knew you were leaving, she was perfectly capable of coming along if she'd wanted to. She weren't intoxicated, stranded or otherwise helpless. She's not a child.

However, your cousin is the AH for

1. Canceling on the day of
2. Showing up anyway (causing OP some embarassment for bringing too many guests)
3. After 1 and 2, apparently expecting OP to take care of her until she was safely back in bed, and stirring up drama when she had to get home on her own.

Any particular obligation you may have had for looking after your younger cousin that night disappeared when she canceled your plans. ######


Prompt:
So my bf (35)and I (31) have been together just over a year and live together. We have very different sleep schedules, I work early so I'm used to going to bed at 10pm latest. He likes to stay up and used to start work at 10am compared to my 8am start (I have to wake up at 6 to get there). Due to everything going on atm I'm working, I work for the NHS and he lost his job. Last night I came home from work and I was shattered. I ended up going to bed at 8pm and thought I'd get up at 5.30am to get a shower in. He stayed up late playing poker. Now due to my health conditions and the impact of sleep on them we previously agreed that if he comes up to bed after 1am he should sleep in the spare room or on the sofa or where ever because he disturbs me when he comes to bed. Anyway last night I get woken up at 4am!! He comes in and starts making noise moving the covers and I just got so pissed off. I screamed that he was selfish and what was he doing? Then grabbed my stuff and slept in the spare room. He came in and said 'what does sleeping in another from accomplish?' And I said I could sleep better. Anyway I wake up at 5.30, still pissed off and clang around the kitchen a bit and then went into the bedroom to take my tablets and slammed the door. He sent me a text message on my way to work stating
Thanks for purposely waking me up... now I'll only get three hours sleep today
I mean.. come on!! He's not doing anything all day, he can sleep as long as he wants!! I was deliberately loud so he could understand where I'm coming from. If I'm tired and don't do my job properly people could get hurt or die if I make a mistake. Not to mention I could get ill again and end up seriously ill.
I feel that he's in the wrong and that he's not valuing my health, my job or wellbeing.
He thinks I'm out of line cos I woke him up at 7am.. ######

Response:
 NTA

>Thanks for purposely waking me up... now I'll only get three hours sleep today

I'm sure he'll manage to laze around fine on 3hrs of sleep. ######


Prompt:
So my girlfriend recently was hooked onto this stupid tiktok trend where the girl gets naked and goes up to their boyfriend while he is gaming to see what he would do.

Now she being hooked onto the trend wants me to do the same as some of the guys in the tiktoks where they immediately pause their game and jump onto their girlfriends. I play league of legends and the people who play it know that you cannot pause the game and if you AFK or leave the game you will get penalties for it.

She told me either I quit the game or i dont ever touch her again. I told her a very reasonable rule that she thinks its unreasonable with it being, I do not mind spending time with her if she wants it before i start a game for a few hours, but I do mind where she purposely wants me to quit just as I started a match as I do not want to leave in the middle of a game. However I do not mind after the game, I stop playing and spend time with her. She told me she just wants to see me want her and she doesnt care about my game and she finds it very unreasonable.

AITA for saying no I wont quit in the middle of my game? ######

Response:
 NTA

>stupid tiktok trend

couldnt have said it better myself ######


Prompt:
I am 45F and my Husband 50M has a 16-year-old son. He is a good kid, good grades, respectful, does his chores, etc. Last Summer my son said that he wanted a new computer. To his credit, he got a part-time job and saved up for it, and built a pretty nice gaming PC. We are really proud of him, as he saved for it nearly all summer.

My sister and her husband have recently moved in with us. They have a 9-year-old son. My sister has a history of IDK how to put it, being entitled. She thinks her kid can do no wrong and spoils her kid.

Well when they came over, my nephew noticed my son's PC. He asked if he can play on it, my son said not now. That was the end of it for a couple of days. Again, my nephew wanted to play on it. I asked my son if he minded sharing, he said he would rather not since its expensive and doesn't want it to break. This has caused a big argument. My sister says its extremely unfair to my nephew because he doesn't have a system to play on, just his iPad, so my son should have to share. I told her it's his PC not mine, he paid for it so it's up to him. She then accused me of being a 'spineless parent'. I said I'm not, but I'm not going to force my son to share his own computer. My nephew ended up having a huge fit, which she then blamed me for his fit, but gave him 3 more hours of iPad time to quiet him down.

