Prompt:
This happened last year and I only just found this subreddit. Also first ever post so go easy on me.
Last year one of my colleagues got diagnosed with testicular cancer and needed to go through chemo.
Chemotherapy makes all of your hair fall out in clumps and eventually you wind up bald. Some of my colleagues, both male and female, decided to shave themselves bald to show support.
However, I hardly know this colleague (I had only been with the company 2 months) so while I expressed my support and hope he pulls through, I wouldn't be shaving my head.
When shaving-day came around, both the colleague and a few others that had shaved themselves expressed they were hurt I hadn't shaved bald and asked what was up.
I said I still absolutely support him in every way, but I'm just not shaving myself bald. He seemed offended and the now bald gang said I was being a dick and I might as well laugh in his face. When I asked how come they aren't giving some of the others the same lecture, apparently it was because they were women and "needed" the long hair.
I'm almost certain I am in the right and they're being unreasonable, but I need a sanity check. Am I the asshole? ######

Response: NTA They sound like ridiculous mob of assholes to turn something that's supposed to infuse positivity into something to fight about. ######


Prompt:
Hello, using a throwaway account and on mobile.

When I was 14 my parents finally bought a house and we were able to move out of our trailer. In the trailer I had my own room because I’m the oldest and my sisters shared a room. The house we moved into had 3 bedrooms and a garage. Before we moved in, my mom asked me if I would be ok sleeping in the garage so that all 3 of us could have our own rooms. I was told that the garage would be converted into a bedroom. I said yes because it seemed cool at the time. So we moved in and at first I shared a room with one of my sisters until we could convert the garage. When we finally did convert the garage, I found out the only thing we were doing was sealing the door shut. I didn’t get an A/C or anything. Since I didn’t have A/C and it was south Texas, I wasn’t allowed to shut my bedroom door all through high school, which led to some awkward moments. Because of the window in the kitchen into my room and my door always being open, I had to go to the bathroom to change. And the laundry room was in there, so people walked through my room at all times of day and night. After a few weeks it stopped being cool and fun and I hated it, but I didn’t get feel like I could say anything at that point. Now I’m in college and every time I come home I have to sleep on the couch because the garage is just storage now. My bed frame broke about 6 months before I left for college and my parents figured I was about to leave, so I just slept on a mattress on the floor. Now I don’t have an actual bed in there, so my parents just converted it back to storage.

AITA if I’m upset that my parents only presented me with the choice to sleep in the garage and made it seem like the best choice and if I’m upset that I spent 4 years living miserably because of my room? ######

Response: NTA they just manipulated you into something that you wouldn't have accepted otherwise. A dick move on there part ######


Prompt:
I (22) live in mature student accommodation while I do my Masters. One of my housemates and her husband (early 30s) got pregnant after moving in.

I haven’t slept in weeks and haven’t been able to do my uni work. I am living on this baby’s schedule. I pay a lot to live in this housing and it is against our legal contract to generate noise loud enough to disturb other tenants. I understand that they can’t move out any time soon but I think it’s selfish to have a baby in student housing and they should move out when this is over. WIBTA? ######

Response: NTA they have those rules for a reason. It stinks for them but there are apartments for families, student housing isn't the place to bring a baby home to. ######


Prompt:
13 F here. I've got 4 close friends, all 13. And, like 13 year olds, we like to be play videogames together. The problem is, I'm the only one with a pc, and enough controllers to play all 5.

None of my friends have anything to play on, so they all wanna visit me when we wanna do something together. That's fine, I like them, and I love playing with them. We always have a lot of fun. But every time we're at my place, they screech, scream, yell, curse, and make huge messes. I have a brother, who's room is right next to mine, and he always lends me enough controllers to play, as I only have one. And I repay him with 4 hours of non-stop screaming.

I'm not saying I don't scream too, I'm no better than them. But my parents are beginning to grow tired of it.

On top of the noise, they make huge messes. A girl brings popcorn, and they fight about it until the floors covered. Another girl makes coffee, and there's coffee grounds everywhere. Another girl makes hot chocolate, and she drips chocolate all the way from the machine to the bin. Another girl gets impatient, and begins looking through my stuff, and completely covers my bed with random stuff from my shelves "to look at it"

I spend hours after they leave, my parents give me a lecture about visiting someone else next time, and I ask them to maybe go visit someone else next time?

They all get a no.

I'm just so fucking tired of dealing with this shit like 3 times a month. But I don't want to say no.

WIBTA? ######

Response:
 NTA they don't have a right to trash your place. Set ground rules and if they can't follow them they can't be there.

You shouldn't be having anyone over at the moment anyway (though this might depend on location) ######


Prompt:
Ok so I'm probably TA but frankly IDGAF and I'm posting this anyways.

Backstory:My parents divorced when I was around 5 and my mom remarried instantly (I think its cause she didn't want to be alone the days I wasn't there).  I am an only child but her husband had 4 kids all around my age, so at 5 I now had "siblings" who were 6,5,3 and 2.  At first it was alright but as time went on I hated it, they would all gang up on me and it was always a 4v1.

So I spent a lot of time at my mom's and with them, they excluded me a lot saying how I wasn't one of them and it was always tense.  Our parents tried to make it work they really did, but the kids wanted no part of it and I didn't want any part of it after the constant fighting and bullying.  At 8 or 9 I started playing a lot by myself in my room.  At 14 I asked my dad if i could live with him but he had a bad living situation and couldn't afford to have me and he wanted me to at least have a good home which I respected.  After years you'd think id see them as siblings but I felt nothing but indifference for all of them cause I can't remember having a single good moment with any of them.

I moved out the second I turned 18 and I split rent with my dad, I got accepted into a GREAT college.  I don't want to give out the name but if you watch college football they are one of the 4 teams that made the playoffs this year.

Well now college is shut down and I ended up moving back in with my dad for the time being.  I was visiting my mom and I told her about the college, she was proud of me but my step sister (the oldest and 1 year older than me) asked why I didn't tell the rest of the family about me going to a good college.  I told her I did tell my family, she got confused and I told her I told my family.  She finally got that I meant not her or her siblings/dad.  She called me a dick and left the room and my mom said I was being rude and practically kicked me out of the house. ######

Response: NTA they didn't make you feel apart of their family, you spoke to the reality. Your mum is an ass for kicking you out ######


Prompt:
My ex (20) and I (22F) were together for 5 years. In February, they said they wanted to marry me. The past two months (in quarantine), they’ve been talking about how they actually DON’T like me anymore and need some time to think about where this relationship is going. During that time, there were long stints of us “giving each other space” which meant going no contact for a week, two weeks, etc.

I was heartbroken of course. I was devastated, and I took the time they were “taking time for themself” to take time for MYSELF too. I processed my emotions and got really comfortable with the possibility of them leaving me. Well, lo and behold.

Two days ago they dropped the bomb and said they didn’t want to be with me anymore and gave me all the reasons why. I said “You need to know this is permanent. I have no interest in being your friend after we break up and if you leave me like this after five years I’m done.” And they essentially said YUP LATER!

So the next day I changed my relationship status and made a post publicly about how we had decided to end things, it was amicable, etc. just because so many people knew us as a COUPLE (after being together for FIVE YEARS).

Well they had the audacity to text me about how they’re pissed I moved on so fast and how they didn’t WANT to leave me, they HAD to leave me. I told them that’s fine, but they left me so they can’t exactly tell me how to feel and how to move on, especially after I had really been working through the POSSIBLE break up for over a month. They also told they’re pissed I’m advertising myself as single. I said “But I am single? You left me remember?”

What am saying is AITA for “moving on so fast.” This was my first REAL relationship and I genuinely want to know if I’m being an ass here. Thanks everyone! ######

Response: NTA they can't expect you to pretend you are not single after they broke up with you. ######


Prompt:
I (21F) had a tough time in high school. People ignored me or made fun of me for being different. I suspect they knew I wasn't 'normal', but I can't prove it. All I know is they didn't like me and treated me terribly. They called me a freak and the r-word. They told me I'd never make anything of myself, kicked me when I was walking off the bus, and other things like that. I ended up going to college out of my home state to start over. It cost me the last friendships I had. I hoped at least some of them would change and I'd be able to talk to these people as their equal a few years later.
Then last week happened. So a lot of them were posting about how we should be more tolerant and accepting of those that are different from us. I was tagged in some of these posts because it was a social media challenge. I don't do those, but I decided to DM those that tagged me and ask if they really believed it, and if they did, then why didn't they treat me right. I got some mixed responses. Some completely ignored me and others claimed I was lying about being mistreated.
After realizing they hadn't changed, and they probably never will, I went through all my social media accounts and unfollowed everyone I went to high school with. I texted one person from those times that I was doing this since he was the only one that didn't completely cut ties. I told him I wanted to save my mental health, which is more important than any of those so-called friendships. He responded with I was an AH because people in high school loved me, that I'd regret cutting ties with them, and said I was a liar for claiming they'd ever say those things. In his words, they'd never do that because people in my high school were so nice to him! Well, of course they were, he was the class president every year I was in high school! That's what I wanted to say, but I didn't respond and blocked him temporarily until I calmed down. I'm wondering if I was in the wrong for any of this. What say you? ######

Response: NTA they bullied you for all of Highschool and know their acting like they were nice for their own gain ######


