Prompt:
I (20F) have been dating my boyfriend (22M) for coming up on 9 months. We are in a long-distance relationship and haven't seen each other for over a month (since quarantine began) but we FaceTime every day and he is normally very sweet. Today, while FaceTiming, he asked me if he could download Tinder so that he could get new music recommendations from people's profiles. He has a Spotify playlist of songs that he would see on people's profiles (before we were dating) called "Tinder Tracks." He said that it was lacking and he needed to add more songs to it.

I, at first, thought that he was joking but when I asked it seemed like he definitely wasn't. He added that he would put the settings so that he could only see guys. I continued to be upset with him because I just didn't understand why he would want to download Tinder while in a relationship and I thought there were plenty of other better ways to discover new music. I started crying and he said that I wasn't trusting him. I asked if he would've used his own pictures and name and at that point he told me that he wouldn't but to me it seemed like he just said that because I was upset. He justified it by saying that his Spotify playlists are very important to him. We ended up getting in a big fight and I was crying a lot. I don't know if I'm crazy for being mad at him. ######

Response:
 NTA.

Your boyfriend is trying to pull a fast one on you. Tinder isn't for music. It sounds like he's trying to get his dick wet. That's like people who say that they join dating apps to make friends. ######


Prompt:
My (f22) boyfriend (m24) wants me to pretend to be religious and occasionally go to church with his family in the future, for fear that his mother would disapprove. He mentioned it when he found out about my atheism a few weeks after dating, and I was fine with it but now it just feels wrong.

On one hand, I understand his concern, as my own family disapprove greatly of my atheism, but on the other hand, I feel like he's ashamed of it, and I don't like that I'm once again having to hide a part of myself, for fear of what others think.

He at first claimed he wasn't that religious, but it became obvious that he is, and I've never had any problem with it. In fact, I love how strongly he feels about his religion, dispite the fact that I don't share it.

I don't want to cause him any altercations with his family, especially since he's currently having to live with them "(financial trouble), but I also don't want to pretend to be something I'm not, as it makes me feel like he doesn't fully accept me as I am. And there's also the fact that I already agreed to pretend, before I'd really thought about it.

I wouldn't mind going to church with them every now and then, but I want to be able to be open about my atheism.

So WIBTA if I refuse to lie about my religion?
Either way, I know it's something I need to discuss with him, but I still want the opinion of others. ######

Response:
 NTA.

Your boyfriend is TA, but gently. If he's told you that he isn't religious but over time it's become apparent that he is, or isn't willing to let go of any pre-existing relationships he may have had with his church, then this reads to me like he is struggling with what he actually believes in.

It is natural to not want that outed, especially if he doesn't know himself. He might decide that he is, or he might decide he isn't, or he might convert to another religion, but that train of thought isn't for much else but his own contemplation.

I understand why he would want you to essentially fake it, but he's wrong to ask it. It might be worth sitting down with him and discussing this, try to find out if there is an underlying concern, but don't sacrifice your own beliefs for the sake of keeping his family happy. Your belief or lack thereof is just as important as his and should be respected just as his is. ######


Prompt:
So this is going to be pretty short and simple.

As me and my partner have been starting to plan out the birth of our child I told him I want the two of us to have some time to just bond with the baby. As I have been looking up the rules due to COVID we realised this wouldn’t be a problem. I am allowed one birthing partner which will be my partner, and he is the only one allowed to visit following the rules.

At first my mum tried to insist that she would be there but quickly agreed that if I wanted my partner then that was fine. However the other day I mentioned that because of COVID we won’t be allowed visits either. She kept saying that she didn’t care and she would still be there and would wait outside to meet the baby if she isn’t allowed in. I get that she’s excited but this felt a little too far for me, as if she was expecting me to give birth and instantly go outside so she could meet her grandchild.

I love my mum to bits but this is kind of pushing me towards not telling her when I go into labour and only telling her when my baby is born (she’ll have about an hour and a half drive to get there anyway) just so I can postpone a little bit of stress. I want her to meet the baby as soon as she can, but I don’t want to be giving birth feeling stressed about it.

Will I be the asshole if I don’t tell her when I go into labour? ######

Response:
 NTA.

Your baby. Your labor. Your choice.

But just to add, I highly doubt a hospital would allow you to take the baby out of the hospital just to meet your mom. Before, hospitals were even blocking partners from being with laboring moms due to the virus.

So, while I get she's your mom, for the safety of everyone (especially the baby), your mom should wait for a more suitable time to meet her grandchild. And I don't know all the polices, but this could mean that she doesn't get to meet the baby at the hospital at all. ######


Prompt:
My (M27) wife (F26) is currently unemployed due to the corona virus and I work as a software engineer for a tech firm. I use my custom built PC for modeling the potential infrastructural flaws in the event of different dangers (from terrorist bombings to a burning building that suddenly floods). Due to the potential dangers associated with the wrong parties having this information, especially government buildings, the pc runs on an encrypted software.

I tend to work at night due to my sleep schedule just naturally keeping me up later etc. My wife has taken to installing simple games like Minecraft and csgo to fulfill her day, seeing as I do not use the pc while she does. She hid the game files and their data in a plain looking folder labeled “extra.” An email a few days later from my manager concerning a series of suspicious downloads led me to discover said folder. I quickly terminated the entire folder and apologized to my manager for the breach explaining the situation, which is now pending a review to ensure the security of the rest of the files.

While I’ve been assured that it’s standard procedure and the computer wasn’t compromised, I’m still upset she would risk my job over some stupid entertainment! To make matters worse she was mad at me over the lost game data which she spent many hours designing a neighborhood saying I could have easily transferred the data onto a different disk! I tried explaining how the presence of outside software was a risk even if everything is from a verified source etc. We got into a huge argument with her accusing me of sucking up all the oxygen in our apartment over my career and destroying her art and mental growth and sanity during this quarantine. She further went on to imply that I was being a bad husband by only sharing with her physically in a world where technology is integrated into our everyday lives. Please let me know AITA? ######

Response:
 NTA.

You’re not some little kid who won’t let their sister play on their Xbox, this is your work device so the fact she thinks she can download games to it is astounding.

That’s not even taking into consideration the fact that she knows how important that device is for security purposes.

Don’t let her guilt you into thinking you’re a bad husband because you care about your job (and the only source of income you guys have). ######


Prompt:
Okay so hear me out, I know that the title makes me seem straight up like an asshole but I have my reasons.

I live in a very close nit neighbourhood in the UK mostly made up of terrace houses, I live on the end of the street and only have one next door neighbour, and they are neighbours from hell. When we moved in 10 years ago, within days we had been told to "fuck off back to our own country" (we're british, so idk), they called the RSPCA on us because our cat kept using their front garden as a litter box while they were working on it, it was mostly sand, and every time I saw her doing this I cleaned it up and apologised, accused my younger brothers of egging their house (they did have eggs on their patio but upon later inspection they found out they were pigeon eggs that had fallen from a nest in their roof but they never got an apology) and various other things, we usually get a knock on the door by the police every now and then for some bullshit complaint.

But their favourite one is to start a BBQ or Bonfire every single time we put washing outside to dry.

My solution to this issue is to play very loud (and slightly offensive) music right before I plan to hang it outside so they leave for the day (I haven't done this since lockdown because I don't think it would be fair considering the virus)

Ive tried being civil and asking them not to start fires right as I hang my washing and this has been occurring for 10 years straight but I got told to go fuck myself because they can do what they want when they want.

I could technically dry my clothes in the dryer inside but in the summer in an old house with no AC and poor ventilation it gets almost impossible to breathe.

But I have to know Aita? ######

Response:
 NTA.

You’re just playing music, they sound as though they have been terrorising you.

Can you move away? ######


Prompt:
I [20 M] live with my mum and brother [8]. I've wanted a switch since it came out but life and other hobbies have gotten in the way. Over the quarentine my expenses have gone down since I no longer have to buy food at uni, and I should have enough pocket money to pay off the rest of this year's fees and to get a Switch.

However, my brother's been very uncooperative with studying as he wants to play videogames all day instead. Because of this my mum has told me to not get a Switch, as she wants to cut my brother's gaming time and feels that even if I were the one to get the switch with my own money, he'd still see it as a reward.

I've already decided to not got the Switch to keep the peace, but am I the only one who feels it's unfair that my brother's misbehaving is directly affecting what I can do with my own money?

INFO EDIT: I could absolutely keep it in my room and restrict his access to it. If I was really commited I could probably have it without him ever knowing (although I probably wouldn't go that far) ######

Response:
 NTA.

You're a 20 year old adult. You can purchase whatever you'd like. Get the switch and just don't let your brother play it and keep it locked somewhere so he doesn't try to sneak it. ######


Prompt:
This morning, my mom asked for 500 (I am not going to state the currency, because I want to stay anonymous). I was happy to give it to her, but I only had 1000. I gave her that amount and asked when she was going to give it back. "I don't know." That seemed like a red flag to me.
But then I realized I had a 500 bill in my wallet, so I said I had the amout she wanted and I was willing to give it to her. Suddenly, she didn't want it anymore and said that it was not enough. Like, what? That's the amount you initially asked for!! Then she got very defensive and insisted on the 1000. I found that extremely sketchy so I told her that I wasn't going to give her any money. Am I the asshole for not giving her the money? ######

Response:
 NTA.

You were being generous, and when you found the amount you originally agreed upon, she tried to choose like she had a right to.

Beggars can’t be choosers.