Its been 4 days and my sister hasn't brought it up directly again, just being passive-aggressive. While on one hand, I don't want to make my kid share, because it's his computer, he saved up for it and I don't feel it would be the right thing to do, to force my kid to share. On the other hand, I do feel kinda bad for my nephew, AITA? ######

Response:
 NTA

>She then accused me of being a 'spineless parent'.

No, a spineless parent would have forced their child to bend to your entitled sister's will - and then had to deal with the consequences of her entitled child fucking up your son's gaming PC.

I wish my parents had had my back in situations like these. Yes, sharing is important, so is understanding that 🎶you can't always get what you want.🎶 ######


Prompt:
I have two daughters 9F and 7F.

My youngest has always been my family’s favourite, especially her fathers favourite because she’s more outgoing and confident, she loves climbing and football.

My eldest is more cautious and anxious, she isn’t as confident as her sister but that’s okay and I’m always telling her people learn in their own speed and have different personalities and skills.

It’s not a secret that my ex prefers our youngest; she looks like him more, she’s got blonde hair like he does and blue eyes and tans easily whilst our eldest looks like me with her ginger hair and dark eyes, he also claims our youngest has more personality.

My eldest has taken to trying to copy her younger sister, my ex believes it’s because she wants her younger sister to look up to her but I think it’s because her younger sister gets more attention.

My daughters spent the weekend with their dad and his girlfriend when he texted me saying my eldest is grounded because she wouldn’t stop crying and screaming at her stepmother.

This isn’t like my eldest so I asked why? Turns out she called my eldest a baby because she couldn’t do something her sister could do and was crying, if there’s something my eldest hates it’s being called baby, they know this!

Well ex’s girlfriend posted saying something like “When your eldest daughter throws a tantrum and you know they get it off their bio mother coddling them 😒😹”

I responded saying that she wouldn’t have cried had they not belittled her and put her sister on a peddlestall.

My ex texted me calling me an asshole for embarrassing his girlfriend and didn’t pick the kids up this weekend.

My mother thinks I should’ve bit my tongue and that I was an AH here too.

AITA? ######

Response:
 NTA

>My ex texted me calling me an asshole for embarrassing his girlfriend and didn’t pick the kids up this weekend.

That says a lot about him, that he thinks the proper response is to abdicate his responsibilities as a parent for the weekend. ######


Prompt: I am into gaming and most of my friends are online and on discord. I met some of my now close friends when I was 15 and they were 10(M),12(M),13(M) respectively. Over the years we have grown closer and the 10-12 year olds are brothers and look up to me as a sisterly figure . but the problem is that I'm 18 Now and some people notably my acquaintances call me creepy for being friends with 15 and 13 year olds. They are quick to point out that if I was a male and they were girls I'd receive so much back lash yet I'm lucky I don't. they say I shouldn't talk to them. I just don't want to leave them hanging now or else I'd stop talking because it does not look right. AITA? ######

Response:
 NTA

>look up to me as a sisterly figure

This seems fine, even if it's a little out of the ordinary (I wouldn't call it weird). Just don't date any of them and you're good to go haha

Edit: would be N A H if your friends backed off ######


Prompt:
So since I’ve been working from home I have meetings 2 days a week. But even during the days I don’t I still dress decently and wear a little makeup because it makes me feel good, and also my boyfriend compliments me a lot when I dress well, and say what you will but it’s nice.

But our roommate yesterday asked why I have to dress up so much in the house because it’s oppressive and weird. I explained why and she said it was egotistical to fish for compliments by dressing well, and that dressing so well makes her feel out of place.

For reference I was just wearing a casual dress and a little bit of makeup, it wasn’t like I was dressed for a wedding. But she wants me to dress down when I don’t have meetings, like sweat pants and a t shirt everyday.

AITA? ######

Response:
 NTA

>it’s oppressive

wtf?? It's not oppressive for you to dress however you want lmao... Like, who would that be oppressing? And it's not "fishing" for compliments to dress nice... Fishing for compliments is more like if you were to walk around all day going "oh I'm so ugly" so that people have to say "noooo you're beautiful." What you're doing is not like that. ######