Prompt: I have to sublet my apartment because I just bought a house. I close later in June & don’t want to overlap rent & mortgage so have been trying to get rid of it as quickly as possible. After posting on Craigslist, I got a few messages from people interested. One couple toured last week and told me that they’d get back to me within a few hours but that they were 99% sure they’d take it. 24 hours goes by and I hear nothing. Finally at 11pm the next day (Thursday) I get a response from the guy that they are interested but want to come sign the lease on Monday. Not ideal as they didn’t put down a deposit so I’m leery of “holding it” but I said ok great we can meet Monday. Sunday at 4pm I text and say “Hey hope you’re having a good weekend - just wanted to see what time works to meet tomorrow?” 6 hours later, he texts me “oh sorry I’m out of town so it will need to be Tuesday.” Annoyed but whatever, I say “ok well can we do 11am on Tuesday?” He replies “I’m not sure, I’ll have to let you know tomorrow whether that works for me”. So Monday night he calls and says “hey just wanted to let you know we still definitely want the place but can’t come until Wednesday”. I’m really fed up and let him know I’ve had other interest and that they need to sign. He is like “ok we’ll try really hard to come tomorrow but Wednesday at the latest”. Meanwhile, another woman and her husband who toured over the weekend text me this morning that they’re interested and want to sign today. So I agreed they can have the apartment if they come today and sign before these other guys can come Wednesday since I still haven’t gotten a solid time nailed down. It’s been a week and they’ve dragged their feet without putting down a deposit or anything so I feel justified even though I verbally told them they could have the apartment. Am I the asshole? ######

Response: NTA they are dragging their feeting and taking advantage of your kindness. They are lucky you let them pull you along this long, especially with no deposit to hold the place. First one to sign gets it I say! ######


Prompt:
\*my wife has approved this description of events, so it is less biased\*

My wife and I spend a lot of time at her Aunt and Uncle (aged 80+) cabin in Colorado. We come up to help them take care of the house and yard, and we are both pretty handy so we help fix things that inevitably break around the place. We typically spend 3-4 days of the week here during the spring/summer months, and 1-2x/month during the fall/winter (we can both work remotely so no issues there).  The small cabin has 2 spare rooms, as well as a loft with no bathroom. There isn't a guest bath that's unattached to a bedroom.

This weekend her parents and sister are coming up to the cabin. They come up rarely, and her sister comes up maybe once year.  Her sister is single. She's been told she's selfish in past relationships, and from the outside looking in, I have to agree. We've stayed at her place when visiting her, and she told us to bring our own bedding, towels, food, etc. My wife also had to bring her own cleaning supplies to make the room decent.

We arrived at the cabin last night and slept in the bedroom we always stay in. This afternoon, we got a call from my MIL telling us to move our things up to the loft (which has 2 twin beds and is above/open to the living room) so my SIL can stay in the bedroom. I don't think this is fair given that we come up more often, do more work, are married, and were already here this weekend. There is also not a bathroom to use that doesn't involve us walking into in-laws bedrooms. When my wife told her mother that she didn't think this was completely fair, her mother yelled and told her to deal with it because the sister never comes up and doesn't feel welcome. To be fair, we have always prioritized going there because we know how much help the Aunt/Uncle need.

AITA for not wanting to cater to my SIL? ######

Response: NTA there’s no reason to bend over backwards for someone who has no better reason or claim to the room. Sounds like MIL wants to avoid a temper tantrum and it’s easier to try and force you guys to move. ######


Prompt:
My fiancee and I are scheduled to get married next month, but for obvious reasons that's all in question right now. My state has started the process of reopening, but everything is still up in the air as to when restrictions will be fully lifted.

Now to the problem. We picked a date that has major personal significance to us. It won't occur on a weekend again for another 5 years. So we have a choice to make: give up our date or put off the wedding for another 5 years. Neither of us is keen about either of those options.

I've recently been thinking about option 3: go through with the wedding as planned, just with some changes. Weddings are still allowed to be performed as long as the only people there are the officiant, the couple, and the parents or witnesses. WIBTA if I kept my date but uninvited everyone other than our parents? I've thought about maybe setting up a live stream for everyone else and just having the reception once everything calms down. I'm feeling a lot of conflicting emotions about this whole mess and just need some objectivity. ######

Response: NTA There’s a fucking global pandemic happening and it’s YOUR wedding. You can have a reception/celebration whenever things open back up. But if I was invited to a wedding that was supposed to happen soon I would 100% anticipate not going. ######


Prompt:
Some background: I'm a trans guy. Deadname means the name I do not use anymore.

About a month ago my friend made an Instagram post about how much she misses everyone and dedicated a little section in the comments for specific friends saying what she missed about them.

In my section she puts my deadname in parentheses next to my preferred one. She obviously did not have to do this and her reason behind it was she had a friend with the same name as me so she had to specify. I tried to tell her she could've put my last initial instead.

She has lots of friends/followers who could've seen the post and that makes me very uncomfortable. I don't want people knowing my deadname at all.

She kept telling me no one cares and that most of her friends that saw it were LGBT+ which still does not make it right. ######

Response: NTA there was no reason to put that and you were uncomfortable ######


Prompt:
Hi reddit, I(23m) am a cosplayer, and i attend many local events. Anyway, there was one cosplay that I did where I was a woman(Brazil Escola), and I wore a ton of makeup and a wig. Because i already look pretty feminine, I looked almost like a woman.

I eventually saw my friend(24f), who didn’t recognize me at first, and i didn’t know that she was going to be here today. She told me that cosplaying as a woman was disrespectful and that that I shouldn’t have done that. I told her that she needs to stop being sensitive and i’m not doing anything wrong. Am I the asshole? ######

Response: NTA there is nothing wrong with it, so long as you don't use it afterwards pretending to be funny by pretending to be the stereotypical woman, but I doubt you will. ######


Prompt:
So a while ago I hooked up with this girl. She’s pregnant now and her parents kicked her out. Since it might of been my baby I said she could stay with me. But if the paternity tests said I was not the father she would have to move out.

Because of everything going on it took longer than  usual to get the results of the paternity test, but we got it back earlier today and I am definitely not the father.

So I told her that she can continue to stay for a few more days, but she has to leave by Saturday. Now she’s freaking out and crying because she says she has no money and nowhere to go and is asking me to let her stay longer.

I do sympathize with her situation, but I just don’t want her to stay anymore. She’s a nice person, but I don’t know her that well and don’t feel comfortable with her around and in my space all the time. More importantly though if she’s still here on Sunday she will have been here for 30 days which would make her legally a resident and then I would have a much harder time getting rid of her and you never know what issues could arise. ######

Response:
 NTA The situation is shitty for her, but you have no obligation to allow her to stay.  You’ve been kind and given her notice she needs to leave.  As you pointed out, after you pass that 30 day mark you will be obligated to follow laws if she refuses to leave.

Has she talked to any fiends or family since she has lived with you?  Perhaps she can couch surf until she gets it figured out. ######


Prompt:
TL;DR - parents want me to keep the door of my room open while my girlfriend is visiting, insist that I must "earn being treated like an adult" (their words).

I am a 23 year old man. I lived in the dorms for my first three years of college, and moved back in with my parents this semester because I got an internship and my childhood home is closer to it.

During my three years living at college, iet my girlfriend. We're in a committed relationship, see each other every day, will probably get engaged soon -- yada yada yada, haha. We are both accustomed to a environment with privacy. I had a dorm, and she lives with her parents who are pretty lax and have a lot of respect for boundaries.

Since I moved back in, when my girlfriend visits and we are in my room, my mom knocks on the door and tells me to keep it open. It was a bit shocking and frustrating at first, and against my better judgement I chose to just ignore the new rule and hope that they relaxed a little after a while.

Tonight, my mom confronted about it after my girlfriend left. She said that I lived in a "our house, our rules" arrangement, and that I had to "earn being an adult." This last part got me a little heated -- I don't feel as though being an adult is something earned, and if it is, then I have done everything I need to earn it. The rule makes girlfriend feel uncomfortable and not very welcome, and now she's a little hesitant to come over.

I understand that they are doing me a favor by allowing me to live with them, and that the homeowner is entitled to set the rules. It"s just that I think this particular rule is unreasonable and even sort of rude to my girlfriend. And I find the comment about not having earned being an adult disrespectful to me.

Anyway, that was a pretty long post over a pretty simple dispute. Am I the Asshole for not wanting to follow this rule? ######

Response: NTA the phrase “earn being treated like a adult” rubbed me the complete wrong way. If you have a done steps (like college, job, manage yourself well, able to balance) then you’re a adult. What it sounds like is your mom is one of those people who also see their children as just that, a child and never lets them really grow. ######


Prompt: My husband is trying to make me add his mom on Facebook. I don’t want to. I’ve told him no several times but he just won’t lay off of me about it. I know she’s hounding him about getting me to do it, but I just don’t want her on my page. At first he said she wants to see pictures and videos of the baby and that by not adding her I’m “keeping the baby from her”, but we have a shared album on our phones we both add things to to where she can see them whenever she wants. I also told him that he’s free to send her anything I post related to the baby that he thinks she’ll like. He said that’s not enough. He’s now saying I’m being disrespectful to his mom by not adding her and he doesn’t give a fuck that I don’t like her. I feel it’s disrespectful of him to keep asking me after I say no and trying to force me to add her. AITA here? ######

Response:
 NTA the people in here a freakin NUTS. If you don't want to friend someone you don't have to. None of you guys would tell her to be friends in real life with someone she doesn't want to be friends with, so why does that not extend to her social media. Yes, its her MIL, but that really doesn't mean much other than she's her husband's mom.

 MIL is an AH for continually pestering and stressing your husband for something she's been told no on. Which in turn is zapping friction in your marriage and household. No means NO.

