Prompt:
I have been noticing this for a while. Back before we had out daughter, everything on her Instagram was about our son (6). Nothing strange about that. She loved showing him off and taking pictures between them, but as soon as our daughter (3) was born, I noticed the shift.

Out of the \~71 photos she has posted since January 1, I saw one of just her and our son. It was one she posted on his birthday, and it wasn't even a new photo of him. She has \~32 photos of her and our daughter or our daughter by herself. The rest are family photos. This is basically the pattern you see if you go all the way back to when our daughter was born.

If our son hated taking pictures, I could understand. He doesn't. My wife just seems to be obsessed with our daughter and particularly doing  matching outfit photos of the two of them. I could feel she was more excited about her pregnancy with our daughter than our son, and this has only continued.

I'm not saying my wife is a bad mother to our son, but I see the favoritism.

I sat her down and told her that she is favoring our daughter and someday our son is going to see this and wonder why she loves him less than our daughter. She took offense to this and cried because she said I was telling her she was a bad mother. She denied that she is favoring our daughter but to me the proof is in the photos.

AITA for what I said? ######

Response: Nta, you noticed the favoritism early on and called it out. I am the oldest of 3 other brothers and the "baby" of the family is definitely the favorite, at first the favorite was my 2nd brother but then 7 years later mom had another kid and he became the favorite. It's fucked up psychology but in the US I think it's natural because my high school friends went through similar shits. My dad always called it out though so you should definitely be that dad because your boy will hopefully remember you sticking up for his ass too. ######


Prompt:
I (29f) am German. I'm married to an Australian. For the last 5 years we have been living in Australia but I have always been very clear about the fact that I would eventually want to move back to Germany, especially when it was time to have kids. My husband was on board and last year we started looking for jobs in Germany. I got one pretty much straight away. My husband had some more trouble but eventually he found something too. We were set to move in September. My parents organised a nice house for us and everything looked great.

Unfortunately due to certain events I have been furloughed and am on jobseeker's. My husband is still working luckily. We figured since we're moving to Germany soon I could come off birth control. We'll apparently I'm very fertile because I got pregnant pretty much straight away. At first we were both overjoyed but then a few days later my husband basically broke down and said he didn't want to leave Australia and he wants his child to grow up here.

I was absolutely gobsmacked because he never said anything that would have made me think that he wasn't on board with Germany. I told him that pretty much from day 1 I had been very clear about where I eventually wanted to live and that I I still felt the same. It escalated into a huge fight and eventually we broke up. I'm devastated but also feel betrayed in a way. This happened 7 weeks ago. 3 days ago I arrived in Germany. I had to get away since he basically kicked me out of our house and I didn't see why I would look for a place in Australia when I will start my new job in September.

My (ex) husband thinks I should have stayed in Australia since the baby was conceived there. He thinks I stole the baby from him and accused me of fleeing the country. ######

Response: NTA, you made it very clear from the beginning that you wanted to move to Germany and he agreed. You both made plans to move and you did. You're not "fleeing the country", you just did what you (both!) had planned. He should have told you from the beginning how he felt if he didnt feel like moving to Germany. ######


Prompt:
Hi, so today, I(16M) and my family was talking about something that can't be mentioned in this subreddit. I said that I wanted to say what I thought about that subject, and my sister started giggling about how I was going to say something stupid probably taken from a youtube video. My dad laughed with her and insinuated that I was going to say something dumb, and my mom said how she was going to see if I was her son, insinuating that she is smart. I really got offended since my whole family was saying that I was dumb, and I really don't think so. I have really bad grades since I started studying in Switzerland (in German), and that's my 4th language, so I get 3 and 4 out of 6 regularly. After that, I took my dishes, cleaned them and came to my room (I had already finished my dinner). Everyone says that I should come back and that was being rude. I am now in my room and I wonder, AITA here? P.S.: sorry for grammar errors, I'm not a native speaker.

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Edit: 30 min later, my mom knocked and apologised, my sister was embarrassed and my dad didnt say anything. Thank you all for the advice!  ######

Response:
 NTA, you made an intelligent choice by removing yourself when you were upset. Even if they were only joking, they still hurt you and once they saw how they made you feel they should have reached out to apologise.
        Regardless though, being able to remove yourself from a situation rather than escalating it and getting into a fight shows a lot of maturity.
Well done on your grades - most people struggle to get decent grades in their first language, let alone their fourth! ######


Prompt: A few months ago I found a pair of Birkenstock’s at a thrift store. The exact style and size I wanted, perfect condition, for $17. I couldn’t believe it! I have been searching for some for years. I lent them to my sister so she could wear them to the beach yesterday. She comes in the house barefoot and I don’t think much of it, they’re probably in her car or bag. I ask her later that night for them as I was heading out and she realizes she forgot them at the beach. She said they started to hurt her feet so she opted to go barefoot and must have left them on accident. She goes back to check but they were no where to be found. I’m upset, of course, but she didn’t mean it on purpose. They’re shoes and can be replaced. These shoes are $100 new. I told her she could give me money, or she could buy a new pair herself. She said it wasn’t fair that I only paid $17 and she’d have to pay so much more. The ones she lost were real leather, and I wanted her to buy the vegan leather as a replacement, as I don’t buy new leather. This is already saving her 30 to 40 bucks. I told her I’d be fine with a second hand pair in good condition, and told her of a few websites were she could find some. Even those were around $50-60 dollars and she didn’t want to pay it. I loved those sandals and barely even got a chance to wear them because it was still cold when I found them. AITA for making her pay for new sandals? ######

Response: NTA, you lose someone’s stuff, you replace it. ######


Prompt:
I'm a 22 year old dude.

So I was in the emergency room last night, and they ended up diagnosing me with something called Epiploic Appendagitis, which I will spare you specific details but roughly once a month a lot of blood comes out and I get extremely bad stomach pain.  The stomach pain was bad enough that I felt the need to go to the ER during a pandemic yesterday, to give some sense of scale.

My family followed me to the hospital, and were waiting outside in the car for five hours while they ran various scans on me.

After I got discharged and I was talking with my family about how there wasn't really any treatment plan for it (it's not actually a super serious condition) and I'd probably just have to deal with it, I said something along the lines of "it can't be worse than having a period once a month"

My sister, 19, called me insensitive, my mom found it hilarious, and my dad said I probably shouldn't talk about things I don't know much about.

My sister is still kind of pissed at me, but I honestly don't think I was making light of periods or anything.  I mean I was in the hospital with enough pain that they were talking about giving me the good stuff (which I turned down, but it was offered). And it seems that unless I get my nutrition just right, I'm going to be in that amount of pain at random points for the rest of my life.

But also my dad is right and I genuinely don't know what I'm talking about.  I mean I did grow up with a little sister and good parents who explained everything so I'm not ignorant on periods at all but I might be missing something.

I probably wouldn't tell anyone outside my family that I even have this at all, so I don't really have to worry about whether I make this joke in front of others, but I kind of want to know if it is a dick thing to say. ######

Response: NTA, you literally made light of your issue by saying it's not as bad as a period. ######


Prompt:
I (15M) live with my little sister (11F) and mother.

My mother and little sister argue A LOT. My little sister does show some problems with anger and will start yelling very easily.

One of the most recent very bad arguments was about her bed time. I was not present as it happened in my mom’s room, but I could most definitely hear both of them screaming at each other.
After, my little sister told me she had been pinned against the bed. Though I didn’t see it, so I can’t confirm that, it is very possible that could have happened.

I went into my mother’s room, and this conversation followed:

Me: “Can I say something that you might not like? About arguing with [my littler sister]?”

Mother: “Yes”

Me: “I think it would be better if you tried to keep your cool more. She’s never gonna learn to regulate emotions if her role model for that is yelling a lot too”

Mother (now annoyed): “Just get out, [my name]”

She was cold to me for the rest of the day and when I brought it up to my aunt I was also told I was an asshole for “disrespecting my own mother”.
However, I really tried to do it respectfully and didn’t think I came off as rude.

Am I the asshole? ######

Response: Nta, you just pointed that out politely ######


Prompt:
Backstory: me and my bf have been together for just over two years and he recently got his own place. lived with me for 8/9 months till he got his place

So my bf recently got his first flat. while not the best out there it's not too bad for a first place to live ny yourself. i couldn't move in with him as it was off the local council as he grew up in care. now when he lived with me he was a bit messy but it was never too bad. normally only took a few minutes to sort ot out. since he moved in just before the lock down i have only just been able to see him for the first day in ages. i went round and his flat was disgusting. he had shit every where. the window was tightly closed with the curtains drawn.

His flat stank to high heaven. like I had to make sure to breathe threw my mouth for most of the time i was there. when i was leaving i told him im not coming round again till he had properly deep cleaned hia place. he started going on about how i knew he was a messy person and i knew what i was getting into. First of all there's being a messy person i will admit i am bit of a messy person i don't always put stuff away and can leave things lying out sometime and forget about it for a while. but there's being messy and being a a pig and living in a pig stye. i told him it was none negotiable and he started calling me an arse hole for the hole thing. i said im not being an arse hole for refusing to sit a dirty flat with the window and curtains shut stinking it up even mode. safe to say i left and refusing to go back

he decided to start messaging some friends as we share quite a few of the same friends telling tug me about what happened with some saying i was and others saying i was right and i should have to sit in those conditions

Guess i am asking AITA for refusing to see my bf till he sorts his flat out ######

Response: NTA, you if you don't set your boundaries, then there won't be any when it matters. Also a small thing, but if my gf is coming over i clean up everything, clothes, dishes, etc. Because despite being over 2 years i still want to impress her and not have her be in the mess i live in. If he truly cares, he will get his act together. He's just forced to act on something he knows isn't right or good, and he's lashing out like a child. Like a child who got an F in a class and gets pissed at his parents for calling him out. He doesn't like that his mistake and fuck ups were mentioned, when they should be getting fixed ######


Prompt:
Some years ago I was driving to work when I was struck by another vehicle who... let’s say the other driver (Jackass) should not have been driving at that time. I’ll always remember him laughing his fat ass off as the ambulance pulled away.