X-post on r/ChoosingBeggars please ######


Prompt:
My child will be 2 in just a few months and I plan to switch his car seat from rear to forward facing at that point. He'll still be a few pounds below the max weight for his rear facing, but I'm going to switch him anyways. My reasons are he gets carsick and I'm hoping that will help, I'm the only one who loads or unloads him and it's getting painful for both of us, and it's much easier to see and help him while in the car. My husband thinks we should follow the strictest car seat rules, so leave him rear facing until he is exceeding the weight limit. My argument is that he's not the one who loads/unloads or drives him around, plus he'll still be in an approved car seat and has already surpassed the minimum for forward facing.
I finally told him as long as I'm doing all the car seat related activities, and I'm following the law, I'll do it the way I see fit. Now he's says ITA for ignoring what he wants and putting our child at risk. ######

Response:
 NTA.

You switch when the low weight limit on forward facing is reached. The reason it overlaps is because to give you the option on which seat to use.
And if you are doing the seating (why doesnt he do it?) then its your decision.

Edit.
And waiting until he exceeds the weighlimit IS putting the child at risk. ######


Prompt:
I (23F) bought a house last year in a fairly well-off area (not a neighborhood though). My cousin (21F) has been living with me for the past 3 months because of financial issues: she pays a bit of rents and helps me do housework around the house. She's a really nice person in general.

On the Fourth of July, she brought her boyfriend (22M) of 9 months over. He's a really responsible, nice person that I enjoy having around. We ate dinner and then he showed my cousin fireworks that he brought over, and he said he was going to use them in the backyard. I told him no and we could do it after dinner somewhere else, because my two dogs (one is a puppy and another is an older, more frail dog) are terrified of loud noises and I didn't want him damaging the grass. While me and my cousin went to wash the dishes, the boyfriend snuck outside and used the fireworks!

When I confronted him about it, he said that he wanted to make us happy and that the dogs being scared would be OK because the fireworks were beautiful.

I got angry at him and told him that he was not welcome in our house anymore because he couldn't wait 30 minutes. He got very disappointed and went away, and my cousin got extremely mad at me because he just wanted to show us the fireworks.

Am I the asshole here? ######

Response:
 NTA.

You specifically said no because of the dogs and he went outside and lit them anyway. ######


Prompt:
The other day we had to suddenly take my seven year old niece for the night because my nephew, who is four, managed to get a pretty nasty gash to his head when he fell off his bike. My sisters (26) husband was out of state dealing with something to do with his family so we, my parents and younger sister (18F) and I (21), ended up taking my niece in for the night. She was pretty cranky all day because she wanted to be home with her new puppy, I told her that if she behaved then she could play on my Nintendo Switch for half an hour the next morning before my sister picked her up*.

Well, she didn’t behave. She was honestly a little demon all night, but the next day she still demanded to play the Switch. I told her no because she didn’t behave. Well, she went to my mom and pulled the whole innocent granddaughter trick. My mother, who is an extremely kind person and spoils her grandchildren rotten because they’re the only grandkids she has right now (my younger sister and I aren’t having kids for years, college and career first). So she told me to let her play the Switch.

I told her no, I bought it with my own money (I’m in college and work my ass off, saved little by little to afford a Switch) and she didn’t follow along with the deal. My dad also thinks I should have let my niece play, as does my older sister. The only member of my family on my side is my little sister. I know my niece is seven but she needs to understand that not everything needs to be given to her when she wants them. My parents and older sister keep making me feel guilty though, so that’s why I’m turning to the internet.

So, Reddit, AITA?

*My niece is getting limited screen time right now because when her school first went online she was ignoring her homework and my sister got a pretty nasty email. My parents won’t enforce it at our house but I am with the technology that I personally own. ######

Response:
 NTA.

You set expectations for something and your niece agreed to the terms.  Sure, she's young, but as her family you've taken on some of the responsibility of helping her grow as a person. It takes a village and whatever....

Anyway, I believe you provided her a valuable life lesson and hopefully she'll learn from it. ######


Prompt:
Hi everyone.

I live in a small town in the southern US with my wife and two daughters (8 and 10). My wife and I own property on the same block we live on and we rent those properties out. I’ve been a landlord for over a decade and usually, it’s not a bad experience.

My wife and I receive unemployment and are therefore not relying on money from our tenants right now. We are not requiring them to pay rent for the time being, as long as they abide by rules set in place by our state’s governor. This is outlined in an e-doc they’ve all signed.

Our next door neighbors have been fucking abysmal. They have 15-20 people over all day, every day, grilling out and chasing their guests’ unleashed dogs down the block. It’s unsafe, unsanitary and it breaks the guidelines I set for waiving their lease. I’ve had two discussions with one of the tenants about this behavior and both times they apologized and said they’d follow the rules more closely. No luck.

Today my girls ran upstairs bawling their ever loving heads off. One of the neighbor’s friend’s big dogs had gotten into our yard again, and this time into my girls’ (newly built, with very fragile young sprouts) garden bed and trampled everything. My girls are going through enough right now and they have worked so hard on this thing. I just saw red.

I stormed over and I have to admit got *incredibly* testy with the tenant, saying “I’ve warned you twice. I’ll expect rent on the fifteenth or you can get the fuck out and be someone else’s headache.”

I came back home and my wife was asking what happened. I told her and she was appalled. She said I had every right to be angry, but it’s a garden, the plants will grow back. She said re-instating rent was a horrible thing to do and it seemed like it was more about power than controlling the situation with their behavior.

My wife is a pretty reasonable person, so I’m taking that pretty hard. Am I being a bastard? Give it to me straight. ######

Response:
 NTA.

You set conditions.
They agreed to these conditions.
They are now violating these conditions.

Ergo, they have voluntarily triggered whatever consequences come. ######


Prompt:
On the last day before lock down I called in to work because I needed to get my nan an ambulance. She could only maintain consciousness for 10-15 seconds at a time. I've lived with her for 3 years and became her carer when she was diagnosed with pulmonary fibrosis.
My nan tested negative for the virus twice so we realised that it was a rapid decline in her health. She went into hospice care and was put on end of life.
My boss had sent me a few emails, I replied to all of them cordially, and asked him to mark any important emails as such as my nan is dying.
My nan died on 7th April this year and on the 8th, I announced it online because I have people who always had my nan's presence in their life and I said that I would be leaving social media to sort out the funeral, the estate and the likes.
I got tagged in 8 posts, 1 per day for 6 days and 2 on the last day from managers asking me to put on my uniform and hold up a sign and shout happy birthday to my boss. I saw the original post and I thought, I don't really have time and I'm not in the right mindset to do this.
One of my managers kept tagging me in posts saying "come on, you've only got a few days to send your video in. It can't be that hard." And "it'll only take 5 minutes." But they posted saying that we needed to have on clean and ironed uniform. For a 10 second video.
I'm looking to be promoted and I'm trying to make a good impression with everyone at work and I think by not doing it, I've made people feel like I'm not bothered about the team. My closest friends at work think it's perfectly understandable but management seem to have a different opinion. I just couldn't bring myself to pretend like it's business as usual when my nan's ashes are sat in my living room. ######

Response:
 NTA.

You seem very calm and well-collected, as well as very punctual and thorough with communication; you are **definitely** not being an asshole in my eyes.
If you decided to do their silly birthday gimmick and hold up a sign and shout happy birthday, I can't deny it would've seemed like you put in the extra mile. But to hold it against you? Fuck that. If management puts your mental state below a silly 10-second video, that's ridiculous and they're the assholes imho. ######


Prompt:
Hi, I am a 14 year old male and have a sister with autism who is 11.  I recently brought my PlayStation into the living room because I am remodeling my room so I’m sleeping up stairs in my other sisters room on the floor and brought my PlayStation upstairs My sister  asked if she could play the demo of Just Dance and I said just once, she agreed and I let her dance to 2 songs. It was no big deal to me until I brought my PS VR headset to play Carnival games and SUPERHOT. I was playing for around 15 minutes till she asked if she could play. I said no and my dad agreed because he didn’t know how she would react (she gets overwhelmed easily due to anxiety and has a meltdown.) until my mom jumped in and argued with my dad until he said fine. I didn’t want her to due to it being made out of plastic and how flimsily it really is. Also with this list of the past things she has broke

My PS3 disk and cases by ripping up the covers and scratching the disk

My Xbox 360 by grabbing it and dropping it on the floor

A Dell desktop and 2 monitors

Mac computer by downloading viruses

A keyboard

My copy of Super Mario maker for the WII U by snapping it

My old phone

A Samsung tablet

Xbox one disc drive (temporarily broken)

Xbox one disc (about 5)

And a few other things.

With her history of breaking things I didn’t want her to break the VR headset. She has an Xbox one, my 3DS, a new Mac, and my Wii U which I was hoping she would play instead but she can’t settle with any of them.

Luckily she didn’t break it but gave me anxiety because she kept tugging and yanking on it but yeah it survived.

So guys and gals, AITA? ######

Response:
 NTA.

You have a right to protect your stuff, especially if she has a history of destroying things. ######


Prompt:
Yesterday, after I get off my 12hr shift from treating covid patients at the hospital. I park and am going upstairs. My wife stopped by her car so I planned to meet her in the lobby to go up the elevator to our apartment.

Right as the door opens she says some guy started coughing on her on the way to the elevator. He was with his sister and niece. After my wife turns around and says “are you serious?” He laughs and says “it’s a joke”.

But this ticked me off, i go upstairs and confront the guy. Asking him if he thinks it’s funny to cough on people and say it’s a joke. He insistently continues it’s a joke, I’m sorry. I tell him i work with covid patients everyday and see them die on a daily basis. He then starts getting nervous and starts stuttering. But still insistent that it was a harmless joke. I ask him if it’s funny in a pandemic and he still says yes. He starts blaming it on he’s been quarantined for 8 weeks and he’s not thinking straight. We ask him if that’s the type of behavior he teaches his niece and he can’t answer.