Your husband is also an AH for not being supportive in your decision to not friend his mom, you said she already has access to media where she can see her grandchild, so at this point there's no argument other than he said so. I'm not saying your husband is toxic, but his response TO this whole thing is toxic. ######


Prompt: So the bf (m 35) and I (f 24) were going to a pool and I have gained a bit of weight since buying most of my suits. I went from an anorexic 95lbs to about 135 in the span of under 2 years. I don’t look bad but I still struggle with my body image a lot. Most of my suits are still Xs and I’m technically a medium now. Anyway long story short I have like 2 mediums and both of them show a lot of my ass. (Ive actually gained weight since I bought them too) He said “well god d*** can’t you wear something that actually covers your ass?  There are going to be kids around.” So I went and started trying on the ones that are too small and obviously I’m upset because I look fat in all of them. They cut into my hips and stuff and I look bad. He doesn’t understand why I’m upset with him, even though I explained that the two mediums are the only two that actually fit and that I’m too big for the others. So I just wore one of the bottoms that doesn’t cut in as much but covers more of my ass (kind of). Obviously it’s my own damn fault I gained weight, I’m well aware of that. I plan to go on a diet soon. I haven’t had a ton of money to go buy suits lately so I just got the two mediums cheap on amazon. They are cheeky rather than traditional ones. Am I the asshole for being upset with him? ######

Response:
 NTA the only ass you need to get rid of is your future ex.

PS tell your future ex that kids have butts and know what they look like

PPS keep your very slight curves and find a man who drools over them ######


Prompt:
My girlfriend (f20) and I (m22) have been together for 3 years. About a year into our relationship, she was diagnosed with ADHD. It made a lot of sense as to what why she did a lot of the things she did, and we agreed that she’d go on medication to make her better. About a month ago, she went off her meds. I tried to be supportive but she’s started doing a lot of things that in all honesty just get on my nerves, the main one being hyperfocusing.

She loved reading as a kid, and is currently doing a Publishing degree but has really struggled since her diagnosis with concentrating whilst reading. Her newest hyperfocusing endeavour is attempting to read 100 books before quarantine finishes. She’s so far read over 50, I’m proud of her, but it is literally ALL she does.

A few days ago I told her that she needed to slow down a bit, not only to give herself a break but to spend more time with me. We ended up in a pretty heated discussion about whether she should go back on her medication, to which she argued she’s doing fine without them, which she clearly isn’t. Her parents have texted me saying I’ve upset her and her friends have said I need to try and understand her and her ADHD more. I do try but it’s difficult when she’s being like this. AITA?? ######

Response:
 Nta the nature of mental disorders leads people to not believe they need help for them.

I have adhd. Currently unmedicated and pretty useless.

If one medication gives her bad side effects have her doctor try a different one. Theres multiple choices. If she wants to live her best life she needs balance

Also hyper fixation for those who dont experience it: You forget to eat, you ignore homework, you ignore your bodily needs sometimes.

Its not just reading. Its all she does. If its anything like me you sit down and start something then realize you havent moved in 7 hours. Its not healthy. I once hyper fixated on an art project and spent 9 hours straight on it. I didn't eat or drink or use the bathroom. I hardly even remember the time being spent.

She isnt ok like this. It makes life really really hard.

However you cant shove pills down her throat. Shes in charge of her own body. ######


Prompt:
I (21F) had a friend who constantly meets random men online, which is ok but many of the guys she's met have ended up threatening her or stealing from her. We were talking about dating apps when I said the guys she meets make me uncomfortable and I don't really want to be around them. She seemed to understand and was ok with it.

One day later, we were going to hang out and I was going to drive us to another city about an hour away. She showed up with a guy she'd just met online. I was kind of mad because we'd literally just had this conversation and she didn't even tell me she was bringing him. It was kind of a long trip and I'd never met the guy, so I said I didn't want to go with him and we should go another day. She went home and we haven't talked since. If she would have asked me, I might have gone anyway even though I was extremely uncomfortable, but I felt a little disrespected as a friend and afraid for our safety.

AITA? ######

Response: NTA the LEAST she could’ve done was give you a heads up I’d be uncomfortable too ######


Prompt:
My uncle recently died and when we went to discuss the will he left a majority of his belongings to me. I know what your thinking, why would he leave it to me? He never got married and never had children but, me and him were practically best friends what he did have though was a girlfriend. My uncles girlfriend obviously didn't love him and was using him for money. The two of them had a 30 year age gap and she had given birth to a other man's children (twins) while in a relationship with him. My uncle did love the twins dearly so he left them a trust fund the details about that are unknown. Anyways, my Uncle left me A LARGe sum of money and his girlfriend is angry that I am not giving it to her. Since she was his partner. My Uncle also left his house and the majority of his belongings to ME. Due to his age he updated his will frequently so if he wanted to leave his money to her he would have.

My mother is okay with this because his girlfriend was never respectful to the rest of the family, not even my grandmother.so it's not like she would have lasted long. I understand that the children are innocent so I plan on giving her SOME money, but she wants everything, including the house.
Ok so, would I be the asshole for accepting the money
Sorry if I worded it badly ######

Response: NTA the kids have a trust, they will be fine. He wanted you to have the money so take it. ######


Prompt:
For context. In 2006, when I was 8, my dad begun an affair with the mother of my best friend, who we’ll call Alison. My mum found out because of something I had said about them spending time together and filed for divorce some time after. My dad moved in with this woman, and although I still saw him three times a week, i was absolutely devastated because I felt he had left me. 2 years after he left, my dad died, creating a massive rift in my life.

Despite my dads will declaring he wanted to leave everything to me and my brothers, Alison practically demanded she keep everything and because my mum was so wrapped up in her own grief, and mine and my brothers, she gave up fighting it. She also paid off the life insurance on the house my dad and Alison had bought, because Alison asked her too. Also, despite my mum paying for the entire funeral cost, Alison planned the entire thing alone, and went against his wishes, we now have no headstone or grave as a result and that kills me every day. My entire family despises Alison, she stressed my dad out a lot and the doctors believed stress contributed to the heart attack which killed him.

Yesterday I was in the local supermarket and saw her, with her daughters. I tried avoiding eye contact with her as I do every time I see her, but instead of just leaving like she usually does when we run into eachother, she came over and tried to talk to me. I just said “not a chance this is happening” and turned around and walked away.

I do feel bad about the encounter as I never intend on being rude but she taunted me with my dads death for years, and a lot of the trauma I have experienced is because of her so I struggle allowing myself to feel bad.

AITA for ignoring her? ######

Response: NTA The cut direct - actively snubbing someone socially - is to be reserved only for extreme cases. But in extreme cases, it is considered appropriate to do, and you are in an extreme case. ######


Prompt:
I am a full time security guard and a full time college student. I work for a private company, that has a strict no trespassing rule. We have a basketball court on the property and during rounds tonight I found two men (Caucasian males earlier 40’s) and two young boys (maybe around 10yrs old) playing basketball. I told them it was private property and asked them to leave(I’m in the security vehicle at this point). One man seems bummed but is like ok. Then this other man starts screaming at me (5ft female) saying he was a long time resident of the town. I said be that as it may this is private property and you need to leave. Still screaming he says your not gonna let me and my kids play basketball? I said no there’s a strict no trespassing rule. The guy aggressively walks towards my security vehicle and screams “you must really like your job huh”. I laughed and told him “it pays my bills”. He got angrier, and I told him if he didn’t leave now I was going to call the local police dept and have him trespassed. He screams “I heard you the first time you fucking loser”. I followed them off the property to make sure they had left.

Some side information, the strict trespassing rule is because if someone that is not an employee is injured there is concern they could sue the company. If something like that we’re to happen and it was discovered I knew people were there that did not belong there, I would be fired.

So AITA? ######

Response: NTA The conversation was over at private property. Seems like you were polite enough. ######


Prompt:
This has been going on for a while but I think the tipping point happened a couple days ago. She had asked me (22m) if I was circumcised, to which I told her I was not; she proceeded to say things like gross and we’re getting you circumcised in a joking manner...etc.

In that particular situation I could more or less tell se was being serious. And just today she was saying she thinks 7 inches is right right size and anything less would be small,-but here’s the kicker:

She is a virgin and has never stuck a finger in her vagina, whereas I’ve told her I’ve been with plenty of girls that have never commented on my size or uncircumcised penis. (Quite frankly it kinda hurt when she said it would be gross because I take pride in good hygiene downtown)

Initially it was funny and cute but Ive been thinking this is coming from someone who has never even had sex but she has this imaginary expectation of porn penis.

Anyway, would I be the butthurt asshole to confront her and tell her to get more mature? ######

Response:
 NTA The commentary about your body is frankly inappropriate and unkind and it would be equally gross for you to do the same to anyone else. Also having an uncircumcised penis is not gross. This is clearly her own anxieties surrounding having sex and it is manifesting in this, but honestly there is no excuse good enough to make these kinds of comments.

If she is otherwise amazing, I would sit her down and say that the comments about you being gross for being uncircumcised need to stop. You don't find them funny, and rather hurtful and you have to assume she doesn't want you to feel like that. Assuming she responds like a normal person (Omg I am so sorry it wasn't my intention to make you feel like that) maybe you can talk about where the comments were coming from. I think it's highly likely they come from a place of anxiety, but that's not a blank check to say shitty things. ######


Prompt:
Ill try to make this brief.

My grandma is in her late 60s, was diagnosed with MS 40 years ago. She has difficulty speaking and holding conversations and recently has been showing signs of deterioration.

She had 18 cats when she burned her house down and 13 passed. She had to give up 3 living ones  aland was allowed to keep 2 when she moved into government living facilities due to emotional support. This was 15 years ago.

Recently one of her cats passed away and the other has two paws in the grave. Im worried she will be close to follow since she so attached.

Anyhow the neighbor didnt spay the stray they let roam and its having kittens. After running the idea through my mom i decided to get one of the kittens, potty train it and get its shots, introduce it to my cats, and then give it to her.

She was super excited and asked what they looked like. At the time they were days old so all i could tell her was 2 grey and 1 black/white.