Long hospital stay, multiple surgeries, fired from my job, lots of unkind gossip; and my kids/husband/parents and I suffered.

I managed to claw my way into a good job now but went through a lot of shit first.

Although Jackass has never apologized to me, his pastor  (my dad’s stepbrother’s wife’s nephew) reached out to me to express he’s “sorry” and “in a program”. He asked me not to proceed with the lawsuit as it’s not “Biblical”.

Their “church family” harassed and bullied me a ton over the years, to the point that law encirclement & my kids’ schools have had to get involved.

I just settled the lawsuit for max $$ though I have perm scars, PTSD, and physical limitations as a result of my injuries. There are people who refuse to be around me bc of being grossed out by my scars.

Pastor called me again, reiterated Jackass is sorry, and that for his “recovery” I am somehow obligated to forgive him in front of his very large congregation. I told Pastor to go fuck himself and have let everyone know that I’m afraid of Pastor and of Jackass.

Step-uncle (whom I’ve never liked) just called to ask me to reconsider - apparently MY calling the cops and filing the lawsuit has caused both Pastor and Jackass to have trouble at their jobs. Apparently Jackass wants to get his citizenship & Pastor wants to be a foster parent and claim my refusal to forgive blocks both.

Step-uncle’s family never ONCE reached out to see how my family and I were doing. But they organized a meal train and a free lawyer for Jackass.

I maintain that IDGAF, I never heard any compassion or remorse from Jackass or his church; why should I care about their ego now.

Who’s TA here? ######

Response: NTA, you have no obligation to forgive him and based on the behavior of the involved parties after the fact, actively making it worse, there is no reason to. ######


Prompt:
Here's the situation... I recently had a baby. When I found out I was pregnant I decided to buy a house as my apartment is a 1 bedroom and much too small. I found a building with 3 seperate apartments, which I planned to move into the 3 bedroom on the bottom floor.  I closed on the house in March and informed the tenant about my plans to move in.

Because of covid I agreed to allow them to stay a few month's longer,  but now the covid in our area has subsided for the most part and business are opened back up.

I wouldn't be in such a hurry except that I've had several complaints from neighbors and my other tenants about the property.  These people have at least 8 cars parked in the front of the house at a time, most of them unregistered and no inspection.  I received an Order to Remedy Violation from the town zoning officer.  And the entire yards looks like a scrap yard with all the car parts and tires laying around. One of my good tenants told me she plans to move if they aren't gone soon because she can't stand the "ruckus" that goes on every day.

There are also repairs needed to the plumbing and windows in the basement that they are not allowing me to get to.

I feel like they are taking advantage of my kindness and my property. I know it's hard to find a place that quickly and move out but we don't have a lease and in my state I'm only required to give the 30 days. ######

Response: NTA, you have no legal requirement for a longer notice period and they are very definitely problem tenants who are likely going to cost you money (be prepared to repair the damage they have/will cause to the unit) and possibly other tenants. You will be the asshole, on the other hand, if you don't get rid of them since they are making life worse for your good tenants and your neighbors. ######


Prompt:
I don’t drink, I haven’t for nearly two years.

My dad likes to drink a lot, my brother is a straight up alcoholic in denial our family/his wife have tried to help. But he claims he’s fine.

When both of them drink they became even bigger sexist, racist assholes. They make sexist comments about women, gross homophobic jokes about the LGBT community and throw around the N Word more than they should (we’re white that word should never leave their mouths)
I am a pansexual woman.

My brother hangs out with me a couple times a week because we have a lot in common and like hanging out, but every time he comes over he brings at least two six packs of beers. He leaves empty bottles all over the place, once in the shower. My bins are in my parking lot (literally two feet from his own car) but even if I ask he won’t take them to the trash when he leaves. It thoroughly annoys me because I don’t like having any of it in my house.

Last week my brother and I planned a “sleepover” to get stoned and hang out, our usual thing. I told him please not to bring alcohol over because I didn’t want it here. The next day my brother cancelled the plans because he was “busy”

Queue videos on Snapchat of him at a mates drinking. Fine he got a better offer.
But it hurt, I know he cancelled our plans because I asked him not to bring booze but I’m also not comfortable having alcohol in my house anymore because when he starts drinking he’s an asshole and likes to start fights about issues he knows I care about i.e woman’s right, gay rights, sexism etc. He makes rude comments and when I get upset or argue against it he tells me to “calm down it’s just a joke” but I don’t find it funny.

I don’t want alcohol in my home but I’m worried it’ll hurt my relationship with him if I don’t allow him to drink at mine.
Should I hold my ground or give in and just let him drink so I can have a relationship with my brother (I’ve already been disowned by my sister for various reason) ######

Response:
 NTA, you have boundaries and your brother crosses them when he drinks. Since he obviously can’t drink in moderation, banning alcohol entirely seems like your only option so you can enjoy your time with him.

If you’re able to, maybe sit down with him and explain why you’d prefer no alcohol; but that you also don’t want to lose the relationship you have with him. ######


Prompt:
An old friend I knew from AA 15 years ago reached out  for money saying she and her husband were broke due to covid and she had already exhausted family and friends. I said I would paypal her 100 bucks. No problem.

When she got the money she then texted, thanks and by the way she was still “ bouncing” (a term meaning unable to stay clean/sober and her drugs of choice is opiates).

So of course I started texting her asking if she was ok and if she was using. I said don’t worry about the money, I just want to make sure you are ok!!!

No response.. i tried again later that night and twice the next day. No response.

I reached out to a mutual acquaintance who informed me she “got me” and was using and had almost died from an overdose last year.

I texted her one more time and said I was sending the police to do a wellness check if she didn’t respond. I was freaking out she was going to OD on money I gave her. No response.

I called the non emergency number for local police in her town and told them I was concerned about her. They asked why and I said she may have relapsed. I didn’t say on what.

So they went to her house and she was fine and then my phone blew up with indignation and threats and profanity. Blocked.

So..  AITA?? ######

Response: NTA, you have a heart of gold but I'm hoping you know this person was just taking your money for a fix. ######


Prompt:
Me and my boyfriend recently (6 months ago) moved in to our first property together, in which we have a spare bedroom that we agreed to rent out to a friend of mine who has never left home, let's call her M. For some context I have been friends with M for almost 20 years, always pretty tight and open with each other.

6 months down the line her boyfriend has asked her to move in with her, not great timing as my father has just been in a car accident which nearly took his life and I was also up for redundancy, but if this is what will make her happy then I'm fine with it. Took a couple of weeks for them to find a place and we found someone to take her room who we trust. Now all we needed to do was organise the moving date.

Now I repeatedly ask M to provide me her moving date and she first said September, then end of August and finally the beginning of August. I needed a solid date to provide my new tenant for their move, so I had a verbal agreement with M that if I wasnt provided a date by july 14th, that her moving date would be set to august the 1st. This mean i can give my new tenant a set date as they desperately need one.

Now M decides to go to france for a 2 week holiday and does not provide me with a moving date so it's set to august 1st. 3 days ago she informs me through Facebook messenger (whilst upstairs in the same house) she wont be able to move until august 8th. I tell her this isnt really acceptable, we had an agreement and the date must stay as august 1st due to commitments I have made with other people.

After calling me unfair and saying she did everything she could have done in the situation, which I feel isnt true, she has not spoken to me since. She immediately started to pack her things and move out, including taking an mattress that belongs to my mum without asking and called me pathetic when I asked for its return. AITM for expecting her to move out a week early? ######

Response:
 NTA, you had an agreement and she has to stick to that! It seems like she really didn’t care or try to sort this situation out for herself and now she has to deal with it herself, it’s not your problem at all!

P.S. try to get that mattress back, not cool M! ######


Prompt:
My husband (30m) and I (30f) are expecting our first child, a girl. I'm 30 weeks along, and we're very excited, as are our families. I've always gotten along with my Mother In Law, so this was pretty surprising.

Unfortunately, his grandma passed away recently, and his family is understandably devastated. My MIL (Grandma's only daughter) asked us if we would consider naming the baby after Grandma. We haven't fully picked out a name yet, so ordinarily we'd consider it, but there's one big issue with the name: His grandma's first name was Hermione. In case anyone doesn't know, Hermione is a main character in the Harry Potter series and it's a pretty uncommon name, so anyone who met our daughter would assume she's named after that Hermione (who I have nothing against, I do like the books and movies). Harry Potter is so popular that I'm positive that she'd be teased for it.

MIL called us again last night, asking about the name, and we said we didn't want to name her after Grandma. MIL asked why, and we said that since Harry Potter is so popular, she'd be teased about it and asked questions about it her whole life. MIL got upset, and was crying a little. She said "we cared more about some books and movies than her dead mother" and that we were "dishonoring" Grandma and proved that we didn't care about her or MIL.

We've since been getting texts from FIL and SIL saying that we were breaking MIL's heart and ruining Grandma's memory. I was talking with my sister about it, and she said we should at least consider it as a middle name and shouldn't have been so negative with MIL.

I'm feeling guilty, since Grandma was a very kind person and I'd like to honor her memory somehow, and maybe we should have compromised somehow? AITA? ######

Response: NTA, you get to choose your kids name. People can get weird about what you name your baby. If you want to make a compromise with her and still honor grandma, maybe it'd be possible to use the middle name? ######


Prompt:
Hi everybody. It’s me. Again.