I tell him, you can be an asymptomatic carrier and still transmit the disease. If you get my wife sick, you are responsible. He continues to chuckle and say it’s a joke. Until I tell him if she gets sick, you will be charged with acts of terrorism with a biological weapon as the Justice Department so nicely stated recently in March. He then gets scared and profusely apologizes. However, when my wife asks if he would still do it if i was next to him. He stated yes it’s a joke.

I ask him for his ID so i can take a picture for contact tracing. He refuses, so i take a picture of him.

I reported him to the local PD. Who now has opened a case and has requested his personal information from our leasing office.

So Reddit, pandemic and all AITA for reporting him? ######

Response:
 NTA.

You gave him multiple opportunities to stop thinking it's OK to continuing doing that.

And even then after this:

> However, when my wife asks if he would still do it if i was next to him. He stated yes it’s a joke.

He still didn't change his mind nor attitude.  It sounds like he'd keep doing it but to others as well.  People like him can potentially infect others just for his amusement.

Good on you. ######


Prompt:
So I (20M) am friends with her (20F). She moved from America with her family around a year ago for permanent here to England.

One of the things she was surprised by was the usage of the word cunt. She came with me to a lot of parties and would hear the word used a lot by both guys ans girls.alike.

She definitely was shocked by it.

Well we face timed yesterday and she said that when lockdown is over and parties happen again, she is going to "take a stand" whenever she hears the word used in a social setting.

I told her that's a bad idea as the cultural connotation of the word in the UK, especially among younger people, is massively different to America. It's the equivalent of telling people to stop saying the word mate, that it wouldn't go down well if she tried to police that word.

Example of the times shes disliked use of the word, at parties people would say "hey up cunt" to one another (noone said it to her but she saw other people say it to others), "you daft cunt" (in a joking maner) etc.

Well I told her my view that cunt is one of those things she just has to accept is different here and she got upset and called me ashole. AITA? ######

Response:
 NTA.

You can’t go to a foreign place and get angry that they don’t follow your culture. She need to stop forcing her own rules in a foreign place. It’s literally just a word, and it’s not even an offensive slur. ######


Prompt: I share a house with 4 people, we are all in college. I before we moved in, I bought a new receiver so I could listen to my music through these larger speakers I had recently acquired. The receiver has Bluetooth capability so naturally we all connect to listen to music, which I had no problem with, all I asked is that after they disconnect after they use it so if I want to use it and they’re not, it will connect to my phone, they never do, ever. Yesterday I finally hit a breaking point and told them to disconnect to the Bluetooth because i am never able to connect because one of their phones always is. They start banning me from all their stuff and eventually I just leave because I was so mad. ######

Response:
 NTA.

You bought it for *you*. Its not fair that they use it so often that you never get a chance to use *your own* property. ######


Prompt:
Me and the gf decided to watch an episode of this show we are watching and about 30mins in I go to check my phone to reply to a message and she slaps the phone out of my hand on to the bed.

I huffed and said can she not do that and as soon as I picked the phone up she did it again.

I got annoyed and said to her sternly I did not like that she did that and she thought I wasn't being serious the first time and said it was just a joke.

I told her I didn't find it funny because I was just replying to a message and also she could damage the phone. She said I was just mindlessly scrolling through my phone and that I'm being ridiculous if I think her slapping my phone could actually break it because we were on the bed.

She's now sad because I flipped at her about it and that I'm over reacting because she can't understand how I don't find it funny.

AITA? ######

Response:
 NTA.

You asked her to stop, she didn't. Also, when is it ever okay to slap things out of people's hands?

And lastly, it doesn't take a genius to figure out the *slap* itself probably wouldn't break the phone, but knocking it out of your hand and it hitting a hard surface, would. C'mon. ######


Prompt:
So my husband and I currently live in an apartment, but we’ve been looking to move into a house so that we can have kids, and they would get a yard and all that comes with a house. We’ve found a house that meets most of our criteria, but there is one problem. The house is ancient. It was built in the 1800s, and it still only had a wood furnace and wood stove. Meaning that we would have to cook on a wood stove. Our agreement is that I cook 4/7 days a week, he cooks 2/7 and we get takeout or eat out for one. But he’s pretty lazy about keeping up his side of that and I don’t really mind cooking so it’s more like I cook 5 or 6 days and we get takeout one.

I’m not resentful of that, he has a much more intensive job and is tired at the end of the day, but it does mean I feel I should get more say when it comes to what we have to cook on.

The reason this house is good for us is it’s cheap for the area while not being too small. But if we move I want to upgrade the stove to gas or electric(probably electric as the house doesn’t have gas). He says it’s a waste of money and ruins the charm of the house. I do not want to deal with the hassle of cooking on a wood stove. I can put up with the furnace, although that’s annoying too, I have enough to worry about while cooking, I don’t want to try and keep the fire at the right heat to cook on.

I said if we don’t replace the stove then I wouldn’t be cooking. He said it’s unfair and he’s just trying to save money. It’s not going to hurt us too much to replace the stove, we’re buying the house full cash, and will have enough leftover.

AITA? ######

Response:
 NTA.

Wood stoves are very cool.

They're also utterly impractical for every day cooking in the 21st century. ######


Prompt:
I (19m) am living at home with my parents right now because of my campus's closing and have no real expenses while quarantined since they pay for most of our food, and my brother (25m) is home from medical school now too. I am making a fair amount of money tutoring students remotely over the summer, and I was told today by my mom and dad today that I should give my brother the money I'm making to help him pay down some of his undergrad student loans.

Their argument is as follows. His undergrad cost a lot because his school was private, but mine cost very little because mine was public. His med school finances are a separate issue. Basically, if it wasn't for his "mistake" of taking on so much debt first, I wouldn't have known to make the smart choice of saving myself from it.

To be clear, my brother has helped me to pay for things like a car and a computer, but I have paid him back each time. He has helped me out when he did not have to do so before, then, but it seems like I'm being punished ultimately for making a better choice early on. I think my parents really want to help fix his problems, and I think he is pretty nervous about money himself, but I don't understand it to be my moral obligation to support him. Furthermore, I did not enjoy the perks that he did from going to a more expensive school.

So finally, I told them I would not give him the money that I am making this summer. AITA? ######

Response:
 NTA.

Why are you the one being asked to help him out? You're 19 for pete's sake, you are not olbigated to help him out with something he took on as his own responsibility.

If he needs help he should go to his parents, even then they aren't obligated, no one is but him.

I hate these posts where people make out that you have to help your family out money wise, you do not, it's their life and they will take responsiblity. ######


Prompt:
Last week my in-laws and a few other family members decided to hold an intervention for my husband without my knowledge. They invited themselves over for tea and as soon as they were alone with my husband they started the intervention.

Except this intervention was for his "gaming addiction". They essentially made a mockery of interventions and it looked like some sketch from a comedy channel. They talked about how bad video games are and how my husband is being desensitized to violence.

My teenage daughter has struggled with substance abuse in the past and has had an intervention for it. The whole situation upset my daughter and she left the house to go stay with a friend for some time.

I then went and broke up their "intervention" and told them to be more sensitive towards my daughter. After they left my husband got upset and said I can't kick people out like that. He said it was just a joke and I need to calm down.

I said it clearly wasn't very funny because our daughter doesn't even want to be here for a few days. AITA for reacting like this. ######

Response:
 NTA.

who the hell do they think they are.

If they want to do an intervention so badly, don't do it at the person's own home, and certainly not after what happened with your daughter.

Your in laws sound entitled ######


Prompt:
I met my biological father 3 years ago (I’m 27 now) and we’ve been mending the relationship. We’ve become close friends and I’ve forgiven him for the mistakes he made leaving in the past. I was formally adopted by my step dad at age 3 and he and my mother have been raising me with my two sisters my entire life.

All that aside, my two sisters are angry that I would invite my bio dad to my wedding because they’re concerned that it would upset my step dad. They were both angry that I met my bio dad in the first place because they feel I shouldn’t need anyone else.

I understand their concern, but I feel like that’s a convo I should have with my step dad and mom. My sisters getting mad on their behalf just makes me want to elope. AITA? ######

Response:
 NTA.

When my dad got remarried, he gave my sister and me a speech.  "I do not have a finite amount of love to give.  The amount of love I can feel for people is unlimited, so if I show love to my new wife, or to her kids or family, that does not mean that I love you any less."

Love is not a finite resource.  You can love your stepdad all the same and open yourself up to new people.  A relationship with your bio-dad doesn't change the relationship you had with your step-dad.  There is no competition.  The only competition that exists is in the minds of the petty and jealous. ######


Prompt: Not too much to say, but she wants to lose weight and I keep telling her not eating isnt the way to go, she needs to just eat the right type of foods and exercise. But shes really mad that I dont want her to only have water for 20 days to lose weight. AITA? ######

Response:
 Nta.

What she's doing is extremely dangerous and can kill her. ######


Prompt:
Today, my dad decided to pick up Popeyes for lunch today. He asked me(16) and my sister (12) and my mom if we wanted chicken. I said yes, my mom said yes, but my sister said she wasn’t hungry, no. So my dad decided to get fries and 10 chicken wings.

Fast forward to when there was one chicken left. I took it, and started eating. My sister ate more than half of the fries and one whole chicken wing after saying she wasn’t hungry. So she asked me if she could have the wing, but I said no, she had a bunch of fries, and a wing after saying she didn’t want any. So I have her a generous amount of chicken. She ate it, but still got mad at me for not giving her the whole chicken.

She called me a “greedy swine”, and cursed me out in front of my parents, and stormed away. AITA? ######

Response:
 NTA.