Every other day for weeks she has called and changed her mind from grey, to black...to grey...to black. And it takes her a good 10 minutes to spit out the reasons she wants X cat.

Anyways they are 8 weeks ajd the neigbor brought them over. He said i have first dibs, but a young couple wanted the 1 grey and his son really liked the black/white one.

Now this doesnt matter but the available grey one is my favorite. It looks like a little panther. I told him to let whoever wanted specifics to get their choices and i would give my grandma the 3rd one regardless.

I honestly couldn't remember the last color she landed on.

Well my gf got home and i told her and she said "im pretty sure last time she called she wanted the black one"

AITA for leaving it as is and giving her the darker grey one or whichever isnt chosen by the other two interested parties? ######

Response: NTA the coat of the cat doesnt matter. ######


Prompt:
My younger brother doesn't do any of his chores properly. Parents asked him to do the dishes: there were plates in the cabinet with dried on food. They asked him to vacuum: he would just kind of push it in one path, one direction and left all kids of weird track patterns. They asked him to mow the lawn: he purposely broke the mower. When they gave him a manual push mower: he did it like with the vacuum.

Parents do some of the stuff but even I have to clean up after him. Parents say "we cleaned up after you, it's no different than that".

Yesterday this shift happened again and I refused to clean up. My Dad joked about how apparently learning to clean up after somebody else even when it shouldn't be your job is good experience to have before entering the workforce. Bruh wtf. My parents had to get the work done.

AITA for refusing to do chores? ######

Response: NTA the brother should learn how to do it right godammit ######


Prompt:
So a couple of years ago my twin brother Ric and I met his now wife Nikki through mutual friends. I liked Nikki and asked her out, she said yes, we had coffee and a great time. I asked if she wanted to go out again, she apologized and told me that she thinks I’m a great guy that’s why she gave going out with me a shot but for some reason it’s Ric that she’s attracted to (Ric and I are identical twins).

I didn’t expect that but it was fine because it wasn’t as if I fell in love with Nikki at first sight and was already planning the rest of our lives together. I also thought it was cool that there’s this awesome girl who likes my brother because Ric was always the quiet and introverted one and didn’t go out much. So I set them up, they clicked instantly and last month they got married after dating for a few years.

A lot of the wedding guests know how Ric and Nikki got together so I didn’t think it would be an issue when in my best man speech I joked that Nikki knew which twin she wanted from the get go and recounted how her shooting me down during our date led to me setting her and Ric up. Nikki laughed while Ric said that I became his favorite brother after I set them up (we have no other brothers).

However, after the wedding my girlfriend was mad and told me that it was completely unnecessary to bring up that I went out with Nikki. She said it’s disrespectful to everyone and I should’ve just said that I set them up. I think it’s more amusing to know the whole story and that my girlfriend is over reacting (it was one time and literally all Nikki and I did was drink coffee and talk) but I wanna know how people who don’t know us look at this. ######

Response: NTA the bride and groom were fine with it. It’s their day, and if they’re happy then great! Sounds like a hilarious story, your girlfriend is just upset you spoke about going out with another woman. ######


Prompt:
I’m 22F. Boyfriend “Joe” 22M. BF’s brother “Dan” 25M.

I’ve been living with Joe for 2 years now, and we’ve been dating for 4. Dan is Joe’s maternal half brother and he’s been living with their mom for his entire life—he’s never moved out, until now he has to because their mom finally got sick of him and kicked him out.

I don’t dislike Dan, but I know he’s a slob. He’s getting kicked out of their mom’s house because he never does anything for himself or the house (no cooking, no cleaning—not even after himself, no buying groceries, no paying bills, etc.). Basically he just acts like he’s still a kid who has no responsibility to himself or his home and spends all the money he makes at his job on weed and new stuff for himself.

When Joe came to me about possibly renting one of our spare rooms to Dan for awhile, I told him my reasoning above and said I wasn’t okay with it. I thing Dan is nice to hang out with, but I refuse to live with him. I don’t trust him to pay his rent or supplement any of the other expenses in the house like groceries/internet/cable/etc. I don’t trust him to help out around the house or not smoke weed inside. I don’t expect him (or Joe) to cook, because I do all the cooking and I like it, but if he’s not going to help out at all he’s not living with me and eating the food I cook and (mostly) pay for myself.

Joe was upset. He can understand my reasoning, but he thinks we should let Dan move in because he can’t afford to rent a house on his own, and he doesn’t want his brother to be homeless. I still firmly say no and believe Dan should try moving in with his girlfriend or one of his friends.

Joe is now proposing we do a trial run and let Dan move in for a month, and if he doesn’t meet my expectations we have him move out. I told him I’d think about it, but honestly I don’t think it’s worth the hassle because I strongly doubt he’d meet my expectations.

AITA if I say no to Dan moving in, even for a month long “trial run”? ######

Response: NTA The best predictor of future behavior is past behavior & it doesn't sound like he'll be homeless, he'll just be with roommates who are not family. That might be the best thing for him because then he'll have to pay bills and take care of himself. ######


Prompt:
So some back story - I was originally renting a 3bed/2bath house with one other person, we will call them RM1. Total rent was $2700/month. I paid $1400 and they paid $1300 bc I had the larger room. While it was just the two of us RM1 utilized the spare bedroom as a closet and additional storage.

A 3rd roommate eventually moves in to the spare bedroom, call them RM2. I now pay $1000 and they each pay $850.

My SO moves in to share a room with me. This is discussed with RM1 & RM2 prior and they are happy with it bc we are all good friends. RM1 wants a decrease in their rent with another person moving in so we land on my SO and I paying $1100 (collectively) and RM1 & RM2 each paying $800 - RM2 was fine staying at $850. Everyone is happy.

This is where things get complicated. We receive the renewal notification via email and rent has gone up $55/month. No biggie we thought, we will just split it four ways. Nope - RM1 wants me and SO to cover it. When we disagree RM1 then counters and wants us to pay that and her rent to go down an additional $50/month. So our rent would be $1255 and RM1 and RM2 each pay $750. This is not based on anything and is just an arbitrary $50.

A few things to note - me, my SO, and RM2 share a bathroom and RM1 has her own bathroom. I also pay the $35/month dog fee for my dog and RM1’s dog.

They seem to be stuck on the fact that we only pay $550 each and they are paying $800, even though we share a space, closet, etc. I told them that we feel the $300/month to have an extra person in the common area is more than generous so we refused to accept their proposal. AITA?

TL;DR roommate wanted to renegotiate rent after coming to an agreement to which I refused ######

Response: NTA the $55 increase should be split amongst you, and RM1 should contribute half the pet fee. ######


Prompt: Background. I am a 19 year old female and live with my parents while I go to college. One night I am messing around on my computer in the dinning room. My step-father walks behind me and stops. I look around on he has his face right next to my neck kinda smelling me. I say "stop it" cause it's weird. He walks off saying something like "shut up" in a slightly annoyed tone. I felt some guilt for reacting like that. He then walks outside saying to my mom that I'm in a mood or something. I'm wondering if I was overrating but he know I don't exactly like being touched. We had an issue like this before where after I said I didn't want to be touched he said "get a fucking life." My mum said that I hurt his feelings so I apologized. So am I the asshole, and should I apologize this time? ######

Response: NTA thats creepy ######


Prompt:
He would physically beat me every week at school, I remember once he got scissors and ruined my hair before.

He would fallow me into the bathroom and throw things like heavy books at me, and I would come home with bruises.

But  when it came to draft day we were the same age, except I was gay, and  barred from military service while he was forced into it.

fast forward to today 4 years after he was drafted he started to post about how awful it was on facebook.

He  said something like "how is it fair that women vote on things that can  effect millions of young boys lives it isnt fair, it was the worst 2  years of my life"

I left him a  comment saying "How did it feel while you were in there, being  physically intimidated everyday, knowing it could have all been avoided  if you were born different. Thats how you made me feel everyday when we were young, they shaved you, and beat you when you didnt listen, poor  diddums you arent against people being mistreated because of the way  they are born, you are against you being mistreated because of the way  you were born".
"Oh but of course at your little camp there wasnt any "faggots" like me, and Im sure you loved your new haircut you sure loved haircuts when you gave them to me".

I got banned from his group, and he sent me a messenger with homophobic language.

EDIT:sorry if my English is poor its not my first language. ######

Response: NTA that’s karma at its finest. ######


Prompt:
Hello, using a throwaway account and on mobile.

When I was 14 my parents finally bought a house and we were able to move out of our trailer. In the trailer I had my own room because I’m the oldest and my sisters shared a room. The house we moved into had 3 bedrooms and a garage. Before we moved in, my mom asked me if I would be ok sleeping in the garage so that all 3 of us could have our own rooms. I was told that the garage would be converted into a bedroom. I said yes because it seemed cool at the time. So we moved in and at first I shared a room with one of my sisters until we could convert the garage. When we finally did convert the garage, I found out the only thing we were doing was sealing the door shut. I didn’t get an A/C or anything. Since I didn’t have A/C and it was south Texas, I wasn’t allowed to shut my bedroom door all through high school, which led to some awkward moments. Because of the window in the kitchen into my room and my door always being open, I had to go to the bathroom to change. And the laundry room was in there, so people walked through my room at all times of day and night. After a few weeks it stopped being cool and fun and I hated it, but I didn’t get feel like I could say anything at that point. Now I’m in college and every time I come home I have to sleep on the couch because the garage is just storage now. My bed frame broke about 6 months before I left for college and my parents figured I was about to leave, so I just slept on a mattress on the floor. Now I don’t have an actual bed in there, so my parents just converted it back to storage.

AITA if I’m upset that my parents only presented me with the choice to sleep in the garage and made it seem like the best choice and if I’m upset that I spent 4 years living miserably because of my room? ######

Response: NTA that’s insane that they treat their child like that. I would have an adult talk with them and let them know how much that hurt you ######


Prompt:
We've been going out just over 3 years and are 29 and 30.