I recently went to Walmart with my mom and younger siblings and my younger brother (9, autistic which is relevant because of what my mom said) was preparing for summer camp. My mom said he needed to pick a towel. He picked a pink one with pretty butterfly’s. I said,”good choice, bub.” And my mom immediately looked upset. She asked him,”don’t you want one that’s less girly?” He started crying. She was like,”fine, whatever. Get that one.” I pulled him aside and told him that it’s okay to like things that other people consider girly because objects aren’t gendered and he should just pick what he liked. My mother was fuming. He wanted to window shop in the toy aisle so we walked over there and while he was browsing, she told me that I was way out of line and he’s already autistic and she doesn’t want to give kids one more thing to pick on him for. Now I’m 19. I told her this isn’t the 90s. Kids don’t do shit like that and I was a kid a very short time ago so I should know but she berated me over and over for it and we got in another argument about it today.

TL;DR: AITA for telling my brother to like whatever he wants despite what my mom says?

So reddit, AITA here? She’s making me second guess myself. ######

Response: NTA, you gave your brother good advice. Your mother's attitude is outdated. And the fact that people might make fun of him is no reason to discourage him expressing himself authentically. That's a crap message to send to your kid. ######


Prompt:
I’m sure I’d be TA here but I wanted to double check because I’m an idiot.
I gave my girlfriends nephew $800 for his class trip. The trip cost around $2400USD & I felt generous after hearing his parents were struggling to meet the monthly payments. I gave it to him in private and really adore this kid.

Now, his class trip has been cancelled. His mother and father now have possession of the money and intend on using for their own purposes.
The money was a gift to him, not their family.

WIBTA if I asked for the money back? If not, I’m lost as to how to bring it up without coming across as a douchebag BIL.

Edit: it appears the money may be allocated towards a family vacation. Not sure how that changes people’s opinions. ######

Response:
 NTA, you gave a conditional gift. The condition was that the nephew got to go on the class trip.

You could bring it up by offering to hold on to it until the trip is rescheduled, or ask them to hold on to it for his next class trip/big event. ######


Prompt:
I am a (16f) and I work part time at Walmart to save up money for college. My parents aren’t very well off and haven’t saved any money for my education. I don’t blame them for this but it’s also been stressing me out, which is why I wanted to get a job.

My grandma lives in England and came to my house to visit more than a month ago. My mom has been begging me to give my grandma $500 because I am the first of her grandchildren to get a job and it would be a special gift. My mom also thinks that I should give her this money to show appreciation to her because my grandma has sent me money in the past. However, that was only once and my mom made me lie to my grandma and say I received the money even though my mom used it all. My mom has also been taking my money for other things and calling me selfish and ungrateful if I object.

This really bothers me because I am trying to save up money for college because my parents never did. It feels as though if my parents cared about my future they would leave my money alone and see that I am trying to better myself. I think it’s also important to mention that my grandma and I have absolutely no relationship due to distance.

I feel really bad and guilty because it’s always been ingrained in me that you’re supposed to give up anything for family and you’re not supposed to disrespect your elders. Am I the asshole for not wanting to give up a piece of my college money for my grandma? ######

Response: NTA, you earned the money- spend it on what you want. I also feel like surely your grandma would be happy you’re saving for college? The idea of giving her $500 cash as a gift seems ludicrous to me, esp at age 16 ######


Prompt:
From the age of 13-17 yo I went to a boarding school where I was bullied. Although there were many people that treated me like shit, there was this one guy who's worse than the others. From name calling to physical bullying, he did it all. I was horrified of him. Really horrified. It went to a point that I absolutely willing to do anything so just I won't have to stumble upon him.

At the age of 15 I was diagnosed with anxiety disorders and depression. Sure he wasn't the only cause of it but he sure did his fair share. I couldn't drop out of the school because I went there on scholarship. Dropping out would mean I have to pay it back. Could not really talk to any adults either because snitches get way more stitches.  In the subsequent years, I learned to make myself small so that nobody would notice my presence. Things did not get better but it's bearable.

A few days before I officially finished my highschool and went my own ways, he came to me apologizing. I asked him why he treated me horribly for all those years. He told me that there was no reason for it. Apparently I might've rub him the wrong way somehow. He asked me to forgive him because once we out of school we probably will never met again.
I told him no.

A few days ago, his wife reached out to my friend asking for my number. She called me asking if I'm willing to talk to his husband. Apparently he's not in good condition health wise and is still bothered that I didn't accept his apology. I don't know the details but my friend told me he's dying.

My therapist told me that I need to let go of my past. My boyfriend told me to be the bigger person and  I will be TA if I were to ignore him.

WIBTA if I still refuse to talk to him or accept his apology? ######

Response: NTA, you don’t have to forgive him just because he wants you to. You don’t owe him anything- he was TA from the beginning ######


Prompt:
I (18F) was talking with my sister (21F) about relationships, and she asked if I wanted to have kids one day. I said no, and gave a couple reasons as to why. Mostly because I don't want to put my body through the turmoil of being pregnant, and I also just don't really want to be a mom. I said I'd consider fostering or maybe adopting, but it's unlikely. I also said I don't want kids because I want to be someone's favourite person, and a child would end up being my partner's favourite.

My sister said that's a shitty reason to not want kids, and that I'm an asshole for even saying that. She said I'm selfish and manipulative, and should never get married if that's the mindset I have.

Growing up, I was always my parents' least favourite child, my siblings' least favourite sibling, and my friends' least favourite of the group. This is where I think my reasoning behind all of this stems from; feeling inadequate and unwanted by the people around me. My parents also got married, had 3 kids, and then ended up in a loveless marriage. I don't want that to be my future; my partner falling out of love with me and I have to live knowing I'm not special to anyone.

I understand I'm not obligated to have kids if I don't want them, but now I feel like she might be right. AITA? ######

Response: NTA, you don't need a reason to not want kids. it's your life, your choice. ######


Prompt: I (22M) fought multiple times with my highschool friend (23F) because of her disapproval of ‘the homosexual lifestyle.’ I want this time to be the last, because after years of explaining, she still doesn't seem to want to understand. (We are from and live in North Africa.) She often tells me about the guys she likes, but when I do the same, she says she doesn't want to hear about it. This last time was triggered by an IG story where she says she does not support the LGBT community. I sent her a message saying that I, too, do not support some thoughts and practices (like genital mutilation, imposed religious conformity, and far-right political parties) because they put some people in danger. I contrasted with that what she says is used to put the lives of many people in danger, and often leads to fatalities. She answered saying that she doesn't accept my homosexuality and I don't accept her homophobia. Her reasoning looks flawed to me. Am I the asshole here ? ######

Response: NTA, you don't have to be accepting of her homophobia.. ######


Prompt:
My stepson is 11 and at his school they have these annual events (father-son camping, mother-daughter cooking etc). Late last year they held a mother and son race where the mother had to run across the field and piggy back their sons back to the other side and then tie our legs together and just sprint back across.

A week prior my stepson Dylan was talking about it and how he thought it was ridiculous and embarrassing. When I looked at their poster for it, it looked fun so I convinced him to sign up for it. Later that day I called his mother Julie but she didn't pick up so I left a voicemail talking about the event and asking her to get back to us if she is available. Five days past and still no word from her. Being honest when she didn't respond, I saw it as an opportunity for Dylan and I to bond but since I respect Julie as his mother I sent her an email (doesn't use social media) with the poster and talking about how Dylan has signed up for it. Two days passed and still nothing. So I went to Dylan and told him that his mother hadn't gotten back to me but if he was okay with it, I was willing to step in since it was too late to pull out. He was a bit disappointed but still fine.

The day came and it was a blast. Tiresome but definitely worth it. It was just so much fun and I made a few friends there who were also stepmothers. And obviously we won 1st place and got two medals. Dylan also enjoyed it and feels way more comfortable with me now.

While I was browsing the school's website last week, I saw a picture from that day with me running and Dylan cheering on my back. It was a cute picture so I downloaded it and made it my profile picture. Turns out one of Julie's friends showed her the picture and now she's going on a rant about how I shouldn't have done that and how I've overstepped my mark as his step mother. When I told her I called her and sent an email she went on saying that I should've sent her a text or called her again instead of just once. AITA? ######

Response: NTA, you didn't overstep as a stepmother. You made your stepson happy, and that's what matters here - not to mention you tried to contact his mother! What does she expect, that you'll never do anything with him because she might feel jealous? ######


Prompt:
This is regarding a party several months back, a family party.

Growing up, I (22M) always had a rather boisterous crush on one of my sister's (31F) friend (31F). This was from about age 13 to 16. So she was around 21 when I crushed on her.

Let's call her Lydia. Lydia wasn't uncomfortable or anything by it she always just laughed it off. Most of my friends had a crush on her she was really hot.

I guess around age 18 or so I grew into my looks, and I was considered good looking.

So I hadn't seen Lydia since I was 17 because she moved away until recently at a family party (around early Feb).

She couldn't recognize me but once I told her who I was she was shocked. She got very friendly very quickly and was clearly tipsy. She got a bit touchy feely. She then got a bit flirty and remarked how handsome I was while feeling me up.

Honestly, while younger me would have fantasised about that, I do have to say that I wasn't into it. She still looks good, but nowhere near as good as she did 10 years ago. So unfortunately I wasn't into it. And I excused myself.

Later she came outside and asked me why I wasn't into it I said she was a bit too old for me and then she got angry and called me AH. Honestly my sister is still pissed about how I said that. AITA? ######

Response:
 NTA, you could have gone for a softer delivery.

But really they have no leg to stand on being mad at you for not sleeping with her.