What did your sister expect? She clearly said she doesn't want any food and then gets angry after she's not given said food? That's just ridiculous ######


Prompt:
Fiancé (24M) and I (24F) recently got engaged. We are in the very early planning stages.

Recently the topic of dress shopping came up. Fiancé asked if his mom would be invited. I said no. I’ve always envisioned it with my mom and maybe an aunt or two, especially the one that is my godmother and has no daughters. Fiancé seemed offended and thinks his mom will be too. I don’t want to hurt anyone’s feelings but his mom is pretty blunt and I don’t want any harsh opinions on that day. I don’t want to be one of those brides like on Say Yes to the Dress who brings too many people with her and they all have different opinions and then it’s really hard to get a dress. I don’t even plan on inviting my maid of honor.

Everything else about wedding planning involves making sure everyone else is happy and having fun, as it should be, so  I think this one thing should be special and just for me. I think who I bring should be my choice.

So AITA?

TLDR: fiancé wants me to invite his mom to go wedding dress shopping. I said no, I’ve always thought it would just be me and my mom and maybe an aunt or two. I think this should be my choice. He’s offended. AITA? ######

Response:
 NTA.

Wedding dress shopping is stressful. I know from experience. The more opinions, the more stressful it gets. I also do think it is a special mother-daughter moment, that maybe you want with just your own mother.

If you do feel you need to appease her...I went wedding dress shopping a variety of times. Once with a friend, once with another, and once with my mom. Maybe you could go and try on some dresses just to appease her. It could be fun. But not necessarily have to pick out “the dress”.

There are so many other wedding activities she could be involved in, if you wanted her to be.. it doesn’t have to be just that one (Picking or making party favors? Picking a song Mother-Son dance? Cake testing?) Lord knows there’s a lot that goes into the wedding. She could be involved in other things too (of course, only if you want her to be) ######


Prompt:
She decided to put away a bottle of edibles in the pantry, then they somehow were moved to the dinner table. It's a pastel pink colored bottle. The kids could easily mistake them for candy. I have pre teens and 2 younger kids.

My one year old was able to open the bottle with ease. Thankfully none of the kids consumed any.

I yelled at her quite harshly because I'm exhausted from work all week and am very irritable when sleepy. I told her they need to be in the medicine cabinet or somewhere more secure. You don't just leave any kind of drug just accessible to kids.

She's now mad at me for yelling at her....... Simple as that. ######

Response:
 NTA.

Usually I might lean ESH for the yelling but in this instance I believe it was warranted. That was incredibly reckless for her to do.

Edit: ESH

Yelling in front of your kids isn’t cool, and the more you describe it the more you seem to be borderline bragging about how angry and loud you got. ######


Prompt: My parents always think im a careless person like sometimes i forgot bring my wallet, forget where i place my key. They always remind me anything , always lock the door before going out, and i never forget to lock the door so why always remind me of that. sometimes people forget, its normal i think. They almost regulate everything in my life including my daughter, for example my daughter (Chloe) throwing tantrum dont want to take a bath, and i just want to trick her to take a bath with my way and it may take some time to beg her to take a bath. Not with my mom, she want my daughter immediately take a bath like forcing her , and chloe will cry out loud. I prefer to beg her to take a bath than to calm her down when she cry. So im moving to new house with my wife after 3 years living with my parents. they ask me to install CCTV in my house considering me and my wife are working so the house can be monitored online. The problem is my parents want to have access on my CCTV too. They said to prevent me from being careless like forget to turn off the gas stove or leaving it while cooking something and help monitoring my house. I feel like i dont have my privacy if they can monitoring my house everytime. so i lied to them that it can only monitored by one phone, so since i already added it to my phone, i cant set it to another phone. AITA here? ######

Response:
 NTA.

This would be a huge violation of your privacy, and a huge sign of disrespect, both to you and your wife.

If they genuinely think you're a danger to your family, then a CCTV isn't going to help. ######


Prompt:
My GF (30f) and I (29m) have been together for 8 years. She recently made some new friends online. She is now asking if one of her new friends (18m) can move in with us.

For a little background, without going too deep, my girlfriend is on disability and cant really leave our home on her own. I, by and large, am the breadwinner of the household. However, we consider both incomes shared money. I make a decent living, but not great and money still gets tight.

We currently live in a one bedroom apartment and would need to move to a two bedroom in the same building to accommodate her friend. Her friend lives with his parents in another state and is the subject of abuse.

She says she knows this friend really well, albeit through online and phone interactions, but I don’t at all.

AMITA, that after considering the whole situation I still can’t get get behind him coming to stay with us?

Edit: To clarify a few things that have been mentioned, she met the guy via online games. The abuse is physical and verbal, she has heard it over the phone. According to the friend it is pretty extreme abuse, full punches etc... ######

Response:
 NTA.

This just *screams* bad idea. You'd all have to move to a new apartment to have an 18 year old kid move in. And how long have they been talking to each other exactly? Not very long I bet. I would be completely against it. She doesn't actually know this guy. ######


Prompt:
Background: me (f22) and my fiancé (m23) are getting married in a couple of days and we had a move in scheduled for tomorrow, we already had a moving van scheduled and our bed and sofa delivery timed to come before our wedding so we can sort out the house out and move in on our wedding day.

I received a suspicious email this morning saying our tenancy agreement has been voided, I called up and asked why and they said it was a error. They later called me ten mins later and informed me that we can’t collect the keys tomorrow , she told me straight that the flooring is undone the toilet hasn’t been fitted and the inspector said that the sink is in the middle of the kitchen floor.

When they  told me that it clicked as to why they voided our contract, I’m a law student so I know they have breached their contract as they are unable to fulfill their promise, I told them they was trying to save their ass by deleting our contract off the server and they are in fact legally liable to reimburse us for the expenses we have incurred (moving van and furniture delivery), she told me there is a property available immediately on a different development however the rent is more expensive.

I got a pretty good grade in my contract law exam so when she told me they aren’t liable to reimburse me I told them they’re liable to my partner since he signed it the fact I didn’t doesn’t exclude the fact they are contractually liable to my fiancé. Also if they can’t honour our contract they need to give us the slightly more expensive property for the same price we agreed to our initial one.

Anyways they point blank said no and they will get the property ready for next week.  I said if they don’t get it ready for by Monday latest I will sue them and I know I have solid ground? AITA for throwing the book at them and threatening. This is the 2nd time they’ve pushed back out move date. ######

Response:
 NTA.

This is cut and dry, they failed to uphold their end of a signed contract.  That's what contacts are for. ######


Prompt:
I feel so awkward I’m new to this office and quite younger (recent grad) than my boss and coworkers- they are mid 30s I’m 22. The boss said our team should bond and have a team lunch - so we all meet up there and it’s a place where you build your own bowl.

My boss is in the middle of us and tells the workers to just put everything on her card. Fast forward - we all eat lunch (6 of us) and at the end I was the only one to say thank you for lunch and everyone looked and she looked a little surprised and said “you’re welcome”.

Now I am realizing I think she probably just put it on her card to make it faster and was expecting us all to pay her back via cash or Venmo. I feel really stupid. She never said it was her treat so I should have known better and now I’m wondering do I apologize days later or let it go but if I let it go AITA? ######

Response:
 NTA.

This is a pretty reasonable assumption to make. Nearly every time I've gone out for a team lunch with my boss across the past three jobs, they've paid. I wouldn't worry about it. ######


Prompt:
okay,so me(15f) got a phone last year, and ever since then my mom and my grandma are forcing me to tell them my password,my grandma always tries to snoop around my phone and check all the photos...

I dont take my phone everywhere,i dont take my phone to school as it is not allowed.my mom says that whenever there is no battery on her phone and she needs to talk to somebody,then she can use mine so she wants to know my password...but I'm 1000% sure she uses it for watching shows,youtube  and complete the mobile data i have on my phone,she also doesn't login into her account so everything she watches comes up in my youtube account.It's annoying.

My grandma tries to snatch my phone and see what i have in it even though i warned her not to.my mom and my grandma argue with me for not telling them my password.i dont want them to know every single thing i do.

I genuinely think that I'm not TA for it cuz u know,...privacy but I'm having second thoughts,
 AITA for it? ######

Response:
 NTA.

This is a one way ticket to never telling them anything when you're older, and is completely disrespectful of your personal space. ######


Prompt: I guess the question isn’t if I’m an asshole for just being on the site in general. It’s more like, I hold the guys I meet on there accountable for the things they promised. For this not familiar with it, but the site is for younger girls to meet older men who are willing to date in exchange for money. It’s not straight up prostitution, I’ve been on plenty of dates and never had sex. But most of the dates don’t even happen, it’s just talking on the phone and communicating for a bit. The issue I have run into EVERY TIME is that when it’s time to send money or when I ask for a gift, they act like I’m some gold digger. Am I? Probably. But it’s MORE than apparent what my intentions are. I’m 24 years old chatting with 60 year old men and they are shocked that I’m not doing this for free. A couple of them have gone off on me for being “such a slut” when ALL I’m doing is asking for the things they promised, so AITA? ######

Response:
 NTA.

They're just cheap and trying to get what's clearly advertised at a cost,  for free.

Or maybe they're delusional enough to think they can so charm you that you won't be able to resist waiving your fee.

And  you already know what the name calling is about..salty when they realize they're not that charming.

Fuck em. ######


Prompt:
I am a graduate student in Illinois.  I sometimes hang out with a few international students from India and Pakistan. I was invited to go to a local Indian restaurant to eat with 5 friends.   When we arrived at the restaurant we ordered food.  It seemed like most of the table ordered food to share instead of just for themselves.  I just ordered for myself as that is what I normally do when I go out to eat.  During the course of the meal, several of the people offered to share some of their food with me.  At the time, I thought it was so I could try new food. I initially declined saying "I would like to eat just my food".  As the evening continued the friends continued to ask me to try their food.  After the fourth time asking, I agreed.  As we left one of the friends said she would pay for the table and we would pay her back.