He makes significantly more than me (3x my wages) And recently got a massive £700 bonus which is more than my regular wages are. (I'm looking for a new job before anyone says) I'm not interested in having any of his money, we split dates 50/50, but there have been things happen where he's displayed kind of odd behaviour which comes across as selfish and something happened last night.

We were hanging out at his, he has a lot of beer in the house (3 crates and lots of other special bottles)  I was going to go to the shop to get some and he said, "Nah it's raining, you can buy some off me." And I actually had to pay him £5 for 4 cans of Carling (cheap beer which would have been about £5 in the shop.)

The thing is, if it was the other way around I know I would've just given him beer and not thought about money at all. I would definitely not 'sell' him beer. Even if I was poor. When friends/family come to mine I just give them drinks if they want them. I buy my bf treats too, I bought him a video game this month and have one in mind to buy him when he's finished it. He's bought me stuff in the past but as I said that doesn't matter I don't care about getting stuff, I just thought the drink thing was super stingy. It's not the money it's the notion. For example if he had said nothing and I'd gone to the shop and paid that would have been fine.

AITA for being annoyed that he made me pay for them?

TL:DR: My bf who is on 3x my wages and recently got massive bonus made me give him £5 for a few beers and I know I wouldn't have 'charged' him if it was the other way around. ######

Response: NTA that’s honestly super fucking bizarre. I cannot imagine the logic in his head to justify this. ######


Prompt:
I know the title sounds AWFUL, but hear me out. Throwaway in case she’s on reddit. This story happened before pandemic hit.

My roommate is a sweetheart most of the time, and I like to think that we’re pretty good friends. However, since she was randomly assigned to our apartment, I understand that she has different boundaries than I do which I respect whole-heartedly. She locks her bedroom door when shes not home, and while it does kind of sting that she’d think me or other roommate would do something nefarious, I get it. Our doors have two locks on them; both have a key, but one is flimsy. She stayed the night at her partners house one day, and has a stand alone alarm clock that she uses instead of her phone.

Well, evidently she forgot to turn off the clock and at 7AM it started beeping. I had gotten done working a night shift and was BONE tired. All I wanted was the alarm clock to go off. I called and texted her 3-4x, but she didn’t pick up. So, I went upstairs, picked the bedroom flimsy door lock with my fingernail, and turned the alarm off so I could rest. She came home and was pretty upset asking what I was doing in her room, despite me telling her that the alarm went off for a long time while she was gone. She ended up locking herself in her room and things were tense for a long while after, and I have passed her locking both locks in her room as of recently.  At one point she was on the phone upstairs telling her friend how I broke into her room (thin walls). I feel awful.

Was I an asshole for essentially breaking into her room so that I could turn her alarm off? I feel like theres a weird dynamic shift now. ######

Response: NTA that’s a bullshit move on her part she should be apologizing to you for the disturbance ######


Prompt:
This occurred around a month ago and this incident recently came to light.

I (16M) was out with my friend (17F) at a park and these two girls (I'm guessing same age as us) saw me. They were chatting shit about us in Turkish (talking about how foreigners keep on entering their country, trying to guess where we're from and just basically gossiping about me in particular)

I didn't mind and done my best to ignore them, until one of them yelled "Hey chocolate boy!" at me (reference to my skin color, I'm black).

They didn't know that I knew Turkish (I lived here for nearly 2 years now) and I took my opportunity to make a cheeky comment.

I smiled and casually replied back "You like chocolate huh? Wanna try some?" and I gave them a wink. They were surprised that I understood them, but then their expression quickly changed to disgust at my comment. They gave me a dirty look and quickly walked away.

My friend (who doesn't know as much of the language as I do) asked what I said and I told her. She called me immature for doing so and said that my comment was "unwarranted and inappropriate".

In my opinion, I don't think I messed up that bad. They were being racist and I decided to make a joke out of it. But now that I got this story off my chest, I want to see if I'm the asshole because of it. ######

Response: NTA that's what they get for being rude and racist ######


Prompt:
I know this girl who tends to exaggerate a lot of things. I was getting sick of it so when she claimed that she has a black belt in Karate and still regularly practices Karate at a high level I took the opportunity to catch her in a lie.

I knew she was lying because I actually have a bit of martial arts background (a lower level though) and have friends and family who have black belts in various martial arts and some of what she said as well as her coordination and activity levels didn't add up.

My friends scolded me afterward, they said that it was obvious that she was lying but it was also obvious that she was only lying because she's insecure and just wants to impress us.

AITA? ######

Response: NTA that's the thing about lies they eventually come out. Thing is I don't know much about self defense...yet my favorite memory of 3 rd grade was when I made the 6th grade kicking show off land on is ass. By walking up and grabbing his swinging foot and pushing it up...ah the look on the 6 graders faces that day... ######


Prompt: We are stuck at home and I've been helping my 13F daughter and 11M son work on homework while I work from home.  It's just the three of us and our house isn't huge, so there's lots of bickering at this point.  Today, my dad asked if the kids could come over and mow their lawn to make some money for treats.  I said that as long as they got their homework and chores done, I didn't have a problem with it.   Well, the time came around to head over to do it and my daughter hadn't done any of her homework.  She already has two Fs from missing assignments from previous weeks that I have been nagging her about (probably overly so).   My son finished all of his homework and chores by noon today and then took the dog for a walk.  He has straight A's at this point because I've been nagging him just as much as her, if not more.  So my son got to go mow the grandparents' yard and get $20 while my daughter didn't.  It's almost four hours later and she still hasn't done the assignments that are due today.  Am I the Asshole for allowing him to earn money and not her? ######

Response: NTA that's not favouring the child, btw does she even want to mow a lawn lol ######


Prompt:
I a (15M) enjoy cooking and baking and have always wanted a stand mixer since it would make life easier in the kitchen and have told my mom this multiple times and had wanted one for my birthday.

As time goes on my birthday rolls around and my uncle comes to visit use and had brought me a present. I didn't open it until he left as I wanted to spend time with him and not look like a greedy child only wanting the gifts.

When he leaves I open the gift and there it was. A decent looking WHITE stand mixer (that's important for later) and was around £80 in value. I used this multiple times in the kitchen and enjoyed using it as it was a great tool for the kitchen.

A few months later I wanted to make some croissants and asked my mom. She said yes. I went to the kitchen looking for the stand mixer and it was gone. I looked everywhere for it and couldn't find it. I asked my mom where it was and she said she gave it away to charity. I WENT MENTAL

I said a few hateful words saying how stupid she for giving away MY birthday present away for FREE when it wasn't cheap. She said I was in no position to tell her what she can and cant do as it was her kitchen and apparently HER STAND MIXER. I was done at that point and asked why would she even do something like that and her answer was.

It didn't fit in the kitchen since it was white, not black.
I gave up at that point and went to sleep as I had nothing to do. And two weeks later she bought another stand mixer which was almost double the price same brand, same wattage but black. Now, since this wasn't my mixer I was not allowed to use it anymore, so now my mixer is gone and I cant even use the new one anymore

I went on another spree of saying mean words to her and she teared up, my 3 siblings say I over reacted and now I feel guilty
So AITA
(Sorry if this story was too long I had to get a lot of my chest since I was angry)
Edit:cleared up a misconception ######

Response: NTA That's just straight up theft. You should tell your uncle what she did. ######


Prompt:
Last night my partner had a uni exam that went quite late. I cooked dinner and we ate it upstairs in bed.

This morning I saw that he peed into one of the tupperware containers we keep food in after finishing his dinner. I told him it was absolutely repulsive because that's where we keep food. He said it shouldn't matter because it's just salt water and hed wash it out. I told him it was disgusting and he should throw out the container or mark it because I dont want to use it anymore.

He BLEW UP and told me I was overreacting and using anger to get my way. He then scrubbed the container and mixed it in with the other Tupperware so I couldnt mark it.

Now we aren't speaking. He says my reaction was way over the top and all guys do this. I say its gross that he peed in the container and even grosser for trying to hide it from me so that I have to use it.

So internet people, AITA? ######

Response:
 NTA that's gross as fuck.

1. He peed in a container used for food.
2. He actively fucked with your ability to choose not to use that container in future.
3. Has he considered wearing diapers since he's apparently not toilet-trained yet?
4. If he's just whipping it out and pissing wherever he likes, how many piss splatter droplets are all over your house that you don't even know about? ######


Prompt:
Hear me out.

For reference, my (23f) family is quite large. I was also quite large until I moved out at 18 and lost 65 lbs (29kg). I went from obese my entire life, to having a normal BMI and finally being healthy.

My older sister (27f, also severely obese) has a 2 year old son. He is currently 50 lbs (23kg). He has a hanging stomach and actual fat rolls.

I live in a different country than my family (I moved) so I don't see them often in person, but I see pictures on social media. Every picture it seems he is only getting bigger. Now that it's summer, they're posting pictures of him without a shirt on and you can just see how huge his stomach is and how he has back rolls. It breaks my heart and frustrates me because I know what it's like to grow up obese and how difficult it makes your life.

In almost every picture, he is eating some sort of junk food. Whenever they call me, they're giving him some candy/chips in the background. It seems they just feed him bad foods all day every day. I try to give them advice on nutrition but they don't want to hear it. They embrace the "I'll eat what makes me happy" lifestyle and know almost nothing of nutrition at all.

Finally, I kind of snapped and told them he's fat and they need to pay attention to his health. My mom and sister got so pissed off that they actually blocked me on social media and called me an AH for making fun of a 2 year old. I didn't mean to make fun of him, I just care for his health since I know how the extra weight can bring you down both physically and mentally. Also I of course did not call a 2 year old fat to his face as it's not even his fault that he's obese, it's the adults fault.