Gotta say tho that gave me a laugh ######


Prompt: So this happened a few years ago but I always wonder if I was in the wrong. My brother (21M) and his girlfriend (20F) has been dating less than a year when my fiancé and I started writing our guest list for our wedding. We decided to invite my brother’s girlfriend even though they had only been together for a short time. GF found out I had invited a friend which happened to be a former classmate of hers (this girl was also a fiancée of one my partner’s friends and had been together for 2 years) and asked me to uninvite this girl because this girl was her sworn enemy and apparently she had once been with my brother. I told her that whatever was going on between GF and this girl wasn’t my business and I didn’t want to make things awkward and uninvite her when I didn’t have a problem with her. GF then started accusing me of choosing this girl over her and disrespecting her and although initially my brother didn’t care, he also eventually agreed with his GF and neither of them showed up to my wedding. I was devastated and conflicted on whether I should have just uninvited my friend to keep peace between me, my brother and his GF or whether that would have just been the start of GF making demands and getting her way. ######

Response: NTA, you could easily separate them for the wedding in seating arrangements. If she had behaved like that at my wedding I would have uninvited your brother's gf for being so demanding and you barely know her anyway. ######


Prompt:
We (30/27) have been together for four years. We've both been laid off due to Corona and have been home for a few months now. The thing is that he's become veeeery lazy during it.

I'm constantly cooking, doing housework, try to go for walks with him or doing ANYTHING, but all he wants is sit on the couch, play PS4, watch TV, listen to music, and drink beer. I'm terribly bored and start to feel like his mum.

Anyway, I went running today and when I came back, I was knackered. I hadn't eaten yet, so when he went to the kitchen to make food for the first time in days, I happily went for a relaxed shower and then waited on the couch for the nicely smelling meal.

Finally, he came out of the kitchen with one bowl. I asked if I was going to have some, too. He just looked at me baffled and said "I thought you didn't want any". I thought he was joking, but he continued to eat his massive bowl right in front of me, knowing I was starving.

I asked if he could make me something, too, which was declined. He wanted to play PS4 now, I would have to wait, he said.

We continued to have an argument which ended in both of us ignoring each other.

Am I the asshole here? I can make my own food, but I thought it was inconsiderate of him to not think of me or even ask (as I always cook for him), especially after I worked out and was obviously hungry. And then get so worked up about me asking for some food. This might be me being hangry, so I'd love some perspective.

Thank you! ######

Response:
 NTA, you cook and do the housework and what does he do? oh thats right plays the PS4 just because someone is doing work doesnt mean he can help, if you ask for him to make YOU some food he should do it, though you deserve much more in life and he said no, hes your husband for christs sake he should love amd respect you not treat you like a peasant and servant, i dont have much but i hope a small award cheers you up a little, have a great day.
from, -the short- ######


Prompt:
I’ve been with my boyfriend “Dylan” for 2 years, I have a 3year old son and a 5 year old daughter and Dylan has a 9 year old daughter.

A year ago he spoke about getting his daughter a dog for her birthday, I told him I was heavily allergic, it makes my asthma act up along with getting hives etc

We’ve been talking about moving in with each other, we were moving it up since 12 weeks ago I found out I was pregnant.

I’m staying with my mother though while this all goes down.

10 weeks ago for his daughters 9th birthday he got her a Staffordshire bull terrier dog, without speaking to me.

He bought up moving in together when possible and I told him it wouldn’t be happening with the dog there, I don’t expect him to rehome the dog but I’m not sure what else we can do.

I said we can maybe try living together once I give birth, check with the doctor what I can do about the allergies - but I’m not putting myself through the stress during pregnancy.

He’s upset with me for guilt tripping him for getting a birthday present for his daughter, that we’re family now and I can’t make this decision by myself, he should be able to be there for the pregnancy.

AITA? ######

Response: NTA, you can't make a decision yourself but he can? Fuck the dude ######


Prompt:
I’m 17M and my step sister , Amber is 18F.

My mother has been with my stepdad for 9 years.

I usually spend two weeks of the month with my dad and Amanda usually spends every weekend with my stepdad.

I’ve never gotten along with Amber, we’re extremely different people, we usually avoid each other, when Amber wasn’t out she was in her bedroom moody, she’d throw it in my mothers face that she isn’t her mother and then cry like she was the victim.

Amber is pregnant and her mother doesn’t want her living with her anymore so Amber reached out to my mother and asked to live with us.

I can’t tolerate being around her let alone with a crying baby so I told my mother I’d be staying with my dad and visit the weekends if Amber moves in.

My mother is  extremely upset and my stepdad is accusing me of being immature and making her pick between Amber and me, he told me I’m being irrational and spoilt.

WIBTA? ######

Response: NTA, you can't control her attitudes but you can control yours, I would recommend reassure your mother that you still love her even if you are away. ######


Prompt:
I occasionally buy an ice cream that's about double the cost of regular ice cream. It has more rich, creamy texture and is by far my favorite. My wife has some significantly younger siblings and cousins who are at our house fairly often (6-7 year olds). I don't want them to eat the expensive stuff because they would be just as happy with a cheap or store brand version of the same flavor. My wife gets irritated by it occasionally, but I dont think the kids can tell the difference.
AITA? ######

Response: NTA, you bought with your money. It’s your choice whether or not you want to share your expensive ice-cream with them. As it is it’s already good enough that you’re buying them ice-cream but just don’t let them find out about the expensive ice-cream if not they might throw a fit haha. ######


Prompt: Extended family is split on this.  We’re the only family members with a pool (medium sized in ground).  It was very hot in our region last week, and one of my cousins called to ask if she and her kids could come to swim.  I said I was really sorry, but because my elderly mother-in-law lives with us, and my husband is at high risk for getting seriously sick (post kidney transplant), we had to limit our exposure, and no one outside of the household was going to be able to use the pool.  Well, I got a couple of messages from family, like, “Are you serious?  You’re not going to let a couple of little kids swim?”  So, AITA? ######

Response: NTA, you aren’t actually denying them use of the pool. You are observing the recommended precautions for people with the risk factors you mentioned in these times. That that happens to encompass the pool use is incidental. I guess it’s nice to know your family is more concerned with being able to have fun in your pool than helping keep you and your household safe. ######


Prompt:
I am 27F and the only child of my mother. My parents split when I was 16y. Up until this point, I assumed that I had truthful parents.

When I was 15y, I received a message on a social media platform from someone who claimed to be my half-sister (Anna). I confronted my mother who had no idea who she was. We confronted my father and then shit properly hit the fan.

I then discovered that my father has two children 7-10 years older than me (Bob and Carol) from his first marriage who my mother knew all about. Anna’s existence was a shock to my mother as she was the result of a secret affair (she was born about 5 years before me). This prompted my parents splitting up.

So all my life, my father had been splitting his life between three homes and lying to my mother and I about his whereabouts.

When I was 15 and Anna contacted me for the first time, she was telling me that she wants to get to know me, that she has children and I’m her sister etc. It was all a big shock to me. Since then, Anna has contacted me a few more times. I would get a call from my dad and it would actually be Anna on the phone. Bob and Carol haven’t contacted me directly but have requested to through my father. My father regularly blackmails me into meeting them all as he’s going to die “one day soon” and I should know them. He has given Anna my number against my consent. He has attempted to set up meetings without my knowledge, lying and saying that I’m only meeting an aunt yet somehow I come to find out I’m meeting Anna.

I do feel bad but I honestly just feel like I have zero connection to or desire to get to know these people. We have the same father but I just don’t see them as my siblings. I don’t need any brothers or sisters and it’s not my fault if I don’t want to play happy families. I am the youngest of them all, so I hope I’m not being immature but AITA? ######

Response: NTA, you are more than old enough to decide who you want in your life. Your dad is definitely an asshole, and if your siblings don’t respect your wishes they are too. Set hard boundaries and don’t let anyone trample them, your dad especially. You deserve to have a life with people who respect you. ######


Prompt:
My mom was born in Iran. My grandmother is Iranian. My grandfather is white and American. He was in the army and stationed in Iran. He let my grandmother, they fell in love, had my mom, lived in Iran for about five years then moved back to the States.

My mom was raised in a very...interesting household to say the least. She was raised in a very typical Middle Eastern way, my grandmother was (and still is) very strict with her. Therefore, when my mom had me she wanted to raise me differently than she had been.

We barely went to see my grandparents and my mom claims no connection to that part of her heritage. As a result, I haven't had any connection either.

Over the past year or so I've been wanting to Chanel that though. I've been cooking traditional Iranian foods, have been teaching myself Farsi, and just been learning about the culture in general. (I am not Muslim or even religious at all if that's something important to include).

Full discretion I do not look Middle Eastern. When most people try to guess where I'm from they usually think I'm mixed Mexican.

I was telling my friend, who is fully Middle Eastern, how I've been coming along learning Farsi, and she got very annoyed with me. She told me how tired of "white people trying to steal the parts of culture that they like" and how disrespectful it was, especially because I didn't grow up in a traditional brown household.

I let it drop and apologized, because the thought of culturally appropriating is terrible to me and if that's what I'm doing then I'll stop immedietely. However, part of me thinks that I do have a claim to it... AITA? ######

Response: NTA, you are iranian by origin, so it's absolutely not CA for you to learn your own culture. your friend is being narrow-minded by assuming that there is only one way to grow up 'brown', in her own words, when the truth is that iranians across the world all have different levels of engagement with their own and other cultures. ######


Prompt:
I’ve (27F) been with my husband (39M) for 3 years, married for 2.

My stepdaughter is 16, 17 next month.

I’m surprised she hasn’t been given the birds and the bee talk sooner.

When I grew up my parents acted as though sex was something to be ashamed of, I do not share this view.

When my stepdaughter came to me to ask for advice or what ever, I was obviously happy she felt she could come to me for advice.

I gave her the typical advice

*birth control is a must
*make sure he wears protection
*if you feel pressured, text an adult or whoever you feel comfortable with.
*consent is key for both parties

And lastly; sex is not something to be ashamed of, don’t be afraid to talk about it if there’s anything you’re uncomfortable with.

She went home and I have been getting texts from her mother about how I “overstepped” and I should’ve sent my daughter to ask her, she seemed genuinely upset.