A few days later, I was asked to pay $35 for my portion of the bill. The total bill for the table was $75.  My meal was $15.  What happened was they expected me to pay half of everything I tried.  Which I thought was unfair due to them offering it to me several times.   I asked my friend about this and was told that is what they do. I paid what I was told I owed but came across as very annoyed about it during the discussion about it.    I told them that since I was offered the food I should not be expected to pay it.  What do you guys think? Is it simply a cultural or communication issue? ######

Response:
 NTA.

They took advantage of you. Cultural or not, that is just wrong. Sorry you have shitty friends. ######


Prompt:
This happened years ago but I was recently thinking about it and got mad all over again. I’ve talked about it to and there’s some people that think I was in the wrong so I figured I’d ask reddit for your opinion.

When I was 18 I started working at a pet store. I felt I was a good employee. Honest and hard working. They didn’t like that I didn’t pressure people into financing dogs though. I still did my job and sold a fair of animals. After a few months it started to wear on me because of how horrible the animals were treated. At least one of the dogs or cats was sick at all times and one even died. So I started looking for a new job. I eventually found one at a gas station and put in my two weeks notice. The issue was that I put in the notice the day before I went on vacation for two weeks because my husband was coming home on leave from Iraq. They told me if I didn’t actually work those two weeks then it wouldn’t count and I would not ever be able to work there again.

I had put in for vacation time a month ahead of time so my shifts were already covered. Since the point of two weeks notice is to give them time to hire someone else, why would it matter if I actually worked those two weeks or not? Anyway, when my husband got home we moved an hour away from the gas station I was working at so I had to quit. I was desperate for a job and there was another location of that pet store near our new apartment so I figured I’d try. They definitely communicated with the other location and refused to hire me. ######

Response:
 NTA.

The two week's notice is really more of a courtesy so your employer has time to fill the vacancy; whether or not you're on vacation is besides the point. ######


Prompt: I(f18) have always been uncomfortable with my mom(f53) posting pictures of me and information about me on Facebook. She’s been doing it for over 10 years and posts multiple times a day. Any time she would take a picture of me I would try to cover my face or make a shitty face so she couldn’t post it. Her Facebook has a lot of private information and really horrible, ugly photos of me on it. It even has pictures of me naked when I was young. I’m extremely uncomfortable with all this information being out there for anyone to see especially since I’m about to join the work force. Ive talked with her about it before but she only agreed to stop tagging me in posts (without deleting the old ones she tagged me in) and continues to attach my name to the images. WIBTA if I told her to delete everything she has of me off face book or to delete the account altogether. ######

Response:
 NTA.

The pictures have you in them, and you didn’t give your consent to be posted online. If she refuses, you can report them to Facebook and they can remove them. ######


Prompt:
 I'm 21f and I'm married to my beautiful wife in December. We been together since eighth grade and engaged. In the end of November, she got diagnosed with cancer and her job's health insurance wasn't the best. The company I work for has better health insurance. The only way I can get her on my health insurance if I married her. So we went to the courthouse and got married. We decided to still act engaged and planning a wedding in December since we both love winter wonderland theme.

 Someone in my family found out and posted on social media. Everyone is mad and stressing out my wife who is on chemotherapy. I told everyone the reason and please stop stressing out my wife.

Am I the asshole? ######

Response:
 NTA.

The douche canoe who outed your marriage on Social media is an A1 Asshole, and your family is pretty shitty for not being understanding. After you explained the situation to your family, did they calm down or continue to be dicks about it? ######


Prompt:
So I used to babysit for a old high school friend and loved working for them they had two kids a little girl who just turned two and a boy who was 8. They were very well behaved kids and I really enjoyed watching them. The mom had asked me to come to the girls 2nd birthday party and I said yes without hesitation and really looked forward to the food the dad said was gonna be there. Well the day comes and I'm told to be there at 1 and I showed up and no one was there yet and nothing had been set up and when I asked if I got the time wrong the mom said "no your right in time to start setting things up" and started pointing to all the boxes of decorations.  At first I thought that maybe she had asked for help and I didn't hear it so I put my gift I got her down and grabbed a box and started setting up. The dad eventually starts the grill and I'm thinking that ok they gonna start helping but no they come and tell me that they going to get ready and to keep an eye on the baby.

I didn't know what was going on but I was starting to figure it out slowly and when guests start showing up  they finally come out of their room and get drinks and snacks ready and when one of their guest asked where do they set the gifts down the mom who was holding the two year old walks over to me hands me the child and said I've had plenty of time to set up and can watch the baby while she fixes everything I messed up (apparently the gifts were supposed to go on a table that I didn't have time to set up).

I set the child down and grabbed my bag and walked out. Within 10 minutes my phone was blowing up asking where I went and calling me a asshole for leaving and it's my fault the baby got into some of the gifts cause I left and so on. I seriously thought they invited me cause I was apart of their lives and they wanted me to be a guest. I don't think I was a asshole for leaving but I've got about 20 text saying otherwise. AITA? ######

Response:
 NTA.

The deceived you into coming and then tried to get free child care out of it.

You owe them nothing and were 100% in your rights to leave. ######


Prompt:
For context, my two friends (20F) and myself (19F) are all queer. This happened a while ago, but it still bothers me.

I’ve only been in two serious relationships and both of them have been with cis men. Still, I identify as a pansexual as their gender doesn’t matter to me.

In my first relationship, I didn’t really notice that my friends were acting any different from when I was single. After a while, things become more obvious. They’d stop talking about girls when I joined the conversation and switch topics. They didn’t want to tell me about their crushes, but I didn’t really mind, it’s up to them whether they want to tell me or not. But then it got more serious, I couldn’t talk about any issues concerning LGBTQ+, because apparently I couldn’t relate to them.

Now on to the main story. Pride is celebrated in my country and it’s a big deal for the community. We’ve wanted to go for years, but there was always a reason we couldn’t go. Except for this year, all three of us were free and I was really excited about it. I had noticed though, that they hadn’t brought it up for a while, so I asked them about it. They didn’t think I intended on going, because ‘I’d been living the straight life’. I told them that I still identified as pan and wanted to be treated that way. They answered that to be treated as pan I should be acting as pan.

That made me so angry. I thought our community was inclusive and I at least expected that from my own friends. I told them they were being biphobic/panphobic and that I didn’t even wanna go with them anymore. Basically they didn’t think you could be biphobic/panphobic when you’re queer. I said that they should be ashamed of themselves and I walked away. We’re still friends, but they still believe that I was an asshole for saying that, but I don’t know, am I? ######

Response:
 NTA.

The behaviour they are displaying is 100% biphobic/panphobic. They are treating the LGBTQI+ community as an exclusive club that you have to be a certain way to get into and mimicking the very attitude that LGBTQI+ stands against. It is YOUR choice to identify as the sexuality that you do, and not theirs to tell you what you can and can't do. Even if you were an ally, and not queer, they still wouldn't have an excuse to not want to go to pride with you on those terms. That's not what friends do and is extremely childish on their part. ######


Prompt:
Me and my sister share a car right now, and when I was driving home about 3 or 4 days ago I got into a minor accident that wasn't my fault.  The car got completely totaled cause the axel got bent, I was fine and the other driver was fine but ow the only car that works (that we can drive) is my mom's which she takes to work, while we take the bus to our work.

My sister has been blaming me over and over for this accident, and I have had enough.  I told her to knock it off but it just didn't work.  She is technically my half sister (share the same dad) and my dad cheated on her mom with my mom and had me.  Her biggest insult she always calls me is "divorce baby" and I hate it with a passion.  Our relationship other than that is alright but if we are ever fighting or I piss her off she will start saying that over and over.  I forgot what exactly happen but I know she called me the divorce baby who couldn't drive and I locked myself in my room for the rest of the night.

Her birthday was yesterday and I was still mad at her from the previous night, and where I usually get a gift I got her a card and just wrote down "happy birthday" and called it a day.  My mom says she is disappointed, and I told her that I'm not gonna take her calling me the divorce baby.  She said I get you are mad but I shouldn't stoop to her level of pettiness.

AITA? ######

Response:
 NTA.

That’s a horrible thing to call someone good God. Of course you weren’t going to get her a gift, what did people expect? ######


Prompt:
Alright. So, kids are definitely a far off thing. I’m still under 18 and I don’t personally feel prepared to raise a kid, nor do I think I will be for the next good few years. But today some of my friends were talking about what they want their kids name to be (again just hypothetical future kids, none of my friends are actively pregnant). I chimed in, saying that I’ve always liked the name Laura. One of my fairly close friends asked if I’m really fit to be a mom or if it’d be unfair to the kid. Here’s the thing- I have spina bifida and use a wheelchair. It does impact my life obviously, but I can still do most normal people things.

I removed myself from the conversation to think for a while. I’ve never really thought fully about whether I want kids, but I certainly never thought that it’d be unfair to the kid just because I can’t walk. I PMd my friend asking if she really thought that it’d be unfair after the group chat convo moved on, and she doubled down and said yeah because kids deserve normal parents, and it’s unfair that I would take that away from them. Honestly idk what to think now. I’m a bit upset, but I don’t want to make a scene or anything. And I’ve been thinking about it more and more, and maybe she’s right. ######

Response:
 NTA.