What do you guys think? AITA? ######

Response: NTA that's child abuse. ######


Prompt:
I work for a property management company, and today we went to do a cleanout of a house that had been evacuated by the previous tenants. Living there previously was a foster mom with six children.

We opened the garage door, and it was filled floor to ceiling with rotting trash and crap and smelled absolutely foul. We cleared out a pile of mattress  and found the carcass of a deer in a tub-I would say based on the decomposition it had been there for about three months. The floor was covered with bits of torn insulation and mice droppings. It took two entire dumpsters to clear out the garage (a neighbor mentioned that once every two years the tenants would rent a dumpster to clean out their home-maybe around the time of scheduled visits?)

The laminated flooring in the living room was so water damaged and moldy that it was coming up with my boots as I walked across it. Every single window screen was broken and the windows were almost too dirty to see through. The entire house reeked like something died inside mixed with disease and unkempt pets; we had to make several trips outside because we couldn't handle being inside for too long. The carpets were extremely stained, matted and filled with food crumbs and the ants that were attracted to them.

I could go on, but I think you get the idea.
Edit: And we haven't BEEN in the basement yet. I'm scared.

I took videos and a lot of pictures, so I can provide evidence.

Honestly I feel like I WBTA if I DON'T report it, but obviously I don't know this woman or her situation, but I just can't handle the thought of those kids living like that. I also feel somewhat conflicted as this is something I learned through access of my job, but I feel like your right to privacy goes out the window when kids are involved. What do you think?

Edit: Just made the call. Social worker will be calling me soon. Thank you for speedy NTAs! ######

Response: NTA that's appalling, please do report it ######


Prompt:
I’m fully aware having sex with any kind of protection isn’t 100% fool proof. But for me I personally don’t want to do birth control. I have terrible memory and it’s expensive- and I have no health insurance or regular medical provider so getting it would be a hassle to begin with.

I prefer condoms + pull out method. I happIly buy the condoms. And for a while my bf seemed to be okay with it. But then he started going soft very easily and attributed it to the condoms. He hates them. Apparently he’s above average in thickness and length and nothing fits him right. He’s persuaded me several times to go raw with just the pull out method and he enjoys it a lot more. But I honestly can’t because in the back of my mind there’s his precum and possible pregnancy around the corner.

We’re both 20 and are in no way in any position to take care of a child. It’s gotten to the point where I’m just... forget having sex. If he has to have it raw... I just can’t do it. I have too many concerns to enjoy it.

AITA..? ######

Response: NTA that's a major flag. Tell him condom or no sex, if he has a problem tell him don't let the door hit you on your way out ######


Prompt:
I’ve been seeing this guy for about a month know. We have gotten very emotionally close and slept together one time.
Last night he texted me that he had something serious to tell me, something he should have told me before. I reassured him that he could trust me, and this exchange went back and forth for about half an hour. My heart was racing because I had no idea what he was going to tell me.

He finally tells me that he was born intersex, and his parents decided for him to have surgery as baby. He said he has felt a lot of insecurity around it and was afraid I wouldn’t accept him. I was surprised and a little hurt that he wouldn’t have told me that before we slept together, but I was very kind and understanding in return because I have a friend who is intersex. It didn’t change how I felt about him.

Finally he asks if he can call me. When he does he asks if he call tell me one more thing, “April fools”. I was pissed and told him that it’s not something funny to joke about. He has apologized in a genuine way, but I’m not over it. I feel like it was tasteless to joke about that, and he really made me have empathy for him and the joke crossed a line(especially since we have slept together). AITA for not getting over his joke? ######

Response: NTA that's a bad prank. ######


Prompt:
 My brother and his wife are having a hard time with paying their rent right now, so they asked if they can stay with us for awhile.

After talking it over with my husband we agreed that they could move into our RV and we could hook up the water and electricity from our house. It’s not a huge RV, but it’s got one full size bed and two twin size beds that their kids can sleep on.

My sil is very insulted by the idea of living out in our driveway when we have “plenty” of space inside. My brother was also upset because family would let family stay with them. He also doesn’t like that he would be the one responsible for taking the RV to the nearby rest stop area to drain the black tank.

They both said they would much rather prefer to stay in our living room or that we could put our kids and one of their sons in our sons room and they can share our daughters room with their younger son. Or maybe have some of the kids camp out in the living room.

None of those options appeal to us. With everything how it is and us all being stuck at home my husband, our kids, and I have gotten on each other’s nerves more than a few times. We feel like taking away our kids private spaces would be really disastrous.

As for the living room my husband and I are both working from home, so we need our own separate areas to focus. My husbands job works with other branches in other countries so he’s often working really late at night or really early in the morning in the living room. So having people sleeping in there wouldn’t work out well.

If they were just staying for a few days we probably could make due with them staying in the living room, but they will likely need to stay with us for weeks, if not months. ######

Response: NTA that was what you were willing to do, they should be grateful. It’s understandable why you need your whole house. ######


Prompt:
We are both 25. I'm a fat guy,  I have been fat since the start of the relationship. My weight has fluctuated a bit but I'm 10 pounds lighter than when the relationship started and working on losing more.

I wear a 38" waist in jeans and an XL/2XL in tops... for my birthday my girlfriend bought me a bunch of (expensive) new clothes that are WAY too small for me.

She bought me jeans in a 28" waist and tops in a medium.

She told me that I can wear them when I lose weight and hopefully they would motivate me.

I mentioned once to her that when I was around 16/17 I was skinny and wore a 28, but I'm not sure it's feasible to get that skinny again. I'm not sure I even want to, I was borderline underweight. I gained the weight due to giving up sport and extreme depression and binge eating disorder that started at age 21. I don't binge anymore but I'm still fat.

She never consulted me on what I want to look like and I just feel kind of hurt and disrespected. I just feel like she's basically told me "happy birthday you fat fuck" lol..

I think she must be really disgusted by my body to do something like that. It's not her fault, my body really is disgusting, but I guess there's always a part of you that hopes your partner is attracted anyway.

Our sex life is not the best- it was okay at first but now she doesn't initiate much. I never take off my shirt around her.

I tried to act pleased with what she bought but obviously she saw I was upset. She has made comments about my weight before and I can't help feeling like she knew it would hurt me.

Am i the asshole for getting upset at a gift? Was she just trying to help? ######

Response: NTA that was just a nasty gift. She didn't even get you one thing that you could wear now for your birthday ######


Prompt:
Me and my friends are in college. We don't have that much money but it's enough and we aren't exactly poor. One day, we went out to eat and I said I'd pay for their meals because I was having a good day and felt like it. I ordered food for 10 Euros. 2 out of my 3 friends ordered a very expensive fish and together their food cost 80Euros. My other friend just got a burger and a sprite. I didn't really check the price of what they wanted to eat, because we were playing uno and I wasn't really paying attention. When the bill came, and I saw that their food + drinks was really expensive, I refused to pay for their food. I would have had enough money to pay, but I think that it's unacceptable to buy something so expensive when someone else is paying. We weren't even close friends, we met a few weeks ago and talked every 2 days. They ended up paying for their own food and I still payed for my other friends (Burger and a sprite) food. May I add that this was just a normal restaurant, basically everything else  was at a normal price.

TLDR: I refused to pay for two friends meals because their food was way to expensive.

AITA? ######

Response: NTA that was incredibly rude to pick food that was quadruple the price of your food. If these are new friends I’d consider this a red flag regarding continuing these friendships. ######


Prompt:
My close friend and I are dating 2 girls that are also close friends.

When it comes to relationships, my friend is a psycho. He made her delete every guy off of her Snapchat, he has her location and her instagram log in and her Snapchat log in. He has 0 trust for her, cusses her out all the time, she can’t do anything without asking his approval first not even going out with her parents, he doesn’t even let her wear shorts outside. She has to filter everything she says because he takes everything the wrong way and cusses her out. She’s been very patient for the past 6 months they were dating, but the entire 6 months they fought a lot every single day.

Of course, I knew about everything because my girl would tell me and my friend would tell me. I’m also friends with my girls close friend too and I care about her.

Basically, her life is hell and she has to censor everything she says and has anxiety 99% of the time because he cusses her out if she doesn’t answer his call right away or doesn’t respond to his text within 2 minutes.

I felt really bad so I had a talk with her and my girl (they came to me for advice I didn’t insert myself) and basically I told her that he’s not going to change and if she can’t handle this for the next  6 months and the 6 months after that, then she should break up with him. And that same night after talking to me, she did break up with him. I feel like shot but I’m happy for her because that relationship was ruining this girl and my friend too he would get really crazy. I just feel bad for helping cause him pain. AITA for breaking bro code? ######

Response: NTA that was an abusive relationship going nowhere good. Also, the "bro code" is nothing more than a stupid by product of a sit com and it's ridiculous and kinda unrealistic. It almost ruined a group of friends I was involved in and my demand to abolish it saved us. ######


Prompt:
This happened about a month ago but I've still been arguing with my family about this. I was babysitting my 11 year old cousin and he had never seen the Lion King before, to my dismay as that was my favorite movie growing up. I thought I was doing him a favor, introducing him to a cultural masterpiece.

Turns out he didnt care less and was playing on the iPad the entire time anyway. But where the problem arose was when I didnt think to skip over Mufasa's death scene??? Never in a million years did I actually think that was even a thing, but alas when his parents come to pick him up and ask what we did and I told them what we watched, they questioned me if I made sure to skip over that scene. I was like "uhh.. huh?"

It caused a huge scene and a big fight that still hasn't been resolved. I really didnt even say anything, it is mostly one sided about how I am so irresponsible and opening up their kid to that sort of violence is going to ruin his life. The most I said was "this generation is going to grow up weird as fuck if you control every aspect of their life like this, what's next he is not allowed to ride bikes with his friends without you driving in your car next to them??".

