but i right but i agree it has to be at their choice and it needs to be a time when they're ready to do it um i don't think you can just snatch somebody away from you know you don't know what their circumstances are or what's going on in their life you can't just snatch them away and make them go do something they don't want to do
People have different situations in life, so it's not right to force them to do something conflicting.