That was rude and uncalled for. Why are they your friend? ######


Prompt: I went over to this guys house to hook up. I am 19 years old, female, and live with my parents while I attend college. They are strict Christians. I do not have enough to move out as rent is a minimum of 1k a month where I live and minimum wage is 8 an hour. Anyway I got back and my mother took my car and has grounded me. Which was whatever. My mother said no hookups in her house or some bullshit so it’s whatever. Well, I made the fucking mistake of going to the grocery store with her. And, I forgot I still had a super super faint hickey mark. She screamed at me in the middle of the store and got home and told my fucking dad. I am BEYOND EMBARRASSED right now and extremely angry. I understand their house their rules but my sex life is not their business!! AITA? ######

Response:
 NTA.

That really sucks. You're 19 and, whilst you're still young, you definitely shouldn't be treated like a child anymore. *Grounding you*? Really?

Hopefully you get to move out soon and have your space. ######


Prompt:
I’m 20, when I was 18 my father told me that I have an older half-brother(23) we officially met when I was 19, from day one I knew there was something off about him, he really gave off bad vides so I did my best to keep a distance.

But my Dad started inviting him to our family holidays, my brother kept on being really odd around me, making weird comments about my appearance and obsessively complementing me, he had a hard time keeping eye contact and always fiddled with a pocket knife he kept in his pocket.

I honestly disliked being around him because of how odd he is. He send me a message of him Confessing his “love”for me,  I told him he’s disgusting told all our family and family friends about his gross confession.

My dad was angry at me, probably because he feels guilty for not being involved in his life. He told me I’m an awful person for exposing my brother like that and that he’s going through some mental heath issues and that I should’ve kept quiet, I don’t see him as my brother just some stranger who happens to share the same dad.

Am I really the asshole for showing everyone my brothers true colours ######

Response:
 NTA.

Telling the rest of the family was a very smart move because Dad's guilt over not being there for him is overshadowing his protective instincts for you, his daughter.

Now everyone else knows something isnt right and can monitor the brother's interactions with you.

Absolutely stay far away from the pocket knife weilding person expressing inappropriate love for you. ######


Prompt:
My friend does not use social media and does not have a Facebook account. She’s not off the grid or worried about online privacy, she just doesn’t use it. Her dog has its own Instagram account though, FWIW.

She wanted to do a livestream yoga class that the instructor is putting on weekly and therefore needed to be able to sign into Facebook. She asked for my login credentials, saying that I could change my password afterwards. She is doing the class weekly.

I declined to give her my info and she is still salty about it. AITA? ######

Response:
 NTA.

Tell her to create a facebook account for her dog.  She can use that. ######


Prompt:
My father was born in ‘77 and my husband was born in ‘79. I just so happened to be born in ‘94. Now the age difference between my husband and I does not bother me in the slightest bit. Nor does it bother my grandparents or my siblings only my dad.

My father didn’t raise me. I lived with my grandparents my entire life and I feel like my dad is more like my brother instead of a father and that my grandfather is more like a father to me. My grandfather is 72.

Every time we have a family get together my father treats my husband like garbage and my husband is actually very good to me. He loves me unconditionally. I have full trust in him and we are expecting a little boy in November. He’s a sweet man who cried upon hearing the news and has pampered me since the day we found out.

But my dad says it’s “weird” that they are so close to the same age and I got so tired of him belittling my husband and making him the joke of the evening and I told him “you didn’t raise me, Mamaw and papaw did while you ran around getting drunk all week and hanging out with women, you didn’t even call me on my birthday last week and I doubt you even know what day it was on or even how old I am. I didn’t buy you anything for Father’s Day and bought papaw something instead because you weren’t a father. You were just an over glorified brother and I don’t care if you are uncomfortable. It’s uncomfortable for me to have a 9 year old brother and my 5 year old daughter has a 9 year old uncle but I don’t go making running jokes about it every time I see you. No one cares that you’re uncomfortable”

Well he got pissed to say the least and stormed off. My stepmom is berating me over it and saying I need to be kinder to my father but enough is enough. AITA? ######

Response:
 NTA.

Stand your ground. It sounds like your father is more worried about how he thinks things look than how things are. He isnt concerned for your wellbeing (a reasonable parental feeling) so much as throwing a tantrum that you made an adult decision he doesnt like. ######


Prompt:
I met my boyfriend at the beginning of freshman year of college(I’m a junior now) and I moved into his apartment in January. I’m 5’9” and he’s 5’5”. So yes, I’m tall and he’s short and I can see how that could be a little funny at first.

But my friends have been making jokes about it for 2 years straight. Just incessantly, every conversation has to be a joke about it. I’ve told them to relax with the jokes multiple times and they never stopped.

And my boyfriends friends are so much more... I don’t know how to say it, just chill. I’ve been spending most of my time with them playing video games online rather than on the 2 hour phone calls my friends have been having.

They’ve been texting me asking what I’m doing and to call them. WIBTA if I don’t? ######

Response:
 NTA.

Sounds like you've outgrown your immature friends. I hope you can find some more accepting ones, in addition to your boyfriend's friends! ######


Prompt:
My friend (M 20) frequently complains about  his lack of  men to date.  He isn't unattractive but he is no male model.  He however has very narrow tastes when it comes to men.  He wants a tall,  ripped male model who isn't feminine in any way. Which I've  always found  pretty shallow.

Yesterday,  while he was complaining about how he must be so ugly because none of these 10 /10 men would date him and that he will never find a decent guy to date,  i told him that  he needed to have more realistic expectations.  Most people aren't  perfect models  and the epitome  of masculinity so he needs  to be open to dating less attractive  people  and not be so shallow because he is also not a 10/10

He accused me of attacking  his self-esteem and not being a good friend for telling  him he's  unattractive and ridiculing him for having standards. I feel justified  in what i said because i he needs a wakeup call but maybe i shouldn't have told  him he's not that attractive (he has had issues with  self-esteem in the past so i feel guilty for bringing up his looks) ######

Response:
 NTA.

Sometimes you need to give your friends a reality check. He kept constantly complaining about how he couldn't find a single person because he's only looking for people he deems as a 10/10 when he could already have someone if he lowered bis expectations a bit. ######


Prompt:
first thing first, english is not my first language so sorry for any grammar mistakes. this happened back in January, and she still wont talk to me unless i apologize.

a little background, i am 37M. got married to the love of my life, my wife when we were both 28. unfortunately she passed away 2 years ago from cancer and ive been single since. with therapy, I've made my peace with her passing. im still sad, but im okay with that.

so back in January my mother hosted a small gathering and she invited her friend, anna. she's said some hurtful words in the past, but since i dont see her very often i usually let it slide. so i was talking to my sister when she sat next to me and began asking me if i ever want to remarry, find someone new. i said no, i dont want to talk about it. but she kept insisting that i need to have a new wife so i dont get lonely. i replied, i have my cats and my therapist. i can talk to either of them. then she asked again, but what if you get sexually frustrated? who will help you? your hand? at this point i start getting annoyed, i keep raising my voice, telling her if she doesnt shut up i will leave. she then had the nerve to tell me she could always find me a wife, that she doesn't mind if i take her daughter. true to my word, i left.

few days later i got a panicked call from annas daughter asking if im really marrying her so i was like wtf? no. she told me her mom said that. i reassured her that id deal this issue with her mom.

fyi her daughter is 22 and i liked her talking to her, but at most i feel like an older brother to her. besides she has a boyfriend already.

so i called anna and told her if she does this again i will sue her for repeated harassment (here, suing someone IS a big deal) then she called my mom saying im an asshole but luckily my mom is on my side. my mom said something like if (op) doesnt want to, its his decision. she yelled at us both and apparently blocked us on Facebook, and made some posts about it. ######

Response:
 NTA.

She’s rude and insensitive and the whole offering up her daughter like she owns her is just disgusting.

Do not apologise. She’s the one who owes you an apology as well as her daughter.

If she’s stopped talking to you I’d count that as a win. Can you imagine if she actually was your MIL?! Blegh.

Facebook drama every time you didn’t do as she said. PFO. ######


Prompt:
So I (F19) had an argument with my step mom and dad the other night. It wasn’t related to my clothing but because of the argument, my step mom started listing off things the doesn’t like that I’ve been doing.
One of those things, the thing I believe is unreasonably at best and highly misogynistic at worst, is that I need to be dressing more modestly around the house. She “hates to see my ass and tits hanging out all the time”.  She also said “I don’t know why you dress like that around your father.” Which I find to be disgusting. So let’s break it down..
•She is 15 weeks pregnant
•She does not leave her room EVER (which I understand because I’m a mom too)
•I have been living here three weeks and neither of my parents have complained until now about ANYTHING.
•I have followed all of the rules they bothered to tell me upon moving in.
•I paid rent on time plus groceries which was nearly half of my monthly paycheck.

She and I have butt heads before because I am an atheist and she is Mormon. They want me to come to church, I refuse. They want to teach my toddler daughter about God, I refuse. So the relationship there is already unsteady.
I told her that she obviously has a lot of internalized misogyny to try and slut shame me over my clothes. She thinks I need to apologize for saying that and now my dad is accusing me of ruining their marriage.
But the way I see it, she refuses to accept me for who I am, she doesn’t respect my beliefs the way I’ve respected hers, and now she’s telling me that I have no self-respect because of the way I dress. I feel as though she owes me an apology. I just made her a birthday cake from scratch and and homemade frosting because the canned stuff makes her sick. I thought we’d bond more now that she’s pregnant and we had something in common. But I suppose not.
I’m truly hurt by what she said and I’m hurt that my dad is blaming me for her being angry with him. ######

Response:
 NTA.

She's in a cult, and was probably raised by one. The last thing you want to do is expose your children to that, except to warn them away from anything related to it.

Your dad knows she's in the wrong, but he's weak and a coward, and he knows that the easiest solution is for you - the reasonable one - to acquiesce for the sake of keeping the peace. ######


Prompt:
So I’m a new mother, my son is 3 weeks old. Forgive me for any mistakes, I didn’t sleep much last night.