AITA? ######

Response: NTA, you are a staple part of the girls life. She came to you because she felt comfortable. If she’d felt comfortable she would have asked her Mom. ######


Prompt:
Okay, so like many of you, I have been laid off work due to the current situation in the world. I run a very small online business, mostly as a hobby, but it is now my only source of income. Today I woke up and could not connect to the internet. I didn’t think much of it, as it cuts out for a few minutes from time o time. But after a few hours, I got sick of waiting, and walked up the road to connect to an unlocked wifi. It was at that point I received a message from my landlord (sent as a mass text to the 12 units in my building) saying “sorry, due to budget restraints, there will be no internet this month”.

I got very annoyed at this and messaged back “okay, in that’s case there will be no rent this month”. I live in one of the most expensive cities in North America, I pay over $1500 for a small apartment (less than 300 square feet) that is supposed to include internet. I now have no income whatsoever, as I can’t be walking up the road to use janky wifi several times a day.

My landlord has replied and told me that if I don’t like it, I can move out, and he will consider my damage deposit as this months rent. I am livid. I vented to a friend about it, and he told me that I need to stop whining and that it’s just wifi, I can survive without it. But I literally have no way to make money now, not to mention my only form of entertainment (Netflix and YouTube) are all based on the internet. So, am I the asshole in all of this? ######

Response: NTA, you and the landlord had a contract and internet was included. How can he expect his tenants to pay full price if they are not receiving full service? Internet will cost at most a few hundred bucks a month, compared to the rent, it’s nothing. He’s trying to cut his costs so he can still make money, meanwhile he’s denying you your ability to make money ######


Prompt:
My husband surprised me with a Switch Lite and Animal Crossing. My 11 year old wants to play it also. So I told him I will share it. The first time I played it he hovered over me repeating could he play it. My husband told me to just let him play.
So I did. He has been playing it for the last three days. I asked for it and he said he is busy trying to earn bells. My husband told me to let him play it because he is deep in the game and act like an adult. So I asked my husband to buy him his own game. He said one is enough. He said I can play when he is done and stop being sad over a kids game. Am I the asshole for being sad and mad about not play a silly game ######

Response: NTA, you also definitely have the right to limit your 11 y/o's screen time and not have him argue with you about it. ######


Prompt:
So 10 months ago my fiancé and I bought a home which was in good repair but for a few renovations and personal touches. I had a townhouse that needed to be sold in order for us to make up the asking price along with a partial home loan but we were going to lose out on the house as the townhouse hadn't sold. My parents stepped in and helped us with the short fall with the understanding they would be reimbursed when the other property sold. The new place is large with 3 bedrooms, 2 bathrooms, kitchen, lounge and diner. My fiancé and I both work full time but have repainted the whole inside of the house, refloored the last bedroom(the other two were done by a contractor to expedite the process, we moved in two weeks after the sale was finalized) started renovating the kitchen, added a vegetable garden and some flower beds, overhauled the security system installing cameras , exterior beams and lighting and recently put up a small greenhouse.

My parents feel that we are not doing the renovations fast enough and that they are entitled to criticize what we have done because they helped us out. They've been reimbursed for the money they helped us out with but will have a problem with the curtain rails we put up or the placement of items. We are concentrating on the inside of the house they want the window frames and gutters outside to be done. I like having my crafting projects around me, they want them packed away and they feel my fiancé games too much.

With the advent of the pandemic we are now both working from home and my parents seem to think that means we should be getting more done with the yard work and renovations because we are at home.

Am I the asshole for wanting to do things my way in my home? ######

Response: NTA, you already paid them back, so they have no right to choose how you have to decorate your own home ######


Prompt:
So I own a large U shaped house that was renovated to be 3 apartments. I live in one and rent out the other two. A family with three kids lives in the larger apartment and a single guy (steve) lives in the studio apartment.

Steve moved in a couple years ago and asked to have a cat. We agreed to raised the rent by $25, he had two weeks from getting the cat to show proof that it was vaccinated and neutered, and it had to be a fully indoor cat. All terms were met.

I gave the same offer to the family five years ago but they didn't want the rent increase. Instead tried to sneak in a stray and keep it indoor/outdoor so I told them they had two weeks meet the terms. They get rid of the cat and didn't ask again until this week.

This week the mother asked to get a dog and I told her that she couldn't. She got angry and said was being discriminated against because she has kids. I told she couldn't because she broke the terms before and I only allowed indoor cats not dogs. Then her husband said that Steve shouldn't be allowed to have a cat either then but he met the terms and pays the increase. Then called me an asshole all over social media for being bias against children.

A lot people are saying I'm an asshole for allowing one renter a pet but not the other. I've replyed to the post explaining the terms and violations but everyone keeps saying that it wasn't fair to the family and I'm an asshole. AITA? ######

Response: NTA, you already gave them chances to have a pet and they abused their privileges. You don’t have to explain your reasoning to anyone. Plus, the way they’re acting shows that adding a pet is only going to cause more problems in the future. ######


Prompt:
I (15F) lost my grandma to coronavirus in the early hours of this morning. We were super close as for 2 years she was bearly able to walk to I came every day after school to cook and clean with my mum going on weekends when she didnt work.

My mum was in pieces with my dad trying to make her feel better in any way possible and I had decided not to make it any harder on him because he NEVER cries but did today. I messaged my boyfriend that im gonna call "B". Because B usually makes me feel better about everything that's happened. Well B talked to me for 15 minutes before saying he had to go for 10 minutes.  well 5 hours later B came back.

When I asked B how he was (I didnt care he was gone for so long) then B had a massive rant at me explaining how he was going through a lot more than me right now and that I should just get over that she dies because old people die every day so its no big deal. I couldn't help but cry. Then B said "my grandad has cancer for the second time that's a lot worse than your grandma dieing"

My usual calmness was IMMEDIATELY yeeted out the window at this point. I blew up at B saying things like "at least he isn't f\*\*\*ing dead in a hospital" and "why cant you look on the bright side even though he has cancer at least he isn't dead" and to top it off "id rather my grandma have cancer than be dead right now" I feel like a piece of shit for saying those things.

AMTA? ######

Response: NTA, yeet your boyfriend into the ex boyfriend zone ######


Prompt:
Throwaway I don't want to post on my main account because my girlfriend follows it

My girlfriend is an artist as her hobby she is pretty good. Last year I started drawing as way to cope with a passing of my father. I ended up being decent after a while and I thought I should start improving my art skills and being professional about it. I ended up drawing "famous" manga characters in the sketch book and real life items.

I showed some of the mutual friends between me and my girlfriend and they liked mine a lot. Recently our mutual friends have stopped liking my girlfriends artwork and started liking mine more. I never brag about it to my girlfriend. yesterday  a mutual friend was visiting out apartment and told me that my artwork is better than my girlfriends. My girlfriend heard that and became really mad at me and said that I stole the one thing she was better at than me.

So last night my girlfriend told me she got rid of the sketch book because i was spending to much time on it. This sketch book I had since my fathers passing and had my first artwork. She told me that I was not taking care of the dog which is the reason she threw away the art book. I spend at least 2 hours with the dog after work. I explained to her I was upset with what she did with my sketch book.

My girlfriend then told me that she threw it away because I stole her hobby from her.  She said it was never really my hobby and it was only her hobby. She said I should not feel bad about throwing the notebook and I should be grateful for her actions.  So now I am wondering if I was the asshole for stealing girlfriends hobby and then for being upset she threw out my sketch book. ######

Response:
 NTA, wth how old are you guys, is your girlfriend 15? Nobody “owns” a hobby, she’s being jealous and taking it out by ruining your possessions which is not okay at all

Your friend is also kind of an asshole for saying your art is better than hers. And why do they have to only like your art and not hers if they liked hers before, it’s not like there’s a finite number of “likes” for art. ######


Prompt:
So I (25m) and my fiance (29f) are renting the house we live in from my mom (51f) with no written rental agreement. My mom wants us to assume the mortgage from her and we live here for the next 17 years until the mortgage is paid off.

The problem is that fiance and I both have to travel an hour or more to work and mom is using the house as her personal storage unit. Also the house needs a lot of work done to it because whoever added the additions to the house did a terrible job. We don't want to live in the house because we don't have room for our stuff and it is causing our relationship to have unnecessary arguments.

We want to live closer to work especially since I have to be to work at 5am. Whenever we say anything to mom about moving she replies "you won't ever find a better deal than what I'm offering, assuming the mortgage is your best option to own your own house." The last time I mentioned moving she said "how can I afford my camper if you move?"

So reddit WIBTA if fiance and I move? ######

Response: NTA, why would you buy a place you don't want to live in for one year, let alone 17? ######


Prompt:
I am a 24 year old woman and I was watching my 2 year old nephew for me 30 year old sister. This took place before coronavirus.

I was watching my nephew for my sister while she ran some errands, for about 3 hours. I played with him, fed him, and changed his diaper when he started to get a bit sleepy, so I put on one of those kid shows (Choo Choo Thomas? The one with the talking trains), picked him up and laid on the couch. He was on top of me with his head resting on my chest, and we both fell asleep like that.

About 30 minutes later I hear my sister screeching at me in the most demonic tone, saying that it was inappropriate that his head was on my chest, called me a slut and said that I forced him to do that, and said that I would never be alone with him again because I was obviously a predator. I was really shocked. She came and ripped my nephew off of me (at this point he was doing that monkey cling thing with his arms and legs wrapped around me) and my husband kicked her out and assured me that I had done nothing wrong.

My family is on my side saying that she overreacted, but she posted some snarky things on Facebook that were quite obviously aimed at me, so I decided to ask this question.