I obviously would never tell someone how to raise their kid, but he is also 11..I'd understand their position more if he was like 4 or 5, but like he has definitely seen far worse at that age.. right? ######

Response: NTA that scene is a watershed moment in childhood entertainment. It still fucks me up to this day. Kids absolutely need to see it. Plus the movie makes no sense without is. ######


Prompt:
So I work in the ER- and a few weeks ago we had a larger patient in a room close to the nurses station. You can hear everything in that room that is said at the nurses station. The nurse taking care of him was one who I find immature and just an overall bad nurse.
So this patient asked the nurse to be turned in the cart- our Er carts are small and uncomfortable. So the nurse comes out of the room and to the station and proceeds to say “alright I’m gonna need 12 people to help me with big boy down there.” “Alright sir, hold on I’m gonna need a fork lift.” To which I was appalled, at how inappropriate this nurse was. So normally I would tell the charge nurse but she was laughing along! So I texted my manager and they said they would take care of it. The nurse got written up.
Well this week word got out I was the one who reported her and her and her catty friend group have been giving me shit all week.
Am I the asshole? ######

Response: NTA That poor patient! It's hard enough needing to be a patient at a hospital without being verbally abused while there. ######


Prompt:
I (24f) just left an abusive relationship in the end of February. I moved in with my family because I had nowhere else to go. I just found out that I'm pregnant and told my sister (20) and my mom. I haven't told the rest of my family yet because I want to get a doctor's appointment to confirm and to make sure everything is ok first, but today I decided to tell my brother (22). After I told him, he told me that my sister already told him. I super pissed at her because it wasn't her news to tell. I feel like she violated my trust in so many levels, not to mention stealing a special moment from me. She won't tell me who all she has told about my pregnancy and I'm really hurt. I have a very high risk of losing the baby and I feel like the more people know, the more it will hurt when I lose the baby.

Am I the asshole for being angry at my sister?

I apologise for the bag formatting. I'm on my phone and this is one of my first posts. ######

Response: NTA that kind of information should be assumed private unless told otherwise. Especially with close family. Your sister knew better. ######


Prompt:
Since getting engaged, my fiancé and I have been struggling to nail down the basics, including the venue and of course, the date. Our families both have pretty busy schedules and finding a date that suited both families and was in the reasonable future has been quite challenging. Fortunately, finally settled on January 30, 2021 (COVID permitting), one of the very few weekends that both our families are available to travel and attend our wedding.

The only slight conflict with the date is that my grandmother’s birthday is the following Tuesday, on February 2nd. My grandmother lives pretty far from my immediate family and myself, and even when I was growing up we didn’t celebrate her birthday beyond a phone call. However, since the wedding date we picked is so close to her birthday, my mom is insisting that we make our wedding reception a split party between our reception and my grandmother’s birthday party. She wants to have a separate cake for my grandmother beside the wedding cake and everything. I love my grandmother, but our wedding reception will also have my fiancé’s family, our college friends, and work friends in attendance who have never met my grandmother. None of her friends will be there and I feel like it would be weird to celebrate her birthday with a bunch of strangers. Also, not to be self centered, but I kind of want my wedding day to be about me and my fiancé, particularly since we’re the ones paying for the venue, food, and entertainment. I want my grandmother to feel celebrated and loved, but I also want to have my special wedding day.

So, AITA for telling my mother no and that we should celebrate my grandmother separately? I don’t want to be a bridezilla, so I’m willing to negotiate, but I just feel super weird about it. ######

Response: NTA that is so weird. What does your grandmother think? ######


Prompt: My husband (28M) and I (26F) have been talking about his interest in music and movies and he admits that he think men are better/more interesting in movies and in music. They’re better writers, singers, musicians, etc. He doesn’t think women are incapable of being just as good as men or better, he just says he hasn’t found any female artists that impress him as much as men do. Which is upsetting enough I guess. But he also says the few female artists he does like, he won’t play when I’m around because he doesn’t want me to start playing more female artists all the time since he doesn’t like a majority of them. So obviously I’m pissed. I feel like he’s just manipulating when me he does that. Who’s the asshole here? ######

Response:
 NTA That is seriously messed up. Its fine if all his favorite artists are male, but its really dickish to take that 5 steps further to "women aren't as good of artist or writers because I personally haven't found a work by a women I like as much as mans" Thats the exact reason that we know JK Rowling as JK not Joann, and it is bullshit.

And to say he wont play female artists around you just so you don't play the music you like, thats manipulative as hell. If you don't dump his ass I'd just constantly have my phone in my pocket blasting female power anthems every time we hung out. ######


Prompt:
My(23F) brother(28) is dating this guy(20). He told me and our parents about it a year ago. I was kinda weirded out about the age difference but they’re both adults so I didn’t say anything.

I visited my brother often and I got close with his boyfriend too, we became good friends. Last time I visited them(this was few months ago before all this stuff was happening by the way),my brother wasn’t home, so me and his boyfriend were hanging out. I was on his laptop and going through the photos, I wasn’t snooping, he was sitting right next to me, doing something.

I came across an old photo of him and my brother. He looked reaally young. I asked him about it and at first he kind of freaked out, but he finally told me that they’ve been dating for longer than they told us. He told me that they have been seeing each other for 6 years. So he was  14 and my brother was 22.

I was really shocked and disgusted. I left, he called me few times but I ignored it. Few hours later my brother started calling me. I answered and told him that I was disgusted with him and I didn’t want to see him anymore. He said that they weren’t even really dating and they started dating when he was 18, basically bullshiting me.

I’ve cut him off completely. Only person who knows the actual reason is my best friend. She says that I’m kinda overreacting and since they’re both adults now there’s no point in having this reaction. ######

Response: NTA that is really creepy. Think about how that boy's parents would feel if he was dating a 22 year old man. Really sick behavior, even if their relationship turned out to be positive; dont let it fool you, any sort of sexual relationship with a minor (not even a late minor a "just hit puberty" minor) is abusive and disgusting ######


Prompt:
Aita for insisting on using my sister's internet for one hour for a big job interview? Backstory: she had already said yes and it was planned and everything, now she just texted me that her boyfriend is going to be home unexpectedly so I basically need to find somewhere else. Her boyfriend and I have never had an argument or anything, he is just really possessive of her. And before you ask, he was like this before the current situation too. If I was over visiting her (rare occasions) I would have to leave before he got home just because he doesn't like other people there. I don't have any other options for internet for my interview since the city library is closed. Aita for telling her boyfriend to suck it up for an hour so I can get a good job? Edit:I also want to note i live in a very small town. No Starbucks or McDonald's or any other source of internet besides the city library which is closed. I would go somewhere else if I could but that would mean going to the next city (about 40 minutes away). I have very very few options here.

Edit edit: wow I wasnt expecting to get this much response so quickly. So I'm going to add some things.

Yes I had bad vibes about their relationship before this but after reading all the input I definitely realize just how bad it is and will be working harder to try to help her with this any way I can. I've already sat down and we had a heart to heart convo. Thank y'all for opening my eyes to just how bad her situation is.

I do have data to occasionally get on internet, like on Reddit, but it isn't a good enough signal to handle an hour long video conference interview. Luckily everything ended up working out okay. ######

Response: NTA That is extremely unhealthy behavior he has and you should be very worried about your sister. Normal people do not act like that. ######


Prompt:
This happened a few months ago, but my brain won't let this one go.

So I was hanging out with some friends. Two guys, one woman. We're all in our early 20s and have had our fair share of romance in life. The topic of sex popped up and we start talking about some of our past experiences. One guy joked about how having sex only made his dick bigger and bigger. We all laughed and he said that he wished that's how it works. My female friend (let's call her Sarah) piped up and said "Yeah, for women, it's the complete opposite. The more sex you have, the bigger your labia gets and the looser you become." There were some chuckles, but then I asked her if she was serious. She said she was.

Now, this is a big myth. I was surprised a woman who has had some experience actually believes that. I basically told her this, and then she started getting annoyed, asking "how me and my dick knows about that". I said the same way I know anything about female anatomy- I've read up on it. The whole "women get looser" thing is something sexist dudes made up to slut-shame women. My other friends were silent on this. She then just said: "Whatever, I'm not in the mood for this kind of mansplaining."

So I'm at a loss here. AITA for explaining something that I feel like people should just know about? ######

Response: NTA Thank you for trying to bust this myth. ######


Prompt: So my parents and I were talking about my future and I told them how I want to get married and have a few kids and that I already have names picked out. My mom told me ‘good luck’ and how she didn’t even get to name any of us kids that she birthed. She told me she wanted to name me *name* but her MIL was against it and was being sarcastic telling my mom she could just call me that on her own but my name would be what it is now and that it’s tradition for the mans parents to pick a name for your kid. I was annoyed by this but said I wouldn’t let that happen to myself or my kids and if I’m going to be carrying a baby for 9 long hard months and then birthing it out of me then id definitely be the one naming it along with my husband. Also apparently it’s tradition to not know your babies gender but like I said I’ll still know I just won’t tell anyone until it’s born. I’m pretty superstitious when it comes to the evil eye so I told them my pregnancy would be very discreet and lowkey and that no one would know I’m even going into birth until after I’ve had my baby. But they thought me insisting on naming my own child was rude and disrespectful to my future in laws. ######

Response: NTA Telling you that you can't name your own child is a shitty, disrespectful tradition. ######


Prompt:
My parents divorced when I was 5, my dad remarried almost immediately (like within months after the divorce) and my mom remarried when I was 9 or 10 can't really remember.  My dad's wife had 4 kids who were at the time 7,5, 3 and 2 while I was 5 when we all moved in together.  Now I didn't live full time with them, I was half at my mom's half at their place and they were the same way and were only together for about 2 weeks out of the month.  It was not a good situation when we first moved in, everything from the time the youngest could walk was always a 4v1.  Every vote was always against mine, every argument with 1 became an argument with all 4, and some other stuff that made me really hate going over to my dad's if they were over.  While my mom's husband had a kid my age too I get along with her WAY better than I do the kids at my dad's house.