My sister lives with us, we own our house, she doesn’t pay rent, she lives with us because she can’t afford to live on her own. I had hoped she’d move out before I gave birth but she didn’t.

I normally feed our son in our bedroom or his room, but yesterday my husband and I were watching tv, and I was holding him and he got hungry, and I was tired and didn’t want to go upstairs just to feed him and be stuck alone. My sister was out buying groceries(that we are paying for) so I didn’t think it would be a problem.

She came home in the middle of me feeding him and freaked out saying it was gross to do that in the living room and to go somewhere private, and she didn’t want to see my tits(her words).

I didn’t have the energy to explain why I didn’t go upstairs so I just went into the bathroom with him. But now she’s making comments whenever I’m holding him like “don’t take your tits out here”. I’m just tired, I don’t think it was really that big a deal, and werrr fucking paying for the house. Also, would I be an asshole if I told her to go fuck herself because I really want to. ######

Response:
 NTA.

She's got a lot of nerve for complaining about breastfeeding for someone figuratively suckling at your teat. ######


Prompt:
I have never wanted kids. I have made this clear to every person I have dated. When I married my now ex, she knew this. She was okay with it, or so I thought. 3 years in, she mentioned adoption and I shut it down, reminding her I never wanted kids and that children deserve a parent who wants them. She stayed with me for another 3 years and eventually filed for divorce 2 years ago. I wasn’t surprised because outside the kid thing, we had other issues.

We got married in our 40s, so by the time we divorced we were in our 50s. I moved out and didn’t see her for awhile after the final meeting. Then one night recently I decided to take advantage of my favorite restaurant having outdoor dining again. As I was eating, my ex approached me. We made small talk and eventually she said she was angry with me. This took me off guard. She told me that I “stole the best years of her life” and “because of you, I’ll never have kids”.

I laughed in her face. I said she knew going in I didn’t want kids and why should I bend on that? I said if she feels guilty for not having a baby, it’s on her not me. She got even more upset and left.

My brother thinks I could’ve handled it better and not laughed at her. I think she was being ridiculous but am willing to admit I might’ve been an asshole. So, was I? ######

Response:
 NTA.

She was being ridiculous, would've been hard not to laugh. ######


Prompt:
first thing first, english is not my first language so sorry for any grammar mistakes. this happened back in January, and she still wont talk to me unless i apologize.

a little background, i am 37M. got married to the love of my life, my wife when we were both 28. unfortunately she passed away 2 years ago from cancer and ive been single since. with therapy, I've made my peace with her passing. im still sad, but im okay with that.

so back in January my mother hosted a small gathering and she invited her friend, anna. she's said some hurtful words in the past, but since i dont see her very often i usually let it slide. so i was talking to my sister when she sat next to me and began asking me if i ever want to remarry, find someone new. i said no, i dont want to talk about it. but she kept insisting that i need to have a new wife so i dont get lonely. i replied, i have my cats and my therapist. i can talk to either of them. then she asked again, but what if you get sexually frustrated? who will help you? your hand? at this point i start getting annoyed, i keep raising my voice, telling her if she doesnt shut up i will leave. she then had the nerve to tell me she could always find me a wife, that she doesn't mind if i take her daughter. true to my word, i left.

few days later i got a panicked call from annas daughter asking if im really marrying her so i was like wtf? no. she told me her mom said that. i reassured her that id deal this issue with her mom.

fyi her daughter is 22 and i liked her talking to her, but at most i feel like an older brother to her. besides she has a boyfriend already.

so i called anna and told her if she does this again i will sue her for repeated harassment (here, suing someone IS a big deal) then she called my mom saying im an asshole but luckily my mom is on my side. my mom said something like if (op) doesnt want to, its his decision. she yelled at us both and apparently blocked us on Facebook, and made some posts about it. ######

Response:
 NTA.

She sounds entitled,  mean and petty.

Good for you for leaving.

Sorry for your loss, losing someone is always tough, and I suppose this isn't helping.

Stay strong ######


Prompt:
My husband and I adopted our oldest son in 2016, and biologically he is my husband's nephew (his mom is my husband's sister). Anyway, she had been making poor life choices for quite some time, but it ultimately came to a head in 2014, when her drug usage caused her to lose all of her kids. She went to prison for a while, and when she got out and reached out to us, we asked our son if he wanted to talk to her (he's gonna be 18 at the end of this year, he was definitely old enough to understand and make the choice.) He said yes, and they had phone and letter contact until about a year ago, when we finally let them meet in person (supervised). She was staying clean and generally doing good for herself for a while, to the point where my son was actually kinda proud of her. Then she got with a guy that is just terrible, and entered a downward spiral from there.

She stopped trying to get ahold of my son frequently, if at all. He never talked to me about how it made him feel, and I never pushed it as he doesn't react positively to that sort of thing.  Then Mother's Day rolled around. I hadn't expected him to say anything to me, seeing as how I'm not his bio mom and he knows it. He went out of his way to find me before I left for work (he was staying at his girlfriend's house the night before), told me happy mothers day and gave me a huge hug.

I thought it was awesome. I had a great day and after I got home from work I had a text from his bio mom.  "Happy mothers day tell [name] that I love him have him call me sometime"

She nows how to get ahold of him. She just chose not to contact him directly, and when I asked him if he told her happy mother's day, he just said "no".

My husband is a little mad that I didnt prod him to tell her, and my parents told me "well thats still his mom", but I dont see the need to make him solely responsible for maintaining a relationship he doesnt want in the first place.

AITA? ######

Response:
 NTA.

She kinda disappears from your son's life and still expects a congratulation on mother's day?

> but I dont see the need to make him solely responsible for maintaining a relationship he doesnt want in the first place.

Also this. If he's not interested, that's it. ######


Prompt: Hello friends. I am a T1 diabetic, so I need to keep my insulin in the fridge. Lately I’ve been staying with my girlfriend who lives with her parents, who are very kind to temporarily take me in. I got there yesterday and I was unpacking and asked her if I could put my boxes of insulin in her fridge. She looked a bit uncomfortable and said first that there’s no space. I said this is objectively not true because their fridge is massive (she has four siblings but none of them are at home now) and there’s literally hectares of space, and besides I don’t need that much. She moved on to the next excuse which is that it’s weird to have my medication out in the open like that for other people to see. This one has really hurt my feelings. I mean it’s not like I asked for this illness. I literally need it to live. I tried to explain this to her and she said it’s their property and I should respect what they want to do with it. She also asked me not to do my injections in front of anyone else which makes me feel asif she’s somehow ashamed of me and my condition ######

Response:
 NTA.

She is iiterally telling you that you can't have your insulin because it makes people uncomfortable. I see that as a complete dealbreaker. ######


Prompt:
I’m a senior in HS. In December one of my classmates got into a bad car accident that did a lot of damage. She had several surgeries, and is in need of more for her face. Her insurance won’t cover it, hence the GoFundMe.

I was never friendly with this girl. She spread nasty rumors about a friend of mine, and I always had a tainted view of her. Outside of that incident I never talked to her, and didn’t know she knew that I existed.

So my classmates are sending around a GoFundMe and a link to T-shirts for sale and I see that my artwork has been used!

My artwork has nothing to do with her cause, it was a Picasso style self portrait that was an assignment for class. I posted it to twitter. They were using it on T-shirts and in promotions without my permission.

I got into contact with the girl and her friend who is running everything and asked them to take my artwork off of their GoFundMe. At first they said that they didn’t know it was mine, and would credit me (they cropped my siggy our though...) I told them that I didn’t want it credited and preferred it to be taken down.

The told me they already had T-shirts, people recognized it for her GoFundMe. I honestly didn’t care. Then they started guilt tripping me about it, and I told them I would go through other means to get it taken down.

Then the girl posts screenshots of our DMs on her twitter, directing people at me, and telling them how heartless I am. I am getting tons of hate messages, and people telling me to just “let her use my shorty artwork.” I can’t even open up any social media without fear of getting shitty messages from my classmates.

I talked to my mom about it and she thinks I should have just kept quiet about it as it’s hard not to look like an asshole for refusing to let her use the image. I’m feeling pretty confused, because I think I have the right to say where my artwork goes. AITA for not letting her use my art? ######

Response:
 NTA.

Send DMCA takedown notice to GoFundMe to remove the artwork, since they refused to do it (more info at  [https://www.gofundme.com/terms](https://www.gofundme.com/terms) section Copyright Complaints). ######


Prompt: So recently, I moved out of the state to start a new job. My gf who I had been with for about a year, decided to follow me a few months later. She had assumed that I would get rid of the dog when she moved in, but I had no plans to. She gets weirdly jealous of the dog, and is insistent that she is in her cage whenever I am not directly petty or playing with it. She also thinks it is okay to yell at the dog for no reason when it is being well behaved. At this point I’m ready to call the relationship quits because I can’t stand the way she treats my dog. AITA? ######

Response:
 NTA.

RED FLAGS. Red flags EVERYWHERE.