For reference I am a busty woman and I was wearing a camisole type top ######

Response: NTA, why is she sexualizing a child l ######


Prompt: I'm from the rural midwest and my girlfriend is from a highly popuated area in Australia. Growing up I always drank milk with nearly every meal and I never viewed it as strange until I met my girlfriend. She pointed out that drinking milk with certain meals (pizza, spaghetti, etc) is really gross to her and that I was gross for doing it. She argues that when we eat together that I should refrain from doing it and drink something else instead because she is disgusted by it. AITA for drinking milk with meals that I eat with her? ######

Response: NTA, why does she think it's ok to police what you eat or drink? She needs to get over it, there's nothing wrong with drinking milk. Ask her why she thinks it's so gross and why it disgusts her. That's a her problem, not a you problem. ######


Prompt:
The title probably makes me sound bad, but in my defense I have a sleep disorder that makes it hard for me to fall asleep at night and makes me excessively drowsy in the morning (my natural sleep cycle would be something like 5 AM-1 PM). This means when I am actually able to fall asleep early, I get easily frustrated when woken up.

So here's what happened last night: my girlfriend woke me up at 4 AM to ask me if I had taken out the junk (they pick up on Friday morning here). I told her yes, and she then asked if I had wheeled the cart out, and I said yes again. Then she asked if I had closed the lid on the cart, because she had left it open and they might not take it if it's open and I said yes again. This entire time I was a little cranky since it was 4 AM and I just wanted to go back to sleep but I was keeping my cool and saying yes in a mostly neutral tone. Up until her next question, which was, "Are you sure?"

I admit that at this point I lost my cool. It's 4 AM, I am tired, and it's hard for me to sleep at normal times so I want to take advantage of the opportunity when I can to try to maintain a sleep schedule that aligns with more normal hours. So I angrily shouted, "YES!" back to her at this point. When that happened, she got very upset, told me I was mean and that I hated her, and began to cry. I felt bad at this point, so I spent nearly the next hour trying to console her in the hope that we could just go back to sleep. Eventually she did, but it took me yet another hour to fall asleep, at around 6 AM. Then neighbors started doing yard work at about 9 AM this morning, so all total I got maybe 5 hours of sleep (when I usually need 9 or 10 to function thanks to my sleep disorder).

She's still mad at me for yelling at her, but I'm also still mad at her for waking me up to interrogate me over the damn garbage at 4 AM so I want to know who reddit sides with on this one. ######

Response: NTA, who worries about the trash at 4am?! If it was that important, her ass could go look. ######


Prompt:
My roommate approached me today and said that her friend (who i've never met or heard of) had to move out of the dorms in a week and since he lived in Germany he could not go home for the summer.
Essentially she had told him he could stay at our apartment (2 bed 1 bath) for a month and was wondering if it was okay with me. I told her it made me uncomfortable to live and share a bathroom with a stranger and that I wasn't okay with him living at our apartment.
I feel bad since he does not have any other options and my roommate was trying to sort something out for him but I have social anxiety and would not be able to easily do daily necessities with him there and it would be a violation of our lease agreement. She is moving out in June while I'm renewing the lease so I am at risk if we get caught and she doesn't know about my social anxiety.
Am I the asshole for not letting him stay? ######

Response:
 NTA, who the hell wants the hassle of some random person they don’t know moving in with them? Especially at a time like this. Have you had any grief from your friend after saying no?

Don’t feel bad, home is the one place we should feel comfortable. It sucks that he has nowhere to go at the moment but that’s not your responsibility. ######


Prompt:
Where I live both dog and regular parks are open. There are many parks in the area but only a few of them are off leash dog parks.

I brought my dog to the park to play fetch as we usually do. It's a rather large park and pretty easy to avoid people. I noticed there was a couple having a picnic so I entered on the opposite side so my dog wouldn't bother them.

Like 30 minutes into our session another dog showed up that wasn't as well trained. They said hi to my pup then realised there was a selection of meat, cheese and crackers sitting on the ground. He ran over and started trying to steal the food.

My dog remained by my side until a third dog showed up. This happened to be one of my dogs favorite friends. The third dog entered right where the picnic was happening. With two dogs now interrupting the couple's picnic, mine gave up and ran over too. It all happened really quickly and I didn't have time to react immediately.

Still, I ran over and leashed her pretty quickly but the couple was understandably upset. They complained we ruined their romantic date. I apologized profusely and removed my dog from the situation.

I understand I should always have control of my dog, especially in an off leash situation, but who has a picnic in a dog park? There were many other parks nearby that don't allow off leash dogs. It just seems like such a dumb thing to do. Salami and those type of meats have a pretty strong smell for dogs. However, I did technically lose control of my dog. AITA? ######

Response: NTA, who the hell has a picnic at an off-leash dog park??? That's ridiculous. ######


Prompt:
My daughter is 3. My next door neighbor has a 3 year old son. My neighbor is an essential worker so I watch her son during the day. He and my daughter are very good friends and tell me often that they are married. It’s obviously innocent and cute.

Since I’m still working, I’ve been letting them watch a lot of tv so I can get my work done. They like to cuddle up together under a blanket while they watch. Sometimes they even fall asleep (which is a total bonus for me.)

They were knocked out under the blanket together one afternoon and I didn’t want to wake them up by moving them. My daughters father FaceTimed me and asked to see her. I told him she wasn’t sleeping but I turned the camera around and showed her napping with her friend. Her father hung up and later called me and yelled at me for allowing her to cuddle with a boy. He said it was inappropriate and that I was encouraging an unhealthy relationship. I told him he was being creepy and they’re 3. He got very angry and is telling people that I am wrongly calling him names. Am I the asshole for calling him a creep? ######

Response: NTA, who projects all that garbage on 3 year olds? What a creepy thing to imply about the habits of 3 year olds. ######


Prompt:
Pretty simple story.

My sister(23F) recently took my Tesla our for a joyride. I’m pissed for several reasons. She went into my room, and she stole the key. She also took my Tesla for a joyride without my permission. Nothing bad happened to it, but she always does shit like this. She’s absolutely spoiled and has no boundaries.

I was in the process of buying my parent’s house when I had the idea to kick her out since the house was mine. So, I just left her an eviction notice, and after I legally could, I changed the locks.

A couple of our mutual friends think I’m extremely in the wrong, probably because she lives with some of them now. Lol.

So, AITA? ######

Response: NTA, who knows what else she's stolen when you weren't around. Plus if she crashed it or anything it would've been a way bigger deal. ######


Prompt:
So, my (30M) sister (19F) has always been the golden child in my dads eyes, my parents  adopted me thinking that they wouldn't have biological parents, they split when I was 10 and my father went on to have my sister.

I'll give her this, she was very intelligent basically straight As based on my dads bragging.

Well, my dad expected her to be a doctor or something like that- very high expectations, my dad for the past year has been paying her rent while she goes college, even though she works.

I called my dad yesterday when he let me know how disappointed he was in my sister...turns out she's pregnant and has no immediate plans on continuing with her education! Cherry on top? The father of the  baby is  only three years younger than me.

I'm not happy about my sisters situation, I do not approve of her relationship.

Well, I laughed when I found out, because the pressure my father has put on her for the past 19 years (cheerleading, track, countless diets to keep her skinny, making her give up her dream of being a vet) finally made her crack and I find it hilarious that he doesnt see **he did it to her** and he thinks he has the right to say he's disappointed?

My father, however, took this as me laughing at my sister but when I explained no- I'm laughing at him, it made things so much worse.

My stepmother has been texting me  non stop about how I hurt my father, how he just wanted to vent and as family I should support and respect him and even if I didn't it was just a genuinely dickish move to laugh.

AITA?

**ThrowRa since I use my normal account frequently** ######

Response: NTA, while you might have been normally, it sounds like he was controlling to extremes of your sister. He deserves the ridicule. ######


Prompt: Ex and I have three sons 6, 9 and 13. I have two pets - a pug named Thor and a Maine Coon cat named Max. When my kids are with me 1/2 the week, Thor and Max insist on sleeping with them. My kids don't mind and both enjoy snuggling. My ex-wife asked me to stop letting letting Thor and Max sleep with them because her boyfriend is very allergic to dogs and cats. I told her I couldn't care less so she is now saying that she too is allergic to cats and asks why I can't keep them in a separate room or outside. I absolutely refuse. It's not personal. ######

Response:
 NTA, whether they are in the bed with the pets or not is irrelevant to the allergy as the pets are already in the house and around the kids even when not sleeping.

She can wash and put them on some fresh clothes when they get back to hers. ######


Prompt:
Right now my fiance and I are living with my best friend from high school and her husband. They and my fiance have some life differences (no details but nothing major, mainly they're all bullheaded and won't listen to each other). My fiance wants to move out and get on our own. I'm all for it until he said the place he wants to move to won't allow pets and we have a 55 pound border collie mix we picked up as a stray. I refuse to move anywhere without her. She is my kid. I can't abandon her. She has no say in this at all. Everyone I've talked to is 50/50 on this.

We are under no pressure but my fiance own want to get our own place quickly. He's lived on his own before and I have not. I just can't intentionally move someplace and give up my dog if there are other options. ######

Response: NTA, when you bring an animal into your life you are committed to take care of it for its life ######


Prompt:
I have never wanted kids. I have made this clear to every person I have dated. When I married my now ex, she knew this. She was okay with it, or so I thought. 3 years in, she mentioned adoption and I shut it down, reminding her I never wanted kids and that children deserve a parent who wants them. She stayed with me for another 3 years and eventually filed for divorce 2 years ago. I wasn’t surprised because outside the kid thing, we had other issues.

We got married in our 40s, so by the time we divorced we were in our 50s. I moved out and didn’t see her for awhile after the final meeting. Then one night recently I decided to take advantage of my favorite restaurant having outdoor dining again. As I was eating, my ex approached me. We made small talk and eventually she said she was angry with me. This took me off guard. She told me that I “stole the best years of her life” and “because of you, I’ll never have kids”.

I laughed in her face. I said she knew going in I didn’t want kids and why should I bend on that? I said if she feels guilty for not having a baby, it’s on her not me. She got even more upset and left.

