what makes a person gay
1 Homosexual (Gay): Being homosexual means that you are sexually attracted to members of the same sex and you don't have sexual or romantic feelings for the opposite sex. 2  Pansexual: Being pansexual means you are attracted to all genders.3  Pansexuals are attracted to men, women, and those outside of the gender binary. If you only fantasize about members of your own sex, and rarely or never fantasize about members of the opposite sex, consider finding a way to experiment with members of the opposite and same sex. 2  Though do remember it's not necessary to experiment with others to know for sure what you are.