You made a commitment to that dog, to take care of her for her entire life. You shouldn't get rid of her, and your GF shouldn't expect you to. Also, the way your GF behaves towards your dog is a huge red flag. Allergic or not, how a person treats a dog is a big clue to how they will treat children in the future. ######


Prompt: My(18F) mother always likes using the phrase ‘I know each of my children individually’. She always says this when I ask why the rest of my siblings(13M and 26M) don’t do chores. Like she would go out for groceries or whatever then comes back in the evening and asks ME why there are still shoes in the entry way(not even mine), why there are dirty dishes in the sink(even though I did breakfast dishes expecting someone to do lunch dishes) and why the house is a mess. I used to just do whatever she says to avoid being confrontational but yesterday was when I reached my last straw. She came back from taking her car for a drive to ‘revive her engine’, it was literally like 20 minutes max, then she finds me in my room and starts telling me how irresponsible I am for expecting her to come back and do the dishes and clean up the living room while I just sat in my room doing nothing(my brothers where in the living room playing ps4).I retorted by saying that I’m not the only one in this house and she threw in her famous ‘I know each of my children individually’ quote and  this is where I might have been the AH cause I said that she only uses that phrase when she wants to manipulate me into doing chores that everyone should have an equal share in and that she always has such high standards when it comes to my life whereas she pampers my other siblings. She told me to lose my attitude and we haven’t spoken since then. My dad now wants me to apologize so that we reduce the tension inside the house and telling me that I should never speak to a parent like that. So AITA? ######

Response:
 NTA.

Probably classic 'girls should do the chores, not boys' situation. Clean only after yourself and be super duper lazy. ######


Prompt: So my girlfriend's sister has opened an online store selling creams, misc hair products/ jewelry, and prints. I was pretty suspicious of what she is selling as she has a habit of putting the cart before the horse when trying to start up these little businesses of hers (she has a history of creating and abandoning small business ideas). She let me know she orders the cream from a supplier and resells it but claimed to make everything else herself. I've never known her to draw or anything artistic  so I looked into the prints and.. She is simply taking them from another artist online and rebranding it with her name before selling it. I tried to talk to my girlfriend about this who asked her sister but.. She just denied it and insisted its her original work. The artist online I found has been doing this for a while however and her sister only just started selling her goods... Am I the asshole if I alert the artist? ######

Response:
 NTA.

Please let the artist know that your girlfriend's sister is stealing other people's work. ######


Prompt: So i was spending time with my mom today and my best friend decided to call me. i had headphones on luckily so i picked up and she seemed somewhat off during the conversation. while talking to her she kept moaning and sighing more and more often and said her boyfriend was fingering her while i was on the call. she then abruptly hung up and i felt so uncomfortable and violated that i didn't really know what to do. i texted her saying it made me uncomfortable and she said "my boyfriend made me do it" and she was sorry. so i texted her boyfriend and let him know that the call made me feel weird and uncomfortable and that i didnt find it funny at all. he replied and said "well i found it hilarious" with an unnecessary picture of my friend in nothing but her underwear. i was disgusted with him and carried on with my day but was still appalled by their choice to call me. she called me a few hours later profusely apologizing and taking accountability for what they did, which i appreciated but i discovered that her boyfriend took her phone and called me specifically and put me on speakerphone while he was fingering her and the phone was out of her control. she defended his action and told me he was sorry but i told her that if he was sorry then i could hear it from his own voice. i am still upset with them  both for her defending her boyfriend's action by saying "i think he's sorry and he was just trying to be kinky" and him for calling me in the first place and not taking accountability for his own actions. AITA for still being upset? ######

Response:
 NTA.

People who rope other people into their kinks without consent are gross. Your friend is gross. Her boyfriend is gross. I  don't know if that counts as a rule 1 violation but...ew at both of them. ######


Prompt:
Long story short, but my ex fiancé broke up with me around six months ago. She was supposed to be looking for her own place by now but has been dragging her feet. When we separated, while sharing the house we both rent, we agreed on a roommate situation where we both pay our equal amounts of rent and cost of living expenses up until she moved. When July rolls around, this will be the third month in a row that she fails to pay rent. I have already started getting the utilities in my name, and not only am I paying all of that myself but I’m also paying all the rent too, which led me to tell her that come July 1, she needs to be on her way out and into her own place. She basically called me an asshole because I’m asking her to move out.

Am I really the asshole in this? ######

Response:
 NTA.

Pay up or get out. She's not your responsibility and you've already been far more kind than warranted. She can be mad at you all she wants, tfb. She calls you an asshole, but somehow doesn't realize she's a leech. She's using you and she has absolutely no right to. ######


Prompt:
Me and my father always had a horrible relationship. I'm the youngest of 4 siblings and have 3 older brothers. I was born with a learning disability so it made me a little slow and be less intelligent. My dad hated that I had a learning disability and he would always call me names such as stupid, moron, idiot, etc. He never hit me but multiple times he told me if i was a boy he would hit me. When i was 16 i came down with a serious illness that lasted for a month and my dad yelled at me the whole time for being sick and for throwing up when i had no control over being sick. He would always tell me i'd grow up to be a loser. He also yelled at me when i developed Bipolar disorder and said i chose to be that way. Once I was an adult I met my first husband at age 25 and my dad's reaction to finally having a boyfriend was "Surprised anyone would wanna date you" and he basically told my boyfriend that he can do way better than me. When me and my boyfriend married 2 years later he didn't congratulate me at all. 3 years later i got pregnant but miscarried what was going to be a baby boy and he apparantly said behind my back "Thank god there won't be another slow person in the family." Me and my husband divorced shortly after the miscarriage cause he had an affair and my dad said the other woman was better than me. I haven't been in a relationship since then.

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So anyways 4 months ago my dad got diagnosed with stage 4 lung cancer and was told he only has 12 months left to live if he's lucky. My dad has at most 6 months left to live and i'm honestly very happy he's dying so he can't bully me anymore/ when he dies i will be very happy and i will not attend his funeral but my older brothers say i'ts disgusting of me to not be sad dad is dying (My dad was way nicer to my brothers and mostly i got all the yelling from my dad) ######

Response:
 NTA.

Only you get to decide how you feel about your dad's impending death and if you've not had a good relationship with him then it's very reasonable to feel relieved on his death. You're under no obligation to feel sad simply because you two are related ######


Prompt:
my ex really wanted me to get a switch so i would play more games with him. I said over and over i didnt want one, i was happy with my ps4 and not super into games anyway. He kept insisting hed buy me one, even got mad at me when I said “absolutely not” to him spontaneously driving to gamestop to buy one when we were both very broke.
Then animal crossing came out, he insisted that i would like it, he got it and i made a villager on his island. Seemed alright. Then covid happened and i offhandedly remarked that “maybe i should have bought a switch afterall since everyone on earth is playing animal crossing.” But switches were sold out everywhere. I just got the animal crossing app on my phone and called it good.
We very briefly discussed that people were selling switches on ebay, to which i said “this is such a scam these are way too much.”
He brought it up a few times more, insisting that he *might* buy me one. I said “if you do, do NOT spend more than $300.”
A few weeks later he surprised me with a switch, i was grateful, and told him i hoped he didnt spend too much. I assumed it was a gift. Later that night he starts dropping hints that i now owed him for it. Hed paid $400.
I have been very clear how i feel about these “hostage” gift scenarios- i am very against being surprise forced into a financial obligation. I wasnt super surprised though as my ex was always insanely frugal and rarely (if ever) paid for ANYTHING without expecting me to pay for something in return. (When i paid for things, which was about 70% of the time, he was cool accepting it, though).
As to not start an argument, i reminded him that i was pretty broke at the moment, as id just spent a ton of money (on his birthday) but maybe when i had money i could chip in.
Anyway, we broke up about a month later and he immediately insisted i pay him for the switch, and for every drink he ever paid for, and for gas ect because he lived far and had to drive to see me.
I told him to eat a dick. AITA? ######

Response:
 NTA.

Oh, shit.

Is that how gifting things works?

I owe Santa SO MUCH.

Send help OP ######


Prompt:
This happened last year around October.

I was at home, it was a Saturday around five pm and someone knocked on my door. I'd only been home from work for about an hour after having been awake since four am, and I was sitting down eating my dinner. I went and opened the door, it was a group of people and they started singing church hymns. They'd stuck a flier to my door that basically said "hi, we're from the local church and we've decided to start having Singing Saturdays where we'll go around town blessing people with hymns to encourage you to come to church and hear the word of God on Sundays."

When I realized what was going on I stepped back inside and shut the door, shut the curtains and went back to my dinner. They stayed outside until the hymn was over and then moved on down the street to my neighbors.

Later on, I was on the neighborhood Facebook page putting up an ad in search of a lawn mower for cheap and I saw the church had posted about "our amazing afternoon on \[street\] and how most people were receptive to the word of the lord but there was a couple of hold-outs they'd be paying another visit to." Most of the comments on the post were putting those couple of hold-outs on blast and one of the church members actually described my house and the houses of the other couple hold-outs. I reported it but considering my house is the only yellow house on the street it's pretty obvious who one of the hold-outs was.

Anyway, I was out on the next few Saturdays and didn't encounter them again but was called out on the Facebook page for not answering my door this time.

Was I an asshole because I didn't want to stand there awkwardly while strangers sang at me? ######

Response:
 NTA.

No one should have religion shoved in their face like that. And the group shouldn't have outed the people that weren't interested. ######


Prompt:
Last year I (28F) decided to go back to school and my fiance (30M) supported me.

When his mom found out I was starting (we decided not to say anything until it was official) she flipped out.

Why? Because I wouldn't be around to do anything they (I drive his mom, sister, 6 nieces, and his foster brothers where they need to go because she won't drive) wanted me to at random times.

"It's inconvenient". I quit my last job because it was an inconvenience to them! Once she starts complaining, my fiance is usually guilted into agreeing with her. I'm just glad he makes enough so I don't have to work but, the problem is, I WANT TO!

I refuse to give up my future because nobody wants to drive!

I'm just waiting for them to learn that I start my internship in the fall! All hell's gonna break loose!

So AITA for "not caring about them and their feelings and needs" because I want to have a better future for my kids?? ######

Response:
 NTA.

Laugh in the faces of people who try to guilt trip you. Someone else will drive. ######