My brother thinks I could’ve handled it better and not laughed at her. I think she was being ridiculous but am willing to admit I might’ve been an asshole. So, was I? ######

Response: NTA, what was she expecting, an apology for her decision to marry someone who was childfree? Yeah not the asshole at all, should’ve laughed harder. ######


Prompt: So last weekend, a few mates and I got together and had drinks/dinner while watching bad movies. The apartment belonged to Sophia. At some point, she asked if I could get something out of her walk-in pantry while she cooked. Her and another of my friends locked me in. I have claustrophia as a result of trauma I experienced as a child (I don't feel comfortable sharing online). They are aware of it. So I panicked and begged them to let me out. After 2-3 minutes of them laughing, I couldn't take it anymore so I kicked the door which broke the hinges and caused it to fall off. It was only small and made of seemingly flimsy wood. I ended up having a screaming match with the two that locked me in while a third friend arrived. Said third friend agreed that what they did was terrible but the other two said I overreacted and should pay for the door. I disagreed so my friend and I left. Sophia has contacted me asking for money but I'm steadfast in believing I shouldn't pay for anything. I also think I'm owed an apology. AITA? ######

Response: NTA, what they did was cruel and then when you reacted accordingly they were even worse when they demanded you pay for the door. Don't pay for it, you don't owe them anything. ######


Prompt:
Okay, so some backstory. My parents are pretty well off, and with everything happening have been pretty lucky to have kept their work and consistent pay checks. I (21F) am married, moved out, finished college this semester, and completely financially independent from my parents, although my husband and I still go to their house for dinner about once a week. I have 2 brothers, one older and one younger, and i’m close in age to both of them. Neither are financially independent. My younger brother (20) still lives at home and my older brother (23) still has about a year left in college and my parents pay for his rent and food. They paid for my rent and food until I got married. They paid my tuition all 4 years, and they’ll pay my brothers tuition until he graduates. (we go to a school where tuition is 5-6k/year)

While at their house for dinner, I mentioned that my husband and I got our stimulus checks, and my dad said that we should give him $200 since he would have gotten $500 per kid (or $1500 plus $2400 for he and my mom), to make it “fair”

My husband and I could really use the money, and feel like since i’m not financially dependent on my parents that we shouldn’t have to pay them anything. WIBTA if I told him I won’t pay him?

info: I don’t mean this to sound like I don’t appreciate everything they’ve done for me, because I do and I have told them that. I couldn’t work through college because I had a full course load and my program required 20ish hours/week of unpaid work as a graduation requirement. However, my parents offered to support me through college from the start. ######

Response: NTA, what the hell? Your dad is being the asshole for even asking. ######


Prompt:
I’m gonna be the first person to say that this is beyond pathetic

I’ve recently moved in with my boyfriend and we got a puppy (great dane) who we named Ralph. We’ve wanted a dog forever and had picked a few names a while ago but I knew ultimately that I would want Ralph

My brother and his wife had asked us what we were gonna call him and I mentioned a couple of picks (including Ralph) and they both said that they were cute choices

We got Ralph two weeks ago and officially announced on Facebook that he’d “joined our family” and that his name was indeed Ralph. My SIL text me the next day saying she couldn’t believe I stole the name that she wanted for her dog. I actually laughed out loud and in response because I thought she was joking around. She followed it up with how “stupid” it would be to have two dogs in the family that are called the same name. I didn’t reply and she hasn’t spoken to me since haha

When my brother came round to see my puppy, he said that she didn’t want to come because she was ‘furious’ with me but he told her it was stupid and that they weren’t even getting a dog, let alone even discussed wanting one! She was also mad with him for coming round because he “was taking my side”

AITA for calling my puppy Ralph which apparently my SIL wanted for her dog? ######

Response: NTA, what Is she, 12? Lol ######


Prompt:
Reposted to be in compliance with sub rules.

I'm a single father with a 4 year old daughter. Currently, I live with my younger brother and his family, taking care of their son while they work. I no longer work cause I'm a disabled veteran so that's why I watch my nephew.

So moving on, today I had an argument with my brother because he or his wife left out a Sharpie that my daughter then proceeded to find and use to draw on the countertops and an empty cereal bin. When I discovered it, I scolded my daughter for doing it and sent her to her room. Later on, my brother and his wife came out of their bedroom (he was doing school work and she was helping him while I watched both kids) and asks me how I punished my daughter for what she did. I told him I scolded her and sent her to her room. I went to look for some alcohol to clean the mess up now that the kids had supervision. When I returned, my brother had cleaned up the mess with a magic eraser and then started in on me, thinking that I should have been more severe in my punishment. I countered that she received a punishment that I deemed appropriate and that he should assume some responsibility for it happening as it wouldn't have happened if he had put away the marker when he was done with it. To me, it's one thing if she had grabbed a chair to climb on and then done what she did but it's another for someone to leave something for her to reach. He followed by saying that she's drawn on other things before and that scolding is apparently not working to which I replied that she's 4 years old and toddlers are not known for their superior impulse control. He proceed to start questioning my fathering and I walked away from the argument for fear that I would lose my rapidly dwindling cool. I understand that it is his home and I'd be frustrated too if the roles were reversed but I don't think I'm in the wrong here regarding how I handled it. That's why I've come to this impartial forum. AITA? ######

Response: NTA, what does he want you to beat your 4 year old? ######


Prompt:
I have a very decent name. I mean, I don't hate it and I don't love it. Long story short, my father had a name picked out when I was born and up until birth, my name was going to be name A. Then, out came me and my mother freaked out, said she hated my name that they had agreed on for the past 7 months and said she was going to divorce my father if she every heard that name again. I ended up with name B, which has no relationship to name A at all.

Now I have name B. Not a problem, but the thing of it is they haven't been able for the last 20+ years to agree on how to pronounce the damn thing. Think of it like LA Ah for Leah for one, and Leah for another. Or EE-Liz-abeth or Elizabeth. Two different, but very distinct sounding names, but it's the same name. I switch between the two, and prefer one over the other.

My mother was bitching about my dad (they're divorced) over a mutual dilemma they had over my younger brother, and I finally said "I shouldn't be surprised you all can't decide, it's been 20 years and you still can't decide on a name"

Look, my name had been a constant power struggle for both of them. I'm sick and tired of it. So AITA for bringing this up? It's a sore spot for both of them. ######

Response: NTA, what a wild hill for parents to die on ######


Prompt:
I'll start with a bit of background. I have been friends with my friend and her ex since high school. They were together for around 10 years and split around 12 months ago. Friend has started seeing someone else. Ex has started seeing someone within our circle recently. I am friends with both of them equally.

I am trying my best to remain impartial, so when they each moved on I did not mention it to the other out of respect - I figured this was a conversation best left to the two of them. About a week ago I got a message from my friend crucifying me for not telling her her ex had moved on. I only knew her ex was 'talking' to his new SO, not that there was anything 'official' happening. She won't hear it and keeps telling me she has a right to know and that I betrayed her by not telling her. I disagree. I am close with both of them and am happy to hear them out, but I won't take sides. Which they know.

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AITA? ######

Response: NTA, wasn't she seeing someone else too? If you were friends with them equally you would have either told them both or told neither - you told neither, because what two adults who have split do is not something you need to concern yourself with, and you're not obligated to come provide your friend with news of her ex's love life ######


Prompt:
AITA for having a hobby my wife doesn’t like?

It’s as simple as that. I’m not trafficking drugs or pimping women. I’m not stockpiling weapons for a cartel. I just have a hobby collecting action figures, and she absolutely hates it.
I’m very responsible as both a husband and father, yet she concentrated on my hobby that according to her is “not manly, nor is it what a man should do.”

So that’s pretty much it.
AITA for simply having a hobby she doesn’t like? ######

Response: NTA, unless you're spending irresponsible amounts of shared-or-her money on it, and it doesn't sound like you are. If her only objection is that it's "not manly," then I have to wonder why she was OK with it when you were dating/getting married. Why is it a problem now? If it's always been a problem, she should be willing to accept that it's just your thing by now. ######


Prompt:
To cut a long story short, I made a bit of a fuck up and thought I had approval to do overtime so I ended up doing an extra 70+ hours of work last month on top of my regulars. Unfortunately, I have not been paid these hours and didn't have approval for paid overtime and my manager has said there isn't anything they can do. I'm a little miffed at this.

So, I have decided to steal back the 7+ days of extra work I've undertaken by taking longer breaks, internet browsing and finishing early and starting late. It's not like they keep track of it anyway. Am I an asshole for that?

(also in my country they only have to honour the hours if total worked puts you under minimum wage, sadly it only sadly falls short of that criteria) ######

Response:
 NTA, to be honest lots of companies do this and they know what they are doing. As long as you continue to get your work completed and don't get caught, it's perfectly fair.

Also keep this in mind next time you're needed to do overtime, get them to agree to pay before you sign up for extra hours! ######


Prompt:
This happened last year but I always wondered if I was TA.

so my dad has three girls (at the time we were 17,15,11) and his wife has three boys (they were 8,12,14) and we lived together in a big house until we moved to a smaller one because rent.

The house has a master room for the parents  and four bedrooms  so me and my sisters got two rooms and the boys got the other two (bigger) rooms because they live with their mother full time and my sisters and I are in shared custody.

when we went to see the house I found out me designated room was the one used as a storage  and it was so small my little sister (15f) couldn't sleep there because she had an adult sized bed and it wouldn't fit. I complained to my dad that my room was the smallest despite the fact I am the oldest child and I spend more time in my room then anyone else. I also complained that my sisters (15,11) had to share a rather small room and that he shouldn't have sighed a contract before making sure the house had enough room for all the children.  my dad's wife told me I was ruining the mood because the whole point of seeing the house was to be happy about how pretty it was and that I was the only one complaining. I know I have the right to feel what I feel  but since they already sighed the contract  and there was no way to change the situation I was ruining her mood.