I was recently talking with my friend's while I'm at my dad's on the phone, my door was slightly open at the time.  My friend said something like "I didn't know your brother was on the baseball team".  I corrected him and reminded him that he is my step brother not my brother and we dropped the conversation and went on with the rest of the day.

When I was done though, my dad told me to quit it with the step sibling stuff and to just call them my siblings.  I told him I'm just being literal in what they are, but he is practically forcing me to call them my brother and sisters now.  AITA? ######

Response: NTA tell your dad if they ever treated you like family then maybe you would speak about them differently. ######


Prompt:
So I haven’t worn a bra in like 3 years, I’m only a B cup and I just find them uncomfortable. It’s not like I’m wearing see through shirts or anything but I guess yeah if you look you can see the outline of my nipple.

I’ve been working at this job for almost two years and it’s never been an issue but yesterday an older coworker approached me and asked if I could start wearing a bra to work because she doesn’t like me “throwing my body around”. I basically told her yeah sorry but no, I don’t even own a bra and it’s not part of dress code from what I’ve ever noticed.

She huffed and walked off but now I’m about to head into my shift today and I’m getting anxious on if I’m in the wrong here. AITA for not wearing bras? ######

Response: NTA tell her to stop looking at your boobs... ######


Prompt:
We have a friend who came out openly as a lesbian two years ago (we're all 15 y/o now) and ever since the beginning of the last school semester, she's been touching me.

She was always hugging me from behind, or pinching my butt, or squeezing my breasts. At first it didn't bother me because my friends and I all playfully do this to each other, but then I started to notice that she was doing it more frequently to me than them.

Whenever we sat down, she always found some way to sit next to me, and always found some way to put her hand on my knee.

Our group likes to do "air kisses" - where you kiss the air on each side of someone's cheek - but more than once, she has "accidentally" kissed my actual cheek. But she never "accidentally" kisses any of our other friend's cheeks...

Right before they canceled school, she made a beaded bracelet for everyone in our friend group, but mine and hers were the only ones with hearts on it.

I'm too afraid to tell any of my other friends what she is doing to me because I don't want them to think I'm homophobic. COVID has been a safe haven for me because it gave me an excuse to avoid her for many months.

But we're all supposed to hang out tomorrow and I don't know if I can keep doing this. She's touched me so much that even as I write this I can think forward to tomorrow and already feel her touching me again.

Will I be the asshole if I tell her to stop?

TL;Dr I have a lesbian friend who touched me so mucb that I want to tell her to stop touching me, but our group is a very touchy-feely group and I don't want my friends to accuse me of being homophobic. ######

Response: NTA tell her to quit sexually harassing you ######


Prompt:
About a year or so ago, my wife asked me for advice on how to invest her IRA contributions in the stock market. Note: she was very hesitant to take my advice, and thought investing was like betting, because she thinks it is the same thing as gambling. Without pressuring at all, she took my advice anyways on what to invest in (low to moderate risk stuff). She then proceeded to mention it to me nearly every time the market had a bad day in a very whiny and complaining voice. When I reached my limit in patience after numerous such complaints, I said this is making me feel guilty and responsible, and maybe we shouldn't talk about this, and you do what you want to do with your IRA funds ( i.e. if you want to sell, do what you want.)

She proceeds to get super defensive and say how it "wasn't her intention" to make me feel bad. Fast forward a few months to today, she again raises how she wants some more "tips." I say I don't want to be involved at all. She then proceeds to get angry at me, including for bringing up the past incidents mentioned above, and continues to focus on "I didn't mean to make you feel guilty" as if that's the only thing that matters. I repeatedly say that it's not really about what you intended, it's about how you speak, the context, and how that can make me feel in light of that. Now she's in another room and we aren't talking.

AITA? ######

Response: NTA tell her to hire a financial advisor ######


Prompt:
My cousin had to make a delivery for work—8-10 hour drive or something like that. I told him he could crash at my place on his way back as it was about 4 hours closer than his house. When he got there, I told him to help himself to anything in the kitchen. He slept on the couch(I have a spare bed but that’s where he prefers I guess) and when I woke up the next morning for work he was surrounded by some trash and a few dirty dishes.

I get home from work and there’s even more trash and dirty dishes surrounding him. I go to the kitchen and it’s been pretty much raided. All of my breakfast bowls(I had ) were gone, half the box of hot pockets was empty, both big bags of chips were eaten, 2 litre coke had barely any left, all of my oatmeal pies were gone(I only had 1), my box of protein waffles were gone, he even ate like 3 of my GF’s veggie burgers.

He was only here 1 night and 1 day! He arrived Thursday at around 10pm and left Friday at 5pm. Why did he need to eat that much??

When I called him out he just said “dude what, you said I could eat anything” I said “yeah anything—not everything! I’m trying to limit my grocery store trips now I’ll have to go again this week. Come on dude, what the hell” he offered to give me money but I declined it.

Later his mom called my mom and said when he got to her house  he was acting weird when she was asking about me. So my mom called me to ask for the details. I guess I pissed him off but was I really wrong here? ######

Response: NTA take anything you want means dinner (and breakfast and lunch depending on how long they’re staying) and maybe a couple of snacks. He also broke the unspoken rule of don’t take the last of anything (at the very least ask first) and leave enough for the host/whoever bought he food to have some too (that doesn’t mean 5 drops of soda that means at least 1 glass). ######


Prompt:
I (23F) have been dating a 27 year old man for about three months now. The relationship is slow moving but nice- we see each other 1-2 times a week and generally have a great time together. Here's the issue. This dude teases me ALL the time. Constant ribbing kind of stuff, poking fun. I like the banter most of the time, and tend to do it right back. All is fun and games, except for the fact that this dude can dish it out like it's no one's business, but can NOT take it. He pokes fun at everything about me, even to the point where it's made me kind of upset. I've brought it up but it doesn't seem to faze him....but the moment I cross any imaginary perceived line on his side, he goes on like i'm some sort of roast master and that he only teases me in retaliation....which is completely not true, as he usually starts it.

The whole thing is really getting out of hand and is seriously making me question my own actions. For instance, he constantly comments on my outfits (making fun of floral prints, etc.) so when he showed up one day straight from four wheeling, I told him he looked like a barn yard animal and he lost his shit and immediately insulted what I was wearing. When I brought it up, he said he only insults my outfits because I do it to him. Last week we went to a party, and he made me a drink. It was really bitter, and I don't like bitter drinks. I was really tispy, so I apparently kept bringing it up at the table jokingly and asking for sugar. He hasn't talked to me for days and is PISSED that I "purposefully embarrassed him in front of our friends..." coming from the same man who refused to try my cake later that night out of spite. Once I realized I had hurt his feelings by insulting his drink so many times, I apologized a lot and said I would stop the ribbing and watch what I say...but I can't help but feel gaslighted. So what do you think Reddit, AITA? ######

Response: NTA sweetie. Dump this man like the trash he is. If he cant respect you enough to understand his comments have gone too far and then tries to gaslight you into thinking *you* started things, then he doeant deserve to be in a relationship as that's very abusive behaviour. Run from this abusive immature idiot before it's too late! ######


Prompt: I (m,23) have zero tolerance for people who are late. I have been dating a girl (22) for a few months now. She is always late, usually 5-10minutes but sometimes 15-20minutes. It drives me nuts but I dont say much. Yesterday we had a date, she did not show up I was calling her but she was not picking up the phone. After a while I decided to go back home. After 50mins she calls me and says she went to the beauty salon to get her hair done so thats why she was not able to pick up the phone and she was late. She went really mad when told her that I already left. She called me AH, because she spent all the time to look beautiful to me but I did not wait and just left. So, AITA here? ######

Response: NTA Stop dating this girl, she doesn't respect you or your time. Very selfish. ######


Prompt:
I’m my homes Cinderella basically. No, my family isn’t abusive. But all the chores in my house are given to me. Everyone else is exempt from picking up after themselves...I must do it for them. If I’m sick and can’t do it, no one will do it. If I don’t feed the dog, no one will do it. Giant spill on the counter? Whoever did it won’t clean it up. I have to do it.

My sister is the worst out of the 3 people in my family. She will cook something and leave the scraps of food all over the kitchen all day. There’s so much clutter all over the counters there’s no room for anything. Day after day I have to clean it.

I’ve mentioned this to my parents and they don’t give a fuck. My parents are very lazy tbh and if it’s not their problem or if it doesn’t affect them they don’t care. They are so easy on my sister who can do whatever she wants, when she wants. She’s 17 and I’m 22. I’ve asked her to contribute and clean up after herself but she just whines.

So today she made a salad. There’s lettuce all over the counter, chopped tomatoes on the floor, and dirty dishes left all over the table. So I took her mess and her dishes and put it on her room on her floor so she’d finally clean it. She freaked out and asked why it was there and I said “because it’s your mess and if you keep refusing to clean up after yourself, I’ll move the mess to your room so I don’t have to deal with it. It’s ready to be cleaned whenever you are!”

She flipped out and told my parents I messed up her room and they got upset with me saying that I’m causing drama in the house and that my sister is bored being in the house all day and doesn’t need this stress. AITA? ######

Response: NTA Stop cleaning up after them. I guess you should keep feeding the dog but stop everything else. Everyone else needs to pull their own weight. ######