AITA?

If anyone is concerned I solved the situation. I used the move as an excuse to go live with my mom( something I wanted to do anyway) so now (11f) has "my" room and 15f has the normal room. I sleep in 15f's room in my childhood bed every other weekend. 14M has his own room and his little brothers don't  mind sharing a room (their words not mine) ######

Response: NTA, time to move to your mum's house I think ######


Prompt:
My mom has recently allowed my mentally ill aunt, who has been living with us on and off over the years to live in the basement permanently because she is unable to find and maintain any other kind of housing. My aunt is extremely mentally ill, and although she does not have a diagnosis because she refuses to get any medical help, it’s safe to say that she experiences psychotic episodes, and potentially dangerous ones at that. I also think she’s a narcissist, but that’s just my armchair psychology.

I’m frankly not a fan of her being here particularly because I can tell my mom is absolutely terrified, even if she won’t admit it. She recently told me to keep all of the blinds closed on the main floor at all times and to not talk about my aunt at all because she may have installed some kind of recording software or another to eavesdrop on our conversations around the house, which she has done before.

Growing up she was sort of the boogeyman of the household- she’s been there maybe a month out of the year before my mom threw her out for harassing the neighbours, bullying me, or going on psychotic rampages about electromagnetic sweeps or assassins coming for our family or other things of that nature. Any time that she was around during my childhood, our lives were a nightmare, and now it’s like that constantly except my mom has become completely passive and has accepted that this is how things have to be.

I fully understand that my aunt is mentally ill, but I’m also extremely uncomfortable with the inherent danger she has proven herself to be. Any time I bring up the issue of finding her some kind of mental help or frankly getting her away from us, my mom just gets angry, shuts me down and says that she’d go to hell for kicking a sick person out of her house and she has no other choice. I feel like we’re putting ourselves in danger unnecessarily, and I think my mom is in denial about the gravity of the situation she put the both of us in. ######

Response:
 NTA, though I think the scope of this probably goes beyond Reddit. Your mom is enabling your aunt's illness, and they both need help. While the mentally ill area rarely physically dangerous to others, you deserve to  feel emotionally safe and have the ability to relax in your home. Your aunt's unwillingness to seek treatment is making your home unwelcoming and tense, if not dangerous.

Can you move out? Do you have a different, safer  relative who would take you in if you are under age or need time to get on your feet? Leaving might be the only action your mom will understand, since she won't listen to you talk about your problems with your aunt.

If you can't leave, then can you put a strong lock on your bedroom door? You could at least have a place of respite in your home where you feel safe. I would keep it locked at all times, and not share the key with anyone. If your mom complains, tell her that you deserve a place where you feel safe. ######


Prompt:
My boyfriend who I have been dating for a while and living with for a year deals with depression. Unfortunately this bleeds into everything.

I have to fight for conversation, fight for equal effort, and fight for respect.

Today I told him I'm done fighting.

I'm writing a chore chart. It has me, my roomate, and him to do an equal amount of chores. The same thing every day/week/month each. This is to hold him accountable with minimum effort on my part.

When I had to try to get a conversation instead of asking questions to get an answer I decided to walk away.

I'm going to start watching my own shows by myself instead of begging him to. I'm going to go do the things I want to do by myself instead of being fine with begging him to. (We have had 4 dates in the past 6 mos.) I'm finding my own rock climbing buddy.

If he doesnt want to talk during meals I'm eating by the creek(we have 6 acres of land)

If he doesnt want to take the dog out with me I'm no longer going to bed him or change my own plans. I'll take her by myself.

If he doesnt want to meet my friends I'll plan to hang out with them by myself.

I'm done putting in all the effort at my expense.

WIBTA? ######

Response: NTA, this will good for your relationship. You need boundaries and equal contribution. ######


Prompt:
Today my mother saw a thing in her social media group where some of our neighborhood’s children recorded themselves saying a thank you message to the current frontline healthcare workers, and then playing a short musical piece on the piano/violin. This is a sweet gesture, but my mother immediately decided my sister (13) should also record herself doing this because “it gives you a chance to develop public speaking skills.” My sister was reluctant to do it because she thinks it’s cringey and it’s clear that the other children’s parents also forced them to do this, but she caved in.

While she was doing the recording, I was videocalling some friends who I haven’t talked to weeks. While I got caught up talking I overheard my mother yelling at my sister, likely because my sister wasn’t doing the recording the way she wanted it to. My sister then popped in my room and asked me “can you combine two videos clips together directly on the iPad?” I was talking with friends so I didn’t elaborate and said “no I don’t think you can, you probably need another app for that.” An hour later I was finished talking, and my mom came in the room, angry that I didn’t stop talking to my friends to help my sister edit the video which *she* was the one who basically forced her into doing.  My mother was also complaining about how she “had to learn how to use iMovie” in order to help my sister combine the clips.

I didn’t confront my mother while she was yelling about how selfish of a sister I am, who only hangs out with my younger sister only when it’s convenient for me to do so, but inside I was thinking that it’s not fair I have to help my sister with this when my mother was the one who basically said “I want this recording done so you can be like the other kids” without providing any help or guidance to my sister. AITA? ######

Response: NTA, this was your Mother’s project.  She needed to do it. ######


Prompt:
Throwaway for obvious reasons

In January when my sister (22) found out she's pregnant, the father isn't in the picture and she is currently single. She lives a state away and my (F16) parents have always treated us much different.

I have nothing against my sister, she's great and I love her but after she left the house a few years back it's almost like my parents forgot they still had another kid to raise. I always felt like my wants and needs were put in the back burner, they were always too tired or too busy for me or any of my accomplishments. For example I got a piece of artwork sent to our state capitol for display and the only thing I got from my parents was a dismissive "that's cool." I always felt like they had my sister so my mom could have a girl and had me so my dad could have a boy, which obviously didn't work out.

Cut to today and my parents are constantly swooning over how they can't wait to be grandparents. They buy huge gifts and make homemade clothes and furniture just for the baby. In my mind it's just my dad's second chance for a boy so they're going all out. I have never felt so unwanted in my life. Some examples of this include:

my dad saying he's gonna give the kid the pickup once they can drive (the pickup that was supposed to be mine)  My dad framing a bunch of my great-uncle's records to give to the kid (ones that are bands *I* enjoy) my mom constantly making stuff for the baby meanwhile she promised me a blanket and a hat. Plus many more

I just feel like I don't even matter anymore, all they talk about is the baby and my sister lives an hour away! I get their excited but still. This all came to a head tonight when I asked for help on my math homework and they just ignored me. It feels like there's just a little voice in the back of my head telling me maybe if I get knocked up they'd care about me too.

So Reddit AITA? ######

Response: NTA, this really sucks for you and I totally empathise with your jealousy - it's not like you don't want your sister's kid to feel wanted, it's that YOU want to ALSO feel wanted, and there's nothing wrong with wanting that. Have you ever tried to tell your parents and/or sister how your feeling? Could they be oblivious? ######


Prompt:
Ok ok, first thing first i have nothing against marijuana at all. I think its very beneficial for people who use it to control anxiety and calm them down, zero judgment there.

But my girlfriend is seriously reliant on the stuff. Like, if she ever gets a stomachache, she almost always goes for weed over any other remedy. And now if she doesnt get a smoke in often, her stomach hurts so bad she barley moves. She also smokes before most meals, and has told me in the past that her thoughts are always drifting towards her next hit, even when we're having a great time, or staying with my family.

I think that if she could get this under control it could be more healthy, but some people tell me I'm an asshole for even thinking about interfering with her smoking. And she occasionally guilt trips me when I suggest we help her control it.

AITA for wanting to help her reel back her weed usage? ######

Response:
 NTA, this pattern does not sound healthy at all.

I'm really not sure what these other folks calling you the a-hole are thinking. Weed is like pretty much anything else: just fine in moderation, but represents significant harm if you overdo it, and not just for health reasons (although that's certainly in the picture here, I imagine). Too much of anything will interfere with the way you live your life, and the fact is, you're her boyfriend, and thus you're part of that life. It isn't just her life she's impacting with the constant weed dependency. It's yours. ######


Prompt:
There's this business one of my closest friends wants to invest in. He says it will make loads of money. He asks me for money to start it up, saying he will pay me back double in three months. Keep in mind what he is asking for is not pennies, it's a huge amount of money (at least for a teenager anyways) Anyways, I tell him that l don't have that kind of money. He tells me to take some money out of my savings to help him out. I refuse saying that l worked hard for that money, I can't risk losing it. I have been saving up for the past year for an xbox one, he knows this.

Anyways he explodes saying the way l don't care about him and l never have. He says a real friend would help him out. He says that l am not willing to take risks and that's why l will never move forward in life. He has this obsession with Bill Gates and wants to be a multi millionaire, like him.

For context, we are both 18. I am a girl, he is a boy. ######

Response: NTA, this is why you have money and he doesnt. ######


Prompt:
So, this kid, we’ll call him michael. He did have special needs, and had a helper teacher with him at all times. One day, he was going through my backpack, looking for my rare Pokémon card binder. I’d always had them with me. I told him to get out of my bag, and he left, but with the binder. When I told his helper teacher to give the cards back she said “he has special needs, just let him have them. You don’t even have proof that they were yours.” I went ballistic. I yelled at her and Michael for god knows how long. I ended up getting in trouble with my teachers for yelling at a boy with special needs. He still has the binder. He took the chance for me to do things with the money I could’ve gotten with them. He made my dreams inaccessible. Am I the asshole for being mad at him?

Edit; this was about three years ago, I no longer go to this school. My parents just say that there’s nothing they can do, and I should move on. ######

Response: NTA, this is theft, get your parents involved and hopefully the principal. The teacher has no respect for your boundaries. ######